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ep9oqd | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MI] My adoptive parents' biological son wants to sue me over control of our parents' property I was adopted. My parents are deceased. They died in 2014. I was left a house and a store. There was a will and I am listed on it. My brother isn't. I'm not sure if they formerly disinherited him, but their relationship was estranged and they had not seen him in 10 years. He recently came back to Michigan and I am having problems with him. He is homeless and has broken into the house I was left multiple times. The last time was back in November and I called the police. They removed him. He also showed up to my store and harassed the customers and stole items. Again, I called the police. He has been arrested twice. He has been ordered to stay away from the property. Now he's demanding I give him the house and the business or he will sue me in court over it. He claims he should have "half ownership" of them or even full because he is their biological heir, while I am not. | fei0ukz | feif6f5 | 1,579,127,837 | 1,579,137,098 | 7 | 121 | What he says “should” be doesn’t matter. | >He has been arrested twice. He has been ordered to stay away from the property. If he was just given a verbal order to stay away I would talk to the police about getting a restraining order. That way if he violates it the police have grounds for arresting him. Sounds like he might cross the line into stalking or harassment- if so call the domestic violence hotline for more resources on managing your contact with him. | 0 | 9,261 | 17.285714 |
ep9oqd | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MI] My adoptive parents' biological son wants to sue me over control of our parents' property I was adopted. My parents are deceased. They died in 2014. I was left a house and a store. There was a will and I am listed on it. My brother isn't. I'm not sure if they formerly disinherited him, but their relationship was estranged and they had not seen him in 10 years. He recently came back to Michigan and I am having problems with him. He is homeless and has broken into the house I was left multiple times. The last time was back in November and I called the police. They removed him. He also showed up to my store and harassed the customers and stole items. Again, I called the police. He has been arrested twice. He has been ordered to stay away from the property. Now he's demanding I give him the house and the business or he will sue me in court over it. He claims he should have "half ownership" of them or even full because he is their biological heir, while I am not. | feimc9t | feijxkh | 1,579,141,887 | 1,579,140,259 | 54 | 21 | > My parents are deceased. They died in 2014. I was left a house and a store. There was a will 1. Did they die around the same time? 1. If not, which one died first, and how long before the other one? 1. Did they have a so-called "joint will," or did they each have a will? 1. Was either or both of the wills probated? 1. Was probate completed, and if so, when? | Remember that anyone can sue anyone for anything. That doesn’t mean they have a case, or that they will win. Calling the police on him was smart. Keep doing that if he continues his behavior. When someone’s giving you a hard time, records never hurt. Also keep any correspondence, if he sends you any. | 1 | 1,628 | 2.571429 |
ep9oqd | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MI] My adoptive parents' biological son wants to sue me over control of our parents' property I was adopted. My parents are deceased. They died in 2014. I was left a house and a store. There was a will and I am listed on it. My brother isn't. I'm not sure if they formerly disinherited him, but their relationship was estranged and they had not seen him in 10 years. He recently came back to Michigan and I am having problems with him. He is homeless and has broken into the house I was left multiple times. The last time was back in November and I called the police. They removed him. He also showed up to my store and harassed the customers and stole items. Again, I called the police. He has been arrested twice. He has been ordered to stay away from the property. Now he's demanding I give him the house and the business or he will sue me in court over it. He claims he should have "half ownership" of them or even full because he is their biological heir, while I am not. | feii6tw | feimc9t | 1,579,139,103 | 1,579,141,887 | 20 | 54 | Was he formally disinherited in the will or not? That is the essential question. | > My parents are deceased. They died in 2014. I was left a house and a store. There was a will 1. Did they die around the same time? 1. If not, which one died first, and how long before the other one? 1. Did they have a so-called "joint will," or did they each have a will? 1. Was either or both of the wills probated? 1. Was probate completed, and if so, when? | 0 | 2,784 | 2.7 |
ep9oqd | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MI] My adoptive parents' biological son wants to sue me over control of our parents' property I was adopted. My parents are deceased. They died in 2014. I was left a house and a store. There was a will and I am listed on it. My brother isn't. I'm not sure if they formerly disinherited him, but their relationship was estranged and they had not seen him in 10 years. He recently came back to Michigan and I am having problems with him. He is homeless and has broken into the house I was left multiple times. The last time was back in November and I called the police. They removed him. He also showed up to my store and harassed the customers and stole items. Again, I called the police. He has been arrested twice. He has been ordered to stay away from the property. Now he's demanding I give him the house and the business or he will sue me in court over it. He claims he should have "half ownership" of them or even full because he is their biological heir, while I am not. | fei0ukz | feimc9t | 1,579,127,837 | 1,579,141,887 | 7 | 54 | What he says “should” be doesn’t matter. | > My parents are deceased. They died in 2014. I was left a house and a store. There was a will 1. Did they die around the same time? 1. If not, which one died first, and how long before the other one? 1. Did they have a so-called "joint will," or did they each have a will? 1. Was either or both of the wills probated? 1. Was probate completed, and if so, when? | 0 | 14,050 | 7.714286 |
ep9oqd | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MI] My adoptive parents' biological son wants to sue me over control of our parents' property I was adopted. My parents are deceased. They died in 2014. I was left a house and a store. There was a will and I am listed on it. My brother isn't. I'm not sure if they formerly disinherited him, but their relationship was estranged and they had not seen him in 10 years. He recently came back to Michigan and I am having problems with him. He is homeless and has broken into the house I was left multiple times. The last time was back in November and I called the police. They removed him. He also showed up to my store and harassed the customers and stole items. Again, I called the police. He has been arrested twice. He has been ordered to stay away from the property. Now he's demanding I give him the house and the business or he will sue me in court over it. He claims he should have "half ownership" of them or even full because he is their biological heir, while I am not. | feijxkh | feii6tw | 1,579,140,259 | 1,579,139,103 | 21 | 20 | Remember that anyone can sue anyone for anything. That doesn’t mean they have a case, or that they will win. Calling the police on him was smart. Keep doing that if he continues his behavior. When someone’s giving you a hard time, records never hurt. Also keep any correspondence, if he sends you any. | Was he formally disinherited in the will or not? That is the essential question. | 1 | 1,156 | 1.05 |
ep9oqd | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MI] My adoptive parents' biological son wants to sue me over control of our parents' property I was adopted. My parents are deceased. They died in 2014. I was left a house and a store. There was a will and I am listed on it. My brother isn't. I'm not sure if they formerly disinherited him, but their relationship was estranged and they had not seen him in 10 years. He recently came back to Michigan and I am having problems with him. He is homeless and has broken into the house I was left multiple times. The last time was back in November and I called the police. They removed him. He also showed up to my store and harassed the customers and stole items. Again, I called the police. He has been arrested twice. He has been ordered to stay away from the property. Now he's demanding I give him the house and the business or he will sue me in court over it. He claims he should have "half ownership" of them or even full because he is their biological heir, while I am not. | feijxkh | fei0ukz | 1,579,140,259 | 1,579,127,837 | 21 | 7 | Remember that anyone can sue anyone for anything. That doesn’t mean they have a case, or that they will win. Calling the police on him was smart. Keep doing that if he continues his behavior. When someone’s giving you a hard time, records never hurt. Also keep any correspondence, if he sends you any. | What he says “should” be doesn’t matter. | 1 | 12,422 | 3 |
ep9oqd | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MI] My adoptive parents' biological son wants to sue me over control of our parents' property I was adopted. My parents are deceased. They died in 2014. I was left a house and a store. There was a will and I am listed on it. My brother isn't. I'm not sure if they formerly disinherited him, but their relationship was estranged and they had not seen him in 10 years. He recently came back to Michigan and I am having problems with him. He is homeless and has broken into the house I was left multiple times. The last time was back in November and I called the police. They removed him. He also showed up to my store and harassed the customers and stole items. Again, I called the police. He has been arrested twice. He has been ordered to stay away from the property. Now he's demanding I give him the house and the business or he will sue me in court over it. He claims he should have "half ownership" of them or even full because he is their biological heir, while I am not. | feii6tw | fei0ukz | 1,579,139,103 | 1,579,127,837 | 20 | 7 | Was he formally disinherited in the will or not? That is the essential question. | What he says “should” be doesn’t matter. | 1 | 11,266 | 2.857143 |
ep9oqd | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MI] My adoptive parents' biological son wants to sue me over control of our parents' property I was adopted. My parents are deceased. They died in 2014. I was left a house and a store. There was a will and I am listed on it. My brother isn't. I'm not sure if they formerly disinherited him, but their relationship was estranged and they had not seen him in 10 years. He recently came back to Michigan and I am having problems with him. He is homeless and has broken into the house I was left multiple times. The last time was back in November and I called the police. They removed him. He also showed up to my store and harassed the customers and stole items. Again, I called the police. He has been arrested twice. He has been ordered to stay away from the property. Now he's demanding I give him the house and the business or he will sue me in court over it. He claims he should have "half ownership" of them or even full because he is their biological heir, while I am not. | fei0ukz | feiwdr6 | 1,579,127,837 | 1,579,149,027 | 7 | 14 | What he says “should” be doesn’t matter. | You're most likely going to need a restraining order | 0 | 21,190 | 2 |
zugwf6 | legaladvice_train | 0.83 | Ex Wife Wants to Sue For Half What My House is Worth (Texas) She gifted the house to me in the divorce and now she regrets it | j1j367f | j1j1zhs | 1,671,910,881 | 1,671,910,376 | 79 | 10 | "Gifting" a house as part of a divorce would be somewhat unusual. Do you mean that you both agreed that the house would be solely your property as part of your divorce settlement? | She can want to sue. If y'all followed the terms of the divorce, she can continue to want. | 1 | 505 | 7.9 |
eydlqj | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My 13 year old foster son sexually assaulted me. CPS is handling it but not reporting it to the cops. Should I report it to the cops or write a letter to the Judge scheduled for his review hearing? What would this require of me? No report of sexual assault will go on his record, he was kept with me for four more nights after I reported it. He stayed for two nights after CPS came, they said call 911 if he tries anything. That very next night he came out of the shower naked, once again testing the waters. He is 5'8" 162 lbs and he did these things while my husband was sleeping in the next room 20 feet away. He then physically assaulted my husband and threw things at our dog. I told them he needed a new psych eval but they put him in another home?!?! When I packed all his stuff I kept his SD card and tablet for safety for the next people. As soon as I opened Google it showed disturbing searches. A couple were of women over 35, obviously when he started thinking about it. All CPS cares about is that I don't talk to anyone about it. I get that they are protecting the child but what about his next victims, and there will be more, I'm convinced he's a sociopath. My biggest fear realized. All I wanted was a child I couldn't have and instead I've got this happening. What should I do? CPS is not going to put sexual assault on his record, it's in his file...oh wow that will scare him. It shows me his Google searches and just today he searched porn after his SW told him he was walking a thin line between hospital/juvi. I have 12 pictures of his tablet searches, each with 12 searches, just since January 14th. I've thought about going to the cops. I've considered writing a letter to the Judge who will hear his review case on February 12th, since now I won't be a part of it. If I do go around the states back and go to the police I will never be a foster mom again which means my dream of having children will die. I'm as certain as I can be, given my knowledge and resources that he is a sociopath but he is so good at manipulating woman and specifically his social worker that I know she will protect him thinking he won't offend again but she didn't see his eyes. TIA I'm confused, angry, hurting, sad, and traumatized. | fggo5h2 | fgh06z7 | 1,580,765,923 | 1,580,773,575 | 35 | 51 | I don’t know how going to the police would disqualify you from being a foster parent again? You were assaulted. | Call the police. This needs real attention, and having his case manager downplay it isn't going to help you or him or those he lives with in the future. | 0 | 7,652 | 1.457143 |
eydlqj | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My 13 year old foster son sexually assaulted me. CPS is handling it but not reporting it to the cops. Should I report it to the cops or write a letter to the Judge scheduled for his review hearing? What would this require of me? No report of sexual assault will go on his record, he was kept with me for four more nights after I reported it. He stayed for two nights after CPS came, they said call 911 if he tries anything. That very next night he came out of the shower naked, once again testing the waters. He is 5'8" 162 lbs and he did these things while my husband was sleeping in the next room 20 feet away. He then physically assaulted my husband and threw things at our dog. I told them he needed a new psych eval but they put him in another home?!?! When I packed all his stuff I kept his SD card and tablet for safety for the next people. As soon as I opened Google it showed disturbing searches. A couple were of women over 35, obviously when he started thinking about it. All CPS cares about is that I don't talk to anyone about it. I get that they are protecting the child but what about his next victims, and there will be more, I'm convinced he's a sociopath. My biggest fear realized. All I wanted was a child I couldn't have and instead I've got this happening. What should I do? CPS is not going to put sexual assault on his record, it's in his file...oh wow that will scare him. It shows me his Google searches and just today he searched porn after his SW told him he was walking a thin line between hospital/juvi. I have 12 pictures of his tablet searches, each with 12 searches, just since January 14th. I've thought about going to the cops. I've considered writing a letter to the Judge who will hear his review case on February 12th, since now I won't be a part of it. If I do go around the states back and go to the police I will never be a foster mom again which means my dream of having children will die. I'm as certain as I can be, given my knowledge and resources that he is a sociopath but he is so good at manipulating woman and specifically his social worker that I know she will protect him thinking he won't offend again but she didn't see his eyes. TIA I'm confused, angry, hurting, sad, and traumatized. | fggkrc7 | fgh06z7 | 1,580,763,915 | 1,580,773,575 | 3 | 51 | You don't say what the sexual assault was so it's hard to say what you should do. This child clearly needs help. Do you know his background? Like was he sexually abused when he was younger and that's why he's in foster care? A 13 year old searching porn seems pretty normal but again, not sure what the assault was to you and if that has anything to do with it. | Call the police. This needs real attention, and having his case manager downplay it isn't going to help you or him or those he lives with in the future. | 0 | 9,660 | 17 |
eydlqj | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My 13 year old foster son sexually assaulted me. CPS is handling it but not reporting it to the cops. Should I report it to the cops or write a letter to the Judge scheduled for his review hearing? What would this require of me? No report of sexual assault will go on his record, he was kept with me for four more nights after I reported it. He stayed for two nights after CPS came, they said call 911 if he tries anything. That very next night he came out of the shower naked, once again testing the waters. He is 5'8" 162 lbs and he did these things while my husband was sleeping in the next room 20 feet away. He then physically assaulted my husband and threw things at our dog. I told them he needed a new psych eval but they put him in another home?!?! When I packed all his stuff I kept his SD card and tablet for safety for the next people. As soon as I opened Google it showed disturbing searches. A couple were of women over 35, obviously when he started thinking about it. All CPS cares about is that I don't talk to anyone about it. I get that they are protecting the child but what about his next victims, and there will be more, I'm convinced he's a sociopath. My biggest fear realized. All I wanted was a child I couldn't have and instead I've got this happening. What should I do? CPS is not going to put sexual assault on his record, it's in his file...oh wow that will scare him. It shows me his Google searches and just today he searched porn after his SW told him he was walking a thin line between hospital/juvi. I have 12 pictures of his tablet searches, each with 12 searches, just since January 14th. I've thought about going to the cops. I've considered writing a letter to the Judge who will hear his review case on February 12th, since now I won't be a part of it. If I do go around the states back and go to the police I will never be a foster mom again which means my dream of having children will die. I'm as certain as I can be, given my knowledge and resources that he is a sociopath but he is so good at manipulating woman and specifically his social worker that I know she will protect him thinking he won't offend again but she didn't see his eyes. TIA I'm confused, angry, hurting, sad, and traumatized. | fggvbfc | fgh06z7 | 1,580,770,370 | 1,580,773,575 | 3 | 51 | Can you be a bit more precise. What were the disturbing searches? Was it just milf porn or what exactly? | Call the police. This needs real attention, and having his case manager downplay it isn't going to help you or him or those he lives with in the future. | 0 | 3,205 | 17 |
eydlqj | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My 13 year old foster son sexually assaulted me. CPS is handling it but not reporting it to the cops. Should I report it to the cops or write a letter to the Judge scheduled for his review hearing? What would this require of me? No report of sexual assault will go on his record, he was kept with me for four more nights after I reported it. He stayed for two nights after CPS came, they said call 911 if he tries anything. That very next night he came out of the shower naked, once again testing the waters. He is 5'8" 162 lbs and he did these things while my husband was sleeping in the next room 20 feet away. He then physically assaulted my husband and threw things at our dog. I told them he needed a new psych eval but they put him in another home?!?! When I packed all his stuff I kept his SD card and tablet for safety for the next people. As soon as I opened Google it showed disturbing searches. A couple were of women over 35, obviously when he started thinking about it. All CPS cares about is that I don't talk to anyone about it. I get that they are protecting the child but what about his next victims, and there will be more, I'm convinced he's a sociopath. My biggest fear realized. All I wanted was a child I couldn't have and instead I've got this happening. What should I do? CPS is not going to put sexual assault on his record, it's in his file...oh wow that will scare him. It shows me his Google searches and just today he searched porn after his SW told him he was walking a thin line between hospital/juvi. I have 12 pictures of his tablet searches, each with 12 searches, just since January 14th. I've thought about going to the cops. I've considered writing a letter to the Judge who will hear his review case on February 12th, since now I won't be a part of it. If I do go around the states back and go to the police I will never be a foster mom again which means my dream of having children will die. I'm as certain as I can be, given my knowledge and resources that he is a sociopath but he is so good at manipulating woman and specifically his social worker that I know she will protect him thinking he won't offend again but she didn't see his eyes. TIA I'm confused, angry, hurting, sad, and traumatized. | fggkrc7 | fggo5h2 | 1,580,763,915 | 1,580,765,923 | 3 | 35 | You don't say what the sexual assault was so it's hard to say what you should do. This child clearly needs help. Do you know his background? Like was he sexually abused when he was younger and that's why he's in foster care? A 13 year old searching porn seems pretty normal but again, not sure what the assault was to you and if that has anything to do with it. | I don’t know how going to the police would disqualify you from being a foster parent again? You were assaulted. | 0 | 2,008 | 11.666667 |
eydlqj | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My 13 year old foster son sexually assaulted me. CPS is handling it but not reporting it to the cops. Should I report it to the cops or write a letter to the Judge scheduled for his review hearing? What would this require of me? No report of sexual assault will go on his record, he was kept with me for four more nights after I reported it. He stayed for two nights after CPS came, they said call 911 if he tries anything. That very next night he came out of the shower naked, once again testing the waters. He is 5'8" 162 lbs and he did these things while my husband was sleeping in the next room 20 feet away. He then physically assaulted my husband and threw things at our dog. I told them he needed a new psych eval but they put him in another home?!?! When I packed all his stuff I kept his SD card and tablet for safety for the next people. As soon as I opened Google it showed disturbing searches. A couple were of women over 35, obviously when he started thinking about it. All CPS cares about is that I don't talk to anyone about it. I get that they are protecting the child but what about his next victims, and there will be more, I'm convinced he's a sociopath. My biggest fear realized. All I wanted was a child I couldn't have and instead I've got this happening. What should I do? CPS is not going to put sexual assault on his record, it's in his file...oh wow that will scare him. It shows me his Google searches and just today he searched porn after his SW told him he was walking a thin line between hospital/juvi. I have 12 pictures of his tablet searches, each with 12 searches, just since January 14th. I've thought about going to the cops. I've considered writing a letter to the Judge who will hear his review case on February 12th, since now I won't be a part of it. If I do go around the states back and go to the police I will never be a foster mom again which means my dream of having children will die. I'm as certain as I can be, given my knowledge and resources that he is a sociopath but he is so good at manipulating woman and specifically his social worker that I know she will protect him thinking he won't offend again but she didn't see his eyes. TIA I'm confused, angry, hurting, sad, and traumatized. | fggkrc7 | fgiotqk | 1,580,763,915 | 1,580,827,477 | 3 | 6 | You don't say what the sexual assault was so it's hard to say what you should do. This child clearly needs help. Do you know his background? Like was he sexually abused when he was younger and that's why he's in foster care? A 13 year old searching porn seems pretty normal but again, not sure what the assault was to you and if that has anything to do with it. | Report him and the social worker. Other women need to be protected from him and his social worker is putting other women and girls in danger. Someome who offends this violently and this early only escalates to much worse. Get in touch with the SW supervisor or director. | 0 | 63,562 | 2 |
eydlqj | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My 13 year old foster son sexually assaulted me. CPS is handling it but not reporting it to the cops. Should I report it to the cops or write a letter to the Judge scheduled for his review hearing? What would this require of me? No report of sexual assault will go on his record, he was kept with me for four more nights after I reported it. He stayed for two nights after CPS came, they said call 911 if he tries anything. That very next night he came out of the shower naked, once again testing the waters. He is 5'8" 162 lbs and he did these things while my husband was sleeping in the next room 20 feet away. He then physically assaulted my husband and threw things at our dog. I told them he needed a new psych eval but they put him in another home?!?! When I packed all his stuff I kept his SD card and tablet for safety for the next people. As soon as I opened Google it showed disturbing searches. A couple were of women over 35, obviously when he started thinking about it. All CPS cares about is that I don't talk to anyone about it. I get that they are protecting the child but what about his next victims, and there will be more, I'm convinced he's a sociopath. My biggest fear realized. All I wanted was a child I couldn't have and instead I've got this happening. What should I do? CPS is not going to put sexual assault on his record, it's in his file...oh wow that will scare him. It shows me his Google searches and just today he searched porn after his SW told him he was walking a thin line between hospital/juvi. I have 12 pictures of his tablet searches, each with 12 searches, just since January 14th. I've thought about going to the cops. I've considered writing a letter to the Judge who will hear his review case on February 12th, since now I won't be a part of it. If I do go around the states back and go to the police I will never be a foster mom again which means my dream of having children will die. I'm as certain as I can be, given my knowledge and resources that he is a sociopath but he is so good at manipulating woman and specifically his social worker that I know she will protect him thinking he won't offend again but she didn't see his eyes. TIA I'm confused, angry, hurting, sad, and traumatized. | fgiotqk | fghpiyk | 1,580,827,477 | 1,580,790,350 | 6 | 4 | Report him and the social worker. Other women need to be protected from him and his social worker is putting other women and girls in danger. Someome who offends this violently and this early only escalates to much worse. Get in touch with the SW supervisor or director. | You need to get this on record with the police. He has the making of a predator. This has to be taken seriously. He will rape someone else. | 1 | 37,127 | 1.5 |
eydlqj | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My 13 year old foster son sexually assaulted me. CPS is handling it but not reporting it to the cops. Should I report it to the cops or write a letter to the Judge scheduled for his review hearing? What would this require of me? No report of sexual assault will go on his record, he was kept with me for four more nights after I reported it. He stayed for two nights after CPS came, they said call 911 if he tries anything. That very next night he came out of the shower naked, once again testing the waters. He is 5'8" 162 lbs and he did these things while my husband was sleeping in the next room 20 feet away. He then physically assaulted my husband and threw things at our dog. I told them he needed a new psych eval but they put him in another home?!?! When I packed all his stuff I kept his SD card and tablet for safety for the next people. As soon as I opened Google it showed disturbing searches. A couple were of women over 35, obviously when he started thinking about it. All CPS cares about is that I don't talk to anyone about it. I get that they are protecting the child but what about his next victims, and there will be more, I'm convinced he's a sociopath. My biggest fear realized. All I wanted was a child I couldn't have and instead I've got this happening. What should I do? CPS is not going to put sexual assault on his record, it's in his file...oh wow that will scare him. It shows me his Google searches and just today he searched porn after his SW told him he was walking a thin line between hospital/juvi. I have 12 pictures of his tablet searches, each with 12 searches, just since January 14th. I've thought about going to the cops. I've considered writing a letter to the Judge who will hear his review case on February 12th, since now I won't be a part of it. If I do go around the states back and go to the police I will never be a foster mom again which means my dream of having children will die. I'm as certain as I can be, given my knowledge and resources that he is a sociopath but he is so good at manipulating woman and specifically his social worker that I know she will protect him thinking he won't offend again but she didn't see his eyes. TIA I'm confused, angry, hurting, sad, and traumatized. | fgiotqk | fggvbfc | 1,580,827,477 | 1,580,770,370 | 6 | 3 | Report him and the social worker. Other women need to be protected from him and his social worker is putting other women and girls in danger. Someome who offends this violently and this early only escalates to much worse. Get in touch with the SW supervisor or director. | Can you be a bit more precise. What were the disturbing searches? Was it just milf porn or what exactly? | 1 | 57,107 | 2 |
eydlqj | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My 13 year old foster son sexually assaulted me. CPS is handling it but not reporting it to the cops. Should I report it to the cops or write a letter to the Judge scheduled for his review hearing? What would this require of me? No report of sexual assault will go on his record, he was kept with me for four more nights after I reported it. He stayed for two nights after CPS came, they said call 911 if he tries anything. That very next night he came out of the shower naked, once again testing the waters. He is 5'8" 162 lbs and he did these things while my husband was sleeping in the next room 20 feet away. He then physically assaulted my husband and threw things at our dog. I told them he needed a new psych eval but they put him in another home?!?! When I packed all his stuff I kept his SD card and tablet for safety for the next people. As soon as I opened Google it showed disturbing searches. A couple were of women over 35, obviously when he started thinking about it. All CPS cares about is that I don't talk to anyone about it. I get that they are protecting the child but what about his next victims, and there will be more, I'm convinced he's a sociopath. My biggest fear realized. All I wanted was a child I couldn't have and instead I've got this happening. What should I do? CPS is not going to put sexual assault on his record, it's in his file...oh wow that will scare him. It shows me his Google searches and just today he searched porn after his SW told him he was walking a thin line between hospital/juvi. I have 12 pictures of his tablet searches, each with 12 searches, just since January 14th. I've thought about going to the cops. I've considered writing a letter to the Judge who will hear his review case on February 12th, since now I won't be a part of it. If I do go around the states back and go to the police I will never be a foster mom again which means my dream of having children will die. I'm as certain as I can be, given my knowledge and resources that he is a sociopath but he is so good at manipulating woman and specifically his social worker that I know she will protect him thinking he won't offend again but she didn't see his eyes. TIA I'm confused, angry, hurting, sad, and traumatized. | fgiotqk | fgiiuqm | 1,580,827,477 | 1,580,822,952 | 6 | 2 | Report him and the social worker. Other women need to be protected from him and his social worker is putting other women and girls in danger. Someome who offends this violently and this early only escalates to much worse. Get in touch with the SW supervisor or director. | Agree with filing the police report. I’m a huge advocate of keeping kids out of the juvenile justice system, which often does more harm than good... but it’s clear here that CPS will not initiate the treatment he needs. Legally speaking, you are well within your rights to file a report. | 1 | 4,525 | 3 |
eydlqj | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My 13 year old foster son sexually assaulted me. CPS is handling it but not reporting it to the cops. Should I report it to the cops or write a letter to the Judge scheduled for his review hearing? What would this require of me? No report of sexual assault will go on his record, he was kept with me for four more nights after I reported it. He stayed for two nights after CPS came, they said call 911 if he tries anything. That very next night he came out of the shower naked, once again testing the waters. He is 5'8" 162 lbs and he did these things while my husband was sleeping in the next room 20 feet away. He then physically assaulted my husband and threw things at our dog. I told them he needed a new psych eval but they put him in another home?!?! When I packed all his stuff I kept his SD card and tablet for safety for the next people. As soon as I opened Google it showed disturbing searches. A couple were of women over 35, obviously when he started thinking about it. All CPS cares about is that I don't talk to anyone about it. I get that they are protecting the child but what about his next victims, and there will be more, I'm convinced he's a sociopath. My biggest fear realized. All I wanted was a child I couldn't have and instead I've got this happening. What should I do? CPS is not going to put sexual assault on his record, it's in his file...oh wow that will scare him. It shows me his Google searches and just today he searched porn after his SW told him he was walking a thin line between hospital/juvi. I have 12 pictures of his tablet searches, each with 12 searches, just since January 14th. I've thought about going to the cops. I've considered writing a letter to the Judge who will hear his review case on February 12th, since now I won't be a part of it. If I do go around the states back and go to the police I will never be a foster mom again which means my dream of having children will die. I'm as certain as I can be, given my knowledge and resources that he is a sociopath but he is so good at manipulating woman and specifically his social worker that I know she will protect him thinking he won't offend again but she didn't see his eyes. TIA I'm confused, angry, hurting, sad, and traumatized. | fgiotqk | fgiblwf | 1,580,827,477 | 1,580,815,607 | 6 | 2 | Report him and the social worker. Other women need to be protected from him and his social worker is putting other women and girls in danger. Someome who offends this violently and this early only escalates to much worse. Get in touch with the SW supervisor or director. | Are you familiar with the subreddit /r/fosterparents? | 1 | 11,870 | 3 |
eydlqj | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My 13 year old foster son sexually assaulted me. CPS is handling it but not reporting it to the cops. Should I report it to the cops or write a letter to the Judge scheduled for his review hearing? What would this require of me? No report of sexual assault will go on his record, he was kept with me for four more nights after I reported it. He stayed for two nights after CPS came, they said call 911 if he tries anything. That very next night he came out of the shower naked, once again testing the waters. He is 5'8" 162 lbs and he did these things while my husband was sleeping in the next room 20 feet away. He then physically assaulted my husband and threw things at our dog. I told them he needed a new psych eval but they put him in another home?!?! When I packed all his stuff I kept his SD card and tablet for safety for the next people. As soon as I opened Google it showed disturbing searches. A couple were of women over 35, obviously when he started thinking about it. All CPS cares about is that I don't talk to anyone about it. I get that they are protecting the child but what about his next victims, and there will be more, I'm convinced he's a sociopath. My biggest fear realized. All I wanted was a child I couldn't have and instead I've got this happening. What should I do? CPS is not going to put sexual assault on his record, it's in his file...oh wow that will scare him. It shows me his Google searches and just today he searched porn after his SW told him he was walking a thin line between hospital/juvi. I have 12 pictures of his tablet searches, each with 12 searches, just since January 14th. I've thought about going to the cops. I've considered writing a letter to the Judge who will hear his review case on February 12th, since now I won't be a part of it. If I do go around the states back and go to the police I will never be a foster mom again which means my dream of having children will die. I'm as certain as I can be, given my knowledge and resources that he is a sociopath but he is so good at manipulating woman and specifically his social worker that I know she will protect him thinking he won't offend again but she didn't see his eyes. TIA I'm confused, angry, hurting, sad, and traumatized. | fggkrc7 | fghpiyk | 1,580,763,915 | 1,580,790,350 | 3 | 4 | You don't say what the sexual assault was so it's hard to say what you should do. This child clearly needs help. Do you know his background? Like was he sexually abused when he was younger and that's why he's in foster care? A 13 year old searching porn seems pretty normal but again, not sure what the assault was to you and if that has anything to do with it. | You need to get this on record with the police. He has the making of a predator. This has to be taken seriously. He will rape someone else. | 0 | 26,435 | 1.333333 |
eydlqj | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My 13 year old foster son sexually assaulted me. CPS is handling it but not reporting it to the cops. Should I report it to the cops or write a letter to the Judge scheduled for his review hearing? What would this require of me? No report of sexual assault will go on his record, he was kept with me for four more nights after I reported it. He stayed for two nights after CPS came, they said call 911 if he tries anything. That very next night he came out of the shower naked, once again testing the waters. He is 5'8" 162 lbs and he did these things while my husband was sleeping in the next room 20 feet away. He then physically assaulted my husband and threw things at our dog. I told them he needed a new psych eval but they put him in another home?!?! When I packed all his stuff I kept his SD card and tablet for safety for the next people. As soon as I opened Google it showed disturbing searches. A couple were of women over 35, obviously when he started thinking about it. All CPS cares about is that I don't talk to anyone about it. I get that they are protecting the child but what about his next victims, and there will be more, I'm convinced he's a sociopath. My biggest fear realized. All I wanted was a child I couldn't have and instead I've got this happening. What should I do? CPS is not going to put sexual assault on his record, it's in his file...oh wow that will scare him. It shows me his Google searches and just today he searched porn after his SW told him he was walking a thin line between hospital/juvi. I have 12 pictures of his tablet searches, each with 12 searches, just since January 14th. I've thought about going to the cops. I've considered writing a letter to the Judge who will hear his review case on February 12th, since now I won't be a part of it. If I do go around the states back and go to the police I will never be a foster mom again which means my dream of having children will die. I'm as certain as I can be, given my knowledge and resources that he is a sociopath but he is so good at manipulating woman and specifically his social worker that I know she will protect him thinking he won't offend again but she didn't see his eyes. TIA I'm confused, angry, hurting, sad, and traumatized. | fghpiyk | fggvbfc | 1,580,790,350 | 1,580,770,370 | 4 | 3 | You need to get this on record with the police. He has the making of a predator. This has to be taken seriously. He will rape someone else. | Can you be a bit more precise. What were the disturbing searches? Was it just milf porn or what exactly? | 1 | 19,980 | 1.333333 |
eydlqj | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My 13 year old foster son sexually assaulted me. CPS is handling it but not reporting it to the cops. Should I report it to the cops or write a letter to the Judge scheduled for his review hearing? What would this require of me? No report of sexual assault will go on his record, he was kept with me for four more nights after I reported it. He stayed for two nights after CPS came, they said call 911 if he tries anything. That very next night he came out of the shower naked, once again testing the waters. He is 5'8" 162 lbs and he did these things while my husband was sleeping in the next room 20 feet away. He then physically assaulted my husband and threw things at our dog. I told them he needed a new psych eval but they put him in another home?!?! When I packed all his stuff I kept his SD card and tablet for safety for the next people. As soon as I opened Google it showed disturbing searches. A couple were of women over 35, obviously when he started thinking about it. All CPS cares about is that I don't talk to anyone about it. I get that they are protecting the child but what about his next victims, and there will be more, I'm convinced he's a sociopath. My biggest fear realized. All I wanted was a child I couldn't have and instead I've got this happening. What should I do? CPS is not going to put sexual assault on his record, it's in his file...oh wow that will scare him. It shows me his Google searches and just today he searched porn after his SW told him he was walking a thin line between hospital/juvi. I have 12 pictures of his tablet searches, each with 12 searches, just since January 14th. I've thought about going to the cops. I've considered writing a letter to the Judge who will hear his review case on February 12th, since now I won't be a part of it. If I do go around the states back and go to the police I will never be a foster mom again which means my dream of having children will die. I'm as certain as I can be, given my knowledge and resources that he is a sociopath but he is so good at manipulating woman and specifically his social worker that I know she will protect him thinking he won't offend again but she didn't see his eyes. TIA I'm confused, angry, hurting, sad, and traumatized. | fgizno9 | fgiiuqm | 1,580,834,187 | 1,580,822,952 | 3 | 2 | You may find some helpful advice and resources by contacting RAINN (www.rainn.org). Good luck, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I hope you're able to get something done before this minipredator hurts anyone else. | Agree with filing the police report. I’m a huge advocate of keeping kids out of the juvenile justice system, which often does more harm than good... but it’s clear here that CPS will not initiate the treatment he needs. Legally speaking, you are well within your rights to file a report. | 1 | 11,235 | 1.5 |
eydlqj | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My 13 year old foster son sexually assaulted me. CPS is handling it but not reporting it to the cops. Should I report it to the cops or write a letter to the Judge scheduled for his review hearing? What would this require of me? No report of sexual assault will go on his record, he was kept with me for four more nights after I reported it. He stayed for two nights after CPS came, they said call 911 if he tries anything. That very next night he came out of the shower naked, once again testing the waters. He is 5'8" 162 lbs and he did these things while my husband was sleeping in the next room 20 feet away. He then physically assaulted my husband and threw things at our dog. I told them he needed a new psych eval but they put him in another home?!?! When I packed all his stuff I kept his SD card and tablet for safety for the next people. As soon as I opened Google it showed disturbing searches. A couple were of women over 35, obviously when he started thinking about it. All CPS cares about is that I don't talk to anyone about it. I get that they are protecting the child but what about his next victims, and there will be more, I'm convinced he's a sociopath. My biggest fear realized. All I wanted was a child I couldn't have and instead I've got this happening. What should I do? CPS is not going to put sexual assault on his record, it's in his file...oh wow that will scare him. It shows me his Google searches and just today he searched porn after his SW told him he was walking a thin line between hospital/juvi. I have 12 pictures of his tablet searches, each with 12 searches, just since January 14th. I've thought about going to the cops. I've considered writing a letter to the Judge who will hear his review case on February 12th, since now I won't be a part of it. If I do go around the states back and go to the police I will never be a foster mom again which means my dream of having children will die. I'm as certain as I can be, given my knowledge and resources that he is a sociopath but he is so good at manipulating woman and specifically his social worker that I know she will protect him thinking he won't offend again but she didn't see his eyes. TIA I'm confused, angry, hurting, sad, and traumatized. | fgiblwf | fgizno9 | 1,580,815,607 | 1,580,834,187 | 2 | 3 | Are you familiar with the subreddit /r/fosterparents? | You may find some helpful advice and resources by contacting RAINN (www.rainn.org). Good luck, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I hope you're able to get something done before this minipredator hurts anyone else. | 0 | 18,580 | 1.5 |
vjvrs0 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | If I(14) want to be put in foster care can I ask my counselor to help me be removed from my family in Mississippi? If I ask for help is there anything she can do to get me out? | idm3zet | idngprx | 1,656,107,247 | 1,656,131,105 | 6 | 7 | Sometimes foster homes are not any better than your own family’s. Unless there is some sort of abuse, you should talk to another adult you trust about what is happening at home. | If you make a CPS report, they will investigate, and if they find that your situation is unsuitable (which is a really high bar) they might put you into foster care, either an emergency situation or a longer-term one. If your specific foster placement is bad, you can report that, but it's really hard to get through that process. And once they've taken you from your family, you can't be returned until the issue that led to you being taken away is resolved. We might be able to help more if you could tell us a little bit about why you want to be put in foster care? ETA: If you feel unsafe or like you're in danger, the right thing to do is to make a report to a trusted adult like a counselor or a teacher, and I don't mean to discourage you from that. What happens in a lot of cases is that CPS will try to work with your family to resolve the issue, because putting you in the system is a last resort. | 0 | 23,858 | 1.166667 |
vjvrs0 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | If I(14) want to be put in foster care can I ask my counselor to help me be removed from my family in Mississippi? If I ask for help is there anything she can do to get me out? | idn541e | idngprx | 1,656,124,779 | 1,656,131,105 | 3 | 7 | Please contact your local youth shelter for information and support on your options. They can provide a place to stay and resources if you aren't safe at home. | If you make a CPS report, they will investigate, and if they find that your situation is unsuitable (which is a really high bar) they might put you into foster care, either an emergency situation or a longer-term one. If your specific foster placement is bad, you can report that, but it's really hard to get through that process. And once they've taken you from your family, you can't be returned until the issue that led to you being taken away is resolved. We might be able to help more if you could tell us a little bit about why you want to be put in foster care? ETA: If you feel unsafe or like you're in danger, the right thing to do is to make a report to a trusted adult like a counselor or a teacher, and I don't mean to discourage you from that. What happens in a lot of cases is that CPS will try to work with your family to resolve the issue, because putting you in the system is a last resort. | 0 | 6,326 | 2.333333 |
vkqw4c | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Somebody stole my cat…or I stole their cat? So the neighbors next to me had a cat. They let her out one day and didn’t let her back in for over3 weeks in the hot sun. I ended up feeding her and taking care of her, but I didn’t let her inside. The neighbors were asked about the cat and they said they were just letting her go because she was pregnant and they didn’t want to deal with it. Apparently she was at risk of fatality due to not being able to carry full-term. So I asked them if I were to schedule the procedures, would they pay for their cats procedures? They declined, saying they “don’t give a f about the cat”. They left her outside and I decided to pay her medical bills and take her in. She needed an indoor environment and somebody to clean her stitches daily. Well, few weeks later I let her go outside after she was healed/flea protected. Just in the backyard. Then, the neighbors come out and take her. They refuse to give her back to me despite me having her medical costs/rabies tag in my name. What can I do about this? I’m worried about her health and 411 did not help. | idrb71s | idsep51 | 1,656,208,983 | 1,656,236,197 | 43 | 83 | Unfortunately pets are property. You might be able to sue in small claims for the medical costs you incurred but they can't order custody of the cat to you. | I can imagine that they don't have health records for this cat. Get a copy of all of yours. Call the non emergency line. Explain that the cat was thrown out whilst sick and that the neighbors explicitly said that they did not want the cat anymore. Show the medical records to the police. They MAY agree to contact the neighbors and ask them to relinquish the cat. They may also say it's a civil matter. You may have to take your records to court and try to sue for the cat back. | 0 | 27,214 | 1.930233 |
vkqw4c | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Somebody stole my cat…or I stole their cat? So the neighbors next to me had a cat. They let her out one day and didn’t let her back in for over3 weeks in the hot sun. I ended up feeding her and taking care of her, but I didn’t let her inside. The neighbors were asked about the cat and they said they were just letting her go because she was pregnant and they didn’t want to deal with it. Apparently she was at risk of fatality due to not being able to carry full-term. So I asked them if I were to schedule the procedures, would they pay for their cats procedures? They declined, saying they “don’t give a f about the cat”. They left her outside and I decided to pay her medical bills and take her in. She needed an indoor environment and somebody to clean her stitches daily. Well, few weeks later I let her go outside after she was healed/flea protected. Just in the backyard. Then, the neighbors come out and take her. They refuse to give her back to me despite me having her medical costs/rabies tag in my name. What can I do about this? I’m worried about her health and 411 did not help. | idsqaiz | idt2aqu | 1,656,245,322 | 1,656,252,218 | 2 | 7 | Did you ask for the cat or indicate ownership interest? If not it may still be their cat. | Report your neighbors for animal abuse | 0 | 6,896 | 3.5 |
pnswcv | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I had to quarantine because of a coworker. My employer used my accrued PTO for the time that I was out. I only get two weeks a year- and it’s gone. Do I have any recourse to get my time back, or am I just SOL? I am in the state of New York. | hcrmu6z | hcth3o3 | 1,631,583,727 | 1,631,626,726 | 49 | 70 | Does your company have fewer than 500 employees? If so, it may still be covered under the Family’s First Coronavirus Recovery Act, which (although) expired December 31, 2020 then turned into the American Rescue Plan Act of 2021. In exchange for tax credits companies could choose to continue paid sick leave. “ These employers must provide up to 80 hours of paid sick leave to full-time employees who have contracted COVID-19, who are quarantined due to COVID-19, or who have symptoms of COVID-19 for which they are seeking medical treatment. This paid sick leave also is available to employees who need to care for a family member who has contracted COVID-19 or is quarantined because of it. Finally, it is available to employees who have a child under 18 who is staying at home because their school is closed during the COVID-19 outbreak. An employer may not require a worker who is using this leave to find a replacement to handle their job.” | That's how my employer is doing it also, you have to use PTO then the New York Sick Leave can kick in. It's a shitty way to do it though. | 0 | 42,999 | 1.428571 |
pnswcv | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I had to quarantine because of a coworker. My employer used my accrued PTO for the time that I was out. I only get two weeks a year- and it’s gone. Do I have any recourse to get my time back, or am I just SOL? I am in the state of New York. | hctgdcz | hcth3o3 | 1,631,626,388 | 1,631,626,726 | 15 | 70 | Did you do any work for the company while you were at home? | That's how my employer is doing it also, you have to use PTO then the New York Sick Leave can kick in. It's a shitty way to do it though. | 0 | 338 | 4.666667 |
pnswcv | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I had to quarantine because of a coworker. My employer used my accrued PTO for the time that I was out. I only get two weeks a year- and it’s gone. Do I have any recourse to get my time back, or am I just SOL? I am in the state of New York. | hcvuggo | hctgdcz | 1,631,661,990 | 1,631,626,388 | 25 | 15 | NY state has provided employers of your company’s size with SPECIFIC time of 80-81 hours to be used exclusively for quarantine/virus related absence. As long as the proper paperwork is filled out, mind you many employers will not be clear about this, NY state itself will reimburse your company for your paid time off. (EDIT: That time is also replenished after at least one use. Contact your HR as this has been abhorrently mishandled all over the state for simple ignorance or laziness on the part of already confused/newly reinstated/poorly informed HR employees) | Did you do any work for the company while you were at home? | 1 | 35,602 | 1.666667 |
pnswcv | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I had to quarantine because of a coworker. My employer used my accrued PTO for the time that I was out. I only get two weeks a year- and it’s gone. Do I have any recourse to get my time back, or am I just SOL? I am in the state of New York. | hcvsa6w | hcvuggo | 1,631,660,986 | 1,631,661,990 | 2 | 25 | Ugh, sorry. That’s pretty much the worst. | NY state has provided employers of your company’s size with SPECIFIC time of 80-81 hours to be used exclusively for quarantine/virus related absence. As long as the proper paperwork is filled out, mind you many employers will not be clear about this, NY state itself will reimburse your company for your paid time off. (EDIT: That time is also replenished after at least one use. Contact your HR as this has been abhorrently mishandled all over the state for simple ignorance or laziness on the part of already confused/newly reinstated/poorly informed HR employees) | 0 | 1,004 | 12.5 |
5s65m2 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | MO - Used car dealer took my money and sold me a car. He then called me a day later and time me the car was sold illegally and made me give it back. He won't give a refund or offer exchange. Bought a car from a used dealer who I drive by daily for the last decade now. I put $1,000 down plus the first payment (total of $1,230) for a 2015. I drove it home and the next day he calls and says that they made an error and my credit didn't qualify and I need to bring the car back. I took my father's advice to avoid a sticky legal situation and in the extreme possibilty of getting a repo on my credit, I returned the car. Dealer is saying I am not entitle to a single penny of my money back and I am not eligible to seek another car through them. I left the lot empty handed because the dealer threatened to have police escort me out because I began yelling and crying. (I saved up for months for that money, I am very pissed off.) Do I just call 911 or take them to small claims court. Am I truly not entitled to my money back? | ddcq01b | ddcp8zr | 1,486,281,411 | 1,486,279,395 | 80 | 49 | If it happened the way you described not only would I sue him, but I would write a nice letter to your state's AG office, I'm sure they would be interested if this is some kind of scam operation. | You should be entitled to your down payment back, but you need to read what you signed and see what it says. Ultimately, barring a violation of law, that is what is going to control here. | 1 | 2,016 | 1.632653 |
5s65m2 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | MO - Used car dealer took my money and sold me a car. He then called me a day later and time me the car was sold illegally and made me give it back. He won't give a refund or offer exchange. Bought a car from a used dealer who I drive by daily for the last decade now. I put $1,000 down plus the first payment (total of $1,230) for a 2015. I drove it home and the next day he calls and says that they made an error and my credit didn't qualify and I need to bring the car back. I took my father's advice to avoid a sticky legal situation and in the extreme possibilty of getting a repo on my credit, I returned the car. Dealer is saying I am not entitle to a single penny of my money back and I am not eligible to seek another car through them. I left the lot empty handed because the dealer threatened to have police escort me out because I began yelling and crying. (I saved up for months for that money, I am very pissed off.) Do I just call 911 or take them to small claims court. Am I truly not entitled to my money back? | ddcvdkz | ddcsqkh | 1,486,299,008 | 1,486,290,090 | 44 | 19 | You've been scammed. Police time | I am licensed in California, not MO, so no comment on the law pertaining to your situation, but it wouldn't hurt to file a report with the Missouri Office of Consumer Protection along with whatever else you might do. It's not a long process and they can determine if this is a scam or if it's a deceptive and/or unfair trade practice. | 1 | 8,918 | 2.315789 |
5s65m2 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | MO - Used car dealer took my money and sold me a car. He then called me a day later and time me the car was sold illegally and made me give it back. He won't give a refund or offer exchange. Bought a car from a used dealer who I drive by daily for the last decade now. I put $1,000 down plus the first payment (total of $1,230) for a 2015. I drove it home and the next day he calls and says that they made an error and my credit didn't qualify and I need to bring the car back. I took my father's advice to avoid a sticky legal situation and in the extreme possibilty of getting a repo on my credit, I returned the car. Dealer is saying I am not entitle to a single penny of my money back and I am not eligible to seek another car through them. I left the lot empty handed because the dealer threatened to have police escort me out because I began yelling and crying. (I saved up for months for that money, I am very pissed off.) Do I just call 911 or take them to small claims court. Am I truly not entitled to my money back? | ddcykhu | ddd3jc7 | 1,486,306,358 | 1,486,314,180 | 3 | 10 | Read the papers you signed first before doing anything. If there is nothing in the contract about paying fees or losing deposit then call a lawyer and have at it. If the paperwork does say that then you will have a much harder time since that is what you agreed to | "Do I just call 911 or take them to small claims court." No one's life is endanger, so no do NOT call 911. You most certainly can and should pursue this in civil (small claims) court. Also report it to the Attorney General's office: https://www.ago.mo.gov/divisions/consumer/consumer-complaints. They may be able to help mediate a resolution. | 0 | 7,822 | 3.333333 |
2aqkxo | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | (CA)I sold a car and now the new owner is telling me that it wont start. The car was sold as is with a signed paper stating so. This is not a legal problem yet, but I feel like you guys are the best people to ask. This car was my daily driver for 5 years and it never had any big problems. We told him about all of the cars problems and that it might not even make it home, but he agreed anyways. We made him sign a paper stating that the car was being sold as is and that I was not responsible for any problems in the future. A few days after he bought the car, he contacted us telling us that the mechanic gave the car a clean bill of health. A few days after that, he contacted us again. He complained that the car would not start, but the tow truck driver flipped a fuel cutoff switch in the trunk (apparently old cop cars have those, guess I didn't explore the car enough) and he told us that it ran fine after that. Right after that call, he called us again telling us that the car wouldn't start. We reminded him that he just told us that the car ran fine less than 5 minutes ago, then he immediately hung up without a word. Do you guys thing that this guy is going to try to get his money back or something even though we have a signed paper stating that the car was being sold as is? | cixyrvv | ciy3n56 | 1,405,429,584 | 1,405,440,359 | 6 | 10 | FYI: There is usually a fuel cutoff switch in the trunk that shuts off fuel to the engine in a collision to prevent fires. You might recommend that he have it checked if he calls again. They do sometimes (rarely) malfunction. Beyond that, I'm pretty sure the worst that can happen to you is that you have to go to small claims court and show the judge that the car was sold as-is. | Walk away, stop conversations with this guy. What's done is done. Car was sold as is. Even if he does try to take you to small claims, I doubt he's got a leg to stand on. | 0 | 10,775 | 1.666667 |
stlxqy | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My ward, with no license yet, took my car without permission and got a red light ticket. CA My sixteen-year-old ward does not have a driver's license or a permit and decided to take my car out for a joyride to get coffee at 2 a.m. and got a red light ticket. I only just learned when the ticket system sent me the picture of her driving. If she is found guilty of driving with no license, what are the fines, ramifications, and how long will it be until she is able to get her license? Also, is my license in Jeopardy because she is my ward? | hx4nznf | hx4zqg5 | 1,644,983,247 | 1,644,989,518 | 10 | 22 | By "ward" do you mean you're the legal guardian? At the moment, all you have is a red light ticket in your name, is that correct? What county are you in? | For the red light violation. $490 in fines and court fees. Driving without a license can be charged as an infraction or a misdemeanor. As an infraction, fines and fees are $402. If a misdemeanor, as much as 6 months in jail and $1000, plus probation. She may not be able to get a license until she is 18. Your insurance company may or may not care if they find out. A worst possible case scenario would be if you had knowingly let her drive your car. You could face your own pens,iTunes and possible car impoundment | 0 | 6,271 | 2.2 |
zcgg7u | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Half-Sister Borrowed My Car And SOLD IT. WHAT CAN I DO?? I am going to TRY and make this short. My mother was diagnosed with cancer back in 2020 and went back to Florida to get treatment (I live in PA right now) and I gave her my car to take with her. My mother unfortunately passed away only 8 months later (October 2020). During that time, I found out that I had a half-sister in Florida and began talking to her and met up with her a few times while I was in Florida during my mothers passing. When I went back home to PA I left my car in Florida as I am disabled and had no way to bring it back at the time. Fast forward to May 2021, I've gotten to know my sister a bit, she claims she is "trapped" and unable to get a job as she has no vehicle, etc etc etc... So I decided to lend her my car since it was sitting down in FL anyways. I have textual evidence that says WORD FOR WORD that I was LENDING her the car for several months until she could GO OUT and EARN the money to buy her own car. I also have several witnesses throughout the process. After having the car for only a few months she wrecked it and claimed it was totaled and I told her that was fine as long as she was safe and that I would have someone come get it to fix it up and bring it back to me. Little did I know that at some point she got the title switched over into her name and I just found out that within the last 2 weeks she secretly sold the car. What can I do? I paid for the car, the car is extremely sentimental to me as my mother went through hell to organize me getting the car for a very good price and had it fixed up for me. She was in love with the car, it was the last car we rode in together and the last car she sat in (I come from a family of mechanics so this is extremely sentimental)... Do I have any legal options? Can I report the car as stolen? Can I take her to court for this? I want to do something, ANYTHING. I apologize for the lengthy post, thank you to anyone who takes the time out of their day to read this!!! | iywogpl | iywe7os | 1,670,181,720 | 1,670,177,845 | 512 | 363 | Not a lawyer. I would imagine that she had to sign the title which would have been in your name. When you file a police report I would include that your sister may also be guilty of identity theft if she signed the title using your name. | I’d try both police and lawyers. If you have proof and witnesses saying you never gave it to her only borrowed they she effectively stole it. But I’m neither a policeman or lawyer, try both and see what’s what. | 1 | 3,875 | 1.410468 |
zcgg7u | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Half-Sister Borrowed My Car And SOLD IT. WHAT CAN I DO?? I am going to TRY and make this short. My mother was diagnosed with cancer back in 2020 and went back to Florida to get treatment (I live in PA right now) and I gave her my car to take with her. My mother unfortunately passed away only 8 months later (October 2020). During that time, I found out that I had a half-sister in Florida and began talking to her and met up with her a few times while I was in Florida during my mothers passing. When I went back home to PA I left my car in Florida as I am disabled and had no way to bring it back at the time. Fast forward to May 2021, I've gotten to know my sister a bit, she claims she is "trapped" and unable to get a job as she has no vehicle, etc etc etc... So I decided to lend her my car since it was sitting down in FL anyways. I have textual evidence that says WORD FOR WORD that I was LENDING her the car for several months until she could GO OUT and EARN the money to buy her own car. I also have several witnesses throughout the process. After having the car for only a few months she wrecked it and claimed it was totaled and I told her that was fine as long as she was safe and that I would have someone come get it to fix it up and bring it back to me. Little did I know that at some point she got the title switched over into her name and I just found out that within the last 2 weeks she secretly sold the car. What can I do? I paid for the car, the car is extremely sentimental to me as my mother went through hell to organize me getting the car for a very good price and had it fixed up for me. She was in love with the car, it was the last car we rode in together and the last car she sat in (I come from a family of mechanics so this is extremely sentimental)... Do I have any legal options? Can I report the car as stolen? Can I take her to court for this? I want to do something, ANYTHING. I apologize for the lengthy post, thank you to anyone who takes the time out of their day to read this!!! | iyx79yw | iywr6q1 | 1,670,188,818 | 1,670,182,756 | 122 | 71 | >she wrecked it and claimed it was totaled When your car was being operated exclusively in Florida for two years by your mother, and later your half-sister, did you inform your insurer of where it was, and who was the primary operator ? Did you ever interact with your insurer, or anyone else's insurer, after that collision ? Do you have any evidence of the collision like a police report or photographs ? >at some point she got the title switched over into her name Was the title ever in your mother's name, or would your half-sister have needed to forge a signature or even have a forged ID document ? It's my understanding that Florida requires the seller of an out-of-state vehicle to get a VIN and Odometer examination statement notarized, even though they don't require notarization for the ordinary bill of sale and release of interest section on the title. >extremely sentimental If you sue your half-sister for the value of the car, the court very probably won't allow you to price in sentiment, but rather only the actual cash value and the value of depreciated improvements. | Not a lawyer I would contact the police first & get a report. Then I’d also contact the dmv to tell them about the title fraud and see what do you need to do from there. | 1 | 6,062 | 1.71831 |
zcgg7u | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Half-Sister Borrowed My Car And SOLD IT. WHAT CAN I DO?? I am going to TRY and make this short. My mother was diagnosed with cancer back in 2020 and went back to Florida to get treatment (I live in PA right now) and I gave her my car to take with her. My mother unfortunately passed away only 8 months later (October 2020). During that time, I found out that I had a half-sister in Florida and began talking to her and met up with her a few times while I was in Florida during my mothers passing. When I went back home to PA I left my car in Florida as I am disabled and had no way to bring it back at the time. Fast forward to May 2021, I've gotten to know my sister a bit, she claims she is "trapped" and unable to get a job as she has no vehicle, etc etc etc... So I decided to lend her my car since it was sitting down in FL anyways. I have textual evidence that says WORD FOR WORD that I was LENDING her the car for several months until she could GO OUT and EARN the money to buy her own car. I also have several witnesses throughout the process. After having the car for only a few months she wrecked it and claimed it was totaled and I told her that was fine as long as she was safe and that I would have someone come get it to fix it up and bring it back to me. Little did I know that at some point she got the title switched over into her name and I just found out that within the last 2 weeks she secretly sold the car. What can I do? I paid for the car, the car is extremely sentimental to me as my mother went through hell to organize me getting the car for a very good price and had it fixed up for me. She was in love with the car, it was the last car we rode in together and the last car she sat in (I come from a family of mechanics so this is extremely sentimental)... Do I have any legal options? Can I report the car as stolen? Can I take her to court for this? I want to do something, ANYTHING. I apologize for the lengthy post, thank you to anyone who takes the time out of their day to read this!!! | iyx3wls | iyx79yw | 1,670,187,525 | 1,670,188,818 | 31 | 122 | Not a lawyer. To directly answer your question: >Do I have any legal options? Yes, several. Mostly they involve talking to an attorney you hire to represent your interests. >Can I report the car as stolen? You can call the police in the place it was stolen from, and they may allow you to file a report for vehicle theft and/or other reportable crimes like identity theft, fraud, or forgery. They may try to punt this and say it's a civil matter which it largely is, but there's a pretty clear criminal element to this as well, see below. >Can I take her to court for this? You can certainly attempt to sue her yourself in small claims depending on the value of the vehicle - Looks like Florida's small claims limit is $8,000. More than that and you'd really want a lawyer to represent you and their bills would possibly go beyond the value of the vehicle... your call, but talk to a lawyer to get an idea of the costs. The real question is: What do you want to happen? How does this resolve in your mind? Filing a police report for the theft and title fraud could result in her being charged with one or more criminal violations. You can let the prosecutors know you don't want that, but you're really not the one who makes the final decision, and if the state decides there's enough evidence they may not defer to your wishes. If you want to sue her, you'll face an uphill battle because it sounds like this was a move of desperation by someone who doesn't have any real resources. So you win a judgement, but that's just a piece of paper - will you be able to collect any money awarded? Probably no, at least not without additional time in court and a lot of effort. If the car was totaled, who did the insurance pay? Was she carrying insurance? Were you? Even if you let someone borrow your car on the condition they pay for insurance you still be the insured party with a named primary driver. If the vehicle was not insured and was in your name you may want to consult with an attorney before a party comes forward to sue you once they find you. | >she wrecked it and claimed it was totaled When your car was being operated exclusively in Florida for two years by your mother, and later your half-sister, did you inform your insurer of where it was, and who was the primary operator ? Did you ever interact with your insurer, or anyone else's insurer, after that collision ? Do you have any evidence of the collision like a police report or photographs ? >at some point she got the title switched over into her name Was the title ever in your mother's name, or would your half-sister have needed to forge a signature or even have a forged ID document ? It's my understanding that Florida requires the seller of an out-of-state vehicle to get a VIN and Odometer examination statement notarized, even though they don't require notarization for the ordinary bill of sale and release of interest section on the title. >extremely sentimental If you sue your half-sister for the value of the car, the court very probably won't allow you to price in sentiment, but rather only the actual cash value and the value of depreciated improvements. | 0 | 1,293 | 3.935484 |
zcgg7u | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Half-Sister Borrowed My Car And SOLD IT. WHAT CAN I DO?? I am going to TRY and make this short. My mother was diagnosed with cancer back in 2020 and went back to Florida to get treatment (I live in PA right now) and I gave her my car to take with her. My mother unfortunately passed away only 8 months later (October 2020). During that time, I found out that I had a half-sister in Florida and began talking to her and met up with her a few times while I was in Florida during my mothers passing. When I went back home to PA I left my car in Florida as I am disabled and had no way to bring it back at the time. Fast forward to May 2021, I've gotten to know my sister a bit, she claims she is "trapped" and unable to get a job as she has no vehicle, etc etc etc... So I decided to lend her my car since it was sitting down in FL anyways. I have textual evidence that says WORD FOR WORD that I was LENDING her the car for several months until she could GO OUT and EARN the money to buy her own car. I also have several witnesses throughout the process. After having the car for only a few months she wrecked it and claimed it was totaled and I told her that was fine as long as she was safe and that I would have someone come get it to fix it up and bring it back to me. Little did I know that at some point she got the title switched over into her name and I just found out that within the last 2 weeks she secretly sold the car. What can I do? I paid for the car, the car is extremely sentimental to me as my mother went through hell to organize me getting the car for a very good price and had it fixed up for me. She was in love with the car, it was the last car we rode in together and the last car she sat in (I come from a family of mechanics so this is extremely sentimental)... Do I have any legal options? Can I report the car as stolen? Can I take her to court for this? I want to do something, ANYTHING. I apologize for the lengthy post, thank you to anyone who takes the time out of their day to read this!!! | iyy3sb3 | iyx3wls | 1,670,202,745 | 1,670,187,525 | 43 | 31 | Not a lawyer First question: How did she get the title switched over? And you should go to a lawyer and discuss such and then if the lawyer agrees you have a case, file a police report of a stolen vehicle. | Not a lawyer. To directly answer your question: >Do I have any legal options? Yes, several. Mostly they involve talking to an attorney you hire to represent your interests. >Can I report the car as stolen? You can call the police in the place it was stolen from, and they may allow you to file a report for vehicle theft and/or other reportable crimes like identity theft, fraud, or forgery. They may try to punt this and say it's a civil matter which it largely is, but there's a pretty clear criminal element to this as well, see below. >Can I take her to court for this? You can certainly attempt to sue her yourself in small claims depending on the value of the vehicle - Looks like Florida's small claims limit is $8,000. More than that and you'd really want a lawyer to represent you and their bills would possibly go beyond the value of the vehicle... your call, but talk to a lawyer to get an idea of the costs. The real question is: What do you want to happen? How does this resolve in your mind? Filing a police report for the theft and title fraud could result in her being charged with one or more criminal violations. You can let the prosecutors know you don't want that, but you're really not the one who makes the final decision, and if the state decides there's enough evidence they may not defer to your wishes. If you want to sue her, you'll face an uphill battle because it sounds like this was a move of desperation by someone who doesn't have any real resources. So you win a judgement, but that's just a piece of paper - will you be able to collect any money awarded? Probably no, at least not without additional time in court and a lot of effort. If the car was totaled, who did the insurance pay? Was she carrying insurance? Were you? Even if you let someone borrow your car on the condition they pay for insurance you still be the insured party with a named primary driver. If the vehicle was not insured and was in your name you may want to consult with an attorney before a party comes forward to sue you once they find you. | 1 | 15,220 | 1.387097 |
oa1sd3 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Animal control took the body of my deceased cat for post mortem rabies tests. They have now sent me a bill for these tests. Am I liable to pay for them? Sadly last month my cat died from sudden liver failure. This in itself was already a lot for me, but during her first visit to a new vet she bit a vet tech. Since they had taken her in an emergency situation, they had not yet had her rabies vaccine records in there files, so they reported it to animal control as a non-vaccinated cat biting someone. After about a week my cat is too far gone from her liver failure and we are forced to put her in the big sleep. We paid and arrange to have her cremated after and go home. The next morning I'm getting a call from the vet, telling me that animal control had come and taken her body from them, to do rabies tests. At this point I'm so emotionally broken from losing my baby I just don't care. "as long as I get her ashes in the end I'll be ok" I say. Another week goes by and I get a call from animal control telling me that the rabies tests came back negative (obviously) and that they will be returning her body to the vet to be finally cremated and returned to me. It took my cat well over a week and a half to go from dead to ashes because of all the tests they were doing to her. I can live and forget all this though, I understand protocol. However today I open my mail to find a letter from the Police Department asking me to reimburse them for the rabies tests. Do I really have to pay for this? She was a totally vaccinated cat, with all the paperwork backing that up. I live in California. Tdlr. Cat bit someone while at the vet during her final week alive. Animal control took her body to do rabies tests even though I have her vaccination records. They are now trying to get me to pay the bill for those tests on my dead cat. | h3hiy17 | h3hf85b | 1,625,001,665 | 1,625,000,056 | 7 | 3 | While it's fairly offensive that you're being sent a bill, I suspect there is some legislation, by law or state, that says you're liable. You could try calling and ask what happens if you don't pay and maybe they tell you nothing it maybe they tell you they send it to collections | No vaccine is 100% efficacious. However, rabies is almost 100% fatal. Therefore, if an animal cannot be verified as being rabies free 10 days later (i.e., still alive), then the remains need to be tested ASAP prior to beginning rabies vaccines on the bite victim. | 1 | 1,609 | 2.333333 |
9nmrj2 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Hospital sent me home with undiagnosed appendicitis [MO] 3 weeks ago I had extreme side pain that eventually sent me to the emergency room. I was told I was pregnant after doing a urine test (15 weeks at that time), so the doctor refused to do a CT scan. They took several blood samples and sent me for an ultrasound. The ultrasound tech showed me the baby, told me how far along I was, but did not see anything on my right side to diagnose me. After being there long enough for my blood work to come back, the doctor came in to tell me my labs were normal, and my side pain was from the baby kicking. I informed him I have a one year old son and know what kicking feels like. He gave me a recommendation for an OBGYN and discharge papers. 4-5 hours later my pain was only getting worse, so my boyfriend again drove me to the ER - a different one this time for obvious reasons. They got my lab work and ultrasound sent from the other hospital, sent me for a CT scan (it is considered safe for pregnant women once you’re past the first trimester) and diagnosed me with appendicitis shortly after. The doctor treating me said it was obvious from my high white blood cell count (from the labs sent from the first hospital) I was fighting an infection, and the ultrasound showed something swollen and surrounded by fluid on my side. The first hospital sent me a $1,500+ bill. I’m wondering if there’s a legal way to get out of paying this. I talked to my insurance company, but they weren’t helpful. Is it considered a malpractice to be sent home when I and/or my unborn child could’ve been harmed had my appendix ruptured? Does it matter that I was later diagnosed and treated? Im wondering if I even have a leg to stand on legally when I go in to talk to the billing department. Thanks in advance! | e7nf64t | e7nfjdm | 1,539,368,741 | 1,539,369,044 | 2 | 39 | Malpractice of any kind is very fact specific and it is unfortunately beyond the scope of this subreddit. If this is a medical question, it is highly recommended to speak with a medical malpractice attorney; your state's bar may be able to refer you to one. They typically work on contingency, meaning there is little up front cost to you. Similarly, consultations are typically free. It wouldn't hurt to meet with one, have them look over your info, and go from there. If this is a question about legal malpractice, you should seek the advice of a second unrelated attorney and/or report the matter to your state bar association" *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.* | Malpractice requires harm resulting from the error. That didn't happen here. You can explain the missed diagnosis and resulting treatment to see if the hospital will waive or reduce the bill, but you are probably facing an uphill battle. | 0 | 303 | 19.5 |
ytppuc | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Town randomly planted a tree in our front lawn while we were on vacation. Where can I determine what gave them that right? Obviously i'm going to be following up with my town on Monday, but trying to gather as much info as I can first. I'm not even sure who I should contact in the town. Fortunately we are a small enough town that i can reach out directly to the mayor if need be, but i'd like to make sure i'm in the right here of being miffed about this before coming off as a Karen. While we were away on vacation this week, the town planted a tree in our front yard. By front yard, i mean our actual front yard, ~6 feet or so from the curb (not in the strip between the curb and sidewalk), but on our home's side of the sidewalk. It wasn't something we requested, or were notified of in advance. Now, i'm all for trees, but the place they decided to stick it is the absolute worst place, for about a half dozen reasons (the type of tree and eventual size is going to eventually heave our sidewalk, its under our electric connection, its the bare minimum distance from our gas\water\sewer lines, its damn close to an existing mature, healthy, full tree, will be in heavy shade, and if it matures, will more than likely cross our and our neighbors property line. I would have been fine with it in other spaces if given some input, but our property has no lack of mature, healthy trees on it and it is already hard enough to keep a healthy lawn with the existing shade. Not to mention we have been struggling with lawn health in the area, and i just dropped a few hundred bucks and a lot of hard work this summer doing soil repair, reseeding, and establishing healthy grass that they ripped up. I can find nothing in our town ordinances regarding the town having rights to pop a tree on that portion of my property. Likewise i haven't been able to find anything at the state\county level. A survey we had done a few years ago does not indicate the space falling within an easement (however it does show other easements). | iw6s5s3 | iw6udsl | 1,668,339,753 | 1,668,341,433 | 113 | 252 | I'd research where the city's easement ends in your yard. My town was 10ft from the curb for 6ft grass strip and 4ft of sidewalk. | You’ve confirmed it’s the town that did this, and not some private contractor with an order to install a tree that went to the wrong address? | 0 | 1,680 | 2.230088 |
ytppuc | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Town randomly planted a tree in our front lawn while we were on vacation. Where can I determine what gave them that right? Obviously i'm going to be following up with my town on Monday, but trying to gather as much info as I can first. I'm not even sure who I should contact in the town. Fortunately we are a small enough town that i can reach out directly to the mayor if need be, but i'd like to make sure i'm in the right here of being miffed about this before coming off as a Karen. While we were away on vacation this week, the town planted a tree in our front yard. By front yard, i mean our actual front yard, ~6 feet or so from the curb (not in the strip between the curb and sidewalk), but on our home's side of the sidewalk. It wasn't something we requested, or were notified of in advance. Now, i'm all for trees, but the place they decided to stick it is the absolute worst place, for about a half dozen reasons (the type of tree and eventual size is going to eventually heave our sidewalk, its under our electric connection, its the bare minimum distance from our gas\water\sewer lines, its damn close to an existing mature, healthy, full tree, will be in heavy shade, and if it matures, will more than likely cross our and our neighbors property line. I would have been fine with it in other spaces if given some input, but our property has no lack of mature, healthy trees on it and it is already hard enough to keep a healthy lawn with the existing shade. Not to mention we have been struggling with lawn health in the area, and i just dropped a few hundred bucks and a lot of hard work this summer doing soil repair, reseeding, and establishing healthy grass that they ripped up. I can find nothing in our town ordinances regarding the town having rights to pop a tree on that portion of my property. Likewise i haven't been able to find anything at the state\county level. A survey we had done a few years ago does not indicate the space falling within an easement (however it does show other easements). | iw8b1nj | iw88e4c | 1,668,365,821 | 1,668,364,804 | 9 | 4 | Even if the town had a right to plant the tree, you want it documented that the town did in fact plant the tree, so if in twenty years the tree is a threat to your property, you have that paper indicating that yes, it is in fact the town's problem. Towns are not exactly good at keeping track of which trees they planted. | I think the term you are looking for is right of way, not easement. There is generally a wide right of way from the side of the road to about the middle of your front yard in small communities. You must build back a set distance from this right away, in some cases as little as 20 feet. So you may only own 20 feet from the front of your house into the yard and the rest is right of way. Hopefully you can relocate it to a better spot before it roots. | 1 | 1,017 | 2.25 |
9tyh8i | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor found out we are moving and removed all limbs from a tree in our back yard Our neighbor has a pool and has hated the trees along our property line (our side) for years because of leaves blowing into the pool. We really enjoy the trees for the filtered light and shade they provide for our patio during summer. I’ve explained that they are free to trim branches on their side as they see fit as long as they don’t damage the tree. They have done this a few times over the years but have been upset because we wouldn’t pay for it. We recently moved out of our house to allow prepping the property for sale by painting, carpet, landscaping, etc. They apparently found out and approached our realtor about taking out the trees. He declined on our behalf because of the aesthetics they provide for our backyard and patio area. This morning I showed up to check on the progress of the fixups and discovered that they absolutely butchered one of the trees, removing every single limb and leaving a 20ft trunk stub. We clearly can’t put the house up for sale with this ugly thing in the yard and will have to pay to finish the removal process for them in the next several days. Based on other interactions with them, I believe this “trimming” was malicious and not an accident. Some of the branches they cut off were definitely on our side. The trunk slightly curves probably over the property line, but regardless, I understand that they should not be able to materially harm either the health or aesthetics of the tree, both of which clearly happened. I strongly suspect they used day laborers and not an arborist to perform the work, as they have done that in the past. Tree is 12+ inches diameter at chest height. It’s an Ailanthus, which I understand is considered invasive or undesirable in some places. What recourse do we have for getting them to pay for the remainder of the removal? I don’t know if removing the tree myself would prejudice the case in some way. Does the tree species matter? We’re moving and remaining friendly with them is not a consideration. San Jose area, CA. | e902xti | e908puc | 1,541,287,075 | 1,541,292,565 | 418 | 423 | Oh boy, your dumbass neighbors are about to be in for an expensive surprise. Consult with a real estate attorney and an arborist to assess damages. | Hire an arborist ASAP. You need them to confirm if the trimming has harmed the tree. Assuming it has you need an estimate of replacement cost. That is what the neighbor owes you unless your state is one that rewards tree damage with double or triple damages. Nicely ask your neighbor who they used for the trimming since you need to do some additional trimming on the property. If your state is one party consent, tape it. If it’s two party try to have a friend or family member listening in to serve as a witness that the neighbor admitted to the cuts. With a cost and an admission, sue their ass off for the money owed. Assuming the replacement value is well above your states small claims cap, you may want to hire a lawyer to represent you. | 0 | 5,490 | 1.011962 |
9tyh8i | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor found out we are moving and removed all limbs from a tree in our back yard Our neighbor has a pool and has hated the trees along our property line (our side) for years because of leaves blowing into the pool. We really enjoy the trees for the filtered light and shade they provide for our patio during summer. I’ve explained that they are free to trim branches on their side as they see fit as long as they don’t damage the tree. They have done this a few times over the years but have been upset because we wouldn’t pay for it. We recently moved out of our house to allow prepping the property for sale by painting, carpet, landscaping, etc. They apparently found out and approached our realtor about taking out the trees. He declined on our behalf because of the aesthetics they provide for our backyard and patio area. This morning I showed up to check on the progress of the fixups and discovered that they absolutely butchered one of the trees, removing every single limb and leaving a 20ft trunk stub. We clearly can’t put the house up for sale with this ugly thing in the yard and will have to pay to finish the removal process for them in the next several days. Based on other interactions with them, I believe this “trimming” was malicious and not an accident. Some of the branches they cut off were definitely on our side. The trunk slightly curves probably over the property line, but regardless, I understand that they should not be able to materially harm either the health or aesthetics of the tree, both of which clearly happened. I strongly suspect they used day laborers and not an arborist to perform the work, as they have done that in the past. Tree is 12+ inches diameter at chest height. It’s an Ailanthus, which I understand is considered invasive or undesirable in some places. What recourse do we have for getting them to pay for the remainder of the removal? I don’t know if removing the tree myself would prejudice the case in some way. Does the tree species matter? We’re moving and remaining friendly with them is not a consideration. San Jose area, CA. | e902w4s | e908puc | 1,541,287,031 | 1,541,292,565 | 91 | 423 | Tree law is lucrative, search tree law in here and you'll find a lot of success stories. Grown trees are expensive and your neighbor fucked up majorly. Get the opinion of an arborist as to how much the tree is valued at and how much removal will cost, and sue them. Because of the high success it you may be able to find a lawyer who will take a portion of the winnings if you are unable to pay up front. | Hire an arborist ASAP. You need them to confirm if the trimming has harmed the tree. Assuming it has you need an estimate of replacement cost. That is what the neighbor owes you unless your state is one that rewards tree damage with double or triple damages. Nicely ask your neighbor who they used for the trimming since you need to do some additional trimming on the property. If your state is one party consent, tape it. If it’s two party try to have a friend or family member listening in to serve as a witness that the neighbor admitted to the cuts. With a cost and an admission, sue their ass off for the money owed. Assuming the replacement value is well above your states small claims cap, you may want to hire a lawyer to represent you. | 0 | 5,534 | 4.648352 |
9tyh8i | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor found out we are moving and removed all limbs from a tree in our back yard Our neighbor has a pool and has hated the trees along our property line (our side) for years because of leaves blowing into the pool. We really enjoy the trees for the filtered light and shade they provide for our patio during summer. I’ve explained that they are free to trim branches on their side as they see fit as long as they don’t damage the tree. They have done this a few times over the years but have been upset because we wouldn’t pay for it. We recently moved out of our house to allow prepping the property for sale by painting, carpet, landscaping, etc. They apparently found out and approached our realtor about taking out the trees. He declined on our behalf because of the aesthetics they provide for our backyard and patio area. This morning I showed up to check on the progress of the fixups and discovered that they absolutely butchered one of the trees, removing every single limb and leaving a 20ft trunk stub. We clearly can’t put the house up for sale with this ugly thing in the yard and will have to pay to finish the removal process for them in the next several days. Based on other interactions with them, I believe this “trimming” was malicious and not an accident. Some of the branches they cut off were definitely on our side. The trunk slightly curves probably over the property line, but regardless, I understand that they should not be able to materially harm either the health or aesthetics of the tree, both of which clearly happened. I strongly suspect they used day laborers and not an arborist to perform the work, as they have done that in the past. Tree is 12+ inches diameter at chest height. It’s an Ailanthus, which I understand is considered invasive or undesirable in some places. What recourse do we have for getting them to pay for the remainder of the removal? I don’t know if removing the tree myself would prejudice the case in some way. Does the tree species matter? We’re moving and remaining friendly with them is not a consideration. San Jose area, CA. | e902xti | e902w4s | 1,541,287,075 | 1,541,287,031 | 418 | 91 | Oh boy, your dumbass neighbors are about to be in for an expensive surprise. Consult with a real estate attorney and an arborist to assess damages. | Tree law is lucrative, search tree law in here and you'll find a lot of success stories. Grown trees are expensive and your neighbor fucked up majorly. Get the opinion of an arborist as to how much the tree is valued at and how much removal will cost, and sue them. Because of the high success it you may be able to find a lawyer who will take a portion of the winnings if you are unable to pay up front. | 1 | 44 | 4.593407 |
9tyh8i | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor found out we are moving and removed all limbs from a tree in our back yard Our neighbor has a pool and has hated the trees along our property line (our side) for years because of leaves blowing into the pool. We really enjoy the trees for the filtered light and shade they provide for our patio during summer. I’ve explained that they are free to trim branches on their side as they see fit as long as they don’t damage the tree. They have done this a few times over the years but have been upset because we wouldn’t pay for it. We recently moved out of our house to allow prepping the property for sale by painting, carpet, landscaping, etc. They apparently found out and approached our realtor about taking out the trees. He declined on our behalf because of the aesthetics they provide for our backyard and patio area. This morning I showed up to check on the progress of the fixups and discovered that they absolutely butchered one of the trees, removing every single limb and leaving a 20ft trunk stub. We clearly can’t put the house up for sale with this ugly thing in the yard and will have to pay to finish the removal process for them in the next several days. Based on other interactions with them, I believe this “trimming” was malicious and not an accident. Some of the branches they cut off were definitely on our side. The trunk slightly curves probably over the property line, but regardless, I understand that they should not be able to materially harm either the health or aesthetics of the tree, both of which clearly happened. I strongly suspect they used day laborers and not an arborist to perform the work, as they have done that in the past. Tree is 12+ inches diameter at chest height. It’s an Ailanthus, which I understand is considered invasive or undesirable in some places. What recourse do we have for getting them to pay for the remainder of the removal? I don’t know if removing the tree myself would prejudice the case in some way. Does the tree species matter? We’re moving and remaining friendly with them is not a consideration. San Jose area, CA. | e902w4s | e90bm26 | 1,541,287,031 | 1,541,295,251 | 91 | 188 | Tree law is lucrative, search tree law in here and you'll find a lot of success stories. Grown trees are expensive and your neighbor fucked up majorly. Get the opinion of an arborist as to how much the tree is valued at and how much removal will cost, and sue them. Because of the high success it you may be able to find a lawyer who will take a portion of the winnings if you are unable to pay up front. | In addition to the cost/loss of the tree, you should also consider the damage to the overall street appeal of your property. You real estate agent can help here. You will need to determine the price vs what you may have been able to receive with the tree. You will need pictures of what the backyard looked like with the tree vs what it looks like now. | 0 | 8,220 | 2.065934 |
9tyh8i | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor found out we are moving and removed all limbs from a tree in our back yard Our neighbor has a pool and has hated the trees along our property line (our side) for years because of leaves blowing into the pool. We really enjoy the trees for the filtered light and shade they provide for our patio during summer. I’ve explained that they are free to trim branches on their side as they see fit as long as they don’t damage the tree. They have done this a few times over the years but have been upset because we wouldn’t pay for it. We recently moved out of our house to allow prepping the property for sale by painting, carpet, landscaping, etc. They apparently found out and approached our realtor about taking out the trees. He declined on our behalf because of the aesthetics they provide for our backyard and patio area. This morning I showed up to check on the progress of the fixups and discovered that they absolutely butchered one of the trees, removing every single limb and leaving a 20ft trunk stub. We clearly can’t put the house up for sale with this ugly thing in the yard and will have to pay to finish the removal process for them in the next several days. Based on other interactions with them, I believe this “trimming” was malicious and not an accident. Some of the branches they cut off were definitely on our side. The trunk slightly curves probably over the property line, but regardless, I understand that they should not be able to materially harm either the health or aesthetics of the tree, both of which clearly happened. I strongly suspect they used day laborers and not an arborist to perform the work, as they have done that in the past. Tree is 12+ inches diameter at chest height. It’s an Ailanthus, which I understand is considered invasive or undesirable in some places. What recourse do we have for getting them to pay for the remainder of the removal? I don’t know if removing the tree myself would prejudice the case in some way. Does the tree species matter? We’re moving and remaining friendly with them is not a consideration. San Jose area, CA. | e90e39e | e90qtfe | 1,541,297,623 | 1,541,313,113 | 22 | 41 | I’m sorry your neighbor cut down your trees. But just an FYI the type of species of tree you had is an invasive species. It will take over everything, and are extremely hardy and fast growing. I highly doubt any arborist will say that the trees are/ where worth anything. The arborist I had come out for a different tree, offered to cut one I had on my property down for free. | I am also in San Jose. It is illegal here to "top" a tree, and the fines for doing so are extreme. Topping is the removal of the branches while leaving the trunk, often done to create a different shape. The problem is, form then on all branches that regrow are weak and prone to break and fall in storms and such. It is not healthy for the tree, so, illegal. Look into reporting him for this, tresspass, and destruction of property. He should be liable for the removal of the rest of the tree if my research when a neighbor was threatening to do this to me still holds true. Edit: adding link http://www.sanjoseca.gov/DocumentCenter/View/8968 for all tree related san jose rules, section 3 has the private property info, see improper pruning | 0 | 15,490 | 1.863636 |
9tyh8i | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor found out we are moving and removed all limbs from a tree in our back yard Our neighbor has a pool and has hated the trees along our property line (our side) for years because of leaves blowing into the pool. We really enjoy the trees for the filtered light and shade they provide for our patio during summer. I’ve explained that they are free to trim branches on their side as they see fit as long as they don’t damage the tree. They have done this a few times over the years but have been upset because we wouldn’t pay for it. We recently moved out of our house to allow prepping the property for sale by painting, carpet, landscaping, etc. They apparently found out and approached our realtor about taking out the trees. He declined on our behalf because of the aesthetics they provide for our backyard and patio area. This morning I showed up to check on the progress of the fixups and discovered that they absolutely butchered one of the trees, removing every single limb and leaving a 20ft trunk stub. We clearly can’t put the house up for sale with this ugly thing in the yard and will have to pay to finish the removal process for them in the next several days. Based on other interactions with them, I believe this “trimming” was malicious and not an accident. Some of the branches they cut off were definitely on our side. The trunk slightly curves probably over the property line, but regardless, I understand that they should not be able to materially harm either the health or aesthetics of the tree, both of which clearly happened. I strongly suspect they used day laborers and not an arborist to perform the work, as they have done that in the past. Tree is 12+ inches diameter at chest height. It’s an Ailanthus, which I understand is considered invasive or undesirable in some places. What recourse do we have for getting them to pay for the remainder of the removal? I don’t know if removing the tree myself would prejudice the case in some way. Does the tree species matter? We’re moving and remaining friendly with them is not a consideration. San Jose area, CA. | e90qtfe | e90qoau | 1,541,313,113 | 1,541,312,848 | 41 | 4 | I am also in San Jose. It is illegal here to "top" a tree, and the fines for doing so are extreme. Topping is the removal of the branches while leaving the trunk, often done to create a different shape. The problem is, form then on all branches that regrow are weak and prone to break and fall in storms and such. It is not healthy for the tree, so, illegal. Look into reporting him for this, tresspass, and destruction of property. He should be liable for the removal of the rest of the tree if my research when a neighbor was threatening to do this to me still holds true. Edit: adding link http://www.sanjoseca.gov/DocumentCenter/View/8968 for all tree related san jose rules, section 3 has the private property info, see improper pruning | r/treelaw | 1 | 265 | 10.25 |
9tyh8i | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor found out we are moving and removed all limbs from a tree in our back yard Our neighbor has a pool and has hated the trees along our property line (our side) for years because of leaves blowing into the pool. We really enjoy the trees for the filtered light and shade they provide for our patio during summer. I’ve explained that they are free to trim branches on their side as they see fit as long as they don’t damage the tree. They have done this a few times over the years but have been upset because we wouldn’t pay for it. We recently moved out of our house to allow prepping the property for sale by painting, carpet, landscaping, etc. They apparently found out and approached our realtor about taking out the trees. He declined on our behalf because of the aesthetics they provide for our backyard and patio area. This morning I showed up to check on the progress of the fixups and discovered that they absolutely butchered one of the trees, removing every single limb and leaving a 20ft trunk stub. We clearly can’t put the house up for sale with this ugly thing in the yard and will have to pay to finish the removal process for them in the next several days. Based on other interactions with them, I believe this “trimming” was malicious and not an accident. Some of the branches they cut off were definitely on our side. The trunk slightly curves probably over the property line, but regardless, I understand that they should not be able to materially harm either the health or aesthetics of the tree, both of which clearly happened. I strongly suspect they used day laborers and not an arborist to perform the work, as they have done that in the past. Tree is 12+ inches diameter at chest height. It’s an Ailanthus, which I understand is considered invasive or undesirable in some places. What recourse do we have for getting them to pay for the remainder of the removal? I don’t know if removing the tree myself would prejudice the case in some way. Does the tree species matter? We’re moving and remaining friendly with them is not a consideration. San Jose area, CA. | e90yvjc | e90e39e | 1,541,330,716 | 1,541,297,623 | 31 | 22 | Not a lawyer, just a plant guy. Ailanthus will grow back very quickly even when topped. Typically, you can expect 10 to 15 foot of growth out of the topped tree by next fall. I have several that I pollard for asthetics, and more that I coppice (cut down to the ground) to harvest the limbs like bamboo. One thing you may have to worry about is that these trees will send up very fast growing suckers when topped or coppiced, and quickly form a dense thicket. If you get rid of it, make sure the arborist poisons it well. | I’m sorry your neighbor cut down your trees. But just an FYI the type of species of tree you had is an invasive species. It will take over everything, and are extremely hardy and fast growing. I highly doubt any arborist will say that the trees are/ where worth anything. The arborist I had come out for a different tree, offered to cut one I had on my property down for free. | 1 | 33,093 | 1.409091 |
9tyh8i | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor found out we are moving and removed all limbs from a tree in our back yard Our neighbor has a pool and has hated the trees along our property line (our side) for years because of leaves blowing into the pool. We really enjoy the trees for the filtered light and shade they provide for our patio during summer. I’ve explained that they are free to trim branches on their side as they see fit as long as they don’t damage the tree. They have done this a few times over the years but have been upset because we wouldn’t pay for it. We recently moved out of our house to allow prepping the property for sale by painting, carpet, landscaping, etc. They apparently found out and approached our realtor about taking out the trees. He declined on our behalf because of the aesthetics they provide for our backyard and patio area. This morning I showed up to check on the progress of the fixups and discovered that they absolutely butchered one of the trees, removing every single limb and leaving a 20ft trunk stub. We clearly can’t put the house up for sale with this ugly thing in the yard and will have to pay to finish the removal process for them in the next several days. Based on other interactions with them, I believe this “trimming” was malicious and not an accident. Some of the branches they cut off were definitely on our side. The trunk slightly curves probably over the property line, but regardless, I understand that they should not be able to materially harm either the health or aesthetics of the tree, both of which clearly happened. I strongly suspect they used day laborers and not an arborist to perform the work, as they have done that in the past. Tree is 12+ inches diameter at chest height. It’s an Ailanthus, which I understand is considered invasive or undesirable in some places. What recourse do we have for getting them to pay for the remainder of the removal? I don’t know if removing the tree myself would prejudice the case in some way. Does the tree species matter? We’re moving and remaining friendly with them is not a consideration. San Jose area, CA. | e90qoau | e90yvjc | 1,541,312,848 | 1,541,330,716 | 4 | 31 | r/treelaw | Not a lawyer, just a plant guy. Ailanthus will grow back very quickly even when topped. Typically, you can expect 10 to 15 foot of growth out of the topped tree by next fall. I have several that I pollard for asthetics, and more that I coppice (cut down to the ground) to harvest the limbs like bamboo. One thing you may have to worry about is that these trees will send up very fast growing suckers when topped or coppiced, and quickly form a dense thicket. If you get rid of it, make sure the arborist poisons it well. | 0 | 17,868 | 7.75 |
da8f8v | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [US-WA] My landlord sent me an email saying all items other than plants and furniture must be removed from my patio or I will be charged $25 dollars per month. This was not in the lease and I did not agree to any new charges. Can they legally charge this fee? Washington state, the bot aparently cannot understand I posted it in the title. | f1nvom3 | f1nvlvk | 1,569,627,633 | 1,569,627,576 | 18 | 2 | What are you keeping on your patio besides furniture and plants? | ---
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da8f8v | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [US-WA] My landlord sent me an email saying all items other than plants and furniture must be removed from my patio or I will be charged $25 dollars per month. This was not in the lease and I did not agree to any new charges. Can they legally charge this fee? Washington state, the bot aparently cannot understand I posted it in the title. | f1nvw5b | f1o0l7c | 1,569,627,792 | 1,569,631,419 | 4 | 10 | I'm guessing you're in a HOA ( knowingly or not ) and they are on his ass about it so now he's on yours | If the notice went out to everyone then I would suspect they won't fine you for a watering can. You could ask to make sure. I'm in Washington and my property management place sends out these notices every few months. The notices are about how they're going to inspect our balcony but then they never show up. I suspect what prompts these notices are the people who are blatantly storing things on their balcony. Overall I think it's about appearances. | 0 | 3,627 | 2.5 |
da8f8v | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [US-WA] My landlord sent me an email saying all items other than plants and furniture must be removed from my patio or I will be charged $25 dollars per month. This was not in the lease and I did not agree to any new charges. Can they legally charge this fee? Washington state, the bot aparently cannot understand I posted it in the title. | f1o0l7c | f1nvlvk | 1,569,631,419 | 1,569,627,576 | 10 | 2 | If the notice went out to everyone then I would suspect they won't fine you for a watering can. You could ask to make sure. I'm in Washington and my property management place sends out these notices every few months. The notices are about how they're going to inspect our balcony but then they never show up. I suspect what prompts these notices are the people who are blatantly storing things on their balcony. Overall I think it's about appearances. | ---
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da8f8v | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [US-WA] My landlord sent me an email saying all items other than plants and furniture must be removed from my patio or I will be charged $25 dollars per month. This was not in the lease and I did not agree to any new charges. Can they legally charge this fee? Washington state, the bot aparently cannot understand I posted it in the title. | f1nzkoq | f1o0l7c | 1,569,630,640 | 1,569,631,419 | 2 | 10 | If it´s not in the lease, ignore him. | If the notice went out to everyone then I would suspect they won't fine you for a watering can. You could ask to make sure. I'm in Washington and my property management place sends out these notices every few months. The notices are about how they're going to inspect our balcony but then they never show up. I suspect what prompts these notices are the people who are blatantly storing things on their balcony. Overall I think it's about appearances. | 0 | 779 | 5 |
da8f8v | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [US-WA] My landlord sent me an email saying all items other than plants and furniture must be removed from my patio or I will be charged $25 dollars per month. This was not in the lease and I did not agree to any new charges. Can they legally charge this fee? Washington state, the bot aparently cannot understand I posted it in the title. | f1o373y | f1nvw5b | 1,569,633,428 | 1,569,627,792 | 5 | 4 | Did the notice come directly address for you/your unit, or was it a generalized notice they handed out to every unit? I've lived in apartment complexes that would send out a mass notice similar to that one because a lot of residents had 4/5 bicycles, 10/20 garbage bags/totes, etc. That had been out there for months. Management sent out the notices to get people to move that stuff, they never bothered with anything that looked at least somewhat orderly, or anything very temporary. You could always go in to the office or call to ask directly. I'm willing to bet they would ultimately consider something like a watering can a non issue, provided the watering can is not an industrial sized oil drum filled with water or something crazy. | I'm guessing you're in a HOA ( knowingly or not ) and they are on his ass about it so now he's on yours | 1 | 5,636 | 1.25 |
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xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipcgkxq | ipch0t3 | 1,663,775,859 | 1,663,776,023 | 2 | 416 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | You can raise your friend's rent or terminate her tenancy in your home more or less as you see fit. You'll need to give a minimum of 30 days' written notice in either case. If you can't work out a compromise you're happy with, then those options backstop the situation. There is no obvious basis for a lawsuit at this point. | 0 | 164 | 208 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipcgkxq | ipchjqs | 1,663,775,859 | 1,663,776,222 | 2 | 251 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | I would consider a written month-to-month lease agreement that stipulates how many days your roommate can have overnight guests per month. If she doesn't want to sign, you can give her a 30-day notice to vacate. If she doesn't move out after that, you can file for eviction. If she does sign and she violates the guest stipulation, you can give her a notice to quit for violation of the lease agreement. | 0 | 363 | 125.5 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipcgkxq | ipcogkm | 1,663,775,859 | 1,663,778,786 | 2 | 134 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Time to introduce a legit lease for this roommate, with stipulations that you want followed, she can either accept it or you can serve her with a notice to vacate within 30 days. I personally would just have her removed the proper way and find a new roommate with a legit lease this time. You need to start protecting yourself legally if you want to play landlord. Or you will find yourself in these situations quite often. | 0 | 2,927 | 67 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipd27ic | ipcrd5r | 1,663,783,908 | 1,663,779,859 | 38 | 7 | You have two options. With no formal lease the tenant has defaulted to a month to month tenant. You tell your roommate that you will not be renewing her lease under the current conditions and invoke your 30 days notice. You then either make her sign a lease (please don’t use a cheap/free one online but go and get an actual one done) that has something about guests and how long they are allowed to stay in a row and without breaks. Then if she then violates this lease your default and evict her. Option two is you give her the 30 days notice and vacate her and just live by yourself or find another roommate (with a lease that I mentioned above). Some help below as you are a little far from the two states I’m licensed in. https://www.gardilaw.com/eviction-basics-landlords-part-iii-30-day-eviction-notice-in-illinois/ https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/illinois-notice-requirements-terminate-month-month-tenancy.html | Create a lease she has to sign, start eviction proceedings, or do nothing and let it continue. | 1 | 4,049 | 5.428571 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipd27ic | ipcgkxq | 1,663,783,908 | 1,663,775,859 | 38 | 2 | You have two options. With no formal lease the tenant has defaulted to a month to month tenant. You tell your roommate that you will not be renewing her lease under the current conditions and invoke your 30 days notice. You then either make her sign a lease (please don’t use a cheap/free one online but go and get an actual one done) that has something about guests and how long they are allowed to stay in a row and without breaks. Then if she then violates this lease your default and evict her. Option two is you give her the 30 days notice and vacate her and just live by yourself or find another roommate (with a lease that I mentioned above). Some help below as you are a little far from the two states I’m licensed in. https://www.gardilaw.com/eviction-basics-landlords-part-iii-30-day-eviction-notice-in-illinois/ https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/illinois-notice-requirements-terminate-month-month-tenancy.html | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 8,049 | 19 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipdwymc | ipdgksc | 1,663,795,603 | 1,663,789,264 | 30 | 23 | If your two closest friends can't see that they're putting you in a bind then they probably aren't seeing you as a close friend and instead just someone to take advantage of. If you're not trying to go full on lawsuit mode then just lay it out in numbers to both of them. Show how much more money you are spending for utilities and other essentials from before the bf started crashing there to now. If they aren't willing to reasonably compromise by either paying more of a fair share or limiting his time there then draw up a formal lease agreement. After that it's up to your roommate to decide how to proceed. Either she signs it and agrees to the terms you set or you can have them move out. I hope it goes over smoothly and rationally for you because you are a saint for putting up with that at all. Best of Luck. | It might be helpful to show her the utility bills before and after. And ask for 2/3 of the rent presented in a lease for her to sign. Friends who hurt you financially are friends best kept at a distance. Even if he is the mooch she is not protecting you | 1 | 6,339 | 1.304348 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipdave8 | ipdwymc | 1,663,787,109 | 1,663,795,603 | 8 | 30 | Your friend is a roommate with a guest staying there. It is unlikely she is covered under formal lease if you are sharing living space with her. As others pointed out, give her a 30 day notice, stating that cost of utilities and basic services went up with her boyfriend pseudo moving in. State that no hard feelings but it is not affordable for you to sustain the increase. It is not something to sue over, however. | If your two closest friends can't see that they're putting you in a bind then they probably aren't seeing you as a close friend and instead just someone to take advantage of. If you're not trying to go full on lawsuit mode then just lay it out in numbers to both of them. Show how much more money you are spending for utilities and other essentials from before the bf started crashing there to now. If they aren't willing to reasonably compromise by either paying more of a fair share or limiting his time there then draw up a formal lease agreement. After that it's up to your roommate to decide how to proceed. Either she signs it and agrees to the terms you set or you can have them move out. I hope it goes over smoothly and rationally for you because you are a saint for putting up with that at all. Best of Luck. | 0 | 8,494 | 3.75 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipcrd5r | ipdwymc | 1,663,779,859 | 1,663,795,603 | 7 | 30 | Create a lease she has to sign, start eviction proceedings, or do nothing and let it continue. | If your two closest friends can't see that they're putting you in a bind then they probably aren't seeing you as a close friend and instead just someone to take advantage of. If you're not trying to go full on lawsuit mode then just lay it out in numbers to both of them. Show how much more money you are spending for utilities and other essentials from before the bf started crashing there to now. If they aren't willing to reasonably compromise by either paying more of a fair share or limiting his time there then draw up a formal lease agreement. After that it's up to your roommate to decide how to proceed. Either she signs it and agrees to the terms you set or you can have them move out. I hope it goes over smoothly and rationally for you because you are a saint for putting up with that at all. Best of Luck. | 0 | 15,744 | 4.285714 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipcgkxq | ipdwymc | 1,663,775,859 | 1,663,795,603 | 2 | 30 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | If your two closest friends can't see that they're putting you in a bind then they probably aren't seeing you as a close friend and instead just someone to take advantage of. If you're not trying to go full on lawsuit mode then just lay it out in numbers to both of them. Show how much more money you are spending for utilities and other essentials from before the bf started crashing there to now. If they aren't willing to reasonably compromise by either paying more of a fair share or limiting his time there then draw up a formal lease agreement. After that it's up to your roommate to decide how to proceed. Either she signs it and agrees to the terms you set or you can have them move out. I hope it goes over smoothly and rationally for you because you are a saint for putting up with that at all. Best of Luck. | 0 | 19,744 | 15 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipdgksc | ipdave8 | 1,663,789,264 | 1,663,787,109 | 23 | 8 | It might be helpful to show her the utility bills before and after. And ask for 2/3 of the rent presented in a lease for her to sign. Friends who hurt you financially are friends best kept at a distance. Even if he is the mooch she is not protecting you | Your friend is a roommate with a guest staying there. It is unlikely she is covered under formal lease if you are sharing living space with her. As others pointed out, give her a 30 day notice, stating that cost of utilities and basic services went up with her boyfriend pseudo moving in. State that no hard feelings but it is not affordable for you to sustain the increase. It is not something to sue over, however. | 1 | 2,155 | 2.875 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipdgksc | ipcrd5r | 1,663,789,264 | 1,663,779,859 | 23 | 7 | It might be helpful to show her the utility bills before and after. And ask for 2/3 of the rent presented in a lease for her to sign. Friends who hurt you financially are friends best kept at a distance. Even if he is the mooch she is not protecting you | Create a lease she has to sign, start eviction proceedings, or do nothing and let it continue. | 1 | 9,405 | 3.285714 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipcgkxq | ipdgksc | 1,663,775,859 | 1,663,789,264 | 2 | 23 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | It might be helpful to show her the utility bills before and after. And ask for 2/3 of the rent presented in a lease for her to sign. Friends who hurt you financially are friends best kept at a distance. Even if he is the mooch she is not protecting you | 0 | 13,405 | 11.5 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipdave8 | ipe15nd | 1,663,787,109 | 1,663,797,320 | 8 | 17 | Your friend is a roommate with a guest staying there. It is unlikely she is covered under formal lease if you are sharing living space with her. As others pointed out, give her a 30 day notice, stating that cost of utilities and basic services went up with her boyfriend pseudo moving in. State that no hard feelings but it is not affordable for you to sustain the increase. It is not something to sue over, however. | 1. create and have your roomate sign a formal lease/rental agreement 2. create a clause that specifically states that house guests are limited to 7 overnights per month or whatever number you can both agree upon 3. also create a clause on a per day fee for guests that overstay that number of days (i.e $75/day) the point here is that the daily charge is significantly more than what a monthly rent would be charged. 4. if she refuses, give her a 30 day notice, that the lease is not being renewed and that she needs to find a new place to live | 0 | 10,211 | 2.125 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipcrd5r | ipe15nd | 1,663,779,859 | 1,663,797,320 | 7 | 17 | Create a lease she has to sign, start eviction proceedings, or do nothing and let it continue. | 1. create and have your roomate sign a formal lease/rental agreement 2. create a clause that specifically states that house guests are limited to 7 overnights per month or whatever number you can both agree upon 3. also create a clause on a per day fee for guests that overstay that number of days (i.e $75/day) the point here is that the daily charge is significantly more than what a monthly rent would be charged. 4. if she refuses, give her a 30 day notice, that the lease is not being renewed and that she needs to find a new place to live | 0 | 17,461 | 2.428571 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipcgkxq | ipe15nd | 1,663,775,859 | 1,663,797,320 | 2 | 17 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1. create and have your roomate sign a formal lease/rental agreement 2. create a clause that specifically states that house guests are limited to 7 overnights per month or whatever number you can both agree upon 3. also create a clause on a per day fee for guests that overstay that number of days (i.e $75/day) the point here is that the daily charge is significantly more than what a monthly rent would be charged. 4. if she refuses, give her a 30 day notice, that the lease is not being renewed and that she needs to find a new place to live | 0 | 21,461 | 8.5 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipcrd5r | ipdave8 | 1,663,779,859 | 1,663,787,109 | 7 | 8 | Create a lease she has to sign, start eviction proceedings, or do nothing and let it continue. | Your friend is a roommate with a guest staying there. It is unlikely she is covered under formal lease if you are sharing living space with her. As others pointed out, give her a 30 day notice, stating that cost of utilities and basic services went up with her boyfriend pseudo moving in. State that no hard feelings but it is not affordable for you to sustain the increase. It is not something to sue over, however. | 0 | 7,250 | 1.142857 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipcgkxq | ipdave8 | 1,663,775,859 | 1,663,787,109 | 2 | 8 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Your friend is a roommate with a guest staying there. It is unlikely she is covered under formal lease if you are sharing living space with her. As others pointed out, give her a 30 day notice, stating that cost of utilities and basic services went up with her boyfriend pseudo moving in. State that no hard feelings but it is not affordable for you to sustain the increase. It is not something to sue over, however. | 0 | 11,250 | 4 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipflgpp | ipcrd5r | 1,663,823,943 | 1,663,779,859 | 8 | 7 | I am a lawyer, but not in Illinois. Lots of comments about options. There are no options, you must terminate the lease. Illinois law allows termination of a month to month lease upon 30 days notice. From this point forward all communications should be drafted as if a court will review them. Provide written notice, served by an uninterested party, terminating the lease at the end of her next pay period. My assumption is that she pays you at the 1st of each month. Terminate on October 31. This is longer than 30-days but the Court, should you need them, will like that you have the extra time and that no pro rating of rent is required. It provides for a clean break. If she does not leave engage a lawyer to evict. Fees are recoverable. Then find a new roommate. Draft a lease. Get it signed, and chalk this up to a lesson learned. | Create a lease she has to sign, start eviction proceedings, or do nothing and let it continue. | 1 | 44,084 | 1.142857 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipflgpp | ipe4r13 | 1,663,823,943 | 1,663,798,828 | 8 | 5 | I am a lawyer, but not in Illinois. Lots of comments about options. There are no options, you must terminate the lease. Illinois law allows termination of a month to month lease upon 30 days notice. From this point forward all communications should be drafted as if a court will review them. Provide written notice, served by an uninterested party, terminating the lease at the end of her next pay period. My assumption is that she pays you at the 1st of each month. Terminate on October 31. This is longer than 30-days but the Court, should you need them, will like that you have the extra time and that no pro rating of rent is required. It provides for a clean break. If she does not leave engage a lawyer to evict. Fees are recoverable. Then find a new roommate. Draft a lease. Get it signed, and chalk this up to a lesson learned. | I would suggest writing a lease with the terms you are looking for. Then writing a 30 day notice letter of the lease, where she can decide what she wants to do. Set a percentage of nights a guest can stay before rent is required. I know these are your friends, but this is your home and your income property. Asking for these terms is just protection. You can be polite and friendly about it, but the business end of it should be 100% by the book | 1 | 25,115 | 1.6 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipflgpp | ipcgkxq | 1,663,823,943 | 1,663,775,859 | 8 | 2 | I am a lawyer, but not in Illinois. Lots of comments about options. There are no options, you must terminate the lease. Illinois law allows termination of a month to month lease upon 30 days notice. From this point forward all communications should be drafted as if a court will review them. Provide written notice, served by an uninterested party, terminating the lease at the end of her next pay period. My assumption is that she pays you at the 1st of each month. Terminate on October 31. This is longer than 30-days but the Court, should you need them, will like that you have the extra time and that no pro rating of rent is required. It provides for a clean break. If she does not leave engage a lawyer to evict. Fees are recoverable. Then find a new roommate. Draft a lease. Get it signed, and chalk this up to a lesson learned. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 48,084 | 4 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipcgkxq | ipcrd5r | 1,663,775,859 | 1,663,779,859 | 2 | 7 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Create a lease she has to sign, start eviction proceedings, or do nothing and let it continue. | 0 | 4,000 | 3.5 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipe4r13 | ipcgkxq | 1,663,798,828 | 1,663,775,859 | 5 | 2 | I would suggest writing a lease with the terms you are looking for. Then writing a 30 day notice letter of the lease, where she can decide what she wants to do. Set a percentage of nights a guest can stay before rent is required. I know these are your friends, but this is your home and your income property. Asking for these terms is just protection. You can be polite and friendly about it, but the business end of it should be 100% by the book | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 22,969 | 2.5 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipfzf21 | ipcgkxq | 1,663,834,788 | 1,663,775,859 | 5 | 2 | U can't be landlord and friend at the same time | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 58,929 | 2.5 |
xk8sd0 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | IL - roommate's boyfriend living with us, refuses to pay rent Hey everyone! I'm in a little dilemma. I (21F) am the sole homeowner of a home in Southern IL. My friend, also roommate (23F), lives with me but pays rent. We have no formal written agreement, just texts stating she will be paying X amount per month. A little over three months ago, my roommate's boyfriend (25M) started staying over multiple nights. It evolved into him staying in the home for weeks at a time, then when I brought up that I'd need rent money from him, they both stated that Boyfriend was not living there, just "staying the night." This began a viscious cycle of him staying for a few weeks, I bring up needing rent from him, he'd leave and go home for a few days, and then return for a few more weeks. If you come into my house, you will most likely assume a man is living here. His toiletries are in my bathroom, his clothes are in Roommate's dresser, and my food is being eaten/water is being used/gas is being used twice as fast as just my roommate and I. Today marks the 7th day he's "spent the night" and refuses to pay rent. I love my roommate dearly but this financial thing is causing a rift between us. I cannot afford 3 people living in my home without another rent/income. What legal actions can I take from here out? I don't want to formally sue as I consider my roommate and her BF two of my closest friends, but I will do what I must. Legal advice? | ipgxnrz | ipcgkxq | 1,663,855,711 | 1,663,775,859 | 3 | 2 | “Hey roommate, I need to have a talk. I’ve brought this up before, but it keeps getting sidelined. As of Nov. 1 I’m raising your rent by $xxx dollars a month. How you and BF want to split that it’s on you, but this is due to him being here all the time and the extra cost of the home. He needs to stop eating the food I buy as well. I know we don’t have a formal lease, but we are going to have one moving forward. I’m starting to feel resentful of our situation and it’s taking a toll on our friendship. I’m going to need you to sign, or move out.” | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 79,852 | 1.5 |
gr2u4u | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My mother who has passed was a fairly established children’s book author. I was contacted by a publishing house who wants to reprint one of her books. The illustrator has also passed. Who has the rights to this? I am happy to have it reprinted btw. | frx44rj | frwjqx2 | 1,590,532,701 | 1,590,522,550 | 11 | 4 | If she was fairly established, she probably had an agent who handled the contracts and knows if the original publishing house still has it in print or options for it. It may have been work-for-hire, in which case, her estate would not own the rights to it. The rights may still be owned by the publishing house, pending a reversion of rights to the author (usually after a book has been out of print for a set amount of time.) Again, the agent (or agency) would know. | It's also possible someone else already owns the copyright, or it could belong to a trust. If her passing was somewhat recent, you may need to have that go through probate. If the copyright has not passed to you, either through probate or trust, then you likely don't have the authority to agree to a reprinting. In most states, you need to get her estate resolved resolved in some matter. It isn't all that different from a car that she owned (both are property), you can't legally sell her car until it ownership has been transferred to you. Make sure you are the clear owner, see (as others have said) if she owns the rights to the illustrations, and then you are good to reprint. | 1 | 10,151 | 2.75 |
tuzwql | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I inherited a home and am the owner. My mother has a "life estate." What are the limitations of her tenancy? As the caption reads, I inherited a home from my Grandmother in 2016 when she passed away. She granted my impoverished, narcissist mother a life estate so she would have somewhere to live. I live in Tennessee with no desire to move to Illinois to live on the property, so I don't mind her staying there because she keeps the property and home up. She lives rent-free. However, she has made permanent changes to the property without my permission that I don't agree with and claims she has the right to do so, according to her life estate. She repeatedly goes on tangents about how she is the actual homeowner and reserves all rights while she is alive because of her life estate. She claims her rights to the home and property supercede mine because of this life estate. She built an entire fish pond in the front yard, cut down trees, torn down sheds and fences, and poured a concrete slab in the yard for her dog. Now, I have discovered (through another family member in that area) that she is renting a room in the house to another random tenant and charging him $600 a month in rent that goes directly to her, on top of bill splitting and home maintenance duties. She does so in cash to avoid paper trails. She is rarely at the home and he basically lives there alone and pays his rent to her. Does she have the right to do all of those things? Is there anything I can do? My little brother shares equal ownership with me and doesn't seem to care because my mom keeps a financial leash on him. | i36lzxw | i36ra90 | 1,648,957,795 | 1,648,960,790 | 74 | 117 | What kind of permanent changes? You may be able to stop her from damaging the property. She probably has some reasonable right to maintain or improve it. You probably can’t stop her from having a roommate. | As someone else mentioned this will vary from state to state because I believe life estates are mostly common law concepts. That being said, your mother likely has a duty to avoid “waste”. It sounds like some of the things she’s done could constitute waste. She would however be perfectly within her rights to lease out a portion of the property (but that lease would terminate upon your mothers death). Here is a quick read on the topic: https://www.atgf.com/tools-publications/pubs/until-death-do-us-part-life-estates. Also you’d most likely have to sue to enforce these rights, so if you’re concerned serious damage is being done, find a lawyer to help. | 0 | 2,995 | 1.581081 |
tuzwql | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I inherited a home and am the owner. My mother has a "life estate." What are the limitations of her tenancy? As the caption reads, I inherited a home from my Grandmother in 2016 when she passed away. She granted my impoverished, narcissist mother a life estate so she would have somewhere to live. I live in Tennessee with no desire to move to Illinois to live on the property, so I don't mind her staying there because she keeps the property and home up. She lives rent-free. However, she has made permanent changes to the property without my permission that I don't agree with and claims she has the right to do so, according to her life estate. She repeatedly goes on tangents about how she is the actual homeowner and reserves all rights while she is alive because of her life estate. She claims her rights to the home and property supercede mine because of this life estate. She built an entire fish pond in the front yard, cut down trees, torn down sheds and fences, and poured a concrete slab in the yard for her dog. Now, I have discovered (through another family member in that area) that she is renting a room in the house to another random tenant and charging him $600 a month in rent that goes directly to her, on top of bill splitting and home maintenance duties. She does so in cash to avoid paper trails. She is rarely at the home and he basically lives there alone and pays his rent to her. Does she have the right to do all of those things? Is there anything I can do? My little brother shares equal ownership with me and doesn't seem to care because my mom keeps a financial leash on him. | i3733rm | i36zy25 | 1,648,968,975 | 1,648,966,564 | 47 | 43 | You need to talk to a real estate attorney. It depends on your state law, what kind of life estate there is. Generally yes her rights to the home supersede the titled owner, she has the right to live there exclusively. In many cases she can rent out the property entirely, or rent out to a room mate. | If she's collecting rent in cash she likely isn't reporting the income. The IRS would love for you to report her. | 1 | 2,411 | 1.093023 |
exz0wy | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mother just passed away yesterday morning. My step father and I are unable to find her life insurance policy and he doesn't know who she had it through. How am I able to find out this information? I'm not too sure if this is the correct subreddit for this, however I'm not too sure where else I can exactly ask this question. I'm 22, my mother passed away at the young age of 51 very suddenly. She had breast cancer, had a double mastectomy and underwent chemotherapy about 7 years ago. Unbeknownst to me, her cancer had returned and had spread to her bones, specifically her spine. This lead to her passing away as of yesterday. I know for a fact that she had a life insurance policy, because she has told me a couple times before when the topic has come up that I am her sole beneficiary. However, what we don't know is who she had her life insurance policy through, or where she had a copy of it in her house. We've checked their safe and have gone through 3 boxes worth of papers so far and we have come up dry. And to complicate the matter even further she didn't have a will written, so there isn't an attorney that we can ask either. I'm not sure if she had her policy through her work, I do know for a fact that she had dental and vision through work because I am on that policy, but I believe that she is on my step dad's health insurance. I don't know if her life insurance would be under the same policy as her policy for dental and vision through work, or if I called their human resources department that they would even be able to legally give me that information. ​ TLDR; Mom died, we don't know anything about her life insurance policy other than that she has one, where can we begin to look to figure it out? | fge7vcj | fge85wn | 1,580,693,361 | 1,580,693,543 | 8 | 14 | Any banking records to see who she was making premium payments to? I would also suggest calling her employee this week to ask if there is a policy through her work. I'm sorry for your loss. | First check with her job benefits department then check with her car insurance . Look in her glove box for her insurance card and call them. You get discounts for bundling insurances usually. Her husband can look at the bank statements and see who’s gotten premium payments. They give you packets of paper so there may be a folder somewhere in the house with the policy in it. Then if that turns up nothing you can cold call insurance companies. And for any one reading for the love, give your beneficiary a copy of important documents to have Incase you die. Any one can die at any time once you turn 18 you should get your self a policy so that loved ones can burry you at the very least and at most so you can lock in at a cheap rate and your future fam is protected. and have your documents in order. | 0 | 182 | 1.75 |
exz0wy | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mother just passed away yesterday morning. My step father and I are unable to find her life insurance policy and he doesn't know who she had it through. How am I able to find out this information? I'm not too sure if this is the correct subreddit for this, however I'm not too sure where else I can exactly ask this question. I'm 22, my mother passed away at the young age of 51 very suddenly. She had breast cancer, had a double mastectomy and underwent chemotherapy about 7 years ago. Unbeknownst to me, her cancer had returned and had spread to her bones, specifically her spine. This lead to her passing away as of yesterday. I know for a fact that she had a life insurance policy, because she has told me a couple times before when the topic has come up that I am her sole beneficiary. However, what we don't know is who she had her life insurance policy through, or where she had a copy of it in her house. We've checked their safe and have gone through 3 boxes worth of papers so far and we have come up dry. And to complicate the matter even further she didn't have a will written, so there isn't an attorney that we can ask either. I'm not sure if she had her policy through her work, I do know for a fact that she had dental and vision through work because I am on that policy, but I believe that she is on my step dad's health insurance. I don't know if her life insurance would be under the same policy as her policy for dental and vision through work, or if I called their human resources department that they would even be able to legally give me that information. ​ TLDR; Mom died, we don't know anything about her life insurance policy other than that she has one, where can we begin to look to figure it out? | fge85wn | fge836w | 1,580,693,543 | 1,580,693,496 | 14 | 5 | First check with her job benefits department then check with her car insurance . Look in her glove box for her insurance card and call them. You get discounts for bundling insurances usually. Her husband can look at the bank statements and see who’s gotten premium payments. They give you packets of paper so there may be a folder somewhere in the house with the policy in it. Then if that turns up nothing you can cold call insurance companies. And for any one reading for the love, give your beneficiary a copy of important documents to have Incase you die. Any one can die at any time once you turn 18 you should get your self a policy so that loved ones can burry you at the very least and at most so you can lock in at a cheap rate and your future fam is protected. and have your documents in order. | Paystubs and bank statements would be the best way to find out who she'd been making payments to. If someone is appointed as her administrator in probate court, that person can legally act on her behalf to request information and documents from third parties. In many places, you can get a quicker/easier appointment of an administrator through probate court if there are no known assets and you are just trying to find out information. I'm very sorry for your loss. | 1 | 47 | 2.8 |
exz0wy | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mother just passed away yesterday morning. My step father and I are unable to find her life insurance policy and he doesn't know who she had it through. How am I able to find out this information? I'm not too sure if this is the correct subreddit for this, however I'm not too sure where else I can exactly ask this question. I'm 22, my mother passed away at the young age of 51 very suddenly. She had breast cancer, had a double mastectomy and underwent chemotherapy about 7 years ago. Unbeknownst to me, her cancer had returned and had spread to her bones, specifically her spine. This lead to her passing away as of yesterday. I know for a fact that she had a life insurance policy, because she has told me a couple times before when the topic has come up that I am her sole beneficiary. However, what we don't know is who she had her life insurance policy through, or where she had a copy of it in her house. We've checked their safe and have gone through 3 boxes worth of papers so far and we have come up dry. And to complicate the matter even further she didn't have a will written, so there isn't an attorney that we can ask either. I'm not sure if she had her policy through her work, I do know for a fact that she had dental and vision through work because I am on that policy, but I believe that she is on my step dad's health insurance. I don't know if her life insurance would be under the same policy as her policy for dental and vision through work, or if I called their human resources department that they would even be able to legally give me that information. ​ TLDR; Mom died, we don't know anything about her life insurance policy other than that she has one, where can we begin to look to figure it out? | fge90st | fgelvfx | 1,580,694,118 | 1,580,702,771 | 3 | 4 | I'm sorry for your loss and I know that doesn't make it any easier. I went through a similar thing at a young age also, so please know I'm thinking of you. I think your best step would be to have your stepdad call her workplace tomorrow morning and inform them of her passing and state you're unsure who she had life insurance through and ask if they have anything on file for her. | This website should be able to help: https://eapps.naic.org/life-policy-locator/#/welcome | 0 | 8,653 | 1.333333 |
exz0wy | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mother just passed away yesterday morning. My step father and I are unable to find her life insurance policy and he doesn't know who she had it through. How am I able to find out this information? I'm not too sure if this is the correct subreddit for this, however I'm not too sure where else I can exactly ask this question. I'm 22, my mother passed away at the young age of 51 very suddenly. She had breast cancer, had a double mastectomy and underwent chemotherapy about 7 years ago. Unbeknownst to me, her cancer had returned and had spread to her bones, specifically her spine. This lead to her passing away as of yesterday. I know for a fact that she had a life insurance policy, because she has told me a couple times before when the topic has come up that I am her sole beneficiary. However, what we don't know is who she had her life insurance policy through, or where she had a copy of it in her house. We've checked their safe and have gone through 3 boxes worth of papers so far and we have come up dry. And to complicate the matter even further she didn't have a will written, so there isn't an attorney that we can ask either. I'm not sure if she had her policy through her work, I do know for a fact that she had dental and vision through work because I am on that policy, but I believe that she is on my step dad's health insurance. I don't know if her life insurance would be under the same policy as her policy for dental and vision through work, or if I called their human resources department that they would even be able to legally give me that information. ​ TLDR; Mom died, we don't know anything about her life insurance policy other than that she has one, where can we begin to look to figure it out? | fgeh79z | fgelvfx | 1,580,699,438 | 1,580,702,771 | 3 | 4 | If the policy has been in existence for many years, it’s probably earning interest. Check her income tax statements or current mail for W2. | This website should be able to help: https://eapps.naic.org/life-policy-locator/#/welcome | 0 | 3,333 | 1.333333 |
exz0wy | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mother just passed away yesterday morning. My step father and I are unable to find her life insurance policy and he doesn't know who she had it through. How am I able to find out this information? I'm not too sure if this is the correct subreddit for this, however I'm not too sure where else I can exactly ask this question. I'm 22, my mother passed away at the young age of 51 very suddenly. She had breast cancer, had a double mastectomy and underwent chemotherapy about 7 years ago. Unbeknownst to me, her cancer had returned and had spread to her bones, specifically her spine. This lead to her passing away as of yesterday. I know for a fact that she had a life insurance policy, because she has told me a couple times before when the topic has come up that I am her sole beneficiary. However, what we don't know is who she had her life insurance policy through, or where she had a copy of it in her house. We've checked their safe and have gone through 3 boxes worth of papers so far and we have come up dry. And to complicate the matter even further she didn't have a will written, so there isn't an attorney that we can ask either. I'm not sure if she had her policy through her work, I do know for a fact that she had dental and vision through work because I am on that policy, but I believe that she is on my step dad's health insurance. I don't know if her life insurance would be under the same policy as her policy for dental and vision through work, or if I called their human resources department that they would even be able to legally give me that information. ​ TLDR; Mom died, we don't know anything about her life insurance policy other than that she has one, where can we begin to look to figure it out? | fgelvfx | fgeirkb | 1,580,702,771 | 1,580,700,481 | 4 | 3 | This website should be able to help: https://eapps.naic.org/life-policy-locator/#/welcome | In the worst case scenerio you will eventually get mail about the policy and can figure it out from that. My dad recently passed any many things I figured out by just getting info about them in his mail. | 1 | 2,290 | 1.333333 |
exz0wy | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mother just passed away yesterday morning. My step father and I are unable to find her life insurance policy and he doesn't know who she had it through. How am I able to find out this information? I'm not too sure if this is the correct subreddit for this, however I'm not too sure where else I can exactly ask this question. I'm 22, my mother passed away at the young age of 51 very suddenly. She had breast cancer, had a double mastectomy and underwent chemotherapy about 7 years ago. Unbeknownst to me, her cancer had returned and had spread to her bones, specifically her spine. This lead to her passing away as of yesterday. I know for a fact that she had a life insurance policy, because she has told me a couple times before when the topic has come up that I am her sole beneficiary. However, what we don't know is who she had her life insurance policy through, or where she had a copy of it in her house. We've checked their safe and have gone through 3 boxes worth of papers so far and we have come up dry. And to complicate the matter even further she didn't have a will written, so there isn't an attorney that we can ask either. I'm not sure if she had her policy through her work, I do know for a fact that she had dental and vision through work because I am on that policy, but I believe that she is on my step dad's health insurance. I don't know if her life insurance would be under the same policy as her policy for dental and vision through work, or if I called their human resources department that they would even be able to legally give me that information. ​ TLDR; Mom died, we don't know anything about her life insurance policy other than that she has one, where can we begin to look to figure it out? | fgejmvr | fgelvfx | 1,580,701,096 | 1,580,702,771 | 2 | 4 | Sorry for your loss. /r/insurance might be able to help. | This website should be able to help: https://eapps.naic.org/life-policy-locator/#/welcome | 0 | 1,675 | 2 |
exz0wy | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mother just passed away yesterday morning. My step father and I are unable to find her life insurance policy and he doesn't know who she had it through. How am I able to find out this information? I'm not too sure if this is the correct subreddit for this, however I'm not too sure where else I can exactly ask this question. I'm 22, my mother passed away at the young age of 51 very suddenly. She had breast cancer, had a double mastectomy and underwent chemotherapy about 7 years ago. Unbeknownst to me, her cancer had returned and had spread to her bones, specifically her spine. This lead to her passing away as of yesterday. I know for a fact that she had a life insurance policy, because she has told me a couple times before when the topic has come up that I am her sole beneficiary. However, what we don't know is who she had her life insurance policy through, or where she had a copy of it in her house. We've checked their safe and have gone through 3 boxes worth of papers so far and we have come up dry. And to complicate the matter even further she didn't have a will written, so there isn't an attorney that we can ask either. I'm not sure if she had her policy through her work, I do know for a fact that she had dental and vision through work because I am on that policy, but I believe that she is on my step dad's health insurance. I don't know if her life insurance would be under the same policy as her policy for dental and vision through work, or if I called their human resources department that they would even be able to legally give me that information. ​ TLDR; Mom died, we don't know anything about her life insurance policy other than that she has one, where can we begin to look to figure it out? | fge90st | fgerq27 | 1,580,694,118 | 1,580,707,694 | 3 | 4 | I'm sorry for your loss and I know that doesn't make it any easier. I went through a similar thing at a young age also, so please know I'm thinking of you. I think your best step would be to have your stepdad call her workplace tomorrow morning and inform them of her passing and state you're unsure who she had life insurance through and ask if they have anything on file for her. | I would advise you contact the state government, the department that regulates insurance, for they may be able to give you a few pointers on where to look or the names of the insurance companies that handle life insurance policies in your state, and where you can call them directly. But for some of that you will need her social security number and the death certificate. If they have not asked you, make sure you get 20 more death certificates than you think you need, as you will end up needing them in the long run. | 0 | 13,576 | 1.333333 |
exz0wy | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mother just passed away yesterday morning. My step father and I are unable to find her life insurance policy and he doesn't know who she had it through. How am I able to find out this information? I'm not too sure if this is the correct subreddit for this, however I'm not too sure where else I can exactly ask this question. I'm 22, my mother passed away at the young age of 51 very suddenly. She had breast cancer, had a double mastectomy and underwent chemotherapy about 7 years ago. Unbeknownst to me, her cancer had returned and had spread to her bones, specifically her spine. This lead to her passing away as of yesterday. I know for a fact that she had a life insurance policy, because she has told me a couple times before when the topic has come up that I am her sole beneficiary. However, what we don't know is who she had her life insurance policy through, or where she had a copy of it in her house. We've checked their safe and have gone through 3 boxes worth of papers so far and we have come up dry. And to complicate the matter even further she didn't have a will written, so there isn't an attorney that we can ask either. I'm not sure if she had her policy through her work, I do know for a fact that she had dental and vision through work because I am on that policy, but I believe that she is on my step dad's health insurance. I don't know if her life insurance would be under the same policy as her policy for dental and vision through work, or if I called their human resources department that they would even be able to legally give me that information. ​ TLDR; Mom died, we don't know anything about her life insurance policy other than that she has one, where can we begin to look to figure it out? | fgerq27 | fgeh79z | 1,580,707,694 | 1,580,699,438 | 4 | 3 | I would advise you contact the state government, the department that regulates insurance, for they may be able to give you a few pointers on where to look or the names of the insurance companies that handle life insurance policies in your state, and where you can call them directly. But for some of that you will need her social security number and the death certificate. If they have not asked you, make sure you get 20 more death certificates than you think you need, as you will end up needing them in the long run. | If the policy has been in existence for many years, it’s probably earning interest. Check her income tax statements or current mail for W2. | 1 | 8,256 | 1.333333 |
exz0wy | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mother just passed away yesterday morning. My step father and I are unable to find her life insurance policy and he doesn't know who she had it through. How am I able to find out this information? I'm not too sure if this is the correct subreddit for this, however I'm not too sure where else I can exactly ask this question. I'm 22, my mother passed away at the young age of 51 very suddenly. She had breast cancer, had a double mastectomy and underwent chemotherapy about 7 years ago. Unbeknownst to me, her cancer had returned and had spread to her bones, specifically her spine. This lead to her passing away as of yesterday. I know for a fact that she had a life insurance policy, because she has told me a couple times before when the topic has come up that I am her sole beneficiary. However, what we don't know is who she had her life insurance policy through, or where she had a copy of it in her house. We've checked their safe and have gone through 3 boxes worth of papers so far and we have come up dry. And to complicate the matter even further she didn't have a will written, so there isn't an attorney that we can ask either. I'm not sure if she had her policy through her work, I do know for a fact that she had dental and vision through work because I am on that policy, but I believe that she is on my step dad's health insurance. I don't know if her life insurance would be under the same policy as her policy for dental and vision through work, or if I called their human resources department that they would even be able to legally give me that information. ​ TLDR; Mom died, we don't know anything about her life insurance policy other than that she has one, where can we begin to look to figure it out? | fgeirkb | fgerq27 | 1,580,700,481 | 1,580,707,694 | 3 | 4 | In the worst case scenerio you will eventually get mail about the policy and can figure it out from that. My dad recently passed any many things I figured out by just getting info about them in his mail. | I would advise you contact the state government, the department that regulates insurance, for they may be able to give you a few pointers on where to look or the names of the insurance companies that handle life insurance policies in your state, and where you can call them directly. But for some of that you will need her social security number and the death certificate. If they have not asked you, make sure you get 20 more death certificates than you think you need, as you will end up needing them in the long run. | 0 | 7,213 | 1.333333 |
exz0wy | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mother just passed away yesterday morning. My step father and I are unable to find her life insurance policy and he doesn't know who she had it through. How am I able to find out this information? I'm not too sure if this is the correct subreddit for this, however I'm not too sure where else I can exactly ask this question. I'm 22, my mother passed away at the young age of 51 very suddenly. She had breast cancer, had a double mastectomy and underwent chemotherapy about 7 years ago. Unbeknownst to me, her cancer had returned and had spread to her bones, specifically her spine. This lead to her passing away as of yesterday. I know for a fact that she had a life insurance policy, because she has told me a couple times before when the topic has come up that I am her sole beneficiary. However, what we don't know is who she had her life insurance policy through, or where she had a copy of it in her house. We've checked their safe and have gone through 3 boxes worth of papers so far and we have come up dry. And to complicate the matter even further she didn't have a will written, so there isn't an attorney that we can ask either. I'm not sure if she had her policy through her work, I do know for a fact that she had dental and vision through work because I am on that policy, but I believe that she is on my step dad's health insurance. I don't know if her life insurance would be under the same policy as her policy for dental and vision through work, or if I called their human resources department that they would even be able to legally give me that information. ​ TLDR; Mom died, we don't know anything about her life insurance policy other than that she has one, where can we begin to look to figure it out? | fgejmvr | fgerq27 | 1,580,701,096 | 1,580,707,694 | 2 | 4 | Sorry for your loss. /r/insurance might be able to help. | I would advise you contact the state government, the department that regulates insurance, for they may be able to give you a few pointers on where to look or the names of the insurance companies that handle life insurance policies in your state, and where you can call them directly. But for some of that you will need her social security number and the death certificate. If they have not asked you, make sure you get 20 more death certificates than you think you need, as you will end up needing them in the long run. | 0 | 6,598 | 2 |
phrtbk | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MA] Landlord wants me to pay my rent directly to the mortgage company, but I don’t feel comfortable doing this. My landlord, who lives in another state, wants me to pay my rent for my apartment that I rent in Massachusetts directly to the mortgage company and then mail her a check for the remainder (the rent she charges is more than the mortgage). I don’t feel comfortable doing this - am I legally obligated to pay her in this way? There’s nothing about that in the lease. I don’t want to be held liable if the payment is late or is lost. I don’t feel like that is my responsibility. How should I handle this and are there any legal ramifications I need to be aware of? | hbkhhfh | hbl3874 | 1,630,763,718 | 1,630,773,658 | 471 | 523 | Tell her you aren't comfortable doing that. Who is listed on your lease? That's who you should be paying. It's your landlord's responsibility to pay her own mortgage, regardless if it's too inconvenient for her | Almost certainly a way to avoid income tax. Don't agree to this because it's pretty likely illegal. | 0 | 9,940 | 1.110403 |
phrtbk | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MA] Landlord wants me to pay my rent directly to the mortgage company, but I don’t feel comfortable doing this. My landlord, who lives in another state, wants me to pay my rent for my apartment that I rent in Massachusetts directly to the mortgage company and then mail her a check for the remainder (the rent she charges is more than the mortgage). I don’t feel comfortable doing this - am I legally obligated to pay her in this way? There’s nothing about that in the lease. I don’t want to be held liable if the payment is late or is lost. I don’t feel like that is my responsibility. How should I handle this and are there any legal ramifications I need to be aware of? | hbl3874 | hbkmib3 | 1,630,773,658 | 1,630,766,129 | 523 | 185 | Almost certainly a way to avoid income tax. Don't agree to this because it's pretty likely illegal. | Not a lawyer. This is not a smart move on the landlord’s part. In some instances, if the lessee (you) pay the mortgage directly it entitles you to the equity earned by paying down the loan. | 1 | 7,529 | 2.827027 |
phrtbk | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MA] Landlord wants me to pay my rent directly to the mortgage company, but I don’t feel comfortable doing this. My landlord, who lives in another state, wants me to pay my rent for my apartment that I rent in Massachusetts directly to the mortgage company and then mail her a check for the remainder (the rent she charges is more than the mortgage). I don’t feel comfortable doing this - am I legally obligated to pay her in this way? There’s nothing about that in the lease. I don’t want to be held liable if the payment is late or is lost. I don’t feel like that is my responsibility. How should I handle this and are there any legal ramifications I need to be aware of? | hbl3874 | hbki3va | 1,630,773,658 | 1,630,764,028 | 523 | 26 | Almost certainly a way to avoid income tax. Don't agree to this because it's pretty likely illegal. | There should be something in the lease stating what day the rent is due, and to whom it should be paid, right? | 1 | 9,630 | 20.115385 |
phrtbk | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MA] Landlord wants me to pay my rent directly to the mortgage company, but I don’t feel comfortable doing this. My landlord, who lives in another state, wants me to pay my rent for my apartment that I rent in Massachusetts directly to the mortgage company and then mail her a check for the remainder (the rent she charges is more than the mortgage). I don’t feel comfortable doing this - am I legally obligated to pay her in this way? There’s nothing about that in the lease. I don’t want to be held liable if the payment is late or is lost. I don’t feel like that is my responsibility. How should I handle this and are there any legal ramifications I need to be aware of? | hbl3874 | hbkg742 | 1,630,773,658 | 1,630,763,075 | 523 | 4 | Almost certainly a way to avoid income tax. Don't agree to this because it's pretty likely illegal. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. | 1 | 10,583 | 130.75 |
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