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3nfa47 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (NJ) My idiot nephew "rolled coal" on a pedestrian who turned out to be an off duty police officer So for those who don't know what "rolling coal" is (because I didn't) it's when someone modifies the engine on their diesel vehicle so that it emits a cloud of black, sooty smoke out of the exhaust pipes, which they also modify and extend to be like chimneys. My nephew recently bought a diesel truck and had it modified it so it could "roll coal". He was stopped at a red light and tried to get the attention of a pedestrian. She ignored him so he "rolled coal" on her and covered her in a cloud of smoke before he drove away. He was pulled over a short distance away. The pedestrian was an off duty police officer. His truck was towed and impounded. My nephew is a complete dumbass and deserves what he gets. I’m posting here because neither I nor my wife nor his parents have ever heard of “rolling coal” before and we are just wondering what happens next and what penalty(ies) he is looking at? | cvnlylq | cvnj2d7 | 1,443,947,863 | 1,443,937,118 | 524 | 306 | >tried to get the attention of a pedestrian Is that a euphemism for cat calling? | So presumably this kid is cat-calling women on the street and modifying his car so it emits conspicuous pollution. This guy sounds awful. To answer the question at hand, it appears that it is illegal in various ways (both state and federal): http://www.autoblog.com/2015/05/13/rolling-coal-now-illegal-in-new-jersey/ | 1 | 10,745 | 1.712418 |
3nfa47 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (NJ) My idiot nephew "rolled coal" on a pedestrian who turned out to be an off duty police officer So for those who don't know what "rolling coal" is (because I didn't) it's when someone modifies the engine on their diesel vehicle so that it emits a cloud of black, sooty smoke out of the exhaust pipes, which they also modify and extend to be like chimneys. My nephew recently bought a diesel truck and had it modified it so it could "roll coal". He was stopped at a red light and tried to get the attention of a pedestrian. She ignored him so he "rolled coal" on her and covered her in a cloud of smoke before he drove away. He was pulled over a short distance away. The pedestrian was an off duty police officer. His truck was towed and impounded. My nephew is a complete dumbass and deserves what he gets. I’m posting here because neither I nor my wife nor his parents have ever heard of “rolling coal” before and we are just wondering what happens next and what penalty(ies) he is looking at? | cvnlylq | cvnjrhs | 1,443,947,863 | 1,443,939,262 | 524 | 286 | >tried to get the attention of a pedestrian Is that a euphemism for cat calling? | At common law, battery is defined (according to Wikipedia) as > any unlawful touching of the person of another by the aggressor himself, **or by a substance put in motion by him** Perhaps a creative prosecutor could define the soot to be "a substance put in motion by him"? | 1 | 8,601 | 1.832168 |
3nfa47 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (NJ) My idiot nephew "rolled coal" on a pedestrian who turned out to be an off duty police officer So for those who don't know what "rolling coal" is (because I didn't) it's when someone modifies the engine on their diesel vehicle so that it emits a cloud of black, sooty smoke out of the exhaust pipes, which they also modify and extend to be like chimneys. My nephew recently bought a diesel truck and had it modified it so it could "roll coal". He was stopped at a red light and tried to get the attention of a pedestrian. She ignored him so he "rolled coal" on her and covered her in a cloud of smoke before he drove away. He was pulled over a short distance away. The pedestrian was an off duty police officer. His truck was towed and impounded. My nephew is a complete dumbass and deserves what he gets. I’m posting here because neither I nor my wife nor his parents have ever heard of “rolling coal” before and we are just wondering what happens next and what penalty(ies) he is looking at? | cvnlylq | cvnjeae | 1,443,947,863 | 1,443,938,113 | 524 | 229 | >tried to get the attention of a pedestrian Is that a euphemism for cat calling? | Looks like the ink is barely dry on the coal rolling law—that might be why your family has never heard of it. Here's what the law says: > No person shall retrofit any diesel-powered vehicle with any device, smoke stack, or other equipment which enhances the vehicle’s capacity to emit soot, smoke, or other particulate emissions, or shall purposely release significant quantities of soot, smoke, or other particulate emissions into the air and onto roadways and other vehicles while operating the vehicle, colloquially referred to as “coal rolling.” Any person who violates this section shall be subject to the penalties established pursuant to section 27 of P.L.2005, c.219 (C.26:2C-8.52) and any other applicable law. I *think* the reference to "Section 27" above means this statute about punishing breaches of environmental laws. It's super-wordy, but basically what it comes down to is that they could force him to pay up to $5,000 in civil court or in an administrative hearing. It would not actually be a crime, so he wouldn't get anything on his criminal record. I'm a programmer, not a lawyer, and I don't think I've ever set foot in New Jersey, so your nephew would be wise to talk to a local lawyer about this, who will know a lot more than me. Of course, if he were wise, he wouldn't have done this in the first place. edit: While I was researching this, /u/FtWorthHorn linked to an article pointing out that this is illegal under other laws as well, so this may not be how they're planning to go after him. He'll need to take whatever paperwork he has to an attorney. | 1 | 9,750 | 2.28821 |
3nfa47 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (NJ) My idiot nephew "rolled coal" on a pedestrian who turned out to be an off duty police officer So for those who don't know what "rolling coal" is (because I didn't) it's when someone modifies the engine on their diesel vehicle so that it emits a cloud of black, sooty smoke out of the exhaust pipes, which they also modify and extend to be like chimneys. My nephew recently bought a diesel truck and had it modified it so it could "roll coal". He was stopped at a red light and tried to get the attention of a pedestrian. She ignored him so he "rolled coal" on her and covered her in a cloud of smoke before he drove away. He was pulled over a short distance away. The pedestrian was an off duty police officer. His truck was towed and impounded. My nephew is a complete dumbass and deserves what he gets. I’m posting here because neither I nor my wife nor his parents have ever heard of “rolling coal” before and we are just wondering what happens next and what penalty(ies) he is looking at? | cvnlylq | cvnisd6 | 1,443,947,863 | 1,443,936,325 | 524 | 192 | >tried to get the attention of a pedestrian Is that a euphemism for cat calling? | With a little luck his truck will be crushed into a cube. | 1 | 11,538 | 2.729167 |
3nfa47 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (NJ) My idiot nephew "rolled coal" on a pedestrian who turned out to be an off duty police officer So for those who don't know what "rolling coal" is (because I didn't) it's when someone modifies the engine on their diesel vehicle so that it emits a cloud of black, sooty smoke out of the exhaust pipes, which they also modify and extend to be like chimneys. My nephew recently bought a diesel truck and had it modified it so it could "roll coal". He was stopped at a red light and tried to get the attention of a pedestrian. She ignored him so he "rolled coal" on her and covered her in a cloud of smoke before he drove away. He was pulled over a short distance away. The pedestrian was an off duty police officer. His truck was towed and impounded. My nephew is a complete dumbass and deserves what he gets. I’m posting here because neither I nor my wife nor his parents have ever heard of “rolling coal” before and we are just wondering what happens next and what penalty(ies) he is looking at? | cvnj1ev | cvnlylq | 1,443,937,038 | 1,443,947,863 | 79 | 524 | Basically, rolling coal is this, except the woman was a cop. | >tried to get the attention of a pedestrian Is that a euphemism for cat calling? | 0 | 10,825 | 6.632911 |
3nfa47 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (NJ) My idiot nephew "rolled coal" on a pedestrian who turned out to be an off duty police officer So for those who don't know what "rolling coal" is (because I didn't) it's when someone modifies the engine on their diesel vehicle so that it emits a cloud of black, sooty smoke out of the exhaust pipes, which they also modify and extend to be like chimneys. My nephew recently bought a diesel truck and had it modified it so it could "roll coal". He was stopped at a red light and tried to get the attention of a pedestrian. She ignored him so he "rolled coal" on her and covered her in a cloud of smoke before he drove away. He was pulled over a short distance away. The pedestrian was an off duty police officer. His truck was towed and impounded. My nephew is a complete dumbass and deserves what he gets. I’m posting here because neither I nor my wife nor his parents have ever heard of “rolling coal” before and we are just wondering what happens next and what penalty(ies) he is looking at? | cvnj2d7 | cvnisd6 | 1,443,937,118 | 1,443,936,325 | 306 | 192 | So presumably this kid is cat-calling women on the street and modifying his car so it emits conspicuous pollution. This guy sounds awful. To answer the question at hand, it appears that it is illegal in various ways (both state and federal): http://www.autoblog.com/2015/05/13/rolling-coal-now-illegal-in-new-jersey/ | With a little luck his truck will be crushed into a cube. | 1 | 793 | 1.59375 |
3nfa47 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (NJ) My idiot nephew "rolled coal" on a pedestrian who turned out to be an off duty police officer So for those who don't know what "rolling coal" is (because I didn't) it's when someone modifies the engine on their diesel vehicle so that it emits a cloud of black, sooty smoke out of the exhaust pipes, which they also modify and extend to be like chimneys. My nephew recently bought a diesel truck and had it modified it so it could "roll coal". He was stopped at a red light and tried to get the attention of a pedestrian. She ignored him so he "rolled coal" on her and covered her in a cloud of smoke before he drove away. He was pulled over a short distance away. The pedestrian was an off duty police officer. His truck was towed and impounded. My nephew is a complete dumbass and deserves what he gets. I’m posting here because neither I nor my wife nor his parents have ever heard of “rolling coal” before and we are just wondering what happens next and what penalty(ies) he is looking at? | cvnj1ev | cvnj2d7 | 1,443,937,038 | 1,443,937,118 | 79 | 306 | Basically, rolling coal is this, except the woman was a cop. | So presumably this kid is cat-calling women on the street and modifying his car so it emits conspicuous pollution. This guy sounds awful. To answer the question at hand, it appears that it is illegal in various ways (both state and federal): http://www.autoblog.com/2015/05/13/rolling-coal-now-illegal-in-new-jersey/ | 0 | 80 | 3.873418 |
3nfa47 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (NJ) My idiot nephew "rolled coal" on a pedestrian who turned out to be an off duty police officer So for those who don't know what "rolling coal" is (because I didn't) it's when someone modifies the engine on their diesel vehicle so that it emits a cloud of black, sooty smoke out of the exhaust pipes, which they also modify and extend to be like chimneys. My nephew recently bought a diesel truck and had it modified it so it could "roll coal". He was stopped at a red light and tried to get the attention of a pedestrian. She ignored him so he "rolled coal" on her and covered her in a cloud of smoke before he drove away. He was pulled over a short distance away. The pedestrian was an off duty police officer. His truck was towed and impounded. My nephew is a complete dumbass and deserves what he gets. I’m posting here because neither I nor my wife nor his parents have ever heard of “rolling coal” before and we are just wondering what happens next and what penalty(ies) he is looking at? | cvnjrhs | cvnjeae | 1,443,939,262 | 1,443,938,113 | 286 | 229 | At common law, battery is defined (according to Wikipedia) as > any unlawful touching of the person of another by the aggressor himself, **or by a substance put in motion by him** Perhaps a creative prosecutor could define the soot to be "a substance put in motion by him"? | Looks like the ink is barely dry on the coal rolling law—that might be why your family has never heard of it. Here's what the law says: > No person shall retrofit any diesel-powered vehicle with any device, smoke stack, or other equipment which enhances the vehicle’s capacity to emit soot, smoke, or other particulate emissions, or shall purposely release significant quantities of soot, smoke, or other particulate emissions into the air and onto roadways and other vehicles while operating the vehicle, colloquially referred to as “coal rolling.” Any person who violates this section shall be subject to the penalties established pursuant to section 27 of P.L.2005, c.219 (C.26:2C-8.52) and any other applicable law. I *think* the reference to "Section 27" above means this statute about punishing breaches of environmental laws. It's super-wordy, but basically what it comes down to is that they could force him to pay up to $5,000 in civil court or in an administrative hearing. It would not actually be a crime, so he wouldn't get anything on his criminal record. I'm a programmer, not a lawyer, and I don't think I've ever set foot in New Jersey, so your nephew would be wise to talk to a local lawyer about this, who will know a lot more than me. Of course, if he were wise, he wouldn't have done this in the first place. edit: While I was researching this, /u/FtWorthHorn linked to an article pointing out that this is illegal under other laws as well, so this may not be how they're planning to go after him. He'll need to take whatever paperwork he has to an attorney. | 1 | 1,149 | 1.248908 |
3nfa47 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (NJ) My idiot nephew "rolled coal" on a pedestrian who turned out to be an off duty police officer So for those who don't know what "rolling coal" is (because I didn't) it's when someone modifies the engine on their diesel vehicle so that it emits a cloud of black, sooty smoke out of the exhaust pipes, which they also modify and extend to be like chimneys. My nephew recently bought a diesel truck and had it modified it so it could "roll coal". He was stopped at a red light and tried to get the attention of a pedestrian. She ignored him so he "rolled coal" on her and covered her in a cloud of smoke before he drove away. He was pulled over a short distance away. The pedestrian was an off duty police officer. His truck was towed and impounded. My nephew is a complete dumbass and deserves what he gets. I’m posting here because neither I nor my wife nor his parents have ever heard of “rolling coal” before and we are just wondering what happens next and what penalty(ies) he is looking at? | cvnjrhs | cvnisd6 | 1,443,939,262 | 1,443,936,325 | 286 | 192 | At common law, battery is defined (according to Wikipedia) as > any unlawful touching of the person of another by the aggressor himself, **or by a substance put in motion by him** Perhaps a creative prosecutor could define the soot to be "a substance put in motion by him"? | With a little luck his truck will be crushed into a cube. | 1 | 2,937 | 1.489583 |
3nfa47 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (NJ) My idiot nephew "rolled coal" on a pedestrian who turned out to be an off duty police officer So for those who don't know what "rolling coal" is (because I didn't) it's when someone modifies the engine on their diesel vehicle so that it emits a cloud of black, sooty smoke out of the exhaust pipes, which they also modify and extend to be like chimneys. My nephew recently bought a diesel truck and had it modified it so it could "roll coal". He was stopped at a red light and tried to get the attention of a pedestrian. She ignored him so he "rolled coal" on her and covered her in a cloud of smoke before he drove away. He was pulled over a short distance away. The pedestrian was an off duty police officer. His truck was towed and impounded. My nephew is a complete dumbass and deserves what he gets. I’m posting here because neither I nor my wife nor his parents have ever heard of “rolling coal” before and we are just wondering what happens next and what penalty(ies) he is looking at? | cvnj1ev | cvnjrhs | 1,443,937,038 | 1,443,939,262 | 79 | 286 | Basically, rolling coal is this, except the woman was a cop. | At common law, battery is defined (according to Wikipedia) as > any unlawful touching of the person of another by the aggressor himself, **or by a substance put in motion by him** Perhaps a creative prosecutor could define the soot to be "a substance put in motion by him"? | 0 | 2,224 | 3.620253 |
3nfa47 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (NJ) My idiot nephew "rolled coal" on a pedestrian who turned out to be an off duty police officer So for those who don't know what "rolling coal" is (because I didn't) it's when someone modifies the engine on their diesel vehicle so that it emits a cloud of black, sooty smoke out of the exhaust pipes, which they also modify and extend to be like chimneys. My nephew recently bought a diesel truck and had it modified it so it could "roll coal". He was stopped at a red light and tried to get the attention of a pedestrian. She ignored him so he "rolled coal" on her and covered her in a cloud of smoke before he drove away. He was pulled over a short distance away. The pedestrian was an off duty police officer. His truck was towed and impounded. My nephew is a complete dumbass and deserves what he gets. I’m posting here because neither I nor my wife nor his parents have ever heard of “rolling coal” before and we are just wondering what happens next and what penalty(ies) he is looking at? | cvnjeae | cvnisd6 | 1,443,938,113 | 1,443,936,325 | 229 | 192 | Looks like the ink is barely dry on the coal rolling law—that might be why your family has never heard of it. Here's what the law says: > No person shall retrofit any diesel-powered vehicle with any device, smoke stack, or other equipment which enhances the vehicle’s capacity to emit soot, smoke, or other particulate emissions, or shall purposely release significant quantities of soot, smoke, or other particulate emissions into the air and onto roadways and other vehicles while operating the vehicle, colloquially referred to as “coal rolling.” Any person who violates this section shall be subject to the penalties established pursuant to section 27 of P.L.2005, c.219 (C.26:2C-8.52) and any other applicable law. I *think* the reference to "Section 27" above means this statute about punishing breaches of environmental laws. It's super-wordy, but basically what it comes down to is that they could force him to pay up to $5,000 in civil court or in an administrative hearing. It would not actually be a crime, so he wouldn't get anything on his criminal record. I'm a programmer, not a lawyer, and I don't think I've ever set foot in New Jersey, so your nephew would be wise to talk to a local lawyer about this, who will know a lot more than me. Of course, if he were wise, he wouldn't have done this in the first place. edit: While I was researching this, /u/FtWorthHorn linked to an article pointing out that this is illegal under other laws as well, so this may not be how they're planning to go after him. He'll need to take whatever paperwork he has to an attorney. | With a little luck his truck will be crushed into a cube. | 1 | 1,788 | 1.192708 |
3nfa47 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (NJ) My idiot nephew "rolled coal" on a pedestrian who turned out to be an off duty police officer So for those who don't know what "rolling coal" is (because I didn't) it's when someone modifies the engine on their diesel vehicle so that it emits a cloud of black, sooty smoke out of the exhaust pipes, which they also modify and extend to be like chimneys. My nephew recently bought a diesel truck and had it modified it so it could "roll coal". He was stopped at a red light and tried to get the attention of a pedestrian. She ignored him so he "rolled coal" on her and covered her in a cloud of smoke before he drove away. He was pulled over a short distance away. The pedestrian was an off duty police officer. His truck was towed and impounded. My nephew is a complete dumbass and deserves what he gets. I’m posting here because neither I nor my wife nor his parents have ever heard of “rolling coal” before and we are just wondering what happens next and what penalty(ies) he is looking at? | cvnjeae | cvnj1ev | 1,443,938,113 | 1,443,937,038 | 229 | 79 | Looks like the ink is barely dry on the coal rolling law—that might be why your family has never heard of it. Here's what the law says: > No person shall retrofit any diesel-powered vehicle with any device, smoke stack, or other equipment which enhances the vehicle’s capacity to emit soot, smoke, or other particulate emissions, or shall purposely release significant quantities of soot, smoke, or other particulate emissions into the air and onto roadways and other vehicles while operating the vehicle, colloquially referred to as “coal rolling.” Any person who violates this section shall be subject to the penalties established pursuant to section 27 of P.L.2005, c.219 (C.26:2C-8.52) and any other applicable law. I *think* the reference to "Section 27" above means this statute about punishing breaches of environmental laws. It's super-wordy, but basically what it comes down to is that they could force him to pay up to $5,000 in civil court or in an administrative hearing. It would not actually be a crime, so he wouldn't get anything on his criminal record. I'm a programmer, not a lawyer, and I don't think I've ever set foot in New Jersey, so your nephew would be wise to talk to a local lawyer about this, who will know a lot more than me. Of course, if he were wise, he wouldn't have done this in the first place. edit: While I was researching this, /u/FtWorthHorn linked to an article pointing out that this is illegal under other laws as well, so this may not be how they're planning to go after him. He'll need to take whatever paperwork he has to an attorney. | Basically, rolling coal is this, except the woman was a cop. | 1 | 1,075 | 2.898734 |
789wcm | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Public North Carolina High School. Says my son's hairstyle and color violates school's social norms. I was called to school today and was told that my son has been given a warning that his new hairstyle is against school's social norms. I asked for a copy of a document that describes the school's social norms which they did not provide, they instead said it's a matter of judgement by the school staff. My son has long hair and has recently dyed it electric blue. He likes it this way. They told me that he has a week to change his hairstyle to an appropriate and acceptable hairstyle or he will be suspended until his hairstyle becomes acceptable. I told them that to me it seems like this is a matter of freedom of expression and the school needs to abide by the first amendment, they told me that there is no first amendment in schools and the freedom of expression of students is only as far as the school staff allow. I'm not going to tell my son that he can't wear his favorite hairstyle and color only to appease the school administrators, unless they have a legal right in restricting his access to the school and education for his hairstyle. What is the most reasonable course of action for us? First, is this a first amendment issue? And second, who do I talk to next? | dos5ck6 | dos5ir6 | 1,508,784,659 | 1,508,784,828 | 134 | 679 | They are not wrong. Freedom of expression is allowed to be controlled in school. THey cant wear a shirt that says 'fuck everyone' and most schools dont allow crazy hair colors. You can either conform or pay an attorney to fight this fight and possibly lose a lot of time and money. But, everyone chooses their battles. If this is yours, go for it. But it has been in court before and I believe that the schools generally win in regards to things like this | The school is probably right. The recent cases you've heard of where schools were successfully sued over dress codes were based on the restriction of *racially-distinct* hairstyles, the obvious problem there being that those policies tended to discriminate against black students. A restriction against dying your hair electric blue is unlikely to be deemed discriminatory against any cognizable group, let alone a protected class. With regard to the first amendment, there is a limitation on that which schools do enjoy. (See, for instance, Tinker v. Des Moines). The school has the right to curtail speech or other forms of expression if reasonably necessary to achieve legitimate educational goals. If the school is reasonable in finding that the blue hair has some sort of disruptive effect, they are legally permitted to ban such hair styles. | 0 | 169 | 5.067164 |
789wcm | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Public North Carolina High School. Says my son's hairstyle and color violates school's social norms. I was called to school today and was told that my son has been given a warning that his new hairstyle is against school's social norms. I asked for a copy of a document that describes the school's social norms which they did not provide, they instead said it's a matter of judgement by the school staff. My son has long hair and has recently dyed it electric blue. He likes it this way. They told me that he has a week to change his hairstyle to an appropriate and acceptable hairstyle or he will be suspended until his hairstyle becomes acceptable. I told them that to me it seems like this is a matter of freedom of expression and the school needs to abide by the first amendment, they told me that there is no first amendment in schools and the freedom of expression of students is only as far as the school staff allow. I'm not going to tell my son that he can't wear his favorite hairstyle and color only to appease the school administrators, unless they have a legal right in restricting his access to the school and education for his hairstyle. What is the most reasonable course of action for us? First, is this a first amendment issue? And second, who do I talk to next? | dos5ck6 | dos5msl | 1,508,784,659 | 1,508,784,941 | 134 | 180 | They are not wrong. Freedom of expression is allowed to be controlled in school. THey cant wear a shirt that says 'fuck everyone' and most schools dont allow crazy hair colors. You can either conform or pay an attorney to fight this fight and possibly lose a lot of time and money. But, everyone chooses their battles. If this is yours, go for it. But it has been in court before and I believe that the schools generally win in regards to things like this | The school's authority to control conduct in the classroom is very, very broad. If your son's hair style choices are neither religious nor racial nor cultural in nature and if there's even the slightest indication that it disrupts the classroom or school environment, the school can likely suspend him until his hair returns to a natural colour. You could litigate this, but the outcome is uncertain. Even if you were to win and have the school's policy overturned on first amendment grounds, a clearer and more specific dress code that is applied uniformly - or, even, school uniforms with a list of permissible hairstyles - would likely pass judicial muster. Furthermore, the litigation is likely to be slow and expensive, and while it grinds its way through, your son would still likely be suspended from his school. Faster and less expensive resolutions include: * Deciding this isn't worth it and helping your son dye his hair back. * Negotiating with the school's administration or the school district seeking clarification on the dress code. * Enrolling your son in another school, willing to tolerate his hair, at your own expense. * Homeschooling against the school's curriculum, possibly with the school's support on things like tests and exams. Morally, I think your son's school is in the wrong, but legally, this is a dicey fight to pick. | 0 | 282 | 1.343284 |
p4lkzm | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | I think my mom is having some kind of psychotic break and I might have to get her committed against her will - I am out of state and traveling to see her right now. What are my rights and what’s the procedure here? (Posting this on behalf of my boyfriend who is currently driving us to see his mom) We (late 20’s M & F) live in the state of AZ and my bf’s mom lives in the state of CA. His uncle called a few hours ago and let us know that we need to go see his mom (let’s call her Diane, fake name obvi, she’s mid 50’s) because she is having some kind of break down where she claims some men broke into her house and were holding her hostage and trying to kidnap her. Neighbors all claim they have gone to check her house and there is no one there, no sign anyone but Diane has been there, she has zero signs of physical trauma, ligature marks or any of the stuff she would have if there was in fact men trying to tie her down and hold her hostage… Neighbors claim she has been acting erratic and showing signs of mental decline for a little while, and I know she suffers from a host of medical issues like autoimmune disorders so I’m not sure if maybe whatever is going on is related to that or she just has early onset dementia given her age, or something else. She is one of those stubborn people who would never admit to her mental faculties being diminished in any capacity and we aren’t super close with her so hence why we are so out of the loop on everything. So now we are driving out to California to see what the hell is going on because the neighbors insisted we do so, they are all very concerned and frankly it seems they’re tired of having to look after her. The legal advice I’m looking for is, I have no idea what we are looking at here. I have a feeling that this might turn into a situation where we might need to basically get her committed somewhere against her will and take over her assets since she might be having some kind of episodes where she isn’t always lucid, and if so then she isn’t capable of caring for herself. I know most likely this would be a case of getting my boyfriend appointed as her power of attorney so he can make medical decisions for her and control her assets in case we need to hire help like a nurse to look after her or maybe even getting her checked in to some facility where she can be care for around the clock. This would preferably also be in our home state of AZ since it is admittedly much harder to look in on her from out of state… I just don’t really know the procedure for doing all of this when she will probably put up a fight the moment she realizes what is going on. I feel like we will probably have to essentially get an attorney and gather official testimony from the neighbors who have been helping her the past couple months. Diane is the kind of person who would be extremely offended if anyone ever questioned her sanity and she will likely be the very opposite of cooperative in all of this, so I just need to know how this will all work (from anyone who has dealt with this kind of thing personally or professionally preferably) - also I was wondering what kind of attorney would I even look for in all of this? | h902rd3 | h8zr0fq | 1,629,007,470 | 1,628,999,795 | 35 | 18 | Not a lawyer but a social worker. First step is getting her to a hospital. If she won’t go voluntarily when you get to her, call law enforcement, you could try and request a crisis service (mental health professionals) to come out and evaluate her but not every area has that option. Request she is taken to the hospital by law enforcement, ideally if neighbors are willing they could also share with law enforcement (or a crisis team) previous incidents or behaviors. Sometimes police won’t take people to the hospital against their will if they feel they aren’t a harm to others or themselves, in which case a crisis team is ultra helpful as they can place a “transport hold” based on psychological state that police have to follow. In this case though it sounds like she may be in a state that police/ambulance might determine she needs to go in without a MH professional opinion. Once you’re at the hospital they will determine what is needed. Sometimes an unexpected “mental break” can be medically induced - for instance UTIs if left untreated can cause intense psychological symptoms (not a doctor either - but we always rule out any medical cause before moving forward with mental health treatment). If she needs to be committed to a hospital/court the hospital will petition for that. If she ends up accepting treatment, or if they treat her for an illness at the hospital and it is resolved it might not be needed. A hospital and doctors recommendations will be needed to move forward with anything at all, the important part for you is getting her to a hospital to be evaluated. | Take her to a nearby ER or call police to help, and ask for a 5150 or involuntary treatment evaluation. | 1 | 7,675 | 1.944444 |
ffnm4d | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Child has known milk allergy, daycare gave milk, had anaphylaxis, taken by ambulance and hospitalized. Is daycare liable for medical costs? Child has a known, well-documented allergy to milk. Child goes to large daycare center (not small in-home daycare). There are several procedures in place to prevent exposure at daycare, including a placemat they use at every meal that includes their name, photo and states that they have a milk allergy. One of the teachers in their classroom gave milk resulting in an anaphylactic reaction that included difficulty breathing. They appropriately used an epi-pen (prescribed by a physician) and called 911. They were taken by ambulance to the hospital. She was treated and admitted to the hospital for observation and eventually discharged back home 10 hours later. I think the daycare should cover our hospital/ambulance expenses, minimally, but I'm not sure how to approach the situation. This occurred in Illinois, if that matters. EDIT: grammar. | fjzksxo | fjzj8z4 | 1,583,722,083 | 1,583,721,034 | 173 | 23 | They are very liable... no need to beat around the bush with them. It's going to be their responsibility to over these expenses. Do you have health insurance for your daughter? Call and fill them in and ask if there's anything you should do from their end. My assumption is that they'll want to start looking into subrogation as they certainly are not going to want to be left holding the bag on expenses caused by someone else's negligence. Their legal team may handle recovery for you, though not sure if that's going to help with your deductible. You should also perhaps file a complaint with DCFS. They should also have the daycare's insurance on file and may be able to give it to you. I'd call their child abuse/neglect hotline and just run the question by them and see if they think you should file one. I don't know if it's reasonable or necessary to do, just a suggestion to look into for purposes of covering your bases. | Get a personal injury lawyer. Accidents happen, but handing a child a portion of food that they are severely allergic to is a blatant disregard for the health and safety of the child, especially if the parents can prove they were warned of the allergies beforehand. | 1 | 1,049 | 7.521739 |
ffnm4d | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Child has known milk allergy, daycare gave milk, had anaphylaxis, taken by ambulance and hospitalized. Is daycare liable for medical costs? Child has a known, well-documented allergy to milk. Child goes to large daycare center (not small in-home daycare). There are several procedures in place to prevent exposure at daycare, including a placemat they use at every meal that includes their name, photo and states that they have a milk allergy. One of the teachers in their classroom gave milk resulting in an anaphylactic reaction that included difficulty breathing. They appropriately used an epi-pen (prescribed by a physician) and called 911. They were taken by ambulance to the hospital. She was treated and admitted to the hospital for observation and eventually discharged back home 10 hours later. I think the daycare should cover our hospital/ambulance expenses, minimally, but I'm not sure how to approach the situation. This occurred in Illinois, if that matters. EDIT: grammar. | fjzophb | fjzj8z4 | 1,583,724,958 | 1,583,721,034 | 146 | 23 | Not only are they liable for all hospital/ambulance cost but also for a replacement EPIpen, I’d definitely ask for their insurance details. If you know a lawyer maybe have a quick chat with them first too Edit: fixed typos | Get a personal injury lawyer. Accidents happen, but handing a child a portion of food that they are severely allergic to is a blatant disregard for the health and safety of the child, especially if the parents can prove they were warned of the allergies beforehand. | 1 | 3,924 | 6.347826 |
ffnm4d | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Child has known milk allergy, daycare gave milk, had anaphylaxis, taken by ambulance and hospitalized. Is daycare liable for medical costs? Child has a known, well-documented allergy to milk. Child goes to large daycare center (not small in-home daycare). There are several procedures in place to prevent exposure at daycare, including a placemat they use at every meal that includes their name, photo and states that they have a milk allergy. One of the teachers in their classroom gave milk resulting in an anaphylactic reaction that included difficulty breathing. They appropriately used an epi-pen (prescribed by a physician) and called 911. They were taken by ambulance to the hospital. She was treated and admitted to the hospital for observation and eventually discharged back home 10 hours later. I think the daycare should cover our hospital/ambulance expenses, minimally, but I'm not sure how to approach the situation. This occurred in Illinois, if that matters. EDIT: grammar. | fk0j78s | fk1fv6u | 1,583,758,510 | 1,583,778,834 | 17 | 23 | That's negligence and should be covered by the daycare center or, in reality, their insurance. Document everything that happened. Your health insurance should have covered the hospital visit, but you will have a deductible or co-pay that should be covered by the daycare/their insurance. And, your health insurance probably has a subrogation claim against the center. I'd talk with the center and make sure they will pay your out-of-pocket. Dont waive any rights. And, look up the agreement you signed when you joined to see if it addresses the situation. Probably too early for a lawyer. You're only out your deductible/copay, so it's unlikely to find one willing to take you anyway unless there are longer-term effects. | I take care of children by trade, former daycare owner, so I know a bit about the legalities of liability, at least in my state. If one of my employees had done this, I would be expecting the parents to be requesting my insurance information and would already have contacted my insurance. Accidents like this where my employee is clearly at fault are why I have good insurance-- because I know that legally in my state I would be liable for this and the parents would have a very, very strong case for medical payments. I would do the following things-- in this order: 1. Ask, in writing if possible, why the procedures weren't followed and what disciplinary action has been taken. If they want to have a meeting, ask if you can record it (or just record it if IL is a one-party consent state, or take notes and have all parties present sign and date the notes for your records. 2. After you get that answer, ask for the insurance info. If you ask for it first, they may not answer #1 and you'll want their answer if things get contested with insurance. 3. Consider filing a complaint with their licensing representative. I don't know the Illinois regulations, but in my state, I would have been legally required to self-report this incident. In my state a report would be made, would be substantiated because obviously it did happen, and then a copy of the report would be available if you need to take further legal action. In my state the center would also probably be put on "close supervision"-- surprise monthly inspections to make sure regulations and policies are being followed. I wouldn't wait around on this, in my state it can take 90 days for licensing to complete the reports and I've never had it take less than 85. 4. If you need further evidence, you can likely sunshine request their inspection history (if it's not already publicly available, they are in my state) to see if any incidents like this have happened before. I would second the advice to not pay a lawyer quite yet. Most states have a lot of policies and procedures in place to take action when stuff like this happens, and most centers have insurance specifically to pay out for employee mistakes like this, so you may not need one unless you feel like their insurance company is jerking you around. | 0 | 20,324 | 1.352941 |
ya3slo | legaladvice_train | 0.7 | Fired from job for being pregnant. Is this legal? I found out I was on 9/23/22. Immediately let my employer know. I work in a small office, M-F, 9-4. I was very sick in the following weeks, 10/3/22 - 10/7/22, they gave me permission stay home and recover. Sunday, 10/9, I was admitted at 1am to hosptial and did not leave until that Thursday, 10/6. I kept my employer updated the entire time. The diagnosed me with Hyperemesis Gravidarum. The next week I was still very sick and recovering from my hosptial stay but worked out that I would go to meeting after my OB appt today, 10/21. Went to my meeting today around 10am with owner of company, and he would not tell me outright if I could come back to work on Monday. He said my supervisor would let me know something before end of day. At 3pm, I started to get worried and hopped on Indeed just to see if anywhere was hiring, in case I was fired. And seen they posted my job 4 days ago. I have been asking this whole time if I still had a job and no one had given me an answer. After seeing the Indeed post I screenshot it, and sent it to my supervisor saying I would appreciate someone to tell me what was going on. She proceeded to call and tell me I was fired due to "uncertanity of my health," even though at the meeting today I assured my boss I was much better and that I was pretty sure I was through the first trimester nausea wave now. I said to her on the phone "isnt that as much certainty as any pregnant or non-pregant person can give?" and she said "it's too uncertain" and that I was being let go. She specifically said it was not do to my work or work ethic, and "that it's not personal, just business." Now when I first started this job they told me I could work from home. I enjoyed gonig into the office though, and didn't really care when they revoked the right to work form home anymore. Once I got sick I assured them I could still work from home and they wouldn't allow it. My question is, is this legal to fire someone for medical needs and pregnancy, that I assured them would no longer be an issue moving forward (to the best I or any human can predict)? All the time off was approved by them. I did file for unemployment, and am waiting to see if that is accepted. I have screenshots of all of our texts approving my time off, and of me finding that post and asking directly if I was fired or not. Also side note: In the meeting today, he wanted me to have a whole plan for my pregnancy, like childcare etc. After telling me he wanted to keep business and personal separate. I said "well keeping business and personal separate. Childcare is my problem to figure out during my materinty leave, which I had planned to take the 6 weeks I'm allowed to take." - He wanted me to take 2 weeks maternity leave. I live in NC. Any advice, can I do anything here? | it91lt9 | it9178v | 1,666,384,652 | 1,666,384,488 | 35 | 10 | How long have you worked there, and how many employees? | How long have you been at this job? | 1 | 164 | 3.5 |
g1x3f5 | legaladvice_train | 0.85 | I just purchased a foreclosure property. I’ve come to find out that the old tenants are still living there and don’t look like they have any plans on moving out anytime soon. What can I do to get them out? I wasn’t planning on having to evict anyone from their home especially during these hard times but then again I invested a lot of money in this place. When I decided to purchase I didn’t know there were still people living there. This property is in Texas | fni4bi1 | fni4o3o | 1,586,973,743 | 1,586,973,916 | 44 | 94 | Speak with your tenants about their lease agreement. Offer a penalty free option for them to break the agreement, and maybe they’ll respond favorably. If not, inform them that they won’t be eligible to resign at this particular property. In either of these scenarios, you’ll be waiting on the tenant. The quickest way to remove them, and you’ve already alluded to this, is to evict, although that might not even be possible right now with C19 out there. | You may have an issue with covid and evictions being put on hold most places. If you want you can offer cash for keys but if get a lawyer to draft it all up so you are covered. | 0 | 173 | 2.136364 |
g1x3f5 | legaladvice_train | 0.85 | I just purchased a foreclosure property. I’ve come to find out that the old tenants are still living there and don’t look like they have any plans on moving out anytime soon. What can I do to get them out? I wasn’t planning on having to evict anyone from their home especially during these hard times but then again I invested a lot of money in this place. When I decided to purchase I didn’t know there were still people living there. This property is in Texas | fni4ezi | fni4o3o | 1,586,973,792 | 1,586,973,916 | 32 | 94 | If they are actually tenants of the previous owner, then I believe you have inherited any rental agreement that existed. Your purchase doesn't immediately give you the right to evict them. *Caveat emptor*. | You may have an issue with covid and evictions being put on hold most places. If you want you can offer cash for keys but if get a lawyer to draft it all up so you are covered. | 0 | 124 | 2.9375 |
6ampea | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | TX - Neighbor being a nuisance to try to force us out so he can buy our land. Found really old document showing part of our land was purchased by his family over 150 years ago. I posted about this a year or so ago here and since then things seemed to calm down. Little bit of backstory. Neighbor wanted to buy our land but we refused to sell since it has been in the family since the civil war. In response the neighbor set up a gun range that fires in a safe direction but close to the house. He was running his loudest equipment at 3am and switch to natural fertilizer on his crops. Well we complained to the sheriff and kept complaining until one morning the sheriff actually came out to see what was going on. Turns out that the neighbor was not even really running his equipment, he was turning them on and letting them run wasting gas. The sheriff told him to stop and to move the gun range down further on the land. The neighbor did actually obey the sheriff, but has since changed tactics. He has produced a 150 year old bill of sale that is barely legible that shows that his family purchased a large chunk of my land over 150 years ago. It looks legitimate enough that my family is getting very scared. I have all of the documentation that shows I am the current owner of the land. However the records I have only go back to the time my dad acquired the land from his dad. Is a barely legible 150 year old piece of paper something I have to worry about? Can my neighbor seriously steal the land out from under me with this? | dhfqci7 | dhfrpdk | 1,494,534,189 | 1,494,535,650 | 12 | 117 | I would contact your homeowners insurance and let them know what is going on to see if they can get you in contact with a lawyer or cover costs to get one. I highly doubt that document is legal anymore. | Isn't Texas a "race" state, meaning if a new deed is recorded first, the new deed takes precedence, old the old deed is invalid? So, if the 1860's deed was not recorded it has been replaced by the new deeds issued upon inheritance? Or does that only count for bona-fide purchasers and not heirs? | 0 | 1,461 | 9.75 |
6ampea | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | TX - Neighbor being a nuisance to try to force us out so he can buy our land. Found really old document showing part of our land was purchased by his family over 150 years ago. I posted about this a year or so ago here and since then things seemed to calm down. Little bit of backstory. Neighbor wanted to buy our land but we refused to sell since it has been in the family since the civil war. In response the neighbor set up a gun range that fires in a safe direction but close to the house. He was running his loudest equipment at 3am and switch to natural fertilizer on his crops. Well we complained to the sheriff and kept complaining until one morning the sheriff actually came out to see what was going on. Turns out that the neighbor was not even really running his equipment, he was turning them on and letting them run wasting gas. The sheriff told him to stop and to move the gun range down further on the land. The neighbor did actually obey the sheriff, but has since changed tactics. He has produced a 150 year old bill of sale that is barely legible that shows that his family purchased a large chunk of my land over 150 years ago. It looks legitimate enough that my family is getting very scared. I have all of the documentation that shows I am the current owner of the land. However the records I have only go back to the time my dad acquired the land from his dad. Is a barely legible 150 year old piece of paper something I have to worry about? Can my neighbor seriously steal the land out from under me with this? | dhft15a | dhfqci7 | 1,494,537,036 | 1,494,534,189 | 69 | 12 | It's possible , even if the bill of sale is valid, that you possess the land by adverse possession. Speak to a local real estate lawyer for a better answer. For the bill the sale, you want to have it examined by a Forensic Document Examiners. They can help you determine if is a real document. | I would contact your homeowners insurance and let them know what is going on to see if they can get you in contact with a lawyer or cover costs to get one. I highly doubt that document is legal anymore. | 1 | 2,847 | 5.75 |
6ampea | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | TX - Neighbor being a nuisance to try to force us out so he can buy our land. Found really old document showing part of our land was purchased by his family over 150 years ago. I posted about this a year or so ago here and since then things seemed to calm down. Little bit of backstory. Neighbor wanted to buy our land but we refused to sell since it has been in the family since the civil war. In response the neighbor set up a gun range that fires in a safe direction but close to the house. He was running his loudest equipment at 3am and switch to natural fertilizer on his crops. Well we complained to the sheriff and kept complaining until one morning the sheriff actually came out to see what was going on. Turns out that the neighbor was not even really running his equipment, he was turning them on and letting them run wasting gas. The sheriff told him to stop and to move the gun range down further on the land. The neighbor did actually obey the sheriff, but has since changed tactics. He has produced a 150 year old bill of sale that is barely legible that shows that his family purchased a large chunk of my land over 150 years ago. It looks legitimate enough that my family is getting very scared. I have all of the documentation that shows I am the current owner of the land. However the records I have only go back to the time my dad acquired the land from his dad. Is a barely legible 150 year old piece of paper something I have to worry about? Can my neighbor seriously steal the land out from under me with this? | dhfqci7 | dhfy38l | 1,494,534,189 | 1,494,543,179 | 12 | 20 | I would contact your homeowners insurance and let them know what is going on to see if they can get you in contact with a lawyer or cover costs to get one. I highly doubt that document is legal anymore. | Contact the Title Insurance company. If you don't have title insurance because you inherited the land instead of buying it, then contact a real estate attorney, not just any attorney but an attorney who is well-versed in Texas real estate law. And preferably one who is well-known in your county. A local title company should be able to refer you to at least one. | 0 | 8,990 | 1.666667 |
6ampea | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | TX - Neighbor being a nuisance to try to force us out so he can buy our land. Found really old document showing part of our land was purchased by his family over 150 years ago. I posted about this a year or so ago here and since then things seemed to calm down. Little bit of backstory. Neighbor wanted to buy our land but we refused to sell since it has been in the family since the civil war. In response the neighbor set up a gun range that fires in a safe direction but close to the house. He was running his loudest equipment at 3am and switch to natural fertilizer on his crops. Well we complained to the sheriff and kept complaining until one morning the sheriff actually came out to see what was going on. Turns out that the neighbor was not even really running his equipment, he was turning them on and letting them run wasting gas. The sheriff told him to stop and to move the gun range down further on the land. The neighbor did actually obey the sheriff, but has since changed tactics. He has produced a 150 year old bill of sale that is barely legible that shows that his family purchased a large chunk of my land over 150 years ago. It looks legitimate enough that my family is getting very scared. I have all of the documentation that shows I am the current owner of the land. However the records I have only go back to the time my dad acquired the land from his dad. Is a barely legible 150 year old piece of paper something I have to worry about? Can my neighbor seriously steal the land out from under me with this? | dhg8x0s | dhfqci7 | 1,494,557,829 | 1,494,534,189 | 20 | 12 | Adverse possession in Texas ranges from 3-10 years. So your in the clear. Tell him to fuck off. | I would contact your homeowners insurance and let them know what is going on to see if they can get you in contact with a lawyer or cover costs to get one. I highly doubt that document is legal anymore. | 1 | 23,640 | 1.666667 |
6ampea | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | TX - Neighbor being a nuisance to try to force us out so he can buy our land. Found really old document showing part of our land was purchased by his family over 150 years ago. I posted about this a year or so ago here and since then things seemed to calm down. Little bit of backstory. Neighbor wanted to buy our land but we refused to sell since it has been in the family since the civil war. In response the neighbor set up a gun range that fires in a safe direction but close to the house. He was running his loudest equipment at 3am and switch to natural fertilizer on his crops. Well we complained to the sheriff and kept complaining until one morning the sheriff actually came out to see what was going on. Turns out that the neighbor was not even really running his equipment, he was turning them on and letting them run wasting gas. The sheriff told him to stop and to move the gun range down further on the land. The neighbor did actually obey the sheriff, but has since changed tactics. He has produced a 150 year old bill of sale that is barely legible that shows that his family purchased a large chunk of my land over 150 years ago. It looks legitimate enough that my family is getting very scared. I have all of the documentation that shows I am the current owner of the land. However the records I have only go back to the time my dad acquired the land from his dad. Is a barely legible 150 year old piece of paper something I have to worry about? Can my neighbor seriously steal the land out from under me with this? | dhg8x0s | dhg8f3e | 1,494,557,829 | 1,494,557,108 | 20 | 6 | Adverse possession in Texas ranges from 3-10 years. So your in the clear. Tell him to fuck off. | It's your land. Generally all states have laws for adverse possession. As long as you meet all the requirements - and if you've been living there for the required statutory time I have no doubt you'll be able to file suit and quiet title in your favor. | 1 | 721 | 3.333333 |
6ampea | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | TX - Neighbor being a nuisance to try to force us out so he can buy our land. Found really old document showing part of our land was purchased by his family over 150 years ago. I posted about this a year or so ago here and since then things seemed to calm down. Little bit of backstory. Neighbor wanted to buy our land but we refused to sell since it has been in the family since the civil war. In response the neighbor set up a gun range that fires in a safe direction but close to the house. He was running his loudest equipment at 3am and switch to natural fertilizer on his crops. Well we complained to the sheriff and kept complaining until one morning the sheriff actually came out to see what was going on. Turns out that the neighbor was not even really running his equipment, he was turning them on and letting them run wasting gas. The sheriff told him to stop and to move the gun range down further on the land. The neighbor did actually obey the sheriff, but has since changed tactics. He has produced a 150 year old bill of sale that is barely legible that shows that his family purchased a large chunk of my land over 150 years ago. It looks legitimate enough that my family is getting very scared. I have all of the documentation that shows I am the current owner of the land. However the records I have only go back to the time my dad acquired the land from his dad. Is a barely legible 150 year old piece of paper something I have to worry about? Can my neighbor seriously steal the land out from under me with this? | dhg8x0s | dhg36wp | 1,494,557,829 | 1,494,550,064 | 20 | 4 | Adverse possession in Texas ranges from 3-10 years. So your in the clear. Tell him to fuck off. | Is there a way to pro-actively challenge a document like this deed? If someone produces documentation they claim gives them ownership/control/dominion over something of yours, do you have to sit around waiting for him to try and exercise it, or can you force him to produce the document in court and prove its validity? | 1 | 7,765 | 5 |
6ampea | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | TX - Neighbor being a nuisance to try to force us out so he can buy our land. Found really old document showing part of our land was purchased by his family over 150 years ago. I posted about this a year or so ago here and since then things seemed to calm down. Little bit of backstory. Neighbor wanted to buy our land but we refused to sell since it has been in the family since the civil war. In response the neighbor set up a gun range that fires in a safe direction but close to the house. He was running his loudest equipment at 3am and switch to natural fertilizer on his crops. Well we complained to the sheriff and kept complaining until one morning the sheriff actually came out to see what was going on. Turns out that the neighbor was not even really running his equipment, he was turning them on and letting them run wasting gas. The sheriff told him to stop and to move the gun range down further on the land. The neighbor did actually obey the sheriff, but has since changed tactics. He has produced a 150 year old bill of sale that is barely legible that shows that his family purchased a large chunk of my land over 150 years ago. It looks legitimate enough that my family is getting very scared. I have all of the documentation that shows I am the current owner of the land. However the records I have only go back to the time my dad acquired the land from his dad. Is a barely legible 150 year old piece of paper something I have to worry about? Can my neighbor seriously steal the land out from under me with this? | dhgrkqr | dhfqci7 | 1,494,597,113 | 1,494,534,189 | 16 | 12 | Old documents are easy to prove as fakes... and could give you a huge leg up in any legal dispute... Read about, "the hitler diaries". Not only would someone have to find original 1867 blank paper, but they would have to find original 1867 black ink to write it with. A simple chemical analysis of anything made 1945 that shows any one of a variety of radioactive isotopes (they are everywhere) or the wrong type of carbon would prove the document fraudulent and show intent to defraud. Mandatory not a lawyer. | I would contact your homeowners insurance and let them know what is going on to see if they can get you in contact with a lawyer or cover costs to get one. I highly doubt that document is legal anymore. | 1 | 62,924 | 1.333333 |
6ampea | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | TX - Neighbor being a nuisance to try to force us out so he can buy our land. Found really old document showing part of our land was purchased by his family over 150 years ago. I posted about this a year or so ago here and since then things seemed to calm down. Little bit of backstory. Neighbor wanted to buy our land but we refused to sell since it has been in the family since the civil war. In response the neighbor set up a gun range that fires in a safe direction but close to the house. He was running his loudest equipment at 3am and switch to natural fertilizer on his crops. Well we complained to the sheriff and kept complaining until one morning the sheriff actually came out to see what was going on. Turns out that the neighbor was not even really running his equipment, he was turning them on and letting them run wasting gas. The sheriff told him to stop and to move the gun range down further on the land. The neighbor did actually obey the sheriff, but has since changed tactics. He has produced a 150 year old bill of sale that is barely legible that shows that his family purchased a large chunk of my land over 150 years ago. It looks legitimate enough that my family is getting very scared. I have all of the documentation that shows I am the current owner of the land. However the records I have only go back to the time my dad acquired the land from his dad. Is a barely legible 150 year old piece of paper something I have to worry about? Can my neighbor seriously steal the land out from under me with this? | dhg8f3e | dhgrkqr | 1,494,557,108 | 1,494,597,113 | 6 | 16 | It's your land. Generally all states have laws for adverse possession. As long as you meet all the requirements - and if you've been living there for the required statutory time I have no doubt you'll be able to file suit and quiet title in your favor. | Old documents are easy to prove as fakes... and could give you a huge leg up in any legal dispute... Read about, "the hitler diaries". Not only would someone have to find original 1867 blank paper, but they would have to find original 1867 black ink to write it with. A simple chemical analysis of anything made 1945 that shows any one of a variety of radioactive isotopes (they are everywhere) or the wrong type of carbon would prove the document fraudulent and show intent to defraud. Mandatory not a lawyer. | 0 | 40,005 | 2.666667 |
6ampea | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | TX - Neighbor being a nuisance to try to force us out so he can buy our land. Found really old document showing part of our land was purchased by his family over 150 years ago. I posted about this a year or so ago here and since then things seemed to calm down. Little bit of backstory. Neighbor wanted to buy our land but we refused to sell since it has been in the family since the civil war. In response the neighbor set up a gun range that fires in a safe direction but close to the house. He was running his loudest equipment at 3am and switch to natural fertilizer on his crops. Well we complained to the sheriff and kept complaining until one morning the sheriff actually came out to see what was going on. Turns out that the neighbor was not even really running his equipment, he was turning them on and letting them run wasting gas. The sheriff told him to stop and to move the gun range down further on the land. The neighbor did actually obey the sheriff, but has since changed tactics. He has produced a 150 year old bill of sale that is barely legible that shows that his family purchased a large chunk of my land over 150 years ago. It looks legitimate enough that my family is getting very scared. I have all of the documentation that shows I am the current owner of the land. However the records I have only go back to the time my dad acquired the land from his dad. Is a barely legible 150 year old piece of paper something I have to worry about? Can my neighbor seriously steal the land out from under me with this? | dhgrkqr | dhg36wp | 1,494,597,113 | 1,494,550,064 | 16 | 4 | Old documents are easy to prove as fakes... and could give you a huge leg up in any legal dispute... Read about, "the hitler diaries". Not only would someone have to find original 1867 blank paper, but they would have to find original 1867 black ink to write it with. A simple chemical analysis of anything made 1945 that shows any one of a variety of radioactive isotopes (they are everywhere) or the wrong type of carbon would prove the document fraudulent and show intent to defraud. Mandatory not a lawyer. | Is there a way to pro-actively challenge a document like this deed? If someone produces documentation they claim gives them ownership/control/dominion over something of yours, do you have to sit around waiting for him to try and exercise it, or can you force him to produce the document in court and prove its validity? | 1 | 47,049 | 4 |
6ampea | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | TX - Neighbor being a nuisance to try to force us out so he can buy our land. Found really old document showing part of our land was purchased by his family over 150 years ago. I posted about this a year or so ago here and since then things seemed to calm down. Little bit of backstory. Neighbor wanted to buy our land but we refused to sell since it has been in the family since the civil war. In response the neighbor set up a gun range that fires in a safe direction but close to the house. He was running his loudest equipment at 3am and switch to natural fertilizer on his crops. Well we complained to the sheriff and kept complaining until one morning the sheriff actually came out to see what was going on. Turns out that the neighbor was not even really running his equipment, he was turning them on and letting them run wasting gas. The sheriff told him to stop and to move the gun range down further on the land. The neighbor did actually obey the sheriff, but has since changed tactics. He has produced a 150 year old bill of sale that is barely legible that shows that his family purchased a large chunk of my land over 150 years ago. It looks legitimate enough that my family is getting very scared. I have all of the documentation that shows I am the current owner of the land. However the records I have only go back to the time my dad acquired the land from his dad. Is a barely legible 150 year old piece of paper something I have to worry about? Can my neighbor seriously steal the land out from under me with this? | dhg8f3e | dhg36wp | 1,494,557,108 | 1,494,550,064 | 6 | 4 | It's your land. Generally all states have laws for adverse possession. As long as you meet all the requirements - and if you've been living there for the required statutory time I have no doubt you'll be able to file suit and quiet title in your favor. | Is there a way to pro-actively challenge a document like this deed? If someone produces documentation they claim gives them ownership/control/dominion over something of yours, do you have to sit around waiting for him to try and exercise it, or can you force him to produce the document in court and prove its validity? | 1 | 7,044 | 1.5 |
6ampea | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | TX - Neighbor being a nuisance to try to force us out so he can buy our land. Found really old document showing part of our land was purchased by his family over 150 years ago. I posted about this a year or so ago here and since then things seemed to calm down. Little bit of backstory. Neighbor wanted to buy our land but we refused to sell since it has been in the family since the civil war. In response the neighbor set up a gun range that fires in a safe direction but close to the house. He was running his loudest equipment at 3am and switch to natural fertilizer on his crops. Well we complained to the sheriff and kept complaining until one morning the sheriff actually came out to see what was going on. Turns out that the neighbor was not even really running his equipment, he was turning them on and letting them run wasting gas. The sheriff told him to stop and to move the gun range down further on the land. The neighbor did actually obey the sheriff, but has since changed tactics. He has produced a 150 year old bill of sale that is barely legible that shows that his family purchased a large chunk of my land over 150 years ago. It looks legitimate enough that my family is getting very scared. I have all of the documentation that shows I am the current owner of the land. However the records I have only go back to the time my dad acquired the land from his dad. Is a barely legible 150 year old piece of paper something I have to worry about? Can my neighbor seriously steal the land out from under me with this? | dhg36wp | dhgrsze | 1,494,550,064 | 1,494,597,401 | 4 | 6 | Is there a way to pro-actively challenge a document like this deed? If someone produces documentation they claim gives them ownership/control/dominion over something of yours, do you have to sit around waiting for him to try and exercise it, or can you force him to produce the document in court and prove its validity? | Adverse possession and how to avoid it is my favorite part of this sub. How to avoid avoiding adverse possession is.... thanks OP! (but would it kill them to include some shitty MS paint?) | 0 | 47,337 | 1.5 |
d1906x | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | What options do I have if someone is applying for guardianship of me? I’m 44yrs old so what steps would I take to even begin to address this from. Legal standpoint?im not mentally/physically impaired but she can get her friends to “vouch” , even though there’s no evidence of mental issues | ezj3vc5 | ezj2esn | 1,567,938,147 | 1,567,937,457 | 135 | 36 | Nal but I've had to fight a conservatorship claim before. It takes A LOT more than friends testifying on her behalf for a judge to agree to it. Check in with a family lawyer in your jurisdiction for advice on what to do if she seeks guardianship. | Generally speaking they'd need something more than the say-so of a few buddies. Talk to a family law attorney. | 1 | 690 | 3.75 |
d1906x | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | What options do I have if someone is applying for guardianship of me? I’m 44yrs old so what steps would I take to even begin to address this from. Legal standpoint?im not mentally/physically impaired but she can get her friends to “vouch” , even though there’s no evidence of mental issues | ezj88gv | ezj2esn | 1,567,940,337 | 1,567,937,457 | 47 | 36 | In many US states, the court will appoint you an attorney, social worker, or other advocate. Even if they don’t, you absolutely have the right to your own attorney. In fact you may be required to have an attorney and the court will help you if you cannot afford it. The court may order an independent medical evaluation and will most likely do an independent evaluation of your ability to live on your own and manage your finances. The person petitioning for guardianship has to provide “compelling evidence” that you can’t take care of yourself. Definitely medical evidence of physical and/or mental impairment. Proof that you can’t handle your finances. They may have to demonstrate that they looked into other alternatives and none will work. As mentioned, a statement from a friend of hers saying you are incapacitated doesn’t mean much if it’s not backed up with a medical review. You Most states have a description of the procedure online. | Generally speaking they'd need something more than the say-so of a few buddies. Talk to a family law attorney. | 1 | 2,880 | 1.305556 |
d1906x | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | What options do I have if someone is applying for guardianship of me? I’m 44yrs old so what steps would I take to even begin to address this from. Legal standpoint?im not mentally/physically impaired but she can get her friends to “vouch” , even though there’s no evidence of mental issues | ezlc7dk | ezm8328 | 1,567,974,863 | 1,567,988,074 | 3 | 5 | The Florida Bar has this info available. Per that info, you'll be appointed counsel if you're indigent (too poor to afford a lawyer) and the court will require medical/mental health professionals to assess you. | I'm baffled as to why you would remain around someone who has hurled obscenities at you before?? Drop her like a hot potato, change your number, heck, get an order of protection against her. Like others have stated, guardianship of an adult doesn't just happen in the least, there's a judge, hearing, witnesses, etc... You'll be fine, but get her out of you life asap. | 0 | 13,211 | 1.666667 |
kf3phh | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My (14m) friend (also 14m) probably has appendicitis but his mom refuses to take him to a hospital or even have an ambulance do it. Could me or my parents face legal repercussions if we snuck him out and checked him in? (PA) Basically the title. His mom thinks he’s being overdramatic and doesn’t want to spend money on getting it checked out. All the symptoms match with appendicitis and he’s been feeling like this for 3 days but it has progressively gotten worse. How would I go about getting him treatment his mother won’t? Can I even do it legally? Are me and my parents protected by Good Samaritan laws? | gg66oix | gg65gnv | 1,608,233,399 | 1,608,232,805 | 315 | 81 | If he calls from somewhere where his mother is not he will be transported to a hospital. With minors it is considered implied consent (that is the EMTs will act in the best interest of the patient and this assumes the parent/guardian would give consent). Source: am a license EMT | If not following the 911 suggestion already voiced - ACLU Pennsylvania >Emergency Care >When an attempt to secure consent would result in a delay in treatment and would increase the risk to the minor patient’s life or health, the minor may receive health services without the prior consent of a parent or legal guardian. | 1 | 594 | 3.888889 |
kf3phh | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My (14m) friend (also 14m) probably has appendicitis but his mom refuses to take him to a hospital or even have an ambulance do it. Could me or my parents face legal repercussions if we snuck him out and checked him in? (PA) Basically the title. His mom thinks he’s being overdramatic and doesn’t want to spend money on getting it checked out. All the symptoms match with appendicitis and he’s been feeling like this for 3 days but it has progressively gotten worse. How would I go about getting him treatment his mother won’t? Can I even do it legally? Are me and my parents protected by Good Samaritan laws? | gg65z87 | gg66oix | 1,608,233,052 | 1,608,233,399 | 44 | 315 | Taking a minor child without his parents' permission is a potentially disastrous move. Have him call 911. | If he calls from somewhere where his mother is not he will be transported to a hospital. With minors it is considered implied consent (that is the EMTs will act in the best interest of the patient and this assumes the parent/guardian would give consent). Source: am a license EMT | 0 | 347 | 7.159091 |
kf3phh | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My (14m) friend (also 14m) probably has appendicitis but his mom refuses to take him to a hospital or even have an ambulance do it. Could me or my parents face legal repercussions if we snuck him out and checked him in? (PA) Basically the title. His mom thinks he’s being overdramatic and doesn’t want to spend money on getting it checked out. All the symptoms match with appendicitis and he’s been feeling like this for 3 days but it has progressively gotten worse. How would I go about getting him treatment his mother won’t? Can I even do it legally? Are me and my parents protected by Good Samaritan laws? | gg6fp1r | gg65gnv | 1,608,237,761 | 1,608,232,805 | 133 | 81 | Prolonged withholding of medical care is child abuse. Here is a link to a Pennsylvania Resource. | If not following the 911 suggestion already voiced - ACLU Pennsylvania >Emergency Care >When an attempt to secure consent would result in a delay in treatment and would increase the risk to the minor patient’s life or health, the minor may receive health services without the prior consent of a parent or legal guardian. | 1 | 4,956 | 1.641975 |
kf3phh | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My (14m) friend (also 14m) probably has appendicitis but his mom refuses to take him to a hospital or even have an ambulance do it. Could me or my parents face legal repercussions if we snuck him out and checked him in? (PA) Basically the title. His mom thinks he’s being overdramatic and doesn’t want to spend money on getting it checked out. All the symptoms match with appendicitis and he’s been feeling like this for 3 days but it has progressively gotten worse. How would I go about getting him treatment his mother won’t? Can I even do it legally? Are me and my parents protected by Good Samaritan laws? | gg65z87 | gg6fp1r | 1,608,233,052 | 1,608,237,761 | 44 | 133 | Taking a minor child without his parents' permission is a potentially disastrous move. Have him call 911. | Prolonged withholding of medical care is child abuse. Here is a link to a Pennsylvania Resource. | 0 | 4,709 | 3.022727 |
kf3phh | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My (14m) friend (also 14m) probably has appendicitis but his mom refuses to take him to a hospital or even have an ambulance do it. Could me or my parents face legal repercussions if we snuck him out and checked him in? (PA) Basically the title. His mom thinks he’s being overdramatic and doesn’t want to spend money on getting it checked out. All the symptoms match with appendicitis and he’s been feeling like this for 3 days but it has progressively gotten worse. How would I go about getting him treatment his mother won’t? Can I even do it legally? Are me and my parents protected by Good Samaritan laws? | gg65gnv | gg8mf7m | 1,608,232,805 | 1,608,287,292 | 81 | 94 | If not following the 911 suggestion already voiced - ACLU Pennsylvania >Emergency Care >When an attempt to secure consent would result in a delay in treatment and would increase the risk to the minor patient’s life or health, the minor may receive health services without the prior consent of a parent or legal guardian. | This actually happened to me as a 13 year old. When we finally went to the hospital. The Dr asked my mom why she didn’t listen to me when I said I was in pain? She said she thought I was trying to get out of going to school. The Dr said he has a burst appendicitis. “Maybe you could waited another few days and brought him in dead.” I was on the operating table within two hours | 0 | 54,487 | 1.160494 |
kf3phh | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My (14m) friend (also 14m) probably has appendicitis but his mom refuses to take him to a hospital or even have an ambulance do it. Could me or my parents face legal repercussions if we snuck him out and checked him in? (PA) Basically the title. His mom thinks he’s being overdramatic and doesn’t want to spend money on getting it checked out. All the symptoms match with appendicitis and he’s been feeling like this for 3 days but it has progressively gotten worse. How would I go about getting him treatment his mother won’t? Can I even do it legally? Are me and my parents protected by Good Samaritan laws? | gg65z87 | gg8mf7m | 1,608,233,052 | 1,608,287,292 | 44 | 94 | Taking a minor child without his parents' permission is a potentially disastrous move. Have him call 911. | This actually happened to me as a 13 year old. When we finally went to the hospital. The Dr asked my mom why she didn’t listen to me when I said I was in pain? She said she thought I was trying to get out of going to school. The Dr said he has a burst appendicitis. “Maybe you could waited another few days and brought him in dead.” I was on the operating table within two hours | 0 | 54,240 | 2.136364 |
kf3phh | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My (14m) friend (also 14m) probably has appendicitis but his mom refuses to take him to a hospital or even have an ambulance do it. Could me or my parents face legal repercussions if we snuck him out and checked him in? (PA) Basically the title. His mom thinks he’s being overdramatic and doesn’t want to spend money on getting it checked out. All the symptoms match with appendicitis and he’s been feeling like this for 3 days but it has progressively gotten worse. How would I go about getting him treatment his mother won’t? Can I even do it legally? Are me and my parents protected by Good Samaritan laws? | gg8mf7m | gg6spih | 1,608,287,292 | 1,608,244,320 | 94 | 39 | This actually happened to me as a 13 year old. When we finally went to the hospital. The Dr asked my mom why she didn’t listen to me when I said I was in pain? She said she thought I was trying to get out of going to school. The Dr said he has a burst appendicitis. “Maybe you could waited another few days and brought him in dead.” I was on the operating table within two hours | Call Child Protective Services in your area. They can take your friend to hospital. 1-800-932-0313 https://www.dhs.pa.gov/Services/Children/Pages/Child-Welfare-Services.aspx | 1 | 42,972 | 2.410256 |
kf3phh | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My (14m) friend (also 14m) probably has appendicitis but his mom refuses to take him to a hospital or even have an ambulance do it. Could me or my parents face legal repercussions if we snuck him out and checked him in? (PA) Basically the title. His mom thinks he’s being overdramatic and doesn’t want to spend money on getting it checked out. All the symptoms match with appendicitis and he’s been feeling like this for 3 days but it has progressively gotten worse. How would I go about getting him treatment his mother won’t? Can I even do it legally? Are me and my parents protected by Good Samaritan laws? | gg9ayfq | gg8z8bv | 1,608,305,209 | 1,608,298,519 | 8 | 6 | I would call CPS in this case. Then they can take your friend to the hospital plus check out to make sure his mother isn’t neglecting him or endangering him in any other ways. That also protects you from being the ones to call the ambulance or take him to the hospital. CPS calls are generally anonymous unless it’s a 2-parent situation, like parents that are split and one parent keeps calling CPS to harass the other parent. | Definitely help your friend and definitely fuck his parents. Do whatever you need to do to get him to a doctor TODAY ASAP. | 1 | 6,690 | 1.333333 |
kf3phh | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My (14m) friend (also 14m) probably has appendicitis but his mom refuses to take him to a hospital or even have an ambulance do it. Could me or my parents face legal repercussions if we snuck him out and checked him in? (PA) Basically the title. His mom thinks he’s being overdramatic and doesn’t want to spend money on getting it checked out. All the symptoms match with appendicitis and he’s been feeling like this for 3 days but it has progressively gotten worse. How would I go about getting him treatment his mother won’t? Can I even do it legally? Are me and my parents protected by Good Samaritan laws? | gg9ayfq | gg8ubnv | 1,608,305,209 | 1,608,294,898 | 8 | 5 | I would call CPS in this case. Then they can take your friend to the hospital plus check out to make sure his mother isn’t neglecting him or endangering him in any other ways. That also protects you from being the ones to call the ambulance or take him to the hospital. CPS calls are generally anonymous unless it’s a 2-parent situation, like parents that are split and one parent keeps calling CPS to harass the other parent. | If this is still an issue, there are free clinics(either completely free, or very low pay scale, etc) available in some cities in most states. Hopefully, you live within range of one that can diagnosis appendicitis. https://www.freeclinics.com/sta/pennsylvania https://freeclinicspa.org/free-charitable-clinics/free-clinics-in-pa/ | 1 | 10,311 | 1.6 |
kf3phh | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My (14m) friend (also 14m) probably has appendicitis but his mom refuses to take him to a hospital or even have an ambulance do it. Could me or my parents face legal repercussions if we snuck him out and checked him in? (PA) Basically the title. His mom thinks he’s being overdramatic and doesn’t want to spend money on getting it checked out. All the symptoms match with appendicitis and he’s been feeling like this for 3 days but it has progressively gotten worse. How would I go about getting him treatment his mother won’t? Can I even do it legally? Are me and my parents protected by Good Samaritan laws? | gg8z8bv | gg8ubnv | 1,608,298,519 | 1,608,294,898 | 6 | 5 | Definitely help your friend and definitely fuck his parents. Do whatever you need to do to get him to a doctor TODAY ASAP. | If this is still an issue, there are free clinics(either completely free, or very low pay scale, etc) available in some cities in most states. Hopefully, you live within range of one that can diagnosis appendicitis. https://www.freeclinics.com/sta/pennsylvania https://freeclinicspa.org/free-charitable-clinics/free-clinics-in-pa/ | 1 | 3,621 | 1.2 |
kf3phh | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My (14m) friend (also 14m) probably has appendicitis but his mom refuses to take him to a hospital or even have an ambulance do it. Could me or my parents face legal repercussions if we snuck him out and checked him in? (PA) Basically the title. His mom thinks he’s being overdramatic and doesn’t want to spend money on getting it checked out. All the symptoms match with appendicitis and he’s been feeling like this for 3 days but it has progressively gotten worse. How would I go about getting him treatment his mother won’t? Can I even do it legally? Are me and my parents protected by Good Samaritan laws? | gga9fdv | gg9lddz | 1,608,320,190 | 1,608,310,028 | 5 | 3 | Call Children Services. Inform them of the emergency nature, possibly appendicitis and mother refuses to seek help. They will force action, even to so themselves if need be. Legally, there could be issues of a jon custodian parent taking someone for medical treatment with out consent. Even in emergency situations, there must be a parent in route to make decisions of the child, with only required emergency treatment given with out consent. Yes, appendicitis is an emergency, but if it isn't in the end, there could be issues. | I dont know about the legalality. But, as a school administrator, my recommendation would be to reach out to your school counselor for assistance. The counselor can talk to the parents and see what is going on. | 1 | 10,162 | 1.666667 |
kf3phh | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My (14m) friend (also 14m) probably has appendicitis but his mom refuses to take him to a hospital or even have an ambulance do it. Could me or my parents face legal repercussions if we snuck him out and checked him in? (PA) Basically the title. His mom thinks he’s being overdramatic and doesn’t want to spend money on getting it checked out. All the symptoms match with appendicitis and he’s been feeling like this for 3 days but it has progressively gotten worse. How would I go about getting him treatment his mother won’t? Can I even do it legally? Are me and my parents protected by Good Samaritan laws? | gg9r9qj | gga9fdv | 1,608,312,514 | 1,608,320,190 | 3 | 5 | The longer you wait the more expensive it gets. (Speaking from experience) it’s normally an outpatient procedure if caught right away. I had to stay for a week because I waited too long and it already ruptured. | Call Children Services. Inform them of the emergency nature, possibly appendicitis and mother refuses to seek help. They will force action, even to so themselves if need be. Legally, there could be issues of a jon custodian parent taking someone for medical treatment with out consent. Even in emergency situations, there must be a parent in route to make decisions of the child, with only required emergency treatment given with out consent. Yes, appendicitis is an emergency, but if it isn't in the end, there could be issues. | 0 | 7,676 | 1.666667 |
51gbq0 | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | Son was injured at Daycare and now theres a cover-up. How are you guys? My wife and I have been going back and forth about what to do and aren't really sure how to go forward. My almost 2 year old son has now tripped and fell head first into a table at daycare 3 times. The first time wasn't to bad. The second time resulted in a small scar above his left eye. This last time he was taken away by ambulance and had to get 2 stitches inside the cut and 6 outside the cut. This time it's above his right eye and will leave another good sized scar. In MA laws daycares have to have a certain child to adult ratio. In this case it is 1 adult to 5 children. During this accident one of his teachers was out giving a tour of the building and they didn't bring anyone in to cover. We know this because we are friendly with the certain teacher and she told my wife that she didn't see him fall because she was coming back from the tour. However, on all the incident reports they say that the daycare had proper ratio which is a lie and that's what's really making us angry. We have text messages from the teacher saying she didn't see the accident. We have text messages from the director to the teacher telling her to lie and say that she was there. We aren't the type of people looking to get anyone in trouble but this is unacceptable. If they're willing to lie about that what else could be going on? This happen last Wednesday and he stayed home Thursday but went back Friday. He went back today while we searched for another daycare which we found. We will be pulling him from there this week. What do we do for our son? | d7bpnp8 | d7bpi7o | 1,473,183,622 | 1,473,182,394 | 38 | 8 | You can report the daycare to the state licensing board (here it's DHR) for violation of the ratios requirements. Send evidence of the director encouraging the teacher to lie about the incident. Putting him in a different care setting is best, but I would report it just to make sure that the other children in their care are properly protected as well. | It is hard to say what to do if you don't have an expressed goal. | 1 | 1,228 | 4.75 |
51gbq0 | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | Son was injured at Daycare and now theres a cover-up. How are you guys? My wife and I have been going back and forth about what to do and aren't really sure how to go forward. My almost 2 year old son has now tripped and fell head first into a table at daycare 3 times. The first time wasn't to bad. The second time resulted in a small scar above his left eye. This last time he was taken away by ambulance and had to get 2 stitches inside the cut and 6 outside the cut. This time it's above his right eye and will leave another good sized scar. In MA laws daycares have to have a certain child to adult ratio. In this case it is 1 adult to 5 children. During this accident one of his teachers was out giving a tour of the building and they didn't bring anyone in to cover. We know this because we are friendly with the certain teacher and she told my wife that she didn't see him fall because she was coming back from the tour. However, on all the incident reports they say that the daycare had proper ratio which is a lie and that's what's really making us angry. We have text messages from the teacher saying she didn't see the accident. We have text messages from the director to the teacher telling her to lie and say that she was there. We aren't the type of people looking to get anyone in trouble but this is unacceptable. If they're willing to lie about that what else could be going on? This happen last Wednesday and he stayed home Thursday but went back Friday. He went back today while we searched for another daycare which we found. We will be pulling him from there this week. What do we do for our son? | d7bpi7o | d7bzkg0 | 1,473,182,394 | 1,473,197,109 | 8 | 14 | It is hard to say what to do if you don't have an expressed goal. | Just to clarify. Your son tripped and hit his head on 3 separate occasions, all in the same tabled area? Was there an obstacle or hazard he was falling over? | 0 | 14,715 | 1.75 |
51gbq0 | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | Son was injured at Daycare and now theres a cover-up. How are you guys? My wife and I have been going back and forth about what to do and aren't really sure how to go forward. My almost 2 year old son has now tripped and fell head first into a table at daycare 3 times. The first time wasn't to bad. The second time resulted in a small scar above his left eye. This last time he was taken away by ambulance and had to get 2 stitches inside the cut and 6 outside the cut. This time it's above his right eye and will leave another good sized scar. In MA laws daycares have to have a certain child to adult ratio. In this case it is 1 adult to 5 children. During this accident one of his teachers was out giving a tour of the building and they didn't bring anyone in to cover. We know this because we are friendly with the certain teacher and she told my wife that she didn't see him fall because she was coming back from the tour. However, on all the incident reports they say that the daycare had proper ratio which is a lie and that's what's really making us angry. We have text messages from the teacher saying she didn't see the accident. We have text messages from the director to the teacher telling her to lie and say that she was there. We aren't the type of people looking to get anyone in trouble but this is unacceptable. If they're willing to lie about that what else could be going on? This happen last Wednesday and he stayed home Thursday but went back Friday. He went back today while we searched for another daycare which we found. We will be pulling him from there this week. What do we do for our son? | d7bzkg0 | d7bsqi2 | 1,473,197,109 | 1,473,187,954 | 14 | 10 | Just to clarify. Your son tripped and hit his head on 3 separate occasions, all in the same tabled area? Was there an obstacle or hazard he was falling over? | Not in the same state as you, but we had our health insurance reject the claim when we took our son to the ER for his fall (small cut requiring stitches) at school because they felt the daycare was liable for the costs since it happened on their watch. You may want to prepare yourself for this as a possibility. | 1 | 9,155 | 1.4 |
51gbq0 | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | Son was injured at Daycare and now theres a cover-up. How are you guys? My wife and I have been going back and forth about what to do and aren't really sure how to go forward. My almost 2 year old son has now tripped and fell head first into a table at daycare 3 times. The first time wasn't to bad. The second time resulted in a small scar above his left eye. This last time he was taken away by ambulance and had to get 2 stitches inside the cut and 6 outside the cut. This time it's above his right eye and will leave another good sized scar. In MA laws daycares have to have a certain child to adult ratio. In this case it is 1 adult to 5 children. During this accident one of his teachers was out giving a tour of the building and they didn't bring anyone in to cover. We know this because we are friendly with the certain teacher and she told my wife that she didn't see him fall because she was coming back from the tour. However, on all the incident reports they say that the daycare had proper ratio which is a lie and that's what's really making us angry. We have text messages from the teacher saying she didn't see the accident. We have text messages from the director to the teacher telling her to lie and say that she was there. We aren't the type of people looking to get anyone in trouble but this is unacceptable. If they're willing to lie about that what else could be going on? This happen last Wednesday and he stayed home Thursday but went back Friday. He went back today while we searched for another daycare which we found. We will be pulling him from there this week. What do we do for our son? | d7bpi7o | d7bsqi2 | 1,473,182,394 | 1,473,187,954 | 8 | 10 | It is hard to say what to do if you don't have an expressed goal. | Not in the same state as you, but we had our health insurance reject the claim when we took our son to the ER for his fall (small cut requiring stitches) at school because they felt the daycare was liable for the costs since it happened on their watch. You may want to prepare yourself for this as a possibility. | 0 | 5,560 | 1.25 |
53k98a | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [TX] 6 year old son wandered out of elementary school and was picked up by a stranger. Son was picked up by his bus this morning as usual. Received a call around noon informing me that between being dropped off and his first class he wandered around the school, went to a book fair, and then left the school out a side door. Him and another child wandered through the surrounding neighborhood eventually getting into a car with a stranger who took them to another school and left them with the principal. After realizing the children didn't go to the school, the principal took them back to the correct elementary safely. My child was given and in school suspension and is in way more trouble at home. Here is my concern. I don't understand how this was allowed to happen. As much as he made these decisions and is ultimately responsible for his actions, it seems like the school holds some responsibility for their safety. I have a meeting with the principle. I want to know how this happened and what they are going to do to keep this from being a possibility again for my kids or anyone else's. This could have been a very tragic story had it turned out any differently. I'm worried that I may be met with some resistance from the principal and was wondering if I had any legal recourse if they tried to shift responsibility or not make changes to protocol. | d7ufktw | d7ufsau | 1,474,369,963 | 1,474,370,550 | 16 | 37 | At this school we don't get a call right when he went missing? | A part of what you demand from the district may be a new school. If any organization lost my car- I would never return there. This organization lost your child. Can you ever really trust them again? Make sure that option is on the table for you- you need somewhere you can entrust with your child. | 0 | 587 | 2.3125 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvd66o | ikv7dxo | 1,660,869,381 | 1,660,866,810 | 3,920 | 2,272 | Have them sell it on the market and ask for your 20k\~ back that you spent in repairs. Show them the receipts or credit card payments. Tell them you don't want to bring lawyers into it, but you will if you have to. Tell them that you just want what is fair, nothing else. | How much did you put in exactly? How long did you live there? What did you pay for rent? | 1 | 2,571 | 1.725352 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikv7g5i | ikvd66o | 1,660,866,837 | 1,660,869,381 | 184 | 3,920 | What is your location? | Have them sell it on the market and ask for your 20k\~ back that you spent in repairs. Show them the receipts or credit card payments. Tell them you don't want to bring lawyers into it, but you will if you have to. Tell them that you just want what is fair, nothing else. | 0 | 2,544 | 21.304348 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvhtx3 | ikv7g5i | 1,660,871,471 | 1,660,866,837 | 691 | 184 | Surely if you have messages to say that they were giving you the home and you can prove you completed work on the home after this message was sent you can sue them for misrepresentation and costs made to yourself. | What is your location? | 1 | 4,634 | 3.755435 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvhtx3 | ikvd9kj | 1,660,871,471 | 1,660,869,423 | 691 | 71 | Surely if you have messages to say that they were giving you the home and you can prove you completed work on the home after this message was sent you can sue them for misrepresentation and costs made to yourself. | >we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. > >We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. I don't know what you were thinking. They were going "to leave" and do what with what money? They needed you to help with the bills, right? How were they going to afford a new place, having handed over their home to you? Even if you think they should live on the street while you occupy their home, you don't have a leg to stand on. Here are some options: (1) Make them a fair offer for the house, with a discount for not involving a broker. Don't bank on inheriting any of that money back. (2) Where do they plan to move? Offer to buy them that place (or pay the rent) on the condition that they transfer the current house to you. (3) Cut your losses and find a new place to live. | 1 | 2,048 | 9.732394 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikv7g5i | ikvlylb | 1,660,866,837 | 1,660,873,312 | 184 | 592 | What is your location? | IAAL I'm not yours, I also don't practice this type of law. But I feel like this screams of promissory estoppel. I.e. you relied upon a promise to your detriment, and now they are trying to reneg. I'd contact a general practitioner lawyer in your area to find out your options. | 0 | 6,475 | 3.217391 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvlylb | ikvi6sa | 1,660,873,312 | 1,660,871,631 | 592 | 92 | IAAL I'm not yours, I also don't practice this type of law. But I feel like this screams of promissory estoppel. I.e. you relied upon a promise to your detriment, and now they are trying to reneg. I'd contact a general practitioner lawyer in your area to find out your options. | I doubt you have any of this written down anywhere. You’re getting fucked over by your in-laws. Hopefully you have receipts you can show them to help them understand that they need to reimburse you for the upgrades. Would make a much better conversation to show numbers instead of arguing emotions. | 1 | 1,681 | 6.434783 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvlylb | ikvd9kj | 1,660,873,312 | 1,660,869,423 | 592 | 71 | IAAL I'm not yours, I also don't practice this type of law. But I feel like this screams of promissory estoppel. I.e. you relied upon a promise to your detriment, and now they are trying to reneg. I'd contact a general practitioner lawyer in your area to find out your options. | >we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. > >We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. I don't know what you were thinking. They were going "to leave" and do what with what money? They needed you to help with the bills, right? How were they going to afford a new place, having handed over their home to you? Even if you think they should live on the street while you occupy their home, you don't have a leg to stand on. Here are some options: (1) Make them a fair offer for the house, with a discount for not involving a broker. Don't bank on inheriting any of that money back. (2) Where do they plan to move? Offer to buy them that place (or pay the rent) on the condition that they transfer the current house to you. (3) Cut your losses and find a new place to live. | 1 | 3,889 | 8.338028 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvmv2i | ikvi6sa | 1,660,873,718 | 1,660,871,631 | 145 | 92 | Not a lawyer. You mentioned moving in because they needed more care. Where are they moving now? I wonder if they are getting their affairs in order and maybe got guidance from an elder law attorney so they can apply for Medicaid, which may disallowe them to gift you the house, hence the request to purchase it at market value or they sell. I also live in the Midwest and my state requirements on gifting include looking back at statements for 5 years prior to application. Your best bet like others mentioned is to find receipts for repairs and improvements and have them pay you when they sell the house. They'll need copies of the receipts as well as proof it wasn't money gifted. Edited for clarity | I doubt you have any of this written down anywhere. You’re getting fucked over by your in-laws. Hopefully you have receipts you can show them to help them understand that they need to reimburse you for the upgrades. Would make a much better conversation to show numbers instead of arguing emotions. | 1 | 2,087 | 1.576087 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvd9kj | ikvmv2i | 1,660,869,423 | 1,660,873,718 | 71 | 145 | >we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. > >We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. I don't know what you were thinking. They were going "to leave" and do what with what money? They needed you to help with the bills, right? How were they going to afford a new place, having handed over their home to you? Even if you think they should live on the street while you occupy their home, you don't have a leg to stand on. Here are some options: (1) Make them a fair offer for the house, with a discount for not involving a broker. Don't bank on inheriting any of that money back. (2) Where do they plan to move? Offer to buy them that place (or pay the rent) on the condition that they transfer the current house to you. (3) Cut your losses and find a new place to live. | Not a lawyer. You mentioned moving in because they needed more care. Where are they moving now? I wonder if they are getting their affairs in order and maybe got guidance from an elder law attorney so they can apply for Medicaid, which may disallowe them to gift you the house, hence the request to purchase it at market value or they sell. I also live in the Midwest and my state requirements on gifting include looking back at statements for 5 years prior to application. Your best bet like others mentioned is to find receipts for repairs and improvements and have them pay you when they sell the house. They'll need copies of the receipts as well as proof it wasn't money gifted. Edited for clarity | 0 | 4,295 | 2.042254 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvi6sa | ikvue2v | 1,660,871,631 | 1,660,877,194 | 92 | 115 | I doubt you have any of this written down anywhere. You’re getting fucked over by your in-laws. Hopefully you have receipts you can show them to help them understand that they need to reimburse you for the upgrades. Would make a much better conversation to show numbers instead of arguing emotions. | I'm not a lawyer, but please keep in mind that your in laws may be required by state law to sell the house to fund their care now that they are getting older. It's very possible they truly intended to leave the house to your wife, but now that they need additional care, they have been informed by a lawyer that they must sell the house to pay for their care. Medicaid laws vary from state to state, but even if her parents did a quit claim deed in the house to give it to your wife, once they spend down their assets, the state could come back and seize that house from you to pay for their care. This is called the look back period, which allows the state to seize back any assets given away to family members within a certain time period prior to the person needing care. In Texas, the look back period is between 5 and 7 years. I would ask if they are moving into an assisted living or graduated care community. If they are, then by law they must sell their assets to fund their care. | 0 | 5,563 | 1.25 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvue2v | ikvd9kj | 1,660,877,194 | 1,660,869,423 | 115 | 71 | I'm not a lawyer, but please keep in mind that your in laws may be required by state law to sell the house to fund their care now that they are getting older. It's very possible they truly intended to leave the house to your wife, but now that they need additional care, they have been informed by a lawyer that they must sell the house to pay for their care. Medicaid laws vary from state to state, but even if her parents did a quit claim deed in the house to give it to your wife, once they spend down their assets, the state could come back and seize that house from you to pay for their care. This is called the look back period, which allows the state to seize back any assets given away to family members within a certain time period prior to the person needing care. In Texas, the look back period is between 5 and 7 years. I would ask if they are moving into an assisted living or graduated care community. If they are, then by law they must sell their assets to fund their care. | >we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. > >We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. I don't know what you were thinking. They were going "to leave" and do what with what money? They needed you to help with the bills, right? How were they going to afford a new place, having handed over their home to you? Even if you think they should live on the street while you occupy their home, you don't have a leg to stand on. Here are some options: (1) Make them a fair offer for the house, with a discount for not involving a broker. Don't bank on inheriting any of that money back. (2) Where do they plan to move? Offer to buy them that place (or pay the rent) on the condition that they transfer the current house to you. (3) Cut your losses and find a new place to live. | 1 | 7,771 | 1.619718 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvue2v | ikvu50p | 1,660,877,194 | 1,660,877,070 | 115 | 53 | I'm not a lawyer, but please keep in mind that your in laws may be required by state law to sell the house to fund their care now that they are getting older. It's very possible they truly intended to leave the house to your wife, but now that they need additional care, they have been informed by a lawyer that they must sell the house to pay for their care. Medicaid laws vary from state to state, but even if her parents did a quit claim deed in the house to give it to your wife, once they spend down their assets, the state could come back and seize that house from you to pay for their care. This is called the look back period, which allows the state to seize back any assets given away to family members within a certain time period prior to the person needing care. In Texas, the look back period is between 5 and 7 years. I would ask if they are moving into an assisted living or graduated care community. If they are, then by law they must sell their assets to fund their care. | If you follow any of the other advice in this thread you will probably kill the relationship and potentially disinherit your wife. Here's what (likely) happens if you do nothing: 1) The in-laws sell the house and get more money than they would have thanks to your updates. 2) They buy a different property with that money. 3) They die. 4) You inherit and sell the other property and get the money back. In the meantime, move out and live your life. This sucks, but be careful. | 1 | 124 | 2.169811 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikw0lbb | ikvi6sa | 1,660,880,280 | 1,660,871,631 | 115 | 92 | Yes. Talk today with a lawyer. 1. You lived there PAYING RENT for 10 years. 2. You were also caretakers. 3. You were also told the house was to be deeded to you- you invested because of that. If you have any receipts, they would have to pay for them. Or you could remove your property…. But before doing that TALK TO A LAWYER. Seriously. Let them handle that mess. | I doubt you have any of this written down anywhere. You’re getting fucked over by your in-laws. Hopefully you have receipts you can show them to help them understand that they need to reimburse you for the upgrades. Would make a much better conversation to show numbers instead of arguing emotions. | 1 | 8,649 | 1.25 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvzpgb | ikw0lbb | 1,660,879,823 | 1,660,880,280 | 83 | 115 | I see that you guys don't want the house anymore. i think this can actually have an easy solution. it depends on the parents obviously. wife and the parents can all go to a lawyer that will draw up an agreement where it basically says once parents sell the house to a stranger, wife receives x amount from the house sale. the amount would obviously have to be talked about and this assumes the parents are being reasonable and agrees that wife should be paid back for all the repairs and such you guys have put into. you could also do this just without the lawyer but that's impossible for us to say since we don't know the parent's personalities at all. they could agree and change their mind again and you guys won't have any written proof. | Yes. Talk today with a lawyer. 1. You lived there PAYING RENT for 10 years. 2. You were also caretakers. 3. You were also told the house was to be deeded to you- you invested because of that. If you have any receipts, they would have to pay for them. Or you could remove your property…. But before doing that TALK TO A LAWYER. Seriously. Let them handle that mess. | 0 | 457 | 1.385542 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvd9kj | ikw0lbb | 1,660,869,423 | 1,660,880,280 | 71 | 115 | >we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. > >We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. I don't know what you were thinking. They were going "to leave" and do what with what money? They needed you to help with the bills, right? How were they going to afford a new place, having handed over their home to you? Even if you think they should live on the street while you occupy their home, you don't have a leg to stand on. Here are some options: (1) Make them a fair offer for the house, with a discount for not involving a broker. Don't bank on inheriting any of that money back. (2) Where do they plan to move? Offer to buy them that place (or pay the rent) on the condition that they transfer the current house to you. (3) Cut your losses and find a new place to live. | Yes. Talk today with a lawyer. 1. You lived there PAYING RENT for 10 years. 2. You were also caretakers. 3. You were also told the house was to be deeded to you- you invested because of that. If you have any receipts, they would have to pay for them. Or you could remove your property…. But before doing that TALK TO A LAWYER. Seriously. Let them handle that mess. | 0 | 10,857 | 1.619718 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvvf2f | ikw0lbb | 1,660,877,683 | 1,660,880,280 | 67 | 115 | So what was your plan for if the parents got sick and needed a nursing home? Were you aware that Medicaid recovery programs recoup those costs from the estate in exactly that situation? Look, $20,000 sounds like a lot, but over 10 years it really isn't. Plenty of house rentals require you to buy your own appliances, which you are then entitled to take with you or sell (as you should if you want to recoup costs.) You also say $900 is "about" market rate for a 1 bedroom in your area. But even accounting for your $20k you're still coming out at <$1,100 a month in living expenses. And in that period you had use of the entire home, not just your one bedroom. It isn't outlandish to say you would have paid at least that much for a comparable living situation over that same timeframe, which would be the argument you'd be fighting. | Yes. Talk today with a lawyer. 1. You lived there PAYING RENT for 10 years. 2. You were also caretakers. 3. You were also told the house was to be deeded to you- you invested because of that. If you have any receipts, they would have to pay for them. Or you could remove your property…. But before doing that TALK TO A LAWYER. Seriously. Let them handle that mess. | 0 | 2,597 | 1.716418 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvu50p | ikw0lbb | 1,660,877,070 | 1,660,880,280 | 53 | 115 | If you follow any of the other advice in this thread you will probably kill the relationship and potentially disinherit your wife. Here's what (likely) happens if you do nothing: 1) The in-laws sell the house and get more money than they would have thanks to your updates. 2) They buy a different property with that money. 3) They die. 4) You inherit and sell the other property and get the money back. In the meantime, move out and live your life. This sucks, but be careful. | Yes. Talk today with a lawyer. 1. You lived there PAYING RENT for 10 years. 2. You were also caretakers. 3. You were also told the house was to be deeded to you- you invested because of that. If you have any receipts, they would have to pay for them. Or you could remove your property…. But before doing that TALK TO A LAWYER. Seriously. Let them handle that mess. | 0 | 3,210 | 2.169811 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvi6sa | ikvd9kj | 1,660,871,631 | 1,660,869,423 | 92 | 71 | I doubt you have any of this written down anywhere. You’re getting fucked over by your in-laws. Hopefully you have receipts you can show them to help them understand that they need to reimburse you for the upgrades. Would make a much better conversation to show numbers instead of arguing emotions. | >we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. > >We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. I don't know what you were thinking. They were going "to leave" and do what with what money? They needed you to help with the bills, right? How were they going to afford a new place, having handed over their home to you? Even if you think they should live on the street while you occupy their home, you don't have a leg to stand on. Here are some options: (1) Make them a fair offer for the house, with a discount for not involving a broker. Don't bank on inheriting any of that money back. (2) Where do they plan to move? Offer to buy them that place (or pay the rent) on the condition that they transfer the current house to you. (3) Cut your losses and find a new place to live. | 1 | 2,208 | 1.295775 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvd9kj | ikvzpgb | 1,660,869,423 | 1,660,879,823 | 71 | 83 | >we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. > >We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. I don't know what you were thinking. They were going "to leave" and do what with what money? They needed you to help with the bills, right? How were they going to afford a new place, having handed over their home to you? Even if you think they should live on the street while you occupy their home, you don't have a leg to stand on. Here are some options: (1) Make them a fair offer for the house, with a discount for not involving a broker. Don't bank on inheriting any of that money back. (2) Where do they plan to move? Offer to buy them that place (or pay the rent) on the condition that they transfer the current house to you. (3) Cut your losses and find a new place to live. | I see that you guys don't want the house anymore. i think this can actually have an easy solution. it depends on the parents obviously. wife and the parents can all go to a lawyer that will draw up an agreement where it basically says once parents sell the house to a stranger, wife receives x amount from the house sale. the amount would obviously have to be talked about and this assumes the parents are being reasonable and agrees that wife should be paid back for all the repairs and such you guys have put into. you could also do this just without the lawyer but that's impossible for us to say since we don't know the parent's personalities at all. they could agree and change their mind again and you guys won't have any written proof. | 0 | 10,400 | 1.169014 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvvf2f | ikvzpgb | 1,660,877,683 | 1,660,879,823 | 67 | 83 | So what was your plan for if the parents got sick and needed a nursing home? Were you aware that Medicaid recovery programs recoup those costs from the estate in exactly that situation? Look, $20,000 sounds like a lot, but over 10 years it really isn't. Plenty of house rentals require you to buy your own appliances, which you are then entitled to take with you or sell (as you should if you want to recoup costs.) You also say $900 is "about" market rate for a 1 bedroom in your area. But even accounting for your $20k you're still coming out at <$1,100 a month in living expenses. And in that period you had use of the entire home, not just your one bedroom. It isn't outlandish to say you would have paid at least that much for a comparable living situation over that same timeframe, which would be the argument you'd be fighting. | I see that you guys don't want the house anymore. i think this can actually have an easy solution. it depends on the parents obviously. wife and the parents can all go to a lawyer that will draw up an agreement where it basically says once parents sell the house to a stranger, wife receives x amount from the house sale. the amount would obviously have to be talked about and this assumes the parents are being reasonable and agrees that wife should be paid back for all the repairs and such you guys have put into. you could also do this just without the lawyer but that's impossible for us to say since we don't know the parent's personalities at all. they could agree and change their mind again and you guys won't have any written proof. | 0 | 2,140 | 1.238806 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvzpgb | ikvu50p | 1,660,879,823 | 1,660,877,070 | 83 | 53 | I see that you guys don't want the house anymore. i think this can actually have an easy solution. it depends on the parents obviously. wife and the parents can all go to a lawyer that will draw up an agreement where it basically says once parents sell the house to a stranger, wife receives x amount from the house sale. the amount would obviously have to be talked about and this assumes the parents are being reasonable and agrees that wife should be paid back for all the repairs and such you guys have put into. you could also do this just without the lawyer but that's impossible for us to say since we don't know the parent's personalities at all. they could agree and change their mind again and you guys won't have any written proof. | If you follow any of the other advice in this thread you will probably kill the relationship and potentially disinherit your wife. Here's what (likely) happens if you do nothing: 1) The in-laws sell the house and get more money than they would have thanks to your updates. 2) They buy a different property with that money. 3) They die. 4) You inherit and sell the other property and get the money back. In the meantime, move out and live your life. This sucks, but be careful. | 1 | 2,753 | 1.566038 |
wryr36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Wife invested thousands into house she was to inherit. She is now being told to buy the house or it will be sold to a stranger. Wife was told she was going to inherit the house her parents are living in. When her parents started needing care we moved in with them to help out and paid rent to help with bills. We were explicitly told the house was hers when they pass or when they decide to leave. Wife and I spent several thousands over the last 10~ years getting new appliances, new floors, fence, siding and things of that nature because we were told she would inherit it and we believed this was our home. We find out today that the parents are moving and they want us to either buy the house (they changed their mind on inheriting it because they need the money to move) at full value or they will put it on the market. Wife says she won’t pay for her inheritance and asks to negotiate something. Promptly told no. We demand repayment for the updates we made to the house because we never would have done them if we weren’t told the house would be ours. Wouldn’t have put in a new fence (last one was leaning so bad you could literally walk over it), new flooring (tiles were missing/broken, floorboards were rotting), new appliances (fridge leaked and was rusted, dishwasher needed semimonthly repairs and clothes washer didn’t operate). They would get far less for the house being sold if not for the work we did to it. They are saying they don’t have to pay us a penny. Do we have any legal options here? | ikvvf2f | ikvu50p | 1,660,877,683 | 1,660,877,070 | 67 | 53 | So what was your plan for if the parents got sick and needed a nursing home? Were you aware that Medicaid recovery programs recoup those costs from the estate in exactly that situation? Look, $20,000 sounds like a lot, but over 10 years it really isn't. Plenty of house rentals require you to buy your own appliances, which you are then entitled to take with you or sell (as you should if you want to recoup costs.) You also say $900 is "about" market rate for a 1 bedroom in your area. But even accounting for your $20k you're still coming out at <$1,100 a month in living expenses. And in that period you had use of the entire home, not just your one bedroom. It isn't outlandish to say you would have paid at least that much for a comparable living situation over that same timeframe, which would be the argument you'd be fighting. | If you follow any of the other advice in this thread you will probably kill the relationship and potentially disinherit your wife. Here's what (likely) happens if you do nothing: 1) The in-laws sell the house and get more money than they would have thanks to your updates. 2) They buy a different property with that money. 3) They die. 4) You inherit and sell the other property and get the money back. In the meantime, move out and live your life. This sucks, but be careful. | 1 | 613 | 1.264151 |
phwbxu | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My microchipped cat was stole and the thief refuses to return her. Aside from the non-emergency police, what are my legal options? I want to start off by saying that we’ve already called the non-emergency line and hopefully within a few days this will all be resolved. However there’s a chance the thief might relocate my cat in the meantime. So if the police can’t solve it what are my other options? How would small claims court work? I’ve recently been told that the thief is in talks with a lawyer (or plans to be). This situation is feeling so helpless and I don’t know what to do. For context pets are considered property in my state. We’re in NM | hblf6ze | hbm4vjg | 1,630,778,956 | 1,630,790,621 | 188 | 352 | Some small claims can issue an order for property (it’s called a writ of replevin). If that’s allowed in New Mexico, that’s an option. Otherwise you can hire a lawyer to make the claim in a court that can. This assumes this is 100% your cat and not something that was bought during a relationship/ family situation where the name on the chip is one thing but others might have legit interest in the cat. | Call the Chip company and report the cat stolen. This way they can't try to change the info. | 0 | 11,665 | 1.87234 |
phwbxu | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My microchipped cat was stole and the thief refuses to return her. Aside from the non-emergency police, what are my legal options? I want to start off by saying that we’ve already called the non-emergency line and hopefully within a few days this will all be resolved. However there’s a chance the thief might relocate my cat in the meantime. So if the police can’t solve it what are my other options? How would small claims court work? I’ve recently been told that the thief is in talks with a lawyer (or plans to be). This situation is feeling so helpless and I don’t know what to do. For context pets are considered property in my state. We’re in NM | hbm4vjg | hblsl0y | 1,630,790,621 | 1,630,785,029 | 352 | 36 | Call the Chip company and report the cat stolen. This way they can't try to change the info. | Report it to your local Animal Control. | 1 | 5,592 | 9.777778 |
phwbxu | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My microchipped cat was stole and the thief refuses to return her. Aside from the non-emergency police, what are my legal options? I want to start off by saying that we’ve already called the non-emergency line and hopefully within a few days this will all be resolved. However there’s a chance the thief might relocate my cat in the meantime. So if the police can’t solve it what are my other options? How would small claims court work? I’ve recently been told that the thief is in talks with a lawyer (or plans to be). This situation is feeling so helpless and I don’t know what to do. For context pets are considered property in my state. We’re in NM | hbupr0s | hbubi1r | 1,630,961,944 | 1,630,955,595 | 7 | 3 | I was so happy to hear the police got your little one back to you!! CONGRATULATIONS! | I'm confused on how a thief can think the cat can belong to him to the point of legal action? Tf lmao | 1 | 6,349 | 2.333333 |
6524ee | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [AZ] I was drugged by abusive mother and given the keys to drive her car the next day and got in a car wreck which she may have planned. My parents are denying me further healthcare and any information in an attempt to blame me for the accident. Please help! The following post is written and edited by a close friend of the victim who is a minor. Location: Arizona. On March 30th, I was involved in a car accident where I rear-ended someone, and received a citation. I had a serious concussion, swollen thumbs, and a cut from the seatbelt. My parents took me eventually to the ER after the urgent care said the injuries are too serious. At the ER visit, my mother told the doctor that she gave me trazodone the night before without my knowledge which I have expressed to the doctor. I have never seen, heard, nor been prescribed the medication in my life. My parents have a long past history of verbal, emotional, and sometimes physical abuse. They have even withheld my medications because I "disrespected" them. My abusive parents swept it under the rug and have done the following: - Told me that I was distracted driving which is what caused the accident - Refused to show me the citation - Refused to let me communicate with the insurance company - Lied and told me there is no court hearing and that I was not allowed to go to the local court - Took my license and told me they will do the traffic school with my information - Refused to take me to see a general doctor for a follow-up even after I listed out my symptoms of confusion, memory problems, chronic headaches and nausea. I have been struggling extremely badly the past 2 weeks in school. I went to the hospital last night by taking an Uber because I was scared that my injuries were getting worse as I would even get lost taking a walk in my neighborhood; I spoke to a social worker and police officers about everything that has happened so far. An additional police report was made at the hospital, and my parents took my wallet to take the police officer's card and the written case number away from me. My mother has stated things that point to them intentionally drugging me and handing me the keys next day to crash their car for a payout on their car. I have broken the issue down to three parts that I am seeking answers to. **1 - Citation & Court Information** I was made aware that an extension was filed on my behalf for the hearing and is set for May 26th. My parents pretend it does not exist or just adamantly refuse to let me even go to the court to request information. They threatened to kick me out if I ask about it any further. They insist that traffic school is the only option. What can I do to stop them from pretending to be me to do the traffic school? Can I seek out a lawyer even against my parents' consent? I plan to attend the court hearing and produce proof that I was drugged and I have reported the crime to the CPS hotline. How do I obtain my medical records which may have the doctor's notes that I was given the medications when it requires parental signature? Can I still go to court even if they do the traffic school without my permission? I have proof of me explicitly not giving consent for them to do it in my name and proof that they are refusing to let me go to court or just giving general excuses saying there is no hearing date. **2 - Insurance Liability** Is this accident considered my fault as I was not aware that I was drugged by my mother the night before? How do I prepare a proper statement to the insurance company so I don't get taken advantage of? Can I report my parents for insurance fraud? I am afraid that the accident will ruin me financially for years... **3 – Safety** What else can I do to ensure my safety? I called the cps hotline a few days ago but I still haven't heard anything back. My parents disabled my phone and also took away almost everything for me to communicate to friends or make phone calls. I am fearful of retaliation and just want to make sure that my own future is not destroyed due to this. Please provide me with any insight you may have. Thank you. | dg6u1xf | dg6twj7 | 1,492,043,164 | 1,492,042,979 | 426 | 39 | > she gave me trazodone the night before without my knowledge That, on its own, would merit an immediate police report. Intentionally dosing someone with a psychoactive drug, without their knowledge, is _poisoning_. If she's a minor, it may also be child abuse. Your friend needs to call the cops (and CPS, but she's on top of that) and report this. She should call the police anyways, though. She can get a copy of the police report from the collision, or make one if none has been made, and find out about court dates that way. She can also share her suspicions that her parents may be trying to defraud their insurer; there's no guarantee that the police will see it that way, but in context of her poisoning, they may. Finally, she should follow up with CPS and tell them that her parents have taken her phone away after her last report, and that she's afraid of retaliation. | How old are you? | 1 | 185 | 10.923077 |
6524ee | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [AZ] I was drugged by abusive mother and given the keys to drive her car the next day and got in a car wreck which she may have planned. My parents are denying me further healthcare and any information in an attempt to blame me for the accident. Please help! The following post is written and edited by a close friend of the victim who is a minor. Location: Arizona. On March 30th, I was involved in a car accident where I rear-ended someone, and received a citation. I had a serious concussion, swollen thumbs, and a cut from the seatbelt. My parents took me eventually to the ER after the urgent care said the injuries are too serious. At the ER visit, my mother told the doctor that she gave me trazodone the night before without my knowledge which I have expressed to the doctor. I have never seen, heard, nor been prescribed the medication in my life. My parents have a long past history of verbal, emotional, and sometimes physical abuse. They have even withheld my medications because I "disrespected" them. My abusive parents swept it under the rug and have done the following: - Told me that I was distracted driving which is what caused the accident - Refused to show me the citation - Refused to let me communicate with the insurance company - Lied and told me there is no court hearing and that I was not allowed to go to the local court - Took my license and told me they will do the traffic school with my information - Refused to take me to see a general doctor for a follow-up even after I listed out my symptoms of confusion, memory problems, chronic headaches and nausea. I have been struggling extremely badly the past 2 weeks in school. I went to the hospital last night by taking an Uber because I was scared that my injuries were getting worse as I would even get lost taking a walk in my neighborhood; I spoke to a social worker and police officers about everything that has happened so far. An additional police report was made at the hospital, and my parents took my wallet to take the police officer's card and the written case number away from me. My mother has stated things that point to them intentionally drugging me and handing me the keys next day to crash their car for a payout on their car. I have broken the issue down to three parts that I am seeking answers to. **1 - Citation & Court Information** I was made aware that an extension was filed on my behalf for the hearing and is set for May 26th. My parents pretend it does not exist or just adamantly refuse to let me even go to the court to request information. They threatened to kick me out if I ask about it any further. They insist that traffic school is the only option. What can I do to stop them from pretending to be me to do the traffic school? Can I seek out a lawyer even against my parents' consent? I plan to attend the court hearing and produce proof that I was drugged and I have reported the crime to the CPS hotline. How do I obtain my medical records which may have the doctor's notes that I was given the medications when it requires parental signature? Can I still go to court even if they do the traffic school without my permission? I have proof of me explicitly not giving consent for them to do it in my name and proof that they are refusing to let me go to court or just giving general excuses saying there is no hearing date. **2 - Insurance Liability** Is this accident considered my fault as I was not aware that I was drugged by my mother the night before? How do I prepare a proper statement to the insurance company so I don't get taken advantage of? Can I report my parents for insurance fraud? I am afraid that the accident will ruin me financially for years... **3 – Safety** What else can I do to ensure my safety? I called the cps hotline a few days ago but I still haven't heard anything back. My parents disabled my phone and also took away almost everything for me to communicate to friends or make phone calls. I am fearful of retaliation and just want to make sure that my own future is not destroyed due to this. Please provide me with any insight you may have. Thank you. | dg6xlw3 | dg6twj7 | 1,492,047,465 | 1,492,042,979 | 271 | 39 | Find an adult at your school you trust, a teacher or guidance counselor. Tell them what is happening. They are mandated reporters and will have to call CPS. I know you already called, but you want as many reports as possible on record. If you don't feel safe in your home, tell someone. Find a friend to stay with. Don't be somewhere you think your life is in danger. I'm not a lawyer, I'm still in law school. I used to work in a crisis center and dealt with child abuse situations almost daily. I've dealt with CPS too many times. I've seen these situations get bad and if you are being drugged, it seems like it's bad. Please be careful. | How old are you? | 1 | 4,486 | 6.948718 |
6524ee | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [AZ] I was drugged by abusive mother and given the keys to drive her car the next day and got in a car wreck which she may have planned. My parents are denying me further healthcare and any information in an attempt to blame me for the accident. Please help! The following post is written and edited by a close friend of the victim who is a minor. Location: Arizona. On March 30th, I was involved in a car accident where I rear-ended someone, and received a citation. I had a serious concussion, swollen thumbs, and a cut from the seatbelt. My parents took me eventually to the ER after the urgent care said the injuries are too serious. At the ER visit, my mother told the doctor that she gave me trazodone the night before without my knowledge which I have expressed to the doctor. I have never seen, heard, nor been prescribed the medication in my life. My parents have a long past history of verbal, emotional, and sometimes physical abuse. They have even withheld my medications because I "disrespected" them. My abusive parents swept it under the rug and have done the following: - Told me that I was distracted driving which is what caused the accident - Refused to show me the citation - Refused to let me communicate with the insurance company - Lied and told me there is no court hearing and that I was not allowed to go to the local court - Took my license and told me they will do the traffic school with my information - Refused to take me to see a general doctor for a follow-up even after I listed out my symptoms of confusion, memory problems, chronic headaches and nausea. I have been struggling extremely badly the past 2 weeks in school. I went to the hospital last night by taking an Uber because I was scared that my injuries were getting worse as I would even get lost taking a walk in my neighborhood; I spoke to a social worker and police officers about everything that has happened so far. An additional police report was made at the hospital, and my parents took my wallet to take the police officer's card and the written case number away from me. My mother has stated things that point to them intentionally drugging me and handing me the keys next day to crash their car for a payout on their car. I have broken the issue down to three parts that I am seeking answers to. **1 - Citation & Court Information** I was made aware that an extension was filed on my behalf for the hearing and is set for May 26th. My parents pretend it does not exist or just adamantly refuse to let me even go to the court to request information. They threatened to kick me out if I ask about it any further. They insist that traffic school is the only option. What can I do to stop them from pretending to be me to do the traffic school? Can I seek out a lawyer even against my parents' consent? I plan to attend the court hearing and produce proof that I was drugged and I have reported the crime to the CPS hotline. How do I obtain my medical records which may have the doctor's notes that I was given the medications when it requires parental signature? Can I still go to court even if they do the traffic school without my permission? I have proof of me explicitly not giving consent for them to do it in my name and proof that they are refusing to let me go to court or just giving general excuses saying there is no hearing date. **2 - Insurance Liability** Is this accident considered my fault as I was not aware that I was drugged by my mother the night before? How do I prepare a proper statement to the insurance company so I don't get taken advantage of? Can I report my parents for insurance fraud? I am afraid that the accident will ruin me financially for years... **3 – Safety** What else can I do to ensure my safety? I called the cps hotline a few days ago but I still haven't heard anything back. My parents disabled my phone and also took away almost everything for me to communicate to friends or make phone calls. I am fearful of retaliation and just want to make sure that my own future is not destroyed due to this. Please provide me with any insight you may have. Thank you. | dg6upzl | dg6xlw3 | 1,492,043,945 | 1,492,047,465 | 33 | 271 | Call the police and make a report. | Find an adult at your school you trust, a teacher or guidance counselor. Tell them what is happening. They are mandated reporters and will have to call CPS. I know you already called, but you want as many reports as possible on record. If you don't feel safe in your home, tell someone. Find a friend to stay with. Don't be somewhere you think your life is in danger. I'm not a lawyer, I'm still in law school. I used to work in a crisis center and dealt with child abuse situations almost daily. I've dealt with CPS too many times. I've seen these situations get bad and if you are being drugged, it seems like it's bad. Please be careful. | 0 | 3,520 | 8.212121 |
6524ee | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [AZ] I was drugged by abusive mother and given the keys to drive her car the next day and got in a car wreck which she may have planned. My parents are denying me further healthcare and any information in an attempt to blame me for the accident. Please help! The following post is written and edited by a close friend of the victim who is a minor. Location: Arizona. On March 30th, I was involved in a car accident where I rear-ended someone, and received a citation. I had a serious concussion, swollen thumbs, and a cut from the seatbelt. My parents took me eventually to the ER after the urgent care said the injuries are too serious. At the ER visit, my mother told the doctor that she gave me trazodone the night before without my knowledge which I have expressed to the doctor. I have never seen, heard, nor been prescribed the medication in my life. My parents have a long past history of verbal, emotional, and sometimes physical abuse. They have even withheld my medications because I "disrespected" them. My abusive parents swept it under the rug and have done the following: - Told me that I was distracted driving which is what caused the accident - Refused to show me the citation - Refused to let me communicate with the insurance company - Lied and told me there is no court hearing and that I was not allowed to go to the local court - Took my license and told me they will do the traffic school with my information - Refused to take me to see a general doctor for a follow-up even after I listed out my symptoms of confusion, memory problems, chronic headaches and nausea. I have been struggling extremely badly the past 2 weeks in school. I went to the hospital last night by taking an Uber because I was scared that my injuries were getting worse as I would even get lost taking a walk in my neighborhood; I spoke to a social worker and police officers about everything that has happened so far. An additional police report was made at the hospital, and my parents took my wallet to take the police officer's card and the written case number away from me. My mother has stated things that point to them intentionally drugging me and handing me the keys next day to crash their car for a payout on their car. I have broken the issue down to three parts that I am seeking answers to. **1 - Citation & Court Information** I was made aware that an extension was filed on my behalf for the hearing and is set for May 26th. My parents pretend it does not exist or just adamantly refuse to let me even go to the court to request information. They threatened to kick me out if I ask about it any further. They insist that traffic school is the only option. What can I do to stop them from pretending to be me to do the traffic school? Can I seek out a lawyer even against my parents' consent? I plan to attend the court hearing and produce proof that I was drugged and I have reported the crime to the CPS hotline. How do I obtain my medical records which may have the doctor's notes that I was given the medications when it requires parental signature? Can I still go to court even if they do the traffic school without my permission? I have proof of me explicitly not giving consent for them to do it in my name and proof that they are refusing to let me go to court or just giving general excuses saying there is no hearing date. **2 - Insurance Liability** Is this accident considered my fault as I was not aware that I was drugged by my mother the night before? How do I prepare a proper statement to the insurance company so I don't get taken advantage of? Can I report my parents for insurance fraud? I am afraid that the accident will ruin me financially for years... **3 – Safety** What else can I do to ensure my safety? I called the cps hotline a few days ago but I still haven't heard anything back. My parents disabled my phone and also took away almost everything for me to communicate to friends or make phone calls. I am fearful of retaliation and just want to make sure that my own future is not destroyed due to this. Please provide me with any insight you may have. Thank you. | dg6xn4k | dg6twj7 | 1,492,047,509 | 1,492,042,979 | 107 | 39 | If you are in the US talk to a teacher that you trust. Teachers are mandatory reporters, they have to report abuse don't be afraid to beg for help. Let them know you fear for your safety at home, and that they are denying medical care as well as anything else you can prove. I am not a lawyer- but my best friend in high school had a similar problem. She kept a spare set of cloths in her back pack along with her treasured items. It took a few weeks for CPS to decide her parents where unfit, and she was removed from school and was never allowed to go home again. Keep this in mind, and please have a safe person who you talk to regularly, if they don't hear from you tell them to call the police. | How old are you? | 1 | 4,530 | 2.74359 |
6524ee | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [AZ] I was drugged by abusive mother and given the keys to drive her car the next day and got in a car wreck which she may have planned. My parents are denying me further healthcare and any information in an attempt to blame me for the accident. Please help! The following post is written and edited by a close friend of the victim who is a minor. Location: Arizona. On March 30th, I was involved in a car accident where I rear-ended someone, and received a citation. I had a serious concussion, swollen thumbs, and a cut from the seatbelt. My parents took me eventually to the ER after the urgent care said the injuries are too serious. At the ER visit, my mother told the doctor that she gave me trazodone the night before without my knowledge which I have expressed to the doctor. I have never seen, heard, nor been prescribed the medication in my life. My parents have a long past history of verbal, emotional, and sometimes physical abuse. They have even withheld my medications because I "disrespected" them. My abusive parents swept it under the rug and have done the following: - Told me that I was distracted driving which is what caused the accident - Refused to show me the citation - Refused to let me communicate with the insurance company - Lied and told me there is no court hearing and that I was not allowed to go to the local court - Took my license and told me they will do the traffic school with my information - Refused to take me to see a general doctor for a follow-up even after I listed out my symptoms of confusion, memory problems, chronic headaches and nausea. I have been struggling extremely badly the past 2 weeks in school. I went to the hospital last night by taking an Uber because I was scared that my injuries were getting worse as I would even get lost taking a walk in my neighborhood; I spoke to a social worker and police officers about everything that has happened so far. An additional police report was made at the hospital, and my parents took my wallet to take the police officer's card and the written case number away from me. My mother has stated things that point to them intentionally drugging me and handing me the keys next day to crash their car for a payout on their car. I have broken the issue down to three parts that I am seeking answers to. **1 - Citation & Court Information** I was made aware that an extension was filed on my behalf for the hearing and is set for May 26th. My parents pretend it does not exist or just adamantly refuse to let me even go to the court to request information. They threatened to kick me out if I ask about it any further. They insist that traffic school is the only option. What can I do to stop them from pretending to be me to do the traffic school? Can I seek out a lawyer even against my parents' consent? I plan to attend the court hearing and produce proof that I was drugged and I have reported the crime to the CPS hotline. How do I obtain my medical records which may have the doctor's notes that I was given the medications when it requires parental signature? Can I still go to court even if they do the traffic school without my permission? I have proof of me explicitly not giving consent for them to do it in my name and proof that they are refusing to let me go to court or just giving general excuses saying there is no hearing date. **2 - Insurance Liability** Is this accident considered my fault as I was not aware that I was drugged by my mother the night before? How do I prepare a proper statement to the insurance company so I don't get taken advantage of? Can I report my parents for insurance fraud? I am afraid that the accident will ruin me financially for years... **3 – Safety** What else can I do to ensure my safety? I called the cps hotline a few days ago but I still haven't heard anything back. My parents disabled my phone and also took away almost everything for me to communicate to friends or make phone calls. I am fearful of retaliation and just want to make sure that my own future is not destroyed due to this. Please provide me with any insight you may have. Thank you. | dg6xn4k | dg6upzl | 1,492,047,509 | 1,492,043,945 | 107 | 33 | If you are in the US talk to a teacher that you trust. Teachers are mandatory reporters, they have to report abuse don't be afraid to beg for help. Let them know you fear for your safety at home, and that they are denying medical care as well as anything else you can prove. I am not a lawyer- but my best friend in high school had a similar problem. She kept a spare set of cloths in her back pack along with her treasured items. It took a few weeks for CPS to decide her parents where unfit, and she was removed from school and was never allowed to go home again. Keep this in mind, and please have a safe person who you talk to regularly, if they don't hear from you tell them to call the police. | Call the police and make a report. | 1 | 3,564 | 3.242424 |
6524ee | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [AZ] I was drugged by abusive mother and given the keys to drive her car the next day and got in a car wreck which she may have planned. My parents are denying me further healthcare and any information in an attempt to blame me for the accident. Please help! The following post is written and edited by a close friend of the victim who is a minor. Location: Arizona. On March 30th, I was involved in a car accident where I rear-ended someone, and received a citation. I had a serious concussion, swollen thumbs, and a cut from the seatbelt. My parents took me eventually to the ER after the urgent care said the injuries are too serious. At the ER visit, my mother told the doctor that she gave me trazodone the night before without my knowledge which I have expressed to the doctor. I have never seen, heard, nor been prescribed the medication in my life. My parents have a long past history of verbal, emotional, and sometimes physical abuse. They have even withheld my medications because I "disrespected" them. My abusive parents swept it under the rug and have done the following: - Told me that I was distracted driving which is what caused the accident - Refused to show me the citation - Refused to let me communicate with the insurance company - Lied and told me there is no court hearing and that I was not allowed to go to the local court - Took my license and told me they will do the traffic school with my information - Refused to take me to see a general doctor for a follow-up even after I listed out my symptoms of confusion, memory problems, chronic headaches and nausea. I have been struggling extremely badly the past 2 weeks in school. I went to the hospital last night by taking an Uber because I was scared that my injuries were getting worse as I would even get lost taking a walk in my neighborhood; I spoke to a social worker and police officers about everything that has happened so far. An additional police report was made at the hospital, and my parents took my wallet to take the police officer's card and the written case number away from me. My mother has stated things that point to them intentionally drugging me and handing me the keys next day to crash their car for a payout on their car. I have broken the issue down to three parts that I am seeking answers to. **1 - Citation & Court Information** I was made aware that an extension was filed on my behalf for the hearing and is set for May 26th. My parents pretend it does not exist or just adamantly refuse to let me even go to the court to request information. They threatened to kick me out if I ask about it any further. They insist that traffic school is the only option. What can I do to stop them from pretending to be me to do the traffic school? Can I seek out a lawyer even against my parents' consent? I plan to attend the court hearing and produce proof that I was drugged and I have reported the crime to the CPS hotline. How do I obtain my medical records which may have the doctor's notes that I was given the medications when it requires parental signature? Can I still go to court even if they do the traffic school without my permission? I have proof of me explicitly not giving consent for them to do it in my name and proof that they are refusing to let me go to court or just giving general excuses saying there is no hearing date. **2 - Insurance Liability** Is this accident considered my fault as I was not aware that I was drugged by my mother the night before? How do I prepare a proper statement to the insurance company so I don't get taken advantage of? Can I report my parents for insurance fraud? I am afraid that the accident will ruin me financially for years... **3 – Safety** What else can I do to ensure my safety? I called the cps hotline a few days ago but I still haven't heard anything back. My parents disabled my phone and also took away almost everything for me to communicate to friends or make phone calls. I am fearful of retaliation and just want to make sure that my own future is not destroyed due to this. Please provide me with any insight you may have. Thank you. | dg7tbkt | dg87puc | 1,492,101,474 | 1,492,117,045 | 12 | 26 | Upvote for support. You seem to be getting great answers here. Your parents are dangerous to you. It would be best if you could live somewhere else if possible. This is outrageous. | Clarification from an adult friend unable to assist in a material manner due to distance; OP has never been prescribed trazadone, and mother admitted to such to doctor in hospital after crash. OP had no knowledge of what trazadone was until she was able to look it up. Crash incident is public record, however we are unable to obtain full reports due to lack of information /consent. There are now multiple audio recordings dictating refusal of care, verbal abuse, threats of physical and financial abuse, and other worrisome statements that indicate they may be plotting some way to take advantage of her (IE previously stating she was required to do traffic school, and now stating that isn't the case or stating she has no traffic date when that is also public record). She is currently looking for assistance in how to proceed so she is not taken advantage of, her license isn't revoked, she isn't screwed financially, and so CPS may be expedited. Thank you all for your help so far. | 0 | 15,571 | 2.166667 |
6524ee | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [AZ] I was drugged by abusive mother and given the keys to drive her car the next day and got in a car wreck which she may have planned. My parents are denying me further healthcare and any information in an attempt to blame me for the accident. Please help! The following post is written and edited by a close friend of the victim who is a minor. Location: Arizona. On March 30th, I was involved in a car accident where I rear-ended someone, and received a citation. I had a serious concussion, swollen thumbs, and a cut from the seatbelt. My parents took me eventually to the ER after the urgent care said the injuries are too serious. At the ER visit, my mother told the doctor that she gave me trazodone the night before without my knowledge which I have expressed to the doctor. I have never seen, heard, nor been prescribed the medication in my life. My parents have a long past history of verbal, emotional, and sometimes physical abuse. They have even withheld my medications because I "disrespected" them. My abusive parents swept it under the rug and have done the following: - Told me that I was distracted driving which is what caused the accident - Refused to show me the citation - Refused to let me communicate with the insurance company - Lied and told me there is no court hearing and that I was not allowed to go to the local court - Took my license and told me they will do the traffic school with my information - Refused to take me to see a general doctor for a follow-up even after I listed out my symptoms of confusion, memory problems, chronic headaches and nausea. I have been struggling extremely badly the past 2 weeks in school. I went to the hospital last night by taking an Uber because I was scared that my injuries were getting worse as I would even get lost taking a walk in my neighborhood; I spoke to a social worker and police officers about everything that has happened so far. An additional police report was made at the hospital, and my parents took my wallet to take the police officer's card and the written case number away from me. My mother has stated things that point to them intentionally drugging me and handing me the keys next day to crash their car for a payout on their car. I have broken the issue down to three parts that I am seeking answers to. **1 - Citation & Court Information** I was made aware that an extension was filed on my behalf for the hearing and is set for May 26th. My parents pretend it does not exist or just adamantly refuse to let me even go to the court to request information. They threatened to kick me out if I ask about it any further. They insist that traffic school is the only option. What can I do to stop them from pretending to be me to do the traffic school? Can I seek out a lawyer even against my parents' consent? I plan to attend the court hearing and produce proof that I was drugged and I have reported the crime to the CPS hotline. How do I obtain my medical records which may have the doctor's notes that I was given the medications when it requires parental signature? Can I still go to court even if they do the traffic school without my permission? I have proof of me explicitly not giving consent for them to do it in my name and proof that they are refusing to let me go to court or just giving general excuses saying there is no hearing date. **2 - Insurance Liability** Is this accident considered my fault as I was not aware that I was drugged by my mother the night before? How do I prepare a proper statement to the insurance company so I don't get taken advantage of? Can I report my parents for insurance fraud? I am afraid that the accident will ruin me financially for years... **3 – Safety** What else can I do to ensure my safety? I called the cps hotline a few days ago but I still haven't heard anything back. My parents disabled my phone and also took away almost everything for me to communicate to friends or make phone calls. I am fearful of retaliation and just want to make sure that my own future is not destroyed due to this. Please provide me with any insight you may have. Thank you. | dg87puc | dg7l51w | 1,492,117,045 | 1,492,092,440 | 26 | 7 | Clarification from an adult friend unable to assist in a material manner due to distance; OP has never been prescribed trazadone, and mother admitted to such to doctor in hospital after crash. OP had no knowledge of what trazadone was until she was able to look it up. Crash incident is public record, however we are unable to obtain full reports due to lack of information /consent. There are now multiple audio recordings dictating refusal of care, verbal abuse, threats of physical and financial abuse, and other worrisome statements that indicate they may be plotting some way to take advantage of her (IE previously stating she was required to do traffic school, and now stating that isn't the case or stating she has no traffic date when that is also public record). She is currently looking for assistance in how to proceed so she is not taken advantage of, her license isn't revoked, she isn't screwed financially, and so CPS may be expedited. Thank you all for your help so far. | Who was the Trazadone prescribed for? Are you being treated for depression? | 1 | 24,605 | 3.714286 |
6524ee | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [AZ] I was drugged by abusive mother and given the keys to drive her car the next day and got in a car wreck which she may have planned. My parents are denying me further healthcare and any information in an attempt to blame me for the accident. Please help! The following post is written and edited by a close friend of the victim who is a minor. Location: Arizona. On March 30th, I was involved in a car accident where I rear-ended someone, and received a citation. I had a serious concussion, swollen thumbs, and a cut from the seatbelt. My parents took me eventually to the ER after the urgent care said the injuries are too serious. At the ER visit, my mother told the doctor that she gave me trazodone the night before without my knowledge which I have expressed to the doctor. I have never seen, heard, nor been prescribed the medication in my life. My parents have a long past history of verbal, emotional, and sometimes physical abuse. They have even withheld my medications because I "disrespected" them. My abusive parents swept it under the rug and have done the following: - Told me that I was distracted driving which is what caused the accident - Refused to show me the citation - Refused to let me communicate with the insurance company - Lied and told me there is no court hearing and that I was not allowed to go to the local court - Took my license and told me they will do the traffic school with my information - Refused to take me to see a general doctor for a follow-up even after I listed out my symptoms of confusion, memory problems, chronic headaches and nausea. I have been struggling extremely badly the past 2 weeks in school. I went to the hospital last night by taking an Uber because I was scared that my injuries were getting worse as I would even get lost taking a walk in my neighborhood; I spoke to a social worker and police officers about everything that has happened so far. An additional police report was made at the hospital, and my parents took my wallet to take the police officer's card and the written case number away from me. My mother has stated things that point to them intentionally drugging me and handing me the keys next day to crash their car for a payout on their car. I have broken the issue down to three parts that I am seeking answers to. **1 - Citation & Court Information** I was made aware that an extension was filed on my behalf for the hearing and is set for May 26th. My parents pretend it does not exist or just adamantly refuse to let me even go to the court to request information. They threatened to kick me out if I ask about it any further. They insist that traffic school is the only option. What can I do to stop them from pretending to be me to do the traffic school? Can I seek out a lawyer even against my parents' consent? I plan to attend the court hearing and produce proof that I was drugged and I have reported the crime to the CPS hotline. How do I obtain my medical records which may have the doctor's notes that I was given the medications when it requires parental signature? Can I still go to court even if they do the traffic school without my permission? I have proof of me explicitly not giving consent for them to do it in my name and proof that they are refusing to let me go to court or just giving general excuses saying there is no hearing date. **2 - Insurance Liability** Is this accident considered my fault as I was not aware that I was drugged by my mother the night before? How do I prepare a proper statement to the insurance company so I don't get taken advantage of? Can I report my parents for insurance fraud? I am afraid that the accident will ruin me financially for years... **3 – Safety** What else can I do to ensure my safety? I called the cps hotline a few days ago but I still haven't heard anything back. My parents disabled my phone and also took away almost everything for me to communicate to friends or make phone calls. I am fearful of retaliation and just want to make sure that my own future is not destroyed due to this. Please provide me with any insight you may have. Thank you. | dg7tbkt | dg7l51w | 1,492,101,474 | 1,492,092,440 | 12 | 7 | Upvote for support. You seem to be getting great answers here. Your parents are dangerous to you. It would be best if you could live somewhere else if possible. This is outrageous. | Who was the Trazadone prescribed for? Are you being treated for depression? | 1 | 9,034 | 1.714286 |
6524ee | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [AZ] I was drugged by abusive mother and given the keys to drive her car the next day and got in a car wreck which she may have planned. My parents are denying me further healthcare and any information in an attempt to blame me for the accident. Please help! The following post is written and edited by a close friend of the victim who is a minor. Location: Arizona. On March 30th, I was involved in a car accident where I rear-ended someone, and received a citation. I had a serious concussion, swollen thumbs, and a cut from the seatbelt. My parents took me eventually to the ER after the urgent care said the injuries are too serious. At the ER visit, my mother told the doctor that she gave me trazodone the night before without my knowledge which I have expressed to the doctor. I have never seen, heard, nor been prescribed the medication in my life. My parents have a long past history of verbal, emotional, and sometimes physical abuse. They have even withheld my medications because I "disrespected" them. My abusive parents swept it under the rug and have done the following: - Told me that I was distracted driving which is what caused the accident - Refused to show me the citation - Refused to let me communicate with the insurance company - Lied and told me there is no court hearing and that I was not allowed to go to the local court - Took my license and told me they will do the traffic school with my information - Refused to take me to see a general doctor for a follow-up even after I listed out my symptoms of confusion, memory problems, chronic headaches and nausea. I have been struggling extremely badly the past 2 weeks in school. I went to the hospital last night by taking an Uber because I was scared that my injuries were getting worse as I would even get lost taking a walk in my neighborhood; I spoke to a social worker and police officers about everything that has happened so far. An additional police report was made at the hospital, and my parents took my wallet to take the police officer's card and the written case number away from me. My mother has stated things that point to them intentionally drugging me and handing me the keys next day to crash their car for a payout on their car. I have broken the issue down to three parts that I am seeking answers to. **1 - Citation & Court Information** I was made aware that an extension was filed on my behalf for the hearing and is set for May 26th. My parents pretend it does not exist or just adamantly refuse to let me even go to the court to request information. They threatened to kick me out if I ask about it any further. They insist that traffic school is the only option. What can I do to stop them from pretending to be me to do the traffic school? Can I seek out a lawyer even against my parents' consent? I plan to attend the court hearing and produce proof that I was drugged and I have reported the crime to the CPS hotline. How do I obtain my medical records which may have the doctor's notes that I was given the medications when it requires parental signature? Can I still go to court even if they do the traffic school without my permission? I have proof of me explicitly not giving consent for them to do it in my name and proof that they are refusing to let me go to court or just giving general excuses saying there is no hearing date. **2 - Insurance Liability** Is this accident considered my fault as I was not aware that I was drugged by my mother the night before? How do I prepare a proper statement to the insurance company so I don't get taken advantage of? Can I report my parents for insurance fraud? I am afraid that the accident will ruin me financially for years... **3 – Safety** What else can I do to ensure my safety? I called the cps hotline a few days ago but I still haven't heard anything back. My parents disabled my phone and also took away almost everything for me to communicate to friends or make phone calls. I am fearful of retaliation and just want to make sure that my own future is not destroyed due to this. Please provide me with any insight you may have. Thank you. | dg8dsit | dg7l51w | 1,492,124,742 | 1,492,092,440 | 11 | 7 | .....**At the ER visit, my mother told the doctor that she gave me trazodone the night before without my knowledge**..... That is clearly abusive. If you are in the US, OP, the doctor is also a mandated reporter. It would be nice to think that he/she has already called CPS. You need to talk to people at school, and also to get some legal aid. If the doctor didn't report this, your attorney should find out why not, and get a statement. The police should have called CPS too, as they are also mandated reporters. I'm not sure whether the social worker is mandated, but one would hope that he/she would also call. | Who was the Trazadone prescribed for? Are you being treated for depression? | 1 | 32,302 | 1.571429 |
znpcog | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [California] I got ghosted by my job on the day I was supposed to receive my first payment. I recently started a job at a company and was doing my month of probation, which was a simple job of receiving packages at home checking to make sure they're intact, with photos to show, the print the label when they send it to to then send the package to the next person in the process. I'm not really able to get out of the house much do to back pains so this kind of thing where I just need send the packages from the nearest postal business just two block away from my home was nice. It started with a base monthly pay of $2,400 and could add up to $900 extra with the bonus of enough packages delivered at $40 each sent and $75 for a few. I had gotten my bonus up to $450 with the packages I had delivered for the month. ​ It had all been going smoothly without much problems (lost packages) up until the 14th when I was supposed to be paid. When I got up that day and logged onto the work account I had I couldn't login and no one responded to my calls or messages. Nor was the money sent to the bank account I had given the direct deposit I had given. ​ I'm not sure exactly what steps I need to take to be able to at least get the money I signed a contract to be paid for. Any help accepted, thanks. | j0iemxo | j0id6os | 1,671,226,751 | 1,671,226,141 | 840 | 109 | This is a scam. You were shipping stolen merchandise. If the police show up at your door “sorry I don’t answer questions without a lawyer present.” You’re not going to be paid. | This is a scam | 1 | 610 | 7.706422 |
znpcog | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [California] I got ghosted by my job on the day I was supposed to receive my first payment. I recently started a job at a company and was doing my month of probation, which was a simple job of receiving packages at home checking to make sure they're intact, with photos to show, the print the label when they send it to to then send the package to the next person in the process. I'm not really able to get out of the house much do to back pains so this kind of thing where I just need send the packages from the nearest postal business just two block away from my home was nice. It started with a base monthly pay of $2,400 and could add up to $900 extra with the bonus of enough packages delivered at $40 each sent and $75 for a few. I had gotten my bonus up to $450 with the packages I had delivered for the month. ​ It had all been going smoothly without much problems (lost packages) up until the 14th when I was supposed to be paid. When I got up that day and logged onto the work account I had I couldn't login and no one responded to my calls or messages. Nor was the money sent to the bank account I had given the direct deposit I had given. ​ I'm not sure exactly what steps I need to take to be able to at least get the money I signed a contract to be paid for. Any help accepted, thanks. | j0icu2v | j0iemxo | 1,671,225,994 | 1,671,226,751 | 34 | 840 | File a wage claim with the DLSE. But this sounds like a scam job, not an actual job, a reshipping scam. If the police contact you, do not answer any questions. | This is a scam. You were shipping stolen merchandise. If the police show up at your door “sorry I don’t answer questions without a lawyer present.” You’re not going to be paid. | 0 | 757 | 24.705882 |
znpcog | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [California] I got ghosted by my job on the day I was supposed to receive my first payment. I recently started a job at a company and was doing my month of probation, which was a simple job of receiving packages at home checking to make sure they're intact, with photos to show, the print the label when they send it to to then send the package to the next person in the process. I'm not really able to get out of the house much do to back pains so this kind of thing where I just need send the packages from the nearest postal business just two block away from my home was nice. It started with a base monthly pay of $2,400 and could add up to $900 extra with the bonus of enough packages delivered at $40 each sent and $75 for a few. I had gotten my bonus up to $450 with the packages I had delivered for the month. ​ It had all been going smoothly without much problems (lost packages) up until the 14th when I was supposed to be paid. When I got up that day and logged onto the work account I had I couldn't login and no one responded to my calls or messages. Nor was the money sent to the bank account I had given the direct deposit I had given. ​ I'm not sure exactly what steps I need to take to be able to at least get the money I signed a contract to be paid for. Any help accepted, thanks. | j0ihxk0 | j0id6os | 1,671,228,148 | 1,671,226,141 | 726 | 109 | This is a scam. No legitimate business needs you to do this. Your bank information, etc. has been compromised, any funds you received already are almost certainly going to be found to be fraudulently transferred or nonexistent. | This is a scam | 1 | 2,007 | 6.66055 |
znpcog | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [California] I got ghosted by my job on the day I was supposed to receive my first payment. I recently started a job at a company and was doing my month of probation, which was a simple job of receiving packages at home checking to make sure they're intact, with photos to show, the print the label when they send it to to then send the package to the next person in the process. I'm not really able to get out of the house much do to back pains so this kind of thing where I just need send the packages from the nearest postal business just two block away from my home was nice. It started with a base monthly pay of $2,400 and could add up to $900 extra with the bonus of enough packages delivered at $40 each sent and $75 for a few. I had gotten my bonus up to $450 with the packages I had delivered for the month. ​ It had all been going smoothly without much problems (lost packages) up until the 14th when I was supposed to be paid. When I got up that day and logged onto the work account I had I couldn't login and no one responded to my calls or messages. Nor was the money sent to the bank account I had given the direct deposit I had given. ​ I'm not sure exactly what steps I need to take to be able to at least get the money I signed a contract to be paid for. Any help accepted, thanks. | j0icu2v | j0ihxk0 | 1,671,225,994 | 1,671,228,148 | 34 | 726 | File a wage claim with the DLSE. But this sounds like a scam job, not an actual job, a reshipping scam. If the police contact you, do not answer any questions. | This is a scam. No legitimate business needs you to do this. Your bank information, etc. has been compromised, any funds you received already are almost certainly going to be found to be fraudulently transferred or nonexistent. | 0 | 2,154 | 21.352941 |
znpcog | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [California] I got ghosted by my job on the day I was supposed to receive my first payment. I recently started a job at a company and was doing my month of probation, which was a simple job of receiving packages at home checking to make sure they're intact, with photos to show, the print the label when they send it to to then send the package to the next person in the process. I'm not really able to get out of the house much do to back pains so this kind of thing where I just need send the packages from the nearest postal business just two block away from my home was nice. It started with a base monthly pay of $2,400 and could add up to $900 extra with the bonus of enough packages delivered at $40 each sent and $75 for a few. I had gotten my bonus up to $450 with the packages I had delivered for the month. ​ It had all been going smoothly without much problems (lost packages) up until the 14th when I was supposed to be paid. When I got up that day and logged onto the work account I had I couldn't login and no one responded to my calls or messages. Nor was the money sent to the bank account I had given the direct deposit I had given. ​ I'm not sure exactly what steps I need to take to be able to at least get the money I signed a contract to be paid for. Any help accepted, thanks. | j0ioirq | j0jrnri | 1,671,231,036 | 1,671,250,376 | 232 | 260 | You’re a package mule. You might consider consulting a lawyer to find out what kind of criminal charges you are potentially facing | A close friend of mine had this happen to them. They also had him set up a credit card in his name. They had access to the card to "refund" him money to cover expenses. They had him buying high-end cameras, computers, and other things. He got paid once. He felt like it was a real job. After that, they had him buying more. Suddenly, they disappeared. He was left with about $25,000 in credit card debt. He closed the card and contacted police. Was out the money. Had to refinance his house to pay it off . It's a scam. Close your bank accounts. Watch out for recovery scammers that will say they can get it back for you. That's just another scam. | 0 | 19,340 | 1.12069 |
znpcog | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [California] I got ghosted by my job on the day I was supposed to receive my first payment. I recently started a job at a company and was doing my month of probation, which was a simple job of receiving packages at home checking to make sure they're intact, with photos to show, the print the label when they send it to to then send the package to the next person in the process. I'm not really able to get out of the house much do to back pains so this kind of thing where I just need send the packages from the nearest postal business just two block away from my home was nice. It started with a base monthly pay of $2,400 and could add up to $900 extra with the bonus of enough packages delivered at $40 each sent and $75 for a few. I had gotten my bonus up to $450 with the packages I had delivered for the month. ​ It had all been going smoothly without much problems (lost packages) up until the 14th when I was supposed to be paid. When I got up that day and logged onto the work account I had I couldn't login and no one responded to my calls or messages. Nor was the money sent to the bank account I had given the direct deposit I had given. ​ I'm not sure exactly what steps I need to take to be able to at least get the money I signed a contract to be paid for. Any help accepted, thanks. | j0id6os | j0jrnri | 1,671,226,141 | 1,671,250,376 | 109 | 260 | This is a scam | A close friend of mine had this happen to them. They also had him set up a credit card in his name. They had access to the card to "refund" him money to cover expenses. They had him buying high-end cameras, computers, and other things. He got paid once. He felt like it was a real job. After that, they had him buying more. Suddenly, they disappeared. He was left with about $25,000 in credit card debt. He closed the card and contacted police. Was out the money. Had to refinance his house to pay it off . It's a scam. Close your bank accounts. Watch out for recovery scammers that will say they can get it back for you. That's just another scam. | 0 | 24,235 | 2.385321 |
znpcog | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [California] I got ghosted by my job on the day I was supposed to receive my first payment. I recently started a job at a company and was doing my month of probation, which was a simple job of receiving packages at home checking to make sure they're intact, with photos to show, the print the label when they send it to to then send the package to the next person in the process. I'm not really able to get out of the house much do to back pains so this kind of thing where I just need send the packages from the nearest postal business just two block away from my home was nice. It started with a base monthly pay of $2,400 and could add up to $900 extra with the bonus of enough packages delivered at $40 each sent and $75 for a few. I had gotten my bonus up to $450 with the packages I had delivered for the month. ​ It had all been going smoothly without much problems (lost packages) up until the 14th when I was supposed to be paid. When I got up that day and logged onto the work account I had I couldn't login and no one responded to my calls or messages. Nor was the money sent to the bank account I had given the direct deposit I had given. ​ I'm not sure exactly what steps I need to take to be able to at least get the money I signed a contract to be paid for. Any help accepted, thanks. | j0icu2v | j0jrnri | 1,671,225,994 | 1,671,250,376 | 34 | 260 | File a wage claim with the DLSE. But this sounds like a scam job, not an actual job, a reshipping scam. If the police contact you, do not answer any questions. | A close friend of mine had this happen to them. They also had him set up a credit card in his name. They had access to the card to "refund" him money to cover expenses. They had him buying high-end cameras, computers, and other things. He got paid once. He felt like it was a real job. After that, they had him buying more. Suddenly, they disappeared. He was left with about $25,000 in credit card debt. He closed the card and contacted police. Was out the money. Had to refinance his house to pay it off . It's a scam. Close your bank accounts. Watch out for recovery scammers that will say they can get it back for you. That's just another scam. | 0 | 24,382 | 7.647059 |
znpcog | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [California] I got ghosted by my job on the day I was supposed to receive my first payment. I recently started a job at a company and was doing my month of probation, which was a simple job of receiving packages at home checking to make sure they're intact, with photos to show, the print the label when they send it to to then send the package to the next person in the process. I'm not really able to get out of the house much do to back pains so this kind of thing where I just need send the packages from the nearest postal business just two block away from my home was nice. It started with a base monthly pay of $2,400 and could add up to $900 extra with the bonus of enough packages delivered at $40 each sent and $75 for a few. I had gotten my bonus up to $450 with the packages I had delivered for the month. ​ It had all been going smoothly without much problems (lost packages) up until the 14th when I was supposed to be paid. When I got up that day and logged onto the work account I had I couldn't login and no one responded to my calls or messages. Nor was the money sent to the bank account I had given the direct deposit I had given. ​ I'm not sure exactly what steps I need to take to be able to at least get the money I signed a contract to be paid for. Any help accepted, thanks. | j0jrnri | j0jqoba | 1,671,250,376 | 1,671,249,828 | 260 | 20 | A close friend of mine had this happen to them. They also had him set up a credit card in his name. They had access to the card to "refund" him money to cover expenses. They had him buying high-end cameras, computers, and other things. He got paid once. He felt like it was a real job. After that, they had him buying more. Suddenly, they disappeared. He was left with about $25,000 in credit card debt. He closed the card and contacted police. Was out the money. Had to refinance his house to pay it off . It's a scam. Close your bank accounts. Watch out for recovery scammers that will say they can get it back for you. That's just another scam. | Seconding many others who believe that this is a scam. In my experience, it often comes with some form of check fraud, where they will send you a larger-than-expected 'bad' check, and ask you to write a 'good' check back to them. Of course, you deposit the 'bad' check, it doesn't clear, and you have lost the 'good' check. | 1 | 548 | 13 |
znpcog | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [California] I got ghosted by my job on the day I was supposed to receive my first payment. I recently started a job at a company and was doing my month of probation, which was a simple job of receiving packages at home checking to make sure they're intact, with photos to show, the print the label when they send it to to then send the package to the next person in the process. I'm not really able to get out of the house much do to back pains so this kind of thing where I just need send the packages from the nearest postal business just two block away from my home was nice. It started with a base monthly pay of $2,400 and could add up to $900 extra with the bonus of enough packages delivered at $40 each sent and $75 for a few. I had gotten my bonus up to $450 with the packages I had delivered for the month. ​ It had all been going smoothly without much problems (lost packages) up until the 14th when I was supposed to be paid. When I got up that day and logged onto the work account I had I couldn't login and no one responded to my calls or messages. Nor was the money sent to the bank account I had given the direct deposit I had given. ​ I'm not sure exactly what steps I need to take to be able to at least get the money I signed a contract to be paid for. Any help accepted, thanks. | j0id6os | j0ioirq | 1,671,226,141 | 1,671,231,036 | 109 | 232 | This is a scam | You’re a package mule. You might consider consulting a lawyer to find out what kind of criminal charges you are potentially facing | 0 | 4,895 | 2.12844 |
znpcog | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [California] I got ghosted by my job on the day I was supposed to receive my first payment. I recently started a job at a company and was doing my month of probation, which was a simple job of receiving packages at home checking to make sure they're intact, with photos to show, the print the label when they send it to to then send the package to the next person in the process. I'm not really able to get out of the house much do to back pains so this kind of thing where I just need send the packages from the nearest postal business just two block away from my home was nice. It started with a base monthly pay of $2,400 and could add up to $900 extra with the bonus of enough packages delivered at $40 each sent and $75 for a few. I had gotten my bonus up to $450 with the packages I had delivered for the month. ​ It had all been going smoothly without much problems (lost packages) up until the 14th when I was supposed to be paid. When I got up that day and logged onto the work account I had I couldn't login and no one responded to my calls or messages. Nor was the money sent to the bank account I had given the direct deposit I had given. ​ I'm not sure exactly what steps I need to take to be able to at least get the money I signed a contract to be paid for. Any help accepted, thanks. | j0icu2v | j0ioirq | 1,671,225,994 | 1,671,231,036 | 34 | 232 | File a wage claim with the DLSE. But this sounds like a scam job, not an actual job, a reshipping scam. If the police contact you, do not answer any questions. | You’re a package mule. You might consider consulting a lawyer to find out what kind of criminal charges you are potentially facing | 0 | 5,042 | 6.823529 |
znpcog | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [California] I got ghosted by my job on the day I was supposed to receive my first payment. I recently started a job at a company and was doing my month of probation, which was a simple job of receiving packages at home checking to make sure they're intact, with photos to show, the print the label when they send it to to then send the package to the next person in the process. I'm not really able to get out of the house much do to back pains so this kind of thing where I just need send the packages from the nearest postal business just two block away from my home was nice. It started with a base monthly pay of $2,400 and could add up to $900 extra with the bonus of enough packages delivered at $40 each sent and $75 for a few. I had gotten my bonus up to $450 with the packages I had delivered for the month. ​ It had all been going smoothly without much problems (lost packages) up until the 14th when I was supposed to be paid. When I got up that day and logged onto the work account I had I couldn't login and no one responded to my calls or messages. Nor was the money sent to the bank account I had given the direct deposit I had given. ​ I'm not sure exactly what steps I need to take to be able to at least get the money I signed a contract to be paid for. Any help accepted, thanks. | j0id6os | j0jvxth | 1,671,226,141 | 1,671,252,884 | 109 | 215 | This is a scam | I fell for this exact same scam. After they ghosted me I knew something was up and did some research; it's like others have said about stolen goods, etc. I immediately saved every bit of correspondence we had including, texts, emails, photos, screenshots, names and addresses of packages, etc. And went directly to the police. I explained everything and made a police report. Also look for any weird mail coming as they are probably using your physical address for credit scams. I had to alert paypal about this and they launched an investigation into these people. This was years ago. I still have everything saved just in case but the cops were super cool about it. It pays to have an official police report incase anything comes up in the future. | 0 | 26,743 | 1.972477 |
znpcog | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [California] I got ghosted by my job on the day I was supposed to receive my first payment. I recently started a job at a company and was doing my month of probation, which was a simple job of receiving packages at home checking to make sure they're intact, with photos to show, the print the label when they send it to to then send the package to the next person in the process. I'm not really able to get out of the house much do to back pains so this kind of thing where I just need send the packages from the nearest postal business just two block away from my home was nice. It started with a base monthly pay of $2,400 and could add up to $900 extra with the bonus of enough packages delivered at $40 each sent and $75 for a few. I had gotten my bonus up to $450 with the packages I had delivered for the month. ​ It had all been going smoothly without much problems (lost packages) up until the 14th when I was supposed to be paid. When I got up that day and logged onto the work account I had I couldn't login and no one responded to my calls or messages. Nor was the money sent to the bank account I had given the direct deposit I had given. ​ I'm not sure exactly what steps I need to take to be able to at least get the money I signed a contract to be paid for. Any help accepted, thanks. | j0jvxth | j0jsbc0 | 1,671,252,884 | 1,671,250,751 | 215 | 64 | I fell for this exact same scam. After they ghosted me I knew something was up and did some research; it's like others have said about stolen goods, etc. I immediately saved every bit of correspondence we had including, texts, emails, photos, screenshots, names and addresses of packages, etc. And went directly to the police. I explained everything and made a police report. Also look for any weird mail coming as they are probably using your physical address for credit scams. I had to alert paypal about this and they launched an investigation into these people. This was years ago. I still have everything saved just in case but the cops were super cool about it. It pays to have an official police report incase anything comes up in the future. | This is a scam and most likely packages purchased through fraudulent means (stolen). Your address used to create distance with scammer. | 1 | 2,133 | 3.359375 |
znpcog | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [California] I got ghosted by my job on the day I was supposed to receive my first payment. I recently started a job at a company and was doing my month of probation, which was a simple job of receiving packages at home checking to make sure they're intact, with photos to show, the print the label when they send it to to then send the package to the next person in the process. I'm not really able to get out of the house much do to back pains so this kind of thing where I just need send the packages from the nearest postal business just two block away from my home was nice. It started with a base monthly pay of $2,400 and could add up to $900 extra with the bonus of enough packages delivered at $40 each sent and $75 for a few. I had gotten my bonus up to $450 with the packages I had delivered for the month. ​ It had all been going smoothly without much problems (lost packages) up until the 14th when I was supposed to be paid. When I got up that day and logged onto the work account I had I couldn't login and no one responded to my calls or messages. Nor was the money sent to the bank account I had given the direct deposit I had given. ​ I'm not sure exactly what steps I need to take to be able to at least get the money I signed a contract to be paid for. Any help accepted, thanks. | j0icu2v | j0jvxth | 1,671,225,994 | 1,671,252,884 | 34 | 215 | File a wage claim with the DLSE. But this sounds like a scam job, not an actual job, a reshipping scam. If the police contact you, do not answer any questions. | I fell for this exact same scam. After they ghosted me I knew something was up and did some research; it's like others have said about stolen goods, etc. I immediately saved every bit of correspondence we had including, texts, emails, photos, screenshots, names and addresses of packages, etc. And went directly to the police. I explained everything and made a police report. Also look for any weird mail coming as they are probably using your physical address for credit scams. I had to alert paypal about this and they launched an investigation into these people. This was years ago. I still have everything saved just in case but the cops were super cool about it. It pays to have an official police report incase anything comes up in the future. | 0 | 26,890 | 6.323529 |
znpcog | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [California] I got ghosted by my job on the day I was supposed to receive my first payment. I recently started a job at a company and was doing my month of probation, which was a simple job of receiving packages at home checking to make sure they're intact, with photos to show, the print the label when they send it to to then send the package to the next person in the process. I'm not really able to get out of the house much do to back pains so this kind of thing where I just need send the packages from the nearest postal business just two block away from my home was nice. It started with a base monthly pay of $2,400 and could add up to $900 extra with the bonus of enough packages delivered at $40 each sent and $75 for a few. I had gotten my bonus up to $450 with the packages I had delivered for the month. ​ It had all been going smoothly without much problems (lost packages) up until the 14th when I was supposed to be paid. When I got up that day and logged onto the work account I had I couldn't login and no one responded to my calls or messages. Nor was the money sent to the bank account I had given the direct deposit I had given. ​ I'm not sure exactly what steps I need to take to be able to at least get the money I signed a contract to be paid for. Any help accepted, thanks. | j0jvxth | j0jqoba | 1,671,252,884 | 1,671,249,828 | 215 | 20 | I fell for this exact same scam. After they ghosted me I knew something was up and did some research; it's like others have said about stolen goods, etc. I immediately saved every bit of correspondence we had including, texts, emails, photos, screenshots, names and addresses of packages, etc. And went directly to the police. I explained everything and made a police report. Also look for any weird mail coming as they are probably using your physical address for credit scams. I had to alert paypal about this and they launched an investigation into these people. This was years ago. I still have everything saved just in case but the cops were super cool about it. It pays to have an official police report incase anything comes up in the future. | Seconding many others who believe that this is a scam. In my experience, it often comes with some form of check fraud, where they will send you a larger-than-expected 'bad' check, and ask you to write a 'good' check back to them. Of course, you deposit the 'bad' check, it doesn't clear, and you have lost the 'good' check. | 1 | 3,056 | 10.75 |
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