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2,813 | How to Attract a Skater Guy | 1. Learning More About Him
1-1. Talk to his friends.
No one will know what kind of person your crush is looking for better than his friends. Get to know them and you'll find out more about him, like where he tends to hang out. On top of that, if they get to know you and are impressed, they're more likely to want to help you with your crush. If the two of you have mutual friends, they are the perfect people to talk to. Think of the following examples when subtly trying to find out more about your crush:
If you want to know where he skates, ask about parks in town: “Where do people usually skate around here? Who goes to that park?”
If you want try and know whether your crush is single: “How come he doesn't have a girlfriend/boyfriend?”
Ask about their friendship with him: “How did you guys become friends? What do you do together?”
1-2. Show interest in what he does.
If you want to understand your crush better, don't be afraid to learn about skater culture. Like any other culture, skateboarding culture has a set of values, norms and ideals. The best way to find out more is to talk to skateboarders about why they skateboard, and what it brings to them. You can also find many interviews on YouTube, where skateboarders talk about the culture. This can give you a great idea of how your crush thinks.
1-3. Learn about skateboarding.
Beyond understanding the culture, you'll want to learn a bit about skateboarding itself. You don't necessarily need to know all the tricks or professional skateboarders by name, but knowing a bit about your crush's passion will give the two of you something to talk about. Simply knowing what an ollie is (jumping with the skateboard), will show that you care about his passion and he'll be impressed when it's time to talk to him.
2. Talking to Him
2-1. Hang out where he hangs out.
Skater guys tend to spend most of their free time at the skatepark of their choice with their friends. Give yourself the opportunity to “bump into him” by hovering around his favorite hang out spot.
2-2. Introduce yourself.
First impressions matter; it can take only three seconds for your crush to make up his mind about you the first time he meets you. There are two main ways you can introduce yourself, depending on how quickly you want to make your intentions known:
You can be extremely casual if you don't want him to know you like him just yet: “Hey, what's going on, mind if I hang out with you?”
You can be completely blunt and honest. This lets you know right away if he's interested in you, and you can put a comedic twist on it as well: “Hey, I like you. Want to hang out?”
2-3. Ask him questions.
People love to talk about themselves and their passions. Asking questions shows that you have more than just a passing interest in what he has to say. Some questions you might want to ask him include:
”How long have you been skateboarding?” This shows your interest in what he does and learning more about him.
”How often do you hang out here?” Not only will this tell you how passionate he is about skateboarding, but gives you a chance to know when you can next bump into him.
”What do you do when you're not skateboarding?” This gives you a chance to find out about common interests the two of you might share.
2-4. Be an active listener.
Even if you're not interested in skateboarding, you should still pay very close attention to what your crush is saying. Active listening means you're paying attention to what he's saying, asking important questions that show you're listening, and absorbing the information he's giving you. It might sound strange to do this at first, but people definitely appreciate someone who isn't on their phone while they're trying to have a conversation.
2-5. Let your positivity shine.
Not only will being positive and supportive bring him up and let him enjoy spending time with you, but it actually makes you more attractive to him. Try to see things in a positive light and avoid nagging about your insecurities. There's nothing wrong with having insecurities, but don't let them affect your actions.
3. Being Confident
3-1. Embrace your playfulness and be adventurous.
Skaters, by nature, like to play around, goof off and take risks. Get in touch with your playful side to reel him in: it shows that you don't take yourself too seriously, and will make you irresistible. Be willing to step out of your comfort zone and let your your rebellious side out. Think of the following examples:
Don't always play it safe. Skateboarders like to take risks; try doing the same, within reason. Try an extreme sport or explore an abandoned building.
Experiment. Leave your comfort zone and try things you were too scared to try. Conquer your fears and be adventurous. Go on spontaneous road trips or try a new hobby.
Playful teasing. There's a fine line between mocking someone (“That trick really sucked.”) and teasing them (“Is that the best you've got to show me?”).
3-2. Wear functional clothes that make you feel confident.
Style is all about making the clothes work for you, and skater guys respect confidence. Don't feel that you have to dress up or dress down just to impress him, but keep in mind that if you're hanging out with him at the skatepark you may need more functional clothing. Think jeans and sneakers, but you can wear jeans that flatter you and you find stylish.
3-3. Be yourself.
No one likes a poser, especially not a skateboarder. Being yourself will give you an infectious confidence that will get him to pay attention. Use these steps to guide you into bringing out qualities you already possess; don't try to become someone else because you want to impress a guy. He'll see right through you if you try to be something you're not.
3-4. Try skateboarding.
This is a great way to gain some shared experiences with your crush and get the opportunity to hang out with him. Ask him if he'll show you how to skateboard sometime. You might even like skateboarding, giving you something in common with him. If you already skateboard, even better! Take the opportunity to ride with him, showing off the tricks you can pull off in a friendly competition.
Tips
If you find that you enjoy skateboarding after trying it, consider getting your own board and practicing tricks on your own time.
It's possible that, even after following these tips, he might not like you back. Don't try to force it and do your best to move past it.
Warnings
You're more than your body. Don't starve yourself because you want to impress a guy.
Don't let anyone take advantage of you. Make sure the guy you like also likes you. If he's always asking you to do things for him (especially if they're dangerous or illegal), stay away.
Don't completely transform yourself for a guy. Stay yourself, and don't change just because someone asks you to.
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Skateboarders like to take risks; try doing the same, within reason. Try an extreme sport or explore an abandoned building.\\nExperiment. Leave your comfort zone and try things you were too scared to try. Conquer your fears and be adventurous. Go on spontaneous road trips or try a new hobby.\\nPlayful teasing. There's a fine line between mocking someone (“That trick really sucked.”) and teasing them (“Is that the best you've got to show me?”).\\n3-2. Wear functional clothes that make you feel confident.\\nStyle is all about making the clothes work for you, and skater guys respect confidence. Don't feel that you have to dress up or dress down just to impress him, but keep in mind that if you're hanging out with him at the skatepark you may need more functional clothing. Think jeans and sneakers, but you can wear jeans that flatter you and you find stylish.\\n3-3. Be yourself.\\nNo one likes a poser, especially not a skateboarder. 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2,814 | How to Attract a Smart Teenage Girl | 1. Attracting Her Physically
1-1. Dress nicely
This doesn’t mean you need to wear designer clothing or even a specific style of clothing. However, it does mean that you should avoid wearing dirty or smelly clothing. The style can be whatever you feel suits you best. Just make sure that it is clean and not too worn out.
Remember that it is important to be yourself. Choose the clothes that you feel your best in. No matter how you dress, you can still make sure that your clothes are clean and fresh-smelling.
1-2. Have good hygiene.
You probably aren’t going to attract anyone if you don’t take good care of your hygiene. There are a lot of things you can do to improve your hygiene, and doing so will improve your confidence in yourself.
Shower at least once a day. Showering daily will wash away any dirt, germs, and/or bacteria that has accumulated during the day. This will also help you stay fresh-smelling.
Brush your teeth at least two times per day. Carry a pack of sugar-free gum with you, and chew a piece after each meal. This will help keep your breath fresh and your teeth healthy.
Wear deodorant. It can be an easy thing to forget, but wearing deodorant will help you avoid the embarrassment of body odor. If you do a lot of sports and other physically active things, have some deodorant in your bag to put on beforehand.
1-3. Take good care of your hair and skin.
This doesn’t mean you have to look a certain way (e.g. preppy). It just means that you should put some effort into taking care of your hair and skin. Wash your face and apply moisturizer to keep it looking healthy and radiant.
You don’t necessarily need to wash your hair every single day but make sure that you wash it when it gets dirty and/or looks greasy.
2. Interacting With Her
2-1. Be yourself
A smart girl will quickly see through any attempts to show off or act tough. Instead, just be who you are. Being able to be comfortable in your own skin does take some work, but most people really appreciate someone who is genuinely themselves.
Sometimes it can be difficult to act naturally in front of someone we have a crush on, but just do your best. For example, if you are really involved in one of your school's clubs, don’t get out of it just because you heard she doesn’t think it's cool.
You can also be true to yourself by standing up for yourself. For example, if someone dares you to do something bold in front of your crush, but you don’t really want to do it, then don’t. This will show your crush that you’re mature enough to say “no” to something in spite of what others might think of you.
If you are being yourself and the smart girl you had your eye on isn’t interested, try to remind yourself that this isn’t an indication that you aren’t a good person. It may just be that you aren’t her type.
2-2. Be kind.
You might think that the best way to attract a smart girl is to be tough and intimidating to those around you. However, unless that is really who you are, it probably isn’t the case. Instead, show her that you are a kind person. If she sees you being kind to others, she may start to think of you in a different way than she did before.
For example, don’t allow someone to be a bully to someone that usually gets picked on.
Help out people whenever you can. This can be small things. Help someone pick up their things if they drop them.
Don’t make jokes at other people’s expense. This shows that you aren’t clever enough to make people laugh without using someone else.
2-3. Be confident
It’s important to understand that being confident does not at all mean being arrogant. Instead being confident means showing others that you feel good about yourself and who you are.
There are lots of ways to show that you are confident. For example, you can use confident body language. Make eye contact with others, smile, and keep your body language open and inviting. Stand with your arms at your side, your posture straight, and your chin up.
Another way to display confidence is by speaking slowly and calmly. When you are talking to someone you are interested in, your natural reaction might be to talk more quickly than you naturally would. Try to notice how fast you are speaking, and slow it down a bit. This doesn’t mean that you should speak unnaturally slow, but rather that you should avoid talking so fast that she will have a hard time understanding you.
Everyone experiences a lack of confidence at some point or another. This is OK, practice pretending that you are confident whenever you are struggling.
2-4. Take an interest in her life.
When you are around her, show an interest in the things she likes and the things that are important to her. This will show her that you are genuine and not self-centered.
For example, if she is talking about a movie that she really loves, ask her why she loves it. Don’t just nod and say “cool.”
If there is a particular subject she is interested in, ask her what makes her so passionate about it. For example, if she is passionate about animal welfare, you could say, “It’s really awesome that you work so hard for animal rights. What got you so interested in helping in the first place?” Not only will you show her that you care, you will also learn something new about her.
2-5. Show her what makes you worth her time.
A smart girl will probably want to be with someone who is also intelligent. This doesn’t mean you have to be a genius, but it does mean that you have to be able to keep up with her. When having a conversation with her, talk to her about the things that interest you and the dreams that you hope to accomplish.
For example, if you are a huge fan of baseball, talk to her about why you enjoy it so much. For example, you can say, “My dad taught me about baseball when I was very little, and it is something that we’ve been enjoying together my entire life.” Don’t be afraid to be open about your life with her.
If you aren’t able to think of something that interests you, and you don’t have any dreams, then you should probably take the time to figure out who you are before worrying about attracting someone.
If you want to attract a smart girl, you’ll have to keep them interested. This means that you’ll really have to put in the effort when it comes to talking to them. They won’t find you very interesting if all you can talk about is the last football game you saw on TV.
3. Asking Her Out
3-1. Avoid asking her in front of other people.
When asking a girl out, especially if she is smart, you’ll probably want to ask her when she is alone. This is because a smart girl probably won’t enjoy being put on the spot. Asking her alone will give her a bit more space to think about how she wants to respond. It will also show that you are thoughtful, and want to be respectful.
If you’re having a hard time getting her alone, try casually asking her if you can talk to her alone for a minute. For example, if you have a class with her, try saying “Hey [insert girl’s name], do you have a minute after class today? I wanted to talk to you about something.”
Keep it light when you bring this up or she might get worried about what you want to talk about. For example, when you ask her to talk later, you can add in, “Don’t worry! It’s nothing bad or a big deal at all, I just need to ask you about something.” Keep your tone upbeat and happy.
3-2. Suggest something you know she will find interesting.
If you know there is something she is particularly interested in, try to make that into a date. You might get by going with a more traditional date idea (e.g. going to the movies), but a smart girl will be really impressed if you can come up with something out of the ordinary.
For example, if she is really interested in art, see if there are any art shows or museum exhibitions in your area that you could take her to.
If she is really into classical music, look to see if there is a symphony in your area.
When you ask her out, try showing her that you really thought about it. For example, say, “I know you’re a big fan of Van Gogh and I heard there is an exhibition at the museum this weekend. I’d love to take you if you’d like to go with me. Maybe we can grab some food afterward. What do you think?”
3-3. Be gracious.
Unfortunately, the hard truth is that you might get rejected. If you do, do your best to hide your disappointment. You will come off more confident and mature if you are able to say, “Oh, alright. Well, I understand. Have a nice a day!” than if you fly into a rage.
If she says something like, “Oh, I have a boyfriend, I’m sorry” or “I’m not really interested in dating anyone right now,” you might feel tempted to backpedal and act like you weren’t actually asking her out. Don’t do this. It will only make you look insecure.
Of course, she might also say, “yes.” This is great news, but you should still try to keep your cool. Don’t start jumping up and down for joy. Instead, smile and say, “That’s great! What time should I pick you up?” You don’t want to give her the impression that you were convinced she would say no, even if you were.
3-4. Ask her if she wants to study together.
If you think you’re not quite ready to go straight to asking her out, try suggesting doing something together that doesn’t sound like going out on a date. This will give you a chance to spend time together, but will take some of the pressure off because it won’t actually be a date.
This will also give you a good chance to gauge her interest in you. When you are together, pay attention to the way she behaves. Is she behaving in a way that makes it seems as though she is interested? For example, is she making a lot of eye contact, laughing at everything you say, and casually touching your arm or your shoulder? If so, there is a good chance she is attracted to you.
Asking to study for an important test together is a good way to hang out and do something productive without making it seem like it is a date.
Tips
Don’t take yourself too seriously.[13]
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Expert Source
Cher GopmanDating Coach
Expert Interview. 17 May 2019.
You have a lot of time to work on becoming the best version of yourself. Do the best you can, and you’ll find that you attract lots of people.
Warnings
Remember that you cannot force someone to like you. If you aren’t able to attract the smart girl you want, then just move on and keep being yourself. The only person you are in control of is yourself.
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Carry a pack of sugar-free gum with you, and chew a piece after each meal. This will help keep your breath fresh and your teeth healthy.\\nWear deodorant. It can be an easy thing to forget, but wearing deodorant will help you avoid the embarrassment of body odor. If you do a lot of sports and other physically active things, have some deodorant in your bag to put on beforehand.\\n1-3. Take good care of your hair and skin.\\nThis doesn’t mean you have to look a certain way (e.g. preppy). It just means that you should put some effort into taking care of your hair and skin. Wash your face and apply moisturizer to keep it looking healthy and radiant.\\nYou don’t necessarily need to wash your hair every single day but make sure that you wash it when it gets dirty and/or looks greasy.\\n2. Interacting With Her\\n2-1. Be yourself\\nA smart girl will quickly see through any attempts to show off or act tough. Instead, just be who you are. Being able to be comfortable in your own skin does take some work, but most people really appreciate someone who is genuinely themselves.\\nSometimes it can be difficult to act naturally in front of someone we have a crush on, but just do your best. For example, if you are really involved in one of your school's clubs, don’t get out of it just because you heard she doesn’t think it's cool.\\nYou can also be true to yourself by standing up for yourself. For example, if someone dares you to do something bold in front of your crush, but you don’t really want to do it, then don’t. This will show your crush that you’re mature enough to say “no” to something in spite of what others might think of you.\\nIf you are being yourself and the smart girl you had your eye on isn’t interested, try to remind yourself that this isn’t an indication that you aren’t a good person. It may just be that you aren’t her type.\\n2-2. Be kind.\\nYou might think that the best way to attract a smart girl is to be tough and intimidating to those around you. However, unless that is really who you are, it probably isn’t the case. Instead, show her that you are a kind person. If she sees you being kind to others, she may start to think of you in a different way than she did before.\\nFor example, don’t allow someone to be a bully to someone that usually gets picked on.\\nHelp out people whenever you can. This can be small things. Help someone pick up their things if they drop them.\\nDon’t make jokes at other people’s expense. This shows that you aren’t clever enough to make people laugh without using someone else.\\n2-3. Be confident\\nIt’s important to understand that being confident does not at all mean being arrogant. Instead being confident means showing others that you feel good about yourself and who you are.\\nThere are lots of ways to show that you are confident. For example, you can use confident body language. Make eye contact with others, smile, and keep your body language open and inviting. Stand with your arms at your side, your posture straight, and your chin up.\\nAnother way to display confidence is by speaking slowly and calmly. When you are talking to someone you are interested in, your natural reaction might be to talk more quickly than you naturally would. Try to notice how fast you are speaking, and slow it down a bit. This doesn’t mean that you should speak unnaturally slow, but rather that you should avoid talking so fast that she will have a hard time understanding you.\\nEveryone experiences a lack of confidence at some point or another. This is OK, practice pretending that you are confident whenever you are struggling.\\n2-4. Take an interest in her life.\\nWhen you are around her, show an interest in the things she likes and the things that are important to her. This will show her that you are genuine and not self-centered.\\nFor example, if she is talking about a movie that she really loves, ask her why she loves it. Don’t just nod and say “cool.”\\nIf there is a particular subject she is interested in, ask her what makes her so passionate about it. For example, if she is passionate about animal welfare, you could say, “It’s really awesome that you work so hard for animal rights. What got you so interested in helping in the first place?” Not only will you show her that you care, you will also learn something new about her.\\n2-5. Show her what makes you worth her time.\\nA smart girl will probably want to be with someone who is also intelligent. This doesn’t mean you have to be a genius, but it does mean that you have to be able to keep up with her. When having a conversation with her, talk to her about the things that interest you and the dreams that you hope to accomplish.\\nFor example, if you are a huge fan of baseball, talk to her about why you enjoy it so much. For example, you can say, “My dad taught me about baseball when I was very little, and it is something that we’ve been enjoying together my entire life.” Don’t be afraid to be open about your life with her.\\nIf you aren’t able to think of something that interests you, and you don’t have any dreams, then you should probably take the time to figure out who you are before worrying about attracting someone.\\nIf you want to attract a smart girl, you’ll have to keep them interested. This means that you’ll really have to put in the effort when it comes to talking to them. They won’t find you very interesting if all you can talk about is the last football game you saw on TV.\\n3. Asking Her Out\\n3-1. Avoid asking her in front of other people.\\nWhen asking a girl out, especially if she is smart, you’ll probably want to ask her when she is alone. This is because a smart girl probably won’t enjoy being put on the spot. Asking her alone will give her a bit more space to think about how she wants to respond. It will also show that you are thoughtful, and want to be respectful.\\nIf you’re having a hard time getting her alone, try casually asking her if you can talk to her alone for a minute. For example, if you have a class with her, try saying “Hey [insert girl’s name], do you have a minute after class today? I wanted to talk to you about something.”\\nKeep it light when you bring this up or she might get worried about what you want to talk about. For example, when you ask her to talk later, you can add in, “Don’t worry! It’s nothing bad or a big deal at all, I just need to ask you about something.” Keep your tone upbeat and happy.\\n3-2. Suggest something you know she will find interesting.\\nIf you know there is something she is particularly interested in, try to make that into a date. You might get by going with a more traditional date idea (e.g. going to the movies), but a smart girl will be really impressed if you can come up with something out of the ordinary.\\nFor example, if she is really interested in art, see if there are any art shows or museum exhibitions in your area that you could take her to.\\nIf she is really into classical music, look to see if there is a symphony in your area.\\nWhen you ask her out, try showing her that you really thought about it. For example, say, “I know you’re a big fan of Van Gogh and I heard there is an exhibition at the museum this weekend. I’d love to take you if you’d like to go with me. Maybe we can grab some food afterward. What do you think?”\\n3-3. Be gracious.\\nUnfortunately, the hard truth is that you might get rejected. If you do, do your best to hide your disappointment. You will come off more confident and mature if you are able to say, “Oh, alright. Well, I understand. Have a nice a day!” than if you fly into a rage.\\nIf she says something like, “Oh, I have a boyfriend, I’m sorry” or “I’m not really interested in dating anyone right now,” you might feel tempted to backpedal and act like you weren’t actually asking her out. Don’t do this. It will only make you look insecure.\\nOf course, she might also say, “yes.” This is great news, but you should still try to keep your cool. Don’t start jumping up and down for joy. Instead, smile and say, “That’s great! What time should I pick you up?” You don’t want to give her the impression that you were convinced she would say no, even if you were.\\n3-4. Ask her if she wants to study together.\\nIf you think you’re not quite ready to go straight to asking her out, try suggesting doing something together that doesn’t sound like going out on a date. This will give you a chance to spend time together, but will take some of the pressure off because it won’t actually be a date.\\nThis will also give you a good chance to gauge her interest in you. When you are together, pay attention to the way she behaves. Is she behaving in a way that makes it seems as though she is interested? For example, is she making a lot of eye contact, laughing at everything you say, and casually touching your arm or your shoulder? If so, there is a good chance she is attracted to you.\\nAsking to study for an important test together is a good way to hang out and do something productive without making it seem like it is a date.\\nTips\\nDon’t take yourself too seriously.[13]\\nX\\nExpert Source\\n\\nCher GopmanDating Coach\\nExpert Interview. 17 May 2019.\\n\\n You have a lot of time to work on becoming the best version of yourself. Do the best you can, and you’ll find that you attract lots of people.\\nWarnings\\nRemember that you cannot force someone to like you. If you aren’t able to attract the smart girl you want, then just move on and keep being yourself. The only person you are in control of is yourself.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Attracting a smart girl works much the same as attracting any girl. In order to attract a smart teenage girl, you’ll need to make sure your physical appearance is in order and that you are interacting with her in a way that shows her you are worth her time. When it comes time to ask her out, you should take steps to make her feel comfortable and excited about the prospect of going on a date with her.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Attracting Her Physically\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Dress nicely\", \"描述\": \"This doesn’t mean you need to wear designer clothing or even a specific style of clothing. 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2,815 | How to Attract a Taurus Man | 1. Nabbing His Attention
1-1. Show your femininity.
While you need to be strong and confident to gain his respect, he also needs a woman with a definite feminine side. A Taurus man loves to be surrounded by your femininity. He really appreciates beauty, and will expect his woman to be beautiful. If you want to attract him, take the time to look good!
And while we're at it, be classy. The Taurean man wants a woman with refined taste -- someone who appreciates good music, good wine, and good art, to name a few. Be sure to dress this way too; you don't want to give it all away too soon!
1-2. Get your life in order.
A Taurus hates disarray, and won't give in to a messy lifestyle. Show him that this comes naturally to you and he'll be automatically smitten. Taurus are neat, organized, and grounded, they will enjoy if you're likewise.
If you invite Taurus to your home, organize it! He'll appreciate your attention to detail in everything—down to your spice racks. He'll notice what lengths you go to to keep your life organized and he'll consider you a kindred soul.
1-3. Think practical when it comes to money.
These men have an eye for money, and won't accept useless and impractical use of it. If you are sound financially, you can get his attention. He is very practical and knows when his dollar is worth it. And definitely don't be careless with his!
That being said, they know when something of quality is worth it. You don't need to cut corners, but do know when certain things are frivolous and unnecessary.
1-4. Stay true to yourself.
Be truthful to him. He will appreciate your honesty, which is a trait he really wants in a lady. He's not quick to trust, so any lying will not be tolerated in the slightest.
Be honest about the image you put forward, too. If you're not clean, you're gonna have to come clean. If you're not super ladylike, don't put up a front. Be you. If he doesn't like it, he doesn't like it. You can't keep up a facade forever; eventually, he will find out. When he does, he won't be happy. So don't act as you are not it in the first place!
1-5. Prefer down-to-earth activities.
Taurus men are practical family men; they prefer to be in the comfort and warmth of their own home, with good food and good company. You will smite his heart if you are a good cook. They are down-to-earth and calm, so avoid making drastic changes or spontaneous plans. Keep it practical.
Don't worry about coming off as lame! Have him over for a dinner you made yourself. He'll be impressed by your resourcefulness, your skill, and your femininity. A woman who asks him to dinner who's attractive and competent in the kitchen? That's a win for any man!
2. Building a Relationship
2-1. Make a move.
Many mistake the bull for being a bit aloof and cold. It's not that he is unhappy with his surroundings, it's just that he keeps his emotions on the inside and tries to be practical at all times. So he may be interested in you, but you may not know it! You may have to make your move -- or you could be waiting for a while!
You don't have to do something super extravagant -- again, inviting him over to dinner would be super impressive to him. And no need to swarm him with your intensity either; a simple cup of coffee will show him you find him intriguing.
2-2. Be sensual.
A Taurus man loves a cozy, cuddly, inviting atmosphere. He adores staying at home to just be with a woman -- you. Dress subtly alluring in public and more alluring in private. Your Taurus Man will appreciate it, knowing it's just for him.
Show him you're physically interested without making too much of a show of it. Graze his shoulders as you pass, lightly massage his arm, keep him aware of your touch until he has no choice but to break out of his cage.
2-3. Show some mutual respect.
In the end, Taurus wants a relationship where there's mutual respect. The idea is to respect him as a builder -- he'll, in turn, respect you in your own right. Handle conflict with a delicate hand and he'll respond. Taurus are natural leaders and they love to take charge. Guidance and support will work better than confrontation. The Taurean man has enough issues with his own temper, much less anyone else's.
2-4. Take your time.
A Taurus is slow to change. He likes routine and doesn't like change. If you try to change him, remember, you are angering a BULL! Try to roll with his flow. If you don't understand something, just ask! He'll gladly include you in his routine if you show that you're trying to understand and share in something that matters to him.
He likes planning, too. If you're overcome with brilliant ideas, run them by him before you start implementing them. He'll probably be able to bring you back down to Earth and actually get things done!
2-5. Be patient.
The Taurean man likes to feel out his adventures. He needs to wrap his mind around the factors at play -- and that includes relationships. So with this one, you'll need to put on your patient hat and relax for a bit. Let the relationship grow without pressuring it. If he didn't like you, he wouldn't stick around!
This goes for his time, too. Taurus does his routine and he sticks with it. If you interrupt that, he won't be thrilled. If there's something he needs to do, let him do it. Then he'll be all yours when he's finished.
3. Making It Last
3-1. Consider the Taurus's nature.
It's important to sit down and be a tad bit realistic. A Taurus is very protective and is often jealous, like his opposite, Scorpio. If your sign happens to be Aries, Leo, Sagittarius, Aquarius, Libra, or Gemini, you may have to forget about getting along with a Taurus, much less attracting him. His overbearing nature will be too stuffy for you. Make sure your sign meshes well with his!
If he can handle his bull-headedness, his need for routine, and his need to lead, by all means! This could be a relationship that lasts a very, very long time. But if these are factors that you can't see yourself tolerating long-term, try not to get your heart twisted in a bunch. He can make for a good fling, but little else.
3-2. Develop a routine together.
Taurus likes his routine and his woman will need to be a part of it. So carve out a space for yourself! Make him part of your routine and vice versa. The deeper ingrained you two become in each other, the harder it'll be to break.
This does not, by any stretch of the imagination, mean that you two have to be involved in every aspect of each others' lives. No, no, no. It simply means to have routine hobbies and activities that you two do together that you can depend on. Stir Friday. Bowling league. Saturday morning mimosas. You each still need your own life! But each other has their definite, solid part.
3-3. Practice nonviolent communication and work with his ego.
Sometimes men can get pretty defensive when it comes to their manhood, and Taurus is no different -- in fact, he may be the cause for this gender stereotype. His pride and ego dominate a large facet of his nature -- if you attack this, he will not be happy. Make sure allow him to lead you on occasion -- he'll love it and love you for it.
There are delicate ways to do everything. If you two are fighting, this does not mean backing down and saying, "You're right, honey. I'm sorry." (Unless he is right, of course.) It means saying, "I don't understand what this has to do with that. Can you explain it to me?" With Taurus, a certain amount of tact will get you a long, long way.
3-4. Know you may need to draw him out.
If you're looking for a man that will shower you with adoration, Taurus isn't it. Sure, he's very capable of being affectionate, but he may take his precious time. If you can muster it, be patient. Show him you're comfortable being caring and demonstrative and he will echo you back.
Don't be discouraged if he's not as caring as you'd like him to be. If it's an issue, address it! He'll value your honesty and straightforwardness. Give him a while to come around to the idea. He's worth the wait, you know?
3-5. Work on trusting each other.
Along with being aloof and slow to make his move, Taurus can be a bit untrusting. He's very much so of the mantra "If you want something done right, you do it yourself." This leaks into his romantic relationships too, where he's used to doing his own thing. However, over time, if you show him you're trustworthy and responsible, he'll see it makes sense to let his guard down. That's when you know you've won Taurus's heart.
If you're all these things: honest, practical, diplomatic, and patient—there will be no issue. Trust will just fall into place! Make it clear that your loyalty lies with him and only him; if he trusts you, he'll show it back. That means he's in it to win it!
Tips
Have patience. Taurus males are slow movers, and it will take them some time to figure out if you are 'the one' or not.
When you know you've done something wrong, apologize; he'll appreciate you more.
Taurus men are slow because they are true/loyal lovers. They tend to keep some things in their heart to avoid messing up the moment and losing you. The moment you successfully reach a Taurus man's heart, they will love you eternally.
Warnings
Try not to play mind games with Taurus men. They will not entertain you. Be honest and direct instead.
Taurus is the most stubborn sign in the zodiac, so don't push or you'll get poked in the behind with his bull horns!
Be prepared to deal with suspicion and jealousy on a regular basis. Taurus tends to be distrustful by nature.
Communication is very important. Try to communicate with each other to know the best for you and him.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Nabbing His Attention\\n1-1. Show your femininity.\\nWhile you need to be strong and confident to gain his respect, he also needs a woman with a definite feminine side. A Taurus man loves to be surrounded by your femininity. He really appreciates beauty, and will expect his woman to be beautiful. If you want to attract him, take the time to look good!\\nAnd while we're at it, be classy. The Taurean man wants a woman with refined taste -- someone who appreciates good music, good wine, and good art, to name a few. Be sure to dress this way too; you don't want to give it all away too soon!\\n1-2. Get your life in order.\\nA Taurus hates disarray, and won't give in to a messy lifestyle. Show him that this comes naturally to you and he'll be automatically smitten. Taurus are neat, organized, and grounded, they will enjoy if you're likewise. \\nIf you invite Taurus to your home, organize it! He'll appreciate your attention to detail in everything—down to your spice racks. He'll notice what lengths you go to to keep your life organized and he'll consider you a kindred soul.\\n1-3. Think practical when it comes to money.\\nThese men have an eye for money, and won't accept useless and impractical use of it. If you are sound financially, you can get his attention. He is very practical and knows when his dollar is worth it. And definitely don't be careless with his!\\nThat being said, they know when something of quality is worth it. You don't need to cut corners, but do know when certain things are frivolous and unnecessary.\\n1-4. Stay true to yourself.\\nBe truthful to him. He will appreciate your honesty, which is a trait he really wants in a lady. He's not quick to trust, so any lying will not be tolerated in the slightest.\\nBe honest about the image you put forward, too. If you're not clean, you're gonna have to come clean. If you're not super ladylike, don't put up a front. Be you. If he doesn't like it, he doesn't like it. You can't keep up a facade forever; eventually, he will find out. When he does, he won't be happy. So don't act as you are not it in the first place!\\n1-5. Prefer down-to-earth activities.\\nTaurus men are practical family men; they prefer to be in the comfort and warmth of their own home, with good food and good company. You will smite his heart if you are a good cook. They are down-to-earth and calm, so avoid making drastic changes or spontaneous plans. Keep it practical.\\nDon't worry about coming off as lame! Have him over for a dinner you made yourself. He'll be impressed by your resourcefulness, your skill, and your femininity. A woman who asks him to dinner who's attractive and competent in the kitchen? That's a win for any man!\\n2. Building a Relationship\\n2-1. Make a move.\\nMany mistake the bull for being a bit aloof and cold. It's not that he is unhappy with his surroundings, it's just that he keeps his emotions on the inside and tries to be practical at all times. So he may be interested in you, but you may not know it! You may have to make your move -- or you could be waiting for a while!\\nYou don't have to do something super extravagant -- again, inviting him over to dinner would be super impressive to him. And no need to swarm him with your intensity either; a simple cup of coffee will show him you find him intriguing.\\n2-2. Be sensual.\\nA Taurus man loves a cozy, cuddly, inviting atmosphere. He adores staying at home to just be with a woman -- you. Dress subtly alluring in public and more alluring in private. Your Taurus Man will appreciate it, knowing it's just for him.\\nShow him you're physically interested without making too much of a show of it. Graze his shoulders as you pass, lightly massage his arm, keep him aware of your touch until he has no choice but to break out of his cage.\\n2-3. Show some mutual respect.\\nIn the end, Taurus wants a relationship where there's mutual respect. The idea is to respect him as a builder -- he'll, in turn, respect you in your own right. Handle conflict with a delicate hand and he'll respond. Taurus are natural leaders and they love to take charge. Guidance and support will work better than confrontation. The Taurean man has enough issues with his own temper, much less anyone else's.\\n2-4. Take your time.\\nA Taurus is slow to change. He likes routine and doesn't like change. If you try to change him, remember, you are angering a BULL! Try to roll with his flow. If you don't understand something, just ask! He'll gladly include you in his routine if you show that you're trying to understand and share in something that matters to him.\\nHe likes planning, too. If you're overcome with brilliant ideas, run them by him before you start implementing them. He'll probably be able to bring you back down to Earth and actually get things done!\\n2-5. Be patient.\\nThe Taurean man likes to feel out his adventures. He needs to wrap his mind around the factors at play -- and that includes relationships. So with this one, you'll need to put on your patient hat and relax for a bit. Let the relationship grow without pressuring it. If he didn't like you, he wouldn't stick around!\\nThis goes for his time, too. Taurus does his routine and he sticks with it. If you interrupt that, he won't be thrilled. If there's something he needs to do, let him do it. Then he'll be all yours when he's finished.\\n3. Making It Last\\n3-1. Consider the Taurus's nature.\\nIt's important to sit down and be a tad bit realistic. A Taurus is very protective and is often jealous, like his opposite, Scorpio. If your sign happens to be Aries, Leo, Sagittarius, Aquarius, Libra, or Gemini, you may have to forget about getting along with a Taurus, much less attracting him. His overbearing nature will be too stuffy for you. Make sure your sign meshes well with his!\\nIf he can handle his bull-headedness, his need for routine, and his need to lead, by all means! This could be a relationship that lasts a very, very long time. But if these are factors that you can't see yourself tolerating long-term, try not to get your heart twisted in a bunch. He can make for a good fling, but little else.\\n3-2. Develop a routine together.\\nTaurus likes his routine and his woman will need to be a part of it. So carve out a space for yourself! Make him part of your routine and vice versa. The deeper ingrained you two become in each other, the harder it'll be to break. \\nThis does not, by any stretch of the imagination, mean that you two have to be involved in every aspect of each others' lives. No, no, no. It simply means to have routine hobbies and activities that you two do together that you can depend on. Stir Friday. Bowling league. Saturday morning mimosas. You each still need your own life! But each other has their definite, solid part.\\n3-3. Practice nonviolent communication and work with his ego.\\nSometimes men can get pretty defensive when it comes to their manhood, and Taurus is no different -- in fact, he may be the cause for this gender stereotype. His pride and ego dominate a large facet of his nature -- if you attack this, he will not be happy. Make sure allow him to lead you on occasion -- he'll love it and love you for it. \\nThere are delicate ways to do everything. If you two are fighting, this does not mean backing down and saying, \\\"You're right, honey. I'm sorry.\\\" (Unless he is right, of course.) It means saying, \\\"I don't understand what this has to do with that. Can you explain it to me?\\\" With Taurus, a certain amount of tact will get you a long, long way.\\n3-4. Know you may need to draw him out.\\nIf you're looking for a man that will shower you with adoration, Taurus isn't it. Sure, he's very capable of being affectionate, but he may take his precious time. If you can muster it, be patient. Show him you're comfortable being caring and demonstrative and he will echo you back.\\nDon't be discouraged if he's not as caring as you'd like him to be. If it's an issue, address it! He'll value your honesty and straightforwardness. Give him a while to come around to the idea. He's worth the wait, you know?\\n3-5. Work on trusting each other.\\nAlong with being aloof and slow to make his move, Taurus can be a bit untrusting. He's very much so of the mantra \\\"If you want something done right, you do it yourself.\\\" This leaks into his romantic relationships too, where he's used to doing his own thing. However, over time, if you show him you're trustworthy and responsible, he'll see it makes sense to let his guard down. That's when you know you've won Taurus's heart.\\nIf you're all these things: honest, practical, diplomatic, and patient—there will be no issue. Trust will just fall into place! Make it clear that your loyalty lies with him and only him; if he trusts you, he'll show it back. That means he's in it to win it!\\nTips\\nHave patience. Taurus males are slow movers, and it will take them some time to figure out if you are 'the one' or not.\\nWhen you know you've done something wrong, apologize; he'll appreciate you more.\\nTaurus men are slow because they are true/loyal lovers. They tend to keep some things in their heart to avoid messing up the moment and losing you. The moment you successfully reach a Taurus man's heart, they will love you eternally.\\nWarnings\\nTry not to play mind games with Taurus men. They will not entertain you. Be honest and direct instead.\\nTaurus is the most stubborn sign in the zodiac, so don't push or you'll get poked in the behind with his bull horns!\\nBe prepared to deal with suspicion and jealousy on a regular basis. Taurus tends to be distrustful by nature.\\nCommunication is very important. Try to communicate with each other to know the best for you and him.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A woman, at some point in time, may find herself attracted to a Taurus man—those stubborn, bull-headed men born between April 20th and May 20th. These men are irresistible creatures, and attracting them can be difficult. If you're practical, patient, and feminine, Taurus may be a perfect match for you.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Nabbing His Attention\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Show your femininity.\", \"描述\": \"While you need to be strong and confident to gain his respect, he also needs a woman with a definite feminine side. A Taurus man loves to be surrounded by your femininity. He really appreciates beauty, and will expect his woman to be beautiful. If you want to attract him, take the time to look good!\\nAnd while we're at it, be classy. The Taurean man wants a woman with refined taste -- someone who appreciates good music, good wine, and good art, to name a few. 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2,816 | How to Attract a Taurus Man As a Cancer Woman | 1. Take care with your physical appearance.
A Taurean guy appreciates subtle, classic beauty.
Taurus is ruled by Venus, the planet of beauty, but this fella isn't really attracted to over-the-top or flamboyant styles. As a Cancer woman, this should suit you just fine, since you're probably not really one to glam it up.
Focus on classic, quality clothing over trends. A Taurus guy definitely understands an "investment piece," and he'll appreciate the workmanship of a high-end brand over a cheap knock-off.
2. Wear a floral or earthy perfume.
A Taurus is usually attracted to romantic, earthy scents.
If you're fond of a little perfume, think simple and down-to-earth when it comes to appealing to the Taurean nose. Soft floral scents hit the right feminine notes a Taurus guy appreciates in a woman.
If you're not into flowers, try something a little earthier or natural that's still light and warm. Look for a perfume grounded with notes of cedar and sandalwood.
3. Start a casual conversation about a down-to-earth topic.
A Taurus guy typically isn't one to make the first move.
This can be hard for you, Cancer, because you're not exactly a social butterfly either! But if you're willing to take the chance on the first move, he'll reciprocate and take the lead if he's interested.
You can't go wrong starting a conversation about something the two of you have in common, such as a class you both have. Taurus tends to be pretty practical, so don't use a probing philosophical question as your opener.
Talking about food is also always a good choice. For example, you might ask him what his favorite comfort food was when he was a kid. Get him talking about food and you'll have him eating out of your hand in no time.
You could also chat about a TV show that you both like.
4. Emphasize your soft, gentle nature.
Let him know you love to nurture and care for others.
A guy born under the fixed sign of Taurus is typically going to be pretty grounded and stable. He's looking for a woman who's loving and nurturing—something you shouldn't have a hard time showing off as a family-oriented Crab.
For example, if you have pets or help take care of your nieces or nephews, that's definitely something to bring up when you're chatting with him! Talk about how much you enjoy watching them grow and showering them with love and affection.
5. Ask him if he wants to go on a hike.
A Taurus guy tends to prefer to kick back in the great outdoors.
Taurus is an earth sign, so a guy born under this sign usually enjoys communing with nature. As a bonus, you also have plenty of time alone together to talk and get to know each other.
You don't have to be big into the outdoors to make this work—just choose a short, easy trail that ends up in a peaceful, picture-perfect spot, like a waterfall.
6. Get tickets to a concert or film festival.
Seduce him with a treat for all 5 senses.
Your favorite Bull enjoys being enveloped in sight and sound, so tickets to a concert or film festival can be a great first date. Just be ready for plenty of discussion afterward—he likes to talk about everything he's seen and heard.
Talk to your guy ahead of time to find out what kind of music he's into or who his favorite film directors are. Then you'll know just the tickets to get to sweep him off his feet.
If he's a film guy, look for a small showing that includes a Q&A with the filmmakers afterward. He'll really eat that up.
7. Show patience and be willing to take it slow.
A typical Taurean isn't going to rush into anything.
Cancer's shy, cautious nature works well here, because Taurus doesn't like to be hurried or pushed into a relationship. Love is important to him and well worth taking his time to make sure he does it right.
It can help if you're willing to start as friends—it gives him a chance to feel you out and trust you before he opens up to you completely.
8. Let him know he's the only one for you.
Help him feel secure by demonstrating your loyalty.
A Taurus guy doesn't do anything by half-measures, and he needs to feel secure to really take the plunge. Reassure him that you're fully committed to a relationship with him and he will do the same.
One way you can do this is by being dependable, which is a trait Taurus admires. If you say you're going to meet him for lunch at noon, be there a few minutes early—cool, calm, and collected. He'll see that you take punctuality seriously and that he's a priority for you.
You're not usually one to play games, Cancer, but if you were ever tempted, the Taurus guy is not the one to start with. He can have a bit of a possessive streak, but trying to make him jealous will likely backfire.
9. Communicate openly and honestly.
Challenge yourself to say what you feel rather than sulking.
This might be hard for you, Cancer, if you're prone to withdrawing into your shell when you're hurt or upset. But if you withdraw from Taurus, he'll think something is wrong—or worse, that you don't like him anymore.
A Taurus guy is going to want you to be clear, even analytical, about things. He approaches relationships with a logic that might sometimes seem cold to you, but don't forget that he believes love is very important. To him, though, it's so important that it can't be left up to something as fickle and fleeting as emotions.
Luckily, as you get closer, you'll find it easier to open up to Taurus, since he tends to be pretty open about himself as well. He's not one to bottle things up—just try to follow his lead.
10. Plan a quiet night in as opposed to going out on the town.
The Taurus man will happily indulge your homebody nature.
If the idea of hitting the clubs or going to a party sounds exhausting, you're in good company with a Taurus man. He'd rather spend quiet time cuddling with you (think "Netflix and chill") than painting the town red.
For example, you might order in from his favorite restaurant and watch a movie together.
If you're both in school, Taurus makes the perfect study partner. Invite him over to hit the books, then celebrate the end of a rigorous study session with homemade cookies or ice cream sundaes.
If you'd rather be more active, you might plan a nature hike with a romantic picnic next to a waterfall.
11. Offer to cook him dinner.
Taurus is a simple man who appreciates a home-cooked meal.
As a Cancer woman, you probably know your way around the kitchen. But don't worry if you're not a gourmet chef—a Taurus man prefers hearty, comfort food to fine dining.
For example, you might invite him over for spaghetti with meatballs or your mom's favorite casserole. If you grew up in a different culture than he did, maybe you could make your favorite cultural dish to share with him.
The fact that you took the time to cook for him speaks volumes to the Taurus man, and he will return your effort tenfold in affection and appreciation.
12. Suggest new things occasionally to spice things up.
A Taurus can be set in his ways, so it's up to you to introduce some variety.
As much as you both love your comfy home life, you and your Taurus guy are likely to get bored if you don't try new things every once in a while. He'll be more likely to take you up on your suggestion if it's not too far off the beaten path.
For example, if the two of you enjoy cooking together, you might sign up for a couple's cooking class. It gets you out of the house and will help you learn new skills you can use in the kitchen.
13. Express your love and affection through your actions.
Demonstrate your continued interest by doing things for him.
For the down-to-earth Taurus man, actions speak louder than words. Helping him out with tasks shows him that you really care about him.
He may be a handyman or a DIY-er, someone who always has a project going on. Just ask him what he's got going on and what you can do to help. If nothing else, maybe he'd like some company as he works.
Getting involved in something he enjoys is another way to show him how you feel. For example, if he plays on a community soccer team, you might go to his games and cheer him on.
Show your affection physically as well. The typical Taurean loves physical affection, even if it's something as subtle as resting your hand on his arm as you talk or leaning into him as you read a menu at a restaurant.
14. Make yourself a part of his routine.
Find little ways to fit into his life without making him change.
A Taurus guy is typically a little set in his ways, but this doesn't have to be a bad thing. He'll be most interested in you if you're able to slot right into his normal routine and don't ask him to do things a different way or at a different time to accommodate you.
For example, if he normally eats lunch during the week at a sandwich shop across the street from his office, you might go meet him there rather than asking him to drive somewhere else.
Find out as much as you can about his regular habits so you can plan on dates around them. For example, if he calls his parents every Sunday afternoon, you might meet up with him for brunch so he'll be free to talk to them then.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Take care with your physical appearance.\\nA Taurean guy appreciates subtle, classic beauty.\\nTaurus is ruled by Venus, the planet of beauty, but this fella isn't really attracted to over-the-top or flamboyant styles. As a Cancer woman, this should suit you just fine, since you're probably not really one to glam it up.\\nFocus on classic, quality clothing over trends. A Taurus guy definitely understands an \\\"investment piece,\\\" and he'll appreciate the workmanship of a high-end brand over a cheap knock-off.\\n2. Wear a floral or earthy perfume.\\nA Taurus is usually attracted to romantic, earthy scents.\\nIf you're fond of a little perfume, think simple and down-to-earth when it comes to appealing to the Taurean nose. Soft floral scents hit the right feminine notes a Taurus guy appreciates in a woman.\\nIf you're not into flowers, try something a little earthier or natural that's still light and warm. Look for a perfume grounded with notes of cedar and sandalwood.\\n3. Start a casual conversation about a down-to-earth topic.\\nA Taurus guy typically isn't one to make the first move.\\nThis can be hard for you, Cancer, because you're not exactly a social butterfly either! But if you're willing to take the chance on the first move, he'll reciprocate and take the lead if he's interested. \\nYou can't go wrong starting a conversation about something the two of you have in common, such as a class you both have. Taurus tends to be pretty practical, so don't use a probing philosophical question as your opener.\\nTalking about food is also always a good choice. For example, you might ask him what his favorite comfort food was when he was a kid. Get him talking about food and you'll have him eating out of your hand in no time.\\nYou could also chat about a TV show that you both like.\\n4. Emphasize your soft, gentle nature.\\nLet him know you love to nurture and care for others.\\nA guy born under the fixed sign of Taurus is typically going to be pretty grounded and stable. He's looking for a woman who's loving and nurturing—something you shouldn't have a hard time showing off as a family-oriented Crab.\\nFor example, if you have pets or help take care of your nieces or nephews, that's definitely something to bring up when you're chatting with him! Talk about how much you enjoy watching them grow and showering them with love and affection.\\n5. Ask him if he wants to go on a hike.\\nA Taurus guy tends to prefer to kick back in the great outdoors.\\nTaurus is an earth sign, so a guy born under this sign usually enjoys communing with nature. As a bonus, you also have plenty of time alone together to talk and get to know each other.\\nYou don't have to be big into the outdoors to make this work—just choose a short, easy trail that ends up in a peaceful, picture-perfect spot, like a waterfall.\\n6. Get tickets to a concert or film festival.\\nSeduce him with a treat for all 5 senses.\\nYour favorite Bull enjoys being enveloped in sight and sound, so tickets to a concert or film festival can be a great first date. Just be ready for plenty of discussion afterward—he likes to talk about everything he's seen and heard.\\nTalk to your guy ahead of time to find out what kind of music he's into or who his favorite film directors are. Then you'll know just the tickets to get to sweep him off his feet.\\nIf he's a film guy, look for a small showing that includes a Q&A with the filmmakers afterward. He'll really eat that up.\\n7. Show patience and be willing to take it slow.\\nA typical Taurean isn't going to rush into anything.\\nCancer's shy, cautious nature works well here, because Taurus doesn't like to be hurried or pushed into a relationship. Love is important to him and well worth taking his time to make sure he does it right.\\nIt can help if you're willing to start as friends—it gives him a chance to feel you out and trust you before he opens up to you completely.\\n8. Let him know he's the only one for you.\\nHelp him feel secure by demonstrating your loyalty.\\nA Taurus guy doesn't do anything by half-measures, and he needs to feel secure to really take the plunge. Reassure him that you're fully committed to a relationship with him and he will do the same.\\nOne way you can do this is by being dependable, which is a trait Taurus admires. If you say you're going to meet him for lunch at noon, be there a few minutes early—cool, calm, and collected. He'll see that you take punctuality seriously and that he's a priority for you.\\nYou're not usually one to play games, Cancer, but if you were ever tempted, the Taurus guy is not the one to start with. He can have a bit of a possessive streak, but trying to make him jealous will likely backfire.\\n9. Communicate openly and honestly.\\nChallenge yourself to say what you feel rather than sulking.\\nThis might be hard for you, Cancer, if you're prone to withdrawing into your shell when you're hurt or upset. But if you withdraw from Taurus, he'll think something is wrong—or worse, that you don't like him anymore.\\nA Taurus guy is going to want you to be clear, even analytical, about things. He approaches relationships with a logic that might sometimes seem cold to you, but don't forget that he believes love is very important. To him, though, it's so important that it can't be left up to something as fickle and fleeting as emotions.\\nLuckily, as you get closer, you'll find it easier to open up to Taurus, since he tends to be pretty open about himself as well. He's not one to bottle things up—just try to follow his lead.\\n10. Plan a quiet night in as opposed to going out on the town.\\nThe Taurus man will happily indulge your homebody nature.\\nIf the idea of hitting the clubs or going to a party sounds exhausting, you're in good company with a Taurus man. He'd rather spend quiet time cuddling with you (think \\\"Netflix and chill\\\") than painting the town red.\\nFor example, you might order in from his favorite restaurant and watch a movie together.\\nIf you're both in school, Taurus makes the perfect study partner. Invite him over to hit the books, then celebrate the end of a rigorous study session with homemade cookies or ice cream sundaes.\\nIf you'd rather be more active, you might plan a nature hike with a romantic picnic next to a waterfall.\\n11. Offer to cook him dinner.\\nTaurus is a simple man who appreciates a home-cooked meal.\\nAs a Cancer woman, you probably know your way around the kitchen. But don't worry if you're not a gourmet chef—a Taurus man prefers hearty, comfort food to fine dining.\\nFor example, you might invite him over for spaghetti with meatballs or your mom's favorite casserole. If you grew up in a different culture than he did, maybe you could make your favorite cultural dish to share with him.\\nThe fact that you took the time to cook for him speaks volumes to the Taurus man, and he will return your effort tenfold in affection and appreciation.\\n12. Suggest new things occasionally to spice things up.\\nA Taurus can be set in his ways, so it's up to you to introduce some variety.\\nAs much as you both love your comfy home life, you and your Taurus guy are likely to get bored if you don't try new things every once in a while. He'll be more likely to take you up on your suggestion if it's not too far off the beaten path.\\nFor example, if the two of you enjoy cooking together, you might sign up for a couple's cooking class. It gets you out of the house and will help you learn new skills you can use in the kitchen.\\n13. Express your love and affection through your actions.\\nDemonstrate your continued interest by doing things for him.\\nFor the down-to-earth Taurus man, actions speak louder than words. Helping him out with tasks shows him that you really care about him.\\nHe may be a handyman or a DIY-er, someone who always has a project going on. Just ask him what he's got going on and what you can do to help. If nothing else, maybe he'd like some company as he works.\\nGetting involved in something he enjoys is another way to show him how you feel. For example, if he plays on a community soccer team, you might go to his games and cheer him on.\\nShow your affection physically as well. The typical Taurean loves physical affection, even if it's something as subtle as resting your hand on his arm as you talk or leaning into him as you read a menu at a restaurant.\\n14. Make yourself a part of his routine.\\nFind little ways to fit into his life without making him change.\\nA Taurus guy is typically a little set in his ways, but this doesn't have to be a bad thing. He'll be most interested in you if you're able to slot right into his normal routine and don't ask him to do things a different way or at a different time to accommodate you.\\nFor example, if he normally eats lunch during the week at a sandwich shop across the street from his office, you might go meet him there rather than asking him to drive somewhere else.\\nFind out as much as you can about his regular habits so you can plan on dates around them. For example, if he calls his parents every Sunday afternoon, you might meet up with him for brunch so he'll be free to talk to them then.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"As a sensitive, emotional Cancer (born between June 21 and July 22), it makes complete sense that you'd be drawn to the calm, stable Taurus (April 20—May 20). He's steady as a rock, perfect to cling to for support and reassurance. And these two signs work well together—you could even be soulmates! But how can you get him to look your way? Here, we've gathered some tried-and-true tips you can use today to attract the Taurean Bull of your dreams.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take care with your physical appearance.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A Taurean guy appreciates subtle, classic beauty.\", \"描述\": \"Taurus is ruled by Venus, the planet of beauty, but this fella isn't really attracted to over-the-top or flamboyant styles. As a Cancer woman, this should suit you just fine, since you're probably not really one to glam it up.\\nFocus on classic, quality clothing over trends. A Taurus guy definitely understands an \\\"investment piece,\\\" and he'll appreciate the workmanship of a high-end brand over a cheap knock-off.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Wear a floral or earthy perfume.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A Taurus is usually attracted to romantic, earthy scents.\", \"描述\": \"If you're fond of a little perfume, think simple and down-to-earth when it comes to appealing to the Taurean nose. Soft floral scents hit the right feminine notes a Taurus guy appreciates in a woman.\\nIf you're not into flowers, try something a little earthier or natural that's still light and warm. Look for a perfume grounded with notes of cedar and sandalwood.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Start a casual conversation about a down-to-earth topic.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A Taurus guy typically isn't one to make the first move.\", \"描述\": \"This can be hard for you, Cancer, because you're not exactly a social butterfly either! But if you're willing to take the chance on the first move, he'll reciprocate and take the lead if he's interested. \\nYou can't go wrong starting a conversation about something the two of you have in common, such as a class you both have. Taurus tends to be pretty practical, so don't use a probing philosophical question as your opener.\\nTalking about food is also always a good choice. For example, you might ask him what his favorite comfort food was when he was a kid. Get him talking about food and you'll have him eating out of your hand in no time.\\nYou could also chat about a TV show that you both like.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Emphasize your soft, gentle nature.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Let him know you love to nurture and care for others.\", \"描述\": \"A guy born under the fixed sign of Taurus is typically going to be pretty grounded and stable. He's looking for a woman who's loving and nurturing—something you shouldn't have a hard time showing off as a family-oriented Crab.\\nFor example, if you have pets or help take care of your nieces or nephews, that's definitely something to bring up when you're chatting with him! Talk about how much you enjoy watching them grow and showering them with love and affection.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Ask him if he wants to go on a hike.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A Taurus guy tends to prefer to kick back in the great outdoors.\", \"描述\": \"Taurus is an earth sign, so a guy born under this sign usually enjoys communing with nature. As a bonus, you also have plenty of time alone together to talk and get to know each other.\\nYou don't have to be big into the outdoors to make this work—just choose a short, easy trail that ends up in a peaceful, picture-perfect spot, like a waterfall.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get tickets to a concert or film festival.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Seduce him with a treat for all 5 senses.\", \"描述\": \"Your favorite Bull enjoys being enveloped in sight and sound, so tickets to a concert or film festival can be a great first date. Just be ready for plenty of discussion afterward—he likes to talk about everything he's seen and heard.\\nTalk to your guy ahead of time to find out what kind of music he's into or who his favorite film directors are. Then you'll know just the tickets to get to sweep him off his feet.\\nIf he's a film guy, look for a small showing that includes a Q&A with the filmmakers afterward. He'll really eat that up.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Show patience and be willing to take it slow.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A typical Taurean isn't going to rush into anything.\", \"描述\": \"Cancer's shy, cautious nature works well here, because Taurus doesn't like to be hurried or pushed into a relationship. Love is important to him and well worth taking his time to make sure he does it right.\\nIt can help if you're willing to start as friends—it gives him a chance to feel you out and trust you before he opens up to you completely.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Let him know he's the only one for you.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Help him feel secure by demonstrating your loyalty.\", \"描述\": \"A Taurus guy doesn't do anything by half-measures, and he needs to feel secure to really take the plunge. Reassure him that you're fully committed to a relationship with him and he will do the same.\\nOne way you can do this is by being dependable, which is a trait Taurus admires. If you say you're going to meet him for lunch at noon, be there a few minutes early—cool, calm, and collected. He'll see that you take punctuality seriously and that he's a priority for you.\\nYou're not usually one to play games, Cancer, but if you were ever tempted, the Taurus guy is not the one to start with. He can have a bit of a possessive streak, but trying to make him jealous will likely backfire.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Communicate openly and honestly.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Challenge yourself to say what you feel rather than sulking.\", \"描述\": \"This might be hard for you, Cancer, if you're prone to withdrawing into your shell when you're hurt or upset. But if you withdraw from Taurus, he'll think something is wrong—or worse, that you don't like him anymore.\\nA Taurus guy is going to want you to be clear, even analytical, about things. He approaches relationships with a logic that might sometimes seem cold to you, but don't forget that he believes love is very important. To him, though, it's so important that it can't be left up to something as fickle and fleeting as emotions.\\nLuckily, as you get closer, you'll find it easier to open up to Taurus, since he tends to be pretty open about himself as well. 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2,817 | How to Attract a Taurus Man As a Pisces Woman | 1. Lean into your feminine instincts.
Taurus is ruled by Venus, so he'll feel connected to feminine personalities.
As a Pisces, you're one of the dreamiest, most ethereal women in the zodiac. You embody a powerful feminine energy that your Taurus crush will naturally be into. When the two of you hang out together, don’t be afraid to emphasize that side of yourself, because the Taurus in your life will absolutely love it.
Take an afternoon to reconnect with nature. Go for a nice hike, do some bird watching, or visit an apple orchard.
Have an empathetic, emotionally transparent conversation.
2. Bring some magic into his life.
A super grounded Taurus may struggle to find depth in his own life.
As a Pisces woman, you’re all about spiritualism, emotion, and creativity. Your Taurus crush will love that he feels comfortable enough to open up around you. Even better, he'll love that once he has, you inspire him to become a more vulnerable and open-minded person. If you find ways to bring back the wonder, excitement, and magic that he sometimes feels he’s missing in life, you’ll have him completely hooked.
Read your favorite passage of a book to him while you stroke his hair. Then, talk to him about why the passage feels so special to you.
Take him to your favorite place in nature and help him pay attention to things he might not normally.
Help him reconnect with his inner child. Take him to the swing sets, try face painting, or make up a silly game together.
3. Welcome his emotional side.
Though he may appear reserved, a Taurus man is a passionate person.
Underneath that hard shell, these guys are soft and tender. He'll experience a super emotionally rich private life. He may have a hard time showing that side of himself to others, but there is no other sign in the zodiac more capable of teasing out his vulnerable side than a Pisces. Though it may be a slow, challenging process, he’ll be obsessed with anyone that’s able to reach his gooey, sentimental center.
Try offering a couple vulnerable truths of your own to set a precedent. This way, you already have a rapport for deep conversations.
Gently ask him thoughtful questions, allowing things to get a bit more personal with each question.
The most important step is listening without judgment. As a Pisces woman, this is definitely second nature to you.
He'll feel totally at home with you—and totally attracted to you, too.
4. Focus on touch when you’re flirting.
Taurus is one of the most sensual signs in the zodiac.
This means that when you’re trying to express something (like, for instance, that you're into him!), it’s best to communicate through touch. Any chance you get to touch his arm, sit close to him, or give him a hug will be really meaningful to your Taurus crush.
When trying to get his attention, opt for gently touching his arm over calling out his name.
If you’re at a party together, sit by him on the couch and try to make sure you’re touching. Try saying something like, “I barely know anyone here. Mind if I sit by you?”
When you greet him, consider leaning in for a hug instead of going with a standard wave.
5. Appeal to his senses.
Cooking, massages, and sensual gifts will do the trick with a Taurus.
Men of this sign are extremely in touch with the five senses. But by sending your message through physical connection, you'll be speaking his language. This may not be a totally natural way to communicate for a Pisces woman, but as compassionate and empathetic as you ladies are, you’ll probably have no issue meeting him where he’s at on this one.
Set him down for dinner with your best dish. Light some candles and set an aesthetically pleasing table.
Put on some relaxing music and ask him if he’d like a massage. He’ll be totally charmed, and he'll see how much you care.
Offer him a sweet smelling candle, a cozy blanket, or a box of chocolates to show how you feel.
6. Make him feel adored.
No matter your relationship's stage, Taurus men want to feel cared for.
Below the surface, these guys are all about finding comfortable, nurturing, and ultra-sweet relationships. If you make him feel like he’s wrapped tight in a warm blanket of affection, that’ll fulfill his dream. You’re the queen of compassion and affection, Pisces. Don't hold any tenderness back with your Taurus crush, because he'll love you for it!
Offer him a cuddle when the two of you are hanging out.
Move your schedule around so you can be at his important events.
Verbal communication may not be his strong suit, but your Taurus crush would probably still like to hear you say, "I really like you."
7. Take care of him.
As self-sufficient as he is, a Taurus man wants to be doted on, too.
The trick here is that he'll probably never ask for it. But you can trust that your Taurus crush would love to be nurtured by you anytime, any place. Pisces is naturally a super caring and intuitive sign, so this should be a snap for you.
If he’s sick, take over some soup, DVDs, and a box of tissues. He’ll be over the moon.
When he’s got a big project at work or school, he'd appreciate a treat and a sweet note to celebrate finishing up.
Emotional support can go a long way. Once you’ve gotten him to open up, be there for him when things get tough. He’ll feel super connected to you.
8. Keep things easy breezy.
Taurus men may freak out if things move too quickly.
As a Pisces woman, you’re usually cool as a cucumber in any and all romantic situations, but not all signs can be so lucky! Your Taurus crush will definitely take it slow out of the gates and wait forever to tell you how he feels. This sign thinks it would be the end of the world to say the wrong thing, so he'll keep his cards close to the chest until he's totally sure of what he wants.
If you feel like you’ve been waiting an eternity for him to finally open up, trust that when he does, it’ll be worth it.
You should also know that a Taurus wouldn't play games to keep you on the line. He’s just cautious in romance.
9. Make him feel like your one and only.
Once the two of you have communicated feelings, he’ll expect your focus to be him.
Taurus guys are notoriously serious daters. If you aren't giving him your affection and attention, this just won't compute to your Taurus crush. He’ll be expecting some level of loyalty from you for sure. But luckily, you can expect the same devotion from him, too.
Definitely don’t make any commitments to him until you’re sure.
He won’t mind if you take some time to think before diving in, but you definitely risk alienating your crush if you make a promise then go back on it.
10. Work on communication.
This romance is a work of art—but communication may be a work in progress.
If there’s any area that needs some extra elbow grease in this relationship, it’s communication. The two of you will probably be super tempted to default to nonverbal contact to solve every issue, but we all need to talk things through sometimes! It’s totally okay to do what works for you, but it’s also important to make sure you're equipped to have an honest conversation when a message thread or night on the couch just won't cut it.
Center tough conversations equally around facts and feelings. As a Pisces, you may want to linger too long on emotions, and a Taurus may not handle that well.
Give him an exit throughout the conversation. By reducing the pressure a bit, he'll find it easier to communicate well.
Expect things to move slowly. A Taurus man will take forever because he chooses his words very carefully. Be patient, and you'll be rewarded for it.
11. Trust his actions.
A Taurus will tell you how he feels through gestures.
These are the types of guys who think, why would I tell her how I feel when I could show her? To him, words are empty if they’re not backed up by observable behaviors. Taurus men also happen to get major stress from chatting things out, so conveniently, they’ll usually opt for skipping the convo all together. Instead, he'll tell you how he feels through thoughtful acts:
He'll give you special gifts.
He'll help you with tough projects.
He'll offer you his free time.
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Even better, he'll love that once he has, you inspire him to become a more vulnerable and open-minded person. If you find ways to bring back the wonder, excitement, and magic that he sometimes feels he’s missing in life, you’ll have him completely hooked.\\nRead your favorite passage of a book to him while you stroke his hair. Then, talk to him about why the passage feels so special to you.\\nTake him to your favorite place in nature and help him pay attention to things he might not normally.\\nHelp him reconnect with his inner child. Take him to the swing sets, try face painting, or make up a silly game together.\\n3. Welcome his emotional side.\\nThough he may appear reserved, a Taurus man is a passionate person.\\nUnderneath that hard shell, these guys are soft and tender. He'll experience a super emotionally rich private life. He may have a hard time showing that side of himself to others, but there is no other sign in the zodiac more capable of teasing out his vulnerable side than a Pisces. Though it may be a slow, challenging process, he’ll be obsessed with anyone that’s able to reach his gooey, sentimental center.\\nTry offering a couple vulnerable truths of your own to set a precedent. This way, you already have a rapport for deep conversations.\\nGently ask him thoughtful questions, allowing things to get a bit more personal with each question.\\nThe most important step is listening without judgment. As a Pisces woman, this is definitely second nature to you.\\nHe'll feel totally at home with you—and totally attracted to you, too.\\n4. Focus on touch when you’re flirting.\\nTaurus is one of the most sensual signs in the zodiac.\\nThis means that when you’re trying to express something (like, for instance, that you're into him!), it’s best to communicate through touch. Any chance you get to touch his arm, sit close to him, or give him a hug will be really meaningful to your Taurus crush.\\nWhen trying to get his attention, opt for gently touching his arm over calling out his name.\\nIf you’re at a party together, sit by him on the couch and try to make sure you’re touching. Try saying something like, “I barely know anyone here. Mind if I sit by you?”\\nWhen you greet him, consider leaning in for a hug instead of going with a standard wave.\\n5. Appeal to his senses.\\nCooking, massages, and sensual gifts will do the trick with a Taurus.\\nMen of this sign are extremely in touch with the five senses. But by sending your message through physical connection, you'll be speaking his language. This may not be a totally natural way to communicate for a Pisces woman, but as compassionate and empathetic as you ladies are, you’ll probably have no issue meeting him where he’s at on this one.\\nSet him down for dinner with your best dish. Light some candles and set an aesthetically pleasing table.\\nPut on some relaxing music and ask him if he’d like a massage. He’ll be totally charmed, and he'll see how much you care.\\nOffer him a sweet smelling candle, a cozy blanket, or a box of chocolates to show how you feel.\\n6. Make him feel adored.\\nNo matter your relationship's stage, Taurus men want to feel cared for.\\nBelow the surface, these guys are all about finding comfortable, nurturing, and ultra-sweet relationships. If you make him feel like he’s wrapped tight in a warm blanket of affection, that’ll fulfill his dream. You’re the queen of compassion and affection, Pisces. Don't hold any tenderness back with your Taurus crush, because he'll love you for it!\\nOffer him a cuddle when the two of you are hanging out.\\nMove your schedule around so you can be at his important events.\\nVerbal communication may not be his strong suit, but your Taurus crush would probably still like to hear you say, \\\"I really like you.\\\"\\n7. Take care of him.\\nAs self-sufficient as he is, a Taurus man wants to be doted on, too.\\nThe trick here is that he'll probably never ask for it. But you can trust that your Taurus crush would love to be nurtured by you anytime, any place. Pisces is naturally a super caring and intuitive sign, so this should be a snap for you. \\nIf he’s sick, take over some soup, DVDs, and a box of tissues. He’ll be over the moon.\\nWhen he’s got a big project at work or school, he'd appreciate a treat and a sweet note to celebrate finishing up.\\nEmotional support can go a long way. Once you’ve gotten him to open up, be there for him when things get tough. He’ll feel super connected to you.\\n8. Keep things easy breezy.\\nTaurus men may freak out if things move too quickly.\\nAs a Pisces woman, you’re usually cool as a cucumber in any and all romantic situations, but not all signs can be so lucky! Your Taurus crush will definitely take it slow out of the gates and wait forever to tell you how he feels. This sign thinks it would be the end of the world to say the wrong thing, so he'll keep his cards close to the chest until he's totally sure of what he wants. \\nIf you feel like you’ve been waiting an eternity for him to finally open up, trust that when he does, it’ll be worth it.\\nYou should also know that a Taurus wouldn't play games to keep you on the line. He’s just cautious in romance.\\n9. Make him feel like your one and only.\\nOnce the two of you have communicated feelings, he’ll expect your focus to be him.\\nTaurus guys are notoriously serious daters. 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It’s totally okay to do what works for you, but it’s also important to make sure you're equipped to have an honest conversation when a message thread or night on the couch just won't cut it.\\nCenter tough conversations equally around facts and feelings. As a Pisces, you may want to linger too long on emotions, and a Taurus may not handle that well.\\nGive him an exit throughout the conversation. By reducing the pressure a bit, he'll find it easier to communicate well.\\nExpect things to move slowly. A Taurus man will take forever because he chooses his words very carefully. Be patient, and you'll be rewarded for it.\\n11. Trust his actions.\\nA Taurus will tell you how he feels through gestures.\\nThese are the types of guys who think, why would I tell her how I feel when I could show her? To him, words are empty if they’re not backed up by observable behaviors. Taurus men also happen to get major stress from chatting things out, so conveniently, they’ll usually opt for skipping the convo all together. Instead, he'll tell you how he feels through thoughtful acts:\\nHe'll give you special gifts.\\nHe'll help you with tough projects.\\nHe'll offer you his free time.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The connection between Taurus and Pisces is absolutely gorgeous—full of warmth, mutual growth, and intense connection. If you, Pisces woman, have got your eyes on a dependable Taurus man, attracting your crush should be a piece of cake. With your natural beauty, grace, and kindness, he'll likely be totally enamored. And luckily, there are tons of easy strategies to help improve your chances even more. 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Go for a nice hike, do some bird watching, or visit an apple orchard.\\nHave an empathetic, emotionally transparent conversation.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Bring some magic into his life.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A super grounded Taurus may struggle to find depth in his own life.\", \"描述\": \"As a Pisces woman, you’re all about spiritualism, emotion, and creativity. Your Taurus crush will love that he feels comfortable enough to open up around you. Even better, he'll love that once he has, you inspire him to become a more vulnerable and open-minded person. If you find ways to bring back the wonder, excitement, and magic that he sometimes feels he’s missing in life, you’ll have him completely hooked.\\nRead your favorite passage of a book to him while you stroke his hair. Then, talk to him about why the passage feels so special to you.\\nTake him to your favorite place in nature and help him pay attention to things he might not normally.\\nHelp him reconnect with his inner child. Take him to the swing sets, try face painting, or make up a silly game together.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Welcome his emotional side.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Though he may appear reserved, a Taurus man is a passionate person.\", \"描述\": \"Underneath that hard shell, these guys are soft and tender. He'll experience a super emotionally rich private life. He may have a hard time showing that side of himself to others, but there is no other sign in the zodiac more capable of teasing out his vulnerable side than a Pisces. Though it may be a slow, challenging process, he’ll be obsessed with anyone that’s able to reach his gooey, sentimental center.\\nTry offering a couple vulnerable truths of your own to set a precedent. 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2,818 | How to Attract a Taurus Man As a Scorpio Woman (Compatibility for Taurus and Scorpio) | 1. Show off your natural sexual allure.
No one is immune to the charms of a Scorpio, Tauruses included.
You have a smoldering intensity that rarely goes unnoticed. Because of this, it’s likely that you’re already on your Taurus crush’s radar. You probably don’t need any coaching when it comes to being totally unforgettable; whether you’re a guest at the same party, blind dates, or frequents at the same coffee shop, make sure he experiences your magnetism in its full effect.
Direct that raw, sexual energy into your Taurus crush, and he’ll be hooked. Give him your full attention at a party, keeping intense eye contact while you speak.
Taurus men are obsessed with physical touch. Use this to your advantage.
Remove lint from his sweater or, if you’re sitting next to each other, let your knees touch occasionally.
2. Be mysterious with him.
A Taurus man will love trying to figure you out.
These guys aren’t usually ones for games. Typically, they want romance to be as straightforward as possible or they'll bolt. Tauruses can’t stand inauthenticity, so playing hard to get is a natural turn-off for them. However, if their crush is genuinely just a bit of a natural enigma (which is you to a T, Scorpio!), they’ll find it totally exciting—and attractive.
When the two of you are getting to know each other, ask more questions than you give answers.
If he tries to turn the conversation back to you, find a reason to step away. The more he's left wondering, the better.
As a Scorpio, you probably don’t need any help here. Your air of mystery comes naturally. As long as he sees it, he’ll be obsessed with learning more about you.
3. Flaunt your iron will.
Taurus men admire hard work, resilience, and determination in others.
You probably feel the same way. Though the two of you may set your sights on very different goals, this is still valuable common ground between two opposite signs. Taurus and Scorpio both appreciate getting things done right and getting them done solo. Here are some examples of Scorpio-esque determination that would be attractive to your Taurus crush:
Defending a friend to extreme lengths.
Staying up all night to finish a book you love or an art project you’re passionate about.
Obliterating someone in a debate.
4. Let your confidence shine through.
Scorpio women think highly of themselves, and a Taurus will love that.
It won’t take long for your Taurus crush to realize that you only keep people in your life that you feel are worth your time. Because this is a sign that loves to feel special to their partners, he’ll be overjoyed that you spend yours on him. The more he sees you value yourself, the more honored he'll feel to be around you. The better he feels around you, the more attracted he'll be!
Don’t be afraid to walk right up to him and start talking. He’ll love knowing that you aren't afraid to go after what you want.
When you've shared an opinion on something and someone disagrees, don't stand down. Show that you're confident in your beliefs, even when challenged.
5. Be empathetic with him.
When he finally opens up, a Taurus will need someone who's emotionally intuitive.
Guys of this sign are looking for a partner who can help them unpack all of their bottled up emotions, empathize with their take, and most importantly, do it all without judgment. A Taurus man may feel like he's been waiting his entire life to find the courage to express his emotions and someone who will truly accept his feelings. As an ultra-observant water sign, this likely wouldn’t be a challenge for you, Scorpio.
If he starts bringing up secret feelings, try to stay judgment free.
Support his vulnerability by asking thoughtful questions, like, “Can I ask you to give me more detail? What made you feel that way?”
Validate his feelings when you can, “Wow, that must’ve been hard. I can’t imagine how that felt.”
A Taurus man’s dream partner is accepting and emotionally intelligent. Show him that’s you, and he’ll be super into it!
6. Avoid centering every conversation around emotions.
Taurus men can’t handle relationships that are all emotions, all the time.
This is a sign that will take forever to finally share how he feels, laboring over what exactly he should say, down to each word. Though he definitely craves emotional connection and security, to chat about how he feels all the time will, very simply, leave him exhausted. Scorpios are always in the mood for emotional chats, so try to be tactful about broaching heavier topics with him.
You should definitely get to feel heard by the person you’re seeing. However, to make this a sustainable relationship for him, try picking your battles.
Plan ahead. When there’s an emotional conversation you’d like to have, let him know beforehand. This way, he won’t be caught off guard.
A Taurus will probably need time to think. If you always give him time before he responds to your admissions, you'll both be more satisfied with the relationship.
7. Keep things civil.
This couple could face major grudge matches if they're not careful.
Tauruses are considered the most stubborn sign in the zodiac. Though they're pretty hard to anger, when something strikes a chord, a Taurus may genuinely never drop the issue. A Scorpio sometimes needs to feel like her life is moving forward and stagnation is the ultimate enemy. Because of this, you may be tempted at times to lash out or rile up the slow, steady, always-even Taurus.
If you go too far, you may not be able to undo it. The two of you will be too stubborn to apologize, and that’ll be it.
Fight the urge to push him when you’re frustrated or seeking a bit of excitement. Instead, try to channel that energy into a change in work, friends, or hobbies.
8. Bond over sensual pleasures.
Taurus may be the most sensual sign, but Scorpio likely comes second.
The two of you can find major common ground by enjoying all things physical together: touch, great food, and luxury items. The two of you definitely won’t have any issues in the bedroom, as the chemistry between a Taurus and Scorpio couldn't be more electric.
Have an amazing night together at the fanciest restaurant in town. No one will understand the magic of a nice steak like you, and he’ll love that.
Gift him a sensual, luxurious gift you know he’ll love. To a Taurus, a nice tux, fancy chocolate, or an expensive bottle of wine will be huge.
9. Let him take care of you.
To a Taurus, love is all about supporting one's partner.
For men of this sign, a dream life would be hunkering down with someone they love, taking care of their partner's needs, and enjoying a slow life. You may know how to take care of yourself just fine. He’ll probably be well aware! But if you let him nurture you a bit, it’ll make the relationship even more meaningful for him.
He might want to make something for you, like a new desk, a dress, or maybe just a nice dinner. Let him. This will mean the world.
If you’ve had a long day, he might want to wrap you in a big hug to help you cool off. Make sure he knows you appreciate his affection.
10. Help him find depth in his life.
He'll admire your thoughtful nature, hoping that it rubs off on him.
Because of your differences, the two of you can really complement each other if you make that a priority. For your part, you can help the Taurus you’re dating expand his world view, get inspired, and become a more passionate person. He’ll really value this part of your relationship, so don’t hold back.
Challenge his beliefs a bit. When the two of you are discussing a complex topic, don’t be afraid to push back.
Encourage creativity in him. When he makes something functional, you could let him know you think it’s beautiful. He'll love that you put him in touch with his creativity.
Show him how passionate romance can be, leading by example. Write him love letters, dance with him in the kitchen, and let him know exactly how you feel.
11. Share mutual goals.
Both of you love growth and hard work, and this can be how you bond.
Taurus and Scorpio are both goal-oriented signs, though those goals may look very different. When the two of you enter a partnership, though, you can strengthen your relationship by working towards something together. You’ll be an inspiration to each other, and that’ll create an even closer connection.
Work on a creative but functional project. Woodworking can be a middle ground.
Cook through an entire cookbook together.
It can be anything, like fixing a car, painting a room, or fostering a cat. As long as the two of you are working together, it should deepen your connection.
12. Be loyal to each other.
To a Taurus, finding a fiercely devoted partner will be a top priority.
The only thing you know better than mystery, creativity, and passion is – you guessed it – unwavering loyalty to the people you love. This is where a Taurus and Scorpio relationship really shines, because the both of you understand what it means to really commit to your partner. Plus, the two of you value romantic love more than just about anything else.
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Typically, they want romance to be as straightforward as possible or they'll bolt. Tauruses can’t stand inauthenticity, so playing hard to get is a natural turn-off for them. However, if their crush is genuinely just a bit of a natural enigma (which is you to a T, Scorpio!), they’ll find it totally exciting—and attractive.\\nWhen the two of you are getting to know each other, ask more questions than you give answers.\\nIf he tries to turn the conversation back to you, find a reason to step away. The more he's left wondering, the better.\\nAs a Scorpio, you probably don’t need any help here. Your air of mystery comes naturally. As long as he sees it, he’ll be obsessed with learning more about you.\\n3. Flaunt your iron will.\\nTaurus men admire hard work, resilience, and determination in others.\\nYou probably feel the same way. Though the two of you may set your sights on very different goals, this is still valuable common ground between two opposite signs. Taurus and Scorpio both appreciate getting things done right and getting them done solo. Here are some examples of Scorpio-esque determination that would be attractive to your Taurus crush:\\nDefending a friend to extreme lengths.\\nStaying up all night to finish a book you love or an art project you’re passionate about.\\nObliterating someone in a debate.\\n4. Let your confidence shine through.\\nScorpio women think highly of themselves, and a Taurus will love that.\\nIt won’t take long for your Taurus crush to realize that you only keep people in your life that you feel are worth your time. Because this is a sign that loves to feel special to their partners, he’ll be overjoyed that you spend yours on him. The more he sees you value yourself, the more honored he'll feel to be around you. The better he feels around you, the more attracted he'll be!\\nDon’t be afraid to walk right up to him and start talking. 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When there’s an emotional conversation you’d like to have, let him know beforehand. This way, he won’t be caught off guard.\\nA Taurus will probably need time to think. If you always give him time before he responds to your admissions, you'll both be more satisfied with the relationship.\\n7. Keep things civil.\\nThis couple could face major grudge matches if they're not careful.\\nTauruses are considered the most stubborn sign in the zodiac. Though they're pretty hard to anger, when something strikes a chord, a Taurus may genuinely never drop the issue. A Scorpio sometimes needs to feel like her life is moving forward and stagnation is the ultimate enemy. Because of this, you may be tempted at times to lash out or rile up the slow, steady, always-even Taurus.\\nIf you go too far, you may not be able to undo it. The two of you will be too stubborn to apologize, and that’ll be it.\\nFight the urge to push him when you’re frustrated or seeking a bit of excitement. Instead, try to channel that energy into a change in work, friends, or hobbies.\\n8. Bond over sensual pleasures.\\nTaurus may be the most sensual sign, but Scorpio likely comes second.\\nThe two of you can find major common ground by enjoying all things physical together: touch, great food, and luxury items. The two of you definitely won’t have any issues in the bedroom, as the chemistry between a Taurus and Scorpio couldn't be more electric.\\nHave an amazing night together at the fanciest restaurant in town. No one will understand the magic of a nice steak like you, and he’ll love that.\\nGift him a sensual, luxurious gift you know he’ll love. To a Taurus, a nice tux, fancy chocolate, or an expensive bottle of wine will be huge.\\n9. Let him take care of you.\\nTo a Taurus, love is all about supporting one's partner.\\nFor men of this sign, a dream life would be hunkering down with someone they love, taking care of their partner's needs, and enjoying a slow life. You may know how to take care of yourself just fine. He’ll probably be well aware! But if you let him nurture you a bit, it’ll make the relationship even more meaningful for him.\\nHe might want to make something for you, like a new desk, a dress, or maybe just a nice dinner. Let him. This will mean the world.\\nIf you’ve had a long day, he might want to wrap you in a big hug to help you cool off. Make sure he knows you appreciate his affection.\\n10. Help him find depth in his life.\\nHe'll admire your thoughtful nature, hoping that it rubs off on him.\\nBecause of your differences, the two of you can really complement each other if you make that a priority. For your part, you can help the Taurus you’re dating expand his world view, get inspired, and become a more passionate person. He’ll really value this part of your relationship, so don’t hold back.\\nChallenge his beliefs a bit. When the two of you are discussing a complex topic, don’t be afraid to push back.\\nEncourage creativity in him. When he makes something functional, you could let him know you think it’s beautiful. He'll love that you put him in touch with his creativity.\\nShow him how passionate romance can be, leading by example. Write him love letters, dance with him in the kitchen, and let him know exactly how you feel.\\n11. Share mutual goals.\\nBoth of you love growth and hard work, and this can be how you bond.\\nTaurus and Scorpio are both goal-oriented signs, though those goals may look very different. When the two of you enter a partnership, though, you can strengthen your relationship by working towards something together. You’ll be an inspiration to each other, and that’ll create an even closer connection.\\nWork on a creative but functional project. Woodworking can be a middle ground.\\nCook through an entire cookbook together.\\nIt can be anything, like fixing a car, painting a room, or fostering a cat. As long as the two of you are working together, it should deepen your connection.\\n12. Be loyal to each other.\\nTo a Taurus, finding a fiercely devoted partner will be a top priority.\\nThe only thing you know better than mystery, creativity, and passion is – you guessed it – unwavering loyalty to the people you love. This is where a Taurus and Scorpio relationship really shines, because the both of you understand what it means to really commit to your partner. Plus, the two of you value romantic love more than just about anything else.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A Scorpio seeks dependability and devotion in love, which is second nature to Taurus men. If you're looking for ways to attract a Taurus crush, that makes a lot of sense. Scorpio and Taurus are actually opposite signs, meaning that this couple is the definition of \\\"opposites attract.\\\" From the get-go, you and your Taurus crush will likely experience completely mind-blowing sparks and chemistry. You've got the tools to charm him already, like confidence, passion, and loyalty; with a little direction, all of that Scorpio magic will be impossible for him to resist. For the absolute best tips on how to attract a Taurus man as a Scorpio woman, read on. This article is based on an interview with our astrologer and performance artist, Angel Eyedealism. Check out the full interview here.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Show off your natural sexual allure.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"No one is immune to the charms of a Scorpio, Tauruses included.\", \"描述\": \"You have a smoldering intensity that rarely goes unnoticed. Because of this, it’s likely that you’re already on your Taurus crush’s radar. You probably don’t need any coaching when it comes to being totally unforgettable; whether you’re a guest at the same party, blind dates, or frequents at the same coffee shop, make sure he experiences your magnetism in its full effect.\\nDirect that raw, sexual energy into your Taurus crush, and he’ll be hooked. Give him your full attention at a party, keeping intense eye contact while you speak.\\nTaurus men are obsessed with physical touch. Use this to your advantage.\\nRemove lint from his sweater or, if you’re sitting next to each other, let your knees touch occasionally.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be mysterious with him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A Taurus man will love trying to figure you out.\", \"描述\": \"These guys aren’t usually ones for games. Typically, they want romance to be as straightforward as possible or they'll bolt. Tauruses can’t stand inauthenticity, so playing hard to get is a natural turn-off for them. However, if their crush is genuinely just a bit of a natural enigma (which is you to a T, Scorpio!), they’ll find it totally exciting—and attractive.\\nWhen the two of you are getting to know each other, ask more questions than you give answers.\\nIf he tries to turn the conversation back to you, find a reason to step away. The more he's left wondering, the better.\\nAs a Scorpio, you probably don’t need any help here. Your air of mystery comes naturally. As long as he sees it, he’ll be obsessed with learning more about you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Flaunt your iron will.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Taurus men admire hard work, resilience, and determination in others.\", \"描述\": \"You probably feel the same way. Though the two of you may set your sights on very different goals, this is still valuable common ground between two opposite signs. Taurus and Scorpio both appreciate getting things done right and getting them done solo. Here are some examples of Scorpio-esque determination that would be attractive to your Taurus crush:\\nDefending a friend to extreme lengths.\\nStaying up all night to finish a book you love or an art project you’re passionate about.\\nObliterating someone in a debate.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Let your confidence shine through.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Scorpio women think highly of themselves, and a Taurus will love that.\", \"描述\": \"It won’t take long for your Taurus crush to realize that you only keep people in your life that you feel are worth your time. Because this is a sign that loves to feel special to their partners, he’ll be overjoyed that you spend yours on him. The more he sees you value yourself, the more honored he'll feel to be around you. The better he feels around you, the more attracted he'll be!\\nDon’t be afraid to walk right up to him and start talking. He’ll love knowing that you aren't afraid to go after what you want.\\nWhen you've shared an opinion on something and someone disagrees, don't stand down. Show that you're confident in your beliefs, even when challenged.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be empathetic with him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"When he finally opens up, a Taurus will need someone who's emotionally intuitive.\", \"描述\": \"Guys of this sign are looking for a partner who can help them unpack all of their bottled up emotions, empathize with their take, and most importantly, do it all without judgment. A Taurus man may feel like he's been waiting his entire life to find the courage to express his emotions and someone who will truly accept his feelings. As an ultra-observant water sign, this likely wouldn’t be a challenge for you, Scorpio.\\nIf he starts bringing up secret feelings, try to stay judgment free.\\nSupport his vulnerability by asking thoughtful questions, like, “Can I ask you to give me more detail? What made you feel that way?”\\nValidate his feelings when you can, “Wow, that must’ve been hard. I can’t imagine how that felt.”\\nA Taurus man’s dream partner is accepting and emotionally intelligent. Show him that’s you, and he’ll be super into it!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Avoid centering every conversation around emotions.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Taurus men can’t handle relationships that are all emotions, all the time.\", \"描述\": \"This is a sign that will take forever to finally share how he feels, laboring over what exactly he should say, down to each word. Though he definitely craves emotional connection and security, to chat about how he feels all the time will, very simply, leave him exhausted. Scorpios are always in the mood for emotional chats, so try to be tactful about broaching heavier topics with him.\\nYou should definitely get to feel heard by the person you’re seeing. However, to make this a sustainable relationship for him, try picking your battles.\\nPlan ahead. When there’s an emotional conversation you’d like to have, let him know beforehand. This way, he won’t be caught off guard.\\nA Taurus will probably need time to think. If you always give him time before he responds to your admissions, you'll both be more satisfied with the relationship.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Keep things civil.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This couple could face major grudge matches if they're not careful.\", \"描述\": \"Tauruses are considered the most stubborn sign in the zodiac. Though they're pretty hard to anger, when something strikes a chord, a Taurus may genuinely never drop the issue. A Scorpio sometimes needs to feel like her life is moving forward and stagnation is the ultimate enemy. Because of this, you may be tempted at times to lash out or rile up the slow, steady, always-even Taurus.\\nIf you go too far, you may not be able to undo it. 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2,819 | How to Attract a Taurus Man As an Aries Woman | 1. Save all your flirtiness for him.
More than any other sign, Taurus men need loyalty in love.
To snag a Taurus, you’ll definitely have to resist your urge to play the field, which might be a bit of a challenge. Aries women are the queens of flirtation, drawing in just about anyone with a bright personality and loads of confidence. However, Taurus men get insanely jealous; even in the early stages, if you flirt with other people, he could very easily hit the road.
More than anything, try to avoid flirting with someone directly in front of him.
Try to channel all of your flirty energy into your conversations with your Taurus crush.
You can never overemphasize your interest to a Taurus. Plus, by choosing to flirt with him and only him, you'll avoid accidentally driving him away.
2. Keep the games to a minimum.
Even in romance an Aries loves to win, but a Taurus won’t tolerate games.
These guys, though, genuinely won’t deal with anything but straight-shooting. Playing hard to get and making him jealous could mean game over with your Taurus crush. This isn't a sign that will keep chasing someone who doesn't seem interested. He'd be much more likely to walk away.
As an Aries, you may feel like working hard, getting competitive, and trying to "win," even when it comes to love. Channel your competitive spirit into playing by his rules instead of playing your own game.
This could be an exciting challenge in itself. Focus on really listening to his take, practicing patience with him, and letting things move slowly.
3. Be your charming, confident self.
To a Taurus, bold personalities are the most exciting thing imaginable.
You definitely don't need to worry about getting his attention. With your lively personality, he'll probably feel an immediate spark with you. The more you lean into all of that natural, Aries-esque charisma, the more effect you'll have.
Be the first to hit the dance floor at a party.
Arrive dressed in your favorite bold look.
Feel free to walk right up to him and start asking questions. Your Taurus crush will find you totally exciting—and attractive.
4. Bring on the adventure.
Taurus men crave excitement but may have trouble finding it themselves.
Aries women, on the other hand, couldn't avoid life's thrills even if they wanted to. With every concert, rock-climbing class, and dance party you drag your Taurus crush too, you'll be showing him that being with you means constant adventure. He may be hesitant at first, but eventually, you'll have him totally obsessed with all of the fun you add to his life.
Send a last minute text asking him to join you on an impromptu road trip.
Without warning, stop by his house when you're in the area. Ask him if he'd like to join you for a quick adventure.
Plan a scavenger hunt around the city for him. He'll probably love getting to have so much fun right by your side.
5. Focus on your physical connection.
For an Aries and a Taurus, sexual chemistry will come naturally.
Both of these two signs love bringing on the passion in the bedroom, and a Taurus man is definitely equipped to impress. You're both usually considered generous lovers, so you two are bound to have an amazing time getting intimate. Once he experiences the fireworks with you, he'll likely have a very hard time thinking of anything else.
A Taurus is very sensual.
6. Flaunt your independence.
Taurus men admire self-sufficiency, and that’s definitely you, Aries!
You’ve got energy and industrious spirit out of your ears. There’s probably no home-improvement project, new skills, or personal problem you don’t feel equipped to handle all on your own. You're happiest spending Sundays solo, getting stuff done. To a Taurus, this will be an irresistible quality in you.
Don't be afraid to talk about your accomplishments. An evolved Taurus won't feel threatened by his love interest's success. He'll think it's hot!
Show off the new wallpaper you put up yourself the next time he's over. You could even offer to help with his future projects.
7. Show him how honest you are.
Aries and Taurus both value telling the truth, no matter what.
It'll be super meaningful to a Taurus when he realizes that you value honesty just as much as he does. Try to avoid giving your take without at least a little tact, though. When you share your frank, unfiltered opinions in front of your Taurus crush, try to keep in mind that there's a real person with real feelings on the receiving end. Taurus is a kind-hearted sign, so he'll appreciate your courtesy.
If he asks you what you think of his new shirt, be honest but gentle.
Be upfront about how you're feeling. A Taurus definitely likes things a certain way, but if you disagree with him, being honest will soften the blow.
For example, if you want to keep dating other people at the start of your flirtation-ship, he's more likely to stay if you are honest about that.
8. Get comfy on the couch.
To a Taurus, a perfect date means comfort, cuddling, and lots of snacks.
A Taurus is fond of food. Though, for you, he'll definitely mix up his go-to routine by joining you on all your wacky adventures, you'll need to go at his speed sometimes, too. You might find this a bit boring, but to find common ground with your Taurus crush, you'll need to get comfortable staying in every now and again.
Try to find a balance with him. You could offer one chill session of his choosing per every wild adventure he's dragged on.
As an Aries, you probably care a ton about the people around you getting everything they want.
Try to keep in mind that even though it might bore you, your Taurus crush is having the time of his life watching Property Brothers and Bones with you.
9. Move at his speed when you can.
To a Taurus, taking things slow will be non-negotiable.
Aries are about the now, always looking for ways to move forward. For this reason, you may be tempted to nudge him along while you're getting to know each other. But the truth is, though a Taurus can compromise in many areas of your relationship, his pace will not be one of them.
While your Taurus crush it taking it slow, try using that time to really reflect on how you feel about the relationship, too.
The Taurus and Scorpio relationship often goes the long, serious route. Use this time to get a read on how you really feeling before diving in.
Try journaling. Or, ask yourself important questions, like, "What am I really looking for from this? Do I have the bandwidth to commit to someone right now?"
10. Focus on teaching each other.
You two have totally different skill sets, and this can be a blessing.
Making this relationship work long term will completely depend on your ability to look at your differences in a positive light. Your Taurus crush's meandering pace and traditional values may bother you. Just the same, your impulsivity and occasional hot-headedness may sometimes rub him the wrong way. But remember, your contrasting strengths can help balance each other out!
Taurus people are very practical. A Taurus can teach you to think things through. He can teach you to resist your need for instant gratification and wait for a bigger payoff.
You can teach a Taurus to throw caution to the wind and finally have some fun. You can show him how to follow his heart a bit more in his day to day.
To stay happy with your favorite Taurus, you've got to find ways to appreciate him for who he is. By becoming positive influences on each other, you'll have the tools for a long, healthy connection.
11. Channel your can-do attitude into your relationship.
When an Aries wants something, they're sure to make it happen.
When dating a Taurus, there will definitely be a few obstacles to overcome. But you're not afraid of a challenge! Try to see building a gorgeous, deep connection with your Taurus crush as your next big project.
Commit to spending one night a week strengthen your connection. Choose a fun or intimate activity to do together, like a candlelit dinner, a volunteering sesh, or a night of bowling.
Try to show appreciation for him as often as possible. If he does the dishes, fixes a shelf, or listens to your problem at work, try finding a meaningful way to say thanks (like doing something for him, getting him a treat, or just telling him you appreciate his efforts!)
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Keep the games to a minimum.\\nEven in romance an Aries loves to win, but a Taurus won’t tolerate games.\\nThese guys, though, genuinely won’t deal with anything but straight-shooting. Playing hard to get and making him jealous could mean game over with your Taurus crush. This isn't a sign that will keep chasing someone who doesn't seem interested. He'd be much more likely to walk away.\\nAs an Aries, you may feel like working hard, getting competitive, and trying to \\\"win,\\\" even when it comes to love. Channel your competitive spirit into playing by his rules instead of playing your own game.\\nThis could be an exciting challenge in itself. Focus on really listening to his take, practicing patience with him, and letting things move slowly.\\n3. Be your charming, confident self.\\nTo a Taurus, bold personalities are the most exciting thing imaginable.\\nYou definitely don't need to worry about getting his attention. With your lively personality, he'll probably feel an immediate spark with you. The more you lean into all of that natural, Aries-esque charisma, the more effect you'll have.\\nBe the first to hit the dance floor at a party.\\nArrive dressed in your favorite bold look.\\nFeel free to walk right up to him and start asking questions. Your Taurus crush will find you totally exciting—and attractive.\\n4. Bring on the adventure.\\nTaurus men crave excitement but may have trouble finding it themselves.\\nAries women, on the other hand, couldn't avoid life's thrills even if they wanted to. With every concert, rock-climbing class, and dance party you drag your Taurus crush too, you'll be showing him that being with you means constant adventure. He may be hesitant at first, but eventually, you'll have him totally obsessed with all of the fun you add to his life.\\nSend a last minute text asking him to join you on an impromptu road trip.\\nWithout warning, stop by his house when you're in the area. Ask him if he'd like to join you for a quick adventure.\\nPlan a scavenger hunt around the city for him. He'll probably love getting to have so much fun right by your side.\\n5. Focus on your physical connection.\\nFor an Aries and a Taurus, sexual chemistry will come naturally.\\nBoth of these two signs love bringing on the passion in the bedroom, and a Taurus man is definitely equipped to impress. You're both usually considered generous lovers, so you two are bound to have an amazing time getting intimate. Once he experiences the fireworks with you, he'll likely have a very hard time thinking of anything else.\\nA Taurus is very sensual.\\n6. Flaunt your independence.\\nTaurus men admire self-sufficiency, and that’s definitely you, Aries!\\nYou’ve got energy and industrious spirit out of your ears. There’s probably no home-improvement project, new skills, or personal problem you don’t feel equipped to handle all on your own. You're happiest spending Sundays solo, getting stuff done. To a Taurus, this will be an irresistible quality in you.\\nDon't be afraid to talk about your accomplishments. An evolved Taurus won't feel threatened by his love interest's success. He'll think it's hot!\\nShow off the new wallpaper you put up yourself the next time he's over. You could even offer to help with his future projects.\\n7. Show him how honest you are.\\nAries and Taurus both value telling the truth, no matter what.\\nIt'll be super meaningful to a Taurus when he realizes that you value honesty just as much as he does. Try to avoid giving your take without at least a little tact, though. When you share your frank, unfiltered opinions in front of your Taurus crush, try to keep in mind that there's a real person with real feelings on the receiving end. Taurus is a kind-hearted sign, so he'll appreciate your courtesy.\\nIf he asks you what you think of his new shirt, be honest but gentle.\\nBe upfront about how you're feeling. A Taurus definitely likes things a certain way, but if you disagree with him, being honest will soften the blow.\\nFor example, if you want to keep dating other people at the start of your flirtation-ship, he's more likely to stay if you are honest about that.\\n8. Get comfy on the couch.\\nTo a Taurus, a perfect date means comfort, cuddling, and lots of snacks.\\nA Taurus is fond of food. Though, for you, he'll definitely mix up his go-to routine by joining you on all your wacky adventures, you'll need to go at his speed sometimes, too. You might find this a bit boring, but to find common ground with your Taurus crush, you'll need to get comfortable staying in every now and again.\\nTry to find a balance with him. You could offer one chill session of his choosing per every wild adventure he's dragged on.\\nAs an Aries, you probably care a ton about the people around you getting everything they want.\\nTry to keep in mind that even though it might bore you, your Taurus crush is having the time of his life watching Property Brothers and Bones with you.\\n9. Move at his speed when you can.\\nTo a Taurus, taking things slow will be non-negotiable.\\nAries are about the now, always looking for ways to move forward. For this reason, you may be tempted to nudge him along while you're getting to know each other. But the truth is, though a Taurus can compromise in many areas of your relationship, his pace will not be one of them.\\nWhile your Taurus crush it taking it slow, try using that time to really reflect on how you feel about the relationship, too.\\nThe Taurus and Scorpio relationship often goes the long, serious route. Use this time to get a read on how you really feeling before diving in.\\nTry journaling. Or, ask yourself important questions, like, \\\"What am I really looking for from this? Do I have the bandwidth to commit to someone right now?\\\"\\n10. Focus on teaching each other.\\nYou two have totally different skill sets, and this can be a blessing.\\nMaking this relationship work long term will completely depend on your ability to look at your differences in a positive light. Your Taurus crush's meandering pace and traditional values may bother you. Just the same, your impulsivity and occasional hot-headedness may sometimes rub him the wrong way. But remember, your contrasting strengths can help balance each other out!\\nTaurus people are very practical. A Taurus can teach you to think things through. He can teach you to resist your need for instant gratification and wait for a bigger payoff.\\nYou can teach a Taurus to throw caution to the wind and finally have some fun. You can show him how to follow his heart a bit more in his day to day.\\nTo stay happy with your favorite Taurus, you've got to find ways to appreciate him for who he is. By becoming positive influences on each other, you'll have the tools for a long, healthy connection.\\n11. Channel your can-do attitude into your relationship.\\nWhen an Aries wants something, they're sure to make it happen.\\nWhen dating a Taurus, there will definitely be a few obstacles to overcome. But you're not afraid of a challenge! Try to see building a gorgeous, deep connection with your Taurus crush as your next big project.\\nCommit to spending one night a week strengthen your connection. Choose a fun or intimate activity to do together, like a candlelit dinner, a volunteering sesh, or a night of bowling.\\nTry to show appreciation for him as often as possible. If he does the dishes, fixes a shelf, or listens to your problem at work, try finding a meaningful way to say thanks (like doing something for him, getting him a treat, or just telling him you appreciate his efforts!)\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"As an Aries woman, you're like a shot of espresso to the people close to you. With your energy, charm, and overall luminous spirit, you have all the tools you need to win the attention of your Taurus crush. The grounded, meticulous Taurus is a pretty stark contrast to your fiery, bold nature, but if you put in the work, this can be relationship filled with growth and beauty. Luckily, there are so many strategies that can help you catch his eye and enjoy all that your Taurus crush has to offer. As an Aries, there's nothing you can't achieve if you put your mind to it! Read on for all the best tips to attract a Taurus man as an Aries woman.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Save all your flirtiness for him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"More than any other sign, Taurus men need loyalty in love.\", \"描述\": \"To snag a Taurus, you’ll definitely have to resist your urge to play the field, which might be a bit of a challenge. Aries women are the queens of flirtation, drawing in just about anyone with a bright personality and loads of confidence. However, Taurus men get insanely jealous; even in the early stages, if you flirt with other people, he could very easily hit the road.\\nMore than anything, try to avoid flirting with someone directly in front of him.\\nTry to channel all of your flirty energy into your conversations with your Taurus crush.\\nYou can never overemphasize your interest to a Taurus. Plus, by choosing to flirt with him and only him, you'll avoid accidentally driving him away.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep the games to a minimum.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Even in romance an Aries loves to win, but a Taurus won’t tolerate games.\", \"描述\": \"These guys, though, genuinely won’t deal with anything but straight-shooting. Playing hard to get and making him jealous could mean game over with your Taurus crush. This isn't a sign that will keep chasing someone who doesn't seem interested. He'd be much more likely to walk away.\\nAs an Aries, you may feel like working hard, getting competitive, and trying to \\\"win,\\\" even when it comes to love. Channel your competitive spirit into playing by his rules instead of playing your own game.\\nThis could be an exciting challenge in itself. Focus on really listening to his take, practicing patience with him, and letting things move slowly.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be your charming, confident self.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"To a Taurus, bold personalities are the most exciting thing imaginable.\", \"描述\": \"You definitely don't need to worry about getting his attention. With your lively personality, he'll probably feel an immediate spark with you. The more you lean into all of that natural, Aries-esque charisma, the more effect you'll have.\\nBe the first to hit the dance floor at a party.\\nArrive dressed in your favorite bold look.\\nFeel free to walk right up to him and start asking questions. Your Taurus crush will find you totally exciting—and attractive.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Bring on the adventure.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Taurus men crave excitement but may have trouble finding it themselves.\", \"描述\": \"Aries women, on the other hand, couldn't avoid life's thrills even if they wanted to. With every concert, rock-climbing class, and dance party you drag your Taurus crush too, you'll be showing him that being with you means constant adventure. He may be hesitant at first, but eventually, you'll have him totally obsessed with all of the fun you add to his life.\\nSend a last minute text asking him to join you on an impromptu road trip.\\nWithout warning, stop by his house when you're in the area. Ask him if he'd like to join you for a quick adventure.\\nPlan a scavenger hunt around the city for him. He'll probably love getting to have so much fun right by your side.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Focus on your physical connection.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"For an Aries and a Taurus, sexual chemistry will come naturally.\", \"描述\": \"Both of these two signs love bringing on the passion in the bedroom, and a Taurus man is definitely equipped to impress. You're both usually considered generous lovers, so you two are bound to have an amazing time getting intimate. Once he experiences the fireworks with you, he'll likely have a very hard time thinking of anything else.\\nA Taurus is very sensual.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Flaunt your independence.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Taurus men admire self-sufficiency, and that’s definitely you, Aries!\", \"描述\": \"You’ve got energy and industrious spirit out of your ears. There’s probably no home-improvement project, new skills, or personal problem you don’t feel equipped to handle all on your own. You're happiest spending Sundays solo, getting stuff done. To a Taurus, this will be an irresistible quality in you.\\nDon't be afraid to talk about your accomplishments. An evolved Taurus won't feel threatened by his love interest's success. He'll think it's hot!\\nShow off the new wallpaper you put up yourself the next time he's over. You could even offer to help with his future projects.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Show him how honest you are.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries and Taurus both value telling the truth, no matter what.\", \"描述\": \"It'll be super meaningful to a Taurus when he realizes that you value honesty just as much as he does. Try to avoid giving your take without at least a little tact, though. When you share your frank, unfiltered opinions in front of your Taurus crush, try to keep in mind that there's a real person with real feelings on the receiving end. Taurus is a kind-hearted sign, so he'll appreciate your courtesy.\\nIf he asks you what you think of his new shirt, be honest but gentle.\\nBe upfront about how you're feeling. A Taurus definitely likes things a certain way, but if you disagree with him, being honest will soften the blow.\\nFor example, if you want to keep dating other people at the start of your flirtation-ship, he's more likely to stay if you are honest about that.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Get comfy on the couch.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"To a Taurus, a perfect date means comfort, cuddling, and lots of snacks.\", \"描述\": \"A Taurus is fond of food. Though, for you, he'll definitely mix up his go-to routine by joining you on all your wacky adventures, you'll need to go at his speed sometimes, too. You might find this a bit boring, but to find common ground with your Taurus crush, you'll need to get comfortable staying in every now and again.\\nTry to find a balance with him. You could offer one chill session of his choosing per every wild adventure he's dragged on.\\nAs an Aries, you probably care a ton about the people around you getting everything they want.\\nTry to keep in mind that even though it might bore you, your Taurus crush is having the time of his life watching Property Brothers and Bones with you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Move at his speed when you can.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"To a Taurus, taking things slow will be non-negotiable.\", \"描述\": \"Aries are about the now, always looking for ways to move forward. For this reason, you may be tempted to nudge him along while you're getting to know each other. But the truth is, though a Taurus can compromise in many areas of your relationship, his pace will not be one of them.\\nWhile your Taurus crush it taking it slow, try using that time to really reflect on how you feel about the relationship, too.\\nThe Taurus and Scorpio relationship often goes the long, serious route. Use this time to get a read on how you really feeling before diving in.\\nTry journaling. Or, ask yourself important questions, like, \\\"What am I really looking for from this? Do I have the bandwidth to commit to someone right now?\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Focus on teaching each other.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You two have totally different skill sets, and this can be a blessing.\", \"描述\": \"Making this relationship work long term will completely depend on your ability to look at your differences in a positive light. Your Taurus crush's meandering pace and traditional values may bother you. Just the same, your impulsivity and occasional hot-headedness may sometimes rub him the wrong way. But remember, your contrasting strengths can help balance each other out!\\nTaurus people are very practical. A Taurus can teach you to think things through. 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2,820 | How to Attract a Taurus Man Long Distance | 1. Keep your messages friendly at first.
Taurus guys like to take their time in relationships.
Respect his boundaries by keeping things polite and friendly until he initiates more. Feel free to flirt, but keep your flirts clean and classy. He'll withdraw if your messages get too risque, but your Taurus will enjoy a sweet and subtle comment here and there.
Talk about things you have in common to start off. Focus on more practical things, as a Taurus is very down-to-earth.
Ask fun and easy questions to catch his interest. Bring up his favorite hobbies, or compare television shows you both like.
2. Talk about food.
The way to a Taurus man's heart is through his stomach.
Snap a picture of your best homemade meals and send him a text about it, or suggest swapping recipes with him. You could even have a dinner date using each other's recipes. Good food and culinary skills are sure to impress him!
Plan a time to cook with one another over a video call. Your Taurus loves the warmth and comforts of home, so he won't mind long-distance dates. Cooking and dining at his own table is more fun than a night out to him!
3. Compliment him.
Admire your Taurus's steadfast loyalty, good looks, and sweet nature.
Figure out the parts of him that you like the most, and text him with a thoughtful compliment. He wants to feel appreciated by his significant other—especially when those compliments are detailed and specific.
"I saw the picture you posted on Instagram today! You looked so cute in that sweater. 😉"
"They say long distance is hard, but it's easy to be with someone so kind and reliable! You're the best."
Tauruses can sense dishonesty, so make sure all of your compliments are genuine.
4. Send him attractive selfies.
Ruled by Venus, Taurus men have an eye for beauty.
He wants to see you looking your best as much as he wants to talk to you. While you can't see him in person, you can send flattering photos of yourself to catch his interest. Your Taurus will love elegant selfies with your hair, makeup (if you wear it), and clothes all perfectly in place.
Send him a text along the lines of, "Check out this new outfit I just bought! What do you think?" or a selfie with you and your pet reading, "We're all cozied up on this rainy afternoon! 😊"
Wear fitted clothes that complement your body and incorporate earthy colors like green and blue. As an earth sign, he'll find those more visually pleasing.
Taurus guys tend to be more conservative, so refrain from sending nudes or revealing photos. He might express interest in steamier texts but keep it simple until then and leave something to his imagination.
5. Show off your successes.
Taurus guys particularly value material success.
If you're doing well financially, make sure to acknowledge it when talking to him. You don't have to use a ton of detail—just mention your success and talk about your best money-saving habits to impress him. Tell him a little about your career and ambitions, too, so that he knows you're driven and sensible.
Taurus guys also have a taste for the finer things, so you don't have to act like you're frugal all the time. Just show him that you have good judgment and know how to tell a quality purchase from an unnecessary one.
6. Support his goals and aspirations.
This sign works hard and appreciates recognition for his efforts.
If he texts you about a busy work week, send him an encouraging message. When he gets a promotion or scores his dream job, send a congratulatory text to make him feel special. If he needs to vent, offer to lend an ear. Someone who cares for him that much will definitely be relationship material to a Taurus guy!
"Good luck at work today! Not that you need it—you're the hardest worker I know. ♥️"
"If you're ever having a tough time, I've got your back. We can talk, or I can just listen. Either way, wanted you to know that I care."
7. Send him a homemade gift.
He's very physical and loves gifts that engage all of his senses.
Send something simple but heartfelt that appeals to his sensual nature. Smell, taste, touch, sight, and hearing are all important. You might be far apart, but with a little creativity, you can delight him from miles away.
You could send him a home-cooked snack and entice him with the smell and taste of good food.
Write him a letter and spray it with a signature scent that will make him think of you whenever he smells it.
Speak in a soft, smooth tone and leave him a voice message that he can listen to whenever he misses you.
8. Open up to him.
Vulnerability is hard for a Taurus, so let him get to know you better first.
Be vulnerable with him and share personal details that let him see the real you. When he's serious about a relationship, he wants to feel totally comfortable with his significant other. Taking the initiative and letting your guard down first will show your Taurus that it's safe for him to do the same.
Tell him stories about your childhood that you would only tell a close friend and confide in him when you need to vent.
A Taurus guy can come off as logical and analytical at first, but deep down, he's passionate about love and relationships. As you get closer, it'll be easier for both of you to be vulnerable with one another.
9. Stay exclusive from the start.
Taurus guys are extremely loyal and don't like competition.
Once you start chatting with a Taurus guy, make it clear that you're not talking to anybody else. Your Taurus guy is as good as his word: he won't stray or play the field. Do the same and be exclusive to attract his attention and earn his trust!
10. Be available and dependable.
A stubborn Taurus doesn't like playing hard-to-get.
Make the relationship feel easy by answering his calls, responding to his messages, and reaching out to him when you say you will. Taurus guys can be a bit lazy, and they won't put effort into a long-distance relationship that makes them jump through hoops or chase you down.
Figure out the best times to call, text, and Facetime together and make a plan. Your Taurus loves to stick to a schedule, so part of being dependable is deciding when and how you'll keep in touch.
11. Be honest with him.
A sincere Taurus needs total honesty from his significant other.
Staying truthful is how you build trust, which is critical for maintaining a long-distance relationship. A Taurus guy is prone to jealousy, especially when he can't see you in person, but honesty about every aspect of your life will help him relax and commit to the relationship.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Keep your messages friendly at first.\\nTaurus guys like to take their time in relationships.\\nRespect his boundaries by keeping things polite and friendly until he initiates more. Feel free to flirt, but keep your flirts clean and classy. He'll withdraw if your messages get too risque, but your Taurus will enjoy a sweet and subtle comment here and there.\\nTalk about things you have in common to start off. Focus on more practical things, as a Taurus is very down-to-earth.\\nAsk fun and easy questions to catch his interest. Bring up his favorite hobbies, or compare television shows you both like.\\n2. Talk about food.\\nThe way to a Taurus man's heart is through his stomach.\\nSnap a picture of your best homemade meals and send him a text about it, or suggest swapping recipes with him. You could even have a dinner date using each other's recipes. Good food and culinary skills are sure to impress him!\\nPlan a time to cook with one another over a video call. Your Taurus loves the warmth and comforts of home, so he won't mind long-distance dates. Cooking and dining at his own table is more fun than a night out to him!\\n3. Compliment him.\\nAdmire your Taurus's steadfast loyalty, good looks, and sweet nature.\\nFigure out the parts of him that you like the most, and text him with a thoughtful compliment. He wants to feel appreciated by his significant other—especially when those compliments are detailed and specific.\\n\\\"I saw the picture you posted on Instagram today! You looked so cute in that sweater. 😉\\\"\\n\\\"They say long distance is hard, but it's easy to be with someone so kind and reliable! You're the best.\\\"\\nTauruses can sense dishonesty, so make sure all of your compliments are genuine.\\n4. Send him attractive selfies.\\nRuled by Venus, Taurus men have an eye for beauty.\\nHe wants to see you looking your best as much as he wants to talk to you. While you can't see him in person, you can send flattering photos of yourself to catch his interest. Your Taurus will love elegant selfies with your hair, makeup (if you wear it), and clothes all perfectly in place.\\nSend him a text along the lines of, \\\"Check out this new outfit I just bought! What do you think?\\\" or a selfie with you and your pet reading, \\\"We're all cozied up on this rainy afternoon! 😊\\\"\\nWear fitted clothes that complement your body and incorporate earthy colors like green and blue. As an earth sign, he'll find those more visually pleasing.\\nTaurus guys tend to be more conservative, so refrain from sending nudes or revealing photos. He might express interest in steamier texts but keep it simple until then and leave something to his imagination.\\n5. Show off your successes.\\nTaurus guys particularly value material success.\\nIf you're doing well financially, make sure to acknowledge it when talking to him. You don't have to use a ton of detail—just mention your success and talk about your best money-saving habits to impress him. Tell him a little about your career and ambitions, too, so that he knows you're driven and sensible.\\nTaurus guys also have a taste for the finer things, so you don't have to act like you're frugal all the time. Just show him that you have good judgment and know how to tell a quality purchase from an unnecessary one.\\n6. Support his goals and aspirations.\\nThis sign works hard and appreciates recognition for his efforts.\\nIf he texts you about a busy work week, send him an encouraging message. When he gets a promotion or scores his dream job, send a congratulatory text to make him feel special. If he needs to vent, offer to lend an ear. Someone who cares for him that much will definitely be relationship material to a Taurus guy!\\n\\\"Good luck at work today! Not that you need it—you're the hardest worker I know. ♥️\\\"\\n\\\"If you're ever having a tough time, I've got your back. We can talk, or I can just listen. Either way, wanted you to know that I care.\\\"\\n7. Send him a homemade gift.\\nHe's very physical and loves gifts that engage all of his senses.\\nSend something simple but heartfelt that appeals to his sensual nature. Smell, taste, touch, sight, and hearing are all important. You might be far apart, but with a little creativity, you can delight him from miles away.\\nYou could send him a home-cooked snack and entice him with the smell and taste of good food.\\nWrite him a letter and spray it with a signature scent that will make him think of you whenever he smells it.\\nSpeak in a soft, smooth tone and leave him a voice message that he can listen to whenever he misses you.\\n8. Open up to him.\\nVulnerability is hard for a Taurus, so let him get to know you better first.\\nBe vulnerable with him and share personal details that let him see the real you. When he's serious about a relationship, he wants to feel totally comfortable with his significant other. Taking the initiative and letting your guard down first will show your Taurus that it's safe for him to do the same.\\nTell him stories about your childhood that you would only tell a close friend and confide in him when you need to vent.\\nA Taurus guy can come off as logical and analytical at first, but deep down, he's passionate about love and relationships. As you get closer, it'll be easier for both of you to be vulnerable with one another.\\n9. Stay exclusive from the start.\\nTaurus guys are extremely loyal and don't like competition.\\nOnce you start chatting with a Taurus guy, make it clear that you're not talking to anybody else. Your Taurus guy is as good as his word: he won't stray or play the field. Do the same and be exclusive to attract his attention and earn his trust!\\n10. Be available and dependable.\\nA stubborn Taurus doesn't like playing hard-to-get.\\nMake the relationship feel easy by answering his calls, responding to his messages, and reaching out to him when you say you will. Taurus guys can be a bit lazy, and they won't put effort into a long-distance relationship that makes them jump through hoops or chase you down.\\nFigure out the best times to call, text, and Facetime together and make a plan. Your Taurus loves to stick to a schedule, so part of being dependable is deciding when and how you'll keep in touch.\\n11. Be honest with him.\\nA sincere Taurus needs total honesty from his significant other.\\nStaying truthful is how you build trust, which is critical for maintaining a long-distance relationship. A Taurus guy is prone to jealousy, especially when he can't see you in person, but honesty about every aspect of your life will help him relax and commit to the relationship.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you're crushing hard on a sweet-natured, dependable Taurus guy, you might be wondering how to grab his attention while you're miles apart. Although Tauruses like to be physically affectionate, attracting him long-distance is very doable! Get to know him as a friend, appeal to him with your practical skills, and capture his heart with your honesty and reliability. To give you a head start, here's a complete guide for attracting a Taurus man long-distance.This article is based on an interview with our professional astrologer, Angel Eyedealism. Check out the full interview here.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep your messages friendly at first.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Taurus guys like to take their time in relationships.\", \"描述\": \"Respect his boundaries by keeping things polite and friendly until he initiates more. Feel free to flirt, but keep your flirts clean and classy. He'll withdraw if your messages get too risque, but your Taurus will enjoy a sweet and subtle comment here and there.\\nTalk about things you have in common to start off. Focus on more practical things, as a Taurus is very down-to-earth.\\nAsk fun and easy questions to catch his interest. Bring up his favorite hobbies, or compare television shows you both like.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Talk about food.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The way to a Taurus man's heart is through his stomach.\", \"描述\": \"Snap a picture of your best homemade meals and send him a text about it, or suggest swapping recipes with him. You could even have a dinner date using each other's recipes. Good food and culinary skills are sure to impress him!\\nPlan a time to cook with one another over a video call. Your Taurus loves the warmth and comforts of home, so he won't mind long-distance dates. Cooking and dining at his own table is more fun than a night out to him!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Compliment him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Admire your Taurus's steadfast loyalty, good looks, and sweet nature.\", \"描述\": \"Figure out the parts of him that you like the most, and text him with a thoughtful compliment. He wants to feel appreciated by his significant other—especially when those compliments are detailed and specific.\\n\\\"I saw the picture you posted on Instagram today! You looked so cute in that sweater. 😉\\\"\\n\\\"They say long distance is hard, but it's easy to be with someone so kind and reliable! You're the best.\\\"\\nTauruses can sense dishonesty, so make sure all of your compliments are genuine.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Send him attractive selfies.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ruled by Venus, Taurus men have an eye for beauty.\", \"描述\": \"He wants to see you looking your best as much as he wants to talk to you. While you can't see him in person, you can send flattering photos of yourself to catch his interest. Your Taurus will love elegant selfies with your hair, makeup (if you wear it), and clothes all perfectly in place.\\nSend him a text along the lines of, \\\"Check out this new outfit I just bought! What do you think?\\\" or a selfie with you and your pet reading, \\\"We're all cozied up on this rainy afternoon! 😊\\\"\\nWear fitted clothes that complement your body and incorporate earthy colors like green and blue. As an earth sign, he'll find those more visually pleasing.\\nTaurus guys tend to be more conservative, so refrain from sending nudes or revealing photos. He might express interest in steamier texts but keep it simple until then and leave something to his imagination.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Show off your successes.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Taurus guys particularly value material success.\", \"描述\": \"If you're doing well financially, make sure to acknowledge it when talking to him. You don't have to use a ton of detail—just mention your success and talk about your best money-saving habits to impress him. Tell him a little about your career and ambitions, too, so that he knows you're driven and sensible.\\nTaurus guys also have a taste for the finer things, so you don't have to act like you're frugal all the time. 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Either way, wanted you to know that I care.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Send him a homemade gift.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"He's very physical and loves gifts that engage all of his senses.\", \"描述\": \"Send something simple but heartfelt that appeals to his sensual nature. Smell, taste, touch, sight, and hearing are all important. You might be far apart, but with a little creativity, you can delight him from miles away.\\nYou could send him a home-cooked snack and entice him with the smell and taste of good food.\\nWrite him a letter and spray it with a signature scent that will make him think of you whenever he smells it.\\nSpeak in a soft, smooth tone and leave him a voice message that he can listen to whenever he misses you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Open up to him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Vulnerability is hard for a Taurus, so let him get to know you better first.\", \"描述\": \"Be vulnerable with him and share personal details that let him see the real you. 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2,821 | How to Attract a Taurus Man Sexually | 1. Wear classy, feminine clothes.
Taurus men prefer sophisticated looks over flashy styles.
Taurus guys have expensive taste, but they’re also very practical. They’re drawn to partners who dress to impress without going too over-the-top. Showy designer labels and the latest fads aren’t really their thing, so stick with classic styles that flatter your figure.
For a night out, you might wear a pair of fitted dress pants, a sophisticated silk top, and a pair of leather ankle boots.
2. Spritz on an alluring perfume.
Taurus men are ruled by their senses.
Their sense of smell is particularly important, so you want to smell intoxicating whenever he’s around. To really drive him wild, try a musky fragrance with earthy notes or a hypnotic floral scent like jasmine or gardenia.
Wear the same perfume every time you see him. He’ll eventually start craving that scent when you aren't around.
3. Be confident.
The bull of the zodiac needs a strong, authentic partner.
Taurus men are drawn to people who are down to earth (after all, they’re earth signs) and comfortable in their own skin, so just be yourself! Don’t be afraid to show off your unique style, speak your mind, and never apologize for who you are.
If you have an opinion, you don't need to temper it around a bull. He loves a hot take (as long as you aren't aiming any criticism at him—Taurus guys don't handle criticism well).
4. Shower him with compliments.
This sign lacks confidence so he'll appreciate the ego boost.
Your bull might seem strong and sure of himself on the outside, but that's mostly just an act he puts on. Underneath it all, this sign can be self-critical and anxious. Put his mind at ease and set the stage for sex by giving him plenty of genuine compliments. You don’t have to wax poetic—just tell him what you like about him. You might say:
"You look so amazing in that shirt, Darren! You have the best style and the color really brings out your eyes."
"I knew you’d get that promotion! No one can hold a candle to your talent and work ethic. I’m so proud of you."
5. Be touchy-feely.
A Taurus loves plenty of PDA and heavy petting, so don’t be shy.
Taurus is an earth sign, and earth signs are very connected to their five senses. For your guy, touch is the most powerful and mind-blowing sense of them all. You really can’t touch this guy enough, so pile it on! You can do things like:
Lean in close and touch his arm gently when you’re chatting
Grab his hand or put your arms around him in public
Give him plenty of kisses and snuggles when you’re alone together
6. Drop a few sexy hints via text.
Men born under this sign need advance notice before getting frisky.
Spontaneity isn’t your man’s strong suit. If you have sex on your mind, a few well-timed texts early in the day will set the wheels in motion for an especially spicy evening. You might text something like:
"I have a king-sized bed—all I’m missing is a king ❤️"
"Sorry for my delayed response—I was imagining you without clothes on 😘"
7. Take him to a concert or art show.
Your man craves sensory stimulation of all kinds.
If you want to get a bull excited, bring him to an artistic or creative environment. Since a Taurus loves to appreciate beautiful things, hitting an art gallery opening or museum exhibit would be perfect. You could also try things like:
Surprising him with tickets to see his favorite band perform
Dancing the night away with him at a local club
Taking him to an exclusive wine-tasting event
8. Seduce him when the moon is full.
The Taurus libido skyrockets under full moon energy.
As an earth sign, the world around your Taurus exhibits a powerful influence. He's no slouch at other times of the month, but something about the full moon really revs his engine and puts him in the mood for sex. He’ll be more responsive than usual if you make your move during this mystical time frame.
If you aren’t sure when the next full moon is coming, you can always check your local weather app or download a dedicated moon phase app so you can keep tabs on it.
9. Set the mood with candles and music.
Any appeal to his senses works well when seducing a Taurus.
Light some scented candles, dim the lights, put on some Barry White...it may sound cliche, but simply appealing to his senses is a foolproof approach to get your guy in the mood for a sexy romp. You can also do things like:
Put some champagne on ice
Slip into some soft, silky lingerie
Draw him a warm bath
10. Focus on foreplay.
Build up to sex with lots of kissing and caressing.
Sensual Taurus men are masters of foreplay, so don't jump straight to the sex part. To really drive your man wild, start with slow, gentle caresses and take your time exploring his body with kisses. He'll love to watch you undress slowly, as well, since Taurus guys are very turned on by visual displays.
His most overlooked erogenous zone is the ear lobe. Try nibbling, nudging, and caressing his ears. Then, slowly work your way down his neck and chest.
11. Tell him what you like in bed.
Take your bull by the horns, so to speak.
Some men don’t react well to specific directions, but you’ve hit the jackpot with a Taurus. This sign wants to know exactly what you like so he can give it to you. And yes, the rumors you’ve heard about Taurus' sexual stamina are true, so buckle up! You might say:
"I'd love it if you gave me a massage..."
"It drives me crazy when you kiss my neck."
"I’ve always wanted to try..."
12. Be upfront about your feelings.
Taurus guys appreciate honesty, so give it to him straight.
Generally, a Taurus won’t be down for a meaningless one-night stand—he wants to know that you have real feelings for him before having sex. He doesn't need a long, poignant monologue about your feelings or anything, so keep it simple and speak from the heart. For example, you might say:
"I feel a deep connection with you that I’ve never really felt before."
"Spending time with you these last few weeks has made me so incredibly happy. I’m really falling for you, Saul."
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2,822 | How to Attract a Tomboy | 1. Befriending a Tomboy
1-1. Be friendly to your crush.
If you already go to school, work, or a similar place with your crush, just be kind to her. If you don't know each other, be confident and introduce yourself, that way she knows who you are. Nobody likes a jerk, and that's especially true for tomboys, so avoid insulting her, giving her backhanded compliments, and other common flirting tactics.
1-2. Join a team or club she's in.
Many tomboys are members of clubs, teams, or groups focused on a specific activity or pastime. These can range from video game or D&D clubs to football or basketball teams. If you're actually interested in the activity, try becoming a member of the group or participating in a public event the organization hosts. The more engaged you are, the more likely your crush will notice you and be open to friendship.
1-3. Connect with her friend group.
To get closer to your crush, try becoming friends with another person in her social group. If you've already been vetted by someone she knows and trusts, your crush is more likely to accept you and your advances.
1-4. Message her on social media.
If your crush is naturally shy, try sending her a message on Facebook, Twitter, or another platform. Start by sending her a casual message, then keep it low-key and relaxed until you see how she responds. If she writes back and seems receptive, keep the conversation going.
If you haven't met in person yet, introduce yourself and tell her how you know her.
Look through her profile for information on her family and friends, her interests, and things she likes and dislikes.
2. Making a Connection
2-1. Ask her questions about herself.
A key part of making a connection is showing that you're interested in the other person. Keep things light at first, asking questions about her everyday life such as: What music does she listen to? Who is her favorite athlete? What does she like to do for fun? Remember that it should be a conversation, not an interrogation, so answer any questions she asks you or build on the things she says.
2-2. Seek out common interests.
Ask your crush about her hobbies or pastimes and take an interest in them. Many tomboys love showing off their skills, so ask to participate in things where she can take the lead. If she's interested in skateboarding, ask her to teach you some tricks. If she plays sports, see if you can shoot some hoops or throw a ball around together.
If you haven't tried one of her hobbies, give it a shot. If she loves golf, grab some clubs and hit a few balls. If she loves old movies, ask her for some recommendations.
If your crush is an athlete or gamer, try making a bet about whether or not she can do something, like score 3 goals in a row or kill 10 enemies without taking damage.
2-3. Show off your sense of humor.
Making someone laugh is a great way to connect with them, and tomboys are typically more open to weird, crude, or off-color jokes than other girls. Try to discover what she finds funny and adjust your humor to match. If she laughs at a pun or loves a rude joke, try using more in the future.
Many tomboys hate drama, so try to avoid making fun of specific people such as classmates or coworkers. Focus more on entertaining than insulting.
2-4. Maintain eye contact during your conversations.
Eye contact is one of the most powerful ways to make a connection. Don't check your phone or constantly look around toward other people. Instead, keep your attention focused on her. This is the best way to convey that you're interested in what she's saying, and will help you build a stronger connection.
Eye contact is important, but prolonged staring is intense and off-putting, so glance away every once in awhile.
2-5. Smile at her.
A genuine smile is one of the easiest ways to show interest in someone and make them feel comfortable. Try to keep the smile as genuine as possible. A forced smile is not attractive and can make her feel uncomfortable.
3. Flirting with Her
3-1. Make fun of yourself.
Tell a story about a time you hilariously messed something up, or make a joke about the clothes you're wearing. Most tomboys are not interested in people with giant egos, so laughing at yourself is a great way to bond with your crush and let her know that you can take a joke.
Self-deprecating humor is a great way to break the ice, but don't overdo it. Constantly putting yourself down isn't attractive and she may begin to think you aren't joking.
3-2. Tease her gently.
Many tomboys are competitive, so a little good-hearted teasing can bring out your crush's playful side and make her more open to your advances. Try giving her a silly nickname, jokingly disagree with something she said, or goad her about a favorite band, show, or sports team.
Make sure it's clear that you're joking around and not actually insulting or criticizing her.
3-3. Laugh at her jokes.
An easy way to show you like someone is by laughing at their jokes, and tomboys are no different. Pay attention when your crush tells a joke and, even if she isn't very funny, give at least a chuckle when the punchline hits. Laughing easily, or for longer than you normally would, can clue her in that you have a crush.
3-4. Notice small changes in her appearance.
While they may not wear frilly dresses or tons or makeup, many tomboys still care about how they look and put a lot of work into it. Look for small changes in her appearance, like a new outfit, hairstyle, or hat, and compliment it. This will show that you're paying attention and will make her feel really good.
3-5. Lean toward her as you talk.
When you're having a conversation, lean in toward her ever so slightly. This draws her attention toward you and helps to show your interest in her. Sharing personal space is a key way to increase romantic and sexual tension, and if she seems receptive, try to break the touch barrier by placing your hand on her arm, shoulder, or leg. If she is comfortable, she will also start moving into your space.
3-6. Ask her on a date if you feel a connection.
If you're spending more time together and enjoy each other's company, ask if your crush would be interested in going on a date. Even though she's a tomboy, don't wait for her to pop the question. If she says yes, got to a casual place that fits your personalities, like a movie theater or diner. If she says no, ease up and assess the situation. She may want to just be friends, or she may not be ready for a relationship.
Tips
There is no single, perfect way to flirt with a tomboy. Some tomboys want to be treated like one of the guys while others may appreciate you acknowledging her femininity.
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Connect with her friend group.\\nTo get closer to your crush, try becoming friends with another person in her social group. If you've already been vetted by someone she knows and trusts, your crush is more likely to accept you and your advances.\\n1-4. Message her on social media.\\nIf your crush is naturally shy, try sending her a message on Facebook, Twitter, or another platform. Start by sending her a casual message, then keep it low-key and relaxed until you see how she responds. If she writes back and seems receptive, keep the conversation going.\\nIf you haven't met in person yet, introduce yourself and tell her how you know her.\\nLook through her profile for information on her family and friends, her interests, and things she likes and dislikes.\\n2. Making a Connection\\n2-1. Ask her questions about herself.\\nA key part of making a connection is showing that you're interested in the other person. Keep things light at first, asking questions about her everyday life such as: What music does she listen to? Who is her favorite athlete? What does she like to do for fun? Remember that it should be a conversation, not an interrogation, so answer any questions she asks you or build on the things she says.\\n2-2. Seek out common interests.\\nAsk your crush about her hobbies or pastimes and take an interest in them. Many tomboys love showing off their skills, so ask to participate in things where she can take the lead. If she's interested in skateboarding, ask her to teach you some tricks. If she plays sports, see if you can shoot some hoops or throw a ball around together.\\nIf you haven't tried one of her hobbies, give it a shot. If she loves golf, grab some clubs and hit a few balls. If she loves old movies, ask her for some recommendations.\\nIf your crush is an athlete or gamer, try making a bet about whether or not she can do something, like score 3 goals in a row or kill 10 enemies without taking damage.\\n2-3. Show off your sense of humor.\\nMaking someone laugh is a great way to connect with them, and tomboys are typically more open to weird, crude, or off-color jokes than other girls. Try to discover what she finds funny and adjust your humor to match. If she laughs at a pun or loves a rude joke, try using more in the future.\\nMany tomboys hate drama, so try to avoid making fun of specific people such as classmates or coworkers. Focus more on entertaining than insulting.\\n2-4. Maintain eye contact during your conversations.\\nEye contact is one of the most powerful ways to make a connection. Don't check your phone or constantly look around toward other people. Instead, keep your attention focused on her. This is the best way to convey that you're interested in what she's saying, and will help you build a stronger connection.\\nEye contact is important, but prolonged staring is intense and off-putting, so glance away every once in awhile.\\n2-5. Smile at her.\\nA genuine smile is one of the easiest ways to show interest in someone and make them feel comfortable. Try to keep the smile as genuine as possible. A forced smile is not attractive and can make her feel uncomfortable.\\n3. Flirting with Her\\n3-1. Make fun of yourself.\\nTell a story about a time you hilariously messed something up, or make a joke about the clothes you're wearing. Most tomboys are not interested in people with giant egos, so laughing at yourself is a great way to bond with your crush and let her know that you can take a joke.\\nSelf-deprecating humor is a great way to break the ice, but don't overdo it. Constantly putting yourself down isn't attractive and she may begin to think you aren't joking.\\n3-2. Tease her gently.\\nMany tomboys are competitive, so a little good-hearted teasing can bring out your crush's playful side and make her more open to your advances. Try giving her a silly nickname, jokingly disagree with something she said, or goad her about a favorite band, show, or sports team.\\nMake sure it's clear that you're joking around and not actually insulting or criticizing her.\\n3-3. Laugh at her jokes.\\nAn easy way to show you like someone is by laughing at their jokes, and tomboys are no different. Pay attention when your crush tells a joke and, even if she isn't very funny, give at least a chuckle when the punchline hits. Laughing easily, or for longer than you normally would, can clue her in that you have a crush.\\n3-4. Notice small changes in her appearance.\\nWhile they may not wear frilly dresses or tons or makeup, many tomboys still care about how they look and put a lot of work into it. Look for small changes in her appearance, like a new outfit, hairstyle, or hat, and compliment it. This will show that you're paying attention and will make her feel really good.\\n3-5. Lean toward her as you talk.\\nWhen you're having a conversation, lean in toward her ever so slightly. This draws her attention toward you and helps to show your interest in her. Sharing personal space is a key way to increase romantic and sexual tension, and if she seems receptive, try to break the touch barrier by placing your hand on her arm, shoulder, or leg. If she is comfortable, she will also start moving into your space.\\n3-6. Ask her on a date if you feel a connection.\\nIf you're spending more time together and enjoy each other's company, ask if your crush would be interested in going on a date. Even though she's a tomboy, don't wait for her to pop the question. If she says yes, got to a casual place that fits your personalities, like a movie theater or diner. If she says no, ease up and assess the situation. She may want to just be friends, or she may not be ready for a relationship.\\nTips\\nThere is no single, perfect way to flirt with a tomboy. Some tomboys want to be treated like one of the guys while others may appreciate you acknowledging her femininity.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Making a connection with a tomboy may seem difficult, especially since what works with other girls may not work with them. However, there are plenty of simple techniques you can use to woo your crush. Being kind, showing an interest in her hobbies, and showing respect to both her masculine and feminine aspects will help you attract a tomboy and, if you're lucky, earn you a date or romantic partner.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Befriending a Tomboy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be friendly to your crush.\", \"描述\": \"If you already go to school, work, or a similar place with your crush, just be kind to her. 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2,823 | How to Attract a Venus in Capricorn Man | 1. Show him you’re independent.
He values an equal partnership.
He’s worked really hard throughout his life, so he appreciates the time and effort it has taken to get where you are today. Between your hobbies, interests, history, and friends, he loves that you have an identity that is uniquely your own.
While it’s not always intentional, a Venus in Capricorn man tends to be a bit aloof. Don’t worry about it too much. If it’s meant to be, it will be! Even more, he’ll love that you’re not paying his absence too much mind.
2. Tell him about your career.
Professional success is majorly attractive to this Venus in Capricorn man.
He is passionate about the work he does and takes pride in his achievements and the education it may have required to reach them. So it’s no wonder that a man with Venus in Capricorn is drawn to people who are as driven as he is.
Tell him about a time you realized what you were meant to do professionally. Maybe it happened when you were in high school or college; maybe it was an epiphany you had more recently.
Venus in Capricorn men are meticulous planners, but they still believe in fate, especially when it comes to work — and even love!
3. Share your ambition.
A Venus in Capricorn man is always looking to the future.
So he wants to know that you have an idea of what yours will look like, whether it’s five years down the road or 20. His life is like one giant mood board; he’s always looking to be inspired by the people he surrounds himself with.
These don’t necessarily have to revolve around work. Maybe you have a passion project that you’ve been working on steadily for years or have goals to buy a house someday.
4. Brag a little.
No shame in showing off around a Venus in Capricorn man.
Owning your accomplishments is a big turn-on. He’ll be impressed and excited to learn more about you, and if you’re in a group, proud to be the one on your arm. This might be a little out of your comfort zone, which is totally fine. Begin from a place of gratitude, share your passion, and your humbleness will shine through.
“I couldn’t wait to tell you about this exciting project I’m a part of at work!”
“I’m actually really proud of myself for winning that award, but I’m also so proud of my team for all their hard work.”
5. Let him know you’re responsible.
Venus in Capricorns are attracted to people who are sensible and organized.
Pickup lines just aren’t his forte. However, demonstrating stability and consistency is usually his go-to when trying to woo his crush. Showing you possess these qualities as well will go a long way.
Be punctual! When you’re meeting him for dinner or a movie, make sure you plan ahead, so you can be right on time.
Make sure your space is clean when you invite him over. Everyone gets busy and leaves dishes in the sink or clothes on the floor every once and a while, but make sure to do some quick tidying if you know he’s stopping by.
6. Ask about his plans for the future.
It’ll show him you’re hoping to stick around.
This Venus in Capricorn man isn’t usually someone who goes for casual flings. If he cares for someone, he wants to build something meaningful with them. Show him you’re interested in his dreams for the future, and you just might find out they include you.
"What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to achieve in life?”
"If you saw a fortune-teller today, what do you hope they’d see?”
7. Show him your artistic side.
He appreciates the finer things in life.
A Venus in Capricorn man pays a lot of attention to aesthetics and has a very specific taste. Be it music, literature, or cinema, he loves going places to experience art and discussing it in great detail.
Ask him if he’d like to go to a museum or to a special screening of an indie film. Make sure to set aside time after to grab dinner so you two can really talk about what you saw. He’s truly interested in your opinions — good, bad or indifferent!
8. Be direct about your feelings.
A Venus in Capricorn man values communication.
If you want to be with him, tell him. He’s someone who almost always knows what he wants, but he can also be somewhat shy in relationships, which he may sometimes have trouble admitting. By taking the lead, you’ll create a space in which he feels more comfortable sharing how he’s feeling.
“We’ve been spending a lot of time together, and I want you to know I have feelings for you.”
“I love being around you, and I’m starting to see you as more than a friend.”
9. Show him you can be serious.
This is where you’ll form a stronger connection.
Sure, he can let loose and joke around with the best of them, but his true self shines through when showing you his vulnerable side.
When you’re out together one-on-one, ask him about his family, what brings him the most joy, and what he wanted to be when he was a kid.
These kinds of initial questions may spark deeper conversations, which will show him you’re truly interested.
10. Be reliable.
This sign wants a partner he can count on.
Over time, he’ll want you to know you can rely on him as well. To Venus in Capricorns, this is the first step in building trust, which is a priority in all of their relationships.
For instance, don’t agree to hang out if you already know you have a lot going on over the weekend. He’ll appreciate you being honest and respecting his time.
Ask him if he’s available another day and suggest times that work best for you.
Remember the details! If he told you he has a big presentation coming up, make a note of it in your calendar, so you can send him a text wishing him luck.
11. Show affection.
He may not be the first one to make a move, but he'll love your playfulness.
Along with acts of service, physical touch is one of this sign’s primary love languages.
Sometimes this is as simple as sitting close to him when you’re out together with friends, touching his hand or arm while you’re laughing or brushing your leg against his underneath the table.
Let him know you want to be near him, and it will draw him closer and closer.
12. Be yourself.
In the end, sincerity is the key to this man’s heart.
There’s no need to play games or pretend to be anyone else but you. This Venus in Capricorn man thinks the most beautiful thing about you is your authenticity. Share your heart and the rest will follow.
Take him to some of your favorite places, whether it be a restaurant you loved or somewhere you visited frequently as a kid.
He’ll appreciate you sharing this part of yourself with him, and it’ll let him know you want to be a part of his life, too.
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Maybe it happened when you were in high school or college; maybe it was an epiphany you had more recently.\\nVenus in Capricorn men are meticulous planners, but they still believe in fate, especially when it comes to work — and even love!\\n3. Share your ambition.\\nA Venus in Capricorn man is always looking to the future.\\nSo he wants to know that you have an idea of what yours will look like, whether it’s five years down the road or 20. His life is like one giant mood board; he’s always looking to be inspired by the people he surrounds himself with.\\nThese don’t necessarily have to revolve around work. Maybe you have a passion project that you’ve been working on steadily for years or have goals to buy a house someday.\\n4. Brag a little.\\nNo shame in showing off around a Venus in Capricorn man.\\nOwning your accomplishments is a big turn-on. He’ll be impressed and excited to learn more about you, and if you’re in a group, proud to be the one on your arm. This might be a little out of your comfort zone, which is totally fine. Begin from a place of gratitude, share your passion, and your humbleness will shine through.\\n“I couldn’t wait to tell you about this exciting project I’m a part of at work!”\\n“I’m actually really proud of myself for winning that award, but I’m also so proud of my team for all their hard work.”\\n5. Let him know you’re responsible.\\nVenus in Capricorns are attracted to people who are sensible and organized.\\nPickup lines just aren’t his forte. However, demonstrating stability and consistency is usually his go-to when trying to woo his crush. Showing you possess these qualities as well will go a long way.\\nBe punctual! When you’re meeting him for dinner or a movie, make sure you plan ahead, so you can be right on time.\\nMake sure your space is clean when you invite him over. Everyone gets busy and leaves dishes in the sink or clothes on the floor every once and a while, but make sure to do some quick tidying if you know he’s stopping by.\\n6. Ask about his plans for the future.\\nIt’ll show him you’re hoping to stick around.\\nThis Venus in Capricorn man isn’t usually someone who goes for casual flings. If he cares for someone, he wants to build something meaningful with them. Show him you’re interested in his dreams for the future, and you just might find out they include you.\\n\\\"What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to achieve in life?”\\n\\\"If you saw a fortune-teller today, what do you hope they’d see?”\\n7. Show him your artistic side.\\nHe appreciates the finer things in life.\\nA Venus in Capricorn man pays a lot of attention to aesthetics and has a very specific taste. Be it music, literature, or cinema, he loves going places to experience art and discussing it in great detail.\\nAsk him if he’d like to go to a museum or to a special screening of an indie film. Make sure to set aside time after to grab dinner so you two can really talk about what you saw. He’s truly interested in your opinions — good, bad or indifferent!\\n8. Be direct about your feelings.\\nA Venus in Capricorn man values communication.\\nIf you want to be with him, tell him. He’s someone who almost always knows what he wants, but he can also be somewhat shy in relationships, which he may sometimes have trouble admitting. By taking the lead, you’ll create a space in which he feels more comfortable sharing how he’s feeling.\\n“We’ve been spending a lot of time together, and I want you to know I have feelings for you.”\\n“I love being around you, and I’m starting to see you as more than a friend.”\\n9. Show him you can be serious.\\nThis is where you’ll form a stronger connection.\\nSure, he can let loose and joke around with the best of them, but his true self shines through when showing you his vulnerable side.\\nWhen you’re out together one-on-one, ask him about his family, what brings him the most joy, and what he wanted to be when he was a kid.\\nThese kinds of initial questions may spark deeper conversations, which will show him you’re truly interested.\\n10. Be reliable.\\nThis sign wants a partner he can count on.\\nOver time, he’ll want you to know you can rely on him as well. To Venus in Capricorns, this is the first step in building trust, which is a priority in all of their relationships.\\nFor instance, don’t agree to hang out if you already know you have a lot going on over the weekend. He’ll appreciate you being honest and respecting his time.\\nAsk him if he’s available another day and suggest times that work best for you.\\nRemember the details! If he told you he has a big presentation coming up, make a note of it in your calendar, so you can send him a text wishing him luck.\\n11. Show affection.\\nHe may not be the first one to make a move, but he'll love your playfulness.\\nAlong with acts of service, physical touch is one of this sign’s primary love languages.\\nSometimes this is as simple as sitting close to him when you’re out together with friends, touching his hand or arm while you’re laughing or brushing your leg against his underneath the table.\\nLet him know you want to be near him, and it will draw him closer and closer.\\n12. Be yourself.\\nIn the end, sincerity is the key to this man’s heart.\\nThere’s no need to play games or pretend to be anyone else but you. This Venus in Capricorn man thinks the most beautiful thing about you is your authenticity. Share your heart and the rest will follow.\\nTake him to some of your favorite places, whether it be a restaurant you loved or somewhere you visited frequently as a kid.\\nHe’ll appreciate you sharing this part of yourself with him, and it’ll let him know you want to be a part of his life, too.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Your crush’s Venus sign is a window to the soul, and this Venus in Capricorn man is looking for someone he can change the world with. He’s ambitious, pragmatic, and values deep, emotional connection. More than anything, though, he wants someone who is genuine and caring. Here’s a guide to winning over that Venus in Capricorn cutie.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Show him you’re independent.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"He values an equal partnership.\", \"描述\": \"He’s worked really hard throughout his life, so he appreciates the time and effort it has taken to get where you are today. Between your hobbies, interests, history, and friends, he loves that you have an identity that is uniquely your own.\\nWhile it’s not always intentional, a Venus in Capricorn man tends to be a bit aloof. Don’t worry about it too much. If it’s meant to be, it will be! Even more, he’ll love that you’re not paying his absence too much mind.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Tell him about your career.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Professional success is majorly attractive to this Venus in Capricorn man.\", \"描述\": \"He is passionate about the work he does and takes pride in his achievements and the education it may have required to reach them. So it’s no wonder that a man with Venus in Capricorn is drawn to people who are as driven as he is.\\nTell him about a time you realized what you were meant to do professionally. 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He’ll be impressed and excited to learn more about you, and if you’re in a group, proud to be the one on your arm. This might be a little out of your comfort zone, which is totally fine. Begin from a place of gratitude, share your passion, and your humbleness will shine through.\\n“I couldn’t wait to tell you about this exciting project I’m a part of at work!”\\n“I’m actually really proud of myself for winning that award, but I’m also so proud of my team for all their hard work.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Let him know you’re responsible.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Venus in Capricorns are attracted to people who are sensible and organized.\", \"描述\": \"Pickup lines just aren’t his forte. However, demonstrating stability and consistency is usually his go-to when trying to woo his crush. Showing you possess these qualities as well will go a long way.\\nBe punctual! When you’re meeting him for dinner or a movie, make sure you plan ahead, so you can be right on time.\\nMake sure your space is clean when you invite him over. Everyone gets busy and leaves dishes in the sink or clothes on the floor every once and a while, but make sure to do some quick tidying if you know he’s stopping by.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Ask about his plans for the future.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It’ll show him you’re hoping to stick around.\", \"描述\": \"This Venus in Capricorn man isn’t usually someone who goes for casual flings. If he cares for someone, he wants to build something meaningful with them. Show him you’re interested in his dreams for the future, and you just might find out they include you.\\n\\\"What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to achieve in life?”\\n\\\"If you saw a fortune-teller today, what do you hope they’d see?”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Show him your artistic side.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"He appreciates the finer things in life.\", \"描述\": \"A Venus in Capricorn man pays a lot of attention to aesthetics and has a very specific taste. Be it music, literature, or cinema, he loves going places to experience art and discussing it in great detail.\\nAsk him if he’d like to go to a museum or to a special screening of an indie film. Make sure to set aside time after to grab dinner so you two can really talk about what you saw. He’s truly interested in your opinions — good, bad or indifferent!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Be direct about your feelings.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A Venus in Capricorn man values communication.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be with him, tell him. He’s someone who almost always knows what he wants, but he can also be somewhat shy in relationships, which he may sometimes have trouble admitting. By taking the lead, you’ll create a space in which he feels more comfortable sharing how he’s feeling.\\n“We’ve been spending a lot of time together, and I want you to know I have feelings for you.”\\n“I love being around you, and I’m starting to see you as more than a friend.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Show him you can be serious.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This is where you’ll form a stronger connection.\", \"描述\": \"Sure, he can let loose and joke around with the best of them, but his true self shines through when showing you his vulnerable side.\\nWhen you’re out together one-on-one, ask him about his family, what brings him the most joy, and what he wanted to be when he was a kid.\\nThese kinds of initial questions may spark deeper conversations, which will show him you’re truly interested.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Be reliable.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This sign wants a partner he can count on.\", \"描述\": \"Over time, he’ll want you to know you can rely on him as well. To Venus in Capricorns, this is the first step in building trust, which is a priority in all of their relationships.\\nFor instance, don’t agree to hang out if you already know you have a lot going on over the weekend. He’ll appreciate you being honest and respecting his time.\\nAsk him if he’s available another day and suggest times that work best for you.\\nRemember the details! If he told you he has a big presentation coming up, make a note of it in your calendar, so you can send him a text wishing him luck.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Show affection.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"He may not be the first one to make a move, but he'll love your playfulness.\", \"描述\": \"Along with acts of service, physical touch is one of this sign’s primary love languages.\\nSometimes this is as simple as sitting close to him when you’re out together with friends, touching his hand or arm while you’re laughing or brushing your leg against his underneath the table.\\nLet him know you want to be near him, and it will draw him closer and closer.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Be yourself.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"In the end, sincerity is the key to this man’s heart.\", \"描述\": \"There’s no need to play games or pretend to be anyone else but you. This Venus in Capricorn man thinks the most beautiful thing about you is your authenticity. Share your heart and the rest will follow.\\nTake him to some of your favorite places, whether it be a restaurant you loved or somewhere you visited frequently as a kid.\\nHe’ll appreciate you sharing this part of yourself with him, and it’ll let him know you want to be a part of his life, too.\"}]}]}}",
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2,824 | How to Attract a Venus in Scorpio Man | 1. Get flirty with him.
Flirting is like breathing to a Venus in Scorpio.
He’s good at it too. Show him you can keep up with some fun, playful, sexual banter. Witty jokes and a gentle touch that’ll make him wonder “did they do that on purpose?” will drive him wild. The more confident you seem, the more he’ll be drawn to you.
A seductive smile or an intense gaze are breathtaking to him. Try making eye contact and looking away coyly to keep him enthralled.
Keep the flirt going over text. Send him sexy, cheeky messages like “I love when my roommate’s gone because I don’t have to wear clothes” or “If you want to make a move, today is a great day for it.”
2. Dress with sexy confidence.
This man oozes sex appeal and wants his partner to as well.
He’s attracted to a vibrant sexual energy that radiates pure animal magnetism. Dress sharp and take pride in your appearance—your confidence is sexy and alluring to him. A sleek, form-fitting look that shows just a little skin will drive his imagination wild.
Fashion trends don’t mean much to a Venus in Scorpio. As long as you feel sexy in what you wear, he’ll be into it.
Black or red clothes appeal to his dark, erotic tastes.
Spray a warm and spicy scent like cinnamon or vanilla to tantalize his sense of smell. Unique or quirky accessories with an interesting backstory will also pique his interest.
3. Be a little mysterious.
Nothing holds a Venus in Scorpio’s attention like intrigue.
Mysterious people are a turn on for him and he loves constantly finding out that there’s more of you to discover. Reveal yourself to him slowly instead of spilling your life story on your first date. The more curious he is, the more he’ll think about and miss you while you’re apart.
It’s a good sign if he starts asking you questions. It means he thinks there’s deeper layers to you, which is exactly what he’s looking for.
This guy loves solving puzzles but is not a fan of mind games, like intentionally making him jealous.
Be yourself and be mysterious at the same time. A Venus in Scorpio will know right away if you’re embellishing or fudging the truth to impress him.
4. Let your intelligence shine.
This man has an active mind and is attracted to people who can keep up.
He’s always thinking and is usually highly intelligent. Speak openly about your areas of expertise, the latest news or current events, and anything you find fascinating. He’s intrigued by learning the deeper meaning of everything, and the more you know about a topic, the more interested he’ll be.
Let him catch you reading or journaling. His curiosity about what you’re up to will force him to strike up a conversation with you.
Suggest dates or activities where you’ll both get to learn something. Museums, art exhibitions, or documentary screenings are great for this guy.
5. Talk about your successes.
A Venus in Scorpio guy is looking for someone as driven as he is.
He’s ambitious, career-oriented, and will do anything to achieve his goals. Talk about your biggest achievements in life or your aspirations at work to show you’re passionate about what you do. He’ll be instantly attracted to anyone who can match his intensity and success.
Tell him about anything else you’re passionate about like artistic projects, charity work, or health and fitness.
Awards, media mentions, or public recognition are attractive to him too.
Keep the talk about yourself genuine. There’s no need to fudge your accomplishments to impress him (and he’ll probably be able to tell anyway).
6. Share his interest in dark and unusual things.
Anything occult, mysterious, or rebellious grabs this man’s attention.
The mainstream is boring to him, so flaunt your knowledge about something supernatural, philosophical, spooky, or uncommon. He’ll be attracted to anyone who finds beauty in darkness and appreciates his unique taste.
Tell him about any protests you’ve been to or a story about your rebellious youth. He’ll love to hear about your independent streak.
Share books or movies about weird historical events, death, psychological topics, or anything unknown that has researchers stumped (these make great gift ideas, too!).
7. Wow him with your strong-willed personality.
A dynamic, strong person is super appealing to him.
He has trouble relating to passive people and thinks confidence and power are super attractive. He likes to be in charge in relationships, but finds a partner who challenges and pushes him irresistible.
Advocate for your wants and needs and voice your disagreements with this guy. He’d prefer to hash things out than have someone just submit to him.
Show him you have your own life to live by making plans and doing things you like to do outside of his company.
8. Make him feel protective of you.
If life were a movie, this guy would be the cliché overprotective lover.
He gets deep emotional satisfaction from feeling like your knight in shining armor. Share some slightly vulnerable information, like your insecurities or bad past experiences. He’ll drop everything to stand by your side and protect you from feeling that way ever again.
He’ll feel attractive and wanted when he can support you in such a meaningful way.
Only share what you’re comfortable sharing. A respectful Venus in Scorpio will be curious to know more but should accept your boundaries.
Some semi-vulnerable topics you could share are stories about difficulties or setbacks you’ve experienced or something you’re worried or skeptical about.
9. Be 100% honest with him.
Insecurity runs deep for a Venus in Scorpio.
He’s naturally suspicious and needs lots of reassurance that you’re being honest with him. Always be straightforward and open to show him you’re solid and reliable.
It’s very hard for him to forgive dishonesty. If there’s something you can’t or don’t want to share, just tell him you’re not ready. He’ll respect your openness.
Have no fear about your secrets getting leaked. This man will take whatever you tell him to the grave, and wants the same from you too.
10. Demonstrate your loyalty by not flirting with other people.
Loyalty and commitment are at the top of this guy’s priority list.
He’s all or nothing when it comes to relationships and dating and he’ll be deeply hurt if you’re involved with other people. He can be jealous or possessive at times, so focus on just him while you get to know each other—he’ll give you 100% of his attention and wants someone who can do the same for him.
Nothing hurts a Venus in Scorpio like a perceived betrayal. If you do flirt with or have feelings for someone else, tell him right away. He’d rather hear it from you than find out some other way.
Delete your dating apps while you’re with him too. Even if you're not using them, the sight of Hinge on your phone screen will make him paranoid.
A Venus in Scorpio man wants you all to himself. Some might find this a little off putting, so make sure you’re OK with a very attentive relationship before reeling him in.
11. Show him empathy.
Venus in Scorpio men are very emotional and hard to understand.
Things you might brush off quickly could make him sad or upset for days. Give him space to work through his emotions and try to see where he’s coming from. He rarely feels understood and your empathy will be very attractive to him.
Ask him how he’s feeling no matter what mood he’s in. He’ll slowly start to open up to you and feel a stronger emotional connection.
If he doesn’t feel like sharing, don’t push him. He is secretive after all and prefers to keep things close to the chest while he’s getting to know someone.
12. Keep things fresh in bed.
A Venus in Scorpio loves sex and wants it often.
The combination of Venus and Scorpio traits makes a man with intense and indulgent sexual energy. To keep things interesting, explore sexual taboos and kinks with him (he loves anything out of the mainstream) and experiment with role playing and new toys.
This man likes to be in control in the bedroom. Try some role playing scenarios with different power dynamics to mix things up and take charge from time to time.
Whispering naughty or emotional comments in his ear during sex is a huge turn on for him.
Sex is very important to him and he views it as a way to express his emotions. He’s usually looking for a meaningful sex connection and isn’t prone to flings or one night stands.
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A sleek, form-fitting look that shows just a little skin will drive his imagination wild.\\nFashion trends don’t mean much to a Venus in Scorpio. As long as you feel sexy in what you wear, he’ll be into it.\\nBlack or red clothes appeal to his dark, erotic tastes.\\nSpray a warm and spicy scent like cinnamon or vanilla to tantalize his sense of smell. Unique or quirky accessories with an interesting backstory will also pique his interest.\\n3. Be a little mysterious.\\nNothing holds a Venus in Scorpio’s attention like intrigue.\\nMysterious people are a turn on for him and he loves constantly finding out that there’s more of you to discover. Reveal yourself to him slowly instead of spilling your life story on your first date. The more curious he is, the more he’ll think about and miss you while you’re apart.\\nIt’s a good sign if he starts asking you questions. It means he thinks there’s deeper layers to you, which is exactly what he’s looking for.\\nThis guy loves solving puzzles but is not a fan of mind games, like intentionally making him jealous.\\nBe yourself and be mysterious at the same time. A Venus in Scorpio will know right away if you’re embellishing or fudging the truth to impress him.\\n4. Let your intelligence shine.\\nThis man has an active mind and is attracted to people who can keep up.\\nHe’s always thinking and is usually highly intelligent. Speak openly about your areas of expertise, the latest news or current events, and anything you find fascinating. He’s intrigued by learning the deeper meaning of everything, and the more you know about a topic, the more interested he’ll be.\\nLet him catch you reading or journaling. His curiosity about what you’re up to will force him to strike up a conversation with you.\\nSuggest dates or activities where you’ll both get to learn something. 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Share his interest in dark and unusual things.\\nAnything occult, mysterious, or rebellious grabs this man’s attention.\\nThe mainstream is boring to him, so flaunt your knowledge about something supernatural, philosophical, spooky, or uncommon. He’ll be attracted to anyone who finds beauty in darkness and appreciates his unique taste.\\nTell him about any protests you’ve been to or a story about your rebellious youth. He’ll love to hear about your independent streak.\\nShare books or movies about weird historical events, death, psychological topics, or anything unknown that has researchers stumped (these make great gift ideas, too!).\\n7. Wow him with your strong-willed personality.\\nA dynamic, strong person is super appealing to him.\\nHe has trouble relating to passive people and thinks confidence and power are super attractive. He likes to be in charge in relationships, but finds a partner who challenges and pushes him irresistible.\\nAdvocate for your wants and needs and voice your disagreements with this guy. He’d prefer to hash things out than have someone just submit to him.\\nShow him you have your own life to live by making plans and doing things you like to do outside of his company.\\n8. Make him feel protective of you.\\nIf life were a movie, this guy would be the cliché overprotective lover.\\nHe gets deep emotional satisfaction from feeling like your knight in shining armor. Share some slightly vulnerable information, like your insecurities or bad past experiences. He’ll drop everything to stand by your side and protect you from feeling that way ever again.\\nHe’ll feel attractive and wanted when he can support you in such a meaningful way.\\nOnly share what you’re comfortable sharing. A respectful Venus in Scorpio will be curious to know more but should accept your boundaries.\\nSome semi-vulnerable topics you could share are stories about difficulties or setbacks you’ve experienced or something you’re worried or skeptical about.\\n9. Be 100% honest with him.\\nInsecurity runs deep for a Venus in Scorpio.\\nHe’s naturally suspicious and needs lots of reassurance that you’re being honest with him. Always be straightforward and open to show him you’re solid and reliable.\\nIt’s very hard for him to forgive dishonesty. If there’s something you can’t or don’t want to share, just tell him you’re not ready. He’ll respect your openness.\\nHave no fear about your secrets getting leaked. This man will take whatever you tell him to the grave, and wants the same from you too.\\n10. 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To keep things interesting, explore sexual taboos and kinks with him (he loves anything out of the mainstream) and experiment with role playing and new toys.\\nThis man likes to be in control in the bedroom. Try some role playing scenarios with different power dynamics to mix things up and take charge from time to time.\\nWhispering naughty or emotional comments in his ear during sex is a huge turn on for him.\\nSex is very important to him and he views it as a way to express his emotions. He’s usually looking for a meaningful sex connection and isn’t prone to flings or one night stands.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Venus in Scorpio is a potent mix of passion, sensuality, and intense emotions. Men born with this planet placement are mysterious, brooding heartthrobs—no wonder you want to attract one! Penetrating their aloof facade to appeal to the sensitive man underneath is easier than you’d think. With some confidence, mystery, and sex appeal, this man will be all yours in no time. 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Museums, art exhibitions, or documentary screenings are great for this guy.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Talk about your successes.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A Venus in Scorpio guy is looking for someone as driven as he is.\", \"描述\": \"He’s ambitious, career-oriented, and will do anything to achieve his goals. Talk about your biggest achievements in life or your aspirations at work to show you’re passionate about what you do. He’ll be instantly attracted to anyone who can match his intensity and success.\\nTell him about anything else you’re passionate about like artistic projects, charity work, or health and fitness.\\nAwards, media mentions, or public recognition are attractive to him too.\\nKeep the talk about yourself genuine. There’s no need to fudge your accomplishments to impress him (and he’ll probably be able to tell anyway).\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Share his interest in dark and unusual things.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Anything occult, mysterious, or rebellious grabs this man’s attention.\", \"描述\": \"The mainstream is boring to him, so flaunt your knowledge about something supernatural, philosophical, spooky, or uncommon. He’ll be attracted to anyone who finds beauty in darkness and appreciates his unique taste.\\nTell him about any protests you’ve been to or a story about your rebellious youth. He’ll love to hear about your independent streak.\\nShare books or movies about weird historical events, death, psychological topics, or anything unknown that has researchers stumped (these make great gift ideas, too!).\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Wow him with your strong-willed personality.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A dynamic, strong person is super appealing to him.\", \"描述\": \"He has trouble relating to passive people and thinks confidence and power are super attractive. He likes to be in charge in relationships, but finds a partner who challenges and pushes him irresistible.\\nAdvocate for your wants and needs and voice your disagreements with this guy. He’d prefer to hash things out than have someone just submit to him.\\nShow him you have your own life to live by making plans and doing things you like to do outside of his company.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Make him feel protective of you.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"If life were a movie, this guy would be the cliché overprotective lover.\", \"描述\": \"He gets deep emotional satisfaction from feeling like your knight in shining armor. Share some slightly vulnerable information, like your insecurities or bad past experiences. He’ll drop everything to stand by your side and protect you from feeling that way ever again.\\nHe’ll feel attractive and wanted when he can support you in such a meaningful way.\\nOnly share what you’re comfortable sharing. A respectful Venus in Scorpio will be curious to know more but should accept your boundaries.\\nSome semi-vulnerable topics you could share are stories about difficulties or setbacks you’ve experienced or something you’re worried or skeptical about.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Be 100% honest with him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Insecurity runs deep for a Venus in Scorpio.\", \"描述\": \"He’s naturally suspicious and needs lots of reassurance that you’re being honest with him. Always be straightforward and open to show him you’re solid and reliable.\\nIt’s very hard for him to forgive dishonesty. If there’s something you can’t or don’t want to share, just tell him you’re not ready. He’ll respect your openness.\\nHave no fear about your secrets getting leaked. This man will take whatever you tell him to the grave, and wants the same from you too.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Demonstrate your loyalty by not flirting with other people.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Loyalty and commitment are at the top of this guy’s priority list.\", \"描述\": \"He’s all or nothing when it comes to relationships and dating and he’ll be deeply hurt if you’re involved with other people. He can be jealous or possessive at times, so focus on just him while you get to know each other—he’ll give you 100% of his attention and wants someone who can do the same for him.\\nNothing hurts a Venus in Scorpio like a perceived betrayal. If you do flirt with or have feelings for someone else, tell him right away. He’d rather hear it from you than find out some other way.\\nDelete your dating apps while you’re with him too. Even if you're not using them, the sight of Hinge on your phone screen will make him paranoid.\\nA Venus in Scorpio man wants you all to himself. 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2,825 | How to Attract a Virgo Female | 1. Making the Connection
1-1. Be friends with her first.
The Virgo female is one you have to draw out slowly. She needs to know who you are and be comfortable with you before things can even touch on romantic or sexual. She likes to know exactly what she's getting into, so be friends with her first. Anything worth it is worth the wait, and she definitely is.
Use, subtle, incidental touches to get her used to physical contact with you. It doesn't put you up for rejection, but it still gets your touch in her subconscious. Hopefully, she'll start liking it and wanting it more and more. She'll start touching you back, letting you know it's okay to proceed.
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1-2. Make the first move.
Virgo girls are very shy, so be careful not to mistake shyness for her not being interested in you. To start off a relationship with a Virgo, you're going to have to be the one to make the first move, as she's too shy and traditional to do it herself. Once she gets to know you, however, her shyness will wear off and she will become confident around you. But for right now, you'll be doing the brunt of the work.
Know exactly what you want to do -- she'll be attracted to your determination knowledge. Tell her exactly where you'd like to take her to dinner or what you would like to do this weekend. Who could refuse an offer delivered with such confidence and desire?
Keep it traditional. Don't get her alone in a dark room and start loosening your belt. Be romantic and slow-to-start. She needs to be courted above all else.
1-3. Be nice
Virgo women have a soft spot for more romantic words and would prefer to be called "beautiful" or "pretty" instead of "hot" or "sexy." When you're interacting with her, be kind and caring. She will not be impressed by any display of machismo or playful condescension. Games are not her thing.
She is looking for a partner who will be a constant. Who can help her not worry and put her mind at ease. If you engage in a game of cat-and-mouse or tug-of-war, she won't be having it. She wants to know that you are into her and only her and don't plan on going anywhere. In short, she needs to trust you.
1-4. Have intelligent conversations with her.
Above all else, Virgo will value your mind. It's great if you're sweet and good-looking, but if the lights aren't all on upstairs, she'll be heading for the hills in no time at all. So when you're talking to her, find what gets her excited. She's probably well-read on just about everything!
She'll love it if you can talk about current events, politics, literature, music, history, science, and everything in between. If you can keep up with her, she'll know you deserve her and are worthy. So start reading up!
1-5. Read her eyes.
Since a Virgo is an animal you have to draw out of its cage, it's important to sense how she's feeling about you. When you're sitting next to her, look into her eyes. If they're lustful and scream that she's dying to get closer to you, go in for the kill. If they're saying, "What the hell are you doing?" it's time to back off.
A lot of understanding Virgo will be reading her. Sometimes you'll be wrong, but if you've built up a friendship, you should be pretty good at this by now. But if worse comes to worse, you could openly ask her! She'll appreciate your directness as long as you're tactful and diplomatic.
2. Having the Look
2-1. Dress snappy.
The Virgo woman likes her partner to be a good dresser. She's quite the perfectionist, so you gotta be put together, too (she doesn't want to waste her time doing it for you!). The casual Virgo will be good with a nice t-shirt and jeans, but the dressier Virgo will want a jacket and spiffy shoes. Whatever it is, look like you put thought into it.
That isn't to say you need to be trendy. No, no, no -- there are pieces that are timeless that Virgo will always appreciate. A good button-down shirt, a nice jacket -- even a nostalgic vintage tee will garner her approval. As long as you have some thought into your look, she'll notice.
2-2. Have good hygiene.
In addition to rocking the right clothes, you gotta be clean! Virgo needs a partner who's well-groomed to the max: that means clean ears, clean fingernails, clean noses, clean everything. And smelling good, too!
2-3. Get your life clean, too.
If Virgo gets into your car and has to wade through wrappers to sit down, she'd rather walk. Walk back to her home, that is. She can't stand messes and won't tolerate yours. It's a total turn off for her to be with someone who isn't organized. She'll have no choice but to get out of bed and clean your room for you! Definitely not romantic.
So when you find her organizing your closet by thread count, don't be surprised. This is just her. You shouldn't go about changing your ways -- unless you're of the type that leaves pizza on the floor for later. Virgo doesn't need a partner that's as clean as she is, but she doesn't want a slob!
2-4. Have it all.
Virgo wants her lover to be everything -- smart, funny, cute, and loving. Though intelligent definitely takes center stage, ideally you'd be a powerhouse of awesome qualities. Be as well-balanced as possible to keep her finding more and more things about you that she loves.
To keep her wanting more, talk to her about everything. Engage her mind. It could be about literally anything. If she wants to talk about 18th century Swiss art, great. If she wants to talk about the Kardashians, great. Show her that you can handle every side of her and her mind.
3. Being Compatible
3-1. Help her worry less.
Virgo's mind is running, running, running all the time. ALL THE TIME. She's constantly nit-picking at something, including herself. She needs someone who can help calm her down, to be her rock. If you can do this, there will be no way she can let you go.
When you see her thinking, ask her what's going on. If she doesn't open up, don't leave. She may just be feeling the waters or uncomfortable asking for assistance. Let her know you're there if and when she needs you.
When you get to know her well, odds are you'll have a grip on at least a few of the reasons she's worried. Try to make her plate less full by picking up the slack. Does she need to run errands? Clean the house? What can you help her with that gives her more time to relax?
3-2. Deal with her perfectionism.
Because her mind is running all the time, she notices every detail in the book. If something is a bit off, rest assured she'll take note. So when your shirt is a bit wrinkled in the back, she notices. When your spice cabinet isn't organized, she notices. It's not a dealbreaker by any means, but it is something she will remark on in her head.
Things may take a bit longer with her because of this. Though Virgo will always be punctual, she probably knows by now to allot more time for specific endeavors. If she's the creative type, she could be devoted to her art for days until its just right. She's a modern-day Goldilocks!
3-3. Get her in nature.
Virgos are natural outdoorsy people. If you want to see her grin, get her outside. Take her on a picnic or go hiking. Rent a paddle boat and float on a lake. She's not the type to complain about the weather or need her hair to look perfect at every second. Get her outdoors and give her a memory to cherish forever!
3-4. Know that she can be quite private.
Virgo doesn't believe in kissing and telling and wearing her heart on her sleeve all the time. Sure, there will be times when she feels like opening up, but more often than not, assume she wants to stay reserved. Keep the PDAs to minimum -- you'll have time to be affectionate at home.
Sometimes Virgo is quiet about her emotions, too. If you want to know how she's thinking or feeling, you may have to ask. It's not because she doesn't have feelings for you; it's just because she finds emotions to be an incredibly personal matter.
3-5. Keep your word.
Virgo needs to know she can depend on you. Because of this, be sure to keep your word. For example, if you say you'll call her at 3 PM, call her at 3 PM -- not 3:30 or 4:00. If you're dependable, she'll come to you without worry.
So before you say you'll do anything, make sure you can actually do it. Don't make promises or commitments you can't keep. And if you absolutely must break your promise, have good intentions and explain your situation fully. Then, she'll appreciate your honesty and your attempt at accommodating her.
3-6. Compromise.
Virgos hate fighting and arguing. Virgo girls will let you do what you want, but will secretly be upset. This can lead to serious fractures in the foundation of the relationship. Compromise with her to keep both of you happy.
Watch your temper. Gentle Virgo is turned off by unwarranted anger and rage. Listen to her when she tries to talk to you. Usually what they tell you is important, or she wouldn't bother telling you!
3-7. Be faithful to her.
If you come off as the type who kicks a woman out of bed in the morning, Virgo won't give you the time of day. When you get to know her, make it clear that you are honest, trustworthy, and understand how to treat people, women in particular. Virgo does not search the toolbox for prospective partners.
Virgos are really sensitive and look for a steady partner that will be loyal and faithful. Virgos can be flirty, but once they're in a relationship they are completely committed. The man who gets a Virgo will be the only man in her life.
Tips
Never never never lie to a Virgo woman.[16]
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She is strong enough to accept whatever the truth may be and will get more hurt by dishonesty.
Don't promise a Virgo lady anything if you can't keep promises.
Be reliable and honest to build trust. Virgos worry and this will help put their minds at ease.
Warnings
If you're mean, selfish, sloppy, ignorant, dishonest, rude, or lazy, a Virgo woman is NOT for you.
Virgo, like Scorpio, can be EXTREMELY private, so you'll need patience when it comes to getting to know them.
Virgo women can be very nasty when they're angry.[17]
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She will not be impressed by any display of machismo or playful condescension. Games are not her thing.\\nShe is looking for a partner who will be a constant. Who can help her not worry and put her mind at ease. If you engage in a game of cat-and-mouse or tug-of-war, she won't be having it. She wants to know that you are into her and only her and don't plan on going anywhere. In short, she needs to trust you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Have intelligent conversations with her.\", \"描述\": \"Above all else, Virgo will value your mind. It's great if you're sweet and good-looking, but if the lights aren't all on upstairs, she'll be heading for the hills in no time at all. So when you're talking to her, find what gets her excited. She's probably well-read on just about everything!\\nShe'll love it if you can talk about current events, politics, literature, music, history, science, and everything in between. If you can keep up with her, she'll know you deserve her and are worthy. So start reading up!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Read her eyes.\", \"描述\": \"Since a Virgo is an animal you have to draw out of its cage, it's important to sense how she's feeling about you. When you're sitting next to her, look into her eyes. If they're lustful and scream that she's dying to get closer to you, go in for the kill. If they're saying, \\\"What the hell are you doing?\\\" it's time to back off.\\nA lot of understanding Virgo will be reading her. Sometimes you'll be wrong, but if you've built up a friendship, you should be pretty good at this by now. But if worse comes to worse, you could openly ask her! She'll appreciate your directness as long as you're tactful and diplomatic.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Having the Look\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Dress snappy.\", \"描述\": \"The Virgo woman likes her partner to be a good dresser. She's quite the perfectionist, so you gotta be put together, too (she doesn't want to waste her time doing it for you!). The casual Virgo will be good with a nice t-shirt and jeans, but the dressier Virgo will want a jacket and spiffy shoes. Whatever it is, look like you put thought into it.\\nThat isn't to say you need to be trendy. No, no, no -- there are pieces that are timeless that Virgo will always appreciate. A good button-down shirt, a nice jacket -- even a nostalgic vintage tee will garner her approval. As long as you have some thought into your look, she'll notice.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Have good hygiene.\", \"描述\": \"In addition to rocking the right clothes, you gotta be clean! Virgo needs a partner who's well-groomed to the max: that means clean ears, clean fingernails, clean noses, clean everything. And smelling good, too!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get your life clean, too.\", \"描述\": \"If Virgo gets into your car and has to wade through wrappers to sit down, she'd rather walk. Walk back to her home, that is. She can't stand messes and won't tolerate yours. It's a total turn off for her to be with someone who isn't organized. She'll have no choice but to get out of bed and clean your room for you! Definitely not romantic.\\nSo when you find her organizing your closet by thread count, don't be surprised. This is just her. You shouldn't go about changing your ways -- unless you're of the type that leaves pizza on the floor for later. Virgo doesn't need a partner that's as clean as she is, but she doesn't want a slob!\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Have it all.\", \"描述\": \"Virgo wants her lover to be everything -- smart, funny, cute, and loving. Though intelligent definitely takes center stage, ideally you'd be a powerhouse of awesome qualities. Be as well-balanced as possible to keep her finding more and more things about you that she loves.\\nTo keep her wanting more, talk to her about everything. Engage her mind. It could be about literally anything. If she wants to talk about 18th century Swiss art, great. If she wants to talk about the Kardashians, great. Show her that you can handle every side of her and her mind.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Being Compatible\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Help her worry less.\", \"描述\": \"Virgo's mind is running, running, running all the time. ALL THE TIME. She's constantly nit-picking at something, including herself. She needs someone who can help calm her down, to be her rock. If you can do this, there will be no way she can let you go.\\nWhen you see her thinking, ask her what's going on. If she doesn't open up, don't leave. She may just be feeling the waters or uncomfortable asking for assistance. Let her know you're there if and when she needs you.\\nWhen you get to know her well, odds are you'll have a grip on at least a few of the reasons she's worried. Try to make her plate less full by picking up the slack. Does she need to run errands? Clean the house? What can you help her with that gives her more time to relax?\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Deal with her perfectionism.\", \"描述\": \"Because her mind is running all the time, she notices every detail in the book. If something is a bit off, rest assured she'll take note. So when your shirt is a bit wrinkled in the back, she notices. When your spice cabinet isn't organized, she notices. It's not a dealbreaker by any means, but it is something she will remark on in her head.\\nThings may take a bit longer with her because of this. Though Virgo will always be punctual, she probably knows by now to allot more time for specific endeavors. If she's the creative type, she could be devoted to her art for days until its just right. She's a modern-day Goldilocks!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get her in nature.\", \"描述\": \"Virgos are natural outdoorsy people. If you want to see her grin, get her outside. Take her on a picnic or go hiking. Rent a paddle boat and float on a lake. 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2,826 | How to Attract a Virgo Man As a Cancer Woman | 1. Dress neatly whenever he's around.
Virgo men tend to be attracted to clean, well-groomed women.
When it comes to his appearance, the typical Virgo man could best be described as "fastidious." He's a perfectionist and expects his companion to have similar standards. Your Cancerian closet full of timeless classics should provide plenty of options to draw in that Virgo guy.
He does like expensive brands, but that doesn't mean that you have to break out designer duds all the time. It's more important to wear clean, well-maintained clothes that fit your body well.
Stick to neutral or muted colors, which he prefers to anything bright and bold.
If you usually wear makeup, keep it minimal around him. He's not necessarily one for dramatic or bold looks.
2. Show him your nurturing side.
Virgo men admire a natural mothering instinct.
Cancer women are daughters of the celestial mother figure the Moon. For this reason, your sign is considered the most nurturing of the zodiac, so this shouldn't be hard for you at all. Snuggle a puppy or hold a baby and he'll be putty in your hands.
If you dream of being a mother someday, tell him about it! You don't have to worry about scaring him off—Virgos tend to look forward to starting a family as well, so chances are you're on the same page.
3. Ask him for advice or guidance.
The typical Virgo loves to be helpful.
If you've got a problem that you can't figure out, he'll be happy to help you solve it. Even better, ask him about something you know he's really good at—he'll appreciate that you acknowledge his expertise. Since, as a Cancer, you love to be catered to and taken care of in a relationship, this is a great way to get that ball rolling.
It's also a great way to strike up that first conversation if you've never really spoken to him before. For example, if he's a computer science major, you might ask him about a particularly sticky problem you keep having with your computer.
As a practical Earth sign, Virgo men also tend to be good with their hands, so don't hesitate to ask if he can take a look at that wobbly chair or the leaky faucet in your bathroom.
4. Be willing to take the lead.
Your Virgo man is going to be a bit standoffish at first.
Unfortunately, Cancer women tend to be pretty standoffish as well, so this might be hard for you. But if you're into this guy, you might have to make the first move (and the second, and the third). Rest assured, though, he's not going out with you to humor you—if he accepts your invitations, he's into you as well.
At the same time, you don't want to be too pushy—although that shouldn't be a problem for a guarded crab. Try gently suggesting something fun, such as a concert or a trip to a local museum, and he'll be game.
5. Ask him over for dinner and a movie.
Virgos are typically homebodies too so a night in is perfect for him.
You know how you'd rather stay in and watch a movie than go out on the town? That Virgo guy is right there with you. If you know your way around a kitchen, you might cook him dinner as well—then he'll really be interested.
Keep this in mind any time you're planning something for the two of you to do together. He tends to be introverted (which you can likely understand as a Cancer), so he's going to need time to recharge after a raucous party or a night at a dance club.
6. Act like a proper lady.
Virgos tend to be pretty strait-laced and a little old-fashioned.
You'll likely know if your guy fits this Virgo stereotype by his reputation and how he acts in public, but most Virgos are perfect gentlemen. Luckily for you as a Cancer, this is probably right up your alley. But if you have a bit of a wild side, keep it under wraps until the two of you know each other a little better.
Keep in mind that Virgos tend to be pretty shy as well, so he's not one who wants to be the center of attention. He's not going to be attracted to the loud, bold type—not that Cancers have the reputation for that anyway.
7. Mention your volunteering or charity work.
Virgo men tend to be very charitable by nature.
If you're involved with a local charity, bring it up around him and he'll definitely be impressed. For a great date idea, suggest going to a charity dinner and he'll swoon. An opportunity to dress up and help the less fortunate? It's hard to plan a better evening for a Virgo.
For example, if you volunteer to serve food at a local homeless shelter, invite him along with you—he'll love helping out and really appreciate that you're right there with him.
Cancers are nurturing types, so it's likely you work with some sort of organization that helps the downtrodden or defenseless, such as an animal shelter or a children's charity.
8. Strike up an intelligent conversation.
Virgos are known for their intelligence and love witty banter.
You don't have to worry about hiding your intelligence around a Virgo guy. Ruled by the logical planet Mercury, Virgos are some of the most intelligent and analytical guys in the zodiac. Moon maidens are known to be smart, so just show him that you're his intellectual equal and you'll have him wrapped around your finger in no time.
This is really easy if you happen to go to school together. Just ask him about his favorite classes or talk to him about your latest research project.
You might also ask him about the last book he read, or talk about your favorite book that you've read recently. Virgos also tend to love in-depth documentaries.
9. Be on time whenever you meet up with him.
Virgo men tend to be very efficient and exacting about time.
If you tell him you're going to meet him at a café at noon, be there at 11:55. He'll appreciate that you're reliable and consistent. This can be tough for you, Cancer, since your sign has a reputation for being notoriously late—but if you set him as a priority, you'll get better at it.
If something happens and you're going to be late or need to reschedule, text him as soon as possible and let him know.
Show that you're respectful of his time and don't want to keep him waiting and he'll love that.
10. Have patience in getting to know him.
Virgos tend to take a while to open up, so this relationship will likely move slowly.
Just keep in mind that the best things are worth waiting for. A Virgo guy typically wants to be really comfortable around someone before he truly lets them in. As a guarded Cancer, you likely understand this very well.
When he does start talking about his feelings, listen and ask questions to encourage him to open up more.
If you interrupt him or make light of what he's saying, he'll think twice before he shares his emotions with you again.
11. Share something that has sentimental value.
Your Virgo guy understands the importance of keepsakes.
Cancers have the reputation for being packrats, and a Virgo won't mind that at all (because he's typically the same way). That hair ribbon from your final dance recital? The remnants of your favorite baby blanket? He'll treasure those things—and the stories behind them—as much as you do.
This is also a good way to get him to open up. Virgo guys tend to have a hard time expressing their emotions, but sharing a beloved possession with him gives him an opening to share something of his own.
12. Buy him something custom-made just for him.
Virgo men typically adore quality handcrafted items.
It doesn't have to be big or expensive, but if it was made especially for him, he'll swoon. As a Water sign, your Cancerian intuition will tell you exactly what the perfect gift for him would be. He's a big fan of thoughtful gifts that he'll use every day, such as a fancy shaving kit.
If you're crafty, you might make him something yourself—he'll treasure it forever if he knows that you created it especially for him.
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For this reason, your sign is considered the most nurturing of the zodiac, so this shouldn't be hard for you at all. Snuggle a puppy or hold a baby and he'll be putty in your hands.\\nIf you dream of being a mother someday, tell him about it! You don't have to worry about scaring him off—Virgos tend to look forward to starting a family as well, so chances are you're on the same page.\\n3. Ask him for advice or guidance.\\nThe typical Virgo loves to be helpful.\\nIf you've got a problem that you can't figure out, he'll be happy to help you solve it. Even better, ask him about something you know he's really good at—he'll appreciate that you acknowledge his expertise. Since, as a Cancer, you love to be catered to and taken care of in a relationship, this is a great way to get that ball rolling.\\nIt's also a great way to strike up that first conversation if you've never really spoken to him before. For example, if he's a computer science major, you might ask him about a particularly sticky problem you keep having with your computer.\\nAs a practical Earth sign, Virgo men also tend to be good with their hands, so don't hesitate to ask if he can take a look at that wobbly chair or the leaky faucet in your bathroom.\\n4. Be willing to take the lead.\\nYour Virgo man is going to be a bit standoffish at first.\\nUnfortunately, Cancer women tend to be pretty standoffish as well, so this might be hard for you. But if you're into this guy, you might have to make the first move (and the second, and the third). Rest assured, though, he's not going out with you to humor you—if he accepts your invitations, he's into you as well.\\nAt the same time, you don't want to be too pushy—although that shouldn't be a problem for a guarded crab. Try gently suggesting something fun, such as a concert or a trip to a local museum, and he'll be game.\\n5. Ask him over for dinner and a movie.\\nVirgos are typically homebodies too so a night in is perfect for him.\\nYou know how you'd rather stay in and watch a movie than go out on the town? That Virgo guy is right there with you. If you know your way around a kitchen, you might cook him dinner as well—then he'll really be interested.\\nKeep this in mind any time you're planning something for the two of you to do together. He tends to be introverted (which you can likely understand as a Cancer), so he's going to need time to recharge after a raucous party or a night at a dance club.\\n6. Act like a proper lady.\\nVirgos tend to be pretty strait-laced and a little old-fashioned.\\nYou'll likely know if your guy fits this Virgo stereotype by his reputation and how he acts in public, but most Virgos are perfect gentlemen. Luckily for you as a Cancer, this is probably right up your alley. But if you have a bit of a wild side, keep it under wraps until the two of you know each other a little better.\\nKeep in mind that Virgos tend to be pretty shy as well, so he's not one who wants to be the center of attention. He's not going to be attracted to the loud, bold type—not that Cancers have the reputation for that anyway.\\n7. Mention your volunteering or charity work.\\nVirgo men tend to be very charitable by nature.\\nIf you're involved with a local charity, bring it up around him and he'll definitely be impressed. For a great date idea, suggest going to a charity dinner and he'll swoon. An opportunity to dress up and help the less fortunate? It's hard to plan a better evening for a Virgo.\\nFor example, if you volunteer to serve food at a local homeless shelter, invite him along with you—he'll love helping out and really appreciate that you're right there with him.\\nCancers are nurturing types, so it's likely you work with some sort of organization that helps the downtrodden or defenseless, such as an animal shelter or a children's charity.\\n8. Strike up an intelligent conversation.\\nVirgos are known for their intelligence and love witty banter.\\nYou don't have to worry about hiding your intelligence around a Virgo guy. Ruled by the logical planet Mercury, Virgos are some of the most intelligent and analytical guys in the zodiac. Moon maidens are known to be smart, so just show him that you're his intellectual equal and you'll have him wrapped around your finger in no time.\\nThis is really easy if you happen to go to school together. Just ask him about his favorite classes or talk to him about your latest research project.\\nYou might also ask him about the last book he read, or talk about your favorite book that you've read recently. Virgos also tend to love in-depth documentaries.\\n9. Be on time whenever you meet up with him.\\nVirgo men tend to be very efficient and exacting about time.\\nIf you tell him you're going to meet him at a café at noon, be there at 11:55. He'll appreciate that you're reliable and consistent. This can be tough for you, Cancer, since your sign has a reputation for being notoriously late—but if you set him as a priority, you'll get better at it.\\nIf something happens and you're going to be late or need to reschedule, text him as soon as possible and let him know.\\nShow that you're respectful of his time and don't want to keep him waiting and he'll love that.\\n10. Have patience in getting to know him.\\nVirgos tend to take a while to open up, so this relationship will likely move slowly.\\nJust keep in mind that the best things are worth waiting for. A Virgo guy typically wants to be really comfortable around someone before he truly lets them in. As a guarded Cancer, you likely understand this very well.\\nWhen he does start talking about his feelings, listen and ask questions to encourage him to open up more.\\nIf you interrupt him or make light of what he's saying, he'll think twice before he shares his emotions with you again.\\n11. Share something that has sentimental value.\\nYour Virgo guy understands the importance of keepsakes.\\nCancers have the reputation for being packrats, and a Virgo won't mind that at all (because he's typically the same way). That hair ribbon from your final dance recital? The remnants of your favorite baby blanket? He'll treasure those things—and the stories behind them—as much as you do.\\nThis is also a good way to get him to open up. Virgo guys tend to have a hard time expressing their emotions, but sharing a beloved possession with him gives him an opening to share something of his own.\\n12. Buy him something custom-made just for him.\\nVirgo men typically adore quality handcrafted items.\\nIt doesn't have to be big or expensive, but if it was made especially for him, he'll swoon. As a Water sign, your Cancerian intuition will tell you exactly what the perfect gift for him would be. He's a big fan of thoughtful gifts that he'll use every day, such as a fancy shaving kit.\\nIf you're crafty, you might make him something yourself—he'll treasure it forever if he knows that you created it especially for him.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you're a Cancer woman who has your eye on a Virgo man, you're in luck—astrologically, this is a highly compatible match. Just be your kind, caring Cancer self and you should have no trouble snagging that handsome Virgo. Need something a little more concrete than that? You've come to the right place! Here, we've gathered some of the best tips for you to use to make sure you attract the Virgo of your dreams and keep him hooked on you.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Dress neatly whenever he's around.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Virgo men tend to be attracted to clean, well-groomed women.\", \"描述\": \"When it comes to his appearance, the typical Virgo man could best be described as \\\"fastidious.\\\" He's a perfectionist and expects his companion to have similar standards. Your Cancerian closet full of timeless classics should provide plenty of options to draw in that Virgo guy.\\nHe does like expensive brands, but that doesn't mean that you have to break out designer duds all the time. It's more important to wear clean, well-maintained clothes that fit your body well.\\nStick to neutral or muted colors, which he prefers to anything bright and bold.\\nIf you usually wear makeup, keep it minimal around him. He's not necessarily one for dramatic or bold looks.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Show him your nurturing side.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Virgo men admire a natural mothering instinct.\", \"描述\": \"Cancer women are daughters of the celestial mother figure the Moon. For this reason, your sign is considered the most nurturing of the zodiac, so this shouldn't be hard for you at all. Snuggle a puppy or hold a baby and he'll be putty in your hands.\\nIf you dream of being a mother someday, tell him about it! You don't have to worry about scaring him off—Virgos tend to look forward to starting a family as well, so chances are you're on the same page.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask him for advice or guidance.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The typical Virgo loves to be helpful.\", \"描述\": \"If you've got a problem that you can't figure out, he'll be happy to help you solve it. Even better, ask him about something you know he's really good at—he'll appreciate that you acknowledge his expertise. Since, as a Cancer, you love to be catered to and taken care of in a relationship, this is a great way to get that ball rolling.\\nIt's also a great way to strike up that first conversation if you've never really spoken to him before. For example, if he's a computer science major, you might ask him about a particularly sticky problem you keep having with your computer.\\nAs a practical Earth sign, Virgo men also tend to be good with their hands, so don't hesitate to ask if he can take a look at that wobbly chair or the leaky faucet in your bathroom.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be willing to take the lead.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Your Virgo man is going to be a bit standoffish at first.\", \"描述\": \"Unfortunately, Cancer women tend to be pretty standoffish as well, so this might be hard for you. But if you're into this guy, you might have to make the first move (and the second, and the third). Rest assured, though, he's not going out with you to humor you—if he accepts your invitations, he's into you as well.\\nAt the same time, you don't want to be too pushy—although that shouldn't be a problem for a guarded crab. 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He's not going to be attracted to the loud, bold type—not that Cancers have the reputation for that anyway.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Mention your volunteering or charity work.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Virgo men tend to be very charitable by nature.\", \"描述\": \"If you're involved with a local charity, bring it up around him and he'll definitely be impressed. For a great date idea, suggest going to a charity dinner and he'll swoon. An opportunity to dress up and help the less fortunate? It's hard to plan a better evening for a Virgo.\\nFor example, if you volunteer to serve food at a local homeless shelter, invite him along with you—he'll love helping out and really appreciate that you're right there with him.\\nCancers are nurturing types, so it's likely you work with some sort of organization that helps the downtrodden or defenseless, such as an animal shelter or a children's charity.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Strike up an intelligent conversation.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Virgos are known for their intelligence and love witty banter.\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to worry about hiding your intelligence around a Virgo guy. Ruled by the logical planet Mercury, Virgos are some of the most intelligent and analytical guys in the zodiac. Moon maidens are known to be smart, so just show him that you're his intellectual equal and you'll have him wrapped around your finger in no time.\\nThis is really easy if you happen to go to school together. Just ask him about his favorite classes or talk to him about your latest research project.\\nYou might also ask him about the last book he read, or talk about your favorite book that you've read recently. Virgos also tend to love in-depth documentaries.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Be on time whenever you meet up with him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Virgo men tend to be very efficient and exacting about time.\", \"描述\": \"If you tell him you're going to meet him at a café at noon, be there at 11:55. He'll appreciate that you're reliable and consistent. This can be tough for you, Cancer, since your sign has a reputation for being notoriously late—but if you set him as a priority, you'll get better at it.\\nIf something happens and you're going to be late or need to reschedule, text him as soon as possible and let him know.\\nShow that you're respectful of his time and don't want to keep him waiting and he'll love that.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Have patience in getting to know him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Virgos tend to take a while to open up, so this relationship will likely move slowly.\", \"描述\": \"Just keep in mind that the best things are worth waiting for. A Virgo guy typically wants to be really comfortable around someone before he truly lets them in. As a guarded Cancer, you likely understand this very well.\\nWhen he does start talking about his feelings, listen and ask questions to encourage him to open up more.\\nIf you interrupt him or make light of what he's saying, he'll think twice before he shares his emotions with you again.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Share something that has sentimental value.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Your Virgo guy understands the importance of keepsakes.\", \"描述\": \"Cancers have the reputation for being packrats, and a Virgo won't mind that at all (because he's typically the same way). That hair ribbon from your final dance recital? The remnants of your favorite baby blanket? He'll treasure those things—and the stories behind them—as much as you do.\\nThis is also a good way to get him to open up. 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2,827 | How to Attract a Virgo Man As a Pisces Woman | 1. Flaunt your ethereal beauty.
Virgos admire natural, elegant, and effortless looks.
That’s you to a T, Pisces! As a Pisces, you're graced with a magnetic, almost magical appearance. To attract your Virgo crush, Astrologer Stina Garbis suggests that you "dress well, have nice hair, perfect makeup, have attention to detail in your personal appearance— you will make them and everyone else turn their heads." Other things to think about include maintaining great posture, holding eye contact, and projecting confidence. To play up your enchanting appearance and hook a Virgo man, sport delicate, refined looks in his company.
Wear your hair down, in braids, or in a high ponytail. If you sport a shorter style, wear a floral headband.
Go for flowy or floral outfits. You’ll get bonus points if the material is soft to the touch.
Try to incorporate soft colors, like light pinks, lavenders, blues, and whites.
2. Ask for his help.
To a Virgo, feeling needed is the ultimate turn-on.
Astrologer Stina Garbis emphasizes, "Virgo’s [...] love to pitch in to help." If you're up for it, she even suggests that you, "Allow [Virgos] to give advice no matter how cringey, [...] let them mansplain from time to time." Whether it’s housework, a tech problem, or a souffle falling flat, ask your Virgo crush for help and he'll end up feeling closer to you. Create excuses to ask for his expertise in order to make him feel like he's valuable to you and in turn, make him more attracted to you.
“Hey, I hate to bother you. Do you know anything about steam cleaning? I’d love your help if you have the time.”
“My tablet is frozen again. No chance you’d want to help me figure this out, would you?”
“Do I remember correctly that you’re a bit of a baking extraordinaire? I think I may be out of my depth here. Will you help me with this next batch?”
3. Thank him for his effort.
A Virgo wants to feel genuinely appreciated, especially by his crush.
Acknowledge your Virgo crush's care and concern for you, and you'll make him the happiest guy on the planet. Luckily, “Thank you” rolls off the tongue pretty easily if you’re a Pisces because you love reminding people that you care. Look out for any and all opportunities to show your Virgo that you're grateful for him.
Thank him for big acts of service: “I can’t believe you made me dinner! You knew I had a hard week. Thank you so much. This means the world, honestly.”
Appreciate his smaller gestures, too: “Thanks for holding the door. That’s so sweet of you!”
4. Get him to relax.
Pisces have a gift for destressing, which any Virgo could use 24/7.
You're the queen of comforting others. Look out for signs that your Virgo is stressed, like if he's pacing around or maybe sweating. Engage in a little light banter, throw an arm over his shoulder, or offer some words of reassurance to help ease his tension. He’ll love you for helping him take a load off!
Offer him a quick massage. While you work, engage in lighthearted conversation topics, like fantasy football or a movie.
If you’re out with friends and you sense he’s stressed, find an excuse to touch him. Put an arm over his shoulder, press your knee to his, or pat his leg.
Pisces have a gift for thoughtful pep talks: “I know you’re stressed, but you’re amazing. Look at all you’ve accomplished so far!”
5. Clean up around you.
To show a Virgo that you care, acts of service are the way to go.
This sign is famous for needing order in their lives, so they often feel stressed in disorganized spaces. Astrologer Stina Garbis recommends that you, "Pick up after yourself and be conscientious of cleanliness and hygiene." If the two of you are hanging out, take a minute to clean up after yourself. Put your shoes by the door, throw your trash away, and avoid leaving food out. This'll read as a thoughtful gesture to your Virgo crush, and it'll definitely be an attractive habit to him.
At your house, consider completing a quick clean before he stops by. He’ll love that you cared enough to make him feel comfortable.
Pisces, cleanliness might not always be your strong suit. When you're at his place, try setting a recurring alarm reminding you to do a quick clean.
Pro tip: ask a pal to send you reminder texts when you’re with your Virgo crush!
6. Be kind and sincere in conversation.
Virgos crave authentic, kind words from the people around them.
Pisces, this is a huge win for you. There is no other sign in the zodiac quite as genuine and empathetic as you are. When you two talk, speak in a gentle, affectionate tone. Ask thoughtful questions, offer genuine compliments, and challenge your Virgo's self-criticism. Astrologer Stina Gabris explains what "If you make yourself open and available, [it can help] get a shy and receptive sign like Virgo to approach."
If he mentions feeling stressed, show an interest in that: “Do you know what brought that feeling on?”
Ask for details about his work and projects: “Wow, your bathroom turned out great. You really put up this wallpaper yourself?”
Use a gentle tone to push back against his negative self-talk: “I think you’re being too hard on yourself. You’re one of the smartest people I know.”
7. Empathize with his stress.
A Virgo wants someone who takes his high-strung nature in stride.
When you’re getting closer to a Virgo, boost his spirits without minimizing his feelings. Virgos deal with big, overwhelming stress on the day-to-day—so take his feelings seriously to avoid rubbing him the wrong way. Astrologer Stina Garbis recommends that you " Listen to them and let them talk when they need to talk and let them complain without stepping in."Simply empathize with him, and he'll be thrilled. Luckily, that's a talent of yours, Pisces.
“Wow, that does sound so stressful. How are you feeling now?”
“Yes, I can totally see why you feel that way. I would, too.”
“Those feelings make a ton of sense. Do you want to talk more about that?”
8. Show him you’re reliable.
To impress a Virgo, you'll need to prove that he can depend on you.
As a Pisces, you may struggle just a bit to show up on time and remember important dates, but a Virgo needs someone who can be there when it really counts. To prove that that's you, rise to the occasion and focus on being reliable. Treat his time with respect and plan your schedule around him.
Set times aside in your weekly schedule just for your Virgo crush. Never miss an appointment without a great excuse.
Be mindful of his big events. Make sure you always offer good luck and congratulations. If you grab him treats to celebrate when he finishes, that’s even better.
When the two of you have plans, always assume that they’re a big deal to him. Don’t cancel unless you have a great excuse.
9. Accept that he can be critical at times.
A Virgo critiques others constantly, but you can trust that he means well.
This is a sign that gets a bad reputation for being cold, but the truth is, they're just analytical. Virgos believe they'd be doing their loved ones a disservice by keeping observations to themselves. Ask him to give you the well-meaning motivation behind his criticism. Or, look for his good intentions yourself. If you want his behavior to change, but Astrologer Stina Garbis emphasizes that it's important to frame the ask correctly: "Try not to give too much advice to a Virgo man, they like to think they know it all."
Ask him to clarify: “I get what you mean. But could you explain why you think I should be more organized in kinder terms? How do you think it’ll help me in my life?”
Look for the positive intention yourself: He watches me search for my car keys for like an hour every day. He probably thinks getting organized will improve my life.
10. Help him cope with your strong emotions.
A Virgo may struggle to keep up with a Pisces’ emotional range.
In a relationship, neither of you should feel like you have to fight your authentic nature in order to be happy together. So you, Pisces, don’t need to subdue any strong feelings just to please him. Instead, come up with a strategy to make sure this dynamic doesn't hurt your relationship.
If you’re in a mood, be upfront about that: “Hi. Just FYI, I’m feeling moody. I’m not mad, but I’m going to be alone in my room for the night.”
Once your mood has passed, follow up with him: “Thanks so much for giving me space last night. I really needed it. Just want to reiterate that it had nothing to do with you!”
Let him know that he's free to ask questions now that you’re feeling better: “Let me know if you have anything to say or ask. I’m here to listen!”
11. Show him that you’re trustworthy.
A Virgo and Pisces both expect devotion from their partners.
Luckily, they know how to be fully devoted themselves, too. Communicate your intentions clearly with each other. A Virgo may prefer to show his devotion through actions, but initiate a conversation about expectations to ensure you're on the same page. Continue to initiate discussions as your relationship changes over time.
When you two decide to be exclusive, stay loyal.
When you decide things are serious, factor him into your big decisions.
12. Bond over shared rituals in your relationship.
By enjoying routines together, Virgo and Pisces can find a deep connection.
You know those movie couples who wake up, make a cup of coffee, and do the morning crossword together? That’s Virgo and Pisces energy. You two are all about intentionality and really sharing your lives, so search for opportunities to create sweet routines with each other.
Offer to grab coffee and breakfast in the mornings. Share it with your Virgo crush in bed or at the dining table. Make this a habit whenever you stay over on the weekends.
Get used to working in the same space. Even without chatting, the two of you can bond through shared peace, quiet, and productivity.
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Ask for his help.\\nTo a Virgo, feeling needed is the ultimate turn-on.\\nAstrologer Stina Garbis emphasizes, \\\"Virgo’s [...] love to pitch in to help.\\\" If you're up for it, she even suggests that you, \\\"Allow [Virgos] to give advice no matter how cringey, [...] let them mansplain from time to time.\\\" Whether it’s housework, a tech problem, or a souffle falling flat, ask your Virgo crush for help and he'll end up feeling closer to you. Create excuses to ask for his expertise in order to make him feel like he's valuable to you and in turn, make him more attracted to you. \\n“Hey, I hate to bother you. Do you know anything about steam cleaning? I’d love your help if you have the time.”\\n“My tablet is frozen again. No chance you’d want to help me figure this out, would you?”\\n“Do I remember correctly that you’re a bit of a baking extraordinaire? I think I may be out of my depth here. Will you help me with this next batch?”\\n3. Thank him for his effort.\\nA Virgo wants to feel genuinely appreciated, especially by his crush.\\nAcknowledge your Virgo crush's care and concern for you, and you'll make him the happiest guy on the planet. Luckily, “Thank you” rolls off the tongue pretty easily if you’re a Pisces because you love reminding people that you care. Look out for any and all opportunities to show your Virgo that you're grateful for him.\\nThank him for big acts of service: “I can’t believe you made me dinner! You knew I had a hard week. Thank you so much. This means the world, honestly.”\\nAppreciate his smaller gestures, too: “Thanks for holding the door. That’s so sweet of you!”\\n4. Get him to relax.\\nPisces have a gift for destressing, which any Virgo could use 24/7.\\nYou're the queen of comforting others. Look out for signs that your Virgo is stressed, like if he's pacing around or maybe sweating. Engage in a little light banter, throw an arm over his shoulder, or offer some words of reassurance to help ease his tension. He’ll love you for helping him take a load off!\\nOffer him a quick massage. While you work, engage in lighthearted conversation topics, like fantasy football or a movie.\\nIf you’re out with friends and you sense he’s stressed, find an excuse to touch him. Put an arm over his shoulder, press your knee to his, or pat his leg.\\nPisces have a gift for thoughtful pep talks: “I know you’re stressed, but you’re amazing. Look at all you’ve accomplished so far!”\\n5. Clean up around you.\\nTo show a Virgo that you care, acts of service are the way to go.\\nThis sign is famous for needing order in their lives, so they often feel stressed in disorganized spaces. Astrologer Stina Garbis recommends that you, \\\"Pick up after yourself and be conscientious of cleanliness and hygiene.\\\" If the two of you are hanging out, take a minute to clean up after yourself. Put your shoes by the door, throw your trash away, and avoid leaving food out. This'll read as a thoughtful gesture to your Virgo crush, and it'll definitely be an attractive habit to him.\\nAt your house, consider completing a quick clean before he stops by. He’ll love that you cared enough to make him feel comfortable.\\nPisces, cleanliness might not always be your strong suit. When you're at his place, try setting a recurring alarm reminding you to do a quick clean.\\nPro tip: ask a pal to send you reminder texts when you’re with your Virgo crush!\\n6. Be kind and sincere in conversation.\\nVirgos crave authentic, kind words from the people around them.\\nPisces, this is a huge win for you. There is no other sign in the zodiac quite as genuine and empathetic as you are. When you two talk, speak in a gentle, affectionate tone. Ask thoughtful questions, offer genuine compliments, and challenge your Virgo's self-criticism. Astrologer Stina Gabris explains what \\\"If you make yourself open and available, [it can help] get a shy and receptive sign like Virgo to approach.\\\"\\nIf he mentions feeling stressed, show an interest in that: “Do you know what brought that feeling on?”\\nAsk for details about his work and projects: “Wow, your bathroom turned out great. You really put up this wallpaper yourself?”\\nUse a gentle tone to push back against his negative self-talk: “I think you’re being too hard on yourself. You’re one of the smartest people I know.”\\n7. Empathize with his stress.\\nA Virgo wants someone who takes his high-strung nature in stride.\\nWhen you’re getting closer to a Virgo, boost his spirits without minimizing his feelings. Virgos deal with big, overwhelming stress on the day-to-day—so take his feelings seriously to avoid rubbing him the wrong way. 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That’s Virgo and Pisces energy. You two are all about intentionality and really sharing your lives, so search for opportunities to create sweet routines with each other.\\nOffer to grab coffee and breakfast in the mornings. Share it with your Virgo crush in bed or at the dining table. Make this a habit whenever you stay over on the weekends.\\nGet used to working in the same space. Even without chatting, the two of you can bond through shared peace, quiet, and productivity.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The soft, sentimental Pisces and practical, analytical Virgo may seem like polar opposites, but these two definitely have what it takes to find everlasting love. Pisces, if you're looking to grab a Virgo's attention, trust that your beauty, grace, and empathetic nature will be a huge help to you. With a little guidance, you'll have no trouble connecting with a dependable, thoughtful, and completely dreamy Virgo man. 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To play up your enchanting appearance and hook a Virgo man, sport delicate, refined looks in his company.\\nWear your hair down, in braids, or in a high ponytail. If you sport a shorter style, wear a floral headband.\\nGo for flowy or floral outfits. You’ll get bonus points if the material is soft to the touch.\\nTry to incorporate soft colors, like light pinks, lavenders, blues, and whites.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask for his help.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"To a Virgo, feeling needed is the ultimate turn-on.\", \"描述\": \"Astrologer Stina Garbis emphasizes, \\\"Virgo’s [...] love to pitch in to help.\\\" If you're up for it, she even suggests that you, \\\"Allow [Virgos] to give advice no matter how cringey, [...] let them mansplain from time to time.\\\" Whether it’s housework, a tech problem, or a souffle falling flat, ask your Virgo crush for help and he'll end up feeling closer to you. Create excuses to ask for his expertise in order to make him feel like he's valuable to you and in turn, make him more attracted to you. \\n“Hey, I hate to bother you. Do you know anything about steam cleaning? I’d love your help if you have the time.”\\n“My tablet is frozen again. No chance you’d want to help me figure this out, would you?”\\n“Do I remember correctly that you’re a bit of a baking extraordinaire? I think I may be out of my depth here. Will you help me with this next batch?”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Thank him for his effort.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A Virgo wants to feel genuinely appreciated, especially by his crush.\", \"描述\": \"Acknowledge your Virgo crush's care and concern for you, and you'll make him the happiest guy on the planet. Luckily, “Thank you” rolls off the tongue pretty easily if you’re a Pisces because you love reminding people that you care. Look out for any and all opportunities to show your Virgo that you're grateful for him.\\nThank him for big acts of service: “I can’t believe you made me dinner! You knew I had a hard week. Thank you so much. This means the world, honestly.”\\nAppreciate his smaller gestures, too: “Thanks for holding the door. That’s so sweet of you!”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get him to relax.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pisces have a gift for destressing, which any Virgo could use 24/7.\", \"描述\": \"You're the queen of comforting others. Look out for signs that your Virgo is stressed, like if he's pacing around or maybe sweating. Engage in a little light banter, throw an arm over his shoulder, or offer some words of reassurance to help ease his tension. He’ll love you for helping him take a load off!\\nOffer him a quick massage. While you work, engage in lighthearted conversation topics, like fantasy football or a movie.\\nIf you’re out with friends and you sense he’s stressed, find an excuse to touch him. Put an arm over his shoulder, press your knee to his, or pat his leg.\\nPisces have a gift for thoughtful pep talks: “I know you’re stressed, but you’re amazing. Look at all you’ve accomplished so far!”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Clean up around you.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"To show a Virgo that you care, acts of service are the way to go.\", \"描述\": \"This sign is famous for needing order in their lives, so they often feel stressed in disorganized spaces. Astrologer Stina Garbis recommends that you, \\\"Pick up after yourself and be conscientious of cleanliness and hygiene.\\\" If the two of you are hanging out, take a minute to clean up after yourself. Put your shoes by the door, throw your trash away, and avoid leaving food out. 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Astrologer Stina Gabris explains what \\\"If you make yourself open and available, [it can help] get a shy and receptive sign like Virgo to approach.\\\"\\nIf he mentions feeling stressed, show an interest in that: “Do you know what brought that feeling on?”\\nAsk for details about his work and projects: “Wow, your bathroom turned out great. You really put up this wallpaper yourself?”\\nUse a gentle tone to push back against his negative self-talk: “I think you’re being too hard on yourself. You’re one of the smartest people I know.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Empathize with his stress.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A Virgo wants someone who takes his high-strung nature in stride.\", \"描述\": \"When you’re getting closer to a Virgo, boost his spirits without minimizing his feelings. Virgos deal with big, overwhelming stress on the day-to-day—so take his feelings seriously to avoid rubbing him the wrong way. Astrologer Stina Garbis recommends that you \\\" Listen to them and let them talk when they need to talk and let them complain without stepping in.\\\"Simply empathize with him, and he'll be thrilled. Luckily, that's a talent of yours, Pisces.\\n“Wow, that does sound so stressful. How are you feeling now?”\\n“Yes, I can totally see why you feel that way. I would, too.”\\n“Those feelings make a ton of sense. Do you want to talk more about that?”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Show him you’re reliable.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"To impress a Virgo, you'll need to prove that he can depend on you.\", \"描述\": \"As a Pisces, you may struggle just a bit to show up on time and remember important dates, but a Virgo needs someone who can be there when it really counts. To prove that that's you, rise to the occasion and focus on being reliable. Treat his time with respect and plan your schedule around him.\\nSet times aside in your weekly schedule just for your Virgo crush. Never miss an appointment without a great excuse.\\nBe mindful of his big events. Make sure you always offer good luck and congratulations. If you grab him treats to celebrate when he finishes, that’s even better.\\nWhen the two of you have plans, always assume that they’re a big deal to him. Don’t cancel unless you have a great excuse.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Accept that he can be critical at times.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A Virgo critiques others constantly, but you can trust that he means well.\", \"描述\": \"This is a sign that gets a bad reputation for being cold, but the truth is, they're just analytical. Virgos believe they'd be doing their loved ones a disservice by keeping observations to themselves. Ask him to give you the well-meaning motivation behind his criticism. Or, look for his good intentions yourself. If you want his behavior to change, but Astrologer Stina Garbis emphasizes that it's important to frame the ask correctly: \\\"Try not to give too much advice to a Virgo man, they like to think they know it all.\\\"\\nAsk him to clarify: “I get what you mean. But could you explain why you think I should be more organized in kinder terms? How do you think it’ll help me in my life?”\\nLook for the positive intention yourself: He watches me search for my car keys for like an hour every day. He probably thinks getting organized will improve my life.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Help him cope with your strong emotions.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A Virgo may struggle to keep up with a Pisces’ emotional range.\", \"描述\": \"In a relationship, neither of you should feel like you have to fight your authentic nature in order to be happy together. So you, Pisces, don’t need to subdue any strong feelings just to please him. Instead, come up with a strategy to make sure this dynamic doesn't hurt your relationship.\\nIf you’re in a mood, be upfront about that: “Hi. Just FYI, I’m feeling moody. I’m not mad, but I’m going to be alone in my room for the night.”\\nOnce your mood has passed, follow up with him: “Thanks so much for giving me space last night. I really needed it. Just want to reiterate that it had nothing to do with you!”\\nLet him know that he's free to ask questions now that you’re feeling better: “Let me know if you have anything to say or ask. I’m here to listen!”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Show him that you’re trustworthy.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A Virgo and Pisces both expect devotion from their partners.\", \"描述\": \"Luckily, they know how to be fully devoted themselves, too. Communicate your intentions clearly with each other. A Virgo may prefer to show his devotion through actions, but initiate a conversation about expectations to ensure you're on the same page. Continue to initiate discussions as your relationship changes over time.\\nWhen you two decide to be exclusive, stay loyal.\\nWhen you decide things are serious, factor him into your big decisions.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Bond over shared rituals in your relationship.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"By enjoying routines together, Virgo and Pisces can find a deep connection.\", \"描述\": \"You know those movie couples who wake up, make a cup of coffee, and do the morning crossword together? That’s Virgo and Pisces energy. You two are all about intentionality and really sharing your lives, so search for opportunities to create sweet routines with each other.\\nOffer to grab coffee and breakfast in the mornings. Share it with your Virgo crush in bed or at the dining table. Make this a habit whenever you stay over on the weekends.\\nGet used to working in the same space. Even without chatting, the two of you can bond through shared peace, quiet, and productivity.\"}]}]}}",
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2,828 | How to Attract a Virgo Man As a Scorpio Woman | 1. Dress in simple, classic clothes.
You'll turn a Virgo's eye with a clean, well-put-together look.
A Virgo man is typically attracted to a woman wearing neat, classic clothing that fits well and suits her figure. As a Scorpio, you tend to have an intuition for how to best dress for any occasion—put it to work here! You might prefer to vamp it up a little, especially on a date, but with a Virgo guy, keep it a little more subtle.
For example, if you know you're going to cross paths with him, you might wear a V-neck sweater and knee-length A-line skirt with some cute ballet flats.
Add a unique accessory that has a story behind it or reveals something about your personality—he'll be drawn to it and want to know more about it. For example, you might have a bright beaded bracelet that your niece made for you.
2. Show up around his favorite spots.
You'll capture his curiosity if he keeps seeing you around.
This doesn't mean you should stalk him, but if you know he likes to go to the café across the street from campus before his afternoon class, make it a point to go there around the same time. When he sees you, make eye contact and acknowledge him. He'll definitely remember you next time you cross paths.
While it can be easier to have a friend with you, he'll be more likely to approach you if you're alone. If you're with someone or seem busy, he'll probably leave you alone.
3. Approach him first to start a conversation.
Virgo guys can be shy, so don't wait for him to break the ice.
It's possible you could cross paths with him a dozen times and he still won't say anything to you—but that doesn't necessarily mean he's not interested. In fact, the more he's attracted to you, the shyer he's likely to be. Just take the lead and strike up a natural conversation.
For example, you might walk up to him and say, "Hi, I've seen you here a couple of times, but I don't think we've officially met. What's your name?"
If you know you have something in common, mention it! For example, if you're in the same class you might say, "Hey, gotta get that coffee before chem class, right? I sit two rows behind you."
4. Don't hide your intelligence.
Virgo men love a woman who's smart and witty.
You don't have to worry about a Virgo guy being intimidated by you because you happened to get the top grade in the class or got selected for a competitive internship. On the contrary, he'll be all the more attracted to you if you show that you're a little brainy—so don't be afraid to let that geek flag fly!
If you're in school together, you might talk about your favorite class or the subject you happen to be studying at the moment.
Virgo has a reputation as one of the smartest signs in the zodiac, so he's more likely to be turned on by a witty pun than a scantily clad selfie.
5. Keep him interested by holding something back.
A Virgo man likes to get to know you slowly.
This doesn't mean you should refuse to answer his questions or hide things from him—just don't tell him your whole life story on the first date. Since Scorpios are known to be secretive and mysterious, this shouldn't be a problem for you.
For example, if you go to school together and you're talking about the classes you take, maybe don't volunteer your major or what you plan to do when you get out of school. Instead, hold it back and let him tease it out of you.
6. Ask him for advice.
If he helps you solve a problem he'll feel valuable to you.
Virgo guys tend to love being the hero, the guy who rescues the "damsel in distress"—even if it's a simple dilemma of what to choose at a local café. For more serious problems, he'll be honored that you came to him for advice when you needed it.
For example, if you're having an ongoing issue with your roommate, you might explain the situation to him and ask what you should do. Virgos are analytical by nature, so he'll ask questions to get to the heart of the matter.
You might also ask him for help or advice regarding something you know he's an expert on. For example, if you know he's good with computers and you're having a problem with your laptop, you might ask him if he can help you figure it out.
7. Hit the gym together to get some exercise.
Virgo guys often obsess about their looks and spend a lot of time at the gym.
If you're both active and health-conscious, a gym date might be perfect—as long as you're not afraid to work up a sweat in front of your crush. And don't forget to ask him for pointers on your form—Virgos in particular often enjoy helping people out.
For example, you might say, "Hey, I noticed you go to the gym on Thursdays. Mind if I tag along? I'd love to start lifting weights but I'm nervous about my form."
If the gym isn't really your style, maybe invite him out for a run with you or challenge him to a game of tennis or one-on-one basketball.
8. Volunteer together to help a local charity.
You both tend to be service-oriented and enjoy helping out.
Virgo is an earth sign, so if you've got an environmental cause, he'll likely be on board. He also enjoys helping out and making the community where you live a better place.
For example, you might go up to him and say, "Hey, I'm going to be planting some trees in the park with the Green Warriors Society on Sunday, would you like to come help?"
You might also look for volunteer activities you can do together, almost like a date. For example, you might take dogs from the local animal shelter to the dog park together.
9. Start a DIY project together.
Projects keep the Virgo guy occupied and allow him to feel useful.
Working together to fix something old or create something new is a great bonding opportunity. Your Virgo guy will love everything from the initial planning to ultimately getting his hands dirty—and rest assured, no detail will be overlooked.
For example, if have an old bookcase you've always wanted to refinish, bring it up to your Virgo guy. Bounce ideas off of him, then hit the hardware store together for supplies.
Many Virgos are known for their craftsmanship, but be careful—if your Virgo guy has skills and experience, he'll tend to want to control every aspect of the project and micro-manage every detail. If you know he knows way more about it than you do, though, you might be just fine with that.
You might also go to a hardware or craft store and see what catches your eye that the two of you could build something with. You'll end up creating something that's yours alone.
10. Let him know you need him and value his contributions.
The Virgo man always likes to feel appreciated.
When he helps you out with something, thank him for his efforts. Keep your eye out for the little things he does and mention occasionally just how much they mean to you. And if you have to do something on your own, you might mention that it would've been easier or more fun if he'd been there to help out.
For example, you might say, "Thanks so much for helping me build that bookcase. I never could've gotten those shelves to sit right without you!"
On the other hand, Virgos are often suspicious of straight compliments, so keep those at a minimum. Compliment him for something he does, rather than how he looks.
11. Keep your plans open and flexible.
Because Virgo is a mutable sign, he might change things a lot.
Scorpio is a fixed sign, which means you're usually more comfortable in a routine. You like to make a plan and stick to it—you only change course if something happens to make your original plan impossible. Not so with Virgo—he's typically more of a "go with the flow" type. Your relationship will go more smoothly if you show that you're willing to accept small changes that don't make much of a difference.
Be ready for him to bring something up at the last minute—if you can keep your plans a little loose, you can accommodate his 11th-hour changes without it derailing your day.
For example, you might be headed to a park for a picnic when he sees a shop that he wants to stop and check out. If you have your food packed in coolers, it won't go bad while you browse for a few minutes.
12. Focus on logical solutions to problems.
The Virgo man has difficulty following emotions.
If you're a typical Scorpio, you're a master of going with your gut. You'll make decisions based on your intuition and how you feel about a situation, which your Virgo fella will consider random and unreasonable. It's not that he thinks your feelings aren't important—he just thinks logic and reason are more reliable.
If you have a problem, it's usually better to hash it out with a more intuitive friend first. Once you've gotten to the root of the problem, you can go to your Virgo guy for advice and he'll have some ideas for you.
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Show up around his favorite spots.\\nYou'll capture his curiosity if he keeps seeing you around.\\nThis doesn't mean you should stalk him, but if you know he likes to go to the café across the street from campus before his afternoon class, make it a point to go there around the same time. When he sees you, make eye contact and acknowledge him. He'll definitely remember you next time you cross paths.\\nWhile it can be easier to have a friend with you, he'll be more likely to approach you if you're alone. If you're with someone or seem busy, he'll probably leave you alone.\\n3. Approach him first to start a conversation.\\nVirgo guys can be shy, so don't wait for him to break the ice.\\nIt's possible you could cross paths with him a dozen times and he still won't say anything to you—but that doesn't necessarily mean he's not interested. In fact, the more he's attracted to you, the shyer he's likely to be. Just take the lead and strike up a natural conversation.\\nFor example, you might walk up to him and say, \\\"Hi, I've seen you here a couple of times, but I don't think we've officially met. What's your name?\\\"\\nIf you know you have something in common, mention it! For example, if you're in the same class you might say, \\\"Hey, gotta get that coffee before chem class, right? I sit two rows behind you.\\\"\\n4. Don't hide your intelligence.\\nVirgo men love a woman who's smart and witty.\\nYou don't have to worry about a Virgo guy being intimidated by you because you happened to get the top grade in the class or got selected for a competitive internship. On the contrary, he'll be all the more attracted to you if you show that you're a little brainy—so don't be afraid to let that geek flag fly!\\nIf you're in school together, you might talk about your favorite class or the subject you happen to be studying at the moment.\\nVirgo has a reputation as one of the smartest signs in the zodiac, so he's more likely to be turned on by a witty pun than a scantily clad selfie.\\n5. Keep him interested by holding something back.\\nA Virgo man likes to get to know you slowly.\\nThis doesn't mean you should refuse to answer his questions or hide things from him—just don't tell him your whole life story on the first date. Since Scorpios are known to be secretive and mysterious, this shouldn't be a problem for you.\\nFor example, if you go to school together and you're talking about the classes you take, maybe don't volunteer your major or what you plan to do when you get out of school. Instead, hold it back and let him tease it out of you.\\n6. 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He also enjoys helping out and making the community where you live a better place.\\nFor example, you might go up to him and say, \\\"Hey, I'm going to be planting some trees in the park with the Green Warriors Society on Sunday, would you like to come help?\\\"\\nYou might also look for volunteer activities you can do together, almost like a date. For example, you might take dogs from the local animal shelter to the dog park together.\\n9. Start a DIY project together.\\nProjects keep the Virgo guy occupied and allow him to feel useful.\\nWorking together to fix something old or create something new is a great bonding opportunity. Your Virgo guy will love everything from the initial planning to ultimately getting his hands dirty—and rest assured, no detail will be overlooked.\\nFor example, if have an old bookcase you've always wanted to refinish, bring it up to your Virgo guy. 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It's not that he thinks your feelings aren't important—he just thinks logic and reason are more reliable.\\nIf you have a problem, it's usually better to hash it out with a more intuitive friend first. Once you've gotten to the root of the problem, you can go to your Virgo guy for advice and he'll have some ideas for you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"You know what they say—opposites attract. As a Scorpio woman with your eye on a Virgo guy, that's good news for you! He's a flexible earth sign while you're a stable water sign, but once the two of you lock in on a common goal, nothing can stand in your way. 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On the contrary, he'll be all the more attracted to you if you show that you're a little brainy—so don't be afraid to let that geek flag fly!\\nIf you're in school together, you might talk about your favorite class or the subject you happen to be studying at the moment.\\nVirgo has a reputation as one of the smartest signs in the zodiac, so he's more likely to be turned on by a witty pun than a scantily clad selfie.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep him interested by holding something back.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A Virgo man likes to get to know you slowly.\", \"描述\": \"This doesn't mean you should refuse to answer his questions or hide things from him—just don't tell him your whole life story on the first date. Since Scorpios are known to be secretive and mysterious, this shouldn't be a problem for you.\\nFor example, if you go to school together and you're talking about the classes you take, maybe don't volunteer your major or what you plan to do when you get out of school. Instead, hold it back and let him tease it out of you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Ask him for advice.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"If he helps you solve a problem he'll feel valuable to you.\", \"描述\": \"Virgo guys tend to love being the hero, the guy who rescues the \\\"damsel in distress\\\"—even if it's a simple dilemma of what to choose at a local café. For more serious problems, he'll be honored that you came to him for advice when you needed it.\\nFor example, if you're having an ongoing issue with your roommate, you might explain the situation to him and ask what you should do. 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I'd love to start lifting weights but I'm nervous about my form.\\\"\\nIf the gym isn't really your style, maybe invite him out for a run with you or challenge him to a game of tennis or one-on-one basketball.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Volunteer together to help a local charity.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You both tend to be service-oriented and enjoy helping out.\", \"描述\": \"Virgo is an earth sign, so if you've got an environmental cause, he'll likely be on board. He also enjoys helping out and making the community where you live a better place.\\nFor example, you might go up to him and say, \\\"Hey, I'm going to be planting some trees in the park with the Green Warriors Society on Sunday, would you like to come help?\\\"\\nYou might also look for volunteer activities you can do together, almost like a date. For example, you might take dogs from the local animal shelter to the dog park together.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Start a DIY project together.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Projects keep the Virgo guy occupied and allow him to feel useful.\", \"描述\": \"Working together to fix something old or create something new is a great bonding opportunity. Your Virgo guy will love everything from the initial planning to ultimately getting his hands dirty—and rest assured, no detail will be overlooked.\\nFor example, if have an old bookcase you've always wanted to refinish, bring it up to your Virgo guy. Bounce ideas off of him, then hit the hardware store together for supplies.\\nMany Virgos are known for their craftsmanship, but be careful—if your Virgo guy has skills and experience, he'll tend to want to control every aspect of the project and micro-manage every detail. If you know he knows way more about it than you do, though, you might be just fine with that.\\nYou might also go to a hardware or craft store and see what catches your eye that the two of you could build something with. You'll end up creating something that's yours alone.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Let him know you need him and value his contributions.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The Virgo man always likes to feel appreciated.\", \"描述\": \"When he helps you out with something, thank him for his efforts. Keep your eye out for the little things he does and mention occasionally just how much they mean to you. And if you have to do something on your own, you might mention that it would've been easier or more fun if he'd been there to help out.\\nFor example, you might say, \\\"Thanks so much for helping me build that bookcase. I never could've gotten those shelves to sit right without you!\\\"\\nOn the other hand, Virgos are often suspicious of straight compliments, so keep those at a minimum. Compliment him for something he does, rather than how he looks.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Keep your plans open and flexible.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Because Virgo is a mutable sign, he might change things a lot.\", \"描述\": \"Scorpio is a fixed sign, which means you're usually more comfortable in a routine. You like to make a plan and stick to it—you only change course if something happens to make your original plan impossible. Not so with Virgo—he's typically more of a \\\"go with the flow\\\" type. 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2,829 | How to Attract a Virgo Man As an Aquarius Woman | 1. Look your best.
Virgos appreciate people who look neat and tidy.
He will notice every little detail about how you look, so dress to impress. As an Aquarius, you're already really stylish, but make sure that your hair is clean and styled, and that your outfit doesn't look sloppy or thrown together. Instead of reaching for the bold, bright colors and designs that you usually wear, try earth tones like greens, browns, and warm reds.
Virgos love elegant, put-together looks, so reach for a classic dress or a tailored blouse and slacks.
2. Make eye contact and smile.
Virgos prefer to approach first but they need a little encouragement.
While he wants to make the first move, he'll only do it if he's sure that you like him. Keep your body language open around him—keep your arms uncrossed, make eye contact, and smile. You can also drop subtle hints or tease him in a flirty way. This should be natural for you since Aquarius people are charming.
For example, say something like, "I don't think you realize the effect you have on people when you walk into a room."
You could also say something flirty like, "I know you've got your evening all planned out, but maybe you'd let me shake things up a little."
3. Bring up interesting topics.
Virgos are drawn to intelligent people who can hold their own in conversation.
After all, Virgo is ruled by Mercury, the planet of communication. Fortunately, as an Aquarius, you should have no problem showing off your unique point of view! Instead of making small talk, jump right in and have conversations that are original and thoughtful.
For instance, you might ask, "Who have been the most influential people in your life?"
Try asking something thoughtful like, "Do you think people have the capacity to truly change?"
4. Give him lots of compliments.
Flatter your Virgo to make him feel confident around you.
Virgos are hardworking and they often don't feel appreciated. Since you're a bubbly, friendly Aquarius, you shouldn't have trouble finding something about him that you admire and telling him about it. He'll feel appreciated and his self-esteem will soar.
For instance, you could gently touch his arm and say something like, "Thank you again for helping me study the other night. You have a way of explaining things really well," or, "I think you should know that you're the most handsome man in the room."
5. Talk about your interests and goals.
Virgos are attracted to people who are ambitious and independent.
This also gives you two something interesting to talk about. Casually share what your day's been like and be completely honest. He'll be curious about what you've been doing and he'll love that he's getting to know you.
It's important that he sees you have your own life, so he doesn't think you're rushing into an exclusive relationship with him.
For instance, you might call him at the end of the day and tell him how work went or let him know about something funny that happened at school that day.
6. Ask for his help with something.
Appeal to his Virgo-desire to serve, so he feels useful.
As an Aquarius, you might be reluctant to ask for help, but it's a great way to make him feel valued. He'll also feel proud that you asked him when you could have asked anyone else.
For instance, you could text him and say, "My car is dead and I don't know how to use my jumper cables. Could you help?" or "I'm not sure which class I should sign up for next semester. What are your thoughts?"
7. Surprise him with thoughtful gestures.
Virgos are detail-oriented and little gestures mean a lot to him.
As an Aquarius, you're caring, so it shouldn't be hard for you to think about what would mean a lot to your guy. Maybe you pick up his dry cleaning if he mentioned not having time to get it, or you could get lunch delivered to him if he said he wouldn't have time to grab it himself.
Virgos aren't looking for huge romantic gestures. Your guy would rather see that you remember things he's said or things he likes, and he'll love that you're trying to make his life easier.
8. Plan dates that work with his schedule.
A Virgo guy doesn't like being surprised or having his routine disrupted.
As a really energetic, spontaneous sign, this can be hard for you to understand! He'd much rather you work with him to make plans.
For instance, instead of saying, "Surprise! I got concert tickets for us and it starts in an hour," he'd rather you say, "I was thinking of getting concert tickets for this weekend. Are you free on Saturday night?"
9. Go on fun dates that let you play together.
Help your Virgo man loosen up, so he enjoys your company.
Virgos can be a little uptight! Fortunately, your Aquarius nature is bubbly and outgoing. Invite him to do things that let him play and unwind. Maybe you ask him out for mini-golf or you take him to a comedy show—whatever you do, try to laugh and have fun together.
Ultimately, you'll hook your Virgo guy because of how you make him feel. If he feels joyful and happy when he's around you, he'll keep wanting more.
10. Offer him emotional support.
Virgos appreciate someone who's caring and stable.
As an Earth sign, your guy wants a relationship with someone who's grounded and there for him. As an Aquarius, you're naturally intuitive, so it's easy for you to sense what he needs. For instance, if he's having a rough day, you might realize that he just wants someone to talk to.
He's a steadfast sign, so giving your constant support makes him feel comfortable.
11. Show him that you’re loyal.
Virgos want exclusive relationships, so give him your full attention.
It might be tricky for you to clamp down on your fun, outgoing nature, but it's really important that you don't flirt or appear overly friendly with other guys. He wants to know that you're only interested in him.
A good way to strengthen your connection is to keep the lines of communication open. Virgos appreciate regular contact. For instance, if you haven't seen him in a day or two, send him a text to touch base or plan your next date.
12. Be patient with him.
Let your Virgo guy open up on his own terms instead of rushing him.
This is the classic Virgo-Aquarius issue! You probably realize immediately that you want to have a relationship with him, but he drags his feet and can't seem to make up his mind until it's too late and you've moved on. Wait for it—if you give him the chance to move at his own pace, he'll be totally committed to you.
If you're feeling frustrated while you wait, just remind yourself about the qualities that attracted you to him. Sometimes, just telling yourself that he's worth it can make it easier to wait.
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2,830 | How to Attract a Virgo Man Sexually | 1. Engage him with intelligent conversation.
A Virgo man appreciates someone with a great intellect.
He’ll feel happy and comfortable with someone who can hold their own in conversation. Show off your knowledge on a variety of topics and current events—for Virgo, a well-informed partner is a sexy partner.
Keep your conversations authentic. He’ll be able to tell if you’re pretending to have an opinion or trying to be somebody else to impress him.
Great conversation topics could be anything in the local or international news, a new breakthrough or project at work, or telling an amusing story.
2. Compliment him so he feels desired.
A Virgo man’s mind and ego are his erogenous zones.
Give him lots of compliments—tell him how hot and attractive he is, how smart he is, or let him know you like his company. The more you show him genuine affection, the more he’ll start to like you and his sexual attraction will get even stronger.
Keep your compliments genuine and don’t lay it on too thick. If he sniffs a hint of fake, he’ll be turned off and lose some trust in you.
3. Play easy-to-get.
Virgo men aren’t natural pursuers.
If you make yourself open, available, and not a hard target, that might get a shy and receptive sign like Virgo to approach. As a mutable sign, Virgo is more go-with-the-flow than other earth signs and he’ll opt for the path of least resistance when it comes to making a move.
Try intriguing your Virgo man by appealing to his intellect or a fetish you know he has. This will tempt him to approach you even more.
Approach him first or strike up a friendly conversation to break the ice. Make it really clear you’re into him with eye contact, laughter, and welcoming body language.
If your Virgo man isn’t getting the hint, make the first move with a seductive touch or by asking him out. A Virgo guy will appreciate a straightforward approach.
4. Help him find ways to express himself.
A Virgo man has trouble voicing his thoughts and feelings.
Help him express his desires by prompting him with flirtatious questions like “How do I look?” or “What do you think of this new perfume?” As he gets more confident complementing you, his sexual attraction will grow.
A big turn on for a Virgo man is a partner who doesn’t need constant validation. Be careful not to overdo it or he might see it as attention-seeking.
5. Shower thoroughly before you see him.
Good personal hygiene is a must for a Virgo man.
He will always be impeccably clean and fresh and expects his partner to be too. He has a sensitive sense of smell and is easily turned off by any hint of BO. Jump in the shower before you meet up, especially if you suspect sex will be involved. Always wear deodorant and a pleasant perfume around your Virgo guy to tantalize him.
Showering together is the best (and most fun!) way to satisfy Virgo’s need for everyone to be clean before sex.
After you get squeaky clean, put on a crisp, well-fitting outfit and a light makeup look to appeal to his love of a classic, natural beauty.
6. Act like an angel to lure him in.
Virgo is the “virgin” of the zodiac.
This explains their prudish front and their attraction to pure, modest partners. To attract him, showcase your angelic and innocent side and avoid jumping into your dirtiest desires right away. Once he overcomes his reserve, he’ll be open to your wilder side.
Talk about work, volunteering, your family, or other wholesome things in your life to mesmerize him. The less he suspects your kinky preferences, the more pleasantly surprised he’ll be later.
A Virgo man falls for the “lady in the streets, freak in the sheets” type. A proper partner with a secret kinky side is a big turn on for him.
Virgo men are more likely to be freakier right away if they view you as a fling instead of a potential long term partner.
7. Show him that he can trust you.
Virgo men are usually shy lovers at first.
They’re uncomfortable with emotional vulnerability and need to know they can let their guard down with you. Spend time together outside of the bedroom and speak freely with each other (talking is a turn on for a Virgo guy). When he feels he can trust you, he’ll be down for just about anything.
Be candid with your thoughts and try not to hide things from him. He’s more likely to embrace vulnerability if he sees you embrace it too.
Express your authentic thoughts and feelings. A Virgo guy can usually tell if you’re withholding or fudging the truth.
8. Communicate your wants and needs.
A Virgo man will be turned on by knowing what satisfies you.
Talk to him about what positions, techniques, and fantasies you crave—the more descriptive and directive you can be, the better. Dirty talk is a great and fun way to tell him what you want and build up his excitement.
Keep the communication going during sex. Moan or tell him you like what he’s doing—the reassurance will ease his perfectionist tendencies and help him loosen up.
Virgo men love to pitch in to help. Playfully tell him you need him to do these things to you and that no one else can get the job done.
9. Create a romantic atmosphere.
Earth signs are highly sensual and like comfortable, nice things.
Appeal to all of his senses to get him in the mood. Try a gourmet dinner and fine wine paired with romantic music and a few fragrant candles to make things truly sensual.
Tantalize his sense of touch too with a suggestive massage and fresh, soft sheets on the bed.
Virgo men are very visually stimulated, especially during sex. Keep some mood lighting on in the bedroom so he can see you.
10. Make sure the bedroom is spotless.
Virgo men are the neat freaks of the zodiac.
They’re often most comfortable getting intimate in their own homes since they can control the mess and cleanliness. Make sure your home (especially the bedroom) is decluttered, clean, and well-organized to help him relax into a sexy mood.
A Virgo man has an insane eye for detail. Anything out of order can distract him during sex, so double and triple check that your room is immaculate!
11. Enjoy long, sensual foreplay.
For a Virgo man, sex is about the journey, not the destination.
He’ll take his time warming you up, and he’s good at it too (Virgo is ruled by Mercury, which governs the hands and mouth). He gets satisfaction from pleasing you, so let him do his thing. You’ll both enjoy the payoff after a long, tantalizing buildup.
Guide him with your body language and words while he explores your body. He’s turned on by direction and knowing that he’s doing the right things.
Virgo men like to please—just make sure to reciprocate and make him feel appreciated.
12. Let yourself climax first.
A Virgo man’s ultimate pleasure is pleasuring you.
He probably wants you to finish first, so let it happen. His attraction to you will be red hot when he knows he has what it takes to satisfy you in bed. He’ll be so turned on afterwards that you’ll have an easy and enjoyable time returning the favor.
You don’t always have to finish first, but it’s helpful for increasing his attraction to you in the early stages of your relationship.
13. Be open to trying new things.
Virgo men seem rigid at first, but it’s not permanent.
Once he’s comfortable with you, he’ll want to explore his kinkier side. Keep his attraction to you strong by acting out new fantasies, bringing toys into the bedroom, or playing sexy games with each other.
Try new things outside of the bedroom too. This will make his mental connection to you stronger, which will definitely make your sex together better.
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The more you show him genuine affection, the more he’ll start to like you and his sexual attraction will get even stronger.\\nKeep your compliments genuine and don’t lay it on too thick. If he sniffs a hint of fake, he’ll be turned off and lose some trust in you.\\n3. Play easy-to-get.\\nVirgo men aren’t natural pursuers.\\nIf you make yourself open, available, and not a hard target, that might get a shy and receptive sign like Virgo to approach. As a mutable sign, Virgo is more go-with-the-flow than other earth signs and he’ll opt for the path of least resistance when it comes to making a move.\\nTry intriguing your Virgo man by appealing to his intellect or a fetish you know he has. This will tempt him to approach you even more.\\nApproach him first or strike up a friendly conversation to break the ice. Make it really clear you’re into him with eye contact, laughter, and welcoming body language.\\nIf your Virgo man isn’t getting the hint, make the first move with a seductive touch or by asking him out. A Virgo guy will appreciate a straightforward approach.\\n4. Help him find ways to express himself.\\nA Virgo man has trouble voicing his thoughts and feelings.\\nHelp him express his desires by prompting him with flirtatious questions like “How do I look?” or “What do you think of this new perfume?” As he gets more confident complementing you, his sexual attraction will grow.\\nA big turn on for a Virgo man is a partner who doesn’t need constant validation. Be careful not to overdo it or he might see it as attention-seeking.\\n5. Shower thoroughly before you see him.\\nGood personal hygiene is a must for a Virgo man.\\nHe will always be impeccably clean and fresh and expects his partner to be too. He has a sensitive sense of smell and is easily turned off by any hint of BO. Jump in the shower before you meet up, especially if you suspect sex will be involved. Always wear deodorant and a pleasant perfume around your Virgo guy to tantalize him.\\nShowering together is the best (and most fun!) way to satisfy Virgo’s need for everyone to be clean before sex.\\nAfter you get squeaky clean, put on a crisp, well-fitting outfit and a light makeup look to appeal to his love of a classic, natural beauty.\\n6. Act like an angel to lure him in.\\nVirgo is the “virgin” of the zodiac.\\nThis explains their prudish front and their attraction to pure, modest partners. To attract him, showcase your angelic and innocent side and avoid jumping into your dirtiest desires right away. Once he overcomes his reserve, he’ll be open to your wilder side.\\nTalk about work, volunteering, your family, or other wholesome things in your life to mesmerize him. The less he suspects your kinky preferences, the more pleasantly surprised he’ll be later.\\nA Virgo man falls for the “lady in the streets, freak in the sheets” type. A proper partner with a secret kinky side is a big turn on for him.\\nVirgo men are more likely to be freakier right away if they view you as a fling instead of a potential long term partner.\\n7. Show him that he can trust you.\\nVirgo men are usually shy lovers at first.\\nThey’re uncomfortable with emotional vulnerability and need to know they can let their guard down with you. Spend time together outside of the bedroom and speak freely with each other (talking is a turn on for a Virgo guy). When he feels he can trust you, he’ll be down for just about anything.\\nBe candid with your thoughts and try not to hide things from him. He’s more likely to embrace vulnerability if he sees you embrace it too.\\nExpress your authentic thoughts and feelings. A Virgo guy can usually tell if you’re withholding or fudging the truth.\\n8. Communicate your wants and needs.\\nA Virgo man will be turned on by knowing what satisfies you.\\nTalk to him about what positions, techniques, and fantasies you crave—the more descriptive and directive you can be, the better. Dirty talk is a great and fun way to tell him what you want and build up his excitement.\\nKeep the communication going during sex. Moan or tell him you like what he’s doing—the reassurance will ease his perfectionist tendencies and help him loosen up.\\nVirgo men love to pitch in to help. Playfully tell him you need him to do these things to you and that no one else can get the job done.\\n9. Create a romantic atmosphere.\\nEarth signs are highly sensual and like comfortable, nice things.\\nAppeal to all of his senses to get him in the mood. Try a gourmet dinner and fine wine paired with romantic music and a few fragrant candles to make things truly sensual.\\nTantalize his sense of touch too with a suggestive massage and fresh, soft sheets on the bed.\\nVirgo men are very visually stimulated, especially during sex. Keep some mood lighting on in the bedroom so he can see you.\\n10. Make sure the bedroom is spotless.\\nVirgo men are the neat freaks of the zodiac.\\nThey’re often most comfortable getting intimate in their own homes since they can control the mess and cleanliness. Make sure your home (especially the bedroom) is decluttered, clean, and well-organized to help him relax into a sexy mood.\\nA Virgo man has an insane eye for detail. Anything out of order can distract him during sex, so double and triple check that your room is immaculate!\\n11. Enjoy long, sensual foreplay.\\nFor a Virgo man, sex is about the journey, not the destination.\\nHe’ll take his time warming you up, and he’s good at it too (Virgo is ruled by Mercury, which governs the hands and mouth). He gets satisfaction from pleasing you, so let him do his thing. You’ll both enjoy the payoff after a long, tantalizing buildup.\\nGuide him with your body language and words while he explores your body. He’s turned on by direction and knowing that he’s doing the right things.\\nVirgo men like to please—just make sure to reciprocate and make him feel appreciated.\\n12. Let yourself climax first.\\nA Virgo man’s ultimate pleasure is pleasuring you.\\nHe probably wants you to finish first, so let it happen. His attraction to you will be red hot when he knows he has what it takes to satisfy you in bed. 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2,831 | How to Attract a Virgo Man on Social Media | 1. Like his most recent posts.
A Virgo man is extremely observant and will definitely notice you liking his posts.
If you keep up with his latest posts, he’s sure to notice you! Check his page every so often to see if he’s posted something new or turn on notifications for his profile. The more posts you like, the more he’ll see your name and picture pop up.
There’s no harm in scrolling through his feed, but try not to double-tap any old pics. This could put you on his radar for the wrong reasons!
2. Post selfies that feature your OOTD.
Virgo men like someone who values their appearance.
When you’re dressed up and feeling your best, snap a pic and post it to your story or grid. This is sure to snag his attention because look at you! You’re gorgeous, and he’s sure to notice.
Skip adding heavy filters to your pictures. Virgos enjoy natural beauty, so show off your stunning features just the way they are.
3. Ask your followers a question you know he has the answer to.
Virgo men love to be helpful.
Providing solutions to your problems gives them a purpose and makes them feel useful. Post a question to your Instagram or Facebook story with a poll or questionnaire, then sit back and wait for him to save the day.
Stick with something he’ll be able to solve.
If you don’t know him that well yet, that’s okay! Do a little digging on his page to get a feel for his interests and hobbies. Then, frame your question around that.
4. Snap and post a pic of your latest meal or recipe.
There’s no better way to a Virgo’s heart than with food.
Virgos are natural foodies and will do anything for a good meal or new recipe. Appeal to his taste buds by posting something you’ve recently baked or eating your favorite meal at a restaurant. Not only will this grab his attention, but it can also give you both something to talk about.
If he posts about food, comment on it. Show him you’re a foodie too!
If you’re not a foodie, no worries! Write a comment or send him a direct message asking what restaurants he’d recommend.
5. Show off your active lifestyle.
Laziness is a Virgo man’s worst nightmare.
He wants someone who’s hard-working and confident in themselves physically and mentally. Post your daily routine on your story or tweet about what’s new in your life to grab his attention and prove you’re not lazy.
Snap a pic in the gym in front of the weights to show off your muscles.
Create an Instagram boomerang while walking your dog to post on your story.
Tweet about wanting to find a new gym or running buddy.
6. Compliment his appearance on a recent pic.
Virgos value beauty, and your man’s no exception.
When he posts a dashing selfie, leave a comment complimenting his hair, teeth, eyes, or gorgeous smile. Not only will this make him blush, but it will also have him checking out your profile. Try out one of these compliments the next time he posts:
“How dare you look this fine.”
“Your teeth are brighter than my future😳”
“I see you muscles. I see you.”
Throw in a playful emoji like “😉” or “🤩” if you’re feeling bold.
7. Make the first move by sliding into his DMs.
Virgos want someone willing to take initiative.
If you like him, don’t be afraid to be the first one to reach out! He’ll value your effort and be drawn to you because of it. Send him a DM by commenting on one of his Instagram stories, or send a simple “Hey!” to start a conversation. Give one of these openers a whirl if you’re stuck:
“Hi! I noticed we have some friends in common. How have we never met?”
“Your outfit is everything. Please tell me where you shop so I can fail at looking just as cool🙃”
“That restaurant looks AMAZING! What’s it called?”
Virgos value friendship more than anything, so start by making a strong friendship. Once you get to know each other, try sneaking in a flirt.
8. Ask him questions about his hobbies.
Genuine questions will attract a Virgo man.
Although he’s likely to post regularly on social media, he probably keeps most of his life private. Notice what he likes to post about, and slide into his DMs with a question. Try framing one of these questions around his interests:
“I love that photo you took on the beach. Do you surf?”
“Your posts are always making me hungry! What got you interested in cooking?”
“You seem so organized. Do you have any tips for starting a bullet journal?”
9. Send him positive messages.
Optimistic personalities are extremely attractive to Virgos.
When commenting on his posts or sending him private messages, keep the tone fun and positive, especially when you first start talking. He’ll value your positive energy, and you’ll be putting a smile on his face—it’s a win-win!
, try sending, “Sending all the good vibes your way today!” or, “You got this! I believe in you😄”
, go for something like, “Go knock ‘em dead!” or, “Keep your head in the game and show ‘em what you got🏀🔥”
, pick him up with, “You’re amazing” or, “You may not believe in yourself right now, but I believe in you😊”
10. Always be there for him.
Virgos value loyalty and trust.
If he messages you, be open and available. Skip the mind games of leaving him on read for a few days and answer as soon as you can. This is sure to grab his attention and let him know you’re his number one.
You can also show him support by liking and sharing his posts.
11. Get flirty once you’re friends.
A Virgo man will want to take things slow at first.
Get to know him as a friend, and then start sending the flirty messages. Because he’ll know who you are as a person, he’ll be more open to a romantic relationship. If he doesn’t make the first move, go for it with one of these messages:
“So we’ve been talking for a while, and I gotta admit I really like you🙈”
“It feels like you’re the only one that gets me.”
“Ever think about taking these outside social media?😉”
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Ask your followers a question you know he has the answer to.\\nVirgo men love to be helpful.\\nProviding solutions to your problems gives them a purpose and makes them feel useful. Post a question to your Instagram or Facebook story with a poll or questionnaire, then sit back and wait for him to save the day.\\nStick with something he’ll be able to solve.\\nIf you don’t know him that well yet, that’s okay! Do a little digging on his page to get a feel for his interests and hobbies. Then, frame your question around that.\\n4. Snap and post a pic of your latest meal or recipe.\\nThere’s no better way to a Virgo’s heart than with food.\\nVirgos are natural foodies and will do anything for a good meal or new recipe. Appeal to his taste buds by posting something you’ve recently baked or eating your favorite meal at a restaurant. Not only will this grab his attention, but it can also give you both something to talk about.\\nIf he posts about food, comment on it. Show him you’re a foodie too!\\nIf you’re not a foodie, no worries! Write a comment or send him a direct message asking what restaurants he’d recommend.\\n5. Show off your active lifestyle.\\nLaziness is a Virgo man’s worst nightmare.\\nHe wants someone who’s hard-working and confident in themselves physically and mentally. Post your daily routine on your story or tweet about what’s new in your life to grab his attention and prove you’re not lazy.\\nSnap a pic in the gym in front of the weights to show off your muscles.\\nCreate an Instagram boomerang while walking your dog to post on your story.\\nTweet about wanting to find a new gym or running buddy.\\n6. Compliment his appearance on a recent pic.\\nVirgos value beauty, and your man’s no exception.\\nWhen he posts a dashing selfie, leave a comment complimenting his hair, teeth, eyes, or gorgeous smile. Not only will this make him blush, but it will also have him checking out your profile. Try out one of these compliments the next time he posts:\\n“How dare you look this fine.”\\n“Your teeth are brighter than my future😳”\\n“I see you muscles. I see you.”\\nThrow in a playful emoji like “😉” or “🤩” if you’re feeling bold.\\n7. Make the first move by sliding into his DMs.\\nVirgos want someone willing to take initiative.\\nIf you like him, don’t be afraid to be the first one to reach out! He’ll value your effort and be drawn to you because of it. Send him a DM by commenting on one of his Instagram stories, or send a simple “Hey!” to start a conversation. Give one of these openers a whirl if you’re stuck:\\n“Hi! I noticed we have some friends in common. How have we never met?”\\n“Your outfit is everything. Please tell me where you shop so I can fail at looking just as cool🙃”\\n“That restaurant looks AMAZING! What’s it called?”\\nVirgos value friendship more than anything, so start by making a strong friendship. Once you get to know each other, try sneaking in a flirt.\\n8. Ask him questions about his hobbies.\\nGenuine questions will attract a Virgo man.\\nAlthough he’s likely to post regularly on social media, he probably keeps most of his life private. Notice what he likes to post about, and slide into his DMs with a question. Try framing one of these questions around his interests:\\n“I love that photo you took on the beach. Do you surf?”\\n“Your posts are always making me hungry! What got you interested in cooking?”\\n“You seem so organized. Do you have any tips for starting a bullet journal?”\\n9. Send him positive messages.\\nOptimistic personalities are extremely attractive to Virgos.\\nWhen commenting on his posts or sending him private messages, keep the tone fun and positive, especially when you first start talking. He’ll value your positive energy, and you’ll be putting a smile on his face—it’s a win-win!\\n\\n, try sending, “Sending all the good vibes your way today!” or, “You got this! I believe in you😄”\\n, go for something like, “Go knock ‘em dead!” or, “Keep your head in the game and show ‘em what you got🏀🔥”\\n, pick him up with, “You’re amazing” or, “You may not believe in yourself right now, but I believe in you😊”\\n10. Always be there for him.\\nVirgos value loyalty and trust.\\nIf he messages you, be open and available. Skip the mind games of leaving him on read for a few days and answer as soon as you can. This is sure to grab his attention and let him know you’re his number one.\\nYou can also show him support by liking and sharing his posts.\\n11. Get flirty once you’re friends.\\nA Virgo man will want to take things slow at first.\\nGet to know him as a friend, and then start sending the flirty messages. Because he’ll know who you are as a person, he’ll be more open to a romantic relationship. If he doesn’t make the first move, go for it with one of these messages:\\n“So we’ve been talking for a while, and I gotta admit I really like you🙈”\\n“It feels like you’re the only one that gets me.”\\n“Ever think about taking these outside social media?😉”\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Organized, confident, and dependable, the Virgo man you have your eye on is one awesome catch—but how do you get him to notice you on social media? Catching his eyes isn't as complicated as you may think, so take a deep breath—you've got this! We have the best tips and tricks to attract a Virgo man on social media, from flirty comments to fun pics. So, keep reading to learn how you can grab his attention.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Like his most recent posts.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A Virgo man is extremely observant and will definitely notice you liking his posts.\", \"描述\": \"If you keep up with his latest posts, he’s sure to notice you! Check his page every so often to see if he’s posted something new or turn on notifications for his profile. The more posts you like, the more he’ll see your name and picture pop up.\\nThere’s no harm in scrolling through his feed, but try not to double-tap any old pics. This could put you on his radar for the wrong reasons!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Post selfies that feature your OOTD.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Virgo men like someone who values their appearance.\", \"描述\": \"When you’re dressed up and feeling your best, snap a pic and post it to your story or grid. This is sure to snag his attention because look at you! You’re gorgeous, and he’s sure to notice.\\nSkip adding heavy filters to your pictures. Virgos enjoy natural beauty, so show off your stunning features just the way they are.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask your followers a question you know he has the answer to.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Virgo men love to be helpful.\", \"描述\": \"Providing solutions to your problems gives them a purpose and makes them feel useful. Post a question to your Instagram or Facebook story with a poll or questionnaire, then sit back and wait for him to save the day.\\nStick with something he’ll be able to solve.\\nIf you don’t know him that well yet, that’s okay! Do a little digging on his page to get a feel for his interests and hobbies. Then, frame your question around that.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Snap and post a pic of your latest meal or recipe.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"There’s no better way to a Virgo’s heart than with food.\", \"描述\": \"Virgos are natural foodies and will do anything for a good meal or new recipe. Appeal to his taste buds by posting something you’ve recently baked or eating your favorite meal at a restaurant. Not only will this grab his attention, but it can also give you both something to talk about.\\nIf he posts about food, comment on it. Show him you’re a foodie too!\\nIf you’re not a foodie, no worries! Write a comment or send him a direct message asking what restaurants he’d recommend.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Show off your active lifestyle.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Laziness is a Virgo man’s worst nightmare.\", \"描述\": \"He wants someone who’s hard-working and confident in themselves physically and mentally. Post your daily routine on your story or tweet about what’s new in your life to grab his attention and prove you’re not lazy.\\nSnap a pic in the gym in front of the weights to show off your muscles.\\nCreate an Instagram boomerang while walking your dog to post on your story.\\nTweet about wanting to find a new gym or running buddy.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Compliment his appearance on a recent pic.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Virgos value beauty, and your man’s no exception.\", \"描述\": \"When he posts a dashing selfie, leave a comment complimenting his hair, teeth, eyes, or gorgeous smile. Not only will this make him blush, but it will also have him checking out your profile. Try out one of these compliments the next time he posts:\\n“How dare you look this fine.”\\n“Your teeth are brighter than my future😳”\\n“I see you muscles. I see you.”\\nThrow in a playful emoji like “😉” or “🤩” if you’re feeling bold.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Make the first move by sliding into his DMs.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Virgos want someone willing to take initiative.\", \"描述\": \"If you like him, don’t be afraid to be the first one to reach out! He’ll value your effort and be drawn to you because of it. Send him a DM by commenting on one of his Instagram stories, or send a simple “Hey!” to start a conversation. Give one of these openers a whirl if you’re stuck:\\n“Hi! I noticed we have some friends in common. How have we never met?”\\n“Your outfit is everything. Please tell me where you shop so I can fail at looking just as cool🙃”\\n“That restaurant looks AMAZING! What’s it called?”\\nVirgos value friendship more than anything, so start by making a strong friendship. Once you get to know each other, try sneaking in a flirt.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Ask him questions about his hobbies.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Genuine questions will attract a Virgo man.\", \"描述\": \"Although he’s likely to post regularly on social media, he probably keeps most of his life private. Notice what he likes to post about, and slide into his DMs with a question. Try framing one of these questions around his interests:\\n“I love that photo you took on the beach. Do you surf?”\\n“Your posts are always making me hungry! What got you interested in cooking?”\\n“You seem so organized. Do you have any tips for starting a bullet journal?”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Send him positive messages.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Optimistic personalities are extremely attractive to Virgos.\", \"描述\": \"When commenting on his posts or sending him private messages, keep the tone fun and positive, especially when you first start talking. He’ll value your positive energy, and you’ll be putting a smile on his face—it’s a win-win!\\n\\n, try sending, “Sending all the good vibes your way today!” or, “You got this! I believe in you😄”\\n, go for something like, “Go knock ‘em dead!” or, “Keep your head in the game and show ‘em what you got🏀🔥”\\n, pick him up with, “You’re amazing” or, “You may not believe in yourself right now, but I believe in you😊”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Always be there for him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Virgos value loyalty and trust.\", \"描述\": \"If he messages you, be open and available. Skip the mind games of leaving him on read for a few days and answer as soon as you can. 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2,832 | How to Attract a Woman | 1. The Set-Up
1-1. Do most of the talking in the very beginning.
This, of course, depends on the woman and the situation, but you want to avoid doing what most guys do, which is to put the conversational burden on her with redundant questions and digging for commonalities. Shoot to do about 75% of the talking, maybe a bit less. Your aim here is to demonstrate your fantastic personality and high value. Try to keep the conversation light, fun, and playful. What conversation starters might you use? There are plenty:
The cocky, playful alpha guy:
"I know you probably get this a lot, but you're absolutely the most stunning woman I've seen..."
"My friend had to drag me out tonight, but I'm finally glad he did, because seeing you, right here, right now, was worth it."
The slightly shy, bashful guy:
"I'm sorry this is awkward, but I get really shy around pretty girls."
"I'm glad you're still here. I've been working up the courage to talk to you for half an hour, and I was worried I was going to have to embarrass myself in front of you totally sober."
The up-front, matter-of-fact guy:
"Hi, my name is [name], what brings you here tonight?"
"This is the part where I introduce myself and you smile and let me buy you a drink, is that right?"
"I've been trying to think of an excuse to talk to you, but I got nothing. Can I just tell you an interesting story that happened to me the other day?"
1-2. Avoid mundane subjects like work, politics, or anything negative.
Be in control of the conversation, but don’t be controlling. Don’t let yourself slip into interview type questions, like "Where are you from?" or "What are you doing here?" Try to tap into your slightly dangerous, but still controlled, side, and feed off that energy.
If she brings up subjects that you think might steer the conversation down the wrong path, gently push the conversation in another direction. Saying something that has something to do with the topic, but is funny, light, and might bring a change of topic.
If she keeps coming back to the subjects you think are leading the conversation astray, you have two options:
Feed off of the energy of that topic, since she seems to want to talk about it.
Find an elegant, respectful way to leave the conversation, and instead focus on someone else. A simple "It was nice talking to you" should do the trick.
1-3. Move past obstacles with grace.
Many women will say they have a boyfriend if they don’t have enough attraction for you yet. At the same time, many women who say they have a boyfriend actually have one, so you've reached an obstacle. Don't fret, though, because an obstacle is made to be overcome. You'll move past it with grace.
If a woman says "I have a boyfriend, I'd prefer it if you didn't talk to me," just smile, tell her it was nice talking to her, and move on to another candidate. Sometimes life gives you bad lemons.
If a woman says "I have a boyfriend," and leaves it at that, you can say: "That's fine, I respect that. Do you mind if we keep chatting?" If she says yes, keep on working. You're making lemonade out of lemons.
Don't assume that you'll be able to convince a woman in a relationship or marriage to part with her number. Maybe you don't even want to be that guy. If a girl mentions her boyfriend, you probably want to start looking elsewhere unless your dying wish is to get her number.
1-4. Be outcome-independent.
Prime yourself not to care whether you get her attraction or not. If she's attracted to you, that's a bonus; if not, you'll move on to another interesting girl.
If you tell yourself that you need her attraction because your ego can't take rejection, you'll be sorely hurt, over and over again, because you will be rejected at some point. Rejection is natural. If you're so hurt or disappointed because you missed a single opportunity, you'll miss out on the thousands of other opportunities that await you.
Your mental well-being plays an important role. If you are not happy in your life, you will have a difficult time trying to attract a woman.
Focus rather on enjoying the moment than on attracting her.
2. Sealing the Deal
2-1. Don’t be needy.
If the woman thinks, even for a moment, that she has more value in your eyes than you have in hers, you’re putting yourself at a disadvantage. Why? Because people want to have to work a little for their prize, because that makes the prize taste even sweeter.
There are many techniques you can use to demonstrate that you're not needy, but for now the best thing you can do is detach from outcome (see above). Remember: this woman, though she may be beautiful and funny and smart, is only one of a handful of beautiful, funny, and smart in your universe. If she doesn't work out, another one eventually will.
Don't shower her with compliments. A single choice compliment to start the conversation is all the woman needs to let her know that you're into her. Actually, because women are smart, they usually know if you're into them even without a compliment. So keep the schmaltzy compliments in your back pocket and focus on impressing her with your smarts, your humor, and your perspective.
2-2. Implement what is called "Reverse cold reading to bait qualification," or RCR.
How it works: find something about her that you're fairly certain is not true. Then, say you don't like that quality in a girl. Because it's not true about her, she will then explain herself to you and let you know that she is not that way. This is called qualifying, and we do it when we're trying to win the favor of someone. What you're doing here is baiting her qualification; unconsciously she should become more attracted to you, because you ostensibly share similarities, or at least similar perspectives.
2-3. Be laid back
Your number one priority should be to have fun, because once you remove (or try to remove) your own ego from the equation, talking with a beautiful, interesting woman is incredibly exhilarating. Flirt, tease, be slightly cocky if that's your persona, and use sarcasm (with a wry smile thrown in so she knows you’re just messing around). Pretend you’re speaking to an old friend.
If she says something that you disagree with, tell her. In other words, don't be milquetoast. When you disagree, don’t be mean, don’t be offensive; just rationalize your opinion and lay out why you feel the way you do. If you do this in the right way, it'll move the conversation forward and give you something interesting to talk about. If you're confident, you can tease her about how she’s not cool if she doesn’t agree with you (wry smile here folks, wry smile).
Be composed. Very, very composed. Like the captain, you know exactly where you want to go and everything you say and do has a purpose. Nothing can phase you, even rejection. You expect the best but are prepared for the worst. Why? Because you're more composed than a Keats poem!
2-4. Remember that picking up girls is largely about time management.
Why waste your time with conversation that isn’t pushing you closer to your goal? Besides, distractions may arise that will steal her attention, so each minute counts. With a little practice, it's easy to get numbers in seconds rather than minutes.
You may it's helpful to only talk for a few minutes before asking for a number, a dance, etc. That's because it's hard to keep up witty, direct, spirited conversation for a long time, even when you're hitting all cylinders. Don't string the conversation along without an end-goal in mind!
2-5. Lastly, constantly assess her attraction.
Look for open body language, dilated pupils, giggling, and touching. Regardless of her personality or culture, women are pretty consistent with signs of attraction. With just a little practice you’ll be able to pick up on these signs very quickly. Just follow your hunch; it’s usually correct.
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I've been working up the courage to talk to you for half an hour, and I was worried I was going to have to embarrass myself in front of you totally sober.\\\"\\n\\nThe up-front, matter-of-fact guy:\\n\\\"Hi, my name is [name], what brings you here tonight?\\\"\\n\\\"This is the part where I introduce myself and you smile and let me buy you a drink, is that right?\\\"\\n\\\"I've been trying to think of an excuse to talk to you, but I got nothing. Can I just tell you an interesting story that happened to me the other day?\\\"\\n1-2. Avoid mundane subjects like work, politics, or anything negative.\\nBe in control of the conversation, but don’t be controlling. 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Implement what is called \\\"Reverse cold reading to bait qualification,\\\" or RCR.\\nHow it works: find something about her that you're fairly certain is not true. Then, say you don't like that quality in a girl. Because it's not true about her, she will then explain herself to you and let you know that she is not that way. This is called qualifying, and we do it when we're trying to win the favor of someone. What you're doing here is baiting her qualification; unconsciously she should become more attracted to you, because you ostensibly share similarities, or at least similar perspectives.\\n2-3. Be laid back\\nYour number one priority should be to have fun, because once you remove (or try to remove) your own ego from the equation, talking with a beautiful, interesting woman is incredibly exhilarating. Flirt, tease, be slightly cocky if that's your persona, and use sarcasm (with a wry smile thrown in so she knows you’re just messing around). Pretend you’re speaking to an old friend.\\nIf she says something that you disagree with, tell her. In other words, don't be milquetoast. When you disagree, don’t be mean, don’t be offensive; just rationalize your opinion and lay out why you feel the way you do. If you do this in the right way, it'll move the conversation forward and give you something interesting to talk about. If you're confident, you can tease her about how she’s not cool if she doesn’t agree with you (wry smile here folks, wry smile).\\nBe composed. Very, very composed. Like the captain, you know exactly where you want to go and everything you say and do has a purpose. Nothing can phase you, even rejection. You expect the best but are prepared for the worst. Why? Because you're more composed than a Keats poem!\\n2-4. Remember that picking up girls is largely about time management.\\nWhy waste your time with conversation that isn’t pushing you closer to your goal? 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So keep the schmaltzy compliments in your back pocket and focus on impressing her with your smarts, your humor, and your perspective.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Implement what is called \\\"Reverse cold reading to bait qualification,\\\" or RCR.\", \"描述\": \"How it works: find something about her that you're fairly certain is not true. Then, say you don't like that quality in a girl. Because it's not true about her, she will then explain herself to you and let you know that she is not that way. This is called qualifying, and we do it when we're trying to win the favor of someone. What you're doing here is baiting her qualification; unconsciously she should become more attracted to you, because you ostensibly share similarities, or at least similar perspectives.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be laid back\", \"描述\": \"Your number one priority should be to have fun, because once you remove (or try to remove) your own ego from the equation, talking with a beautiful, interesting woman is incredibly exhilarating. Flirt, tease, be slightly cocky if that's your persona, and use sarcasm (with a wry smile thrown in so she knows you’re just messing around). Pretend you’re speaking to an old friend.\\nIf she says something that you disagree with, tell her. In other words, don't be milquetoast. When you disagree, don’t be mean, don’t be offensive; just rationalize your opinion and lay out why you feel the way you do. If you do this in the right way, it'll move the conversation forward and give you something interesting to talk about. If you're confident, you can tease her about how she’s not cool if she doesn’t agree with you (wry smile here folks, wry smile).\\nBe composed. Very, very composed. Like the captain, you know exactly where you want to go and everything you say and do has a purpose. Nothing can phase you, even rejection. You expect the best but are prepared for the worst. Why? Because you're more composed than a Keats poem!\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Remember that picking up girls is largely about time management.\", \"描述\": \"Why waste your time with conversation that isn’t pushing you closer to your goal? Besides, distractions may arise that will steal her attention, so each minute counts. With a little practice, it's easy to get numbers in seconds rather than minutes.\\nYou may it's helpful to only talk for a few minutes before asking for a number, a dance, etc. That's because it's hard to keep up witty, direct, spirited conversation for a long time, even when you're hitting all cylinders. 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2,833 | How to Attract an Alpha Male | 1. Presenting Yourself Well
1-1. Practice good posture
By practicing the physical act of appearing confident, you will actually start to feel more confident. Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart, hold your chin up, relax your shoulders, and breathe deeply. This will naturally make you seem more attractive to anyone who's around you.
The more you practice good posture, the more natural it will feel.
1-2. Speak slowly and clearly to show self-assurance.
Speaking slowly gives other people the impression that you're confident and knowledgeable. You will also seem more authoritative if you slightly lower your vocal range as you speak.
When you're telling a story, think about each sentence and how it relates to what you're saying.
Don't be afraid to leave a pause between sentences while you're speaking. It seems more confident than using filler words like "um" or "like."
1-3. Use your hands when you talk.
People who are more physically engaged while they're speaking seem more confident than those who do not.
Gesture with your hands to emphasize strong points.
Think about how to use your body to convey a message. For instance, you could lean forward and rest your hand on your chin when you're interested in what someone else is saying.
1-4. Wear clothes that make you feel good about yourself.
No matter what you look like, you'll be the most attractive when you're happy with how you look. Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable.
If you wear makeup, play up the features that you like the most.
1-5. Keep your makeup subtle if you wear any.
Alpha males are attracted to confidence, and wearing too much makeup can make you seem insecure. Keep your makeup natural-looking on most of your face. If you do go bold, emphasize one feature of your face at a time.
For instance, if you wear a bold red lip, opt for a subtle smoky eye and subtle eyeliner.
If you go for a dramatic winged liner and dark eyeshadow, try pairing it with a nude lip and a little blush.
1-6. Spray on a little perfume, cologne, or body spray before you leave the house.
Smelling good can make you seem more attractive. A little goes a long way, though. Spritz a little of the fragrance on your wrists, then touch your wrists to your neck to transfer the scent.
2. Making Him Fall for You
2-1. Give him time to make the first move.
Alpha males are defined primarily by their dominant characteristics. If he’s really an alpha, he’ll want to feel like he’s in control of the chase. If you catch his eye at a party or in a club, smile at him to let him know you’re interested, but let him be the one to come to you.
If he asks for your phone number, don't ask him for his. That way he'll have to be the one to call or text first.
If the two of you are hanging out and having a good time, let him ask you out for a second date.
Every situation is different, so if you think he's interested but he doesn't ask you out, go ahead and ask him out instead.
2-2. Be confident but not cocky.
If you want to attract a top-tier mate, you need to know your worth. By valuing yourself, you’ll show him that he should value you too.
Show him that you're confident by accepting compliments without deflecting them and talking about your accomplishments.
Just as you know your strengths, you should also be humble about your weaknesses. You don’t have to tell him what they are, but don’t act like you’re too good for him.
2-3. Flatter his ego by complimenting him.
Make him feel like he’s number one by telling him all the things you like about him. Building up his ego will make him want to have you around.
Try saying something like, “I love how you’re always working to better yourself,” or “It’s so much fun to watch you work the room at a party.”
2-4. Make him feel needed.
Appeal to his inner provider by making him feel like you need him. Ask him to help you with small things that you have a hard time with or don’t enjoy doing, like opening a jar that’s stuck or calling to make reservations at a restaurant.
There’s no need to pretend you’re weak to attract your alpha male. You can be strong and confident while still needing him. Think of things that play to his strengths, then ask for his help.
2-5. Help him come up with fun date ideas.
Alpha males like to make decisions, but that doesn't mean they'll always want to be the one with a plan. Let him know a few things you'd like to do, then sit back and enjoy as he makes it happen.
For instance, if there's a movie you really want to see, let him know you'd be interested in going to the movies for a date.
Spontaneous dates can keep things fresh. If the weather's nice, ask him if he'd like to eat lunch in a nearby park.
2-6. Try new things together.
Most alpha males enjoy regularly trying something they've never done before, just to keep life interesting and challenging.
Take a day trip to a nearby museum neither of you have ever visited, try out a new restaurant, or hike to a hidden waterfall just outside of town.
3. Keeping Him Interested
3-1. Focus on your own goals.
Keep your alpha man interested by having your own interests and goals outside of him. You’ll both have more to talk about at the end of the day if you’re busy pursuing your own career or hobbies.
If anyone tries to keep you from pursuing your own interests, remove yourself from the situation and find someone who will appreciate your independence.
3-2. Encourage him to be independent.
Most alpha males need time every so often to hang out with their friends or to pursue their hobbies. Show him that you appreciate who he is by encouraging him to do these things.
If he loves to fish, ask him if he'd like to take the weekend to go on a fishing trip while you visit your family.
If you know his friends have a poker night on Thursdays, consider taking a class on Thursday nights. That way, he can still enjoy his time with his friends, and you won't be sitting at home waiting for him.
3-3. Be supportive.
An alpha male can run the risk of feeling like he’s alone at the top of the pack. Let him know it’s you and him against the world by offering a supportive shoulder whenever he’s feeling stressed.
If you know he’s had a long day, call and order his favorite take-out and make some time for just the two of you.
Try saying something like, “I know you had a big meeting today. How did it go?”
3-4. Challenge him when he needs it.
A lot of alpha males are used to strutting through life without ever being challenged. If you feel like he’s wrong, let him know. He might be surprised at first but he’ll respect you more in the long run.
Try not to challenge him in front of other people. No one likes to feel embarrassed, especially alpha males. Wait until the two of you are alone to talk about something you didn’t like.
You might say something like, “I know you were annoyed that the food took a long time to come out, but I didn’t like that you were rude to our waiter.”
3-5. Ask him for a commitment.
When you're ready to take your relationship to the next level, don't assume that he will automatically know. Specifically tell him that you like him and you're interested in being exclusive with each other.
If he agrees to a committed relationship, set aside some time to celebrate!
If he seems reluctant to commit to you, say something like, "I'm sorry you made that decision. I hope you find what you're looking for," then move on with your life. You deserve someone who will give you their undivided attention.
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2,834 | How to Attract an Aquarius Man | 1. Give him space.
Aquarians need a partner who understands their need for alone time.
He needs space to reflect on his past, present, and future. Someone who values his moments of solidarity will immediately attract him, so take a step back every once and a while to think.
Alone time doesn’t mean he’ll disappear forever! He’ll be back before you know it, revived and ready for the day.
This is also a great opportunity for you to show him your independence by doing activities without him.
2. Be independent.
Aquarians are drawn to those who march to the beat of their own drum.
Stand out from the crowd and grab his attention by just being you! He'll be captivated by your radiant personality and want to get to know you.
Show that you have your own opinions, and let your voice be heard. Speak up during work meetings, or raise your hand during class.
Wear clothes that you like, even if they’re not trendy, to showcase your unique style.
3. Get creative.
An Aquarius is attracted to those who think outside the box.
Attract him with your originality by casually showing him something you’ve made or by uniquely solving a problem. This is an excellent way to show off your imagination and smarts.
Post a picture of your latest creative project on social media. Let him be amazed by your creativity!
Calm an argument between friends when he’s around with an approach no one else has thought of.
4. Keep things light-hearted and fun.
Sharing your feelings
Aquarians have a hard time expressing their emotions, especially in group settings. When attracting an Aquarius man, stay away from personal and emotional conversations. He wants to have fun with you, not reveal his deepest and darkest secrets.
Ask him questions about his favorite hobbies, job, or day-to-day life like, “What do you like to do in your free time?” and, “Where’d you go for lunch?”
5. Be a good friend to him.
An Aquarius man is most comfortable around his friends, so be one of his buds.
When building a relationship, focus on being a friend to him first. Be there for him when he needs you most, text him funny pictures, and have fun with him. Soon enough, he’ll get comfortable with you and ask you to hang out one-on-one.
Start a friendship with him as you would with any other person. He’s more than just a friend to you, but he doesn’t need to know that just yet!
6. Text him randomly.
An Aquarius man is anything but strategic.
He functions on jolts of inspiration and admires those who do too, so get him inspired with random texts throughout the day. The messages don’t have to be calculated, especially since he won’t think too hard about texting you. Let him know what’s on your mind in a cool and casual way. Bonus points if you tell him a joke or fun fact!
“You’re never going to believe the joke I just heard🤣”
“Did you know that snakes can predict earthquakes? Not something I thought I’d learn today😂”
7. Talk to his friends.
Attract an Aquarius man’s friends to attract him.
An Aquarius holds their friends close to their hearts, so get to know his friends and let them get to know you. Take every opportunity to go out with his friend group—where they go, you go.
Who knows? Maybe his friends will start telling him just how awesome you are.
8. Play it cool.
A good mystery is more appealing to an Aquarius than being upfront.
Rather than telling him how you feel, let him figure things out and catch feelings for you. He’ll be more attracted to you if he approaches you first. When he’s around, play it cool by talking to him with confidence, as if your heart’s not beating out your chest.
Not showing him any interest can make him more interested.
He’ll be attracted to you and your life just by you doing you.
9. Challenge him.
An Aquarius man loves a good chase, so make him want you.
Aquarians don’t want an easy relationship—they want to be kept on their toes! Show him your independence, intelligence, and creativity by challenging him in social settings. This will set you apart from the rest.
Be busy with your life. You’re not 100% available 24/7, so make him think he has to earn your affection.
Share your opinions even if they go against his. Give him a reason to start a debate so you can show off how smart you are.
Is he into sports? Find out his favorite team and root for the revival. This is also a great way to spend time with him.
10. Let him take the reigns in the relationship.
An Aquarius man is drawn to someone who’s laid back.
He likes to be in control, so give him the chance to show it. Try letting him pick the date location or telling him he can order for you at a restaurant. This is a great way to show him your carefree nature, which he’s sure to find attractive.
Try to worry less when you’re around him. Sit back and let the stress melt away.
11. Be yourself.
Ultimately, Aquarians are attracted to those who love themselves.
The best way you can get him to notice you is by being yourself. Your smile and energy are contagious, and he’s blind if he doesn’t notice just how amazing you are.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Give him space.\\nAquarians need a partner who understands their need for alone time.\\nHe needs space to reflect on his past, present, and future. Someone who values his moments of solidarity will immediately attract him, so take a step back every once and a while to think.\\nAlone time doesn’t mean he’ll disappear forever! He’ll be back before you know it, revived and ready for the day.\\nThis is also a great opportunity for you to show him your independence by doing activities without him.\\n2. Be independent.\\nAquarians are drawn to those who march to the beat of their own drum.\\nStand out from the crowd and grab his attention by just being you! He'll be captivated by your radiant personality and want to get to know you.\\nShow that you have your own opinions, and let your voice be heard. Speak up during work meetings, or raise your hand during class.\\nWear clothes that you like, even if they’re not trendy, to showcase your unique style.\\n3. Get creative.\\nAn Aquarius is attracted to those who think outside the box.\\nAttract him with your originality by casually showing him something you’ve made or by uniquely solving a problem. This is an excellent way to show off your imagination and smarts.\\nPost a picture of your latest creative project on social media. Let him be amazed by your creativity!\\nCalm an argument between friends when he’s around with an approach no one else has thought of.\\n4. Keep things light-hearted and fun.\\nSharing your feelings\\nAquarians have a hard time expressing their emotions, especially in group settings. When attracting an Aquarius man, stay away from personal and emotional conversations. He wants to have fun with you, not reveal his deepest and darkest secrets.\\nAsk him questions about his favorite hobbies, job, or day-to-day life like, “What do you like to do in your free time?” and, “Where’d you go for lunch?”\\n5. Be a good friend to him.\\nAn Aquarius man is most comfortable around his friends, so be one of his buds.\\nWhen building a relationship, focus on being a friend to him first. Be there for him when he needs you most, text him funny pictures, and have fun with him. Soon enough, he’ll get comfortable with you and ask you to hang out one-on-one.\\nStart a friendship with him as you would with any other person. He’s more than just a friend to you, but he doesn’t need to know that just yet!\\n6. Text him randomly.\\nAn Aquarius man is anything but strategic.\\nHe functions on jolts of inspiration and admires those who do too, so get him inspired with random texts throughout the day. The messages don’t have to be calculated, especially since he won’t think too hard about texting you. Let him know what’s on your mind in a cool and casual way. Bonus points if you tell him a joke or fun fact!\\n“You’re never going to believe the joke I just heard🤣”\\n“Did you know that snakes can predict earthquakes? Not something I thought I’d learn today😂”\\n7. Talk to his friends.\\nAttract an Aquarius man’s friends to attract him.\\nAn Aquarius holds their friends close to their hearts, so get to know his friends and let them get to know you. Take every opportunity to go out with his friend group—where they go, you go.\\nWho knows? Maybe his friends will start telling him just how awesome you are.\\n8. Play it cool.\\nA good mystery is more appealing to an Aquarius than being upfront.\\nRather than telling him how you feel, let him figure things out and catch feelings for you. He’ll be more attracted to you if he approaches you first. When he’s around, play it cool by talking to him with confidence, as if your heart’s not beating out your chest.\\nNot showing him any interest can make him more interested.\\nHe’ll be attracted to you and your life just by you doing you.\\n9. Challenge him.\\nAn Aquarius man loves a good chase, so make him want you.\\nAquarians don’t want an easy relationship—they want to be kept on their toes! Show him your independence, intelligence, and creativity by challenging him in social settings. This will set you apart from the rest.\\n\\nBe busy with your life. You’re not 100% available 24/7, so make him think he has to earn your affection.\\nShare your opinions even if they go against his. Give him a reason to start a debate so you can show off how smart you are.\\nIs he into sports? Find out his favorite team and root for the revival. This is also a great way to spend time with him.\\n10. Let him take the reigns in the relationship.\\nAn Aquarius man is drawn to someone who’s laid back.\\nHe likes to be in control, so give him the chance to show it. Try letting him pick the date location or telling him he can order for you at a restaurant. This is a great way to show him your carefree nature, which he’s sure to find attractive.\\nTry to worry less when you’re around him. Sit back and let the stress melt away.\\n11. Be yourself.\\nUltimately, Aquarians are attracted to those who love themselves.\\nThe best way you can get him to notice you is by being yourself. Your smile and energy are contagious, and he’s blind if he doesn’t notice just how amazing you are.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Fun, light-hearted, and creative? The Aquarius man you have a crush on is one awesome and social guy. You want him to notice you, but how can you attract him without looking like you’re trying too hard? Keep reading because we’ve got all the tips and tricks you’ll need to attract an Aquarius man.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give him space.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aquarians need a partner who understands their need for alone time.\", \"描述\": \"He needs space to reflect on his past, present, and future. Someone who values his moments of solidarity will immediately attract him, so take a step back every once and a while to think.\\nAlone time doesn’t mean he’ll disappear forever! He’ll be back before you know it, revived and ready for the day.\\nThis is also a great opportunity for you to show him your independence by doing activities without him.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be independent.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aquarians are drawn to those who march to the beat of their own drum.\", \"描述\": \"Stand out from the crowd and grab his attention by just being you! He'll be captivated by your radiant personality and want to get to know you.\\nShow that you have your own opinions, and let your voice be heard. Speak up during work meetings, or raise your hand during class.\\nWear clothes that you like, even if they’re not trendy, to showcase your unique style.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get creative.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aquarius is attracted to those who think outside the box.\", \"描述\": \"Attract him with your originality by casually showing him something you’ve made or by uniquely solving a problem. This is an excellent way to show off your imagination and smarts.\\nPost a picture of your latest creative project on social media. Let him be amazed by your creativity!\\nCalm an argument between friends when he’s around with an approach no one else has thought of.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Keep things light-hearted and fun.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Sharing your feelings\", \"描述\": \"Aquarians have a hard time expressing their emotions, especially in group settings. When attracting an Aquarius man, stay away from personal and emotional conversations. He wants to have fun with you, not reveal his deepest and darkest secrets.\\nAsk him questions about his favorite hobbies, job, or day-to-day life like, “What do you like to do in your free time?” and, “Where’d you go for lunch?”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be a good friend to him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aquarius man is most comfortable around his friends, so be one of his buds.\", \"描述\": \"When building a relationship, focus on being a friend to him first. Be there for him when he needs you most, text him funny pictures, and have fun with him. Soon enough, he’ll get comfortable with you and ask you to hang out one-on-one.\\nStart a friendship with him as you would with any other person. He’s more than just a friend to you, but he doesn’t need to know that just yet!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Text him randomly.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aquarius man is anything but strategic.\", \"描述\": \"He functions on jolts of inspiration and admires those who do too, so get him inspired with random texts throughout the day. The messages don’t have to be calculated, especially since he won’t think too hard about texting you. Let him know what’s on your mind in a cool and casual way. Bonus points if you tell him a joke or fun fact!\\n“You’re never going to believe the joke I just heard🤣”\\n“Did you know that snakes can predict earthquakes? 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When he’s around, play it cool by talking to him with confidence, as if your heart’s not beating out your chest.\\nNot showing him any interest can make him more interested.\\nHe’ll be attracted to you and your life just by you doing you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Challenge him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aquarius man loves a good chase, so make him want you.\", \"描述\": \"Aquarians don’t want an easy relationship—they want to be kept on their toes! Show him your independence, intelligence, and creativity by challenging him in social settings. This will set you apart from the rest.\\n\\nBe busy with your life. You’re not 100% available 24/7, so make him think he has to earn your affection.\\nShare your opinions even if they go against his. Give him a reason to start a debate so you can show off how smart you are.\\nIs he into sports? Find out his favorite team and root for the revival. 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2,835 | How to Attract an Aquarius Man As a Gemini Woman | 1. Start your relationship as friends.
Friendship is crucial to most Aquarians, so really get to know him.
This shouldn't be hard for you since Geminis are known for being charismatic. Just enjoy hanging out together without trying to start a romantic relationship. You might become study partners or be friendly co-workers, for instance. He's more likely to be interested once he's totally comfortable and he sees you as a good friend.
This is a lot easier to do if you have mutual friends since you can spend time getting to know each other without the pressure of spending time one-on-one.
2. Look your best and switch up your style.
Aquarians love being surprised and he'll love seeing your wardrobe change.
Since you're also an air sign, you probably love eclectic or funky outfits. So does he! Don't be afraid to try out new looks every time you see him. He'll love the fact that he can't pin you or your style down.
Not sure what colors to wear? Why not try them all? He'd probably love bright colors like bold blues and yellows.
3. Be witty and outgoing around him.
Aquarians are usually nervous about flirting, so you need to initiate it.
Since they find romantic situations awkward, just approach your guy casually. Start hinting that you find him interesting and then make your intentions clear. Try to be as original as possible so you really get his attention.
For example, you might say, "I think you scared off all those people when you brought up politics. I'm still here though. Want to grab a drink and talk some more?"
Pique his curiosity by saying something like, "I don't know if you know anything about auras, but I think yours is beautiful."
4. Have stimulating conversations.
The way to an Aquarian's heart is through his mind, so talk with him.
As a Gemini, you have the advantage of being able to keep up with his rapid changes in the subject. Let him see that you're not afraid to talk about challenging topics. Your smarts and willingness to engage in conversation will make him obsessed.
Not sure what topics to bring up? You'll put him at ease if you start talking about the latest technology. Aquarians are tech-savvy and always keep up with the latest innovations.
5. Show off your fun and social side.
Aquarians love to be around people who are entertaining, so let your charisma shine!
Even though he might love to be in a group, he may feel like a loner—this is a typical Aquarian trait. To put him at ease, be witty or humorous, and be as outgoing as possible. These are all things you excel in as a Gemini.
Lighten the mood by telling a funny story or a hilarious childhood memory for instance.
6. Let him see that you’re spontaneous.
Excitement and adventure are huge attractions for Aquarians!
Make a point of always saying yes to trying something new—he'll see that you aren't someone who's caught up in their routine. As a Gemini, you probably find it pretty easy to adapt to new or challenging situations, so really lean into spontaneity!
You don't have to wait for him to ask you to do something off the wall. If you do something crazy or novel, tell him about it. For instance, you might describe a helicopter ride you just took, an escape room you successfully broke out of, or a haunted underground tour you went on.
7. Reveal your unique personality.
Aquarians love seeing someone is true to themselves.
It's super important in your case—as a Gemini, you and your Aquarius guy have similar traits. Since you're both air signs, you're known for your totally original viewpoints and your keen intellect. Just be yourself and watch the sparks fly!
Don't forget to appreciate him for who he is, too. He'll feel comfortable and relaxed if he knows that you aren't trying to change him.
8. Be kind and caring to others.
Humanitarian efforts are vital to Aquarians, so let him see your compassion.
Nothing turns off an Aquarian faster than realizing that someone's self-centered. Find ways to improve the lives of people in your community or be part of a worldwide effort to bring positive change. Tell him about your efforts or try to get him involved with you.
For instance, let him know about a petition that you're collecting signatures for or ask him to come with you to donate blood.
9. Give each other personal space.
Your Aquarian man needs some alone time, so give him room.
You probably need it, too since you're also an air sign. Time apart gives both of you the chance to reflect and reset, so you're energized when you meet back up. It also proves to him that you're not clingy—something that the Aquarius sign fears.
It's totally okay to tell him that you're busy or you need some "me time." He'll understand and think it's pretty cool that you value your own space.
10. Stay calm if you have a disagreement.
Aquarians dislike drama, so stay calm when you're working through an argument.
As a Gemini, this can be a little tricky for you since you usually feel a rollercoaster of emotions. Try to evaluate how you're feeling during an argument and think before you respond to him.
If your talk is starting to get heated, you may want to say, "I think I need to think for a while before we talk some more."
11. Give him time to open up emotionally.
Aquarians don't want to feel rushed, so don't expect heartfelt conversations.
In fact, your guy would rather that you don't have any expectations about your relationship. Instead, you could focus on your shared need for complete acceptance. Love him for his emotional reserve and he'll notice.
It's almost impossible to force a romantic discussion with an Aquarian. He's a fixed sign, so he's a creature of habit. Since you're a mutable sign, you're a bit more flexible. You'll just need to be understanding.
Over time, he'll learn that he can trust you. Loyalty is huge for an Aquarian, so let him see that you've always got his back.
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Why not try them all? He'd probably love bright colors like bold blues and yellows.\\n3. Be witty and outgoing around him.\\nAquarians are usually nervous about flirting, so you need to initiate it.\\nSince they find romantic situations awkward, just approach your guy casually. Start hinting that you find him interesting and then make your intentions clear. Try to be as original as possible so you really get his attention.\\nFor example, you might say, \\\"I think you scared off all those people when you brought up politics. I'm still here though. Want to grab a drink and talk some more?\\\"\\nPique his curiosity by saying something like, \\\"I don't know if you know anything about auras, but I think yours is beautiful.\\\"\\n4. Have stimulating conversations.\\nThe way to an Aquarian's heart is through his mind, so talk with him.\\nAs a Gemini, you have the advantage of being able to keep up with his rapid changes in the subject. Let him see that you're not afraid to talk about challenging topics. Your smarts and willingness to engage in conversation will make him obsessed.\\nNot sure what topics to bring up? You'll put him at ease if you start talking about the latest technology. Aquarians are tech-savvy and always keep up with the latest innovations.\\n5. Show off your fun and social side.\\nAquarians love to be around people who are entertaining, so let your charisma shine!\\nEven though he might love to be in a group, he may feel like a loner—this is a typical Aquarian trait. To put him at ease, be witty or humorous, and be as outgoing as possible. These are all things you excel in as a Gemini.\\nLighten the mood by telling a funny story or a hilarious childhood memory for instance.\\n6. Let him see that you’re spontaneous.\\nExcitement and adventure are huge attractions for Aquarians!\\nMake a point of always saying yes to trying something new—he'll see that you aren't someone who's caught up in their routine. As a Gemini, you probably find it pretty easy to adapt to new or challenging situations, so really lean into spontaneity!\\nYou don't have to wait for him to ask you to do something off the wall. If you do something crazy or novel, tell him about it. For instance, you might describe a helicopter ride you just took, an escape room you successfully broke out of, or a haunted underground tour you went on.\\n7. Reveal your unique personality.\\nAquarians love seeing someone is true to themselves.\\nIt's super important in your case—as a Gemini, you and your Aquarius guy have similar traits. Since you're both air signs, you're known for your totally original viewpoints and your keen intellect. Just be yourself and watch the sparks fly!\\nDon't forget to appreciate him for who he is, too. He'll feel comfortable and relaxed if he knows that you aren't trying to change him.\\n8. Be kind and caring to others.\\nHumanitarian efforts are vital to Aquarians, so let him see your compassion.\\nNothing turns off an Aquarian faster than realizing that someone's self-centered. Find ways to improve the lives of people in your community or be part of a worldwide effort to bring positive change. Tell him about your efforts or try to get him involved with you.\\nFor instance, let him know about a petition that you're collecting signatures for or ask him to come with you to donate blood.\\n9. Give each other personal space.\\nYour Aquarian man needs some alone time, so give him room.\\nYou probably need it, too since you're also an air sign. Time apart gives both of you the chance to reflect and reset, so you're energized when you meet back up. It also proves to him that you're not clingy—something that the Aquarius sign fears.\\nIt's totally okay to tell him that you're busy or you need some \\\"me time.\\\" He'll understand and think it's pretty cool that you value your own space.\\n10. Stay calm if you have a disagreement.\\nAquarians dislike drama, so stay calm when you're working through an argument.\\nAs a Gemini, this can be a little tricky for you since you usually feel a rollercoaster of emotions. Try to evaluate how you're feeling during an argument and think before you respond to him.\\nIf your talk is starting to get heated, you may want to say, \\\"I think I need to think for a while before we talk some more.\\\"\\n11. Give him time to open up emotionally.\\nAquarians don't want to feel rushed, so don't expect heartfelt conversations.\\nIn fact, your guy would rather that you don't have any expectations about your relationship. Instead, you could focus on your shared need for complete acceptance. Love him for his emotional reserve and he'll notice.\\nIt's almost impossible to force a romantic discussion with an Aquarian. He's a fixed sign, so he's a creature of habit. Since you're a mutable sign, you're a bit more flexible. You'll just need to be understanding.\\nOver time, he'll learn that he can trust you. Loyalty is huge for an Aquarian, so let him see that you've always got his back.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Few signs are as compatible as Aquarius and Gemini—lucky for you! As air signs, you're both some of the most individual and eclectic personalities of the zodiac. This means that it's really easy to attract an Aquarius man as long as you let your beautiful, unique Gemini personality shine through. 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Want to grab a drink and talk some more?\\\"\\nPique his curiosity by saying something like, \\\"I don't know if you know anything about auras, but I think yours is beautiful.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Have stimulating conversations.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The way to an Aquarian's heart is through his mind, so talk with him.\", \"描述\": \"As a Gemini, you have the advantage of being able to keep up with his rapid changes in the subject. Let him see that you're not afraid to talk about challenging topics. Your smarts and willingness to engage in conversation will make him obsessed.\\nNot sure what topics to bring up? You'll put him at ease if you start talking about the latest technology. 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2,836 | How to Attract an Aquarius Man As a Libra Woman | 1. Work on your friendship first.
Aquarius guys value friendship over romance.
It is important to cultivate your man's friendship over time, rather than attempt to seduce him straight away. Expert psychic Stina Garbis says that "Aquarians often tend to blend love and friendship. Because of this, there may not be a clear line where one ends and the other begins." As a Libra, you're extremely social and great at making friends, so this will be easy for you! Spend time hanging out and getting to know him. His romantic thoughts will blossom once he realizes you're the person he feels most comfortable with.
Do things you'd do with any other friend, even if you already have feelings for him. Send him funny things to make him laugh and focus on having fun.
Be there for him if he needs you. Aquarius guys often need to feel comfortable with other people before pursuing romance, and your Libra friendliness makes you an easy friend and confidante.
2. Be lighthearted and positive.
Aquarius men tend to avoid negative or heavy emotional topics.
He'll prefer having fun to talking about his feelings! When the time is right, he might be willing to try more emotional conversations, but at first, stay lighthearted and playful. Since Libras tend to be optimistic, your energy will enthrall him right away.
When you get to know him, focus on topics he'll have fun talking about. Ask him, "What are your top 3 favorite foods?" or "What is your greatest passion in life?"
As a Libra, you've got a charming disposition and a good grasp of your emotions. When the relationship is new, Aquarius men will want to avoid intense feelings of anger or sadness.
3. Show him your creative side.
Aquarius guys are visionaries who think outside the box.
Use creativity to stand out from the crowd in his eyes and show him all the ways that you can be unconventional. Being your true self is actually key to attracting him--psychic expert Stina Garbis suggests you "wear something unique, be different and edgy, as this will definitely catch his attention." Libras have a natural creative streak, so you're probably already doing something that he'll find attractive! For example:
If you're naturally a gifted artist, be sure to give him a taste of your art—whether you draw, paint, write or play music.
Creativity also extends to your personal sense of style. Dress boldly, and don't be afraid to wear clothes that aren't "trending" at the moment.
Try to adopt hobbies and interests that they enjoy, too!
4. Have stimulating conversations.
This guy is attracted to intelligence first and foremost.
He has a lot of natural curiosity, and to capture his interest, pay attention to the topics he enjoys discussing most. Engage him in conversations that challenge his brain, practice actively listening to him, and be ready with your own opinion on each topic. According to expert psychic Stina Garbis, a good approach is to "show interest in his topics of interest and ask him to explain some of the ideas to you." For good measure, Stina suggests further that it can help to "let him be smarter than you" when you are first learning about him, which you can achieve by listening actively and carefully. He'll realize just how smart you are too over time!
Bring up something you enjoy and ask him for his thoughts. "I find the psychology behind true crime stories so fascinating! What do you think?"
Talk about things that he likes, too. "I saw that your favorite director made another movie recently. What did you think of it?"
Acknowledge your mental connection. "It's so refreshing to meet someone who reads as much as I do. I think we have a lot to talk about! 😉"
5. Accept his eccentricities.
Men born under this sign have an unorthodox outlook on life.
Listen when he wants to share his big ideas with you. Your Aquarius has probably been looking for someone who makes an effort to understand him, even when his thoughts are eccentric. His attraction will grow when he sees that you can be that person.
Offer him a compliment to show your appreciation. "I really love talking to you. You're so great at thinking outside the box—no one sees things the way you do."
Aquarius prefers to confide in Libra because of their charm and social graces, while Libra enjoys Aquarius's communication style and intelligence. Conversations about Aquarius's ideals should be easy for the two of you!
6. Prove you have a social conscience.
Aquarius folks want to help others and save the world.
There's a good chance that your crush has a lot of ideas on what he would like to do to make the world a better place. He'll be attracted to a Libra lady who uses her own innate sense of justice to do the same. Have long talks about the issues that matter to both of you, including political and humanitarian matters.
For instance, say, "Did you hear about the latest news out of Europe? It would be great to discuss it with someone who knows a lot about the situation."
Invite him to a protest or march. He'll be proud to stand up for his beliefs with someone as politically and socially active as he is.
7. Maintain an air of mystery.
He'll be intrigued if you hold some things back.
Drop hints that there's more to you than meets the eye and let him learn about you gradually, sharing just a few details at a time. Libras are great conversationalists; just make sure you talk about yourself in increments rather than all at once. Your Aquarius wants to take his time getting to know you, so leave him wanting more each time you see him.
Be general when talking about your past. "I grew up in Florida. Which obviously means I have WAY too many wacky childhood stories to tell in one day!"
Give him a taste of your interests without listing all of them. "I do a lot of things for fun! Lately, I've been really into drawing."
When texting, you could flirt a little and say, "I have the funniest story about that! I'll save it for the next time we're together, give you something to look forward to. 😉"
8. Go on spontaneous adventures.
This sign is drawn to adventure and loves trying new things.
Take him on adventures that can be both spontaneous and fun for both of you. Suggest activities he hasn't yet tried, and be willing to go with the flow when he has one of his big Aquarius ideas. Try not to worry when plans change—just let it go and develop a new plan on the fly.
It's important not to get stuck in a routine with an Aquarius guy. You don't have to make something new every day, but your Aquarius will be smitten if you add variety here and there.
Lively and creative Libras also have a taste for spontaneity, so the two of you are sure to have some grand adventures together.
9. Be independent.
Clingy behavior tends to turn off Aquarius men.
Social and friendly Libras might find the Aquarius preference for independence strange, but remember that it's not permanent. Go and see other friends when he wants to be alone, and you'll find that you can both have the space you need. It's a huge turn-on for an Aquarius guy to see that you're still your own people when you're a couple.
Keep putting as much effort into your relationships with friends and family as you did before dating your Aquarius. As a Libra, you've probably got a big social circle, so this should be easy!
Libras can be so socially inclined that they struggle to set boundaries and be independent. Allow your Aquarius guy to take the lead and teach you to be more independent.
10. Give him space.
Aquarius wants to feel free no matter what.
Show him that you don't mind him being independent and that you respect his need for space. Let him go off by himself or with friends without pushing to be included. He'll feel most compelled to commit to you when he feels that there is no pressure or expectation for him to do so.
If he's too busy with work to go on a date one week, be understanding. "No problem at all. Good luck with your presentation! Not that you need luck—you're brilliant!"
He might even decline hanging out because he's busy reading an exciting book. Say, "I understand! Have a great afternoon. And let me know when you're done—I'd be interested to read that, too! 😉"
11. Be patient with him.
He might seem distant at first, but he'll warm up over time.
Make sure your Aquarius knows that you're happy to spend time with him however you can. Commitment has to be his decision; if he feels like he's being forced, he'll likely back off. Luckily, Libras can be very patient when they feel a real connection to someone.
Your Aquarius will get spooked if you talk about the future, so go with the flow and let your relationship unfold at its own pace.
You can be flirty and instigate making plans without pressuring him. Just say something like, "We should probably go on another date soon 😘," or "What does your week look like? Any room for me?"
12. Be yourself.
Men under this sign are attracted to originality.
Stand out from the crowd by embracing everything that makes you unique, and remember to be yourself around him. Be confident and honest about every aspect of who you are, from your background to your hobbies. If you love yourself and know your personal value, your Aquarius will find you fascinating.
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Be lighthearted and positive.\\nAquarius men tend to avoid negative or heavy emotional topics.\\nHe'll prefer having fun to talking about his feelings! When the time is right, he might be willing to try more emotional conversations, but at first, stay lighthearted and playful. Since Libras tend to be optimistic, your energy will enthrall him right away. \\nWhen you get to know him, focus on topics he'll have fun talking about. Ask him, \\\"What are your top 3 favorite foods?\\\" or \\\"What is your greatest passion in life?\\\"\\nAs a Libra, you've got a charming disposition and a good grasp of your emotions. When the relationship is new, Aquarius men will want to avoid intense feelings of anger or sadness.\\n3. Show him your creative side.\\nAquarius guys are visionaries who think outside the box.\\nUse creativity to stand out from the crowd in his eyes and show him all the ways that you can be unconventional. 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2,837 | How to Attract an Aquarius Man As a Sagittarius Woman | 1. Become his best friend.
For Aquarians, romance typically starts out as close friendship.
As Astrologer Stina Garbis puts it, "they blend love and friendships, so there may not be a clear line where one ends and the other begins" Ask him to hang out in groups rather than one-on-one. He'll feel more comfortable in casual settings than on elaborate dates. Luckily, as a Sagittarius, you shouldn’t have a problem establishing a strong friendship with your guy. Your magnetic, vivacious nature makes it easy to build connections.
Instead of touching him in a flirty way (Aquarians definitely don’t love PDA), show him you care by making eye contact when you talk.
Instead of sending him flirty compliments, share funny memes or cool songs.
2. Start intellectual discussions.
Aquarius and Sagittarius are the scholarly "power couple" of the zodiac.
As a result, you two are extremely intellectually compatible. So don’t be afraid to show off your worldly knowledge! Ask your Aquarius about all his niche interests. Want to really get him going? Appeal to his dreamy, Neptunian nature by bringing up anything related to the latest developments in tech or science. Astrologer Stina Garbis recommends that you "adopt hobbies and interests that [he enjoys], like playing the same video games, or going to the same Comicon or Sci-fi conventions. Find out where they shop for gadgets and go there." If tech’s not his cup of tea, try deep talks about philosophy and humanitarian issues.
Text him thought-provoking questions like, “What do you think about self-driving cars?”
Ask him open-ended questions like, “What’s a topic you have a hot take on?”
Send him links to cool video essays, long news articles, or trendy podcasts.
3. Reveal your compassionate side.
Aquarians are sensitive air signs who appreciate caring partners.
You’ve definitely got a soft side as a Sagittarius. But you’re also a bold fire sign, so sometimes, you might come across as a little blunt. When you’re with your Aquarius man, tone down the need to “tell it like it is.” Instead, talk to your Aquarius with a kind, positive tone, and tell him you’re always there for him.
Send him a virtual hug with a cute emoji if he’s having a tough day.
Be ultra polite to strangers and people working in the service industry when you two go out.
Looking for a fun date idea? Ask your Aquarius guy if he wants to volunteer at the local animal shelter with you.
4. Show him what makes you unique.
This individualistic air sign will appreciate when you stand out from the crowd.
Aquarius guys love self-expression, and they march to the beat of their own drummer. Fortunately, your fiery Sagittarian nature automatically kicks in here. Rock your signature personal style. Share your deepest passions and wackiest stories—from your craziest travel tales to random trivia you’ve discovered on internet deep dives. Put simply, Astrologer Stina Garbis explains that you should "be different and edgy to catch their attention."
“Could I get your opinion on this nature documentary I made? I’m really into saguaro cacti.”
“Did I ever tell you about the time I got thrown off a horse?”
“Have you heard of this indie band? They’re a mix of bluegrass and punk!”
5. Support his wildest ideas.
Aquarians tend to have out-there plans and ambitious dreams.
As a Sagittarius, use your natural optimistic streak to show your Aquarius man that you believe in him. Be his #1 cheerleader by giving him words of encouragement. Since you’re a mutable sign, you might even be willing to go with the flow and take part in his plans!
“Tanner, you should definitely try to hike Mt. Whitney. I know you could do it.”
“I think it’s amazing that you want to be a senator. I’d vote for you!”
“I’m always here to support you and your incredible dreams. In fact, I’d love to go skydiving with you sometime.”
6. Jump into his social circle.
Like all air signs, Aquarians value their friends (and their friends’ opinions).
Furthermore, according to Astrologer Stina Garbis, "An Aquarius man needs a lover who can also be a friend. They need to be casual about commitment and not fussy over pushing the relationship." Bring your vibrant Sagittarius energy to the next party or kickback your Aquarius guy hosts. Ask his friends questions about their lives to show genuine interest. Show off your lively sense of humor, and tell stories from your latest adventures.
Use conversation starters to get to know his friends like, “If you had an extra hour in a day, what would you do?” Your Aquarius will love seeing you fit in with the people he loves.
Be the first one to hit the dance floor or start up a party game. Aquarians love being entertained.
Pull your Aquarius guy away from the circle after a while. Aquarians can get in their heads and sometimes feel like loners. He’ll appreciate taking a breather from the social interaction.
7. Surprise him with quirky gifts.
Aquarius men love spontaneity.
While Aquarius isn’t a sign that falls for grand gestures, your Aquarius guy will appreciate it if you give him something small and thoughtful. Lucky for you, Sagittarius, you’re the queen of surprises. Pick out a fun gift to show him you get what he likes and appreciate him for who he is.
Give him a cute tech accessory like a mug warmer or mechanical keyboard. Aquarians are futuristic people who like novelty.
Send him a relaxing digital gift like a subscription to a meditation app. Your Aquarius guy will appreciate anything that lets him connect deeper with his thoughts.
Make a donation to charity in his honor. Since Aquarius is a humanitarian sign, he’ll be incredibly touched.
8. Go someplace new together.
Aquarius and Sagittarius are both adventure-loving signs.
Bond over your love of travel and new experiences by checking out new restaurants and exploring unfamiliar places in your city. If you really want to deepen your bond, take a trip together. When it comes to exploration, you two are super compatible.
Plan a date night where you check out a new type of food neither of you have ever tried before.
For a mini getaway, drive to the next town over and look up “tourist attractions” on a site like Yelp or Trip Advisor. Then, pretend like you’re truly tourists.
Stuck at home? Take a virtual tour of a historical site or museum in a foreign country.
9. Give him space once in a while.
Both Aquarius and Sagittarius are independent signs.
In fact, you two are so compatible because you deeply understand each other’s need for quality me-time. Astrologer Stina Garbis emphasizes that it's important to "maintain a life of your own to prove that you are a high quality, self sufficient and confident person and that you don’t need your Aquarius to always pick up the pieces or dictate how you live your life." Go a day or two without texting your Aquarius guy. Plan a night where you’ll both decompress alone. Show him you support his freedom and have your own exciting life outside of your romance.
“I love that we both have our own lives. I totally understand if you don’t want to hang out this weekend.”
“I’m so glad you’re having a guys’ night tonight. I’m going out with the girls! I’ll see you tomorrow.”
“I know you had a rough day. We can rain check tonight if you need time to relax on your own.”
10. Let him move at his own pace.
Aquarians need time to open up emotionally.
Before you two begin your Hollywood-worthy love story, reassure him that you’re willing to be patient. Let your Aquarius guy decide when he’s ready to define the relationship and take things to the next level. According to Astrologer Stina Garbis, you'll know he's interested in you when "he spends extra time with you, he texts you and asks you questions and tells you what is on his mind, he touches you when he is hanging out with you, [and] he tells you he was thinking about you." As a Sagittarius woman, your mutable quality will help you stay flexible. We promise once your Aquarius man commits, it’ll be worth the wait.
“We don’t have to rush things. I just like spending time with you.”
“I don’t feel like we need to put a label on what we have yet. Let me know when you’re ready.”
“Let’s take things slow. Slow and steady wins the race.”
11. Be honest with him about how you feel.
Aquarius men don’t like to play games or feel confused.
Fortunately, Sagittarius is the archer of the zodiac, so you’re a total straight shooter. That means you two have great compatibility when it comes to communication. Let him know he’s the guy for you, and steer clear of stirring up jealousy or drama. Just make sure to avoid over-the-top expressions of devotion and love. These guys will get skittish if you come on too strong.
“Hey, I really like spending time with you.”
“I appreciate you. I’m really glad you’re in my life.”
“I don’t want to see anyone else. I like you, and I like what we have.”
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So don’t be afraid to show off your worldly knowledge! Ask your Aquarius about all his niche interests. Want to really get him going? Appeal to his dreamy, Neptunian nature by bringing up anything related to the latest developments in tech or science. Astrologer Stina Garbis recommends that you \\\"adopt hobbies and interests that [he enjoys], like playing the same video games, or going to the same Comicon or Sci-fi conventions. Find out where they shop for gadgets and go there.\\\" If tech’s not his cup of tea, try deep talks about philosophy and humanitarian issues.\\nText him thought-provoking questions like, “What do you think about self-driving cars?”\\nAsk him open-ended questions like, “What’s a topic you have a hot take on?”\\nSend him links to cool video essays, long news articles, or trendy podcasts.\\n3. Reveal your compassionate side.\\nAquarians are sensitive air signs who appreciate caring partners.\\nYou’ve definitely got a soft side as a Sagittarius. But you’re also a bold fire sign, so sometimes, you might come across as a little blunt. When you’re with your Aquarius man, tone down the need to “tell it like it is.” Instead, talk to your Aquarius with a kind, positive tone, and tell him you’re always there for him.\\nSend him a virtual hug with a cute emoji if he’s having a tough day.\\nBe ultra polite to strangers and people working in the service industry when you two go out.\\nLooking for a fun date idea? Ask your Aquarius guy if he wants to volunteer at the local animal shelter with you.\\n4. Show him what makes you unique.\\nThis individualistic air sign will appreciate when you stand out from the crowd.\\nAquarius guys love self-expression, and they march to the beat of their own drummer. Fortunately, your fiery Sagittarian nature automatically kicks in here. Rock your signature personal style. Share your deepest passions and wackiest stories—from your craziest travel tales to random trivia you’ve discovered on internet deep dives. Put simply, Astrologer Stina Garbis explains that you should \\\"be different and edgy to catch their attention.\\\"\\n“Could I get your opinion on this nature documentary I made? I’m really into saguaro cacti.”\\n“Did I ever tell you about the time I got thrown off a horse?”\\n“Have you heard of this indie band? They’re a mix of bluegrass and punk!”\\n5. Support his wildest ideas.\\nAquarians tend to have out-there plans and ambitious dreams.\\nAs a Sagittarius, use your natural optimistic streak to show your Aquarius man that you believe in him. Be his #1 cheerleader by giving him words of encouragement. Since you’re a mutable sign, you might even be willing to go with the flow and take part in his plans!\\n“Tanner, you should definitely try to hike Mt. Whitney. I know you could do it.”\\n“I think it’s amazing that you want to be a senator. 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2,838 | How to Attract an Aquarius Man As a Scorpio Woman | 1. Engage him in intellectual conversation.
Scorpio, if any sign can keep up with the clever Aquarius, it’s you.
Ask him engaging questions, show interest in the rigorous topics he’s passionate about, and let all of your off-the-wall opinions fly. Astrologer Angel Eyedealism suggests that you "talk about ideas or concepts." So, for example, instead of launching into a deep conversation about love, "talk about the intellectual construct of love or the ivory tower of love to get [him] to relax a little bit." He's an air sign, so Aquarius feels that stimulating chats are the ultimate pastime, but he's not necessarily interest in full depth right off the bat.
Ask him open-ended questions to kick off a discussion: “Do you think there’s any chance that we’re living in a simulation?”
Aquarians are passionate about humanitarian issues, so show him you’re interested in them, too: “Did you read that new report about the climate crisis?”
Men of this sign love a totally unique opinion, so share your wild theories: “I genuinely believe that K-12 school should be held outside. Here's why…”
2. Draw him into fun debates.
Aquarians love mental stimulation, and you’re up to the challenge.
When Aquarius realizes that you aren’t afraid to challenge his opinions, he’ll be absolutely obsessed, Scorpio. During your next conversation, listen closely for a chance to kick off a friendly (but rigorous!) debate. If he says something you disagree with, let him know.
Challenge his opinion: “Do you really think that The Neon Skyline is Andy Shauf’s best album? I feel like The Party is hard to beat.
Ask him to expand on his logic: “What specifically do you think makes The Neon Skyline better? I might have to challenge you on this one…”
Scorpio, you’re quick and observant. Use this to your advantage! Stay civil, listen close, and poke holes in his argument when you can. He’ll love it.
3. Build a friendship first.
For Aquarius men, the best romances come from friendship.
Scorpio, when you like someone, you’d probably rather jump right into an intense, emotional deep-dive. But to snag an Aquarius, move at his pace instead. Be a great friend to him first. Hang out platonically—whether that’s in groups or alone. Bond with him, integrate him into your circle, and wait for him to initiate romance. However, astrologer Angel Eyedealism cautions against going too far down this path: "remember with Aquarians it's so easy to fall into the friend zone." Instead of forgoing the romantic connection all together, she suggests that you go slow and "breach physical or intimate emotionality with an Aquarius carefully."
When your Aquarius crush is hanging out with his pals, tag along. Get to know him better through the people he cares most about.
Then, return the favor. Invite him to hang out with your circle of friends. If you’ve got a group camping trip coming up, for instance, save him a spot in the tent.
When you're alone, focus on getting to know who he is as a person—not as a boyfriend. Ask him questions while you bowl, hike, or go sightseeing.
4. Be mysterious.
Aquarians find aloof crushes fascinating.
Scorpio, Pluto is one of your ruling planets. That makes you the definition of mysterious. Keep him on the line by playing hard to get. Avoid sharing too many personal details, but when you do, make sure you surprise him. If you can make an Aquarius man think, “Wow, this girl is so unique and interesting,” that’ll work in your favor.
Evade personal questions when you’re getting to know each other: “I’m going to keep you in suspense for now. Maybe I’ll share that later on.”
Turn the questioning back onto him: “This totally isn’t fair. Before I answer any more questions, you’re going to have to answer a few of mine.”
Share personal details that’ll take him by surprise: “Because of my nose ring and tattoos, people are usually surprised to learn that I did the pageant circuit.”
5. Plan surprises for him.
Aquarius men love a spontaneous, unpredictable crush.
That's because he's ruled by Uranus, the planet of innovation. Improv may not always come naturally to you, Scorpio—because as a fixed sign, you like structure and plans. Don’t worry, to impress an Aquarius, you don’t need to be naturally wild and free. Instead, use your organizational skills to plan surprises for him. Surprise him with thoughtful, quirky presents, a road trip, or a zany activity.
Pick out a gift you know he’ll love and give it to him when he least expects it. On a random Tuesday, show up to hang with an action figure he's wanted.
Tell him to block out his upcoming Saturday. Plan a silly trip. Buy snacks, make a playlist, and find directions to the world’s largest strawberry, for example.
6. Keep things lighthearted.
Aquarius men typically have a hard time talking about their emotions.
Scorpio, you’re into big feelings, 24/7. With your Aquarius crush, connect through shared laughter and fun instead. You two can absolutely still share tender, intimate moments, but let him initiate them. Then, find ways to meaningfully bond without actually discussing your emotions.
Connect with him by making jokes, having dance parties, and enjoying activities together. Sharing fun, light moments together will make him feel close to you.
Instead of asking him about his deep feelings, ask him about something he’s passionate about: “Why do you think volunteering is so important to you?”
7. Show him you're empathetic.
Aquarius men are humanitarians at heart—so he admires compassion.
Scorpio, as a water sign, you’re extremely empathetic and insightful. Use this to your advantage! Find ways to use your natural emotional intelligence to help other people. Then, make sure your Aquarius crush is aware of your good deeds.
When a friend is down, use empathy to find the perfect mood-booster: “Sarah loves words of affirmation. I’m bringing a letter by to cheer her up.”
Or, use your insight to help your Aquarius crush: “Hey, I noticed you seemed stressed. Want to go for a long walk? I know those help you feel centered.”
8. Be loyal.
In their heart of hearts, Aquarians want someone they can trust.
That’s you to a T, Scorpio! You value loyalty just as much as he does, so this is a huge area for connection between you two. When he needs help, be there. When he gets into a heated debate, make sure you take his side. Prove to him that you’ve got his back, and that will go a long way.
Be the person who shows up when he needs it. Say he runs out of gas on the way home. Make sure you’re the person who comes to his rescue.
For Aquarius men, riveting debates are hard to resist. Next time, take his side in public: “I’m with Mario. That first point he made makes a ton of sense.”
Aquarius men tend to keep feelings to themselves, so if he opens up, that’s big. Make sure he knows he can trust you with his emotions: “I won’t judge you. You can talk to me.”
9. Prove that you're honest.
Aquarius and Scorpio might be the most candid signs in the zodiac.
Both of you value telling it like it is—so, use that to your advantage. Make sure your Aquarius crush knows that you’d never lie just to spare his feelings. Even when it’s tough, tell him what you really think. Luckily, Scorpio, honesty comes easily to you.
If he needs advice, be real with him: “I’m not going to lie, Danny. I think you need to talk to your roommate. I know that’s not what you want to hear, but…”
If he wants your opinion on something, be honest—even when it’s hard: “You know I think you’re an amazing songwriter. I liked your last piece a bit better.
Like you, Aquarius is a natural sleuth. If you keep a secret, he’s likely to uncover them eventually. So to gain his trust, be upfront and open.
10. Do your own thing.
Aquarians are afraid of losing freedom in codependent relationships.
So he’s definitely looking for a crush who knows how to focus on himself. Scorpio, this will be a piece of cake for you. Show him that you have your own passions, goals, and projects. When the two of you spend time apart, make sure he knows that you’re not just waiting by the phone.
Send texts that highlight the fun you have with your other close relationships: “Wow, I had SUCH a fun day! Rachel and I went caving. 🤠”
When you can’t hang out, explain that you’re busy working towards a goal: “Aw, man! Can’t Friday. I’m spending the night cranking out a scene in my screenplay.”
Fill him in on all of your amazing hobbies: “I love working with my hands. I’ve been really into pottery. I spend at least a couple hours a week at the wheel.”
11. Keep jealousy on the DL.
A jealous crush could make an Aquarius man feel trapped.
This might cause him to bolt. Scorpio, you may feel you struggle a bit with jealousy, but don’t stress. Feelings of jealousy are normal, and to keep him on the hook, simply redirect your feelings into something else. When you’re feeling the effects of the green monster, vent to your friends, pick up a creative hobby, or walk away from the conversation.
Reach out to that friend who’s an amazing listener. Offer to buy them a cup of joe in exchange for a little vent sesh.
Channel your energy into something creative or active. Anything from a run to a little guitar practice can help shake off negative feelings.
Come up with an excuse to walk away if you start to feel jealous: “Hey you know what, I’m getting a little headache. I’m going to lie down for a bit.”
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Astrologer Angel Eyedealism suggests that you \\\"talk about ideas or concepts.\\\" So, for example, instead of launching into a deep conversation about love, \\\"talk about the intellectual construct of love or the ivory tower of love to get [him] to relax a little bit.\\\" He's an air sign, so Aquarius feels that stimulating chats are the ultimate pastime, but he's not necessarily interest in full depth right off the bat.\\nAsk him open-ended questions to kick off a discussion: “Do you think there’s any chance that we’re living in a simulation?”\\nAquarians are passionate about humanitarian issues, so show him you’re interested in them, too: “Did you read that new report about the climate crisis?”\\nMen of this sign love a totally unique opinion, so share your wild theories: “I genuinely believe that K-12 school should be held outside. Here's why…”\\n2. Draw him into fun debates.\\nAquarians love mental stimulation, and you’re up to the challenge.\\nWhen Aquarius realizes that you aren’t afraid to challenge his opinions, he’ll be absolutely obsessed, Scorpio. During your next conversation, listen closely for a chance to kick off a friendly (but rigorous!) debate. If he says something you disagree with, let him know.\\nChallenge his opinion: “Do you really think that The Neon Skyline is Andy Shauf’s best album? I feel like The Party is hard to beat.\\nAsk him to expand on his logic: “What specifically do you think makes The Neon Skyline better? I might have to challenge you on this one…”\\nScorpio, you’re quick and observant. Use this to your advantage! Stay civil, listen close, and poke holes in his argument when you can. He’ll love it.\\n3. Build a friendship first.\\nFor Aquarius men, the best romances come from friendship.\\nScorpio, when you like someone, you’d probably rather jump right into an intense, emotional deep-dive. But to snag an Aquarius, move at his pace instead. Be a great friend to him first. Hang out platonically—whether that’s in groups or alone. Bond with him, integrate him into your circle, and wait for him to initiate romance. However, astrologer Angel Eyedealism cautions against going too far down this path: \\\"remember with Aquarians it's so easy to fall into the friend zone.\\\" Instead of forgoing the romantic connection all together, she suggests that you go slow and \\\"breach physical or intimate emotionality with an Aquarius carefully.\\\" \\nWhen your Aquarius crush is hanging out with his pals, tag along. Get to know him better through the people he cares most about.\\nThen, return the favor. Invite him to hang out with your circle of friends. If you’ve got a group camping trip coming up, for instance, save him a spot in the tent.\\nWhen you're alone, focus on getting to know who he is as a person—not as a boyfriend. 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Plan surprises for him.\\nAquarius men love a spontaneous, unpredictable crush.\\nThat's because he's ruled by Uranus, the planet of innovation. Improv may not always come naturally to you, Scorpio—because as a fixed sign, you like structure and plans. Don’t worry, to impress an Aquarius, you don’t need to be naturally wild and free. Instead, use your organizational skills to plan surprises for him. Surprise him with thoughtful, quirky presents, a road trip, or a zany activity.\\nPick out a gift you know he’ll love and give it to him when he least expects it. On a random Tuesday, show up to hang with an action figure he's wanted.\\nTell him to block out his upcoming Saturday. Plan a silly trip. Buy snacks, make a playlist, and find directions to the world’s largest strawberry, for example.\\n6. Keep things lighthearted.\\nAquarius men typically have a hard time talking about their emotions.\\nScorpio, you’re into big feelings, 24/7. With your Aquarius crush, connect through shared laughter and fun instead. You two can absolutely still share tender, intimate moments, but let him initiate them. Then, find ways to meaningfully bond without actually discussing your emotions.\\nConnect with him by making jokes, having dance parties, and enjoying activities together. Sharing fun, light moments together will make him feel close to you.\\nInstead of asking him about his deep feelings, ask him about something he’s passionate about: “Why do you think volunteering is so important to you?”\\n7. Show him you're empathetic.\\nAquarius men are humanitarians at heart—so he admires compassion.\\nScorpio, as a water sign, you’re extremely empathetic and insightful. Use this to your advantage! Find ways to use your natural emotional intelligence to help other people. Then, make sure your Aquarius crush is aware of your good deeds.\\nWhen a friend is down, use empathy to find the perfect mood-booster: “Sarah loves words of affirmation. I’m bringing a letter by to cheer her up.”\\nOr, use your insight to help your Aquarius crush: “Hey, I noticed you seemed stressed. Want to go for a long walk? I know those help you feel centered.”\\n8. Be loyal.\\nIn their heart of hearts, Aquarians want someone they can trust.\\nThat’s you to a T, Scorpio! You value loyalty just as much as he does, so this is a huge area for connection between you two. When he needs help, be there. When he gets into a heated debate, make sure you take his side. Prove to him that you’ve got his back, and that will go a long way.\\nBe the person who shows up when he needs it. Say he runs out of gas on the way home. Make sure you’re the person who comes to his rescue.\\nFor Aquarius men, riveting debates are hard to resist. Next time, take his side in public: “I’m with Mario. 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2,839 | How to Attract an Aquarius Man Through Text | 1. Get philosophical.
Aquarians love nothing more than a deep conversation.
Like all air signs, Aquarians enjoy discussing intellectual and abstract topics. Ask him how he thinks we should spend our time while we’re alive, or about the books and movies that have made an impression on him recently, and you’re likely to get a thoughtful and eager message in response. Aquarians are proud of being original thinkers, and happy to have an opportunity to express this aspect of themselves.
If there’s one thing Aquarians can’t stand, it’s clichés. So be careful when wording your message! A more original question, like “Do you ever feel like we’re wasting our lives by following the expectations of other people?” would work better than “What’s the meaning of life?”, even though an Aquarius man would likely have a lot to say about either topic!
2. Be political.
Aquarians care about politics, and aren’t afraid to show it.
There’s a lot of good advice about staying away from talking about politics when meeting a new person, but this might not be possible for too long with an Aquarius man. It’s instinctive for them, since Uranus is the planet associated with revolutions, and Aquarius is the most progressive of all the zodiac signs. Think about the political issues you care about, and ask your Aquarius man what he thinks. Don’t worry too much about offending him over a disagreement—so long as things remain civil, Aquarians are known for not being too judgmental, and they can enjoy differences in opinion.
It’s not unusual to find plenty of Aquarians at protests, signing petitions, or otherwise trying to create what they see as a better future. If your Aquarius man isn’t an activist himself, it’s likely that he respects the work that activists do. Talking about major news events or global issues is a great way of catching an Aquarius man’s attention, and he’ll more than likely give you an interesting perspective to consider in return!
If there are any political scandals in the news right now, send him a “Did you see this?” message—chances are, he already has, and is itching to talk about it! Sending a politics meme is another great option if you’re struggling to come up with another topic.
3. Open up about yourself.
Tell your Aquarius man about an important experience you’ve had.
What’s strongly impacted you? It could be about your relationship with your family, or a moment when you decided to change your direction in life. You’ll find that he’s probably a very good listener, and he’ll be happy to discuss a topic that is meaningful to you. Open up a conversation with a message like this: “Hey, I wanted to talk to you about something important to me.” It’ll capture his interest very fast!
Aquarians are at their best when given the opportunity to help others. Natural humanitarians, they care deeply about suffering, and actively look for ways to ease it. Aquarians don’t see any topic as off-limits, and will be grateful for the trust you demonstrate if you open up about some of your deeper desires, dreams, and fears.
But be careful! It’s important to not overburden an Aquarius man when you’re trying to get to know him better. People born with this sign can feel easily suffocated when given too much responsibility to take care of others’ emotions. It’s best to demonstrate self-reliance, which is one of the qualities that Aquarians prize most.
4. Be a good friend.
Check-in with your Aquarius for important events.
Remember details about his life—if he’s starting a new job soon, send him a good luck text in the morning! Aquarius is the sign of platonic friendship, and your gesture will be appreciated. Romance for an Aquarius happens through friendship, and being a good friend is the best way to capture an Aquarius’ heart.
Don’t be alarmed if it takes a while for an Aquarius to text you back. They are notoriously slow responders, and it’s nothing personal--more often than not, their attention is simply on something else. This doesn’t mean that they don’t value you!
5. Show off your quirky side.
Don’t be afraid of seeming weird!
This might mean talking about something embarrassing or confessing that you have an odd habit. But it could also mean sharing any unconventional tastes you might have in movies or music. There’s nothing an Aquarius would hate more than to be seen as someone totally ordinary, and they appreciate eccentricity in other people as well. Now is not the time to hide all the things about you that make you unique! If you show what makes you special, an Aquarius will be attracted to this part of you, because being special is what he values most about himself.
Opening a message by saying, “It’s a little weird, but I…”, is a great way of getting an Aquarius’ attention!
6. Find shared interests.
Bond over things you’re interested in.
Ask yourself what topics both you and your Aquarius enjoy thinking about, reading about, and talking about. Aquarians open up when they’re talking about their interests, and this is a crucial part of getting to know this intellectual sign more. Send him articles or videos you find about the topics you’re both interested in, and ask him what he thinks. Let him know that he should do the same for you, and share your thoughts about whatever he sends over—finding an intellectual companion and a romantic one go hand-in-hand for an Aquarius!
You can just send over an article or video without an attached message, but it would be even better to personalize it. Say something like, “This made me think of what you were saying about…”. It’ll flatter an Aquarius to think that someone else is paying attention to his ideas.
7. Flirt!
Flirting over text with an Aquarius is easier than with most other signs.
After all, Aquarians like mental stimulation more than anything, and physical presence isn’t necessary to keep their attention. Try impressing them with a flirty joke, or throw in a winky-face after a clever response to one of their texts. Let them know that you find them attractive, and try to do it in a spontaneous and surprising way—the straightforward approach works for some Aquarians, since they do value honesty, but all of them will enjoy bantering over text.
Make flirty references to earlier conversations—an Aquarius will be thrilled to develop a pool of inside jokes with you!
8. Don’t text too much.
Overtexting can be a real risk with an Aquarius.
They value freedom and not feeling obligated to others more than anything, and this can sometimes be frustrating to people who care about them. Aquarians aren’t likely to send good morning texts, and may not respond to them either—these conventions are silly to many of them. They’d much rather have a conversation when someone has something that they want to discuss. If an Aquarius takes their time responding to you, it’s OK for you to do the same—that way, you won’t make them feel as though you’ve been waiting all day for a response from them.
Keep in mind that if an Aquarius doesn’t respond for a few days, this might just be typical for him. But if he waits more than a week to respond to your messages, your time might simply be better spent elsewhere.
If an Aquarius apologizes for a late response, send him a forgiving reply, such as “Don’t worry about it, I’m happy that I can talk to you now :)” He’ll be grateful for your patience, and that you respect his need to be left alone.
9. Don’t rush him.
Aquarians are thoughtful and sensitive creatures, but they can also be slow ones.
Cool and collected, Aquarians expect the same from their potential partners. It’s important not to push yourself onto an Aquarian man too strongly, as they tend to be easily scared off when they are forced into commitments too soon, or when they see someone ask acting from a place of desperation. So, take your time with him, have some great conversations, and develop a good dynamic—he’ll let you know when he’s ready to take things to the next level.
10. Be warm and friendly.
Aquarians can occasionally be cold.
They don’t mean to be—they’re just extremely rational and logical people! But they’ll appreciate warmness from other people, even when they can’t always reciprocate. Remember to offer your Aquarius compliments, especially on interesting ideas they have, and always be friendly and kind. Use plenty of smiley-faces and emojis in your messages—they will make them feel comfortable and accepted by you.
11. Be independent.
Live your own life, and an Aquarius will admire and be attracted to you because of it.
People with this sign love those who are independent and self-reliant, and by demonstrating these qualities, you can attract an Aquarius man. In other words, what is characteristic of Aquarians is that by showing them that you don’t need them, you attract them! Send over updates on occasion where you talk about the things you’ve been doing and people you’ve been spending time with—an Aquarius will be happy for you, and tempted to join in.
If you’re visiting a new place, send him a photo, and tell him that you were thinking of him. Aquarians love adventure, and feeling included in yours will make them feel appreciated.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Get philosophical.\\nAquarians love nothing more than a deep conversation.\\nLike all air signs, Aquarians enjoy discussing intellectual and abstract topics. Ask him how he thinks we should spend our time while we’re alive, or about the books and movies that have made an impression on him recently, and you’re likely to get a thoughtful and eager message in response. Aquarians are proud of being original thinkers, and happy to have an opportunity to express this aspect of themselves. \\nIf there’s one thing Aquarians can’t stand, it’s clichés. So be careful when wording your message! A more original question, like “Do you ever feel like we’re wasting our lives by following the expectations of other people?” would work better than “What’s the meaning of life?”, even though an Aquarius man would likely have a lot to say about either topic!\\n2. Be political.\\nAquarians care about politics, and aren’t afraid to show it.\\nThere’s a lot of good advice about staying away from talking about politics when meeting a new person, but this might not be possible for too long with an Aquarius man. It’s instinctive for them, since Uranus is the planet associated with revolutions, and Aquarius is the most progressive of all the zodiac signs. Think about the political issues you care about, and ask your Aquarius man what he thinks. Don’t worry too much about offending him over a disagreement—so long as things remain civil, Aquarians are known for not being too judgmental, and they can enjoy differences in opinion.\\nIt’s not unusual to find plenty of Aquarians at protests, signing petitions, or otherwise trying to create what they see as a better future. If your Aquarius man isn’t an activist himself, it’s likely that he respects the work that activists do. Talking about major news events or global issues is a great way of catching an Aquarius man’s attention, and he’ll more than likely give you an interesting perspective to consider in return!\\nIf there are any political scandals in the news right now, send him a “Did you see this?” message—chances are, he already has, and is itching to talk about it! Sending a politics meme is another great option if you’re struggling to come up with another topic.\\n3. Open up about yourself.\\nTell your Aquarius man about an important experience you’ve had.\\nWhat’s strongly impacted you? It could be about your relationship with your family, or a moment when you decided to change your direction in life. You’ll find that he’s probably a very good listener, and he’ll be happy to discuss a topic that is meaningful to you. Open up a conversation with a message like this: “Hey, I wanted to talk to you about something important to me.” It’ll capture his interest very fast!\\nAquarians are at their best when given the opportunity to help others. Natural humanitarians, they care deeply about suffering, and actively look for ways to ease it. Aquarians don’t see any topic as off-limits, and will be grateful for the trust you demonstrate if you open up about some of your deeper desires, dreams, and fears.\\nBut be careful! It’s important to not overburden an Aquarius man when you’re trying to get to know him better. People born with this sign can feel easily suffocated when given too much responsibility to take care of others’ emotions. It’s best to demonstrate self-reliance, which is one of the qualities that Aquarians prize most.\\n4. Be a good friend.\\nCheck-in with your Aquarius for important events.\\nRemember details about his life—if he’s starting a new job soon, send him a good luck text in the morning! Aquarius is the sign of platonic friendship, and your gesture will be appreciated. Romance for an Aquarius happens through friendship, and being a good friend is the best way to capture an Aquarius’ heart.\\nDon’t be alarmed if it takes a while for an Aquarius to text you back. They are notoriously slow responders, and it’s nothing personal--more often than not, their attention is simply on something else. This doesn’t mean that they don’t value you!\\n5. Show off your quirky side.\\nDon’t be afraid of seeming weird!\\nThis might mean talking about something embarrassing or confessing that you have an odd habit. But it could also mean sharing any unconventional tastes you might have in movies or music. There’s nothing an Aquarius would hate more than to be seen as someone totally ordinary, and they appreciate eccentricity in other people as well. Now is not the time to hide all the things about you that make you unique! If you show what makes you special, an Aquarius will be attracted to this part of you, because being special is what he values most about himself.\\nOpening a message by saying, “It’s a little weird, but I…”, is a great way of getting an Aquarius’ attention!\\n6. Find shared interests.\\nBond over things you’re interested in.\\nAsk yourself what topics both you and your Aquarius enjoy thinking about, reading about, and talking about. Aquarians open up when they’re talking about their interests, and this is a crucial part of getting to know this intellectual sign more. Send him articles or videos you find about the topics you’re both interested in, and ask him what he thinks. Let him know that he should do the same for you, and share your thoughts about whatever he sends over—finding an intellectual companion and a romantic one go hand-in-hand for an Aquarius!\\nYou can just send over an article or video without an attached message, but it would be even better to personalize it. Say something like, “This made me think of what you were saying about…”. It’ll flatter an Aquarius to think that someone else is paying attention to his ideas.\\n7. Flirt!\\nFlirting over text with an Aquarius is easier than with most other signs.\\nAfter all, Aquarians like mental stimulation more than anything, and physical presence isn’t necessary to keep their attention. Try impressing them with a flirty joke, or throw in a winky-face after a clever response to one of their texts. Let them know that you find them attractive, and try to do it in a spontaneous and surprising way—the straightforward approach works for some Aquarians, since they do value honesty, but all of them will enjoy bantering over text. \\nMake flirty references to earlier conversations—an Aquarius will be thrilled to develop a pool of inside jokes with you!\\n8. Don’t text too much.\\nOvertexting can be a real risk with an Aquarius.\\nThey value freedom and not feeling obligated to others more than anything, and this can sometimes be frustrating to people who care about them. Aquarians aren’t likely to send good morning texts, and may not respond to them either—these conventions are silly to many of them. They’d much rather have a conversation when someone has something that they want to discuss. If an Aquarius takes their time responding to you, it’s OK for you to do the same—that way, you won’t make them feel as though you’ve been waiting all day for a response from them. \\nKeep in mind that if an Aquarius doesn’t respond for a few days, this might just be typical for him. But if he waits more than a week to respond to your messages, your time might simply be better spent elsewhere.\\nIf an Aquarius apologizes for a late response, send him a forgiving reply, such as “Don’t worry about it, I’m happy that I can talk to you now :)” He’ll be grateful for your patience, and that you respect his need to be left alone.\\n9. Don’t rush him.\\nAquarians are thoughtful and sensitive creatures, but they can also be slow ones.\\nCool and collected, Aquarians expect the same from their potential partners. It’s important not to push yourself onto an Aquarian man too strongly, as they tend to be easily scared off when they are forced into commitments too soon, or when they see someone ask acting from a place of desperation. So, take your time with him, have some great conversations, and develop a good dynamic—he’ll let you know when he’s ready to take things to the next level.\\n10. Be warm and friendly.\\nAquarians can occasionally be cold.\\nThey don’t mean to be—they’re just extremely rational and logical people! But they’ll appreciate warmness from other people, even when they can’t always reciprocate. Remember to offer your Aquarius compliments, especially on interesting ideas they have, and always be friendly and kind. Use plenty of smiley-faces and emojis in your messages—they will make them feel comfortable and accepted by you.\\n11. Be independent.\\nLive your own life, and an Aquarius will admire and be attracted to you because of it.\\nPeople with this sign love those who are independent and self-reliant, and by demonstrating these qualities, you can attract an Aquarius man. In other words, what is characteristic of Aquarians is that by showing them that you don’t need them, you attract them! Send over updates on occasion where you talk about the things you’ve been doing and people you’ve been spending time with—an Aquarius will be happy for you, and tempted to join in.\\nIf you’re visiting a new place, send him a photo, and tell him that you were thinking of him. Aquarians love adventure, and feeling included in yours will make them feel appreciated.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Strange, brilliant, and caring, Aquarians are the eccentric charmers of the Zodiac and they wouldn’t have it any other way. This sign is ruled by Uranus, which is the planet associated with technology, among other things. Because of this, for the most part Aquarians enjoy texting and messaging online, at least until their freedom-loving instincts kick in and they need to take control over their time again. If you’re wondering how to make the best possible impression on an Aquarius man over text, we’ve got you covered! Here are 10 ways to get and keep the attention of these clever and unique people.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get philosophical.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aquarians love nothing more than a deep conversation.\", \"描述\": \"Like all air signs, Aquarians enjoy discussing intellectual and abstract topics. Ask him how he thinks we should spend our time while we’re alive, or about the books and movies that have made an impression on him recently, and you’re likely to get a thoughtful and eager message in response. Aquarians are proud of being original thinkers, and happy to have an opportunity to express this aspect of themselves. \\nIf there’s one thing Aquarians can’t stand, it’s clichés. So be careful when wording your message! A more original question, like “Do you ever feel like we’re wasting our lives by following the expectations of other people?” would work better than “What’s the meaning of life?”, even though an Aquarius man would likely have a lot to say about either topic!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be political.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aquarians care about politics, and aren’t afraid to show it.\", \"描述\": \"There’s a lot of good advice about staying away from talking about politics when meeting a new person, but this might not be possible for too long with an Aquarius man. It’s instinctive for them, since Uranus is the planet associated with revolutions, and Aquarius is the most progressive of all the zodiac signs. Think about the political issues you care about, and ask your Aquarius man what he thinks. Don’t worry too much about offending him over a disagreement—so long as things remain civil, Aquarians are known for not being too judgmental, and they can enjoy differences in opinion.\\nIt’s not unusual to find plenty of Aquarians at protests, signing petitions, or otherwise trying to create what they see as a better future. If your Aquarius man isn’t an activist himself, it’s likely that he respects the work that activists do. Talking about major news events or global issues is a great way of catching an Aquarius man’s attention, and he’ll more than likely give you an interesting perspective to consider in return!\\nIf there are any political scandals in the news right now, send him a “Did you see this?” message—chances are, he already has, and is itching to talk about it! 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Aquarians don’t see any topic as off-limits, and will be grateful for the trust you demonstrate if you open up about some of your deeper desires, dreams, and fears.\\nBut be careful! It’s important to not overburden an Aquarius man when you’re trying to get to know him better. People born with this sign can feel easily suffocated when given too much responsibility to take care of others’ emotions. It’s best to demonstrate self-reliance, which is one of the qualities that Aquarians prize most.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be a good friend.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Check-in with your Aquarius for important events.\", \"描述\": \"Remember details about his life—if he’s starting a new job soon, send him a good luck text in the morning! Aquarius is the sign of platonic friendship, and your gesture will be appreciated. Romance for an Aquarius happens through friendship, and being a good friend is the best way to capture an Aquarius’ heart.\\nDon’t be alarmed if it takes a while for an Aquarius to text you back. They are notoriously slow responders, and it’s nothing personal--more often than not, their attention is simply on something else. This doesn’t mean that they don’t value you!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Show off your quirky side.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don’t be afraid of seeming weird!\", \"描述\": \"This might mean talking about something embarrassing or confessing that you have an odd habit. But it could also mean sharing any unconventional tastes you might have in movies or music. There’s nothing an Aquarius would hate more than to be seen as someone totally ordinary, and they appreciate eccentricity in other people as well. Now is not the time to hide all the things about you that make you unique! If you show what makes you special, an Aquarius will be attracted to this part of you, because being special is what he values most about himself.\\nOpening a message by saying, “It’s a little weird, but I…”, is a great way of getting an Aquarius’ attention!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Find shared interests.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Bond over things you’re interested in.\", \"描述\": \"Ask yourself what topics both you and your Aquarius enjoy thinking about, reading about, and talking about. Aquarians open up when they’re talking about their interests, and this is a crucial part of getting to know this intellectual sign more. Send him articles or videos you find about the topics you’re both interested in, and ask him what he thinks. 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2,840 | How to Attract an Aquarius-Pisces Cusp Man (11 Flirty Strategies) | 1. Praise his creative pursuits.
This zodiac sign might be the most creative of them all.
Whether he’s into music, painting, filmmaking, or architecture, take time to listen and learn about his craft. The Aquarius-Pisces cusp puts his heart and soul into his art, and he’ll value a partner who appreciates his creativity. Ask questions and give heartfelt compliments about his latest project to show that you care.
”Wow, that’s so cool that you made a short film! Can I see it?”
”You really made this scene come to life! Do you only work with oils or do you use other mediums, too?”
”This beat is sick! Have you thought about publishing your music?”
2. Show off your brainy side.
He’ll be drawn to someone who can match his intellect.
Got a passion for molecular biology or know a ton of facts about the Jurassic period? Share your knowledge with him to spark a conversation that can last for hours. An Aquarius-Pisces cusp loves to learn new things and will enjoy being with someone who can enrich his mind.
This sign appreciates transparency, so don't pretend to be into something you actually don't know much about. Instead, be honest about your passions. Are you a huge 80s hair band fan who's memorized the life histories of everyone in Poison, Def Leppard, and Whitesnake? Don't be afraid to tell him that!
3. Discuss philosophy and spirituality.
You’ll stimulate his mind with conversations about the meaning of life.
This guy is open-minded and will appreciate hearing your views, even if they differ from his own. Don’t be afraid to play devil’s advocate here—he’ll love examining philosophical and spiritual subjects from every angle.
If you're religious, invite him to attend a service with you so he can better understand your faith.
4. Appeal to his altruistic nature.
The Aquarius-Pisces cusp man is a humanitarian at heart.
He is full of compassion and cares about people and the planet deeply. Mention causes close to your own heart to show him what a good match you’ll make.
Take it a step further by suggesting you tackle a volunteer project together, whether it’s picking up trash from your city streets or spreading the word about deforestation.
5. Plan social dates.
He’ll shine in large groups.
A man with an Aquarius-Pisces cusp sign is bound to be super friendly and social. In addition to one-on-one time, plan some outings with friends to show that you understand his needs and personality.
A pick-up game of soccer, a group trip to an art gallery or concert, or a day at the beach, waterpark, or pool are right up his ally.
6. Bring excitement to his life.
The Aquarius-Pisces cusp man loves adventures.
Plan a spontaneous getaway, schedule a sky-diving excursion, or challenge him to something he’s never tried before. He’ll love having a partner that wants to keep things fun and fresh. It’ll give him a much-needed break from his frequent ponderings on life.
Go with the flow when things come up or plans change. This guy adapts to change easily and will appreciate a partner that does the same.
7. Give him emotional support.
This zodiac sign is often referred to as “the Cusp of Sensitivity.”
Don’t be surprised if he reveals that he’s got the weight of the world on his shoulders. He’s very in tune with the feelings of those around him, including you! Encourage him to trust his intuition—it’ll be spot on—and remind him to take time to care for his own needs as well. Let him know you’re there when he needs someone to lean on. Seeing you as his safe haven will make you an invaluable person in his life.
8. Let him know you understand him.
Aquarius-Pisces cusps often feel misunderstood.
Even though your guy loves to be around other people, he might feel isolated if no one in the group really gets him. Take the time to observe him, learn his little quirks, and understand what makes him tick. Then, express that so he knows you’re there for him.
“I’m so glad we were a part of that beach clean-up yesterday. I know how much protecting our marine life matters to you.”
“That group trip to the museum was so fun, right? I noticed that you seemed really impacted by the Inuit exhibit. What were you thinking when you looked at those artifacts?”
9. Show your dedication to him.
This guy wants a partner he can trust.
Be punctual for dates and try to avoid canceling plans at the last minute. Let him know that you have his back and will be there for him—and then follow through. If you want to get serious with this guy, avoid dating anyone else. He’ll want to be the only man in your life.
An Aquarius-Pisces man is loyal and committed when he's in a relationship. Show him you are too by saying something like, "I just wanted you to know that I'm not talking to anyone else," or "I deleted Tinder after our first date."
10. Allow him to have space and freedom.
Smothering an Aquarius-Pisces cusp will only push him farther away.
This guy needs time to himself to think and process, and your understanding of that will go a long way. Spend some weekends with your friends or family, and resist the urge to check in often. He’ll reach out when he wants to get together and will appreciate that you have your own social life outside of the relationship.
Make time for your own hobbies and keep up with your social circle. He'll value your independence and all your activities will give you two something to chat about when you see each other again.
11. Let him commit to you on his own terms.
He’ll take his time to decide if you two are a good match.
A man born between the Aquarius and Pisces zodiac is a deep thinker. He’ll want to test the waters and analyze your compatibility before deciding to make things official. Rather than pressuring him, give him the time and space to come to his own realization that you two are perfect for each other.
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An Aquarius-Pisces cusp loves to learn new things and will enjoy being with someone who can enrich his mind.\\nThis sign appreciates transparency, so don't pretend to be into something you actually don't know much about. Instead, be honest about your passions. Are you a huge 80s hair band fan who's memorized the life histories of everyone in Poison, Def Leppard, and Whitesnake? Don't be afraid to tell him that!\\n3. Discuss philosophy and spirituality.\\nYou’ll stimulate his mind with conversations about the meaning of life.\\nThis guy is open-minded and will appreciate hearing your views, even if they differ from his own. Don’t be afraid to play devil’s advocate here—he’ll love examining philosophical and spiritual subjects from every angle.\\nIf you're religious, invite him to attend a service with you so he can better understand your faith.\\n4. Appeal to his altruistic nature.\\nThe Aquarius-Pisces cusp man is a humanitarian at heart.\\nHe is full of compassion and cares about people and the planet deeply. Mention causes close to your own heart to show him what a good match you’ll make.\\nTake it a step further by suggesting you tackle a volunteer project together, whether it’s picking up trash from your city streets or spreading the word about deforestation.\\n5. Plan social dates.\\nHe’ll shine in large groups.\\nA man with an Aquarius-Pisces cusp sign is bound to be super friendly and social. In addition to one-on-one time, plan some outings with friends to show that you understand his needs and personality.\\nA pick-up game of soccer, a group trip to an art gallery or concert, or a day at the beach, waterpark, or pool are right up his ally.\\n6. Bring excitement to his life.\\nThe Aquarius-Pisces cusp man loves adventures.\\nPlan a spontaneous getaway, schedule a sky-diving excursion, or challenge him to something he’s never tried before. He’ll love having a partner that wants to keep things fun and fresh. It’ll give him a much-needed break from his frequent ponderings on life.\\nGo with the flow when things come up or plans change. This guy adapts to change easily and will appreciate a partner that does the same.\\n7. Give him emotional support.\\nThis zodiac sign is often referred to as “the Cusp of Sensitivity.”\\nDon’t be surprised if he reveals that he’s got the weight of the world on his shoulders. He’s very in tune with the feelings of those around him, including you! Encourage him to trust his intuition—it’ll be spot on—and remind him to take time to care for his own needs as well. Let him know you’re there when he needs someone to lean on. Seeing you as his safe haven will make you an invaluable person in his life.\\n8. Let him know you understand him.\\nAquarius-Pisces cusps often feel misunderstood.\\nEven though your guy loves to be around other people, he might feel isolated if no one in the group really gets him. Take the time to observe him, learn his little quirks, and understand what makes him tick. Then, express that so he knows you’re there for him.\\n“I’m so glad we were a part of that beach clean-up yesterday. I know how much protecting our marine life matters to you.”\\n“That group trip to the museum was so fun, right? I noticed that you seemed really impacted by the Inuit exhibit. What were you thinking when you looked at those artifacts?”\\n9. Show your dedication to him.\\nThis guy wants a partner he can trust.\\nBe punctual for dates and try to avoid canceling plans at the last minute. Let him know that you have his back and will be there for him—and then follow through. If you want to get serious with this guy, avoid dating anyone else. He’ll want to be the only man in your life.\\nAn Aquarius-Pisces man is loyal and committed when he's in a relationship. Show him you are too by saying something like, \\\"I just wanted you to know that I'm not talking to anyone else,\\\" or \\\"I deleted Tinder after our first date.\\\"\\n10. Allow him to have space and freedom.\\nSmothering an Aquarius-Pisces cusp will only push him farther away.\\nThis guy needs time to himself to think and process, and your understanding of that will go a long way. Spend some weekends with your friends or family, and resist the urge to check in often. He’ll reach out when he wants to get together and will appreciate that you have your own social life outside of the relationship.\\nMake time for your own hobbies and keep up with your social circle. He'll value your independence and all your activities will give you two something to chat about when you see each other again.\\n11. Let him commit to you on his own terms.\\nHe’ll take his time to decide if you two are a good match.\\nA man born between the Aquarius and Pisces zodiac is a deep thinker. He’ll want to test the waters and analyze your compatibility before deciding to make things official. Rather than pressuring him, give him the time and space to come to his own realization that you two are perfect for each other.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"So, the guy you’ve got your eye on was born between February 15th and 21st? Ruled by both Neptune and Uranus, an Aquarius-Pisces cusp is idealistic, intuitive, generous, and creative, so it’s no wonder you’re into him! We’re here to help you appeal to both his artistic and intellectual sides with the best tips on how to attract—and keep—an Aquarius-Pisces cusp man.This article is based on an interview with our astrologer and performance artist, Angel Eyedealism. Check out the full interview here.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Praise his creative pursuits.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This zodiac sign might be the most creative of them all.\", \"描述\": \"Whether he’s into music, painting, filmmaking, or architecture, take time to listen and learn about his craft. The Aquarius-Pisces cusp puts his heart and soul into his art, and he’ll value a partner who appreciates his creativity. Ask questions and give heartfelt compliments about his latest project to show that you care.\\n”Wow, that’s so cool that you made a short film! Can I see it?”\\n”You really made this scene come to life! Do you only work with oils or do you use other mediums, too?”\\n”This beat is sick! Have you thought about publishing your music?”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Show off your brainy side.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"He’ll be drawn to someone who can match his intellect.\", \"描述\": \"Got a passion for molecular biology or know a ton of facts about the Jurassic period? Share your knowledge with him to spark a conversation that can last for hours. An Aquarius-Pisces cusp loves to learn new things and will enjoy being with someone who can enrich his mind.\\nThis sign appreciates transparency, so don't pretend to be into something you actually don't know much about. Instead, be honest about your passions. Are you a huge 80s hair band fan who's memorized the life histories of everyone in Poison, Def Leppard, and Whitesnake? Don't be afraid to tell him that!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Discuss philosophy and spirituality.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You’ll stimulate his mind with conversations about the meaning of life.\", \"描述\": \"This guy is open-minded and will appreciate hearing your views, even if they differ from his own. Don’t be afraid to play devil’s advocate here—he’ll love examining philosophical and spiritual subjects from every angle.\\nIf you're religious, invite him to attend a service with you so he can better understand your faith.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Appeal to his altruistic nature.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The Aquarius-Pisces cusp man is a humanitarian at heart.\", \"描述\": \"He is full of compassion and cares about people and the planet deeply. Mention causes close to your own heart to show him what a good match you’ll make.\\nTake it a step further by suggesting you tackle a volunteer project together, whether it’s picking up trash from your city streets or spreading the word about deforestation.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Plan social dates.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"He’ll shine in large groups.\", \"描述\": \"A man with an Aquarius-Pisces cusp sign is bound to be super friendly and social. In addition to one-on-one time, plan some outings with friends to show that you understand his needs and personality.\\nA pick-up game of soccer, a group trip to an art gallery or concert, or a day at the beach, waterpark, or pool are right up his ally.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Bring excitement to his life.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The Aquarius-Pisces cusp man loves adventures.\", \"描述\": \"Plan a spontaneous getaway, schedule a sky-diving excursion, or challenge him to something he’s never tried before. 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2,841 | How to Attract an Aquarius Woman (12 Flirting Tips) | 1. Engage her mind with stimulating conversations.
Talking all night is a surefire way to attract an Aquarius woman.
Bring up subjects like philosophy, art, politics, and humanitarian causes to really pique her interest. As you talk, share your opinion freely and listen to hers. Just make sure you keep your cool. Aquarians like a respectful debate, but heated, emotionally-charged conversations aren't their thing. Approach the conversation with kindness and an open mind and she'll be crushing on you in a heartbeat.
If you run into this Aquarius woman at a party, you might comment on the art on the wall. You could say, "I know that painting is abstract, but I swear I see a dog. What do you see?"
Text her a link to an article on the latest current event in the news. If anyone wants to talk about politics with a crush, it's an Aquarius. Add the caption, "Just read this and I've got so many thoughts. I'd love to hear your take on it."
2. Adopt an air of mystery when you talk to her.
An Aquarius woman likes to be left wanting more.
If you reveal too much about yourself or seem too available to her, she might get uncomfortable or turned off. Let her get to know you more incrementally by giving her a few details about yourself over time.
When she asks what you like to do for fun, avoid listing every hobby you can think of. Say something like, "I dabble in a lot of things. Snowboarding is my favorite, though 🙂"
If you get on the subject of your childhood, skip the in-depth life story at this stage. Mention a funny anecdote instead like, "I had a pretty good childhood. Did I tell you about the time I almost got cast in a commercial?"
To increase the mystery factor, try ending the conversation first sometimes. Aquarius women enjoy the chase, so she'll like wondering what you're up to and hoping you'll text her again soon.
3. Be her friend.
The sign of Aquarius is ruled by the Eleventh House of Friendships.
Because of this, Aquarians value forging strong, meaningful friendships with the people in their lives, including their lovers. Show her that you're a true friend and she'll likely catch feelings for you. Ways you can be a good friend to an Aquarius woman include:
Listening to her when she talks to you (and putting your phone away)
Encouraging her anytime she needs a pep talk
Joking around and goofing off together
4. Compliment her on what makes her unique.
She needs to feel appreciated for all of her wild and wonderful ways.
An Aquarius woman is no stranger to criticism and judgemental stares. If you show her that you appreciate her for all of her quirks and eccentricities, she'll probably fall for you immediately. Tell her what you like about her and be specific.
You might say, "Your mind works in such mysterious ways. I want to know your opinion on everything" or "I could talk to you for hours. No one sees things the way you do."
If you want to compliment her appearance, hone in on something specific so the compliment feels special. Text her, "You looked beautiful in that tie-dye dress today. You've got such great style."
5. Show off your quirky side.
Aquarius women are drawn to true individuals like themselves.
As you get to know this Aquarius woman, don't be shy about your weirder interests and pastimes. Aquarius women are interested in all things strange and taboo, so your guilty pleasures are exactly what she wants to learn more about.
Maybe you're in a rock band, but you secretly love pop music. You might say something like, "Can I tell you a secret? I may look hardcore, but I'm actually a huge ABBA fan."
Nervous about telling her you're playing Dungeons and Dragons? Don't be! Text her, "I don't know what you're up to right now, but I just slayed a dragon." There's not an Aquarius woman in the world that won't be into that.
6. Get a little flirty.
Aquarius women flirt with wordplay and banter.
They are the intellectuals of the Zodiac, after all. To win her over, share some inside jokes, playfully tease her to start up a little debate, and even try some subtle innuendo. She'll be excited to have found an intellectual match and will likely start flirting back (Aquarius women are known charmers themselves).
To joke around, try sending funny GIFS from TV shows, memes, or humorous articles. An Aquarius will likely enjoy a GIF from a trippy cartoon, an astrology meme, or a witty satirical essay from the Humor section of a magazine.
To tease her, you might say something like, "Okay, this movie you recommended is awesome. It's also the weirdest movie I've ever seen. Where do you find this stuff!?"
Make things a little more romantic with some sexy wordplay. You might try, "Dang it's so cold in my apartment. Wish you were here to warm things up 😉"
7. Take her on unexpected and imaginative dates.
Plan outings that feel like adventures.
An Aquarius woman gets bored easily, so she might grow tired of weekly dinner dates. Instead, plan dates that are activity-based, like hiking, bowling, or even volunteering. Opt for things you've never tried before to show her how bold and spontaneous you are. She'll love that you keep her on her toes and will be happy to have found someone as adventurous as she is.
An Aquarius will also love dates that are creatively stimulating. Try attending a painting and wine night, taking a cooking class, or exploring a local bookstore in your area.
Don't be afraid to change things up. If you're worried she's getting bored with the usual routine, text her something like, "I know we planned on cooking tonight, but would you wanna check out that new pizza place instead?"
8. Surprise her with a meaningful gift.
This shows your Aquarius woman that you've been thinking of her.
Aquarians need to be appreciated by their lovers, otherwise they won't hesitate to go their own way. To show your deep appreciation for her, give her a small gift. Pick something that relates to an interest of hers, like a vinyl record of her favorite album or a book by an author she adores. She'll be touched by the gesture and will be happy to have found someone that makes her feel so valued.
Aquarians are known creatives. You might also give her something related to her artistic pursuits, like paintbrushes, a pack of colored pencils, or some nice pens.
It's okay if you don't have a big budget for a gift. Aquarians aren't very impressed by extravagance, so she'll be just as happy to receive a curated playlist, a drawing, or a handpicked flower you found in your neighborhood.
9. Experiment in the bedroom.
Aquarians usually have an open-minded, creative outlook on sexuality.
There aren't many turn-ons that will scare off an Aquarius, and they may have some unique desires of their own. As things start to heat up, talk about your fantasies in the bedroom and ask her about hers. She'll love being around someone that's so comfortable with their sexuality.
To bring up the subject, you might say something like, "I can't stop thinking about last night. Is there anything you've ever wanted to try together?" or "I can't get enough of your kisses. Is there anything I can do to return the favor?"
Make sure this Aquarius woman knows that you like her for more than just her sexuality. Even in a casual arrangement, Aquarians need to be sure that you appreciate their personality before they can lose their inhibitions with you.
Only do what you're comfortable with. If you're not ready to experiment in the bedroom just yet, that's totally okay. Aquarians are usually very understanding people, and there are a ton of other ways to attract them.
10. Comfort her in times of need.
An Aquarius woman craves support in her romantic relationships.
As ultra-independent people in their public life, Aquarians want a lover that can help them and be a true partner to them in private. Encourage her if she ever feels insecure about her unique way of being, be there for her when she needs some help, and show her that she can really trust you. You'll get through to her hidden, sensitive side and make her fall head over heels for you.
Next time she starts feeling down about herself, say something like, "You really are so special. The world would be a way less interesting place without you."
Maybe she's overwhelmed by a letter-writing campaign she signed up for. Help her out and spend the day writing with her!
If you offer to do a favor for her, make sure you follow through. To really attract an Aquarius, you need to show her that she can depend on you.
11. Give her space to do her thing.
An Aquarius needs a lot of alone time.
Avoid taking it personally if she declines an invitation to watch a sci-fi movie marathon or read philosophy all day. Let her recharge on her own time and respect her need for space. If you give her time to decompress and do her thing, she'll be happy to have found a person that really understands her.
If she says she's not able to make plans that week because she's busy with an art project, send an encouraging and understanding text back. You might say, "I totally get it. Send me updates if you can! I love getting a behind-the-scenes look at your art."
Maybe she's got to go home early from a date to finish a comic book that she's obsessed with. Say something like, "I understand, but only if you let me borrow it when you're done. That book sounds awesome!"
12. Respect her independence.
An Aquarius woman needs freedom to thrive.
As you get to know each other, avoid pressuring her to commit. Instead, focus on enjoying your time together, keep making dates, and be patient. Aquarians like to be extra sure before they settle down. If you don't try to pin her down, she'll have no problem committing to you when she's ready.
Rather than planning dates months in advance, stick to making more spontaneous plans. For example, hold off on inviting her to a family wedding that's months away. Ask her to get drinks with you that week instead.
Even if she commits, an Aquarius woman will still want to spend plenty of time with her friends. Avoid getting jealous, play it cool when she's hanging out with other people, and embrace the fact that she's such a popular, well-liked lady!
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Adopt an air of mystery when you talk to her.\\nAn Aquarius woman likes to be left wanting more.\\nIf you reveal too much about yourself or seem too available to her, she might get uncomfortable or turned off. Let her get to know you more incrementally by giving her a few details about yourself over time.\\nWhen she asks what you like to do for fun, avoid listing every hobby you can think of. Say something like, \\\"I dabble in a lot of things. Snowboarding is my favorite, though 🙂\\\"\\nIf you get on the subject of your childhood, skip the in-depth life story at this stage. Mention a funny anecdote instead like, \\\"I had a pretty good childhood. Did I tell you about the time I almost got cast in a commercial?\\\"\\nTo increase the mystery factor, try ending the conversation first sometimes. Aquarius women enjoy the chase, so she'll like wondering what you're up to and hoping you'll text her again soon.\\n3. Be her friend.\\nThe sign of Aquarius is ruled by the Eleventh House of Friendships.\\nBecause of this, Aquarians value forging strong, meaningful friendships with the people in their lives, including their lovers. Show her that you're a true friend and she'll likely catch feelings for you. Ways you can be a good friend to an Aquarius woman include:\\nListening to her when she talks to you (and putting your phone away)\\nEncouraging her anytime she needs a pep talk\\nJoking around and goofing off together\\n4. Compliment her on what makes her unique.\\nShe needs to feel appreciated for all of her wild and wonderful ways.\\nAn Aquarius woman is no stranger to criticism and judgemental stares. If you show her that you appreciate her for all of her quirks and eccentricities, she'll probably fall for you immediately. Tell her what you like about her and be specific.\\nYou might say, \\\"Your mind works in such mysterious ways. I want to know your opinion on everything\\\" or \\\"I could talk to you for hours. No one sees things the way you do.\\\"\\nIf you want to compliment her appearance, hone in on something specific so the compliment feels special. Text her, \\\"You looked beautiful in that tie-dye dress today. You've got such great style.\\\"\\n5. Show off your quirky side.\\nAquarius women are drawn to true individuals like themselves.\\nAs you get to know this Aquarius woman, don't be shy about your weirder interests and pastimes. Aquarius women are interested in all things strange and taboo, so your guilty pleasures are exactly what she wants to learn more about.\\nMaybe you're in a rock band, but you secretly love pop music. You might say something like, \\\"Can I tell you a secret? I may look hardcore, but I'm actually a huge ABBA fan.\\\"\\nNervous about telling her you're playing Dungeons and Dragons? Don't be! Text her, \\\"I don't know what you're up to right now, but I just slayed a dragon.\\\" There's not an Aquarius woman in the world that won't be into that.\\n6. Get a little flirty.\\nAquarius women flirt with wordplay and banter.\\nThey are the intellectuals of the Zodiac, after all. To win her over, share some inside jokes, playfully tease her to start up a little debate, and even try some subtle innuendo. She'll be excited to have found an intellectual match and will likely start flirting back (Aquarius women are known charmers themselves).\\nTo joke around, try sending funny GIFS from TV shows, memes, or humorous articles. An Aquarius will likely enjoy a GIF from a trippy cartoon, an astrology meme, or a witty satirical essay from the Humor section of a magazine.\\nTo tease her, you might say something like, \\\"Okay, this movie you recommended is awesome. It's also the weirdest movie I've ever seen. Where do you find this stuff!?\\\"\\nMake things a little more romantic with some sexy wordplay. You might try, \\\"Dang it's so cold in my apartment. Wish you were here to warm things up 😉\\\"\\n7. Take her on unexpected and imaginative dates.\\nPlan outings that feel like adventures.\\nAn Aquarius woman gets bored easily, so she might grow tired of weekly dinner dates. Instead, plan dates that are activity-based, like hiking, bowling, or even volunteering. Opt for things you've never tried before to show her how bold and spontaneous you are. She'll love that you keep her on her toes and will be happy to have found someone as adventurous as she is.\\nAn Aquarius will also love dates that are creatively stimulating. Try attending a painting and wine night, taking a cooking class, or exploring a local bookstore in your area.\\nDon't be afraid to change things up. If you're worried she's getting bored with the usual routine, text her something like, \\\"I know we planned on cooking tonight, but would you wanna check out that new pizza place instead?\\\"\\n8. Surprise her with a meaningful gift.\\nThis shows your Aquarius woman that you've been thinking of her.\\nAquarians need to be appreciated by their lovers, otherwise they won't hesitate to go their own way. To show your deep appreciation for her, give her a small gift. Pick something that relates to an interest of hers, like a vinyl record of her favorite album or a book by an author she adores. She'll be touched by the gesture and will be happy to have found someone that makes her feel so valued.\\nAquarians are known creatives. You might also give her something related to her artistic pursuits, like paintbrushes, a pack of colored pencils, or some nice pens.\\nIt's okay if you don't have a big budget for a gift. Aquarians aren't very impressed by extravagance, so she'll be just as happy to receive a curated playlist, a drawing, or a handpicked flower you found in your neighborhood.\\n9. Experiment in the bedroom.\\nAquarians usually have an open-minded, creative outlook on sexuality.\\nThere aren't many turn-ons that will scare off an Aquarius, and they may have some unique desires of their own. As things start to heat up, talk about your fantasies in the bedroom and ask her about hers. She'll love being around someone that's so comfortable with their sexuality.\\nTo bring up the subject, you might say something like, \\\"I can't stop thinking about last night. Is there anything you've ever wanted to try together?\\\" or \\\"I can't get enough of your kisses. Is there anything I can do to return the favor?\\\"\\nMake sure this Aquarius woman knows that you like her for more than just her sexuality. Even in a casual arrangement, Aquarians need to be sure that you appreciate their personality before they can lose their inhibitions with you.\\nOnly do what you're comfortable with. If you're not ready to experiment in the bedroom just yet, that's totally okay. Aquarians are usually very understanding people, and there are a ton of other ways to attract them.\\n10. Comfort her in times of need.\\nAn Aquarius woman craves support in her romantic relationships.\\nAs ultra-independent people in their public life, Aquarians want a lover that can help them and be a true partner to them in private. Encourage her if she ever feels insecure about her unique way of being, be there for her when she needs some help, and show her that she can really trust you. You'll get through to her hidden, sensitive side and make her fall head over heels for you.\\nNext time she starts feeling down about herself, say something like, \\\"You really are so special. The world would be a way less interesting place without you.\\\"\\nMaybe she's overwhelmed by a letter-writing campaign she signed up for. Help her out and spend the day writing with her!\\nIf you offer to do a favor for her, make sure you follow through. To really attract an Aquarius, you need to show her that she can depend on you.\\n11. Give her space to do her thing.\\nAn Aquarius needs a lot of alone time.\\nAvoid taking it personally if she declines an invitation to watch a sci-fi movie marathon or read philosophy all day. Let her recharge on her own time and respect her need for space. If you give her time to decompress and do her thing, she'll be happy to have found a person that really understands her.\\nIf she says she's not able to make plans that week because she's busy with an art project, send an encouraging and understanding text back. You might say, \\\"I totally get it. Send me updates if you can! 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Avoid getting jealous, play it cool when she's hanging out with other people, and embrace the fact that she's such a popular, well-liked lady!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you've got your eye on an Aquarius woman, you're likely drawn to her eccentric, forward-thinking nature. As the rebel of the Zodiac, there's not a rule an Aquarius woman won't break. It's hard not to fall for someone so dynamic and one-of-a-kind, and we're here to help you win her affection. If you want the heart of an Aquarius woman, embrace her adventurous lifestyle and show her what makes you unique, too.This article is based on an interview with our astrologer and performance artist, Angel Eyedealism. Check out the full interview here.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Engage her mind with stimulating conversations.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Talking all night is a surefire way to attract an Aquarius woman.\", \"描述\": \"Bring up subjects like philosophy, art, politics, and humanitarian causes to really pique her interest. As you talk, share your opinion freely and listen to hers. Just make sure you keep your cool. Aquarians like a respectful debate, but heated, emotionally-charged conversations aren't their thing. Approach the conversation with kindness and an open mind and she'll be crushing on you in a heartbeat.\\nIf you run into this Aquarius woman at a party, you might comment on the art on the wall. You could say, \\\"I know that painting is abstract, but I swear I see a dog. What do you see?\\\"\\nText her a link to an article on the latest current event in the news. If anyone wants to talk about politics with a crush, it's an Aquarius. Add the caption, \\\"Just read this and I've got so many thoughts. I'd love to hear your take on it.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Adopt an air of mystery when you talk to her.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aquarius woman likes to be left wanting more.\", \"描述\": \"If you reveal too much about yourself or seem too available to her, she might get uncomfortable or turned off. Let her get to know you more incrementally by giving her a few details about yourself over time.\\nWhen she asks what you like to do for fun, avoid listing every hobby you can think of. Say something like, \\\"I dabble in a lot of things. Snowboarding is my favorite, though 🙂\\\"\\nIf you get on the subject of your childhood, skip the in-depth life story at this stage. Mention a funny anecdote instead like, \\\"I had a pretty good childhood. Did I tell you about the time I almost got cast in a commercial?\\\"\\nTo increase the mystery factor, try ending the conversation first sometimes. Aquarius women enjoy the chase, so she'll like wondering what you're up to and hoping you'll text her again soon.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be her friend.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The sign of Aquarius is ruled by the Eleventh House of Friendships.\", \"描述\": \"Because of this, Aquarians value forging strong, meaningful friendships with the people in their lives, including their lovers. Show her that you're a true friend and she'll likely catch feelings for you. Ways you can be a good friend to an Aquarius woman include:\\nListening to her when she talks to you (and putting your phone away)\\nEncouraging her anytime she needs a pep talk\\nJoking around and goofing off together\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Compliment her on what makes her unique.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"She needs to feel appreciated for all of her wild and wonderful ways.\", \"描述\": \"An Aquarius woman is no stranger to criticism and judgemental stares. If you show her that you appreciate her for all of her quirks and eccentricities, she'll probably fall for you immediately. Tell her what you like about her and be specific.\\nYou might say, \\\"Your mind works in such mysterious ways. I want to know your opinion on everything\\\" or \\\"I could talk to you for hours. No one sees things the way you do.\\\"\\nIf you want to compliment her appearance, hone in on something specific so the compliment feels special. Text her, \\\"You looked beautiful in that tie-dye dress today. You've got such great style.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Show off your quirky side.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aquarius women are drawn to true individuals like themselves.\", \"描述\": \"As you get to know this Aquarius woman, don't be shy about your weirder interests and pastimes. Aquarius women are interested in all things strange and taboo, so your guilty pleasures are exactly what she wants to learn more about.\\nMaybe you're in a rock band, but you secretly love pop music. You might say something like, \\\"Can I tell you a secret? I may look hardcore, but I'm actually a huge ABBA fan.\\\"\\nNervous about telling her you're playing Dungeons and Dragons? Don't be! Text her, \\\"I don't know what you're up to right now, but I just slayed a dragon.\\\" There's not an Aquarius woman in the world that won't be into that.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get a little flirty.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aquarius women flirt with wordplay and banter.\", \"描述\": \"They are the intellectuals of the Zodiac, after all. To win her over, share some inside jokes, playfully tease her to start up a little debate, and even try some subtle innuendo. She'll be excited to have found an intellectual match and will likely start flirting back (Aquarius women are known charmers themselves).\\nTo joke around, try sending funny GIFS from TV shows, memes, or humorous articles. An Aquarius will likely enjoy a GIF from a trippy cartoon, an astrology meme, or a witty satirical essay from the Humor section of a magazine.\\nTo tease her, you might say something like, \\\"Okay, this movie you recommended is awesome. It's also the weirdest movie I've ever seen. Where do you find this stuff!?\\\"\\nMake things a little more romantic with some sexy wordplay. You might try, \\\"Dang it's so cold in my apartment. Wish you were here to warm things up 😉\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Take her on unexpected and imaginative dates.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Plan outings that feel like adventures.\", \"描述\": \"An Aquarius woman gets bored easily, so she might grow tired of weekly dinner dates. Instead, plan dates that are activity-based, like hiking, bowling, or even volunteering. Opt for things you've never tried before to show her how bold and spontaneous you are. She'll love that you keep her on her toes and will be happy to have found someone as adventurous as she is.\\nAn Aquarius will also love dates that are creatively stimulating. Try attending a painting and wine night, taking a cooking class, or exploring a local bookstore in your area.\\nDon't be afraid to change things up. If you're worried she's getting bored with the usual routine, text her something like, \\\"I know we planned on cooking tonight, but would you wanna check out that new pizza place instead?\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Surprise her with a meaningful gift.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This shows your Aquarius woman that you've been thinking of her.\", \"描述\": \"Aquarians need to be appreciated by their lovers, otherwise they won't hesitate to go their own way. To show your deep appreciation for her, give her a small gift. Pick something that relates to an interest of hers, like a vinyl record of her favorite album or a book by an author she adores. She'll be touched by the gesture and will be happy to have found someone that makes her feel so valued.\\nAquarians are known creatives. You might also give her something related to her artistic pursuits, like paintbrushes, a pack of colored pencils, or some nice pens.\\nIt's okay if you don't have a big budget for a gift. Aquarians aren't very impressed by extravagance, so she'll be just as happy to receive a curated playlist, a drawing, or a handpicked flower you found in your neighborhood.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Experiment in the bedroom.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aquarians usually have an open-minded, creative outlook on sexuality.\", \"描述\": \"There aren't many turn-ons that will scare off an Aquarius, and they may have some unique desires of their own. As things start to heat up, talk about your fantasies in the bedroom and ask her about hers. She'll love being around someone that's so comfortable with their sexuality.\\nTo bring up the subject, you might say something like, \\\"I can't stop thinking about last night. Is there anything you've ever wanted to try together?\\\" or \\\"I can't get enough of your kisses. Is there anything I can do to return the favor?\\\"\\nMake sure this Aquarius woman knows that you like her for more than just her sexuality. Even in a casual arrangement, Aquarians need to be sure that you appreciate their personality before they can lose their inhibitions with you.\\nOnly do what you're comfortable with. If you're not ready to experiment in the bedroom just yet, that's totally okay. Aquarians are usually very understanding people, and there are a ton of other ways to attract them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Comfort her in times of need.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aquarius woman craves support in her romantic relationships.\", \"描述\": \"As ultra-independent people in their public life, Aquarians want a lover that can help them and be a true partner to them in private. Encourage her if she ever feels insecure about her unique way of being, be there for her when she needs some help, and show her that she can really trust you. You'll get through to her hidden, sensitive side and make her fall head over heels for you.\\nNext time she starts feeling down about herself, say something like, \\\"You really are so special. The world would be a way less interesting place without you.\\\"\\nMaybe she's overwhelmed by a letter-writing campaign she signed up for. Help her out and spend the day writing with her!\\nIf you offer to do a favor for her, make sure you follow through. To really attract an Aquarius, you need to show her that she can depend on you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Give her space to do her thing.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aquarius needs a lot of alone time.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid taking it personally if she declines an invitation to watch a sci-fi movie marathon or read philosophy all day. Let her recharge on her own time and respect her need for space. If you give her time to decompress and do her thing, she'll be happy to have found a person that really understands her.\\nIf she says she's not able to make plans that week because she's busy with an art project, send an encouraging and understanding text back. You might say, \\\"I totally get it. Send me updates if you can! I love getting a behind-the-scenes look at your art.\\\"\\nMaybe she's got to go home early from a date to finish a comic book that she's obsessed with. Say something like, \\\"I understand, but only if you let me borrow it when you're done. That book sounds awesome!\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Respect her independence.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aquarius woman needs freedom to thrive.\", \"描述\": \"As you get to know each other, avoid pressuring her to commit. Instead, focus on enjoying your time together, keep making dates, and be patient. Aquarians like to be extra sure before they settle down. If you don't try to pin her down, she'll have no problem committing to you when she's ready.\\nRather than planning dates months in advance, stick to making more spontaneous plans. For example, hold off on inviting her to a family wedding that's months away. Ask her to get drinks with you that week instead.\\nEven if she commits, an Aquarius woman will still want to spend plenty of time with her friends. Avoid getting jealous, play it cool when she's hanging out with other people, and embrace the fact that she's such a popular, well-liked lady!\"}]}]}}",
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2,842 | How to Attract an Aries Man As a Capricorn Woman | 1. Exude strength and confidence.
Rams tend to be attracted to confident women who hold their own.
Luckily, confidence comes easy to you as a serious, hard-working Capricorn. You've done your homework and you know what it takes to jump to the head of the pack. He'll admire your tenacity and endurance.
Stand tall and make eye contact when you talk to him. He'll recognize the confidence in your posture.
When it comes to approaching him, don't be shy! Stride right over and engage him in conversation—he'll appreciate your boldness.
2. Talk about your goals and ambitions.
Aries and Capricorn are two of the most ambitious signs of the zodiac.
He'll definitely feel like he's found his match when he realizes you're just as ambitious as he is. It's advantageous if you have different interests, though, so you aren't directly competing with each other.
You might tell him about your 5- or 10-year plans to advance in your chosen field. If you've spearheaded any projects recently, you might brag about those as well.
If you're still in school, you might tell him about your plans after graduation.
3. Show off your smarts and your quick wit.
The smart Aries man is always looking for his intellectual match.
Capricorn ladies are known for their quick wit, and your Aries guy will certainly be impressed when he sees it in action. Don't be afraid to let your knowledge shine, either—this is one guy you definitely don't have to dumb yourself down for.
Aries guys love to learn and experience new things, so he'll be thrilled if you drop a little-known fact about the history of the local coffee shop or talk about the science behind brewing coffee.
4. Introduce him to your offbeat interests.
An Aries guy enjoys exploring things off the beaten path.
This is where you just might hook him, Capricorn. Everybody sees you as traditional and strait-laced, but you also secretly nurture a few weird interests.
Maybe you have a thing for that odd experimental band or go wild for sand painting. You'll surprise your Ram and give him something new to experience, which he always enjoys.
5. Challenge him to a game of strategy.
A good board game helps you both indulge your competitive streak.
Aries guys typically love to get tactical, and you're both really competitive. Choose a game that requires a little thinking, like chess, and get ready for battle.
Feel free to tease him and talk a little smack throughout the game. Aries guys love a little playful banter. Just make sure you can take it from him as well!
6. Turn the spotlight on him.
Rams love being the center of attention.
As a Capricorn, you're likely more reserved, so you're happy to stand to the side. Throw him a genuine compliment and bask in his glow. He'll adore feeling as though he's the star of your show.
Compliment him on things he does rather than just on his looks—he'll appreciate it a lot more. He'll also see that you're really focusing on him, which he loves.
7. Invite him to exercise or play sports with you.
The active Aries guy is always ready to work up a sweat.
If you're looking for a workout partner, you can count on your Ram—he'll definitely push you to work your hardest. Or dare to play him one-on-one in your favorite sport if you want to get your competitive juices flowing.
Be forewarned that an Aries always plays to win. Whatever sport you choose, he's not going to go easy on you—not that you'd have it any other way.
8. Leap into heated debates.
The typical Aries man will argue about anything under the sun.
He might even take a contrary position just for the sake of argument, which can really frustrate you as a practical and grounded Capricorn. But you want to know a secret? He thinks it's hot when you get frustrated. This is a game he really enjoys, so don't take it too personally.
Stay in your comfort zone by not bringing up any topics that are really controversial or that you feel passionate about. That way it won't bother you too much if he disagrees with you.
9. Show a willingness to compromise.
Both of you want to be on top, so something's got to give.
Aries and Capricorn both like to lead and be in control. Carve out separate things that each of you can lead and be in control of and you'll make a great team.
For example, if you're shopping for groceries together, you might put him in charge of meat while you get the produce.
If you're deciding which restaurant to go to for dinner, you might give him a list of 3 places that you like. That way, even though he gets to choose, you can guarantee his choice will be one of your favorites.
10. Give him stability and structure.
Rams secretly crave the security that comes naturally to you.
If you're a typical Capricorn, you leave nothing to chance. You have everything planned out and then you don't stray from that plan. Your Aries guy tends to be a bit more impulsive, but your planning gives him a base of security that makes his impulses less risky.
Essentially, you set the parameters for him and then give him the freedom to act within those parameters. For example, if you're planning a date, you might choose the date and time and then let him decide what you're going to do.
You also give him more freedom by making backup plans. Did his spur-of-the-moment romantic picnic gets rained out? That's okay—you made backup reservations at his favorite restaurant.
11. Let him take the lead from time to time.
An Aries guy tends to have a dominant nature and likes to be in charge.
It's a funny thing about you when it comes to relationships. Though typically dominant in work and life, as soon as you start to catch feelings for someone, you become downright submissive, right? It's nothing to be embarrassed about—this is actually a pretty normal thing for Capricorn ladies in relationships.
You're too independent to let him have complete control over your life, but that's fine with him—he doesn't want it. He has an independent streak as well and doesn't want a partner who relies on him to make every decision.
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If you've spearheaded any projects recently, you might brag about those as well.\\nIf you're still in school, you might tell him about your plans after graduation.\\n3. Show off your smarts and your quick wit.\\nThe smart Aries man is always looking for his intellectual match.\\nCapricorn ladies are known for their quick wit, and your Aries guy will certainly be impressed when he sees it in action. Don't be afraid to let your knowledge shine, either—this is one guy you definitely don't have to dumb yourself down for.\\nAries guys love to learn and experience new things, so he'll be thrilled if you drop a little-known fact about the history of the local coffee shop or talk about the science behind brewing coffee.\\n4. Introduce him to your offbeat interests.\\nAn Aries guy enjoys exploring things off the beaten path.\\nThis is where you just might hook him, Capricorn. Everybody sees you as traditional and strait-laced, but you also secretly nurture a few weird interests.\\nMaybe you have a thing for that odd experimental band or go wild for sand painting. You'll surprise your Ram and give him something new to experience, which he always enjoys.\\n5. Challenge him to a game of strategy.\\nA good board game helps you both indulge your competitive streak.\\nAries guys typically love to get tactical, and you're both really competitive. Choose a game that requires a little thinking, like chess, and get ready for battle.\\nFeel free to tease him and talk a little smack throughout the game. Aries guys love a little playful banter. Just make sure you can take it from him as well!\\n6. Turn the spotlight on him.\\nRams love being the center of attention.\\nAs a Capricorn, you're likely more reserved, so you're happy to stand to the side. Throw him a genuine compliment and bask in his glow. He'll adore feeling as though he's the star of your show.\\nCompliment him on things he does rather than just on his looks—he'll appreciate it a lot more. He'll also see that you're really focusing on him, which he loves.\\n7. Invite him to exercise or play sports with you.\\nThe active Aries guy is always ready to work up a sweat.\\nIf you're looking for a workout partner, you can count on your Ram—he'll definitely push you to work your hardest. Or dare to play him one-on-one in your favorite sport if you want to get your competitive juices flowing.\\nBe forewarned that an Aries always plays to win. Whatever sport you choose, he's not going to go easy on you—not that you'd have it any other way.\\n8. Leap into heated debates.\\nThe typical Aries man will argue about anything under the sun.\\nHe might even take a contrary position just for the sake of argument, which can really frustrate you as a practical and grounded Capricorn. But you want to know a secret? He thinks it's hot when you get frustrated. This is a game he really enjoys, so don't take it too personally.\\nStay in your comfort zone by not bringing up any topics that are really controversial or that you feel passionate about. That way it won't bother you too much if he disagrees with you.\\n9. Show a willingness to compromise.\\nBoth of you want to be on top, so something's got to give.\\nAries and Capricorn both like to lead and be in control. Carve out separate things that each of you can lead and be in control of and you'll make a great team.\\nFor example, if you're shopping for groceries together, you might put him in charge of meat while you get the produce.\\nIf you're deciding which restaurant to go to for dinner, you might give him a list of 3 places that you like. That way, even though he gets to choose, you can guarantee his choice will be one of your favorites.\\n10. Give him stability and structure.\\nRams secretly crave the security that comes naturally to you.\\nIf you're a typical Capricorn, you leave nothing to chance. You have everything planned out and then you don't stray from that plan. Your Aries guy tends to be a bit more impulsive, but your planning gives him a base of security that makes his impulses less risky.\\nEssentially, you set the parameters for him and then give him the freedom to act within those parameters. For example, if you're planning a date, you might choose the date and time and then let him decide what you're going to do.\\nYou also give him more freedom by making backup plans. Did his spur-of-the-moment romantic picnic gets rained out? That's okay—you made backup reservations at his favorite restaurant.\\n11. Let him take the lead from time to time.\\nAn Aries guy tends to have a dominant nature and likes to be in charge.\\nIt's a funny thing about you when it comes to relationships. Though typically dominant in work and life, as soon as you start to catch feelings for someone, you become downright submissive, right? It's nothing to be embarrassed about—this is actually a pretty normal thing for Capricorn ladies in relationships.\\nYou're too independent to let him have complete control over your life, but that's fine with him—he doesn't want it. He has an independent streak as well and doesn't want a partner who relies on him to make every decision.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you're an earthy Capricorn woman who wants to lock down a fiery Aries man, rest assured that sparks will fly. You're talking about the Goat meeting the Ram—as in nature, you have a tendency to lock horns. But you're also not one to back down from a challenge, are you? Lucky for you, neither is he! 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Don't be afraid to let your knowledge shine, either—this is one guy you definitely don't have to dumb yourself down for.\\nAries guys love to learn and experience new things, so he'll be thrilled if you drop a little-known fact about the history of the local coffee shop or talk about the science behind brewing coffee.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Introduce him to your offbeat interests.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aries guy enjoys exploring things off the beaten path.\", \"描述\": \"This is where you just might hook him, Capricorn. Everybody sees you as traditional and strait-laced, but you also secretly nurture a few weird interests.\\nMaybe you have a thing for that odd experimental band or go wild for sand painting. You'll surprise your Ram and give him something new to experience, which he always enjoys.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Challenge him to a game of strategy.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A good board game helps you both indulge your competitive streak.\", \"描述\": \"Aries guys typically love to get tactical, and you're both really competitive. Choose a game that requires a little thinking, like chess, and get ready for battle.\\nFeel free to tease him and talk a little smack throughout the game. Aries guys love a little playful banter. Just make sure you can take it from him as well!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Turn the spotlight on him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Rams love being the center of attention.\", \"描述\": \"As a Capricorn, you're likely more reserved, so you're happy to stand to the side. Throw him a genuine compliment and bask in his glow. 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Carve out separate things that each of you can lead and be in control of and you'll make a great team.\\nFor example, if you're shopping for groceries together, you might put him in charge of meat while you get the produce.\\nIf you're deciding which restaurant to go to for dinner, you might give him a list of 3 places that you like. That way, even though he gets to choose, you can guarantee his choice will be one of your favorites.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Give him stability and structure.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Rams secretly crave the security that comes naturally to you.\", \"描述\": \"If you're a typical Capricorn, you leave nothing to chance. You have everything planned out and then you don't stray from that plan. Your Aries guy tends to be a bit more impulsive, but your planning gives him a base of security that makes his impulses less risky.\\nEssentially, you set the parameters for him and then give him the freedom to act within those parameters. 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2,843 | How to Attract an Aries Man As a Gemini Woman | 1. Engage him in light-hearted conversation.
An Aries man is known for his quick wit and loves to chat.
Geminis are among the greatest conversationalists of the zodiac, so you've definitely met a good match here. You can talk about any topic under the sun and your Ram will relish the opportunity for some verbal sparring.
He's a smart guy and he's looking for his intellectual match, but he can also get pretty passionate about things. If the conversation starts to get too heated, don't be afraid to change the subject.
2. Tease him playfully.
The typical Ram can be mischievous and enjoys a little flirty banter.
Do you see that sparkle in his eye? That tells you he's up for a little silliness. But be careful—a couple of playful punches can easily turn into a spirited wrestling match. On second thought, maybe you don't want to be too careful.
It's also okay to get a little boisterous. He can get rowdy and doesn't care about making a scene, so if you want to run over and tackle him out of the blue, he'll probably be into that.
If you tease him, expect him to tease you back. You two will likely feed off each other's energy, so this is a battle that may never end. Not that you want it to!
3. Play a little hard to get.
An active Aries enjoys the thrill of the chase.
If you throw yourself at him, he's likely to get bored pretty quickly and move on. Fortunately, Gemini ladies tend to be pretty spirited and unpredictable, so it's unlikely that you'll settle down with him super fast. You like a good romantic chase too, so give him a little flirty tease and then flutter off to play with someone else.
For example, if the two of you are at a party, you might dance with him for a song or two, then head off to hang out with someone else. If he asks if you want to go somewhere quieter with him, you might just give him your number instead and tell him to text you sometime.
4. Ask for his advice on something.
Your typical Ram is generous with his advice and loves to help people out.
It doesn't even matter if you've already made up your mind about something—just present it to him as though you haven't. When you ask him for advice, you're telling him that you believe he knows best what you should do, and there's nothing he loves more than being considered the best.
Maybe you're contemplating a career move or trying to decide where to go on vacation. He'd love to weigh in and it'll please him that you want his input.
If you're still in school, you might be trying to decide which classes you should take next semester or whether you should change your major. Tell him what your goals are and he'll steer you in the right direction.
5. Play up your femininity.
Aries guys are usually most attracted to ladylike women.
Wearing a graceful dress in a soft, flowing fabric with heels is a great way to catch his eye. If you're the typical Gemini, you probably have a closet overflowing with different looks and styles, so you're sure to find something light and alluring that will pull that Ram in.
Even if you're going with a simple look, such as jeans and a T-shirt, add a little feminine flair with an arm full of bracelets or a sparkling necklace.
Pay attention to the little details as well. While an Aries guy might not necessarily notice a fresh manicure, he will appreciate how it pulls your whole look together.
6. Get to know his friends.
Aries guys are pretty social and tend to have a lot of close friends.
As a Gemini, you're known for being a social butterfly yourself, so this shouldn't be any problem for you. When he sees you making an effort to get to know his friends, it shows him that you want to be an active part of his life.
Once you've met them, ask him about them periodically to show that you're interested in them as well. For example, if one of his friends recently started a new job, you might ask how he's liking it so far.
7. Be a little spontaneous.
Men born under this sign tend to crave excitement.
A Ram is willing to try anything once and is always on the lookout for new things to try. You could even say he gets bored easily—which should be just fine for you because Geminis are the same way. If you're looking for somebody to go skydiving or bungee-jumping with you, he's definitely your guy.
When you're out with him and notice that he's starting to look around the room or glance at his phone a lot, that's the time to take action. Suggest something else to do and he'll be happy to tag along.
8. Pay him a lot of attention.
When he talks, make eye contact and actively listen.
Ask questions to let him know that you were paying attention and are interested in what he was saying. When the two of you are hanging out with other people, speak directly to him every few minutes to let him know that you've only got eyes for him. He'll love that, as he loves attention.
Saying his name is another good way to let him know you're paying attention to him. For example, if you're browsing in a store and you see something you think he'd dig, you might say, "Oh, Mark, this shirt is totally your style—you should try it on!"
9. Take him out dancing at a hot new club.
Your Ram will feel at home in the loud, dynamic atmosphere.
Gemini ladies are known for being social butterflies, so of course, you know the hippest places to see and be seen. And an Aries does love to be seen out and about, so this date is ideal for both of you.
He likes doing active and adventurous things too, so if a night out dancing isn't your style, maybe you could go on a bike ride or rock climbing together.
If there's a hot local brewery or distillery nearby, chances are he'll like hitting them up for a tour (and some free samples at the end).
10. Wind down in a popular café or bar.
Even if he's relaxing, the typical Aries still wants to be part of the action.
Rams are pretty go-go-go, so he's not much for a quiet evening at home. A bustling café or bar is chill enough for him.
These are also good options to meet up and then decide where to actually go. Since you're both pretty spontaneous, it gives you the ability to pick something to do on the fly that perfectly matches your mood at the moment.
11. Give him a tough problem to tackle.
The typical Aries is always up for a challenge.
He loves nothing more than to succeed where all others have failed, to be your "knight in shining armor," to come to the rescue. If you have something tricky you've been stressing over, ask him if he wants to take a stab at it and he'll rush to fix it for you.
Does your computer keep freezing up? If he's a tech guy, take it to him and tell him everything you've done so far. He'll do everything he can to get it running smoothly again.
If he's a car guy, he can probably diagnose that weird sound your car's making and get it fixed for you cheaper than if you took it to a mechanic.
12. Let him have time alone to pursue his own interests.
Rams cherish their independence and need their alone time.
Geminis tend to be pretty independent as well, so this shouldn't be a problem for you. Sure, you have a pretty social nature, but your sign's inherent duality means you have no problem switching directions and going your separate ways.
An Aries guy tends to be pretty direct, so don't worry—he'll let you know when he needs to go do something on his own. Just give him a smile and wish him luck.
13. Draw him closer by revealing your sensitive side.
This helps your Aries guy feel safe opening up to you.
Aries guys aren't known for expressing their emotions and can have a hard time opening up. As a Gemini, you tend to lean on your logic more than your emotions, but if you show him a softer side you'll connect with him more.
Telling him how something makes you feel encourages him to share his feelings as well. You could just say something like, "I feel so warm and cozy with you," or, "You always make me feel so safe and protected."
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To be fair, it's usually not that hard to capture the attention of an Aries—the challenge is to hold onto it. Gemini is a mutable sign, though, which means you're highly adaptable. If anybody has what it takes to snag that riveting Ram, it's you. Read on to learn everything you need to know to attract the Aries man you've been longing for.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Engage him in light-hearted conversation.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aries man is known for his quick wit and loves to chat.\", \"描述\": \"Geminis are among the greatest conversationalists of the zodiac, so you've definitely met a good match here. You can talk about any topic under the sun and your Ram will relish the opportunity for some verbal sparring.\\nHe's a smart guy and he's looking for his intellectual match, but he can also get pretty passionate about things. 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2,844 | How to Attract an Aries Man As a Leo Woman | 1. Play hard to get.
Aries men love a challenge, and a strong-willed Leo can give him one.
Be a little unavailable at first, so he puts more effort into scoring that first date with you. Keep your social schedule full, and pace yourself when revealing personal information. Let him know you're interested, but maintain enough mystery that he feels he's won the lottery when you do agree to go out with him.
End a conversation with, "It was great talking to you! I've actually got to run and meet some friends now."
Hint that you've got more to say: "That's a long story. I think I'll have to save it for the next time we see each other in person!"
While Leo women prefer to take the initiative, take a step back, and enjoy getting to know him instead. Your Aries man loves the thrill of the chase and will eagerly pursue you if you let him.
2. Wear flattering, feminine clothes.
Ruled by Mars (the red planet), an Aries man loves bright shades of red.
Entice his fiery personality with form-fitting clothing that emphasizes your femininity. You'll have luck wearing skinny jeans, skirts, and dresses when you spend time with your Aries guy, but anything fresh and youthful that compliments your face will get his attention.
Try a sweater dress with a matching scarf in cold weather or a fitted sundress on hot days.
Because Aries is athletic, he'll appreciate a simple pair of yoga pants and a fitted tank top.
If you don't like red clothing, you can attract your guy by adding smaller pops using makeup or accessories. Apply red lipstick, or wear a necklace with garnet gemstones.
3. Take every opportunity to flirt.
Use teasing banter, humor, and physical touch to flirt with Aries.
As a Leo lady, flirting comes naturally to you, so use your skills to draw in your Aries man like a moth to a flame. Start with teasing and go from there; flirting builds up the emotional and physical attraction between you. The more you flirt, the more actively he'll pursue you.
Say, "Stop looking so good in every Instagram pic you post. It's killing me!"
Text him a song link and write, "This reminds me of you!"
To flirt using touch, try brushing your hand against his for a moment, touching his shoulder, sitting close enough to him that your thighs brush together, or hugging him.
4. Charm him with compliments.
Aries men love flattery nearly as much as Leo ladies do.
An Aries guy may not naturally compliment you as often as you'd like. By flattering him with genuine praise first, you can set the standard in your relationship and feed his fire sign ego at the same time.
No need to overthink; an Aries man will love compliments about his looks. "You look amazing in that shirt," or "I love how toned your arms and chest are. I find it so attractive!"
Compliment another of your Aries' positive traits. "You're so enthusiastic about everything you do!" or "You work harder than anyone I know, and it's inspiring."
5. Ask him for help.
Every Aries is a romantic at his core, and he'll enjoy coming to your rescue.
As a Leo woman, your need for attention and affection perfectly compliments an Aries man's traditional approach to relationships and his need for some good old-fashioned romance. His protective nature will respond well to being asked for advice and assistance on important topics.
"This week at work was a little overwhelming. Can we talk about it? I could use a shoulder to lean on right now."
"I need some advice on dealing with a coworker, and you're great at that. Any thoughts?"
6. Be goal-oriented and driven.
Your natural ambition as a Leo will impress an Aries man.
Talk to him about your career, hobbies, ideals, and anything else in life that gives you purpose. Show him that you are a goal-oriented person by chatting about your progress and plans. Ultimately, Aries and Leo both want a partner who will help them achieve success and stability in life, making you an ideal match.
However, Aries might not be as interested in long-term planning, so do not expect them to do so.
"I'm up for a promotion at work, and I've been preparing to make sure that I get it!"
"I had always wanted to learn crocheting, so I started teaching myself a couple of months ago. I want to get good enough to sell my designs!"
7. Engage him with stimulating conversation.
Aries and Leo signs love deep talks and intellectual debate.
Your Aries guy won't care what you talk about, as long as you're honest and confident in your opinions. Bring up anything from current events and politics to your favorite books and movies. Listen to your Aries and respect his opinion, but don't be afraid to disagree. He loves all types of conversation!
"Hey, let me send you a link to this news story. I've been dying to talk about it with someone!"
"I just read this incredible book, and I think you'd like it too! Can I tell you about it?"
8. Go on adventures together.
Your Aries gets bored easily and loves a thrill, so plan exciting dates.
Leo's "work hard, play hard" mentality is a perfect match to Aries, so you're sure to have fun together no matter what! Your Aries guy will especially love spontaneous dates that introduce him to something new. Take him to do a sporty activity he's never tried, or bring him to a new and popular restaurant.
Aries men tend to be athletic and enjoy an "active" date, even if it isn't traditionally sporty. Try horseback riding, rollerblading, bowling, mini-golf, or even a scenic walk complete with a gourmet picnic.
It may take a little time to work up to overnight travel but try proposing a weekend away when you're comfortable. An Aries will jump at the chance for an out-of-town adventure.
9. Learn to share the spotlight sometimes.
You and your Aries both have big egos and dominant personalities.
As a Leo, being the leader and initiator in all of your relationships may feel normal—but an Aries man will also want to take the lead. This mutual need doesn't make you incompatible, but it means that sometimes you'll need to control your egos. Look for compromises and allow him to take the lead at times, so he'll do the same for you.
For example, in a group hangout with your friends, you can take turns telling funny stories and being the center of attention.
10. Show him your natural confidence.
Aries men are attracted to women with a strong sense of self.
As a naturally confident Leo, you should have no problem showing him what a catch you are. Project confidence in your body language, talk about your accomplishments, and hold your own when you disagree with other people. Leos know they're one of a kind, and an Aries man will find that attitude irresistible.
Confident body language includes keeping your back straight, head held high, and making firm eye contact with everyone.
Use "I" statements to protect your own opinion. Phrases like "I see what you're saying, but I prefer to do things differently" are firm but not defensive.
Aries men are attracted to women who stand their ground without getting intimidated by Aries' intensity, and nobody can do that better than a Leo.
11. Give him space.
Free-spirited Aries needs both alone time and time to spend with friends.
Although Leos tend to get jealous and demand attention, your own intense dedication to your friendships will help you understand his need for space. Make time for yourself to nurture your friendships, so he can naturally get the space he needs too.
Learn to let him go solo. It's easy to overreact when your boyfriend makes plans without you, but as long as you're still making plans together, too, there's no need to worry.
Make plans with your friends whenever he does the same. Having a good time with close friends will reduce any feelings of jealousy.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Play hard to get.\\nAries men love a challenge, and a strong-willed Leo can give him one.\\nBe a little unavailable at first, so he puts more effort into scoring that first date with you. Keep your social schedule full, and pace yourself when revealing personal information. Let him know you're interested, but maintain enough mystery that he feels he's won the lottery when you do agree to go out with him.\\nEnd a conversation with, \\\"It was great talking to you! I've actually got to run and meet some friends now.\\\"\\nHint that you've got more to say: \\\"That's a long story. I think I'll have to save it for the next time we see each other in person!\\\"\\nWhile Leo women prefer to take the initiative, take a step back, and enjoy getting to know him instead. Your Aries man loves the thrill of the chase and will eagerly pursue you if you let him.\\n2. Wear flattering, feminine clothes.\\nRuled by Mars (the red planet), an Aries man loves bright shades of red.\\nEntice his fiery personality with form-fitting clothing that emphasizes your femininity. You'll have luck wearing skinny jeans, skirts, and dresses when you spend time with your Aries guy, but anything fresh and youthful that compliments your face will get his attention.\\nTry a sweater dress with a matching scarf in cold weather or a fitted sundress on hot days.\\nBecause Aries is athletic, he'll appreciate a simple pair of yoga pants and a fitted tank top.\\nIf you don't like red clothing, you can attract your guy by adding smaller pops using makeup or accessories. Apply red lipstick, or wear a necklace with garnet gemstones.\\n3. Take every opportunity to flirt.\\nUse teasing banter, humor, and physical touch to flirt with Aries.\\nAs a Leo lady, flirting comes naturally to you, so use your skills to draw in your Aries man like a moth to a flame. Start with teasing and go from there; flirting builds up the emotional and physical attraction between you. The more you flirt, the more actively he'll pursue you.\\nSay, \\\"Stop looking so good in every Instagram pic you post. It's killing me!\\\"\\nText him a song link and write, \\\"This reminds me of you!\\\"\\nTo flirt using touch, try brushing your hand against his for a moment, touching his shoulder, sitting close enough to him that your thighs brush together, or hugging him.\\n4. Charm him with compliments.\\nAries men love flattery nearly as much as Leo ladies do.\\nAn Aries guy may not naturally compliment you as often as you'd like. By flattering him with genuine praise first, you can set the standard in your relationship and feed his fire sign ego at the same time.\\nNo need to overthink; an Aries man will love compliments about his looks. \\\"You look amazing in that shirt,\\\" or \\\"I love how toned your arms and chest are. I find it so attractive!\\\"\\nCompliment another of your Aries' positive traits. \\\"You're so enthusiastic about everything you do!\\\" or \\\"You work harder than anyone I know, and it's inspiring.\\\"\\n5. Ask him for help.\\nEvery Aries is a romantic at his core, and he'll enjoy coming to your rescue.\\nAs a Leo woman, your need for attention and affection perfectly compliments an Aries man's traditional approach to relationships and his need for some good old-fashioned romance. His protective nature will respond well to being asked for advice and assistance on important topics.\\n\\\"This week at work was a little overwhelming. Can we talk about it? I could use a shoulder to lean on right now.\\\"\\n\\\"I need some advice on dealing with a coworker, and you're great at that. Any thoughts?\\\"\\n6. Be goal-oriented and driven.\\nYour natural ambition as a Leo will impress an Aries man.\\nTalk to him about your career, hobbies, ideals, and anything else in life that gives you purpose. Show him that you are a goal-oriented person by chatting about your progress and plans. Ultimately, Aries and Leo both want a partner who will help them achieve success and stability in life, making you an ideal match.\\nHowever, Aries might not be as interested in long-term planning, so do not expect them to do so.\\n\\\"I'm up for a promotion at work, and I've been preparing to make sure that I get it!\\\"\\n\\\"I had always wanted to learn crocheting, so I started teaching myself a couple of months ago. I want to get good enough to sell my designs!\\\"\\n7. Engage him with stimulating conversation.\\nAries and Leo signs love deep talks and intellectual debate.\\nYour Aries guy won't care what you talk about, as long as you're honest and confident in your opinions. Bring up anything from current events and politics to your favorite books and movies. Listen to your Aries and respect his opinion, but don't be afraid to disagree. He loves all types of conversation!\\n\\\"Hey, let me send you a link to this news story. I've been dying to talk about it with someone!\\\"\\n\\\"I just read this incredible book, and I think you'd like it too! Can I tell you about it?\\\"\\n8. Go on adventures together.\\nYour Aries gets bored easily and loves a thrill, so plan exciting dates.\\nLeo's \\\"work hard, play hard\\\" mentality is a perfect match to Aries, so you're sure to have fun together no matter what! Your Aries guy will especially love spontaneous dates that introduce him to something new. Take him to do a sporty activity he's never tried, or bring him to a new and popular restaurant.\\nAries men tend to be athletic and enjoy an \\\"active\\\" date, even if it isn't traditionally sporty. Try horseback riding, rollerblading, bowling, mini-golf, or even a scenic walk complete with a gourmet picnic.\\nIt may take a little time to work up to overnight travel but try proposing a weekend away when you're comfortable. An Aries will jump at the chance for an out-of-town adventure.\\n9. Learn to share the spotlight sometimes.\\nYou and your Aries both have big egos and dominant personalities.\\nAs a Leo, being the leader and initiator in all of your relationships may feel normal—but an Aries man will also want to take the lead. This mutual need doesn't make you incompatible, but it means that sometimes you'll need to control your egos. Look for compromises and allow him to take the lead at times, so he'll do the same for you.\\nFor example, in a group hangout with your friends, you can take turns telling funny stories and being the center of attention.\\n10. Show him your natural confidence.\\nAries men are attracted to women with a strong sense of self.\\nAs a naturally confident Leo, you should have no problem showing him what a catch you are. Project confidence in your body language, talk about your accomplishments, and hold your own when you disagree with other people. Leos know they're one of a kind, and an Aries man will find that attitude irresistible.\\nConfident body language includes keeping your back straight, head held high, and making firm eye contact with everyone.\\nUse \\\"I\\\" statements to protect your own opinion. Phrases like \\\"I see what you're saying, but I prefer to do things differently\\\" are firm but not defensive.\\nAries men are attracted to women who stand their ground without getting intimidated by Aries' intensity, and nobody can do that better than a Leo.\\n11. Give him space.\\nFree-spirited Aries needs both alone time and time to spend with friends.\\nAlthough Leos tend to get jealous and demand attention, your own intense dedication to your friendships will help you understand his need for space. Make time for yourself to nurture your friendships, so he can naturally get the space he needs too.\\nLearn to let him go solo. It's easy to overreact when your boyfriend makes plans without you, but as long as you're still making plans together, too, there's no need to worry.\\nMake plans with your friends whenever he does the same. Having a good time with close friends will reduce any feelings of jealousy.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Are you a Leo woman with your heart set on a bold and independent Aries man? It's no wonder: your signs' natural compatibility is already one of the strongest of the zodiac. You're both fire signs with dominant personalities, and while you might have to balance your egos from time to time, your overall match is one of limitless fun, passion, and intensity. Once you learn more about how to attract an Aries man as a Leo woman, you'll be an unstoppable pair!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Play hard to get.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries men love a challenge, and a strong-willed Leo can give him one.\", \"描述\": \"Be a little unavailable at first, so he puts more effort into scoring that first date with you. Keep your social schedule full, and pace yourself when revealing personal information. Let him know you're interested, but maintain enough mystery that he feels he's won the lottery when you do agree to go out with him.\\nEnd a conversation with, \\\"It was great talking to you! I've actually got to run and meet some friends now.\\\"\\nHint that you've got more to say: \\\"That's a long story. I think I'll have to save it for the next time we see each other in person!\\\"\\nWhile Leo women prefer to take the initiative, take a step back, and enjoy getting to know him instead. Your Aries man loves the thrill of the chase and will eagerly pursue you if you let him.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Wear flattering, feminine clothes.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ruled by Mars (the red planet), an Aries man loves bright shades of red.\", \"描述\": \"Entice his fiery personality with form-fitting clothing that emphasizes your femininity. You'll have luck wearing skinny jeans, skirts, and dresses when you spend time with your Aries guy, but anything fresh and youthful that compliments your face will get his attention.\\nTry a sweater dress with a matching scarf in cold weather or a fitted sundress on hot days.\\nBecause Aries is athletic, he'll appreciate a simple pair of yoga pants and a fitted tank top.\\nIf you don't like red clothing, you can attract your guy by adding smaller pops using makeup or accessories. Apply red lipstick, or wear a necklace with garnet gemstones.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take every opportunity to flirt.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use teasing banter, humor, and physical touch to flirt with Aries.\", \"描述\": \"As a Leo lady, flirting comes naturally to you, so use your skills to draw in your Aries man like a moth to a flame. Start with teasing and go from there; flirting builds up the emotional and physical attraction between you. The more you flirt, the more actively he'll pursue you.\\nSay, \\\"Stop looking so good in every Instagram pic you post. It's killing me!\\\"\\nText him a song link and write, \\\"This reminds me of you!\\\"\\nTo flirt using touch, try brushing your hand against his for a moment, touching his shoulder, sitting close enough to him that your thighs brush together, or hugging him.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Charm him with compliments.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries men love flattery nearly as much as Leo ladies do.\", \"描述\": \"An Aries guy may not naturally compliment you as often as you'd like. By flattering him with genuine praise first, you can set the standard in your relationship and feed his fire sign ego at the same time.\\nNo need to overthink; an Aries man will love compliments about his looks. \\\"You look amazing in that shirt,\\\" or \\\"I love how toned your arms and chest are. I find it so attractive!\\\"\\nCompliment another of your Aries' positive traits. \\\"You're so enthusiastic about everything you do!\\\" or \\\"You work harder than anyone I know, and it's inspiring.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Ask him for help.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Every Aries is a romantic at his core, and he'll enjoy coming to your rescue.\", \"描述\": \"As a Leo woman, your need for attention and affection perfectly compliments an Aries man's traditional approach to relationships and his need for some good old-fashioned romance. His protective nature will respond well to being asked for advice and assistance on important topics.\\n\\\"This week at work was a little overwhelming. Can we talk about it? I could use a shoulder to lean on right now.\\\"\\n\\\"I need some advice on dealing with a coworker, and you're great at that. Any thoughts?\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be goal-oriented and driven.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Your natural ambition as a Leo will impress an Aries man.\", \"描述\": \"Talk to him about your career, hobbies, ideals, and anything else in life that gives you purpose. Show him that you are a goal-oriented person by chatting about your progress and plans. Ultimately, Aries and Leo both want a partner who will help them achieve success and stability in life, making you an ideal match.\\nHowever, Aries might not be as interested in long-term planning, so do not expect them to do so.\\n\\\"I'm up for a promotion at work, and I've been preparing to make sure that I get it!\\\"\\n\\\"I had always wanted to learn crocheting, so I started teaching myself a couple of months ago. 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2,845 | How to Attract an Aries Man as a Libra Woman: 11 Flirting Tips | 1. Compliment him frequently.
Aries is the sign of self and needs to be adored.
Compliments are very important to an Aries man. Tell him things about him and his achievements that you like and admire and he'll be eating out of your hand. As a Libra woman, you never hesitate to spread love and positivity, so you'll definitely have no problem showing that Ram how special he is.
The key phrase for Aries is "I am." Compliments that talk about who he is at his core will be a direct line to his heart. For example, you might say, "You are such a great teacher. I was amazed by your patience."
An Aries man is extremely competitive, so he'll also love it if you compliment him on his victories. You might say, "That pass was exceptional! You really dominated in the game today."
2. Enjoy long and lively conversations.
Your Aries guy will love that he can talk with you for hours.
As an Air sign, Libra ladies are thinkers with great conversation skills. You and your Ram have a lot in common, so your conversations will just flow. The more he talks to you, the more he'll be interested.
He loves to talk about daredevils and share tales of adventure—even better if you have stories of your own travels you can share.
Aries guys tend to be competitive and won't shy away from a debate. As long as you hold your own, he'll be enamored. As a Fire sign, the Ram always enjoys introducing a little heat into a conversation.
3. Tease and flirt with him.
You'll attract his interest if you poke at him lightly.
Libra ladies are known for their playfulness, so this type of gentle ribbing is second-nature for you. It's important to tread lightly here—you don't want to actually make him mad—but if you get under his skin a little, he'll start thinking about you a lot and want to see you more often.
For example, if he's talking about sports, you might make a dig about his favorite team. If you don't know a lot about sports, just tease him generally about being a sports guy.
Keep your tone light and try to avoid anything he might be really sensitive about. If you don't know him that well, it might be hard to tell, but stay away from negative comments about his appearance or his character.
4. Play competitive games or sports with him.
Aries men are highly competitive and always play to win.
This doesn't mean you should let him win—and as a Libra, you would never do that anyway. You're all about fairness, but that doesn't mean you don't enjoy a little healthy competition. Since he likes to win, pick something he's going to be better at than you, then give it your best shot. He'll love that you gave him a challenge.
One-on-one games are great because that competitive energy he has will come out in sexual tension. As the game heats up, so will the two of you.
5. Flaunt your graceful feminine style.
The masculine Aries man is very attracted to feminine women.
Libra ladies are known for graceful, delicate style. The typical Ram will be almost magnetically drawn to you. As a daughter of Venus, you embody all the feminine, romantic energy that Aries loves to have around him.
For example, if you're going out on a date with him, you might wear a long, flowing skirt with a cute, fitted T-shirt and some practical sandals. Your outfit gives you the freedom to do pretty much anything while still maintaining a delicate femininity.
6. Let him take the lead sometimes.
Aries guys feel more comfortable when they're in control.
The Ram doesn't like when someone else tries to lead him—he prefers to be the one holding the reins. Both of you are cardinal signs, which means you're both driven by leadership. But Libra is also the sign of partnership, so you have an intuitive sense of when it would be better for you to fall back and follow him.
For example, you might pick the initial spot where you meet up for dates, and then let him suggest where to go from there.
You'll get frustrated if you don't have opportunities to take the lead as well. Communication is key here—talk to each other to figure out how to balance things out. As a Libra, you're all about balance, so it shouldn't be too hard for you to find it.
7. Learn a new skill from him.
Aries men love to take the lead and are natural teachers.
Since you Libras love to learn things, pick something he's great at and ask him to show you how to do it. He'll be thrilled that you asked him and he'll naturally assume the role. The learning process is also a great bonding opportunity.
For example, if he's a good bowler, tell him you want to learn how. Let him show you the best technique and then you can enjoy the competition when you play him later.
8. Be open and honest.
Aries needs a partner who is direct and truthful.
This is no problem for you, Libra, since honesty is one of your strongest values as well. He'll love your commitment to justice and fairness and feel certain that you'd never play games with his heart. This will make him all the more interested in you.
Aries guys are very direct and have no problem telling you how they feel at any moment. If he's into you, he's not going to keep it a secret.
9. Go on adventurous dates with him.
He loves to lead the way to new experiences.
A Ram has a very adventurous spirit. As a Libra lady, you enjoy adventures too, but you're more comfortable simply going along for the ride. If you show him that you're open to trying new things, he'll want to spend more time with you.
For example, you might try sky diving or bungee jumping together. If you're not feeling quite that adventurous, go hiking or rock climbing instead.
Visiting a new town where neither of you has been also gives you the opportunity to discover new things together.
Leave room for spontaneity to inject a bit of adventure wherever you can when you're out together. Aries guys tend to be pretty spontaneous and won't hesitate to grab a chance to do something exciting.
10. Go to social events together.
An Aries guy is an entertainer at heart who loves to be around people.
You're both social people who are sure to have plenty of invitations to events. If you take him with you, you give him the opportunity to meet new people, which he'll love. He'll definitely be more attracted to you if he believes you can help expand and enliven his social life.
The two of you make great companions at social events because you both enjoy mingling and don't feel the need to be joined at the hip.
He'll enjoy going out with you because he'll realize he doesn't have to worry about you—you're perfectly capable of holding your own.
11. Trust him to spend time on his own.
Aries doesn't really like to be tied down.
He needs a woman who is independent and confident, someone who doesn't need him to be by her side every second. This can be difficult for a Libra lady, since you can be a little more insecure in a relationship. But your Ram is loyal—if you learn to let go and trust him, he'll stay true to you.
Having your own interests is a big help here. If you have things that you're doing on your own, he can go do his own things during those times without having to worry about you.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Compliment him frequently.\\nAries is the sign of self and needs to be adored.\\nCompliments are very important to an Aries man. Tell him things about him and his achievements that you like and admire and he'll be eating out of your hand. As a Libra woman, you never hesitate to spread love and positivity, so you'll definitely have no problem showing that Ram how special he is.\\nThe key phrase for Aries is \\\"I am.\\\" Compliments that talk about who he is at his core will be a direct line to his heart. For example, you might say, \\\"You are such a great teacher. I was amazed by your patience.\\\"\\nAn Aries man is extremely competitive, so he'll also love it if you compliment him on his victories. You might say, \\\"That pass was exceptional! You really dominated in the game today.\\\"\\n2. Enjoy long and lively conversations.\\nYour Aries guy will love that he can talk with you for hours.\\nAs an Air sign, Libra ladies are thinkers with great conversation skills. You and your Ram have a lot in common, so your conversations will just flow. The more he talks to you, the more he'll be interested.\\nHe loves to talk about daredevils and share tales of adventure—even better if you have stories of your own travels you can share.\\nAries guys tend to be competitive and won't shy away from a debate. As long as you hold your own, he'll be enamored. As a Fire sign, the Ram always enjoys introducing a little heat into a conversation.\\n3. Tease and flirt with him.\\nYou'll attract his interest if you poke at him lightly.\\nLibra ladies are known for their playfulness, so this type of gentle ribbing is second-nature for you. It's important to tread lightly here—you don't want to actually make him mad—but if you get under his skin a little, he'll start thinking about you a lot and want to see you more often.\\nFor example, if he's talking about sports, you might make a dig about his favorite team. If you don't know a lot about sports, just tease him generally about being a sports guy.\\nKeep your tone light and try to avoid anything he might be really sensitive about. If you don't know him that well, it might be hard to tell, but stay away from negative comments about his appearance or his character.\\n4. Play competitive games or sports with him.\\nAries men are highly competitive and always play to win.\\nThis doesn't mean you should let him win—and as a Libra, you would never do that anyway. You're all about fairness, but that doesn't mean you don't enjoy a little healthy competition. Since he likes to win, pick something he's going to be better at than you, then give it your best shot. He'll love that you gave him a challenge.\\nOne-on-one games are great because that competitive energy he has will come out in sexual tension. As the game heats up, so will the two of you.\\n5. Flaunt your graceful feminine style.\\nThe masculine Aries man is very attracted to feminine women.\\nLibra ladies are known for graceful, delicate style. The typical Ram will be almost magnetically drawn to you. As a daughter of Venus, you embody all the feminine, romantic energy that Aries loves to have around him.\\nFor example, if you're going out on a date with him, you might wear a long, flowing skirt with a cute, fitted T-shirt and some practical sandals. Your outfit gives you the freedom to do pretty much anything while still maintaining a delicate femininity.\\n6. Let him take the lead sometimes.\\nAries guys feel more comfortable when they're in control.\\nThe Ram doesn't like when someone else tries to lead him—he prefers to be the one holding the reins. Both of you are cardinal signs, which means you're both driven by leadership. But Libra is also the sign of partnership, so you have an intuitive sense of when it would be better for you to fall back and follow him.\\nFor example, you might pick the initial spot where you meet up for dates, and then let him suggest where to go from there.\\nYou'll get frustrated if you don't have opportunities to take the lead as well. Communication is key here—talk to each other to figure out how to balance things out. As a Libra, you're all about balance, so it shouldn't be too hard for you to find it.\\n7. Learn a new skill from him.\\nAries men love to take the lead and are natural teachers.\\nSince you Libras love to learn things, pick something he's great at and ask him to show you how to do it. He'll be thrilled that you asked him and he'll naturally assume the role. The learning process is also a great bonding opportunity.\\nFor example, if he's a good bowler, tell him you want to learn how. Let him show you the best technique and then you can enjoy the competition when you play him later.\\n8. Be open and honest.\\nAries needs a partner who is direct and truthful.\\nThis is no problem for you, Libra, since honesty is one of your strongest values as well. He'll love your commitment to justice and fairness and feel certain that you'd never play games with his heart. This will make him all the more interested in you.\\nAries guys are very direct and have no problem telling you how they feel at any moment. If he's into you, he's not going to keep it a secret.\\n9. Go on adventurous dates with him.\\nHe loves to lead the way to new experiences.\\nA Ram has a very adventurous spirit. As a Libra lady, you enjoy adventures too, but you're more comfortable simply going along for the ride. If you show him that you're open to trying new things, he'll want to spend more time with you.\\nFor example, you might try sky diving or bungee jumping together. If you're not feeling quite that adventurous, go hiking or rock climbing instead.\\nVisiting a new town where neither of you has been also gives you the opportunity to discover new things together.\\nLeave room for spontaneity to inject a bit of adventure wherever you can when you're out together. Aries guys tend to be pretty spontaneous and won't hesitate to grab a chance to do something exciting.\\n10. Go to social events together.\\nAn Aries guy is an entertainer at heart who loves to be around people.\\nYou're both social people who are sure to have plenty of invitations to events. If you take him with you, you give him the opportunity to meet new people, which he'll love. He'll definitely be more attracted to you if he believes you can help expand and enliven his social life.\\nThe two of you make great companions at social events because you both enjoy mingling and don't feel the need to be joined at the hip.\\nHe'll enjoy going out with you because he'll realize he doesn't have to worry about you—you're perfectly capable of holding your own.\\n11. Trust him to spend time on his own.\\nAries doesn't really like to be tied down.\\nHe needs a woman who is independent and confident, someone who doesn't need him to be by her side every second. This can be difficult for a Libra lady, since you can be a little more insecure in a relationship. But your Ram is loyal—if you learn to let go and trust him, he'll stay true to you.\\nHaving your own interests is a big help here. If you have things that you're doing on your own, he can go do his own things during those times without having to worry about you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Have you ever heard that men are from Mars and women are from Venus? If you're a Libra woman with your eye on an Aries man, this phrase is literal for you. Ruled by the planet Mars, the Aries sign is exactly opposite your sign, Libra, which is ruled by Venus. Fortunately for your budding romance, your differences tend to complement each other and you'll feel sparks from the first magical moment you connect. Read on to learn everything you need to do to pull that magnificent Ram into your arms.This article is based on an interview with our psychic astrologer, Stina Garbis, owner of Psychic Stina. Check out the full interview here.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Compliment him frequently.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries is the sign of self and needs to be adored.\", \"描述\": \"Compliments are very important to an Aries man. Tell him things about him and his achievements that you like and admire and he'll be eating out of your hand. As a Libra woman, you never hesitate to spread love and positivity, so you'll definitely have no problem showing that Ram how special he is.\\nThe key phrase for Aries is \\\"I am.\\\" Compliments that talk about who he is at his core will be a direct line to his heart. For example, you might say, \\\"You are such a great teacher. I was amazed by your patience.\\\"\\nAn Aries man is extremely competitive, so he'll also love it if you compliment him on his victories. You might say, \\\"That pass was exceptional! You really dominated in the game today.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Enjoy long and lively conversations.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Your Aries guy will love that he can talk with you for hours.\", \"描述\": \"As an Air sign, Libra ladies are thinkers with great conversation skills. You and your Ram have a lot in common, so your conversations will just flow. The more he talks to you, the more he'll be interested.\\nHe loves to talk about daredevils and share tales of adventure—even better if you have stories of your own travels you can share.\\nAries guys tend to be competitive and won't shy away from a debate. As long as you hold your own, he'll be enamored. As a Fire sign, the Ram always enjoys introducing a little heat into a conversation.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Tease and flirt with him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You'll attract his interest if you poke at him lightly.\", \"描述\": \"Libra ladies are known for their playfulness, so this type of gentle ribbing is second-nature for you. It's important to tread lightly here—you don't want to actually make him mad—but if you get under his skin a little, he'll start thinking about you a lot and want to see you more often.\\nFor example, if he's talking about sports, you might make a dig about his favorite team. If you don't know a lot about sports, just tease him generally about being a sports guy.\\nKeep your tone light and try to avoid anything he might be really sensitive about. If you don't know him that well, it might be hard to tell, but stay away from negative comments about his appearance or his character.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Play competitive games or sports with him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries men are highly competitive and always play to win.\", \"描述\": \"This doesn't mean you should let him win—and as a Libra, you would never do that anyway. You're all about fairness, but that doesn't mean you don't enjoy a little healthy competition. Since he likes to win, pick something he's going to be better at than you, then give it your best shot. He'll love that you gave him a challenge.\\nOne-on-one games are great because that competitive energy he has will come out in sexual tension. As the game heats up, so will the two of you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Flaunt your graceful feminine style.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The masculine Aries man is very attracted to feminine women.\", \"描述\": \"Libra ladies are known for graceful, delicate style. The typical Ram will be almost magnetically drawn to you. As a daughter of Venus, you embody all the feminine, romantic energy that Aries loves to have around him.\\nFor example, if you're going out on a date with him, you might wear a long, flowing skirt with a cute, fitted T-shirt and some practical sandals. Your outfit gives you the freedom to do pretty much anything while still maintaining a delicate femininity.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Let him take the lead sometimes.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries guys feel more comfortable when they're in control.\", \"描述\": \"The Ram doesn't like when someone else tries to lead him—he prefers to be the one holding the reins. Both of you are cardinal signs, which means you're both driven by leadership. But Libra is also the sign of partnership, so you have an intuitive sense of when it would be better for you to fall back and follow him.\\nFor example, you might pick the initial spot where you meet up for dates, and then let him suggest where to go from there.\\nYou'll get frustrated if you don't have opportunities to take the lead as well. Communication is key here—talk to each other to figure out how to balance things out. As a Libra, you're all about balance, so it shouldn't be too hard for you to find it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Learn a new skill from him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries men love to take the lead and are natural teachers.\", \"描述\": \"Since you Libras love to learn things, pick something he's great at and ask him to show you how to do it. He'll be thrilled that you asked him and he'll naturally assume the role. 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2,846 | How to Attract an Aries Man As a Sagittarius Woman | 1. Get extra flirty.
Aries is a bold, passionate sign that loves to flirt.
Luckily for you, Sagittarius is the wittiest, most charming flirt in the zodiac! According to Astrologer Stina Garbis, "if you poke at an Aries lightly and flirtatiously, and make them a little mad, it might drive them wild." She also cautions that you shouldn't go too far with this tactic: "tread lightly, an Aries' anger is not something to toy with."Ref tag: Dazzle him with your confidence and stories of your adventures. Aries is a fun sign that doesn’t take things too seriously, so let go and have fun with it.
Aries men love to crack jokes. Butter him up by laughing with him and telling him how funny he is.
Aries is a physical sign. Use seductive body language and a gentle touch, like stroking his arm or grazing his lower back, to heat things up.
Tease him just a little to poke fun at his temper—he’ll think about you a lot and go wild with wanting to see you again. It may just turn into him asking you out on a date a few days later.
2. Let him make the first move.
Play a little hard to get and he’ll pursue you relentlessly.
An Aries guy naturally fills the role of the chaser. Make it a challenge to get to know the full you—his competitive nature will keep him chomping at the bit to win you over. Sagittarians tend to be open books, so resist the urge to spill your life story right away and gradually drop intriguing bits of information instead.
Be careful not to seem too cold or distant. If he gets bored or disinterested in pursuing you, he’ll set his sights on someone else.
Use flirty phrases like “I’ll tell you about that another time” or “That’s for me to know and you to find out” to drive him wild with curiosity.
Be aloof when he wants to see you. If you make yourself available every single time he asks, he might think he’s got you all figured out already.
3. Be his biggest admirer.
Lean into his love of attention.
According to Astrologer Stina Garbis, "Aries are into themselves. Whatever they like about themselves, or their adopted persona at the time, is what they are into. [...] I wouldn’t advise becoming a competitor to Aries and trying to do everything that they do, but rather, be a spectator or do something to complement them. Be their favorite fan or collaborator and cheer them on and they will love and adore you." In short, Aries men love attention and need to be told how great they are. As a naturally supportive Sagittarius, be his biggest fan and cheer him on—he’ll love and adore you for it.
4. Speak to him in "You Are" phrases.
According to Astrologer Stina Garbis, "Aries' phrase is “I am.”
So, if you start any sentence with them with,'You are…' [...] then you would be heading in the right direction." Try using “you are” phrases like:
“You are so strong!”
“You’re such an amazing cook. This is the best avocado toast I’ve ever had.’
“You’re so good at parallel parking.”
Bonus points if you can remember small details from previous conversations. It’ll show him you admire everything he says and that you’re truly his #1 fan!
5. Highlight your feminine side.
Refined, feminine beauty is a turn on for an Aries guy.
Release your inner queen and strut with confidence in a nice dress or skirt to catch his eye. If you see your Aries man frequently, surprise him with a new outfit that stands out from the crowd or a fresh hair style to make him look twice.
Fire sign men love bright colors, patterns, and unique accessories. Turn his head in a stunning bold print dress or dress up a casual look with sparkly, flashy jewelry.
He needs someone that can balance out his more rugged, brash energy. Use your grace, beauty, and competence to be the perfect lady and dazzle him.
6. Engage him in intelligent conversation.
Aries men are very smart beneath their rough exterior.
They can get bored in conversation easily, so keep him entertained with stories from your exciting life—places you’ve been, new things you’ve learned, or any wild ideas you have will keep him fascinated. As a Jupiter-ruled Sagittarius, you’ll have no problem letting your love of learning and wisdom shine.
Mention one of his interests (“Did you see the Cubs game yesterday?”) or reveal one of your special talents (“I bet you didn’t know I could finish a Rubik’s Cube in 5 minutes!”) to kick things off.
The faster the pace, the better. An Aries guy loves jumping around from topic to topic and doesn’t want to dwell on the same subject too long.
Bring up topics you’re passionate about. When two fire signs converse about something they love, they won’t be able to stop!
7. Instigate a lighthearted debate with him.
An Aries man loves a mental challenge.
Challenge him when you have differing opinions (or when you just want to playfully push his buttons a little bit). He can be stubborn and attached to his thoughts, so stick to light topics like the tastiest Skittles flavor or which subway route is the fastest. Watch the sparks fly while he gets worked up (and sees you as an attractive, formidable opponent).
Stroke his ego by letting him “win” your debate (just this once!).
End a debate with an Aries guy with “Let’s agree to disagree” or “I can see why you think that.” It’s a good way to stick to your guns while also conceding to him just a little bit.
Aries and Sagittarius can both get sharp-tongued when they’re heated, so try to keep things on the cool side to avoid an actual fight by accident.
8. Challenge him to a healthy competition.
Both of you are competitive, especially Aries.
Astrologer Stina Garbis explains, "Aries is ruled by the planet Mars, the god of war, so anyway to get their aggression out is where you will find Aries. They may be playing video games, practicing MMA, watching or participating in sports. Other ways to channel this energy can be seen in creative or competitive pursuits, acting, singing, theater, public speaking, social media." Your competition could be anything from video games and sports to karaoke contests and social media challenges. Anything where he can prove himself will really get his heart pumping (for victory and for you!).
Try flirty challenges like daring him to text you 5 selfies before 5pm or making him guess your favorite restaurant to keep his mind on you.
An Aries man always wants to win, but only when it’s a real challenge. Put up a good fight and show him you’re a tough competitor too!
9. Exude confidence and strength.
An Aries man loves a strong woman who knows who she is.
A Sagittarius gal is perfect for this—you’re independent, follow your heart, and won’t let a man change you. Demonstrate your strong sense of self by succeeding at work, standing up for yourself, and living by your personal values.
Show him you’re a strong woman who can take care of herself with or without him. Your charisma and assuredness are like an Aries magnet!
Don’t be afraid to challenge him when you disagree with him. The Ram likes to butt heads and loves sparring with a woman who can hold her own.
You can be vulnerable on occasion—an Aries guy has a secret tender side that wants to take care of you. Let him be your knight in shining armor from time to time by asking for his help.
10. Keep it real.
Aries values honesty and Sagittarius is the perfect sign to give it to him.
Your “what you see is what you get” openness is exactly what an Aries man needs to feel like he can trust you. You both value integrity and the truth and can grow closer over this shared value. Plus, what better way to get to know each other than by being honest?
A Sagittarius's honesty can be blunt or brutal at times. Be tactful when you’re making an observation and consider putting a filter on it to avoid offending your Aries man.
11. Go on adventurous dates.
Satisfy his need for novelty and excitement with out-of-the-box activities.
Aries craves an athletic adventure, and you have an urge to see and experience everything. Pick something active, like hiking a new trail, playing recreational sports, or screaming your head off at an amusement park. The more unusual and physical, the better!
Bonding over your mutual love of adventure seeking is a great way to grow his attraction to you and learn more about each other.
He’ll want to be the fearless leader on whatever adventure you go on. Let him take the reins for a while and enjoy how attentive to you he can be.
12. Be spontaneous.
Aries men like being a little impulsive and impromptu.
He can be extremely impatient and wants immediate gratification. Astrologer Stina Garbis cautions, "if an Aries is spending time with you, that's another indicator that they are interested in you. Aries loves attention and they will go where they find it." Boredom is his biggest enemy, so surprise him with spontaneous nights out, last-minute tickets to go see his favorite band, or an unexpected small gift. The more stimulated he is around you, the harder he’ll fall for you.
Spontaneity in the bedroom is important to him too. If your relationship has gotten physical, initiate intimacy in new locations or at unexpected moments to hook him on you.
13. Give him plenty of space.
Your Aries guy needs room to explore and feel secure in his independence.
He likes someone that can understand that and expects his potential partner to be independent and take care of themselves too. This is great news for a Sagittarius suitor—you’re not one to get clingy and you need space to roam and learn as well. Let him run free and he’ll give you the same in return.
An Aries will always respect your need for space because he needs it too. He wants to feel like he’s equals with his partner this way.
Don’t take it personally if he wants a day to himself. He just needs time to decompress and tend to his hobbies. He’ll be thrilled to catch up with you later!
Too much texting or checking in might make him feel claustrophobic. Let him be the one to reach out to you from time to time.
Tips
Remember, your Aries man is an individual. He might share some common characteristics of an Aries sun sign, but you should focus on getting to know him as a person to attract him most effectively.
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It may just turn into him asking you out on a date a few days later.\\n2. Let him make the first move.\\nPlay a little hard to get and he’ll pursue you relentlessly.\\nAn Aries guy naturally fills the role of the chaser. Make it a challenge to get to know the full you—his competitive nature will keep him chomping at the bit to win you over. Sagittarians tend to be open books, so resist the urge to spill your life story right away and gradually drop intriguing bits of information instead.\\nBe careful not to seem too cold or distant. If he gets bored or disinterested in pursuing you, he’ll set his sights on someone else.\\nUse flirty phrases like “I’ll tell you about that another time” or “That’s for me to know and you to find out” to drive him wild with curiosity.\\nBe aloof when he wants to see you. If you make yourself available every single time he asks, he might think he’s got you all figured out already.\\n3. Be his biggest admirer.\\nLean into his love of attention.\\nAccording to Astrologer Stina Garbis, \\\"Aries are into themselves. Whatever they like about themselves, or their adopted persona at the time, is what they are into. [...] I wouldn’t advise becoming a competitor to Aries and trying to do everything that they do, but rather, be a spectator or do something to complement them. Be their favorite fan or collaborator and cheer them on and they will love and adore you.\\\" In short, Aries men love attention and need to be told how great they are. As a naturally supportive Sagittarius, be his biggest fan and cheer him on—he’ll love and adore you for it.\\n4. Speak to him in \\\"You Are\\\" phrases.\\nAccording to Astrologer Stina Garbis, \\\"Aries' phrase is “I am.”\\nSo, if you start any sentence with them with,'You are…' [...] then you would be heading in the right direction.\\\" Try using “you are” phrases like:\\n“You are so strong!”\\n“You’re such an amazing cook. This is the best avocado toast I’ve ever had.’\\n“You’re so good at parallel parking.”\\nBonus points if you can remember small details from previous conversations. It’ll show him you admire everything he says and that you’re truly his #1 fan!\\n5. Highlight your feminine side.\\nRefined, feminine beauty is a turn on for an Aries guy.\\nRelease your inner queen and strut with confidence in a nice dress or skirt to catch his eye. If you see your Aries man frequently, surprise him with a new outfit that stands out from the crowd or a fresh hair style to make him look twice.\\nFire sign men love bright colors, patterns, and unique accessories. Turn his head in a stunning bold print dress or dress up a casual look with sparkly, flashy jewelry.\\nHe needs someone that can balance out his more rugged, brash energy. Use your grace, beauty, and competence to be the perfect lady and dazzle him.\\n6. Engage him in intelligent conversation.\\nAries men are very smart beneath their rough exterior.\\nThey can get bored in conversation easily, so keep him entertained with stories from your exciting life—places you’ve been, new things you’ve learned, or any wild ideas you have will keep him fascinated. As a Jupiter-ruled Sagittarius, you’ll have no problem letting your love of learning and wisdom shine.\\nMention one of his interests (“Did you see the Cubs game yesterday?”) or reveal one of your special talents (“I bet you didn’t know I could finish a Rubik’s Cube in 5 minutes!”) to kick things off.\\nThe faster the pace, the better. An Aries guy loves jumping around from topic to topic and doesn’t want to dwell on the same subject too long.\\nBring up topics you’re passionate about. When two fire signs converse about something they love, they won’t be able to stop!\\n7. Instigate a lighthearted debate with him.\\nAn Aries man loves a mental challenge.\\nChallenge him when you have differing opinions (or when you just want to playfully push his buttons a little bit). He can be stubborn and attached to his thoughts, so stick to light topics like the tastiest Skittles flavor or which subway route is the fastest. Watch the sparks fly while he gets worked up (and sees you as an attractive, formidable opponent).\\nStroke his ego by letting him “win” your debate (just this once!).\\nEnd a debate with an Aries guy with “Let’s agree to disagree” or “I can see why you think that.” It’s a good way to stick to your guns while also conceding to him just a little bit.\\nAries and Sagittarius can both get sharp-tongued when they’re heated, so try to keep things on the cool side to avoid an actual fight by accident.\\n8. Challenge him to a healthy competition.\\nBoth of you are competitive, especially Aries.\\nAstrologer Stina Garbis explains, \\\"Aries is ruled by the planet Mars, the god of war, so anyway to get their aggression out is where you will find Aries. They may be playing video games, practicing MMA, watching or participating in sports. Other ways to channel this energy can be seen in creative or competitive pursuits, acting, singing, theater, public speaking, social media.\\\" Your competition could be anything from video games and sports to karaoke contests and social media challenges. Anything where he can prove himself will really get his heart pumping (for victory and for you!).\\nTry flirty challenges like daring him to text you 5 selfies before 5pm or making him guess your favorite restaurant to keep his mind on you.\\nAn Aries man always wants to win, but only when it’s a real challenge. Put up a good fight and show him you’re a tough competitor too!\\n9. Exude confidence and strength.\\nAn Aries man loves a strong woman who knows who she is.\\nA Sagittarius gal is perfect for this—you’re independent, follow your heart, and won’t let a man change you. Demonstrate your strong sense of self by succeeding at work, standing up for yourself, and living by your personal values.\\nShow him you’re a strong woman who can take care of herself with or without him. Your charisma and assuredness are like an Aries magnet!\\nDon’t be afraid to challenge him when you disagree with him. The Ram likes to butt heads and loves sparring with a woman who can hold her own.\\nYou can be vulnerable on occasion—an Aries guy has a secret tender side that wants to take care of you. Let him be your knight in shining armor from time to time by asking for his help.\\n10. Keep it real.\\nAries values honesty and Sagittarius is the perfect sign to give it to him.\\nYour “what you see is what you get” openness is exactly what an Aries man needs to feel like he can trust you. You both value integrity and the truth and can grow closer over this shared value. Plus, what better way to get to know each other than by being honest?\\nA Sagittarius's honesty can be blunt or brutal at times. Be tactful when you’re making an observation and consider putting a filter on it to avoid offending your Aries man.\\n11. Go on adventurous dates.\\nSatisfy his need for novelty and excitement with out-of-the-box activities.\\nAries craves an athletic adventure, and you have an urge to see and experience everything. Pick something active, like hiking a new trail, playing recreational sports, or screaming your head off at an amusement park. The more unusual and physical, the better!\\nBonding over your mutual love of adventure seeking is a great way to grow his attraction to you and learn more about each other.\\nHe’ll want to be the fearless leader on whatever adventure you go on. Let him take the reins for a while and enjoy how attentive to you he can be.\\n12. Be spontaneous.\\nAries men like being a little impulsive and impromptu.\\nHe can be extremely impatient and wants immediate gratification. Astrologer Stina Garbis cautions, \\\"if an Aries is spending time with you, that's another indicator that they are interested in you. Aries loves attention and they will go where they find it.\\\" Boredom is his biggest enemy, so surprise him with spontaneous nights out, last-minute tickets to go see his favorite band, or an unexpected small gift. The more stimulated he is around you, the harder he’ll fall for you.\\nSpontaneity in the bedroom is important to him too. If your relationship has gotten physical, initiate intimacy in new locations or at unexpected moments to hook him on you.\\n13. Give him plenty of space.\\nYour Aries guy needs room to explore and feel secure in his independence.\\nHe likes someone that can understand that and expects his potential partner to be independent and take care of themselves too. This is great news for a Sagittarius suitor—you’re not one to get clingy and you need space to roam and learn as well. Let him run free and he’ll give you the same in return.\\nAn Aries will always respect your need for space because he needs it too. He wants to feel like he’s equals with his partner this way.\\nDon’t take it personally if he wants a day to himself. He just needs time to decompress and tend to his hobbies. He’ll be thrilled to catch up with you later!\\nToo much texting or checking in might make him feel claustrophobic. Let him be the one to reach out to you from time to time.\\nTips\\nRemember, your Aries man is an individual. He might share some common characteristics of an Aries sun sign, but you should focus on getting to know him as a person to attract him most effectively.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"An Aries man is a bold, passionate, adventurous guy with an infectious love of life—no wonder you’re into him! As a Sagittarius woman, you have all the charm, energy, and wit to make him fall for you. You’re both enthusiastic fire signs with a lot in common, so he’ll fall for you in a heartbeat with the right approach. We’ve consulted astrology experts to find out exactly how a Sagittarius woman can attract an Aries man. If you’re ready to catch his eye, read on!This article is based on an interview with our psychic astrologer, Stina Garbis, owner of Psychic Stina. Check out the full interview here.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get extra flirty.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries is a bold, passionate sign that loves to flirt.\", \"描述\": \"Luckily for you, Sagittarius is the wittiest, most charming flirt in the zodiac! According to Astrologer Stina Garbis, \\\"if you poke at an Aries lightly and flirtatiously, and make them a little mad, it might drive them wild.\\\" She also cautions that you shouldn't go too far with this tactic: \\\"tread lightly, an Aries' anger is not something to toy with.\\\"Ref tag: Dazzle him with your confidence and stories of your adventures. Aries is a fun sign that doesn’t take things too seriously, so let go and have fun with it.\\nAries men love to crack jokes. Butter him up by laughing with him and telling him how funny he is.\\nAries is a physical sign. Use seductive body language and a gentle touch, like stroking his arm or grazing his lower back, to heat things up.\\nTease him just a little to poke fun at his temper—he’ll think about you a lot and go wild with wanting to see you again. It may just turn into him asking you out on a date a few days later.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Let him make the first move.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Play a little hard to get and he’ll pursue you relentlessly.\", \"描述\": \"An Aries guy naturally fills the role of the chaser. Make it a challenge to get to know the full you—his competitive nature will keep him chomping at the bit to win you over. Sagittarians tend to be open books, so resist the urge to spill your life story right away and gradually drop intriguing bits of information instead.\\nBe careful not to seem too cold or distant. If he gets bored or disinterested in pursuing you, he’ll set his sights on someone else.\\nUse flirty phrases like “I’ll tell you about that another time” or “That’s for me to know and you to find out” to drive him wild with curiosity.\\nBe aloof when he wants to see you. If you make yourself available every single time he asks, he might think he’s got you all figured out already.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be his biggest admirer.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Lean into his love of attention.\", \"描述\": \"According to Astrologer Stina Garbis, \\\"Aries are into themselves. Whatever they like about themselves, or their adopted persona at the time, is what they are into. [...] I wouldn’t advise becoming a competitor to Aries and trying to do everything that they do, but rather, be a spectator or do something to complement them. Be their favorite fan or collaborator and cheer them on and they will love and adore you.\\\" In short, Aries men love attention and need to be told how great they are. As a naturally supportive Sagittarius, be his biggest fan and cheer him on—he’ll love and adore you for it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Speak to him in \\\"You Are\\\" phrases.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"According to Astrologer Stina Garbis, \\\"Aries' phrase is “I am.”\", \"描述\": \"So, if you start any sentence with them with,'You are…' [...] then you would be heading in the right direction.\\\" Try using “you are” phrases like:\\n“You are so strong!”\\n“You’re such an amazing cook. This is the best avocado toast I’ve ever had.’\\n“You’re so good at parallel parking.”\\nBonus points if you can remember small details from previous conversations. It’ll show him you admire everything he says and that you’re truly his #1 fan!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Highlight your feminine side.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Refined, feminine beauty is a turn on for an Aries guy.\", \"描述\": \"Release your inner queen and strut with confidence in a nice dress or skirt to catch his eye. If you see your Aries man frequently, surprise him with a new outfit that stands out from the crowd or a fresh hair style to make him look twice.\\nFire sign men love bright colors, patterns, and unique accessories. Turn his head in a stunning bold print dress or dress up a casual look with sparkly, flashy jewelry.\\nHe needs someone that can balance out his more rugged, brash energy. Use your grace, beauty, and competence to be the perfect lady and dazzle him.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Engage him in intelligent conversation.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries men are very smart beneath their rough exterior.\", \"描述\": \"They can get bored in conversation easily, so keep him entertained with stories from your exciting life—places you’ve been, new things you’ve learned, or any wild ideas you have will keep him fascinated. As a Jupiter-ruled Sagittarius, you’ll have no problem letting your love of learning and wisdom shine.\\nMention one of his interests (“Did you see the Cubs game yesterday?”) or reveal one of your special talents (“I bet you didn’t know I could finish a Rubik’s Cube in 5 minutes!”) to kick things off.\\nThe faster the pace, the better. An Aries guy loves jumping around from topic to topic and doesn’t want to dwell on the same subject too long.\\nBring up topics you’re passionate about. When two fire signs converse about something they love, they won’t be able to stop!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Instigate a lighthearted debate with him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aries man loves a mental challenge.\", \"描述\": \"Challenge him when you have differing opinions (or when you just want to playfully push his buttons a little bit). He can be stubborn and attached to his thoughts, so stick to light topics like the tastiest Skittles flavor or which subway route is the fastest. Watch the sparks fly while he gets worked up (and sees you as an attractive, formidable opponent).\\nStroke his ego by letting him “win” your debate (just this once!).\\nEnd a debate with an Aries guy with “Let’s agree to disagree” or “I can see why you think that.” It’s a good way to stick to your guns while also conceding to him just a little bit.\\nAries and Sagittarius can both get sharp-tongued when they’re heated, so try to keep things on the cool side to avoid an actual fight by accident.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Challenge him to a healthy competition.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Both of you are competitive, especially Aries.\", \"描述\": \"Astrologer Stina Garbis explains, \\\"Aries is ruled by the planet Mars, the god of war, so anyway to get their aggression out is where you will find Aries. They may be playing video games, practicing MMA, watching or participating in sports. Other ways to channel this energy can be seen in creative or competitive pursuits, acting, singing, theater, public speaking, social media.\\\" Your competition could be anything from video games and sports to karaoke contests and social media challenges. Anything where he can prove himself will really get his heart pumping (for victory and for you!).\\nTry flirty challenges like daring him to text you 5 selfies before 5pm or making him guess your favorite restaurant to keep his mind on you.\\nAn Aries man always wants to win, but only when it’s a real challenge. Put up a good fight and show him you’re a tough competitor too!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Exude confidence and strength.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aries man loves a strong woman who knows who she is.\", \"描述\": \"A Sagittarius gal is perfect for this—you’re independent, follow your heart, and won’t let a man change you. Demonstrate your strong sense of self by succeeding at work, standing up for yourself, and living by your personal values.\\nShow him you’re a strong woman who can take care of herself with or without him. Your charisma and assuredness are like an Aries magnet!\\nDon’t be afraid to challenge him when you disagree with him. The Ram likes to butt heads and loves sparring with a woman who can hold her own.\\nYou can be vulnerable on occasion—an Aries guy has a secret tender side that wants to take care of you. Let him be your knight in shining armor from time to time by asking for his help.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Keep it real.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries values honesty and Sagittarius is the perfect sign to give it to him.\", \"描述\": \"Your “what you see is what you get” openness is exactly what an Aries man needs to feel like he can trust you. You both value integrity and the truth and can grow closer over this shared value. Plus, what better way to get to know each other than by being honest?\\nA Sagittarius's honesty can be blunt or brutal at times. Be tactful when you’re making an observation and consider putting a filter on it to avoid offending your Aries man.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Go on adventurous dates.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Satisfy his need for novelty and excitement with out-of-the-box activities.\", \"描述\": \"Aries craves an athletic adventure, and you have an urge to see and experience everything. Pick something active, like hiking a new trail, playing recreational sports, or screaming your head off at an amusement park. The more unusual and physical, the better!\\nBonding over your mutual love of adventure seeking is a great way to grow his attraction to you and learn more about each other.\\nHe’ll want to be the fearless leader on whatever adventure you go on. 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2,847 | How to Attract an Aries Man As a Taurus Woman | 1. Play a little hard to get.
Men born under this zodiac sign love a challenge.
As a Taurus, you prefer to take things slow, which works in your favor with an Aries. Just don’t play too hard to get—an Aries needs to feel like he’s moving toward something attainable. You can do things like:
Wait a few hours (or days) before texting him back
Say you’re busy when he asks you out—then suggest a different day/time
Smile and mingle for a few minutes before approaching him in social settings
2. Let him make the first move.
Aries guys tend to be alpha males.
As a fire sign, your man enjoys feeling like he’s in charge of every situation. That doesn’t mean you have to be docile, especially once your relationship starts to develop. But initially, he’ll like it if you give him room to make the opening move. For example:
Wait for him to ask you out
Let him plan your first few date activities
Give him a chance to initiate the first kiss
3. Make him laugh.
Aries men prefer partners with a razor-sharp sense of humor.
There’s nothing an Aries guy enjoys more than fast-paced, amusing conversation. This sign is particularly drawn to dry humor, light sarcasm, and witty wordplay. As a Taurus, you have a natural and warm sense of humor that he'll be attracted to.
Just remember to keep things light and bubbly—dark humor about serious topics like politics probably won’t win him over.
Light teasing can also be a turn-on for an Aries, but tread lightly. This sign can have a bit of a temper.
4. Compliment him.
An Aries lives for a good ego boost any day of the week.
Men born under this sign are confident and self-assured. In fact, some astrologists say Aries is downright cocky. Since his favorite topic is himself, this guy never gets tired of compliments. Don't be afraid to lay it on thick!
Anything that calls attention to his masculinity is a sure bet. Try something classic like, "You're so strong and brave."
If that's not really your style, compliment his skills. You might say, "Your artwork is gorgeous. Have you thought about showing it in a local gallery? I have a curator friend you can talk to."
5. Stick with positive conversation topics.
Aries men are drawn to upbeat personalities and optimism.
Fire signs are bright and energetic folks. Since negativity and pessimism tend to bring your guy down, he'll actively avoid anyone with dark energy. Maintain a sunny disposition and he’ll appreciate the good vibes.
If you have a rough day, put a positive spin on it by saying something like, "Today was so busy at work! I'm exhausted, but I'm also so thankful I have a fulfilling career that allows me to help people."
Taurus is an earth sign, so you’re naturally warm, friendly, and grounded. An Aries will be drawn to these qualities.
6. Show off your sporty side.
Aries men are attracted to athleticism.
If your guy is a typical Aries, he prioritizes health and fitness above all else. Since physical fitness is so important to him, he's on the lookout for a partner who has an active lifestyle. Be sure to mention that you hit the gym on a regular basis! You can also:
Invite him to take a hot yoga class
Challenge him to a game of tennis
Meet up with him for a weekly run in the park
Invite him over to stream an MMA match
7. Be spontaneous.
An impulsive Aries is always on the go.
Men born under this sign tend to follow random whims in search of their next big adventure. Your guy wants a partner who's always down for spur-of-the-moment experiences. Try to go with the flow whenever you’re around an Aries.
Since Aries are energetic extroverts, call him up out of the blue and invite him to something fun and social. For example, tell him you have tickets to see his favorite band play tonight, but you have to leave now to make it in time.
You could also text him from your friend's birthday bash, tell him the party is lit, and invite him to swing by.
As a Taurus, you prefer stability and can get a little stuck in your routine. Being spontaneous might feel a bit weird at first, but just to try to relax and enjoy yourself.
8. Do something outdoorsy together.
Both Aries and Taurus love soaking up nature.
Taurus is more wired to kick back and enjoy a scenic forest stroll, though, so you'll need to meet your adrenaline-junkie Aries in the middle when it comes to choosing an activity. You might suggest:
Hiking a challenging trail together
A jog through the park followed by a picnic
Mountain biking with plenty of breaks for forest bathing
9. Support his goals and ambitions.
Aries men are very ambitious and hard-working.
An Aries guy is always working on a project (or three) and needs a partner who understands how important his goals are to him. If you want to win him over, cheer him on! Encourage him to follow his dreams and praise him for his excellent work ethic. You might say:
"I can't believe you built this guitar yourself. It's beautiful! Have you ever thought about building custom guitars for a living? You're really good at it."
"You've been working so hard on this work project. I fully expect your boss to give you a substantial raise. I'm so proud of you."
10. Keep a cool head.
An Aries needs a calming force to balance his fiery energy.
Generally, an Aries man has a quick temper and poor impulse control. Your stabilizing Taurus nature will help him keep things in perspective and soothe him when he gets worked up. He'll appreciate the low-key harmony you bring to his life.
For example, if he sees another guy chatting you up, he's likely to get jealous and he might even approach the guy aggressively. Assure your Aries that he has nothing to worry about and calmly lead him away.
Aries is ruled by Mars, the planet of war and aggression. This is where his temper and confrontational nature come from.
Taurus is ruled by Venus, so you're the perfect person to bring balance and peace to any situation. Taurus is also a fixed sign, so being the dependable one comes easily to you.
11. Give him plenty of space.
An Aries tends to be turned off by clingy behavior.
Aries needs plenty of personal space and wants a strong, independent partner. Reassure him that you don’t need to hang out with him every single day. As a Taurus, you have plenty of hobbies and projects of your own that you want to work on! He’ll love that about you.
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Make him laugh.\\nAries men prefer partners with a razor-sharp sense of humor.\\nThere’s nothing an Aries guy enjoys more than fast-paced, amusing conversation. This sign is particularly drawn to dry humor, light sarcasm, and witty wordplay. As a Taurus, you have a natural and warm sense of humor that he'll be attracted to.\\nJust remember to keep things light and bubbly—dark humor about serious topics like politics probably won’t win him over.\\nLight teasing can also be a turn-on for an Aries, but tread lightly. This sign can have a bit of a temper.\\n4. Compliment him.\\nAn Aries lives for a good ego boost any day of the week.\\nMen born under this sign are confident and self-assured. In fact, some astrologists say Aries is downright cocky. Since his favorite topic is himself, this guy never gets tired of compliments. Don't be afraid to lay it on thick!\\nAnything that calls attention to his masculinity is a sure bet. Try something classic like, \\\"You're so strong and brave.\\\"\\nIf that's not really your style, compliment his skills. You might say, \\\"Your artwork is gorgeous. Have you thought about showing it in a local gallery? I have a curator friend you can talk to.\\\"\\n5. Stick with positive conversation topics.\\nAries men are drawn to upbeat personalities and optimism.\\nFire signs are bright and energetic folks. Since negativity and pessimism tend to bring your guy down, he'll actively avoid anyone with dark energy. Maintain a sunny disposition and he’ll appreciate the good vibes.\\nIf you have a rough day, put a positive spin on it by saying something like, \\\"Today was so busy at work! I'm exhausted, but I'm also so thankful I have a fulfilling career that allows me to help people.\\\"\\nTaurus is an earth sign, so you’re naturally warm, friendly, and grounded. An Aries will be drawn to these qualities.\\n6. Show off your sporty side.\\nAries men are attracted to athleticism.\\nIf your guy is a typical Aries, he prioritizes health and fitness above all else. Since physical fitness is so important to him, he's on the lookout for a partner who has an active lifestyle. Be sure to mention that you hit the gym on a regular basis! You can also:\\nInvite him to take a hot yoga class\\nChallenge him to a game of tennis\\nMeet up with him for a weekly run in the park\\nInvite him over to stream an MMA match\\n7. Be spontaneous.\\nAn impulsive Aries is always on the go.\\nMen born under this sign tend to follow random whims in search of their next big adventure. Your guy wants a partner who's always down for spur-of-the-moment experiences. Try to go with the flow whenever you’re around an Aries.\\nSince Aries are energetic extroverts, call him up out of the blue and invite him to something fun and social. For example, tell him you have tickets to see his favorite band play tonight, but you have to leave now to make it in time.\\nYou could also text him from your friend's birthday bash, tell him the party is lit, and invite him to swing by.\\nAs a Taurus, you prefer stability and can get a little stuck in your routine. Being spontaneous might feel a bit weird at first, but just to try to relax and enjoy yourself.\\n8. Do something outdoorsy together.\\nBoth Aries and Taurus love soaking up nature.\\nTaurus is more wired to kick back and enjoy a scenic forest stroll, though, so you'll need to meet your adrenaline-junkie Aries in the middle when it comes to choosing an activity. You might suggest:\\nHiking a challenging trail together\\nA jog through the park followed by a picnic\\nMountain biking with plenty of breaks for forest bathing\\n9. Support his goals and ambitions.\\nAries men are very ambitious and hard-working.\\nAn Aries guy is always working on a project (or three) and needs a partner who understands how important his goals are to him. If you want to win him over, cheer him on! Encourage him to follow his dreams and praise him for his excellent work ethic. You might say:\\n\\\"I can't believe you built this guitar yourself. It's beautiful! Have you ever thought about building custom guitars for a living? You're really good at it.\\\"\\n\\\"You've been working so hard on this work project. I fully expect your boss to give you a substantial raise. I'm so proud of you.\\\"\\n10. Keep a cool head.\\nAn Aries needs a calming force to balance his fiery energy.\\nGenerally, an Aries man has a quick temper and poor impulse control. Your stabilizing Taurus nature will help him keep things in perspective and soothe him when he gets worked up. He'll appreciate the low-key harmony you bring to his life.\\nFor example, if he sees another guy chatting you up, he's likely to get jealous and he might even approach the guy aggressively. Assure your Aries that he has nothing to worry about and calmly lead him away.\\nAries is ruled by Mars, the planet of war and aggression. This is where his temper and confrontational nature come from.\\nTaurus is ruled by Venus, so you're the perfect person to bring balance and peace to any situation. Taurus is also a fixed sign, so being the dependable one comes easily to you.\\n11. Give him plenty of space.\\nAn Aries tends to be turned off by clingy behavior.\\nAries needs plenty of personal space and wants a strong, independent partner. Reassure him that you don’t need to hang out with him every single day. As a Taurus, you have plenty of hobbies and projects of your own that you want to work on! He’ll love that about you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you have your eye on an Aries, you may be wondering if your grounded Taurus energy will vibe with his fiery nature. In fact, these two signs balance each other out quite nicely and he'll be drawn to your warm, nurturing personality. For our comprehensive guide on using your Taurus charm to land the Aries guy of your dreams, read on!This article is based on an interview with our psychic astrologer, Stina Garbis, owner of Psychic Stina. Check out the full interview here.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Play a little hard to get.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Men born under this zodiac sign love a challenge.\", \"描述\": \"As a Taurus, you prefer to take things slow, which works in your favor with an Aries. Just don’t play too hard to get—an Aries needs to feel like he’s moving toward something attainable. 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This sign is particularly drawn to dry humor, light sarcasm, and witty wordplay. As a Taurus, you have a natural and warm sense of humor that he'll be attracted to.\\nJust remember to keep things light and bubbly—dark humor about serious topics like politics probably won’t win him over.\\nLight teasing can also be a turn-on for an Aries, but tread lightly. This sign can have a bit of a temper.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Compliment him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aries lives for a good ego boost any day of the week.\", \"描述\": \"Men born under this sign are confident and self-assured. In fact, some astrologists say Aries is downright cocky. Since his favorite topic is himself, this guy never gets tired of compliments. Don't be afraid to lay it on thick!\\nAnything that calls attention to his masculinity is a sure bet. Try something classic like, \\\"You're so strong and brave.\\\"\\nIf that's not really your style, compliment his skills. You might say, \\\"Your artwork is gorgeous. Have you thought about showing it in a local gallery? I have a curator friend you can talk to.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stick with positive conversation topics.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries men are drawn to upbeat personalities and optimism.\", \"描述\": \"Fire signs are bright and energetic folks. Since negativity and pessimism tend to bring your guy down, he'll actively avoid anyone with dark energy. Maintain a sunny disposition and he’ll appreciate the good vibes.\\nIf you have a rough day, put a positive spin on it by saying something like, \\\"Today was so busy at work! I'm exhausted, but I'm also so thankful I have a fulfilling career that allows me to help people.\\\"\\nTaurus is an earth sign, so you’re naturally warm, friendly, and grounded. An Aries will be drawn to these qualities.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Show off your sporty side.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries men are attracted to athleticism.\", \"描述\": \"If your guy is a typical Aries, he prioritizes health and fitness above all else. Since physical fitness is so important to him, he's on the lookout for a partner who has an active lifestyle. Be sure to mention that you hit the gym on a regular basis! You can also:\\nInvite him to take a hot yoga class\\nChallenge him to a game of tennis\\nMeet up with him for a weekly run in the park\\nInvite him over to stream an MMA match\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be spontaneous.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An impulsive Aries is always on the go.\", \"描述\": \"Men born under this sign tend to follow random whims in search of their next big adventure. Your guy wants a partner who's always down for spur-of-the-moment experiences. Try to go with the flow whenever you’re around an Aries.\\nSince Aries are energetic extroverts, call him up out of the blue and invite him to something fun and social. For example, tell him you have tickets to see his favorite band play tonight, but you have to leave now to make it in time.\\nYou could also text him from your friend's birthday bash, tell him the party is lit, and invite him to swing by.\\nAs a Taurus, you prefer stability and can get a little stuck in your routine. Being spontaneous might feel a bit weird at first, but just to try to relax and enjoy yourself.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Do something outdoorsy together.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Both Aries and Taurus love soaking up nature.\", \"描述\": \"Taurus is more wired to kick back and enjoy a scenic forest stroll, though, so you'll need to meet your adrenaline-junkie Aries in the middle when it comes to choosing an activity. You might suggest:\\nHiking a challenging trail together\\nA jog through the park followed by a picnic\\nMountain biking with plenty of breaks for forest bathing\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Support his goals and ambitions.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries men are very ambitious and hard-working.\", \"描述\": \"An Aries guy is always working on a project (or three) and needs a partner who understands how important his goals are to him. If you want to win him over, cheer him on! Encourage him to follow his dreams and praise him for his excellent work ethic. You might say:\\n\\\"I can't believe you built this guitar yourself. It's beautiful! Have you ever thought about building custom guitars for a living? You're really good at it.\\\"\\n\\\"You've been working so hard on this work project. I fully expect your boss to give you a substantial raise. I'm so proud of you.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Keep a cool head.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aries needs a calming force to balance his fiery energy.\", \"描述\": \"Generally, an Aries man has a quick temper and poor impulse control. Your stabilizing Taurus nature will help him keep things in perspective and soothe him when he gets worked up. He'll appreciate the low-key harmony you bring to his life.\\nFor example, if he sees another guy chatting you up, he's likely to get jealous and he might even approach the guy aggressively. Assure your Aries that he has nothing to worry about and calmly lead him away.\\nAries is ruled by Mars, the planet of war and aggression. This is where his temper and confrontational nature come from.\\nTaurus is ruled by Venus, so you're the perfect person to bring balance and peace to any situation. 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2,848 | How to Attract an Aries Man As a Virgo Woman | 1. Be daring and fun when you flirt.
An Aries guy loves it when you tease and play a little hard to get.
He's probably got a really great sense of humor and he'll love showing off his wit. Since you tend to be more reserved, you've got a few options—be a little more forceful than usual when you flirt, so he sees there's more to you than meets the eye, or keep quiet and reserved. He'll see you as a challenge!
To be daring, you could say, "My last boyfriend never knew what I needed from him. I bet you know what a woman needs...."
To really signal your interest, touch his shoulder, lean close, and suggest that you two go somewhere fun. He won't be able to resist his curiosity.
It's completely fine if you'd rather be more reserved. After all, Aries can be strongly attracted to a more conservative woman because he loves the challenge of catching someone who seems emotionally unavailable.
2. Wear something red and feminine.
Catch his eye by wearing red—the passionate color associated with Aries.
Red is a bold, energetic color that symbolizes courage and sensuality. To hold his gaze, wear a gorgeous red dress or skirt with a flattering top. You're probably more comfortable wearing earth tones, but he won't be able to take his eyes off of you in red.
If red's not really your color, don't worry. You can wear red jewelry, shoes, or accessories to add a splash of his favorite color.
Since you prefer earth tones, reach for a red that's warm with brown undertones. This can make you come across as friendly or inviting.
3. Give him lots of compliments.
Aries can be a pretty self-centered sign, so let him know he's great.
To hook your Aries man, he's got to feel like you really see him and his great qualities. Show him that he is important to you. It might be hard for you as a Virgo to flatter someone, but genuine admiration will really charm him.
For instance, say something like, "I love how passionate and driven you are about learning new things," or, "You are one of the most ambitious people I know."
Be genuine and detailed if you're thanking him for something. You might say, "Thanks for fixing my flat tire. You're a really handy guy to have around."
Point out something you like about him. For example, tell him, "You always know what to say in a social situation. You're so good with people."
4. Go with the flow.
Let your Aries man see that you’re not fussy since he prefers someone who's laid back.
Unfortunately, Virgos are sometimes seen as being picky or too detail-oriented. Show your man that you have no problem relaxing and enjoying life. This might mean that you don’t stress about making plans or insisting that things are perfect.
For example, if you’re going to meet up with him, agree on a meeting time and place. Then, see where the date takes you! You don’t have to organize the whole evening.
Aries is a cardinal sign which means he's great at taking charge and coming up with ideas. As a mutable sign, you're more flexible, so you shouldn't have trouble going along with his plans.
You could show him your flexible side by saying, "I don't know where we should go tonight. Why don't you surprise me?"
5. Say yes to his adventures.
Your Aries guy is looking for someone who's enthusiastic and exciting.
As a Virgo, you're probably perfectly happy spending the night in and binging the latest show, but he'll want to explore and have adventures together. Say yes to his suggestions to let him see that you're a willing partner.
If you find that it's hard to go along with his plans, don't give yourself time to overthink or worry—just go for them!
You might find something new that you love to do. For instance, maybe you wouldn't choose to go rock climbing, but you have a fantastic time doing it with him.
Reveal things that you've always wanted to do. Maybe he'd like to support you when you learn a new skill.
6. Show off your intellect.
Your Aries man is attracted to smart conversation and clever dialogue.
In fact, your intelligence is probably one of the first things about you that caught his attention. Pique his interest by having deep conversations with him instead of the usual small talk. He'll be surprised and impressed that you want to have thoughtful conversations.
Bonus points if you can debate with him on a tough topic. You might ask him about philosophy, his religious upbringing, or his family's politics. No subject is off-limits!
Although Aries can seem brash and superficial at times, your guy can be compassionate, too. You two actually have more in common when it comes to caring about others, so talk about humanitarian issues that are important to you.
If you're not sure where to start, say something like, "I wonder what you think about....." or, "Have you been following along with....."
7. Let him see your caring side.
Aries is seen as one of the most masculine signs of the zodiac.
To balance this out, he's looking for someone who can nurture him and soften his rough edges. As a Virgo, you're known for your empathy and reliability. Show him that you're considerate and thoughtful, as well as in touch with your emotions. You might check in on him when he's had a rough day or just call to say he's on your mind.
At first glance, your signs seem incompatible with emotional connection, but if you talk openly with each other, you can balance each other.
For instance, tell him how you're feeling or ask how he's doing. You might say, "You've been unusually quiet today. Is there anything on your mind?" He'll appreciate that he can confide in you.
You can also show him that you care. Bring him his favorite meal or get tickets for a game he's looking forward to.
8. Focus on your personal interests.
An Aries man likes to see that you're passionate about something.
Aries is ruled by Mars which is known for being bold and impulsive. Because of this, your guy is usually off trying new things or searching for unique experiences. He'll be drawn to you if you're also pursuing your interests, especially if you tell him all about them.
Maybe you're taking classes, learning a language, or you have a personal goal you're trying to reach. Keep working toward these, so he finds you interesting and unique.
Being busy also means that you might not always be available to hang out—this is a good thing! He'll feel like he needs to chase you in order to spend time with you.
Find a balance between personal time and time spent with him. You don't want him to feel like you're always putting him off. Since he is a bit more self-centered, he'll assume that you don't want to spend time with him.
9. Show him your practical, stable side.
An Aries man can be volatile, but he's looking for someone who's grounded.
You may have noticed that your guy can be in a fantastic mood one day and an emotional wreck the next. Fire signs like Aries are driven by big emotions. As an earth sign, you can help ground him. Ask if you can help him with something that's stressing him out. He'll quickly realize that your analytical nature helps keep you level-headed, so he can rely on you.
An Aries guy appreciates that you aren't overly dramatic. Instead, you're thoughtful and considerate, so you don't usually overreact or jump to conclusions.
Sometimes, he'll want you to be a great listener, so he can get his anxieties or problems off his chest.
It might help if you can point out suggestions or options if he's struggling to make choices or deal with problems in his life. You're naturally analytical, so you may have an easier time with this than him.
10. Let him see that you're confident.
Virgos have a lot of strengths, so let him see you're a prize worth catching.
Instead of downplaying what you're good at, like organizing things, accomplishing detailed projects, etc, be proud of your qualities. Hold your head high and don't be afraid to talk about your accomplishments. He wants to be with someone who values herself.
He'll probably be drawn to your powers of observation, so be specific if you give him compliments or recall past conversations with him. He'll be super impressed.
Once you feel comfortable around him, don't be afraid to show him your passionate side. Remember, Aries is an intense, emotional sign, so he'll love seeing you connect with him in that way.
For instance, surprise him with a romantic night in. Let down your hair and tell yourself not to worry about anything. Just be open to a fun and intimate night with your Aries man.
11. Accept your guy for who he is.
Your Aries doesn’t like feeling criticized, so appreciate his strengths.
Aries like to be the boss. At times, you might be irritated by his brash or super energetic attitude. Instead of pointing out how he can do things differently or plan a bit more, let him be. He’ll appreciate that you like him just the way he is!
For instance, instead of being annoyed that he's starting a new project without really thinking it through, join in his enthusiasm and be supportive. Follow his lead.
Make a point of asking for his help when you know he'd really excel. For instance, if you're hosting an event, ask him to come along and chat with people since he's got great social skills.
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Wear something red and feminine.\\nCatch his eye by wearing red—the passionate color associated with Aries.\\nRed is a bold, energetic color that symbolizes courage and sensuality. To hold his gaze, wear a gorgeous red dress or skirt with a flattering top. You're probably more comfortable wearing earth tones, but he won't be able to take his eyes off of you in red.\\nIf red's not really your color, don't worry. You can wear red jewelry, shoes, or accessories to add a splash of his favorite color.\\nSince you prefer earth tones, reach for a red that's warm with brown undertones. This can make you come across as friendly or inviting.\\n3. Give him lots of compliments.\\nAries can be a pretty self-centered sign, so let him know he's great.\\nTo hook your Aries man, he's got to feel like you really see him and his great qualities. Show him that he is important to you. It might be hard for you as a Virgo to flatter someone, but genuine admiration will really charm him.\\nFor instance, say something like, \\\"I love how passionate and driven you are about learning new things,\\\" or, \\\"You are one of the most ambitious people I know.\\\"\\nBe genuine and detailed if you're thanking him for something. You might say, \\\"Thanks for fixing my flat tire. You're a really handy guy to have around.\\\"\\nPoint out something you like about him. For example, tell him, \\\"You always know what to say in a social situation. You're so good with people.\\\"\\n4. Go with the flow.\\nLet your Aries man see that you’re not fussy since he prefers someone who's laid back.\\nUnfortunately, Virgos are sometimes seen as being picky or too detail-oriented. Show your man that you have no problem relaxing and enjoying life. This might mean that you don’t stress about making plans or insisting that things are perfect.\\nFor example, if you’re going to meet up with him, agree on a meeting time and place. Then, see where the date takes you! You don’t have to organize the whole evening.\\nAries is a cardinal sign which means he's great at taking charge and coming up with ideas. As a mutable sign, you're more flexible, so you shouldn't have trouble going along with his plans.\\nYou could show him your flexible side by saying, \\\"I don't know where we should go tonight. Why don't you surprise me?\\\"\\n5. Say yes to his adventures.\\nYour Aries guy is looking for someone who's enthusiastic and exciting.\\nAs a Virgo, you're probably perfectly happy spending the night in and binging the latest show, but he'll want to explore and have adventures together. 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No subject is off-limits!\\nAlthough Aries can seem brash and superficial at times, your guy can be compassionate, too. You two actually have more in common when it comes to caring about others, so talk about humanitarian issues that are important to you.\\nIf you're not sure where to start, say something like, \\\"I wonder what you think about.....\\\" or, \\\"Have you been following along with.....\\\"\\n7. Let him see your caring side.\\nAries is seen as one of the most masculine signs of the zodiac.\\nTo balance this out, he's looking for someone who can nurture him and soften his rough edges. As a Virgo, you're known for your empathy and reliability. Show him that you're considerate and thoughtful, as well as in touch with your emotions. You might check in on him when he's had a rough day or just call to say he's on your mind.\\nAt first glance, your signs seem incompatible with emotional connection, but if you talk openly with each other, you can balance each other.\\nFor instance, tell him how you're feeling or ask how he's doing. You might say, \\\"You've been unusually quiet today. Is there anything on your mind?\\\" He'll appreciate that he can confide in you.\\nYou can also show him that you care. Bring him his favorite meal or get tickets for a game he's looking forward to.\\n8. Focus on your personal interests.\\nAn Aries man likes to see that you're passionate about something.\\nAries is ruled by Mars which is known for being bold and impulsive. Because of this, your guy is usually off trying new things or searching for unique experiences. He'll be drawn to you if you're also pursuing your interests, especially if you tell him all about them.\\nMaybe you're taking classes, learning a language, or you have a personal goal you're trying to reach. Keep working toward these, so he finds you interesting and unique.\\nBeing busy also means that you might not always be available to hang out—this is a good thing! He'll feel like he needs to chase you in order to spend time with you.\\nFind a balance between personal time and time spent with him. You don't want him to feel like you're always putting him off. Since he is a bit more self-centered, he'll assume that you don't want to spend time with him.\\n9. Show him your practical, stable side.\\nAn Aries man can be volatile, but he's looking for someone who's grounded.\\nYou may have noticed that your guy can be in a fantastic mood one day and an emotional wreck the next. Fire signs like Aries are driven by big emotions. As an earth sign, you can help ground him. Ask if you can help him with something that's stressing him out. He'll quickly realize that your analytical nature helps keep you level-headed, so he can rely on you.\\nAn Aries guy appreciates that you aren't overly dramatic. Instead, you're thoughtful and considerate, so you don't usually overreact or jump to conclusions.\\nSometimes, he'll want you to be a great listener, so he can get his anxieties or problems off his chest.\\nIt might help if you can point out suggestions or options if he's struggling to make choices or deal with problems in his life. You're naturally analytical, so you may have an easier time with this than him.\\n10. Let him see that you're confident.\\nVirgos have a lot of strengths, so let him see you're a prize worth catching.\\nInstead of downplaying what you're good at, like organizing things, accomplishing detailed projects, etc, be proud of your qualities. Hold your head high and don't be afraid to talk about your accomplishments. 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He’ll appreciate that you like him just the way he is!\\nFor instance, instead of being annoyed that he's starting a new project without really thinking it through, join in his enthusiasm and be supportive. Follow his lead.\\nMake a point of asking for his help when you know he'd really excel. For instance, if you're hosting an event, ask him to come along and chat with people since he's got great social skills.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Fiery Aries and calm Virgo have great relationship potential. After all, an energetic Aries guy can help you relax and enjoy the fun side of life while you keep him grounded with your practical personality. 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This can make you come across as friendly or inviting.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Give him lots of compliments.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries can be a pretty self-centered sign, so let him know he's great.\", \"描述\": \"To hook your Aries man, he's got to feel like you really see him and his great qualities. Show him that he is important to you. It might be hard for you as a Virgo to flatter someone, but genuine admiration will really charm him.\\nFor instance, say something like, \\\"I love how passionate and driven you are about learning new things,\\\" or, \\\"You are one of the most ambitious people I know.\\\"\\nBe genuine and detailed if you're thanking him for something. You might say, \\\"Thanks for fixing my flat tire. You're a really handy guy to have around.\\\"\\nPoint out something you like about him. For example, tell him, \\\"You always know what to say in a social situation. You're so good with people.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Go with the flow.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Let your Aries man see that you’re not fussy since he prefers someone who's laid back.\", \"描述\": \"Unfortunately, Virgos are sometimes seen as being picky or too detail-oriented. Show your man that you have no problem relaxing and enjoying life. This might mean that you don’t stress about making plans or insisting that things are perfect.\\nFor example, if you’re going to meet up with him, agree on a meeting time and place. Then, see where the date takes you! You don’t have to organize the whole evening.\\nAries is a cardinal sign which means he's great at taking charge and coming up with ideas. As a mutable sign, you're more flexible, so you shouldn't have trouble going along with his plans.\\nYou could show him your flexible side by saying, \\\"I don't know where we should go tonight. Why don't you surprise me?\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Say yes to his adventures.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Your Aries guy is looking for someone who's enthusiastic and exciting.\", \"描述\": \"As a Virgo, you're probably perfectly happy spending the night in and binging the latest show, but he'll want to explore and have adventures together. Say yes to his suggestions to let him see that you're a willing partner.\\nIf you find that it's hard to go along with his plans, don't give yourself time to overthink or worry—just go for them!\\nYou might find something new that you love to do. For instance, maybe you wouldn't choose to go rock climbing, but you have a fantastic time doing it with him.\\nReveal things that you've always wanted to do. Maybe he'd like to support you when you learn a new skill.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Show off your intellect.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Your Aries man is attracted to smart conversation and clever dialogue.\", \"描述\": \"In fact, your intelligence is probably one of the first things about you that caught his attention. Pique his interest by having deep conversations with him instead of the usual small talk. He'll be surprised and impressed that you want to have thoughtful conversations.\\nBonus points if you can debate with him on a tough topic. You might ask him about philosophy, his religious upbringing, or his family's politics. No subject is off-limits!\\nAlthough Aries can seem brash and superficial at times, your guy can be compassionate, too. You two actually have more in common when it comes to caring about others, so talk about humanitarian issues that are important to you.\\nIf you're not sure where to start, say something like, \\\"I wonder what you think about.....\\\" or, \\\"Have you been following along with.....\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Let him see your caring side.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aries is seen as one of the most masculine signs of the zodiac.\", \"描述\": \"To balance this out, he's looking for someone who can nurture him and soften his rough edges. As a Virgo, you're known for your empathy and reliability. Show him that you're considerate and thoughtful, as well as in touch with your emotions. You might check in on him when he's had a rough day or just call to say he's on your mind.\\nAt first glance, your signs seem incompatible with emotional connection, but if you talk openly with each other, you can balance each other.\\nFor instance, tell him how you're feeling or ask how he's doing. You might say, \\\"You've been unusually quiet today. Is there anything on your mind?\\\" He'll appreciate that he can confide in you.\\nYou can also show him that you care. Bring him his favorite meal or get tickets for a game he's looking forward to.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Focus on your personal interests.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aries man likes to see that you're passionate about something.\", \"描述\": \"Aries is ruled by Mars which is known for being bold and impulsive. Because of this, your guy is usually off trying new things or searching for unique experiences. He'll be drawn to you if you're also pursuing your interests, especially if you tell him all about them.\\nMaybe you're taking classes, learning a language, or you have a personal goal you're trying to reach. Keep working toward these, so he finds you interesting and unique.\\nBeing busy also means that you might not always be available to hang out—this is a good thing! He'll feel like he needs to chase you in order to spend time with you.\\nFind a balance between personal time and time spent with him. You don't want him to feel like you're always putting him off. Since he is a bit more self-centered, he'll assume that you don't want to spend time with him.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Show him your practical, stable side.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"An Aries man can be volatile, but he's looking for someone who's grounded.\", \"描述\": \"You may have noticed that your guy can be in a fantastic mood one day and an emotional wreck the next. Fire signs like Aries are driven by big emotions. As an earth sign, you can help ground him. Ask if you can help him with something that's stressing him out. He'll quickly realize that your analytical nature helps keep you level-headed, so he can rely on you.\\nAn Aries guy appreciates that you aren't overly dramatic. 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2,849 | How to Attract an Aries Man Sexually | 1. Be confident.
Aries men can’t resist a bold, self-assured personality.
When these guys make the rounds at a party, they won’t notice those chatting quietly on the sidelines or playing it safe in small circles. They love excitement and energy in all things, so when they’re looking for their next sexual experience, it’ll be the loud, striking people that catch their eyes. Don’t go for subtlety when you’re after an Aries man; show him confidence, and he’ll be hooked.
At a party, find a way to liven up the room. Drag a friend onto the dancefloor, get a group game going, or tell a great story to a crowd.
Let him know you’re interested. If you feel comfortable, walk right up and let him know you think he looks great. He'll love how daring you are.
2. Go for an air of mystery.
An Aries man won’t want things to come too easily.
Men of this sign love the drama and excitement of a back and forth with their crush. You should lead with confidence, but once you’ve got his interest, reel it back a bit. Find ways to make him wonder what you’re thinking, while still hinting at your interest in him.
After flirting with an Aries, leave him hanging for a bit. Do your own thing and chat up another guy, hang with your friends, or hit the dance floor.
When things start to get heavy with your Aries crush, keep a few cards close to your chest.
If he asks you to go home with him, drive him crazy with an elusive response: “Circle back in ten minutes. I haven’t made up my mind about you yet…”
3. Let him chase you.
To an Aries, getting to play the game is half of the fun.
To really turn him on, hint at your interest, reel your attention back, and then wait for him to chase you. To men of this sign, there’s nothing more exciting than getting to pursue a crush and “win the game.” Even though he already knows you’re interested too, getting to go after you will be like the best possible foreplay for him.
Create a challenge when you can. “I’d love to see you. But first, I need to know if you can cook. Impress me with dinner and then we’ll see about a date…”
Let your Aries crush sweat a bit while waiting for your text. Instead of following up right away, leave him on the line for an hour or two before you respond.
After you've shown your interest, try turning down a couple of his invitations to hang out.
4. Buy some lingerie.
Aries is a singularly focused sign, and during sex, his focus is you.
Anything you can do to play up your looks and allure will go over big with him. Lingerie can make things even more exciting between you two. Buy something that makes you feel ultra-sexy, because your confidence will definitely shine through while you two are getting intimate.
Aries men are attracted to reds and oranges, so incorporate these colors in your look for extra points.
Add a light perfume to your neck as a final touch. Aries is represented by the ram, and because of this, he pays special attention to the face and neck.
5. Expect things to get aggressive.
Men of this sign will be looking for active, energetic, and passionate sex.
These guys are electric in the bedroom, offering a super generous and dynamic experience for their partners to enjoy. However, this sign is definitely on the passionate side, and that should probably be considered before you get between the sheets with an Aries. Of course, sex should be about what both of you want—and even though it can be empowering to know what he likes, your comfort should come before his preferences.
Bondage may be of interest to him.
Play fighting could be a fun form of foreplay.
Discuss your intentions, choose a safe word if applicable, and ensure mutual consent is given every step of the way.
If things become too much, employ your safe word or feel totally empowered to ask for a break. A mutual feeling of safety should always come first.
6. Consider incorporating power play.
Aries men are known for enjoying a more dominant role during sex.
This can definitely mean different things for different guys, but on the whole, they may lean more towards setting the pace, taking the lead, and calling the shots. This means that he might appreciate a more submissive persona from his partners in bed. Of course, it goes without saying that you should get to go into every sexual encounter acting how you feel most comfortable, not how you think he wants you to act.
If you're interested, have a conversation about trying out power play the next time you hook up.
BDSM toys can be a great way to dip your toes in.
If you’re interested, have a conversation about trying power play the next time you hook up.
7. Focus on having fun instead of getting emotional.
To most Aries men, sex isn’t about connecting, it’s about enjoying.
By letting loose a bit and really savoring the experience, you’ll have your Aries crush completely obsessed. Instead of going for tons of eye contact (unless that turns you on!), tender caresses, and sweet nothings, simply focus on mutual pleasure.
An Aries guy will definitely appreciate this approach. He’ll find your carefree, fun-loving attitude super hot.
Making sure you actually are having fun will be a super important part of this process.
It’s great that you’re looking to please your Aries crush. Make sure you prioritize what you need, too–because he’ll find your pleasure attractive.
8. Please him like he pleases you.
Aries men are generous lovers, and they'll love if you return the favor.
You can probably expect that your Aries crush will be happy to please you in bed, spending as much time as necessary to focus on your pleasure. If you follow the lead and do the same for him, you’ll have him totally hooked. The perfect lover for an Aries man would be just as energetic, passionate, and giving as he is–so show him that’s you.
The best way to pleasure someone else is by asking what they want.
Luckily, Aries men are likely to be upfront about their desires. He'll appreciate that you asked!
9. Be spontaneous.
For an Aries, the less planning, the better the sex.
This is a sign that loves the unexpected, so if you pull him into an empty bedroom at a party, he'll be completely obsessed with you. Any time you can take your Aries crush by surprise when attempting to initiate sex, it’ll probably be a dream come true for him.
Call him at work and offer to meet him for a lunch rendezvous.
With his permission, join him in the shower.
10. Throw in a quickie.
Some signs need a lot of time and setup for good sex, but that’s not Aries.
These guys are all about instant gratification, and if you offer immediate, speedy sexual fulfillment, he’ll love you for it. If the two of you have a little extra time in the morning or before a dinner reservation, ask him if he’d be interested in a quick meetup in the bedroom.
11. Keep getting creative between the sheets.
Aries men get bored easily, even in the bedroom.
The two of you will probably want to get inventive, keep different activities on rotation, and try out new things constantly to keep excitement levels up. As always, you should still stay communicative about what the two of you are looking for. Everyone is different, and the best sex happens when everyone is on the same page.
Ask him if he’s interested in role-playing or acting out fantasies during sex.
Invite him to join you on a trip to a sex shop to pick out some new toys.
If he’s into it, you could build tension by sexting before you see each other.
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2,850 | 10+ Ways to Attract an Aries Woman | 1. Be confident.
Aries women look for love interests who are confident like them.
If you want to show an Aries woman how awesome and interesting you are, match her self-confidence. Trust in your own abilities, and don’t be afraid to take risks. This will make you very appealing to Aries women.
Try listing your interests, or things you are good at. If you have a shared interest with the girl you are interested in, that’s great! You can use that as a way of connecting with her. If not, think of ways you can use your talents to impress her.
2. Be mentally and emotionally strong.
Aries women are thick-skinned and resilient.
They are attracted to people who are just as mentally strong. Show your love interest that you are capable of handling yourself and that you are not afraid to tackle any problems that come up in your social life, job, health, and other aspects of your life. Try not to complain about your problems to her too much. If you want to impress her, you should show her that you can be tough too.
Mental and emotional strength is what’s important here. You don’t have to be a bodybuilder to attract an Aries woman—although it certainly wouldn’t hurt if you are!
3. Be adventurous.
Aries women tend to love thrilling physical activity.
They love travelling and seeing new places in general, but most of the time, they prefer fast-paced activities like biking over slower-paced activities like visiting museums. Find out what activities your love interest likes and plan to take her out for these activities.
If you’ve planned an outing, try keeping it a surprise! Aries people are known to be spontaneous, and she would love to see you be spontaneous too.
4. Be honest.
Aries women tend to be very open, vocal, and honest about their feelings.
They don’t like to keep secrets, and they don’t like it when people keep secrets from them. If you want a romantic relationship with an Aries girl, try to be straightforward and honest about what you want from the relationship.
If you want to stay on an Aries woman’s good side, don’t even think about manipulating or lying to her. Dishonesty is a huge turnoff for Aries people.
5. Listen to her.
Let her know that you will always be there for her.
Aries people are known for their independence, but everyone needs a shoulder to lean on sometimes. Aries women love active listeners who pay attention to their needs and do what they can to help. Be empathetic with her by staying open-minded, asking for clarification, and restating what she says so that she knows you’re listening.
6. Flirt passionately.
Aries people are bold flirters and enjoy being flirted with too.
You should be blunt and showy when flirting to get your Aries girl’s attention. Make frequent eye contact, use pickup lines and innuendo, maybe even show some skin if you’re up for it.
Pay attention to how she and anyone else watching react to your flirting. If she or other people are telling you to stop, then you should stop. You can try to get her attention again later.
7. Let her lead when she wants.
Aries people are natural-born leaders.
They are free thinkers with energetic spirits, and they do what they want. You should make an effort to keep up with an Aries woman, but you should not make every decision for her. Be sure to ask her what she wants to do, and let her make decisions sometimes. She will be glad that you are letting her have some control over the things you do together.
8. Try a little competition.
Aries women love competition because of their hot-blooded personalities.
Find out which sports or games your love interest likes and play them with her often. She’ll love to see you taking interest in her favorite hobbies, and she’ll especially enjoy having someone to do them with her. Bonding over her hobbies is a great way for the two of you to get close.
Keep the competition friendly, but don’t let her win too easily. She will notice if you’re not trying, and she will be disappointed. In competitions such as these, Aries women want to win by their own efforts.
9. Impress her with gifts.
Aries women mostly prefer practical gifts.
Try gifts related to their hobbies or interests. For example, if your love interest enjoys hiking, you might get her a new compass, hiking boots, etc.
If you would like to give an Aries woman flowers, try honeysuckles, the birth flower of Aries. You can also try roses, anthuriums, poppies, carnations, or tulips.
Avoid decorative gifts like jewelry unless she specifically asks for them—otherwise she might feel uncomfortable.
10. Let her chase you.
Start the chase, then play a little hard-to-get.
Just like with sports and games, an Aries woman wants the opportunity to show you what she can do to pursue a relationship with you. Aries women aren’t afraid to speak their minds, so you’ll usually know how she feels about you.
If you’re afraid that she might lose interest in you, then you can keep trying to spark her interest using our other tips (telling her how you feel, doing activities with her, etc.) But if you feel that she’s not returning your affections, that might be a sign to move on.
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2,851 | How to Attract an ESTP | 1. Impressing an ESTP
1-1. Indulge in their love of action.
People with an ESTP personality like action and adventure. They don’t want to spend their time thinking about the theoretical and would much rather have fun in the moment.
For example, a perfect date for an ESTP would be to go salsa dancing or sky-diving. This will demonstrate that you also enjoy taking risks and having fun and will make you more attractive to an ESTP.
1-2. Encourage positive self-image in ESTPs.
ESTPs like to receive positive feedback and recognition of their strengths. If you want an ESTP to like you, be sure to compliment them and let them know that you appreciate their personality. This will make them feel good about themselves, and they will want to continue spending time with you.
1-3. Provide them with material comforts.
The sensing part of the ESTP personality makes them very perceptive of their surroundings. This can often translate into liking personal style and material comforts. If you are trying to impress an ESTP, you should take them to a nice restaurant and be sure to dress to impress. An ESTP will notice and appreciate these small details.
2. Respecting Their Boundaries
2-1. Talk about emotions when it feels natural.
ESTPs do not like to talk about their emotions and they often find emotional conversations awkward. If you want to attract an ESTP, you should wait until your relationship has developed before broaching sensitive or emotional topics. ESTPs are more apt to express their feelings with actions instead of words.
For example, an ESTP will demonstrate their feelings through nice gestures rather than overt communication.
2-2. Don’t read too much into intimate moments.
ESTPs can make excellent sexual partners because they approach intimacy in a fun way and don’t overthink things. If you are the type of person who wants sexual intimacy to transfer into emotional intimacy, then an ESTP may not be the best match for you. Often they will separate sex from feelings of love and emotional attachment.
2-3. Don’t try to control their behaviour.
ESTPs live in the moment and love to take risks. They want to find a partner who will give them the space they need to continue to have adventure in their lives. If you try to limit or control their behaviour, they may feel stifled.
An ESTP will be attracted to someone who gives them the freedom to pursue excitement.
3. Dating an ESTP
3-1. Focus on the present.
ESTP personality types like to live in the moment. They are not interested in spending time talking about the future or making future plans. Avoid having conversations about where the relationship is headed and instead, enjoy the moment.
3-2. Take part in their social life.
ESTPs are extroverts and enjoy spending time with large groups of people. They will often have a diverse and large group of friends. Take part in their social life by attending parties together and try to get to know their friends. They will likely find this attractive because it demonstrates that you can go with the flow.
3-3. Keep them interested.
Because ESTPs are adventurous risk-takers who live in the moment, they are consistently looking for new experiences. As a result, you may need to work to keep them interested in you and your relationship. Introduce new things to keep them interested and don’t get stuck in boring relationship routines.
Spice things up with travel, taking on new hobbies, or trying a new sexual position.
Alternatively, you could change your hair-do or style to keep things fresh.
3-4. Develop a long-term relationship with an ESTP.
ESTPs can engage in long-term and fulfilling relationships. When they are happy in their relationships, they will remain loyal and committed. That being said, they enjoy living in the moment so it can be difficult to plan your future together. If you are the type of person who likes to plan, then you should continue to do this internally without stressing out your ESTP partner.
Tips
ESTP personalities often match well with ISTJ (introverted, sensing, thinking, judging) and ISFJ (introverted, sensing, feeling, judging) personalities.[10]
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They will often have a diverse and large group of friends. Take part in their social life by attending parties together and try to get to know their friends. They will likely find this attractive because it demonstrates that you can go with the flow.\\n3-3. Keep them interested.\\nBecause ESTPs are adventurous risk-takers who live in the moment, they are consistently looking for new experiences. As a result, you may need to work to keep them interested in you and your relationship. Introduce new things to keep them interested and don’t get stuck in boring relationship routines.\\nSpice things up with travel, taking on new hobbies, or trying a new sexual position.\\nAlternatively, you could change your hair-do or style to keep things fresh.\\n3-4. Develop a long-term relationship with an ESTP.\\nESTPs can engage in long-term and fulfilling relationships. When they are happy in their relationships, they will remain loyal and committed. That being said, they enjoy living in the moment so it can be difficult to plan your future together. If you are the type of person who likes to plan, then you should continue to do this internally without stressing out your ESTP partner.\\nTips\\nESTP personalities often match well with ISTJ (introverted, sensing, thinking, judging) and ISFJ (introverted, sensing, feeling, judging) personalities.[10]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"An ESTP on the Myers Briggs personality indicator refers to a person who is characterized by extraversion (E), sensory matters (S), thought (T), and perception (P). They like to take risks and live in the moment and as a result can be a lot of fun in relationships. That being said, they do not like to plan for the future and can have difficulty discussing their emotions. If you would like to attract an ESTP, then you should impress them by taking part in fun activities together. 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2,852 | How to Attract an ISTJ Personality | 1. Meeting ISTJ Types
1-1. Identify ISTJ types.
ISTJ types are rather common compared to other personality types. This means that you should have little trouble meeting one as long as you know what to look for. Keep an eye out for common ISTJ characteristics.
ISTJs tend to dress modestly. Their clothing is usually more functional than stylish.
ISTJs often have careers in technology, law enforcement, library science, or management.
ISTJs value structure, order, tradition, and loyalty.
ISTJs are very factual, and they can stubbornly believe they are always right. This means that they may start debates with you.
1-2. Attend a board game night.
ISTJs enjoy strategy and trivia games, such as chess, Trivial Pursuit, or Risk. Find a local bar or game store that hosts game nights, and attend one. You may end up playing against an ISTJ type. Just be warned, they can be competitive!
1-3. Watch a sports game.
ISTJs tend to enjoy sports. You may have luck meeting one by attending local sporting events. You can go to a live game or watch it at a sports bar. You might get involved with fan clubs or fantasy leagues where you can run into an ISTJ.
1-4. Explore your social group.
ISTJs can be homebodies, but they do like to socialize with close friends and family. Someone in your network or social group may know an ISTJ. Ask around to see if anyone is willing to set you up with one.
If your friends are uncertain what ISTJ means, tell them that you are looking for a partner who is loyal, honest, logical, and hardworking.
2. Making a Connection
2-1. Determine if you are compatible.
Despite being introverts, ISTJs tend to be attracted to extroverted personalities, such as ESTP (Extroverted-Sensing-Thinking-Perceiving) and ESFP (Extroverted-Sensing-Feeling-Perceiving). They are least compatible with ENFP (Extroverted-Intuitive-Feeling-Perceiving) types.
Keep in mind that ISTJs have their downsides, too. They can be a bit stubborn, insensitive, and judgemental. Plus, ISTJs are rule followers, which means they may not be your ideal partner if you want someone with a spontaneous side.
Remember that personality type alone will not determine the success of a relationship.
2-2. Start conversations.
ISTJs may be uncomfortable introducing themselves, but they often like people who make the first move. When trying to get closer to an ISTJ, don't be afraid to start a conversation or invite them to hang out.
Send them a text every few days if you haven’t heard from them. Even if they don’t answer right away, this will help them open up to you.
ISTJs enjoy group events. You can invite them out to larger group activities such as going to the movies, having a barbecue, or playing board games.
2-3. Speak to them honestly.
This is good practice in any relationship, especially one with an ISTJ, who tend to value honesty and integrity. When talking to them, always say what you mean. They are more open to constructive criticism, so you do not have to worry about offending them.
ISTJs do not pick up on other people’s emotions very easily. If you say “I’m fine,” the ISTJ will believe you. If you're upset, say something like “I’m having a bad day.”
2-4. Compliment them about specific features.
If you want to flirt with an ISTJ, avoid giving hints. Tell them exactly what you like about them. You can say something like "I really admire how smart you are" or "I think it's really cool how devoted to your family you are."
2-5. Keep your promises.
ISTJs are known for being extremely dependable. They typically want a partner who will be just as reliable. If you make a promise to an ISTJ, keep it as best as you can.
For example, if you agree to meet up at 4:00PM, don’t be late. Don’t arrive at 4:15 or 4:30. Be on time. Better yet, try to be early!
Cancelling plans last minute may disappoint ISTJs. While it is sometimes unavoidable, don’t make it a habit.
2-6. Give them space.
Since ISTJs are introverts, they need time to themselves. ISTJs often plan their social events around a work or study schedule, so do not be offended if they are not always available to hang out. Respecting their space and time will help you demonstrate that you care for their needs.
Keep in mind that giving your partner space is a good idea in any relationship. It’s just that ISTJs may need a little more space than other personality types.
3. Asking an ISTJ Out
3-1. State your feelings clearly.
Do not expect an ISTJ to guess that you like them based on body language, clues, gifts, or subtle messages. Since they tend not to recognize the emotions of other people, it is best to state outright how you feel about them.
You can say, “I really like you, and I want to know if you would like to go a date with me?”
Keep your compliments simple without sentimental praise. You can say, "I think you're a really cool person, and I really enjoy hanging out with you. Do you want to out on a date?"
3-2. Choose simple dates.
An ISTJ type may take a relationship slowly. Since they tend to look for long term relationships over short hook-ups, dates where you can get to know each other are best. Avoid noisy or adventurous activities, like clubbing, barhopping, or karaoke. Some date ideas include:
Going out for dinner
Studying together if you are in school or college
Hiking
Seeing their favorite sports team
Visiting an arcade
3-3. Plan out the details ahead of time.
ISTJs crave order. When planning a date, be as exact as you can. Make sure that the ISTJ knows exactly what will happen. Better yet, they may appreciate being able to plan the date themselves.
Don’t say something like “Let’s go to a movie and then decide what to do.” Instead, plan out the specifics.
You can say, “There’s a movie at 6:30, and then we can go to dinner at this great Italian place that I know.”
3-4. Avoid grand displays of affection.
ISTJs may not express much affection or sentimentality at the beginning of a relationship. When asking them out, try to remain calm. Do not overwhelm them with gushing compliments or extravagant gifts.
Flashy gifts like flowers, chocolate, or love letters may make them uncomfortable early in the relationship.
Be patient. ISTJs tend to take relationships slowly.
Tips
Be patient. It can take a while to attract an ISTJ type.
ISTJs are not typically considered to be very romantic. Remember that they value loyalty and honesty over flirting and adoration.
Warnings
Personality type is not an accurate predictor of whether a relationship will work or not.
It’s ok to change some of your behaviors to fit with the other person’s style, but don’t completely change who you are. It could backfire down the line.
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2,853 | How to Attract an Older Boy | 1. Considering Your Reasons For Dating
1-1. Ask yourself why you want an older boyfriend.
There are many reasons why you might want a relationship with a boy that's older than you. Most of the time, we see older people as more sophisticated and mature. This is most often the case, but not always. Some older boys will be just as immature as they ever were.
1-2. Make sure you want a relationship for the right reasons.
A relationship should be pursued because you feel a legitimate connection with the other person. There's no point in dating an older boy because you think it will make you appear cooler. Before committing to a relationship, you should make sure you're ready for a relationship. Especially if you're looking to date someone older than you, there's that much less
1-3. Consider how an age gap might affect a relationship.
If two people are at different stages in their lives, it can bring up issues in communication. For instance, if you want to go out and party with your older boyfriend, he might be at a part of his life where he's had his fun and prefers a night indoors. In some cases, it can be hard to have a sense of equality in a relationship when one person has considerably more life experience than the other. Keep these potential problems in mind before you commit.
On the other hand, some maintain that age is just a number. There's no concrete reason why people of different ages can't connect on a deep, meaningful level.
1-4. Prepare yourself for criticism.
If there is a significant age gap between you and the guy you're with, there are a number of problems you should prepare to deal with that you wouldn't normally have to think about. Even if your relationship is perfect, other people are prone to make nasty assumptions about an age gap relationship. There's only so much you can do to fend off these nay-sayers. Ultimately, its your relationship, not theirs, and you shouldn't put their feelings before your own.
If you're under the age of 18, you should consider the legal consequences of someone who is older than you. If the age gap is big enough to make a sexual relationship illegal, you should not go through with it.
2. Interacting With Him
2-1. Be his friend first.
In virtually all cases of trying to make someone your boyfriend, you should be his friend first before anything romantic happens. Go out of your way to spend time with him. Ask him to hang out as you normally would with a regular friend. If there is chemistry and the two of you are emotionally available, there's a good likelihood that things will begin to take shape in time. For the meantime however, you should simply enjoy the experience of hanging out as friends.
2-2. Let him take the lead.
Unless the older boy in question is incredibly shy, the fact that he has more life experience will probably mean that he'll be the one to instigate something. Some guys can be made to feel uncomfortable by a girl that is very forward, especially someone who is younger than them.
If it doesn't look like he's going to make a move out of shyness, you should think about making a move yourself. This should occur if he has shown signs of interest but hasn't acted on it over the course of a few hangouts.
2-3. Treat him as an equal.
This is where it can difficult for some girls who try to attract older guys. While your first instinct may be to be completely submissive towards the boy, this will only go to show your age. Instead, you should take age out of the equation when it comes to talking to him. If it makes you feel more comfortable, pretend he is the same age as you. Relationships usually need a sense of balance between the two people in order to succeed.
Try to show him that you're independent and confident, and that you can be comfortable in any social situations you might find yourself in.
2-4. Hold his gaze.
Eye contact is a very powerful part of body language, and it's especially important in terms of flirting. If you're attracted to a guy, you can say a lot simply by making eye contact with him and holding his gaze. Flirting covers a wide range of different behaviours, but most flirting begins with steady eye contact.
This kind of gaze is best combined with a smile. That way, it will tell the boy that you're looking at him for good (as opposed to negative) reasons.
2-5. Smile at him.
Smiling is a universal language for warm feelings and affection. If you smile at the boy you're interested in, you'll be projecting positive vibes in his direction. If he notices your smile and smiles back at you, it's a sign he is probably interested in you.
2-6. Offer compliments.
Saying something nice about someone can be interpreted as a form of flirting. Complimenting a boy based on his looks or other traits you find attractive will let him know you're interested. Make sure your compliments are genuine, however. People are usually able to tell when a compliment is sincere or not.
2-7. Make sure he respects your boundaries.
Because the boy you are interested in is older than you, it's possible he has different ideas of what he wants in a relationship with a girl. Although you may feel pressured to give in, you should only ever do what feels comfortable with you.
3. Developing Maturity
3-1. Start hanging out with older people.
Relating emotionally to people older than you can be hard if you're not used to spending time with you. This is why it's recommended that you try to surround yourself with people that are older than you. Make friends with people in the boy's age range and get comfortable with hanging out with people with more experience than you. This can be hard to do if you don't already have older friends. If you have older siblings, you might try tagging along with some of their hangouts.
If you want to make older friends, you won't be able to depend on your classes. Extracurricular clubs are a place where people of different ages will get together with a common interest. If you work a job, there will likely be older co-workers you can befriend as well.
3-2. Follow through with whatever you say you're going to do.
Reliability is a hallmark of any truly mature person. Regardless of the age you're trying to attract, it will work to your benefit if people are able to see that you're a girl of your word. If you make a promise, do everything you possibly can to follow through with it. Don't flake out on plans you make. When you follow through with the things you say, everything you say will have a greater sense of weight in the eyes of others. This includes any older guys you may fancy.
3-3. Be proud of who you are.
Self-esteem is a major sign of maturity. It's natural for young boys and girls to feel a lot of insecurity as they grow up. If you want to catch the attention of an older boy, you 're going to need to match the sort of self-assurance that is common with his age range. Challenge any negative thoughts that enter your mind, and replace them with positive thoughts about yourself. Even if you have to fake it until you make it at first, you'll eventually start to believe it sincerely.
Remember that there is no right or wrong answer when it comes to self-esteem. There's no objectively wrong reason to have confidence in yourself.
3-4. Keep a journal.
Keeping track of your daily thoughts and feelings in a journal is a great path to self-discovery. You might be surprised how much you'll find out about yourself if you make a regular habit of keeping a diary. Buy any book of lined paper, or keep a Word file on your computer where you can add thoughts at the end of each day. If you become aware of the things you're thinking and feeling on a daily basis, you'll get a stronger grasp of the way other people see you.
3-5. Get past jealousy.
Much like a healthy sense of self-confidence, getting past feeling jealous of other people is an important indicator that someone has matured. Most teenage girls tend to be very jealous at that stage in their lives. If you want to stand out from others your age, you'll need to let go of your jealousies towards other people. This is easier said than done for many people, but it is possible. Anytime you are beginning to feel jealous towards someone, remind yourself that there is no one who can do you better than you. Comparing yourself to anyone else is a waste of time.
3-6. Avoid social cliques and drama.
Even if you're trying to become mature beyond your years, your current circle of friends might make it difficult to break free. Less mature groups of friends will often fall into spurts of drama or gossip. The best thing for you to do is to avoid this stuff entirely. It doesn't add anything constructive to your life, and you won't be made to look good if you're associated with that crowd.
This does not mean abandoning your friends. Rather, you should spend time with them, but take a step back if bickering starts. Of course, if a friend of yours is hurt and wants to talk it through with you, you should do so. Being mature can also mean being a reliable friend.
4. Looking Your Best
4-1. Try a new hairstyle.
Nothing can make people look at your twice than a new hairstyle. Getting your hair cut or permed will have a major effect on your appearance. You should use this opportunity to spruce up your look and turn some heads. If you're trying to appeal to older groups, you are going to want to steer away from fashion trends that are reserved for juveniles. Aim to make your hair attractive but classy.
It's a good idea to pick a hairstyle that suits your face shape. Ask your hairdresser if you have any confusion.
4-2. Dress to suit his age range's fashion sense.
Depending on your age, there may be things you wear that might seem juvenile in the eyes of someone older. While you should always ultimately find your own sense of fashion, impressing an older guy can be easier if you look at the fashion expectations for his age group.
If the age gap is big enough, don't wear the boy's age range's fashion if it will look weird on somebody your age.
It helps to take a look at some current fashion outlets. This will give you some insight into the latest trends.
4-3. Keep your makeup light.
If you're young girl, don't try to compensate for your age by using a lot of makeup. Doing so only brings more attention to how young you are. In addition, it also gets the impression across that you are insecure with the way you look. You'll have a much higher chance of getting a guy interested if you stay as true to your real sense as possible. Some makeup to highlight your natural features should be more than enough.
It's a fact that younger girls aren't often as skilled at makeup as they will be once they're older. With that in mind, it's good to start small and work your way up from there.
4-4. Keep your posture confident.
Regardless of your gender or age, posture is an important way of expressing confidence and making yourself look attractive to anyone around you. Whether you're standing up or sitting down, make an effort to keep your back straight and your shoulders even. If you're not used to having good posture, this will feel a bit strange to do at first, but it will eventually feel natural if you stick with it.
Maturity and confidence are the two major ways you can get across the age gap, and posture is a way of expressing both of them.
Tips
Relationships with an age-gap should be treated as you would any other relationship.[11]
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In most ways, attracting an older boy follows the same principles as trying to get a boy your own age interested in you. Basic things like kindness and teasing don't wear out at any age.
Try to have one or two deep conversations with him, in most cases it will help the two of you to understand and respect each other more which will help to build the relationship.
Warnings
Having an age gap in a relationship can be controversial and draw criticism from friends and family. You shouldn't let that risk stop you if this is something you really want, but it's best to be prepared just in case.
Don't show interest in any guy but him. If you show the same affections to a wider range of boys, you'll be seen as a tease and you'll have a harder time getting people to take you seriously.
Nothing can ever ensure a relationship between two people will ever work out or not.
Things can be harder to pull off the older the boy is you want to attract.[12]
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For instance, if you want to go out and party with your older boyfriend, he might be at a part of his life where he's had his fun and prefers a night indoors. In some cases, it can be hard to have a sense of equality in a relationship when one person has considerably more life experience than the other. Keep these potential problems in mind before you commit.\\nOn the other hand, some maintain that age is just a number. There's no concrete reason why people of different ages can't connect on a deep, meaningful level.\\n1-4. Prepare yourself for criticism.\\nIf there is a significant age gap between you and the guy you're with, there are a number of problems you should prepare to deal with that you wouldn't normally have to think about. Even if your relationship is perfect, other people are prone to make nasty assumptions about an age gap relationship. There's only so much you can do to fend off these nay-sayers. Ultimately, its your relationship, not theirs, and you shouldn't put their feelings before your own.\\nIf you're under the age of 18, you should consider the legal consequences of someone who is older than you. If the age gap is big enough to make a sexual relationship illegal, you should not go through with it.\\n2. Interacting With Him\\n2-1. Be his friend first.\\nIn virtually all cases of trying to make someone your boyfriend, you should be his friend first before anything romantic happens. Go out of your way to spend time with him. Ask him to hang out as you normally would with a regular friend. If there is chemistry and the two of you are emotionally available, there's a good likelihood that things will begin to take shape in time. For the meantime however, you should simply enjoy the experience of hanging out as friends.\\n2-2. Let him take the lead.\\nUnless the older boy in question is incredibly shy, the fact that he has more life experience will probably mean that he'll be the one to instigate something. Some guys can be made to feel uncomfortable by a girl that is very forward, especially someone who is younger than them.\\nIf it doesn't look like he's going to make a move out of shyness, you should think about making a move yourself. This should occur if he has shown signs of interest but hasn't acted on it over the course of a few hangouts.\\n2-3. Treat him as an equal.\\nThis is where it can difficult for some girls who try to attract older guys. While your first instinct may be to be completely submissive towards the boy, this will only go to show your age. Instead, you should take age out of the equation when it comes to talking to him. If it makes you feel more comfortable, pretend he is the same age as you. Relationships usually need a sense of balance between the two people in order to succeed.\\nTry to show him that you're independent and confident, and that you can be comfortable in any social situations you might find yourself in.\\n2-4. Hold his gaze.\\nEye contact is a very powerful part of body language, and it's especially important in terms of flirting. If you're attracted to a guy, you can say a lot simply by making eye contact with him and holding his gaze. Flirting covers a wide range of different behaviours, but most flirting begins with steady eye contact.\\nThis kind of gaze is best combined with a smile. That way, it will tell the boy that you're looking at him for good (as opposed to negative) reasons.\\n2-5. Smile at him.\\nSmiling is a universal language for warm feelings and affection. If you smile at the boy you're interested in, you'll be projecting positive vibes in his direction. If he notices your smile and smiles back at you, it's a sign he is probably interested in you.\\n2-6. Offer compliments.\\nSaying something nice about someone can be interpreted as a form of flirting. Complimenting a boy based on his looks or other traits you find attractive will let him know you're interested. Make sure your compliments are genuine, however. People are usually able to tell when a compliment is sincere or not.\\n2-7. Make sure he respects your boundaries.\\nBecause the boy you are interested in is older than you, it's possible he has different ideas of what he wants in a relationship with a girl. Although you may feel pressured to give in, you should only ever do what feels comfortable with you.\\n3. Developing Maturity\\n3-1. Start hanging out with older people.\\nRelating emotionally to people older than you can be hard if you're not used to spending time with you. This is why it's recommended that you try to surround yourself with people that are older than you. Make friends with people in the boy's age range and get comfortable with hanging out with people with more experience than you. This can be hard to do if you don't already have older friends. If you have older siblings, you might try tagging along with some of their hangouts.\\nIf you want to make older friends, you won't be able to depend on your classes. Extracurricular clubs are a place where people of different ages will get together with a common interest. If you work a job, there will likely be older co-workers you can befriend as well.\\n3-2. Follow through with whatever you say you're going to do.\\nReliability is a hallmark of any truly mature person. Regardless of the age you're trying to attract, it will work to your benefit if people are able to see that you're a girl of your word. If you make a promise, do everything you possibly can to follow through with it. Don't flake out on plans you make. When you follow through with the things you say, everything you say will have a greater sense of weight in the eyes of others. This includes any older guys you may fancy.\\n3-3. Be proud of who you are.\\nSelf-esteem is a major sign of maturity. It's natural for young boys and girls to feel a lot of insecurity as they grow up. If you want to catch the attention of an older boy, you 're going to need to match the sort of self-assurance that is common with his age range. Challenge any negative thoughts that enter your mind, and replace them with positive thoughts about yourself. Even if you have to fake it until you make it at first, you'll eventually start to believe it sincerely.\\nRemember that there is no right or wrong answer when it comes to self-esteem. There's no objectively wrong reason to have confidence in yourself.\\n3-4. Keep a journal.\\nKeeping track of your daily thoughts and feelings in a journal is a great path to self-discovery. You might be surprised how much you'll find out about yourself if you make a regular habit of keeping a diary. Buy any book of lined paper, or keep a Word file on your computer where you can add thoughts at the end of each day. If you become aware of the things you're thinking and feeling on a daily basis, you'll get a stronger grasp of the way other people see you.\\n3-5. Get past jealousy.\\nMuch like a healthy sense of self-confidence, getting past feeling jealous of other people is an important indicator that someone has matured. Most teenage girls tend to be very jealous at that stage in their lives. If you want to stand out from others your age, you'll need to let go of your jealousies towards other people. This is easier said than done for many people, but it is possible. Anytime you are beginning to feel jealous towards someone, remind yourself that there is no one who can do you better than you. Comparing yourself to anyone else is a waste of time.\\n3-6. Avoid social cliques and drama.\\nEven if you're trying to become mature beyond your years, your current circle of friends might make it difficult to break free. Less mature groups of friends will often fall into spurts of drama or gossip. The best thing for you to do is to avoid this stuff entirely. It doesn't add anything constructive to your life, and you won't be made to look good if you're associated with that crowd.\\nThis does not mean abandoning your friends. Rather, you should spend time with them, but take a step back if bickering starts. Of course, if a friend of yours is hurt and wants to talk it through with you, you should do so. Being mature can also mean being a reliable friend.\\n4. Looking Your Best\\n4-1. Try a new hairstyle.\\nNothing can make people look at your twice than a new hairstyle. Getting your hair cut or permed will have a major effect on your appearance. You should use this opportunity to spruce up your look and turn some heads. If you're trying to appeal to older groups, you are going to want to steer away from fashion trends that are reserved for juveniles. Aim to make your hair attractive but classy.\\nIt's a good idea to pick a hairstyle that suits your face shape. Ask your hairdresser if you have any confusion.\\n4-2. Dress to suit his age range's fashion sense.\\nDepending on your age, there may be things you wear that might seem juvenile in the eyes of someone older. While you should always ultimately find your own sense of fashion, impressing an older guy can be easier if you look at the fashion expectations for his age group.\\nIf the age gap is big enough, don't wear the boy's age range's fashion if it will look weird on somebody your age.\\nIt helps to take a look at some current fashion outlets. This will give you some insight into the latest trends.\\n4-3. Keep your makeup light.\\nIf you're young girl, don't try to compensate for your age by using a lot of makeup. Doing so only brings more attention to how young you are. In addition, it also gets the impression across that you are insecure with the way you look. You'll have a much higher chance of getting a guy interested if you stay as true to your real sense as possible. Some makeup to highlight your natural features should be more than enough.\\nIt's a fact that younger girls aren't often as skilled at makeup as they will be once they're older. With that in mind, it's good to start small and work your way up from there.\\n4-4. Keep your posture confident.\\nRegardless of your gender or age, posture is an important way of expressing confidence and making yourself look attractive to anyone around you. Whether you're standing up or sitting down, make an effort to keep your back straight and your shoulders even. If you're not used to having good posture, this will feel a bit strange to do at first, but it will eventually feel natural if you stick with it.\\nMaturity and confidence are the two major ways you can get across the age gap, and posture is a way of expressing both of them.\\nTips\\nRelationships with an age-gap should be treated as you would any other relationship.[11]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nIn most ways, attracting an older boy follows the same principles as trying to get a boy your own age interested in you. Basic things like kindness and teasing don't wear out at any age.\\nTry to have one or two deep conversations with him, in most cases it will help the two of you to understand and respect each other more which will help to build the relationship.\\nWarnings\\nHaving an age gap in a relationship can be controversial and draw criticism from friends and family. You shouldn't let that risk stop you if this is something you really want, but it's best to be prepared just in case.\\nDon't show interest in any guy but him. If you show the same affections to a wider range of boys, you'll be seen as a tease and you'll have a harder time getting people to take you seriously.\\nNothing can ever ensure a relationship between two people will ever work out or not.\\nThings can be harder to pull off the older the boy is you want to attract.[12]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"For many younger girls, it can be hard to find a guy their age who is mature and classy enough to be worth their time. While it can be a great experience dating someone with more years on you, a potential older boyfriend will be looking for more than a guy your own age. Because you'll have years between the two of you, attracting an older boy can be tricky.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Considering Your Reasons For Dating\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask yourself why you want an older boyfriend.\", \"描述\": \"There are many reasons why you might want a relationship with a boy that's older than you. Most of the time, we see older people as more sophisticated and mature. This is most often the case, but not always. Some older boys will be just as immature as they ever were.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make sure you want a relationship for the right reasons.\", \"描述\": \"A relationship should be pursued because you feel a legitimate connection with the other person. There's no point in dating an older boy because you think it will make you appear cooler. Before committing to a relationship, you should make sure you're ready for a relationship. Especially if you're looking to date someone older than you, there's that much less\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider how an age gap might affect a relationship.\", \"描述\": \"If two people are at different stages in their lives, it can bring up issues in communication. For instance, if you want to go out and party with your older boyfriend, he might be at a part of his life where he's had his fun and prefers a night indoors. In some cases, it can be hard to have a sense of equality in a relationship when one person has considerably more life experience than the other. Keep these potential problems in mind before you commit.\\nOn the other hand, some maintain that age is just a number. There's no concrete reason why people of different ages can't connect on a deep, meaningful level.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Prepare yourself for criticism.\", \"描述\": \"If there is a significant age gap between you and the guy you're with, there are a number of problems you should prepare to deal with that you wouldn't normally have to think about. Even if your relationship is perfect, other people are prone to make nasty assumptions about an age gap relationship. There's only so much you can do to fend off these nay-sayers. Ultimately, its your relationship, not theirs, and you shouldn't put their feelings before your own.\\nIf you're under the age of 18, you should consider the legal consequences of someone who is older than you. If the age gap is big enough to make a sexual relationship illegal, you should not go through with it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Interacting With Him\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be his friend first.\", \"描述\": \"In virtually all cases of trying to make someone your boyfriend, you should be his friend first before anything romantic happens. Go out of your way to spend time with him. Ask him to hang out as you normally would with a regular friend. If there is chemistry and the two of you are emotionally available, there's a good likelihood that things will begin to take shape in time. For the meantime however, you should simply enjoy the experience of hanging out as friends.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Let him take the lead.\", \"描述\": \"Unless the older boy in question is incredibly shy, the fact that he has more life experience will probably mean that he'll be the one to instigate something. Some guys can be made to feel uncomfortable by a girl that is very forward, especially someone who is younger than them.\\nIf it doesn't look like he's going to make a move out of shyness, you should think about making a move yourself. This should occur if he has shown signs of interest but hasn't acted on it over the course of a few hangouts.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Treat him as an equal.\", \"描述\": \"This is where it can difficult for some girls who try to attract older guys. While your first instinct may be to be completely submissive towards the boy, this will only go to show your age. Instead, you should take age out of the equation when it comes to talking to him. If it makes you feel more comfortable, pretend he is the same age as you. Relationships usually need a sense of balance between the two people in order to succeed.\\nTry to show him that you're independent and confident, and that you can be comfortable in any social situations you might find yourself in.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Hold his gaze.\", \"描述\": \"Eye contact is a very powerful part of body language, and it's especially important in terms of flirting. If you're attracted to a guy, you can say a lot simply by making eye contact with him and holding his gaze. Flirting covers a wide range of different behaviours, but most flirting begins with steady eye contact.\\nThis kind of gaze is best combined with a smile. That way, it will tell the boy that you're looking at him for good (as opposed to negative) reasons.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Smile at him.\", \"描述\": \"Smiling is a universal language for warm feelings and affection. If you smile at the boy you're interested in, you'll be projecting positive vibes in his direction. 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Challenge any negative thoughts that enter your mind, and replace them with positive thoughts about yourself. Even if you have to fake it until you make it at first, you'll eventually start to believe it sincerely.\\nRemember that there is no right or wrong answer when it comes to self-esteem. There's no objectively wrong reason to have confidence in yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Keep a journal.\", \"描述\": \"Keeping track of your daily thoughts and feelings in a journal is a great path to self-discovery. You might be surprised how much you'll find out about yourself if you make a regular habit of keeping a diary. Buy any book of lined paper, or keep a Word file on your computer where you can add thoughts at the end of each day. 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2,854 | How to Attract an Older Girl | 1. Appearing Like a Mature Man
1-1. Clean yourself up.
You will want to take regular showers every day. This means scrubbing your body with soap and warm water, making sure to get the particular sweaty areas like underneath your arms. Shampoo your hair, and apply conditioner so that your hair is nice and soft to the touch. An older girl likes a guy that takes care of himself, and presents himself positively towards the world.
After you get out of the shower, put some deodorant on. Make sure to use plenty, and rub it in pretty firm. You don't want to have sweat stains when you go talk to an older girl.
You can even add some lotion to your hands to make them soft. If your hands are rough, the girl might not want you to touch her.
1-2. Decide on a bearded, or shaved look.
If you decide you want a beard, that is fine. You will want to make sure you have enough facial hair to qualify as a beard. Small, light hairs around the face are unattractive, especially to older girls. It makes you look like you are going through puberty, rather than being a grown man. Make sure you trim the beard as well. Don't let it grow wild. Use razors and trimmers regularly to clean it up, nice and neat.
The shaved look is much easier to maintain. Remember to shave using a razor and shaving cream every morning. Some girls like a little stubble, but you shouldn't grow it past that point. Older girls love a clean shaven man.
Don't forget as well to trim elsewhere, besides your face. Take some of that overgrown chest hair off, and maintain the hair between your legs. This shows older girls that you care about your appearance and how you present yourself.
1-3. Brush your teeth regularly.
Older girls like to know that their guy takes care of himself, and that he wants his breath smelling nice and fresh. Brush your teeth (two minutes) twice a day, once in the morning and at night. Floss after you are done brushing in order to get rid of food stuck between your teeth. Then finish off with a mouthwash that cleans your entire mouth, and leaves it smelling fresh.
Keep breath mints or chewing gum around in case you haven't brushed your teeth in a while. This will at least mask the smell, and make your breath minty fresh.
1-4. Comb your hair and keep it neat.
After you get out of the shower, comb your hair so it doesn't look so messy. If you would like, you can use products out on the market, like styling gels, which allow you to make different hairdos. You want to make yourself look clean cut, and mature about how you look.
Remember to get a haircut on a monthly basis. Hair running down your neck and over your ears needs to be trimmed back.
1-5. Apply cologne or body spray.
You want to spray a tiny amount of your cologne onto "pulse points." These are spots where blood vessels are close to the skin. The blood creates heat, and transfers the fragrance of your cologne very well. These include under your arms, behind your knees, around your neckline, and on your wrists. However, it is very important that you do not put too much on. A lot of cologne can turn an older girl away.
1-6. Select a stylish, and fresh wardrobe.
A lot of younger boys like to wear football or baseball jerseys. However, many older girls like to see a guy who dresses similar to themselves. If she wears belted shorts with a polo, she might be into the more "preppy" look. If she wears jeans and t-shirts all the time, she might prefer guys who sport a more relaxed look.
Make sure all of your clothes are ironed. This shows the older girls that you care about the way you appear to the outside world, and that you care about yourself. You do not want to look as if you just rolled out of bed.
Variations on appropriate attire are natural when it comes to individuals. There is no "perfect" wardrobe. Use your best judgement, and try your best. It never hurts to go out and pick up some new shirts/pants at a nearby store if you don't have much in your closet.
2. Talking With an Older Girl
2-1. Act maturely when you flirt with her.
If your flirtation is in the early stages simply exchange a smile. Tell her how pretty she looks today, or compliment her on her outfit. Speak specifically about her as a person, about her laugh, her eyes, and any unique mannerisms you pick up on. Never touch her, especially at first. Look her in the eye when you are speaking to her to show your attention is fully on her.
2-2. Be confident as you talk with her.
Stand up straight, and don't slouch. Never think that you can't date her. You have to think positively about your prospects. Older girls detect that level of confidence and are attracted to it. Speak smoothly instead of bumbling over your words. Crack a joke every once in a while that gets her to laugh. Keep a smile on your face, and never frown.
Keep the conversation going. Always have something in the back of your mind to say when she is done speaking. You don't want any awkward silences.
2-3. Learn what interests her.
Talk about mature topics such as a sports team you belong to, a book you have recently read, or something you know someone her age would find interesting. Ask her where she works, what sports she plays, what college she plans on going to, and where her family is from. These are mature questions, that show that you sincerely care about getting to know her as a person, rather than as a sexual object.
2-4. Join an activity that she is in.
If she is in a debate team, for example, joining the team will get her to notice and consider you. This especially works when the girl knows that it is out of your comfort zone. For example, join the book club she is in, even if you don't like to read that much. This shows that you are willing to work in order to ask her out in the future. You not only care about what you are interested in, but what she likes as well.
2-5. Read her body language, not necessarily her words.
She can be saying nice things, but her eyes might wander off. You will want to hold her attention by the way you look, the forcefulness of your tone, or your overall endearing personality. If she just doesn't seem that interested, move onto someone else. To be a mature man, you have to understand that older girls know what they want. If she doesn't want to give you her number, or never texts you back, move on respectfully.
If her arms are crossed, or her eyes are looking away while you are talking to her, she may not be that into you.
Make sure that your body is squared up with her when you talk. You want to show that your focus isn't elsewhere.
2-6. Make friends with some of her friends.
That way, you don't look like a complete outsider and it makes you look, and feel more connected with the group. If you plan on dating the girl in the future, you will have to at least get used to her friends. If she sees you can't even pretend to get along with them, she is likely not going to be interested. Mature men however usually can create bonds of friendship with her friends. Those friends make her happy and that should make you happy.
2-7. Don't be afraid to ask her out.
This is a sure way to prove you're more mature than you look and that's a good thing. Besides, dating is a major part of the road to her becoming your girlfriend. Ask her for her phone number first so that you can contact her after school hours. However, always ask her out in person, never by text or call. Older girls do not like guys who feel intimidated in their presence. Set up a clear date a time so that you do not forget.
For example, a good way to ask her out is: "Hey [insert name], I was thinking about going to dinner Friday night and wanted to know if you would like to come with?"
3. Dating an Older Girl
3-1. Take her out to a nice restaurant.
The classic date is to spend a nice meal together with her. Pick her up in your car and drive her to the restaurant. Open the doors for her. This is a great moment to ask her questions, and have lively conversation. Look at her eyes as you are speaking and listening. Compliment her on that nice dress she is wearing.
Do not go out to places like movie theaters until at least your second date. For a first date you aren't looking at each other, and there isn't a chance to talk to one another. When it comes to later dates, movies can be fun experiences and give you guys something to talk about.
Bring her some flowers right when you walk up to her at the door. It's a great kick-starter, and will start your date out tremendously.
3-2. Begin moves towards physical contact.
First dates are usually never times to inquire about sex. However, you should hold her hand, perhaps during dinner, or the car ride back home. An older girl may make the first move herself, but you want to exude confidence. After you get her back home, walk her to her front door. Kiss her on the lips good night. As you are kissing her, move your hand behind her head.
A first kiss good night should only last about 5-6 seconds. You do not want to make the situation awkward, or make her feel as if you want more.
Do not simply peck her on the lips or cheek. Use a little bit of tongue and show that you feel something for her. She will want more, and will be more open to dates in the future.
3-3. Prepare yourself for deeper levels of intimacy.
Know that an older girl may be further along sexually, and she may have had more experience in this area than you. Decide upon your level of intimacy as you get to know her better. If you are not ready for further advancement, be upfront about it. If you are willing, go with the flow. Listen to her needs, and feel free to express your desires.
Remember that older girls are mature, and will want to practice safe sex. Always have a condom ready in case the moment is right.
Open, honest relationships are built on a good sex life. If you can't be happy here, the relationship probably isn't going anywhere.
Spend time before and after sex teasing and cuddling. This gets the other partner in the mood, and shows you that you are mature.
3-4. Don't stress over the age difference.
While the differential will always there, it is best not to stress over it. In the end, age differences do not mean very much. Relax, get to know her, and pursue the relationship like you would any other. Don;t listen to other people who don't understand the relationship you have.
3-5. Continue to remind your girlfriend you love her.
A mature man is there at all points for his girlfriend. That means when she is happy, laughing, and when she is sad, and unstable. Prove to the older girl that you are mature, and won't walk out on her. Continue to buy her flowers, bring her chocolate, and buy her cards. It can be a bit cliche at times, but it actually works. Every day that you are away, make sure you tell her that you love her.
Tips
No matter what age you are, be sure to have healthy hygiene.
Be nice. Use your manners. This will also get you noticed as a mature young man.
Attracting an older girl requires the exact same skills as getting a girl your age; you just have to be better at them.
Warnings
Don't pretend to be someone you're not, or pretend to like things that you don't. Honesty is important for any relationship.
Don't let anyone push you around when you're with her, because it makes you look bad.
Don't act immaturely in front of her. For example, avoid farting or making crude jokes.
If you do join a team she follows, you may want to acquire the skills to do well on that team.
Don't use any lines you might have heard in a movie or other media; that won't work. Just having a conversation with her is best. Get her to feel comfortable around you.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Appearing Like a Mature Man\\n1-1. Clean yourself up.\\nYou will want to take regular showers every day. This means scrubbing your body with soap and warm water, making sure to get the particular sweaty areas like underneath your arms. Shampoo your hair, and apply conditioner so that your hair is nice and soft to the touch. An older girl likes a guy that takes care of himself, and presents himself positively towards the world.\\nAfter you get out of the shower, put some deodorant on. Make sure to use plenty, and rub it in pretty firm. You don't want to have sweat stains when you go talk to an older girl.\\nYou can even add some lotion to your hands to make them soft. If your hands are rough, the girl might not want you to touch her.\\n1-2. Decide on a bearded, or shaved look.\\nIf you decide you want a beard, that is fine. You will want to make sure you have enough facial hair to qualify as a beard. Small, light hairs around the face are unattractive, especially to older girls. It makes you look like you are going through puberty, rather than being a grown man. Make sure you trim the beard as well. Don't let it grow wild. Use razors and trimmers regularly to clean it up, nice and neat.\\nThe shaved look is much easier to maintain. Remember to shave using a razor and shaving cream every morning. Some girls like a little stubble, but you shouldn't grow it past that point. Older girls love a clean shaven man.\\nDon't forget as well to trim elsewhere, besides your face. Take some of that overgrown chest hair off, and maintain the hair between your legs. This shows older girls that you care about your appearance and how you present yourself.\\n1-3. Brush your teeth regularly.\\nOlder girls like to know that their guy takes care of himself, and that he wants his breath smelling nice and fresh. Brush your teeth (two minutes) twice a day, once in the morning and at night. Floss after you are done brushing in order to get rid of food stuck between your teeth. Then finish off with a mouthwash that cleans your entire mouth, and leaves it smelling fresh.\\nKeep breath mints or chewing gum around in case you haven't brushed your teeth in a while. This will at least mask the smell, and make your breath minty fresh.\\n1-4. Comb your hair and keep it neat.\\nAfter you get out of the shower, comb your hair so it doesn't look so messy. If you would like, you can use products out on the market, like styling gels, which allow you to make different hairdos. You want to make yourself look clean cut, and mature about how you look.\\nRemember to get a haircut on a monthly basis. Hair running down your neck and over your ears needs to be trimmed back.\\n1-5. Apply cologne or body spray.\\nYou want to spray a tiny amount of your cologne onto \\\"pulse points.\\\" These are spots where blood vessels are close to the skin. The blood creates heat, and transfers the fragrance of your cologne very well. These include under your arms, behind your knees, around your neckline, and on your wrists. However, it is very important that you do not put too much on. A lot of cologne can turn an older girl away.\\n1-6. Select a stylish, and fresh wardrobe.\\nA lot of younger boys like to wear football or baseball jerseys. However, many older girls like to see a guy who dresses similar to themselves. If she wears belted shorts with a polo, she might be into the more \\\"preppy\\\" look. If she wears jeans and t-shirts all the time, she might prefer guys who sport a more relaxed look.\\nMake sure all of your clothes are ironed. This shows the older girls that you care about the way you appear to the outside world, and that you care about yourself. You do not want to look as if you just rolled out of bed.\\nVariations on appropriate attire are natural when it comes to individuals. There is no \\\"perfect\\\" wardrobe. Use your best judgement, and try your best. It never hurts to go out and pick up some new shirts/pants at a nearby store if you don't have much in your closet.\\n2. Talking With an Older Girl\\n2-1. Act maturely when you flirt with her.\\nIf your flirtation is in the early stages simply exchange a smile. Tell her how pretty she looks today, or compliment her on her outfit. Speak specifically about her as a person, about her laugh, her eyes, and any unique mannerisms you pick up on. Never touch her, especially at first. Look her in the eye when you are speaking to her to show your attention is fully on her.\\n2-2. Be confident as you talk with her.\\nStand up straight, and don't slouch. Never think that you can't date her. You have to think positively about your prospects. Older girls detect that level of confidence and are attracted to it. Speak smoothly instead of bumbling over your words. Crack a joke every once in a while that gets her to laugh. Keep a smile on your face, and never frown.\\nKeep the conversation going. Always have something in the back of your mind to say when she is done speaking. You don't want any awkward silences.\\n2-3. Learn what interests her.\\nTalk about mature topics such as a sports team you belong to, a book you have recently read, or something you know someone her age would find interesting. Ask her where she works, what sports she plays, what college she plans on going to, and where her family is from. These are mature questions, that show that you sincerely care about getting to know her as a person, rather than as a sexual object.\\n2-4. Join an activity that she is in.\\nIf she is in a debate team, for example, joining the team will get her to notice and consider you. This especially works when the girl knows that it is out of your comfort zone. For example, join the book club she is in, even if you don't like to read that much. This shows that you are willing to work in order to ask her out in the future. You not only care about what you are interested in, but what she likes as well.\\n2-5. Read her body language, not necessarily her words.\\nShe can be saying nice things, but her eyes might wander off. You will want to hold her attention by the way you look, the forcefulness of your tone, or your overall endearing personality. If she just doesn't seem that interested, move onto someone else. To be a mature man, you have to understand that older girls know what they want. If she doesn't want to give you her number, or never texts you back, move on respectfully.\\nIf her arms are crossed, or her eyes are looking away while you are talking to her, she may not be that into you.\\nMake sure that your body is squared up with her when you talk. You want to show that your focus isn't elsewhere.\\n2-6. Make friends with some of her friends.\\nThat way, you don't look like a complete outsider and it makes you look, and feel more connected with the group. If you plan on dating the girl in the future, you will have to at least get used to her friends. If she sees you can't even pretend to get along with them, she is likely not going to be interested. Mature men however usually can create bonds of friendship with her friends. Those friends make her happy and that should make you happy.\\n2-7. Don't be afraid to ask her out.\\nThis is a sure way to prove you're more mature than you look and that's a good thing. Besides, dating is a major part of the road to her becoming your girlfriend. Ask her for her phone number first so that you can contact her after school hours. However, always ask her out in person, never by text or call. Older girls do not like guys who feel intimidated in their presence. Set up a clear date a time so that you do not forget.\\nFor example, a good way to ask her out is: \\\"Hey [insert name], I was thinking about going to dinner Friday night and wanted to know if you would like to come with?\\\"\\n3. Dating an Older Girl\\n3-1. Take her out to a nice restaurant.\\nThe classic date is to spend a nice meal together with her. Pick her up in your car and drive her to the restaurant. Open the doors for her. This is a great moment to ask her questions, and have lively conversation. Look at her eyes as you are speaking and listening. Compliment her on that nice dress she is wearing.\\nDo not go out to places like movie theaters until at least your second date. For a first date you aren't looking at each other, and there isn't a chance to talk to one another. When it comes to later dates, movies can be fun experiences and give you guys something to talk about.\\nBring her some flowers right when you walk up to her at the door. It's a great kick-starter, and will start your date out tremendously.\\n3-2. Begin moves towards physical contact.\\nFirst dates are usually never times to inquire about sex. However, you should hold her hand, perhaps during dinner, or the car ride back home. An older girl may make the first move herself, but you want to exude confidence. After you get her back home, walk her to her front door. Kiss her on the lips good night. As you are kissing her, move your hand behind her head.\\nA first kiss good night should only last about 5-6 seconds. You do not want to make the situation awkward, or make her feel as if you want more.\\nDo not simply peck her on the lips or cheek. Use a little bit of tongue and show that you feel something for her. She will want more, and will be more open to dates in the future.\\n3-3. Prepare yourself for deeper levels of intimacy.\\nKnow that an older girl may be further along sexually, and she may have had more experience in this area than you. Decide upon your level of intimacy as you get to know her better. If you are not ready for further advancement, be upfront about it. If you are willing, go with the flow. Listen to her needs, and feel free to express your desires.\\nRemember that older girls are mature, and will want to practice safe sex. Always have a condom ready in case the moment is right.\\nOpen, honest relationships are built on a good sex life. If you can't be happy here, the relationship probably isn't going anywhere.\\nSpend time before and after sex teasing and cuddling. This gets the other partner in the mood, and shows you that you are mature.\\n3-4. Don't stress over the age difference.\\nWhile the differential will always there, it is best not to stress over it. In the end, age differences do not mean very much. Relax, get to know her, and pursue the relationship like you would any other. Don;t listen to other people who don't understand the relationship you have.\\n3-5. Continue to remind your girlfriend you love her.\\nA mature man is there at all points for his girlfriend. That means when she is happy, laughing, and when she is sad, and unstable. Prove to the older girl that you are mature, and won't walk out on her. Continue to buy her flowers, bring her chocolate, and buy her cards. It can be a bit cliche at times, but it actually works. Every day that you are away, make sure you tell her that you love her.\\nTips\\nNo matter what age you are, be sure to have healthy hygiene.\\nBe nice. Use your manners. This will also get you noticed as a mature young man.\\nAttracting an older girl requires the exact same skills as getting a girl your age; you just have to be better at them.\\nWarnings\\nDon't pretend to be someone you're not, or pretend to like things that you don't. Honesty is important for any relationship.\\nDon't let anyone push you around when you're with her, because it makes you look bad.\\nDon't act immaturely in front of her. For example, avoid farting or making crude jokes.\\nIf you do join a team she follows, you may want to acquire the skills to do well on that team.\\nDon't use any lines you might have heard in a movie or other media; that won't work. Just having a conversation with her is best. Get her to feel comfortable around you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"While most couples usually fall within the same age range, some partners are widely separated by age. This is not a bad thing, as long as both partners, particularly the younger one, are mature enough to handle the situation. Sometimes age differences can seem insurmountable, especially if you are a younger guy, looking to ask an older girl out. However, the process of getting an older girl is actually fairly easy, as long as you are willing to put in the time and commitment it takes.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Appearing Like a Mature Man\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Clean yourself up.\", \"描述\": \"You will want to take regular showers every day. This means scrubbing your body with soap and warm water, making sure to get the particular sweaty areas like underneath your arms. Shampoo your hair, and apply conditioner so that your hair is nice and soft to the touch. An older girl likes a guy that takes care of himself, and presents himself positively towards the world.\\nAfter you get out of the shower, put some deodorant on. Make sure to use plenty, and rub it in pretty firm. You don't want to have sweat stains when you go talk to an older girl.\\nYou can even add some lotion to your hands to make them soft. 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2,855 | How to Attract an Older Guy | 1. Making a Good Impression
1-1. Go for a more mature look.
You can attract a man without talking to him just by dressing up the right way. Looking more mature doesn't mean you need to look old. In fact, your youth is probably one of your most attractive qualities. Rather, it means picking a hairstyle that suits you rather than something wild, and switching out some of your less mature clothing for a more sophisticated look. Basically, you want to be well put together to attract an older guy.
1-2. Act confident.
Nothing is as attractive as confidence. That means paying attention to your posture (sit up straight!). It also means looking him in the eye while you're talking to him and smiling. Try to keep yourself calm and collected, so your words come out strong and sure, not fast and jumbled.
Also, don't forget to smile. A smile lights up your face and shows you're enjoying yourself.
1-3. Be able to take care of yourself.
Many old guys will be turned off if you are just looking for someone to take care of you. In other words, have a steady job and a well-established house or apartment. If an older guy is looking at you, those qualities will show him your mature enough to date him.
1-4. Keep your cool.
You may think it's best to spill your whole life story on the first date. Really, though, that shows a lack of maturity. Keep some things back for later in your dating life.
Curiosity is attractive, so ask questions about his life and passions to make him feel important.
1-5. Show you're committed to relationships.
That is, be on good terms with your family. By being on good terms, you've shown that you can maintain long-term relationships, even when things may get a little tough.
2. Attracting an Older Guy
2-1. Act mature.
Depending on how old the guy is, he may have completely different social habits than you. If you're in your 20s, and you're after a guy in his 30s, he may not be as interested in going out drinking as you are.
You don't have to change who you are to attract an older guy, but you should make sure the two of you are a good fit. An older guy is likely to be more set in his ways, but that doesn't mean you have to follow suit. You can still go out with your friends, but don't leave a string of drunken messages on his phone.
2-2. Avoid pointing out the age gap.
Getting over the age gap may be one of the harder aspects of dating an older guy. Avoid making references about his age, and if you bring your friends around, make sure they do the same.
An age gap between partners can make it harder to connect. He probably has different hobbies, and different tastes, than you do. Try to connect with him on these things. Listen to music he likes, but also try to expose him to things you like. Don't force him to behave like a younger man, but try to involve him in your hobbies and interests.
2-3. Don't play games.
It doesn't matter how old someone is, nobody likes manipulation. Don't try to make an older man jealous to get his attention, and don't play head games to make him want you.
One reason an older man might hesitate to date a younger woman is the fear of being toyed with. Approach an older guy with confidence and be direct. If you like him, say so.
Don't assume that because a man is older, he's mature and ready to settle down. Some older men may want to take advantage of younger women to make themselves feel younger. Just as you don't want to play games with an older man, don't let an older man play games with you.
2-4. Treat him with respect.
Don't go after an older man because you want his money. He may be successful, and he may spoil you with the occasional nice date, but that doesn't mean he's going to give you all his money.
Don't ask him how much money he makes, or what kind of car he drives. If he gets the feeling that you're only with him for his money, he's likely to end things. If you don't actually like the guy, don't lead him on.
3. Dating an Older Guy
3-1. Talk about your goals in life.
Before you get into a relationship with an older guy, find out what his goals are. Does he have any long-term plans? It's important to know how you will fit into each other's life.
If he already has kids, for example, he may not be interested in starting a whole new family with you. If you don't want kids, this may be fine with you. But, if you do want kids, this could mean trouble down the road.
Don't sacrifice your own goals to be with someone who is already starting to settle down. Or, if his plans are to start traveling the world, and you're still finishing up college, don't drop everything just to be with him.
3-2. Maintain intimacy.
Intimacy is a big part of any relationship. Don't base your entire relationship on sexual compatibility, but take it into consideration.
Don't assume that an older man will be less sexually active. The opposite is more likely to be true. An older man has probably had more sexual partners, and is likely to have more experience in the bedroom.
3-3. Have fun together.
More than anything, make sure you can get along with each other. Learn from each other and delight in sharing new experiences with one another.
Take some time to assess your compatibility. Find out if you have any overlapping hobbies and pursue those. Find ways to spend time doing things you both enjoy.
3-4. Introduce him into your social circle.
One big hurdle of dating an older guy is wondering how he will fit in with the rest of your friends. Think about the type of people you regularly hang out with. How will they react to you dating an older man?
Your friends shouldn't dictate who you date, especially if you care for the person. However, you should consider how your partner will get along with your friends. Likewise, think about who he hangs out with, and how you feel about his friends.
Talk with each other about your respective social circles. Make sure your partner is comfortable with your friends, and vice versa.
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Be able to take care of yourself.\\nMany old guys will be turned off if you are just looking for someone to take care of you. In other words, have a steady job and a well-established house or apartment. If an older guy is looking at you, those qualities will show him your mature enough to date him.\\n1-4. Keep your cool.\\nYou may think it's best to spill your whole life story on the first date. Really, though, that shows a lack of maturity. Keep some things back for later in your dating life.\\nCuriosity is attractive, so ask questions about his life and passions to make him feel important.\\n1-5. Show you're committed to relationships.\\nThat is, be on good terms with your family. By being on good terms, you've shown that you can maintain long-term relationships, even when things may get a little tough.\\n2. Attracting an Older Guy\\n2-1. Act mature.\\nDepending on how old the guy is, he may have completely different social habits than you. If you're in your 20s, and you're after a guy in his 30s, he may not be as interested in going out drinking as you are.\\nYou don't have to change who you are to attract an older guy, but you should make sure the two of you are a good fit. An older guy is likely to be more set in his ways, but that doesn't mean you have to follow suit. You can still go out with your friends, but don't leave a string of drunken messages on his phone.\\n2-2. Avoid pointing out the age gap.\\nGetting over the age gap may be one of the harder aspects of dating an older guy. Avoid making references about his age, and if you bring your friends around, make sure they do the same.\\nAn age gap between partners can make it harder to connect. He probably has different hobbies, and different tastes, than you do. Try to connect with him on these things. Listen to music he likes, but also try to expose him to things you like. Don't force him to behave like a younger man, but try to involve him in your hobbies and interests.\\n2-3. Don't play games.\\nIt doesn't matter how old someone is, nobody likes manipulation. Don't try to make an older man jealous to get his attention, and don't play head games to make him want you.\\nOne reason an older man might hesitate to date a younger woman is the fear of being toyed with. Approach an older guy with confidence and be direct. If you like him, say so.\\nDon't assume that because a man is older, he's mature and ready to settle down. Some older men may want to take advantage of younger women to make themselves feel younger. Just as you don't want to play games with an older man, don't let an older man play games with you.\\n2-4. Treat him with respect.\\nDon't go after an older man because you want his money. 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2,856 | How to Attract an Older Man at Work | 1. Connect with him about your shared interests.
You might share a hobby or something you like to do in your off-time.
Get to know him a little bit more and ask him what he does for fun. If there’s anything you two have in common, bond over it and chat about it at work.
Common interests are a great segue to hanging out outside of work, too. For instance, if you both like sports, you might ask him to go see the baseball game with you next weekend.
If you both love getting out into nature, invite him to go on a hike with you.
2. Show off your maturity.
Older guys appreciate it when people around them can hold their own.
Take on responsibility at work, and don’t complain about your workload or your to-do list. Accept challenges and face them head-on, and try not to blame others for your mistakes.
Not only will this help you attract a man at work, but it can also help you do better at your job. It’s a win-win!
3. Maintain your independence.
Older men appreciate someone who won’t rely on them for everything.
While it’s fine to lean on friends and family every now and then, show the guy that you like just how independent you are. Take care of things on your own and try to make your own decisions about everything around you.
For instance, you might tell him a story of how your car broke down on the highway. Tell him how you called a tow truck and diagnosed the problem yourself instead of waiting around for someone to come and help you.
4. Exude confidence.
Keep your head held high and your shoulders back.
Speak calmly and clearly, and don’t let anyone talk over you. At work, you can ask for things clearly and confidently without beating around the bush. The more confident you are, the more attractive you’ll appear.
If you aren’t a naturally confident person, that’s okay! The phrase “fake it until you make it” really works—if you aren’t confident now, just act like you are.
5. Smile around him.
If you see him around the office, give him a grin.
Smiling is a great way to show someone that you’re attracted to them. Even if you can’t stop to chat, a quick smile lets him know that you’re happy to see him and you’re looking forward to talking to him later.
You could even give him a little wave if you spot him across the office.
6. Make eye contact with him.
If you see him in the office, try to catch his eye.
In meetings or when you walk past him, hold his gaze and give him a small smile. Eye contact lets him know that you’re really seeing him and that you might be attracted to him. Plus, this is an easy way to flirt at work that isn’t super obvious.
If he holds your gaze and makes eye contact with you, it’s a good sign!
7. Take him out to lunch.
Spend time with him outside of work, even if it’s brief.
Ask him if you can take him out to lunch, then go grab a bite to eat together. He’ll probably appreciate you making the first move, and you two can chat without the prying eyes of coworkers nearby.
Plus, paying for his lunch shows him that you’re interested in him, not just his money. That’s a common fear for older guys, especially when someone younger is hitting on them.
8. Create an inside joke together.
Pick up on something funny that happened at work.
When you see him again, remind him about the incident and have a little laugh about it. When you create a joke that’s just for you two, it brings you closer together and can deepen your attraction.
For example, you might say, “Remember what Jerry said in that meeting yesterday?”
9. Ask him for advice.
Call upon his life experience to give you some tips.
Guys in general love feeling like you need them. If you’re having a problem at work or in your personal life, sit down with him and ask for his opinion. He’ll feel like you value him as a person, and it’s a nice way for you two to bond.
For instance, you might ask, “I’m having trouble deciding if I should go back to school or not. If you were me, what would you do?”
10. Try not to draw attention to his age.
It could make him feel creepy or uncomfortable.
If you two are chatting about childhood memories, don’t make a big deal about the age gap in between you two. Keep your tone neutral, and if he asks, say you weren’t even thinking about it.
You could also say something like, “Honestly, I haven’t even noticed how many years there are in between us. You’re just so easy to talk to, I don’t even think about it.”
Tips
Don’t be afraid to make the first move just because he’s older. Older guys actually appreciate it when someone makes it clear they’re attracted to them.
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Maintain your independence.\\nOlder men appreciate someone who won’t rely on them for everything.\\nWhile it’s fine to lean on friends and family every now and then, show the guy that you like just how independent you are. Take care of things on your own and try to make your own decisions about everything around you.\\nFor instance, you might tell him a story of how your car broke down on the highway. Tell him how you called a tow truck and diagnosed the problem yourself instead of waiting around for someone to come and help you.\\n4. Exude confidence.\\nKeep your head held high and your shoulders back.\\nSpeak calmly and clearly, and don’t let anyone talk over you. At work, you can ask for things clearly and confidently without beating around the bush. The more confident you are, the more attractive you’ll appear.\\nIf you aren’t a naturally confident person, that’s okay! The phrase “fake it until you make it” really works—if you aren’t confident now, just act like you are.\\n5. Smile around him.\\nIf you see him around the office, give him a grin.\\nSmiling is a great way to show someone that you’re attracted to them. Even if you can’t stop to chat, a quick smile lets him know that you’re happy to see him and you’re looking forward to talking to him later.\\nYou could even give him a little wave if you spot him across the office.\\n6. Make eye contact with him.\\nIf you see him in the office, try to catch his eye.\\nIn meetings or when you walk past him, hold his gaze and give him a small smile. Eye contact lets him know that you’re really seeing him and that you might be attracted to him. Plus, this is an easy way to flirt at work that isn’t super obvious.\\nIf he holds your gaze and makes eye contact with you, it’s a good sign!\\n7. Take him out to lunch.\\nSpend time with him outside of work, even if it’s brief.\\nAsk him if you can take him out to lunch, then go grab a bite to eat together. He’ll probably appreciate you making the first move, and you two can chat without the prying eyes of coworkers nearby.\\nPlus, paying for his lunch shows him that you’re interested in him, not just his money. That’s a common fear for older guys, especially when someone younger is hitting on them.\\n8. Create an inside joke together.\\nPick up on something funny that happened at work.\\nWhen you see him again, remind him about the incident and have a little laugh about it. When you create a joke that’s just for you two, it brings you closer together and can deepen your attraction.\\nFor example, you might say, “Remember what Jerry said in that meeting yesterday?”\\n9. Ask him for advice.\\nCall upon his life experience to give you some tips.\\nGuys in general love feeling like you need them. If you’re having a problem at work or in your personal life, sit down with him and ask for his opinion. He’ll feel like you value him as a person, and it’s a nice way for you two to bond.\\nFor instance, you might ask, “I’m having trouble deciding if I should go back to school or not. If you were me, what would you do?”\\n10. Try not to draw attention to his age.\\nIt could make him feel creepy or uncomfortable.\\nIf you two are chatting about childhood memories, don’t make a big deal about the age gap in between you two. Keep your tone neutral, and if he asks, say you weren’t even thinking about it.\\nYou could also say something like, “Honestly, I haven’t even noticed how many years there are in between us. You’re just so easy to talk to, I don’t even think about it.”\\nTips\\nDon’t be afraid to make the first move just because he’s older. Older guys actually appreciate it when someone makes it clear they’re attracted to them.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If there’s an older guy at work you just can’t take your eyes off of, you might be wondering how to catch his attention. 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2,857 | How to Attract an Older Woman (Teens) | 1. Making Her Want You
1-1. Be confident.
If you want to attract an older woman, then confidence is absolutely key. If you're a teen, then you're probably still figuring out who you are, who your friends are, what you want to do with your life, and how you fit in. That's all fine, but when you see or hang out with the older woman, this stuff shouldn't come to the forefront. Instead, you should show her the positive thoughts you have about yourself. Hey, you may still be figuring it out, but you love who you are, you love hanging out with other people, and you love having a good time.
If she sees you noticing her, stand tall and proud.
Show the woman that you're comfortable with yourself instead of trying to fit in all the time.
You should speak clearly, make eye contact, and act like you know what you're talking about -- even if you don't.
It's natural to have insecurities, and as you get to know the woman or older girl, you can bring those out, but you should come out strong out of the gate.
Remember your competition -- older guys who are in college or who are maybe even starting their careers. If the woman sees that you're still struggling to find yourself, she'll move on.
1-2. Be assertive.
Being assertive is really a part of being confident. Being assertive means that you're comfortable enough with yourself to know what you want, and to be okay with telling people what you want. Instead of being wishy- washy or unsure, you should be clear about your needs -- whether it's that you want to get to know her, you want to take her out, or that you have a great idea for a date. Though you should respect her age and wisdom, don't defer to her all the time just because she's older, or she'll start to think that you don't have much to contribute.
Once you see the woman you like, let her see you notice her. Don't be shy about it. You can even smile at her, or approach her, if the timing is right.
Don't cower in the corner. Just come up to her, even if it's only to say hi.
If you want to be assertive, you have to say what you mean and mean what you say. Be clear, even if you're only introducing yourself.
It's okay to get nervous, but try to minimize fidgeting, stumbling over your words, or looking at the floor because she's too beautiful.
1-3. Get some experience.
It may be hard to get experience when you're only sixteen years old, but every little thing you do counts. This doesn't mean that you should try to hook up with as many girls as possible or to backpack across Europe to understand what life "is really all about." It does mean that you should do what you can to broaden your horizons, so the older woman will see that you have depth and that you have some things to teach her, too. If she constantly feels like she knows everything and has to "train" you to be an adult, then things will get old fast. Here are some ways to get some experience:
Travel. Spend your summer or even your spring break traveling to a new place, whether it's to Costa Rica on a service trip or just to visit a relative a few states away. The more places you see and people you meet, the more you'll see that the world is bigger than your own backyard or hometown.
Date. You shouldn't date girls just to get experience, but dating even a girl or two can help you understand how to deal with women, and can also help you get some experience when it comes to hooking up. An older woman will be less likely to date you if it's obvious that you've never even had another girlfriend, because that's a big burden for her to take on.
Immerse yourself in a variety of activities. You may love baseball, but if baseball is the only thing you know and love, you may run out of things to talk about with the older woman pretty quickly. Spend your Sundays volunteering, join the French culture club or school paper, or just do a few things that can help you develop a passion about a variety of subjects.
1-4. Be mature.
Again, though it may be difficult to feel or act mature when you're a teenager, you'll have to do your best to impress the woman. Women already mature a bit faster than men, and the difference in your maturity levels may be more noticeable if you're a few years -- or more -- younger than the woman. You should work on controlling your moods, having reasonable reactions to disappointing or upsetting situations, and minimizing your vulgar language, fart jokes, and other loud noises that may go over well with your buddies on the football team.
Part of being mature is being in control of your feelings. Let the woman see that you don't get easily angry or upset, or she'll think you're throwing a temper tantrum.
Another part of being mature is to not complain about every little thing. If you complain about the minor things that irk you, the woman will think that you don't have the good sense to appreciate all of the wonderful things in your life.
Avoid gossiping about your friends or other people the woman may know. She may love to gossip too, but try not to do it too much, especially at first, or she'll think that you're not mature enough to respect people who aren't in the room.
Be polite to everyone you see. If you take her out, be polite to servers and anyone else you encounter. This is a big sign of maturity.
2. Keeping Her Hooked
2-1. Keep things fun.
You should work on developing the characteristics that would make you appeal to an older woman, but you shouldn't forget to keep things fun. There must be something she likes about hanging out with or even dating a younger guy -- one of those things could be that younger guys have less baggage than older guys, and less worries about their college classes, jobs, or whatever it is the guys in her age bracket normally worry about.
There's a difference between being immature and goofing off. Every woman loves to goof off from time to time, so don't be afraid to show her the silly aspects of your personality.
Make her laugh. If your sense of humor is one of your best features, don't hide it because you worry it'll make you look immature if you try to make her laugh. As long as you pick relatively tasteful jokes, you'll be fun.
Keep it light. Though you want her to see that you have depth, you don't have to talk about the most serious thoughts you have late at night the second you meet her. Have a good time first -- the rest will come later.
2-2. Use your age to your advantage.
Don't think of being younger as a hindrance -- instead, it should be something that appeals to the woman. Your boyish good looks, amazing dance moves, or goofy jokes can be exactly what the woman likes about you. Don't say, "I know I'm only seventeen, but..." Instead, act like you love being seventeen and that the world is your oyster.
Maybe you haven't done that many things, but you can impress the woman by talking about all of the things you will do, and how excited you are about life.
Impress her with your energy and enthusiasm. You may be a lot more energetic than guys her own age -- and that's a good thing.
Try not to tell her your age right away, either. If she asks, say something like "old enough to be an awesome guy." This helps create a sense of mystery in your relationship.
Not talking about your age forces her to get to know you for who you are, rather than how old you are. Once she's gotten to know your character, you can share more about your age.
2-3. Avoid topics that make you sound young.
Though you obviously can't -- or shouldn't -- hide your age, you should avoid topics that make her realize how young you really are. If she's a college student and you're only in high school, then you shouldn't talk too much about the Homecoming game, your tenth period math class, or about that time when you got detention for talking back to a teacher.
You shouldn't hide high-school like aspects of your life, but you shouldn't emphasize them either. Talk about your family, friendships, or current events -- make her see you outside your high school bubble.
If you're both in high school or college but you're a freshman and she's a senior, talk more about the things you want to do later in your coursework instead of what it's like to be brand-new at a school. It's likely that she's matured a lot between her freshman and senior year, and if she's constantly reminded that you're only a freshman, she'll see that you may have a lot of growing up to do.
2-4. Be independent.
An older woman will have more mature friendships, more varied and intense interests, and a more busy schedule. Though you may want nothing more than to spend as much time as possible with this woman, you need her to see that you have your own friends, your own schedule, and your own needs.
If you start dating each other seriously, then you may start spending a lot of time together, but if you're just trying to attract her and get her attention, you can't be clingy or she'll be turned off.
If she does hang out with you, don't say, "When can I see you again?" right away. Play it cool and ask her out a few days later.
Talk about your schedule. Let her see that you have a lot going on too. If she thinks that all you do is sit at home and play video games and wait for her to call, she'll be less eager to hang out with you.
3. Treating Her Right
3-1. Be a gentleman.
If you want to treat an older woman right, then you absolutely have to be a gentleman. This may be a foreign concept to you, but all it really means is that you should treat her like a lady and give her kindness and respect. If you pick her up in your car, hold the passenger door open for her, and hold the door open for her if you enter a restaurant or any other location. If she comes over, take her coat and hang it up. Here are some other ways to be a gentleman:
Show up on time, or even a little early. Let her see that she means a lot to you.
Always complement her. Tell her she looks stunning, beautiful, or however she may look that day. Don't be embarrassed to tell her what you really think -- this will win her over as long as you do it in moderation.
Don't spit, scratch yourself, burp, or do other un-gentlemanly things.
Always look nice. Make an effort to shower, groom yourself, and to wear unwrinkled and well-fitting clothing. This will show her that you've put thought and effort into seeing her.
Take her out on nice dates. Don't take her to the local Burger King. You may not have a lot of spending money, but you should make an effort to do something that is at least romantic, even if it's eating at a dimly-lit sushi bar or taking a long walk on a starry night.
3-2. Show a real interest in her.
Don't make her think that you just have a fetish for older women and that being with her or talking to her means you've won some kind of prize. Instead, you should ask her about her interests, what she likes to do on the weekends, and about the relationships that mean the most to her. As you're getting to know her, you don't have to pry or interview her, but you should show that you want to know who she really is -- it's cool that she's four years older than you, but that's not her defining characteristic.
When you see her, ask her how her day was. It can be as simple as that.
Ask her opinion on a variety of subjects, from her favorite bands to a new political candidate.
3-3. Keep up a good conversation.
Older women tend to be more confident and experienced than younger women, which means that they can keep up a better conversation a lot of the time. While recapping last night's football game for an hour may be okay with your buddies, you should make an effort to read the papers, watch the news, and read interesting literature that makes you a more well-rounded person. This way, you'll not only broaden your horizons, but you'll have more to talk about.
If you read something really interesting that day, talk to her about it. See what she thinks.
Talk about relationships. You can discuss you relationship with your siblings, or your bond with a close friend -- just don't talk about your ex-girlfriend.
Talk about your travel experiences. Even if all you did was spend a summer a few states away, discuss the interesting aspects of your trip.
Maintain a witty banter. If she says something funny, don't just laugh, but counter her comment with another funny statement. This will show her that you can really keep up.
3-4. Don't bring up your age difference all the time.
Though it may have been amusing or fun for her to be talking to a younger guy at first, you don't have to keep joking about how much younger you are, or how she's so much more experienced. Unless you want her calling you "junior" and thinking of you as a kid brother, you should avoid mentioning this too much, or she'll think that you're obsessing over it -- or worse, she may start obsessing over your age difference too.
Don't bring it up in front of others, either. If you're meeting her friends or introducing her to your friends, keep it cool. Her friends may not even notice that you're a bit younger if you play your cards right.
3-5. Don't forget to be yourself.
You may be so focused on trying to impress and attract an older woman that you may be forgetting who you really are. You shouldn't act like a different person completely, or she'll see right through you. No woman wants to be with a guy who isn't genuine. Remember that you're building your maturity and developing desirable qualities that would make you appeal to a woman -- or any woman, really -- but that it doesn't mean you have to be someone else completely.
If you have a secret "dorky" hobby, don't be afraid to tell her about it if it means a lot to you.
Let her see the best qualities that your other friends see. The friends who are your age must like you for some reason, so don't hide your strongest qualities completely.
Tips
Look at her eyes and listen to her carefully while she is talking about herself.
Make her laugh, if she laughs at some of your corny jokes she might have a crush on you too.
Assert yourself make sure she knows you're interested.
Warnings
Don’t be afraid to ask questions.
Don't overdo the trying to make her laugh, she may find you annoying.
Be careful that you aren't stalking a girl. Restraining orders really can curb true love.
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Hey, you may still be figuring it out, but you love who you are, you love hanging out with other people, and you love having a good time.\\nIf she sees you noticing her, stand tall and proud.\\nShow the woman that you're comfortable with yourself instead of trying to fit in all the time.\\nYou should speak clearly, make eye contact, and act like you know what you're talking about -- even if you don't.\\nIt's natural to have insecurities, and as you get to know the woman or older girl, you can bring those out, but you should come out strong out of the gate.\\nRemember your competition -- older guys who are in college or who are maybe even starting their careers. If the woman sees that you're still struggling to find yourself, she'll move on.\\n1-2. Be assertive.\\nBeing assertive is really a part of being confident. Being assertive means that you're comfortable enough with yourself to know what you want, and to be okay with telling people what you want. Instead of being wishy- washy or unsure, you should be clear about your needs -- whether it's that you want to get to know her, you want to take her out, or that you have a great idea for a date. Though you should respect her age and wisdom, don't defer to her all the time just because she's older, or she'll start to think that you don't have much to contribute.\\nOnce you see the woman you like, let her see you notice her. Don't be shy about it. You can even smile at her, or approach her, if the timing is right.\\nDon't cower in the corner. Just come up to her, even if it's only to say hi.\\nIf you want to be assertive, you have to say what you mean and mean what you say. Be clear, even if you're only introducing yourself.\\nIt's okay to get nervous, but try to minimize fidgeting, stumbling over your words, or looking at the floor because she's too beautiful.\\n1-3. Get some experience.\\nIt may be hard to get experience when you're only sixteen years old, but every little thing you do counts. This doesn't mean that you should try to hook up with as many girls as possible or to backpack across Europe to understand what life \\\"is really all about.\\\" It does mean that you should do what you can to broaden your horizons, so the older woman will see that you have depth and that you have some things to teach her, too. If she constantly feels like she knows everything and has to \\\"train\\\" you to be an adult, then things will get old fast. Here are some ways to get some experience:\\nTravel. Spend your summer or even your spring break traveling to a new place, whether it's to Costa Rica on a service trip or just to visit a relative a few states away. The more places you see and people you meet, the more you'll see that the world is bigger than your own backyard or hometown.\\nDate. You shouldn't date girls just to get experience, but dating even a girl or two can help you understand how to deal with women, and can also help you get some experience when it comes to hooking up. An older woman will be less likely to date you if it's obvious that you've never even had another girlfriend, because that's a big burden for her to take on.\\nImmerse yourself in a variety of activities. You may love baseball, but if baseball is the only thing you know and love, you may run out of things to talk about with the older woman pretty quickly. Spend your Sundays volunteering, join the French culture club or school paper, or just do a few things that can help you develop a passion about a variety of subjects.\\n1-4. Be mature.\\nAgain, though it may be difficult to feel or act mature when you're a teenager, you'll have to do your best to impress the woman. Women already mature a bit faster than men, and the difference in your maturity levels may be more noticeable if you're a few years -- or more -- younger than the woman. You should work on controlling your moods, having reasonable reactions to disappointing or upsetting situations, and minimizing your vulgar language, fart jokes, and other loud noises that may go over well with your buddies on the football team.\\nPart of being mature is being in control of your feelings. Let the woman see that you don't get easily angry or upset, or she'll think you're throwing a temper tantrum.\\nAnother part of being mature is to not complain about every little thing. If you complain about the minor things that irk you, the woman will think that you don't have the good sense to appreciate all of the wonderful things in your life.\\nAvoid gossiping about your friends or other people the woman may know. She may love to gossip too, but try not to do it too much, especially at first, or she'll think that you're not mature enough to respect people who aren't in the room.\\nBe polite to everyone you see. If you take her out, be polite to servers and anyone else you encounter. This is a big sign of maturity.\\n2. Keeping Her Hooked\\n2-1. Keep things fun.\\nYou should work on developing the characteristics that would make you appeal to an older woman, but you shouldn't forget to keep things fun. There must be something she likes about hanging out with or even dating a younger guy -- one of those things could be that younger guys have less baggage than older guys, and less worries about their college classes, jobs, or whatever it is the guys in her age bracket normally worry about.\\nThere's a difference between being immature and goofing off. Every woman loves to goof off from time to time, so don't be afraid to show her the silly aspects of your personality.\\nMake her laugh. If your sense of humor is one of your best features, don't hide it because you worry it'll make you look immature if you try to make her laugh. As long as you pick relatively tasteful jokes, you'll be fun.\\nKeep it light. Though you want her to see that you have depth, you don't have to talk about the most serious thoughts you have late at night the second you meet her. Have a good time first -- the rest will come later.\\n2-2. Use your age to your advantage.\\nDon't think of being younger as a hindrance -- instead, it should be something that appeals to the woman. Your boyish good looks, amazing dance moves, or goofy jokes can be exactly what the woman likes about you. Don't say, \\\"I know I'm only seventeen, but...\\\" Instead, act like you love being seventeen and that the world is your oyster.\\nMaybe you haven't done that many things, but you can impress the woman by talking about all of the things you will do, and how excited you are about life.\\nImpress her with your energy and enthusiasm. You may be a lot more energetic than guys her own age -- and that's a good thing.\\nTry not to tell her your age right away, either. If she asks, say something like \\\"old enough to be an awesome guy.\\\" This helps create a sense of mystery in your relationship.\\nNot talking about your age forces her to get to know you for who you are, rather than how old you are. Once she's gotten to know your character, you can share more about your age.\\n2-3. Avoid topics that make you sound young.\\nThough you obviously can't -- or shouldn't -- hide your age, you should avoid topics that make her realize how young you really are. If she's a college student and you're only in high school, then you shouldn't talk too much about the Homecoming game, your tenth period math class, or about that time when you got detention for talking back to a teacher.\\nYou shouldn't hide high-school like aspects of your life, but you shouldn't emphasize them either. Talk about your family, friendships, or current events -- make her see you outside your high school bubble.\\nIf you're both in high school or college but you're a freshman and she's a senior, talk more about the things you want to do later in your coursework instead of what it's like to be brand-new at a school. It's likely that she's matured a lot between her freshman and senior year, and if she's constantly reminded that you're only a freshman, she'll see that you may have a lot of growing up to do.\\n2-4. Be independent.\\nAn older woman will have more mature friendships, more varied and intense interests, and a more busy schedule. Though you may want nothing more than to spend as much time as possible with this woman, you need her to see that you have your own friends, your own schedule, and your own needs.\\nIf you start dating each other seriously, then you may start spending a lot of time together, but if you're just trying to attract her and get her attention, you can't be clingy or she'll be turned off.\\nIf she does hang out with you, don't say, \\\"When can I see you again?\\\" right away. Play it cool and ask her out a few days later.\\nTalk about your schedule. Let her see that you have a lot going on too. If she thinks that all you do is sit at home and play video games and wait for her to call, she'll be less eager to hang out with you.\\n3. Treating Her Right\\n3-1. Be a gentleman.\\nIf you want to treat an older woman right, then you absolutely have to be a gentleman. This may be a foreign concept to you, but all it really means is that you should treat her like a lady and give her kindness and respect. If you pick her up in your car, hold the passenger door open for her, and hold the door open for her if you enter a restaurant or any other location. If she comes over, take her coat and hang it up. Here are some other ways to be a gentleman:\\nShow up on time, or even a little early. Let her see that she means a lot to you.\\nAlways complement her. Tell her she looks stunning, beautiful, or however she may look that day. Don't be embarrassed to tell her what you really think -- this will win her over as long as you do it in moderation.\\nDon't spit, scratch yourself, burp, or do other un-gentlemanly things.\\nAlways look nice. Make an effort to shower, groom yourself, and to wear unwrinkled and well-fitting clothing. This will show her that you've put thought and effort into seeing her.\\nTake her out on nice dates. Don't take her to the local Burger King. You may not have a lot of spending money, but you should make an effort to do something that is at least romantic, even if it's eating at a dimly-lit sushi bar or taking a long walk on a starry night.\\n3-2. Show a real interest in her.\\nDon't make her think that you just have a fetish for older women and that being with her or talking to her means you've won some kind of prize. Instead, you should ask her about her interests, what she likes to do on the weekends, and about the relationships that mean the most to her. As you're getting to know her, you don't have to pry or interview her, but you should show that you want to know who she really is -- it's cool that she's four years older than you, but that's not her defining characteristic.\\nWhen you see her, ask her how her day was. It can be as simple as that.\\nAsk her opinion on a variety of subjects, from her favorite bands to a new political candidate.\\n3-3. Keep up a good conversation.\\nOlder women tend to be more confident and experienced than younger women, which means that they can keep up a better conversation a lot of the time. While recapping last night's football game for an hour may be okay with your buddies, you should make an effort to read the papers, watch the news, and read interesting literature that makes you a more well-rounded person. This way, you'll not only broaden your horizons, but you'll have more to talk about.\\nIf you read something really interesting that day, talk to her about it. See what she thinks.\\nTalk about relationships. You can discuss you relationship with your siblings, or your bond with a close friend -- just don't talk about your ex-girlfriend.\\nTalk about your travel experiences. Even if all you did was spend a summer a few states away, discuss the interesting aspects of your trip.\\nMaintain a witty banter. If she says something funny, don't just laugh, but counter her comment with another funny statement. This will show her that you can really keep up.\\n3-4. Don't bring up your age difference all the time.\\nThough it may have been amusing or fun for her to be talking to a younger guy at first, you don't have to keep joking about how much younger you are, or how she's so much more experienced. Unless you want her calling you \\\"junior\\\" and thinking of you as a kid brother, you should avoid mentioning this too much, or she'll think that you're obsessing over it -- or worse, she may start obsessing over your age difference too.\\nDon't bring it up in front of others, either. If you're meeting her friends or introducing her to your friends, keep it cool. Her friends may not even notice that you're a bit younger if you play your cards right.\\n3-5. Don't forget to be yourself.\\nYou may be so focused on trying to impress and attract an older woman that you may be forgetting who you really are. You shouldn't act like a different person completely, or she'll see right through you. No woman wants to be with a guy who isn't genuine. Remember that you're building your maturity and developing desirable qualities that would make you appeal to a woman -- or any woman, really -- but that it doesn't mean you have to be someone else completely.\\nIf you have a secret \\\"dorky\\\" hobby, don't be afraid to tell her about it if it means a lot to you.\\nLet her see the best qualities that your other friends see. The friends who are your age must like you for some reason, so don't hide your strongest qualities completely.\\nTips\\nLook at her eyes and listen to her carefully while she is talking about herself.\\nMake her laugh, if she laughs at some of your corny jokes she might have a crush on you too.\\nAssert yourself make sure she knows you're interested.\\nWarnings\\nDon’t be afraid to ask questions.\\nDon't overdo the trying to make her laugh, she may find you annoying.\\nBe careful that you aren't stalking a girl. Restraining orders really can curb true love.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Older women are more experienced, wiser, more mature, and more confident. So how do you attract one? It's hard enough to attract an older girl, but you've really got the odds stacked against you when you're a teenage guy trying to make an impression on someone older than you. But if you exude confidence, expand your horizons, and show the woman that you're exactly the breath of fresh air she needs, you'll attract her in no time. If you want to know how to catch the eye of an older woman, just follow these steps.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Making Her Want You\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be confident.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to attract an older woman, then confidence is absolutely key. If you're a teen, then you're probably still figuring out who you are, who your friends are, what you want to do with your life, and how you fit in. That's all fine, but when you see or hang out with the older woman, this stuff shouldn't come to the forefront. Instead, you should show her the positive thoughts you have about yourself. Hey, you may still be figuring it out, but you love who you are, you love hanging out with other people, and you love having a good time.\\nIf she sees you noticing her, stand tall and proud.\\nShow the woman that you're comfortable with yourself instead of trying to fit in all the time.\\nYou should speak clearly, make eye contact, and act like you know what you're talking about -- even if you don't.\\nIt's natural to have insecurities, and as you get to know the woman or older girl, you can bring those out, but you should come out strong out of the gate.\\nRemember your competition -- older guys who are in college or who are maybe even starting their careers. If the woman sees that you're still struggling to find yourself, she'll move on.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be assertive.\", \"描述\": \"Being assertive is really a part of being confident. Being assertive means that you're comfortable enough with yourself to know what you want, and to be okay with telling people what you want. Instead of being wishy- washy or unsure, you should be clear about your needs -- whether it's that you want to get to know her, you want to take her out, or that you have a great idea for a date. Though you should respect her age and wisdom, don't defer to her all the time just because she's older, or she'll start to think that you don't have much to contribute.\\nOnce you see the woman you like, let her see you notice her. Don't be shy about it. You can even smile at her, or approach her, if the timing is right.\\nDon't cower in the corner. Just come up to her, even if it's only to say hi.\\nIf you want to be assertive, you have to say what you mean and mean what you say. Be clear, even if you're only introducing yourself.\\nIt's okay to get nervous, but try to minimize fidgeting, stumbling over your words, or looking at the floor because she's too beautiful.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get some experience.\", \"描述\": \"It may be hard to get experience when you're only sixteen years old, but every little thing you do counts. This doesn't mean that you should try to hook up with as many girls as possible or to backpack across Europe to understand what life \\\"is really all about.\\\" It does mean that you should do what you can to broaden your horizons, so the older woman will see that you have depth and that you have some things to teach her, too. If she constantly feels like she knows everything and has to \\\"train\\\" you to be an adult, then things will get old fast. Here are some ways to get some experience:\\nTravel. Spend your summer or even your spring break traveling to a new place, whether it's to Costa Rica on a service trip or just to visit a relative a few states away. The more places you see and people you meet, the more you'll see that the world is bigger than your own backyard or hometown.\\nDate. You shouldn't date girls just to get experience, but dating even a girl or two can help you understand how to deal with women, and can also help you get some experience when it comes to hooking up. An older woman will be less likely to date you if it's obvious that you've never even had another girlfriend, because that's a big burden for her to take on.\\nImmerse yourself in a variety of activities. You may love baseball, but if baseball is the only thing you know and love, you may run out of things to talk about with the older woman pretty quickly. Spend your Sundays volunteering, join the French culture club or school paper, or just do a few things that can help you develop a passion about a variety of subjects.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be mature.\", \"描述\": \"Again, though it may be difficult to feel or act mature when you're a teenager, you'll have to do your best to impress the woman. Women already mature a bit faster than men, and the difference in your maturity levels may be more noticeable if you're a few years -- or more -- younger than the woman. You should work on controlling your moods, having reasonable reactions to disappointing or upsetting situations, and minimizing your vulgar language, fart jokes, and other loud noises that may go over well with your buddies on the football team.\\nPart of being mature is being in control of your feelings. Let the woman see that you don't get easily angry or upset, or she'll think you're throwing a temper tantrum.\\nAnother part of being mature is to not complain about every little thing. If you complain about the minor things that irk you, the woman will think that you don't have the good sense to appreciate all of the wonderful things in your life.\\nAvoid gossiping about your friends or other people the woman may know. She may love to gossip too, but try not to do it too much, especially at first, or she'll think that you're not mature enough to respect people who aren't in the room.\\nBe polite to everyone you see. If you take her out, be polite to servers and anyone else you encounter. This is a big sign of maturity.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keeping Her Hooked\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep things fun.\", \"描述\": \"You should work on developing the characteristics that would make you appeal to an older woman, but you shouldn't forget to keep things fun. There must be something she likes about hanging out with or even dating a younger guy -- one of those things could be that younger guys have less baggage than older guys, and less worries about their college classes, jobs, or whatever it is the guys in her age bracket normally worry about.\\nThere's a difference between being immature and goofing off. Every woman loves to goof off from time to time, so don't be afraid to show her the silly aspects of your personality.\\nMake her laugh. If your sense of humor is one of your best features, don't hide it because you worry it'll make you look immature if you try to make her laugh. As long as you pick relatively tasteful jokes, you'll be fun.\\nKeep it light. Though you want her to see that you have depth, you don't have to talk about the most serious thoughts you have late at night the second you meet her. Have a good time first -- the rest will come later.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use your age to your advantage.\", \"描述\": \"Don't think of being younger as a hindrance -- instead, it should be something that appeals to the woman. Your boyish good looks, amazing dance moves, or goofy jokes can be exactly what the woman likes about you. Don't say, \\\"I know I'm only seventeen, but...\\\" Instead, act like you love being seventeen and that the world is your oyster.\\nMaybe you haven't done that many things, but you can impress the woman by talking about all of the things you will do, and how excited you are about life.\\nImpress her with your energy and enthusiasm. You may be a lot more energetic than guys her own age -- and that's a good thing.\\nTry not to tell her your age right away, either. If she asks, say something like \\\"old enough to be an awesome guy.\\\" This helps create a sense of mystery in your relationship.\\nNot talking about your age forces her to get to know you for who you are, rather than how old you are. Once she's gotten to know your character, you can share more about your age.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoid topics that make you sound young.\", \"描述\": \"Though you obviously can't -- or shouldn't -- hide your age, you should avoid topics that make her realize how young you really are. If she's a college student and you're only in high school, then you shouldn't talk too much about the Homecoming game, your tenth period math class, or about that time when you got detention for talking back to a teacher.\\nYou shouldn't hide high-school like aspects of your life, but you shouldn't emphasize them either. Talk about your family, friendships, or current events -- make her see you outside your high school bubble.\\nIf you're both in high school or college but you're a freshman and she's a senior, talk more about the things you want to do later in your coursework instead of what it's like to be brand-new at a school. It's likely that she's matured a lot between her freshman and senior year, and if she's constantly reminded that you're only a freshman, she'll see that you may have a lot of growing up to do.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be independent.\", \"描述\": \"An older woman will have more mature friendships, more varied and intense interests, and a more busy schedule. Though you may want nothing more than to spend as much time as possible with this woman, you need her to see that you have your own friends, your own schedule, and your own needs.\\nIf you start dating each other seriously, then you may start spending a lot of time together, but if you're just trying to attract her and get her attention, you can't be clingy or she'll be turned off.\\nIf she does hang out with you, don't say, \\\"When can I see you again?\\\" right away. Play it cool and ask her out a few days later.\\nTalk about your schedule. Let her see that you have a lot going on too. If she thinks that all you do is sit at home and play video games and wait for her to call, she'll be less eager to hang out with you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Treating Her Right\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be a gentleman.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to treat an older woman right, then you absolutely have to be a gentleman. This may be a foreign concept to you, but all it really means is that you should treat her like a lady and give her kindness and respect. If you pick her up in your car, hold the passenger door open for her, and hold the door open for her if you enter a restaurant or any other location. If she comes over, take her coat and hang it up. Here are some other ways to be a gentleman:\\nShow up on time, or even a little early. Let her see that she means a lot to you.\\nAlways complement her. Tell her she looks stunning, beautiful, or however she may look that day. Don't be embarrassed to tell her what you really think -- this will win her over as long as you do it in moderation.\\nDon't spit, scratch yourself, burp, or do other un-gentlemanly things.\\nAlways look nice. Make an effort to shower, groom yourself, and to wear unwrinkled and well-fitting clothing. This will show her that you've put thought and effort into seeing her.\\nTake her out on nice dates. 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2,858 | 14 Super Easy Ways to Attract the Guy You Have a Crush On | 1. Look him in the eyes.
Lock eyes with him to create a spark right away.
Simply making eye contact can be enough to make him stop and stare. Whether he’s across the room or right next to you, look at him for about 3-5 seconds. You might just get your crush stuck on you all day.
Your eye contact might make him instantly develop an attraction to you.
If you want to play it safe and be more friendly, look at him for just 3 seconds.
When you want to flirt with eye contact, look at him for 5 seconds.
2. Give him a big smile.
Flash your pearly whites to completely dazzle him.
One of the best physical features to “wow” him with is your gorgeous smile. When you interact with him for the first time, make sure he sees one on your face. As you keep chatting, laugh, smile, and grin so he feels like you’re a super refreshing and uplifting person to be around.
Your smile might make him get really cheesy, too.
He might get hit with feel-good chemicals that make him crush on you.
A smile can also break the ice so he feels ready to talk to you.
When you try to make him smile, make sure you smile at the right time—for example, flash him a smile right when he looks at you.
3. Be super friendly.
Make it way easy to be approachable with your upbeat attitude.
To build rapport and make him notice you, always be nice and have good manners. Perk up when he’s around you, say hello, and ask how he’s doing. When you show you’re outgoing, he’ll be drawn right in.
To attract him even without talking to him, show your crush you’re happy to see him with your body language, like giving a little wave.
Be super sweet to people around him, too. For example, chat up his friends or help out others in a club you’re both in. The guy you like will see your sparkling personality.
Give him a chance to find you when you’re alone. It’ll make it a lot easier for him to work up the nerve to come up to you. For example, sit by yourself at the library.
If your crush is around you a lot, like one of your classes, catch him in a free moment. Kick off a chat with an opener like, “Do you feel ready for the final? It seems a little intense!”
4. Ask him for some help.
Let him come to the rescue so he feels like a total hero.
When you find the right opportunity, reach out for a little support. For example, if he’s captain of the math team, then catch up with him after class and clear up a question about algebraic expressions. Try to ask for a favor, too. Maybe you know he’s won an art contest, so his skills would be great for your drama club’s poster. You’ll boost his ego, and he’ll love how you make him feel.
One simple favor could turn into so much more. You may even score your crush as a tutor and see him every week if you ask for help.
When you recognize his skills and talents, he might want more opportunities to show them off. For example, after helping with a poster, he may work on a comic or manga with you.
If he gives you some support, he may already get “boyfriend” vibes and start to feel really protective of you.
5. Dress to impress.
Wear your best outfits to instantly grab his attention.
To to be more attractive to guys, put a little TLC into your appearance. Keep your hair healthy, practice good hygiene, and look stylish every day in case he bumps into you. When he notices how well put together you are, he’ll be blown away. Plus, when you seem so dreamy 24/7, you’ll probably become his new fantasy.
Develop your sense of style so you stand out to him. For example, maybe you want to give off goth vibes or you’d like to come across more preppy.
It’s great to have clothes that are clean and fit well, but other than that—wear whatever you like! As long as you carry yourself with confidence, you can rock any outfit.
Hygiene is important because it shows you practice self-care and love yourself, qualities that are really attractive to guys.
Also make sure to have good posture and look approachable. Body language is key to being jaw-dropping.
6. Get to know him better.
Maximize on small talk with awesome conversation starters.
To talk to a guy you like, create as many opportunities as you can to learn about him. Ask him to update you about what he’s been up to, check what his hobbies are, and be curious about what makes him tick. To get you started, here are some examples of ways you can fire up a discussion:
“Did you end up trying out for that play? Really? What were the auditions like?”
“How do you relax after all this homework? Video games? Nice.”
“What’s better—action or comedy movies?”
“I’ve never seen that show! How come you’re so addicted to it?”
7. Bond over common interests.
Build a connection quickly by relating with him.
Whenever you spot some similarities between the two of you, make the most of it. Gush about any passions, hobbies, causes, or ideas that matter to both of you. Find ways to explore any of these common interests together. Shine a spotlight on all the compatibility you pick up on with comments like:
“I am totally into BMX bikes, too! I always hit up that skatepark on Maple Street.”
“So, I actually have a Steam account. I bet I could beat you on Overwatch.”
“I agree. We need to be more green. Wanna go thrifting together?”
“Yeah, I’d totally start a vlog! We should figure out what it takes together.”
8. Show him your full attention.
Hang onto every word to totally enchant him.
Give him a chance to really open up and let him talk about himself. Even if you’re really excited, be a good listener and wait for him to finish. Lean in, lock eyes with him, smile, and show interest in what he has to say. He might become your #1 fan when he sees how much you value him.
When he’s done, give feedback: “That makes total sense. It sounds like it’s hard to balance a part-time job, clubs, sports, and schoolwork.”
Show empathy: “If I were in your situation, I’d be really tired, and I’d probably start really craving a break.”
Have a great attitude: “Luckily, we have breaks, though! It’s also good that you make the most of your Saturdays.”
Ask follow up questions.: “Have you talked to your parents about how to make things easier? Maybe you could get a tutor for AP Chem?”
Show gratitude for how he opened up: “It’s really cool to learn all this about you. I never knew your schedule was like that. You look so calm all the time.”
9. Hang out at his favorite spots.
Become a regular part of his life by visiting the places he loves.
If you know where your crush likes to spend his time, show up in that place every once in a while. For example, if he has a favorite coffee shop in the area, go there with a friend or two on the off chance you might see him there. You could also study or do your homework there, then act surprised but happy when he comes over. He might just think it’s fate.
If you know that he’s going to a concert, see if you can get tickets to go as well. This gives you a fun opportunity to bump into him. You could even ask if he wants to hang out after the show.
Try joining a club or activity that he is a part of. For example, if he’s part of a Recycling Club, you might be able to work on a project with him, like a campaign to reuse water bottles.
Adding or following him on social media is also a great way to easily stay in touch. "Like" or "love" his posts and leave a comment as a way to start a nice back-and-forth.
10. Kick back with him.
Keep it casual and unwind so he feels relaxed around you.
If you get to snag some quality time with him, act casual. For example, instead of immediately asking to date him, see if he just wants to hang out and chill. Watch a movie after doing homework together or grab some burgers after class. Since being with you will be fun and stress-free, he’ll probably keep hitting you up when he wants company.
Check if he’s available with an innocent question like, “What’re you up to later today?”
Be spontaneous and go with the flow. For example, if he’s suddenly in the mood to stream some anime, tell him you’d love to see what it’s like.
Focus on having a good time, even if it’s a new experience. Maybe you’ve never bowled before and he’s a pro. As long as he sees you’re goofing off and enjoying yourself, you’ll win points with him.
11. Laugh at his jokes.
Show him you adore his sense of humor to win him over.
Tell a guy you’re into him by cracking up whenever he goofs off. If you appreciate his meme collection, his gif game, or his super random comments, he’ll see that you really “get” him. Whenever he wants to let loose, he’ll try to find you so he can soak up all the attention.
Jump in with your own jokes to make the moment extra special. For example, if he says you “ghosted” him because you never got back to his last text, message back and say, “I just fell asleep last night! I feel bad though. It’ll haunt me forever. 👻”
12. Dial up the flirtiness.
Make his heart race with a bunch of cute comments.
Check if you have chemistry with your crush by looking for a couple cues—for example, maybe his eyes light up when you both speak or you feel butterflies when he gets close. If the feelings seem mutual, flirt by teasing him and getting a little bold. For example, compliment his haircut with something silly like, “Okay, rockstar! I almost didn’t recognize you.” It’ll create some fun and excitement.
He’ll probably want to test how much you like him. For example, he might say, “Oh yeah? So I guess that means you think it looks good?”
If he does play along, keep up the little game. You could reply with, “Yeah, I guess you could say that. You really stood out today.”
Get a little affectionate, too. If he’s already given you vibes that he’s into you, like putting his hand on yours during a movie, feel free to give him a hug before you go home.
13. Ask him deep questions.
Learn about his background and passions so he feels special.
In order to have a really unique and memorable connection with him, go the extra mile. Start a deep conversation by asking him about his family, his current goals, and his big dreams for the future. He’ll feel seriously emotionally attracted to you if you try to discover more about him with questions like:
“Do you have any siblings? What was it like moving so often?”
“What’s your ‘reach’ college? Why’d you choose that one?”
“If you could choose any career, what would it be?”
14. Show him your soft side
Be vulnerable, kind, and affectionate so he seriously falls for you.
Open up about yourself, tell your crush you like him, and find moments to be really sweet. For example, talk about some of your challenges, cheer him up over text if he’s had a hard day, and rub his shoulder if he vents. When he witnesses all your empathy, he’ll be inspired and know you’re the real deal.
Be really thoughtful with your texts. If he’s stressed about his finals, fire off a message like, “You’ve got this! 💪 You’ve studied so hard that you’re gonna get an A, 100%.”
When you have a tough time, it’s okay to be vulnerable. For example, tell him, “Sometimes I wish my parents noticed how hard I work.” He’ll have a chance to be there for you.
If you feel that you both are getting closer, cozy up to him at the right moment. For example, maybe he said he’s into you, too. If so, cuddle him on the couch when you hang out. He might get brave and ask to become “official” with you.
15. Always be yourself
Stay authentic and you’ll bewitch him with your unique charm.
Above everything else, embrace who you are and show your true colors. Play up every part of your personality, from your goofiness to your serious side. When he gets the full picture, you’ll become unforgettable in his eyes. After all, there’s nothing more attractive than being one-of-a-kind!
If you really want him to be a regular part of your life, then it’s important for him to know the real you.
When you’re both really comfortable with each other and let all your walls down, you might be able to develop a really promising relationship.
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I never knew your schedule was like that. You look so calm all the time.”\\n9. Hang out at his favorite spots.\\nBecome a regular part of his life by visiting the places he loves.\\nIf you know where your crush likes to spend his time, show up in that place every once in a while. For example, if he has a favorite coffee shop in the area, go there with a friend or two on the off chance you might see him there. You could also study or do your homework there, then act surprised but happy when he comes over. He might just think it’s fate.\\nIf you know that he’s going to a concert, see if you can get tickets to go as well. This gives you a fun opportunity to bump into him. You could even ask if he wants to hang out after the show.\\nTry joining a club or activity that he is a part of. For example, if he’s part of a Recycling Club, you might be able to work on a project with him, like a campaign to reuse water bottles.\\nAdding or following him on social media is also a great way to easily stay in touch. \\\"Like\\\" or \\\"love\\\" his posts and leave a comment as a way to start a nice back-and-forth.\\n10. Kick back with him.\\nKeep it casual and unwind so he feels relaxed around you.\\nIf you get to snag some quality time with him, act casual. For example, instead of immediately asking to date him, see if he just wants to hang out and chill. Watch a movie after doing homework together or grab some burgers after class. Since being with you will be fun and stress-free, he’ll probably keep hitting you up when he wants company.\\nCheck if he’s available with an innocent question like, “What’re you up to later today?”\\nBe spontaneous and go with the flow. For example, if he’s suddenly in the mood to stream some anime, tell him you’d love to see what it’s like.\\nFocus on having a good time, even if it’s a new experience. Maybe you’ve never bowled before and he’s a pro. As long as he sees you’re goofing off and enjoying yourself, you’ll win points with him.\\n11. Laugh at his jokes.\\nShow him you adore his sense of humor to win him over.\\nTell a guy you’re into him by cracking up whenever he goofs off. If you appreciate his meme collection, his gif game, or his super random comments, he’ll see that you really “get” him. Whenever he wants to let loose, he’ll try to find you so he can soak up all the attention. \\nJump in with your own jokes to make the moment extra special. For example, if he says you “ghosted” him because you never got back to his last text, message back and say, “I just fell asleep last night! I feel bad though. It’ll haunt me forever. 👻”\\n12. Dial up the flirtiness.\\nMake his heart race with a bunch of cute comments.\\nCheck if you have chemistry with your crush by looking for a couple cues—for example, maybe his eyes light up when you both speak or you feel butterflies when he gets close. If the feelings seem mutual, flirt by teasing him and getting a little bold. For example, compliment his haircut with something silly like, “Okay, rockstar! I almost didn’t recognize you.” It’ll create some fun and excitement.\\nHe’ll probably want to test how much you like him. For example, he might say, “Oh yeah? So I guess that means you think it looks good?”\\nIf he does play along, keep up the little game. You could reply with, “Yeah, I guess you could say that. You really stood out today.”\\nGet a little affectionate, too. If he’s already given you vibes that he’s into you, like putting his hand on yours during a movie, feel free to give him a hug before you go home.\\n13. Ask him deep questions.\\nLearn about his background and passions so he feels special.\\nIn order to have a really unique and memorable connection with him, go the extra mile. Start a deep conversation by asking him about his family, his current goals, and his big dreams for the future. He’ll feel seriously emotionally attracted to you if you try to discover more about him with questions like:\\n“Do you have any siblings? What was it like moving so often?”\\n“What’s your ‘reach’ college? Why’d you choose that one?”\\n“If you could choose any career, what would it be?”\\n14. Show him your soft side\\nBe vulnerable, kind, and affectionate so he seriously falls for you.\\nOpen up about yourself, tell your crush you like him, and find moments to be really sweet. For example, talk about some of your challenges, cheer him up over text if he’s had a hard day, and rub his shoulder if he vents. When he witnesses all your empathy, he’ll be inspired and know you’re the real deal.\\nBe really thoughtful with your texts. If he’s stressed about his finals, fire off a message like, “You’ve got this! 💪 You’ve studied so hard that you’re gonna get an A, 100%.”\\nWhen you have a tough time, it’s okay to be vulnerable. For example, tell him, “Sometimes I wish my parents noticed how hard I work.” He’ll have a chance to be there for you.\\nIf you feel that you both are getting closer, cozy up to him at the right moment. For example, maybe he said he’s into you, too. If so, cuddle him on the couch when you hang out. He might get brave and ask to become “official” with you.\\n15. Always be yourself\\nStay authentic and you’ll bewitch him with your unique charm.\\nAbove everything else, embrace who you are and show your true colors. Play up every part of your personality, from your goofiness to your serious side. When he gets the full picture, you’ll become unforgettable in his eyes. After all, there’s nothing more attractive than being one-of-a-kind!\\nIf you really want him to be a regular part of your life, then it’s important for him to know the real you.\\nWhen you’re both really comfortable with each other and let all your walls down, you might be able to develop a really promising relationship.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you're tired of just longingly gazing at a crush, it might be time to take action and catch his eye. When you make the first move, it's pretty possible that you'll start chapter one of a new fairy tale. To make sure you snag your Prince Charming, whether he's that cute athlete or the super handsome class president, we'll share some techniques that are easy to pull off. So, hold your head up high and get your sights set on your favorite guy—we're about to help you make magic happen.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Look him in the eyes.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Lock eyes with him to create a spark right away.\", \"描述\": \"Simply making eye contact can be enough to make him stop and stare. Whether he’s across the room or right next to you, look at him for about 3-5 seconds. You might just get your crush stuck on you all day.\\nYour eye contact might make him instantly develop an attraction to you.\\nIf you want to play it safe and be more friendly, look at him for just 3 seconds.\\nWhen you want to flirt with eye contact, look at him for 5 seconds.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Give him a big smile.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Flash your pearly whites to completely dazzle him.\", \"描述\": \"One of the best physical features to “wow” him with is your gorgeous smile. When you interact with him for the first time, make sure he sees one on your face. As you keep chatting, laugh, smile, and grin so he feels like you’re a super refreshing and uplifting person to be around.\\nYour smile might make him get really cheesy, too.\\nHe might get hit with feel-good chemicals that make him crush on you.\\nA smile can also break the ice so he feels ready to talk to you.\\nWhen you try to make him smile, make sure you smile at the right time—for example, flash him a smile right when he looks at you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be super friendly.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make it way easy to be approachable with your upbeat attitude.\", \"描述\": \"To build rapport and make him notice you, always be nice and have good manners. Perk up when he’s around you, say hello, and ask how he’s doing. When you show you’re outgoing, he’ll be drawn right in.\\nTo attract him even without talking to him, show your crush you’re happy to see him with your body language, like giving a little wave.\\nBe super sweet to people around him, too. For example, chat up his friends or help out others in a club you’re both in. The guy you like will see your sparkling personality.\\nGive him a chance to find you when you’re alone. It’ll make it a lot easier for him to work up the nerve to come up to you. For example, sit by yourself at the library.\\nIf your crush is around you a lot, like one of your classes, catch him in a free moment. Kick off a chat with an opener like, “Do you feel ready for the final? It seems a little intense!”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ask him for some help.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Let him come to the rescue so he feels like a total hero.\", \"描述\": \"When you find the right opportunity, reach out for a little support. For example, if he’s captain of the math team, then catch up with him after class and clear up a question about algebraic expressions. Try to ask for a favor, too. Maybe you know he’s won an art contest, so his skills would be great for your drama club’s poster. You’ll boost his ego, and he’ll love how you make him feel.\\nOne simple favor could turn into so much more. You may even score your crush as a tutor and see him every week if you ask for help.\\nWhen you recognize his skills and talents, he might want more opportunities to show them off. For example, after helping with a poster, he may work on a comic or manga with you.\\nIf he gives you some support, he may already get “boyfriend” vibes and start to feel really protective of you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Dress to impress.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wear your best outfits to instantly grab his attention.\", \"描述\": \"To to be more attractive to guys, put a little TLC into your appearance. Keep your hair healthy, practice good hygiene, and look stylish every day in case he bumps into you. When he notices how well put together you are, he’ll be blown away. Plus, when you seem so dreamy 24/7, you’ll probably become his new fantasy.\\n\\n Develop your sense of style so you stand out to him. For example, maybe you want to give off goth vibes or you’d like to come across more preppy.\\nIt’s great to have clothes that are clean and fit well, but other than that—wear whatever you like! As long as you carry yourself with confidence, you can rock any outfit.\\nHygiene is important because it shows you practice self-care and love yourself, qualities that are really attractive to guys.\\nAlso make sure to have good posture and look approachable. Body language is key to being jaw-dropping.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get to know him better.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Maximize on small talk with awesome conversation starters.\", \"描述\": \"To talk to a guy you like, create as many opportunities as you can to learn about him. Ask him to update you about what he’s been up to, check what his hobbies are, and be curious about what makes him tick. To get you started, here are some examples of ways you can fire up a discussion:\\n“Did you end up trying out for that play? Really? What were the auditions like?”\\n“How do you relax after all this homework? Video games? Nice.”\\n“What’s better—action or comedy movies?”\\n“I’ve never seen that show! How come you’re so addicted to it?”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Bond over common interests.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Build a connection quickly by relating with him.\", \"描述\": \"Whenever you spot some similarities between the two of you, make the most of it. Gush about any passions, hobbies, causes, or ideas that matter to both of you. Find ways to explore any of these common interests together. Shine a spotlight on all the compatibility you pick up on with comments like:\\n“I am totally into BMX bikes, too! I always hit up that skatepark on Maple Street.”\\n“So, I actually have a Steam account. I bet I could beat you on Overwatch.”\\n“I agree. We need to be more green. Wanna go thrifting together?”\\n“Yeah, I’d totally start a vlog! We should figure out what it takes together.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Show him your full attention.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Hang onto every word to totally enchant him.\", \"描述\": \"Give him a chance to really open up and let him talk about himself. Even if you’re really excited, be a good listener and wait for him to finish. Lean in, lock eyes with him, smile, and show interest in what he has to say. He might become your #1 fan when he sees how much you value him.\\nWhen he’s done, give feedback: “That makes total sense. It sounds like it’s hard to balance a part-time job, clubs, sports, and schoolwork.”\\nShow empathy: “If I were in your situation, I’d be really tired, and I’d probably start really craving a break.”\\nHave a great attitude: “Luckily, we have breaks, though! It’s also good that you make the most of your Saturdays.”\\nAsk follow up questions.: “Have you talked to your parents about how to make things easier? Maybe you could get a tutor for AP Chem?”\\nShow gratitude for how he opened up: “It’s really cool to learn all this about you. I never knew your schedule was like that. You look so calm all the time.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Hang out at his favorite spots.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Become a regular part of his life by visiting the places he loves.\", \"描述\": \"If you know where your crush likes to spend his time, show up in that place every once in a while. For example, if he has a favorite coffee shop in the area, go there with a friend or two on the off chance you might see him there. You could also study or do your homework there, then act surprised but happy when he comes over. He might just think it’s fate.\\nIf you know that he’s going to a concert, see if you can get tickets to go as well. This gives you a fun opportunity to bump into him. You could even ask if he wants to hang out after the show.\\nTry joining a club or activity that he is a part of. For example, if he’s part of a Recycling Club, you might be able to work on a project with him, like a campaign to reuse water bottles.\\nAdding or following him on social media is also a great way to easily stay in touch. \\\"Like\\\" or \\\"love\\\" his posts and leave a comment as a way to start a nice back-and-forth.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Kick back with him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep it casual and unwind so he feels relaxed around you.\", \"描述\": \"If you get to snag some quality time with him, act casual. For example, instead of immediately asking to date him, see if he just wants to hang out and chill. Watch a movie after doing homework together or grab some burgers after class. Since being with you will be fun and stress-free, he’ll probably keep hitting you up when he wants company.\\nCheck if he’s available with an innocent question like, “What’re you up to later today?”\\nBe spontaneous and go with the flow. 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2,859 | How to Attract the Opposite Sex | 1. Looking and Feeling Your Best
1-1. Use your body language to tell others you are confident.
Keep your shoulders back instead of hunching them forward. Leave your arms at your sides rather than crossing them over your chest. Lift your head when you're walking or talking with others instead of looking at the ground. Pick your feet up off the ground rather than shuffling them as you walk. All of these non-verbal actions will make you appear more confident.
People are generally attracted to others who aren't closed off. You'll seem much more approachable if you keep your body loose and open.
1-2. Pick a wardrobe that makes you feel good about yourself.
Every body is a beautiful body—and choosing the right clothes can make a huge difference in how others see you. Choose clothes that fit you well and keep them clean and in good condition.
Remember to stay true to your style. If you hate the newest trend and adopt it just because it's cool, you won't feel comfortable.
Avoid wearing clothes that are dirty or ripped (unless that is intentionally part of your style).
Use detail, like a belt, necklace, tie, or style of clothes to draw attention to what you think is your best asset.
Wear colors that bring out your eyes or that highlight your complexion.
Avoid wearing clothes that are either too big, which can make you look frumpy, or too tight, which can make you look and feel uncomfortable.
1-3. Practice good dental hygiene so your smile is pearly white.
Brush your teeth at least twice a day, floss once a day, and visit the dentist for a cleaning every 6 months. You could also use teeth-whitening toothpaste or strips to reduce yellow stains.
A smile full of white teeth has been proven to be a super attractive trait.
Keeping your smile healthy will also help eliminate bad breath, which will be a plus when you're flirting!
1-4. Adopt a daily skincare routine to promote a healthy glow.
Start by determining what kind of skin type you have so you know what kind of products to use. Wash your face in the morning when you wake up and in the evening before you go to bed. Consider using toner, acne-treatments, and lotion to control acne and give your skin an even tone.
Clear skin will make you look better and feel more confident.
If you have persistent acne or skin issues that don't clear up on their own, schedule a visit with a dermatologist.
1-5. Smile
Choose to look on the bright side and see the good in every situation. Encourage others around you to do the same with your attitude. People are drawn to others who are happy.
Practice smiling at strangers and see how many of them smile back. Not everyone will, but you'll notice that many people respond positively to a warm smile.
While you want to be encouraging to others, avoid making statements like, “You should smile more,” or, “You should try to be more positive.” These statements will most likely make others feel angry or alienated.
1-6. Act and think positively to boost your self-image.
If you start talking to someone thinking that they won't like you, you're already setting yourself up for failure. Accept yourself the way you are, don't judge others, and practice being grateful for big and small things throughout the day.
Nobody wants to spend a lot of time around someone who is always gloomy or waiting for the worst to happen.
1-7. Manage your stress level to appear more relaxed and approachable.
Stress is a normal part of life, but learning how to healthily cope with stress can make a big difference in how you look and feel daily. Try out a few of these stress-busting ideas the next time you feel yourself getting overwhelmed:
Exercise regularly
Get enough sleep every night
Talk to a friend
Journal
Meditate
Practice self-care
2. Being Flirtatious
2-1. Make eye contact.
Keep your eyes soft by not opening your eyes super wide or staring too intensely, and hold the other person's gaze for a few seconds longer than you normally would. Smile at them while you're making eye contact for even more impact.
Making eye contact is different from staring at a person. Don't widen your eyes and stare at the person until they look at you. Just try to casually catch the eye of someone you're interested in.
When you break eye contact, look away slowly, almost like you’re hesitant to do so. Avoid furtively glancing away as that could convey that you feel nervous or are trying to hide something.
2-2. Find ways to break the touch-barrier to make physical contact.
Wait until you’re in the middle of a conversation with someone before you touch them—it would be weird to walk up to someone and touch their arm if you’ve never spoken to them before. But during a conversation, a gently placed hand on the arm or shoulder is a nice way to touch someone without it being invasive. Let your hand rest on the person's arm for 1-2 seconds for a quick flirtatious touch.
Choose times like when the person says something really funny or if you’re talking about something that makes you feel connected to them.
Touch is a big part of flirting, but it can also cross the line into unwanted physical touch pretty quickly. Be cautious and respectful of other people's space.
2-3. Get the other person laughing and keep the conversation light.
Laughter is contagious and automatically opens people up to each other. Focus on fun and interesting topics rather than sad or dark subjects. Depending on who you're talking to, try out one of these different ways to get someone to laugh:
Tell a classic joke if you’re trying to break the ice
Tell a funny anecdote to keep the conversation going and encourage the other person to open up more
Be witty or sarcastic to see if you and the other person have similar senses of humor
Tease someone or use comeback lines to flirt in a lighthearted way
2-4. Give a genuine compliment to endear the other person to you.
The key to giving a good compliment is to be sincere and specific. For example, saying “Your eyes are the most beautiful shade of hazel,” is much more impactful than just saying, “You have nice eyes.” Try to avoid giving compliments that are overly-sexual, as you don’t know if that kind of attention would be welcome or not. Try out some of these other flirty lines:
“Your laugh is contagious.”
“You did such a great job on your presentation the other day. I could take some pointers from you.”
“I always start grinning like an idiot every time I see you.”
2-5. Focus on the other person instead of on yourself to flatter them.
Ask them open-ended questions to draw them out and deepen your connection. Open-ended questions are ones that require more than a “yes” or “no” answer. For example:
“Tell me what your ideal weekend looks like.”
“Tell me more about ____.”
“What are you looking for in a person?”
“Tell me about your family growing up.”
“What do you like to do to unwind at the end of a long day?”
2-6. Practice speaking with a seductive tone to appear more desirable.
According to studies, men find women who speak with a slightly higher octave to be more attractive than women with a deeper register. On the flip side, women are initially more attracted to men with a deeper voice—but, in the longterm, women aren't impacted as much by octave as men are. Try to be aware of your voice’s register and speak at either the higher or lower end of your natural tone of voice.
Even if you feel nervous, slow down your speech and be intentional with each word you say. This will make you sound like you're in control and confident, which are really attractive qualities.
If this feels too hard or unnatural, don’t worry about it! Trying to force your voice too far could make you sound strange, which is something you want to avoid.
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If you hate the newest trend and adopt it just because it's cool, you won't feel comfortable.\\nAvoid wearing clothes that are dirty or ripped (unless that is intentionally part of your style).\\nUse detail, like a belt, necklace, tie, or style of clothes to draw attention to what you think is your best asset.\\nWear colors that bring out your eyes or that highlight your complexion.\\nAvoid wearing clothes that are either too big, which can make you look frumpy, or too tight, which can make you look and feel uncomfortable.\\n1-3. Practice good dental hygiene so your smile is pearly white.\\nBrush your teeth at least twice a day, floss once a day, and visit the dentist for a cleaning every 6 months. You could also use teeth-whitening toothpaste or strips to reduce yellow stains.\\nA smile full of white teeth has been proven to be a super attractive trait.\\nKeeping your smile healthy will also help eliminate bad breath, which will be a plus when you're flirting!\\n1-4. Adopt a daily skincare routine to promote a healthy glow.\\nStart by determining what kind of skin type you have so you know what kind of products to use. Wash your face in the morning when you wake up and in the evening before you go to bed. Consider using toner, acne-treatments, and lotion to control acne and give your skin an even tone.\\nClear skin will make you look better and feel more confident.\\nIf you have persistent acne or skin issues that don't clear up on their own, schedule a visit with a dermatologist.\\n1-5. Smile\\nChoose to look on the bright side and see the good in every situation. Encourage others around you to do the same with your attitude. People are drawn to others who are happy.\\nPractice smiling at strangers and see how many of them smile back. Not everyone will, but you'll notice that many people respond positively to a warm smile.\\nWhile you want to be encouraging to others, avoid making statements like, “You should smile more,” or, “You should try to be more positive.” These statements will most likely make others feel angry or alienated.\\n1-6. Act and think positively to boost your self-image.\\nIf you start talking to someone thinking that they won't like you, you're already setting yourself up for failure. Accept yourself the way you are, don't judge others, and practice being grateful for big and small things throughout the day.\\nNobody wants to spend a lot of time around someone who is always gloomy or waiting for the worst to happen.\\n1-7. Manage your stress level to appear more relaxed and approachable.\\nStress is a normal part of life, but learning how to healthily cope with stress can make a big difference in how you look and feel daily. 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Find ways to break the touch-barrier to make physical contact.\\nWait until you’re in the middle of a conversation with someone before you touch them—it would be weird to walk up to someone and touch their arm if you’ve never spoken to them before. But during a conversation, a gently placed hand on the arm or shoulder is a nice way to touch someone without it being invasive. Let your hand rest on the person's arm for 1-2 seconds for a quick flirtatious touch.\\nChoose times like when the person says something really funny or if you’re talking about something that makes you feel connected to them.\\nTouch is a big part of flirting, but it can also cross the line into unwanted physical touch pretty quickly. Be cautious and respectful of other people's space.\\n2-3. Get the other person laughing and keep the conversation light.\\nLaughter is contagious and automatically opens people up to each other. Focus on fun and interesting topics rather than sad or dark subjects. Depending on who you're talking to, try out one of these different ways to get someone to laugh:\\nTell a classic joke if you’re trying to break the ice\\nTell a funny anecdote to keep the conversation going and encourage the other person to open up more\\nBe witty or sarcastic to see if you and the other person have similar senses of humor\\nTease someone or use comeback lines to flirt in a lighthearted way\\n2-4. Give a genuine compliment to endear the other person to you.\\nThe key to giving a good compliment is to be sincere and specific. For example, saying “Your eyes are the most beautiful shade of hazel,” is much more impactful than just saying, “You have nice eyes.” Try to avoid giving compliments that are overly-sexual, as you don’t know if that kind of attention would be welcome or not. Try out some of these other flirty lines:\\n“Your laugh is contagious.”\\n“You did such a great job on your presentation the other day. I could take some pointers from you.”\\n“I always start grinning like an idiot every time I see you.”\\n2-5. Focus on the other person instead of on yourself to flatter them.\\nAsk them open-ended questions to draw them out and deepen your connection. Open-ended questions are ones that require more than a “yes” or “no” answer. For example:\\n“Tell me what your ideal weekend looks like.”\\n“Tell me more about ____.”\\n“What are you looking for in a person?”\\n“Tell me about your family growing up.”\\n“What do you like to do to unwind at the end of a long day?”\\n2-6. Practice speaking with a seductive tone to appear more desirable.\\nAccording to studies, men find women who speak with a slightly higher octave to be more attractive than women with a deeper register. On the flip side, women are initially more attracted to men with a deeper voice—but, in the longterm, women aren't impacted as much by octave as men are. 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If you hate the newest trend and adopt it just because it's cool, you won't feel comfortable.\\nAvoid wearing clothes that are dirty or ripped (unless that is intentionally part of your style).\\nUse detail, like a belt, necklace, tie, or style of clothes to draw attention to what you think is your best asset.\\nWear colors that bring out your eyes or that highlight your complexion.\\nAvoid wearing clothes that are either too big, which can make you look frumpy, or too tight, which can make you look and feel uncomfortable.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Practice good dental hygiene so your smile is pearly white.\", \"描述\": \"Brush your teeth at least twice a day, floss once a day, and visit the dentist for a cleaning every 6 months. You could also use teeth-whitening toothpaste or strips to reduce yellow stains.\\nA smile full of white teeth has been proven to be a super attractive trait.\\nKeeping your smile healthy will also help eliminate bad breath, which will be a plus when you're flirting!\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Adopt a daily skincare routine to promote a healthy glow.\", \"描述\": \"Start by determining what kind of skin type you have so you know what kind of products to use. Wash your face in the morning when you wake up and in the evening before you go to bed. Consider using toner, acne-treatments, and lotion to control acne and give your skin an even tone.\\nClear skin will make you look better and feel more confident.\\nIf you have persistent acne or skin issues that don't clear up on their own, schedule a visit with a dermatologist.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Smile\", \"描述\": \"Choose to look on the bright side and see the good in every situation. 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2,860 | How to Attribute a Creative Commons Licensed Work | 1. Finding Information for Your Attribution
1-1. Look for a copyright notice.
Most countries don't require creators to include a copyright notice with their work to get full copyright protection. However, a copyright notice should always be included in your attribution if the creator has included one on their work.
The copyright holder may be different from the individual artist who created the work. For example, a photographer may have made photos under contract for a company. The company, not the photographer, retains the copyright. You would attribute the company that holds the copyright, not the photographer individually.
1-2. Look for a note from the creator.
Many creators have a note attached to their work that specifies how they should be attributed. If you see a note on the work itself, follow the format the creator has specified.
For example, if the creator has a note on their work that says, "Please attribute John Harris as the creator of this work," you would attribute it to John Harris.
If the note does not provide the name of the creator, use the name of the copyright holder in the work's copyright notice.
With visual art, such as photos or scanned art, you may have to right-click (control-click on a Mac) to get information about the image, including attribution information.
1-3. Check the creator's profile if there's no note.
Many websites, such as Deviant Art, allow users to create a profile that provides information about them and their art. Provide credit to the creator's user name if they don't provide a full legal name.
If you're posting your work online, you may want to hyperlink the creator's user name directly to their profile.
For some works, the license applies to the website as a whole, rather than an individual creator (such as content on wikiHow). Attribute the content to the website itself rather than naming an individual creator.
1-4. Locate the Creative Commons symbols on or near the work.
The creator may have a textual CC notice, or they may have a button that lists the type of license they've chosen. These buttons are provided by Creative Commons when a creator chooses a license.
If you click on the license button, it will take you directly to the description of the license terms on the Creative Commons website.
1-5. Determine how the license affects your use of the work.
Creative Commons offers 6 different types of licenses, each of which provides different levels of protection to the creator. If your use isn't covered by the creator's CC license, you'll have to contact the creator to negotiate a separate license for your use.
If you see "CC BY" only, this is an Attribution-only license, which is the least restrictive of the CC licenses. You can do whatever you want with the original work, for commercial or non-commercial purposes, as long as you attribute the original creator.
CC BY-SA is a ShareAlike license. You can remix, tweak, or build upon the original work, even for commercial purposes, as long as you credit the original creator and license your work under the same terms as the original.
CC BY-ND is a NoDerivs license. You can redistribute the original work (provided you credit the creator), for commercial or non-commercial purposes, but you can't change it in any way.
CC BY-NC is a NonCommercial license. You can redistribute, remix, tweak, or build upon the original work. Unlike the ShareAlike license, you don't have to license your work under the same terms as the original. As the name implies, you cannot use the work for commercial purposes.
CC BY-NC-SA combines the ShareAlike and NonCommercial licenses. You can redistribute, remix, tweak, or build upon the original work, but it must be for non-commercial purposes, and you must license your work under the same terms as the original work.
CC BY-NC-ND combines the NonCommercial and NoDerivs license. It is the most restrictive of the CC licenses, and only allows you to redistribute the original work for non-commercial purposes, without changing it in any way.
1-6. Contact the creator if you have any questions.
CC licenses don't require you to contact the creator before you use their work. However, if you're not sure whether the use you have planned would fit under their license, find out for sure before you begin.
If you found the work on a blog or website that is run by the original creator, they typically have contact information available. Look for an "About" or "Contact" page.
Some blogging platforms and social networks also have ways for you to contact a user directly. You may need an account with that particular platform or network to use these services.
2. Creating Your Attribution
2-1. Start with the full title of the work.
Nearly all CC licenses require you to note the full title of the work in your attribution. Use the title of the work listed by the creator. You'll find the title at the top of a written work, or in the caption of a piece of visual art.
If the work doesn't have a title, attribute by referring to it as "this work." You can also call it "Untitled."
When in doubt, copy and paste the copyright or licensing information into your page to ensure that you properly credit the source.
2-2. Keep any copyright notice intact.
Some creators include the copyright symbol (©) in addition to the Creative Commons license information. If the creator has a copyright notice on their work, follow their lead and include this information in your attribution.
For example, you might see a notice that says "All work on this blog © 2017 by Sally Sunshine." Start your attribution by copying that copyright notice first.
2-3. Add the appropriate CC abbreviations.
Copy this information exactly as it appears on the work you want to use. Make sure your use falls within the parameters of the license the creator has chosen.
Even if you provide an attribution for the original work, the creator may still make a copyright infringement claim against you if your use falls outside their CC license.
2-4. Link back to the original work.
When you provide a link to the original work, you allow your readers or viewers to go back and view the unaltered version. Use a direct, permanent link to the work itself, rather than a generic link to the creator's web page.
You don't have to simply copy the URL, which may be long and ugly, into your attribution. Instead, hyperlink the title of the work.
2-5. Note any alterations you made to the original.
At the end of your attribution, provide a brief summary of how you tweaked or built upon the original work in creating your own. This separates your work from the work done by the original creator.
For example, if you used a color photo by Sally Sunshine, but desaturated it so that it was in black and white, your attribution might look like this: "Dancing at Daybreak, © 2017 by Sally Sunshine, used under CC BY/ Desaturated from original." You could link directly to the original by creating a hyperlink of the title. You could also turn her name into a link that goes to her profile, website, or blog.
2-6. Use the Creative Commons license builder to format your attribution.
If you want to create a graphic that looks the same as the original CC license, the license builder will create one for you. This is a good option if you're using work under a license that requires you to license your work under the same terms as the original.
Go to http://creativecommons.org/choose/ and make the appropriate selections based on the license requirements for the original work. The license builder will generate HTML code for you to copy and paste onto your web page.
Your attribution does not have to be excessively complicated, but make sure that you properly give credit.
3. Getting Your Own Creative Commons License
3-1. Visit the CC license chooser.
Creative Commons licenses are free and available to anyone who is the creator of original work. You don't have to register your copyright in the work before you get a Creative Commons license.
Go to https://creativecommons.org/choose/ to begin the process of choosing your license.
Creative Commons licenses are not the same thing as copyright registration. While you have copyright protection from the moment you create your work, if you're sharing your work online you may also want to register the copyright.
3-2. Provide information about your work.
The first two questions on the license builder page determine the features your CC license will have. The builder automatically updates the other panels on the page based on your choices.
Click the question mark below the question if you're unsure how your choice will affect your license. It will pull up information about that license feature.
Under "Help others attribute you!" you'll find a link where you can enter information about your work, including your name and the title of the work. This is optional, but provides metadata that will allow others to create attributions to your work more easily.
3-3. Copy and paste the HTML code to your website.
Based on your answers to the two questions, the license builder generates code that will create a CC license icon on your website. You can choose from two sizes of icons.
Simply paste the code at the bottom of the post if you want the icon to appear after an individual piece of work that you're posting on your blog or website.
You can also create a license that covers all content on your blog or website. If you didn't design your website, contact your website designer. Let them know where you want to include the icon and provide them the code.
3-4. Edit the description if necessary.
The code provided by Creative Commons includes descriptive elements that you can change to suit your needs without messing up your icon. You can use this description to provide more information to your visitors.
The basic text says "This work is licensed under" followed by the name of your license. Those words can be changed to specify the work licensed, or to let visitors know the entire website is licensed.
For example, you might change your descriptive text to read "Except where otherwise noted, all content on this website is licensed under."
Tips
A good rule of thumb is to use the acronym TASL when creating your work, which stands for Title, Author, Source, and License. This will ensure that you give proper credit.
Warnings
Be careful when getting a Creative Commons license. One you apply for it, it cannot be revoked or cancelled.
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Determine how the license affects your use of the work.\\nCreative Commons offers 6 different types of licenses, each of which provides different levels of protection to the creator. If your use isn't covered by the creator's CC license, you'll have to contact the creator to negotiate a separate license for your use.\\nIf you see \\\"CC BY\\\" only, this is an Attribution-only license, which is the least restrictive of the CC licenses. You can do whatever you want with the original work, for commercial or non-commercial purposes, as long as you attribute the original creator.\\nCC BY-SA is a ShareAlike license. You can remix, tweak, or build upon the original work, even for commercial purposes, as long as you credit the original creator and license your work under the same terms as the original.\\nCC BY-ND is a NoDerivs license. You can redistribute the original work (provided you credit the creator), for commercial or non-commercial purposes, but you can't change it in any way.\\nCC BY-NC is a NonCommercial license. You can redistribute, remix, tweak, or build upon the original work. Unlike the ShareAlike license, you don't have to license your work under the same terms as the original. As the name implies, you cannot use the work for commercial purposes.\\nCC BY-NC-SA combines the ShareAlike and NonCommercial licenses. You can redistribute, remix, tweak, or build upon the original work, but it must be for non-commercial purposes, and you must license your work under the same terms as the original work.\\nCC BY-NC-ND combines the NonCommercial and NoDerivs license. It is the most restrictive of the CC licenses, and only allows you to redistribute the original work for non-commercial purposes, without changing it in any way.\\n1-6. Contact the creator if you have any questions.\\nCC licenses don't require you to contact the creator before you use their work. However, if you're not sure whether the use you have planned would fit under their license, find out for sure before you begin.\\nIf you found the work on a blog or website that is run by the original creator, they typically have contact information available. Look for an \\\"About\\\" or \\\"Contact\\\" page.\\nSome blogging platforms and social networks also have ways for you to contact a user directly. You may need an account with that particular platform or network to use these services.\\n2. Creating Your Attribution\\n2-1. Start with the full title of the work.\\nNearly all CC licenses require you to note the full title of the work in your attribution. Use the title of the work listed by the creator. You'll find the title at the top of a written work, or in the caption of a piece of visual art.\\nIf the work doesn't have a title, attribute by referring to it as \\\"this work.\\\" You can also call it \\\"Untitled.\\\"\\nWhen in doubt, copy and paste the copyright or licensing information into your page to ensure that you properly credit the source.\\n2-2. Keep any copyright notice intact.\\nSome creators include the copyright symbol (©) in addition to the Creative Commons license information. If the creator has a copyright notice on their work, follow their lead and include this information in your attribution.\\nFor example, you might see a notice that says \\\"All work on this blog © 2017 by Sally Sunshine.\\\" Start your attribution by copying that copyright notice first.\\n2-3. Add the appropriate CC abbreviations.\\nCopy this information exactly as it appears on the work you want to use. Make sure your use falls within the parameters of the license the creator has chosen.\\nEven if you provide an attribution for the original work, the creator may still make a copyright infringement claim against you if your use falls outside their CC license.\\n2-4. Link back to the original work.\\nWhen you provide a link to the original work, you allow your readers or viewers to go back and view the unaltered version. Use a direct, permanent link to the work itself, rather than a generic link to the creator's web page. \\nYou don't have to simply copy the URL, which may be long and ugly, into your attribution. Instead, hyperlink the title of the work.\\n2-5. Note any alterations you made to the original.\\nAt the end of your attribution, provide a brief summary of how you tweaked or built upon the original work in creating your own. This separates your work from the work done by the original creator.\\nFor example, if you used a color photo by Sally Sunshine, but desaturated it so that it was in black and white, your attribution might look like this: \\\"Dancing at Daybreak, © 2017 by Sally Sunshine, used under CC BY/ Desaturated from original.\\\" You could link directly to the original by creating a hyperlink of the title. You could also turn her name into a link that goes to her profile, website, or blog.\\n2-6. Use the Creative Commons license builder to format your attribution.\\nIf you want to create a graphic that looks the same as the original CC license, the license builder will create one for you. This is a good option if you're using work under a license that requires you to license your work under the same terms as the original.\\nGo to http://creativecommons.org/choose/ and make the appropriate selections based on the license requirements for the original work. The license builder will generate HTML code for you to copy and paste onto your web page.\\nYour attribution does not have to be excessively complicated, but make sure that you properly give credit.\\n3. Getting Your Own Creative Commons License\\n3-1. Visit the CC license chooser.\\nCreative Commons licenses are free and available to anyone who is the creator of original work. You don't have to register your copyright in the work before you get a Creative Commons license.\\nGo to https://creativecommons.org/choose/ to begin the process of choosing your license.\\nCreative Commons licenses are not the same thing as copyright registration. While you have copyright protection from the moment you create your work, if you're sharing your work online you may also want to register the copyright.\\n3-2. Provide information about your work.\\nThe first two questions on the license builder page determine the features your CC license will have. 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If you didn't design your website, contact your website designer. Let them know where you want to include the icon and provide them the code.\\n3-4. Edit the description if necessary.\\nThe code provided by Creative Commons includes descriptive elements that you can change to suit your needs without messing up your icon. You can use this description to provide more information to your visitors.\\nThe basic text says \\\"This work is licensed under\\\" followed by the name of your license. Those words can be changed to specify the work licensed, or to let visitors know the entire website is licensed.\\nFor example, you might change your descriptive text to read \\\"Except where otherwise noted, all content on this website is licensed under.\\\"\\nTips\\nA good rule of thumb is to use the acronym TASL when creating your work, which stands for Title, Author, Source, and License. This will ensure that you give proper credit.\\nWarnings\\nBe careful when getting a Creative Commons license. 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2,861 | How to Auction in Monopoly | 1. Following the Auction Rules
1-1. Read the rules before you begin to play.
Many people do not play Monopoly according to the rules. This is likely because you were taught how to play as a child and have never actually sat down and read through the rule book. In order to follow the auction rule as written in the rulebook, you should read the rules thoroughly before you play.
1-2. Put a property up for auction if it is not purchased.
The rules of Monopoly state that once you land on an unowned property you can purchase the property from the bank at the stated value. If you choose not to purchase the property, then the banker puts the property up for a public auction immediately.
The reason for this is to speed up the game so that all properties are sold quickly and the game can progress to the trading and development phase.
1-3. Start the bidding at any price.
If a property that is landed on is not purchased and goes up for auction the bidding can start as low as one dollar. All players, including the player who initially passed up the property, are allowed to bid in the auction.
The player who originally passed on the property may want to bid in order to jack up the price for an opponent who is seeking that property, or if they are hoping to get the property for a deal.
1-4. Give the property to the highest bidder.
The auction ends once the highest bid is reached. The cost of the property can continue to rise until no one is willing to bid more. For example, multiple players may want the property in order to gain a monopoly over a certain colour and the bidding will increase substantially.
Payer one may bid $300 and then player two may bid $350. The auction would end when no one is willing or able to pay more than the highest bid on the table.
In this case, if player one did not bid more than $350, then player two would win and pay the bank $350 to acquire the property.
2. Learning the Strategy of Auctioning
2-1. Buy all properties that you land on.
Expert Monopoly players rarely pass up an opportunity to purchase a property. This is because the cost of most properties are already reasonable and you will likely end up paying more getting into a bidding war.
Auctioning also gives your opponents an opportunity to win a property that you could have later traded to them for higher personal value.
2-2. Auction properties only if you can’t afford them.
Some Monopoly players will pass up the opportunity to purchase a property because they fear running out of money, or are not collecting that property colour. This is a bad strategy. If you purchase the property, you could trade it later for a property you need or cash. The only time you should ever auction a property is if you can’t afford to purchase the property.
2-3. Avoid paying more for a property in auction than it was originally worth.
If a property does go up for auction while you are playing Monopoly, try not to get caught up in a bidding war. Always keep in mind the original cost of the property and do not pay more than that price. You may be able to get a property for a deal periodically, but in most cases people will end up paying more for a property through an auction.
3. Playing with House Rules
3-1. Allow players to pass properties without sending them to auction.
Most people do not actually use the auction rule as found in the rulebook. Instead, they alter the rules and play with “house rules.” For example, many people allow players to pass up on a property without sending it to auction. This means that the property will continue to be unowned and can be purchased by the next player who lands on that space.
3-2. Choose to play full auction monopoly.
In the early history of the board game Monopoly there were no fixed prices and each property was purchased through an auction. If you choose to play with these house rules, then anytime a property is landed on, all players have the opportunity to bid on the property.
This can be a fun way to play the game because it allows for more interaction between players and can allow players to bluff and trick their opponents into overpaying for certain properties.
3-3. Agree on an auction rule before you begin play.
If you decide to play with house rules, it is important that you always discuss the rules before you begin playing. All players should come to an agreement on the auction rule that will be followed. This way there will be fewer rule discrepancies during game play.
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Despite the popularity of the game, some casual players do not actually understand the rules for auctioning properties. In order to auction properties in Monopoly, you should read and follow the instructions provided with the game. Once you understand the rules, you can begin to strategize the best times to put a property up for auction. You can also play with house rules, but these should be established before you begin to play.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Following the Auction Rules\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read the rules before you begin to play.\", \"描述\": \"Many people do not play Monopoly according to the rules. This is likely because you were taught how to play as a child and have never actually sat down and read through the rule book. 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2,862 | How to Audit | 1. Planning the Audit
1-1. Confirm that you are suitable for performing the audit.
It needs to be certain that any auditor is absolutely objective in their assessment. Therefore, it is required that the auditor be completely independent from the company. This means that the auditor can have no relationship with the company outside of the audit. This includes that the auditor(s):
Not hold any interest in the company (not own any of the company's stock or bond offerings)
Not work for the company in any other capacity.
Be rotated regularly during the audit process to get fresh opinions on the material.
1-2. Assess the size of the audit.
Before entering into the audit process, the auditor or auditing team should analyze the company and assess the scope of the work. This includes an estimate of how many team members should work on the audit and how long it will take. Additionally, it includes an assessment of any special or work-intensive investigations that must be made during the audit. Figuring this out can help the auditor assemble a team, if necessary, and can provide the company being audited with a timeframe for the process.
1-3. Identify potential mistakes.
Before beginning the audit, the auditor should use their past experience and industry knowledge to attempt to predict areas where the company may have misstated financial information. This will require an in-depth knowledge of both the company and its current operating environment. Obviously, this is a very subjective assessment, so the auditor will have to rely on their own judgment.
1-4. Build an audit strategy.
Once preliminary assessments have been made, you will need to create a plan to carry out the audit. Lay out all of the different actions that need to be taken, including areas that you think may be of the most interest. Assign team members to each task, if applicable. Then, create a timeline for when each action needs to be completed. Know that this timeline may be changed significantly throughout the auditing process in response to new information.
2. Conducting the Audit
2-1. Give advance notice.
You will need to give the organization being audited plenty of time for them to get their records ready. Tell them the time period to be audited (the fiscal year, for example), and a list of documents that they need to have ready for review. These include:
Bank statements for the year being audited
Bank account reconciliation reports. This is where bank statements were compared to cash receipts and disbursements.
Check register for the time period being audited
Canceled checks
A list of transactions that were posted to the general ledger (a manual or online system that tracks a company's transactions, including income and expenditures).
Check request and reimbursement forms, including receipts and invoices for all expenditures
Deposit receipts
The annual budget and monthly treasurer reports
2-2. Verify that all outgoing checks were properly signed, accounted for and posted to the correct accounts.
If they can be substantiated, all the better. However, as an external auditor, that's not in your scope of influence. You just need to make sure everything was posted to the proper account.
For example, there may be two different Accounts Payable, one for raw materials and one for office supplies.
2-3. Ensure that all deposits were properly posted.
This means they were entered into the correct accounts and ledger line in the general ledger. Very basically, these would be accounts receivables, but they should be further broken down (or could be) into specific receivables, depending upon the complexity of the organization.
For example, revenue from the sale of a product would be entered into accounts receivable, while dividends issued might be entered into Retained Earnings.
3. Auditing Financial Statements and Reports
3-1. Review all financial statements.
These include balance sheets and income statements for the time period being audited. Ensure that all transactions are properly recorded and accounted for in the general ledger. Any unusual deposits or withdrawals must be noted and ensured that they were properly accounted for and legitimate. Check that all these accounts were reconciled monthly.
An unusual deposit might be a very large amount or one from a business located outside the country. Unusual withdrawals would be if substantial amounts of money are going to one person or business over a long period of time.
Reconciling means comparing two different reports or documentation. For example, cash and investments are compared to bank and brokerage firms' statements. Additionally, receivable and payable accounts should be compared to customer orders and bills, respectively. For inventory, a physical count and valuation can be done at least once a year to make sure the information in the general ledger is accurate.
For reconciliation, the auditor doesn't need to look at every single transaction. Taking a statistical sample of the total number of transactions (analyzing a small number and applying the percentage error to the whole set) can provide similar results in a shorter time.
3-2. Ensure compliance with all state and federal requirements.
If you are auditing a non-profit organization, verify their 501 tax-exempt status and that the proper forms have been filed. Ensure federal and state taxes returns, incorporation renewal and state sales tax forms, example, have been filed as necessary.
3-3. Review all the treasurer's reports.
Make sure that what was reported was recorded and the totals from report to ledger books match accurately. Check to see that an annual treasurer's report was prepared and filed.
4. Completing the Audit and Making Recommendations
4-1. Complete the financial review worksheet.
This is a summary of all the activity for the period (usually annually, but could be quarterly as well). This includes:
The cash balance at the beginning of the period
All of the receipts during that time
Any and all of the payouts during that time
The cash at the end of the period
4-2. Suggest improvements to internal controls.
Make sure to especially note when improprieties exist. If you are asked to do so, assess the organization's performance against their budget or other metrics.
For example, you may want to suggest that two people sign every check, not just one. There may be documents that are disposed of at the end of the year, when they should be saved for a longer time period for tax purposes. Point out that originals need to be saved, not copies. Define the time period that all emails should be saved, usually for 7 years.
4-3. Determine your audit opinion.
At the conclusion of the audit, the auditor must draft an audit opinion. This document states whether or not the financial information provided by the company is free of error and reported correctly under generally accepted accounting principle (GAAP) standards. Whether or not the reports meet these criteria is up to the judgment of the auditor. If they are reported correctly and free of error, the auditor issues a clean opinion. If not, the auditor issues a modified opinion. Modified opinions are also used if the auditor feels as though they were unable to issue a complete audit (for any reason).
4-4. Submit your signed document.
This is a statement that you have completed the audit and you have found that either the ledgers are accurate or that there are issues. If you found any issues, such as missing checks or receipts (without explanation) or otherwise a math discrepancy, you should point those out in the report. It is also helpful to include any information you deem appropriate to assist in fixing those issues or preventing their recurrence for the next audit period.
Tips
Honesty must be the number one requirement of any auditor position. Companies expect 100 percent honesty from an auditor. If you plan on going into this career, plan on being honest no matter what. If you cannot give it, this is not the career for you. Auditors are supposed to catch dishonesty, not create it.
Warnings
Beware of forged checks.
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2,863 | How to Audition | 1. Preparing Before the Audition
1-1. Do your homework on the gig.
Look on the website to see what the directors are looking for from the audition. When auditioning for a theater company, make sure you know some background information (past shows, date established, awards won, etc.) on the company. The casting people will be pleased to hear something different than "Not much" if they ask you what you know about the company. Some things to look for include:
If you can, learn as much about the play, commercial or scene as possible. Being able to talk convincingly about why you want the part will help you get the part.
You're not going to get details on their personal life, but learn about their requirements and expectation of you. You need to know what the director or casting agent expects from you and give them more then they expect from you.
Are you supposed to be funny? Dark and serious? Oftentimes this is said up front, but you may need to do some character research, especially if it is a play or event that's already been shown.
When are you needed for practice or performances? Nothing hurts your reputation like earning a role, but turning it down because you can't actually play the part.
1-2. Run through the materials back and forth, until you can perform the audition without a script or notes.
Know that, in the room, it is okay to check your notes every now and then, but you'll always be more convincing if you have the words mostly memorized. This lets you focus more on acting and less on reading. If the audition requires you to memorize a monolog, make sure you have it completely memorized and are ready to act it out.
If the part has multiple characters, get a few friends to practice with you. While you could just practice your lines, having someone to help with timing and reactions will make you stronger.
Don't just read the lines blindly -- pick a way to read the lines (cold, happy, funny, depressed, professional, etc.) that fits the character and practice reading the script in this tone.
All good monologues have movement -- meaning the character is in a different place emotionally than when they finish than when they started talking. If you can practice this transition the role is yours.
1-3. Practice reading monologues from scratch, or "cold reading" to get used to auditioning under pressure.
A cold read is when the crew give you a piece to audition that you've never read and has you perform it on the spot. Cold reads are tricky, but just remember that everyone starts from scratch, too. The best way to nail a cold read is to practice -- grab a book of monologues, pick one at random, and just start acting. You can even practice with magazine or newspaper articles.
Focus first on reading each word clearly and calmly. Your first goal is to make sure all the lines get out clearly.
When given a cold read, pick a mood or tone and just roll with it. Don't try to get the perfect mood, just trust your guts and commit.
1-4. Get a good night's sleep
You don't want to yawn or have your stomach rumble during the audition. If you are singing, avoid dairy, caffeine or anything else that you know will dry out your voice or cause phlegm.
If this audition includes singing or speaking it is recommended to stay away from chocolate and dairy products that will make your mouth too moist. Instead, try to drink some warm tea with lemon and honey.
1-5. Wear presentable, neutral clothing.
Aim to look professional and make a good first impression. A clean buttoned shirt and jeans or a plain dress are good choices. Don't try to make a statement or match the character's clothing -- your goal is to blend into the character before their eyes, and the more unique your clothing, the harder this will be.
Some auditions require dance, so wear something comfortable to move in.
For shoes, you can wear running shoes or flats. Make sure you're comfortable! Also, if there is dancing, you may want to bring jazz or character shoes.
1-6. Do not change your appearance for an audition.
For example, even if you think the character would look better blond/brunette, etc., don't dye your hair or cut it. Many things can be done to "reshape" you later if they think this is necessary. If you'd like, add your willingness to make changes on your written audition paper, but don't do something radical before you've even gotten the part. At best, you'll make it a little easier on the makeup department if you get the part, but at worst you'll present a version of the character that doesn't even match the directors, instantly losing the part.
If you are underage, ask your parent or guardian if it's okay for you to make changes should you get the role. Don't just "assume" that your super cool mom will say yes. There is nothing worse than having an angry director because your parents wouldn't let you do the thing you said you would.
1-7. Have an idea what to expect to avoid any surprises.
Read the notice for the audition and make sure to check out any scripts or contracts you're sent fully. If this is your first audition, know that the procedure is pretty simple. You check in when you arrive, and will be called in when it is your turn. There may be one person watching you, there could be five, but they will all be kind and supportive. Depending on the audition, you may be asked to:
Deliver your prepared monologue
Perform a song of your choosing
Cold read a brand new scene or monologue
Improvise line with others
2. Acing the Audition
2-1. Be considerate of other actors who are auditioning.
Do not approach them to talk unless invited or it is an emergency -- many actors like quiet time to prepare for the role before they go in. In general, it's best not to talk at all, lest you lose focus before you go before the auditioners. Bring a copy of the script or a monologue and brush up on your materials -- you never know what you'll find.
2-2. Be kind but confident -- walk into the room like you own it.
When your name is called, walk in with a hello and a smile. Don't fidget, ask for advice, or creep in with hesitation -- you're there to command an audience's attention, and the casting crew is the first audience you have. Be sure to make eye contact, act friendly, and seem like a nice person to work with. Act like you're meeting new coworkers -- cordial and kind but still professional.
Don't bother asking for advice or direction -- if they have some, they'll give it.
Do not try to make too much conversation with the casting officials; they have others auditioning, too.
If the auditioners ask you if you are nervous, respond no. Instead, say that you are excited. This way, you seem more confident that you may actually be.
2-3. Stand up straight and stay in place once the camera is set.
Most auditions have a small home movie camera set up to record all of the auditions, which allows the director to rewatch when making his/her final decision. Once you've taken your place, plant your feet and keep them there. While you can move slightly to be expressive, you'll show true professionalism if you stay on camera.
It's called public solitude as an actor to be able to be on stage or in front of a camera and to not be distracted by either.
2-4. Once you've started, commit fully.
Don't ask for apologies or do-overs -- once get going, let yourself fall back on your practice and training. If you miss a word or need a quick pause, that is okay. What is most important is not to say "sorry," "can I try that again," or "let me have a do-over." Casting directors aren't just looking for the role, they are looking for a serious, professional co-worker, and this confidence will put you ahead of many other actors who are worried about being "perfect."
If the casting director wants to see another take, they'll ask, so don't fret and worry that you blew your own chance on a missed word they may not have noticed.
2-5. Attempt to show growth and character depth by evolving as you act, no matter how small the part.
This doesn't mean you always start with a smile and end with tears. It simply means you find an arc, however small, in your character's role. A good scene, song, or commercial ends in a different place then it started, and your job as an actor is to help show this. All roles are different, but there are some common ways to show growth:
Basically, you let your energy grow as the scene does, which makes the ending the most energetic or momentous moment of the audition. This can help you both selling cars in a commercial or expressing your passion for an unrequited love.
Find the line or moment when your character seems to shift gears, ideas, or emotions. This line is often the most crucial of the whole audition, as it requires you to naturally shift your acting from one emotion or the other.
Maybe your character is under pressure in the scene and they slowly start to fidget more. Maybe, as they keep talking, they grow confident, sitting up straighter and straighter as they go.
2-6. Treat any audition partners or readers with respect and attention.
Some auditions have another person in the room with you, a casting agent who acts out other roles in the play to see how you handle dialogue. No matter who is helping you, give them everything you've got as if you were acting across from Meryl Streep.
Never blame a reader for a tough audition. Like most people trying to act, they will only give back as much energy as you give them. If you're in the role and committed, they will be too.
2-7. Stick to your choices and ideas unless told otherwise by the director.
Don't try to change your game plan last minute after seeing another actor, or because you suddenly feel like you are wrong the role. Remember that your confidence and practice are more important than reading a director's mind, and you'll only get in your own head if you show up to please someone. Trust yourself and your choices and focus on you. The rest will fall into place.
3. Building Relationships After the Audition
3-1. Be understanding and gracious to the staff and director.
If you did not get the part, job, or whatever you were trying out for, be gracious to the director or other casting officials. They had to see and reject many others just like you. It doesn't mean that you are any less talented than the person who got the job, sometimes it just comes down to something as simple as your height or way you move. If you like, you could ask them why they rejected you to see how you could improve.
Stay pleasant. You never know when the initial casting might go wrong or they need someone extra and they remember the very gracious, pleasant you who was ranked number 2 selection on their list. Don't do anything to sour the good impression that they had of you; always leave the doors wide open.
There are many different reasons why you might not get a part, but it is rarely "your fault." Directors often have specific ideas in mind for their characters, and it's not your fault if you don't fit them.
3-2. Understand that you may have tried out for more roles than you think.
Oftentimes, casting directors have general monologues that they like to get a feel for actors, even if you are (unknowingly) auditioning for different parts. Other times you'll try out for a part and do well, but will fit better for another role. If you get your heart set on one particular role it may be hard to get ready for a different part. However, you should be thankful for and approach any role you're given with professionalism. The casting director clearly saw something in you that they like.
3-3. Leave your headshot and resume with the casting director or agency.
You never know when a director is looking for someone just like you for another project. Many casting directors like to keep records of actors they like, building relationships even if this particular part isn't right to you.
Make sure that the headshots you have were professionally taken. While it may be tempting to simply ask a friend to take the photos, at the highest level you really need your headshots to pop.
3-4. Prepare new monologues, songs, or work for any call-back auditions.
Call-backs are a way to winnow down the field. 100 people may try out for the first round, but only 10 may be called back for a second round. If you get called back, be sure to prepare new material to perform, preferably showing a slightly different side of yourself and not a similar monologue to the last one.
Generally, always have at least two tonally contrasting monologues prepared to perform. Be sure not to pick monologues that are frequently performed (like ones that pop up when you search "best monologues"), or ones that are famous.
3-5. Keep going to auditions to get better and get more roles.
Even if you are sure that you will not get the job, there is no harm in going to an audition just to practice auditioning. It is almost impossible to get the job every time, so why not practice for when that show or spot in the company finally opens up? You are more likely to get in if you have more experience under your belt. Eventually, you are sure to be cast in something!
Tips
Smile –– directors love a nice grin.
Auditioners notice the slightest things, such as the way you stand or what you're doing with your hands. Be alert to the things you're doing (such as fidgeting) and maintain impeccable posture.
Remember that you don't have to get in. If you don't, you can always try again next year!
Warnings
Never pay for an audition, whether for a play, movie or casting agency. They should pay you if you are hired for a paying role. This may be a scam. Also, if the auditioners ask for money, alert all others auditioning about the possible scam.
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Oftentimes this is said up front, but you may need to do some character research, especially if it is a play or event that's already been shown.\\n When are you needed for practice or performances? Nothing hurts your reputation like earning a role, but turning it down because you can't actually play the part.\\n1-2. Run through the materials back and forth, until you can perform the audition without a script or notes.\\nKnow that, in the room, it is okay to check your notes every now and then, but you'll always be more convincing if you have the words mostly memorized. This lets you focus more on acting and less on reading. If the audition requires you to memorize a monolog, make sure you have it completely memorized and are ready to act it out.\\nIf the part has multiple characters, get a few friends to practice with you. While you could just practice your lines, having someone to help with timing and reactions will make you stronger.\\nDon't just read the lines blindly -- pick a way to read the lines (cold, happy, funny, depressed, professional, etc.) that fits the character and practice reading the script in this tone.\\nAll good monologues have movement -- meaning the character is in a different place emotionally than when they finish than when they started talking. If you can practice this transition the role is yours.\\n1-3. Practice reading monologues from scratch, or \\\"cold reading\\\" to get used to auditioning under pressure.\\nA cold read is when the crew give you a piece to audition that you've never read and has you perform it on the spot. Cold reads are tricky, but just remember that everyone starts from scratch, too. The best way to nail a cold read is to practice -- grab a book of monologues, pick one at random, and just start acting. You can even practice with magazine or newspaper articles.\\nFocus first on reading each word clearly and calmly. Your first goal is to make sure all the lines get out clearly.\\nWhen given a cold read, pick a mood or tone and just roll with it. Don't try to get the perfect mood, just trust your guts and commit.\\n1-4. Get a good night's sleep\\nYou don't want to yawn or have your stomach rumble during the audition. If you are singing, avoid dairy, caffeine or anything else that you know will dry out your voice or cause phlegm.\\nIf this audition includes singing or speaking it is recommended to stay away from chocolate and dairy products that will make your mouth too moist. Instead, try to drink some warm tea with lemon and honey.\\n1-5. Wear presentable, neutral clothing.\\nAim to look professional and make a good first impression. A clean buttoned shirt and jeans or a plain dress are good choices. Don't try to make a statement or match the character's clothing -- your goal is to blend into the character before their eyes, and the more unique your clothing, the harder this will be.\\nSome auditions require dance, so wear something comfortable to move in.\\nFor shoes, you can wear running shoes or flats. Make sure you're comfortable! Also, if there is dancing, you may want to bring jazz or character shoes.\\n1-6. Do not change your appearance for an audition.\\nFor example, even if you think the character would look better blond/brunette, etc., don't dye your hair or cut it. Many things can be done to \\\"reshape\\\" you later if they think this is necessary. If you'd like, add your willingness to make changes on your written audition paper, but don't do something radical before you've even gotten the part. At best, you'll make it a little easier on the makeup department if you get the part, but at worst you'll present a version of the character that doesn't even match the directors, instantly losing the part.\\nIf you are underage, ask your parent or guardian if it's okay for you to make changes should you get the role. Don't just \\\"assume\\\" that your super cool mom will say yes. There is nothing worse than having an angry director because your parents wouldn't let you do the thing you said you would.\\n1-7. Have an idea what to expect to avoid any surprises.\\nRead the notice for the audition and make sure to check out any scripts or contracts you're sent fully. If this is your first audition, know that the procedure is pretty simple. You check in when you arrive, and will be called in when it is your turn. There may be one person watching you, there could be five, but they will all be kind and supportive. Depending on the audition, you may be asked to:\\nDeliver your prepared monologue\\nPerform a song of your choosing\\nCold read a brand new scene or monologue\\nImprovise line with others\\n2. Acing the Audition\\n2-1. Be considerate of other actors who are auditioning.\\nDo not approach them to talk unless invited or it is an emergency -- many actors like quiet time to prepare for the role before they go in. In general, it's best not to talk at all, lest you lose focus before you go before the auditioners. Bring a copy of the script or a monologue and brush up on your materials -- you never know what you'll find.\\n2-2. Be kind but confident -- walk into the room like you own it.\\nWhen your name is called, walk in with a hello and a smile. Don't fidget, ask for advice, or creep in with hesitation -- you're there to command an audience's attention, and the casting crew is the first audience you have. Be sure to make eye contact, act friendly, and seem like a nice person to work with. Act like you're meeting new coworkers -- cordial and kind but still professional.\\nDon't bother asking for advice or direction -- if they have some, they'll give it.\\nDo not try to make too much conversation with the casting officials; they have others auditioning, too.\\nIf the auditioners ask you if you are nervous, respond no. Instead, say that you are excited. This way, you seem more confident that you may actually be.\\n2-3. Stand up straight and stay in place once the camera is set.\\nMost auditions have a small home movie camera set up to record all of the auditions, which allows the director to rewatch when making his/her final decision. Once you've taken your place, plant your feet and keep them there. While you can move slightly to be expressive, you'll show true professionalism if you stay on camera.\\nIt's called public solitude as an actor to be able to be on stage or in front of a camera and to not be distracted by either.\\n2-4. Once you've started, commit fully.\\nDon't ask for apologies or do-overs -- once get going, let yourself fall back on your practice and training. If you miss a word or need a quick pause, that is okay. What is most important is not to say \\\"sorry,\\\" \\\"can I try that again,\\\" or \\\"let me have a do-over.\\\" Casting directors aren't just looking for the role, they are looking for a serious, professional co-worker, and this confidence will put you ahead of many other actors who are worried about being \\\"perfect.\\\"\\nIf the casting director wants to see another take, they'll ask, so don't fret and worry that you blew your own chance on a missed word they may not have noticed.\\n2-5. Attempt to show growth and character depth by evolving as you act, no matter how small the part.\\nThis doesn't mean you always start with a smile and end with tears. It simply means you find an arc, however small, in your character's role. A good scene, song, or commercial ends in a different place then it started, and your job as an actor is to help show this. All roles are different, but there are some common ways to show growth:\\n\\n Basically, you let your energy grow as the scene does, which makes the ending the most energetic or momentous moment of the audition. This can help you both selling cars in a commercial or expressing your passion for an unrequited love.\\n Find the line or moment when your character seems to shift gears, ideas, or emotions. This line is often the most crucial of the whole audition, as it requires you to naturally shift your acting from one emotion or the other.\\n Maybe your character is under pressure in the scene and they slowly start to fidget more. Maybe, as they keep talking, they grow confident, sitting up straighter and straighter as they go.\\n2-6. Treat any audition partners or readers with respect and attention.\\nSome auditions have another person in the room with you, a casting agent who acts out other roles in the play to see how you handle dialogue. No matter who is helping you, give them everything you've got as if you were acting across from Meryl Streep.\\nNever blame a reader for a tough audition. Like most people trying to act, they will only give back as much energy as you give them. If you're in the role and committed, they will be too.\\n2-7. Stick to your choices and ideas unless told otherwise by the director.\\nDon't try to change your game plan last minute after seeing another actor, or because you suddenly feel like you are wrong the role. Remember that your confidence and practice are more important than reading a director's mind, and you'll only get in your own head if you show up to please someone. Trust yourself and your choices and focus on you. The rest will fall into place.\\n3. Building Relationships After the Audition\\n3-1. Be understanding and gracious to the staff and director.\\nIf you did not get the part, job, or whatever you were trying out for, be gracious to the director or other casting officials. They had to see and reject many others just like you. It doesn't mean that you are any less talented than the person who got the job, sometimes it just comes down to something as simple as your height or way you move. If you like, you could ask them why they rejected you to see how you could improve.\\nStay pleasant. You never know when the initial casting might go wrong or they need someone extra and they remember the very gracious, pleasant you who was ranked number 2 selection on their list. Don't do anything to sour the good impression that they had of you; always leave the doors wide open.\\nThere are many different reasons why you might not get a part, but it is rarely \\\"your fault.\\\" Directors often have specific ideas in mind for their characters, and it's not your fault if you don't fit them.\\n3-2. Understand that you may have tried out for more roles than you think.\\nOftentimes, casting directors have general monologues that they like to get a feel for actors, even if you are (unknowingly) auditioning for different parts. Other times you'll try out for a part and do well, but will fit better for another role. If you get your heart set on one particular role it may be hard to get ready for a different part. However, you should be thankful for and approach any role you're given with professionalism. The casting director clearly saw something in you that they like.\\n3-3. Leave your headshot and resume with the casting director or agency.\\nYou never know when a director is looking for someone just like you for another project. Many casting directors like to keep records of actors they like, building relationships even if this particular part isn't right to you.\\nMake sure that the headshots you have were professionally taken. While it may be tempting to simply ask a friend to take the photos, at the highest level you really need your headshots to pop.\\n3-4. Prepare new monologues, songs, or work for any call-back auditions.\\nCall-backs are a way to winnow down the field. 100 people may try out for the first round, but only 10 may be called back for a second round. If you get called back, be sure to prepare new material to perform, preferably showing a slightly different side of yourself and not a similar monologue to the last one.\\nGenerally, always have at least two tonally contrasting monologues prepared to perform. Be sure not to pick monologues that are frequently performed (like ones that pop up when you search \\\"best monologues\\\"), or ones that are famous.\\n3-5. Keep going to auditions to get better and get more roles.\\nEven if you are sure that you will not get the job, there is no harm in going to an audition just to practice auditioning. It is almost impossible to get the job every time, so why not practice for when that show or spot in the company finally opens up? You are more likely to get in if you have more experience under your belt. Eventually, you are sure to be cast in something!\\nTips\\nSmile –– directors love a nice grin.\\nAuditioners notice the slightest things, such as the way you stand or what you're doing with your hands. Be alert to the things you're doing (such as fidgeting) and maintain impeccable posture.\\nRemember that you don't have to get in. If you don't, you can always try again next year!\\nWarnings\\nNever pay for an audition, whether for a play, movie or casting agency. They should pay you if you are hired for a paying role. This may be a scam. Also, if the auditioners ask for money, alert all others auditioning about the possible scam.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Whether you're auditioning for a play, an academic entrance, or a movie, you need to know how to properly audition. While there are many different types of auditions and ways to prepare, the most important thing is to practice beforehand and to walk in with confidence. If you're well prepared and comfortable, you'll have the audition in the palm of your hand.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Preparing Before the Audition\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Do your homework on the gig.\", \"描述\": \"Look on the website to see what the directors are looking for from the audition. When auditioning for a theater company, make sure you know some background information (past shows, date established, awards won, etc.) on the company. The casting people will be pleased to hear something different than \\\"Not much\\\" if they ask you what you know about the company. Some things to look for include:\\n\\n If you can, learn as much about the play, commercial or scene as possible. Being able to talk convincingly about why you want the part will help you get the part.\\n You're not going to get details on their personal life, but learn about their requirements and expectation of you. You need to know what the director or casting agent expects from you and give them more then they expect from you.\\n Are you supposed to be funny? Dark and serious? Oftentimes this is said up front, but you may need to do some character research, especially if it is a play or event that's already been shown.\\n When are you needed for practice or performances? Nothing hurts your reputation like earning a role, but turning it down because you can't actually play the part.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Run through the materials back and forth, until you can perform the audition without a script or notes.\", \"描述\": \"Know that, in the room, it is okay to check your notes every now and then, but you'll always be more convincing if you have the words mostly memorized. This lets you focus more on acting and less on reading. If the audition requires you to memorize a monolog, make sure you have it completely memorized and are ready to act it out.\\nIf the part has multiple characters, get a few friends to practice with you. While you could just practice your lines, having someone to help with timing and reactions will make you stronger.\\nDon't just read the lines blindly -- pick a way to read the lines (cold, happy, funny, depressed, professional, etc.) that fits the character and practice reading the script in this tone.\\nAll good monologues have movement -- meaning the character is in a different place emotionally than when they finish than when they started talking. If you can practice this transition the role is yours.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Practice reading monologues from scratch, or \\\"cold reading\\\" to get used to auditioning under pressure.\", \"描述\": \"A cold read is when the crew give you a piece to audition that you've never read and has you perform it on the spot. Cold reads are tricky, but just remember that everyone starts from scratch, too. The best way to nail a cold read is to practice -- grab a book of monologues, pick one at random, and just start acting. You can even practice with magazine or newspaper articles.\\nFocus first on reading each word clearly and calmly. Your first goal is to make sure all the lines get out clearly.\\nWhen given a cold read, pick a mood or tone and just roll with it. Don't try to get the perfect mood, just trust your guts and commit.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get a good night's sleep\", \"描述\": \"You don't want to yawn or have your stomach rumble during the audition. If you are singing, avoid dairy, caffeine or anything else that you know will dry out your voice or cause phlegm.\\nIf this audition includes singing or speaking it is recommended to stay away from chocolate and dairy products that will make your mouth too moist. Instead, try to drink some warm tea with lemon and honey.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Wear presentable, neutral clothing.\", \"描述\": \"Aim to look professional and make a good first impression. A clean buttoned shirt and jeans or a plain dress are good choices. Don't try to make a statement or match the character's clothing -- your goal is to blend into the character before their eyes, and the more unique your clothing, the harder this will be.\\nSome auditions require dance, so wear something comfortable to move in.\\nFor shoes, you can wear running shoes or flats. Make sure you're comfortable! Also, if there is dancing, you may want to bring jazz or character shoes.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Do not change your appearance for an audition.\", \"描述\": \"For example, even if you think the character would look better blond/brunette, etc., don't dye your hair or cut it. Many things can be done to \\\"reshape\\\" you later if they think this is necessary. If you'd like, add your willingness to make changes on your written audition paper, but don't do something radical before you've even gotten the part. At best, you'll make it a little easier on the makeup department if you get the part, but at worst you'll present a version of the character that doesn't even match the directors, instantly losing the part.\\nIf you are underage, ask your parent or guardian if it's okay for you to make changes should you get the role. Don't just \\\"assume\\\" that your super cool mom will say yes. There is nothing worse than having an angry director because your parents wouldn't let you do the thing you said you would.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Have an idea what to expect to avoid any surprises.\", \"描述\": \"Read the notice for the audition and make sure to check out any scripts or contracts you're sent fully. If this is your first audition, know that the procedure is pretty simple. You check in when you arrive, and will be called in when it is your turn. There may be one person watching you, there could be five, but they will all be kind and supportive. 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Don't fidget, ask for advice, or creep in with hesitation -- you're there to command an audience's attention, and the casting crew is the first audience you have. Be sure to make eye contact, act friendly, and seem like a nice person to work with. Act like you're meeting new coworkers -- cordial and kind but still professional.\\nDon't bother asking for advice or direction -- if they have some, they'll give it.\\nDo not try to make too much conversation with the casting officials; they have others auditioning, too.\\nIf the auditioners ask you if you are nervous, respond no. Instead, say that you are excited. This way, you seem more confident that you may actually be.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Stand up straight and stay in place once the camera is set.\", \"描述\": \"Most auditions have a small home movie camera set up to record all of the auditions, which allows the director to rewatch when making his/her final decision. Once you've taken your place, plant your feet and keep them there. While you can move slightly to be expressive, you'll show true professionalism if you stay on camera.\\nIt's called public solitude as an actor to be able to be on stage or in front of a camera and to not be distracted by either.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Once you've started, commit fully.\", \"描述\": \"Don't ask for apologies or do-overs -- once get going, let yourself fall back on your practice and training. If you miss a word or need a quick pause, that is okay. What is most important is not to say \\\"sorry,\\\" \\\"can I try that again,\\\" or \\\"let me have a do-over.\\\" Casting directors aren't just looking for the role, they are looking for a serious, professional co-worker, and this confidence will put you ahead of many other actors who are worried about being \\\"perfect.\\\"\\nIf the casting director wants to see another take, they'll ask, so don't fret and worry that you blew your own chance on a missed word they may not have noticed.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Attempt to show growth and character depth by evolving as you act, no matter how small the part.\", \"描述\": \"This doesn't mean you always start with a smile and end with tears. It simply means you find an arc, however small, in your character's role. A good scene, song, or commercial ends in a different place then it started, and your job as an actor is to help show this. All roles are different, but there are some common ways to show growth:\\n\\n Basically, you let your energy grow as the scene does, which makes the ending the most energetic or momentous moment of the audition. This can help you both selling cars in a commercial or expressing your passion for an unrequited love.\\n Find the line or moment when your character seems to shift gears, ideas, or emotions. This line is often the most crucial of the whole audition, as it requires you to naturally shift your acting from one emotion or the other.\\n Maybe your character is under pressure in the scene and they slowly start to fidget more. Maybe, as they keep talking, they grow confident, sitting up straighter and straighter as they go.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Treat any audition partners or readers with respect and attention.\", \"描述\": \"Some auditions have another person in the room with you, a casting agent who acts out other roles in the play to see how you handle dialogue. 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2,864 | How to Audition For a Musical | 1. Preparing for the Audition
1-1. Draft and trim your resume down to one page.
Include past performances you have played in either as a singer or actor. Remember that any previous experience you may have had as an actor in college or school plays, films, or TV shows can count towards your resume.
1-2. Hire a professional photographer to take your headshot.
Professional photographers know how and where to show off your best looks. If you can't find a photographer, it is possible to take your own headshot, but pay attention to factors that can affect how you look like lighting and framing.
Before you hire your photographer, view their past work and client reviews to determine if they are the right fit.
1-3. Research the details of the musical inside and out.
Thoroughly understanding the musical will help give you context for why and how you should perform. Knowing what happens goes beyond remembering the parts for your character.
Read every line in the script front to back. Doing so can help you better visualize the setting, themes, and characters.
If the musical has been performed before or is currently showing, watch other actors perform the musical in a live theater. If there are no showings available, you can look up recorded performances online. Many musicals usually have movie renditions, giving a different perspective of the story!
1-4. Choose the song you will sing for the audition.
Many times the casting director will ask you to choose and provide your own song. Pick a track that matches those that are in the musical, but is unique enough to help you stand out!
Picking a song that is in the musical is considered a rookie mistake and is likely to take you out of the running.
Avoid songs that require you to hit notes you can't consistently hit. You want to choose a song with comfortable pitches; the audition is not the time to go outside your voice's comfort zone!
1-5. Trim the song you choose at the part that shows off your skills.
Some directors have to watch dozens of actors perform in a day, making performance time short. Most songs are too long for a typical audition; pick the part of the song that displays your talents best.
1-6. Prepare more than one song for your audition.
A director may like the first song you sing, and will then ask you to sing another to test your range. Choose a song that is a distinct contrast from your first song.
1-7. Pick comfortable, form-fitting clothes that help you stand out.
You don't want to wear anything flashy like an expensive dress or suit as that can turn off many directors, but you also want to avoid clothes that are too casual like hoodies and torn jeans.
If the musical audition has callbacks, choose an outfit that you can wear a second time. Consistent clothes help define your look and the director will have an easier time remembering you.
Don't forget about your hair! Looking like you just rolled out of bed can be a mark against you.
Do not wear an outfit for the musical you are wearing. Many directors view this as eccentric, and not in a good way!
1-8. Mind your vocal chords before the audition.
Your vocal chords dictate how your voice sounds and sings. It's only natural you want to keep your throat in good shape before you are up on stage.
Wear a scarf or sweater that can protect your neck in cold weather. Chilly temperatures can make the muscles in your throat tense.
Drinking plenty of room temperature water helps moisturize your throat and keeps it refreshed. The warm, moisturized air of saunas and hot showers can also help.
1-9. Avoid dairy, caffeine, and spicy foods.
Like cold temperatures, these foods can constrict the muscles in your throat and impair your singing ability. If you need a snack before the audition, try fresh fruit, decaf teas, or a shot of honey.
2. Performing at the Audition
2-1. Arrive to the audition at least 30 minutes early.
There's no telling what traffic jam, bad weather, or other act of nature can slow you down. Give yourself enough wiggle room by planning to show up at least a half hour before call-time.
When you arrive early, you can ask about everything you need to know before the audition starts like where the bathroom is, where the practice room is, and where you will be performing.
2-2. Bring your own sheet music to the auditions.
Pianists at auditions can't be expected to bring sheet music for every song out there! Provide unwrinkled sheet music that is easy to flip through.
The pianist may be a factor of the casting decisions. Take a moment to introduce yourself to them and point out any tricky parts of the songs like tempo shifts.
If you don't expect to have much time with the pianist, you can help them by clearly highlighting start point, endpoints, and shifts in tempo.
2-3. Act respectfully towards other performers before and after your performance.
Directors pay just as much attention to you off stage as they do on stage. Avoid talking to others and pay attention to other performers who are up on stage.
Even if other performers sing other songs, watching them can help give you insight on how to perform better as a singer yourself!
Don't forget to turn off - or silence - your phone.
2-4. When singing on stage, display confident body language.
A director will not just analyze your singing ability during an audition; they will analyze who you are as a person. This may be a little intimidating, but standing up straight, planting your feet, and keeping your hands steady can be enough to display confidence.
If you are feeling really nervous, a deep breathing exercise before your performance can help ground you and relax your muscles.
Another way to relax is by practicing mindfulness. Some nerves are a matter of thinking too much about what can and can't happen. Stopping to recognize and simplify the moment you're in can help calm your thoughts.
2-5. Project your voice when singing.
Projecting is an expected practice of many performers, where they literally project their voice towards the audience. Showing that you can project your voice is important, as you will often have to sing over loud music and towards a large crowd.
2-6. Don't stop singing if you make a mistake.
Making one mistake in the middle of your song does not mean you lost your chance! In fact, showing you can recover from a mistake is a chance to show your professionalism as an actor.
Don't look annoyed or complain if the pianist makes a mistake playing the notes of your song. Not only is this rude to the pianist, it signals to the director that you may be difficult to work with.
2-7. Don't panic if the director suddenly tells you to stop singing.
There are many different reasons as to why a director might interrupt you in the middle of a performance. Usually, it is just because your time is up and other actors have to get on stage.
If the director asks you to perform a part of a song in a different cadence or tone, they are most likely interested in how you react to a specific request or situation they may have in mind.
2-8. Expect an impromptu request to act out a scene during the audition.
Some musical auditions may require you to act out a scene. Auditions that do require acting may not tell you until you are on the spot, so it is better to mentally prepare for one rather than not.
Don't worry about stumbling over lines, especially if the musical is original and no one has seen the script before. Instead, focus on listening on what your scene partner is saying and understanding what the scene is about.
If the audition is for an original musical, try requesting a copy of the script from the theater hosting the musical (not the audition) in advance.
2-9. Thank the director for considering you after your performance finishes.
It is common courtesy to thank the judges table for having you after the performance. Don't say any more than a simple thank you, otherwise you may come off as desperate.
3. Waiting for Your Call Back
3-1. Reward yourself after the audition.
Preparing for an audition can take a lot out of you. If you don't take some time to reward yourself, it can lead to a fatigue that discourages you from performing again. Treat yourself to a night off, indulge in a hobby, or buy something nice!
3-2. Research other musicals you may be interested in.
There are usually more auditions scheduled in your area. Focusing on a new project while waiting for your call back is a good way to stay productive and practicing your singing voice.
3-3. Follow up with the casting directors.
Many actors will come to the audition, do their part, and wait for an answer. Following up with a casting directors will depend on who you audition for, but taking a moment to get in touch can help you stand out.
Casting directors are busy people. Instead of trying to figure out when they are free in their schedule to chat, a simple “thank you” postcard sent to their office can help remind them about you.
There is no hard and fast rule about how long you should wait before following up. Every musical will be different. For smaller shows, a week after an audition is usually enough time. For larger plays, it may take between six to eight weeks before you should contact the casting director.
3-4. Don't forget the bigger picture.
Auditioning is a numbers game where you may not get the part for hundreds of different reasons. If you do not receive a callback, there will be plenty of opportunities in the future. The more auditions you perform in, the more comfortable you will be doing them!
Tips
While you shouldn't dress up as the character you are auditioning for, it can help to choose a song that mirrors the character's emotional traits or personality.
Drinking water before audition day is advisable, but don't forget to bring room temperature water with you to the theater. It can help keep your throat fresh and gives you something to do if you feel nervous.
If there is an opportunity to go first, take the initiative. Directors will easier remember the first and last batch of actors they see perform.
Warnings
Never look straight at an audience member or the Director, try to find a focal point right above the audience or director's head.
Singing a song without any music - such as one you wrote yourself - is a bad idea since the director needs to know that you can stay on key.
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2,865 | How to Audition at a Strip Club | 1. Practicing at Home
1-1. Try out the outfit you want to wear to your audition.
For women, you may want to put on a skintight dress with a thong underneath and high heels. For men, try a thong with some hot pants and a tight tank top. Make sure that the outfit is easy to take off and that you can do it sensually while dancing.
Try to pick an outfit that doesn’t have a lot of zippers or buttons so it’s easy to pull on and off.
1-2. Grind, twerk, and roll your body to nail a routine.
You don’t have to be the best dancer out there to become a stripper. Watch yourself in the mirror and practice dancing sensually for 3 to 5 minutes at a time. You can grind your hips, twerk, roll your body, and practice leg lifts to look sexy and confident.
For women strippers, the most important part of the routine is looking seductive. For male strippers, it’s a little bit more about being powerful and confident.
Try looking up videos on YouTube to see what kind of moves you can do.
1-3. Practice your routine to different kinds of music.
When you audition, you probably won’t be able to choose your own music. Try doing your routine to a few different songs with different tempos so you’re ready to adjust your moves when you get there.
Try searching “club music” online to find a good mix to practice to.
2. Starting the Audition Process
2-1. Apply for a business license if you need one.
Some counties require exotic dancers to get business licenses before you can start working. If your area requires it, visit your local business licensing center and submit your ID and fingerprints to pass a background check. Once you pass, you can fill out the necessary paperwork to get your business license.
To find out if you need a business license, search “exotic dancer license + your county.”
2-2. Go to the strip club to check it out.
Before you even think of auditioning, you should head to the strip club as a customer to see what it’s like. Take a look at the dancers: are they wearing classy dresses that they then strip off, or do they start with almost nothing on? Is the club more high end, or do they cater to everyone? Take note of the vibe and clientele to see if it’s right for you.
You can also try to gauge if you have the right “look.” Some clubs prefer their strippers to be toned and muscular, while others prefer a more natural look. Anyone can be a stripper, so if it’s not the right club for you, just look somewhere else!
Checking out the strip club is also a good way to see how safe the club is. If you notice things that you’re uncomfortable with, like customers groping the dancers or bouncers not advocating for the dancers’ safety, you can choose somewhere else to audition.
2-3. Call the club to see if / when they’re auditioning.
Once you find the strip club that you’d like to work for, call them up to see if they’re holding auditions and when you can come in. Some clubs have audition days every week, while others only hold auditions if they need dancers.
You can search for strip clubs near you by googling “local strip clubs,” or you can search for ones further away to avoid running into people that you know.
You can also ask the club owner what their audition process is like and what you’ll need to bring with you on the day of your audition.
2-4. Audition early so you can work the same night.
The best part about strip clubs is that if you get hired, you can probably start working the same night. Try to go into your audition at the soonest available time so that you can do your audition, paperwork, and club tour before the club closes.
If you go in too late, you could miss out on making money that very night.
3. Packing a Bag
3-1. Bring high heels with you on the day of the audition.
You don’t have to wear your heels to the club, but you should come prepared with some high heels to change into. Try to go for heels that are at least 6 inches (15 cm) tall if you’re just starting out, and go up to 7 or 8 inches (18 or 20 cm) heels if you feel comfortable enough.
You can find cheap high heels online if you don’t have a pair already.
Make sure you’ve practiced walking and dancing in your heels before your audition.
If you’re auditioning for a male strip club, you don’t need to wear heels. You can just dance barefoot on stage.
3-2. Wear a thong and pack a few extra.
During your audition, you may not be asked to strip all the way down. Make sure you’re wearing a thong that covers your genitalia in the front, and pack a few extra pairs in different colors or styles just in case.
Once you get hired at the club, you can ask the owner or the house mom about the typical attire.
3-3. Pack figure-hugging clothes.
For women, you may want to wear a short, skin tight dress. For men, you might want to put on hot pants and a tight tank top. Make sure your clothing is easy to remove and that you’ve practiced taking it on and off during your dance routine.
If you aren’t sure what to wear, visit your local costume shop and pick up something sparkly that makes you feel sexy. The more confident you feel, the better you’ll look!
3-4. Do your hair and makeup to look the part.
You don’t have to go all out, but you should put some effort into your appearance. Put on a full face of makeup, style your hair, and make sure you look confident and put together before your audition.
You can bring makeup with you to touch up your look, but you should have on a good base layer already.
3-5. Pack your ID in case you get hired.
It might seem like a no brainer, but if you do get hired, the club manager will probably want to get your paperwork started right then. Make sure you have your ID with you, and be prepared to fill out any paperwork so you can start working.
Different clubs have different age restrictions, but most won’t hire you unless you’re over the age of 21.
4. Nailing the Audition
4-1. Change into your outfit backstage.
You don’t need to show up with your full dancing outfit on, so you can pack the outer layer in a bag ahead of time. Once you’re told you can audition, you’ll be shown where the backstage area is and where you can change into your clothes. You can leave your street clothes and your wallet / phone in the backstage area.
Usually, the house mom will show you where to change and where the stage is. The house mom is the person who is in charge of all of the dancers, and she’s the one you can talk to if you have any questions or concerns.
4-2. Check to see how much clothing you should strip off.
Some clubs don’t want you to get fully naked during an audition, while others do. Before you start, check with the house mom or manager to see how far they want you to go. If they’d like you to strip all the way and you feel comfortable doing so, go for it!
Stripping down all the way shows confidence. If they ask you to get fully naked and you don’t, you may not get hired. However, you should only go as far as you are comfortable.
4-3. Show off a dance routine that lasts about 1 to 2 minutes.
Most clubs will ask you to show off your stuff on one of the side stages. Make sure you’ve practiced a routine and that you perform it with confidence no matter who’s watching. Chances are, you won’t be able to pick the music, so don’t be afraid to improv a little!
You can twerk, grind, do body rolls, and slowly strip off your clothes. The most important part of this routine is being confident, so don’t be shy.
Most auditions last anywhere from 1 to 3 minutes, but it depends on the club.
4-4. Dance sensually and with confidence.
As you do your audition with the routine you practiced at home, focus on making eye contact with the club manager and whoever’s watching. If you feel confident enough, you can use the pole. Otherwise, focus on rolling your body, grinding on the floor, and twerking to show off your assets.
Even if you’ve never danced before, the most important thing is confidence. You can show up with zero dance moves and not know what to do on stage and get hired simply because you look great and act comfortable in your own skin.
During your audition, you don’t need to interact with the customers, but you can make eye contact and flirt with them if you’d like to.
4-5. Be prepared to work the same night.
If you get hired, there’s a high chance that the manager will want you to start working that very night. If you can’t, you probably won’t get hired, so be sure you mark out free time after your audition in case they ask you to work.
Some clubs will waive the house fees for you on your first shift, but you should bring a little cash with you just in case. House fees are the fees you are required to pay to the club staff as part of your job. These fees will often come directly out of your tips, and the amount is different for every club.
If you audition pretty late at night, you might not be able to work the same night since the paperwork and club tours tend to take about an hour.
If you don’t get hired, that’s okay too. Check out a different club nearby and try auditioning somewhere else.
Tips
If you haven’t danced on a pole before, you don’t have to try any crazy moves just yet.
Having confidence is the best way to get hired, even if you aren’t the best dancer yet!
Warnings
Avoid putting on body lotion before your audition, as it can make the pole and stage slippery.
If the club feels sketchy, you don’t have to stay and audition.
Always practice dancing and walking in your heels before your audition to avoid injury.
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2,866 | How to Audition for Bad Girls Club on Oxygen | 1. Filling Out The Entry Form
1-1. Head to the Bunim/Murray Productions website.
Bunim/Murray Productions is the company that produces Bad Girls Club, along with dozens of other successful reality television shows. This is the website that you will apply through. You must be at least 21 years old.
Locate the menu on the right-hand side of the page.
Scroll down and click on the “Casting” option.
Click “Bad Girls Club.”
1-2. Upload your best photos.
The form requires you to upload three, so choose wisely. The Bad Girls mansion is usually filled with attractive women with big personalities, so select photos that highlight both! Pictures of you having fun and acting crazy are perfect choices. Make sure that the pictures clearly show your face so that casting directors can tell what you look like.
In addition to asking for your own uploaded photos, the form asks for your Facebook and Instagram pages. If you don’t have them, you can tell them that. However, the Bad Girls Club likes casting women with big social media presences, so it’s very helpful if you do!
Before you submit links to your social media pages, examine them yourselves and make sure they represent you how you want to be represented.
1-3. Fill out the entry form.
This form is not very long, but set aside at least a half hour to answer the questions to the best of your ability. The questions on the form are, “What makes you a ‘Bad Girl?’” “What relationships are most important to you currently? What qualities are important for a mate to have?” and “What is the most important issue facing you today?” Once you’re satisfied with your answers, click submit. audition.
Remember, the Bad Girls Club casting directors look for girls with who are confident and outspoken. Don’t be afraid to answer the questions with passion and sass.
2. Attending an Open Casting Call
2-1. Find an open casting call near you.
The schedules and locations are posted on the Bunim/Murray Productions website, but you can also find the information via a quick Google search. On Facebook, you can sign up for the page “The Bad Girls Club Casting Page” to see posts about casting calls coming to your area. If you’re serious about becoming a Bad Girl, make sure you don’t miss your chance to attend one of these open casting calls.
Make sure you fill out the form on the Bunim/Murray website before heading to an open casting call.
2-2. Look your best for the casting call.
This probably means something different for everyone, and that’s good. If you feel your prettiest in your signature little black dress and sky-high stilettos, wear that. If you rock sneakers and jeans every day, wear that. Just make sure that you take care to present your authentic style. The casting directors want to see the best version of the real you!
Make sure you’re freshly showered and have clean teeth. You can get creative with your hair, makeup, and clothing, but good hygiene is universally attractive.
2-3. Attend the casting call with confidence.
Decide which aspects of your personality you want the casting directors to see, and commit to those fully. The Bad Girls of seasons past really embraced who they are— the good, the bad, and the ugly! Big attitudes make for exciting television, so strut your stuff and make sure the casting directors know just how entertaining you are.
Before you head to the casting call, ask yourself what you like to watch on TV. If you like watching Bad Girls Club, you probably like watching women who don’t hold anything back. Channel that self-assurance!
3. Increasing Your Chances
3-1. Film a reel.
Submitting a casting reel can boost your chances at getting on the show. While this is typically done if you can’t attend an open casting call, you also submit a video in addition to attending a casting call if you’re really determined. Your reel shouldn’t be extremely long, but long enough to showcase your “bad girl” attitude.
Introduce yourself and explain why you’d be an excellent cast member. Don’t tell them why you think you’re a bad girl, tell them why you ARE a bad girl.
You can film a video just speaking to the camera, or you can enlist a friend or family member to film a more active video, following you around.
3-2. Embrace your “character” and back story.
Even though Bad Girls Club is reality TV, at the end of the day, it is still a story. Embrace the character you think you’d play on the show. If you’re an aggressive woman dealing with anger issues, highlight that. If you’re a sweetheart with a wild side, show that off. Additionally, highlight the interesting things in your past that have made you a bad girl today. Make sure that your online form, your presence at the casting calls, and your optional filmed reel all create a cohesive image of who you are.
Personal tragedy might not be fun to talk about, but it can make you a fascinating and relatable television personality. Open up about any heartbreak in your life.
Reveal anything about yourself that you think no one else can say. Casting directors will get thousands of videos, so make sure yours stands out.
3-3. Hold nothing back.
Don’t hurt your chances by second-guessing, doubting, or censoring yourself. Give yourself a pep talk before you begin your auditioning process, and remind yourself that you’re an interesting, strong, entertaining person. If you aren’t confident in who you are, and if you can’t hold your own in a room filled with outspoken women, you’ll probably be overlooked by the Bad Girls Club casting directors.
Fake it ‘til you make it. Even if you feel shy and unsure of yourself, mimic someone you know who is uninhibited, candid, and strong-willed. Soon, these traits can rub off on you and it won’t be “fake” anymore.
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However, the Bad Girls Club likes casting women with big social media presences, so it’s very helpful if you do!\\nBefore you submit links to your social media pages, examine them yourselves and make sure they represent you how you want to be represented.\\n1-3. Fill out the entry form.\\nThis form is not very long, but set aside at least a half hour to answer the questions to the best of your ability. The questions on the form are, “What makes you a ‘Bad Girl?’” “What relationships are most important to you currently? What qualities are important for a mate to have?” and “What is the most important issue facing you today?” Once you’re satisfied with your answers, click submit. audition.\\nRemember, the Bad Girls Club casting directors look for girls with who are confident and outspoken. Don’t be afraid to answer the questions with passion and sass.\\n2. Attending an Open Casting Call\\n2-1. Find an open casting call near you.\\nThe schedules and locations are posted on the Bunim/Murray Productions website, but you can also find the information via a quick Google search. On Facebook, you can sign up for the page “The Bad Girls Club Casting Page” to see posts about casting calls coming to your area. If you’re serious about becoming a Bad Girl, make sure you don’t miss your chance to attend one of these open casting calls.\\nMake sure you fill out the form on the Bunim/Murray website before heading to an open casting call.\\n2-2. Look your best for the casting call.\\nThis probably means something different for everyone, and that’s good. If you feel your prettiest in your signature little black dress and sky-high stilettos, wear that. If you rock sneakers and jeans every day, wear that. Just make sure that you take care to present your authentic style. The casting directors want to see the best version of the real you!\\nMake sure you’re freshly showered and have clean teeth. You can get creative with your hair, makeup, and clothing, but good hygiene is universally attractive.\\n2-3. Attend the casting call with confidence.\\nDecide which aspects of your personality you want the casting directors to see, and commit to those fully. The Bad Girls of seasons past really embraced who they are— the good, the bad, and the ugly! Big attitudes make for exciting television, so strut your stuff and make sure the casting directors know just how entertaining you are.\\nBefore you head to the casting call, ask yourself what you like to watch on TV. If you like watching Bad Girls Club, you probably like watching women who don’t hold anything back. Channel that self-assurance!\\n3. Increasing Your Chances\\n3-1. Film a reel.\\nSubmitting a casting reel can boost your chances at getting on the show. While this is typically done if you can’t attend an open casting call, you also submit a video in addition to attending a casting call if you’re really determined. Your reel shouldn’t be extremely long, but long enough to showcase your “bad girl” attitude.\\nIntroduce yourself and explain why you’d be an excellent cast member. Don’t tell them why you think you’re a bad girl, tell them why you ARE a bad girl.\\nYou can film a video just speaking to the camera, or you can enlist a friend or family member to film a more active video, following you around.\\n3-2. Embrace your “character” and back story.\\nEven though Bad Girls Club is reality TV, at the end of the day, it is still a story. Embrace the character you think you’d play on the show. If you’re an aggressive woman dealing with anger issues, highlight that. If you’re a sweetheart with a wild side, show that off. Additionally, highlight the interesting things in your past that have made you a bad girl today. Make sure that your online form, your presence at the casting calls, and your optional filmed reel all create a cohesive image of who you are.\\nPersonal tragedy might not be fun to talk about, but it can make you a fascinating and relatable television personality. Open up about any heartbreak in your life.\\nReveal anything about yourself that you think no one else can say. Casting directors will get thousands of videos, so make sure yours stands out.\\n3-3. Hold nothing back.\\nDon’t hurt your chances by second-guessing, doubting, or censoring yourself. Give yourself a pep talk before you begin your auditioning process, and remind yourself that you’re an interesting, strong, entertaining person. If you aren’t confident in who you are, and if you can’t hold your own in a room filled with outspoken women, you’ll probably be overlooked by the Bad Girls Club casting directors.\\nFake it ‘til you make it. Even if you feel shy and unsure of yourself, mimic someone you know who is uninhibited, candid, and strong-willed. Soon, these traits can rub off on you and it won’t be “fake” anymore.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you aren’t familiar with the show Bad Girls Club on Oxygen, just imagine MTV’s The Real World if all the roommates are aggressive, loud, usually drunk party girls. In other words, Bad Girls Club is reality TV gold. If you’re interested (and brave enough) to become of the seven roommates chosen to live in the Bad Girls mansion, there are a few different ways you can audition.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Filling Out The Entry Form\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Head to the Bunim/Murray Productions website.\", \"描述\": \"Bunim/Murray Productions is the company that produces Bad Girls Club, along with dozens of other successful reality television shows. This is the website that you will apply through. 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2,867 | How to Audition for TV Shows | 1. Getting the Audition
1-1. Get a professional headshot taken.
A headshot is an initial impression you make on a casting agent and director and is required if you're going to audition for a TV show. A good headshot for a television audition will embody who you are as an actor or actress. Avoid static facial expressions and think about the type of roles you are auditioning for.
If it's a comedy, you'll want to smile.
If you are trying to audition for drama or romance, a more serious or sultry look may be what casting directors are looking for.
Do not cover up imperfections on your face, like moles or freckles. Your headshot should look like you because casting directors want to have a good impression of what you truly look like. If you get a drastic haircut or get older, consider getting your headshot taken again.
Look for photographers online and request to see some photos that they have taken in the past.
Don't settle for a sub-par photographer. Your headshot is like your calling card. If it's low quality, it will leave a negative impression on casting directors.
1-2. Search for open casting calls in your area.
Various websites post open casting calls in some major cities across the US like New York, LA, Boston, and Chicago and in other major cities around the world. Choose the closest city for you and take the opportunities to audition. Sometimes even websites like Craigslist will post opportunities for roles in smaller, independent films.
Avoid auditions that require you to pay, or casting directors that you can't find online, as these are typically scams.
Some useful websites to find casting opportunities include www.Playbill.com, www.Backstage.com, and www.Castingnetworks.com.
If you can afford it, move to a major city so you can take advantage of casting opportunities.
Opportunities on smaller sets will give you the experience some casting directors are looking for.
1-3. Become a member of an acting union appropriate for where you want to work.
Many casting directors are looking for actors that are a part of the Screen Actors Guild and the American Federation of Television and Radio Artists. These roles are made available to members of the SAG-AFTRA Union.
As a union member, you'll receive advanced notice for union auditions, and you'll have a greater capacity to network with other actors.
To be eligible to join the SAG-AFTRA Union, you must have completed three days of work under the SAG-AFTRA collective bargaining agreement.
Another way to be eligible is to join an affiliated performers union like AEA, AGMA, ACTRA, or AGVA for one year as an actor.
The SAG-AFTRA Union offers additional benefits like health insurance and retirement benefits.
The SAG-AFTRA requires monthly dues as well as an initial registration fee.
If you are not part of the union, look for nonunion opportunities.
1-4. Hire an agent or booking agency.
Booking agencies and successful agents will usually have a network in the industry and can help you obtain auditions. Search for local booking agencies in your area and find one that has a high rating from previous actors and actresses. Use any networking connections that you have in the industry and ask friends if they've worked with any suitable agents.
Choose an agent or agency that you feel comfortable with.
If you find work yourself you may catch an agent's eye. Make sure to look for work on your own while searching for an agent.
1-5. Develop a strong digital presence.
Actors can get their foot in the door by creating a strong digital presence. Make sure that you have a working website and that your IMDB profile is updated. If you are brand new to acting, you can try to make videos on YouTube or other popular video websites to get recognition. Register social media accounts on all the most popular platforms including Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, and Tumblr.
Keep your social media regularly updated so your fans keep coming back for more content and feel a greater connection to you.
Refrain from saying anything offensive, and abstain from arguing with people online.
Agents are looking for a previous track record that includes a body of work. If they can't find you online, they have nothing to judge but your audition tape.
1-6. Network with everyone in the industry.
Get to know everyone. You never know when another actor or actress will get sick and the studio needs to find a replacement quickly. If you don't know anyone else in the industry, you can meet other actors at acting workshops held in your area. You can also go to theatrical performances and mingle with people after the show. If you do end up getting an audition, there will be other actors and actresses in the waiting room that you can talk to.
If you know the right people you'll hear about auditions before they are made available to others vying for the same role.
Try to be polite and shake hands with everyone you meet. Remember the names of people who can help advance your career.
Other actors and actresses can give you advice or tips on your auditioning technique.
2. Preparing for the Audition
2-1. Practice acting new material.
Depending on the show and the network, you may receive a script, or you may get lines to read right on the spot, sometimes known as a cold-read. If you've received the script, make sure to study and memorize your lines carefully. If you have to select the material yourself, make sure to pick out a piece that will allow you to show a dynamic range.
Don't choose a script that only shows one emotion like anger or sadness.
Use personally relevant pieces and stay away from experimental scripts, or scripts that don't show off your true acting ability.
2-2. Master the art of cold-reading.
The more you practice cold-reading, the more you'll become accustomed to taking on a new role with only a couple of minutes to prepare. When you receive a script to cold-read, don't panic and try to memorize the entire script. Instead, relax, read the script carefully, then try to understand the circumstances of the story, your characters motivations, and how the scene affects the plot.
Do not look down at your script while the casting agent is reading lines. Casting directors want to be able to gauge your acting abilities, which includes reacting to events in the story or lines in the dialogue.
2-3. Record yourself practicing to see how you look on video.
TV is a visual medium, and much of your acting will take place in your face. You can also see how your acting looks on film and alter it to become a better actor or actress. Take note of your facial expressions and any bad habits that you have so you can try to alter them.
Bad habits include a noticeable twitch or facial gesture that you do habitually. Take notice of the way you pronounce words and make sure that you enunciate.
2-4. Audition in front of other actors and get feedback.
A TV actor who has experience can provide you with valuable insider knowledge of how auditions and casting work in your area. Talk to friends in the industry or ask a teacher if you're taking an acting class. They can also help you with your audition.
You can ask by saying, "Hey, I have an audition coming up, and I wanted to get some feedback on my performance. I need someone to be completely honest and objective so that I can land this role."
2-5. Pick an appropriate, comfortable outfit for the audition.
You should choose an outfit that embodies the character that you are auditioning for, but also remember to wear something that's comfortable. Coming in with an unrequested costume will not win you over to casting directors, and could cost you the audition.
Wearing something comfortable will put you at ease and give you the confidence to concentrate on acting.
3. Nailing the Audition
3-1. Be polite and courteous.
It will not help you land the role if you're rude to the casting director. Remember to shake their hands, say "hello," and ask how their day was before jumping into the role. The casting director will be making the final decision on whether you get the role, so make sure that you leave a good impression.
Don't let the small talk ruin the audition. Try to gauge the casting directors attitude and whether they enjoy small talk.
3-2. Refrain from overacting.
Concentrate on physical facial expressions and your vocal delivery. Make it as realistic and genuine as possible. Try to convey the emotion of the character without overdoing it.
If you come from a theater background, it's reasonable to assume that you are used to using grandiose physical gestures and using a lot of energy in your line delivery. This does not translate to TV most of the time.
3-3. Let your personality shine.
Casting directors don't want a typical type of character fulfilling a role. Make sure that your personality shines through whatever role you are assuming. Use your lines to develop a meaningful and unique personality for whatever role you are presented with.
For example, if you are playing a detective, don't try to replicate what is popular amongst detectives as the performance can often come off as forced and unrealistic.
3-4. Understand your role and film for your audition.
Extrapolate what your characters motivations are and what drives them. Much like actual life, personalities are not based upon a person's actions. What's more significant is what drives and motivates them to commit those actions. Get into the brain of your character and think how they would think. Consider your character's likes and dislikes, and what drives them to feel this way. Try to relate emotions to your personal life and draw parallels between these feelings. Do your homework on your character and the conditions they've lived in or how situations in their past affects their behavior now.
Even if you've never been in a similar situation, there's a good chance you've felt similar emotions.
If you aren't given any background information on your character, make one up. Create their motivation in your head to understand the role and act more like that character. For example, if tasked with portraying an angry son, create a backstory in your head of what drives the son's anger and motivations.
3-5. Incorporate your character's physicality into your role.
Acting is not only about delivering lines well, it's also about embodying your character. Think of how your character would stand, talk, walk, sit, or gestures that they would use in conversation.
You make a greater impact with an audience when they believe you are the character.
3-6. Be confident with your acting ability.
Something that casting directors are looking for is your ability to own your character. Don't make excuses or apologize to the casting director. Go in with a vision of your role and a goal to land the part, and deliver your audition with confidence.
If you have prepared beforehand, you'll feel more confident going into the audition.
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Your headshot is like your calling card. If it's low quality, it will leave a negative impression on casting directors.\\n1-2. Search for open casting calls in your area.\\nVarious websites post open casting calls in some major cities across the US like New York, LA, Boston, and Chicago and in other major cities around the world. Choose the closest city for you and take the opportunities to audition. Sometimes even websites like Craigslist will post opportunities for roles in smaller, independent films.\\nAvoid auditions that require you to pay, or casting directors that you can't find online, as these are typically scams.\\nSome useful websites to find casting opportunities include www.Playbill.com, www.Backstage.com, and www.Castingnetworks.com.\\nIf you can afford it, move to a major city so you can take advantage of casting opportunities.\\nOpportunities on smaller sets will give you the experience some casting directors are looking for.\\n1-3. Become a member of an acting union appropriate for where you want to work.\\nMany casting directors are looking for actors that are a part of the Screen Actors Guild and the American Federation of Television and Radio Artists. These roles are made available to members of the SAG-AFTRA Union.\\nAs a union member, you'll receive advanced notice for union auditions, and you'll have a greater capacity to network with other actors.\\nTo be eligible to join the SAG-AFTRA Union, you must have completed three days of work under the SAG-AFTRA collective bargaining agreement.\\nAnother way to be eligible is to join an affiliated performers union like AEA, AGMA, ACTRA, or AGVA for one year as an actor.\\nThe SAG-AFTRA Union offers additional benefits like health insurance and retirement benefits.\\nThe SAG-AFTRA requires monthly dues as well as an initial registration fee.\\nIf you are not part of the union, look for nonunion opportunities.\\n1-4. Hire an agent or booking agency.\\nBooking agencies and successful agents will usually have a network in the industry and can help you obtain auditions. Search for local booking agencies in your area and find one that has a high rating from previous actors and actresses. Use any networking connections that you have in the industry and ask friends if they've worked with any suitable agents.\\nChoose an agent or agency that you feel comfortable with.\\nIf you find work yourself you may catch an agent's eye. Make sure to look for work on your own while searching for an agent.\\n1-5. Develop a strong digital presence.\\nActors can get their foot in the door by creating a strong digital presence. Make sure that you have a working website and that your IMDB profile is updated. If you are brand new to acting, you can try to make videos on YouTube or other popular video websites to get recognition. Register social media accounts on all the most popular platforms including Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, and Tumblr.\\nKeep your social media regularly updated so your fans keep coming back for more content and feel a greater connection to you.\\nRefrain from saying anything offensive, and abstain from arguing with people online.\\nAgents are looking for a previous track record that includes a body of work. If they can't find you online, they have nothing to judge but your audition tape.\\n1-6. Network with everyone in the industry.\\nGet to know everyone. You never know when another actor or actress will get sick and the studio needs to find a replacement quickly. If you don't know anyone else in the industry, you can meet other actors at acting workshops held in your area. You can also go to theatrical performances and mingle with people after the show. If you do end up getting an audition, there will be other actors and actresses in the waiting room that you can talk to.\\nIf you know the right people you'll hear about auditions before they are made available to others vying for the same role.\\nTry to be polite and shake hands with everyone you meet. Remember the names of people who can help advance your career.\\nOther actors and actresses can give you advice or tips on your auditioning technique.\\n2. Preparing for the Audition\\n2-1. Practice acting new material.\\nDepending on the show and the network, you may receive a script, or you may get lines to read right on the spot, sometimes known as a cold-read. If you've received the script, make sure to study and memorize your lines carefully. If you have to select the material yourself, make sure to pick out a piece that will allow you to show a dynamic range.\\nDon't choose a script that only shows one emotion like anger or sadness.\\nUse personally relevant pieces and stay away from experimental scripts, or scripts that don't show off your true acting ability.\\n2-2. Master the art of cold-reading.\\nThe more you practice cold-reading, the more you'll become accustomed to taking on a new role with only a couple of minutes to prepare. When you receive a script to cold-read, don't panic and try to memorize the entire script. Instead, relax, read the script carefully, then try to understand the circumstances of the story, your characters motivations, and how the scene affects the plot.\\nDo not look down at your script while the casting agent is reading lines. Casting directors want to be able to gauge your acting abilities, which includes reacting to events in the story or lines in the dialogue.\\n2-3. Record yourself practicing to see how you look on video.\\nTV is a visual medium, and much of your acting will take place in your face. You can also see how your acting looks on film and alter it to become a better actor or actress. Take note of your facial expressions and any bad habits that you have so you can try to alter them.\\nBad habits include a noticeable twitch or facial gesture that you do habitually. Take notice of the way you pronounce words and make sure that you enunciate.\\n2-4. Audition in front of other actors and get feedback.\\nA TV actor who has experience can provide you with valuable insider knowledge of how auditions and casting work in your area. Talk to friends in the industry or ask a teacher if you're taking an acting class. They can also help you with your audition.\\nYou can ask by saying, \\\"Hey, I have an audition coming up, and I wanted to get some feedback on my performance. I need someone to be completely honest and objective so that I can land this role.\\\"\\n2-5. Pick an appropriate, comfortable outfit for the audition.\\nYou should choose an outfit that embodies the character that you are auditioning for, but also remember to wear something that's comfortable. Coming in with an unrequested costume will not win you over to casting directors, and could cost you the audition.\\nWearing something comfortable will put you at ease and give you the confidence to concentrate on acting.\\n3. Nailing the Audition\\n3-1. Be polite and courteous.\\nIt will not help you land the role if you're rude to the casting director. Remember to shake their hands, say \\\"hello,\\\" and ask how their day was before jumping into the role. The casting director will be making the final decision on whether you get the role, so make sure that you leave a good impression.\\nDon't let the small talk ruin the audition. 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Understand your role and film for your audition.\\nExtrapolate what your characters motivations are and what drives them. Much like actual life, personalities are not based upon a person's actions. What's more significant is what drives and motivates them to commit those actions. Get into the brain of your character and think how they would think. Consider your character's likes and dislikes, and what drives them to feel this way. Try to relate emotions to your personal life and draw parallels between these feelings. Do your homework on your character and the conditions they've lived in or how situations in their past affects their behavior now.\\nEven if you've never been in a similar situation, there's a good chance you've felt similar emotions.\\nIf you aren't given any background information on your character, make one up. Create their motivation in your head to understand the role and act more like that character. For example, if tasked with portraying an angry son, create a backstory in your head of what drives the son's anger and motivations.\\n3-5. Incorporate your character's physicality into your role.\\nActing is not only about delivering lines well, it's also about embodying your character. Think of how your character would stand, talk, walk, sit, or gestures that they would use in conversation.\\nYou make a greater impact with an audience when they believe you are the character.\\n3-6. Be confident with your acting ability.\\nSomething that casting directors are looking for is your ability to own your character. Don't make excuses or apologize to the casting director. Go in with a vision of your role and a goal to land the part, and deliver your audition with confidence.\\nIf you have prepared beforehand, you'll feel more confident going into the audition.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being on a successful TV show is a dream that many aspiring actors and actresses have. Having the talent and skill to rise above the competition, however, can seem like an overly daunting task at times. Auditioning for a role is the first step to acting on TV, and requires preparation and practice to accomplish. Luckily, if you have the passion and use the right approach, nailing an audition for a television show could be within your reach.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting the Audition\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get a professional headshot taken.\", \"描述\": \"A headshot is an initial impression you make on a casting agent and director and is required if you're going to audition for a TV show. A good headshot for a television audition will embody who you are as an actor or actress. Avoid static facial expressions and think about the type of roles you are auditioning for.\\nIf it's a comedy, you'll want to smile.\\nIf you are trying to audition for drama or romance, a more serious or sultry look may be what casting directors are looking for.\\nDo not cover up imperfections on your face, like moles or freckles. Your headshot should look like you because casting directors want to have a good impression of what you truly look like. If you get a drastic haircut or get older, consider getting your headshot taken again.\\nLook for photographers online and request to see some photos that they have taken in the past.\\nDon't settle for a sub-par photographer. Your headshot is like your calling card. If it's low quality, it will leave a negative impression on casting directors.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Search for open casting calls in your area.\", \"描述\": \"Various websites post open casting calls in some major cities across the US like New York, LA, Boston, and Chicago and in other major cities around the world. Choose the closest city for you and take the opportunities to audition. Sometimes even websites like Craigslist will post opportunities for roles in smaller, independent films.\\nAvoid auditions that require you to pay, or casting directors that you can't find online, as these are typically scams.\\nSome useful websites to find casting opportunities include www.Playbill.com, www.Backstage.com, and www.Castingnetworks.com.\\nIf you can afford it, move to a major city so you can take advantage of casting opportunities.\\nOpportunities on smaller sets will give you the experience some casting directors are looking for.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Become a member of an acting union appropriate for where you want to work.\", \"描述\": \"Many casting directors are looking for actors that are a part of the Screen Actors Guild and the American Federation of Television and Radio Artists. These roles are made available to members of the SAG-AFTRA Union.\\nAs a union member, you'll receive advanced notice for union auditions, and you'll have a greater capacity to network with other actors.\\nTo be eligible to join the SAG-AFTRA Union, you must have completed three days of work under the SAG-AFTRA collective bargaining agreement.\\nAnother way to be eligible is to join an affiliated performers union like AEA, AGMA, ACTRA, or AGVA for one year as an actor.\\nThe SAG-AFTRA Union offers additional benefits like health insurance and retirement benefits.\\nThe SAG-AFTRA requires monthly dues as well as an initial registration fee.\\nIf you are not part of the union, look for nonunion opportunities.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Hire an agent or booking agency.\", \"描述\": \"Booking agencies and successful agents will usually have a network in the industry and can help you obtain auditions. Search for local booking agencies in your area and find one that has a high rating from previous actors and actresses. Use any networking connections that you have in the industry and ask friends if they've worked with any suitable agents.\\nChoose an agent or agency that you feel comfortable with.\\nIf you find work yourself you may catch an agent's eye. Make sure to look for work on your own while searching for an agent.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Develop a strong digital presence.\", \"描述\": \"Actors can get their foot in the door by creating a strong digital presence. Make sure that you have a working website and that your IMDB profile is updated. If you are brand new to acting, you can try to make videos on YouTube or other popular video websites to get recognition. Register social media accounts on all the most popular platforms including Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, and Tumblr.\\nKeep your social media regularly updated so your fans keep coming back for more content and feel a greater connection to you.\\nRefrain from saying anything offensive, and abstain from arguing with people online.\\nAgents are looking for a previous track record that includes a body of work. If they can't find you online, they have nothing to judge but your audition tape.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Network with everyone in the industry.\", \"描述\": \"Get to know everyone. You never know when another actor or actress will get sick and the studio needs to find a replacement quickly. If you don't know anyone else in the industry, you can meet other actors at acting workshops held in your area. You can also go to theatrical performances and mingle with people after the show. If you do end up getting an audition, there will be other actors and actresses in the waiting room that you can talk to.\\nIf you know the right people you'll hear about auditions before they are made available to others vying for the same role.\\nTry to be polite and shake hands with everyone you meet. Remember the names of people who can help advance your career.\\nOther actors and actresses can give you advice or tips on your auditioning technique.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Preparing for the Audition\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice acting new material.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on the show and the network, you may receive a script, or you may get lines to read right on the spot, sometimes known as a cold-read. If you've received the script, make sure to study and memorize your lines carefully. If you have to select the material yourself, make sure to pick out a piece that will allow you to show a dynamic range.\\nDon't choose a script that only shows one emotion like anger or sadness.\\nUse personally relevant pieces and stay away from experimental scripts, or scripts that don't show off your true acting ability.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Master the art of cold-reading.\", \"描述\": \"The more you practice cold-reading, the more you'll become accustomed to taking on a new role with only a couple of minutes to prepare. When you receive a script to cold-read, don't panic and try to memorize the entire script. Instead, relax, read the script carefully, then try to understand the circumstances of the story, your characters motivations, and how the scene affects the plot.\\nDo not look down at your script while the casting agent is reading lines. Casting directors want to be able to gauge your acting abilities, which includes reacting to events in the story or lines in the dialogue.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Record yourself practicing to see how you look on video.\", \"描述\": \"TV is a visual medium, and much of your acting will take place in your face. You can also see how your acting looks on film and alter it to become a better actor or actress. Take note of your facial expressions and any bad habits that you have so you can try to alter them.\\nBad habits include a noticeable twitch or facial gesture that you do habitually. Take notice of the way you pronounce words and make sure that you enunciate.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Audition in front of other actors and get feedback.\", \"描述\": \"A TV actor who has experience can provide you with valuable insider knowledge of how auditions and casting work in your area. Talk to friends in the industry or ask a teacher if you're taking an acting class. They can also help you with your audition.\\nYou can ask by saying, \\\"Hey, I have an audition coming up, and I wanted to get some feedback on my performance. I need someone to be completely honest and objective so that I can land this role.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Pick an appropriate, comfortable outfit for the audition.\", \"描述\": \"You should choose an outfit that embodies the character that you are auditioning for, but also remember to wear something that's comfortable. Coming in with an unrequested costume will not win you over to casting directors, and could cost you the audition.\\nWearing something comfortable will put you at ease and give you the confidence to concentrate on acting.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Nailing the Audition\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be polite and courteous.\", \"描述\": \"It will not help you land the role if you're rude to the casting director. Remember to shake their hands, say \\\"hello,\\\" and ask how their day was before jumping into the role. The casting director will be making the final decision on whether you get the role, so make sure that you leave a good impression.\\nDon't let the small talk ruin the audition. Try to gauge the casting directors attitude and whether they enjoy small talk.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Refrain from overacting.\", \"描述\": \"Concentrate on physical facial expressions and your vocal delivery. Make it as realistic and genuine as possible. Try to convey the emotion of the character without overdoing it.\\nIf you come from a theater background, it's reasonable to assume that you are used to using grandiose physical gestures and using a lot of energy in your line delivery. This does not translate to TV most of the time.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Let your personality shine.\", \"描述\": \"Casting directors don't want a typical type of character fulfilling a role. Make sure that your personality shines through whatever role you are assuming. Use your lines to develop a meaningful and unique personality for whatever role you are presented with.\\nFor example, if you are playing a detective, don't try to replicate what is popular amongst detectives as the performance can often come off as forced and unrealistic.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Understand your role and film for your audition.\", \"描述\": \"Extrapolate what your characters motivations are and what drives them. Much like actual life, personalities are not based upon a person's actions. What's more significant is what drives and motivates them to commit those actions. Get into the brain of your character and think how they would think. Consider your character's likes and dislikes, and what drives them to feel this way. Try to relate emotions to your personal life and draw parallels between these feelings. 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2,868 | How to Audition for a Movie Role | 1. Preparing for Auditions
1-1. Memorize monologues.
At most movie auditions, you will be asked to perform a monologue or two. This is your chance to display your flexibility an range as an actor. Choose monologues that fit your personality and acting style. Having at least 3 memorized at any given time will keep you prepared for potential casting calls; you never know when one might crop up.
Choose 3-4 monologues that are each distinct. Have a dramatic monologue, a comedic monologue, and so on. You'll want to show the casting director that you're capable of capturing more than one type of emotion or style.
Look through monologue books for unique monologues that you haven't heard before. Casting directors will be tired of hearing the same old choices hundreds of times.
Practice your monologues often, so you aren't rusty if you need to perform last minute.
Time your monologues and make sure they're all 2 minutes or less. Auditions are timed, and you'll get cut off if you go beyond 2 minutes or so.
1-2. Get headshots.
Headshots are often what get you in the door at a casting call. Hire a photographer with plenty of experience making headshots, which are quite different from regular portraits. Headshots are designed to display your personality type and highlight the physical features that make you unique.
Ask people you know in your industry for recommendations. Headshot photographers can be quite expensive, so make sure you have the rate nailed down before you go in for a shoot.
When you're researching what photography studio to use, ask if a makeup artist will be available to work with you throughout the shoot. If not, it might be worth paying extra to hire someone to keep you looking fresh while your pictures are being taken.
1-3. Make a demo reel.
A demo reel is a compilation of clips from other film projects you have done. The clips should be careful selections from scenes that display your acting talent to best effect. You can use video editing software to make your own demo reel, or hire a video editor to create a professionally-polished reel. The entire reel should be no longer than 2-3 minutes.
The reel should be as easy to view as possible. Some casting directors will ask you to send an electronic file via email, while others will ask for a hard copy on DVD. Have your reel available in both formats.
If you've never been in a movie before, include clips from a play you've been in that was filmed. You can also include clips from student films.
In recent years some casting directors have been asking for clips that cater to the project at hand. For example, if you're auditioning to play a football team captain, try to send a clip that shows you playing a similar character.
Don't start your reel with an introduction or montage. It should begin with your name, then launch directly into the first scene.
Don't save the best for last. Casting directors have a lot of reels to review. If yours doesn't start out with your strongest scenes, chances are they'll skip to the next person's reel.
1-4. Find auditions.
The easiest way to find auditions in your area is to do an online search. Backstage.com has a comprehensive listing of auditions in various cities. You can also check the classifieds section in your local newspaper or check with classifieds on university websites for casting calls for student films.
New York City and Los Angeles have the highest concentration of casting calls, since both cities are big into the movie business. However, many smaller cities and towns have a thriving film community, and you're sure to find opportunities in your area if you know where to look. Check out arts blogs, alternative weekly newspapers, and other arts publications to find more information.
1-5. Provide all requested materials to the casting director.
You may be asked for a resume and cover letter in addition to your headshots and demo reel. You may be asked to bring these materials with you to the casting call or submit them beforehand. Either way, make sure the materials are formatted according to the casting director's specifications, and don't leave anything out. Making things less convenient for the casting director will definitely hurt your chances.
1-6. Plan to tailor your performance for each audition.
You have your monologues ready to perform at any time, but you shouldn't treat each audition the same way. Think about the part for which you're auditioning and choose the monologues that best fit the role. If possible, memorize a new one before audition day arrives.
You should dress appropriately for the part as well. Don't arrive in full costume, but make yourself look like a believable version of the character you'll be playing. If you're auditioning to be a classy CEO businesswoman, don't show up in jeans and tennis shoes.
1-7. Get ready to do a cold read.
In addition to performing one of your monologues, you'll probably also be asked to read a section of the script without getting the chance to look at it beforehand. Most casting calls include a description of the characters, so hopefully you'll already have a feel for how to get into character.
2. Acing Auditions
2-1. Make a confident first impression.
When you walk into the room, make eye contact with the casting director and other auditors. Have good posture, and don't walk in too quickly or come in out of breath. From the moment you walk into the room, you'll be judged for your demeanor and presence, so make sure you take a deep breath and collect yourself instead of rushing into the room. You must appear relaxed and confident.
2-2. Walk to the mark.
The mark, usually a simple "x" on the floor made with tape, is the spot where you'll begin acting for the audition. It's usually placed several feet in front of where the casting director and auditors are sitting so they can have the best possible view of your audition.
You don't have to feel anchored to the mark throughout the course of your audition; it's just a starting place. You should utilize the space in a way that makes sense for the role you're playing.
2-3. Master your slate.
A slate is your one-sentence introduction that you make just before you begin your monologue. When you reach the mark, turn to the casting director, make eye contact, and give your name and a short description of what you're about to do. For example: "Good evening. I'm Felicia Woods, and this piece is from the second act of Hamlet."
Don't spend too much time talking before you perform. Most auditions are timed, and the clock starts ticking as soon as you walk in. You want to maximize your performance time.
Don't ask the casting director and auditors their names, and don't exchange pleasantries beyond saying "good evening" or the like. Again, you don't have time for it.
3. Improving Your Chances
3-1. Act as much as possible.
Taking classes and practicing your craft as often as possible will increase the chances that you'll impress a casting director. Take feedback from auditions into account and work as hard as you can to improve, then try again. It might take dozens of auditions before you land a role, but every time you act in front of a casting director, you're getting valuable practice.
3-2. Hone various skills and talents.
You can single yourself out from the other actors by demonstrating your other talents if they are relevant for the role. Knowing how to sing, dance, play an instrument, play a sport, and so on can give you an edge. Don't be afraid to break into song during an audition if you think it will help your chances.
3-3. Consider finding a talent agent.
A talent agent would be responsible for finding roles suitable for your style and experience level, eliminating the need for you to track down roles on your own. Casting directors often send talent agents descriptions of the type of actor they're looking for, and talent agents then notify the casting directors if they're representing someone who would be a good fit. Working with a talent agent is a good way to get an "in" after you've gotten some experience under your belt.
If you go this route, be sure you're working with an experienced, licensed agent. Some people pose as talent agents to prey on vulnerable young actors. You can expect to pay your agent 10% of your earnings.
You can find an agent by attending a casting workshop, during which you would audition in front of both agents and casting directors. Do an online search for workshops in your area.
The Call Sheet is a list of talent agents of good repute. Check out the list and contact agents directly.
3-4. Get a SAG-AFTRA card.
Becoming a member of SAG-AFTRA, the screen actors' labor union, can give you access to higher paying and higher profile work. It also provides health insurance and ensures your work isn't used illegally.
Warnings
Before you audition or apply for an agency make sure you really want to be an actor.
Make sure you have an education to fall back on if it does not work out.
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Auditions are timed, and you'll get cut off if you go beyond 2 minutes or so.\\n1-2. Get headshots.\\nHeadshots are often what get you in the door at a casting call. Hire a photographer with plenty of experience making headshots, which are quite different from regular portraits. Headshots are designed to display your personality type and highlight the physical features that make you unique.\\nAsk people you know in your industry for recommendations. Headshot photographers can be quite expensive, so make sure you have the rate nailed down before you go in for a shoot.\\nWhen you're researching what photography studio to use, ask if a makeup artist will be available to work with you throughout the shoot. If not, it might be worth paying extra to hire someone to keep you looking fresh while your pictures are being taken.\\n1-3. Make a demo reel.\\nA demo reel is a compilation of clips from other film projects you have done. The clips should be careful selections from scenes that display your acting talent to best effect. You can use video editing software to make your own demo reel, or hire a video editor to create a professionally-polished reel. The entire reel should be no longer than 2-3 minutes.\\nThe reel should be as easy to view as possible. Some casting directors will ask you to send an electronic file via email, while others will ask for a hard copy on DVD. Have your reel available in both formats.\\nIf you've never been in a movie before, include clips from a play you've been in that was filmed. You can also include clips from student films.\\nIn recent years some casting directors have been asking for clips that cater to the project at hand. For example, if you're auditioning to play a football team captain, try to send a clip that shows you playing a similar character.\\nDon't start your reel with an introduction or montage. It should begin with your name, then launch directly into the first scene.\\nDon't save the best for last. Casting directors have a lot of reels to review. If yours doesn't start out with your strongest scenes, chances are they'll skip to the next person's reel.\\n1-4. Find auditions.\\nThe easiest way to find auditions in your area is to do an online search. Backstage.com has a comprehensive listing of auditions in various cities. You can also check the classifieds section in your local newspaper or check with classifieds on university websites for casting calls for student films.\\nNew York City and Los Angeles have the highest concentration of casting calls, since both cities are big into the movie business. However, many smaller cities and towns have a thriving film community, and you're sure to find opportunities in your area if you know where to look. Check out arts blogs, alternative weekly newspapers, and other arts publications to find more information.\\n1-5. Provide all requested materials to the casting director.\\nYou may be asked for a resume and cover letter in addition to your headshots and demo reel. You may be asked to bring these materials with you to the casting call or submit them beforehand. Either way, make sure the materials are formatted according to the casting director's specifications, and don't leave anything out. Making things less convenient for the casting director will definitely hurt your chances.\\n1-6. Plan to tailor your performance for each audition.\\nYou have your monologues ready to perform at any time, but you shouldn't treat each audition the same way. Think about the part for which you're auditioning and choose the monologues that best fit the role. If possible, memorize a new one before audition day arrives.\\nYou should dress appropriately for the part as well. Don't arrive in full costume, but make yourself look like a believable version of the character you'll be playing. If you're auditioning to be a classy CEO businesswoman, don't show up in jeans and tennis shoes.\\n1-7. Get ready to do a cold read.\\nIn addition to performing one of your monologues, you'll probably also be asked to read a section of the script without getting the chance to look at it beforehand. Most casting calls include a description of the characters, so hopefully you'll already have a feel for how to get into character.\\n2. Acing Auditions\\n2-1. Make a confident first impression.\\nWhen you walk into the room, make eye contact with the casting director and other auditors. Have good posture, and don't walk in too quickly or come in out of breath. From the moment you walk into the room, you'll be judged for your demeanor and presence, so make sure you take a deep breath and collect yourself instead of rushing into the room. You must appear relaxed and confident.\\n2-2. Walk to the mark.\\nThe mark, usually a simple \\\"x\\\" on the floor made with tape, is the spot where you'll begin acting for the audition. It's usually placed several feet in front of where the casting director and auditors are sitting so they can have the best possible view of your audition.\\nYou don't have to feel anchored to the mark throughout the course of your audition; it's just a starting place. You should utilize the space in a way that makes sense for the role you're playing.\\n2-3. Master your slate.\\nA slate is your one-sentence introduction that you make just before you begin your monologue. When you reach the mark, turn to the casting director, make eye contact, and give your name and a short description of what you're about to do. For example: \\\"Good evening. I'm Felicia Woods, and this piece is from the second act of Hamlet.\\\"\\nDon't spend too much time talking before you perform. Most auditions are timed, and the clock starts ticking as soon as you walk in. You want to maximize your performance time.\\nDon't ask the casting director and auditors their names, and don't exchange pleasantries beyond saying \\\"good evening\\\" or the like. Again, you don't have time for it.\\n3. Improving Your Chances\\n3-1. Act as much as possible.\\nTaking classes and practicing your craft as often as possible will increase the chances that you'll impress a casting director. Take feedback from auditions into account and work as hard as you can to improve, then try again. It might take dozens of auditions before you land a role, but every time you act in front of a casting director, you're getting valuable practice.\\n3-2. Hone various skills and talents.\\nYou can single yourself out from the other actors by demonstrating your other talents if they are relevant for the role. Knowing how to sing, dance, play an instrument, play a sport, and so on can give you an edge. Don't be afraid to break into song during an audition if you think it will help your chances.\\n3-3. Consider finding a talent agent.\\nA talent agent would be responsible for finding roles suitable for your style and experience level, eliminating the need for you to track down roles on your own. Casting directors often send talent agents descriptions of the type of actor they're looking for, and talent agents then notify the casting directors if they're representing someone who would be a good fit. Working with a talent agent is a good way to get an \\\"in\\\" after you've gotten some experience under your belt.\\nIf you go this route, be sure you're working with an experienced, licensed agent. Some people pose as talent agents to prey on vulnerable young actors. You can expect to pay your agent 10% of your earnings.\\nYou can find an agent by attending a casting workshop, during which you would audition in front of both agents and casting directors. Do an online search for workshops in your area.\\nThe Call Sheet is a list of talent agents of good repute. Check out the list and contact agents directly.\\n3-4. Get a SAG-AFTRA card.\\nBecoming a member of SAG-AFTRA, the screen actors' labor union, can give you access to higher paying and higher profile work. It also provides health insurance and ensures your work isn't used illegally.\\nWarnings\\nBefore you audition or apply for an agency make sure you really want to be an actor.\\nMake sure you have an education to fall back on if it does not work out.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Are you an aspiring actor ready to audition for your first movie role? It may seem daunting, but even legends like Kate Winslet and Denzel Washington had to start somewhere. First you'll need to memorize some monologues and prepare your portfolio to show you know how the movie business works, then find a movie casting call and perform before the casting director. If you want to learn more about how to have a great audition for a movie role, keep reading.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Preparing for Auditions\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Memorize monologues.\", \"描述\": \"At most movie auditions, you will be asked to perform a monologue or two. This is your chance to display your flexibility an range as an actor. Choose monologues that fit your personality and acting style. Having at least 3 memorized at any given time will keep you prepared for potential casting calls; you never know when one might crop up.\\nChoose 3-4 monologues that are each distinct. Have a dramatic monologue, a comedic monologue, and so on. You'll want to show the casting director that you're capable of capturing more than one type of emotion or style.\\nLook through monologue books for unique monologues that you haven't heard before. Casting directors will be tired of hearing the same old choices hundreds of times.\\nPractice your monologues often, so you aren't rusty if you need to perform last minute.\\nTime your monologues and make sure they're all 2 minutes or less. Auditions are timed, and you'll get cut off if you go beyond 2 minutes or so.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get headshots.\", \"描述\": \"Headshots are often what get you in the door at a casting call. Hire a photographer with plenty of experience making headshots, which are quite different from regular portraits. Headshots are designed to display your personality type and highlight the physical features that make you unique.\\nAsk people you know in your industry for recommendations. Headshot photographers can be quite expensive, so make sure you have the rate nailed down before you go in for a shoot.\\nWhen you're researching what photography studio to use, ask if a makeup artist will be available to work with you throughout the shoot. If not, it might be worth paying extra to hire someone to keep you looking fresh while your pictures are being taken.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make a demo reel.\", \"描述\": \"A demo reel is a compilation of clips from other film projects you have done. The clips should be careful selections from scenes that display your acting talent to best effect. You can use video editing software to make your own demo reel, or hire a video editor to create a professionally-polished reel. The entire reel should be no longer than 2-3 minutes.\\nThe reel should be as easy to view as possible. Some casting directors will ask you to send an electronic file via email, while others will ask for a hard copy on DVD. Have your reel available in both formats.\\nIf you've never been in a movie before, include clips from a play you've been in that was filmed. You can also include clips from student films.\\nIn recent years some casting directors have been asking for clips that cater to the project at hand. For example, if you're auditioning to play a football team captain, try to send a clip that shows you playing a similar character.\\nDon't start your reel with an introduction or montage. It should begin with your name, then launch directly into the first scene.\\nDon't save the best for last. Casting directors have a lot of reels to review. If yours doesn't start out with your strongest scenes, chances are they'll skip to the next person's reel.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Find auditions.\", \"描述\": \"The easiest way to find auditions in your area is to do an online search. Backstage.com has a comprehensive listing of auditions in various cities. You can also check the classifieds section in your local newspaper or check with classifieds on university websites for casting calls for student films.\\nNew York City and Los Angeles have the highest concentration of casting calls, since both cities are big into the movie business. However, many smaller cities and towns have a thriving film community, and you're sure to find opportunities in your area if you know where to look. Check out arts blogs, alternative weekly newspapers, and other arts publications to find more information.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Provide all requested materials to the casting director.\", \"描述\": \"You may be asked for a resume and cover letter in addition to your headshots and demo reel. You may be asked to bring these materials with you to the casting call or submit them beforehand. Either way, make sure the materials are formatted according to the casting director's specifications, and don't leave anything out. Making things less convenient for the casting director will definitely hurt your chances.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Plan to tailor your performance for each audition.\", \"描述\": \"You have your monologues ready to perform at any time, but you shouldn't treat each audition the same way. Think about the part for which you're auditioning and choose the monologues that best fit the role. If possible, memorize a new one before audition day arrives.\\nYou should dress appropriately for the part as well. Don't arrive in full costume, but make yourself look like a believable version of the character you'll be playing. If you're auditioning to be a classy CEO businesswoman, don't show up in jeans and tennis shoes.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Get ready to do a cold read.\", \"描述\": \"In addition to performing one of your monologues, you'll probably also be asked to read a section of the script without getting the chance to look at it beforehand. 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It's usually placed several feet in front of where the casting director and auditors are sitting so they can have the best possible view of your audition.\\nYou don't have to feel anchored to the mark throughout the course of your audition; it's just a starting place. You should utilize the space in a way that makes sense for the role you're playing.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Master your slate.\", \"描述\": \"A slate is your one-sentence introduction that you make just before you begin your monologue. When you reach the mark, turn to the casting director, make eye contact, and give your name and a short description of what you're about to do. For example: \\\"Good evening. I'm Felicia Woods, and this piece is from the second act of Hamlet.\\\"\\nDon't spend too much time talking before you perform. Most auditions are timed, and the clock starts ticking as soon as you walk in. You want to maximize your performance time.\\nDon't ask the casting director and auditors their names, and don't exchange pleasantries beyond saying \\\"good evening\\\" or the like. Again, you don't have time for it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Improving Your Chances\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Act as much as possible.\", \"描述\": \"Taking classes and practicing your craft as often as possible will increase the chances that you'll impress a casting director. Take feedback from auditions into account and work as hard as you can to improve, then try again. It might take dozens of auditions before you land a role, but every time you act in front of a casting director, you're getting valuable practice.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Hone various skills and talents.\", \"描述\": \"You can single yourself out from the other actors by demonstrating your other talents if they are relevant for the role. 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2,869 | How to Audition for a TV Commercial | 1. Preparing for the Audition
1-1. Get the details for the audition.
The details should include what the product or service is in the commercial, how long the commercial is, and the role you are auditioning for. You can find the details of the audition on the opening casting call website or flier.
If you have a casting agent, they will be able to provide this information for you.
1-2. Review the script for the commercial.
The script, or copy, for the commercial is usually released a few days or hours in advance. Get the script and memorize it. Prepare several different interpretations using different tones and inflections. Always memorize the script with a positive, uplifting tone, unless the script calls for a different tone.
Practice performing the script with a friend or peer. Make sure you know all the words by heart and can perform it with confidence before the audition.
1-3. Dress the part.
If the role you are auditioning for is supposed to be a casual, laid back person, do not wear a suit to the audition. Instead, dress according to how you interpret the part. Look professional and polished, but also like you fit right into the role.
For example, if you are auditioning for a role as a manager, you may wear a suit with no tie. If you are auditioning as a young, hip professional, you may wear a hip outfit that has a little style.
Do not wear offensive or aggressive clothing to the audition, such as a t-shirt with a large slogan or an outfit that shows a lot of skin.
1-4. Read up on the product or service in the commercial.
If you have time before the audition, do a little research into the product or service you will be promoting in the commercial. Watch their other television ads and spots to get a sense of their brand and approach.
Notice the tone the actors in their other commercials take and how they present themselves. You can then mimic this tone in your own audition.
1-5. Have your headshot and resume ready.
Your headshot should show your profile in a flattering, professional way. Your resume should outline your height, weight, hair color, and eye color as well as any previous credits or roles. Have these two documents on hand for every audition you go to.
If you do not already have a headshot, make sure you get one before the audition.
If you do not already have an acting resume, you can learn how to create an acting resume for auditions.
2. Performing Well
2-1. Greet the casting director with a friendly, energetic demeanor.
Enter the audition room with a smile. Be polite to the casting director and bring energy into the room. Casting directors are usually tired, overworked, and have seen many other actors before you. Stand out by being energetic and friendly.
Greet the casting director by introducing yourself. Shake their hand, if offered.
The casting director may ask you to state your full name into the camera and turn to one side to see how you appear on camera.
2-2. Enunciate your words and speak slowly.
As you perform the script, make sure you pronounce your words clearly and loudly. Do not mumble or speak too low, as this will negatively impact your audition. Speak slowly and take your time. Use a positive, upbeat tone.
As you will have the script memorized, look up at the casting director and make eye contact as you perform.
2-3. Act natural and sincere.
Most casting directors are looking for actors who can be natural on camera, especially for television commercials. Try not to appear too staged in your audition. Project sincerity and honesty when you perform. Act like yourself.
You may find your first read is much stiffer and staged than your second read. Try to relax, take deep breaths, and act more natural on your second read, if you are asked for one.
2-4. Improvise when asked.
After you do a first read, the casting director may ask you to improvise or give variety. Change up how you approach the script. Alter your voice and your body language. Do a different character or persona when you perform the script.
Most casting directors will ask you to do this so it is smart to have a few alternative interpretations of the script on hand for the audition.
2-5. Respond to direction from the casting director.
The casting director may give you suggestions on how to perform the script or adjustments you can make on your second read. Always follow their instruction. Respond positively to their feedback and use it to make your performance better.
Being able to take feedback from the casting director and run with it will show them that you are adaptable. It will also make it clear that you want the part and are willing to act as required to get it.
2-6. Wait for a callback.
At the end of the audition, you should thank the casting director, smile, and tell them you look forward to hearing from them. Leave the room on a positive note to increase your chances of getting the job. Then, wait for a callback from the casting director. You will usually get a callback within one week of the audition.
3. Finding Auditions
3-1. Look at online casting websites and forums.
Look at websites like Backstage for open casting calls in your area. Search online casting forums for open calls for auditions for television commercials. Most sites will have a detailed list of open calls as well as what type of look they are searching for. Respond to casting calls that seem of interest to you or calls that match your physique.
3-2. Take acting classes.
Another good way to network and find out about auditions is to take acting classes. Sign up for acting classes and work on your performance skills. You can also meet other aspiring actors and find out about auditions through them.
Look for acting classes at your local performance center.
3-3. Find an agent
A talent agent can help connect you to television commercial auditions quite easily. But finding a talent agent can be competitive and difficult to do. Contact top agencies with your resume and headshots. Once you find an agent, they can then send you on casting calls that are a good match for you.
Before you find an agent, work on building a resume of roles. Go on many auditions and take acting classes. Chances are an agent will pay more attention to you if you have a few years of training and experience in the business.
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Wait for a callback.\\nAt the end of the audition, you should thank the casting director, smile, and tell them you look forward to hearing from them. Leave the room on a positive note to increase your chances of getting the job. Then, wait for a callback from the casting director. You will usually get a callback within one week of the audition.\\n3. Finding Auditions\\n3-1. Look at online casting websites and forums.\\nLook at websites like Backstage for open casting calls in your area. Search online casting forums for open calls for auditions for television commercials. Most sites will have a detailed list of open calls as well as what type of look they are searching for. Respond to casting calls that seem of interest to you or calls that match your physique.\\n3-2. Take acting classes.\\nAnother good way to network and find out about auditions is to take acting classes. Sign up for acting classes and work on your performance skills. 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2,870 | How to Audition for the X Factor | 1. Before the Audition
1-1. Know the deadlines and regulations.
For X-factor UK, there are different dates and rules. Make sure you meet all the requirements and complete every step before all deadlines.
You need to be 14 or older. This is regardless of whether you're in a group or a solo act.
1-2. Master a verse of a song.
Or two songs, just in case the person before you sang the same one. You'll be singing it acapella (without any instruments or backing track -- just you) in front of an X-Factor team member and the crowd around you.
Avoid being clichéd. Only sing Whitney Houston, Michael Jackson, or Jennifer Hudson if you're just as good. Pick a song that you know won't be the 500th time your judge has heard it that day. If that's the case, you'll be compared to everyone else on two different levels.
The judge doesn't have to know the song. In fact, it may be better if they don't.
1-3. Apply online.
Before the season starts, there is an application form online at the website of your country's version of the X Factor. This is months and months in advance, so you may need to wait until the next season rolls around.
There are plenty of auditions by "mobile van" each year. In fact, that's how James Arthur auditioned. Get connected on the website, Facebook, and Twitter for announcements.
1-4. Find an open call.
If you missed the online application, there's still an open call. Thousands of people do it. If one is in your area, great! Suit up and start practicing.
In the UK, open call auditions were held in London, Birmingham, Manchester, Cardiff, and Glasgow. But there were tons of mobile van auditions -- just the beginning of the list is Aberdeen, Colchester, the Isle of Wight, and Dublin.
1-5. Pick out an outfit.
On the audition notice received when you fill out your form, it explicitly says to stand out from the crowd. Personalities are so large there really is no limit. Whatever matches your personality, go for it.
This show is all about spectacle. Here's what the form says: "Dress as the pop star you want to be - we are looking for the next big music sensation so make an impact. We also highly encourage everyone to bring along posters and banners to the open day - the brighter the better!"
Fortunately or unfortunately (no one is quite sure), wearing your wedding dress or a plastic chicken on your head is not unheard of. You may stand out more by not trying too hard, believe it or not.
1-6. Stay warmed up.
If the audition is months away, don't quit. Run through your piece every other day or so until you can do it on one leg with your hands tied behind your back. Stay vocally healthy to boot.
Load up on warm water. Stay away from alcohol (dries out your throat) and definitely don't smoke. If you're concerned you're getting a tickle, go for green tea, pineapple juice, and get on vocal rest. Don't strain your voice -- that'll just wear it out.
2. At the Open Audition
2-1. Get there early.
There will literally be thousands of others waiting near you to get their 30 seconds, too. Parking will be limited, so if you can avoid driving, do it. And if you're a minor, bring a guardian with you.
Get there very, very early. People will be waiting in the wee hours of the morning. You may want to bring some food, drinks (water!), a chair, and something to amuse yourself.
2-2. Be patient.
This will most likely take all day. That's even if you've been informed to get there at 8 AM. They are seeing thousands of people and won't likely get started until everything is settled and everyone is ushered into the arena (or whatever the type of venue). Your audition will likely take place 8 or so hours after you've arrived.
Account for the weather. Your hair and makeup may not look as great as you want it to when you're auditioning at 5 PM and got there at 5 AM. Bring extra makeup and comfortable shoes. You'll be grateful you did.
2-3. Sing your heart out.
Finally, the fun part! When your number is called, a team member (someone you won't recognize) will approach you and listen to you sing. You'll be doing this in front of everyone -- there is no designated, blocked-off area for singers. Take a deep breath and go big or go home.
The judge will then give you a polite yes or no. They are not allowed to critique you or give you feedback. If you do make it, you'll be notified of a call back audition at a later date.
Tips
Be yourself and have fun!
Carry water with you. Make sure it's not cold -- that'll tighten up your vocal folds.
If you are nervous of singing in front of people practice singing in front of toys or friends.If that does not work join a singing club that does shows.
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2,871 | Cleanse Your Aura: How, When, and Why to Do It | 1. How to Cleanse Your Aura
1-1. Cleanse your aura with sage smudging.
Smudging is using smoke to purify, and it’s a practice that originated with the indigenous peoples of the Americas. For this cleansing, you’ll need a sage bundle, an abalone shell, and a feather. Light the sage, then place it in the abalone shell. Use the feather to waft the smoke over your body, moving from your head down to your toes.
If you don’t have a shell, you can simply hold the sage in your hand. After you light the sage, trace the outline of your body so the smoke wafts over you, cleansing your aura.
Sage isn’t the only herb you can use for smudging. For cleansing your aura, you can also smudge with Palo Santo, cedar, frankincense, or myrrh.
1-2. Do an egg cleanse.
In Spanish, an egg cleanse is called “la limpia” because the egg absorbs all of your negative energy, leaving you clear. Start by washing a raw egg in salt water and lemon juice. Then, pass the egg through a flame as you say a prayer. Once the egg cools, roll the egg all over your body to soak up the negative energy. Afterwards, dispose of the egg by cracking it in your toilet.
You might repeat your intention as you roll the egg. Say something like, “May this egg cleanse me.”
If you like, you can read an egg cleanse before you dispose of the egg in the toilet. To do a reading, crack the egg over a glass of water. Use your intuition to interpret the meaning.
1-3. Take a spiritual bath with herbs and crystals.
A nice soak may be the perfect way to literally wash away all of your stress and negative vibes. Fill your tub with comfortably hot water, then add 1 cup (272 g) of Himalayan pink salt or Epsom salt. For added benefits, add a few drops of essential oil, a handful of herbs, and 1 or more crystals to your bath water. Soak for about 10 to 20 minutes to cleanse your aura. Then, imagine the draining water carrying away all of your troubles.
Try essential oils like eucalyptus, lavender, rose, or rosemary.
Add herbs like rose petals, lavender petals, or eucalyptus leaves if you have them.
Add crystals like selenite for peace and calm, clear quartz for healing, amethyst for cleansing, or blue lace agate for balancing.
1-4. Cleanse your aura with selenite.
Selenite is a stone of expansion, and it has cleansing properties. Use a selenite wand for the cleansing. Sit comfortably and focus your intentions on cleaning your aura. Starting at the top of your head, slowly sweep the selenite wand over your body to absorb the negative energies.
Afterward, you might want to cleanse your selenite crystal to remove the negative energy.
1-5. Spritz yourself with an aura cleansing spray.
Spraying yourself with a lovely herbal blend is an easy, calming way to cleanse your aura. You can buy an aura cleansing spray or make your own. If you make one, use vodka or witch hazel to prevent bacteria growth. Here are two great recipes:
: Fill a bowl with water and add a clear or rose quartz crystal. Place the bowl on a windowsill overnight during the full moon, but remove it before sunrise to preserve the moon's energy. Pour the water and crystal into a spray bottle, then add a few drops of lavender, rosemary, and/or sage essential oil. You can also add dried herbs, if you like.
: Fill a spray bottle with 3/5 water and 2/5 vodka or witch hazel. Add a few drops of lavender and sage essential oils. You could also add ylang ylang essential oil if you like. Place a crystal or two, such as clear quartz, rose quartz, or amethyst, in the bottle. You might also add a sage leaf or lavender petals.
1-6. Do mantra meditation.
Repeating a mantra is a great way to cleanse your aura. Choose a mantra that resonates with you, like “I am calm” or “I’m at peace.” Sit comfortably and close your eyes, then slowly chant your mantra aloud 10 times. Next, quietly say your mantra to yourself, just moving your lips. Continue saying your mantra to yourself without moving your lips for as long as you want to meditate.
You might start with a 5-minute meditation.
It’s normal for your mind to wander. That’s okay! Simply redirect your thoughts back to your mantra.
Experiment some chakra meditation, grounding your energy and connecting yourself to the earth. Then, imagine a waterfall of light washing over you, cleansing away any energy that you picked up through the day that doesn't belong to you.
1-7. Do an aura combing exercise.
Sit in a comfortable position and focus on your intention to comb away negative energy. Then, cup your hands and brush them over your energy field surrounding your entire body. Imagine yourself brushing away negative energy and stress. Afterwards, wash your hands to get rid of the negative energy.
If you like, you can use a crystal to cleanse your aura during aura combing. Great options include a selenite, clear quartz, rose quartz, or blue lace agate.
1-8. Walk in the rain.
Rain is a natural way to cleanse your aura with water, which is purifying. Next time it rains, go for a cleansing walk. Be intentional about your walk by imagining the rain washing away your stress, anxiety, or negativity.
Don’t go for a walk during a thunderstorm because thunder and lighting can give you funky vibes.
1-9. Ground yourself in nature.
You can release your stress or negative energy back into the earth to cleanse your aura. Spend 10 minutes outside in the sunshine or walking barefoot in the dirt. Picture the energy you want to release flowing back into the earth. Then, imagine the sun’s bright rays or the earth’s healing energy filling you with white light.
You could also lie outside on a blanket. Just make sure to wear sun protection!
As another option, try doing yoga outdoors. Moving your body helps you connect with yourself and get rid of negative energy. Plus, the sun’s light will help fill you with positive vibes.
2. Benefits of Cleansing Your Aura
2-1. Aura cleansing improves your emotional state.
Your aura is a reflection of your inner emotions, so cleansing away bad vibes helps you feel better. It’s especially helpful for getting rid of energies you picked up from other people that might be affecting you. Many people find they feel lighter and more positive after an aura cleanse.
2-2. Cleansing your aura helps you live a more authentic life.
Negative emotions can create barriers that make it hard to get where you want in life. For instance, feeling weighed down by anger or stress might distract you from your goals. Aura cleansing helps unblock you so you can go after what’s really important to you.
Since aura cleansing can raise your vibes, it may help you attract the things you want in life. If you want to manifest something, an aura cleanse can help.
3. When to Cleanse Your Aura
3-1. Cleanse your aura when you feel tired, stressed, or upset.
Feeling rundown or like you have no energy is a sure-fire sign you need to do a cleanse. You probably have some negative energy blocking you, but an aura cleanse will clear that away.
If you think you’re depressed, talk to your doctor about how you feel. Aura cleanses are great for helping you feel more positive, but they’re not a replacement for medical treatment.
3-2. Do an aura cleanse after being around negative people.
You pick up energy from the people who are around you, which can affect your aura. Sometimes this is great, like when you’re around someone really positive. However, this also means that people who’re angry, sad, greedy, or jealous will affect your energy, too. Get rid of those bad vibes with an aura cleanse.
If you feel bad after spending time with someone, you probably need to do an aura cleanse. Similarly, you might go ahead and do one if you know your friend is really struggling with something.
3-3. Cleanse your aura if it’s black, grey, or brown.
A dark, muddy aura means that something may be wrong. Often, you’re feeling exhausted or burnt out, but it could also mean you’re ill or grieving. Sometimes, a darker aura is a sign of harmful emotions, such as greed or anger. Cleansing your aura can get rid of this bad mojo.
4. What does the color of your aura mean?
You can read your aura to learn more about your spiritual energy.
Your aura can be a single color or a blend of colors. Multiple colors just mean that you’re experiencing more than one emotion at the same time. Here are some common interpretations of aura colors:
love, kindness
jealous, envious
passion, balance
angry
gentleness, harmony
calm, communicator, creative
honesty, peace
adventurous
happiness, connection
playfulness, intellect, positivity
stressed, studious
fear of loss
spiritual, intuitive
artistic, spiritual, psychic, open-minded
unique, creative
abundance, spiritually gifted
balance, spiritual
greedy, selfish
angry, grieving, ill
exhausted, depressed.
Tips
Try out different crystals to see which ones feel right to you. Aura cleansing is a personal practice, so follow your intuition.
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Then, pass the egg through a flame as you say a prayer. Once the egg cools, roll the egg all over your body to soak up the negative energy. Afterwards, dispose of the egg by cracking it in your toilet.\\nYou might repeat your intention as you roll the egg. Say something like, “May this egg cleanse me.”\\nIf you like, you can read an egg cleanse before you dispose of the egg in the toilet. To do a reading, crack the egg over a glass of water. Use your intuition to interpret the meaning.\\n1-3. Take a spiritual bath with herbs and crystals.\\nA nice soak may be the perfect way to literally wash away all of your stress and negative vibes. Fill your tub with comfortably hot water, then add 1 cup (272 g) of Himalayan pink salt or Epsom salt. For added benefits, add a few drops of essential oil, a handful of herbs, and 1 or more crystals to your bath water. Soak for about 10 to 20 minutes to cleanse your aura. 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For cleansing your aura, you can also smudge with Palo Santo, cedar, frankincense, or myrrh.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Do an egg cleanse.\", \"描述\": \"In Spanish, an egg cleanse is called “la limpia” because the egg absorbs all of your negative energy, leaving you clear. Start by washing a raw egg in salt water and lemon juice. Then, pass the egg through a flame as you say a prayer. Once the egg cools, roll the egg all over your body to soak up the negative energy. Afterwards, dispose of the egg by cracking it in your toilet.\\nYou might repeat your intention as you roll the egg. Say something like, “May this egg cleanse me.”\\nIf you like, you can read an egg cleanse before you dispose of the egg in the toilet. To do a reading, crack the egg over a glass of water. Use your intuition to interpret the meaning.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take a spiritual bath with herbs and crystals.\", \"描述\": \"A nice soak may be the perfect way to literally wash away all of your stress and negative vibes. Fill your tub with comfortably hot water, then add 1 cup (272 g) of Himalayan pink salt or Epsom salt. For added benefits, add a few drops of essential oil, a handful of herbs, and 1 or more crystals to your bath water. Soak for about 10 to 20 minutes to cleanse your aura. Then, imagine the draining water carrying away all of your troubles.\\nTry essential oils like eucalyptus, lavender, rose, or rosemary.\\nAdd herbs like rose petals, lavender petals, or eucalyptus leaves if you have them.\\nAdd crystals like selenite for peace and calm, clear quartz for healing, amethyst for cleansing, or blue lace agate for balancing.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Cleanse your aura with selenite.\", \"描述\": \"Selenite is a stone of expansion, and it has cleansing properties. Use a selenite wand for the cleansing. Sit comfortably and focus your intentions on cleaning your aura. Starting at the top of your head, slowly sweep the selenite wand over your body to absorb the negative energies.\\nAfterward, you might want to cleanse your selenite crystal to remove the negative energy.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Spritz yourself with an aura cleansing spray.\", \"描述\": \"Spraying yourself with a lovely herbal blend is an easy, calming way to cleanse your aura. You can buy an aura cleansing spray or make your own. If you make one, use vodka or witch hazel to prevent bacteria growth. Here are two great recipes:\\n\\n: Fill a bowl with water and add a clear or rose quartz crystal. Place the bowl on a windowsill overnight during the full moon, but remove it before sunrise to preserve the moon's energy. Pour the water and crystal into a spray bottle, then add a few drops of lavender, rosemary, and/or sage essential oil. You can also add dried herbs, if you like.\\n: Fill a spray bottle with 3/5 water and 2/5 vodka or witch hazel. Add a few drops of lavender and sage essential oils. You could also add ylang ylang essential oil if you like. Place a crystal or two, such as clear quartz, rose quartz, or amethyst, in the bottle. You might also add a sage leaf or lavender petals.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Do mantra meditation.\", \"描述\": \"Repeating a mantra is a great way to cleanse your aura. Choose a mantra that resonates with you, like “I am calm” or “I’m at peace.” Sit comfortably and close your eyes, then slowly chant your mantra aloud 10 times. Next, quietly say your mantra to yourself, just moving your lips. Continue saying your mantra to yourself without moving your lips for as long as you want to meditate.\\nYou might start with a 5-minute meditation.\\nIt’s normal for your mind to wander. That’s okay! Simply redirect your thoughts back to your mantra.\\nExperiment some chakra meditation, grounding your energy and connecting yourself to the earth. Then, imagine a waterfall of light washing over you, cleansing away any energy that you picked up through the day that doesn't belong to you.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Do an aura combing exercise.\", \"描述\": \"Sit in a comfortable position and focus on your intention to comb away negative energy. Then, cup your hands and brush them over your energy field surrounding your entire body. Imagine yourself brushing away negative energy and stress. Afterwards, wash your hands to get rid of the negative energy.\\nIf you like, you can use a crystal to cleanse your aura during aura combing. Great options include a selenite, clear quartz, rose quartz, or blue lace agate.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Walk in the rain.\", \"描述\": \"Rain is a natural way to cleanse your aura with water, which is purifying. Next time it rains, go for a cleansing walk. Be intentional about your walk by imagining the rain washing away your stress, anxiety, or negativity.\\nDon’t go for a walk during a thunderstorm because thunder and lighting can give you funky vibes.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Ground yourself in nature.\", \"描述\": \"You can release your stress or negative energy back into the earth to cleanse your aura. Spend 10 minutes outside in the sunshine or walking barefoot in the dirt. Picture the energy you want to release flowing back into the earth. Then, imagine the sun’s bright rays or the earth’s healing energy filling you with white light.\\nYou could also lie outside on a blanket. Just make sure to wear sun protection!\\nAs another option, try doing yoga outdoors. Moving your body helps you connect with yourself and get rid of negative energy. Plus, the sun’s light will help fill you with positive vibes.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Benefits of Cleansing Your Aura\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aura cleansing improves your emotional state.\", \"描述\": \"Your aura is a reflection of your inner emotions, so cleansing away bad vibes helps you feel better. It’s especially helpful for getting rid of energies you picked up from other people that might be affecting you. Many people find they feel lighter and more positive after an aura cleanse.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Cleansing your aura helps you live a more authentic life.\", \"描述\": \"Negative emotions can create barriers that make it hard to get where you want in life. For instance, feeling weighed down by anger or stress might distract you from your goals. Aura cleansing helps unblock you so you can go after what’s really important to you.\\nSince aura cleansing can raise your vibes, it may help you attract the things you want in life. If you want to manifest something, an aura cleanse can help.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"When to Cleanse Your Aura\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Cleanse your aura when you feel tired, stressed, or upset.\", \"描述\": \"Feeling rundown or like you have no energy is a sure-fire sign you need to do a cleanse. You probably have some negative energy blocking you, but an aura cleanse will clear that away.\\nIf you think you’re depressed, talk to your doctor about how you feel. Aura cleanses are great for helping you feel more positive, but they’re not a replacement for medical treatment.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Do an aura cleanse after being around negative people.\", \"描述\": \"You pick up energy from the people who are around you, which can affect your aura. Sometimes this is great, like when you’re around someone really positive. However, this also means that people who’re angry, sad, greedy, or jealous will affect your energy, too. Get rid of those bad vibes with an aura cleanse.\\nIf you feel bad after spending time with someone, you probably need to do an aura cleanse. Similarly, you might go ahead and do one if you know your friend is really struggling with something.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Cleanse your aura if it’s black, grey, or brown.\", \"描述\": \"A dark, muddy aura means that something may be wrong. Often, you’re feeling exhausted or burnt out, but it could also mean you’re ill or grieving. Sometimes, a darker aura is a sign of harmful emotions, such as greed or anger. Cleansing your aura can get rid of this bad mojo.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"What does the color of your aura mean?\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You can read your aura to learn more about your spiritual energy.\", \"描述\": \"Your aura can be a single color or a blend of colors. Multiple colors just mean that you’re experiencing more than one emotion at the same time. Here are some common interpretations of aura colors:\\n\\n love, kindness\\n jealous, envious\\n passion, balance\\n angry\\n gentleness, harmony\\n calm, communicator, creative\\n honesty, peace\\n adventurous\\n happiness, connection\\n playfulness, intellect, positivity\\n stressed, studious\\n fear of loss\\n spiritual, intuitive\\n artistic, spiritual, psychic, open-minded\\n unique, creative\\n abundance, spiritually gifted\\n balance, spiritual\\n greedy, selfish\\n angry, grieving, ill\\n exhausted, depressed.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Try out different crystals to see which ones feel right to you. Aura cleansing is a personal practice, so follow your intuition.\\n\"]}]}}",
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2,872 | Automatically Reload a Page in Chrome: Easy Extension & Script | 1. Using An Extension
1-1. Search for "Easy Auto Refresh" in the Chrome Web Store.
You can also click here for the direct link to the extension. The extension is offered by dummysoftware.com and is a highly rated and popular extension.
With Easy Auto Refresh, you can set all your pages or specific tabs to refresh as often as you want.
1-2. Click Add to Chrome in the top right corner.
You'll see a box pop up that verifies the extension will be able to access your browser history.
1-3. Click Add Extension.
Once the installation is complete, you will be redirected to a new page. You can close that page, as it's just information about the extension.
1-4. Click on the circular arrow icon next to the web address bar.
This is the “Easy Auto Refresh” icon. If you don't see the icon immediately, click the puzzle piece, then click the Easy Auto Refresh icon.
A timer will appear so you can set the time for the page to auto refresh.
1-5. Adjust the reloading time.
In the large box, enter the time in seconds. If you want the page to reload every 30 seconds, enter 30.
Click to see more options, such as reloading every tab open in the window.
1-6. Click Start.
You can see the timer activate and start counting down until the next refresh.
Easy Auto Refresh may become out-of-date or the target for hackers who want to introduce malware to the extension. If it gets poor ratings on the Chrome Web Store, you know to stay away from it. There are plenty of other extensions that offer auto-refresh, like "Auto Refresh Plus."
2. Using a Script
2-1. Open at least two Chrome tabs.
You need to open a page that you want to keep reloading, then another tab to force the other to refresh.
You can open a new tab in Chrome by pressing (Windows) or (Mac).
2-2. Press Ctrl+⇧ Shift+I (Windows) or ⌘ Cmd+⇧ Shift+I.
Make sure you have the "extra" tab active, not the tab that you want to refresh.
This keyboard shortcut will open Chrome's control console.
2-3. Enter the following code:
win1 = window.open("https://www.yourpage.com");
timer1 = setInterval(function(){win1.location.href="https://www.yourpage.com"},10*60*1000);
win1 should be replaced with the info for the page that you want to reload.
This code forces the window to auto refresh every 10 minutes.
If you want to cancel the refresh, just close the console tab or both of them.
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Adjust the reloading time.\\nIn the large box, enter the time in seconds. If you want the page to reload every 30 seconds, enter 30. \\nClick to see more options, such as reloading every tab open in the window.\\n1-6. Click Start.\\nYou can see the timer activate and start counting down until the next refresh. \\nEasy Auto Refresh may become out-of-date or the target for hackers who want to introduce malware to the extension. If it gets poor ratings on the Chrome Web Store, you know to stay away from it. There are plenty of other extensions that offer auto-refresh, like \\\"Auto Refresh Plus.\\\"\\n2. Using a Script\\n2-1. Open at least two Chrome tabs.\\nYou need to open a page that you want to keep reloading, then another tab to force the other to refresh. \\n You can open a new tab in Chrome by pressing (Windows) or (Mac).\\n2-2. Press Ctrl+⇧ Shift+I (Windows) or ⌘ Cmd+⇧ Shift+I.\\nMake sure you have the \\\"extra\\\" tab active, not the tab that you want to refresh. \\n This keyboard shortcut will open Chrome's control console.\\n2-3. Enter the following code:\\nwin1 = window.open(\\\"https://www.yourpage.com\\\");\\ntimer1 = setInterval(function(){win1.location.href=\\\"https://www.yourpage.com\\\"},10*60*1000);\\n\\n win1 should be replaced with the info for the page that you want to reload. \\n This code forces the window to auto refresh every 10 minutes. \\n If you want to cancel the refresh, just close the console tab or both of them.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"There are many situations in which refreshing a webpage constantly is advantageous, with an eBay auction being a good example. If you're using Google Chrome, you can install an extension that automatically refreshes each tab for you. If you don't want to use a Chrome extension, you can copy and paste a simple script that automatically reloads the page. This wikiHow article teaches you how to auto-refresh in Chrome with and without an extension.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Using An Extension\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Search for \\\"Easy Auto Refresh\\\" in the Chrome Web Store.\", \"描述\": \"You can also click here for the direct link to the extension. The extension is offered by dummysoftware.com and is a highly rated and popular extension. \\nWith Easy Auto Refresh, you can set all your pages or specific tabs to refresh as often as you want.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Click Add to Chrome in the top right corner.\", \"描述\": \"You'll see a box pop up that verifies the extension will be able to access your browser history.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Click Add Extension.\", \"描述\": \"Once the installation is complete, you will be redirected to a new page. You can close that page, as it's just information about the extension.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Click on the circular arrow icon next to the web address bar.\", \"描述\": \"This is the “Easy Auto Refresh” icon. If you don't see the icon immediately, click the puzzle piece, then click the Easy Auto Refresh icon. \\nA timer will appear so you can set the time for the page to auto refresh.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Adjust the reloading time.\", \"描述\": \"In the large box, enter the time in seconds. If you want the page to reload every 30 seconds, enter 30. \\nClick to see more options, such as reloading every tab open in the window.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Click Start.\", \"描述\": \"You can see the timer activate and start counting down until the next refresh. \\nEasy Auto Refresh may become out-of-date or the target for hackers who want to introduce malware to the extension. If it gets poor ratings on the Chrome Web Store, you know to stay away from it. There are plenty of other extensions that offer auto-refresh, like \\\"Auto Refresh Plus.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Using a Script\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Open at least two Chrome tabs.\", \"描述\": \"You need to open a page that you want to keep reloading, then another tab to force the other to refresh. \\n You can open a new tab in Chrome by pressing (Windows) or (Mac).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Press Ctrl+⇧ Shift+I (Windows) or ⌘ Cmd+⇧ Shift+I.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure you have the \\\"extra\\\" tab active, not the tab that you want to refresh. \\n This keyboard shortcut will open Chrome's control console.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Enter the following code:\", \"描述\": \"win1 = window.open(\\\"https://www.yourpage.com\\\");\\ntimer1 = setInterval(function(){win1.location.href=\\\"https://www.yourpage.com\\\"},10*60*1000);\\n\\n win1 should be replaced with the info for the page that you want to reload. \\n This code forces the window to auto refresh every 10 minutes. \\n If you want to cancel the refresh, just close the console tab or both of them.\"}]}]}}",
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2,873 | How to Auto Update Google Chrome | 1. Updating Google Chrome on the Computer
1-1. Launch Google Chrome.
Look for Google Chrome on your computer and open it. The web browser will load.
1-2. Click on the button with three horizontal bars on the upper right corner of the browser.
This will bring down the main menu.
1-3. Trigger the auto-update.
Click “About Google Chrome” from the menu. The About page will load. This will also trigger Google Chrome to check for updates.
You will notice a “Checking for updates” status under the version number of the browser. If an update is found, Google Chrome will apply the update.
1-4. Exit Google Chrome.
In order to properly apply the update, you have to exit and restart it. Google Chrome will save all your opened tabs and windows.
1-5. Restart Google Chrome.
Open the browser again. It will automatically open the previous opened tabs and windows so you can continue from where you left off.
If you wish to set Chrome to do this automatically when it starts up, open the menu like described above, but click "Settings" from the menu instead of "About Google Chrome". After the page loads, find the "On startup" section (you may need to scroll up/down the page to find it). Once it is found, make sure you have selected the "Open a specific page or set of pages" option. Click the "Add a new page" button and it will ask for a URL. Use the address for the "About Google Chrome" page as the URL (chrome://settings/help) and then click the "Add" button. Doing this will set Chrome to automatically check for updates on when launched.
2. Updating Google Chrome on iOS
2-1. Open Settings.
Look for the Settings app, the one with the gear app icon, and tap it to launch it.
2-2. Go to iTunes & App Store.
Scroll down the Settings menu until you find “iTunes & App Store.” Tap on it.
2-3. Go to Automatic Downloads.
Scroll to the very end of the iTunes & App Store screen, and you’ll see the Automatic Downloads section.
2-4. Enable updates.
Under the Automatic Downloads section, tap the white oval next to “Updates.” The white oval will have a green portion. All your apps installed on your iOS mobile device, including the Chrome app, will now automatically update whenever updates are available. Of course, you need to be connected to the Internet for this to happen.
3. Updating Google Chrome on Android
3-1. Open Google Play Store.
Look for the Play Store app icon (the white suitcase with a Play symbol on it). Tap on it to launch it.
3-2. Go to My Apps.
Tap on the Menu button on the left side of the header to bring out the main menu of the Play Store.
Tap on My Apps, and you will be brought to the screen that lists all your installed apps.
3-3. View apps with updates.
The apps that have available updates will have the label “Update” beside them. Scroll to see if the Chrome app is one of them.
3-4. Tap on the Chrome app from the list.
You will be taken to its information page.
3-5. Enable auto-update.
Tap on the 3-dot icon at the top right corner of the page. This will bring up a small box with the Auto-update option. Tap on the checkbox beside the option to enable it.
When this is selected, the app will automatically update itself when updates are available. Of course, you need to be connected to the Internet for this to happen.
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It will automatically open the previous opened tabs and windows so you can continue from where you left off.\\nIf you wish to set Chrome to do this automatically when it starts up, open the menu like described above, but click \\\"Settings\\\" from the menu instead of \\\"About Google Chrome\\\". After the page loads, find the \\\"On startup\\\" section (you may need to scroll up/down the page to find it). Once it is found, make sure you have selected the \\\"Open a specific page or set of pages\\\" option. Click the \\\"Add a new page\\\" button and it will ask for a URL. Use the address for the \\\"About Google Chrome\\\" page as the URL (chrome://settings/help) and then click the \\\"Add\\\" button. Doing this will set Chrome to automatically check for updates on when launched.\\n2. Updating Google Chrome on iOS\\n2-1. Open Settings.\\nLook for the Settings app, the one with the gear app icon, and tap it to launch it.\\n2-2. Go to iTunes & App Store.\\nScroll down the Settings menu until you find “iTunes & App Store.” Tap on it.\\n2-3. Go to Automatic Downloads.\\nScroll to the very end of the iTunes & App Store screen, and you’ll see the Automatic Downloads section.\\n2-4. Enable updates.\\nUnder the Automatic Downloads section, tap the white oval next to “Updates.” The white oval will have a green portion. All your apps installed on your iOS mobile device, including the Chrome app, will now automatically update whenever updates are available. Of course, you need to be connected to the Internet for this to happen.\\n3. Updating Google Chrome on Android\\n3-1. Open Google Play Store.\\nLook for the Play Store app icon (the white suitcase with a Play symbol on it). Tap on it to launch it.\\n3-2. Go to My Apps.\\nTap on the Menu button on the left side of the header to bring out the main menu of the Play Store.\\nTap on My Apps, and you will be brought to the screen that lists all your installed apps.\\n3-3. View apps with updates.\\nThe apps that have available updates will have the label “Update” beside them. Scroll to see if the Chrome app is one of them.\\n3-4. Tap on the Chrome app from the list.\\nYou will be taken to its information page.\\n3-5. Enable auto-update.\\nTap on the 3-dot icon at the top right corner of the page. This will bring up a small box with the Auto-update option. Tap on the checkbox beside the option to enable it.\\nWhen this is selected, the app will automatically update itself when updates are available. Of course, you need to be connected to the Internet for this to happen.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Google Chrome automatically updates itself whenever it detects a new version available. This happens in the background and you won’t even notice it, unless there’s a change on the user interface. You can also manually trigger the checking of the update, if you wish to. iOS and Android can also be set up to automatically update all installed apps, the Chrome app included.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Updating Google Chrome on the Computer\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Launch Google Chrome.\", \"描述\": \"Look for Google Chrome on your computer and open it. The web browser will load.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Click on the button with three horizontal bars on the upper right corner of the browser.\", \"描述\": \"This will bring down the main menu.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Trigger the auto-update.\", \"描述\": \"Click “About Google Chrome” from the menu. The About page will load. This will also trigger Google Chrome to check for updates.\\nYou will notice a “Checking for updates” status under the version number of the browser. If an update is found, Google Chrome will apply the update.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Exit Google Chrome.\", \"描述\": \"In order to properly apply the update, you have to exit and restart it. Google Chrome will save all your opened tabs and windows.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Restart Google Chrome.\", \"描述\": \"Open the browser again. It will automatically open the previous opened tabs and windows so you can continue from where you left off.\\nIf you wish to set Chrome to do this automatically when it starts up, open the menu like described above, but click \\\"Settings\\\" from the menu instead of \\\"About Google Chrome\\\". After the page loads, find the \\\"On startup\\\" section (you may need to scroll up/down the page to find it). Once it is found, make sure you have selected the \\\"Open a specific page or set of pages\\\" option. Click the \\\"Add a new page\\\" button and it will ask for a URL. Use the address for the \\\"About Google Chrome\\\" page as the URL (chrome://settings/help) and then click the \\\"Add\\\" button. Doing this will set Chrome to automatically check for updates on when launched.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Updating Google Chrome on iOS\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Open Settings.\", \"描述\": \"Look for the Settings app, the one with the gear app icon, and tap it to launch it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Go to iTunes & App Store.\", \"描述\": \"Scroll down the Settings menu until you find “iTunes & App Store.” Tap on it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Go to Automatic Downloads.\", \"描述\": \"Scroll to the very end of the iTunes & App Store screen, and you’ll see the Automatic Downloads section.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Enable updates.\", \"描述\": \"Under the Automatic Downloads section, tap the white oval next to “Updates.” The white oval will have a green portion. All your apps installed on your iOS mobile device, including the Chrome app, will now automatically update whenever updates are available. Of course, you need to be connected to the Internet for this to happen.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Updating Google Chrome on Android\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Open Google Play Store.\", \"描述\": \"Look for the Play Store app icon (the white suitcase with a Play symbol on it). Tap on it to launch it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Go to My Apps.\", \"描述\": \"Tap on the Menu button on the left side of the header to bring out the main menu of the Play Store.\\nTap on My Apps, and you will be brought to the screen that lists all your installed apps.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"View apps with updates.\", \"描述\": \"The apps that have available updates will have the label “Update” beside them. Scroll to see if the Chrome app is one of them.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Tap on the Chrome app from the list.\", \"描述\": \"You will be taken to its information page.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Enable auto-update.\", \"描述\": \"Tap on the 3-dot icon at the top right corner of the page. This will bring up a small box with the Auto-update option. Tap on the checkbox beside the option to enable it.\\nWhen this is selected, the app will automatically update itself when updates are available. Of course, you need to be connected to the Internet for this to happen.\"}]}]}}",
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2,874 | How to Automate Reports in Excel | 1. For Data Already In Excel
1-1. If the data you need to report on is already stored, updated, and maintained in Excel, you can automate reporting workflows using Macros.
Macros are a built in function that allow you to automate complex and repetitive tasks.
1-2. Open Excel.
Double-click (or click if you're on a Mac) the Excel app icon, which resembles a white "X" on a green background, then click on the templates page.
On a Mac, you may have to click and then click in the resulting drop-down menu.
If you already have an Excel report that you want to automate, you'll instead double-click the report's file to open it in Excel.
1-3. Enter your spreadsheet's data if necessary.
If you haven't added the column labels and numbers for which you want to automate results, do so before proceeding.
1-4. Enable the Developer tab.
By default, the tab doesn't show up at the top of the Excel window. You can enable it by doing the following depending on your operating system:
Windows — Click , click , click on the left side of the window, check the "Developer" box in the lower-right side of the window (you may first have to scroll down), and click .
Mac — Click , click , click , check the "Developer" box in the "Main Tabs" list, and click .
1-5. Click Developer.
This tab should now be at the top of the Excel window. Doing so brings up a toolbar at the top of the Excel window.
1-6. Click Record Macro.
It's in the toolbar. A pop-up window will appear.
1-7. Enter a name for the macro.
In the "Macro name" text box, type in the name for your macro. This will help you identify the macro later.
For example, if you're creating a macro that will make a chart out of your available data, you might name it "Chart1" or similar.
1-8. Create a shortcut key combination for the macro.
Press the ⇧ Shift key along with another key (e.g., the T key) to create the keyboard shortcut. This is what you'll use to run your macro later.
On a Mac, the shortcut key combination will end up being ⌥ Option+⌘ Command and your key (e.g., ⌥ Option+⌘ Command+T).
1-9. Store the macro in the current Excel document.
Click the "Store macro in" drop-down box, then click to ensure that the macro will be available for anyone who opens the workbook.
You'll have to save the Excel file in a special format for the macro to be saved.
1-10. Click OK.
It's at the bottom of the window. Doing so will save your macro settings and place you in record mode. Any steps you take from now until you stop the recording will be recorded.
1-11. Perform the steps that you want to automate.
Excel will track every click, keystroke, and formatting option you enter and add them to the macro's list.
For example, to select data and create a chart out of it, you would highlight your data, click at the top of the Excel window, click a chart type, click the chart format that you want to use, and edit the chart as needed.
If you wanted to use the macro to add values from cells through , you would click an empty cell, type in =SUM(A1:A12), and press ↵ Enter.
1-12. Click Stop Recording.
It's in the tab's toolbar. This will stop your recording and save any steps you took during the recording as an individual macro.
1-13. Save your Excel sheet as a macro-enabled file.
Click , click , and change the file format to instead of . You can then enter a file name, select a file location, and click .
If you don't do this, the macro won't be saved as part of the spreadsheet, meaning that other people on different computers won't be able to use your macro if you send the workbook to them.
1-14. Run your macro.
Press the key combination which you created as part of the macro to do so. You should see your spreadsheet automate according to your macro's steps.
You can also run a macro by clicking in the tab, selecting your macro's name, and clicking .
2. For External Data (MySQL, Postgres, Oracle, etc)
2-1. Download Kloudio's Excel plugin from Microsoft AppSource.
This will allow you to create a persistent connection between an external database or data source and your workbook. This plugin also works with Google Sheets.
2-2. Create a connection between your worksheet and your external data source by clicking the + button on the Kloudio portal.
Type in the details of your database (database type, credentials) and select any security/encryption options if working with confidential or company data.
2-3. Once you've created a connection between your worksheet and your database, you will be able to query and build reports from external data without leaving Excel.
Create your custom reports from the Kloudio portal and then select them from the drop-down menu in Excel. You can then apply any additional filters and choose the frequency that the report will refresh (so you can have your sales spreadsheet update automatically every week, day, or even hour.)
2-4. In addition, you can also input data into your connected worksheet and have the data update your external data source.
Create an upload template from the Kloudio portal and you will be able to manually or automatically upload changes in your spreadsheet to your external data source.
Tips
Only download Excel plugins from Microsoft AppSource, unless you trust the third party provider.
Macros can be used for anything from simple tasks (e.g., adding values or creating a chart) to complex ones (e.g., calculating your cell's values, creating a chart from the results, labeling the chart, and printing the result).
When opening a spreadsheet with your macro included, you may have to click Enable Content in a yellow banner at the top of the window before you can use the macro.
Warnings
Macros can be used maliciously (e.g., to delete files on your computer). Don't run macros from untrustworthy sources.
Macros will implement literally every step you make while recording. Make sure that you don't accidentally enter the incorrect value, open a program you don't want to use, or delete a file.
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2,875 | How to Automatically Move Emails to Folders in Gmail | 1. Creating a Filter
1-1. Open Gmail on your computer.
You'll need to use the desktop version of Gmail to create filters, as the feature isn't available in the Gmail mobile app.
1-2. Click the search settings icon .
This icon is in the search bar at the top of your inbox and looks like a set of three horizontal sliders. This lets you create a filter that automatically sorts incoming messages based on the information you enter.
If you want to sort messages from a particular sender and have an email from that sender in your inbox right now, you can skip this step. Just click that email to open it, click the three dots at the top of the message, and select . This pre-fills the sender's email address in the next step so you don't have to type or select it yourself.
1-3. Enter the criteria by which you want to filter your messages.
For example, if you want all messages from a particular sender or domain name to be added to a certain folder, you'd type that sender's email address into the "From" field.
Use the asterisk symbol (*) before a domain name if you want to sort all messages from a particular company or organization. For example, if you all messages from people at wikiHow to go in your "wikiHow" folder, you'd enter *@wikihow.com into the "From" field.
You can enter multiple rules at once. For example, if you only want messages from people at wikiHow to go into your "wikiHow" folder if the word "Tech" is in the message, you can enter Tech into the "Has the words" field.
1-4. Click the Create filter button.
It's at the bottom of the window. This opens another window in which you can specify what to do with these messages.
1-5. Check the box next to "Apply the label."
It's near the middle of the list.
1-6. Click Choose label to select a label.
In Gmail, folders are called "Labels."
1-7. Select or create a new label.
If you've already created the folder/label into which you want to sort these messages, click it on the list to select it. If not, here's how you can create one now:
Click
Enter a name for the label into the top field.
If you want to nest this label under an existing label (like a sub-folder), select that folder from the drop-down menu.
Click .
1-8. Choose whether to apply the filter to existing messages.
By default, only new messages will be sorted into the label you chose. If you have existing messages that meet your criteria and want them to be added to that label as well, check the box next to "Also apply filter to (number) matching conversations" at the bottom.
1-9. Click Create filter.
It's at the bottom of the window. Now all future messages that match the criteria you entered will automatically be added to the label you chose.
You can see all of your labels in the left panel of Gmail. They'll also be visible when you're using the mobile app—just tap the menu at the top-left to see them.
2. Editing a Filter
2-1. Open Gmail on your computer.
If you've already set up a filter to automatically sort your messages, you can edit it at any time. To get started, make sure you're signed in to Gmail on your computer, as filters can't be adjusted on a phone or tablet.
2-2. Click the gear icon.
It's in the upper-right corner of the Gmail window. This opens the "Quick settings" panel on the right.
2-3. Click See all settings.
It's at the top of the panel on the right.
2-4. Click the Filters and Blocked Addresses.
This tab is at the top of the Settings list.
2-5. Click edit next to the filter you want to adjust.
This opens the window you saw when you created the filter.
2-6. Make changes to the criteria.
You can skip this step if you just want to change the folder/label these messages are moved to. But if you need to adjust the criteria, such as the words contained in the message, the subject, or the sender's email address, you can make those changes here.
2-7. Click Continue.
This takes you to the screen that lets you choose what to do with these messages.
2-8. Change your label assignment.
If you want these messages to be assigned a different label, you can click to make your change, and then create or select a different label.
2-9. Click the Update filter button.
Your settings are now saved.
3. Using Inbox Category Tabs
3-1. Open Gmail on your computer, phone, or tablet.
By default, Gmail automatically sorts your incoming messages into (for regular emails addressed to you), (for social media-related messages), (sales and ads), (for things like shopping receipts and account notices), and (discussion groups and conversational mailing lists). You can enable or disable these categories anywhere you use Gmail.
3-2. Open your inbox category options.
Here's how:
Click the gear icon at the top-right, and then click under "Default."
Tap the menu at the top-left, select , tap your account, scroll down toward the bottom, and then tap .
3-3. Select the categories you want to use.
Use the checkboxes or toggle switches to change the categories that your emails sort into.
For example, if you want all of your emails to show up in the same folder, you'd disable all categories except for Primary.
3-4. Click Save (on a computer).
If you're using a phone or tablet, your changes will take effect immediately—no Save button necessary.
To view your inbox categories on a phone or tablet, tap the menu at the top-left and then select a category.
On a computer, your categories all appear at the top of your inbox.
Tips
You can edit and manage your labels by clicking the gear icon, selecting See all settings, and then clicking the Labels tab.
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Check the box next to \\\"Apply the label.\\\"\\nIt's near the middle of the list.\\n1-6. Click Choose label to select a label.\\nIn Gmail, folders are called \\\"Labels.\\\"\\n1-7. Select or create a new label.\\nIf you've already created the folder/label into which you want to sort these messages, click it on the list to select it. If not, here's how you can create one now:\\nClick \\nEnter a name for the label into the top field.\\nIf you want to nest this label under an existing label (like a sub-folder), select that folder from the drop-down menu.\\nClick .\\n1-8. Choose whether to apply the filter to existing messages.\\nBy default, only new messages will be sorted into the label you chose. If you have existing messages that meet your criteria and want them to be added to that label as well, check the box next to \\\"Also apply filter to (number) matching conversations\\\" at the bottom.\\n1-9. Click Create filter.\\nIt's at the bottom of the window. Now all future messages that match the criteria you entered will automatically be added to the label you chose.\\nYou can see all of your labels in the left panel of Gmail. They'll also be visible when you're using the mobile app—just tap the menu at the top-left to see them.\\n2. Editing a Filter\\n2-1. Open Gmail on your computer.\\nIf you've already set up a filter to automatically sort your messages, you can edit it at any time. To get started, make sure you're signed in to Gmail on your computer, as filters can't be adjusted on a phone or tablet.\\n2-2. Click the gear icon.\\nIt's in the upper-right corner of the Gmail window. This opens the \\\"Quick settings\\\" panel on the right.\\n2-3. Click See all settings.\\nIt's at the top of the panel on the right.\\n2-4. Click the Filters and Blocked Addresses.\\nThis tab is at the top of the Settings list.\\n2-5. Click edit next to the filter you want to adjust.\\nThis opens the window you saw when you created the filter.\\n2-6. Make changes to the criteria.\\nYou can skip this step if you just want to change the folder/label these messages are moved to. But if you need to adjust the criteria, such as the words contained in the message, the subject, or the sender's email address, you can make those changes here.\\n2-7. Click Continue.\\nThis takes you to the screen that lets you choose what to do with these messages.\\n2-8. Change your label assignment.\\nIf you want these messages to be assigned a different label, you can click to make your change, and then create or select a different label.\\n2-9. Click the Update filter button.\\nYour settings are now saved.\\n3. Using Inbox Category Tabs\\n3-1. Open Gmail on your computer, phone, or tablet.\\nBy default, Gmail automatically sorts your incoming messages into (for regular emails addressed to you), (for social media-related messages), (sales and ads), (for things like shopping receipts and account notices), and (discussion groups and conversational mailing lists). You can enable or disable these categories anywhere you use Gmail.\\n3-2. Open your inbox category options.\\nHere's how:\\n\\n Click the gear icon at the top-right, and then click under \\\"Default.\\\"\\n Tap the menu at the top-left, select , tap your account, scroll down toward the bottom, and then tap .\\n3-3. Select the categories you want to use.\\nUse the checkboxes or toggle switches to change the categories that your emails sort into.\\nFor example, if you want all of your emails to show up in the same folder, you'd disable all categories except for Primary.\\n3-4. Click Save (on a computer).\\nIf you're using a phone or tablet, your changes will take effect immediately—no Save button necessary.\\nTo view your inbox categories on a phone or tablet, tap the menu at the top-left and then select a category.\\nOn a computer, your categories all appear at the top of your inbox.\\nTips\\nYou can edit and manage your labels by clicking the gear icon, selecting See all settings, and then clicking the Labels tab.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"This wikiHow article teaches you how to automatically assign labels to your Gmail messages. Folders are actually called \\\"labels\\\" in Gmail, but they work similarly—you can organize your messages into custom labels to keep them organized. Instead of moving messages around manually, you can create filters that automatically assign labels based on criteria, like the sender's email address or words in the message. If you'd rather not mess around with filters, you can just use Gmail's inbox categories, which automatically sort your messages into general categories like Social, Promotions, and Forums.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Creating a Filter\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Open Gmail on your computer.\", \"描述\": \"You'll need to use the desktop version of Gmail to create filters, as the feature isn't available in the Gmail mobile app.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Click the search settings icon .\", \"描述\": \"This icon is in the search bar at the top of your inbox and looks like a set of three horizontal sliders. This lets you create a filter that automatically sorts incoming messages based on the information you enter.\\nIf you want to sort messages from a particular sender and have an email from that sender in your inbox right now, you can skip this step. Just click that email to open it, click the three dots at the top of the message, and select . This pre-fills the sender's email address in the next step so you don't have to type or select it yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Enter the criteria by which you want to filter your messages.\", \"描述\": \"For example, if you want all messages from a particular sender or domain name to be added to a certain folder, you'd type that sender's email address into the \\\"From\\\" field.\\nUse the asterisk symbol (*) before a domain name if you want to sort all messages from a particular company or organization. For example, if you all messages from people at wikiHow to go in your \\\"wikiHow\\\" folder, you'd enter *@wikihow.com into the \\\"From\\\" field.\\nYou can enter multiple rules at once. For example, if you only want messages from people at wikiHow to go into your \\\"wikiHow\\\" folder if the word \\\"Tech\\\" is in the message, you can enter Tech into the \\\"Has the words\\\" field.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Click the Create filter button.\", \"描述\": \"It's at the bottom of the window. This opens another window in which you can specify what to do with these messages.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Check the box next to \\\"Apply the label.\\\"\", \"描述\": \"It's near the middle of the list.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Click Choose label to select a label.\", \"描述\": \"In Gmail, folders are called \\\"Labels.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Select or create a new label.\", \"描述\": \"If you've already created the folder/label into which you want to sort these messages, click it on the list to select it. If not, here's how you can create one now:\\nClick \\nEnter a name for the label into the top field.\\nIf you want to nest this label under an existing label (like a sub-folder), select that folder from the drop-down menu.\\nClick .\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Choose whether to apply the filter to existing messages.\", \"描述\": \"By default, only new messages will be sorted into the label you chose. If you have existing messages that meet your criteria and want them to be added to that label as well, check the box next to \\\"Also apply filter to (number) matching conversations\\\" at the bottom.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Click Create filter.\", \"描述\": \"It's at the bottom of the window. Now all future messages that match the criteria you entered will automatically be added to the label you chose.\\nYou can see all of your labels in the left panel of Gmail. They'll also be visible when you're using the mobile app—just tap the menu at the top-left to see them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Editing a Filter\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Open Gmail on your computer.\", \"描述\": \"If you've already set up a filter to automatically sort your messages, you can edit it at any time. To get started, make sure you're signed in to Gmail on your computer, as filters can't be adjusted on a phone or tablet.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Click the gear icon.\", \"描述\": \"It's in the upper-right corner of the Gmail window. This opens the \\\"Quick settings\\\" panel on the right.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Click See all settings.\", \"描述\": \"It's at the top of the panel on the right.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Click the Filters and Blocked Addresses.\", \"描述\": \"This tab is at the top of the Settings list.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Click edit next to the filter you want to adjust.\", \"描述\": \"This opens the window you saw when you created the filter.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Make changes to the criteria.\", \"描述\": \"You can skip this step if you just want to change the folder/label these messages are moved to. But if you need to adjust the criteria, such as the words contained in the message, the subject, or the sender's email address, you can make those changes here.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Click Continue.\", \"描述\": \"This takes you to the screen that lets you choose what to do with these messages.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Change your label assignment.\", \"描述\": \"If you want these messages to be assigned a different label, you can click to make your change, and then create or select a different label.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Click the Update filter button.\", \"描述\": \"Your settings are now saved.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Using Inbox Category Tabs\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Open Gmail on your computer, phone, or tablet.\", \"描述\": \"By default, Gmail automatically sorts your incoming messages into (for regular emails addressed to you), (for social media-related messages), (sales and ads), (for things like shopping receipts and account notices), and (discussion groups and conversational mailing lists). You can enable or disable these categories anywhere you use Gmail.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Open your inbox category options.\", \"描述\": \"Here's how:\\n\\n Click the gear icon at the top-right, and then click under \\\"Default.\\\"\\n Tap the menu at the top-left, select , tap your account, scroll down toward the bottom, and then tap .\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Select the categories you want to use.\", \"描述\": \"Use the checkboxes or toggle switches to change the categories that your emails sort into.\\nFor example, if you want all of your emails to show up in the same folder, you'd disable all categories except for Primary.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Click Save (on a computer).\", \"描述\": \"If you're using a phone or tablet, your changes will take effect immediately—no Save button necessary.\\nTo view your inbox categories on a phone or tablet, tap the menu at the top-left and then select a category.\\nOn a computer, your categories all appear at the top of your inbox.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"You can edit and manage your labels by clicking the gear icon, selecting See all settings, and then clicking the Labels tab.\\n\"]}]}}",
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2,876 | How to Automatically Redirect Incoming Messages to Another E Mail Account | 1. Using Outlook Web Application
1-1. Navigate to the Outlook sign in page.
If you are using a work or school email address, you can log in at . If you are using a personal email account, you can log in at .
If you are using a free Outlook email account, you cannot redirect email.
1-2. Enter your email address and click Next.
Type your email address in the light-blue box and then click the blue button that says .
1-3. Enter your password and click Sign In.
Type your password in the light-blue box and then click the blue button that says .
If you can't remember your email address or password, click and follow the instructions, or contact your administrator.
1-4. Click the Settings button.
It's the button that resembles a gear in the upper-right corner of the Outlook Web Application.
1-5. Click Options.
It's at the bottom of the Settings menu. This displays the Options menu in a sidebar to the left.
1-6. Click Organize Email.
It's in the Options sidebar on the left side of the screen.
1-7. Click Inbox Rules.
It's below "Organize Email" in the sidebar to the left.
1-8. Click the arrow in the "New Rules" tab.
It's next to the plus sign (+) under the "New Rules" tab. This displays a drop-down menu.
1-9. Click Create a new rule for arriving messages.
It's in the drop-down menu that appears when you click the arrow next to the plus sign.
1-10. Type a name for the rule (optional).
If you want to create a name for the new rule, type it in the box labeled "Name". This is not required.
1-11. Select Apply to all messages under "When messages arrive".
Use the drop-down menu below "When messages arrive" to select "Apply to all messages".
1-12. Select Redirect the message to under "Do the following".
Use the drop-down menu under "Do the following" to select "Redirect the messages to". This displays a list of your contacts.
1-13. Select or enter an email address.
If the email address you want to redirect to is in your list of contacts, click the contact to select the contact's email address. Otherwise, type the email address you want to redirect to in the field next to "To:". Then press Tab ↹ to deselect the email.
1-14. Click Ok.
It's above the "To:" field. This returns you to the "New Rule" window.
1-15. Click Save.
It's at the top of the "New Rule" window. This takes you back to the "Inbox Rules" tab.
2. Forwarding Using Outlook 2016
2-1. Click File.
It's in the menu bar at the top of the page. This displays a drop-down menu.
2-2. Click Info.
It's the first option in the sidebar to the left. This displays Account Information page.
2-3. Click Manage Rules and Alerts.
It's the third option on the Account Information page. It has an icon with an envelope and a bell.
2-4. Click New Rule.
It's the first button at the top of the "Rules and Alerts" window.
2-5. Click Apply rule on messages I receive.
It's under "Start from a blank rule" at the bottom of the Rules Wizard window.
2-6. Click Next.
It's in the bottom-right corner of the Rules Wizard window.
2-7. Click the checkbox next to "sent only to me" and "when my name is in the To or Cc box".
They are in the box labeled "Step 1: Select condition(s)" in the Rules Wizard window. You can also check any other conditions you want to apply.
You can select conditions such as emails that contain a specific word, or are from specific people or group, as well as emails that are marked as important or sensitive. Then click the blue link in the "Step 2" box at the bottom of the Rules Wizard window to select the specific word or group of people you want to be redirected.
2-8. Click the checkbox next to "forward it to people or public group".
It's under the box labeled "Step 1: Select action(s)" in the Rules Wizard window.
2-9. Click People or public group.
It's the blue text in the box labeled "Step 2: Edit the rule description" at the bottom of the Rules Wizard window.
2-10. Enter a new email address and click Ok.
This is the email you want your email messages to be forwarded to. You can either click an email from your address book or type it in the line labeled "To:" at the bottom of the window. Then click in the lower-right corner of the window.
2-11. Click Next twice.
It's in the lower-right corner of the window.
2-12. Type a name for this rule and click Finish.
Use the line below "Step 1" at the top of the page to type a name for the rule. Then click in the lower-right corner of the window.
2-13. Click Apply and then click OK.
This applies the rule changes and takes you back to the Account Info screen.
You can also forward Gmail messages to another account.
Tips
The following steps explain how to create and apply to your Inbox or one of your private folders. To create a rule for a public folder, you must do so from the folder's Properties dialog box. (For version 2003 and above)
Warnings
It is not recommended to forward or redirect email messages to an email address outside your organization. In fact, many organizations regard the automatic forwarding of messages to an external address a violation of their policy on network and computer use.
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Click Organize Email.\\nIt's in the Options sidebar on the left side of the screen.\\n1-7. Click Inbox Rules.\\nIt's below \\\"Organize Email\\\" in the sidebar to the left.\\n1-8. Click the arrow in the \\\"New Rules\\\" tab.\\nIt's next to the plus sign (+) under the \\\"New Rules\\\" tab. This displays a drop-down menu.\\n1-9. Click Create a new rule for arriving messages.\\nIt's in the drop-down menu that appears when you click the arrow next to the plus sign.\\n1-10. Type a name for the rule (optional).\\nIf you want to create a name for the new rule, type it in the box labeled \\\"Name\\\". This is not required.\\n1-11. Select Apply to all messages under \\\"When messages arrive\\\".\\nUse the drop-down menu below \\\"When messages arrive\\\" to select \\\"Apply to all messages\\\".\\n1-12. Select Redirect the message to under \\\"Do the following\\\".\\nUse the drop-down menu under \\\"Do the following\\\" to select \\\"Redirect the messages to\\\". This displays a list of your contacts.\\n1-13. Select or enter an email address.\\nIf the email address you want to redirect to is in your list of contacts, click the contact to select the contact's email address. Otherwise, type the email address you want to redirect to in the field next to \\\"To:\\\". Then press Tab ↹ to deselect the email.\\n1-14. Click Ok.\\nIt's above the \\\"To:\\\" field. This returns you to the \\\"New Rule\\\" window.\\n1-15. Click Save.\\nIt's at the top of the \\\"New Rule\\\" window. This takes you back to the \\\"Inbox Rules\\\" tab.\\n2. Forwarding Using Outlook 2016\\n2-1. Click File.\\nIt's in the menu bar at the top of the page. This displays a drop-down menu.\\n2-2. Click Info.\\nIt's the first option in the sidebar to the left. This displays Account Information page.\\n2-3. Click Manage Rules and Alerts.\\nIt's the third option on the Account Information page. It has an icon with an envelope and a bell.\\n2-4. Click New Rule.\\nIt's the first button at the top of the \\\"Rules and Alerts\\\" window.\\n2-5. Click Apply rule on messages I receive.\\nIt's under \\\"Start from a blank rule\\\" at the bottom of the Rules Wizard window.\\n2-6. Click Next.\\nIt's in the bottom-right corner of the Rules Wizard window.\\n2-7. Click the checkbox next to \\\"sent only to me\\\" and \\\"when my name is in the To or Cc box\\\".\\nThey are in the box labeled \\\"Step 1: Select condition(s)\\\" in the Rules Wizard window. You can also check any other conditions you want to apply.\\nYou can select conditions such as emails that contain a specific word, or are from specific people or group, as well as emails that are marked as important or sensitive. Then click the blue link in the \\\"Step 2\\\" box at the bottom of the Rules Wizard window to select the specific word or group of people you want to be redirected.\\n2-8. Click the checkbox next to \\\"forward it to people or public group\\\".\\nIt's under the box labeled \\\"Step 1: Select action(s)\\\" in the Rules Wizard window.\\n2-9. Click People or public group.\\nIt's the blue text in the box labeled \\\"Step 2: Edit the rule description\\\" at the bottom of the Rules Wizard window.\\n2-10. Enter a new email address and click Ok.\\nThis is the email you want your email messages to be forwarded to. You can either click an email from your address book or type it in the line labeled \\\"To:\\\" at the bottom of the window. Then click in the lower-right corner of the window.\\n2-11. Click Next twice.\\nIt's in the lower-right corner of the window.\\n2-12. Type a name for this rule and click Finish.\\nUse the line below \\\"Step 1\\\" at the top of the page to type a name for the rule. Then click in the lower-right corner of the window.\\n2-13. Click Apply and then click OK.\\nThis applies the rule changes and takes you back to the Account Info screen.\\nYou can also forward Gmail messages to another account.\\nTips\\nThe following steps explain how to create and apply to your Inbox or one of your private folders. To create a rule for a public folder, you must do so from the folder's Properties dialog box. (For version 2003 and above)\\nWarnings\\nIt is not recommended to forward or redirect email messages to an email address outside your organization. In fact, many organizations regard the automatic forwarding of messages to an external address a violation of their policy on network and computer use.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"This wikiHow teaches you how to redirect emails to another Email account. Some email clients allow you to redirect and forward your email messages to another account. Some email clients only allow you to forward your email messages. Redirected email messages appear as though they came from the original sender. Forwarded emails appear as though they were sent from the email account they were forwarded from.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Using Outlook Web Application\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Navigate to the Outlook sign in page.\", \"描述\": \"If you are using a work or school email address, you can log in at . If you are using a personal email account, you can log in at .\\nIf you are using a free Outlook email account, you cannot redirect email.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Enter your email address and click Next.\", \"描述\": \"Type your email address in the light-blue box and then click the blue button that says .\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Enter your password and click Sign In.\", \"描述\": \"Type your password in the light-blue box and then click the blue button that says .\\nIf you can't remember your email address or password, click and follow the instructions, or contact your administrator.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Click the Settings button.\", \"描述\": \"It's the button that resembles a gear in the upper-right corner of the Outlook Web Application.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Click Options.\", \"描述\": \"It's at the bottom of the Settings menu. This displays the Options menu in a sidebar to the left.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Click Organize Email.\", \"描述\": \"It's in the Options sidebar on the left side of the screen.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Click Inbox Rules.\", \"描述\": \"It's below \\\"Organize Email\\\" in the sidebar to the left.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Click the arrow in the \\\"New Rules\\\" tab.\", \"描述\": \"It's next to the plus sign (+) under the \\\"New Rules\\\" tab. This displays a drop-down menu.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Click Create a new rule for arriving messages.\", \"描述\": \"It's in the drop-down menu that appears when you click the arrow next to the plus sign.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Type a name for the rule (optional).\", \"描述\": \"If you want to create a name for the new rule, type it in the box labeled \\\"Name\\\". This is not required.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Select Apply to all messages under \\\"When messages arrive\\\".\", \"描述\": \"Use the drop-down menu below \\\"When messages arrive\\\" to select \\\"Apply to all messages\\\".\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Select Redirect the message to under \\\"Do the following\\\".\", \"描述\": \"Use the drop-down menu under \\\"Do the following\\\" to select \\\"Redirect the messages to\\\". This displays a list of your contacts.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Select or enter an email address.\", \"描述\": \"If the email address you want to redirect to is in your list of contacts, click the contact to select the contact's email address. Otherwise, type the email address you want to redirect to in the field next to \\\"To:\\\". Then press Tab ↹ to deselect the email.\"}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Click Ok.\", \"描述\": \"It's above the \\\"To:\\\" field. This returns you to the \\\"New Rule\\\" window.\"}, {\"编号\": 15, \"标题\": \"Click Save.\", \"描述\": \"It's at the top of the \\\"New Rule\\\" window. This takes you back to the \\\"Inbox Rules\\\" tab.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Forwarding Using Outlook 2016\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Click File.\", \"描述\": \"It's in the menu bar at the top of the page. This displays a drop-down menu.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Click Info.\", \"描述\": \"It's the first option in the sidebar to the left. This displays Account Information page.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Click Manage Rules and Alerts.\", \"描述\": \"It's the third option on the Account Information page. It has an icon with an envelope and a bell.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Click New Rule.\", \"描述\": \"It's the first button at the top of the \\\"Rules and Alerts\\\" window.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Click Apply rule on messages I receive.\", \"描述\": \"It's under \\\"Start from a blank rule\\\" at the bottom of the Rules Wizard window.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Click Next.\", \"描述\": \"It's in the bottom-right corner of the Rules Wizard window.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Click the checkbox next to \\\"sent only to me\\\" and \\\"when my name is in the To or Cc box\\\".\", \"描述\": \"They are in the box labeled \\\"Step 1: Select condition(s)\\\" in the Rules Wizard window. You can also check any other conditions you want to apply.\\nYou can select conditions such as emails that contain a specific word, or are from specific people or group, as well as emails that are marked as important or sensitive. Then click the blue link in the \\\"Step 2\\\" box at the bottom of the Rules Wizard window to select the specific word or group of people you want to be redirected.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Click the checkbox next to \\\"forward it to people or public group\\\".\", \"描述\": \"It's under the box labeled \\\"Step 1: Select action(s)\\\" in the Rules Wizard window.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Click People or public group.\", \"描述\": \"It's the blue text in the box labeled \\\"Step 2: Edit the rule description\\\" at the bottom of the Rules Wizard window.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Enter a new email address and click Ok.\", \"描述\": \"This is the email you want your email messages to be forwarded to. You can either click an email from your address book or type it in the line labeled \\\"To:\\\" at the bottom of the window. Then click in the lower-right corner of the window.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Click Next twice.\", \"描述\": \"It's in the lower-right corner of the window.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Type a name for this rule and click Finish.\", \"描述\": \"Use the line below \\\"Step 1\\\" at the top of the page to type a name for the rule. Then click in the lower-right corner of the window.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Click Apply and then click OK.\", \"描述\": \"This applies the rule changes and takes you back to the Account Info screen.\\nYou can also forward Gmail messages to another account.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"The following steps explain how to create and apply to your Inbox or one of your private folders. To create a rule for a public folder, you must do so from the folder's Properties dialog box. (For version 2003 and above)\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"It is not recommended to forward or redirect email messages to an email address outside your organization. In fact, many organizations regard the automatic forwarding of messages to an external address a violation of their policy on network and computer use.\\n\"]}]}}",
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2,877 | How to Automatically Reduce the Size of Pictures Included in an Email Message | 1. Online
1-1. You can resize photos online with a tool like "Shrink Pictures".
Upload your picture, set your options, and create the resized photo.
1-2. Next, download the photo and use your own email program to send it.
2. In Outlook
2-1. Create a new e-mail message in Outlook.
2-2. Click Attach File, On the INSERT tab, in the include group.
2-3. On the Insert tab, click the Include Dialog Box Launcher.
2-4. Go to the Attachment Options pane, under Picture options, in the Select picture size drop-down list and click the size of the picture you want to include.
2-5. Click send when you are finished composing your e-mail message.
Tips
If you embed the picture in the body of the message by using the Picture command in the Illustrations group, the automatic seizure re size feature is not available.
Warnings
Your original picture will not be modified. Only the copy of the picture being sent will be reduced in size.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Online\\n1-1. You can resize photos online with a tool like \\\"Shrink Pictures\\\".\\nUpload your picture, set your options, and create the resized photo.\\n1-2. Next, download the photo and use your own email program to send it.\\n\\n2. In Outlook\\n2-1. Create a new e-mail message in Outlook.\\n\\n2-2. Click Attach File, On the INSERT tab, in the include group.\\n\\n2-3. On the Insert tab, click the Include Dialog Box Launcher.\\n\\n2-4. Go to the Attachment Options pane, under Picture options, in the Select picture size drop-down list and click the size of the picture you want to include.\\n\\n2-5. Click send when you are finished composing your e-mail message.\\n\\nTips\\nIf you embed the picture in the body of the message by using the Picture command in the Illustrations group, the automatic seizure re size feature is not available.\\nWarnings\\nYour original picture will not be modified. Only the copy of the picture being sent will be reduced in size.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"When you send a message that exceeds the message size limit for either your or the recipient's mail server, the message will be returned to you and not delivered. This is often called a \\\"bounced\\\" message. Optimizing the size of pictures and attachments for e-mail helps to avoid exceeding the maximum message size limits associated with most e-mail accounts. Follow the steps below to automatically reduce pictures in size and include them as an attachment to an e-mail message\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Online\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You can resize photos online with a tool like \\\"Shrink Pictures\\\".\", \"描述\": \"Upload your picture, set your options, and create the resized photo.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Next, download the photo and use your own email program to send it.\", \"描述\": \"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"In Outlook\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Create a new e-mail message in Outlook.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Click Attach File, On the INSERT tab, in the include group.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"On the Insert tab, click the Include Dialog Box Launcher.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Go to the Attachment Options pane, under Picture options, in the Select picture size drop-down list and click the size of the picture you want to include.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Click send when you are finished composing your e-mail message.\", \"描述\": \"\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you embed the picture in the body of the message by using the Picture command in the Illustrations group, the automatic seizure re size feature is not available.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Your original picture will not be modified. Only the copy of the picture being sent will be reduced in size.\\n\"]}]}}",
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2,878 | How to Automatically Shut Down Your Computer at a Specified Time | 1. Scheduling Regular Shutdowns for Windows
1-1. Open the Task Scheduler app.
If you want your scheduled shutdown to occur more than once, you'll want to use Task Scheduler. Task Scheduler is available on all versions of Windows. Here's how to find it:
Press ⊞ Win+S to open the search bar, type task scheduler, and then click in the search results.
Press the ⊞ Win key, type schedule tasks, and then click in the results.
Click the Start menu, select , and then choose . Click and then click .
1-2. Click Create Basic Task in the "Actions" panel.
It's at the top of the panel on the right side of the window. This opens the "Create a Basic Task" wizard.
1-3. Type Shutdown timer for the name and click Next.
You can also type in a different name if you want.
1-4. Select when you want the task to activate and click Next.
For example, if you want the computer to turn off every night at 11:30 PM, select . If this is just a one-time scheduled thing, select .
1-5. Enter the time and date and click Next.
For example, let's say that beginning on July 19, 2019, you want your PC to shut down nightly at 11:30 PM. You'd enter 7/19/2019 into the date field, and 11:30:00 PM into the time field.
Leave the "Recur ever: X days" setting to "1" if you want the action to occur every day.
1-6. Select "Start a program" and click Next.
1-7. Type the path to the shutdown.exe app into the "Program/script" box.
The location should be C:\Windows\System32\shutdown.exe unless you've changed the letter for your Windows drive.
1-8. Type /s into the "Add arguments" field and click Next.
1-9. Review your shutdown task and click Finish.
The summary screen gives you a chance to review the scheduled date(s) and time(s) for the shutdown. Once you save your task, the computer will shut down at the scheduled time.
If you need to edit or delete your task, open and click the folder in the left panel. When you find your task in the center panel, right-click it to find the option to edit or the task.
2. Scheduling Regular Shutdowns for macOS
2-1. Click the Apple menu.
It's at the top-left corner of the screen. A menu will expand.
2-2. Click System Preferences on the menu.
2-3. Click the Energy Saver icon.
It looks like a lightbulb.
2-4. Click Schedule at the bottom-right corner of the window.
2-5. Check the box next to the second drop-down menu.
It's the one that says either , , or .
2-6. Select Shut Down from the second menu.
2-7. Enter the time and frequency.
For example, if you want the computer to shut down nightly at 11:30 PM, you'd choose from the bottom-center drop-down menu, and then enter into the "at" box.
2-8. Click OK.
As long as your Mac is awake at the scheduled time, it will shut down automatically.
3. Scheduling a One-Time Shutdown for Windows
3-1. Right-click the Start menu .
It's usually at the bottom-left corner of the screen for most versions of Windows. For Windows 11, it's in the middle.
3-2. Click Command prompt (Admin) or Windows PowerShell (Admin).
One or both options will appear in the menu.
If prompted to give permission for the app to run, follow the on-screen instructions to do so.
3-3. Type SHUTDOWN /S /F /T number-in-seconds.
Replace number-in-seconds with how long from now (in seconds) you want the computer to shut down.
For example, if you want the computer to turn off in 30 minutes, you'd type SHUTDOWN /S /T 1800.
Check out this Google tool that can help you convert minutes and/or hours to seconds.
3-4. Press ↵ Enter.
This runs the command and begins the timer. The PC will automatically shut down once the timer reaches the end.
If you want to cancel the automatic shutdown, return to the prompt and use the command shutdown /a.
4. Creating a Shutdown Shortcut for Windows
4-1. Open Notepad
You write a script that adds a shortcut to your desktop that, when double-clicked, schedules a shutdown. You'll find Notepad in your Windows Start menu in a folder called or .
Use this method if you don't want to schedule a recurring shutdown (e.g., nightly at 11:30pm) but would like to quickly schedule such a shut down if necessary.
4-2. Enter the following code into the Notepad file.
Let's say you want the script to shut your computer down at 11:30 PM on the day you run it: Type each of the following lines on its own individual line in the file:
@echo off
:W
if %time%==23:30:00.00 goto :X
goto :W
:X
shutdown.exe /s /f /t 60 /c
This script will constantly check the time and, when 11:30 PM rolls around, will shut down the computer (after a 60-second grace period). You can replace that time with the time of your choice (in 24-hour/military time format).
4-3. Click the File menu and select Save As.
The Save As window will appear.
4-4. Open the Desktop folder.
You can do this by expanding the menu in the left panel and selecting .
4-5. Select All Files from the "Save as type" drop-down.
It's near the bottom of the Save As window.
4-6. Type shutdown-timer.bat into the "File name" field and click Save.
Your new script is now saved to your desktop. You should see its icon (some gears) on your desktop.
4-7. Double-click the shutdown-timer.bat file to schedule a shutdown.
A blank command prompt screen should appear. You will need to leave this window open so that the computer will know to shut down at the right time. Once the time comes, you'll have 60 seconds to save your work before the computer shuts down.
If you want to disable the script before it's time to shut down, press ⊞ Win+R to open the Run menu, type shutdown –a, and then click Run.
Tips
On Mac notebooks with macOS Big Sur (11.0) or later, open System Preferences > Battery > Schedule, and then follow steps 5 to 8 in the "Scheduling Regular Shutdowns for macOS" section
Warnings
Energy Saver not be available on older versions of macOS.
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Click OK.\\nAs long as your Mac is awake at the scheduled time, it will shut down automatically.\\n3. Scheduling a One-Time Shutdown for Windows\\n3-1. Right-click the Start menu .\\nIt's usually at the bottom-left corner of the screen for most versions of Windows. For Windows 11, it's in the middle.\\n3-2. Click Command prompt (Admin) or Windows PowerShell (Admin).\\nOne or both options will appear in the menu.\\nIf prompted to give permission for the app to run, follow the on-screen instructions to do so.\\n3-3. Type SHUTDOWN /S /F /T number-in-seconds.\\nReplace number-in-seconds with how long from now (in seconds) you want the computer to shut down.\\nFor example, if you want the computer to turn off in 30 minutes, you'd type SHUTDOWN /S /T 1800.\\nCheck out this Google tool that can help you convert minutes and/or hours to seconds.\\n3-4. Press ↵ Enter.\\nThis runs the command and begins the timer. The PC will automatically shut down once the timer reaches the end.\\nIf you want to cancel the automatic shutdown, return to the prompt and use the command shutdown /a.\\n4. Creating a Shutdown Shortcut for Windows\\n4-1. Open Notepad\\nYou write a script that adds a shortcut to your desktop that, when double-clicked, schedules a shutdown. You'll find Notepad in your Windows Start menu in a folder called or .\\nUse this method if you don't want to schedule a recurring shutdown (e.g., nightly at 11:30pm) but would like to quickly schedule such a shut down if necessary.\\n4-2. 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2,879 | How to Automatically Turn On a Computer at a Specified Time | 1. Using a PC
1-1. Reboot your PC into the BIOS.
The option to start your PC on a particular schedule is available in the BIOS, which you can access by pressing a specific key at boot time. This key is usually Del, F8, or F12, or F10. If you're using a newer Windows 10 PC, try using these steps to enter the BIOS::
Right-click the Start menu and select .
Click .
Click .
Click under "Advanced Startup."
When the computer comes back up, click the menu.
Click
Click and click .
1-2. Navigate to Power on Alarm or RTC Alarm option.
The name of this menu varies by manufacturer and may be in a menu called .
1-3. Select a schedule frequency.
The steps to do this vary by PC, but you'll usually use the arrow keys on the keyboard to highlight the day of the week on which you want the computer to start at a certain time, then press a key to toggle on or for that day.
Depending on the BIOS, you may have the option to choose a broader option like .
1-4. Enter the time you want the PC to power on.
You'll usually use the arrow keys to select an option called , though some BIOS settings require you to enter the hour, minute, and second separately.
1-5. Save your changes and exit the BIOS.
If your BIOS has a menu running along the time of the screen, you can usually save an exit by selecting the menu and choosing . If not, the or key should be clearly marked on the screen. Once you've exited the BIOS, the PC will restart as normal and your changes will be saved.
2. Using a Mac
2-1. Click the Apple menu.
It's in the menu bar at the top-left corner of the screen.
2-2. Click System Preferences.
It's near the middle of the menu.
2-3. Click Energy Saver.
This is a light bulb-shaped icon.
2-4. Click the Schedule button.
It's in the bottom-right corner of the window.
2-5. Check the box next to "Start up or wake."
This option is at the top of the Schedule window.
2-6. Select a schedule frequency.
To do so, click the drop-down box to the right of "Start up or wake", then select a frequency (e.g., , , etc.).
2-7. Set the start-up time.
You'll do this by adjusting the time in the box in the top-right side of the Schedule window.
2-8. Click OK.
It's at the bottom of the window. Your Mac will now start itself at your specified time.
Tips
The BIOS settings on some Windows computers will allow you to schedule a start-up time, but this is not a consistent setting across Windows machines.
Warnings
If you don't have administrator access on a Windows computer, you will be unable to create a task that starts up your computer.
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Click System Preferences.\\nIt's near the middle of the menu.\\n2-3. Click Energy Saver.\\nThis is a light bulb-shaped icon.\\n2-4. Click the Schedule button.\\nIt's in the bottom-right corner of the window.\\n2-5. Check the box next to \\\"Start up or wake.\\\"\\nThis option is at the top of the Schedule window.\\n2-6. Select a schedule frequency.\\nTo do so, click the drop-down box to the right of \\\"Start up or wake\\\", then select a frequency (e.g., , , etc.).\\n2-7. Set the start-up time.\\nYou'll do this by adjusting the time in the box in the top-right side of the Schedule window.\\n2-8. Click OK.\\nIt's at the bottom of the window. 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If you're using a newer Windows 10 PC, try using these steps to enter the BIOS::\\nRight-click the Start menu and select .\\nClick .\\nClick .\\nClick under \\\"Advanced Startup.\\\"\\nWhen the computer comes back up, click the menu.\\nClick \\nClick and click .\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Navigate to Power on Alarm or RTC Alarm option.\", \"描述\": \"The name of this menu varies by manufacturer and may be in a menu called .\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Select a schedule frequency.\", \"描述\": \"The steps to do this vary by PC, but you'll usually use the arrow keys on the keyboard to highlight the day of the week on which you want the computer to start at a certain time, then press a key to toggle on or for that day.\\nDepending on the BIOS, you may have the option to choose a broader option like .\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Enter the time you want the PC to power on.\", \"描述\": \"You'll usually use the arrow keys to select an option called , though some BIOS settings require you to enter the hour, minute, and second separately.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Save your changes and exit the BIOS.\", \"描述\": \"If your BIOS has a menu running along the time of the screen, you can usually save an exit by selecting the menu and choosing . If not, the or key should be clearly marked on the screen. Once you've exited the BIOS, the PC will restart as normal and your changes will be saved.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Using a Mac\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Click the Apple menu.\", \"描述\": \"It's in the menu bar at the top-left corner of the screen.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Click System Preferences.\", \"描述\": \"It's near the middle of the menu.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Click Energy Saver.\", \"描述\": \"This is a light bulb-shaped icon.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Click the Schedule button.\", \"描述\": \"It's in the bottom-right corner of the window.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Check the box next to \\\"Start up or wake.\\\"\", \"描述\": \"This option is at the top of the Schedule window.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Select a schedule frequency.\", \"描述\": \"To do so, click the drop-down box to the right of \\\"Start up or wake\\\", then select a frequency (e.g., , , etc.).\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Set the start-up time.\", \"描述\": \"You'll do this by adjusting the time in the box in the top-right side of the Schedule window.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Click OK.\", \"描述\": \"It's at the bottom of the window. 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2,880 | How to Avoid 'New Tank' Syndrome | 1. Adding the Initial Ammonia
1-1. Use an aquarium ammonia mixed for this purpose.
At pet stores, you can find products made for adding ammonia to a tank, specifically ammonium chloride. These products tell you exactly how much to add to the water, and are easy to use.
You can try Waterlife BioMature or DrTim's Aquatics Ammonium Chloride.
1-2. Figure out how much water you have.
Before you can determine how much ammonium chloride to add, you'll need to know how much water your tank holds. If your tank is new, it should say how much it holds with the provided information. If you don't have that info, try a tank calculator like this one: http://www.firsttankguide.net/calculator.php
You'll need the height, width, and depth of your tank for a calculator.
1-3. Add the recommended amount of ammonium chloride per day.
Generally, you'll need to add a certain amount of ammonium chloride per day to the tank, specified on the back of the bottle. Sometimes, it's as little as 1 drop per gallon. If you figured out your tank size, add the appropriate amount per gallon of water in your tank.
2. Monitoring and Adjusting the Levels of Ammonia
2-1. Get an aquarium water testing kit.
You can buy kits just for the chemicals you need to check, found online and at pet stores. However, sometimes it's easier to buy a master kit which will let you test for multiple chemicals. The two main types of kits are test strip kits and chemical drop tests.
2-2. Dip the provided test strips in tubes of the water.
Pull out a test tube of water from the tank. Dip the test strip into the water, and pull it out. Wait for the strip to develop a color. Compare the color on the strip to the color ranges on the included cards to determine the chemical levels in your tank.
2-3. Add chemical drops to test tubes of tank water in a liquid test kit.
With this kit type, which is an alternative to the test strip kit, you scoop out a test tube's worth of tank water. Read the directions on the back to check how many drops of the provided tester to add to the water, and add the drops. Put the lid back on, and shake it up.
Wait for the color to develop in the water, which happens within a few minutes. Compare the color to the color ranges on the provided cards to determine the chemical levels.
You'll need a separate test tube to test for ammonia and nitrites.
2-4. Aim for 5 to 10 milligrams in nitrites.
If you're using ammonia chloride to add ammonia, you only need to test nitrites. Once the nitrites in your tank reach 5 to 10 milligrams, stop adding the ammonia. Keep testing the nitrites once a day. Once they drop to 0, you're ready to add fish.
3. Speeding Up the Process and Adding Fish
3-1. Keep the temperature around 85 °F (29 °C).
The needed bacteria grow best when temperatures are warm but not too warm. A couple of degrees either way is fine, but try to keep the water in this range.
You can go as low as 77 °F (25 °C). You can do it in a coldwater tank, but it will take longer.
3-2. Circulate the water.
Of course, you'll need a water pump system for your fish. More vigorous pumps will help the bacteria grow faster, so if you're in a hurry, pick a pump that moves the water around at a rate of 5 times the amount your tank holds in an hour.
For instance, if your tank holds 20 gallons, it should be able to move 100 gallons (380 L).
3-3. Test the pH level.
The pH level also affects how quickly your tank will mature. Check the pH levels with a pH kit, which works similarly to the ammonia and nitrate kits. You dip a strip into water, and see what color it turns. Then you compare it to a chart.
The pH levels should be between 7.5 and 8 for ideal conditions.
If you need to make the tank more acidic, you can add peat. If you need to make it more alkaline, you can add mineral salts (such as calcium).
It you need to create an acidic tank, use a chemical filter instead of developing bacteria.
3-4. Add fish after 2 to 4 weeks when the tank is ready.
It takes a few weeks for the bacteria to properly develop in the tank. Be patient. Don't add the fish too soon, as you could end up with "new tank" syndrome. Just keep checking the chemical levels.
Tips
If you're adding household ammonia or fish pieces, you'll need to check the ammonia and nitrites. Add the ammonia in the morning, and check the levels 12 hours later.[14]
X
Research source
Add enough ammonia to maintain 4 milligrams. Check the nitrite levels in addition to the ammonia levels.[15]
X
Research source
You can also use a pinch of fish food/fish pieces or household ammonia (without additives) to cycle a tank (use an ammonia calculator to determine how much ammonia to add). You'll need to add some each day until the tank reaches about 4 milligrams of ammonia.
When nitrite begins to appear, keep measuring. Eventually, the nitrites will drop off, and the ammonia will follow shortly. Keep adding the same amount of ammonia or food each day. When you've added it 7 days in a row and the tank stays at 0 milligrams when you measure, the tank is ready.
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Sometimes, it's as little as 1 drop per gallon. If you figured out your tank size, add the appropriate amount per gallon of water in your tank.\\n2. Monitoring and Adjusting the Levels of Ammonia\\n2-1. Get an aquarium water testing kit.\\nYou can buy kits just for the chemicals you need to check, found online and at pet stores. However, sometimes it's easier to buy a master kit which will let you test for multiple chemicals. The two main types of kits are test strip kits and chemical drop tests.\\n2-2. Dip the provided test strips in tubes of the water.\\nPull out a test tube of water from the tank. Dip the test strip into the water, and pull it out. Wait for the strip to develop a color. Compare the color on the strip to the color ranges on the included cards to determine the chemical levels in your tank.\\n2-3. Add chemical drops to test tubes of tank water in a liquid test kit.\\nWith this kit type, which is an alternative to the test strip kit, you scoop out a test tube's worth of tank water. Read the directions on the back to check how many drops of the provided tester to add to the water, and add the drops. Put the lid back on, and shake it up.\\nWait for the color to develop in the water, which happens within a few minutes. Compare the color to the color ranges on the provided cards to determine the chemical levels.\\nYou'll need a separate test tube to test for ammonia and nitrites.\\n2-4. Aim for 5 to 10 milligrams in nitrites.\\nIf you're using ammonia chloride to add ammonia, you only need to test nitrites. Once the nitrites in your tank reach 5 to 10 milligrams, stop adding the ammonia. Keep testing the nitrites once a day. Once they drop to 0, you're ready to add fish.\\n3. Speeding Up the Process and Adding Fish\\n3-1. Keep the temperature around 85 °F (29 °C).\\nThe needed bacteria grow best when temperatures are warm but not too warm. A couple of degrees either way is fine, but try to keep the water in this range.\\nYou can go as low as 77 °F (25 °C). You can do it in a coldwater tank, but it will take longer.\\n3-2. Circulate the water.\\nOf course, you'll need a water pump system for your fish. More vigorous pumps will help the bacteria grow faster, so if you're in a hurry, pick a pump that moves the water around at a rate of 5 times the amount your tank holds in an hour.\\nFor instance, if your tank holds 20 gallons, it should be able to move 100 gallons (380 L).\\n3-3. Test the pH level.\\nThe pH level also affects how quickly your tank will mature. Check the pH levels with a pH kit, which works similarly to the ammonia and nitrate kits. You dip a strip into water, and see what color it turns. Then you compare it to a chart.\\nThe pH levels should be between 7.5 and 8 for ideal conditions.\\nIf you need to make the tank more acidic, you can add peat. If you need to make it more alkaline, you can add mineral salts (such as calcium).\\nIt you need to create an acidic tank, use a chemical filter instead of developing bacteria.\\n3-4. Add fish after 2 to 4 weeks when the tank is ready.\\nIt takes a few weeks for the bacteria to properly develop in the tank. Be patient. Don't add the fish too soon, as you could end up with \\\"new tank\\\" syndrome. Just keep checking the chemical levels.\\nTips\\nIf you're adding household ammonia or fish pieces, you'll need to check the ammonia and nitrites. Add the ammonia in the morning, and check the levels 12 hours later.[14]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n Add enough ammonia to maintain 4 milligrams. Check the nitrite levels in addition to the ammonia levels.[15]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nYou can also use a pinch of fish food/fish pieces or household ammonia (without additives) to cycle a tank (use an ammonia calculator to determine how much ammonia to add). You'll need to add some each day until the tank reaches about 4 milligrams of ammonia.\\nWhen nitrite begins to appear, keep measuring. Eventually, the nitrites will drop off, and the ammonia will follow shortly. Keep adding the same amount of ammonia or food each day. When you've added it 7 days in a row and the tank stays at 0 milligrams when you measure, the tank is ready.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"New tank syndrome happens when the levels of ammonia and nitrites rise too high, harming fish. Often, this happens with a new tank because the filter hasn't developed the proper bacteria to deal with the ammonia and nitrites. To prevent new tank syndrome, the best solution is to mature the tank before you put the fish in. To mature the tank, you add ammonia to the water. That may sound counter-intuitive, but adding ammonia allows bacteria to develop that will remove the ammonia and nitrites from the water. Then, when your fish add ammonia to the water (through defecating), the bacteria will be able to remove it.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Adding the Initial Ammonia\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use an aquarium ammonia mixed for this purpose.\", \"描述\": \"At pet stores, you can find products made for adding ammonia to a tank, specifically ammonium chloride. These products tell you exactly how much to add to the water, and are easy to use.\\nYou can try Waterlife BioMature or DrTim's Aquatics Ammonium Chloride.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Figure out how much water you have.\", \"描述\": \"Before you can determine how much ammonium chloride to add, you'll need to know how much water your tank holds. If your tank is new, it should say how much it holds with the provided information. 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2,881 | How to Avoid (Static) Electric Shock | 1. Changing Your Wardrobe
1-1. Change your footwear.
Static electricity is generated whenever two materials come into contact with one another. Oftentimes, footwear scraping across fabrics and other surfaces generates electric shock. People tend to build up electrostatic charge when they walk around, but certain types of shoes can reduce the risk of shock.
Rubber is a powerful insulator. If you have carpeted floors, or work in a carpeted office, wearing rubber soled shoes greatly increases your chance of experiencing static shock. Opt for leather-soled shoes instead.
Wool is also a good conductor, and can rub against fabrics to generate static charge. Try going for cotton socks over wool socks.
1-2. Be careful with certain fabrics.
The type of clothing you wear can increase your risk of static shock. Certain fabrics are better at conducting electricity than others and should be avoided.
Layering in general, even with similar materials, can increase the likelihood of static shock as materials with different electron charges can interact to produce static shock.
Synthetic fabrics, like polyester, conduct electricity well. Limiting the use of such materials in your personal wardrobe can reduce risk of static shock.
Wool sweaters and wool clothing in general, tend to produce a more static shock. Opt for cotton when possible.
1-3. Invest in anti-static wristbands.
Some companies sell wristbands you can wear to reduce your risk of static shock. If altering your clothing and footwear does not work, this might be a wise investment.
Static shock bracelets work using a process called passive ionization. The conductive fibers found in the bracelet will flow off the strings and into your wrist, reducing the voltage in your body, and therefore, the intensity of static shocks.
Static shock bracelets are relatively inexpensive. They usually cost under $10.
2. Preventing Static Shock at Home
2-1. Humidify your home.
Static shocks are more likely to occur in dry environments. Keeping your home humid can reduce your risk.
Ideally, your home should be above 30% rh, or relative humidity. You can measure the humidity of your home by purchasing a humidity thermometer online or at a hardware or grocery store.
Raising the air humidity to 40 or 50% rh can help reduce static shock. You should aim for this range.
Humidifiers range in price. Large humidifiers, designed to work in a large space, can cost over $100. However, a humidifier for a single room might only be $10 or $20.
2-2. Treat your carpeting.
Having carpeting at home instead of wood floors puts you at greater risk for static shock. Certain measures can be taken to make your carpet less conductive to static electricity.
Rubbing fabric softener sheets over the carpet can prevent the buildup of static electricity but such methods do not have a permanent effect. Try repeating the process once a week.
You can also place cotton rugs on areas of the carpet that you walk across frequently as cotton is less likely than certain fabrics to conduct electricity and cause static shock.
2-3. Adjust your bedsheets.
If you're getting electric shocks in bed, adjusting your bedding might help.
Opt for materials like cotton over synthetic fabrics or wool.
Try not to layer sheets, as fabrics rubbing together can cause static buildup. If your bedroom is warm enough, you may be able to ditch your top sheet or blanket.
3. Avoiding Static Shock in Public
3-1. Moisturize your skin before going out.
Excessively dry skin, especially dry hands, increases the risk of static shock. Always moisturize your skin before you go out.
If you wear panty hoes or silk lining, make sure you moisturize your legs before getting dressed to go out.
Keep a travel sized bottle of lotion in your purse or backpack in case your skin gets dry at work or school. Be especially careful to remember lotion during months, where dry skin is a common ailment.
3-2. Take precautions shopping.
Many people experience static shock when shopping. There are measures you can take to reduce the effect.
When pushing a cart, hold onto to something metal like your house keys. This discharges any energy you build up walking before you touch anything with your bare hands.
Wear leather soled shoes over rubber soled shoes when shopping, as the former are less likely to conduct electricity.
3-3. Avoid static shock when getting out of the car.
Static shock is common in cars. There are ways you can avoid getting shocked when leaving your car.
Sitting in the car generates electrostatic charges because of the constant friction and motion caused by the movement of the car itself. When you leave the seat of your car, you take some of this charge with you. Your body voltage ends up rising when you exit a car.
The voltage discharges when you touch the car door, causing a painful static shock. You can prevent this by holding onto a metal part of the door frame as you leave your seat. The voltage will dissipate into the metal painlessly.
You can also hold your keys before touching the car door, allowing the voltage to move to the metal in your keys without causing you any pain.
Tips
Electric shocks are most common when the air is dry, which is often in the winter. Take extra precaution during this time of year.
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Certain fabrics are better at conducting electricity than others and should be avoided.\\nLayering in general, even with similar materials, can increase the likelihood of static shock as materials with different electron charges can interact to produce static shock.\\nSynthetic fabrics, like polyester, conduct electricity well. Limiting the use of such materials in your personal wardrobe can reduce risk of static shock.\\nWool sweaters and wool clothing in general, tend to produce a more static shock. Opt for cotton when possible.\\n1-3. Invest in anti-static wristbands.\\nSome companies sell wristbands you can wear to reduce your risk of static shock. If altering your clothing and footwear does not work, this might be a wise investment.\\nStatic shock bracelets work using a process called passive ionization. The conductive fibers found in the bracelet will flow off the strings and into your wrist, reducing the voltage in your body, and therefore, the intensity of static shocks.\\nStatic shock bracelets are relatively inexpensive. They usually cost under $10.\\n2. Preventing Static Shock at Home\\n2-1. Humidify your home.\\nStatic shocks are more likely to occur in dry environments. Keeping your home humid can reduce your risk.\\nIdeally, your home should be above 30% rh, or relative humidity. You can measure the humidity of your home by purchasing a humidity thermometer online or at a hardware or grocery store.\\nRaising the air humidity to 40 or 50% rh can help reduce static shock. You should aim for this range.\\nHumidifiers range in price. Large humidifiers, designed to work in a large space, can cost over $100. However, a humidifier for a single room might only be $10 or $20.\\n2-2. Treat your carpeting.\\nHaving carpeting at home instead of wood floors puts you at greater risk for static shock. Certain measures can be taken to make your carpet less conductive to static electricity.\\nRubbing fabric softener sheets over the carpet can prevent the buildup of static electricity but such methods do not have a permanent effect. Try repeating the process once a week.\\nYou can also place cotton rugs on areas of the carpet that you walk across frequently as cotton is less likely than certain fabrics to conduct electricity and cause static shock.\\n2-3. Adjust your bedsheets.\\nIf you're getting electric shocks in bed, adjusting your bedding might help.\\nOpt for materials like cotton over synthetic fabrics or wool.\\nTry not to layer sheets, as fabrics rubbing together can cause static buildup. If your bedroom is warm enough, you may be able to ditch your top sheet or blanket.\\n3. Avoiding Static Shock in Public\\n3-1. Moisturize your skin before going out.\\nExcessively dry skin, especially dry hands, increases the risk of static shock. Always moisturize your skin before you go out.\\nIf you wear panty hoes or silk lining, make sure you moisturize your legs before getting dressed to go out.\\nKeep a travel sized bottle of lotion in your purse or backpack in case your skin gets dry at work or school. Be especially careful to remember lotion during months, where dry skin is a common ailment.\\n3-2. Take precautions shopping.\\nMany people experience static shock when shopping. There are measures you can take to reduce the effect.\\nWhen pushing a cart, hold onto to something metal like your house keys. This discharges any energy you build up walking before you touch anything with your bare hands.\\nWear leather soled shoes over rubber soled shoes when shopping, as the former are less likely to conduct electricity.\\n3-3. Avoid static shock when getting out of the car.\\nStatic shock is common in cars. There are ways you can avoid getting shocked when leaving your car.\\nSitting in the car generates electrostatic charges because of the constant friction and motion caused by the movement of the car itself. When you leave the seat of your car, you take some of this charge with you. Your body voltage ends up rising when you exit a car.\\nThe voltage discharges when you touch the car door, causing a painful static shock. You can prevent this by holding onto a metal part of the door frame as you leave your seat. The voltage will dissipate into the metal painlessly.\\nYou can also hold your keys before touching the car door, allowing the voltage to move to the metal in your keys without causing you any pain.\\nTips\\nElectric shocks are most common when the air is dry, which is often in the winter. Take extra precaution during this time of year.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Static shock is the result of the redistribution of electric charges between different materials. While relatively harmless, static shocks can be annoying and slightly painful. Luckily there are a variety of methods you can use to reduce your likelihood of experiencing static shock, such as changing your wardrobe and altering your environment.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Changing Your Wardrobe\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Change your footwear.\", \"描述\": \"Static electricity is generated whenever two materials come into contact with one another. Oftentimes, footwear scraping across fabrics and other surfaces generates electric shock. People tend to build up electrostatic charge when they walk around, but certain types of shoes can reduce the risk of shock.\\nRubber is a powerful insulator. If you have carpeted floors, or work in a carpeted office, wearing rubber soled shoes greatly increases your chance of experiencing static shock. Opt for leather-soled shoes instead.\\nWool is also a good conductor, and can rub against fabrics to generate static charge. Try going for cotton socks over wool socks.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be careful with certain fabrics.\", \"描述\": \"The type of clothing you wear can increase your risk of static shock. Certain fabrics are better at conducting electricity than others and should be avoided.\\nLayering in general, even with similar materials, can increase the likelihood of static shock as materials with different electron charges can interact to produce static shock.\\nSynthetic fabrics, like polyester, conduct electricity well. Limiting the use of such materials in your personal wardrobe can reduce risk of static shock.\\nWool sweaters and wool clothing in general, tend to produce a more static shock. Opt for cotton when possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Invest in anti-static wristbands.\", \"描述\": \"Some companies sell wristbands you can wear to reduce your risk of static shock. If altering your clothing and footwear does not work, this might be a wise investment.\\nStatic shock bracelets work using a process called passive ionization. The conductive fibers found in the bracelet will flow off the strings and into your wrist, reducing the voltage in your body, and therefore, the intensity of static shocks.\\nStatic shock bracelets are relatively inexpensive. They usually cost under $10.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Preventing Static Shock at Home\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Humidify your home.\", \"描述\": \"Static shocks are more likely to occur in dry environments. Keeping your home humid can reduce your risk.\\nIdeally, your home should be above 30% rh, or relative humidity. You can measure the humidity of your home by purchasing a humidity thermometer online or at a hardware or grocery store.\\nRaising the air humidity to 40 or 50% rh can help reduce static shock. You should aim for this range.\\nHumidifiers range in price. Large humidifiers, designed to work in a large space, can cost over $100. However, a humidifier for a single room might only be $10 or $20.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Treat your carpeting.\", \"描述\": \"Having carpeting at home instead of wood floors puts you at greater risk for static shock. Certain measures can be taken to make your carpet less conductive to static electricity.\\nRubbing fabric softener sheets over the carpet can prevent the buildup of static electricity but such methods do not have a permanent effect. 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2,882 | How to Avoid Accidents While Driving | 1. Driving Defensively
1-1. Stay alert.
In addition to keeping your eyes on the road, stay alert by checking your rear view and side mirrors often. Check for speeding cars or cars that are driving too close to you. Also, be aware of your blind spots and make sure to check them before switching lanes.
Make sure to watch for kids and animals, especially in parking lots and residential areas.
1-2. Follow the speed limit.
Speed limits are generally posted every three to five miles. Make sure to watch for speed limits signs and adjust your speed accordingly. If you do not know the speed limit, then limit your speed to 30 mph (48 kph) if you are driving on the street and 60 mph (96 kph) if you are driving on the highway.
Remember that the faster you drive, the less reaction time you have to avoid accidents.
1-3. Pay attention to traffic signs.
Watch for traffic lights, pedestrian crossing, school zone, and stop signs. Additionally, heed warning signs such as merging traffic, winding road, and sharp turn ahead, to name a few. This way you can avoid potential collisions, as well as traffic tickets.
1-4. Use your turn signals properly.
Turn your signal on at least a block (100 feet/30 meters) before making a turn. This way, the other cars behind you will have enough time to slow their speed or switch lanes before you make your turn.
Additionally, make sure to turn your signal off after you have turned or switched lanes so you can avoid confusing other cars.
1-5. Let aggressive drivers pass you up.
Aggressive drivers will speed, honk, tailgate, and cut you off. The best thing to do in this situation is to slow down and let them pass you or go around you. The idea is to create distance between you and an aggressive driver.
The more distance there is between you and an aggressive driver, the safer you will be.
1-6. Maintain a three second cushion between you and other cars.
This way, you will have enough time to react if something goes wrong, like a tire blowout. Additionally, by giving yourself enough time to get to the places you need to go, you can avoid having to speed and tailgate other cars.
1-7. Avoid construction zones.
If you know that an area on your way to work or school is under construction, then try to find an alternate route until the construction is complete. If construction zones are unavoidable, then make sure to drive the speed limit and pay attention to other road signs, like detour signs, to avoid accidents.
The speed limits in construction zones are dramatically reduced for you and the workers' safety. Make sure to pay attention to these signs to avoid accidents and traffic tickets.
1-8. Use caution during poor weather conditions.
Rain, snow, fog, sleet, high winds, and other poor weather conditions can increase your chances of an accident. Therefore, make sure to drive slowly, turn your headlights on, and increase the distance between you and other cars to avoid accidents.
Keep both hands on the wheel and limit lane changes, i.e., stay in one lane.
Make sure your car is equipped to deal with poor weather conditions; for example, make sure your windshield wipers and headlights work properly.
2. Driving Responsibly
2-1. Turn your cellphone on silent.
Alternatively, turn it off or place it out of reach like in the trunk or the glove box. This way you can avoid distracting calls or texts. Distracted driving was the cause of 3,000 accidents in 2013.
2-2. Limit other distractions.
Avoid eating, changing the CD or radio station, shaving or applying makeup and other distracting behaviors while driving. These distracting behaviors can cause you to take your eyes off of the road, increasing your chances of having an accident.
Wait until the the car is parked or until you get to your destination to change CDs, eat, or apply makeup.
2-3. Do not drive impaired.
Make sure to arrange an alternative form of transportation if you plan on drinking, using drugs, or if you are taking medications that impair your performance. Arrange to have a designated driver or use a car service to take you to where you need to go.
Additionally, do not drive while you are tired. Either take a nap before driving or use a car service.
2-4. Limit the number of passengers in your car.
With every additional passenger, the risk of an accident or collision increases. Therefore, try to drive with a maximum of one or two passengers at a time.
If you have children, make sure they are wearing their seatbelts at all times to ensure everyone’s safety. Also, try not to reach back to retrieve something from the floor for your child while you are driving.
3. Avoiding Accidents When You’re a New Driver
3-1. Practice, practice, practice.
Make sure to get as much supervised practice as you can. Commit to driving with an experienced driver before and after you get your driver’s license until you are comfortable driving by yourself. This way, you will have enough experience to drive safely on your own.
3-2. Train for bad weather conditions.
Do this once you are comfortable driving during good weather conditions. Train for bad weather conditions by driving with an experienced driver while it is raining, snowing, foggy, or during other poor weather conditions.
In general, avoid driving in extreme weather conditions whether you are an experienced driver or not.
3-3. Limit driving at night.
The risk of getting into an accident or collision is three times higher during the night. Therefore, try to limit your night driving and avoid driving after midnight. In general, avoid driving at night until you are comfortable driving during the day.
Tips
Make sure your car is functioning properly before driving anywhere.[19]
X
Trustworthy Source
Consumer Reports
Nonprofit organization dedicated to consumer advocacy and product testing
Go to source
Make sure you and your passengers wear your seatbelts at all times.
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2,883 | How to Avoid Aiding and Abetting Family with an Active Warrant | 1. Avoiding Aiding and Abetting
1-1. Avoid hiding your family member.
You act as an accessory after the fact when you hide a family member after they commit a crime. If you know he or she has an active warrant, then you shouldn't let the person into your home.
“Hiding” doesn't mean you have to drive a family member to an isolated location to hide them. Simply letting a family member on an active warrant crash at your place can count as “hiding.” You can't let your family member live with you if they have an active warrant.
1-2. Refuse to handle stolen goods.
You are also aiding and abetting your family member when you hide stolen goods. Whenever a family member gives you something to store, you should always ask what it is and how they got it.
If your family member can't tell you where the goods came from, then you should say, “I'm sorry, I don't have the room” or “I don't think I can keep that safe.”
1-3. Decline to hide weapons or anything used in a crime.
It is also illegal to destroy any evidence of the crime, such as weapons or communications. For example, if your family member committed a financial crime, then deleting computer spreadsheets or altering records is considered “obstruction of justice,” which is like aiding and abetting.
1-4. Avoid giving your family member money.
If your family member has an active warrant, then you shouldn't give him or her money. Money can be spent on anything and can be used to buy a bus ticket out of town.
You also shouldn't lend them property. Don't let a family member with an active warrant borrow your car.
Instead of giving money, you should encourage your family member to go to the police and surrender. This may be difficult for you to do. Nevertheless, your family member faces a lifetime of running from the police if they don't turn themselves in. It is better to face the consequences directly.
1-5. Don't share information with your family member.
You also aid and abet a family member if you give them information that will help them escape. For example, if your child is on the run, then you aid and abet them by calling them and telling them where the police are looking.
You should avoid any contact with a family member who has an active arrest warrant. If they call, tell them to turn themselves in.
1-6. Tell the truth to the police.
Lying to the police is also a form of aiding and abetting. If the police contact you, then you should always be truthful. Tell the police where your family member is (if you know) and share any information about the crime that you have.
2. Finding a Lawyer for Your Family Member
2-1. Get referrals for a criminal defense attorney.
Instead of helping your family member run from the law, you should help him or her get a qualified attorney who can help build a defense. You can begin by getting referrals to a qualified criminal defense attorney. You can get referrals from the following sources:
Phone book. Ads in the phone book should point out if the lawyer does criminal defense work.
Other attorneys. They are a great source of referrals. If you used an attorney to buy a house, then ask him or her for a referral to a criminal defense attorney.
People you know. Some people won't admit that they have used a criminal defense attorney in the past. However, if you know someone has used a defense attorney in the past, you can ask if they would recommend that person.
Your local or state bar association. Bar associations are organizations made up of attorneys. If you call one, they can give you a referral to one of their members.
2-2. Find the money for a lawyer.
Attorneys don't work for free, and your family member will need to come up with a considerable amount of money. However, a good lawyer is worth every penny, especially when your family member has been accused of a serious crime. Try to pool all available resources:
Check your savings accounts.
Use a credit card.
Cash out savings bonds or stock.
Sell possessions that you don't need.
2-3. Help your family member request a public defender.
If your family member is charged with a crime that could result in prison, then they generally have the right to a public defender. In order to get a public defender, your family member must provide the court with financial information, such as their income and assets. You can help gather this information for your family member.
Print off bank statements to show how much money your family member has.
Estimate the value of assets. Assets are anything like jewelry, art, real estate, stocks, bonds, or the cash value in a life insurance policy.
Gather information about monthly income. You typically have to report income from a job, as well as any retirement or disability income, public assistance, and unemployment compensation.
2-4. Share any information requested by the attorney.
To help your family member get the best defense possible, you should work closely with the attorney. He or she may reach out to you for information. Try to provide it as promptly as possible.
Remember that even if you help pay for an attorney, he or she still represents your family member, not you. For this reason, the attorney cannot share confidential information with you.
However, you should stay in close contact with your family member after they are arrested. They can keep you updated about their case.
3. Understanding the Consequences of Aiding a Criminal
3-1. Identify the elements of acting as an accessory.
There are certain conditions (“elements”) you must meet to qualify as an accessory after the fact. Generally, the following elements make you an accessory:
Someone committed a felony. In this situation, your family member committed a crime, and he or she is called the “principal.”
You helped aid or hide the principal.
When you helped the principal, you knew he or she had committed the felony or you knew they had been charged with a felony.
Your intent for helping the principal was to help them avoid arrest.
3-2. Check your state law.
In 14 states, family members are protected from punishment if they aid and abet their family members. A few other states provide reduced punishment for family members. However, before you help your family member, you should find out if an exemption applies in your state.
The easiest way would be to meet for a consultation with a criminal defense attorney. You can ask them if your law punishes aiding and abetting family members.
You also might do research online. Type “your state” and “aiding and abetting” into your favorite search engine.
Remember that ignorance of the law is no excuse for breaking it. If your state punishes aiding and abetting, you can't defend yourself by saying, “I thought my state was one of the 14 that protected family members from punishment.” You are expected to know the law.
3-3. Understand your possible punishment.
In the U.S., federal and many state laws allow people who aid or abet a family member to be punished just as harshly as the family member. This means that if your son committed an armed robbery, you could be punished as if you had committed the arm robbery if you help him avoid capture.
Accordingly, you could face jail time or be put on probation if you are convicted of aiding and abetting a family member.
For this reason, it is always safest to encourage family members to turn themselves into the police.
Warnings
Because knowledge that your family member has been charged with a felony is an element of aiding and abetting, some people might be tempted to help their family member but then claim that they didn't know an active warrant was out for their family member's arrest. However, if you are reading this article, then you certainly know your family member has a warrant. It is in your best interest not to lie to police.
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Decline to hide weapons or anything used in a crime.\\nIt is also illegal to destroy any evidence of the crime, such as weapons or communications. For example, if your family member committed a financial crime, then deleting computer spreadsheets or altering records is considered “obstruction of justice,” which is like aiding and abetting.\\n1-4. Avoid giving your family member money.\\nIf your family member has an active warrant, then you shouldn't give him or her money. Money can be spent on anything and can be used to buy a bus ticket out of town.\\nYou also shouldn't lend them property. Don't let a family member with an active warrant borrow your car.\\nInstead of giving money, you should encourage your family member to go to the police and surrender. This may be difficult for you to do. Nevertheless, your family member faces a lifetime of running from the police if they don't turn themselves in. It is better to face the consequences directly.\\n1-5. Don't share information with your family member.\\nYou also aid and abet a family member if you give them information that will help them escape. For example, if your child is on the run, then you aid and abet them by calling them and telling them where the police are looking.\\nYou should avoid any contact with a family member who has an active arrest warrant. If they call, tell them to turn themselves in.\\n1-6. Tell the truth to the police.\\nLying to the police is also a form of aiding and abetting. If the police contact you, then you should always be truthful. Tell the police where your family member is (if you know) and share any information about the crime that you have.\\n2. Finding a Lawyer for Your Family Member\\n2-1. Get referrals for a criminal defense attorney.\\nInstead of helping your family member run from the law, you should help him or her get a qualified attorney who can help build a defense. You can begin by getting referrals to a qualified criminal defense attorney. You can get referrals from the following sources:\\nPhone book. Ads in the phone book should point out if the lawyer does criminal defense work.\\nOther attorneys. They are a great source of referrals. If you used an attorney to buy a house, then ask him or her for a referral to a criminal defense attorney.\\nPeople you know. Some people won't admit that they have used a criminal defense attorney in the past. However, if you know someone has used a defense attorney in the past, you can ask if they would recommend that person.\\nYour local or state bar association. Bar associations are organizations made up of attorneys. If you call one, they can give you a referral to one of their members.\\n2-2. Find the money for a lawyer.\\nAttorneys don't work for free, and your family member will need to come up with a considerable amount of money. However, a good lawyer is worth every penny, especially when your family member has been accused of a serious crime. Try to pool all available resources:\\nCheck your savings accounts.\\nUse a credit card.\\nCash out savings bonds or stock.\\nSell possessions that you don't need.\\n2-3. Help your family member request a public defender.\\nIf your family member is charged with a crime that could result in prison, then they generally have the right to a public defender. In order to get a public defender, your family member must provide the court with financial information, such as their income and assets. You can help gather this information for your family member.\\nPrint off bank statements to show how much money your family member has.\\nEstimate the value of assets. Assets are anything like jewelry, art, real estate, stocks, bonds, or the cash value in a life insurance policy.\\nGather information about monthly income. You typically have to report income from a job, as well as any retirement or disability income, public assistance, and unemployment compensation.\\n2-4. Share any information requested by the attorney.\\nTo help your family member get the best defense possible, you should work closely with the attorney. He or she may reach out to you for information. Try to provide it as promptly as possible.\\nRemember that even if you help pay for an attorney, he or she still represents your family member, not you. For this reason, the attorney cannot share confidential information with you.\\nHowever, you should stay in close contact with your family member after they are arrested. They can keep you updated about their case.\\n3. Understanding the Consequences of Aiding a Criminal\\n3-1. Identify the elements of acting as an accessory.\\nThere are certain conditions (“elements”) you must meet to qualify as an accessory after the fact. Generally, the following elements make you an accessory:\\nSomeone committed a felony. In this situation, your family member committed a crime, and he or she is called the “principal.”\\nYou helped aid or hide the principal.\\nWhen you helped the principal, you knew he or she had committed the felony or you knew they had been charged with a felony.\\nYour intent for helping the principal was to help them avoid arrest.\\n3-2. Check your state law.\\nIn 14 states, family members are protected from punishment if they aid and abet their family members. A few other states provide reduced punishment for family members. However, before you help your family member, you should find out if an exemption applies in your state.\\nThe easiest way would be to meet for a consultation with a criminal defense attorney. You can ask them if your law punishes aiding and abetting family members.\\nYou also might do research online. Type “your state” and “aiding and abetting” into your favorite search engine.\\nRemember that ignorance of the law is no excuse for breaking it. If your state punishes aiding and abetting, you can't defend yourself by saying, “I thought my state was one of the 14 that protected family members from punishment.” You are expected to know the law.\\n3-3. Understand your possible punishment.\\nIn the U.S., federal and many state laws allow people who aid or abet a family member to be punished just as harshly as the family member. This means that if your son committed an armed robbery, you could be punished as if you had committed the arm robbery if you help him avoid capture.\\nAccordingly, you could face jail time or be put on probation if you are convicted of aiding and abetting a family member.\\nFor this reason, it is always safest to encourage family members to turn themselves into the police.\\nWarnings\\nBecause knowledge that your family member has been charged with a felony is an element of aiding and abetting, some people might be tempted to help their family member but then claim that they didn't know an active warrant was out for their family member's arrest. However, if you are reading this article, then you certainly know your family member has a warrant. It is in your best interest not to lie to police.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"An “accessory after the fact” is someone who helps a criminal hide from police. You can be charged as an accessory if you aid or abet your family member with an active warrant in any way. To avoid illegally helping your family member, you should cut off contact and work with the police. The best thing you can do for your family member is to help them get a qualified criminal defense attorney.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Avoiding Aiding and Abetting\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Avoid hiding your family member.\", \"描述\": \"You act as an accessory after the fact when you hide a family member after they commit a crime. If you know he or she has an active warrant, then you shouldn't let the person into your home.\\n“Hiding” doesn't mean you have to drive a family member to an isolated location to hide them. 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2,884 | How to Avoid Airline Baggage Fees | 1. Packing Light to Avoid Fees
1-1. Pack only carry on luggage.
Most airlines allow you to bring one piece of carry-on luggage and one personal item (such as a purse or backpack) free of charge. If you can fit everything you need into this luggage then you can avoid baggage fees entirely.
Some budget airlines charge even for carry-on luggage, so check with yours ahead of time to be sure.
Your carry on baggage may sometimes be checked (for free) at your gate before departure if the plane is expected to be very full.
1-2. Make sure your luggage is within the size limits.
Carry-on luggage must fit into the overhead compartment on a plane, and a personal item must fit under the seat in front of your feet. Check your airline’s website before you depart for its specific size regulations.
Most airlines have a receptacle at the check-in counter or gate that you can slide your carry-on luggage into to verify that it is within the size limits.
Keep in mind that your airline may technically have a weight limit for carry-on luggage, though crews rarely take the time to weigh carry on luggage.
In the worst-case scenario, when your carry on is weighed and found to be over the limit, you may be asked to check it.
1-3. Reduce the amount of luggage you carry.
Most people tend to significantly overpack. Carrying as little as possible is the best way to avoid or reduce baggage fees. If you can reduce two checked bags to one, or a checked bag to a carry-on, you’ll see instant savings.
Minimize the number of things you take. For instance, you might think you need to bring five pairs of shoes on vacation, but three will probably do it.
1-4. Pack tightly as well as lightly.
Balling all of your clothes up and throwing them in your luggage will waste precious space. Instead, roll your clothes up tightly and neatly place them in your luggage. You’ll be able to fit much more in your luggage, and reduce the number of pieces you carry--and the fees you’ll be subject to. There are other ways of squeezing more in. For instance:
Vacuum pack your clothing in compression bags. All you have to do is hook a vacuum cleaner up to an opening on these bags, and it will remove all of the excess air so that your items take up less space.
Tuck small items within other items. For instance, roll up socks or a belt and place them inside your shoes.
1-5. Wear as much as you can rather than packing it.
This is another way to reduce the amount you have to carry in your luggage, thereby lowering potential baggage fees. There are a number of creative ways to do this. For instance:
Wear layers on the plane to reduce what you have to put in your luggage.
Wear your bulkiest items, like a large coat, rather than putting them in your luggage. You can always take it off once you’re in your airplane seat.
Use your pockets to hold small things rather than putting them in your luggage. You can even fold small clothing items and place them in large pockets of a jacket or cargo pants.
1-6. Use the largest allowable personal item.
Almost all airlines allow you to carry a personal item for free. This is usually expected to be something like a purse or laptop bag, but a backpack or small duffel will also usually slip by with no problem. Pack as much as you can into this item.
1-7. Put heavy items in your carry-on luggage if you are checking a bag.
Personal items and carry on bags are usually not weighed (unlike checked bags). Put your heaviest items in carry-on luggage to make it less likely that your checked bag be subject to an overweight baggage fee.
1-8. Weigh your bags at home.
No one wants to make it all the way to the check-in counter before realizing that their bag is overweight and subject to an overweight baggage fee. Do yourself a favor and use a digital scale to weigh your baggage before you depart. If it’s over your airline’s limit, take something out to avoid the fee.
If you are travelling with multiple people, you can distribute items among all the luggage to make sure that each person's bag is under the weight limit.
1-9. Ask which items you can pack for free.
Though it’s not always announced, most airlines do not make passengers pay to pack items like strollers, child car seats, and necessary medical equipment. Before you try to stuff items like these into a checked bag and subject yourself to a fee, ask your airline if they can fly free.
1-10. Transfer large amounts of liquids to travel size bottles.
Liquids can usually only be carried on board a plane in small amounts, such as 3 ounces or less. If you’re carrying larger amounts of a liquid, you will have to check your bag. You can bypass this regulation, however, by repackaging the liquid in smaller bottles. That way, you can avoid the checked bag fee.
For instance, if you are carrying a nine-ounce container of shampoo, transfer it to three three-ounce bottles instead, and place them in your carry-on luggage.
Remember that things for infants (milk, formula or food) and necessary medications are usually not subject to the liquid amount limits.
2. Choosing Your Airline Wisely
2-1. Choose an airline that does not charge fees for a checked bag.
While most airlines use baggage fees for checked bags as a revenue stream, a few allow passengers to check a bag for free. As of early 2017, carriers such as Southwest and JetBlue offer this option.
2-2. Get elite status with your favorite airline.
If you earn special status with an airline based on frequent flyer miles or other arrangements, this often comes with discounts on or elimination of baggage fees. While always flying with the same airline may not mean you have the cheapest ticket each time, you may save money on baggage fees this way in the long run if you frequently travel with lots of luggage.
Contact your preferred airline for information on how to earn elite status.
2-3. Check with your airline to see if you qualify for exceptions.
Many airlines offer incentives or exceptions for special passengers or classes of flights. These can include the elimination of baggage fees. For instance, some airlines offer a free checked bag on international flights, and many allow members of the military to check bags without paying a fee.
Check with a customer service agent of your preferred airline to see if you qualify for an exception like this.
2-4. Sign up for an airline credit card with free baggage perks.
Airline credit cards often offer free checked bags as an incentive. If you fly frequently and don’t mind signing up for a card, this can be an option for you.
Typically, you have to use this card to purchase your tickets in order to have your baggage fees waived.
Airline credit cards sometimes have special restrictions and high annual fees, so read the fine print before signing up. The card will only be worth it if you save money in the long run by avoiding more in baggage fees than you pay for card fees.
2-5. Fly first class.
Most of the time, first class tickets are automatically bundled with a free checked bag. These tickets can be much more expensive than those for economy seats, but if you just want to avoid the trouble of paying separate baggage fees, you can spring for first class.
3. Reducing Your Baggage Fees
3-1. Spread fees around if you are traveling with multiple passengers.
Airlines often charge a fee for a first checked bag, and a higher fee for additional bags (such as $25 for the first bag, and $35 for each additional one). If you are traveling with multiple people, make sure that each pays for their own bag, rather than one person paying for them all--the overall fees will be lower.
For instance, for a group of four people traveling with four bags, it might cost $130 if one person checks and pays for all of the luggage, but only $100 if each person checks and pays for their own.
3-2. Ask about ticket class upgrades.
Many airlines will offer passengers the option to upgrade to first class or another tier at the last minute for an additional fee. This is usually only offered shortly before departure. While there is a fee for this upgrade, you may decide the comfort and convenience of not having to pay separate baggage fees is worth it. In certain instances, it may even be more affordable than paying baggage fees.
For instance, if you are offered an upgrade to first class on Delta for $90, you will be allowed to check up to three bags without an additional fee.
If you were traveling with a group of three, each person checking a bag, your baggage fees might total $95. If one of your group springs for the first-class upgrade and checks all of your bags, you will save a little money.
3-3. Use your charm to reduce baggage fees.
Sometimes, the decisions about baggage fees are up to agents at the check-in. This means that if you are extra polite, you might be able to avoid fees.
For instance, if you have a bag that is slightly over the weight limit, you would ordinarily be subject to an overweight baggage fee.
However, if you tell the agent that your bag is only over the weight limit because you had to put a gift for your adorable 3-year old niece in it, you just might get out of paying the fee.
Tips
Research baggage fees and regulations for the airline you are flying with before you depart. Plan ahead to avoid fees before you depart, rather than scrambling to reduce your luggage at the airport or being forced to pay.[20]
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Warnings
Baggage fees can vary widely from airline to airline. In particular, normal standards for airlines of one country can be quite different than those for airlines from another.
Airline policies are constantly changing, so always check for the most up-to-date information on baggage fees before your departure.
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Check your airline’s website before you depart for its specific size regulations.\\nMost airlines have a receptacle at the check-in counter or gate that you can slide your carry-on luggage into to verify that it is within the size limits.\\nKeep in mind that your airline may technically have a weight limit for carry-on luggage, though crews rarely take the time to weigh carry on luggage.\\nIn the worst-case scenario, when your carry on is weighed and found to be over the limit, you may be asked to check it.\\n1-3. Reduce the amount of luggage you carry.\\nMost people tend to significantly overpack. Carrying as little as possible is the best way to avoid or reduce baggage fees. If you can reduce two checked bags to one, or a checked bag to a carry-on, you’ll see instant savings.\\nMinimize the number of things you take. For instance, you might think you need to bring five pairs of shoes on vacation, but three will probably do it.\\n1-4. Pack tightly as well as lightly.\\nBalling all of your clothes up and throwing them in your luggage will waste precious space. Instead, roll your clothes up tightly and neatly place them in your luggage. You’ll be able to fit much more in your luggage, and reduce the number of pieces you carry--and the fees you’ll be subject to. There are other ways of squeezing more in. For instance:\\nVacuum pack your clothing in compression bags. All you have to do is hook a vacuum cleaner up to an opening on these bags, and it will remove all of the excess air so that your items take up less space.\\nTuck small items within other items. For instance, roll up socks or a belt and place them inside your shoes.\\n1-5. Wear as much as you can rather than packing it.\\nThis is another way to reduce the amount you have to carry in your luggage, thereby lowering potential baggage fees. There are a number of creative ways to do this. For instance:\\nWear layers on the plane to reduce what you have to put in your luggage.\\nWear your bulkiest items, like a large coat, rather than putting them in your luggage. You can always take it off once you’re in your airplane seat.\\nUse your pockets to hold small things rather than putting them in your luggage. You can even fold small clothing items and place them in large pockets of a jacket or cargo pants.\\n1-6. Use the largest allowable personal item.\\nAlmost all airlines allow you to carry a personal item for free. This is usually expected to be something like a purse or laptop bag, but a backpack or small duffel will also usually slip by with no problem. Pack as much as you can into this item.\\n1-7. Put heavy items in your carry-on luggage if you are checking a bag.\\nPersonal items and carry on bags are usually not weighed (unlike checked bags). Put your heaviest items in carry-on luggage to make it less likely that your checked bag be subject to an overweight baggage fee.\\n1-8. Weigh your bags at home.\\nNo one wants to make it all the way to the check-in counter before realizing that their bag is overweight and subject to an overweight baggage fee. Do yourself a favor and use a digital scale to weigh your baggage before you depart. If it’s over your airline’s limit, take something out to avoid the fee.\\nIf you are travelling with multiple people, you can distribute items among all the luggage to make sure that each person's bag is under the weight limit.\\n1-9. Ask which items you can pack for free.\\nThough it’s not always announced, most airlines do not make passengers pay to pack items like strollers, child car seats, and necessary medical equipment. Before you try to stuff items like these into a checked bag and subject yourself to a fee, ask your airline if they can fly free.\\n1-10. Transfer large amounts of liquids to travel size bottles.\\nLiquids can usually only be carried on board a plane in small amounts, such as 3 ounces or less. If you’re carrying larger amounts of a liquid, you will have to check your bag. You can bypass this regulation, however, by repackaging the liquid in smaller bottles. That way, you can avoid the checked bag fee.\\nFor instance, if you are carrying a nine-ounce container of shampoo, transfer it to three three-ounce bottles instead, and place them in your carry-on luggage.\\nRemember that things for infants (milk, formula or food) and necessary medications are usually not subject to the liquid amount limits.\\n2. Choosing Your Airline Wisely\\n2-1. Choose an airline that does not charge fees for a checked bag.\\nWhile most airlines use baggage fees for checked bags as a revenue stream, a few allow passengers to check a bag for free. As of early 2017, carriers such as Southwest and JetBlue offer this option.\\n2-2. Get elite status with your favorite airline.\\nIf you earn special status with an airline based on frequent flyer miles or other arrangements, this often comes with discounts on or elimination of baggage fees. While always flying with the same airline may not mean you have the cheapest ticket each time, you may save money on baggage fees this way in the long run if you frequently travel with lots of luggage.\\nContact your preferred airline for information on how to earn elite status.\\n2-3. Check with your airline to see if you qualify for exceptions.\\nMany airlines offer incentives or exceptions for special passengers or classes of flights. These can include the elimination of baggage fees. For instance, some airlines offer a free checked bag on international flights, and many allow members of the military to check bags without paying a fee.\\nCheck with a customer service agent of your preferred airline to see if you qualify for an exception like this.\\n2-4. Sign up for an airline credit card with free baggage perks.\\nAirline credit cards often offer free checked bags as an incentive. If you fly frequently and don’t mind signing up for a card, this can be an option for you.\\nTypically, you have to use this card to purchase your tickets in order to have your baggage fees waived.\\nAirline credit cards sometimes have special restrictions and high annual fees, so read the fine print before signing up. The card will only be worth it if you save money in the long run by avoiding more in baggage fees than you pay for card fees.\\n2-5. Fly first class.\\nMost of the time, first class tickets are automatically bundled with a free checked bag. These tickets can be much more expensive than those for economy seats, but if you just want to avoid the trouble of paying separate baggage fees, you can spring for first class.\\n3. Reducing Your Baggage Fees\\n3-1. Spread fees around if you are traveling with multiple passengers.\\nAirlines often charge a fee for a first checked bag, and a higher fee for additional bags (such as $25 for the first bag, and $35 for each additional one). If you are traveling with multiple people, make sure that each pays for their own bag, rather than one person paying for them all--the overall fees will be lower.\\nFor instance, for a group of four people traveling with four bags, it might cost $130 if one person checks and pays for all of the luggage, but only $100 if each person checks and pays for their own.\\n3-2. Ask about ticket class upgrades.\\nMany airlines will offer passengers the option to upgrade to first class or another tier at the last minute for an additional fee. This is usually only offered shortly before departure. While there is a fee for this upgrade, you may decide the comfort and convenience of not having to pay separate baggage fees is worth it. In certain instances, it may even be more affordable than paying baggage fees.\\nFor instance, if you are offered an upgrade to first class on Delta for $90, you will be allowed to check up to three bags without an additional fee.\\nIf you were traveling with a group of three, each person checking a bag, your baggage fees might total $95. If one of your group springs for the first-class upgrade and checks all of your bags, you will save a little money.\\n3-3. Use your charm to reduce baggage fees.\\nSometimes, the decisions about baggage fees are up to agents at the check-in. 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2,885 | How to Avoid Alcoholism | 1. Reducing the Amount You Drink
1-1. Keep alcohol out of your house.
It's a lot easier for alcohol to become a daily, insidious habit if you always keep it within reach. If your liquor cabinet is always stocked, you can easily be tempted. If there is a half-drunk bottle of wine or a six-pack is chilling in the fridge, it's going to be tough to avoid drinking. The first step to avoiding alcoholism is to keep it out of your house when it's not serving an immediate social purpose. If you don't want to stop drinking but just cut back to a healthy amount, not surrounding yourself with it is a good place to start.
Stock your kitchen with other tasty drinks you can substitute for alcohol when you want something comforting to drink. Tea, sparkling water, lemonade, root beer, and soda are better for you than alcohol.
If you have a party and there's a lot of leftover alcohol, give it away to friends. If no one wants it, pour it down the drain. Don't get trapped into thinking you have to finish it because you don't want it to go to waste.
1-2. Don't drink when you're feeling bad.
Drinking when you're bored, lonely, stressed, sad, or feeling any other negative emotion can lead to a dependency on alcohol. Since alcohol is a depressant, it can actually make things even worse. Try drinking only on social occasions, when everyone's having a good time and there's a reason to celebrate.
Don't fall into the trap of making every day a day to celebrate. Make sure you save drinking for truly special occasions when someone has something worthy of celebration.
1-3. Slow down your sipping.
If you tend to guzzle your drinks, you'll be more likely to drink too much on any given evening. Slow yourself down by sipping your drinks slowly, taking more time to finish each drink. You can help this by ordering your drinks straight, so the taste of sweet mixers doesn't mask the alcohol and make you think you aren't drinking any. You should also drink a glass of water or a soft drink for every alcoholic drink you consume.
Drinking water will help fill you up and keep you hydrated. You will be less likely to guzzle drinks if you are properly hydrated and feel fuller.
Do not engage in beer drinking contests or any activity that involves chugging excessive amounts of alcohol in a short period of time.
1-4. Stop going to bars as often.
Since the purpose of bars is to sell drinks, you're automatically going to feel pressured to buy one. The low lights, the smell of alcohol mixed with perfume and cologne, and the sexy vibe everyone's exuding present an atmosphere that may be hard to resist. Since the whole environment is geared towards drinking, it's best to avoid bars altogether when you're trying to cut back.
If you're invited to a social function that takes place at a bar, like happy hour with your boss and coworkers, try ordering club soda or another nonalcoholic drink. If the place has a food menu, order yourself a treat so you'll still feel like you're indulging.
When you do go to bars, choose places that have more going on than just drinking. Go to a place with pool tables or bocce ball, for example, so the focus isn't solely on how much alcohol you can keep down. You may find it easier to drink less when there are distractions.
1-5. Do activities that don't involve drinking.
People spend a lot of time in bars when they could be doing something more active. Suggest alternatives to your group of friends next time you have a get-together. You could play a pick-up sport, go for a walk or bike ride, go to a movie or play, or go to a music show or art opening. Choose a venue that doesn't sell alcohol or an activity that isn't conducive to drinking.
This will not only make you cut back on your drinking, but it will also make you healthier overall by getting you more active.
1-6. Hang out with people who don't drink.
Some people are going to insist on drinking, even when you invite them to activities outside the bar. They'll brown bag it at the movie theater or pack a flask to bring on your hike. If you're seriously trying to avoid alcohol, make plans with other people who are in the same boat. That way you won't be faced with the presence of alcohol every time you want to have a little fun.
This may mean cutting people out of your life if it becomes a problem. If you really like the person that drinks all the time, learn to say no instead when they are around. Just because he is drinking doesn't mean you have to. Maybe they will pick up on your attempts to cut back and do the same.
1-7. Take up exercising.
Exercising is a great way to help yourself kick an alcohol habit. Drinking makes a lot of people feel slow and sluggish, and it can also lead to bloating and weight gain. If you make it a goal to be physically fit, you'll soon get frustrated with alcohol's effect on your progress.
Try signing up for a 5K or joining a community soccer or basketball team. You'll soon find yourself passing on alcohol the night before you need to be at your physical best.
Along with exercise, make sure you're eating well, getting sleep, and generally taking care of yourself so you'll be less prone to drinking.
1-8. Recognize withdrawal symptoms.
If you cut back significantly on your alcohol consumption, you may start to experience some withdrawal symptoms. There are both physical and mental withdrawal symptoms that you might experience. Withdrawal causes trembling hands, irritability, shaky and tired feelings, difficulty sleeping, poor concentration, and bad dreams.
If you were a heavy drinker, you may experience some additional symptoms, such as sweating, nausea, headache, lack of appetite, vomiting, and palpitations.
2. Making a Serious Plan to Stop
2-1. Decide how much is too much.
Avoiding alcoholism is more difficult for some people than it is for others. Some are able to drink on a daily basis without negative repercussions. For many, daily drinking increases tolerance to the point where it's difficult to have just one, which can lead to heavy drinking and eventually alcoholism. You should also try to stay within the moderate daily drinking range.
According to the USDA, moderate drinking is defined as up to 1 drink per day for women and up to 2 drinks per day for men. Frequently going over this, especially for a sustained period of time, puts you at greater risk for alcoholism.
Keep in mind that more than 7 drinks per week for women and 14 drinks per week for men is considered heavy drinking. Try to stay well below this limit.
Having a family history of alcoholism, mixing alcohol with medication, and having depression can all put you at greater risk for developing a dependency.
2-2. Write down your commitment.
If you've decided that 3 drinks a week is your max, write it down: "I will not drink more than 3 drinks a week." Make a commitment to yourself to stick to what you wrote down. Place the piece of paper on your mirror or in your wallet so you have a daily reminder that you've resolved to cut back or quit.
You can also write down the reason you want to cut back, such as: "I want to be healthier." or "I want to stop alienating my family and friends."
It's not going to be easy, but putting your promise to paper can help.
2-3. Keep track of how much you drink.
One of the best ways to understand how much you drink is to keep track of each one. You can carry a drink tracker card that you use to note each drink you have a week. You can also note it on a calendar or notepad around your house. If you drink a lot while you are out, you can use a notepad or app on your phone to keep track of how much you drink. Review it each week. You may be surprised once you see it written in one place.
Being accountable for each drink can help you be more conscious about how much you drink and help you cut back.
If you find that you drink a lot more than you expected, you can create a journal and log every time you have a drink. You should also write about why you decided to drink, what feelings you experienced before taking a drink, and how you felt afterward. This will help you look for patterns in your emotions.
Write down your triggers and situations that make it extremely difficult for you to avoid drinking. As the weeks progress, you should start learning what to avoid.
2-4. Take an alcohol break from time to time.
Determine to stop drinking alcohol for a week or two. This will give your system a break and free you from your regular routine for a while. You can also do it in smaller doses and choose at least two days a week not to drink.
For example, if you've been in the habit of drinking a glass of wine every night, taking a break will change things up so you'll no longer feel you need that daily glass.
If you are a heavy drinker, this can cause withdrawal symptoms. Pay close attention to how you feel and the way your body reacts to the change. If you have serious reactions to this step, see your doctor as soon as you can.
2-5. Monitor your progress.
Throughout the process of cutting back, take notes on your progress from week to week. Assess if you think you have control of your drinking habits, if you have been successful in cutting back your consumption to the amount to which you committed, and if you are able to cope with your urges and alcohol cravings. If you feel that your drinking is out of hand, even though you've made a serious effort to nip it in the bud on your own, it might be time to seek outside help.
If you can't limit your consumption to a low level without feeling withdrawal, you can't say no to a drink, you have blackouts, or you experience other signs of alcoholism, you should seek help right away.
3. Seeking Outside Help
3-1. Recognize that you need support.
You need to seek help immediately if you determine that your drinking is out of control. If you experience certain problems, you may be abusing alcohol, which puts you at great risk for developing alcoholism. You are at risk if you can't have a drink without eventually drinking more and getting drunk or you use alcohol while driving or operating machinery, even though you know that using alcohol in this way is illegal and extremely dangerous.
If you have morning and evening cravings, develop irritability, have mood swings, drink alone or in secret, chug drinks, are depressed, or experience shakiness, you should seek immediate help.
You should also seek help if you neglect your responsibilities due to drinking. You could be neglecting them either because you're busy drinking or because you have hangovers that prevent you from going to work or school.
You are at risk if you've gotten in legal trouble because of your drinking, such as being arrested for public intoxication, getting into a fight while drunk, or getting a DUI.
You should be concerned if you keep drinking even though people in your life have expressed concern. When your drinking has gotten problematic enough that other people notice, you should seek help.
You should not use drinking as a coping mechanism. It is extremely unhealthy to use alcohol as a way to cope with stress, depression, and other problems. If you tend to do so, you should seek help.
3-2. Look into Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meetings.
Going through a 12-step program, such as those facilitated by AA, has helped many people who abuse alcohol find a way to cope. Even if you don't think you're a full-blown alcoholic, going through the program can help you prevent your problem from getting worse. You'll attend meetings and get an AA sponsor who you can call when you're experiencing cravings or losing your way.
You may learn that you cannot drink safely anymore, and it will be important for you to have a support system in place to help you deal with that reality and help you eliminate all alcohol and negative influences from your life.
You can search online to find a nearby AA support group in your area.
AA is a faith-based organization, so only try this method if you are comfortable with this. They use religious passages and messages to help guide recovery and rely on sponsors and group meetings to back up their teachings.
3-3. Try the SMART Recovery.
If you are not interested in AA, you can try SMART Recovery. It is a program that uses cognitive-behavioral approaches to pinpoint emotional and environmental factors that have led to your addiction and help you respond to them in new, productive ways. It focuses on recovering from your addiction without thinking it is a disease.
This is an abstinence-based program, meaning that they teach the complete removal of all alcohol from your life. Despite this, SMART Recovery welcomes those who are ambivalent about quitting drinking.
This program is for those who do not need too much structure and who can be personally motivated to quit drinking. Cognitive-behavioral approaches rely on self-actualization instead of group or sponsor related help like AA. This program relies heavily on your own motivation and participation.
3-4. Go to a secular-based recovery program.
If you are not interested in faith-based 12 step programs like AA, there are some other alternatives you can try. Secular Organizations for Sobriety (SOS) is a non-structured program that has guidelines for sobriety that focus on you taking responsibility for your drinking habit and making sure members do not drink at all. It is an abstinence-based approach like AA and SMART Recovery.
You can also use programs like LifeRing Secular Recovery (LSR), which is a secular organization that upholds three tenets, sobriety, secularity, and self-help. They believe that inner motivation is the best way to stay abstinent from alcohol and have group meetings for encouragement and help when your self-motivation is lacking. This is similar to AA in that they have group sessions, but their beliefs are not steeped in Christianity.
For more information about support groups that might be right for you, go to Faces and Voices Recovery's Directory of support groups. They have options for support groups based on gender, religion, type of addiction, and age. They also provide listings of groups that meet in person, provide medical assistance, meet online, are friend and family-focused, and that are 12 steps.
3-5. Start seeing a therapist.
Having individual attention from a therapist is also a good idea when you are struggling with a drinking problem. Your drinking might stem from deeper issues that you need to address before you're able to stop. If you're drinking due to trauma, extreme stress, mental illness, or another reason that a therapist could address, then getting this kind of one-on-one help will be essential to recovery.
A therapist can also help you if you are worried about social pressures to drink, don't know how to avoid triggers, or have guilt over any relapse. She can help you get over the guilt of these situations and help you get stronger in your recovery.
3-6. Seek support from loved ones and friends.
Giving up alcohol is extremely difficult to go through alone. Tell your loved ones and friends that you're getting help to stop drinking. Ask them to support you on your journey by not inviting you to bars or giving you alcohol. This will help you be more accountable for your choices because you will have more people looking out for you.
Ask if you can do activities together that don't involve drinking.
Tips
You should drink more water every day. Not only will it help you keep hydrated, but it will also help you drink less alcohol because you will be drinking water instead.
Alcohol depresses inhibitions, so be aware that you may allow yourself to do things you would not normally do when under the influence of alcohol.
Alcohol is a poison and drinking is never a necessity. Either avoid it completely or try one of the many alcohol-free alternatives on the market. Be aware that many of these still contain small amounts of alcohol.
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If the place has a food menu, order yourself a treat so you'll still feel like you're indulging.\\nWhen you do go to bars, choose places that have more going on than just drinking. Go to a place with pool tables or bocce ball, for example, so the focus isn't solely on how much alcohol you can keep down. You may find it easier to drink less when there are distractions.\\n1-5. Do activities that don't involve drinking.\\nPeople spend a lot of time in bars when they could be doing something more active. Suggest alternatives to your group of friends next time you have a get-together. You could play a pick-up sport, go for a walk or bike ride, go to a movie or play, or go to a music show or art opening. Choose a venue that doesn't sell alcohol or an activity that isn't conducive to drinking.\\nThis will not only make you cut back on your drinking, but it will also make you healthier overall by getting you more active.\\n1-6. Hang out with people who don't drink.\\nSome people are going to insist on drinking, even when you invite them to activities outside the bar. They'll brown bag it at the movie theater or pack a flask to bring on your hike. If you're seriously trying to avoid alcohol, make plans with other people who are in the same boat. That way you won't be faced with the presence of alcohol every time you want to have a little fun.\\nThis may mean cutting people out of your life if it becomes a problem. If you really like the person that drinks all the time, learn to say no instead when they are around. Just because he is drinking doesn't mean you have to. Maybe they will pick up on your attempts to cut back and do the same.\\n1-7. Take up exercising.\\nExercising is a great way to help yourself kick an alcohol habit. Drinking makes a lot of people feel slow and sluggish, and it can also lead to bloating and weight gain. If you make it a goal to be physically fit, you'll soon get frustrated with alcohol's effect on your progress.\\nTry signing up for a 5K or joining a community soccer or basketball team. You'll soon find yourself passing on alcohol the night before you need to be at your physical best.\\nAlong with exercise, make sure you're eating well, getting sleep, and generally taking care of yourself so you'll be less prone to drinking.\\n1-8. Recognize withdrawal symptoms.\\nIf you cut back significantly on your alcohol consumption, you may start to experience some withdrawal symptoms. There are both physical and mental withdrawal symptoms that you might experience. Withdrawal causes trembling hands, irritability, shaky and tired feelings, difficulty sleeping, poor concentration, and bad dreams.\\nIf you were a heavy drinker, you may experience some additional symptoms, such as sweating, nausea, headache, lack of appetite, vomiting, and palpitations.\\n2. Making a Serious Plan to Stop\\n2-1. Decide how much is too much.\\nAvoiding alcoholism is more difficult for some people than it is for others. Some are able to drink on a daily basis without negative repercussions. For many, daily drinking increases tolerance to the point where it's difficult to have just one, which can lead to heavy drinking and eventually alcoholism. You should also try to stay within the moderate daily drinking range.\\nAccording to the USDA, moderate drinking is defined as up to 1 drink per day for women and up to 2 drinks per day for men. Frequently going over this, especially for a sustained period of time, puts you at greater risk for alcoholism.\\nKeep in mind that more than 7 drinks per week for women and 14 drinks per week for men is considered heavy drinking. Try to stay well below this limit.\\nHaving a family history of alcoholism, mixing alcohol with medication, and having depression can all put you at greater risk for developing a dependency.\\n2-2. Write down your commitment.\\nIf you've decided that 3 drinks a week is your max, write it down: \\\"I will not drink more than 3 drinks a week.\\\" Make a commitment to yourself to stick to what you wrote down. Place the piece of paper on your mirror or in your wallet so you have a daily reminder that you've resolved to cut back or quit.\\nYou can also write down the reason you want to cut back, such as: \\\"I want to be healthier.\\\" or \\\"I want to stop alienating my family and friends.\\\"\\nIt's not going to be easy, but putting your promise to paper can help.\\n2-3. Keep track of how much you drink.\\nOne of the best ways to understand how much you drink is to keep track of each one. You can carry a drink tracker card that you use to note each drink you have a week. You can also note it on a calendar or notepad around your house. If you drink a lot while you are out, you can use a notepad or app on your phone to keep track of how much you drink. Review it each week. You may be surprised once you see it written in one place.\\nBeing accountable for each drink can help you be more conscious about how much you drink and help you cut back.\\nIf you find that you drink a lot more than you expected, you can create a journal and log every time you have a drink. You should also write about why you decided to drink, what feelings you experienced before taking a drink, and how you felt afterward. This will help you look for patterns in your emotions.\\nWrite down your triggers and situations that make it extremely difficult for you to avoid drinking. As the weeks progress, you should start learning what to avoid.\\n2-4. Take an alcohol break from time to time.\\nDetermine to stop drinking alcohol for a week or two. This will give your system a break and free you from your regular routine for a while. You can also do it in smaller doses and choose at least two days a week not to drink.\\nFor example, if you've been in the habit of drinking a glass of wine every night, taking a break will change things up so you'll no longer feel you need that daily glass.\\nIf you are a heavy drinker, this can cause withdrawal symptoms. Pay close attention to how you feel and the way your body reacts to the change. If you have serious reactions to this step, see your doctor as soon as you can.\\n2-5. Monitor your progress.\\nThroughout the process of cutting back, take notes on your progress from week to week. Assess if you think you have control of your drinking habits, if you have been successful in cutting back your consumption to the amount to which you committed, and if you are able to cope with your urges and alcohol cravings. If you feel that your drinking is out of hand, even though you've made a serious effort to nip it in the bud on your own, it might be time to seek outside help.\\nIf you can't limit your consumption to a low level without feeling withdrawal, you can't say no to a drink, you have blackouts, or you experience other signs of alcoholism, you should seek help right away.\\n3. Seeking Outside Help\\n3-1. Recognize that you need support.\\nYou need to seek help immediately if you determine that your drinking is out of control. If you experience certain problems, you may be abusing alcohol, which puts you at great risk for developing alcoholism. You are at risk if you can't have a drink without eventually drinking more and getting drunk or you use alcohol while driving or operating machinery, even though you know that using alcohol in this way is illegal and extremely dangerous.\\nIf you have morning and evening cravings, develop irritability, have mood swings, drink alone or in secret, chug drinks, are depressed, or experience shakiness, you should seek immediate help.\\nYou should also seek help if you neglect your responsibilities due to drinking. You could be neglecting them either because you're busy drinking or because you have hangovers that prevent you from going to work or school.\\nYou are at risk if you've gotten in legal trouble because of your drinking, such as being arrested for public intoxication, getting into a fight while drunk, or getting a DUI.\\nYou should be concerned if you keep drinking even though people in your life have expressed concern. When your drinking has gotten problematic enough that other people notice, you should seek help.\\nYou should not use drinking as a coping mechanism. It is extremely unhealthy to use alcohol as a way to cope with stress, depression, and other problems. If you tend to do so, you should seek help.\\n3-2. Look into Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meetings.\\nGoing through a 12-step program, such as those facilitated by AA, has helped many people who abuse alcohol find a way to cope. Even if you don't think you're a full-blown alcoholic, going through the program can help you prevent your problem from getting worse. You'll attend meetings and get an AA sponsor who you can call when you're experiencing cravings or losing your way.\\nYou may learn that you cannot drink safely anymore, and it will be important for you to have a support system in place to help you deal with that reality and help you eliminate all alcohol and negative influences from your life.\\nYou can search online to find a nearby AA support group in your area.\\nAA is a faith-based organization, so only try this method if you are comfortable with this. They use religious passages and messages to help guide recovery and rely on sponsors and group meetings to back up their teachings.\\n3-3. Try the SMART Recovery.\\nIf you are not interested in AA, you can try SMART Recovery. It is a program that uses cognitive-behavioral approaches to pinpoint emotional and environmental factors that have led to your addiction and help you respond to them in new, productive ways. It focuses on recovering from your addiction without thinking it is a disease.\\nThis is an abstinence-based program, meaning that they teach the complete removal of all alcohol from your life. Despite this, SMART Recovery welcomes those who are ambivalent about quitting drinking.\\nThis program is for those who do not need too much structure and who can be personally motivated to quit drinking. Cognitive-behavioral approaches rely on self-actualization instead of group or sponsor related help like AA. This program relies heavily on your own motivation and participation.\\n3-4. Go to a secular-based recovery program.\\nIf you are not interested in faith-based 12 step programs like AA, there are some other alternatives you can try. Secular Organizations for Sobriety (SOS) is a non-structured program that has guidelines for sobriety that focus on you taking responsibility for your drinking habit and making sure members do not drink at all. It is an abstinence-based approach like AA and SMART Recovery.\\nYou can also use programs like LifeRing Secular Recovery (LSR), which is a secular organization that upholds three tenets, sobriety, secularity, and self-help. They believe that inner motivation is the best way to stay abstinent from alcohol and have group meetings for encouragement and help when your self-motivation is lacking. This is similar to AA in that they have group sessions, but their beliefs are not steeped in Christianity.\\nFor more information about support groups that might be right for you, go to Faces and Voices Recovery's Directory of support groups. They have options for support groups based on gender, religion, type of addiction, and age. They also provide listings of groups that meet in person, provide medical assistance, meet online, are friend and family-focused, and that are 12 steps.\\n3-5. Start seeing a therapist.\\nHaving individual attention from a therapist is also a good idea when you are struggling with a drinking problem. Your drinking might stem from deeper issues that you need to address before you're able to stop. If you're drinking due to trauma, extreme stress, mental illness, or another reason that a therapist could address, then getting this kind of one-on-one help will be essential to recovery.\\nA therapist can also help you if you are worried about social pressures to drink, don't know how to avoid triggers, or have guilt over any relapse. She can help you get over the guilt of these situations and help you get stronger in your recovery.\\n3-6. Seek support from loved ones and friends.\\nGiving up alcohol is extremely difficult to go through alone. Tell your loved ones and friends that you're getting help to stop drinking. Ask them to support you on your journey by not inviting you to bars or giving you alcohol. This will help you be more accountable for your choices because you will have more people looking out for you.\\nAsk if you can do activities together that don't involve drinking.\\nTips\\nYou should drink more water every day. Not only will it help you keep hydrated, but it will also help you drink less alcohol because you will be drinking water instead.\\nAlcohol depresses inhibitions, so be aware that you may allow yourself to do things you would not normally do when under the influence of alcohol.\\nAlcohol is a poison and drinking is never a necessity. Either avoid it completely or try one of the many alcohol-free alternatives on the market. Be aware that many of these still contain small amounts of alcohol.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Alcoholism can easily sneak up on you if you aren't careful. When your social life revolves around going to bars or there's a keg party every weekend, it's hard to keep things under control. Changing your routine and making a serious plan to cut back on your consumption is a good way to start. If the time comes when you think you've crossed the line from casual drinking to alcohol abuse, it's time to seek outside help. If you follow a few simple steps, you can learn more about how to reign in your drinking habit before alcoholism becomes a reality.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Reducing the Amount You Drink\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep alcohol out of your house.\", \"描述\": \"It's a lot easier for alcohol to become a daily, insidious habit if you always keep it within reach. If your liquor cabinet is always stocked, you can easily be tempted. If there is a half-drunk bottle of wine or a six-pack is chilling in the fridge, it's going to be tough to avoid drinking. The first step to avoiding alcoholism is to keep it out of your house when it's not serving an immediate social purpose. If you don't want to stop drinking but just cut back to a healthy amount, not surrounding yourself with it is a good place to start.\\nStock your kitchen with other tasty drinks you can substitute for alcohol when you want something comforting to drink. Tea, sparkling water, lemonade, root beer, and soda are better for you than alcohol.\\nIf you have a party and there's a lot of leftover alcohol, give it away to friends. If no one wants it, pour it down the drain. Don't get trapped into thinking you have to finish it because you don't want it to go to waste.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't drink when you're feeling bad.\", \"描述\": \"Drinking when you're bored, lonely, stressed, sad, or feeling any other negative emotion can lead to a dependency on alcohol. Since alcohol is a depressant, it can actually make things even worse. Try drinking only on social occasions, when everyone's having a good time and there's a reason to celebrate.\\nDon't fall into the trap of making every day a day to celebrate. Make sure you save drinking for truly special occasions when someone has something worthy of celebration.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Slow down your sipping.\", \"描述\": \"If you tend to guzzle your drinks, you'll be more likely to drink too much on any given evening. Slow yourself down by sipping your drinks slowly, taking more time to finish each drink. You can help this by ordering your drinks straight, so the taste of sweet mixers doesn't mask the alcohol and make you think you aren't drinking any. You should also drink a glass of water or a soft drink for every alcoholic drink you consume.\\nDrinking water will help fill you up and keep you hydrated. You will be less likely to guzzle drinks if you are properly hydrated and feel fuller.\\nDo not engage in beer drinking contests or any activity that involves chugging excessive amounts of alcohol in a short period of time.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stop going to bars as often.\", \"描述\": \"Since the purpose of bars is to sell drinks, you're automatically going to feel pressured to buy one. The low lights, the smell of alcohol mixed with perfume and cologne, and the sexy vibe everyone's exuding present an atmosphere that may be hard to resist. Since the whole environment is geared towards drinking, it's best to avoid bars altogether when you're trying to cut back.\\nIf you're invited to a social function that takes place at a bar, like happy hour with your boss and coworkers, try ordering club soda or another nonalcoholic drink. If the place has a food menu, order yourself a treat so you'll still feel like you're indulging.\\nWhen you do go to bars, choose places that have more going on than just drinking. Go to a place with pool tables or bocce ball, for example, so the focus isn't solely on how much alcohol you can keep down. You may find it easier to drink less when there are distractions.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Do activities that don't involve drinking.\", \"描述\": \"People spend a lot of time in bars when they could be doing something more active. Suggest alternatives to your group of friends next time you have a get-together. You could play a pick-up sport, go for a walk or bike ride, go to a movie or play, or go to a music show or art opening. Choose a venue that doesn't sell alcohol or an activity that isn't conducive to drinking.\\nThis will not only make you cut back on your drinking, but it will also make you healthier overall by getting you more active.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Hang out with people who don't drink.\", \"描述\": \"Some people are going to insist on drinking, even when you invite them to activities outside the bar. They'll brown bag it at the movie theater or pack a flask to bring on your hike. If you're seriously trying to avoid alcohol, make plans with other people who are in the same boat. That way you won't be faced with the presence of alcohol every time you want to have a little fun.\\nThis may mean cutting people out of your life if it becomes a problem. If you really like the person that drinks all the time, learn to say no instead when they are around. Just because he is drinking doesn't mean you have to. Maybe they will pick up on your attempts to cut back and do the same.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Take up exercising.\", \"描述\": \"Exercising is a great way to help yourself kick an alcohol habit. Drinking makes a lot of people feel slow and sluggish, and it can also lead to bloating and weight gain. If you make it a goal to be physically fit, you'll soon get frustrated with alcohol's effect on your progress.\\nTry signing up for a 5K or joining a community soccer or basketball team. You'll soon find yourself passing on alcohol the night before you need to be at your physical best.\\nAlong with exercise, make sure you're eating well, getting sleep, and generally taking care of yourself so you'll be less prone to drinking.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Recognize withdrawal symptoms.\", \"描述\": \"If you cut back significantly on your alcohol consumption, you may start to experience some withdrawal symptoms. There are both physical and mental withdrawal symptoms that you might experience. Withdrawal causes trembling hands, irritability, shaky and tired feelings, difficulty sleeping, poor concentration, and bad dreams.\\nIf you were a heavy drinker, you may experience some additional symptoms, such as sweating, nausea, headache, lack of appetite, vomiting, and palpitations.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Making a Serious Plan to Stop\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Decide how much is too much.\", \"描述\": \"Avoiding alcoholism is more difficult for some people than it is for others. Some are able to drink on a daily basis without negative repercussions. For many, daily drinking increases tolerance to the point where it's difficult to have just one, which can lead to heavy drinking and eventually alcoholism. You should also try to stay within the moderate daily drinking range.\\nAccording to the USDA, moderate drinking is defined as up to 1 drink per day for women and up to 2 drinks per day for men. Frequently going over this, especially for a sustained period of time, puts you at greater risk for alcoholism.\\nKeep in mind that more than 7 drinks per week for women and 14 drinks per week for men is considered heavy drinking. Try to stay well below this limit.\\nHaving a family history of alcoholism, mixing alcohol with medication, and having depression can all put you at greater risk for developing a dependency.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Write down your commitment.\", \"描述\": \"If you've decided that 3 drinks a week is your max, write it down: \\\"I will not drink more than 3 drinks a week.\\\" Make a commitment to yourself to stick to what you wrote down. Place the piece of paper on your mirror or in your wallet so you have a daily reminder that you've resolved to cut back or quit.\\nYou can also write down the reason you want to cut back, such as: \\\"I want to be healthier.\\\" or \\\"I want to stop alienating my family and friends.\\\"\\nIt's not going to be easy, but putting your promise to paper can help.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep track of how much you drink.\", \"描述\": \"One of the best ways to understand how much you drink is to keep track of each one. You can carry a drink tracker card that you use to note each drink you have a week. You can also note it on a calendar or notepad around your house. If you drink a lot while you are out, you can use a notepad or app on your phone to keep track of how much you drink. Review it each week. You may be surprised once you see it written in one place.\\nBeing accountable for each drink can help you be more conscious about how much you drink and help you cut back.\\nIf you find that you drink a lot more than you expected, you can create a journal and log every time you have a drink. You should also write about why you decided to drink, what feelings you experienced before taking a drink, and how you felt afterward. This will help you look for patterns in your emotions.\\nWrite down your triggers and situations that make it extremely difficult for you to avoid drinking. As the weeks progress, you should start learning what to avoid.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take an alcohol break from time to time.\", \"描述\": \"Determine to stop drinking alcohol for a week or two. This will give your system a break and free you from your regular routine for a while. You can also do it in smaller doses and choose at least two days a week not to drink.\\nFor example, if you've been in the habit of drinking a glass of wine every night, taking a break will change things up so you'll no longer feel you need that daily glass.\\nIf you are a heavy drinker, this can cause withdrawal symptoms. Pay close attention to how you feel and the way your body reacts to the change. If you have serious reactions to this step, see your doctor as soon as you can.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Monitor your progress.\", \"描述\": \"Throughout the process of cutting back, take notes on your progress from week to week. Assess if you think you have control of your drinking habits, if you have been successful in cutting back your consumption to the amount to which you committed, and if you are able to cope with your urges and alcohol cravings. If you feel that your drinking is out of hand, even though you've made a serious effort to nip it in the bud on your own, it might be time to seek outside help.\\nIf you can't limit your consumption to a low level without feeling withdrawal, you can't say no to a drink, you have blackouts, or you experience other signs of alcoholism, you should seek help right away.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Seeking Outside Help\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Recognize that you need support.\", \"描述\": \"You need to seek help immediately if you determine that your drinking is out of control. If you experience certain problems, you may be abusing alcohol, which puts you at great risk for developing alcoholism. You are at risk if you can't have a drink without eventually drinking more and getting drunk or you use alcohol while driving or operating machinery, even though you know that using alcohol in this way is illegal and extremely dangerous.\\nIf you have morning and evening cravings, develop irritability, have mood swings, drink alone or in secret, chug drinks, are depressed, or experience shakiness, you should seek immediate help.\\nYou should also seek help if you neglect your responsibilities due to drinking. You could be neglecting them either because you're busy drinking or because you have hangovers that prevent you from going to work or school.\\nYou are at risk if you've gotten in legal trouble because of your drinking, such as being arrested for public intoxication, getting into a fight while drunk, or getting a DUI.\\nYou should be concerned if you keep drinking even though people in your life have expressed concern. When your drinking has gotten problematic enough that other people notice, you should seek help.\\nYou should not use drinking as a coping mechanism. It is extremely unhealthy to use alcohol as a way to cope with stress, depression, and other problems. If you tend to do so, you should seek help.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Look into Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meetings.\", \"描述\": \"Going through a 12-step program, such as those facilitated by AA, has helped many people who abuse alcohol find a way to cope. Even if you don't think you're a full-blown alcoholic, going through the program can help you prevent your problem from getting worse. You'll attend meetings and get an AA sponsor who you can call when you're experiencing cravings or losing your way.\\nYou may learn that you cannot drink safely anymore, and it will be important for you to have a support system in place to help you deal with that reality and help you eliminate all alcohol and negative influences from your life.\\nYou can search online to find a nearby AA support group in your area.\\nAA is a faith-based organization, so only try this method if you are comfortable with this. They use religious passages and messages to help guide recovery and rely on sponsors and group meetings to back up their teachings.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Try the SMART Recovery.\", \"描述\": \"If you are not interested in AA, you can try SMART Recovery. It is a program that uses cognitive-behavioral approaches to pinpoint emotional and environmental factors that have led to your addiction and help you respond to them in new, productive ways. It focuses on recovering from your addiction without thinking it is a disease.\\nThis is an abstinence-based program, meaning that they teach the complete removal of all alcohol from your life. Despite this, SMART Recovery welcomes those who are ambivalent about quitting drinking.\\nThis program is for those who do not need too much structure and who can be personally motivated to quit drinking. Cognitive-behavioral approaches rely on self-actualization instead of group or sponsor related help like AA. This program relies heavily on your own motivation and participation.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Go to a secular-based recovery program.\", \"描述\": \"If you are not interested in faith-based 12 step programs like AA, there are some other alternatives you can try. Secular Organizations for Sobriety (SOS) is a non-structured program that has guidelines for sobriety that focus on you taking responsibility for your drinking habit and making sure members do not drink at all. It is an abstinence-based approach like AA and SMART Recovery.\\nYou can also use programs like LifeRing Secular Recovery (LSR), which is a secular organization that upholds three tenets, sobriety, secularity, and self-help. They believe that inner motivation is the best way to stay abstinent from alcohol and have group meetings for encouragement and help when your self-motivation is lacking. This is similar to AA in that they have group sessions, but their beliefs are not steeped in Christianity.\\nFor more information about support groups that might be right for you, go to Faces and Voices Recovery's Directory of support groups. They have options for support groups based on gender, religion, type of addiction, and age. They also provide listings of groups that meet in person, provide medical assistance, meet online, are friend and family-focused, and that are 12 steps.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Start seeing a therapist.\", \"描述\": \"Having individual attention from a therapist is also a good idea when you are struggling with a drinking problem. Your drinking might stem from deeper issues that you need to address before you're able to stop. If you're drinking due to trauma, extreme stress, mental illness, or another reason that a therapist could address, then getting this kind of one-on-one help will be essential to recovery.\\nA therapist can also help you if you are worried about social pressures to drink, don't know how to avoid triggers, or have guilt over any relapse. 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2,886 | How to Avoid Annoying Other Drivers | 1. Steps
1-1. Drive consistently.
Don't speed up and slow down for no reason, don't make one turn fast and the next slow. Consistent driving, whether more aggressive or less, is the best way to allow other drivers to accurately predict what you're going to do next. Additionally drive consistent to the surrounding traffic. By driving inconsistently, you risk the general safety of others around you and you may also risk getting cited for one of many traffic violations.
Recognize that everything works best when traffic flows in a natural, balanced, and predictable way. This is the single most important concept behind not annoying other drivers.
1-2. Don't impede other traffic.
For example, if you are on a U.S. Interstate Highway with a speed limit of 65 mph (105 km/h), and the majority of traffic is averaging about 70, don't impede them by driving in the far left lane at 65 mph (105 km/h). Either match their speed or get over to the right lane and get out of their way.
Beware if you attempt to match their speed, you risk at least getting a traffic ticket for speeding and the officer is not likely going to accept the excuse that you were "just keeping speed with traffic", especially if you're the lead car. But this does not mean you should endanger yourself by slowing them down and risking a collision. In general, you should drive at or close to the speed limit unless conditions demand that all drivers slow down.
1-3. When you must drive more slowly than others (looking for an address or when your vehicle is having mechanical difficulty), consider turning on the indicator which is on the side of oncoming traffic.
However, beware that turning on your hazard indicator while your vehicle is moving is unsafe and illegal in some places. If passing is difficult and you're holding up traffic, pull over from time to time to let others get by. They'll thank you for it (or at least will no longer be annoyed).
1-4. Don't tailgate.
Ever. It's completely unnecessary, highly annoying and quite dangerous. Some people will have a psychological reaction to tailgating that will cause them to slow down, and some people will do it just to be mean. In fact, the DMV actually recommends slowing down if being tailgated so as to create a space cushion in case of emergency.
If the vehicle in front is traveling slowly in the passing lane, be patient. Do not flash your headlights while tailgating as this is viewed by many drivers as an act of aggressive driving and very rude. In certain areas of the United States, aggressive actions such as these are monitored by surveillance cameras and ticketed accordingly.
If you have legitimate need to pass and there is only one lane per direction of traffic (i.e. the vehicle in front is going at an excessively slow speed and there is slightly heavy oncoming traffic) and you cannot pass naturally, back off to a safe distance (if you aren't already) and briefly flash your lights (no more than twice should be sufficient). At this point, the driver in the vehicle ahead may understand your intentions better and pull off slightly to allow you to pass with greater ease, if not just continue attempting to pass naturally while not tailgating. If you find yourself catching up to vehicles ahead of you continually, then you're probably going too fast relative to traffic around you.
1-5. Always check your mirrors and your blind spot before passing as there may be someone else behind you driving at a much higher speed.
Should this be the case, let them pass you first. Once they have passed you, continue to pass the other vehicle as planned should conditions allow you to both pass. Always drive sufficiently faster than the vehicle you overtake and return to the right lane as soon as possible.
Semi trucks have much bigger blind spots. You might think the driver can see you but his vision may be obstructed as the drivers can only use their mirrors to see others on the road.
1-6. Use your turn signal lights to signal your intentions to other drivers so your actions don't come as a surprise.
Failing to do so can be a source of serious aggravation to other drivers. Signal before you turn, change lanes, merge, or exit the freeway...every time, even when you don't think it's necessary.
If you're on a fast moving road with a fair amount of traffic, turn on your signal much sooner, to let other drivers know you are turning, and to give them ample time to pass.
If you're making a left turn at an intersection, the drivers behind you will appreciate advance warning.
If you need to slow down to make a turn or pull over, use your turn signal before pressing the brake pedal. This will give other drivers advance notice that you'll be slowing down soon.
When you're finished making your turn or lane change, make sure your turn signal is off. If someone is performing a reasonable merge or lane change in front of you (timely and using a turn signal), let them in.
1-7. When you need to use the brake to slow down, put your foot on it and decelerate smoothly.
Frequent tapping of the brake pedal will make drivers around you unsure of whether you're actually stopping. On the other hand, don't brake at the absolute last possible second. Give drivers behind you plenty of time to notice that you're braking and to do likewise. A good time to start braking is when you notice the car in front of the one you're following braking.
1-8. Accelerate with purpose.
This is not to say you should floor the gas and take off like mad. Just don't dawdle, especially when the light turns green, or when it's your turn at the stop sign. When you are changing lanes, do not slow down unless traffic demands it. In fact, speed up a little bit.
1-9. When pulling into moving traffic, time your move carefully and accelerate quickly so you don't force oncoming drivers to hit their brakes.
Be patient and wait for a big opening, then hit it! If the traffic is moving at 60 mph (97 km/h) and it takes you a leisurely 30 seconds to get up to speed, you'll need almost half a mile of empty highway to avoid endangering or irritating other drivers.
1-10. Stop at the stop line, especially at intersections with traffic lights.
Stopping well short of the line can be confusing to other drivers - is that vehicle stopped for the light or has it broken down? - and you may fail to trigger the sensors that change the traffic lights. Stopping beyond the line won't get you to your destination much faster but it will interfere with other vehicles, especially those trying to turn left onto your street.
1-11. When you are moving into a turn lane in preparation for making a turn, signal your intention, change into the turn lane, then slow down - in that order.
If there are multiple turn lanes, pick one and stay in it all the way throughout the turn. Drifting into an adjacent lane is likely to force another driver to take evasive action.
1-12. When driving at speeds under the limit, try to drive as close to the limit as possible.
, unless conditions demand otherwise (i.e. that all drivers slow down due to heavy traffic, inclement weather, etc. or speed up due to traffic flow, improved weather conditions, etc). Even if there are passing lanes, stay close to the speed of other vehicles unless there is a real need to go slower. When you must drive more slowly than others (looking for an address or when your vehicle is having mechanical difficulty), use your hazard flashers. If passing is difficult and you're holding up traffic, pull over from time to time to let others get by. They'll thank you for it.
1-13. If there is more than one clear lane and you are in the right lane behind someone going a few miles under the limit, do not honk or speed by and cut them off to make a point that they are going too slow.
The speed limit is technically an upper limit, and people are not required to drive any faster. If you need to go as fast or faster than the limit, pass when it is safe to do so.
1-14. When driving on a multi-lane road, do not block other traffic by driving right next to another vehicle at the same speed.
Not only does this prevent faster traffic from flowing past, the driver next to you will be continuously distracted by your vehicle in the corner of their eye. This problem is happening more and more because some drivers don't understand how to pass properly while driving on cruise control. If you are about to pass another vehicle while on cruise, and your speed is just barely faster, gently depress the accelerator to slightly increase your speed temporarily so the pass is completed in a reasonable amount of time. The shorter the time you are alongside a vehicle you are passing, the safer the pass.
1-15. On freeways and Interstates, Do not drive in the left lane continually unless heavy traffic or upcoming turns/exits demand it.
It is the passing lane and is not intended for general traffic flow, except in some urban settings. Some states, such as Ohio and Kansas, also have laws which require traffic to "keep right except for passing". If you're in the left lane and driving faster than the vehicles on your right, watch for vehicles driving faster than you coming from behind. Pull over so they too can pass, even if they are speeding (so you are not tailgated); or at least match their speed (within reason) until you can pull over.
1-16. Stay out of the blind spots of other vehicles as much as possible, which are generally the right and left rear corners depending on the vehicle.
1-17. If you inadvertently cause a situation that annoys other drivers, and they honk the horn or indicate their displeasure in some other way, do not gesture wildly, honk your own horn or jam the brakes.
Accept your short-lived punishment, indicate to the other driver that you are sorry for your infraction, and move on.
1-18. In heavy highway traffic, pick a lane and stay in it, but not the fast lane.
Over the course of many miles, all lanes will go approximately the same speed. Excessive lane changing will not get you to your destination any faster, and ultimately only makes traffic run more slowly overall. It also increases your chances of a collision.
1-19. If you are on the freeway and it looks like the vehicle next to you is trying to get over, it probably is because they are trying to get over.
Speeding up so they can't get into your lane is just childish, and it may mean you have made them miss their exit. Unless in fact they are switching toward the middle of the freeway. Then it may mean they intend to pass a vehicle in front of them, and may not have seen you. Use caution and allow them to merge if they continue to come into your lane.
1-20. If you are behind someone who is trying to switch lanes, don't try to pass them on that side to crowd them out.
A signal to change lanes is not an invitation to pass. Some drivers are very particular about this "rule" and will get over anyway, regardless of whether or not they have room, and it is a good way to rear-end a driver, which would be your fault even if they slam on the brakes as soon as they are in front of you.
1-21. Recognize that highway on-ramps and off-ramps are there so the flow of traffic will not be interrupted.
Therefore you do not have to slow down on the freeway to get off - that's what the off-ramp is for. Conversely, the on-ramp gives you enough space to hopefully reach the typical speed limit (usually 55 to 70 miles (89 to 113 km) per hour) so that other drivers on the freeway do not need to slam on their brakes. (Notice that some on- and off-ramps may be poorly designed and thus slowing down or slamming the throttle might be necessary in these cases).
1-22. Anticipate highway on-ramp incoming traffic.
Pay attention to signs indicating interchanges and on-ramps. If you have the opportunity, safely shift lanes to allow incoming traffic to merge in a clear lane. This will help prevent bottlenecks and backups caused by merging traffic being unable to enter the flow.
1-23. Passing on the right of traffic is very dangerous and also illegal in some places.
If you have to pass a vehicle driving below the speed limit in the left (or passing) lane, you have two choices: pass them on the right (which is dangerous and sometimes illegal) or pull back and just drive at the slower speed. Do not tailgate them (see "Don't tailgate" step). Absolutely never pass on the shoulder of the road or blindly when there is the potential for oncoming traffic (i.e. on a state highway with 2-way traffic). This is not only illegal, but could result in you being personally responsible for the death of a pedestrian walking on the side of the road because their vehicle broke down.
1-24. Don't drive with your foot on the brake.
Ever. Even if you think you're not putting any pressure on the pedal, you may be depressing it enough to trigger the brake lights. In this case, other drivers won't know when you're truly braking. Other possible effects are brake drag, which results in premature brake wear and decreased fuel economy; or you could inadvertently push both brake and throttle in a panic stop, potentially increasing overall stopping distance significantly.
Tips
Don't panic. It is important to drive safely, as traffic crashes are the greatest annoyance of all. If you are not comfortable driving at high speeds, drive more slowly and avoid highways. Stay in the right lane and use cruise control, if your vehicle is so equipped.
In some places, people in general have a rude and annoying attitude behind the wheel. Do not give in to the temptation of doing as everyone else, as this only contributes to making your city more annoying. Notice that being polite in a city where everybody is rude and nobody knows how to be actually polite can be tricky, so if possible, when going to a city with calmer traffic conditions, try to study the local driving customs.
Be sure to look ahead towards the horizon rather than directly in front of your vehicle. As soon as you see a sign indicating that the lane you are in is ending or there is an obstruction that will require you to change lanes, prepare to get out of your lane. Gently modify your speed to match the drivers in the other lane and choose your entry point. Do not stay in the ending lane at full speed until the last possible moment and expect that the drivers who have planned ahead for this change in lane configuration are going to let you merge easily. On the other hand, don't force your vehicle out of a lane at the first sign of it ending, either - plan, signal, merge when it is safe to do so.
Warnings
Any steps or tips given here should be validated against local driving laws.
Avoid doing other things while driving, like eating or drinking, talking or texting on a cell phone, etc. In fact, in some places, it is illegal to do some of these activities while driving.
During a severe weather event, such as a blizzard or hurricane, local and state authorities may order unnecessary traffic off the roads. Heed these warnings! Even if there is no such requirement given, don't drive unnecessarily if you are under a state of emergency or a severe weather warning, which could degrade road conditions significantly.
If road conditions are such that you are afraid to drive, don't. Pull off and wait, or stay home.
Semi Trucks are a lot bigger than even the largest SUV, and the drivers often have limited viewing areas to the side and behind them. Give them space. They also have a LOT more weight (sometimes 40 times the weight of an average car) to stop. If you are approaching a stoplight, DO NOT pull in front of a semi-truck. Semi-truck drivers estimate the amount of room they need to stop. If you pull in front of them, it changes their margins and they must brake harder, possibly causing an accident.
Never wait until the very last second to leave for work, school or errands. Rushing will likely cause you to drive erratically. Allow extra travel time, in case there is an accident or road work on your route to your destination.
All Wheel Drive/4WD does not ensure safety in harsh conditions or decrease braking distance, and use of part-time four wheel drive on dry roads could cause damage to the vehicle. Always use precautions when driving in dangerous weather.
Being tired or under the influence of alcohol or other drugs (including many over-the-counter cold remedies) greatly increases the likelihood that you will hurt yourself or someone else. Stop the car in a safe place and wait until the effects have worn off.
If you are annoyed yourself, you are more likely to annoy other drivers. Relax, take it easy and leave room for other drivers that are more confused about driving than you are.
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Either match their speed or get over to the right lane and get out of their way.\\nBeware if you attempt to match their speed, you risk at least getting a traffic ticket for speeding and the officer is not likely going to accept the excuse that you were \\\"just keeping speed with traffic\\\", especially if you're the lead car. But this does not mean you should endanger yourself by slowing them down and risking a collision. In general, you should drive at or close to the speed limit unless conditions demand that all drivers slow down.\\n1-3. When you must drive more slowly than others (looking for an address or when your vehicle is having mechanical difficulty), consider turning on the indicator which is on the side of oncoming traffic.\\nHowever, beware that turning on your hazard indicator while your vehicle is moving is unsafe and illegal in some places. If passing is difficult and you're holding up traffic, pull over from time to time to let others get by. They'll thank you for it (or at least will no longer be annoyed).\\n1-4. Don't tailgate.\\nEver. It's completely unnecessary, highly annoying and quite dangerous. Some people will have a psychological reaction to tailgating that will cause them to slow down, and some people will do it just to be mean. In fact, the DMV actually recommends slowing down if being tailgated so as to create a space cushion in case of emergency.\\nIf the vehicle in front is traveling slowly in the passing lane, be patient. Do not flash your headlights while tailgating as this is viewed by many drivers as an act of aggressive driving and very rude. In certain areas of the United States, aggressive actions such as these are monitored by surveillance cameras and ticketed accordingly.\\nIf you have legitimate need to pass and there is only one lane per direction of traffic (i.e. the vehicle in front is going at an excessively slow speed and there is slightly heavy oncoming traffic) and you cannot pass naturally, back off to a safe distance (if you aren't already) and briefly flash your lights (no more than twice should be sufficient). At this point, the driver in the vehicle ahead may understand your intentions better and pull off slightly to allow you to pass with greater ease, if not just continue attempting to pass naturally while not tailgating. If you find yourself catching up to vehicles ahead of you continually, then you're probably going too fast relative to traffic around you.\\n1-5. Always check your mirrors and your blind spot before passing as there may be someone else behind you driving at a much higher speed.\\nShould this be the case, let them pass you first. Once they have passed you, continue to pass the other vehicle as planned should conditions allow you to both pass. Always drive sufficiently faster than the vehicle you overtake and return to the right lane as soon as possible.\\nSemi trucks have much bigger blind spots. You might think the driver can see you but his vision may be obstructed as the drivers can only use their mirrors to see others on the road.\\n1-6. Use your turn signal lights to signal your intentions to other drivers so your actions don't come as a surprise.\\nFailing to do so can be a source of serious aggravation to other drivers. Signal before you turn, change lanes, merge, or exit the freeway...every time, even when you don't think it's necessary.\\nIf you're on a fast moving road with a fair amount of traffic, turn on your signal much sooner, to let other drivers know you are turning, and to give them ample time to pass.\\nIf you're making a left turn at an intersection, the drivers behind you will appreciate advance warning.\\nIf you need to slow down to make a turn or pull over, use your turn signal before pressing the brake pedal. This will give other drivers advance notice that you'll be slowing down soon.\\nWhen you're finished making your turn or lane change, make sure your turn signal is off. If someone is performing a reasonable merge or lane change in front of you (timely and using a turn signal), let them in.\\n1-7. When you need to use the brake to slow down, put your foot on it and decelerate smoothly.\\nFrequent tapping of the brake pedal will make drivers around you unsure of whether you're actually stopping. On the other hand, don't brake at the absolute last possible second. Give drivers behind you plenty of time to notice that you're braking and to do likewise. A good time to start braking is when you notice the car in front of the one you're following braking.\\n1-8. Accelerate with purpose.\\nThis is not to say you should floor the gas and take off like mad. Just don't dawdle, especially when the light turns green, or when it's your turn at the stop sign. When you are changing lanes, do not slow down unless traffic demands it. In fact, speed up a little bit.\\n1-9. When pulling into moving traffic, time your move carefully and accelerate quickly so you don't force oncoming drivers to hit their brakes.\\nBe patient and wait for a big opening, then hit it! If the traffic is moving at 60 mph (97 km/h) and it takes you a leisurely 30 seconds to get up to speed, you'll need almost half a mile of empty highway to avoid endangering or irritating other drivers.\\n1-10. Stop at the stop line, especially at intersections with traffic lights.\\nStopping well short of the line can be confusing to other drivers - is that vehicle stopped for the light or has it broken down? - and you may fail to trigger the sensors that change the traffic lights. Stopping beyond the line won't get you to your destination much faster but it will interfere with other vehicles, especially those trying to turn left onto your street.\\n1-11. When you are moving into a turn lane in preparation for making a turn, signal your intention, change into the turn lane, then slow down - in that order.\\nIf there are multiple turn lanes, pick one and stay in it all the way throughout the turn. Drifting into an adjacent lane is likely to force another driver to take evasive action.\\n1-12. When driving at speeds under the limit, try to drive as close to the limit as possible.\\n, unless conditions demand otherwise (i.e. that all drivers slow down due to heavy traffic, inclement weather, etc. or speed up due to traffic flow, improved weather conditions, etc). Even if there are passing lanes, stay close to the speed of other vehicles unless there is a real need to go slower. When you must drive more slowly than others (looking for an address or when your vehicle is having mechanical difficulty), use your hazard flashers. If passing is difficult and you're holding up traffic, pull over from time to time to let others get by. They'll thank you for it.\\n1-13. If there is more than one clear lane and you are in the right lane behind someone going a few miles under the limit, do not honk or speed by and cut them off to make a point that they are going too slow.\\nThe speed limit is technically an upper limit, and people are not required to drive any faster. If you need to go as fast or faster than the limit, pass when it is safe to do so.\\n1-14. When driving on a multi-lane road, do not block other traffic by driving right next to another vehicle at the same speed.\\nNot only does this prevent faster traffic from flowing past, the driver next to you will be continuously distracted by your vehicle in the corner of their eye. This problem is happening more and more because some drivers don't understand how to pass properly while driving on cruise control. If you are about to pass another vehicle while on cruise, and your speed is just barely faster, gently depress the accelerator to slightly increase your speed temporarily so the pass is completed in a reasonable amount of time. The shorter the time you are alongside a vehicle you are passing, the safer the pass.\\n1-15. On freeways and Interstates, Do not drive in the left lane continually unless heavy traffic or upcoming turns/exits demand it.\\nIt is the passing lane and is not intended for general traffic flow, except in some urban settings. Some states, such as Ohio and Kansas, also have laws which require traffic to \\\"keep right except for passing\\\". If you're in the left lane and driving faster than the vehicles on your right, watch for vehicles driving faster than you coming from behind. Pull over so they too can pass, even if they are speeding (so you are not tailgated); or at least match their speed (within reason) until you can pull over.\\n1-16. Stay out of the blind spots of other vehicles as much as possible, which are generally the right and left rear corners depending on the vehicle.\\n\\n1-17. If you inadvertently cause a situation that annoys other drivers, and they honk the horn or indicate their displeasure in some other way, do not gesture wildly, honk your own horn or jam the brakes.\\nAccept your short-lived punishment, indicate to the other driver that you are sorry for your infraction, and move on.\\n1-18. In heavy highway traffic, pick a lane and stay in it, but not the fast lane.\\nOver the course of many miles, all lanes will go approximately the same speed. Excessive lane changing will not get you to your destination any faster, and ultimately only makes traffic run more slowly overall. It also increases your chances of a collision.\\n1-19. If you are on the freeway and it looks like the vehicle next to you is trying to get over, it probably is because they are trying to get over.\\nSpeeding up so they can't get into your lane is just childish, and it may mean you have made them miss their exit. Unless in fact they are switching toward the middle of the freeway. Then it may mean they intend to pass a vehicle in front of them, and may not have seen you. Use caution and allow them to merge if they continue to come into your lane.\\n1-20. If you are behind someone who is trying to switch lanes, don't try to pass them on that side to crowd them out.\\nA signal to change lanes is not an invitation to pass. Some drivers are very particular about this \\\"rule\\\" and will get over anyway, regardless of whether or not they have room, and it is a good way to rear-end a driver, which would be your fault even if they slam on the brakes as soon as they are in front of you.\\n1-21. Recognize that highway on-ramps and off-ramps are there so the flow of traffic will not be interrupted.\\nTherefore you do not have to slow down on the freeway to get off - that's what the off-ramp is for. Conversely, the on-ramp gives you enough space to hopefully reach the typical speed limit (usually 55 to 70 miles (89 to 113 km) per hour) so that other drivers on the freeway do not need to slam on their brakes. (Notice that some on- and off-ramps may be poorly designed and thus slowing down or slamming the throttle might be necessary in these cases).\\n1-22. Anticipate highway on-ramp incoming traffic.\\nPay attention to signs indicating interchanges and on-ramps. If you have the opportunity, safely shift lanes to allow incoming traffic to merge in a clear lane. This will help prevent bottlenecks and backups caused by merging traffic being unable to enter the flow.\\n1-23. Passing on the right of traffic is very dangerous and also illegal in some places.\\nIf you have to pass a vehicle driving below the speed limit in the left (or passing) lane, you have two choices: pass them on the right (which is dangerous and sometimes illegal) or pull back and just drive at the slower speed. Do not tailgate them (see \\\"Don't tailgate\\\" step). Absolutely never pass on the shoulder of the road or blindly when there is the potential for oncoming traffic (i.e. on a state highway with 2-way traffic). This is not only illegal, but could result in you being personally responsible for the death of a pedestrian walking on the side of the road because their vehicle broke down.\\n1-24. Don't drive with your foot on the brake.\\nEver. Even if you think you're not putting any pressure on the pedal, you may be depressing it enough to trigger the brake lights. In this case, other drivers won't know when you're truly braking. Other possible effects are brake drag, which results in premature brake wear and decreased fuel economy; or you could inadvertently push both brake and throttle in a panic stop, potentially increasing overall stopping distance significantly.\\nTips\\nDon't panic. It is important to drive safely, as traffic crashes are the greatest annoyance of all. If you are not comfortable driving at high speeds, drive more slowly and avoid highways. Stay in the right lane and use cruise control, if your vehicle is so equipped.\\nIn some places, people in general have a rude and annoying attitude behind the wheel. Do not give in to the temptation of doing as everyone else, as this only contributes to making your city more annoying. Notice that being polite in a city where everybody is rude and nobody knows how to be actually polite can be tricky, so if possible, when going to a city with calmer traffic conditions, try to study the local driving customs.\\nBe sure to look ahead towards the horizon rather than directly in front of your vehicle. As soon as you see a sign indicating that the lane you are in is ending or there is an obstruction that will require you to change lanes, prepare to get out of your lane. Gently modify your speed to match the drivers in the other lane and choose your entry point. Do not stay in the ending lane at full speed until the last possible moment and expect that the drivers who have planned ahead for this change in lane configuration are going to let you merge easily. On the other hand, don't force your vehicle out of a lane at the first sign of it ending, either - plan, signal, merge when it is safe to do so.\\nWarnings\\nAny steps or tips given here should be validated against local driving laws.\\nAvoid doing other things while driving, like eating or drinking, talking or texting on a cell phone, etc. In fact, in some places, it is illegal to do some of these activities while driving.\\nDuring a severe weather event, such as a blizzard or hurricane, local and state authorities may order unnecessary traffic off the roads. Heed these warnings! Even if there is no such requirement given, don't drive unnecessarily if you are under a state of emergency or a severe weather warning, which could degrade road conditions significantly.\\nIf road conditions are such that you are afraid to drive, don't. Pull off and wait, or stay home.\\nSemi Trucks are a lot bigger than even the largest SUV, and the drivers often have limited viewing areas to the side and behind them. Give them space. They also have a LOT more weight (sometimes 40 times the weight of an average car) to stop. If you are approaching a stoplight, DO NOT pull in front of a semi-truck. Semi-truck drivers estimate the amount of room they need to stop. If you pull in front of them, it changes their margins and they must brake harder, possibly causing an accident.\\nNever wait until the very last second to leave for work, school or errands. Rushing will likely cause you to drive erratically. Allow extra travel time, in case there is an accident or road work on your route to your destination.\\nAll Wheel Drive/4WD does not ensure safety in harsh conditions or decrease braking distance, and use of part-time four wheel drive on dry roads could cause damage to the vehicle. Always use precautions when driving in dangerous weather.\\nBeing tired or under the influence of alcohol or other drugs (including many over-the-counter cold remedies) greatly increases the likelihood that you will hurt yourself or someone else. Stop the car in a safe place and wait until the effects have worn off.\\nIf you are annoyed yourself, you are more likely to annoy other drivers. Relax, take it easy and leave room for other drivers that are more confused about driving than you are.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you often find yourself a target for road rage? Are you a victim of tailgating, flashing headlights, and needless tooting? The main thing to remember when driving is to clearly broadcast to other drivers what you intend to do at all times. This may be difficult, considering you can't speak at length with other drivers, but there are many tools at your disposal. Let other drivers know what you're going to do.\\n\\nPlease note: This article is targeted at countries where driving takes place on the right. For countries where driving takes place on the left, the words 'right' and 'left' will have to be interchanged.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Drive consistently.\", \"描述\": \"Don't speed up and slow down for no reason, don't make one turn fast and the next slow. Consistent driving, whether more aggressive or less, is the best way to allow other drivers to accurately predict what you're going to do next. Additionally drive consistent to the surrounding traffic. By driving inconsistently, you risk the general safety of others around you and you may also risk getting cited for one of many traffic violations.\\nRecognize that everything works best when traffic flows in a natural, balanced, and predictable way. This is the single most important concept behind not annoying other drivers.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't impede other traffic.\", \"描述\": \"For example, if you are on a U.S. Interstate Highway with a speed limit of 65 mph (105 km/h), and the majority of traffic is averaging about 70, don't impede them by driving in the far left lane at 65 mph (105 km/h). Either match their speed or get over to the right lane and get out of their way.\\nBeware if you attempt to match their speed, you risk at least getting a traffic ticket for speeding and the officer is not likely going to accept the excuse that you were \\\"just keeping speed with traffic\\\", especially if you're the lead car. But this does not mean you should endanger yourself by slowing them down and risking a collision. In general, you should drive at or close to the speed limit unless conditions demand that all drivers slow down.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"When you must drive more slowly than others (looking for an address or when your vehicle is having mechanical difficulty), consider turning on the indicator which is on the side of oncoming traffic.\", \"描述\": \"However, beware that turning on your hazard indicator while your vehicle is moving is unsafe and illegal in some places. If passing is difficult and you're holding up traffic, pull over from time to time to let others get by. They'll thank you for it (or at least will no longer be annoyed).\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't tailgate.\", \"描述\": \"Ever. It's completely unnecessary, highly annoying and quite dangerous. Some people will have a psychological reaction to tailgating that will cause them to slow down, and some people will do it just to be mean. In fact, the DMV actually recommends slowing down if being tailgated so as to create a space cushion in case of emergency.\\nIf the vehicle in front is traveling slowly in the passing lane, be patient. Do not flash your headlights while tailgating as this is viewed by many drivers as an act of aggressive driving and very rude. In certain areas of the United States, aggressive actions such as these are monitored by surveillance cameras and ticketed accordingly.\\nIf you have legitimate need to pass and there is only one lane per direction of traffic (i.e. the vehicle in front is going at an excessively slow speed and there is slightly heavy oncoming traffic) and you cannot pass naturally, back off to a safe distance (if you aren't already) and briefly flash your lights (no more than twice should be sufficient). At this point, the driver in the vehicle ahead may understand your intentions better and pull off slightly to allow you to pass with greater ease, if not just continue attempting to pass naturally while not tailgating. If you find yourself catching up to vehicles ahead of you continually, then you're probably going too fast relative to traffic around you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Always check your mirrors and your blind spot before passing as there may be someone else behind you driving at a much higher speed.\", \"描述\": \"Should this be the case, let them pass you first. Once they have passed you, continue to pass the other vehicle as planned should conditions allow you to both pass. Always drive sufficiently faster than the vehicle you overtake and return to the right lane as soon as possible.\\nSemi trucks have much bigger blind spots. You might think the driver can see you but his vision may be obstructed as the drivers can only use their mirrors to see others on the road.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Use your turn signal lights to signal your intentions to other drivers so your actions don't come as a surprise.\", \"描述\": \"Failing to do so can be a source of serious aggravation to other drivers. Signal before you turn, change lanes, merge, or exit the freeway...every time, even when you don't think it's necessary.\\nIf you're on a fast moving road with a fair amount of traffic, turn on your signal much sooner, to let other drivers know you are turning, and to give them ample time to pass.\\nIf you're making a left turn at an intersection, the drivers behind you will appreciate advance warning.\\nIf you need to slow down to make a turn or pull over, use your turn signal before pressing the brake pedal. This will give other drivers advance notice that you'll be slowing down soon.\\nWhen you're finished making your turn or lane change, make sure your turn signal is off. If someone is performing a reasonable merge or lane change in front of you (timely and using a turn signal), let them in.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"When you need to use the brake to slow down, put your foot on it and decelerate smoothly.\", \"描述\": \"Frequent tapping of the brake pedal will make drivers around you unsure of whether you're actually stopping. On the other hand, don't brake at the absolute last possible second. Give drivers behind you plenty of time to notice that you're braking and to do likewise. A good time to start braking is when you notice the car in front of the one you're following braking.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Accelerate with purpose.\", \"描述\": \"This is not to say you should floor the gas and take off like mad. Just don't dawdle, especially when the light turns green, or when it's your turn at the stop sign. When you are changing lanes, do not slow down unless traffic demands it. In fact, speed up a little bit.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"When pulling into moving traffic, time your move carefully and accelerate quickly so you don't force oncoming drivers to hit their brakes.\", \"描述\": \"Be patient and wait for a big opening, then hit it! If the traffic is moving at 60 mph (97 km/h) and it takes you a leisurely 30 seconds to get up to speed, you'll need almost half a mile of empty highway to avoid endangering or irritating other drivers.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Stop at the stop line, especially at intersections with traffic lights.\", \"描述\": \"Stopping well short of the line can be confusing to other drivers - is that vehicle stopped for the light or has it broken down? - and you may fail to trigger the sensors that change the traffic lights. Stopping beyond the line won't get you to your destination much faster but it will interfere with other vehicles, especially those trying to turn left onto your street.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"When you are moving into a turn lane in preparation for making a turn, signal your intention, change into the turn lane, then slow down - in that order.\", \"描述\": \"If there are multiple turn lanes, pick one and stay in it all the way throughout the turn. Drifting into an adjacent lane is likely to force another driver to take evasive action.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"When driving at speeds under the limit, try to drive as close to the limit as possible.\", \"描述\": \", unless conditions demand otherwise (i.e. that all drivers slow down due to heavy traffic, inclement weather, etc. or speed up due to traffic flow, improved weather conditions, etc). Even if there are passing lanes, stay close to the speed of other vehicles unless there is a real need to go slower. When you must drive more slowly than others (looking for an address or when your vehicle is having mechanical difficulty), use your hazard flashers. If passing is difficult and you're holding up traffic, pull over from time to time to let others get by. They'll thank you for it.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"If there is more than one clear lane and you are in the right lane behind someone going a few miles under the limit, do not honk or speed by and cut them off to make a point that they are going too slow.\", \"描述\": \"The speed limit is technically an upper limit, and people are not required to drive any faster. If you need to go as fast or faster than the limit, pass when it is safe to do so.\"}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"When driving on a multi-lane road, do not block other traffic by driving right next to another vehicle at the same speed.\", \"描述\": \"Not only does this prevent faster traffic from flowing past, the driver next to you will be continuously distracted by your vehicle in the corner of their eye. This problem is happening more and more because some drivers don't understand how to pass properly while driving on cruise control. If you are about to pass another vehicle while on cruise, and your speed is just barely faster, gently depress the accelerator to slightly increase your speed temporarily so the pass is completed in a reasonable amount of time. The shorter the time you are alongside a vehicle you are passing, the safer the pass.\"}, {\"编号\": 15, \"标题\": \"On freeways and Interstates, Do not drive in the left lane continually unless heavy traffic or upcoming turns/exits demand it.\", \"描述\": \"It is the passing lane and is not intended for general traffic flow, except in some urban settings. Some states, such as Ohio and Kansas, also have laws which require traffic to \\\"keep right except for passing\\\". If you're in the left lane and driving faster than the vehicles on your right, watch for vehicles driving faster than you coming from behind. Pull over so they too can pass, even if they are speeding (so you are not tailgated); or at least match their speed (within reason) until you can pull over.\"}, {\"编号\": 16, \"标题\": \"Stay out of the blind spots of other vehicles as much as possible, which are generally the right and left rear corners depending on the vehicle.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 17, \"标题\": \"If you inadvertently cause a situation that annoys other drivers, and they honk the horn or indicate their displeasure in some other way, do not gesture wildly, honk your own horn or jam the brakes.\", \"描述\": \"Accept your short-lived punishment, indicate to the other driver that you are sorry for your infraction, and move on.\"}, {\"编号\": 18, \"标题\": \"In heavy highway traffic, pick a lane and stay in it, but not the fast lane.\", \"描述\": \"Over the course of many miles, all lanes will go approximately the same speed. Excessive lane changing will not get you to your destination any faster, and ultimately only makes traffic run more slowly overall. It also increases your chances of a collision.\"}, {\"编号\": 19, \"标题\": \"If you are on the freeway and it looks like the vehicle next to you is trying to get over, it probably is because they are trying to get over.\", \"描述\": \"Speeding up so they can't get into your lane is just childish, and it may mean you have made them miss their exit. Unless in fact they are switching toward the middle of the freeway. Then it may mean they intend to pass a vehicle in front of them, and may not have seen you. Use caution and allow them to merge if they continue to come into your lane.\"}, {\"编号\": 20, \"标题\": \"If you are behind someone who is trying to switch lanes, don't try to pass them on that side to crowd them out.\", \"描述\": \"A signal to change lanes is not an invitation to pass. Some drivers are very particular about this \\\"rule\\\" and will get over anyway, regardless of whether or not they have room, and it is a good way to rear-end a driver, which would be your fault even if they slam on the brakes as soon as they are in front of you.\"}, {\"编号\": 21, \"标题\": \"Recognize that highway on-ramps and off-ramps are there so the flow of traffic will not be interrupted.\", \"描述\": \"Therefore you do not have to slow down on the freeway to get off - that's what the off-ramp is for. Conversely, the on-ramp gives you enough space to hopefully reach the typical speed limit (usually 55 to 70 miles (89 to 113 km) per hour) so that other drivers on the freeway do not need to slam on their brakes. (Notice that some on- and off-ramps may be poorly designed and thus slowing down or slamming the throttle might be necessary in these cases).\"}, {\"编号\": 22, \"标题\": \"Anticipate highway on-ramp incoming traffic.\", \"描述\": \"Pay attention to signs indicating interchanges and on-ramps. If you have the opportunity, safely shift lanes to allow incoming traffic to merge in a clear lane. This will help prevent bottlenecks and backups caused by merging traffic being unable to enter the flow.\"}, {\"编号\": 23, \"标题\": \"Passing on the right of traffic is very dangerous and also illegal in some places.\", \"描述\": \"If you have to pass a vehicle driving below the speed limit in the left (or passing) lane, you have two choices: pass them on the right (which is dangerous and sometimes illegal) or pull back and just drive at the slower speed. Do not tailgate them (see \\\"Don't tailgate\\\" step). Absolutely never pass on the shoulder of the road or blindly when there is the potential for oncoming traffic (i.e. on a state highway with 2-way traffic). This is not only illegal, but could result in you being personally responsible for the death of a pedestrian walking on the side of the road because their vehicle broke down.\"}, {\"编号\": 24, \"标题\": \"Don't drive with your foot on the brake.\", \"描述\": \"Ever. Even if you think you're not putting any pressure on the pedal, you may be depressing it enough to trigger the brake lights. In this case, other drivers won't know when you're truly braking. Other possible effects are brake drag, which results in premature brake wear and decreased fuel economy; or you could inadvertently push both brake and throttle in a panic stop, potentially increasing overall stopping distance significantly.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Don't panic. It is important to drive safely, as traffic crashes are the greatest annoyance of all. If you are not comfortable driving at high speeds, drive more slowly and avoid highways. Stay in the right lane and use cruise control, if your vehicle is so equipped.\\n\", \"In some places, people in general have a rude and annoying attitude behind the wheel. Do not give in to the temptation of doing as everyone else, as this only contributes to making your city more annoying. Notice that being polite in a city where everybody is rude and nobody knows how to be actually polite can be tricky, so if possible, when going to a city with calmer traffic conditions, try to study the local driving customs.\\n\", \"Be sure to look ahead towards the horizon rather than directly in front of your vehicle. As soon as you see a sign indicating that the lane you are in is ending or there is an obstruction that will require you to change lanes, prepare to get out of your lane. Gently modify your speed to match the drivers in the other lane and choose your entry point. Do not stay in the ending lane at full speed until the last possible moment and expect that the drivers who have planned ahead for this change in lane configuration are going to let you merge easily. On the other hand, don't force your vehicle out of a lane at the first sign of it ending, either - plan, signal, merge when it is safe to do so.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Any steps or tips given here should be validated against local driving laws.\\n\", \"Avoid doing other things while driving, like eating or drinking, talking or texting on a cell phone, etc. In fact, in some places, it is illegal to do some of these activities while driving.\\n\", \"During a severe weather event, such as a blizzard or hurricane, local and state authorities may order unnecessary traffic off the roads. Heed these warnings! Even if there is no such requirement given, don't drive unnecessarily if you are under a state of emergency or a severe weather warning, which could degrade road conditions significantly.\\n\", \"If road conditions are such that you are afraid to drive, don't. Pull off and wait, or stay home.\\n\", \"Semi Trucks are a lot bigger than even the largest SUV, and the drivers often have limited viewing areas to the side and behind them. Give them space. They also have a LOT more weight (sometimes 40 times the weight of an average car) to stop. If you are approaching a stoplight, DO NOT pull in front of a semi-truck. Semi-truck drivers estimate the amount of room they need to stop. If you pull in front of them, it changes their margins and they must brake harder, possibly causing an accident.\\n\", \"Never wait until the very last second to leave for work, school or errands. Rushing will likely cause you to drive erratically. Allow extra travel time, in case there is an accident or road work on your route to your destination.\\n\", \"All Wheel Drive/4WD does not ensure safety in harsh conditions or decrease braking distance, and use of part-time four wheel drive on dry roads could cause damage to the vehicle. Always use precautions when driving in dangerous weather.\\n\", \"Being tired or under the influence of alcohol or other drugs (including many over-the-counter cold remedies) greatly increases the likelihood that you will hurt yourself or someone else. Stop the car in a safe place and wait until the effects have worn off.\\n\", \"If you are annoyed yourself, you are more likely to annoy other drivers. Relax, take it easy and leave room for other drivers that are more confused about driving than you are.\\n\"]}]}}",
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2,887 | How to Avoid Aspartame | 1. Determining which Products Contain Aspartame
1-1. Check the labels of processed foods.
On the back of your food products, read the ingredients or “Inactive Ingredients” section. It is a small section underneath the “Nutrition Facts” section. If you see either the word “aspartame” or “phenylalanine” then the product contains aspartame. Some products even have a warning that indicates people with phenylketonuria (PKU) should avoid the product.
Products like diet soda and gum usually have a warning about phenylketonuria. However, you should check for this warning on all of the processed foods you consume if you have PKU.
1-2. Check the labels of “diet” products.
Check the labels of products that specifically say they are “diet," for example, diet soda. Diet products often contain aspartame, however not all of them do. Ensure by checking for aspartame or phenylalanine in the ingredients section.
Try looking for products that use Splenda or stevia as sweeteners instead. For example, Diet Pepsi has aspartame, but Pepsi One uses Splenda as a sweetener. Splenda is a no-calorie sweetener, also referred to as sucralose.
1-3. Be careful if a product is labeled "sugar-free".
Before buying sugar-free products like yogurt, hot chocolate mixes, flavored water powders, gum, or candy, check the label to see if the product contains aspartame. Not all of these products contain aspartame, so be sure to check the labels.
Yogurts that are most likely to contain aspartame are processed yogurts that are sugar or fat-free, as well as drinkable yogurts. Some yogurt brands that contain aspartame include Dannon Activia, Mueller "Light," and Weight Watchers. Instead, opt for yogurt that is unsweetened, sweetened with sugar, or sweetened with sugar substitutes besides aspartame.
Drink powders can be sweetened with aspartame, but not all of them are. For example, Crystal Light is sweetened with aspartame, but Crystal Light Pure is sweetened with stevia.
Many types of gum and candy, particularly gum and candies that are labeled “sugar-free,” use aspartame as a sweetener. For example, hard candy, breath mints, and candy chews can contain aspartame. Gum products that tend to have aspartame are Orbit and Wrigley’s Extra.
1-4. Watch out for sugar substitutes.
Sugar substitutes are used to sweeten products instead of regular table sugar. Sugar substitutes can be artificial sweeteners, sugar alcohols, novel sweeteners, and natural sweeteners as well. Here’s a guide to understanding each sugar substitute and the common brands associated with them:
Artificial sweeteners are synthetic sugar substitutes, which are many times sweeter than real sugar. Artificial sweeteners include acesulfame potassium (Sunett and Sweet One), aspartame (Equal and Nutrasweet), neotame, saccharin (Sugar Twin and Sweet N’ Low), sucralose (Splenda), and advantame.
Sugar alcohols are manufactured carbohydrates that occur naturally in vegetables and fruits. Despite its name, sugar alcohols do not contain alcohol. They are also not as sweet as regular sugar and contain fewer calories than regular sugar. Sugar alcohols include erythritol, hydrogenated starch hydrolysate, isomalt, lactitol, maltitol, mannitol, sorbitol, and xylitol. Be careful about products that contain maltitol. Maltitol has been associated with a variety of digestive disturbances like abdominal discomfort, gas, bloating, and diarrhea.
Novel sweeteners are usually combinations of different kinds of sweeteners and are hard to fit into one category. Some examples of novel sweeteners are stevia extracts (Pure Via and Truvia), tagatose (Naturlose), and trehalose (found naturally in honey and mushrooms).
Natural sweeteners are promoted as healthy alternatives to regular sugar and sugar substitutes, but are still processed sweeteners. Examples of natural sweeteners are agave nectar, date sugar, fruit juice concentrate, honey, maple syrup, and molasses.
2. Stocking Up on Whole Foods
2-1. Buy whole fruits and vegetables.
Whole fruits and vegetables have no additives. By having your house stocked with these kinds of foods, you can avoid falling back on snacks or food that contain aspartame. Fruits are also naturally sweet and are a great way to satisfy your sugar cravings. Great fruits for snacking are strawberries, peaches, bananas, plums, apples, and berries, like blueberries.
2-2. Choose healthy sweeteners.
Sweeten your beverages and food with healthy sweeteners like raw honey, stevia, pure maple syrup, or coconut sugar.
Stevia is a plant grown naturally in Brazil and Paraguay. Stevia is almost 300 times sweeter than table sugar, so recipes require much less of it.
2-3. Make your own beverages.
Bottled or canned tea often contains aspartame. Avoid them by brewing your own tea and adding your own sweeteners, like sugar or honey.
You can also make your own flavored water.
2-4. Buy organic food products.
Try replacing some food products with foods that are organic. For example, you can try buying organic yogurt in order to avoid yogurt products that contain aspartame. Alternatively, you can buy frozen meals that are organic to cut down on preservatives, additives, and artificial sweeteners.
3. Consulting Professional Sources
3-1. Talk to your doctor.
Your doctor will be able to help you put together a food regimen that is both nourishing and healthy. Your doctor can advise you on ways to avoid foods and products that contain high amounts of sugar. This will help you reduce your sugar cravings, and the desire to consume products that are high in sugar and most likely high in aspartame.
3-2. Read nutrition books.
Buy or check out books from your local library that will educate you on aspartame and its harmful effects. You can also buy cookbooks with recipes that will help you cut down on unhealthy foods and habits. Look into topics like “strategies for healthy eating” or “how to avoid unhealthy eating.” You can find books online, at your local bookstore, or at your local library.
3-3. Read medical journals.
Medical journals, like the American Society for Nutrition, provide access to actual case studies on aspartame. Read these articles and educate yourself on the effects of aspartame. Then you can decide for yourself if aspartame is something you want to avoid, as well as how to avoid it.
Tips
Always check the label of any product you consume.
Don't be fooled by products that say "organic.” It can still contain additives, so make sure you buy 100% organic food.
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Ensure by checking for aspartame or phenylalanine in the ingredients section.\\nTry looking for products that use Splenda or stevia as sweeteners instead. For example, Diet Pepsi has aspartame, but Pepsi One uses Splenda as a sweetener. Splenda is a no-calorie sweetener, also referred to as sucralose.\\n1-3. Be careful if a product is labeled \\\"sugar-free\\\".\\nBefore buying sugar-free products like yogurt, hot chocolate mixes, flavored water powders, gum, or candy, check the label to see if the product contains aspartame. Not all of these products contain aspartame, so be sure to check the labels.\\nYogurts that are most likely to contain aspartame are processed yogurts that are sugar or fat-free, as well as drinkable yogurts. Some yogurt brands that contain aspartame include Dannon Activia, Mueller \\\"Light,\\\" and Weight Watchers. Instead, opt for yogurt that is unsweetened, sweetened with sugar, or sweetened with sugar substitutes besides aspartame.\\nDrink powders can be sweetened with aspartame, but not all of them are. For example, Crystal Light is sweetened with aspartame, but Crystal Light Pure is sweetened with stevia.\\nMany types of gum and candy, particularly gum and candies that are labeled “sugar-free,” use aspartame as a sweetener. For example, hard candy, breath mints, and candy chews can contain aspartame. Gum products that tend to have aspartame are Orbit and Wrigley’s Extra.\\n1-4. Watch out for sugar substitutes.\\nSugar substitutes are used to sweeten products instead of regular table sugar. Sugar substitutes can be artificial sweeteners, sugar alcohols, novel sweeteners, and natural sweeteners as well. Here’s a guide to understanding each sugar substitute and the common brands associated with them:\\nArtificial sweeteners are synthetic sugar substitutes, which are many times sweeter than real sugar. Artificial sweeteners include acesulfame potassium (Sunett and Sweet One), aspartame (Equal and Nutrasweet), neotame, saccharin (Sugar Twin and Sweet N’ Low), sucralose (Splenda), and advantame.\\nSugar alcohols are manufactured carbohydrates that occur naturally in vegetables and fruits. Despite its name, sugar alcohols do not contain alcohol. They are also not as sweet as regular sugar and contain fewer calories than regular sugar. Sugar alcohols include erythritol, hydrogenated starch hydrolysate, isomalt, lactitol, maltitol, mannitol, sorbitol, and xylitol. Be careful about products that contain maltitol. Maltitol has been associated with a variety of digestive disturbances like abdominal discomfort, gas, bloating, and diarrhea.\\nNovel sweeteners are usually combinations of different kinds of sweeteners and are hard to fit into one category. Some examples of novel sweeteners are stevia extracts (Pure Via and Truvia), tagatose (Naturlose), and trehalose (found naturally in honey and mushrooms).\\nNatural sweeteners are promoted as healthy alternatives to regular sugar and sugar substitutes, but are still processed sweeteners. Examples of natural sweeteners are agave nectar, date sugar, fruit juice concentrate, honey, maple syrup, and molasses.\\n2. Stocking Up on Whole Foods\\n2-1. Buy whole fruits and vegetables.\\nWhole fruits and vegetables have no additives. By having your house stocked with these kinds of foods, you can avoid falling back on snacks or food that contain aspartame. Fruits are also naturally sweet and are a great way to satisfy your sugar cravings. Great fruits for snacking are strawberries, peaches, bananas, plums, apples, and berries, like blueberries.\\n2-2. Choose healthy sweeteners.\\nSweeten your beverages and food with healthy sweeteners like raw honey, stevia, pure maple syrup, or coconut sugar.\\nStevia is a plant grown naturally in Brazil and Paraguay. Stevia is almost 300 times sweeter than table sugar, so recipes require much less of it.\\n2-3. Make your own beverages.\\nBottled or canned tea often contains aspartame. Avoid them by brewing your own tea and adding your own sweeteners, like sugar or honey.\\nYou can also make your own flavored water.\\n2-4. Buy organic food products.\\nTry replacing some food products with foods that are organic. For example, you can try buying organic yogurt in order to avoid yogurt products that contain aspartame. Alternatively, you can buy frozen meals that are organic to cut down on preservatives, additives, and artificial sweeteners.\\n3. Consulting Professional Sources\\n3-1. Talk to your doctor.\\nYour doctor will be able to help you put together a food regimen that is both nourishing and healthy. Your doctor can advise you on ways to avoid foods and products that contain high amounts of sugar. This will help you reduce your sugar cravings, and the desire to consume products that are high in sugar and most likely high in aspartame.\\n3-2. Read nutrition books.\\nBuy or check out books from your local library that will educate you on aspartame and its harmful effects. You can also buy cookbooks with recipes that will help you cut down on unhealthy foods and habits. Look into topics like “strategies for healthy eating” or “how to avoid unhealthy eating.” You can find books online, at your local bookstore, or at your local library.\\n3-3. Read medical journals.\\nMedical journals, like the American Society for Nutrition, provide access to actual case studies on aspartame. Read these articles and educate yourself on the effects of aspartame. Then you can decide for yourself if aspartame is something you want to avoid, as well as how to avoid it.\\nTips\\nAlways check the label of any product you consume.\\nDon't be fooled by products that say \\\"organic.” It can still contain additives, so make sure you buy 100% organic food.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"One of the most common artificial sweeteners today, aspartame, also known as phenylalanine, has been linked to certain health problems. People with phenylketonuria (PKU) cannot consume aspartame because their bodies cannot break down the amino acid phenylalanine. Aspartame is a low-calorie artificial sweetener that is sold under brand names Nutrasweet and Equal. 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2,888 | How to Avoid Attention | 1. Fitting In
1-1. Conform to common attire.
Mimic the style of the people around you. Similar to a group of soldiers, football players, or fireman, identifying an individual is difficult because they are all dressed alike. Aim to fit in with clothing choices around you.
A great way to blend in and build rapport or trust within your community is to copy their behaviors and ways of doing things.
Adapt to your environment by bringing a reversible jacket or a different colored undershirt for multiple options. Change color like a chameleon and fit into your surroundings.
In a general setting without a like-minded group, aim for the middle-ground. Somewhere between the tightest and loosest clothes, between the brightest and most muted colors. Find a happy medium between neatest and sloppiest. Make sure if someone were to describe your appearance they'd also be describing several others in the group.
Wear what others are wearing. The way we dress and say a lot about wanting to attract attention or not. People in specific locations and climates dress to their needs and local fashion. Find the trends and fashion most popular in your area and start fitting in.
1-2. Do what others do.
Try to imitate the speech patterns, common lingo, and behaviors where you live. In other words, adopt local customs. If everyone in your area says, “Hi y’all!” as a normal greeting, practice your twang.
In many Europe locations, for instance, counting on your fingers begins with the thumb. Therefore, if you want two of something, start with the thumb and then the index finger.
Be comfortable even if someone is in your personal space. In Korea it's normal for male friends to physically be very close to one another. Personal space may be respected in America, but in some cultures it's not treated the same way. In Korea it's not uncommon for friends to hold hands, sit together closely, and be much closer than traditionally acceptable to Westerners.
1-3. Be mediocre.
Avoid being the outright winner or loser of anything. While somewhat unhealthy to purposely throttle yourself, you certainly won’t gain notoriety for being average in every way possible.
If you are finished with a test in class before anyone else, wait until others finish before putting your pencil down and leaving the room.
When walking in a group of people, aim to be in the middle of the pack. If you're leading everyone is going to notice. If you're dragging behind, pick it up and get ahead of some people.
Avoid being in charge. Authority is often despised, and rebellion to it is even part of our psychological makeup. Even when marooned with several strangers, it's important not to be seen as an authoritarian or as the person controlling affairs.
2. Managing Your Surroundings
2-1. Keep to yourself.
One sure-fire way to avoid attention is to simply avoid interaction with others. There is a fine line, however, between keeping to yourself and being “Comstockian,” which is when people gain attention while trying to avoid it.
2-2. Adjust to your location.
Think about who will be where you are going, what they will be wearing, how they will be acting, etc. This will help you decide how to best blend in with the people populating the area.
If going into a business environment, find out if it’s a business-casual or business dress, and then dress appropriately.
Dress in team colors if you’re going to be at a sporting event, but make sure you aren’t in the front row. You don’t want to end up on the jumbotron where extra attention could blow up in your face. You can even plan ahead for some sporting events and get tickets with less camera visibility.
Learn the appropriate actions at an unfamiliar event. If going somewhere for the first time, know the customs beforehand. For instance, applause during movements is frowned upon during classical music.
2-3. Assimilate to event or location expectations.
Learn team cheers, order the right drinks, speak the current lingo. Try to imagine what you look or sound like from other people's view, and work with that knowledge.
3. Manage Your Interactions
3-1. Minimize your actions.
Do what everyone else is doing, but to a lesser degree. If everyone is laughing, chuckle; if everyone is crying, shed a tear. The key is to be subtle in all your actions.
3-2. Unplug from electronic communication.
By not replying to others, you’ll avoid their current attention. Further, your lack of reply may likely cease other correspondence.
Turn off your cell-phone. Avoid calls and texts the same. Set your voicemail to let everyone know you’ll be out of the loop for a while. Let emergency contacts know where you’ll be and how to reach you otherwise.
Don’t check your personal email. Work email may be unavoidable, but personal email can wait. Set an “out of office” auto-reply, or pretend you’re on vacation.
Log out of social networks. No tweets, snapchats, or facebook messages. Imagine you are trying to avoid revealing a show’s cliffhanger secret or the final score spoiler.
3-3. Keep personal interactions to a minimum.
Try to avoid eye contact so people aren’t prone to engage you. Lack of eye contact signals inattentiveness and lessened interest. Try not to initiate conversation with anyone. If someone initiates with you, be polite but abrupt. Make it clear you wish to be left alone.
4. Coordinating Travel
4-1. Travel during non-peak times.
Many mass-transit options provide their down times. Take advantage of this and try to minimize the number of people you may encounter.
4-2. Continue moving.
When you are not in the same place very long there will be less time for people to notice you. Some studies suggest dissimilar movement hinders communication between two people. If you are at a crowded social gathering, casually walk from place to place as if you are trying to get somewhere.
4-3. Take shortcuts.
If there is an alternate route to your daily routine, a less-populated pathway, attempt to literally choose the road less traveled.
4-4. Alter your travel patterns.
A common security measure for someone under surveillance is to change up their travel routing. Try making a few small adjustments so that people who may be looking for you can’t peg down your whereabouts.
Leave your house at a different time each day. It’s unlikely someone will wait extraordinarily long if you don’t leave at a consistent time.
Change your route to normal daily locations. Try the interstate one day, side roads the next. The key is to make it more difficult for someone to perpetually be where you are.
Make unexpected stops. Try going to a quiet library or coffee shop periodically. Go somewhere out of the ordinary on a whim. Be unpredictable so you are an unknown to those around you, and difficult to find for those who know you.
Tips
Sometimes people may single you out constantly, trying to tell you stories, creating drama, or otherwise going out of their way to get you to notice them. If you find yourself in this position, you'll need a way to deal with attention seeking adults.
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2,889 | 10 Ways to Avoid Awkward Silence with Friends and Keep the Conversation Flowing | 1. Prepare some conversation topics ahead of time.
That way you’ll have things to talk about whenever the conversation lulls.
Maybe you just watched a horror film that your friends might want to hear about or you read something in the news that seems worth discussing. Thinking of some potential conversation topics in advance can come in handy when you're trying to fill an awkward silence.
If the conversation dies down, try something like, "I just read that a new pizza place is opening up down the street. Have ya'll heard anything about that?" or "I just watched Scream for the first time! Have any of you seen it?"
Stay away from controversial subjects like politics or religion.
2. Ask questions.
People like talking about themselves!
If there's an awkward silence, ask a follow-up question about something your friend said earlier. To really move the conversation along, ask open-ended questions instead of ones with a simple yes or no answer. Try questions like:
What was your dream career when you were a kid?
If you could be any animal for a day, what would you be?
What would be your dream vacation?
If you could have dinner with any celebrity, living or dead, who would you choose?
3. Listen to your friends when they talk.
Make sure you're not just planning what you want to say next.
Think of a conversation as a collaboration with someone. You've got to really listen to what they have to say to learn new things about that person and come up with a thoughtful response. It's also a great opportunity to listen for potential conversation topics if you find yourself stuck in awkward silence.
Nod along while someone is talking to help you concentrate on what they're saying. This also helps encourage your friend to keep talking!
Turn your phone on silent and keep it in your purse or pocket. It's hard to really listen when you're checking your phone or getting text alerts constantly.
4. Look for cues in the room for good conversation starters.
Notice your friend's clothes, the decor in the room, and other details.
These can all be great conversation starters if you've run out of things to say. You can compliment your friend's cool sweater or ask them where they got their new backpack. Alternatively, you could say something about the song that's playing on the radio or take note of your friend's brand new stereo. Commenting on something like that can give the conversation a fresh start, and others can chime in on how they feel, too.
Say something like, "I like your Ramones t-shirt, Rob. Do you have a favorite album of theirs?"
5. Change the subject.
Your conversation may be in need of a fresh start.
If you've spent the last ten minutes talking about the same subject, wait for the conversation to die down and bring up a new topic. You can talk about something related, or you could simply bring up a new topic entirely.
Good conversation topics include philosophy, sports, movies, art, and local events.
Don't fret if your new topic seems wildly unrelated to the previous subject. Your friends will more than likely appreciate a new subject to talk about, especially if you've been on the same one for a while!
6. Get comfortable with silence.
Not all silences are as awkward as they seem!
Maybe you and your friends just need a moment to decompress before starting a new conversation. Take the moment to reflect on what you've been talking about and think of new conversation topics.
Awkwardness isn't always a bad thing. Feeling awkward can stem from getting out of your comfort zone.
If these are new friends, maybe you're all just still getting to know each other. Awkwardness and feeling vulnerable is a part of that process!
7. Address the awkwardness.
This can actually help everyone feel more at ease.
Your friends may be worried they're the ones being awkward or just as lost on what to say as you. A simple, "Well, this is awkward" will make people laugh, or at least know it's not just them.
Try making light of the situation. Say something like, "I don't mean to be awkward, but is anyone else having a hard time coming up with something to say?"
8. Let your friends do some of the talking, too.
It's not your responsibility to fill every silence.
Your friends can help come up with new things to talk about as well! Relax and don't put too much pressure on yourself to fill every awkward silence. If things are a little quiet, wait for your friends to speak before rushing to talk.
Think of the conversation like taking turns—everyone should get an equal chance to share. If you brought up a new subject after the last lull, give someone else a chance to speak next time a quiet moment arises.
9. Try your best to be confident.
Adopt confident body language.
This helps you feel more comfortable with yourself, and it makes you seem more approachable in conversation. Hold your head high and stand or sit up straight as you speak. This newfound confidence will help you handle awkward situations with ease, and not overthink or feel insecure every time a moment of silence strikes.
Feeling more confident will help you put yourself out there if it falls on you to change the subject or ask questions. Trying out these methods if you're feeling insecure can be pretty difficult, and it may not diffuse the awkwardness.
If you find yourself feeling awkward when someone gives you a compliment, say, "Thank you!" as graciously as possible—don't just let the moment turn into an awkward silence.
10. Accept when the conversation is over.
It's possible everyone is ready to stop talking.
Maybe it's late and you're all tired and ready to go home. Sometimes it's best to just let the conversation end and call it for the night! End the conversation on a good note by politely excusing yourself and thanking your friends for their time.
Politely say something like, "Well, I'm getting pretty tired. Would ya'll want to call it a night?" or "I think I may have to get home soon. Can't wait to see you again soon!"
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Look for cues in the room for good conversation starters.\\nNotice your friend's clothes, the decor in the room, and other details.\\nThese can all be great conversation starters if you've run out of things to say. You can compliment your friend's cool sweater or ask them where they got their new backpack. Alternatively, you could say something about the song that's playing on the radio or take note of your friend's brand new stereo. Commenting on something like that can give the conversation a fresh start, and others can chime in on how they feel, too.\\nSay something like, \\\"I like your Ramones t-shirt, Rob. Do you have a favorite album of theirs?\\\"\\n5. Change the subject.\\nYour conversation may be in need of a fresh start.\\nIf you've spent the last ten minutes talking about the same subject, wait for the conversation to die down and bring up a new topic. You can talk about something related, or you could simply bring up a new topic entirely.\\nGood conversation topics include philosophy, sports, movies, art, and local events.\\nDon't fret if your new topic seems wildly unrelated to the previous subject. Your friends will more than likely appreciate a new subject to talk about, especially if you've been on the same one for a while!\\n6. Get comfortable with silence.\\nNot all silences are as awkward as they seem!\\nMaybe you and your friends just need a moment to decompress before starting a new conversation. Take the moment to reflect on what you've been talking about and think of new conversation topics.\\nAwkwardness isn't always a bad thing. Feeling awkward can stem from getting out of your comfort zone.\\nIf these are new friends, maybe you're all just still getting to know each other. Awkwardness and feeling vulnerable is a part of that process!\\n7. Address the awkwardness.\\nThis can actually help everyone feel more at ease.\\nYour friends may be worried they're the ones being awkward or just as lost on what to say as you. A simple, \\\"Well, this is awkward\\\" will make people laugh, or at least know it's not just them.\\nTry making light of the situation. Say something like, \\\"I don't mean to be awkward, but is anyone else having a hard time coming up with something to say?\\\"\\n8. Let your friends do some of the talking, too.\\nIt's not your responsibility to fill every silence.\\nYour friends can help come up with new things to talk about as well! Relax and don't put too much pressure on yourself to fill every awkward silence. If things are a little quiet, wait for your friends to speak before rushing to talk.\\nThink of the conversation like taking turns—everyone should get an equal chance to share. If you brought up a new subject after the last lull, give someone else a chance to speak next time a quiet moment arises.\\n9. Try your best to be confident.\\nAdopt confident body language.\\nThis helps you feel more comfortable with yourself, and it makes you seem more approachable in conversation. Hold your head high and stand or sit up straight as you speak. This newfound confidence will help you handle awkward situations with ease, and not overthink or feel insecure every time a moment of silence strikes.\\nFeeling more confident will help you put yourself out there if it falls on you to change the subject or ask questions. Trying out these methods if you're feeling insecure can be pretty difficult, and it may not diffuse the awkwardness.\\nIf you find yourself feeling awkward when someone gives you a compliment, say, \\\"Thank you!\\\" as graciously as possible—don't just let the moment turn into an awkward silence.\\n10. Accept when the conversation is over.\\nIt's possible everyone is ready to stop talking.\\nMaybe it's late and you're all tired and ready to go home. Sometimes it's best to just let the conversation end and call it for the night! End the conversation on a good note by politely excusing yourself and thanking your friends for their time.\\nPolitely say something like, \\\"Well, I'm getting pretty tired. Would ya'll want to call it a night?\\\" or \\\"I think I may have to get home soon. Can't wait to see you again soon!\\\"\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Even the best of friends can experience awkward moments. Maybe you've all gathered for a party at your house and suddenly no one has anything to say, or someone's just said something pretty strange and no one knows how to respond. 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Alternatively, you could say something about the song that's playing on the radio or take note of your friend's brand new stereo. Commenting on something like that can give the conversation a fresh start, and others can chime in on how they feel, too.\\nSay something like, \\\"I like your Ramones t-shirt, Rob. Do you have a favorite album of theirs?\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Change the subject.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Your conversation may be in need of a fresh start.\", \"描述\": \"If you've spent the last ten minutes talking about the same subject, wait for the conversation to die down and bring up a new topic. You can talk about something related, or you could simply bring up a new topic entirely.\\nGood conversation topics include philosophy, sports, movies, art, and local events.\\nDon't fret if your new topic seems wildly unrelated to the previous subject. 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2,890 | How to Avoid Bad Company (for Teens) | 1. Getting Rid of Existing Bad Company
1-1. Begin to distance yourself.
Slowly stop accepting their invitations to hang out. If they invite you over to their house, avoid it. Pretend to be ill or make an excuse.
Try one of these examples:
“I’m not really in the mood to hang out today.”
“Thanks for the invitation, but I’m not feeling very well today.”
Also, quit confiding in them. Continuing the intimacy of friendship will only make it harder to end the relationship in the long run.
It's okay to restructure or downgrade a friendship if you both have different values.
1-2. Make excuses to avoid them.
Start coming up with reasons that you can't see them. This will help if they are bad company and you want to gradually stop hanging out with them. Eventually they should start to notice and leave you alone.
Some good examples of excuses could be that you have to babysit, that your parents are monitoring you, or you could even sign up for school activities and say they are taking up too much of your time.
Try one of these examples:
“I appreciate the offer, but I have a lot of homework tonight.”
“I can’t hang out today because my parents are making me do my chores at home.”
1-3. Try to help them if you really want to continue to hang out with them.
Talk to them about their behavior and tell them why their actions bother you. Give them advice about how to change if they are willing to hear it.
Some ways you could help them are by telling them honestly how their behavior makes you feel. You could also talk to a counselor or their parents with them, offering to help them with something stressful in their life that might be causing them to act out (like homework, trouble at home, etc.), or helping them find positive outlets in their life (like sports, church, and other hobbies or school activities).
You could say something like, "It bothers me when you make me feel like I'm not a good friend," "I don’t like feeling pressured to do things I don’t want to do. I wish you wouldn’t do that," and "I’ll be happy to help you figure out a way to deal with that situation."
You might also say, "It really hurt me when you shared the stuff that I told you in confidence."
1-4. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself.
If they persist with their bad behavior and won't leave you alone, continue to resist them. But if they still continue to follow you, tell them you don't want to hang out with them anymore.
Try one of these examples:
“I don’t think being friends with you is good for me right now. I think I need to take a break.”
“I feel like I need to focus on other things right now. I can’t hang out with you anymore.”
2. Choosing Better Company
2-1. Think about the kind of friends that you want.
What qualities are you looking for in a friend? Determining these things ahead of time will help you know what to look for when you are making new friends. Search out people who have these positive qualities you want in your life.
Some qualities you might consider are kindness, honesty, loyalty, intelligence, or creativity.
Think of ways to tell if people possess these qualities. For example, someone who makes good grades in school is probably intelligent. Someone who volunteers at a nursing home is probably kind. Someone who is very active in art class is probably creative.
2-2. Meet people from your activities.
Try to become friends with people who have good morals. A good place to meet people like this is at your church youth group or in an activity group organized through your school. People who get involved in activities and in the community are less likely to cause problems.
2-3. Monitor their behavior
Do this before you start hanging out with someone new. If they mouth off in school, get into fights, or bully others, don't get too close to them.
2-4. Choose people with similar interests and goals.
Hanging out with likeminded people is important. The saying “you are what you eat” can be applied to the friends you choose as well. If you hang out with motivated, driven people that will begin to rub off on you as well. If you spend time with people who don’t care about school or who are not nice to others, those behaviors could eventually rub off on you.
2-5. Talk to trusted advisors.
There are probably a lot of people in your life (parents, teachers, counselors) who have more life experience than you and would love to advise you on how to find and keep good friends. Take advantage of their advice by talking to them and asking their opinion. It might help!
3. Attracting the Right Kind of Friends
3-1. Be a nice person.
If you want to attract the kind of people who will be good company, you need to be a nice person who is enjoyable to be around. Be kind to others, help those around you, and make goals for your life.
Be grateful for what you have in life and what others do for you. Everyone likes feeling appreciated. Tell others that you are thankful for them.
3-2. Make good decisions.
People don’t want to spend time with others who will get them in trouble or influence them negatively. Make decisions in your own life that will positively impact your own life and those around you.
Before making a decision, think about your choices, possible outcomes for each, consider the pros and cons, and enlist the advice of people you trust.
3-3. Do well in school.
When you are a teenager, an easy way for others to make judgments about what kind of person you are stem from observing how focused you are in school. If you make an effort and try to be successful in your classes, this will reflect well on what kind of person you are and it will attract other people who will be good company for you.
Also, this will be a good marker for the parents of your prospective friends. Sometimes parents can be suspicious of new friends. But if you are successful in school, most parents will have more confidence in you from the beginning.
3-4. Get help if you need it.
Sometimes we attract the wrong kind of people because we are not emotionally capable of being a good friend at the moment. There are plenty of ways to get the help you need – like through counseling/therapy, by taking care of your body through diet and regular exercise, or simply by talking through your problems with someone you trust.
Some examples of things that you might need to get help for before you can attract the right kind of friends is drug or alcohol addiction, various psychological problems (like depression), or anger management issues. These are aspects of your own life that you will need to work toward fixing in order to attract the kinds of friends you want.
If you are feeling severely depressed or suicidal, reach out for help immediately. Talk to your doctor or call/text the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (988).
Tips
The best way to avoid bad company is never to get into it.
Don't be fooled by a person's looks or charm. Looks can be deceiving.
At first you might start to miss their company, but you'll get over it.
Warnings
Though it is unlikely, some people may react violently if you try to exclude them from your life. So be careful.
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Eventually they should start to notice and leave you alone.\\nSome good examples of excuses could be that you have to babysit, that your parents are monitoring you, or you could even sign up for school activities and say they are taking up too much of your time.\\nTry one of these examples:\\n“I appreciate the offer, but I have a lot of homework tonight.”\\n“I can’t hang out today because my parents are making me do my chores at home.”\\n1-3. Try to help them if you really want to continue to hang out with them.\\nTalk to them about their behavior and tell them why their actions bother you. Give them advice about how to change if they are willing to hear it.\\nSome ways you could help them are by telling them honestly how their behavior makes you feel. You could also talk to a counselor or their parents with them, offering to help them with something stressful in their life that might be causing them to act out (like homework, trouble at home, etc.), or helping them find positive outlets in their life (like sports, church, and other hobbies or school activities).\\nYou could say something like, \\\"It bothers me when you make me feel like I'm not a good friend,\\\" \\\"I don’t like feeling pressured to do things I don’t want to do. I wish you wouldn’t do that,\\\" and \\\"I’ll be happy to help you figure out a way to deal with that situation.\\\"\\nYou might also say, \\\"It really hurt me when you shared the stuff that I told you in confidence.\\\"\\n1-4. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself.\\nIf they persist with their bad behavior and won't leave you alone, continue to resist them. But if they still continue to follow you, tell them you don't want to hang out with them anymore.\\nTry one of these examples:\\n“I don’t think being friends with you is good for me right now. I think I need to take a break.”\\n“I feel like I need to focus on other things right now. I can’t hang out with you anymore.”\\n2. Choosing Better Company\\n2-1. Think about the kind of friends that you want.\\nWhat qualities are you looking for in a friend? Determining these things ahead of time will help you know what to look for when you are making new friends. Search out people who have these positive qualities you want in your life.\\nSome qualities you might consider are kindness, honesty, loyalty, intelligence, or creativity.\\nThink of ways to tell if people possess these qualities. For example, someone who makes good grades in school is probably intelligent. Someone who volunteers at a nursing home is probably kind. Someone who is very active in art class is probably creative.\\n2-2. Meet people from your activities.\\nTry to become friends with people who have good morals. A good place to meet people like this is at your church youth group or in an activity group organized through your school. People who get involved in activities and in the community are less likely to cause problems.\\n2-3. Monitor their behavior\\nDo this before you start hanging out with someone new. If they mouth off in school, get into fights, or bully others, don't get too close to them.\\n2-4. Choose people with similar interests and goals.\\nHanging out with likeminded people is important. The saying “you are what you eat” can be applied to the friends you choose as well. If you hang out with motivated, driven people that will begin to rub off on you as well. If you spend time with people who don’t care about school or who are not nice to others, those behaviors could eventually rub off on you.\\n2-5. Talk to trusted advisors.\\nThere are probably a lot of people in your life (parents, teachers, counselors) who have more life experience than you and would love to advise you on how to find and keep good friends. Take advantage of their advice by talking to them and asking their opinion. It might help!\\n3. Attracting the Right Kind of Friends\\n3-1. Be a nice person.\\nIf you want to attract the kind of people who will be good company, you need to be a nice person who is enjoyable to be around. Be kind to others, help those around you, and make goals for your life.\\nBe grateful for what you have in life and what others do for you. Everyone likes feeling appreciated. Tell others that you are thankful for them.\\n3-2. Make good decisions.\\nPeople don’t want to spend time with others who will get them in trouble or influence them negatively. Make decisions in your own life that will positively impact your own life and those around you.\\nBefore making a decision, think about your choices, possible outcomes for each, consider the pros and cons, and enlist the advice of people you trust.\\n3-3. Do well in school.\\nWhen you are a teenager, an easy way for others to make judgments about what kind of person you are stem from observing how focused you are in school. If you make an effort and try to be successful in your classes, this will reflect well on what kind of person you are and it will attract other people who will be good company for you.\\nAlso, this will be a good marker for the parents of your prospective friends. Sometimes parents can be suspicious of new friends. But if you are successful in school, most parents will have more confidence in you from the beginning.\\n3-4. Get help if you need it.\\nSometimes we attract the wrong kind of people because we are not emotionally capable of being a good friend at the moment. There are plenty of ways to get the help you need – like through counseling/therapy, by taking care of your body through diet and regular exercise, or simply by talking through your problems with someone you trust.\\nSome examples of things that you might need to get help for before you can attract the right kind of friends is drug or alcohol addiction, various psychological problems (like depression), or anger management issues. These are aspects of your own life that you will need to work toward fixing in order to attract the kinds of friends you want.\\nIf you are feeling severely depressed or suicidal, reach out for help immediately. Talk to your doctor or call/text the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (988).\\nTips\\nThe best way to avoid bad company is never to get into it.\\nDon't be fooled by a person's looks or charm. 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But if they still continue to follow you, tell them you don't want to hang out with them anymore.\\nTry one of these examples:\\n“I don’t think being friends with you is good for me right now. I think I need to take a break.”\\n“I feel like I need to focus on other things right now. I can’t hang out with you anymore.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choosing Better Company\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Think about the kind of friends that you want.\", \"描述\": \"What qualities are you looking for in a friend? Determining these things ahead of time will help you know what to look for when you are making new friends. Search out people who have these positive qualities you want in your life.\\nSome qualities you might consider are kindness, honesty, loyalty, intelligence, or creativity.\\nThink of ways to tell if people possess these qualities. For example, someone who makes good grades in school is probably intelligent. Someone who volunteers at a nursing home is probably kind. 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Tell others that you are thankful for them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make good decisions.\", \"描述\": \"People don’t want to spend time with others who will get them in trouble or influence them negatively. Make decisions in your own life that will positively impact your own life and those around you.\\nBefore making a decision, think about your choices, possible outcomes for each, consider the pros and cons, and enlist the advice of people you trust.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do well in school.\", \"描述\": \"When you are a teenager, an easy way for others to make judgments about what kind of person you are stem from observing how focused you are in school. If you make an effort and try to be successful in your classes, this will reflect well on what kind of person you are and it will attract other people who will be good company for you.\\nAlso, this will be a good marker for the parents of your prospective friends. Sometimes parents can be suspicious of new friends. But if you are successful in school, most parents will have more confidence in you from the beginning.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get help if you need it.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes we attract the wrong kind of people because we are not emotionally capable of being a good friend at the moment. There are plenty of ways to get the help you need – like through counseling/therapy, by taking care of your body through diet and regular exercise, or simply by talking through your problems with someone you trust.\\nSome examples of things that you might need to get help for before you can attract the right kind of friends is drug or alcohol addiction, various psychological problems (like depression), or anger management issues. These are aspects of your own life that you will need to work toward fixing in order to attract the kinds of friends you want.\\nIf you are feeling severely depressed or suicidal, reach out for help immediately. 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2,891 | How to Avoid Bad First Kisses | 1. Calming Your Nerves
1-1. Take a deep breath and relax.
You are about to enjoy a physical connection with someone you like, and who likes you. There’s no need to be nervous, because there’s no right way or wrong way to kiss. Relaxing will help you feel more comfortable about the kiss. Trust that the two of you will figure it out together.
1-2. Maintain eye contact before the kiss.
Seeing each other will help you both remember that you’re going to enjoy sharing this moment with one another. Eye contact also lets your partner know that you are attentive and interested, which can help them feel more comfortable.
1-3. Start small with light lip-to-lip contact.
It’s okay for your first kiss to be brief and simple. There’s no need to set high expectations of a lingering embrace. A long, heavy kiss can be intimidating. Sharing a quick moment of intimacy can still tell you a lot about your compatibility.
1-4. Don’t over analyze the moment.
Dissecting every part of the kiss will lead to more nervousness. Remember that a first kiss is just a first attempt. Additional kisses with the same partner, as well as kisses with others over the course of time, will give you a chance to learn what you like and what you don’t.
The more you kiss, the better you'll get at it!
2. Avoiding Awkwardness
2-1. Check that your breath is fresh.
You can do this by breathing into your cupped palm or bent elbow. A strong taste in your mouth, such as certain foods, beverages, or smoke, can also indicate unfresh breath. If there’s an unpleasant taste or odor, your partner might find it unpleasant. Use mint gum to freshen your breath before hand.
2-2. Approach one another slowly.
Don’t lunge abruptly or lurch without warning. Quick movements are likely to result in an awkward moment of bumped foreheads, bruised lips, or banged teeth. Eye contact can help you negotiate the approach for the kiss. If you move toward one another carefully, the initial lip-to-lip contact will be smooth and natural.
2-3. Keep movement to a minimum.
There’s no need to move your mouth, head, or body a great deal. Too much movement can be distracting. It can also increase the likelihood of an awkward bump or slip.
Try to match your partner throughout the kiss so you fit together nicely.
2-4. End the kiss gently.
This can be done with a simple slight turn of the head, tipping up of the chin, or a small step backwards. You’ll know the time is right to end the kiss because of simple physical or emotional cues like:
fatigue
excess moisture
discomfort in your jaw
frustration
distraction
lack of enjoyment
3. Making the Kiss Enjoyable
3-1. Take and give physical cues.
Try to demonstrate how you prefer to be kissed. Pay attention to what your partner may be trying to show you about their preferences. Remember, a good first kiss is a team effort.
Drop a hint to your partner by staring in their eyes, smiling, and letting those butterflies develop.
If your partner is comfortable, you can try building up to the kiss with a little bit of light physical contact. This could include a hand, arm, or shoulder massage, and/or a kiss along the back of their neck.
3-2. Use your whole body.
Hands, hair, waist, back, and other areas are parts you might like to touch and have touched while you kiss. Your partner might guide you to touch them in places they’d enjoy. If you’re comfortable doing so, follow their lead.
3-3. Make eye contact afterward.
Although this might feel awkward, the moment after is a good time to gauge your partner’s feelings about the kiss. Look at them, and see if they look like they enjoyed it. If you can’t tell from simply looking, you can talk about it. Try starting with:
“I really like kissing you.”
“You’re a good kisser.”
“I liked when you…”
“That was nice.”
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2,892 | How to Avoid Becoming a "Psycho Ex" | 1. Creating Boundaries
1-1. Establish boundaries of communication.
Depending on the nature of the break-up, you and your ex need to establish some ground rules about communication going forward. While you may want to talk or contact them still, listen to what your ex says. If they are ignoring you, they likely do not want to communicate.
Consider asking questions to find out what the boundaries are. Ask, "Is it okay if I call or text you?" Listen to what they say or how they respond. Your ex may be ignoring you at this point, which is a passive "no" in these situations.
See if you and your ex wish to remain friends on social media. Ask, "Can we still keep in contact through social media?" If they end up blocking you on social media, this is a sign that they are trying to move on.
1-2. Learn to take “no” for an answer.
After a break-up, some people want to separate themselves from their ex, no matter how wonderful the times were before. If you ask your ex about keeping in touch, and they say “no,” be willing to respect this answer. If you continue to pester them, they may become even more irritated.
The act of saying “no” is not meant to disregard the relationship that you both had. It’s a sign that it's time to move on for both you and your ex.
Even if you’re upset with your ex’s actions, learn that he or she is human too. We all have the right to say “no.”
1-3. Respect your ex's privacy.
While you may want to talk with them and find out how they're doing, accept that both you and your ex's lives won't simply stop just because your relationship ended. They will continue their lives and you will continue yours. Allow your ex the space and privacy to find their own path after the break-up.
Invasion of someone's privacy is both emotionally unsettling and legally violating someone's rights. Each person has a right to their own privacy.
Once your relationship ends, if you continue to go into their home, text them throughout the day, or follow their every move, this is an invasion of privacy if the interactions are unwanted.
If you feel that what you're doing may be wrong, take a step back and find support elsewhere. Don't seek out your ex for support after a break-up.
1-4. Avoid sharing sensitive information on social media.
If you have been hurt by your ex, you may want to seek ways to "hurt" them by sharing secrets or sensitive information. By in truth, when you are trying to "get back at" someone, you are simply expressing your pain and rejection in public. This will not make you any better, happier, or stronger.
Doing hurtful things to your ex out of spite will likely make you feel worse in the end.
Protect your image and yourself in public spaces like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and other social media sites. Resist the urge to use social media as a way to vent your heartache. Avoid the need to "overshare" the details of your life on social media.
Don't find ways to "stalk" your ex through social media. Treat your ex's social media pages like their home, work, or favorite hang-out spot. Though it may be public, it is their private space at the same time.
1-5. Don't manipulate or lie to get what you want.
Trust is the key to any healthy relationship. If you break that trust, the relationship has little room to grow. Deception in order to get back with your ex will ultimately be harmful to you and your ex.
Stop and think about what you're doing and how you're acting. If you're emotionally overwhelmed, take a step back before deceiving someone to feel better.
Resist temptations to get revenge or "make them suffer" by lying about a situation.
Avoid snap decisions that impact other's lives. When you feel overwhelmed by emotion or are having difficulty with what to do, redirect your thoughts of your ex to positive people or things outside of your relationship.
2. Coping with Loss
2-1. Share your feelings.
Breaking up is tough, emotionally and physically. Acknowledging and expressing your feelings can help you start to process them and move on. Learn to open up to friends and family that you trust about the hurt and pain you’re feeling. Avoid sharing your various emotions with your ex after a break-up. You need to find other outlets to let go of your hurt, anger, and sadness. Consider these outlets:
Talk with a friend or family member by phone or in person about your relationship. You can choose how much to tell them about what you're feeling. See if they have advice about moving forward.
Write in a journal or other private space about your feelings. Avoid using social media for this.
Don't feel ashamed about what you're feeling. Sharing can help you feel less alone. Everyone has had a loss at some point in their lives.
2-2. Navigate your social circle with grace after a break-up.
You and your ex may have mutual friends that you both see. Avoid trying to destroy your ex’s friendships with others. You may find that some friends stand by you, while others stand by your ex. And that’s okay.
Avoid trying to get information about your ex’s relationship status through mutual friends.
Resist the urge to bad-mouth or trash talk about your ex. Avoid spreading gossip or half-truths.
Don’t seek dates with your ex’s friends as a way to simply make your ex mad or jealous. Having a genuine interest in your ex’s friends is one thing. Using your ex’s friends for your own agenda is another.
2-3. Accept the loss of your relationship.
A break-up can feel like you're going through grief. If you have been with someone for many years, the end of the relationship can be a shift in your way of life. Like the loss of a friend or family member, when a relationship ends, you may feel like you're losing that person.
Grieving a break-up can go through stages of desperation, denial, bargaining, anger, acceptance and hope. These stages may last a few minutes, days, months, or years, depending on your situation.
It's okay to have different emotions, but avoid acting on emotions of anger and desperation.
Acceptance will take time, but understand that it is possible to find hope and learn to accept this transition.
2-4. Redirect your negative thoughts.
Try to avoid unnecessary reminders that connect your thoughts to your ex. Find things that you love to do that don't involve your ex. Do those things with friends, family, or on your own. Consider these positive ways to redirect your thoughts:
Try new things with friends. Reconnect with people who are not associated with your ex.
Do something relaxing. Take a hike into nature. Go to a spa. Get a massage.
Get active. Exercise at the gym. Take a walk. Ride a bike.
Be creative. Use your time and energy to vent your emotions in a positive way. Draw. Paint. Build. Write.
3. Finding Support
3-1. Practice self-love.
Accept and love yourself for who you are. While all people have faults, avoid dwelling on them in yourself or others. Avoid seeing yourself in a negative light as worthless. Learn to forgive yourself.
Think about three things you love about yourself. Focus on both your personality and your body image.
Use positive affirmations each day. Say to yourself, "I am a whole and worthy individual" or "I love and trust myself."
By loving yourself, you will be better able to move on. You will be less likely to act "crazy" or "psycho," and instead act "caring" and "loving."
3-2. Spend time with friends and family.
Reach out the positive and caring people in your life. Talk with them openly about your feelings and actions. If they have concerns about what you are doing, listen first rather than acting defensive.
Avoid assuming the worst in yourself and others. If you have concerned friends, give them a chance to support you.
Consider meeting with a close friend one-on-one over the phone or in person rather than in large group settings. This may help you to feel more safe and secure when talking about a difficult break-up.
3-3. Find professional help.
If you're going through a difficult breakup, and find yourself still upset, sad, and in pain, seek help. There are many outlets to help you find ways to cope, teach yourself how to move forward and find your own self-confidence. Getting a professional's advice and support will help you to find strength and avoid any bad habits after a break-up.
Talk with a counselor. Find a mental health professional in your community who specializes in break-ups and divorce. There may be options through your health insurance or private pay options. Many counseling centers also offer sliding scale fees.
Join a support group. There are many support groups through counseling centers and places of worship. They may focus on relationships, divorce, depression, or other life transitions.
Seek medical advice. Talk with your healthcare provider if you have severe anxiety or depression for many weeks or months. Be open about your family's mental health and medical history. They may offer medication for any severe symptoms.
3-4. Be open to new love.
Just because a previous relationship did not work out that does not mean all future relationships will fail. Heartache is a part of life, but there is hope. Open your mind and heart to new love. Think about what you can do to change yourself for the better.
No one is perfect. Accept that you have faults, and so do other people. But that does not mean that you can't work towards a happier and healthier relationship for the future.
Be positive that love can grow with time and effort.
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Resist the urge to use social media as a way to vent your heartache. Avoid the need to \\\"overshare\\\" the details of your life on social media.\\nDon't find ways to \\\"stalk\\\" your ex through social media. Treat your ex's social media pages like their home, work, or favorite hang-out spot. Though it may be public, it is their private space at the same time.\\n1-5. Don't manipulate or lie to get what you want.\\nTrust is the key to any healthy relationship. If you break that trust, the relationship has little room to grow. Deception in order to get back with your ex will ultimately be harmful to you and your ex.\\nStop and think about what you're doing and how you're acting. If you're emotionally overwhelmed, take a step back before deceiving someone to feel better.\\nResist temptations to get revenge or \\\"make them suffer\\\" by lying about a situation.\\nAvoid snap decisions that impact other's lives. 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Sharing can help you feel less alone. Everyone has had a loss at some point in their lives.\\n2-2. Navigate your social circle with grace after a break-up.\\nYou and your ex may have mutual friends that you both see. Avoid trying to destroy your ex’s friendships with others. You may find that some friends stand by you, while others stand by your ex. And that’s okay.\\nAvoid trying to get information about your ex’s relationship status through mutual friends.\\nResist the urge to bad-mouth or trash talk about your ex. Avoid spreading gossip or half-truths.\\nDon’t seek dates with your ex’s friends as a way to simply make your ex mad or jealous. Having a genuine interest in your ex’s friends is one thing. Using your ex’s friends for your own agenda is another.\\n2-3. Accept the loss of your relationship.\\nA break-up can feel like you're going through grief. If you have been with someone for many years, the end of the relationship can be a shift in your way of life. Like the loss of a friend or family member, when a relationship ends, you may feel like you're losing that person.\\nGrieving a break-up can go through stages of desperation, denial, bargaining, anger, acceptance and hope. These stages may last a few minutes, days, months, or years, depending on your situation.\\nIt's okay to have different emotions, but avoid acting on emotions of anger and desperation.\\nAcceptance will take time, but understand that it is possible to find hope and learn to accept this transition.\\n2-4. Redirect your negative thoughts.\\nTry to avoid unnecessary reminders that connect your thoughts to your ex. Find things that you love to do that don't involve your ex. Do those things with friends, family, or on your own. Consider these positive ways to redirect your thoughts: \\nTry new things with friends. Reconnect with people who are not associated with your ex.\\nDo something relaxing. Take a hike into nature. Go to a spa. Get a massage.\\nGet active. Exercise at the gym. Take a walk. Ride a bike.\\nBe creative. Use your time and energy to vent your emotions in a positive way. Draw. Paint. Build. Write.\\n3. Finding Support\\n3-1. Practice self-love.\\nAccept and love yourself for who you are. While all people have faults, avoid dwelling on them in yourself or others. Avoid seeing yourself in a negative light as worthless. Learn to forgive yourself.\\nThink about three things you love about yourself. Focus on both your personality and your body image.\\nUse positive affirmations each day. Say to yourself, \\\"I am a whole and worthy individual\\\" or \\\"I love and trust myself.\\\"\\nBy loving yourself, you will be better able to move on. You will be less likely to act \\\"crazy\\\" or \\\"psycho,\\\" and instead act \\\"caring\\\" and \\\"loving.\\\"\\n3-2. Spend time with friends and family.\\nReach out the positive and caring people in your life. Talk with them openly about your feelings and actions. If they have concerns about what you are doing, listen first rather than acting defensive.\\nAvoid assuming the worst in yourself and others. If you have concerned friends, give them a chance to support you.\\nConsider meeting with a close friend one-on-one over the phone or in person rather than in large group settings. This may help you to feel more safe and secure when talking about a difficult break-up.\\n3-3. Find professional help.\\nIf you're going through a difficult breakup, and find yourself still upset, sad, and in pain, seek help. There are many outlets to help you find ways to cope, teach yourself how to move forward and find your own self-confidence. Getting a professional's advice and support will help you to find strength and avoid any bad habits after a break-up.\\nTalk with a counselor. Find a mental health professional in your community who specializes in break-ups and divorce. There may be options through your health insurance or private pay options. Many counseling centers also offer sliding scale fees.\\nJoin a support group. There are many support groups through counseling centers and places of worship. They may focus on relationships, divorce, depression, or other life transitions.\\nSeek medical advice. Talk with your healthcare provider if you have severe anxiety or depression for many weeks or months. Be open about your family's mental health and medical history. They may offer medication for any severe symptoms.\\n3-4. Be open to new love.\\nJust because a previous relationship did not work out that does not mean all future relationships will fail. Heartache is a part of life, but there is hope. Open your mind and heart to new love. Think about what you can do to change yourself for the better.\\nNo one is perfect. Accept that you have faults, and so do other people. But that does not mean that you can't work towards a happier and healthier relationship for the future.\\nBe positive that love can grow with time and effort.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Want to avoid being labeled the \\\"crazy ex-girlfriend\\\" or \\\"psychotic ex-boyfriend\\\"? While these labels are often overused stereotypes, think about the ways to control your hurt, anger, and sadness after a break-up. Breaking up isn't easy, but there are certain ways to keep the peace and move on in a positive way. Learn how to respect your ex's privacy after a relationship ends. Cope with the loss in healthy ways. Find support through those you trust as you learn to handle this change.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Creating Boundaries\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Establish boundaries of communication.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on the nature of the break-up, you and your ex need to establish some ground rules about communication going forward. While you may want to talk or contact them still, listen to what your ex says. If they are ignoring you, they likely do not want to communicate.\\nConsider asking questions to find out what the boundaries are. Ask, \\\"Is it okay if I call or text you?\\\" Listen to what they say or how they respond. Your ex may be ignoring you at this point, which is a passive \\\"no\\\" in these situations.\\nSee if you and your ex wish to remain friends on social media. Ask, \\\"Can we still keep in contact through social media?\\\" If they end up blocking you on social media, this is a sign that they are trying to move on.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn to take “no” for an answer.\", \"描述\": \"After a break-up, some people want to separate themselves from their ex, no matter how wonderful the times were before. If you ask your ex about keeping in touch, and they say “no,” be willing to respect this answer. If you continue to pester them, they may become even more irritated.\\nThe act of saying “no” is not meant to disregard the relationship that you both had. It’s a sign that it's time to move on for both you and your ex.\\nEven if you’re upset with your ex’s actions, learn that he or she is human too. We all have the right to say “no.”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Respect your ex's privacy.\", \"描述\": \"While you may want to talk with them and find out how they're doing, accept that both you and your ex's lives won't simply stop just because your relationship ended. They will continue their lives and you will continue yours. Allow your ex the space and privacy to find their own path after the break-up. \\nInvasion of someone's privacy is both emotionally unsettling and legally violating someone's rights. Each person has a right to their own privacy.\\nOnce your relationship ends, if you continue to go into their home, text them throughout the day, or follow their every move, this is an invasion of privacy if the interactions are unwanted.\\nIf you feel that what you're doing may be wrong, take a step back and find support elsewhere. Don't seek out your ex for support after a break-up.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Avoid sharing sensitive information on social media.\", \"描述\": \"If you have been hurt by your ex, you may want to seek ways to \\\"hurt\\\" them by sharing secrets or sensitive information. By in truth, when you are trying to \\\"get back at\\\" someone, you are simply expressing your pain and rejection in public. This will not make you any better, happier, or stronger. \\nDoing hurtful things to your ex out of spite will likely make you feel worse in the end.\\nProtect your image and yourself in public spaces like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and other social media sites. Resist the urge to use social media as a way to vent your heartache. Avoid the need to \\\"overshare\\\" the details of your life on social media.\\nDon't find ways to \\\"stalk\\\" your ex through social media. Treat your ex's social media pages like their home, work, or favorite hang-out spot. Though it may be public, it is their private space at the same time.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don't manipulate or lie to get what you want.\", \"描述\": \"Trust is the key to any healthy relationship. If you break that trust, the relationship has little room to grow. Deception in order to get back with your ex will ultimately be harmful to you and your ex.\\nStop and think about what you're doing and how you're acting. If you're emotionally overwhelmed, take a step back before deceiving someone to feel better.\\nResist temptations to get revenge or \\\"make them suffer\\\" by lying about a situation.\\nAvoid snap decisions that impact other's lives. 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2,893 | How to Avoid Becoming a Booty Call | 1. Expressing Your Wants
1-1. Ask to spend time together without having sex.
This should make it clear that you want to be more than the booty call. If you've been having sex with someone, but you rarely see each other outside of that, raise the subject of spending time together without sex. Ask the person if they want to go get lunch or dinner, see a movie, or do something else that involves interacting without getting physical.
1-2. Request that they spend the night.
If someone views you as just a booty call, they may leave after sex. If you want to show them you're interested in more, ask them to spend the night at your place.
If they ask to come over after work, say something like, "That would be fun. Do you want to stay over this time?"
There's always a chance the person will decline. This may be a sign to you that it's time to move on.
If someone is unwilling to spend a night with you, they may be more interested in an occasional booty call than a real relationship.
1-3. Let the person know what you want out of relationship.
If someone does not know what you want, they may think you're okay with just being the booty call. After you've seen someone a few times, introduce the issue of what you personally want out of a relationship. If something casual is not your thing, let them know. If they call you up for what seems like a booty call, redirect this.
For example, say you get a text late at night asking if you want to come over.
Respond with something like, "I'd rather do something another time. Are you free for lunch or dinner this week?"
This shows the person you're not interested in just being a booty call and would rather get to know them.
If the person does not respond to the text, they may not be interested in a real relationship.
While it can hurt to have someone disengage with you, you'll be free to find someone interested in a real relationship.
1-4. Express yourself when you feel hurt.
If you find being the booty call hurtful, or feel that you're being used, say so. You're well within your right to express yourself if you're feelings are hurt, especially if you're being led on. If someone continually assures you you're more than just a booty call, but does not treat you accordingly, speak up.
For example, imagine you've made it clear you don't want to be the booty call but they keep calling and texting late at night.
Say, "I've made it really clear this isn't the kind of relationship I want and I feel like you keep violating my boundaries. I'm not okay with this."
2. Setting Boundaries
2-1. Tell the person what behavior is not acceptable.
If you don't want to be a booty call, make as much clear using your words. The second the person does something that makes you suspect you're the booty call, let them know you're not interested in that kind of relationship. In the moment, call the person out to make it clear that's not what you want.
If someone texts you late at night, for example, they may just be hoping for sex.
If you don't appreciate these kinds of texts, respond with something like, "Hey, please don't text me this late. If you want to hang out, we can go out on a date earlier in the day."
If you'd rather get to know them better before having sex and they suggest going back to their place after a date, clarify your boundaries.
Say something like, "I'd rather get to know you a little bit more before we get too physical."
2-2. Do not answer late night calls.
If you want to avoid being the booty call, make your boundaries regarding contact clear. People are likely to text someone late at night with something like, "Want to come over?" if they're looking for a booty call. Either don't respond to these texts or answer with something like, "No thanks. Feeling tired." This makes it clear that you're not interested in that kind of relationship.
2-3. Communicate what works for you.
If someone is violating your boundaries, or sending you unwanted communication, let them know what you'd prefer. After someone does something that crosses a line, tell them how to behave in the future.
If you're just the booty call, the person may prefer to stay in and hang out rather than take you out on dates.
If the person texts you something like, "Want to come over and hang out tonight?" respond by telling them what you'd prefer.
For example, "That sounds fun, but I'd rather go out tonight. Want to see a movie?"
3. Making Choices About the Relationship
3-1. Make plans with the person.
If you want to transition the relationship into something more than a booty call, try making concrete plans. Ask the person out for non-sexual situations. Ask if they want to see a movie, get coffee early in the day, or go out to lunch and dinner. This should give you a chance to see if the relationship can be more than something casual and whether you and the other person are compatible romantically.
For example, send a text saying something like, "Hey, are you free this Friday? I would love to get dinner with you around 5."
3-2. See if they're on the same page.
Relationships come with expectations. You may expect certain things. For example, maybe you don't want to see other people. Maybe you expect a certain amount of daily communication. Not everyone has the same expectations regarding relationships. It's important to see what the other person wants. After spending some one-on-one time with them, it's okay to ask what they want out of a relationship.
For example, say something like, "We've been seeing each other quite a bit lately, so I thought I'd go ahead and ask. What are you looking for out of a relationship?"
Remember that it's better to know. You don't want to waste your time on someone who's not on your wavelength.
3-3. Break things off if someone's stringing you along.
Unfortunately, some people may string someone along with the promise of a relationship. They may assure you they want to get to know you better, but that never seems to happen. They may make dinner plans, but blow you off and text you late at night the following day. If you get the sense you're being used, it's best to walk away. You do not want to waste your time pursuing someone who's not interested in you the way you're interested in them.
You can keep things simple when breaking things off. Say something like, "I think we want different things, so it's clear we should see other people."
3-4. Find someone whose wants match up with yours.
If you don't want to be a booty call, find someone who wants more than just casual sex. It's important to find someone with the same expectations you have regarding a romantic relationship. As you pursue new romances, try to find someone who wants to get to know you and is eager to go out to dinner or see a movie before having sex.
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This may be a sign to you that it's time to move on.\\nIf someone is unwilling to spend a night with you, they may be more interested in an occasional booty call than a real relationship.\\n1-3. Let the person know what you want out of relationship.\\nIf someone does not know what you want, they may think you're okay with just being the booty call. After you've seen someone a few times, introduce the issue of what you personally want out of a relationship. If something casual is not your thing, let them know. If they call you up for what seems like a booty call, redirect this.\\nFor example, say you get a text late at night asking if you want to come over.\\nRespond with something like, \\\"I'd rather do something another time. Are you free for lunch or dinner this week?\\\"\\nThis shows the person you're not interested in just being a booty call and would rather get to know them.\\nIf the person does not respond to the text, they may not be interested in a real relationship.\\nWhile it can hurt to have someone disengage with you, you'll be free to find someone interested in a real relationship.\\n1-4. Express yourself when you feel hurt.\\nIf you find being the booty call hurtful, or feel that you're being used, say so. You're well within your right to express yourself if you're feelings are hurt, especially if you're being led on. If someone continually assures you you're more than just a booty call, but does not treat you accordingly, speak up.\\nFor example, imagine you've made it clear you don't want to be the booty call but they keep calling and texting late at night.\\nSay, \\\"I've made it really clear this isn't the kind of relationship I want and I feel like you keep violating my boundaries. I'm not okay with this.\\\"\\n2. Setting Boundaries\\n2-1. Tell the person what behavior is not acceptable.\\nIf you don't want to be a booty call, make as much clear using your words. The second the person does something that makes you suspect you're the booty call, let them know you're not interested in that kind of relationship. In the moment, call the person out to make it clear that's not what you want.\\nIf someone texts you late at night, for example, they may just be hoping for sex.\\nIf you don't appreciate these kinds of texts, respond with something like, \\\"Hey, please don't text me this late. If you want to hang out, we can go out on a date earlier in the day.\\\"\\nIf you'd rather get to know them better before having sex and they suggest going back to their place after a date, clarify your boundaries.\\nSay something like, \\\"I'd rather get to know you a little bit more before we get too physical.\\\"\\n2-2. Do not answer late night calls.\\nIf you want to avoid being the booty call, make your boundaries regarding contact clear. People are likely to text someone late at night with something like, \\\"Want to come over?\\\" if they're looking for a booty call. Either don't respond to these texts or answer with something like, \\\"No thanks. Feeling tired.\\\" This makes it clear that you're not interested in that kind of relationship.\\n2-3. Communicate what works for you.\\nIf someone is violating your boundaries, or sending you unwanted communication, let them know what you'd prefer. After someone does something that crosses a line, tell them how to behave in the future.\\nIf you're just the booty call, the person may prefer to stay in and hang out rather than take you out on dates.\\nIf the person texts you something like, \\\"Want to come over and hang out tonight?\\\" respond by telling them what you'd prefer.\\nFor example, \\\"That sounds fun, but I'd rather go out tonight. Want to see a movie?\\\"\\n3. Making Choices About the Relationship\\n3-1. Make plans with the person.\\nIf you want to transition the relationship into something more than a booty call, try making concrete plans. Ask the person out for non-sexual situations. Ask if they want to see a movie, get coffee early in the day, or go out to lunch and dinner. This should give you a chance to see if the relationship can be more than something casual and whether you and the other person are compatible romantically.\\nFor example, send a text saying something like, \\\"Hey, are you free this Friday? I would love to get dinner with you around 5.\\\"\\n3-2. See if they're on the same page.\\nRelationships come with expectations. You may expect certain things. For example, maybe you don't want to see other people. Maybe you expect a certain amount of daily communication. Not everyone has the same expectations regarding relationships. It's important to see what the other person wants. After spending some one-on-one time with them, it's okay to ask what they want out of a relationship.\\nFor example, say something like, \\\"We've been seeing each other quite a bit lately, so I thought I'd go ahead and ask. What are you looking for out of a relationship?\\\"\\nRemember that it's better to know. You don't want to waste your time on someone who's not on your wavelength.\\n3-3. Break things off if someone's stringing you along.\\nUnfortunately, some people may string someone along with the promise of a relationship. They may assure you they want to get to know you better, but that never seems to happen. They may make dinner plans, but blow you off and text you late at night the following day. If you get the sense you're being used, it's best to walk away. You do not want to waste your time pursuing someone who's not interested in you the way you're interested in them.\\nYou can keep things simple when breaking things off. Say something like, \\\"I think we want different things, so it's clear we should see other people.\\\"\\n3-4. Find someone whose wants match up with yours.\\nIf you don't want to be a booty call, find someone who wants more than just casual sex. It's important to find someone with the same expectations you have regarding a romantic relationship. As you pursue new romances, try to find someone who wants to get to know you and is eager to go out to dinner or see a movie before having sex.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Sometimes, you may feel a partner is using you for sex. If you'd rather have a serious romantic relationship, there are ways to avoid being the booty call. Express your wants and make it clear you're looking for something more serious. Set boundaries regarding sex and personal contact. Figure out whether the relationship is worth pursuing further. 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Do you want to stay over this time?\\\"\\nThere's always a chance the person will decline. This may be a sign to you that it's time to move on.\\nIf someone is unwilling to spend a night with you, they may be more interested in an occasional booty call than a real relationship.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Let the person know what you want out of relationship.\", \"描述\": \"If someone does not know what you want, they may think you're okay with just being the booty call. After you've seen someone a few times, introduce the issue of what you personally want out of a relationship. If something casual is not your thing, let them know. If they call you up for what seems like a booty call, redirect this.\\nFor example, say you get a text late at night asking if you want to come over.\\nRespond with something like, \\\"I'd rather do something another time. Are you free for lunch or dinner this week?\\\"\\nThis shows the person you're not interested in just being a booty call and would rather get to know them.\\nIf the person does not respond to the text, they may not be interested in a real relationship.\\nWhile it can hurt to have someone disengage with you, you'll be free to find someone interested in a real relationship.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Express yourself when you feel hurt.\", \"描述\": \"If you find being the booty call hurtful, or feel that you're being used, say so. You're well within your right to express yourself if you're feelings are hurt, especially if you're being led on. If someone continually assures you you're more than just a booty call, but does not treat you accordingly, speak up.\\nFor example, imagine you've made it clear you don't want to be the booty call but they keep calling and texting late at night.\\nSay, \\\"I've made it really clear this isn't the kind of relationship I want and I feel like you keep violating my boundaries. I'm not okay with this.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Setting Boundaries\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Tell the person what behavior is not acceptable.\", \"描述\": \"If you don't want to be a booty call, make as much clear using your words. The second the person does something that makes you suspect you're the booty call, let them know you're not interested in that kind of relationship. In the moment, call the person out to make it clear that's not what you want.\\nIf someone texts you late at night, for example, they may just be hoping for sex.\\nIf you don't appreciate these kinds of texts, respond with something like, \\\"Hey, please don't text me this late. If you want to hang out, we can go out on a date earlier in the day.\\\"\\nIf you'd rather get to know them better before having sex and they suggest going back to their place after a date, clarify your boundaries.\\nSay something like, \\\"I'd rather get to know you a little bit more before we get too physical.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Do not answer late night calls.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to avoid being the booty call, make your boundaries regarding contact clear. People are likely to text someone late at night with something like, \\\"Want to come over?\\\" if they're looking for a booty call. Either don't respond to these texts or answer with something like, \\\"No thanks. 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2,894 | How to Avoid Becoming a Criminal | 1. Turning Your Life Around
1-1. Avoid criminals.
Unfortunately, the more you associate with criminals, the more likely you are to commit crime. Try not to fall in with a bad crowd, such as gangs. It will be easier to live a clean life when you surround yourself with people who are living the same.
Meet people at churches, schools, or at community centers. It may be difficult to introduce yourself to a new set of people, but the hardest step is the first.
You can meet people online. But it is best to develop “real life” relationships. A network of good friends can provide emotional support during stressful times in your life.
1-2. Deal with peer pressure
People you know might pressure you to commit crime with them. It's important to stand your ground and refuse to participate. This can be difficult. However, you can plan ahead of time for how you can deflect the pressure.
Casually say, “Nah, I don't want to” or “You know, I've got to go.” Keep your voice level but speak clearly. If they won't stop bothering you, walk away.
If you can't leave, quickly change the subject. Say, “Hey, let's play a video game instead” or mention another activity you think your peers might be interested in.
Make sure to avoid these people in the future.
1-3. Complete your education.
The best way to avoid crime is to set healthy goals for yourself and to work toward them. Increasing your education should be a high priority. If you haven't earned a diploma, you should return to school.
In the U.S., you can earn a GED (General Equivalency Development) diploma by taking a series of tests. The tests cover reading, math, writing, science, and social studies.
Also consider getting more education past high school. For example, people with an associate degree in the U.S. earn about $500,000 more over the course of their lives than people with only a high school diploma.
1-4. Get a job
A good way to avoid crime and gangs is to find a job. You might find it difficult to work if you don't have your high school diploma, which is why you should make completing your education a top priority.
There are many resources for people seeking employment. In the U.S., your state should have a job bank you can search. You can find links to state job banks here: http://www.careeronestop.org/JobSearch/FindJobs/state-job-banks.aspx.
If you are 16-24 and trying to enter the job market, you can visit the GetMyFuture website. It has information on writing resumes, finding jobs, and finishing your education. They also have information on addiction recovery and finding financial help.
Remember that your first job is not your last job. Instead, it is an opportunity to build skills and show future employers that you are responsible and reliable. Any work is important enough to do well, so maintain a positive attitude.
1-5. Fix your finances.
You might be tempted to commit a crime because of financial difficulties. It is very easy to steal money from people when you are feeling financial stress. You might convince yourself that you'll return the money once you get back on your feet. But stealing is always wrong.
Assess your financial situation. Figure out why you are financially stressed. Are you overspending? Have you suffered a bout of unemployment? You can't tackle your financial difficulties until you identify the root cause.
Make a budget. If you overspend, identify the reasons why. Some expenses are fixed, such as insurance and rent. But you can cut other inessentials, like Netflix or meals out.
File for bankruptcy. You can get rid of unsecured debts like credit cards, payday loans, and medical debt through bankruptcy. It isn't an ideal solution, but it is better than turning to a life of crime.
1-6. Control your anger
Many people commit violent crimes because they can't control their anger. Anger is normal. However, acting violently because you are angry is not. Seek out anger management courses or learn other methods for living productively with anger.
You can meet with a licensed mental health professional to learn how to manage your anger. If money is tight, talk to a school guidance counselor or stop into a public health clinic and ask what resources are available.
If you can't afford counseling, you should adopt different strategies for handling your anger. Practice relaxation by breathing deeply and repeating calming words or visualizing relaxing images.
Also use different language when you talk to yourself. Avoid “always” and “never.” Instead, focus on how your problems are challenges to overcome. For example, you can think, “This sucks. But getting angry won't help me solve this problem. And I can solve it if I take some time to think this through.”
1-7. Seek treatment for substance abuse
Almost 80% of all crimes involve drugs and alcohol. When you are drunk or high, you lose the ability to think rationally and may engage in risky behavior that can harm yourself and others. Accordingly, you should seek treatment.
You can find help for addiction by talking to a doctor.
In the U.S., you can also call 1-800-662-4357. Or you can look for treatment centers online at: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/.
2. Getting Help as an At-Risk Youth
2-1. Identify at-risk youth.
Very few children will grow up to join gangs or become criminals. However, there are common red flags you should be aware of. For example, risk factors for violence at age 15 include the following:
substance use before age 12
general criminal offenses, including non-violent offenses such as extortion or burglary
physical aggressiveness
parents who are criminals
poor school performance
isolation from other children, including being victimized by them
2-2. Intervene in bad family situations.
It's no secret that an unstable home life can contribute to anti-social behavior. Families can be wracked by violence or by emotional abuse, which can affect you even if you are not directly abused. Spend some time thinking about how you can change the situation.
For example, you can intervene in physical violence by reporting the abuse to the police. You can also help a parent by sharing with them information about how to leave a domestic partner. Share literature from a domestic violence shelter or the phone number to a helpline. Remember not to confront an abusive person directly. Instead, encourage the abused parent to leave.
Often, people in emotionally-abusive relationships do not benefit from commands to leave their abusive partners. Avoid statements that begin with “You must” or “You should.” Because emotional abuse is often linked with substance abuse, you can instead educate about the benefits of treatment and provide information.
2-3. Find mentorship opportunities for youth.
Mentoring has been shown to improve self-esteem and academic performance while reducing substance abuse, aggression, and delinquency. You should look for a mentor by finding a nearby program.
Search online for mentoring programs. Some states will have lists of mentors available. For example, Mass Mentoring provides a list of mentoring programs in Massachusetts.
Your city or county government might also coordinate youth mentoring. Stop in and ask.
Talk with your pastor, doctor, or your school's guidance counselor and ask if they know of mentoring programs nearby.
2-4. Seek out diversion programs.
When teens commit crime, pre-trial diversion or intervention is often available. These programs direct youth away from the formal criminal justice system toward treatment or community-based support. Participating in a diversion program can keep you out of jail and allow you to obtain needed skills.
For example, a diversion program might provide mental health treatment, crisis intervention, and family counseling.
You can also obtain educational services, tutoring, and job training skills.
Talk to your lawyer or your parents about whether diversion programs are available.
3. Refusing to Become a Criminal Accessory
3-1. Identify how you can become an accessory to a crime.
When you help a criminal, you can generally be convicted of the same offense. Accordingly, you should realize how you can become a criminal accessory. Although each state and nation's laws are different, the following elements typically apply:
A person committed a felony, such as murder, rape, robbery, burglary, etc. This person is called the “principal.”
You hid or otherwise aided the principal.
You knew the principal had committed the felony (or been charged) when you helped them.
You helped the principal with the intent of helping them avoid arrest.
3-2. Don't hide a criminal.
You clearly are an accessory when you hide a criminal after the commission of the crime. Accordingly, don't let someone into your house if you know they have a warrant out for their arrest.
“Hiding” encompasses a wide range of behavior. It isn't limited to driving the criminal to a different state or country. Instead, letting someone sleep in your home for the night can qualify as “hiding.”
3-3. Avoid handling suspected stolen goods.
If someone stole goods, you can become an accessory by handling or hiding them. Remember to ask someone where they got their goods, especially when they are expensive goods like televisions, computers, or jewelry.
Use skepticism. If someone without much money asks you to store a giant HD television, ask where it came from.
Unless you are 100% sure the goods are legitimate, refuse to store them. Say, “We don't have the space. I'm sorry.”
3-4. Decline to hide instruments used in a crime.
You also can become an accessory by destroying or hiding evidence of a crime. This evidence includes weapons or even communications.
For example, someone might have stolen from your boss by fudging certain sales figures. If you destroy the figures or change them, you could be guilty of “obstruction of justice."
3-5. Don't give a criminal money.
Giving a principal money also makes you an accessory, because the principal can use the money to buy a plane ticket or a hotel room to hide in.
Also avoid letting them borrow property, such as your car. A principal could use it to flee.
3-6. Avoid sharing helpful information with criminals.
You can be charged as an accessory when you provide a criminal information that allows them to evade the police. For example, you might call and tell a criminal that the police have been searching for them. This tip could make you criminally liable as an accessory.
Don't talk to anyone who you know has an arrest warrant out for them. Also avoid anyone you suspect has engaged in criminal conduct.
If you do talk to them, you should encourage them to surrender to the police.
3-7. Answer police questions honestly.
If you lie to the police, you are also committing a crime. Accordingly, always tell the truth when answering police questions about criminal activity. Remember that honesty is your best policy.
Give the police any information that will help them find and arrest a criminal, including information about where the criminal is located.
If you actually did help a criminal escape, then refuse to talk to the police and call a criminal defense attorney instead.
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Instead, encourage the abused parent to leave.\\nOften, people in emotionally-abusive relationships do not benefit from commands to leave their abusive partners. Avoid statements that begin with “You must” or “You should.” Because emotional abuse is often linked with substance abuse, you can instead educate about the benefits of treatment and provide information.\\n2-3. Find mentorship opportunities for youth.\\nMentoring has been shown to improve self-esteem and academic performance while reducing substance abuse, aggression, and delinquency. You should look for a mentor by finding a nearby program.\\nSearch online for mentoring programs. Some states will have lists of mentors available. For example, Mass Mentoring provides a list of mentoring programs in Massachusetts.\\nYour city or county government might also coordinate youth mentoring. Stop in and ask.\\nTalk with your pastor, doctor, or your school's guidance counselor and ask if they know of mentoring programs nearby.\\n2-4. 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Remember to ask someone where they got their goods, especially when they are expensive goods like televisions, computers, or jewelry.\\nUse skepticism. If someone without much money asks you to store a giant HD television, ask where it came from.\\nUnless you are 100% sure the goods are legitimate, refuse to store them. Say, “We don't have the space. I'm sorry.”\\n3-4. Decline to hide instruments used in a crime.\\nYou also can become an accessory by destroying or hiding evidence of a crime. This evidence includes weapons or even communications.\\nFor example, someone might have stolen from your boss by fudging certain sales figures. If you destroy the figures or change them, you could be guilty of “obstruction of justice.\\\"\\n3-5. Don't give a criminal money.\\nGiving a principal money also makes you an accessory, because the principal can use the money to buy a plane ticket or a hotel room to hide in. \\nAlso avoid letting them borrow property, such as your car. 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Remember that honesty is your best policy.\\nGive the police any information that will help them find and arrest a criminal, including information about where the criminal is located.\\nIf you actually did help a criminal escape, then refuse to talk to the police and call a criminal defense attorney instead.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Many people are tempted to commit crimes. You might not have a job, or you might be in financial trouble and feel stealing is the solution. In some situations, other criminals (like gang members) are your only family, so you fall into the lifestyle. However, there are steps you can take to avoid becoming a criminal. You should complete your education and find employment, addressing any financial or substance abuse issues along the way. If you are a teen, you can try to find a mentor and take other steps. Furthermore, you should avoid becoming an accessory to a crime by aiding or abetting criminal behavior.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Turning Your Life Around\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Avoid criminals.\", \"描述\": \"Unfortunately, the more you associate with criminals, the more likely you are to commit crime. Try not to fall in with a bad crowd, such as gangs. It will be easier to live a clean life when you surround yourself with people who are living the same.\\nMeet people at churches, schools, or at community centers. It may be difficult to introduce yourself to a new set of people, but the hardest step is the first.\\nYou can meet people online. But it is best to develop “real life” relationships. A network of good friends can provide emotional support during stressful times in your life.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Deal with peer pressure\", \"描述\": \"People you know might pressure you to commit crime with them. It's important to stand your ground and refuse to participate. This can be difficult. However, you can plan ahead of time for how you can deflect the pressure.\\nCasually say, “Nah, I don't want to” or “You know, I've got to go.” Keep your voice level but speak clearly. If they won't stop bothering you, walk away.\\nIf you can't leave, quickly change the subject. Say, “Hey, let's play a video game instead” or mention another activity you think your peers might be interested in.\\nMake sure to avoid these people in the future.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Complete your education.\", \"描述\": \"The best way to avoid crime is to set healthy goals for yourself and to work toward them. Increasing your education should be a high priority. If you haven't earned a diploma, you should return to school.\\nIn the U.S., you can earn a GED (General Equivalency Development) diploma by taking a series of tests. The tests cover reading, math, writing, science, and social studies.\\nAlso consider getting more education past high school. For example, people with an associate degree in the U.S. earn about $500,000 more over the course of their lives than people with only a high school diploma.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get a job\", \"描述\": \"A good way to avoid crime and gangs is to find a job. You might find it difficult to work if you don't have your high school diploma, which is why you should make completing your education a top priority.\\nThere are many resources for people seeking employment. In the U.S., your state should have a job bank you can search. You can find links to state job banks here: http://www.careeronestop.org/JobSearch/FindJobs/state-job-banks.aspx.\\nIf you are 16-24 and trying to enter the job market, you can visit the GetMyFuture website. It has information on writing resumes, finding jobs, and finishing your education. They also have information on addiction recovery and finding financial help.\\nRemember that your first job is not your last job. Instead, it is an opportunity to build skills and show future employers that you are responsible and reliable. Any work is important enough to do well, so maintain a positive attitude.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Fix your finances.\", \"描述\": \"You might be tempted to commit a crime because of financial difficulties. It is very easy to steal money from people when you are feeling financial stress. You might convince yourself that you'll return the money once you get back on your feet. But stealing is always wrong.\\nAssess your financial situation. Figure out why you are financially stressed. Are you overspending? Have you suffered a bout of unemployment? You can't tackle your financial difficulties until you identify the root cause.\\nMake a budget. If you overspend, identify the reasons why. Some expenses are fixed, such as insurance and rent. But you can cut other inessentials, like Netflix or meals out.\\nFile for bankruptcy. You can get rid of unsecured debts like credit cards, payday loans, and medical debt through bankruptcy. It isn't an ideal solution, but it is better than turning to a life of crime.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Control your anger\", \"描述\": \"Many people commit violent crimes because they can't control their anger. Anger is normal. However, acting violently because you are angry is not. Seek out anger management courses or learn other methods for living productively with anger.\\nYou can meet with a licensed mental health professional to learn how to manage your anger. If money is tight, talk to a school guidance counselor or stop into a public health clinic and ask what resources are available.\\nIf you can't afford counseling, you should adopt different strategies for handling your anger. Practice relaxation by breathing deeply and repeating calming words or visualizing relaxing images.\\nAlso use different language when you talk to yourself. Avoid “always” and “never.” Instead, focus on how your problems are challenges to overcome. For example, you can think, “This sucks. But getting angry won't help me solve this problem. And I can solve it if I take some time to think this through.”\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Seek treatment for substance abuse\", \"描述\": \"Almost 80% of all crimes involve drugs and alcohol. When you are drunk or high, you lose the ability to think rationally and may engage in risky behavior that can harm yourself and others. Accordingly, you should seek treatment.\\nYou can find help for addiction by talking to a doctor.\\nIn the U.S., you can also call 1-800-662-4357. Or you can look for treatment centers online at: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting Help as an At-Risk Youth\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Identify at-risk youth.\", \"描述\": \"Very few children will grow up to join gangs or become criminals. However, there are common red flags you should be aware of. For example, risk factors for violence at age 15 include the following:\\nsubstance use before age 12\\ngeneral criminal offenses, including non-violent offenses such as extortion or burglary\\nphysical aggressiveness\\nparents who are criminals\\npoor school performance\\nisolation from other children, including being victimized by them\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Intervene in bad family situations.\", \"描述\": \"It's no secret that an unstable home life can contribute to anti-social behavior. Families can be wracked by violence or by emotional abuse, which can affect you even if you are not directly abused. Spend some time thinking about how you can change the situation.\\nFor example, you can intervene in physical violence by reporting the abuse to the police. You can also help a parent by sharing with them information about how to leave a domestic partner. Share literature from a domestic violence shelter or the phone number to a helpline. Remember not to confront an abusive person directly. Instead, encourage the abused parent to leave.\\nOften, people in emotionally-abusive relationships do not benefit from commands to leave their abusive partners. Avoid statements that begin with “You must” or “You should.” Because emotional abuse is often linked with substance abuse, you can instead educate about the benefits of treatment and provide information.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find mentorship opportunities for youth.\", \"描述\": \"Mentoring has been shown to improve self-esteem and academic performance while reducing substance abuse, aggression, and delinquency. You should look for a mentor by finding a nearby program.\\nSearch online for mentoring programs. Some states will have lists of mentors available. For example, Mass Mentoring provides a list of mentoring programs in Massachusetts.\\nYour city or county government might also coordinate youth mentoring. Stop in and ask.\\nTalk with your pastor, doctor, or your school's guidance counselor and ask if they know of mentoring programs nearby.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Seek out diversion programs.\", \"描述\": \"When teens commit crime, pre-trial diversion or intervention is often available. These programs direct youth away from the formal criminal justice system toward treatment or community-based support. Participating in a diversion program can keep you out of jail and allow you to obtain needed skills.\\nFor example, a diversion program might provide mental health treatment, crisis intervention, and family counseling.\\nYou can also obtain educational services, tutoring, and job training skills.\\nTalk to your lawyer or your parents about whether diversion programs are available.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Refusing to Become a Criminal Accessory\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Identify how you can become an accessory to a crime.\", \"描述\": \"When you help a criminal, you can generally be convicted of the same offense. Accordingly, you should realize how you can become a criminal accessory. Although each state and nation's laws are different, the following elements typically apply:\\nA person committed a felony, such as murder, rape, robbery, burglary, etc. This person is called the “principal.”\\nYou hid or otherwise aided the principal.\\nYou knew the principal had committed the felony (or been charged) when you helped them.\\nYou helped the principal with the intent of helping them avoid arrest.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't hide a criminal.\", \"描述\": \"You clearly are an accessory when you hide a criminal after the commission of the crime. Accordingly, don't let someone into your house if you know they have a warrant out for their arrest.\\n“Hiding” encompasses a wide range of behavior. It isn't limited to driving the criminal to a different state or country. Instead, letting someone sleep in your home for the night can qualify as “hiding.”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoid handling suspected stolen goods.\", \"描述\": \"If someone stole goods, you can become an accessory by handling or hiding them. Remember to ask someone where they got their goods, especially when they are expensive goods like televisions, computers, or jewelry.\\nUse skepticism. If someone without much money asks you to store a giant HD television, ask where it came from.\\nUnless you are 100% sure the goods are legitimate, refuse to store them. Say, “We don't have the space. I'm sorry.”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Decline to hide instruments used in a crime.\", \"描述\": \"You also can become an accessory by destroying or hiding evidence of a crime. This evidence includes weapons or even communications.\\nFor example, someone might have stolen from your boss by fudging certain sales figures. If you destroy the figures or change them, you could be guilty of “obstruction of justice.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don't give a criminal money.\", \"描述\": \"Giving a principal money also makes you an accessory, because the principal can use the money to buy a plane ticket or a hotel room to hide in. \\nAlso avoid letting them borrow property, such as your car. A principal could use it to flee.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Avoid sharing helpful information with criminals.\", \"描述\": \"You can be charged as an accessory when you provide a criminal information that allows them to evade the police. For example, you might call and tell a criminal that the police have been searching for them. This tip could make you criminally liable as an accessory.\\nDon't talk to anyone who you know has an arrest warrant out for them. Also avoid anyone you suspect has engaged in criminal conduct.\\nIf you do talk to them, you should encourage them to surrender to the police.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Answer police questions honestly.\", \"描述\": \"If you lie to the police, you are also committing a crime. Accordingly, always tell the truth when answering police questions about criminal activity. Remember that honesty is your best policy.\\nGive the police any information that will help them find and arrest a criminal, including information about where the criminal is located.\\nIf you actually did help a criminal escape, then refuse to talk to the police and call a criminal defense attorney instead.\"}]}]}}",
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2,895 | How to Avoid Becoming a Script Kiddie | 1. Steps
1-1. Learn a programming language in-depth.
Hackers commonly prefer Python, C or C++, though the language is up to you. Try to avoid languages with bad reputations like Visual Basic. Batch or VBScript are not technically programming languages, they are shell scripts. Shell scripts have many limitations when compared to fully featured programming languages. .
1-2. Understand the underlying concepts of how operating systems function (i.e.
the Kernel), you will require an in-depth understanding of how both the Windows and Linux operating systems work.
1-3. Don't threaten to hack people that anger you.
It makes you seem petty and immature. Go for logical debates instead of just attempting to destroy someone. Even if you don't 'win' the argument, you will come out looking mature.
1-4. Don't self-promote.
This goes for any kind of hobby or job. Even if you're good at what you do, don't constantly tell everyone how skilled you are at programming in Assembly language, or your grasp of how a buffer overflow is achieved.
1-5. Don't fall into the lure of the black-hat hacking community, also known as "malicious hackers".
They hack primarily for their own selfish gain, to inflict pain into people's lives, and for self-entertainment. Not only is it illegal to hack people's computers, but if you are caught you could do some jail time and you will find it next to impossible to attain a job with any kind of contact with computers. Companies do not want someone who has a history of hacking with malicious intent (think about it, why would a computer company employ a hacker who may hack them?). Use your skills to help people, there are so many really awesome jobs for ethical hackers.
1-6. Resist the urge to use tools without understanding the concepts.
Hacking tools can be great help in the process, but most tools are investigated by the companies they exploit, and therefore they don't usually work for long. If you understand the underlying concepts of programs and the operating systems, then with this knowledge, you can create your own exploits.
1-7. Widen your interests, and keep an active social life.
This isn't really related to script kiddies, but hackers in general often become so absorbed with their various projects on the computers, that they ignore their friends, or simply don't make friends.
Tips
Many hackers favor the GNU General Public License when they release programs on the net. It's best to familiarize yourself with this license.
Learn how to use Tor and virtual private networks to gain an extra level of anonymity.
Warnings
Despite the advantages of UNIX-based operating systems (Mac OS X, Linux etc.), don't constantly shout praise for them and put down Windows (it's immature and shallow). Be reasonable in your arguments and remember - knowing your way around all major operating systems is key to becoming a real hacker.
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Even if you're good at what you do, don't constantly tell everyone how skilled you are at programming in Assembly language, or your grasp of how a buffer overflow is achieved.\\n1-5. Don't fall into the lure of the black-hat hacking community, also known as \\\"malicious hackers\\\".\\nThey hack primarily for their own selfish gain, to inflict pain into people's lives, and for self-entertainment. Not only is it illegal to hack people's computers, but if you are caught you could do some jail time and you will find it next to impossible to attain a job with any kind of contact with computers. Companies do not want someone who has a history of hacking with malicious intent (think about it, why would a computer company employ a hacker who may hack them?). Use your skills to help people, there are so many really awesome jobs for ethical hackers.\\n1-6. Resist the urge to use tools without understanding the concepts.\\nHacking tools can be great help in the process, but most tools are investigated by the companies they exploit, and therefore they don't usually work for long. If you understand the underlying concepts of programs and the operating systems, then with this knowledge, you can create your own exploits.\\n1-7. Widen your interests, and keep an active social life.\\nThis isn't really related to script kiddies, but hackers in general often become so absorbed with their various projects on the computers, that they ignore their friends, or simply don't make friends.\\nTips\\nMany hackers favor the GNU General Public License when they release programs on the net. It's best to familiarize yourself with this license.\\nLearn how to use Tor and virtual private networks to gain an extra level of anonymity.\\nWarnings\\nDespite the advantages of UNIX-based operating systems (Mac OS X, Linux etc.), don't constantly shout praise for them and put down Windows (it's immature and shallow). Be reasonable in your arguments and remember - knowing your way around all major operating systems is key to becoming a real hacker.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A script kiddie is someone who knows basic information about the operation of computer systems, but lacks the knowledge or desire to discover and exploit/patch security holes without the use of tools written by better hackers. Script kiddies usually just use tools that abstract the underlying concepts of computer security.\\n\\nScript kiddies are widely considered to be immature, very lazy, and are definitely not hackers. Being a script kiddie will not gain any recognition in the hacker community.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn a programming language in-depth.\", \"描述\": \"Hackers commonly prefer Python, C or C++, though the language is up to you. Try to avoid languages with bad reputations like Visual Basic. Batch or VBScript are not technically programming languages, they are shell scripts. Shell scripts have many limitations when compared to fully featured programming languages. .\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Understand the underlying concepts of how operating systems function (i.e.\", \"描述\": \"the Kernel), you will require an in-depth understanding of how both the Windows and Linux operating systems work.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don't threaten to hack people that anger you.\", \"描述\": \"It makes you seem petty and immature. Go for logical debates instead of just attempting to destroy someone. Even if you don't 'win' the argument, you will come out looking mature.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't self-promote.\", \"描述\": \"This goes for any kind of hobby or job. Even if you're good at what you do, don't constantly tell everyone how skilled you are at programming in Assembly language, or your grasp of how a buffer overflow is achieved.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don't fall into the lure of the black-hat hacking community, also known as \\\"malicious hackers\\\".\", \"描述\": \"They hack primarily for their own selfish gain, to inflict pain into people's lives, and for self-entertainment. Not only is it illegal to hack people's computers, but if you are caught you could do some jail time and you will find it next to impossible to attain a job with any kind of contact with computers. Companies do not want someone who has a history of hacking with malicious intent (think about it, why would a computer company employ a hacker who may hack them?). Use your skills to help people, there are so many really awesome jobs for ethical hackers.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Resist the urge to use tools without understanding the concepts.\", \"描述\": \"Hacking tools can be great help in the process, but most tools are investigated by the companies they exploit, and therefore they don't usually work for long. If you understand the underlying concepts of programs and the operating systems, then with this knowledge, you can create your own exploits.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Widen your interests, and keep an active social life.\", \"描述\": \"This isn't really related to script kiddies, but hackers in general often become so absorbed with their various projects on the computers, that they ignore their friends, or simply don't make friends.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Many hackers favor the GNU General Public License when they release programs on the net. It's best to familiarize yourself with this license.\\n\", \"Learn how to use Tor and virtual private networks to gain an extra level of anonymity.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Despite the advantages of UNIX-based operating systems (Mac OS X, Linux etc.), don't constantly shout praise for them and put down Windows (it's immature and shallow). Be reasonable in your arguments and remember - knowing your way around all major operating systems is key to becoming a real hacker.\\n\"]}]}}",
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2,896 | How to Avoid Becoming a Snob | 1. Being Humble
1-1. Don’t brag about your possessions or achievements.
Make comments and start conversations around topics and ideas that interest you, rather than objects and possessions. It’s not a bad thing to share your excitement for things, but be mindful about spending too much of your time talking about material items.
Set goals for yourself that are meaningful rather than goals that you hope will help get you more attention.
Start conversations that others can join in and share their input instead of stating facts and opinions. A good way to encourage a two-way conversation is to ask open-ended questions and bring up broad topics.
1-2. Avoid making backhanded comments.
The old saying goes, “If you don’t have something nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.” Put yourself in the shoes of the person you’re speaking with and think about how a backhanded comment makes you feel.
Notice the good features of others and make comments about those positive things. Switch out statements like “That sweater looks expensive for your taste” with “That sweater makes you look like a million bucks!”
If you feel yourself about to blurt out a backhanded comment, take two to three deep breaths first. It calms your fight or flight reaction and can help to clear the mind. Thinking clearly is key to speaking with clarity and kindness.
1-3. Don’t judge people by the way they look and act.
If you frequently judge other people, then it is likely that you are also judging yourself. It is important to become mindful of this because self-judgment may manifest as low-self-confidence and judgment of other people. Understand that everyone walks around with different kinds of baggage, different experiences and a different upbringing. Look past the exterior to try to get to know someone’s personality and learn from them.
Get out of your comfort zone and talk with someone outside of your normal circle. Attend a networking event or go to a cafe that interests you, but isn’t something you would normally attend. Sign up for a knitting class or learn to code if it’s something you’ve always wanted to try.
Find common traits among yourself and people who look, dress or act differently.
Start up a conversation with a simple statement or question. Comments like “Doesn’t the city look beautiful from this side of the park?” or “I love exploring new places to get coffee, what’s your favorite?”
1-4. Refrain from acting superior.
Feeling jealous or comparing yourself to other people frequently may indicate a sense of personal lack, which you might try to compensate for by acting superior. Purchase items and gain knowledge of topics only if you truly enjoy them. Understand that not everyone has the same interests, wants and needs in life.
Share knowledge and information with others only if you know they have a genuine interest as well.
Avoid the urge to one-up someone else in a conversation.
Don’t devalue the way others live or the way they feel.
Enjoy the differences between yourself and those around you, instead of comparing interests, material possessions and money.
2. Changing the Way You Communicate
2-1. Show genuine interest in what other people say.
It is important to be a good listener and to show people that you genuinely care about what they have to say. Pay close attention when other people are talking and ask them leading questions to find out more about the things they say or to have them clarify. This will let them know that you are paying attention and are interested.
Try asking something like, “Your trip to Florida sounds really nice! What else did you do while you were there?”
2-2. Don’t be pushy about your opinions.
It’s not a bad thing to share the way you think or feel about a certain topic, but it isn’t good if you’re not open to others having a different opinion.
If someone disagrees with a statement you’ve made, genuinely ask them to share why.
Show an interest in another point of view and open your mind to other perspectives.
Don’t view your opinions as facts.
2-3. Don’t monopolize a conversation.
Notice if you’ve been chatting nonstop and provide an opening for someone else to voice their thoughts.
Don’t cut others off in the middle of a sentence to ensure you get your point across. If it’s important enough to the conversation, wait for a pause.
Ask other people questions about how they feel and view a situation.
Notice others’ body language and whether they seem engaged or disinterested.
Try not to talk just for the sake of talking. If you feel like you are, say something like “I feel like I’ve been talking so much, tell me about your life.”
2-4. Talk with inclusive language.
Avoid saying statements in absolutes, especially when meeting new people as they can make others feel inadequate if that’s not they way they think, feel or act.
Notice if you say statements that start with something like ‘you should always’ and urge yourself to shift your language to something like ‘I believe’ or ‘in my experience.’
Tell yourself that everyone comes from a different background with different experiences and resources.
Keep an open mind during new experiences and inquire more information if someone shares a differing opinion.
2-5. Educate yourself on diverse topics.
Reach outside of your comfort zone and learn about a new culture, sport or hobby. Being a beginner can keep you humble about your knowledge and experience.
Learn about something new regularly. Make a goal to read about a new topic or do something you’ve never done on a monthly, weekly or even daily basis.
Ask experts on the topic, whether you personally know them or can connect with them virtually.
Keep in mind that it is perfectly okay to say “I don’t know.” Avoid pretending that you know about a subject if you don’t. Just be honest about what you know and don’t know.
2-6. Avoid giving unsolicited advice.
Catch yourself if you start to offer your own opinion when it wasn’t requested. Follow the advice that you would theoretically give someone else.
Instead of giving advice, simply explain that you are there to help if needed.
Let other people make decisions and mistakes and avoid pointing out mistakes of others if the outcome doesn’t come out well. No one wants to hear “I told you so” --even if you think it's warranted.
3. Gaining More Confidence in Yourself
3-1. Accept yourself as a unique individual.
Psychologists believe that those who share their awards, achievements and thoughts of superiority are often in search of approval by others. Make your accomplishments desirable to you and set them inline with your overall life, career and relationship goals.
It may not easy to remind yourself of what makes you great, but don’t forget about all your awesome qualities.
Wear what makes you truly happy and do things that you fully enjoy. As you fill your life with more joy, you’ll be happier and more confident in yourself.
3-2. Be grateful for what you have.
Don’t compare yourself to others and the experiences they have had or things they own.
Write down or recite three things that you’re grateful for each morning before you get out of bed. Repeating these positive things can help instill a better sense of self-esteem and happiness.
3-3. Make decisions that make you happy.
Don’t allow others to significantly influence your decision making. When you make an important decision, think it through thoroughly and feel confident and proud in the outcome.
3-4. Evaluate your tasks and to-do lists.
Anything you force yourself to do because of someone else shouldn’t be a regular part of your life. Eliminate things you do just to please others.
Each month go over what you did the previous month and what you have planned for the next. Eliminate anything that didn’t make you happy in the previous month, and anything that you’re hesitant about in the upcoming month.
Tips
Any behavioral change requires awareness of your actions, so start by simply being aware of the moments when your snobby attitude comes out.
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Understand that everyone walks around with different kinds of baggage, different experiences and a different upbringing. Look past the exterior to try to get to know someone’s personality and learn from them.\\nGet out of your comfort zone and talk with someone outside of your normal circle. Attend a networking event or go to a cafe that interests you, but isn’t something you would normally attend. Sign up for a knitting class or learn to code if it’s something you’ve always wanted to try.\\nFind common traits among yourself and people who look, dress or act differently.\\nStart up a conversation with a simple statement or question. Comments like “Doesn’t the city look beautiful from this side of the park?” or “I love exploring new places to get coffee, what’s your favorite?”\\n1-4. Refrain from acting superior.\\nFeeling jealous or comparing yourself to other people frequently may indicate a sense of personal lack, which you might try to compensate for by acting superior. Purchase items and gain knowledge of topics only if you truly enjoy them. Understand that not everyone has the same interests, wants and needs in life. \\nShare knowledge and information with others only if you know they have a genuine interest as well.\\nAvoid the urge to one-up someone else in a conversation.\\nDon’t devalue the way others live or the way they feel.\\nEnjoy the differences between yourself and those around you, instead of comparing interests, material possessions and money.\\n2. Changing the Way You Communicate\\n2-1. Show genuine interest in what other people say.\\nIt is important to be a good listener and to show people that you genuinely care about what they have to say. Pay close attention when other people are talking and ask them leading questions to find out more about the things they say or to have them clarify. This will let them know that you are paying attention and are interested.\\nTry asking something like, “Your trip to Florida sounds really nice! What else did you do while you were there?”\\n2-2. Don’t be pushy about your opinions.\\nIt’s not a bad thing to share the way you think or feel about a certain topic, but it isn’t good if you’re not open to others having a different opinion.\\nIf someone disagrees with a statement you’ve made, genuinely ask them to share why.\\nShow an interest in another point of view and open your mind to other perspectives.\\nDon’t view your opinions as facts.\\n2-3. Don’t monopolize a conversation.\\nNotice if you’ve been chatting nonstop and provide an opening for someone else to voice their thoughts.\\nDon’t cut others off in the middle of a sentence to ensure you get your point across. If it’s important enough to the conversation, wait for a pause.\\nAsk other people questions about how they feel and view a situation.\\nNotice others’ body language and whether they seem engaged or disinterested.\\nTry not to talk just for the sake of talking. If you feel like you are, say something like “I feel like I’ve been talking so much, tell me about your life.”\\n2-4. Talk with inclusive language.\\nAvoid saying statements in absolutes, especially when meeting new people as they can make others feel inadequate if that’s not they way they think, feel or act.\\nNotice if you say statements that start with something like ‘you should always’ and urge yourself to shift your language to something like ‘I believe’ or ‘in my experience.’\\nTell yourself that everyone comes from a different background with different experiences and resources.\\nKeep an open mind during new experiences and inquire more information if someone shares a differing opinion.\\n2-5. Educate yourself on diverse topics.\\nReach outside of your comfort zone and learn about a new culture, sport or hobby. Being a beginner can keep you humble about your knowledge and experience.\\nLearn about something new regularly. Make a goal to read about a new topic or do something you’ve never done on a monthly, weekly or even daily basis.\\nAsk experts on the topic, whether you personally know them or can connect with them virtually.\\nKeep in mind that it is perfectly okay to say “I don’t know.” Avoid pretending that you know about a subject if you don’t. Just be honest about what you know and don’t know.\\n2-6. Avoid giving unsolicited advice.\\nCatch yourself if you start to offer your own opinion when it wasn’t requested. Follow the advice that you would theoretically give someone else.\\nInstead of giving advice, simply explain that you are there to help if needed.\\nLet other people make decisions and mistakes and avoid pointing out mistakes of others if the outcome doesn’t come out well. No one wants to hear “I told you so” --even if you think it's warranted.\\n3. Gaining More Confidence in Yourself\\n3-1. Accept yourself as a unique individual.\\nPsychologists believe that those who share their awards, achievements and thoughts of superiority are often in search of approval by others. Make your accomplishments desirable to you and set them inline with your overall life, career and relationship goals.\\nIt may not easy to remind yourself of what makes you great, but don’t forget about all your awesome qualities.\\nWear what makes you truly happy and do things that you fully enjoy. As you fill your life with more joy, you’ll be happier and more confident in yourself.\\n3-2. Be grateful for what you have.\\nDon’t compare yourself to others and the experiences they have had or things they own.\\nWrite down or recite three things that you’re grateful for each morning before you get out of bed. Repeating these positive things can help instill a better sense of self-esteem and happiness.\\n3-3. Make decisions that make you happy.\\nDon’t allow others to significantly influence your decision making. When you make an important decision, think it through thoroughly and feel confident and proud in the outcome.\\n3-4. Evaluate your tasks and to-do lists.\\nAnything you force yourself to do because of someone else shouldn’t be a regular part of your life. Eliminate things you do just to please others.\\nEach month go over what you did the previous month and what you have planned for the next. Eliminate anything that didn’t make you happy in the previous month, and anything that you’re hesitant about in the upcoming month.\\nTips\\nAny behavioral change requires awareness of your actions, so start by simply being aware of the moments when your snobby attitude comes out.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you ever find yourself butting into a conversation abruptly, offering unsolicited advice or talking about your personal belongings and achievements too frequently? Even in cases when these comments are meant to be friendly and conversational, the message can come across differently, and a little snobby. By shifting your mindset, how you communicate and your view of yourself, you can avoid or stop coming off as being a snob.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being Humble\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don’t brag about your possessions or achievements.\", \"描述\": \"Make comments and start conversations around topics and ideas that interest you, rather than objects and possessions. It’s not a bad thing to share your excitement for things, but be mindful about spending too much of your time talking about material items.\\nSet goals for yourself that are meaningful rather than goals that you hope will help get you more attention.\\nStart conversations that others can join in and share their input instead of stating facts and opinions. A good way to encourage a two-way conversation is to ask open-ended questions and bring up broad topics.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Avoid making backhanded comments.\", \"描述\": \"The old saying goes, “If you don’t have something nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.” Put yourself in the shoes of the person you’re speaking with and think about how a backhanded comment makes you feel.\\nNotice the good features of others and make comments about those positive things. Switch out statements like “That sweater looks expensive for your taste” with “That sweater makes you look like a million bucks!”\\nIf you feel yourself about to blurt out a backhanded comment, take two to three deep breaths first. It calms your fight or flight reaction and can help to clear the mind. Thinking clearly is key to speaking with clarity and kindness.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don’t judge people by the way they look and act.\", \"描述\": \"If you frequently judge other people, then it is likely that you are also judging yourself. It is important to become mindful of this because self-judgment may manifest as low-self-confidence and judgment of other people. Understand that everyone walks around with different kinds of baggage, different experiences and a different upbringing. Look past the exterior to try to get to know someone’s personality and learn from them.\\nGet out of your comfort zone and talk with someone outside of your normal circle. Attend a networking event or go to a cafe that interests you, but isn’t something you would normally attend. Sign up for a knitting class or learn to code if it’s something you’ve always wanted to try.\\nFind common traits among yourself and people who look, dress or act differently.\\nStart up a conversation with a simple statement or question. Comments like “Doesn’t the city look beautiful from this side of the park?” or “I love exploring new places to get coffee, what’s your favorite?”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Refrain from acting superior.\", \"描述\": \"Feeling jealous or comparing yourself to other people frequently may indicate a sense of personal lack, which you might try to compensate for by acting superior. Purchase items and gain knowledge of topics only if you truly enjoy them. Understand that not everyone has the same interests, wants and needs in life. \\nShare knowledge and information with others only if you know they have a genuine interest as well.\\nAvoid the urge to one-up someone else in a conversation.\\nDon’t devalue the way others live or the way they feel.\\nEnjoy the differences between yourself and those around you, instead of comparing interests, material possessions and money.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Changing the Way You Communicate\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Show genuine interest in what other people say.\", \"描述\": \"It is important to be a good listener and to show people that you genuinely care about what they have to say. Pay close attention when other people are talking and ask them leading questions to find out more about the things they say or to have them clarify. This will let them know that you are paying attention and are interested.\\nTry asking something like, “Your trip to Florida sounds really nice! What else did you do while you were there?”\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don’t be pushy about your opinions.\", \"描述\": \"It’s not a bad thing to share the way you think or feel about a certain topic, but it isn’t good if you’re not open to others having a different opinion.\\nIf someone disagrees with a statement you’ve made, genuinely ask them to share why.\\nShow an interest in another point of view and open your mind to other perspectives.\\nDon’t view your opinions as facts.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don’t monopolize a conversation.\", \"描述\": \"Notice if you’ve been chatting nonstop and provide an opening for someone else to voice their thoughts.\\nDon’t cut others off in the middle of a sentence to ensure you get your point across. If it’s important enough to the conversation, wait for a pause.\\nAsk other people questions about how they feel and view a situation.\\nNotice others’ body language and whether they seem engaged or disinterested.\\nTry not to talk just for the sake of talking. 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2,897 | How to Avoid Becoming a Victim of Cybercrime | 1. Preventing Hacking
1-1. Avoid using public networks.
Refrain from connecting to free Wi-Fi networks from coffee shops or other public places. Connecting your device to public networks exposes it potential hackers that can easily get through the low level security of these kinds of networks.
1-2. Avoid using public computers for sensitive business.
If you’re about to do some personal transactions like banking or online shopping, do not do it using public computers. Other people who have used the computers before you may have put programs that can record the passwords you type in.
1-3. Do not give out your passwords.
Keep the passwords of your various accounts to yourself. If you do let someone know, make sure to change it afterwards to prevent that person from accessing your private internet accounts without permission.
1-4. Avoid downloading unknown applications.
The Internet is full of free software from unknown sources. These kinds of programs normally carry malicious applications with it and installing it may infect and cause serious damage to your computer.
2. Preventing Cyber Bullying
2-1. Don’t mind bashers.
Bashers or “trolls” are Internet surfers that purposely agitate other users to start discussion which may later lead to verbal abuse.
If you see people posting or replying bad comments to your online posts, do not reply back. Bashers commonly seek attention and will soon back away if they’re not given any thought.
2-2. Don’t be affected with what you read.
Don’t be emotionally affected by the things you read on the net. Remember that these things are only words and cannot hurt you directly.
2-3. Report cyber bullies.
If you see people verbally harassing other users, talk to the administrators or moderators of the website and report that person who’s bullying other people.
2-4. Leave the computer.
If you can’t seem to find any way to stop cyber bullies, get off the Internet and shut your computer off. Cyber bullies only exist on the Internet and would cease to be as soon as you log out.
3. Preventing Online Piracy
3-1. Avoid downloading illegal contents.
Purchase media contents straight from legitimate sources only, like iTunes or Amazon.
3-2. Stop sharing contents freely to other users.
Do not share or make copies of music, movies, or any kind of copyrighted media over the internet. Doing so can constitute to online piracy, which is punishable under the federal law.
3-3. Report any site that shares pirated contents
If you come across websites that shares illegal contents, contact your ISP or local government units responsible for handling such kinds of issues and report these kinds of illegal activities.
4. Preventing Online Pornography
4-1. Block pornographic websites.
Set the antivirus application you’re using to block websites that shows pornographic contents. If you’re connected to a smaller network, contact your network administrator so they can restrict access to such sites.
4-2. Talk with the people concerned.
Speak with the members of your household who could or potentially be viewing pornographic websites. Explain to them the negative effects of opening such kinds of contents on the internet.
Remember that sometimes, the toughest problems can be solved or prevented with a proper discussion.
4-3. Report any cyber prostitution activities.
If you’re aware of any online pornographic activities, such as cyber prostitution, in your area, alert your local authorities so they can take the proper actions and respond promptly to the issue at hand.
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Leave the computer.\\nIf you can’t seem to find any way to stop cyber bullies, get off the Internet and shut your computer off. Cyber bullies only exist on the Internet and would cease to be as soon as you log out.\\n3. Preventing Online Piracy\\n3-1. Avoid downloading illegal contents.\\nPurchase media contents straight from legitimate sources only, like iTunes or Amazon.\\n3-2. Stop sharing contents freely to other users.\\nDo not share or make copies of music, movies, or any kind of copyrighted media over the internet. Doing so can constitute to online piracy, which is punishable under the federal law.\\n3-3. Report any site that shares pirated contents\\nIf you come across websites that shares illegal contents, contact your ISP or local government units responsible for handling such kinds of issues and report these kinds of illegal activities.\\n4. Preventing Online Pornography\\n4-1. Block pornographic websites.\\nSet the antivirus application you’re using to block websites that shows pornographic contents. If you’re connected to a smaller network, contact your network administrator so they can restrict access to such sites.\\n4-2. Talk with the people concerned.\\nSpeak with the members of your household who could or potentially be viewing pornographic websites. Explain to them the negative effects of opening such kinds of contents on the internet.\\nRemember that sometimes, the toughest problems can be solved or prevented with a proper discussion.\\n4-3. Report any cyber prostitution activities.\\nIf you’re aware of any online pornographic activities, such as cyber prostitution, in your area, alert your local authorities so they can take the proper actions and respond promptly to the issue at hand.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"With all the latest technological advancement, especially on the web, people with ill intentions have also expanded their threat up to the cyber world. You can be a victim, not only in the real world, but also as you surf the Internet. Cybercrimes has been so chronic that most have already made a crime punishable by law. As a member of the community, we have a responsibility to prevent cybercrimes in our own little ways.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Preventing Hacking\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Avoid using public networks.\", \"描述\": \"Refrain from connecting to free Wi-Fi networks from coffee shops or other public places. 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2,898 | How to Avoid Becoming a Weeaboo | 1. Breaking Free of Weeaboo Habits
1-1. Do not use weeaboo language.
In any group environment, there are factors that encourage cohesion and indicate member status. A major indication of a weeaboo in your midst is the use of broken and incomplete Japanese in casual conversation, often in emphatic or overly dramatic ways. Using Japanese ungrammatically can be culturally insensitive, hinder communication, and create difficulty should you choose to learn the language in the future. Some expressions appropriated by the weeaboo community include:
Kawaii (かわいい)
English statement + desu (です)
Variation: English + Japanese adjective + desu (です). For example: "I passed that exam so you know I'm kakkoii desu."
Suffixes like -kun (－くん) and -chan (－ちゃん)
Baka (ばか)
Sugoi (すごい)
Chibi (ちび)
Ne! (ね)
Nani
shinderu
. Ohayo
1-2. Do not abnormally prioritize things that are Japanese.
There are many positives to joining a group or subculture, but in-group bias isn't one. The automatic assumption that Japanese products are superior to others can be self isolating and/or a mild form of delusion. Self-inquiry is a good way of diffusing weeaboo tendencies. If you can't identify the reason why something is better, chances are your preference is a matter of taste. Some questions to ask yourself:
Why do I like this Japanese product?
What is different between the Japanese product and a similar, non-Japanese product?
What makes the Japanese product better than a similar, non-Japanese product?
is this Japanese product really that better?
1-3. Do not alienate yourself through your choice in clothing.
Dress code and other social conventions telegraph group membership to others. There are socially appropriate places for you express your interest by wearing the same costume as your favorite character, like at an anime convention. Choosing daily clothing styled after anime characters is, in many cases, the hallmark of a weeaboo.
A single accessory or article of clothing from your costume can add flair to your daily outfit without appearing socially inaccessible to others.
1-4. Do not neglect your authentic self.
You can meet new friends and boost your creative capacity through role-playing specific characters and fantastical scenarios, but don't let this come at the cost of your own development. Pretending to be something you are not, even if you are emulating something you admire, can lead to a mismatch between your outer self and inner feelings and cause potentially extreme consequences.
Accept that your personality changes as a function of growth, as do preferences and beliefs. Even if you consider yourself a die-hard fan, respecting the potential for future change influences more moderate (and less weeaboo-like) behavior.
Occasionally put aside instant gratification, including anime, manga, costume making, and online activities. Reevaluate personal goals and your place in your community. Are you happy with where you're at? Ignoring these in favor of Japanese cultural pursuits is considered evidence of a weeaboo.
2. Educating Yourself
2-1. Watch Japanese documentaries.
These are an excellent way for you to gain insight into the human struggles of everyday life in Japan. Some notable films on Japanese culture and expatriate experiences are:
Jiro Dreams of Sushi (2011)
The Kingdom of Dreams and Madness (2013)
Hafu: The Mixed-Race Experience in Japan (2013)
Brakeless (2014)
Kokoyakyu: High School Baseball (2006)
The Invention of Dr. Nakamats (2009)
"Men Behind The Sun" (1988)
2-2. Take a course in East Asian Studies.
Even if you don't plan on getting your degree in Japanese language or culture, learning the historical reason for contemporary culture can clear misconceptions and minimize out-of-context assumptions. Weeaboos are perceived as doing just this. Fixation on aspects of Japanese without the cultural framework necessary for accurate interpretation can lead to a warped perspective. As an added bonus, your knowledge of Asiatic history and culture will improve your ability to make sense of future encounters with Japanese culture.
If a college course is out of the question, you can contact your local Japanese Cultural Center or embassy to see if there are activities you can join. Popular traditional arts you can ask about:
Taiko (太鼓) drum classes (taiko is played with Japanese drumsticks (bachi) )
Kendo (剣道, Japanese fencing)
Shodou (書道, Japanese calligraphy)
Sadou (茶道, Japanese tea ceremony).
2-3. Invest in books on Japanese society.
A frequent criticism of the weeaboo subculture is that its members only consume overly dramatized mass media. Reading on a variety of topics will help you to achieve a more complete picture of the intricacies of the Japanese way of life.
2-4. Study different cultures or learn a foreign language.
Language and culture are closely linked. Many foreign languages contain words or concepts that simply don't exist in your native tongue, and learning these can equip you with tools necessary to pin down foreign perspectives. In the same way, exposing yourself to other cultures promotes broader cultural awareness.
You don't need to study Japanese have the advantages that accompany bilingualism. If there is a community nearby that speaks a language different than your own, immersing yourself in that community can promote acquisition.
Tips
Although imitating and reenacting your favorite anime can be fun, don't sacrifice the feelings of others for the sake of staying in character.
If you plan on wearing a costume in public, make sure you do not include real weapons, as these are frequently prohibited.
Remember, it's perfectly fine to enjoy anime, manga, and Japanese culture. As with anything, too much obsession can lead to annoying people around you.
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Do not abnormally prioritize things that are Japanese.\\nThere are many positives to joining a group or subculture, but in-group bias isn't one. The automatic assumption that Japanese products are superior to others can be self isolating and/or a mild form of delusion. Self-inquiry is a good way of diffusing weeaboo tendencies. If you can't identify the reason why something is better, chances are your preference is a matter of taste. Some questions to ask yourself:\\nWhy do I like this Japanese product?\\nWhat is different between the Japanese product and a similar, non-Japanese product?\\nWhat makes the Japanese product better than a similar, non-Japanese product?\\nis this Japanese product really that better?\\n1-3. Do not alienate yourself through your choice in clothing.\\nDress code and other social conventions telegraph group membership to others. 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Even if you consider yourself a die-hard fan, respecting the potential for future change influences more moderate (and less weeaboo-like) behavior.\\nOccasionally put aside instant gratification, including anime, manga, costume making, and online activities. Reevaluate personal goals and your place in your community. Are you happy with where you're at? Ignoring these in favor of Japanese cultural pursuits is considered evidence of a weeaboo.\\n2. Educating Yourself\\n2-1. Watch Japanese documentaries.\\nThese are an excellent way for you to gain insight into the human struggles of everyday life in Japan. Some notable films on Japanese culture and expatriate experiences are:\\n\\nJiro Dreams of Sushi (2011)\\nThe Kingdom of Dreams and Madness (2013)\\nHafu: The Mixed-Race Experience in Japan (2013)\\nBrakeless (2014)\\nKokoyakyu: High School Baseball (2006)\\nThe Invention of Dr. Nakamats (2009)\\n\\\"Men Behind The Sun\\\" (1988)\\n2-2. Take a course in East Asian Studies.\\nEven if you don't plan on getting your degree in Japanese language or culture, learning the historical reason for contemporary culture can clear misconceptions and minimize out-of-context assumptions. Weeaboos are perceived as doing just this. Fixation on aspects of Japanese without the cultural framework necessary for accurate interpretation can lead to a warped perspective. As an added bonus, your knowledge of Asiatic history and culture will improve your ability to make sense of future encounters with Japanese culture.\\nIf a college course is out of the question, you can contact your local Japanese Cultural Center or embassy to see if there are activities you can join. Popular traditional arts you can ask about:\\nTaiko (太鼓) drum classes (taiko is played with Japanese drumsticks (bachi) )\\nKendo (剣道, Japanese fencing)\\nShodou (書道, Japanese calligraphy)\\nSadou (茶道, Japanese tea ceremony).\\n2-3. Invest in books on Japanese society.\\nA frequent criticism of the weeaboo subculture is that its members only consume overly dramatized mass media. Reading on a variety of topics will help you to achieve a more complete picture of the intricacies of the Japanese way of life.\\n2-4. Study different cultures or learn a foreign language.\\nLanguage and culture are closely linked. Many foreign languages contain words or concepts that simply don't exist in your native tongue, and learning these can equip you with tools necessary to pin down foreign perspectives. In the same way, exposing yourself to other cultures promotes broader cultural awareness.\\nYou don't need to study Japanese have the advantages that accompany bilingualism. If there is a community nearby that speaks a language different than your own, immersing yourself in that community can promote acquisition.\\nTips\\nAlthough imitating and reenacting your favorite anime can be fun, don't sacrifice the feelings of others for the sake of staying in character.\\nIf you plan on wearing a costume in public, make sure you do not include real weapons, as these are frequently prohibited.\\nRemember, it's perfectly fine to enjoy anime, manga, and Japanese culture. As with anything, too much obsession can lead to annoying people around you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"There's nothing wrong with being passionate about Japanese animation or comics, frequently referred to by Western fans as anime and manga respectively. However, many admirers are hesitant to admit their appreciation, fearing association with a subculture that is commonly referred to online as \\\"weeaboo.\\\" The term \\\"weeaboo\\\" ultimately derives from the phrase \\\"wannabe Japanese,\\\" which itself is often shortened in online communities to \\\"Wapanese.\\\" In principle, there is nothing wrong with joining a subculture, but if this is one you'd rather not take part in, there are ways to differentiate yourself.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Breaking Free of Weeaboo Habits\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Do not use weeaboo language.\", \"描述\": \"In any group environment, there are factors that encourage cohesion and indicate member status. A major indication of a weeaboo in your midst is the use of broken and incomplete Japanese in casual conversation, often in emphatic or overly dramatic ways. Using Japanese ungrammatically can be culturally insensitive, hinder communication, and create difficulty should you choose to learn the language in the future. Some expressions appropriated by the weeaboo community include:\\n\\nKawaii (かわいい)\\nEnglish statement + desu (です)\\nVariation: English + Japanese adjective + desu (です). For example: \\\"I passed that exam so you know I'm kakkoii desu.\\\"\\nSuffixes like -kun (－くん) and -chan (－ちゃん)\\nBaka (ばか)\\nSugoi (すごい)\\nChibi (ちび)\\nNe! (ね)\\nNani\\nshinderu\\n. Ohayo\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Do not abnormally prioritize things that are Japanese.\", \"描述\": \"There are many positives to joining a group or subculture, but in-group bias isn't one. The automatic assumption that Japanese products are superior to others can be self isolating and/or a mild form of delusion. Self-inquiry is a good way of diffusing weeaboo tendencies. If you can't identify the reason why something is better, chances are your preference is a matter of taste. 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Even if you consider yourself a die-hard fan, respecting the potential for future change influences more moderate (and less weeaboo-like) behavior.\\nOccasionally put aside instant gratification, including anime, manga, costume making, and online activities. Reevaluate personal goals and your place in your community. Are you happy with where you're at? Ignoring these in favor of Japanese cultural pursuits is considered evidence of a weeaboo.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Educating Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Watch Japanese documentaries.\", \"描述\": \"These are an excellent way for you to gain insight into the human struggles of everyday life in Japan. 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2,899 | How to Avoid Bee or Wasp Stings | 1. Wearing the Right Clothing and Scents
1-1. Bathe every day and wear clean clothes.
The smell of sweat can throw bees and wasps into a frenzy. Make sure you start out your day with clean clothes and a fresh shower to avoid angering these insects. Keep a bandana with you to wipe the sweat off of your face throughout the day.
Sweating throughout the day can’t really be avoided, especially if you are working outside. However, starting the day with clean clothes and skin will help you attract less bees and wasps.
1-2. Wear light-colored clothing.
Bees and wasps instinctively perceive dark colors as a threat. Wear white, tan, cream, or gray clothing as much as possible and avoid black, brown, or red clothes.
Bees and wasps see the color red as black, so they perceive it as a threat.
1-3. Put on clothes that cover as much of your body as possible.
Wear long sleeves, pants, a hat, and covered shoes when you go outside to give bees and wasps less areas to sting. If it’s hot out, wear breathable fabrics like cotton to avoid overheating.
Make sure you hydrate well when you wear long sleeves and pants so that you don’t overheat.
1-4. Wear tight clothes that cling to your body.
Flowing pants or tops create the perfect environment for bees or wasps to crawl inside toward your skin. Make sure your clothing fits you well and avoid boot cut or flare pants. Try to tuck your shirt into your pants and wear socks with your shoes.
If you have long hair, tie it back to avoid trapping bees or wasps.
1-5. Avoid wearing scented perfume or deodorant.
Bees and wasps are attracted to the smell of flowers. If your perfume, cologne, or deodorant smells sweet, these insects could be attracted to your smell and be more likely to fly near you. Use deodorant or perfume that does not smell sweet or like flowers.
Bees and wasps are particularly attracted to the sweet scent of bananas.
2. Keeping Your Area Clean
2-1. Dispose of food in airtight containers.
Bees and wasps are attracted to the scent of rotting food. If you do need to get rid of food scraps, put them into an airtight container with the lid closed so that the smell won’t attract stinging insects.
Bees and wasps are especially attracted to banana peels, so make sure you close these up right away.
2-2. Keep your garbage cans away from people.
If you notice bees or wasps swarming over your trash cans, try placing them far away from your home and where people gather. Insects love to eat rotting food, so they will follow the trash can wherever you place it.
2-3. Put sweet drinks in containers with a lid.
Bees and wasps are attracted to sugar, especially in drinks like iced tea and soda. If you are drinking a sugary drink, make sure you cover it with a lid when you set it down and check it for insects next time you pick it up.
Bees and wasps may crawl down your straw to get to your drink. Double check the inside of your straw before you drink out of it.
2-4. Clean up any fallen fruit on the ground.
In the summer, fruit trees may drop their fruit on the ground and attract insects. If you notice rotting fruit on the ground, pick it up and dispose of it quickly before any insects notice it.
Make sure you put the rotting fruit into a sealed trash can that is emptied out regularly.
3. Staying Away from Nests and Swarms
3-1. Leave the area if you see a nest or an insect.
You may accidentally sneak up on a nest without the bees or wasps noticing. If the insects aren’t swarming, you still have time to get away quickly without being stung.
Many bees create ground nests that can be hard to spot. If you see 2 or more bees crawling underground, they are most likely headed to a nest.
3-2. Stand still if you notice a bee or wasp flying around you.
Your instinct may be to yell or run, but this could make the insect more angry. Swatting or hitting at a bee or wasp will also make them more likely to sting you. Try to ignore your impulses and stand still.
3-3. Run away quickly if you accidentally disturb a nest.
Cover your face with whatever you have handy and don’t stop running until you can’t hear the buzzing of the insects anymore. You may have to run as far as 1/4 of a mile before the insects get tired and stop chasing you.
3-4. Find an enclosed shelter to get away from the insects.
A car or a home are ideal spots to run to, since they can be made airtight by shutting any doors or windows. Make sure the insects don’t follow you into your shelter when you open the door so that they can’t sting you.
Never head to a body of water to get away from bees or wasps. They will probably wait above the surface of the water for you to come up and then sting your head and face.
Tips
Bug spray won’t repel stinging insects like bees and wasps.[14]
X
Trustworthy Source
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
Main public health institute for the US, run by the Dept. of Health and Human Services
Go to source
If you are stung, remove the stinger right away and apply ice to the area to avoid swelling.[15]
X
Trustworthy Source
Mayo Clinic
Educational website from one of the world's leading hospitals
Go to source
Warnings
Always carry a cell phone with you in the wilderness in case you need to call for help.
If you or someone you are with has trouble breathing or loses consciousness after being stung, call for medical help right away.[16]
X
Trustworthy Source
Mayo Clinic
Educational website from one of the world's leading hospitals
Go to source
If you know you are allergic to bee or wasp stings, talk to your doctor about being prescribed an Epipen.[17]
X
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Mayo Clinic
Educational website from one of the world's leading hospitals
Go to source
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2,900 | How to Avoid Being Abused | 1. Spotting Abusive People
1-1. Watch out for anyone who has abused you in the past.
People who have abused you in the past are more likely to abuse you again. For this reason, you should avoid contact with anyone who has abused you in the past.
If avoiding contact with this person is not possible, then avoid spending time alone with the person. Ask a friend or family member to accompany you whenever you have to spend time around the abuser.
Stay away from anyone who has threatened you with abuse. Threatened abuse is likely to lead to actual abuse at some point, so you should also avoid contact with anyone who has threatened you.
1-2. Look for violent behavior.
People who display violent behavior are also more likely to become abusers. You may feel like you have to walk on eggshells around the person to avoid making him or her angry. Try to avoid having contact with people who display their anger in violent or forceful ways. Some examples of this type of behavior might include:
throwing things
breaking items
punching walls or kicking furniture
grabbing your arm or physically restraining you in other ways
1-3. Pay attention to jealousy and controlling behavior.
People who seem to need to control everyone and everything are also more likely to be abusive. If your significant other is often jealous for no reason or wants to know every detail about where you have been or are going, then he or she may turn to abuse at some point. Some examples of jealousy and controlling behavior might include:
constantly checking up on you
giving you the 3rd degree if you are late
calling you a “liar”
telling you how to dress or act
pressuring you to make an immediate commitment
1-4. Notice if the person tries to isolate you.
Abusive people often use isolation as a way to control people. This may be subtle at first, such as requesting that you do not spend as much time with certain people. However, an abusive person may soon be forbidding you from seeing certain people, even if they are your close friends or family members.
An abuser may accuse certain friends or family members of being “trouble makers” or “nosy.” In a heterosexual relationship with a male abuser, he may also accuse you of being a “whore” for spending time with male friends or of being a “lesbian” for spending time with female friends.
1-5. Listen to how the person justifies abusive behavior.
Abusive people tend to find ways to excuse their behavior and they often blame other people, including those who they abuse. Think about what the person says after he or she has done something abusive.
Does the person tend to blame you or other people for his violent behavior? If so, then do what you can to get away from this person. It is likely that he or she is going to continue to justify violent behavior towards you.
Some abusive people may also accuse those who they abuse of being "too sensitive." If someone often makes you feel bad about yourself, but then dismisses your feelings, then this person may be abusing you.
1-6. Consider how the person treats animals and children.
Abusive people may be cruel to animals and children. Pay attention to how the person behaves around animals and children to get hints about how he or she might treat you.
For example, does the person ever kick the dog out of frustration? Or has the person ever said something nasty to a child because he or she was in a bad mood? These behaviors can indicate that someone may become abusive towards you in the future.
1-7. Think about the person’s sexual behavior.
Some abusive people will engage in violent acts during consensual sex. For example, the person might try to restrain you during sex, hit you, or continue doing something even though you have expressed your dislike of it. Watch for these types of signs.
Do not stay with someone who makes sex painful or uncomfortable for you.
2. Identifying Abuse
2-1. Watch for signs of physical abuse.
Physical abuse can take many forms and some of them may not be immediately obvious. You are being physically abused if you:
have bruises, cuts, welts, and other types of unexplained injuries
have injuries on your body that look like a hand print or another object, such as a belt
wear inappropriate clothing to cover up injuries, such as a sweatshirt on a hot day
live in constant fearfulness or feel like you have to be on alert at all times
flinch when you are touched
miss school or work often due to injuries
2-2. Recognize signs of emotional abuse.
Emotional abuse can show up in a number of different ways. Pay attention to the way that you are treated. You may be being emotionally abused if you:
feel anxious or fearful about doing something wrong because you are afraid of how someone will react if they are disappointed
feel like you want to withdraw because someone has made you feel worthless
display extreme behaviors, such as being either extremely demanding or extremely passive
are not attached to your parent or parents (in children)
feel like you have to act older or younger than you should, such as by caring for your siblings or sucking your thumb (in children)
2-3. Look for signs of sexual abuse.
Sexual abuse also has some distinct signs that you can look for. This form of abuse is most common in children. You may be suffering from sexual abuse if you:
have ever been asked or forced to do something sexually that you were not comfortable doing or did not want to do
avoid a specific person because of the way he or she interacts with you
have a hard time sitting or walking due to abuse
have knowledge of sexual acts that you should not
do not want to get undressed in front of people
have an STD or have gotten pregnant at a young age
are planning to run away from home
2-4. Determine if you are in an abusive relationship.
Sometimes it can be difficult to recognize abuse within a relationship. However, there are some clear signs that you may be involved in an abusive relationship. You may be in an abusive relationship if you:
feel like you have to go along with everything your partner says
always have to check in with your partner
are overly eager to please your partner
are worried about making your partner jealous or upsetting him or her
often get harassing calls from your partner
3. Getting Help for Abuse
3-1. Seek help.
If you are involved in an abusive relationship, the first thing that you need to do is to find some help for yourself. Talk to someone who you can trust, such as a close friend, a teacher, or a counselor. Tell the person what you have been dealing with and ask for help to get out of the situation.
If you talk to a teacher or counselor, then he or she will be required to report the abuse and it is possible that you will need to go and live somewhere else for a while. Remember that this is for your protection, not to punish you.
If you suspect that someone else is being abused, then you can make an anonymous report to help the person.
3-2. Make a plan to get away from your abuser
Continuing to live with your abuser puts you in constant danger of further abuse, so it is not a good idea to stay in the same household. If you are in a situation where you live with your abuser, then the best thing to do is to make a plan to get out.
Talk to a trusted family member or friend to develop an escape plan. You may also want to seek help from the authorities if you are concerned that your abuser will try to come after you.
Determine what items you need to bring with you and try to have them ready to go when you are ready to leave. Packing a bag might be too obvious, but you can keep the items that you want to bring along in the same drawer or in a corner of your closet.
Call the National Domestic Abuse Helpline at 1-800-799-SAFE for help with developing an escape plan.
3-3. Leave when your abuser is not at home.
Leaving an abuser can be the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship, so it is best to leave when your abuser is not at home.
For example, you might plan to leave while your abuser is at work or out with friends.
If leaving when your abuser is not at home is not an option, then you may want to ask some friends and/or family members to be there when you leave.
3-4. Seek therapy.
Recovering from abuse can take years and it requires the guidance of a trained mental health professional, such as a therapist. Make sure that you seek professional help as you recover from an abusive relationship.
Warnings
Beware of your abuser’s attempts to charm you or convince you that he or she has changed. Abusive people are good at manipulating people.
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2,901 | How to Avoid Being Annoying While Around Your Friends | 1. Improving Your Conversational Skills
1-1. Find interesting conversation topics.
Talk about things you think would be of interest to your group of friends. Even though you may find one topic interesting, keep in mind that your friends might not, so avoid monopolizing the conversation. Current events, favorite movies or celebrities can all be good options.
Put the focus of the conversation on others rather than yourself and ask them questions about their lives and interests.
For example, if your friends are big football fans, you could ask, “What did you think of the game last night?” Or you could talk about a recent shared activity: “Nicole’s party was great, wasn’t it?”
Don’t gossip. Gossiping can damage your relationships and reputation. Before you start talking about someone else, ask yourself "Is what I'm about to say harmful or helpful?" If its not helpful, don't say it.
If you have a significant other, don’t overshare about your relationship. It makes other people who aren’t in a relationship feel bad, and most people get tired of hearing you talk about it after a while.
1-2. Know when to be quiet.
Sometimes people can get caught up in the excitement of hanging out with their friends and forget to let others get a word in edgewise. Make sure you are giving others space to talk and avoid holding court for too long.
Know when you are monopolizing the conversation and people are becoming bored. Good indicators are people avoiding eye contact with you, beginning to turn away, or chat amongst themselves.
Don’t talk just to talk or fill dead air. Learn to be comfortable with silence. If silence makes you uncomfortable, you might want to look into learning meditation or spending some time alone with your thoughts in silence. Walk or study without headphones or background music.
1-3. Talk about what you know, but don’t be a know-it-all.
Even if you truly are the expert in a particular topic among your circle of friends, do not act that way. No one likes to be corrected or lectured at. Everyone has something to contribute to the conversation, even a beginner.
Don’t brag about your accomplishments. If people are interested, they will ask you about them.
If you don’t know about a topic, don’t pretend that you do. Ask questions instead. People love to share their knowledge about something they care about.
You could say, “I think it’s so cool that you’re interested in artificial intelligence. I know a little bit about it, but not much. Could you recommend any good websites about it?”
1-4. Listen.
When someone else is talking, be an active listener. Stay present and show interest in what the other person has to say. Face them and make eye contact while they're talking. When they're done, repeat and summarize what they said to show that you understand.
One of the best things you can do for a friend is listen to them. Listening helps strengthen your friendship and build empathy.
If you’re prone to talking too much, ask your friends questions about themselves. Most people love to talk about themselves. Ask open-ended questions instead of yes/no questions. For example, “Tell me about your trip to Spain!” is better than “Did you have fun in Spain?”
If your friend comes to you with a problem, don’t jump in and give them advice on how to fix it (unless they ask for it, of course). Just listen to them and say things like, “Wow, that sounds really hard. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that.” Sometimes people just need to unload, and having someone to listen to them helps them feel better.
1-5. Say what you mean
Don’t dance around the point. People cannot read minds, and if you expect them to read yours, it can be extremely frustrating to be around you.
Sometimes it can be difficult to find the courage to speak your truth. It might help to think if you will look back on this situation with regret if you didn’t speak up.
If someone hurts your feelings, call them on it. Say, “It really upset me when you said I suck at math. I studied really hard for that test,” instead of withdrawing into yourself and not telling people what is wrong. “When you did/said this, it made me feel like this” is a good formula for expressing hurt feelings. It lets the other person know how their behavior made you feel without them feeling defensive.
2. Being a Courteous Friend
2-1. Have good manners.
Be polite. Say please and thank you. Having good manners goes a long way in helping people not find you annoying. Think about talking to a polite person versus a rude one: Who would annoy you more?
Laugh at people’s jokes. Laugh even if they’re not really funny (unless it’s an offensive joke). It’s polite and makes the joke teller feel good.
Don’t burp, pass gas, or spit around other people. Keep your bad habits, such as cracking your knuckles or chewing with your mouth open, under control. If people start to notice these bad habits happening consistently, it becomes grating and instantly annoying!
2-2. Respect people’s boundaries.
If someone says for you to stop teasing them, bothering them, or getting in their face, stop immediately. No means no.
Say “I’m sorry,” and step away from the person. If you stop when they ask, most likely there will be no hard feelings. Don’t say, “Can’t you take a joke?” or “Calm down.”
2-3. Quit looking for attention.
Constantly needing to be the center of attention gets on everyone’s nerves. If you are incessantly texting your friends, butting your way into conversations, or making everyone look at you while you do something, people are going to begin to withdraw from you.
Ask yourself why you need all this attention. Oftentimes, people who engage in attention-seeking behaviors have low self-esteem for are feeling insecure about something.
Stay out of drama. Don’t create it, and don’t participate in it. While it often feels good to be in the middle of it and gives you a great attention rush, people begin to see that you are a drama tornado and will do their best to not get sucked in. Drama will give you attention, but not authentic friendships.
2-4. Stay humble.
Don’t have an entitled attitude and expect to be treated better than everyone else. Don’t expect people to bend to your whims.
Keep your word. If you say you are going to be there at five o’clock, don’t roll in a little after six. Keep your promises to others, and if you can’t, let them know as soon as possible.
3. Practicing Self-Awareness
3-1. Talk to your friends.
Your friends might be able to help you shed some light on your annoying behavior. They can tell you what behavior gets on your nerves and possibly give you some ideas to correct the behavior. Talk to a friend or friends who will tell you their opinion kindly and honestly.
You could ask, “I realize that you guys get annoyed with me when I get really hyper. Have you noticed anything about my annoying behavior? I really want to stop it and am trying to figure it out.”
Press your friend for specifics. They might be uncomfortable and not want to make you feel bad, and say something like, “Oh, I don’t know, sometimes you just get annoying.” You could say, “What specifically do I do that gets on your nerves?”
Acknowledge to your friend that is an uncomfortable conversation for the both of you. You could say, “I really hate talking about this, and I think you do, too, but I really want to change my behavior, so I’d appreciate your insight.” Keep the conversation light: “I know; I drive myself crazy sometimes!”
3-2. Know who you are.
Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Resist the urge to change who you are just to fit in. You will be unhappy, and you will not be able to cultivate healthy friendships.
If you think you need to change yourself to fit in a group, maybe you should change the group instead.
Make new friends by getting involved in new activities at your school, religious organization, or in your community.
3-3. Examine your behavior.
Consider spending some time looking at your behavior and understanding why people find you annoying. Figure out what is the underlying reason for the behavior. This might be something you do with an adult you trust or a counselor, or something you do on your own.
For example, do you talk incessantly because you get nervous? Do you mope and drag everyone down because you want to talk to someone about how you really feel?
You could try writing in a journal to sort out your behavior and emotions. Journaling helps clarify what you feel and learn more about yourself.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Improving Your Conversational Skills\\n1-1. Find interesting conversation topics.\\nTalk about things you think would be of interest to your group of friends. Even though you may find one topic interesting, keep in mind that your friends might not, so avoid monopolizing the conversation. Current events, favorite movies or celebrities can all be good options.\\nPut the focus of the conversation on others rather than yourself and ask them questions about their lives and interests.\\nFor example, if your friends are big football fans, you could ask, “What did you think of the game last night?” Or you could talk about a recent shared activity: “Nicole’s party was great, wasn’t it?”\\nDon’t gossip. Gossiping can damage your relationships and reputation. Before you start talking about someone else, ask yourself \\\"Is what I'm about to say harmful or helpful?\\\" If its not helpful, don't say it.\\nIf you have a significant other, don’t overshare about your relationship. It makes other people who aren’t in a relationship feel bad, and most people get tired of hearing you talk about it after a while.\\n1-2. Know when to be quiet.\\nSometimes people can get caught up in the excitement of hanging out with their friends and forget to let others get a word in edgewise. Make sure you are giving others space to talk and avoid holding court for too long.\\nKnow when you are monopolizing the conversation and people are becoming bored. Good indicators are people avoiding eye contact with you, beginning to turn away, or chat amongst themselves.\\nDon’t talk just to talk or fill dead air. Learn to be comfortable with silence. If silence makes you uncomfortable, you might want to look into learning meditation or spending some time alone with your thoughts in silence. Walk or study without headphones or background music.\\n1-3. Talk about what you know, but don’t be a know-it-all.\\nEven if you truly are the expert in a particular topic among your circle of friends, do not act that way. No one likes to be corrected or lectured at. Everyone has something to contribute to the conversation, even a beginner.\\nDon’t brag about your accomplishments. If people are interested, they will ask you about them.\\nIf you don’t know about a topic, don’t pretend that you do. Ask questions instead. People love to share their knowledge about something they care about.\\nYou could say, “I think it’s so cool that you’re interested in artificial intelligence. I know a little bit about it, but not much. Could you recommend any good websites about it?”\\n1-4. Listen.\\nWhen someone else is talking, be an active listener. Stay present and show interest in what the other person has to say. Face them and make eye contact while they're talking. When they're done, repeat and summarize what they said to show that you understand.\\nOne of the best things you can do for a friend is listen to them. Listening helps strengthen your friendship and build empathy. \\nIf you’re prone to talking too much, ask your friends questions about themselves. Most people love to talk about themselves. Ask open-ended questions instead of yes/no questions. For example, “Tell me about your trip to Spain!” is better than “Did you have fun in Spain?”\\nIf your friend comes to you with a problem, don’t jump in and give them advice on how to fix it (unless they ask for it, of course). Just listen to them and say things like, “Wow, that sounds really hard. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that.” Sometimes people just need to unload, and having someone to listen to them helps them feel better.\\n1-5. Say what you mean\\nDon’t dance around the point. People cannot read minds, and if you expect them to read yours, it can be extremely frustrating to be around you. \\nSometimes it can be difficult to find the courage to speak your truth. It might help to think if you will look back on this situation with regret if you didn’t speak up.\\nIf someone hurts your feelings, call them on it. Say, “It really upset me when you said I suck at math. I studied really hard for that test,” instead of withdrawing into yourself and not telling people what is wrong. “When you did/said this, it made me feel like this” is a good formula for expressing hurt feelings. It lets the other person know how their behavior made you feel without them feeling defensive.\\n2. Being a Courteous Friend\\n2-1. Have good manners.\\nBe polite. Say please and thank you. Having good manners goes a long way in helping people not find you annoying. Think about talking to a polite person versus a rude one: Who would annoy you more?\\nLaugh at people’s jokes. Laugh even if they’re not really funny (unless it’s an offensive joke). It’s polite and makes the joke teller feel good.\\nDon’t burp, pass gas, or spit around other people. Keep your bad habits, such as cracking your knuckles or chewing with your mouth open, under control. If people start to notice these bad habits happening consistently, it becomes grating and instantly annoying!\\n2-2. Respect people’s boundaries.\\nIf someone says for you to stop teasing them, bothering them, or getting in their face, stop immediately. No means no.\\nSay “I’m sorry,” and step away from the person. If you stop when they ask, most likely there will be no hard feelings. Don’t say, “Can’t you take a joke?” or “Calm down.”\\n2-3. Quit looking for attention.\\nConstantly needing to be the center of attention gets on everyone’s nerves. If you are incessantly texting your friends, butting your way into conversations, or making everyone look at you while you do something, people are going to begin to withdraw from you.\\nAsk yourself why you need all this attention. Oftentimes, people who engage in attention-seeking behaviors have low self-esteem for are feeling insecure about something.\\nStay out of drama. Don’t create it, and don’t participate in it. While it often feels good to be in the middle of it and gives you a great attention rush, people begin to see that you are a drama tornado and will do their best to not get sucked in. Drama will give you attention, but not authentic friendships.\\n2-4. Stay humble.\\nDon’t have an entitled attitude and expect to be treated better than everyone else. Don’t expect people to bend to your whims.\\nKeep your word. If you say you are going to be there at five o’clock, don’t roll in a little after six. Keep your promises to others, and if you can’t, let them know as soon as possible.\\n3. Practicing Self-Awareness\\n3-1. Talk to your friends.\\nYour friends might be able to help you shed some light on your annoying behavior. They can tell you what behavior gets on your nerves and possibly give you some ideas to correct the behavior. Talk to a friend or friends who will tell you their opinion kindly and honestly.\\nYou could ask, “I realize that you guys get annoyed with me when I get really hyper. Have you noticed anything about my annoying behavior? I really want to stop it and am trying to figure it out.”\\nPress your friend for specifics. They might be uncomfortable and not want to make you feel bad, and say something like, “Oh, I don’t know, sometimes you just get annoying.” You could say, “What specifically do I do that gets on your nerves?”\\nAcknowledge to your friend that is an uncomfortable conversation for the both of you. You could say, “I really hate talking about this, and I think you do, too, but I really want to change my behavior, so I’d appreciate your insight.” Keep the conversation light: “I know; I drive myself crazy sometimes!”\\n3-2. Know who you are.\\nDon’t try to be someone you’re not. Resist the urge to change who you are just to fit in. You will be unhappy, and you will not be able to cultivate healthy friendships.\\nIf you think you need to change yourself to fit in a group, maybe you should change the group instead.\\nMake new friends by getting involved in new activities at your school, religious organization, or in your community.\\n3-3. Examine your behavior.\\nConsider spending some time looking at your behavior and understanding why people find you annoying. Figure out what is the underlying reason for the behavior. This might be something you do with an adult you trust or a counselor, or something you do on your own.\\nFor example, do you talk incessantly because you get nervous? Do you mope and drag everyone down because you want to talk to someone about how you really feel?\\nYou could try writing in a journal to sort out your behavior and emotions. Journaling helps clarify what you feel and learn more about yourself.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Everyone has annoying behaviors and gets on each other’s nerves from time to time. This even goes for good friends. Good friends should accept you for who you are, but you may also want to learn some strategies to not be annoying. You could improve your conversation skills, have good manners, or pay more attention to others. 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2,902 | How to Avoid Being Assaulted in the Street | 1. Deterring Criminals
1-1. Be fully aware of your surroundings.
People who are visibly distracted by their cell phones become easy targets for pickpockets and other criminals. Keep an eye on what is going on around you at all times so that you can better detect suspicious activity and protect yourself and your belongings.
Glance behind you every once in a while to make sure that you are not being followed by a stranger. Your best chance of defending yourself in the event of an attack is to identify the attacker as soon as possible.
You should also avoid reading maps and fumbling through your purse or backpack while walking down the street, as these things consume all of your attention and make you more vulnerable to attacks.
If you are traveling in an unknown city, try to get directions to your destination prior to leaving the hotel or hostel you are staying at.
1-2. Keep your belongings secure.
Keep valuable possessions, like wallets, smart phones, and cameras out of sight to avoid attracting pickpockets. Store these items safely in your purse or backpack and only take them out when you need them.
It may be tempting to have your smartphone out at all times to text, play games, or look up directions, but keep in mind that smartphone theft is on the rise for this very reason. If you use public transportation during your daily commute, you may want to consider bringing a book or magazine to entertain yourself.
1-3. Try not to look like a tourist.
Tourists are oftentimes targeted by pickpockets because they tend to carry lots of cash on them and are usually unfamiliar with their surroundings. Avoid dressing too flashy, and if applicable, adopt the local style of dress so that you can blend in with the locals.
Avoid walking around busy streets while reading a map, as this will draw attention to the fact that you are a tourist and suggest to others that you don't know where you're going. If you are using a map to navigate your way around a new city, find a private place that's indoors, like a café or convenience store, to find your way rather than doing it out on the street where everyone can see you.
1-4. Stay sober.
Drugs and alcohol can impair your judgment and your ability to defend yourself physically in the event that you are attacked. If you do drink, remember to never leave your beverage unattended, and don't accept drinks from strangers.
Some date rapists use tasteless, colorless chemicals to lace their victims' drinks without them knowing. If a stranger offers to buy you a drink, don't accept it unless you watch the bartender make it yourself.
1-5. Travel in groups.
Criminals are less likely to attack people in groups as there is strength in numbers. Walking around town alone, especially at night, makes you an easy target for criminals, because there is nobody there to help defend you or to serve as a witness. Protect yourself by asking a friend or family member to accompany you to your destination at night; if this is not an option, then consider taking a cab instead.
1-6. Stay in well-lit, densely populated parts of town.
Criminals tend to lurk in dark, deserted streets where there is less law enforcement and fewer potential witnesses. If you are walking down the sidewalk at night, stay as close to the street as possible as criminals may be waiting in alleys for a chance to attack passersby.
1-7. Ride a bike.
It is much easier for a pickpocket or rapist to attack a person on foot as opposed to a bicycle. If possible, ride a bike to your destination instead of walking, especially if you are traveling by yourself.
2. Preventing a Potential Attack
2-1. Determine whether you are in danger.
If you are walking down the street and suspect that you are being followed, don't be afraid to look behind you and find out for sure. If possible, look the person directly in the face; this lets them that you are fully aware of what's going on and that you can and will defend yourself in the event of an attack.
Ask the potential attacker for the time; this may help prevent an assault, as criminals prefer to attack people who haven't had a chance to see their face yet.
2-2. Seek safety.
The first thing you should do if you think you are being followed is to determine whether you can quickly get out of the situation without having to confront the attacker. Look around to see if there are any groups of people around, and if so, walk or run in that direction. If there is nobody around, or if they are too far away, then you will need to take action against your attacker.
2-3. Draw attention to yourself.
This is the best way to scare off a criminal, as he or she will be afraid of getting recognized or caught. Scream and yell at the top of your lungs, wave your arms in the air, blow a whistle if you have one; do whatever you can to draw attention to the situation.
Yell things like "Fire!" "Help!" or "Stop following me!" as loud as you can. If there are people around, they will probably come running to see what is going on.
Try yelling something specific, like "Dad!" or another name; this will trick the criminal into thinking that there is someone nearby who knows where you are and who will come to protect you.
It is most effective to start yelling before the person has tried to attack you, before they have had a chance to cover your mouth or threaten to hurt you if you scream.
2-4. Put as much distance between the two of you as possible.
Run as fast as you can toward safety. If the criminal begins to chase after you, then pull out your wallet and throw it on the ground as you run, making sure that he or she sees it being dropped. If it's your money that the person is after, they will likely stop chasing you and go pick up your wallet instead.
2-5. Arm yourself for an attack.
If screaming and running don't deter the criminal, then continue moving in the direction of safety, and while you do, pull out any potential weapons you have on you. If you carry pepper spray, now's the time to pull it out of your bag and have it at the ready. Other potential weapons include pocket knives, keys, or heavy objects like textbooks. Keep your weapon in your hand as you continue moving toward safety.
Sometimes merely showing the criminal that you are armed is enough to prevent an attack. For example, if you do have pepper spray, pull it out and point it toward the criminal, saying "Don't come any closer. I have pepper spray," out loud.
2-6. Call the police.
If you have a cell phone on you, then pull it out and call the police. Be sure to notify the attacker that you are making the call, as this may scare them away. Say "Leave me alone. I am calling the police," out loud.
2-7. Fight back.
If the criminal grabs you and begins to assault you, use whatever weapons you have to physically harm the other person. Poke them in the eyes, kick them in the genitals, scratch them with your nails, spray them with pepper spray, etc. If you have a heavy object like a textbook, try to knock the person unconscious by hitting them on the side of the head.
Continue screaming and drawing attention to yourself as you fight back against your attacker. The longer and louder you scream, the more likely it is that somebody will hear you and come to your rescue.
2-8. Always report crimes to the police.
Once you have made it to safety, it's important to notify the police of what happened. Doing so may help save the lives of other potential victims. Describe the attacker's physical appearance, location, gender, and style of dress to the police to help them track the person down as soon as possible.
Tips
If you have purchased pepper spray, it's important to learn how to properly use it so that you can act quickly in the event of an emergency.
Always trust your instincts. If you feel unsafe in a particular situation, or in a particular person's company, then you might be right. Do whatever you can to get yourself out of that situation, even if you think you are being overly cautious.
It is important to remain calm in the event of an attack so that you can think clearly and do whatever it takes to protect yourself.
Warnings
Even if you have a weapon on you, never provoke a suspicious stranger into fighting you. Instead, seek safety and only use these weapons to defend yourself in the event that you are about to be attacked.
If a stranger begins following you on your way home, don't go directly to your house, especially if you live alone. Instead, knock on a neighbor's door or walk into a restaurant, bar, or hotel where there are other people.
It's always better to be overly cautious if you think you are in danger. Don't wait for the criminal to attack you before taking action. Call attention to yourself and run toward safety immediately.
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Keep your belongings secure.\\nKeep valuable possessions, like wallets, smart phones, and cameras out of sight to avoid attracting pickpockets. Store these items safely in your purse or backpack and only take them out when you need them.\\nIt may be tempting to have your smartphone out at all times to text, play games, or look up directions, but keep in mind that smartphone theft is on the rise for this very reason. If you use public transportation during your daily commute, you may want to consider bringing a book or magazine to entertain yourself.\\n1-3. Try not to look like a tourist.\\nTourists are oftentimes targeted by pickpockets because they tend to carry lots of cash on them and are usually unfamiliar with their surroundings. Avoid dressing too flashy, and if applicable, adopt the local style of dress so that you can blend in with the locals.\\nAvoid walking around busy streets while reading a map, as this will draw attention to the fact that you are a tourist and suggest to others that you don't know where you're going. If you are using a map to navigate your way around a new city, find a private place that's indoors, like a café or convenience store, to find your way rather than doing it out on the street where everyone can see you.\\n1-4. Stay sober.\\nDrugs and alcohol can impair your judgment and your ability to defend yourself physically in the event that you are attacked. If you do drink, remember to never leave your beverage unattended, and don't accept drinks from strangers.\\nSome date rapists use tasteless, colorless chemicals to lace their victims' drinks without them knowing. If a stranger offers to buy you a drink, don't accept it unless you watch the bartender make it yourself.\\n1-5. Travel in groups.\\nCriminals are less likely to attack people in groups as there is strength in numbers. Walking around town alone, especially at night, makes you an easy target for criminals, because there is nobody there to help defend you or to serve as a witness. Protect yourself by asking a friend or family member to accompany you to your destination at night; if this is not an option, then consider taking a cab instead.\\n1-6. Stay in well-lit, densely populated parts of town.\\nCriminals tend to lurk in dark, deserted streets where there is less law enforcement and fewer potential witnesses. If you are walking down the sidewalk at night, stay as close to the street as possible as criminals may be waiting in alleys for a chance to attack passersby.\\n1-7. Ride a bike.\\nIt is much easier for a pickpocket or rapist to attack a person on foot as opposed to a bicycle. If possible, ride a bike to your destination instead of walking, especially if you are traveling by yourself.\\n2. Preventing a Potential Attack\\n2-1. Determine whether you are in danger.\\nIf you are walking down the street and suspect that you are being followed, don't be afraid to look behind you and find out for sure. If possible, look the person directly in the face; this lets them that you are fully aware of what's going on and that you can and will defend yourself in the event of an attack.\\nAsk the potential attacker for the time; this may help prevent an assault, as criminals prefer to attack people who haven't had a chance to see their face yet.\\n2-2. Seek safety.\\nThe first thing you should do if you think you are being followed is to determine whether you can quickly get out of the situation without having to confront the attacker. Look around to see if there are any groups of people around, and if so, walk or run in that direction. If there is nobody around, or if they are too far away, then you will need to take action against your attacker.\\n2-3. Draw attention to yourself.\\nThis is the best way to scare off a criminal, as he or she will be afraid of getting recognized or caught. Scream and yell at the top of your lungs, wave your arms in the air, blow a whistle if you have one; do whatever you can to draw attention to the situation.\\nYell things like \\\"Fire!\\\" \\\"Help!\\\" or \\\"Stop following me!\\\" as loud as you can. If there are people around, they will probably come running to see what is going on.\\nTry yelling something specific, like \\\"Dad!\\\" or another name; this will trick the criminal into thinking that there is someone nearby who knows where you are and who will come to protect you.\\nIt is most effective to start yelling before the person has tried to attack you, before they have had a chance to cover your mouth or threaten to hurt you if you scream.\\n2-4. Put as much distance between the two of you as possible.\\nRun as fast as you can toward safety. If the criminal begins to chase after you, then pull out your wallet and throw it on the ground as you run, making sure that he or she sees it being dropped. If it's your money that the person is after, they will likely stop chasing you and go pick up your wallet instead.\\n2-5. Arm yourself for an attack.\\nIf screaming and running don't deter the criminal, then continue moving in the direction of safety, and while you do, pull out any potential weapons you have on you. If you carry pepper spray, now's the time to pull it out of your bag and have it at the ready. Other potential weapons include pocket knives, keys, or heavy objects like textbooks. Keep your weapon in your hand as you continue moving toward safety.\\nSometimes merely showing the criminal that you are armed is enough to prevent an attack. For example, if you do have pepper spray, pull it out and point it toward the criminal, saying \\\"Don't come any closer. I have pepper spray,\\\" out loud.\\n2-6. Call the police.\\nIf you have a cell phone on you, then pull it out and call the police. Be sure to notify the attacker that you are making the call, as this may scare them away. Say \\\"Leave me alone. I am calling the police,\\\" out loud.\\n2-7. Fight back.\\nIf the criminal grabs you and begins to assault you, use whatever weapons you have to physically harm the other person. Poke them in the eyes, kick them in the genitals, scratch them with your nails, spray them with pepper spray, etc. If you have a heavy object like a textbook, try to knock the person unconscious by hitting them on the side of the head.\\nContinue screaming and drawing attention to yourself as you fight back against your attacker. The longer and louder you scream, the more likely it is that somebody will hear you and come to your rescue.\\n2-8. Always report crimes to the police.\\nOnce you have made it to safety, it's important to notify the police of what happened. Doing so may help save the lives of other potential victims. Describe the attacker's physical appearance, location, gender, and style of dress to the police to help them track the person down as soon as possible.\\nTips\\nIf you have purchased pepper spray, it's important to learn how to properly use it so that you can act quickly in the event of an emergency.\\nAlways trust your instincts. If you feel unsafe in a particular situation, or in a particular person's company, then you might be right. Do whatever you can to get yourself out of that situation, even if you think you are being overly cautious.\\nIt is important to remain calm in the event of an attack so that you can think clearly and do whatever it takes to protect yourself.\\nWarnings\\nEven if you have a weapon on you, never provoke a suspicious stranger into fighting you. Instead, seek safety and only use these weapons to defend yourself in the event that you are about to be attacked.\\nIf a stranger begins following you on your way home, don't go directly to your house, especially if you live alone. Instead, knock on a neighbor's door or walk into a restaurant, bar, or hotel where there are other people.\\nIt's always better to be overly cautious if you think you are in danger. Don't wait for the criminal to attack you before taking action. Call attention to yourself and run toward safety immediately.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Some crimes cannot be prevented, but there are certain things you can do to significantly reduce the likelihood of being targeted by criminals, and to protect yourself and your belongings in the event that you are attacked. Read on to learn how.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Deterring Criminals\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be fully aware of your surroundings.\", \"描述\": \"People who are visibly distracted by their cell phones become easy targets for pickpockets and other criminals. Keep an eye on what is going on around you at all times so that you can better detect suspicious activity and protect yourself and your belongings.\\nGlance behind you every once in a while to make sure that you are not being followed by a stranger. Your best chance of defending yourself in the event of an attack is to identify the attacker as soon as possible.\\nYou should also avoid reading maps and fumbling through your purse or backpack while walking down the street, as these things consume all of your attention and make you more vulnerable to attacks.\\nIf you are traveling in an unknown city, try to get directions to your destination prior to leaving the hotel or hostel you are staying at.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your belongings secure.\", \"描述\": \"Keep valuable possessions, like wallets, smart phones, and cameras out of sight to avoid attracting pickpockets. Store these items safely in your purse or backpack and only take them out when you need them.\\nIt may be tempting to have your smartphone out at all times to text, play games, or look up directions, but keep in mind that smartphone theft is on the rise for this very reason. If you use public transportation during your daily commute, you may want to consider bringing a book or magazine to entertain yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Try not to look like a tourist.\", \"描述\": \"Tourists are oftentimes targeted by pickpockets because they tend to carry lots of cash on them and are usually unfamiliar with their surroundings. Avoid dressing too flashy, and if applicable, adopt the local style of dress so that you can blend in with the locals.\\nAvoid walking around busy streets while reading a map, as this will draw attention to the fact that you are a tourist and suggest to others that you don't know where you're going. If you are using a map to navigate your way around a new city, find a private place that's indoors, like a café or convenience store, to find your way rather than doing it out on the street where everyone can see you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay sober.\", \"描述\": \"Drugs and alcohol can impair your judgment and your ability to defend yourself physically in the event that you are attacked. If you do drink, remember to never leave your beverage unattended, and don't accept drinks from strangers.\\nSome date rapists use tasteless, colorless chemicals to lace their victims' drinks without them knowing. If a stranger offers to buy you a drink, don't accept it unless you watch the bartender make it yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Travel in groups.\", \"描述\": \"Criminals are less likely to attack people in groups as there is strength in numbers. Walking around town alone, especially at night, makes you an easy target for criminals, because there is nobody there to help defend you or to serve as a witness. Protect yourself by asking a friend or family member to accompany you to your destination at night; if this is not an option, then consider taking a cab instead.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Stay in well-lit, densely populated parts of town.\", \"描述\": \"Criminals tend to lurk in dark, deserted streets where there is less law enforcement and fewer potential witnesses. If you are walking down the sidewalk at night, stay as close to the street as possible as criminals may be waiting in alleys for a chance to attack passersby.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Ride a bike.\", \"描述\": \"It is much easier for a pickpocket or rapist to attack a person on foot as opposed to a bicycle. If possible, ride a bike to your destination instead of walking, especially if you are traveling by yourself.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Preventing a Potential Attack\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Determine whether you are in danger.\", \"描述\": \"If you are walking down the street and suspect that you are being followed, don't be afraid to look behind you and find out for sure. If possible, look the person directly in the face; this lets them that you are fully aware of what's going on and that you can and will defend yourself in the event of an attack.\\nAsk the potential attacker for the time; this may help prevent an assault, as criminals prefer to attack people who haven't had a chance to see their face yet.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Seek safety.\", \"描述\": \"The first thing you should do if you think you are being followed is to determine whether you can quickly get out of the situation without having to confront the attacker. Look around to see if there are any groups of people around, and if so, walk or run in that direction. If there is nobody around, or if they are too far away, then you will need to take action against your attacker.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Draw attention to yourself.\", \"描述\": \"This is the best way to scare off a criminal, as he or she will be afraid of getting recognized or caught. Scream and yell at the top of your lungs, wave your arms in the air, blow a whistle if you have one; do whatever you can to draw attention to the situation.\\nYell things like \\\"Fire!\\\" \\\"Help!\\\" or \\\"Stop following me!\\\" as loud as you can. 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Be sure to notify the attacker that you are making the call, as this may scare them away. Say \\\"Leave me alone. I am calling the police,\\\" out loud.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Fight back.\", \"描述\": \"If the criminal grabs you and begins to assault you, use whatever weapons you have to physically harm the other person. Poke them in the eyes, kick them in the genitals, scratch them with your nails, spray them with pepper spray, etc. If you have a heavy object like a textbook, try to knock the person unconscious by hitting them on the side of the head.\\nContinue screaming and drawing attention to yourself as you fight back against your attacker. The longer and louder you scream, the more likely it is that somebody will hear you and come to your rescue.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Always report crimes to the police.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have made it to safety, it's important to notify the police of what happened. Doing so may help save the lives of other potential victims. 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Instead, seek safety and only use these weapons to defend yourself in the event that you are about to be attacked.\\n\", \"If a stranger begins following you on your way home, don't go directly to your house, especially if you live alone. Instead, knock on a neighbor's door or walk into a restaurant, bar, or hotel where there are other people.\\n\", \"It's always better to be overly cautious if you think you are in danger. Don't wait for the criminal to attack you before taking action. Call attention to yourself and run toward safety immediately.\\n\"]}]}}",
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2,903 | How to Avoid Being Banned on Soulseek | 1. Steps
1-1. Right click anywhere in the background of your 'user list', and select "Add user".
(your 'user list' is the upper portion of the right hand section of your slsk window)
1-2. Type your username in exactly.
Everyone has a unique ID which is "case sensitive."
1-3. You will appear in your own user list with a blue icon beside your name (indicating you are online).
The number of files you are sharing is shown to the right of your username. If no number appears, and you have not added other users to your list, then you won't have others to compare yours to.
1-4. Right click on your username and select "Browse files."
1-5. This will bring up a new window.
If it says "No files shared", you are definitely not configured to share and are probably being banned without even knowing it.
1-6. Go to the Options menu and select "File Sharing Configuration" to share your files.
1-7. Click "Add shared folder" and a window into your computer will appear.
You will have to navigate to your music files (usually your "My Shared Folder" or "My Music Files" unless you have chosen another location). Select a folder where you have been storing your music. Repeat if you have more than one folder. You can share many folders, from different locations, but you have to add them individually. Once you have done this, you need to let slsk reset itself.
1-8. Disconnect using the Connection Menu, and then reconnect the same way.
Now wait a moment for slsk to index your files, and a number will appear next to your username.
1-9. Browse your own files again to see how they appear.
Some people write messages about sharing in the titles of folders, others organize their files by type or alphabetically. No matter how you organize your files, it's a good idea to browse your own files this way. You will see if you are sharing files you didn't want to share (like program files) and you can make sure it looks the way you want it to. Return every once in a while to catch any problems.
Tips
Soulseek users often have their own, idiosyncratic rules for downloading from them. It's a good idea to always check a user's "User Info" prior to beginning any download. Just right click on the file name (from a search) or user name, then select "Get User Info" from the pop-up menu. If you do not want to do this (it can take a lot of time--some users seem to want to write books in their User Info), a fairly safe policy is to not download more than one album per day from a particular user. If that user has a lot of material that you'd like to download, add them to your user list so you can easily find them in the future. See the next step for how to do this.
To add others to your 'user list', right click on any searched file or transfer, and select "Add to List". You can just as easily remove people from this list. If you find someone with music you want, or a good connection to yours (in the D/L speed or K/sec columns) it's a good idea to add them to your list for future reference
The images are for Windows XP but it will be useful for you read even if you have a previous version of windows.
Warnings
You can right-click to "Get User Info" which opens up a window where people often leave rules with which to honor when downloading from their computer. Not everyone does this, but it's a good habit to get into.
Never queue up more than an album or two from a single user at once. Doing so is discourteous and selfish. Since Soulseek is first-come, first serve, queuing up too much may prevent others from downloading from that user.
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Click \\\"Add shared folder\\\" and a window into your computer will appear.\\nYou will have to navigate to your music files (usually your \\\"My Shared Folder\\\" or \\\"My Music Files\\\" unless you have chosen another location). Select a folder where you have been storing your music. Repeat if you have more than one folder. You can share many folders, from different locations, but you have to add them individually. Once you have done this, you need to let slsk reset itself.\\n1-8. Disconnect using the Connection Menu, and then reconnect the same way.\\nNow wait a moment for slsk to index your files, and a number will appear next to your username.\\n1-9. Browse your own files again to see how they appear.\\nSome people write messages about sharing in the titles of folders, others organize their files by type or alphabetically. No matter how you organize your files, it's a good idea to browse your own files this way. You will see if you are sharing files you didn't want to share (like program files) and you can make sure it looks the way you want it to. Return every once in a while to catch any problems.\\nTips\\nSoulseek users often have their own, idiosyncratic rules for downloading from them. It's a good idea to always check a user's \\\"User Info\\\" prior to beginning any download. Just right click on the file name (from a search) or user name, then select \\\"Get User Info\\\" from the pop-up menu. If you do not want to do this (it can take a lot of time--some users seem to want to write books in their User Info), a fairly safe policy is to not download more than one album per day from a particular user. If that user has a lot of material that you'd like to download, add them to your user list so you can easily find them in the future. See the next step for how to do this.\\nTo add others to your 'user list', right click on any searched file or transfer, and select \\\"Add to List\\\". You can just as easily remove people from this list. If you find someone with music you want, or a good connection to yours (in the D/L speed or K/sec columns) it's a good idea to add them to your list for future reference\\nThe images are for Windows XP but it will be useful for you read even if you have a previous version of windows.\\nWarnings\\nYou can right-click to \\\"Get User Info\\\" which opens up a window where people often leave rules with which to honor when downloading from their computer. Not everyone does this, but it's a good habit to get into.\\nNever queue up more than an album or two from a single user at once. Doing so is discourteous and selfish. Since Soulseek is first-come, first serve, queuing up too much may prevent others from downloading from that user.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Soulseek, sometimes shortened to slsk, is, at least compared to other Peer-2-Peer networks, a tightly knit community of music enthusiasts and their treasured collections. It's a great place for acquiring music and you may even find you'll make a friend or two, but most won't tolerate you for long unless you share. If you've been 'banned', and you're not sure why then you're probably not sharing any files. You may think you're sharing files, but chances are you're not and don't even realize it. Adding yourself to your \\\"User list\\\" will allow you to quickly check and see if you are sharing files, and allow you to see how they look to others in the community. You can also see how your \\\"User Info\\\" appears, and use the \\\"User Notes\\\" to make notes to yourself. To rule this out as the reason for being banned, try these few steps.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Right click anywhere in the background of your 'user list', and select \\\"Add user\\\".\", \"描述\": \"(your 'user list' is the upper portion of the right hand section of your slsk window)\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Type your username in exactly.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone has a unique ID which is \\\"case sensitive.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"You will appear in your own user list with a blue icon beside your name (indicating you are online).\", \"描述\": \"The number of files you are sharing is shown to the right of your username. 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2,904 | How to Avoid Being Bored When You Have Nothing to Do | 1. Curing Boredom at Home
1-1. Learn a game on days when the weather forces you to stay inside.
Knowing how to play various card games or some compact boardgames, like portable checkers or chess, also comes in handy when you have long car rides, or for when the electricity goes out. There are plenty of simple and fun games you can learn to play with your friends or by yourself.
Grab some friends or family members to play classic board games like Monopoly, Candy Land, or Pictionary. Challenge people to a complex game of Settlers of Catan or Scrabble.
Turn on a gaming console if you have access to one, and revisit an old game you haven’t played in a while. Simulator games like “Sims” are great to play on days when you are bored because the gaming experience is different each time you play.
Card games are portable and can be played anywhere. If you want to play a card game by yourself, learn how to play solitaire, mahjong solitaire, or spider solitaire. If you have someone who will play cards with you, try games like go-fish, gin rummy, or poker.
Play short, silly games that don't require any tools like charades or chopsticks.
1-2. Start learning a new language that has always interested you.
Go to your local library and check out some books on how to get started, or watch tutorials online to help master some basic words and phrases. Maybe you want to learn Spanish or Japanese as a second language.
1-3. Learn to play an instrument to give you something to practice.
Get involved with some local instrument classes at a recreation center, or find tutorials online that will teach you the basics and how to read sheet music. Pick an instrument that excites you like the guitar, bass, or even the tuba.
Study different techniques from various musicians, and pick a method of learning that best suits you. For example, if you want to learn how to play the guitar, you can spend your time listening to new guitarists to study their technique.
1-4. Find a new television show or movie to watch when you want to relax.
Specifically look for old shows that you can marathon watch, or watch over the span of several weeks. Shows that you can continuously watch will keep you engaged longer, and pass more time.
1-5. Listen to new music that excites you to liven up boring tasks.
Most people listen to familiar music passively, hearing it in the background while doing other things. Update your playlist by finding new music to listen to. Find music that makes you want to get up and dance or music that will help pass time while doing household chores or while walking from place to place. This will make listening to music more of an activity and less of an ambiance.
Searching for new music on Pandora, Spotify, Google Play Music, or other music apps is a great way to get new songs similar to the ones you love.
Try out podcasts, which are free radio programs you can download off iTunes. They cover comedy, news, music, entertainment, and much more.
1-6. Get crafty by making decorations that will serve a purpose in your home.
Look around for art supplies, scraps of fabric, or any small objects you can improvise with to make an art project. This can be a fun way to pass the time, and you might end up with a new house decoration.
Consider making a holiday or seasonal wreath for your front door, painting some pottery for a new herb garden, or transforming your seashell collection into a beautiful sounding wind chime.
Make sure to also stock up on crafting materials for the next time you're bored. If you are often looking for something to do at home, take some time to pick out some arts and crafts supplies. You don't need to devote yourself to perfecting a new hobby, although you certainly can. Just try out a few different crafts, such as pottery or bead jewelry, until you find one that enjoyably passes the time.
If you are more interested in house improvement or DIY repairs, pick up a new skill such as carpentry or roof repair.
1-7. Try out a new recipe for dinner and invite some friends over to taste it.
If you like cooking for fun, or have never tried it before, find a new recipe to experiment with. Flip through a cookbook or online recipe collection like FoodGawker. When your creation is complete, have some friends over, and share the results with others.
1-8. Bake cookies or other simple desserts to destress.
Many people bake when they're bored or stressed, especially in the evening when tension from a long day has accumulated. This is a great way to satisfy your sweet tooth and keep yourself entertained. You can find hundreds of cookie recipes online or in cookbooks.
2. Avoiding Boredom in a Public Setting
2-1. Read the latest news to stay current and entertained.
Read particular news articles that interest you, or select articles that actually pertain to the work you do. Maybe do some research on some software you believe would benefit your personal workflow and pitch it to your boss, or get ahead on some research for a school project you know is coming up.
2-2. Start a writing project to exercise your imagination and creativity.
Writing is an inconspicuous activity you can do anywhere. Bring a pencil and paper with you everywhere. A small notepad and pencil is an inexpensive combination that can provide endless entertainment on the go. Simply slip it into your purse or back pocket and pull it out when you feel restless to write or doodle something.
If you're interested in writing, but can't think of anything to write, try a freewrite or a stream of consciousness exercise. These might lead you to an idea for a more structured story, play, or poem.
Look up writing prompts online to spark an idea, or challenge yourself to write a story with an artificial constraint, such as only using one-syllable words.
2-3. Download a mobile game you can play to pass the time.
Simple mobile games and other entertainment-based apps are great to fill the time while standing in line or waiting for a class to start. Pick free games like Candy Crush or Animal Crossing that have in-game restrictions to pass small increments of time, or download more involved games like Clash of Clans or Pokemon Go to pass larger spans of time.
2-4. Engage in online social platforms to feel connected to other people.
Scroll through your feeds on social media platforms like Facebook or Twitter, and chat with friends and family. Try finding something new on community platforms like Reddit and search topics that interest you.
2-5. Discover a new webcomic or story online that you can read on the go.
Thousands of writers and artists put stories and comics online for free, and many of them have archives going back for years. Use collections like Top Web Comics and FanFiction.Net to browse the top-rated webcomics and stories. Bookmark a few stories you think you will enjoy, and read them when you have nothing to do during school or work.
Once you find a website you like, check to see if the company has a mobile app or a way for you to download the story on your phone. This way, you can even read it offline and save mobile data.
3. Being Entertained Outside
3-1. Chat with your neighbors to get know people in your community.
Depending on where you are, talking with some of your neighbors may be the best way to avoid boredom. Pay them a compliment, make a comment about your surroundings (the weather, the train, a street musician), or simply introduce yourself if you have never formally met them.
You never know what you will learn from your neighbors, and what opportunities getting to know them might bring. Maybe you will find out they enjoy gardening as much as you do, or that they can play the guitar and will give your free lessons.
3-2. Develop an exercise routine that will get you out of the house.
You can go to a local gym or community center and develop a personal exercise routine by doing push-ups, sit-ups, and weightlifting for you to work on by yourself. Grab a few friends to go bike riding, skateboarding, or to just get outside and play in the park.
Consider a more structured exercise routine with physical activities like dancing, yoga, or running. Doing more structured physical activities may even lead you to make new friends.
Exercising may not be easy when you first start out, especially if you aren’t normally active. People who exercise with someone who has a similar fitness level and similar fitness goals are more likely to enjoy themselves and stick to regular exercise.
3-3. Join a local sport to meet people with similar interests.
This is a great way to fill up empty weekends, especially if you enjoy spending time with people. If you have always wanted to play on a baseball or volleyball team, see if your community has a recreational team. They are usually low-key, weekly games that get you out of the house easily.
Contact your local Department of Parks and Recreation and ask about local sports leagues for both children and adults. The easiest way to contact the department would be over the telephone or online. The website might even have a sports schedule posted.
If your community does not offer recreational sports, arrange a group of friends to play a pick-up game or other outdoor game. Try out games like ultimate frisbee or capture the flag.
3-4. Pick up gardening to give yourself something to tend to on a daily basis.
Tending to plants is very relaxing, makes you feel connected to the earth, and requires almost daily care. Go to your local hardware store to pick up seeds and topsoil to build a garden in your backyard, or purchase small, windowsill potted plants or herbs to care for easily inside.
3-5. Engage in daily outdoor activities like walking or hiking.
Getting out of the house for 30 minutes or an hour each day can change your outlook for the better. When you take a lunch break, bring your sandwich with you on a walk or an impromptu picnic. This may clear your head and stop you feeling stir crazy.
On a hike or on other long outdoor trips, try bringing a book to keep yourself entertained if you get tired or bored of physical activity. Also, limit your use of electronic devices as they make it difficult to enjoy natural surroundings.
If you have an outdoor pet, taking it for a walk or playing with it at a park is a great way to break out of a bored state of mind.
3-6. Volunteer with a local community service to help those in need.
This is a great way to meet new people and get out of the house, and it’s completely free. Call your local community center, SPCA, American Cancer Society, or college campus and ask about volunteering opportunities. You can also go online to look up what volunteer organizations are local to your area.
3-7. Mix up your social life with something new or surprising.
A boring nightlife is usually the result of a stale social scene. When you see the same people at the same bar, movie theater, or restaurant every weekend, things can get dull. Go to a new dance club, see live theater, or go camping to try something new and eliminate the boredom from your nightly routine.
3-8. Camp out in your backyard to change your sleeping environment.
Simply sleeping under the stars can be a new and entertaining experience that will eliminate boredom in a heartbeat. Watch the stars, listen to the sounds of night animals, and enjoy the fresh, cool air under the moonlight with family and friends. If the weather conditions are good, the most you might need is a simple sleeping bag and a pillow to enjoy a night under the stars.
Just make sure to check the weather before committing to sleeping outside to avoid getting rained on.
4. Stopping Boredom before It Happens
4-1. Use your imagination to transform your environment.
Regardless of your environment, your brain is always around to entertain you. Your imagination can take you on wondrous adventures, or even spark an idea for a new hobby. Never underestimate the power of your imagination, and what you can create with it.
4-2. Be curious about the world around you by exploring your town.
A curious mind can easily avoid boredom by simply taking an interest in something new. An easy place to start is to explore and examine your community. You might just discover something you never knew about your town, and it may lead to ideas for new activities.
Wonder about the architecture around your town. How was that building designed? Who painted the graffiti down the street? What techniques went into making the clothes in the window?
4-3. Act spontaneously to break familiar habits or patterns.
Overthinking the situation is often a big blockade to getting over boredom. Trying to find the “perfect” activity is a sure-fire way to do no activity at all, so stop thinking and do something. Try being spontaneous and divert from your typical habits or thinking patterns. Being spontaneous lends your life an air of surprise that makes everything less boring.
Call a friend you haven’t spoken with and see if they want to hang out.
Put on shoes and go walking, and turn into the café you’ve always wanted to try.
4-4. Practice mindful meditation to avoid becoming bored easily.
It is easy to become bored or restless when standing in line, waiting for a friend, or during other short periods of time when you can't find an activity. Sometimes, distracting yourself by reading a book or using your cell phone is not enough to cure this problem. Meditation is the art of focusing on your thoughts and mind, and enjoying the little things around you instead of feeling restless or bored.
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If you have someone who will play cards with you, try games like go-fish, gin rummy, or poker.\\nPlay short, silly games that don't require any tools like charades or chopsticks.\\n1-2. Start learning a new language that has always interested you.\\nGo to your local library and check out some books on how to get started, or watch tutorials online to help master some basic words and phrases. Maybe you want to learn Spanish or Japanese as a second language.\\n1-3. Learn to play an instrument to give you something to practice.\\nGet involved with some local instrument classes at a recreation center, or find tutorials online that will teach you the basics and how to read sheet music. Pick an instrument that excites you like the guitar, bass, or even the tuba.\\nStudy different techniques from various musicians, and pick a method of learning that best suits you. For example, if you want to learn how to play the guitar, you can spend your time listening to new guitarists to study their technique.\\n1-4. Find a new television show or movie to watch when you want to relax.\\nSpecifically look for old shows that you can marathon watch, or watch over the span of several weeks. Shows that you can continuously watch will keep you engaged longer, and pass more time.\\n1-5. Listen to new music that excites you to liven up boring tasks.\\nMost people listen to familiar music passively, hearing it in the background while doing other things. Update your playlist by finding new music to listen to. Find music that makes you want to get up and dance or music that will help pass time while doing household chores or while walking from place to place. This will make listening to music more of an activity and less of an ambiance. \\nSearching for new music on Pandora, Spotify, Google Play Music, or other music apps is a great way to get new songs similar to the ones you love.\\nTry out podcasts, which are free radio programs you can download off iTunes. They cover comedy, news, music, entertainment, and much more.\\n1-6. Get crafty by making decorations that will serve a purpose in your home.\\nLook around for art supplies, scraps of fabric, or any small objects you can improvise with to make an art project. This can be a fun way to pass the time, and you might end up with a new house decoration.\\nConsider making a holiday or seasonal wreath for your front door, painting some pottery for a new herb garden, or transforming your seashell collection into a beautiful sounding wind chime.\\nMake sure to also stock up on crafting materials for the next time you're bored. If you are often looking for something to do at home, take some time to pick out some arts and crafts supplies. You don't need to devote yourself to perfecting a new hobby, although you certainly can. Just try out a few different crafts, such as pottery or bead jewelry, until you find one that enjoyably passes the time.\\nIf you are more interested in house improvement or DIY repairs, pick up a new skill such as carpentry or roof repair.\\n1-7. Try out a new recipe for dinner and invite some friends over to taste it.\\nIf you like cooking for fun, or have never tried it before, find a new recipe to experiment with. Flip through a cookbook or online recipe collection like FoodGawker. When your creation is complete, have some friends over, and share the results with others.\\n1-8. Bake cookies or other simple desserts to destress.\\nMany people bake when they're bored or stressed, especially in the evening when tension from a long day has accumulated. This is a great way to satisfy your sweet tooth and keep yourself entertained. You can find hundreds of cookie recipes online or in cookbooks.\\n2. Avoiding Boredom in a Public Setting\\n2-1. Read the latest news to stay current and entertained.\\nRead particular news articles that interest you, or select articles that actually pertain to the work you do. Maybe do some research on some software you believe would benefit your personal workflow and pitch it to your boss, or get ahead on some research for a school project you know is coming up.\\n2-2. Start a writing project to exercise your imagination and creativity.\\nWriting is an inconspicuous activity you can do anywhere. Bring a pencil and paper with you everywhere. A small notepad and pencil is an inexpensive combination that can provide endless entertainment on the go. Simply slip it into your purse or back pocket and pull it out when you feel restless to write or doodle something. \\nIf you're interested in writing, but can't think of anything to write, try a freewrite or a stream of consciousness exercise. These might lead you to an idea for a more structured story, play, or poem.\\nLook up writing prompts online to spark an idea, or challenge yourself to write a story with an artificial constraint, such as only using one-syllable words.\\n2-3. Download a mobile game you can play to pass the time.\\nSimple mobile games and other entertainment-based apps are great to fill the time while standing in line or waiting for a class to start. Pick free games like Candy Crush or Animal Crossing that have in-game restrictions to pass small increments of time, or download more involved games like Clash of Clans or Pokemon Go to pass larger spans of time.\\n2-4. Engage in online social platforms to feel connected to other people.\\nScroll through your feeds on social media platforms like Facebook or Twitter, and chat with friends and family. Try finding something new on community platforms like Reddit and search topics that interest you.\\n2-5. Discover a new webcomic or story online that you can read on the go.\\nThousands of writers and artists put stories and comics online for free, and many of them have archives going back for years. Use collections like Top Web Comics and FanFiction.Net to browse the top-rated webcomics and stories. Bookmark a few stories you think you will enjoy, and read them when you have nothing to do during school or work.\\nOnce you find a website you like, check to see if the company has a mobile app or a way for you to download the story on your phone. This way, you can even read it offline and save mobile data.\\n3. Being Entertained Outside\\n3-1. Chat with your neighbors to get know people in your community.\\nDepending on where you are, talking with some of your neighbors may be the best way to avoid boredom. Pay them a compliment, make a comment about your surroundings (the weather, the train, a street musician), or simply introduce yourself if you have never formally met them.\\nYou never know what you will learn from your neighbors, and what opportunities getting to know them might bring. Maybe you will find out they enjoy gardening as much as you do, or that they can play the guitar and will give your free lessons.\\n3-2. Develop an exercise routine that will get you out of the house.\\nYou can go to a local gym or community center and develop a personal exercise routine by doing push-ups, sit-ups, and weightlifting for you to work on by yourself. Grab a few friends to go bike riding, skateboarding, or to just get outside and play in the park.\\nConsider a more structured exercise routine with physical activities like dancing, yoga, or running. Doing more structured physical activities may even lead you to make new friends.\\nExercising may not be easy when you first start out, especially if you aren’t normally active. People who exercise with someone who has a similar fitness level and similar fitness goals are more likely to enjoy themselves and stick to regular exercise.\\n3-3. Join a local sport to meet people with similar interests.\\nThis is a great way to fill up empty weekends, especially if you enjoy spending time with people. If you have always wanted to play on a baseball or volleyball team, see if your community has a recreational team. They are usually low-key, weekly games that get you out of the house easily. \\nContact your local Department of Parks and Recreation and ask about local sports leagues for both children and adults. The easiest way to contact the department would be over the telephone or online. The website might even have a sports schedule posted.\\nIf your community does not offer recreational sports, arrange a group of friends to play a pick-up game or other outdoor game. Try out games like ultimate frisbee or capture the flag.\\n3-4. Pick up gardening to give yourself something to tend to on a daily basis.\\nTending to plants is very relaxing, makes you feel connected to the earth, and requires almost daily care. Go to your local hardware store to pick up seeds and topsoil to build a garden in your backyard, or purchase small, windowsill potted plants or herbs to care for easily inside.\\n3-5. Engage in daily outdoor activities like walking or hiking.\\nGetting out of the house for 30 minutes or an hour each day can change your outlook for the better. When you take a lunch break, bring your sandwich with you on a walk or an impromptu picnic. This may clear your head and stop you feeling stir crazy.\\nOn a hike or on other long outdoor trips, try bringing a book to keep yourself entertained if you get tired or bored of physical activity. Also, limit your use of electronic devices as they make it difficult to enjoy natural surroundings.\\nIf you have an outdoor pet, taking it for a walk or playing with it at a park is a great way to break out of a bored state of mind.\\n3-6. Volunteer with a local community service to help those in need.\\nThis is a great way to meet new people and get out of the house, and it’s completely free. Call your local community center, SPCA, American Cancer Society, or college campus and ask about volunteering opportunities. You can also go online to look up what volunteer organizations are local to your area.\\n3-7. Mix up your social life with something new or surprising.\\nA boring nightlife is usually the result of a stale social scene. When you see the same people at the same bar, movie theater, or restaurant every weekend, things can get dull. Go to a new dance club, see live theater, or go camping to try something new and eliminate the boredom from your nightly routine.\\n3-8. Camp out in your backyard to change your sleeping environment.\\nSimply sleeping under the stars can be a new and entertaining experience that will eliminate boredom in a heartbeat. Watch the stars, listen to the sounds of night animals, and enjoy the fresh, cool air under the moonlight with family and friends. If the weather conditions are good, the most you might need is a simple sleeping bag and a pillow to enjoy a night under the stars.\\nJust make sure to check the weather before committing to sleeping outside to avoid getting rained on.\\n4. Stopping Boredom before It Happens\\n4-1. Use your imagination to transform your environment.\\nRegardless of your environment, your brain is always around to entertain you. Your imagination can take you on wondrous adventures, or even spark an idea for a new hobby. Never underestimate the power of your imagination, and what you can create with it.\\n4-2. Be curious about the world around you by exploring your town.\\nA curious mind can easily avoid boredom by simply taking an interest in something new. An easy place to start is to explore and examine your community. You might just discover something you never knew about your town, and it may lead to ideas for new activities.\\nWonder about the architecture around your town. How was that building designed? Who painted the graffiti down the street? What techniques went into making the clothes in the window?\\n4-3. Act spontaneously to break familiar habits or patterns.\\nOverthinking the situation is often a big blockade to getting over boredom. Trying to find the “perfect” activity is a sure-fire way to do no activity at all, so stop thinking and do something. Try being spontaneous and divert from your typical habits or thinking patterns. Being spontaneous lends your life an air of surprise that makes everything less boring.\\nCall a friend you haven’t spoken with and see if they want to hang out.\\nPut on shoes and go walking, and turn into the café you’ve always wanted to try.\\n4-4. Practice mindful meditation to avoid becoming bored easily.\\nIt is easy to become bored or restless when standing in line, waiting for a friend, or during other short periods of time when you can't find an activity. Sometimes, distracting yourself by reading a book or using your cell phone is not enough to cure this problem. Meditation is the art of focusing on your thoughts and mind, and enjoying the little things around you instead of feeling restless or bored.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Sometimes, it may seem impossible to avoid feeling bored. Maybe you feel stuck in familiar habits, or maybe there is no one around to hang out with. Luckily for you, boredom is just a way of thinking, and you can easily change that. Avoid boredom by getting curious about the world around you, trying something new, or challenging yourself to learn a new skill. Whether you are at home or in a public setting with nothing to do, there are countless different ways to break out of a boring mood.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Curing Boredom at Home\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn a game on days when the weather forces you to stay inside.\", \"描述\": \"Knowing how to play various card games or some compact boardgames, like portable checkers or chess, also comes in handy when you have long car rides, or for when the electricity goes out. There are plenty of simple and fun games you can learn to play with your friends or by yourself.\\nGrab some friends or family members to play classic board games like Monopoly, Candy Land, or Pictionary. Challenge people to a complex game of Settlers of Catan or Scrabble.\\nTurn on a gaming console if you have access to one, and revisit an old game you haven’t played in a while. Simulator games like “Sims” are great to play on days when you are bored because the gaming experience is different each time you play.\\nCard games are portable and can be played anywhere. If you want to play a card game by yourself, learn how to play solitaire, mahjong solitaire, or spider solitaire. If you have someone who will play cards with you, try games like go-fish, gin rummy, or poker.\\nPlay short, silly games that don't require any tools like charades or chopsticks.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Start learning a new language that has always interested you.\", \"描述\": \"Go to your local library and check out some books on how to get started, or watch tutorials online to help master some basic words and phrases. 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Shows that you can continuously watch will keep you engaged longer, and pass more time.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Listen to new music that excites you to liven up boring tasks.\", \"描述\": \"Most people listen to familiar music passively, hearing it in the background while doing other things. Update your playlist by finding new music to listen to. Find music that makes you want to get up and dance or music that will help pass time while doing household chores or while walking from place to place. This will make listening to music more of an activity and less of an ambiance. \\nSearching for new music on Pandora, Spotify, Google Play Music, or other music apps is a great way to get new songs similar to the ones you love.\\nTry out podcasts, which are free radio programs you can download off iTunes. They cover comedy, news, music, entertainment, and much more.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get crafty by making decorations that will serve a purpose in your home.\", \"描述\": \"Look around for art supplies, scraps of fabric, or any small objects you can improvise with to make an art project. This can be a fun way to pass the time, and you might end up with a new house decoration.\\nConsider making a holiday or seasonal wreath for your front door, painting some pottery for a new herb garden, or transforming your seashell collection into a beautiful sounding wind chime.\\nMake sure to also stock up on crafting materials for the next time you're bored. If you are often looking for something to do at home, take some time to pick out some arts and crafts supplies. You don't need to devote yourself to perfecting a new hobby, although you certainly can. Just try out a few different crafts, such as pottery or bead jewelry, until you find one that enjoyably passes the time.\\nIf you are more interested in house improvement or DIY repairs, pick up a new skill such as carpentry or roof repair.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Try out a new recipe for dinner and invite some friends over to taste it.\", \"描述\": \"If you like cooking for fun, or have never tried it before, find a new recipe to experiment with. Flip through a cookbook or online recipe collection like FoodGawker. When your creation is complete, have some friends over, and share the results with others.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Bake cookies or other simple desserts to destress.\", \"描述\": \"Many people bake when they're bored or stressed, especially in the evening when tension from a long day has accumulated. This is a great way to satisfy your sweet tooth and keep yourself entertained. You can find hundreds of cookie recipes online or in cookbooks.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Avoiding Boredom in a Public Setting\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read the latest news to stay current and entertained.\", \"描述\": \"Read particular news articles that interest you, or select articles that actually pertain to the work you do. Maybe do some research on some software you believe would benefit your personal workflow and pitch it to your boss, or get ahead on some research for a school project you know is coming up.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Start a writing project to exercise your imagination and creativity.\", \"描述\": \"Writing is an inconspicuous activity you can do anywhere. Bring a pencil and paper with you everywhere. A small notepad and pencil is an inexpensive combination that can provide endless entertainment on the go. Simply slip it into your purse or back pocket and pull it out when you feel restless to write or doodle something. \\nIf you're interested in writing, but can't think of anything to write, try a freewrite or a stream of consciousness exercise. These might lead you to an idea for a more structured story, play, or poem.\\nLook up writing prompts online to spark an idea, or challenge yourself to write a story with an artificial constraint, such as only using one-syllable words.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Download a mobile game you can play to pass the time.\", \"描述\": \"Simple mobile games and other entertainment-based apps are great to fill the time while standing in line or waiting for a class to start. Pick free games like Candy Crush or Animal Crossing that have in-game restrictions to pass small increments of time, or download more involved games like Clash of Clans or Pokemon Go to pass larger spans of time.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Engage in online social platforms to feel connected to other people.\", \"描述\": \"Scroll through your feeds on social media platforms like Facebook or Twitter, and chat with friends and family. Try finding something new on community platforms like Reddit and search topics that interest you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Discover a new webcomic or story online that you can read on the go.\", \"描述\": \"Thousands of writers and artists put stories and comics online for free, and many of them have archives going back for years. Use collections like Top Web Comics and FanFiction.Net to browse the top-rated webcomics and stories. Bookmark a few stories you think you will enjoy, and read them when you have nothing to do during school or work.\\nOnce you find a website you like, check to see if the company has a mobile app or a way for you to download the story on your phone. This way, you can even read it offline and save mobile data.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Being Entertained Outside\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Chat with your neighbors to get know people in your community.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on where you are, talking with some of your neighbors may be the best way to avoid boredom. Pay them a compliment, make a comment about your surroundings (the weather, the train, a street musician), or simply introduce yourself if you have never formally met them.\\nYou never know what you will learn from your neighbors, and what opportunities getting to know them might bring. Maybe you will find out they enjoy gardening as much as you do, or that they can play the guitar and will give your free lessons.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Develop an exercise routine that will get you out of the house.\", \"描述\": \"You can go to a local gym or community center and develop a personal exercise routine by doing push-ups, sit-ups, and weightlifting for you to work on by yourself. Grab a few friends to go bike riding, skateboarding, or to just get outside and play in the park.\\nConsider a more structured exercise routine with physical activities like dancing, yoga, or running. Doing more structured physical activities may even lead you to make new friends.\\nExercising may not be easy when you first start out, especially if you aren’t normally active. People who exercise with someone who has a similar fitness level and similar fitness goals are more likely to enjoy themselves and stick to regular exercise.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Join a local sport to meet people with similar interests.\", \"描述\": \"This is a great way to fill up empty weekends, especially if you enjoy spending time with people. If you have always wanted to play on a baseball or volleyball team, see if your community has a recreational team. They are usually low-key, weekly games that get you out of the house easily. \\nContact your local Department of Parks and Recreation and ask about local sports leagues for both children and adults. The easiest way to contact the department would be over the telephone or online. The website might even have a sports schedule posted.\\nIf your community does not offer recreational sports, arrange a group of friends to play a pick-up game or other outdoor game. Try out games like ultimate frisbee or capture the flag.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pick up gardening to give yourself something to tend to on a daily basis.\", \"描述\": \"Tending to plants is very relaxing, makes you feel connected to the earth, and requires almost daily care. Go to your local hardware store to pick up seeds and topsoil to build a garden in your backyard, or purchase small, windowsill potted plants or herbs to care for easily inside.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Engage in daily outdoor activities like walking or hiking.\", \"描述\": \"Getting out of the house for 30 minutes or an hour each day can change your outlook for the better. When you take a lunch break, bring your sandwich with you on a walk or an impromptu picnic. This may clear your head and stop you feeling stir crazy.\\nOn a hike or on other long outdoor trips, try bringing a book to keep yourself entertained if you get tired or bored of physical activity. Also, limit your use of electronic devices as they make it difficult to enjoy natural surroundings.\\nIf you have an outdoor pet, taking it for a walk or playing with it at a park is a great way to break out of a bored state of mind.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Volunteer with a local community service to help those in need.\", \"描述\": \"This is a great way to meet new people and get out of the house, and it’s completely free. Call your local community center, SPCA, American Cancer Society, or college campus and ask about volunteering opportunities. You can also go online to look up what volunteer organizations are local to your area.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Mix up your social life with something new or surprising.\", \"描述\": \"A boring nightlife is usually the result of a stale social scene. When you see the same people at the same bar, movie theater, or restaurant every weekend, things can get dull. Go to a new dance club, see live theater, or go camping to try something new and eliminate the boredom from your nightly routine.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Camp out in your backyard to change your sleeping environment.\", \"描述\": \"Simply sleeping under the stars can be a new and entertaining experience that will eliminate boredom in a heartbeat. Watch the stars, listen to the sounds of night animals, and enjoy the fresh, cool air under the moonlight with family and friends. If the weather conditions are good, the most you might need is a simple sleeping bag and a pillow to enjoy a night under the stars.\\nJust make sure to check the weather before committing to sleeping outside to avoid getting rained on.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stopping Boredom before It Happens\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use your imagination to transform your environment.\", \"描述\": \"Regardless of your environment, your brain is always around to entertain you. Your imagination can take you on wondrous adventures, or even spark an idea for a new hobby. Never underestimate the power of your imagination, and what you can create with it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be curious about the world around you by exploring your town.\", \"描述\": \"A curious mind can easily avoid boredom by simply taking an interest in something new. An easy place to start is to explore and examine your community. You might just discover something you never knew about your town, and it may lead to ideas for new activities.\\nWonder about the architecture around your town. How was that building designed? Who painted the graffiti down the street? What techniques went into making the clothes in the window?\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Act spontaneously to break familiar habits or patterns.\", \"描述\": \"Overthinking the situation is often a big blockade to getting over boredom. 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2,905 | How to Avoid Being Bossy | 1. Steps
1-1. Sit down and listen.
Instead of trying to impose your worldview and thoughts onto other people, take time out from that need and just listen. What are others really saying? Is it so urgent to make them see things your way?
1-2. Start joining slowly in to conversations.
Rather than asserting yourself as the person with all the answers, simply ask questions as part of your joining in the conversation. Ask about people's feelings, thoughts, wants, concerns, etc. and avoid overlaying your feelings, etc., in return.
1-3. Adopt the mantra:
"People should choose for themselves." This means that you become open to presenting options and reaching compromises rather than insisting that it's "your way or the highway." Find the middle way instead and the means by which your interests and the other person's interests can meet in the middle. It might mean giving up a little of something, but, in turn, you'll gain a great deal more.
1-4. Be yourself.
Though perhaps a cliché, it's quite true. When you're trying hard to be something you feel is expected of you rather than the person you really are, you may become more bossy to cope. Try to overlook those expectations from others and be guided by your own values, wherever possible. Once you feel secure with your values, you'll feel a lot less need to push others around. You'll stop seeing others as a challenge to your identity.
1-5. Accept difference.
Not everyone can do things at a hare's pace and not everyone is good at the things you're good at. If we were all the same, there would be no room for excelling and there would be no place for learning about diversity. Be grateful that there are differences and instead of seeing obstacles in the way others behave, look for their strengths only and work with those. This is especially important if you've fallen into a bad habit of thinking that you have no weaknesses; that sets you up for a fall. Instead, show people you know how to recognize their strengths and work with those.
1-6. Know when to let others make mistakes.
Even if you do know a better way to do something, when a co-worker is reluctant to listen to your suggestions, consider that maybe they'll have to suffer the consequences of their actions and choices. If you don't, you might be enabling those around you who aren't quite as competent as you're helping them appear.
1-7. Enjoy life!
Bossy people don't have time to stop and smell the roses because everything must be "just so." Let it go now and then and just stop. Tame that perfectionism before it engulfs you!
Tips
People won't always go for your options. They will go for the one that is more appealing, more quality and more.
Listen to other people's suggestions, and that means really listen. A person with a bossy personality often thinks they already know best and refuses to hear what others have to say. If you have become this way, it's time to start listening again.
Try using active listening body language.
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Instead, show people you know how to recognize their strengths and work with those.\\n1-6. Know when to let others make mistakes.\\nEven if you do know a better way to do something, when a co-worker is reluctant to listen to your suggestions, consider that maybe they'll have to suffer the consequences of their actions and choices. If you don't, you might be enabling those around you who aren't quite as competent as you're helping them appear.\\n1-7. Enjoy life!\\nBossy people don't have time to stop and smell the roses because everything must be \\\"just so.\\\" Let it go now and then and just stop. Tame that perfectionism before it engulfs you!\\nTips\\nPeople won't always go for your options. They will go for the one that is more appealing, more quality and more.\\nListen to other people's suggestions, and that means really listen. A person with a bossy personality often thinks they already know best and refuses to hear what others have to say. 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2,906 | How to Avoid Being Bullied in Middle School | 1. Deterring Bullies
1-1. Be confident.
Bullies typically seek easy targets. They try to pick on someone who they think lacks the confidence to stand up to them. If you portray confidence, you will avoid a lot of bullying.
Take a martial arts class. By learning martial arts, you have a much better chance of winning a fight against your bully in case they attack you first. This is because martial arts teaches you to be a trained fighter and not afraid of standing up for yourself. It will help make you very confident in yourself.
Give off confident body language by standing up straight when navigating the hallways. While this may seem like a minor change, it can really convey confidence. Make eye contact with people and smile slightly as you walk down the halls.
Find ways to increase your own self-esteem. By investing into hobbies or extra-curricular activities, it can boost your self-worth and make you feel good about yourself.
1-2. Stay within eyesight of an adult.
If you linger within the eyesight of an adult, bullies will typically stay away. Bullies do not want to cause trouble for themselves, so they avoid tormenting others if a teacher or other adult is near. When navigating your school, stay in areas where teachers and other adults are typically present.
For example, eat lunch close to the table where teachers sit.
1-3. Hang out in groups.
Bullies may be less likely to target a big group of friends. They tend to pick on people they perceive as defenseless or powerless. If you're always surrounded by people, a bully may be intimidated and avoid bothering you.
Try to get involved with a group of people who share your interests, such as by joining a club or sports team. Then, spend time with these people throughout the day. This will help to ensure that you are always with a large group of people and you will not be an easy target for a bully.
1-4. Avoid bullies altogether.
If you know which kids tend to bully others, stay away from them. Avoid areas in the school where bullies congregate. If you don't have assigned seating, avoid sitting next to bullies in class. If you keep your distance from bullies, they'll have a harder time bothering you.
Sometimes, bullies show up in areas you can't avoid. If your locker is located next to a bully's locker, for example, some interaction is necessary. Try to minimize this as much as you can by quickly removing your books between classes. You may also consider asking to move to a different locker to reduce or avoid conflicts with the bully.
2. Dealing with Bullying
2-1. Do not bully back.
If you want to avoid being bullied, you have to avoid doing it to others. This helps create a culture of respect between you and your classmates. Avoid kicking, fighting, or yelling at a bully. Escalating the situation can be dangerous and will only give the bully the reaction they want.
Try taking a few deep breaths before you react or do anything. This will help you to stay calm and maintain your composure.
2-2. Try to ignore it.
If you're able to tune it out, do so. Bullies enjoy knowing their tactics have impacted someone's mentality, so temporarily concealing your reaction may help. If a bully says or does something to you, pretend you didn't notice and proceed with your day. Bullies may get bored with targets that don't react to their antics.
2-3. Stand up for yourself.
If a bully doesn't back down even if you ignore them, calmly address the issue. Instead of getting angry and yelling or fighting back, slowly and confidently tell the bully off. Plan what you will say ahead of time if you have a recurring bully situation, and practice saying it at home in a mirror several times so that you will be prepared.
Use a loud, clear voice to let the bully know you don't like their behavior. Say something like, "Stop doing that now." Then, walk away from the situation. Bullies don't usually expect this type of assertive behaviour from victims, therefore doing so will make them quickly back off.
Do the same if you see a bully harassing another student. If bullies see kids in your school won't tolerate their antics, they're more likely to stop.
2-4. Distract yourself from bullying.
If you're very distressed by a bully, find other things to occupy your mind. In situations where you're getting bullied, do a small mental exercise. Recite the alphabet backwards. Count back from one hundred. Try to make a mental list of names that start with the letter "A."
2-5. Find someone to talk to.
While it's great to ignore the bully in the moment, do not keep your feelings bottled up. After you've been harassed by a bully, talk things out with a trusted friend or adult. Rant about your feelings so you get them out of your system and feel better.
Writing your feelings in a journal or doing something artistic like painting or drawing may also be helpful as an emotional outlet.
3. Preventing Cyber Bullying
3-1. Use disengagement to discourage cyberbullying.
If you are being bullied online, then one of the best ways to deal with it is to disengage. You can ignore the person, block them, or log off to avoid encountering the bully online. You can also delete bullying messages and posts, but make sure that you show an adult the bullying posts and/or screenshot them before you delete them.
If the situation is severe, you may want to delete your social media accounts and stay offline.
3-2. Keep your password a complete secret.
If someone can get onto your account, they can create a lot of problems for you. Keep your password a secret from everyone. Even trusted friends can accidentally reveal your password to others. The only person who should know your password to your email and social media accounts is you.
If you're worried about forgetting your password, most sites have ways you can retrieve or reset it. While forgetting your password can be a hassle, it's rarely a major issue.
If for some reason someone does get the password to your account, change it immediately.
3-3. Adjust your privacy settings.
If you are experiencing or concerned about someone bullying you online, alter your settings. Changing your privacy settings on your profiles will allow you to post things that only your friends can see. Make things like Twitter and Facebook private to public audiences. Only add close, trusted friends on these sites.
3-4. Think carefully about the content you post.
If you are being bullied for your posts, use more discretion when posting. Stay away from topics that could encourage bullies. Sensitive information can be shared via emails or private messages instead.
You should also avoid posting anything aggressive about other classmates, even something veiled. This can anger and encourage bullies. Rant to a friend if you're mad about something instead of posting it online.
Try to sleep on it before you post or at least wait an hour before posting anything. This will give you time to think about the possible implications of your post and help to ensure that you are not posting in an emotional state.
4. Seeking Outside Help
4-1. Join or start a club to help curb bullying at your school.
Bullying has come to light as a major problem in recent years. Many groups are dedicated to addressing bullying in schools. If your school has an anti-bullying group, sign up. You can also start a group in your school to address bullying.
In addition to helping combat the issue of bullying, a group will provide you with emotional support.
4-2. Tell an adult.
If you can't stop a bully on your own, talk to an adult. Do not think of this as snitching. Bullies can cause major issues for you and other students. You should not let your bully continue to harass you.
In school, report the bully to a teacher or counselor, but do it privately. Even if your bully isn't around, they may have friends in your class who will tell your bully that you reported them. If you prefer, you should send your teacher or counselor an email through your school account to report the bully.
Tell your parents about what is happening in school. Your parents should call your counselor and tell them about your bully. If your school will not listen to you, they will listen to your parents because your school is responsible for you.
If you are being bullied outside of school, a police officer can also help you. If you are being bullied and a police officer is around, ask for their help.
If you are concerned that the bully might retaliate, then you can let the adult know that you want to find a solution to the problem and that you are not trying to get the bully into trouble. This may help the adult to determine how to proceed and reduce the chances that the bully will retaliate.
4-3. Strengthen your current friendships.
Instead of focusing on people who are mean to you, focus on students worth your time. Spend quality time with close friends to strengthen your bonds. If you have strong, secure friendships, it will be easier to tune out bullies.
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Avoid bullies altogether.\\nIf you know which kids tend to bully others, stay away from them. Avoid areas in the school where bullies congregate. If you don't have assigned seating, avoid sitting next to bullies in class. If you keep your distance from bullies, they'll have a harder time bothering you.\\nSometimes, bullies show up in areas you can't avoid. If your locker is located next to a bully's locker, for example, some interaction is necessary. Try to minimize this as much as you can by quickly removing your books between classes. You may also consider asking to move to a different locker to reduce or avoid conflicts with the bully.\\n2. Dealing with Bullying\\n2-1. Do not bully back.\\nIf you want to avoid being bullied, you have to avoid doing it to others. This helps create a culture of respect between you and your classmates. Avoid kicking, fighting, or yelling at a bully. Escalating the situation can be dangerous and will only give the bully the reaction they want.\\nTry taking a few deep breaths before you react or do anything. This will help you to stay calm and maintain your composure.\\n2-2. Try to ignore it.\\nIf you're able to tune it out, do so. Bullies enjoy knowing their tactics have impacted someone's mentality, so temporarily concealing your reaction may help. If a bully says or does something to you, pretend you didn't notice and proceed with your day. Bullies may get bored with targets that don't react to their antics.\\n2-3. Stand up for yourself.\\nIf a bully doesn't back down even if you ignore them, calmly address the issue. Instead of getting angry and yelling or fighting back, slowly and confidently tell the bully off. Plan what you will say ahead of time if you have a recurring bully situation, and practice saying it at home in a mirror several times so that you will be prepared.\\nUse a loud, clear voice to let the bully know you don't like their behavior. Say something like, \\\"Stop doing that now.\\\" Then, walk away from the situation. Bullies don't usually expect this type of assertive behaviour from victims, therefore doing so will make them quickly back off.\\nDo the same if you see a bully harassing another student. If bullies see kids in your school won't tolerate their antics, they're more likely to stop.\\n2-4. Distract yourself from bullying.\\nIf you're very distressed by a bully, find other things to occupy your mind. In situations where you're getting bullied, do a small mental exercise. Recite the alphabet backwards. Count back from one hundred. Try to make a mental list of names that start with the letter \\\"A.\\\"\\n2-5. Find someone to talk to.\\nWhile it's great to ignore the bully in the moment, do not keep your feelings bottled up. After you've been harassed by a bully, talk things out with a trusted friend or adult. Rant about your feelings so you get them out of your system and feel better.\\nWriting your feelings in a journal or doing something artistic like painting or drawing may also be helpful as an emotional outlet.\\n3. Preventing Cyber Bullying\\n3-1. Use disengagement to discourage cyberbullying.\\nIf you are being bullied online, then one of the best ways to deal with it is to disengage. You can ignore the person, block them, or log off to avoid encountering the bully online. You can also delete bullying messages and posts, but make sure that you show an adult the bullying posts and/or screenshot them before you delete them.\\nIf the situation is severe, you may want to delete your social media accounts and stay offline.\\n3-2. Keep your password a complete secret.\\nIf someone can get onto your account, they can create a lot of problems for you. Keep your password a secret from everyone. Even trusted friends can accidentally reveal your password to others. The only person who should know your password to your email and social media accounts is you.\\nIf you're worried about forgetting your password, most sites have ways you can retrieve or reset it. While forgetting your password can be a hassle, it's rarely a major issue.\\nIf for some reason someone does get the password to your account, change it immediately.\\n3-3. Adjust your privacy settings.\\nIf you are experiencing or concerned about someone bullying you online, alter your settings. Changing your privacy settings on your profiles will allow you to post things that only your friends can see. Make things like Twitter and Facebook private to public audiences. Only add close, trusted friends on these sites.\\n3-4. Think carefully about the content you post.\\nIf you are being bullied for your posts, use more discretion when posting. Stay away from topics that could encourage bullies. Sensitive information can be shared via emails or private messages instead.\\nYou should also avoid posting anything aggressive about other classmates, even something veiled. This can anger and encourage bullies. Rant to a friend if you're mad about something instead of posting it online.\\nTry to sleep on it before you post or at least wait an hour before posting anything. This will give you time to think about the possible implications of your post and help to ensure that you are not posting in an emotional state.\\n4. Seeking Outside Help\\n4-1. Join or start a club to help curb bullying at your school.\\nBullying has come to light as a major problem in recent years. Many groups are dedicated to addressing bullying in schools. If your school has an anti-bullying group, sign up. You can also start a group in your school to address bullying.\\nIn addition to helping combat the issue of bullying, a group will provide you with emotional support.\\n4-2. Tell an adult.\\nIf you can't stop a bully on your own, talk to an adult. Do not think of this as snitching. Bullies can cause major issues for you and other students. You should not let your bully continue to harass you.\\nIn school, report the bully to a teacher or counselor, but do it privately. Even if your bully isn't around, they may have friends in your class who will tell your bully that you reported them. If you prefer, you should send your teacher or counselor an email through your school account to report the bully.\\nTell your parents about what is happening in school. Your parents should call your counselor and tell them about your bully. If your school will not listen to you, they will listen to your parents because your school is responsible for you.\\nIf you are being bullied outside of school, a police officer can also help you. If you are being bullied and a police officer is around, ask for their help.\\nIf you are concerned that the bully might retaliate, then you can let the adult know that you want to find a solution to the problem and that you are not trying to get the bully into trouble. This may help the adult to determine how to proceed and reduce the chances that the bully will retaliate.\\n4-3. Strengthen your current friendships.\\nInstead of focusing on people who are mean to you, focus on students worth your time. Spend quality time with close friends to strengthen your bonds. If you have strong, secure friendships, it will be easier to tune out bullies.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Middle school is a challenging time for most kids. If you are being bullied, that only makes things worse. 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When navigating your school, stay in areas where teachers and other adults are typically present.\\nFor example, eat lunch close to the table where teachers sit.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Hang out in groups.\", \"描述\": \"Bullies may be less likely to target a big group of friends. They tend to pick on people they perceive as defenseless or powerless. If you're always surrounded by people, a bully may be intimidated and avoid bothering you.\\nTry to get involved with a group of people who share your interests, such as by joining a club or sports team. Then, spend time with these people throughout the day. This will help to ensure that you are always with a large group of people and you will not be an easy target for a bully.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Avoid bullies altogether.\", \"描述\": \"If you know which kids tend to bully others, stay away from them. Avoid areas in the school where bullies congregate. If you don't have assigned seating, avoid sitting next to bullies in class. If you keep your distance from bullies, they'll have a harder time bothering you.\\nSometimes, bullies show up in areas you can't avoid. If your locker is located next to a bully's locker, for example, some interaction is necessary. Try to minimize this as much as you can by quickly removing your books between classes. You may also consider asking to move to a different locker to reduce or avoid conflicts with the bully.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Dealing with Bullying\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Do not bully back.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to avoid being bullied, you have to avoid doing it to others. This helps create a culture of respect between you and your classmates. Avoid kicking, fighting, or yelling at a bully. Escalating the situation can be dangerous and will only give the bully the reaction they want.\\nTry taking a few deep breaths before you react or do anything. This will help you to stay calm and maintain your composure.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Try to ignore it.\", \"描述\": \"If you're able to tune it out, do so. Bullies enjoy knowing their tactics have impacted someone's mentality, so temporarily concealing your reaction may help. If a bully says or does something to you, pretend you didn't notice and proceed with your day. Bullies may get bored with targets that don't react to their antics.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Stand up for yourself.\", \"描述\": \"If a bully doesn't back down even if you ignore them, calmly address the issue. Instead of getting angry and yelling or fighting back, slowly and confidently tell the bully off. Plan what you will say ahead of time if you have a recurring bully situation, and practice saying it at home in a mirror several times so that you will be prepared.\\nUse a loud, clear voice to let the bully know you don't like their behavior. Say something like, \\\"Stop doing that now.\\\" Then, walk away from the situation. Bullies don't usually expect this type of assertive behaviour from victims, therefore doing so will make them quickly back off.\\nDo the same if you see a bully harassing another student. If bullies see kids in your school won't tolerate their antics, they're more likely to stop.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Distract yourself from bullying.\", \"描述\": \"If you're very distressed by a bully, find other things to occupy your mind. In situations where you're getting bullied, do a small mental exercise. Recite the alphabet backwards. Count back from one hundred. Try to make a mental list of names that start with the letter \\\"A.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Find someone to talk to.\", \"描述\": \"While it's great to ignore the bully in the moment, do not keep your feelings bottled up. After you've been harassed by a bully, talk things out with a trusted friend or adult. Rant about your feelings so you get them out of your system and feel better.\\nWriting your feelings in a journal or doing something artistic like painting or drawing may also be helpful as an emotional outlet.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Preventing Cyber Bullying\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use disengagement to discourage cyberbullying.\", \"描述\": \"If you are being bullied online, then one of the best ways to deal with it is to disengage. You can ignore the person, block them, or log off to avoid encountering the bully online. You can also delete bullying messages and posts, but make sure that you show an adult the bullying posts and/or screenshot them before you delete them.\\nIf the situation is severe, you may want to delete your social media accounts and stay offline.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your password a complete secret.\", \"描述\": \"If someone can get onto your account, they can create a lot of problems for you. Keep your password a secret from everyone. Even trusted friends can accidentally reveal your password to others. The only person who should know your password to your email and social media accounts is you.\\nIf you're worried about forgetting your password, most sites have ways you can retrieve or reset it. While forgetting your password can be a hassle, it's rarely a major issue.\\nIf for some reason someone does get the password to your account, change it immediately.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Adjust your privacy settings.\", \"描述\": \"If you are experiencing or concerned about someone bullying you online, alter your settings. Changing your privacy settings on your profiles will allow you to post things that only your friends can see. Make things like Twitter and Facebook private to public audiences. Only add close, trusted friends on these sites.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Think carefully about the content you post.\", \"描述\": \"If you are being bullied for your posts, use more discretion when posting. Stay away from topics that could encourage bullies. Sensitive information can be shared via emails or private messages instead.\\nYou should also avoid posting anything aggressive about other classmates, even something veiled. This can anger and encourage bullies. Rant to a friend if you're mad about something instead of posting it online.\\nTry to sleep on it before you post or at least wait an hour before posting anything. This will give you time to think about the possible implications of your post and help to ensure that you are not posting in an emotional state.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Seeking Outside Help\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Join or start a club to help curb bullying at your school.\", \"描述\": \"Bullying has come to light as a major problem in recent years. Many groups are dedicated to addressing bullying in schools. If your school has an anti-bullying group, sign up. You can also start a group in your school to address bullying.\\nIn addition to helping combat the issue of bullying, a group will provide you with emotional support.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Tell an adult.\", \"描述\": \"If you can't stop a bully on your own, talk to an adult. Do not think of this as snitching. Bullies can cause major issues for you and other students. You should not let your bully continue to harass you.\\nIn school, report the bully to a teacher or counselor, but do it privately. Even if your bully isn't around, they may have friends in your class who will tell your bully that you reported them. If you prefer, you should send your teacher or counselor an email through your school account to report the bully.\\nTell your parents about what is happening in school. Your parents should call your counselor and tell them about your bully. If your school will not listen to you, they will listen to your parents because your school is responsible for you.\\nIf you are being bullied outside of school, a police officer can also help you. If you are being bullied and a police officer is around, ask for their help.\\nIf you are concerned that the bully might retaliate, then you can let the adult know that you want to find a solution to the problem and that you are not trying to get the bully into trouble. This may help the adult to determine how to proceed and reduce the chances that the bully will retaliate.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Strengthen your current friendships.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of focusing on people who are mean to you, focus on students worth your time. Spend quality time with close friends to strengthen your bonds. If you have strong, secure friendships, it will be easier to tune out bullies.\"}]}]}}",
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2,907 | How to Avoid Being Carjacked | 1. Keeping Your Car Safe
1-1. Keep your car tuned up and full of gas.
"E" does not stand for “Enough to get me where I need to go.” Keep your car full of gas and in good working condition. If your car is not tuned up and breaks down, it can make you a sitting duck for carjackers.
Check your tires once a month and before you take a trip. Look for wear, damage, or low air.
1-2. Lock your car doors and keep the windows up.
This applies whether you are in your car or not. Make it part of your driving ritual to lock your doors as soon as you get into the car, and as soon as you get out.
1-3. Don’t leave valuables in sight inside your car.
If you must keep personal property such as a purse or shopping bags in the vehicle, put them in the trunk where they can’t be seen. Never leave money in view inside your car, even if it’s just spare change.
While driving, put valuable items on the floor rather than on the seats. They will be less visible in case you need to stop and for some reason can’t put them in the trunk.
1-4. Know your neighbors.
Knowing your neighbors will help you recognize if there is a suspicious vehicle or individual around. If you see an unfamiliar person loitering or a strange vehicle repeatedly cruising in the neighborhood, this is considered a “suspicious activity.” Don’t go home. Report the activity to local police and drive around the block; come back to your driveway when that person has left.
Reporting suspicious activity and unusual events or incidents to the authorities can reduce crime and make your community safer.
1-5. Keep the driveway well-lit and unobstructed.
Make sure that your driveway and garage have lighting. Don’t keep shrubs or other heavy foliage around your driveway. Keep your driveway lit with traditional ground lighting, solar lighting, hanging lights, or LED lighting along the length of your driveway.
If you live in an area with foggy nights, choose lighting that can be seen without decreasing visibility in fog.
Ground lights should be at least a foot apart and staggered somewhat.
1-6. Keep your car in a locked garage.
If possible, keep your car parked in your garage and lock the garage door. Having an automatic garage door closed does not necessarily make it thief-proof. Carjackers “fish” garage doors with wire hooks to activate the release mechanisms of automatic garage doors.
Block access to the release mechanism inside your garage by making a shield with a piece of plywood fastened to a wood cleat with two brad nails. You can also lock the release mechanism with a twist-tie.
You can use a t-handle or slide lock on your garage door as an extra safety measure. A t-handle lock uses its own key and a slide lock can be used with a padlock.
1-7. Be careful when warming up your car in cold weather.
If you need to warm up your car in the wintertime, have a second set of keys so that you can keep the car locked while it’s idling. Carjackers use unlocked, running cars as opportunities to steal vehicles.
2. Planning Ahead
2-1. Plan your routes.
Decide on your route before you depart on your trip, even if it’s just across town. Asking for directions can tip off a would-be carjacker that you are lost and/or not paying attention to your surroundings. Plan ahead of time which route you will take and any stops you may need to make along the way.
Choose the most direct routes possible, and mix up your routine so that you are not a predictable target for criminals.
2-2. Avoid trouble spots and driving in unfamiliar areas.
Avoid high crime areas, rural areas with less populated roads, and congested traffic spots. Look for a navigation app with the safety feature of avoiding high crime spots. If you notice a lot of cars in disrepair, graffiti, liquor stores, check-cashing stores, or tire skid marks on the street, you may be in a bad neighborhood.
2-3. Take extra care when parking in commercial areas.
According to the National Crime Victimization survey, 25% of all carjackings happen in parking lots, parking garages or near commercial areas. Park in a spot close to the building’s main entrance and under a lot of light, avoiding areas that are visually obstructed by walls or large plants. Don’t sit in the car and go through receipts or have a conversation on the phone or with your child in the backseat. Get in, lock the doors and go.
Don’t put your seatbelt on while pulling out of a space. If something happens, you may need to get out of your car quickly. Instead, belt yourself as soon as you are out of the space and ready to drive.
In parking garages, park close to the exit and back into the space. It’s easier to drive forwards than backwards in an emergency.
2-4. Have a cell phone or radio communication on you at all times.
Keep a GPS system in your car or a GPS app on your phone in case you get lost. Always have a charged cell phone with you. Even if it is not under a service contract, you can still use it to call 911 if necessary. Just keep in mind that if you do not have a wireless provider and your call with an emergency operator gets disconnected, you will have to call back because they cannot call you.
3. Staying Alert
3-1. Check your mirrors for anyone possibly following you.
If you think you are being followed, make false turns. If the driver behind you continues to pursue, go to your nearest police station.
3-2. Stay alert at intersections.
Stay in the center lane when possible. Don’t turn your attention to a cell phone or radio. Observe 360 degrees around you through your mirrors and windows. Keep distance between your car and the one in front of you. This enables you to get around the car in front of you if it stalls or if someone suspicious approaches your car.
Keep about one-half of the length of your vehicle between you and the vehicle ahead of you, so that you can maneuver out if necessary. As a rule of thumb, you should be able to see the rear tires of the vehicle ahead of you.
3-3. Know how to react if your car is bumped from behind.
Carjackers use a ruse called “The Bump.” They rear-end cars and steal them when the drivers get out to assess the damage and gather information. If your car gets hit from behind, only pull over and get out when you reach a safe, public place.
Stay inside your vehicle with the doors locked and windows shut. Signal to the other driver to follow you and drive to the nearest police or fire station. If you see that the other driver is not following you, take note of their license plate number.
3-4. Don’t get out of the car if something is under your windshield wiper.
Placing paper money (real or fake) or even fliers under your windshield wiper is a trick criminals can use to get you out of your car. If you see money on your windshield and exit your vehicle to grab it, a carjacker can rush into your vehicle and actually run you over as well as steal your car.
3-5. Be wary of people trying to get your attention.
Carjackers try to take advantage of people’s empathy by creating ruses. If someone is flashing their lights and trying to wave you over to the side of the road, or is appearing to be injured from an accident and is soliciting your attention, don’t stop.
If someone was trying to signal that there is a problem with your vehicle, keep driving and pull over when you find a safe public place.
If someone appeared to be injured and needed help, call the authorities or go to your nearest police or fire station to tell them what you saw.
3-6. Avoid surveillance traps in gated communities.
Most attempted or successful carjackings happen within 5 miles of the victim’s place of residence. Carjackers may surveil cars returning to gating communities and trap you in before the gate opens. If you’re returning home to your own residence, wait on the street until the gate is opened if necessary, so that a car cannot pull up behind you and trap you in.
If you are visiting someone else’s gated community, call ahead to have the gate opened.
3-7. Look, listen, and trust your instincts when approaching your car.
Keep your head up, ears open, and eyes peeled when you’re returning to your car. Don’t ignore your gut feeling if you sense that something is wrong. If you see someone standing around in the parking lot, or you merely sense something is not right, don’t proceed to your car. Return to a place where people are and ask for a security escort to walk you to your car. If that is not possible, wait for a group of people and walk with them. 92% of carjackings happen to victims who are alone.
Look under, around and inside your car.
Don’t allow children or packages to distract from your alertness. Make it a habit to look around before putting anything or anyone into the car.
3-8. Don’t stop at isolated phones or money machines.
If you must stop at a drive-thru ATM, have your ATM card ready, keep your car in drive, and pull up as close to the ATM as possible. Check your rearview mirror before stopping.
Avoid isolated payphones, newspaper machines and parking lots.
3-9. Don’t disregard safety because it’s daytime.
Not all carjackings happen under the cloak of night. In fact, more than half (64%) of daytime carjacking attempts are successful. Be as alert during the daylight as you would be at nighttime.
Tips
If you get pulled over by a suspicious police officer in an unmarked car, dial 911 and tell the operator your location and that you are being pulled over by an unmarked car. Say that you would permission to pull over in a safer area such as a gas station. If the operator confirms that you are indeed being pulled over by a police officer then pull over ASAP.
Carry legal self defense items so you have a non-lethal way of stopping the carjacker.
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They will be less visible in case you need to stop and for some reason can’t put them in the trunk.\\n1-4. Know your neighbors.\\nKnowing your neighbors will help you recognize if there is a suspicious vehicle or individual around. If you see an unfamiliar person loitering or a strange vehicle repeatedly cruising in the neighborhood, this is considered a “suspicious activity.” Don’t go home. Report the activity to local police and drive around the block; come back to your driveway when that person has left.\\nReporting suspicious activity and unusual events or incidents to the authorities can reduce crime and make your community safer.\\n1-5. Keep the driveway well-lit and unobstructed.\\nMake sure that your driveway and garage have lighting. Don’t keep shrubs or other heavy foliage around your driveway. Keep your driveway lit with traditional ground lighting, solar lighting, hanging lights, or LED lighting along the length of your driveway.\\nIf you live in an area with foggy nights, choose lighting that can be seen without decreasing visibility in fog.\\nGround lights should be at least a foot apart and staggered somewhat.\\n1-6. Keep your car in a locked garage.\\nIf possible, keep your car parked in your garage and lock the garage door. Having an automatic garage door closed does not necessarily make it thief-proof. Carjackers “fish” garage doors with wire hooks to activate the release mechanisms of automatic garage doors.\\nBlock access to the release mechanism inside your garage by making a shield with a piece of plywood fastened to a wood cleat with two brad nails. You can also lock the release mechanism with a twist-tie.\\nYou can use a t-handle or slide lock on your garage door as an extra safety measure. A t-handle lock uses its own key and a slide lock can be used with a padlock.\\n1-7. Be careful when warming up your car in cold weather.\\nIf you need to warm up your car in the wintertime, have a second set of keys so that you can keep the car locked while it’s idling. Carjackers use unlocked, running cars as opportunities to steal vehicles.\\n2. Planning Ahead\\n2-1. Plan your routes.\\nDecide on your route before you depart on your trip, even if it’s just across town. Asking for directions can tip off a would-be carjacker that you are lost and/or not paying attention to your surroundings. Plan ahead of time which route you will take and any stops you may need to make along the way.\\nChoose the most direct routes possible, and mix up your routine so that you are not a predictable target for criminals.\\n2-2. Avoid trouble spots and driving in unfamiliar areas.\\nAvoid high crime areas, rural areas with less populated roads, and congested traffic spots. 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Instead, belt yourself as soon as you are out of the space and ready to drive.\\nIn parking garages, park close to the exit and back into the space. It’s easier to drive forwards than backwards in an emergency.\\n2-4. Have a cell phone or radio communication on you at all times.\\nKeep a GPS system in your car or a GPS app on your phone in case you get lost. Always have a charged cell phone with you. Even if it is not under a service contract, you can still use it to call 911 if necessary. Just keep in mind that if you do not have a wireless provider and your call with an emergency operator gets disconnected, you will have to call back because they cannot call you.\\n3. Staying Alert\\n3-1. Check your mirrors for anyone possibly following you.\\nIf you think you are being followed, make false turns. If the driver behind you continues to pursue, go to your nearest police station.\\n3-2. Stay alert at intersections.\\nStay in the center lane when possible. 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If you see that the other driver is not following you, take note of their license plate number.\\n3-4. Don’t get out of the car if something is under your windshield wiper.\\nPlacing paper money (real or fake) or even fliers under your windshield wiper is a trick criminals can use to get you out of your car. If you see money on your windshield and exit your vehicle to grab it, a carjacker can rush into your vehicle and actually run you over as well as steal your car.\\n3-5. Be wary of people trying to get your attention.\\nCarjackers try to take advantage of people’s empathy by creating ruses. If someone is flashing their lights and trying to wave you over to the side of the road, or is appearing to be injured from an accident and is soliciting your attention, don’t stop.\\nIf someone was trying to signal that there is a problem with your vehicle, keep driving and pull over when you find a safe public place.\\nIf someone appeared to be injured and needed help, call the authorities or go to your nearest police or fire station to tell them what you saw.\\n3-6. Avoid surveillance traps in gated communities.\\nMost attempted or successful carjackings happen within 5 miles of the victim’s place of residence. Carjackers may surveil cars returning to gating communities and trap you in before the gate opens. If you’re returning home to your own residence, wait on the street until the gate is opened if necessary, so that a car cannot pull up behind you and trap you in.\\nIf you are visiting someone else’s gated community, call ahead to have the gate opened.\\n3-7. 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Check your rearview mirror before stopping.\\nAvoid isolated payphones, newspaper machines and parking lots.\\n3-9. Don’t disregard safety because it’s daytime.\\nNot all carjackings happen under the cloak of night. In fact, more than half (64%) of daytime carjacking attempts are successful. Be as alert during the daylight as you would be at nighttime.\\nTips\\nIf you get pulled over by a suspicious police officer in an unmarked car, dial 911 and tell the operator your location and that you are being pulled over by an unmarked car. Say that you would permission to pull over in a safer area such as a gas station. If the operator confirms that you are indeed being pulled over by a police officer then pull over ASAP.\\nCarry legal self defense items so you have a non-lethal way of stopping the carjacker.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Carjacking occurs when someone steals a motor vehicle from another person by use of force or intimidation. 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Having an automatic garage door closed does not necessarily make it thief-proof. Carjackers “fish” garage doors with wire hooks to activate the release mechanisms of automatic garage doors.\\nBlock access to the release mechanism inside your garage by making a shield with a piece of plywood fastened to a wood cleat with two brad nails. You can also lock the release mechanism with a twist-tie.\\nYou can use a t-handle or slide lock on your garage door as an extra safety measure. A t-handle lock uses its own key and a slide lock can be used with a padlock.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be careful when warming up your car in cold weather.\", \"描述\": \"If you need to warm up your car in the wintertime, have a second set of keys so that you can keep the car locked while it’s idling. Carjackers use unlocked, running cars as opportunities to steal vehicles.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Planning Ahead\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Plan your routes.\", \"描述\": \"Decide on your route before you depart on your trip, even if it’s just across town. Asking for directions can tip off a would-be carjacker that you are lost and/or not paying attention to your surroundings. Plan ahead of time which route you will take and any stops you may need to make along the way.\\nChoose the most direct routes possible, and mix up your routine so that you are not a predictable target for criminals.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Avoid trouble spots and driving in unfamiliar areas.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid high crime areas, rural areas with less populated roads, and congested traffic spots. Look for a navigation app with the safety feature of avoiding high crime spots. If you notice a lot of cars in disrepair, graffiti, liquor stores, check-cashing stores, or tire skid marks on the street, you may be in a bad neighborhood.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take extra care when parking in commercial areas.\", \"描述\": \"According to the National Crime Victimization survey, 25% of all carjackings happen in parking lots, parking garages or near commercial areas. Park in a spot close to the building’s main entrance and under a lot of light, avoiding areas that are visually obstructed by walls or large plants. Don’t sit in the car and go through receipts or have a conversation on the phone or with your child in the backseat. Get in, lock the doors and go.\\nDon’t put your seatbelt on while pulling out of a space. If something happens, you may need to get out of your car quickly. Instead, belt yourself as soon as you are out of the space and ready to drive.\\nIn parking garages, park close to the exit and back into the space. It’s easier to drive forwards than backwards in an emergency.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Have a cell phone or radio communication on you at all times.\", \"描述\": \"Keep a GPS system in your car or a GPS app on your phone in case you get lost. Always have a charged cell phone with you. Even if it is not under a service contract, you can still use it to call 911 if necessary. Just keep in mind that if you do not have a wireless provider and your call with an emergency operator gets disconnected, you will have to call back because they cannot call you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Staying Alert\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Check your mirrors for anyone possibly following you.\", \"描述\": \"If you think you are being followed, make false turns. If the driver behind you continues to pursue, go to your nearest police station.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stay alert at intersections.\", \"描述\": \"Stay in the center lane when possible. Don’t turn your attention to a cell phone or radio. Observe 360 degrees around you through your mirrors and windows. Keep distance between your car and the one in front of you. This enables you to get around the car in front of you if it stalls or if someone suspicious approaches your car.\\nKeep about one-half of the length of your vehicle between you and the vehicle ahead of you, so that you can maneuver out if necessary. As a rule of thumb, you should be able to see the rear tires of the vehicle ahead of you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Know how to react if your car is bumped from behind.\", \"描述\": \"Carjackers use a ruse called “The Bump.” They rear-end cars and steal them when the drivers get out to assess the damage and gather information. If your car gets hit from behind, only pull over and get out when you reach a safe, public place.\\nStay inside your vehicle with the doors locked and windows shut. Signal to the other driver to follow you and drive to the nearest police or fire station. If you see that the other driver is not following you, take note of their license plate number.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don’t get out of the car if something is under your windshield wiper.\", \"描述\": \"Placing paper money (real or fake) or even fliers under your windshield wiper is a trick criminals can use to get you out of your car. If you see money on your windshield and exit your vehicle to grab it, a carjacker can rush into your vehicle and actually run you over as well as steal your car.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be wary of people trying to get your attention.\", \"描述\": \"Carjackers try to take advantage of people’s empathy by creating ruses. If someone is flashing their lights and trying to wave you over to the side of the road, or is appearing to be injured from an accident and is soliciting your attention, don’t stop.\\nIf someone was trying to signal that there is a problem with your vehicle, keep driving and pull over when you find a safe public place.\\nIf someone appeared to be injured and needed help, call the authorities or go to your nearest police or fire station to tell them what you saw.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Avoid surveillance traps in gated communities.\", \"描述\": \"Most attempted or successful carjackings happen within 5 miles of the victim’s place of residence. Carjackers may surveil cars returning to gating communities and trap you in before the gate opens. If you’re returning home to your own residence, wait on the street until the gate is opened if necessary, so that a car cannot pull up behind you and trap you in.\\nIf you are visiting someone else’s gated community, call ahead to have the gate opened.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Look, listen, and trust your instincts when approaching your car.\", \"描述\": \"Keep your head up, ears open, and eyes peeled when you’re returning to your car. Don’t ignore your gut feeling if you sense that something is wrong. If you see someone standing around in the parking lot, or you merely sense something is not right, don’t proceed to your car. Return to a place where people are and ask for a security escort to walk you to your car. If that is not possible, wait for a group of people and walk with them. 92% of carjackings happen to victims who are alone.\\nLook under, around and inside your car.\\nDon’t allow children or packages to distract from your alertness. Make it a habit to look around before putting anything or anyone into the car.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Don’t stop at isolated phones or money machines.\", \"描述\": \"If you must stop at a drive-thru ATM, have your ATM card ready, keep your car in drive, and pull up as close to the ATM as possible. Check your rearview mirror before stopping.\\nAvoid isolated payphones, newspaper machines and parking lots.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Don’t disregard safety because it’s daytime.\", \"描述\": \"Not all carjackings happen under the cloak of night. In fact, more than half (64%) of daytime carjacking attempts are successful. Be as alert during the daylight as you would be at nighttime.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you get pulled over by a suspicious police officer in an unmarked car, dial 911 and tell the operator your location and that you are being pulled over by an unmarked car. Say that you would permission to pull over in a safer area such as a gas station. 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2,908 | How to Avoid Being Clingy With Friends | 1. Being Less Clingy With Friends
1-1. Be nice to friends of your friends.
It can be very easy to feel jealous of friends of your friends. If you do come into contact with a friend of your friend (for example, at a party), be nice to them. Don't accuse them of trying to steal away your friends. You never know, you may even become friends with them, and then you have a new friend and you don't have to feel jealous.
It may not be easy, but try to be happy that your friend has such a big support system. If you truly care about them, then you should feel happy that your friend has many people they can count on.
Don't say something to their friend like, “Oh, you're Ella's friend? Well, that's cool, but you'll probably never be as close to them as I am so don't even try.”
Say something like, "Hi Pixie. I'm Daisy. Nice to meet you".
1-2. Accept that you may not be their “best friend.”
Just because you consider someone your best friend doesn't mean they have to think the same about you. Yes, it can be a bit hurtful, but you can't force someone to be your best friend. Friendships have their ups and downs, just like any relationship. There may come a time when they rely on you more, and you rely on them less.
The sooner that you understand that you can't make people do what you want, the sooner you will be able to relax. If you are able to be more relaxed, people will be more drawn to you, and they will admire your ability to go with the flow.
1-3. Limit your contact with them.
This doesn't mean you have to ignore them or anything like that. It just means that, if you've been contacting them a lot lately, following them around, or constantly commenting on their social media accounts, try to give it a rest. Let them find their way to you. If they really are your friend, they will get in touch with you.
When they do get in touch with you, don't treat them as though they've done something wrong. Remind yourself that this is what you wanted, and be happy about it.
If you want to look at your friend's social media account to see what they're up to, that's fine. However, realize that you may see pictures of them doing things with other people, and you may feel jealous. If you find yourself feeling jealous, avoid commenting something clingy on the photo. For example, don't say, “It looks like you're having a lot of fun without even inviting me! :(“
1-4. Allow your friends their space.
Some people need more space from friends and people than others, and just because they don't want to spend every free minute of their day with you doesn't mean they don't care about you. If you think you may be being a bit clingy, try to back off a bit.
If you've been going to their house every single day after school, stop for awhile. Wait until they invite you to come or until they ask why you haven't been coming over anymore. If they do ask, just be honest. Tell them that you wanted to respect their space, but that you're happy to come over if they want you to.
For example, you can say, “I just felt like maybe I was coming over too often, and I realize that you need to have your own space, too. I'd be happy to come over whenever you want though!”
1-5. Suggest something specific.
When you do initiate something with your friends, try to have an idea in mind. Don't just say, “I want to hang out with you.” Instead, find something to do that you think they will enjoy and suggest going together.
You can also sound very confident and like you will go with or without them by saying something such as, “Hey! There's this concert that I'm going to on Saturday. Do you want to come along?” This will show your friends that you don't have to have them around to enjoy something, but that you do like to do things with them.
1-6. Don't get angry if they say, “No.”
When you're feeling clingy, someone turning you down can really feel bad. If they give you a reason why they can't go, try to accept this and don't question whether or not they made it up. If they don't give a reason, don't just assume it's because they don't want to hang out with you. If you get mad, you'll just make them feel tense around you because they will feel like they have to agree to do whatever you want in order to avoid making you angry.
If you are feeling angry about it, try to let off some steam once they are gone. You could go for a run or write your feelings about the situation in a journal. If you really feel upset about it, you can try talking with your friend about it, but realize that this may not help if you want to seem less clingy.
For example, if they turn you down, don't say, “I know you're just making up excuses and that you don't really want to hang out with me. You're being a bad friend.” This is an overreaction and it will probably freak your friend out a bit. Instead, say something like, “Oh, ok. It's cool. Maybe next time.”
1-7. Let them go.
If you have become clingy towards a certain friend because you have noticed them starting to pull or drift away from you, think about letting the relationship go. Friendships do come and go, and sometimes if is easier for everyone if you just let the relationship end and move on with new people.
This doesn't mean you can't talk to them about what is going on, but realize that they may not be honest, especially if they are afraid of hurting your feelings. If you have been best friends with someone for many years, you should approach them if you notice they are behaving differently towards you.
For example, you could say, “It seems like we've been drifting apart lately. Is everything OK?”
1-8. Find friends that value you.
It may be the case that you have a group of friends that is taking you for granted. Though it may be hard to accept this, sometimes it is for the best. If you truly believe that your friends don't really care about you, think about finding some new friends that will care about you and how you're feeling.
Once you find true friends, you will be much happier, even if this means hanging out with less “popular” people.
2. Determining Whether or Not You Are Being Clingy
2-1. Think about how often you need your friend around.
Are you constantly asking your friends to do something? Do you try to have a plan to hang out every single day during your free time? If so, you are probably being a bit clingy. Try to remember that nearly everyone can benefit from having some good quality alone time.
Sometimes it can be weird to hang out alone, especially if you're used to being around people all of the time. Try doing something like reading or even just watching TV for a bit.
2-2. Determine whether or not you are the one who initiates everything.
Does your friend initiate contact just as much as you do, or are you the one making all the plans and asking your friend to hang out all the time? If you are the one doing all the work, then you may be being a bit clingy.
If this is the case, try to back off a bit and see if your friends takes over some of the responsibility.
2-3. Count how often you call or text your friend.
You don't have to literally make a count of how many times you call or text someone each day. There is no rule when it comes to what is OK and what is not OK. However, you should try to be conscientious about how often you are calling/texting versus how often they are contacting you.
For example, if you call your friend everyday after school or if you spend your evening sending them text messages, and they don't seem so eager to talk to you or aren't really answering your messages, you may be overdoing it.
2-4. Think about how often you feel worried that you're not being included.
Often, we tend to cling to people when we feel insecure in our relationship with them. When we feel insecure about something we tend to become paranoid and overreactive. Do you find yourself constantly worried that your friends are doing something without you?
If you do find yourself being worried about this, then you may be being clingy. Try to remind yourself that you don't have to do every single things that your friends are doing all the time. It's even a good idea to do your own thing once in awhile.
3. Building Your Own Self-Confidence
3-1. Talk with someone about your insecurities.
Talking through your worries and insecurities with someone can be more helpful than you think. If you think you have a real problem with clinginess, it might be best to talk it through with a professional counsellor. Your school may have one that is there for exactly this purpose, and you can talk to them about anything that's worrying you. It can be helpful to talk with a professional because they can be more objective than friends or family sometimes.
If you can't or don't want to talk with a counsellor, consider talking with a parent or a trusted adult.
Talk to them about how you're feeling and what's going on in your life. Tell them that you are worried you are being too clingy with friends, but you're not sure what to do about it. They have probably been there before and can offer advice about how to handle it.
3-2. Keep up with your family and responsibilities.
Try to remember that friends are not all there is to life even if they do play a big and important part in it. Remember that you have responsibilities at home and at school or work. Make sure that you are taking care of all of those things instead of neglecting them to always be around your friends.
The same goes for your family. Besides your friends, you have a family that cares about you. Spend time nurturing your relationships with your siblings, parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles. These are the people that will be there for you no matter what.
Spending time with family can be a great way to start feeling more secure. In most cases, your family knows you better than anyone else and accepts you all the same. If you have secure relationships with your family members, you can learn how to act that way with friends, too.
3-3. Have hobbies that you do on your own.
In addition to making sure that you are taking care of your responsibilities and family, find things that you enjoy doing alone. It is good to learn to just be with yourself and feel comfortable with it. If you already have a hobby that you enjoy, then great. If you don't, try out a few things you've been curious about and see what grabs your attention.
Many hobbies have their way of making you more confident in yourself. For example, they may teach you a cool skill.
If you don't know where to get started, give yourself the space to just be bored for a while. Usually, that will help you figure out what you're interested in—and you might just find something to do that you wouldn't have done if you were busy with your friends.
3-4. Build your self-confidence.
Although there are many indirect ways of building confidence in yourself, you can also take steps to work on your self-confidence more directly. In order to build self-confidence, you will need to become aware of the bad things you are thinking about yourself. Any time you catch yourself getting mad at yourself or thinking something negative about yourself, try to become aware of it, and remind yourself that you aren't going to think that way anymore.
This also means that you need to give yourself credit when you do something good. If you say something funny that makes people laugh or you do a good deed, let yourself feel proud.
Tips
Try to understand that if you have a tendency to be clingy, it is probably because you have had many relationships where you have felt insecure about the other person's feelings for you. For example, maybe family members have said things that made you feel unsure whether or not they cared for you. Remember that it isn't your fault, but that you can take responsibility for improving your relationships with other people.[6]
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Warnings
Don't stalk people. There is a fine line between being a bit clingy and stalking someone. If someone is your friend, there is no reason you need to monitor their every move. Remember that people have a right to their own space and privacy. If you have to ask yourself whether or not you are stalking someone, then you are probably taking things a bit too far, and it's time to back off.
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Accept that you may not be their “best friend.”\\nJust because you consider someone your best friend doesn't mean they have to think the same about you. Yes, it can be a bit hurtful, but you can't force someone to be your best friend. Friendships have their ups and downs, just like any relationship. There may come a time when they rely on you more, and you rely on them less.\\nThe sooner that you understand that you can't make people do what you want, the sooner you will be able to relax. If you are able to be more relaxed, people will be more drawn to you, and they will admire your ability to go with the flow.\\n1-3. Limit your contact with them.\\nThis doesn't mean you have to ignore them or anything like that. It just means that, if you've been contacting them a lot lately, following them around, or constantly commenting on their social media accounts, try to give it a rest. Let them find their way to you. If they really are your friend, they will get in touch with you.\\nWhen they do get in touch with you, don't treat them as though they've done something wrong. Remind yourself that this is what you wanted, and be happy about it.\\nIf you want to look at your friend's social media account to see what they're up to, that's fine. However, realize that you may see pictures of them doing things with other people, and you may feel jealous. If you find yourself feeling jealous, avoid commenting something clingy on the photo. For example, don't say, “It looks like you're having a lot of fun without even inviting me! :(“\\n1-4. Allow your friends their space.\\nSome people need more space from friends and people than others, and just because they don't want to spend every free minute of their day with you doesn't mean they don't care about you. If you think you may be being a bit clingy, try to back off a bit.\\nIf you've been going to their house every single day after school, stop for awhile. Wait until they invite you to come or until they ask why you haven't been coming over anymore. If they do ask, just be honest. Tell them that you wanted to respect their space, but that you're happy to come over if they want you to.\\nFor example, you can say, “I just felt like maybe I was coming over too often, and I realize that you need to have your own space, too. I'd be happy to come over whenever you want though!”\\n1-5. Suggest something specific.\\nWhen you do initiate something with your friends, try to have an idea in mind. Don't just say, “I want to hang out with you.” Instead, find something to do that you think they will enjoy and suggest going together.\\nYou can also sound very confident and like you will go with or without them by saying something such as, “Hey! There's this concert that I'm going to on Saturday. Do you want to come along?” This will show your friends that you don't have to have them around to enjoy something, but that you do like to do things with them.\\n1-6. Don't get angry if they say, “No.”\\nWhen you're feeling clingy, someone turning you down can really feel bad. If they give you a reason why they can't go, try to accept this and don't question whether or not they made it up. If they don't give a reason, don't just assume it's because they don't want to hang out with you. If you get mad, you'll just make them feel tense around you because they will feel like they have to agree to do whatever you want in order to avoid making you angry.\\nIf you are feeling angry about it, try to let off some steam once they are gone. You could go for a run or write your feelings about the situation in a journal. If you really feel upset about it, you can try talking with your friend about it, but realize that this may not help if you want to seem less clingy.\\nFor example, if they turn you down, don't say, “I know you're just making up excuses and that you don't really want to hang out with me. You're being a bad friend.” This is an overreaction and it will probably freak your friend out a bit. Instead, say something like, “Oh, ok. It's cool. Maybe next time.”\\n1-7. Let them go.\\nIf you have become clingy towards a certain friend because you have noticed them starting to pull or drift away from you, think about letting the relationship go. Friendships do come and go, and sometimes if is easier for everyone if you just let the relationship end and move on with new people.\\nThis doesn't mean you can't talk to them about what is going on, but realize that they may not be honest, especially if they are afraid of hurting your feelings. If you have been best friends with someone for many years, you should approach them if you notice they are behaving differently towards you.\\nFor example, you could say, “It seems like we've been drifting apart lately. Is everything OK?”\\n1-8. Find friends that value you.\\nIt may be the case that you have a group of friends that is taking you for granted. Though it may be hard to accept this, sometimes it is for the best. If you truly believe that your friends don't really care about you, think about finding some new friends that will care about you and how you're feeling.\\nOnce you find true friends, you will be much happier, even if this means hanging out with less “popular” people.\\n2. Determining Whether or Not You Are Being Clingy\\n2-1. Think about how often you need your friend around.\\nAre you constantly asking your friends to do something? Do you try to have a plan to hang out every single day during your free time? If so, you are probably being a bit clingy. Try to remember that nearly everyone can benefit from having some good quality alone time.\\nSometimes it can be weird to hang out alone, especially if you're used to being around people all of the time. Try doing something like reading or even just watching TV for a bit.\\n2-2. Determine whether or not you are the one who initiates everything.\\nDoes your friend initiate contact just as much as you do, or are you the one making all the plans and asking your friend to hang out all the time? If you are the one doing all the work, then you may be being a bit clingy.\\nIf this is the case, try to back off a bit and see if your friends takes over some of the responsibility.\\n2-3. Count how often you call or text your friend.\\nYou don't have to literally make a count of how many times you call or text someone each day. There is no rule when it comes to what is OK and what is not OK. However, you should try to be conscientious about how often you are calling/texting versus how often they are contacting you.\\nFor example, if you call your friend everyday after school or if you spend your evening sending them text messages, and they don't seem so eager to talk to you or aren't really answering your messages, you may be overdoing it.\\n2-4. Think about how often you feel worried that you're not being included.\\nOften, we tend to cling to people when we feel insecure in our relationship with them. When we feel insecure about something we tend to become paranoid and overreactive. Do you find yourself constantly worried that your friends are doing something without you?\\nIf you do find yourself being worried about this, then you may be being clingy. Try to remind yourself that you don't have to do every single things that your friends are doing all the time. It's even a good idea to do your own thing once in awhile.\\n3. Building Your Own Self-Confidence\\n3-1. Talk with someone about your insecurities.\\nTalking through your worries and insecurities with someone can be more helpful than you think. If you think you have a real problem with clinginess, it might be best to talk it through with a professional counsellor. Your school may have one that is there for exactly this purpose, and you can talk to them about anything that's worrying you. It can be helpful to talk with a professional because they can be more objective than friends or family sometimes.\\nIf you can't or don't want to talk with a counsellor, consider talking with a parent or a trusted adult.\\nTalk to them about how you're feeling and what's going on in your life. Tell them that you are worried you are being too clingy with friends, but you're not sure what to do about it. They have probably been there before and can offer advice about how to handle it.\\n3-2. Keep up with your family and responsibilities.\\nTry to remember that friends are not all there is to life even if they do play a big and important part in it. Remember that you have responsibilities at home and at school or work. Make sure that you are taking care of all of those things instead of neglecting them to always be around your friends.\\nThe same goes for your family. Besides your friends, you have a family that cares about you. Spend time nurturing your relationships with your siblings, parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles. These are the people that will be there for you no matter what.\\nSpending time with family can be a great way to start feeling more secure. In most cases, your family knows you better than anyone else and accepts you all the same. If you have secure relationships with your family members, you can learn how to act that way with friends, too.\\n3-3. Have hobbies that you do on your own.\\nIn addition to making sure that you are taking care of your responsibilities and family, find things that you enjoy doing alone. It is good to learn to just be with yourself and feel comfortable with it. If you already have a hobby that you enjoy, then great. If you don't, try out a few things you've been curious about and see what grabs your attention.\\nMany hobbies have their way of making you more confident in yourself. For example, they may teach you a cool skill.\\nIf you don't know where to get started, give yourself the space to just be bored for a while. Usually, that will help you figure out what you're interested in—and you might just find something to do that you wouldn't have done if you were busy with your friends.\\n3-4. Build your self-confidence.\\nAlthough there are many indirect ways of building confidence in yourself, you can also take steps to work on your self-confidence more directly. In order to build self-confidence, you will need to become aware of the bad things you are thinking about yourself. Any time you catch yourself getting mad at yourself or thinking something negative about yourself, try to become aware of it, and remind yourself that you aren't going to think that way anymore.\\nThis also means that you need to give yourself credit when you do something good. If you say something funny that makes people laugh or you do a good deed, let yourself feel proud.\\nTips\\nTry to understand that if you have a tendency to be clingy, it is probably because you have had many relationships where you have felt insecure about the other person's feelings for you. For example, maybe family members have said things that made you feel unsure whether or not they cared for you. Remember that it isn't your fault, but that you can take responsibility for improving your relationships with other people.[6]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nWarnings\\nDon't stalk people. There is a fine line between being a bit clingy and stalking someone. If someone is your friend, there is no reason you need to monitor their every move. Remember that people have a right to their own space and privacy. If you have to ask yourself whether or not you are stalking someone, then you are probably taking things a bit too far, and it's time to back off.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Nobody wants to be the friend who is being clingy. However, at some point or another, most all of us have been there. When we are feeling like we might be losing a relationship or if we are not sure that the other person cares about it, the tendency for most people is to try to bring the relationship back together by holding onto it as tightly as we can. Unfortunately, in many cases, this can feel smothering for the other person. If you are worried that you are being clingy, take steps to distance yourself a bit from the friendship, determine whether or not you are actually being clingy, and try to build up a bit of confidence in yourself so you won't feel so dependent upon your friendship.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being Less Clingy With Friends\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be nice to friends of your friends.\", \"描述\": \"It can be very easy to feel jealous of friends of your friends. If you do come into contact with a friend of your friend (for example, at a party), be nice to them. Don't accuse them of trying to steal away your friends. You never know, you may even become friends with them, and then you have a new friend and you don't have to feel jealous.\\nIt may not be easy, but try to be happy that your friend has such a big support system. If you truly care about them, then you should feel happy that your friend has many people they can count on.\\nDon't say something to their friend like, “Oh, you're Ella's friend? Well, that's cool, but you'll probably never be as close to them as I am so don't even try.”\\nSay something like, \\\"Hi Pixie. I'm Daisy. Nice to meet you\\\".\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Accept that you may not be their “best friend.”\", \"描述\": \"Just because you consider someone your best friend doesn't mean they have to think the same about you. Yes, it can be a bit hurtful, but you can't force someone to be your best friend. Friendships have their ups and downs, just like any relationship. There may come a time when they rely on you more, and you rely on them less.\\nThe sooner that you understand that you can't make people do what you want, the sooner you will be able to relax. If you are able to be more relaxed, people will be more drawn to you, and they will admire your ability to go with the flow.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Limit your contact with them.\", \"描述\": \"This doesn't mean you have to ignore them or anything like that. It just means that, if you've been contacting them a lot lately, following them around, or constantly commenting on their social media accounts, try to give it a rest. Let them find their way to you. If they really are your friend, they will get in touch with you.\\nWhen they do get in touch with you, don't treat them as though they've done something wrong. Remind yourself that this is what you wanted, and be happy about it.\\nIf you want to look at your friend's social media account to see what they're up to, that's fine. However, realize that you may see pictures of them doing things with other people, and you may feel jealous. If you find yourself feeling jealous, avoid commenting something clingy on the photo. For example, don't say, “It looks like you're having a lot of fun without even inviting me! :(“\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Allow your friends their space.\", \"描述\": \"Some people need more space from friends and people than others, and just because they don't want to spend every free minute of their day with you doesn't mean they don't care about you. If you think you may be being a bit clingy, try to back off a bit.\\nIf you've been going to their house every single day after school, stop for awhile. Wait until they invite you to come or until they ask why you haven't been coming over anymore. If they do ask, just be honest. Tell them that you wanted to respect their space, but that you're happy to come over if they want you to.\\nFor example, you can say, “I just felt like maybe I was coming over too often, and I realize that you need to have your own space, too. I'd be happy to come over whenever you want though!”\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Suggest something specific.\", \"描述\": \"When you do initiate something with your friends, try to have an idea in mind. Don't just say, “I want to hang out with you.” Instead, find something to do that you think they will enjoy and suggest going together.\\nYou can also sound very confident and like you will go with or without them by saying something such as, “Hey! There's this concert that I'm going to on Saturday. Do you want to come along?” This will show your friends that you don't have to have them around to enjoy something, but that you do like to do things with them.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don't get angry if they say, “No.”\", \"描述\": \"When you're feeling clingy, someone turning you down can really feel bad. If they give you a reason why they can't go, try to accept this and don't question whether or not they made it up. If they don't give a reason, don't just assume it's because they don't want to hang out with you. If you get mad, you'll just make them feel tense around you because they will feel like they have to agree to do whatever you want in order to avoid making you angry.\\nIf you are feeling angry about it, try to let off some steam once they are gone. You could go for a run or write your feelings about the situation in a journal. If you really feel upset about it, you can try talking with your friend about it, but realize that this may not help if you want to seem less clingy.\\nFor example, if they turn you down, don't say, “I know you're just making up excuses and that you don't really want to hang out with me. You're being a bad friend.” This is an overreaction and it will probably freak your friend out a bit. Instead, say something like, “Oh, ok. It's cool. Maybe next time.”\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Let them go.\", \"描述\": \"If you have become clingy towards a certain friend because you have noticed them starting to pull or drift away from you, think about letting the relationship go. Friendships do come and go, and sometimes if is easier for everyone if you just let the relationship end and move on with new people.\\nThis doesn't mean you can't talk to them about what is going on, but realize that they may not be honest, especially if they are afraid of hurting your feelings. If you have been best friends with someone for many years, you should approach them if you notice they are behaving differently towards you.\\nFor example, you could say, “It seems like we've been drifting apart lately. Is everything OK?”\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Find friends that value you.\", \"描述\": \"It may be the case that you have a group of friends that is taking you for granted. Though it may be hard to accept this, sometimes it is for the best. If you truly believe that your friends don't really care about you, think about finding some new friends that will care about you and how you're feeling.\\nOnce you find true friends, you will be much happier, even if this means hanging out with less “popular” people.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Determining Whether or Not You Are Being Clingy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Think about how often you need your friend around.\", \"描述\": \"Are you constantly asking your friends to do something? Do you try to have a plan to hang out every single day during your free time? If so, you are probably being a bit clingy. Try to remember that nearly everyone can benefit from having some good quality alone time.\\nSometimes it can be weird to hang out alone, especially if you're used to being around people all of the time. Try doing something like reading or even just watching TV for a bit.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Determine whether or not you are the one who initiates everything.\", \"描述\": \"Does your friend initiate contact just as much as you do, or are you the one making all the plans and asking your friend to hang out all the time? If you are the one doing all the work, then you may be being a bit clingy.\\nIf this is the case, try to back off a bit and see if your friends takes over some of the responsibility.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Count how often you call or text your friend.\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to literally make a count of how many times you call or text someone each day. There is no rule when it comes to what is OK and what is not OK. However, you should try to be conscientious about how often you are calling/texting versus how often they are contacting you.\\nFor example, if you call your friend everyday after school or if you spend your evening sending them text messages, and they don't seem so eager to talk to you or aren't really answering your messages, you may be overdoing it.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Think about how often you feel worried that you're not being included.\", \"描述\": \"Often, we tend to cling to people when we feel insecure in our relationship with them. When we feel insecure about something we tend to become paranoid and overreactive. Do you find yourself constantly worried that your friends are doing something without you?\\nIf you do find yourself being worried about this, then you may be being clingy. Try to remind yourself that you don't have to do every single things that your friends are doing all the time. It's even a good idea to do your own thing once in awhile.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Building Your Own Self-Confidence\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Talk with someone about your insecurities.\", \"描述\": \"Talking through your worries and insecurities with someone can be more helpful than you think. If you think you have a real problem with clinginess, it might be best to talk it through with a professional counsellor. Your school may have one that is there for exactly this purpose, and you can talk to them about anything that's worrying you. It can be helpful to talk with a professional because they can be more objective than friends or family sometimes.\\nIf you can't or don't want to talk with a counsellor, consider talking with a parent or a trusted adult.\\nTalk to them about how you're feeling and what's going on in your life. Tell them that you are worried you are being too clingy with friends, but you're not sure what to do about it. They have probably been there before and can offer advice about how to handle it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep up with your family and responsibilities.\", \"描述\": \"Try to remember that friends are not all there is to life even if they do play a big and important part in it. Remember that you have responsibilities at home and at school or work. Make sure that you are taking care of all of those things instead of neglecting them to always be around your friends.\\nThe same goes for your family. Besides your friends, you have a family that cares about you. Spend time nurturing your relationships with your siblings, parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles. These are the people that will be there for you no matter what.\\nSpending time with family can be a great way to start feeling more secure. In most cases, your family knows you better than anyone else and accepts you all the same. If you have secure relationships with your family members, you can learn how to act that way with friends, too.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have hobbies that you do on your own.\", \"描述\": \"In addition to making sure that you are taking care of your responsibilities and family, find things that you enjoy doing alone. It is good to learn to just be with yourself and feel comfortable with it. If you already have a hobby that you enjoy, then great. If you don't, try out a few things you've been curious about and see what grabs your attention.\\nMany hobbies have their way of making you more confident in yourself. For example, they may teach you a cool skill.\\nIf you don't know where to get started, give yourself the space to just be bored for a while. 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2,909 | How to Avoid Being Cyberbullied | 1. Protecting Your Privacy Online
1-1. Don’t post anything online you want to keep private.
Private messages, pictures, texts, and other content aren't truly private. Once they're out there, a bully could get hold of a copy and use it to harm you. It’s best not to post anything inappropriate, embarrassing, or overly personal online.
Try the “grandma test” as a rule of thumb: before sharing anything online, ask yourself if you would also show it to your grandmother. If not, it’s probably best to keep it private.
1-2. Make use of privacy settings on social media.
Most social networking sites and similar services allow you to control who sees what you post online. For instance, you can make your profile and posts private, so that only followers you accept can see your content.
Making your accounts private will limit outsiders from accessing your information, but won’t keep it totally secure.
1-3. Limit your online friends.
It’s easy to connect with lots of people online through social networking sites and in other ways. If you keep your online circles limited to people you know and trust, however, you are more likely to avoid being cyberbullied.
You don’t have to accept friend requests, messages, invitations, etc. from people you don’t know or trust.
If any of your online friends/followers begin to show bullying behavior online, you can defriend or stop following them right away.
1-4. Protect your passwords.
If you make it easy for someone to hijack your information, social media accounts, or devices, this could lead to problems. If a bully is able to log in to your social media accounts, for instance, they could post mean things under your name or harass your friends. To prevent this, do things like:
Don’t write passwords down, store them in your phone, or share them with anyone else.
Change your passwords regularly.
Choose passwords that are difficult to guess.
1-5. Limit access to your devices and accounts.
Be careful not to let a would-be bully get access to your files or accounts and use that information to harass you. For instance, log out completely whenever you use a public or shared computer. Likewise, don't let anyone you don’t know or trust use your personal devices.
2. Dealing with Bullies
2-1. Ignore the bully if possible.
Bullies thrive on making people upset. If you can ignore them, they won't get this satisfaction. This should be your first line of defense, and will prevent many cases of cyberbullying.
Ignore the bully only if it's a first-time, mild comment or action online.
If the bully’s actions are repeated or severe, respond.
2-2. Resist the urge to fire back.
If someone says something cruel online, it's tempting to say something mean about them. Trying to get even rarely works with a cyber bully, however. “Trolls” feed on people getting upset at their harassing comments and posts online. Don’t give them that satisfaction.
2-3. Block whoever is harassing you.
If you've had problems with someone, even if you don't consider it full-fledged bullying, you could just cut off all online contact with them. Social media platforms, email services, phone service providers, and other outlets all provide ways to block particular users.
2-4. Keep evidence of any bullying.
On the other hand, if a bully is bothering you, it's easy for you to keep a record of the harassment. Keep copies of any emails or texts, take screenshots of any messages, etc. That way, if you need to show that bullying took place, you'll have proof that can stop the bully. Do this secretly so the bully will not find out you have been gathering evidence. This just may lead to more bullying.
2-5. Get the help of someone you trust.
Whether you've been the target of bullying, feel you're at risk for being bullied, or just want to stop the problem in general, let someone else know what's going on. If you’re underage, talk to an adult, like a parent or school counselor. Otherwise, talk to a friend or mentor for support.
3. Taking a Stand against Cyberbullying
3-1. Help others who are being bullied.
Stand up for others who are being harassed online, whether they are your friend or not. There are lots of ways to help out, from small-scale stuff to broad actions. For instance:
Offer encouraging messages to anyone you see being harassed online.
Be open about how you don’t support or accept bullying.
Encourage someone you know has been bothered online by telling them hello, eating lunch with them, or just trying to be their friend.
3-2. Don’t support inappropriate content.
If someone you know posts something mean, offensive, or harassing, don’t like, repost, or share it. The same goes for gossip--keep away from it. Drawing attention to inappropriate content contributes to the problem of cyberbullying and can even make you a target of bullying.
Think twice before liking/sharing something, even if you think it’s funny. Ask yourself: would it seem funny if the inappropriate content was about you?
3-3. Spread positivity.
You can be a role model for others and help prevent cyberbullying at the same time. When you comment on other people’s posts or respond online, aim to be encouraging, friendly, and supportive rather than aggressive or sarcastic.
3-4. Be part of the solution, not the problem.
You can even take formal steps to stand against bullying. Talk to your school, neighborhood, or group about signing a pledge not to bully. You can then post this online to let others know your principles. When people see others reject bullying, it reduces its power.
3-5. Mobilize your community to combat cyberbullying.
Talk to others in your community if you think cyberbullying is a real problem. As a group, you can work together to raise awareness of the issue, create no-bullying pledges, and offer support to anyone who has been hurt online.
3-6. Teach youth about making good decisions online.
If you are a parent or adult worried about a child being cyberbullied, talk with them about the problem and how to be safe online. You can also set limits on a child’s screen time or monitor their use of computers, phones, and other devices to reduce their risk of being bullied.
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Limit your online friends.\\nIt’s easy to connect with lots of people online through social networking sites and in other ways. If you keep your online circles limited to people you know and trust, however, you are more likely to avoid being cyberbullied.\\nYou don’t have to accept friend requests, messages, invitations, etc. from people you don’t know or trust.\\nIf any of your online friends/followers begin to show bullying behavior online, you can defriend or stop following them right away.\\n1-4. Protect your passwords.\\nIf you make it easy for someone to hijack your information, social media accounts, or devices, this could lead to problems. If a bully is able to log in to your social media accounts, for instance, they could post mean things under your name or harass your friends. To prevent this, do things like:\\nDon’t write passwords down, store them in your phone, or share them with anyone else.\\nChange your passwords regularly.\\nChoose passwords that are difficult to guess.\\n1-5. Limit access to your devices and accounts.\\nBe careful not to let a would-be bully get access to your files or accounts and use that information to harass you. For instance, log out completely whenever you use a public or shared computer. Likewise, don't let anyone you don’t know or trust use your personal devices.\\n2. Dealing with Bullies\\n2-1. Ignore the bully if possible.\\nBullies thrive on making people upset. If you can ignore them, they won't get this satisfaction. This should be your first line of defense, and will prevent many cases of cyberbullying.\\nIgnore the bully only if it's a first-time, mild comment or action online.\\nIf the bully’s actions are repeated or severe, respond.\\n2-2. Resist the urge to fire back.\\nIf someone says something cruel online, it's tempting to say something mean about them. Trying to get even rarely works with a cyber bully, however. “Trolls” feed on people getting upset at their harassing comments and posts online. Don’t give them that satisfaction.\\n2-3. Block whoever is harassing you.\\nIf you've had problems with someone, even if you don't consider it full-fledged bullying, you could just cut off all online contact with them. Social media platforms, email services, phone service providers, and other outlets all provide ways to block particular users.\\n2-4. Keep evidence of any bullying.\\nOn the other hand, if a bully is bothering you, it's easy for you to keep a record of the harassment. Keep copies of any emails or texts, take screenshots of any messages, etc. That way, if you need to show that bullying took place, you'll have proof that can stop the bully. Do this secretly so the bully will not find out you have been gathering evidence. This just may lead to more bullying.\\n2-5. Get the help of someone you trust.\\nWhether you've been the target of bullying, feel you're at risk for being bullied, or just want to stop the problem in general, let someone else know what's going on. If you’re underage, talk to an adult, like a parent or school counselor. Otherwise, talk to a friend or mentor for support.\\n3. Taking a Stand against Cyberbullying\\n3-1. Help others who are being bullied.\\nStand up for others who are being harassed online, whether they are your friend or not. There are lots of ways to help out, from small-scale stuff to broad actions. For instance:\\nOffer encouraging messages to anyone you see being harassed online.\\nBe open about how you don’t support or accept bullying.\\nEncourage someone you know has been bothered online by telling them hello, eating lunch with them, or just trying to be their friend.\\n3-2. Don’t support inappropriate content.\\nIf someone you know posts something mean, offensive, or harassing, don’t like, repost, or share it. The same goes for gossip--keep away from it. Drawing attention to inappropriate content contributes to the problem of cyberbullying and can even make you a target of bullying.\\nThink twice before liking/sharing something, even if you think it’s funny. Ask yourself: would it seem funny if the inappropriate content was about you?\\n3-3. Spread positivity.\\nYou can be a role model for others and help prevent cyberbullying at the same time. When you comment on other people’s posts or respond online, aim to be encouraging, friendly, and supportive rather than aggressive or sarcastic.\\n3-4. Be part of the solution, not the problem.\\nYou can even take formal steps to stand against bullying. Talk to your school, neighborhood, or group about signing a pledge not to bully. You can then post this online to let others know your principles. When people see others reject bullying, it reduces its power.\\n3-5. Mobilize your community to combat cyberbullying.\\nTalk to others in your community if you think cyberbullying is a real problem. As a group, you can work together to raise awareness of the issue, create no-bullying pledges, and offer support to anyone who has been hurt online.\\n3-6. Teach youth about making good decisions online.\\nIf you are a parent or adult worried about a child being cyberbullied, talk with them about the problem and how to be safe online. You can also set limits on a child’s screen time or monitor their use of computers, phones, and other devices to reduce their risk of being bullied.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Cyberbullying is online harassment. Abusive comments, the public sharing of private information, and threatening someone online are all forms of cyberbullying. To avoid it, practice some common-sense habits like limiting the content you post online and keeping your information secure. 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If not, it’s probably best to keep it private.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make use of privacy settings on social media.\", \"描述\": \"Most social networking sites and similar services allow you to control who sees what you post online. For instance, you can make your profile and posts private, so that only followers you accept can see your content.\\nMaking your accounts private will limit outsiders from accessing your information, but won’t keep it totally secure.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Limit your online friends.\", \"描述\": \"It’s easy to connect with lots of people online through social networking sites and in other ways. If you keep your online circles limited to people you know and trust, however, you are more likely to avoid being cyberbullied.\\nYou don’t have to accept friend requests, messages, invitations, etc. from people you don’t know or trust.\\nIf any of your online friends/followers begin to show bullying behavior online, you can defriend or stop following them right away.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Protect your passwords.\", \"描述\": \"If you make it easy for someone to hijack your information, social media accounts, or devices, this could lead to problems. If a bully is able to log in to your social media accounts, for instance, they could post mean things under your name or harass your friends. To prevent this, do things like:\\nDon’t write passwords down, store them in your phone, or share them with anyone else.\\nChange your passwords regularly.\\nChoose passwords that are difficult to guess.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Limit access to your devices and accounts.\", \"描述\": \"Be careful not to let a would-be bully get access to your files or accounts and use that information to harass you. For instance, log out completely whenever you use a public or shared computer. Likewise, don't let anyone you don’t know or trust use your personal devices.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Dealing with Bullies\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ignore the bully if possible.\", \"描述\": \"Bullies thrive on making people upset. If you can ignore them, they won't get this satisfaction. This should be your first line of defense, and will prevent many cases of cyberbullying.\\nIgnore the bully only if it's a first-time, mild comment or action online.\\nIf the bully’s actions are repeated or severe, respond.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Resist the urge to fire back.\", \"描述\": \"If someone says something cruel online, it's tempting to say something mean about them. Trying to get even rarely works with a cyber bully, however. “Trolls” feed on people getting upset at their harassing comments and posts online. Don’t give them that satisfaction.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Block whoever is harassing you.\", \"描述\": \"If you've had problems with someone, even if you don't consider it full-fledged bullying, you could just cut off all online contact with them. Social media platforms, email services, phone service providers, and other outlets all provide ways to block particular users.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Keep evidence of any bullying.\", \"描述\": \"On the other hand, if a bully is bothering you, it's easy for you to keep a record of the harassment. Keep copies of any emails or texts, take screenshots of any messages, etc. That way, if you need to show that bullying took place, you'll have proof that can stop the bully. Do this secretly so the bully will not find out you have been gathering evidence. This just may lead to more bullying.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get the help of someone you trust.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you've been the target of bullying, feel you're at risk for being bullied, or just want to stop the problem in general, let someone else know what's going on. If you’re underage, talk to an adult, like a parent or school counselor. Otherwise, talk to a friend or mentor for support.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Taking a Stand against Cyberbullying\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Help others who are being bullied.\", \"描述\": \"Stand up for others who are being harassed online, whether they are your friend or not. There are lots of ways to help out, from small-scale stuff to broad actions. For instance:\\nOffer encouraging messages to anyone you see being harassed online.\\nBe open about how you don’t support or accept bullying.\\nEncourage someone you know has been bothered online by telling them hello, eating lunch with them, or just trying to be their friend.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don’t support inappropriate content.\", \"描述\": \"If someone you know posts something mean, offensive, or harassing, don’t like, repost, or share it. The same goes for gossip--keep away from it. Drawing attention to inappropriate content contributes to the problem of cyberbullying and can even make you a target of bullying.\\nThink twice before liking/sharing something, even if you think it’s funny. Ask yourself: would it seem funny if the inappropriate content was about you?\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Spread positivity.\", \"描述\": \"You can be a role model for others and help prevent cyberbullying at the same time. When you comment on other people’s posts or respond online, aim to be encouraging, friendly, and supportive rather than aggressive or sarcastic.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be part of the solution, not the problem.\", \"描述\": \"You can even take formal steps to stand against bullying. Talk to your school, neighborhood, or group about signing a pledge not to bully. You can then post this online to let others know your principles. When people see others reject bullying, it reduces its power.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Mobilize your community to combat cyberbullying.\", \"描述\": \"Talk to others in your community if you think cyberbullying is a real problem. As a group, you can work together to raise awareness of the issue, create no-bullying pledges, and offer support to anyone who has been hurt online.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Teach youth about making good decisions online.\", \"描述\": \"If you are a parent or adult worried about a child being cyberbullied, talk with them about the problem and how to be safe online. You can also set limits on a child’s screen time or monitor their use of computers, phones, and other devices to reduce their risk of being bullied.\"}]}]}}",
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2,910 | How to Avoid Being Extradited to the US | 1. Selecting and Living in Another Country
1-1. Identify countries with no extradition treaty with the U.S.
Extradition is primarily the product of existing treaties. If a treaty doesn’t exist between the two countries, then you cannot be extradited from one to the other. If you are looking to avoid prosecution or sentence in the U.S., it would be wise to select a country that does not have an extradition treaty. There are slightly fewer than a hundred countries that fall into this category.
You can find a list of the countries that do and don’t have current extradition treaties in an article by the Congressional Research Service, current as of 2010.
A few of the countries that do not currently have extradition treaties with the U.S. are Afghanistan, Bahrain, Morocco, Senegal and Tunisia.
1-2. Consider finding a country where you can disappear and blend in.
For this reason, larger countries like China or Russia have often been suggested. However, not everyone facing extradition is a "fugitive" who is hiding. Some people manage to live quite comfortably, and even publicly, while avoiding extradition to the U.S.
1-3. Select a country with no diplomatic ties to the U.S.
There are countries that, beyond not having an extradition treaty, do not maintain ongoing diplomatic ties with the U.S. Assuming you can get in, and then choose to live there, these would be places to avoid extradition almost absolutely. Some examples of these are Cuba (although recent political discussions have been changing this), North Korea, Iran and Bhutan.
Be aware that moving to a country with no diplomatic ties to the U.S. may sound, at the moment, like a way to avoid extradition, but you would be giving up the protections that come with being a U.S. citizen abroad. You would have no opportunity to call on the embassy or ambassador for support, if you should need it.
2. Exercising Your Rights as an Extradition Defendant
2-1. Hire an attorney.
The first thing you should do, if you are in another country and the U.S. has requested your extradition, is to hire an attorney. Except in some of the most extreme nations, you are entitled to legal counsel, and you do have rights that can be exerted in court.
When hiring an attorney abroad, you need to make sure that you are hiring the right "kind" of attorney who can perform the work and provide the advice that you need. Remember that all countries do not have the same sort of legal system that the U.S. has. Be sure to ask about the attorney's experience and expertise with immigration and extradition law, and ask specifically if the attorney is able to perform the kind of work and negotiation that you need. For example, depending on the country, you may need a "barrister," a "solicitor," a "huissier," a "legal consultant," or a "lawyer."
2-2. Make the government(s) exercise due process.
Even if you are a “fugitive” in your new country, you are entitled to certain due process rights. The U.S. must begin the procedure by filing an extradition request with the second country. An arrest warrant must be issued and exercised, and you have the right to an attorney.
2-3. Request an Extradition Hearing.
Just being arrested in a foreign country while you are facing charges in the U.S. does not automatically mean that you will be returned. You have the right to request a hearing, to present evidence, and to present a variety of legal defenses. In some celebrated cases, defendants have avoided extradition for years by exercising the legal process.
3. Asserting Defenses in an Extradition Hearing in Court
3-1. Claim nationality in the other country.
Most extradition treaties will not require the country where the fugitive is residing to extradite if the fugitive is a citizen of that country. Therefore, if you can establish citizenship or if you are already a dual citizen of another country, you may be able to avoid extradition.
Alternatively, if you can claim citizenship in a third-party country, other than the U.S. or the country where you currently reside or are held, you may be able to earn deportment to that country rather than the U.S.
3-2. Raise a defense of “double jeopardy.”
The U.S. Constitution contains a clause that prevents a person from being tried twice for the same offense, and most other countries recognize a similar right. If you can argue that you have already been tried for the same offense, either in the U.S. or in the country where you currently reside, you may be able to defeat the extradition request.
3-3. Be aware of the statute of limitations.
Most crimes have a statute of limitations, which is a time limit within which time the prosecution must occur. If that time has expired, you cannot be prosecuted, and if you cannot be prosecuted, then you cannot be extradited.
3-4. Assert a military or political defense.
If you can argue that you are being prosecuted for an act that was purely military or political in nature, most extradition treaties will not support extradition. Military or political acts are generally viewed as something apart from the ordinary criminal process. Some examples would be allegations of treason, espionage, or the exercise of free speech against the government.
3-5. Argue that the punishment you face would be a violation of human rights.
Some countries will not extradite people who face capital punishment. Other countries will deny extradition if the punishment rises to the level of a human rights violation. Some examples of "human rights violations" are unreasonable imprisonment, torture, or the denial of freedom of speech or freedom of religion.
3-6. Argue that the crime is not punishable as a serious offense in either country.
Under most treaties, in order to be extradited, the offense at issue must be recognized as a crime in both countries. If you can demonstrate that your activity was not a recognized crime in one country or the other, you may be able to avoid extradition.
For example, in 1992 in Yugoslavia, American chess champion Bobby Fischer played a rematch of his famous chess match against Soviet chess champion Boris Spassky. The U.S. government declared his match, which had become internationally famous, to be in violation of certain sanctions against doing business in Yugoslavia at that time. However, when Fischer eventually came to trial for extradition for that violation, he was not extradited because his home country at that time did not recognize Fischer's violation to be criminal, because that country did not hold the same political sanctions against Yugoslavia.
4. Waiving Your Extradition Rights
4-1. Agree to return willingly.
While this may result in the same outcome, that you end up in court defending yourself, it can avoid a lengthy and costly legal process. You have the right to a hearing, which takes the form of a pre-trial in the country where you currently reside. This can take a long time and be very costly in legal fees. By waiving your rights, you will agree to return to the U.S. voluntarily.
4-2. Understand the difference between a "waiver" and a "consent."
If you waive your extradition rights, you are admitting that the requirements of extradition have been met, and you agree to return to the U.S. for trial. However, an alternative is to consent to return, but still demand that the return to the U.S. be under the terms of extradition. By doing this, the defendant keeps any defenses that he or she would have had available under the applicable extradition treaty.
The nuances between waiver and consent are very technical and very slight. It is highly recommended that you consult with an attorney if you are considering this option.
4-3. Negotiate an alternative to extradition.
If you are facing extradition, consider whether you can reach a settlement of some kind that will end your case in a positive manner. In a case that drew international attention, Richard O’Dwyer was facing extradition from Great Britain to the U.S. While he was awaiting a hearing date on the question of extradition, he met with authorities and essentially negotiated a resolution to the case. He avoided extradition and jail time.
5. Understanding Alternatives to Extradition
5-1. Be careful of immigration laws.
It is possible that the country in which you are residing may exercise some alternative to extradition, which nevertheless ends up with the same result. The first of these is the application of their immigration laws. The country may simply deport you or refuse to admit you as an immigrant. If you are attempting to flee prosecution in the U.S., you will want to be careful that you comply with the immigration laws of the country where you travel.
5-2. Watch out for “irregular rendition” or abduction.
Basically, this means that you need to avoid being kidnapped. In some cases, usually reserved for extreme crimes like terrorism or drug trafficking, a fugitive has been returned to the U.S. through illegal abduction. While this sounds like the plot of an action movie, it does happen.
5-3. Realize that you might be prosecuted in the foreign country.
Even if the extradition request is refused, there are procedures for the U.S. and the other country to work together to conduct the prosecution in that nation. While, technically, this is a way of avoiding extradition, you may still wind up on trial.It may be a good idea to make yourself familiar with the trial process in your new country. You may find that standing trial in the U.S. may actually be preferable to standing trial in your new country.
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Hire an attorney.\\nThe first thing you should do, if you are in another country and the U.S. has requested your extradition, is to hire an attorney. Except in some of the most extreme nations, you are entitled to legal counsel, and you do have rights that can be exerted in court.\\nWhen hiring an attorney abroad, you need to make sure that you are hiring the right \\\"kind\\\" of attorney who can perform the work and provide the advice that you need. Remember that all countries do not have the same sort of legal system that the U.S. has. Be sure to ask about the attorney's experience and expertise with immigration and extradition law, and ask specifically if the attorney is able to perform the kind of work and negotiation that you need. For example, depending on the country, you may need a \\\"barrister,\\\" a \\\"solicitor,\\\" a \\\"huissier,\\\" a \\\"legal consultant,\\\" or a \\\"lawyer.\\\"\\n2-2. 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Therefore, if you can establish citizenship or if you are already a dual citizen of another country, you may be able to avoid extradition.\\nAlternatively, if you can claim citizenship in a third-party country, other than the U.S. or the country where you currently reside or are held, you may be able to earn deportment to that country rather than the U.S.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Raise a defense of “double jeopardy.”\", \"描述\": \"The U.S. Constitution contains a clause that prevents a person from being tried twice for the same offense, and most other countries recognize a similar right. If you can argue that you have already been tried for the same offense, either in the U.S. or in the country where you currently reside, you may be able to defeat the extradition request.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be aware of the statute of limitations.\", \"描述\": \"Most crimes have a statute of limitations, which is a time limit within which time the prosecution must occur. 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2,911 | How to Avoid Being Late | 1. Give yourself enough time to get ready.
You don't want to rush, because that will likely make you forget something.
If you have an early appointment, prepare the night before by getting your clothes ready and making sure that everything you need, such as car keys and cell phone, is ready to go.
2. Don't give yourself permission to be late.
It's never a good idea to make excuses for yourself.
You may think that it's just a few minutes, but tardiness is a habit that often gets worse, and the minutes will grow. Therefore, take tardiness seriously and recognize that it is a bad habit that should not be excused.
3. Allow ample time for your journey.
Take into consideration the time of day that you will be traveling.
Always add enough time for travel delays and other problems that could crop up, such as finding parking or getting lost if you are heading out to an unfamiliar destination.
4. Avoid overextending yourself.
Don't schedule too many appointments around the same time.
By doing this, you are setting yourself up to being late. If you do have more than one meeting at a time, then make sure that you schedule enough time in between so that you can travel from one to another without rushing or risking being late.
5. Refrain from accepting invites to events you can't make.
You'll only be creating a stressful situation for yourself.
On the day of the event, you will be forced to follow through on the invite, and you will most likely be late and upset the person you are meeting. It's better to decline the invitation and risk disappointing the person, than risking offending them by being late.
6. Always give yourself more time than you need to get there.
Better safe than sorry, and it's okay to be a little bit early.
For example, if you have to go to a wedding that starts at 5:00 and you know it takes 20 minutes to get there,leave at 4:30. You WILL get there on time!
Tips
Set your clock forward by an odd number of minutes. (Setting back by 10 or 15 minutes is too easy to calculate instantly). For example, if the real time is 10.10, change yours to 10.17. This way, you think you have less time than you do.
Empathize with the person who is waiting for you. Even if it is not intentional, it is not fun to be kept waiting. If you put yourself in the position of the person waiting for you, you will better gain a sense of urgency and try harder to avoid being tardy.
Warnings
Recognize that tardiness, especially consistent tardiness, is a trait that illustrates your lack of respect for others. It also suggests that you think that you are more important than those who are waiting for you. Ultimately this arrogant nature will eventually create feelings of animosity from the people who you consistently keep waiting.
On the flip side, your tardiness may be illustrating lack of self-esteem. Perhaps you think that your presence doesn't really matter. If that were true, why were you included in the planning/invitations? They want you there, so don't disappoint them.
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2,912 | How to Avoid Being Late for School | 1. Preparing the Night Before
1-1. Pick out your outfit
There’s nothing worse than getting ready for school and having no idea what you want to wear. To avoid the chaos in the morning, take a few minutes before bed to put together your outfit for the next day—including a shirt, bottoms, and shoes. Then, hang or lay out everything so it’s ready when you wake up.
Even if you wear a uniform to school, you can still put all your clothes in one place and double check that they’re wrinkle-free.
1-2. Pack your lunch so you don’t have to worry about it before school.
Then, you can just toss it in your backpack in the morning. If your lunch needs to be chilled, you can still prepare it in advance and store it in the fridge overnight.
If you usually buy lunch at school, put your lunch money on the counter the night before so you can easily grab it in the morning.
If you're looking for easy, healthy lunches you can prepare in advance, try peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, bagels with cream cheese, or turkey and cheese sandwiches. Don't forget to pack a couple sides, like fruit, trail mix, carrots, or crackers.
1-3. Get your backpack ready to go
Searching for loose papers and notebooks before school can be hectic. By organizing everything in your backpack the night before, you’ll have one less thing to worry about in the morning.
Keep your backpack in a really noticeable spot, like next to the front door or on your desk in your room, so you don’t have to look for it in the morning.
1-4. Finish all your homework so you don’t have to do it in the morning.
You might be tempted to finish your homework while you’re getting ready for school, but that might not be the best idea. If you get stuck on something or it ends up taking longer than you expected, you might end up being late. Instead, try to have it done the night before.
When you’re finished with your homework, don’t forget to put it in your backpack right away. That way, you won’t forget it or have to go looking for it in the morning.
1-5. Shower at night so you don’t have to before school.
Showering can take up a lot of time in the morning, especially when you’re a little groggy after just waking up. If you shower at night, you won’t have to worry about it in the morning, and you’ll still feel clean and fresh for school.
2. Getting a Good Night’s Sleep
2-1. Make it a priority to get to bed on time.
If you habitually run late for school, pay attention to whether there's anything that's keeping you up late at night. Things like playing video games, babysitting, or even working an after-school job can keep you up late, but it's very important that your education comes first.If other priorities are interfering with your schoolwork, talk to your parents about how you might be able to reschedule things so you can get enough sleep for school.
2-2. Don’t drink caffeinated beverages after 3 in the afternoon.
Caffeinated drinks like coffee and tea can give you a helpful morning or mid-day boost, but if you drink them too late in the day, they can actually prevent you from sleeping soundly. By limiting yourself to caffeine before 3 PM, you’ll have enough time to wind down and sleep well throughout the night.
Coffee and tea aren’t the only beverages with caffeine in them. Sodas and sports drinks can also have caffeine, so always check labels or look it up online if you're not sure.
2-3. Avoid looking at screens for at least 30 minutes before you go to bed.
The lights from screens signal to your body that it’s not time for sleep yet, which can keep you up at night. Instead of scrolling on your phone, using your computer, or watching TV before bed, try doing a relaxing, screen-free activity instead, like reading a book or drawing.
If you need a reminder, set an alarm 30 minutes before your bedtime. When the alarm goes off, you’ll know it’s time to put away screens for the night.
2-4. Develop a bedtime routine
A good bedtime routine can make it easier to fall asleep at night. Also, going to sleep at the same time every night will help you get a better night’s sleep. Try to choose a bedtime and stick with it. Then, choose 1 or 2 relaxing activities you can do right before bed every night, like taking a bath, reading, or sipping on some decaffeinated tea.
If you’re between 6 and 12 years old, try to get 9-12 hours of sleep every night.
If you’re between 13 and 18 years old, try to get 8-10 hours of sleep every night.
2-5. Keep your room at a comfortable temperature while you sleep.
It's hard to sleep soundly when you're too hot or cold. If your room is too hot at night, try turning on a fan or opening up a window to let a breeze in. Alternatively, if it’s too cold in your room, try sleeping with more blankets, and consider talking to your parents about getting a space heater. You can also ask your parents to adjust the thermostat so you sleep more comfortably.
Generally, you'll sleep best if your room is 60–67 °F (16–19 °C).
2-6. Turn all your bedroom lights off before bed so you sleep more soundly.
Since light can interfere with your body's natural sleep cycle, keep it as dark as possible when you sleep at night. Turn off any screens that emit light too, like your TV. If light shines through your window at night, consider closing your blinds or curtains as well.
It’s OK to sleep with a dim night light if you need one. Just make sure the rest of the lights in your room are off.
2-7. Try writing in a journal before bed if you’re feeling stressed or anxious.
It can be hard to fall asleep when you have unpleasant thoughts swirling around in your head. By writing down your thoughts and feelings in a journal, you can help clear your mind so it’s easier to fall asleep.
You can journal about anything that’s weighing on your mind. For example, if you’re worried about a big test, write down the main points you need to remember so you can stop obsessing over them. Or, if you have a lot of assignments that are due soon, write out a quick to-do list for the upcoming days and weeks to get them off your mind.
3. Waking up on Time
3-1. Avoid hitting the snooze button on your alarm clock.
Hitting snooze might seem like a good idea at the time, but sleeping for an extra 10-20 minutes won’t actually make you feel any less tired. Since your body won’t have time to fall back into a deep sleep, you’ll wake up feeling more groggy after you snooze. Instead, to save yourself time, try to get up right when your alarm goes off in the morning.
Ideally, you should set your alarm for an hour to an hour and a half before you need to leave for school. That way, you'll have plenty of time to take a shower, get ready, and eat breakfast.
If you’re used to hitting the snooze button in the morning, it might take some time to break the habit. Just try your best to sit up and get out of bed immediately after your alarm goes off.
Use an old-school alarm clock instead of your cell phone. That way, your alarm will still go off even if your phone isn't charged.
3-2. Move your alarm clock away from your bed so you have to get up to turn it off.
That way, you won’t be able to hit snooze even if you’re tempted to. Once you’ve gotten out of bed and walked across the room, it will be a lot easier to get your day started.
Choose a spot that you won’t be able to reach from your bed, like a desk across the room or a far-away window sill.
3-3. Ask for help if you can't wake up.
If even an alarm clock can't get you out of bed, try asking your parents or siblings if they'd be willing to help wake you up in the morning.
You could also ask an early-rising friend to call you each morning to make sure you're awake.
3-4. Turn your bedroom lights on and open your blinds right after you get up.
Light signals to your body that it’s time to wake up, and the more light you expose yourself to in the morning, the faster you’ll stop feeling tired. By turning on all the lights right when you get out of bed, you'll wake yourself up and have an easier time getting ready.
There are even alarm clocks you can buy that have lights built into them. When the alarm goes off, the lights turn on, making it easier to wake up.
3-5. Try splashing your face with cold water so you feel more awake.
Cold water can shock your system and make you feel more alert. If you need a quick, easy pick-me-up right after you get out of bed, splashing your face with cold water can help.
If you plan on showering before school, try turning the water to cold for 30 seconds right before you get out to help wake you up.
3-6. Play your favorite music to help motivate you to start getting ready.
Music can improve your mood and give you a burst of energy while you’re preparing for school. Try to choose upbeat, high-energy songs since they’ll wake you up better than slow, soothing music.
If anyone in your family is still asleep, listen to music using headphones so you don’t wake them up.
4. Getting out the Door
4-1. Put your hair up if it’s long so you don’t have to worry about styling it.
Styling your hair before school can take a lot of time. If it looks a little messy when you roll out of bed, pull it back into a ponytail or a bun. You can also quickly braid it. That way, you won’t feel as rushed getting out the door.
If you have short hair and it’s messy, wet it down with water and run a brush or comb through it to quickly style it.
4-2. Simplify your makeup routine
Like styling your hair, doing your makeup can take a while in the morning. If doing your makeup every morning is making you late to school, try using fewer products and eliminating steps in your routine. Or, if you’re comfortable, consider not wearing any makeup at all so it’s one less thing you have to worry about.
For example, you can simplify your eye makeup by skipping eyeshadow and eyeliner and just applying mascara.
You can also speed up your routine by ditching foundation and just using concealer on any spots you want to cover up.
If you usually fill in your eyebrows before school, try running a colored brow mascara through them instead, which will be faster than using powders or pencils.
4-3. Choose quick, easy breakfast options that you can eat on the go.
Avoid skipping breakfast to save time since it gives you energy for the school day. However, you might not have time for a full breakfast spread. Instead, have easy breakfast snacks, like fruit, yogurt, granola, or hard-boiled eggs.
To save yourself even more time in the morning, make your breakfast the night before. For example, you can make a breakfast burrito by wrapping scrambled eggs, potatoes, and meat in a tortilla. Then, wrap it in aluminum foil and store it in the freezer. In the morning, you can heat it up in the microwave and eat it while you're getting ready.
If you’re running behind in the morning, you can eat your breakfast on the way to school to save yourself time.
4-4. Plan on walking out the door a few minutes earlier than you need to.
Whether you take the bus, walk, ride your bicycle, or get driven to school by your parents, having a few minutes of wiggle room will save you from being late if you’re running behind. Even if you oversleep a bit or take too long to get ready, you’ll have a few extra minutes before you actually have to be out the door.
For example, if the bus picks you up at 8, plan on heading to the bus stop at 7:50 every morning. That way, you have 10 extra minutes in case you ever need them.
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Turn all your bedroom lights off before bed so you sleep more soundly.\\nSince light can interfere with your body's natural sleep cycle, keep it as dark as possible when you sleep at night. Turn off any screens that emit light too, like your TV. If light shines through your window at night, consider closing your blinds or curtains as well.\\nIt’s OK to sleep with a dim night light if you need one. Just make sure the rest of the lights in your room are off.\\n2-7. Try writing in a journal before bed if you’re feeling stressed or anxious.\\nIt can be hard to fall asleep when you have unpleasant thoughts swirling around in your head. By writing down your thoughts and feelings in a journal, you can help clear your mind so it’s easier to fall asleep.\\nYou can journal about anything that’s weighing on your mind. For example, if you’re worried about a big test, write down the main points you need to remember so you can stop obsessing over them. 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Turn your bedroom lights on and open your blinds right after you get up.\\nLight signals to your body that it’s time to wake up, and the more light you expose yourself to in the morning, the faster you’ll stop feeling tired. By turning on all the lights right when you get out of bed, you'll wake yourself up and have an easier time getting ready.\\nThere are even alarm clocks you can buy that have lights built into them. When the alarm goes off, the lights turn on, making it easier to wake up.\\n3-5. Try splashing your face with cold water so you feel more awake.\\nCold water can shock your system and make you feel more alert. If you need a quick, easy pick-me-up right after you get out of bed, splashing your face with cold water can help. \\nIf you plan on showering before school, try turning the water to cold for 30 seconds right before you get out to help wake you up.\\n3-6. Play your favorite music to help motivate you to start getting ready.\\nMusic can improve your mood and give you a burst of energy while you’re preparing for school. Try to choose upbeat, high-energy songs since they’ll wake you up better than slow, soothing music.\\nIf anyone in your family is still asleep, listen to music using headphones so you don’t wake them up.\\n4. Getting out the Door\\n4-1. Put your hair up if it’s long so you don’t have to worry about styling it.\\nStyling your hair before school can take a lot of time. If it looks a little messy when you roll out of bed, pull it back into a ponytail or a bun. You can also quickly braid it. That way, you won’t feel as rushed getting out the door.\\nIf you have short hair and it’s messy, wet it down with water and run a brush or comb through it to quickly style it.\\n4-2. Simplify your makeup routine\\nLike styling your hair, doing your makeup can take a while in the morning. If doing your makeup every morning is making you late to school, try using fewer products and eliminating steps in your routine. Or, if you’re comfortable, consider not wearing any makeup at all so it’s one less thing you have to worry about.\\nFor example, you can simplify your eye makeup by skipping eyeshadow and eyeliner and just applying mascara.\\nYou can also speed up your routine by ditching foundation and just using concealer on any spots you want to cover up.\\nIf you usually fill in your eyebrows before school, try running a colored brow mascara through them instead, which will be faster than using powders or pencils.\\n4-3. Choose quick, easy breakfast options that you can eat on the go.\\nAvoid skipping breakfast to save time since it gives you energy for the school day. However, you might not have time for a full breakfast spread. Instead, have easy breakfast snacks, like fruit, yogurt, granola, or hard-boiled eggs.\\nTo save yourself even more time in the morning, make your breakfast the night before. For example, you can make a breakfast burrito by wrapping scrambled eggs, potatoes, and meat in a tortilla. Then, wrap it in aluminum foil and store it in the freezer. In the morning, you can heat it up in the microwave and eat it while you're getting ready.\\nIf you’re running behind in the morning, you can eat your breakfast on the way to school to save yourself time.\\n4-4. Plan on walking out the door a few minutes earlier than you need to.\\nWhether you take the bus, walk, ride your bicycle, or get driven to school by your parents, having a few minutes of wiggle room will save you from being late if you’re running behind. Even if you oversleep a bit or take too long to get ready, you’ll have a few extra minutes before you actually have to be out the door.\\nFor example, if the bus picks you up at 8, plan on heading to the bus stop at 7:50 every morning. That way, you have 10 extra minutes in case you ever need them.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Regularly being late to school can take a toll on your attendance record and upset your parents and school administrators. Fortunately, there are lots of things you can do to save time in the morning and get to school before the bell rings. By preparing for school the night before, sleeping well, and getting up and out the door faster, you can be confident that you'll get to school on time.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Preparing the Night Before\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pick out your outfit\", \"描述\": \"There’s nothing worse than getting ready for school and having no idea what you want to wear. To avoid the chaos in the morning, take a few minutes before bed to put together your outfit for the next day—including a shirt, bottoms, and shoes. Then, hang or lay out everything so it’s ready when you wake up.\\nEven if you wear a uniform to school, you can still put all your clothes in one place and double check that they’re wrinkle-free.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pack your lunch so you don’t have to worry about it before school.\", \"描述\": \"Then, you can just toss it in your backpack in the morning. If your lunch needs to be chilled, you can still prepare it in advance and store it in the fridge overnight.\\nIf you usually buy lunch at school, put your lunch money on the counter the night before so you can easily grab it in the morning.\\nIf you're looking for easy, healthy lunches you can prepare in advance, try peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, bagels with cream cheese, or turkey and cheese sandwiches. Don't forget to pack a couple sides, like fruit, trail mix, carrots, or crackers.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get your backpack ready to go\", \"描述\": \"Searching for loose papers and notebooks before school can be hectic. By organizing everything in your backpack the night before, you’ll have one less thing to worry about in the morning.\\nKeep your backpack in a really noticeable spot, like next to the front door or on your desk in your room, so you don’t have to look for it in the morning.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Finish all your homework so you don’t have to do it in the morning.\", \"描述\": \"You might be tempted to finish your homework while you’re getting ready for school, but that might not be the best idea. If you get stuck on something or it ends up taking longer than you expected, you might end up being late. Instead, try to have it done the night before.\\nWhen you’re finished with your homework, don’t forget to put it in your backpack right away. That way, you won’t forget it or have to go looking for it in the morning.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Shower at night so you don’t have to before school.\", \"描述\": \"Showering can take up a lot of time in the morning, especially when you’re a little groggy after just waking up. If you shower at night, you won’t have to worry about it in the morning, and you’ll still feel clean and fresh for school.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting a Good Night’s Sleep\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make it a priority to get to bed on time.\", \"描述\": \"If you habitually run late for school, pay attention to whether there's anything that's keeping you up late at night. Things like playing video games, babysitting, or even working an after-school job can keep you up late, but it's very important that your education comes first.If other priorities are interfering with your schoolwork, talk to your parents about how you might be able to reschedule things so you can get enough sleep for school.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don’t drink caffeinated beverages after 3 in the afternoon.\", \"描述\": \"Caffeinated drinks like coffee and tea can give you a helpful morning or mid-day boost, but if you drink them too late in the day, they can actually prevent you from sleeping soundly. By limiting yourself to caffeine before 3 PM, you’ll have enough time to wind down and sleep well throughout the night.\\nCoffee and tea aren’t the only beverages with caffeine in them. Sodas and sports drinks can also have caffeine, so always check labels or look it up online if you're not sure.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoid looking at screens for at least 30 minutes before you go to bed.\", \"描述\": \"The lights from screens signal to your body that it’s not time for sleep yet, which can keep you up at night. Instead of scrolling on your phone, using your computer, or watching TV before bed, try doing a relaxing, screen-free activity instead, like reading a book or drawing.\\nIf you need a reminder, set an alarm 30 minutes before your bedtime. When the alarm goes off, you’ll know it’s time to put away screens for the night.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Develop a bedtime routine\", \"描述\": \"A good bedtime routine can make it easier to fall asleep at night. Also, going to sleep at the same time every night will help you get a better night’s sleep. Try to choose a bedtime and stick with it. Then, choose 1 or 2 relaxing activities you can do right before bed every night, like taking a bath, reading, or sipping on some decaffeinated tea.\\nIf you’re between 6 and 12 years old, try to get 9-12 hours of sleep every night.\\nIf you’re between 13 and 18 years old, try to get 8-10 hours of sleep every night.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep your room at a comfortable temperature while you sleep.\", \"描述\": \"It's hard to sleep soundly when you're too hot or cold. If your room is too hot at night, try turning on a fan or opening up a window to let a breeze in. Alternatively, if it’s too cold in your room, try sleeping with more blankets, and consider talking to your parents about getting a space heater. You can also ask your parents to adjust the thermostat so you sleep more comfortably.\\nGenerally, you'll sleep best if your room is 60–67 °F (16–19 °C).\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Turn all your bedroom lights off before bed so you sleep more soundly.\", \"描述\": \"Since light can interfere with your body's natural sleep cycle, keep it as dark as possible when you sleep at night. Turn off any screens that emit light too, like your TV. If light shines through your window at night, consider closing your blinds or curtains as well.\\nIt’s OK to sleep with a dim night light if you need one. Just make sure the rest of the lights in your room are off.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Try writing in a journal before bed if you’re feeling stressed or anxious.\", \"描述\": \"It can be hard to fall asleep when you have unpleasant thoughts swirling around in your head. By writing down your thoughts and feelings in a journal, you can help clear your mind so it’s easier to fall asleep.\\nYou can journal about anything that’s weighing on your mind. For example, if you’re worried about a big test, write down the main points you need to remember so you can stop obsessing over them. Or, if you have a lot of assignments that are due soon, write out a quick to-do list for the upcoming days and weeks to get them off your mind.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Waking up on Time\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Avoid hitting the snooze button on your alarm clock.\", \"描述\": \"Hitting snooze might seem like a good idea at the time, but sleeping for an extra 10-20 minutes won’t actually make you feel any less tired. Since your body won’t have time to fall back into a deep sleep, you’ll wake up feeling more groggy after you snooze. Instead, to save yourself time, try to get up right when your alarm goes off in the morning.\\nIdeally, you should set your alarm for an hour to an hour and a half before you need to leave for school. That way, you'll have plenty of time to take a shower, get ready, and eat breakfast.\\nIf you’re used to hitting the snooze button in the morning, it might take some time to break the habit. Just try your best to sit up and get out of bed immediately after your alarm goes off.\\nUse an old-school alarm clock instead of your cell phone. That way, your alarm will still go off even if your phone isn't charged.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Move your alarm clock away from your bed so you have to get up to turn it off.\", \"描述\": \"That way, you won’t be able to hit snooze even if you’re tempted to. Once you’ve gotten out of bed and walked across the room, it will be a lot easier to get your day started.\\nChoose a spot that you won’t be able to reach from your bed, like a desk across the room or a far-away window sill.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask for help if you can't wake up.\", \"描述\": \"If even an alarm clock can't get you out of bed, try asking your parents or siblings if they'd be willing to help wake you up in the morning.\\nYou could also ask an early-rising friend to call you each morning to make sure you're awake.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Turn your bedroom lights on and open your blinds right after you get up.\", \"描述\": \"Light signals to your body that it’s time to wake up, and the more light you expose yourself to in the morning, the faster you’ll stop feeling tired. By turning on all the lights right when you get out of bed, you'll wake yourself up and have an easier time getting ready.\\nThere are even alarm clocks you can buy that have lights built into them. When the alarm goes off, the lights turn on, making it easier to wake up.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Try splashing your face with cold water so you feel more awake.\", \"描述\": \"Cold water can shock your system and make you feel more alert. If you need a quick, easy pick-me-up right after you get out of bed, splashing your face with cold water can help. \\nIf you plan on showering before school, try turning the water to cold for 30 seconds right before you get out to help wake you up.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Play your favorite music to help motivate you to start getting ready.\", \"描述\": \"Music can improve your mood and give you a burst of energy while you’re preparing for school. Try to choose upbeat, high-energy songs since they’ll wake you up better than slow, soothing music.\\nIf anyone in your family is still asleep, listen to music using headphones so you don’t wake them up.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Getting out the Door\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Put your hair up if it’s long so you don’t have to worry about styling it.\", \"描述\": \"Styling your hair before school can take a lot of time. If it looks a little messy when you roll out of bed, pull it back into a ponytail or a bun. You can also quickly braid it. That way, you won’t feel as rushed getting out the door.\\nIf you have short hair and it’s messy, wet it down with water and run a brush or comb through it to quickly style it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Simplify your makeup routine\", \"描述\": \"Like styling your hair, doing your makeup can take a while in the morning. If doing your makeup every morning is making you late to school, try using fewer products and eliminating steps in your routine. Or, if you’re comfortable, consider not wearing any makeup at all so it’s one less thing you have to worry about.\\nFor example, you can simplify your eye makeup by skipping eyeshadow and eyeliner and just applying mascara.\\nYou can also speed up your routine by ditching foundation and just using concealer on any spots you want to cover up.\\nIf you usually fill in your eyebrows before school, try running a colored brow mascara through them instead, which will be faster than using powders or pencils.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Choose quick, easy breakfast options that you can eat on the go.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid skipping breakfast to save time since it gives you energy for the school day. However, you might not have time for a full breakfast spread. Instead, have easy breakfast snacks, like fruit, yogurt, granola, or hard-boiled eggs.\\nTo save yourself even more time in the morning, make your breakfast the night before. For example, you can make a breakfast burrito by wrapping scrambled eggs, potatoes, and meat in a tortilla. Then, wrap it in aluminum foil and store it in the freezer. In the morning, you can heat it up in the microwave and eat it while you're getting ready.\\nIf you’re running behind in the morning, you can eat your breakfast on the way to school to save yourself time.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Plan on walking out the door a few minutes earlier than you need to.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you take the bus, walk, ride your bicycle, or get driven to school by your parents, having a few minutes of wiggle room will save you from being late if you’re running behind. Even if you oversleep a bit or take too long to get ready, you’ll have a few extra minutes before you actually have to be out the door.\\nFor example, if the bus picks you up at 8, plan on heading to the bus stop at 7:50 every morning. That way, you have 10 extra minutes in case you ever need them.\"}]}]}}",
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