text: Telling Her to calm down.  That's a NO NO.  A HUGE one.  I did it one time, and the whole world stopped for a beat, and she said "Baby, I know you don't know this, but there's pretty much nothing anyone can say that pisses me off more than that.  It's dismissive of my feelings, and invalidates and minimizes my reactions to things.  Don't do that to anyone, it sucks"  and I haven't since.