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zk3i79 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Is it legal in South Carolina for an employer to take 30 minutes out if pay every day for lunch but not allow you to clock out? Title says all. It seems rather sketchy. I’ve worked other hourly jobs in SC and various other states in the US and have always clocked out. Isn’t this technically stealing pay? | izxu893 | izxmk5x | 1,670,866,243 | 1,670,863,259 | 46 | 3 | If you're getting a 30 minute break where you're completely relieved from your duties (as in you can leave the premises if you want to) then it's legal. If you're not getting the break then it's not legal. I've had several jobs like this and I was always sure to take my full 30 minute break | Are they making you work those 30 minutes, but not paying you? | 1 | 2,984 | 15.333333 |
zk3i79 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Is it legal in South Carolina for an employer to take 30 minutes out if pay every day for lunch but not allow you to clock out? Title says all. It seems rather sketchy. I’ve worked other hourly jobs in SC and various other states in the US and have always clocked out. Isn’t this technically stealing pay? | izxmk5x | izxnxmk | 1,670,863,259 | 1,670,863,799 | 3 | 6 | Are they making you work those 30 minutes, but not paying you? | No, that's wage theft. Edit: downvote all you want, taking the money out of the check without giving them the time off is the definition of wage theft. | 0 | 540 | 2 |
8rhiog | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | Employer makes us pay several hundred dollars for parking, and keeps raising the rate. Is this legal? [KY] Parking is somewhat cramped at my employer, so all employees are charged over $350 a year for a "parking benefit". It's deducted from our pay-stubs just like health insurance or any other actual benefit. This rate has increased significantly over the past few years, when the fee was first charged it was fifty or sixty dollars and only for seasonal visitors. But it has proven a significant source of income, and employees are now equally charged. My employer deflects all complaints by explaining that everyone in the organization pays, from the president on down. Which is true, but I imagine when you make $150k a year you really don't miss it. Recently, most employees were promised a raise. However the *parking benefit* will also be increasing (in what is probably an equivalent amount but we're not sure yet). For most of us, this will negate the improved income, and I imagine a few people will actually be losing money. Is this kosher, would we have any grounds to challenge this? If it matters, we are technically state employees. | e0rle7j | e0rdq61 | 1,529,147,212 | 1,529,130,004 | 69 | 21 | Are you a teacher at a public university? Because this sounds a lot like a college parking dispute. | Are you forced to park there or are you agreeing to park there and they are deductions from your check? Also, you either are or aren’t govt employees. | 1 | 17,208 | 3.285714 |
8rhiog | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | Employer makes us pay several hundred dollars for parking, and keeps raising the rate. Is this legal? [KY] Parking is somewhat cramped at my employer, so all employees are charged over $350 a year for a "parking benefit". It's deducted from our pay-stubs just like health insurance or any other actual benefit. This rate has increased significantly over the past few years, when the fee was first charged it was fifty or sixty dollars and only for seasonal visitors. But it has proven a significant source of income, and employees are now equally charged. My employer deflects all complaints by explaining that everyone in the organization pays, from the president on down. Which is true, but I imagine when you make $150k a year you really don't miss it. Recently, most employees were promised a raise. However the *parking benefit* will also be increasing (in what is probably an equivalent amount but we're not sure yet). For most of us, this will negate the improved income, and I imagine a few people will actually be losing money. Is this kosher, would we have any grounds to challenge this? If it matters, we are technically state employees. | e0reo7s | e0rle7j | 1,529,131,885 | 1,529,147,212 | 12 | 69 | If+when you're no longer parking on their property but continue being charged for this, then come back. | Are you a teacher at a public university? Because this sounds a lot like a college parking dispute. | 0 | 15,327 | 5.75 |
8rhiog | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | Employer makes us pay several hundred dollars for parking, and keeps raising the rate. Is this legal? [KY] Parking is somewhat cramped at my employer, so all employees are charged over $350 a year for a "parking benefit". It's deducted from our pay-stubs just like health insurance or any other actual benefit. This rate has increased significantly over the past few years, when the fee was first charged it was fifty or sixty dollars and only for seasonal visitors. But it has proven a significant source of income, and employees are now equally charged. My employer deflects all complaints by explaining that everyone in the organization pays, from the president on down. Which is true, but I imagine when you make $150k a year you really don't miss it. Recently, most employees were promised a raise. However the *parking benefit* will also be increasing (in what is probably an equivalent amount but we're not sure yet). For most of us, this will negate the improved income, and I imagine a few people will actually be losing money. Is this kosher, would we have any grounds to challenge this? If it matters, we are technically state employees. | e0rdroz | e0rle7j | 1,529,130,087 | 1,529,147,212 | 3 | 69 | You have no legal grounds to challenge it. You can only complain and they can ignore your complaints. They can also fire you for complaining. You should consider it that you just got a pay cut. You can proceed accordingly by dealing with the pay cut or finding another job. | Are you a teacher at a public university? Because this sounds a lot like a college parking dispute. | 0 | 17,125 | 23 |
8rhiog | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | Employer makes us pay several hundred dollars for parking, and keeps raising the rate. Is this legal? [KY] Parking is somewhat cramped at my employer, so all employees are charged over $350 a year for a "parking benefit". It's deducted from our pay-stubs just like health insurance or any other actual benefit. This rate has increased significantly over the past few years, when the fee was first charged it was fifty or sixty dollars and only for seasonal visitors. But it has proven a significant source of income, and employees are now equally charged. My employer deflects all complaints by explaining that everyone in the organization pays, from the president on down. Which is true, but I imagine when you make $150k a year you really don't miss it. Recently, most employees were promised a raise. However the *parking benefit* will also be increasing (in what is probably an equivalent amount but we're not sure yet). For most of us, this will negate the improved income, and I imagine a few people will actually be losing money. Is this kosher, would we have any grounds to challenge this? If it matters, we are technically state employees. | e0rvobh | e0reo7s | 1,529,161,759 | 1,529,131,885 | 17 | 12 | Kentucky law only permits deductions from paychecks of things that are required by law or permitted by law. This isn't required (like SS tax), so you have to figure out if it's permitted. There are several categories of things that are permitted, and this appears to be the applicable one: "The cost of board, lodging, or other facilities (such as merchandise in company stores) provided to employees, but only where such items are customarily furnished by the employer and the deduction is limited to the employer's reasonable cost". Parking would count an "other facility" which is customarily furnished by the employer, so perhaps your only angle here is to figure out if the deduction is limited to the employer's reasonable cost. I have no idea what the parking costs are in your area, but do you think $350 per year is reasonable for parking? https://www.blr.com/Compensation/Compensation/Deductions-From-Pay-in-Kentucky | If+when you're no longer parking on their property but continue being charged for this, then come back. | 1 | 29,874 | 1.416667 |
8rhiog | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | Employer makes us pay several hundred dollars for parking, and keeps raising the rate. Is this legal? [KY] Parking is somewhat cramped at my employer, so all employees are charged over $350 a year for a "parking benefit". It's deducted from our pay-stubs just like health insurance or any other actual benefit. This rate has increased significantly over the past few years, when the fee was first charged it was fifty or sixty dollars and only for seasonal visitors. But it has proven a significant source of income, and employees are now equally charged. My employer deflects all complaints by explaining that everyone in the organization pays, from the president on down. Which is true, but I imagine when you make $150k a year you really don't miss it. Recently, most employees were promised a raise. However the *parking benefit* will also be increasing (in what is probably an equivalent amount but we're not sure yet). For most of us, this will negate the improved income, and I imagine a few people will actually be losing money. Is this kosher, would we have any grounds to challenge this? If it matters, we are technically state employees. | e0rdroz | e0rvobh | 1,529,130,087 | 1,529,161,759 | 3 | 17 | You have no legal grounds to challenge it. You can only complain and they can ignore your complaints. They can also fire you for complaining. You should consider it that you just got a pay cut. You can proceed accordingly by dealing with the pay cut or finding another job. | Kentucky law only permits deductions from paychecks of things that are required by law or permitted by law. This isn't required (like SS tax), so you have to figure out if it's permitted. There are several categories of things that are permitted, and this appears to be the applicable one: "The cost of board, lodging, or other facilities (such as merchandise in company stores) provided to employees, but only where such items are customarily furnished by the employer and the deduction is limited to the employer's reasonable cost". Parking would count an "other facility" which is customarily furnished by the employer, so perhaps your only angle here is to figure out if the deduction is limited to the employer's reasonable cost. I have no idea what the parking costs are in your area, but do you think $350 per year is reasonable for parking? https://www.blr.com/Compensation/Compensation/Deductions-From-Pay-in-Kentucky | 0 | 31,672 | 5.666667 |
8rhiog | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | Employer makes us pay several hundred dollars for parking, and keeps raising the rate. Is this legal? [KY] Parking is somewhat cramped at my employer, so all employees are charged over $350 a year for a "parking benefit". It's deducted from our pay-stubs just like health insurance or any other actual benefit. This rate has increased significantly over the past few years, when the fee was first charged it was fifty or sixty dollars and only for seasonal visitors. But it has proven a significant source of income, and employees are now equally charged. My employer deflects all complaints by explaining that everyone in the organization pays, from the president on down. Which is true, but I imagine when you make $150k a year you really don't miss it. Recently, most employees were promised a raise. However the *parking benefit* will also be increasing (in what is probably an equivalent amount but we're not sure yet). For most of us, this will negate the improved income, and I imagine a few people will actually be losing money. Is this kosher, would we have any grounds to challenge this? If it matters, we are technically state employees. | e0rdroz | e0reo7s | 1,529,130,087 | 1,529,131,885 | 3 | 12 | You have no legal grounds to challenge it. You can only complain and they can ignore your complaints. They can also fire you for complaining. You should consider it that you just got a pay cut. You can proceed accordingly by dealing with the pay cut or finding another job. | If+when you're no longer parking on their property but continue being charged for this, then come back. | 0 | 1,798 | 4 |
6w75tp | legaladvice_train | 0.81 | [Massachusetts, USA]. Neighbors are running illegal carpentry business from their front porch Hi, I live in a quiet residential Suburban street. The surrounding neighborhood / next steet over is questionable and has seen a few drive-by gang shootings this year, but my street is quiet and peaceful. Anyways, my next door neighbors have a business where they find junk Furniture, Fix It Up, and resell it for hundreds of dollars more. Good for them, I admire their ambition and hard work. The thing that sucks about it though is that they're out there all day and Into the Night, typically around 8 a.m. to 9 p.m., running power saws and drills literally 20 yards from my face. It's bad enough that they have a dog and 7 kids that are out there screaming at the top of their lungs until 10 or 11 p.m. at night, but I would never complain about them because that's just kids having fun and being kids. I was a kid once too. My problem is with the power tools. My bedroom faces the street and my windows are literally about ten yards from where they are doing this, as it is a tightly packed neighborhood. Closing the windows does not help, earplugs do not help, melatonin does not help,. Besides, sometimes I don't want to sleep, I just want to relax after a hard day of work and read my Reddit pics/ stories, dagnabbit. I do not want to hear the constant sound of drills in my face, thus making it impossible to relax. Yesterday, when I saw the neighbors out doing their thing, I complimented them on their work rehabbing the furniture, and said "wow, haha, it reminds me of growing up at my parents house, where the Neighbors on both sides had carpentry businesses that they were running out of their garage, so all day and all night whenever I tried to relax, I would hear 'rrrrrRrrrRrrrRrrrRRRRRRRRnnnnnnNNNNNNNN' from the saws". (The irregularity of it is one of the worst parts, because it means that you cannot just tune it out like white noise) The homeowner lady who runs the business and is usually the one running the saws, instead of apologizing or anything like that, said curtly "well, that's why God invented headphones." I I retorted with "yeah, and Commercial zoning", and then left. People in the government here have told me that neighbors have complained about them before, when I mentioned it to them in an unofficial capacity. Those people advised that I should call 311 and report the noisy neighbors, although this will probably just result in them waiting until the inspectors go home and then resuming while now bearing a Grudge against me if they find out that I'm the one who complained, which will happen if I ask them politely in person first My plan is to ask them politely if they could keep it down for a few hours the next time I want to relax, and if they don't, then I am going to call the authorities (311) and report them. I just want to make sure, what they are doing is actually illegal right? This is a residential neighborhood, they are running a commercial business, and there must be some sort of noise ordinances. Well also, I fear that if I complain to them first they will definitely know I'm the one who called the authorities and will be on the lookout for Payback, and while I certainly don't do anything illegal myself, perhaps there are things that they could interpret the wrong way and get me in trouble for. What should I do? Is what they are doing illegal? | dm6te46 | dm6xwwe | 1,503,834,697 | 1,503,843,854 | 2 | 3 | I'd also be concerned about any chemicals they might be using. Paint strippers can be very nasty. Are they sanding lead paint? Wood finishes can be hazardous. How are they disposing of any waste they create? | Internal Revenue Service. If they are running an "under the table" business they most likely owe some back taxes. A visit from the IRS will generally make for a very uncomfortable evening. When they mention it, "Well, must be why God invented telephones." I believe they also offer a reward. | 0 | 9,157 | 1.5 |
a4kuxs | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | The fumes from my neighbors idling truck are coming into my small apartment. Despite speaking to the tenent and landlord this health hazard continues. Even after making them aware of Massachusetts idling laws no one is taking my concern seriously, what legal response is there to ensure our safety? When I first mentioned this to my landlord he spoke to the tenent and for a few days our neighbor wouldnt idle his truck for longer then 5 minutes which was fine because it takes about 15 for the livingroom and bedroom to start smelling like exhaust. However the reprieve didnt last long, Massachusetts winters are cold so my neighbor will idle his truck on average for 20 minutes- right beside our livingroom window. Our 1 bedroom is small and the smell quickly seeps throughout all but our bathroom. When both my fiance and I spoke to our neighbor we told him we honestly dont care if he idles his truck, so long as his truck end isnt backed up to our window. His reply was that it would be too hard for him to get out of his parking space if he parked any other way. ( we live on a narrow street and peole park on the street because all the multifamily apartment/homes offer little off street parking. My landlord seems bothered that we as tenents cant work this out, and trust me I wish we could, but I feel this is an unhealthy situation. I've even offered my landlord to walk through my apartment when hes had his truck idling for so long so he can see that im not just complaining against my neighbor. A friend suggested we threaten to stop paying rent if it continues but I feel that would put us in the wrong and we'd just get evicted. I dont want to aggrevate the situation I just want to stop the smell from getting into our small home. What are my legal options to make it so we dont have to wake up to exhaust fumes? | ebfkk3v | ebfjqap | 1,544,370,319 | 1,544,369,549 | 358 | 156 | I would get carbon monoxide detectors for your bedroom and living room. When he idles, if they go off, call the fire department. They will hopefully fix the issue. | Massachusetts has an (PDF warning) anti-idling law that he is probably in violation of. I would start by reporting him the agencies recommended in the link. Sorry I don’t have a better answer. | 1 | 770 | 2.294872 |
a4kuxs | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | The fumes from my neighbors idling truck are coming into my small apartment. Despite speaking to the tenent and landlord this health hazard continues. Even after making them aware of Massachusetts idling laws no one is taking my concern seriously, what legal response is there to ensure our safety? When I first mentioned this to my landlord he spoke to the tenent and for a few days our neighbor wouldnt idle his truck for longer then 5 minutes which was fine because it takes about 15 for the livingroom and bedroom to start smelling like exhaust. However the reprieve didnt last long, Massachusetts winters are cold so my neighbor will idle his truck on average for 20 minutes- right beside our livingroom window. Our 1 bedroom is small and the smell quickly seeps throughout all but our bathroom. When both my fiance and I spoke to our neighbor we told him we honestly dont care if he idles his truck, so long as his truck end isnt backed up to our window. His reply was that it would be too hard for him to get out of his parking space if he parked any other way. ( we live on a narrow street and peole park on the street because all the multifamily apartment/homes offer little off street parking. My landlord seems bothered that we as tenents cant work this out, and trust me I wish we could, but I feel this is an unhealthy situation. I've even offered my landlord to walk through my apartment when hes had his truck idling for so long so he can see that im not just complaining against my neighbor. A friend suggested we threaten to stop paying rent if it continues but I feel that would put us in the wrong and we'd just get evicted. I dont want to aggrevate the situation I just want to stop the smell from getting into our small home. What are my legal options to make it so we dont have to wake up to exhaust fumes? | ebfkk3v | ebfcew7 | 1,544,370,319 | 1,544,362,441 | 358 | 7 | I would get carbon monoxide detectors for your bedroom and living room. When he idles, if they go off, call the fire department. They will hopefully fix the issue. | Where is his truck when it's idling? | 1 | 7,878 | 51.142857 |
a4kuxs | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | The fumes from my neighbors idling truck are coming into my small apartment. Despite speaking to the tenent and landlord this health hazard continues. Even after making them aware of Massachusetts idling laws no one is taking my concern seriously, what legal response is there to ensure our safety? When I first mentioned this to my landlord he spoke to the tenent and for a few days our neighbor wouldnt idle his truck for longer then 5 minutes which was fine because it takes about 15 for the livingroom and bedroom to start smelling like exhaust. However the reprieve didnt last long, Massachusetts winters are cold so my neighbor will idle his truck on average for 20 minutes- right beside our livingroom window. Our 1 bedroom is small and the smell quickly seeps throughout all but our bathroom. When both my fiance and I spoke to our neighbor we told him we honestly dont care if he idles his truck, so long as his truck end isnt backed up to our window. His reply was that it would be too hard for him to get out of his parking space if he parked any other way. ( we live on a narrow street and peole park on the street because all the multifamily apartment/homes offer little off street parking. My landlord seems bothered that we as tenents cant work this out, and trust me I wish we could, but I feel this is an unhealthy situation. I've even offered my landlord to walk through my apartment when hes had his truck idling for so long so he can see that im not just complaining against my neighbor. A friend suggested we threaten to stop paying rent if it continues but I feel that would put us in the wrong and we'd just get evicted. I dont want to aggrevate the situation I just want to stop the smell from getting into our small home. What are my legal options to make it so we dont have to wake up to exhaust fumes? | ebfjqap | ebfcew7 | 1,544,369,549 | 1,544,362,441 | 156 | 7 | Massachusetts has an (PDF warning) anti-idling law that he is probably in violation of. I would start by reporting him the agencies recommended in the link. Sorry I don’t have a better answer. | Where is his truck when it's idling? | 1 | 7,108 | 22.285714 |
a4kuxs | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | The fumes from my neighbors idling truck are coming into my small apartment. Despite speaking to the tenent and landlord this health hazard continues. Even after making them aware of Massachusetts idling laws no one is taking my concern seriously, what legal response is there to ensure our safety? When I first mentioned this to my landlord he spoke to the tenent and for a few days our neighbor wouldnt idle his truck for longer then 5 minutes which was fine because it takes about 15 for the livingroom and bedroom to start smelling like exhaust. However the reprieve didnt last long, Massachusetts winters are cold so my neighbor will idle his truck on average for 20 minutes- right beside our livingroom window. Our 1 bedroom is small and the smell quickly seeps throughout all but our bathroom. When both my fiance and I spoke to our neighbor we told him we honestly dont care if he idles his truck, so long as his truck end isnt backed up to our window. His reply was that it would be too hard for him to get out of his parking space if he parked any other way. ( we live on a narrow street and peole park on the street because all the multifamily apartment/homes offer little off street parking. My landlord seems bothered that we as tenents cant work this out, and trust me I wish we could, but I feel this is an unhealthy situation. I've even offered my landlord to walk through my apartment when hes had his truck idling for so long so he can see that im not just complaining against my neighbor. A friend suggested we threaten to stop paying rent if it continues but I feel that would put us in the wrong and we'd just get evicted. I dont want to aggrevate the situation I just want to stop the smell from getting into our small home. What are my legal options to make it so we dont have to wake up to exhaust fumes? | ebfcew7 | ebfkq3r | 1,544,362,441 | 1,544,370,465 | 7 | 114 | Where is his truck when it's idling? | Not a legal solution, but vehicle exhaust contains carbon monoxide. If you can smell the exhaust, there are probably significant carbon monoxide levels in the house. Call 911 when this happens and ask the fire department to check for carbon monoxide. Do you have a functioning CO alarm? | 0 | 8,024 | 16.285714 |
a4kuxs | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | The fumes from my neighbors idling truck are coming into my small apartment. Despite speaking to the tenent and landlord this health hazard continues. Even after making them aware of Massachusetts idling laws no one is taking my concern seriously, what legal response is there to ensure our safety? When I first mentioned this to my landlord he spoke to the tenent and for a few days our neighbor wouldnt idle his truck for longer then 5 minutes which was fine because it takes about 15 for the livingroom and bedroom to start smelling like exhaust. However the reprieve didnt last long, Massachusetts winters are cold so my neighbor will idle his truck on average for 20 minutes- right beside our livingroom window. Our 1 bedroom is small and the smell quickly seeps throughout all but our bathroom. When both my fiance and I spoke to our neighbor we told him we honestly dont care if he idles his truck, so long as his truck end isnt backed up to our window. His reply was that it would be too hard for him to get out of his parking space if he parked any other way. ( we live on a narrow street and peole park on the street because all the multifamily apartment/homes offer little off street parking. My landlord seems bothered that we as tenents cant work this out, and trust me I wish we could, but I feel this is an unhealthy situation. I've even offered my landlord to walk through my apartment when hes had his truck idling for so long so he can see that im not just complaining against my neighbor. A friend suggested we threaten to stop paying rent if it continues but I feel that would put us in the wrong and we'd just get evicted. I dont want to aggrevate the situation I just want to stop the smell from getting into our small home. What are my legal options to make it so we dont have to wake up to exhaust fumes? | ebfcew7 | ebfmovi | 1,544,362,441 | 1,544,372,188 | 7 | 34 | Where is his truck when it's idling? | Record this happening. Get a carbon monoxide detector in the video too for good measure. Call the police every single time and show them the video. Force them to at a minimum create a police report if not issue a citation to the neighbor. With enough police reports you could probably sue your neighbor and get a restraining order. A compelling letter from a lawyer may have the same impact. | 0 | 9,747 | 4.857143 |
a4kuxs | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | The fumes from my neighbors idling truck are coming into my small apartment. Despite speaking to the tenent and landlord this health hazard continues. Even after making them aware of Massachusetts idling laws no one is taking my concern seriously, what legal response is there to ensure our safety? When I first mentioned this to my landlord he spoke to the tenent and for a few days our neighbor wouldnt idle his truck for longer then 5 minutes which was fine because it takes about 15 for the livingroom and bedroom to start smelling like exhaust. However the reprieve didnt last long, Massachusetts winters are cold so my neighbor will idle his truck on average for 20 minutes- right beside our livingroom window. Our 1 bedroom is small and the smell quickly seeps throughout all but our bathroom. When both my fiance and I spoke to our neighbor we told him we honestly dont care if he idles his truck, so long as his truck end isnt backed up to our window. His reply was that it would be too hard for him to get out of his parking space if he parked any other way. ( we live on a narrow street and peole park on the street because all the multifamily apartment/homes offer little off street parking. My landlord seems bothered that we as tenents cant work this out, and trust me I wish we could, but I feel this is an unhealthy situation. I've even offered my landlord to walk through my apartment when hes had his truck idling for so long so he can see that im not just complaining against my neighbor. A friend suggested we threaten to stop paying rent if it continues but I feel that would put us in the wrong and we'd just get evicted. I dont want to aggrevate the situation I just want to stop the smell from getting into our small home. What are my legal options to make it so we dont have to wake up to exhaust fumes? | ebfcew7 | ebg17ya | 1,544,362,441 | 1,544,382,593 | 7 | 21 | Where is his truck when it's idling? | Your law says you can idle to clear a windshield, so I think that would probably be his excuse. I wonder more why the exhaust is coming into the house? Are the windows not sealed good enough? Are there leaks in other places around the windows. | 0 | 20,152 | 3 |
a4kuxs | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | The fumes from my neighbors idling truck are coming into my small apartment. Despite speaking to the tenent and landlord this health hazard continues. Even after making them aware of Massachusetts idling laws no one is taking my concern seriously, what legal response is there to ensure our safety? When I first mentioned this to my landlord he spoke to the tenent and for a few days our neighbor wouldnt idle his truck for longer then 5 minutes which was fine because it takes about 15 for the livingroom and bedroom to start smelling like exhaust. However the reprieve didnt last long, Massachusetts winters are cold so my neighbor will idle his truck on average for 20 minutes- right beside our livingroom window. Our 1 bedroom is small and the smell quickly seeps throughout all but our bathroom. When both my fiance and I spoke to our neighbor we told him we honestly dont care if he idles his truck, so long as his truck end isnt backed up to our window. His reply was that it would be too hard for him to get out of his parking space if he parked any other way. ( we live on a narrow street and peole park on the street because all the multifamily apartment/homes offer little off street parking. My landlord seems bothered that we as tenents cant work this out, and trust me I wish we could, but I feel this is an unhealthy situation. I've even offered my landlord to walk through my apartment when hes had his truck idling for so long so he can see that im not just complaining against my neighbor. A friend suggested we threaten to stop paying rent if it continues but I feel that would put us in the wrong and we'd just get evicted. I dont want to aggrevate the situation I just want to stop the smell from getting into our small home. What are my legal options to make it so we dont have to wake up to exhaust fumes? | ebfxeoo | ebg17ya | 1,544,379,899 | 1,544,382,593 | 4 | 21 | Be sure to get documentation that you have made this issue and the relevant laws known to everybody involved. | Your law says you can idle to clear a windshield, so I think that would probably be his excuse. I wonder more why the exhaust is coming into the house? Are the windows not sealed good enough? Are there leaks in other places around the windows. | 0 | 2,694 | 5.25 |
wft6zk | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My employer of 5 years violated Montana’s Wrongful Discharge from Employment Act (WDEA) by suddenly firing me when I told them I had contracted COVID. No prior issues or disputes with the company. Boss verbally abused me and refused to respond after firing me. My employer provided no disciplinary notice or letter of termination. There is no HR department, and all of the administration in this company (60+ employees) is solely handled by the owner’s wife. My state has a specific law against wrongful termination. Under the Montana's Wrongful Discharge from Employment Act ("'WDEA"), a termination is wrongful if a) it was in retaliation for the employee's refusal to violate public policy or for reporting a violation of public policy; b) the discharge was not for good cause and the employee had completed the employer's probationary period of employment; or c) the employer violated the express provisions of its own written personnel policy. (Code Ann. g 39-2-904.) I believe the company violated all 3 criteria in this law: A, because I had COVID and was only contacting the employer to inform them about it, and it would violate CDC and local public health orders for me to go work in close proximity to others. B, because no express probationary period was stated and the default statutes for that period are limited to 1 year. My employment lasted 5 years. C, because there were no previous writeups, disciplinary notices, or disputes with my employer prior to this, and my employer’s policy for COVID (same as CDC guidelines) was that an important employee should not go to work if they are infectious with COVID. When I informed my boss of my condition, my boss told me that I would be fired if I did not show up for work that day. After telling me I would be fired if I didn’t go to work, I started heading to the work site. Not even 10 minutes after receiving that threatening text from my boss, she called me and became extremely volatile, telling me I was fired (even though I was on my way to the work site per their demands). They then cut all ties from me and have refused to answer my calls. My direct supervisor for my entire term of employment has contacted me and wants to help me file a lawsuit against the company. Not to seek a payout, but to hold them accountable and hopefully prevent current employees from being put at risk in the future. This person will be a huge source of evidence and supporting my claims. I am looking for advice regarding the statutes of Montana WDEA law, information about other potential violations the company is committing, and any tips for the litigation process to come. Thanks! | iix7vuy | iix4j9m | 1,659,624,571 | 1,659,623,223 | 93 | 70 | FWIW - the CDC is not relevant here. There is nothing from them that requires an employer to allow you to stay home if you have COVID. In addition - you may want to double check Montana’s current requirements as well. Many states of pulled any sort of requirement to have employers allow their employees to stay home as well. | ~~As Montana is a 1 party consent state, I would recommend installing an automatic call recorder app on your phone so that if your previous employer does call you, you will have proof of whatever they say.~~ Edit: Montana is a 2 party consent state. Only use valid sources online. Montana recording law stipulates that it is a two-party consent state, excluding some specific situations. In Montana, it is generally a criminal offense to use a hidden device to record oral or electronic communications without the consent of all contributing parties. Mont. Code Ann. § 45-8-213 (2011). This means that in Montana you are not legally allowed to secretly record a conversation unless all parties are in agreement, but in some situations recordings can be made without consent as long as this is not done covertly. This means that although consent is not required, all parties must be notified that the conversation is being recorded. | 1 | 1,348 | 1.328571 |
wft6zk | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My employer of 5 years violated Montana’s Wrongful Discharge from Employment Act (WDEA) by suddenly firing me when I told them I had contracted COVID. No prior issues or disputes with the company. Boss verbally abused me and refused to respond after firing me. My employer provided no disciplinary notice or letter of termination. There is no HR department, and all of the administration in this company (60+ employees) is solely handled by the owner’s wife. My state has a specific law against wrongful termination. Under the Montana's Wrongful Discharge from Employment Act ("'WDEA"), a termination is wrongful if a) it was in retaliation for the employee's refusal to violate public policy or for reporting a violation of public policy; b) the discharge was not for good cause and the employee had completed the employer's probationary period of employment; or c) the employer violated the express provisions of its own written personnel policy. (Code Ann. g 39-2-904.) I believe the company violated all 3 criteria in this law: A, because I had COVID and was only contacting the employer to inform them about it, and it would violate CDC and local public health orders for me to go work in close proximity to others. B, because no express probationary period was stated and the default statutes for that period are limited to 1 year. My employment lasted 5 years. C, because there were no previous writeups, disciplinary notices, or disputes with my employer prior to this, and my employer’s policy for COVID (same as CDC guidelines) was that an important employee should not go to work if they are infectious with COVID. When I informed my boss of my condition, my boss told me that I would be fired if I did not show up for work that day. After telling me I would be fired if I didn’t go to work, I started heading to the work site. Not even 10 minutes after receiving that threatening text from my boss, she called me and became extremely volatile, telling me I was fired (even though I was on my way to the work site per their demands). They then cut all ties from me and have refused to answer my calls. My direct supervisor for my entire term of employment has contacted me and wants to help me file a lawsuit against the company. Not to seek a payout, but to hold them accountable and hopefully prevent current employees from being put at risk in the future. This person will be a huge source of evidence and supporting my claims. I am looking for advice regarding the statutes of Montana WDEA law, information about other potential violations the company is committing, and any tips for the litigation process to come. Thanks! | iiydmny | iixmsyg | 1,659,640,373 | 1,659,630,318 | 17 | 6 | You might want to go and talk with a local job service office. They are funded by the state of Montana. When I worked at the one in Butte I saw several people come in and talk with one individual that helped people contact the labor board for issues with not getting paid by their employer. They may have good contact information for you. | Why not contact an attorney since you already know a bit about your state’s law? I mean, here, it’s a very slim chance of finding someone who knows a specific state’s laws and being able to practice there. I think it would be easier to look locally and get direction from there. | 1 | 10,055 | 2.833333 |
wft6zk | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My employer of 5 years violated Montana’s Wrongful Discharge from Employment Act (WDEA) by suddenly firing me when I told them I had contracted COVID. No prior issues or disputes with the company. Boss verbally abused me and refused to respond after firing me. My employer provided no disciplinary notice or letter of termination. There is no HR department, and all of the administration in this company (60+ employees) is solely handled by the owner’s wife. My state has a specific law against wrongful termination. Under the Montana's Wrongful Discharge from Employment Act ("'WDEA"), a termination is wrongful if a) it was in retaliation for the employee's refusal to violate public policy or for reporting a violation of public policy; b) the discharge was not for good cause and the employee had completed the employer's probationary period of employment; or c) the employer violated the express provisions of its own written personnel policy. (Code Ann. g 39-2-904.) I believe the company violated all 3 criteria in this law: A, because I had COVID and was only contacting the employer to inform them about it, and it would violate CDC and local public health orders for me to go work in close proximity to others. B, because no express probationary period was stated and the default statutes for that period are limited to 1 year. My employment lasted 5 years. C, because there were no previous writeups, disciplinary notices, or disputes with my employer prior to this, and my employer’s policy for COVID (same as CDC guidelines) was that an important employee should not go to work if they are infectious with COVID. When I informed my boss of my condition, my boss told me that I would be fired if I did not show up for work that day. After telling me I would be fired if I didn’t go to work, I started heading to the work site. Not even 10 minutes after receiving that threatening text from my boss, she called me and became extremely volatile, telling me I was fired (even though I was on my way to the work site per their demands). They then cut all ties from me and have refused to answer my calls. My direct supervisor for my entire term of employment has contacted me and wants to help me file a lawsuit against the company. Not to seek a payout, but to hold them accountable and hopefully prevent current employees from being put at risk in the future. This person will be a huge source of evidence and supporting my claims. I am looking for advice regarding the statutes of Montana WDEA law, information about other potential violations the company is committing, and any tips for the litigation process to come. Thanks! | iiyjz2q | iixmsyg | 1,659,642,769 | 1,659,630,318 | 10 | 6 | Just a heads uo you must exhaust all internal avenues of complaint and appeal before filing a WDEA claim. Solid read https://www.shrm.org/resourcesandtools/legal-and-compliance/state-and-local-updates/pages/montana-makes-significant-changes-to-state-employment-laws.aspx | Why not contact an attorney since you already know a bit about your state’s law? I mean, here, it’s a very slim chance of finding someone who knows a specific state’s laws and being able to practice there. I think it would be easier to look locally and get direction from there. | 1 | 12,451 | 1.666667 |
vfcudn | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Just had a court date to get a harassment restraining order for my neighbor and the judge refused to view evidence i presented and did not grant the restraining order. Hi guys, im at a total loss for words at the moment. Like the title says i had a court date yesterday with my family to get an restraining order on my neighbor for harassing us since early October when he moved in. The only way to fully understand the grasp of the whole situation is if i start from the beginning. My familys first contact with our neighbor was in early October when he blocked us in our driveway with his moving trailer. My dad has had multiple heart surgerys and basically has to go to the doctor every 3-4 days for checkups and blood work. My mother asked him if he could move his trailer because they were going to an doctor's appointment to which the neighbor insisted they could squeeze through the 6ft gap between his house and the trailer. Not wanting to risk damaging his house or our vehicle she demanded that he moves the trailer so they can leave. Aparantly this made him so upset that he would now on make it his mission to make our lives living hell From October to December it would be small stuff like flipping us off and calling us explicit names when we would pass by his house. We would never make eye contact or engage back with him when he was doing this and i think it annoyed him. In January he started to put signs up outside his house saying we can only use our driveway because he allows it and it can be taken back at any point. Mind you we have an easement on our property since 1960 that allows us to use our driveway past his house as thats the only way to get in and out of our house. After about a week of the signs being up he begins to throw trash, fence polls, large pinecones (think slightly smaller than a soccer ball) and large branches/small trees into our driveway to not allow us to pass. At this point ive started to take pictures of everything hes been doing to us and writing down times and dates of when it was happening because i knew this was going to eventually be brought to court. In the meantime we started to call the sheriff on our neighbor when he would block the road but after the 3rd time of them coming out they basically said they cant do anything to stop him... Between January and May i have written down over 90+ times he has blocked us in, yelled profanity at my elderly parents, flipped us off, thrown trash and spit at our vehicles onto my list. At this point I've started to look into getting an harassment restraining order filed on this guy and went to our courthouse to start filling out the papers. Hopefully this restraining order would stop him or atleast help us when the sheriff eventually would get called out again. Once we submitted the papers and had the sheriff serve him is when it really got real. In the few weeks leading up to the court date i decided it would be a good idea to get a household security system setup and dashcam on my car to capture what he does to me every single time i leave for work, come home for lunch, or try to leave my house in general. Our outdoor cameras caught him walking on our property taking pictures of our house and cars while we were gone and also flying a drone around my property and above my house. At this point were really starting to get scared because the kind of people he hangsout with could only be categorized as sketchy druggies judging by the scabs on their arms and faces and also how they walk around shaking and just basically "tweaking". We dont know of hes trying to case our house or whatnot to possibly break in but im glad we caught all this on camera. Fast forward to the court date where i was coming home from work early to get ready for court and noticed him and 4 of his "friends" were waiting for me and standing in my driveway not letting me go to my house until i rolled down the window to talk to them. At this point i pull out my phone and start recording the whole encounter because im scared out of my mind. They basically jusy sling threats of blocking my road and cussing at me to which I only say "Stop harassing me i dont want to talk to you" and get around the dude blocking me. I recorded the whole thing on both my phone and my dashcam and copied everything to a flashdrive for court. I proceed to the courthouse with my elderly parents and plead our case by reading off the list of recorded events since January, show proof of our easement which allows a 16ft wide driveway for vehicles, water, and utilities to our house and even pull up property lines that got surveyed just 4 years earlier from a logging plan. When i tried to give all this evidence to the judge he refused to look at any of it... I was very confused because all of this would prove my case. My neighbor told his side of the story which could be summed up to This being his first home after being homeless for 3 yesrs, he never did anything towards me ever, how i have no proof of anything and my list is all hearsay. After he pled his defense i then reminded the judge i have all the evidence to prove his claims are false and how hes been harassing my family since October but the judge denied seeing my evidence for a 2nd time and said what i have told him doesnt constitute to needing a restraining order... On his way out of the courtroom my neighbor screamed "Losers haha" to which when i pointed it out to the judge he didnt seam to care. At this point i feel like all the abuse we have suffered in the last months for evidence was all for nothing and i dont really know where to go from here. Can i appeal the judges decision and hopefully get a new judge? Would it be better to hire an attorney to try again? Is there anything i can possibly do to get him to stop? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. | icv18tq | icw71pq | 1,655,578,968 | 1,655,600,014 | 15 | 16 | Documentation on the easement and a survey would generally be irrelevant in a restraining order hearing. Did you present evidence of the harassment? | How did you submit your evidence? There is a procedure for submitting evidence since the other person needs to be able to review it. When I did my restraining order I looked up the judge once the case was assigned and looked up their assistant. I called the assistant up and they gave instructions on how to submit video evidence. I’m not sure where you go from here. | 0 | 21,046 | 1.066667 |
w0ndj2 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Should I file a civil suit as a victim of home burglary? The robber dropped his photo ID inside our property. I’m in Chicago. Police arrested him but have to let him go since state’s attorney said not enough proof. Police officer advised to try and do a civil suit. | igfcdzt | iggim05 | 1,657,997,131 | 1,658,016,251 | 15 | 75 | People who commit burglaries generally don't have much in the way of assets or income, which you need to collect on any judgment. | Sue the person in small claims court. A lot of people come on this sub and say that if this then no money or if that then you're gonna waste your time. I find that to be horribly bad advice because you never know what someone has and small claims court is not expensive. What if they have plenty of money or if you can garnish their wages? Small claims court is cheap and easy enough that it is absolutely worth your time. | 0 | 19,120 | 5 |
59xcnq | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Police officers are going to be doing random bag checks on the streets in the Wrigleyville neighborhood in Chicago for the World Series. How is this constitutional when stop and frisk is not? Can I refuse to be searched? | d9c4m8v | d9c3b24 | 1,477,696,984 | 1,477,694,850 | 123 | 99 | There is a public safety exception to the 4th amendment (it's why DUI checkpoints are legal). Does this qualify? Not sure. That's up to the courts to decide if someone challenges it. | You can likely refuse to be searched, but then you will most likely be asked to leave the area. | 1 | 2,134 | 1.242424 |
59xcnq | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Police officers are going to be doing random bag checks on the streets in the Wrigleyville neighborhood in Chicago for the World Series. How is this constitutional when stop and frisk is not? Can I refuse to be searched? | d9c47zl | d9c4m8v | 1,477,696,335 | 1,477,696,984 | 59 | 123 | Well, I'll point out that "stop and frisk" in New York city was being practiced as far back as 2008 and continued without a final court finding that they were unconstitutional until 2014[1]. So there are a few million New Yorkers who might be wondering the same thing. There are certain kinds of abuses that the legal system is not particularly quick or effective at reducing. [1] - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stop-and-frisk_in_New_York_City | There is a public safety exception to the 4th amendment (it's why DUI checkpoints are legal). Does this qualify? Not sure. That's up to the courts to decide if someone challenges it. | 0 | 649 | 2.084746 |
59xcnq | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Police officers are going to be doing random bag checks on the streets in the Wrigleyville neighborhood in Chicago for the World Series. How is this constitutional when stop and frisk is not? Can I refuse to be searched? | d9c2w11 | d9c4m8v | 1,477,694,180 | 1,477,696,984 | 12 | 123 | Source? | There is a public safety exception to the 4th amendment (it's why DUI checkpoints are legal). Does this qualify? Not sure. That's up to the courts to decide if someone challenges it. | 0 | 2,804 | 10.25 |
59xcnq | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Police officers are going to be doing random bag checks on the streets in the Wrigleyville neighborhood in Chicago for the World Series. How is this constitutional when stop and frisk is not? Can I refuse to be searched? | d9c2w11 | d9c3b24 | 1,477,694,180 | 1,477,694,850 | 12 | 99 | Source? | You can likely refuse to be searched, but then you will most likely be asked to leave the area. | 0 | 670 | 8.25 |
59xcnq | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Police officers are going to be doing random bag checks on the streets in the Wrigleyville neighborhood in Chicago for the World Series. How is this constitutional when stop and frisk is not? Can I refuse to be searched? | d9c47zl | d9c2w11 | 1,477,696,335 | 1,477,694,180 | 59 | 12 | Well, I'll point out that "stop and frisk" in New York city was being practiced as far back as 2008 and continued without a final court finding that they were unconstitutional until 2014[1]. So there are a few million New Yorkers who might be wondering the same thing. There are certain kinds of abuses that the legal system is not particularly quick or effective at reducing. [1] - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stop-and-frisk_in_New_York_City | Source? | 1 | 2,155 | 4.916667 |
yhbg5a | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | Landlord harassing me and throwing away my personal property starting on the second day of the three day notice to pay or quit. Comes onto property no notice to me and just destroys/throws my property out. Hi landlord is in the process of evicting me. On the second day of the three day pay or quit notice he began throwing my personal belongings form around the property away. He has been coming onto the property every single day since and never given me 12 hour notice . He broke into the locked patio and destroyed my work benches and entire patio area he’s destroyed or thrown away at least 3k worth of my personal belongings. Yesterday he threw out 3 giant bags of my clothes. I have him on video throwing stuff out and a neighbor willing to testify he’s seen him doing this every day. | iufeati | iufgtc4 | 1,667,168,509 | 1,667,169,583 | 2 | 8 | Laws can vary from state to province, so your state may matter. But I don't know if anywhere in the US or Canada where that's a legal eviction, and even if it was, he can't just wreck your things. | This is literally an illegal eviction. You should be able to get protection from the Sheriff, if not the police. He needs to file for an eviction after the three day pay and quit, and that usually takes 30 days to get a hearing. You can ask the Judge for a dismissal of his eviction filing. There are usually pro Bono lawyers in every State (like legal aid) that can help advise you through an illegal eviction process. None of this is easy, but you need to prepare for a day in court. If nothing else, you can easily use a Declaration form that you can download and print out your version of events and also file it with the Court Clerk. There is probably a legal CODE for an illegal eviction, and you need to include the code on the Declaration along with pictures ,(evidence). I don't know how you would submit a video. Eviction court is in fact small claims court so don't be intimidated. It's more casual. | 0 | 1,074 | 4 |
t6f1ya | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, then got threatened that if i didn’t then he’d come to my house So I accidentally got locked out of my house yesterday (second time) and called my usual locksmith, but was busy so had to look elsewhere. Found another one rated 5 stars on yelp and asked for help. Said yes and told me to text my address. After sending my address I asked the ETA and how much it was going to cost. To which he only replied his ETA. After 40 or so minutes I asked his ETA again which prompted a reply not too long after. Was weird but looked passed it When he came he told me he’d look at the lock to see if he can open it, and if he couldn’t he would just replace the lock entirely for $200. Knew he was charging higher because last time I got locked out it only cost me $95. But didn’t say anything and saw if he managed to open it. After 20 or so minutes, he decided he couldn’t open it and wanted to change the entire lock. Told him I didn’t want to go through that hassle. Then came repeated back and forth of him trying to convince me there’s no problem and he’d do the service for the $200. I kept saying no until he gave up and asked for a $30 service fee for coming. I gave him the $30 and he left. I asked another locksmith and he came to do it for $95. After I got inside I left a bad review on yelp saying he was trying to overcharge me and how he was trying to put the blame on me. Today he calls and tells me to remove the review. Which I was going to do after 1 call. But he repeatedly called me and texted me to take the review off. Until I did to which he texted “If you don’t I come to your home.” To which I replied “Done. Don’t come to my house.” Now I am a bit scared because he does know where I live and he is a locksmith. What should I do in this situation? tl;dr left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, and then received a threat telling me to remove it or he’d come to my house. | hzb85zx | hzawdsc | 1,646,398,961 | 1,646,391,127 | 1,359 | 94 | Call the cops if they’re making threats. Don’t put up with that shit. Screenshot everything for evidence. | As someone that works in the industry, it is possible that he wasn't ripping you off and just had a better lockset to install. $95 for a locksmith to come out and install a new lockset seems a bit on the low end to me. I'm sure he used something from Home Depot that is not very secure | 1 | 7,834 | 14.457447 |
t6f1ya | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, then got threatened that if i didn’t then he’d come to my house So I accidentally got locked out of my house yesterday (second time) and called my usual locksmith, but was busy so had to look elsewhere. Found another one rated 5 stars on yelp and asked for help. Said yes and told me to text my address. After sending my address I asked the ETA and how much it was going to cost. To which he only replied his ETA. After 40 or so minutes I asked his ETA again which prompted a reply not too long after. Was weird but looked passed it When he came he told me he’d look at the lock to see if he can open it, and if he couldn’t he would just replace the lock entirely for $200. Knew he was charging higher because last time I got locked out it only cost me $95. But didn’t say anything and saw if he managed to open it. After 20 or so minutes, he decided he couldn’t open it and wanted to change the entire lock. Told him I didn’t want to go through that hassle. Then came repeated back and forth of him trying to convince me there’s no problem and he’d do the service for the $200. I kept saying no until he gave up and asked for a $30 service fee for coming. I gave him the $30 and he left. I asked another locksmith and he came to do it for $95. After I got inside I left a bad review on yelp saying he was trying to overcharge me and how he was trying to put the blame on me. Today he calls and tells me to remove the review. Which I was going to do after 1 call. But he repeatedly called me and texted me to take the review off. Until I did to which he texted “If you don’t I come to your home.” To which I replied “Done. Don’t come to my house.” Now I am a bit scared because he does know where I live and he is a locksmith. What should I do in this situation? tl;dr left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, and then received a threat telling me to remove it or he’d come to my house. | hzbczyy | hzawdsc | 1,646,401,461 | 1,646,391,127 | 504 | 94 | Do you mind updating your location, realistically other than a police report you should also be able to file a complaint with some form of regulating entity. Locksmithing for a business requires a license, and making threats over a negative review for poor business tactics is definitely out of line. I would like to help you find out where to file this complaint in your specific state. Bonus points, if this locksmith is a member of ALOA, Associated Locksmiths Of America. I'm sure they would like to hear about this as well. | As someone that works in the industry, it is possible that he wasn't ripping you off and just had a better lockset to install. $95 for a locksmith to come out and install a new lockset seems a bit on the low end to me. I'm sure he used something from Home Depot that is not very secure | 1 | 10,334 | 5.361702 |
t6f1ya | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, then got threatened that if i didn’t then he’d come to my house So I accidentally got locked out of my house yesterday (second time) and called my usual locksmith, but was busy so had to look elsewhere. Found another one rated 5 stars on yelp and asked for help. Said yes and told me to text my address. After sending my address I asked the ETA and how much it was going to cost. To which he only replied his ETA. After 40 or so minutes I asked his ETA again which prompted a reply not too long after. Was weird but looked passed it When he came he told me he’d look at the lock to see if he can open it, and if he couldn’t he would just replace the lock entirely for $200. Knew he was charging higher because last time I got locked out it only cost me $95. But didn’t say anything and saw if he managed to open it. After 20 or so minutes, he decided he couldn’t open it and wanted to change the entire lock. Told him I didn’t want to go through that hassle. Then came repeated back and forth of him trying to convince me there’s no problem and he’d do the service for the $200. I kept saying no until he gave up and asked for a $30 service fee for coming. I gave him the $30 and he left. I asked another locksmith and he came to do it for $95. After I got inside I left a bad review on yelp saying he was trying to overcharge me and how he was trying to put the blame on me. Today he calls and tells me to remove the review. Which I was going to do after 1 call. But he repeatedly called me and texted me to take the review off. Until I did to which he texted “If you don’t I come to your home.” To which I replied “Done. Don’t come to my house.” Now I am a bit scared because he does know where I live and he is a locksmith. What should I do in this situation? tl;dr left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, and then received a threat telling me to remove it or he’d come to my house. | hzck2wc | hzawdsc | 1,646,419,153 | 1,646,391,127 | 113 | 94 | Also go invest in a keylock box and a spare set of keys because apparently this happens to you alot. | As someone that works in the industry, it is possible that he wasn't ripping you off and just had a better lockset to install. $95 for a locksmith to come out and install a new lockset seems a bit on the low end to me. I'm sure he used something from Home Depot that is not very secure | 1 | 28,026 | 1.202128 |
t6f1ya | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, then got threatened that if i didn’t then he’d come to my house So I accidentally got locked out of my house yesterday (second time) and called my usual locksmith, but was busy so had to look elsewhere. Found another one rated 5 stars on yelp and asked for help. Said yes and told me to text my address. After sending my address I asked the ETA and how much it was going to cost. To which he only replied his ETA. After 40 or so minutes I asked his ETA again which prompted a reply not too long after. Was weird but looked passed it When he came he told me he’d look at the lock to see if he can open it, and if he couldn’t he would just replace the lock entirely for $200. Knew he was charging higher because last time I got locked out it only cost me $95. But didn’t say anything and saw if he managed to open it. After 20 or so minutes, he decided he couldn’t open it and wanted to change the entire lock. Told him I didn’t want to go through that hassle. Then came repeated back and forth of him trying to convince me there’s no problem and he’d do the service for the $200. I kept saying no until he gave up and asked for a $30 service fee for coming. I gave him the $30 and he left. I asked another locksmith and he came to do it for $95. After I got inside I left a bad review on yelp saying he was trying to overcharge me and how he was trying to put the blame on me. Today he calls and tells me to remove the review. Which I was going to do after 1 call. But he repeatedly called me and texted me to take the review off. Until I did to which he texted “If you don’t I come to your home.” To which I replied “Done. Don’t come to my house.” Now I am a bit scared because he does know where I live and he is a locksmith. What should I do in this situation? tl;dr left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, and then received a threat telling me to remove it or he’d come to my house. | hzbhl9j | hzck2wc | 1,646,403,608 | 1,646,419,153 | 60 | 113 | Police report, assuming the thing you quoted is what he said to you. That's not a particularly *serious* threat, but it's clearly a threat, and he's not allowed to come to forcibly replace your locks for free or whatever other dumb explanation he could come up with for that threat. You don't tell someone you'll "come to their home" to collect something you think they owe you. | Also go invest in a keylock box and a spare set of keys because apparently this happens to you alot. | 0 | 15,545 | 1.883333 |
t6f1ya | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, then got threatened that if i didn’t then he’d come to my house So I accidentally got locked out of my house yesterday (second time) and called my usual locksmith, but was busy so had to look elsewhere. Found another one rated 5 stars on yelp and asked for help. Said yes and told me to text my address. After sending my address I asked the ETA and how much it was going to cost. To which he only replied his ETA. After 40 or so minutes I asked his ETA again which prompted a reply not too long after. Was weird but looked passed it When he came he told me he’d look at the lock to see if he can open it, and if he couldn’t he would just replace the lock entirely for $200. Knew he was charging higher because last time I got locked out it only cost me $95. But didn’t say anything and saw if he managed to open it. After 20 or so minutes, he decided he couldn’t open it and wanted to change the entire lock. Told him I didn’t want to go through that hassle. Then came repeated back and forth of him trying to convince me there’s no problem and he’d do the service for the $200. I kept saying no until he gave up and asked for a $30 service fee for coming. I gave him the $30 and he left. I asked another locksmith and he came to do it for $95. After I got inside I left a bad review on yelp saying he was trying to overcharge me and how he was trying to put the blame on me. Today he calls and tells me to remove the review. Which I was going to do after 1 call. But he repeatedly called me and texted me to take the review off. Until I did to which he texted “If you don’t I come to your home.” To which I replied “Done. Don’t come to my house.” Now I am a bit scared because he does know where I live and he is a locksmith. What should I do in this situation? tl;dr left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, and then received a threat telling me to remove it or he’d come to my house. | hzck2wc | hzbrf7b | 1,646,419,153 | 1,646,407,828 | 113 | 41 | Also go invest in a keylock box and a spare set of keys because apparently this happens to you alot. | Never allow someone to intimidate you into taking down a review whether it be positive or negative as long as it's true. I personally recommend you immediately contact the police and file a report on the incident. You also reserve the right to state that you will defend yourself in instances like this. I wish you a favorable outcome. | 1 | 11,325 | 2.756098 |
t6f1ya | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, then got threatened that if i didn’t then he’d come to my house So I accidentally got locked out of my house yesterday (second time) and called my usual locksmith, but was busy so had to look elsewhere. Found another one rated 5 stars on yelp and asked for help. Said yes and told me to text my address. After sending my address I asked the ETA and how much it was going to cost. To which he only replied his ETA. After 40 or so minutes I asked his ETA again which prompted a reply not too long after. Was weird but looked passed it When he came he told me he’d look at the lock to see if he can open it, and if he couldn’t he would just replace the lock entirely for $200. Knew he was charging higher because last time I got locked out it only cost me $95. But didn’t say anything and saw if he managed to open it. After 20 or so minutes, he decided he couldn’t open it and wanted to change the entire lock. Told him I didn’t want to go through that hassle. Then came repeated back and forth of him trying to convince me there’s no problem and he’d do the service for the $200. I kept saying no until he gave up and asked for a $30 service fee for coming. I gave him the $30 and he left. I asked another locksmith and he came to do it for $95. After I got inside I left a bad review on yelp saying he was trying to overcharge me and how he was trying to put the blame on me. Today he calls and tells me to remove the review. Which I was going to do after 1 call. But he repeatedly called me and texted me to take the review off. Until I did to which he texted “If you don’t I come to your home.” To which I replied “Done. Don’t come to my house.” Now I am a bit scared because he does know where I live and he is a locksmith. What should I do in this situation? tl;dr left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, and then received a threat telling me to remove it or he’d come to my house. | hzbhl9j | hzd7pxt | 1,646,403,608 | 1,646,428,211 | 60 | 73 | Police report, assuming the thing you quoted is what he said to you. That's not a particularly *serious* threat, but it's clearly a threat, and he's not allowed to come to forcibly replace your locks for free or whatever other dumb explanation he could come up with for that threat. You don't tell someone you'll "come to their home" to collect something you think they owe you. | Look into his licensing board. I took online locksmith classes, a lot of these idiots go for the shortcut route of drilling the lock to then charge for a full replacement. He should have been capable of unlocking your original lock with basic skills. He was just a super lazy idiot. The only reason a locksmith is authorized to destroy a lock is if they get full consent from the owner, there is an immediate emergency, or the lock was vandalized to a point where regular means of bypass would be impossible (lock was glued shut, etc.) | 0 | 24,603 | 1.216667 |
t6f1ya | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, then got threatened that if i didn’t then he’d come to my house So I accidentally got locked out of my house yesterday (second time) and called my usual locksmith, but was busy so had to look elsewhere. Found another one rated 5 stars on yelp and asked for help. Said yes and told me to text my address. After sending my address I asked the ETA and how much it was going to cost. To which he only replied his ETA. After 40 or so minutes I asked his ETA again which prompted a reply not too long after. Was weird but looked passed it When he came he told me he’d look at the lock to see if he can open it, and if he couldn’t he would just replace the lock entirely for $200. Knew he was charging higher because last time I got locked out it only cost me $95. But didn’t say anything and saw if he managed to open it. After 20 or so minutes, he decided he couldn’t open it and wanted to change the entire lock. Told him I didn’t want to go through that hassle. Then came repeated back and forth of him trying to convince me there’s no problem and he’d do the service for the $200. I kept saying no until he gave up and asked for a $30 service fee for coming. I gave him the $30 and he left. I asked another locksmith and he came to do it for $95. After I got inside I left a bad review on yelp saying he was trying to overcharge me and how he was trying to put the blame on me. Today he calls and tells me to remove the review. Which I was going to do after 1 call. But he repeatedly called me and texted me to take the review off. Until I did to which he texted “If you don’t I come to your home.” To which I replied “Done. Don’t come to my house.” Now I am a bit scared because he does know where I live and he is a locksmith. What should I do in this situation? tl;dr left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, and then received a threat telling me to remove it or he’d come to my house. | hzbrf7b | hzd7pxt | 1,646,407,828 | 1,646,428,211 | 41 | 73 | Never allow someone to intimidate you into taking down a review whether it be positive or negative as long as it's true. I personally recommend you immediately contact the police and file a report on the incident. You also reserve the right to state that you will defend yourself in instances like this. I wish you a favorable outcome. | Look into his licensing board. I took online locksmith classes, a lot of these idiots go for the shortcut route of drilling the lock to then charge for a full replacement. He should have been capable of unlocking your original lock with basic skills. He was just a super lazy idiot. The only reason a locksmith is authorized to destroy a lock is if they get full consent from the owner, there is an immediate emergency, or the lock was vandalized to a point where regular means of bypass would be impossible (lock was glued shut, etc.) | 0 | 20,383 | 1.780488 |
t6f1ya | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, then got threatened that if i didn’t then he’d come to my house So I accidentally got locked out of my house yesterday (second time) and called my usual locksmith, but was busy so had to look elsewhere. Found another one rated 5 stars on yelp and asked for help. Said yes and told me to text my address. After sending my address I asked the ETA and how much it was going to cost. To which he only replied his ETA. After 40 or so minutes I asked his ETA again which prompted a reply not too long after. Was weird but looked passed it When he came he told me he’d look at the lock to see if he can open it, and if he couldn’t he would just replace the lock entirely for $200. Knew he was charging higher because last time I got locked out it only cost me $95. But didn’t say anything and saw if he managed to open it. After 20 or so minutes, he decided he couldn’t open it and wanted to change the entire lock. Told him I didn’t want to go through that hassle. Then came repeated back and forth of him trying to convince me there’s no problem and he’d do the service for the $200. I kept saying no until he gave up and asked for a $30 service fee for coming. I gave him the $30 and he left. I asked another locksmith and he came to do it for $95. After I got inside I left a bad review on yelp saying he was trying to overcharge me and how he was trying to put the blame on me. Today he calls and tells me to remove the review. Which I was going to do after 1 call. But he repeatedly called me and texted me to take the review off. Until I did to which he texted “If you don’t I come to your home.” To which I replied “Done. Don’t come to my house.” Now I am a bit scared because he does know where I live and he is a locksmith. What should I do in this situation? tl;dr left a bad yelp review on this locksmith for trying to overcharge me, and then received a threat telling me to remove it or he’d come to my house. | hzd7pxt | hzd3ru1 | 1,646,428,211 | 1,646,426,715 | 73 | 31 | Look into his licensing board. I took online locksmith classes, a lot of these idiots go for the shortcut route of drilling the lock to then charge for a full replacement. He should have been capable of unlocking your original lock with basic skills. He was just a super lazy idiot. The only reason a locksmith is authorized to destroy a lock is if they get full consent from the owner, there is an immediate emergency, or the lock was vandalized to a point where regular means of bypass would be impossible (lock was glued shut, etc.) | Definitely file a police report and look into the licensing board in your state, I would have to imagine this is near the top of the list of things that will get your license revoked. | 1 | 1,496 | 2.354839 |
dlqvoh | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [WV] My neighbors have come onto my property and cut down nearly a dozen old growth trees and hauled off the timber. This has happened in central West Virginia. I went for a walk on my property today and noticed some tree tops laying on the ground. At first I assumed wind damage, but when I got closer almost a dozen trees have been cut down, de-limbed, and the trunks drug out to an adjoining property. Based on the tracks left in the mud it appears they used a farm tractor. I just built a house on the property last fall and had the property lines surveyed then so the whole line is marked with pink ribbons. I do not have posted signs up however. What can I do to recover losses? Who should I contact? Thanks in advance. | f4tn1xl | f4u2e6d | 1,571,791,042 | 1,571,797,392 | 8 | 98 | Over in the search bar type in tree law. Limit the search to /r/legaladvice . You might be able to recover monetary loss of your trees. There are several posts by users who know more than I do about this subject, and most have great advice on how you should proceed. | West Virginia timber theft * http://www.wvlegislature.gov/wvcode/ChapterEntire.cfm?chap=61&art=3§ion=48A * https://wvfa.mynewscenter.org/timber-theft-wv-code/ * https://wvforestry.com/laws-regulations/timber-theft/ * https://forestry.ca.uky.edu/files/ky-timber-theft-2016-report.pdf * http://www.emlf.org/clientuploads/directory/whitepaper/Addendum_07.pdf In addition to all the good suggestions here already, you should post your property with no trespassing signs. In your new house, you should probably put in some burglar alarms - sensors, so that if it is meth heads, you can be alerted and save your house from damage. Something like Ring or Safelock, etc. | 0 | 6,350 | 12.25 |
qx06oq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor is threatening to cut my tree and have me foot the bill [California] I have a tree on my property with some branches up high that crosses over my neighbor’s property line. It’s a mature tree and provides ample shade but my neighbor claims the leaves and sap is damaging his car. He sends me a text message telling me that tree trimmers will be cutting the branches and that I’m responsible for the $3000 bill or else he’ll take me to court. He also threatens to dump the debris onto my yard if I don’t pay the disposal fee. Note, he did not ask for my permission to trim the tree. I would have been willing to split the tree trimming service if he had been willing to compromise, but it sounds like he wants to take me to court from the start. From my knowledge, he can legally trim the tree to the property line but cannot trespass on my property to cut the tree. I’m seeking advice on how best to protect myself and if he can legally charge me for a service I did not agree to. I have not replied to him yet in fear that anything I say will be used against me in court. Hoping someone with expertise in tree law can advise. Thanks!! | hl71wgk | hl6ui9u | 1,637,284,042 | 1,637,280,635 | 38 | 27 | Tree law is intense. He doesn't know the shit storm he might get into for touching a tree. | I would say, send in writing a very clear note to your neighbor that you have in no way any desire for it to be cut down nor trimmed. The folks on this sub are correct on the law, however there are many cases in which the cutter states they were doing the nice neighborly thing as the owner said they wanted it gone and the ruling has gone in favor of the cutter. By providing a recent and clear desire for it to not be cut down nor trimmed you help avoid this outcome. | 1 | 3,407 | 1.407407 |
ci41ro | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Roommate bailed 3 days before move in, I am now unable to afford to stay in my home. Leasing company is holding me liable for the entire upcoming year due to lack of a 30 notice of departure as well as a verbal contract stating we planned to renew for the upcoming year prior to him backing out. Two new people were planning to move in with me this upcoming year, replacing my current roommates. Roommate #3 decided two days ago he couldn’t afford the place we were staying in and backed out. (the end of the current lease is July 31st) When we informed our leasing company of the situation, that I and roommate #2 were unable to afford the place by ourselves and that we were looking for a new home that we could better afford, they informed us that due to lack of a notice of departure 30 days prior to the end of the lease along with me saying “We plan to stay in the property for the upcoming year” (this is the verbal contract) that we were liable for the entire upcoming year. I obviously don’t want anyone to suffer in this situation, our leasing agency is solid and has been good to us over the last year, so I don’t want to screw them over. We have been trying very hard to find subleasing for the property before we make moves on a new home, but living in a college town our options for a new home are very quickly disappearing as we get closer to August. My housing bills between our new place and my current place this month are stacking into the thousands while 3 days ago I thought I would only have to pay rent come August. We just simply cannot afford to be responsible for both properties. The only legal advising I have gotten has been directly from my landlord, which would make anyone question the validity of that advice in regards to a contract with said landlord. That’s why I need your help. In the state of Kansas, what exactly is my legal responsibility here? My lease is not even up at this point, why am I unable to back out of a contract (for next year) that I have never signed? Lastly, is all the information they have told me in regards to being liable for the entire year correct? Thank you all very much. | ev1rk0m | ev1n0i0 | 1,564,163,938 | 1,564,161,661 | 15 | 6 | > due to lack of a notice of departure 30 days prior to the end of the lease along with me saying “We plan to stay in the property for the upcoming year” (this is the verbal contract) that we were liable for the entire upcoming year. That's not right. If you don't renew a lease for a new year, usually the lease defaults to month-to-month. | I would notify the leasing company in writing that you plan to vacate in 30 days. Check your lease to see what are the requirements to end the contract. Most leases require at least 30 days notice and if you don't give 30 days notice before the end of the lease it will automatically go month to month. | 1 | 2,277 | 2.5 |
ci41ro | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Roommate bailed 3 days before move in, I am now unable to afford to stay in my home. Leasing company is holding me liable for the entire upcoming year due to lack of a 30 notice of departure as well as a verbal contract stating we planned to renew for the upcoming year prior to him backing out. Two new people were planning to move in with me this upcoming year, replacing my current roommates. Roommate #3 decided two days ago he couldn’t afford the place we were staying in and backed out. (the end of the current lease is July 31st) When we informed our leasing company of the situation, that I and roommate #2 were unable to afford the place by ourselves and that we were looking for a new home that we could better afford, they informed us that due to lack of a notice of departure 30 days prior to the end of the lease along with me saying “We plan to stay in the property for the upcoming year” (this is the verbal contract) that we were liable for the entire upcoming year. I obviously don’t want anyone to suffer in this situation, our leasing agency is solid and has been good to us over the last year, so I don’t want to screw them over. We have been trying very hard to find subleasing for the property before we make moves on a new home, but living in a college town our options for a new home are very quickly disappearing as we get closer to August. My housing bills between our new place and my current place this month are stacking into the thousands while 3 days ago I thought I would only have to pay rent come August. We just simply cannot afford to be responsible for both properties. The only legal advising I have gotten has been directly from my landlord, which would make anyone question the validity of that advice in regards to a contract with said landlord. That’s why I need your help. In the state of Kansas, what exactly is my legal responsibility here? My lease is not even up at this point, why am I unable to back out of a contract (for next year) that I have never signed? Lastly, is all the information they have told me in regards to being liable for the entire year correct? Thank you all very much. | ev1n0i0 | ev1v0zx | 1,564,161,661 | 1,564,165,629 | 6 | 8 | I would notify the leasing company in writing that you plan to vacate in 30 days. Check your lease to see what are the requirements to end the contract. Most leases require at least 30 days notice and if you don't give 30 days notice before the end of the lease it will automatically go month to month. | Not a Lawyer. Bad news, then good news: The bad news: It looks like Kansas generally acknowledges verbal leases being enforceable. They are not required to be month to month, and can effectively auto-renew on a yearly basis. 30 days written notice is the legal standard, so you owe them some rent. The good news: They cannot bind you to a whole year. They must make a reasonable effort to re-lease and can only charge you for months the home is vacant (see Kan. Stat. Ann. § 58-2565(c) -http://www.ksrevisor.org/statutes/chapters/ch58/058_025_0065.html. If they fail to do so, then you may be able to argue in court that you owe them nothing. | 0 | 3,968 | 1.333333 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dsl443h | dsl42xk | 1,515,786,523 | 1,515,786,491 | 436 | 13 | They can't do either (force an abortion or force you to give up the baby). If they do involve CPS, that doesn't automatically mean you will lose your child. CPS of course will be concerned with your ability to care for/support the child, but generally the "insta take away" triggers are drugs, alcohol, abuse, or other serious examples of neglect. | How old will you be when the baby is born? | 1 | 32 | 33.538462 |
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7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dsl48ew | dsl473b | 1,515,786,641 | 1,515,786,604 | 374 | 52 | Your body, your decision. They cannot force you to have an abortion if you don’t want one. That said, they *are* thinking about your future in ways that may be tough to acknowledge: it is a VERY VERY VERY difficult world out there for a single mom without a college degree or savings. What you need is counseling; talk to your school counselor and see if they can find you someone to help you figure out the best path for YOU. Whatever you decide I wish you good luck! | Good grief, no. It's your child and your body. No one can force an abortion, and short of actual mistreatment on your part nothing can take the child away from you once its born. Your family situation seems awful, and I'm sorry. But you're legally in the clear here. | 1 | 37 | 7.192308 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dsl48ew | dsl42xk | 1,515,786,641 | 1,515,786,491 | 374 | 13 | Your body, your decision. They cannot force you to have an abortion if you don’t want one. That said, they *are* thinking about your future in ways that may be tough to acknowledge: it is a VERY VERY VERY difficult world out there for a single mom without a college degree or savings. What you need is counseling; talk to your school counselor and see if they can find you someone to help you figure out the best path for YOU. Whatever you decide I wish you good luck! | How old will you be when the baby is born? | 1 | 150 | 28.769231 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dsl48ew | dsl3yu8 | 1,515,786,641 | 1,515,786,380 | 374 | 3 | Your body, your decision. They cannot force you to have an abortion if you don’t want one. That said, they *are* thinking about your future in ways that may be tough to acknowledge: it is a VERY VERY VERY difficult world out there for a single mom without a college degree or savings. What you need is counseling; talk to your school counselor and see if they can find you someone to help you figure out the best path for YOU. Whatever you decide I wish you good luck! | ---
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7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dslkvzw | dsl4erd | 1,515,804,525 | 1,515,786,815 | 71 | 55 | I'm a huge fan of abortion and I used to work in an abortion clinic. I can promise you that there are no doctors or clinics out there who will force you to go through with a procedure you don't want. Most will require you to have one on one counseling without your parents for this specific reason. If your parents refuse to let you in there alone, the clinic won't do the procedure. I'm so sorry they're trying to control your parenting decisions. It's ultimately only up to you, and you're the best expert on your own life. Having a baby is hard work but you deserve all of the support you need if that's what you choose to do. Good luck. | Your parents can't force you to have an abortion. Since you are a minor, they might be able to involve ACS, but I don't believe they can simply take the baby without your consent. You need to read this: https://choicesinchildbirth.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/nyclu_pub_rights_parenting_teens.pdf That all being said, look, though you may desperately want a child, you are simply not in a position to give the child the type of supported, full-time care a child requires, especially if you're going to be doing this without the support of your family or the father. Becoming a mother means becoming an adult, and the adult thing to do is to consider the interests of the child here and maximize that child's potential to have a fulfilling life. Is this child going to have the best life with you, or with an adoptive family? | 1 | 17,710 | 1.290909 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dslkvzw | dsl473b | 1,515,804,525 | 1,515,786,604 | 71 | 52 | I'm a huge fan of abortion and I used to work in an abortion clinic. I can promise you that there are no doctors or clinics out there who will force you to go through with a procedure you don't want. Most will require you to have one on one counseling without your parents for this specific reason. If your parents refuse to let you in there alone, the clinic won't do the procedure. I'm so sorry they're trying to control your parenting decisions. It's ultimately only up to you, and you're the best expert on your own life. Having a baby is hard work but you deserve all of the support you need if that's what you choose to do. Good luck. | Good grief, no. It's your child and your body. No one can force an abortion, and short of actual mistreatment on your part nothing can take the child away from you once its born. Your family situation seems awful, and I'm sorry. But you're legally in the clear here. | 1 | 17,921 | 1.365385 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dslkvzw | dsl42xk | 1,515,804,525 | 1,515,786,491 | 71 | 13 | I'm a huge fan of abortion and I used to work in an abortion clinic. I can promise you that there are no doctors or clinics out there who will force you to go through with a procedure you don't want. Most will require you to have one on one counseling without your parents for this specific reason. If your parents refuse to let you in there alone, the clinic won't do the procedure. I'm so sorry they're trying to control your parenting decisions. It's ultimately only up to you, and you're the best expert on your own life. Having a baby is hard work but you deserve all of the support you need if that's what you choose to do. Good luck. | How old will you be when the baby is born? | 1 | 18,034 | 5.461538 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dslkvzw | dslhind | 1,515,804,525 | 1,515,800,500 | 71 | 8 | I'm a huge fan of abortion and I used to work in an abortion clinic. I can promise you that there are no doctors or clinics out there who will force you to go through with a procedure you don't want. Most will require you to have one on one counseling without your parents for this specific reason. If your parents refuse to let you in there alone, the clinic won't do the procedure. I'm so sorry they're trying to control your parenting decisions. It's ultimately only up to you, and you're the best expert on your own life. Having a baby is hard work but you deserve all of the support you need if that's what you choose to do. Good luck. | No, your parents cannot legally make you terminate or give up the child without your consent. Congratulations on your baby and I wish you all the best in raising him/her. Look around your area to see if there are places that help young mothers. You can often get diapers, clothes, formula, etc at discount or free if you’re struggling. | 1 | 4,025 | 8.875 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dsl3yu8 | dslkvzw | 1,515,786,380 | 1,515,804,525 | 3 | 71 | ---
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7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dsl473b | dsl4erd | 1,515,786,604 | 1,515,786,815 | 52 | 55 | Good grief, no. It's your child and your body. No one can force an abortion, and short of actual mistreatment on your part nothing can take the child away from you once its born. Your family situation seems awful, and I'm sorry. But you're legally in the clear here. | Your parents can't force you to have an abortion. Since you are a minor, they might be able to involve ACS, but I don't believe they can simply take the baby without your consent. You need to read this: https://choicesinchildbirth.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/nyclu_pub_rights_parenting_teens.pdf That all being said, look, though you may desperately want a child, you are simply not in a position to give the child the type of supported, full-time care a child requires, especially if you're going to be doing this without the support of your family or the father. Becoming a mother means becoming an adult, and the adult thing to do is to consider the interests of the child here and maximize that child's potential to have a fulfilling life. Is this child going to have the best life with you, or with an adoptive family? | 0 | 211 | 1.057692 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dsl42xk | dsl4erd | 1,515,786,491 | 1,515,786,815 | 13 | 55 | How old will you be when the baby is born? | Your parents can't force you to have an abortion. Since you are a minor, they might be able to involve ACS, but I don't believe they can simply take the baby without your consent. You need to read this: https://choicesinchildbirth.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/nyclu_pub_rights_parenting_teens.pdf That all being said, look, though you may desperately want a child, you are simply not in a position to give the child the type of supported, full-time care a child requires, especially if you're going to be doing this without the support of your family or the father. Becoming a mother means becoming an adult, and the adult thing to do is to consider the interests of the child here and maximize that child's potential to have a fulfilling life. Is this child going to have the best life with you, or with an adoptive family? | 0 | 324 | 4.230769 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dsl4erd | dsl3yu8 | 1,515,786,815 | 1,515,786,380 | 55 | 3 | Your parents can't force you to have an abortion. Since you are a minor, they might be able to involve ACS, but I don't believe they can simply take the baby without your consent. You need to read this: https://choicesinchildbirth.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/nyclu_pub_rights_parenting_teens.pdf That all being said, look, though you may desperately want a child, you are simply not in a position to give the child the type of supported, full-time care a child requires, especially if you're going to be doing this without the support of your family or the father. Becoming a mother means becoming an adult, and the adult thing to do is to consider the interests of the child here and maximize that child's potential to have a fulfilling life. Is this child going to have the best life with you, or with an adoptive family? | ---
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7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dsl473b | dsl42xk | 1,515,786,604 | 1,515,786,491 | 52 | 13 | Good grief, no. It's your child and your body. No one can force an abortion, and short of actual mistreatment on your part nothing can take the child away from you once its born. Your family situation seems awful, and I'm sorry. But you're legally in the clear here. | How old will you be when the baby is born? | 1 | 113 | 4 |
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7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dslmhqw | dsl42xk | 1,515,806,471 | 1,515,786,491 | 50 | 13 | They cant force you into an abortion or adoption. It’s your body, it’s your choice. What they can do is kick you out. Force you to do it in your own. That being said be prepared. I’ve seen a lot of suggestions on other posts about making sure you have all your important paperwork (birth certificate, social security card, ID if you have it...) somewhere safe that you can get to. Know what shelters are nearby that you can stay at if you have no friends or family you can get to. I was a single mom with a college degree in NY and it was hard. Not just “oh wow this is rough” but really really really hard. I think my worst moment was cashing In popcans & water bottles I had collected and having to choose between buying my kid medicine or milk. It was rough. I cried a lot. But...kiddo turns 10 soon. I’ve got a good job and 2 more kids. She survived. I survived. It gets better. Just keep plugging away | How old will you be when the baby is born? | 1 | 19,980 | 3.846154 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dslmhqw | dslhind | 1,515,806,471 | 1,515,800,500 | 50 | 8 | They cant force you into an abortion or adoption. It’s your body, it’s your choice. What they can do is kick you out. Force you to do it in your own. That being said be prepared. I’ve seen a lot of suggestions on other posts about making sure you have all your important paperwork (birth certificate, social security card, ID if you have it...) somewhere safe that you can get to. Know what shelters are nearby that you can stay at if you have no friends or family you can get to. I was a single mom with a college degree in NY and it was hard. Not just “oh wow this is rough” but really really really hard. I think my worst moment was cashing In popcans & water bottles I had collected and having to choose between buying my kid medicine or milk. It was rough. I cried a lot. But...kiddo turns 10 soon. I’ve got a good job and 2 more kids. She survived. I survived. It gets better. Just keep plugging away | No, your parents cannot legally make you terminate or give up the child without your consent. Congratulations on your baby and I wish you all the best in raising him/her. Look around your area to see if there are places that help young mothers. You can often get diapers, clothes, formula, etc at discount or free if you’re struggling. | 1 | 5,971 | 6.25 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dslmhqw | dsl3yu8 | 1,515,806,471 | 1,515,786,380 | 50 | 3 | They cant force you into an abortion or adoption. It’s your body, it’s your choice. What they can do is kick you out. Force you to do it in your own. That being said be prepared. I’ve seen a lot of suggestions on other posts about making sure you have all your important paperwork (birth certificate, social security card, ID if you have it...) somewhere safe that you can get to. Know what shelters are nearby that you can stay at if you have no friends or family you can get to. I was a single mom with a college degree in NY and it was hard. Not just “oh wow this is rough” but really really really hard. I think my worst moment was cashing In popcans & water bottles I had collected and having to choose between buying my kid medicine or milk. It was rough. I cried a lot. But...kiddo turns 10 soon. I’ve got a good job and 2 more kids. She survived. I survived. It gets better. Just keep plugging away | ---
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7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dslhind | dslv7z6 | 1,515,800,500 | 1,515,817,582 | 8 | 11 | No, your parents cannot legally make you terminate or give up the child without your consent. Congratulations on your baby and I wish you all the best in raising him/her. Look around your area to see if there are places that help young mothers. You can often get diapers, clothes, formula, etc at discount or free if you’re struggling. | No, your parents cannot force you to have an abortion. Clinics that offer abortion will ask you (without anyone else in the room) if you want the procedure and will not perform it if you say no. Your parents can call CPS, but CPS will not take away a child solely due to the age of the parent. There are a lot of things you should do to prepare yourself during the coming 8 months, because that preparation will help you be a good parent and will help you convince CPS (and your parents, if they're reasonable) that you are one. You should get proper prenatal care (as others have said, Planned Parenthood will either provide this or will you recommend you to a provider who will). And ask your doctors, nurses, social workers, whoever you're seeking any advice from if they have any resources to help you learn about pregnancy and parenting and if they know of any services you should be aware of that will assist you in raising a child. Make lists of those and apply for anything you think you might qualify for, as well as reading any information you can find. Being able to show that you're putting in the work will go a long way with most CPS agents. Also, if you're still in school, look up Title IX and get familiar with your rights as a pregnant and parenting student. I don't think I've known anyone who had a child while in school and didn't have their Title IX rights violated at least once. And if you're thinking about college, look for scholarships for parenting students and ask about the resources every single campus has for parenting students, such as child care (and if they have a parenting student who is willing to speak with you about their experience at the college, take that offer). Knowledge of your rights and what is available to you will be your best friends in being a young parent. Good luck with whatever your choice is. | 0 | 17,082 | 1.375 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dslv7z6 | dsluqx9 | 1,515,817,582 | 1,515,816,901 | 11 | 7 | No, your parents cannot force you to have an abortion. Clinics that offer abortion will ask you (without anyone else in the room) if you want the procedure and will not perform it if you say no. Your parents can call CPS, but CPS will not take away a child solely due to the age of the parent. There are a lot of things you should do to prepare yourself during the coming 8 months, because that preparation will help you be a good parent and will help you convince CPS (and your parents, if they're reasonable) that you are one. You should get proper prenatal care (as others have said, Planned Parenthood will either provide this or will you recommend you to a provider who will). And ask your doctors, nurses, social workers, whoever you're seeking any advice from if they have any resources to help you learn about pregnancy and parenting and if they know of any services you should be aware of that will assist you in raising a child. Make lists of those and apply for anything you think you might qualify for, as well as reading any information you can find. Being able to show that you're putting in the work will go a long way with most CPS agents. Also, if you're still in school, look up Title IX and get familiar with your rights as a pregnant and parenting student. I don't think I've known anyone who had a child while in school and didn't have their Title IX rights violated at least once. And if you're thinking about college, look for scholarships for parenting students and ask about the resources every single campus has for parenting students, such as child care (and if they have a parenting student who is willing to speak with you about their experience at the college, take that offer). Knowledge of your rights and what is available to you will be your best friends in being a young parent. Good luck with whatever your choice is. | If you want to keep the baby, definitely look into getting support from the father. It is normal to feel bad about getting an abortion or giving it up. This is your baby and if you want to keep it, keep it. It is not your fault society has made it hard for us to raise children. It is tough but you can do it. Just stay strong and maybe reach out to family and see if anyone is willing to help you. And I doubt your parents will put you out on the streets once this baby is born. I’m sure once baby is born they will change their minds. Best of luck to you and god bless you. | 1 | 681 | 1.571429 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dslv7z6 | dslsyp4 | 1,515,817,582 | 1,515,814,435 | 11 | 6 | No, your parents cannot force you to have an abortion. Clinics that offer abortion will ask you (without anyone else in the room) if you want the procedure and will not perform it if you say no. Your parents can call CPS, but CPS will not take away a child solely due to the age of the parent. There are a lot of things you should do to prepare yourself during the coming 8 months, because that preparation will help you be a good parent and will help you convince CPS (and your parents, if they're reasonable) that you are one. You should get proper prenatal care (as others have said, Planned Parenthood will either provide this or will you recommend you to a provider who will). And ask your doctors, nurses, social workers, whoever you're seeking any advice from if they have any resources to help you learn about pregnancy and parenting and if they know of any services you should be aware of that will assist you in raising a child. Make lists of those and apply for anything you think you might qualify for, as well as reading any information you can find. Being able to show that you're putting in the work will go a long way with most CPS agents. Also, if you're still in school, look up Title IX and get familiar with your rights as a pregnant and parenting student. I don't think I've known anyone who had a child while in school and didn't have their Title IX rights violated at least once. And if you're thinking about college, look for scholarships for parenting students and ask about the resources every single campus has for parenting students, such as child care (and if they have a parenting student who is willing to speak with you about their experience at the college, take that offer). Knowledge of your rights and what is available to you will be your best friends in being a young parent. Good luck with whatever your choice is. | Your own pediatrician may have resources for you as well. Other places you might find help include churches and the county (which often may offer free medical screening for young children, but doesn't necessarily advertise). A librarian may also be able to put you in touch with local resources as well as parenting support groups, etc. Hospitals and birthing centers may also have further options and resources. You may want to consider having an alternate address to send official documents such as the baby's birth certificate and social security card, depending on your parents' continuation in their stance. As far as continuing your education, seek out your teachers and ask about opportunities to work ahead if you can. That might help give you some leeway when you do need to take more time, and could get your teachers on your side if you take a proactive stance on your studies. | 1 | 3,147 | 1.833333 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dslv7z6 | dsl3yu8 | 1,515,817,582 | 1,515,786,380 | 11 | 3 | No, your parents cannot force you to have an abortion. Clinics that offer abortion will ask you (without anyone else in the room) if you want the procedure and will not perform it if you say no. Your parents can call CPS, but CPS will not take away a child solely due to the age of the parent. There are a lot of things you should do to prepare yourself during the coming 8 months, because that preparation will help you be a good parent and will help you convince CPS (and your parents, if they're reasonable) that you are one. You should get proper prenatal care (as others have said, Planned Parenthood will either provide this or will you recommend you to a provider who will). And ask your doctors, nurses, social workers, whoever you're seeking any advice from if they have any resources to help you learn about pregnancy and parenting and if they know of any services you should be aware of that will assist you in raising a child. Make lists of those and apply for anything you think you might qualify for, as well as reading any information you can find. Being able to show that you're putting in the work will go a long way with most CPS agents. Also, if you're still in school, look up Title IX and get familiar with your rights as a pregnant and parenting student. I don't think I've known anyone who had a child while in school and didn't have their Title IX rights violated at least once. And if you're thinking about college, look for scholarships for parenting students and ask about the resources every single campus has for parenting students, such as child care (and if they have a parenting student who is willing to speak with you about their experience at the college, take that offer). Knowledge of your rights and what is available to you will be your best friends in being a young parent. Good luck with whatever your choice is. | ---
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Title: **Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption?**
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> I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here?
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7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dsl3yu8 | dsl42xk | 1,515,786,380 | 1,515,786,491 | 3 | 13 | ---
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Title: **Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption?**
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> I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here?
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Author: /u/WiccanBicorn
Title: **Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption?**
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> I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here?
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7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dslsyp4 | dsluqx9 | 1,515,814,435 | 1,515,816,901 | 6 | 7 | Your own pediatrician may have resources for you as well. Other places you might find help include churches and the county (which often may offer free medical screening for young children, but doesn't necessarily advertise). A librarian may also be able to put you in touch with local resources as well as parenting support groups, etc. Hospitals and birthing centers may also have further options and resources. You may want to consider having an alternate address to send official documents such as the baby's birth certificate and social security card, depending on your parents' continuation in their stance. As far as continuing your education, seek out your teachers and ask about opportunities to work ahead if you can. That might help give you some leeway when you do need to take more time, and could get your teachers on your side if you take a proactive stance on your studies. | If you want to keep the baby, definitely look into getting support from the father. It is normal to feel bad about getting an abortion or giving it up. This is your baby and if you want to keep it, keep it. It is not your fault society has made it hard for us to raise children. It is tough but you can do it. Just stay strong and maybe reach out to family and see if anyone is willing to help you. And I doubt your parents will put you out on the streets once this baby is born. I’m sure once baby is born they will change their minds. Best of luck to you and god bless you. | 0 | 2,466 | 1.166667 |
7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dsluqx9 | dsl3yu8 | 1,515,816,901 | 1,515,786,380 | 7 | 3 | If you want to keep the baby, definitely look into getting support from the father. It is normal to feel bad about getting an abortion or giving it up. This is your baby and if you want to keep it, keep it. It is not your fault society has made it hard for us to raise children. It is tough but you can do it. Just stay strong and maybe reach out to family and see if anyone is willing to help you. And I doubt your parents will put you out on the streets once this baby is born. I’m sure once baby is born they will change their minds. Best of luck to you and god bless you. | ---
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Author: /u/WiccanBicorn
Title: **Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption?**
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> I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here?
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7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dslye85 | dsl3yu8 | 1,515,822,593 | 1,515,786,380 | 6 | 3 | I’m not sure why CPS would become involved. Perhaps if you were homeless, they could come to help you with resources, but if you’re not currently doing drugs or consuming alcohol, I don’t see a reason why they would remove the child after it’s born. If CPS does get involved, they will likely provide you with an attorney at no cost since you’re low income. If being young and poor were a reason for a child to be removed (not saying that never happened), then we’d have a lot more kids in foster care. New York has a decent child welfare system and they focus more on keeping kids with their parents by providing resources and services. I would suggest talking to other family members or good friends and seeing if you can live with them if your parents keep being unsupportive. I’m not sure when you can apply for WIC (might be able to now), but go ahead and apply for that. They’ll give you some vouchers for food and most areas have some WIC parenting classes you can attend. Once the child is born, you can apply for TANF (or whatever New York calls their aid for parents with children) if your income is low enough, but remember it is time limited (longest is 60 months). You can also apply for SNAP (food stamps) if your income is low enough. Make sure to get on Medicaid if you aren’t already or don’t have other health insurance, the baby can be signed up once it’s born. Take your prenatal vitamins and go to your prenatal appointments, they’re important. Before the baby is born, make sure you buy an infant car seat or find a program that can give you a brand new donated one. They won’t let you leave the hospital without it. Doing all these things shows that you’re responsible, so even if CPS comes into investigate, you’ll look good to them. They may know of some other services in the area too. | ---
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Title: **Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption?**
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> I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here?
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Title: **Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption?**
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> I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here?
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7pz4rs | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Can my parents force me to terminate pregnancy or give up baby for adoption? I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here? State is New York. | dsm0lvg | dsl3yu8 | 1,515,826,926 | 1,515,786,380 | 4 | 3 | Find a counselor and someone to talk to and listen to them objectively. We know that you want to keep the child and raise him/her, but sometimes we can’t have everything we want. IMO, you’re not even done being raised to let alone raise a child. And raising a child takes more than the will to. It takes resources and you have none. I don’t know how your parents are, but what if they decide to kick you out? Look beyond your feet and to the future. | ---
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> I'm 17 years old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father is a guy I had a one night stand with. I told my parents recently but they are really pushing for an abortion. They feel that having a baby is going to hinder me for life, and they fear I won't finish school or have a normal life. I honestly don't care... I really want to have this baby, and I am prepared to raise it alone. However my question is, can they compel me to get an abortion or force me to give up the baby for adoption? They also warned me that they will involve CPS once the baby is born so they will take him/her away. I'm not sure what to do now. I'm currently working part-time in retail, and am looking for another job as well but I don't have much in savings. I might not be able to afford an attorney if something does happen. What options do I have here?
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3cemy6 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | [TX] Brother was sentenced 15 to life, served 7, took parole, ran away, crossed mexico illegally and settled in Guatemala. Started new life 2 years ago there. He called me few times past couple of months. Would I get in trouble by talking to him? Any law says I am breaking it by not reporting him to Police? | csuwb35 | csuvnyx | 1,436,272,869 | 1,436,271,112 | 108 | 4 | Typical! USA sending Guatemala their felons. Guatemalan Trump (Trump-riguez) will have a field day! | It may depend. Aiding and Abetting a fugitive can be brought against you for "act or omission", at least federally. Telling the cops "I dont know where my brother is" may be a crime if they come asking. You will need to ask a lawyer. | 1 | 1,757 | 27 |
3cemy6 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | [TX] Brother was sentenced 15 to life, served 7, took parole, ran away, crossed mexico illegally and settled in Guatemala. Started new life 2 years ago there. He called me few times past couple of months. Would I get in trouble by talking to him? Any law says I am breaking it by not reporting him to Police? | csuvnyx | csuzytm | 1,436,271,112 | 1,436,280,329 | 4 | 58 | It may depend. Aiding and Abetting a fugitive can be brought against you for "act or omission", at least federally. Telling the cops "I dont know where my brother is" may be a crime if they come asking. You will need to ask a lawyer. | I'm not a lawyer or anything but I don't think you should be using such specific information on your brothers whereabouts over the internet. Unless you want him caught. All they have to do now is narrow down people from Texas who were in for the murder of a man who got his head smashed in for fucking his wife, sentenced to 15-life, got out in 7, and skipped parole 2 years ago. Now they know he's in Guatemala and contacting family. I think with enough digging even I could find out exactly who you're talking about. | 0 | 9,217 | 14.5 |
3cemy6 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | [TX] Brother was sentenced 15 to life, served 7, took parole, ran away, crossed mexico illegally and settled in Guatemala. Started new life 2 years ago there. He called me few times past couple of months. Would I get in trouble by talking to him? Any law says I am breaking it by not reporting him to Police? | csuvnyx | csv0a9n | 1,436,271,112 | 1,436,280,857 | 4 | 11 | It may depend. Aiding and Abetting a fugitive can be brought against you for "act or omission", at least federally. Telling the cops "I dont know where my brother is" may be a crime if they come asking. You will need to ask a lawyer. | For his sake, I hope that's not his real location. | 0 | 9,745 | 2.75 |
uxgoz7 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Washington State (US) Wife ran away ten years ago, she’s on the mortgage note and I need to refinance but can’t find her anywhere. What can I do? | i9xsf87 | i9yxoho | 1,653,488,500 | 1,653,504,807 | 20 | 34 | Is she on the deed? If so she owns half of the house and you are making payments on a house you don't own. See a real estate lawyer (and a divorce lawyer) to determine what you may be able to do about this. You may have to file a partition action, sell the house and forfeit her portion to the state, but at least you will not be throwing good money after bad. The current mortgage company doesn't care if you can't find her. They just want their money. | Was she ever reported missing? | 0 | 16,307 | 1.7 |
a103e9 | legaladvice_train | 0.82 | [SD] I [16F] left home 6 months ago to escape a hoarder home and my mom wants me back. What can I do? For some background my mom is a disabled due to the over 10 car accidents she has had in her lifetime. She also suffers from sever anxiety and depression. She is on tons of medications that are ment to help her pain and mental health but insteed she sells them and ends up debilitated and bed ridden for 4 out of 7 days of the week. She has been like this my whole life and only gettinf worse as she gets older as that is the nature of her illness. For the past 8 years she has been hoarding. By this I mean the house was filled to the brim with boxes and the only way to get though the house was narrow pathways. Maggots were all over the kitchen alongside ants and other insects. We also had cats and litterboxes all over the house (kitchen, bathroom, and "hallway"). I was 8 when tjis started and had to basically start raising and caring for my mom from this point on. The dirty envirment caused bad health issues and lead to me missing school constantly. Doctors didn't know what was happening and were baffled. It was clear all medical problems were caused by the house. My mom still took me to the doctor even though the problem was clearly the house but she still kept on hoarding. Whenever I would talk to her about it she would storm off and thow a tantrum. Now current day. I couldn't take it anymore and left to stay with a friend on june 17th-ish. In August I got a job and became self supporting. Buying my own food. Paying rent. Gas. And nessacitites. My car insurence was being paid for by my mom because she wanted to help out wven though I could afford to pay it. Along with my phone bill that I could also easily. Also aford and be fine with. They insisited on paying it. Which I was uncomfortable with but excepted. I have been working with a McKinney Vento Advocate since school started. It has been almost 6 months and now my mom says she is getting a lawyer involved to bring me back home. I am scarred and can't go back there. Is there anything I can do to stop her from this. (Also immediately as I started moving out my mom got rid of the maggot problem and cleaned the kitchen. But the rest of the house is almost the same) Is there anyway I can keep my mom (only legal gaurdian) from making me come home. Edit: sorry on mobile and phone is pretty glitchy. | ealr23y | ealr7zr | 1,543,359,929 | 1,543,360,067 | 10 | 18 | If anyone legal (police, courts) does try to get you to go back, you could tell them that you left because Mom is a hoarder and the house was unsanitary. You could also file a complaint with CPS, which you should do immediately if there are any younger children still living there. You could also call Adult Protective Services and tell them that your Mom is unable to care for herself and is living in unsanitary hoarding conditions. | Emancipated Minor status is your best bet if you truly can support yourself without her assistance. Consult a lawyer for that one. Many family lawyers will at least provide initial consultation pro-bono on such a case. Do you have evidence of the hoarding? Dated pictures, text history, witnesses, etc. You would be wise to avoid the foster care system entirely at your age and with your level of self-sufficiency. Finally, she cannot use a lawyer to make you come home. She can declare you a runaway, report you missing to the police, and use the police to bring you home, but that’s an incredibly extreme measure. For someone who, at least from the outside, does not appear to be directly abusive (neglectful absolutely, and your emancipation case rests on documenting and proving that neglect) that may not be a likely outcome. P.S. If you’re turning 18 anytime soon, ride it out until then, and bullshit your mom along until she has no more standing. | 0 | 138 | 1.8 |
legfcg | legaladvice_train | 0.85 | My dad died a couple years back. His girlfriend at the time had refused us entry to her house(where he lived) and access to any personal items of his, including his phone and laptop. She lives in DC. What can I do to get those before we settle the estate? Please ask for further details, I'm not sure what else is relevant here. | gmdns8b | gmcusgn | 1,612,688,293 | 1,612,681,170 | 30 | 3 | Have you contacted her and asked for his personal items and what was her response? | Who is the executor? | 1 | 7,123 | 10 |
g43tdq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Roommate moved all my stuff into the hallway, and refused to let me into the apartment. Because i work at a grocery store. All my valuable stuff has been taken, and the police are not being helpful. Help. I rent a room from my landlord in an apartment and share it with a roommate kim. Kim has been very pissed off at me and has been threatening me non stop because, i might bring COVID back to our apartment because i work as a cashier in a grocery store part time. Tonight i came home to find boxes of my shit sitting in the apartment hallway, clothing, electronics everything just dumped there. Kim refuses to let me in and has dead bolted our apartment door, it is midnight and she is screaming that she will call the police, if i don't go away. I try to call my landlord over and over again but he doesn't answer. I call the police non emergency number. Explain the situation to the police officer who basically rips into Kim, Kim finally lets me into my apartment. At this point i realize that pretty much everything valuable i had has been taken and stolen. Laptop, TV, Switch, clothing, and even my mattress is missing. I asked the cop and he told me it was a civil issue before leaving. Kim refuses to explain anything then grabs her stuff and leaves because she is "going to get COVID". What am i supposed to do? Sorry i am in Ontario, Canada. | fnvu3l4 | fnv7fzx | 1,587,304,774 | 1,587,282,862 | 552 | 389 | There are solid grounds to sue the roommate for conversion. Conversion is the interference of a person’s right to property without the owner’s consent and without lawful justification. Make a detailed list of everything that was lost. That includes the year you got it, the make and model of the item where possible, how you got it, etc. Most importantly figure out the value of each item lost. Having a solid legal case doesn’t make this an easy process. You can sue in small claims court or threaten to sue and try to reach a settlement for something less than the value of what you lost. The courts are pretty frozen atm though, so that might slow things down for you. | make a list of what was stolen then sue kim for the value of all the items. | 1 | 21,912 | 1.419023 |
g43tdq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Roommate moved all my stuff into the hallway, and refused to let me into the apartment. Because i work at a grocery store. All my valuable stuff has been taken, and the police are not being helpful. Help. I rent a room from my landlord in an apartment and share it with a roommate kim. Kim has been very pissed off at me and has been threatening me non stop because, i might bring COVID back to our apartment because i work as a cashier in a grocery store part time. Tonight i came home to find boxes of my shit sitting in the apartment hallway, clothing, electronics everything just dumped there. Kim refuses to let me in and has dead bolted our apartment door, it is midnight and she is screaming that she will call the police, if i don't go away. I try to call my landlord over and over again but he doesn't answer. I call the police non emergency number. Explain the situation to the police officer who basically rips into Kim, Kim finally lets me into my apartment. At this point i realize that pretty much everything valuable i had has been taken and stolen. Laptop, TV, Switch, clothing, and even my mattress is missing. I asked the cop and he told me it was a civil issue before leaving. Kim refuses to explain anything then grabs her stuff and leaves because she is "going to get COVID". What am i supposed to do? Sorry i am in Ontario, Canada. | fnvm3gm | fnvu3l4 | 1,587,298,202 | 1,587,304,774 | 168 | 552 | Firstly, I’m sincerely sorry you had to go through this. Secondly, document everything that’s amiss. Thirdly, contact a lawyer they’ll know what to do. Fourthly, we believe in you! (By the end of the second sentence, I saw it rhyme. I said fuck it, I have all the time) | There are solid grounds to sue the roommate for conversion. Conversion is the interference of a person’s right to property without the owner’s consent and without lawful justification. Make a detailed list of everything that was lost. That includes the year you got it, the make and model of the item where possible, how you got it, etc. Most importantly figure out the value of each item lost. Having a solid legal case doesn’t make this an easy process. You can sue in small claims court or threaten to sue and try to reach a settlement for something less than the value of what you lost. The courts are pretty frozen atm though, so that might slow things down for you. | 0 | 6,572 | 3.285714 |
g43tdq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Roommate moved all my stuff into the hallway, and refused to let me into the apartment. Because i work at a grocery store. All my valuable stuff has been taken, and the police are not being helpful. Help. I rent a room from my landlord in an apartment and share it with a roommate kim. Kim has been very pissed off at me and has been threatening me non stop because, i might bring COVID back to our apartment because i work as a cashier in a grocery store part time. Tonight i came home to find boxes of my shit sitting in the apartment hallway, clothing, electronics everything just dumped there. Kim refuses to let me in and has dead bolted our apartment door, it is midnight and she is screaming that she will call the police, if i don't go away. I try to call my landlord over and over again but he doesn't answer. I call the police non emergency number. Explain the situation to the police officer who basically rips into Kim, Kim finally lets me into my apartment. At this point i realize that pretty much everything valuable i had has been taken and stolen. Laptop, TV, Switch, clothing, and even my mattress is missing. I asked the cop and he told me it was a civil issue before leaving. Kim refuses to explain anything then grabs her stuff and leaves because she is "going to get COVID". What am i supposed to do? Sorry i am in Ontario, Canada. | fnw8cmj | fnwwwx2 | 1,587,313,457 | 1,587,327,055 | 23 | 37 | Go back to the police. Talk to someone else and file a report for theft. All your stuff got taken. They will also need to talk to your roommate who may have stolen some of it. | First off. Treat this as if your roommate has themselves stolen the property, because they did. They took your property, moved it from the premises on their own accord, and whatever happened to said property after the fact is on them. File a police report saying they stole your property, make a detailed list, as others have said, then consult a lawyer. It will take awhile to come to fruition, but if you take the necessary actions, your roommate just dove themselves into a giant pile of shit, and they deserve it. You're there, helping people get food in these trying times. We need food workers like you. Your roommates actions are despicable. | 0 | 13,598 | 1.608696 |
g43tdq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Roommate moved all my stuff into the hallway, and refused to let me into the apartment. Because i work at a grocery store. All my valuable stuff has been taken, and the police are not being helpful. Help. I rent a room from my landlord in an apartment and share it with a roommate kim. Kim has been very pissed off at me and has been threatening me non stop because, i might bring COVID back to our apartment because i work as a cashier in a grocery store part time. Tonight i came home to find boxes of my shit sitting in the apartment hallway, clothing, electronics everything just dumped there. Kim refuses to let me in and has dead bolted our apartment door, it is midnight and she is screaming that she will call the police, if i don't go away. I try to call my landlord over and over again but he doesn't answer. I call the police non emergency number. Explain the situation to the police officer who basically rips into Kim, Kim finally lets me into my apartment. At this point i realize that pretty much everything valuable i had has been taken and stolen. Laptop, TV, Switch, clothing, and even my mattress is missing. I asked the cop and he told me it was a civil issue before leaving. Kim refuses to explain anything then grabs her stuff and leaves because she is "going to get COVID". What am i supposed to do? Sorry i am in Ontario, Canada. | fnxnq9q | fnyarlm | 1,587,342,507 | 1,587,357,753 | 3 | 5 | She removed your property. Simple theft. Go back to the police. | Theft is a police concern. Call them back or go to the station and file a report. You can sue your roommate in civil court for the cost of the stolen items | 0 | 15,246 | 1.666667 |
g43tdq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Roommate moved all my stuff into the hallway, and refused to let me into the apartment. Because i work at a grocery store. All my valuable stuff has been taken, and the police are not being helpful. Help. I rent a room from my landlord in an apartment and share it with a roommate kim. Kim has been very pissed off at me and has been threatening me non stop because, i might bring COVID back to our apartment because i work as a cashier in a grocery store part time. Tonight i came home to find boxes of my shit sitting in the apartment hallway, clothing, electronics everything just dumped there. Kim refuses to let me in and has dead bolted our apartment door, it is midnight and she is screaming that she will call the police, if i don't go away. I try to call my landlord over and over again but he doesn't answer. I call the police non emergency number. Explain the situation to the police officer who basically rips into Kim, Kim finally lets me into my apartment. At this point i realize that pretty much everything valuable i had has been taken and stolen. Laptop, TV, Switch, clothing, and even my mattress is missing. I asked the cop and he told me it was a civil issue before leaving. Kim refuses to explain anything then grabs her stuff and leaves because she is "going to get COVID". What am i supposed to do? Sorry i am in Ontario, Canada. | fny7m6m | fnyarlm | 1,587,355,407 | 1,587,357,753 | 2 | 5 | I'm pretty sure there are laws against kicking someone out during the Covid crisis....I'd Google it...I'm so sorry and good luck. | Theft is a police concern. Call them back or go to the station and file a report. You can sue your roommate in civil court for the cost of the stolen items | 0 | 2,346 | 2.5 |
69fqyp | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Grandmother is dying and my work is refusing to let me leave to be with her when she passes. Help My grandmother is in the hospital and she is dying of brain cancer. We took her off everything that was helping keep the swelling of her brain down last night. We know that she is going to pass today with the state she is in. I came into work and I asked to work a half day and then leave so I can be with her. My boss told me this is going to be something I just need to deal with and I need to work my full shift. Can my company legally do that? I am in Las Vegas, NV and I'm unsure if there are any laws that can protect me so I can go be with my family without being fired. Any advice? | dh67ou5 | dh69h7j | 1,494,002,367 | 1,494,004,366 | 26 | 435 | I'm sorry for your loss. Nevada doesn't have a law requiring companies to grant bereavement leave, but probably most companies do this. It may be unpaid leave of course. Did you check with HR? | Legally, there is probably nothing that can be done. But seriously...this is your grandmother. This should not even be an issue. Family comes first. How much will you regret it later in life if you don't go to see her on her deathbed. This may be your last chance to say goodbye. Is it really worth missing? | 0 | 1,999 | 16.730769 |
69fqyp | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Grandmother is dying and my work is refusing to let me leave to be with her when she passes. Help My grandmother is in the hospital and she is dying of brain cancer. We took her off everything that was helping keep the swelling of her brain down last night. We know that she is going to pass today with the state she is in. I came into work and I asked to work a half day and then leave so I can be with her. My boss told me this is going to be something I just need to deal with and I need to work my full shift. Can my company legally do that? I am in Las Vegas, NV and I'm unsure if there are any laws that can protect me so I can go be with my family without being fired. Any advice? | dh69wda | dh67ou5 | 1,494,004,842 | 1,494,002,367 | 179 | 26 | Go be with your grandmother. If you get fired, then this isn't the kind of place you want to work for long term. You should qualify for unemployment. If you have an interview, and you asked why you left your job, tell the truth: Your grandmother was dying, expected within the next 24 hours, and you requested a half day off to spend her last hours with her. Your supervisor denied your request,a and you went anyway. This will obviously not be a problem in the future. And you are showing that you have good decision making skills, with the ability to evaluate and prioritize. I certainly wouldn't hold it against you, if I was considering hiring you. Most reasonable people also wouldn't. | I'm sorry for your loss. Nevada doesn't have a law requiring companies to grant bereavement leave, but probably most companies do this. It may be unpaid leave of course. Did you check with HR? | 1 | 2,475 | 6.884615 |
69fqyp | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Grandmother is dying and my work is refusing to let me leave to be with her when she passes. Help My grandmother is in the hospital and she is dying of brain cancer. We took her off everything that was helping keep the swelling of her brain down last night. We know that she is going to pass today with the state she is in. I came into work and I asked to work a half day and then leave so I can be with her. My boss told me this is going to be something I just need to deal with and I need to work my full shift. Can my company legally do that? I am in Las Vegas, NV and I'm unsure if there are any laws that can protect me so I can go be with my family without being fired. Any advice? | dh6ajnd | dh67ou5 | 1,494,005,566 | 1,494,002,367 | 58 | 26 | Legal, but shitty. Go be with your grandmother. If you are fired, apply for unemployment. | I'm sorry for your loss. Nevada doesn't have a law requiring companies to grant bereavement leave, but probably most companies do this. It may be unpaid leave of course. Did you check with HR? | 1 | 3,199 | 2.230769 |
69fqyp | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Grandmother is dying and my work is refusing to let me leave to be with her when she passes. Help My grandmother is in the hospital and she is dying of brain cancer. We took her off everything that was helping keep the swelling of her brain down last night. We know that she is going to pass today with the state she is in. I came into work and I asked to work a half day and then leave so I can be with her. My boss told me this is going to be something I just need to deal with and I need to work my full shift. Can my company legally do that? I am in Las Vegas, NV and I'm unsure if there are any laws that can protect me so I can go be with my family without being fired. Any advice? | dh67ou5 | dh6d1et | 1,494,002,367 | 1,494,008,665 | 26 | 31 | I'm sorry for your loss. Nevada doesn't have a law requiring companies to grant bereavement leave, but probably most companies do this. It may be unpaid leave of course. Did you check with HR? | Would FMLA work n this case? | 0 | 6,298 | 1.192308 |
69fqyp | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Grandmother is dying and my work is refusing to let me leave to be with her when she passes. Help My grandmother is in the hospital and she is dying of brain cancer. We took her off everything that was helping keep the swelling of her brain down last night. We know that she is going to pass today with the state she is in. I came into work and I asked to work a half day and then leave so I can be with her. My boss told me this is going to be something I just need to deal with and I need to work my full shift. Can my company legally do that? I am in Las Vegas, NV and I'm unsure if there are any laws that can protect me so I can go be with my family without being fired. Any advice? | dh6d1et | dh6c5ni | 1,494,008,665 | 1,494,007,621 | 31 | 11 | Would FMLA work n this case? | Just take the time you need and deal with your asshat boss later. | 1 | 1,044 | 2.818182 |
69fqyp | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Grandmother is dying and my work is refusing to let me leave to be with her when she passes. Help My grandmother is in the hospital and she is dying of brain cancer. We took her off everything that was helping keep the swelling of her brain down last night. We know that she is going to pass today with the state she is in. I came into work and I asked to work a half day and then leave so I can be with her. My boss told me this is going to be something I just need to deal with and I need to work my full shift. Can my company legally do that? I am in Las Vegas, NV and I'm unsure if there are any laws that can protect me so I can go be with my family without being fired. Any advice? | dh6c5ni | dh6h8sc | 1,494,007,621 | 1,494,014,304 | 11 | 21 | Just take the time you need and deal with your asshat boss later. | From a legal perspective, your boss can fire you. With that said, I strongly recommend you leave work and go see her. If not, you are going to regret it for the rest of your life. Your boss clearly doesn't care about you, so why should you give up precious time with loved ones for the sake of helping your boss? Go and see her. If you get fired, so be it. At least you will not feel guilty forever. | 0 | 6,683 | 1.909091 |
69fqyp | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Grandmother is dying and my work is refusing to let me leave to be with her when she passes. Help My grandmother is in the hospital and she is dying of brain cancer. We took her off everything that was helping keep the swelling of her brain down last night. We know that she is going to pass today with the state she is in. I came into work and I asked to work a half day and then leave so I can be with her. My boss told me this is going to be something I just need to deal with and I need to work my full shift. Can my company legally do that? I am in Las Vegas, NV and I'm unsure if there are any laws that can protect me so I can go be with my family without being fired. Any advice? | dh6riwo | dh6u4f2 | 1,494,028,037 | 1,494,031,923 | 3 | 6 | You can leave, they can't stop you. They can fire you for leaving though. Do you want to work at a place that would do this to you? | Welcome to America. No sympathy or caring from employers. Everyone will just tell you to get a new job. If you really need the job then, my suggestion would be stay the entire night with her and then go to work without any sleep. Be with her, say good bye, but you dont need to be with her to the end. I say this after just going through this with my grandpa and my aunt. Not everyone in the family could be there all day with him, but we made sure someone was always there. If you keep your job, I would immediately start looking for another and better job. | 0 | 3,886 | 2 |
u4pnxk | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | [FL] Delivery driver here, was delivering pizza and my topper flew off and detonated my back windshield. it’s an expensive repair, is there some way to get compensation? these toppers are old, and there are stickers on the bottoms that say the magnets need to be replaced every year so they don’t fly off. i’ve been here for two years and they have never been replaced, i and other managers have talked to the GM and owners about this and they haven’t done anything but still require us to use these toppers. i don’t hate my job or want to take more than i need, it is just a 1.1k repair, and just some kind of help from them would be amazing. thanks in advance guys | i4xem8e | i4xd7bt | 1,650,088,745 | 1,650,087,730 | 64 | 34 | > there are stickers on the bottoms that say the magnets need to be replaced every year so they don’t fly off. i’ve been here for two years and they have never been replaced The general or assistant manager were responsible for maintaining their toppers. The pizzeria needs to pay for your new rear windshield, or involve their insurance. | You want to talk with your insurance company if you have comprehensive coverage, though that may be problematic if you didn't inform them you were using the vehicle for business purposes. Outside of that, is your store corporate or franchise owned? In either case, if your manager won't address the issue, go up the chain. | 1 | 1,015 | 1.882353 |
2xqewn | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | [OH/SC] Amazon buyers opens A-to-Z claim to return product. Returns drawing of penis instead. Potentially gets money back since parcel shows Delivered. TLDR: Buyer commits mail fraud via returning an empty parcel just so he gets a Delivered notation on a tracking number. Sends drawing of penis for extra measure. **Please don't tell me to just write this off. This isn't a situation where I want some pompous kid with a smirk on his face to get away with a freebie.** I sell on Amazon and eBay to the tune of $400k/yr in sales. Last year I made $200k/yr net. I state this not to brag, but to set the stage. This is my full time business. I'm successful and my time is important to me. Unfortunately, the products I sell cater primarily to teenage boys; eg the most immature/spoiled brats known to man. I get my fair share of problem buyers. Buyers that either have mommy's credit card or simply have more money than sense. Buyers that simply are never happy. Every industry has them. You put up with the bad, just to keep the checks coming in. Anyhow, this situation revolves around one of these buyers. He's purchased several products for me and there is *always* an issue. This last order, he wanted to return something. The first reason he gave me was that he found a better price on eBay. I told him he could return it at his expense. He opens an A-to-Z claim against me saying the item was defective upon the first use. First off, the "better price" on eBay was 10% of what the lowest seller sells this for; eg an out and out lie. Secondly, and this is hard to explain, but these products aren't defective the way a pencil isn't defective. As long as it's not physically broken (which would take driving a dump truck over it), it just works. Back to the issue. He opens the A to Z and gives me the TR# of the return. It comes back and, instead of the 2LB box it's supposed to be, it's an *empty* padded envelope weighing 0.10oz. I immediately take photographs of the parcel while still at my mail service (a UPS Store PO Box). My manager at the store verifies this is how the parcel arrived and no one has tampered with it. I open the envelope. In it is a hand drawn message, "amazonburneracct = *drawing of penis*". What he now has, if you're following along, is a returned parcel showing Delivered, which he has given to the A to Z team. What I've done is type out a two page memo discussing this entire situation to the Amazon reps handling this, complete with photos. Obviously, I'm hoping they side with me here. **The actual question for /r/legaladvice is what are my options? Can I initiate a mail fraud lawsuit against the buyer if Amazon returns the funds to him? I assume that his fingerprints/DNA are on the parcel and the paper itself that was in the parcel. I am not opposed to spending a considerable amount of money to make things right. ** | cp2hnss | cp2jtxf | 1,425,348,384 | 1,425,352,151 | 13 | 22 | I'm gonna need to see a picture of the evidence before I can opine further. | As someone who has run the CS side of a large Amazon storefront, I wouldn't be surprised if the initial ruling comes back in the buyers favor, simply due to the fact that return tracking shows that the parcel was delivered. At that point you'll have the opportunity to appeal if the claim is not found in your favor, which you'll definitely want to do. I'd suggest calling in to Seller Support as well, and seeing if you can speak to a manager. Unfortunately the reps that read and respond to claims seem to be working off templates in most cases, so if you can get someone with a bit more authority on the line, and explain the situation to them you may have some more luck. And not to be a downer, but you may want to prepare for the worst. Even when you've done everything right, Amazon will rarely side against the customer. They decided that being customer friendly was more important that catching scammers, and so they side with the buyer in most cases. There's a good chance they'll end up just giving the customer their money back themselves in this case, and not forcing you to issue the refund. | 0 | 3,767 | 1.692308 |
2xqewn | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | [OH/SC] Amazon buyers opens A-to-Z claim to return product. Returns drawing of penis instead. Potentially gets money back since parcel shows Delivered. TLDR: Buyer commits mail fraud via returning an empty parcel just so he gets a Delivered notation on a tracking number. Sends drawing of penis for extra measure. **Please don't tell me to just write this off. This isn't a situation where I want some pompous kid with a smirk on his face to get away with a freebie.** I sell on Amazon and eBay to the tune of $400k/yr in sales. Last year I made $200k/yr net. I state this not to brag, but to set the stage. This is my full time business. I'm successful and my time is important to me. Unfortunately, the products I sell cater primarily to teenage boys; eg the most immature/spoiled brats known to man. I get my fair share of problem buyers. Buyers that either have mommy's credit card or simply have more money than sense. Buyers that simply are never happy. Every industry has them. You put up with the bad, just to keep the checks coming in. Anyhow, this situation revolves around one of these buyers. He's purchased several products for me and there is *always* an issue. This last order, he wanted to return something. The first reason he gave me was that he found a better price on eBay. I told him he could return it at his expense. He opens an A-to-Z claim against me saying the item was defective upon the first use. First off, the "better price" on eBay was 10% of what the lowest seller sells this for; eg an out and out lie. Secondly, and this is hard to explain, but these products aren't defective the way a pencil isn't defective. As long as it's not physically broken (which would take driving a dump truck over it), it just works. Back to the issue. He opens the A to Z and gives me the TR# of the return. It comes back and, instead of the 2LB box it's supposed to be, it's an *empty* padded envelope weighing 0.10oz. I immediately take photographs of the parcel while still at my mail service (a UPS Store PO Box). My manager at the store verifies this is how the parcel arrived and no one has tampered with it. I open the envelope. In it is a hand drawn message, "amazonburneracct = *drawing of penis*". What he now has, if you're following along, is a returned parcel showing Delivered, which he has given to the A to Z team. What I've done is type out a two page memo discussing this entire situation to the Amazon reps handling this, complete with photos. Obviously, I'm hoping they side with me here. **The actual question for /r/legaladvice is what are my options? Can I initiate a mail fraud lawsuit against the buyer if Amazon returns the funds to him? I assume that his fingerprints/DNA are on the parcel and the paper itself that was in the parcel. I am not opposed to spending a considerable amount of money to make things right. ** | cp2ih2g | cp2jtxf | 1,425,349,805 | 1,425,352,151 | 9 | 22 | Hopefully you do better with Amazon than our eBay seller did. He had a buyer "return" a PS4, which the buyer claimed showed up as a box of charcoal and Zima. That buyer at least had the sense to match up the shipping weights. Unfortunately, the seller lost that battle despite a bunch of common sense evidence in his favor. | As someone who has run the CS side of a large Amazon storefront, I wouldn't be surprised if the initial ruling comes back in the buyers favor, simply due to the fact that return tracking shows that the parcel was delivered. At that point you'll have the opportunity to appeal if the claim is not found in your favor, which you'll definitely want to do. I'd suggest calling in to Seller Support as well, and seeing if you can speak to a manager. Unfortunately the reps that read and respond to claims seem to be working off templates in most cases, so if you can get someone with a bit more authority on the line, and explain the situation to them you may have some more luck. And not to be a downer, but you may want to prepare for the worst. Even when you've done everything right, Amazon will rarely side against the customer. They decided that being customer friendly was more important that catching scammers, and so they side with the buyer in most cases. There's a good chance they'll end up just giving the customer their money back themselves in this case, and not forcing you to issue the refund. | 0 | 2,346 | 2.444444 |
2xqewn | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | [OH/SC] Amazon buyers opens A-to-Z claim to return product. Returns drawing of penis instead. Potentially gets money back since parcel shows Delivered. TLDR: Buyer commits mail fraud via returning an empty parcel just so he gets a Delivered notation on a tracking number. Sends drawing of penis for extra measure. **Please don't tell me to just write this off. This isn't a situation where I want some pompous kid with a smirk on his face to get away with a freebie.** I sell on Amazon and eBay to the tune of $400k/yr in sales. Last year I made $200k/yr net. I state this not to brag, but to set the stage. This is my full time business. I'm successful and my time is important to me. Unfortunately, the products I sell cater primarily to teenage boys; eg the most immature/spoiled brats known to man. I get my fair share of problem buyers. Buyers that either have mommy's credit card or simply have more money than sense. Buyers that simply are never happy. Every industry has them. You put up with the bad, just to keep the checks coming in. Anyhow, this situation revolves around one of these buyers. He's purchased several products for me and there is *always* an issue. This last order, he wanted to return something. The first reason he gave me was that he found a better price on eBay. I told him he could return it at his expense. He opens an A-to-Z claim against me saying the item was defective upon the first use. First off, the "better price" on eBay was 10% of what the lowest seller sells this for; eg an out and out lie. Secondly, and this is hard to explain, but these products aren't defective the way a pencil isn't defective. As long as it's not physically broken (which would take driving a dump truck over it), it just works. Back to the issue. He opens the A to Z and gives me the TR# of the return. It comes back and, instead of the 2LB box it's supposed to be, it's an *empty* padded envelope weighing 0.10oz. I immediately take photographs of the parcel while still at my mail service (a UPS Store PO Box). My manager at the store verifies this is how the parcel arrived and no one has tampered with it. I open the envelope. In it is a hand drawn message, "amazonburneracct = *drawing of penis*". What he now has, if you're following along, is a returned parcel showing Delivered, which he has given to the A to Z team. What I've done is type out a two page memo discussing this entire situation to the Amazon reps handling this, complete with photos. Obviously, I'm hoping they side with me here. **The actual question for /r/legaladvice is what are my options? Can I initiate a mail fraud lawsuit against the buyer if Amazon returns the funds to him? I assume that his fingerprints/DNA are on the parcel and the paper itself that was in the parcel. I am not opposed to spending a considerable amount of money to make things right. ** | cp2fluv | cp2jtxf | 1,425,344,666 | 1,425,352,151 | 7 | 22 | You can file a claim with the postal service. What does Amazon say about the difference in weight? | As someone who has run the CS side of a large Amazon storefront, I wouldn't be surprised if the initial ruling comes back in the buyers favor, simply due to the fact that return tracking shows that the parcel was delivered. At that point you'll have the opportunity to appeal if the claim is not found in your favor, which you'll definitely want to do. I'd suggest calling in to Seller Support as well, and seeing if you can speak to a manager. Unfortunately the reps that read and respond to claims seem to be working off templates in most cases, so if you can get someone with a bit more authority on the line, and explain the situation to them you may have some more luck. And not to be a downer, but you may want to prepare for the worst. Even when you've done everything right, Amazon will rarely side against the customer. They decided that being customer friendly was more important that catching scammers, and so they side with the buyer in most cases. There's a good chance they'll end up just giving the customer their money back themselves in this case, and not forcing you to issue the refund. | 0 | 7,485 | 3.142857 |
2xqewn | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | [OH/SC] Amazon buyers opens A-to-Z claim to return product. Returns drawing of penis instead. Potentially gets money back since parcel shows Delivered. TLDR: Buyer commits mail fraud via returning an empty parcel just so he gets a Delivered notation on a tracking number. Sends drawing of penis for extra measure. **Please don't tell me to just write this off. This isn't a situation where I want some pompous kid with a smirk on his face to get away with a freebie.** I sell on Amazon and eBay to the tune of $400k/yr in sales. Last year I made $200k/yr net. I state this not to brag, but to set the stage. This is my full time business. I'm successful and my time is important to me. Unfortunately, the products I sell cater primarily to teenage boys; eg the most immature/spoiled brats known to man. I get my fair share of problem buyers. Buyers that either have mommy's credit card or simply have more money than sense. Buyers that simply are never happy. Every industry has them. You put up with the bad, just to keep the checks coming in. Anyhow, this situation revolves around one of these buyers. He's purchased several products for me and there is *always* an issue. This last order, he wanted to return something. The first reason he gave me was that he found a better price on eBay. I told him he could return it at his expense. He opens an A-to-Z claim against me saying the item was defective upon the first use. First off, the "better price" on eBay was 10% of what the lowest seller sells this for; eg an out and out lie. Secondly, and this is hard to explain, but these products aren't defective the way a pencil isn't defective. As long as it's not physically broken (which would take driving a dump truck over it), it just works. Back to the issue. He opens the A to Z and gives me the TR# of the return. It comes back and, instead of the 2LB box it's supposed to be, it's an *empty* padded envelope weighing 0.10oz. I immediately take photographs of the parcel while still at my mail service (a UPS Store PO Box). My manager at the store verifies this is how the parcel arrived and no one has tampered with it. I open the envelope. In it is a hand drawn message, "amazonburneracct = *drawing of penis*". What he now has, if you're following along, is a returned parcel showing Delivered, which he has given to the A to Z team. What I've done is type out a two page memo discussing this entire situation to the Amazon reps handling this, complete with photos. Obviously, I'm hoping they side with me here. **The actual question for /r/legaladvice is what are my options? Can I initiate a mail fraud lawsuit against the buyer if Amazon returns the funds to him? I assume that his fingerprints/DNA are on the parcel and the paper itself that was in the parcel. I am not opposed to spending a considerable amount of money to make things right. ** | cp2xyvc | cp2ih2g | 1,425,394,972 | 1,425,349,805 | 13 | 9 | I'm also a very large marketplace seller (more than $400k/month in sales) and I've run into this same issue from time to time. It sucks and I totally empathize with you. There is, technically, something you can do. You can sue the customer for breach of contract and fraud. You have the customer's mailing address from the order (FBA or FBM). You can take the customer to small claims court in their jurisdiction by hiring a local lawyer. You could, in theory, bring suit against them in your jurisdiction. Will you win in court? You might. You have good evidence that fraud was committed, so you might very well win. But you also might just lose as well. Or you might win, but the court would decline to cover any of your considerable costs to bring the suit -- and just award your damages as the value of the goods stolen. The problem is, it's a horrible business decision to pursue this in court over what is probably a very small transaction. And when I say horrible, I mean stupid, wasteful and horrible beyond words. Your best case scenario is that you get some money out of the customer and shame him. But the worst case is that Amazon decides it doesn't like merchants who sue customers and they kick you off the platform. So then your $200k/year business goes down the drain, and for what? Getting even over $30? And I know you know this. Which is why this situation sucks balls. I think you're taking the second best approach. Try to get Amazon to resolve in your favor. Make your best case and see if you can get a win out of Amazon. At a minimum, you're building a record for Amazon to ultimately "fire" the customer off Amazon (which they will do, eventually). Another option, in theory, is to file a police report for fraud and make huge waves with your local police to follow-up with the customer's jurisdiction. But again, you risk angering Amazon. So sadly, and I hate to do this to you, but I'm afraid I have to ignore your plea and beg you to "just write this off." That is your best option. It's your best option because the Amazon appeal and all the documentation you're doing is a total waste of your time. You are infinitely better off working to grow your business then fighting these asshats. Try as hard as you can to not take this personally. As your business grows, you have to think about scaleable solutions to these exact problems. And the smartest business decision you can make, and the decision that scales, is to write it off and factor cost of return into your net margin and adjust prices accordingly. I'm sorry you have to deal with this again and again. Entitled, whiny customers are bad enough. Cheats are unbearable. Best of luck. | Hopefully you do better with Amazon than our eBay seller did. He had a buyer "return" a PS4, which the buyer claimed showed up as a box of charcoal and Zima. That buyer at least had the sense to match up the shipping weights. Unfortunately, the seller lost that battle despite a bunch of common sense evidence in his favor. | 1 | 45,167 | 1.444444 |
2xqewn | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | [OH/SC] Amazon buyers opens A-to-Z claim to return product. Returns drawing of penis instead. Potentially gets money back since parcel shows Delivered. TLDR: Buyer commits mail fraud via returning an empty parcel just so he gets a Delivered notation on a tracking number. Sends drawing of penis for extra measure. **Please don't tell me to just write this off. This isn't a situation where I want some pompous kid with a smirk on his face to get away with a freebie.** I sell on Amazon and eBay to the tune of $400k/yr in sales. Last year I made $200k/yr net. I state this not to brag, but to set the stage. This is my full time business. I'm successful and my time is important to me. Unfortunately, the products I sell cater primarily to teenage boys; eg the most immature/spoiled brats known to man. I get my fair share of problem buyers. Buyers that either have mommy's credit card or simply have more money than sense. Buyers that simply are never happy. Every industry has them. You put up with the bad, just to keep the checks coming in. Anyhow, this situation revolves around one of these buyers. He's purchased several products for me and there is *always* an issue. This last order, he wanted to return something. The first reason he gave me was that he found a better price on eBay. I told him he could return it at his expense. He opens an A-to-Z claim against me saying the item was defective upon the first use. First off, the "better price" on eBay was 10% of what the lowest seller sells this for; eg an out and out lie. Secondly, and this is hard to explain, but these products aren't defective the way a pencil isn't defective. As long as it's not physically broken (which would take driving a dump truck over it), it just works. Back to the issue. He opens the A to Z and gives me the TR# of the return. It comes back and, instead of the 2LB box it's supposed to be, it's an *empty* padded envelope weighing 0.10oz. I immediately take photographs of the parcel while still at my mail service (a UPS Store PO Box). My manager at the store verifies this is how the parcel arrived and no one has tampered with it. I open the envelope. In it is a hand drawn message, "amazonburneracct = *drawing of penis*". What he now has, if you're following along, is a returned parcel showing Delivered, which he has given to the A to Z team. What I've done is type out a two page memo discussing this entire situation to the Amazon reps handling this, complete with photos. Obviously, I'm hoping they side with me here. **The actual question for /r/legaladvice is what are my options? Can I initiate a mail fraud lawsuit against the buyer if Amazon returns the funds to him? I assume that his fingerprints/DNA are on the parcel and the paper itself that was in the parcel. I am not opposed to spending a considerable amount of money to make things right. ** | cp2fluv | cp2xyvc | 1,425,344,666 | 1,425,394,972 | 7 | 13 | You can file a claim with the postal service. What does Amazon say about the difference in weight? | I'm also a very large marketplace seller (more than $400k/month in sales) and I've run into this same issue from time to time. It sucks and I totally empathize with you. There is, technically, something you can do. You can sue the customer for breach of contract and fraud. You have the customer's mailing address from the order (FBA or FBM). You can take the customer to small claims court in their jurisdiction by hiring a local lawyer. You could, in theory, bring suit against them in your jurisdiction. Will you win in court? You might. You have good evidence that fraud was committed, so you might very well win. But you also might just lose as well. Or you might win, but the court would decline to cover any of your considerable costs to bring the suit -- and just award your damages as the value of the goods stolen. The problem is, it's a horrible business decision to pursue this in court over what is probably a very small transaction. And when I say horrible, I mean stupid, wasteful and horrible beyond words. Your best case scenario is that you get some money out of the customer and shame him. But the worst case is that Amazon decides it doesn't like merchants who sue customers and they kick you off the platform. So then your $200k/year business goes down the drain, and for what? Getting even over $30? And I know you know this. Which is why this situation sucks balls. I think you're taking the second best approach. Try to get Amazon to resolve in your favor. Make your best case and see if you can get a win out of Amazon. At a minimum, you're building a record for Amazon to ultimately "fire" the customer off Amazon (which they will do, eventually). Another option, in theory, is to file a police report for fraud and make huge waves with your local police to follow-up with the customer's jurisdiction. But again, you risk angering Amazon. So sadly, and I hate to do this to you, but I'm afraid I have to ignore your plea and beg you to "just write this off." That is your best option. It's your best option because the Amazon appeal and all the documentation you're doing is a total waste of your time. You are infinitely better off working to grow your business then fighting these asshats. Try as hard as you can to not take this personally. As your business grows, you have to think about scaleable solutions to these exact problems. And the smartest business decision you can make, and the decision that scales, is to write it off and factor cost of return into your net margin and adjust prices accordingly. I'm sorry you have to deal with this again and again. Entitled, whiny customers are bad enough. Cheats are unbearable. Best of luck. | 0 | 50,306 | 1.857143 |
2xqewn | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | [OH/SC] Amazon buyers opens A-to-Z claim to return product. Returns drawing of penis instead. Potentially gets money back since parcel shows Delivered. TLDR: Buyer commits mail fraud via returning an empty parcel just so he gets a Delivered notation on a tracking number. Sends drawing of penis for extra measure. **Please don't tell me to just write this off. This isn't a situation where I want some pompous kid with a smirk on his face to get away with a freebie.** I sell on Amazon and eBay to the tune of $400k/yr in sales. Last year I made $200k/yr net. I state this not to brag, but to set the stage. This is my full time business. I'm successful and my time is important to me. Unfortunately, the products I sell cater primarily to teenage boys; eg the most immature/spoiled brats known to man. I get my fair share of problem buyers. Buyers that either have mommy's credit card or simply have more money than sense. Buyers that simply are never happy. Every industry has them. You put up with the bad, just to keep the checks coming in. Anyhow, this situation revolves around one of these buyers. He's purchased several products for me and there is *always* an issue. This last order, he wanted to return something. The first reason he gave me was that he found a better price on eBay. I told him he could return it at his expense. He opens an A-to-Z claim against me saying the item was defective upon the first use. First off, the "better price" on eBay was 10% of what the lowest seller sells this for; eg an out and out lie. Secondly, and this is hard to explain, but these products aren't defective the way a pencil isn't defective. As long as it's not physically broken (which would take driving a dump truck over it), it just works. Back to the issue. He opens the A to Z and gives me the TR# of the return. It comes back and, instead of the 2LB box it's supposed to be, it's an *empty* padded envelope weighing 0.10oz. I immediately take photographs of the parcel while still at my mail service (a UPS Store PO Box). My manager at the store verifies this is how the parcel arrived and no one has tampered with it. I open the envelope. In it is a hand drawn message, "amazonburneracct = *drawing of penis*". What he now has, if you're following along, is a returned parcel showing Delivered, which he has given to the A to Z team. What I've done is type out a two page memo discussing this entire situation to the Amazon reps handling this, complete with photos. Obviously, I'm hoping they side with me here. **The actual question for /r/legaladvice is what are my options? Can I initiate a mail fraud lawsuit against the buyer if Amazon returns the funds to him? I assume that his fingerprints/DNA are on the parcel and the paper itself that was in the parcel. I am not opposed to spending a considerable amount of money to make things right. ** | cp2xyvc | cp2x9qf | 1,425,394,972 | 1,425,393,469 | 13 | 4 | I'm also a very large marketplace seller (more than $400k/month in sales) and I've run into this same issue from time to time. It sucks and I totally empathize with you. There is, technically, something you can do. You can sue the customer for breach of contract and fraud. You have the customer's mailing address from the order (FBA or FBM). You can take the customer to small claims court in their jurisdiction by hiring a local lawyer. You could, in theory, bring suit against them in your jurisdiction. Will you win in court? You might. You have good evidence that fraud was committed, so you might very well win. But you also might just lose as well. Or you might win, but the court would decline to cover any of your considerable costs to bring the suit -- and just award your damages as the value of the goods stolen. The problem is, it's a horrible business decision to pursue this in court over what is probably a very small transaction. And when I say horrible, I mean stupid, wasteful and horrible beyond words. Your best case scenario is that you get some money out of the customer and shame him. But the worst case is that Amazon decides it doesn't like merchants who sue customers and they kick you off the platform. So then your $200k/year business goes down the drain, and for what? Getting even over $30? And I know you know this. Which is why this situation sucks balls. I think you're taking the second best approach. Try to get Amazon to resolve in your favor. Make your best case and see if you can get a win out of Amazon. At a minimum, you're building a record for Amazon to ultimately "fire" the customer off Amazon (which they will do, eventually). Another option, in theory, is to file a police report for fraud and make huge waves with your local police to follow-up with the customer's jurisdiction. But again, you risk angering Amazon. So sadly, and I hate to do this to you, but I'm afraid I have to ignore your plea and beg you to "just write this off." That is your best option. It's your best option because the Amazon appeal and all the documentation you're doing is a total waste of your time. You are infinitely better off working to grow your business then fighting these asshats. Try as hard as you can to not take this personally. As your business grows, you have to think about scaleable solutions to these exact problems. And the smartest business decision you can make, and the decision that scales, is to write it off and factor cost of return into your net margin and adjust prices accordingly. I'm sorry you have to deal with this again and again. Entitled, whiny customers are bad enough. Cheats are unbearable. Best of luck. | Just out of curiosity, what were you selling? | 1 | 1,503 | 3.25 |
2xqewn | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | [OH/SC] Amazon buyers opens A-to-Z claim to return product. Returns drawing of penis instead. Potentially gets money back since parcel shows Delivered. TLDR: Buyer commits mail fraud via returning an empty parcel just so he gets a Delivered notation on a tracking number. Sends drawing of penis for extra measure. **Please don't tell me to just write this off. This isn't a situation where I want some pompous kid with a smirk on his face to get away with a freebie.** I sell on Amazon and eBay to the tune of $400k/yr in sales. Last year I made $200k/yr net. I state this not to brag, but to set the stage. This is my full time business. I'm successful and my time is important to me. Unfortunately, the products I sell cater primarily to teenage boys; eg the most immature/spoiled brats known to man. I get my fair share of problem buyers. Buyers that either have mommy's credit card or simply have more money than sense. Buyers that simply are never happy. Every industry has them. You put up with the bad, just to keep the checks coming in. Anyhow, this situation revolves around one of these buyers. He's purchased several products for me and there is *always* an issue. This last order, he wanted to return something. The first reason he gave me was that he found a better price on eBay. I told him he could return it at his expense. He opens an A-to-Z claim against me saying the item was defective upon the first use. First off, the "better price" on eBay was 10% of what the lowest seller sells this for; eg an out and out lie. Secondly, and this is hard to explain, but these products aren't defective the way a pencil isn't defective. As long as it's not physically broken (which would take driving a dump truck over it), it just works. Back to the issue. He opens the A to Z and gives me the TR# of the return. It comes back and, instead of the 2LB box it's supposed to be, it's an *empty* padded envelope weighing 0.10oz. I immediately take photographs of the parcel while still at my mail service (a UPS Store PO Box). My manager at the store verifies this is how the parcel arrived and no one has tampered with it. I open the envelope. In it is a hand drawn message, "amazonburneracct = *drawing of penis*". What he now has, if you're following along, is a returned parcel showing Delivered, which he has given to the A to Z team. What I've done is type out a two page memo discussing this entire situation to the Amazon reps handling this, complete with photos. Obviously, I'm hoping they side with me here. **The actual question for /r/legaladvice is what are my options? Can I initiate a mail fraud lawsuit against the buyer if Amazon returns the funds to him? I assume that his fingerprints/DNA are on the parcel and the paper itself that was in the parcel. I am not opposed to spending a considerable amount of money to make things right. ** | cp2hnss | cp2fluv | 1,425,348,384 | 1,425,344,666 | 13 | 7 | I'm gonna need to see a picture of the evidence before I can opine further. | You can file a claim with the postal service. What does Amazon say about the difference in weight? | 1 | 3,718 | 1.857143 |
2xqewn | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | [OH/SC] Amazon buyers opens A-to-Z claim to return product. Returns drawing of penis instead. Potentially gets money back since parcel shows Delivered. TLDR: Buyer commits mail fraud via returning an empty parcel just so he gets a Delivered notation on a tracking number. Sends drawing of penis for extra measure. **Please don't tell me to just write this off. This isn't a situation where I want some pompous kid with a smirk on his face to get away with a freebie.** I sell on Amazon and eBay to the tune of $400k/yr in sales. Last year I made $200k/yr net. I state this not to brag, but to set the stage. This is my full time business. I'm successful and my time is important to me. Unfortunately, the products I sell cater primarily to teenage boys; eg the most immature/spoiled brats known to man. I get my fair share of problem buyers. Buyers that either have mommy's credit card or simply have more money than sense. Buyers that simply are never happy. Every industry has them. You put up with the bad, just to keep the checks coming in. Anyhow, this situation revolves around one of these buyers. He's purchased several products for me and there is *always* an issue. This last order, he wanted to return something. The first reason he gave me was that he found a better price on eBay. I told him he could return it at his expense. He opens an A-to-Z claim against me saying the item was defective upon the first use. First off, the "better price" on eBay was 10% of what the lowest seller sells this for; eg an out and out lie. Secondly, and this is hard to explain, but these products aren't defective the way a pencil isn't defective. As long as it's not physically broken (which would take driving a dump truck over it), it just works. Back to the issue. He opens the A to Z and gives me the TR# of the return. It comes back and, instead of the 2LB box it's supposed to be, it's an *empty* padded envelope weighing 0.10oz. I immediately take photographs of the parcel while still at my mail service (a UPS Store PO Box). My manager at the store verifies this is how the parcel arrived and no one has tampered with it. I open the envelope. In it is a hand drawn message, "amazonburneracct = *drawing of penis*". What he now has, if you're following along, is a returned parcel showing Delivered, which he has given to the A to Z team. What I've done is type out a two page memo discussing this entire situation to the Amazon reps handling this, complete with photos. Obviously, I'm hoping they side with me here. **The actual question for /r/legaladvice is what are my options? Can I initiate a mail fraud lawsuit against the buyer if Amazon returns the funds to him? I assume that his fingerprints/DNA are on the parcel and the paper itself that was in the parcel. I am not opposed to spending a considerable amount of money to make things right. ** | cp2ih2g | cp2fluv | 1,425,349,805 | 1,425,344,666 | 9 | 7 | Hopefully you do better with Amazon than our eBay seller did. He had a buyer "return" a PS4, which the buyer claimed showed up as a box of charcoal and Zima. That buyer at least had the sense to match up the shipping weights. Unfortunately, the seller lost that battle despite a bunch of common sense evidence in his favor. | You can file a claim with the postal service. What does Amazon say about the difference in weight? | 1 | 5,139 | 1.285714 |
boesqy | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I was raped. Can I put my baby up for adoption even though my state requires a conviction in order to terminate the rapists parental rights? I live in New York and I read online that my state will terminate a rapists parental rights, but there has to be a conviction first. I had a rape kit performed and and everything documented and there is no doubt that the baby is his, but court seems to be dragging by and I was told it could be a while before there was a conviction. I have three months left of my pregnancy and have a family willing to adopt, but if there is no conviction by the time I give birth, can I legally give my baby up for adoption without my rapist getting custody? His family now knows I’m pregnant and has been harassing me because they want to raise the baby. Will I have to keep my baby until there is a conviction and his rights are terminated? | engy310 | enh373l | 1,557,843,183 | 1,557,845,429 | 23 | 29 | Besides a lawyer, I'd see if you could call any county reps and expedite the court date Basically, find someone to make this a priority. | If there’s a no-contact or restraining order in place, report the harassment from his family to the prosecutor. If there isn’t, seek one that names both him and his family. I agree that you and the adoptive family should sit down with a lawyer to strategize what happens if the baby is born prior to a conviction. That can include keeping your parental rights but assigning them temporary guardianship, whether giving birth out of state would be advantageous, or other ideas. | 0 | 2,246 | 1.26087 |
boesqy | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I was raped. Can I put my baby up for adoption even though my state requires a conviction in order to terminate the rapists parental rights? I live in New York and I read online that my state will terminate a rapists parental rights, but there has to be a conviction first. I had a rape kit performed and and everything documented and there is no doubt that the baby is his, but court seems to be dragging by and I was told it could be a while before there was a conviction. I have three months left of my pregnancy and have a family willing to adopt, but if there is no conviction by the time I give birth, can I legally give my baby up for adoption without my rapist getting custody? His family now knows I’m pregnant and has been harassing me because they want to raise the baby. Will I have to keep my baby until there is a conviction and his rights are terminated? | enh4dah | enhfxsf | 1,557,845,943 | 1,557,850,961 | 10 | 19 | This might be helpful (it's intended for other circumstances but should apply to you) : https://achildshope.com/giving-baby-up-for-adoption-how-to/father-of-the-baby/birth-father-rights/ | Tell the prosecutor for your case that his family is now harassing you because they want the baby and you want to put the baby up for adoption. The prosecutor should be able to get you a restraining order against the family. | 0 | 5,018 | 1.9 |
boesqy | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I was raped. Can I put my baby up for adoption even though my state requires a conviction in order to terminate the rapists parental rights? I live in New York and I read online that my state will terminate a rapists parental rights, but there has to be a conviction first. I had a rape kit performed and and everything documented and there is no doubt that the baby is his, but court seems to be dragging by and I was told it could be a while before there was a conviction. I have three months left of my pregnancy and have a family willing to adopt, but if there is no conviction by the time I give birth, can I legally give my baby up for adoption without my rapist getting custody? His family now knows I’m pregnant and has been harassing me because they want to raise the baby. Will I have to keep my baby until there is a conviction and his rights are terminated? | enhgkxw | enho49n | 1,557,851,277 | 1,557,854,848 | 2 | 5 | Hire an attorney that specializes in the rights of the birth mother. Have them help you find an adopting couple. The couple would possibly pay your medical bills and give you enough to live on. This is the best way to protect yourself. | I am so sorry that you are in this position. My friend, also in NY, was raped and placed her daughter up for adoption at birth. She did not know her rapist's identity. She was told that he would be able to fight for custody from the adoptive parents down the road if he came forward and they found a DNA match, but that she would not be involved in that case should it happen. Hugs to you! | 0 | 3,571 | 2.5 |
boesqy | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I was raped. Can I put my baby up for adoption even though my state requires a conviction in order to terminate the rapists parental rights? I live in New York and I read online that my state will terminate a rapists parental rights, but there has to be a conviction first. I had a rape kit performed and and everything documented and there is no doubt that the baby is his, but court seems to be dragging by and I was told it could be a while before there was a conviction. I have three months left of my pregnancy and have a family willing to adopt, but if there is no conviction by the time I give birth, can I legally give my baby up for adoption without my rapist getting custody? His family now knows I’m pregnant and has been harassing me because they want to raise the baby. Will I have to keep my baby until there is a conviction and his rights are terminated? | enhgkxw | eni6ohg | 1,557,851,277 | 1,557,861,857 | 2 | 3 | Hire an attorney that specializes in the rights of the birth mother. Have them help you find an adopting couple. The couple would possibly pay your medical bills and give you enough to live on. This is the best way to protect yourself. | I believe the old adage of just dropping off an unwanted baby at a firehouse still holds up. Please correct me if I'm wrong. | 0 | 10,580 | 1.5 |
yv8ela | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Wife’s deadbeat ex wants to sign over his parental rights to avoid child support He hasn’t been in contact with his biological child in almost 10 years minus one or two days when his mother passed maybe 4 years ago, the child is almost 13. He’s been in and out of court constantly for failure to pay, even did a few months on work release. Now he only pays when he has court except for this last time when he showed up with a lawyer and got a continuance. Late last week we got a letter in the mail from said lawyer. He’s willing to sign over his parental rights to get out of any past due and future payments. The lawyer asked if our plan was to adopt and to respond with our lawyer’s information to start the process. This is something we’ve talked about and aren’t opposed to but haven’t tried because of the cost. Right now with Christmas around the corner is making it even more difficult. My wife wants him to pay what’s owed but also just wants to be free of him. What would be some options for course(s) of action? If his parental rights are severed, does that also include his parents? The child’s grandpa is a holy rolling narcissist that’s done nothing but threaten us when he doesn’t get his way. Our child also asked to not be in contact with him as well because of his temper, after their grandma passed from pancreatic cancer. Thank you for any help Edit: located in Kansas | iwcxjli | iwdh4f5 | 1,668,451,458 | 1,668,459,070 | 15 | 23 | To add to /u/GingerBeersAndTears' point, > This is something we’ve talked about and aren’t opposed to but haven’t tried because of the cost. Right now with Christmas around the corner is making it even more difficult. My wife wants him to pay what’s owed but also just wants to be free of him. If your wife's ex is interested in having their child adopted, and if you and your wife are on board, then it's in his interests to contribute to the cost. It might be worth approaching him with an offer that you'll carry out the adoption but need to split the cost. You absolutely need to discuss this with your own lawyer first, however. Being accused of buying children does you no favours. | > If his parental rights are severed, does that also include his parents? Do the grandparents currently have a visitation agreement? That could complicate the adoption process. | 0 | 7,612 | 1.533333 |
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