ranveer_allahbadia_2.wav|How many intelligent conversations are you really going to have?|1
ranveer_allahbadia_3.wav|After physical intimacy and intellectual intimacy fade away, you're left with spiritual intimacy.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_4.wav|There's a reason why the movie Animal worked in this country.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_8.wav|I've met Virat Kohli this year.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_11.wav|I have seen my mother weep out of happiness.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_12.wav|If I'm still hustling as hard, I might have to take half a step away from my mother.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_14.wav|If you're unlucky, you may not find the right person till you're 35, 40, 45, 50 years old.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_15.wav|But eventually what ends up happening is that you get the divorce.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_16.wav|You start thinking that okay, this is just like a breakup.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_17.wav|You try coming to terms with it, but you realize that you've lost companionship.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_18.wav|If you're under the age of 25, I know that this podcast will add an immense amount of value to your life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_19.wav|If you're between the age of 25 and 30, I'm 100% sure you'll find a lot of this extremely relatable because I'm going to be extremely vulnerable.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_20.wav|And if you're over the age of 30, if you're older than I am, what I promise you is that I have a different life experience than what you had in your twenties because of all the people I got to meet,|1
ranveer_allahbadia_22.wav|And honestly, a big reason I'm recording these is so that one day I can show my kids these videos when I feel it's the right time.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_23.wav|to transfer this information to them.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_24.wav|Because these are truly the videos that are the checkpoints for my journey.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_25.wav|This is what I will look back and think about as my mistakes or whatever I did right in life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_26.wav|Starting from the biggest realization at age 30.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_28.wav|I've not spoken about my father on YouTube or the internet or social media in general.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_30.wav|after years of sharing angst, trying to make peace, but then kind of giving in to anger once again.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_31.wav|There's a reason why the movie Animal worked in this country.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_32.wav|We're a country full of daddy issues.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_33.wav|I'm not talking about the feminist or alpha male argument at all here.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_34.wav|I'm just talking about why Animal worked commercially in India.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_35.wav|We're a country full of daddy issues.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_36.wav|That was the core theme of the film.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_37.wav|I personally believe that I'm in the 80 percentile of daddy issues.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_38.wav|I think there's way worse daddy issues than mine in India and the world in general.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_39.wav|But my daddy issues were pretty intense.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_41.wav|I'm not going to get into the details of why I didn't get along with my father.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_42.wav|But think of it like it was two alpha males in the same house.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_43.wav|And one of them was brought up in a generation that wasn't taught to emotionally express themselves.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_44.wav|The other one was brought up in a generation that was overly emotional.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_45.wav|And both were extremely passionate human beings and unfortunately that led to fights.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_47.wav|During childhood, during teenage, during adulthood, way after beer biceps got established, way after businesses got established, there were just fights.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_48.wav|And then last year, I just grew up a bit.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_50.wav|I lost my grandfather last year.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_51.wav|I saw death very up close because my grandfather filled that father gap in my life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_52.wav|He was aware enough to understand that, okay, there's a situation going on in this child's life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_53.wav|There's a vacuum, there's an emotional vacuum and he chose to fill it.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_55.wav|I remember by the time Be A Bicep started and I was 22 and that's a whole other career story.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_57.wav|I remember my grandfather being bedridden, but being aware enough to have an intellectual conversation with me.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_59.wav|He didn't understand YouTube, but he just backed me.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_60.wav|Both my grandfathers, even my mother's father backed me when the rest of the world and the rest of my family wasn't really backing me.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_61.wav|It was my sister and my two grandparents filled that father vacuum.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_62.wav|So to lose one of these three people who had filled my father vacuum actually made me more aware of the vacuum.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_63.wav|And I just realized that life is too short to hold that much anger in your heart towards another human being, especially if it's a parent.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_64.wav|Some of us have mommy issues.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_68.wav|A reverse process happens in your 50s and 60s and 70s and it happens much more intensely the more you age.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_69.wav|That reverse of adulting is what causes older people to eventually become like children.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_71.wav|I went and visited him, he doesn't live in India.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_72.wav|When I saw him for the first time, I had planned out how a conversation between us would go.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_73.wav|Keep in mind, I had not had a gentle equation with him my whole life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_74.wav|The last time I remember having a gentle, loving equation with my own father was when I was|1
ranveer_allahbadia_75.wav|6 years old-ish, 6 or 7 years old.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_76.wav|So from age 7 to age 30, that's 23 years, I've not shared a positive equation with him.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_77.wav|No conversation between me and him has been truly out and out positive.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_78.wav|So I go to where he lives and I planned that I'd have this conversation with him but when I saw him, a lot of that anger came up like a tsunami.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_81.wav|Anger is an emotion that you give into so much in your teenage and your early twenties without understanding the kind of damage it does to you as well as your loved ones.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_83.wav|I noticed the anger rising and I realized I'm not going to act upon this.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_84.wav|I'm just going to save this conversation for another time.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_85.wav|Meditated a lot between that meeting and the next time I met him, which was|1
ranveer_allahbadia_86.wav|post-podcasting with Yuvraj Singh, honestly, because we spoke about so much of our daddy issues.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_87.wav|I don't know how many people here have seen the Hindi podcast we did with Yuvraj Singh.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_88.wav|To give you context, Yuvraj Singh is one of our country's most legendary cricketers.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_89.wav|He had some very famous daddy issues.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_92.wav|So when Yuvi was visiting our set, my intention was to talk to him about daddy issues because as a child when I didn't know how to navigate my own daddy issues, I looked at Yuvraj Singh's journey and thought that okay that's what you do with all that anger.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_93.wav|Take it out where it matters.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_94.wav|Which is why for this year, I think this podcast was the closest to my heart.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_95.wav|And after doing it, I just realized once again that life is too short to direct anger towards your own family.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_96.wav|It doesn't matter if my father hasn't understood what went wrong between us.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_99.wav|I believe in correcting what's been wrong.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_100.wav|All I can do as a 30-year-old right now is|1
ranveer_allahbadia_101.wav|things that will actually please the hearts of my mother and my father.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_102.wav|And if I'm not pleasing the heart of my father, I'm not pleasing the heart of my mother either.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_103.wav|Now I'm going to make a conscious effort to travel more with my father to get to know him because I didn't really get to know him throughout my life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_104.wav|But the reason I'm sharing all this with you guys is|1
ranveer_allahbadia_105.wav|Because just this whole story and this whole process, it's healed me so much on the inside, it feels like a weight's been lifted off my shoulders.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_106.wav|I live life in a more peaceful way, I sleep more peacefully, I wake up more peacefully.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_107.wav|I wake up with lesser angst related to my work, no matter how intense|1
ranveer_allahbadia_109.wav|That's why these two worlds are so strongly linked and for me my priority is still becoming the absolute emperor in whatever I choose to do.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_110.wav|I don't want to be an unhappy emperor in my professional life because until you've sorted your own shit out like a grown adult, you're not going to be completely happy.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_111.wav|Just doing this, just making these efforts, having these regular conversations with him and I'm not speaking to him that regularly because it's still a wound that's|1
ranveer_allahbadia_113.wav|It's been one of the best decisions of my life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_114.wav|I'm not going to say that I wish I did this earlier because I didn't have it in me to do it earlier.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_115.wav|Um, but now that I've done it along with the fact that I'm able to control my anger, thanks to all that meditation that I'm doing,|1
ranveer_allahbadia_116.wav|This is a cocktail for joy.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_118.wav|I'm consciously giving so much more time to family.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_119.wav|As I said earlier, my dad doesn't live in my city.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_121.wav|And if I have free time, which I get very less of, my first priority is my mother.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_122.wav|Because I'm very conscious of the fact that I will get married.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_124.wav|And at that point, I might have to take half a step away from my mother.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_125.wav|Because the most successful romantic relationships actually require time and energy.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_127.wav|Right now, I can give my mom all my free time.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_131.wav|Which also brings me to this concept of marriage and career.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_133.wav|Man, the one thing I've done right in my life is my career.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_134.wav|This is the second point I want to talk to you guys about.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_135.wav|This is not just for people in their 20s, this is for people of any age, but it's especially for people in their 20s.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_136.wav|You're going to have a 5-10 year struggling period in your life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_138.wav|This is if you want to live a more balanced, financially cushioned life later on, you are going to have to outwork most of the people around you at some stage.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_139.wav|And if you don't, you know what's going to end up happening?|1
ranveer_allahbadia_140.wav|If you're just a regular person, a part of the pack, eventually,|1
ranveer_allahbadia_141.wav|Your need to earn money is going to stretch out into your 50s, perhaps your 60s, perhaps your 70s, when you may not have the physical and mental energy that you do right now.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_144.wav|Because you can play slower for the rest of the game, just defend, pull your players back.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_145.wav|I personally believe that you should go really hard at the beginning.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_146.wav|The most intense work task should happen at the start of the day.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_147.wav|That's just how I look at life and that's what's helped me.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_148.wav|I challenged the f**k out of myself in my 20s.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_149.wav|Every single year I tried taking on more work than I had in the previous year.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_150.wav|dark circles, bad skin, hair loss, it's too superficial.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_151.wav|Because what I'm getting in return is financial success, of course, fame, which is intoxicating.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_152.wav|A lot of public validation, which just probably helps the child inside me continue through life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_153.wav|And fourth, and this is the most important thing,|1
ranveer_allahbadia_154.wav|All these other factors lead to your loved ones looking at you as someone they can rely on.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_155.wav|You're the stability factor of all your loved ones.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_156.wav|And that's the biggest joy of doing quote unquote well in life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_157.wav|If my cousins are having a tough time at work, they'll call me.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_158.wav|If a relative of mine is not in a great place emotionally, they'll call me.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_159.wav|Especially considering the fact that I'm 30, my relatives, my mother, my father, my uncles, my aunts, they're all roughly around the age of 60.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_160.wav|Which is where the grip on life, I feel,|1
ranveer_allahbadia_162.wav|I think it's a privilege to be able to become a child in your 60s and 70s and 80s.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_167.wav|They're going to be taken care of so well financially.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_168.wav|But I want to take care of them emotionally as well because life isn't just about throwing money at your loved ones.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_169.wav|Life is about throwing your life at your loved ones.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_171.wav|Often I think that I'm not able to do enough for my nana, my mother's father, my nani, my relatives, my aunts, my uncles.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_173.wav|But if they ever need me, I'm ready to leave every single shoot.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_176.wav|The beautiful thing is that they kind of understand the phase of life that I'm in which is extremely unbalanced.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_177.wav|My career is my focus right now.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_178.wav|Because all these other comforts I'm speaking about have come from my career.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_179.wav|So everyone around me understands that and they'll only ask me to do something for them if they really need it.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_180.wav|And I think that's the biggest privilege of my life that you're looked at as the stability factor or at least one of the stability factors in their life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_181.wav|If any of their lives are going to shit, they say that, you know what?|1
ranveer_allahbadia_184.wav|I have that son who's doing all right.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_186.wav|I remember the time I was growing up.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_187.wav|And as I've said many times, I did not grow up around a lot of money.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_190.wav|This is a whole other story that people don't know.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_191.wav|I remember my mom being a working mother and still trying to be the best possible mom to me.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_192.wav|Trying to instill character, intelligence, knowledge, positivity at the cost of her own sometimes, which I understand now because|1
ranveer_allahbadia_193.wav|I remember my mom telling me that I'm 33 years old.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_194.wav|That was in 1998 because she's 1965 born.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_195.wav|I thought 33 is so old and I'm 30 years old right now.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_196.wav|So I'm effectively almost the same age that I remember my mom being when I was a child.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_197.wav|I remember how much she hustled.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_200.wav|All this alpha energy you guys see in me, this go-getter energy, it actually comes from her.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_203.wav|Because in many ways, at least emotionally and character-wise, I was brought up by my mother.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_204.wav|My father provided financially.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_206.wav|And that's a fair argument.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_207.wav|I used to hold a lot of angst against my dad because of that.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_208.wav|And now as a 30 year old, I understand, no, that's just how they divided roles.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_211.wav|My dad had to hustle a lot to make money.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_212.wav|My mom decided to provide emotionally, provide|1
ranveer_allahbadia_213.wav|in a caring way, provide as a house owner to the children and the family.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_214.wav|When she sees my material success or whatever I have become in terms of character in this world, she feels she's done something okay with her life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_215.wav|And that kind of macro validation feels great.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_217.wav|Which is what I'm trying to tell you guys that|1
ranveer_allahbadia_220.wav|As cliched as this piece of advice is, focus really, really, really hard in your careers.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_221.wav|You know, I might get some hate for what I'm about to say next, but I think it's important to be said.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_222.wav|I am also an advocate for mental health, therapy, healing, self-love, all these things.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_225.wav|I probably think that it's because the narratives about all these former subjects are present way too much on social media.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_226.wav|No one talks about the raw, dirty truths of life anymore, which is that if you truly want your loved ones to be happy, you're going to have to go to war.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_229.wav|Even if you scar yourself, even if you injure yourself, eventually you're going to find yourself in a place of joy when your grandparents walk into your home and pat you on the back.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_232.wav|Anyway, these are the first two points I wanted to talk about.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_233.wav|Forgiveness, which has been a great decision and going really, really, really hard at my career in my 20s, always challenging myself, always taking feedback.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_234.wav|Even today, I want to keep improving.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_235.wav|I'm so motivated about taking this story further because I know what I'm capable of.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_236.wav|I personally feel the success you gain in terms of your career is simply a reflection of the value you put out in society.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_237.wav|So if the value I put out in society brought me this kind of success, I want to take it even further.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_239.wav|I have the right infrastructure around me.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_240.wav|I think I have the right attitude in my heart as well.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_241.wav|I just want to see how far I can take this because now I've made my family happy.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_242.wav|How about actually truly doing something for my country?|1
ranveer_allahbadia_243.wav|Not just saying that everything I do is for India, which it is, but actually doing something for India.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_244.wav|This is not a promotional piece for any of my businesses.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_245.wav|So every single business has been built, keeping India in mind.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_247.wav|Instead, let's loosen it up a little bit.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_248.wav|I hope that my motivational talk has sank into your heart.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_250.wav|Work harder than everyone else that you work with.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_253.wav|Romance and marriage.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_255.wav|doing a beer biceps romantic podcast.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_256.wav|There's no piece of romantic advice that you'll find on the internet, which will apply to you 100%.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_257.wav|All pieces of romantic advice apply to different people.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_258.wav|I've just realized that there's no rules when it comes to love.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_260.wav|There are some ways to keep yourself safe.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_261.wav|But you can't completely rely on Instagram Reels, or YouTube Shorts, or YouTube Videos, or even courses on love to actually learn about love.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_262.wav|You probably only learn about love through life, through your own subjective experience.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_263.wav|If you're lucky, you might get married to someone very, very early in your life, and you might have a fantastic marriage if a lot of other factors go right.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_264.wav|If you're unlucky, you may not find the right person till you're 35, 40, 45, 50 years old.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_265.wav|But the one thing life has taught me is that if you have a burning desire in your heart, God answers that desire with a jigsaw piece answer.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_267.wav|And that's the great hope that I have tied my love life upon.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_269.wav|And I've learned that you shouldn't settle for anyone that you think is 1, 2, 10, 100 steps short of what you want in life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_270.wav|You need to know that you're never going to get anyone perfect, but at the same time, you need to have a high standard when it comes to choosing your life partner.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_271.wav|There's something called the Pareto principle that American professionals or generally that global professionals follow.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_272.wav|It says that of everything you choose to do in your professional life, only 20% of your professional tasks lead to 80% of your results.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_273.wav|So if you scan all your results,|1
ranveer_allahbadia_274.wav|80% of your results come from 20% of your actions.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_275.wav|So it's important to identify what those 20% actions are.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_276.wav|Great professional hack, which I've used throughout my professional life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_278.wav|When you're talking about such a key decision, when you're talking about marriage, you apply a Pareto principle upon a Pareto principle.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_279.wav|So 80-20 upon 80-20, which makes it 96-4, which means that one single decision|1
ranveer_allahbadia_280.wav|4% of your life is going to determine 96% of your life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_281.wav|That's the one thing I've figured from talking to so many people on the show, talking to people who've been through divorces, talking to people who've been through the worst kind of infidelity, talking to people who've had healthy as f**k marriages.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_282.wav|You need to give a lot of shits about who you're getting married to, which is why don't settle and at the same time, don't expect everything from your partner.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_283.wav|Your partner is never going to make up for all your needs.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_285.wav|Your partner is not going to provide everything that you wish for in your heart.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_286.wav|You're not a part of a Disney movie.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_287.wav|You're a part of Bhoolok as we call it in India.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_288.wav|the realm of suffering.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_290.wav|You're going to have moments even with the best possible partner.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_291.wav|You're going to have these moments where you'll want to split up.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_292.wav|You're going to want to divorce them.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_293.wav|You're going to want to get out of that love story.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_294.wav|But do you still choose to stay within it?|1
ranveer_allahbadia_295.wav|I'm waiting for that person in my life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_297.wav|That's the one truth I've learned through talking to so many people on the show.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_300.wav|So many of my friends are having children.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_301.wav|So many of my friends are very unhappy that they're not married.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_302.wav|So many of my friends are enjoying the unmarried life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_304.wav|I'm a little unhappy that I haven't found my partner yet.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_306.wav|Uh, but at the same time,|1
ranveer_allahbadia_308.wav|God plans out a beautiful story for you if you constantly keep that faith.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_309.wav|in the big being in the sky.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_310.wav|That's what I'm relying on at this stage.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_311.wav|While I have an atom bomb of romance in my heart to give, I'm gonna wait on it.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_312.wav|Okay, this is not a, hey, ladies, come DM me, come send me Instagram proposals.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_313.wav|This is not one of those messages.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_314.wav|I'm just talking from my heart.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_315.wav|You know, slightly fucked up truth.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_316.wav|about marriage and I actually don't know whether this is f***ed up or whether it's pretty practical.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_317.wav|You should marry someone who you enjoy chilling with.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_318.wav|I heard chilling activity is the same.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_323.wav|Can you see yourself talking to this person forever if you are the only two human beings left in the middle of a zombie apocalypse?|1
ranveer_allahbadia_324.wav|And the reason I say zombie apocalypse is because you'll have to go to war with this person by your side as well.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_325.wav|Not in the zombie apocalypse, but in life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_326.wav|You're going to have to go to war with this person.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_328.wav|nuances when it comes to deciding upon the person that I'd like to get married to.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_330.wav|I can write a long list.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_331.wav|Everyone has their own subjective non-negotiables in terms of this is what I absolutely want in a partner.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_333.wav|I'm not going to speak about it in this episode because it's not a love themed episode.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_335.wav|I was saying that the f***ed up thing about this is that you grew up watching Bollywood films.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_337.wav|It's not at all how marriage or relationships work.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_338.wav|I've had relationships, spoken about it on the show, not going to speak about it more.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_340.wav|unthinkable amounts of joy, which is probably hormones at play.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_341.wav|But then I've also seen an unthinkable amount of sadness and pain.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_342.wav|And the extremity of these two emotions really tears you apart in some nice ways.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_343.wav|I think we're sent to this planet to be torn apart a little bit.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_344.wav|God plans all our suffering in different ways.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_346.wav|our karmic cleanses are the phases of romantic suffering that we're meant to go through.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_348.wav|Which makes marriage such a strange situation.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_349.wav|I'll talk about my reasons as a 30 year old for wanting to be married.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_351.wav|or it was when I was in a committed long term relationship and I got to share both love and pain with that person.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_352.wav|I've had two very intense and very painful relationships in my 20s.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_353.wav|You know, which crossed a certain threshold where I was seriously considering marriage.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_354.wav|The most beautiful memory of my whole career is when I crossed a million subs and I didn't know what to do with all those emotions.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_355.wav|I couldn't explain them to my parents because they are not in the same age category as me.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_356.wav|I couldn't explain it to my team because they've done it with me.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_358.wav|I didn't know how to process what was going on inside me because so much sacrifice, so much pain had gone into just hitting 1 million subscribers.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_359.wav|This is back in 2018.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_360.wav|Back when I used to drink and do other naughty things.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_363.wav|And what I got was a bag of tears.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_364.wav|And it happened because my girlfriend at that time, it was a nice, amazing relationship.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_365.wav|My girlfriend at that time was right next to me to give me that kind of support or grounding or support or stability.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_366.wav|Most beautiful and wholesome moment of my twenties|1
ranveer_allahbadia_368.wav|I've met Virat Kohli this year.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_371.wav|I have seen my mother weep out of happiness because of certain professional achievements.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_372.wav|Unthinkable in terms of joy.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_373.wav|I've seen my grandparents come over, pat me on the back.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_374.wav|in one of the worst phases of my life and tell me that they're extremely proud of me.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_376.wav|And I question that why that particular moment with that person was still stronger than these other moments.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_377.wav|Is it because I'm a romantic at heart?|1
ranveer_allahbadia_379.wav|I do definitely know that the best version of me as an artist comes out when I'm in a serious, committed relationship.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_380.wav|Something happens to my creativity.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_381.wav|So maybe this is a slightly selfish way of looking at life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_382.wav|But I know that the best version of myself happens when commitment is a big part of my life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_383.wav|And I know that there's a lot of people who view their lives in the same way.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_384.wav|And that's my basic logic for wanting to get married.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_385.wav|I know that it boils down to companionship.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_386.wav|How much sex are you really going to have?|1
ranveer_allahbadia_387.wav|How many intelligent conversations are you really going to have?|1
ranveer_allahbadia_388.wav|After physical intimacy and intellectual intimacy fade away, you're left with spiritual intimacy.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_389.wav|And spiritual intimacy doesn't just increase by praying or going to places of worship or listening to spiritual TRS podcasts together.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_390.wav|Spiritual intimacy is also about actual practice and living through moments of fierce pain where your soul is providing|1
ranveer_allahbadia_391.wav|blankets of shelter to the broken soul that you've chosen to be your one.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_395.wav|That film, that's what I want to be.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_398.wav|That's not what a lot of the stable, high value men around me want.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_399.wav|I'm surrounded, fortunately, I'm surrounded by a lot of people who are old school.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_401.wav|And I know I want to get married, just not by the right person.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_402.wav|I'm not putting pressure on myself about meeting the right person either.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_403.wav|No matter how much pressure my relatives put on me.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_404.wav|That's the other thing that a lot of people my age are going through.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_406.wav|Do not rush into marriage because of that.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_407.wav|I'm seeing a lot of marriages break down around me because the marriages were rushed and they were rushed because|1
ranveer_allahbadia_408.wav|either of the two parents, or all the relatives put together, or society, friends, cousins in general were putting pressure on both the halves of the couple, or at least one of the halves.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_409.wav|Someone rushed in, or both rushed in.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_410.wav|You do not need to f***ing win that race of marriage.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_412.wav|Even if you lose 5 years of your life, for the next 80 years of your life, draw out an 80cm line, and draw out a 5cm line.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_417.wav|Too many people are going through divorces.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_419.wav|I'm not just telling you guys this, I'm telling myself that as well.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_420.wav|Especially if you're a diehard romantic, marry carefully.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_421.wav|It's not just about the legal battle that you'll have to go through during divorce.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_422.wav|It's not just about the money exchange or the material exchange that happens.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_423.wav|It's about the emptiness of divorce.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_424.wav|We had Shekhar Kapoor on the Hindi podcast spoke about divorce in detail.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_426.wav|Divorce before it happens often feels like you feel before a breakup.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_427.wav|You want that breakup because that end of the relationship gets bitter because of an event, because of behavioral patterns, because of love fading away.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_428.wav|Mostly it gets bitter.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_429.wav|Then you think you want to exit it.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_430.wav|You break up with someone and you feel like shit and then eventually you're fine.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_431.wav|He said that that's how breakups work.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_435.wav|I asked him about the male perspective on divorce and he said that you'll never feel that kind of loneliness in your life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_436.wav|The kind of loneliness you feel post divorce, especially after you've come to terms with the anger you had when it came to your marriage.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_437.wav|That's not a life I want for myself, which is why I'm going to choose my partner very carefully.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_438.wav|And I hope and pray that every single person listening to this podcast also chooses their life partner very carefully.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_439.wav|Study about relationships, but don't take blind relationship advice from social media.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_443.wav|Are you ready to exchange 20 years of your life, at least for the sake of that one life that you're bringing into the world?|1
ranveer_allahbadia_444.wav|20 years of your life, your consciousness, your life force, your focus,|1
ranveer_allahbadia_446.wav|And if you fucked up in those first 20 years, then you're going to have to fuel it into your child for the rest of that child's life until you die.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_449.wav|Maybe for our generation, it might be slightly easier because of the access to information that we had growing up.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_450.wav|But yeah, it kind of scares me to think about this phase of having kids, especially when I see the guys around me, the guys I grew up with having children.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_451.wav|These are the guys who we spoke about masturbation to for the first time.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_453.wav|I know them from my sixth standard, seventh standard.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_455.wav|That same guy now has a child.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_457.wav|You won't be able to understand this boys and girls unless one of your closest friends in the world or your sibling actually has a kid.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_458.wav|And then you see them raising the kid and you realize how much consciousness, time, effort, energy it takes to raise that kid.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_459.wav|Parallelly because of media, I meet so many people who have chosen not to have children in their life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_460.wav|And that seems like a very nice life to me.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_461.wav|It seems like a stretched out version of their twenties where they're living for their careers and their partners.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_462.wav|Sometimes they're single and they're just living for their careers and their experiences of life or their spirituality and or the spirituality.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_463.wav|So I see people in their thirties and forties and fifties who don't have kids, who've consciously taken up that choice, who've adopted that choice consciously.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_464.wav|very seductive version of life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_465.wav|But then for some reason, when I see an infant, I feel like taking care of it.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_467.wav|Where the f**k is this paternal instinct coming from?|1
ranveer_allahbadia_468.wav|Why is this happening to me at age 30?|1
ranveer_allahbadia_469.wav|And it's been happening for the last two years.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_472.wav|That's how protective I feel about my niece.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_474.wav|I see all my friends who have not had kids at one end of that spectrum and they're happy.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_476.wav|and then I have this urge to have a child myself while knowing fully well that 20 years of my life at least are going to be spent on that child.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_478.wav|If you're one of those people who goes to those Instagram reels which talk about hope, about relationships, the same kind of Instagram reels that I create because I'm actually talking to myself first and foremost through all forms of content.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_480.wav|So is it my romantic heart that actually just wants to experience true love through my own kids?|1
ranveer_allahbadia_482.wav|But I do know that I will take a step back from my career.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_485.wav|A lot of the professional opportunity that we see around us is because of that phase.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_487.wav|We're talking about practical life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_488.wav|I feel our parents had to struggle a lot to make money.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_489.wav|They weren't able to take those step backs in their career.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_490.wav|I've worked like a through my twenties.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_491.wav|I'm still working like a pre-marriage, but my point is once I have kids,|1
ranveer_allahbadia_492.wav|I will ensure that my weekends are given to my kids.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_494.wav|Mental health generally, a strong father figure is very, very important when it comes to creating responsible and balanced adults of the future.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_495.wav|If you're creating a child, you owe it to the same earth that nurtured you to ensure that that child|1
ranveer_allahbadia_498.wav|At the same time, fatherhood seems to be the goal.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_499.wav|Because all the fathers that I've had on the show have said that there's no feeling like holding your own child.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_500.wav|Is it just my human soul that wants to experience that experience of holding your own child, raising your own child, etc?|1
ranveer_allahbadia_504.wav|There's a lot of I don't know tangents where I'm just trying to speak through my heart.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_505.wav|And finally, all I want to say is the final point.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_506.wav|And this is the basis of all the other points.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_509.wav|I want to kind of become a fitness and health YouTuber again in the same way that I was.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_510.wav|We started off as a health and cooking channel, believe it or not.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_511.wav|Every single day of my life, I feel like kind of going back to that because life has come full circle after creating so many different podcasts and pieces of content.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_512.wav|I've realized how important health is.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_513.wav|I don't even need to talk about it.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_514.wav|It's the single most important factor when it comes to productivity.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_515.wav|of your material life as well as your family life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_516.wav|All I'll say is that I've built out a spectacular app along with Harshal Karia and Ayush Anand, it's called Level Supermind.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_517.wav|Early on with all those beer biceps videos when we used to do home workouts through the videos, I used to always question myself in terms of how do I take these same concepts and then|1
ranveer_allahbadia_518.wav|evolve them into being a stronger version of themselves.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_520.wav|Because before the YouTube video phase, I used to be a fitness trainer myself.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_527.wav|I'll talk about that in a future podcast.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_529.wav|But my point is I went from being a trainer to being a YouTuber, and then I went from being a YouTuber to being a tech entrepreneur.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_530.wav|This is the final form of this journey and I'm just trying to help you guys because I personally feel that all forms of work arise from intent.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_531.wav|For a long time in my life, my intent was huge financial growth.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_532.wav|That's where a lot of the ideas came from.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_533.wav|And eventually life taught me that if that is the origin point, if that's the seed of all your ideas, especially when it comes to material life,|1
ranveer_allahbadia_534.wav|you're going to go through a lot of f***ery.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_535.wav|If you don't want to go through f***ery, have a clean point of origin.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_536.wav|My clean point of origin, which I figured pretty late, somewhere during the lockdown, because I realised so much about the meaning of life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_537.wav|It humbled me in so many ways, as it humbled you, I'm sure.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_538.wav|The big realization I had is have pure intent and tie that intent onto every aspect of your life, your professional, your personal, et cetera, et cetera.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_539.wav|I know that the intent I have in life is that I have to be a part of the world's healing.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_540.wav|That's what God has given me this stage for, this mind for, this heart for.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_541.wav|I have to help heal people in this world.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_542.wav|That's the intent I have created Level Supermind with.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_543.wav|It's an app I use myself for my own health and fitness journey.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_544.wav|It's primarily about improving the efficiency of your own mind.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_545.wav|And I could have spoken about it in the middle of my podcast, but I wish you guys knew how much it's taken me to build out this product.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_547.wav|After having stable businesses at the age of 27, 28, I could have chosen to just settle and do nothing more.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_549.wav|I worked on weekends, stretched myself, sacrificed my mental health to be able to build out this app.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_550.wav|I'm so proud of my team because everyone in that team has had a similar parallel journey to me.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_551.wav|Everyone's worked their socks off on this and I hope that you enjoy this.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_552.wav|The success or failure of Level Supermind will determine a lot about how I look at my career.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_553.wav|Fortunately for us, it's been extremely successful until now.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_554.wav|Not going to speak about all the very successes of Level Supermind.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_555.wav|I just hope you guys enjoy it because it's made from a place of very, very clean intent.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_557.wav|And I'm not just talking about content creation because I think content creation is abused in the modern day in so many ways.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_558.wav|People use it for gaining the frills.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_560.wav|It's the most difficult thing to sustain and survive as a content creator.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_561.wav|You ask anyone who survived for a long time and they tell you what's gone into it.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_562.wav|I know what's gone into it from my end, but I also know God has blessed me every single day of this journey with all the tools to be able to do this for the rest of my life.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_563.wav|And I'm not stopping anytime soon.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_565.wav|I just hope that my story and my perspective.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_568.wav|Go spread more healing in the world.|1
ranveer_allahbadia_570.wav|I hope that this year brings you all the healing that you've ever needed and all the growth that you've ever dreamt of.|1