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phrtbk | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MA] Landlord wants me to pay my rent directly to the mortgage company, but I don’t feel comfortable doing this. My landlord, who lives in another state, wants me to pay my rent for my apartment that I rent in Massachusetts directly to the mortgage company and then mail her a check for the remainder (the rent she charges is more than the mortgage). I don’t feel comfortable doing this - am I legally obligated to pay her in this way? There’s nothing about that in the lease. I don’t want to be held liable if the payment is late or is lost. I don’t feel like that is my responsibility. How should I handle this and are there any legal ramifications I need to be aware of? | hbkhhfh | hbkg742 | 1,630,763,718 | 1,630,763,075 | 471 | 4 | Tell her you aren't comfortable doing that. Who is listed on your lease? That's who you should be paying. It's your landlord's responsibility to pay her own mortgage, regardless if it's too inconvenient for her | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. | 1 | 643 | 117.75 |
phrtbk | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MA] Landlord wants me to pay my rent directly to the mortgage company, but I don’t feel comfortable doing this. My landlord, who lives in another state, wants me to pay my rent for my apartment that I rent in Massachusetts directly to the mortgage company and then mail her a check for the remainder (the rent she charges is more than the mortgage). I don’t feel comfortable doing this - am I legally obligated to pay her in this way? There’s nothing about that in the lease. I don’t want to be held liable if the payment is late or is lost. I don’t feel like that is my responsibility. How should I handle this and are there any legal ramifications I need to be aware of? | hbki3va | hbkmib3 | 1,630,764,028 | 1,630,766,129 | 26 | 185 | There should be something in the lease stating what day the rent is due, and to whom it should be paid, right? | Not a lawyer. This is not a smart move on the landlord’s part. In some instances, if the lessee (you) pay the mortgage directly it entitles you to the equity earned by paying down the loan. | 0 | 2,101 | 7.115385 |
phrtbk | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MA] Landlord wants me to pay my rent directly to the mortgage company, but I don’t feel comfortable doing this. My landlord, who lives in another state, wants me to pay my rent for my apartment that I rent in Massachusetts directly to the mortgage company and then mail her a check for the remainder (the rent she charges is more than the mortgage). I don’t feel comfortable doing this - am I legally obligated to pay her in this way? There’s nothing about that in the lease. I don’t want to be held liable if the payment is late or is lost. I don’t feel like that is my responsibility. How should I handle this and are there any legal ramifications I need to be aware of? | hbkg742 | hbkmib3 | 1,630,763,075 | 1,630,766,129 | 4 | 185 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. | Not a lawyer. This is not a smart move on the landlord’s part. In some instances, if the lessee (you) pay the mortgage directly it entitles you to the equity earned by paying down the loan. | 0 | 3,054 | 46.25 |
phrtbk | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MA] Landlord wants me to pay my rent directly to the mortgage company, but I don’t feel comfortable doing this. My landlord, who lives in another state, wants me to pay my rent for my apartment that I rent in Massachusetts directly to the mortgage company and then mail her a check for the remainder (the rent she charges is more than the mortgage). I don’t feel comfortable doing this - am I legally obligated to pay her in this way? There’s nothing about that in the lease. I don’t want to be held liable if the payment is late or is lost. I don’t feel like that is my responsibility. How should I handle this and are there any legal ramifications I need to be aware of? | hbl65sd | hbl8cym | 1,630,774,942 | 1,630,775,903 | 44 | 118 | Not a lawyer but a real estate paralegal who writes title insurance and closes lots of loans for residential purchases. Where I live, this would be some some kind of loan fraud. She signed an Affidavit of Occupancy as part of her loan documents that said she would live there as her personal home. She has to tell her mortgage company if she won’t live there as her personal home (it affects their underwriting), the has to sign an Assignment of Leases and Rents which says if she defaults, they have the right to take any lease money you pay. Our state gives a significant property tax cut to “owner occupied” property. She’s definitely dodging income tax and likely property tax, depending on your local laws. Even if your lease is written to say you pay mortgage company, this would be moot as an illegal contract. I would contact the mortgage company and ask them - they likely won’t talk to you because you aren’t her, but I’ll bet they’ll get the info they need and ring her up. Other people can’t pay your mortgage on your behalf. They can give you funds to pay it yourself, but the shit she’s pulling don’t fly. | Your only legal obligation is to pay **your landlord** (or whatever entity is specified in the lease agreement, such as a property management company). A bank which may or may not be entitled to a payment from your landlord (how can you even be sure?) is ***not*** **your landlord**. Furthermore, assuming your lease says you will pay **your landlord** a certain amount each month, you will technically be in breach by not paying **your landlord**. If your landlord ever decided to pull a fast one, they can successfully initiate litigation because they can *accurately* show a court that they did not receive payments from you (because they didn't—an entity not a party to the lease agreement did instead). Sure, you'd have a valid defense and it could end up shaking out in your favor, but why even put yourself in a position to have to defend actions that you never actually agreed to in the lease? Litigation is taxing, financially and emotionally. Keep it simple. Do what the lease says. Pay your landlord directly. | 0 | 961 | 2.681818 |
phrtbk | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MA] Landlord wants me to pay my rent directly to the mortgage company, but I don’t feel comfortable doing this. My landlord, who lives in another state, wants me to pay my rent for my apartment that I rent in Massachusetts directly to the mortgage company and then mail her a check for the remainder (the rent she charges is more than the mortgage). I don’t feel comfortable doing this - am I legally obligated to pay her in this way? There’s nothing about that in the lease. I don’t want to be held liable if the payment is late or is lost. I don’t feel like that is my responsibility. How should I handle this and are there any legal ramifications I need to be aware of? | hbki3va | hbl8cym | 1,630,764,028 | 1,630,775,903 | 26 | 118 | There should be something in the lease stating what day the rent is due, and to whom it should be paid, right? | Your only legal obligation is to pay **your landlord** (or whatever entity is specified in the lease agreement, such as a property management company). A bank which may or may not be entitled to a payment from your landlord (how can you even be sure?) is ***not*** **your landlord**. Furthermore, assuming your lease says you will pay **your landlord** a certain amount each month, you will technically be in breach by not paying **your landlord**. If your landlord ever decided to pull a fast one, they can successfully initiate litigation because they can *accurately* show a court that they did not receive payments from you (because they didn't—an entity not a party to the lease agreement did instead). Sure, you'd have a valid defense and it could end up shaking out in your favor, but why even put yourself in a position to have to defend actions that you never actually agreed to in the lease? Litigation is taxing, financially and emotionally. Keep it simple. Do what the lease says. Pay your landlord directly. | 0 | 11,875 | 4.538462 |
phrtbk | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MA] Landlord wants me to pay my rent directly to the mortgage company, but I don’t feel comfortable doing this. My landlord, who lives in another state, wants me to pay my rent for my apartment that I rent in Massachusetts directly to the mortgage company and then mail her a check for the remainder (the rent she charges is more than the mortgage). I don’t feel comfortable doing this - am I legally obligated to pay her in this way? There’s nothing about that in the lease. I don’t want to be held liable if the payment is late or is lost. I don’t feel like that is my responsibility. How should I handle this and are there any legal ramifications I need to be aware of? | hbkg742 | hbl8cym | 1,630,763,075 | 1,630,775,903 | 4 | 118 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. | Your only legal obligation is to pay **your landlord** (or whatever entity is specified in the lease agreement, such as a property management company). A bank which may or may not be entitled to a payment from your landlord (how can you even be sure?) is ***not*** **your landlord**. Furthermore, assuming your lease says you will pay **your landlord** a certain amount each month, you will technically be in breach by not paying **your landlord**. If your landlord ever decided to pull a fast one, they can successfully initiate litigation because they can *accurately* show a court that they did not receive payments from you (because they didn't—an entity not a party to the lease agreement did instead). Sure, you'd have a valid defense and it could end up shaking out in your favor, but why even put yourself in a position to have to defend actions that you never actually agreed to in the lease? Litigation is taxing, financially and emotionally. Keep it simple. Do what the lease says. Pay your landlord directly. | 0 | 12,828 | 29.5 |
phrtbk | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MA] Landlord wants me to pay my rent directly to the mortgage company, but I don’t feel comfortable doing this. My landlord, who lives in another state, wants me to pay my rent for my apartment that I rent in Massachusetts directly to the mortgage company and then mail her a check for the remainder (the rent she charges is more than the mortgage). I don’t feel comfortable doing this - am I legally obligated to pay her in this way? There’s nothing about that in the lease. I don’t want to be held liable if the payment is late or is lost. I don’t feel like that is my responsibility. How should I handle this and are there any legal ramifications I need to be aware of? | hbl65sd | hbki3va | 1,630,774,942 | 1,630,764,028 | 44 | 26 | Not a lawyer but a real estate paralegal who writes title insurance and closes lots of loans for residential purchases. Where I live, this would be some some kind of loan fraud. She signed an Affidavit of Occupancy as part of her loan documents that said she would live there as her personal home. She has to tell her mortgage company if she won’t live there as her personal home (it affects their underwriting), the has to sign an Assignment of Leases and Rents which says if she defaults, they have the right to take any lease money you pay. Our state gives a significant property tax cut to “owner occupied” property. She’s definitely dodging income tax and likely property tax, depending on your local laws. Even if your lease is written to say you pay mortgage company, this would be moot as an illegal contract. I would contact the mortgage company and ask them - they likely won’t talk to you because you aren’t her, but I’ll bet they’ll get the info they need and ring her up. Other people can’t pay your mortgage on your behalf. They can give you funds to pay it yourself, but the shit she’s pulling don’t fly. | There should be something in the lease stating what day the rent is due, and to whom it should be paid, right? | 1 | 10,914 | 1.692308 |
phrtbk | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MA] Landlord wants me to pay my rent directly to the mortgage company, but I don’t feel comfortable doing this. My landlord, who lives in another state, wants me to pay my rent for my apartment that I rent in Massachusetts directly to the mortgage company and then mail her a check for the remainder (the rent she charges is more than the mortgage). I don’t feel comfortable doing this - am I legally obligated to pay her in this way? There’s nothing about that in the lease. I don’t want to be held liable if the payment is late or is lost. I don’t feel like that is my responsibility. How should I handle this and are there any legal ramifications I need to be aware of? | hbkg742 | hbl65sd | 1,630,763,075 | 1,630,774,942 | 4 | 44 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. | Not a lawyer but a real estate paralegal who writes title insurance and closes lots of loans for residential purchases. Where I live, this would be some some kind of loan fraud. She signed an Affidavit of Occupancy as part of her loan documents that said she would live there as her personal home. She has to tell her mortgage company if she won’t live there as her personal home (it affects their underwriting), the has to sign an Assignment of Leases and Rents which says if she defaults, they have the right to take any lease money you pay. Our state gives a significant property tax cut to “owner occupied” property. She’s definitely dodging income tax and likely property tax, depending on your local laws. Even if your lease is written to say you pay mortgage company, this would be moot as an illegal contract. I would contact the mortgage company and ask them - they likely won’t talk to you because you aren’t her, but I’ll bet they’ll get the info they need and ring her up. Other people can’t pay your mortgage on your behalf. They can give you funds to pay it yourself, but the shit she’s pulling don’t fly. | 0 | 11,867 | 11 |
phrtbk | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MA] Landlord wants me to pay my rent directly to the mortgage company, but I don’t feel comfortable doing this. My landlord, who lives in another state, wants me to pay my rent for my apartment that I rent in Massachusetts directly to the mortgage company and then mail her a check for the remainder (the rent she charges is more than the mortgage). I don’t feel comfortable doing this - am I legally obligated to pay her in this way? There’s nothing about that in the lease. I don’t want to be held liable if the payment is late or is lost. I don’t feel like that is my responsibility. How should I handle this and are there any legal ramifications I need to be aware of? | hbki3va | hbkg742 | 1,630,764,028 | 1,630,763,075 | 26 | 4 | There should be something in the lease stating what day the rent is due, and to whom it should be paid, right? | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. | 1 | 953 | 6.5 |
phrtbk | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [MA] Landlord wants me to pay my rent directly to the mortgage company, but I don’t feel comfortable doing this. My landlord, who lives in another state, wants me to pay my rent for my apartment that I rent in Massachusetts directly to the mortgage company and then mail her a check for the remainder (the rent she charges is more than the mortgage). I don’t feel comfortable doing this - am I legally obligated to pay her in this way? There’s nothing about that in the lease. I don’t want to be held liable if the payment is late or is lost. I don’t feel like that is my responsibility. How should I handle this and are there any legal ramifications I need to be aware of? | hbnamau | hbkg742 | 1,630,812,030 | 1,630,763,075 | 5 | 4 | Refuse to do so. I'm a real estate agent licensed in MA and what she's doing is illegal. It's a way to avoid taxes on rental income. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. | 1 | 48,955 | 1.25 |
q4yff7 | legaladvice_train | 0.82 | Neighbor took care of our dog and refuses to give it back State: Pennsylvania My mother was hospitalized back in December of 2020. She lived alone. The same night my mom was taken to the hospital, our neighbor (who had a key to my mom's home for emergencies) entered my mom's home and took her dog. She left a note for one of my brothers to find, stating that the dog is at her house. But at this point, no one gave her permission to enter the home, and no one requested for her to take care of the dog. We agreed to let her keep, and take care of, the dog until my mom returned home. We allowed the neighbor to enter my mom's home occasionally to retrieve the dog's food, toys, urine pads, etc. After a coma, long hospitalization, and a stay in a few rehabilitation facilities, my mom is soon to be returned home. This is now, 10 months after being hospitalized. However, the neighbor now refuses to give the dog back after we requested it be returned. She said she has gotten it licensed in her name and microchipped in her name. Previously, the dog was not licensed. However, my mom took it to the veterinarian for it's routine vaccinations, which she has proof of payment for. The dog was originally purchased by my brother and given to my mother about a year after as a gift. Can the neighbor legally keep the dog, even though we did not authorize her entrance to the home, and we did not authorize or request her to take the dog originally? | hg1y2xi | hg1w44l | 1,633,830,838 | 1,633,829,870 | 64 | 4 | Dogs are property. The dog was not a gift or compensation/payment for a contract... imagine it was a car. Just currently having the property in hand does not make it belong to the neighbor. Being in a hospital does not create a free-for-all for your possessions. They neighbor volunteered to care for the animal, there was no agreement/contract. If the animal was a hardship she could have easily turned it over to animal control or another family member. Stealing a sick old lady's dog is pretty low. I'd write up a letter threatening her with court and a list of your evidence and applicable state property laws. It's a nice gesture to offer compensation for food/supplies upon return of the dog. | Not an attorney here. Did you reimburse the neighbor at all for any of the costs related to boarding the pet? If not, the optics don't look good for your case. This is 10 months of an non-family member looking after your mom's dog. If no one in the family even offered to take the dog, it would seem like you didn't care at all. Now, you are only looking at getting the dog back as your mom might be discharged home in the near future. If I were the judge of on a jury I would say the dog has a new official last name. | 1 | 968 | 16 |
q4yff7 | legaladvice_train | 0.82 | Neighbor took care of our dog and refuses to give it back State: Pennsylvania My mother was hospitalized back in December of 2020. She lived alone. The same night my mom was taken to the hospital, our neighbor (who had a key to my mom's home for emergencies) entered my mom's home and took her dog. She left a note for one of my brothers to find, stating that the dog is at her house. But at this point, no one gave her permission to enter the home, and no one requested for her to take care of the dog. We agreed to let her keep, and take care of, the dog until my mom returned home. We allowed the neighbor to enter my mom's home occasionally to retrieve the dog's food, toys, urine pads, etc. After a coma, long hospitalization, and a stay in a few rehabilitation facilities, my mom is soon to be returned home. This is now, 10 months after being hospitalized. However, the neighbor now refuses to give the dog back after we requested it be returned. She said she has gotten it licensed in her name and microchipped in her name. Previously, the dog was not licensed. However, my mom took it to the veterinarian for it's routine vaccinations, which she has proof of payment for. The dog was originally purchased by my brother and given to my mother about a year after as a gift. Can the neighbor legally keep the dog, even though we did not authorize her entrance to the home, and we did not authorize or request her to take the dog originally? | hg1w44l | hg2cvaj | 1,633,829,870 | 1,633,838,480 | 4 | 21 | Not an attorney here. Did you reimburse the neighbor at all for any of the costs related to boarding the pet? If not, the optics don't look good for your case. This is 10 months of an non-family member looking after your mom's dog. If no one in the family even offered to take the dog, it would seem like you didn't care at all. Now, you are only looking at getting the dog back as your mom might be discharged home in the near future. If I were the judge of on a jury I would say the dog has a new official last name. | Contact an attorney. (The neighbor will likely have to pay your attorney fees.) The dog is still your mom's property. Oh, and this should go without saying, but change the locks. | 0 | 8,610 | 5.25 |
q4yff7 | legaladvice_train | 0.82 | Neighbor took care of our dog and refuses to give it back State: Pennsylvania My mother was hospitalized back in December of 2020. She lived alone. The same night my mom was taken to the hospital, our neighbor (who had a key to my mom's home for emergencies) entered my mom's home and took her dog. She left a note for one of my brothers to find, stating that the dog is at her house. But at this point, no one gave her permission to enter the home, and no one requested for her to take care of the dog. We agreed to let her keep, and take care of, the dog until my mom returned home. We allowed the neighbor to enter my mom's home occasionally to retrieve the dog's food, toys, urine pads, etc. After a coma, long hospitalization, and a stay in a few rehabilitation facilities, my mom is soon to be returned home. This is now, 10 months after being hospitalized. However, the neighbor now refuses to give the dog back after we requested it be returned. She said she has gotten it licensed in her name and microchipped in her name. Previously, the dog was not licensed. However, my mom took it to the veterinarian for it's routine vaccinations, which she has proof of payment for. The dog was originally purchased by my brother and given to my mother about a year after as a gift. Can the neighbor legally keep the dog, even though we did not authorize her entrance to the home, and we did not authorize or request her to take the dog originally? | hg2hh8b | hg1w44l | 1,633,841,144 | 1,633,829,870 | 5 | 4 | It’s your dog. Make sure to save any voicemail, texts, or emails to and from the neighbor. Make a timeline of everything that happened, and everything that was said in any conversation. Do you have pictures of the dog in your home and with family members? These and vet records can help establish how long the dog has been with you and hopefully show it looking like it was well cared for. Call the police and report your dog stolen. Explain the situation and the timeline. That being said…. You didn’t mention anything about any interaction between your mom and neighbor since this happened. If your mom gave her house key to the neighbor, she probably trusted her. Please check to see if they had some kind of “understanding” about the dog (or anything else) or if they have spoken about it since. Also keep in mind, if the neighbor is claiming the dog was being abused/neglected and has some kind of evidence of this (prior calls to law enforcement, recordings, etc.), you and your mom may find yourself in an uncomfortable position. | Not an attorney here. Did you reimburse the neighbor at all for any of the costs related to boarding the pet? If not, the optics don't look good for your case. This is 10 months of an non-family member looking after your mom's dog. If no one in the family even offered to take the dog, it would seem like you didn't care at all. Now, you are only looking at getting the dog back as your mom might be discharged home in the near future. If I were the judge of on a jury I would say the dog has a new official last name. | 1 | 11,274 | 1.25 |
kj2qly | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Help: I'm a victim of wire fraud where my emails were intercepted and the fraudster pretended to be my loan officer. Wired money (200K) to their fraud account. Sick to my stomach. I'm a bit queasy still writing this. Short story is in the subject line. At some point my communications with my loan officer were intercepted somehow (no hacking that I can find) by someone and they started impersonating multiple people from my bank, resulting in me wiring 200K to a criminal's account. I have notified all the banks involved and local police (no response yet) and submitted a report to IC3 (FBI site). But it seems like I'm all alone in trying to deal with this. Any advice would be most appreciated. Apologies if this is not the purview of this sub/r but I couldn't find anything better and have been on this group for some time. | ggvloiv | ggv1if6 | 1,608,791,269 | 1,608,777,885 | 16 | 15 | I am so so sorry that your experiencing this. I actually used to work in a wire room. First step is to contact your bank that you initiated the wire and explain everything that has happened. You should have a series of ABAs and or BICs this determines where the money goes and account number name and address make sure that you explain that in exact detail. They should be able to request a trace to track where the money is. There is a potential that it is stopped at an intermediatary bank due to suspicious activity depending on details. I cannot stress how important it is for you to act as fast as possible because once the money is gone from the account it is in there is very little chance of getting it back. I also recommend opening a police report too. | OP, it is now standard industry practice for title companies to explain at the beginning of a transaction that any changes to wire instructions must be confirmed by telephone. Can you tell if they had some warnings to this effect in your communications? | 1 | 13,384 | 1.066667 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cgsiy | i4chgqf | 1,649,712,941 | 1,649,713,211 | 224 | 1,407 | Nal but have some experience in child support in FL. You can and should get a free consultation from a lawyer. Right away. Also talk to them about filling bankruptcy after the divorce to get rid of all that debt. Credit card companies are greedy and you can probably get another one or a loan to pay for your lawyer. Document everything currently. Child support in FL is typically based on each parent's income and # of overnights spent at each parent's house. Any deviation from the guidelines / worksheets will need a good explanation. If the children spend more or even equal time at your house and he makes more, then he will owe you, unless he pays all their health insurance and child care or something like that. Those is all factored into the forms. you can look up all the forms online and fill them out to calculate who will owe who and how much if you assume # of overnights. Idk a lot about alimony so definitely ask about that but it seems like it would be based off of income again like child support. Good luck- and definitely get a free consultation ASAP! | You can't afford to not get a lawyer. Things will only get worse and make it harder as time goes on. Protect yourself and your child now. | 0 | 270 | 6.28125 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4chgqf | i4c57ps | 1,649,713,211 | 1,649,708,492 | 1,407 | 212 | You can't afford to not get a lawyer. Things will only get worse and make it harder as time goes on. Protect yourself and your child now. | There are red flags all over, but I think the best option for you IS to get advice from a lawyer, there are places were they will do free consults and give you some advice, you just need to look | 1 | 4,719 | 6.636792 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4c8ei6 | i4chgqf | 1,649,709,700 | 1,649,713,211 | 88 | 1,407 | I am not a lawyer. You should be able to call your county bar association and get some referrals for divorce lawyers. You might be able to cite hardship to waive the (usually nominal) fee. | You can't afford to not get a lawyer. Things will only get worse and make it harder as time goes on. Protect yourself and your child now. | 0 | 3,511 | 15.988636 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cfzze | i4chgqf | 1,649,712,629 | 1,649,713,211 | 81 | 1,407 | If you are being abused, it won’t be a bad idea to speak to someone at your local domestic violence shelter. They might be able to refer you to a lawyer. | You can't afford to not get a lawyer. Things will only get worse and make it harder as time goes on. Protect yourself and your child now. | 0 | 582 | 17.37037 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4chgqf | i4cf4fy | 1,649,713,211 | 1,649,712,283 | 1,407 | 23 | You can't afford to not get a lawyer. Things will only get worse and make it harder as time goes on. Protect yourself and your child now. | You 100% need a lawyer, and one who has lots of experience in Florida's family law courts. It sounds like this is going to get messy. If you don't have any personal referrals from someone you trust, the next best thing is to contact the Florida Bar Referral service. Some states offer a free consultation from those referrals, who, again in many states, have to be certified in such specialized areas of the law. Best of luck! | 1 | 928 | 61.173913 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cfx96 | i4chgqf | 1,649,712,600 | 1,649,713,211 | 24 | 1,407 | https://www.flcourts.org/Resources-Services/Office-of-Family-Courts/Self-Help-Information/Legal-Aid There are links on this website to help you find legal help. You may be able to get pro bono services, depending on your income and assets. | You can't afford to not get a lawyer. Things will only get worse and make it harder as time goes on. Protect yourself and your child now. | 0 | 611 | 58.625 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d5dfy | i4cgsiy | 1,649,723,434 | 1,649,712,941 | 825 | 224 | Under Section 61.16, Florida Statutes, attorney’s fees can be awarded in your divorce settlement or order. You can get your soon-to-be-ex-spouse to pay your divorce attorney’s fees when any of the following is true: Your spouse earns considerably more income than you; Your divorce attorney defends you against allegations made by your spouse; You hired an attorney to enforce an existing court order (e.g., when your spouse is not paying child support); Your spouse files frivolous or trivial motions to delay the divorce process or to intimidate you; and Your divorce case involves accusations of domestic violence. Because of this law in Florida many divorce attorneys will work with the low income party and force the other party to pay. See an attorney, don't assume that you can't afford one. | Nal but have some experience in child support in FL. You can and should get a free consultation from a lawyer. Right away. Also talk to them about filling bankruptcy after the divorce to get rid of all that debt. Credit card companies are greedy and you can probably get another one or a loan to pay for your lawyer. Document everything currently. Child support in FL is typically based on each parent's income and # of overnights spent at each parent's house. Any deviation from the guidelines / worksheets will need a good explanation. If the children spend more or even equal time at your house and he makes more, then he will owe you, unless he pays all their health insurance and child care or something like that. Those is all factored into the forms. you can look up all the forms online and fill them out to calculate who will owe who and how much if you assume # of overnights. Idk a lot about alimony so definitely ask about that but it seems like it would be based off of income again like child support. Good luck- and definitely get a free consultation ASAP! | 1 | 10,493 | 3.683036 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4c57ps | i4d5dfy | 1,649,708,492 | 1,649,723,434 | 212 | 825 | There are red flags all over, but I think the best option for you IS to get advice from a lawyer, there are places were they will do free consults and give you some advice, you just need to look | Under Section 61.16, Florida Statutes, attorney’s fees can be awarded in your divorce settlement or order. You can get your soon-to-be-ex-spouse to pay your divorce attorney’s fees when any of the following is true: Your spouse earns considerably more income than you; Your divorce attorney defends you against allegations made by your spouse; You hired an attorney to enforce an existing court order (e.g., when your spouse is not paying child support); Your spouse files frivolous or trivial motions to delay the divorce process or to intimidate you; and Your divorce case involves accusations of domestic violence. Because of this law in Florida many divorce attorneys will work with the low income party and force the other party to pay. See an attorney, don't assume that you can't afford one. | 0 | 14,942 | 3.891509 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d5dfy | i4cuiwb | 1,649,723,434 | 1,649,718,616 | 825 | 87 | Under Section 61.16, Florida Statutes, attorney’s fees can be awarded in your divorce settlement or order. You can get your soon-to-be-ex-spouse to pay your divorce attorney’s fees when any of the following is true: Your spouse earns considerably more income than you; Your divorce attorney defends you against allegations made by your spouse; You hired an attorney to enforce an existing court order (e.g., when your spouse is not paying child support); Your spouse files frivolous or trivial motions to delay the divorce process or to intimidate you; and Your divorce case involves accusations of domestic violence. Because of this law in Florida many divorce attorneys will work with the low income party and force the other party to pay. See an attorney, don't assume that you can't afford one. | Start a written diary with dated entries detailing everything he is doing regarding any form of abuse, especially financial abuse. Don't just write off what happened in the past - create entries with a current date detailing things that have happened in the past with as much detail as possible, including the date and time of the events. *Get a lawyer.* Take out a loan, borrow money, sell something. Whatever you have to do, get a lawyer. Talk to your close family and friends about this, if he puts a cover on in front of your close social circle they probably don't know what is going on behind the curtain. Don't smear him, but do get ahead of the story. He will come after you through your social network if he can. | 1 | 4,818 | 9.482759 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d5dfy | i4c8ei6 | 1,649,723,434 | 1,649,709,700 | 825 | 88 | Under Section 61.16, Florida Statutes, attorney’s fees can be awarded in your divorce settlement or order. You can get your soon-to-be-ex-spouse to pay your divorce attorney’s fees when any of the following is true: Your spouse earns considerably more income than you; Your divorce attorney defends you against allegations made by your spouse; You hired an attorney to enforce an existing court order (e.g., when your spouse is not paying child support); Your spouse files frivolous or trivial motions to delay the divorce process or to intimidate you; and Your divorce case involves accusations of domestic violence. Because of this law in Florida many divorce attorneys will work with the low income party and force the other party to pay. See an attorney, don't assume that you can't afford one. | I am not a lawyer. You should be able to call your county bar association and get some referrals for divorce lawyers. You might be able to cite hardship to waive the (usually nominal) fee. | 1 | 13,734 | 9.375 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cfzze | i4d5dfy | 1,649,712,629 | 1,649,723,434 | 81 | 825 | If you are being abused, it won’t be a bad idea to speak to someone at your local domestic violence shelter. They might be able to refer you to a lawyer. | Under Section 61.16, Florida Statutes, attorney’s fees can be awarded in your divorce settlement or order. You can get your soon-to-be-ex-spouse to pay your divorce attorney’s fees when any of the following is true: Your spouse earns considerably more income than you; Your divorce attorney defends you against allegations made by your spouse; You hired an attorney to enforce an existing court order (e.g., when your spouse is not paying child support); Your spouse files frivolous or trivial motions to delay the divorce process or to intimidate you; and Your divorce case involves accusations of domestic violence. Because of this law in Florida many divorce attorneys will work with the low income party and force the other party to pay. See an attorney, don't assume that you can't afford one. | 0 | 10,805 | 10.185185 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d5dfy | i4cp355 | 1,649,723,434 | 1,649,716,313 | 825 | 26 | Under Section 61.16, Florida Statutes, attorney’s fees can be awarded in your divorce settlement or order. You can get your soon-to-be-ex-spouse to pay your divorce attorney’s fees when any of the following is true: Your spouse earns considerably more income than you; Your divorce attorney defends you against allegations made by your spouse; You hired an attorney to enforce an existing court order (e.g., when your spouse is not paying child support); Your spouse files frivolous or trivial motions to delay the divorce process or to intimidate you; and Your divorce case involves accusations of domestic violence. Because of this law in Florida many divorce attorneys will work with the low income party and force the other party to pay. See an attorney, don't assume that you can't afford one. | You can always ask the divorce lawyers for a free consultation. I think your husband has a drug or gambling addiction also. | 1 | 7,121 | 31.730769 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cf4fy | i4d5dfy | 1,649,712,283 | 1,649,723,434 | 23 | 825 | You 100% need a lawyer, and one who has lots of experience in Florida's family law courts. It sounds like this is going to get messy. If you don't have any personal referrals from someone you trust, the next best thing is to contact the Florida Bar Referral service. Some states offer a free consultation from those referrals, who, again in many states, have to be certified in such specialized areas of the law. Best of luck! | Under Section 61.16, Florida Statutes, attorney’s fees can be awarded in your divorce settlement or order. You can get your soon-to-be-ex-spouse to pay your divorce attorney’s fees when any of the following is true: Your spouse earns considerably more income than you; Your divorce attorney defends you against allegations made by your spouse; You hired an attorney to enforce an existing court order (e.g., when your spouse is not paying child support); Your spouse files frivolous or trivial motions to delay the divorce process or to intimidate you; and Your divorce case involves accusations of domestic violence. Because of this law in Florida many divorce attorneys will work with the low income party and force the other party to pay. See an attorney, don't assume that you can't afford one. | 0 | 11,151 | 35.869565 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cfx96 | i4d5dfy | 1,649,712,600 | 1,649,723,434 | 24 | 825 | https://www.flcourts.org/Resources-Services/Office-of-Family-Courts/Self-Help-Information/Legal-Aid There are links on this website to help you find legal help. You may be able to get pro bono services, depending on your income and assets. | Under Section 61.16, Florida Statutes, attorney’s fees can be awarded in your divorce settlement or order. You can get your soon-to-be-ex-spouse to pay your divorce attorney’s fees when any of the following is true: Your spouse earns considerably more income than you; Your divorce attorney defends you against allegations made by your spouse; You hired an attorney to enforce an existing court order (e.g., when your spouse is not paying child support); Your spouse files frivolous or trivial motions to delay the divorce process or to intimidate you; and Your divorce case involves accusations of domestic violence. Because of this law in Florida many divorce attorneys will work with the low income party and force the other party to pay. See an attorney, don't assume that you can't afford one. | 0 | 10,834 | 34.375 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d5dfy | i4cxvtl | 1,649,723,434 | 1,649,720,082 | 825 | 14 | Under Section 61.16, Florida Statutes, attorney’s fees can be awarded in your divorce settlement or order. You can get your soon-to-be-ex-spouse to pay your divorce attorney’s fees when any of the following is true: Your spouse earns considerably more income than you; Your divorce attorney defends you against allegations made by your spouse; You hired an attorney to enforce an existing court order (e.g., when your spouse is not paying child support); Your spouse files frivolous or trivial motions to delay the divorce process or to intimidate you; and Your divorce case involves accusations of domestic violence. Because of this law in Florida many divorce attorneys will work with the low income party and force the other party to pay. See an attorney, don't assume that you can't afford one. | OP Contact legal aid, or the state bar association. Tell them your situation and ask for references to lawyers who can do pro bono work in the area of divorce and family law. This way you can get a lawyer who will represent you, give you sound legal advice and who will, as part of the divorce settlement, ask for the legal fees to be added in. | 1 | 3,352 | 58.928571 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cvt4m | i4d5dfy | 1,649,719,175 | 1,649,723,434 | 9 | 825 | Here is a list of firms that offer legal aid in Pinellas County: https://www.justia.com/lawyers/florida/pinellas-county/legal-aid-and-pro-bono-services?amp Looks like there’s a good amount that have divorce listed. I’d just go right down the list asking about free consultations, rates, payment plans, etc. It’s impossible for any of us to determine what the outcome of this might be as far as custody, alimony (although if he’s working and earning more than you it’s highly unlikely you would owe him spousal support), child support, or separation of assets goes, but I honestly don’t think you should let that sway you from going through with this. It sounds like he is holding you back and isn’t pulling his weight financially, emotionally, or physically. Even if this is a hard and long road, it’s better to spend a couple years in contention then another 15 tied down to someone toxic. I hope this goes well for you! | Under Section 61.16, Florida Statutes, attorney’s fees can be awarded in your divorce settlement or order. You can get your soon-to-be-ex-spouse to pay your divorce attorney’s fees when any of the following is true: Your spouse earns considerably more income than you; Your divorce attorney defends you against allegations made by your spouse; You hired an attorney to enforce an existing court order (e.g., when your spouse is not paying child support); Your spouse files frivolous or trivial motions to delay the divorce process or to intimidate you; and Your divorce case involves accusations of domestic violence. Because of this law in Florida many divorce attorneys will work with the low income party and force the other party to pay. See an attorney, don't assume that you can't afford one. | 0 | 4,259 | 91.666667 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d5dfy | i4cqtgw | 1,649,723,434 | 1,649,717,035 | 825 | 5 | Under Section 61.16, Florida Statutes, attorney’s fees can be awarded in your divorce settlement or order. You can get your soon-to-be-ex-spouse to pay your divorce attorney’s fees when any of the following is true: Your spouse earns considerably more income than you; Your divorce attorney defends you against allegations made by your spouse; You hired an attorney to enforce an existing court order (e.g., when your spouse is not paying child support); Your spouse files frivolous or trivial motions to delay the divorce process or to intimidate you; and Your divorce case involves accusations of domestic violence. Because of this law in Florida many divorce attorneys will work with the low income party and force the other party to pay. See an attorney, don't assume that you can't afford one. | You NEED a lawyer and a good one. Like sell a kidney, take a loan, cut bills, whatever. | 1 | 6,399 | 165 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d735p | i4cgsiy | 1,649,724,200 | 1,649,712,941 | 320 | 224 | From this point onward correspond via text and or email. Keep records of EVERYTHING, stay off social media, and get a lawyer. Also, stop paying his bills if it helps. He has an income and he can pay his own way. | Nal but have some experience in child support in FL. You can and should get a free consultation from a lawyer. Right away. Also talk to them about filling bankruptcy after the divorce to get rid of all that debt. Credit card companies are greedy and you can probably get another one or a loan to pay for your lawyer. Document everything currently. Child support in FL is typically based on each parent's income and # of overnights spent at each parent's house. Any deviation from the guidelines / worksheets will need a good explanation. If the children spend more or even equal time at your house and he makes more, then he will owe you, unless he pays all their health insurance and child care or something like that. Those is all factored into the forms. you can look up all the forms online and fill them out to calculate who will owe who and how much if you assume # of overnights. Idk a lot about alimony so definitely ask about that but it seems like it would be based off of income again like child support. Good luck- and definitely get a free consultation ASAP! | 1 | 11,259 | 1.428571 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d735p | i4c57ps | 1,649,724,200 | 1,649,708,492 | 320 | 212 | From this point onward correspond via text and or email. Keep records of EVERYTHING, stay off social media, and get a lawyer. Also, stop paying his bills if it helps. He has an income and he can pay his own way. | There are red flags all over, but I think the best option for you IS to get advice from a lawyer, there are places were they will do free consults and give you some advice, you just need to look | 1 | 15,708 | 1.509434 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d735p | i4cuiwb | 1,649,724,200 | 1,649,718,616 | 320 | 87 | From this point onward correspond via text and or email. Keep records of EVERYTHING, stay off social media, and get a lawyer. Also, stop paying his bills if it helps. He has an income and he can pay his own way. | Start a written diary with dated entries detailing everything he is doing regarding any form of abuse, especially financial abuse. Don't just write off what happened in the past - create entries with a current date detailing things that have happened in the past with as much detail as possible, including the date and time of the events. *Get a lawyer.* Take out a loan, borrow money, sell something. Whatever you have to do, get a lawyer. Talk to your close family and friends about this, if he puts a cover on in front of your close social circle they probably don't know what is going on behind the curtain. Don't smear him, but do get ahead of the story. He will come after you through your social network if he can. | 1 | 5,584 | 3.678161 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d735p | i4c8ei6 | 1,649,724,200 | 1,649,709,700 | 320 | 88 | From this point onward correspond via text and or email. Keep records of EVERYTHING, stay off social media, and get a lawyer. Also, stop paying his bills if it helps. He has an income and he can pay his own way. | I am not a lawyer. You should be able to call your county bar association and get some referrals for divorce lawyers. You might be able to cite hardship to waive the (usually nominal) fee. | 1 | 14,500 | 3.636364 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d735p | i4cfzze | 1,649,724,200 | 1,649,712,629 | 320 | 81 | From this point onward correspond via text and or email. Keep records of EVERYTHING, stay off social media, and get a lawyer. Also, stop paying his bills if it helps. He has an income and he can pay his own way. | If you are being abused, it won’t be a bad idea to speak to someone at your local domestic violence shelter. They might be able to refer you to a lawyer. | 1 | 11,571 | 3.950617 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d735p | i4cp355 | 1,649,724,200 | 1,649,716,313 | 320 | 26 | From this point onward correspond via text and or email. Keep records of EVERYTHING, stay off social media, and get a lawyer. Also, stop paying his bills if it helps. He has an income and he can pay his own way. | You can always ask the divorce lawyers for a free consultation. I think your husband has a drug or gambling addiction also. | 1 | 7,887 | 12.307692 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cf4fy | i4d735p | 1,649,712,283 | 1,649,724,200 | 23 | 320 | You 100% need a lawyer, and one who has lots of experience in Florida's family law courts. It sounds like this is going to get messy. If you don't have any personal referrals from someone you trust, the next best thing is to contact the Florida Bar Referral service. Some states offer a free consultation from those referrals, who, again in many states, have to be certified in such specialized areas of the law. Best of luck! | From this point onward correspond via text and or email. Keep records of EVERYTHING, stay off social media, and get a lawyer. Also, stop paying his bills if it helps. He has an income and he can pay his own way. | 0 | 11,917 | 13.913043 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cfx96 | i4d735p | 1,649,712,600 | 1,649,724,200 | 24 | 320 | https://www.flcourts.org/Resources-Services/Office-of-Family-Courts/Self-Help-Information/Legal-Aid There are links on this website to help you find legal help. You may be able to get pro bono services, depending on your income and assets. | From this point onward correspond via text and or email. Keep records of EVERYTHING, stay off social media, and get a lawyer. Also, stop paying his bills if it helps. He has an income and he can pay his own way. | 0 | 11,600 | 13.333333 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d735p | i4cxvtl | 1,649,724,200 | 1,649,720,082 | 320 | 14 | From this point onward correspond via text and or email. Keep records of EVERYTHING, stay off social media, and get a lawyer. Also, stop paying his bills if it helps. He has an income and he can pay his own way. | OP Contact legal aid, or the state bar association. Tell them your situation and ask for references to lawyers who can do pro bono work in the area of divorce and family law. This way you can get a lawyer who will represent you, give you sound legal advice and who will, as part of the divorce settlement, ask for the legal fees to be added in. | 1 | 4,118 | 22.857143 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cvt4m | i4d735p | 1,649,719,175 | 1,649,724,200 | 9 | 320 | Here is a list of firms that offer legal aid in Pinellas County: https://www.justia.com/lawyers/florida/pinellas-county/legal-aid-and-pro-bono-services?amp Looks like there’s a good amount that have divorce listed. I’d just go right down the list asking about free consultations, rates, payment plans, etc. It’s impossible for any of us to determine what the outcome of this might be as far as custody, alimony (although if he’s working and earning more than you it’s highly unlikely you would owe him spousal support), child support, or separation of assets goes, but I honestly don’t think you should let that sway you from going through with this. It sounds like he is holding you back and isn’t pulling his weight financially, emotionally, or physically. Even if this is a hard and long road, it’s better to spend a couple years in contention then another 15 tied down to someone toxic. I hope this goes well for you! | From this point onward correspond via text and or email. Keep records of EVERYTHING, stay off social media, and get a lawyer. Also, stop paying his bills if it helps. He has an income and he can pay his own way. | 0 | 5,025 | 35.555556 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d735p | i4cqtgw | 1,649,724,200 | 1,649,717,035 | 320 | 5 | From this point onward correspond via text and or email. Keep records of EVERYTHING, stay off social media, and get a lawyer. Also, stop paying his bills if it helps. He has an income and he can pay his own way. | You NEED a lawyer and a good one. Like sell a kidney, take a loan, cut bills, whatever. | 1 | 7,165 | 64 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d735p | i4d6feu | 1,649,724,200 | 1,649,723,904 | 320 | 5 | From this point onward correspond via text and or email. Keep records of EVERYTHING, stay off social media, and get a lawyer. Also, stop paying his bills if it helps. He has an income and he can pay his own way. | First of all, a lawyer is your best bet. My best advice to you would be to borrow money if you can, sell unnecessary house items etc to get the money for a lawyer. If your wedding rings are real, sell those. If you came into the marriage with the condo and have paid the bills, it's very likely he will not get any of that. Stop paying ANYTHING of his, including his insurance. If you file for separation via a lawyer and you kick him out, you can likely get assistance from the state for groceries and other necessities. Child custody will be addressed in court with the judge and chances are that if he makes more money than you, he will have to pay YOU child support. And he will NOT be able to take your child away. That is an empty threat. Neither of you will likely have to pay alimony, but seeing as he makes more, if either of you were to have to pay it would be him. Alimony isn't often given if you both work. Best of luck. | 1 | 296 | 64 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cgsiy | i4c57ps | 1,649,712,941 | 1,649,708,492 | 224 | 212 | Nal but have some experience in child support in FL. You can and should get a free consultation from a lawyer. Right away. Also talk to them about filling bankruptcy after the divorce to get rid of all that debt. Credit card companies are greedy and you can probably get another one or a loan to pay for your lawyer. Document everything currently. Child support in FL is typically based on each parent's income and # of overnights spent at each parent's house. Any deviation from the guidelines / worksheets will need a good explanation. If the children spend more or even equal time at your house and he makes more, then he will owe you, unless he pays all their health insurance and child care or something like that. Those is all factored into the forms. you can look up all the forms online and fill them out to calculate who will owe who and how much if you assume # of overnights. Idk a lot about alimony so definitely ask about that but it seems like it would be based off of income again like child support. Good luck- and definitely get a free consultation ASAP! | There are red flags all over, but I think the best option for you IS to get advice from a lawyer, there are places were they will do free consults and give you some advice, you just need to look | 1 | 4,449 | 1.056604 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4c8ei6 | i4cgsiy | 1,649,709,700 | 1,649,712,941 | 88 | 224 | I am not a lawyer. You should be able to call your county bar association and get some referrals for divorce lawyers. You might be able to cite hardship to waive the (usually nominal) fee. | Nal but have some experience in child support in FL. You can and should get a free consultation from a lawyer. Right away. Also talk to them about filling bankruptcy after the divorce to get rid of all that debt. Credit card companies are greedy and you can probably get another one or a loan to pay for your lawyer. Document everything currently. Child support in FL is typically based on each parent's income and # of overnights spent at each parent's house. Any deviation from the guidelines / worksheets will need a good explanation. If the children spend more or even equal time at your house and he makes more, then he will owe you, unless he pays all their health insurance and child care or something like that. Those is all factored into the forms. you can look up all the forms online and fill them out to calculate who will owe who and how much if you assume # of overnights. Idk a lot about alimony so definitely ask about that but it seems like it would be based off of income again like child support. Good luck- and definitely get a free consultation ASAP! | 0 | 3,241 | 2.545455 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cgsiy | i4cfzze | 1,649,712,941 | 1,649,712,629 | 224 | 81 | Nal but have some experience in child support in FL. You can and should get a free consultation from a lawyer. Right away. Also talk to them about filling bankruptcy after the divorce to get rid of all that debt. Credit card companies are greedy and you can probably get another one or a loan to pay for your lawyer. Document everything currently. Child support in FL is typically based on each parent's income and # of overnights spent at each parent's house. Any deviation from the guidelines / worksheets will need a good explanation. If the children spend more or even equal time at your house and he makes more, then he will owe you, unless he pays all their health insurance and child care or something like that. Those is all factored into the forms. you can look up all the forms online and fill them out to calculate who will owe who and how much if you assume # of overnights. Idk a lot about alimony so definitely ask about that but it seems like it would be based off of income again like child support. Good luck- and definitely get a free consultation ASAP! | If you are being abused, it won’t be a bad idea to speak to someone at your local domestic violence shelter. They might be able to refer you to a lawyer. | 1 | 312 | 2.765432 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cgsiy | i4cf4fy | 1,649,712,941 | 1,649,712,283 | 224 | 23 | Nal but have some experience in child support in FL. You can and should get a free consultation from a lawyer. Right away. Also talk to them about filling bankruptcy after the divorce to get rid of all that debt. Credit card companies are greedy and you can probably get another one or a loan to pay for your lawyer. Document everything currently. Child support in FL is typically based on each parent's income and # of overnights spent at each parent's house. Any deviation from the guidelines / worksheets will need a good explanation. If the children spend more or even equal time at your house and he makes more, then he will owe you, unless he pays all their health insurance and child care or something like that. Those is all factored into the forms. you can look up all the forms online and fill them out to calculate who will owe who and how much if you assume # of overnights. Idk a lot about alimony so definitely ask about that but it seems like it would be based off of income again like child support. Good luck- and definitely get a free consultation ASAP! | You 100% need a lawyer, and one who has lots of experience in Florida's family law courts. It sounds like this is going to get messy. If you don't have any personal referrals from someone you trust, the next best thing is to contact the Florida Bar Referral service. Some states offer a free consultation from those referrals, who, again in many states, have to be certified in such specialized areas of the law. Best of luck! | 1 | 658 | 9.73913 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cgsiy | i4cfx96 | 1,649,712,941 | 1,649,712,600 | 224 | 24 | Nal but have some experience in child support in FL. You can and should get a free consultation from a lawyer. Right away. Also talk to them about filling bankruptcy after the divorce to get rid of all that debt. Credit card companies are greedy and you can probably get another one or a loan to pay for your lawyer. Document everything currently. Child support in FL is typically based on each parent's income and # of overnights spent at each parent's house. Any deviation from the guidelines / worksheets will need a good explanation. If the children spend more or even equal time at your house and he makes more, then he will owe you, unless he pays all their health insurance and child care or something like that. Those is all factored into the forms. you can look up all the forms online and fill them out to calculate who will owe who and how much if you assume # of overnights. Idk a lot about alimony so definitely ask about that but it seems like it would be based off of income again like child support. Good luck- and definitely get a free consultation ASAP! | https://www.flcourts.org/Resources-Services/Office-of-Family-Courts/Self-Help-Information/Legal-Aid There are links on this website to help you find legal help. You may be able to get pro bono services, depending on your income and assets. | 1 | 341 | 9.333333 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cfzze | i4cuiwb | 1,649,712,629 | 1,649,718,616 | 81 | 87 | If you are being abused, it won’t be a bad idea to speak to someone at your local domestic violence shelter. They might be able to refer you to a lawyer. | Start a written diary with dated entries detailing everything he is doing regarding any form of abuse, especially financial abuse. Don't just write off what happened in the past - create entries with a current date detailing things that have happened in the past with as much detail as possible, including the date and time of the events. *Get a lawyer.* Take out a loan, borrow money, sell something. Whatever you have to do, get a lawyer. Talk to your close family and friends about this, if he puts a cover on in front of your close social circle they probably don't know what is going on behind the curtain. Don't smear him, but do get ahead of the story. He will come after you through your social network if he can. | 0 | 5,987 | 1.074074 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cp355 | i4cuiwb | 1,649,716,313 | 1,649,718,616 | 26 | 87 | You can always ask the divorce lawyers for a free consultation. I think your husband has a drug or gambling addiction also. | Start a written diary with dated entries detailing everything he is doing regarding any form of abuse, especially financial abuse. Don't just write off what happened in the past - create entries with a current date detailing things that have happened in the past with as much detail as possible, including the date and time of the events. *Get a lawyer.* Take out a loan, borrow money, sell something. Whatever you have to do, get a lawyer. Talk to your close family and friends about this, if he puts a cover on in front of your close social circle they probably don't know what is going on behind the curtain. Don't smear him, but do get ahead of the story. He will come after you through your social network if he can. | 0 | 2,303 | 3.346154 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cf4fy | i4cuiwb | 1,649,712,283 | 1,649,718,616 | 23 | 87 | You 100% need a lawyer, and one who has lots of experience in Florida's family law courts. It sounds like this is going to get messy. If you don't have any personal referrals from someone you trust, the next best thing is to contact the Florida Bar Referral service. Some states offer a free consultation from those referrals, who, again in many states, have to be certified in such specialized areas of the law. Best of luck! | Start a written diary with dated entries detailing everything he is doing regarding any form of abuse, especially financial abuse. Don't just write off what happened in the past - create entries with a current date detailing things that have happened in the past with as much detail as possible, including the date and time of the events. *Get a lawyer.* Take out a loan, borrow money, sell something. Whatever you have to do, get a lawyer. Talk to your close family and friends about this, if he puts a cover on in front of your close social circle they probably don't know what is going on behind the curtain. Don't smear him, but do get ahead of the story. He will come after you through your social network if he can. | 0 | 6,333 | 3.782609 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cfx96 | i4cuiwb | 1,649,712,600 | 1,649,718,616 | 24 | 87 | https://www.flcourts.org/Resources-Services/Office-of-Family-Courts/Self-Help-Information/Legal-Aid There are links on this website to help you find legal help. You may be able to get pro bono services, depending on your income and assets. | Start a written diary with dated entries detailing everything he is doing regarding any form of abuse, especially financial abuse. Don't just write off what happened in the past - create entries with a current date detailing things that have happened in the past with as much detail as possible, including the date and time of the events. *Get a lawyer.* Take out a loan, borrow money, sell something. Whatever you have to do, get a lawyer. Talk to your close family and friends about this, if he puts a cover on in front of your close social circle they probably don't know what is going on behind the curtain. Don't smear him, but do get ahead of the story. He will come after you through your social network if he can. | 0 | 6,016 | 3.625 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cqtgw | i4cuiwb | 1,649,717,035 | 1,649,718,616 | 5 | 87 | You NEED a lawyer and a good one. Like sell a kidney, take a loan, cut bills, whatever. | Start a written diary with dated entries detailing everything he is doing regarding any form of abuse, especially financial abuse. Don't just write off what happened in the past - create entries with a current date detailing things that have happened in the past with as much detail as possible, including the date and time of the events. *Get a lawyer.* Take out a loan, borrow money, sell something. Whatever you have to do, get a lawyer. Talk to your close family and friends about this, if he puts a cover on in front of your close social circle they probably don't know what is going on behind the curtain. Don't smear him, but do get ahead of the story. He will come after you through your social network if he can. | 0 | 1,581 | 17.4 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cfzze | i4cf4fy | 1,649,712,629 | 1,649,712,283 | 81 | 23 | If you are being abused, it won’t be a bad idea to speak to someone at your local domestic violence shelter. They might be able to refer you to a lawyer. | You 100% need a lawyer, and one who has lots of experience in Florida's family law courts. It sounds like this is going to get messy. If you don't have any personal referrals from someone you trust, the next best thing is to contact the Florida Bar Referral service. Some states offer a free consultation from those referrals, who, again in many states, have to be certified in such specialized areas of the law. Best of luck! | 1 | 346 | 3.521739 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cfx96 | i4cfzze | 1,649,712,600 | 1,649,712,629 | 24 | 81 | https://www.flcourts.org/Resources-Services/Office-of-Family-Courts/Self-Help-Information/Legal-Aid There are links on this website to help you find legal help. You may be able to get pro bono services, depending on your income and assets. | If you are being abused, it won’t be a bad idea to speak to someone at your local domestic violence shelter. They might be able to refer you to a lawyer. | 0 | 29 | 3.375 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4dcoig | i4cp355 | 1,649,726,658 | 1,649,716,313 | 30 | 26 | Stop paying all of the bills! Do not pay another penny for his shit! He can pay his own car insurance, car payment, mobile phone, etc. You can't afford not to have an attorney. Borrow the money from your family. I have a feeling that they'll take up a collection to get this dick out of your life. Property owned before marriage, like your condo, is usually separate property. However, it will depend both on the laws of your state and whether you used marital funds for payments and/or improvements. Don't listen to a word that useless prick says about taking your child, making you pay alimony, child support, etc. He doesn't have a clue what he is talking about. Just Grey Rock him when he starts ranting. I doubt very seriously that a leeching loser who makes his wife pay for everything made reservations, put down deposits and/or did any thinking at all about your daughter's birthday party. Do not engage in any more of his bullshit. Protect yourself and your child. Get him out of your house and your life as soon as possible, and cut him off financially. He has a job. He can pay his own bills, buy his own food, do his own laundry etc. Best of luck to you. | You can always ask the divorce lawyers for a free consultation. I think your husband has a drug or gambling addiction also. | 1 | 10,345 | 1.153846 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cf4fy | i4dcoig | 1,649,712,283 | 1,649,726,658 | 23 | 30 | You 100% need a lawyer, and one who has lots of experience in Florida's family law courts. It sounds like this is going to get messy. If you don't have any personal referrals from someone you trust, the next best thing is to contact the Florida Bar Referral service. Some states offer a free consultation from those referrals, who, again in many states, have to be certified in such specialized areas of the law. Best of luck! | Stop paying all of the bills! Do not pay another penny for his shit! He can pay his own car insurance, car payment, mobile phone, etc. You can't afford not to have an attorney. Borrow the money from your family. I have a feeling that they'll take up a collection to get this dick out of your life. Property owned before marriage, like your condo, is usually separate property. However, it will depend both on the laws of your state and whether you used marital funds for payments and/or improvements. Don't listen to a word that useless prick says about taking your child, making you pay alimony, child support, etc. He doesn't have a clue what he is talking about. Just Grey Rock him when he starts ranting. I doubt very seriously that a leeching loser who makes his wife pay for everything made reservations, put down deposits and/or did any thinking at all about your daughter's birthday party. Do not engage in any more of his bullshit. Protect yourself and your child. Get him out of your house and your life as soon as possible, and cut him off financially. He has a job. He can pay his own bills, buy his own food, do his own laundry etc. Best of luck to you. | 0 | 14,375 | 1.304348 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cfx96 | i4dcoig | 1,649,712,600 | 1,649,726,658 | 24 | 30 | https://www.flcourts.org/Resources-Services/Office-of-Family-Courts/Self-Help-Information/Legal-Aid There are links on this website to help you find legal help. You may be able to get pro bono services, depending on your income and assets. | Stop paying all of the bills! Do not pay another penny for his shit! He can pay his own car insurance, car payment, mobile phone, etc. You can't afford not to have an attorney. Borrow the money from your family. I have a feeling that they'll take up a collection to get this dick out of your life. Property owned before marriage, like your condo, is usually separate property. However, it will depend both on the laws of your state and whether you used marital funds for payments and/or improvements. Don't listen to a word that useless prick says about taking your child, making you pay alimony, child support, etc. He doesn't have a clue what he is talking about. Just Grey Rock him when he starts ranting. I doubt very seriously that a leeching loser who makes his wife pay for everything made reservations, put down deposits and/or did any thinking at all about your daughter's birthday party. Do not engage in any more of his bullshit. Protect yourself and your child. Get him out of your house and your life as soon as possible, and cut him off financially. He has a job. He can pay his own bills, buy his own food, do his own laundry etc. Best of luck to you. | 0 | 14,058 | 1.25 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cxvtl | i4dcoig | 1,649,720,082 | 1,649,726,658 | 14 | 30 | OP Contact legal aid, or the state bar association. Tell them your situation and ask for references to lawyers who can do pro bono work in the area of divorce and family law. This way you can get a lawyer who will represent you, give you sound legal advice and who will, as part of the divorce settlement, ask for the legal fees to be added in. | Stop paying all of the bills! Do not pay another penny for his shit! He can pay his own car insurance, car payment, mobile phone, etc. You can't afford not to have an attorney. Borrow the money from your family. I have a feeling that they'll take up a collection to get this dick out of your life. Property owned before marriage, like your condo, is usually separate property. However, it will depend both on the laws of your state and whether you used marital funds for payments and/or improvements. Don't listen to a word that useless prick says about taking your child, making you pay alimony, child support, etc. He doesn't have a clue what he is talking about. Just Grey Rock him when he starts ranting. I doubt very seriously that a leeching loser who makes his wife pay for everything made reservations, put down deposits and/or did any thinking at all about your daughter's birthday party. Do not engage in any more of his bullshit. Protect yourself and your child. Get him out of your house and your life as soon as possible, and cut him off financially. He has a job. He can pay his own bills, buy his own food, do his own laundry etc. Best of luck to you. | 0 | 6,576 | 2.142857 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4dcoig | i4cvt4m | 1,649,726,658 | 1,649,719,175 | 30 | 9 | Stop paying all of the bills! Do not pay another penny for his shit! He can pay his own car insurance, car payment, mobile phone, etc. You can't afford not to have an attorney. Borrow the money from your family. I have a feeling that they'll take up a collection to get this dick out of your life. Property owned before marriage, like your condo, is usually separate property. However, it will depend both on the laws of your state and whether you used marital funds for payments and/or improvements. Don't listen to a word that useless prick says about taking your child, making you pay alimony, child support, etc. He doesn't have a clue what he is talking about. Just Grey Rock him when he starts ranting. I doubt very seriously that a leeching loser who makes his wife pay for everything made reservations, put down deposits and/or did any thinking at all about your daughter's birthday party. Do not engage in any more of his bullshit. Protect yourself and your child. Get him out of your house and your life as soon as possible, and cut him off financially. He has a job. He can pay his own bills, buy his own food, do his own laundry etc. Best of luck to you. | Here is a list of firms that offer legal aid in Pinellas County: https://www.justia.com/lawyers/florida/pinellas-county/legal-aid-and-pro-bono-services?amp Looks like there’s a good amount that have divorce listed. I’d just go right down the list asking about free consultations, rates, payment plans, etc. It’s impossible for any of us to determine what the outcome of this might be as far as custody, alimony (although if he’s working and earning more than you it’s highly unlikely you would owe him spousal support), child support, or separation of assets goes, but I honestly don’t think you should let that sway you from going through with this. It sounds like he is holding you back and isn’t pulling his weight financially, emotionally, or physically. Even if this is a hard and long road, it’s better to spend a couple years in contention then another 15 tied down to someone toxic. I hope this goes well for you! | 1 | 7,483 | 3.333333 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d8ind | i4dcoig | 1,649,724,837 | 1,649,726,658 | 6 | 30 | Step number 1 free up some money by not paying for his stuff anymore, text him a message stating that you cannot pay his car insurance anymore, effective immediately so that he gets the message that he has to pay it himself and you have the proof that you've informed him, stop lending him money, you had the condo before you met him, he cant take it from you , worse case scenario he can get half the appreciation but that will probably offset by his share of the common debts. I can't stress this to you enough, stop allowing him to manipulate you financially, and don't be scared of divorce, without him to drag you down into debt , you'll probably find out that your income will increase Step 2 speak to a couple of lawyers, he earns more than you, so chances are he will end up paying you, he can't 'take' your child, there will be shared custody. | Stop paying all of the bills! Do not pay another penny for his shit! He can pay his own car insurance, car payment, mobile phone, etc. You can't afford not to have an attorney. Borrow the money from your family. I have a feeling that they'll take up a collection to get this dick out of your life. Property owned before marriage, like your condo, is usually separate property. However, it will depend both on the laws of your state and whether you used marital funds for payments and/or improvements. Don't listen to a word that useless prick says about taking your child, making you pay alimony, child support, etc. He doesn't have a clue what he is talking about. Just Grey Rock him when he starts ranting. I doubt very seriously that a leeching loser who makes his wife pay for everything made reservations, put down deposits and/or did any thinking at all about your daughter's birthday party. Do not engage in any more of his bullshit. Protect yourself and your child. Get him out of your house and your life as soon as possible, and cut him off financially. He has a job. He can pay his own bills, buy his own food, do his own laundry etc. Best of luck to you. | 0 | 1,821 | 5 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4dcoig | i4cqtgw | 1,649,726,658 | 1,649,717,035 | 30 | 5 | Stop paying all of the bills! Do not pay another penny for his shit! He can pay his own car insurance, car payment, mobile phone, etc. You can't afford not to have an attorney. Borrow the money from your family. I have a feeling that they'll take up a collection to get this dick out of your life. Property owned before marriage, like your condo, is usually separate property. However, it will depend both on the laws of your state and whether you used marital funds for payments and/or improvements. Don't listen to a word that useless prick says about taking your child, making you pay alimony, child support, etc. He doesn't have a clue what he is talking about. Just Grey Rock him when he starts ranting. I doubt very seriously that a leeching loser who makes his wife pay for everything made reservations, put down deposits and/or did any thinking at all about your daughter's birthday party. Do not engage in any more of his bullshit. Protect yourself and your child. Get him out of your house and your life as soon as possible, and cut him off financially. He has a job. He can pay his own bills, buy his own food, do his own laundry etc. Best of luck to you. | You NEED a lawyer and a good one. Like sell a kidney, take a loan, cut bills, whatever. | 1 | 9,623 | 6 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4dcoig | i4d6feu | 1,649,726,658 | 1,649,723,904 | 30 | 5 | Stop paying all of the bills! Do not pay another penny for his shit! He can pay his own car insurance, car payment, mobile phone, etc. You can't afford not to have an attorney. Borrow the money from your family. I have a feeling that they'll take up a collection to get this dick out of your life. Property owned before marriage, like your condo, is usually separate property. However, it will depend both on the laws of your state and whether you used marital funds for payments and/or improvements. Don't listen to a word that useless prick says about taking your child, making you pay alimony, child support, etc. He doesn't have a clue what he is talking about. Just Grey Rock him when he starts ranting. I doubt very seriously that a leeching loser who makes his wife pay for everything made reservations, put down deposits and/or did any thinking at all about your daughter's birthday party. Do not engage in any more of his bullshit. Protect yourself and your child. Get him out of your house and your life as soon as possible, and cut him off financially. He has a job. He can pay his own bills, buy his own food, do his own laundry etc. Best of luck to you. | First of all, a lawyer is your best bet. My best advice to you would be to borrow money if you can, sell unnecessary house items etc to get the money for a lawyer. If your wedding rings are real, sell those. If you came into the marriage with the condo and have paid the bills, it's very likely he will not get any of that. Stop paying ANYTHING of his, including his insurance. If you file for separation via a lawyer and you kick him out, you can likely get assistance from the state for groceries and other necessities. Child custody will be addressed in court with the judge and chances are that if he makes more money than you, he will have to pay YOU child support. And he will NOT be able to take your child away. That is an empty threat. Neither of you will likely have to pay alimony, but seeing as he makes more, if either of you were to have to pay it would be him. Alimony isn't often given if you both work. Best of luck. | 1 | 2,754 | 6 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cf4fy | i4dk30g | 1,649,712,283 | 1,649,729,879 | 23 | 26 | You 100% need a lawyer, and one who has lots of experience in Florida's family law courts. It sounds like this is going to get messy. If you don't have any personal referrals from someone you trust, the next best thing is to contact the Florida Bar Referral service. Some states offer a free consultation from those referrals, who, again in many states, have to be certified in such specialized areas of the law. Best of luck! | First, stop posting any bills in his name. Stop paying fees/insurance for his car. Save that money for a lawyer. Go file for child support. | 0 | 17,596 | 1.130435 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4dk30g | i4cfx96 | 1,649,729,879 | 1,649,712,600 | 26 | 24 | First, stop posting any bills in his name. Stop paying fees/insurance for his car. Save that money for a lawyer. Go file for child support. | https://www.flcourts.org/Resources-Services/Office-of-Family-Courts/Self-Help-Information/Legal-Aid There are links on this website to help you find legal help. You may be able to get pro bono services, depending on your income and assets. | 1 | 17,279 | 1.083333 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cxvtl | i4dk30g | 1,649,720,082 | 1,649,729,879 | 14 | 26 | OP Contact legal aid, or the state bar association. Tell them your situation and ask for references to lawyers who can do pro bono work in the area of divorce and family law. This way you can get a lawyer who will represent you, give you sound legal advice and who will, as part of the divorce settlement, ask for the legal fees to be added in. | First, stop posting any bills in his name. Stop paying fees/insurance for his car. Save that money for a lawyer. Go file for child support. | 0 | 9,797 | 1.857143 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4ddl11 | i4dk30g | 1,649,727,046 | 1,649,729,879 | 12 | 26 | Stop paying ANYTHING in his name, like yesterday. And transfer anything that's actually his, into his name. And then don't pay it. | First, stop posting any bills in his name. Stop paying fees/insurance for his car. Save that money for a lawyer. Go file for child support. | 0 | 2,833 | 2.166667 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4dk30g | i4cvt4m | 1,649,729,879 | 1,649,719,175 | 26 | 9 | First, stop posting any bills in his name. Stop paying fees/insurance for his car. Save that money for a lawyer. Go file for child support. | Here is a list of firms that offer legal aid in Pinellas County: https://www.justia.com/lawyers/florida/pinellas-county/legal-aid-and-pro-bono-services?amp Looks like there’s a good amount that have divorce listed. I’d just go right down the list asking about free consultations, rates, payment plans, etc. It’s impossible for any of us to determine what the outcome of this might be as far as custody, alimony (although if he’s working and earning more than you it’s highly unlikely you would owe him spousal support), child support, or separation of assets goes, but I honestly don’t think you should let that sway you from going through with this. It sounds like he is holding you back and isn’t pulling his weight financially, emotionally, or physically. Even if this is a hard and long road, it’s better to spend a couple years in contention then another 15 tied down to someone toxic. I hope this goes well for you! | 1 | 10,704 | 2.888889 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d8ind | i4dk30g | 1,649,724,837 | 1,649,729,879 | 6 | 26 | Step number 1 free up some money by not paying for his stuff anymore, text him a message stating that you cannot pay his car insurance anymore, effective immediately so that he gets the message that he has to pay it himself and you have the proof that you've informed him, stop lending him money, you had the condo before you met him, he cant take it from you , worse case scenario he can get half the appreciation but that will probably offset by his share of the common debts. I can't stress this to you enough, stop allowing him to manipulate you financially, and don't be scared of divorce, without him to drag you down into debt , you'll probably find out that your income will increase Step 2 speak to a couple of lawyers, he earns more than you, so chances are he will end up paying you, he can't 'take' your child, there will be shared custody. | First, stop posting any bills in his name. Stop paying fees/insurance for his car. Save that money for a lawyer. Go file for child support. | 0 | 5,042 | 4.333333 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4dk30g | i4cqtgw | 1,649,729,879 | 1,649,717,035 | 26 | 5 | First, stop posting any bills in his name. Stop paying fees/insurance for his car. Save that money for a lawyer. Go file for child support. | You NEED a lawyer and a good one. Like sell a kidney, take a loan, cut bills, whatever. | 1 | 12,844 | 5.2 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d6feu | i4dk30g | 1,649,723,904 | 1,649,729,879 | 5 | 26 | First of all, a lawyer is your best bet. My best advice to you would be to borrow money if you can, sell unnecessary house items etc to get the money for a lawyer. If your wedding rings are real, sell those. If you came into the marriage with the condo and have paid the bills, it's very likely he will not get any of that. Stop paying ANYTHING of his, including his insurance. If you file for separation via a lawyer and you kick him out, you can likely get assistance from the state for groceries and other necessities. Child custody will be addressed in court with the judge and chances are that if he makes more money than you, he will have to pay YOU child support. And he will NOT be able to take your child away. That is an empty threat. Neither of you will likely have to pay alimony, but seeing as he makes more, if either of you were to have to pay it would be him. Alimony isn't often given if you both work. Best of luck. | First, stop posting any bills in his name. Stop paying fees/insurance for his car. Save that money for a lawyer. Go file for child support. | 0 | 5,975 | 5.2 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cp355 | i4cf4fy | 1,649,716,313 | 1,649,712,283 | 26 | 23 | You can always ask the divorce lawyers for a free consultation. I think your husband has a drug or gambling addiction also. | You 100% need a lawyer, and one who has lots of experience in Florida's family law courts. It sounds like this is going to get messy. If you don't have any personal referrals from someone you trust, the next best thing is to contact the Florida Bar Referral service. Some states offer a free consultation from those referrals, who, again in many states, have to be certified in such specialized areas of the law. Best of luck! | 1 | 4,030 | 1.130435 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cp355 | i4cfx96 | 1,649,716,313 | 1,649,712,600 | 26 | 24 | You can always ask the divorce lawyers for a free consultation. I think your husband has a drug or gambling addiction also. | https://www.flcourts.org/Resources-Services/Office-of-Family-Courts/Self-Help-Information/Legal-Aid There are links on this website to help you find legal help. You may be able to get pro bono services, depending on your income and assets. | 1 | 3,713 | 1.083333 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cfx96 | i4cf4fy | 1,649,712,600 | 1,649,712,283 | 24 | 23 | https://www.flcourts.org/Resources-Services/Office-of-Family-Courts/Self-Help-Information/Legal-Aid There are links on this website to help you find legal help. You may be able to get pro bono services, depending on your income and assets. | You 100% need a lawyer, and one who has lots of experience in Florida's family law courts. It sounds like this is going to get messy. If you don't have any personal referrals from someone you trust, the next best thing is to contact the Florida Bar Referral service. Some states offer a free consultation from those referrals, who, again in many states, have to be certified in such specialized areas of the law. Best of luck! | 1 | 317 | 1.043478 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cxvtl | i4cvt4m | 1,649,720,082 | 1,649,719,175 | 14 | 9 | OP Contact legal aid, or the state bar association. Tell them your situation and ask for references to lawyers who can do pro bono work in the area of divorce and family law. This way you can get a lawyer who will represent you, give you sound legal advice and who will, as part of the divorce settlement, ask for the legal fees to be added in. | Here is a list of firms that offer legal aid in Pinellas County: https://www.justia.com/lawyers/florida/pinellas-county/legal-aid-and-pro-bono-services?amp Looks like there’s a good amount that have divorce listed. I’d just go right down the list asking about free consultations, rates, payment plans, etc. It’s impossible for any of us to determine what the outcome of this might be as far as custody, alimony (although if he’s working and earning more than you it’s highly unlikely you would owe him spousal support), child support, or separation of assets goes, but I honestly don’t think you should let that sway you from going through with this. It sounds like he is holding you back and isn’t pulling his weight financially, emotionally, or physically. Even if this is a hard and long road, it’s better to spend a couple years in contention then another 15 tied down to someone toxic. I hope this goes well for you! | 1 | 907 | 1.555556 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cqtgw | i4cxvtl | 1,649,717,035 | 1,649,720,082 | 5 | 14 | You NEED a lawyer and a good one. Like sell a kidney, take a loan, cut bills, whatever. | OP Contact legal aid, or the state bar association. Tell them your situation and ask for references to lawyers who can do pro bono work in the area of divorce and family law. This way you can get a lawyer who will represent you, give you sound legal advice and who will, as part of the divorce settlement, ask for the legal fees to be added in. | 0 | 3,047 | 2.8 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cvt4m | i4ddl11 | 1,649,719,175 | 1,649,727,046 | 9 | 12 | Here is a list of firms that offer legal aid in Pinellas County: https://www.justia.com/lawyers/florida/pinellas-county/legal-aid-and-pro-bono-services?amp Looks like there’s a good amount that have divorce listed. I’d just go right down the list asking about free consultations, rates, payment plans, etc. It’s impossible for any of us to determine what the outcome of this might be as far as custody, alimony (although if he’s working and earning more than you it’s highly unlikely you would owe him spousal support), child support, or separation of assets goes, but I honestly don’t think you should let that sway you from going through with this. It sounds like he is holding you back and isn’t pulling his weight financially, emotionally, or physically. Even if this is a hard and long road, it’s better to spend a couple years in contention then another 15 tied down to someone toxic. I hope this goes well for you! | Stop paying ANYTHING in his name, like yesterday. And transfer anything that's actually his, into his name. And then don't pay it. | 0 | 7,871 | 1.333333 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d8ind | i4ddl11 | 1,649,724,837 | 1,649,727,046 | 6 | 12 | Step number 1 free up some money by not paying for his stuff anymore, text him a message stating that you cannot pay his car insurance anymore, effective immediately so that he gets the message that he has to pay it himself and you have the proof that you've informed him, stop lending him money, you had the condo before you met him, he cant take it from you , worse case scenario he can get half the appreciation but that will probably offset by his share of the common debts. I can't stress this to you enough, stop allowing him to manipulate you financially, and don't be scared of divorce, without him to drag you down into debt , you'll probably find out that your income will increase Step 2 speak to a couple of lawyers, he earns more than you, so chances are he will end up paying you, he can't 'take' your child, there will be shared custody. | Stop paying ANYTHING in his name, like yesterday. And transfer anything that's actually his, into his name. And then don't pay it. | 0 | 2,209 | 2 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cqtgw | i4ddl11 | 1,649,717,035 | 1,649,727,046 | 5 | 12 | You NEED a lawyer and a good one. Like sell a kidney, take a loan, cut bills, whatever. | Stop paying ANYTHING in his name, like yesterday. And transfer anything that's actually his, into his name. And then don't pay it. | 0 | 10,011 | 2.4 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d6feu | i4ddl11 | 1,649,723,904 | 1,649,727,046 | 5 | 12 | First of all, a lawyer is your best bet. My best advice to you would be to borrow money if you can, sell unnecessary house items etc to get the money for a lawyer. If your wedding rings are real, sell those. If you came into the marriage with the condo and have paid the bills, it's very likely he will not get any of that. Stop paying ANYTHING of his, including his insurance. If you file for separation via a lawyer and you kick him out, you can likely get assistance from the state for groceries and other necessities. Child custody will be addressed in court with the judge and chances are that if he makes more money than you, he will have to pay YOU child support. And he will NOT be able to take your child away. That is an empty threat. Neither of you will likely have to pay alimony, but seeing as he makes more, if either of you were to have to pay it would be him. Alimony isn't often given if you both work. Best of luck. | Stop paying ANYTHING in his name, like yesterday. And transfer anything that's actually his, into his name. And then don't pay it. | 0 | 3,142 | 2.4 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cvt4m | i4dnxzd | 1,649,719,175 | 1,649,731,626 | 9 | 11 | Here is a list of firms that offer legal aid in Pinellas County: https://www.justia.com/lawyers/florida/pinellas-county/legal-aid-and-pro-bono-services?amp Looks like there’s a good amount that have divorce listed. I’d just go right down the list asking about free consultations, rates, payment plans, etc. It’s impossible for any of us to determine what the outcome of this might be as far as custody, alimony (although if he’s working and earning more than you it’s highly unlikely you would owe him spousal support), child support, or separation of assets goes, but I honestly don’t think you should let that sway you from going through with this. It sounds like he is holding you back and isn’t pulling his weight financially, emotionally, or physically. Even if this is a hard and long road, it’s better to spend a couple years in contention then another 15 tied down to someone toxic. I hope this goes well for you! | He’s making an excuse why he wants a divorce. He wanted out before. He’s just seeing how far you bend for him. It’s a game to some assholes. Why would you pay for everything ? You are not a doormat 50/50 state so condo may be split. Depends on if he helped pay it or lived in it I believe. Get a lawyer. You can always sell condo to pay bills | 0 | 12,451 | 1.222222 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d8ind | i4dnxzd | 1,649,724,837 | 1,649,731,626 | 6 | 11 | Step number 1 free up some money by not paying for his stuff anymore, text him a message stating that you cannot pay his car insurance anymore, effective immediately so that he gets the message that he has to pay it himself and you have the proof that you've informed him, stop lending him money, you had the condo before you met him, he cant take it from you , worse case scenario he can get half the appreciation but that will probably offset by his share of the common debts. I can't stress this to you enough, stop allowing him to manipulate you financially, and don't be scared of divorce, without him to drag you down into debt , you'll probably find out that your income will increase Step 2 speak to a couple of lawyers, he earns more than you, so chances are he will end up paying you, he can't 'take' your child, there will be shared custody. | He’s making an excuse why he wants a divorce. He wanted out before. He’s just seeing how far you bend for him. It’s a game to some assholes. Why would you pay for everything ? You are not a doormat 50/50 state so condo may be split. Depends on if he helped pay it or lived in it I believe. Get a lawyer. You can always sell condo to pay bills | 0 | 6,789 | 1.833333 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cqtgw | i4dnxzd | 1,649,717,035 | 1,649,731,626 | 5 | 11 | You NEED a lawyer and a good one. Like sell a kidney, take a loan, cut bills, whatever. | He’s making an excuse why he wants a divorce. He wanted out before. He’s just seeing how far you bend for him. It’s a game to some assholes. Why would you pay for everything ? You are not a doormat 50/50 state so condo may be split. Depends on if he helped pay it or lived in it I believe. Get a lawyer. You can always sell condo to pay bills | 0 | 14,591 | 2.2 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d6feu | i4dnxzd | 1,649,723,904 | 1,649,731,626 | 5 | 11 | First of all, a lawyer is your best bet. My best advice to you would be to borrow money if you can, sell unnecessary house items etc to get the money for a lawyer. If your wedding rings are real, sell those. If you came into the marriage with the condo and have paid the bills, it's very likely he will not get any of that. Stop paying ANYTHING of his, including his insurance. If you file for separation via a lawyer and you kick him out, you can likely get assistance from the state for groceries and other necessities. Child custody will be addressed in court with the judge and chances are that if he makes more money than you, he will have to pay YOU child support. And he will NOT be able to take your child away. That is an empty threat. Neither of you will likely have to pay alimony, but seeing as he makes more, if either of you were to have to pay it would be him. Alimony isn't often given if you both work. Best of luck. | He’s making an excuse why he wants a divorce. He wanted out before. He’s just seeing how far you bend for him. It’s a game to some assholes. Why would you pay for everything ? You are not a doormat 50/50 state so condo may be split. Depends on if he helped pay it or lived in it I believe. Get a lawyer. You can always sell condo to pay bills | 0 | 7,722 | 2.2 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cqtgw | i4cvt4m | 1,649,717,035 | 1,649,719,175 | 5 | 9 | You NEED a lawyer and a good one. Like sell a kidney, take a loan, cut bills, whatever. | Here is a list of firms that offer legal aid in Pinellas County: https://www.justia.com/lawyers/florida/pinellas-county/legal-aid-and-pro-bono-services?amp Looks like there’s a good amount that have divorce listed. I’d just go right down the list asking about free consultations, rates, payment plans, etc. It’s impossible for any of us to determine what the outcome of this might be as far as custody, alimony (although if he’s working and earning more than you it’s highly unlikely you would owe him spousal support), child support, or separation of assets goes, but I honestly don’t think you should let that sway you from going through with this. It sounds like he is holding you back and isn’t pulling his weight financially, emotionally, or physically. Even if this is a hard and long road, it’s better to spend a couple years in contention then another 15 tied down to someone toxic. I hope this goes well for you! | 0 | 2,140 | 1.8 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4cqtgw | i4d8ind | 1,649,717,035 | 1,649,724,837 | 5 | 6 | You NEED a lawyer and a good one. Like sell a kidney, take a loan, cut bills, whatever. | Step number 1 free up some money by not paying for his stuff anymore, text him a message stating that you cannot pay his car insurance anymore, effective immediately so that he gets the message that he has to pay it himself and you have the proof that you've informed him, stop lending him money, you had the condo before you met him, he cant take it from you , worse case scenario he can get half the appreciation but that will probably offset by his share of the common debts. I can't stress this to you enough, stop allowing him to manipulate you financially, and don't be scared of divorce, without him to drag you down into debt , you'll probably find out that your income will increase Step 2 speak to a couple of lawyers, he earns more than you, so chances are he will end up paying you, he can't 'take' your child, there will be shared custody. | 0 | 7,802 | 1.2 |
u1geep | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My husband wants a divorce over something stupid but I’m flat broke and can’t afford a lawyer. Anyone with experience/knowledge in divorce with minor children in Pinellas County FL? How do you get a divorce and how do you afford it? My husband wants to destroy our family over what day our toddler’s 3rd birthday is celebrated which her birthday is the 24th of April and he wants to celebrate the 23rd, which is my grandpa’s celebration of life. He passed on Feb 3 and the entire family couldnt make it down til the 23rd of April with all the cousins in college and plans my aunts and uncles already had in place. I told him months ago what day the celebration was and just texted to confirm we were all going. Now he’s throwing a fit saying I should have known that we were having our daughters birthday that day even though he hadn’t said a word about it even when I asked what plans were for it last week. This isn’t anywhere near the worst thing he’s done but it’s the straw that broke the overworked and under appreciated camel’s back. So how do I get ahead of this before it bites me in the ass? He makes more money than me but I pay all the bills and have overextended my credit to do so as he often “forgets” to send me money then ends up broke and borrows money off me, promising to pay on payday but then doesn’t. I’m flat broke myself due to this, all my cards are maxed out from when he was laid off during the pandemic for 4 months, then again when he got in a car accident last year and messed up his neck and couldn’t work for a few more months. I came into the marriage owning a condo; can he take that from me? What about my car? I pay his car insurance and parking (through my HOA) too. Will I end up having to pay alimony and/or child support when every cent I have goes to making sure we have shelter, electricity, water, food, clothes, transportation and childcare? Like I don’t ever get anything for myself but he’s always out buying new things for himself. Yet he’s always broke and can’t afford $175 a week towards shared household bills. He says he pays for the groceries and that’s somehow equal to $1700 in other household costs. I don’t know what to do but he’s threatening to leave me and take our daughter over what day we celebrate her birthday even though said date isn’t even her birthday. He literally chose this to be the hill our family dies on. He’s now blocked me on FB and keeps calling me up on the phone while I’m at work screaming about how he lost the deposit to the location for our toddler’s party, the party he never told me about, because it’s less than two weeks before the reservation even though I told him if he gave me date/time/location that so would blow off my favorite relative’s celebration of life to be there for our daughter. I’m so tired of verbal/emotional/financial abuse. If it weren’t for my toddler, I’d just leave everything behind and drive away to another state and never look back. I know I need a lawyer because he’s threatened me with taking our daughter away from me before, but I can’t afford one. I don’t know what to do. | i4d8ind | i4d6feu | 1,649,724,837 | 1,649,723,904 | 6 | 5 | Step number 1 free up some money by not paying for his stuff anymore, text him a message stating that you cannot pay his car insurance anymore, effective immediately so that he gets the message that he has to pay it himself and you have the proof that you've informed him, stop lending him money, you had the condo before you met him, he cant take it from you , worse case scenario he can get half the appreciation but that will probably offset by his share of the common debts. I can't stress this to you enough, stop allowing him to manipulate you financially, and don't be scared of divorce, without him to drag you down into debt , you'll probably find out that your income will increase Step 2 speak to a couple of lawyers, he earns more than you, so chances are he will end up paying you, he can't 'take' your child, there will be shared custody. | First of all, a lawyer is your best bet. My best advice to you would be to borrow money if you can, sell unnecessary house items etc to get the money for a lawyer. If your wedding rings are real, sell those. If you came into the marriage with the condo and have paid the bills, it's very likely he will not get any of that. Stop paying ANYTHING of his, including his insurance. If you file for separation via a lawyer and you kick him out, you can likely get assistance from the state for groceries and other necessities. Child custody will be addressed in court with the judge and chances are that if he makes more money than you, he will have to pay YOU child support. And he will NOT be able to take your child away. That is an empty threat. Neither of you will likely have to pay alimony, but seeing as he makes more, if either of you were to have to pay it would be him. Alimony isn't often given if you both work. Best of luck. | 1 | 933 | 1.2 |
lxzvzq | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I am in Denton County Texas, I am a felon unable to own firearms, when my Father passes away am I allowed to sell them, or do I have to contact some sort of authority in my area? Hello, Thank you for your time. About 20 years ago I was arrested for a felony. My deal was that I was not convicted, got probation, and if I wanted to maintain my right to vote (very important to me) then I was never to own or purchase a firearm. So, my question is what am I able to do with my Father's firearms when he passes. Am I able to sell them? Do I have to report that I have them to the local police? Do I need to give them to a friend or third party to sell for me? I am way to old to be arrested again and my Father ABSOLUTLY will not sell the guns before he passes. Have a wonderful day. | gpqvq5a | gpq9gun | 1,614,925,091 | 1,614,911,500 | 189 | 67 | You need to get a consultation with an attorney because that does not sound right. If you are arrested for a felony but NOT convicted then you are NOT a felon. And you could own a firearm if you wanted to. If you had a sentimental attachment to any of the firearms. Otherwise it would be better for the estate to liquidate them through a broker so they are all sold legally and someone with a FFL does all the transfers(background checks) | Has he considered a gun trust? | 1 | 13,591 | 2.820896 |
lxzvzq | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I am in Denton County Texas, I am a felon unable to own firearms, when my Father passes away am I allowed to sell them, or do I have to contact some sort of authority in my area? Hello, Thank you for your time. About 20 years ago I was arrested for a felony. My deal was that I was not convicted, got probation, and if I wanted to maintain my right to vote (very important to me) then I was never to own or purchase a firearm. So, my question is what am I able to do with my Father's firearms when he passes. Am I able to sell them? Do I have to report that I have them to the local police? Do I need to give them to a friend or third party to sell for me? I am way to old to be arrested again and my Father ABSOLUTLY will not sell the guns before he passes. Have a wonderful day. | gpqvq5a | gpqk2q6 | 1,614,925,091 | 1,614,917,333 | 189 | 27 | You need to get a consultation with an attorney because that does not sound right. If you are arrested for a felony but NOT convicted then you are NOT a felon. And you could own a firearm if you wanted to. If you had a sentimental attachment to any of the firearms. Otherwise it would be better for the estate to liquidate them through a broker so they are all sold legally and someone with a FFL does all the transfers(background checks) | When your dad dies, you will not own them, his estate will. The estate will sell them. | 1 | 7,758 | 7 |
4p1bg5 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | UPDATE][US][TX]My employer is refusing to pay me for hours worked even though I clocked in/out because I didn't select my pay rate correctly in the computer. [Original post here So, I spoke to him. I told him that I wanted to submit an amended time card and he said that we don't use time cards, we use the computer. ...*Okay* I told him that he knows what I meant and I would like to correct my pay to properly reflect my hours worked by submitting something which reflects what the time I spend working there was worth. He laughed and said that in his opinion, what I had done over my past two weeks working there was only worth what the computer said I should get paid so I should just not worry about it and move on. "Once you've been here long enough, you'll learn how things work around here." I lost it at this point and said that he would either pay me what I was owed or I would submit a wage claim to the Department of Labor (and I also bullshitted a little about fines he could face and how it could kill his business, etc. just to flare it up because I was mad and cause of adrenaline). Then he stared at me silent for a while, I guess until he thought of something to say, and said some bullshit about how he likes that I stand up for myself and I'm exactly the kind of person he wants here and something along the lines of, "I always say that strong people get rewarded strongly, so I'm going to bump you up to 8.50/hr from now on, how does that feel?" I said thank you, but can we first get my check fixed? He printed me a new check (didn't take the old one which I had in my hand) and then sent me on my way. Did he just bribe me? Can only people in positions of power be bribed? I have no intentions of cashing the old check and I am strongly considering quitting. What the hell should I do now? (I won't post another update thread with my decision, I'll just post an edit here, so come check back with this one in a few days when I decide what to do) | d4hacdc | d4helcs | 1,466,464,342 | 1,466,470,563 | 24 | 249 | He's your employer and he gave you a raise. I have no idea why you think this was a bribe. Was the second check what the first should have been or just the difference (amount you were missing on the first cheque)? You are only entitled to the money you have earned. | First, this is important. Cash the current and correct check. Do NOT cash the first one. Keep it for evidence. One of two things has happened here: Either he's genuinely trying to bribe you to make this go away, or he's trying to keep you placated long enough to make you go away because he can't have an employee who knows their rights hanging around. I personally am a paranoid fuck and would assume it's the later; correspondingly, I would begin documenting the shit out of everything involving this situation and the job itself, while polishing up my resume. repost because I can't keep track of which f'n sub I'm on anymore | 0 | 6,221 | 10.375 |
4p1bg5 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | UPDATE][US][TX]My employer is refusing to pay me for hours worked even though I clocked in/out because I didn't select my pay rate correctly in the computer. [Original post here So, I spoke to him. I told him that I wanted to submit an amended time card and he said that we don't use time cards, we use the computer. ...*Okay* I told him that he knows what I meant and I would like to correct my pay to properly reflect my hours worked by submitting something which reflects what the time I spend working there was worth. He laughed and said that in his opinion, what I had done over my past two weeks working there was only worth what the computer said I should get paid so I should just not worry about it and move on. "Once you've been here long enough, you'll learn how things work around here." I lost it at this point and said that he would either pay me what I was owed or I would submit a wage claim to the Department of Labor (and I also bullshitted a little about fines he could face and how it could kill his business, etc. just to flare it up because I was mad and cause of adrenaline). Then he stared at me silent for a while, I guess until he thought of something to say, and said some bullshit about how he likes that I stand up for myself and I'm exactly the kind of person he wants here and something along the lines of, "I always say that strong people get rewarded strongly, so I'm going to bump you up to 8.50/hr from now on, how does that feel?" I said thank you, but can we first get my check fixed? He printed me a new check (didn't take the old one which I had in my hand) and then sent me on my way. Did he just bribe me? Can only people in positions of power be bribed? I have no intentions of cashing the old check and I am strongly considering quitting. What the hell should I do now? (I won't post another update thread with my decision, I'll just post an edit here, so come check back with this one in a few days when I decide what to do) | d4hacdc | d4hikuq | 1,466,464,342 | 1,466,476,895 | 24 | 27 | He's your employer and he gave you a raise. I have no idea why you think this was a bribe. Was the second check what the first should have been or just the difference (amount you were missing on the first cheque)? You are only entitled to the money you have earned. | Whatever you do, do not cash both checks, cash the one with the correct pay. And I am paranoid about this dude, he seems very shady, I would understand if you would quit, also possibly take pictures of the checks. And keep the first one somewhere safe just incase. Also please update us on this matter. | 0 | 12,553 | 1.125 |
zk3i79 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Is it legal in South Carolina for an employer to take 30 minutes out if pay every day for lunch but not allow you to clock out? Title says all. It seems rather sketchy. I’ve worked other hourly jobs in SC and various other states in the US and have always clocked out. Isn’t this technically stealing pay? | izxqotn | izxkcgt | 1,670,864,879 | 1,670,862,376 | 216 | 49 | If they are making you work / not allowing a break for the 30 minutes and still taking it out of your pay : **Illegal** If they are letting you stop work but just not clock out for the 30 minutes that they take : **Likely legal** | Are you saying you’re denied a thirty minute period where you are relieved from duties? | 1 | 2,503 | 4.408163 |
zk3i79 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Is it legal in South Carolina for an employer to take 30 minutes out if pay every day for lunch but not allow you to clock out? Title says all. It seems rather sketchy. I’ve worked other hourly jobs in SC and various other states in the US and have always clocked out. Isn’t this technically stealing pay? | izxk5ph | izxqotn | 1,670,862,302 | 1,670,864,879 | 39 | 216 | Are you actually taking a 30 minute lunch where you're relieved of your job duties? | If they are making you work / not allowing a break for the 30 minutes and still taking it out of your pay : **Illegal** If they are letting you stop work but just not clock out for the 30 minutes that they take : **Likely legal** | 0 | 2,577 | 5.538462 |
zk3i79 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Is it legal in South Carolina for an employer to take 30 minutes out if pay every day for lunch but not allow you to clock out? Title says all. It seems rather sketchy. I’ve worked other hourly jobs in SC and various other states in the US and have always clocked out. Isn’t this technically stealing pay? | izxqotn | izxkqbk | 1,670,864,879 | 1,670,862,527 | 216 | 16 | If they are making you work / not allowing a break for the 30 minutes and still taking it out of your pay : **Illegal** If they are letting you stop work but just not clock out for the 30 minutes that they take : **Likely legal** | Clarification: Are you taking a lunch and they're not allowing you to clock out or are they telling you you can't take a lunch and still taking 30 min out? | 1 | 2,352 | 13.5 |
zk3i79 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Is it legal in South Carolina for an employer to take 30 minutes out if pay every day for lunch but not allow you to clock out? Title says all. It seems rather sketchy. I’ve worked other hourly jobs in SC and various other states in the US and have always clocked out. Isn’t this technically stealing pay? | izxnxmk | izxqotn | 1,670,863,799 | 1,670,864,879 | 6 | 216 | No, that's wage theft. Edit: downvote all you want, taking the money out of the check without giving them the time off is the definition of wage theft. | If they are making you work / not allowing a break for the 30 minutes and still taking it out of your pay : **Illegal** If they are letting you stop work but just not clock out for the 30 minutes that they take : **Likely legal** | 0 | 1,080 | 36 |
zk3i79 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Is it legal in South Carolina for an employer to take 30 minutes out if pay every day for lunch but not allow you to clock out? Title says all. It seems rather sketchy. I’ve worked other hourly jobs in SC and various other states in the US and have always clocked out. Isn’t this technically stealing pay? | izxmk5x | izxqotn | 1,670,863,259 | 1,670,864,879 | 3 | 216 | Are they making you work those 30 minutes, but not paying you? | If they are making you work / not allowing a break for the 30 minutes and still taking it out of your pay : **Illegal** If they are letting you stop work but just not clock out for the 30 minutes that they take : **Likely legal** | 0 | 1,620 | 72 |
zk3i79 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Is it legal in South Carolina for an employer to take 30 minutes out if pay every day for lunch but not allow you to clock out? Title says all. It seems rather sketchy. I’ve worked other hourly jobs in SC and various other states in the US and have always clocked out. Isn’t this technically stealing pay? | izxkcgt | izxk5ph | 1,670,862,376 | 1,670,862,302 | 49 | 39 | Are you saying you’re denied a thirty minute period where you are relieved from duties? | Are you actually taking a 30 minute lunch where you're relieved of your job duties? | 1 | 74 | 1.25641 |
zk3i79 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Is it legal in South Carolina for an employer to take 30 minutes out if pay every day for lunch but not allow you to clock out? Title says all. It seems rather sketchy. I’ve worked other hourly jobs in SC and various other states in the US and have always clocked out. Isn’t this technically stealing pay? | izxk5ph | izxu893 | 1,670,862,302 | 1,670,866,243 | 39 | 46 | Are you actually taking a 30 minute lunch where you're relieved of your job duties? | If you're getting a 30 minute break where you're completely relieved from your duties (as in you can leave the premises if you want to) then it's legal. If you're not getting the break then it's not legal. I've had several jobs like this and I was always sure to take my full 30 minute break | 0 | 3,941 | 1.179487 |
zk3i79 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Is it legal in South Carolina for an employer to take 30 minutes out if pay every day for lunch but not allow you to clock out? Title says all. It seems rather sketchy. I’ve worked other hourly jobs in SC and various other states in the US and have always clocked out. Isn’t this technically stealing pay? | izxu893 | izxkqbk | 1,670,866,243 | 1,670,862,527 | 46 | 16 | If you're getting a 30 minute break where you're completely relieved from your duties (as in you can leave the premises if you want to) then it's legal. If you're not getting the break then it's not legal. I've had several jobs like this and I was always sure to take my full 30 minute break | Clarification: Are you taking a lunch and they're not allowing you to clock out or are they telling you you can't take a lunch and still taking 30 min out? | 1 | 3,716 | 2.875 |
zk3i79 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Is it legal in South Carolina for an employer to take 30 minutes out if pay every day for lunch but not allow you to clock out? Title says all. It seems rather sketchy. I’ve worked other hourly jobs in SC and various other states in the US and have always clocked out. Isn’t this technically stealing pay? | izxnxmk | izxu893 | 1,670,863,799 | 1,670,866,243 | 6 | 46 | No, that's wage theft. Edit: downvote all you want, taking the money out of the check without giving them the time off is the definition of wage theft. | If you're getting a 30 minute break where you're completely relieved from your duties (as in you can leave the premises if you want to) then it's legal. If you're not getting the break then it's not legal. I've had several jobs like this and I was always sure to take my full 30 minute break | 0 | 2,444 | 7.666667 |
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