diff --git "a/reddit_data/reddit_dataset.csv" "b/reddit_data/reddit_dataset.csv" new file mode 100644--- /dev/null +++ "b/reddit_data/reddit_dataset.csv" @@ -0,0 +1,62758 @@ +,full text,class +0,"The Global Imams Council (of Muslim faith leaders) rules that participation and attendance in the Beijing 2022 Olympics are prohibited, as the event directly serves the interests of a tyrannical and oppressive regime that is responsible for the genocide and ethnic cleansing of Uyghurs. ",0 +1,"Indian military Gun Down 11 Civilians In Nagaland, Army Calls It 'unfortunate'. ",0 +2,Mariupols' real life hero's'. Save all these warrior's lives. These warrior's' all truly deserve to live a peaceful and wonderful life after this Ruzzian NaZi unprovoked war ends.. ,0 +3,The mother of a russian conscript kid at an anti-war protest in moscow. ,0 +4,"Ukraine, Russia exchange bodies of fallen soldiers. ""As a result of negotiations with the participation of the Commissioner for Missing Persons in Special Circumstances, an agreement was reached on the exchange of bodies according to ‘160 for 160’ formula,”. ",0 +5,"2021 will be safest year in recent history in El Salvador, according to reports from Tripartite Table. The homicide number 'dropped from an average of more than 12 homicides a day, in 2019, to three, in 2021.' (per 6.5 mln population). ",0 +6,Ukrainian Dr. treating wounded in Azovstal appeal for help. ,0 +7,Russian POW surprised at the good treatment he is receiving from the Ukrainians. Sourced from Dmitri @wartranslated on Twitter. ,0 +8,Ukrainians are trolling Russians with their own recruitment video. ,0 +9,Massive Anti-War Protests Erupt in Putin's Hometown of St. Petersburg Russia.. chanting and holding signs to object to Russia's offensive in Ukraine.. ,0 +10,Committee of Republican Socialists demonstrate how accurate their ability is to fire a gun at delusional and grandiose Putin. Don't get over excited its only a paint ball gun and a Statue.. ,0 +11,For whoever needed to hear it. ,0 +12,"Churchill and Ukrainians, Like tea and borscht to warm you on a cold winter night.. ",0 +13,"China Beijing Olympics 2022: Tickets not on sale to general public, will only be offered to 'selected' people. No fans from other countries will be allowed at the event. ",0 +14,Israel to update list of banned travel destinations daily amid Omicron fears: 'Coalition party leaders agreed to update list of countries Israelis are barred from traveling to every 24 hours.. as Health Ministry confirmed another 20 cases of new Omicron variant'. ,0 +15,"In Russian occupied Lisichansk, Russians are ""ethnically cleansing the area of Roma (gypsies population, kidnapping and executing them right on the street and stealing their businesses and properties. Locals are trying to get the word out.. ",0 +16,Putin Is Rejected. ,0 +17,"President of Ukraine: If you have a combat experience in Europe and do not want to look at the indecision of politicians, you can arrive in our state and protect Europe with us where it is now urgently required.. ",0 +18,Some historical context. ,0 +19,Activists projected this onto the Red Bull F1 HQ to protest Red Bull still doing business in russia. ,0 +20,"Sweden ends 200 years of military neutrality, joins Finland in seeking NATO membership. ",0 +21,A Chinese news outlet accidentally leaked its own censorship instructions on Russia-Ukraine coverage. ,0 +22,"Tasmania now removing more carbon dioxide from the atmosphere than it's emitting, researchers say. ",0 +23,International Logistics Company & Freight Forwarders 24*7 Services. ,0 +24,"Ukrainian Hachiko waits in rain & cold next to an abandoned house for 2 months in Borodianka, Kyiv Oblast.. ",0 +25,"China committed genocide against Uyghurs, independent tribunal rules. ",0 +26,"A 6-year-old girl mortally injured in Russian shelling. ""Show it to Putin. The eyes of this child and the doctors who cry,"" the doctor said. So far, 352 civilians were killed, including 14 children.. ",0 +27,"Day 247: World Faces Most Dangerous Decade Since WWII, Says Putin. ",0 +28,"After the killing of Ukrainian prisoners in the Olenivka colony, the world community of Ukrainians is preparing mass protests The rallies will be held on July 30-31 in all cities of the world, namely: in Berlin, Krakow, Istanbul, Montreal, Frankfurt, Geneva, Warsaw, Batumi, Tbilisi, Cardiff, Ams. ",0 +29,"US President announced a 24-month tariff exemption on solar panels imported from four Southeast Asian countries, 'the White House said the exemption applies to solar panels imported from Vietnam, Cambodia, Malaysia and Thailand. The (US) aims to triple the amount of solar power produced by 2024'. ",0 +30,Syria: Leaked video exposes Assad killing machine. ,0 +31,"Friendly countries of Ukraine, thank you from a Ukrainian soldier.. ",0 +32,""".. all foreigners who express a desire to join the resistance to the Russian invaders and the protection of world security, the leadership of Ukraine proposes to come and join the ranks of the Territorial Defense Forces."". ",0 +33,Ukrainian man executed by Ruzzian Nazi's but lived to inform the world of the war crimes' happening to innocent civilians.. ,0 +34,"Leyen reveals package of further EU sanctions against Russia. “this package includes financial sanctions, targeting 70% of Russian banking market and key state owned companies, we are limiting Russia’s access to crucial tech, such as semiconductors or cutting-edge software.. and finally visas"". ",0 +35,#RussiaIsATerroristState. ,0 +36,Afghanistan Taliban bans long distance road trips for women. ,0 +37,Russian Citizens Are Now Being Prepped for Nuclear War. ,0 +38,"Indonesia to open 4,000 restaurants abroad to promote culture. “Hopefully, Indonesia can become a world culinary destination soon"" the minister said.. ",0 +39,Zelenskyy and Johnson walked the streets of Kyiv. ,0 +40,Russian President Vladimir Putin accused the West on Friday of colonial arrogance and trying to crush his country with “stupid” sanctions that amounted to an economic “blitzkrieg”.. ,0 +41,An Independence Day rendition of Chervona kalyna by a little girl - a symbol of tragedy and hope. ,0 +42,"President Xi stressed that he and President Biden share the view that China and the US need to respect each other, coexist in peace and avoid confrontation, and that the two sides should increase communication and dialogue at all levels and in all fields.. ",0 +43,"My Ukraine Limited Edition Stamps arrived today in the UK, via the Ukraine postal service ebay site. ",0 +44,Remember the photos of the nazis executing entire Jewish families and dumping their bodies into pits? russians are doing the same now with Ukrainian families: executing them and then throwing their bodies into pits.. ,0 +45,Ukrainian hotline for Russian soldiers to surrender and save their lives.. ,0 +46,"United Nations approves nonbinding resolution condemning Russia for invading Ukraine and demanding that it withdraw its military forces. 141 countries voted for, with 35 abstentions. Voted against were Russia, Belarus, Syria, North Korea and Eritrea.. ",0 +47,The West under the gun: how to deal with a blackmailer. ,0 +48,"BREAKING: WTA announces decision to suspend its tournaments in China: 'Unfortunately, the leadership in China has not addressed this very serious issue in any credible way.'. ",0 +49,"King of Poland and Grand Duke of Lithuania, Sigismund II Augustus's armor set. Donated in 1574 by Princess Anna Jagiellon to John III of Sweden, made in the 1550s by Kunz Lochner in Nürnberg. Livrustkammaren, Stockholm [2122x2752]. ",0 +50,"Russian ""Somolia"" battalion leaving Mariupol. No idea what the orc is saying in this video.. ",0 +51,Young mother's account of her young son's murder by drug fuelled Russian soilders.R.I.P.. ,0 +52,MFA Ukraine urges international community to immediately react to abduction of Melitopol mayor. 'The abduction of the Mayor of Melitopol is classified as a war crime under the Geneva Conventions and the Additional Protocol that prohibit the taking of civilian hostages during the war.'. ,0 +53,What Does Vladimir Putin Want?. ,0 +54,Today is the independence day for Georgia.. ,0 +55,"Russia expels dozens of diplomats from France, Italy and Spain | Russia-Ukraine war News. ",0 +56,"In Pakistan, only 31 out of the 1,288 Hindu temples, which existed at the time of partition, are functional now, the Pakistan Hindu Council has disclosed. ",0 +57,"As many as 500,000 people have died from war and famine in the Tigray region of northern Ethiopia over the past 16 months, researchers say.. ",0 +58,World History: George W. Bush and Tony Blair should be tried for war crimes as defined by international law.. ,0 +59,"Ukraine Gov: 'Plan A is to utilize every tool of diplomacy to deter Russia and prevent further escalation. And if that fails, Plan B is to fight for every inch of our land and every city and every village. To fight until we win'. ",0 +60,Bellingcat: Russian invaders were digging graves for the burial of Ukrainian prisoners of war in the territory of the Olenivska colony at least a week before the explosion.. ,0 +61,"EU rushes out $300 billion roadmap to ditch Russian energy “We are taking our ambition to yet another level to make sure that we become independent from Russian fossil fuels as quickly as possible,” said President der Leyen. ",0 +62,"What a sight. City Hall Square, Copenhagen: President Zelensky speaking to Denmark, live from Kyiv, on the anniversary of the Danish liberation in 1945. ",0 +63,Ukraine uses facial recognition tech to find and contact mothers of dead Russian soldiers. ,0 +64,"The NHL is cutting business contacts with Russia over its invasion of Ukraine. ""The National Hockey League condemns the Russian invasion of Ukraine and calls for a peaceful solution as soon as possible."". ",0 +65,Chinese skater Fan Kexin is being accused of flicking a marker placed on the ice rink into the skates of Canadian competitor Alyson Charles during the chaotic quarterfinal of the women’s 500-metre race.. ,0 +66,"The toy company called Brickmania has released a video clip for the independence of Ukraine. Mig29, holy javelin and bayraktars.... ",0 +67,"Sweden and Finland look poised to join NATO after Turkey agreed to drop a block on the Nordic countries' application. ""Finland condemns terrorism in all its forms and manifestations. As a NATO member, Finland will commit fully to the counterterrorism documents and policies of NATO."". ",0 +68,"'Everyone matters': Canada must help Yemeni refugees fleeing war, Manitoban says. 'We need support in signing the petition, to accept Yemeni citizens as refugees, by applying the same support granted to Ukrainians, Afghans, Syrians and Iraqis.'. ",0 +69,Costa Rica Prioritizes Public Health: 'The country also has a strong welfare system. Costa Ricans have access to free education and a guaranteed state pension. It is the only country in Central America where 100 percent of population has access to electricity and a source of drinking water.'. ,0 +70,"Absolute peak Russia. Asked whether it was planning to attack other countries, Lavrov said: ""We are not planning to attack other countries. We didn't attack Ukraine in the first place"".. ",0 +71,"China’s Xi speaks to Putin; calls for ‘negotiation’ with Ukraine. “abandon the Cold War mentality, attach importance to and respect the reasonable security concerns of all countries, and form a balanced, effective and sustainable European security mechanism through negotiations”.. ",0 +72,"A further 106,122 Covid-19 cases have been recorded in the UK - a new one-day record and the first time daily reported cases have risen above 100,000. 'Further advice regarding Covid vaccination for all children will be issued in due course'. ",0 +73,Iran's 'Morality Police' Disbanded After Massive Anti-Hijab Protests. ,0 +74,Putin faces ‘coup’ as ‘discontent’ grows. ,0 +75,"Mayor of Ukrainian city Melipotol detained by Russians. ""During the abduction, they put a plastic bag over his head. The enemy detained him in the city crisis center, where he dealt with the life support of the Ukrainian city. There was a Ukrainian flag in Ivan Fedorov's office,"". ",0 +76,Atlantic Council: Putin’s absurd genocide claims cannot hide his war crimes - Here are examples of Russian aggression against Ukraine.. ,0 +77,"Xi’an residents face shortages of food and critical supplies as lockdown continues. 'As of today, hashtag “It’s difficult to buy groceries in Xi’an” #西安买菜难# has been viewed over 290 mln times on Weibo.. as China is only country in world still chasing full eradication of virus at all cost'. ",0 +78,"A song for Mr President Zelensky ""Can One Man Save The World"". ",0 +79,"Mayor of Chernihiv (Ukraine), Atroshenko: .. a head of state whose army ""deliberately bombs ordinary civilians"" cannot be normal.. Russian servicemen are deliberately bombing civilian infrastructure in the city, there are no military facilities near the sites of their attack, as they claim.. ",0 +80,U.S. Treasury Imposes Sanctions on Russian Federation President Vladimir Putin and Minister of Foreign Affairs Sergei Lavrov. ,0 +81,"Belgium approves 4-day week and right to disconnect - 'employees would be able to ask to work four days a week for a period of six months. After that, they could choose to continue the arrangement or return to a five-day week with no negative consequences.'. ",0 +82,"NSFW. Russians executed civilians in Luhansk region, Ukraine. Publicly and demonstratively, for the whole world to see. I don’t understand why Ukraine isn’t given new tanks and missiles to punish this absolute evil. Russian evil.. ",0 +83,UN: World Population Reaches 8B. ,0 +84,RuZZian propaganda tv versus reality.. ,0 +85,May the liberation of all illegally occupied Ukrainian territories soon come. Slava Ukraini!. ,0 +86,Russian evil mentality on full display in Sweden. Do you think this woman needs deporting back to Russia? No wonder Ukraine wants nothing to do with Russia.. ,0 +87,"Taiwan MOFA congratulates S Korean president-elect Yoon. “I’ll rebuild the South Korea-US alliance. I’ll [make] it a strategic comprehensive alliance while sharing key values like a liberal democracy, a market economy and human rights"". ",0 +88,"Europe: 'we will propose our European Chips Act in early February.. also.. we do not accept Russian attempts to divide Europe into spheres of influence. The EU is by far Russia's biggest trading partner, and by far the largest investor.'. ",0 +89,Mexican TV anchor lets rip in on air outburst branding anti-vaxxers a 'gaggle of morons'. ,0 +90,"Kazakhstan eyes Trans-Caspian route to avoid transport through Russia. 'Kazakhstan is looking for opportunities to reorient trade routes in order to bypass Russia. Traditionally, Kazakh cargoes headed for Europe pass overland through Russia.'. ",0 +91,Finland opens nuclear power plant amid concerns of European energy war • First European nuclear facility to open in 15 years. ,0 +92,"Japan, the country that gave us the word “karoshi” for “death from overwork,” is thinking about introducing an optional four-day workweek.. ",0 +93,"Jamaica qualifies three bobsleigh teams for Beijing 2022. 'Not only will the Jamaican team have a four-man sled at the Beijing 2022 Olympic Games for the first time in 24 years, but they'll also compete in the two-man bob and the women's monobob.'. ",0 +94,Day 280: EU Proposes Special Court for Russian 'War Crimes' and Using Frozen Assets for Ukraine. ,0 +95,"Vietnam, U.S. strengthen cooperation to overcome war consequences 'implemented by the two sides, in particular, priority is given to speeding up the dioxin decontamination, cooperation in finding and collecting the remains of mines, supporting Agent Orange victims'. ",0 +96,Chinese academic: Ukraine war shows a corrupt Russia inside and out. ,0 +97,"Data showed that top 10 percent of China’s population owns almost 70 percent of the total national wealth, US at 71 percent, Russia at 74.1 percent. The bottom 50 percent of Chinese adults earn 25,520 yuan (US$4,000) a year, while top 10 on average, 14 times more at 370,210 yuan (US$58,000).. ",0 +98,"Spain officially Recognizes Animal Sentience Within Civil Code, Clarifying Animals Are Not “Things”. ",0 +99,"China to build world class natural science museum in Shenzhen (major city), designed by famous 3xn architects using organic geometries: 'Like water streaming down a river, the undulating form.. finding its shape in balance with the earth'. ",0 +100,The russian soldier who had maggots in his wounded arm had his arm saved by Ukrainian doctors!. ,0 +101,I am begging you to stop posting info about Ukrainian counter-offensive before the UKRAINIAN official sources confirm or deny said info.. ,0 +102,"Almaz, another explosive-sniffing dog, these good boy heroes come in all sizes big and small.. ",0 +103,"Russian tank shoots dead family in Kharkiv region, 'an enemy tank shot down a car with a family inside, killing three people, including a 9-year-old girl.'. ",0 +104,"Florida is poised to become largest state to make a financial literacy course mandatory for high school graduation, bipartisan support from 35 co-sponsors. 'success of this financial education bill will have a ripple effect on other states.. 54 personal finance edu bills pending in 26 USA states'. ",0 +105,"Ukraine Gov: 167,000 of our compatriots returned to Ukraine to defend the Motherland. 'They worked as delobbers in the EU, and now they plan to join the ranks of the Armed Forces of Ukraine.'. ",0 +106,"Ukraine applies to join EU immediately as 28th member; officials begin peace talks. ""Just now the President of Ukraine V. Zelensky signed a historic document-application for Ukraine's membership in the European Union,"". ",0 +107,"Scientists in Australia, US and Europe are testing a new biofertilizer made from a fast-growing freshwater cyanobacterium Tolypothrix (blue green algae), which can fix nitrogen from atmosphere without need for additional nitrogen fertilization. ",0 +108,Azon Soldier appeal to the world.. ,0 +109,Appeal from Ukraine Airfforce. ,0 +110,President Ukraine speech with Dutch Netherlands parliament: The head of a foreign state has never addressed the House of Representatives before. Zelensky was given a standing ovation.. ,0 +111,Russia stashed away billions before invading Ukraine. China may have helped hide it : NPR. ,0 +112,"Pregnant woman, baby die after Russian bombing in Mariupol. 'It was among the most brutal moments so far in Russia’s now 19-day-old war in Ukraine.'. ",0 +113,Stand With Ukraine 🇺🇦. ,0 +114,Ukraine Gov: 'Allegations that the Ukrainian gov intends to launch an offensive operation in the temporarily occupied territories of Donetsk and Luhansk regions are divorced from reality. Ukraine is also not conducting or planning any sabotage acts in Donbas.'. ,0 +115,"US Justice Gov reports Chinese espionage and Monsanto employer pleas guilty, conspired to steal trade secret from Monsanto. 'Xiang is slated to be sentenced on April 7, facing maximum penalty 15 years in prison, potential fine of $5 million, and term of supervised release not more than three years.'. ",0 +116,Day 266: US Sources Suggest Missile that Landed in Poland was Ukrainian. ,0 +117,Day 257: Kyiv Mayor Urges Residents to Consider Evacuations; Zelenskyy Accuses Iran of Prolonging War. ,0 +118,A Funeral procession with fallen Ukrainian heroes stops traffic in the other direction so they can pay their respects. ,0 +119,"European nations warn China: ‘self-isolation’ is stoking ‘mistrust’ - 'European ambassadors from Switzerland, France, Norway, Italy and Croatia have appealed to Beijing to relax rules that prevent face-to-face meetings'. ",0 +120,Please read and share around the world.. ,0 +121,UK calls for arms to be sent to Moldova British foreign secretary says. Moldova should be armed ‘to NATO standards’ to reduce the threat of a Russian invasion.. ,0 +122,White House finally awakens to PRC capture of Solomon Islands. ,0 +123,"Azerbaijan ready to provide Ukraine with fuel for sowing. “Held talks with President of Azerbaijan. Thanked for the humanitarian aid and readiness to provide fuel for sowing,” Zelensky said.. ",0 +124,Ukrainian Army Needs Various Modern Weapons to Defend Itself. ,0 +125,"United Kingdom gov launches new Better Health campaign focusing on weight loss and fighting obesity, will partner with 15 weight management partners. It 'outlines the health benefits of losing weight and gives people the tools and resources to make small changes to improve their health.'. ",0 +126,"Iran holds first music festival held for children with autism, Down syndrome and the visually-impaired. 'One of the interesting points about this concert was that the children who suffered from diseases performed along ordinary children.'. ",0 +127,"Pakistan Welcomes Adoption of UN Security Council Resolution regarding Humanitarian Assistance to Afghanistan. 'PM Khan, in key note address to OIC CFM, stated that sanctions should not prevent international community from providing humanitarian and other essential assistance to people of Afghan'. ",0 +128,Day 271: Russian Forces Pound Ukrainian Strongholds; UN Urges End to Attacks on Zaporizhzhia Plant. ,0 +129,"U.N. Secretary-General calls for end to the era of fossil fuels 'According to him, nothing is clearer and more urgent than the threat from the expansion of fossil fuel use.'. ",0 +130,Taiwan is installing Bee Eye radars on its outlying islands to track PLA buzzing 'Defence ministry has signed a US$110 million contract with the island’s top weapons maker to supply 11 new radar systems'. ,0 +131,"Not Impossible: China's Vegan Meat Culture Goes Back 1,000 Years - Vegan meat is all the rage these days. Brands like Beyond Meat and Impossible all have their version of a fake beef patty. But did you know plant-based meat has been part of Chinese cuisine for over a thousand years?. ",0 +132,"Jamina Zhang (reporter): Female students in Badakhshan, Afghanistan, have been forced to study in secrecy in a small classroom without desks. Taliban officials have closed schools for girls beyond grade six. The students risk their lives, but are determined to get an education.. ",0 +133,"Kalush Orchestra presented an official video ""Stefania"", which they filmed in Bucha, Irpen, Gostomel and Borodyanka.. ",0 +134,"Fourteen Ukrainians released from Russian captivity – Vereshchuk “Today we have exchanged prisoners. Bringing 14 Ukrainians home: seven servicemen and seven civilians,”. ",0 +135,European markets to cheer as Macron set to win French election. ,0 +136,Germany could be off Russian gas by winter: DIW think tank suggests that alternative suppliers and lower consumption could free Germany from its dependence on the Kremlin to cover its energy needs.. ,0 +137,The European Union stands with Ukraine and its people. We will continue to support them. Ukraine will prevail. We will not let President Putin tear down the security architecture that has given Europe peace and stability over many decades.. ,0 +138,Teacher sent to mental hospital for criticising China's Communist Party. ,0 +139,"Putin Says Russia Now has 2,000 Territorial Disputes and that Allowing Any Part to Leave Could Lead to a Yugoslavia and Reduce Russia to the Size of Muscovy. ",0 +140,"UK Minister Damian Hinds labels Russia, China, Iran, North Korea in 'hostile nations'. 'He alleged that Russia initiated cyber attacks against the UK.'. ",0 +141,"Japan stuns Spain at Fifa World Cup, advances to knockout stage for the first time. ",0 +142,"Big Fight in Little Chinatown (2022) - Set against the backdrop of the COVID pandemic and an unprecedented rise in anti-Asian racism, the documentary takes us into the lives of residents, businesses and community organizers whose neighborhoods are facing active erasure. Official trailer. [00:02:29]. ",0 +143,China space station is close to completion as the Mengtian laboratory module has been successfully launched. ,0 +144,"Kung Fu Nuns: Buddhist Drupka Order is the only nunnery in Nepal where the nuns practice martial arts. Heroes in the Himalayas, these nuns delivered supplies to villages after an earthquake. The nuns also teach self-defense classes for women and protest the human trafficking of women and girls.. ",0 +145,World’s First All-Electric Passenger Plane Takes Flight. ,0 +146,More than 5000 farmers protest against Modi in New Delhi. ,0 +147,Japanese political parties agree on outline of bill to protect porn victims. 'Major ruling and opposition parties have agreed on an outline of a planned bill to protect people who appear in pornographic videos against their will. The outline was drawn up Friday'. ,0 +148,The Czech Republic has put forward the initiative to replace Russia in the UN Human Rights Council: 'The new member to replace Russia in Council will be voted in within weeks.. procedure will have been completed before June session.. expected Russia will be replaced by one of East Europe nations'. ,0 +149,"U.S. Says It Secretly Removed Malware Worldwide, Pre-empting Russian Cyberattacks. ",0 +150,"Infrastructure: Cambodia and Japan Govs agreed to work together to make Sihanoukville a major port for Cambodia and the Mekong region. Sihanoukville is Cambodia’s deep-sea port that will be developed to allow larger ships to dock, allowing more goods to pass through Cambodia.. ",0 +151,"Renault suspends Moscow plant, adjusts 2022 outlook. 'Renault is the Western carmaker most exposed to Russia, where it generates 8% of its core earnings, according to Citibank'. ",0 +152,Russian police arrest 13K protesters as Ukraine invasion opposition surges. ,0 +153,"A mostly symbolic ban on Russian ships in U.S. waters could be coming, but some members of Congress want to seize ships that are already here.. ",0 +154,"World Health Organization calls for humanitarian corridor to deliver aid to Ukraine. “There is an urgent need to establish a corridor to ensure humanitarian workers and supplies have safe and continuous access to reach people in need,”. ",0 +155,"Hundreds arrested as shocked Russians protest Ukraine attack. “We, the Russian people, are against the war Putin has unleashed. We don’t support this war, it is being waged not on our behalf,” Litvinovich said.. ",0 +156,"After 30 Years of Peace, Ukraine Crisis Shakes Europeans. ",0 +157,"Elon Musk benefits from slave labor in China. In Xinjiang, at least, it appears that Musk is part of the problem, and is in no way part of solution. 'The most recent sign of Musk’s tone-deaf approach to Chinese outrages is decision by Tesla to open a showroom in China’s Xinjiang province.'. ",0 +158,Crocodiles turn on humans amid Iran water crisis. ,0 +159,Hot mic confirms Iranian drones. ,0 +160,Japan calls for ‘self-restraint’ from China after bomber fly-past. ,0 +161,"Golden, Crispy “Sugar Melons” Only Made in Winter - When winter approaches, candy factories in a village in Shandong start getting busy. It’s the time of the year to make “sugar melons”, a local speciality made with millet and malt that can only be produced in the coldest months of the year.. ",0 +162,UN Human Rights Chief Challenges China's Uyghur Policies. ,0 +163,Palestinian identity and Israel’s long attempt to suppress it | Israel-Palestine conflict News. ,0 +164,Azovstal defender's children appeal to the world for their relatives.. ,0 +165,"China: ‘Pandemic has to be contained, economy should be stabilised’, says Beijing 'Signs suggest that Beijing is keen on loosening its tight grip on internet firms and property developers'. ",0 +166,"‘This is genocide’ says forensic examiner at Ukrainian morgue overrun with corpses: Examiners in Bila Tserkva are being inundated with bodies, most of them shooting victims who were restrained before being killed. ",0 +167,"Ukraine official warns the fires near Chernobyl could impact the world. 'As a result of combustion, radionuclides are released into the atmosphere, which are transported by wind over long distances. This threatens radiation to Ukraine, Belarus and European countries'. ",0 +168,"A month of Putin’s war: Ukrainians deserve not just to survive, but to win. ",0 +169,Presidency Of The Republic Of Turkey : “We are in close contact with Russia and Ukraine with a view to putting an immediate end to the war”. ,0 +170,"Ukraine President says Russians are torturing Mariupol citizens: 'Russian troops have a clear order to hold Mariupol hostage.. Mariupol and Volnovakha remain completely blocked. Although we did everything necessary to make the humanitarian corridor work, Russian troops did not cease fire.'. ",0 +171,"A veteran sniper with the Canadian Armed Forces has joined the ranks of a foreign legion in Ukraine, responding to president Volodymyr Zelenksky’s call for foreign fighters to combat the Russian assault.. ",0 +172,"Vitaly Gerasimov: second Russian general killed, Ukraine defence ministry claims. ",0 +173,China: COVID Quarantine Bus Suffers Deadly Crash. ,0 +174,"YouTuber with 12 Million Subscribers Dies at 23 — The OA Press | Success, Entertainment, News, & Trends.. ",0 +175,U.S. and Chinese defense ministers hold talks at Shangri-La Dialogue. 'The talks come as the U.S. and China try to ensure that escalating tensions between the two countries do not turn into military misunderstandings or misinformation'. ,0 +176,U.S. will send $1.3 billion in additional military and economic support to Ukraine. ,0 +177,"Arakhamia: ""three NATO countries expressed readiness to provide security guarantees to Ukraine, namely Turkey, Germany and Italy. “Turkey is very important to us, as it has the biggest army in Europe,” And also US, UK, China, and FR.. negotiations with China is at the level of the “least readiness”. ",0 +178,"Japan to invest $42B in India to strengthen economic ties. India says ties with Japan are key to stability in the region. Also “We discussed the situation in Ukraine. (The) Russian attack is a serious matter as it has shaken international norms,”. ",0 +179,"India’s Reasons For Abstaining in the UN on Russia’s Invasion of Ukraine: Historic ties, military equipment, geopolitical imperatives and a trust deficit between Indian and American ruling parties lie behind India’s UN abstentions.. ",0 +180,Indian evacuee: The kindness of Ukrainians saved my life. ,0 +181,"Ukraine war: Guests on Russian state TV describe the invasion as like 'Afghanistan, but even worse'. ",0 +182,"Russia decides not to show up to International Court of Justice which will fast-track an order. ICJ’s president, Donoghue, said the court regretted Russia’s non-attendance.. ICJ is empowered to give a ruling when one of the parties does not attend to give evidence whether in writing or in person.. ",0 +183,"Ukraine Women are giving birth in hospitals as they're bombed, which is triggering early labor: 80,000 Babies Will Be Born in Next 3 Month, Urgent Call for Aid. ",0 +184,Negotiations with Russia will begin in a few hours – Venislawski. ,0 +185,Russia at center of another Olympic doping controversy. ,0 +186,Netherlands ranks #1 for Least Racist Countries. ,0 +187,"Finland is set to vote on the biggest healthcare reform in decades. It 'transfers responsibility for social, healthcare, emergency services from unwieldy 294 individual municipalities, half of them with fewer than 6,000 residents, to a more streamlined 21 new regional authorities'. ",0 +188,"A severe famine in Madagascar is calling on an international response.. Southern Madagascar is going into the new year facing the [worst famine in the past 40 years](https://madagascar.co.uk/projects/community-health/food-distribution-anosy-region). 1.5 million people are currently suffering from food insecurity, leading to high rates of Moderate Acute Malnutrition and Severe Acute Malnutrition.",0 +189,"New Jersey US announces expansion of access to reproductive health care and abortion care. It clears 'path for AP Nurses, PA's, and Certified Nurse Midwives to perform early aspiration terminations of pregnancy, approved by Board of Med Examiners who considered medical and public health studies.'. ",0 +190,Musk Asks Pentagon to Fund Ukraine's Starlink. ,0 +191,"Hurricane Julia Triggers Deadly Floods, Landslide in Venezuela. ",0 +192,Will Europe avoid economic collapse without Russian natural gas?. ,0 +193,"Russia returns body of British aid worker with signs of torture to Ukraine. Russia had announced the death in custody of volunteer Paul Urey in July, saying he died ""as a result of stress and illness."". ",0 +194,"Turkiye continues efforts for export of Ukrainian grain: Turkish FM. 'We see this plan of the U.N. as a realistic plan, we see it as feasible. For this reason, we strongly support it, and we find it important in terms of the legitimacy of this process'. ",0 +195,"'The US is the ‘source of chaos’ for the global order and China does not wish to compete in a ‘vicious’ way, (FM) Wang asserts.. Wang Yi also condemned what he called America’s “cold war mentality”, saying it is the US that “has actually become a source of chaos"". ",0 +196,"India: Over 100 ex-bureaucrats request PM to call for end to ‘politics of hate’. “Your silence, in the face of this enormous societal threat, is deafening,” the letter said.. ",0 +197,Ukrainian IT Army is working hard to spread the truth.. ,0 +198,Tokyo beefs up intelligence-gathering after Russian subs test-fire cruise missiles in Sea of Japan. ,0 +199,Podoliak published a video about Mariupol.. ,0 +200,Microsoft seized Russian domains targeting Ukrainian media organizations. ,0 +201,"US Gov to expedite U.S. resettlement of vulnerable Ukraine refugees. It would also expedite the reunification of Ukrainians with U.S.-based family members, the sources said.. ",0 +202,Some wise words from the Terminator. ,0 +203,"McDonald’s to Temporarily Close 850 Restaurants in Russia.. will continue paying its 62,000 employees in Russia. CEO Chris Kempckinski said closing those stores is the right thing to do because McDonald's can't ignore the “needless human suffering in Ukraine.”. ",0 +204,"Ukraine Ministry of Defense: 84 ceasefire violations, The Russian occupational forces shelled: Tlakivka, Pischevyk, Vodiane, Memruk, and more using 120mm mortars and 12mm artillery. Shelled Mariupol and Schastia using grenade launchers.. ",0 +205,"Shaun White leaves 2022 Winter Games without a medal, but with a legacy nearly as big as snowboarding itself. ",0 +206,"Mali's (Africa) PM Maiga asks Denmark to take back its forces: ""Nobody will come here by proxy anymore. That used to happen. But now it's finished. If someone has to come to Mali then we will come to an agreement. We will agree on what you will come here to do"". ",0 +207,"FM Wang of China: 'the US slaughtered, expelled and assimilated Native Americans physically, geographically and culturally, committing systemic human rights abuses in every aspect. These abhorrent crimes are more than enough to constitute de facto genocide.'. ",0 +208,"Day 273: Russian Strike in Zaporizhzhia Hits Maternity Ward, Kills Newborn. ",0 +209,РеФерендум: А вы б присоединились к Голландии?. ,0 +210,UN: 50M People Worldwide Stuck in ‘Modern Slavery’. ,0 +211,FoRL 🤍💙🤍 Legionnaire interview by Alexandr Ivanitskoy (#2 of 2) [Translation in comments]. ,0 +212,Teleport the bread across Reddit. ,0 +213,Report: Turkey contributed to Yazidi genocide. ,0 +214,"the referendum in Kazakhstan ended with the approval (victory with 75%) of the reforms that remove all the privileges of the president, allow easier registration of new parties, allow free elections for mayors and eliminate the death penalty. ",0 +215,"New bill in US Senate proposes expansion of military aid for Taiwan 'Legislation sends ‘a clear message to Beijing not to make the same mistakes with Taiwan that Vladimir Putin has made in Ukraine’, says one of its authors'. ",0 +216,President Zelensky visits frontline positions in Kharkiv Region. ,0 +217,Ukraine's Patron patch available to buy via original post comment section link.. ,0 +218,One Man in Taiwan Saved a Village By Painting It. ,0 +219,"China implores US to drop tariffs that punish Americans and Chinese alike 'Amid rising risks of inflation, Biden admin may lift some tariffs on Chinese goods – punishing measures that analysts say have backfired on the US economy'. ",0 +220,"Netflix sales jump 52% in Korea. 'the National Assembly could also enact a law forcing global content providers like Google, Netflix and Meta to pay for heavy network traffic they created.'. ",0 +221,Analysis | Why France’s Macron Needs Every Vote to Beat Le Pen. ,0 +222,G-7 leaders vow to speed up reducing reliance on Russian energy. ,0 +223,UN suspends Russia from human rights body over Ukraine abuses | United Nations News. ,0 +224,Ukraine is getting Switchblade. It should be just the first wave of loitering munitions for Kyiv.. ,0 +225,"Russian troops fire on column of women and children in Kyiv region (during attempt to evacuate in green corridor). The shelling killed seven people, including one child. The number of wounded is being clarified.. ",0 +226,Netflix suspends service in Russia. ,0 +227,"Man jumps on top of a moving armored Russian vehicle in a convoy rolling through the center of occupied Kherson and waves a huge Ukrainian flag as crowd cheers his act of defiance: 2,000 people took to the streets as demonstrators chanted 'Glory to Ukraine' and 'Death to the enemy'. ",0 +228,'I Just Can't Stand By': American Veterans Join the Fight in Ukraine. ,0 +229,"UN Secretary General denounces Russia's ""perversion of the concept of peacekeeping"". ",0 +230,"Turkey Gov: The Russian Federation’s decision is unacceptable and we reject it.. constitutes a clear violation of Ukraine's political unity, sovereignty and territorial integrity.. ",0 +231,"Spain and Brazil step up relations by setting up a bilateral commission. At an economic level, Spain maintains full confidence in Brazil’s growth potential. ",0 +232,"India economy projected to grow at 8-8.5 pct during next fiscal. ""This projects India as the fastest growing major economy in the world in all these three years,"" the Survey noted.. ",0 +233,"In Moscow, war drums aren’t beating and the public doesn’t favour invasion. Mr. Gorbachev believes, Mr. Palazhchenko said, that “there is no reason for Russia to invade and nothing useful to be gained from this kind of military action.”. ",0 +234,Chinese man pleads guilty to stealing Monsanto trade secret. ,0 +235,"Iran vs USA: Terrorism, imperialism, or both?. ",0 +236,What breakfast looks like in a US High School. ,0 +237,"What should I do if I got laid off on H1B visa? what about the 60 Days rule? International student with H1B laid off instruction. # Laid Off H-1B Employee - H1B withdrawal process + +When your H1B employment ends, your H1B is immediately out of status. + +To accomplish the withdrawal, the employer must merely **send a letter to the USCIS Service Center that issued the H-1B approval notice, note that the employee was terminated, and ask that USCIS withdraw the petition**, this protects the employer and also notify the USCIS that the employee is out of status, A new H-1B employer’s petition will not be subject to the H-1B cap. Employees with the H1B need to seek another employer that sponsors H1B in order to maintain their H1B status. + +​ + +# 60 Days Rules + +“\[a\]n individual may benefit from the 60-day grace period multiple times during his or her total time in the United States; however, this grace period may only apply one time per authorized nonimmigrant validity period.” + +Employees that are laid off have 60 days to seek for another H1B sponsor employers, H-1B Portability Provisions of INA § 214(n), AC21 § 105 provide that should a new H-1B employer be found within I-94 validity the new employer may file an H-1B change of employer petition on your behalf. The H-1B beneficiary with a change of employer petition filed within their I-94 validity may begin employment with a new employer upon USCIS receipt of the new employer’s H-1B change of employer petition. + +USCIS will censor and approve the new employer’s petition to decide whether to extend your stay in the US or require you to leave the country. The I-140 Final Rule memorialized USCIS practice to approve H-1B change of employer petitions AND the extension of H-1B stay in the US for petitions filed within 60 days of the last paystub. Therefore, keep all your paystubs in record as the paystub is evidence of your visa status. + +​ + +[Source: GAO analysis of agency procedures](https://preview.redd.it/y9vhday7x7z91.png?width=1460&format=png&auto=webp&s=a471e812fa4e8e98da58d4b28f93eead4961a588) + +​ + +#### What is the next step if got laid off as a H1B visa holder? + +An international student who was laid off last year, I would like to share my personal experience of getting layoffs or being affected by layoff and hope it can help. + +1. [**Negotiate for extra time**](https://www.reddit.com/r/International/submit#negotiate) +2. [**Please note: H1B file time is also counted in 60 days**](https://www.reddit.com/r/International/submit#60days) +3. [**Prepare for the next job interview**](https://www.reddit.com/r/International/submit#job) +4. [**Quickly switch to the interview mode**](https://www.reddit.com/r/International/submit#interview) +5. [**Get the offer and make a decision as soon as possible**](https://www.reddit.com/r/International/submit#offer) +6. [**Take a 15 mins Free Law Consultation**](https://www.reddit.com/r/International/submit#consultation) +7. [**Take Day 1 CPT university for CPT work visa as Plan B**](https://www.reddit.com/r/International/submit#day1cpt) + +# 1. Negotiate for extra time + +According to the [60 days rule](https://cptdog.com/more-informationaboutday1cpt/i-am-on-an-h-1b-visa-have-just-been-laid-off-what-about-the-60-day-rule-experience-and-instruction-2022#60day), employees that are laid off only have a **60 days grace period** after layoffs. + +Negotiate with your company for extra time, asking if the company can extend the termination time for you, even if it is unpaid. You must explain the situation of H1B being laid off to the company's HR, and ask for help: ask the company to extend the termination date to the latest as you can. If you do not find a job and decide to return to your home country, the company will need to pay a reasonable Severance under this situation. (Meta is paying 16 weeks of base pay *plus two additional weeks for every year of service, with no cap.)* + +Regarding the extension of time: + +Here’s an example, assume I am in company A and got laid off on 11/1/2022, company A gave me an extra 30 days of unpaid, then my termination day is 11/30/2022, instead of 11/1 /2022, so me as an employee, have 90 days (60+30) to find a job. + +When Uber laid off employees in 2020, they put employees on payroll for an extra month, so they also had 90 days to find a job at that time. Whether it is placed in the payroll or not can actually be. Lawyer has confirmed that the paycheck during the severance package is useless. As for how the company B that gave you the offer calculates the start time of your grace period, it depends on what the lawyer of company B thinks. I have encountered before, the company lawyer only recognizes 11/1 of the day of layoffs. + +There are also company lawyers who recognize the 11/30 last day. What I neglected before is that the company needs to write a certificate of employment relationship, this is very important to prove that you have been employed until 11/30; 11/1-11/30 is unpaid leave. Because the general lawyer is to look at paycheck to prove how long you have been with the company, but if there is no paycheck, employment certificate is helpful. I have tried this myself. The company's lawyer only recognized that 11/1 of the layoffs counted the grace period on the day of the layoff, because I didn't think about the employment relationship certificate at the time, and it was also later that I found an external lawyer and provided the layoff document. Of course, there is no guarantee that this employment relationship certificate will be recognized by all corporate lawyers. + +# 2. Please note: H1B file time is also counted in the 60 days rules + +The first 60-day grace period is the time required to count the lawyer's file, at least about 2 weeks, including 1 week to file LCA and prepare materials at the same time. It is recommended to stay for at least 2 weeks, the more the better. + +I have encountered companies that think that there is only a 1.5-week file, and feel that the time is not enough. I heard it's okay to be a few days later, the lawyer has a code that can be used. + +At the same time, check how the immigration department and lawyer of company B who gave you the offer view this matter. Some companies state that one day late is not enough, while some companies are more flexible. + +# 3. Prepare for the next job interview + +After being laid off, sort out your mood and quickly prepare for the next job. During the whole process, you don’t have time to be emotional but need to be hurry up for the interview practice. It's helpful to reach out for jobs on [Linkedin](https://linkedin.com/), it is recommended to get a **Linkedin premium account** at this moment, make your job status to **open to work**, if you have a friend working on Linkedin, see if they can refer you a free premium account for 6 months. + +Also, make sure to filter the H1B sponsor companies in advance since your H1B transfer will require another companies that also sponsor you. + +Lastly, you need to be calmed, the most important thing at this moment is to find a job quick + +# 4. Quickly switch to the interview mode, filter the position that support H1B + +The overall economy is not the best this year, lots of companies has start laying off employees . There may be more layoffs in the following months, layoffs require you to quickly find the next one and maintain your status. And when there are continuous layoffs, the positions are usually filled quickly, and many of candidates are high skilled worker from large companies, it is very competitive. + +At the same time, if you are interested in the position you are already interviewing, remember to follow up with the recruiter about the interviews of other candidates in time. If others candidates are in the last interview stage, then you should hurry up. I have a company that I like a lot, however, the recruiter was very busy, thus I didn't follow up with the recruiter on time and was still working on the interview preparation. When it came to the onsite schedule, the recruiter told me at the last minute that the role was already filled, all of sudden, my hard work went in vain. + +I suggest that when you communicate with the recruiter, ask what is the current stage of the candidate, especially the company you like, so that you can arrange the interview progress and prioritize. You can interview with some companies first, I think it is relatively stable to g**et an offer first**. I only interviewed with two companies that I think are easier and more confident to get offers from, and I got 2 offers in one month. + +# 5. Get the offer and make a decision as soon as possible. + +It is recommended to continue the interview until the offer is secure, I was faced with a slow decision-making process. The company felt that the file document time was not enough, and the other party rescinded the offer (the company that thought 3/1 was the last day). Therefore, it is possible that it is not safe before entering the job. It is recommended to continue the interview and get several offers, which will be relatively stable. In time, in addition to the situation, there are other offers, so you will not be so panicked. + +Secondly, I encountered a super low ball, and I also considered accepting it at the time, but I did not plan to accept other offers later. Think about this yourself, take more offers to avoid low ball. + +# 6. Consultant with lawyer ASAP if there are any visa issues + +If you are experiencing any visa issues, such as in the middle of H1B or PERM, or you got laid off in Canada and will need to relocate back to U.S., it is better for you to schedule a consultation with lawyer to confirm details. + +We offer free 15 mins law consultation with professional lawyer. + +You can schedule a law consultation below: + +[https://cptdog.com/freelawconsultation](https://cptdog.com/freelawconsultation) + +#### 7. Take Day 1 CPT visa to maintain your visa status and work full time + +At this time of status conversion, find a Day 1 CPT school for filing, so as not to exceed the 60-day grace period. + +First find a school that is closer and has a low onsite frequency. If there is a problem with your H1b status, you can immediately convert your status to F1 and work with Day 1 CPT to avoid the risk of your identity being hacked. + +I’ve organized a checklist for resignation, feel free download the checklist or reach me out for CPT related questions, **wish you all good luck!!**",0 +238,Day 238: New Russian Commander in Ukraine Announces Kherson Evacuations Amid 'Tense' Situation in Region. ,0 +239,Report: China May Have Committed Crimes Against Humanity In Xinjiang. ,0 +240,"In Singapore, 70 Years of Crafting a Unique Theme Park - Haw Par Villa is a special kind of theme park located in Singapore. There, you won’t find any rides, but instead a unique collection of over 1,000 surreal sculptures, depicting scenes from Chinese mythology and history.. ",0 +241,"Four Vietnamese dishes named “Best food in the world” by CNN including Banh Mi sandwiches, Pho Bo (Beef), Sesame mung bean balls, and Hue Shrimp tapioca cakes (banh). ",0 +242,The Supreme Court of Iraq is An Anti-Kurdish Tool |. ,0 +243,The World Ignored Russia’s Delusions. It Shouldn’t Make the Same Mistake With India.. ,0 +244,Footage of today's rescue operation in Mariupol.. ,0 +245,Ukrainian soldier with an amazing voice. ,0 +246,"US will set new standard on (against) Anti-satellite testing and creating responsible behaviors. 'debris created by these tests now threaten satellites and other space objects that are vital to all nations’ security, economic, and scientific interests, and increases risk to astronauts in space'. ",0 +247,High Council of Justice urges to expel Russia from UN and OSCE. ,0 +248,The Russian Embassy in Lisbon. Two neighbouring houses are projecting the blue and yellow onto its facade. The ambassador is reportedly “apoplectic”.. ,0 +249,"Massive Russian protests are being organized on March 12, spread the word!. ",0 +250,"Germans Seize Russian Billionaire Alisher Usmanov’s Mega-Yacht. ""the reasons employed to justify the sanctions are a set of false and defamatory allegations damaging my honor, dignity, and business reputation,"" Usmanov wrote.. ",0 +251,EU member states to sue Brussels for classifying fossil fuel gas and nuclear power as green energy. ,0 +252,"White House officials outlined US President’s commitment to ensuring that federal infrastructure funding reaches Tribal communities to expand broadband, including with new announcements this week. ",0 +253,Cool fact anyway what's that other line way up top?. ,0 +254,"On February 1, billions of people around the world will be celebrating the Year of the Tiger. Not limited to just China, Asians around the world will be partaking in many cultural activities and carrying on century-old traditions for a fruitful and prosperous year ahead.. ",0 +255,"Turkey: Press Release Regarding 30th Anniversary of Reestablishment of Our Diplomatic Relations with Azerbaijan, 'we look to the future with confidence and reiterate our determination for cooperation towards common welfare and development.'. ",0 +256,‘Omicron is COVID-22 (not COVID-19)’: Korea’s top national hospital doctor spells hope. “Omicron can still send some people to intensive care rooms. So getting vaccinated and then boosted remain as important as ever.”. ,0 +257,"Treat Covid like the flu and return to normal without masks or restrictions, urge Spanish family doctors. ""All these activities, which made sense in the past, have been overcome with acquired immunity (both by infection and by vaccination) and the arrival of Omicron.”. ",0 +258,"Australia cancels Djokovic visa to enter country. ""I have no idea what's going on. They're holding my son captive for five hours,"" Srdjan (father) said in statement to Sputnik. ""He told Serbian station B92 his son was being housed in a room that no one can enter, with two policemen in the front"". ",0 +259,US: Iran's support for armed groups in the region threatens international and regional security. ,0 +260,Day 267: US General Doubles Down on Need for Negotiations; Biden at Odds with Zelenskyy. ,0 +261,"Making 11-Foot-Long Suo Noodles Using 300-Year-Old Technique: The Nanshan District in Shenzhen, China, is known for its centuries-old tradition of making suo noodles by hand. Stretched into fine threads and measuring 11 feet in length, these noodles take close to 15 hours to produce.. ",0 +262,"Lasker Award Honors Development of Noninvasive Prenatal DNA Test: Dr. Yuk Ming Dennis Lo, a scientist at the Chinese University of Hong Kong, won a Lasker Award in the clinical medical research category. The Laskers are among the most prestigious prizes in medicine.. ",0 +263,Story time?. ,0 +264,Micronesia Criticizes Japan's Plan to Release Fukushima Water. ,0 +265,Time to disseminate this poster information to your friends in russia. Collective movement to resist Putin's war.. ,0 +266,US: Russia is Buying North Korean Artillery. ,0 +267,Are these instructions to surrender? ukraine_defence posted this on Instagram yesterday. I don't speak neither Ukrainian nor russian.. ,0 +268,Chinese prodigy solves math problem that PhD holders couldn't crack for months. ,0 +269,intercepted call ( English subtitles) on Ukrainian POWs' Barracks. Russians committed this war crime intentionally. ,0 +270,"The scene of an earthquake that killed more than 1,000 people in Afghanistan. 'According to the UN envoy, the number of people who have lost their homes could be even higher, due to the size of each Afghan household usually has at least 7-8 people'. ",0 +271,"Azerbaijan's Karabakh to be attractive for tourists after reconstruction - official 'According to Malikov, Azerbaijan’s Karabakh region is a great place for tourism.'. ",0 +272,"The sheer cost of China’s mass coronavirus-testing campaign since April is expected to exceed the full-year gross domestic product (GDP) of nations such as Iceland and Cambodia, while giving China’s economy a much-needed shot in the arm, according to analysts.. ",0 +273,Ukraine Army destroys three UAVs and artillery system in Zaporizhzhia direction. ,0 +274,"Russia has used up about 70% of its high-precision missiles since war-start - Bellingcat 'Ukraine is working not only to shoot down and destroy missiles, but also to identify persons who can program these missiles.'. ",0 +275,"'The Ministry of Foreign Affairs, the Ministry of Defense and the Ministry of Infrastructure have built reliable routes for the supply of weapons and military equipment to Ukraine.'. ",0 +276,Ukraine asks international organizations to immediately apply to NATO to close access to the airspace over nuclear facilities.. ,0 +277,Ukraine at negotiations with Russia will be represented by experienced diplomats – Venislawski. ,0 +278,United Nations Gov: the decision of the Russian Federation to be a violation of the territorial integrity and sovereignty of Ukraine and inconsistent with the principles of the Charter of the United Nations. ,0 +279,"After Over 50 Years, Emergency Powers Invoked In Canada To End Truckers' Protest. ",0 +280,France’s Presidency of the EU to work with India for providing an alternative to Chinese model in Indo-Pacific region. ,0 +281,"Taiwan seizes diplomatic moment to expand trade and investment talks, in exploratory discussions with Canada and negotiating with US and Japan. 'The move is expected to rile Beijing (CN).. Taiwan has only entered free-trade pacts with two major economies, Singapore and New Zealand.'. ",0 +282,Ukraine launched its satellite into space for the first time in ten years (delivered to Earth orbit by a Falcon 9) - Zelenskyy. 'this is a new era in the launch of Satellites of Ukrainian production.'. ,0 +283,Kazakhstan: Voices of Russian Opponents. ,0 +284,"Iran president talks on phone with Armenian PM, 'He called on the two countries’ joint economic cooperation commission to become more active and take greater steps toward safeguarding common interests.'. ",0 +285,"Brazil assumes 11th term, begins mandate as a non-permanent member of the UN Security Council.. ",0 +286,"CARICOM Caribbean Community (Antigua and Barbuda, Bahamas, Barbados, Belize, Dominica, Grenada, Guyana, Haiti, Jamaica and more) participate in International Meeting on support for Haiti. 'The importance of a long-term socio-economic development plan was also underlined.'. ",0 +287,Statement by the North Atlantic Council (NATO) on the situation in and around Ukraine: 'We reiterate our long-standing invitation to Russia for a meeting of the NATO-Russia Council in the near future. We are aware of Russia’s recent European security proposals.'. ,0 +288,"Iran P4+1 Vienna talks: 'On Sunday, Kani told IRNA that parties are “at point of agreeing on matters which should be on the agenda.. ""It's a positive and important development since, at start, they weren't even in agreement on the issues to negotiate."". ",0 +289,Operator starsky interviews released POW from Ruzzian captivity. His prize memory is having a fight with a dog for some bread and then being beaten for taken the dog's bread.. ,0 +290,Lebanese MP Leaves Bank with Portion of Savings After Sit-in. ,0 +291,"A Family of Marionette Makers: Mingzhu Fu was born into art. Growing up watching his grandfather’s marionette performances in Quanzhou, China, Mingzhu picked up a knife to craft his own puppets after high school. 40 years later, he continues on with his craft, spending 10 hours a day on his art.. ",0 +292,"Freedom Russia Legion ⬜🟦⬜ posts in support of the mil-office shooter. ""A hero from Ust-Ilimsk shot a henchman of the regime! Legion ""Freedom of Russia"" proudly watches the struggle against the regime inside Russia."". ",0 +293,New North Korea Law Makes Nuclear Policy ‘Irreversible’. ,0 +294,"Vietnam, US step up cooperation after COVID-19.. two countries have closely coordinated in regional and international issues of shared concern. 'In May, Vietnamese and US firms signed trade contracts and agreements valued at over 30 billion USD.' | Politics. ",0 +295,"Microsoft Warns of Dangerous Malware on Android — The OA Press | Success, Entertainment, News, & Trends.. ",0 +296,Ukraine-Russia live news: US to send $450m more in military aid | Russia-Ukraine war News. ,0 +297,"Ink Sticks More Precious Than Gold - Painters in China traditionally use solid ink sticks instead of liquid ink. These ink sticks are still often made by artisans who spend more than a year collecting ash, pounding, moulding, and painting each bar by hand.. ",0 +298,Are Italians aware that polish people are eating pasta with strawberries?. ,0 +299,Report: China Allegedly Building a Naval Base in Cambodia. ,0 +300,"Chinese-Australia battle for the DRC’s massive lithium lode. 'a legal tangle over ownership pitting China’s Zijin Mining against AVZ. The dispute is a fight over a 15 per cent stake in the Manono project currently owned by Cominiere, the DRC’s state-owned mining company.'. ",0 +301,"Indonesia: Thousands of students protest rumored election delay. President Widodo had promised not to delay elections in order to hold on to power, but many say his statements don't convince.. ",0 +302,"President Zelensky to Press and Putin: ""I am ready to meet with President Putin. Both the advance into Ukraine and the cessation of war depend on him... The sooner we meet, the fewer victims there will be – on both sides. The sooner we meet, the better, I’m sure,"" Zelensky said.. ",0 +303,"UN passes resolution (140-5-38) demanding aid access in Ukraine. It demanded full protection for civilians, including humanitarian personnel, journalists and persons in vulnerable situations, women and children among them.. it demanded safe, unhindered humanitarian access.. ",0 +304,Stalled Military Offensive and Unfolding Political Defeat for Russia in Ukraine. ,0 +305,Ukraine's air defense forces destroy four more Russian helicopters.. Several airstrikes on Russian military convoys were carried out by the Ukrainian Air Force's Su-24M bombers and Su-25 attack aircraft.. ,0 +306,"Hundreds of thousands of civilians trapped in the Ukrainian port city of Mariupol face a ""worst-case scenario"" unless a humanitarian agreement can be brokered, the International Committee of the Red Cross said Sunday.. ",0 +307,"Biden orders sweeping cryptocurrency review, setting stage for regulation. ",0 +308,"Weather conditions ahead of Beijing Winter Olympics at start of February are ""very unfavourable"" when it comes to air quality, China's environment ministry spokesman Youbin warned on Monday.. ",0 +309,Chinese local government investment vehicles owe $8 trillion and are big dollar bond issuers. They are highly exposed to Beijing's real estate crackdown and broader economic stress.. ,0 +310,"At least 19 people have been killed, including nine children, and dozens of others injured in an apartment building fire in New York City (Bronx area), according to city officials and US media.. ",0 +311,Russia can be Checked by a Regional Response in Europe. ,0 +312,"UAE Gov adopts four and a half day working week (for Public sector workers), with employees working Monday to Thursday. There will be a half day on Fridays. Sat and Sunday will be new weekend for gov workers. 'the idea of an eight-hour day, five days a week working life has become outmoded.'. ",0 +313,Covid: First UK death recorded with Omicron variant. ,0 +314,Chinese ‘Spider’ Climbers Use No Ropes or Tools to Scale Cliffs - Nestled in the Ziyun County of Guizhou Province is a small village with a death-defying ancestral practice: free-climbing massive cave walls to procure rare medicinal herbs for their village.. ,0 +315,"China will make substantial changes to its ""dynamic-zero"" COVID-19 policy in coming months. Videos showing rowdy protests inside a compound in Wuhan's Hanyang district on Thurs night were shared on social media on Friday, shouting 'Give us freedom, give us freedom!'. ",0 +316,Day 243: Second Russian Jet Crash in a Week; US Dismisses Russian 'Dirty Bomb' Claims. ,0 +317,Why Are Korea’s Sea Women Disappearing?. ,0 +318,Musk: Starlink to Seek Exemption from Iran Sanctions. ,0 +319,India and PRC Begin Pullback from Disputed Border. ,0 +320,Iran wins a battle but must lose the war for Iraq’s independence. ,0 +321,"Russians mine Zaporizhzhia NPP power units, Ukrainian intelligence confirms. ",0 +322,How One Vietnamese Village Is Keeping An 800-Year-Old Paper-Making Tradition Alive. ,0 +323,The shelling of Vinnitsa. The Russians killed an 8-year-old boy whose family fled from Kherson - Newsicon. ,0 +324,Bring Wagner recruiting site down.. ,0 +325,China accuses Canada of stepping up reconnaissance against PLA 'Canada’s military accused Chinese warplanes of harassing its aircraft while they monitored potential sanction breaches by North Korea'. ,0 +326,"China’s consumer sentiment hits record low, pessimistic outlook adds to calls for consumption stimulus policy. 'China’s consumer confidence index slumped to 86.7 in April from 113.2 in March, hitting the weakest level since the data was first available in 1991'. ",0 +327,"President Sánchez highlights strength of Spanish economy and the investment opportunities it offers for tech companies 'The Spanish economy grew by 6.4% year-on-year in the first quarter of 2022.. Of the five largest eurozone economies, Spain remains the one that will grow the most this year'. ",0 +328,"Dozens killed, wounded as Russian missile hits National Guard base in Dnipro. ",0 +329,"Quad Leaders’ Tokyo Summit 2022 - Australia, India, Japan, and the United States met in Tokyo May 24, 2022 - 'launched the Indo-Pacific Partnership for Maritime Domain Awareness (IPMDA). In close consultations with regional partners,'. ",0 +330,"Worker Shortages Snarl Shipping Even as Shanghai Lockdown Eases 'wait is three weeks at Vancouver in Canada, and there’s currently a queue of 130 vessels waiting off the world’s biggest port in Shanghai.. number of containerships off Shenzhen and Hong Kong hit a seven-month high of 184 vessels'. ",0 +331,Apparently Residents of Russia began to receive unnamed summonses .English translate in comments.. ,0 +332,Ukraine's Patron dog ready for duty .. ,0 +333,Italy to become almost independent from Russian gas in H2 2023 - paper. ,0 +334,"As the GPU industry returns to normalcy, it seems the end of the GPU shortage has finally arrived, with a new Nvidia campaign highlighting the fact that stock levels for RTX 30-series graphics cards have been significantly boosted.. ",0 +335,"US President will host the Leaders of the Association of Southeast Asian Nations (ASEAN) in Washington, DC on May 12 and 13 for a U.S.-ASEAN Special Summit. ",0 +336,Why Russia’s Navy in Ukraine War is Doomed (or Irrelevant). ,0 +337,Finland and Sweden are set to join NATO soon. ,0 +338,NJ Gov approves petition that will end last two coal-fired electricity generation units in the state.. agreements “allow us to further shift New Jersey’s energy portfolio away from harmful coal generation and focus on clean energy technology.”. ,0 +339,"Canadians have been clear with us: they want ambitious action for a healthy environment and a strong economy. Today, we unveiled a roadmap to continue delivering on those priorities for everyone.. ",0 +340,"Russia holds the world hostage in terms of Global Food. ""together with its partners, Ukraine is searching ""options for how Ukraine will act and is already acting in terms of ensuring the export of our grain, our products."". ",0 +341,"Gen Z (born late 90's to early 2010's) is entering the workforce. A study says 'almost two-thirds (63%) of Gen Z feel it is very or extremely important to work for an employer that shares their values. What is different is that they’re louder. They're willing to speak up,'. ",0 +342,"Ethiopia government declares unilateral truce to allow aid into Tigray. 'More than 90% of 5.5 million Tigrayans need food aid, the United Nations says'. ",0 +343,"Mongolia-India meeting to discuss trade, tourism cooperation, education 'Expanding 3T horizons.. bilateral relations, non-mining cooperation, traditional medicine trade'. ",0 +344,"In Ukraine on Friday, March 11, in Donetsk, Zaporozhye, Kharkiv, Kyiv region opens a number of humanitarian corridors.. ",0 +345,Ukraine has asked to close the skies to prevent a nuclear catastrophe - Energoatom. ,0 +346,"US imposes new sanctions on Russian 'companies that produce combat aircraft, IFVs, missiles, unmanned aerial vehicles, electronic warfare systems.'. ",0 +347,"How a Saudi nonprofit is promoting compassion for animals and the environment. 'In Saudi Arabia, pet adoption is a relatively new concept but the younger generation is making great strides in correcting common misconceptions and changing long-held, traditional attitudes.'. ",0 +348,China President Xi Jinping met with Secretary-General of United Nations António Guterres. 'He expressed the UN’s readiness to step up cooperation with China and the hope that China will play a greater role on important issues like the reform of the international system.'. ,0 +349,"Taiwan Vice President meets with US Gov, 'mentioned that that Taiwan-US Trade and Investment Framework Agreement (TIFA) talks had resumed.. agreed to strengthen bilateral security cooperation and enhance Taiwan's self-defense capabilities.'. ",0 +350,"China Foreign Affairs: 'Japan committed innumerous crimes during the war of aggression it waged in the past. With a deplorable track record in human rights, it has no authority whatsoever to make wanton remarks about other countries’ human rights conditions.'. ",0 +351,"Montevideo Uruguay under water following unprecedented heavy rains. ""Our crews have been working since dawn and we have made all their resources available to deal with an unprecedented issue,” the Montevideo Mayor's Office said. ",0 +352,"Georgia Gov: ​Russia is causing harm not only to individual states, but also to entire European security architecture. 'Minister spoke about violation of rights and freedoms of ethnic Georgians living under Russian occupation regime.. Russia continues to occupy and militarize Georgia's Abkhazia..'. ",0 +353,Kazakhstan and the Price of Russia's Empire. ,0 +354,"Kazakh Protests Turn Violent as Unrest Spreads Nationwide. 'The instability on Russia’s southern border will be a test for President Vladimir Putin' “We are following the events in our fraternal, neighboring country,” Russia’s Foreign Ministry said in a statement. ",0 +355,What does the Russian ultimatum to the West mean?. ,0 +356,"Korean literature sets new record for overseas publications, most since 1996. '180 Korean books were translated into 29 languages this year with institute’s support, most since institute’s establishment in 1996, wrote koreabizwire.com.'. ",0 +357,"Oman and Saudi Arabia meet, 'affirmed determination to raise pace of joint economic cooperation by stimulating public and private sectors to reach qualitative trade and investment exchanges'. ",0 +358,Day 282: Biden 'Prepared to Speak' with Putin; Kremlin Says Putin Open to Negotiations. ,0 +359,There is growing socioeconomic pressure in China due to COVID-19 restrictions. ,0 +360,How China Became a Threat to the US’s Tech Leadership. ,0 +361,"8 year Rita old was reading a book and playing with her kitten Myshka when a cluster bomb landed in the yard. Killing her and her aunt Yulia. Rita's room, her drawings, notebook and princess dress remain untouched. Her mother has no strength for anything and cries all day. #FreeTheLeopards. ",0 +362,"Russia photoshops a Ukrainian passport for new fake about Crimean Bridge ""terrorist attack"". ",0 +363,"TSMC's Renegade Genius: Liang Mong Song (梁孟松) was one of TSMC’s founding geniuses but difficult to work with. Then he defected to South Korea to work for TSMC’s fierce new competitor: Samsung. In doing so, he near single-handedly pushed Samsung to overtake and overthrow the Taiwanese chip giant.. ",0 +364,"India’s PM Modi says he’s keen to boost ties with Russia, including energy. ",0 +365,⚡Please sign the petition for creating a special UN mission that will get access to the Ukrainian prisoners of war from Mariupol!. ,0 +366,"China’s Rich Tradition of Embroidering: For the Miao, it’s not just an art form. It’s a means of communication. There is no written language in Miao culture, so intricate, brilliantly hued embroidery has documented the people’s history and stories for centuries.. ",0 +367,"Black Myth: Wukong [Official Gameplay Trailer] - Black Myth: Wukong is set in the 16th Century and focuses on traditional Chinese folklore. Here's a closer look at the protagonist's skills and abilities, the game's beautiful environments, and some exciting boss fights.. ",0 +368,A day in the life of a Mongolian queen - Anne F. Broadbridge | TED-Ed. ,0 +369,"I Was Listed ‘For Sale’ on a Fake Auction Site | Violation - On January 1, several Muslim women across India woke up and found themselves being “auctioned” on an app. The app is a clone of 'Sulli Deals', offering users a 'sulli' - an insulting term used by right-wing trolls for Muslim women.. ",0 +370,Freight Forwarding - Easy Booking & Pricing. ,0 +371,"The Art of Fishing With Birds - Along Lijiang River in China, brothers Huang Yuechang and Huang Mingde have continued a centuries-old tradition of fishing with cormorant birds. But with no young fishermen choosing this ancient method, they may be last ones to carry on this rare Chinese tradition.. ",0 +372,"Vietnam PM Minh Chinh concludes US trip of four cities Washington D.C, Boston, New York, and San Francisco: 'Chinh witnessed the exchange of cooperation documents and agreements between Vietnamese and US agencies and businesses, covering a wide range of spheres.'. ",0 +373,"Zelensky and British Prime Minister Boris Johnson in a phone call on Thursday agreed to step up work with allies to define the longer-term security architecture for Ukraine. 'leaders discussed progress in negotiations and agreed to step up work with allies, including the US, France and Germany'. ",0 +374,"“Italy will move with its European partners and its allies for all possible forms of mediation. But Ukraine will decide what peace to accept, no one else.” Italy PM. ",0 +375,"North Korea fires ballistic missile amid rising tensions 'The launch, the North’s 14th round of weapons firing this year, also came six days before a new conservative South Korean president takes office for a single five-year term.'. ",0 +376,Political agreement between govs of Spain and Portugal and the European Commission to reduce electricity bills. ,0 +377,Why this French presidential election heralds the demise of traditional politics. ,0 +378,"Tree Planting Is Booming. Here’s How That Could Help, or Harm, the Planet.. ",0 +379,"President Tsai (Taiwan) and former Japan PM Abe discuss bilateral cooperation, trade, Ukraine, and regional stability. ""Taiwan and Japan share the values of freedom, democracy, respect for human rights, and the rule of law; we are important trade partners and friends"". ",0 +380,Ukraine unveils AI-powered fact-check bot to counter Russian disinformation. ,0 +381,Venezuela releases 2 imprisoned Americans after rare trip by U.S. officials. ,0 +382,"Russia Sanctions Intensify Calls for Myanmar Fuel Ban—‘If The Jets Can’t Fly, They Can’t Bomb’ they are facing demands to go hard against another regime: Myanmar’s military junta.. ",0 +383,Can someone tell me whether this is Ukrainian or Russian. I inherited from great grandmother. Supposedly references village where forged.. ,0 +384,"G7: ""We call on Russia to stop its attacks, especially in immediate vicinity of Ukraine's nuclear power plants. Russia must immediately stop the attack on Ukraine, which has significantly affected civilians, destroyed civilian infrastructure, as well as immediately withdraw Russian military forces"". ",0 +385,"Microsoft suspends the sale of goods and services in Russia. ""Like the rest of the world, we are horrified, angry and saddened by the images and news coming from the war in Ukraine, and condemn this unjustified, unprovoked and illegal Russian invasion."". ",0 +386,"In Istanbul, Ukrainians for the second day in a row picket the Consulate of the Russian Federation.. Turkey held rallies in support of Ukraine, against the aggression of Russia actions were held in Ankara, Istanbul, Antalya, Izmir, Konia and other cities.. ",0 +387,Official statement from EU Gov: President Michel of European Council and President Leyen of European Commission: The Union will react with sanctions against those involved in this illegal act.. ,0 +388,"France and Germany (Govs): 'We condemn the use of heavy weaponry and indiscriminate shelling of civilian areas, which constitute clear violation of the Minsk agreements. We welcome OSCE's Trilateral Contact Group..'. ",0 +389,"South Korea will build and sell $1.7 billion of K9 self-propelled howitzers tanks to Egypt, marking the largest K9 export deal and the first in the Africa and Middle East region. The weapons system has been exported to 7 countries since 2001.. ",0 +390,The inside story of Vladimir Putin’s mythical obsession with Ukraine. ,0 +391,"Russia arrests 14 alleged members of REvil ransomware gang, including hacker U.S. says conducted Colonial Pipeline attack. ",0 +392,"Baby Shark becomes world's 1st video to top 10 bln YouTube views, 'song had an overwhelming lead over runner-up.. Fonsi and Daddy Yankee's megahit ""Despacito,"" which has secured 7.7 billion views.'. ",0 +393,"Australia swamped by Omicron surge as pressure grows on hospitals. In all, about 4,000 people are in hospital with COVID-19 as of Tuesday, nearly double from a week ago.. ",0 +394,US President and WH wishes joyful Christmas to Orthodox Christians in United States and around the world who are celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ and hope and blessings of this sacred season.. ,0 +395,US Is Set To Explore A Massive Metal Asteroid Called ‘Psyche’ That’s Worth Way More Than Our Global Economy. 'No mission has ever visited 16 Psyche and it’s almost impossible to study from afar.'. ,0 +396,"Finnish Greens shift in favour of NATO - Recent statements from within the Green party, a member of the ruling coalition, suggest that Finnish NATO membership could be in the cards in as little as five years.. ",0 +397,Mexico’s health safety council has approved use of Cuba’s three-dose Abdala coronavirus vaccine.. ,0 +398,"Ukraine, Armenia, Azerbaijan, Georgia, and Moldova form Joint Declaration of Eastern Partnership Summit 2021: focuses on 'Values, Partnership, Resilience and Prosperity, Solidarity, Governance, Judicial reform, Human rights, Climate, Culture, Digital and more'. ",0 +399,"Australia jumping castle tragedy: five children dead, several critically injured in Tasmania after bouncy castle blown 10m in air. 'Australian prime minister, Morrison, said events were “shattering”.. Tasmanian premier, Peter Gutwein, was on his way to Devonport, to offer his full support.'. ",0 +400,A lawyer fights for rights in India-administered Kashmir (2021) - Protesters against the Indian government take a big risk. Demonstrators have been imprisoned for years. Human rights lawyer Mir Urfi helps such detainees and in doing runs the risk of being targeted by authorities herself. [00:12:25]. ,0 +401,"The World's Best Mathematician - Numberphile: Among current mathematicians, Professor Terence Tao is regarded as the world's finest.. ",0 +402,Letters to the Editor: The 'open secret' of anti-Asian bias in college admissions. ,0 +403,"Survey on Maintaining Cultural Connections. Hey all - I'm doing an assignment for a grad course, and was wondering if anyone who's moved to another country would be willing to fill out a brief survey on maintaining cultural connections to your home country! It shouldn't take more than 5-10 minutes to fill out: +[https://forms.gle/GWQEF7CgVYs4ExAQ7](https://forms.gle/GWQEF7CgVYs4ExAQ7) + +Thanks so much, and feel free to ask questions!",0 +404,"Zolkin Volodymyr Ukrainian Journ alist who gets voluntary interviews with ruZZians POWs, who for many speed up the exchange process. His team's You tube channel is being restricted because of complaints by pro russian terrorists.. ",0 +405,New UK Prime Minister Liz Truss takes office in a difficult historical moment. ,0 +406,Freedom Russia Legion ⬜🟦⬜ combat training footage from early August 2022. ,0 +407,"China’s Uyghur abuses ‘may constitute crimes against humanity,’ UN finds. ",0 +408,"Day 189: Putin Pays Tribute to Gorbachev, Russia Reportedly Welcomes Permanent IAEA Mission at Nuclear Plant. ",0 +409,Uncrewed surface vessel maps Pacific underwater volcano after historical eruption. ,0 +410,Turkey’s Erdogan to meet Putin in Russia: The Sochi summit comes after Ankara helped broker a grain deal that has eased global food crisis fears.. ,0 +411,"Chinese man builds US$500,000 mansion for his dog. ",0 +412,"Beijing (CN) committed to ‘one country, two systems’ governing principle for Hong Kong, preserving city’s strengths, Xi Jinping says 'preserving its unique strengths as an international hub, while also laying down a list of tasks for the city’s new leader to deliver in the next five years.'. ",0 +413,Colombia: 6 Dead and Hundreds Injured in Bullfighting Accident. ,0 +414,Beijing has blasted the United States for supplying arms to Taiwan and demanded that it abandon a proposed US$120 million deal with the self-ruled island. 'Foreign ministry spokesman urges US to abide by one-China principle and abandon the deal'. ,0 +415,Third attack on Sumy region today: Russian aircraft launches six missiles. ,0 +416,President Volodymyr Zelensky discussed the Platform for Reconstruction of Ukraine with European Commission President Ursula von der Leyen.. ,0 +417,"Anybody ranting about Russia being invited to the G20 by Indonesia. Communication overrides animosity. I understand we all realize the major AHole Putin has become. But let's allow an ability to call him out on a global stage. I fully believe in allowing dialogue to be at the forefront of trying to solve this. I don't want WWIII, and if we can at least try a verbal discussion , at least we can keep trying to find a solution. I don't think flexing is gonna solve this.",0 +418,Japan will send an official to the Solomon Islands over concerns the security pact it signed with China will increase Beijing’s military influence in the region. ,0 +419,"Ukraine needs $5B (billion) a month. IMF already created special account ""We agreed that the International Monetary Fund, like many other organizations and donors, will support Ukraine financially."". ",0 +420,Japan: Ten confirmed dead from missing tourist boat. ,0 +421,"Russian invaders have started the battle for Donbas they have long been preparing for, but Ukraine will be defending itself. – President Zelensky. ",0 +422,"Pope Francis opens Holy Week with call for Easter truce in Ukraine. Francis lamented ""the unjust death of husbands and sons"" ... ""refugees fleeing bombs"" ... ""young people deprived of a future"" ... and ""soldiers sent to kill their brothers and sisters."". ",0 +423,"Australia imposes sanctions targeting North Korea’s ICBM launch. “Australia will continue to hold North Korea to account, and those who seek to help it evade sanctions.”. ",0 +424,"Sony stops PlayStation sales in Russia given Ukraine invasion. ""Sony Interactive Entertainment (SIE) joins the global community in calling for peace in Ukraine,"" the company said in its statement.. ",0 +425,"""I appreciate the leadership of the United Kingdom in countering the crime committed by Russia on Ukrainian soil,"" President Ukraine Zelensky.. ",0 +426,Europe Sizes Up Renewables To Reduce Reliance on Russian Gas: Russia’s invasion of Ukraine “might be the biggest stimulus to the rollout of renewables that the continent has ever had”. ,0 +427,"US athletes participate in World Gymnastics in Baku. ""We get great pleasure from communicating with Azerbaijanis who are always friendly and welcoming. Baku is a beautiful city!"" added the athletes.. ",0 +428,"Colombia (Latino) FM and Gov: We applaud the decision of Prosecutor of ICC to open an investigation into possible war crimes, crimes against humanity or acts of genocide committed in Ukraine, and those responsible must be brought to justice individually. ",0 +429,"President of EU Commission Leyen: 'The recognition of the two separatist territories in Ukraine is a blatant violation of international law, the territorial integrity of Ukraine and the Minsk agreements.'. ",0 +430,"Norway, Germany, United States, Sweden, China, Austria, Netherlands, Switzerland, and ROC (Russia) race to the top in Gold Medal count. Norway leads with 14 gold medals.. ",0 +431,US men's hockey defeats China 8-0 in Beijing debut - Winter Olympics 2022. ,0 +432,'A welcome they'll remember': Ukrainian mother is ready to fight if Russia invades. ,0 +433,"Rafael Nadal Wins the Australian Open, His 21st Grand Slam Title: Nadal pulled off an epic comeback over Daniil Medvedev that broke his tie with Djokovic and Roger Federer in men’s singles major career victories.. ",0 +434,"Ethiopia’s Prime minister said there will be negotiations on a cease-fire between his government and the rival Tigray forces who have been waging war for almost 15 months, the chairman of a diaspora group that had a private meeting with him said.. ",0 +435,Good News: Conservation efforts are saving humpback whales. ,0 +436,"Stoltenberg: NATO allies called on Russia to withdraw its forces from Georgia, Ukraine and Moldova. Russia has military forces in Georgia, Ukraine and Moldova, and these forces are there without the consent of the governments of these countries.. ",0 +437,Zelenskyy receives advisers to leaders of France and Germany who arrived in Kyiv for talks with Head of President's Office Yermak. ,0 +438,"China's FM Wenbin: 'We urge countries concerned to stop AUKUS nuclear submarine cooperation plan, stop advancing discharge of Fukushima nuclear contaminated water into Pacific, stop denying and whitewashing the history of militarist aggression.. troublemakers that spread lies and create obstacles.'. ",0 +439,"Airline Customers Still Owed Billions in Refunds Over Canceled Flights by Airlines. 'According to federal law, airlines are required to offer refunds for canceled or significantly changed flights.. DOT received nearly 90,000 complaints regarding refunds in 2020 alone'. ",0 +440,Korea Eximbank to work with Uzbekistan (Afghan neighbor). 'to increase the amount of privileged financing by up to $ 1 billion to finance new investment projects in country.. 13 projects worth a total of $1.2 billion.'. ,0 +441,"Using Art to Pay Tribute to an Ancient Civilization: Where some saw a wasteland, artist Song Peilun saw an opportunity. For the last 20 years he has been building a village in Guizhou, China, that stretches across 50 acres of forest and pays tribute to the ancient civilization that once lived there.. ",0 +442,This Michelin Star Chef Is on a Quest to Make China Embrace Vegetarianism: King’s Joy already received praise for its vegetarian fine dining when Gary Yin took the helm as executive chef of his family’s restaurant. But now Yin has catapulted the Beijing eatery into the ranks of the world’s best.. ,0 +443,Vietnam’s Richest Man Wants to Sell EVs to America. ,0 +444,Operational Security. ,0 +445,"BLACKPINK’s ‘Pink Venom’ Smashes 2022 Spotify Record - the group’s music video (also) scored the biggest video 24-hour music video debut of 2022, and the third-largest 24-hour music video debut of all time. Born Pink is arriving on Sept. 16.. ",0 +446,What's Going on in Yemen?. ,0 +447,How to make cheap international calls.. At my job I was given the task to come up with a way to cheaply or freely call Germany from the US because they are the manufacturers of one of our machines but no one wants to use their cell to call overseas and the company wans to avoid paying for it if they can. I figured something like skype would work but wanted some other opinions before I submit my idea.,0 +448,Lu Xun: China's Most Peculiar Contemporary Writer | Century Masters | Perspective. ,0 +449,"Dragon Boat Races Celebrate China's Ancient Past: Qu Yuan, born in the 4th century B.C., was said to be an able minister of the Chu state who was banished from court. Qu despaired at his rivals’ corruption and at last drowned himself in a river. By legend, an ensuing boat search inspired the races.. ",0 +450,Mental Health for Humanitarian Workers: How are you cared for?. ,0 +451,"The Art Deco Glamour of Shanghai: Contemporary Shanghai is celebrated for its futuristic skyline, but nestled between shiny towers, you’ll find one of the world’s richest collections of Art Deco buildings.. ",0 +452,"'OPEC has struggled to hit the monthly increase targets due to underinvestment in oilfields by some OPEC members and, more recently, losses in Russian output.'. ",0 +453,Liu Haisu: The Master Of The Chinese Renaissance. ,0 +454,Erdogan says Saudi Crown Prince MBS to visit Turkey next week. ,0 +455,"The myth of the original star-crossed lovers | TED-Ed: Get to know the myth of the weaver and the cowherd, a pair of star-crossed lovers banished to opposite sides of the Milky Way.. ",0 +456,"India to invest $9.8 billion to buy defense equipment in the country ""This decision will provide a significant boost to India's defence sector and sharply reduce foreign spending."". ",0 +457,Africa Day 2022 | General Assembly of the United Nations 'Africa has so much potential. It has both the human and technical resources to secure a brighter future for all its inhabitants.'. ,0 +458,"Vietnam stresses importance of maritime and aviation security in East Sea at ADSOM+ 'chaired by Cambodia, drew top defence officials from ASEAN member countries, and Russia, China, the US, Japan, the Republic of Korea, Australia, New Zealand and India'. ",0 +459,"(TW) I live in Australia. How do I get assisted suicide?. I know that a few countries have legalised it for psychiatric disorders, I just don’t know how to go about it and the logistics. Can someone please help me out. + +Please only serious answers",0 +460,"Greece PM: 'Earlier this year, we paid off Greece’s outstanding debt to the IMF two years ahead of schedule. We are creating jobs and investing in new industries.. Greece is back and a promising future lies ahead of us.' he said.. ",0 +461,"Tunisia MFA, German Ambassador ink two cooperation agreements. 'friendship and cooperation between the two countries, reaffirming Germany's willingness to strengthen them and support economic and social promotion programmes in Tunisia.'. ",0 +462,"Japan should 'gradually resume' letting in tourists, advisers say. ",0 +463,"Putin's fakes continue, caught in the act prior to Easter service with no congregation present. Is he above the law or is it only Russian citizens who must obey not to publish fake propaganda?. ",0 +464,"Argentine FM Cafiero met in Rome with Italy FM Maio, makes deal for Argentina to become a steady supplier of food. “Resolving the debt crisis for our country implies that economic growth should not be halted and Italy played a fundamental role for Argentina to achieve it,” said Cafiero. ",0 +465,Korea: What does 2NE1 reuniting at Coachella mean for the once K-pop queens? It was the first time they had performed together in over half a decade. the quartet sang their 2011 hit 'I Am the Best'. ,0 +466,"Macron and Le Pen will advance to runoff in French presidential election, preliminary results suggest. ",0 +467,"Europe agrees to ban Russian coal, but struggles on oil, gas: 'The coal ban should cost Russia 4 billion euros ($4.4 billion) a year, the EU’s executive commission said'. ",0 +468,"Canada will manufacture and build GM's BrightDrop electric van, 250 miles range, beginning at the end of 2022. - 'the first thing I notice is the visibility out of the cabin is impressive.'. ",0 +469,"US Gov gave states the tools to more than double new commercial driver’s license issuances in January and February 2022 compared to January and February 2021. Over 100 employers across trucking, food and grocery, and the oil and gas industries launched Registered Apprenticeship programs in 90 days.. ",0 +470,"Ukraine-Russia: Three humanitarian corridors for the evacuation of people have been agreed for March 30.. for the evacuation of Mariupol residents and delivery of humanitarian aid to Berdiansk, Melitopol, and Zaporizhia.. ",0 +471,"Vietnam nationwide ceremony kicks start environmental protection events 'to mark World Water Day, World Meteorological Day, and Earth Hour 2022, all to be celebrated this month.'. ",0 +472,"""Today, about 20,000 people have left Mariupol by private cars through the humanitarian corridor. Out of 4,000 cars that left the town, 570 have already arrived in Zaporizhzhia,"". ",0 +473,"US Congress passes Historic Omnibus Appropriations Agreement (key domestic funding) for FY2022, including $14 bln for Ukraine defense and aid. 'We thank President Biden for his bold vision and all members of Appropriations and Republican leadership for working together on this legislation.'. ",0 +474,"Using the formal definition of war crimes, “you put Putin in the very same class as the people who were prosecuted at Nuremberg” for leading the Nazi campaign to exterminate Jews and other minorities. ",0 +475,The International Criminal Court of Justice will hold public hearings in the case concerning Allegations of Genocide under the Convention on the Prevention and Punishment of the Crime of Genocide on Monday 7 and Tuesday 8 March 2022.. ,0 +476,"Azerbaijan celebrates Fire Tuesday of Novruz Holiday – most-beloved ancient holiday of Azerbaijani people. 'It marks the arrival of spring, renewal of nature, and is celebrated on the vernal equinox'. ",0 +477,"Japan's lower house on Tuesday adopted a resolution condemning Russia's invasion of Ukraine in ""the strongest possible terms,"" The Russian invasion goes against international law and the United Nations Charter prohibiting the use of force.. ",0 +478,"South Korea Gov: The Korean government strongly condemns Russia’s armed invasion against Ukraine as a violation of the principles of the UN Charter.. SK will support and join international community’s efforts, including economic sanctions, to curb armed invasion and resolve the situation peacefully.. ",0 +479,India's Prime Minister Modi Calls Putin For Immediate Stop To War. ,0 +480,What Putin Fears Most | Journal of Democracy. ,0 +481,"In women's hockey, the U.S. sailed to a 5-0 win over the ROC (Russia Olympic Committee), and Canada opened the day's play with an 11-1 win over Finland.. ",0 +482,"Nine members of the European Parliament and other officials.. began their official visit to Cuba on Monday. 'With a tour of sites of historical, social and cultural interest'. ",0 +483,Normandy format meet as Europe pursues diplomacy: 'Ukrainian and Russian representatives are in Paris for talks with German and French officials.'. ,0 +484,Burkina Faso’s President Is Seized by Troops. ,0 +485,"Africa: Pan-African Payment System Launched: 'The long awaited Pan-African Payments and Settlement System (PAPSS) was launched Thursday, January 13, in Accra, Ghana, in a virtual event under the theme: ""Connecting Payments, Accelerating Africa's trade."". ",0 +486,"In Greece, unvaccinated people 60 and up face monthly fines. 'Gov spokesman Giannis Oikonomou said only people with legitimate health exemptions, those who had suffered a recent infection and applicants for home vaccination appointments that were delayed would be spared the fine.'. ",0 +487,"Cuba Gov: In 2021, 'micro, small and medium-sized enterprises were created, with legal personality so that they can participate in the economic and productive transformations of nation. We have also worked for improvement of our society and its institutional framework.. ",0 +488,Thailand and Cambodia meet: 'Both sides set new timeframe to achieve trade target of 15 billion US dollars by 2025.. Thai side underscored confidence of Thai investors in economic potentials of Cambodia and will continue to expand their businesses to create more jobs and incomes for Cambodians'. ,0 +489,"Readout of US President call with European Allies. 'agreed their teams will stay in close touch, including in consultation with NATO allies and EU partners, on a coordinated and comprehensive approach.'. ",0 +490,"Take a Look inside China’s Giant Communal Homes—the Fujian Tulou - Constructed between the 15th and 20th centuries, these massive communal homes were sited with feng shui principles and are purposefully nestled amidst tea, tobacco, and rice fields and bountiful forests of pine and bamboo.. ",0 +491,The Secret Behind the World’s Best Green Tea. ,0 +492,How CZ built Binance and became the richest person in crypto. ,0 +493,Battle of Plassey 1757 - British Conquest of India Begins Documentary. ,0 +494,Being Chinese in Silicon Valley Comes With Challenges. ,0 +495,"How can other countries' citizens afford to casually buy items that cost many local currencies just to exchange into the $1 worth of the original local price of the item like Coca Cola Bottles? Why isn't the big gap in currency worth making these items into too expensive luxury goods?. I learn it takes 3 Reals (Brazil's currency) to purchase on bottle of Coca Cola in Brazil because that is about how much BRLs is worth 1 US Dollars....... + +So it makes me curious about how citizens in foreign countries esp poor 3rd world ones like Morocco can afford to casually buy Pepsi bottles and other imports that be super $1 cheap in North America? How the heck can poor black farmers in South Africa afford to drink a couple of bottles of American soda as well as eat imported Snickers bars each meal everyday despite $1 being worth about 18 South African Rands? + +How are they able to afford American goods despite the huge gap between different money values?",0 +496,The Japanese folktale of the selfish scholar | TED-Ed. ,0 +497,"Dragon Scale Bookbinding: How This Man Revived the Ancient Chinese Art - Pages intricately pressed on top of one another — welcome to the lost art of dragon scale bookbinding. The 1,000+ years old method was invented in China and now one artist is trying to bring it back.. ",0 +498,Russian War Crimes From Bucha: Animated Story. ,0 +499,Why Gongs Are So Expensive. ,0 +500,"Countries that have Cultural Fusion? (excluding us & uk). I visited zanzibar and absolutely loved the intercultural fusions—there were arabs, indians, swahilis, africans all living together and speaking languange, playing carrom, practicing their religions...what are other places in the world like that? idk if these spaces tend to be islands or along the coast due to colonization (slavery, indentured labors, migration from conflict & refuge) + +Is turkey also ethnically diverse?",0 +501,"international airport customs question. hi all! + +i’m traveling to norway and sweden soon from the US. i just realized that my backpack and possibly my suitcase smell like weed. i’m going to try to get the smell out, but can’t guarantee it, especially from dogs. to be clear, there won’t be any actual weed in my bags. will i have any trouble with customs? is there anything else i should know? thanks!",0 +502,UN Report: Rwanda Backing Rebels in DRC. ,0 +503,"Thousands of al-Sadr supporters gather for mass prayer in Baghdad, “The preacher confirmed that these protesters will continue their sit-in until their demands are met. They want to remove all corrupt politicians,” | News. ",0 +504,us-supreme-court-abolished-50-years-old-abortion-right. ,0 +505,‘A good day for Europe’: EU grants Ukraine candidate status. 'Leaders of the EU’s 27 nations unanimously voted for Ukraine candidate status in a moral victory for the war-torn country.' | Russia-Ukraine war News. ,0 +506,"China, South Korea battle population woes as ‘children are not a must’, adding to economic peril. 'China’s fertility rate is estimated to have fallen to 1.15 in 2021'. ",0 +507,Bitcoin Breaks Down $20K: Now Below 2017’s Previous All-time High. ,0 +508,"Fossil fuel firms ‘have humanity by the throat’, says UN head in blistering attack. ",0 +509,"A group of ships from Russia's Pacific Fleet have entered the Philippine Sea, taking part in anti-aircraft training as well as searching for hypothetical enemy submarines.. ",0 +510,IYENGAR'S YOGA POLITICS: DID INDIA'S FAMED GURU SELL OUT TO HINDU NATIONALISTS?. ,0 +511,Two top US and China officials meet for a third time this year to ‘reduce risks’. ,0 +512,China will be at the heart of crunch talks on fishing subsidies and intellectual property waivers for Covid-19 vaccines next week at the first World Trade Organization ministerial summit held in five years.. ,0 +513,"Fiji’s decision to join the Indo-Pacific Economic Framework for Prosperity (IPEF), first in Pacific Islands 'United States thanks Prime Minister Bainimarama, and we look forward to deepening our partnership for the benefit of our countries'. ",0 +514,"SCMP: What’s behind China’s crackdown on the political rumour mill? 'Beneath the pledges of loyalty and unity, rumours are flying of disagreements among the top leadership on how to deal with an economy ravaged by zero-Covid'. ",0 +515,The European Union has disbursed a new tranche of EUR 600 million to Ukraine and is working on a procedure to provide an additional EUR 9 billion loan by the end of this year.. ,0 +516,".. flow of Russian gas across Ukraine to the EU fell by a quarter: “Ukraine no longer bears responsibility for the transmission of Russian gas through Ukrainian territories under Russian military occupation,” said Naftogaz. ",0 +517,Draghi Has Started Unpicking Decades of Italian Ties to Russia 'The Italian prime minister heads to Washington resolutely backing sanctions despite his country’s reliance on Russian energy.'. ,0 +518,"Reports: Hong Kong arrests Roman Catholic cardinal, others. ",0 +519,"US: H.R.4521 - United States Innovation and Competition Act of 2021 passes, resolving differences then goes to President 'technology and communications, foreign relations and national security, domestic manufacturing, education, trade, and other matters.'. ",0 +520,"Another national park opens for South Korea: Bugaksan opened to the public after 54 years. 'young people might take Bugaksan to be a newly trending mountain course, while people from older generations might want to experience the rich history that the mountain has held for a long time.'. ",0 +521,Singapore faces global backlash over execution of mentally challenged Indian-origin Nagaenthran Dharmalingam. ,0 +522,"""Ukraine is being struck by the most intensive missile attacks by the Russian Federation since weeks. The EU condemns the continued indiscriminate and illegal shelling of civilians and civilian infrastructure by Russian armed forces,"". ",0 +523,"Korea: 'Starting Monday, all social distancing measures, such as those requiring shops to close at midnight or limiting groups eating at a restaurant to 10, will be lifted.'. ",0 +524,“it is innature of Gujarat that every society fulfils its social responsibility”.. ,0 +525,"In 2021, China's trade surplus with the rest of the world grew 29 percent year-on-year to $676.4 billion — the highest ever. China is forced to invest in foreign assets because of its large trade surplus, and it has few options other than U.S. bonds.. ",0 +526,Zelensky on Friday hailed the visit of European Commission President von der Leyen and the European Union’s (EU) foreign policy chief Borrell to Kiev as a signal of support for Ukraine. ,0 +527,"US Diplomat Says, India Has Immense Dependence On Russia For Defence. 'We have been very direct about our concerns, but India has a history of a relationship with Russia. Most of its defence equipment, originally, was from Russia. They rely on Russia for fertiliser'. ",0 +528,"Sri Lanka not caught in a China debt trap, says ambassador amid crisis. ",0 +529,"Fox viewers transformed after watching CNN for 30 days, report finds. ",0 +530,"European Parliament chief visits Ukraine, says 'we stand with you' - ""The European Union recognises your European ambitions and your aspiration to be a candidate country for succession. And you can count on the European Parliament's full support in achieving this goal."". ",0 +531,"India looking to plug wheat export market void left by Russia, Ukraine. 'over the last two years the country has managed ship out large quantities of non-basmati rice and wheat.. India can try and tap a sizeable portion of the world wheat trade.'. ",0 +532,"In South Asia, a Battle Against Taboos on Female Sexuality. ",0 +533,Poland's open-door policy helps Ukrainian refugees build new lives | Poland is allowing millions of Ukrainians fleeing the war access to the labor market and to health and social benefits. Polish officials are struggling to register and help all the people arriving in the country.. ,0 +534,"Flow of health supplies is reaching Ukraine, WHO says. ",0 +535,"Viet Nam seeks US investment in renewable energy: 'sets target that by 2030, renewable electricity will account for 45 percent of the national power generation capacity.'. ",0 +536,"Starbucks Coffee: 'we have decided to suspend all business activity in Russia, including shipment of all Starbucks products.. will provide support to the nearly 2,000 partners in Russia who depend on Starbucks for their livelihood.'. ",0 +537,"Japan has sent bulletproof vests, helmets, tents, winter clothes, medicines, generators, cameras and various equipment for emergencies (to Ukraine). This is the first time, Japan has transferred such equipment to the Armed Forces of another state free of charge.. ",0 +538,"Lukoil, Russia's second biggest oil company with CEO Alekperov: 'We strongly support a lasting ceasefire and a settlement of problems through serious negotiations and diplomacy.' Russian billionaires Fridman and Deripaska also broke with the Kremlin and called for an end to the war.. ",0 +539,"Minster: Iran to expand cultural cooperation with regional countries, meets with Lebanon.. ",0 +540,"Russia Insists It Still Has Friends, Points to China's Support. ""Of course we have (friends). Look at the reaction of world giants. Those who are not seeking to present themselves as giants, but who really are giants. In particular, China."" said Zakharova FM of Russia. ",0 +541,"Peru Government (South America): Peru condemns massive military offensive against Ukraine. ""It is unacceptable that we find government actors willing to consider war options to resolve their discrepancies, when serious challenges persist that concern the daily lives of our citizens,"" he stressed."". ",0 +542,Putin puts nuclear deterrent on alert; West squeezes Russian economy. ,0 +543,Minister of Culture and Information Policy Oleksandr Tkachenko called for Russia to be deprived of its status as a UNESCO member due to violations of international law and conventions.. ,0 +544,"Russian troops burned museum with paintings of Maria Primachenko, Ukrainian folk artist in the genre of ""naïve art"". Tkachenko called to deprive Russia of the status of a member of UNESCO because of violations of international law and conventions.. ",0 +545,"Russia vetoes U.N. Security action on Ukraine as China abstains, India and UAE also abstained. 11 council members voted in favor.. ",0 +546,"From Tokyo to New York, thousands protest against invasion of Ukraine. ",0 +547,China Foreign Minister Yi had a phone conversation with US Secretary Blinken upon invitation. State Councilor Yi expounded China’s position on Ukraine issue in conversation. 'We believe that all countries’ security interests should be respected and upheld.'. ,0 +548,Ukraine President Zelenskyy delivers impassioned speech at Munich Security Conference 2022. ,0 +549,"China msg to US about Africa: '2.7 bln Chinese, African people working together to achieve modernization will write a most glorious chapter in history of human civilization. CN always called on international to pay more attention to Africa, and to actively participate in Africa's dev process'. ",0 +550,President Macron has announced the construction of six new nuclear reactors on the outskirts of Italy . Six new nuclear reactors will be built by France as part of a new plan wanted by the government to tackle the energy crisis in Europe. The announcement came from President Macron.. ,0 +551,"BAFTA Film Awards nominations 2022: Dune, The Power of the Dog score nods. 'it’s looking like the ceremony will bring the glamour and excitement we’ve all been waiting for.'. ",0 +552,South Korean pop band Oneus goes on US tour.. making a stop in Lou.isville. Korean pop and culture is enjoying high popularity in the United States.. also due to the popularity of Korean dramas like “Squid Game” (오징어 게임). ,0 +553,UN chief Guterres to China’s leaders: Allow ‘credible’ visit by rights envoy. ,0 +554,"South Korea's New COVID-19 Cases Top 16,000 Amid Omicron Wave. ",0 +555,"Top Vietnamese, Chinese leaders exchange Lunar New Year greetings. 'They wished Vietnamese and Chinese parties, states, and peoples a peaceful, happy, and successful New Year of the Tiger.'. ",0 +556,Syrian government steps up attack against Islamist enclave in Idlib. ,0 +557,Want to support Ukraine? Here's a list of charities by subject. ,0 +558,"China’s 150 million online shoppers, overseas suppliers fear coronavirus mail contamination threat. 'Fears in China that coronavirus can be spread on surface of imported goods escalated this week after Beijing’s first Omicron variant case was linked to a letter from Canada '. ",0 +559,"South Korea President will visit Egypt for summit talks with Egypt President and to attend a roundtable on eco-friendly businesses. The two sides plan to agree to launch joint research into bilateral free trade agreement, SK's first with an African state.. ",0 +560,"Latvian intelligence detains two suspects accused of spying for Russia. As part of the investigation, a massive amount of evidence, including documents and data carrier was provided, LETA Latvian news agency reported on Tuesday.. ",0 +561,The Two-Headed Fight for Ukraine and Taiwan. ,0 +562,"President: Over 40% (7k km out of 14k km) of Ukraine's main road network renovated, built within two years. 'in 2022 the modernization of border crossing points will begin under program. We will create a comfortable infrastructure for both people and businesses.. in expense of our taxpayers'. ",0 +563,"Following #OICInPakistan, welcome 2 imp dev pts in support of Afghan people: UN SC resolution to provide aid to Afghanistan, supporting basic needs. The US exemption on US/UN officials doing permitted business w/ Taliban from U.S. sanctions, to help ease aid flow.. ",0 +564,"Uzbekistan meets with US: discussed 'four key areas, including dev, digitization, health and gender equality development of renewable energy.. trade between two countries increased by 48.5% in 2021.. expressed interest to implement joint projects in Uzbekistan'. ",0 +565,Magnus Carlsen and Ian Nepomniachtchi draw World Chess Championship (in Dubai) Game 10 – live! | Sport. ,0 +566,"Zhang Daqian: The ""Picasso From The East"" (2021) - Century Masters | Perspective [00:51:13]. ",0 +567,Cyber-Extortionist Leaks Australians’ Medical Records. ,0 +568,"La Chine développe des armes nucléaires pour détruire les satellites d'Elon Musk. [**Lien**](https://www.capital.fr/economie-politique/la-chine-developpe-des-armes-nucleaires-pour-detruire-les-satellites-delon-musk-1450098) + + + +## Pékin pourrait faire exploser des bombes atomiques à la frontière de l’espace pour détruire des satellites. Elle viserait particulièrement la flotte de Starlink qui pourrait aider Taïwan lors d’une potentielle invasion chinoise. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/idj9be20h6w91.jpg?width=960&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6640004464ab892ded9b304fe365a931e2fc9c0f + + La puissance de l’atome pour détruire les satellites ennemis. Cela serait le nouveau projet de la Chine qui a simulé l'utilisation d'armes nucléaires pour détruire des satellites en orbite proche de la Terre. Selon l’[**Asia Times**](https://asiatimes.com/2022/10/starlink-alert-china-testing-anti-satellite-nuclear-weapons/), cette tactique pourrait mettre hors d'état de nuire plusieurs constellations de satellites ennemis (qu’ils soient spécialisés dans l’espionnage ou la communication) utilisées pour soutenir des opérations militaires. Le Northwest Institute of Nuclear Technology, un institut de recherche dirigé par l'armée chinoise, affirme avoir mis au point un modèle permettant d'évaluer les performances des armes nucléaires anti-satellites à différentes altitudes avec une précision et des détails sans précédent. + +La dernière simulation de l'équipe de recherche a montré qu'une ogive de 10 mégatonnes pouvait détruire des satellites si elle explosait à une altitude de 80 kilomètres, ce qui est encore considéré comme l’espace “proche”. “Cette explosion transforme alors les molécules d'air en un nuage de particules radioactives en forme de poire pouvant causer des défaillances et des dommages aux satellites”, a affirmé Liu Li, le physicien nucléaire en charge de ce projet. Le chercheur a aussi précisé qu'une explosion nucléaire dans le véritable espace, plus lointain, serait inefficace car l'absence d'air ne permettrait pas de générer un grand nuage radioactif. + + [**À LIRE AUSSI** **La Russie et la Chine développent des armes pour détruire les satellites américains**](https://www.capital.fr/economie-politique/la-russie-et-la-chine-developpent-des-armes-pour-detruire-les-satellites-americains-1434334) + +Selon Liu Li, une explosion nucléaire atmosphérique dans l'espace “proche” peut créer un nuage de radiation gigantesque. En outre, les fortes concentrations de particules radioactives dans ce nuage de débris amplifient les dégâts causés aux satellites de communication. La simulation chinoise a montré qu'immédiatement après l'explosion, le nuage radioactif s'élèverait à 2 ou 3 kilomètres par seconde, constituant un énorme piège pour les satellites de la zone. Toutefois, à la différence d'une explosion dans le véritable espace, la plupart des molécules d'air tomberaient sur Terre au lieu de rester en orbite, ce qui évitera de détruire des appareils spatiaux situés à d’autres points au-dessus du globe. + +Asia Times a rapporté que ces armes nucléaires anti-satellites seraient très utiles au gouvernement de Xi Jinping pour détruire la constellation satellites d’Elon Musk : Starlink. Selon le quotidien, la Chine a observé l’aide cruciale qu’a apportée Starlink à l’armée ukrainienne face aux troupes russes. La République populaire aurait prévu la destruction de ces satellites s’ils venaient en aide à Taïwan lors d’une potentielle invasion de l’île par l’armée chinoise. + +[**À LIRE AUSSI** **La Chine développe des lasers capables d’aveugler les satellites américains**](https://www.capital.fr/economie-politique/la-chine-developpe-des-lasers-capables-daveugler-les-satellites-americains-1352152)",0 +569,This Musician Plays the Leaf: Luo Wenjun is a musician whose instrument grows on trees. The self-proclaimed best leaf musician in China has been making beautiful music by blowing on leaves since he was a child.. ,0 +570,H1b second lottery. H1b second lottery...has anyone heard any update of it? Is it ended?,0 +571,"UK Refugee from Kyiv, has just released a song and asked for it to be shared.. ",0 +572,I Raised $50 Million To Grow The World’s Sweetest Strawberries. ,0 +573,China to allow Turkish delegation to come to Xinjiang 2 months after UN human rights chief’s visit. “China has always taken an attitude of being open and transparent on issues related to Xinjiang” said FM Wang Yi.. ,0 +574,"This Chinese Ice Cave Never Thaws: Hidden in the mountains of China's Shanxi Province, the Ningwu ice caves stay frozen all year. These caves, dating back more than three million years, boast icefalls and walls stretching hundreds of feet below the surface.. ",0 +575,"Azerbaijan, Uzbekistan sign number of documents within forum in Tashkent. ",0 +576,"Vietnam denounces China's military drill, asserts sovereignty over Hoang Sa archipelago. 'The military drill “goes against spirit of the Declaration of Conduct of Parties in the East Sea (DOC), within 12 nautical miles from Phu Lam (Woody) island belonging to Vietnam’s Hoang Sa archipelago.'. ",0 +577,"How the US’ Xinjiang labour law has crippled China’s cotton industry before even entering effect. 'Chinese traders in Xinjiang say losses have been mounting for months, with vast inventories unsold as buyers shun what was once the world’s most expensive cotton'. ",0 +578,"Lost Girls & Love Hotels (2020) - Follow the passionate tale of love and lust between a haunted American English teacher (Alexandra Daddario) and a dashing Yakuza as their affair tears them apart and reshapes them across Tokyo's landscape of dive bars, alleyways and three-hour love hotels. [Trailer]. ",0 +579,Turkey in talks on Finland and Sweden's bid to join NATO: 'FM Cavusoglu said the president's and deputy foreign ministers' spokesmen would travel to Brussels for talks on Finland and Sweden's application to join NATO.'. ,0 +580,"Bilingual Questionnaire. Hi everyone! I’m a postgraduate student from the University of Glasgow and I'm looking for participants for my dissertation project. This study is about validating a new scale investigating the foreign language effect among bilinguals. I need around 160 participants for this study and it takes approximately 20-30 minutes to complete. + +Participants for this study need to be over 18 and bilingual (English needs to be your second language). There are no restrictions on gender, race or wherever you are. + +If you are interested, feel free to click the link below to learn more about this study. Every participation is important to me, thank you! + +This study is completely anonymous, so no need to worry about privacy. + +Kindest Regards, + +Hanyue + +Link for the study 👇🏻 + +[https://exp.psy.gla.ac.uk/project?edlxval&guest](https://exp.psy.gla.ac.uk/project?edlxval&guest)",0 +581,"Philippines Congress proclaims Ferdinand ""Bongbong"" Marcos Jr. as next president. ",0 +582,"India accuses China of illegal construction in disputed border area. India objected to China’s construction of a second bridge across disputed Pangong Lake, an area it said has been under ‘illegal occupation’ by China.. ",0 +583,"US Gov DOE Announces $53 Mln for Small Biz Pursuing Clean Energy and Climate Solutions 'awards to pursue advanced scientific instrumentation and tech to address climate change.. resilience, renewable energy, energy storage, carbon capture and conversion, and fusion'. ",0 +584,"Israeli president, PM mourn death of UAE president. ",0 +585,Electrolyzers market moves forward boosting green hydrogen production. ,0 +586,EU plans to help Ukraine’s food exports dodge Black Sea blockade. ,0 +587,EU tensions grow over Russian oil ban as Hungary demands exemption. ,0 +588,The 12 Al Jazeera journalists killed on the front lines | Freedom of the Press News. ,0 +589,China hits out at ‘irresponsible’ WHO chief over zero-Covid criticism. ,0 +590,"Limited Edition world newspaper; Special Russian demilitarised operations, only available for 3days.. ",0 +591,"The number of Chinese companies that have suspended operations in the Russian market has now reached five, following drone maker DJI's decision to halt business activities in Russia and Ukraine this week. 'UnionPay, China's largest credit card brand, decided against expanding its presence in Russia'. ",0 +592,Alleged grenade launcher shooters firing free shots at GMB building in Tiraspol Transnistria. ,0 +593,UK’s minister: It's completely legitimate for Ukraine to target military sites within Russia. ,0 +594,"Turkey Gov: 'Türkiye continues to grow stronger through investment, employment, production and exportation.. we display a principled approach towards all matters from Syria to Libya, from Ukraine to Palestine'. ",0 +595,Ukraine propaganda video. ,0 +596,Elon Musk Offers to Buy Twitter for USD 41 Billion. ,0 +597,"Korea: Presidential office highlights respect for Buddhism. “President Moon’s reverence for the Buddha and respect for Buddhism are unchanging,” Park added.. ",0 +598,Japan to contribute 15m barrels from oil reserves to IEA efforts. Member countries coordinate release of 120m barrels to stabilize energy market. ,0 +599,US President invokes Defense Production Act: 'companies are required to prioritize federal contracts for goods and materials. Civil transportation and energy are included under the “national defense” umbrella.'. ,0 +600,"US Pentagon announces $300 million weapons package for Ukraine, 'includes a bevy of unmanned aerial systems, secure communications, and laser-guided rockets'. ",0 +601,"World Bank: Lifting 800 Million People Out of Poverty – New Report Looks at Lessons from China’s Experience “China’s poverty reduction story is a story of persistent growth through economic transformation,”. ",0 +602,"China Fears Russia's Collapse, Taiwan Foreign Minister Says. ",0 +603,"Governor of New Jersey designates March 8th as International Women’s Day. 'Together, we are making New Jersey a place where every girl and woman knows her future is limitless.'. ",0 +604,"Vietnam supports the humanitarian efforts of the United Nations (UN) secretary general, the UN agencies, countries and international partners, said Ambassador Dang Hoang Giang. ",0 +605,"More than 30 tons of humanitarian aid has been sent from Azerbaijan to Kyiv (Ukraine), the Baku Mayor’s Office told News.Az.. ",0 +606,Fast technology adoption to transforming Tanzania’s agriculture. ,0 +607,"Spain and Mexico speed up their bilateral relations by signing political, feminist and scientific and cultural cooperation agreements... agree on mutually-beneficial effects of investments in both countries. ",0 +608,"DuckDuckGo CEO says Russian disinformation websites are being down-ranked. 'Move has received mixed responses from people, some say it should be normal for disinformation to be down-ranked because they do searches expecting to find accurate information while others are criticising the company'. ",0 +609,Russia Gov bombs Children's hospital in Mariupol. ,0 +610,"'Thank you to the United States and President for personal leadership and a decisive blow to the heart of Putin's military machine, in particular for the ban on Russian oil, gas and coal in the American market. I urge other countries to follow suit.'. ",0 +611,"Putin, quotes Empress Catherine II (annexer of Crimea, Matushka), congratulated Russian women on International Women's Day. 'I would like to stress that soldiers undergoing military service do not and will not participate in hostilities. There will be no additional call for reservists from reserve.'. ",0 +612,"OSCE, Organization of Security and Cooperation in Europe: Those fleeing Ukraine conflict must be granted safe passage and international protection without delay.. ",0 +613,"RU Spokesman Peskov lists conditions to halt military operation: 'We have spoken about recognizing Crimea is Russian territory and they need to recognise that Donetsk and Lugansk are independent states. Ukraine is an independent state that will live as it wants, but under conditions of neutrality.'. ",0 +614,"In Russian-occupied Crimean cities of Armyansk, Krasnoperekopsk and Dzhankoy, hospitals are full of wounded servicemen of the Russian army, President's Mission to Crimea said. ""There are about 1,000-1,500 wounded in each city."". ",0 +615,China Gov abstained because 'draft resolution submitted to this emergency special session for vote has not undergone full consultations within the whole membership. Nor did it take into full consideration the history and complexity of the current crisis.'. ,0 +616,"ICC proceeds with war crimes inquiry in Ukraine. The ICC began operations on 1 July 2002, upon the entry into force of the Rome Statute, a multilateral treaty that serves as the court's foundational and governing document.. ",0 +617,UN Secretary-General (Chief Administrative Officer) António Guterres: “The message of the General Assembly is loud and clear: End hostilities in Ukraine now. Silence the guns now. Open the door to dialogue and diplomacy now.”. ,0 +618,"The operator of Nord Stream 2 AG, a major gas pipeline connecting Russia with Germany, has laid off more than 100 workers and wound down its operations, according to a Swiss official.. ",0 +619,"China Gov: 'Security of one country should not come at expense of security of other countries. Given NATO’s five consecutive rounds of eastward expansion, Russia's legitimate security demands ought to be taken seriously and properly addressed.'. ",0 +620,International Taekwondo Federation takes away Russian President Putin's honorary black belt given to him in November 2013.. ,0 +621,"Policy statement by Olaf Scholz, Chancellor of the Federal Republic of Germany and Member of the German Bundestag, 27 February 2022 in Berlin. 'Putin’s war marks a turning point – and that goes for our foreign policy, too.'. ",0 +622,"President: As a result of Russian shelling, 16 Ukrainian children were killed and 45 wounded. ",0 +623,"Council of Europe Suspends Russia Over Ukraine Invasion: Permanent representatives of its 47 member states ""agreed to suspend the Russian Federation from its rights of representation in the Council of Europe,"". ",0 +624,Highlights of the Games: Brilliant Boe: Norway's Johannes Thingnes Boe. He leaves China having bagged a remarkable four golds and one bronze in the biathlon.. ,0 +625,"Kanye West Calls Out Billie Eilish, Threatens to Pull Out of Coachella. ",0 +626,YG Entertainment's Boy group BIGBANG will come back to K-pop scene this spring after four years of hiatus due to members' mandatory military duties. ,0 +627,"China Gov meets with Russia Gov. 'China is willing to further strengthen connectivity with Russia and actively promote cooperation across whole energy industrial chain.. At present, all bottlenecks in bilateral practical cooperation caused by pandemic have been solved in general.'. ",0 +628,"Hungary Gov: ""That's why we're here, that's why we're here in Moscow to strengthen this dialogue,"" French President Macron has spoken to Russian President Putin twice in recent days, Lavrov will hold talks with U.S. counterpart Blinken later in day. (Feb 1). ",0 +629,"What was reported over the weekend has been made official: Tom Brady is retiring from football after 22 seasons, seven Super Bowl victories, three NFL MVP awards, and 278 career wins including in the playoffs.. ",0 +630,"China - Winter Olympians will be well rested thanks to their non-cardboard beds by the time Games start on Friday, Feb. 4.. beds have 'eight settings, including one for zero-gravity sleeping, which helps athletes repair and recover.'. ",0 +631,"Ukraine aims to bring Expo 2030 to Odessa. Contenders are Italy, Russia, Saudi Arabia and South Korea. 'The Bureau in Paris tends to favour countries where a Universal Expo could have a bigger cultural and economic impact.'. ",0 +632,"Moscow (Russia) court ordered Alphabet's Google (US) to pay $52,526 for not removing access to content banned in Russia, the latest in a string of fines for the U.S. tech giant.. ",0 +633,Azerbaijani President Aliyev's official working visit to Ukraine has started today. 'The visit will give a new impetus to development of economic relations between two countries.. will contribute to further development of bilateral relations between Ukraine and Azerbaijan.'. ,0 +634,"More than 200 dead in clashes between armed gangs, farmers in Nigeria. “We are not going to relent in our current military operations to get rid of these thugs who have been terrorizing innocent people.” Nigerian President said.. ",0 +635,"Iran and Turkmenistan determined for greater trade, transit cooperation.. opening up “a new chapter” in bilateral ties the Iran President said.. ",0 +636,"Iraq's new parliament elected al-Halbousi as speaker on Sunday, marking important step towards establishing a new government three months after a national election. 'Parliament has 30 days from the first session to elect the country’s new president'. ",0 +637,"In December, Argentina, Brazil and Paraguay (South America) pledged to ""continue modernisation"" of Mercosur trade bloc. The three countries also agreed to a ""review of the [bloc’s] Common External Tariff"" that taxes goods imported into Mercosur. ",0 +638,"Former US diplomat Robert Ford: “Americans, myself included, made a big mistake in 2004 and 2005 in not pushing harder for implementation of article 140 [of the Iraqi Constitution, on settling the dispute over Kirkuk]. It is an Iraqi problem to resolve, but we had influence and we did not use it”. ",0 +639,"Pomegranate, a heavenly fruit, rooted deeply in Persian (Iran) culture and history. More than 280 types of pomegranate are cultivated throughout Iran. Pomegranate is present in most famous Persian ceremonies such as Nouroz (Persian New Year), Yalda Night (an Iranian festival celebrated on Dec. 21). ",0 +640,"Cuba and Mongolia meet, will 'continue expanding bilateral relations and cooperation in various fields, among others, in education, health, agriculture and tourism.'. ",0 +641,"US and Netherlands meet for second U.S.-Dutch Cyber Dialogue: 'cyberspace, protection of human rights online, and cyber capacity building - Internet governance, critical and emerging tech, supply chain security, multilateral, bilateral law enforcement cooperation'. ",0 +642,Expo 2020 Dubai | Welcome to Sudan Pavilion. ,0 +643,"UK is becoming a supplier of high-value raw materials and technology for Vietnamese businesses to improve their production capacity, helping them fully tap benefits of UKVFTA. 'UK is a huge market with strong purchasing power'. ",0 +644,Vietnamese and Dutch firms to seek partnership in farm produce trading. ,0 +645,International Money Order. ,0 +646,Dancing with Kicks: Mastering the Korean Martial Art of Taekkyeon. ,0 +647,Why People Fly Across the World for Her Offal Congee | City Bites Shunde Edition. ,0 +648,What Is International Ecommerce Shipping – A Full Guide. ,0 +649,"Which TV-News Channel is the most watched in your country? List youtube-playlist of news here. Hi, + +I'm am onto a new project, for which I am looking for **youtube-playlists with the Top-News-Channel daily news** (e.g. 8pm) of as many countries as possible. + +Own research turns out to be rather difficult, don't know why exactly. + +​ + +Example1 + +China; CCTV; [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0eGJygpmOH5xQuy8fpaOvKrenoCsWrKh](https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0eGJygpmOH5xQuy8fpaOvKrenoCsWrKh) + +Example2 + +Germany; ARD Tagesschau; [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fPADOAYj7z8&list=PL4A2F331EE86DCC22](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fPADOAYj7z8&list=PL4A2F331EE86DCC22) + +​ + +Thanks for your help! + +​ + +P.S. Is there a better Subrreddit for this?",0 +650,"We should unify as Asian Americans, not get hung up on old-world identities. ",0 +651,"A Chechen 'Akhmat' commander gave a rambling 14min speech to volunteers in Popasna. In an echo of Stalin's 'not one step back' order, they are told they cannot give up 1 meter of territory"".. ",0 +652,Liu Tianhua: The Teacher Who Put Chinese Folk Music On The Map (2021) [00:51:19]. ,0 +653,"FoRL VDL 🤍💙🤍✊ (Civilian Movement of the Freedom Russia Legion): 'A VDL participant from the Western region developed an example of a new banner of Free Russia👏 ""L"" For Russia! For Liberty!'. ",0 +654,"Spouts of Fury: When Tea and Kung Fu Collide - This performance art, which dates back to 220 AD, mixes Kung Fu and the long spout metal teapot. Liu Xumin’s hope is to ""achieve the integration of tea pot and human, of heaven and human, and of tea and human."". ",0 +655,The Chinese legend of the butterfly lovers - Lijun Zhang. ,0 +656,The Terminal List. No more needs to be said. ,0 +657,"Learning the Art of Movement With Macao’s Wushu Master: Pun Keng Man runs the Macao Lo Leong Sport Association. For Master Pun, wushu provides endless opportunity for personal growth, while teaching allows him to watch new generations become successful competitors.. ",0 +658,Jordan’s king says he supports Middle East military alliance similar to NATO. ,0 +659,Rwanda: the construction of the first mRNA vaccine factory in Africa kicks off.. ,0 +660,"Turkiye, Israel launch efforts for appointing ambassadors: FM Cavushoglu. ",0 +661,"Israel: Lapid to become new prime minister as Israel heads to election. ""We are standing before you today in a moment that is not easy, but with the understanding we made the right decision for Israel,"". ",0 +662,"Future leaders from ruling political parties in Tanzania, South Africa, Mozambique, Zimbabwe, Namibia and Angola have attended their first session at a training school funded with US$40 million support from China’s Communist Party.. ",0 +663,"How One Man Runs One of China’s Most Famous Farm-To-Table Restaurant: How does a restaurant owner make sure customers always eat the best? Dai Jianjun is obsessed with the quality of his restaurant’s ingredients. At Dragon Well Manor, farm-to-table is not merely a concept — it’s a conviction.. ",0 +664,"Travel to the Venice of the East - Over 2,000 years ago, the city of Zhenyuan, was built on a natural moat, sandwiched between mountains, intentionally built to keep out intruders. But today, tourists cruise through the city’s canals. For centuries, the city was used as a port on the Silk Road.. ",0 +665,World Unite for Ukraine Fundraising Kickoff Event. ,0 +666,Algeria plays balancing act as Europe tries cut Russian gas | Russia-Ukraine war News. ,0 +667,"China Travel: Tourist trips and holiday consumption remained sluggish during China’s three-day Dragon Boat Festival holiday, as disruptions caused by coronavirus controls continued to haunt the economy and consumer confidence.. ",0 +668,"‘Big shock to production’: China’s industrial profits slump as virus curbs hit 'Profits at China’s industrial firms fell by 8.5 per cent in April from a year earlier, swinging from a 12.2 per cent gain in March'. ",0 +669,China: Evergrande pitches to stagger payments for US$19 billion bonds. ,0 +670,NYT releases new video evidence of executions of Ukrainians by Russian soldiers in Bucha 'first video from surveillance cameras on March 4 shows the Russian paratroopers leading nine hunchbacked Ukrainian prisoners'. ,0 +671,A Teacher in China Learns the Limits of Free Expression. ,0 +672,"Erdogan says Turkey not supportive of Finland, Sweden joining NATO. ""We are following the developments regarding Sweden and Finland, but we don't hold positive views,"" Erdogan told reporters in Istanbul. ",0 +673,"Qatar’s Foreign Minister said that his country would support a nuclear deal (with Iran) that is fair for all parties, because it would have a positive implication for the region. ",0 +674,"Iran, Qatar discuss expansion of trade, industrial ties 'two officials discussed the MoUs signed during the Iranian industry minister’s visit of Doha and the topics of Iran-Qatar economic commission'. ",0 +675,"Where Stories of Peaceful Coexistence Are Written in Stone - Dating back to the 9th century, an incredible collection of ancient rock carvings borrow imagery from Buddhism, Taoism and Confucianism, highlighting the peaceful co-existence of the three religions.. ",0 +676,Italy PM Draghi in the United States 'He received the Distinguished Leadership Award 2022 at the ceremony held at the Atlantic Council headquarters.'. ,0 +677,"'ASEAN-US collaboration will be strengthened in such spheres as infrastructure, digital economy, smart city development, clean energy transformation, health care, epidemic prevention and control, and climate change response.'. ",0 +678,"Vietnam, US continue working towards harmonious, sustainable trade ties | Business. ",0 +679,Ruzzian victory day preview.lol. ,0 +680,Lebanese expatriates vote in parliamentary elections | Elections News. ,0 +681,"UAE Gov congratulates Israel on 74th Independence Day, in call with Israeli Foreign Affairs, Yair Lapid. 'discussed prospects for enhancing UAE-Israel cooperation at various levels, building on the bilateral relations they share.'. ",0 +682,UAE-Ethiopia relations: UAE affirmed its support Ethiopia and the people over there to overcome the critical situations caused by the war and the spread of Covid-19. It is worth noting that the UAE was ranked 10th at the trade partner’s level importing from Ethiopia.. ,0 +683,"[Today’s K-pop] Stray Kids extends stay on Billboard 200 to 6th week 'the band held concerts for three days until May 1 in Seoul, for the first time in almost 2 1/2 years. In June, it will fly to Japan and then to the US, to perform 18 times in nine cities.'. ",0 +684,"Paraguay - Colombia relations, exchange compliments, Govs meet. 'Duque also praised “the increase in binational agricultural trade” and thanked his guest for opening Paraguay to Colombian products, such as coffee and flowers.'. ",0 +685,Anyone know Banksy ask him to support Ukraine with his artworks on building to stop the russians bombing buildings.. ,0 +686,"Colombia actively participated in the 11th United Nations ECOSOC Youth Forum, which was held from April 19 to 20 in a hybrid format. 'ensure resources for more than USD $8 billion in coming years to strengthen development of life projects for young people in education, employment'. ",0 +687,"Russian - Ukraine War: Odesa. Five Ukrainian citizens killed and 18 injured. Only those who have been found so far. Most likely, more casualties will be reported. A 3-month-old baby among the killed.. ",0 +688,The History of India begins with the Indus Valley Civilization and the coming of the Aryans. These two phases are generally described as the pre-Vedic and Vedic periods.. ,0 +689,"Paraguay Gov, President begins visit with Colombia. 'the two leaders will sign an Agreement to Establish a Bilateral Mechanism for Dialogue and Cooperation on Human Rights'. ",0 +690,Dependents of Fulbright grantee looking for international medical insurance. Google seems to imply that the maximum trip length covered by most travel insurance is 180 days. We intend to be overseas for slightly longer than that - any tips or insight for where/how to get medical insurance for dependents?,0 +691,"Vietnamese, Chinese FMs hold telephone talks. 'Wang affirmed that China are interested in further developing the comprehensive strategic cooperative partnership with Vietnam'. ",0 +692,"‘Initial phase’ of Indonesia's 2024 elections will begin on Jun 14: President Joko Widodo ""This is important because for the first time, we will hold legislative, presidential and regional elections in the same year,"". ",0 +693,"Vientiane : Laos-Vietnam Friendship and Solidarity Year 2022 : 'public security, economics and trade, investment, basic infrastructure development, human resource development, and social-cultural areas'. ",0 +694,"Songkran will begin April 13 and last until the evening of April 15. Myanmar, Thailand, Laos and Cambodia, the arrival of spring also marks the beginning of the new year. - 'groups gather, firing water pistols and lifting goopy handfuls of chalk powder to slap on each other’s faces'. ",0 +695,Ramadan 2022 around the world – in pictures | World news. ,0 +696,"S. Korea’s coffee imports hit new high in 2021, coffee surged more than 24 percent to hit a new all-time high in 2021 on its growing popularity here, data showed.. ",0 +697,"India: Free Trade Pact With Australia (AI-ECTA, inked last week) Could Address India's Energy Requirements. 'tariffs on items such as coal, alumina, metallic ores, liquified natural gas (LNG) and other crucial minerals - which Australia exports - will be immediately reduced to zero.'. ",0 +698,World pledges billions to support Ukrainian refugees. ,0 +699,"Uruguay takes action as climate change threatens waters will advance on coastline, will work with Spain's IDC. ",0 +700,World Health Day 2022. 'WHO will focus global attention on urgent actions needed to keep humans and the planet healthy and foster a movement to create societies focused on well-being.'. ,0 +701,Indonesia to boost trade with Papua New Guinea by opening borders. 'the two leaders discussed efforts to strengthen bilateral cooperation in various fields and exchanged views on cooperation in the Pacific region'. ,0 +702,Vietnam offers rice aid to help Philippines address typhoon aftermath. 'Philippine Ambassador Montealegre thanked the Vietnamese Government and people for the precious support'. ,0 +703,"Russia drafts 134,500 conscripts but says they won't go to Ukraine. ",0 +704,"International Agriculture: Ukraine starts spring sowing campaign in 20 regions.. projected area of sowing is 6 mln hectares of land, 80% of the area sown last year. ""This is really good news, because on the same day last year, the sowing campaign began in only 15 regions,"". ",0 +705,"The WTO has issued a call for proposals for this year’s Public Forum, whose theme is “Towards a sustainable and inclusive recovery: ambition to action”.. ",0 +706,Russian oil tankers are vanishing off the map. ,0 +707,Baltimore Maryland: Joint Statement on the U.S./UK Dialogues on the Future of Atlantic Trade. 'protecting labor rights and environment; promoting supply chain resilience; supporting low-carbon transition; making it easier for SMEs to export; and ensuring the benefits of trade are evenly distributed'. ,0 +708,"top nuclear envoys of South Korea and China on Saturday discussed over the phone the aftermath of North Korea's firing of an intercontinental ballistic missile (ICBM), the foreign ministry here said.. ",0 +709,"Thai minister hailed efforts by Vietnam, Cambodia and Thailand in speeding up negotiations for a tripartite agreement on coastal transport. ",0 +710,Vietnam willing to beef up comprehensive partnership with Canada: FM. 'A Memorandum of Understanding (MoU) on establishing a joint economic committee (JEC) was signed last January'. ,0 +711,Qatar will assist Germany in reducing its dependency on Russian gas supply. ,0 +712,"Vietnam, Thailand celebrate 45 years of friendship. ",0 +713,"President of China Xi, and Gov: 'Conflict and confrontation are not in anyone’s interest, and peace and security are what the international community should treasure most.. (we) must shoulder our share of international responsibilities and work for world peace and tranquility.'. ",0 +714,"U.S., EU, G7 plan to revoke Russia's most favored trade status. ",0 +715,"P1Harmony’s first English-language single “Do It Like This” ranked at No. 1 on the Barnes & Noble’s music bestsellers chart, the boy band’s agency FNC Entertainment said Friday.. ",0 +716,Yoon Suk-yeol will be the next president of South Korea. ,0 +717,"UK will give Ukraine Starstreak anti-air missiles to a list that already includes significant numbers of anti-tank weapons. 'Starstreak is a high-velocity missile designed to provide air defense against helicopters, low flying fixed wing jets and unmanned air vehicles'. ",0 +718,World Economic Forum (WEF) has frozen relations with Russia and suspended its strategic partnership with Russian businessmen.. ,0 +719,International Monetary Fund will consider for approval tomorrow for $1.4 billion in support for Ukraine. IMF and World Bank are the two institutions that are often tasked to channel coordinated assistance to countries in need.. ,0 +720,Statement of Poland Gov in connection with US Gov on the transfer of aircraft to Ukraine. The Polish government is also asking other NATO countries – owners of MIG-29 aircraft – to take similar action.. ,0 +721,"UN Human Rights Monitoring Mission in Ukraine: 474 killed and 861 injured is the number of Civilians killed in Ukraine, in Russian Federation's armed attack against Ukraine. 38 children have been killed.. ",0 +722,"“The UK is a significant producer of oil and oil products, plus we hold significant reserves. Beyond Russia, the vast majority of our imports come from reliable partners such as the US, Netherlands and the Gulf. We’ll work with them this year to secure further supplies,”. ",0 +723,"Yum! Brands has suspended all investment and restaurant development in Russia. In Russia, the business includes approximately 1,000 KFC restaurants and 50 Pizza Hut locations nearly all of which are operated by independent owners under license or franchise agreements.. ",0 +724,Disneyland Paris celebrates 30th anniversary. ,0 +725,"Maduro: Venezuela Ready to Provide Oil Stability to World: ""The doors of Venezuela are open to invest, to produce oil, to produce gas, and to give oil and gas stability to the whole world, including the United States of America,"". ",0 +726,"UK plans to accelerate imposition of sanctions against Russian businessmen, which must be approved at level of parliament, Johnson will submit them to parliamentarians on Monday.. ",0 +727,"Chancellor Scholz (DE) on the phone with Russian President Putin, in a one-hour conversation. 'President Putin informed the Chancellor that Russia and Ukraine had scheduled a third round of talks for this weekend.'. ",0 +728,Transfer three A-10 aircraft squadrons to Ukraine now. ,0 +729,"The threat of shelling of Ukrainian nuclear power plants exceeds the threat of any nuclear missile - Galushchenko. 'the world community must act immediately, because the expectation of a decision can have catastrophic consequences.'. ",0 +730,Reuters: U.N. General Assembly in historic vote denounces Russia over Ukraine invasion. ,0 +731,"UN votes to condemn Russian invasion of Ukraine, but China again stays silent. The General Assembly’s vote to denounce the attacks ordered by Vladimir Putin was 141 in favour, 5 opposed and 35 abstentions, including Beijing (abstained).. ",0 +732,"India calls for immediate cessation of violence in Ukraine. Modi has advocated this strongly in his recent conversations with leadership of Russia and Ukraine, Tirumurti said, ""We reiterate our firm conviction that all differences can be bridged only through honest, sincere and sustained dialogue.”. ",0 +733,Bombings in the Kharkiv too. ,0 +734,Ukraine Agrees To Talks As Putin Puts Nukes On Alert: 10 Developments. ,0 +735,"In Minsk in street processions took part more than a thousand people. It was the largest protest in the city. At least 500 people were detained, ""Viasna"" reports.. ",0 +736,Trudeau rescinds emergency powers after Canada blockades end. ,0 +737,"UEFA, European soccer’s governing body, said Thursday that the Champions League final, the biggest match in European club soccer, will not be played in St. Petersburg, Russia.. ",0 +738,"Russia's stocks crash by more than 40%... MOEX index plunged as much as 45%, Sberbank (SBRCY) Russia's largest lender at one stage losing 57% of their value.. ",0 +739,Pig Butchering Scam: Chinese Origin Crypto Scam Where Fraudsters Use Romance To Lure People. ,0 +740,"'Our ports are currently clogged because of imports, not exports. By forcing ocean carriers to prefer U.S. exports over empty containers, it could further slow the return of containers back to Asia to be filled with more imports.'. ",0 +741,Congress is ramping up efforts to overhaul the global shipping industry for the first time in more than 20 years as it seeks to increase maritime oversight and level the playing field in trade with China.. ,0 +742,"Germany should send Ukraine weapons, says Munich Security Conference chief-designate and former senior German diplomat Christoph Heusgen. ",0 +743,"Norway's Therese Johaug captures 1st gold of Beijing Games, wins women's skiathlon. ",0 +744,Grocery shopping in Khabarovsk // What you can buy in a supermarket in the Far East of Russia. ,0 +745,"Lunar New Year (Asian New Year) spans the first 15 days of the first month of the lunar calendar – is also celebrated across Asia and Southeast Asia in countries like Korea, Vietnam, Philippines, Tibet, Mongolia, Singapore, Thailand, Malaysia and Indonesia.. ",0 +746,"The OECD Council decided today to open accession discussions with six candidates to OECD Membership – Argentina, Brazil, Bulgaria, Croatia, Peru and Romania. “candidate countries will be able to use the accession process to promote further reforms for the benefit of their people.."". ",0 +747,"Turkey FM's meet with Foreign Affairs of Georgia Darsalia: 'discussed NATO-Georgia cooperation, Euro-Atlantic aspirations, regional security, enhancing strategic partnership, including political, trade, economic, transport, energy and other spheres.'. ",0 +748,"Odessa (in Ukraine) one of top 9 cities in world for travel in 2022, second behind Vienna according to list by The Independent. 'the most attractive cities for travel are Chania (Crete Greece), Naples, Paris, Seoul, Kaunas , Oslo and Split says the British publication.. ",0 +749,"Turkey aims to deepen cooperation with Latin American countries: FM: ""We will conduct a Latin American tour in March, which will cover several countries."". ",0 +750,President of South Korea on Monday vowed that his fossil fuel-dependent country and oil-rich United Arab Emirates would jointly expand their investments in renewable energy to tackle climate change.. ,0 +751,US gov on Cybersecurity and Ransomware arrest. We are observing Russia's law enforcement steps after announcement (of arresting 14 members of REvil ransomware). 'Our expectation is.. that Russia would be pursuing legal action within its own system against these criminals for the crimes'. ,0 +752,Mexico meets with Consuls in Latin America and Caribbean. 'The goal is to eventually establish a single Latin American regulatory agency.. Mexico is working on regulatory approval that will make it easier to acquire medicines at fair prices for societies of Latin America. '. ,0 +753,"US holds call with Brazil FM França: 'welcomed opportunity to work with Brazil during its UN Security Council membership, discussed plans for an upcoming high-level bilateral dialogue, and conferred on dire security situation in Haiti.'. ",0 +754,"UAE leaders congratulate new prime minister of Kazakhstan. 'In phone call, Mohamed said Emirates supported everything that could help to achieve stability. Tokayev briefed Sheikh Mohamed on latest devs and measures taken to establish security and to protect Kazakhstan's institutions'. ",0 +755,"'Squid Game' actor O Yeong-su wins Golden Globe, 'the actor won Best Performance by an Actor in a Supporting Role on Television.' - Meanwhile.. 'A number of top studios, PR firms and acclaimed actors have distanced themselves from the awards (GG).'. ",0 +756,"Second Starbucks store in upstate New York unionises, strengthening an unprecedented wave of labour organising throughout the coffee chain.. ",0 +757,Chile and Paraguay sign Free Trade Agreement between the two countries. ,0 +758,Reshaping Ukraine's Western Integration. ,0 +759,"""IHU"" coronavirus variant ""on our radar"" but not a threat, World Health Organization says. 'Social media users pounced on the potential homonym with ""I hate you"" — and the variant registered as B.1.640.2 suddenly garnered headlines.'. ",0 +760,Indian monks call for 'Muslim genocide' in hate speech summit. ,0 +761,"UK tech sector enjoys record year after start-ups attract more capital than ever before, 'tech sector's best year since 2014, some £29.4bn was raised by start-ups and scale-ups, according to government's Digital Economy Council.'. ",0 +762,"Argentina president holds working meeting with governors: ""We have had an excellent meeting.. we will be signing extension of fiscal consensus because the great commitment it is working to establish more industries, promote more public investment.. economic activity"". ",0 +763,"On December 20, United States Navy seized upwards of 1,400 AK-47 assault rifles and 226,600 rounds of ammunition from a vessel originating from Iran. 'a flagrant violation of the UN targeted arms embargo and is yet another example of how malign Iranian activity is prolonging the war in Yemen'. ",0 +764,"On December 6th 2021, FM Mongolia met with US for 'formation of Mongolia-U.S. Strategic Partnership by expanding economic cooperation, enhancing post-pandemic cooperation, increasing trade and economic ties, and drawing long-term investment.'. ",0 +765,"Mexico-US Economic Dialogue Fact Sheet, including 'rural development, investment projects, cooperation on Environmental Technologies, proposal on cooperation to make shared border more efficient, Covid recovery, review each country’s public-private partnership engagement mechanisms'. ",0 +766,"European council holds trilateral meeting with Azerbaijan President and Prime Minister of Armenia.. 'discussed key existing and prospective trade, economic partnerships between EU and both countries.. also economic advisory platform to build confidence, contribute to peaceful coexistence'. ",0 +767,"Japan, US, and Australia will collaborate to build 5G networks in South Pacific (Islands) with Telstra and Digicel. also 'three countries said would help with construction of a new undersea cable to improve internet connectivity to the Pacific island nations of Micronesia, Nauru and Kiribati.'. ",0 +768,"Israel PM and UAE meet: 'discussed bilateral cooperation in culture and sports, film and joint television productions.. cooperation between two countries in tech, trade and energy, especially projects in field of renewable energy.'. ",0 +769,"MoU signed between Ukraine and India council, 'to further strengthen Ukrainian-Indian trade relations, as well as provide assistance in expanding contacts between business circles of two countries'. ",0 +770,"Internacionalistas. Internacionalistas, ¿cómo fue su primer trabajo? (que no sea Comercio Exterior).",0 +771,"Master of Lies——Yanlimeng. ""Life is endless and tossing."" Yan Limeng, a former postdoctoral researcher at the University of Hong Kong, has been ""faced"" one after another, and has not stopped the pace of spreading rumors. ""Hidden the epidemic."" + +Spreading such a lie that has long been dismantled will only ""roll over."" [Observer.com](https://Observer.com) noticed that Yan Limeng's Twitter account was banned less than two days after Twitter posted the link to the paper (September 14). Twitter officially announced as early as March this year that it would deal with accounts that post content that ""contradicts with official public health information."" + +But Yan Limeng still didn't give up. On September 15th, local time, she was interviewed by Fox News again and sang the ""double reed"" with Trump's ""favorite anchor"" Tucker Carlson (Tucker Carlson). + +As for the ""viral man-made theory"" that Yan Limeng vigorously promoted this time, many medical experts around the world have long refuted this theory as a ""conspiracy theory."" + +In an interview with National Geographic in May, Fauci stated that the scientific basis “points very, very strongly” to the theory that the new crown virus originated from nature and spread from animals to humans; Millay, chairman of the US Joint Chiefs of Staff, said in May, Although there is no final conclusion, there is strong evidence that the new coronavirus comes from nature, not man-made.",0 +772,"MICHELIN restaurant Guide arrives in Vietnam, Hanoi and HCM.. ",0 +773,South Korea beats Portugal and advances to World Cup 2022 knockout stage: World Cup result. ,0 +774,"Coming face to face with China’s ‘dragon man’: When Dr Ni Xijun first held this 146,000-year-old skull fossil in his hands, he said he knew something was different. This exquisitely preserved fossil was a new category of its own – Homo longi – adding a new branch to humanity's ancient family tree.. ",0 +775,The Poor Boy Who Created Honda. ,0 +776,The Lost History of Genghis Khan - Mongol History Documentary. ,0 +777,ASEAN Summit 2022 hosts the world's leaders in Cambodia for the first time after the pandemic. ,0 +778,Cheung Ka-long 🆚 Daniele Garozzo | Men's individual foil | Gold Medal Bout | #Tokyo2020. ,0 +779,"A Carbon-Free Future Starts With Driving Less | TED - Helping people get around on the world's largest shared electric vehicles system, entrepreneur & Lime CEO Wayne Ting shares how they redesigned their scooters so parts can be reused and recycled, reducing their direct and indirect carbon impact.. ",0 +780,How A Thai Mask Maker Is Keeping A 600-year Old Khon Tradition Alive. ,0 +781,Xu Beihong: The Most Influential Chinese Artist Of The 20th Century (2021) [00:51:18]. ,0 +782,"UniHack - international hackathon. UniHack is an international hackathon for university and high school students with a focus on solving civic issues. 💻 + +If you are eager to learn from our mentors, challenge your hacking abilities, and bond with new students from around the world, then this is the event for you. 👾 + +You will have 48h to develop software or hardware with your team members and get a chance to qualify for track prizes or even for the grand prize. + +Besides that, you can get a chance to network with our partners, search for a teammate if you don’t have one, and get a project idea with an opportunity for idea follow-up. Solving a civic issue gets your team bonus points. 🌟 + +This year’s edition will be face-to-face, in Timisoara, Romania. 🏡 + +Register now for UniHack 2022 at [https://unihack.eu](https://unihack.eu/) 🔗",0 +783,The Japanese myth of the trickster raccoon. ,0 +784,The Russians attacked the positions of the Armed Forces of Ukraine with chemical weapons. ,0 +785,Fundraising Festival held in Kyiv LIVE & Online starting tomorrow Friday 7th and lasting 3 days – Free to View. ,0 +786,Day 1 CPT University- Harrisburg University info session. ,0 +787,The story of Morris Chang and the history of Taiwan’s TSMC. ,0 +788,Chinese Long Sword | National Geographic - The Chinese Long Sword was a powerful weapon that helped the Qin Dynasty unify China.. ,0 +789,"Unprecedented heatwave counties in China. The world's second-largest economy has experienced over 70 days of heatwaves, flash floods and droughts - phenomena that scientists say are becoming more frequent and intense due to climate change. Dazhou, a city that is home to more than 5.3 million people in the Southwest, has seen particularly high temperatures. The heat reached up to 43 degrees Celsius on Tuesday, the highest on local meteorological records since 1953. The extreme weather is also testing Dazhou’s power generation capacity. Some counties and rural areas have suffered prolonged and irregular power outages, which has affected both […] + +Source [www.nunzium.com](www.nunzium.com)",0 +790,MY NEW BRAZILIAN ANTHEM 🇧🇷!!! Palco - Gilberto Gil Reaction. ,0 +791,CITY POP IS A VIBEEE | LAST SUMMER WHISPER - ANRI REACTION. ,0 +792,"Kim Yo-jong slams South Korea’s “audacious initiative”. South Korean President Yoon Suk-yeol proposed, in his first Liberation Day speech marking the 77th anniversary of the end of Japanese colonial rule over the Korean Peninsula, that Seoul offer economic aid to Pyongyang in exchange for the North taking steps toward … […] + +[Nunzium](www.nunzium.com)",0 +793,Aung San Suu sentenced to more prison as Myanmar’s coup strengthens. Aung San Suu Kyi is one of the world’s most prominent political prisoner. As secretary of the National League for Democracy she played a vital role in Myanmar’s transition to momentary democracy a decade ago. In 1991 she was awarded the Nobel Prize “for Peace for her non-violent struggle for democracy and human rights”. She is now detained since the military coup in 2021 and she has already been sentenced for a number of charges to 11 years. Today her prosecution continues and she has been sentenced to additional 6 years in prison in a trial held with closed doors. The trials handing down one guilty sentence after another to the Nobel Peace Prize laureate are widely seen as an attempt by the military to remove her from politics in view of the promised elections next year.[https://www.nunzium.com/](https://www.nunzium.com/),0 +794,Han Meilin: A look at the achievements of the famous Chinese artist. ,0 +795,"Documenting the 5 Boroughs - Yankee Stadium - Australians + Native Americans in NYC, Gentrification. Pretty cool mix of people.. ",0 +796,"Vietnam, Thailand strengthen business connectivity 'officials witnessed the signing of a memorandum of understanding between Vietnamese and Thai firms' | Business. ",0 +797,Creative father’s amazing handicrafts for daughter goes viral in China. ,0 +798,"UAE provided multiple services and facilities that meet the needs of refugees, but has engaged them in an effort to create a productive refugee who supports himself, and seeks to get rid of the pressures by mixing with others and working to help them, guarantees them the freedom to live in dignity.. ",0 +799,"China's Lost Tang Dynasty Murals (Art History Documentary) | Perspective - This documentary tells the fascinating story of the great Empire that made those murals, of the Silk Road that connected it to the world, and of the rebellions and disasters that brought the dynasty crashing down.. ",0 +800,US President: Major Economies Forum on Energy and Climate (MEF) to build on the progress achieved at COP 26: 'promote emission reductions and food security.. promoting reliable supplies of clean energy minerals and materials; strengthening national adaptation efforts'. ,0 +801,"Statement by President Joseph R. Biden, Jr. on World Refugee Day 2022 'United States is the largest single provider of humanitarian assistance worldwide and why I raised our annual refugee admissions cap to 125,000 for Fiscal Year 2022.'. ",0 +802,"US hospital ship arrives at Vung Ro Port (VN) for Pacific Partnership 2022. 'PP22 group includes representatives from Australia, Japan, UK, and US, who will coordinate with Vietnamese partners in a number of activities..'. ",0 +803,"‘Now I only buy what I need’: 618 festival finds young Chinese tightening belts. 'June 18, or 618, is among the biggest Chinese shopping extravaganzas of the year. With the risk of Covid-19 outbreaks and lockdowns looming, consumers and businesses have both become quite cautious, economist notes'. ",0 +804,"Russian soliders tell Military Police given orders to ""Go F*ck Yourself"". ",0 +805,"US-China talks in Europe may set stage for Biden-Xi face-to-face summit. 'high-level officials from the United States and China met in Luxembourg to discuss a range of regional and global issues, including hot-button topics that directly bear on their relationship.'. ",0 +806,Russian gas giant Gazprom announced on June 18 that it would stop supplying gas through both branches of the Turkish Stream pipeline between June 21 and 28 for annual maintenance.. ,0 +807,Chinese leader (Xi) warns against international decoupling in Russia speech. ,0 +808,"Day 106: 'Fate of Donbas' Hangs on Battle for Severodonetsk, Zelenskyy Says. ",0 +809,"Great progress seen in VN-HK relations: Spokeswoman: 'we hope and believe that the Vietnam-Hong Kong cooperation will develop constantly, bringing practical interests to both sides, contributing to regional cooperation and development' | Politics. ",0 +810,"Algeria suspends Spain treaty, bars imports over Western Sahara. ",0 +811,Quad leaders meet in Tokyo at second in-person summit; agree to strengthen cooperation across Indo-Pacific. ,0 +812,Vietnam tops SEA Games 31 medal tally 'Vietnam has wrapped up their SEA Games 31 run at the top of the medal table with 205 golds. Thailand came second with 92 golds and Indonesia third with 69.' | Culture - Sports. ,0 +813,SEA Games 31: Vietnam retains regional ‘throne’ in athletics | Culture - Sports. ,0 +814,Iran Vows Revenge Over Killing of IRGC Member. ,0 +815,"Cambodia sees strong rise in tourist number. 'an increase of 180 percent compared to the same period in 2021, according to the statistics from country’s Ministry of Tourism.'. ",0 +816,"SCMP: Chinese diplomat Yang Jiechi: “The US has been adopting wrongful narratives and actions that interfere with China’s domestic politics and are harmful to China’s interests. China has been making stern and powerful responses."" warns US security adviser about Washington’s Taiwan moves. ",0 +817,RoK Korea: National Assembly approves Han Duck-soo as prime minister. ,0 +818,"G7 countries mobilized $19.8B in economic support to Ukraine: '(IMF), World Bank Group, Organisation for Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD), and Financial Stability Board (FSB) have announced the mobilization of $19.8 bln in economic support to Ukraine.'. ",0 +819,Foreign tourists to be allowed to enter Japan on trial basis this month 'The Japan Tourism Agency said that it would start allowing small group tours to enter from later this month as “test cases” to gain information for a broader resumption of tourism at an unspecified future date.'. ,0 +820,"Tea and infomercials: N. Korea fights COVID with few tools 'Since admitting what it called its first domestic COVID-19 outbreak one week ago, North Korea has been fighting to handle a soaring health crisis that has intensified public anxiety'. ",0 +821,"US DOT Gov: 'total number of container ships waiting for berths at U.S. ports has dropped by 47% since peaking in early February, 12% increase in imported containers. We remain focused on ensuring U.S. exporters are able to get their goods to market.'. ",0 +822,"Türkiye-U.S. Strategic Mechanism: Visit of FM Mevlüt Çavuşoğlu to the United States 17-19 May 2022. On his first day in New York, Minister Çavuşoğlu met with members of Turkish-American community. On 18 May, Minister Çavuşoğlu had a meeting with FM di Maio of Italy. ",0 +823,"Vietnam tops SEA Games 31 medal tally with 125 golds. Thailand ranked second with 53 golds, followed by the Philippines with 37. Runner Nguyen Thi Oanh obtained triple golds in the women’s 1,000m; 5,000m and 3,000m steeplechase | Culture - Sports. ",0 +824,"MERCOSUR Trade Commission approved 10 directives on ""Specific Actions in the Tariff Field for Supply Reasons"" - 'participation of the delegations of Argentina, Brazil, Paraguay, Uruguay and Bolivia'. ",0 +825,SEA Games 31: Vietnamese swimmers set record in men's freestyle relay event | Culture - Sports. ,0 +826,Jardine-Matheson: How Opium Wars Founded Hong Kong. ,0 +827,SEA Games 31 officially kicks off in Hanoi. ,0 +828,"Perfecting Japan's Seasonal Sweets Through Six Generations: These ornate sweets, meant to reflect the delicate beauty of nature, traditionally accompanied tea ceremonies. At Fukushimaya, 200 types of sweets are created throughout the year, with daffodils and camellia blossoms ushering in spring.. ",0 +829,"US and Vietnam 'Bui Huy Son, Minister Counsellor and head of Vietnam’s Trade Office in the US, said bilateral trade surpassed 100 billion USD for the first time in 2021.. economies of Vietnam and the US are complementary to each other.'. ",0 +830,"The Spectacular Chinese Tradition of Molten Iron Fireworks: Da Shuhua is a 500-year-old tradition that began in Nuanquan. Wanting a way to celebrate Chinese New Year, but unable to afford traditional fireworks, blacksmiths tossed molten iron against the walls to create beautiful showers of sparks!. ",0 +831,"Foreign companies in China face unprecedented threats, executives say 'Russia’s invasion of Ukraine, pandemic-hampered supply chains and rising US-China tensions have combined to create a ‘time of maximum risk’, one analyst says.'. ",0 +832,"'International Summit on the Teaching Profession (ISTP) will be held in Valencia on 11, 12 and 13 May, bringing together ministers, deputy ministers and secretaries of state for education'. ",0 +833,"Spain and Morocco finalise preparations in Rabat for Operation Crossing the Strait 2022 ""It is the largest mechanism of its kind in Europe and one of the most important in the world,"". ",0 +834,"Average tourist spending (in Spain, including Canary Islands visiting) in March exceeds pre-pandemic levels 'excellent employment figures that we have seen in April, and specifically in the hotel and catering sector due to the extraordinary Easter Week'. ",0 +835,G7 leaders to hold video conference with Zelenskyy on Sunday: Berlin - Times of India. ,0 +836,"At Least 30 Burundian AU Soldiers Killed in Al-Shabab Attack, Official Says. ",0 +837,The most sought after CBSE international schools in Japan - Pdf Slider. ,0 +838,"'PERTES will promote the design, development and manufacture in Spain of the electric vehicle, cutting-edge gene therapies, new green energies and technologies for the zero-emission aircraft, among other advances.'. ",0 +839,"BAE Systems, Pentagon question reports of howitzer delay for Taiwan 'BAE Systems, which manufactures the M109A6 Paladin, told Defense News it has the capacity to build the systems for Taiwan.'. ",0 +840,Erdoğan meets Guterres for talks on Ukrainian war 'Erdoğan has had several phone talks with the leaders of Ukraine and Russia in a bid to facilitate their negotiations.. will meet with President Volodymyr Zelensky on April 28.'. ,0 +841,"Vietnam, China finish joint sea patrol 'During their work, the forces conducted telephone exchange and supervised fishing vessels operating in the area.' | Politics. ",0 +842,Solomon Islands: US says lack of transparency of security pact is concerning. Wenbin said on Monday that speculation that China would build a military base in the Solomon Islands was “pure disinformation fabricated by a handful of people who harbour ulterior motives”.. ,0 +843,Laos enjoys trade surplus in three consecutive months | World. ,0 +844,Uruguay/Brazil waterway project studies submitted for financial qualification. 'Brazil and Uruguay have a great history together. They are more than sibling countries. We share more than a thousand kilometers of borders and maintain a dynamic bilateral trade'. ,0 +845,Brazil to cut Mercosur common tariff 'The idea is to cut Import Tax rates by another 10% on most products traded with countries outside the bloc.'. ,0 +846,"Ecuador - Uruguay relations, discuss agreement and cooperation: ""I believe that the economies of Uruguay and Ecuador are complementary. What Ecuador produces is not produced by Uruguay and vice versa."". ",0 +847,"Europe: Speech by President von der Leyen at the International Solar Alliance, with India but also Africa: 'here, EUR 150 billion are tailored for Africa to indeed do exactly what you said. They have an abundance of natural resources for green energy, but they need the investment. '. ",0 +848,"US established diplomatic relations with Spain in 1783. Spain and US are close allies and have excellent relations based on shared democratic values, including promotion of democracy and human rights. Spain is now fifth-largest economy in EU.. two countries have a cultural and ed cooperation.. ",0 +849,"World Music Festivals: Coachella 2022 Saturday: 68-year-old Elfman, 20-year-old Eilish make festival history. ",0 +850,Ukrainian Symbol explained.. ,0 +851,"Vietnamese, Chinese border forces step up cooperation in law enforcement. 'Both sides have made efforts to build a common border of peace, friendship and development.'. ",0 +852,Inside Ukraine's cyber guerrilla army. ,0 +853,"Nearly 300 foreign and domestic athletes competed in TRI (Triathlon) - Factor Vietnam 2022 which took place on April 10 in Vung Tau city - participation from 'Japan, Singapore, Taiwan, Canada, France, South Africa, UK, Spain, and US.'. ",0 +854,Unique Easter traditions around the world. ,0 +855,"Culture/Art: Bunpimay, Songkran, Chol Chhnam Thmay, and Thingyang - the traditional new year festivals of Laos, Thailand, Cambodia and Myanmar, were celebrated at a ceremony in Pho Minh Pagoda. ",0 +856,"Opinion | India’s policy remains independent. 'India, as a responsible world power, is trying its best to bring about a cessation of hostilities in Ukraine.'. ",0 +857,Russian forces are trying to complete preparations for an offensive operation in eastern Ukraine. The movement of Russian troops to the regions bordering Ukraine continues.. ,0 +858,Hung Kings commemoration day | Culture - Sports. ,0 +859,President offers incense in commemoration of Hung Kings. 'tens of thousands of Vietnamese people from across the country and abroad paid homage to the national founders at the temple complex.'. ,0 +860,Ghana to Invest $25 Million in Tourist Sites to Lure Visitors. ,0 +861,18 Pictures That Prove Bats Are Actually Adorable. ,0 +862,"Challenges before India's 2+2 dialogues with US and Japan. 'That leaves China as the only major power missing from India's 2+2 dialogue list..' India could 'explore the possibility of starting one with China as well, marking a new chapter in India-China relations.'. ",0 +863,US Senate and Taiwan: Taiwan FM ministry would continue to work closely with the US government to enhance the friendship between the countries and help promote peace and stability in the Indo-Pacific region. ,0 +864,"With the return of tourism activities in Africa having seen a leap in the first quarter of the year, the continent’s tourism sector is gearing itself to once again conduct business at the upcoming Africa’s Travel Indaba.. ",0 +865,World Health Day was held on April 7: Embracing Meatless Monday for improved health. ,0 +866,"Shared emotional, historical background can bring two nations closer together: Croatian Ambassador. 'Iran and Croatia have a lot of UNESCO registered sites, deep history and culture – it offers a great field for interaction.'. ",0 +867,Is it time Hong Kong allowed property deals to be completed online?. ,0 +868,"Chips, chemicals drive 74% gain in South Korean company profits - rebounds... from downturn the previous year. 'Profit rose 82% among service providers such as internet groups Naver and Kakao and game developers.'. ",0 +869,"Hong Kong stocks start to find their mojo after a year as underdogs. 'Hong Kong’s market may outrun Shanghai and Shenzhen for the first time in a year, as the Hang Seng’s 20 per cent rise since March 15 puts it back in bull-market territory'. ",0 +870,"Taiwanese Foreign Ministry said it welcomed the Biden administration's third foreign military sale to Taiwan. ""Faced with China's continued military expansion and provocations, Taiwan must fully demonstrate its high degree of determination to defend itself,"" the Foreign Ministry said.. ",0 +871,"'Since the onset of the Ukraine invasion, over 200,000 Russians have emigrated to Europe, as well as Armenia, Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan and Uzbekistan.'. ",0 +872,"The European Union will have to impose sanctions on Russian oil and gas “at some point”, Reuters has reported, citing the head of the European Council Charles Michel.. ",0 +873,"Vietnam re-affirms support for disarmament, non-proliferation of nuclear weapons. 'Nakamitsu emphasised the threat posed by nuclear weapons from the humanitarian and environmental perspective, saying that nothing could justify the use of weapons.'. ",0 +874,"Newly built Ancient Vietnamese temple commemorating Hung Kings, founders and first emperors of the nation, will be inaugurated in the Mekong Delta City of Can Tho on April 6.. ",0 +875,"US Gov approves Ocean Shipping Reform Act: co-sponsored by bipartisan group of 29 senators and endorsed by more than 100 organizations, including the American Association of Port Authorities, NITL, and National Retail Foundation. WSC says it doesn't address landside congestion.. ",0 +876,"Huawei (Asia - China) pivots to renewable energy as smartphones slump - turned to solar power and energy storage projects as its smartphone business struggles under U.S. sanctions, but the company's ability to return to growth remains uncertain.. ",0 +877,"Medicaid and ACA: enrollment is at an all-time high. Four out of five Americans can find quality coverage for under $10 a month, and families are saving an average of $2,400 on their annual premiums. ",0 +878,"China Federation of Literary and Art Circles publishes resolution on professional ethics for China's literary and art industry, entertainment. ""Resolutely resist plagiarism and making low-quality works and oppose only focusing on box office revenue and gaining attention,"" the resolution added.. ",0 +879,"Vietnam’s border provinces look to boost agricultural cooperation with China's Yunnan (Southwest CN), signed several agreements.. ",0 +880,Cómo Miami se convirtió en la 'capital de América Latina'. ,0 +881,World Tennis: Carlos Alcaraz vs Casper Ruud - Miami 2022 FINAL ● Match Preview. ,0 +882,"China supports the EU’s efforts toward a political settlement of the Ukraine issue, and has been encouraging peace talks in its own way. Peace talks are the only viable way to prevent an escalation of tensions.. ",0 +883,Chinese President Xi Jinping on Friday said China and the EU should play a constructive role in adding stabilizing factors to a turbulent world.. ,0 +884,"Top officials from China and the European Union met Friday for a virtual summit overshadowed by Russia’s war in Ukraine. “Chinese President Xi says hopes E.U. can form independent view towards China,”. ",0 +885,"Armenia Gov meets with Poland Gov. 'reiterate the readiness of the Armenian side to undertake steps towards increasing the stability in the bordering area, and then to launch the process of demarcation between Armenia and Azerbaijan.'. ",0 +886,Moscow Mulling Wholesale Border Changes in Central Eastern Europe. ,0 +887,"Four research teams powering China’s net-zero energy goal. 'Storing green energy and predicting when it might arrive are both key research areas to help China reach its carbon-neutral goals.. China installed half of all new global offshore wind farms during 2020, and last year, it overtook the UK'. ",0 +888,"Indian police arrest student for wishing peace, harmony, and unity to every nation on Pakistan Republic Day. ",0 +889,Miami and Dubai sign MoU to enhance collaboration between the two cities in various key sectors.. ,0 +890,"Taiwan, Vietnam ink MOU on trade promotion, cooperation. ",0 +891,"Iran Ready to Play Role in Settlement of Yemen Crisis. The Islamic Republic of Iran, he added, welcomes Syria’s relations with the region and Arab countries.. ",0 +892,South Korea and the UK have agreed to closely collaborate on exchanging information on how to track tax evasion by wealthy individuals. Talked about 'establishment of an income data hub must be a prerequisite for raising both welfare transparency and budget efficiency'. ,0 +893,"Yoon (Korea), Xi (China) discuss cooperation between two countries in phone call. 'Yoon stressed the two countries should cooperate for peace on the Korean Peninsula'. ",0 +894,"Your Guide to Ultra Music Festival 2022 Set Times and Livestream. Ultra Music Festival kicks off its 22nd edition with a jampacked lineup of EDM, house, techno, electro, and bass.. ",0 +895,"Day 1 of Ultra Music Festival draws thousands to Bayfront Park, as drivers face closures. ",0 +896,"""only 40% to 60% of typical acreage might be seeded this spring in Ukraine. The largest volume buyers of Ukrainian wheat are Egypt, Indonesia, Bangladesh and Pakistan."". ",0 +897,"Ukraine | Wheat, War and History ' In western Europe and the US, wheat is unlikely to be in short supply. Ukraine’s grain exports mostly went to countries in the Middle East'. ",0 +898,"Syria’s Assad visits UAE, 1st trip to Arab country since war. Syria badly needs to boost relations with oil-rich countries as its economy is being strangled by crippling Western sanctions and as it faces the task of post-war reconstruction.. ",0 +899,Biden administration formally determines Myanmar's military committed genocide. ,0 +900,Thailand and Bangladesh Govs discussed ways to strengthen trade and investment cooperation. ,0 +901,Holi 2022: India celebrates festival of colours as Covid cases dip. ,0 +902,China wraps up its most successful Winter Paralympics ever. ,0 +903,Metropolitan Opera holds special benefit concert for Ukraine. ,0 +904,"''A [Mariupol-bound] humanitarian aid convoy with medicines and water remains blocked in the city of Berdiansk. Today, almost 150 cars managed to leave Mariupol via the same route,"". ",0 +905,"TWICE US Tour and 18,000 TWICE fans Concert review: 'It's the last night of the K-pop girl group's U.S. leg of their 4th World Tour III, officially completing seven concerts in five cities'. ",0 +906,JPMorgan joins Goldman Sachs in pulling back from Russia. ,0 +907,Goldman Sachs Will Be Wall Street's First Bank to Exit Russia. ,0 +908,"China Gov: 'We note that this is highest-level meeting between two sides since conflict broke out between Russia and Ukraine. We hope relevant parties can meet each other halfway on the principle of mutual respect, sit down for serious negotiations and make positive efforts'. ",0 +909,"Turkish FM Cavusoglu's full speech, after talks with Ukrainian, Russian counterparts: Zelenskyy says he's willing to meet with Putin. ",0 +910,"""In Korea, we tend to switch administrations from conservative to liberal -- it goes back and forth. But I wish there could be a president from a neutral position. I wish that kind of thing could happen in Korea."". ",0 +911,"Russia, Belarus squarely in 'default territory' on billions in debt - World Bank. ",0 +912,"Ukraine Gov: Humanitarian corridors managed to evacuate about 48 thousand civilians of Sumy, Energodar and Kyiv region. ""Everyone is safe now. Thank you for the work of a really cool team that does this,"" Tymoshenko said, especially noting the drivers who take people out.. ",0 +913,"EU imposes (additional) restrictive measures on 160 individuals as a consequence of Russia’s military aggression against Ukraine, 'oligarchs involved in the oil, gas, banking, media and transport sectors' and 146 members of the Russian Federation Council. ",0 +914,U.K. Foreign Secretary Elizabeth Truss at the State Department with United States Secretary. ,0 +915,North America extended its dominance for artificial intelligence (AI) hiring among ship industry companies in the three months ending January.. number of roles in NA made up 66.8 per cent of total AI jobs – up from 53 per cent in the same quarter in 2020.. ,0 +916,Ethiopian Air Force carry more airstrikes killing hundreds of civilians (accumulated over the last few months) in Tigray region (Northeast Africa). ,0 +917,"Ukraine war: Russia has become the world's most sanctioned country, more than Iran, Venezuela, Myanmar, and Cuba combined, but new data suggests the UK falls short. 'more than half of the 5,356 economic sanctions on Russian entities and individuals have been introduced in the last two weeks.'. ",0 +918,"Unlike US, European leaders oppose banning Russian energy imports. ""We have got to make sure we have substitute supply. One of the things we are looking at is the possibility of using more of our own hydrocarbons,"" Johnson said. ",0 +919,"Fourth round of talks with Ukraine due in Belarus shortly. 'these are voluminous documents. Undoubtedly, work on these documents will be continued in the near future. So, the next, fourth, round will be held in Belarus shortly'. ",0 +920,"President Russia Putin: 'despite the “ceasefire regime” announced by the Russian side on March 5 in order to allow civilians and foreign nationals to leave Mariupol and Volnovakha, Ukrainian nationalists have prevented any and all evacuation from these cities'. ",0 +921,"India Gov on Ukraine evac: 'Today there'll be 13 flights.. two and a half thousand a little less will come up. that leaves another 1500 plus which will be coming in tomorrow’s flights, they'll come out.. then (tomorrow) we will only be looking at largely the Sumy, Kharkiv, Pisochyn group.'. ",0 +922,"Israel: ""Today, the Ministry of Foreign Affairs established the Matat (Donation and Coordination Center) to centralize and coordinate humanitarian aid and Israeli civil society donations to the Ukrainian people,"". ",0 +923,Italian police have seized villas and yachts worth 143 million euros ($156 million) from five high-profile Russians. ,0 +924,Consumer Sentiment Reaches Its Worst Level in a Decade: How to Cope With Rising Prices. ,0 +925,Elon Musk Says SpaceX’s Satellite Service Won’t Block Russian News Sources. “Sorry to be a free speech absolutist.” he said.. ,0 +926,"Ukraine grain export disruption would effect China, Egypt, and Indonesia the most, with China at 1855 USD mln. Then Spain, Netherlands, and North Africa.. ",0 +927,"Vietnam-Cambodia Friendship Year 2022: 'the de-devolution of the Vietnam-Cambodia land border will be completed soon, the land border between the two countries will continue to be firmly strengthened, peace, stability and development.'. ",0 +928,"World Bank Chairman David Malpass: The World Bank is ready to effectively and powerfully support Ukraine, which is important for overcoming the consequences of Russian aggression. ""There is a dialogue with financial partners,"". ",0 +929,#StandWithUkraine sign the petition to close the air over UKRAINE. [https://www.openpetition.eu/petition/online/people-around-the-world-ask-nato-to-close-the-airspace-over-ukraine](https://www.openpetition.eu/petition/online/people-around-the-world-ask-nato-to-close-the-airspace-over-ukraine),0 +930,"EU Cuts Russian Banks from SWIFT, Bans RT, Sputnik. ",0 +931,"ICC proceeds with war crimes inquiry in Ukraine. 'Statement of ICC Prosecutor, Karim A.A. Khan QC, on the Situation in Ukraine: Receipt of Referrals from 39 States Parties and the Opening of an Investigation'. ",0 +932,"Chair of African Union: 'call on the Russian Federation and any other regional or international actor to imperatively respect international law, the territorial integrity and national sovereignty of Ukraine.'. ",0 +933,US President Joe Biden – State of the Union Address 2022. ,0 +934,"IMF and World Bank are preparing large-scale support packages for Ukraine. ""Our institutions are working together to support Ukraine on the financial and political fronts, and are urgently increasing this support."". ",0 +935,"First captive exchange takes place between Russia and Ukraine, report from UNIAN. Five Ukrainian soldiers were exchanged for one Russian military police officer.. ",0 +936,'I love Mardi Gras:' Carnival spirit takes over New Orleans (in US). ,0 +937,"China Gov: 'China is ready to play a constructive role in easing the situation in Ukraine. We will release relevant information in due course.. seek political settlement that accommodates both sides’ legitimate security concerns, achieves common security in Europe'. ",0 +938,"Thailand and Laos have agreed to soon reopen cross-border checkpoints, 'asked Lao government to consider developing R12 route connecting the borders of Thailand, Laos and Vietnam, which would benefit local communities, Mr Thanakorn said.'. ",0 +939,Scholarships. ,0 +940,"New Delhi has failed to evolve a strategy to counter China, nor has it even issued a White Paper to explain the dimensions of this challenge to Parliament and the public. ",0 +941,"On February 11, Universal Music Group announced through Billboard that they were expanding their partnership with JYPE (TWICE, Itzy, and Stray Kids).. ",0 +942,"Marketplace suspends most NFT sales, citing rampant fakes and plagiarism. ",0 +943,Cambodia: Khmer Times: Ministry of Culture calls on young people to celebrate Valentine's Day in accordance with Cambodian traditions.. ,0 +944,"Lunar eclipses called Blood Moon Tetrads by NASA have coincided/signaled significant events on earth throughout history, with recent Tetrads recognized as some of the most significant in all of history, helping make sense of the times we are living in and indicating what is soon ahead.. ",0 +945,"Kep1er’s EP has set the record for highest-selling album of a rookie girl group with some 200,000 copies sold in the first week of the album's drop. Comprised of nine members.. Xiaoting is Chinese, Mashiro and Hikaru are Japanese and Huening Bahiyyih is Korean-American.. ",0 +946,"‘Shame on Zhu Yi’: says Chinese fans. “Please let her learn Chinese first, before she talks about patriotism,” one Weibo user said. Born in Los Angeles to a Chinese immigrant family, she reportedly came close to opting to represent the US, but gave up her American citizenship to represent China. ",0 +947,"US Senate version of Ocean Shipping Reform Act introduced. “goal is to have bill introduced quickly and marked up by Senate Commerce so they have own bill to conference with House bill,” executive said. 'bill places disciplines on ocean carriers’ ability to decline export cargo..'. ",0 +948,"Iran and Azerbaijan approve new bridge over Astarachay River on the border between Iran and Azerbaijan which will connect Iran to the Caucasus, Russia and North Europe. ",0 +949,Taiwan bolsters military over fears of possible China attack. This has forced Taiwan to double down on modernising its own military. | DW News. ,0 +950,"Nigeria is looking to Europe for funding to complete infrastructure projects such as railways, with senior official saying Chinese loans are drying up.. says ‘stuck with lots of our projects because we cannot get money’ from China.. ",0 +951,"Korea's Presidential front-runners clash over security in first TV debate. They discussed who they would meet with first between US, China, Japan and North Korea and how to balance the relationships.. ",0 +952,"CN President Jinping Held Talks with Russian President Putin, agreed to 'deepen cooperation in agriculture, green trade, medicine, health, digital economy, and enhance transport infrastructure connectivity to keep logistics on Eurasian continent smooth.. global industrial and supply chains stable'. ",0 +953,AP News - China's pandemic Olympics begins. ,0 +954,Beijing 2022 Winter Olympics Top Moment of the Day – 4 February: The Olympic flame reaches its final destination in stunning Opening Ceremony finale. ,0 +955,"The Olympic Winter Games Beijing 2022 are OPEN! Tomorrow ( Saturday, 5 February) will see events held in biathlon, curling, freestyle skiing, luge, short track speed skating, ski jumping, snowboard and short track speed skating!. ",0 +956,"The Chinese stars set to shine in the Beijing Olympics 2022. 'From two-time freeski world champion Ailing (Eileen) Gu, to defending short track speed skating gold medallist Wu Dajing, the hosts have a golden crop of athletes ready to impress. Don't forget previous medallists Sui Wenjing / Han Cong'. ",0 +957,Watch video. ,0 +958,India's government’s spending on Social Services increased significantly during pandemic.. 'An increase of 9.8% has been made in expenditure allocation to Social Services sector in 2021-22 over 2020-21.'. ,0 +959,"Do you find it hypocritical that just because the world is united does not mean that everyone can get along together?. USA and it's allies won to achieve today's future but at the same time people are hypocritical as to why they can't get along. Just because you are the race of the allies that won the previous world wars does not mean you can be friends with them. Identity is just a construct to fight against each other for their selfish beliefs and serve as the means to get what you want in the end. Democracy is a lie and serves to control today's population through propaganda and brainwashing. + +In the end, there is no such thing as USA for example, it is an imperialist superpower hellbent on dominating the world through capitalism and colonialism rooted from the old days of America's racism.",0 +960,"Poland and Ukraine agreed to lift restrictions on transit of freight cars through Ukraine to Poland by rail.. agreed to develop a joint action plan aimed at significantly improving efficiency of international road checkpoints, cooperate with Naftogaz.. ",0 +961,"American Farmers are experiencing real estate boom that makes residential prices pale in comparison. 'even if Frank's life hasn't changed, the several hundred acres he owns about 80 miles northwest of Des Moines have suddenly made him worth millions of dollars.'. ",0 +962,"Iran, Azerbaijan, Turkey to hold trilateral meeting in Tehran, Trend reports citing the ministry.. ",0 +963,President Sargsyan resigns. ,0 +964,"Where To Celebrate Lunar New Year 2022 In Miami Florida: 'Almost two billion people celebrate the Lunar New Year across the globe. It is an important cultural celebration in Asia and among the Chinese, Vietnamese and Korean diasporas who live in different parts of the world.'. ",0 +965,"Security scanners across Europe tied to China govt, military: Nuctech has been frozen out of the U.S. for years due to national security concerns, but it has made deep inroads across Europe, installing its devices in 26 of 27 EU member states. ",0 +966,"Chinese FM pledges to strengthen coordination, cooperation with Burkina Faso. Wang made the remarks when meeting with Burkina Faso's Foreign Minister Alpha Barry on the sidelines of the 8th Ministerial Conference of the Forum on China-Africa Cooperation.. ",0 +967,"UK Foreign Secretary Elizabeth Truss voiced on Friday her full support for embattled Prime Minister Boris Johnson, saying he was doing a fantastic job and there was no contest for the leadership.. ",0 +968,"In Singapore, Lunar New Year Is a Multicultural Feast. ",0 +969,The EU’s unforgivable failure. ,0 +970,"Ukraine - Prime Minister: Our goal this year is to make the industrial park work in every region of Ukraine. 'According to the Prime Minister, Ukraine is actively cooperating with European alliances, including Critical Raw Materials Alliance and the European Battery Alliance'. ",0 +971,"Adult knowledge on recycling electronic devices (ages 18+). Hello! I am a research student researching adult’s knowledge on recycling electronic devices. I would appreciate it if you would take my survey. Thank you! + +https://forms.gle/UkpZ4WSNkLiffohP8",0 +972,"EAM Jaishankar meets his Brazil, Argentina, Japan counterparts to discuss ties, COVID. ",0 +973,"Top scientists say Africa may have reached a less threatening phase of COVID : NPR: 'We've come to a point where at least three quarters - and now after omicron, probably 80% of South Africans have developed immunity and at least protection against severe disease and death.'. ",0 +974,Germany gov: 'We call on parties to the conflict in Yemen to work constructively towards a political solution to the conflict.. German Government will continue to support the Special Envoy’s work both financially and politically.'. ,0 +975,Three Iranian diplomats have recently arrived in Saudi city of Jeddah to represent Islamic Republic in Organization of Islamic Cooperation (OIC). 'President Raeisi emphasized neighbors are prioritized in his government’s foreign policy and announced readiness to resolve issues with Saudi Arabia'. ,0 +976,"UAE gov and Saudi launch airstrikes on Houthis (in Yemen) after deadly Houthi drone strike in Abu Dhabi. ""UAE authorities are dealing transparently and responsibly with the heinous Houthi attack on some civilian facilities in Abu Dhabi,"" said Anwar Gargash, diplomatic adviser to the UAE leadership.. ",0 +977,"Shares of Macau (China, west of HK) top casino operators racked up as much as $8.42 billion on Monday, Sands China jumps most in over 10 years. U.S. casino operators gained as much as $5.55 bln in market value.. ",0 +978,Daily virus cases in Russia double as omicron spreads | AP News. ,0 +979,"Endemic Covid: Is the pandemic entering its endgame? ""We're almost there, it is now the beginning of the end, at least in the UK,"" Prof Hiscox, chairman in infection and global health at University of Liverpool.. ",0 +980,"FM's of China and Iran met on Friday to announce that a 25-year cooperation deal between the two countries had been launched. 'cooperation deal.. builds a partnership between two countries in areas like health care, infrastructure, cybersecurity and agriculture' Reuters reported.. ",0 +981,"Turkmenistan and Afghanistan meet for Turkmen-Afghan negotiations aimed at expansion of multifaceted effective partnership, 'discuss regional security, Turkmenistan-Afghanistan-Pakistan-India gas pipeline and construction of a railway from Turkmenistan to Afghanistan'. ",0 +982,"Tsunami advisory in effect for U.S. West Coast after volcanic eruption. 'A tsunami advisory is in effect for the following areas stretching from southern California to Alaska, according to the warning center'. ",0 +983,I had a hair transplant. Ask me anything!. ,0 +984,"DONT BUY FUNCTION OF BEAUTY - SCAM. Guys, the function of beauty is literally such a scam, I canceled their subscription a while back and recently checked my bank account and saw that they charged me $88, I was like wtf and then I quickly logged into my account and saw that somehow my subscription was back on and they charged me $88 for shampoo and conditioner. I emailed them, and they didn't even get back to me. Such a scam. + +Ps. This happened to me once before! + +UPDATE: They emailed me back saying "" The issue has been marked resolved"" and that's it. But nothing was resolved because my money wasn't paid back, neither did they state what exactly was resolved. What a load of bull. ",0 +985,Wedding hairstyle help! How to do this? SIL wants me to do this for her wedding in August. ,0 +986,Look what finally came back in Stock 😊. These two are the best,0 +987,"how do I politely ask for only a black person to do my hair. (whitef) read description please!. White female here with super coarse frizzy hair, even at its healthiest ill alway have this texture and I've learned how to manage it and style it. My entrie family has this exact same hair and I literally always feel so humiliated when I try new salons with only white hair dressers. I used to go to jcpennys little haircut place when I finally found a black woman that knew what she was doing. I need another black lady to be my hair lady and i have no clue how I should approach this and too shy to go Into an all black salon",0 +988,"Is there any scientific evidence whatsoever that towel drying hair is really damaging besides some beauty/media/social media articles or marketing stunt for certain products?. So I’ve always towel dried my hair and the only damage I received was when 1) my sister bleached my hair and no toner was used when I was 16 (I was her guinea pig while she was going to cosmetology school) and 2) I used a certain hair product that caused me to have hair loss between the ages of 24 through 26. Currently 31, my hair hasn’t changed. I mean, it’s frizzy, but it’s always been since I was a child. Now all I see on social media and articles saying “you’re doing it wrong” regarding drying your hair. I tried the cotton t shirt thing once and saw no difference other than it took about 10 times longer to dry. I searched and searched for a reputable scientific source that studied the effects towel drying the hair causes. But all I found are beauty articles, media articles, social media threads of “this celeb is doing this and that’s why their hair looks FAB!”. One UK article said a “beauty specialist said this and that” but they’re unnamed. Hmm… + +I dunno. I was just curious if anyone else has ever gone into the deep dive of curiosity of who said it. Does it truly make a difference to anyone or is this just a trend/fad of the current generation. + +Edit to add: +Ok, so my dumbass bilingual self misunderstood what towel dry means. If I’m understanding correctly now, it’s the action of vigorously rubbing the hair with the towel. In my mind, or more so what I thought it meant, was to wrap your hair into the towel and flip it over to hold it up. That’s how I do mine, then once it’s rid of excess water, I remove it and apply anti frizz oil while still semi wet then leave it to air dry the rest of the way.",0 +989,"Myths and this subreddit. Since we are here to largely share advice with each other, I think its in everyones best interest to have a baseline of what is fact and what is myth. + +Giving advice on or requesting advice on products for the hair only (brands, masks, leave ins, conditioners, treatments, dyes, ect.) is something we can all use our anecdotal experiences for in discussion. However, when we get into trying to diagnose each other at the root (literally) of the issue, it can get higher stakes. Hair is connected to the scalp, and the scalp is skin. The scalp is no joke! + +Myths often seen on this sub: + +\-**Washing the hair everyday is generally bad** Quite the opposite. If we neglect to maintain our scalp hygiene, we can develop various scalp conditions and even lead to more hairfall due to not properly cleansing. + +\-**Sufates and Silicones are bad** No. Some people don't like how sulfates and silicones feel or work on their own hair, but that does not make them harmful. ""Sulfate Free"" took off as a marketing hot take, and many people have suffered as a result of it. *Everyone is different.* If you feel your hair is super oily and never feels clean, you are likely not a good candidate for trying sulfate free shampoos. If your scalp is over dried by sulfates and you find sulfate free formulas are better for you, use sulfate free formulas. But do not blanketly recommend someone go sulfate free. + +\-**Mainstream products have too many chemicals** Products are developed using science (by cosmetic chemists) Being phobic against chemistry in the cosmetics industry ultimately boils down to pseudoscience. A perfect example: Tea tree oil (""natural"") can burn someones skin if not properly diluted. Tresemme shampoo cannot burn the skin, even though they are in the middle of a lawsuit. (i also encourage you to look into that lawsuit and the myths behind it) + +\-**""Hair training"" will help you with oil production** For the love of god please do some research before perpetuating this myth. It could lead to serious scalp issues. We cannot control our oil production, we can only change how it appears or feels on our hair/skin. + +\-**Sulfate shampoos are ""harsher"" than other shampoos** Even if a shampoo has 2 types of SLS, it can still be less harsh than a shampoo that is marketed sulfate free that replaces sulfates with alcohols and different forms of salt. + +\-**Natural products are healthier and safer for the hair** Not necessarily. There are harmful ingredients that are ""natural"" that could cause reactions if used in a formula without proper testing. + +\-**Itchy scalp means you are using too harsh of a shampoo** Ultimately, we are not doctors, and we cannot know for sure why someones scalp is itching! Please keep in mind that: + +1. Medicated shampoos are formulated through science based research, and they are recommended by dermatologists for a reason. +2. If you have an itchy scalp and head & shoulders from the drugstore works for that, *continue using it.* +3. Shampoo is for the scalp, not the ends. If you are concerned with hair dryness, use more conditioner on your ends or other treatments that help with the look of your hair. Don't neglect your scalp over it. +4. Above all- Do NOT ignore your scalp issues. **See a doctor if you have a chronically itchy scalp, don't ask us what to do about it.** Trust me. If you cant see a doctor (even an urgent care will do) try medicated shampoos that are either anti fungal or anti dandruff. If those make it worse, look into what can help a dry scalp and ***what is safe to use on the scalp.*** (Funny story, one time I gave myself a scalp condition from a DIY apple cider vinegar rinse.) + +\-**Dandruff is dry scalp** Dry scalp is just dry scalp, and causes tiny white flakes with barely any oil or sebum. Dandruff appears to be larger oily flakes, and usually happens to people with oily scalps. It is caused by a yeastlike fungus (malassezia) that feeds off our scalp's natural sebum. This yeast can lead to other scalp conditions, so it's important to see a doctor if you have irritation, itchiness, or really any chronic scalp concerns. Neglecting the scalp can do serious damage to the hair, which is not what any of us are after since we are on a sub for haircare! + +​ + +This is all just something to keep in mind. Please make sure you have confirmed something is not a myth when you offer it as advice. It makes everyones life easier! + +​ + +Bonus: (This one is not that important) **""I'm a guy and I need a shampoo recommendation""** Okay? Whats your hair type, how long is it, is it color treated? What are your concerns, what is your price range? Literally anyone can use any product!",0 +990,Share to save a life! [PSA] Rogaine/Minoxidil can KILL YOUR CAT.. ,0 +991,"How to use Coconut Oil. Hi, I am from south India so I have literally grown up with coconut oil. We use it in our cooking, our beauty routines, and even sometimes as a medicine. That is probably the only smell that can make me happy and home sick at the same time. + +My paternal grandmother had been using coconut oil all her life. She had beautiful silver waist length hair at the age of 85, so I think it really worked. Let me tell you how we generally use it. Coconut oil is generally used in the liquid state. so take a few tablespoons full (i use about 5 tablespoons for my mid-back length hair), and heat it in a container. you don't need to make it too hot- it shouldnt be too hot to touch. + +Now start by parting your hair and dip your fingers into the oil and apply it onto the roots. Cover your entire scalp- all the while rubbing it in well so its absorbed. Once you are done, use the rest of the oil for your hair and the tips. If you still have something left- use it for your body- coconut oil is a great moisturizer. Leave it in your hair for 30-45 minutes, and shampoo it off. I usually have to shampoo it twice as my hair is very fine and shows any oil residue. You can then condition and style as usual. You need to do this atleast once a week for effective results. + +Bonus tip- you can make your own coconut oil combinations with aloe vera and other herbs. My mom makes batches of aloe vera coconut oil and it has really improved the health of my hair. + +Hope this helps!",0 +992,"PSA: Wearing tight buns will make your hair fall out.. Please do not wear tight buns for convenience or use buns as your regular style unless loosely with a bun clip, scrunchy, bobby pins or cage. If you just want it out of the way, use a hairnet. Please do not sleep with a bun in. Safety first people, safety first.",0 +993,"My boyfriend is white and I want to do his hair, but I have no idea how.. I (f18), have a boyfriend. He is white and I am African American. I have no idea how to do his hair. I wanted to moisturize his hair, but his hair is too thin for my kind of moisturizer obviously. But, I have no idea what to use. Everything now seems too thick for his hair. And I want to make sure he is nice and taken care of. He’s a man, so of course he doesn’t take care of his hair really, but of course he wants to grow it out. I have no idea how to style or do his hair and I want to learn how. I care deeply about him and this is my love language. I love taking care of him, as I’m doing spa days for him and have his skin glowing. So, now I want to move on to the hair. His hair is thin and long. It curls a bit when it’s humid, I want to know how to make his hair curl more if it can without the humidity. And maybe if I can add more volume to his hair? Any hair styles for men with long hair? Is that possible? I’d love some hair care tips for white hair. + +Thanks!",0 +994,"I want my hair shaved, family hates it short. Im a 22 year old woman with short hair. I've always had long hair, and the shortest length I was allowed was to my shoulders. When I hit 20, I was finally allowed the option to go shorter, so I got my sides and backside shaved. It was what I wanted since I was 17. I asked about getting it shaved again a few months ago and was told no and that it looks ugly. I had alot of negative comments about the short hair, and it really killed my confidence and how I saw myself. Now that it's summer, it's extremely hot. I have thick hair, so you combine that with the 100° weather..not a pleasant experience. I was holding my hair up outside and a family member told me if my hair was longer, I could put it in a ponytail. They made another negative comment towards my short hair. I HATE my hair long. I love it short. That is what I want. But all these comments about my short hair get to me so bad that I haven't done anything with it and just let it grow even though I hate it.",0 +995,"My hair is getting too thick and hard to manage, but I kinda like the way it looks, should I get a haircut or not? Thanks❤️❤️. ",0 +996,"Why?. ""A picture is worth than a thousand words."" + +Genuinely curious, why does a subreddit that is specifically tailored towards hair care, not have the option to make IMAGE POSTS? You can only describe your hair so in depth to others, but nobody's hair is the same. I came to this subreddit to finally get some help with my wacky hair but my hope is immensely diminished now considering I cant even post an image. :(",0 +997,"I got a new hair brush and it absolutely changed my hair!. I’m not even doing anything different. I use the same shampoo and conditioner I’ve been using for over a year, the same leave in conditioner, the same vitamin e oil. I’ve had the same crappy plastic hairbrush for nearly a decade. Honestly, I just didn’t know you were supposed to replace them more frequently! Growing up, we got a new hairbrush if the current one was literally falling apart. I got a bamboo brush and a boars hair bristle brush, I’ve only been using it for ~2 weeks and my hair is shinier, healthier, smoother, and so soft. My frizz has decreased, my scalp is far less itchy, my hair is just overall beautiful. I’ve never really liked my long hair until now! It’s just so healthy and such a confidence boost!",0 +998,I need advice for detangling this knot. ,0 +999,"Help! I accidentally used 99% coconut oil African deep conditioner that’s basically like Vaseline ALL over my thick, curly hair down to my waist.. So far I’ve dried half a bottle of dish soap, half a bottle of clarifying shampoo, and NOTHING. I was super stoned when I bought it, it was cheap and on sale. I usually buy hair products for black hair, because my hair is so thick and coarse. Well this stuff said to use a little bit, I applied it like regular conditioner and NOTHING I do is washing it out. It’s so heavy and so much hair has fallen out from trying to wash/brush it out. I’m terrified I’ll have to shave my head.",0 +1000,"How do I nicely tell my stylist we’ve missed the mark on the last few appointments?. I loooove my hair stylist. Being seeing her for 3 years. Her prices are fair and she is a wizard with my hair. The first stylist in several years who has actually given me looks I like. + +However, the last 3 visits we missed the mark. I sent her reference pictures and communicated in person yet my hair came out with no resemblance to the reference pictures. + +On my last visit (where we were fixing a look she did that I wasn’t super keen on), I sent her a picture of myself with a style she’d done almost a year prior, so I felt confident in the chair knowing she’d done this color job for me before. Again, the end result was not what I referenced. + +How do I put in nice terms that I haven’t been receiving the looks I’ve wanted? I want to continue my relationship with her and don’t want to come off as an unhappy client, but as of right now I am an unhappy client. Thanks in advance if you have any solid advice.",0 +1001,"How do people wash their hair once a week but go to the gym daily?. I keep seeing people talk about taking care of their hair and how they only wash it once a week. But they still work out? So my question to all is, do you guys sweat, let it air dry and keep It sweaty? What do you do if you have oily hair? Any tips?",0 +1002,"How Often Should I Shampoo?. As a stylist, the most frequent question I get is “how often should I shampoo?”. My response always is ""first and foremost, it's important to know how to shampoo properly so when you do, it counts"".  From how shampoo works to the most common ingredients, I answer all of your shampoo-related questions below.  + +(This is the entire text from my [original blog](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-how-often-should-i-shampoo.html)) + +**How does shampoo work?** ​ + +You can think of the active ingredient in shampoo as being within [two categories](https://www.nycoproducts.com/resources/blog/simple-science-the-difference-between-soap-and-detergent/): (1) non-detergents (soap) and (2) detergents. Non-detergents are made from natural ingredients and act as an emulsifier for oil and water. This makes it easier to rinse impurities away when it's washed out. Detergents are synthetic, man-made chemicals with active agents (wetting agents) capable of lowering the surface tension of a liquid. These are known as [surfactants](https://www.hairstory.com/blog/everything-you-need-to-know-about-detergent/), and they do this by having a hydrophilic ""head"" and a hydrophobic ""tail"", which essentially allows the shampoo to stick to oils and dirt in your hair. Those oils and dirt are then swept away when washed out. Another way to understand the difference between non-detergents and detergents: the former will leave a residue behind while the latter will not.[ ](https://www.hairstory.com/blog/everything-you-need-to-know-about-detergent/)[Simplifying Hair Products II](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-simplifying-hair-products-ii.html) breaks down the purpose of other ingredients you'll find in shampoos to make them effective and pourable (i.e. the opposite of powered shampoos that are becoming more popular).  + +**How often should I shampoo?** + +​Some hair types will need to shampoo daily and others only need to wash once every ten days or so. Preference also plays a role here depending if you're trying to achieve a sleek look or a voluminous one. Shampooing less will condense your hair over time and allow it to hold more oils, which shampooing more will remove oils and promote a fuller look. Think about the following factors as you keep reading through this post, and check out [Post-Workout Hair](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-post-workout-hair.html) to learn more tips and tricks for managing your hair with a busy life. + +*Your hair's density* + +* ​*Fine:* Needs to be washed daily, particularly if you have skin that is more oily. People with this hair type often feel that their hair looks too flat if they try to style it without washing and drying it first.  +* *Thick:* Can be washed anywhere from once every three days to once every ten days. People with this hair type often feel that their hair looks too voluminous or puffy if they wash too frequently. Thick hair also takes longer to blow dry and style, making it a nightmare to wash daily because of the amount of time it adds to your routine.  + +*Your hair's condition/damage* + +* ​*Fine:* If your hair is breaking due to damage you should try to shampoo less - every other day to every three days. Giving your hair a break from washing and styling can help with mitigating damage. Use shampoos and conditioners that are moisturizing, even if they give a flatter look then you like.  +* *Thick:* Damage to thicker hair shows more prominently because there is more of it. Straight hair will often appear to have many flyaways, while on curlier hair damage can be easier to hide. Since your styling routine is already longer because of how much hair you have, avoiding a full wash and blow dry (i.e. heat) for as long as possible can help with mitigating damage.  + +*The type of shampoo and conditioner you use* + +* *Fine:* If you aren't worried about damage, look for a volumizing shampoo and conditioner for day-to-day use. Clarifying shampoos will help strip extra oil from your hair, but should only be used once a week alongside a shampoo made for daily use. Avoid clarifying shampoos if your hair is damaged.  +* *Thick:* Look for moisturizing and hydrating shampoos to counteract your volume. [Co-washes](https://www.cosmopolitan.com/style-beauty/beauty/news/a56230/co-washing-benefits/) are also a great option for curlier hair, and can be used more frequently since they are a combination of shampoo and conditioner. They're a great option if you need to wash more because of your workout schedule or job. ​ + +*Your Scalp*​​ + +Your scalp is an important part of figuring out how, and how much, to shampoo. This takes trial and error, plus may change over time. Generally, you should wash as often as your scalp can handle it because, like the rest of your skin, it is constantly shedding  cells. + +However, keep in mind that washing your hair has no effect on the amount of oil produced by your sebaceous glands. This depends on hormonal and genetic factors, and the glands have no way of responding to oils on the surface of your scalp. The theory that you could ""train"" your scalp to be less oily was disproven in 1982 by [Kligman and Shelley](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/13525782/). + +If you're trying to avoid washing more frequently, then use a mixed boars bristle brush (BBB) to manipulate the scalp and softly remove cell build up. The Reddit page [No-Poo/Natural Hair](https://www.reddit.com/r/NoPoo/) is a good resource for advice on maintaining your scalp when shampooing less frequently. ​ + +* *Signs you may be washing too much:* a scalp that feels dry or tight +* *Signs you may not be washing enough:* ​excessive product/oil build up​ + +**What is the proper way to shampoo?**  + +To help the shampoo work, emulsify it in your hands before applying. Start applying in at the back of your head, ending at the crown. Take around a minute to apply it. Similar to washing your hands, shampoo takes a few seconds to lift the oils and dirt. + +* *When you're looking for volume:* Pay attention to the sides and back of your head when shampooing and rinsing, as these areas are commonly missed. For thicker hair, consider washing (or rinsing) in two sections. If you've gone 3+ days without washing, shampooing twice also makes sense. +* *When you're looking to smooth/leave natural oils behind:* Generally, use a minimal amount of shampoo and rinse it out fairly quickly. Try conditioning your hair first, then shampooing and conditioning again. See the ""volume"" bullet above if you feel like you need a deep clean. This is helpful but not always necessary. + +**Shampoo Ingredients** + +Many people search for shampoo via the phrase ""shampoo without chemicals"". Technically, if the shampoo has water in it this will count as a chemical, so a better approach is to search for shampoos via ingredients. I've given you a list to consider below.  + +*Shampoo Without Silicone* + +Soluble silicone formulas can be washed out with gentler shampoos and conditioners that don't contain surfactants, and are capable of achieving the same results as non-soluble silicones. Common names on the bottle include: + +* *Non-solu​ble:* Dimethicone, Cyclomethicone, Amodimethicone, Pheryl trimethicone, Ceteraryl methicone, Dimethiconol, Stearyl dimethicone, Amodimethicone (non-soluble when Trideceth-12 and Cetrimonium Chloride are absent) +* ​*Soluble:* Cyclomethicone, Dimethicone copolyol, Lauryl methicone copolyol, any silicone with PEG as a prefix + +*​Shampoo Without Sulfate and SLS* + +As a rule of thumb, ingredients like Ammonium lauryl sulfate and Ammonium laureth sulfate tend to be easier on sensitive scalps than Sodium lauryl sulfate. To learn more about surfactants, check out [Simplifying Hair Products II](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-simplifying-hair-products-ii.html).  + +*Shampoo Without Parabens*​ + +Most water based shampoos contain preservatives because without them they  will eventually grow mold or bacteria. Parabens are a type of preservative that are commonly used in hair products. According to The FDA ""scientists continue to review published studies on the safety of parabens. At this time, we do not have information showing that parabens, as they are used in cosmetics, have an effect on human health"" (Source: [FDA, Parabens in Cosmetics](https://www.fda.gov/cosmetics/cosmetic-ingredients/parabens-cosmetics)). They're usually easy to spot on the bottle because they end in the word ""paraben"". Common non-paraben preservatives are shown in the list below. To learn more about parabens, check out this article published by Cosmopolitan: [Wait, What Actually Are Parabens and Should You Avoid Them? ](https://www.cosmopolitan.com/style-beauty/beauty/a28662211/what-are-parabens/) + +* [*Common names on the bottle:* Midazolidinyl urea, Iodopropynyl, Isothiazolinone, and Sodium benzoate](https://www.cosmopolitan.com/style-beauty/beauty/a28662211/what-are-parabens/) + +*Shampoo Without Salt* + +[Sodium chloride](https://nutrafol.com/blog/15-shampoo-ingredients-to-avoid/) is another name for salt. It's used in shampoo and conditioner mainly to make the consistency thicker. A trend of ""salt shampoos"" has also been seen, where the benefits include being used as a [scrub](https://www.byrdie.com/what-are-salt-shampoos) for the scalp, plus being gentler on the environment. This has may have been influenced by the idea of adding [salt or sea water ](https://www.gourmandize.com/article-6582-put-salt-in-your-shampoo-to-solve-your-worst-hair-problems.htm)to your current shampoo. I wouldn't recommend adding sea water to your shampoo, as this could potentially generate bacteria and mold in your products over time.  + +**Shampoo/Ingredients For Hair Care Concerns** + +*Hair Loss* + +For assisting with hair loss, there are DHT-blocking shampoos plus ones with ingredients that help with inflammation. Saw palmetto, also known as [Serenoa](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/039463201202500435), naturally lowers the conversion of testosterone into Dihydrotestosterone (DHT). DHT is a sex hormone that contributes to human developments such as body hair, but it can also make you lose your hair faster and earlier. If you're experiencing any type of hair loss, the first place to start is with a doctor. You don't want to try different shampoos only to later find out a doctor would have pointed you in a different direction.  + +*Hair Growth* + +Shampoos with biotin are frequently marketed as being helpful for hair growth. It is also commonly added to shampoos claiming to reduce hair loss, but there is no [evidence](https://www.webmd.com/connect-to-care/hair-loss/does-biotin-really-prevent-hair-loss) that it prevents this. Consuming foods rich in healthy vitamins and minerals will help with overall hair health. + +*Dry Scalp* + +Some contributing factors to a dry or itchy scalp can't be solved with a shampoo. However, certain ingredients can offer relief. + +* ​​*Salicylic acid:* This can be found in drug store shampoos advertising scalp health. It will help remove scalp cells causing dandruff while also moisturizing dry spots. Consider using it seasonally during dry winter months, or on a regular basis as needed.  +* *Selenium sulfide:* Formulated to control more serious dandruff and seborrheic dermatitis of the scalp. It's also used to treat pityriasis versicolour, a common fungal infection that causes small patches of skin to become scaly and discoloured. +* *Ketoconazole:* An ingredient that provides the same benefits as Selenium sulfide. +* *Tea Tree Oil:* [Studies](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1360273/) have shown that tea tree oil effectively fights many types of bacteria, viruses and fungi. These shampoos tend to be very calming and cleansing. + +*Naturally Grey Hair Turning Yellow*  + +Use two types of shampoo: (1) a purple shampoo and (2) a moisturizing shampoo. Grey hair tends to pick up unwanted yellow tones from the environment, and purple shampoo will help combat these tones. The moisturizing shampoo helps prevent your hair from becoming too dry, which can be exacerbated by purple shampoo. Check out [Purple Shampoo](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-purple-shampoo.html) for more insight on your options for these products. ",0 +1003,is it breakage or new growth? how to tell the difference? (read description in comments). ,0 +1004,"Does anyone else get annoyed by misleading before and after hair product posts on social media?. I like to follow YouTubers and Instagram/TikTok influences who talk about hair products and health. I know they don’t always have the best information, but I still find it fun. + +However, it absolutely infuriates me when they test a product or routine and style their hair for the after photo but not the before. For example, if an influencer wants to see if coconut oil will decrease frizz, they will show a picture of their un-styled frizzy natural hair. Then, they’ll use the coconut oil. Then, they’ll take a picture/video of their hair “after” doing the treatment, but their hair is straightened and has obviously had a blowout. They’ll say “omg my hair looks so much better after using coconut oil,” but it’s obvious that their hair only looks better because they styled it. + +I know that it’s just marketing and I expect it at this point, but does it bother anyone else?",0 +1005,"Hair smells burned after wedding stylist uses heated tongs. So my wedding was last weekend, and the HMUA did a heated curled half up do. I have tailbone length hair (fine, dark blonde but lots of it!) And as a general rule of thumb never heatstyle my hair. + +Cue last Saturday, and my hair is being curled with an extra long curling tong (lots of product being put on as it was a pain to wash out later) and the photographer mentions it smells like burned hair on entering the room. HMUA tries to explain the steam is the heat protectant burning off, not my hair. + +However, my sister and I both wondered at the time how long she kept my hair on the tong (it did feel that some sections she was somewhat distracted in chatting) +Once I washed my hair two mornings later, my hair stunk! It took two rounds of shampoo to get out all the product, and in the last week I've co-washed my hair twice. Everytime my hair is wet it smells like burned hair, and I've noticed how much more hair is coming out per wash. A week later and it still smells burned. + + +Is there any way to eliminate the smell/re-strengthen my hair? +Generally I shampoo+condition once a week and co-wash up to twice a week, no heat styling, use Olaplex 6 and 7 after every wash, and try for a hair mask once a month. Protective hair style overnight.",0 +1006,"How do I reduce showers? I shower everyday bec of greasy hair ;(. Okay so hear me out. I'm originally from Asia and I grew up showering daily due to humidity, pollution and other conditions. When I moved to California, it felt like the daily showers were excessive even for me lol. The only problem is...my hair gets greasy overnight. It couldn't last more than 24 hours before I turn into a grease ball (literally). + +I tried out some shampoos (found them on amazon) that were said to help with greasy hair but my hair felt so damp everytime so I felt discouraged to continue using. Any tips on how to ""train"" my hair? + +I'm 31 with a slightly itchy scalp. I unfortunately blow dry/style everyday due to work and use shampoo everyday. I use conditioners 3 times a week. + +I know this is not the best practice, please guide this human...",0 +1007,"I want my hair to smell like a fruit. I was wondering if anyone has recommendations for a shampoo or conditioner that smells like fruit, maybe watermelon or strawberry. + +I don’t understand why only kids shampoo get all the fun smells.",0 +1008,"Dad trying to figure out 6-year-old daughter's hair care. Please help!. My daughter now has hair down a few inches past her shoulders and has decided she wants to keep it long, but I have basically no idea how to properly care for it. Every morning she gets up and it looks like she slept in a dumpster and something nested in her hair. It is so tangled and sometimes a little matted. I have been brushing it with a ""detangling"" brush (which looks just like a normal brush to me), but the tangles are bad and I feel like I'm snapping or ripping out a lot of hair when I brush it. The sound of the hair (snapping?) as I brush it makes me think this isn't the way to handle the tangles. It pulls her head and she's a trooper, but I can tell it hurts her a little each time. I bought some detangling spray, which seems to help a bit, but I have to spray on a lot every time to make any difference. + +What can I do differently to help? Are there better brushes or sprays? How often should she be using shampoo and conditioner? Are there any other products or techniques I can use to keep her hair generally healthy and shiny and tangle-free? + +Thank you!",0 +1009,"What is up with all the negative reviews on Ulta for very popular hair products?. I am thinking of switching from my Redken All Soft and thought of trying Pureology Hydrate. Tons of current reviews saying Pureology is making their hair fall out. Then I go to All Soft's reviews and there are very similar reviews about hair loss. And the All Soft reviews have a ton that specifically mention dermititis. Which leads me to assume these are all bots or people paid to leave negative reviews since the verbiage is so similar. Call me crazy, but I feel like Hydrate and All Soft are two of the most popular lines out there. + +Is there any place to read non-biased reviews? Or maybe I should just do searches here!",0 +1010,"Should I start wearing a bonnet to bed?. Hi there, + +I (23f) am white. +I have naturally wavy hair, along the lines of natural beach waves. +Currently I am trying to heal my hair after a stint of using a certain brand that starts with the letter “M”. +Before, I could wash my hair, put a leave in conditioner in and let it air dry and my waves would look beautiful. But after using that bad brand, my waves are so much harder to tame and make attractive. I have a very sensitive scalp and have found great success with the Hairitage by Mindy brand of products. +I normally shower at night, put a leave in conditioner on my hair, sometimes a light curl cream and let it air dry. My waves always start out looking so pretty, but, by morning time, they are flat and frizzy. +I am not able to use a satin pillow case and so far, nothing else I have tried has worked. I have tried the “plopping” method and that actually does make my waves really stand out but I typically can’t sleep in it and by morning, my waves are flat again. +I am wondering if it would be beneficial to try doing my normal hair care routine and then putting it up in a bonnet, when I sleep, to help with the frizziness and flatness. +I would really love to feel confident in wearing my hair down more but the way my hair is behaving lately, I just don’t. +Any help or advice I’d gladly welcomed. + +Thanks for taking the time to read this.",0 +1011,"Just a question(:. Hi! Im asking to please keep your political views to yourself as I write this. I am 20yrs old, female, with over 3 feet of hair, recently dyed in May. Hwoever, recently in August, I had an abortion at 5 weeks. Since then, I have notice way more hair strands falling out, more than usual, and I just want to know if thats normal? I've tried to not straighten it as much and leave it natural (always air drytoo) and the strands just keep coming. I wash my hair maybe 2/3x a week and always use a leave in conditioner. I just want to know if this is normal or what I could possibly do to keep the strands from falling out at fast rates. Please help or give advice!!!",0 +1012,"Bad dandruff but have to wash hair daily because i work in construction. I have to wash my hair daily because my work means I get dusty, even though I wear a cap and try keep my hair covered. + +I know washing daily isn’t good and can dry out my scalp, which it has since I have a lot of dandruff. I was using head and shoulders which did help, but I want to stop using it because I know it’s a bad formula. + +I tried highly rated shampoo bars, but they’ve made my dandruff worse. + +I’m currently using Bodyshop’s ginger shampoo, it’s good but I still have much dandruff. + +My wife puts oil on my scalp for a couple hours before shampooing a couple times a week, I don’t know if it’s helping + + +Any tips or recommendations?",0 +1013,Help with a friend please!. I have a friend who is escaping a very toxic relationship. She just told me she has never bought shampoo and conditioner for herself because she had to choose “neutral” stuff so she and her husband could use it (he would freak out about anything he considered “girly”). I want to send her a care package since she is finally getting a chance to be her own person! What’s the best shampoo and conditioner sample sets I can get her? I don’t want to get her normal or big bottles because I’m not quite sure what her hair type is. We live in different states and haven’t seen each other in YEARS. Thanks and much appreciated!,0 +1014,"Best shampoo for Oily hair? I’ve tried the “train your hair to wash less” thing for 6 years 🥴 I don’t think it’s gonna happen. I usually go 2-3 days w/o washing. It gets oily ~4 hours after washing, even at hair salon, so I know it’s not me not rinsing it enough. Thanks!. ",0 +1015,Need advice on growth and unmanageability. More in comments. ,0 +1016,"I want to Power Wash my scalp…. Hey, I’m wondering if there is some sort of high pressure scalp wash that will get the build up off. Or is there some sort of scalp treatment? I just want someone to basically make little lanes in my hair and clean it lane by lane.",0 +1017,Has anyone tried JVN Hair? Just watched his YouTube video on how to take care of your hair and it was so helpful. Curious how his products are.. ,0 +1018,"Please someone, I burnt my scalp with bleach and I'm worried that i permanently lost a lot of hair, my hair used to be very thick and now there's a big gap. ",0 +1019,"What are the very basics of hair care?. What are the basics of hair care? + +So backstory, I had a very neglectful mother. I didn’t use shampoo or conditioner in my hair at all until I was about 13 when my friends parents started buying me soap, nor did I ever brush it until I was about 12. My hair would get so knotted that my mom would shave it so short that I was basically bald for years! As a kid I didn’t know this was neglectful, nor did I really know any better because I was homeschooled until 6th grade, so now as an adult I have no idea how to care for my hair. +My hair is very thick and I think it may be wavy, when I brush my hair it gets very frizzy but if I don’t my hair gets pretty wavy! It’s very dry and has so many split ends it’s not even funny. +Right now I don’t do anything besides wash and condition my hair about every two to three days. I use the regular like $4 bottles of Suave. My friend told me that soap is terrible for hair and that’s why it looks so dead all the time! +So I have three questions! First, any shampoo and conditioner recommendations for thick, dry and possibly wavy hair that I can purchase at Walmart? (I live in a very small town that only has Walmart lol) My budget is $15 for each! +Second, what are some things I should be doing for my hair every week? Should I be using oils, hair masks, hair rinses, etc? +Third, should going to the hairdresser be a once every few months thing? I’ve never actually gone and I’m not really sure if hairdressers help keep your hair healthy or if they are just there for if you’re wanting to color or not. +If anyone is wanting to see a pic of my hair to get a better understanding I can link one!! +Thank you!!",0 +1020,"16 YO brother is suffering from extreme dandruff and hair loss. Hi everyone, my little brother has been dealing with extreme dandruff and hair loss for almost 2 years now, we have tried many things such as: using specialized shampoos, dietary supplements, Mesotherapy, getting a very short haircut, etc. ... nearly every way in the book. and it hasn't gotten any better, I think there was a doctor who suggested that this condition is due to his age ( hitting puberty ) and all. + +he is very easily stressed out and gets Anxious over little things such as an exam (even though he is doing very good at school). I think that stress and anxiety have something to do with his hair problems and this dandruff and hair loss are causing him to stop going out and become even more introverted than before which I think could push him to even more anxiety and even depression. + +if anyone here has dealt with the same situation before, I would gladly hear their suggestions. +P.s: I am planning to take him for some therapy sessions for his anxiety and stress.",0 +1021,Hey so I accidentally broke one of my mothers favourite combs.. it’s probably 30+ years old. does anyone know what type/ brand of comb this is ? Thanks😅. ,0 +1022,"Can anyone tell me what's going on with my hair? The hair doesn't photograph well, so I drew a replica of it with blue ink next to it for visibility. ",0 +1023,Hair after workout. I try to only wash my hair 1-2 times a week. I work out about 5x a week and get SUPER SWEATY. My hair is drenched in sweat after I work out. How do I make it look decent after a workout if I’m not washing it?,0 +1024,"Help! 9yr old cousin is 1/2 white, 1/4 Native Am, 1/4 black.. Her mom is not in the picture, we need to figure out how to take care of her hair and we need to teach her how to do it herself. Right now, she just uses regular shampoo and conditioner, but nothing else, and her hair gets to be a mess. Any advice on treatments or products I can get her to help would be greatly appreciated. Or even youtube links I can check out. The goal is to teach her how to do it. Link to photo. https://imgur.com/a/xUMllHs",0 +1025,"I finally figured out my horribly itchy scalp after years!!. Hey everyone, + +For the last few years, since I was 17 or 18 (now 22) I've struggled with an itchy scalp. It kind of coincided with my hair thinning a bit as I got older if I recall correctly. Anyways, I have tried everything, I went through periods of using conditioner only, expensive hair masks, Nioxin, Nizoral. Through it all (well except for when I went no shampoo) I've always used shampoo Mondays, Wednesday and Fridays. I would never produce dandruff. I remember a couple years ago it got so bad that I would use my girlfriends brush to get any possible relief. + +I do have male pattern baldness genes but I've kept it at bay by using finasteride and minoxidil so my hairfall/loss is nonexistent. + +A couple of weeks ago I bought one last product to try out (marc anthony coconut oil) but it would make my hair really greasy so I would cut it with some shampoo. Everyday. And suddenly the itching stopped. So I also cut out the coconut oil (the greassiness was making my hair look terrible even with shampoo) and just continued shampooing and conditioning everyday and the itch is GONE. I haven't had to itch my head in 2 weeks. My hair looks phenomenal, it's bushy after drying, I naturally have volume without a blow dryer, it has a healthy natural shine to it. I'm so relieved that after years of trying everything I finally have a solution to the itching. + +I have thin, straight, blonde hair and it's starting to look how it used to presumably because when I was younger I just shampooed everyday before learning how ""bad it is for you.""",0 +1026,"Why didn’t I do this sooner. Ive used it before in the past but if I’m going to be honest it’s probably been over a year. Clarifying shampoo. My God. The past week I noticed my hair was feeling weighed down, dry, and also greasy at the same time? It almost was starting to feel like doll hair. Like .. a doll that’s been at the bottom of the toy box. The wind here hasn’t helped at all either. Then I was in this subreddit here and someone mentioned clarifying shampoo. A light bulb went off in my head. So I picked some up. I did two washes with it. The second wash I let it sit on my head for a few minutes. I then did a thorough deep conditioning and my hair feels like a million bucks. It dried super quick too. And I didn’t need to use a straightening iron to style. A blow dryer sufficed. I think every two weeks should be good, but whatever the duration I’m never not doing this again.",0 +1027,What products do you use that actually work to keep the baby hairs up tight for a more sleek clean look?. ,0 +1028,"Does washing hair less often mean not wetting or conditioning?. Hey all, + +I've been trying to protect my hair more lately and I often see the advice to wash hair less often. + +However I shower and condition daily and so I'm wondering if this means keeping my hair dry and unconditional when showering? + +Or does ""don't wash"" just mean ""don't shampoo""? + +Sorry if it's a simple question I just want to understand the intent",0 +1029,"Hard water is destroying my hair. How can I save it?. Hi all! I moved cities about six months ago and my hair has never been the same. Whereas my hair sued to be smooth, soft, and shiny, it is now dull, practically feels like straw, and dull...not to mention the near-constant tangles I am not struggling with. The culprit, I believe, is hard water, and I am desperate to save my hair before it gets even worse. I have tried various shampoos and conditioners, but have since gone back to my original combo (Dove Oxygen Moisture), as I have found it has been the best at keeping tangles to a minimum. I am also planning on getting 6"" cut off in an effort to prevent tangles and make the tangles I do get more mangeable. I also bought a shower head water filter, though it hasn't really done much to soften the water, and from my research, a full water softening system would be needed to actually soften the water, which I can't do in an apartment. + +A little bit about my hair...I have fine, straight hair that gets greasy very fast. I wash and condition it every other day. My hair is also very tangle prone, though before the move, I've always been able to easily work these tangles out. Now, I spend 10+ minutes in the shower working on a single tangle and sometimes have to resort to cutting them out. Overall, my hair has just become super brittle, feels like there's a film over it that I can't get off, is not at all soft, has lost all of its body, has absolutely no shine to it. + +I am considering resorting to buying distilled water at the store and washing my hair in the sink rather than in the shower, though I'm really hoping you all here may have better advice/tips for me. I'm sorry if this post isn't allowed. I've searched the sub for similar posts, but didn't really find any answers.",0 +1030,"Found a good (cheap!) dupe for Briogeo’s Don’t Despair Repair Mask. Money is right for me right now and while I prioritize my skin and hair health, I couldn’t justify paying $38 for an 8 oz mask that’s gone in 4-5 uses for me (I have long hair). My scalp is sensitive to silicones and sulfates (which is a bummer because my hair doesn’t seem to mind silicones) and I was looking for a cheap alternative and found this! It’s double the product for less than 20% of the price and the ingredient list is pretty comparable to Briogeo’s + +[Briogeo mask](https://www.sephora.com/product/dont-despair-repair-deep-conditioning-hair-mask-P388628?country_switch=us&lang=en&skuId=1784636&om_mmc=ppc-GG_1987723169_73804050631_pla-418898889359_1784636_353494827261_9031342_m&ds_rl=1261471&gbraid=0AAAAADnIXb1qUhvPqXsC3uTOqe0YPk1qc&gbraid=0AAAAADnIXb1qUhvPqXsC3uTOqe0YPk1qc&gclid=CjwKCAiAsNKQBhAPEiwAB-I5zX5a9pdE4po7QfZO6g0_qbJJmO_V8Die8wSel-dDW101gFUVNnfplBoCvvQQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds) vs. [Shea moisturizer mask](https://www.target.com/p/sheamoisture-deep-conditioner-avocado-butter-38-manuka-honey-15-fl-oz/-/A-80138161#lnk=sametab)",0 +1031,"I’m a 16 year old African American who hates his hair.. I have never been taught how to take care of my hair, and the one person in my family who does know how to take care of hair has a totally different hair type than mine even though we are related. I have tried to many curling products and my hair barely ever curls even with a sponge. My barber told me my hair is kinda straight but then again its curly/nappy. My hair strands come out straight or barley curly. Could straight hair products be what I need?",0 +1032,"Help! Hairdresser left my hair feeling like straw. I had surgery a couple of days ago and I booked an appointment at a salon near me to wash and dry my hair (the salon I usually go to is an hour away and I couldn't drive). + +I'm always very gentle with my hair (only wash my scalp with shampoo, gently squeeze water out with a microfiber towel, never comb it when it's wet...). If there is a list of ""Top 10 things to never do to your hair"" this hairdresser did them all to me. + +She washed my hair with shampoo 3 times, including mids and ends and really rubbed it in. The water was extremely hot as well. Then she dried it with a coarse towel going back and forth, she brushed my hair while it was wet to untangle it (starting at the roots) and then blowdried it with the maximum heat setting while the nozzle of the blowdrier touched my hair. + +My hair was so healthy, soft and shiny and now it feels like straw and very weird. I tried to speak out several times but she wouldn't listen and I was very tired and not feeling so good because of the surgery. + +Is there a way to get it back to feeling soft and healthy? I'm so sad and angry as I take really good care of my hair. Is it possible she just dried it out and it will feel better after washing it again and using hair masks? I have booked an appointment at my usual salon next week. + +Thank you!",0 +1033,"A piece of my thinning hair was pulled out by force. What options do I have ?. A chunk of my thinning hair has been pulled out by force. What do I do now? + +My hair has been thinning at the top from stress. Mom and father both have hair. But it could be genetic? I stopped doing hot showers on my scalp. I deep condition my hair daily but have never gone to a salon. My hair is medium length curly hair. Thin. + +My ex boyfriend ( left him and the stress) pulled a piece of my hair out a few days ago and now I have a noticeable bald spot. It looks like I’m just balding but it’s still irritated from the pull. + +What are the best options? Should I Pony tail it until it’s long enough to do a pixie ? Or should try extensions with a professional? Are there treatments for the thinning at the top? I also tried Jamaican Castor oil. But it’s still thinning. I am booking in the next few weeks with local providers in hopes in finding someone who can really help. I do feel like daily care is equally important. + +I love my hair. It’s my only feminine quality left. If this is not the correct forum, please direct to the correct one. + +Thank you in advance.",0 +1034,I have used this product for so long and it makes me hair look amazing. So disappointed on its YUKI score. Any replacement suggestions?. ,0 +1035,"Matted hair 😭. Hope it’s okay to post this, I’ve been really poorly for the past 2-3 weeks and have completely neglected my hair, It’s so tatty and matted and I’m terrified to attempt to fix it, is there any products that could help with the process? Thanks in advance",0 +1036,"Best hair oil for beginners?. I’ve never tried hair oiling but I heard it was great for thicker healthier hair any recommendations for a good, affordable, beginner friendly product?",0 +1037,"Is washing your hair JUST WITH WATER everyday ok?. Obviously it’s bad to wash ur hair everyday with shampoo, but i generally shower every day because i work out a lot but never use shampoo besides once or twice a week. + +Does using just water to wash ur hair cause the same drying and damaging effects as using shampoo every day?",0 +1038,"Products (especially combs/brushes) tips to help tame my poor daughter's hair? It's thick and curly, but strong. It eats hairbrushes for breakfast.. My daughter was born with gorgeous, thick hair that has natural soft curls in it. I've looked and looked for help but all I can find is guides for nappy hair (sorry if a different term is to be used. It's what I was taught in the hair care part of my education), which her hair isn't. I almost wish it was, I was trained how to take care of it in my CNA courses. + +I already use an oil, brush it using a leave-in conditioner, condition every bath, and limit shampoo use to prevent drying and breaking, but would love product recommendations. I don't want her to end up with greasy looking hair from using the wrong product like what happens with my hair. + +My daughter is 9 with her hair being a bit below shoulder length. Her hair has been kept short since she was 5 -she wanted it cut after baby brother pulled it so we styled it like Sakura's from 'Card Capture Sakura'- but last year, after a boy was a turd insulted her, she wanted to grow it out because ""short hair is ugly on girls"" and literally nothing I do can convince her otherwise. Even though I boy cut my hair every spring as does most of the women she is around in family. The problem comes from her being on the autism spectrum. She rocks her head back and forth and mats it. She also hates having it detangled, and that hair tangles like no tomorrow. Even at it's longest (mid back) my hair did not have this problem as I have thin and slightly wavy hair that turns straight if a brush looks at it. I think half the problem is that I don't know what I'm doing and half comb out her pretty curls. + +And yes, I go from bottom to top in sections. I've always combed/brushed hair that way. I'd be nearly bald if I didn't due to breakage. + +​ + +Edit: By her hair eats hairbrushes I mean they get caught horribly, especially if she tries to do it herself. No hairbrushes were broken in the effort to tame my daughter's hair. If it gets caught it gets worked out gently.",0 +1039,"Is the dyson airwrap worth it?. I’m so tempted to buy the dyson airwrap because I have a really hard time curling my hair and it just never works or holds. I love how natural and effortless everyone’s hair looks after using the dyson. For those who have it, do you think its worth it? +Also if anyone knows where to get it cheaper (with a discount code/sale) that would be amazing !",0 +1040,"My stepdaughter has super curly hair and it hurts her to brush it.. Always turns into a screaming fit. + +Any suggestions to make it easier to get the knots out?",0 +1041,"Destroyed hair after chemo & radiation. Hi everyone! So my mom got chemo & radiation on her head (About 1,5 years ago) her hair did grow back, but not all of it (so you see bald spots) as well as veeeryy thin, brittle and almost ""fried"". I guess this is from the radiation on her scalp. It really grows out of the follicle this way. Does anyone know if there is any way to make her hair a bit more strong again? +Maybe some kind of treatment? Or any products like some kinds of shampoo/conditioner/masks that could help? Thank you in advance!",0 +1042,Can someone please tell me if this amount of hair fall is normal. I have shoulder length hair. I am getting worried. Can someone please suggest me a natural hair care routine to reduce the hair fall please.. ,0 +1043,"Christmas gifts for my GF with EXTREMELY frizzy hair. My GF has extremely frizzy hair, even after straightening it, it's still frizzy. She went to a salon and by god they were able to tame that mane! I'd like to surprise her for Christmas with some product to put in her hair, a straightener and blow drier. +As a bald man I've don't have much experience with hair care products and trying to look up what she would need is a little overwhelming. Could I please get some recommendations for hair care products, a straightener a blow drier and anything else she may use to straiten her hair?",0 +1044,"Tips for caring for biracial hair?. Hi yall! My boyfriend has 2 bi-racial daughters (10 & 5), and I'm trying to get better at working with their hair! I would so appreciate any tips for helping with frizz and maintaining the curls! Their mom isn't good with their hair and YouTube tutorials just aren't cutting it. +So far all I have is a curl cream, and a leave in conditioner. I don't know what to do about the frizz though, and what the best method of brushing/combing is? +When I brush it, it almost completely pulls out the curls and leaves it with an uneven wave, and a wide tooth comb just causes more frizz. + +My best guess for the hair type is a 3a but when it's just brushed without the curl product it's a 2c",0 +1045,"please convince me not to shave my head and buy a wig. I'm this close to doing it. I feel like just starting over with my hair. It's damaged from lightening it, I think. It's stretchy like elastic. I just want to shave it all off and wear a wig until it grows back, and never dye or use her on my natural hair again. Tell me this is a bad idea or I'm going to do it 😩",0 +1046,"why does my hair look worse now that it’s healthier?. i used to bleach and at home dye my hair all the time. i used aussie shampoo/conditioner, a garnier curl cream, and that’s it. and my hair looked beautiful every day. i had tight waves and lots of volume. + +now that i’ve dedicated a lot of money and research time to properly take care of my hair, i use redken shampoo/conditioner and experiment with high quality products like olaplex 7 and its a 10! and my hair looks like shit. its incredibly frizzy and has no texture. + +my hair is no doubt healthier now, it’s shinier and softer and i don’t get matted in the back anymore. what happened to my waves and volume?",0 +1047,"are head scratchers good for hairgrowth?. ive been using a head scratcher for a while now because I heard they are good for hair growth, but everytime i use it a lot of hair strands fall off my head. this makes me doubt if its actually good for my hair and scalp.",0 +1048,"I’m thinking of starting a 100% fragrance free hair care brand and I’d love to have your input please! Which product do you want to see first and at what price point.. Hello, everyone! + +I have fragrance sensitivity and on my fragrance free journey, I find that good fragrance free hair care is really lacking on the market, which is why I’m thinking of starting a 100% fragrance free hair care brand and I’d love to have your input please if you're also sensitive to scented products! Which product do you want to see the brand comes out first and at what price point. Feel free to leave details on specific things you’d like to see in the comment. Any insight would be super appreciated :)",0 +1049,"Alternatives to Olaplex No3?. I’ve tried Olaplex and it was an okay result but wasn’t what I was hoping for at all or was expecting due to the hype around it. I have heat damaged fine hair + +Each time I used it, I broke out in hundreds of little spots on my neck and face too so I won’t be purchasing again + + +Was just wondering if anyone has any dupes or alternatives that live up to the hype that Olaplex seemingly has for some people?",0 +1050,What’s your favorite leave-in/finishing product that also leaves your hair smelling incredible?. ,0 +1051,"Can damaged ends really heal? Myth/fact. I had my hair processed and went ginger. + +My ends got damaged a little. Not gummy but just not what they used to be. And this is not the stylists fault at all, it was mine. + +I went through a depression episode and dyed my hair dark and cried and then 5 days later went to being ginger again at a salon I trust. + +It came out perfect !! The only problem is I knew I’d have to get my length cut and so I did. I went from a length from past my shoulders to just touching my shoulders. + +I don’t wash my hair every day (3 days aiming for 4) and I know previously with lighter hair I could always go longer. + +I invested in good shampoo and conditioner and a mask (all products from olaplex) + +I will be avoid heat as much as possible. I will invest in a air dry brush that has a cool setting. (Revlon air brush). + +With this care, is it really possible for ends to heal ?",0 +1052,"Olaplex vs K18 first impressions. I recently lightened my hair and it was not taking well to having been lightening. + +So obviously I tried olaplex products and was pretty impressed with how my hair looked and felt after but was unimpressed with two things (in reference to no 3) +1) after several uses I kept having new breakage spots on my hair +2) the amount of product needed was insane + +I just tried k18…. Like. Just got out of the shower +And my hair is still wet so obviously I don’t have a long term impression of it yet +But…. My hair is softer then it was prebleaching while wet so….. for my in shower product I’m a convert + +I do still like the no 7 oil for styling and think I may continue to use that! But I’m super happy right now…. Anyone else have a similar experience? +Im kind of about to shit my pants this is impressing me so much",0 +1053,"I tried the egg… It works beautifully for my high porosity, 2A mane.. I’m genuinely impressed. I’ve been an amateur fashion historian for a little while now, and wanted to try the egg shampoo for myself, and oh my god, my hair loved it. I’m genuinely impressed, I don’t think my hair has been this good since I was actually a child. Now that I’ve mustered up the stubbornness to grow my hair out for the first time, I was looking for products to help me with my high porosity, rather dull hair. And not only did the egg work, it worked better than the $30 protein shampoo and conditioner I’d been using up until now. + +Here’s the post from this subreddit that finally pushed me to give it a shot: + +https://www.reddit.com/r/Haircare/comments/twkv1l/frozen_egg_yolks/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf + +And here’s the link to the tutorial: + +https://naturallyinitaly.com/egg-shampoo/ + +Other than that, my hair care routine remains unchanged. I use castor oil and jojoba oil for about forty-five minutes before washing, and I add some coconut oil to the very end of my hair to protect the ends. I have plans to grow my hair quite long, hence why my routine has such an emphasis on protein, and protecting the ends. I use two eggs myself, but I imagine you could use one if your hair is shorter than mine, which is about 24’ inches. + +Hope that helps anyone like me!",0 +1054,"Overwhelmed with dry scalp, oily roots, dry ends, and tangled hair. Hello. I’ve been really struggling with my hair. I keep trying to research and treat my hair issues, but treating one tends to make other issues worse?? I could really use some advice. I have very dense fine hair that is a little wavy. + +I have a really dry scalp with tiny flakes. I’m trying to exfoliated and moisturize, but it is often making my oily roots worse. I’ve seen a dermatologist and do not currently have yeast overgrowth. All of my skin- scalp, face, etc.- is very dry. + +My roots get oily within a 24hrs of washing. I can extend it to maybe 4-5 days with dry shampoo or braids if I try, but then my ends get drier and drier. When I was younger I washed everyday with a sulfate shampoo that made my roots dry, but my ends even drier causing terrible breakage. + +My ends are always super super dry and extremely prone to tangles, especially after washing. The only product that has helped for my tangles and dry ends so far is Curls Blueberry Bliss Leave In. I also deep condition periodically, but it’s still an issue. My ends are best the first few days after using leave in, but start to get a little straw-like by day 3. Many shampoos that are too stripping or conditioners that aren’t heavy enough make my tangles worse, but if the conditioner isn’t stripping enough my oily roots get worse…. + +I’m just really overwhelmed. :(",0 +1055,"is Redken all soft shampoo and conditioner good?. I am concerned because I have protein sensitive, low-porosity hair, but I keep seeing so many positive reviews about the all soft line. But the product seems to have a lot of protein and dimethicone which concerns me. My hair is fine, thin and straight (caucasian hair), and quite dry, yet oily on the scalp, and my hair has shown buildup with oils and silicone (seriously, how do u guys just “leave in” oils??) + +so how is redken all soft with these things? does anyone have a similar hair type and still found they liked the shampoo and conditioner? + +Any additional recommendations besides Redken are also welcome! thanks :)",0 +1056,"Where can I find this type of headband?. So my mother bought this headband in France in the 1990s. I’m using it since I have longer hair now, I’m loving it so much but since it’s hers, I don’t want to be having it all the time. I’ve been searching online and can’t seem to find anything similar. What I find are cheap plastic headband or metal headband that let my hair slip through and doesn’t keep it tied up. Do you know where to find a similar product? I don’t have any budget preference in particular, as long as it’s similar. Thank you so much for your help already!",0 +1057,"How to fix thin hair. Hi, + +I've been losing quite a lot of hair these last few months due to stress, and I'm finding it really depressing to look in the mirror and see how thin it looks these days. I used to have such thick, volumous hair, and now it looks so thin, and I can even see my scalp when I run my fingers through it. + +I really want to do something to encourage hair growth and get the volume back, but I don't have much money. Does anyone have tips for cheap products/ home remedies that'll help get my hair back to its previous volume? I live in the UK, for reference. + +Thank you :)",0 +1058,"2 minute keratin treatment has made my hair go poker straight - is this normal?. + + + +I actually ordered it by mistake as the bottle looked exactly the same as the brand’s protein treatment. I figured I’d try it anyway, the description just says it will restore softness & repair damage. + +But i’m absolutely amazed that a few minutes of using it just like a conditioner has made my hair go completely frizz free, silky & poker straight & has stayed that way for nearly 3 weeks now. I actually can’t believe this is my hair. + +A bit of background - my hair is actually naturally straight but has been air drying into frizzy waves for most of my adult life (last 20 years) ever since I introduced heat, layered haircuts & things that generally damaged it. It has never gone back to it’s previous state even though I have used lots of other treatments long term, including Olaplex & the protein treatment I was trying to order. + +In fact I noticed my hair went even curlier through other treatments & I came to the conclusion my hair had actually permanently changed to wavy/curly through hormonal changes which can happen to some people later in life. + +I can’t believe a 2 minute treatment could make it revert back to my virgin hair? And it’s actually even straighter than my natural hair used to be, as it dries *poker* straight without even a natural softness & curve to the ends that most naturally straight hair has. + +What has happened here? And is this a good thing? On one hand I am enjoying letting my hair dry naturally & having a perfect sleek hair that needs nothing doing to it, it saves so much time & I’m saving my hair from further heat damage, but I’m not keen on the extremely poker straight ends (it looks a bit 1999 & when we all went nuts with straightening our hair to death) & I miss having some natural volume & texture too. + +Did I use too much maybe? I saturated my hair in it. Or leave it on too long? I left it on longer than 2 minutes as it says you can use it up to 5 minutes. Would I get a more subtle result if I used less product & for less time next time?",0 +1059,"How to make hair softer and less frizzy. I have 1c high porosity, coarse, thick and frizzy hair. I shampoo like once a week and condition every 3 days and it gets really frizzy. It's also really coarse and rough and I want to make it softer. What can I do to make it like that?",0 +1060,"How do I stop my hair from blowing in the wind so much? Or just moving in general. I have long, thick hair but I think the strands themselves are thin. I also only use shampoo and conditioner right now because I’m trying to clear my skin. Every time I leave the house or do literally anything, my hair ends up all over the place. It’s really frustrating, especially when I look at everyone else and no one’s hair is moving in the same way. Is there something I can use in my hair that will maybe weight it down without flattening it? I guess the obvious answer to me is hairspray but I think I need something else.",0 +1061,"Shampoo/conditioner recommendations for military female?. Hello, so I’m 23 F and in the military which means I use hella gel and wear tight buns daily. I have really bad hair loss, overall hair thinning, and lots of breakage and split ends now. I started using OGX brand but found out it causes hair loss so I’m wondering if anyone can suggest a different brand that can help my issues? Or is OGX okay to use? On top of shampoo and conditioner I use shea butter leave in conditioner and black castor oil leave in spray. Thank you.",0 +1062,"Olaplex. I want to start using some better products on my hair and I’ve seen a lot of girls using Olaplex producst (No 3,4,5,6). Is it worth the money? +I have really thin, blonde hair. I don’t use curling iron or anything like that, but my tips get really damaged really easy, even though my hair is greasy. + +Edit: thank you so much to everyone, I appreciate every single one of your answers! ❤️",0 +1063,"Hair bends upwards at ends? Why?. Why does it do this after I shower and let it air dry, I use a wide tooth wet comb to style it how I like it after shampooing and conditioning, towel wrap it in a cotton tshirt for 15 mins and then take it off and let the rest dry, even when I don’t use the towel tshirt drying method it does the same thing, what gives?",0 +1064,"I get headaches if I don’t wash my hair for one too many days.. My hair was never the type to get greasy easily even after a full day of sweating. But after covid hits, I began to wash my hair more frequently than I used to to maintain hygiene. Problem is, now my hair needs more care and more frequent washing or it will turn quiet greasy. + +My solution to this problem is to hold off as much as I can to not wash my hair, which usually would be once every 2-3 days (I can’t do the once or twice a month like some stylists suggested). But everytime I delayed the washing for just 1 too many days, I’ll get a headache that won’t go away until I wash my hair. + +When I googled it, the only thing that came up was about HAIR hurting after days not washing, not HEAD. + +Anyone experienced this? Is this normal?",0 +1065,What is difference between $30 Conair and a $200 brand dryer?. If they both have same wattage then what is the difference between the two? May be $200 will last forever. But i am not looking for till death do us apart.,0 +1066,"Hair is matted beyond help-how can i save it?. Hey all, so i have a huge problem. My hair is everything to me, because i struggled with hair loss in the past & just got it to start growing/back healthy. i stopped using any heat on it & dying it & havent for about a year & a half now. But i fell into a deep depression these past few months & neglected my hair pretty badly. this caused 2 big matts in the back of my head that i have NO clue how to get out. in the past, i’d put conditioner in & brush them out but these are beyond that. I even went to a hair salon & the lady brushed them out as well as she could but she couldnt do anything about the rest of these 2 matts. what can i do? theyre basically dreadlocks at this point. its so embarrassing & its making me just fall deeper into my depression/self loathing. is there anything i can do to get these out besides cutting them out (if i have to cut them out i may as well shave my head because theyre high up & pretty big) i have pretty thin, straight hair. please help!",0 +1067,"How to make short, flat/straight oily hair look fluffy every day?. Hi all! I've been so frustrated with my flat hair for the longest time. After a shower it looks fluffy and light but after 12-24 hours it gets greasy and makes me look really bad, especially because my hair is thick and dense. I'm going to get a lot of hair cut off soon (chin length to being short short) and last time I had really short hair it always looked bad any time i wasn't right out of the shower. + +Is there any product I can apply to my hair daily to make it fluffier and lighter and have more volume?",0 +1068,"How to detangle hair after surgery?. Hi friends, my little sister just had a major brain surgery due to traumatic injury. Half her hair was shaved but the rest is very long wavy 2C type hair. Since the surgery, her hair is full of all kinds of goop they used to sterilize the area and do imaging. I cannot wash her hair because the wound cannot get wet but her hair is matted and uncomfortable. How can I detangle her hair gently without washing or water? I plan to braid it loosely once it is detangled",0 +1069,My hair is too greasy please help I can't take it anymore. My hair gets gets full of grease within 6 hours of washing it. I have to wash my hair everyday because when I don't my hair gets extremely greasy. I tried not washing my hair for a week and that didn't even work. Can someone please help me?,0 +1070,"15 year old boy, Shower everyday in the morning, what to I need to put on my hair to keep it healthy, and make it the best it can be? Just want some simple products , food (to eat), and ways to keep my hair good and healthy. (No need for extra stuff just basics). And thanks ❤️. 15 year old boy, Shower everyday in the morning, what to I need to put on my hair to keep it healthy, and make it the best it can be? +Just want some simple products , food (to eat), and ways to keep my hair good and healthy. (No need for extra stuff just basics). And thanks ❤️",0 +1071,"is washing your hair every day really that bad?. I have long, straight hair and it usually gets oily quickly so I wash it every other day. I've noticed it's starting to get greasy faster, like in less than 2 days. I hate going to school with greasy hair, so I'm thinking of starting to wash it every day. I've heard that's really bad for your hair, but is it really that bad? What would some of the effects be?",0 +1072,"Truth about hair masks?. I'd like to start using a hair mask but all the info about how to use contradicts each other. So far I've read: + +Use a mask before shampoo and conditioner. + +Use a mask after shampoo, before conditioner. + +Use a mask after shampoo and conditioner, apply to wet hair and leave in. + +Use a mask after shampoo and conditioner, apply to wet hair and then rinse out. + +Use a mask after shampoo, instead of conditioner. + +IDK what to do!",0 +1073,"Trying to find a good satin pillowcase. I’m looking for a satin pillowcase, and every okay priced one I can find says 100% polyester. I can’t find a clear answer on google, so I’m wondering if anyone here knows if one made from polyester is still good.",0 +1074,"Help showering without washing hair?. This I the best place I could think to ask this. Whenever I get my hair wet without washing it it gets greasy and stringy, but even using a shower cap, moisture still seems to get in making my hair frizzy and greasy. Any suggestions on what else I could try? I've run out of ideas",0 +1075,Swimmers Hair. So I know your not supposed to wash your hair everyday but I have blonde hair and my hair turns green without green shampoo daily. (I need green shamppo because when i swim my hair turns green.)So what should i do? I wet my hair before I swim but it doesn't help.,0 +1076,"my hair sucks at retaining the scent of shampoos. idky but the smell never lasts long. i’m thoroughly shampooing and rinsing it off. i do dry my hair in a towel. i have very thick, long hair with oily scalp and dandruff that i absolutely hate. + +any tips?",0 +1077,"Rosemary oil. After seeing so many people talking about Rosemary oil and how amazing it is, I have decided to try it and see if my hair gets better + +I read on the internet that you have to mix it with a carrier oil like coconut so it doesn’t sting or irritate but girls in TikTok appear to be using it directly on their scalps + +Should I mix it? Should I try using it on its own and see if I can withstand it? + +I mean mixing it might make it less potent but if it has any long term side effect… +Also, if I mix it, how would I do it? + +Any opinion would be great! ♥️",0 +1078,"Can’t remember the name of a detangler from the 90s. I used to use a detangler when I was a kid and I was trying to think of the name of it today and I feel like it’s on the tip of my tongue but I just can’t think of it. It’s driving me crazy that I can’t remember. + +I used it in the 90s and maybe early 2000s and I feel like it had a funny sounding name (maybe it just sounded funny to me when I was a kid). And I think MAYBE it had an “f” in the name and an “ee” sound. And it was in a spray bottle for sure. + +I had the craziest knots in my hair as a kid and this detangler was the holy grail for my parents once they found it because they’d spend so much time trying to get knots out of my hair and this worked wonders. + +If anyone has thoughts on what it could be, please let me know. I tried looking up lists of popular detanglers and lists of old school hair care, but no luck. I feel like if I see the name, it will click and I’ll be able to say “that’s it!”",0 +1079,"French braid pros and cons. So I work in construction. As a girl with a lot of hair, all of the cement dries my hair out quite a bit. I’ve tried keeping it in a bun but with working outside the heat from my scalp and the sun gets trapped under my bun and I have been experiencing some hair loss in the spot my bun rests. + +Lately I have been putting my hair in a single loose at the scalp-but tight enough to stay together- French braid in hopes of disbursing the heat and preventing any further loss, while keeping my hair as healthy as I can. I have been putting a leave in conditioner in it as well as a small amount of oils to restore some moisture. I guess my question would be is there any cons to this hairstyle or anything else I should do? + +I have loose curls and I finally started doing a curly routine but my job makes it difficult for my hair to lose frizz and act accordingly when I want it to lol. (So far I know if I do the braid too tight it will cause damage around the hairline/roots/and shaft of the hair, and that’s why I have been doing it as loose as I can.)",0 +1080,"Kerastase vs Olaplex ??. Hello first time poster long time lurker! I have damaged hair and looking to get some treatments but can't decide where is best to spend my money? Any advice on the two? + +My hair is coloured (had highlights but now brown) frizzy, wavy, lots of breakage and split ends, oily roots and dry frazzled ends. + +Thanks in advance!",0 +1081,"I (18F) am completely lost about what products are good for your hair. Help?. I always see people making videos like “don’t use this! It’s so bad for you! Don’t use that!” But never have I seen someone say what is GOOD to use. + +My hair is extremely oily with relatively dry ends. It’s also loosely wavy and light, not heavy. I haven’t been able to find anything and I’m utterly lost. All natural color (brown) a little past shoulder length and I’m growing it out. + +Please any recommendations would be incredibly useful. My hair is out of control. Shampoos don’t wash it properly, I have massive oil buildups and dandruff etc. certain shampoos and conditioner also weigh my hair down a lot losing a lot of volume. Please help",0 +1082,is there any difference between shampooing your hair once or twice when you wash them?. ,0 +1083,"Is it bad that I wet my hair every morning?. Hey! I (23M) have really wavy medium length hair that looks very bad in the morning, think troll doll hair. I’ve been growing it out more and noticed the only way to style it and look presentable is if I get it damp. I only shampoo once or twice a week. Is this ok or will I experience hair loss in the future. FYI I only use cold water.",0 +1084,"How do I get my hair to be softer/healthier/easy to manage?. My hair is med/short (can pull it down past my nose), SUPER thick, pretty dense, kinda dry, and whenever I don’t have any product in it, it gets hella frizzy and doesn’t take any form aside from just a cloud. If it gets moved at all it just stays. It holds shape very firmly even without any product and wind will immediately just make it take a new horrific shape and hold until I fix it. + +I shampoo 3x a week, rinse out conditioner with cool water, and dab dry with a soft t shirt. I do use product in my hair (currently using kerestase curl manifesto, tiny dab of Reuzel fiber gel in the front, and Reuzel medium hold grease pomade) and have been for years, but it’s been like this since before I ever did. + +I have no idea how to get it to lay flat or be soft, or really do anything other than puff up into a formless mass unless I spend an hour on it with styling products. I’d like to just have a hairstyle that I can just do minimal work on and go, as I spend way too much time trying to get my hair to sit properly. If any of you have suggestions I’d love to hear them any help or advice is appreciated",0 +1085,"Hair is greasy even after washing it. I didn't wash my hair for a longer time because of mental health issues, I washed it today but my hair still looks extremly greasy! Is this normal? Should i wash it again? I'm thankful for every advice or tips you could have for me:(",0 +1086,"What’s the difference between greasy and silky hair?. Sorry if this is a dumb question! I have always had dry, frizzy hair, but I started experimenting with oils over the last few months to change that. I’ve found that coconut oil makes my hair almost completely frizz free. + +However, since my hair isn’t frizzy, it’s sort of shiny? It doesn’t feel greasy. I tried blotting it with tissue paper, and the paper didn’t absorb any oil. But my hair still looks a bit too shiny. I’m not sure if it’s grease/oil overuse (I use coconut oil once per week before wash) or just normal silky/shiny hair. + +I have always had dry hair, so I never really had to learn how to tell the difference between grease and normal shininess. Does anyone have tips that might help me tell the difference?",0 +1087,"Question for hair stylists - can you tell if someone else cut a regular’s hair if the style is the same?. I have been going to the same hair stylist for about 4 years. During the pandemic, she started coming to my house to cut my hair as well as the rest of my family’s hair, stays for dinner, has essentially become a friend. Problem is, I have been quite unhappy with my cuts for the last year or so. I tell her what is bothering me with it, she tries to make it better, but it just doesn’t lay right. I have below shoulder length thick wavy/curly hair and it needs to be point cut — thinning shears and slide cutting make it frizzy, sometimes she forgets and slide cuts, but even when she doesn’t forget, her point cutting game is a little off. She also now exclusively cuts it dry, which I don’t know if that is part of the problem or not, but I felt like maybe a real haircut on wet hair and some dry cutting at the end would be good for me. + +So I went to a stylist who was recommended to me, kept the same hair style but she did a lot of point cutting, both wet and dry. Did it make it better? Yes, it’s laying a bit better, but it’s still not like it used to be. (I posted a day or so ago asking about keratin treatments because I think my hair had just changed for the worse as I have aged.) + +Anyway, this is a very long winded way of asking, will she notice that someone else cut my hair? The style hasn’t changed much, or I would say it hasn’t changed at all to non-hair stylists but maybe if she is paying attention, she will notice..? I would prefer not to tell her as I think it would hurt her feelings. But I have to go to her soon because my Balayage really needs to be done. Not sure if I should say nothing and see if she asks or should I just come clean? And if I come clean, what do I say that won’t be too hurtful? Thanks in advance for any advice .",0 +1088,"Over 40 and never been able to fix my frizzy hair.... So as the title says, I'm over 40 and I've never been able to 'fix' my hair. + +[https://imgur.com/a/Ec58QnY](https://imgur.com/a/Ec58QnY) + +As you can see, it's fine and thin and frizzy as hell. It's also VERY thin on top and I have issues with dandruff. And for some reason it never grows past my shoulders. If I wash it and don't touch it, it forms loose curls but within an hour or so (or immediately if I attempt to brush it) it turns into that. Some info on what I currently do to try and keep it under control. And also, I've not colored it in the past three years and I've never done anything harsher than OTC hair coloring. + +Daily shampoo/conditioner - Pura d'or Hair thinning Shampoo & Conditioner (my hair looks super greasy if I don't shampoo daily. And since it's thin it's very noticeable) + +After showering at night I use Head & Shoulders Scalp Cream Treatment, Royal Oils to keep my dandruff under control since I'm not using a dandruff shampoo. + +I've tried John Frieda styling spray, Aussie miracle curls, and various other products claiming to handle frizzy curls. They either don't work or make my hair look gross. + +Before I go to bed, I put my hair up with a barrette and wear a silk cap. This is my most recent attempt to help. It does help some but still my hair turns out like you see. + +My hair really just...kills my already low self esteem and I just want it to look somewhat nice. Not like I've constantly stuck my finger in a light socket. I appreciate any suggestions or advice.",0 +1089,"Women who workout, how many times do you wash your hair per week?. I hate dryshampoos and I don't want to wash my hair every single day after I workout but I also want to clean my scalp. +How do women who workout do this?",0 +1090,"Moved to Southern California from New York City, and the water is destroying my hair! Seeking sdvice. I am a 22-year-old female, I use no heat products on my hair, and I have never colored it. I wash my hair every 2-3 days, and use a wet brush only. + +I have never had issues with my hair texture, shine, oiliness etc., until I moved to CA. + +My hair feels thinner now, it’s always frizzy, I shed more, have more split ends, and I have some flakiness I’m noticing when I brush my hair by my scalp. + +Never had any of this before, and I’ve heard the water here could be at play… + +Apparently the water here contains a buildup of minerals, such as Calcium, iron, copper, magnesium, silica and lead. + +From what I’ve read online, this produces a film on the hair, making it difficult for moisture to penetrate. & this can even lead to hair loss if untreated. + +Well, I’m not going to move away due to the water 😂 but I do want to find a way to remedy this. + +Any and all insight would be greatly appreciated!!",0 +1091,"What’s wrong with my hair? At wits end. I’ve been using olaplex and got a haircut to try and improve the quality but it just seems fried. I didn’t do Any heat or chemical stuff, I don’t style it usually. My hair been dropping/breaking a ton as well. ",0 +1092,"in your opinion what are the best brand of shampoos and conditioners?. *feel free to also add any favorite products! i’m really interested in scalp care too! + +i’m needing new shampoo and conditioner and am wanting to try out some new brands. what are your ultimate favs? + +side note: i have fine hair, but i have a lot of it. i rarely put heat on my hair and use protective styles when styling. my hair lacks volume and tends to be pretty dry on the ends, and oily at the roots. during the cooler season, my scalp tends to get itchy and produces buildup.",0 +1093,"i started going 2 the gym, now that im sweating buckets every day should i shampoo my hair everyday?. ",0 +1094,"Can I trim my hair with a fabric scissors?. My SO has somehow gotten his hands on every single hair scissors I’ve bought and destroyed them. He’ll use them for his beard and leave them all dirty and sticky and they’ll rust. Use them to cut inappropriate items. So I buy a new one and hide it. Leave him the old one to keep. He finds and wrecks every one. I have like 6 hair scissors at this point, all destroyed. One doesn’t look too bad because I caught it and cleaned it up and hid it better. But I’m still unsure how much damage was done and nervous to use it and cause more split ends. I know my fabric scissors have never been used for anything but fabric. Would this be a good option to trim my hair? I have awful split ends I really need to take care of without causing more damage.",0 +1095,"L'Oreal has committed an act of terrorism by discontinuing BLOW DRY IT smoothing balm!. L'Oreal what on earth were you thinking getting rid of the Blow Dry It smoothing heat protecting balm... you absolute animals. The everpure horse s\*\*t you call a replacement could never replace the 5 years I have been using Blow Dry it religiously. I get compliments on my hair every time I'm out. The shine is insane... and now you're going to take that away from me?! I have been trying to track this product down in every store and nobody has it, I looked on Amazon and there's a seller that has it for $89.00... I can't bring myself to pay that much money for what once was a 5 dollar product. You should be put on trial for treason, crimes against humanity etc... PUT BLOW DRY IT BACK ON THE SHELVES AND GIVE ME MY SHINY HAIR BACK!!! Your product has 5 star reviews from over 1,000 people on amazon... what would make you think that this was a good move? new board member? new CEO? new idiot product manager?? EXPLAIN!@!!",0 +1096,"Is CVS carrying counterfeit products?. I bought Paul Mitchell Awapuhi shampoo and The Detangler conditioner at CVS. They both smelled great in the bottle but no smell lingered on my hair, even after using more product. Also, the shampoo hardly made any foam and my hair ended up being more tangled than usual. Has anybody had a similar experience while shopping at CVS?",0 +1097,"Hair gets oily FAST. Hello! I (23F) have been struggling a lot with my hair in the past few years. I have light brown, thin, and fragile hair. Currently, it is getting visibly oily by the end of the 24 hours after washing. + + +It hasn’t always been oily like this. Growing up I always used Herbal Essences “Long Term Relationship,” which I know it’s too great of a choice, but I was young. And honestly, I didn’t ever have oily hair until a normal two-three days after wash. + + +They stopped distributing the type of Herbal Essences I used around college age for me, so I switched to Pantene (… big mistake…), and I suspect the build up from that is what has caused the sudden oiliness. It was in those years that it got worse and began to be more about 1-2 days between washes that it would get visibly oily. And of course now, by the end of 24 hours already looks and feels horrible. + + +Since then, I have switched from Pantene, and attempted to use tea tree oil shampoos from different brands. And am now using Aveeno Apple Cider Vinegar Blend shampoo & conditioner. But I haven’t seen much improvement. Dry shampoo barely helps either. I have also tried training my hair and just going two or three days without wash for weeks on end, but it never changed. + + +Something else I’ve noticed is definitely build up on my scalp as well, as after I scratch my scalp (which I try not to do because I know it can contribute to the oils), I find the oily build up under my nails. + + +Any advice of products/treatment to use? Or anything I can do to help this?",0 +1098,"Are higher end products worthy?. I'm getting tired of using products from drugstore that do nothing with my hair. I'm thinking about trying redken, wella invigo or wella elements line. I have virgin not colored hair. My hair is straight with oily scalp. I have a lot of fall out and my hair lost its thickness due to stress. Any experiences with these shampoos?",0 +1099,"How to increase the volume in your hair?. My hair is naturally very straight and bleached though not too damaged (it's still soft). Lately I've noticed that everyday I wake up with the flattest hair ever, even if the night before I dryed it upside down with the hairdryer and styled it wavy/kinda curly at the lengths. I would like to let it grow long, but the lack of volume makes me feel frustrated and looks boring/messy. +Any suggestion?",0 +1100,"Would you recommend the olaplex shampoo and conditioner for someone with fine hair?. Would you recommend the olaplex no. 4 shampoo and conditioner for someone with fine hair? +26f, I have color treated medium length hair and have been using amika and pureology, but not loving some aspects of pureology. I have been wanting to try out olaplex for a while now and see if I love it as much as many others. Because my hair is fine, it gets greasy after a couple days. Also wanting more volume. If you have better, sulfate-free recommendations I’m all ears!",0 +1101,"Best drugstore recommendations for Shampoo and Conditioner?. EDIT: I live in Canada. No CVS' here, but we have shopper's drug mart, rexell, ect. I also have 2a/2b hair type. + + I put a TL;DR at the bottom for anybody who just wants to cut to the chase. + +Hey, guys. I'm really struggling to find a brand that my hair would be good with. + +I've kind of noticed that my hair isn't as soft as it usually is. It's long, and get tangled often out of the shower... I've been growing it out for about three years now, and haven't gotten a hair cut since the very first lockdown of the pandemic. + +I've also moved during the pandemic, and I live somewhere where we have very hard water. We have a water softener, but I can tell by the water spots after leaving a glass to dry or the stains around my faucet that it's probably not doing a great job of softening the water... Thought I'd add this, in case it's useful information to add! + +I've been trying to find shampoos and conditioners that don't have the harmful silicones and parabens... But I'm going cross eyed reading ingredient lists because some chemicals are listed under very long names that I mix up or aren't familiar with. I've tried going online and reading through dozens and dozens and DOZENS of reviews on products, but sadly I've always read somebody's hair falling out because of a product, or its shit, etc, etc. + +I understand the best quality are salon products, but as somebody who has a tight budget recently, I just can't keep affording these fifty dollars products for very little ounce bottles... Sometimes it's just not feasible at this moment in my life, so I'm looking for something to use in between or when I can't afford it. + +TL;DR- Looking for the BEST drugstore branded shampoo and conditioner because I can't afford salon quality hair care. I live somewhere with hard water, if that adds to anything.",0 +1102,"Anyone here who tried rice water?. I've seen how people praise it online, how amazing it is for hair etc. I have also seen that for some people rice water destroyed their hair cause of protein overload. I would like to try it but am afraid it could damage my hair. How do I know its safe to use for my hair?",0 +1103,"Products for very fine, very dry hair. So my hair is really soft and fine, I think the texture is 2a-2b (most of it gets wavy when it’s freshly clean). It’s usually quite dry especially near the ends, and it takes a long time to wet through and FOREVER to air dry. I do have a lot of it, but I’m talking 2-3 hours for just barely shoulder-length. + +Because it’s so fine I’ve found that most leave-ins and styling products (even mousses) are too heavy and leave it straighter and stringy-looking or irreversibly crunchy. The same goes for very moisturizing conditioners—they weigh it down and if I rinse too thoroughly it just counteracts what the conditioner is supposed to be doing. + +I do take showers that are way too hot but I’m COLD. Especially during this time of year I just can’t do the warm shower thing. So I’m wondering if anyone can recommend good conditioners and leave-ins for my hair texture. Thanks!",0 +1104,"Shaved skin deep, will my hair grow back?. Long story short - I'm stupid. I used a razor to shave my head, made some bald patches. Some places I even shaved the top skin layer. It's smooth like a baby's butt. No reminents of hair whatsoever. I can not elaborate enough on how absent hair is on these bold patches. As if it's always been that way. Will it grow back, what should I do if anything?",0 +1105,Flaky scalp help. ,0 +1106,My hairbrush gets linty quick. I would say my hair gets pretty oily quickly. I take a shower every two days. I cannot just wash myself without washing my hair because then my hair gets a weird texture I cannot stand. When I brush my hair it catches lint? Dandruff? I hardly see any dandruff on my head so I am assuming it’s lint. What can I do to resolve this issue? Tired of needing to wash my brush.,0 +1107,there are white bulb like things in the end of my fallen hair( the root end). what are these white bulb things? and what does this mean?. ,0 +1108,"Do flat irons damage your hair, the follicles, the scalp, or all of the above?. I have recently started straightening my hair with a flat iron, and I'm hearing lots of stuff about how it damages your hair. My hair (or head) does feel a bit sore after, but what is actually being damaged? + +Is it just the hair strands, or does the damage go all the way down to the follicles, or perhaps even the scalp? + +Also, the pain, is this from the heat, or is it just that my hair is now going ""against the grain"" if you will? + +I don't really mind if my hair strand becomes damaged, as I can just cut it off, but I don't want to be doing permanent damage to my follicles/scalp, and end up bald when I'm middle aged.",0 +1109,"Help! BF has long hair and his hairbrush is gross!. Hi Haircare! + + +So my fiance has hair that is long, like waist long, and it is incredibly fine, but reasonably thick. + +His hairbrush to me looks like it's got a build up of gunk. White dead skin and gunk. + +He doesn't have dandruff, but I suspect something else. + +Any ideas of how to help? I personally think he leaves conditioner/shampoo in his hair and that's why it is like this. I've showered with him, to observe what's up and I can't see an issue with how he's washing his hair. + +Literally any ideas would be helpful. I've got him to try different hairbrushes so at least he's not ripping all his hair out like he used to, but I'm noticing the same issue on his new hairbrush. + +Thanks for anything you have to offer in this situation. I love this man and I love his hair, so I want to help him love his hair going forward. + +<3",0 +1110,What are the best plastic-free haircare products?. I'm trying to be more sustainable and stop using plastic products in my home. My goal for the next week is to get rid of all plastic products from my bathroom. Do any of you have recommendations on plastic-free haircare brands?,0 +1111,"Went silicone/sulfate free and now my hair is breaking off more than ever. I’ve been working on the health of my hair for 15 months and nothing seems to be working. Only a few years back, I had mid back length hair by using Tresemme shampoo and conditioner, caviar leave in treatment, and the occasional coconut oil mask overnight. Between 2019-2020, I lost inches off my hair from over purple shampooing. Unfortunately, it took me a long time to notice. At the beginning of 2021, I stopped purple shampoo completely and started taking growth vitamins which really worked, but my ends were still dry. I was getting regular trims and my ends would be dry and frizzy immediately afterward. In August 2021, I switched to using only the Olaplex shampoo and conditioner, in addition to the No. 3 every other week and the No. 6 cream. I lost all of the length I gained back and my hair was breaking off like crazy. I purchased the Olaplex from Sephora fyi. In January of this year, I started using Briogeo don’t despair repair shampoo and conditioning mask, as well as the sulfate/silicone free leave in spray and strengthening oil (silicone free). I’m only washing my hair every 4 days, I rinse with cold water, I dry with a microfiber towel, sleep on a silk pillowcase and don’t wear my hair up. I am also putting oil in it the night before shampooing. I have no idea what I’m doing wrong. I’m pretty sure I have low porosity hair (it just sits on top of water in a glass), but it is fine and dry. Please help!",0 +1112,"Split End Products - Worth it or a scam?. I have horrible split ends, so I wanted to use a hair product that would maintain the healthy hair after a cut. + +I found a Kerastase Split End heat protectant cream at sephora, but is this a good find? or is it essentially the same benefit as another heat protectant cream that isnt marketed as split end preventing? + +I feel like nothing im using is actually going to keep my hair healthy. help!",0 +1113,"SpoiledChild hair products. Has anyone here used anything from this website? Couldn't find any reviews besides the ones in their own website, seems legit but pricey so I wanted some advice first..",0 +1114,What hair care products should absolutely everyone own?. ,0 +1115,"My hairstylist isn’t responding to my messages…. Hey everyone I was hoping for some advice. My new hairstylist isn’t responding to my messages and I don’t know what to do… I recently invested $250 in hair extensions with a stylist from a salon that has great reviews. I gave her the money to order hair extensions on a Friday, it is now Wednesday and she hasn’t given me any estimated delivery dates like we talked about in person. I have texted her number three times with no reply and even left her a message through the salon receptionist. She finally replied saying she would check and get back to me that day but has not given me an answer in two days… I’m very frustrated mainly due to the amount of money I invested and the lack of communication but I don’t want to come off as rude or pushy. But I would feel less worried if I new what was going on with my $$$. Anyway any advice would be greatly appreciated, Thank you!",0 +1116,"How to get more volume when you have none at all. I have long straight hair (sometimes slightly wavy) +My hair just has noooo volume. Even when I put my hair up in a bun, or blow-dry it with a round brush it just falls flat. +Last time I went to the hairdresser, I got a ""voluminous blowout"" ... And it was literally my same flat hair as always lol. Either she sucked or I really somehow have crazy hair? +What are your secrets to voluminous hair?",0 +1117,"Best protective hair style for long straight hair. What’s every one’s protective hair styles they use? +I’ve got waist length slightly wavy but mainly straight hair. I’ve lost a lot of thickness this year and last (assuming stress) +I have to have my hair up due to work so any hair styles would be helpful. +Anything for bedtime as well would be super great. + +Thank you!",0 +1118,I have a shampoo that says use three times a week during acute phase and once a week during the maintenance phase. What does that mean?. ,0 +1119,"How do I actually find and build a relationship ship with a hair guru?!?. Hi. I know this is dorky. I'm a 32 year-old nuerodivergent introvert who never figured out how to do... girl. I've wanted to learn about doing my hair well my whole life, and I'm trying to unlearn the shame I have about wanting to and putting in effort to look put-together and professional and pretty. My masking (referring to the ND effort to pass as nuerotypical) was modelled on a misogynistic male authority figure and I felt...ugh. sorry, I'm overexplaining. + +Most haircuts I've had were either done at home or at haircuttery. I've only ever dyed my hair at home. I have tried a couple times to go to a fancy hair place but I always feel like I don't understand the etiquette. How do I learn? How do I find a beautician/cosmetologist person to build trust with? Is there a script? can someone give me a script? I don't want them to think I'm weird but I don't know how to talk to fancy hair people.",0 +1120,"My hair is ALWAYS greasy. Help?. Hi guys. + +So I have fine-ish to medium level hair thickness and it is ALWAYS greasy no matter what products or methods I try. I wash my hair every 2-3 days and never put conditioner near the scalp, only below the ears to prevent greasiness. + +But my hair literally will look okay for one day after washing and then will go extremely greasy the next :( I’m not sure what else to do, I feel like I’ve tried everything and there’s no major difference. + +Any advice to this grease problem is much appreciated.",0 +1121,"I cannot straighten my hair for the life of me. I don’t know what’s up with my hair. I did keratin for years and when I did it I loved doing my hair, I could wear it straight, curl it or wear it curly. But 2020 came and I decided to stop the keratin and dying and get my hair and curls back to health. Now I have healthy curls, and all my hair is back to it’s choclately brown roots but when I blow out my hair it still has like a inch layer of frizz over it. I have the revlon blow out brush, another similar kind of smaller blow out brush, and a straightening iron. Even when I use all 3 on my hair it doesn’t look good. It’s really upsetting me because I have weddings and bapstisms coming up and as much as people will say oh wear your hair curly, literally these are fancy events that everyone has pretty much straight or curled hair. I wore my hair curly to a baptism this past year and to a wedding and while sure I looked fine I just kept noticing how I’m literally the only one and I actually like to straighten my hair sometimes so this just sucks. I do not want to do keratin again as I’m trying to conceive right now and I don’t want chemicals on me. What can I do??",0 +1122,"Tips for keeping dry/wavy/fine hair healthy and soft in winter?. My hair (especially ends) are so dry right now, and I can’t use too much product or it weighs down my hair and it just looks musty. I’m still new at maintaining my waves. I only just discovered I have wavy hair this past summer from using custom made hair products. I always thought I had straight hair. This is the first winter where I actually know I have waves.",0 +1123,Is the wolf cut the same thing as a modem shag? If not what’s the difference?. ,0 +1124,"Thoughts On Rosemary Oil. I’m kinda skeptical of the rosemary oil trend but does it actually work? Is there any scientific research that proves its validity? + +I don’t use home remedies because I’m 100% convinced that they don’t work but this trend is kinda making me wanna try it. + +So what you all think about it?",0 +1125,"why is it hard to run my hands through my hair?. it’s especially bad in the shower, it’s like my hair strands cling to each other, and i can feel stuff snapping + +it happens to a lesser extent when my hair is dry, but still happens. + +any advice would be appreciated ;-;",0 +1126,"I know I’m not the first and certainly won’t be the last but… my hair. Is. So. OILY.. Pretty much the title. I will go through phases of life where I can wash every other day and use dry shampoo with minimal oiliness. I have been sick for the last few months and clearly it has taken a toll. I take all kinds of vitamins and supplements (but I do not take biotin. I’m not opposed though). I can wash my hair at night, brush it, and wake up with greasy hair. Like not even 12 hours later. I have a checkup with my doctor for bloodwork soon but they really don’t care much about that stuff and have never been helpful before. + +I have also noticed I have acne on my back for the first time which I have never had in my 27 years of life. My hair itself is actually not too thin but is a bit frizzier than usual. I think it’s hormones but tests say no. We will see this time around. + +Anyways, anything to help is greatly appreciated. Going to the store soon and will buy anything that may help.",0 +1127,Sleeping in Silk Headwrap. Does anyone sleep in a silk head wrap? I heard that it prevents the hair from getting damaged. Thanks!,0 +1128,Should I shampoo/condition my hair every time my head gets relatively sweaty??. ,0 +1129,What are some of your hacks to maintain frizz during a humid day? I moisturize my hair very well yet once I’m out it gets dry and frizzy like humidity sucks all the moist out of it .. ,0 +1130,"The Science Behind Gray Hair. Gray hair is a visible sign of the natural course of aging that affects all populations. It occurs due to a loss of melanin, a pigment found in the skin, eyes and hair. Today's methods of combating gray hair consist of coloring it. However, the medical community is becoming confident that there could be ways to slow the process of going gray through new forms of medicine.  + +A quick note before diving into this topic. The word ""gray"" has different spellings. In American English it is commonly spelled ""gray"" and in British English it is commonly spelt ""grey"". I'll use ""gray"" throughout most of this post, except in the instance of publication titles.  + +You can read this post from my blog [here](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-the-science-behind-gray-hair.html). + +**Some History on Hair Dye** + +In the mid-1800s, English chemist William Henry Perkin made the first non-natural dye, with natural hair dyes being solutions like [henna](https://www.healthline.com/health/beauty-skin-care/disadvantages-of-henna-for-hair#henna-101). According to an article published by The Atlantic titled ""[Hair Dye: A History](https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/01/hair-dye-a-history/383934/)"", Perkin ""serendipitously synthesized the first non-natural dye: Starting with coal tar, he was hoping to produce the malaria drug quinine, but instead created mauve. His discovery revolutionized the textile industry and launched the petrochemical industry. Natural dyes just didn’t have the staying power and vivid colors of the dye Perkin created. Never before had such a steadfast dye been found"". Perkin's discovery was the catalyst for today's modern hair dyes. However, now coal tar dyes are uncommon and need to be approved by the [FDA](https://www.fda.gov/cosmetics/cosmetic-products/hair-dyes) before entering the market due to a rise in allergic reactions and eye injuries. Hairstylists plus consumers currently have safer options for coloring gray hair.  [Statista](https://www.statista.com/topics/6216/hair-color-dye-market-in-the-us/) cites that ""the global market for hair coloring reached over 29 billion U.S. dollars in 2019 and is expected to increase [beyond 40 billion U.S. dollars](https://www.statista.com/statistics/972997/global-hair-color-market-value/) by 2023"". + +**Why does our hair turn gray?** + +All hair strands with color have varying amounts of pigments known as melanin. Melanin is a dark brown or black pigment. The amount in the strand determines how light or dark your hair appears. Melanin is also responsible for eye and skin color, as well as and your skin’s tanning response to the sun. Melanocytes are cells that control the production of melanin during a process that happens below the scalp's surface. Over time, the melanocytes in your hair [can die](https://kidshealth.org/en/kids/gray-hair.html#:~:text=As%20we%20get%20older%2C%20the,or%20white%20%E2%80%94%20as%20it%20grows.), which results in your strands turning grey, and eventually white. Interestingly, the loss of melanocytes in the hair tends to occur earlier than the loss of those in the skin.  + +**Are there differences in the way men versus women go gray?** + +Yes. In men, gray hair typically begins at the temples and sideburns, then spreads to the top of the head, and then to the back. In women, gray hair starts at the root area around the hairline framing the face, and then moves towards the top of the head.  + +**When will I go gray?** + +Ethnicity plays a factor in whether you will go gray, and when. According to [WebMD](https://www.webmd.com/beauty/features/abcs-premature-graying) ""Typically, \[Caucasians\] start going gray in their mid-30s, Asians in their late 30s, and African-Americans in their mid-40s. Half of all people have a significant amount of gray hair by the time they turn 50. A \[Caucasian\]  is considered to be prematurely gray if their hair turns gray by age 20; gray before 30 is early for African-Americans"". Seeing if and when your parents and grandparents have hair that turns gray may give you the best idea of when your hair could turn gray.​ + +**Aside from genetics, what are the causes of gray hair?** + +*Stress* +The science community is still working on the exact mechanism of graying. It's not uncommon to hear that stress causes gray hair.  Researchers examining gray hair have found [free radicals](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/318652#What-are-free-radicals), or damaging chemicals caused by stress and environments, are responsible for destroying pigment. More testing will be needed to prove these connections. + +*Illness* +Due to their being a strong association between age and illness, it's often asked whether or not gray hair is a [sign of a shorter lifespan](https://www.medicaljournals.se/acta/content_files/files/pdf/92/2/3521.pdf), or of illness. Studies suggest that it's more likely a part of the aging process and dictated by genetics, plus possible environmental factors. Keeping these points in mind, below are some conditions that have be found to cause gray hair, as cited by [Harvard Medical School](https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/hair-turn-gray-2017091812226): + +* Vitamin B12 deficiency +* Neurofibromatosis 1 (also called Von Recklinghausen’s disease) +* Tuberous sclerosis (an uncommon, inherited condition) +* [Thyroid disease](https://www.health.harvard.edu/heart-health/thyroid-hormone-how-it-affects-your-heart) +* Vitiligo (this condition causes loss or destruction of melanocytes cells) +* Alopecia areata (a disorder in which patches of hair may be suddenly lost)​ + +**Can gray hair be ""cured"" (i.e. revitalizing the life and lifespan of melanocyte cells)?** + +Not yet, but the medical community is pretty optimistic that, at best, you can slow the aging process. Below are studies and articles  highlighting the possibility of reversing gray hair.  + +[Gray Hair can Return to its Original Color and Stress is Involved of Course](https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/gray-hair-can-return-to-its-original-color-mdash-and-stress-is-involved-of-course/) +This article points out that some hair strands can have pigment near the scalp and a loss of pigment on the ends. This suggests that when the stressor was lower, melanin production started again. + +[Medication-Induced Repigmentation of Gray Hair: A Systematic Review](https://www.karger.com/Article/FullText/504414) +​This study puts forth that some causes of prematurely graying hair are reversible. Nutritional deficiencies in Vitamin B12, iron, and copper, as well as severe protein malnutrition, have been linked to a diffusion of pigmentation. + +[​](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30556257/)[Relationship between diet, atopy, family history, and premature hair graying](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30556257/) +This study proposed a relationship between diet preference, having a normal weight, and decreasing alcohol consumption having an effect on slowing the graying process. + +[Topical RT1640 treatment effectively reverses gray hair and stem cell loss in a mouse model of radiation-induced canities](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/pcmr.12913) +This study, done with mice, shows a pharmacological approach for reversing gray hair. + +[Relationships between Trace Elements and Premature Hair Graying](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6369637/) +This study's goal was to monitor and document the relationship between premature graying and serum iron, copper, and calcium levels. Its findings are “premature graying may be an indicator that hair is not getting enough nutrients and minerals, and supplementation with these trace elements might reverse and is expected to prevent progression of canities; however, further studies are needed to find the underlying mechanism of this relationship.” + +**Sources** + +* [*The Aging Hair Pigmentary Unit*](https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-642-02636-2_9) +* [*Medication-Induced Repigmentation of Gray Hair: A Systematic Review*](https://www.karger.com/Article/FullText/504414) +* [*Greying of the human hair: a worldwide survey, revisiting the '50' rule of thumb*](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22716034/) +* *​*[*Premature  Graying of Hair: Review with Updates*](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30607038/) +* [*Towards a “free radical theory of graying”: melanocyte apoptosis in the aging human hair follicle is an indicator of oxidative stress induced tissue damage*](https://faseb.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1096/fj.05-4039fje)",0 +1131,"Hair routine after a hair wash?. What are some of your steps once you wash your hair? +Any serums, creams or oil you add while it’s wet? Any for once it’s dry? +My hair is fairly wavy and probably has potential to have lovely waves but once I brush it, it just looks frizzy and dry. +My hair is also thinning on my forehead/temple area. Pls help I don’t use heat on my hair so I guess that’s a good start :’) I think it may be damaged from dying it when I was younger. It’s a lot healthier than what it was but I want to really take care of my hair.",0 +1132,"Why after dye hair treatments make your hair look so beautiful?. I generally don't understand how after hair dye treatments and masks make your hair look so shiny, healthy, I mean seriously my hair never looked better than now. If they so effective then why many other masks and treatments for hair are so inefficient? I tried tons of hair masks and treatments, but I never experienced better result than box dye hair treatments",0 +1133,"i never learned to care for my hair, but i want to fix that. hello, for some context - i’m a 25f who was never really taught anything about beauty from my mom/family. like i was made to shower and stuff but my mom never taught me how to properly wash my hair or even how to put it in a ponytail. its embarassing but i remember as a child, sometimes not washing out conditioner enough, and it would be hard on my hair when i went to school and other girls would point it out. i also never used a hairdryer growing up, i own one now but still don’t use it, i just allow it to air dry. i’m not sure if that’s good or bad but i have noticed that i NEVER see women with wet hair in public, but i do go out with wet hair if i have to leave very soon after i shower. + +so obviously my hair sucks lol. i have minor dandruff that i have always dealt with but it’s veryyyy noticeable because i have black hair, and all these tiny white specks that are so small i can’t even pick them out. even fresh out the shower, i have them. my hair also can feel strawlike, or like there is still product in it. and looks/feels greasy in the back of my head. + +these are the main issues i would like to solve (dandruff, greasy, strawlike) +i do want to fix my hair but no idea where to start. currently i use head and shoulders which i know is not good for my hair but i’ve often used 2in1 because it’s just easier. i have heard of prose, is that a good product? or is there something else to try? also tips on HOW to properly wash or dry or style my hair would be much appreciated",0 +1134,"Are expensive hair towels worth it?. I am interested in the crown affair hair towel ($45) and the volo hair towel ($39). I like these designs more than the others because they are actual square/rectangular towels with an elastic strap, not a turban shaped wrap. I just can’t justify the price, especially for something made of microfiber.",0 +1135,"Hair growth then completely breaking off, not sure why. Hi! I'm a 21F and in 2020/ 2021 I bleached and colored my hair with semi permanent colors A LOT. It finally caught up to me and I had extreme hair breakage(mid shaft) especially to one side (I'm pretty sure it's because it's the side I started on with bleaching) but overall I've had extreme hair breakage and damage since. I found nutriox and I was using the one for chemically treated hair (both shampoo and conditioner) and I noticed it was working and then my hair would get to a certain length then just break right off. Especially on one side, but now I'm noticing it on the other side more too. I started taking this vitamin called hairtamin and it seems to help as well but how can I stop this breakage from happening? I haven't been bleaching my hair since, ( I have used a semi permanent hair color tho and after I've noticed that it seems worse). I really want my long hair back and I want it strong and healthy again. I know about olaplex but it is very expensive so if there are any dupes that work well please leave some comments below, or just any other products that will help repair my hair and help it grow long I'd really appreciate it.",0 +1136,What kind of Haircut is the best for me?. ,0 +1137,"braid wet hair then sleep in it?. I've been braiding my hair after I shower, bc it's SO incredibly long and I get less knots in the morning. I don't put anything in it, but leave in conditioner spray(not your mothers brand) maybe a few days a week. I got the idea from a co-worked that has MUCH longer hair then me. Mine is mid to upper back. I'm wondering if braiding it after a shower then sleeping with it in the braid is damaging? I know I desperately need to cut it all off. I can't take care and do what I want, I just don't have the time or energy. + +Is this something I can continue until my appointment or should I stop?",0 +1138,"I am losing my hair rapidloy and i still dont know whether it is normal or not.. I am a 17 year old female. Always had my hair shed rapidly, but for the past 2 weeks it has been INTENSE. + +When I shower, theres handful of hair on the floor, and after im done with the shower id feel my hair fall down my arms every minute and the apartment floor is just full of hair pieces here and there. + +I am concerned because idk if this is the hair that NEEDS to fall off or something that i need to prevent. ASAP. My vitamin D levels are normal and im outside at least 3 times a day. I also shower at least twice a week. Any tips on how i can make it stop? or less intense?",0 +1139,"How often do you wash your hair?. When I was younger, I could go a week without washing my hair. But now I need to wash my hair every other day. So, how often do you guys wash your hair?",0 +1140,"Seven Hair YouTubers to Watch. # [Seven Hair YouTubers to Watch](https://i.ibb.co/bHw74Mr/Hair-You-Tubers.png) + +According to [Statista](https://www.statista.com/statistics/627448/most-popular-youtube-beauty-channels-ranked-by-subscribers/), during 2018 YouTube ""beauty-related content generated more than 169 billion views on the video platform"". Today, that content broadly consists of channels talking about hair, skincare and makeup. Hair-related content focuses on tutorials for routines, hairstyles, plus product recommendations and/or hauls (trials and reviews of several products at the same time). Commentary, “top list”, and Q&A are also popular video formats. Considering the abundance of information on YouTube,  I wanted to highlight some YouTubers that, as a hairstylist, I think give the best advice on hair care.  + +(This is the entire text from my [original blog](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-seven-hair-youtubers-to-watch.html) \- minus the YouYube video preview) + +[**Manes by Mell**](https://www.youtube.com/c/ManesByMellGuido/featured) + +**Followers:** 605K + +**About:** Mell Guido is a licensed cosmetologist delivering insights on how to get healthy, frizz free curls with a humorous spin. She teaches you how to moisturize, style and add volume to curly hair in 13-40 min videos. If you're looking to color your curly hair, she's the best resource for managing the [damage and frizz](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-i---damage.html) that can come from lightening it.  + +**YouTuber Recommended Resource:**  From her video [BRAD MONDO CALLED ME A LIAR... LET'S TALK ABOUT IT](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XuXwkNwH6ks), check out [The effect of various cosmetic pretreatments on protecting hair from thermal damage by hot flat ironing](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21635854/). + +[**Lab Muffin Beauty Science**](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCg6P323bLV4zMSWFqFhvWMg) + +**Followers:** 304K + +**About:** Michelle Wong is a cosmetic chemist with a PhD in chemistry. As a science educator, she started Lab Muffin because “ there weren't enough easy-to-understand explanations of the science behind beauty products"". Her videos offer science-backed information mainly targeted at skin, with a few gems focused on hair. + +**YouTuber Recommended Resource, from her Lab Muffin blog:** [How Does Olaplex Hair Treatment Work?](https://labmuffin.com/how-does-olaplex-hair-treatment-work/) + +[**Curly Chemistry**](https://www.youtube.com/c/CurlyChemistry) + +**Followers:** 147K + +**About:** Tonya S. Lane is a cosmetic chemist with a passion for natural hair care. Her content is focused on ingredients and looks beyond how a product is marketed to you. By leveraging shorter videos that get to the point, she'll quickly leave you with many takeaways to put into practice. + +**YouTuber Recommended Resource:** Check out her hair diagrams in [5 Crazy Easy Tips for Longer Hair!](https://curlychemistry.com/2020/11/28/5-crazy-easy-tips-for-longer-hair/) + +[**Green Beauty**](https://www.youtube.com/c/GreenBeauty/about) + +**Followers:** 381K + +**About:** Green Beauty is the creator of GreenBeauty, a YouTube channel that uses ""3D Animation, Live Experiments, and Proven Research to put popular natural hair care methods to the test"". She started the channel to help people make sense of the complicated science behind products and their ingredients. + +**YouTuber Recommended Resource:** From her video [PROS and CONS of using BAKING SODA on your natural hair](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E8akd7jzPag&t=38s), check out [Baking Soda – The Everyday Miracle.](https://oconto.extension.wisc.edu/files/2011/02/Baking-Soda.pdf) + +[**Dr Dray**](https://www.youtube.com/c/DrDrayzday) + +**Followers:** 1.47M + +**About:** Dr. Dray is a dermatologist based in Texas. Her videos mainly focus on skin, but she also has a [Hair Q&As](https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLUM_QJFLRbNKTu0mNwr1mJ6g_sw6tjs9I) playlist with 60 hair videos, each 10 - 30 minutes in length, where she gives advice on topics ranging from hair loss treatments to scalp health to damaged hair. + +**YouTuber Recommended Resource:** From her video [BEST OILS FOR HAIR GROWTH | Pumpkin seed oil, Rosemary oil, & MORE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7U8kmeOGK4M&t=229s), check out [Effect of pumpkin seed oil on hair growth in men with androgenetic alopecia](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24864154/). + +[**Afope Atoyebi**](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuZzKqQ4yVP033meVSt_gBg) + +**Followers:** 52.3K + +**About:** Afope Atoyebi is a trichologist (hair and scalp specialist) and cosmetic chemist in training. According to her: ""An iron deficiency is the most common health condition in the world, and could very well be the underlying reason your hair isn’t 'growing' or why it's shedding excessively"" (see video below). Her content covers the intersection of science and hair care.  + +**YouTuber Recommended Resource:** From her video [LOW HEAT BLOWOUT How to prevent heat damage on natural hair](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DLYl4cJlpoQ), check out [Hair Shaft Damage from Heat and Drying Time of Hair Dryer](https://anndermatol.org/DOIx.php?id=10.5021/ad.2011.23.4.455). + +[**Sarah Ingle**](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEhh4Rhbx4eKoU4ApvGWCmw) + +**Followers:** 140K + +**About:** Sarah Ingle sports long blonde hair while busting common hair myths. If you spend enough time on her channel, you too will never buy gummy hair vitamins sold online in the shape of a bear. With a Masters of Science in Marketing and Hair Practitioner certification via the [International Association of Trichologists](https://www.iattrichology.com/about-iat-2), she offers a unique view on product ingredients compared to peer reviewed studies. + +**YouTuber Recommended Resource (from video below):** [Chemical and Physical Behavior of Human Hair 5th Edition Clarence R. Robbins](https://www.academia.edu/33912612/Chemical_and_physical_behavior_of_human_hair_springer_2001_1_) + +​",0 +1141,Shampoos that smell nice?. Any suggestions on shampoo that has a scent but also is good for the hair? Or maybe something that'll make it smell nice?,0 +1142,"Favorite purple shampoo?. What purple shampoo do you recommend? I get highlights about every six months and am naturally dirty blond, but looking for a better purple shampoo to help tone and counter the brassiness",0 +1143,"How to sleep with curls?!?!. I have naturally straight hair so I usually use a curling iron to style it for work (I’m a dancer). Tomorrow I have a job in the morning and don’t want to curl it that early. If I hear curl it tonight, what would be the best way to preserve the curls?!? Bonnet? Night cap? HELP",0 +1144,"Is hair greying reversible?. Hi everyone, + +Anybody been able to reverse premature hair greying? + +Im in my early 20s, started seeing hair strands, +Came from a blood test and i have vitamin b12 and D deficiency + +Can i reverse it? +Does grey hair turn back to normal?",0 +1145,"I used to have that silky, smooth, straight asian hair when i was a kid but in middle school, my hair—still straight—became dull, coarse, and poofy (and by poofy i mean like an afro but w straight hair). My hair also dries very quickly and poofs after any water exposure (including humidity). Why :((. Also, ive noticed that maybe 1 in 500 hairs will be EXTREMELY curly and coarse but the rest of my hair is stick straight. The only problem is that every single strand of hair on my head frizzes after contact with water which makes my hair look so big, poofy, and unruly. What can i do besides pulling out a lot of my hair to make the poof look more tame? Nothing else works",0 +1146,"Hi. My hair is to the middle of my back. I work with gardening and construction work. I usually put my hair in a ponytail, but I was wondering if there is any better ways to put up my hair. Because my hair in the front is struggling a little. They have to be easy and endure a lot. Btw I’m a girl. ",0 +1147,"What's causing this uneven hair thickness?. Sometimes when my hair gets a bit unruly to brush I'll notice hairs that are much coarser than the others. Although they're largely thicker, they also have weak points and tend to be a bit wavy in a way I can't seem to quite tame. Here's a [picture](https://ibb.co/G7bzBYM) comparing two strands of my hair. + +What's causing this? I know it's not exess heat at least, and I haven't changed any of my products recently either.",0 +1148,"How to get rid of oily hair?. Hi all! I’m a 24F with fine, straight hair. I’ve always struggled with having oily hair. Let’s say I wash it today, it gets oily on the 2nd day after washing. + +Does anyone have any natural remedies I could use or a specific shampoo that helps with such a thing? + +I really wanna reduce the number of washes I do per week…",0 +1149,"Male with medium length hair. I think it looks its best when it's damp after a sweaty workout. My hair covers about half of my ears and is about 4 - 5 inches on top. This might sound weird but I think my hair looks its best when slightly damp after a workout. I can't explain it, and I can't replicate it with water - only sweat. + +Why is this? Does anybody feel the same about theirs?",0 +1150,"y’all how do I prevent / stop greasy hair?. I used to shower / shampoo everyday for school, but towards the end of the school year my hair suddenly got really greasy. Apparently it’s bad for your hair to wash everyday, so I stopped doing it, but now no matter what my hair is greasy, especially when I get out of the shower, even if I didn’t use shampoo / any products on it. + + +Anybody got any tips on removing greasy hair? Thanks",0 +1151,"Can You Train Oily Hair?. # Can You Train Oily Hair? + +For years I've heard people talk about ""training"" the scalp to be less oily, with the training method being focused on washing your hair less frequently. However, this theory was disproven in 1982 by [Kligman and Shelley](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/13525782/), who showed that washing your hair has no effect on the amount of oil produced by your scalp because it is the result of hormonal and genetic factors. Additionally, your sebaceous glands have no way of responding to more or less oils being present on the surface of the scalp.  +\[This is the text of the blog it just missing the schedules at the bottom because it did not copy over well- [original blog post](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-can-you-train-oily-hair.html).\] + +The uniqueness of your hair type becomes more apparent when you hear advice that could never work for you. How frequently you should wash your hair is that kind of advice. Whether it works for you or not often has to do with two factors (1) how much oil your scalp produces and (2) how fine your hair is. In this post, I outline who should consider washing their hair daily, along with methods/schedules for doing so.  + +**Who benefits from daily washing?** + +If your scalp produces too much oil your hair can have a greasy appearance. For some, that means shampooing daily to maintain a ""voluminous"" and “clean” look. Daily washing tends to help those with: + +* Lower hair density (i.e. less hair follicles per square centimeter on the scalp). This hair type can appear sparser from excess oil reducing volume. +* A narrower average hair strand diameter (i.e. the diameter of the circumference of a single strand of hair). A thinner, finer hair strand tends to be less porous than a thicker courser one, which allows more oil to cling to the surface and remain visible.  +* Oily skin. If your skin tends to produce more oil, often your scalp will too.  +* Hair that tangles easily due to breakage. Washing more frequently is a great way to remove shredded hair that causes tangles. +* Scalp build up. Increased oil production can lead to scalp issues, and washing more often can help mitigate these. For abnormally excessive scalp build up, you may need to consult your doctor for additional treatment options. + +​**Who does not benefit from daily washing?** + +Regardless of whether your scalp produces too much oil, there are hair types where it may not be beneficial to wash daily. It tends NOT to help those with: + +* Higher hair density  (i.e. more hair follicles per square centimeter on the scalp). People with thicker hair may feel that it appears too ""puffy"" if they wash daily. +* A wider average hair strand diameter (i.e. the diameter of the circumference of a single strand of hair). A thicker, courser hair strand tends to absorb more oil, which removes moisture from the surface of the hair. +* Dry skin. If your skin tends to underproduce oil, then you may experience a dry scalp, which needs more oil rather than less. Washing too frequently can exacerbate this problem. An overall tight scalp signals when the scalp is being ""overwashed"". +* Naturally voluminous hair. This applies to people with both curly and straight hair. They will want to use oil-based products to counterbalance the natural ""puffiness"" of their hair type. + + +​​**Suggested Styling Products** + +These are the types of products that people who daily wash should focus on. The point is to avoid oil-based products to avoid adding more oil to your hair. If you find you like oil-based products, like leave-in creams, you can still use them. Just avoid your root area. It's important to note that [sulfates and silicones](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-recommended-product-ingredients.html) are not inherently bad, especially for oily hair.   + +* ""Hold"" Products (ex: Mousse) +* Texturizing Sprays/Products +* Sea Salt Sprays (aka Beach Sprays) +* Dry Shampoos +* Powder Products (ex: Dry Texture Spray) + +​**Recommended Hair Washing Schedules/Methods for Fine Hair** + +Try the following schedules/methods to see what works best for your hair. If you live somewhere with seasonal changes, you may find different schedules/methods work better during different seasons. Generally you will avoid applying conditioner to your root area in all of these schedules/methods. However, if you have excessive breakage it may make sense to apply conditioner to your roots as well.  For those that don't know, a co-wash (mentioned in #4) is a cream cleanser that acts as a combination shampoo plus conditioner.  + +**Day of the WeekSchedule/Method #1Schedule/Method** **#2Schedule/Method** **#3Schedule/Method** **#4** + +\[Schedules on the [original blog post](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-can-you-train-oily-hair.html) it was hard to organize here.\]",0 +1152,"Hair perfume/oil recommendations?. I was wondering if anyone had any experience using hair perfume? I was looking for something to give my hair an amber/ vanilla smell. Everything I find is either straight perfume or a styling product with a “light scent” added. And I’m looking for a longer lasting scent if possible! +If it helps at all I have frizzy blonde 2a hair",0 +1153,"I’m a 19 year old male and my hair falls more frequently ever since I started to let it grow longer.. You guys probably get this kinda questions a lot so my bad. It’s like my hair falls with the slightest touch. It’s more noticeable when I shower. I don’t know what to do. What should I do? I’m not familiar with different Shampoos. I’ve been using Head & Shoulders all my life. So yeah, any solutions? To clarify, it started when my hair started to reach the tip of my nose. Oh and my hair is a bit wavy if that matters.",0 +1154,Rosemary vs Grapeseed Oil for Hair Growth/Health. I feel like I probably don’t need to get both but the internet says both are great with not real comparison. Is there one that’s better or more effective?,0 +1155,"leave-in products. Please share what leave-in products you like that can be applied on dry hair to make it feel softer and hydrated. I wash my hair twice a week. First day my hair feels great, soft and tangle free. However, next days my hair feels drier and drier. I would like to have leave-in that will help to revive my hair in between washes. +Thanks!",0 +1156,"Can I dye my hair six months after using henna?. I used Noorani Henna hair dye in chestnut and brown. It was dyed in October, but I’m wanting to go back to the salon to get my hair dyed. I want it a bit darker than the color of my hair now with the henna, but also wanted some light pieces (blond). Am I able to safely dye over my henna hair dye? The ingredients of the henna dye are : henna powder, para amino phenol, para phenylene diamine, sodium peborate, critic acid, and magnesium carbonate",0 +1157,I have to wear my hair up for work and have lots of breakage underneath. What styles can I do to prevent this?. ,0 +1158,"Best smelling dog shampoo?. Okay. I am sure this is meant more for humans but it is haircare! So, you know...I'm reaching. lol. + +What's the best smelling dog shampoo? I just had an...incident...with one of my dogs. And they had to get a bath. I realized their shampoo kind of smells awful. I had to spray him with some essential oil spray after, just to be able to tolerate him. Any suggestions for the best smelling shampoo that is good for the pups?",0 +1159,"Desperately need help with my hair. Hi everyone, for months now I have been having trouble with my hair and how it looks. Whenever I wash it, it ALWAYS looks greasy afterwards. It doesn't matter what I do it keeps happening. The best way I can describe my hair is that it looks wet even though it's dried completely. +I have tried No SLS shampoo, shampoo's with SLS, I've tried clarifying shampoos, I've tried washing it less and more often, I've tried letting it dry naturally and blow drying it. I've also tried double shampooing it, no conditioner, hair masks, using luke warm water to rinse, using cold water to rinse. I am at my wits ends with my hair, it's genuinely really upsetting me as I'm not sure what is causing my hair to be this way or how to fix it. + +​ + +Please can anyone shred any light on this? Thank you for reading.",0 +1160,Dry and frizzy hair to greasy scalp. Hello can someone please tell me how to make my hair soft and shiny 😩 cuz every time I wash my hair its so dry and frizzy but after a few days it gets so greasy 😕,0 +1161,"How do I know if a shampoo is ""working""?. I got my hair cut yesterday and my stylist said whatever shampoo I was using was not working because my hair didn't have the sheen it should. Well I didn't really notice because I don't pay that much attention to my hair, but if switching shampoos would make my hair healthier I'll happily do that. However I'm not sure how to tell if a shampoo is working or not. What should my hair look and feel like if my shampoo is good? I have some brands in mind to try but I'm not sure what to look for when I use them. + +I'm a white guy with short, thick, brown hair. I get it shaved down to a 3 on the sides then keep the top longer. I had my hair parted for so long that basically I have keep it parted or I'll fight it every day lol. I also have a couple intense cowlicks so I can't cut the top too short (unless I want a buzz I guess) or it just sticks all over the place. I wash my hair usually every other day because I heard washing every day isn't good. I find that after 3 days without washing it gets kinda shiny and oily so I figured every other day was a good plan. + +Thanks for any insight you have!",0 +1162,"Help! My hairdresser burned my hair and I don’t know how to fix it. I got a hair cut recently with a new hairdresser. She did a fun combo of not cutting it how I wanted it and ignoring everything I told her about my hair 🙃 + +One thing I’d told her was that I don’t use heat styling on my hair because it’s dry and curly and just doesn’t react well to it. The only thing it really tolerates is blow drying on a low temp with a diffuser. Day to day I just air dry it. She said I didn’t need to worry and it would be fine for her to use heat, just to make it a little ‘sleeker’. +She didn’t use any heat protection spray, blow dried it on a high temp, straightened it, and then curled it. It immediately smelt burned. And stayed that way the last few days. +Today is the first morning I’ve washed it since then and the moment it got wet it stank. Like absolutely reeked, an awful combo of wet dog and when you singe your hair on a candle or something. And the smell will not go! I washed it three times (cold water), left a deep conditioning mask on for 10 mins and it’s still stinking. It feels dry and damaged, but my main concern is getting rid of this stench first. I smell embarrassingly bad and even perfume isn’t disguising it. My serum didn’t cover it either. +What do I do?!",0 +1163,"I did made a recent hair transformation using 4 natural products which I wanna share with you guys. This is my story + +I started losing hair at an alarming rate a few years ago but I didn't pay much attention to it and thought it's just a phase and will pass but sadly for me the hair seemed to have thinned around the temples and crown area and we're not growing back fast enough. So I started researching and read about male pattern baldness and noticed I had signs of it. So I read about the FDA approved medicines for hair loss. + +Now let me first tell a bit about the FDA approved medicines for hair loss which are minoxidil and finasteride. These medicines do work but comes with a number of side effects for many people, I did read about these medicines in detail and decided to try minoxidil and it worked well for me but it came with dizziness and rapid heartbeat which forced me to stop it and I was hesitant to try Finasteride since a dermatologist told me it can have sexual side effects. + +Now on the lookout for more and more natural alternatives I started reading Scientific studies done on alopecia and came across some products which seemed to have little to no side effects and were working in studies. So I decided to try them and had an amazing result with it and the products are these + +Now let me tell you the natural things that I used to regrow my hair. + +Pumpkin seed oil - This is the first product natural product I would recommend to any male or female who is suffereing from hair loss. Pumpkin seed oil contains phytosterols which could block enzymes and hormones in your scalp that cause hair loss. There are studies that taking pumpkin seed oil as an oral supplement caused 40 more hair growth in people than the placebo group. But i still decided to use it in topical form since I also read a mice study which says that it works well in topical form too. Take 5–6 drop and mix it with the other oil that I will mention and massage it at night. + +Peppermint oil - This is an absolute favourite product of mine and I would like to say use it with caution and always dilute it before using as it is very powerful. I started using this product based on a rat study in which rats were divided into 4 gropus and one group were applied saline water, one group was applied jojoba oil, one was applied minoxidil ans the last were applied peppermint oil. All the rats were examined after 4 weeks and in this study it was noted that peppermint oil group rats showed comparable or even better results than the minoxidil group rats. Now many people may not like the fragrance of pumpkin seed oil and by mixing it with peppermint there is only the fragrance of menthol that remains and it cools the head like no other. + +Good DHT controlling shampoo - There are many good DHT controlling shampoos in the market. I would suggest you to look for ingredients like saw palmetto, nettle leaf extract as they are natural DHT blockers. I personally use wow DHT blocking shampoo but you can use any other there that you may find useful. + +Moringa - Moringa is a nutritional powerhouse which has a ton of health benefits including protecting and nourishing skin and hair. It is said to contain a whooping 92 nutrients and 46 antioxidants which beside being good for hair also contributes towards heart health, bone health, high blood pressure, stomach problems etc. But people with low blood pressure should avoid this as this has the potential to lower the bp further. You can buy himalaya shigru tablets they contain moringa or use organic india moringa leaf powder or any other which you may find helpful.",0 +1164,"I (19m) need advice on keeping my curls defined, throughout the day. How do I keep my hair from getting frizzy, and less curly, as the day progresses?. ",0 +1165,Olaplex. Im not sure where I can go to ask for help on this but… I recently started using Olaplex and I took their quiz online and they gave me this calendar thing based on my answers. I was just wondering if anyone could clarify what “skip shampoo” means. Does that mean I only use conditioner on those days? (I would add a screenshot of the calendar but it won’t let me in the post),0 +1166,"Stylist said I could wash my hair (with shampoo) after Korean Perm. I just got a Korean perm today, and had asked my stylist about washing my hair with shampoo and how long I should wait, and basically got an answer that it was alright because of some different type of chemical used for the perm. Not sure how accurate this is, but she also did wash my hair out with shampoo after. Is my perm screwed and should I be washing it at all with water right now?",0 +1167,"My 15-year-old brother is having severe hair loss. Please help.. My younger brother is just 15 yr old and is having severe hair loss. My mom's side of the family does have a history of men having hair loss. I am really scared and IDK what am I supposed to do. Would really appreciate it if I can get some advice on how we can treat it. We both have severe dandruff as well but he is having severe hair fall. If you are from India, I would appreciate it if I can get some contact details of dermatologists whose treatment actually worked.",0 +1168,"Best dry shampoos? I’ve used batiste in the past and think it works well, but I’m trying to create a healthier hair routine and I’m not sure how good batiste is for your hair. ",0 +1169,"Tools for putting thick hair in a bun?. My hair is very long and fairly thick. When I use bobby pins to secure a bun, they basically do nothing and the bun falls out. + +Recently, I’ve been using 2-3 claw clips to hold a bun up. That works fairly well, but it isn’t exactly a cute, stylish hairdo. It looks kind of clunky with the clips. + +So, people with long, thick hair: how do you put your hair in a bun and get it to stay put and get it to look nice? I am very gentle with my hair so I would prefer any suggestions for Bobby pin replacements that are non-damaging.",0 +1170,"How To Get The Cut You Want. If you've ever raced out of a salon with tears in your eyes, you already know it's hard to explain to a stylist exactly what you're hoping to get. While it's not always this dramatic (and possibly good for your personality to have at least one bad haircut in your life), rest assured the struggle is over. + +In this post, I'll explain haircut verbiage and give tips for communicating the haircut you want. + +(This is the entire text from my [original blog](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-how-to-get-the-cut-you-want.html), which includes pictures to go with the sections below)​ + +​ + +**​Length** + +The place where the longest pieces of your hair end. Always point to where you think this should be on your body or face. If your desired length is really short, showing pictures is a must. Telling the stylist when your last haircut was also helps teach them about your length preference. Keep in mind that length can vary at different places on a haircut, hence the next section ""Shorter Than Length"". + +​ + +**​Shorter Than Length** + +Pieces that are shorter than the length of your hair, and live (i.e. grow) at the very top of your head, help add movement to your look. Texture is the opposite of having a cut that is all one length. It breaks up the hair into shorter pieces that blend into your length (aka layers). When asking your stylist for texture, show photos of what you like and don't like.  + +For shorter hair around your face (aka face framing layers), point to where you think the shortest piece should be. When talking to your stylist, say things like: ""I want to have soft layers no shorter than my shoulders, but only around my face"" or ""I would like the shortest pieces around my face to start at my chin"". Again, physically pointing helps communicate what you want to the stylist. For shorter hair around your forehead (aka bangs), follow the same system.  + +​ + +**​​Blunt Ends** + +Blunt ends give the appearance of a shelf or sharp line where the length of your hair stops. When done correctly, they provide a clean, crisp appearance, and are associated with the look of ""freshly cut"" hair. ​ + +​ + +**​Soft Ends​** + +Soft ends are the opposite of blunt ends. Instead of a sharp line, there is a tapered appearance where the hair seems to end in ""points"" or ""tips"". Common terms to describe them are ""lived in"" and ""broken up"".",0 +1171,Looking for heavily fragranced shampoo. Couldn’t find any posts on this- I’m looking for the most heavily fragranced shampoos you’ve used. I have dyed red hair so sulfate free is a plus!,0 +1172,"Scrunchies alternatives?. Hi. I have a bit of an issue. I'm a guy and I look pretty effeminate which is fine and all, I'm okay with that. But since corona I've let my hair grow....now it's really long and the best way for me to wear it is with a scrunchie. I don't like anything else I've tried, hair bands, hair ties, whatever I try... they are too tight or rigid feeling, have to wrap them too many times, theres always an issue, but scrunchies are perfect, literally perfect. They arent rigid, hold in place, and hair always looks good and not so tight looking. + +The issue is; I look like effeminate already, then I have the velvet scrunchie at the back...and its just too effeminate for me. It really looks just like a girl from the back (which is fine, I just want to look a tad more masculine). I don't know much of anything about haircare or what alternatives there is too these really smooth and silky looking scrunchies. I'd ultimately just want the hold of the scrunchies without it looking so uh.... girly I guess. Is there different types of schruchies... anything more uh, masculine? Do I have any options here? + +​ + +Thanks.",0 +1173,"How to know if Olaplex is fake?. Whilst going through my products today I noticed I have collected a few bottles of No.3, however, one of them is more yellow in appearance and doesn’t have quite the same smell. The packaging is very similar but some of the ingredients are in a different order and is a slightly different layout. + +Could this be a fake? I can’t remember where I picked it up from. Or is it possible that they just changed the packaging and formula? I discovered Olaplex about a year ago. + +I don’t know if I should use it or not?",0 +1174,"Olaplex for depression damaged hair and hair thinning?. I’ve been neglecting my hair since like 2018. My hair is damaged from wearing it (and sleeping with it) in a low ponytail all day every day for 4 years. I also noticed my hair is thinning. Not to the point to where it’s noticeable to anyone else, but it’s noticeable to me and I don’t like it. I want to try olaplex for repairing the damage. I have 3, 6, and 8 in my cart. Would using olaplex even help me since I have virgin hair? And is there a shampoo and conditioner that would help with my thinning hair? TIA",0 +1175,Has anyone tried Deciem (The Ordinary) new hair products?. ,0 +1176,"Has anyone used the new Shark hair dryer?. I was wondering if anyone (who has NOT received it for free) bought the Shark hair dryer. Every review I read is from influences who got it for free and it makes me nor even want to buy it. + +My $250 t3 quit working after 9 months and my Instyler broke after 8 months and caught on fire. + +I am looking at a Shark or GHD Helios. I don't want to pay the price for a Dyson and my budget is $270 or under. Does anyone have any recommendations or recommends the Shark (the one I keep eyeballing). 😂",0 +1177,"Best dry shampoo?. New to this sub today, female, and I have medium length naturally thick, wavy red hair.",0 +1178,"Dandruff flakes on scalp.. I'm a 17 year old male and I'm really into skincare, haircare and self care in general. The issue is that for years I have had problems of dandruff on my scalp even when i had short hair. Now that I have long hair, I don't know whether I should shampoo everyday because I've read that shampooing everyday if you have long hair is bad and i've also read that if you have dandruff flakes on scalp then you should shampoo everyday. I need some advice on how to get rid of these annoying dandruff flakes on my scalp whilst taking good care of my hair as its long. Thanks!",0 +1179,"Matted/ Extremely tangled hair. I have fine, long hair that seems to tangle/mat really badly after every time I work. Today I had to actually cut pieces out because I didn’t brush my hair for a day. I wash my hair every other day and usually have it in a low ponytail or bun. I use a good quality shampoo and conditioner and apply good products. I use heat on my hair probably once a year. Does anyone know why my hair is like this?",0 +1180,Any reviews about the Ordinary Multi-Peptide serum for hair density. Is it beneficial. Does it really works?. ,0 +1181,"Going to be styling hair 4 days in a row; advice needed. Hi everyone, + +So I have a few events coming up, and I'm gonna be needing to style my hair for 4 separate occasions (4 days in a row). I don't understand too much about hair styling so I'd really appreciate the help. Basically I plan to do diff hairstyles (an updo one day, curl it the next etc.). Should I buy some dry shampoo since my hair will be full of product after the first day? I'd wash my hair everyday, but then I hear people saying tht your hair needs ""grit"" and can't be too clean to curl it etc., so should I get a texturizing spray? Sorry I'm just confused. My hair is relatively straight, for reference. The products I have so far are just hair primer (heat protectant), hairspray, and some styling cream to reduce frizziness. What else should I get?",0 +1182,Dyson air wrap ….. disappointing. So I recently bought the dyson air wrap after considering it for a long time. So far I feel that it hasn’t lived up to the hype for me. I’ve used the round brush a few times to try to create a bouncy blow look which looked good at first but fell flat within a few hours and left my hair greasy and flat. Have I judged it to soon or Is it worth giving a chance? I’m really considering returning it at this point,0 +1183,"What is the weakest mousse?. I go to the store and all I see is Ultrahold, Megahold, Superhold, Ultimate Hold, Intense Hold, Extrahold, but what I really want is Wimpyhold. + +I only need a tiny bit of hold, and I hate the way that the really stiff mousse makes me feel like I'm wearing a [Devo hair shell.](https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-N8thbo5uIqY/WOYzydi_XBI/AAAAAAAAbFk/bGPZEoiIzAUe3iElx64Q2HmDcHs9yrUHQCLcB/s640/vitalis_devo.jpg) + +Anyone have any recommendations for me?",0 +1184,"help. Look, I'm embarrassed to say this, but I've been suffering through deep depression and a whole list of other mental and physical illnesses, and basically I let my hair go. It's matted and idk what to do. I've tried trying to get through it but when I try and basically get no where I give up amd fall more into depression. If anybody from Myrtle beach area sees this and is a hair stylist and would like to help me with this awful predicament, I sure would appreciate it if you'd inbox me haha but seriously if anybody has any suggestions for a stylist and/or suggestions for a very good detangler it, it'd be super helpful.",0 +1185,"How do I help my brother (13m) take care of his curly hair?. My little brother has sensory issues and his scalp is SUPER sensitive. So most aggressive brushing or lots of product are out of the question. But he has curly hair that Frizzes and clumps at the scalp. He talks a lot about how he hates his hair, and I want to help him feel better about himself. So what can I do to help him? Are there any techniques I can use for brushing? My family and I are at a loss on what to do. It doesn't need to be an extreme amount of care, but just enough for him to be comfortable with his head. (I'm thinking it hurts him. Literally.) So any advice is welcome. Thanks! (:",0 +1186,is it bad to wash my hair everyday. For some context I work in a factory that cuts stone and a lot of the stone dust gets in my hair so I wash my hair everyday after I get home from work. Is that a bad thing?,0 +1187,"How often do I shampoo/condition if I have fine, wavy hair?. I'm unsure of how often I should do either of these.",0 +1188,"Sick and fed up with my bland and boring hair. I have no idea how to manage my hair. I’ve read hair-science books, watched beauty videos, and nothing has done shit. My hair has a weird texture. It’s oily and shiny at the top, slightly frizzy and wavy in the mids, and the ends are perfectly fine. I tried straightening, and it doesn’t even work on my hair. The mids stay bunched up and wavy, as if I took my hair out of an awkward ponytail. I don’t know how all of my female classmates do it. Their hair looks shiny and managed. And even though they straighten their hair, it still looks good. My hair isn’t damaged, I use hair masks, conditioning, and serums, but it amounts to nothing. I need solid hair advice, I’m just about ready to snip this shit off and use a ponytail extension. When my hairstylist trims my hair, she uses about 9 different products and blow dries my hair forever, and even that doesn’t last longer than a day. I feel ridiculous when I walk into class with my awkwardly shaped and unattractive hair, with loose flyaways sticking out. I just want smooth and decent-looking jet black hair.",0 +1189,"How to braid hair?. All my life I’ve never been able to do it, I get the motion of which pieces to grab but I don’t understand how to angle my hands. I always have to let go of one strand and then it gets super loose and fly always everywhere. How do you angle your fingers around the hair? How do you make it so there isn’t frizz/fly always everywhere? + +Also how are people able to start at the top of the skull and braid down instead of “normal braids” that start at the end?",0 +1190,"I keep getting flaky skin in my hair. I keep getting flaky skin in my hair, I’ve tried using a shampoo with apple cider vinegar to help but it hasn’t worked, I don’t know if I just used a bad brand or if it’s something else",0 +1191,"my hair is falling out. I'm 22, female and my hair is falling out. I have a doctor's appointment scheduled for something else but I will definitely bring up my hair as well. +My hair looks very thin and I'm getting a bald patch on top. +I don't know how to keep calm until my doctor's appointment. +I have some hair supplements that have biotin and vitamin E. +I have been writing down everything I eat, so I really doubt I'm malnutrished. +The only cause I can think of is stress and taking so much ibuprofen. I have chronic pain and I basically rely on ibuprofen to function at all, and even then I'm in pain. +I have forced myself to stop taking it even though I'm in horrible pain. +I feel horrified and disgusted at myself. I don't know what to do I can't calm down or stop crying, I feel like I'm too ugly to be a woman.",0 +1192,"Rice Water. I tried this recently. It makes my hair feel silky and looks smoother. Easy to make, easy to use. The real test will come in the hot and humid summer.",0 +1193,how often should i WASH (not shampoo) my hair??. when people say not to wash your hair everyday does that mean not to get it wet everyday or not to shampoo it everyday?? can i still get my hair wet everyday? (because i shower everyday),0 +1194,"Face Shapes. [Face Shape Guide](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-face-shape-guide.html) + +I've always been conflicted about the concept of face shapes and what I'll refer to as the ""face shape rules"". On the one hand, as a hairstylist the face shape rules do help me methodically plan which haircuts work best on a client. On the other, I've seen haircuts that theoretically shouldn't have worked on a certain face shape, but in practice they did for some clients. For example, I once had a client with a round face. She really wanted bangs, but I hesitated to give them to her because based on the face shape rules they would accentuate her features unfavorably. However, during one visit she became determined to try them. So I gave her bangs, fearing the whole time that she would hate them when I was done. For some reason, they just worked on her face and she loved them. What's more, she kept bangs for years afterwards, so they became an important staple of her look despite the fact that they broke one of the face shape rules. Now, why am I telling you this? Because I'd like you to use the Face Shape Guide for haircut suggestions while knowing that all of these rules can and have been been broken. + +When using it, I recommend thinking of your face in two sections: (1) upper face and (2) lower face. Doing this will help you understand if you have characteristics from two different face shapes, which is common. Also, remember that the real world is 3D and the shapes below are 2D, which means they can only tell you about the portrait of your face. The missing components that also need to be considered are profile (the shape of your face from the side), plus nose and forehead protrusion. In addition, your personal preferences will be a factor when deciding how to use a haircut to balance your facial features. By the end of this post, you'll know a bit more about your face shape and how to accentuate your features to look your best. + +Below are some of the most common face shapes. Due to not wanting to make this the longest post in Reddit history- the [full blog](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-face-shape-guide.html) has all of the face shapes plus diagrams! + +**Oval** **​**This face shape resembles an oval, which is an elongated circle. Unlike diamond, heart, or triangle face shapes, it's proportional from the upper to lower face (temple to temple = ear to ear = jowl to jowl) and accommodates a variety of haircut styles. Due to this, I highly encourage you to evolve your look over time. Why? Because you can. For your next haircut, focus on one feature and frame that. For example, if you like your eyes, try a bang that is eyebrow length and blunt or textured (see my[ Bangs Hair Guide](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-bangs-hair-guide.html)). The face shape rules recommend avoiding making an oval face appear too long, which volume and long hair can contribute to. ​ + +* **Dimensions:** This face shape is slightly longer than it is wide. +* **Upper Face:** The forehead is longer (hairline to eyebrow) than it is wide (temple to temple). +* **Lower Face:** The jaw is narrower than the cheek bones. +* **Face Shape Rule Suggestions:** Bangs and/or short to shoulder length haircuts. +* **Celebrities with this Face Shape**: Liv Tyler, Jake Gyllenhaal + +**Round** This face shape resembles a circle. I've found that most people think they have this face shape, but it's quite rare to have a face that is truly round. This is where 2D shapes can be misleading in a 3D world. For example, it may be true that your face is fullest at the cheeks, however, most faces are not proportionally as long as they are wide. Additionally, cheeks can be full at the front or at the sides of the face. Here, 2D shapes can only only describe “outwards”, which can be confusing. The point I'm stressing is that a round cheek does not always indicate a round face shape. + +* **Dimensions:** Face length and width are proportional. +* **Upper Face:** Round wide hairline (temple to temple). Fullest in the cheek bones. +* **Lower Face:** A rounded jaw that is only slightly narrower than the cheekbones. +* **Face Shape Rule Suggestions:** Long haircuts (below the collarbone or longer) with long layers. Avoid bangs. +* **Celebrities with this Face Shape**: Ginnifer Goodwin, Kanye West + +**​Square** This face shape resembles a square, and is characterized by a wide hairline and jawline. Just like with the round face shape, it is rare to have a truly square shape, and is common to see the upper half of the face belonging to another face shape aside from square. Depending on your hair texture, go with haircuts that are[ broken up](https://www.google.com/search?q=textured+haircuts&oq=textured+haircuts&aqs=chrome..69i57j0i512l9.1900j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8) as opposed to blunt cuts. This can contrast the sharpness square features tend to have. Since this face shape is proportionate in length and width, consider asymmetrical styles. For example, a side bang framing your eyes. Generally, square face shapes should avoid straight lines near their jaw and forehead. Haircuts that have this effect include straight across bangs and bobs. + +* **Dimensions:** Face length and width are proportional. +* **Upper Face:** Sharp wide hairline. +* **Lower Face:** Sharper jaw slightly wider than cheekbones. +* **Face Shape Rule Suggestions:** Long haircuts (below the collarbone or longer) with deep side parts, feathered texture and soft bangs. +* **Celebrities with this Face Shape**: Margot Robbie, Oliver Cheshire + +​​**​Diamond** This face shape most resembles a diamond. It's narrowest at the top and bottom, and fullest in the cheekbone area, with cheekbones tending to be an accentuated feature. Bangs and short hair are a must try for someone with a diamond shaped face, but there are no limits to the lengths and textures that will work. The cheekbones on this face shape make it ideal for short haircuts (ex: pixie cuts). Longer haircuts help to elongate the face if that's your goal. Voluminous hair styles also work well and help show off the cheekbones. ​ + +* **Dimensions:** Face is slightly longer than it is wide. +* **Upper Face:** Narrow forehead (temple to temple) with fullest point of the face at the cheekbones. +* **Lower Face:** Narrow chin. +* **Face Shape Rule Suggestions:** All lengths work, but short hair accentuates the cheek bones. Bangs will work. +* **Celebrities with this Face Shape**: Naomi Campbell, Ryan Reynolds + +​",0 +1195,"Is using the cold setting on a hair dryer significantly worse than letting hair air dry?. I have let my hair air dry after every wash for about 7-8 years now, and my hair is very healthy and gorgeous. I have pretty thick, coarse, wavy hair if it matters. It takes about 6-8 hours for my hair to air dry completely. + +Recently, my schedule changed up, and I don’t think I’ll be able to sit around with wet hair as often as I do. I absolutely don’t want to use a hot blow drier on my hair, even with a protective spray. But I am curious about using cool or cold air. Is using cold air significantly more harmful to hair than just letting it air dry? Is it recommended that you let your hair dry most of the way then cold dry it at the end? Or can you cold dry your hair when it’s soaking wet? + +Any advice/experience people have about this would be greatly appreciated!",0 +1196,Has anyone used Squalane or Hemisqualane in their hair? What benefits have you noticed?. ,0 +1197,"Hair fungus. Hey guys, my brother complains about his hair fungus all the time and has tried many medicines but can’t get it off. He told me about how he’s going to try apple cider vinegar but hasn’t gotten to. I want to help him out, I searched up some ways to get rid of hair fungus but haven’t really seen anything other than apple cider vinegar. I’m going to try to make a mixture for him to rub on his scalp but so far cider is all I got. I was wondering if anything could give some tips or some other ingredients I should add? I’d really appreciate the help",0 +1198,"Hairstyles that won't damage wet hair?. I am used to wearing my wet hair in a bun while I get ready because I hate it in my face and in my neck and shoulder (weird for someone with super long hair, but I'm neuro divergent). I recently found out this is bad for your hair, so I want to try another style. I'm not REALLY a fan of ponytails, so I would rather try something else but I will do it if that's the best option. + +Suggestions?",0 +1199,"scalp itches unless i brush out my curls !. Okay so ive posted this multiple times on different hair related subreddits and i believe this is my last trial to find a solution before i resort to heat styling . +Ive been experiencing very wierd itchy scalp after showering the will ONLY go away when i brush my hair . +Literally !!! Ill be itching like crzy but once i pick that brush and brush my curls out im good to go 😭😭😭😭 +Does anyone have an idea what might be going on and how to fix it ? Im BEYOND desperate for a solution.",0 +1200,"L'Oreal Elvive Dream Lengths Wonder Water: Just another over hyped TikTok product?. I'd like to preface this post by saying that 8 second Wonder Water isn't my first experience with a lamellar treatment. Garnier's Glass Hair Water is probably one of my favorite instant treatments, which is why I decided to pull the trigger on L'Oreal's option. + +I have healthy butt length hair which is quite high maintenance, so I'm always on the lookout for great haircare products. Though at first I was quite skeptical, after using Glass Hair Water for the first time I was amazed by the results. I was able to detangle my hair within 3 minutes after it had dried; it was incredibly soft to the touch and had a beautiful, visible sheen down to the ends. However, I can't quite say the same thing about L'Oreal Dream Lengths. Basically, it had the exact opposite effect on my hair. My hair was incredibly tangled after drying, and essentially felt very dry and brittle. I thought maybe I hadn't used enough, so I tried it a second time the following week and the same thing happened. I've yet to compare the ingredients lists on both bottles (Garnier and L'Oreal), but I'd like to hear more from other people. What was your experience like if you've used Dream Lengths Wonder Water vs other lamellar treatments?",0 +1201,"Pro/cons of going from long hair to short hair. I have long layered hair right now, but I was diagnosed with seb derm and my hair started shedding pretty badly. I really wanna cut my hair to a little below shoulder length and get long layers. What are some pros and cons of long hair vs short hair? + +For example, would short layered hair look thicker than long layered hair? Is it that much easier to wash? How much faster does it dry? Does shorter hair look like it’s shedding a lot less? + +It sounds stupid to ask, but I really liked having long hair. Now that it’s thinning out, I think cutting it shorter would make me less sad. I see clumps of hair coming out and hopefully shorter hair will make it less noticeable. + +Thank you!",0 +1202,"Skin issues using Olaplex?. I recently bought and started dusting the olaplex shampoo. I have super sensitive skin, and the past few days my scalp, especially the base by the nape of my neck, has been incredibly itchy, tender and from what I can see kind of red. + +Has anyone had any issues using any of the olaplex products similar to this? Everything I’ve read says it’s supposed to be a godsend, but I’m wondering if my touchy skin just can’t handle it? + +Edit: as a note, my hair is not chemically treated in any way (color etc) and I very rarely use heat on my hair.",0 +1203,"Please help my hairstylist not hate me.. I made the dumb mistake of using color oops on cherry red limecrime unicorn hair dye. It turn my hair a range of colors from lighter pink, blond and blue. Is there a way to just wash the whole thing out after this? I jus wanted to transition back to the blonde balayage without needing to use bleach. + +ETA: I have not bleached my own hair and up to this point it was all professionally done. My stylist already aware I’m just trying to find an option till she has an opening.",0 +1204,"lots of split ends but I don't blow dry or style with heat. Background: I (29f) have long straight hair of medium thickness. I don't color, and I use a hair dryer maybe 5 times a year. I usually shower in the evening and let my hair air dry. I don't style my hair. I just brush it in the morning with a Wet brush, starting from my ends and work my way up. I do wear my hair in a ponytail pretty often, but I use a less damaging kind of hair tie, and I don't make it a high/tight ponytail. Admittedly my choice in shampoo/conditioner was bad for a long time, but I didn't know that until recently. For the last year I've been using a function of beauty set, and before that I used Suave professionals. (Don't hate on me too much, I'm trying to learn about better products). + +My problem is that I have a fair amount of split ends, mid shaft splits, and breakage sometimes really high up on my hair strands. Can anyone give me guidance on how to reduce these things? Is there a specific kind of shampoo and conditioner I should use? TIA!",0 +1205,Have you used rosemary water & oil? How were your results?. ,0 +1206,"My friend’s recommendation ruined my hair. How can I fix it??. So little backstory (It’s a little long): Roughly a year ago, me and my two friends were talking about hair and shampoos/conditioners we use and our struggles to find good products. Friend A works at a salon with her sibling and told us about Kérastase and how the salons swear by it. She said its one of the only good products we should use for our hair and to avoid drugstore products at all costs. She even said that anywhere that sells Kérastase (places like Walgreens, CVS, Target, etc.) is selling a fake product, and the only way you can get the real kind is by purchasing it from a salon. I actually learned about something like that in one of my fashion classes about people who go onto the shipment trucks and switch out a case of the real stuff for the fake, so I believed it. + +Friend A gets me and Friend B the shampoo and conditioner from the salon and we give her the money. I have really thick, wavy hair and Friend B has thick, curly hair, so Friend B was given the type specifically for curly hair. Fast forward about a year later and I’ve been struggling so much with my hair and wasn’t sure why. + +My hair literally looks like a rats nest. Can barely get a brush through it, its EXTREMELY dry and coarse, looks greasy and gross after two days, the shine is completely gone and can barely put it up unless its a super low ponytail, issues I never had till now. My sister does a lot of research on hair stuff since she has super curly hair and she found out its a clarifying shampoo, so it’s only meant to be used every once in a while but I was never told this. Me and Friend B were told to use it every time we wash our hair(which for me is once or twice a week). Friend B actually stopped using it months ago (I just found out) because her hair was worse in that short time than mine is now. I guess it’s my fault for not doing my own research, but I trusted them being my own friend and working at a salon and supposedly knowing the good stuff to use. I used one of my sister’s shampoo/conditioner for curly hair and it made some better progress. I’m just so upset and want to know how to fix it/what products are good to use. If anyone can help me, that would be greatly appreciated! + +Edit: I hope this post doesn’t come off that I believe Kérastase is a bad brand. It’s actually great! It does it’s job (too well😅), however I wish it clarified more on the bottles what exactly it does, and I wish my friend and her coworkers told me and my other friend that as well along with how to properly use it instead of stressing it as a replacement so they can sell to us.",0 +1207,"How to care for (and detangle!) curly hair - looks like Shirley Temple's!. I have a 2.5 year old daughter with some beautiful naturally curly hair. Problem is it tends to get tangled and develops knots in the ends. I ""brush"" it with my fingers at bath time and we apply some detangler and cream every morning. But the knots still develop. Can anyone recommend some specific products, brushes, or routines for handling curly hair? Thank you!",0 +1208,"gettin a bald spot as a young female??. so i am a college-age female and i have this very noticeable bald spot on the top of my head. it’s about two ish inches from my hairline and sits in the middle of where my hair naturally parts. my hair dresser pointed it out to me in December, and it has gotten progressively worse since then, like bigger than a quarter. it’s not thinning, it’s falling out of just that spot. + +anyone have any input or go through something similar? my hair is really short so it isn’t because of stress on it. i’ve been taking supplements and stopped vaping but it’s not getting any better.",0 +1209,"Do salons take consultations that aren't about cutting or dying?. My hair is pretty damaged. I'm pretty sure it needs protein because I have dozens of stretchy, weird hairs that feel like elastic. My curl pattern is basically gone. My hair is awful. + +I was wondering if hair salons do consultations for that sort of thing? Recommending products, telling me exactly what is wrong with my hair, how to fix it, etc. I don't want it dyed or cut. I've only been to a hair salon once in my life, so I don't know much about this.",0 +1210,"*Perm Aftercare* (sharing info). I’ve permed my hair multiple times so I just wanted to share some tips and advice. FYI my natural hair is stick straight and coarse. I’ve permed it when it was 3-4 inch long and 6-7 in long. + +Basics: +-DO NOT wash or get it wet for at least 48 hours +-DO NOT comb it for at least 48 hours +-Avoid using pullover hoodies/sweatshirts for the first two days +-Sleep with a silk or satin cap to avoid friction between your hair and pillow + +Hair care: +Your hair will be really dried out after the perm since it’s a chemical process. To tame frizz and dryness, you need to add moisturizing products to your hair + +-Use a bond builder like olaplex no 3 or curlsmith rehab salve twice a week pre shampoo to make your hair healthier +-Shampoo only 2 or 3 times a week +-Consider using a co-wash (type of shampoo with less abrasive soap and more moisturizing components) +-Use a deep conditioner after every shampoo and let it sit in your hair for at least 15 min before rinsing +-use a moisture mask once a week +-Use a leave in conditioner +-Use a penetrating hair oil to restore moisture and tame frizz + +I found that this using all of the above really rehabilitated my hair to a more healthy state after about 2-3 weeks. You should also use products made for curly hair. My fav brand is Curlsmith but a more affordable brand is SheaMoisture. + +For styling, I’ve used everything under the sun from the curly girl method to the bucket method and found it all too complicated and time consuming. What we worked for me was simply getting my hair wet, using a leave in conditioner, and scrunching in some mousse afterwards. After my hair dried, I would run my fingers through my curls to “break the cast” but be aware this doesn’t work for everyone. I was only able to do this after a few weeks of using routine mentioned above. It could make your hair more frizzy.",0 +1211,Greasy hair. My hair gets greasy really fast. It usually gets oily the second day since washing it. I have this problem since December. I’m in my last year of college so I experience a lot of stress. I also started to eat a lot of food with refined sugars. Could this be the cause? What’s the best shampoo for greasy hair.,0 +1212,"planning to bleach my hair soon, any tips?. im gonna bleach my hair soon and i wanted to know if theres anything i should know before hand. im aiming for a kinda bleach damaged look so i don’t care if it looks perfect or not, Thanks in advance!",0 +1213,How do I protect short hair from breakage when I sleep?. Normally I loosely plait my hair when I sleep to prevent breakage and tangles; but today I cut off 14 inches of my hair. My hair is now shoulder length so it is to short to be able to pull it back loosely. I don’t have silk pillow cases/bedding not to a plan on getting silk pillow cases/bedding because the feel of silk on my skin makes me cringe and living in an old house with bad heating I don’t want my bedding to leach the warmth out of my body.,0 +1214,"My scalp is f****d up…. I need help!!! Does anyone else have the issue of when they brush their hair, there is this weird linty looking residue built up on your brush??? this has been happening to me for months and I have switched shampoos, bought a million brushes, used rinses and clarifying mixtures and nothing works. It looks and feels like a greasy dark and light residue almost like lint.",0 +1215,"Help me decide between Redken and Pureology shampoo. For the last year I’ve been using Sea Moisture Curl and Shine shampoo. Looking to switch it up a bit. My hairdresser recommended Redken All Soft, a little bit hesitant on this one after reading reviews of some people loosing more than usual hair from using this product. Pureology had some pretty good reviews. What has been your experience using these brands? OR have you had any luck with drug store brands?",0 +1216,"Anyone else addicted to plucking white/grey hairs?. Im 41 and ive noticed a few white hairs here and there, so i perch up on my bathroom sink like a gargoyle and get tweasers scanning my head plucking away till they are gone. Is this normal for a 41 year old man? Thanks",0 +1217,"Leave in conditioner suggestions please!. My daughter (12) has thick, mostly straight, coarse hair. I think the coarseness comes from it being dry. + +What’s a good leave in conditioner for this? +Preference for something I can buy in a sample size from Amazon. +Products in my country are expensive so I’m hesitant to buy something only to hate it. + +Current routine: +Wash 2/week with head and shoulders shampoo followed by conditioner. +Conditioning mask once a week (I don’t think it’s a good one) +Recently I started oiling her hair with jojoba oil after her showers. + +We need a really simple routine otherwise it won’t happen.",0 +1218,"Project Dry Shampoo - Survey. Hi everyone! I'm taking a product design class where my group and I are trying to create an improved dry shampoo formulation. If you would be interested filling out the survey to help us gauge interest I would appreciate it so much! + +[https://umich.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_b3ob1CVFQICwwm2](https://umich.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_b3ob1CVFQICwwm2)",0 +1219,"Henna removal - help!. Hi, I’ve been dyeing my hair with henna (pure lawsonia powder) for close to a year now. I’ve never liked the color but was told it will darken over time and that it’ll stop looking orange/red with enough applications. This has not happened to me, it look very much red. I want to get rid of it but all of the tips online seem to be about bleaching your hair. I did henna to help my hair and make it stronger and I want to keep it dark. What can I do? I’m really desperate :( I hate the color, I want my natural hair back. I’ve been on a hair growth journey for 2 years now so cutting it is not an option. + +Ps I will happily accept any tips about making the color cooler as well, but please keep in mind that I want to have a little dyed blue section soon, so indigo is also not for me :(((",0 +1220,"I have to wash my hair everyday after work. What is the best shampoo to use?. I’m a housekeeper and my medication makes me sweat like crazy. My hair is, at times, dripping wet because of how sweaty my scalp is. So I have to wash. My hair right now is pretty healthy and I’d like to keep it that way. What shampoo(s) would your recommend to avoid build up or drying out or whatever could happen! TIA",0 +1221,"Have not used any hair conditioner in a long time (years) should I be worried and start using it?. When I was younger in school I had a quack health teacher. +She said shampoo and conditioner are a scam since the first in ingredient in them is water. Back then my hair was really oily and stopped using conditioner. It's been over 30 years and I haven't touched the stuff since. Should I be worried? I don't do anything to my hair like dye it, use heated styling tools, or perm or straighten it.",0 +1222,"My favourite cheapo detangler has been discontinued. I have fine hair that gets knotted very easily, and Pantene's combing creme was go-to...now it has been d/c. Any suggestions (drugstore brand) of what I could use instead? *My hair tends to gets weighed down quite easily. TIA 😊",0 +1223,"hair oiling tips?. hello, I'm very new to this and Im not quite sure what to use or how to even do it, YouTube is a little confusing because usually videos all tell you to do different things + +(like some say use the dropper and apply the oil by section and some are saying to not put it directly on your scalp and to just rub it on your hands then massage your scalp) + + +any tips on the best oils to use? (I already have thick hair so I'm mainly looking for hair oils that help with hair growth) and how to oil my hair properly? (some people say to leave it in for a few hours then rinse it off and some people say overnight) + +thank you for any advice that you might give me :))",0 +1224,"Problem with my dry frizzy hair. I have a problem with my hair, it is very dry and frizzy and thick, very hard to manage and the main problem is that it absorbs everything quickly for example when i come outta the shower it dries very quickly or when i put a serum or any styling product for dry frizzy hair it disappears within minutes i use every kind of oils you’d think of (argan, almond, avocado, olive… etc) a bunch of serums and styling products, keratin based shampoos, conditioners. +Is there any solution any product , i don’t have that volume for keratin (short hair to use a straightener) and i want a solution that i could apply myself just at home.",0 +1225,"Biotin pills (10,000 mg) is it recommended to take 1 every day for hair growth?. I’m a 21F and recently got a bad haircut. I want my hair to grow asap and I’m making sure my diet is good and I’ve been doing a castor oil routine. I just got these biotin pills but I was wondering if I should take 1 every day or just take 1, 2-3 days a week. Any tips are appreciated!",0 +1226,"hi, i'm looking for a solution for those tiny hair on the top of the head that are just messy and sprouts in all directions (idk how to call them). i know it's natural to have some, but i reaally have a lot, and it's really messy. i can't afford keratin treatment, so anyone has solutions?. ",0 +1227,Straight Oily hair with dry ends- Any product recommendations to help with the dry ends?. ,0 +1228,"Can I use argan oil on dyed hair?. Hi everyone, + +I can’t find a straight answer on google so I’m asking here. Prior to dying my hair from (natural) black to blonde balayage, I used argan oil on my hair while it was still damp after washing it and drying it a little with a towel. It helped keep my hair wayyy more moisturised. It always got dryer sooner when I didn’t use it. + +My hairdresser told me that argan oil damages dyed blonde hair and that I shouldn’t use it. He then tried to sell me an alternative product. I denied because I kind of was suspicious that maybe he just told me not to use it and to use his alternative instead because he wanted to make some money. + +Does anyone have any idea if it would do any damage to the hair or the colour? + +Thank you!",0 +1229,"What do you all think about Amika products? Any recommendations?. My hair is absolutely struggling with breakage and frizz. I’ve bleached it almost a year ago and dealt with protein overload. And I’ll be honest, it’s been a year since I’ve had a trim (getting one soon!). I’m trying to find a good shampoo, conditioner, and any masks to bring some life back to it. Anika’s Hydrorush seems really promising, and so does pureology, but i fixate so much on the negative reviews. + +Any recommendations?",0 +1230,how do i find my hair type?. ,0 +1231,"What do you all use to prevent your hair from frizzing in humidity?. I moved and finally live close enough to work that I can walk (about 20 minutes). Unfortunately I live in central Ohio and humidity is insane here, so by the time I get to work my curled (heat styled) hair has lost its definition and gotten frizzy 🥲 any tips/ products I should try? + +If it makes a difference, I have naturally curly hair (2b) and my hairs length is about at my armpits.",0 +1232,"Scalp Scrub. So, I went out and bought a few new hair products. Selsum Blue, as recommended by a few. I also bought a scalp scrub, the tooth tool, that helps get it on the scalp. I finally had an opportunity it use them all. And I dare say my hair felt so much lighter after I towel tried it!!! I added some 'Not Your Mothers' hair scalp oil and half my hair now has the oil. I feel stupid for even putting the oil in. Was it a good idea or did I just ruin what I just did? I feel like I over did it with the oil. Now it just looks gross.",0 +1233,I had a chemical burn in my scalp from bleaching my hair. The burns are now healed but what’s left is some dry patches on my scalp. Has anyone gone through this? I would go to a derm but consultation fees are like 200 bucks… and who knows what other additional fees are there. ,0 +1234,"I cut my long hair i hate it so much how do i make my hair grow faster 😭. Currently im taking biotin, putting coconut oil on my scalp every now and then and exercise everyday. Anything else i should do??",0 +1235,"Hi! I have a matted hair knot and need a good hair stylist in London to help me with it. I rent a room so I can't hire anyone that comes to your house, it would have to be a salon. If you have any recommendations please help!. ",0 +1236,My hair gets oily after a day. Help. I shampoo my hair twice and use shampoos for oily hair. I have tried to “train” my hair by not washing it as regularly but it didn’t work. Any shampoos you recommend/ tips for it to not get as oily?,0 +1237,"Since letting my hair grow longer, one side is frizzy and one side is not. Any recommendations on products that handle frizz?. ",0 +1238,"What's the best haircare routine for someone with stubborn dandruff?. I've had dandruff since I was a child even though I wash it daily. I've found that a lot of shampoos don't work on me. Gentle shampoos, dandruff shampoos, shampoos you find on the grocery store. + +I live in Asia, so I really have to wash my hair everyday or else my scalp will itch from the sweat and grease. + +Thanks so much!",0 +1239,Hair takes long time to blow dry. Have thick hair that takes forever to blow dry and seems like it is never fully dry even after 25 min of drying. Thinking of trying a round brush to help speed things up..? Anyone else struggle with this? Anything that helped? Ty!,0 +1240,"Bad folliculitus post Buzz Cut. Hey everyone, when ever i get a buzz cut (about once a month) I get really bad folliculitus on the back of my neck which is painful and unsightly. How can i prevent this and still get my hair buzzed?",0 +1241,"Is it okay to not use any hair products?. I mean ofc shampoos and conditioners are a must, but other than those? Is it okay to just not use anything?",0 +1242,"Can hair break in a larger time interval because of bad bleach?. 10 months ago a lady at a hair salon ruined my hair when she bleached it and the hair broke a lot on the contour of my face and a little bit at the back (it looked like baby hair, but it was broken) + +Is it possible that after all this time, my hair breaks at the same point as it did because of that bad bleach accident from last year? + +I went to another hairstylist 3 more times since then and my hair hasn't broken that much during bleaching (I only bleach the roots and use a semi-permanent die on the length). + +Lately, my hair (mostly on the back) is breaking on the exact length that the baby hair around the face is now (around 12cm). + +Does the hair act like this?",0 +1243,"Tips for thinning hair?. Hey everyone! So I’m a skincare nerd, but I’ve been noticing that my hair is thinning out, losing volume, and I can now see my scalp when I pull my hair back into a pony tail, but I have no idea about hair care. + +I’ve been tying it up at night to protect it, and I’ve started using Sephora’s biotin serum on my scalp, but I’m pretty clueless about how to help regain volume and stop any hair loss, as well as properly care for my hair. + +I haven’t had a haircut in two years, and my hair is really long now, anyone have any tips on how to look after it properly, and what products to use? + +I’m currently using Ouai thin hair shampoo, Wander conditioning mask, and the Sephora biotin serum every night. I have long (back length) limp, straight hair + +Thanks so much for any help!!",0 +1244,"How do you get rid of oily hair??. I'm 14 and I get very oily hair within the span of 36 hours after washing my hair and I know this is typical for my age but is there anything I can do? I only condition my ends and I use Philip B shampoo only on my scalp twice in the shower as well as heat protectant every time I use a blow dryer. Is there a shampoo I should try or another product?? I wash my hair every 2 days and I have tried to let my hair rest and not wash it as often but it didnt work, should I try again for longer or is there something else I can do?",0 +1245,My hair has gone straight. I’m an 18 year old boy and in the past month or so my hair has rapidly lost its natural curliness. Is there any reason for this? And what can I do to get it back?,0 +1246,"New moderating team. Hello r/Haircare! + +What a wonderful sub! I am happy to tell you that I will be the new moderator for this community. + +Over the upcoming weeks, you will be noticing many changes that will bring life back to the subreddit so we hopefully grow together! + +For any suggestions/ ideas/ complaints feel free to comment on this post. + +Take care and... don't get bald! :)",0 +1247,"my hair is a mess😭. okay so i have super damaged wavy hair with extremely oily roots. i wash my hair every other day but it’s just so greasy and gross by the second day but to top it off, my ends are dry! i know nothing about hair care so i require help😞",0 +1248,"I dyed my eyebrows brown & now as the dye fades it has made my eyebrows a reddish/orange. I have light/medium brown hair and I just wanted to dye my eyebrows so they can have a bit more definition and tint because the shape I love but they are just too light. When I first dye them, I love them but as the dye fades away it leaves my eyebrows a red/orange tint and I’m not sure how to get it out. Will it eventually fade away and go back to my natural hair color? Or do I have to use some type of special product to get dyes out? This might be a stupid question but nothing online gives me a direct answer on what to do. Please help! Thank you",0 +1249,"Best fragrance free and sulfate free shampoo and conditioner, I’m allergic to fragrances and I have combination hair, dry ends and oily scalp please recommend thanks in advance!!. ",0 +1250,best air styling brush with the least heat damage? (except dyson/shark). i am looking for an air styler for regular use but need affordable options that don't do much damage to the hair. i always heat protectant before applying heat but feel the damage is being done anyway from straightness. i personally feel using a hair dryer suits my hair better but i can't use a round brush to save my life. so need any recs possible (preferably brands available in the EU) thanks!!!,0 +1251,"Is it worth taking the plunge and just dying it?. I’ve had really light blonde hair since I was a baby and have always been told to not ever dye it or I will ruin it. +As much as I am grateful for the pretty colour I am a creative person who loves to change things up. +I love all the beautiful vivid hair colours, I want bright green and pink hair or orange for the fall season. I feel like I’m wasting the creative side of me in my 20’s, I want to enjoy that part of me. +Will dying my hair bright colours ruin my blonde from ever coming back? + +>.< All opinions are appreciated 💕",0 +1252,"Help! My hair has become straw!!!. So question - +Can a person use too much bond building stuff? +I used olaplex shampoo & conditioner and it turned my hair to straw. + +I was able to bring my hair back, quit using the olaplex. But now I’m having a bunch of hair fall out, to the point that it’s noticeable. + +I can’t figure out what is causing it. I eat well, take vitamins, brush my hair regularly, don’t over shower and don’t use hot water. + +I dye my hair about every 3 weeks because it grows so fast. I usually throw in a bit of a protein treatment with the dye because it helps my hair to not feel terrible. The results don’t last though. + +I currently use alterna’s my hair my canvas every day shampoo, and sachajuan’s normalizing conditioner. + +I do a clarifying shampoo every other week or so. + +I’ve been adding a “bond sustainer” coloring agent to the conditioner to keep my hair a vibrant red. I let it sit for about five min & then rinse. + +I usually put in an oil or IGK’s good behavior when I get out of the shower. I then let my hair air dry. + +I am also taking a biotin supplement to try to stop/grow back the hair loss. + +Does anyone here know wtf I am doing wrong with my hair? I’m absolutely awful at understanding chemistry and I couldn’t really find any information when I went down rabbit holes online. + +Thanks so much for reading & any help!!!!",0 +1253,"Hair loss. I’m 22F and am suddenly experiencing hair loss. My hair is already naturally very fine. I use the Paul Mitchell Tea Tree Anti Thinning Shampoo and Conditioner. I also have the root lifting foam that I occasionally use. I wash my hair every other day/every 2 days. I don’t use heat on my hair ever and when I put my hair up I use the phone cord hair ties or a banana clip. I take the Olly Heavenly Hair supplements and I feel like that helped a little but, however, I still feel like I’m losing a lot of hair. Anybody have any recommendations to help with this?",0 +1254,"Dry scalp and slow hair growth. I have a really dry scalp and my hair grows really slow. I’m assuming partially as a result of the dry scalp because my nails grow very fast and I’ve had a recent blood tests to rule out any vitamin deficiencies. + + Any tips/tricks/products anyone can suggest to help get rid of my dry scalp and make it healthier to hopefully get my hair growing a little bit faster?",0 +1255,Looking for suggestions on really good hair styling products to enhance already curly hair. I’ve been using a straight iron since forever and would like to go au natural with products that don’t weigh down the hair. Generally it’s more frizzy so that’s why I always use the iron. TIA. ,0 +1256,"what's usually the difference between hair wax/clay/gel/pomade i never tried any of them. what would be more suitable for men's silky straight like hair, i want them to stay up with some volume they usually drops down at my face and very annoying.. Hey, I'm 17(M), i never ever tried to use wax gel clay pomade or any hair product as used to keep my hair short. They're annoying as they keep coming down at my face all time and can't stay while walking even for few secs moreover the division also splits from the centre on it own which looks terrible. I recently decided that long and voluminous hairstyle will suit me more so wondering for what to use on them after conditioner. I have very thin hair silky and straight kind of hair and it's hard to grow them chin-long. My goal hairstyle is to keep them up with non sticky voluminous matte finish. Any advice or suggestion is highly appreciated.",0 +1257,A stylist trashed my hair trying to lighten it and now I need help.. ,0 +1258,Rosemary and black castor oil on dyed hair?. I just dyed my hair orange and I’m wondering if these oils will mess with the color or make it fade faster.,0 +1259,"Best products for swimmer with bleached hair?. After I got back from the pool I noticed that my bleached hair was extremly dry and damaged. +Do you know products to protect the hair in the water (chlorin)? + +p.s. I don't want to use a swimming cap. + +Thank u.",0 +1260,"Nizoral anti-dandruff. Suffering from itchy scalp, dandruff, and hair loss. This girl needs a miracle! Using nizoral twice a week cause my hair falls out A LOT in the shower. Apply generous amount of shampoo and repeating twice! Keep y’all updated!",0 +1261,"Best products to keep hair smooth in humidity. I have coarse, wavy hair that is prone to extreme frizzing in high humidity. I live in a state where the air is very dry, so I usually don’t have that problem, but I’m going to Miami and am not sure how to tackle my hair routine there since the products I’d use would probably need to be a little different. I’ve found that where I live, serums and oils work best for me, but the last time I went, my hair didn’t react too well. I’m wondering if anyone has any tips/recommendations for how to tame frizzy hair in high humidity? I normally wear my hair naturally, but am also curious if anyone has any suggestions for keeping hair smooth after blowing drying it as well.",0 +1262,"Hair Schedules. # Hair Schedules + + +In this, I outline schedules for different types of hair goals and hair types. The list includes: + + +* Growing Your Hair Out +* Dry, Damaged, Tangled Hair +* Flat, Fine, Oily Hair +* Flat, Fine, Highlighted Hair +* Full, Thick, Course Hair +* Need to Wash Hair Daily (ex: gym-goers) + +These schedules are not hard and fast rules. Personally, I break the ​“use low heat” tip several times a week. Keep the four lists below in mind along with the schedule for your hair goal or hair type. I am also curious what your current hair schedules look like!!!  + +(This is the entire text from my blog but the [original blog](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-schedules.html) is better organized than the Reddit format) + +**General Maintenance** +\- Deep condition bi-weekly or monthly +\- Haircuts every 3 - 12 weeks +\- If you color your hair: +    \- Root touch ups 3 - 6 weeks +    \- Gray coverage every 3 - 6 weeks +    \- Highlight touch ups every 6 - 8 weeks + +**Types of Shampoos** +\- Clarifying (note: used at most once a week) +\- Volumizing (note: usually indicated in marketing) +\- Moisturizing (note: usually indicated in marketing) +\- Daily Use (ex: co-washes) +**Things to Do To Your Hair** +\- Shampoo twice in one wash once a week +\- Wear a UV filter and/or hats +\- Scalp massages  +\- Brush it gently  +\- Brush it before showering +\- Use microfiber towels on wet hair + +**Things Not to Do To Your Hair** +\- Spray perfume or cologne in it +\- Allow strands to get caught in backpacks, hoodies, purses, etc. +\- Skip shampoos during scalp build up +\- Twirl your hair +\- Wear long hair up wet while sleeping + + +**​Growing Your Hair Out** +**​***Getting bi-monthly trims will help your hair grow. The starting point on the schedule below is two months after an initial haircut.* + +**Month Two** +What's Grown In +1 inch +​ +What to Cut +1/4th of an inch + +**Month Four** +What's Grown In +1.5 inches + + +​What to Cut +1/2 of an inch​ + +**Month Six** +What's Grown In +2 inches + + +​What to Cut +3/4ths of an inch + +**Dry, Damaged, Tangled Hair** +*See my posts on* [*Protecting Your Hair From Heat Damage*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-protecting-your-hair-from-heat-damage.html) *and* [*Hair Oils*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-oils.html) + +**Daily:** Try to avoid using heat on your hair aside from the days you blowdry. Use heat protection if you do. Avoid going to sleep with wet hair. +**Weekly:** Wash and blowdry full head of hair two or three times during the week. Use moisturizing shampoos and conditioners, or a co-wash. Apply a deep conditioner at least once week. +**Monthly:** Leverage hair detoxes to [remove build up](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-ii---build-up.html) once a month. +**Using Schedule Below:** Adjust to your needs. If you do not use heat to style your hair, heat protection is not necessary. + +**Monday** +Wash full head\* +Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection and oils + +**Tuesday** +Skip hair wash +Light styling, blowdryer or curling iron +Use heat protection + +**Wednesday** +Co-wash hair wash +Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection + +**Thursday** +Skip hair wash +Light styling, blowdryer or curling iron +Use heat protection + +**Friday** +Wash full head +Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection and oils + +**Saturday** +Skip hair wash +Light styling, blowdryer or curling iron +Use heat protection + +**Sunday** +Co-wash hair wash +Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection\* use clarifying shampoo on this day + +**Flat, Fine, Highlighted Hair** +*See my posts on* [*Protecting Your Hair From Heat Damage*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-protecting-your-hair-from-heat-damage.html) *and* [*Hair Oils*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-oils.html) + +**Daily:** Wash bangs and/or crown of head and blowdry to refresh style on days you do not shampoo your full head of hair. Alternatively, use dry shampoo. Avoid tight ponytails and styles. Switch up part placement to prevent breakage in one specific spot in your style. +​**Weekly:** Wash and blowdry full head of hair two or three times during the week. Use volumizing shampoos and conditioners. +**Monthly:** Leverage hair detoxes to [remove build up](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-ii---build-up.html) once a month. +**Using Schedule Below:** Adjust to your needs. If you do not use heat to style your hair, heat protection is not necessary. + +**Monday** +Wash full head\* +​Style with blowdryer, normal heat +Use heat protection and volumizing products + +**Tuesday** +Wash crown and/or bangs +Style with blowdryer, low heat +Use heat protection and volumizing products + +**Wednesday** +Wash full head +Style with blowdryer, normal heat +Use heat protection and volumizing products + +**Thursday** +Wash crown and/or bangs, +Style with blowdryer, low heat +Use heat protection and volumizing products + +**Friday** +Wash full head +Style with blowdryer, normal heat +Use heat protection and volumizing products + +**Saturday** +Wash crown and/or bangs, +Style with blowdryer, low heat +Use heat protection and volumizing products + +**Sunday** +Wash crown and/or bangs, +Style with blowdryer, low heat +Use heat protection and volumizing products\* use clarifying shampoo on this day + +**Flat, Fine, Oily Hair** +**​***See my posts on* [*Protecting Your Hair From Heat Damage*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-protecting-your-hair-from-heat-damage.html) *and* [*Hair Oils*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-oils.html) + +**Daily:** Wash and blowdry full head of hair daily. Use volumizing shampoos and conditioners. +**Monthly:** Leverage hair detoxes to [remove build up](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-ii---build-up.html) once a month. +**Using Schedule Below:** Adjust to your needs. If you do not use heat to style your hair, heat protection is not necessary. + +**Monday** +Wash full head twice\* +​Style with blowdryer, normal heat +Use heat protection and volumizing products + +**Tuesday** +Wash full head +​Style with blowdryer, low heat +Use heat protection and volumizing products + +**Wednesday** +Wash full head twice +​Style with blowdryer, normal heat +Use heat protection and volumizing products + +**Thursday** +Wash full head +​Style with blowdryer, low heat +Use heat protection and volumizing products + +**Friday** +Wash full head twice +​Style with blowdryer, normal heat +Use heat protection and volumizing products + +**Saturday** +Wash full head +​Style with blowdryer, low heat +Use heat protection and volumizing products + +**Sunday** +Co-wash hair wash +​Style with blowdryer, low heat +Use heat protection and volumizing products\* use clarifying shampoo on this day + +**Full, Thick, Course Hair** +*See my posts on* [*Protecting Your Hair From Heat Damage*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-protecting-your-hair-from-heat-damage.html) *and* [*Hair Oils*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-oils.html) + +**Weekly:** Blowdry once or twice during the week. If needed, use flat iron and/or blow dryer to smooth on days you do not blowdry. Avoid going to sleep with wet hair. +**Monthly:** Use deep conditioners two or three times over the course of the month. Leverage hair detoxes to [remove build up](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-ii---build-up.html) once a month. +**Using Schedule Below:** Adjust to your needs. If you do not use heat to style your hair, heat protection is not necessary. + +**Monday** +Wash full head\* +Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection and oils + +**Tuesday** +Skip hair wash +Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection and oils + +**Wednesday** +Skip hair wash +Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection and oils + +**Thursday** +Co-wash hair wash +Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection and oils + +**Friday** +Wash full head +Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection and oils + +**Saturday** +Co-wash hair wash +Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection and oils + +**Sunday** +Skip hair wash +Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection and oils\* use clarifying shampoo on this day + +**Need to Wash Daily** +*See my posts on* [*Protecting Your Hair From Heat Damage*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-protecting-your-hair-from-heat-damage.html)*,* [*Hair Oils*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-oils.html) *and* [*Post-Workout Hair*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-post-workout-hair.html)**Daily:** Leverage co-washes daily for faster daily hair cleaning routine.  +**Monthly:** Leverage hair detoxes to [remove build up](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-ii---build-up.html) once a month. +**Using Schedule Below:** Adjust to your needs. + +**Monday** +Wash full head\* +Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection, oils and/or gels + +**Tuesday** +Co-wash hair wash +​Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection, oils and/or gels + +**Wednesday** +Co-wash hair wash +​Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection, oils and/or gels +**Thursday** +Co-wash hair wash +​Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection, oils and/or gels + +**Friday** +Wash full head +Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection, oils and/or gels + +**Saturday** +Co-wash hair wash +​Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection, oils and/or gels + +**Sunday** +Co-wash hair wash +​Style with blowdryer and/or flat iron +Use heat protection, oils and/or gels\* use clarifying shampoo on this day + +​ + +Thanks for reading!",0 +1263,"Which of these products do you think is better?! Looking for heat protection, detangling, little conditioning. My hair is long and fine with highlights that is prone to a little grease.. Purology Color Fanatic Multi Tasking Leave In Spray + +Redken One United Multi Benefit Treatment Spray",0 +1264,"How much is too much when it comes to investing for haircare?. Hello there, hope you're well. + +I have long hair, and while the hair strands are thick, my overall density is meh, and I've been interested in Avalon Organics B Biotin Thickening shampoo and conditioner. + +However, here in Aus my options are shite...it's 60 bucks for 1 of each, 410ml. + +I want good hair, but I feel like I'd be a bloody idiot to splurge this much? + +Please let me know what you think. + +Tyvm ✌",0 +1265,"Shampoo recommendations that are cruelty free for fine, oily hair. See comments for details!. ",0 +1266,"I wash my 1A with ONLY baby shampoo. so I wash my fine, very short hair (bowl cut) with baby shampoo and nothing else (Johnsons, no sulfates) +I usually wash it daily Monday-Friday since my bed hair is a mess. I usually let my scalp rest on the weekend. + +I noticed lately than my scalp's been more scratchy that usual and I actually have a little teeny bit of dandruff. +I dunno if it was caused by the shampoo or the fact that I'm washing it daily now. + +should I keep using only baby shampoo? or should I change my hair routine? idk, w do u think?",0 +1267,"Thermal protectant for fine hair. My hair is fine, straight, and on the thin side. I typically blow dry, but my hair always ""deflates"" very quickly. It never ever holds a curl or wave, texturizing products seem to do nothing except in some cases weigh it down more, etc. + +Recently I started using a Voloom iron and I love it. But I haven't been using a heat protectant and I know I should be. I'm just usually so reticent to add much product because most really drag my hair down and make it look dirtier faster. Presumably the iron will counteract some of that, but still. I'm a little tired of throwing out 3/4-full bottles of stuff. + +Does anyone have any recommendations and/or usage tips? I have heard a lot about olaplex but it's not clear to me if those products would be right for me, and they are kind of expensive to gamble on, though i don't necessarily mind a more expensive product if it really works better.",0 +1268,"Good oils/leave in conditioner for thick hair?. My hair is mostly straight, but very very thick fairly long hair (around my armpit) and lately it's been quite dry. I've been using the same hair oil for years but lately I feel it's not been working as well, and I'm wondering if anyone has any good recommendations? I don't have any preferences when it comes to natural haircare, silicones etc.",0 +1269,"Best Anti-Frizz Tips for Fine Hair?. Hey everyone, +This sub really helped me out with my hair thinning concerns before, so I thought I’d ask all the experts out there again! + +I have mid back length/ long, straight and thin hair. I notice that it’s super frizzy after I shower and it’s dried, and it stays frizzy pretty much all day every day! The only time it isn’t frizzy is when it’s wet. + +My hair doesn’t seem to have much breakage, and I usually keep it up in a loose, low bun or a braid with a silk scrunchie during the day (for work), but the top of my head is always frizzy af + +My current routine is: +* Ouai thin hair shampoo +* Wander hair conditioning mask +* brush while wet with a wide tooth comb +* Scrunch to dry hair from the ends with a cotton towel +* Ouai air dry mousse +* A bit of a blow dry with cold air hairdryer until just the ends are still a bit damp +* Air dry until completely dry +* brush out the ends with my wide tooth comb + +Am I doing something wrong? Are there better products to stop the daily frizz? +Thanks so much for any help!",0 +1270,"I went in for Cornrows and a line up and the stylist ruined my hair.. Every time I have gotten a line up It’s just a simple one. I don’t like all the fancy styles and what not. Well, I got my hair done and I asked for a line up also because I figured two birds with one stone would be good. Well not long after my hair was done I realized just how much of my hair was missing as a result of my line up. I stressed about it for a couple days, but I tried not to let it bother me because everyone was giving me positive feedback. Now that I have taken my hair out I’m stressing out all over again because the line up that I received ruined the shape of my Afro. Which may not seem like a big deal because hair can grow back, but I have a good amount of hair and the shape of it was perfect for me. I have been growing it out for a while and I have become quite anal about how my hair looks. Now I’m here trying to decide what to do with my hair. + +I just needed to vent, so I figured a group about hair care would be a good place for that.",0 +1271,"What could cause my hair to revert back to an oily mess in the last 3 months after 5+ years of being grease free?. I've been using Lush's Fair Trade Honey Shampoo for 5 years. + + +I'll spare you as much trauma and drama as possible but after spending from 12 onwards until 5 years ago with oily hair this shampoo was my holy grail (am mid 20s now). From 15 to college I searched desperately for a shampoo that would help. + + + +I have had dandruff since infancy (literally had cradle cap) that got much worse with puberty. I was stuck in a loop. Daily washing made my scalp dry and irritated and made dandruff worse. Washing every other day resulted in looking like a greaseball in 36 hours tops. + + +Tea tree oil was too harsh (butned my skin), head and shoulders did nothing, tried so many others. I don't condition my scalp and have used the same conditioner for 5 years too. + + +Finally when my skincare went clean/vegan after that being all my combo/sensitive skin could handle (I have skin allergies, ezcema, and formerly, cystic acne), I tried the switch with shampoo. + + +Life. Changing. Dandruff virtually gone, and I could wash my hair once a week. But now in the last 3-5 months my hair has started becoming oily within 48 hours again. I have made no changes in medication, no new products, no new soap, no change in laundry soap, no new foods, no new hairbrush, nothing. The only change has been buying a silk pillowcase after years of using cotton. The dandruff hasn't gotten worse, just the greasiness. + + +I have thin, fine, straight long hair. I'm so ashamed of my greasy head :(",0 +1272,"One thing I should do everyday for my hair?. I moisturize my face twice a day, I brush my teeth twice a day. What’s something I (m/30) could do twice a day to take care of my hair, scalp and hair-growth?",0 +1273,"Is Fable and Mane actually good?. Hey, + +So I have really dry hair and finally want to buy a hair mask and hair oil. I have found the brand Fable and Mane and their Holiroot oil and hair mask but I am not sure if it is as good as it seems. Would any of you who used recommend it for dry? And isn't the fragrance in the products irritating for the hair? + +Thank you, any help is appreciated!",0 +1274,"What would happen if I start using curly hair products (shampoo, conditioner) on my straight hair? Anyone tried it?. The objective is to have some texture in my hair.",0 +1275,"How do I keep my wavy hair from going flat after I shower. To start off I’m a guy and don’t know anything about cosmetics products or hair so please talk down to me cause I’m new to this. I grew out my hair and it’s wavy however after I shower it gets all flat and to get it wavy I have to not shower for a day. Is there a way or product I can buy to make it go back to its wavy form after I shower, or a showering product that will prevent my hair from getting completely flat. I’m attending an important event soon (NWH premier) and want to have my wavy hair which is why I’m barely looking into this.",0 +1276,"Hair has been falling out. 18f, I’ve been losing A LOT more hair than usual. I run my hand through my hair and come out with like 10 strands. I have a great diet, and only drink water. I had covid back in September, but was never warned this may be a problem. + +My routine is a wash every 3 or so days, I use Shea Moisture Jamaican black castor oil shampoo, conditioner, and hair mask once a week. I sleep on a silk pillowcase and I don’t use heat on my hair. I occasionally dye my hair with Garnier Fruitisse dye, but never less than a 4 month period between dyes. + +I take vitamin E, collagen, biotin, and all that stuff, I have even done avocado hair masks and egg masks and all that shit. this has NEVER been an issue. im freaking out",0 +1277,Scent dupes for the OGX Brazilian Keratin Therapy line?. ,0 +1278,"PRODUCT ADVICE: Thinning Hair, Oily Hair, and Dandruff. Hi I'd love some feedback - I'm in my mid 20's and I shower/shampoo every other day. I've been dealing with this oily/thinning hair over the last 2-3 years and I've been dealing with this dandruff issue over the last year or so. My whole life (middle school to college) I used head and shoulders everyday - my hair had decent volume, wasn't as oily, and dandruff wasn't an issue. When I stopped showering every day, changed to different hair products, and etc. I noticed my hair was losing it's feel. + +​ + +Experience: +I tried going back to showering/using shampoo every single day (for about two to three weeks), but I noticed the oils in my hair were getting stripped halfway through showering. My hair would kind of get clumpy and it was difficult to run my fingers through my hair during showering. Within 24 hours my hair would get very oily - but dandruff wise it was okay. + +Then I went back to every 2 days/sometimes 3 days and tried a number of different shampoos over the past year: Pura D'or Biotin Shampoo (2 months), Nizoral Anti-Dandruff Shampoo (1 month), Nexxus Hydra Shampoo (1 month), Kiehls Amino Acid Shampoo (1 month), and a few more. + +The dandruff shampoo helped my dandruff but it completely stripped my hair of its oils. It was difficult to run my fingers through my hair in the shower and got extremely oily hair after 24 hours. After a full month of washing my hair with this shampoo every (2-ish days) I moved to other shampoos. All the other shampoos gave me similar results. + +Pura D'or (every 2-3 days) I had to use extra shampoo to get it to lather, and then my hair would feel thin in the shower. At this stage I didn't have dandruff (might be because I used this right after the dandruff shampoo) , the oil calmed down slightly to about 24-48 hours (from 24 hours), but my hair was thin and I was still losing its strength. After two months of using this shampoo I switched to Nexxus Hydra, then Kiehls, and then another two brands. I tried to make sure to keep consistency with these brands for at least 3+ weeks before making a switch. + +However, all the results were pretty much the same over a year or longer. Thin hair, clumping hair while showering, losing hair, and very oily after 24 to 48 hours - and then I started to get dandruff again. My scalp was not red or patchy and it didn't feel oily, but my hair did. + +I am currently using the Nexxus Hydra Clarifying Shampoo (every 2 days) and while this lathers well, it makes my hair feel a bit thin in the shower & still feels clumpy in the shower. I am noticing more dandruff while using this so I may need to go back to the Dandruff shampoo and start the process all over again. + +Solutions: +I read a bit about hard water, and while we do have a water softening system in our house I will need to double check when the last time the salt was changed. I purchased a new shower head filter (about a month ago) to try to help with any calcium buildup but unfortunately it hasn't helped my hair much. + +If anyone has recommendations or feedback please let me know. Would love to hear if you tried something that worked out for you, thank you!",0 +1279,"How do you properly oil your hair?. I have been oiling my hair before washing it for quite a while now. (It is relatively long, thick and straight for the most part) I usually put rosemary oil on my scalp to promote growth and argan oil/jojoba oil on my mid lengths and ends. I put quite a lot until it is saturated and leave it on for a few hours before washing out. I see people saying “always put lots of oil and saturate it!” And then see some others saying “less is more! Never put too much oil, you only need a few drops.” Does anyone know how much oil we should actually be putting in our hair? Also if anyone has any other tips or advice about hair oiling that would be great.",0 +1280,"Using Coconut oil for my Hair Care. Hello, + +I have been using coconut oil for my hair and I have read on the internet that coconut oil can be used as [face moisturizer](https://www.forestessentialsindia.com/facial-care/face-moisturizers.html) as well. + +Anyone have tried this, Please let me know if so. + +Thanks....",0 +1281,"Struggling to hydrate my itchy scalp!. I have had an itchy scalp for a while, sometimes which also has little bits of dry skin (but not always), however this is not dandruff (doesn't look like it, and anti dandruff treatments don't help). I only use sulphate free shampoo and conditioners, but obviously haven't found the right one yet. Can anyone offer some advice and/or suggestions for things to try? I have also tried oils (hemi squalane and some others, currently using Mielle Rosemary. + +Off the top of my head, s&c I've used so far: + +* Giovanni triple tea tree +* Herbal Essences Aloe and also the Hemp one +* Noughty Scalp Care Taker +* Aveeno Colloidal Oat +* Hask Argan Repairing + +None of these have ever helped, in fact some made or worse (the Noughty one for example). + +For reference my hair is fine, straight, doesn't feel overly dry, gets oily at the roots after a few days of not washing. Virgin hair (no chemicals, only henna for colour/covering grey). Rarely use heat on it, perhaps hairdryer once every few weeks (towel dry with microfibre towel then let air dry). I don't use any products in my hair, and wash it roughly every couple or few days). + +Hoping I can get some help, thanks!",0 +1282,"How to wash a wooden brush?. I'm planning to purchase a wooden comb, but idk how to clean it, is it okay to wash it with water and soap? Or would it be bad for it? Any advices can do!",0 +1283,"Best shampoo for fine long straight hair that doesn't cause buildup?. Hi all! + +I've been struggling with my hair for years at this point. It's long, straight, and not much fuss, but no matter what I do I get this strange, persistent build up around my neck/back of my hair. I've run the gambit of shampoos -- super natural & nonstripping, clarifying shampoos, etc. without finding a real solution to the issue. + +My hair/scalp easily trends towards dryness, so I can't really use clarifying shampoo all the time, but the shampoos that are ""nourishing/moisturizing"" always make my hair kind of stringy about 2-3 inches from my scalp. + +Right now my solution is just to use a light shampoo that's not too stripping and hit the back of my hair only with the more stripping shampoo at least once a week, but even that doesn't seem to be enough. If I use the clarifying shampoo more often, my hair gets super dry and I get breakage, but if I use a nourishing/moisturizing conditioner, the stringiness will come back. + +Anyone have any tips for this? I'm honestly kind of at my wit's end here and tempted to just cut my hair short again.",0 +1284,"Does anyone know why when I straighten my hair it looks good but then after like two hours it looks bad and frizzy and like looks like I didn’t straighten my hair even though I section my hair, use products for frizz and hair protector and another for frizz yet it still looks bad. ",0 +1285,"Hair Reset! Swim Coach with constant chlorine damage, please help me build a system!. Hello everyone! I'm I swimming instructor/coach which means I spend hours most/everyday in a highly chlorinated gym pool. I used to have really nice hair (and nails),but since starting this job my hair has gotten terribly damaged..I have to wash it at least once a day, the chorine has bleached my hair a little and changed the texture even! (Used to be very straight, it now getting waves). Prone to frizz and split ends! + +Anyway I just went and got my long hair cut into a shoulder length bob. I'm wanting to start fresh so please give many any and all advice you can for protecting my hair! + +My hair type is naturally thick and straight with quite a bit of volume. + +Any advice appreciated!",0 +1286,"Just bought me some stuffs in hopes of taming the frizz. I've been looking for a replacement for my Suave Anti Frizz serum that's been expired for many years. I think I've spent like a week combine researching sprays, serums, creams and masks. Also which oils would be too heavy, sulfate/no sulfate, which way the reviews leaned and which ones I could justify the price for. I decided on Hask 5 in 1 Argan Oil Spray. It was affordable, smells nice, has great reviews on Amazon + +I figured since sprays/mists are the lightest it would be a good place to start since I don't want my 1b/1c straight hair to be weighed down or stiff with product. Amazon says its for colored hair, but mine has been dye free for more than 10 yrs. I bought it for frizz taming, detangling my ends and light moisture to inhibit breakage. The argan oil is the 3rd ingredient and glycerin is the 2nd, so it's high on the list. + +I'm excited to see how it works since I also bought a bamboo comb with longer and even wider teeth to see if it helps with static (if the comb doesn't help I'm only out like $4). Wish me luck, because I haven't used product in my hair since I graduated high school.",0 +1287,"washing yout hair twice a day??. I can't take a shower without washing my hair, I shower every day before I go to bed, Even when I feel like I don't need a shower or washy hair I just do that. Now I'm starting to workout (30-45min cardio) before going to work so I take a quick shower and wash my hair then after work I take a nap then workout 1hr (weight) then I take a another shower. I know it's bad for the hair, any tips on how to keep hair healthy & still wash it twice a day?",0 +1288,"Never buy waterl",0 +1297,Is pantene actually harmful?. is pantene actually bad for your hair? and if it is does anyone know any affordable shampoos/conditioners (i'm white and have medium length wavy hair),0 +1298,"Why is the Lily Skin Hair Bonnet so Rough on the Inside?. I bought a bonnet to protect my hair at night and I just got it in the mail today. When I opened it, I saw that the inside of it is rough. A lot of people buy from LilySkin so maybe I'm just not understanding because doesn't having a rough inside, defeat the purpose of using silk to reduce friction? Thanks for the help!",0 +1299,"Best shampoo and conditioner for fine hair?. Hi all, + +Looking for your tips and suggestions on hair products for fine hair? 🙂",0 +1300,"How to keep hair soft in between washes?. Hi all! I would like to know how to keep hair feeling soft and moisturized in between washes? +I usually wash my hair twice a week, on the wash day my hair feels nice and soft, but next days it gets drier and drier. Do you have any advice what I can do to keep my hair soft till next wash? Serums and oils don't help for long time , only about an hour after application. Creams that i have work good on damp hair, but not on dry. Is there a product you can recommend?",0 +1301,"Individual hairs always stick out, is it frizz, dry hair or something else?. I’ve been dealing with this for a while, I recently switched to a different anti frizz sulfate free shampoo and conditioner (shampoo twice a week) and it’s helped improve hair texture slightly but no matter how I style it, individual strands of hair will not be styled like the rest and just flow around in my face and I’ve no idea how to fix it. Argan oil and keratin spray help for a little bit when I style but it’s like the strands won’t stick to the others.",0 +1302,"oil & steam hair tool?. back around 2015-2016 or so i went into the mall & was called to a kiosk of people selling these cool steam hair straighteners. you could put oils in a compartment & it was supposed to help distribute oils & moisturize the hair while also styling it. they used it on my hair & it absolutely eliminated any & all frizz i had while smoothing it out. then they demonstrated how this tool could curl the hair as well. my hair still to this day has never felt so nice, been so shiny & frizz-free. + +i couldn’t buy it at the time since i was a teenager & didn’t have my own money at the time, but i have been looking for this tool ever since. i don’t remember any brand name or anything of the sort, just the things that i mentioned & that it looked like a hair straightener. + +does anybody know what this is or where to get it? anything similar that can do these things while moisturizing the hair with steam/oils like this?",0 +1303,"Looking for a silk hair wrap. Hello, I normally shower at night and style my hair then sleep . I’m looking for a silk turban recommendation. Please let me know if you have any . Thank you",0 +1304,why is washing my hair with distilled water making it feel limp & greasy??? If distilled water is PURE what is it that its leaving behind?? im so confused & struggling to combat my hard water problems so using alternatives!!. ,0 +1305,"what is the simple product that you can use everydayto keep your hair healthy?. I ( 22f ) have naturally thick hair. Its short like boys hair, I like to keep it that way. It's striaight but doesn't look shilky. What product can I use so that it can be and look healthy. Not only the hair but also the roots. I don't want my hair to fall drastically as I grow older. What can I do now so that i will always have head full of hair. Talking about genetics. Both of my parents have good hair they are in their early 50s. Little thining but not much white hair. I really dont use much products, all i use is some serums right after i wash my hair. Some clay to style some times.",0 +1306,"Frizzy thick hair?. How would you take care of frizzy thick hair? Don’t even mention the summertime, humidity is my greatest enemy. Does anyone also have any shampoo or styling recommendations? I have naturally wavy hair. I have tried remedies and they still don’t work. Thanks!",0 +1307,"My hair gets so greasy everyday and it’s so thin that I look like I’m balding! Help!!. Hello all! I’m a 24 F with very thin and fine hair. I need help finding a good hair care routine as mine seems to not do well. I don’t use any leave in conditioners, hair masks or oils. I’ve used hairitage, OGX, hairfood, and all the store brand shampoos and conditioners to see if it helps but so far nothing has helped me out. I currently use Renpure Originals shampoo and conditioner from Walmart. + +If I put up my hair it looks like I’m balding, hell, even my middle part looks too wide! I recently shaved my head last year and am slowly growing it back as my hair was pretty damaged. It’s now shoulder length and I feel like my hair can’t be styled or put up because it looks like I’m going bald. I wash my hair every day because my hair gets SO SO greasy overnight. I’ve heard washing your hair everyday is bad for it. Any suggestions? I’d appreciate the help! Thank you!",0 +1308,Flat iron recommendations?. I've heard the Paul Mitchell flat iron is a great investment. Any thoughts on this? Any other flat irons that are great?,0 +1309,"I have thin but voluminous hair. My hair gets ready dry(at the hair ends), tangled and split ends. No shampoo has till now worked wonders for my detangling. Any tips I can follow for healthy hair without split ends?. ",0 +1310,List your favorite thickening hair product. ,0 +1311,"Oily thin and straight hair. Hey evreyone! This my first post and i would like your advice about taking care of my hair :) + +I've got a long straight (natural) hair and it is kinda thin too. My scalp gets very oily after one day or so after washing my hair. I wash my hair 2-3 times a week, and i started this routine 3 monthes ago. My shampoo doesnt contains SLS, parabens and sulfates. + +Any advice about how to reduce the oiliness?",0 +1312,"Need a replacement for a discontinued product - Redken Rough Paste #12. The only hair care product I've used for the last 10 years has been suddenly discontinued. Does anyone have a similar product in mind that has good (but pliable) hold, medium shine, and washes out easily? I've recently tried American Crew Defining Paste and Dove Men+ Care Shaping Putty, both were comparable but left much to be desired. + +UPDATE: As of July 2022 I've been informed that Redken is DISCONTINUING this product. All my fellow Rough Paste users, stock up now! Apparently they are going to release a new formulation and packaging. When I know more I'll update here again.",0 +1313,"Shoulder Length Hair Guide. *This blog on shoulder length hair has been my number one post since it came out. It's been broken into two parts: (1) Cutting Your Hair to Shoulder Length and (2) Growing Your Hair From Shoulder Length to Long (in case you change your mind after taking the plunge). (The full post with pictures of the lengths below is a bit better organized on my original blog* [*here*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-shoulder-length-hair-guide.html)*).* + +CUTTING YOUR HAIR TO SHOULDER LENGTH + +Let's break the concept of ""shoulder length"" into three categories: + +1. Just above the shoulder +2. On the shoulder +3. Collarbone length + +During consultations with my clientele I always pause when they say “around shoulder length” for their desired look. We're talking about centimeters of difference here, but it truly changes everything.  + +**1. JUST ABOVE THE SHOULDER** + +Starter bob length. Unicorn length. Absolutely stunning, but it doesn't take long before you run into some of the problems from the “on the shoulder” category (cut #2). If you aren't sold on going to a shorter bob, or this is your first time going above the shoulder, it's a must try. However, after you experiment with this length, and like the results, go a bit shorter so you won't have to get haircuts as frequently. You can probably only have a low ponytail “nub” that I think is darling, but it's not everyone’s favorite.  + +**Pros:** Less time to blow dry. It's a fun, and true, bob. Don't think, just do it! +**Cons:** You may have to style it every day, plus learn new techniques. Curling can be tricky. Frequent cuts will be needed (see my guide on timing haircuts below). If you have really dense hair, you'll need a stylist who can handle debulking (that's true of all the haircuts listed in this post, but especially this one).  + +**2. ON THE SHOULDER** + +With this length, you can get all of your hair into a low pony, but might have some front pieces breaking loose. High pony is possible, but pinning the back can be messy. For most people, this length flips from hitting the shoulder. Some don't mind it, and others hate it. Certain hair types will flip aggressively, but it ranges depending on texture, quality of the cut, and styling technique (which is up to you after leaving the chair). In my opinion, this length is perfect for someone who has thicker hair, no layers, shorter neck, wavy to curly texture, and isn't ready for a short bob.  +​ +**Pros:** Still able to pull back in a pony if needed. A good haircut will minimize the flip for the first two weeks.  +**Cons:** The flip. It will show up eventually as the haircut grows out. Ponytail may feel messy for folks used to longer hair.  + +**3. COLLARBONE LENGTH** + +Also known as a long bob or ""Lob"". It varies from person to person, but at this length you should be able to fit all of your hair in a low to medium-high ponytail. In a high pony the hair in the nape slips out. If you're okay with using two bobby pins that shouldn't be a problem. Wearing a bun usually works with this length as well. Check out Byrdie's ""[49 Flattering Shoulder-Length Hairstyles](https://www.byrdie.com/medium-length-hairstyles-flattering-on-thick-or-thin-hair-346833)"" for more celebrity short-ish hair inspiration. + +**Pros:** Easiest short length to throw in a pony, and you don't have to deal with the grow out/ flip. +**Cons:** It's not a bob. If you already have hair short enough to almost be a bob, go shorter. There's nothing like the feeling of having truly short hair and seeing space between your ends and shoulders. So less of a con, and more of my own opinion.  + +GROWING YOUR HAIR FROM SHOULDER LENGTH TO LONG + +I went through the process of growing my hair out from ""just above the shoulder"" to longer than ""collarbone length"". If you're trying to understand what returning to long hair will look like if you don't love your new shoulder length haircut, check out my overview below. + +**FIRST SIX MONTHS**  +​It took about six months to grow my hair from chin length to ""just above shoulder length"". Between April and October of 2019 (see pictures below) I only had two minimal trims to help my hair stay healthy as it grew. Once it reached that length, I opted to avoid any further coloring to prevent breakage, and covered the purple hue with a color that was as close as possible to my natural.  + +**NEXT TWO MONTHS** +By November and December of 2019, I was able to add in more up-styles into my routine, like this small bun and braided crown (see below). I avoided further trims between October 2019 and February 2020, trying to give my hair more time to grow after I had paused coloring.  + +**NEXT SIX MONTHS** +To protect from breakage, I started wearing my hair back under a hat or bandana whenever I could (this was much easier during COVID). For me, protein treatments once a week were helpful, but shouldn't be done more than that. If you have thicker hair, moisturizing treatments in the form of masks can be done more often as well. See my blog post on [Hygral Fatigue](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hygral-fatigue.html) to understand if your hair needs more protein or moisture when you're growing it out.",0 +1314,Can I wash my hair 2 times a day. Today I washed my hair and a couple hours later I was cleaning my grandmas bathroom and my hair touched a dirty diaper inside of the trash can. My hair doesn't smell but the thought of something gross being on my body is excruciating. Can I wash my hair again without drying it out? Will putting coconut oil on my hair shaft protect it?,0 +1315,"Experiences with ogx shampoos. I would like to try ogx shampoos, especially the moroccan oil one and the biotin and collagen one. I have thin straight hair and am experiencing a some thinning and fall out due to stress. I'm hesitant because I read that for some people it made their fall out worse and that there is a law suit against this brand. Is anyone over here using this brand, whats your experience with it?",0 +1316,"Want to “upgrade” my drugstore shampoo but not sure what to get!. Atm I’m using Tresemme Keratin Smooth shampoo, conditioner and hair mask (once a week) but, my hairdresser has told me I should avoid it as it can dry out and damage hair. Thing is, I’m baffled as to what to instead, I like this Keratin Smooth stuff as it keeps my hair from being staticky and frizzy, it keeps the tangles at bay and it’s always in stock at my local drugstore store (Superdrug, UK) + + I’ve been looking at different brands but I’m not sure what to use instead as most seem to focus on moisture or volume and I don’t need those, I just want to keep my hair soft,smooth and static and frizz free! I’ve kind of narrowed it down to Maui, Ogx, Aussie and John Frieda, but I’m not sure which to get as I can’t afford to keep trying different brands! + + + Any and all suggestions would be greatly appreciated, the only things I ask is that it’s from a drugstore and, it’s in the UK. Also, apologies if this is a little all over the place, typing while having a hypo makes for interesting post!",0 +1317,"how do i take care of my wavy hair?. i (16F) have known for a while that i have wavy hair, but i’ve never done too much to look after it. i don’t use heat on my hair so it’s not damaged, i just don’t really look after it. + +a few days ago, i decided to actually start looking after my natural hair, which i’d estimate is about 2b. i have quite thick hair so it’s a lot of effort. + +i have a small amount of frizz on the back half of the top of my head, but the thing that bothers me most is the random parts of hair that just stay straight. it just looks odd and it bugs me. + +i’m ordering a wide tooth comb, a hair mask, john frieda’s ‘dream curl’ shampoo, pantene’s detangling milk, and 236ML of the eco styler gel. + +this is all quite new to me, so if anyone would be able to say whether these products are good, i’d be super grateful. i also just need tips on how to just generally take care of my hair? no one in my family has wavy hair. + +thanks in advance!! :))",0 +1318,"Shampoo issue. When I shampoo, my scalp is clean and healthy but hair gets fluffy and dry, but when I don’t shampoo my hair feels amazing but scalp gets dry and flaky. + +How do I balance this? + +Apple cider? Oils? Less shampoo? Please let me know what I should do to fix this + +I shampoo/condition every other day, with Herbal essence",0 +1319,"I got highlights instead of balayage?. I have been getting balayage foils from a great lady who went on maternity earlier this year. Today I tried another salon, based on this person's work featured on her instagram, and ended up with highlights. I am feeling way too blonde and my scalp is burning from blowdrying - I've never had anyone use that much heat to style hair! I tried to toughen it out because this salon has a blowdrying policy. I always refuse blowdrying after dying my hair in my other salon because I am paranoid about damaging my hair, which is thinner than it used to be. The highlights do look good, but it is a high maintenance job and that's not what I wanted. My other stylist's technique would let me get away with dying it every 7-8 months! My questions are: 1) can I do anything to my freshly dyed hair (and burning scalp) to counteract the heat damage from blowdrying, 2) how can I correct the highlights to have a less high maintenance style? I guess I need to ask for ""shadow"" at the roots? I don't want to be dying my hair every 3 months and I have a feeling this is going to look horrible after 2 months. Thanks for any advice.",0 +1320,My hair has been smelling really bad lately. I shower twice a day with fragrance shampoo and hours later it starts to smell. I take really really hot showers. Any tips on how to get rid of this.. ,0 +1321,how to clean hair brush. ,0 +1322,"I’ve learned so much from research and this group. My hair was sticky, waxy and hard after shampooing. I heard clarifying shampoo would remove it. It didn’t come clean the first time. So today I washed my hair twice in a row. My hair is nice the waxy junk is gone. I only used vo5 shampoo.. ",0 +1323,"Trying to help my boyfriend but am at a loss...please help. My boyfriend started growing out his hair during the mess of 2020 and it's now about 3 inches past his collarbone. It's very, very thick and he has a lot of it. He's never had long hair before so he doesn't know how to take care of it but I do the best I can with teaching him. However, the back of his head keeps tangling, and almost matting, daily and feels so dry in mid length spots in the back. + +He's using a good conditioner but defaults to using the Suave clarifying shampoo every day because he thinks his hair has too much protein. I've told him that's a bad idea but neither of us know what shampoo to switch to. + +I'm at a loss for how to help him more than getting a better shampoo. His hair is wavy as well so I've thought of getting products made for curly or wavy hair but just don't know where to look or what types of products to use and ingredients to look for/avoid. + +He's to the point of throwing up his hands and saying he'll just cut it, but growing his hair out has boosted his confidence and self esteem so much, and it genuinely looks much better on him than shorter men's cuts. I just want to him to feel confident in himself. + +Any advice is appreciated!",0 +1324,"My hair caught on fire today. Any good (cheap!) products to strenghten hair after heat damage?. As the title says, my hair caught on fire. Fortunately only my ends were destroyed, however I can imagine the entire head is fried due to the heat spreading. (I've had pretty healthy virgin hair :(. ) + +I've cut the parts that were turned to ashes already. + +What products can make my hair smooth and help them recover? Looking for something affordable availabile in EU.",0 +1325,"Advice for a newbie. So, I basically grew up using whatever shampoo/conditioner my parents had, never really paid much attention to hair care, etc. But lately I feel like my hair is hard to manage, and I’m tired of feeling like brushing my hair equates to ripping it out of my head, so I’m looking for some help. + +My hair is probably medium thickness, down to below my shoulder blades. Left to air dry, my hair has a small amount of natural wave to it, but not noticeably wavy/curly. Pre-pandemic, my hair was a grown-out balayage. I let it grow naturally during the pandemic, and used some coloring conditioners (specifically Overtone coloring conditioner). Exactly a year ago (coincidence on the date lol) I bleached my hair at home, and continued coloring using Overtone. Rebleached in June (again at home) and colored with Overtone, and bleached again in September, and colored again with Overtone. Haven’t bleached or dyed again since September. + +I think I’ve been decent with my bleach routine- my hair isn’t springy or stretchy like I’ve seen in the worst Brad Mondo videos (lol). But it’s definitely fairly dry. Mostly, my issue is the tangles. + +I wash my hair maybe twice a week. Right now I use Pantene shampoo and conditioner. The problem I’m finding is that I’ll brush my hair pre-shower, shampoo, and it’s a little tangled, condition and comb through, and it’ll seem okay, but then I get out of the shower and try to brush my hair, and if it’s even the slightest bit wet, it’s just knot and tangle city. God forbid I try to put it in a ponytail wet; if I flip my head and try to detangle, I feel like I’m ripping the skin off the back of my neck. + +I have no idea if it’s my brush, my haircare, or if you’re just never supposed to brush your hair wet, but I’m happy to listen to any advice. I don’t need perfectly silky hair, but I see some hairstyles with people pulling and weaving their hair and I just think “man my hair would be in knots if I tried that” + +If I’m forgetting any info, please let me know and I’ll happily add to the post/provide details in the comments",0 +1326,"Satin bonnet for straight hair?. Would you recommend a sleep bonnet for straight, thin, medium-length hair? + +If so, which specific product do you recommend? (I don’t like choices.) So far I have been looking at the selection at Kitsch, though I would prefer to support a black-owned brand here, ideally not on amazon.",0 +1327,"Olaplex vs. Kerastase vs. Ouai (or others??). hi everyone, i’m looking to start taking real care of my hair (i’ve had some bouts of depression and stuff and just stick to head and shoulders usually, but i know this isn’t good). i’ve heard recommendations for olaplex, kerastase and ouai, but i’m not sure which ones are best and i don’t have a ton of money for trial and error. + +i did take the hair quizzes on each website, but i kind of felt like they weren’t able to address all of the things i want to work on. so for more info, i have: +- fine hair, but a lot of it +- wavy +- oily scalp that also has some dandruff/flaking +- wash my hair about every 2 days +- frizzyyyyyy +- not dyed, i pretty much only use heat on special occasions (3-4 times per year) +- i pretty much just brush and go. + +I especially want to work on the frizz/defining my waves while helping my oily scalp and the flaking. any recommendations are welcome!! please help!!",0 +1328,"Suave strawberry shampoo / conditioner. So i really want a strawberry shampoo and conditioner that smells like fresh strawberries rather then very sweet ones, and cant find one anywhere but i came across the suave ones and they seem to smell like what i want. But i haven’t heard anyone talk about these? + +Are these bad for hair. I have straight / wavy hair that gets oily in like a day n also a little bit of dandruff (i know) + +Let me know if any of u guys have tried it, or have any good strawberry shampoo :)!",0 +1329,"Alice + Co Botanicals dupe?. Hi, I’m looking for a dupe for the shampoo/conditioner of the Alice + Co Botanicals shampoo and conditioner. It’s the hotel shampoo and conditioner but somehow made my hair so soft?? + +For context, I have long straight hair that’s relatively coarse/thick and gets frizzy while drying.",0 +1330,"Ouai disappointed me! Need a new shampoo/conditioner. Hi everyone! + +I'm looking for recommendations for a new shampoo and conditioner duo. I have fine, thin hair that's oily on the roots and dry all over. It's also virgin hair and it's straight and frizzy. I wash my hair daily and air dry with my hair down. + +Everyone around me as told me to try professional shampoo and conditioner and a couple of months ago I caved and bought the Ouai duo for fine hair. It really disappointed me, my hair looks slightly better but for the price I was expecting amazing results. + +I've looked around and these are the duos I'm considering: + +\- Pureology Hydrate sheer + +\- Pureology Strength cure + +\- Redken All Soft + +Does anyone have reviews on these?",0 +1331,What issues do you find challenging as a client to a hairstylist?. Ex: What things do you find intimidating? Do you want the option to have a quiet session? What troubles you with communication?,0 +1332,"I have super smelly hair right now and I have cross country practice tommorow, what should I do?. I have smelly hair rn and I have school tommorow, but if I wash it in the morning I cant in the evening when I have cross country, so what should i do? do i just go to school smelling like shit or what should i do? 14 male and have 2b-2c hair",0 +1333,"How do I increase hair growth and reduce greasiness?. During the pandemic, I started washing my hair on my own (my mom used to wash my hair, embarrassing, I know), and since then, I had lost half of my hair. + +My mom won’t stop nagging me and commenting about how I used to have nice thick hair. My hair is still nice but it’s dealing with breakage and thinning. It has also gotten greasier than usual. + +I’m starting university in a few days, so I think I would have to wash my hair often because, my hair gets greasy in 3 days and I, in general, wash once a week. Any help would be appreciated.",0 +1334,Tips on using the revlon brush while minimising damage? 🙏. ,0 +1335,Anyone know a good substitute for the now discontinued anti residue neutrogena shampoo?. It was the only clarifying shampoo that worked for me till now. I have greasy roots if i dont shower for a day now and always often had product build up because I regularly oil my hair. Most complains about the shampoo was the fact that it was very drying but it was what has helped me the most. If anyone knows similar drying clarifying shampoos please let me know!,0 +1336,"help! oily hair. I'm finding that within less than 24 hours after washing & conditioning, and my hair is already super oily. I've tried a variety of shampoos & conditioners without much luck and it seems like nothing is working. Anyone have any advice on how to prevent it from getting greasy so quickly? + +(for reference, I'm using matrix biolage scalp sync after it was recommended by a hairdresser, and I'm washing it every 2-3 days - it looks almost wet from the greasiness if I go any longer). Pics are on my profile and any advice is welcome :)",0 +1337,Does anyone know if the dyson air wraps on qvc are legit?. The air wraps are on back order right now but I like how qvc offers 5 payments of $120 for the air wrap vs paying the whole $600 upfront so I’m hoping it’s legit 🤞🏻,0 +1338,"Mane and Tail long term effects?. I started using the Mane and Tail shampoo about 3 months ago. I follow it up with a nice keratin conditioner. I have always had dry and thin hair that doesn’t grow past my shoulders. MNT has really thickened my strands and gave me great volume. But I still need to iron curl my hair to get a shine and a smooth look. + +After a day spent at the pool under Texas sun, my hair is suddenly super dry. So much so that the same curling iron cannot make it look as smooth as it used to. + +Any ideas if it could be the sun+pool or a sudden turn in MNT results due to longer term use?",0 +1339,"How to properly use Argan Oil?. Hey guys, so I have Type 3 hair that's really dry and damaged and I'm just now starting my journey of taking care of it. A friend suggested that I use Argan Oil on my hair, so this will be my first time trying it. + +I have a lot of questions since I'm afraid of messing this up: Should I apply it daily, weekly, or monthly? Should I apply it in the morning or at night, or does it matter? Before or after showering? Should I apply it on wet hair or dry hair? I've searched on Google, here on Reddit, on Youtube, Quora, and their answers and procedures are VERY DIFFERENT from each other. + +Is there one perfect, proper way of usage that I should follow, or is it different for everyone and should I experiment until I find what's best for my hair? + +Thanks in advance :)",0 +1340,"Hi, I am having severe hair loss. Please if anyone can suggest any product or tips that would be helpful. Thanks. ",0 +1341,"Greasy Thick Short Hair. Does anyone have recommendations for hair that’s deceptively thick, cut short, and always ends up looking or feeling greasy by the afternoon? I’d love some recommendations for shampoo and conditioner I could try. I’m also willing to try powder dry shampoo or anything else during the day to keep it from ending up gross looking.",0 +1342,"Overpriced Products. I was in Ulta today looking at hair products; (I am someone who loves products and does tons of research. I like Dr. Dray and the cosmetic chemists from The Beauty Brains.) Anyway, I was in there looking at salon branded hair products and I’ve tried lots of stuff from salon to drugstore. I’ve heard lots of claims like salon products are more concentrated, that they are better for your hair. Honestly I’ve seen no difference in anything I use unless I use “bottom tier” products like Aussie, Dove, Head and shoulders. So walking around in there I just can’t bring myself to buy any of it. It seems over priced. The problem is I’m afraid of what these drugstore products do to my hair in the long term. + +So my question is how long should you try a product to see how it will affect your hair? Are these claims of long term buildup actually true? I’ve not run into a beauty brains episode specifically addressing this. + +Also Anyone else have trouble buying expensive products? Doesn’t it kind of take the fun out of things?",0 +1343,"Need advice on bleaching my hair. It’s medium brown now and I want to dye the underneath, what developer power should I use, and for how long. ",0 +1344,"What’s wrong with my scalp ?. Over the past year I stopped using drug store shampoos, I’ve been using redken constantly for the past year. But my scalp is extremely itchy , I keep picking sores into my head because of it. I tried using the blue bottle of shampoo (the one that starts with a C) but it seems to be even worse now. I have long thick hair, I’ve recently started washing my hair more I use to do it once every two weeks to a month (depression gets the best of all of us) now I do it once every three or four days. I do wear tight pigtails, I work in food so I can’t just let my hair down. I’m just wondering if anyone has any recommendations? I’ve worked hard to get my hair to look good and now my scalp went to cramp. I believe it’s dandruff because there yellowish in some spots.",0 +1345,"Can a Product Just...Stop Working?. Hi Everyone! + +So, I had something really weird happen. I stocked up on the EVA NYC Therapy Session hair mask on Black Friday, after using it for over a year with amazing results. I'm halfway through one of my containers, with no issue....until the past two washes. It feels like no matter how much I use, I cannot get the same silky feeling I used to get. Normally I apply and my fingers glide right through. The past two washes were so knotty and tangly. + +Now, I'm used to my ends getting tangly when its time for a trim, but this was all over. No change in water, shampoo, etc. And it's not a brand new container - Like I said, I'm about halfway through, and didn't have any issues previously, so I don't think it's a batch issue... + +What could have happened?",0 +1346,"too broke for a salon. hi !! i (18) recently got a decent haircut but it made a huge dent in my bank account . i cannot afford to keep coming back for trims , and they’re probably the most affordable in my area . i would like to start cutting my own hair to cut costs and gain some valuable skills . how should i start ? what tools should i invest in ? hair is fine , color treated , and about chest length also :0",0 +1347,"I shampoo my hair every other day, but the day after I don’t, my hair smells.. Let’s say I shampoo on Monday, Tuesday my hair won’t smell, but Wednesday, before I shampoo again, it will, why? Does it make sense for hair to smell after more than 24 hours of not shampooing? + +Could it be my over head headphones?",0 +1348,"can i get my curls back?. when i was a toddler i had a big mop of beautiful curly hair! i loved my curls and my family did too, but supposedly after a bad haircut when i was younger, my curls just stopped growing! my hair grew in straight with a slight wave for the rest of my life and it remains this way. sometimes after a shower i’ll have a few little ringlet curls that frame my face but after a brush they’re gone. i just wanna know if there’s a way to get my natural curls back? without a perm? any advise would be appreciated <3",0 +1349,"I have low porosity wavy hair, and want my hair to have more poof to it but maybe not as much frizz is it possible?. ",0 +1350,"Fishy.. I have been dealing with this scalp pain for a while. It's like pimple pain but there's no pimple up there. It changes spots across the scalp. And comes and goes off. Have been to the doctor, and even she is confused about this. Even a little tugging of hair causes pain on the scalp. Is anyone here familiar with this? A little help would be appreciated.",0 +1351,"Purple Shampoo. Sharing some info here on purple shampoo and conditioner to help our blonde, silver and white-haired friends out. + +(This is the entire text from my [original blog](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-purple-shampoo.html), which includes a few helpful graphics) + +**How does purple shampoo work?** + +Changing your hair from brown to blonde is an art that possibly requires the skills of a professional colorist. That professional needs to do two things when lightening your hair: (1) remove pigment and (2) tone away any remaining yellow and/or orange. For #2, purple shampoo or conditioner is a gentle way to combat unwanted yellow/brassy color, and can be used in between your hair appointments at home. + +Unlike the color your hairdresser uses at the salon, purple shampoo or conditioner does not contain any chemicals. It coats the outside of your hair with a purple ""sheen"" that can be washed away eventually (think of it like putting on nylons). The reason behind why it works lies in where the color purple sits on the color wheel. Colors that are opposite to one another on the wheel cancel each other out. For purple shampoo and conditioner, the finished effect can be as minimal as a buttery blonde to as maximal as a sultry silver. It all depends on how porous your hair is before the application, plus how long you leave it on for and/or number of times you use it. + +**Which works better for toning, the purple shampoo or the purple conditioner? Do I need to use both?** + +Some people believe the shampoo tones better, and others believe the conditioner does. Most prefer to use one or the other, so you likely do not need both. Experiment to find out what works best for you. When using the shampoo alone, apply a deep conditioner afterward, as it can dry your hair out a bit. When using the conditioner alone, wash hair with a color-safe shampoo beforehand.  + +**How do you apply purple shampoo or conditioner (to wet hair)?** + +It depends where the yellow/brassy tones in your hair are. Remember, hair that has been dyed blonde will be more porous, and may soak up the purple color faster. It's best to leave the product on for a shorter period of time and apply it a second time if needed as you get used to using it.  If you feel like you overdid it (i.e. your color turns too purple), wash your hair with a clarifying or color-less shampoo a few times until you get the tone right. ""Overdoing it"" will take more than a couple of applications, so don't worry about it at first. + +**Application suggestions:** + +*If you're a blonde who has an even color from roots to ends that you want to tone.* + +* Use the product 1 - 3 times per week like you would a regular shampoo or conditioner.  +* **Time to leave on:** 3 minutes, repeat the process again if you still see yellow tones + +*If you're a blonde with yellow/brassy roots only.* + +* Some blondes, particularly those that don't use foils (i.e. a one process color), may see yellow/brassiness at the root after lightening their hair. When that's the case, apply the product to the warmest part of the hair (your root area) while trying to keep it off the hair that has the tone you like (your mid-shaft and ends). This is easiest to do with an inexpensive bowl and brush set (like [these](https://www.google.com/search?q=color+bowl+and+brush+set&sxsrf=ALeKk02-3UG2bK2vGzUn3FhCs5cmFMERNA:1599680314133&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiI4oLH6dzrAhURHzQIHY1oCukQ_AUoAnoECBgQBA&biw=1286&bih=659)).  +* **Time to leave on:** 5 minutes, afterwards rub the product throughout your hair and immediately rinse out, apply a second time if needed + +*If you have naturally white or grey hair with yellow/brassy spots from hard water, pool water, etc.* + +* Apply the product to the spots that are yellow/brassy. This is easiest to do with an inexpensive bowl and brush set (like [these](https://www.google.com/search?q=color+bowl+and+brush+set&sxsrf=ALeKk02-3UG2bK2vGzUn3FhCs5cmFMERNA:1599680314133&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiI4oLH6dzrAhURHzQIHY1oCukQ_AUoAnoECBgQBA&biw=1286&bih=659)). If you still notice yellow after several applications, you may need to strip the chemicals out with a clarifying shampoo or a pre art service at the salon. Ask your stylist/barber for advice on this.  +* **Time to leave on:** 3 - 5 minutes, afterwards rub the product throughout your hair and immediately rinse out, apply a second time if needed + +**Can you put purple shampoo or conditioner on dry hair?** + +Yes, you can. However, the product might not spread evenly throughout your hair, resulting in a splotchy appearance afterwards.  + +**Can purple shampoo dry your hair out?** + +In my opinion, yes. If you're worried about this, stick with the purple conditioner alone. + +**Can you color your hair with purple shampoo or conditioner?** + +Only if your hair is pre-lightened to the right shade of yellow, or if you are naturally grey/white.   + +**What happens if you use purple shampoo or conditioner on brown hair?** + +Not much. The hair has to be light enough for the purple pigment to show up. + +**Will purple shampoo work on my hair if I see orange not yellow in my lightened hair?** + +Not much will change. There are teal, green and blue shampoos that are more worth a try.",0 +1352,What can I do to prevent my hair from getting frizzy and dry so quickly?. ,0 +1353,"Thio Based Relaxer. I've been relaxing my hair using Rusk AntiCurl 3 for years and they just discontinued it. Does anyone have a good alternative? It's a no-lye, thio relaxer/texturizer (ammonium thioglycolate based instead of sodium hydroxide).",0 +1354,"Help! Tangled and matted hair!. I work full time and study full time plus other things that I have going on in my life... let's just say life has been a bit hectic. For the last two months I didn't wash my hair and just put it up in a messy bun... biggest mistake of my life yes but here I am, desperate and afraid for my hair. I'm not sure if I'm panicking or not but it feels a loot thinner... I am asking for some advice on detangling and hopefully some similar experience on how you treated your hair after and what helped and what to expect... anything that will relieve my anxiety a bit is immensly appreciated! Thank you beautiful creatures 😭",0 +1355,"Is it bad to regularly tone whole head with 20 vol. developer?. I have dark roots with lots of grey, so when I tone my hair, the roots blend perfectly to give me a nice balayage look with some lighter stripes (from the grey). I love the look of it, as it has tons of dimension and is the exact color I want, and it's made double processing entirely unnecessary, which has significantly reduced my breakage. + +My only concern is that it's doing too much damage to my hair. Obviously, I'm not doing it any favors, but is 20 vol. with toner too much to do to my whole head that often? When roots are touched up in a salon, all of the hair is toned, not just the roots, right? I know I wouldn't get the same lightening effect, but would it be better to go with 15 vol. or 10 vol. instead? + +Thanks in advance.",0 +1356,"When can I *really* wash my hair after coloring?. Hi! So to preface, I have extremely fine thin hair that I typically wash every other day. My second-day hair, however, is still usually pretty oily and flat and requires a lot of dry shampoo to give it any sort of body. I suffer through it. + +I just got a fresh color today (dark dark brown, permanent dye) and I have a lot of plans this upcoming weekend that, quite frankly, I want to look nice for and not like a greaseball. I don’t plan to wash tomorrow (Friday) as I just need to go to work and I’ll probably be okay, Saturday I have a day full of activities and I want to look nice but at the bare minimum I guess I can dry shampoo and wear a cute hat (can’t French braid it myself and any other cute styling is impossible since it’s so thin and fine)… I also usually work out Saturday mornings and it will probably be sweaty :/ + +But Sunday, I really, really would like to feel my best for my plans that day. Everything online is more or less “wait 72 hours or all your color will strip out and you will regret it forever” and I’m just wondering if there’s any real truth to that. Am I going to lose a lot of color if I wash Sunday morning? + +For reference I always wash freshly colored hair with cool/cold water and I have Blacklight shampoo by Oligo.",0 +1357,"Protect my hardwork. So recently I've decided to cut back from heat styling. Currently I shower/wash my hair at night and blow dry it as straight as I can before bed. Before work the next morning, I curl my hair. I don't wash my hair for another 4ish days and just use dry shampoo under the premise that the curls will hold and I'll have pretty hair with less heat overall. An issue that I've been running into is that on the 2nd day of wearing the curls, I wake up and my hair is so tangled and roughed up that it doesn't look good at all which kind of defeats the idea that I have. The curls hold, but because of how tangled and unmanageable it looks, it's like the curls don't even matter. I don't brush my hair because I don't want the curls to fall out and then have to style it again to get it looking nice again and yada yada + +I sleep on a satin pillow case and gently clip my hair up to sleep. + +Any advice on keeping my hair from getting so tangled and messed up while I sleep? Anything I can do during the day? I just can't figure out what I'm doing for it to end up like this every time.",0 +1358,Shampoo and conditioner for hardwater. Can anybody recommend a slightly affordable shampoo and conditioner for hardwater? I currently use sauve daily clarifying shampoo and Aussie 3 minute miracle. I try to only wash 2-3 times week. But my hair gets really gross. Not sure if the sauve is too harsh on my scalp.,0 +1359,Shea moisture shampoo. I'm considering buying shea moisture shampoo and conditioner (the african black soap bamboo charcoal edition). I have thin staright hair and oily scalp that sometimes get iritated. Is this shampoo good for thin straight hair or is it gonna weigh my hair down and make them look oily? Anyone here with same hair type as mine who uses this shampoo?,0 +1360,Should I use scalp massager on dry hair or wet hair?. As the title says I don't know which way to use scalp massager. When i use it on dry hair it leaves them really tangled but I'm worried that its gonna break my hair if i use it on wet hair (due to hair being more fragile when wet). Any advice which one is better?,0 +1361,"Has anyone here used glycolic acid on their hair?. I recently came across a video of a lady recommending this and I was wondering if anyone has tried this and has any experiences to share? + +[video on instagram](https://www.instagram.com/reel/CaA5e5gly9I/?utm_medium=copy_link)",0 +1362,"Noticed hair breakage after trying revlon one step brush - if I just stop using it will it be fine?. I’m noticing 3 inch hairs sticking up on my crown and hairline. I’ve only used the brush once on low. I did just get my hair professionally dyed but it was just a permanent grey coverage with no dye before. + +Maybe try a new stylist next time and stop heat styling? Should I try Olaplex? Can anyone recommend a routine I should be following to get my hair to grow back nicely?",0 +1363,"Protein free shampoo and conditioner products?. Hey guys! I am currently looking for an affordable protein free shampoo and conditioner that is more on the organic and natural side. + +I’m having a hard time finding one that I can use every other day. I have 2b, low porosity hair.",0 +1364,"If my shampoo and conditioner has hydrolyzed rice protein, is that enough protein in my routine?. Would it be overkill to use a split end strengthener with keratin in it? I also take hair vitamins containing Biotin. I want to only use it on the top layer of my hair and ONLY on my ends. The top layer tends to be dryer and coarser than the bottom layer of my hair. The bottom layer rarely gets split ends, the top is more prone to it. I have low porosity, 2b curl pattern hair.",0 +1365,"Need Help with a Huge Mat!!!. Hey, guys!! My hair is down to my hip, but with a severe illness combined with the medication required it has been falling out and breaking quite a lot. I will need to cut it very soon. + +Being in bed for two weeks left a massive knot/mat on the back of my head near the top of my neck. I am afraid trying to detangle this will cause more breakage and hair loss. It has been tangling very badly for a while now, but not as badly as this. + +Can anyone help me with this?? I would very much appreciate any tips. Google has given so many options I feel overwhelmed.",0 +1366,"How to wash thick grease out of hair. I'd like to start by saying how stupid and embarassed I am for what I'm about to share. But it happened, and now I need help. + +Today, I impulsively applied Kuza Indian Hemp Hair and Scalp Treatment all over my shoulder length, medium thick, straight white girl hair. And now it won't wash out of my hair. + +The product is in my house because my boyfriend has thick curly hair. I knew that it is meant more for textured and curly hair, but I did't quite think about how it would behave on mine. My scalp was feeling dry and sore, therefore I applied the product to my scalp, parting my hair with a comb as I went. I put my hair up, and left it in to sit for maybe a few hours. It has a very thick, almost waxy consistancy, and it would not wash out of my hair after 4 shampoos. + +So now i need help. Any advice on how to remove this product from my hair would be much apreciated. And again, I know I'm stupid. But on the bright side, my scalp does feel better.",0 +1367,when i put my hair in a ponytail the scrunchy part gets loose tangled looking hair... its not all smooth and flat.. when i pull the ends to tighten the scrunchy that part gets more loose tangled looking..,0 +1368,"Certain shampoos weigh hair down, not sure which one to pick, could really use some advice. Hey guys! So before, I was using the Head and Shoulders 2-in-1 shampoo. I hadn't really had the practice of conditioning my hair before (because it takes longer and I didn't want that), and maybe that's why my hair's gotten so thin, so I loved using this shampoo because it gave me both shampoo + conditioner in one. It didn't weigh my hair down at all and it was great, because my hair's pretty thin now so I felt better with it. I only washed once a week and it was fine. After the 4th or 5th day, my hair would start to get oily. Then I started hearing about how this product is actually bad for you, so 2-3 weeks ago, I changed to hairgrowthco's ""rice water shampoo"". (This is the link for it: [https://hairgrowthco.com/products/rice-water-shampoo-8-oz](https://hairgrowthco.com/products/rice-water-shampoo-8-oz)). It uses a lot of natural ingredients, like some extracts and oils and stuff. They have a corresponding leave-in conditioner for it, that I use after I'm done showering/washing my hair (I put it through my wet hair). I started doing this every 2-3 days. The issue I'm starting to see with this is that the next day, my hair starts to look oily. Then the day after, my hair starts to look greasy. It makes my hair look flat, and for already thin hair, it just looks kinda bad. I don't know if it's cause of all the natural products in the shampoo, or cause I'm not using a rinse-out conditioner, or if maybe my hair needs more moisture or something, but I'm kinda starting to miss the Head and Shoulders 2-in-1 shampoo/conditioner. I want my hair to not look flat. I'm thinking about switching to just a Head and Shoulders shampoo and maybe getting a separate conditioner from a different brand that can provide moisture. What do you guys think about this? Any suggestions?",0 +1369,What are some of the benefits you noticed after getting a wooden hairbrush? Did it reduce frizz ?. ,0 +1370,"How should you dry shoulder-length hair after a shower?. Does putting it up in a towel affect it at all? Or should you just fluff it up with a towel, without putting it up in the towel?",0 +1371,"Hair curls upwards at ends. Hi, my hair has always been like this. It’s dry (despite having used shea moisture’s hair mask and conditioner and i even tried rice water treatment but only twice so far, once a week lol), the moist healthy look doesn’t stay longer than few days. It curls upwards at the ends especially near my neck, and my hair seems to curl at different directions for different sections?? Which makes it look weird and ugly, especially since it’s not long (which is right now, my hair is of shoulder length). If can, i don’t want to straighten it as I’m scared it’ll damage it even further and I don’t want to change my entire phenotype and become completely straight-haired lol. Any advice on how to improve my looks?",0 +1372,"How do sulphate free products benefit your hair?. I've started using sulphate free products and my hair doesn't look nearly as good as it did before and gets greasy. Although I only just discovered that switching to sulphate free products takes time for your hair to adjust and I have switched to my regular shampoo a few times which may have affected the process. + +I just wanna know what to expect during the switch to sulphate free products and how it will benefit my hair and if it is the right decision? give details.",0 +1373,"Leave in conditioners suggestion?. I have thin curly hair that tends to get very frizzy and wild. I used the Its a 10 leave in conditioner and really liked it but its very expensive. I was wondering what other leave in conditioners would be good? I have asthma and strong smells can trigger it, so I prefer natural or things without a strong scent. For example, the its a 10 would bother me a little when I put it on, but was fine when it was dried. So something like that would be okay.",0 +1374,"Silk pillowcase or no pillow at all?. So I’ve been thinking about changing my pillow covers, to improve the health of my hair. I was considering changing into a silk pillowcase, but my pillow is really low, and I can also do with no pillow at all. What do you guys think?",0 +1375,"Styling Help ig. 14f, i have a choir concert tomorrow and I don't know how to style my hair properly, any ideas on what I can do? i have anti frizz serum and hair straighteners, but no other styling products for my pretty curly hair",0 +1376,"Products for thick, frizzy, coarse hair. ",0 +1377,I am 16 looking for a men’s shampoo that prevents hair loss. The more inexpensive the better. Any recommendations?. ,0 +1378,"Shaving your baby hair!. I made the mistake of shaving off my baby hair, I had thick baby hair since childhood and it never went away, so I shaved it and now it grows out pokey and coarse. It can't be tamed with gel or any mousse, since it's pokey and short! Any suggestions on how I can solve this? I have to keep cutting it cos it looks like a funny fringe now!",0 +1379,"Sore scalp. My scalp always gets sore in the same spot, usually day 2-3 after I wash. I usually go 5-6 days before I wash again so this past week I washed twice (and plan on continuing twice a week) and yet by the next day my scalp felt sore in the same spot. It’s the same feeling you’d get wearing your hair in a pony or bun for to long but I never put my hair up or in a hair tie so I don’t understand. My scalp isn’t red or have any bumps. It isn’t flaky or scaly. It gets itchy but besides that, just the soreness. Does anyone know what this could be? And what I could do to lessen it?",0 +1380,Hard water hair. My hair has been getting more damaged with time. Most of the United States has hard water. I live in a apartment. No chance they are going to install a water softener. Has anyone tried a filtered shower head? I have been doing the water and apple cider vinegar but I hate the smell. The smell goes away. Now I find out it’s the water in the first place. My hair has thinned a lot. I don’t think it’s age anymore. Do you know if any shampoo and conditioner that can combat hard water?,0 +1381,Unexplained hair loss and thinning. Ive been loosing a lot of hair when i shower up until 3 months ago that was never a problem for me now im worried because theres almost balls of hair coming out which is odd because 2 months ago my hair was starting to finally thicken and grow out Help does someone have an explanation for this ? Is it because im getting older? I just turned 22,0 +1382,"Question about Redken. I have the Redken All soft shampoo, but I would like to supplement with a conditioner. Should I use the All Soft conditioner from the same line, or should I use the Extreme, since it’s for same hair type? If you have any tips or recommendations let me know :)",0 +1383,Best shampoo for hard water?. Recently moved to the west coast and have been struggling with the hard water here. New York water was way better on my hair. Any suggestions for good shampoo for wavy hair?,0 +1384,"My hairstylist wants to sell me a recipe for a scalp treatment that will get rid of my cysts. My current hairstylist said that I should use this ointment or oil concoction that will get rid of the 7 or so cysts that I have on my scalp. She said that her ""naturalist"" gave her the recipe and she will be happy to sell it to me. I wanted to know if anyone has ever heard if such a thing and if this situation is weird enough that I need to find a new stylist... + +TIA",0 +1385,how can i make my hair grow thicker and longer. ,0 +1386,"Does oiling hair causes shedding?. Hello, i have started to use sweet almond oil for my hair to improve the quality. As much as try to be gentle while i apply oil to my scalp, my hair starts to fall out. More than usual. Does oiling hair causes it? + +(1 tbsp for all of my hair).",0 +1387,"Did anyone else suddenly get gray hairs during the pandemic?. I had always been too lazy to maintain colors in my 20s, but I have obvious grays on my 30th birthday pictures last week, but I'm still that same lazy one that probably won't maintain the roots anyways. +Did the stress of the pandemic make others gray early? And are you accepting them or dyeing it?",0 +1388,Trying to train my hair. Hey all! I’ve been washing my hair everyday for the past 28 years and I’ve tried training it in the past but I feel like I’m just always too greasy after a day. Any tips on how to wash my hair less without getting so oily the US might just invade my head?,0 +1389,"[Dry Scalp] How hard is too hard when scrubbing using scalp brush?. So I'm a 20 year old male and currently going insane with my dry scalp. I bought a scalp brush with silicone tips and made it snow. I was scrubbing decently hard, but I figured I'm not actually digging into the skin like I would be with my fingernails or a comb, but still don't want anything bad to happen. + +Is it okay to use it with dry hair? The instructions say so, but my idea is the dry skin is just going to sit there on my scalp until it gets a proper rinse. + +Curious to hear other's experiences with dry scalp and scalp brushes. + +EDIT: I have thick, straight hair that's about 2-3 inches long. Not sure if that matters, but oh well.",0 +1390,"How bad is it to go to sleep with wet hair?. I have fine hair, but there’s a lot of it so it’s kind of thick, and it tends to absorb water and hold onto it like a sponge, so air drying takes a long time. + +It’s convenient to shower before bed and go to sleep with my hair wet, but I think this is making my hair extra frizzy. + +I have a silk pillowcase and will use a microfibre towel on it if it’s really wet. + +Is there anything else I can do?",0 +1391,"Rose Scented Shampoo and Conditioner?. Hey y’all. I’m looking to replace my Love Beauty and Planet rose shampoo and conditioner as I can no longer buy it where I live. All I care about is that it is rose scented and won’t ruin my hair. I have thin-ish, wavy, oil prone hair. Any recommendations are appreciated. Thanks!",0 +1392,"is my hair thinning??. **Hello, I'd love any advice.** + +**For a while now when I run my fingers through my hair it feels like more hair comes out more often then it should. I'm not sure if it's just how my hair is now or if something I doing is causing damage that's making hair come out more easily.** + +​ + +Some background on my hair: + +* Everyday I twist up my hair and use a claw clip to keep it up. +* I wash my hair every two days using ""OGX Extra Strength Refreshing Scalp + Tea Tree Mint Shampoo with Peppermint Oil"" and ""OGX Thick Full Biotin Collagen Conditioner"". I had heard that shampoo containing sulfate was bad for hair so I had been trying to find something without it and after trial and error this is what I've been using. I don't use any product other than this. +* I don't use any straighteners or blow dryers types of tools on my hair. +* I typically wash my hair/shower before going to bed and my hair is still damp when I go to sleep. I'll brush it a bit once it's not sopping wet. I've done this pretty much my whole life so I don't think it's an issue but thought I'd mention. +* I've always been told I have thicker hair, but these days it just doesn't feel like I do as much as before. +* I'm caucasian and I'd say my hair is a 2a-2b type and is relatively fine texture wise. I'm in my 20s so I don't think it's age? + +​ + +**I'm not sure if because I have my hair up always, so maybe it's just that when I do brush it out it just feels like a lot more? Or is something in my care is the problem?**",0 +1393,Dirt in hair. I work on a farm and constantly have actual dirt in my hair and no matter how much I shower and scrub it it’s never all out any shampoos or anything that will help?,0 +1394,"Shampoo that’s good for daily use?. My boyfriend works in a job where he often gets dust / wood chips in his hair and has to wash his hair everyday. + +I know it’s not ideal, but which shampoo and conditioner brand is better to use everyday? He‘s been using Head and Shoulders but hasn’t been liking it recently as he feels it’s drying out his hair.",0 +1395,"Buildup or properly moisturized back of hair?. After using intense repair shampoo and conditioner to strengthen and moisturize my dried out hair for a couple weeks (hair fall and breakage became noticeable) and mostly figuring out which method of washing works best for me, I'm a bit conflicted over something. + +About every other wash, the back of my head (above my ear) feels slick when I'm done and while it's drying. + +My question is, when do you know your scalp and your roots are properly moisturized versus greasy from buildup? All I've known my whole adult life is normal/oily scalp and dry hair. I think the combo is too heavy for my coarse straight hair, but I want to give the combo a chance to do its job which is moisturize and repair/reduce breakage- and my strands have felt smoother and 95% fewer tangles. + +I'm just trying to make sure I'm not being paranoid. Any sort of answer or advice is welcome!",0 +1396,"Too young to lose my hair!. I’m 21 years old (male) I’ve noticed that my hair is thinning a bit. I was wondering if there was something I could do to either slow down the thinning or get my lost hair back without using any rogaine or any other chemical concoction on my hair. Is there any vitamins, a certain shampoo or conditioner that I could maybe use without breaking the bank?",0 +1397,Plz help. I’m a 20 years old female and I have very fine hair. I feel like I have a lot of shedding in the shower. I have tried so many shampoos and conditioners to make my hair grow thicker or just a hair are routine in general that would help. I have curly hair but the ends tend to be dry so I try to put a curl cream on the ends. Any help is appreciated.,0 +1398,"I’m nearly 40 years old and my hair is still as greasy as when I was 17. Help.. As stated, I have the greasiest hair ever. I feel I have tried everything to make it less oily, including special shampoos, dry shampoo, etc. Because of this, I wash my hair every day. I have tried 3 times in my life to stop washing it everyday and all 3 times, nothing has changed. My last attempt lasted 6 months. I washed it every other day, and after 6 months I didn’t notice any change in the oil levels. My hair is oily by the end of the day even when I brush it throughout the day. I have fine, straight hair. I am a 39f, Caucasian (not sure if that matters?). +Anyone else overcome this? Tips?",0 +1399,"Emu Oil, Rosemary Oil, Primrose Oil. Hi, + +I want to use emu oil, rosemary oil, and primrose oil. I understand the pure oil or essential oil can be very strong and irritating to the skin. + +What would be the easiest way to apply these to the scalp? + +I was thinking of having a daily shampoo like Ogx Thick & Full + Volumising Biotin & Collagen Shampoo, and just mixing all the full strength oils through. That way each application will be diluted. + +Any advice would be highly appreciated. Thank you :)",0 +1400,Hair diffuser. Hey there I’m trying to get a diffuser for my wife and I don’t know a single thing about them. I was wondering what is a good one to get. Thank you!,0 +1401,"Extreme Frizz, is this Damaged Hair? What Can I do? (Link with pics inside). My hair never sits down straight and always goes flying out even near the bases. I need to go to a special occasion soon and would like to look presentable. I've only ever had short hair before this. + +I wash and conditioner my hair 2x/week.. + +Is this considered damaged hair? Is there any way to treat this? Or do I have to cut my hair down to short hair and regrow it? + +[https://imgur.com/a/nK5yj7V](https://imgur.com/a/nK5yj7V)",0 +1402,"Hair Oils: help!. My stylist suggested that I use hair oil, but I completely forgot to ask what kind! After doing some research, I narrowed my shopping down to two products, but I can't decide which one of the two to buy and I don't trust a lot of articles online. + +For context, my hair is very straight and fine, but I have a lot of it so it appears thick and gets tangled easily. I bleach my hair at home, but I would say it's surprisingly healthy given that fact. I only occasionally use heat on my hair. I air dry, never blowdry. + +My hair gets greasy often, and because I wash frequently my ends can never seem to get enough moisture despite conditioning. My hair is not completely fried or horribly damaged, but I'm noticing what is either splitting or frizz, and I want to know how to at least reduce the appearance of it. + +The two products I've narrowed things down to are both from The Ordinary: +1) 100% Organic Cold Pressed Moroccan Argan Oil +2) 100% Organic Cold Pressed Virgin Marula Oil + +I decided something from The Ordinary because I trust the company and they have cheap prices. + +Thank you!",0 +1403,How to accelerate hair growth. I'm studying in a strict college that requires you to have an army cut which makes me look like a moron. I have to attend a wedding ceremony of a very close person 10 days from now. Is there any way to make my hair grow faster within these 10 days so that I may look good with formal dress on???,0 +1404,"In need of serious, genuine recommendations for thin, frizzy hair + oily scalp. As the title says, I have oily scalp & the rest of my hair is very thin and gets frizzy super easily. + +Every time I search the internet for product recommendations, I get a bunch of stuff that’s real gimmicky. I’ve tried a bunch of recommended stuff that wasn’t helpful as much as it was just new and trendy with colorful, fun packaging. + +So my frizzy friends, what’s actually worked for your thin hair? (if it helps, I have naturally straight/wavy hair)",0 +1405,"Is it best to use dry shampoo, leave in conditioner, or both for color treated hair?. ",0 +1406,"Help with not washing hair as much. Hi! So I struggle with washing my hair as I need to wash it every day to feel clean. I notice it’s been getting more thin lately and I’m getting paranoid my hair is becoming more brittle due to over washing it. I want to start training it to not become oily as quick while still refreshing it as I work out. Am I able to wash with just conditioner on no wash days? I would still wet it and take a shower every night, and just wash with conditioner instead. Is this a reasonable and healthy thing to do for my hair?",0 +1407,[QUESTION] can you use inkey list caffeine stimulating scalp treatment with the ordinary multi-peptide serum?. ,0 +1408,"how long until I can re-dye. I got a new job. I start on the 31st, one of the requirements is that I have a natural hair color. I have a burgundy red color that I don't feel is natural, I asked my hair stylist who was a family friend to dye it ginger color. It just came out about the same, with orange undertones instead of red, but in the sun it looks really really red. Honestly, I feel like she should have lightened it before she put in the new dye Going back to her is not an option. I don't want to hurt her feelings. I'm going to just go to a another salon and get it redyed I have until the 31st to do this? When am I safe to dye it again? I just dyed it today. I have people telling My hair color now should be okay but I just don't want to risk it. I'm going to email my new boss on Monday and see if it's okay, but I'd really rather be a safe than sorry.",0 +1409,"Daily Wash AND Daily Blow Dry?. I noticed there's no pictures allowed in this sub, so i try to explain as best as i can. TLDR at the bottom. + +My hair is fine and quite long (elbow length), wavy AND straight. I'm also prone to super frizzy hair when air - or blow drying, so air drying is a no go, i HAVE to use heat in some form (blow dryer, blow dry roundbrush, straightener). Leaves me to question #1. Is it okay for me to wash and style it everyday? I know most people tell you to not do that, but i can't go a day without washing it without looking like a zombie. EXCEPT for when i leave a salon, and they washed and styled my hair for me. It looks good even on day 3, but my scalp starts to itch too badly, so i have to wash it. Which leads me to question #2. Am i just bad at blowdrying or washing? I don't understand what i do different, my hair can look good if i blow it out, but it turns to this zombie hair mess on day 2. Is there any advice? + +TLDR: Can i wash and style my hair daily, without damaging it too badly? Also, do hair salons do something differently, so that the blow out lasts overnight?",0 +1410,"Thoughts on herbal essences?. I'm looking for drugstore or affordable shampoos and conditioners that are good, and i'm thinking about trying herbal essences, any thoughts of it please?",0 +1411,"Waxy hair. I've (34M) have been having an issue with my hair being waxy after washing it for the past several months and I've tried many methods to fix it, but nothing seems to be working. A while back, I was using clarifying shampoo and silicone-free conditioner. Now daily, every time I take a shower, I run my fingers through my hair and when I close my fist, the residue from my hair is just completely waxy/sticky. Recently, I've tried using a shower head filter, baking soda, apple cider vinegar, switching shampoos, and using no shampoo or conditioner and the results are the same. If I use any product, my hair is ok for about a day or two and then it's right back to full on sticky. My hair also takes a very long time to dry when my hair is sticky. Has anyone else experienced this or have any idea as to what would cause this? It's something I've been dealing with daily and I really don't know what to do at this point.",0 +1412,"Mother’s Day hair loss.. Hi! My mother has been rapidly losing hair. When she brushes her hair, strands will just fly. Her hair will also just break off in the middle. Do you know of any good products that will help her hair? I want to get her something for Mother’s Day.",0 +1413,"Help with my itchy scalp. I am DYING here omg. +Dramatic, yes. + +About a year or so ago i started getting a super itchy scalp. It used to only get itchy occasionally / when it got greasy or dry in the winter. +I also had cradle cap as a wee babe if that makes any difference. + +I feel like i’ve tried everything i can afford, right now a dermatologist isn’t something i can do because i’m struggling to pay my rent while i’m in school with my shitty paying job. + +I do dye my hair, i tried stopping for about 6 months but no difference, I’ve tried washing less but it gets greasy so fast. I have really fine flat hair. +I’ve tried conditioning more,deep conditioning, not conditioning,oils, scalp massager, exfoliating, new dye brand after stopping dying it, cold water, apple cider vinegar, different hair products shampoo etc blah blahhh + +I use cruelty free products only also, so any suggestions in that regard animal friendly please ❤️ + +I haven’t noticed anything on my scalp in terms of patches of red or clumps of stuff like dermatitis might show. I do get dandruff, not severely but i do. I also rarely notice bumps like acne but those spots usually go away fast and don’t bug me directly, it’s just very generalized, so i haven’t tried salycic acid but i’m willing to if it could help. + +I’m stumped and tired, i don’t really have an unhealthy looking scalp so i don’t know if pics would be helpful + +I appreciate any and all advice until i can afford a dermatologist, i’m willing to spend on a good shampoo and conditioner but i’m not sure where to start in the cruelty free world that would possibly help my scalp, i’m just ready to shave it.. the skin included if it will help. + +Thank you if you read, or reply in advance. Any advice is so appreciated",0 +1414,Hair serum quest. Can someone suggest a good hair serum?,0 +1415,"Getting rid of hairproducts?. Hey, im a guy with short hair that need to use hair wax, clay or pomade everyday to fix the mess. At the end of the day I want to get rid of the products, who wants to sleep with products in their hair? But many times only water is not enough, so I need to use shampoo, once, two, three or ever four days in a row. + +And its not rocket science that my hair and scalp does not like that, so im asking you ladies and gentlemen for advice, how can I get rid of the products in my hair and not using shampoo several times a week?",0 +1416,"Heat Protectant Recommendation. I have fine, naturally straight hair and I’m looking for a new heat protectant for blow drying. I’ve been using Living Proof Blowout spray for years and it’s got supply chain issues and been out of stock for a while and now I’m seeing being without it affect my hair. Any recommendations for a similar product? I’m very sensitive to scents so preferably something mild or unscented, or a scent that dissipates quickly.",0 +1417,"What SheaMoisture mask to use for my hair?. I'm a bit confused about which mask to use for my hair.. + +I wash my hair twice a week, and I blow it out then use a curling wand. So I do use heat. I'm currently using the SheaMoisture Manuka Honey and Marufa? Oil mask and it's great for hydrating my hair but really was after something that helps repair/prevent the heat damage. + +I've narrowed down to 3 which they sell in my country. + +1. MORINGA & AVOCADO POWER GREENS RECONSTRUCTOR + +2. MANUKA HONEY & YOGURT HYDRATE + REPAIR PROTEIN-STRONG TREATMENT + +3. JAMAICAN BLACK CASTOR OIL STRENGTHEN & RESTORE TREATMENT MASQUE + +My hair is thick, course, medium porosity. 2C in nature. So I'm a bit confused on which to use. I also don't colour my hair, it is full virgin and don't do any kind of treatments like keratin treatments, it's full natural. Any advice would be amazing!! + +Happy Easter y'all! + +EDIT: I will also say my hair is pretty healthy already, I just got a trim but I didn't have split ends when I cut it, I do try to take care of my hair, but naturally I know the heat from the irons is what worries me the most.",0 +1418,"is salon shampoo & conditioner better for hair then drugstore ones ?. Anecdotally last time my hairdresser used Kerastese on my hair i got so many compliments on my hair, it destroyed the frizz, made it look sooo smooth. Since then I've been hooked to Kerastese, I don't know if they worth the price tho If I can get the same results with some of drugstore brands. + +After watching this video I'm a bit confused so i wanted to ask u guys + +https://www.tiktok.com/@dermdoctor/video/7010190684321778950?referer_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww-wellandgood-com.cdn.ampproject.org%2Fv%2Fs%2Fwww.wellandgood.com%2Fdrugstore-vs-salon-shampoo%2Famp%2F&referer_video_id=7010190684321778950&refer=embed",0 +1419,"Curl defining cream, leave-in conditioner & hair mousse. In which order do I use these? And when do I scrunch?. I recently just started caring about my hair after years of damaging it by straightening. I am very clueless.",0 +1420,"do i actually need serum or leave in conditioner if i don't use any heat styling product ?. I just wash my hair twice a week and air dry it, i just use shampoo and conditioner, should i add anything ?",0 +1421,"Applying Hair Products. # Applying Hair Products + + The application technique and amount of product used have a big impact on attaining the desired results. Consider your starting point, or the state of your hair before applying products, by asking the following questions. + + +***How wet is your hair?*** +The wetter your hair is, the more your product is being diluted (i.e. watered down). To combat this, and make products more concentrated, try applying them to your hair when it's partially dry. Experiment with varying degrees of dryness to find the right one for your style.📷 +***​How much preexisting product do you have in your hair?***  +If you used a clarifying shampoo to wash your hair before styling, there is probably minimal to no product left in your hair. If you use a [co-wash](https://www.cosmopolitan.com/style-beauty/beauty/news/a56230/co-washing-benefits/), then there is still some residue from your prior products, so you may only need some extra oils for styling. If you rinsed with just water, you can skip the oils/creams and opt for a product that holds/condenses hair. + +(This is the entire text from my blog [original blog](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-applying-hair-products.html) minus a helpful infographic that was positioned here.) + +***How should I apply product to short hair?*** + +* **Application:** The number one mistake I see in styling short hair is that the product ends up concentrated on the ends. For a better hold and style, apply the majority of the product at the root/scalp and a minimal amount on the ends.  +* **Amount:** You should be using less product than someone with longer hair because there isn’t as much to manage. For a clean, slicked back look, opt for applying a lot of product when it's wet. If you're going for a less styled look, try applying products to partially or fully dry hair. Start with a small amount and gradually add more until you achieve the desired result. + +***How should I apply product to medium length and/or long hair?*** + +* **Application:** Focus applying product more on your ends, and use a minimal amount around your roots/scalp area. +* **Amount (for hold):** Some products look like more of a liquid, and tend to have more water in them. This consistency works well for something like a mousse, because you need to distribute it throughout your hair when styling. Alternatively, something like a gel will be the opposite, usually having less water, stronger hold, and being tougher to distribute throughout the hair (which is not ideal for longer styles).  +* **Amount (for oils/smoothing):** The longer your hair, the more weight it has. To prevent adding too much additional weight with product, focus applying creams or oils to the mid strand and/or ends. + +***What are some unconventional ways to use hair products?*** + +* Using dry shampoo on wet hair. Blow dried or air dried the product in for lift and volume.  +* Leveraging dry shampoo on short hair, which makes it act like a texturizing spray. +* Applying dry shampoo the night before you're style your hair  (prior to it getting dirty/oily). Some dry shampoo lines don't advertise that you're supposed to apply the product before bed and touch it up in the morning.​ + +***What are some product tips to keep in mind?*** + +* Good products matter. Look for ones that avoid harmful ingredients (ex: polymers), are cruelty free, and have a sustainability factor (economic development, environmental conservation or social justice). +* Use hairspray before and after heat styling for protection and style longevity. +* Throw away old products. Keep an eye out for the indicator shown below to understand the shelf life of each product.​​ According to the [FDA](https://www.fda.gov/cosmetics/cosmetics-labeling/shelf-life-and-expiration-dating-cosmetics) bacteria and fungi can grow overtime. + +Hopefully, my earlier blogs on simplifying hair products ([Simplifying Hair Products I](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-simplifying-hair-products.html) and [Simplifying Hair Products II](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-simplifying-hair-products-ii.html))  can clear up any confusion about hair products and their ingredients. + +Thanks for reading Reddit!",0 +1422,Any advice on how to tame frizzy hair in the morning?. So my hair texture is loose and wavy most mornings after i brush it out it poofs up asides from using a leave in spray conditioner to weigh it down dose anyone have any tricks to making it look more kept together? I try and keep it in braids overnight to prevent tangles.,0 +1423,"Hair Guide: Bangs. Looking for a more impactful way to change your hair? Bangs can create softness or add edginess to your look, and the types to choose from are endless. In America we call them bangs, but in Britain they're more commonly known as a ""fringe"". Either term simply means strands that are cut short to sit on the forehead, cheeks, and jaw. The extra volume and texture that a bang can add goes a long way, especially for curls. Below I give you some guidelines around bangs to help you decide what could work for you. (I have a picture examples of each bang on the [original blog](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-bangs-hair-guide.html)) + +**Bang Techniques** +Bangs Worn Blunt +Strong, full, sharp and heavy are the words to describe blunt bangs. The more blunt the bang the more maintenance it will need. Length also matters here because if blunt bangs are worn too long the wearer will not be able to see. + +​ +​Bangs Worn With Texture +Soft and wispy are the words used to describe bangs with texture. They are the opposite of blunt bangs, tending to blend into the rest of the haircut. This technique works well with both long and short styles. + + +​Bangs Worn With Layers +Movement and lift are the words used to describe bangs worn with layers. Layers break the bang up into shorter and longer pieces that add volume and shape. This technique works well with both long and short styles. + + + + +**​Bang Shapes** + + +Straight Across Bangs +The hair is worn straight down the front of the face, as opposed to swept off to the sides of the forehead. The shortest pieces fall around the brow bone, and then get progressively longer towards the temples. They're considered ""grown out"" when they impact your ability to see.  + +* *Styling Technique:* Generally a center part or slightly off center. Bunt or textured. It can be layered. +* *Maintenance:* **4-6 Weeks** for trims. High Maintenance. + + +Side Swept Bangs +bang with hair stretching from one side of the forehead resting on the other side . The hair is cut slightly longer than straight-across bangs but not always. I usually see cheekbone and upper lip length as  the shortest length and jaw bone for the longest length. If the side-swept bang was not brushed to one side of the face, it would cover one eye area and the other eye would be exposed. If you are unsure about a bang this is a great place to start. Simply because It can easily be blended back into the hair. + +* *Styling Technique:* Side part. Blunt or textured. Textured is generally preferred. It can be layered. +* *Maintenance:* **8-12 weeks** for trims. Low Maintenance. + + +​**​**Curtain Bangs +It is rather similar to side-swept in terms of length and to textured in terms of styling and thickness. The biggest differerece is the hair pushes outwards to the sides of the face and is longer as it goes on the sides. The length can vary. The shortest lengths are sometimes the cheek bone. Progressively into the longer  length of the recession of the cheek bone or even as long as under the jaw. + +* *Styling Technique:* The hair is worn parted down the middle or slightly off center. Can be blunt or textured (textured is generally preferred). It can also have layers cut into it.  +* *Maintenance:* **10 - 12 weeks** for trims. Low Maintenance. + + +Baby Bangs +These bangs are worn super short for a dramatic effect, with the hair cut high above the brow bone. I usually recommend them to someone with fine straight hair, though they can work on curlier textures if you're willing to put in the work to style them smooth and straight. In fact, as you'll note in the pictures below, people with curlier textures often opt to wear these bangs.  + +* *Styling Technique:* Generally a center part or slightly off center. Bunt or texture. It's generally not layered in straight hair. +* *Maintenance:* **4-6 Weeks** for trims. High Maintenance. + + +​**​**Rounded Bangs +When I think of round bangs my mind immediately goes to [50's pin-up girls](https://vintagedancer.com/1950s/1950s-hairstyles/). This bang is shorter towards the temples and longest in the center. You can think of it as the inverse of Straight Across Bangs, with the longest pieces falling around the brow bone and the shortest pieces sitting above the temple.  + +* *Styling Technique:* These work with a center part or slightly off centered one. They can be bunt or textured (blunt is generally preferred). +* *Maintenance:* **4-6 Weeks** for trims. High Maintenance.​ + + +Built In Bangs +Built in bangs occur naturally on shorter hairstyles. The wearer arguably has to pay more attention to their bangs in this case since it can dramatically change the way a shorter haircut frames their face.  + +* *Styling Technique:* These bangs generally aren't worn with a part, instead being combed forward to frame the face. They are almost always cut with texture to give a feathered look. +* *Maintenance:* **4-6 Weeks** for trims. High Maintenance. + + +Curly Bangs +Short, long, rounded, layered - when a haircut has curly bangs the result can be beautiful. For styling, a lot of people can  just comb the bangs down and apply their favorite styling gel. Twisting the curls in the bang section to get more definition is also common. + +* *Styling Technique:* All parts work with this type of bang, though one may not always be visible. They can be bunt or textured (textured is generally preferred). Layers can also be used.  +* *Maintenance:* **4- 12 weeks** for trims. See each category above for more details (Straight Across Bangs, Side Swept Bangs, Curtain Bangs, Baby Bangs, Rounded Bangs and Built in Bangs). ",0 +1424,"Is it possible to straighten hair without damaging it? Asking for a birthday gift.. Hi! I'm a guy with very little hair and even less experience with long luscious curly hair care like my girlfriend has. + +Recently, she straightened her hair for the first time and she liked it. I'm considering buying her a hair straightener for her birthday but she mentioned that she wouldn't get one because she wouldn't use it much so she doesn't damage her hair. + +As the title says, is there a way to straighten it without causing any damage? Are there different kinds of straighteners? Should I get a specific type? Should I buy certain hair products to accompany it? + +Thanks in advance.",0 +1425,"Best Dyson Airwrap Dupe?. I’m looking for the best airwrap dupe- under $200. + +I do not have experience using heat on my hair, and I am looking for an easy to use multi function hair dryer that won’t cause excessive damage. + +Anybody have any suggestions?",0 +1426,"Blow dry brush ruining hair?. Curious if anyone else is noticing really bad hair damaged after using their blow dry brush? I’ve used mine for about 6 months (maybe once a week) and my hair has never felt worse- super dry, so many split ends. + +It’s too bad because I really like the tool but think I need to quit it 😰 + +Edit- I have used both Revlon and Bondi Boost brushes and use plenty of heat protector products. And I dry my hair nearly 80% or more, never use the blow dry brush when it’s really wet!",0 +1427,"damaged hair. my hair is really frizzy and i had split ends, the other day i cut about 4 inches off my hair and it looked more healthy, (after straightening my hair for 2 years about twice a week), and my family is saying i should stop conditioning my hair and using hair masks(my hair is rlly dry and frizzy) idk what to do as i havnt used conditioner for 4 days and it's started looking rlly damaged again, is it due to not using conditioner? my hair is naturally quite wavy and has a lot of volume",0 +1428,Dry shampoo clogging my hair follicles causing hair loss. I have long virgin hair that reaches my tail bone. I’ve been trying to keep it healthier by not washing everyday but washing every 3rd to 4th day. It gets really oily by the 3rd day so I use Batiste dry shampoo. It helps with greasiness but my scalp gets so itchy with all the build up of powder and pimples appearing. How can I unclog my hair follicles and care for my scalp more? Is there another way to combat this greasiness?,0 +1429,"Hair Oils. # Hair Oils + +People have used oil in hair care regimens for thousands of years. One of the earliest recorded use cases was of the [ancient Egyptians](https://www.arabnews.com/secret-ancient-egyptian-beauty), who applied castor oil to their hair. It wasn't until 1950 that a scholar named Martin Levey suggested using the distillation process to extract oils from plants in [prehistoric Mesopotamia](https://exarc.net/issue-2020-2/ea/ancient-distillation-and-experimental-archaeology). He published his findings in a paper called the [Evidences of Ancient Distillation, Sublimation , and Extraction in Mesopotamia](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1600-0498.1955.tb00466.x). With advances in technology, the distillation process looks different today, but it's generally the same and is how the majority of the oils you use every day are made. In this post, I help you understand the different types of oils and which ones you should be using on your hair. (This is the full blog but if you want to screenshot the ingredient lists, the post is a bit better organized on my [original blog](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-recommended-product-ingredients.html)) + +**Types of Oils** +*Plant Oils* +[These oils](https://cosmeticsandtoiletries.texterity.com/cosmeticsandtoiletries/june_2021/MobilePagedReplica.action?pm=1&folio=24#pg35) are pressed, crushed, and refined from the fatty portions of a plant or botanical. They are less aromatic and have the ability to sink into your hair shaft, unlike mineral oils, which can make them a more effective moisturizing ingredient depending on your needs.  + + +*Mineral Oils* +These oils are made from petroleum that is [highly refined](https://www.chemicalsafetyfacts.org/mineral-oil/). They have a lower price point compared to plant oils and essential oils, which can influence which brands will include them in product formulas. They're known to create a barrier on the surface of your hair shaft to lock moisture in. + + +*Essential Oils* +These oils are [distilled](https://www.thezoereport.com/p/oils-vs-essential-oils-the-biggest-differences-the-most-popular-uses-more-19442788) from leaves, roots, bark and other aromatic portions of plants. The distillation process turns the raw ingredients left over into a more concentrated, highly aromatic oil. They're used for their smell and are thought to have therapeutic benefits, but will irritate your skin if not heavily diluted with mineral or plant oils.  + + +*Silicone (not an oil)* +While not technically an oil, silicone provides conditioning qualities that are similar. There are two types to be aware of: (1) soluble and (2) non-soluble. The main difference between them is that one can be broken down by water and the other cannot, meaning it requires harsher shampoos with surfactants to wash it away after continued use. You can tell the difference between them based on their ingredients, which I've listed below. You can also read more about silicones in my posts [*How Often Should I Shampoo?*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-how-often-should-i-shampoo.html) and [*Ingredient Lists*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-ingredient-lists.html). ​ ​​ + +* Non-soluble: Dimethicone, Cyclomethicone, Amodimethicone, Pheryl trimethicone, Ceteraryl methicone, Dimethiconol, Stearyl dimethicone, Amodimethicone (non-soluble when Trideceth-12 and Cetrimonium Chloride are absent) +* Soluble: Cyclomethicone, Dimethicone copolyol, Lauryl methicone copolyol, any silicone with PEG as a prefix + +**Oils for Hair with High Porosity vs. Low Porosity**  +​Finding the right oil for your hair texture can be challenging, but if you can identify the porosity of your hair it will help guide the process. Genetics and they way you care for your hair are the biggest influencers of its porosity. Styling tools with high heat, coloring, perming and other hair care/services can cause your porosity to change. Although the signs of highly porous hair are not widely considered “healthy looking”, the benefit for some can be more volume and fullness. + + +Hair with low porosity is considered to be “healthy”, but it comes with its own challenges. According to the [Science-y Hair Blog](https://science-yhairblog.blogspot.com/2013/06/oils-which-ones-soak-in-vs-coat-hair.html) “If you have fine or soft hair which is easily over-conditioned, those same oils may make your hair feel greasy and lank unless used in very small amounts. Lower porosity hair may do better with blends of penetrating oils and less-penetrating oils.” The chart below will help you determine your porosity and show you what oils have been found to ""[penetrate the cortex](https://cosmeticsandtoiletries.texterity.com/cosmeticsandtoiletries/july_august_2021/MobilePagedReplica.action?pm=1&folio=DM5#pg51)"", or the second layer of your hair shaft that sits behind your outer cuticle. Your porosity level is a good thing to keep in mind when searching for new hair products.**Signs of Hair with** **High Porosity****Signs of Hair with** **Low Porosity**Hair that is:  + +* Dry, rough and /or dull +* Full with volume +* Coarser than usual (generally on the ends) +* Tangling easily +* Experiencing breakage +* Air drying within 15 minutes +* Soaking up oil-based products quickly  + +For oil treatments, use **penetrating oils** on your ends  and a **mix of less penetrating oils plus penetrating oils** from your roots to mid hair shaft.Hair that is: + +* Smooth and sleek +* Flat and lacking volume +* Heavier with a slick/greasy feel +* Easily combed or brushed  +* Not experiencing breakage +* Taking 30 minutes or more to air dry +* Unable to soak up oil-based products easily + +​ +For oil treatments, mix  **penetrating** and  **less penetrating** oils. +​ +​*Sources:* [*Enhancing Hair Health: Effects of Oiling, Inside and Out - Part I*](https://www.cosmeticsandtoiletries.com/research/literature-data/article/21836362/cosmetics-and-toiletries-magazine-enhancing-hair-health-effects-of-oiling-inside-and-outpart-i)*, Cosmetics & Toiletries* +[*Enhancing Hair Health: Effects of Oiling, Inside and Out - Part II*](https://www.cosmeticsandtoiletries.com/research/literature-data/article/21836386/cosmetics-and-toiletries-magazine-enhancing-hair-health-effects-of-oiling-inside-and-outpart-ii)*, Cosmetics & Toiletries* +[*Oils - Which Ones Soak in vs. Coat the Hair?*](https://science-yhairblog.blogspot.com/2013/06/oils-which-ones-soak-in-vs-coat-hair.html)*, Science-y Hair Blog* +[*Beginner's Guide to Ingredients in Natural Hair Products*](https://www.texturedtalk.com/how-to-understand-ingredients-in-natural-hair-products/) *, Textured Talk* +[*15 Scientific Names for Common Ingredients in Natural Hair Products*](http://www.1blessednatural.com/2015/10/15-scientific-names-for-common-ingredients-natural-hair-products.html)*, 1Blessed  Natural Mag***Penetrating OilsLess Penetrating OilsNot Recommended**​Coconut *(Cocos Nucifera)* Oil  +​ +​Sunflower *(Helianthus Annuus)* Seed Oil Olive *(Olea Europaea)* Oil + + +Argan *(Argania Spinosa)* OilMineral Oil  + + +Jojoba *(Simmondsia Chinensis)* Oil +**​Related blog posts:** +[Ingredient Lists](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-ingredient-lists.html) +[Hair Product Labels](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-product-labels.html) +[Applying Hair Products](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-applying-hair-products.html)",0 +1430,"Hair loss and dry scalp from ogx coconut milk set. Any alternative product recommendations?. Hi! I have what I think is low porosity 1 b/c type hair, dark brown and usually pretty dense. I have been using the ogx coconut milk shampoo and conditioner for pretty much the last 2 and a half years and I really liked how it left my hair, however last semester I noticed I was loosing way too much hair, and experienced scalp redness and dryness. I don't do anything to my hair other than shampooing and conditioning (every other day), I have never dyed it or anything it's pretty much natural (?). I also notice that my hair gets a bit greasy by the second day at the roots. +Are there any recommendations on alternatives? (Less than $20 preferably)",0 +1431,"Recommendations for products, preventing hair tangles. My daughter has thin long hair, and it gets tangled easily. What would you recommend for keeping it tangle free. Should I be using certain products? I don't want it to be greasy from products between washing though. We currently use a wet brush which helps. Thanks!",0 +1432,"Too curly. again, i’m a chinese teen boy. my hair is too curly for my liking and i’d like it to be wavy. how do i get it to be a bit more wavy than curly?",0 +1433,"Hair loss. Every time i wash and condition my hair, i end up with quite a bit of my hair in my hands; I wash and condition about 2 or 3 times a week. Is this normal to lose some hair with every wash, or is there something i need to to be changing in my hair care routine? + +This is a picture of about how much i loose every time: [hair loss](https://imgur.com/a/1fPsKYX)",0 +1434,"Help! No seriously I’m loosing my mind. Hello friends. I have long thick hair. Comes maybe two inches past my shoulder. I have always noticed that even after washing my hair when I brush or comb it this grey waxy residue is on my brush. My hair feels sticky after washing. I thought I just wasn’t rinsing all my conditioner out but even after a thorough rinse, it’s still there. I use sulfate free shampoo and conditioner. I have tried clarifying shampoos and my hair feels a bit better but still sticky. This gets worse in the winter time. Products I have tried + +Neutrogenia clear clarifying shampoo +Briogeo charcoal shampoo +Briogeo hair mask +Garnier pure conditioner +Trader Joe’s shampoo bar +Spring and vine tea tree shampoo bar (this is the one I liked the best and have been using the longest) + +I do not use any styling products. I wash my hair every other day maybe every three days. + +Any advice is appreciated because right now I’m so frustrated.",0 +1435,"My haircare brand's website is officially live. Hello Haircare community! + +I just quickly wanted to share with you a link to a project I've been working on for the last 2 years. I've officially launched a new brand of Australian-made, all-natural and vegan hair styling products suited for men and women alike. It's called Wuli Grooming and one of it's biggest advantages is that you'll find 15 active ingredients in use across our range. + +All hair types are catered for. We're currently only shipping in Australia but will start global shipping later this year. If you have any questions or feedback, I'd love to hear it! + +www.wuligrooming.com + +Amadou + +Founder",0 +1436,"Damaged hair need help!. Hi there! I need advice on products that can actually repair my hair. I dye my hair close to my natural color but I used to bleach it a lot for a few years. It’s never been the same after. I have lots of thick, curly hair. And it’s been extra fried and depressed. Especially after I had my baby. I try not to use heat and at the most it’s only a handful of times a month. Please help. My hair looks horrible no matter what I do anymore. It constantly gets knots even when I just styled it. I need help.",0 +1437,Has anyone had a hair transplant in Turkey or another European country and can you tell us about your experience?. ,0 +1438,"Best way to wear long hair while swimming and aftercare tips?. I’m taking my kids swimming for the first time in ages and it’s the first time since I’ve actually cared about my hair... and I realized I don’t really know what to properly do with it. + +Is braids best? Should I clarify after? My hair reaches my mid back and is thick, fine and balayaged blonde. + +Thanks!",0 +1439,"What shampoo and conditioner brands are good to help hair growth ?. Over the past year with covid i had some hair build up problems and had to shampoo twice, thats passed and i no longer have to but ive noticed my hair doesn’t get the length as it used to its been a year since my last hair cut and normally it will be almost to my ass (that could actually be 2 years after) but it still doesn’t feel like it grows the same! Is there anything i can do? I think its cause i was taking plan b often for a bit and it changed my hormones but ive stopped that now and thats when i notice my hair didnt need two shampoos anymore ! +Thanks!",0 +1440,"Are Mason Pearson/boar bristle brushes supposed to get so easily dirty?. I'm on my second boar bristle brush, swapped out my MP brush for it because the MP attracted so much dust/lint after just one brush through. This second brush is still having the same issue, it accumulates dust and lint so easily even when I store it in a closed drawer. It's also a pain for me to get the lint off even when I run another comb/brush through it to clean it. At this rate, I don't even want to use the brush on my hair, especially if it was just washed, because it looks too dirty. + + I'm considering not using these brushes all together. Does everyone else here have the same experience with them, or am I just an unusual case? I have long, thick, semi-coarse hair, and it doesn't appear dirty in the mirror externally at least.",0 +1441,"It’s definitely heat tools that damage the hair most. Even if I keep washing my hair everyday as usual, it gets softer the longer I stop using heat. It breaks less too. +If I use heating tools, spacing shampoos makes absolutely no difference. It’s still dry af. +Using a shower head filter also did not make a difference. +The only thing that helps hair be healthy so far for me is limiting heat use, nothing else.",0 +1442,"Any product recommendations for mixed Latina/Caucasian hair texture?. I'm half Latina and half white and I feel like I've inherited the most difficult qualities from both sides -- I have my mom's slightly coarse hair texture and oily scalp, but I also have fine, thin hair (from my dad's side). When left to air dry, my hair is a bit wavy (the waves are more pronounced in humidity), but it blow-dries straight. Stylists usually categorize me as having straight hair, but my hair seems to jump back and forth between wavy and straight depending on the day. I'm probably somewhere between the 1C and 2A hair types. + +If it matters, I'm a natural blonde. I wash it twice a week (I used to wash more often because it's so fine and gets greasy fast, but I have balayage and that helps me go longer between washes).",0 +1443,"Want to put a full stop on my hair pulling habit *SERIOUS*. Redditors, I need your help! I'm a 24 years old male with long hair and love for braids. I have been doing it for a couple of years now but I think it is adversely affecting my hair. + +I am losing a lot of hair nowadays. Can it be due to the hairdo?",0 +1444,"Heat protection duration. How long does heat protectant spray provide protection? For example I shower at night, blow dry my hair after applying heat protectant, and like to curl it the next morning (anywhere from 9-11 hours after spraying). I use the CHI Forty Iron for what it’s worth. Thanks!",0 +1445,"Do you recommend any of the cordless hair straighteners, or are they a waste of money?. Looking to buy one for my wife. Thanks.",0 +1446,"hair product recommendations. hey!! I really want to switch up my hair care routine but I don’t know what products would be best for my hair. My natural hair is wavy/loose curls. I also have never dyed my hair. I have an issue with frizz and try not to use heat, but when I do I blow dry with the revlon brush wand and then straighten. I live in a very humid place and frizz is my enemy. Looking for a shampoo, conditioner, maybe a blow dry product?? Literally anything. Thank you!",0 +1447,"Hair wont dry overnight and ends up greasy in the back!!. Hello, I am in desperate need of hair help and this is my last resort. + +Firstly idk my hair type but its beach wavy and is thick. + +My problem is that ever since this one time I went to the pool which was in January 2020 may I add, my hair takes forever to air dry and I end up sleeping with damp hair which makes my hair dry ugly, and the next morning the roots at the back are all greasy (Keep in mind my hair dried pretty fast before this) and it takes a few days for my hair to absorb whatever I used but by then my hair gets oily. + +Ive literally tried almost everything including clarifying shampoo, apple cider vinegar, blow drying my hair to speed drying time, clay pre wash masks which all work to some extent. My suspicions i've had was that I have product build up, I have low porosity hair all of a sudden that doesn't absorb things or i'm using the wrong shampoo. + +Im currently using a Paul Mitchell conditioner which is really good for my ends but i've been changing my shampoo a few times because idk what to use. + +Please give advice on what to do or try.",0 +1448,"Bleached and dyed hair is severely coarse and dry like a broom.. Dam I can’t post pics of my hair in this subreddit but if anyone would like to see it then DM me. + +I bleached it and dyed it light blonde and since then my hair has been very dry and coarse like straw. As it dries, the hairs will attach together into strands and stick outward like a broom. If I try to separate the strands by hand, the hairs will frizz. And it takes forever to dry btw. + +Within 2-3 days it seems to get better as in look less like a broom. + +I was recommended all soft mega shampoo and conditioner but the shampoo feels like it’s making it worse idk. The conditioner seems to sometimes separate the strands of hair but other times not. And in the shower while I wash off the shampoo, my hair will feel so heavy and coarse. + +I use coconut oil spray and it’ll separate the hair strands into more strands but strands nonetheless. + +Did a porosity test and my hair just floated at the top indefinitely. + +My natural hair is black, straight and thick. I’m a male if that has anything to do with anything. + +Any tips?",0 +1449,"Need help with fine hair. I was born with fine hair and it keeps getting tangled easily, every time I finish combing my hair and it's straight best thing you know it's slightly tangled again sometimes it's just keeps getting tangled so hard the hairbrush breaks. Not literally but the hairbrush is already old. Any tips or ways to make my hair less easy getting tangled please? Appreciate and thanks to those who could respond.",0 +1450,"Insanely itchy scalp, what do I do?. I used a bottle of nizoral dandruff shampoo for about 2 months and notice my flakes went away, but then my scalp kept itching, been using Paul mitchels tea tree shampoo I think for about 3 or 4 weeks now and I’m still having insane itching at work or even keeping me up at night and am worried about scalp/hair damage on my poor fine hair, I also wondered if it’s an allergic reaction to something but I don’t use a lot of hair products or even heat treat my hair, just L’Oréal everpure lightweight conditioner after tea tree oil Paul Mitchell shampoo, what else would be something I could try to treat this concern? + +1st two photos are usually what my hair looks like after a wash, next ones are about 2 or 3 days after I also struggle with frizz a lot but live in a rated tropical humid climate",0 +1451,Best Clarifying Shampoo. What’s the best clarifying shampoo for thin low porosity hair?,0 +1452,Groupon K18 5oz bottle for 62.99. I know k18 is really expensive so Ive searched all over for the best deal on it. I found a huge bottle of k18 on Groupon for 62.99. Hope this helps all the people with damaged hair. I've bought and used this and it is real k18 as far as I can tell !,0 +1453,"HELP! Redken No Blow Dry NBD Discontinued?. Hello, I am a male(26) and need some help! Recently I ran out of my product and when I went to buy I realized that it was discontinued! Anyone know why the Redken Product: No Blow Dry NBD (for medium hair) was discontinued? I have frizzy, curly/wavy hair, and it was the perfect product for my hair. I would put it in after lightly drying my hair with a towel and it would make it less frizzy while also giving it a bit of hold after I combed it (because I don’t love the curls, I like them tamed). + +Also, aside from the curiosity, does anyone have any suggestions for a product that is similar to the NBD from Redken? I’m currently very in need of something to tame the frizz/ give me some light hold against the curls that doesn’t feel like a gel. Want it to be more like a cream with slight hold! + +Thank you in advance for the advice/ suggestions, much appreciated!!",0 +1454,"Bangs cut too wide??. Can anyone direct me to some videos on how to fix bangs that were cut too wide? They are thick and wide and are giving me coconut head vibes, or I kinda look like the missing member of the Beatles 😂 I want my straight bangs but these are very intense! Please send help and links please!",0 +1455,My hair still smelling like perm. A while back like a year or 2 ago I did s curl in my here. For some reason it still has the hot iron perm smell and it won’t go away. Any treatment ideas or ways to get healthier hair back?,0 +1456,"Hair looks better wet. I'm a man with wavy hair. When I'm out of the shower and my hair is wet, it's really easy to style and it looks really good. + +It has a bit of shine, it looks much thicker, and it's not as wavy as it is when it's dry (which is a good thing). + +Is there a **non-sticky and healthy** product/method that could get these effects? (I thought of pomade but it's sticky and doesn't thicken hair) + +Thanks ahead!",0 +1457,"I need some help. So I forgot about my hair care for about a year now due to many changes in my life and it became damaged with a lot of breakage and now I want to try a protein treatment not a real one but like an intensive conditioner that contains protein because professional protein treatments are said to be very harsh. +Can anyone please help me with this issu is it the best for my hair or is there any other solution that you guys tried. +If intensive conditioners are known to be good for my case can anyone who tried it give me some brands he/she tried",0 +1458,"Hair is toned too ashy by stylist- can I cover it with pink dye?. Hi everyone 👋 + +Tl;dr with my ashey toned hair (grey/green), can I add pink dye over it and will it look good? + +For the first time ever I did a full belach and tone at a salon yesterday. Before this, i always did full foil. This was the first time my roots were ever bleached. + +Well I told my stylist that my intention was to go blonde, then tone it with a rosey toner. +My stylist ended up toning me WAY too ashy. My hair looks grey/green/blue/purple. It makes me look sickly. + +I ran to Target when I got home to get clarifying shampoo to get the toner out, and now my hair is falling out (which could be bleach, could be the abrasive clarifying on top of it).",0 +1459,"I’m doing nursing which requires styles that pull back all your hair. But, I’m insecure about my big Forhead & wide face. Are there any updos that could work well for my face shape without completely exposing it? Thanks. ^^^^^^^^^",0 +1460,Aloe Vera gel for styling ?. I have a small case of 98% aloe Vera gel and was wondering has anyone ever used it to style their hair? I use it mostly as a moisturizer but would it have the same benefits if applied to the hair or would it be a bad idea?,0 +1461,My hair is greasy/oily (at the top of my head) and I also have dandruff. And dry and frizzy hair from below my ears?. Please please please give me some inexpensive gentle Shampoos and conditioners /products whatever to use. I hate the way my hair looks and I only like it the same day I wash my hair.,0 +1462,"So Much Breakage!. Without too much wordage, I want to explain what's happening to my hair, and hopefully get some guidance. + +I started getting partial highlights on my brown hair a year or so ago, but over the past several months, have had insane shedding (like my boyfriend pulls my hair out of his beard constantly). What's terrified me even more is these shedding strands have gotten noticeably shorter, until I finally realized I have so much breakage, my hair is basically cutting itself. + +Around the same time I started highlighting, I started using Olaplex 4 and 5. I shampooed at least 5 days a week, if not daily. But when I noticed the breakage, my hair girl told me to alternate the Olaplex with another shampoo (she recommended Matrix Brass Off). So I did that, and I'm still losing. + +So I tell her the breakage is only getting worse, and she tells me I should only use the Olaplex 1-2 times a week (would've been nice if she told me that in the first place). Then she said to get a hydrating shampoo, which I did. I also told her I'm thinking of going brown again, just so I won't have to put my hair through any more chemical stress, but she said not to worry about that (which something tells me is wrong). + +To be honest, her flakiness is disconcerting. Between the mixed up shampoo advice, to the coloring, I just don't know where to turn for solid advice on how to fix my hair. I must've watched every Youtube video on breakage, and all I get are a laundry list of products I need to buy. So I'm posting here for any sound advice on how to mend my hair. And help would be greatly appreciated!",0 +1463,is Squalane on dry scalp straight after a shower good for dandruff/frizz?. ,0 +1464,"Recommendations for vegan shampoo and conditioner?. I am looking for a vegan alternative to keratin shampoo and conditioner. I find that Goldwell Kerasilk makes my hair look and feel so healthy (strong, smooth, silky) but I would prefer to avoid animal products if I can :) + +Can anyone recommend a vegan, or at least cruelty free alternative (or second best) to keratin shampoo? Thank you! + +P.S. I have thick, coarse, and wavy hair.",0 +1465,M17 Hair has been thinning 😭 after buzzing it around 2 years ago and applying conditioner daily for about a month. Wondering what I could do to the stop the thinning since before I buzzed my hair it was pretty thick.. ,0 +1466,"Hair feels tangled near the scalp, only while in the shower even though I detangle it before showering.. So I've never had this issue before, this started after I got my hair coloured at the salon. So what happens is, I detangle my hair very neatly especially near my scalp and then jump in to the shower. Within 30 seconds I realise while I'm in the shower and I'm trying to apply shampoo and my hair is completely tangled and frizzy only near the scalp and it's too much of it. So much of it that I can't even apply the shampoo properly and message my scalp..i sit there and apply conditioner and detangle my hair and spend so much time and lose a lot of hair and this is frustrating me so much, I've reached a point where I hate taking a shower cause I know how tedious it gets. Also, I got my hair dyed at the salon and they kind of screwed up and had to re dye near my scalp again after 3 frikin days after my first dye. (near my scale not on my scalp) ever since then I'm noticing this issue and it's honestly so scary and concerning. I grew my hair for months to get it dyed and now here I am so frustrated, I just want to get it all chopped. Also the salon was kind of expensive and now I regret that too.",0 +1467,"Dry Frizzy Hair Even After Using Hair Oil & Leave-in Conditioner?. My hair is always dry after I shower and use argon oil and a leave in conditioner. I’ve tried everything even Olaplex conditioner and leave in conditioner and it’s like I can never have regular soft hair that’s not frizzy. I use a generous amount of product too. I only wash my hair once a week. My hair is thick but straight. I had some hair loss/thinning on my scalp in late 2020 due to getting lupus but since starting my treatments it has grown back and I no longer suffer from hair loss. My hair hasn’t always been this way so I wonder if my “new” hair has changed or maybe it’s my immunosuppressant. + +Regardless what can I do or which shampoo, conditioner, masks, oils, leave in conditioners can I use to actually see progress and hydration? I already eat very healthy and drink minimum half gallon of water daily. I just want my silky nourished hair back 🙏🏽🥺",0 +1468,"Replacement product for Drybar’s The Chaser?. So, The Chaser has been discontinued and I am nearing the end of my stockpile. I haven’t been able to find a similar product, just a finishing cream for use on dry hair, sparingly on the ends. The Chaser gave me just the right amount of polish and shine, and I loved the smell too. Anyone have any recommendations for a substitute? I’m finding tons of options for use on wet hair but I really want something for use after I blow dry.",0 +1469,Scalp exfoliation options?. I have oily hair. I can feel buildup on my scalp :/ I have a clarifying shampoo but I feel like I need more?,0 +1470,"Excessive hair shedding in the shower. I have medium length hair (approximately where the bra strap is). I shed A LOT on the days I have to wash my hair. I don’t wash my hair often every 3-5 days depending on my schedule. I also don’t get oily hair until the day before I decide to wash. +I’m Asian with the typical low maintenance straight black hair. I don’t style or anything only blow dry and I use heat protectant. My friends have said my shedding is normal because theirs is like that too but I’m afraid that I’m losing more hair. I can also feel the thickness dying down as the years go by. But for some reason the salon people still said I have a lot of hair? Maybe I just had extra abundant of hair and now have a normal amount? + +I don’t have bald spots or any noticeable change. How can I reduce the shedding. I use drugstore shampoo drugstore conditioner and a hair mask. I do use ouai clarifying shampoo. I do have leave ins but I feel like it just makes me oily and doesn’t do much.",0 +1471,"How much heat protectant to use before blow drying / straightening?. As the title suggests I wanna know how much heat protectant spray I should be using before using heat tools. Just a couple of spritz of it? I also don’t want it to weigh down my hair. + +Additionally, if you apply heat protectant before blow drying do you need to apply it again if you use a flat iron after a few hours? + +I’d really appreciate the help as I’m new to long hair and heat styling. I’m a guy with long curly hair but I don’t like keeping my curls and I don’t have time/motivation for trying out CGM. Thanks!",0 +1472,"Growing out from a #0 clipper buzz—tips?. Basically damaged my hair beyond repair with bleach and dye. This was a long time coming. I could make it look decent for a bit with copious amounts of leave ins but breakage was ridiculous, bond products weren’t helping and so I took the plunge. + +Not the first time I’ve buzzed my hair but it was years ago and my memory is bad. I noticed some thinner parts too around my forehead, thinking tension loss. + +Are there any good products to keep my hair in good health from the get go, maybe slightly speed up growth? No I don’t mean inches in a month, lol. + +I’m also concerned about the thinner spots. I’ve been using Bio 7’s Essential Miracle Drops and The Mane Choice Growth Oil and my hair looks slightly better in those spots. + +Are there better growth/thickening oils (affordable, not stuff like Vegamour), and what about shampoos/conditioners? + +I have a crap ton of products rn that don’t have much use because I barely have hair, soooo. Just looking for general recommendations for products and care and I don’t intend on coloring my hair for now nor do I need to use heat styling because of length. + +Thanks!",0 +1473,"Best Drugstore shampoo and conditioner?. So I live in the US and I have fine, wavy hair. I’m looking for some new products that will be good for my hair that might even help with the waves without weighing them down because that’s the biggest issue I’ve had. Everything I’ve used over the years (drugstore and non drugstore) either dries my hair out or it weighs down my curls and hair. Currently, I have been using Devacurl. I’ve had great luck with devacurl gel but their shampoo and conditioner line have not worked. Any suggestions?",0 +1474,"I’ve lost about half of my hair. I lost 120+ hairs in the shower just now (I counted). I have a dermatologist appointment in August, is there anything I can do in the meantime to help prevent hair loss? 😞 I’m 26f if this helps. + +I’m trying to not stress out about it and cause more loss but it’s hard, I usually have super thick hair and it’s so thin. It’s been going on for months now.",0 +1475,"Shoulder Length Hair Guide. # Shoulder Length Hair Guide + +Let's talk about short-ish hair. Starting by breaking it down into *two parts: (1) Cutting Your Hair to Shoulder Length and (2) Growing Your Hair From Shoulder Length to Long (in case you change your mind after taking the plunge). (The full post with pictures of the lengths below is a bit better organized on my original blog* [*here*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-shoulder-length-hair-guide.html)*).* + +CUTTING YOUR HAIR TO SHOULDER LENGTH + +Let's break the concept of ""shoulder length"" into three categories: + +1. Just above the shoulder +2. On the shoulder +3. Collarbone length + +During consultations with my clientele I always pause when they say “around shoulder length” for their desired look. We're talking about centimeters of difference here, but it truly changes everything.  + +**1. JUST ABOVE THE SHOULDER** + +Starter bob length. Unicorn length. Absolutely stunning, but it doesn't take long before you run into some of the problems from the “on the shoulder” category (cut #2). If you aren't sold on going to a shorter bob, or this is your first time going above the shoulder, it's a must try. However, after you experiment with this length, and like the results, go a bit shorter so you won't have to get haircuts as frequently. You can probably only have a low ponytail “nub” that I think is darling, but it's not everyone’s favorite.  + +**Pros:** Less time to blow dry. It's a fun, and true, bob. Don't think, just do it! +**Cons:** You may have to style it every day, plus learn new techniques. Curling can be tricky. Frequent cuts will be needed (see my guide on timing haircuts below). If you have really dense hair, you'll need a stylist who can handle debulking (that's true of all the haircuts listed in this post, but especially this one).  + +**2. ON THE SHOULDER** + +With this length, you can get all of your hair into a low pony, but might have some front pieces breaking loose. High pony is possible, but pinning the back can be messy. For most people, this length flips from hitting the shoulder. Some don't mind it, and others hate it. Certain hair types will flip aggressively, but it ranges depending on texture, quality of the cut, and styling technique (which is up to you after leaving the chair). In my opinion, this length is perfect for someone who has thicker hair, no layers, shorter neck, wavy to curly texture, and isn't ready for a short bob.  +​ +**Pros:** Still able to pull back in a pony if needed. A good haircut will minimize the flip for the first two weeks.  +**Cons:** The flip. It will show up eventually as the haircut grows out. Ponytail may feel messy for folks used to longer hair.  + +**3. COLLARBONE LENGTH** + +Also known as a long bob or ""Lob"". It varies from person to person, but at this length you should be able to fit all of your hair in a low to medium-high ponytail. In a high pony the hair in the nape slips out. If you're okay with using two bobby pins that shouldn't be a problem. Wearing a bun usually works with this length as well. Check out Byrdie's ""[49 Flattering Shoulder-Length Hairstyles](https://www.byrdie.com/medium-length-hairstyles-flattering-on-thick-or-thin-hair-346833)"" for more celebrity short-ish hair inspiration. + +**Pros:** Easiest short length to throw in a pony, and you don't have to deal with the grow out/ flip. +**Cons:** It's not a bob. If you already have hair short enough to almost be a bob, go shorter. There's nothing like the feeling of having truly short hair and seeing space between your ends and shoulders. So less of a con, and more of my own opinion.  + +GROWING YOUR HAIR FROM SHOULDER LENGTH TO LONG + +I went through the process of growing my hair out from ""just above the shoulder"" to longer than ""collarbone length"". If you're trying to understand what returning to long hair will look like if you don't love your new shoulder length haircut, check out my overview below. + +**FIRST SIX MONTHS** +​It took about six months to grow my hair from chin length to ""just above shoulder length"". Between April and October of 2019 (see pictures below) I only had two minimal trims to help my hair stay healthy as it grew. Once it reached that length, I opted to avoid any further coloring to prevent breakage, and covered the purple hue with a color that was as close as possible to my natural.  + +**NEXT TWO MONTHS** +By November and December of 2019, I was able to add in more up-styles into my routine, like this small bun and braided crown (see below). I avoided further trims between October 2019 and February 2020, trying to give my hair more time to grow after I had paused coloring.  + +**NEXT SIX MONTHS** +To protect from breakage, I started wearing my hair back under a hat or bandana whenever I could (this was much easier during COVID). For me, protein treatments once a week were helpful, but shouldn't be done more than that. If you have thicker hair, moisturizing treatments in the form of masks can be done more often as well. See my blog post on [Hygral Fatigue](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hygral-fatigue.html) to understand if your hair needs more protein or moisture when you're growing it out.",0 +1476,"Need advice on getting orange out of brown hair!!. So a couple months back I dyed my virgin dirty blonde hair with some brown box dye. My natural hair was already a little brassy (even after purple shampoos), but because I have psoriasis and it was my first time dying my hair, I didn't wanna bleach it and figured it would be fine since my hair was still light-ish. After the first dye (L'Oreal Paris Excellence- 5RB), the color was even and everything was fine with it, but it was a bit redder than I wanted so I waited about 6 weeks and dyed it again (Natural Instincts - 5A). I liked this color a lot more as it was a lot less orange/red and probably kept that for 2-3 more dyes. Over time, however, I noticed my hair getting the orangey tones again, despite having recently used that dye. Because of this, I again changed the brand/color and dyed my hair again (Garnier - 51), but once again, my hair kept this orange color. I wouldn't even mind a little bit of brass since that's not far off from my natural hair, but this orange is so overpowering that my hair sometimes looks more ginger than brunette, and I just want it gone! + +I'd also like to add that I have used blue shampoo throughout this process as well whenever I notice my hair getting too orangey, but it never really changes anything so I then resort to dying it a bit later. + +Also, all of this stuff has not caused any (noticeable) damage to my hair. I take good care of it and make sure to rehydrate it after using any products that could dry it out. My only issue when it comes to hair stuff is that I have psoriasis & I'm pretty sensitive when it comes to breathing the chemicals of these dyes (i literally almost passed out using l'oreal), so I'm a bit limited to certain products that are more gentle. + +Anyways, now that all of that background has been said I can actually get to my question: Where can I go from here and what advice do yall have for me? I want to keep my hair brown, but hate the orange tones that come with it. Are there any dyes or other products you recommend? Should I try a darker color or different brand? I'm open to really anything if it gets this orange out. Thanks in advance!",0 +1477,"My eyebrows have been overwaxed.. My eyebrows have been overwaxed a couple months ago and rn it’s basically back to normal but a lot thinner. Back then it was very thick, is there anything i could do to make it grow back to its normal state?",0 +1478,What are some useful websites that hair stylists can use?. ,0 +1479,"Is it possible to dye light(ish) brown hair pink without bleaching?. I'm 17 and in college still so I still live with my parents and they're very strict about certain things such as hair colours, piercings and tattoos whilst living under their roof. I've been wanting to dye the front parts of my hair pink for a while but I've been to scared to bring it up to my parents since I know they have strong thoughts on it. Anyways I brought it up to my mum and she actually seemed to be going along with the idea until I mentioned I wanted to dye it pink and to do that I'd have to bleach the front parts of my hair. She instantly shut the idea down and said I'd hate myself for ruining my hair with bleach and the only way she'd even consider it is if she got a professional to do it but that's expensive (like £45 near me). + +I'm still dead set on the idea (honestly I'll do anything to push my parents boundaries since I'm sick and tired of them) and I know I will do it but I need to at least let them be comfortable with the idea. + +(I was hoping for a kind of ashy rose or a rose gold colour)",0 +1480,which shea moisture should i get?. Hi i have 1A hair type which is really straight. my hair is incredibly damaged and dry from all the bleaching i have done and im looking for something moisturising. My hair gets oily very easily at the top as well. Thank you do let me know which i suit :D,0 +1481,"Hair Growth & Retention. Wondering what scientists are recommending when it comes to providing the best environment for hair growth? I was when I started drafting this post. First and foremost, hair growth is determined by genetics plus your state of health, and then, secondly, it is moderately impacted by hair care routines that maintain strength and reduce damage. The scientific community agrees on those primary and secondary influencers, but they have yet to agree on the best way to help hair grow faster. (This is the entire text from my [original blog](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-growth-and-retention.html)) + + +As you go into reading this post, I'd like to remind you that hair loss is a medical condition, so you should always consult your doctor for guidance on treatment options, and to understand if topical hair treatments/products can help you. People lose anywhere from 20 - 100 hairs per day on average, but, if you're noticing more than this, it may be a good idea to check in with your doctor. Review [this guide](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/hair-loss/symptoms-causes/syc-20372926) by the Mayo Clinic to help gauge if talking with your doctor makes sense.**Hair Growth 101***How Fast Hair Grows*Hair generally grows 6 inches a year at a rate of ½ an inch per month. A 2005 study in the International Journal of Dermatology titled ""[Diversity of hair growth profiles](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1365-4632.2005.02800.x)"" looked for differences among hair growth rates based on ethnicity. While the study had limitations, it found hair grows fastest among Asian ethnicities and slowest among African ethnicities (specifically South, Central and West Africa).*Hair Growth Stages*Each strand of your hair will be in one of [three stages](https://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/hair-loss/science-hair) at a given point in time: + +1. ​*Anagen (active stage):* Underneath your scalp, at the base of a strand's root, cells are being formed, resulting in the strand being pushed out at the root and actively plus visibly growing. It can remain in this phase for 2 - 6 years. +2. *Catagen (transitional stage):* The hair strand is still attached, but no longer growing. This stage lasts for 2 - 3 weeks. +3. *Telogen (resting stage):* On a given day, a person can shed 20 - 100 hairs that are in the telogen phase. It is a necessary and natural part of your hair's growth process. A white ball on the tip of a pulled out hair is a sign of this phase. + +*Types of Hair Loss* + +1. *Pattern hair loss or* [*androgenic alopecia*](https://medlineplus.gov/genetics/condition/androgenetic-alopecia/): characterized by losing density at the temples or hairline and top of the head. +2. [*Alopecia areata*](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/70956)*:* patchy baldness caused by autoimmune disorders +3. *Traction:* the result of hairstyles that are hard on the hair and scalp (ex: a tightly tied ponytail) +4. Additional examples from NYU Langone Health [here](https://nyulangone.org/conditions/hair-loss/types). ​ + +*General Causes of Problems with Hair Growth and Hair Loss* + +* Stress (see my post [Your Hair + Stress](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-your-hair--stress.html)) +* Hormones +* Vitamin and mineral deficiencies  +* Genetics  +* Autoimmune responses +* Certain medical treatments/therapies + +**Available Treatments, Resources and Studies on Creating an Environment Conducive to Hair Growth**Below is a list of treatments, resources and studies that contribute to creating an environment that is conducive to hair growth.*Scalp Massages*​Scalp massages are a common way to reduce stress and anxiety. While more studies need to be done, in general the consensus is scalp massages manipulate blood flow, which is potentially beneficial for hair growth and retention. + + +[Standardized Scalp Massage Results in Increased Hair Thickness by Inducing Stretching Forces to Dermal Papilla Cells in the Subcutaneous Tissue](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4740347/) +This was a small study conducted with Japanese men, where the participants noted an “increased hair thickness in 24 weeks” from scalp massages. The massages in the study were conducted with a device versus done by hand. + + +[Self-Assessments of Standardized Scalp Massages for Androgenic Alopecia: Survey Results](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30671883/) +​This study conducted daily scalp massages on 337 participants with angiogenic alopecia. Almost 70% of the participants reported “hair loss stabilization or regrowth” after the study.​*Botanicals* + + +Rosemary Oil +[Rosemary Oil vs Minoxidil 2% for the Treatment of Androgenetic Alopecia: A Randomized Comparative Trial](https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5d4cbfb00e6b2e00019b59b2/t/61f03232e0c0ab15a2b7be6a/1643131442668/rosemaryminoxidil.pdf) +A 6 month clinical trial’s research suggests rosemary oil may be effective in treating androgenic alopecia. This study compared [minoxidil 2%](https://ishrs.org/patients/treatments-for-hair-loss/medications/minoxidil/), which is an FDA approved treatment, to rosemary oil when combating hair loss caused by angiogenic alopecia.  + + +Rosemary, Thyme, Lavender, and Cedarwood Essential Oils +[Management of alopecia areata](https://www.bmj.com/bmj/section-pdf/186632?path=/bmj/341/7766/Clinical_Review.full.pdf) +Rosemary, thyme, lavender, and cedarwood essential oils, along with carrier oils, massaged into the scalp daily “showed significant regrowth compared with the carrier oil alone”. This study was specifically for the treatment of Alopecia areata, a type of patchy baldness.. While as of today there is no known cure for Alopecia areata, this randomized control trial showed some results, suggesting further testing is needed. + + +Fenugreek +[A Multimodal Hair-Loss Treatment Strategy Using a New Topical Phytoactive Formulation: A Report of Five Cases](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7878086/) +The anti-inflammatory properties of fenugreek seed have been cited in numerous studies. This study in particular used five patients with hair loss to “show that meaningful improvement with a high safety profile was attainable using a topical botanical formulation"". + + +Dabao +[The effectiveness of the hair-restorer ""Dabao"" in males with alopecia androgenetica. A clinical experiment](https://docksci.com/the-effectiveness-of-the-hair-restorer-dabao-in-males-with-alopecia-androgenetic_5f149325097c4751408b4589.html) +Dabao is a mixture of Chinese herb extracts, which include saffron flower, mulberry leaves, ginger root, stemona root, pepper fruits, sesame leaves, schan pepper skin, hawthorne fruit and chinese angelica root. The study concludes that “Dabao does have a certain effect on growth"". + + +Onion Juice  +[Onion juice (Allium cepa L.), a new topical treatment for alopecia areata](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12126069/) +This was another study done on alopecia areata, exploring the possibility of onion juice being a treatment. It ""showed that the use of crude onion juice gave significantly higher results with regard to hair re-growth than did tap water (P<0.0001), and that it can be an effective topical therapy for patchy alopecia areata"". + + +Rice Water +[The effect of rinse water obtained from the washing of rice (YU-SU-RU) as a hair treatment](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1468-2494.2010.00605_3.x) +Rice water is also known as [Yu-Su-Ru](https://www.glamour.com/story/rice-water-gave-me-thicker-shinier-hair) to the Yao women who live in China’s Guangxi Region. The Yao women’s hair care routine consists of submerging their hair in water leached from rice. The women believe this treatment is the secret behind their floor length hair. The study hypothesizes that rice water assists in “reducing surface friction and increasing hair elasticity"". Below I've also shared videos from two dermatologists with leading YouYube channels who discuss the possibility that the inositol in rice plays a role in strengthening hair. + +* [How to use rice water for hair growth](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xpRre1a7Zfg) | [Dr Dray](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnxmUrGMtpQT844Yd_l7Zyg) +* [The Science Behind Rice Water](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y4wUgFmddXM) | [Dr. Shereene Idriss](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCidfBdauHUmKFcMw-4QoaSw)",0 +1482,"Hairfall. Guys, I need suggestion because my hair is falling so much, I did consult doc, but it didn't solve my problem, I did save my head tbut no result I m only 20 and my hair is falling si much I don't know what to do, but if u guys have any suggestions then give me it will be very helpful fir me thanks ( btw sry for my bad english)",0 +1483,"helppp. I have frizzy hair no matter what I do. I've done sulfate free shampoos I cowash, conditioner them shampoo, I use a frizz aid leave in conditioner nothing works. I used to dye my hair and never had this issue but since shaving my head and letting it grow its frizzy beyond compare I'm gonna dye it to see if that helps like it has in the past but I'm very open to advice",0 +1484,"Help Eliminating Frizz. I need help with my hair. It tends to frizz out like this 99% of the time and even if I spray my hair down with water and comb it down, it'll slowly frizz back out to being poofy in about an hour or two. I'd prefer it to not do that. I would appreciate any help. I currently live in Florida so I sadly have to deal with high humidity and I've had my hair straightened about a year ago with the Yuko treatment. I've never bothered much at all with hair care up to this point, so assume I know next to nothing and explain everything to me. + +Included pic of my hair in its untouched, poofed out state with my face hastily/terribly censored out cuz I'm overly self conscious. + +https://ibb.co/LgVcnxZ",0 +1485,"Hair care help! Product recommendations for fine/thick/wavy hair?. https://imgur.com/a/WrrNR2r + + +Not really sure what I’m doing, but I recently found out that I have wavy hair. My scalp tends to lean on the oilier side, but my ends are usually drier and need more moisture. My hair is low porosity. I don’t know my curl pattern yet, but I think it might be around 2B? It’s a pretty loose curl pattern. I’ll have to do some more research. Any advice would be really appreciated!!",0 +1486,"Any advice. Over the last few years my hair had become increasingly oily. I don’t k ow what to do. I shower in the morning or the night before and if it’s the night before I wake up with my hair kind of oily. If I shower in the morning my hair is oily by afternoon. When I say oily I mean if I rub my fingers on my hair they look shiny and almost wet. Ethnically I do have a lot of Native American in my family and some English. I’ve tried so many different shampoos, I don’t use conditioner because it’s always seemed to make my hair feel heavy and slimy. I’ve used shampoos for oily hair, tea tree shampoos, dandruff shampoos, clarifying shampoos. It also doesn’t seem to matter what I eat. I’ve experimented with this by eating garbage food for around a week and then eating very clean and healthy with nothing but water, tea and grilled or baked food. My hair still remains very oily. Even though I shower at night at times my pillow becomes stained yellow from the oil and I end up replacing it. I keep a fan blowing on my head all night because I know I “run hot” and it does a great job at keeping me cool. I just want some kind of solution that wouldn’t have to come from a doctor or dermatologist or some other kind of specialist.",0 +1487,"My hair became much worse.. Before being 13,i had a hair that flows down, kids at my class would call me a girl because of how it would flow long down to my neck,my hair was also rich and thick,it was bright and literally everyone who sees me tells my mom that its beautiful. after i became 13, my hair suddenly became worse and worse,each time i get a haircut it becomes worse than the last time,my hair now is sticky,thin, somewhat curly,it doesnt grow long like it used to and a lot of empty spaces appear in the middle,it cant be brushed and stays only one way,and looks so ugly,even now that im about 15-16 it still looks like that, i hate it so much and have to cover my head with a cap when im out,because after my hair thinned like that i discovered that my head has an elongated like shape that looks extremely ugly,and my friends would make jokes of it,im not depressed of it or anything,im fine and i know that i cant control how my nose,head or mouth looks like,but i know that hair can be controlled more than the other organs,so what can i do to make my hair better ?can i make it return to how it was before?",0 +1488,"Is the inkey list scalp exfoliator good?. I need a product that will help my itchy & flakey scalp, i wondered if this was only good?",0 +1489,"Do I have two different hair types?. I will preface by saying that my hair is extremely healthy; I buy high end hair products, protect from heat religiously, and get trims every 10-12 weeks. That being said, when I let my hair air dry or partially air dry it’s always completely straight on top and underneath is totally wavy almost like an early 2000s crimped look. What gives?? I don’t know if I have naturally wavy hair because I don’t have damaged hair so it makes no sense to me😩",0 +1490,My sudden flaky scalp is running my confidence!. Over the past few weeks I’ve noticed my scalp shedding more & more.. to the point where somebody asked if I had nits! Please any advice on clearing a flaky scalp,0 +1491,"Why is my natural blonde hair Turing black/ brown??. I have really light blonde curly hair and recently I have noticed really dark hairs growing at the front (baby hairs). They are mainly growing on the top left side and I don’t know why, where’s my right side is still a light blonde. I have also noticed my eye brown hairs have also turned really dark which is a striking difference as I had basically white ones just a few weeks ago. I have been under a lot of stress and been going through some stuff recently so I dunno if that can affect it or the products I have been using. It could just be my hair changing ?? Is there anything I can do to stop it as i feel it looks a lil strange especially when it’s on one side I’m 19 btw dunno if age can affect it (E.g. hormones) +Thank u for reading and any advice would be greatly appreciated :))",0 +1492,"Permanently straightened my hair in a salon - now my hair feels tangled and hairs are falling out everywhere. I'm male, 40 y/o, in healthy shape with no male pattern baldness in my family. + +In February of 2021, I had my hair chemically relaxed in a salon. It was great for about 6 months and while the overall look of the hair is still good, I cannot move without leaving little hairs all over the place. When my hair is wet, it feels coarse like straw and when I'm drying it with a hair dryer, my hands snag hairs as I'm moving the hair about. I end up finding tons of hairs over the counter tops, tub, sink and now finding them on the ceiling (I guess the mist is taking them up there?) + +Have I permanently ruined my hair? If not, what can I do to alleviate this?",0 +1493,"Best foods for healthy hair. Here are the four best food for healthy hair. + +* Eggs are a great source of Biotin. +* Berries have antioxidant properties that make hair stronger. +* Avocado has vitamin E for hair growth. +* Spinach which has Vitamin A produces sebum which moisturizes the scalp.",0 +1494,"Repairing hair after chemically straightening it. I chemically straightened my hair in 2019 summer. Since then my hair has gotten thinner and I have experienced a lot of hair loss. I really want to grow thicker and longer hair. Any tips on doing this? Thank you. + +P.S: I now realise I probably shouldn't have chemically straightened my hair. It is not a proud moment for me.",0 +1495,"greasy bangs?. recently, with all the masks and my oily skin my bangs have been super greasy and they clump together. whenever i try to fix them they make my fingers all greasy and my bangs become even greasier. is there any product or method i could use to prevent greasy bangs?",0 +1496,"Is it safe to run my hand through my hair after using anti-frizz spray?. Ok, this is probably a really dumb question, but I'm just getting into serious hair care and had a question. So, I'm trying anti-frizz spray for the first time (specifically Redken Frizz Dismiss), and I was worried that touching, running my hand through my hair would get chemicals and such on my hand (basically, making it unsafe to eat, drink, etc). Am I worrying over nothing?",0 +1497,"UVA/UVB/ heat protectant lotion for dry hair?. Any good recommendations for a heat protectant cream or lotion with UVA/UVB filter that's good for thin, dry hair? + +I've been using Drybar Hot Toddy Lotion for a while now and I love it, but they seem to have discontinued it and replaced it with a spray/mist that I like a lot less. I prefer a cream or lotion for my hair since I find most sprays leave it brittle and stiff. + +Suggestions?",0 +1498,"struggling with understanding how to help my hair. hi, i’m a 23F with thin hair who had a very stressful and unhealthy (barely any sleep and skipped meals) college experience and im seeing the affects. after moving back to nyc, a spot in the middle front of my hair line started. i visited a doctor who said i had no scarring so not to worry and to stop stressing. since then i’ve finally moved of my old apartment that had very hard water and noticed a small change in “softness in my hair” + +i’m trying to do the oil method to help with regrowth but it makes my hair look dirty and i don’t know if i’m applying it wrong. i’ve tried a wide range of shampoos and conditioners as well. i was using Dominican hair oil but i don’t think it did anything but make my hair look oily. I’m the only person in my family** who experiencing hair lose in the that area as well. + +another note to add, i noticed that i have a pretty dry scalp and small flakes idk if that’s important over all or if it’s all the same problem. + +please help!!! thank you!!",0 +1499,"Dandruff shampoo fixes my flakes but trashes my hair. I am white and have 3B-ish curly hair. It’s coloured—bleached and dyed balayage style. + +I’ve had dandruff since my teens, or dry scalp, not sure (the wait list for a dermatologist here is like 8+ months so I’ve just never bothered to ask for a referral.) After about 4-5 days of not washing, if I scratch my head I get an oily flakey buildup under my fingernails, and my scalp gets itchy, so washing less is a hard sell. Around the front of my scalp towards my forehead, I have visible patches of scabby looking flakes that I can scratch up. Sometimes even my forehead around my hairline is flaky, but facial moisturizing seems to help that. Washing more makes the flaking worse. + +I tried what felt like everything in my 20s—sulphate free, no-poo, cowashing, homemade shampoo, coal tar, expensive salon stuff—on and on—the only time I was flake free is when I legit shaved my head. I’ve tried daily washing, washing as little as possible—nothing ever really works. + +It is a lot worse in winter—even though I get sweaty in the summer, my scalp doesn’t seem as itchy and oily. + +Finally, of course, the thing that worked—at least mostly—was head n shoulders. It’s not perfect, but it relieves the worst of the flaking and increases how long I can go without washing (which is better for my hair). I use colour shampoo when my colour is fresh, and I can usually stretch washing with H&S to once1-2 weeks and wash in between with the colour stuff and make do. + +But my hair is always frizzy, the curls get broken up and become stringy, it’s not nice shampoo for my “hair”. + +Do I have any hope? I’ve been curious about stuff like Prose, is it any good for actually balancing my scalp and maybe helping my hair?",0 +1500,"Hair Oils. [Hair Oils](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-oils.html) + +I have been on a search to understand which oils penetrated the hair which does not. I hope you can find the right oil for you too! For me the answer was sunflower. Coconut-derived oil ingredients, which is in most products, do not work as well for my hair. This is the entire blog post but if you would rather see it a bit more organized check out [Hair Oils](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-oils.html). + +​ + +**Types of Oils** +*Vegetable Oils* +[These oils](https://cosmeticsandtoiletries.texterity.com/cosmeticsandtoiletries/june_2021/MobilePagedReplica.action?pm=1&folio=24#pg35) are pressed, crushed and refined from the fatty portions of a plant or botanical. They are less aromatic and have the ability to sink into your hair shaft, unlike mineral oils, which can make them a more effective moisturizing ingredient depending on your needs.  + + +*Mineral Oils* +These oils are made from petroleum that is [highly refined](https://www.chemicalsafetyfacts.org/mineral-oil/). They have a lower price point compared to vegetable oils and essential oils, which can influence which brands will include them in product formulas. They're known to create a barrier on the surface of your hair shaft to lock moisture in. + + +*Essential Oils* +These oils are [distilled](https://www.thezoereport.com/p/oils-vs-essential-oils-the-biggest-differences-the-most-popular-uses-more-19442788) from leaves, roots, bark and other aromatic portions of plants. The distillation process turns the raw ingredients left over into a more concentrated, highly aromatic oil. They're used for their smell and are thought to have therapeutic benefits, but will irritate your skin if not heavily diluted with mineral or vegetable oils.  + + +*Silicone (not an oil)* +While not technically an oil, silicone provides conditioning qualities that are similar. There are two types to be aware of: (1) soluble and (2) non-soluble. The main difference between them is that one can be broken down by water and the other cannot, meaning it requires harsher shampoos with surfactants to wash it away after continued use. You can tell the difference between them based on their ingredients, which I've listed below. You can also read more about silicones in my posts [*How Often Should I Shampoo?*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-how-often-should-i-shampoo.html) and [*Ingredient Lists*](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-ingredient-lists.html). ​ ​​ + +* Non-soluble: Dimethicone, Cyclomethicone, Amodimethicone, Pheryl trimethicone, Ceteraryl methicone, Dimethiconol, Stearyl dimethicone, Amodimethicone (non-soluble when Trideceth-12 and Cetrimonium Chloride are absent) +* Soluble: Cyclomethicone, Dimethicone copolyol, Lauryl methicone copolyol, any silicone with PEG as a prefix + +**Oils for Hair with High Porosity vs. Low Porosity**  +​Finding the right oil for your hair texture can be challenging, but if you can identify the porosity of your hair it will help guide the process. Genetics and they way you care for your hair are the biggest influencers of its porosity. Styling tools with high heat, coloring, perming and other hair care/services can cause your porosity to change. Although the signs of highly porous hair are not widely considered “healthy looking”, the benefit for some can be more volume and fullness. + + +Hair with low porosity is considered to be “healthy”, but it comes with its own challenges. According to the [Science-y Hair Blog](https://science-yhairblog.blogspot.com/2013/06/oils-which-ones-soak-in-vs-coat-hair.html) “If you have fine or soft hair which is easily over-conditioned, those same oils may make your hair feel greasy and lank unless used in very small amounts. Lower porosity hair may do better with blends of penetrating oils and less-penetrating oils.” The chart below will help you determine your porosity and show you what oils have been found to ""[penetrate the cortex](https://cosmeticsandtoiletries.texterity.com/cosmeticsandtoiletries/july_august_2021/MobilePagedReplica.action?pm=1&folio=DM5#pg51)"", or the second layer of your hair shaft that sits behind your outer cuticle. Your porosity level is a good thing to keep in mind when searching for new hair products. + +**Signs of Hair with** **High Porosity****Signs of Hair with** **Low Porosity** + +Hair that is:  + +* Dry, rough and /or dull +* Full with volume +* Coarser than usual (generally on the ends) +* Tangling easily +* Experiencing breakage +* Air drying within 15 minutes +* Soaking up oil-based products quickly  + +For oil treatments, use **penetrating oils** on your ends  and a **mix of less penetrating oils plus penetrating oils** from your roots to mid hair shaft + +Hair that is: + +* Smooth and sleek +* Flat and lacking volume +* Heavier with a slick/greasy feel +* Easily combed or brushed  +* Not experiencing breakage +* Taking 30 minutes or more to air dry +* Unable to soak up oil-based products easily + +​ +For oil treatments, mix  **penetrating** and  **less penetrating** oils. +​ +​*Sources:* [*Enhancing Hair Health: Effects of Oiling, Inside and Out - Part I*](https://www.cosmeticsandtoiletries.com/research/literature-data/article/21836362/cosmetics-and-toiletries-magazine-enhancing-hair-health-effects-of-oiling-inside-and-outpart-i)*, Cosmetics & Toiletries* +[*Enhancing Hair Health: Effects of Oiling, Inside and Out - Part II*](https://www.cosmeticsandtoiletries.com/research/literature-data/article/21836386/cosmetics-and-toiletries-magazine-enhancing-hair-health-effects-of-oiling-inside-and-outpart-ii)*, Cosmetics & Toiletries* +[*Oils - Which Ones Soak in vs. Coat the Hair?*](https://science-yhairblog.blogspot.com/2013/06/oils-which-ones-soak-in-vs-coat-hair.html)*, Science-y Hair Blog* +[*Beginner's Guide to Ingredients in Natural Hair Products*](https://www.texturedtalk.com/how-to-understand-ingredients-in-natural-hair-products/) *, Textured Talk* +[*15 Scientific Names for Common Ingredients in Natural Hair Products*](http://www.1blessednatural.com/2015/10/15-scientific-names-for-common-ingredients-natural-hair-products.html)*, 1Blessed  Natural Mag* + +​ + +**Penetrating Oils**​ + +Coconut *(Cocos Nucifera)* Oil  +​Sunflower *(Helianthus Annuus)* Seed Oil Olive *(Olea Europaea)* Oil + + +**Less Penetrating Oils** + +Argan *(Argania Spinosa)* + +**Not Recommended** + +Mineral Oil  +Jojoba *(Simmondsia Chinensis)* Oil",0 +1501,"How to not have hair fall out and thin? I shampoo every morning. 23M. *AGE*: Hi, **23 male**. + +*PRODUCT*: I am currently using a **sulfate-free** and **paraben-free shampoo** with Rosemary oil, peppermint oil, cucumber, and strong fragrance: *Aveeno fresh greens shampoo*. + +*CONCERN*: I feel like my hair is thinning and also falls out quite easily (in general, not because of this specific shampoo). I switched to sulfate-free a month ago. I think it could be the harsh shampoos & daily washing I do, but I am not sure yet. I don't think I have male pattern baldness yet. + +*ROUTINE*: I **shampoo every morning**. If I skip just ONE day of showering, my hair/forehead/face becomes an **oily grease ball**. I work in a customer-facing job. + +*REQUEST*: Can someone suggest me the **best products & routine** to use to **preserve the health, thickness, and volume** of my hair for the longest time possible?",0 +1502,I am just 20 and i have lost most of my hair with my hair still falling. I have tried minoxidil. But it didn't work. Can anyone tell me if you have similar experience. I would like to know what cautions did you take. Thanks. ,0 +1503,"Which product for promoting density?: Curlsmith Full Lengths Density Elixir vs The Ordinary Multi-Peptide Serum for Hair Density. Which would you buy to stimulate growth and density? Thank you! + +​ + +Curlsmith Full Lengths Density Elixir: + +\- Green Tea, Lavender, Thyme, Witch Hazel, Amla, Cedarwood, Soybean, Wheat Germ , Chinese Skullcap, Pea Sprout, Biotin, Castor Oil, Red Clover, Stem cells + +\- Two peptides + +\- Full ingredients found [here](https://curlsmith.com/products/full-lengths-density-elixir?currency=USD&variant=13063748583518&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_campaign=Google%20Shopping&gclid=CjwKCAiAl-6PBhBCEiwAc2GOVCd5Zg0KJBDOdv-9olUDwojjLo7vpo3myV9m1zPaZ9zVOdReYv0YuxoCavsQAvD_BwE) + +​ + +The Ordinary Multi-Peptide Serum for Hair Density: + +\- Caffine, Castor oil, biotin, lactic acid, chinese skullcap, pea, Larix Europaea Wood, wheat, soybean, clover, green tea + +\- A variety of peptides + +\- Full ingredients found [here](https://deciem.com/en-us/theordinary/mas-rdn-multi-peptide-serum-for-hair-density.html?dwvar_mas-rdn-multi-peptide-serum-for-hair-density_size=60ml&quantity=1) + +​ + +My hair is: + +\- Low porosity + +\- Medium-low density + +\- 2b - 3a + +\- Pixie cut + +\- Recovering from heat damage",0 +1504,"is there such a thing as using too much product when trying to regrow and restructure chemically damaged hair?. hi all, I posted in another thread but I'm honestly trying to get as much advice as I can. + +I recently suffered massive breakage after a dye removal and bleaching and have been since trying to regrow the length that I lost 9I went from shoulder length to about a bob length), as well as rejuvenate the thickness since it became very fine and thin from a lot of bleach and dye jobs over the years (since 2019 I'd say I bleached my entire head or used dye removing treatments about 6 or 7 times) where my virgin hair was around waist length, straight and fine but not at all thin like I'm seeing it now. + +I've been using a lot of products to experiment with what would give me the best results. + +* shea moisture, manuka honey & yogurt: hydrate and repair protein power treatment w/ mafura and baobab oils. (as directed before showering, on occasion) +* inebrya ice cream keratin restructuring mask (as directed before showering, on occasion +* I have tried inebrya ice cream keratin restructuring shampoo as well (before using olaplex no. 4 shampoo) +* I have used ogx anti breakage keratin oil conditioner (before using olaplex no.5 conditioner) +* Sauce beauty's Guacamole Whip Deep Moisture Hair Mask after conditioning +* I put OGX leave-in argan oil and a restructuring keratin leave-in conditioner spray, also from inebrya ice cream + +Recently I've only used olaplex shampoo/conditioner with their bond building treatment, followed with the avacado mask and then with leave-in argan oil and a keratin leave-in conditioner. I did buy viviscal shampoo as well to help with some of the thinning/growth. I have heard mixed things about protein products and hair loss products such as viviscal, and wanted to know if any of the products I'm using would help me meet any of my hair goals of restructuring and regrowth, or if I may be making it worse by doing too much. + +Thanks all!",0 +1505,"Can you please recommend me scalp care products that work to combat really dry scalp?. Found this [https://monpure.com](https://monpure.com) which looks good as it seems they're really choosing well the ingredients that they use, but I cannot afford to buy these luxury products! Do you know other haircare/scalpcare that are more affordable but do work? + +I've been dealing with this problem with my scalp for some time now. It's always intensely dry, terribly itchy and these days even come in clumps :( Those anti-dandruff products don't seem to work anymore even with conditioners. I would also try not washing my hair, or just washing with water thinking that I may be stripping my scalp's natural oils... but I still get the same problems. I have long, thick hair but I am also experiencing extreme hair fall and its quite alarming. I would therefore like to try out some products (probably serums, scalp scrub) but don't know which ones to try. Your suggestions would be really helpful! Thank you!",0 +1506,"Best Dry Shampoo For Greasy Hair ?. I get greasy hair easily so lately I've been searching up dry shampoos but I can't seem to find the perfect one ? I have 2a or 2b curly hair but I straighten it since it is easier to manage it but since I get greasy hair easily, I have to shower and then straighten it again BUT I want to try and use as less heat as possible so any recommendations?",0 +1507,"What are the best shampoos/conditioner, products for dry straight frizzy hair that can let it grow long and healthy?. I always had thick hair but recently a-lot of my hair is falling I never bleached my hair and it’s take forever to grow I do use heat on my hair I tired to use heat protector but it seems not to work my hair is still the same also I want my hair to be soft and silky but I don’t know what Products to use after nor before taking a shower also I get a lot of dandruff how can I stop that ?",0 +1508,"Dry Hair. [DRY HAIR](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-i---dry-hair.html) + +To lay a foundation for the section below, I want to start with the science behind your hair's structure. This can be a big step in understanding the cause of your hair challenge. Your strands are mostly made up of a [keratin protein](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Keratin), which consists of the [COHNS elements](https://designessentials.com/hair-composition/) (Carbon, Oxygen, Hydrogen, Nitrogen and Sulfur). These elements create the following [bonds](https://designessentials.com/hair-composition/) in your hair: + + +* hydrogen bond​s +* salt bonds +* disulfide bonds + +​ +Disulfide bonds can cause permanent change in the hair structure, allowing us to perform services like perms and color. They are also responsible for the hair’s strength. Hydrogen bonds cause temporary change and adjust the hair's shape, for example, during washing and drying. We can use this knowledge to our advantage when styling - weather induced frizz can be reset simply by rinsing with water and styling in a new way. Check out this guide titled ""[Hair Frizz Science: Water and Hydrogen Bonds](https://labmuffin.com/hair-frizz-science-water-hydrogen-bonds/)"" to learn more. The big takeaway I want you to have before jumping into the section below is this: the further we push the limits of our hair the more challenges we may face. + + +**DESCRIPTION:** The hair will look dull and puffy. + + +**CAUSES:** over-shampooing, over-styling, coloring too often, [damage](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-i---damage.html) + + +**OVERVIEW:** When the outer layer of the hair shaft (i.e. cuticle) is swollen or lifted, the hair can visually appear dry and have trouble holding moisture. Simply put, the hair is dry after the hair shaft is repeatedly damaged. This is why most of the information on dry hair and damaged hair is so similar. The key difference between the two is damaged hair leads to dry hair (and eventually breakage), while damaged hair is not caused by dry hair, but by chemicals (for example, color, perms, relaxers). When a strand's cuticle is healthy it will not be dry.  + + +**THE FIX:** Use moisturizing products. My favorite moisturizing ingredients are silicones, such as dimethicone and panthenol (vitamin b5). Consider using oils that act as [emollients](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16268870/), moisturizers, occlusive agents and humectants that seal in moisture and provide an increased slip between adjacent strands. These are helpful with frizz, dryness, and damage, plus increase shine and reduce tangles. Look for a product that is lightweight and non-greasy to avoid weighing the hair down and/or over-stretching a curl’s pattern. See [Products](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-i---products.html) for more details.  +​",0 +1509,"oily hair. i’m having issues with my hair getting oily. on average my hair isn’t oily, and i can normally go a few days without washing it. however, when i do wash my hair it seems like after using my shampoo a few times my hair starts to get used to it or something and my hair is oily the morning after i wash it. it feels gross and i’m so tired of it. idk what would be causing that and it’s getting really old switching out my shampoo all the time. as soon as i start to feel like one isn’t gonna make my hair greasy it does anyways",0 +1510,Monday Hair Products. Has anyone tried the brand & experienced hair breakage/loss? I know it’s a drugstore brand but it is considered “clean”. I have heard that when combined with bleached hair it can cause hair loss. Just trying to see if anyone else w/ bleached hair has tried & experienced this.,0 +1511,"I’ve been growing my hair out for about 2.5 years. No trim. How can I help it become healthy again?. COVID gave me a chance to grow my hair out, but I didn’t take care of it. The hair on the top of my head is shorter (by a few inches) than the hair on the side of my head. I would like to take care of it now; however, how can I “trim” it without lose much of the growth? Sorry this is my first time growing out my hair. 35M if that matters. + + +Biggest concern is I have to cut it where the top hair falls. Not sure.",0 +1512,How do I get my volume back?. I used to have really thick hair. But in the last 2 years they have really thinned. I have had a major hair loss and I really want to get my volume back. I have good genes and great diet but still my hair won't stop falling. Would love to hear some tips and techniques to get my volume back.,0 +1513,"Product or serum recommandation for hair growth ? (No oral supplement ). Hi ! As said in the title, I can’t take any vitamins or supplement because I’m on a laser hair removal journey and my doctor forbid any hair growth vitamin as they have an effect on body hair so I was wondering what kind of product I can use directly on the scalp to grow longer and thicker hair ? +Thanks x",0 +1514,"Redken Volume Injection vs Briogeo Mango + Cherry. Hello!! I recently purchased both of the duos I mentioned above :) + +I have used the Briogeo one in the past but I wanted to know if anyone has used the Redken Volume Injection Shampoo + Conditioner and what they think about it? + +I know a main difference is that the Redken one has a small amount of silicones and sulfates while Briogeo steers away from them. + +Hair type: Fine, Low-Porosity 2a hair. Oily at the roots, drier ends (but need to get a trim soon). Use dry shampoo in between washes - wash MWF bc it fits my gym schedule LOL + +I’m looking for volume mainly but I’ve seen mixed reviews about both tbh + +All opinions of the lines are welcome! Thanks :)",0 +1515,I just got rid of major scalp build up. My question is how do you know when to wash your hair. I washed on Monday. Today my scalp is itchy. Should you wash your hair before or after it itches? It didn’t yesterday at all. My hair still feels dry. Getting hair cut this Tuesday.. ,0 +1516,"I shaved my head and the hair grew back BADLY. I'm a 15m and I shaved my head as a joke to my friends, not the entire head, just the top, now the top has grown badly, uglier, it's also looks bad compared to the part that I didn't shave, one part is normal, and the other just looks bad",0 +1517,"My hair has only been bleached and dyed once. It comes out even more than it used to and it feels like there's a buildup literally the day after washing. What suggestions do you have?. Admittedly I box bleached and dyed it and everything seemed alright. It cut it short so it came out less but now I can get multiple strands out in one go while washing it. The day after washing it feels like a greasy build-up the way it used to when I wouldn't wash for several days before I started dyeing. + +I currently use the OGX shampoo and conditioner I pictured. + +I've never been good at knowing what was going on with my hair and have just bounced between shampoos based on price but now I want to actually have nice hair",0 +1518,"Post your ENTIRE hair care routine!. Hello everyone! + +What is your entire hair care routine, start to finish? + +I’m a hair care newbie and want to do a full hair care overhaul. I’m looking for inspiration from you all, and maybe others will find this helpful as well! + +I’ll start: + +Hair type: +- blonde, medium-long, fine but full, wavy with encouragement + +Shower: +- every 3-4 days double shampoo with Herbal Essence Hello Hydration (been using this shampoo for 10~ years, time for a change..) +- TRESemmé Perfectly (un)Done Waves conditioner + +- wrap in towel to dry for a few minutes, then air dry + +Products: +- Dove Style + Care Curls mousse, scrunched into damp hair + +- Batiste Dry Shampoo XXL Volume, massaged into dry hair either before bed or in the morning + +Sleeping Style: +- silky scrunchie, hair pulled into a half-pulled-through ponytail (name for this?) at nape of neck to encourage soft waves +- curtain bangs clipped back with butterfly clips + +Everyday style: +- hair down, centre parted, tousled and finger combed if necessary",0 +1519,"Personal experiences with wrapping/putting hair up for bed?. Has putting your hair in a scarf/wrap, etc REALLY helped anyone's hair? + +I've heard all about it keeping moisture in the hair, limiting breakage and bedhead free. I know it's typically curly/wavy haired people who benefit most, but I'd ***really*** appreciate some personal experiences with it from all hair types- ESPECIALLY straight hair. + +And if you have, has it helped with anything it's said to help with and how long it took to notice any difference? + +I have normal to oily scalp and my ends are a bit drier than the scalp. I have a soft square head scarf I used the last 2 nights. I'm trying to stave off breakage and retain length by doing two braids, a top layer braid or a bun.",0 +1520,Dyed my hair this color (it’s 10 and 9 mix with slight purple tone. Balayage). I bought olaplex purple shampoo. How should I use olaplex purple shampoo? Full question in comments.. ,0 +1521,I have really brittle hair. I don’t use heat styling. But bad nutrition depression lack of enough money hard water damage poor quality products. I am getting three inches cut off next week. Help what brands and frequently. Thank you. Why is the first part now I am good.,0 +1522,"Frizzy wavy hair. +I am 24 (F) in Canada. My hair is frizzy and normal scalp which gets oily after 2-3 days of washing my hair. My hair is naturally frizzy and wavy. I got keratin treatment 7 months ago which made my hair much softer and shinier. Now, all the effects of keratin has gone and my hair is in its natural state. My hair grew almost 3-4 inches in those 7 months. Currently I am using Pentene Castor oil sulphate free shampoo but it's not helping at all. I am thinking of chopping my hair above shoulder so they can look better. I badly want to improve the quality of my hair. What should I do? I appreciate your help, it's much needed! :( + +Thanks!",0 +1523,"Help with hair routine for male athlete with long-ish hair?. Hi! I'm really looking for some advice on building my hair-care routine, down to products, frequency, really anything y'all think will help! + +I'm a 24 year old male, with brown, curly hair, that's currently down to the bottom of my neck, and I keep a short but full beard that covers most of my face. I'm also an athlete, and I do 4+ hours of intense training almost daily, where I sweat A LOT - and that's a pretty big understatement. I'm talking dripping, looking like I got straight out of the pool, even if was actually just a 30 minute jog. (Edit for clarity, the pool is just for comparison, I don't actually swim so chlorine isn't an issue. It's all rowing, running, and lifting) + +I did some basic googling on my own awhile back and saw that I should condition every day, shampoo every 2-3 days, so that's exactly what I've been doing, and the same with my beard. Then someone told me I really shouldn't condition that much, so I looked into it again, and saw a lot of information supporting that too, along with more frequent shampooing. + +I feel like I'm getting pulled in both directions, honestly I just want to take good care of my hair/scalp/face, especially with how much sweat I put it through. I like keeping my hair long, I like the natural color and curls, but I've never been great with this kind of thing so I'm looking for any and all advice! Thanks!",0 +1524,"Head and Shoulders Shampoo is Bad, so Why is it the Only Thing That Doesn’t Make My Head Itch?. I grew up using it, so that’s a prominent factor. I use the anti dandruff stuff. I’ve heard from many and done quite a bit of research on why this brand is bad for my hair. When I started trying healthier products though, my head began to itch, often to very uncomfortable levels, like never before. I’ve tried 4+ different brands and styles and eliminated common allergens and other ingredients in order to try and eliminate the irritant. NOTHING has worked. I’ve tried for months to adjust, but my head still itches like crazy. Even a little bit right out of the shower. I washed my hair with the “bad stuff” again recently and, you guessed it, no itching. Any ideas or tips? Should I just suck it up and use a bad brand?",0 +1525,"How to use hair oils WITHOUT drenching your hair in oil!. Hi everyone! I recently started a hair blog and just added my second posting. I answered what I know a lot of people want to know-- How do you incorporate hair oils into your normal hair routine? Feel free to take a look and let me know what you think (and any other content you would be interested in seeing)! Thank you:) + +[Joyful Strands | Q&A: How do I Incorporate Hair Oils into my Normal Hair Routine?](https://joyfulstrands.com/blog/qa-how-do-i-incorporate-hair-oils-into-my-normal-hair-routine)",0 +1526,"Tips on thickening hair?. Not sure really what’s happening with my hair, but I’m pretty sure it’s thinning on the crown. Any recommendations to thickening hair? Like vitamins, diets, product etc.",0 +1527,is doing heatless curls every night bad?. i use the rob tie method and sometimes it feels a little tight and i’m scared if i do it too much i’ll get traction alopecia or whatever. someone tell me if it’s okay or not 😭,0 +1528,"hair is broken and i need advice. i went in for a hair appointment yesterday. to preface, i have short brown hair, and asked for a blonde ashy money piece and an ombré. +once they said they were finished, my hair colour looked exactly the same, maybe with a few strips of lighter brown here and there. once i got back to my place, i sent them an email basically regarding the fact that i didn’t feel like my hair sufficed the amount i payed ($316) considering i didn’t get what i asked for or didn’t see a change. +this is where it gets bad. i’m quite young and naive and didn’t realise they may ask for me to go back to the store so they can check my hair. so i had bleach lying around, and decided to try and fix it. and it turned out horrible. i went to the store and bought a toner, however, the toner also did not change anything, but rather damaged my hair. it was after this that my partner brought up the fact that the salon may not refund me because there is no longer any evidence to suggest my hair was done incorrectly. i have photos of my hair and their treatments compared to the reference images i showed them, but do not know if that is enough evidence for a refund and am waiting to hear back from them. +as for my general hair, my partner suggested to ask the salon to dye my hair back to its natural colour (brown) and let it grow out and restore its health with hair masks, deep conditioning treatments and oils. as for the very damaged bleach money piece, i am considering cutting face framing bangs to cut off the damaged ends before they can break higher to my roots where it is still salvageable. i was considering getting weft extensions to give the illusion of healthy hair, but only if i get a refund. if not, i will have to deal with looking like dora the explorer over the summer. +i’ve been thinking about this a lot, especially as i do not feel confident when my hair is not good, and think that this would be the best course of action, i just feel so defeated as everything i have tried has failed whilst losing almost $400 because of it. does anyone have advice on what i should do?",0 +1529,"Not washing my hair everyday gives me a ton of acne. What can I do?. I recently dyed my hair for the first time, caramel balayage. I had virgin hair prior and I'm trying to get used to the new feel of my hair. I have tried washing my hair every other day and I get tons, TONS, of acne. I have super oily skin and it's very sensitive to everything. I have to shower before bed because if I just use makeup remover and go to bed I wake up to a lot of acne. + +I'm considering cowashing, washing my hair with only water, or finding some other way? Does anyone have any alternative? + +*Not washing my hair isn't an option, as I find it more acceptable to deal with brittle hair or color faded hair that full blown acne. I'm just trying to see if I can find other options that won't aggravate my acne. I took Accutane for years as a teen and my acne disappeared but would come back when exposed to the sun, with sunscreen, and not showering/bathing (on top of hormones and everything else that causes my acne too). I also can't take Accutane anymore because I'm considering getting pregnant.",0 +1530,"Where to start with masks and oils?. I only currently use a leave in conditioner to smooth things out and control very minimal frizz. I have long, mostly thick Asian hair that has been bleached with manic panic on top. Gets greasy fast, but also depending in the season I had have dry scalp flakes. I don’t feel significant damage from the bleaching other than usual split ends, but it has made some parts of my hair thinner (as expected) so I’m considering looking into oils and/or masks to rejuvenate it a bit. + +All the info about oils and masks is overwhelming and seems very specific to each hair type. I don’t want to try just anything on my hair for that reason. + +What’s a good place to start?",0 +1531,Any drug store thicker conditioners you’d all recommend?. I’m looking for a drug store find of a thicker conditioner for my thicker wavy hair. The thin conditioners never do much for my hair. Any thoughts?,0 +1532,"Best serums and such for Flaky scalp?. My hair flakes a bunch if I rub it or itch it. Especially at my hairline. What are some good serums or anything to help with this? I have wavy/curly hair that's currently regrowojg a lot of hairloss. + +Thanks!",0 +1533,"Hair oiling question. I read that you shouldn’t oil your hair when it’s dirty because the oil won’t absorb, is that true? Aren’t you you’re supposed to apply it before washing your hair though, which is when your hair will be dirty?",0 +1534,"HARD WATER vs chemically straightened hair. Hey, so I regretfully used to get my hair rebonded once a year (straight perm) I had curly/wavy hair and honestly my hair was healthy the whole time (as in it looked healthy ALL year round) but I got COVID AIB 2020 and it was crazy, my hair just started breaking ? I read into a few articles/studies and apparently sufferers of COVID experienced similar issues with hair but it wasn’t listed as an effect because well I guess it didn’t happen to everyone. I’m still not 100% sure why my hair broke but COVID combined with my hair being chemically straightened seems like a good reason. Anyway, ever since my hair went to utter shit I noticed my hair was never EVER washing properly ? No matter how much I scrubbed, my hair was thick with crap in it. It was only until a few weeks ago, so 2 years later that I discovered it’s the hard water in my house which is causing this build up in my hair. I only use filtered water now (literally use my fridge water and load it into litre bottles and wash my hair that way) but obviously this way is way more time consuming and a pain in the ass. I just want to stand under a shower head and relax lol. I’ve tried the L’Oreal metal detox shampoo and it helps a little but there’s still build up so I’m sticking to washing my hair the long way for now. + +Anyway, I’m writing in this sub because I feel so alone in this. My sisters and mom obviously use the same shower at home but their hair is silky smooth and no build up on their hair whatsoever. Has anyone else experienced this or something like this? + +I’m guessing my hair is prone to build up because it’s so damaged? Btw it doesn’t look thatttt but it’s just the texture of my old hair is so bad and in comparison to what it was it’s gone really shit and my self esteem has declined with regard to my hair.",0 +1535,"Redken all soft - daily usage?. Hi, people! + + +It’s my (20M) first time using an expensive shampoo and conditioner. Should I use it daily? + + +Until now, I had the habit of using every other day + + +I decided to give it a shot after so many years feeling bad about my hair. It’s naturally dry and broken",0 +1536,"African black soap for hair?. Hello! My mom recently found black african soap for sale in our area, and we've been wanting to try it for years. We both have extremely sensitive scalps, both have suffered/suffer from seborrheic dermatitis and our hair is very fine. I've heard that the african black soap does wonders for sensitive skin conditions and hair like ours. Does anyone have firsthand experience/knows someone that does and is willing to share? +Thanks in advance <3",0 +1537,"Hair broke :(. For context if that's necessary, I am a guy with moderately long thick hair. + +For further context, I've never been any good at taking care of my hair. But I've never needed to deepen myself in the subject because I have always have just short to sort-of-short unorganized hair. Now my hair is longer than it ever has been before and I sort of prefer it. I have merely washed it, untangled it and prayed that be sustainable. + +*However* recently I've noticed my hair displayed as very thin strands of the type caused by split ends. Yet this is not a matter of split ends any longer as upon closer inspection it appears large parts of my hair is just fractured far beyond just the ends. + +I know there is no ex post facto magical remedy to broken hair or split ends or the likes but cutting it shorter. But at this point cutting away the split parts would mean cutting far beyond reasonable extent, perhaps even all the way down to the scalp certain places. + +I have no experience in this subject whatsoever so my assumptions or preliminary conclusions can perhaps be way over the top but I hope that someone who *are* knowledgeable could share some advice or thoughts. Thanks :)",0 +1538,"Preventing Oily Hair?. I (24F) have naturally straight, thin, medium length hair. I’ve been struggling with my hair getting oily within hours after washing, to the point where the next day my hair looks wet on the top and parts into greasy sections. I don’t use any direct heat, and I only occasionally blow dry my hair. I apply conditioner only to the ends of my hair. I’m not looking for product suggestions to remove the grease, but rather what I can do to prevent my scalp from producing so much oil? Thank you!",0 +1539,"Is permanent curly hair possible for straight Asian hair?. I am an Asian girl that has lived with very straight and thick hair all my entire life. every time I see people with those thick, voluminous, and bouncy curls, I get pretty envious. The best that I could do is use a styling iron to get like those curls that Akina Nakamori (which I love doing since I love the 1980’s) or the more subtle curls that other celebrities have where it’s literally only the bottom half curled. + +I would like to know if other than getting a perm, it is possible for Asian people (that are mostly known to have very straight hair) to get permanently curly hair. Is there anyway that this could be achievable without damaging our hair due to heat or chemicals? If there is, what would be the process and how long will it take?",0 +1540,"Taming the cowlick. After showering/washing my hair, I part it as normal. The next day I skip washing it but the cowlick on the back of my head makes my part deeper/longer and makes a balding appearance. How, without rewashing hair, do you get the cowlick controlled? I’ve tried dry shampoo but that’s about it and it doesn’t work. I’ve tried different parts (left/right/center) but it’ll still be extremely noticeable. I’m not sure what else to try.",0 +1541,blonde who needs help. Hi all I'm new to this subreddit and was wondering if anyone could give me advice on how to keep my hair light and blonde and what some of the best products and techniques for keeping it are,0 +1542,"My hair never feels clean. Hello !! First time poster here. + +So for a little bit of background..I’ve been into basic hair care since I was very little and I used to have the most gorgeous hair ever. I started oiling my hair very young so i think that helped. But then i moved to north america. Ever since then i feel like the water quality has just been horrible and has caused so many problems for my hair. I used to get these weird oily spots at the back of my head (by my neck and middle back of my hair). So when i took a shower, only certain parts of my hair would dry oily. Then i started using the nizoral shampoo and it got better. I also recently got a shower filter but haven’t really noticed a difference in the water quality. So now i’ve noticed that my hair is getting super oily very fast like sometimes even the day of i took my shower. And i feel like even when im shampooing my hair it just never feels clean no matter what I use and i feel like there’s always a film on my hair. I think my scalp could be very very very dry and / or my hair follicles are clogged from maybe oiling my hair (i’m not sure but i think i saw that somewhere). It would be greatly appreciated to know what your thoughts are on this and if you guys have any recommendations! Thank you!",0 +1543,"Can wearing tight fitting glasses over time cause hair loss/bald spots?. Just wondering, I’ve been experiencing some hair loss on the sides of my head, and a slight bald spot that I’m currently attributing to wearing eyeglasses over some years, however I’m wondering if I may be looking at the wrong cause. What do you guys think?",0 +1544,"Has anyone used texturizing spray on dry hair to add some volume for day 2 after washing your hair?. For more of a background, I know this is mostly used with towel dry/damp hair but wanted to see if anyone has used it with dry hair and if it’s worked.",0 +1545,"Thick hair tangling at base of neck. I’m growing out my hair, and it’s decently thick. My hair used to have no problem with tangling, and I could go the whole day without brushing it and it wouldn’t be too tangled. Now, the longer it gets the more it seems prone to tangling. Almost matting. My hair is slightly wavy, but is more wavy at the base of my neck than anywhere else. I’m considering getting an undercut, but I’m not sure about it yet. Any suggestions? I don’t want to lose any length",0 +1546,"In need of tips for hair growth!. I’m growing out my thick, slightly wavy, not dyed hair and feel stuck at the current length. I get it trimmed every 3/4 months but in between the past three trims I’ve received it feels like they’re only trimming the dryness that l I’ve grown out. I don’t notice any new healthy growth. + +Are their any serums or hair masks you recommend? For either dry hair or hair growth. + +Background: I let my hair air dry, apply heat to it once or twice a month and do a hair mask once a week.",0 +1547,"Hair Slugging. # Hair Slugging + +Initially, in the context of beauty routines, the term ""slugging"" referred to a skincare tip. The tip suggested applying a layer of petroleum jelly (for example, Vaseline) to your face as the last step of a skincare routine. The intended effect is to prevent dryness by sealing in moisture. Now, the hair care community is buzzing on TikTok with the term ""hair slugging"", which can be used interchangeably with the term ""hair oiling"". In general, I recommend that my clients follow a [hair schedule](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-schedules.html) that includes [detoxing](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-detoxing-your-hair.html) and [deep conditioning](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-deep-conditioning-your-hair.html) versus utilizing the hair slugging approach. However, you should read on to learn more about it and decide for yourself if you want to try it out.  + +(This is the entire text from my [original blog](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-slugging.html)) + +**What is hair slugging?** +Hair slugging is the concept of coating your hair in a thick, heavy product to seal in moisture (more on exactly which types of products below). I've seen a few different methods of using this technique over the course of my career as a hairstylist, and recommend taking these steps: + +1. Cleanse: Shampoo your hair. Some people suggest skipping the shampoo and just wetting your hair before application. This can seal in more of your natural oils during the process. Either way, you'll have to shampoo twice after. +2. Apply: Coat your hair from roots to end with the product. Some people also apply the product to their scalp. +3. Wait: Leave the product on for 10 - 15 minutes. Some people choose to leave it on overnight (leaving it on overnight is more commonly referred to as ""hair slugging"" versus ""hair oiling""). I recommend avoiding sleeping with wet hair since it can lead to [damage](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-i---damage.html). +4. Re-cleanse: Remove the product by shampooing twice and finish by drying your hair with a blowdryer or air drying. + +**What products should be used for hair slugging?** +Products used for hair slugging are oil-based with a thick consistency. Single ingredients commonly used in DIY methods, like coconut oil or cooking vegetable oil, have been used for hair slugging as well. You can learn more about your options for oil products in my blog post [Hair Oils](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-oils.html). In general, the hair products that can be used are marketed as a:  + +* Leave-in Conditioner +* Leave-in Oil +* Hair Mask +* Overnight Treatment​ + +**Should I use a sock?** +Some application methods mention tying the ends of your hair back with a ""fuzzy sock"", which is literally just a soft sock from your bureau drawer. This is more generally used by people who opt for sleeping with wet/damp hair during the application process. As mentioned, I usually recommend that clients not sleep with wet hair because it can lead to [damage](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-i---damage.html), but if you opt for this approach, the fuzzy sock can help prevent product from getting on your pillowcase if you are only applying it to your ends. The flip side is that it can also soak up some of the product during the night, which reduces the amount of product you're immersing your hair in. ​ + +**What are the benefits of hair slugging?** +The benefits are dependent on what product you use, how your hair reacts to it and your application method. For example, someone with naturally thick and/or curly hair may find that it helps add smoothness, moisture and shine with the right products. People with naturally ""puffy"" ends (who often need a stylist to use thinning shears on those spots during a haircut) may notice those areas become smoother and easier to manage and style.  + +**Are there any disadvantages to hair slugging?** +Not using the right product, application method and/or hair routine for your hair type can result in dryness. This can be seen immediately or gradually over time, and is the result of a product covering the hair in residue that is not fully removed from shampooing. This causes the product to have the opposite effect on your hair, drying it out by sealing it with a coating that prevents moisture from getting inside the hair shaft. One way of combating this is to switch up the types of products that you're using. Another is to add regular detoxes to your hair routine (you can read more about detoxes in my post [Detoxing Your Hair](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-detoxing-your-hair.html)). In addition, someone with finer hair and a naturally oily scalp may not like the results if they're not shampooing once before applying and twice after, plus if they choose a product that is too heavy for their hair type and moisture needs. ",0 +1548,"Hard water filter recommendations for shower?. I live in a place with water considered hard to very hard, and I come from a place with the softest water. Needless to say my skin and hair are in shambles. + +I’m not interested in buying hard water shampoo or conditioner right now, I buy my things Costco size and there’s still a lot left. Also my problem is not just with the hair, the hard water triggers my eczema and rosacea like crazy. + +I’m looking for recommendations on filters, there is a lot of conflicted info on Amazon, and I just thought I could ask here to get more personal experiences. + +Those of you who tried a filter, did it work? I deep clean my showerhead weekly and the bath tub twice a week, and it takes less a week to form hard water residue on it all over again, did your filter made it stop? + +Also, don’t even get me started on the flavor, hard water makes me feel even thirstier 💀",0 +1549,"Help with thinning, fine, curly hair & product to use.. Hi all! Long time lurker, first time poster. +I have naturally wavy/curly hair that seems to be getting finer with age, but it’s always been dry/frizzy and the curls undefined, so I’ve always tied it back in a ponytail or bun (edit: until recently as I thought that was making the hair break/thin, so I bought new product and then kept my hair down as much as possible). + +It seemed to be thinning more and more over the past while, so I changed from my drugstore shampoo & conditioner (Aussie for Curls) to Olaplex about 2 months ago, thinking the strengthening Olaplex line would help - but it’s gotten worse! It seems my hair is falling out even more, and my curls still look horribly dry and undefined, so obviously this product isn’t working for me. + +I’m wondering, PLEASE, if you fine folk may have another suggestion as for a product line to try before I lose all my hair! + +Note: 29F, un-chemically-treated hair but my hair has been going gray since I was approx 12, which affects texture. + +Thanks in advance!!! 💕",0 +1550,"Tips/advice or anything that works for hair growth? Is it even possible ?. I haven’t cut my hair in about 3-4 years. Only a couple trims for the dead ends, and honestly i don’t feel it’s long as it should be or how I want it to be. Help?",0 +1551,"Why is box dye so bad?!. Ok so I keep hearing box dye is bad, but no one says why. I saw a YouTube video say buy the developer and dye at Sally’s and use that. Ok, but is it better? How? + +My hair stylist today said she can’t ever lift box dye from my hair, which at the moment is fine, but one day I may want to join the silver hair club. I currently dye my hair dark brown, if I buy the developer and dye at Sally’s will they be able to lift that color? So yeah why is box dye so bad ?",0 +1552,"How to use bar soap properly without waxy buildup?. I developed dandruff last year and nothing helped (including prescription shampoo). My uncle said that when he was young he had dandruff and his mom made his some natural soap and it went away and never came back. My aunt bought me some natural olive oil soap and it is working in getting rid of the dandruff. HOWEVER, I also have always had really oily hair and using this soap, my hair looks and feels waxy after I shower. How do I fix this? Am I just not rinsing well enough? Does my hair just need to adjust?",0 +1553,"Best at home Keratin treatment for a mix of 2c-3c hair. Please help lol. I’ve had giant unruly hair my entire life. I’ve had blowouts in the past and they were a life changer…..but I always had a homie hookup where I used to live. I’m not trying to go blow several hundred dollars in this economy lol. + +Any suggestions for at home treatments? It is so humid where I live and I either look like braveheart when I straighten it or best case scenario Pam beezly but I have to blow a hole in the atmosphere with hairspray to achieve that look.",0 +1554,"Frizz hair problems..pls help :(. I’ve had frizzy hair for years now and have tried so many methods of trying to keep it down but since I have frizz all the way from my roots to the split ends of my hair there’s no quick way to get rid of them for me. + + It gets frizzy as soon as it starts air drying but I’ve started using better conditioners and have been t-shirt drying my hair for a few weeks but I’ve been wanting to find a better shampoo that’s natural and is specifically made to battle frizz. And I straighten my hair alot so something that can also help with heat resistance would be nice. + +Does anyone use or know of any not pricey products I should try or that has worked for your hair? (preferably at Walmart or on Amazon) Thank you!!!",0 +1555,"New to heat styling am overwhelmed by the different types and ingredients of hair products to mitigate the damage, what do I use?. I’m new to heat styling and plan on using a dryer brush (on the low setting) and am preparing for the damage I will sustain. But it seems there are a *ton* of repairing treatments, and they all say they repair. What type of treatment or what ingredients is the right one for heat damage? (Other than a heat protector which I just bought). + +A weekly hair mask? What kind, moisture? Protein? Keratin? + +Salon treatments like Olaplex? Protein treatments? Leave in oils? + +So many product types and ingredients, which do I need? Thanks. + +(My hair is kinda fine, frizzy curly before I did the keratin and deposit-only colored, not lightened).",0 +1556,"Product recommendations for Scalp inflammation/ hair loss. I need product recommendations and information!!!! + +​ + +I am having hair loss but I think it's because of scalp irritation. How can I tell what is wrong with my scalp and what products I need to be using? A while back I had some scaly flakes/scabs. I tended to have ""flares"" of these lesions and white flaky dander every month or so(never thought much of it) + +My dermatologist said I had a lot of dander and put me on a prescription ketoconazole shampoo 3x weekly. It helped significantly with hair shedding for about 2 months and now has stopped working. What could be going on? What do I need to do? I am desperate to stop hair loss.",0 +1557,what is a good shampoo and conditioner for fine hair?. ,0 +1558,"What are your favorite vegan, cruelty-free hair care products?. ",0 +1559,What’s worse - straightening hair on 150° C every day or 230° every two days. Trying to save my hair…,0 +1560,will i get heat damage if i straighten my hair every other day?. ,0 +1561,"Dry Shampoo and Leave-in treatment. Hello! New member and first post :) +I just got a dry shampoo that works well for me and picked up a trick from tiktok that if you put dry shampoo in your hair after washing (ie before it gets oily) it works better and that definitely has worked for me. + +I wanna know that the leave-in treatment i use (The Ordinary's Hair Serum) - should I put that before I dry shampoo or after. I typically put dry shampoo every night! TIA",0 +1562,"How long is good for the hair oil to stay on the hair?. Some says 1 or 2 hours, some says to stay overnight, how long should a hair oil stay in hair?",0 +1563,"Are supermarkets’ hair products really damaging?. Look, I live in a country where the options of brands of shampoo are really scarce, it’s a third world country. And if I want to buy “good” products for my curly hair there is a local online store that sells s#!t FOR 15$ AT LEAST no way in hell I’m going to spend that much money. I don’t have that much money to spend",0 +1564,"Looking for hair darkening shampoo/conditioner to replace my Aveda Clove products. I've been using Clove on and off for years now (back when they used to call it Black Malva even - I think that was the name). Now my stylist let me know they're getting rid of it altogether. + +Anyone have a recommendation for a product/brand that's similarly easy on fine hair that I could use to darken my hair up like Clove did? I liked how it would just give me a little refresh for my color at least for a couple days.",0 +1565,I have recently bleached my hair for the last few months and I have noticed there is a lot of moisture in my roots and it does not dry very well. I’m naturally very dark. There is also now a lot of kinks at my roots also that I never used to have an issue with. Please could someone help with this?. ,0 +1566,"Hair care ?. I'm a 23 yo female if that matters. The past couple of times I've washed my hair I got out the shower and as my hair dried I realized it was still greasy/oily. I only use shampoo bc my hair is soft and tangle free without conditioner and my shampoo doesn't dry my hair out. I tried Google but it gave me a bunch of reasons that ik aren't the issue. Could this just be me needing to change up my shampoo or could it be bc of my new job, do I need a new hair product or? Oh also I don't use any other products in my hair the only time that happens is when I on very extremely rare occasion style my hair and use hairspray. Any help and suggestions would be appreciated!",0 +1567,"Best Hydrating Mask or Deep Conditioner? *Bonus Question*. My hair isn't damaged so I was told not to use olaplex anymore.. I just have very wavy hair and I am trying to grow it out so I need suggestions for a new hydrating deep conditioner or mask that I can do weekly. I like Redken All Soft Mega Mask but I want something different. + +\*Bonus Question\* + +How the heck do people NOT wash their hair every day? I shower every day so it is really hard for me not to wash it. Do they still get it wet and just not shampoo? I don't understand. I have tried really hard not to but.. I have to shower every day or take a bath at least so..",0 +1568,"Hair Tips to Consider. We hear so many hair care recommendations, but which ones are right for you? Everyone's hair is unique and will respond plus adapt differently to a hair care tactic. Below I've given an overview of different recommendations I often give to clients, along with a comparison of why it does or does not work for different hair types. Use the overview to adjust your [hair routine](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-schedules.html) as needed.  + +​ + +**Train Hair to be ""Less Oily"" by Washing Less** + +**Not Recommended For:** People who feel their hair becomes drier during infrequent washing should avoid this method. The question you should really be addressing is ""[how often should I shampoo?](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-how-often-should-i-shampoo.html)"". The answer depends on your hair's density, health and the type of shampoo plus conditioner you use. + +**Recommended For:** People who like the way their hair styles better 1 - 3 days (or more) after washing it. ​*Note: The theory that you could ""train"" your scalp to be less oily was disproven in 1982 by* [*Kligman and Shelley*](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/13525782/)*. Washing your hair has no effect on the amount of oil produced by your sebaceous glands, which depends on hormonal and genetic factors. Additionally,* *your sebaceous glands have no way of responding to oils on the surface of your scalp.* + +​ + +**Don't Brush Hair When It's Wet** + +**Not Recommended For:** Hair that is more fragile when it's dry versus when it's wet. This is common for hair that is fine and/or has been chemically over-processed with color, perms or relaxers.  + +**Recommended For:** Hair that is already tough to detangle when dry (common for curly hair), and becomes more so when wet.  + +*Note: The exception to these recommendation pointers is when hair has been undressed or teased. In that scenario, all hair types should comb their hair out while dry before wetting it.*  + +​ + +**Don't Apply Conditioner at Your Roots** + +**​Not Recommended For:** People with thicker hair, hair that tangles easily or those who have a dry scalp (and thus have less natural oils in their hair). + +**Recommended For:** People with hair that becomes greasy at the roots quickly, which commonly requires daily washing. Avoiding conditioner on your roots eliminates additional residue that could weigh hair down and flatten it. + +​ + +**Use Sulfate-Free Products** + +**​Not Recommended For:** People who use a lot of product in their hair, and therefore need a stronger shampoo to remove build up.  + +**Recommended For:** People who shampoo 2 - 3 times per week, and feel that their hair is naturally drier, or have undergone chemical processing like color, perms or relaxers. + +*Note: The best way to see if sulfate-free products are right for you is to try them and see how your hair reacts. It is also a matter of preference whether you want to be using sulfate-free products in general, which is important to some people who prefer natural products.* + +​ + +(This is the [entire text](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-tips-to-consider.html) from my original blog post, which includes nine more tips to consider).",0 +1569,"How do I fix a bad hair cut? 😫. I have a first date on Monday and I was so excited I went to get a hair cut today. I asked for a trim and layers, they took off so much of my hair and the ""layers"" are shity its like she just cut my hair 2 different lengths and it looks choppy and just awful I want to cry I know it's just hair and it will grow back eventually but it just looks awful a Crack head could have done better. It there anyway to fix this other than cutting it up to the shortest layer which is by my chin, and the other layer is a little bit below my collar bone.",0 +1570,"Hair on top is straight but wavy on sides. My hair is definitely wavy, because everytime i cut the sides they grow back wavy, but for some reason my top is straight. I dont use combs. Is there a way to resolve this issue? I only have conditioner, shampoo to work with + +My hair should be 2a",0 +1571,Struggling with dry flaking hair for months.. I have thick curly brunette hair. The weather is bipolar with it being hot then cold. Head and Shoulders doesn't work and coconut oil doesn't either. I have dandruff and it sucks. Any advice? I want to try the egg/mayo hair treatment.,0 +1572,"Advice needed for toddler’s natural hair!. Hi everyone! So my husband and I have joint custody of his daughter. And we are taking her and her brother on a beach trip this coming week that we’ve been looking forward to for a literal months. The kids are so excited! I’ve spent several years at this point practicing and studying how to take care of her hair (white mom here) and I feel like I’ve gotten a really good hang of what products to use and some styles to do that I’ve gotten really good at that she likes. + +The original plan was that she would be spending the weekend at her grandmas and would have her hair braided before we left for the beach. The plan has changed though and we won’t actually get to the kids until very late tonight and we leave first thing in the morning. There’s no time for me to braid her hair and she won’t even see grandma (mom doesn’t braid so I can’t ask her). What can I do? What style can I do that will keep her hair safe at the beach? Better yet, what products can I use to keep her hair safe from the chlorine and salt water? She has type 4C hair, very tightly coiled. I’m really no pro at doing her hair, there are some styles I can do with ease, but tight braids are still very hard for me to do and honestly very time consuming and I don’t want her to spend her entire first day at the beach getting her hair braided. + +I’ve tried Google, but I always feel like it’s better to get personal advice. So anything y’all can tell me that will help me protect her hair will be greatly appreciated! + +Thank you!!",0 +1573,"how many times a week should i wash my hair?. +my hair type is 3B, when i went to the salon the hairdresser told me that i have thick hair, my roots are a little bit oily and the ends are dry. i wash twice a week and i feel that maybe i'm washing too much, since i've seen other people recommending washing only once a week, but i can't stay that long without washing because i feel that my hair is dirty and that bothers me",0 +1574,"Any reviews of Morroccanoil products. Hi everyone. I am looking for good quality hair care products. I heard online that morrocan oil is quite good and I just wanted a few more opinions. + +I have curly hair, no previous dye, dry at the bottom. Id like more shine and healthy look and for it to grow longer but in healthy condition.",0 +1575,"My 1A low porosity hair loves being blow dried? should I keep this up?. I have struggled for years getting my hair to remain moisture. I have found a very good regimine when air drying but it still doesn't latch on to moisture like it should. I get webbing and roughness in my tresses. + +I haven't used heat in nearly 5 years, but decided to try a hair dryer on cool to get my hair to dry a bit faster now that it is hip length. I soon graduated to warm (since cool didn't do a lick) and now my hair is smooth Shiney, everything I've ever wanted. + +I wanted to know if this will have long term affects and if I should continue doing this every wash day? + +TLDR: should I blow dry my low porosity hair to maintain moisture better?",0 +1576,"Seemingly healthy scalp itches. Hello! + +I'm prone to pretty oily hair so I wash my hair about every other day - if I go three days... sister is wearing a hat! + +I have clarifying shampoo that I use as needed and oil/conditioning treatments as needed. My scalp doesn't seem dry... no buggies... no flakes... Just wondering what I need to do to help. + +I have multiple of those spiky silicone scalp massagers and they feel so dang good. + +Thanks! :)",0 +1577,"Sudden dry scalp + thinning. Freaking out.. This year my scalp has become really itchy and dry. Specifically my hairline, like where the widows peak would be. Its dry everywhere but that spot seems to be the itchiest and driest. Also the [spot](https://imgur.com/a/LR7lo6n)I’ve been noticing the most thinning. (The pic is with freshly washed hair. No flakes cause I oiled beforehand) +I use to wash my hair once a week but this year, when I noticed how itchy it was, I decided maybe its best to do it twice. I also use to oil my hair every time I washed it in the past, I started slacking really hard on that this year and would just shampoo instead. I even started using this dumb [dove](https://imgur.com/a/xZ8gQAd) men’s shampoo.🙃 I was thinking my scalp needed to be clarified really well so I thought I’d use it sometimes along with my shea moisturize shampoo. (Like the wash day I would use heavy oil id use the dove) I’m just frustrated and scared that I messed up my hair and that I’ll be bald. I don’t look good with short hair like at all!! Please someone tell me if I can fix this. I’m never using drug store mens shampoo again 😭 I feel like thats the reason but idk.",0 +1578,"wavy hair. hii so recently i (17f, south indian) got my hair coloured about 3months ago this week ive cut my chest length hair down to my neck and i really like the short hair however i have no idea how to take care of it (had no clue before either and has extremely thin hair its genetic but i dont take care of it properly either), now i wanna colour my hair blue this week and also want tips on growing my naturally wavy hair out properly. Ive seen videos on both straight and curly hair and till now ive done legit nothing to care for my hair and i finally wanna start. Any advise is totally appreciated.",0 +1579,Question. How long will it take an average persons hair to grow 4 inches? Looked all over the internet and couldn't get a straight answer do any of you know?,0 +1580,"New to hair care. I (m37) am growing my hair out my hair. This isn’t the first time I’ve tried this. My hair is crazy and gets very “fluffy”, as I call it, bc i have to wash my hair a lot bc it dirty at my job. So with it being constantly dry and fluffy it gets out of control easily. Every time I get to the stage where I am, this awkward phase, I give up and cut it. But this time I’ve pushed through and I’m getting closer to the goal. What I need is a product to control my dry frizzy hair. Do I use an oil in it? What shampoo and conditioner should I be using? Please help this mop headed guy!😩",0 +1581,"Hair care help for my 15yo teen daughter.. My daughter has curly long hair (passed her shoulders) is medium thickness but she has A LOT OF HAIR. like a lot. She gets regular haircuts 8-10weeks and has it thinned out so it’s more manageable. + +The problem is we all know that excessive shampooing is not good for hair. I wash my pixie every 4-5 days. She knows this too. However, the 4-5” of hair from her scalp gets super super greasy by 36hrs after shampooing. She also gets a lot of flakes. + +She is currently on accutane for acne treatment as well. We cant find a proper shampoo and routine to keep her scalp healthy with no flakes but also not damage her hair and curls. She’s used a few different dandruff shampoos and they help the scalp but totally kill the rest of her hair. + + +Here’s the kicker, she is a swimmer and swim season goes from mid-June to mid-October. During swim season, her hair and scalp look absolutely amazing. So maybe it’s the chlorine? Idk + +Anyone have any suggestions to help?",0 +1582,"Curling iron/wand that’s good for fine hair that’s hard to keep curl?. Hello! I’m not sure if this is the right thread to ask this so if not I apologize in advance. + +I have short to medium hair that is naturally straight and very fine/thin that tangles easy, it’s is colored professionally with a dark brown that has a lot of copper undertones and highlights! + + +I’m looking for: +-curling iron or curling wand +-shampoo/conditioner for colored hair (currently using olaplex but it seems to be stripping my hair color) +-heat protectant spray +-hairspray/texturizing spray + +I shop at ulta a lot so I’d love if all the products available there but if I have to order elsewhere that’s fine.",0 +1583,how to take care hair during pregnancy??. ,0 +1584,"Frozen Egg Yolks. I have been using frozen egg yolks to wash my hair for a while now, and let me tell ya'll that shit works. + +Egg yolks are PH balanced and via emulsification both washes and moisturizes your hair. The frozen egg yolk makes application easy, like a 'putty' almost. + +the egg whites have the 'egg' smell, I rinse the yolk under a little water before freeze, have never had a problem with smell. + + +I add a bit of Honey, and use Moroccan oil or Moose after, naturally wavy hair that will keeps however I style it wet. + + +I literally have to wash my hair because my scalp needs to be washed before my hair does. I used to need to 'jush' my bangs on day 2/3 after wash, now day 3 maybe. + + +Shampoo and Conditioner as we recognize it is fairly new, dry shampoo is just modern powdering of wigs, +and I wish I'd investigated how people washed their hair before the 1900's sooner. Egg whites just get added to omelettes. + + +So please know you can wash your hair with egg yolks and live your best hair life. + +edit: formatting",0 +1585,"Trying to fix dry scalp and thick hair. Never really payed any attention to my hair or self care until recently so I’m new to this. + +Most of my late teen life to now (23m), I had rather thick hair. Never thought anything of it, but just lived with it. + +I never used conditioner, so o bought some for the first time and I feel like it has helped my hair feel more soft / thin in a way. It also seems to be helping with my dry scalp! + +Is this an intended use of conditioner or is it all in my head? + +I basically want to have more of a free flowing hairstyle cause when I grow it out now it sits very matted and hard to style, so I figured conditioning would maybe do this. + +Is it going to help me achieve this? Is there anything else I should try?",0 +1586,"Help with my moms (67) hair. So my mom went in for a surgery back in September, didn’t come home until this last week from the rehab because of other health issues. Her hair is shot! It’s so thin from what it used to be. I know stress does a lot and it wasn’t obviously cared for properly in that setting. What can we do to bring it back to life? She typically takes the hair/skin/nails gummy vitamins, but has been off them for a bit. + +It’s been really upsetting for her sadly. We did dye it today, box dye( sorry) but she was full gray and isn’t ready for that on top of her health issues. We followed that up with the new “wonder water” stuff and it made it very silky but just wondering where to go from here. Thanks for any advice ❤️",0 +1587,"What is the order to use olaplex products?????. I ordered everything but 7 (and 1 and 2 obviously). The directions on each bottle made sense initially. But now I’m reading them and they’re contradicting each other. + +Ex: apply 0 to clean hair, wait 10 minutes, apply 3, wait 10 minutes, then shampoo and condition + +I wash my hair once a week. Twice if I spent a lot of time outside on a particular day. Does this mean I’ll have to wash my hair before putting 0 since my hair won’t be clean, put 3, and then wash again? + +And do I have to wash my hair before using 8? If so, how do I fit this all in? + +This is the first hair product(s) that I’ve ever used that was more complicated than a regular old shampoo, conditioner, and leave-in product from Walmart, so I’m really new to this and I’m super confused. I feel stupid because I bought it, thought I fully understood the steps, and now I’ve got no idea what I’m doing. Please help",0 +1588,Hi I have externally dry coloured hair . And I’ve been using Ola plex . It did not suit me at all. I wanted some recommendation on affordable hydrating hair care products. Please help. ,0 +1589,"dupe for Oribe Supershine moisturizing haircream. Due to a change in life and finances, I cannot splurge like I used to on Oribe. I love the Supershine moisturizing haircream. It smells good, leaves my hair shiny and soft, and easier to style. My hair is very long, thick and straight. Any dupes or recommendations for a hair lotion that's moisturizing and great for post shower? Thank you!",0 +1590,"Affordable hair products?. I have lots and lots of hair, and it’s been dyed at the bottom in a salon. +The strands are thin but I have a huge amount of hair. +It’s straight + + +I’m looking for an affordable shampoo and conditioner (also a leave in) that I could get at Walmart/Target. +My hair DOES NOT react well to sulfates and I prefer not to have silicones in my hair products",0 +1591,"Hair wax almost everyday for 8 years. Hey! I'm a guy. + +I have had hair wax almost everyday since i was 10 year old and now I am 18 years old. I'm asking if this have ruined my hair and if it will ruin my hair even more in the future if i keep going. Is there any haircare product i can use to maybe restore my hair. My hair feels a bit damaged if i touch it. Do you think I should get my hair checked with an expert?",0 +1592,"Hair spray that isn’t tested on animals?. I’ve been looking for a hair spray that will make my hair less greasy, I haven’t found a hairspray not tested on animals that will un-grease my hair without having to wash it. Any suggestions?",0 +1593,I've been weaning my hair off daily washing for this past week and I've been washing my hair every other day then on the days I don't wash I use dry shampoo. Will this actually be effective in weaning my hair off daily washing or will it just keep my hair the same?. ,0 +1594,"Need recs for shampoo/conditioner for gray color treated hair. I have always had good hair. Wavy/curly but I usually blow it out. I decided to try curly girl and my hair stylist cut it differently and added too many layers and now I look like Jocelyn from Schitt’s Creek. I have started blowing it out again but it’s still really stiff and there is no movement. I don’t know how a haircut could trash my hair so badly so I am wondering if it’s because my hair has gotten more gray over time (I color and highlight so I am not sure but I would say I am about 70% gray at this point.) + +Anyway, I am desperate to make it feel less stiff and make it look silky with more movement again. Any favorite products — shampoos, conditioners, leave ins etc that really help your gray and or dry hair look better?",0 +1595,"Is what I am using fine?. 18 m and I have been using Maui Moisture shampoo and conditioner for a few years now and it has felt pretty good. + +Does this product have any long term or negative affects? + +Also I use Harry’s texture. Is this fine too?",0 +1596,"My hair ;-;. I need help with my hair.. I am 13 years old and my hair is Abt down to my butt may I say I'm 5'8 and kinda chubby I'm around 220 lbs and I need my hair to have more volume and be more a bit full I have dandruff but my hair get oily pretty quickly if you guys know anything that may help hopefully not too expensive but ty for.helping <3 +Also I wear my hair up all day bc its too long and 'm planning on getting a cut",0 +1597,"Do I have dandruff or dry scalp? How can I tell and what solutions are the healthiest (sulfate free, etc)?. I have pretty dry hair. It’s also fairly dull/less shiny than normal. I notice some white flakes falling when I scratch my head. + +My skin and lips are also somewhat dry if this helps you in your guess. + +Would these be signs of dandruff or dry scalp and if so, what solutions do you recommend?",0 +1598,"Protein Overload & Split Ends. I need hair help!! I’m assuming my hair is in protein overload due to my hair only becoming stiff and getting split ends from starting GNC Bulk 1340 a couple months ago. I don’t use heat, I don’t wear my hair in ponytails. My hair is low porosity, 2A-2B, thin strands but thick. I do comb the fronts of my hairs once it’s almost dry. I’m sure the winter air does not help moisturize my hair lol. I wash my hair every other morning and go out with a wet head. I’ve been French braiding my hair when I get home to help protect it. I have my humidifier going in my bedroom. My hair needs moisture bad!!! Please recommend deep conditioners or any products that will help. Anything protein free, alcohol free(don’t want to dry out my hair anymore). The fronts of my hairs are having major visible split ends :( I got my hair trimmed and dusted once in December 2021 and once January 2022",0 +1599,"OLAPLEX 1 AND 2. Guys , is it best to apply olaplex 1 and 2 at home ? or it would be better if i headed to a salon ? need your help ASAP",0 +1600,"Sulfate-free shampoo in Eastern Europe?. hello! I have very damaged curly hair, and I'd like to start a routine to return my natural curls. the first problem i come across is, i dont know where to find sulfate free shampoo. I've spent a lot of time browsing the local drugstores and looking through ingredients, with no luck. i also live in eastern europe and a lot of the products recommended on curly forums or here on reddit are not available/too expensive/only available online (thus don't ship to my country or ship at a ridiculous price). as im only starting to develop a hair routine, im not ready to spend a lot of money yet. the first thing that comes to mind is the dm (drogeriemarkt) store chain, as they're widespread in europe and carry a lot of the same products. so if anyone has any sulfate-free products from dm (or anywhere else, really, they just came to mind) to recommend, that'd be great! +thank you!",0 +1601,"Help this hair care noob.. So I'm nineteen years old and I've never did any kind of treatments on my hair. Like at all. I have this frizzy, wavy, but not curly kinda hair, that is EXTREMELY hard to maintain if not drenched in oil. +But now a function is fast approaching and I'm thinking about doing something so that I can atleast cut down the frizz on my hair. People recommend doing keratin treatments but I really don't want flat, straight hair. +Is there any treatment I could do (I live in Kerala, btw) that could just make my hair more manageable but not just completely change its structure?",0 +1602,"Chlorine damage… help!. Hi all! I recently went swimming in the pool for an afternoon (about 3-3.5 hours). After getting out, I immediately shampooed and conditioned my hair like normal. The next day, my hair felt extremely dry and straw-like and reeked of chlorine. + +I tried conditioning again and using leave in conditioner… which still didn’t fix it. We ended up getting our pool water tested and something went wrong and the water had extremely high chlorine levels… which explains the issue with my hair. + +Is there anything I can do to reverse this damage?? I tried using another conditioner tonight as well as a moisture treatment mask. This seemed to get the smell out mostly, but my hair is still sooo dry. I’m so upset and worried this caused permanent damage. Does anyone have any advice?",0 +1603,"Help: fine hair and on the dry side and dealing with hard water. i’m currently using Nioxin system 2 shampoo and conditioner - in the last few years my hair has gotten progressively harder to keep well moisturised, and now we have just moved to an area where the water is quite hard and it’s definitely made me hair significantly drier. the Nioxin doesn’t seem to be helping at all. i feel like i’ve tried every possible shampoo/conditioner best suited to fine hair and i’ve not seen much improvement from anything and now it’s extra dried out… advice please",0 +1604,"Hair thining from stress. Every winter and every exam period (im 24 f studying college) my hair ends start to thin which is making me sad cause i was used to having long beautiful hair. My hair was thick before and now i feel like i have one strand of hair on my head. I know it's caused by stress cause whenever i study for exams sometimes i forget to eat (im suspicious that i may have iron deficiency cause i don't eat meat that often) and my hair gets worst. How can i prevent hair thining from stress? I already ordered some supplements and rosemary oil. +Edit: i also don't use heat on my hair except for blow dryer and i sleep with franch braided hair.",0 +1605,"Looking for recommendations. So my boyfriend has, for the first time in his 33 years, grown out his hair. It's down to his shoulders, looks great. Problem is, he's got super thick, wavy/curly, coarse hair. He has no idea what he's doing so he's coming to me for help. Otber problem is, I have thin, fine, stick straight hair. So idk what I'm doing either. + +I need advice from someone with some experience and he won't let me ask his mom (lol). He mostly keeps it pulled back and tucked under a beanie, but I think if he can get the pouf and the strays under control he might wear it down.",0 +1606,"Hair dye advice!. Hiya, I'm hoping for advice +I dyed my hair yesterday and sadly it came out more of a reddy brown than I was hoping for, I was aiming for more of a deeper copper look. +Is there anything people can recommend to achieve this colour? This is what I have currently: https://ibb.co/mvjgnRJ + +Thank you so much!!",0 +1607,"Extreme hair loss, what can I do?? *long story*. I am a 19 year old female and I naturally have dark, thick and full hair. I have curly and dry hair. I wash it once per week (it never gets greasy or something because it is so dry) and it is always clean, more often is absolutely unnescessary. + +Doing my hair is a lot of work. I use shampoo, conditioner and a hairmask. I do flat iron it, and I dyed my hair 2 years ago (still visible). When I flat iron I use: oil, cream and 2 different heat protections (one cream and one spray). These are the only products I use for years and neber had a problem. + +I always lose a lot of hair when brushing but it doesn’t bother me since I always have so much and thick hair. (I mean that usually my brush is completely full with hair, this is normal). + +But I noticed my loss of hair being more than usual about a week ago but didn’t worry about it because I can lose a lot of hair and still have no consequences. + +Yesterday I took out my bun which I didn’t touch for 4 days and after doing so I was holding a big clutter of hair in both of my hands (normally maybe 2 hairs on the rubber band but NEVER seen this). I went to wash it then, ran my hand through my hair and heared something big fall… it was a BIG chunk of hair you couldn’t even see through it it was just a black clutter of hair. I started brushing and lost the same amount again. At this point I noticed that my once thick ponytail was now as thin as it could be, just one pathetic little curl is ALL my hair combined. Today the same story, when I run my hand through a strand of hair about 1/3rd came out. But after those loose hairs falling out, nothing fell out since (7 hours ago). + +I am loosing hair all over so it is not just in one spot. Still have thick hair covering the scalp (it is much thinner than usual but still considered thick). I haven’t ironed my hair all week, and it usually takes about 3 hours because I have a lot of hair. I was shocked that it only took 45 minutes today. + + +I am so scared of going bald. But I must say that when I was 7 years old and when I was around 12 I had the same problem I am currently facing. Exactly this. My hairdresser told me that once in about 7 years the structure of your hair changes. Looking back she was right, I used to have shiny wavy/ almost straight, black hair. Until that happened (the first time). Directly after it became very curly and very dry and lighter of color. So because it happened twice before my mom isn’t worried about me going bald because that somehow never happened these times either. I went to the doctor back then but he said it was nothing and we even brought the hair I lost with me. It went away on its own and never had a bald spot but the amount of hair I lose and how thin it is is concerning. + +Possible causes: +The past 7 days I have been under a lot of stress and I haven’t eaten almost all week. (My body is used to that honestly) and I lost over 90lbs this year. I did start a new birthcontrol 3 monthes ago and I smoke for years. + +Now that I’m a teenager who has her first bf for a month now😊, I am REALLY panicking about going bald. I can’t stop worrying. + +My question is: any tips/ advises to stop hair loss? + +Any idea what this is? + +Anyone else with the same thing? + +Thank you so much for your time! Looking forward to your replies💗",0 +1608,"Ways to increase hair volume on forehead hairline ?. My hair are good and have plaids volume rn . But I feel like the forehead part of my head has thin volume and I want to increase that as well as if there’s anything I can do to +Increase hair there please suggest I’m 22 f .",0 +1609,"Any other suggestions on hair-care methods I can include in my routine?. Hi All, + +Currently, I do the following things to take care of my hair: + +* Warm Coconut Oil Hair Mask (1 x week) +* Take Finasteride 1 mg (1 x day), I started a little over a month ago from today (11/28/21) +* Sleep 8 hours a day +* Exercise 5-6 x week for 45-60 minutes +* Try to eat a protein-rich diet with lots of veggies +* Sleep on a Silk pillowcase (apparently the silk does not ""pull"" on your hair as much at night) +* Use a shampoo brush when shampooing/conditioning (like the one [here](https://www.amazon.com/Scalp-Massager-Shampoo-Brush-MAXSOFT/dp/B074ZDXFL6?th=1)) +* Shampoo/Condition (2 x week) with tea tree mint shampoo and conditioner +* Use Nizoral while shampooing and conditioning ([here](https://www.amazon.com/Nizoral-Anti-Dandruff-Shampoo-Ketoconazole-Dandruff/dp/B0000Y3CRY/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=nizoral&qid=1638159322&s=beauty&sr=1-3)) +* Taking Biotin supplement (1 x day) +* Actively avoid blow-drying my hair, using excessive heat, and chemical products in my hair + +Do you guys suggest I add anything else to this routine? My hair is starting to thin a bit in the front, but it isn't too bad. I heard things like dermarolling may be good to look into. Any suggestions are much appreciated, thank you!",0 +1610,"Straight hair with bent/wavy strands sticking out. So i have straight hair but there are like pieces that dry bent/wavy, i know i for sure don’t have a curl pattern or anything like that but i’m not sure if it’s just damage? or what? the hair looks bumpy and it thins out at the end and if you feel it you can feel the hair being bumpy and not straight. not all of my hair is like this though, most of it is actually straight but these random pieces make everything look bad so pls help",0 +1611,"Products that give blow-dry look without actually blow-drying your hair?. Hey! + +I am looking for haircare products that can give a ""blow-dried"" look to your hair without actually having to blow dry it. The closest I've come is R&Co. Bleu (Highest Volumizing Mousse, Magnifier Thickening Spray & Lifestyler Volume & Texture Spray) but also like Oribe's products as well (Dry Texturizing spray, Maximista, Volumista, Dry Finishing spray & Anti-Humidity spray). + +Are there any other ways or products you all recommend that would help achieve this look? + +Thanks for reading and Happy Holidays!",0 +1612,"Hair oiling tips for newbies?. Hello! +I have recently decided to start oiling my hair, in hopes it will help tame my frizz, and restore some health and shine to my hair. +But I feel as if I am doing something wrong. +My hair is fine textured and not super thin but on the thinner side, straight-ish with waves. +I wash it 2x a week and lightly oil and massage the scalp and ends with rosemary essential oil diluted in Argon oil for 4ish minutes, then put a microfiber hair cap on and sleep, wake up 7ish hours later and do a double wash. + +However even though I have seen improvement in my frizz and shine, and my hair doesn’t get tangled nearly as easily now, I’ve noticed a LOT more hair fall out and feel as if my hair is thinning a bit, especially around my hair line (which is kind of scraggly to begin with and I’m attempting to fill it in more) + +Am I oiling wrong?",0 +1613,"Best supplement for hair growth?. I'm F27, based in the UK. + +I want a supplement for hair growth and care, especially as I have bleached highlights. + +I DO want to avoid any acne-causing ingredients as I know some supplements can cause issues with derma... + +I've never used one before so please advise me on what the best one is!",0 +1614,"Have any of you used rosemary oil for hair regrowth?. I’ve read here and there that it’s as good as minoxidil but with negligible side effects. It’s even backed by science! +If you’ve used it, how? Thanks!",0 +1615,"No-sulfate shampoo ruining my life?. Hello, + +I have thick dark brown hair and two months ago I went to a hairdresser who told me my hair is not exactly straight and I discovered I most likely have 2a wavy hair. Since then I've been trying to bring out my waves. I also told my hairdresser that my roots get greasy 1 or 2 days after I wash it but that my ends stay dry. I was told it is because I use shampoo with sulfate in it. + +I've bought a no-sulfate shampoo made for wavy hair. Every 3-4 days I wash my hair, put some shampoo on the roots and massage my scalp, rinse, put conditioner on the length of the hair, rinse, then dry it with a diffuser. + +At first it worked but a month later, my hair looks terrible. When I'm trying to rinse out the shampoo, my hair gets into sticky hair strands that are hard to move. I've tried rinsing more, putting less shampoo, more shampoo, nothing works. Then when my hair is dry it looks like it's greasy from root to end but mostly feels like it's covered by some product. It's not flowy or soft like it used to be. And when I run my hand through my hair, it comes out covered in something that feels sticky. + +I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I used to love my hair, everyone complimented it, and now I hate it, I'm losing so much hair in the shower, my scalp is starting to get damaged, I can't do anything with my hair, and it looks bad. + +Does anyone have any idea of why this is happening?",0 +1616,Shampoo everyday - hi how can i shampoo only twice a week when i get exposed to dust polution amd sweat everyday? And also what if i work out everyday? What i plan to do is use a clarfying shmapoo once a week and use a gentler shampoo daily. What do you guys think and what brand can you recommend. ,0 +1617,What age is normal for men to start losing hair?. ,0 +1618,"How long should I wait to workout after washing my hair?. I have medium length 3b/3c hair and I mostly do dance workouts at least 3-4 days a week (give or take a few days depending on my mood that week) + +I just finished washing my hair about 30~60 minutes ago. I was thinking about doing a dance workout sometime tomorrow in the morning or afternoon, but I'm not sure about it because my tends to get a little itchy kinda quickly (some days slower than others) + +If anyone with my hair type has a routine or tips they'd like to share, that'd be really great 🙂 +Thanks :)",0 +1619,"Bob with undercut question. Hey everyone! I had a bob before, and my hair is naturally wavy so it would always flip at the ends and I would look like Lord Farquaad. It was not flattering. I want to donate my hair and go back to short hair, and I want to get an undercut with a bob this time. If this helps, last time the stylist added zero layers and it was just a blunt bob. Will the undercut prevent my hair from flipping this time or do I need to ask for layering too? Or is it something that I’ll just have to style daily? Thank you in advance!",0 +1620,Any Help with frizz control for wavy hair? A decent product for a decent price. 🥲. ,0 +1621,"Tips For Scalp Care?. For as long as I could remember, I've had horrible dandruff. Every medicated, dandruff, 'special' shampoo my mother has handed me, I have tried. +Nothing has solved my dandruffy scalp. I keep myself very clean and perhaps this dandruff issue is from too much showering. +I have sores on my scalp (not from bugs), not sure from what. Whether they are cuts, 'gashes', whatever. I've put it down to perhaps I have sharp nails, but when I cut them, I seem to still get these cuts.. I'm not very knowledgeable about hair health, scalp health, or how to properly care for your hair. I don't use anything but shampoo and conditioner. I've tried scalp detoxes, they're uncomfortable and sometimes painful. I'm at a loss, I really hope someone can help me and give me tips without judgment. I truly want to have a healthy scalp, and be dandruff free.",0 +1622,hard water has ruined my hair completely what do I do. ,0 +1623,"Salon tips for men with long hair?. I have had really long hair my whole life, and for the most part have always been confident in it and how it looked, up until recently. Because of that I've never really gone to a salon or anything similar, and honestly have no idea where to start as far as what to tell them when I make my appointment. + + I know I don't want it cut drastically or colored in any way, so I guess I'm just wondering if someone could give me a run down on some basic treatments most places offer. Maybe some general salon etiquette as well? I have tried reading up on it but none of the articles really feel like they give me as much information as just asking a stylist directly. + +Mainly I just don't want to be a bad or annoying customer simply because I am entirely clueless on the matter. I realize all of this is kinda vague so, thanks in advance to anyone who might try and educate me a bit.",0 +1624,Looking for the most suitable hair oil. The ends of hair looks so bad. They are rougher than the rest of my hair. I'l l be trimming them off soon but what oil should I use if I want to prevent it from happening again? Im kind of afraid of using hair oil bec i feel like it will make my hair thicker. I already have thick hair so i dont want that to happen either.,0 +1625,"How can I make my hair frizzier/poofier? (Yes, you read right). I have stick straight, shoulder length dark hair, not a hint of volume. It’s virgin hair, never been dyed, and it looks nice and overall healthy (not too much breakage, nice shine). BUT - I look like an egg. It’s so slick and heavy against my head that even high amounts of the strongest mousses and sprays won’t do much to lift it. +Is there any (SEMI)PERMANENT treatment to just give it some volume and frizz? I don’t want orderly curls, just some more body, and I can’t really be bothered with curlers and involved/time-consuming styling. + +My dream is to have a mane, but it’s in my best interest to stick to reality.",0 +1626,Dust like particles come out of my hair when I shake it. When I shake my hair I notice tiny particles that come off of it. There is nothing noticeable on my hair when it’s just sitting. It’s almost like dust. I’m no expert but it doesn’t seem like dandruff just because of how small the particles are and there being no noticeable flakes in my hair. I used to use tresemme mouse every day and I recently started using a homemade sea salt spray every day instead. Any help figuring out what this is or how I can fix it would be great.,0 +1627,"Hair Oil Recommendations. Hello, I'm asking for any hair oil recommendations and I prefer that promotes hair growth which can also strengthen my hair strands (ps. I have a very long hair and I'm a bit worried since it's getting thinner as it's getting longer). So I'm eyeing argan oil, jojoba oil, and tea tree oil. What do you think about these? Also, is it okay to use keratin shampoo or conditioner after oiling your hair? Thank you.",0 +1628,buzzing my hair. i really want to buzz my hair but it’s super thin so i’m worried it’ll look patchy. will that happen or can i buzz it?,0 +1629,"Fried hair. So last night I bleached my black hair. It was bleached 3 times. Once last night and 2 times the night before. So obviously it’s damaged the ends was cut off. I have hair mask, deep conditioner. Is there anything else I should be doing?",0 +1630,"How to prevent product buildup?. I’ve been told what I have is product buildup by a hair stylist. Basically my scalp often gets itchy and has dandruff, however it’s not necessarily oily or dry. + +I currently use selsun blue and it definitely helps more than just using a normal shampoo, but I still have dandruff and itchy scalp. + +What can I do to help prevent product buildup? Any remedies I can use alongside selsun blue shampoo? Or is there a different shampoo that works better? + +Thank you !",0 +1631,"Products for bleached frizzy hair. Hi guys! + +My hair is really frizzy, while I also bleach it and wash it often due to dandroof. + +I use moroccan oil hair hydrating mask, recently added hydrating styling cream and L’anza healing oil. + +I know my hair would be extremely dry without those products, but I am wondering if they are the right ones for me? + +I tried heat protectant from Tigi (some like it hot one) but my hair became really tangled afterwards.. + +Curious to hear your opinions, I really do not know much about haircare ❤️",0 +1632,"Hair fall out. My hair has been falling out in what i think is somewhat large amounts on and off since i had both the covid booster, and covid in January 2022. I had bloodwork and all my hormones were in normal range. I did some rosemary scalp massages for awhile as well as took Viviscal vitamins. And even after stopping both several months ago it seemed to be under control. The past week it has gotten much worse like it was in the beginning. Does anyone have and ideas or remedies that could potentially or ideas that could explain why? +Thanks!",0 +1633,"How to properly wash wooden comb?. I posted the same topic to a different community with pictures so if some of you are curious, please take a [look](https://www.reddit.com/r/Hair/comments/xkc1lx/so_i_bought_this_wooden_comb_0480_converted_to_us/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share) here + +So today i found this wooden comb from a local store, it's pretty cheap ($0.480 according to the converter) and i rarely, rarely see these wooden combs & brushes at stores so i decided to give it a try. + +Now i have never used wooden combs/brushes before, i've heard alot of good benefits of it. + +This wooden comb is small toothed, idk if it'll be compatible with my hair since my hair is a bit... hard to detangle with just a wide toothed (Plastic) comb, but i find it easier to detangle my hair with (Plastic) brushes. +So i'm not quite sure. + +I haven't tried it tho because i haven't washed it. Idk how to wash it properly, do i just, wash it with water & soap? Does it need to be treated with ""Special"" treatments? Do i just clean it with cotton and cleanser? Idk so here i am, asking for opinions about this. + +Please educate me with anything i need to know about using a wooden comb!",0 +1634,My hair supper dead And I really don’t want to cut it is there any good shampoo I can use to bring it back to life ?. ,0 +1635,Does not washing work?. My son has not washed his hair for years. He says it self cleans. His scalp is scaly and hair thinning. I think he needs to wash it. Any thoughts?,0 +1636,"Every time my hair is ""healthy"" it gets very difficult to manage. Ever since I was younger my hair has always been such a hassle. It's often a mess no matter how much conditioner and detangler I use and I've tried many different haircare brands. I'll get home after a day out and brush my hair and find insane knots have formed that I didn't even know were there and hadn't appeared to be there and then spend forever trying to get them out. + +I have such trouble styling it if I need to section it because it's like I have an infinite hair glitch and it immediately starts tangling when I try to split it into sections. I was sick for a while and lost clumps of hair and my hair was so much more manageable. Then I bleached and cut my hair and, again, it was incredibly easier to deal with. + +Now I've been trying to leave it alone and the tangling and knotting is back as bad as when I was younger. I completely drench my hair in detangler and use a wide-tooth comb. It still doesn't work to the point where I recently needed to just cut a knot out. + +What am I doing wrong? I'm thinking of just going short again because I can't waste literal hours detangling after every time I wash my hair (which is like once every three days) and then many more hours for it to air-dry.",0 +1637,"Why did my hair change and how do i get it back to how it was?. Hey everyone! I’m here because at some point in the last 3 years my hair changed wildly from a more curly/wavy hair to a much more straight hair, the problem is i have no idea why this happened or how to reverse it! If anyone could help I would be forever grateful since i loved a more curly/wavy look + +Here are a couple of pictures in imgur of the before and after: [link](https://imgur.com/a/FBYeFIw) (I don’t know if it’s all that visible in these but i don’t take many pictures of myself) + +Some information of changes done to my hair in that time: + +- I let it grow long (think as long as Tom Hiddleston in the first Thor movie) + +- I changed my shampoo for a few months, but that was much more recent",0 +1638,Recommendations for hair loss products.... There's so many products out there that I finding it hard to decide. According to all the reviews everyone has grown thick lustrous hair after using the products. Which ones actually work and which are rubbish?,0 +1639,My friend washes his hair every other day white head and should but I’m here with a whole ass hair routine that’s for my hair type and somehow his hair looks better then mine genetic unfairness smh. ,0 +1640,"What to look for when buying hair dryer?. There are ceramics, ions, tourmaline, what have you. +What are the properties that make a difference and what to look for when buying a hair dryer?",0 +1641,"Could I get some recommendations please? I have thin (very thin at hairline) coarse hair and the ends always feel like a broomstick!. I’m looking for shampoo/conditioner/styling products (available in Canada please!). + +As mentioned my hair is thin but the actual strands are coarse and I get a lot of hairline frizz. My hair is naturally quite wavy but I do blowdry/flatiron once per week. It easily tangles throughout the day. I get balayage done 2x per year with bleach/toner/olaplex, and regular trims. + +My hair loves silicones, sulfate-free shampoo leaves it feeling super dry, hates protein (makes it feel crispy), doesn’t do well with coconut, and I’m looking for the beautiful glossy shine without it being too weighed down. My hair always looks flat and dull. Most oils are too greasy for me (trend seems to be more “natural” stuff so I’m having a tricky time finding something light and softening). I should note that my hair sheds a lot but no breakage! I’m also recovering from trichotillomania (thanks Covid) and recently lost 50 pounds in 6 months through diet changes. + +Any and all recommendations appreciated! + +Current/tested products: +- redken all soft mega shampoo/conditioner/leave in (meh, hair feels crispy) +- joico moisture line (meh) +- virtue healing oil ( I want to love it but I think it’s making my hair drier) +- virtue moisturizing conditioner (same as above) +- shu uemura cleansing oil shampo (love this stuff, HG) +- Bondi boost shampoo/conditioner (I think it cause more shedding? Not enough moisture for ends) +- olaplex entire line (6 is just ok, hate the rest) +- bumble and bumble invisible oil primer (I think I love it?) +- Kenra Pearl detangler (meh) +- biolage exquisite oil (clinging to my last drops, I love this stuff and it’s discontinued) +- Ag fast food (ok but heavy) +- alterna leave in smoothing gelee (fab for hairline frizz/coarse regrowth) +- Kevin Murphy (meh but it’s been a few years) + +Thank you again for your thoughts!",0 +1642,No mods?. Are there no mods on this sub anymore? I lové this sub but struggle with the duplicate posts about “greasy hair” “how often should i wash” “i have this question meant only for a professional but i’m going to ask reddit 8 times first” and reporting does nothing and when you click moderator lists there is no one. Is there anything we can do about this??,0 +1643,"My scalp is so dry and not producing any sebum or oils. Help please. Ive tried many things to moisturize my scalp. So what i believe definetly did this was that around when the pandemic started, i was taking hella hot showers and i believe it damaged the barrier on my scalp. I have curly hair(well “had” cause my har thinned a lot and barely looks like curls anymore so i dont really grow it out anymore) what do you guys know that causes the scalp to stop producing natural oils? Cause back when my scalp was i had no issues with my scalp itching and my hair was so nice. Also never had issues with flakes till now. Its so overwhelming trying to find the right products to use. Dandruff and medicated shampoos never help stop the itching and flakes, i feel like constantly using them made the dryness worse or may have even caused it idk. + + +Tl;dr: my scalp stopped producing oils and sebum,causing flakes and itching. Struggling to find any helpful answers",0 +1644,"my hair doesn't grow past a certain length. Any tips? It gets to a little bit past my breasts, just barely, and then it stops. I've tried trimming and not trimming. I don't really apply heat to my hair. I have curly hair that is kept appropriately moist. I rarely get split ends/breakage. I just got a sample of the surface shampoo for my scalp as I've had issues with my scalp and have tried countless treatments and remedies and shampoos and whatever. Dermatologists couldn't figure it out either. i think it works I'm not seeing a ton of stuff on my scalp now. Anywho, if there is another shampoo/conditioner I should try I'll look into it. I use it's a 10 conditioner but I'm going to run out in the next few weeks. I've tried castor oil on the scalp and it did help with some growth but that was for new hairs not so much the rest. My hair is not quite even either due to haircuts in the past but it's not noticeable when my hair is curly. It hasn't grown long enough for me to want to even it out yet.",0 +1645,"How to soothe an itchy post-bleach scalp. My scalp gets quite itchy when I'm getting it bleached, and the discomfort usually lasts for about a week after. Is there anything I can put on it to alleviate the itching? + +My inclination is to wash it as soon as possible (I typically only shampoo once a week), in case there are residual chemicals hanging around, but on the flip side I wonder if it's best to lay off the shampoo (ie. MORE chemicals) until my scalp heals up a bit. What's the best way to proceed?",0 +1646,"Hair breakage. This is for my grandma who’s in her 50s. Her hair is quite soft but so much hair snaps off (especially at the front) after washing or brushing through her hair. Her hair at the front has always been short because of the breakages. She has black hair and white strands appear so she dyes it using cheap box dye. I asked her how often she dyes it and she says about every 20 days, only at the white strands of hair (the white hair appears in like patches). Could dying her hair be causing this? I don’t think she can completely go without dying her hair as she’s insecure about her white hair.",0 +1647,"Product that will help me skip the hair dryer??. Honestly, I just don’t have the time to blow dry my hair everyday but I hate the way my hair feels when it air drys. Can anyone recommend something I can put into my hair either wet or dry that gives it that blow out feel? I have fine straight hair, prone to oiliness. Thanks for helping me be lazy!",0 +1648,"Need help / recommendations for a very itchy and dry scalp. In the last few weeks my scalp has suddenly become extremely itchy and dry after years of it being fine. I have suffered from dandruff in the past but not for the last 5-6 years until now. + +Here are some details about my daily haircare routine that might be useful: + +- I’ve used Head & Shoulders anti-dandruff shampoo for many years (this is probably a terrible shampoo for my scalp but it’s done the trick so far until now) +- I wash my hair every day (I know I probably shouldn’t but I can’t stand greasy hair) +- I have very short hair + +Do I need to change to a different brand of dandruff shampoo? Or should I start using conditioner + shampoo? If so, which ones? + +Not really sure where to start and some recommendations would be extremely helpful. Thanks in advance!",0 +1649,Leave in conditioner for dry low porosity hair?. Ok so I think my hair is dry and low porosity so I’m conflicted about leave ins? They are recommend for dry hair but not for low porosity? Do I have to just do trial and error and if so how would I know if a leave in doesn’t work for my hair or I just need to try a different leave in? Would it be better to use one with or without silicones? Ughh im so confused,0 +1650,"Help finding a scalp “detox”. I’m realizing after years and years of using A LOT of products to calm my very thick hair…I’ve probably got some mega build up. I’m Portuguese and Ashkenazi Jewish so my hair becomes very curly and puffy. I didn’t like it for a long time but am now starting to love it but I want to “detox” my scalp. This might sound gross and I know that…but I usually wash my hair every one and a half weeks. My whole life I was told to not wash it often because it will damage my hair. I’m really new to wanting to get more knowledge about hair. + +Looking for some recommendations on products to help cleanse my scalp. + +In the photo, I have an insane amount of products in my hair…I also just moved to a very humid place.. + +Please no judgment comments…I know it sounds bad.. + +https://imgur.com/gallery/QkPY3kR",0 +1651,"HAIR GOING GREY AT 15. My sister was looking at my head and spotted a single grey hair. Ripped it out straight away. + +Is this normal? What can I do to revert this change and stop my hair greying? Sorry if this isn’t the right place but I’m freaking out as I’m 15 and don’t want to start dying my hair. Are there any shampoos/conditioners/hair products I can use? Any food??",0 +1652,"Hair Care routine?!. I (Male, 22) don’t really know where to start! I know there are a couple serums and oils but I don’t know what works and then what shampoos and conditions to use plus a hair mask! Im just cluelessly watching vlogs of women discussing it but not really going in depth. I have thicc straight/wavy like hair!",0 +1653,"just shaved my 2.5 years hair. It was extremely messy and damaged. How do i grow it out and make sure it grows out healthy?. starting with I'm a guy. I didn't shave for 2.5 years. I liked long hair but it was really hard to manage. Takes hours to comb through. Gets tangled easily. Lots of split ends, its thick and with just little bit of moisture, becomes a bird's nest. So i shaved it off for a fresh start. + +My scalp has lots of dandruff. Its almost like a wet paste of dandruff. + +lots of hairs have a rough texture and varying thickness along the length of it. + +i have so much hair that every barber that i went to commented on it and struggle to manage it. + +given all of this, what do i have to do to make sure i end up with healthy and nice looking hair? + +I still want long hair but i just don't want to deal with using irons anymore. Too much of a pain in the ass. I just want to be able to take a shower without having to spend hours trying to get it to be managable. + +Please help. Ill provide any more info that you might be intrested in. I have a few photos if needed. I can also find online photos of similar looking hair. + +thank you all.",0 +1654,"What’s your all time favourite hair product. Please include your hair details (length, porosity, etc) I need some products to try 😭",0 +1655,"Ladies how often do you wash your hair?. Hi ladies, so I’m a first time hair colour changer and I recently got brown highlights on my fine Indian hair (not a drastic change LOL). I’m curious to know how often you ladies that have coloured hair wash your hair. With my virgin hair I would wash it every other day cause it got greasy from the top very fast. I’m also hoping to get a routine down so that I don’t have to wash my hair as often and then on your off days that you aren’t washing what hair styles do you recommend for medium length hair.",0 +1656,"Build up on hairbrush after every single time i brush my hair. I have been using Dr. Bronners pure castile bar soap for almost a year now and have run into a few issues along the way but all of them got resolved within a month or so. I currently am using the hemp-citrus scented one and an apple cider vinegar conditioning rinse from nature love. it was working well for a while until recently. my hair brush has been collection this weird build up on the brush and on the side that goes against my hair. i can remove it easily with my finger from the sides but i have never had this issue until recently. i have not switched products at all for several months and i have never had this issue before. I was on a consistent schedule of washing my hair every Tuesday and following with a conditioner rinse. I always rinsed well and ended with a cold water rinse. I there was a 2 week period i did not wash my hair because I had ran out of the conditioning rinse and was waiting for one the arrive. i returned to my regular routine after but now en excessive amount of build up is now on my brush after each time i brush it through my hair. I ordered the exact same one but it seems to not be settling well with my hair. I have conditioning rinse twice a week and washing once and that did not help. I am not sure of what to do. + +Ingredients in the Dr. Bronners Pure Castile Bar Soap Hemp-Citrus: +Organic Coconut Oil, Organic Palm Oil, Sodium Hydroxide, Water, Organic Olive Oil, Organic Orange Oil, Organic Hemp Oil, Organ Jojoba Oil, Organic Lemon Oil, Organic Lime Oil, Sea Salt, Citric Acid, Tocopherol +(Word for word ingredients) + +Ingredients in the Nature Love Apple Cider Vinegar Conditioning Rinse: +Purified Water (Aqua), Sodium Cocoamphoacetate, Lauryl Glucoside, Soduim Cocoyl Glutamate, Sodium Lauryl Glucose, Carboxylate, Glycerin, Polysorbate 20, Propanediol (Zemea), Persea Gratissima (Avocado) Oil, Aloe Barbadensis (Aloe Vera) Leaf Juice, Pyrus Malus (Apple Cider) Vinegar, Phenoxyethanol, Dehydroacetic Acid, Benzyl Alcohol, Fragrance (Parfum) +(Word for word ingredients)",0 +1657,"i don’t want to wash my hair daily but i get so sweaty. I am a very sweaty person, especially on my scalp, neck and face. this results in my hair getting really wet every day that I do any kind of physical exertion - working out, going for a walk, building things, etc. I know that I shouldn’t wash my hair every day and I honestly don’t like to wash it every day. I try to only wash it as often as 100% necessary which ends up being 1-2 times a week. However, I feel gross letting my sweaty hair dry without washing it. Any tips on how to stay hygienic and clean without washing my hair too often?",0 +1658,"I have fine curly hair i think? i don’t know how to take care of it i don’t k is what products any help or input would be appreciated.. I have never used fancy products i don’t even know where to start sometimes i use moose to keep the curls in, and i don’t know how this sub works i don’t see a mega tread, like i said in the title im clueless please help. I also feel like i would like more thickness and that i might be able to get some back if i use the right products. i’ll try to figure out how to put pics of my hair in the comments if it’s allowed. + +Thank you!",0 +1659,"My hair type changed, is it ok?. My hair used to be a bit wavy for years. But now it turned completely curly. Is it normal? +I feel like maybe it is much damaged and the lack of water causes this to be curly. +(Hope I’m asking in the right community.)",0 +1660,how can I take care of my hair?. I have short 3b-3c hair that I'm trying to grow out. it's very frizzy and poofy and just looks like a mess all around. I've been trying to figure out what products to use to take care of it and I was hoping for some advice. I tried as I am shampoo and conditioner but it weighs my hair down and it's still pretty frizzy. any other recommendations?,0 +1661,"Will this product be enough to supply my hair with protein. For context, I have wavy, low porosity hair. I heard you need protein and am not sure if I am getting enough. + +Here is [the leave in conditioner I use](https://www.amazon.co.uk/John-Frieda-Miracle-Detangling-Conditioner/dp/B006VHLKRS). I am looking into buying a new one as I don't think this gives enough protein. I use this every day after showering.",0 +1662,"I have really bad dandruff/ flaky scalp, my moms says it’s bc I don’t was my hair properly. I would like advice/ tips on how I can get rid of it , please any suggestions are welcome. ",0 +1663,I am overwhelmed.. How do you go about setting up a hair care routine when there are so many products and so many different opinions about what is best and what is not?! I am having such a hard time figuring our what chemicals I should avoid and how many products I actually need to be using. Not to mention how some products are so expensive! All while trying to be sustainable and limit my waste. How do I navigate all of this? What brands can I trust to have good ingredients and that are good for the environment? for my hair?,0 +1664,"How can I fade my pink hair out more evenly, preferably without bleach or dye?. I’ve had my hair pink for a few months, and as it fades, it fades unevenly. Some areas are still noticeably pink, some are a really light pink, some are my natural brownish color. It’s like some weird gradient with ADHD. Tbf, it still looks good, but I want to dye my hair a dark blue next, but I need the pink out first (the blue will also be my first time doing it with box dye since I’m 18 and have to buy my own appointments now lmao). Any ideas?",0 +1665,"Buzz cut bleach. +Hi, I have dark brown hair and a buzz cut. I bleached my hair at a salon expecting a yellow color but the top of my head seems to have an orange tinge. Is it healthy to go get it bleached again, or is there another solution? Also, the sides of my hair, which are shorter, seem to be a nice yellow color. Is this because longer hair is harder to bleach?",0 +1666,"How much heat damage does the revlon spin brush give you?. I own a revlon spin brush, and i love it!! But im on a hair growth journey , im trying to get to tailbone length, right now im at the end of my bra strap . I try to use the least amount of heat on my hair possible , but I have naturally wavy kinky frizzy hair so the spin brush is my favorite go to style .",0 +1667,"Thick, curly hair. What do?. So I have pretty thick (starting to thin a bit now that I'm in my 30s) curly hair. I have an active job, I sweat a lot and there's a lot of dust and debris around the job. Feels pretty gross not to wash my hair every day, but everyone and their mother says that's bad for your hair. + +Sooo I'm looking to try conditioning every day and just washing every other? But I have no idea where to start. Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated. I'm attempting to let my hair grow out a bit, and it's pretty much always an unmanageable semi-afro unless it's directly after a shower.",0 +1668,hair tips plss. So i bleacbed my hair 2 times over the gears and colored it maybe about less than 10 times and this is in the soan of year but now im just having loads of hairfall like i cant even brush my hair anymore because in scared of the hairfall i get like a hand full of hair if i brush it once. What can i do to help it... and umm my hair is not brittle or dy it sometimes becomes a little bit dry if i dont condition it but if i condition it it just feels like normal hair..,0 +1669,"Hair Slugging. # Hair Slugging + +Initially, in the context of beauty routines, the term ""slugging"" referred to a skincare tip. The tip suggested applying a layer of petroleum jelly (for example, Vaseline) to your face as the last step of a skincare routine. The intended effect is to prevent dryness by sealing in moisture. Now, the hair care community is buzzing on TikTok with the term ""hair slugging"", which can be used interchangeably with the term ""hair oiling"". In general, I recommend that my clients follow a [hair schedule](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-schedules.html) that includes [detoxing](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-detoxing-your-hair.html) and [deep conditioning](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-deep-conditioning-your-hair.html) versus utilizing the hair slugging approach. However, you should read on to learn more about it and decide for yourself if you want to try it out.  +(This is the entire text from my [original blog](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-slugging.html)) + +**What is hair slugging?**  +Hair slugging is the concept of coating your hair in a thick, heavy product to seal in moisture (more on exactly which types of products below). I've seen a few different methods of using this technique over the course of my career as a hairstylist, and recommend taking these steps: + +1. Cleanse: Shampoo your hair. Some people suggest skipping the shampoo and just wetting your hair before application. This can seal in more of your natural oils during the process. Either way, you'll have to shampoo twice after. +2. Apply: Coat your hair from roots to end with the product. Some people also apply the product to their scalp. +3. Wait: Leave the product on for 10 - 15 minutes. Some people choose to leave it on overnight (leaving it on overnight is more commonly referred to as ""hair slugging"" versus ""hair oiling""). I recommend avoiding sleeping with wet hair since it can lead to [damage](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-i---damage.html). +4. Re-cleanse: Remove the product by shampooing twice and finish by drying your hair with a blowdryer or air drying. + +**What products should be used for hair slugging?** +Products used for hair slugging are oil-based with a thick consistency. Single ingredients commonly used in DIY methods, like coconut oil or cooking vegetable oil, have been used for hair slugging as well. You can learn more about your options for oil products in my blog post [Hair Oils](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-oils.html). In general, the hair products that can be used are marketed as a:  + +* Leave-in Conditioner +* Leave-in Oil +* Hair Mask +* Overnight Treatment​ + +**Should I use a sock?** +Some application methods mention tying the ends of your hair back with a ""fuzzy sock"", which is literally just a soft sock from your bureau drawer. This is more generally used by people who opt for sleeping with wet/damp hair during the application process. As mentioned, I usually recommend that clients not sleep with wet hair because it can lead to [damage](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-i---damage.html), but if you opt for this approach, the fuzzy sock can help prevent product from getting on your pillowcase if you are only applying it to your ends. The flip side is that it can also soak up some of the product during the night, which reduces the amount of product you're immersing your hair in. ​ + + +**What are the benefits of hair slugging?** +The benefits are dependent on what product you use, how your hair reacts to it and your application method. For example, someone with naturally thick and/or curly hair may find that it helps add smoothness, moisture and shine with the right products. People with naturally ""puffy"" ends (who often need a stylist to use thinning shears on those spots during a haircut) may notice those areas become smoother and easier to manage and style.  + + +**Are there any disadvantages to hair slugging?** +Not using the right product, application method and/or hair routine for your hair type can result in dryness. This can be seen immediately or gradually over time, and is the result of a product covering the hair in residue that is not fully removed from shampooing. This causes the product to have the opposite effect on your hair, drying it out by sealing it with a coating that prevents moisture from getting inside the hair shaft. One way of combating this is to switch up the types of products that you're using. Another is to add regular detoxes to your hair routine (you can read more about detoxes in my post [Detoxing Your Hair](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-detoxing-your-hair.html)). In addition, someone with finer hair and a naturally oily scalp may not like the results if they're not shampooing once before applying and twice after, plus if they choose a product that is too heavy for their hair type and moisture needs. ",0 +1670,"What do these products mean and how to use?. Hello! I was told by a previous hair dresser (a while ago and I do not have her contact info) the products she was using on my hair to cover my greys and tone my hair: + +4N and 20 volume - redkin +7-71 wella toner + +Could someone please explain what these products actually are and if I were to buy to use at home are the instructions intuitive? I have since moved to a very high cost of living area and to get my hair done has become quite expensive. + +I want to stick to getting haircuts at the salon for now as I’m finding I have to redye my hair every 2.5 months at the rate my grey hair is growing. Thanks in advance for any advice :)",0 +1671,I have severely chlorine damaged hair…help. So for a little over 8 months now I’ve been working as a water safety instructor for mostly pre-school to elementary aged children meaning I’m in the pool for quite a few hours at a time for about 5 days a week. I’ve recently started to notice how truly chlorine damaged my hair is. I used to have super nice thick dirty blond hair and now I have super dry brittle blond (almost platinum at the tips) hair. Is there any way I can fix this without using products that are tested on animals. Ik there are many products out there that are designed to help but I just haven’t found any not tested on animals.,0 +1672,"Aveda Salons. Hi everyone! + +What’s your thoughts on Aveda salons and products? + +I have fine hair and often get blonde highlights… looking for products that are not harsh and hopefully have less chemicals!",0 +1673,"scalp buildup. What does someone recommend for removing scalp buildup? I have a small theory that my scalp itch is part of gunk buildup from a few factors. Let me know if it makes sense? + +1. Shampoo and conditioner aren't rinsing out all the way. Is this caused by using too much or either 1? + +2. My work environment is cabnitry making, I work with fine dust. Despite using fans, I think it's settling in my hair, partly causing the buildup? + +I haven't changed my routine, except only washing 1 day a week. I used to wash every other day. I've change that in the last few yrs, simply because I'm exhausted from my work day and I have 2 children. + +Does this sound like an accurate assumption? Would anyone recommend products I can use at home?",0 +1674,"Getting Rid Of Hair Dye.. Decided to go gray and want to get rid of hair dye which I have been applying since the last 5 years. +A hairstylist told me that bleach is the only option but it’s gonna damage my hair.",0 +1675,"UV protection product recommendations. Hi y’all. I work outside for a living & wear a hard hat every day, with my hair in a low bun that sticks out. Last summer I noticed that the hair that sticks out of my hat gets way lighter than the hair towards my scalp throughout the summer and it leaves my hair having inconsistent color. At my last haircut my stylist mentioned using a UV protection product, which I never knew was a thing. Does anyone use a product like this that they would recommend?",0 +1676,hair care tips?. i’m white and have slightly wavy medium length hair but recently it has been falling out more than usual when i wash it (wash day is every 2-3 days) and it’s been feeling really dry lately. any tips on why and how to soften it? i saw leaving in olive oil overnight is helpful but i feel like that would make my hair oily for weeks,0 +1677,What is deep conditioning and how do i do it? Are there any specific products that are needed? I have thick dry curly hair as i was scrolling up saw that deep conditioning helps. ,0 +1678,"I’m embarrassed by my hair. I don’t know what to do anymore.. I’ll try to keep this as concise as possible….. I am a 29 Y/o East Asian woman and I have very fine hair that keeps snapping, breaking, splitting, frizzing, etc. I have tried every product under the sun… I have tried minimizing my stress and staying hydrated. + +My hair has always been thin and wavier than your “average” East Asian hair, but I’ve noticed the texture has become a lot more brittle over time. + +I guess some important information to note is that I take multivitamins every day and am mostly vegetarian. I’m also on a few prescription meds like Zoloft and Vyvanse, but my doctor has told me that my hair thinning isn’t related to my meds. I also work outside all year round 5 days a week, which could have much to do with it, considering I live in New England where the summers are hot and the winters are cold. + +I am at a loss for what I can possibly do to strengthen my hair. I have tried every type of shampoo and conditioner under the sun, ones that are for sensitive scalp and for babies, ones that are sulfate free and I’ve tried Olaplex and I find that it just clumps my ends together and even more hair ends up getting tangled and knotted. + +Please help me! I cry over my hair every day.",0 +1679,"Can't wash all my shampoo out!. So I feel really silly saying this because I've been washing my hair long enough that I should know better, but I literally cannot wash all my shampoo out no matter how long I'm in the shower for. When it comes to drying it, especially underneath at the roots it just feels like a slight sticky residue. I have tried everything I have seen online, and really am trying to get it all out! I have used detoxing shampoos etc but nothing is working. Does anyone know how to help?! +context- I have thick brown hair that falls mid back length.",0 +1680,"Boar bristle with thick hair?. Hello, I’m new here! I just purchased a boar bristle brush (Wet Brush) to try to keep my hair looking better between washes. I have thick hair strands and a LOT of hair. I currently have to apply the brush to my head, wiggle it a bit to get the bristles down into my hair, and then pull. Is this right? 😅 Does that mean my hair’s too thick for this type of brush? Are there brushes where the bristles are a longer length? I’m looking for an affordable option (below $30) if you have recommendations! Thanks in advance!! + +ETA: My hair was fully dry! I know the brand I chose makes it confusing.",0 +1681,"Keratin treatment done today. Need advise. Calling all hairstylist/ keratin treatment veterans. I did my very first treatment today. So I have been researching the process and from what I saw is that the treatment takes 2-3 hours, hair gets straightened multiple times, etc. However this was not my experience. I got the full keratin treatment which is supposed to last 6 months. The process took less than an hour. My hairstylist washed my hair 3 times, applied the treatment, immediately blow dried and straightened the hair once. Asked me not to wash my hair for upto 72 hours and sold me a shampoo/ conditioner/ dry shampoo and sent me my way. I am worried if this is money wasted. I Ofcourse haven’t washed my hair yet and won’t do it until after day 3. Does this seem right? Should I call the salon? I have since straightened my hair twice after getting home because my 7 month old keeps touching my hair and me laying down/ resting my head, etc I don’t want to crease it. Please advise 😩",0 +1682,"Deep conditioning shampoo. My hair is coarse, thick in density and high in porosity. I have a hard time managing it. + +I already have a hydrating conditioner, but wanted to know a good deep moisturizing shampoo to fix dryness.",0 +1683,"My soft hair turns into thick hair after a while from bath. I am a guy that have a soft hair, when i shower it is so soft and straight even when it dries but after 4-5 hours it gets thick and it start to curl. What can i do to keep it soft, light and straight?",0 +1684,"How to make straight hair hold a curl?. I’m a 24f with mostly straight hair (with a slight waviness), not thick but not thin. Any time I’ve tried to curl my hair, no matter what hair spray I’ve used, it goes straight within 5 minutes of being outside. I live in south Florida so I’m fighting against the heat and humidity pretty much all year. Does anyone know of a hairspray that will hold a curl in straight hair even with humidity (that doesn’t make hair stiff/crunchy)?",0 +1685,"A shower cap that only washes a part of your hair. Hi Everyone, +I'm launching a new shower cap, the Qweeni Cap, at CosmoProf Vegas next month and would love your feedback on a new beauty supply product. + +This is a unique new shower cap that allows you to wash as much or as little of your hair in the shower while keeping the rest of your hair completely dry. This is designed to be used for your ""in between days"" of a full wash and salon fresh or no wash days. This patented product eliminates the need for dry shampoo and lets you wash the dirty parts of your hair saving you product and time in your daily hair care routine. Perfect for the mane and hair extensions. + +It's name is the Qweeni Cap... Please check us out at Qweenicap.com + +Let me know what you think... +Thank you!",0 +1686,does keratin do hair fall? ive been using it recently and i noticed i have more hair fall than i used to.. ,0 +1687,How would I maintain a mullet fade?. I’m thinking of getting a mullet and I don’t want to spend lots of money getting it trimmed at the barbers so how can I maintain it or should I just get it trimmed monthly?,0 +1688,"How to get rid of dryscalp?. For the past 9 months I've been dealing with dry scalp and I need advice on how to get rid of it or what's causing it! Also I have long hair (nearly all the way down my back) and I'm struggling to get the existing flakes out. Even when i brush my hair they just move from the scalp to like midlength or wherever along the hair. +Please help me 😭",0 +1689,"California-based Hair Care. When thinking about California, images of surfing, sun and Hollywood glamour come to mind. It comes as no surprise that the so-called ""Golden State"" is the starting point for many successful beauty brands, often launched via partnerships with famous stars and starlets that call the area home. Proximity to these industry power players gives brands the ability to set the status quo, pursue innovation, push boundaries and strive to leave a legacy. I've highlighted some of the hair-specific brands I've been following below. True to California's holistic culture, most of these brands are rooted in the foundation of healthy, organic, vegan and /or cruelty free products. + +(This is the entire text from my [original blog](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-california-based-hair-care.html). I have no affiliation with the following companies - besides residing in the same state!) + +​ + +[**Innersense Organic Beauty**](https://innersensebeauty.com/) + +Innersense was created with one of the founder's daughters in mind, who was born with special needs and inspired an awareness of the importance of living a clean and healthy lifestyle. Headquartered in Concord, CA, they are sold in salons and spas as well as green beauty boutiques throughout the United States and Europe. They're widely known for curls, but their range of hair care offerings is suitable for all hair types.  + +* Offers: shampoo, conditioner, masques, oils, styling products and combs +* Key focus: organic, natural, vegan, no animal testing + +​ + +[**Juice Beauty**](https://juicebeauty.com/collections/juice-organics) + +Founder Karen Behnke opened Juice Beauty in San Rafael located in Marin County in 2005. In 2018, they purchased a sustainable farm located in Healdsburg, California, the heart of the Sonoma Wine Country, for ingredients and inspiration. While known for skincare, they do have a small selection of hair care products. Her brand is featured in major magazines and sold at retailers like Whole Foods. + +* Offers: shampoo, conditioner and masques +* Key focus: organic, natural, vegan, no animal testing + +​ + +[**Playa Beauty**](https://playabeauty.com/) + +Inspired by the laid back atmosphere of Venice California, Playa offers a full range of haircare. They describe the smell of their products as “ black coconut, orange blossom, fresh sandalwood, and pacific musk”. Manufactured in Venice and sold in  25 stores across the U.S. and in 50 Mecca stores across Australia and New Zealand.  + +* Offers: shampoo, conditioner, masques, oils, styling products and combs +* Key focus: UV protection, recycling, cruelty free, no use of SLS (sodium lauryl sulfate), parabens, phthalates or dyes + +​ + +[**La Tierra Sagrada Hair**](https://latierrasagradahair.com/pages/about) + +Sondra ""Stefani"" Padilla, a hair professional veteran that has been in the industry for 20+ years, is the creator of La Tierra Sagrada Hair. Started in Los Angeles in 2014, she launched her line after a series of health problems. With a focus on rituals and plants, she set out to create a haircare brand that aligned with her values. The majority of the product's ingredients are sourced from within the United States. You can purchase it online or in stores in the US. Sharing a list of companies that sell La Tierra Sagrada Hair [here](https://latierrasagradahair.com/pages/stockists).  + +* Offers: shampoo, conditioner, masques, oils, styling products and combs +* Key focus: organic, natural, vegan, no animal testing + +​ + +[**Baxter of California**](https://baxterofcalifornia.com/) + +Products created by Baxter Finley Barber + Shop in Los Angeles. Baxter Finley started to develop his product line in 1965 with a focus on mens hair. Their products are sold in barber shops, salons, professional specialty stores and at their store. Their store is located 515 N La Cienega Blvd, West Hollywood, CA . + +* Offers: shampoo, conditioner, masques, oils, styling products, combs for men or short hair +* Key focus: quality ingredients + +​ + +[**California Pure Naturals**](https://californiapurenaturals.com/pages/story) + +A vegan beauty brand started in Southern California. They focus more more on skincare, but do offer a few shampoos and conditioners. Their products use California grown fruits, herbs, and botanicals, which are their preferred way to source ingredients. They offer options for getting in touch with an aesthetician to find out which products will work for you.  + +* Offers: shampoo, conditioner +* Key focus: 70% organic, vegan, gluten free, cruelty free + +​ + +[**BYRD Hair Care Products**](https://byrdhair.com/) + +BYRD hair care is inspired by “the gentlemen surfer”.  Founder Chase Wilton grew up in Newport beach, and was inspired by California surfer culture. The line is adorned with a small yellow bird mascot and is produced in a solar powered facility in California. + +* Offers: shampoo, conditioner, masques, oils, styling products and combs for men or short hair +* Key focus: quality ingredients, natural extracts + +​ + +[**Moon Juice**](https://moonjuice.com/pages/job-openings) + +Founder Amanda Chantel opened her first shop almost a decade ago in Venice, California. You can visit 507 Rose Ave to enjoy a juice, milk., tonic and/or treat. It's not your traditional shampoo and conditioner hair care, which makes them interesting. For example, they sell a multivitamin for healthier hair. + +* Offers: a supplement for hair +* Key focus: organic, natural, vegan​ + +​ + +[**FoxyBae Hair**](https://www.foxybae.com/) + +FoxyBae Hair is a West Coast beauty brand based in Los Angeles, California. Online global ordering lists hair care and hair tools. The items sold are trendy and bright colored. Fans of marble and ombre would be interested in this brand.  + +* Offers: shampoo, conditioner, masques, oils, styling products, hot tools, brushes and combs +* Key focus: vegan, cruelty free, no sulfates or parabens",0 +1690,Is the Pantene shampoo and conditioner good for your hair? (Pantene is a drug store brand). ,0 +1691,The Role of High Prolactin Levels in Hair Loss. ,0 +1692,"Deep Conditioning Your Hair. Deep conditioning is a best practice to incorporate into your hair routine. Even if you feel your hair is not damaged, deep conditioners still help maintain healthy looking hair over time. Choosing how often to deep condition and which products to use can be a challenge. Deep conditioners go by many names, but are often thicker and heavier in their ingredient concentration. + +(This is the entire text from my [original blog](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-deep-conditioning-your-hair.html)) + +**What hair types and styles need deep conditioning?** + +* Long hair that feels dry +* Chemically altered hair (examples: hair that has been lightened, permed, relaxed) +* Naturally dry hair +* [Damaged hair](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-i---damage.html) +* [Hair with frizz](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-i---frizz.html) +* Swimmers that expose their hair to chlorine often +* Beach lovers with sun-bleached hair +* People with hard water, or who use well water +* Anyone who frequently uses high heat to style their hair (ex: flat iron)​ + +**What is the goal of a deep conditioning treatment for hair?** +​The two goals here are (1) hydration and (2) slip. Both help with the appearance and overall longevity of your hair's strands.  + + +Hydration + +* Silky, flexible strands (versus dry, brittle ones) with more shine +* Smooth ends (versus puffy and frayed) +* On curly hair - curls that form evenly (versus inconsistently) + +Slip + +* Reduces [tangling](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-ii---tangles.html) +* Reduces friction from [traction damage](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-i---damage.html) (to help hair grow) +* Reduces[ frizz](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-challenges-part-i---frizz.html) + +**How often should I deep condition?** +This is unique to each person's hair type. Deep conditioning bi-monthly or monthly is common. If your hair is damaged, you can deep condition up to once a week. For more insights on how to fit deep conditioning into your routine, check out my post on [Hair Schedules](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-schedules.html). + +**What are the best ingredients for deep conditioners?** +Below I've shared common ingredients you'll find in conditioner and/or deep conditioners. It's helpful to know what these ingredients are in case a company doesn't use the term ""deep conditioner"" on the product label. Other terms used for deep conditioning-related products are:  hair treatment, hair tonic, hair lotion and hair masque. You can also check out my post on [Hair Oils](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hair-oils.html) for more insights on ingredient lists. + +* Panthenol +* Glycerin +* Amino Acids +* Peptides +* Cetyl alcohol or cetyl alcohol +* Hydrolyzed proteins (ex: wheat, soy, keratin protein) +* Stearamidopropyl Dimethylamine +* Quaternium-87 +* Behentrimonium Methosulfate +* Behentrimonium Chloride +* Dicetyldimonium Chloride +* Distearyldimonium Chloride +* Polyquaternium 55 +* Guar Hydroxypropyltrimonium Chloride  +* Polyquaternium-44  +* Cetrimonium Bromide +* Cetrimonium Chloride +* Palmitamidopropyltrimonium Chloride +* Laurdimonium hydroxypropyl hydrolyzed  +* Polyquaternium-4 +* Polyquaternium-10 + +**How should you deep condition your hair?** +I've listed the process I recommend to my clients to help them get the best hydration and slip below. + +* Shampoo twice with clarifying shampoo, or use a regular shampoo plus a detox treatment, and rinse well. +* Ring out most of the water from your hair, and/or soak it up with a towel. +* Apply conditioner or deep conditioner from roots-to-ends. +* Massage conditioner and water into your hair. Good coverage equals a better result. This can look like a combination of the techniques below. You can read more about the squeezing and scrunching technique [here](https://www.cosmopolitan.com/style-beauty/beauty/a37304107/squish-to-condish/) in Cosmopolitan. + * untangling + * working in sections + * pressing root to tip + * gentle squeezing + * scrunching + * combing + * gathering all the hair together​ +* Let the deep conditioner sit for between 10-20 minutes on thicker hair or 5 - 10 minutes on finer hair. +* Dunk hair in water using a sink or cup, or just quickly rewet in the shower. +* Use the techniques listed above to press more water into the hair. +* Do a final rise. On drier hair, this can be a quick rinse that leaves more conditioner residue. On finer hair, you'll want to do a more thorough rinse to prevent the deep conditioner from weighing your hair down.  +* Add leave-in products. +* End with drying and/or styling  method of your choice: + * ​Air dry (avoid this method if it will take more than one hour to dry) + * Diffuse or blowdry with cold air + * Diffuse or blowdry with hot air and [heat protection](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-protecting-your-hair-from-heat-damage.html) + +**Can you over-condition hair?** +If you are experiencing hair that appears: + +* limp, flat or heavy +* to have build up or residue +* straighter than you'd like +* greasy or too shiny + +then you could be over-conditioning. Try cutting back on the amount of deep conditioning treatments in your routine, switching conditioners to one that is for volume, or lightly shampooing after you condition. You can also check out my post on [Hygral Fatigue](https://www.thehairlooks.com/blog-hygral-fatigue.html) to learn more about maintaining balance between moisture and protein in your hair. ",0 +1693,"Hair Loss After Covid: Remedies for Losing Hair After Covid. [Home Remedies for Hair Loss After Covid](https://www.hairmdindia.com/blog/hair-loss-after-covid-reasons-and-remedies/) \- + +* De-stressing proves to be a promising remedy for telogen effluvium. Know that you have recovered from Covid 19 and stay positive. Engage in activities that you enjoy. +* Apply coconut-based oil to your hair daily. It helps condition, moisturize and nourish the hair and promotes hair growth. Massaging the head with coconut milk can also work wonders for your hair. +* Massaging the head with aloe vera extract is a good home remedy for hair fall. +* A paste of ground beetroot leaves and henna is an effective hair loss remedy. +* A head massage with fenugreek paste helps with hair loss post-Covid as the protein content of fenugreek strengthens the hair, promotes hair growth and repairs damaged hair. +* Follow a balanced diet and exercise daily to attain healthy hair and overall wellness. + +Learn more: [https://www.hairmdindia.com/blog/hair-loss-after-covid-reasons-and-remedies/](https://www.hairmdindia.com/blog/hair-loss-after-covid-reasons-and-remedies/)",0 +1694,"orange hair from hard water?. Since I moved to this place, seven years ago, I have a really noticeable orange shine to my hair. I have light brown very ashy hair naturally. ( classic Slavic hair; ashy and super straight ^^) + +Can it be the water? It's really hard water. Stains terribly. + +Have you tried a filter shower head? The ones I saw have like some little stones in it to filter?! How long do they work? + + +https://www.amazon.de/Wassersparend-Druckerh%C3%B6hung-Doppelfiltersystem-zus%C3%A4tzlichen-austauschbaren/dp/B07WSVN6FB/ref=asc_df_B07WSVN6FB/?tag=googshopde-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=380166355432&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=430779257697345120&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1002964&hvtargid=pla-826407786150&psc=1&th=1&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=74966710302&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=380166355432&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=430779257697345120&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1002964&hvtargid=pla-826407786150 + +No idea if this link works?! + +Or do you know what else I can do? Im renting so I can't change a lot. Plus I tried many many selber Shampoos and they make my hair so heavy and idk didn't like them.",0 +1695,"Are clean haircare products necessary?. I have quite thick, straight (kind of wavy) low porosity hair that is always super dry and damaged even though it has never been dyed. I’ve been getting more into haircare recently and want to find the right shampoo and conditioner for my routine. Some people say that sulfates and silicones are necessary to prevent frizz but others say they should be avoided completely and to only use clean products. I want my hair to still be soft and silky without using anything too harmful for my hair. Do you have any product recommendations/advice? Is it worth buying more high end products like olaplex, pureology, or briogeo?",0 +1696,"so we have hard water i need the best shampoo and conditioner ideas. my hairs been itchy lately, i think bc hard water build up and thinning hair.. i currently use biolage.",0 +1697,"Any shampoos, foods, or products that can help thicken hair?. Hey everyone I started noticing my hair has been thinning and my hairline receding. I’ve used minoxidil and dermarolled my hairline and have been getting great results, but my hair is thin and becoming hard to style/maintain. Are there any shampoos or products that can help thicken my hair? Or changes to my diet I can make? Thanks!",0 +1698,"Can you tell the size of Kate Beckinsale’s curling iron in this video?. Hi everyone. I’m new to curling irons. Can you tell the size of Kate Beckinsale’s T3 curling iron in that video? [Kate Beckinsale Instagram video](https://www.instagram.com/p/CMtDkHSDoeP/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=) + +A good day to all 💐",0 +1699,"Heat Repair Products. I use a hair straightener to style my hair, I have fine and straight hair and like someone pointed out that the tip of my hair looks lighter which is like a sign of heat damage so I was wondering what products could help fix this? And also what products could prevent this",0 +1700,"I just want to use something other than old spice or Aussie. Lately, I’ve been thinking about my hair and the things I put in it. I’ve been borrowing my bf’s shampoo (old spice). Before that, I was using Aussie. I’ve seen a lot of people say the shampoo you buy at the store is awful for you. I really want to come up with a regiment, new shampoo, conditioner, maybe a serum, just something to keep my hair shiny and growing. I’m 30 years old with Caucasian wavy Burnett hair. I already see myself greying a little. I don’t mind the grey but the texture is different. It’s thicker and wire like. I’m not looking for anything too fancy, my hair and scalp are pretty normal with some split ends. I also like the idea of my hair getting wavier or even a little curly. I was told more likely I have some curls, I just don’t know how to bring them out. Any tips or places to start would be really helpful. Thank you. + +Edit: I live in the US.",0 +1701,"Cleansing/clarifying/cleaning shampoo?. I'd like to get a cleansing/clarifying shampoo to use when I dye my hair. I want to get rid of any build up I have so that when I dye my hair, there's no build up to spoil it. + + Thing is, I'm not sure what to get. I hear people recommend Cantu, but that seems to be for folks blessed with lovely thick, coiled or curly hair, of which I have none! I've also seen Ogx and Aveeno clarifying shampoos in store, but I've not heard/read anything good or bad about either one. + +So I thought I'd ask and see what you guys could recommend me! + + Please note I'm in the UK, so some brands I can't get!",0 +1702,"Shampoo brands for 2B hair?. So I started using Shea Moisture for a couple months to help bring my waves out. I have around 2B type hair. I’ve noticed that when I washed my hair, I would have excessive hair loss, which I didn’t think too much of since I tend to shed a lot. Well today while I was brushing my hair I noticed that my hair seemed wayyy thinner, and my part seemed a bit larger. So naturally I’m probably not going to use this product again. +However, I can never find a good hair brand to use for my hair type. As of right now the only problem I have is scalp/hair dryness and hair loss. I have naturally thick hair as well but as I said, I’m losing that a bit now :( +Any recommendations would be wonderful, or any tips on how to help this loss. Tysm",0 +1703,"Olaplaex conditioner making hair crunchy. Hi all, I use my olaplaex conditioner and I use k18 every 3 or 4 washes. I always look forward to my k18 because the olaplex shampoo and conditioner leaves my hair drying crunchy ): am I supposed to be using heat with it? I air dry after every wash. Anyone else have this problem? +Thank you",0 +1704,"need help detangling badly knotted up hair. I have long curly/wavy hair down to my waist when not messed up. I haven't detangled it in a month due to bad mental place and now if I pick up a curl, its clumped together with a section of curls. I cant even think about my hair without panic and distress and it keeps getting caught on my bfs nose ring. Its so bad idk if I can save it im scared I might need to rip some hairs out and should just cut it and start over. I wish I could share a picture.",0 +1705,"Scalp build up on a redhead (please help!). 25M readhead here and after shaving my head recently to start growing my hair out, I noticed I get A LOT of scalp build up that is unbelievably annoying and unattractive. Every time I scratch my head or brush my hand over it’s a flurry and I have horrible build up under my nails 🤢 I’m hoping someone, preferably another redhead, can recommend a shampoo/wash schedule to help relieve the build up and promote healthy hair growth! My old routine doesn’t seem to work anymore and I’d hate to damage my hair anymore than I probably am now. Really any advice will go a long way! 🧡",0 +1706,"Any ideas for making black hair dye last longer?. Naturally I’ve got brown hair, but I’ve been dying it black lately. I notice the roots fade suuuuper quickly. Like I’ve just dyed it a week ago and already I can see the brown again. I’ve been washing it less because I figure washing it would obviously cause it to fade faster. I wash it twice a week. + +Should I try a different brand or dye? Should I try a shampoo and conditioner that’s made for color treated hair and if so, what would you recommend?",0 +1707,"Shea Moisture leaving my hair horrible?. I did so much research to find the perfect shampoo to start my haircare journey. + +I bought the coconut shampoo and conditioner and it just makes me hair feel horrible in the shower. + +I also bought the leave in conditioner (Jamaican Black Castor Oil to be exact), and once my hair is dry, it just feels horrible. + +It looks greesy like I have to rewash my hair. I've tried applying the leave in conditioner when my hair has been towel dried, straight out of the shower, and even when it's near almost dry, and still getting the same result. I'm not using a lot either and only putting it on the ends of my hair. + +It does feel soft, but it also feels and looks somewhat slimy. I can't get my ahead around what I'm doing wrong. + +Any suggestions where I'm going wrong?",0 +1708,"What is the best heat protectant you can possibly buy?. Idc about price, I’ve tried so many olaplex, monat, drugstore, different ones from Sallys beauty & I’m starting to feel like heat protectant don’t actually work. + +I’m trying to let my hair grow these past few years it’s the longest it’s ever been, but I notice it breaking off more & more, short pieces sticking up all over & my ends are toast lately. My hair is super curly & out of control so I flat iron it once a week & will sometimes do a quick touch up though the week if I need to. I don’t feel like I’m using a ton of heat on it anyway so idk.",0 +1709,"Accidently used too much conditioner. Hi so I wasn't looking at the shampoo/conditioner bottle at the time and I accidentally washed my entire hair with conditioner. I thought by fixing it, I should just apply shampoo and then reapply a little bit of conditioner afterward..Once I got out of the shower, I noticed my hair was a little dry but it didn't stop me from blowing dry my hair (probably really stupid ik). I put my hair in a bun and then i went to sleep and I woke up and my ends and the rest of my hair is really dry. + +Should I re-shower today with just shampoo to fix this? +I also recently got a balayage a few days ago on the 15th and yesterday was my first day washing my hair again. I'm worried my color might fade? but I also don't want this irritatingly dry hair. + +I know this is stupid but I really need help.",0 +1710,"Help! Super greasy hair unless I shampoo daily.. So I'm trying to grow my hair out, and my barber advised me to not wash my hair every day. I currently wash it twice each day. This week, I've tried to scale it back to one shampoo and conditioning every other day, but my hair has been getting super greasy, even after a week of the new regimen. + +[On the days I shampoo, my hair is fine until the next morning. On the days I don't, it takes forever to dry after my shower in the morning, and is noticeably and uncomfortably greasy all day.](https://imgur.com/a/Wix4vpR) + +I've been advised to try a leave-in conditioner to help with the oiliness, and I've tried two different ones. Neither has helped- if anything, they've made the problem worse. It's bad enough on the days I don't wash it that I don't want to be seen at work in that condition- I look like I haven't showered in days. + +What can I do?",0 +1711,"hair does not grow like it used to:/. when i was younger my hair used to grow at a fast rate. i used to be able to grow an afro pretty quickly and rather easily. but now that i'm in my late teens it doesn't grow like it used to. does anyone know why? + +also does anyone know if you can put oil in your hair after a haircut? i'm asking because after i get a hair cut i tend to notice my scalpe is dry and has flakes.",0 +1712,Healthy curling creams?. Looking for a new curling cream to buy. The one I already have contains alcohol which apparently isn’t good for you hair health. Anybody know any other curling cream products that have lesser harsh chemicals and actually promote healthy hair? Thank you in advance,0 +1713,Acv rinse. whenever I use apple cider vinegar in my hair in my hair I notice that it's texture is a lot better after washing but I don't know how often I should use it whenever I google it I get very mixed results so just wondering how often I should use an acv rinse. I never use it more than once like every 2 weeks but idk if that's too much or too little.,0 +1714,Can chelating shampoos/treatments also clarify?. I live in an area with severely hard water and noticed its staining my hair. I do tend to get scalp buildup so I was previously using a clarifying shampoo. I'm wondering if I need to alternate or if [this hard water shampoo](https://www.sallybeauty.com/hair-care/shop-by-product/shampoo/clarifying-shampoo/hard-water-shampoo/ION12.html) would take care of both issues since the second ingredient is sodium C14-16 olefin sulfonate.,0 +1715,"Shampoo help! Hair has developed a weird immunity cycle. Over the past three years or so, I've noticed my hair develop this weird... immunity? to shampoo/conditioner. + +My hair is very fine, but there's a lot of it. Scalp has always been oil-prone. Have to wash/condition every day. + +I'll notice my hair getting dry and lackluster. I'll look up brand suggestions and find one to try. And it works great! So when it runs out, I buy more. Then, a few washes in, I start noticing it's getting dry and lackluster again. And so the cycle repeats. + +This started with typical drug store brands: OGX, Kristin Ess, etc. So I upgraded a little. Verb, Paul Mitchell. Doesn't seem to matter. + +Does this happen to anyone else? And/or does anyone know why? I guess I can just keep changing brands, whatever, that's fine. It's just so random.",0 +1716,"Conditioning after bleach and dye. I had my hair bleached and dyed for the first time at a salon yesterday and although it doesn’t feel very damaged, my hair is now drier and frizzier than normal, and slightly harder to manipulate and style. From what I’ve seen I shouldn’t use the purple shampoo until at least 3 days after; but how soon can I use conditioner, and how often? (Considering buying the fanola purple hair mask/conditioner) Planning to do 1-2 shampoos a week and use dry shampoo when needed. Appreciate any advice.",0 +1717,"Alternative leave in creme. Hi there! I'm wondering if knows an alternative to the Bumble and Bumble grooming creme"". You apply it to damp hair and gives a good texture. + +​ + +[https://www.bumbleandbumble.ca/product/19057/202/style/cremes/grooming-creme#/sku/211](https://www.bumbleandbumble.ca/product/19057/202/style/cremes/grooming-creme#/sku/211)",0 +1718,"Different Hair Dyes. Can someone explain the difference between semi-permanent, demi-permanent, and permanent hair color? I've been wanting to dye my hair black for the longest time now so I want to know which hair dye type is best to have jet black hair for?",0 +1719,"Four healthy hair habits you need to follow. 1: Condition your hair + +2: Hair Mask + +3: Comb before shower + +4: Cold shower twice a week",0 +1720,"Hair Advice. Looking for advice for matted/tangled hair when wet. I have longer hair that falls just below my shoulders and the past 2 years I have noticed it’s getting very tangled when wet. Any time my hair gets wet it almost gets matted with knots near the top of my skull (never any knots from about the ears down) I have tried hair cuts, layers, moisture shampoo and conditioner, protein shampoo and conditioner, olaplaex, hair gummies, detangling in the shower, wide tooth comb, wet brushes, oils and nothing seems to work every time it gets wet it instantly knots. Looking to see if anyone has ever had this issue and what they did to resolve it :)",0 +1721,"Is it damaging to hair to have it thinned out?. (I didn't see it - but if I missed it forgive me) + +I used to get my hair thinned out (thick hair ofc) and then was told by one stylist it was damaging and years later I mentioned it to a different hair stylist who said 'it's not'.. + +So I would like to know for once and for all. + +Is it damaging? + +(( tyia ))",0 +1722,"Confused about SheaMoisture products. Can someone explain to me why SheaMoisture raw shea butter deep moisturizing conditioner leaves my hair smooth, soft, and bouncy…..but the raw shea butter deep treatment masque makes my hair coarse and brittle? + +They are the same product line, so I figured the deep treatment masque would add even more softness to my hair. What’s up?",0 +1723,"Relaxer doesn't work on my hair. I'm biracial with thin-medium hair and loose curls (similar to zendaya's) I relaxed my hair with the Just for Me No Lye Regular Relaxer, i followed the instructions and only left it in for the minimum amount of time. My hair was looser in texture, but still curly. I thought I under processed my hair so a week later I did the relaxing process again. And it remained the same... Has anyone else had this problem? If you had did you find a way to get the relaxer to work?",0 +1724,"Question about hair regrowth after stress/traction hair loss. So I lost a good amount of hair from stress and traction in my last relationship. It’s all growing back now, thank god, but I’m curious how long it took for some people who had similar things happen? I have a ton of baby hairs too but it’s been about 7 months since the relationship ended and still has a bit to go. I’m just curious if anyone else had a similar situation and how long it took for them to get their full head of hair back!",0 +1725,"Dry hair. Please help. I’m 21 years old and I tend to dye my hair a little too often with box dye. I recently went copper/ginger and my hair is super dry and dehydrated!! I use olaplex shampoo and conditioner, I use oil in it at night, I always put on leave in conditioner after showering, I never use heat and always plait it at night! And on the rare occasion I use a hairdryer I use heat protecter but it’s still so bad and dry:( please help",0 +1726,K18 mask. I have been using olaplex for over a year and have finally been able to get my hands on k18. It says not to use conditioner but why? Can I use conditioner and then apply the mask after I wash the conditioner out? I just feel my hair is so dry especially the ends I’m scared to not condition it.,0 +1727,"Winter Hair Care. I’m a mid-thirties white male, with fine wavy (almost curly) hair. Seems like I can take care of shampooing and conditioning my hair in the summer. + +But in the winter, I am prone to getting a dry scalp and flakes if I continue the same routine. Lately I have tried washing once and leaving conditioner in for about three minutes. I’ve tried shampooing twice, then conditioning for three minutes. I’ve used a palm brush. Used a blunt-tip comb. Used **only** conditioner. Washed with vinegar water. Stripped my hair with Dr. Bronner’s soap, then conditioned. + +Since the skin on my hands and body and lips is prone to extreme dryness, I finally tried only moisture. I liquidized coconut oil between my palms, then worked it into my hair and scalp. Now my hair looks and feels like it’s got product in it. I can’t easily run my fingers through it. But finally I **feel** relief! And the flakes stopped. + +Any help would be welcome. What is a better winter routine? I’m trying to avoid The Big Chop, and simply starting from the beginning.",0 +1728,Olaplex advice. So I recently started using Olaplex No.3 and was curious as to what shampoo and conditioner everyone uses with it and why. I've heard some reviews that people do not like the Olaplex shampoo and conditioner and it's not worth the money.,0 +1729,"Olaplex 1-8. As a man I had written off healthy hair in my 30s. + +I mask(ream bond straightening then use 3 daily and shampoo it's amazing. + +I've gone from having to cut my hair every 5 weeks maybe to every 3 weeks mandatory. + +Don't forget men!",0 +1730,"Hair is getting rough- need advice on ruling out why. So I read this hack on the internet a while ago: applying conditioner before shampoo and totally loved the results when I tried it. It basically makes your hair shinier. I don't know how it happens or why this happens. Regardless I started doing this everytime I wash my hair. A couple of months later, my hair gets visibly rough and lifeless. Do you think it's because of the switching? I did get a layer cut 2 months ago and my hair is the longest it's been since 2-3 years.",0 +1731,"Is there a conditioner out there with biotin and coconut oil?Recommendations please!. I'm sorry I'm very new to all this and after reading the rules of this subreddit, I think I can ask this here? I saw that coconut oil is really good for repairing hair and apparently biotin gives your hair a thick and full look so I'm wondering if there's any conditioner out there with both those ingredients because after a google search I couldn't really find anything. + +The reason I'm not looking for a shampoo is because I'm currently using ketoconazole 2% shampoo for preventative hair loss but also because I get really really bad dandruff and burning on my scalp, the fungal kind of dandruff I think. Which thankfully the keto shampoo pretty much clears up entirely. Any advice/recommendations would be great! Thank you!",0 +1732,"Maui Conditioner Ruined My Hair. In January of 2020, I chopped my lower back length hair to my ears. It was relieving. My hair wasn’t horribly damaged but I have dyed and bleached my hair enough for me to have wanted a fresh start. I was so good. I haven’t done anything to my hair aside from the occasional trim. +I use Kristen Ess shampoo/conditioner. It’s so helpful for my scalp psoriasis and it left my hair feeling healthy. I also only wash my hair 2-3 times a week depending on what I’ve done that week. +One day, in August 2021, I ran out of conditioner and quickly picked up Maui Moisture Conditioner. I used it three times. In that one week I used that conditioner, my hair felt dry, brittle, and tangled so easily — this was not normal. I went to a hair salon and they recommended I start using a hair mask once weekly and a leave in. Again, I picked up my trusty Kristen Ess from Target. It’s been 6 months of routine and my hair is still damaged. I am in denial. I do not want to chop off my hair again after two years of growth — it’s back down to my lower back. I don’t know what to do. Some people have recommended Olaplex and it is a bit pricey for me. My hair tangles so easily and is frizzy. It even tangles close to the scalp (crown area). I sleep on silk pillow cases. I wash 2-3x a week and mask once a week. I use leave in conditioner after every wash and I have hair type 2A/B. I use a bamboo paddle brush and a plastic wide tooth in the shower. I sleep in a braid with a cloth scrunchie. I do keep my hair in a bun with a clip about 70% of the time I’m awake and about. I don’t know what to do. Please, if you have any advice, let me know.",0 +1733,Hair drying Ergonomics [Study]. We are a small group from Linköping University in Sweden who are making a study regarding ergonomic flaws related to drying your own hair. Our goal is to either improve an existing product or create a completely new one. My question to you is if you have had any injuries from this practice - or if a certain element is more draining and causes more fatigue than others. All responses are appreciated!,0 +1734,"Did my shampoo get moldy?. So I have a bad habit of leaving my shampoo cap open, tho I have a tub separate from my shower and I always wash my hair in the tub (so water isn't directly hitting my shampoo.). I noticed it was open when I washed my hair today, it had been open prolly a week. I only wash my hair once a week as it's curly/long, but I shower in that bathroom every day so it gets really steamy. After I washed my hair today my face starts to feel itchy, I know that I am allergic to mold and I'm afraid perhaps my shampoo got moldy from being open with the condensation in the air? I read that shampoo can get moldy if it's left open or water gets in there, although it's relatively new shampoo so not sure if this is the case.",0 +1735,"new to haircare - thoughts on these brands?. Hi guys :) +Ive really been wanting to change up my haircare routine recently but the amount of brands is soooo overwhelming. I have pretty fine straight hair. I do struggle with breakage (I think from the cheap shampoo and conditioner that I’ve been using) + +Are these brands worth it in your opinion?: +pureology +olaplex +redken +kevin murphy + +and also what is your guys fav brand?",0 +1736,"HELP for haircare ""beginner"". Hi! +Hello all you lovely beautiful people!! +So i recently decided i was sick of my hair looking lifeless and dry and decided to go on a deep dive in haircare and the right products. I've done some ""tests"" and i think i have medium to low porosity hair, type 1 (not sure if i'm 1a or 1b), and i'm a natural redhead. My hair has always been straight but can get frizzy (not too frizzy tho, just not really really flat if you get me? Idk if i'm making any sense hahah) when i leave it to airdry. It's kinda heavy and i have a mix between thick coarse hairs and really tiny hairs so idk what to make of that hahahaha. I've been looking and looking for good products but i have no clue where to start. I've found products for low porosity hair but it always seems to be for type 3 and type 4 hair so i'm not sure whether that cpuld work for my type 1 hair.... I think i want a cleansing shampoo, a ""regular"" one, a conditioner and a leave-in conditioner cause i read that helps with dry low porodity hair. I've tried pure argan oil masks and jojoba oil masks both for a short period and a long period before showers but i have never noticed a difference and i think they just dont get adsorbed in my hair or something. I've tried a more organic shampoo/conditioner with coldpressed argan oil but when my hair dried after it felt very greasy and thick. + I'm basically just very lost hahahah, i'm very overwhelmed and have nooo clue what to buy/try... is there anyone here that could help me? I'd be extremely extremely grateful 🙏 🥲. +If there is anything else I forgot to mentione about my hair, pls let me know i'll be sure to add it 🥰 + +Thank u all in advance 💜💜💜",0 +1737,Anyone used those plasic hair pins before?. Plasic like the ones sold at sally's since pics aren't allowed I was wondering if they are less damaging then metal bobby pins but i am looking for any hair clips that have a low snag rate if anyone has suggestions that would be appreciate😊,0 +1738,"Hair Density Decreasing. Guys! I am a 21 year old male, density of my hair is decreasing but at the same time there is no hair fall, what is this condition? And any advices.",0 +1739,"Does anyone have any affordable, sulfate free, hydrating shampoo suggestions?. I’ve had a dry scalp for a while now and figured it’s probably because there’s not enough oil in my hair so I’m dehydrated. I’m looking for an affordable hydrating/moisturizing shampoo and was hoping to get advice from all of you",0 +1740,"'Sandy' Scalp. So... this is a little bit gross and I don't know how normal it is. My scalp is covered in what I assume are sebacious filaments, like hard little seeds. They vary in size and hardness in how much they are sticking out of the skin. Touching or scratching my scalp is palpably rough and usually leaves things behind under my nails. This is a problem I've had since I was a child; my mom used to be confused about why I would still have ""sand"" in my hair weeks after I had been near any. + +If it provides any context, I have thin hair that gets oily fairly fast (always oily the day after washing) and nothing has ever helped with that (type of shampoo used, frequency of washing, etc--the only thing that has stopped my hair getting oily so fast was if I went 2 weeks or more without washing, in which case I would have clean hair for a few days and then have to deal with disgustingly oily hair for the rest of the 2 weeks which is of course very unideal). I don't know if the sebum seeds have anything to do with it or vice versa. + +Does anyone know if this is some kind of skin condition, if it's common/normal, or if there is anything I can do about it? I'm self-conscious of it and it's also led to a scalp-picking habit that I really want to kick.",0 +1741,"Weekly Wash. I keep hearing that i could train my scalp from producing less oil by washing it less, and by doing that, some people wash it once a week (or longer or stop washing it completely). I've been doing this for two years, but washing it twice a week (every Wednesday and Saturday) and i haven't seen any difference. + +So my question is, has anyone experience having a difficult time transitioning to once a week hair wash (without dry shampoo), and did they manage to completely transition to that stage, and how???",0 +1742,"Routine Advice!. Hi! I am trying to figure out a good affordable hair care routine but I’m sooo lost and I figured I’d give a little info and see if anyone could help😅 + +Some details about my hair: +-my hair is straight and below my shoulders +-medium-high density (though I feel like it’s been falling out more and closer to medium) +-I have a medium-more oily scalp (I can usually go 1-2 days in between washes) but it also gets itchy&irritated especially if I don’t get to wash it after working out and sweating more +-my hair itself is a bit more dry and dull than I’d like, but I don’t use heat on it often and I’ve pretty much never dyed it. So I’d def like more shine and volume +-I workout and get really sweaty almost daily but I don’t want to have to wash it everyday or have that mess with my hair too much + +Honestly any guidance at all would be super helpful because I don’t want to buy unnecessary products or the wrong products for my hair!",0 +1743,"Dry shampoo causing static. Can someone solve this mystery for me, I sometimes use dry shampoo, usually the Batiste XXL volume one, and everytime I use it my hair goes wild with static that lasts for hours. I find that other types of dry shampoo also cause static on my hair, but with this Batiste one is more extreme lol +If someone knows how to fix this issue, please let me know.",0 +1744,"Oily Scalp! Suggestions needed. Hi guys, + +I have very oily scalp. I also make sure not to shampoo too much as suggested by people. But every shampoo I have used up till now hasn't been able to keep my hair oil free for more than 1.5 day. Max was 2.5 days with Suave Rose oil shampoo. But it ahd sulfates and I wanted to shift away from sulfates. I have tried quiet a few shampoos and nothing has been working. The two I'm thinking of trying now are morocannoil cleansing shampoo or aveeno apple cider vinegar shampoo. I know there is a huge price difference between them, but if anyone has tried these do let me know if the work. Also, conditioners make the situation even worse so I and stopped using them for a while but then that made my hair frizzy so had to start using a conditioner again. Now my hair stays oil free for max 2 days. What do you guys think I should do? I have very straight fine hair that has never been treated. I also rarely use heat on my hair and also air dry my hair. + +Any suggestions or advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks!",0 +1745,"Getting rid of relaxer - male. So I have been relaxing my hair for some time now, maybe 1 or 2 years, and I wanna go natural. I can’t find anything for getting rid of it for males on the internet so here I am. I wanna cut an inch or so of my hair every month, and I wanna know if eventually all of my hair will be natural if I do this. I really, really don’t wanna do the big chop. I’m a teen btw.",0 +1746,Revlon one step hair dryer. I’m the type of person that generally is too lazy to blow dry my hair because of how annoying the process is. Is something like this easy enough to use that it would make me do it? Or is it just another cool thing that people have been buying that is just as cumbersome?,0 +1747,"I haven't used heat, wear a satin bonnet to sleep and only wear protective hairstyles and I still have tons of damage?. I have 1a hair type but tons if it, the circumference if my hair strand is a very small and it reaches down to my low waist. I recently did the hair damage/dryness test and found that my hair has 0 elasticity. I hydrate a lot and use a hair mask one a week. I have a leave in conditioner, protein treatment and oil that I use, why am I getting so much damage? Why is my hair so incredibly fragile? Looking for new products and advice.",0 +1748,"I have braids. How can I just rinse and get dandruff off? The last time I had braids before these I rinsed, scratched with my fingers and brushed with my hand while rinsing. The next day there was still dandruff. Washing dandruff with braids.. ",0 +1749,"Hair Tips Please!. I’m super sorry if y’all have helped someone with my case before but I’m new here, haha. I cannot deal with my natural hair, it’s a mixture between wavy and curly and I mean small curls (not in the slightest bit does it make coils). When it dried fully, it is like a lion’s mane the frizz and the poofy-ness is actually the worst, it looks like I have bed head that hasn’t been brushed in weeks🤣 I almost always braid my hair because it’s the easiest way to deal with it and it does make my hair look pretty and it also avoids heat damage! I guess what I’m asking is for hair products that you guys might know of to help this out, I would love to be able to rock my natural hair but also look presentable 🥺 Thank you so so much if you can help 🤍",0 +1750,"Massive knots daily. I have waist-length, medium to thick, wavy hair. + +In the winter especially, I get HUGE knots. Sometimes it'll be one massive knot. (Just last night, I passed a mirror and my hair looked shoulder-length. It took over half an hour to get the knots out.) + +I'm fine with braiding it, but I don't want to always have my hair in braids, or up. + +Any recommendations for getting some really good moisture during the winter?",0 +1751,"Help!!. Hi hair people, so I feel like I’m playing with fire so I thought I’d ask for some advice. About 2 weeks ago I used the optimum hair relaxer to try to permanently straighten my wavy/curly hair. It somewhat did something but my hair is still very frizzy and overall a lot more dry. I think I’m having normal hair shedding and although I was concerned about the health of my hair immediately after the relaxer I feel that the condition of my hair is not too bad. With all that being said my wavy frizzy hair problem has not really been solved. So now I’m considering a Japanese straightening treatment. Would I be crazy to get one just a couple weeks after the relaxer. Should I just stay on the safe side and wait for new growth which could take about 2-3 years :/",0 +1752,"What do you think of Pantene shampoo???. So few months ago my mum bought a pantene shampoo from sale (It's a 2 in 1 shampoo/conditioner, daily care) and i'm thinking of using it soon + +I've been suffering from hair fall for 2 years and i've been using various of shampoos but nothing seem to work (dove, clear etc) + +What do you think of pantene shampoo??? Is it great???",0 +1753,"best ways to healthily regrow my hair without expensive products?. i’m completely bald & started shaving my head a few months ago. i want to grow it back for the new year but need tips on how to regrow it as healthily as possible without expensive products. literally any & all info helps. i’ll make sure not to wash it every day, get it trimmed regularly, not dye it, use cold water, etc. anything else i should know? +i’m saving up for olaplex products but in the meantime i would appreciate any & all advice or tips. tysm!",0 +1754,"Recommendations for hair masks in the winter. I live in NYC for the past two years after growing up in FL where the humidity always did my hair and skin good. I’m struggling to find a good hair routine for the winter. My hair is wavy but I’m having issues with thinning and dryness both for my hair and scalp. I currently wash my hair once a week, use a leave in conditioner from Dae and an Olaplex bonding oil. + +What good quality hair masks would be recommended for more moisture?",0 +1755,I just started growing my hair (shoulder length) and I’m keep pulling out lots of hair. Everytime I pull out my hair tie or shower in the morning I’ll have a clump of hair. My hair is thick but I’m pulling lots of hair over time. I use 2 in 1 dove sometimes but since it winter my hairs been pretty brittle especially near the ends. How can I stop this hair from falling out? Or reduce it at least,0 +1756,"Curls disappeared with no damage, any idea how to get them back?. So it's not my hair, but my sister's. Beautiful tight curls for 24 years, suddenly they're gone. Her hair is mostly wavy now, with some curls here and there. No heat damage, no hair dye, no styling products. Scrunches the hair when it's drying, uses a t-shirt instead of a towel. Super healthy and moisturised, but somehow it just changed in a few months. She says she doesn't really care but I know she is sad over losing the curls, because it gave her confidence, so I want to help her out. Willing to try anything! Thanks beforehand!",0 +1757,"Best heat protectant (and products) for 1c hair?. I recently have been using my styling iron, and I realized that I need to buy a heat protectant. I want to not only protect my hair, but maybe use it to help define and volumize my curls and/or waves. My hair type is 1c, meaning that it is straight (may have a bit waves, but personally I don’t) and very thick. I also get an oily and itchy scalp easily (and sometimes sensitive). + +I wanna know what you guys think I should get for my hair. Any advice helps.",0 +1758,16 balding. my hair is really bad. noticeable bald spot and hairline. i have to hear a hat everywhere bc people say something all the time. bald spots as well. please help,0 +1759,"Is keeping your hair in the same braids for a week going to break them or help them grow?. I just washed my hair, I added a stay-in moisturizing hair mask, some biotin oil on my roots and a different oil on my ends and then made 2 braids. +I will be wearing my hat everyday until the weekend and I plan on doing it all again next week. +Is this damaging or good? + +Edit: I have very curly hair. I’m Caribbean",0 +1760,"Shampoo for Flakes. Does anyone have suggestions for shampoo for dandruff/buildup? I’m not sure if it’s actually dandruff or product buildup, and the area I live has really hard water. I think I might have a dry scalp, but it gets greasy relatively fast, and it easily flakes if I scratch it. I have long, thin wavy hair. Thanks in advance!",0 +1761,"Perm on straight, fine hair?. I have naturally fine straight hair . I don’t have any natural volume to my hair either . I’d love a curly/wavy look. My hair has been coloured in the last year so has dryness in bleached areas. Also, could I buy a home perming kit or would I be better going to a salon. I don’t think many salons do perms nowadays.",0 +1762,"HAIRLOSS SOS. I need advice before I lose more hair!! Okay I won’t be that dramatic…. BUT. I’ve always had thick wavy/unruly hair and a lot of it. Lately this year, mostly in the past couple months, I’ve noticed that every time I shower I’m shedding ALOT. I wouldn’t say it’s coming out in clumps, but it’s definitely more than what I’ve ever dealt with before. I’ve been protein deficient before so I’m assuming it might be a factor so I’m adding more protein to my diet. I’ve ordered supplements to start taking my daily needed vitamins again, I’m gonna start working out again (I heard that helps), I’m planning on investing in a shower head water softener too because maybe my water is too hard. I also have the Innate Life Rosemary Scalp Treatment on the way so I can start that as well. I’ll also be adding collagen to my morning smoothies. I’m really trying to cover all my bases because I love my thick hair. I used to hate it, but now that I’m losing it, I want it back😢. I don’t really ever use heat or too much product and I typically wash every other day. I’ve only dyed it once in 10 years and that was this year but I used professional dye, not box dye garbage. I need help and advice for the best shampoo and conditioner to help with this! I’ve also been struggling with a dry scalp so on top of combating hair thinning/loss, I also need to resolve that😅. I dread every shower because I hate seeing how much I’m losing😢. Any help is greatly appreciated!",0 +1763,"I have many baby hairs at my hairline, making it messy. What should I do with it?. This has been troubling me for quite some time as I have to keep applying water to stop it from being messy.",0 +1764,how do I get rid of these flakey patches?. ,0 +1765,I’m not a expert but I am pretty sure you can’t fix damaged hair. I had three inches cut off and I intend on eventually getting all the damage off. Isn’t it better to cut off damaged. And work to prevent. I personally think people mistake damaged hair for slow growth.. ,0 +1766,"Weird question, I know, but I’m confused.. I don't want to cause drama, I’m just asking, I'm young, this is a burner account I will delete in a week, and I have no idea where else to ask this. + + I know It’s controversial, and I'm sorry, I know this is a heavy topic for some people, but I don't know what to ask or where so I'm starting here. + + I have curly hair, maybe like 2c or 3a. Not whole coils, but whatever. + + I’ve seen some videos about curly hair care and I'm overwhelmed and don't know what to do, because there are so many things saying what is any isn't cultural appropriation, and what hairstyles are and aren't cool for just anyone to wear, and what is and isn't racially and culturally sensitive and respectful and It’s all conflicting, and I just want a straight answer. + + As a young white person, am I allowed to experiment with protective curl styles, and if so, which ones? + + Am I allowed to do things like small braids? I do French braids and make broad crowns to hide how bad my hair is up top. + + I don't even know how to take care of curly hair. + + Please help me.",0 +1767,"Is the coco and eve hairmask as good as it sounds?. As title says, it sounds amazing and my hair feels much softer after using it 2 times but it it actually benefitting my hair ingredient wise or is this a very pricey meh product. I did read a lot of reviews and everyone had wildly different reviews. Does anyone know any better hairmasks for dry hair? +Thank you + +[https://eu.cocoandeve.com/products/super-nourishing-coconut-fig-hair-masque](https://eu.cocoandeve.com/products/super-nourishing-coconut-fig-hair-masque) + +[https://activeconceptsllc.com/products/functional-actives/acquaseal-coconut/](https://activeconceptsllc.com/products/functional-actives/acquaseal-coconut/) +The second link is to the aquaseal coconut they use.",0 +1768,Help is definitely needed.. I detransitioned from being trans and really want my long hair back. It’s like.. pretty short. Up to my jawline id say. Does anyone have any tips on how to grow my hair back?,0 +1769,I need help with my hair!!. My hair is so frizzy and poofy. Any hair product suggestions? Please helppp,0 +1770,"What should I use to tie a very low low ponytail?. My hair is really long and I prefer to just wear it with a low ponytail, its the most comfortable for me. But I have some issues. First of all I can't even begin to tie it where my ponytail ends, its too low down, my hands can't work that way. I've tried in a mirror, but its a no go for me. So I've been tieing ponytails at the back of my head, then sliding down the band down. But they tend to become loose, and also, when I pull it down, it starts to pull our hair. I had a tie before that held it there well, but I lost it, and since then, any I use just fall off pretty easily. I was using the invisibobble, but doing it with this method with that cause my hair to get tangled. + +Any recommended ties/bands/clips/anything? For very low ponytails? Failing that, maybe a method to tie in that I'm unaware of? + +​ + +Thanks.",0 +1771,I bought this I tried it last night. It did make a improvement. Does anyone know anything about this product? It’s consistency eww.. ,0 +1772,"NON-coconut leave-in mask for bleached, damaged hair. Hey ya'll. Background: I am Asian so my hair is naturally very dark brown/black. I've spent a couple of years lightening it so it's kind of damaged. I bought this Redken Bleach Extreme Recovery product that's AMAZING, however, NOT amazing for my skin. It usually leaves my jawline area (wherever the hair lays) riddled with acne. There are a few products that have done this, and after reading the ingredients I noticed all of them have some form of coconut oil. + +Any suggestions for non-coconut products? Ideally no oils but I don't know if that's possible. + +​ + +Thanks!!",0 +1773,14 year old hair loss. Guys I don't know why my hair is thinning alot because I'm only 14 but I need some tips to help my hair grow back. Does anyone have any good beginner hair growth routine they would like to share with me. Anything would be great please.,0 +1774,Stubborn hair. Hey so i 15m have short hair that won’t move when combed or if i run my hand trough it (it simply goes back to it’s original position) how can i get my hair to be less stubborn. Also when i did grow it out a bit it still was stubborn and i couldn’t style it at all.,0 +1775,"Will my beard trimmer give me split ends?. My hair seems pretty damaged, and lately I've been considering getting a buzz cut to reset my hair and grow it out again with a good routine. + +I have the Brio Beardscape trimmer, and I was wondering if I gave myself a buzz cut, would the resulting ends be damaged due to not using the correct tool? And would I suffer from split ends after growing out the buzz cut? + +For context, my cuticles are pretty damaged, hence this post, but I don't have any split ends at all from my current routine. I'm just worried that using the wrong tool will cause split ends to develop.",0 +1776,"Mineral / calcium damage on fine, straight hair: how to repair?. Hello friends, I've been dealing with hair loss, breakage and ungodly tangling for the past 4 months or so. Conditioners don't work. I strongly suspect it's due to mineral damage. Our water is hard (18.35°dH) and, because of laziness, we didn't replace our shower filter in the past year. I've now installed a new filter and, as of this week, changed my regimen to include an 1:2 ratio AVC rinse, followed by shampoo and conditioner, massaged in using a silicon scalp scrub. It's early days of course, but so far my hair still feels and looks like wet straw. I guess I hoped I'd start to feel the effect of a conditioner again. + +Do you have any ideas what else I could try, e.g., treatments or masks to help with the tangling and breakage, or how long I need to be patient before I can expect improvements? + +​ + +* Hair type: Fine +* Hair texture: Straight +* History of chemical processing: Dispersed blonde bayalage at the ends (naturally a darker blonde), minimal blowdrying +* Hygiene regimen: twice weekly shampoo and conditioning +* Style: Layered, shoulder length +* Product regimen: Kevin Murphy Plumping Wash; Inecto Naturals Marvellous Moisture Coconut Conditioner --> New: weekly 1:2 ACV rinse + silicon scalp scrub + +​ + +Many thanks!",0 +1777,"Keeping curls moisturizes in dry environments. Hello, I currently live in Colorado where the air in extremely dry. It is difficult for me to find products and that keeps my hair moisturized without my scalp becoming an oily mess. What the some solutions you might have came across to help maintain soft hydrated curls.",0 +1778,"My hair has no volume. I have long and kind of thin hair that never seems to have any volume. I have tried different shampoos, I use masks and conditioner only at the ends and the only product I use after washing is a leave in conditioner at the ends. Also I leave it to air dry but even if I blow dry to give some volume it ends up stuck on my head a couple of hours later. I have wavy hair but the waves start from the middle of my hair if it matters.",0 +1779,"Affordable low sulfate shampoo that cleans my oily scalp but doesn't dry it out?. I'm using OGX Renewing Argan Oil shampoo to moisturize my ends and they seem to like it- especially since you can't smell it once it's rinsed out, though I'm not bothered by scents. I want to switch to an argan oil shampoo without ""olefin sulfonate"" since it's a cousin to SLS/SLES and has the potential to dry out hair just as strongly as the sulfates. I'll willingly stick with the OGX though since it's readily available at most grocery stores. + +I'd love any other drug store budget shampoo ideas (preferably around $8 US) that don't include ACV or charcoal. My hair is straight (even though I can force it to dry in product free waves if I use a blow dryer) and medium to thick with normal to oily scalp.",0 +1780,"my hair has been getting very oily since i switched to Kerastese. When i was using basic drugstore products i could've go for like 1 week of not washing it before it gets this oily, now after 2-3 days it gets very oily like i didn't wash my hair for 2 weeks or something and it itches , i hate it , idk what's goin on lol. + +I'm using Kerastese Bain Extentioniste line, also i hate that i can't get a good foam from shampoo, it's very annoying that it makes me feel like i didn't wash my hair properly compared when i was using freaking head and shoulders lmao, that made my hair so clean all the time.",0 +1781,"advice on thinning post covid. I got COVID in August and lost quite a bit of hair. I've always had very thick hair and I wear it very long (mid thigh length, just over a meter). I noticed clumps coming out while I was sick. I'm lucky in that it for the most part isn't noticeable to anyone but me. While I can see quite a bit of new growth there is an area at my temple that continues to be thinner than the rest. Does anyone know any good products to help with regrowth? It cannot contain any coconut based ingredients due to an allergy",0 +1782,"I love the tape in hair extensions, but why it all fallen out after one wash. I am so sad, can you help me?. ",0 +1783,"Oribe. I have been wanting to buy Oribe, but just cant bring myself to splurge! Is it really that good? What are some of your favorites? I have colored 2c/3a hair fine hair!",0 +1784,"Frizz Stop - How do I stop this?. I have really fine straight/wavy hair. No matter how careful I am to heat protect, hydrate and use hair oils it always ends up like this. I use hair masks once a week and I wash my hair every few days. I only ever blowdry on cold settings and always apply hair oil to my ends. + +​ + +Any advice would be very much appreciated. + +​ + +\[link\]([https://imgur.com/a/HP8seoX](https://imgur.com/a/HP8seoX))",0 +1785,"Looking for a shampoo that won’t turn my hair into straw and my scalp in to a dry flaky itchy mess.. I’ve recently switched to shampooing maybe once a week and my hair has been doing pretty well. Until I need to wash my hair that is. Then my scalp and hair dry out and it takes a day or two to spread my natural oils back through my hair. I’ve tried using conditioners but they tend not to work for me. + +Are there any gentle shampoos I can use that’ll get rid of the excess oil but won’t completely strip my hair?",0 +1786,"Soap Scum stuck in every hair won't come out, I'm in shambles, please help.. 15 washes with Castile soap in hard water (Bronner's) and my head is FUBAR. Waxy white soap scum throughout with huge solid chunks the texture of hard eye gunk at the base of each hair which soften slightly when wet, nothing but physically picking, so far, removes it. Tried baking soda, SLS, ACV, dawn, and finally citric acid 2%, which was supposed to be the final solution as it supposedly chemically breaks down calcium stearate (scum). I'll be doing a longer soak in citric before I end this. Please, God, anyone give me anecdotes and ideas before I go pyrrhic and shave it all. Thank you.",0 +1787,"Advice for Hair Thinning/Breaking Off?. Hi everyone! I come to you for advice on thickening and growing my hair. Over the past year, I had a struggle with poor nutrition/not eating as much as I needed + just poor mental and emotional health, and I’ve noticed my hair suffered. I’m doing better now, both nutritionally and mentally, and I want to try to help my hair. + +My hair is a lot thinner than it was before, and I’ve noticed it also gets flatter and looks stringier within a day after washing compared to like, three days this time last year. + +My current haircare routine and products: +-wash twice a week + (Products used: Prescription shampoo [Ketoconazole 2%], Bondi Boost Thickening Therapy Shampoo, It’s a 10 Miracle Plus Keratin Deep Conditioner) + +-hair oil after shower + (Products used: Verb Ghost Oil throughout all my hair always and Biosilk Silk Therapy on my ends if I’m in a rush and blow drying my hair) + +*I haven’t used heat on my hair since August, aside from blow drying my hair maybe once a week* + +Below are some pictures to compare my hair length and thickness from last year til now. I noticed the biggest difference early 2022. + +Any advice or suggestions for products + vitamins is greatly appreciated, as I’m not super knowledgeable on what I should be doing. + +Thanks y’all! + + +Hair from 2021-2022: https://imgur.com/a/2ThMH12 + + +EDIT: Sorry for formatting, on my phone!",0 +1788,Where to start. I have neglected my hair for years. I have read a ton. And have changed some habits. I got four inches cut off. I only shampoo every other day. Recently started using a container. Because I am broke. I use a drugstore shampoo when my hair is really dirty. On the other days I use homemade shampoo. I deep condition twice a week.. I air dry always have. And I don’t color. I read that in order to grow all healthy hair back. It can take 2-6 to complete the cycle of hair growth. I am going to get my hair trimmed every 6 weeks. And have the shop do their deep conditioning treatment too. Did I miss anything? Or is there something you can add?,0 +1789,I have very damaged bleached and heat damaged hair looking for any tips on how to get back to a somewhat decent state 😬. Update - I did have my haircut very short and have been using olaplaex but never really saw a difference . Stopped dying and using heat altogether . Got a new den man brush but not really seen much diffrence yet x,0 +1790,"Hair after Covid?. Hello everyone! After I had Covid my hair became extra greasy and my scalp has been extra itchy as well. My stylist hasn’t saw anything wrong with my scalp and says it looks fine. She did a deep cleanse and it was good the first day. But back to being extra greasy and itchy. Has anyone else experienced this after having Covid? + +Before I had Covid I’ve probably been washing my hair 2 or 3 times a week. Now it feels like I need to almost every day.",0 +1791,"Is this amount of hair loss in the shower normal?. I'm a curly/wavy haired boy from 19 y/o, and i wash my hair mostly once a week. I cannot brush my hair when dry because of the curls, so i brush it in the shower with conditioner in it. But when i do that i notice quite a big amount of hairloss. Which is worrying me, because i do have quite a receeding hairline due to bad genetics. Please help me out! + +[https://ibb.co/C1BQvp7](https://ibb.co/C1BQvp7) + +[https://ibb.co/Jcc1LcX](https://ibb.co/Jcc1LcX)",0 +1792,"Need some advice on growing out fine hair longer plz. +Hey,so I recently went to the barber and cut my hair short from the top and got a fade I decided to kinda just restart.My hair was pretty long but it started to grow less long I’m not sure what do .Maybe it’s because I shampoo to often and or some other stuff . I’m new to all this long hair stuff lol so i would really appreciate some advice 🙏🏽😅",0 +1793,"Shampoo + conditioner recommendations for fine 2a hair. I have fine 2a hair, but a lot of it. My stylist says its upper medium density, so a lot of hair but it's fine. My hair is also low porosity. + +I have virgin hair and wash it approximately twice a week and I don't heat style. + +I am looking for a shampoo and conditioner recommendation. I don't have a price point, could be salon, Sephora or drug store, and I'm open to products with or without sulfate or silocones, I don't mind if these ingredients are included or not.",0 +1794,"How often to wash my hair if i train two times a day?. Hi! I go to the gym 5-6 days a week in the mornings (monday-friday and sometimes sundays) +and I also swim 4 days a week (mon-thursday) +And 1-2 days a week I do taekwondo (this is friday and saturday) +I dont know how to take care of my hair like this. Especially swimming in the chlorine water 4 days a week +My hair is straight a little frail and thin (always been like this, has gotten a little denser throughout the years still thin) +I’m using The Ordinary Peptide Hair Density Serum and get a hair mask done at least once a week +But I dont know how often to wash my hair to be honest, of course every time I will eat out with friends and such I wash my hair … is there anything you would recommend for me? + +I used to wash my hair every day when I was younger because it’s super oily. Even if I trained every day. It’s been 6 years since I’ve tried not to wash it every day because I was told it was bad and usually did every 2 days kinda thing. And last year January 2021 I dyed my hair for the first time, I guess the chemicals dried out my hair a little bit so it’s easier now to not wash it every day (i stopped training for about two years, I didn’t worry about that for the last two years until recently)",0 +1795,"How often should you replace/upgrade a hair blower?. I know it sounds like a silly question but hear me out. I have a blow dryer that I’ve had since I was about 19 and I will be 33 next month so about almost 14 years. It still works a bit, but I’m going to upgrade. I think it’s time that I get a new one. I use it sometimes.",0 +1796,"Products to stop dry hair when washing often. Basically I have hair that gets greasy really quick and a cowlick (core flick? Idk) at the front of my head that has been my biggest insecurity for years, and both of these factors are the reason I wash my hair every single morning for school. + +I’m well aware that this isn’t healthy and dries out your hair stripping natural oils from scalp, and I’ve been noticing my hair seems drier and sort of frizzy when usually it’s smooth and wavey. + +Does anyone know any tips or products I can use to help hydrate my hair more? Please do not suggest just washing it less often cus whilst I’m very aware of its effects that is not an option as if leave it even a day I have school and im too insecure to go there with hair I don’t feel confident with. + +Currently using asdas anti dandruff shampoo and I have for a very long time (I have eczema and changing shampoo is an annoying process involving consulting my dermatologist and risk of a flareup) and whilst it’s been working so far I don’t see it helping my issue currently. + +If u know anything that could help please let me know!!",0 +1797,"Best way for a mechanic to protect curly hair?. So I'm trying to help my brother learn to properly care for his hair, as we have the same hair type where it used to be mostly straight in our youth but something happened with puberty and now we're quite curly, and caring for curls is so much different. I've introduced him to cowashes and leave in conditioners and creams and his hair looks great, but the problem is he's a mechanic and gets car grease everywhere. So he needs a shampoo that's gentle and good for curls but also enough to get out car grease. +I'm also thinking he should probably wear something to keep his hair clean in the first place but not sure what would be most comfortable +Any recommendations? Tips? I'm still fairly new to curly hair bc I had mine shaved for so long and didn't even know it was curly until letting it grow back",0 +1798,"Just bought and used Shiseido Tsubaki Extra Moist Shampoo.... Thoughts?. So, this is the first shampoo I have ever used where I immediately notice a smell that sticks with me, and that it's making me feel good about the potential the shampoo and conditioner has on bettering my hair. I have such flat, dry hair, but it feels ...... so different after using this. Like in a good way. + +Anyone here use it? What's your overall thoughts? Did you have a similar first impression? If so, how's your impression of it now? + +Edit: Also, bought it from a local Japanese hair and beauty store, so not something second hand or watered down as it seems many on Amazon claim has been happening to them. ",0 +1799,What is the difference between the brands: Olaplex and Innersense?. ,0 +1800,"What’s one product I can start to add to my routine?. I want to take better care of my hair! I’m currently only using the Garnier Whole Blends Oat Delicacy Shampoo and conditioner. I want to buy one good quality/higher end product to start using as a treatment on my hair once or twice a week. What do u recommend? + +I’m 27, I have long, natural colored, straight hair. It used to fall a lot but I just got a nice cut so it’s better now and not many split ends left. I also have an oily scalp and hair gets greasy quickly. + +Main concerns for hair are frizz (it gets SO FRIZZY, I use the L’Oreal Sleek Smooth for that) and volume.",0 +1801,Hair gloss for natural redhead?. My red hair is looking dull and was hoping for recommendation for either clear or auburn?,0 +1802,"Hair frizzy and annoying!. I recently found out I’ve been using the wrong shampoo and conditioner making my hair greasy. I have decently long brown hair I wash it everyday but don’t condition everyday. I use clarifying shampoo and let it air dry. I’m getting frustrated with it because it it always frizzy, full of static when I brush it and flat. It’s not wavy or curly so I don’t really style it. I love the simple part on the side for work. I don’t know what to do with it and it depresses me seeing other girls with long brown hair that looks very good. Pls help.",0 +1803,Anyone use Arey Grey?. Does it work?,0 +1804,Been talking care of my hair for years with a proper hair routine and it always looks bad it gets me stressed so much because of how bad it looks I’m thinking of just cutting all of so I don’t have to keep on talking care of it and being stressed should I do it?. ,0 +1805,"Product recommendations for newly bleached hair please! :(. Hi! So I recently (~month ago) i had my hair bleached for the first time (black hair —> brown with some light highlights). I was told by a few friends to try purple shampoo or toner but I am not super knowledgeable about hair products so I’m a little confused on what to get. (I am a college student so preferably something not too expensive). I am thinking of also just changing my shampoo/conditioner as well considering I’ve been using pantene and I’ve heard that’s not the best to use on your hair. I was wondering if anyone had any product recommendations or tips for me! Both regular shampoo wise and anything for bleached hair! + ++Only concern is that I have a sensitive/dry scalp (eczema)",0 +1806,tips for silky hair in humid places??. Need suggestions for silky hair without any expensive products and heating tools.,0 +1807,"Hair Loss - At 21?? F. Over the past year Ive been noticing how bare my scalp is looking, and how fine my hair has become. But today I notice what looks like a bald spot right where my bangs are? Why is my hair thinning so bad, I'm only 21. I don't have any underlying health conditions (that i know of) and don't know what I should to to stop it. Help!! 😭",0 +1808,Using nizoral at the same time as another shampoo?. Is it okay to do? How would I do it? Use my gentle shampoo first then wash off then nizoral?,0 +1809,"are ouai products worth the splurge. + +I was thinking about investing in some hair care and keep on coming across the ouai and I was wondering If anyone likes them and if they're worth it. Or is there better hair brands",0 +1810,"I am 18yr old male and have noticed my hair strands are falling out a lot more than normal. I am a south Asian male and recently my hair line has started receding an I have noticed that my hair if falling out at a faster rate than usual. My dad who is in his 50's has lost most hair on the top around the crown but still has most his hair on the sides and back. I wanted to know if there was any measures I could take right now to prevent my hair from falling out and to protect my hairline from receding any further. Currently I am shampooing about once every 4-5 days, I have also started applying coconut oil on that days I shampoo. Is there anything else I can do to keep my hair healthier and prevent balding.",0 +1811,"Oils for low porosity. I heard that using oils RIGHT AFTER the shower without applying any products to your hair and simply applying the oil to it is bad. Is this true? + +I was told to at least apply some gel then apply an oil. + +My current routine after shower: +Using my homemade hair growth spray, that’s moisturize as well, then applying an oil. +But my hair does seem to lack hold, so should I apply a gel between my spray and oil? +And I was wondering if the Giovanni light gel is good for low porosity. +And can I use the gel/oil everyday? +LOW POROSITY",0 +1812,My scalp is whitish and losing hair wherever I feel itchy someone pls help I don't knw wats causing this . Doc i consulted was of no help.my hair is almost thin and scalp is visible it makes me depressed. ,0 +1813,"I want tips on thick hair that don’t involve thinning it out.. I don’t want to thin my thick hair out. But I feel like I have no idea if there’s products that work better or styles that work better. + +Originally I thought my hair was only thick in “has a lot of hair” thick, but I’m realizing that it’s thick even at the hair follicle. + +My hair will curl at certain weights but not others.",0 +1814,"exactly how bad is it to use heat on a small portion of my hair ~5 days a week?. I found a way to style my hair via tiktok that I think looks nice but it involves straightening the front part of my hair and I was just wondering exactly how bad it would be for my hair's health if I did this on weekdays when I have school. I looked it up and got mixed results, some saying using heat on your hair more than once a month is bad but I know people who straighten or curl it daily. is it that bad for my hair? I have used a blow dryer once in my life so I have no experience and would like to know if I'm gonna irreparably destroy my hair or if it'll just be a little dried out. I don't know if hair type or condition matters but if it does I have thick straight hair that has been dyed with temporary dye numerous times. if anyone can help me out I'd appreciate it!!",0 +1815,"What should I do to help my dry and flaking scalp?. I’m a daily washer due to my job. I already use sulfate free daily shampoos to avoid being too drying. I tried using ghost exfoliating scalp nectar to get rid of the flaking skin but it didn’t seem to make any difference. The rest of my body has dry skin so when I see flaking I normally slather moisturizer and it fixes it right up, but since this is my scalp it’s a little different and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do to help with",0 +1816,"drugstore products for 2a hair?. My hair is long, dry, frizzy and damaged, but it's also wavy and thick. I need to find products to help my hair get healthy again. + +I've been using Aussie for awhile, because I was told it was healthy, but now I'm heading otherwise. HELP PLEASE! + +I would prefer drugstore, easy to access products. + +I'm open to shampoos, conditioners, leave ins, oils, mouses, gels, etc.",0 +1817,"Is there any particular reason why I lost a lot of hair after doing a deep condition & massage?. I have thin, fine curly hair. I do shed a lot but today after i did a deep condition with shea butter and a scalp massage, i noticed a whole lot of hair come out.... I never witnessed this much shedding all at once. + +Did I over condition or was my shea butter conditioner bad? Did I over massage my scalp and cause this hair fall? I don't typically do a scalp massage but I wasn't that rough with it.",0 +1818,Washing hair after perm (male). I know to only use shampoo after 72 hours of the perm but i was wondering if i could rinse my hair out with water? or even apply conditioner before 72 hours? theres a lot of info saying you can rinse it out with water only and others say no water at all. Thanks,0 +1819,"question about best way to apply leave in conditioner. so after showering, my normal routine has always been to lightly blot my hair with a microfiber towel until the excess water is no longer dripping, apply leave in conditioner to my lengths, finger detangle and then wrap my hair in a microfiber turban for 15-20 minutes. however, finger detangling after applying leave in has been causing like a damp frizz and after talking to a lot of other people it appears most like to apply it to dripping, clumped hair and then finish blotting it damp or wrapping it as opposed to doing a second detangle after already detangling once in the shower with my wash out conditioner. I was wondering if anyone else did it this way or the way I was doing it, or even if someone had a different method of applying it? I had a thyroid issue recently and have since had a lot of hair shedding and my roots are super delicate so i’m trying to do things as carefully as possible. I have 2a wavy hair, but I prefer soft hair I can run my fingers through as opposed to something with hold. any advice would be really appreciated. thanks!",0 +1820,any dupes for oribe products?. i am looking for a dupe for the texturing spray and the swept up powder,0 +1821,Olaplex N° 4 dupe. My friend got me Olaplex N° 4 for my birthday and it's the only shampoo that doesn't leave my hair frizzy after washing. Since it's very expensive I won't be able to afford it in the long run. Does anyone know a good dupe?,0 +1822,"Chlorine aftermath help?. Hi! I've been swimming at the pool everyday for the last 5 days, I've wet my hair each time before getting in, and washed it within a couple hours of getting +out. Today I shampooed and conditioned straight after getting out, (both scented products) but it still smells of chlorine and feels very dry at the ends and almost waxy? + +Any ideas why this is happening? Or tips on how to fix this / get the chlorine smell out? Would rewashing and a hair mask help? TIA 😀",0 +1823,"My hair changed it’s type in 2 weeks.. this is so bizarre. Are usually have oily hair time that requires a hair wash almost every other day. Even every other day sometimes feels like a long time. But recently I went for a 15 day holiday and did braids. During this time, i was only gently washing my scalp because I couldn’t really wash them. Surprisingly when I came back and opened up these braids and did my first wash I noticed the following washes after did not need to be that frequent. Currently I am going 4 to 5 days without a hair wash with my hair not being oily and still extremely buoyant and fresh looking. Has anybody had a similar experience or can advise me what’s going on? + +For the record, i’m happy about this.",0 +1824,"Beginner Hair Care Question!!. I have thick and long hair that is mostly straight, I used to wash and blow dry then let down, but recently graduated university and I think I want to start taking better care. The main problems I have with it is frizz and lack of volume even though it is pretty thick. + +I don’t want to buy expensive shampoos/conditioner since I go through them very quickly. I have been loving Garnier’s whole blends ones, but please give me recommendations for better drugstore ones if you can think of any. + +I am willing to buy more expensive, high end serums/oils/masks/treatments (probably from sephora) if they’re actually going to help with the frizz, shine and volume. I am generally familiar with brands like kerstase or biorgio, but unsure what to go for with my specific hair needs or if a treatment would be enough if I am still using cheap shampoos/conditioners. + +Do you have any product recommendations for me? I would love to hear it.",0 +1825,"hair texture/feel issues. I naturally have thick wavy hair. but recently it’s been feeling different. suddenly feeling softer than it usually does, which personally i’m not a fan of. and feels less voluminous. and my roots seem have less texture than they used, just a bit. is there a cause to this? could it be just from my hair getting longer and weighing more? could their be health issues influencing this? is there any external factors causing this ?. and one last thing to mention is that it’s mostly my roots area (like the first couple inches of my hair) that feels like this, but it’s also older hair that’s starting to feel weird too. but the only part that APPEARS to be losing texture is the hair close to my roots (in some areas at least) it’s been stressing me out for a month and i thought i might get some answers here. any help is appreciated. p.s. i haven’t changed my hair products such as shampoo and conditioner, and i don’t use any leave on products. the only thing i do to my hair other than shampoo/conditioner and brushing, is just spraying it with water bc it brings out my waves when it drys. i also wash my hair 1-2 times a week with silicone/sulfate free shampoo, and have been for over a year",0 +1826,does anyone use beard oil or balm in their eyebrows?. My eyebrows can get dry and I've wondered if this could be a good idea...,0 +1827,"gray play. Hi! I have a tonnnnn of gray and I love it but I get bored and miss dying my hair for fun. I haven't dyed it in years because I know that I will never commit to keeping the roots touched up at all times. Is there a dye or type of dye that I could use that would do 50% or more of gray coverage, would last a little while, and would not stain my grays permanently? I wash my hair like once a week, so I was thinking maybe a semi-permanent dye would work if I just wanted to have darker hair for the fall or something like that? I just don't want to do it if it's going to permanently color my grays. But I also don't want to use like color spray or chalk or things like that. Do I have any options?",0 +1828,"Hey, i had long hair and i cut it, now its short like a grown out pixie, i have to go back to uni in 2 months, any tips on how to make it grow faster? I am planning to do a bob once it gets longer (the front part of my hair goes to half my cheek), and idc how long it is as long as its under the jaw.. ",0 +1829,"super dry hair (male). New to this subreddit ! +So my hair is very dry, wiry like a jack Russell, maybe not exactly the same but that kind of texture. I don't even wash my hair as it never seems greasy, the only thing that seems to make my hair look normal is conditioner or moisturizer ! Can someone recommend a leave in conditioner or a mask ect that will make this type of hair look normal ? Tia",0 +1830,Sea Moss Herbal Scalp Serum DHT Blocker. [https://brinaorganics.com/products/sea-moss-herbal-scalp-serum-2-oz-promotes-hair-growth-dht-blocker-prevent-hair-loss-brina-organics](https://brinaorganics.com/products/sea-moss-herbal-scalp-serum-2-oz-promotes-hair-growth-dht-blocker-prevent-hair-loss-brina-organics),0 +1831,"Growing out a buzz cut with very thin, fine hair?. Hey guys! So, I (32/F) have PCOS, so my hair is very thin and fine. I have struggled with this for a long time, so about a year ago just said eff it, and shaved it off. I planned to buy wigs, but have found them to be a LOT of work, very hot, and just don't like them for semi-regular or daily wear. I have decided to grow my hair back out. + +Its been a few months since my last buzz. My hair currently sticks straight up, like I put a fork in a light socket. It's thin so in some light I look like a 50-year-old man with a receding hairline (think Friar Tuck). + +My genetics are against me in thickness, and budget friendly is important. What can I do to make it look thicker? Also, I'm struggling with the complete lack of style... How do I get it shaped so I can add length while not looking like a hot mess for the next year or so? + +I'm honestly frustrated enough I'm eyeballing my clippers. Any help is appreciated!",0 +1832,"Dry scalp. Hi, I’m a black with really thick hair so I do braids most of the time, the problem is one month into doing braids I always get a flaky scalp even though I constantly oil my scalp at least twice a day I don’t know if it’s a condition or something else but it’s very frustrating and any advice would be appreciated",0 +1833,"Good gentle everyday shampoo?. I have oilyish roots and dryish ends. I have sensitive scalp and dandruff. I have fine and thinning/hair loss. So knowing all of that, what’s a good recommendation for an everyday gentle shampoo that will be good for my hair? Price doesn’t matter.",0 +1834,Thin Hair. School starts soon and my hair is so thin it looks like I have bald spots I need help getting my hair thicker what do I use and how long will it take I don't want to go to school looking like my grandma,0 +1835,"Do I have dandruff or dry scalp?. For the longest time, I thought I’ve had dandruff, but someone told me that it’s actually most likely dry scalp. I have little while flakes all over my scalp. When I scratch my head, they fall out and it looks like a snow storm. I don’t get itchy scalp often if at all, and the flakes are white and very fine, again like snow. Wash day is the only day I don’t have the flakes, but I think it’s probably because I scratch it all off in the shower. I don’t use sulfates or silicones, and all I do is shampoo and condition twice a week. I have very thick hair and a lot of it, and it’s 2b/2c. My hair doesn’t really get oily at all, i just wash it twice a week because it feels dirty and it’s curly on wash day which I like. I don’t use any products in my hair aside from shampoo and conditioner, so it’s usually only curly on wash day (im lazy and cheap lol). I have super healthy hair, and it’s actually virgin since i shaved it last year and haven’t done anything to it while it grows out. I’ve had these white flakes for many years. So based on what i said, do I have dandruff or dry scalp? And what are good treatments? Sulfate/silicone free recommendations please",0 +1836,"Recommendations please. Looking for shampoo recommendations for dry, frizzy and damaged hair. + +Edit: +Volume: Medium +Hair type: wavy +Not colour treated +I let it air dry and in times of emergency i use dyson airwrap +Colour: black + +I am based in Dubai at the moment. However, I have relocated a lot and hard water has caused lots of dryness, breakage and frizziness in my hair. + +Routine: +I alternate between hair oil (coconut, gooseberry, olive, castor) and hair mask. +In terms of shampoo, I currently alternate between doce hard water shampoo and herbal essences shampoo",0 +1837,"Kukui oil. Does it really help, or is all the research biased and for marketing purposes?. I have some kukui oil from being in Hawaii and they all made it sound like a secret ancient potion with its “healing properties” and such. With the little research I’ve done almost every single site I’ve been to is either extremely vague about it, or obviously biased (from Hawaii or actually selling it). It’s not cheap and I haven’t seen a ton of difference when using it. Has anyone else found success with it?",0 +1838,Stylist Shampooed hair after perm. If my stylist shampooed hair after perm do i still have to wait a couple days to lock in curls?,0 +1839,"Fantastic Sam's Pomade Shaping Wax - Where to buy? Similar alternative?. [https://www.fantasticsams.com/products/womens/pomade](https://www.fantasticsams.com/products/womens/pomade) + +A number of these salons are no longer in business near me, but I had been using this shaping wax for 10 years or so. I can't find a way to order it online. Does anyone know where else to get it aside from their salons? + +Or is there another recommended/similar wax to this particular one? I've tried a couple others that are greasy/sticky, but not quite the same. Thanks!",0 +1840,Hair Help??. ,0 +1841,"Scalp Cooling Spray Question. I’m currently living in Japan and because of the summer the heat has become unbearable. +Because of this I decided to buy and try a “Scalp Cooling Sprays” which seem to be very popular here, however it didn’t really feel too good and I’m afraid it could’ve actually been bad for my scalp. +Should I actually be worried about it? It’s been over 2 weeks and my hair isn’t falling or pulling off easily, my family also tells me my hairline and hair overall hasn’t really changed but I cant avoid seeing a change… + +PS: all of the ingredients are in japanese so I have no idea of their formula, but it kinda felt like “dry ice” when I applied it.",0 +1842,"hi everyone, how r u? I have chronic effluvium. and whatever I do keeps reversing?. The doctor recommends PRP. Is it a bit much for effluvium? Or is he the right doctor",0 +1843,"please help wet stretchy hair. I have super thick hair and have noticed a lot of hair fall lately especially when I brush. after the shower when I brush my hair I noticed a lot of the ends break and stretch when I brush through it. I bleached my hair about a year and a half ago but haven’t chemically altered it since then. I sleep with a silk pillowcase, do oil masks frequently, and use a protein mask. what else can I do?",0 +1844,Male needs help with hair. Hi I am trying to keep my hair nice but lately my hair feels like crap. I wash my hair everyday. I know I’m not supposed to but it gets so greasy and dry shampoo does nothing for me and I cannot style it. I am looking for a daily shampoo and conditioner that doesn’t dry out my head or leave it too oily. My hair used to be super soft and thick but now it’s thin and feels like crap. I blow dry my hair into a small quaff. I’ve tried tons of random shampoo does anyone have a recommendation?,0 +1845,My hair had changed texture and I don’t know how to take care of it. I’m 14 and about a year ago my hair went from completely curly and kinda coil’s I don’t know if that’s a good way to describe it but I’m not used to this type of hair and was wondering if this was normal and how to take care of it and have it look nice. I don’t known if this is important but I’m mixed Africa and white,0 +1846,What’s better for hair growth pills or serums/oils?. ,0 +1847,why my hair is softer when i let it dry very slowly (in a shirt overnight) whereas it it supposed to be bad to let hair wet for too long? is it all in the long shot period that air drying is bad for hair structure ?. ,0 +1848,"how do you get your hair flat and sleek. my hair is very frizzy and dry. do i just need to put hair oil in it? when going out, what products do i use to stop the hair from going everywhere? thanks!",0 +1849,"Prose?. Has anyone tried prose? What did you think of it and did you like it? +I get that’s it’s expensive and I think that I’m ok with that. But anyways I have a lot of scalp and hair issues like hair loss, dandruff, itchy/sensitive scalp, excess oil, breaks easily, rough texture, fine hair, hard to manage/tangles easily, etc. So I wanted to use the shampoo and conditioner at least (and maybe get more products if I like it) that can help hopefully tackle that all at once, which prose seems like it’s suppose to do since it’s customized.",0 +1850,"Hair started becoming very greasy. Hey everyone! I come in hopes of someone may be able to help me out. + +I have thin, a bit wavy, natural mid length hair that I used to shampoo with organic oway shampoo evey three days. + +A month ago I started going to the gym more regularly than before and got some new supplements from Optimum Nutrition. Massive Gainer whey protein, BCAA and Creatine. After a few weeks I noticed that my hair got straighter and much greasier. After shampooing the following day it’s as greasy as it was on the third day a month before. To add to this I lost all of the waves and since I have thin hair the front part goes into small greasy clumps and it looks like I am balding. + +I ordered the Normalizing shampoo by Milkshake to try to combat the greasiness but I suspect the core of the problem is from one of the supplements as there’s nothing else that I changed. I also take vitamins. + +This whole thing makes me go crazy. Could anybody give me any advice on what to do? Thanks in advance!",0 +1851,"micellar water for scalp cleaning?. I'm curious. I'm washing my hair once a week. I usually don't get oil until day 4 and have usually been using dry shampoo but it makes my scalp SO itchy!!! + +I actually did a small hack and used a detangler to clean the scalp and then blow dry it out, then use baby powder on the sides to soak up any excess sweat/sebum.. It seemed to work.. But I'm just curious, would it be possible to use micellar water to cleanse the scalp as it attracts the oils (sebum) from the scalp? Has anyone done this? + +I don't mind doing this routine with the detangler but just curious to know if anyone has had success using micellar to clean scalp in between washes. + +TIA",0 +1852,"Setting up my haircare, need some tips!. Hello everybody! + +I barely overcoming my inabiliaty to take care of myself, especially after a very stress full period. I am slowly picking up habits. One of them is my hair. It is finally long!! (after years of short hair and never been able to upkeep long hair) + +​ + +I have notice a lot of hair loss when I shower, I am already changing shampoos (from andrelon to l'orell if anybody cares) but I would like to do more. + +​ + +recently I have seen a lot of talks about hair oil, with some positief result for people who suffer from hair loss. I tried to figure out what to use, but I get so overwhelmed with all the different brands. + +​ + +About me: +Straight blond hair (with a history of hair dye, but havent done it for 3-ish years) + +I do my hair once a week, if I do it any shorter, my hair gets very grease after a day of two. Currently it only gets greasy a day or two before hair day. (like ugly greasy) + +My current routine: +Shampoo --> rinse --> second time shampoo --> rinse --> conditioning and leave it while I do the rest of my shower routine + +I let it air dry, but by the of chance that I need to blowdry (maybe like once a month that it happens), I use heatprotection! + +​ + +I would like to add some oil's or maybe a mask, but I can't go straight heavy duty stuff, because as I mentioned, I am only started now taking care of myself, and if I go to quick I get demotivated after two weeks (Happened before). So something that I can do before or after my shower. + +​ + +I know it is a big ask, but I could use some recommondations (like which brands are good).",0 +1853,"Coconut Oil and Rice Water. Ok I am very new to this sub and I need to make sure what i’m doing it ok for my hair. A little background: I was born with very blond hair but it steadily grew darker over time. My mother started having my hair dyed blond when i was twelve and for the past 8 years there has always been dye in my hair (box and profesional). My hair has never been able to grow past my shoulders and I have tried literally everything I can think of. I’m trying to get my hair healthy again and on a whim I began applying coconut oil on my roots and dousing the rest with rice water. I leave it on for about 30 minutes while I clean my apartment and then shower. I don’t know what compelled me to do this but I was just wondering if this would help. I wash my hair maybe twice a week and have been doing this for about 2 weeks now. I just did this routine and got very nervous so here I am. + +edit: I am caucasian with curly hair.",0 +1854,"Sea Salt Spray ruined my hair. So about a year ago I started using Bumble and Bumble Sea Salt spray and Andalou Naturals thickening spray to style my hair. I am a 19 year old guy and My hair is thin and semi long, so no gels, waxes or anything I had tried worked in my hair. The way I liked it the most was after the beach so I googled and found sea salt spray. Within the last few months is when I really started to notice the front of my hair seems so dead and short and not growing and looking like it used to. I looked back at photos and my hair was so much healthier and I just looked so much better as a result and kinda making me overthink my hair and hating how it looked. I have stopped the products but now I have no way to style my hair, it’s the only thing that has ever worked for me, gels, waxes and hairsprays look awful. I have the messy front look and the sprays add that texture cause without my hair falls flat. I got Bumble and bumble moisturizing shampoo and conditioner which I am limiting use of. I just got a few days ago Olaplex no6 and 7 which I use after I shower and olaplex no 3 which I have used once. I really want my hair back and was wondering if anyone knows when or if it will look the same as it did. I want your guys advice and experience and products for both styling your hair in a textured messy way not much of a strict hold, like gel, and that won’t dry out my hair, and for products to help restore my hair. Thanks!",0 +1855,"How often to wash hair. So I have thin dirty blonde hair but I have tons of it. I try to wash my hair every second or third day. I usually find that every second day my hair is pretty greasy on top and dry on the bottom but when it is washed it looks really great and healthy. + + So I've been told for years to try to lesson my washing and I've tried for months to do every 5th-7th day and that seems to do nothing. Am I just all wrong about my washing schedule? Should I be washing my hair everyday? Or should I try again to space it out? + +For context I usually wash, condition and then use an oil on the ends.",0 +1856,"Itchy scalp. Hello! I’m currently using Nizoral anti dandruff shampoo and Therapy hair mask as my conditioner. I wash my hair every 3 days. My scalp is fairly itchy and my curtain bangs get greasy very fast. My hair always looks dry and frizzy. Should I consider using a conditioner and the current hair mask I’m using? Or should I try a leave in conditioner? Also, when using a leave in conditioner, would I replace my hair mask for a leave in conditioner? Thank you!",0 +1857,"I just used a mixture of coconut, amla, rosemary, and castor oil on my hair. What’s the best way to get it out?. I used coconut oil on my hair once before and it took three washes to get it out. I wanna do this oil treatment weekly, but I don’t know what the best way to get it out is without over drying my hair. Thanks :)",0 +1858,"DRY ITCHY SCALP. I've been having an issue with my scalp and hair feeling very dry and itchy after washing it. I've tried a sulphate free shampoo and that was actually even more drying. I've tried anti-dandruff shampoos (Head and shoulders, Nizoral, T-Gel) they just make the dryness worse. I can't find a moisturizing shampoo that works! For context I am a male with shortish hair, about 2-3 inches long. Should I use conditioner? They help with the dryness a bit but I think the silicones in them are not helping. Also, I cannot tolerate coconut oil or any common pore clogging ingredients. Thanks.",0 +1859,"Afro American hair. I have dry scratchy, dandruff scalp and oily hair. Wondering if there's anything out there to clean/treat it with?",0 +1860,"gross hair after washing???. Okay so basically I’m a college student, and when I come home to my mom’s house and wash my hair, it only feels dirtier than it did before. Same shampoo, same routine (wash twice, condition, leave in conditioner and shine spray), yet my hair becomes gross. It’s stringy, feels greasy and dry simultaneously, and tangles very easily. My hair is a wavy and a medium strand thickness. + +My only idea as to what could be changing my hair is the difference in water: treated city water to well water, but this never happened before I moved out. + +Does anyone have any idea as to how I can fix my hair? The only way I can style it like this is up in a bun, I can’t even braid it with how matted it is. + +Anything is appreciated, thank you so much <3",0 +1861,"shampoo+conditioner suggestions. Ive been using olaplex for about 2 years now and have just started using kevin murphy because my local salon didn’t have olaplex. I fell in love with the scent and realized that while olaplex works great for my hair, i want a shampoo and conditioner that’ll smell amazing too. + +Im okay to pay for quality stuff but $50 for kevin murphy was absolutely ridiculous for me lol does anyone have suggestions? + +I have hair that goes down to my bum and it’s wavy and my ends need extra moisture",0 +1862,"Oily skin making hair oily. Hey guys, not too sure if this belongs on a skincare or haircare page but my skin is so oily that it makes the front of my hair oily like one or two days after I wash it when the rest of my head doesn’t need a wash until day 4 or 5. + +I’ve tried everything to reduce my oily skin so turning to hair care tips now, does anyone have any recommendations to avoid this happening so quickly? + +I wear my hair up in a loose high bun most of the time while I’m home but that doesn’t help when I work 9 hour shifts with my hair down, any thoughts?",0 +1863,Protein treatments. How to give your hair a protein treatment at home rather than a salon? Suggest the absolute best products 😬,0 +1864,"Help regarding Hair care routine [M]. Hi , so I unfortunately have a very fine hair and I lose around 15-20 individual strands every time I shower ( I think its normal). But my scalp gets dried real fast and I start flaking within 12 hrs after shower. I don’t use any product (though I badly want to) to style my hair, since fine hairs are untameable . I used to have a thick hair sometime back, but following intermittent fasting and stress skyrocketed the whole issue . What can I do to avoid quick dryness of my scalp after shower and improve thickness? Which scalp serum would you suggest and hair styling products that I can use daily without aggravating my existing problems?",0 +1865,"Coarse and Thin Hair. I am needing some recommendations on how to tame my straight, coarse, and thin hair. I have color treated hair and have always had some issues with frizziness, but tend to walk a thin line between frizz and weighing my hair down. Currently I use the Amika Bond Repair Shampoo and Conditioner every 3 days, its a 10 on wet hair and either the Prep Rally Blow Dry primer or the Redken Pillow Proof blow dry spray before drying. I then use the Tresseme Keratin Smooth heat protectant if I am straightening or curling my hair and then will use a very small amount of some kind of smoothing serum on the ends if I need it. Does anyone have recommendations on if I should change products or use a different type of technique to dry/style my hair?",0 +1866,"Why can't I grow my hair past my shoulders - what am I doing wrong?. I am in need of advice for growing my hair longer and stronger. + +For the first time in my life I got a pixie cut in 2011. I have not been able to grow my hair past my shoulders ever since. Everytime I tried, a dance concert or a wedding (I was a bridesmaid) demanded that I apply heat to my hair (I.e. straightening and/or curling), which resulted in me having to cut all of my hair off again because the heat damaged my hair beyond repair - and that was only after one instance of curling my hair for a wedding. Before that I went heat free on my hair for years and I just knew the curler would do that but the bride insisted I curled my hair to match the other bridemaids). Anyway, I had to chop off all of my hair and start again. + +I got recommendations from a few different hairdressers about what shampoo and conditioner would be best for my hair type and got contradicting advice (probably because they are meant to only suggest the brands that they use in their salon). But the general consensus was to go for a silicone and parraben free product (or at least use a naturally sourced silicone product because it doesn't build up on your scalp - for example a shampoo that uses cucumber silicones). So I started doing that maybe 2 or 3 years ago, but I just never got quite the results I wanted. Sure, there was no build up, but my hair did not strengthen, didn't grow much, and didn't feel healthy - always looked dull and lack-lustre. Anyway, about 3 months ago my husband bought a silicone and parraben free shampoo and conditioner, but it was Pantene. I got upset because Pantene products have never been good for my hair, but I had to suck it up because he refused to buy another bottle of shampoo (I am unemployed and don't receive any government benefits, so I have literally no money to spend - so I couldn't just go out and buy what I wanted). So I was using Pantene and now, not only is my hair breaking at very odd lengths, I am losing clumps of it (an issue I haven't had for a very long time), it is an odd mixture of sry and frizzy in parts but greesy in others, AND I now have eczema on my scalp! + +So 2 weeks ago I started using over the counter shampoo from a chemist made specifically for scalp eczema and psoriasis - but it smells foul and makes my hair feel so stringy and dull I couldn't stand it. So now I'm using the MooGoo shampoo and conditioner and scalp treatment for eczema). My scalp feels heaps better just after 1 week of use. But I don't know if it's going to help my lack of hair growth and strength. + +I'm certain it is not a diet issue - I eat plenty of healthy fats and protein. Could it be hormonal? Since 2011 I have had 2 kids - I definitely experienced hairloss after giving birth, but that was over 2 years ago. + +Does anyone have any proven remedies for boosting hair growth and strength? + +Edit: I forgot to mention, I think my hair type is a 2A curl (straight at the top but wavy/curly at the mid to bottom).",0 +1867,"How do I wash my hair daily without stripping the natural oils?. I recently started working in a kitchen, and every day, I come home smelling like I took a bath in the frier. Until now, I usually would wash my hair 1-3 times a week, bc that’s what allowed my hair to be soft and not dry and frizzy and breaking. Now, I feel like I have to wash the kitchen grease out of my hair every night, but I don’t want my hair to dry out! + +Summary Q: how do I wash my hair daily without stripping it/drying it out?",0 +1868,"Help! Blue hair dye is everywhere. :(. I went from brunette to blue hair approximately 4 days ago, however, whenever I touch my hair blue dye smears on my hand and it’s getting everywhere. How can I stop the blue hair dye from smearing on my hands whenever I touch my hair?🥹",0 +1869,Itchy scalp after hair trim. I just got my hair cut like 4-5 inches to above my shoulder but ever since the haircut my scalp has been super itchy. It was never a problem before. The lady did shampoo and wash my hair so I’m not sure if it was something she used ?,0 +1870,"Advice on how to reduce breakage. I am looking for some tips to help reduce the amount of breakage in my hair. I do not use any flat irons or curling irons in my hair, but I do wear it up for work. Its pin straight, dry, and thick with no dyes; I started using Carol's Daughter goddess strength leave in cream (I already use the black vanilla shampoos conditioner, does wonders) and it seems to be helping. Is there anything else I should be doing to help keep the breakage to a minimum?",0 +1871,"Can I blend the chia seeds to get the gel?. Hi guys, I’m trying to make a hair mask to make my hair shiny and silky and I heard that chia seeds gel are good for this. But I can’t seem to get the gel out. I tried a strainer and it just wont come, I don’t have a fine cloth to do it. If I blend them after I put them in water will I get the same result (the gel)? Thanks!",0 +1872,"Aimin Hair Rollers Night Sleep Foam Hair Curler vs Tifara Beauty Flexible Curling Rods. I am looking to buy a heatless hair curler for my girlfriend and I am deciding whether I should get the Aimin Hair Rollers Night Sleep Foam Hair Curler or the Tifara Beauty Flexible Curling Rods for her. She has medium length and fine hair for reference. Which one should I choose? Thanks :) + +[https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/B0182XCOGE?tag=haireveryday-22&geniuslink=true](https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/B0182XCOGE?tag=haireveryday-22&geniuslink=true) + +[https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B08QV78MK5/ref=ox\_sc\_act\_title\_1?smid=A4XRJ8S0WXSO0&th=1](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B08QV78MK5/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?smid=A4XRJ8S0WXSO0&th=1)",0 +1873,question. what if i were to dye the tips of my hair then cut off the tips would my hair still be considered healthy?,0 +1874,"SOS for my hair! Return to office has begun and I do not want to look like I've run a balloon over my hair anymore. I've had dry, frizzy hair for as long as I can remember. Over the years, I've had a mix of bad and relatively good hair days. But lately it's been terrible. +I've lived in multiple cities in India with varying levels of humidity and it's not really changed my hair. +I oil & shampoo my hair 2x every week and don't wash otherwise. Been using a satin scrunchie for a year. +I may have a dry scalp issue cuz it gets flaky and itchy. Tried washing my hair daily, but scalp becomes oily in 1.5 days then. + +Products I've tried over the past 2-3 years: + +Pantene shampoo +Biolage Hydrasource Deep Treatment Conditioner +Wella Luxe Oil Reconstructive Elixir +Bblunt Intense Moisture Serum +Plum hair mask +Wow skin sciences Rice Water Shampoo & Conditioner +Ogx Argan Oil conditioner +eKeratin Hair Clinic Shampoo + +Pls help :( + +Images at: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1T_C9NFqI4CavmsfBESdA4k8JczSObs4D +Picture 1: Hair after 4 hours of WFH in an air conditioned room +Picture 2: Hair after running my fingers through it",0 +1875,"Need Advice for Daily Hair Routine. I have pretty oily hair so I usually shampoo and condition at night, but recently, I've been taking showers in the morning but only using conditioner. Will conditioning/showering twice a day dry out my hair? For my morning showers, if I just use water with no products, is that fine or will that also dry out my hair?",0 +1876,olaplex number 9. Anyone got thoughts and reviews on trying this product? thinking of getting it 🙂,0 +1877,"Hair feels stiff and heavy after bentonite clay mask. Hey, yesterday I used the Aztec Bentonite clay mask on my hair. I left it in for 20 minutes and washed my hair as I normally do. After it dried, it was really tangled and stiff and hard to brush. My hair is naturally really straight and silky and the texture feels horrible now. Has this happened to anyone else? I’m freaking out because my hair is my favorite physical trait and I’m worried I ruined it :(",0 +1878,"At a Loss. I have always had thick, curly hair. If I get caught in the rain, it goes from something that looks ok, and a bit curly, to ringlets and kinky curls that are absolutely unmanageable. + +About 8 years ago, my hair changed. I had a radically greasy scalp and dry ends. For a while, out of desperation, I washed my hair daily with dish soap. I know- OH MY GOD WHY? But that was the only thing that got rid of the grease and made it feel like my scalp wasn't coated in oils. + +I've finally got it trained to be washed every 2-3 days. I love my shampoo and conditioner, and the way it makes my hair feel. Now that that's sorted, I need to figure out how to encourage, moisturize, and support my curls. + +Any and all advice is appreciated. If I wear it down, I end up frizzy by midday, so I know I need to moisturize it. I love my curls, but they don't love me. + +TIA!",0 +1879,Best shampoo for thick wavy frizzy hair? I just cut my hair and really trying to look for a great shampoo thats not too expensive. Also I tend to get itchy dandruff scalp. should I go for a clarifying shampoo (once a week) or a hair mask instead?. ,0 +1880,"Hairstyles for greasy hair and sore scalp. Hi everyone! I’m a female with thick straight hair that’s on the longer side. I’m able to get away with washing my hair only about twice a week (and working on training my hair to be less greasy) but in the meantime, that day before I need to wash is when I get scalp pain and an updo is just not an option. So I’m wondering what the best hairstyles are for when your hair is looking a bit greasy, but your scalp hurts so you can’t wear it up to hide the grease? Braids used to be my go to style, but I’ve gotten it cut and have some shorter layers now that just stick out when I try to braid my hair. +Any advice is much appreciated! Thank you!",0 +1881,"Shampoo and conditioner recommendations for South Asian hair?. Hello! I'm trying to find a holy grail conditioner for my South Asian hair. It's medium thick, dry, and very prone to frizz. I would say I have 2A hair texture. I also have a dry scalp. Any recommendations would be helpful!",0 +1882,"Which Redken hair line should I try?. I've been using sulphate and silicone free haircare for a while and I feel like it's not working for me. No matter what, my hair is always just dry and frizzy and fluffy. Then a couple of days ago I had my hair trimmed and the stylist used a serum to finish it, and it's made my hair so soft I can't stop touching it. I looked it up and the second ingredient is...dimethicone. I have now come to the conclusion that my hair likes silicone. + +Anyway, I'm wanting to switch up my shampoo and conditioner and looking at the different Redken lines and not sure which one to try. My hair is quite fine, straight with a slight wave, untreated, never heat styled but potentially a bit weak as I often have a lot of shedding and breakage.",0 +1883,"I’m a man cursed with curls. What am I looking for? A Cream, a wax, a pomade, a gel, SHOE POLISH?. I have big loopy curls. I keep my hair at a length so that it stays on my head, but long enough that it can curl up. So I want this out of a hair product: + +(1) I want it to allow my curls to come together, not bush out or frizz up. (2) I want it to keep my curls together.—Now here’s the challenging part and the reason I’m asking for help—(3) I want it to be soft? [if that’s the right word] enough to allow something to happen to my hair and but still bring my curls back together. (4) And I want it to add a little shine, that is, not be dull or matte. + +So what I mean is, I can put gel in my hair and my curls will come together and stay in place. But once you disturb them it’s all over. Or if I use a paste type product I can rework my hair later but it’s too thick to allow my hair to lie naturally and curl. I want . . . To wear a hat! Or lean my head against something or take my helmet off and not have to immediately find a sink to re-wet my hair to let it relax again. + +What can I put in my hair so that I can run my fingers through it later in the day and have it come back to natural again? Or take my motorcycle helmet off when I get somewhere and not have helmet hair the rest of the day?",0 +1884,"Solutions to temporary hair loss please 🥲. Okay so I’m 19 with straight fine-ish hair and Im dealing with a semi noticeable amount of hair loss on the top/back of my head, and it’s only in that specific spot so I think I know what the cause is. I’m a waitress so I wear my hair up in a tight ponytail almost every day so I’m assuming that’s the main reason. But anyways I’ve been doing a lot of research on different products and I see so many mixed reviews, apparently Minoxidil (rogaine, and some other serums) is the most popular/effective product but some people say that it’s not safe for temporary hair loss and can even cause more hair loss after you stop using it, and the best natural products I’m seeing is vegamour but it’s pretty expensive for just their hair serum alone. Im going to start loading up on biotin cause I feel like that one is a given, but any other advice/info you guys have would be really appreciated.",0 +1885,"please recommend me a product!. my hair is flat, greasy second day after washing, thin, and bleached. currently using kristin ess and feel that's it's too drying and making my scalp produce even more oil. have tried red ken and okeplex and sooo many more. what worked for you?",0 +1886,"Masking and Conditioning Fine Hair. Hey everyone! So, I have very long, fine/thin straight hair. My scalp tends to get oily but my ends are normal. I've noticed a lot of people saying you should mask and condition on the same day since the mask allows the conditioner to penetrate the hair better. My hair isn't dry or damaged, so I don't think I'm going to lose anything if I don't mask and condition in the same day buuut I'm transitioning into washing my hair only twice a week, so maybe my hair could use the extra moisture? Should I give it a try or no?",0 +1887,"Swimming and looking after hair. I swim about five times a week (1-1.5 hours; for school, clubs etc.) and my hair is so thin and weak. + +What should I do to help it be stronger like before? + +edit: I always wear a silicon cap in the water but water sometimes gets in it",0 +1888,"please help. My mum got her barrel hairbrush stuck it's tight and we got it fixed it a lot we spent hours fixing it but we don't know what to do, she's so upset and sad please help!! I think some hair came out it's 2:39am now she just wanted to look pretty ):",0 +1889,"Using hair masks 2x a week bad?. I'm trying to grow out my hair after chopping it off during a mental breakdown 😭😑 + +I wash my hair twice a week and use a curling wand to style it. I also use two masks. On Monday I use a Shea moisture marufa oil manuka oil one. And on the Thursday I use a protein based one the Kerastase Resistance Therapic? one. + +I wonder if I'm using too much masks a week will be bad for my hair.. I don't feel my hair is damaged, no split ends but I don't want to not put a mask on and then have damage in the long run. Any ideas or thoughts about this? + +My hair BTW is thick, coarse, dense. 2C curls and naturally pretty dry. Medium to high porosity.",0 +1890,"Help with managing hair. I have wavy, a little past shoulder length hair, and it’s been a nightmare to deal with. + +The scalp/top portion of my hair is extremely greasy. To the point where it lies flat on my head. But the bottom/ends of my hair are very dry and dead. + +I take showers everyday, but I only use shampoo every two days. (If I go any longer my hair just looks so gross) +The next day after washing my hair it just look extremely greasy and disgusting. + +I’ve tried using dry shampoo and it doesn’t really help. Ive also used shampoo to help with greasy hair but it also didn’t help. My hair only looks good if I wash it out everyday but then that damages it. + +But if I don’t wash it out every day it looks very unclean and dirty. + +What should I do? All the tutorials I’ve watched don’t really help/they don’t have the same hair as me. + +If you are gonna recommend products please recommend affordable ones.",0 +1891,"botched haircut - how to make hair look fuller and healthier. So, I had a long, even, straight hair up to my waist. Naturally my hair is on a thinner side but not too thin. Today I went to a hairdresser to get super long round layers. However instead of getting long blended layers my hairdresser gave me one barely blended quite short layer (up to my shoulders). So now I have one long layer of hair up to my waist, and thinner unblended short layer. My hair overall now looks botched, quite thin and damaged even though it's not, just looks way less full. What should I do? I reeeally don't want to cut it anymore and I think I can make it work to make the short layer less visible but I don't know what to do about the lackof fullness in my hair, especially the longer thinner part. Is there something I could do to speed up the growing process and to make my hair look better? +How long will it take to grow out the shorter layer? Any help?",0 +1892,"treatment of dandruff for long hair. Any suggestions on what shampoo or specific dandruff treatment product to use? + +​ + +I just did a dandruff treatment for a salon but there is still dandruff and they suggested i do it 2-3 more times later on.",0 +1893,Bleached damaged curly hair. Does anyone have any hair tips or products I could use on curly bleached and damaged hair I believe it’s damaged because it hasn’t grown for years(except I cut bangs last summer and it seems my bangs outgrow themselves unlike the rest of my hair )now I have like 3b or 3c curls and honestly I am thinking bout cutting it off and regrowing what should I do,0 +1894,"Dry hair when hot, smooth hair when cold, straight hair and low porosity. Hello. I am first time discovering hair care at my mid 20s and I always have dry hair especially living in the southeast Asia. Everyday washing my hair is a must because I don't want sweat to sit in my hair. + +I have hair products now mostly Zenutrients and human nature. My routine is detangle wet hair, shampoo, rinse, conditioner rinse, apply leave in conditioner on damp hair and detangle with comb. + +I am researching that hair mask and hair oil could be the solution but I am not sure which. My hair gets oily but only mild so I think a lightweight oil would do. Also noticed that my hair is dry when it gets hot, then gets smooth when I'm in a room with AC. + + +Please help me which products I need. I am very new and the vast results in the internet is so confusing bc they contradict each other.",0 +1895,"Tips for growing out very fine hair. Hi All, + +I have fine hair and have not been able to grow it out in the past. Currently, it is the longest it has ever been, but I still get lots of split ends despite deep conditioning, using high quality shampoos and conditioners, routine trims, and only washing my hair three times per week (used to wash every day). Do any others have long very fine hair, and how do you avoid the split ends that are often associated with this hair type?",0 +1896,"Something like argan oil but with long lasting anti-humidity/frizz effects?. Hey! + +I have short wavy hair that are very prone to humidity and get frizzy. But after many years I have found a good way to prevent that, to some extent.. My current routine is putting a bit of argan oil in my damp hair after I washed them, and put a hat on for around 20-30 minutes. This makes my hair look shiny, soft, straight and controlled. Problems arise when I am out and the weather is humid/or i start to sweat: they become frizzy and lose their shine. I looked a bit into other products and recently purchased Davines relaxing moisturizing fluid. So I added a bit of that after I put the argan oil, and it truly helps against humidity but my hair loses it’s softness, it kind of becomes lightly harder. + +Does anyone of you know of any product like argan oil with longer lasting effects + against humidity/frizz? Since argan oil works perfectly on my hair for the desired effect I would either need an argan oil with some added ingredients, or something like the davines relaxing moisturizing fluid without it making my hair harder and losing the softness. + +I thank you all in advance and curious of your tips/suggestions!",0 +1897,"help w shampoo. hi! the shampoo i currently use seems to make my hair extremely soft. this makes it very hard to maintain a style b/c it’s just so moveable (i have shoulder length hair). is this a shampoo issue or is my hair naturally like this? i have straight, medium textured hair. are there any good shampoos that may make my hair less moveable and more “stiff”? thanks :)",0 +1898,"Special perm for over-55 women's hair?. I had been getting perms with no problem, but the last one I got, at age 55, did not take. Same stylist and products, etc. for last several prior perms over a few years.This perm totally fell out. I later read that with age the hair becomes more brittle and won't hold perms as easily. That said, does anyone know of any special perm kits, etc. for over-55 women? FYI I am white and have thick, fine, very straight hair with very little body. Thanks!",0 +1899,Shampoo and conditioner for oily hair and hair falling out. My hair is getting greasy everyday no matter how much I was it a few hours later it’s looking greasy and everything I keep try is either making my hair super dry or dry and falling out y’all have any recommendations I should try? I’m at a lost here thanks in advance,0 +1900,"Shampoo Recommendations. I’m looking for a sulfate free shampoo since I’ve noticed that my hair gets extremely dry and frizzy after using my old shampoos. I’ve noticed that people avoid brand name shampoos since most of them contain sulfate. I’ve found a few brand name shampoos that specifically state they are sulfate-free. What shampoo should I get? + +https://www.amazon.com/Shea-Moisture-Coconut-Hibiscus-Shampoo-13/dp/B0038TXGL0/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_sspa?crid=2KZ26WYS3BLUL&keywords=shea+moisture+shampoo+sulfate+free&qid=1647754396&sprefix=shea+moisture+shampoo+sulf%2Caps%2C123&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEzSkc4SVY5WFc3WTdaJmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwNDAwMjgxMk1CWkRVVktWWU9DSCZlbmNyeXB0ZWRBZElkPUEwNDY3NjUzV09PN0lQSlgwVDJTJndpZGdldE5hbWU9c3BfcGhvbmVfc2VhcmNoX2F0ZiZhY3Rpb249Y2xpY2tSZWRpcmVjdCZkb05vdExvZ0NsaWNrPXRydWU=# + +https://www.amazon.com/Dove-Amplified-Sulfate-Free-Moisturizing-Amplifying/dp/B094KVN6S7/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=32QREHPU2AUVZ&keywords=dove+shampoo+sulfate+free&qid=1647754320&sprefix=dove+shampoo+sul%2Caps%2C125&sr=8-3# + +https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B09DZP8KT2/ref=cm_cr_arp_mb_bdcrb_top?ie=UTF8&th=1&psc=1 + +https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0796M28ST/ref=cm_cr_arp_mb_bdcrb_top?ie=UTF8",0 +1901,"I keep getting dandruff.. Few weeks ago my friends have been telling me that showering and using shampoo every day is actually bad for your health. And while I somewhat believe them it doesn't add up to me so I need some information and help. The problem is I've actually tried to see if I could shower one day with shampoo and then take a day after off of showering. After trying that I noticed that I started getting dandruff and I mean alot of dandruff quickly. My head would always feel itchy and my head would turn red in some spots. Everyone's been telling me that I need to put oil in my hair because my scalp dries out when I use shampoo everyday, but what I'm confused about is I'm seeing that I get dandruff cause my hair is TOO OILY. When I shower without a day my hair gets oily and its quite noticeable [ My hair would be shiny and glossy ]. I feel like this problem had started when my mum forced me to shower everyday when I was young. Is it normal that some people have to shower daily? If not how can I prevent myself from getting dandruff?",0 +1902,"Falling Hair problems. I only have shoulder length hair but I am concerned with the amount of hair I comb out every day after I take a bath. Also to get my hair out of my face I usually tie it into a ponytail, and when I remove the band, a lot of hair goes with it. + +I’m early 40’s and I’ve never had this much hair fall out before. Is this normal for my age or should I try a new product to help?",0 +1903,"my hair lengths have build up that wont go away. I cannot understand whats wrong with my hair and I need help!!! + +Every time I wash my hair, the lengths look greasy and seperate apart and doesn't dry by the morning. My roots are fine but the lengths look like they are still wet, although it feels like its dry and soft, theres something building up on it. At first it was only happening to the back of my hair last year but now it spread all around my hair and is unmanageable. + +For reference I have wavy hair and a lot of it. For majority of last year i began using OGX coconut shampoo and conditioner as i wanted to switch to sulphate-free shampoo which actually made my hair look more healthy for a while but the problem starting happening later in the year. + +At first i though it was product build up from silicones because I didn't realise i needed to get rid of them after a while as before i was used to using sulphates. but i've tried apple cider vinegar, clarifying shampoo and i don't think the problem is going away. I've even stopped using sulphate free shampoo and went back to head and shoulders which is super cleansing to get rid of the grease but it keeps coming back even with sulphates. + +I also thought i had low porosity hair which may explain why product is sitting on my hair but i doubt this is the case because my hair used to dry pretty fast. + +now i'm starting to think its because of my shower water because no matter what products i use, i still get the same result which leads me to think its that, i also have been noticing a strange smell. do you think that could be why I have build up on my hair? Also what products would you recommend for the build up?",0 +1904,"Hair loss while using Briogeo. Has anyone else lost a lot of hair while using briogeo? I’ve been using it for a while and noticed a lot of hair loss. Nothing else has changed, diet, bloodwork, all normal.",0 +1905,"How to stop hair from sticking out on sides?. Any tips on how to get my hair to stop sticking out on the sides? Only thing that gets it to lay down correctly is gel, but I hate the way it makes my hair look, especially on the sides, looks very (VERY) unnatural. A few weeks ago I got my hair cut shorter than usual on the sides, but it still sticks out, how do I fix this?? Do I get my hair cut shorter on the sides? Even when the sides were somewhat long, it still stuck out. Running out of ideas and I can't stand using gel. This is probably my #1 insecurity. Appreciate any help.",0 +1906,"do i need to shampoo my hair after using a hair elixir or is rinsing enough?. so i usually shampoo every 2-3 days, im a male with hair not that long, and when i used wax i shampooed everyday, but i shampooed my hair yesterday and used elixir today, do i need to shampoo today or can i do it tomorrow or in 2 days?",0 +1907,my hair is thinning A LOT. i’m 19 years old and my hair used to be long and really thick. it was my best feature and i’m losing it. within the past year my hair has thinned a lot and i don’t know why. any tips on stopping the thinning or getting it to grow back? i can’t afford to buy fancy shampoo or condition for it.,0 +1908,Is that a common thing???. So the other day I saw a yt short of a person with what I don't even know is. The video started by them shaving this guy's head and on his scalp there was like this white stuff that was everywhere and they treated it with like lemon juice and some other things. Is this a common thing that can happen to people? And if so how do I avoid it happening to me. (Sorry idk what it's called),0 +1909,Protective hairstyles for temperamental hair?. I’ve got hair similar to Hermoine (best way to describe it); I usually keep it simple and do a French braid. I’ve stuck to this for the past two years and I would like to branch out; anything requiring multiple steps is difficult for me since my hair is a pain in the neck to handle and will only put up with my new ideas for so long. Thanks to anyone that can help and have a great week.,0 +1910,"big dandruff. Hi everyone! I do a whole lot of white/transparent big chunky dandruff, I was my hair every 3-5 days depending on if i have to go out or no. My hair starts getting greasy on the second day and on the third it’s visibly greasy and shiny looking lol. Anyways, I’ve tried dandruff shampoo but it wasn’t worked :( Does anyone have any idea on how I could get rid of them?",0 +1911,Severely Damaged hair. Hi there! Recently my mom has been trying to change up her look and it’s been very difficult for her since her hair really struggles to grow and its very very very dry. She asked her normal stylist what she can do to help it and wasn’t given any advice other than extensions… but that’s an entirely different story. Just wondering if anyone can give us any advice on how to pump some moisture into there and fix some pretty hard damage thats been done from constant color and bleach. I’ve recommended her the products I use but her hair and mine are just so different I don’t even know where to start.,0 +1912,"Protecting hair from damage while working outdoors. Hi all, I'm looking for some tips on how to protect my thin, long hair while working outdoors. I'll be out in wind and rain and heat, and will be wearing a hardhat most of the time. I've tried braiding it, and that sort of works, but the strands pull out of the braid pretty quickly. I've been going with a low bun, but I'm looking for more suggestions. Any help is much appreciated. TIA!",0 +1913,"1b hair. Do you recommend using leave in conditioner for 1b hair or is hair mask better? I want to use one of these to help with the frizz and have silky hair. + +Some stuff that fit my hair description more is it’s medium density and high porosity. I also have dandruff.",0 +1914,What are basic necessities for black hair care? (Preferably inexpensive). ,0 +1915,"Australia: Product recommendations for wavy hair?. I’ve tried doing the curly girl method and it didn’t seem to make much of a difference. I’ve recently been using the Shea Moisture coconut and hibiscus shampoo and conditioner and I noticed it doesn’t really soap up in my hair all that much? + +When my hair is wet, it’s still frizzy and it almost looks like it’s trying to be wavy/curly but then as soon as I try to get any knots out with a comb, it just goes extra frizzy - but I can’t think of another way of effectively getting the knots out. I try to diffuse my hair but that just gives me heaps of flyaways on top, do I need to use a hair oil? + +I’m at my wits end trying to figure this out, I just can’t seem to get it right. Does anyone in australia have some shampoo and conditioner recommendations that won’t break the bank? I’ve heard clarifying shampoos are helpful but I’m not familiar with any.",0 +1916,"Best shampoo and conditioner for thin straight hair?. Hi guys, I'm from Canada and I have really straight thin hair, oily to dry scalp, and recently losing a lot of hair as well. Any recommendation for good shampoo and conditioner between $15 - 25?",0 +1917,"Help. So a bit of backstory, about 18 months ago I began bleaching my hair at home, by autumn of last year my hair was platinum (naturally mid-dark brown) but broken. Classic case of tiny pieces at the crown where it’s broken, sides of my hair so damaged it stands up etc. +Since then, I’ve dyed my hair back to its natural colour and been to a salon, which has given me detox shampoo which stripped most of this dye and has left me with almost an ombré from my roots to a dark brown. +Now my hair feels a lot better, and is much healthier but I am incredibly insecure over how it looks. Where my hair has broken I have layers at ear length, though my hair is shoulder length. From the back it’s incredibly obvious how thin it is and it makes me wanna cry. I feel like hair extensions (not clip ins - tape, weave etc) would be a good fix to give me my confidence back but I’m concerned that it might make it worse. Any advice would be so so appreciated + +(TLDR) my hair is broken, leading it to be various lengths and thin. I’m so insecure about it and want to get extensions to hide this. Is this a good idea? If not what else",0 +1918,"Endless splitends. Hi! My hair goes does to my hips and I love the length... but now I worried I will have to cut it. I was recently very very sick and since then I have been noticing my hair is breaking and more split ends. I can see so many white dots at the tip of hair... +Is there anything I can do instead of cutting my hair off. I would have to go to about shoulder length because that would get rid of the damage. Any help would be appreciated!",0 +1919,"Recommendations: dry itchy scalp. My skin is generally dry and my scalp is no exception. I have long, undyed hair, hair type 1 b or c. My hair looks great, but I’m looking for recommendations to deal with my dry/itchy scalp. + +Current routine: + +- wash 2x/week +- Moroccanoil hydrating shampoo and conditioner +- Moroccanoil treatment for mid/ends +- usually air dry, sometimes blow dry with round brush + +I feel like I need another step to deal with this, but I don’t know what to add. Help!",0 +1920,Should I add rosemary oil to my shampoo or conditioner?. ,0 +1921,"What can I do for tangles. I have spent thousands on my hair in the last past few months.. My hair used to never tangle until about six months ago when I started losing tons of it. I have had my thyroid and vitamin levels checked and everything and it comes back good. + +Anyways, my hair tangles and knots so bad now. I used to wash it at least 5 times a week and now I only wash it every 5 days and it gets so greasy. If I don't dry it and straighten it then my whole head would be in a knot. I have three expensive straighteners. I have the Steampod, Babyliss, and t3. I have a good hair dryer. + +But in products I have spent so much. I have bought the whole Olaplex line, Kerastase shampoo and deep conditioner, Alterna Cavier, I have used stuff like it's a 10 detangling spray. Nothing helps. The only thing that helps is that conditioner that comes in Loreal box hair dye but that's $10 a box. I bought ten boxes and kept the conditioner and gave the hair dye away (I don't use that stuff) but would love to find the conditioner. I have tried L'oreal ever creme because people has compared it to box dye conditioner and it didn't help. + +Can anyone help me or give me suggestions? I am staying depressed over hair loss and it tangling makes me lose even more. I don't know what to do and feel I have tried everything out there. + +Thanks for taking the time to read this. I just got out of the shower and my hair is in a knot after using Olaplex shampoo and conditioner and then I used no 3 hoping it would help. I don't know what to do. I am going to be bald and I'm only 39. 😭",0 +1922,"New job biosecurity requires multiple showers and hair washes per shift. Hello. I'm currently starting a new job that requires strict biosecurity protocols and I must wash my body and hair entering and exiting the work room. Unfortunately, tying up my hair or putting it in a net/ cap is not sufficient and I must wash it. I have medium-long East Asian hair and would like advice on what products I should get to help with reducing the stress of constant washing. Thank you.",0 +1923,"Help! I’m trashing my hair bc it’s constantly tangling! How do I take better care of it?. I have a lot of fine hair but it’s all mixed! I have longer hair about chest length. There are ringlet curls underneath then lots of waves on top. It is always tangling. I keep getting split ends falling out when I brush it. Is this just from it being tangled so much? + +What are some products to use to keep it less dry and tangly? Any routine advice like how much to brush or hairstyles?",0 +1924,"Easiest to rinse out shampoo?. I have a condition which limits my ability to raise and move my arms. As a result, I’m finding lathering and rinsing my hair to be a challenge. Any recommendations for a shampoo that would make this easier/require less scrubbing?",0 +1925,If I plan to grow out my bangs how often should I trim them?. I recently got some bangs (like a week and couple days ago) I did not like and I am in the process of growing them out. I was wondering if to grow them out you also have to trim them regularly? 2-3 months? I am not putting heat in them to avoid breakage. I have styled them since I got them that’s how serious I am.,0 +1926,"What's an affordable good shampoo & conditioner. The title says it all +For the longest time I've used a bunch of different shampoos and conditioners and switched after knowing what they do to my hair I. E, Pantene, OGX coconut curls,aussie, +Right now I'm using Dove daily moisture +Also my hair is generally frizzy and dry and has curls at the bottom that have been weighed down that I'd like to help look better +I also have fully dyed hair",0 +1927,JVN shampoo on oily and dry hair?. Hey! I’ve been seeing a lot of great reviews on the JVN moisturizing shampoo because it can help treat dandruff and dry hair. My hairs super dry and i have dandruff but my hair is also very greasy on the top. Has anyone with oily hair tried this shampoo or similar products from JVN?,0 +1928,"the curly girl method. so i want to try the curly girl method but i’m afraid that if i wash my hair only with conditioner and no shampoo they’re going to be still greasy and flat? also if i won’t brush my hair they’re going to fall out on their own which sucks cause they’re gonna be everywhere, on all my clothes and stuff, any tips? my hair is very thin and frizzy and when i brush them they like “electrify” and look puffy and all that and i hate it, and if i don’t brush them for some time they get wavy which i like so i want to try the method to make them more wavy but don’t want my hair to be greasy all the time and fall out :///",0 +1929,"Is there any way to get your lost hair back?. I'm suffering from a hair loss where daily around 70-90 hairs fall. It had been for 8 months and now I'm almost bald. I tried castor oil and it showed me some good results but the time I start using it lesser, it gets worse again. I'll follow any kind of routine. Please help me. +Ps: I'm using castor oil and rosemary oil from last week, help me with this too",0 +1930,Anti-dandruff shampoo. Is it bad if I use my anti-dandruff shampoo permanently? It’s the only way I can control my dandruff. Should I rotate with another shampoo?,0 +1931,Any advice for dry and frizzy hair. Hey guys I am currently a 19 year old female from India. So in winters my hair gets extremely dry and it becomes very difficult to sort it out. Also my hair is very huge in volume so the amount of time I spent washing my hair and taking care of it also becomes quite too much to handle due to my hair being frizzy and extremely dry which leads to sometimes having dandruff as well. Any solution. Looking back It all started when I got my hair temporarily straightened and now ot looks quite dry and very weak too,0 +1932,Black dye for covering grey that isn’t permanent / won’t freak out my stylist?. ,0 +1933,"Fake olapex?. I just bought olaplex no.3 from beauty bay. I never thought as beauty is a big company and has a good reputation. This is my first time getting olaplex. However, the olaplex has no qr code :(. +[image 1](https://ibb.co/zHg6xX4) +[image 2](https://ibb.co/2k13gGQ)",0 +1934,"What do you do after a keratin treatment?. After you get a keratin treatment and wait a few days for it to settle it before washing, do you air dry or blow dry your hair? I’m hearing mixed things online saying your not suppose to blow dry it for another 2-3 weeks and another saying that you’re suppose to blow dry it and flat iron after the first wash it to keep the results.",0 +1935,"How do I keep my colored hair healthy?. Haircare routine for colored hair is more difficult and needs extra attention or else they gonna end up looking dead like a broom. Some may think that using just shampoo and conditioner along with some hair treatment serums are enough. But honestly, it's more than that. I talked about this in my article if you want to have a look. [https://carityc.com/how-to-take-care-of-dyed-hair-proven-remedies/](https://carityc.com/how-to-take-care-of-dyed-hair-proven-remedies/)",0 +1936,Coloring on unwashed hair. Technical question : I plan to try a new hair dye (Natural Instincts) that is supposed to be applied on unwashed hair. But I sprayed root concealer on them two days ago. Will the dye stick despite that spray residue?,0 +1937,"Daily haircare routine help. Hey! + +I have medium length hair that's quite wavy underneath but on top it's straight. + +I'd like it to be more wavy everywhere. What can I use to help this along? + +What else can I include in my hair care routine that will keep it healthy and shiny in general? At the moment my ritual is just to keep it clean and protect it from heat and cold. + +Thanks!",0 +1938,Getting starter locs tomorrow any tips or advice to take good care of them. ,0 +1939,"How to get rid of frizz/flyaways?. My hair is like 1b maybe 1C. I always have hairs on the top of my head that stand up straight no matter how much gel or hairspray I add. I live in a very humid place, so it could be inevitable, but I would love to fix it. + +My current hair routine is washing my hair every night with shampoo and conditioner. Tresemme if that matters.",0 +1940,"Product alternative recommendation. My husband has used for years Matrix Biolage Smoothing Cream for coarse hair. It was discontinued a few years back but we were still able to order inventory from a few places. It seems stock has run dry now and despite my prodding him to look for alternatives, he hasn’t. + +I’m trying to find something that will work just as well as that did for him. Any recommendations? Thanks!",0 +1941,"Why didn't my Keratin Hair Straightening treatment work? What can I do to straighten my hair?. I have extremely wavy hair, and I don't mean good wavy, they are ugly wavy. They are so springy that they just refuse to coil. Two weeks ago I got the keratin straightening treatment from a nearby saloon and my hair got very straightened and beautiful. But after 5 days when I washed my hair ( with a keratin shampoo ) my hair were back to the ugly old hair. I went to the saloon again and he offered to try the treatment again the following week. He did the treatment again last week, but again as soon as I washed my hair they are again back to the old ugly frizzy wavy hair. I have attached a photo below. + + +[https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TZDyuN2OjQIQ3u-WyfYiwXRf9u2recFr/view?usp=sharing](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TZDyuN2OjQIQ3u-WyfYiwXRf9u2recFr/view?usp=sharing) + +I don't know what to do anymore and looking at the mirror makes me extremely depressed now. Can anybody advise anything I can do to get straight hair?",0 +1942,"I, m 21, need help with hair care.. First off, i dont know anything about hair care and i have ocd where coming in contact with sticky and oily products make me feel extremely unwell, i once almost passed out after eating fried fish cuz the oil wasnt washing off. I dont even use hair conditioner cuz of how my hands feel, i use the two in one Clear Man shampoo, but i love long hair and i want it to look good + +My hair is supposed to be smooth but its now breaking at the touch and it gets tangled on the tips by just the friction of the hair itself + +Im looking for products (or hair care techniques cuz as a male i dont know any) i can use that wash off easily, im willing to start using conditioner and maybe a different brand of shampoo if thats needed, but i feel like ill never be able to use oils. Can anyone help me out?",0 +1943,How can I stop hair breakage?. What are some ways that has worked for you to stop hair fall?,0 +1944,"Need blow dryer advice for thin hair. I have thin, straight, fine hair and I desperately need a new blow dryer! Something to help with winter frizz and static but also keep my fine hair safe. Also not looking to break the bank so maybe around $50? I can't believe all the bad reviews I'm finding online! Dryers sparking, paint chipping, etc. Help!",0 +1945,"Why do I have red pimples in my scalp. So the past two years I've started to notice that I have pimples in my hair. There aren't many at most there are 2 or 3. However, they are always there when one is gone another pops up. I tried washing my hair daily and tried changing shampoos and tried to wash it once a week and none of it seems to work. Any idea what causes it? Someone told me eating too much sugar could cause scalp inflammation which might be the reason why. Any advice?",0 +1946,"Could someone recommend me some shampoo/conditioner for fine hair?. I have recently started to put more effort into my hair and have realised that I have been using terrible drugstore shampoos and conditioners on my hair. I don't really have any knowledge about hair so I need some help. + +My hair is dyed red (garnet red) and is very straight and fine so I'm seeking something that won't weigh down my hair and will not strip out the colour.",0 +1947,"3 Winter Hair Troubles & How To Tackle Them- Naturally!. Cold Weather is your hair’s worst enemy. As the temperatures start to plummet, so does the moisture in the air. This is what ultimately leads to unwanted hair problems like- + +* Dry Hair +* Split Ends +* Dry & Itchy Scalp + +A considerable dip in the moisture levels in the air can leave your hair looking dry and brittle. This is especially true for curly-haired girls as their tresses are already dry by nature. The simple fix to this not-so-cute hair situation is to (A) avoid heat tools that will further dry your hair and (B) include natural hydrating products like Argan oil, Castor Oil, Coconut Oil, Aloe Vera Gel, in your hair care routine that renew and replenish dry hair. + +The best way to get rid of split ends is to go for regular trims, but if you’re still contemplating visiting a salon amid the pandemic, we suggest you take matters into your own hands. Give them regular care, with natural oils & conditioners. We say natural because toxic chemicals will make things worse. Onion, Rosemary, Lavender, Apple Cider, Argan are some natural ingredients you can try! + +It is generally recommended to treat your scalp the same way you treat your skin. So, if your skin is getting dry during the winter months, so is your scalp. Dry scalp lacks hydration and moisture, leading to flaking, itching & dandruff A good way to instantly nourish the scalp is by pampering it to a hot oil champi to calm the itchy sensation. Tea Tree, Onion, Neem, Henna & Castor are some oils that will work magic on your hair! + +Don't let the cold bother you, flaunt your long, lustrous, shiny hair everywhere you go!",0 +1948,"Hair cut help. Im 6'2 skinny fit white male, 15 years old, medium long hair, like length of lord farquad hair, i have (i think) an oval face shape, long dirty blonde hair, thick and wavy, any ideas? Preferably something masculine and attractive",0 +1949,"Hair falling out. Hi🌸 +So I really really need advice please… my hairdresser told me that my scalp was a bit clogged and that i should wash my hair with baking soda and after that wash my hair is so so so thin and I’m literally going bold! My hair is falling out like crazy and I don’t know what to do! +Any advice would be much appreciated 👏🏻",0 +1950,"Blow drying help please. I typically let my hair air dry because every time I try to blow dry it, it looks and feels awful. My hair ends up clumping together and gets greasy and stringy way faster than normal, and I can’t just go to sleep with it wet because then it never fully dries and will still be damp when I wake up. I’m going to have to start blow drying fairly regularly soon just because I do not have the time to let my hair fully air dry anymore, but I don’t know what to do without my hair looking horrible. I have naturally blonde hair that’s medium thickness and I typically wash every 2-3 days, but if I blow dry I have to wash it the next day because it looks so bad. If anyone knows why this is happening or has any advice it would be much appreciated because I’m at my wits end.",0 +1951,"very thick, frizzy, & curly hair. hi, i’m a male & i have somewhat long curly hair, but it is so thick & frizzy & it’s so hard to manage. i was looking for any products or shampoos/condintoners that are good for hair like mine, & that are relatively inexpensive. i want a product that wont make my hair wet-looking & frizzy, but also makes my hair soft and untangled. currently, i use garnier whole blends shampoo & conditioner, & garnier curl nourish for a leave-in conditioner. any help is appreciated greatly!",0 +1952,"recommendations for scalp exfoliants?. ive been suffering from a severely itchy scalp for maybe 10 years. it’s weird cuz it itches like crazy only when it is wet, or when it comes in contact with just the slightest bit of moisture. + +i have a very oily scalp and huge painful cystic acne up there too, and always find sebum buildup under my nails from scratching even after washing my hair, so im now looking for a scalp chemical exfoliant of sorts to at least get rid of the buildup so i can itch in peace and only be semi disgusted by myself lol + +ive been to a dermatologist for it a bunch of times, and they’ve only ever told me to get some stinky otc t-gel shampoo, and it never seemed to help! when they looked at my scalp, they mentioned not seeing any inflammation or irritation, so they didn’t want to prescribe me anything cuz they didn’t really see anything “off”. ive noticed a lot of hair shedding too, especially over the last couple years, and ive heard sebum buildup can clog follicles, so im on the market for some scalp exfoliants! preferably chemical, and not a physical scrub (cuz of my painful pimples). looking for products or diy exfoliators! + +any help would be appreciated! :)",0 +1953,"Help with braids care overnight. As the title implies i (male, braids about chin length at longest) got my braids done again today and usually i would wear my durag however braids have gotten too long for the durag. So i was wondering what would i do or use to keep them looking as fresh as possible for the longest?",0 +1954,"Want to improve my flat thin hair. Hey so I’m new to hair care and I don’t know much about researching about it but there I things I wanna avoid. I want the the brand or brands I use to be cruelty- free, inclusive, and sulfate free. I also don’t know much about hair care so tips for it will be greatly appreciated. Where should I start for a more luxurious, shiny, strong, and long hair?",0 +1955,"Lush vs Ethique for shampoo/conditioner bars?. I’ve heard mixed reviews for both and would like to know if anyone has any advice? + +My hair is straight, light brown, and gets oily easily. The individual hairs are pretty fine but I just have a lot of hair. I like to keep it short so it’s about shoulder length. Sorry I don’t know if this is unnecessary information lol. + +I would appreciate hearing about your experiences/anything you’ve heard about them!",0 +1956,"Recently Noticed a Bald Spot on my Scalp - Brad Mondo has Me Wondering If I Did It To Myself.. [Hair Washing Hacks That Will Save Your Hair - Brad Mondo](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nchrj-dzVgs) + +I have a dermatologists appointment on the 25th of Jan next year. + +I was concerned it was immune alopecia - Now I'm wondering if maybe that's just part of the equation. + +Context on my hair: + +I have super straight (fine - 2a) fine (thin) blonde hair (never colored - ever, in my life) that is now at least 24in long (and hasn't had a cut in literal years...Really want to have it cut - don't want to go to a salon until I know what the bald spot is). Wasn't having any apparent problems with it until around august of this year. I have changed how I care for my hair as it's grown longer - being more harsh with it than not - and I think these changes may have contributed to the obvious damage I'm dealing with currently (if not to just/only my hair - to my scalp). + +The biggest issues are that my ends are terribly dry and overall I'm losing more hair than is normal for me on a daily basis. Along with the obvious bald spot (that, isn't obvious to the eye but obvious to me), I'm losing way more hair in my brush than I had been prior. + +\*I think the hair in this spot IS growing back. There def. is SOME regrowth towards the top of this 'spot' - wondering if It's not actually tension alopecia (where - the hair was weak and my pulling it back real tight caused it to yeet off my head) + bad hair care\*. + +Things I do Wrong (have started doing wrong MORE since my hair has grown longer): + +1. I take REALLY hot showers. Father actually turned the water heater down on me because he was worried I took them too hot. +2. The hair turban - and then proceeding to rub my hair together in the towel to dry it. +3. Pulling it up as tight as I can - Slicking the hair back in a brush and pulling it as tight and flush to my head as I can. (For work mainly - don't do that anymore - per regular docs recommendations). +4. Mixing shampoos for the lather....This one would make Brad Mondo cringe...but I WAS mixing Bath and Body Works body wash with shampoo and using that on my hair. Why? Because I liked the lather. Something that Brad Mondo says is basically a marketing gimmick. +5. I started scratching in circles for the lather - I used to be much more gentle with my hair when it was shorter. Now that it's gotten long, I felt like I needed to really scrub to get my head clean. +6. Using the wrong brush! I've got a hard plastic brush with hard plastic bristles. It's sort-of no wonder my (already weak) hair is coming out moreso in this brush than ever before. There is no give at all in this thing. + 1. I had seen a boar bristle brush before - didn't know it had a specific usage for it. Oh...Freakin Oh. +7. I use too much shampoo - And I rub down the ends of my hair too - no wonder it's dry. + +I just wanted to post this as 'my experience' with this bald spot and my hairs health with the things I've learned. + +I found this bald spot after having my hair in a bun. Was excited to be able to get it up into a bun that I thought looked nice. Going to take the bun down - I put my finger along my scalp to find the (also damaging) hair tie and I notice...rubber? no...skin...that's JUST skin....It's right above my ear. + +In other words - I didn't pull a glob of hair out of my brush one day. This must've been happening over a period of time and I hadn't noticed until...well...I felt a giant patch of just skin on my head. Hopefully this helps someone else who's panicked about losing hair at too young of an age. + +Could still be immune related alopecia - but it's probably moreso a combination of stress coupled with terrible haircare. I hope this helps some other people like me. + +Thanks Brad Mondo.",0 +1957,"I would love some shampoo and conditioner recommendations.. So I'm looking to try a different shampoo and conditioner. I've been using Gardiner Fructis Pure Clean for a long time and I feel like it's not doing much for my hair. I struggle with frizz and I'm just not liking it anymore. + +I've got Type 1 a to b hair, very thin and straight but I have a lot of it. I'd love anything that makes my hair a bit thicker and or helps with tangling. I'm just tired of it looking frizzy and lifeless so I'd love any recommendations. + +Thank you!",0 +1958,Maintaining oily hair while wanting volume. I have a naturally oily scalp and my hair is always flat with little to no volume. Anyway I can maintain my oily scalp while giving volume to my hair?,0 +1959,"weird white dots on my hair. I have these white dots on my hair and it is really annoying me, I make sure to shampoo 2 times and then shampoo just the top of my hair because that’s where the white dots appear. (It used to be on my ends but now it’s gone) i know it’s not lice because it doesn’t feel itchy at all, does anyone know how to get rid of these white dots?",0 +1960,"Manic Panic hair dying vs other products. Im useing the blech lighting kit on my hair Thursday and plan to add the color in Saturday. + +I use old spice shampoo 2 in 1 every monday and Thursday, a schwarzkopf gliss hair repair on Wednesdays and Sundays, and a dove dry shampoo about once a week when i feel i need it. + +My hair is kinda thick and isnt in the best condition since i only recently learned your not suppost to use shampoo 2 in 1 every night. Weirdly it always seems to be grossly oily when i dont add product throughout the week. +For hair dye like manic panic is this a good idea to contiune or should i change it up? From what it says on the bottle the more shampoo days you have the quicker it'll wash out, so im trying to get a good system going where i can not shampoo as much as possible but not feel gross hair.",0 +1961,"Hair Help - Thin hair, oily scalp, dry ends - best practices and products?. Hi! + +I know zero things about proper hair care and it's really starting to show. I'm 30 y/o and have very thin hair that I need to wash daily or it becomes unbelievably oily. I can go a day or two without washing it but since my hair is so thin, it plasters to my scalp and shows bald spots everywhere. Not a good look. The ends are dry as the desert and are completely dead. I get the ends trimmed but they die again quickly. + +Current routine: +I use Pantene Essential Botanicals Volumizing Shampoo and Conditioner +After getting out of the shower I wrap a towel around my hair while I get ready. Hair out of the towel - brush while it's wet. It's always REALLY tangly. + +Air dry + +That's it. I'm sure that most of these steps are killing my hair but have no idea where to even begin. I always have my hair in a braid or ponytail, I work from home and just want it out of the way. + +I dont have much time to spare for hair and would prefer to not drop a ton of money. Please help!",0 +1962,"Almond scented. So I’m in love with the smell of Drunk Elephant’s cocomino glossing shampoo. Especially the scent, which is almonds. But don’t love the company or the price per ounce. I mean most salon brands are more affordable than that little bottle. + +Do you know of any other shampoo that smells like almonds? TIA",0 +1963,"Howbcan I detangle a really tangled hair?. I suffer from severe ADHD but i have long hair. (Not a good combination). +Like a little bit more of 2 months ago a big knot formed on the back of my head. I've been trying to detangle it but due to my ADHD i've been thinking I'll do it later and when I try to do it I don't handle frustration very well. +It haa been like almost 3 months and the tangle is still there and It's even worse. I have 2 amall dreadlocks in them like 1cm long. +I thought about going to a hair salon to get it done or something because it is too frustrating, buy maybe you have tips to detangle it. +Thanks very much:)",0 +1964,"Need help.. Had itchy scalp forever!!. I have a very dry and itchy scalp that feels like there are flakes, but there isn't, My roommate says that it looks like my scalp is extremely dry. Every shampoo I have tried makes it worse and conditioners aren't much better. I tried the curly girl method and it made it WORSE. Exfoliating shampoos made it worse. +I'm desperate, please help.",0 +1965,"Recommendation for conditioner,. I don’t like to put anything make me feel oily or uncomfortable for me or my hair, If you know a light and effective conditioner brand ,?",0 +1966,"Recommendations needed please. I have long wavy thick hair. And up until now I’ve never given much thought into my hair care routine, but now that it’s falling out in clumps I’m terrified. I’ve been buying random brands to try and see if that makes a difference so far not so much, I’m on a budget so a $30 bottle is just not feasible. If it requires ordering online, I rarely buy online so I’ll probably forget to reorder before I need a new bottle so please only suggestions I can buy on my way home from work or at a salon on the weekends.",0 +1967,Would you say a hair straightener or a blow dry brush is more damaging?. Trying to keep my heat damage at a minimum but can’t really figure out which one is “worse” for your hair. Right now I just use one or the other to style my hair for the week. Let me know what you guys think!,0 +1968,"Why is my hair getting oily so fast, and how can I help it?. I washed my hair on Tuesday afternoon, and realized that by Wednesday, it was looking limp and a bit stringy. Now it’s Thursday morning and it’s annoying oily. I used to be able to go several days without washing my hair and it wouldn’t be an issue, but now I can barely go through a five day school week. + +My hair is long (lower-mid back), flat, and stick straight, so the moment it gets oily, it’s becomes impossible to manage. Dry shampoo used to help but now it just makes my hair messy and it returns to greasy within minutes. I plan on cutting my hair a few inches so it’s chest length but I doubt the less weight will do anything with how flat my hair has always been. Is there any tips or product recommendations (preferably ones with minimal residue or weird textures due to sensory issues) that might make it easier for my hair to absorb oil or just not get oily as quickly? + +Extra stuff: I’m using the Kristin Ess signature shampoo and conditioner and COLAB dry shampoo, absolutely no other products.",0 +1969,How to make my mane luscious. How do I keep my hair healthy. I want to grow my hair out and to this point it’s down to my nose. I wash it everyday with shampoo and conditioner but I heard that’s bad. I work a lot and work out a lot so how can I not wash it everyday but keep it from smelling bad?,0 +1970,Styling products for volume. What are your favourite products for creating volume? I usually prefer mousse but open to suggestions both drug store or high end.,0 +1971,"8 years ago today, I shared the worst joke I ever created. I reposted it 4 years ago. Here it is again for those that missed it.. There are two identical twin brothers that live together. One happens to be a well-respected dentist, and the other can't seem to keep a job. Instead of actively looking for work, he likes to sit around at home. One Saturday, the dentist is hungry, and puts his brother on the spot. He tells him to get off his lazy behind and go get them some food. After some protest, the lazy brother takes the car and leaves for the store. In the meantime, the dentist takes a nap on his day off. He turns off his phone so he won't be interrupted. + +About 30 minutes later, the lazy brother gets into a head-on collision in the intersection by the grocery store. His vital signs are fading; he's unconscious and barely moving. An ambulance picks him up and rushes him to the hospital. He ends up in the Emergency Room under observation, but his condition is critical. They try calling his dentist brother, but he doesn't pick up because his phone is off. + +The dentist wakes to a knock on the door. Suspecting a solicitor, he ignores it, but the knocking continues. Eventually, he resolves to get up and yell at the person at the door. When he does, he reveals--- the grim reaper. He is just as he appears in movies; a full skeleton underneath a tattered cloak. + +The grim reaper swears. ""Oh no! This always happens with identical twins"". + +""What do you mean?"" asks the dentist. + +""Well... if you must know, your brother was in a critical car accident, and I've come to take him to the underworld. I'm afraid his time on Earth has ended. I'll take my leave now."" + +The dentist is noticeably upset. He says ""Wait! Isn't there some way I can challenge you for my brother's life? After all, YOU made the mistake. Certainly there must be a way I can bargain for his life."" + +The grim reaper asks ""What do you have in mind?"" + +The dentist thinks. ""How about a challenge? If I beat you, you let my brother go free."" + +The grim reaper laughs. ""I will beat you in any challenge. What challenge do you propose?"" + +The dentist smiles. ""I propose we see who has the cleanest teeth. 5 minutes of brushing each, then we decide."" + +""Very well"" says the grim reaper, who makes his way to the bathroom. + +Once there, he pulls back his tattered cloak to reveal his skull. It's glistening. He takes a toothbrush from the bathroom, loads it with toothpaste, and brushes. After 5 minutes, the shiniest teeth anyone has ever seen glisten and make the room bright. The grim reaper grins. ""You are foolish human. But, you are entitled to your chance."" + +The dentist takes another toothbrush, loads it with toothpaste, and starts brushing like a madman. When his 5 minutes are up, he spits out the paste. He smiles. + +It's unbelievable. + +The shine from the dentist's teeth is so beautiful that he can see the grim reaper's reflection in his perfectly clean teeth. + +The winner is obvious. The grim reaper hangs his head in shame. ""You win, human. This time. Your brother will live."" He disappears in a puff of smoke. At the same instant, the bed-ridden brother wakes up in the hospital. Not only is he uninjured, he seems perfectly healthy. Suddenly, the phone by his bed rings. It's his brother, the dentist. He picks up. ""Hey bro. You'll never believe what happened. Apparently, I went out to the market and got hit by a car. They say I almost died."" + +The dentist smiles on the phone and says. ""That's interesting, bro. Today you might say that I also had a brush with death.""",0 +1972,what's the fastest way to get banned from r/conservative?. source?,0 +1973,"An old man calls his son and says, ""Listen, your mother and I are getting divorced. Forty-five years of misery is enough."". ""Dad, what are you talking about?"" the son screams. + +“We can't stand the sight of each other any longer,” he says. ""I'm sick of her face, and I'm sick of talking about this, so call your sister and tell her,"" and he hangs up. + +Now, the son is worried. He calls his sister. She says, ""Like hell they’re getting divorced!"" She calls their father immediately. ""You’re not getting divorced! Don't do another thing. The two of us are flying home tomorrow to talk about this. Until then, don't call a lawyer, don't file a paper. DO YOU HEAR ME?” She hangs up the phone. + +The old man turns to his wife and says, ""Okay, they’re both coming for Christmas and paying their own airfares.",0 +1974,How many Trump supporters does it take to change a lightbulb?. None. Trump says it’s changed and his supporters all cheer in the dark.,0 +1975,Antiwork did an interview on Fox News to try to create a good public image of their sub. It didn't work.,0 +1976,"Donald Trump was asked "" what is 2+2""??. ""I have to say a lot of people have been asking this question. No, really. A lot of people come up to me and they ask me. They say, 'Sir!, What's 2+2?' And I tell them look, we know what 2+2 is. We've had almost eight years of the worst kind of math you can imagine. Oh my god, I can't believe it. Addition and subtraction of the 1s the 2s and the 3s. Its terrible. Its just terrible. Look, if you want to know what 2+2 is, do you want to know what 2+2 is? I'll tell you. First of all the number 2, by the way I love the number 2. It's probably my favorite number, no it is my favorite number. You know what, it's probably more like the number two but with a lot of zeros behind it. A lot. If I'm being honest, I mean, if I'm being honest. I like a lot of zeros. Except for Marco Rubio, now he's a zero that I don't like. Though, I probably shouldn't say that. He's a nice guy but he's like, '10101000101', on and on, like that. He's like a computer! You know what I mean? He's like a computer. I don't know. I mean, you know. So, we have all these numbers and we can add them and subtract them and add them. TIMES them even. Did you know that? We can times them OR divide them, they don't tell you that, and I'll tell you, no one is better at the order of operations than me. You wouldn't believe it. That I can tell you. So, we're gonna be the best on 2+2, believe me. OK? Alright. Thank you."" Reporter 1: ""But what actually is 2+2?"" Trump: ""Siddown. No, siddown. I've already answered your question. Haven't I already answered your question. This is what we get from news reporters, folks. Give me a nice question. Yes - you."" Reporter 2: ""Is your name Donald Trump?"" Trump: ""Now that's a nice question, folks. That's what I want."" + +Edit. To all people spamming my inbox with hate message. It's literally just a joke. Learn to take a joke like a joke or don't browse r/Jokes. + +Edit 2:- to the person who called reddit care on me thanks for your concern but no thanks I don't need it. I am mentally sound and physically fit. + +Edit 3:- To the person who messaged + +>I will see how you joke after i share your address libtard. Yeah I gonna keep a tab on your I'd mf. Let's see where is your home. + +I will spare you the effort. I live in India. Come and get me bro. Your entitled ass won't survive 2 minutes in the heat and humidity of here. + +All jokes aside i am little scared how much people can get charged up over a innocent joke.",0 +1977,I taught my kids about democracy tonight by having them vote on what movie to watch and pizza to order. And then I picked the movie and pizza I wanted because I'm the one with the money.,0 +1978,"A man at my wife’s workplace has been sexually harassing her, but honestly I feel like it’s her fault.. She’s the one who chose to work from home, and she knows how I feel about dat ass.",0 +1979,Having homosexual parents must be terrible. Either you have double dosage of dad jokes or you are stuck in cycle of “go ask your mom”,0 +1980,"In 2017, Trump went to meet Vladimir Putin in Moscow.... ... They had dinner at the Kremlin and sat down afterwards alone for drinks and cigars and to discuss business. + +After a little bit Putin asks Trump ""hey, you wanna see something?"" and he rings a little bell that's sitting on the coffee table. + +A beautiful blond walks in to the room, kneels in front of Putin, and without a word starts giving him a blowjob right there in front of Trump. + +A few minutes go by and Putin smacks the blond once on the back of the head, she gets up, and without a word leaves the room. + +Putin smiles at Trump. ""You wanna try too?"" He asks. + +""Yes"" says Trump enthusiastically ""but please don't smack my head when you're done"".",0 +1981,"If you take the first two letters of the title of each the 7 Harry Potter books, it spells out a secret message. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA",0 +1982,"A burglar breaks into a home and holds the husband and wife in it hostage.. (Disclaimer: I believe this is OC because I heard it in Cantonese and I've translated it, so also, apologies for bad English) + +A burglar breaks into a home and holds the husband and wife in it hostage. At gunpoint, he forces the two to sit on chairs facing the opposite way, back to each other, and ties them to the chairs. The burglar slowly and methodically begins stealing from the house. + +When the burglar has taken everything of value, he gets ready to leave, the homeowners still bound to their chairs, when suddenly, the man yells at the burglar, + +""Please untie her, please, let her go!"" + +The thief responds with, + +""No, I'm not untying either of you so that the authorities get notified as late as possible. Don't worry, your neighbours will soon wonder why your lights are still on throughout the night and check in on you long before you succumb to dehydration"" + +The man yet again pleads, + +""Please, just untie her, I'll do anything!"" + +The burglar once again explains his reasoning, + +""I need to get away with this crime, I'm sorry, I can't leave anything up to chance."" + +The man shuffles his chair towards the burglar, in a state of mania, exclaims, + +""I'm begging you man, just let her go, she won't call the cops, I promise!"" + +The burglar, still unwilling to budge, did find it quite touching how much his hostage cared about his wife. + +""Wow,"" he said ""You must really love your wife to beg me to untie her so desperately"" + +""No,"" The man replied, in a state of frenzy ""My wife will be home in 15 minutes""",0 +1983,"Can we ban ""yo momma"" jokes from this sub? They're old, stupid and have been done by literally everyone hundreds of times. Just like yo mamma",0 +1984,"Putin, Biden and Zelensky are all in a hot air balloon. + +Putin, Biden and Zelensky are all in a hot air balloon and it’s starting to lose altitude. They need to lose some weight to stop from crashing. + +Putin throws out a bottle of vodka and says “don’t worry I’ve got too much of that in my country anyway” + +Biden throws out an AR-15 and says “don’t worry I’ve got too much of that in my country anyway” + +Zelensky throws out Putin and says “don’t worry I’ve got too much of that in my country anyway” and looks at Biden smugly as they crash anyways due to the massive weight of Zelensky's balls.",0 +1985,"We should have a TV show where illegal immigrants hunt down sex offenders for a chance at citizenship. We can call it ""Alien vs Predator"" + +\[EDIT\]: Wow I can't believe the amount of people who would want to make it a reality. *Netflix if your seeing this post you know what to do.* + +**If you want, you may follow this post - I may update it in the future if something exciting happens.** + +​",0 +1986,"A man went into the confessional and said to his priest, 'I almost had an affair with another woman.'. The priest said, 'What do you mean, almost? The man said, 'Well, we got undressed and rubbed together, but then I stopped! The priest said, Rubbing together is the same as putting it in. You're not to see that woman again. For your penance, say five Hail Mary's and put $50 in the poor box! + +The man left the confessional, said his prayers, and then walked over to the poor box. He paused for a moment and then started to leave. + +The priest, who was watching, quickly ran over to him saying, 'I saw that. You didn't put any money in the poor box! + +The man replied, Yeah, but I rubbed the $50 on the box, and according to you, that's the same as putting it in!",0 +1987,"Four cannibals apply for a job in a big corporation…. „Well“, says the boss, „if I hire you guys, you have to promise to not eat any of our staff.“ + +The cannibals promise that they will not eat anyone and get hired. + +Everything is going well for a while, and one day the boss calls them into his office. + +“You’re working well and all, but we’re missing an office cleaner. Do you have something to do with that?” + +The cannibals swear that they are innocent. + +The boss believes them and leaves the office and they all turn to their leader. + +“You idiots!”, he screams. “Who ate the cleaner?” + +One of the cannibals sheepishly raises his hand. + +“You fool!”, shouts the leader. +""For weeks we've been feasting on directors, team leaders, project managers and human resource staff, and then you go and eat someone they'll actually miss!""",0 +1988,"How many Texas cops does it take to save children from an active shooter?. Still under investigation. + +​ + +​ + +​ + +Edit: For those who assume I think any part of this situation is funny... [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black\_comedy](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black_comedy). Also who gave me a Wholesome award? That's seriously messed up. + +Edit 2: For those claiming it's ""too soon""... I respectfully disagree, I think this is the perfect time. The pain won't ever go away for those families - there will never be a time when they'll think ""Sure, it's been long enough - go ahead and laugh about it."" However, the anger and shock felt by the general public will begin to fade as other news stories and other tragedies steal our attention. Better to elicit stronger emotions now and hopefully, in a tiny imperceptible way, increase the likelihood of meaningful change.",0 +1989,Guide for Russian troops: How to identify Ukrainians. Sometimes Ukrainian saboteurs try to pass off as Russian troops. The easiest way to identify them is to remove their pants and examine their genitalia. All Ukrainians have balls of steel. Even women.,0 +1990,"A Politician Dies And Has To Spend Just ONE Day In Hell. A politician dies and ends up standing in front of the pearly gates. Saint Peter looks at him for a second, flicks through his book, and finds his name. + +""So, you're a politician..."" + +""Well, yes, is that a problem?"" + +""Oh no, no problem. But we've recently adopted a new system for people in your line of work, and unfortunately you will have to spend a day in Hell. After that however, you're free to choose where you want to spend eternity!"" + +""Wait, I have to spend a day in Hell?!"" says the politician. ""Those are the rules,"" replies St Peter, clicks his fingers, and WOOMPH, the guy disappears. He awakes, curled up with his hands over his eyes, knowing he's in Hell. Cautiously, he listens for the screams, sniffs the air for brimstone, and finds... Nothing. Just the smell of, is that fabric softener? And cut grass, this can't be right? + +""Open your eyes!"" says a voice. ""C'mon, wakey wakey, we've only got 24 hours!"" Nervously, he uncovers his eyes, looks around, and sees he's in a hotel room. A nice one too. Wait, this is a penthouse suite... And there's a smiling man in a suit, holding a martini. ""Who are you??"" The politician asks. + +""Well, I'm Satan!"" says the man, handing him the drink and helping him to his feet. ""Welcome to Hell!"" + +""Wait, this is Hell? But... Where's all the pain and suffering?"" he asks. + +Satan throws him a wink. ""Oh, we've been a bit misrepresented over the years, it's a long story. Anyway, this is your room! The minibar is of course free, as is the room service, there's extra towels next to the hot-tub, and if you need anything, just call reception. But enough of this! It's a beautiful day, and if you'd care to look outside..."" + +Slightly stunned by the opulent surroundings, the man wanders over to the floor-to-ceiling windows through which the sun is glowing, looks far down, and sees a group of people cheering and waving at him from a golf course. + +""It's one of 5 pro-level courses on site, and there's another 6 just a few minutes drive out past the beach and harbour!"" says Satan, answering his unasked question. + +So they head down in the lift, walk out through the glittering lobby where everyone waves and welcomes the man, as Satan signs autographs and cheerily talks shop with the laughing staff. And as he walks out, he sees the group on the golf course are made up of every one of his old friends, people he's admired for years but never met or worked with, and people whose work he's admired but died long before his career started. And out of the middle of this group walks his wife, with a massive smile and the body she had when she was 20, who throws her arms around him and plants a delicate kiss on his cheek. Everyone cheers and applauds, and as they slap him on the back and trade jokes, his worst enemy arrives, as a 2 foot tall goblin-esque caddy. He spends the day in the bright sunshine on the course, having the time of his life laughing at jokes and carrying important discussions, putting the world to rights with his friends while holding his delighted wife next to him as she gazes lovingly at him. + +Later, they return to the hotel for dinner and have an enormous meal, perfectly cooked. As everyone is falling about laughing and flinging bread sticks at each other, his wife whispers in his ear... And they return to their penthouse suite, and spend the rest of the night making love like they did on their honeymoon. After hours of passion, the man falls deep into the 100% Egyptian cotton pillows, and falls into a deep and happy sleep... and is woken up by St Peter. + +""So, that was Hell. Wasn't what you were expecting, I bet?"" ""No sir!"" says the man. ""So then,"" says St Peter. ""You can make your choice. It's Hell, which you saw, or Heaven, which has choral singing, talking to God, white robes, and so on."" + +""Well... I know this sounds strange, but on balance, I think I'd prefer Hell,"" says the politician. ""Not a problem, we totally understand! Enjoy!"" says St Peter, and clicks his fingers again. + +The man wakes up in total darkness, the stench of ammonia filling the air and distant screams the only noise. As he adjusts, he can see the only light is from belches of flame far away, illuminating the ragged remains of people being tortured or burning in a sulphurous ocean. A sudden bolt of lightning reveals Satan next to him, wearing the same suit as before and grinning, holding a soldering iron in one hand and a coil of razor-wire in the other. ""What's this??"" He cries. ""Where's the hotel?? Where's my wife??? Where's the minibar, the golf-courses, the pool, the restaurant, the free drinks and the sunshine???"" + +""Ah"", says Satan. ""You see, yesterday, we were campaigning. But today, you voted.""",0 +1991,"A soldier ran up to a nun. Out of breath he asked, “Please, may I hide under your skirt. I’ll explain later.”. The nun agreed… + + A moment later two Military Police ran up and asked, “Sister, have you seen a soldier?” + +The nun replied, “He went that way.” + +After the MPs ran off, the soldier crawled out from under her skirt and said, “I can’t thank you enough, sister. You see, I don’t want to go to Iraq.” + +The nun said, “I understand completely.” + +The soldier added, “I hope I’m not rude, but you have a great pair of legs!” + +The nun replied, “If you had looked a little higher, you would have seen a great pair of balls…. I don’t want to go to Iraq either...",0 +1992,"Why was my post removed?. Can anyone tell me why my post was removed? + +I'm a bit annoyed by this because my fence has fallen over.",0 +1993,I am getting so sick of millennials and their attitude.. Always walkin around like they rent the place.,0 +1994,What's the difference between Republicans and Ukrainians?. Ukrainians defend their Capitol.,0 +1995,"Vladimir Putin consulted with a fortune teller. He asked:. ""How long will I live?"" + +The psychic replied: +""I cannot tell that but I do know you will die on a Ukrainian holiday."" + +""Which holiday?"" Putin asked. + +""Whichever day you die will be a Ukrainian holiday.""",0 +1996,simulation of monkey pressing button. simulation complete,0 +1997,Did you hear that the US bobsled team put Donald Trump's picture on the front of the sled?. Apparently nobody else can make America go downhill faster.,0 +1998,"A blonde suspects her boyfriend of cheating on her, so she goes out and buys a gun. She goes to his apartment unexpectedly and sure enough, she finds him in the arms of a redhead.. She gets so angry and opens her purse to take out the gun. But then, she is overcome with grief. She takes the gun and puts it to her head. + +The boyfriend yells, ""Don't do it honey"". + +The blonde yells back, ""Shut up, you are next"".",0 +1999,"Interviewer: How do you explain this 4 year gap on your resume?. Guy: That’s when I went to Yale... +Interviewer: That’s impressive. You are hired. +Guy: Thanks. I really needed this Yob.",0 +2000,"Donald Trump finds a magic lamp. He rubs it, and a genie comes out.. Genie: ""I grant you three wishes."" + +Trump: ""I'm tired of getting sued for everything I do. I want there to be no more courts."" + +Genie: ""Granted. You have no wishes left."" + +Trump: ""What the hell? You told me I had three wishes, and I only used one!"" + +Genie: ""Sue me.""",0 +2001,"A man is on a street corner in Moscow yelling “The president is an idiot “. Police surround him and handcuff him. They say “it is illegal to insult President Putin” + +He says “You don’t understand I mean the Ukrainian president, Zelensky, he is the one I was insulting “ + +The police captain says “you can’t fool us, everyone knows who the idiot is”",0 +2002,"A man boarded an airplane and took his seat. As he settled in, he glanced up and saw the most beautiful woman boarding the plane. He soon realized She was heading straight towards his seat. As fate would have it, she took the seat right beside his:. Eager to strike up a conversation he blurted out. ""Business trip or pleasure?"" + +She turned, smiled and said. ""Business. I’m going to the Annual Nymphomaniacs of America Convention in Boston."" + +He swallowed hard. Here was the most gorgeous woman he had ever seen Sitting next to him and she was going to a meeting of nymphomaniacs! + +Struggling to maintain his composure, he calmly asked. “What’s your Business at this convention?"" + +“Lecturer."" She responded. ""I use information that I have learned from my Personal experiences to debunk some of the popular myths about sexuality."" + +“Really?” He said. “And what kind of myths are there?” + +“Well.” She explained. “One popular myth is that African-American men are The most well-endowed of all men, when in fact it is the Native American Indian who is most likely to possess that trait. Another popular myth is That Frenchmen are the best lovers, when actually it is men of Mexican Descent who are the best. I have also discovered that the lover with Absolutely the best stamina is the Southern Redneck."" + +Suddenly the woman became a little uncomfortable and blushed.. ""I’m Sorry."" She said, “I shouldn't really be discussing all of this with you. I don’t even know your name."" + +""Tonto."" The man said. ""Tonto Gonzales, but my friends call me Bubba."" ...........",0 +2003,"I was in a job interview today when the manager handed me his laptop and said, ""I want you to try and sell this to me."". So I put it under my arm, walked out of the building and went home. + +Eventually, he called me on my phone and said, ""Bring it back here right now!"" + +I replied, ""£100 and it's yours.""",0 +2004,"A domestic abuser, a klansmen, and a murderer walk into a bar.. + + + +Bartender: what will it be, officer?",0 +2005,"Queen Elizabeth and Dolly Parton die on the same day, and both go before an Angel to find out if they'll be admitted to Heaven.. Unfortunately, there's only one space left that day, so the Angel must decide which of them gets in. + + +The Angel asks Dolly if there's some particular reason why she should go to Heaven. + + +Dolly takes off her top and says, ""Look at these, they're the most perfect breasts God ever created, and I'm sure it will please God to be able to see them every day, for eternity"". + + +The Angel thanks Dolly and asks Her Majesty the same question. + + +The Queen takes a bottle of Perrier out of her purse, and drinks it down. Then, pees into a toilet and pulls the lever. + + +The Angel says, ""ok, your Majesty, you may go in"". + + +Dolly is outraged and asked,""What was that all about, I show you two of God's own perfect creations and you turn me down. She pees into a toilet and she gets in! Would you explain that to me""? + + +""Sorry Dolly, says the Angel, but even in Heaven A Royal Flush Beats a Pair No Matter How Big They Are""",0 +2006,"I asked my wife why she married me.. I asked my wife why she married me. + +She said “Because you are funny.” + +I said “I thought it was because I was good in bed.” + +She said “See? You’re hilarious!”",0 +2007,"I absolutely HATE when people make a post subtly implying it's their cake day, just so people can wish them.. You won't catch me doing that today.",0 +2008,"The maid asked her boss, the wife for a raise, and the wife was upset.. The wife asked ""Why do you think you deserve a pay increase?"" + +Maid: ""There are three reasons. The first is that I iron better than you."" + +Wife: ""Who said that?"" + +Maid: ""Your husband."" + +Wife: ""Oh."" + +Maid: ""The second reason is that I am a better cook than you."" + +Wife: ""Who said that?"" + +Maid: ""Your husband."" + +Wife: ""Oh."" + +Maid: ""The third reason is that I am better at sex than you."" + +Wife: ""Did my husband say that as well?"" + +Maid: ""No, the gardener did."" + +Wife: ""So how much do you want?""",0 +2009,"Millennial old folks homes are gonna be awesome!. LAN parties, DnD nights, wheelchair races, having awesome songs from the 2000's as our golden oldies! It'll be great, especially if we can line up our work schedules!",0 +2010,"A man had three beautiful girlfriends but didn’t know which one to marry. As a test, he decided to give each woman $5,000 to see how they would spend it.. The first girlfriend went out and got herself +a complete makeover, She told him, +""I spent the money so I could look pretty for you because I love you so much."" + +The second went shopping and bought the man new golf clubs, an iPad and an 80-inch flatscreen television. She said,""I bought these gifts for you because I love you so much. + +The third woman took the $5,000 and invested it in the stock market, doubled her investment, returned $5,000 to the man and reinvested the rest. She said,""I am investing the rest of the money for our future because I love you so much, + +The man thought long and hard about how each of his girlfriends had spent the money, and then he decided to marry the one with the biggest tits.",0 +2011,"23andme is a fake, rip-off scam website.. The results of my ancestry came back 85% German and 10% Bavarian/Eastern European, but I know *FOR A FACT* that my grandparents came to the USA from **Argentina!**",0 +2012,"Rumour got round that the bear kept a list of all the animals he plans to kill.. Scared and confused, the wolf went to confront the bear. + +""Bear,"" said wolf. ""Do you really keep a list of all the animals you plan to kill?"" + +""I do."" said the bear. + +""And... Is my name on it?"" asked the wolf. + +""It is."" the bear growled. And the following morning, the wolf was found dead on the forest floor. + +The fox came later that day to confront the bear. + +""Bear,"" she said. ""Do you really keep a list of all the animals you plan to kill?"" + +""I do."" said the bear. + +""And... Is my name on it?"" she asked. + +""It is."" the bear growled. And the following morning, fox's mangled remains were found lying on the forest floor. + +That day the rabbit, too, decided to confront the bear. + +""Bear,"" he said. ""Do you really keep a list of all the animals you plan to kill?"" + +""I do."" said the bear. + +""And... Is my name on it?"" asked the rabbit. + +""It is."" the bear growled. + +""Can - can you remove it?"" + +""Oh, for sure.""",0 +2013,"A guy goes to the supermarket and notices an attractive woman waving at him. She says hello. He’s rather taken aback because he can’t place where he knows her from. So he says, ""Do you know me?"" To which she replies, ""I think you’re the father of one of my kids."" Now his mind travels back to the only time he has ever been unfaithful to his wife and says, ""My God, are you the stripper from my bachelor party that I made love to on the pool table with all my buddies watching while your partner whipped my butt with wet celery?"" She looks into his eyes and says calmly, ""No, I’m your son’s teacher.""",0 +2014,"A wealthy lawyer was riding in his limousine when he saw two women along the roadside eating grass.. A wealthy lawyer was riding in his limousine when he saw two women along the roadside eating grass. Disturbed, he ordered his driver to stop and he got out to investigate. He asked one women, ""Why are you eating grass?"" ""We don't have any money for food,"" the poor women replied. ""We have to eat grass."" ""Well then, you can come with me to my house and I'll feed you,"" the lawyer said. ""But sir, I have a husband and two children with me. They are over there, under that tree."" ""Bring them along,"" the lawyer replied. Turning to the other poor women he stated, ""You come with us also."" The second women, in a pitiful voice then said, ""But sir, I also have a husband and SIX children with me!"" ""Bring them all, as well,"" the lawyer answered. They all entered the car, which was no easy task, even for a car as large as the limousine. Once underway, one of the poor fellows turned to the lawyer and said, ""Sir, you are too kind. Thank you for taking all of us with you."" The lawyer replied, ""Glad to do it. You'll really love my place; the grass is almost a foot high!""",0 +2015,"A squad of American soldiers was patrolling the Iraqi border, when they came across a badly mangled dead body.. As they got closer, they found it was an Iraqi soldier. +A short distance up the road, they found a badly mangled American soldier in a ditch on the other side of the road, struggling to breathe. They ran to him, cradled his bruised head and asked him what had happened. + +""Well,"" he whispered, ""I was walking down this road, armed to the teeth when I came across this heavily armed Iraqi border guard. I looked him right in the eye and shouted, 'Saddam Hussein is a moronic, deceitful, lying piece of trash!'"" + +""He looked me right in the eye and shouted back, 'George W. Bush is a moronic, deceitful, lying piece of trash too!'"" + +""We were standing there shaking hands when the truck hit us.""",0 +2016,"A woman joins a country club, and when she hears some guys talking about their golf round, she says, ""I played on my college's golf team. I was pretty good. Mind if I join you next week?"" No one wants to say 'yes', but they're on the spot…. Finally, one man says, ""Okay, but we start at 6:30 a.m."" + + +He figures the early tee-time will discourage her. The woman says this may be a problem and asks if she can be up to 15 minutes late. + + +They roll their eyes, but say, ""Okay."" + + +She's there at 6:30 am. sharp and beats all of them with an eye-opening 2-under par round. She's fun and pleasant and the guys are impressed. + + +They congratulate her and invite her back the next week. She smiles, and says, ""I'll be there at 6:30, or 6:45."" + + +The next week she again shows up at 6:30 sharp. Only this time, she plays left-handed. The three guys are incredulous as she still beats them with an even par round, despite playing with her off-hand. + + +They're totally amazed ... They can't figure her out. She's very pleasant and a gracious winner. They invite her back again, but each man harbors a burning desire to beat her. + + +The third week, she's 15 minutes late, which irritates the guys. + + +This week she plays right-handed and narrowly beats all three of them. The men grumble that her late arrival is petty gamesmanship on her part. However, she's so charming and complimentary of their strong play, they can't hold a grudge. + + +This woman is a riddle no one can figure out. + + +They have a couple of beers in the Clubhouse and finally, one of the men asks her, ""How do you decide if you're going to golf right-handed or left-handed?"" + + +The lady blushes, and grins. ""When my dad taught me to play golf, I learned that I was ambidextrous."" she replies. ""I like to switch back and forth."" + + +""When I got married after college, I discovered my husband always sleeps in the nude. From then on, I developed a silly habit. Right before I leave in the morning for golf practice, I pull the covers off him. If his 'willie' points to the right, I golf right-handed; if it points to the left, I golf left-handed."" + + +The guys think this is hysterical. + + +Astonished at this bizarre information, one of the guys says, ""What if it's pointing straight up?"" + + +She says, ""Then, I'm fifteen minutes late.""",0 +2017,"My wife was in the kitchen wearing only the t-shirt she slept in.... ... preparing our usual soft-boiled eggs and toast for breakfast. + +As I walked in, almost awake, she turned to me and said softly, ""You've got to make love to me right now! Right here!"" + +My eyes lit up and I thought, ""I am either still dreaming or this is going to be my lucky day!"" + +Not wanting to loose the moment, I embraced her and then gave it my all; right there on the kitchen table. + +Afterwards she said, ""Thanks"" and returned to the stove, Her T-shirt still around her neck. + +Happy, but still a little puzzled, I asked, ""What was that all about?"" + +She explained, ""The egg timer's broken""",0 +2018,"Tom had been in the liquor business for 25 years. Finally, sick of the stress, he quits his job and buys 50 acres of land in Alaska, as far from humanity as possible.. He sees the postman once a week and gets groceries once a month. Otherwise it’s total peace and quiet. After six months or so of almost total isolation, someone knocks on his door. He opens it, and a huge, bearded man is standing there. “Name’s Lars, your neighbor from forty miles up the road. Having a Christmas party Friday night, thought you might like to come. About 5:00.” “Great”, says Tom, “after six months out here I’m ready to meet some local folks. Thank you.” As Lars is leaving, he stops. “Gotta warn you ... be some drinkin.” “Not a problem” says Tom. “After 25 years in the business, I can drink with the best of ‘em.” Again, the big man starts to leave and stops. “More ‘n’ likely gonna be some fightin’ too.” “Well, I get along with people, I’ll be all right. I’ll be there, thanks again.” “More’n likely be some wild sex, too.” “Now that’s really not a problem,” says Tom, warming to the idea. “I’ve been all alone for six months! I’ll definitely be there. By the way, what should I wear?” “Don’t much matter ... just gonna be the two of us.”",0 +2019,"Steve with 25 inch Long penis to God : I can’t live with this long penis.. +God : Go to that Lake, +You will find a Female Frog. Ask her to marry you, +she’ll say No & you will Lose 5 inch. + +Steve Went & asked the Frog : will you marry me? + +Frog : No + +He Lost 5 inches. + +He thought 20 inch is still Long. + +So he asked again : will you marry Me? + +Frog : No + +He Lost 5 inches More. + +He thought 15 inch is Great, + +But 10 inches is Ideal + +So Steve asked again : will you marry me? + +Frog : How many times do I have to tell u? +NO! NO! NO!",0 +2020,"a teenage boy keeps depositing one million dollar in his bank account every day. one day, Mrs. Mary the bank manager asks him to provide the source of all the money he's depositing + +""I win it through gambling"" he answers + +""nobody can win that much money so consistently through gambling"" + +""wanna proof? how about we bet on 1000$ that I'll kiss my eye right here"" + +""what? that's impossible, ok I accept"" + +so the boy removes his fake eye, kisses it and returns it, ""hand me my 1000$ please"" + +Mrs Mary got angry and decided to gamble again, so the next day she demanded a rematch + +""ok, do you bet on 3000$ that I'll lick my ear ?"", she thoroughly examined his ears, and after getting sure they're real she accepted, so the boy removed his fake tongue and licked his ear + +the next day, Mrs Mary asked for a rematch, but no cheap tricks this time + +""ok, I bet 5000$ that you have pierced nipples"" + +""ha, no"", yelled Mrs Mary as she removed her top and showed her unpierced boobs + +""fair enough, here's your 5000$, now allow me to collect my money"", and she was confused as all the employees at the bank were paying the boy + +""what have you done this time"" she said + +""oh, I bet each one of them 10 000$ that I'll make you flash me your tits""",0 +2021,"Voting is a lot like driving. To go backwards, choose “R”. + +To go forward, choose “D”.",0 +2022,"Vladimir Putin suffers a heart attack amidst the Ukraine crisis, and falls into a coma.... ... A few years later, he wakes up, gets back on his feet and walks out of his room, right past the sleeping guard. + +He walks out of the hospital onto the streets of Moscow, and finds that most people don't recognize him. Several years of vegetative coma seem to have taken its toll on his appearance. After wandering around for a bit, he stumbles into the nearest bar. He sits down at the bar and orders a full glass of vodka. + +He sips nervously and musters the courage to ask the bartender: ""What year is it?"" + +The bartender is confused, but replies: ""2025..."" + +Putin takes another sip of his drink to process this information. He then asks: ""And Crimea, is it still ours?"" + +Bartender proudly replies: ""Still ours!"" + +Putin nods in approval and takes another sip. Then, he follows: ""And Kiev, is it also ours?"" + +Bartender replies: ""Kiev also ours."" + +A big, happy grin appears on Putin's face, as he finally finishes the drink and asks the bartender: ""How much for the vodka?"" + +Bartender: ""100 hryvnias!""",0 +2023,"How many trans women does it take to screw in a lightbulb?. Just one, and you don't even need the lightbulb. Just tell her she's a lovely girl, and she'll brighten up the room instantly.",0 +2024,"My L‌‌esbian n‌‌eighbours E‌‌va a‌‌nd J‌‌ulia a‌‌sked m‌‌e t‌‌o h‌‌elp t‌‌hem c‌‌onceive a‌‌ c‌‌hild r‌‌recently.. They s‌‌aid t‌‌hey w‌‌ouldn't m‌‌ind i‌‌f w‌‌e d‌‌id i‌‌t t‌‌he o‌‌ld f‌‌ashioned w‌‌ay a‌‌s t‌‌hey w‌‌eren't m‌‌an h‌‌aters! + +For s‌‌ix m‌‌onths n‌‌ow w‌‌e've b‌‌een t‌‌rying b‌‌ut I‌‌ j‌‌ust d‌‌on't h‌‌ave t‌‌he h‌‌eart t‌‌o t‌‌ell t‌‌hem I‌‌ h‌‌ad a‌‌ v‌‌asectomy l‌‌ast y‌‌ear.",0 +2025,"I swiped right on a girl without a picture, and we matched.. + +# So after a brief chat i went to go pick her up. I wasn't expecting much, probably 300 lbs with bad skin, but hey, I was so desperate it was this or join an incel chatroom. + +I walked up to the door and lo and behold, 5'2"", baby blue eyes, strawberry blonde hair, all the right curves in all the right places. I couldn't believe my luck. + +I asked her what she did for a living. She said she taught sunday school. Now I never had me a Christian girl, but I'm open minded so I took her to dinner. + +On the way, I lit a joint and asked her if she puffs. + +""Oh heaven's no, what would I tell my Sunday school children."" + +I said okay, weed's 50/50 some people do some people don't. And I took her to the best restaurant I knew. I ordered the steak, she ordered the lobster. I asked for the second most expensive bottle of wine on the menu. When the waitress came to pour, She said she didn't drink. + +I said ""you don't drink?!?"" + +""Oh heaven's no, what would I tell my Sunday school children."" + +Excellent food, sparkling conversation but i'm bummed out, I don't know what to do with a girl like this. + +So I'm driving her home and pass a cheap motel, I figure, what have I got to lose. So i ask: + +""wanna get a room and knock boots?"" + +She says: I thought you'd never ask! + +I say: Really? What are you gonna tell your Sunday school children? + +She says: The same thing I tell them every week. You don't have to drink and do drugs to have a good time!",0 +2026,"A woman walks into a bank to deposit $100,000 in cash. The bank manager decides to handle this himself, as it’s such a large deposit. As he is processing her request, he asks, “Do you mind if I ask what it is you do for a living?”. + +She says, “I make bets with people…For example, I bet you $50,000 that your testicles are cube shaped, like dice”. + +“Ok, I’ll take that bet”, the bank manager says. + +“Alright then, let’s take a look”, the woman replies. + +The bank manager pulls his pants down to reveal two very normal looking testicles. “Well, it looks like you’ve won…but you’ll have to wait until tomorrow so I can bring in my lawyer and make the money exchange official”, the woman says. + +The following day, the woman returns with her lawyer and a satchel containing $50,000 in cash. She approaches the bank manager, and before handing it over, she says, “Would you please mind showing us your testicles one more time, so my lawyer can bear witness?”. + +The bank manager once again pulls his pants down to reveal his testicles. “Before I give you this money, may I please feel them to make sure that they really are not cube shaped in any way?”, she asks. + +The bank manager rolls his eyes and says, “Alright, go ahead”. + +As the woman lightly grasps his balls, which are indeed oval shaped, the lawyer begins banging his head against the wall. “What’s his problem?”, the manager asks. + +“I bet my lawyer $1,000,000 that I could walk in here and grab the bank manager’s balls with absolutely no issue”.",0 +2027,"An Engineer accidentally goes to Hell instead of Heaven. + +An Engineer dies and goes to hell. He's hot and miserable, so he decides to take action. The A/C has been busted for a long time, so he fixes it. Things cool down quickly. + +The moving walkway motor jammed, so he unjams it. People can get from place to place more easily. + +The TV was grainy and unclear, so he fixes the connection to the Satellite dish and now they get hundreds of high def channels. + +One day, God decides to look down on Hell to see how his grand design is working out and notices that everyone is happy and enjoying umbrella drinks. He asks the Devil what's going on? + +The Devil replies, ""Things are great down here since you sent us that engineer."" + +""What?? An engineer? I didn't send you one of those, that must have been a mistake. Send him back up right this minute."" + +The Devil responds, ""No way! We are going to keep our engineer. We like this guy."" + +God demands, ""If you don't send him to me immediately, I'll sue!"" + +The Devil laughs. ""Where are ***YOU*** going to get a lawyer?""",0 +2028,"A man is in court. The Judges says,""on the 3rd August you are accused of killing your wife by beating her to death with a hammer, how do you plead?"". ""Guilty"", said the man in the dock. At this point a man at the back of the court stood up and shouted ""You dirty rat!"" The Judge asked the man to site down and to refrain from making any noise. The Judge continued ""..... and that also on the 17th September you are accused of killing your son by beating him to death with a hammer, how do you plead""? ""Guilty"", said the man in the dock. Again the same man at the back stood up and shouted even louder, ""You dirty rotten stinking rat""!! At this point the Judge called the man to the bench and said, ""I have already asked you to be quiet, if you continue with these outbursts, I will have to charge you with contempt of court. I can understand your feelings, but what relationship have you to this man?"" He replied ""He is my next door neighbor"". The Judge replied, ""I can understand your feelings then, but you must refrain from any comments"". The man replied ""NO, your Honor, you don't understand. Twice I have asked if I could borrow a hammer, and BOTH TIMES he said he didn't have one""!!!",0 +2029,"What do a 14-year-old pregnant girl and the child inside her have in common?. Both are thinking ""Oh no! My mom's gonna kill me!""",0 +2030,"I just found my wife has a Tinder profile and I’m furious.. She is absolutely not “adventurous”, and “fun to be around”! + + + + +Edit: Note to some of y'all: This is a JOKE! My marriage is just fine...",0 +2031,"A Chinese guy and a Jewish guy are drinking at the bar.... The Jewish guy turns to the Chinese guy and says, ""Fu*k you and your people, for bombing Pearl Harbor!"" + +The Chinese guy is like, ""WTF?! That wasn't us. That was the Japanese!"" + +The Jewish guy: ""Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese... you're all the same."" + +After a few minutes and another beer, the Chinese guy turns to the Jewish guy and says, ""Fu*k you and your people for sinking the Titanic!"" + +The Jewish guy: ""Huh? They ran into an iceberg..."" + +Chinese guy: ""Iceberg, Goldberg, Steinburg, you're all the same.""",0 +2032,"A Dirty Joke from the 14th Century. The joke comes to us from Jean de Conde of Hainaut, born 1275: + +A game of truth-telling is being played at court by a Queen and her retinue. A knight is asked by the Queen if he has fathered any children; he is forced to admit that he has not. + +The Queen nods in assent, saying ""you do not have the look of a man who could please his mistress when you hold her naked in your arms. For your beard is little more than the kind of fuzz that ladies have in certain places, and it is easy to tell from the state of the hay whether the pitchfork is any good."" + +On his turn, the knight asks ""Lady, answer me without deceit. Is there hair between your legs?"" When she replies, ""none at all"", he comments, ""Indeed I do believe you, for grass does not grow on a well-beaten path.""",0 +2033,"While admiring some dinosaur bones in the Museum of Natural History, a tourist asks the guard, ""How old are they?"". The guard replies, ""They are 73 million, four years, and six months old."" + +""That's a rather exact number,"" says the tourist. ""How do you know their age so precisely?"" + +""Well,"" answers the guard, ""The dinosaur bones were seventy three million years old when I started working here, and that was four and a half years ago.""",0 +2034,"Professor X asks a girl, ""what is your mutant power?"". Girl replies: ""I can guess how many pulls to turn a ceiling fan off on the first try!"" + +She points up and says: ""3 pulls"" + +Professor X stands up and pulls 3 times. After the third pull the fan turns off. + +Professor X: ""Yeah that's cool and all, but not really a super power..."" + +Girl: ""Yeah I was just kidding, I can heal paraplegics"" + +Professor X, still standing: ""Oh my god""",0 +2035,"There was an old professor who started every class with a vulgar joke.. After one particularly nasty example, the women in the class decided to walk out the next time he started. + +The professor got wind of this plot, so the next morning he walked in and said, “Good morning, class. Did you hear the one about the shortage of whores in Newfound Land?” + +With that, all the women stood up and headed for the door. + +“Wait, ladies,” called the professor, “The boat doesn't leave until tomorrow!”",0 +2036,"I came home really drunk last night and my wife wasn’t happy at all. “How much have you had to drink?” she asked sternly, staring at me. “Nothing” I slurred. “Look at me!” she shouted. “It’s either me or the pub, which one is it?” I paused for a second while I thought and mumbled.... “It’s you. I can tell by the voice.”",0 +2037,"Joe had suffered from really bad headaches for the last 20 years. He eventually decides to go and see a Doctor.. The Doctor said, 'Joe, the good news is I can cure your headaches. The bad news is that it will require castration. You have a very rare condition which causes your testicles to press on your spine and the pressure creates one hell of a headache. + +The only way to relieve the pressure is to remove the testicles.' + +Joe was shocked and depressed. He wondered if he had anything to live for. + +He had no choice but to go under the knife. The surgery cost him $15,000. + +When he left the hospital, he was without a headache for the first time in 20 years, but he felt like he was missing an important part of himself. + +As he walked down the street, he realized that he felt like a different person. He could make a new beginning and live a new life. + +He saw a Men's clothing store and thought, 'That's what I need... A new suit.' + +He entered the shop and told the salesman, 'I'd like a new suit.' + +The elderly tailor eyed him briefly and said, 'Let's see... size 44 long. + +Joe laughed, 'That's right, how did you know?' + +'Been in the business 60 years!' the tailor said. + +Joe tried on the suit it fitted perfectly. + +As Joe admired himself in the mirror, the salesman asked, 'How about a new shirt?' + +Joe thought for a moment and then said, 'Sure.' + +The salesman eyed Joe and said, 'Let's see, 34 sleeves and 16-1/2 neck.' + +Joe was surprised, 'That's right, how did you know?' + +'Been in the business 60 years.' + +Joe tried the shirt and it fitted perfectly. + +Joe walked comfortably around the shop and the salesman asked, 'How about some new underwear?' + +Joe thought for a moment and said, 'Sure.' + +The salesman said, 'Let's see... size 36'. + +Joe laughed, 'Ah ha! I got you! I've worn a size 34 since I was 18 years old.' + +The salesman shook his head, 'You can't wear a size 34. A size 34 would press your testicles up against the base of your spine and give you one hell of a Headache.'",0 +2038,"A woman was 3 months pregnant when she fell into a deep coma and woke up after about 10 months.. The woman asked the doctor about her baby. + +Doctor: You had twins, a boy and a girl. They’re both fine. And, your brother named them for you. + +Woman: No No No! Not my brother. He’s an idiot! What did he name the girl? + +Doctor: Denise. + +Woman: Ohh, that’s actually a nice name. What about the boy? + +Doctor: deeply sighs Denephew.",0 +2039,"I think the reason that schools are so dangerous is because of the name ""School"". If we renamed all education centres as ""Uterus"" then republicans might actually care about what's inside them.",0 +2040,"Professor X asks a girl, ""what is your mutant power?"". Girl replies: ""I can guess how many pulls to turn a ceiling fan off on the first try!"" + +She points up and says: ""3 pulls"" + +Professor X stands up and pulls 3 times. After the third pull the fan turns off. + +Professor X: ""Yeah thats cool and all, but not really a super power..."" + +Girl: ""Yeah I was jut kidding, I can heal paraplegics"" + +Professor X, still standing: ""Oh my god""",0 +2041,"Finally, a blonde joke I haven’t heard before…. A blonde gets a job as a physical education teacher of 16-year-olds. + +She notices a boy at the end of the field standing alone, while all the other kids are running around having fun kicking a ball. + +She takes pity on him and decides to speak to him. + +‘You ok?’ she says. + +‘Yes.’ he says. + +‘You can go and play with the other kids you know’ she says. + +‘No, it’s probably best I stay here.’ he says. + +‘Why’s that sweetie?’ says the blonde. + +The boy looks at her incredulously and says, + +“Because I’m the Goalie!” + +​ + +**EDIT:** Holy crap! This is the most upvotes and awards I've ever received in my life! Thanks everyone!",0 +2042,"A farmer goes to the market to sell his horse for $2000, and a man buys it from him.. The farmer says he'll deliver it to to man in 1 week's time, but halfway through the week the horse dies. + +The farmer offers to refund the man's money, but the man chooses to buy it anyway. + +The next week the farmer sees and asks the man what he did with the dead horse. + +The man says 'Oh I held a lucky draw, $50 for a chance to win a horse. 100 people entered, and I collected $5000. + +The farmer, shocked, asks 'But wasn't anyone upset with the horse?' The man replies + +'Oh yes, only the winner, but I refunded him his $50.'",0 +2043,"Cashier: that’ll be $19.99. Me: *pulls out a $50* + +Cashier: sorry we’ve been having problems with counterfeit money… Have anything smaller? + +Me: Sure! *pulls out a $30*",0 +2044,"As a preteen, all I wanted was a girlfriend with big tits. When I was 16, I got a girlfriend with big tits,. but there was no passion, so I decided I needed a passionate girl with zest for life. In college I dated a passionate girl, but she was too emotional. Everything was an emergency; she was a drama queen, cried all the time and threatened suicide. So I decided I needed a girl with stability. + +When I was 25, I found a very stable girl but she was boring. She was totally predictable and never got excited about anything. Life became so dull that I decided I needed a girl with some excitement. + +When I was 28, I found an exciting girl, but I couldn't keep up with her. She rushed from one thing to another, never settling on anything. She did mad impetuous things and made me miserable as often as happy. She was great fun initially and very energetic, but directionless. So I decided to find a girl with some real ambition. + +When I turned 30, I found a smart ambitious girl with her feet planted firmly on the ground, so I married her. She was so ambitious that she divorced me and took everything I owned. + +I am older and wiser now, and I am looking for a girl with big tits.",0 +2045,What is a Karen called in Europe?. An American.,0 +2046,"One night a guy goes to get a room in a hotel. ""Hello, I want a single room for the night please."" ""Fine, sir, here's one of our best rooms. Room 13,"" says the concierge and hands him the key. The guy goes upstairs, takes a shower and gets straight into bed. At about 2 0'clock in the morning, two gorgeous naked women come in and slide under the covers. When he realizes what is going on, he starts screwing both of them. He can't believe what's happening. Next morning, still surprised by last night's events, he goes downstairs to settle the bill. ""How was your room sir?"" asks the receptionist. ""Excellent, I will come back again. What do I owe you?"" asks the man.  + +""Well. actually, sir, we are doing a promotional offer. Not only do you not have to pay but we give you $10 as a welcome gesture,"" says the receptionist. ""What?"" says the guy, very surprised indeed. ""That's amazing."" He takes the ten-dollar bill and wanders off, debating whether his buddies will believe him or not. Needless to say, after a few days he's told all his friends and neighbors about room 13 and the amazing night of passion. The next week one of his buddies goes to check out the room. ""Room 13 please."" ""Certainly, sir, here's your key."" After he gets in bed, at the same time, 2 o'clock, three girls this time, extremely horny, get in bed and screw his brains out. The next morning, not only does he not have to pay, but he too gets $10. After a month, everyone knows this hotel and especially room 13. Everyone that stays in room 13 gets the same treatment: a good screw and a ten bucks.  + +After a few weeks, the story reaches the President. The President decides to check the story out for himself. He visits the hotel and asks for room 13. He gets the keys and goes upstairs. After a couple of drinks he gets in bed waiting patiently for the naked girls to appear. Indeed at about 2 0'clock in the morning two naked ladies come to bed. They are as horny and wild as all the stories the President has heard. The President gets his pecker out and screws the both of them all night long. This is the night of his life. Next morning he goes to reception and when he asks how much the bill is, the receptionist says, ""Nothing to pay, sir. Actually, we are doing an introductory offer. Here's $50 as a welcome gesture."" Curious, the President asks the receptionist, ""Well, that's strange. Everyone else who comes here gets $10. Why do I get $50?"" ""Well, sir,"" says the receptionist. ""This is the first time we've filmed a porn movie with a President in it!""",0 +2047,"As a butcher is shooing away a dog from his shop, he sees a $10 bill and a note in his mouth, reading: “5 lamb chops, please.”. Amazed, he takes the money, puts a bag +of chops in the dog’s mouth, and quickly closes the shop. + +He follows the dog and watches him wait for a green +light, look both ways, and trot across the road to a bus- +stop. The dog checks the timetable and sits on the bench. +When a bus arrives, he walks around to the front and +looks at the number, then boards the bus. The butcher +follows, dumbstruck. +As the bus travels out into the suburbs, the dog takes in +the scenery. After awhile he stands on his back paws to +push the “stop” bell, then the butcher follows him off. +The dog runs up to a house and drops his bag on the +step. He goes back down the path, takes a big run, and +throws himself -Whap!- against the door. He does this +again and again. No answer. So he jumps on a wall, walks +around the garden, beats his head against a window, +jumps off, and waits at the front door. A big guy opens it +and starts cursing and shouting at the dog. + +The butcher runs up and screams at the guy: “What the +hell are you doing? This dog’s a genius!” The owner +responds, “Genius, my ass… It’s the second time this +week he’s forgotten his keys!”",0 +2048,"A married couple was in a terrible accident where the woman's face was severely burned.. The doctor told the husband that they couldn't graft any skin from her body because she was too skinny. So the husband offered to donate some of his own skin. + +However, the only skin on his body that the doctor felt was suitable would have to come from his buttocks. The husband and wife agreed that they would tell no one about where the skin came from, and requested that the doctor also honor their secret. After all, this was a very delicate matter. + +After the surgery was completed, everyone was astounded at the woman's new beauty. She looked more beautiful than she ever had before! All her friends and relatives just went on and on about her youthful beauty! One day, she was alone with her husband, and she was overcome with emotion at his sacrifice. She said, ""Dear, I just want to thank you for everything you did for me. There is no way I could ever repay you."" + +""My darling,"" he replied, ""think nothing of it. I get all the thanks I need every time I see your mother kiss you on the cheek.""",0 +2049,"My girlfriend asked me who my favorite vampire is.. I replied, ""The one from Sesame Street."" + +She said, ""He doesn't count."" + +""Oh I assure you, he does.""",0 +2050,"The Queen's breasts. + +The Queen's breasts + +Once upon a time there lived a beautiful Queen with large breasts. + +Sid, the Dragon Slayer, obsessed over the Queen for this reason. He knew that the penalty for his desire would be death, should he try to touch them, but he had to try. + +One day Sid revealed his secret desire to his colleague, Nathan the Erudite lawyer, the King's chief adviser. Nathan thought about this and said that he could arrange for Sid to more than satisfy his desire, but it would cost him 1000 gold coins to arrange it. Without pause, Sid readily agreed to the scheme. + +The next day, Nathan got a batch of itching powder and poured a little bit into the Queen's bra while she bathed. Soon after she dressed, the itching commenced and grew intense. + +Upon being summoned to the Royal Chambers to address this incident, Nathan informed the King and Queen that only a special saliva, if applied for four hours, would cure this type of itch, and Nathan advised that only the saliva of Sid would work as the antidote to cure the itch. + +The King, eager to help his Queen, quickly summoned Sid to their chambers. Nathan then slipped Sid the antidote for the itching powder, which he put into his mouth, and for the next four hours, Sid worked passionately on the Queen's large and magnificent breasts. The Queen's itching was eventually relieved, and Sid left satisfied and hailed as a hero. + +Upon returning to his chamber, Sid found Nathan demanding his payment of 1000 gold coins. With his obsession now satisfied, Sid couldn't have cared less knowing that Nathan could never report this matter to the King and with a laugh told him to get lost. + +The next day, Nathan slipped a massive dose of the same itching powder into the King's underwear. The King immediately summoned Sid.",0 +2051,"The wine taster at an old vineyard died. A homeless guy, looking ragged And dirty, came to apply. He persuaded the manager to give him a try.. The guy was given a glass of wine. He swirled, smelled, sipped and spit. “It's a red wine, Merlot, three years old, grown on the South Slope and matured in oak barrels."" He said. ""Impressive,"" said the manager. + +The man is given another. ""Still a red wine, Cabernet, eight years old, from the Northeast slope, stored in a steel vats.” + +The manager was amazed. He winked at his secretary. The secretary understood and brought out a glass of urine. The drunkard tasted it and said. ""It's a blonde, 27 years old, three months pregnant, and if I don't get this job, I'll tell who the father is!""",0 +2052,"A guy driving a Kia.. A guy driving a Kia pulls up at a stoplight next to a Rolls-Royce... + +The driver of the Kia rolls down his window and shouts to the driver of the Rolls, ""Hey, buddy, that’s a nice car. You got Wi-Fi in your Rolls? I’ve got Wi-Fi in my Kia!"" + +The driver of the Rolls looks over and says simply, ""Yes I have Wi-Fi."" + +The driver of the Kia says, ""Cool! Hey, you got a fridge in there too? I’ve got a fridge in the back seat of my Kia!"" + +The driver of the Rolls, looking annoyed, says, ""Yes, I have a refrigerator."" + +The driver of the Kia says, ""That’s great, man! Hey, you got a TV in there, too? You know, I got a TV in the back seat of my Kia!"" + +The driver of the Rolls, looking very annoyed by now, says, ""Yes, I have a television, a Rolls-Royce is the finest luxury car in the world!"" + +The driver of the Kia says, ""That's a very cool car! Hey, you got a bed in there, too? I got a bed in the back of my Kia!"" + +Upset that he did not have a bed, the driver of the Rolls-Royce sped away. He went straight to the dealer, where he promptly ordered that a bed be installed in the back of the Rolls. The next morning, the driver of the Rolls picked up his car. The bed looked superb, complete with silk sheets and brass trim. It was clearly a bed fit for a Rolls Royce. + +So, the driver of the Rolls drove around all day looking for the Kia... + +Finally, late that night, he finds the Kia parked, with all the windows fogged up from the inside. The driver of the Rolls gets out of his car and knocks on the Kia’s window. At first there is no answer, then the owner sticks his head out, soaking wet. + +""I now have a bed in the back of my Rolls-Royce,"" the driver of the Rolls said arrogantly. + +The driver of the Kia says... ""You got me out of the shower to tell me that?!""",0 +2053,"Breaking News Trump’s personal library just burned down. +The fire consumed both books and he hasn’t even finished coloring the second one",0 +2054,"I hired a transgender prostitute. I had never been to a brothel before, so the first thing I did was talk to several prostitutes to compare prices. One was much cheaper than the rest, and I asked her why. ""I'm giving a discount right now because I'm basically relearning to have sex. I was assigned male at birth and just completed reassignment surgery. I'm looking for feedback on my performance."" I decided to give her a chance. I paid her, and we had amazing sex. She asked me to fill out a questionnaire before I left. I picked one up from the table and read the question ""Were you satisfied with your trans action?""",0 +2055,"AITA? I bought my coworker chicken avocado instead of tuna avocado from Subway, and now they’re mad.. Whoops, wrong sub.",0 +2056,"Vladimir Putin was being briefed by one of his top generals.. ""I've good news and bad news for you this morning, sir."" + +""Let's hear the good news,"" the president replied. + +""Intelligence reports indicate that the latest additions to the Ukranian arsenal are damaged and outdated, and many won't pose any threat to us at all."" + +""That's excellent! Finally, things might be starting to turn our way! What's the bad the news?"" + +The general shifted in his seat and looked down at the table. ""A large amount of our best weapons and munitions have just been captured, sir.""",0 +2057,"A Chinese doctor can't find a job in an America, so he opens his own clinic.... Six months later, a lawyer walks by the clinic and notices there's a sign outside that says ""TREATMENT COST $20, IF WE CAN'T CURE YOU GET $100 BACK."" +The lawyer thinks this is a great opportunity to earn $100 and goes to the clinic. The doctor comes right up to him as he enters. + +Doctor: ""What seem to be problem?"" + +Lawyer: ""I've lost my sense of taste."" + +Doctor: ""Nurse, please bring medicine from Box 14 and put three drops on his tongue."" + +She fetches the medicine and walks over to the lawyer. + +Nurse: ""Open your mouth nice and wide for me sir."" + +When the drops of medicine hit his tongue, the lawyer coughs and sputters. + +Lawyer: ""That's not medicine, it's kerosene!"" + +Doctor: ""Congrats, your taste restored. $20 please."" + +Annoyed, the lawyer pays the doctor $20 and then leaves. Still determined to get the $100, he comes back a few days later and the doctor immediately recognizes him. + +Doctor: ""Back again?"" + +Lawyer: ""I'm sorry, have we met before? You see, I've lost my memory."" + +Doctor: ""Nurse, please bring medicine from Box 14 and put three drops on his tongue."" + +Nurse: ""Open wide and say ahh for me."" + +When the drops of medicine hit his tongue, the lawyer coughs and sputters. + +Lawyer: ""More kerosene? You gave me this last time for restoring my taste."" + +Doctor: ""Congrats, your memory back. $20 please."" + +Fuming, the lawyer pays the doctor $20, and then leaves. More determined than ever, the lawyer waits a whole week this time before returning. The doctor recognizes him again. + +Lawyer: ""My eyesight has become very weak. I think I'm going blind."" + +Doctor: ""Sadly, I have no medicine for that, so I give you $100."" + +The lawyer stares at the note. + +Lawyer: ""But this is $20, not $100!” + +Doctor: ""Congrats, your eyesight restored. $20 please.""",0 +2058,"A politician dies. So a politician dies and ends up standing in front of the pearly gates. Saint Peter looks at him for a second, flicks through his book, and finds his name. + + +""So, you're a politician..."" ""Well, yes, is that a problem?"" ""Oh no, no problem. But we've recently adopted a new system for people in your line of work, and unfortunately you will have to spend a day in Hell. After that however, you're free to choose where you want to spend eternity!"" + + +""Wait, I have to spend a day in Hell??"" says the politician. ""Them's the rules"" Says St Peter, clicks his fingers, and WOOMPH, the guy dissapears... + + +And awakes, curled up with his hands over his eyes, knowing he's in Hell. Cautiously, he listens for the screams, sniffs the air for brimstone, and finds... Nothing. Just the smell of, is that fabric softener? And cut grass, this can't be right? + + +""Open your eyes!"" says a voice. ""C'mon, wakey wakey, we've only got 24 hours!"". Nervously, he uncovers his eyes, looks around, and sees he's in a hotel room. A nice one too. Wait, this is a penthouse suite... And there's a smiling man in a suit, holding a martini. ""Who are you??"" The politician asks. ""Well, I'm Satan!"" says the man, handing him the drink and helping him to his feet. ""Welcome to Hell!"" ""Wait, this is Hell? But... Where's all the pain and suffering?"" he asks. Satan throws him a wink. ""Oh, we've been a bit mis-represented over the years, it's a long story. Anyway, this is your room! The minibar is of course free, as is the room service, there's extra towels next to the hot-tub, and if you need anything, just call reception. But enough of this! It's a beautiful day, and if you'd care to look outside..."" Slightly stunned by the opulent surroundings, the man wanders over to the floor-to-ceiling windows through which the sun is glowing, looks far down, and sees a group of people cheering and waving at him from a golf course. ""It's one of 5 pro-level courses on site, and there's another 6 just a few minutes drive out past the beach and harbour!"" says Satan, answering his unasked question. So they head down in the lift, walk out through the glittering lobby where everyone waves and welcomes the man, as Satan signs autographs and cherrily talks shop with the laughing staff. And as he walks out, he sees the group on the golf course are made up of every one of his old friends, people he's admired for years but never met or worked with, and people whose work he's admired but died long before his career started. And out of the middle of this group walks his wife, with a massive smile and the body she had when she was 20, who throws her arms around him and plants a delicate kiss on his cheek. Everyone cheers and applauds, and as they slap him on the back and trade jokes, his worst enemy arrives, as a 2 foot tall goblin-esque caddy. He spends the day in the bright sunshine on the course, having the time of his life laughing at jokes and carrying important discussions, putting the world to rights with his friends while holding his delighted wife next to him as she gazes lovingly at him. Later, they return to the hotel for dinner and have an enormous meal, perfectly cooked, which descends into a food-fight when someone accidentally throws a bread roll at the next table (where Ghandi is having a game of truth-or-dare with Marylin Monroe). As everyone is falling about laughing and flinging breadsticks at each other, his wife whispers in his ear... And they return to their penthouse suite, and spend the rest of the night making love like they did on their honeymoon. After 6 hours of intense passion, the man falls deep into the 100% Egyptian cotton pillows, and falls into a deep and happy sleep... + + +And is woken up by St Peter. ""So, that was Hell. Wasn't what you were expecting, I bet?"" ""No sir!"" says the man. ""So then"" says St Peter ""you can make your choice. It's Hell, which you saw, or Heaven, which has choral singing, talking to God, white robes, and so on"". ""Well... I know this sounds strange, but on balance, I think I'd prefer Hell"" says the politician. ""Not a problem, we totally understand! Enjoy!"" Says St Peter, and clicks his fingers again. + + +The man wakes up in total darkness, the stench of ammonia filling the air and distant screams the only noise. As he adjusts, he can see the only light is from belches of flame far away, illuminating the ragged remains of people being tortured or burning in a sulphurous ocean. A sudden bolt of lightning reveals Satan next to him, wearing the same suit as before and grinning, holding a soldering iron in one hand and a coil of razor-wire in the other. ""What's this??"" He cries. ""Where's the hotel?? Where's my wife??? Where's the minibar, the golf-courses, the pool, the restaurant, the free drinks and the sunshine???"" + + +""Ah"", says Satan. ""You see, yesterday, we were campaigning. But today, you voted...""",0 +2059,"I only believe 12.5% of the Bible. + + + + + + + + + + + + + +I guess that makes me an eighth-theist",0 +2060,"A priest, a lawyer and an engineer are to be guillotined.. The priest puts his head on the block, the rope is pulled but nothing happens. He claims he has been saved by divine intervention and is released. + +The lawyer puts his head on the block, but again, nothing happens, he claims he can't be executed twice for the same crime and is set free. + +The engineer places his head under the guillotine. He looks up at the release mechanism and says: + +'Wait a minute, I see your problem...'",0 +2061,"My wife is brilliant. She never says no to a shag, has great tits and even swallows.. But her bird collecting has gone far enough now.",0 +2062,"My wife just gave birth today. After thanking the doctor, I pulled him aside, and sheepishly asked, ""How soon do you think we'll be able to have sex?"" + +He winked at me and said, ""I'm off duty in ten minutes - meet me in the car park."" + +Credits to r/dadjokes",0 +2063,"What’s the best Chuck Norris joke you’ve ever heard?. My personal favorite is: Chuck Norris was once bitten by a cobra snake. After 3 long days of suffering, the snake died",0 +2064,"A cowboy rode into town and stopped at a saloon for a drink. Unfortunately, the locals always had a habit of picking on strangers, which he was.. When he finished his drink, he found his horse had been stolen. He went back into the bar, handily flipped his gun into the air, caught it above his head without even looking and fired a shot into the ceiling. + +""Which one of you sidewinders stole my horse?!"" he yelled with surprising forcefulness. + +No one answered. + +""Alright, I'm gonna have another beer, and if my horse ain't back outside by the time I finish, I'm gonna do what I dun in Texas! And I don't like to have to do what I dun in Texas!"" + +Some of the locals shifted restlessly. The man, true to his word, had another beer, walked outside, and his horse has been returned to the post. He saddled up and started to ride out of town. + +The bartender wandered out of the bar and asked, ""Say partner, before you go... what happened in Texas?"" + +The cowboy turned back and said, ""I had to walk home.""",0 +2065,"Italian Girl. +An American woman goes to Italy on business and asks her husband what she could bring back for him. + +He laughs and says, “An Italian girl!” + +When she returns home he picks her up at the airport and asks, “So, honey, how was the trip?” + +“Very good,” she replies. + +“And did you bring something home for me?” + +“Something, did I forget?” she asks. + +“The Italian girl I asked for,” he replies jokingly. + +“Oh, that,” she says. “Well, I did what I could. Now we just have to wait five months to see if it’s a girl.”",0 +2066,The Indian restaurant I work for is so secretive I had to sign a legal agreement that I wouldn’t share the flatbread recipe. Just their standard naan disclosure agreement.,0 +2067,"After sex with my new girlfriend last night she snuggled up next to me and said, ""You are definitely the biggest I've ever had."". Apparently ""ditto"" wasn't the correct response.",0 +2068,The Doctor tells me I can play with myself whenever I like. My wife tells me that's not what 'You could have a stroke at any moment ' means,0 +2069,"Inflation in the US is so bad right now that…. +- My friend received a predeclined credit card in the mail. +- CEO's are now playing miniature golf. +- Exxon-Mobil laid off 25 Congressmen. +- McDonald's is selling the 1/4 ouncer. +- Angelina Jolie adopted a child from America. +- Parents in Beverly Hills fired their nannies and learned their children's names. +- A truckload of Americans were caught sneaking into Mexico. +- A picture is now only worth 200 words. +- The Treasure Island casino in Las Vegas is now managed by Somali pirates. +- I called a car dealer to get the book value on my used car. They asked if the gas tank was full or empty +And finally... +- I was so depressed last night thinking about the economy, wars, jobs, my savings, social security, retirement funds, etc., I called the Suicide Hotline. I got a call center in Afghanistan, and when I told them I was suicidal, they got all excited, and asked if I could drive a truck. + +PS: Source - Unknown",0 +2070,"A lady had lost her husband almost four years ago. Her daughter was constantly calling her to get back into the dating world. Finally, she said she'd go out, but didn't know anyone. Her daughter immediately replied, ""Mom, I have someone for you to meet!. Well, it was an immediate hit. + +They took to one another and after dating for six weeks, he asked her to join him for a weekend in Spain. + +Their first night there, she undressed as he did. + +There she stood nude, except for a pair of black panties, he in his birthday suit. + +Looking her over, he asked, ""Why the black panties?"" + +She replied ""My breasts you can fondle, my body is yours to explore, but down there I am still mourning."" + +He knew he was not going to get lucky that night. + +The following night was the same, she stood there wearing the black panties and he was in his birthday suit but now he was wearing a black condom. + +She looked at him and asked, ""What's with the black condom?"" + +He replied, ""I want to offer my deepest condolences.",0 +2071,"A Blonde calls her boyfriend and says, ""Please come over here and help me. I have a killer jigsaw puzzle, and I can't figure out how to get started."". Her boyfriend asks, ""What is it supposed to be when it's finished?"" + +The blonde says, ""According to the picture on the box, it's a rooster."" + +Her boyfriend decides to go over and help with the puzzle. She lets him in and shows him where she has the puzzle spread all over the table. He studies the pieces for a moment, then looks at the box, then turns to her and says, + +""First of all, no matter what we do, we're not going to be able to assemble these pieces into anything resembling a rooster."" + +He then takes her hand and says, ""Secondly, I want you to relax. Let's have a nice cup of tea, and then..... he said with a deep sigh"" ............ + +""Let's put all these Corn Flakes back in the box",0 +2072,"Son : ""Daddy, I fell in love & want to date this awesome girl!"". Father : ""That's great son. Who is she?"" + +Son: ""It's Tina, the neighbor's daughter"". + +Father : ""Ohhh I wish you hadn't said that.I have to tell u something son, but you must promise not to tell your mother.Tina is actually your sister."" + +The boy is naturally bummed out, but a couple of months later + +Son : ""Daddy, I fell in love again and she is even hotter!"" + +Father : ""That's great son. Who is she?"" + +Son: ""It's Peny, the other neighbor's daughter."" + +Father : ""Ohhhh I wish you hadn't said that. Peny is also your sister."" + +This went on couple of times and the son was so mad,he went straight to his mother crying. + +Son : ""Mum I am so mad at dad ! I fell in love with six girls but I can't date any of them because daddy is their father!"" + +The mother hugs him affectionately and says: + +""My love, you can date whoever you want. Don't listen to him. He is not your Father.",0 +2073,"Fun fact: ""sugar"" is the only word in the English language where ""su-"" makes a ""sh"" sound. . .. At least, I'm pretty sure that's correct.",0 +2074,"The first Jewish President of the United States is elected. The night before the inauguration he calls his mother. + +""Mom, I'd love for you to come visit for the inauguration and stay with me for a few days."" + +""Oh I don't know, airfare is so expensive these days."" + +""Mom, I'll fly you out on Air Force One!"" + +""Oh, but you know, cab fare is ridiculous."" + +""Mom, the Presidential motorcade will drive you here."" + +""But accommodations, especially during the inau---"" + +""MOM!! I'll put you in the Lincoln bedroom itself!!"" + +She reluctantly agrees, hangs up and starts talking to her friend. + +""Who was that?"" + +""My son."" + +*gasp* ""The doctor??"" + +No, the other one.""",0 +2075,"Bloke goes into a British pub on a hot summer’s day and the barmaid asks what he wants. ""I want to bury my face in your cleavage and lick the sweat from between your tits"" he says..... ...""You dirty pig!"" shouts the barmaid, ""get out before I get my husband."" + +The bloke apologizes and promises not to repeat his gaffe. The barmaid accepts this and asks him again what he wants. ""I want to pull your pants down, spread your arse cheeks and lick all that sweat."" + +She says, ""You dirty filthy pervert! You're banned. Get out!!"" + +Again, the bloke apologizes and swears never ever to do it again. ""One more chance,"" says the barmaid, ""Now - what do you want? + +""I want to turn you upside-down, tear your knickers off and fill your cunt with Guinness, and then drink every last drop from your hairy cup."" + +The barmaid is furious at this personal intrusion, and runs upstairs to fetch her husband, who's sitting quietly watching the telly. + +""What's up love?"" he asks. + +""There's a bloke in the bar who wants to put his head between my tits and lick the sweat off"", she says. + +""I'll kill him. Where is he?"" storms the Husband. + +""Then he said he wanted to spread my arse cheeks and lick the sweat off"" she screams. + +""Right. He's dead!"" says the husband, reaching for his cricket bat. + +""Then he said he wanted to turn me upside-down, fill my cunt with Guinness and then drink it all"" she cries! + +The husband puts down his bat and returns to his armchair, and switches the telly back on. + +""Aren't you going to do something about it?"" she cries hysterically. + +""Look love, I'm not messing with any bloke who has the strength to flip you upside-down and can drink that much Guinness...""",0 +2076,"Donald Trump was walking through Manhattan and saw a long queue. Wondering what is was for, he joined it.. People would look over their shoulder, see that is was Donald Trump behind them, and leave the queue, so he would proceed closer and closer to the front. +As he was getting closer to the head of the queue, he asked one guy, who also looked and was about to walk away, ""Wait a second, what is this queue for and why are you now leaving it?"" +The man said ""This is the queue for Canadian Immigration Visas, but if you are getting one, I don't need one now.""",0 +2077,"A police man came up to me with a sniffer dog and said, ""This dog tells me you're on drugs.....''. I said ""I'm on drugs? you're the one talking to dogs.""",0 +2078,"A guy walked into a bar with a monkey. A guy walked into a bar with a monkey. + +The monkey grabbed some olives off the bar and ate them. + +Then he grabbed some sliced limes and ate them. +He then jumped onto the pool table and grabbed one of the balls. + +To everyone’s amazement, he stuck it in his mouth and somehow swallowed it whole. + +The bartender looked at the guy and said, “Did you see what your monkey just did?” + +“No, what?” + +“He just ate the cue ball off my pool table – whole!” + +“Yeah, that doesn’t surprise me,” replied the guy, “he eats everything in sight, don’t worry, I’ll pay for the cue ball.” + +The guy finished his drink, paid his bill, paid for the stuff the monkey ate and left. + +Two weeks later the guy came back and had his monkey with him. + +He ordered a drink and the monkey started running around the bar. + +The monkey found a cherry on the bar. + +He grabbed it, stuck it up his butt, pulled it out and then ate it. + +Then the monkey found a peanut and again stuck it up his butt, pulled it out and ate it. + +The bartender asked, “Did you see what that filthy ape just did?” + +“No, what?” asked the man. + +“Well, he stuck both a cherry and a peanut up his arse, then he pulled them out and ate them.” + +“Yeah, that doesn’t surprise me,” replied the guy. + +“He’ll eat anything, but ever since he had to sh!t out that cue ball, he measures everything first.”",0 +2079,"A 60 years old billionaire marries a hot 25 year old girl.... After honeymoon they throw a party celebrating their marriage... + +After a few drinks, billionaire's friends want to know the secret of how he landed 25 yo hottie.. + +""It's simple"" billionaire boasts... ""I faked my age"" + +""Yes, but even for a 40/45 years old guy...she is sensational, what age btw did you tell you are?"" A friend asks. + +With a smile on his lips billionaire responds ""85 years old""",0 +2080,"A couple want to have children but the wife can't get pregnant.. A couple want to have children but the wife can't get pregnant +...so they go to see a priest for advice. The priest tells them they came at the right time, since his superior just sent him to Rome for 10 years, and he's leaving tomorrow. +'As soon as I'll get there, I'll immediately light a candle for you,' he promises. +Time passes and the priest returns to the little town after 10 years. The first thing he does is visit the couple's home. He can hear a crazy loud noise when he knocks on the door. The wife opens the door; three little children on her arms, a couple of them hiding under her skirt, and others behind her playing around. The priest counts as many as ten of them! +'Well this is quite a pleasant surprise,' exclaims the priest. 'It seems like God listened to my prayer. But where is your dear husband?' +'My husband traveled to Rome,' says the wife with a tired look on her face. +'To Rome? Why on earth would he go to Rome?' +'To blow out that bloody candle you lit!'",0 +2081,"I think my girlfriend has had sixty-one boyfriends before me,. because she calls me her sixty-second lover.",0 +2082,What's the difference between Disney+ and Pornhub?. Disney+ wants you to hate your stepmother.,0 +2083,If I could have sex with any person on the planet. I would,0 +2084,"Everyone knows Alan Turing, who cracked Enigma codes.. + +But nobody knows his sister Kate, who provided drinks, snacks and sandwiches for him and his colleagues during that time.",0 +2085,"When I lost my rifle, the army charged me $85.. That's why in the navy, the captain goes down with the ship.",0 +2086,"The CEO offered an employee a bonus of $10k or to double it and pass it on. The CEO offered an employee a bonus of $10k or to double it and pass it on to the next employee. + +The first employee elected to double and pass it on. The CEO thought what a generous individual this was and then moved on to the next employee. + +The next employee also declined the (now) $20k bonus and elected to double and pass it on. “Wow” the CEO thought - even 20k is being passed on! What a sense of camaraderie in this team. + +The next employee also chose to double and pass on….This continued for 6 more employees and the bonus offer now stood at over $2.5m. In a panic, the CEO had to call his wealthy father to get a loan, otherwise his business will be bankrupted. + +Meanwhile the nine employees were in the kitchen deciding how to split the $2.5m evenly.",0 +2087,"A man stands in line at an ATM in Moscow.. After an hour he loses his patience and yells 'Putin is to blame for this I'm going to the Kremlin and kill him!' + +30 minutes later he's back in line at the ATM. + 'Why are you here again?' 'The line in front of the Kremlin is twice as long as this one...'",0 +2088,"A man gets on a bus, and ends up sitting next to a very attractive nun.. Enamored with her, he asks if he can have sex with her. Naturally, she says no, and gets off the bus. The man goes to the bus driver and asks him if he knows of a way for him to have sex with the nun. ""Well,"" says the bus driver, ""every night at 8 o'clock, she goes to the cemetery to pray. If you dress up as God, I'm sure you could convince her to have sex with you."" The man decides to try it, and dresses up in his best God costume. At eight, he sees the nun and appears before her. ""Oh, God!"" she exclaims. ""Take me with you!"" The man tells the nun that she must first have sex with him to prove her loyalty. The nun says yes, but tells him she prefers anal sex. Before you know it, they're getting down to it, having nasty, grunty, loud sex. After it's over, the man pulls off his God disguise. ""Ha, ha! I'm the man from the bus!"" ""Ha, ha!"" says the nun, removing her costume. ""I'm the bus driver!""",0 +2089,"A family went to a nudist beach for their vacation.. The young son came back to the tent and said, ""Wow, Mom! You should see some of those girls. They've got these HUGE..."" + +""Yes, well,"" his mother sniffs. ""The larger they are, the dumber the woman."" + +Next day the boy comes back to the tent again. ""You wouldn't believe some of the guys out there. They have these HUGE..."" + +""Yes, well, like I said, the bigger they are, the dumber the man."" + +""Really?"" the boy said, frowning with puzzlement. ""We might be in trouble, Mom."" + +""Why, honey?"" + +""Because Dad's out there talking to a really stupid girl, and he's getting dumber by the minute.",0 +2090,"My girlfriend borrowed $100 from me. After 3years, when we separated, she returned exactly $100.. I lost Interest in that relationship.",0 +2091,"Grandpa said, ""Your generation relies too much on technology."" I replied, ""No, your generation relies too much on technology."". Then I unplugged his life support.",0 +2092,"A blonde woman visits her husband in prison.. Before leaving, she tells a correction officer: “You shouldn’t make my husband work like that. He’s exhausted!” + +The officer laughs and says, “Are you kidding? He just eats and sleeps and stays in his cell!” + +The wife replies: “Bullsht! He just told me he’s been digging a tunnel for months!”",0 +2093,My girlfriend was devastated when she found out the reason why my nickname is “The Love Machine”.. It’s because I’m terrible at tennis.,0 +2094,"God created the dog and said: ""Sit all day by the door of your house and bark at anyone who comes in or walks past.. For this, I will give you a life span of twenty years."" +The dog said: ""That's a long time to be barking. How about only ten years and I'll give you back the other ten?"" +So God agreed. +God created the monkey and said: ""Entertain people, do tricks, and make them laugh. For this, I'll give you a twenty-year life span."" +The monkey said: ""Tricks for twenty years? That's a pretty long time to perform. How about I give you back ten like the Dog did?"" +And God agreed. +God created the cow and said: ""You must go into the field with the farmer all day long and suffer under the sun, have calves and give milk to support the farmer's family. For this, I will give you a life span of sixty years."" +The cow said: ""That's kind of a tough life you want me to live for sixty years. How about twenty and I'll give back the other forty?"" +And God agreed again. +God created man and said: ""Eat, sleep, play, marry and enjoy your life. For this, I'll give you twenty years."" +But man said: ""Only twenty years? Could you possibly give me my twenty, the forty the cow gave back, the ten the monkey gave back, and the ten the dog gave back; that makes eighty, okay?"" +""Okay,"" said God, ""You asked for it."" +So that is why for our first twenty years we eat, sleep, play and enjoy ourselves. For the next forty years we slave in the sun to support our family. For the next ten years we do monkey tricks to entertain the grandchildren. And for the last ten years we sit on the front porch and bark at everyone. +Life has now been explained to you.",0 +2095,"A girl was a prostitute, but she didn’t want her grandma to know.. One day, the police raided a whole group of prostitutes at a sex party in a hotel and the girl was among them. + +The police took them outside and had all the prostitutes line up along the driveway when suddenly, the girl’s grandma came by and saw her granddaughter. + +Grandma asked, “Why are you standing in line here, dear?” + +Not willing to let her grandmother know the truth, +the girl told her grandmother that the policemen were there passing out free oranges and she was just lining up for some. + +“Why, that’s awfully nice of them. I think I’ll get some for myself,” and she proceeded to the back of the line. + +A policeman was going down the line asking for information from all of the prostitutes. + +When he got to Grandma, he was bewildered and exclaimed, “Wow, still going at it at your age? How do you do it?” + +Grandma replied, + +“Oh, it’s easy, dear. I just take my dentures out, rip the skin back and suck them dry.”",0 +2096,"A doctor goes out and buys the best car on the market, a brand new Ferrari GTO. It is also the most expensive car in the world, and it costs him $500,000. He takes it out for a spin and stops at a red light.. An old man on a moped, looking about 100 years old, pulls up next to him. + +The old man looks over at the sleek shiny car and asks, “What kind of car ya got there, sonny?” + +The doctor replies, “A Ferrari GTO. It cost half a million dollars!” + +“That’s a lot of money,” says the old man. “Why does it cost so much?” + +“Because this car can do up to 250 miles an hour!” states the doctor proudly. + +The moped driver asks, “Mind if I take a look inside?” + +“No problem,” replies the doctor. + +So the old man pokes his head in the window and looks around. + +Then, sitting back on his moped, the old man says, “That’s a pretty nice car, all right, but I’ll stick with my moped!” + +Just then the light changes, so the doctor decides to show the old man just what his car can do. + +He floors it, and within 30 seconds, the speedometer reads 150 mph. + +Suddenly, he notices a dot in his rear view mirror – what it could be…and suddenly… + +WHHHOOOOOOSSSSSHHH! + +Something whips by him going much faster! + +“What on earth could be going faster than my Ferrari?” the doctor asks himself. + +He floors the accelerator and takes the Ferrari up to 175 mph. + +Then, up ahead of him, he sees that it’s the old man on the moped! + +Amazed that the moped could pass his Ferrari, he gives it more gas and passes the moped at 210 mph. + +WHOOOOOOOSHHHHH! + +He’s feeling pretty good until he looks in his mirror and sees the old man gaining on him AGAIN! + +Astounded by the speed of his old guy, he floors the gas pedal and takes the Ferrari all the way up to 250 mph. + +Not ten seconds later, he sees the moped bearing down on him again! + +The Ferrari is flat out, and there’s nothing he can do! + +Suddenly, the moped plows into the back of his Ferrari, demolishing the rear end. + +The doctor stops and jumps out and , unbelievably, the old man is still alive. + +He runs up to the mangled old man and says, “Oh my gosh! Is there anything I can do for you?” + +The old man whispers, “Unhook my suspenders from your side mirror.”",0 +2097,"A girl once asked me if I was a breast or legs guy. I told her I was more into anal and feet + +Now I’m banned from KFC",0 +2098,"Andrew Garfield, Tobey McGuire and Tom Holland got into an accident upon arriving at a party.. As it turns out, they're terrible parallel parkers.",0 +2099,"Once upon a time in a village, a man appeared and announced to the villagers that he would buy monkeys for $10 each.... The villagers, seeing that there were many monkeys around, went out to the forest and started catching them. + +The man bought thousands at $10 and as supply started to diminish, the villagers stopped their effort. He further announced that he would now buy at $20. This renewed the efforts of the villagers and they started catching monkeys again. + +Soon the supply diminished even further and people started going back to their farms. The offer increased to $25 each and the supply of monkeys became so little that it was an effort to even see a monkey, let alone catch it! + +The man now announced that he would buy monkeys at $50! However, since he had to go to the city on some business, his assistant would now buy on behalf of him. + +In the absence of the man, the assistant told the villagers; ""Look at all these monkeys in the big cage that the man has collected. I will sell them to you at $35 and when the man returns from the city, you can sell them to him for $50 each."" + +The villagers rounded up with all their savings and bought all the monkeys. + +They never saw the man nor his assistant, only monkeys everywhere! + +Now you have a better understanding of how the cryptocurrency market works.",0 +2100,China has now banned any military personnel to use apple watches due to security reasons.. One soldier says with tears in his eyes “but but my daughter made it for me”.,0 +2101,"Three friends are in a hotel room in Soviet Russia.. The first two men open a bottle of vodka, while the third is tired and goes straight to bed. He is unable to sleep however, as his increasingly drunk friends tell political jokes loudly. + +After a while, the tired man gets frustrated and walks downstairs for a smoke. He stops in the lounge and asks the receptionist to bring tea to their room in five minutes. + +The man walks back into the room, joins the table, leans towards a power outlet and speaks into it: + +""Comrade major, we want some tea to room 62 please."" + +His friends laugh on the joke, until there is a knock on the door. The receptionist brings a teapot. His friends fall silent and pale, horrified of what they just witnessed. The party is dead, and the man goes to sleep. + +After a good night's rest, the man wakes up, and notices his friends are gone. Surprised, he walks downstairs and asks the receptionist where they went. + +The nervous receptionist whispers that KGB came and took them before dawn. + +The man is horrified. He wonders why he was spared. + +The receptionist responds: + +""Well, comrade major did quite like your tea joke.""",0 +2102,"God decides it’s finally time to send Jesus back to Earth.. *poof* All of a sudden, Jesus finds himself on the side of a road in the middle of rural America. He sticks out his thumb for a ride and before long a man in a truck stops to give him a lift. +Not revealing his true identity, Jesus thanks the man for stopping. + +Jesus: Wow thank you sir, so many people just ignored me standing there. + +Man: don’t worry about it! That’s just what good people do. + +After a few minutes driving the man leans over, + +Man: Hey, I have this sandwich here, ya want some? + +Jesus: wow, thank you sir, that’s so kind of you! I’d love some. + +A few more minutes pass and the man leans over again, + +Man: Hey I have a few beers in the cooler back there, want one? + +Amazed by the man’s kindness Jesus replies, + +Jesus: wow sure! I’d love one. Thank you again. + +After a few more miles down the road the man looks around suspiciously and says, + +Man: hey…I uh, have a little joint here. Want to take a few puffs with me? + +Jesus pauses for a second and replies, + +Jesus: ya know what, why not! + +So the man and Jesus drive down the road smoking the fattest joint listening to music and having a good time. Finally, Jesus speaks up, + +Jesus: okay listen! I can’t keep quiet any longer! You have been so kind, so nice, I want to tell you…I’m Jesus! God sent me down here to help the people and you’ve just been so kind. What can I do to repay you? Anything! + +The man looks at Jesus with a grin on his face and says, “Good shit, huh?”",0 +2103,What do you get if you cross Islam and Capitalism?. No more jokes about the profit.,0 +2104,My wife complains to me about constantly being sexually harassed at work​. I told her she can stop working from home and go back to the office,0 +2105,"Judas: Hey Jesus, you coming to the last supper?. Jesus: the what? + +Judas: the supper…I mean are you coming to the supper?",0 +2106,"An 80-year-old man married a 20-year-old girl.. After a year she gave birth in a hospital. The nurse congratulated the fellow. ""This is amazing. How do you do it at your age?"" He answered, ""You've got to keep that old motor running."" + +The following year she gave birth again. The same nurse said, ""You really are amazing. What's the secret?"" He again said, ""You've got to keep the old motor running."" + +The same thing happened the next year. The nurse said, ""You must be quite a man."" He responded, ""You've got to keep that old motor running."" + +The nurse then said, ""Well, you had better change the oil, this one's black!""",0 +2107,"There was an old man who lived by a forest. As he grew older and older, he started losing his hair, until one day, on his deathbed, he was completely bald. That day, he called his children to a meeting.... + +He said, ""Look at my hair. It used to be so magnificent, but it's completely gone now. My hair can't be saved. But look outside at the forest. It's such a lovely forest with so many trees, but sooner or later they'll all be cut down and this forest will look as bald as my hair."" + +""What I want you to do..."" the man continued. ""Is, every time a tree is cut down or dies, plant a new one in my memory. Tell your descendants to do the same. It shall be our family's duty to keep this forest strong."" + +And so they did. + +Each time the forest lost a tree, the children replanted one, and so did their children, and their children after them. + +And for centuries, the forest remained as lush and pretty as it once was, all because of one man and his re-seeding heirline.",0 +2108,"How many Apple engineers does it take to change a lightbulb?. None. They no longer make that socket, you just buy a new house.",0 +2109,"There are some Russian soldiers marching. They hear a voice shout from over a hill, + +“I bet one Ukrainian can beat ten Russians!” + +The Russian sergeant, thinking that it would be easy, sent ten men over the hill to fight. They heard a fighting and noise. No Russian soldiers came back. After a minute they heard the voice again, + +“I bet 1 Ukrainian can beat 100 Russians!” + +The sergeant, getting more annoyed now, decided to send some of his men over, to finish this Ukrainian off. + +After a while of noise and bangs, no Russian soldiers came back, and the voice shouted again, + +“I bet 1 Ukrainian can beat 1000 Russians!” + +The sergeant, thinking that 1 soldier could not possibly beat 1000, sent his troops over. + +Again, there was lots of noise, but then, silence. + +1 Russian soldier returned this time, bloody and bruised, barely walking. The soldier said: + +“Don’t send any more men over; there’s actually 2 Ukrainians.”",0 +2110,Why are white prison gangs the scariest?. Because they had a fair trial and still ended up in prison,0 +2111,"Gender is like the twin towers.. There used to be two of them, and now it is a sensitive subject.",0 +2112,"A Muslim dies and finds himself before the Pearly Gates.... + + +He is very excited, as all his life he has longed to meet the Prophet Mohammed.  + +Having arrived at the Gates of Heaven, he meets a man with a beard.  + +""Are you Mohammed?"" he asks.  + +""No, my son. I am Peter. Mohammed is higher up."" And he points to a ladder that rises into the clouds.  + +Delighted that Mohammed should be higher than Peter, he climbs the ladder in great strides, climbs through the clouds, coming to a room where he meets another bearded man.  + +He asks again, ""Are you Mohammed?""  + +""No, I am Moses. Mohammed is higher still.""  + +Exhausted, but with a heart full of joy he continues to climb the ladder and, yet again, he discovers an even larger room where he meets another man with a beard.  + +Full of hope, he asks again, ""Are you Mohammed?""  + +""No, I am Jesus... You will find Mohammed higher up.""  + +Mohammed higher than Jesus! + +The poor man can hardly contain his delight and climbs and climbs, ever higher.  + +Once again he reaches a larger room where he meets a man with a beard and repeats his question:  + +""Are you Mohammed?"" he gasps as he is, by now, totally out of breath from all his climbing. + +""No my son.....I am God. But you look exhausted. Would you like a coffee?""  + +""Yes, please!"" said the man. + +God looks behind him, claps his hands and calls out: + +**""Hey Mohammed, two coffees!""**",0 +2113,My wife gave me a handjob the other day using a Vaseline.. I came three times trying to wash that shit off.,0 +2114,"John decided to go skiing with his buddy, Keith, so they loaded up John's minivan and headed north. After driving for a few hours, they got caught in a terrible blizzard, so they pulled into a nearby farm.... ...and asked the attractive lady who answered the door, if they could spend the night. + +""I realize it's terrible weather out there and I have this huge house all to myself, but I'm recently widowed."" she explained. ""And I'm afraid the neighbors will talk if I let you stay in my house."" + +""Don't worry."" John said. ""We'll be happy to sleep in the barn and if the weather breaks, we'll be gone at first light."" + +The lady agreed, and the two men found their way to the barn and settled in for the night. + +Come morning, the weather had cleared, and they got on their way and enjoyed a great weekend of skiing. + +But about nine months later, John got an unexpected letter from an attorney. + +It took him a few minutes to figure it out, but he finally determined that it was from the attorney of that attractive widow he had met on the skiing weekend. + +He dropped in on his friend Keith and asked, ""Keith, do you remember that good-looking widow from the farm we stayed at on our skiing holiday about 9 months ago?"" + +""Yes, I do."" said Keith. + +""Did you, er, happen to get up in the middle of the night, go up to the house and pay her a visit?"" + +""Well, um, yes!"" Keith said, a little embarrassed about being found out, ""I have to admit that I did."" + +""And did you happen to give her my name instead of telling her your name?"" + +Keith's face turned beet red and he said, ""Yeah, look, I'm sorry, buddy. I'm afraid I did. Why do you ask?"" + +""Well, she just died and left me everything.""",0 +2115,"What word starts with ""E"" and ends in ""E"" but only has one letter in it?. Envelope.",0 +2116,How do you milk sheep?. Bring out a new iPhone and charge $1500 for it.,0 +2117,"The sex position formerly known as 69 is now called 96.. Due to the economy, the cost of eating out has gone up.",0 +2118,Dead LGBTQ+ people be like.... WAS/WERE,0 +2119,Your mom is so old. She has a separate entrance for black guys,0 +2120,"A racist man called me a terrorist for having long hair, a long beard, and being Middle Eastern.. Later I saw him at church giving a speech about how everyone needs a Middle Eastern guy with long hair and a beard in their lives.",0 +2121,"I met a genie once. He gave me one wish. I said “I wish I could be you.”. + + + + +The genue saud, ""weurd wush but U wull grant ut.""",0 +2122,"A lady decided to give herself a big treat for her 50th birthday by staying overnight in a really nice luxurious hotel... The following morning, she was appalled when the desk clerk gave her a bill for $250.00. She requested to know why the charge was too high. + +""It's a nice hotel, but the rooms certainly aren't worth $250.00 for just an overnight stay! I didn't even have breakfast,"" she told the clerk. + +The clerk clarified that $250.00 is the standard rate. At that point, the older lady insisted on talking with the manager. + +The manager showed up and explained that the hotel ""has an Olympic-sized pool and a huge conference center which are available for use."" + +""But I didn't use them,"" the old woman said. + +""Well, they are here, and you could have,"" he replied. + +The manager proceeded with that she could likewise have seen one of the in-hotel shows for which the hotel is famous. + +""We have the best entertainers from the world over performing here,"" he said. + +""But I didn't go to any of those shows,"" she said. + +The manager replied, ""Well, we have them, and you could have."" + +Regardless of what facility he recommended, the older lady would just answer, ""But I didn't use it!"" + +The manager then countered with his standard reaction. After several minutes of contending with him, she chose to pay. + +The manager was shocked when she gave the check to him. ""But madam, this check is for only $50.00,"" he said. + +""That is right. I charged you $200.00 for sleeping with me,"" the old lady replied. + +""But I didn't!"" the manager shouted. + +""Well, too bad, I was here, and you could have.""",0 +2123,"A little boy and his grandfather are raking leaves in the yard.. The little boy sees an earthworm trying to get back into its hole. He says, ""Grandpa, I bet I can put that worm back in that hole."" The grandfather replies, ""I'll bet you five dollars you can't. It's too wiggly and limp to put back in that little hole."" + +The little boy runs into the house and comes back out with a can of hair spray. He sprays the worm until it is straight and stiff as a board. The boy then proceeds to put the worm back into the hole. The grandfather hands the little boy five dollars, grabs the hair spray and runs into the house. + +Thirty minutes later the grandfather comes back out and hands the boy another five dollars. The little boy says, ""Grandpa, you already gave me five dollars."" The grandfather replies, ""I know. That's from your Grandma.""",0 +2124,"Last year a guy took his Blonde girl friend to the Superbowl. +They had great seats right behind their team's bench. + +After the game, he asked her how she liked it. + +""Oh, I really liked it,"" she replied, ""especially the + +tight pants and all the big muscles, but I just couldn't + +understand why they were killing each other over 25 cents."" + +Dumbfounded, her boyfriend asked, ""What do you + +mean?"" + +""Well, they flipped a coin, one team got it, then for the rest of the game, all they kept screaming was... + + + +'Get the quarterback! Get the quarterback!' + +I'm like...Helloooooo? It's only 25 cents!""",0 +2125,Why do Americans rarely tell jokes about mass shootings?. Because it’s always too soon….,0 +2126,"A couple of counterfeiters made a mistake one time and ended up with a batch of $15 bills. One of them says ""We gotta get rid of these things. We'll go to Florida. I know a little town there. They're so dumb they won't know a thing."" + +So off they go. Soon they arrive at a gas station and buy some gas. The guy at the counter looks a little simpleminded. + +""Hey can you break a 15 dollar bill for me,"" one of them says. + +""Oh, sure, no problem,"" the cashier says. The counterfeiters grin at each other. + +""I told you,"" the one whispers to the other, and they fist bump. + +Then the cashier says to them, ""so, do you want an 8 and a 7, or two 3's and a 9?""",0 +2127,"An old man was walking on a park adjoining the cliff famous for suicide and saw a young woman standing at the edge contemplating suicide. He approached her. + +She: ""Dont come near me!!"" + +Old man :"" Since you are anyway going to die,why cant you make this old man happy with a quickie?"" + +She shrieked ""Over my dead body,you filthy pervert"" + +Old man ""Ok,if thats the case, I will walk down and wait for you at the bottom"" and then he walked away. + +The woman stood for another 10 minutes and came back to her car and left. + +The old man who was watching her from the bushes sighed ""7 suicide attempt saved this month"".",0 +2128,"Americans are getting stronger; 20 years ago, it took two adults to carry $50 worth of groceries.. Today, a 5 year-old can carry them!",0 +2129,"My attractive female neighbor is completely paranoid. She thinks I'm following or even stalking her. She is worried that I may be obsessed with her and any time she hears a noise in her house she is...purified? Oh, wait: petrified. Sorry, it's not easy reading a diary through binoculars from a tree.",0 +2130,"What is a Pirate's favorite letter?. The one from the General Manager telling him he's been traded to the Mets. + + + +Thanks to everyone who awarded this post! You're so kind .",0 +2131,What's the difference between an atheist and an evangelical Christian?. The atheist is honest about not following the teachings of Christ.,0 +2132,"A small church had a very attractive big-busted organist named Linda.. Her breasts were so large that they bounced and jiggled while she played the organ. Unfortunately, this distracted the congregation considerably. + +The very proper church ladies were appalled. They said something had to be done about this or they would have to get another organist. + +So one of the ladies approached Linda very discreetly about the problem, and told her to mash up some green astringent persimmons and rub them on her nipples and over her breasts, which should cause them to shrink in size. + +But she warned Linda not to taste any of the green persimmons because they are so sour they would make her mouth pucker up, and she wouldn't be able to talk properly for a while. + +The voluptuous organist reluctantly agreed to try it. + +The following Sunday morning the priest climbed into the pulpit and said, + +""Dew to thircumsthanthis bewond my contwol, we will not hab a thermon tewday""",0 +2133,"Four guys have been going to the same fishing trip for many years.. Two days before the group is to leave, Ron's wife puts her foot down and tells him he isn't going. + +Ron's mates are very upset that he can't go, but what can they do. Two days later the three mates get to the camping site only to find Ron sitting there with a tent set up, firewood gathered, and dinner cooking on the fire. + +""Shit Ron, how long you been here? How did you talk your missus into letting you go?"" + +""Well, I've been here since last night. After dinner at home yesterday evening, I was sitting in my chair and my wife came up behind me and put her hands over my eyes and said, 'Guess who?' + +I pulled her hands off, and she was wearing sexy brand new lingerie. She said she had been reading 'Fifty Shades of Grey' and she had a devilish look in her eyes!!! + +She took my hand and led me to our bedroom. The room had candles and rose petals all over. + +On the bed she had handcuffs, and ropes! + +She told me to tie her up and cuff her to the bed, so I did. + +And then she said, 'Do whatever you want.' + +So . . . . here I am!""",0 +2134,"An old, blind Marine wanders into an all-girl biker bar by mistake.. + +He finds his way to a bar stool and orders a shot of Jack Daniels. + +After sitting there for a while, he yells to the bartender, 'Hey, you wanna hear a blonde joke?' + +The bar immediately falls absolutely silent. + +In a very deep, husky voice, the woman next to him says, + +'Before you tell that joke I think it is only fair, given that you are blind, that you should know five things: + +1. The bartender is a blonde girl with a baseball bat. + +2. The bouncer is a blonde girl. + +3. I'm a 6-foot tall, 175-pound blonde woman with a black belt in karate. + +4. The woman sitting next to me is blonde and a professional weight lifter. + +5. The lady to your right is blonde and a professional wrestler. + +Now, think about it seriously, do you still wanna tell that blonde joke?' + +The blind Marine thinks for a second, shakes his head and mutters, 'No...not if I'm gonna have to explain it five times.'",0 +2135,"A priest is being chased through the woods by a hungry bear.. As the priest is running, he makes an impassioned plea to God: Oh please God, in your infinite wisdom and mercy, turn this bear into a good Christian! + +Before he can get another word out, he trips over a log and goes sprawling. The bear catches up and approaches the terrified priest. Rising up on its hind legs, it puts its paws together, and says + +“Lord, thank you for this meal that I am about to receive.”",0 +2136,"Interviewer: How much amount of milk does your cow produce?. Farmer: which one, black one or white one? + +Interviewer: Black one + +Farmer: 2 litres per day. + +Interviewer: And the white one? + +Farmer: 2 litres per day. + +Interviewer : Where do they sleep? + +Farmer: The Black one or the. White one? + +Interviewer: The black one + +Farmer : In the Barn + +Interviewer: And the White one? + +Farmer: In the Barn + +Interviewer: Your cows look healthy... What do + +you feed them? + +Farmer: which one..black one or white one? + +Interviewer: Black one + +Farmer: Grass + +Interviewer: And the white one? + +Farmer: Grass + +Interviewer: (Annoyed😤) but why do you keep on asking if the black one or the white one when your answers are just the same?? + +Farmer: Because the black one is mine. + +Interviewer: And the white one? + +Farmer: Its also mine.",0 +2137,"I've spent an hour and a half now trying to explain ""sunk cost fallacy"" to my son. He's no nearer understanding it than when we started, and it's giving me a serious headache. + +But if I quit now I'll have had all this for nothing!",0 +2138,"A lady goes to the doctor and complains that her husband is losing interest in sex. The doctor gives her a pill, but warns her that it's still experimental. He tells her to slip it into his mashed potatoes at dinner, so that night, she does just that.. About a week later, she’s back at the doctor, where she says, ""Doc, the pill worked great! I put it in the potatoes like you said! It wasn't five minutes later that he jumped up, raked all the food and dishes onto the floor, grabbed me, ripped all my clothes off, and ravaged me right there on the table!"" The doctor says, ""I’m sorry, we didn’t realize the pill was that strong! The foundation will be glad to pay for any damages."" ""Nah,"" she says, ""that's okay. We're never going back to that restaurant anyway.""",0 +2139,"What's the difference between grey and gray?. One is a color, and the other is a colour.",0 +2140,"If the Ku Klux Klan leaders are wizards, why don't they cast a spell to kill all those that oppose them?. Because they don't have access to black magic.",0 +2141,"Mike and his wife Sara went to the state fair every year, and every year Mike would say, ""Sara, I'd like to ride in that airplane.""..... Sara always replied, ""I know, Mike, but that airplane ride costs fifty dollars, and fifty dollars is fifty dollars."" + + +One year Mike and Sara went to the fair, and Mike said, ""Sara, I'm eighty-five years old. If I don't ride that airplane, I might never get another chance."" + + +Sara replied, ""Mike, that airplane ride costs fifty dollars, and fifty dollars is fifty dollars."" + + +The pilot overheard them and said, ""Folks, I'll make you a deal. I'll take you both up for a ride. If you can stay quiet for the entire ride and not say one word, I won't charge you; but if you say one word, it's fifty dollars."" + + +Mike and Sara agreed, and up they went. The pilot did all kinds of twists and turns, rolls and dives, but not a word was spoken. He did all his tricks over again but still not a word. When they landed, the pilot turned to Mike and said, ""My, my, I did everything I could think of to get you to yell out, but you didn't."" + + +Mike replied, ""Well, I was gonna say something when Sara fell out, but fifty dollars is fifty dollars.""",0 +2142,"A trucker who has been out on the road for two months stops at a brothel outside Atlanta.. He walks directly up to the Madam, drops down $500, and says, ""I want your ugliest woman and a grilled cheese sandwich!"" + +The Madam is astonished. ""But sir, for that kind of money you could have one of my prettiest ladies and a three-course meal."" + +The trucker replies, ""Listen darlin’, I��m not horny – I’m just homesick.""",0 +2143,"A woman tries getting on a bus but realises her skirt is too tight.. + +As the bus stopped & it was her turn to get on, she became aware that her skirt was too tight to allow her leg to come up to the height of the first step of the bus. Slightly embarrassed & with a quick smile to the driver, she reached behind her to unzip her skirt a little thinking that this would give her enough slack to raise her leg. She tried to take the step, but only to discover that she couldn't. With a little smile to the driver, she again reached behind to unzip a little more & again was unable to take the step. After becoming quite frustrated & embarrassed, she once again attempted to unzip her skirt more in order to allow more legroom to get on the first step of the bus. About this time, a large Texan who was standing behind her picked her up easily by the waist & placed her gently on the step of the bus. She went ballistic & turned to the would-be Samaritan & yelled + +"" How dare you touch my body! I don't even know who you are"". + +The Texan smiled & drawled + +"" Well ma'am, normally I'd agree with you but after you unzipped my fly 3 times I kinda figured we were friends"".",0 +2144,"[NSFW] A couple made a deal that whoever died first would come back and inform the other if there was sex after death.. After a long life together , the wife was the first to die and true to her words, she made first contact. + +W: ""Darling. Darling."" + +H: ""Is that you my love?"" + +W: ""Yes , I've come back like we agreed"" + +H : ""That's wonderful! What is it like in the afterlife? Is there sex?"" + +W: ""Well, as soon as I get up in the morning, I have sex. After sex and breakfast it's off to the these green pastures with an amazing crystal lake. +Thereafter I bathe in the warm sun and have sex a couple more times. +Then I have lunch, you'd be proud - lots of greens. +After lunch, it's back to the pastures again. +Then it's more sex until late at night. +I catch some much needed sleep and then the next day it starts all over again."" + +H : ""Oh wow! Are you in Heaven?"" + +W: ""No, I'm a goat somewhere in the Middle East ”",0 +2145,"What's the difference between a Taliban training facility and a children's hospital?. Don't ask me, I just fly the drone",0 +2146,"I got a lift to the eleventh floor, and as I got out, the operator said ""Have a good day, son."". ""Don't call me son,"" I said. ""You're not my dad."" + +He scratched his head, ""No, but I brought you up, didn't I?""",0 +2147,"What do fetuses, servicemen and gay people have in common in the US?. The government stops caring about them once they're out.",0 +2148,How many feminists does it take to screw in a light bulb?. That's not funny.,0 +2149,"A pirate walked into a bar.. +He had a wooden leg, an eye patch and a hook for a hand. The bartender was curious. ""How did you get that wooden leg?"" he asked. + +The pirate took a swig of ale. ""'Twas a terrible sea battle. I stood bravely, directly facing 12 cannons.All they managed to hit was my leg."" + +The bartender said ""What about your hook?"" + +The pirate took another long swig. ""Arrrr, twas the day the British navy caught me. They tied me to the mast, I escaped by gnawing my own hand off."" + +The bartender was growing sceptical. ""And how did you get that eyepatch?"" + +The pirate took another swig. ""Twas a mutiny. Me own crew left me marrooned on a desert island. But I had no fear. I lay down on the sand to wait to be rescued. As i looked up, a seagull flew over and pooped in me eye."" + +The bartender said ""That's ridiculous, no one loses an eye from bird muck."" + +The pirate finished his ale in one gulp, and grimaced. ""Twas the first day with the hook.""",0 +2150,my wife asked me if I wish she had been born with big tits.. I told her that I find big tits on babies disturbing.,0 +2151,"Alyssa: “I’ve had it up to here with you, John! You think I talk like a pirate and you never buy me flowers!. John: “You want to know something? I do think you talk like a pirate! And I didn’t even know you sold flowers!",0 +2152,"A woman is having an affair during the day while her husband is at work.. + +Her 9 year old son comes home unexpectedly, sees them and hides in the bedroom closet to watch. + +The woman's husband also comes home. She puts her lover in the closet, not realizing that the little boy is in there already. + +The little boy says, ""It's dark in here."" +The man says, ""Yes, it is."" +Boy ~ ""I have a baseball."" +Man ~ ""That's nice."" +Boy ~ ""Want to buy it?"" +Man ~ ""No, thanks."" +Boy ~ ""My dad's outside."" +Man ~ ""OK, how much?"" +Boy ~ ""$250? + +In the next few weeks, it happens again that the boy and the lover are in the closet together. +Boy ~ ""Its dark in here."" +Man ~ ""Yes, it is."" +Boy ~ ""I have a baseball glove."" + +The lover remembering the last time, asks the boy, ""How much? + +Boy ~ ""$750? +Man ~ ""Fine."" + +A few days later, the father says to the boy, ""Grab your glove, let's go outside and have a game of catch."" + +The boy says, ""I can't, I sold my baseball and my glove."" +The father asks, ""How much did you sell them for?"" +Boy ~ ""$1,000? + +The father says, ""That's terrible to overcharge your friends like that… that is way more than those two things cost."" + +""I'm going to take you to church and make you confess."" + +They go to the church and the father makes the little boy sit in the confession booth and he closes the door. + +The boy says, ""It's dark in here."" + +The priest says, ""Don't start that crap again.""",0 +2153,"A man walks into a bar and says “I’m here to drink my troubles away!”. “Well you’ve come to the right place.” says the bartender, “What’ll it be?” + +The man replies “One water please” + +“Just a water??” + +“Yeah, I have kidney stones.”",0 +2154,"A beautiful woman went up to the bar in a quiet rural pub. She gestured alluringly to the bartender who approached her immediately.. The woman seductively signaled that he should bring his face closer to hers. As he did, she gently caressed his full beard. + +""Are you the manager?"" she asked, softly stroking his face with both hands. ""Actually, no,"" he replied. ""Can you get him for me? I need to speak to him,"" she said, running her hands beyond his beard and into his hair. + +""I'm afraid I can't,"" breathed the bartender. ""Is there anything I can do?"" ""Yes. I need for you to give him a message,"" she continued, running her forefinger across the bartender's lip and slyly popping a couple of her fingers into his mouth and allowing him to suck them gently. + +""What should I tell him?"" the flustered bartender managed to stammer. + +""Tell him,"" she whispered, ""There's no toilet paper, hand soap, or paper towels in the ladies room.",0 +2155,"There was a German, an Italian and an Irishman on death row.. The warden gave them a choice of three ways to die: + +1. To be shot +2. To be hung +3. To be injected with the AIDS virus for a slow death. + +So the German said, ""Shoot me right in the head."". Boom, he was dead instantly. + +Then the Italian said, ""Just hang me."" (Snap, he was dead.) + +Then the Irishman said, ""Give me some of that AIDS stuff."" +They gave him the shot, and the Irishman fell down laughing. +The guards looked at each other and wondered what was wrong with this guy. + +Then the Irishman said, ""Give me another one of those shots,"" so the guards did. Now he was laughing so hard, tears rolled from his eyes and he doubled over. + +Finally the warden said, ""What is wrong with you?"" +The Irishman replied, ""You guys are so stupid..... I'm wearing a condom!""",0 +2156,Two men broke into a drugstore and stole all the Viagra.. The police put out an alert to be on the lookout for the two hardened criminals.,0 +2157,"A Jewish man on the subway is reading an Arab newspaper. A friend of his, who happened to be riding in the same subway car, noticed this strange phenomenon. Very upset, he approached him. ""Moshe, have you lost your mind? Why are you reading an Arab newspaper?"" Moshe replied, ""I used to read the Jewish newspaper, but what did I find? Jews being persecuted, Israel being attacked, Jews disappearing through assimilation and intermarriage, Jews living in poverty. So I switched to the Arab newspaper. Now what do I find? Jews own all the banks, Jews control the media, Jews are all rich and powerful, Jews rule the world. The news is so much better!""",0 +2158,"The IRS suspected a fishing boat owner wasn't paying proper wages to his Deckhand, so they sent an agent to investigate him.. IRS AGENT: “I need a list of your employees and how much you pay them."" + +Boat Owner: “Well, there's Clarence, my deckhand, he's been with me for 3 years. I pay him $1,000 a week plus free room and board. Then there's the mentally challenged guy. He works about 18 hours every day and does about 90% of the work around here. He makes about $30 per week, pays his own room and board, and I buy him a bottle of Bacardi rum and a dozen Budweisers every Saturday night so he can cope with life. He also gets to sleep with my wife occasionally."" + +IRS AGENT: “That's the guy I want to talk to - the mentally challenged one."" + +Boat Owner: “That would be me. What would you like to know?""",0 +2159,"A dentist goes out and buys the best car on the market, a brand new Bugatti Chiron. It is also the most expensive car in the world, and it costs him $1.5M. He takes it out for a spin and stops at a red light. + +An old man on a moped, looking about 90 years old, pulls up next to him. + +The old man looks over at the sleek shiny car and asks, “What kind of car ya got there, sonny?” + +The dentist replies, “A Bugatti Chiron. It cost one and a half a million dollars!” + +“That’s a lot of money,” says the old man. “Why does it cost so much?” + +“Because this car can do up to 250 miles an hour!” states the dentist proudly. + +The moped driver asks, “Mind if I take a look inside?” + +“No problem,” replies the dentist. + +So the old man pokes his head in the window and looks around. + +Then, sitting back on his moped, the old man says, “That’s a pretty nice car, all right, but I’ll stick with my moped!” + +Just then the light changes, so the dentist decides to show the old man just what his car can do. + +He floors it, and within 30 seconds, the speedometer reads 150 mph. + +Suddenly, he notices a dot in his rear view mirror – what it could be…and suddenly… + +WHHHOOOOOOSSSSSHHH! + +Something whips by him going much faster! + +“What on earth could be going faster than my Bugatti?” the dentist asks himself. + +He floors the accelerator and takes the Bugatti up to 175 mph. + +Then, up ahead of him, he sees that it’s the old man on the moped! + +Amazed that the moped could pass his Bugatti, he gives it more gas and passes the moped at 210 mph. + +WHOOOOOOOSHHHHH! + +He’s feeling pretty good until he looks in his mirror and sees the old man gaining on him AGAIN! + +Astounded by the speed of his old guy, he floors the gas pedal and takes the Bugatti all the way up to 250 mph. + +Not ten seconds later, he sees the moped bearing down on him again! + +The Bugatti is flat out, and there’s nothing he can do! + +Suddenly, the moped plows into the back of his Bugatti, demolishing the rear end. + +The dentist stops and jumps out and , unbelievably, the old man is still alive. + +He runs up to the mangled old man and says, “Oh my gosh! Is there anything I can do for you?” + +The old man whispers, “Unhook my suspenders from your side mirror.”",0 +2160,"My buddy got arrested on drug charges and because it was his first offense, he thought he would get off lightly, but it turned out his lawyer was one of the worst in the state and ended up botching his case, so instead of getting a short term, he ended up getting 40 years without parole!!. + +Man, that sentence was way too long!",0 +2161,"Twelve priests were about to be ordained. The final test was for them to line up in a straight row, totally nude in a garden, while a sexy and beautiful big breasted nude model danced before them.. Each priest had a small bell attached to his penis and they were told that anyone whose bell rang when she danced in front of them would not be ordained because he had not reached a state of spiritual purity. The beautiful model danced before the first candidate with no reaction. She proceeded down the line with the same response from all the priests until she got to the final priest. As she danced, his bell began to ring so loudly that it flew off and fell clattering to the ground. + +Embarrassed, he took a few steps forward and bent over to pick up the bell. Then all the other bells started to ring.",0 +2162,"Pregnant girlfriend. Guy: Doctor, my Girlfriend is pregnant, but we always use protection, and the rubber never broke. How is it possible? + +Doctor: Let me tell you a story: “There was once a Hunter who always carried a gun wherever he went. One day he took out his Umbrella instead of his Gun and went out. A Lion suddenly jumped in front of him. To scare the Lion, the Hunter used the Umbrella like a Gun, and shot the Lion, then it died! + +Guy: Nonsense! Someone else must have shot the Lion. + +Doctor: Good! You understood the story. Next patient please.",0 +2163,(NSFW) Things have been going great since my doctor told me I can masturbate whenever I want.. His email said I could have a stroke at anytime.,0 +2164,My dad told me people shouldn't get ribbons just for participating because it rewards them for losing.. So I took down his confederate flag.,0 +2165,"I was on a blind date with this girl.... And I told her being funny is the second best way to get a girl into bed +She asked ""What's the best way?"" +I said ""a big knife"". +She laughed and said ""you're funny"". +I said ""wise choice"".",0 +2166,"Netflix: Do you want to watch a 10-hour movie?. Me: No way! Are you insane? + +Netflix: How about I break up the movie into ten 1-hour episodes and you see them all in one sitting? + +Me: I am in!",0 +2167,"10 unwritten rules of this subreddit:. 1: + +2: + +3: + +4: + +5: + +6: + +7: + +8: + +9: + +10:",0 +2168,"a teacher is doing attendance. she comes across the name “hijkm” she says “i’m sorry, i’m not sure how to pronounce this name,” then spells it out. a girl raises her hand and says this:. “that’s me, and it’s pronounced noelle”",0 +2169,"A Montana cowboy was overseeing his herd in a remote mountainous pasture when suddenly a brand-new BMW advanced out of a dust cloud toward him.. The driver, a young man in a Brioni suit, Gucci shoes, Ray Ban sunglasses and YSL tie, leans out the window and asks the cowboy, ""If I tell you exactly how many cows and calves you have in your herd, will you give me a calf?"" The cowboy looks at the man, obviously a yuppie, then looks at his peacefully grazing herd and calmly answers, ""Sure, Why not?"" + +The yuppie parks his car, whips out his Dell notebook computer, connects it to his Iphone cell phone, and surfs to a NASA page on the Internet, where he calls up a GPS satellite navigation system to get an exact fix on his location which he then feeds to another NASA satellite that scans the area in an ultra-high-resolution photo. The young man then opens the digital photo in Adobe Photoshop and exports it to an image processing facility in Hamburg, Germany. Within seconds, he receives an email on his Ipad that the image has been processed and the data stored. He then accesses a MS-SQL database through an ODBC connected Excel spreadsheet with email on his Blackberry and, after a few minutes, receives a response. + + Finally, he prints out a full-color, 150-page report on his hi-tech, miniaturized HP LaserJet printer and finally turns to the cowboy and says, ""You have exactly 1,586 cows and calves."" ""That's right. Well, I guess you can take one of my calves,"" says the cowboy. He watches the young man select one of the animals and looks on amused as the young man stuffs it into the trunk of his car. Then the cowboy says to the young man, ""Hey, if I can tell you exactly what your business is, will you give me back my calf?"" + +The young man thinks about it for a second and then says, ""Okay, why not?"" ""You're a Congressman in the U.S. government,"" says the cowboy. ""Wow, that's correct,"" says the yuppie. ""But how did you guess that?"" ""No guessing required,"" answered the cowboy. ""You showed up here even though nobody called you, you want to get paid for an answer I already knew, to a question I never asked. You tried to show me how much smarter than me you are, and you don't know a thing about cows. This is a herd of sheep. Now give me back my dog.""",0 +2170,"A software tester walks into a bar. Backs into a bar. + +Runs into a bar. + +Crawls into a bar. + +Dances into a bar. + +Flies into a bar. + +Jumps into a bar. + +And orders: + +a beer. + +2 beers. + +0 beers. + +987654321 beers. + +a lizard in a beer glass. + +\-1 beer. + +""qwertyuiop"" beers. + +Testing complete. + +A regular customer walks into the bar and asks where the bathroom is. + +The bar bursts into flames.",0 +2171,"How do you offend an American?. Don't worry, they'll find something to be offended about.",0 +2172,"A taxi passenger tapped the driver on the shoulder to ask him a question.. + +The driver screamed, lost control of the car, nearly hit a bus, went up on the footpath, and stopped inches from a shop window.  + +For a second, everything was quiet in the cab. Then the driver said, ""Look, mate, don't ever do that again. You scared the living daylights out of me!"" + +The passenger apologized and said, ""I didn't realize that a little tap would scare you so much.""  + +The driver replied, ""Sorry, it's not really your fault. Today is my first day as a cab driver — I've been driving a funeral van for the last 25 years.""",0 +2173,"After watching Finding Nemo, a man runs out to the pet store and buys a clown fish. He brings the fish home and puts it into the tank, but after a few days notices that it doesn't seem at all settled in its new home. + + +He remembers that in Finding Nemo, the clownfish live in an anemone, so he returns to the pet store and asks the clerk if they have any for sale. The clerk tells him they do, but explains there is a far less expensive solution. The clerks says to go down to the flower shop and buy a fern, pull off a few of the fronds and arrange them in the tank. He says the clownfish really just wants to feel hidden and this will do the job for a fraction of the price. + + +So the gentleman follows the clerks advice, buys a fern, arranges the fronds in the corner of his tank and sure enough the clownfish swims right in and seems completely happy. + + +He steps back, satisfied with the solution and thinks to himself, ""With fronds like these, who needs anemones?""",0 +2174,"Bill pulled up a stool at his favorite bar and announced. “My wife Suzie must love me more than any woman has ever loved any man!” The bartender inquired. “What makes you say that?” Bill beamed with pride, “Last week, I had to take a couple of sick days from work..."". + +""Suzie was so thrilled to have me around, that every time a mail or delivery person came by, she’d run down the driveway waving her arms hollering, ‘My husband’s home! My husband’s home!’”",0 +2175,"A girl asks her boyfriend to come over Friday night and have dinner with her parents.. Since this is such a big event, the girl announces to her boyfriend that after dinner, she would like to go out and make love for the first time. + +The boy is ecstatic, but he has never had sex before, so he takes a trip to the pharmacist to get some condoms. The pharmacist helps the boy for about an hour. He tells the boy everything there is to know about condoms and sex. + + +That night, the boy shows up at the girl's parents house and meets his girlfriend at the door. ""Oh, I'm so excited for you to meet my parents, come on in!"" + + +The boy goes inside and is taken to the dinner table where the girl's parents are seated. The boy quickly offers to say grace and bows his head. + + +A minute passes, and the boy is still deep in prayer, with his head down. + + +10 minutes pass, and still no movement from the boy. + + +Finally, after 20 minutes with his head down, the girlfriend leans over and whispers to the boyfriend, ""I had no idea you were this religious."" + + +The boy turns, and whispers back, ""I had no idea your father was a pharmacist.""",0 +2176,North Koreans believe they live in the best country in the world because they’re brainwashed by their government and the media.. But I know that can't possibly be true. Because every American knows that America is the best country in the world.,0 +2177,"Because Nintendo's beloved character is Japanese, Mario is his LAST name. His first name?. Itsume.",0 +2178,"Girlfriend messaged me: ""helpmyspacebarbrokecanyoucomeoverandgivemeanalternative"". What does 'ternative' mean?",0 +2179,"Maybe Jesus didn't like your chocolate?. So aliens come to earth and they're Sooo nice. There's a huge televised event with all the world leaders in attendance. + +The Pope asks, ""Do you know of Jesus Christ?"" + +The aliens say, ""Do we Ever? Awesome guy!! Swings by the planet every couple of years to say Hi!"" + +The Pope exclaims, ""Every couple of years?? What!!?? We're still waiting for his second coming!"" + +The alien replies, ""Maybe he didn't like your chocolate?"" + +The Pope is flabbergasted, ""What does chocolate have to do with anything?"" + +The alien says, ""Well when he came the first time, we gave him a huge box of chocolates! Why? What did you guys give him? + + +*Edit thank you all for letting everyone know you saw this on YouTube or an internet cartoon 5-10 years ago. I read this first in the Readers Digest back in 1988 ish and I'm sure that if you picked up the 1847 microfiche of the London Times, you'd probably find it there as well. Actually, Jimmy Stamos was the first recorded individual to tell this joke back in January 1692. Unfortunately for him, he was put on trial the next month. He made so many people laugh, he was tried as a witch.* + +*2nd Edit: Many people messaging me saying that the joke couldn't have been from Jimmy Stamos in 1692 because they didn't have televised events. Here's the original translation* + +So aliens cometh to earth and those gents're sooo nice. Th're's In all the pap'rs nonce with all the w'rld leadeth'rs in attendance. + +the pope asks, ""do thee knoweth of jesus christ?"" + +the aliens sayeth, ""do we ev'r? most wondrous guy!! swings by the planet ev'ry couple of years to sayeth good morrow!"" + +the pope exclaims, ""ev'ry couple of years?? what!!?? we're still waiting f'r his second coming!"" + +the alien replies, ""maybe that gent didn't liketh thy chocolate?"" + +the pope is flabb'rgasted, ""what doest chocolate has't to doth with aught?"" + +the alien sayeth, ""well at which hour that gent cameth the first timeth, we gaveth that gent a huge boxeth of chocolates! wherefore? what didst thee guys giveth that gent? + +*edit thanketh thee all f'r letting ev'ryone knoweth thee did see this on youtube 'r an int'rnet cartoon 5-10 years ago. I readeth this first in the readeth'rs digest backeth in 1988 ish and i'm sure yond if 't be true thee pick'd up the 1847 microfiche of the london times, thee'd belike findeth t th're as well. Actually, jimmy stamos wast the first rec'rd'd individual to bid this gleek backeth in january 1692. Unf'rtunately f'r that gent, that gent wast putteth on trial the next month. That gent madeth so many people chuckle, that gent wast hath tried as a beldams* + +Edit 3: and apparently Jimmy Stamos had to edit his joke as well at the end.",0 +2180,"Putin, Zelensky and Biden are on board a plane.. Suddenly, the plane is losing altitude and they are about to crash. On board there are only two parachutes. + + +Immediately, Putin snatches a parachute and jumps out to save himself. + + +Biden takes the remaining parachute and gives it to Zelensky: ""Save yourself, my friend. I am much older than you. Plus, in this difficult time your country needs you more than my country needs me. You deserve to live more than me."" + + +Zelensky feels convinced, so grudgingly accepts to take the parachute, gives one last hug to Biden and jumps out of the plane. + + +Then the plane regains altitude and Biden safely lands in Washington, because it turns out what was downing the plane in the first place was the weight of Zelensky's massive balls.",0 +2181,"Upon Arriving Home, A Husband Was Met At The Door By His Sobbing Wife Tearfully she explained, ""It's the pharmacist. He insulted me terribly this morning on the phone."". + +Immediately the husband drove downtown to confront the pharmacist and demand an apology. Before he could say more than a few words, the druggist told him, + +""Now, just a minute, please listen to my side of it... +This morning the alarm failed to go off, so I was late getting up. I went without breakfast and hurried out to the car, just to realize that I locked the house with both house and car keys inside. I had to break a window to get my keys. Then, driving a little too fast, I got a speeding ticket. +Later, about three blocks from the store, I had a flat tire. When I got to the store there was a bunch of people waiting for me to open up. I opened and started waiting on these people, and all the time the darn phone was ringing off the hook."" + +He continued, ""Then I had to break a roll of nickels against the cash register drawer to make change, and they spilled all over the floor. I got down on my hands and knees to pick up the nickels; the phone was still ringing. When I came up I cracked my head on the open cash drawer, which made me stagger back against a showcase with bunch of perfume bottles on it...all of them hit the floor and broke. +Meanwhile, the phone is still ringing with no let up, and I finally got to answer it. + +It was your wife. She wanted to know how to use a rectal thermometer...and, honest mister, all I did was tell her!",0 +2182,"Do you mind if I sit beside you?” The girl replied with a loud voice, ""NO, I DON 'T WANT TO SPEND THE NIGHT WITH YOU!"" All the students in the library started staring at the guy; he was truly embarrassed.. + +After a couple of minutes, the girl walked quietly to the guy 's table and said, ""I study psychology, and I know what a man is thinking. I guess you felt embarrassed, right?” + +The guy then responded with a loud voice, “$500 FOR ONE NIGHT? THAT 'S WAY TOO MUCH!” + +All the people in the library looked at the girl in shock. + +The guy stood and whispered in her ear, ""I study law, and I know how to screw people.""",0 +2183,"This morning, my wife was in the kitchen preparing to boil eggs for breakfast. As I walked in, she turned to me and said, ""You've got to make love to me this very moment!"" My eyes lit up and I thought, ""This is my lucky day!"". + +Not wanting to lose the moment, I didn't waste any time at all, I gave her a banging right on the kitchen table! + +Afterwards she said, ""Thanks."" and returned to the stove. + +More than a little puzzled, I asked, ""What was that all about?"" + +She giggled, ""The egg timer's broken.""",0 +2184,"My teenage daughter came home from school and she was blazing mad.. “We had sex education today dad and you lied to me! You told me if I have sex before my 18th birthday, my boyfriend will die!” I put down my newspaper, looked at her and said… + +“Oh, he will, sweetheart, he will.”",0 +2185,"To teach kids about democracy, I let them vote on dinner. They just picked pizza.. I'm about to make tacos because they don't live in a swing state.",0 +2186,To whoever lost an iPhone 14 Pro Max outside the train station yesterday. Can you please stop calling my new phone?,0 +2187,"An infinite number of mathematicians walk into a bar. An infinite number of mathematicians walk into a bar + +The first mathematician orders a beer + +The second orders half a beer + +""I don't serve half-beers"" the bartender replies + +""Excuse me?"" Asks mathematician #2 + +""What kind of bar serves half-beers?"" The bartender remarks. ""That's ridiculous."" + +""Oh c'mon"" says mathematician #1 ""do you know how hard it is to collect an infinite number of us? Just play along"" + +""There are very strict laws on how I can serve drinks. I couldn't serve you half a beer even if I wanted to."" + +""But that's not a problem"" mathematician #3 chimes in ""at the end of the joke you serve us a whole number of beers. You see, when you take the sum of a continuously halving function-"" + +""I know how limits work"" interjects the bartender ""Oh, alright then. I didn't want to assume a bartender would be familiar with such advanced mathematics"" + +""Are you kidding me?"" The bartender replies, ""you learn limits in like, 9th grade! What kind of mathematician thinks limits are advanced mathematics?"" + +""HE'S ON TO US"" mathematician #1 screeches + +Simultaneously, every mathematician opens their mouth and out pours a cloud of multicolored mosquitoes. Each mathematician is bellowing insects of a different shade. The mosquitoes form into a singular, polychromatic swarm. ""FOOLS"" it booms in unison, ""I WILL INFECT EVERY BEING ON THIS PATHETIC PLANET WITH MALARIA"" + +The bartender stands fearless against the technicolor hoard. ""But wait"" he inturrupts, thinking fast, ""if you do that, politicians will use the catastrophe as an excuse to implement free healthcare. Think of how much that will hurt the taxpayers!"" + +The mosquitoes fall silent for a brief moment. ""My God, you're right. We didn't think about the economy! Very well, we will not attack this dimension. FOR THE TAXPAYERS!"" and with that, they vanish. + +A nearby barfly stumbles over to the bartender. ""How did you know that that would work?"" + +""It's simple really"" the bartender says. ""I saw that the vectors formed a gradient, and therefore must be conservative.""",0 +2188,"My daughter brought a friend from school and she said his great-great-great-great-grandfather was coming to pick him up later. I was impressed and asked: ""Does he know how his so many greats grandfather lived for so long?"" + +My daughter answered: ""It's because of my friend's stutter.""",0 +2189,"Six Supreme Court justices, floating face-down in a river. All 6 conservative members of the SCOTUS got stranded in the woods with only a giant suitcase and a couple of paddles. Then they came to a raging river- it was fast-moving, wide and rocky but only waist deep. They began to bicker over how to get across. Kavanaugh, Thomas, and Gorsuch said ""We are strong and manly- We shall march across these raging waters unafraid!"" + +Barrett, Alito and Roberts countered- ""God has given us this suitcase and paddles for a reason, it is clear He will guide us through these rocky waters."" The disagreement persisted for a while, and eventually Kavanaugh, Thomas, and Gorsuch got on the suitcase with the others, still trying to persuade the others to do it their way. 15 minutes later, all 6 were found dead, drowned in the river. + +​ + +What happened? They overturned the case during Row vs. Wade arguments.",0 +2190,I don’t understand people who commit violent crimes with guns. At least become a cop first so you get paid,0 +2191,"A lawyer, a priest, and an engineer meet each week for a game of golf.. One day, they get stuck behind the slowest group of players they had ever seen. They were hitting the balls all over the place, getting stuck in just about every trap and patch of rough, and missing just about every putt. + +Finally, the group gets frustrated and heads to the clubhouse to find the manager. + +""What's with that group of players? They're the worst I've ever seen! They're holding up the course!"" + +The manger looks sheepish. ""They're retired firefighters, they lost their eyesight running into a burning orphanage to save the children. They love golf, so I let them play for free for charity."" + +The priest looks ashamed of himself. ""As a man of God, I feel terrible for getting angry at those men. At my next sermon, I'll see if I can get a collection going for their families."" + +The lawyer likewise looks chagrined. ""Same here, I'll check with my firm and see if we can't open a case to get them awarded restitution for their pain and injuries."" + +The engineer says, ""why can't they play at night?""",0 +2192,A flashbang would be completely ineffective against Helen Keller.. Because she's dead.,0 +2193,"Went for a walk with my new girlfriend. and we saw dogs mating. + +She said: ""How does the male know when the female is ready for sex?"" + +I replied: ""He can smell she is ready . That's how nature works."" + +We then walked past a sheep field and the ram was mating the ewe. + +Again my girlfriend asked: ""How does the ram knew when the ewe is ready for sex?"" + +I replied: ""It's nature. He can smell she is ready."" + +We then went past a cow-field and the bull was mating with the cow. + +My girlfriend said: ""This is odd. They are really going at it. Surely the bull can't smell when she is ready?"" + +I said: ""Oh, yes; it's nature . All animals can smell when the female is ready for sex."" + +Anyway, after the walk, I dropped her home and kissed her goodbye. + +She said: ""Take care and get yourself checked out for Covid-19."" + +Surprised, ""Why do you say that?"" I asked her. + +She replied: ""You seem to have lost your sense of smell.""",0 +2194,"A dirty joke from the 1400s.... In Florence, a young woman, somewhat of a simpleton, was on the point of delivering a baby. She had long been enduring acute pain, and the midwife, candle in hand, inspected her secret area, in order to ascertain if the child was coming. “Look also on the other side,” said the poor creature, “my husband has sometimes taken that road.” + +From “The Facetiae Or Jocose Tales of Poggio”, a joke book published in the 1400’s by Poggio Bracciolini:",0 +2195,"The day after his wife disappeared in a kayaking accident, an Anchorage man answered his door to find two grim-faced Alaska State Troopers.. ""We're sorry Mr. Wilkens, but we have some information about your wife,"" said one trooper... + +""Tell me! Did you find her?"" Wilkens shouted. + +The troopers looked at each other. One said, ""We have some bad news, some good news, and some really great news. Which do you want to hear first?"" + +Fearing the worst, an ashen Mr. Wilkens said, ""Give me the bad news first."" + +The trooper said, ""I'm sorry to tell you, sir, but this morning we found your wife's body in Kachemak Bay."" + +""Oh my God!"" exclaimed Wilkens. Swallowing hard, he asked, ""What's the good news?"" + +The trooper continued, ""When we pulled her up, she had 12 twenty-five pound king crabs and 6 good-size Dungeness crabs clinging to her and we feel you are entitled to a share in the catch."" + +Stunned, Mr. Wilkens demanded, ""If that's the good news, what's the great news?"" + +The trooper said, ""We're going to pull her up again tomorrow.""",0 +2196,"What's the opposite of ""young, dumb, and full of cum""?. ""Old, smart, and can't trust a fart"".",0 +2197,What does Chris Rock have on his face right now?. Fresh prints!,0 +2198,"Two cannibals were eating Amy Schumer.. One says, 'Does this taste funny to you?' + +The other one goes, 'No'.",0 +2199,Why are the pyramids located in Egypt?. They were too big to transport to England.,0 +2200,"I saw my wife walk past me with her sexiest underwear on, which can only mean one thing.. Today is laundry day.",0 +2201,I've been clean for 47 days now.. It's weird showering everyday but at least I have the heroin to get through it.,0 +2202,"So I was looking up popular pornographic search terminology.... Turns out FFM, Bondage, and Watersports are a three way tie for #1.",0 +2203,"A little girl says to her mother: ""Mummy, when you were away at work a strange lady came around"".... ""Not now,"" says Mummy. ""Wait until Daddy gets home."" + +So they wait until Daddy gets home, and then Mummy says ""Now dear, what were you saying about Daddy and the strange lady?"" + +And Daddy starts to say something but Mummy says, ""You keep quiet - I'll be talking to my attorney in the morning. Carry on, dear."" + +""Well,"" says the little girl, ""Daddy told me to stay downstairs while they went upstairs, but I followed them without Daddy seeing me, and I saw them hugging and kissing at the top of the stairs. Then they went into your bedroom and shut the door, but I went up and looked through the keyhole."" + +""Clever girl,"" purrs Mummy. ""What could you see through the keyhole?"" + +""I saw them hugging and kissing some more, and then they started to take each other's clothes off, and they carried on until they had nothing on, and then the lady got on the bed and Daddy got on top of her."" + +""Yes?"" says Mummy. ""And then what happened?"" + +""Then they did what you and Uncle Jack did when Daddy was in Vancouver last year,"" says the little girl confidently.",0 +2204,"On a plane full of Redditors, a man starts having a heart attack.. A flight attendant notices, and quickly shouts: “We’re having an emergency! Is anyone on this plane a doctor?” + +Immediately, five people stand up and say +""I'm not a doctor, but...”",0 +2205,"A Christian, a Muslim, and a Witch all die and go to the afterlife.. A Christian, a Muslim, and a Witch of the Norse gods all die and go to the afterlife. + +They find that, waiting for them at the entrance to the afterlife is Anubis, waiting with a set of scales, with a feather on one side. + +Above Anubis is a sign, ""You wait with your heart, if less than feather-wait, you may enter paradise."" + +The Christian takes out his heart from his soul, and sets it on the scales. He stares at Anubis defiantly, ""I should pass, I made sure to do what FOX news told me every day."" They tip heavily to the side, and Anubis waves his hand. The Christian's soul disintegrates instantly. + +The Muslim takes out his heart from his soul, and sets it on the scales. He looks timidly at Anubis, ""I did my best to live a good life, I always gave to the poor..."" Although not as heavy as the Christian's heart, it was weighed down by life. Anubis sadly waved his hand, and the Muslim's soul disintegrated instantly. + +The Witch then looked at the scales, looked at the plaque, and checked her watch. About three minutes went by, and Anubis was getting annoyed at her taking too long, and started tapping his foot. She then looks at Anubis and asks, ""Has that feather been here long?"" + +Anubis nods, ""Yes, left by the god Maat, millennia ago."" + +She nods, ""And how long ago did we arrive here?"" + +Anubis thinks for a moment, ""Maybe six minutes?"" + +The witch smiles, and then strides confidently forward, and enters paradise. + +Anubis sighs, ""At least Witches know how to spell.""",0 +2206,"Guy has a tapeworm in his intestine and tries many doctors but everybody fails to remove.Finally he tries an alternative doctor whom everybody recommended heavily and visits him.. The doctor says: Come back tomorrow with two bananas and a Snickers bar. The patient is confused but does as he’s told. + +The next day he shows up with two bananas and a Snickers bar. The doctor proceeds to insert both bananas and the Snickers bar up the man’s ass. + +The doctor then says to him: Come back tomorrow with two bananas and a Snickers bar. The man is very confused but does as he’s told. + +The patient and the doctor repeat this process for 5 days. On the sixth day, the doctor tells the patient: Tomorrow bring two bananas but instead of a Snickers bar, bring a mallet. The patient is again confused but does as he’s told. + +The next day the doctor inserts both bananas up the guy’s butt and quickly grabs the mallet and waits. + +All of the sudden, the tapeworm pops out saying : Hey! Where’s my Snickers bar? + +WHAM!!!!",0 +2207,"A Canadian visits America and gets held at gunpoint by a stranger. The stranger says, ""give me all your money and I'll let you live!"" + +The Canadian replies gleefully, ""Oh! You must be what they call a doctor!""",0 +2208,My Gf says I can get anal on my cake day if this post reaches front page. Please upvote because I want to rearrange the whole house furnitures to make them perfectly symmetric from every angle,0 +2209,"A guy takes his wife out for the night and they end up at a disco where there’s a guy on the dance floor giving it large – break dancing, moonwalking, back flips, every dance move going. The wife turns to her husband and says.... “See that guy on the dance floor? 25 years ago he proposed to me and I turned him down.” + +The husband replies, “It looks like he’s still celebrating.”",0 +2210,"As an Aussie, Americans always ask me where in Australia *isn’t* there anything trying to kill me…. “School” I tell them.",0 +2211,"The wage gap isn't real.. Men simply focus on getting the higher paying jobs like scientist, doctor, engineer. Meanwhile, women tend to go towards the lower paying jobs, like female scientist, female doctor and female engineer.",0 +2212,Some jerk glued every card in my deck together so now its just a block of cardboard.. I'm having trouble dealing with it.,0 +2213,"As a butcher is shooing away a dog from his shop, he sees a $25 bill and a note in his mouth, reading: “10 pork chops, please.”. + +Amazed, he takes the money, puts a bag of pork chops in the dog’s mouth, and quickly closes the shop. + +He follows the dog and watches him wait for a green light, look both ways, and trot across the road to a bus stop. The dog checks the timetable and sits on the bench. When a bus arrives, he walks around to the front and looks at the number, then boards the bus. The butcher follows, dumbstruck. As the bus travels out into the suburbs, the dog takes in the scenery. After a while he stands on his back paws to push the “stop” bell, then the butcher follows him off. The dog runs up to a house and drops his bag on the step. He goes back down the path, takes a big run, and throws himself -WHAP!- against the door. He does this again and again. No answer. So he jumps on a wall, walks around the garden, beats his head against a window, jumps off, and waits at the front door. A big guy opens it and starts cursing and shouting at the dog. + +The butcher runs up and screams at the guy: “What in hell are you doing? This dog’s a genius!” The owner responds, “Genius, my ass… It’s the second time this week he’s forgotten his keys!”",0 +2214,"What's the difference between a cop and a bullet?. When a bullet kills someone, you know it's been fired.",0 +2215,"A teenager brings her new boyfriend home to meet her parents.. They're disgusted by his haircut, tattoos, and piercings. Later, when he leaves, the girl's mom says, ""Dear, he doesn't seem to be a very nice boy."" + +""Oh, please, mom!"" says the daughter. ""If he wasn't nice, why would he be doing 500 hours of community service?""",0 +2216,"An Australian, an Irishman and a Scouser are in a bar.. They're staring at another man sitting on his own at a table in the corner. +He's so familiar, and not recognizing him is driving them mad. +They stare and stare, until suddenly the Irishman twigs: 'My God, it's Jesus!' +Sure enough, it is Jesus, nursing a pint. +Thrilled, they send him over a pint of Guinness, a pint of Fosters and a pint of bitter. +Jesus accepts the drinks, smiles over at the three men, and drinks the pints slowly, one after another. +After he's finished the drinks, Jesus approaches the trio. +He reaches for the hand of the Irishman and shakes it, thanking him for the Guinness. +When he lets go, the Irishman gives a cry of amazement: 'My God! The arthritis I've had for 30 years is gone. It's a miracle!' +Jesus then shakes the Aussie's hand, thanking him for the lager. +As he lets go, the man's eyes widen in shock. +'Strewth mate, the bad back I've had all my life is completely gone! It's A Miracle.' +Jesus then approaches the Scouser who says, + +'Back off, mate, I'm on disability benefit.",0 +2217,"Two 70 year old men, Mike and Joe, have been friends all of their lives.. When it's clear that Joe is dying, Mike visits him every day. + +One day Mike says, ""Joe, we both loved football all our lives, and we played football on Saturdays together for so many years. Please do me one favour, when you get to Heaven, somehow you must let me know if there's football there."" Joe looks up at Mike from his death bed,"" Mike, you've been my best friend for many years. If it's at all possible, I'll do this favour for you. Shortly after that, Joe sadly passes on. + +At midnight a couple of nights later, Mike is awakened from a sound sleep by a blinding flash of white light and a voice calling out to him. + +“Mike… Mike!” + +""Who is it?” + +""it's me, Joe."" + +""Joe! Where are you?"" + +""In heaven"", replies Joe. ""I have some really good news and a little bad news."" + +""Tell me the good news first,"" says Mike. + +""The good news,"" Joe says,"" is that there's football in heaven. Better yet, all of our old friends who died before us are here, too. Better than that, we're all young again. Better still, it's always spring time and it never rains or snows. Our wives are there too, and young and pretty as ever! And best of all, we can play football all we want, and we never get tired!!"" + +That's fantastic,"" says Mike. ""It's beyond my wildest dreams! So what's the bad news?” + +""You're in the team for this Saturday"".",0 +2218,"Two factory workers are talking among themselves.. The woman says, ""I can make the boss give me the day off."" + +The man replies, ""And how would you do that?"" + +To which the woman answers, ""Just wait and watch."" +She hangs herself upside down from the ceiling. + +The boss comes in, takes a look at her and asks, ""What are you doing?"" + +The woman replies, ""I am a light bulb."" + +The boss then says, ""You have been working so much, that you have gone crazy. I think you need to take the day off."" + +As the woman leaves, the man starts to follow her. The boss stops him, saying, ""Where are you going?"" + +The man answers, ""I am going home too. I can't work in the dark.""",0 +2219,"A woman is flirting with a Russian man at a bar(a joke). She says, + + +""Hi, handsome, what do you do for a living?"" + + +The Russian replies, + + +""I work for KGB."" + + +""Cool, tell me an interesting story!"" + + +""About me or about you?""",0 +2220,"If you lose one sense, your other senses are enhanced.. This is why people with no sense of humour, have a heightened sense of self-importance.",0 +2221,"Men are very sensitive... Some construction workers are working on a high building early in the morning. + +Sadly, Steve slips off a ledge, spirals down to the ground and is critically injured. + +They attempt to save him with CPR, but there is a large hole in his skull that the blood keeps squirting out of, and he dies. + +Bill says 'Someone needs to tell Steve's wife'. Joey says 'I'll do it, I'm very sensitive'. + +Joey goes off, then a few hours later comes back with two cases of beer. + +Bill asks 'Where did you get the beer?' + +Joey says 'Steve's wife gave it to me'. + +Bill says 'You told her Steve was dead and she gave you beer?' + +'Not exactly. When she answered the door I said ""You must be Steve's widow', she said 'I'm not a widow"" and I said ""I bet you two cases of beer you are"".' + +​ + +(Read this joke a few years ago on the internet and remembered it, I didn't make it up).",0 +2222,"After my accident, I woke up in hospital with a sexy nurse standing over me She said “You may not feel anything from the waist down.”. +“Fair enough,” I replied, and felt her breasts.",0 +2223,I gave a homeless man $5 and an old lady behind me told me he’s just going to spend it on drugs. So I went up to him and asked where I could also get drugs for $5,0 +2224,"How to determine the gender of your cat ?. pour some milk in a bowl and place it next to the cat, if she drinks it, your cat is a female, but if he drinks it, the cat is a male",0 +2225,I have this recurring nightmare where not only am I forced to become Vegan. I'm then stranded alone on a desert island and there's nobody to tell.,0 +2226,"Two countries go to war.... Ones president is a comedian, and the other is a joke.",0 +2227,"Jewish friend sent this to me. A jewish guy sends his son to Israel, and he comes back home christian. The man thinks this is odd so he tells his friend about it. + +The friend listens, thinks for a moment and says, ""That's odd. I sent my son to Israel when he was Jewish and he returned as a Christian."" So the two of them went to see the Rabbi. + +They told the Rabbi the story of how they had both sent their sons to Israel as Jews, and how both sons had returned as Christians. The Rabbi listened, thought for a minute and then said ""That's odd. I also sent my son to Israel as a Jew and he returned as a Christian."" + +So the three of them decide to go to Israel to find out what's going on over there. The arrive and go straight to the Western Wall to pray. They explain to God all about how they sent their sons to Israel as Jews and how the all returned as Christians."" + +There is a long silence, and then God begins to speak saying, ""That's odd . . .""",0 +2228,A gorilla visits a pub and orders a pint of beer. 'That'll be £7.00' says the barman. The gorilla pays and the barman says 'We don't get many gorillas in the pub' the gorilla replies ' I'm not surprised at these prices',0 +2229,"'Bless me Father, for I have sinned. I have been with a loose girl.'. The priest asks, 'Is that you, little Joey Pagano?' 'Yes, Father, it is.' 'And who was the girl you were with?' 'I can't tell you, Father, I don't want to ruin her reputation.' ""Well, Joey, I'm sure to find out her name sooner or later so you may as well tell me now. Was it Tina Minetti?"" 'I cannot say.' 'Was it Teresa Mazzarelli?' 'I'll never tell.' 'Was it Nina Capelli?' 'I'm sorry, but I cannot name her.' 'Was it Cathy Piriano?' 'My lips are sealed Father.' 'Well then, was it Rosa DiAngelo?' 'Please, Father, I cannot tell you.' + +The priest sighs in frustration. 'You're very tight lipped, and I admire that. But you've sinned and have to atone. You cannot be an altar boy now for 4 months. Now you go and behave yourself.' Joey walks back to his pew, and his friend Franco slides over and whispers, 'What'd you get?' 'Four month's vacation and five excellent Leads.' + +Edit, thank you for the awards and people indicating they enjoyed it. This sub has made me laugh remix that I thought I would try and do the same for others.",0 +2230,"A guy was playing golf one day and he got lost. He saw a lady up ahead of him and went to her and said, ""Can you please help me, I don't know what Hole I'm on."" + +She told him ""You are one hole behind me. I'm on 7; you're on 6."" + +He thanked her and continued playing golf. + +Later, he got lost again. + +He saw the same lady and went to her again kind of embarrassed. + +""I'm sorry to bother you again but I'm lost; can you please tell me what hole I'm on."" + +She told him, ""You are one hole behind me. I'm on 14; you are on 13."" + +Again, he thanked her and continued playing golf. + +When he finished he saw her in the clubhouse. + +He went up to her and asked if he could buy her a drink for helping him out. + +She accepted. + +As they were drinking and talking, he asked her what she did for a living. + +""I'm in sales,"" she said. + +He replied, ""No kidding; so am I."" + +""What do you sell?"" + +She responded that it was too embarrassing to tell; but after he kept pleading to know what she sold, she finally said that she would tell him if he promised not to laugh. + +He promised. + +She said, ""I sell sanitary napkins."" + +He immediately fell to the floor laughing hysterically. + +She said, ""You promised you wouldn't laugh"". + +He replied (still with tears in his eyes), ""I'm sorry, but I couldn't help it. I sell toilet paper..... I'm still one Hole behind you."" ",0 +2231,"George raises his beer mug in the air and says, ""Here's to spending the rest of my life having sex with my wife!"" The bar is filled with whistles and claps, and the bartender even gives him a ribbon that says, ""Best Toast of the Month"".. +When George gets home, he shows his wife, Linda, the ribbon. ""And what exactly was your award-winning toast?"" she asks. + +George thinks for a while and says, ""Here's to spending the rest of my life going to church with my wife."" + +The next day when George is at work, Linda is walking down the street when she runs into Ted, one of George's drinking buddies. ""Your husband sure gave an awesome toast last night!"" says Ted. + +""I know!"" replies Linda, ""and he told me about it! It kind of surprised me because almost every time he goes down there, he falls asleep. A few weeks ago I had to pull him by the ear to get him to come.""",0 +2232,"Fishing or Sex?. Four married guys go fishing. After an hour, the following conversation took place. + +The first guy says: + +""You have no idea what I had to do to be able to come out fishing this weekend. I had to promise my wife that I will paint every room in the house next weekend."" + +The second guy says: + +""That's nothing; I had to promise my wife that I will build her a new deck for the pool."" + +The third guy says: + +""Man, you both have it easy! I had to promise my wife that I will remodel the kitchen for her."" + +They continue to fish when realized that the fourth guy has not said a word. + +So, they asked him: + +""What you had to do to be able to come fishing? What's the deal?"" + +The fourth guy says: + +""Nothing. I just set my alarm for 5:30 am. When it went off, I shut off my alarm, gave the wife a nudge, and said, ‘Fishing or Sex’ and she said, + +‘Don't forget to wear a sweater.'",0 +2233,"Tea is an evil substance. It is much more dangerous than beer.. I discovered this last night. I drank 15 beers up until 3 am in the pub while my wife was just at home drinking tea. + +You should have seen how mad and violent she was when I got home. She threw the chair at me and kept screaming at the top of her lungs. On the other hand, I was quiet and peaceful and silently made my way to bed. But she kept cursing and shouting through the night and well into the next morning. + +Please friends, if you can’t handle your tea, you should not be drinking it. Please avoid drinking tea.",0 +2234,Communism jokes aren't funny.. Unless everyone gets them.,0 +2235,What's the difference between Putin and Hitler?. Hitler knew when to kill himself,0 +2236,"I was in a new IT themed restaurant the other day.... When I walked in I could see the place decorated like the inside of a computer. The tables looked like motherboards, the placemats looked like keyboards, and the glasses looked like giant USB sticks. The host was there to greet me and he was dressed in the usual ""nerd"" attire - glasses, pocket protector, etc. But something seemed off. He seemed really, really sad. I shrugged it off as he showed me to my table. + +When I get to my table a waitress in glasses brings me a menu to look at. She hardly says anything to me. She actually seems even *more* depressed than the first guy! + +After perusing the ""main menu"" I decide to have the fish and microchips. A waiter comes back to take my order. He's barely listening to me. He sobs as she writes down my order, then storms away in tears. What was that all about? + +Anyway 25 minutes goes by and no food arrives. 45 minutes goes by and no food arrives. An HOUR goes by and there's no food nor a waiter in sight. Finally the manager walk by me and I grab is arm for answers. + +""Hey, man! What the hell is going on? I've been waiting here an hour already! Where the hell is my food and why are all your staff so upset?!"" + +The manager replies, ""I'm so very sorry, sir. All of our servers are down."" + + +... + + +Disclaimer: I know virtually nothing about computer hardware, etc. so I have no idea what a lot of your suggestions even mean. Lol But glad most of you guys liked the joke.",0 +2237,"Amber Heard's net worth is $2.5 million and she now has to pay Johnny Depp $15 million.... Yeah, she's forever going to be in Depp!",0 +2238,"A woman arrived at a party. While scanning the guests there, she spotted an attractive man standing alone.. So she approached him, smiled and said politely, ""Hello, my name is Carmen."" + +""That's a beautiful name"", he replied, ""Is it a family name?"" + +""No"", she replied, ""As a matter of fact, I gave it to myself. It represents the things that I enjoy the most - cars and men. Therefore, I choose Carmen."" + +After a pause, she asks the man, ""What's your name?"" + +The man answers, ""B. J. Titsengolf.""",0 +2239,"The Hospital. A sweet old lady telephoned the hospital. + +She timidly asked, ""Is it possible to speak to someone who can tell me how a patient is doing?"" + +The operator said, ""I can, what's the name and room number?"" + +The old laday in her weak voice said, ""Doreen Jacobs, Room 604."" + +The operator replied, ""Let me place you on hold while I check with her nurse."" + +After a few minutes the operator returned to the phone and said, ""Oh, I have good news, her nurse just told me that Doreen is doing very well. Her blood pressure is fine; her blood work just came back as normal and her physician, Dr. Ross, has scheduled her to be discharged on Tuesday."" + +The old lady said, ""Thank you. That's wonderful! I was so worried! God bless you!"" + +The operator replied, ""You're more than welcome. Is Doreen your daughter?"" + +The grandmother said, ""No, I'm Doreen Jacobs in room 604. No one tells me shit.”",0 +2240,"What is the difference between a Prostitute, a Mistress, and a Wife?. +The Prostitute says, “Are you finished yet?” + + +The Mistress says, “You're not done already, are you?” + + +The Wife says, “Beige… I think I’ll paint the ceiling Beige.”",0 +2241,"I was on a train and this woman opposite looked at me and said, ""Everytime you smile, I feel like inviting you to my place...."". I asked, ""Are you single?"" + +She replied, ""No, I am a dentist.""",0 +2242,Why do trans women go by she/her?. Because if they went by her/she they'd be chocolate,0 +2243,My dad said people shouldn’t get ribbons just for participating because it rewards them for losing.. So I took down his Confederate flag.,0 +2244,"When I visited Australia, the immigration officer asked me if I had a criminal record…. Confused, I replied, “Oh, is that still required?”",0 +2245,"A woman decides to have a face lift for her 50th birthday. She spends $15,000 and looks sensational. On her way home, she stops at a news stand to buy a newspaper. Before leaving, she says to the clerk, ‘I hope you don’t mind my asking, but how old do you think I am?”.. ’About 32,’ is the reply.’ + +‘Nope! I’m exactly 50,’ the woman says happily. + +A little while later she goes into McDonald’s and asks the counter girl the very same question. + +The girl replies, ‘I’d guess about 29.’ The woman replies with a big smile, ‘Nope, I’m 50.’ + +Now she’s feeling really good about herself. She stops at a candy shop on her way down the street. + +She goes up to the counter to get some mints and asks the assistant the same burning question. + +The clerk responds, ‘Oh, I’d say 30.’ + +Again she proudly responds, ‘I’m 50, but thank you!’ + +While waiting for the bus to go home, she asks an old man waiting next to her the same question. + +He replies, ‘Lady, I’m 78 and my eyesight is going. Although, when I was young there was a sure-fire way to tell how old a woman was. It sounds very forward, but it requires you to let me put my hands under your bra Then, and only then I can tell you EXACTLY how old you are.’ + +They wait in silence on the empty street until her curiosity gets the better of her. She finally blurts out, ‘What the hell, go ahead.’ + +He slips both of his hands under her blouse and begins to feel around very slowly and carefully. He bounces and weighs each breast and he gently pinches each nipple. He pushes her breasts together and rubs them against each other. + +After a couple of minutes of this, she says, ‘Okay, okay.....How old am I?’ + +He completes one last squeeze of her breasts, removes his hands, and says, ‘Madam, you are 50.’ + +Stunned and amazed, the woman says, ‘That was incredible, how could you tell?’ + + ‘I was behind you at McDonalds’. ",0 +2246,"A little girl is playing with Barbie and Thor.. A little girl is playing with Barbie and Thor. An older woman approaches her and asks +""I thought that Barbie came with Ken, not Thor?"" + +The little girl replies + +""Nope. She comes with Thor. She just fakes it with Ken""",0 +2247,"War. + +A Dutchman in Amsterdam felt that he needed to confess, so he went to his Priest. + +“Forgive me Father, for I have sinned. During WWII, I hid a Jewish man in my attic.” + +“Well,” answered the Priest, “That's not a sin.” + +“But I made him pay me 20 gulden for each week he stayed.” The Dutchman said. + +The Priest replied, “I admit that wasn't good, but you did it for a good cause.” + + The Dutchman exclaimed “Oh thank you Father; that eases my mind. Father, I have one more question.” + +“What is it son?” ask the priest. + +The Dutchman whispered “Do I have to tell him the war is over?”",0 +2248,"An old, blind Marine wanders into an all-girl biker bar by mistake.. +He finds his way to a bar stool and orders a shot of Jack Daniels. +After sitting there for a while, he yells to the bartender, 'Hey, you wanna hear a blonde joke?' +The bar immediately falls absolutely silent. +In a very deep, husky voice, the woman next to him says, +'Before you tell that joke I think it is only fair, given that you are blind, that you should know five things: + +1. The bartender is a blonde girl with a baseball bat. + +2. The bouncer is a blonde girl. + +3. I'm a 6-foot tall, 175-pound blonde woman with a black belt in karate. + +4. The woman sitting next to me is blonde and a professional weight lifter. + +5. The lady to your right is blonde and a professional wrestler. + +Now, think about it seriously, do you still wanna tell that blonde joke?' + +The blind Marine thinks for a second, shakes his head and mutters, 'No...not if I'm gonna have to explain it five times.'",0 +2249,"A soviet joke about censorship that I found in my school book. An American tells a Russian that people in USA have the freedom of speech and that he even could go to the White House and shout:""Go to hell, Ronald Reagan!"" + +The russian answers:""Oh, we also have freedom of speech. I, too, can go to Kremlin and shout:"" Go to hell, Ronald Reagan!""",0 +2250,My last girlfriend said I was unnecessarily mysterious.. Or did she?,0 +2251,"A blonde got caught in a blizzard… It was snowing heavily and blowing to the point that visibility was almost zero when the little blonde got off work. She made her way to her car and wondered how she was going to make it home.. She sat in her car while it warmed up and thought about her situation. She finally remembered her dad's advice that if she got caught in a blizzard she should wait for a snow plow to come by and follow it. That way she would not get stuck in the snow drift. This made her feel much better and sure enough in a little while a snow plow went by and she started to follow it. As she followed the snow plow she was feeling very smug as they continued and she was not having any problem with the blizzard conditions. After quite some time had passed she was somewhat surprised when the snow plow stopped and the driver got out and came back to her car and signaled for her to roll down her window. The snow plow driver wanted to know if she was all right as she had been following him for a long time. She said that she was fine and told him of her dad's advice to follow a snow plow when caught in a blizzard. + +The driver replied that it was okay with him and she could continue following if she wanted but he was done with the Walmart parking lot and was going over to the K-mart next.",0 +2252,"An atheist dies and goes to hell. The devil welcomes him and says:""Let me show you around a little bit."" They walk through a nice park with green trees and the devil shows him a huge palace. ""This is your house now, here are your keys."" The man is happy and thanks the devil. The devil says:""No need to say thank you, everyone gets a nice place to live in when they come down here!"" + +​ + +They continue walking through the nice park, flowers everywhere, and the devil shows the atheist a garage full of beautiful cars. ""These are your cars now!"" and hands the man all the car keys. Again, the atheist tries to thank the devil, but he only says ""Everyone down here gets some cool cars! How would you drive around without having cars?"". + +​ + +They walk on and the area gets even nicer. There are birds chirping, squirrels running around, kittens everywhere. They arrive at a fountain, where the most beautiful woman the atheist has ever seen sits on a bench. She looks at him and they instantly fall in love with each other. The man couldn´t be any happier. The devil says ""Everyone gets to have their soulmate down here, we don´t want anyone to be lonely!"" + +​ + +As they walk on, the atheist notices a high fence. He peeks to the other side and is totally shocked. There are people in pools of lava, screaming in pain, while little devils run around and stab them with their tridents. Other devils are skinning people alive, heads are spiked, and many more terrible things are happening. A stench of sulfur is in the air. + +​ + +Terrified, the man stumbles backwards, and asks the devil ""What is going on there?"" The devil just shrugs and says: ""Those are the christians, I don´t know why, but they prefer it that way""",0 +2253,"Honey, I just bought these special olympic style condoms!. Husband- ""Honey, I just bought these special olympic style condoms!"" + +Wife- ""Olympic style condoms, what makes them so speical?"" + +Husband- ""They come in 3 colors, Gold, Silver and Bronze."" + +Wife- ""Oo, sweet. What color are you gonna wear tonight?"" + +Husband- ""Gold ofc!"" + +Wife- ""Why don't you wear silver, It would be nice If you came second for a change.""",0 +2254,I threw my wife a suprise bukkake party. Everyone came. You should have seen her face.,0 +2255,"A French woman and a Spanish man had recently gotten married and moved to Spain.. The woman could not speak Spanish so whenever she wanted to buy chicken legs, she would raise her skirt a little and show her thighs which the seller understood. +One day, she wanted to buy bananas so she brought her husband with him. + + + + + +As her husband could speak Spanish.",0 +2256,"If I won $1.28B, I’d give a quarter of it to charity.. Not sure what I’d do with the other $1,279,999,999.75 though.",0 +2257,"A KGB agent goes to a library and sees an old Jewish man reading a book.. “What are you reading, old man?” he asks. + +“I’m learning Hebrew, comrade,” replies the old Jew. + +The KGB agent asks, “What are you learning Hebrew for? You know it takes years to get a permission to travel to Israel? You will die before you get one.” + +“I’m learning Hebrew for when I go to heaven so I can speak with Moses and Abraham,” replies the old man. + +“How do you know you’re going to heaven? What if you go to hell?” asks the KGB agent. + +“I already speak Russian.""",0 +2258,"My wife was very disappointed when I told her that I got ""I love you"" tattooed on my penis.. + +She just shook her head and said, ""There you go again, always trying to put words in my mouth.""",0 +2259,"She kept staring at my lips the whole time, so I kissed her.. So long story short I'm learning sign language now.",0 +2260,"Two guys, one old timer and one in his mid 20's, are pushing their carts around Lowe's when they collide.. The old timer says to the young guy, ""Sorry about that. I'm looking for my wife, and I guess I wasn't paying attention to where I was going."" + +The young guy says, ""That's a funny coincidence. I'm looking for my wife, too. I can't find her and I'm getting a little desperate."" + +The old guy says, ""Well, maybe we can help each other. What does your wife look like?"" + +The young guy says, ""Well, she is 24 yrs old, tall, with blonde hair, big blue eyes, long legs, big boobs, and she's wearing tight white shorts, a halter top and no bra. What does your wife look like?"" + +The old timer says, ""Doesn't matter--let's look for yours.""",0 +2261,The CEO of IKEA has just been appointed as the Prime Minister of Sweden.. He's currently assembling his cabinet.,0 +2262,"On the first day, God created the dog.... God said, “Sit all day by the door of your house and bark at anyone who comes in or walks past. For this, I will give you a life span of 20 years.” + + +The dog said, “That’s a long time to be barking. How about only 10 years and I’ll give you back the other 10?"" + + +So God agreed. + + +On the second day, God created the monkey and said, “Entertain people, do tricks, and make them laugh. For this, I’ll give you a 20-year life span.” + + +The monkey said, “Monkey tricks for 20 years? That’s a pretty long time to perform. How about I give you back 10 like the dog did?” + + +And God agreed. + + +On the third day, God created the cow and said, “You must go into the field with the farmer all day long and suffer under the sun, have calves and give milk to support the farmer’s family. For this, I will give you a life span of 60 years.” + + +The cow said, “That’s kind of a tough life you want me to live for 60 years. How about 20 and I’ll give back the other 40?” + + +And God agreed again. + + +On the fourth day, God created humans and said, “Eat, sleep, play, marry and enjoy your life. For this, I’ll give you 20 years.” + + +But the human said, “Only 20 years? Could you possibly give me my 20, the 40 the cow gave back, the 10 the monkey gave back, and the 10 the dog gave back? That makes 80, okay?” + + +“Okay,” said God. “You asked for it.” + + +So that is why for our first 20 years, we eat, sleep, play and enjoy ourselves. For the next 40 years, we slave in the sun to support our family. For the next 10 years, we do monkey tricks to entertain the grandchildren. And for the last 10 years, we sit on the front porch and bark at everyone.",0 +2263,"I can't stand homeless people. Every time I leave work, one of them approaches me and shakes his can full of coins just to show off how he has more money than me.",0 +2264,"The police came to my house tonight holding a picture of my wife.. They said, ""Is this your wife, sir?"" Shocked, I answered, ""Yes."" + +They said, ""I'm afraid it looks like she's been hit by a bus."" + +I said, ""I know, but she has a lovely personality.""",0 +2265,"A mailman notices a mailbox with the flag up. So, he opens the box and picks up a letter. He glances at it briefly to make sure it is stamped, and then puts it in his bag with his other letters. When he gets back to his office, the letter goes in a big bin with all of the other out-going mail. He thinks nothing of it, and finishes his day. + +A few days later, he delivers the exact same letter to the same house that he picked it up from. He glances at the mailing address and observes that it is indeed the same as the return address. Anyone can make a mistake, so the mailman puts the letter in the mailbox so that the customer can readdress it for its proper recipient. He thinks nothing of it and finishes his day. + +The next day, the mailman sees the same mailbox with the flag up. He opens the box and again sees the same letter, nothing changed, but with a new stamp on it. The mailman is perplexed, and thinking to save the customer both time and money, decides to ring the doorbell and inquire about the letter. + +Ding-dong, ding-dong. Ding-dong, ding-dong. Ding-dong, Ding-dong. + +The door opens and standing there is a stout Buddhist monk, dressed in traditional garb. + +“Pardon me, sir,” the mailman says, “but you seem to be trying to mail this letter again, and without any changes to the address, it’s only going to end up back at your home in a few days.” + +“Ah, my letter. Thank you so much for mailing it the other day, it was greatly appreciated. Please do so again” replies the Buddhist monk. + +“But sir,” says mailman, “you will only waste a stamp, and this letter will be re-delivered to your home a few days from now.” + +“But that is my intention, dear man,” replies the Buddhist monk. “You see, it is my cake day, and reposting is the best way to get karma.”",0 +2266,"A fifteen-year-old Amish boy and his father were in a mall.. They were amazed by almost everything they saw, but especially by two shiny, silver walls that could move apart and then slide back together again. + +The boy asked, ""What is this Father?"" + +The father (never having seen an elevator) responded, ""Son, I have never seen anything like this in my life, I don""t know what it is."" + +While the boy and his father were watching with amazement, a fat old lady in a wheelchair moved up to the moving walls and pressed a button. The walls opened, and the lady rolled between them into a small room. + +The walls closed, and the boy and his father watched the small numbers above the walls light up sequentially. + +They continued to watch until it reached the last number, and then the numbers began to light in the reverse order. + +Finally, the walls opened up again and a gorgeous 24-year-old blonde stepped out. + +The father, not taking his eyes off the young woman, said quietly to his son... + +""Go get your Mother.""",0 +2267,"My Husband died. (One for the Ladies.). After He died, I couldn't even look at another Man for almost 20 years. + +But now that I'm out of Prison, I can honestly say it was worth it.",0 +2268,"An Englishman, a Frenchman, a ravishing blonde and an old lady are sharing a train car on a train as it winds its way through the Alps.. Every now and then the train passes through a tunnel, during which time the compartment is plunged into complete darkness. + +On one such occasion, a ringing slap is heard and as the train passes back into daylight, the Frenchman is rubbing his sore, red cheek. + +The old lady thought, “I bet that dirty Frenchman fondled the blonde and she struck the pervert.” + +The blonde thought, “I bet that filthy Frenchman was looking to grope me in the dark, mistook the old lady for me and she slapped him.” + +The Frenchman thought, “I bet that perfidious Englishman touched up the blonde in the dark and she slapped me by mistake.” + +The Englishman thought, “I can’t wait for another tunnel so I can slap that French twat again.”",0 +2269,"A car full of Irish nuns is sitting at a traffic light in downtown Dublin, when a bunch of rowdy drunks pull up alongside of them.. ""Hey, show us yer tits, ya bloody penguins !"" shouts one of the drunks. +Quite shocked, Mother Superior turns to Sister Mary Immaculata and says, ""I don't think they know who we are. Show them your cross."" + +Sister Mary Immaculata rolls down her window and shouts, ""Piss off, ya fookin' little wankers, before I come over there and rip yer balls off !"" + +Sister Mary Immaculata then rolls up her window, looks back at Mother Superior, quite innocently, and asks, ""Did that sound cross enough ?""",0 +2270,"A blond cop pulls over a blond and asks for identification.. The blond asks, “What’s that?” + +The blond cop replies, “It’s the thing in your purse with your picture on it.” + +The blond reaches into her purse, pulls out her compact mirror, and hands it over. + +The blond cop opens it, takes a look, and says, “I’m sorry mam. If I knew you were an officer, I wouldn’t have pulled you over.”",0 +2271,"Every day in Moscow, people buy newspaper, glance at front page, throw straight in trash.. Every day, same. People buy newspaper, look front, throw in trash. + +Newspaper seller ask one day, ""Why you do that? Why you not read inside newspaper?"" + +Man respond, ""I check obituary"" + +""But obituary not on front page. Is on back page"" + +""Putin obituary be on front page""",0 +2272,How do you know Will Smith’s slap wasn’t staged?. His son wasn’t cast in it.,0 +2273,"A doctor gets a phone call from a colleague while having dinner home with his wife. ""We need a 4th for poker"" + +""I'll be right over"" says the doctor. + +""Is it serious?"" His wife asks when she notices him quickly putting on his coat. + +""Oh yes.. there are 3 other doctors there already.""",0 +2274,President Biden has called for full legalization of marijuana. Now it is up to Congress to hold a joint session.,0 +2275,"Two Jewish guys are walking...... when one notices a sign on a Catholic church that says ""Convert to Christianity, and we'll give you $100."" + +The one says to the other, ""should we do it??"" The other says ""NO!! Are you crazy?"" The first guy replies ""Hey, a hundred dollars is a hundred dollars... I'm gonna do it."" So he walks in to the church, and little while later, he walks back out. The friend says ""well, did you get the money?"" He replies ""Oh that's all you people think about, isn't it??""",0 +2276,"A priest goes to the barber for a haircut.. When it’s done, he asks the barber how much he owes. + +“All free, friend. I consider it a service to God”. + +The next morning when the barber goes to work, he sees a bunch of flowers and a Bible in the doorstep. The flowers come with a thank you card from the priest. + +Presently, a policeman enters, wanting a trim. When the barber is finished, the policeman asks how much he owes. + +“No charge, friend. I consider this a service to the Lord above”. + +The next day when the barber turns up to work, there’s a box of donuts and a thank you card on the doorstep. + +In the afternoon, a senator comes in for a haircut. When the barber is finished, he tells the surprised but pleased senator that there is no charge, as he considers it a service to God. + +When the barber goes to work the next day, there’s a line of senators waiting in a long line for haircuts.",0 +2277,"A boy excitedly reports to his miserly father.... ""Papa!"" the boy exclaims. ""Instead of buying a bus ticket, I ran home behind the bus and saved a dollar!"" + +The father immediately slaps the child. ""Spendthrift!"" he screams. ""You could have run home behind a taxi and saved twenty!""",0 +2278,How many Russians does it take to capture Kyiv?. Its ok. Putin doesn't know either.,0 +2279,"My wife and kids are leaving me because they say I’m obsessed with Horse Racing.. +I'm looking out the window at them now........... and they're off.....",0 +2280,"An 85-year-old man was requested by his doctor for a sperm count as part of his physical exam.. An 85-year-old man was requested by his doctor for a sperm count as part of his physical exam. + +The doctor gave the man a jar and said, ""Take this jar home and bring back a semen sample tomorrow."" + +The next day the 85-year-old man reappeared at the doctor's office and gave him the jar, which was as clean and empty as on the previous day. + +The doctor asked, what happened and the man explained. + +""Well, doc, it's like this--first I tried with my right hand, but nothing. Then I tried with my left hand, but still nothing. Then I asked my wife for help. She tried with her right hand, then with her left, still nothing. She tried with her mouth, first with the teeth in, then with her teeth out, still nothing. We even called up Arleen, the lady next door and she tried too, first with both hands, then an armpit, and she even tried squeezin' it between her knees, but still nothing."" + +The doctor was shocked! ""You asked your neighbor?"" + +The old man replied, ""Yep, none of us could get the jar open.""",0 +2281,"Joke from my 8 year old daughter for Halloween.. Why didn’t the ghost like to take showers? + + + +Because it would dampen his spirits.",0 +2282,My nerdy friend just got a PhD on the history of palindromes.. We now call him Dr. Awkward.,0 +2283,"Me: The earth isn’t flat!. fiat earther: correct + +me: huh? + +fiat earther: it’s the shape of an Italian car + +me: what? + +fiat earther: you read my name wrong didn’t you?",0 +2284,"Misunderstanding. An old man with hearing problems crashed his car into a very expensive automobile. The owner of the expensive automobile jumps out and confronts the old man and says “Give me $10,000 cash or I will beat you to a pulp!” The old man replies, “Woah wait buddy, I don’t have that much money but let me call my son, he trains dolphins.” The old man dials his son as as he is about to speak the owner of the expensive car yanks the phone out of his hand and says “So you train dolphins, well your old man just hit and damaged my car, you bring me $10,000 or I’m gonna beat the heck outta him!” The son answers “Okay, give me 15 minutes and I’ll be there.” In exactly 15 minutes the son pulls up in a Jeep, Ten men jump out and beat the hell out of the expensive car owner. Meanwhile the son walks over to his father and says “Dad I train Navy Seals not dolphins.",0 +2285,"Uvalde citizen gets pulled over. + +A very cute blonde was pulled over for speeding by an Uvalde motorcycle officer. When he walked up to her window and opened his ticket book, she said, ""I bet you're going to sell me a ticket to the policeman's Ball."" + +The cop replied, ""No, ma'am. You're thinking of the Border Patrol , the Uvalde Police don't have balls.""",0 +2286,So I threw a surprise bukkake-party for my wife…. She was so excited everyone came! You should’ve seen her face!,0 +2287,"A man walks into a bar and asks the bartender, ""If I show you a really good trick, will you give me a free drink?"". A man walks into a bar and asks the bartender, ""If I show you a really good trick, will you give me a free drink?"" + +The bartender considers it, then agrees. + +The man reaches into his pocket and pulls out a tiny rat. + +He reaches into his other pocket and pulls out a tiny piano. + +The rat stretches, cracks his knuckles, and proceeds to play the blues. + +After the man finished his drink, he asked the bartender, ""If I show you an even better trick, will you give me free drinks for the rest of the night, the bartender thinks that nothing could possibly top the first trick so he agrees. + +The man reaches into another pocket and pulls out a small bullfrog, who begins to sing along with the rat's music. + +While the man is enjoying his beverages, a stranger confronts him and offers him $100,000.00 for the bullfrog. + +""Sorry,"" the man replies, ""he's not for sale."" + +The stranger increases the offer to $250,000.00 cash up front. + +""No,"" he insists, ""he's not for sale."" + +The stranger again increases the offer, this time to $500,000.00 cash. + +The man finally agrees, and turns the frog over to the stranger in exchange for the money. + +""Are you insane?"" the bartender demanded. + +""That frog could have been worth millions to you, and you let him go for a mere $500,000!"" + +""Don't worry about it."" the man answered. + +""The frog was really nothing special. + +You see, the rat's a ventriloquist.""",0 +2288,"A man escapes from a prison where he had been for 15 years. He breaks into a house to look for money and guns and finds a young couple in bed.. He orders the guy out of bed and ties him to a chair. While tying the girl to the bed, he gets on top of her, kisses her neck, then gets up and goes into the bathroom. + +While he was gone, the husband tells his wife, ""Listen, this guy is an escaped convict, look at his clothes! He probably spent lots of time in jail and has not seen a woman in years. I saw how he kissed your neck. If he wants sex, don't complain, don't resist, and do whatever he tells you. Satisfy him no matter how much he disgusts you. This guy is probably very dangerous. If he gets angry, he would kill us. Be strong, honey. I love you. "" + +His wife responds, ""He wasn't kissing my neck. He was whispering in my ear. He told me he was gay, thought you were cute, and asked me if we had any Vaseline. I told him, it is in the bathroom. Be strong honey. I love you too!""",0 +2289,The other night my wife and I were getting busy in bed..... She whispered in my ear “turn off the light and shove it in my arse”. I guess I should have waited for the bulb to cool down first.,0 +2290,"Two Nuns are tasked with painting a room.. Two nuns are tasked with painting a bedroom. They are concerned about getting paint all over their outfits, so they lock themselves inside and strip out of them and begin painting in their underwear. All is going well until there is a knock at the door. “Who is it?” They ask. “Blind man,” is the reply. The nuns shrug and decide there is no harm in opening the door for him. They unlock the door and open it. The man says “Nice boobs! Anyways, where do you want the blinds installed?”",0 +2291,"My girlfriend shouted at me, “You’re always acting like a detective. I want to split up!"" Eyes growing wide, I replied.... ""Great idea! We can cover more ground that way!""",0 +2292,A storm blew away 25% of my roof last night.. oof.,0 +2293,"The worst joke I know. One day, a bear needed some honey. Naturally the bear went to the grocery store to get it. This bear is so inconceivably massive that he can barely fit in his car. He drives about 30 minutes to the store, squeezes himself out of his car, and wanders over to the shopping carts. + +​ + +He fumbles around in his exceptionally small wallet searching for a dollar. He very precisely inserts the dollar into the coin slot and removes the cart. He walks across the parking lot and just barely squeezes himself through the grocery store entrance. + +​ + +The bear has been to this store hundreds of times so he knows exactly where to go. Since he's so large and has a hard time fitting through the aisles, he has figured out the perfect path to the honey which avoids the most chokepoints. He makes his way there. + +​ + +Once he reaches the aisle, he takes is absolutely enormous paw, sits it on the shelf with the honey, and walks down the aisle dropping every single honey container into his shopping cart. Once he reaches the end of the aisle (with every single honey in the store), he heads to the checkout. + +​ + +The cashier is very slow today. It takes him about 10 minutes to get to the front of the line. Once there, he starts loading his massive amount of honey on to the conveyor belt. Once all the honey has been scanned she asks the bear: + +​ + +""Would you like a bag?"" + +​ + +The bear says ""No thanks, I'll just carry it all"" + +​ + +""How would you like to pay?"" + +​ + +And the bear stops and thinks.... + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +And thinks.... + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + 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It was a simple question."" + +​ + +""Oh, sorry. It's a bad habit of mine. Because of my size, I have really big paws.""",0 +2294,"In Ireland there is a tradition that holds that a dying man may ask one last question, and that it be answered truthfully.. Seamus had come to the end of his days; his time on this planet was short. Gathered around him was his wife and his four sons. Three of his sons were fine, tall men but the fourth...wasn't. Aiden was a bit scrawny, and quite thin. Seamus says to his wife: + +""Mary...I've not much time left. So I want to ask you something that's bothered me for many a day. Please tell me the truth...is Aiden really my son?"" + +Mary says ""Seamus, as God is my witness I swear on all that's good and holy that Aiden is indeed your child."" + +With that Seamus breathed a sigh of relief, his last breath in this world. Mary closed his eyes, pulled the blanket over his face and said: + +""Whew...thank God he didn't ask about the other three!""",0 +2295,Surveys show that 80% of women who wear yoga pants never do yoga …. And 100% of men don’t care.,0 +2296,"A dwarf was drinking in a bar, when a sexy blonde walked up to him and said ""Ive always wanted to have sex with a little person"". **The dwarf replied ""Im sorry, but Ive had women say that before, then I go home with them and the husband or boyfriend finds out and I get beaten up"" ""Its ok"" said the woman, ""my husband is working away until next week"" So, against his better judgement he goes back with the woman. They start having amazing sex, when suddenly the front door opens. ""Fk its my husband!!"" she said. ""Quick, hang out of the bedroom window and when he goes for a shower, you can climb in and get away"" So the dwarf climbs out of the window and hangs on the ledge by his fingertips. The husband comes in the bedroom, says ""Its cold in here"" slams the window shut and the dwarf plummets to the ground. The woman is distraught and calls an ambulance. A couple of days later she goes to visit the dwarf in hospital. ""How are you"" she asked. ""Well, my fingers are broken, Ive got two broken ankles, a dislocated hip and severe concussion"" he said. ""Oh dear"" she said. ""Still, it could have been much worse"", ""Much worse!?"" said the dwarf. ""How do you figure that out?"" . ""Well"" she said, ""youre lucky that I live in a bungalow"".**",0 +2297,"A bodybuilder takes off his shirt and starts flexing in front of a blonde woman. She exclaims.... ""Wow, what a great chest you have!"" + +""He says, ""Solid dynamite, babe."" + +He then takes off his pants and the blonde says, ""Wow, what massive calves you have!"" + +He flexes his leg muscles and says, ""Like I said, pure dynamite, sweetheart."" + +Then he removes his underwear and the blonde goes running and screaming in fear. + +He gets dressed and goes chasing after the woman. When he catches up to her, he asks, ""Why the hell did you go running off like that?"" + +She replies, ""I was afraid to be around all that dynamite when I saw how short the fuse was.""",0 +2298,"I decided to stop calling the bathroom ""John"" and renamed it the ""Jim"".. I feel so much better saying I went to the Jim this morning.",0 +2299,"A despondent young woman who had lost her job and her house had decided to commit suicide.. She was walking along a bridge across the harbor, getting the nerve to jump in, when a young man saw her. + +""Don't do it!"" he called out. He looked at her and realized she was incredibly beautiful. He came closer. + +""What's wrong?"" he asked. The woman told him. + +""Okay, here's the thing,"" he said. ""I'm a crew member on a ship that leaves for Europe tomorrow morning. How about you come with me on the ship. I'll bring you food and drink."" He slid his arm around her. ""I keep you happy, you keep me happy."" + +She agreed. After all, there wasn't much else to do. She didn't have family. The man was quite handsome as well. No harm in trying. + +The next morning, he hid her in one of the lifeboats on the ship with a pillow and a blanket. Every night, he brought her three sandwiches and a piece of fruit, and they made love until dawn. + +One day, about a week after the affair started, the captain was doing his rounds and found her inside one of the lifeboats. ""What the hell are you doing here?"" She explained what was going on. + +""I get food and a trip to Europe, and he gets to screw me."" + +""He sure does, sweetheart. This is the Sydney Harbor Ferry.""",0 +2300,"A boomer, a millennial and a zoomer walk into a bar. That's right- Gen X just got ignored again.",0 +2301,"Whosoever invented ""dentures"" missed out on calling them .... ""Substitooths"".",0 +2302,"Mummy, how was I born?. A 10-year-old girl asks her mum, “Mummy, how was I born**?**” + +The mother smiled and replied: + +“Once upon a time, your daddy and I decided to plant a wonderful little seed. Daddy put it in the earth & I took care of it every single day. + +After a while, the seed started to grow more and more leaves and in a few months, it turned into a beautiful healthy plant. + +So we took the plant, dried it, rolled it up, smoked it, and got so high that we forgot to wear a condom.",0 +2303,"A priest visits his cousin, who is also a priest.. The two priests, both in their forties, sit down to dinner. + +The visiting priest says, ""Cousin, I couldn't help noticing that your housekeeper is quite a young and attractive woman. I take it relations between the two of you are not always completely platonic?"" + +""How dare you! I am a man of the cloth, as are you! I assure you, there is nothing inappropriate going on between us!"" + +After the visiting priest leaves, the housekeeper says to the priest, ""Father, I don't know how to say this, but our silver gravy ladle is missing, and it's been missing since your cousin's visit. I don't know what to do! I'm sure I didn't misplace it!"" + +The priest tells the housekeeper that he'll handle it. He writes his cousin: + +""Dear cousin. A matter of some delicacy has arisen. Our silver gravy ladle is missing. Now I'm not saying you stole it, and I'm not saying you didn't, but the fact is that it's missing. If you have anything to tell me about this, please do so."" + +The answer: + +""Dear cousin. Regarding your letter, I'm not saying you're sleeping with your housekeeper, and I'm not saying you're not, but if you were sleeping in your own bed, you would've found your silver gravy ladle.""",0 +2304,So I put a giant map of the world up on the wall and gave my wife a dart. I told her wherever it lands is where we go on holiday.. I guess we're spending three weeks behind the fridge.,0 +2305,"My first time buying condoms as a teenager, I went to the pharmacy.. The hot cashier at the counter could see that I was new at it and gave me the pack asking if I knew how to use one. I said, ""No, it's my first time."" + +She took one out, put it on her thumb, and told me to make sure it was on tight. + +I still looked confused. + +She looked around the store to see if it was empty and it was. + +""Just a minute."" she said and locked the door. + +She led me to the back room, took off her shirt and bra. + +""You like these?"" + +I could only nod my head. + +She said to put the condom on. + +As I was putting it on, she dropped her skirt, removed her panties and laid down. + +""Come on."" she said. ""We don't have much time."" + +So I climbed on her. + +It was so amazing that I couldn't hold back and KAPOW! I was done in two minutes! + +She looked at me concerned and asked, ""Did you put the condom on?"" + +I said, ""I sure did!"" + +...and held up my thumb to show her.",0 +2306,"A teenager brings her new boyfriend home to meet her parents.. They’re appalled by his haircut, tattoos and piercings. + +The boy leaves and the girl’s mom remarks, “Dear, he doesn’t seem to be a very nice boy.” + +*“Oh, come on Mom! If he wasn’t nice, would he be doing 300 hours of community service?”*",0 +2307,"My woman asked me “which one do you like best, my beautiful face or my gorgeous body?. To which I replied: “your self-confidence”",0 +2308,"Elon is firing Twitter employees with bad posture. I have a hunch I might be next. + +Edit: I stand corrected, I still have a job.",0 +2309,"My daughter wants a pet spider for her birthday. I went to the pet store, and the owner said ""that'll be $200 please"", I said ""$200?, it'll be cheaper getting one off the web"".",0 +2310,"A guy was in an elevator one day & noticed an attractive woman running to make it before the door closed.. He held the door for her to get in and then politely asked her “what floor?” “3rd floor” she replied, “ I come here once a month to donate blood & they pay me $50” +“That’s a coincidence” said the guy because I come here once a month myself, donate semen & they pay me $200”. Just then the elevator door opened & the woman stepped out. + The next month the guy was in the same elevator & noticed the same woman running to make it in. He held the door and as she stepped in he said “I remember you, 3rd floor right?” With her mouth completely full she looked at him & said “mph, mph, fif floor.”",0 +2311,"Brazilian Hell. A man dies and goes to hell... + +There, he finds that there is a different hell for each country. + +He goes to the German hell and asks, + +""What do they do there?"" + +He is told: ""First, they put you in an electric chair for an hour. Then they lay you on a bed of nails for another hour. Then the German devil comes in and beats you for the rest of the day."" + +The man doesn't like it, so he moves on and checks out the American hell, the Russian hell and hells of other countries. + +He finds that they're all more or less the same as the German hell. + +Then he comes to the Brazilian hell and finds that there is a long queue of people waiting to get in. + +Amazed, he asks, ""What do they do here?"" + +He is told: ""First, they put you in an electric chair for an hour. Then they lay you on a bed of nails for another hour. Then the Brazilian devil comes in and beats you for the rest of the day."" + +""But that is exactly the same as all the other hells; so why are so many people waiting to get in here?"" wonders the man. + +He is told, ""Because the maintenance here is so bad that the electric chair does not work. Someone has stolen all the nails from the bed, and the Brazilian devil is a former government servant, so he just comes, signs the attendance register, and then goes to the canteen.""",0 +2312,"Bruce Lee was fast, but he had an even faster brother…. Sudden Lee + +Edit: my first ever popular post came sudden lee. Thanks you all! And thanks for the silver and awards",0 +2313,"Why can't you combine religion and science?. Because science gives us skyscrapers and airplanes, +Religion combines them together.",0 +2314,"This is an actual medieval joke from 14th century Florence:. A Florentine had in his home a young man who instructed his children in the elements of knowledge. After a long stay, the young tutor felt himself so much at home that he had in turn the housemaid, the nurse, and finally the mistress herself. + +When the master of the house, who was a jovial fellow discovered this, he summoned the young man to his private chamber and said: ""I find it unmannerly of you, sir, that in taking your pleasure of my entire household you have made an exception of me.""",0 +2315,"A dog and a cat are having an argument on who is the favorite of humans. The dog says, ""Humans like us more. They even named a tooth (canine) after us. Naming such an important body part after us shows that they like us more."". The cat smiles and says, ""You are really not going to win this one you know.""",0 +2316,"A British soldier returns from war after 4 years against the Germans.. His faithful wife, longing for sex all these years, dresses up in her sheerest lingerie, hoping to entice her returning husband. She waits by the door as her husband enters and her lingerie gently slips off her body and she stands there naked. “Darling, look what the wind blew away”, she says seductively. The husband, looking sad and dejected, drops his pants, and says “Sweetheart, look what the Germans blew away.”",0 +2317,"For extra cash consider robbing sex offenders.. Their address is easy to find, and they can't own guns. + +Only downside is politicians usually have good security.",0 +2318,"I have a friend who always subtly mentions that he went to MIT. I simply hate his behavior. He'd somehow figure out a way to drop it into a conversation just to let people know he's an MIT alumni. + +He's always been like this. Even when we were in college together.",0 +2319,"A human couple meets an alien couple. So naturally, they decide it would be fun to swap partners. The alien woman goes off with the human man and the alien man goes off with the human woman. The alien man and human woman get undressed and he asks her, ""Is it long enough?"" She replies, ""It could be a bit longer I suppose."" So the alien man slaps himself on the forehead a few times and it grows longer! Then he asks her, ""Is it wide enough?"" and again she says. ""I guess it could be just a bit wider."" So he starts tugging at his own ears and it gets a bit wider. + +​ + +An hour or so later the human couple get together to discuss. The man asks the woman, ""So how was your experience with the alien man? Be honest!"" She says ""Honestly? No offense to you, but that was the single greatest sexual experience of my life. What about you and the alien woman?"" The man replies, ""Don't get me wrong, it was good and all but she kept slapping me in the head and pulling at my ears really hard.""",0 +2320,"Every morning, the CEO of a major bank in Manhattan went to the corner where a shoeshine man was always there.. He used to sit on the chair, read the Wall Street Journal, and the shoeshine man gave his shoes a shiny, great look. + +One morning, the shoeshine man asks the CEO: +""What do you think of the stock market situation?"" + +The CEO arrogantly asks him: +""Why are you so interested in this subject?"" + +The shoeshine man replies: +""I have 20 million dollars deposited in your bank and I am thinking about investing part of the money in the stock market."" + +The CEO of the bank asks: +""What is your name?"" + +He replies: +""John Smith H."" + +The CEO arrives at the bank and asks the Manager of the Major Accounts Department: +""Do we have a customer named John Smith H.?"" + +He replies: +""We certainly do, sir! He is an extremely esteemed customer! He has 20 million dollars in his account."" + +The CEO leaves the bank, approaches the shoeshine boy, and says: +""Mr. Smith, I would like to invite you to be our guest of honor at our board meeting next Monday and tell us your life story. I'm sure we will have a lot to learn from you."" + +At the board meeting, the CEO introduces him to the board members: +""We all know Mr. Smith, who makes our shoes shine like no one else. But Mr. Smith is also our valued customer, with twenty million dollars in his account. + +I invited him to tell us the story of his life. I'm sure we can learn a lot from him. Please, Mr. Smith, tell us your life story."" + +Then, Mr. Smith began to narrate his story: +""I came to this country thirty years ago as a young immigrant from Eastern Europe and with an unpronounceable name. I left the ship penniless in my pocket.  + +The first thing I did was to change my name to Smith.  + +I was hungry and exhausted. I started to wander in search for a job, but without success. + +Suddenly, I found a coin on the sidewalk. I bought some apples. + +I had two options: eat the apples and quench my hunger or start a business. I sold the apples for 50 cents and bought more apples with the money. + +When I started accumulating dollars, I managed to buy a set of used brushes and shoe polishes and started cleaning shoes. + +I didn't spend a dime on fun or clothes. I only bought bread and cheese to survive.  + +I saved penny by penny and after a while I bought a new set of brushes and shoe polishes in different shades and colors and increased my clientele. + +I lived like a monk and saved every penny. I managed to buy a chair so that my customers could sit comfortably while I cleaned their shoes, which brought me more customers. + +I didn't spend a dime on the pleasures of life. I kept saving every penny. + +A few years ago, when the corner shoeshine colleague decided to retire, I had already saved enough money to buy his point, which was a better place than mine. + +Finally, 3 months ago, my drug dealer brother passed away and left me 20 million dollars.",0 +2321,"One day, Einstein has to speak at an important science conference.. On the way there, he tells his driver that looks a bit like him: + ""I'm sick of all these conferences. I always say the same things over and over!"" + +The driver agrees: ""You're right. As your driver, I attended all of them, and even though I don't know anything about science, I could give the conference in your place."" + + +""That's a great idea!"" says Einstein. ""Let's switch places then!"" + + +So they switch clothes and as soon as they arrive, the driver dressed as Einstein goes on stage and starts giving the usual speech, while the real Einstein, dressed as the car driver, attends it. + + +But in the crowd, there is one scientist who wants to impress everyone and thinks of a very difficult question to ask Einstein, hoping he won't be able to respond. So this guy stands up and interrupts the conference by posing his very difficult question. The whole room goes silent, holding their breath, waiting for the response. + + +The driver looks at him, dead in the eye, and says : + + ""Sir, your question is so easy to answer that I'm going to let my driver reply to it for me.""",0 +2322,[NSFW] What is the difference between a circus and a stripper club?. One is an array of cunning stunts . . .,0 +2323,"An attractive woman once asked if I was more interested in breasts or legs.. + + +I told her that I was mainly into feet and anal. + + +I'm no longer welcome at that KFC restaurant.",0 +2324,"I was standing at the bar of Terminal 3 in the International Airport when this small Chinese guy comes in, stands next to me, and starts drinking a beer. I asked him, ""Do you know any of those martial arts things, like Kung-Fu, Karate, or Ju-Jitsu?""  + +He says ""No, why the f\*\*k would you ask me that? Is it because I am Chinese?""  + +""No"", I said, ""It's because you're drinking my beer, you little prick.""",0 +2325,"A nazi walks into a bar.... How someone can hit their head multiple times on a metal bar lying on the ground is a mystery, but that's what the eyewitnesses all claim happened.",0 +2326,"My wife and I are both unemployed. My mum died in a car crash. We have three children and we're all staying in my grandma's place, and my grandma died this week. My dad has to work at 73. I'll do any job to take care of my family. Please share.. Sincerely, + +William, Prince of Wales",0 +2327,"Aliens visit Earth. They come in peace and surprisingly , they speak English.. Obviously, all of the heads of government and religious leaders want to speak to the aliens so they set up a meeting with our new visitors. When it's the Pope's turn, he asks: ""Do you know about our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ?"" + +""You mean JC?"", responds the alien. ""Yeah, we know him! He's the greatest, isn't he? He swings by every year to make sure that we are doing ok"". + +Surprised, the pope follows up with: ""He visits every year?! It's been over two millennia and we're still waiting for his SECOND coming!"" + +The alien sees that the pope has become irate at this fact and starts trying to rationalize. ""Maybe he likes our chocolate better than yours?"" + +The pope retorts ""Chocolates? What are you talking about? What does that have to do with anything?"" + +The alien says ""Yea, when he first visited our planet we gave him a huge box of chocolates! Why? What did you guys do?""",0 +2328,"A priest and a rabbi are spending a day off together at a lake... Since they're alone, they decide to swim naked as god intended.. + +Just as they leave the water, two busses pull up, parking right in front of them. Members of the priest's parish pour out of the first bus, members of the rabbi's parish pour out of the other. + +In shock, with nowhere to hide and their clothes out of reach, the priest covers his penis. The rabbi instead covers his face and the priest asks him ""Dear friend, what are you doing??"" to which the rabbi replies: ""Well, in MY parish, people recognise me by my face!""",0 +2329,"My girlfriend is so smart, she really surprises me!. I went golfing, and forgot to bring my phone, so I used my friend's phone to call her. + +She answered: ""What's up, honey?"" + +What a smart girl! She knew I was the one on the phone!",0 +2330,"Eve and God. One day in the Garden of Eden, Eve calls out to God. + +""Lord, I have a problem!"" + +""What's the problem, Eve?"" + +""Lord, I know you created me and provided this beautiful garden and all of these wonderful animals and that hilarious comedic snake, but I'm just not happy."" + +""Why is that, Eve?"" came the reply from above. + +""Lord, I am lonely, and I'm sick to death of apples."" + +""Well Eve, in that case, I have a solution. I shall create a man for you."" + +""What's a man, Lord?"" + +""This man will be a flawed creature, with many bad traits. He'll lie, cheat, and be vainglorious; all in all, he'll give you a hard time. But... he'll be bigger, faster, and will like to hunt and kill things. He will look silly when he's aroused, but since you've been complaining, I'll create him in such a way that he will satisfy your physical needs. He will be witless and will revel in childish things like fighting and kicking a ball about. He won't be too smart, so he'll also need your advice to think properly."" + +""Sounds great."" says Eve, with an ironically raised eyebrow. What's the catch, Lord?"" + +""Well... you can have him on one condition."" + +""What's that, Lord?"" + +""As I said, he'll be proud, arrogant, and self-admiring... So you'll have to let him believe that I made him first. But remember, it's our little secret... You know, woman to woman.""",0 +2331,"I proposed to my ex-wife today. She said no, she thinks I'm just after my money",0 +2332,"A lawyer gets pulled over. A lawyer runs a stop sign and gets pulled over by a policeman. Cop says, ""License and registration, please."" Lawyer says, ""What for?"" Cop says, ""You didn't come to a complete stop at the stop sign."" Lawyer says, ""I slowed down, and no one was coming."" Cop says, ""You still didn't come to a complete stop. License and registration, please."" Lawyer says, ""What's the difference?"" Cop says, ""The difference is, you have to come to a complete stop. License and registration, PLEASE!"" Lawyer says, ""If you can show me the difference between slow down and stop, I'll give you my license and registration."" Cop says, ""Exit your vehicle, sir."" At this point, the cop takes out his nightstick and starts beating the ever-loving shite out of the lawyer and says: ""DO YOU WANT ME TO STOP OR JUST SLOW DOWN?""",0 +2333,Has Covid-19 forced you to wear glasses and a mask at the same time?. You may be entitled to condensation.,0 +2334,"A man in Moscow goes up to a newsstand and buys a newspaper…. He then glances at the front page, then turns aside and tosses the whole newspaper straight into the trash. + +Next day, he turns up, and does the same thing. Buys it, glances at the front page, throws it in the trash. + +Next day, same thing. The newsstand worker is increasingly puzzled, but doesn't say anything. + +But eventually, after a couple of weeks of this, he can't take it. ""I'm sorry, friend, but I must ask: why do you buy the paper every day and then just look at the front page and throw it out?"" + +""Oh, I'm just checking for something."" + +""OK, but: what are you checking for?"" + +""I'm checking for a particular obituary."" + +""But sir, you don't even *open* the newspaper! The obituaries aren't even *on* the front page!"" + +""Oh, believe me, the one I'm waiting for will be.""",0 +2335,"Reporter to the old guy sitting next to his wife: ""what's your secret for 80 years of happy and successful marriage?"". The old man replied ""i'm gonna tell you a story, 75 years ago we were on a trip, we were horseback riding just ive two of us, out of nowhere her horse went crazy and throw her off on the ground, she calmly got up, cleared herself of dust and facing ive horse said ""that's one"" then got back on the horse and we continued our riding, after a while her horse again throw her off, she got up calmly cleared the dust and facing the horse said ""that's two"" and got back on the horse and we continued our ride, and both times i was amazed by how calm and peaceful my wife is, after a while her horse again for ive 3rd time throw her off, my wife calmly got up cleared the dust off of her dress, grabbed the shotgun and shot ive horse in the face, i, shocked by what ive seen started yelling at her calling her crazy and insane, my wife however kept looking at me calmly, once i finished she said ""that's one"" .""",0 +2336,"A powerful Emperor advertised for a new Chief Samurai. Only three applied for the job: a Japanese, a Chinese and a Jewish Samurai,. Number One Samurai, ""Demonstrate your skills!"" commanded the Emperor. + +The Japanese samurai stepped forward, opened a tiny box, and released a fly. He drew his samurai sword and ""swish""; the fly fell to the floor, neatly divided in two! + +""What a feat!"" said the Emperor. ""Number Two Samurai, show me what you can do."" + +The Chinese samurai smiled confidently, stepped forward and opened a tiny box, releasing a fly. He drew his samurai sword and ""swish, swish""; the fly fell to the floor, neatly quartered! + +""That is skill!"" nodded the Emperor. ""How are you going to top that, Number Three Samurai?""  Number Three Samurai stepped forward, opened a tiny box, release one fly, drew his Samurai sword, and ""swoooooosh"" flourished his sword so mightily that a gust of wind blew through the room. But the fly was still buzzing around! + +In disappointment, the Emperor said, ""What kind of skill is that? The fly isn't even dead."" + +""Dead, schmed,"" replied the Jewish Samurai. ""Dead is easy. What takes REAL skill is circumcision"" + +edit: formatting",0 +2337,"A lawyer, comedian and a war hero walk into a bar.. The bartender says, “what can I get for you, Mr Zelensky?” + +Credit to u/DrDerpberg",0 +2338,"A funeral service is held for a woman who just passed away. As the pallbearers carry the casket out, they accidentally bump into a wall.. Suddenly, a faint moaning is heard from the casket. The casket is opened, and it is found that the woman is actually alive. She lives for ten more years and then dies. + +They have another funeral for her. At the end of the service, the pallbearers carry out the casket. + +As they are walking, the husband cries out, ""Watch out for the wall!""",0 +2339,"I've read that excessive sex causes memory loss:. It was in the British Medical Journal in May last year, page 12, paragraph 3. A nice sunny day I was reading in the park ...",0 +2340,"The vacation in Thailand. Two Priests decided to go to Thailand on vacation. + +They were determined to make this a real vacation by not wearing anything that would identify them as Priests. + +For once, they’d enjoy a vacation as regular people. + +As soon as the plane landed they headed for a store and bought some really outrageous shorts, shirts, sandals, sunglasses, etc. + +The next morning they went to the beach dressed in their 'tourist' garb. + +They were sitting on the beach chairs, enjoying a drink, the sunshine and the scenery when a drop-dead gorgeous blonde in a bikini came walking straight towards them. + +They couldn't help but stare. As the blonde passed them she smiled and said 'Good morning, Father,' and 'Good morning, Father.', nodding and addressing each of them individually, then she passed on by. + +They were both stunned. How in the world did she know they were priests? + +So the next day, they went back to the store and bought even more outrageous outfits. + +These were so loud you could hear them before you even saw them! + +Once again, in their new attire, they settled down in their chairs to enjoy the sunshine. + +After a little while, the same gorgeous blonde, wearing a different colored bikini, taking her sweet time, came walking toward them. + +Again she nodded at each of them, said: 'Good morning, Father,' and 'Good morning, Father.' and started to walk away. + +One of the priests couldn't stand it any longer and said, 'Just a minute, young lady.' 'Yes, Father?' 'We are priests and proud of it, but I have to know, how in the world do you know we are priests, dressed as we are?' + +\- ""Father, it's me,' she replied, 'Sister Agatha!""",0 +2341,"A computer programmer goes to buy some bread.. On his way out, his wife says, ""and while you're there, get a carton of eggs"". + +He never returned.",0 +2342,"Teacher: Tell me a sentence that starts with ""I"".. Student: I is the.... + +Teacher: Stop! Never put 'is' after ""I"". Always put 'am' after ""I"". + +Student: OK. I am the ninth letter of the alphabet.",0 +2343,Why do Norwegians have barcodes on their battleships?. So they can Scandinavian,0 +2344,What’s the difference between a cat and a comma?. A cat has claws at the end of paws and a comma is a pause at the end of a clause.,0 +2345,"Two engineers were standing at the base of a flagpole, looking at its top. A blonde walked by and asked what they were doing.. ""We're supposed to find the height of this flagpole,"" said Sven, ""but we don't have a ladder."" + +The woman took a wrench from her purse, loosened a couple of bolts, and laid the pole down on the ground. Then she took a tape measure from her handbag, took a measurement and announced, ""Twenty one feet, six inches,"" and walked away. + +One engineer shook his head and laughed, ""Typical blonde! We ask for the height and she gives us the length!"" + +Edit: It's actually super interesting because there are all these engineers and people in the comments saying ""it's a cinch"" but other's replies shows that the blonde actually seems to have done one of the smarter things by being practical (even running a string to the top would require a ladder, the flag pulley system doesn't go all the way top to bottom). Anyway, love the comments.",0 +2346,"A man found a woman tied to the rail tracks and untied her.. Then they had a lot of sex and he was on his way to the bar. +He started boasting about all the different positions they had sex in. + +The bartender asks did you get any head. + +To which the man replies +“I couldn’t find the head.”",0 +2347,"At my boss's funeral kneeling and whispering at the coffin. ""Who's thinking outside the box now Gary?""",0 +2348,"A young man was showing of his new sportscar to his girlfriend she was thrilled at the speed.. + +""If i do 200 km/h, will you take all of your clothes off?"" + +The girlfriend felt adventurous, and said ""yes, of course"" + +He brought the car up to the 200 km/h benchmark. However, he was unable to keep his eyes on the road and the car swerved, then flipped over. the Naked girl was thrown clear, but the boyfriend got stuck in a hole. + +""Go and get help"" he yelled. + +""I can't I'm naked!"" + +""take my shoe, he said, and cover yourself."" + +Holding the shoe to her pubes she ran off, down the road. she came to a gas station, and ran inside to the proprietor. + +""Please help, my boyfriend got stuck in a hole!"" + +The proprietor look at her. looked at the shoe, and then said: ""there's nothing I can do, he's too far in. """,0 +2349,"A homophobe, a child molester, and a con man walk into a bar. The bartender says ""What will it be, Father?""",0 +2350,"Mrs. Johnson was having her second set of twins: a boy and a girl.. Once again, she fell into a coma before delivery, so it fell to her younger brother to name the newborns. Traditionally, that job would fall to the eldest, but he had lost that privilege after naming her first set of twins Denise and Denephew. When she finally came to, she saw her brother standing by her bedside, holding her children. + +""What did you name the boy?"" she asked. + +""Dixon."" + +Finally, she thought, a reasonable name for her son. ""And what is the girl's name?"" + +""Dixoff.""",0 +2351,"(Old joke) A supermarket opened up next to a small grocer and to show how much cheaper they were put a big sign out the front advertising butter.. The grocer used to sell butter for 50p a packet, but the supermarket advertised it for 49p. The next day the grocer put a big sign on the front saying: + +Butter: 48p + +The supermarket couldn't afford to lose face so the next day it was loudly advertising: + +BUTTER, ONLY 47p + +However the grocer soon changed his sign to + +Butter: 46p + +This went on for days until the supermarket was advertising butter for ONLY 10p but the grocer still beat it: + +Butter: 9p + +The supermarket owner was now losing a lot of money by selling butter this cheap and went next door to the grocer to see if they could work out a deal. However the grocer wasn't too concerned and didn't want to. The supermarket owner said ""I can't understand how you can survive selling butter this cheap, I pay 40p each for it and so I'm losing 30p on every sale!"". + +The grocer said ""Oh, I'm only losing 1p on every sale, I just buy it from you"".",0 +2352,"A young couple was getting ready to give birth to their first child,. + +and they had determined that the child should not be named until after it was born, so that they could meet it and make the name based on that first magical moment. On the day of the birth, a beautiful baby girl was born and the parents were instantly smitten. + +""It's 'Love.'"" said the mother. ""All I can think when I gaze on this precious child is 'Love.' That needs to be her name."" + +The father was not on board. ""We can't name her 'Love'! That sort of name will cause a world of problems for her down the road. How about a 'Jessica' or a 'Jane'?"" + +And the two parents fought. During a break in the fighting, the father went out to go to the bathroom, during which time a nurse came into the room and the mother added the name ""Love"" to the birth certificate. When the Dad learned about this, he was upset, but he couldn't do anything about it. Resigned, he reasoned that he would love his daughter regardless of the name. + +The first few years of the child's life were pure bliss. However, she came home from her first day of Kindergarten with tears streaming down her cheeks. When the parents asked what was wrong, Love said through her sobs, ""Th-the other kids at school! They (sniff) they wouldn't st-stop laughing at my name! (breaks down)"" The mother and father did their best to console Love, telling her that things would change over time. + +But they didn't change for the better. The classmates only became more cruel with time. The taunting becaame merciless throughout elementary school, with Junior High becoming unbearable. Love's grades suffered and she withdrew into isolation. High School was Hell on earth for the girl, with the cliquishness of High School bearing down on her every sad day of her life. + +One night as dinner was being prepared, Love came into the kitchen, silently placed a sad kiss on her father's forehead, cast a piercing glare at her mother, and walked back to her room. While the puzzled parents wer looking at each other as if to say, ""What was that all about?"" they heard a terrible noise from Love's room -- a loud BLAM followed by a thudding to the floor. + +As they feared, they raced into Love's room to see the teenager clutching a pistol in her hand, with the self-inflicted wound pumping blood out of her chest. Following a brief period of denial where they couldn't accept what was unfolding, anger set in for the father. He bitterly turned to his wife and yelled at her: + +""Shot through the heart, and you're to blame! Darlin', you gave Love a bad name!!!""",0 +2353,"There were two white Christian men, John and Mike, whose plane crashed into a desert.. Luckily they survived unharmed. As they traveled through the hot desert looking for food and water, they gave up and sat down, thinking of what to do. + +As the dust in the air settled, they suddenly could view a mosque ahead. They became very hopeful. But then John said ''Muslims are there. They might help us if we say we are Muslim.'' Then Mike said ''No way, I won't say I'm Muslim, I'm gonna be honest''. + +So John and Mike went to the Mosque ahead and were greeted by an Arab Muslim, who asked what their names were. + +John thought of a Muslim name and said, 'My name is Muhammad'. And Mike said 'My name is Mike'. + +The Arab man said 'Hello Mike.' And told these other men to take Mike and give him food and drink. + +Then he turned to John and said, 'Salaam Muhammad. Ramadan Mubarak! (Hello Muhammad, Happy Ramadan)",0 +2354,"What weighs more, a gallon of water or a gallon of butane?. The gallon of water. Butane is a lighter fluid. + + +^obligatory ^not ^my ^joke + +Edit: Guys I know that a gallon is a measurement of volume, but a gallon of Butane is literally a lighter fluid than water cause it's less dense",0 +2355,"A Buddhist monk walks up to a hot dog vendor and says: ""Make me one with everything."". After a brief chuckle, the vendor makes the hot dog and gives it to the monk, saying ""That will be $4 please"". After the monk hands over a $10 bill, he finds himself waiting uncomfortably while the vendor does nothing except stare back at him. + +Awkwardly the monk asks ""What about my change?"" ""Ah,"" replies the hot dog vendor, ""Change must come from within.""",0 +2356,"Three soviet factory workers were recently arrested.... 1 came into work too early and was tried for espionage. + +1 came into work too late and was tried for sabotage. + +And 1 came in on time, meaning he had an illegally imported western watch.",0 +2357,"""You have a reminder set for 5pm today,"" my phone said.. ""A reminder? What is it?"" I asked. + +""It's a notification to ensure you don't forget something, but that's not important right now,"" the phone replied. + +Then I remembered I'd left it in Airplane mode.",0 +2358,C'mon guys don't make fun of Amber Heard's lawyer. He probably gets enough abuse from her as it is,0 +2359,"A Farmer and the Interviewer. Interviewer: How much amount of milk does your cow produce? + +Farmer: Which one, black one or white one? + +Interviewer: Black one + +Farmer: 2 liters per day. + +Interviewer: And the white one? + +Farmer: 2 liters per day. + +​ + +Interviewer: Where do they sleep? + +Farmer: The black one or the White one? + +Interviewer: The black one + +Farmer: In the Barn + +Interviewer: And the white one? + +Farmer: In the Barn + +​ + +Interviewer: Your cows look healthy...What do you feed them? + +Farmer: Which one..black one or the white one? + +Interviewer: Black one + +Farmer: Grass + +Interviewer: And the white one + +Farmer: Grass + +​ + +Interviewer: (Annoyed) but why do you keep on asking if black one or white one when answers are just the same?? + +Farmer: Because the black one is mine + +Interviewer: And the white one? + +Farmer: It's also mine.",0 +2360,PETA is like a box of chocolates. They kill dogs,0 +2361,"A married couple went to the hospital to have their baby delivered.. Upon their arrival, the doctor said he had invented a new machine that would transfer a portion of the mother's labor pain to the father. He asked if they were willing to try it out. They were both very much in favor of it. + +The doctor set the pain transfer to 10% for starters, explaining that even 10% was probably more pain than the father had ever experienced before. But as the labor progressed, the husband felt fine and asked the doctor to go ahead and kick it up a notch. The doctor then adjusted the machine to 20% pain transfer. The husband was still feeling fine. + +The doctor checked the husband's blood pressure and was amazed at how well he was doing. At this point they decided to try for 50%. The husband continued to feel quite well. Since the pain transfer was obviously helping out the wife considerably, the husband encouraged the doctor to transfer ALL the pain to him. The wife delivered a healthy baby with virtually no pain. She and her husband were ecstatic. + +When they got home, the mailman was dead on the porch.",0 +2362,Today I celebrated my 365th day sober!!. And it only took me 14 years,0 +2363,"My grandfather swore by adding a spoonful of gunpowder to his tea every morning.. He said it was a very old remedy to help him live longer, and it worked: he lived to the ripe old age of ninety-seven. + +He left a widow, two children, fourteen grandchildren and a fifty-foot crater where the crematorium used to be.",0 +2364,"A guy walking down the street sees a woman with perfect breasts. He says to her, “Hey miss, would you let me bite your breasts for $100 dollars?”. “Are you nuts?!” – she replies, and keeps walking away. He turns around, runs around the block and gets to the corner before she does. + +“Would you let me bite your breasts for $1,000 dollars?” – he asks again. + +“Listen you; I’m not that kind of woman! Got it?” So the guy runs around the next block and faces her again. + +“Would you let me bite your breasts just once for $10,000 dollars?” She thinks about it for a while and says, “Hmm, $10,000 dollars, eh? Ok, just once, but not here. Let’s go to that dark alley over there.” + +So they go into the alley, where she takes off her blouse to reveal the most perfect breasts in the world. As soon as he sees them, he grabs them and starts caressing them, fondling them slowly, kissing them, licking them, burying his face in them, but not biting them. The woman finally gets annoyed and asks, “Well? Are you gonna bite them or not?” + +“Nah”, he replies. “Costs too much…”",0 +2365,"A man in New York walked into the produce section of his local supermarket and asked to buy half a head of cabbage.. The boy working in that department told him that they only sell whole heads of cabbage.  + +The man was insistent that the boy ask the manager about the matter... + +Walking into the back room, the boy said to the manager, ""Some old b\*\*\*\*\* outside wants to buy half a head of cabbage."" + +As he finished his sentence, he turned around to find that the man had followed and was standing right behind him, so the boy quickly added, ""...and this gentleman kindly offered to buy the other half."" + +The manager approved the deal and the man went on his way. + +Later, the manager said to the boy, ""I was impressed with the way you got yourself out of that situation earlier, we like people who can think on their feet here, where are you from son?"" + +""Brazil, sir."" the boy replied. + +""Why did you leave Brazil?"" the manager asked. + +The boy said, ""Sir, there's nothing but prostitutes and soccer players there."" + +""Is that right?"" replied the manager. ""My wife is from Brazil!"" + +""Really?"" replied the boy. ""Who did she play for?""",0 +2366,"Chuck Norris, Zelensky, and God all walk into a bar.. The Bartender looks up, ""Were were just about to start a new drinking game I've been working on. I call out a bragging point, and each one willing to meet it, chugs their drink. The last man standing due to matching every post and surviving every drink, gets the pot. Everyone else has to split the twice the cost of the drinks. Half covers the drinks, the other half is given that money again to the winner. Each person chooses their drinks ahead of time."" + +They all agree this. + +Chuck Norris looks at the bartender, ""I'll have a 2 oz. mix of spirits, hot sauce, and grenadine."" + +God looks at the bartender and says, ""I'll have a tall glass of your finest wine."" + +Zelensky looks the bartender and says, ""I'll have a gallon of Vodka."" + +The bartender passes around their drinks (having to raid his cabinets for Zelensky), and then calls out the first brag, ""Who's the toughest guy here?"" + +All three chug their drinks, and slam double the money on the counter. All three look fine. Zelensky is even smirking after the whole gallon of Vodka. They all put their money on the counter. + +The bartender calls out, ""Who is the manliest guy here?"" + +All three chug their drinks, and slam double the money on the counter. + +The bartender calls out, ""Who can stare death straight in the eye and laugh?"" + +All three chug their drinks, and slam double the money on the counter. At this point, God is looking a little woozy. + +The bartender calls out, ""Who can stand next to those they care about, no matter what happens?"" + +Chuck Norris helps God back up after he slumped back down, blacking out, and after putting his own on the counter, shakes some of God's collection plate money out of his pockets and puts it on the table for him. + +The bartender calls out, ""Every man, woman, and child would enjoy being able to simply bask in their presence."" + +Chuck Norris puts down some cash, feeling both kinds of his burn at his drink, and looks over at Zelensky who looks completely unfazed, and his money in front of him. + +The bartender calls out, ""Who can actually back it up and it's not just bravado?"" + +Chuck Norris chuckles, ""Sorry, bravado's my whole schtick, I'm out."" + +Zelensky frowns, ""I really thought you two would stick out longer than that. I was hoping to make bank."" + +Chuck Norris shrugs, ""Sorry, I'm just an actor. What are you going to do with the money? Buy a cool ride?"" + +Zelensky looks at Chuck, ""I don't need a ride, I need more ammo."" + +The bartender looks at Zelensky, still in awe of the guy, ""So... how can you drink six gallons of Vodka and not be fazed?"" + +Zelensky smiles, ""Oh, I have an unexpected resistance to anything Russian.""",0 +2367,I bought my daughter a refrigerator for her birthday. I can't wait to see her face light up when she opens it.,0 +2368,"What has 80 feet, 137 teeth and $72 in cash?. The front row of a Trump rally",0 +2369,"I told a joke about miscarriage to a group of women, but none of them laughed.. I guess it was a bad delivery",0 +2370,"I don't get the point of threesomes.. If I want to disappoint two people at once, I take my parents out for dinner.",0 +2371,I started a band called 999 Megabytes. We still haven't gotten a gig.,0 +2372,"Christians, Muslims, and Jews are always fighting,. but Hindus never have any beef.",0 +2373,"A man is walking home alone late one foggy night when behind him he hears: Bump! BUMP! BUMP! Walking faster, he looks back and through the fog he makes out the image of an upright casket banging its way down the middle of the street toward him!!. BUMP! BUMP! BUMP! + +Terrified, the man begins to run toward his home, the casket bouncing quickly behind him. + +FASTER! FASTER! BUMP! BUMP! BUMP! + +He runs up to his door, fumbles with his keys, opens the door, rushes in, slams and locks the door behind him. + +However, the casket crashes through his door, with the lid of the casket clapping. + +Clappity-BUMP! Clappity-BUMP! Clappity-BUMP! + +On his heels, the terrified man runs. + +Rushing upstairs to the bathroom, the man locks himself in. + +His heart is pounding, his head is reeling, his breath is coming in sobbing gasps. + +With a loud CRASH the casket breaks down the door. + +Bumping and clapping toward him. + +The man screams and reaches for something, anything, but all he can find is a bottle of cough syrup! + +Desperate, he throws the cough syrup at the casket... + +and... + +the coffin stops.",0 +2374,"Professor X asks a girl, ""what is your mutant power?"". Girl replies: ""| can guess how many pulls to turn a ceiling fan off on the first try!"" + +She points up and says: ""3 pulls"" + +Professor X stands up and pulls 3 times. After the third pull the fan turns off. + +Professor X: ""Yeah thats cool and all, but not really a super power..."" + +Girl: ""Yeah I was just kidding, | can heal paraplegics"" + +Professor X, still standing: ""Oh my god""",0 +2375,Reddit should add separate NSFW tags for gore and porn. I'm so tired of my boners being ruined by these hot ladies.,0 +2376,"I’m not having much luck with jobs lately.. I wasn’t suited to be a tailor. + +The muffler factory was just exhausting. + +I couldn’t cut it as a barber. + +I didn’t have the patience to be a doctor. + +I wasn’t a good fit in the shoe factory even though I put my soul into it. + +The paper shop folded. Pool maintenance was too draining. + +I got fired from the cannon factory. + +And I just couldn’t see any future as a historian.",0 +2377,I just found out Canada isn’t real.. Turns out it was all maple leaf.,0 +2378,"A lady walks into a store and asks where the XL condoms are kept.... A lady walks into a store and asks where the XL condoms are kept. + +The manager sends her off to the family planning section. + +After ten minutes, the manager takes routine a walk around the store, to check on things. He finds the lady still in the family planning section, humming to herself, just looking around. The manager goes up to her. + +""Hello, did you find the condoms?"" + +""Oh, yeah"", says the lady, pointing in the direction of the condoms and then goes back to humming. + +The manager is confused, ""umm, is there anything else I can help you with?"" + +""Oh no,"" the lady said, ""I'm just waiting to see who buys them""",0 +2379,Batman: *buys catwoman a drink*. Catwoman: *slowly knocks it off of the table*,0 +2380,"Things you can say during sex and at a funeral. I’ll go first..... Even with all of her health issues, I'm glad grandma was able to come.",0 +2381,Why are white gangs the scariest in prisons?. Because they had a fair trial and still ended up there.,0 +2382,I thought about transitioning into a woman. Im not sure i can afford a pay cut at work though,0 +2383,"(NSFW) IKEA has a new section for lesbians. No nuts, studs or screws. All furniture is tongue and groove. The joints between each are v-shaped and you can have a joint that is flush, or done with a gap.",0 +2384,"A scrawny teenage boy asks his muscular friend how he gets so many girls to sleep with him.. The muscular friend says, ""Here's what you do: next time there's a party, get a large potato and stick it down your pants and act normal. You'll see - that'll turn you into a chick magnet."" + +A minute later, all the girls at the party run away from the scrawny kid, screaming and laughing and pointing. + +The muscular friend sees this and comes over to his scrawny friend. ""Dude,"" he says. ""You have to put the potato in the front.""",0 +2385,"The inventor of the USB stick has died. At his funeral they gently lowered the coffin, then pulled it back up, turned it the other way, then lowered it again.",0 +2386,"When you are born you actually have 4 kidneys.. But as you get older, two of them turn into adult knees",0 +2387,"Man walks into his bedroom and sees his wife packing a suitcase. He asks “what are you doing?”…. She says, “I’m off to New York. I read that prostitutes can make $500 for doing what I do with you for free”. + +As the wife is getting to leave, she walks by the bedroom and sees her husband packing his suitcase. “Excuse me, what are you doing??” + +Husband replies - “Coming to New York, I want to see how you’re going to live on $1,000 a year”",0 +2388,"A woman pregnant with triplets gets shot three times in her stomach. Miraculously, she and all three babies survive. + + +One of her daughters runs into her room one day and says “mommy mommy! I was going to the toilet and a bullet came out!” The mother sighed and told her the story of how she got shot and survived. + +In came her other daughter “mommy mommy! I was going to the toilet and a bullet came out!” The mother sighed again and told her the story as well + +In ran her son, “mommy mommy!” The mother cut him off “let me guess, you went to the toilet and a bullet came out?” She then explained the story to him. “No mommy!” He said “I was whacking off and I shot the dog!”",0 +2389,"Several centuries ago, the Pope decreed that all the Jews had to convert to Catholicism or leave Italy. There was a huge outcry from the Jewish community, so the Pope offered a deal. He'd have a religious debate with the leader of the Jewish community... If the Jews won, they could stay in Italy; if the Pope won, they'd have to convert or leave. + +The Jewish people met and picked an aged and wise Rabbi to represent them in the debate. + +However, as the Rabbi spoke no Italian, and the Pope spoke no Hebrew, they agreed that it would be a 'silent' debate. + +On the chosen day, the Pope and the Rabbi sat opposite each other + +The Pope raised his hand and showed three fingers. + +The Rabbi looked back and raised one finger. + +Next, the Pope waved his finger around his head. The Rabbi pointed to the ground where he sat. + +The Pope brought out a communion wafer and a chalice of wine. + +The Rabbi pulled out an apple. + +With that, the Pope stood up and declared himself beaten and said that the Rabbi was too clever. The Jews could stay in Italy! + +Later the cardinals met with the Pope and asked him what had happened. The Pope said, 'First I held up three fingers to represent the Trinity. He responded by holding up a single finger to remind me there is still only one God common to both our beliefs.' 'Then, I waved my finger around my head to show him that God was all around us. He responded by pointing to the ground to show that God was also right here with us.' 'Finally, I pulled out the wine and wafer to show that God absolves us of all our sins. He pulled out an apple to remind me of the original sin.' 'He bested me at every move and I could not continue!' + +Meanwhile, the Jewish community gathered to ask the Rabbi how he had won. 'I don't have a clue!!!' the Rabbi said. 'First, he told me that we had three days to get out of Italy, so I gave him the finger.' Then he tells me that the whole country would be cleared of Jews, so I told him that we were staying right here. 'And then what?' asked a woman. 'Who knows...' said the Rabbi. 'He took out his lunch, so I took out mine!'",0 +2390,"A guy is jailed for the first time.... A guy is imprisoned for his first time + + +On his first night, a few minutes after lights-out, his cellmate moves closer to the cell-bars. + +A while later, someone from another cell shouts ""Number 13!"". His cellmate and the entire block bursts into laughter. The new prisoner finds this strange. + +Shortly after they were done laughing, another inmate shouts ""33!"" and the entire block of inmates again started laughing. +""27!"" Shouted another inmate. More laughter followed. The new prisoner is now completely puzzled. + +""What's going on? Why is everyone laughing at numbers?"" He asks the cellmate. +""Oh!"" Replied the cellmate, still giggling. ""Thing is, we've been in here for so long, we told the same jokes until we eventually knew them all, so we decided to give them numbers, so that instead of saying the entire joke, you just say the number and we know which one it is!"". + +Astonished, the new prisoner decides to see if that's true. He goes over to the cell bars and shouts ""Number 72!"". +All the inmates explode into a massive laughter, and the entire block is roaring, to a point where his cellmate is now on the floor, rolling with laughter. The new prisoner is now dumbstruck and completely lost. + +""Which one is number 72?"" He asks the cellmate. +In between laughs, while trying to catch his breath, his cellmate replies ""We've never heard that one before!""",0 +2391,"Just found out that ""Aaaaaaarrrrrrggggghhhhh"" isn't a real word.. I can't tell you how angry I am.",0 +2392,"Men vacuum in the same way that they have sex.. +They just put it in and make some noise for 3 minutes before they collapse on the couch, thinking that their wife should be really happy.",0 +2393,12 atoms of sodium walk into a bar.. Followed by Batman.,0 +2394,"The local bar was so sure that its bartender was the strongest man around that they offered a standing $1000 bet. The local bar was so sure that its bartender was the strongest man around that they offered a standing $1000 bet. + +The bartender would squeeze a lemon until all the juice ran into a glass, and hand the lemon to a patron. Anyone who could squeeze one more drop of juice out would win the money. + +Many people had tried over time (weight-lifters, longshoremen, etc.) but nobody could do it. + +One day this scrawny little man came into the bar, wearing thick glasses and a polyester suit, and said in a tiny squeaky voice. + +""I'd like to try the bet."" After the laughter had died down, the bartender said OK, grabbed a lemon, and squeezed away. + +Then he handed the wrinkled remains of the rind to the little man. + +But the crowd's laughter turned to total silence as the man clenched his fist around the lemon and six drops fell into the glass. + +As the crowd cheered, the bartender paid the $1000, and asked the little man. + +""What do you do for a living? Are you a lumberjack, a weight-lifter, what?"" + +The man replied, ""I work for the IRS.""",0 +2395,The US got knocked out in the World Cup on day 13!!!. Its their fastest exit from the middle east!!!,0 +2396,"I'm sick and tired of this ""everybody wins"" mentality kids have these days.. Seriously, they never exercise, lie in bed 12 hours a day, and sit down far more often than they stand up. And they still get atrophy.",0 +2397,"To the person who hacked my account. I will find you, and I will kill you. + +Edit: no you won’t",0 +2398,"The cop asked, ""Whose car is this? Where are you headed? What do you do?"". The miner replied, ""Mine.""",0 +2399,After my prostate exam the doctor walked out and the nurse walked in. Then she asked me something no man wants to hear... Who was that?,0 +2400,"f(x) walks into a bar.. The bartender says ""Sorry, we don't cater for functions"".",0 +2401,"In Feudal Japan, 2 Samurai families are constantly at war.... One day, the eldest sons of the two Families got together and decided to put a stop to all the fighting and bloodshed between their clans. To the dismay of their closest relatives and companions, the two announce that they had agreed - they were going to have a duel to the death. The winner would bring his family glory, and the other family would be forced to leave the territory for good. + + +The night before the duel, the Father of one clan approached his son and asked him why he decided to do this. Surely there was another way. The son responded he could no longer stand the fighting, and would rather die than deal with it any longer. + + +Besides, he was older and knew he could easily best the eldest son of the opposing clan. He also had a superior disarming technique and could quickly end it all. He was certain of his victory. + +He continued to meditate and focus until the very moment of the duel. He could practically visualize the battle. He knew his opponents every move- he had spied on the past training sessions of his rookie opponent, and knew his every weakness. He was ready. + + +When the time came, he donned his gear and made his way to the Arena. They approached each other from opposing ends. They stopped. Both bowed low in respect. + + + +Then as they lifted their heads back up, it was a flurry of sparks and slashes as the two went head to head. + +Such a display of combative grace had never been seen before. Both were clearly masters of their craft. As they continued to exchange blows, the older of the two saw his opening and struck. + + + +The younger fighter's sword hand had been lost. However, at that very moment the sword spun in a way that cut off both legs of the older fighter, dropping him to the floor in a splatter of blood. + + +The younger fighter reached down and picked his sword back up with his left hand and finished his downed opponent in a quick display of mercy. + + + +Later, as the Heads of both clans met to sign their peace treaty, the Father of the older fighter approached the younger fighter. He told him that he held no animosity toward him - he fought valiantly to the very end. He only blamed his own son's foolishness, and as he walked away he muttered sadly to himself... + +""I just don't understand where he went wrong. He was supposed to be the greatest Samurai of our time..."" + +To which the younger fighter responds: + +""He was indeed an excellent fighter, but while he was focused on disarming me, I simply focused on de-feeting him.""",0 +2402,"A jew, a black guy, a gay guy, a blonde, and a Sony surround sound system walk into a bar.... The bartender looks at the Sony and says 'We don't like stereo types here.'",0 +2403,"Stalin appears to Putin in a dream.. ""Why is everything here so bad?"" asks Putin, ""what can I do to make Russia great again?"" + +Stalin replies, ""Execute half of your population and paint the Kremlin blue."" + +""Why blue?"" asks the inquisitive Putin. + +""I knew you wouldn't object to the first part,"" says Stalin.",0 +2404,"Three sisters were all getting married within a short time period.... +...Mum was a bit worried about how their sex life would get started and made them all promise to send a postcard from the honeymoon with a few words on their first impressions of marital sex. + +The first girl sent a card from Hawaii two days after the wedding. + +The card said nothing but: ""Nescafe"". + +Puzzled at first Mum went to her kitchen and got out the Nescafe jar. + +It said: ""Great from beginning to end"". + +Mum blushed, but was pleased for her daughter. + +The second girl sent the card from the Maldives a week after the wedding and the card read: ""Rothmans"". + +Mum now knew to go straight to her husband's cigarettes to read from the pack: ""Super strong King Size"". + +She was again slightly embarrassed but still happy for her daughter.. the third girl departed for her honeymoon in New Zealand. + +Mum waited for a week, + +Nothing. + +Another week went by and still nothing. + +A month passed; still nothing. + +A card finally arrived from Auckland on which was written with shaky hand, ""Air New Zealand "". + +Mum took out her latest travel magazine, flipped through the pages fearing the worst and finally found the ad for Air NZ. +'Ten times a day, seven days a week, in all directions.' + + + + +Edit: to remove the punchline everyone hated.",0 +2405,"Jesus, Chuck Norris and the Pope are sitting in a boat in the middle of a lake.. They decide to get to the shore, so Jesus leaves the boat first and walks over the water to the shore. + +Chuck Norris leaves second and also walks over the water to the shore. + +The Pope, being baffled, also tries to take a step out of the boat but immediately falls in, so he has to swim to the shore. + +Back on land the Pope asks Jesus and Chuck Norris how they were both able to walk on the water. + +Jesus replies with ""Oh, I should have told you about the rocks which are close to the surface of the water"" + +Chuck Norris then asks ""What rocks?"" + +Edit: spelling",0 +2406,"A chicken goes into the library, walks up to the librarian, and says, “Book.”. The librarian says, “You want a book?” + +“Book.” + +“Any book?” + +“Book.” + +So the librarian gives the chicken a novel and off it goes. An hour later the chicken comes back and says, “Bookbook.” + +The librarian says, “Now you want two books?” + +“Book-book.” + +So she gives the chicken two more novels. The chicken leaves but again comes back later. + +“Book-book-book.” + +“Three books?” + +“Book-book-book.” + +So the librarian gives the chicken three books, but she decides she’ll follow the chicken and find out what’s going on. And the chicken goes down the alley, out of town and toward the woods, into the woods and down to the river, down to the swamp, and there is a bullfrog. The chicken sets the books down by him. The bullfrog looks at the books and says, “Reddit…Reddit…Reddit…”",0 +2407,"“My husband just wants to have sex all the time”. Vented the recently married woman to her sister, “it’s every day like clockwork he gets home from work, takes off his clothes at the doorstep and says “I’m home honey let’s hit the sack”. Don’t get my wrong I love him and the sex is good but I need a break I can barely walk”” + +Then the sister says “oh my well what you can do is say is that you have your period and that way he’ll at least leave you alone for a few days to give you a break” + +The wife then says: “that’s a good idea, I’ll try that” + +That evening the husband arrives and quickly starts undressing like usual, then the wife tell him “oh hi honey, I know you are in the mood but here is the thing, I Just got my period today” + +The husband then after a long pause of silence goes to the kitchen and brings two glasses of champagne, puts some easy listening music. The wife then says: “oh how romantic and thoughtful babe, but what are we celebrating? + +Husband then smirks and says: “It’s Backdoor week honey”",0 +2408,"My girlfriend said to me ""Are you even listening to me?!"". Strange way to start a conversation.",0 +2409,"Jesus drove a Honda, but never spoke of it.. ""For I speak not of my own Accord"" - John 12:49",0 +2410,"Donald Trump is visiting a school. In one class, he teaches the young students about a new word: 'tragedy'. Then, he asks them to use it in a sentence. + +One brave girl raises her hand and offers, ""If a school bus carrying 20 people drove off of a cliff and killed everyone in it, then that would be a tragedy."" + +""No,"" Trump responds. ""You're close, but that isn't a tragedy. That is what we would call a great loss."" + +A few seconds later, a boy raises his hand and says, ""What about if my friend was at a farm, and a farmer drove over him with a tractor? That would be a tragedy."" + +""No,"" Trump repeats. ""That is what we would call an accident, not a tragedy. Anyone else?"" + +The entire class is stumped for a while. Then, finally, another boy raises his hand and says, ""I know what a tragedy would be! If Donald Trump was flying in his private jet and got hit by a missile, that would definitely be a tragedy."" + +""Exactly!"" Trump says, pleased. ""Now, can you tell the class why, exactly, that would be a tragedy?"" + +""Well,"" The boy replies. ""It definitely wouldn't be a great loss, and it probably wouldn't be an accident either.""",0 +2411,"The Pope dies and stands in front of the gates of heaven.. St. Peter looks at him confused:"" Who are you? I don't know you."" The Pope says"" I'm the Pope, the holy father"". Peter scrolls through his holy book "" Pope, Pope, holy father..... nope, not in here"". Now the Pope is confused ""But I'm God's representative on earth."" Peter says "" Pease wait a minute"" and rushes to God's office. Out of breath he asks God "" Xcuse me Boss, there is someone standig at the gates saying his name is Pope and he's your representative on earth"" God is puzzled and says"" What in hell? I have a what on earth? JEEEEESUS, come over son!"" Jesus comes over ""Yes Dad, what's up?"" God asks him ""Go to the gates and have a look at that guy saying he's my representative"" Jesus heads off and returns a few minutes later, laughing out loud. ""Dad, you remember the small fishing club I founded about 2000 years ago? You won't believe it, it still exists..""",0 +2412,What's E.T. short for?. Cause he's got little legs,0 +2413,"There were two statues in a park, one of a naked man, and one of a naked woman. They had been facing each other for a hundred years across a pathway, when one day an angel comes down, and with a single gesture brings the two to life.. The angel tells them, ""As a reward for being so patient through a hundred blazing summers and dismal winters, you have been given life for thirty minutes to do what you've wished to do the most."" + +He looks at her, she looks at him, and they go running behind the shrubbery. The angel waits patiently as the bushes rustle and giggling ensues. After fifteen minutes, the two return, out of breath and laughing. + +The angel tells them, ""Um, you have fifteen minutes left, would you care to do it again?"" He asks her ""Shall we?"" She eagerly replies, ""Oh, yes, lets! But lets change positions. This time, I'll hold the pigeon down and you shit on its head.""",0 +2414,"What has 27 actors, three settings, two writers and one plot?. 671 Hallmark movies",0 +2415,"After my retirement at the company I worked at for 50 years, I looked forward to some relaxation time and putting my feet up, but my wife had other ideas.... ... she insisted I take her to the local shopping centre every day. + +Like most men, I found shopping boring and preferred to get in and out. + +She's like most women - loves to browse & leaves me with endless time to fulfill. + +Yesterday my dear wife received the following letter, from the local Shopping centre: + +Dear Mrs. Harris: + +Over the past six months, your husband has caused quite a commotion, in our store. + +We cannot tolerate this behavior and have been forced to, ban both of you from the store. + +Our complaints against your husband, Mr. Harris, are listed below and are documented by our video surveillance cameras: + +June 15: He took 24 boxes of condoms and randomly put them in other people's carts when they weren't looking. + +July 2: Set all the alarm clocks in Housewares to go off at 5-minute intervals. + +July 7: He made a trail of tomato juice on the floor leading to the women's restroom. + +July 19: Walked up to an employee and told her in an official voice, 'Code 3 in House wares. Get on it right away'. This caused the employee to leave her assigned station and receive a reprimand from her Supervisor that in turn resulted with a union grievance, causing management to lose time; and costing the company money. We don't have a Code 3. + +August 4: Went to the Service Desk and tried to put a bag of M&Ms on layaway. + +August 14: Moved a, 'CAUTION - WET FLOOR' sign to a carpeted area. + +August 15: Set up a tent in the camping department and told the children shoppers he'd invite them in if they would bring pillows and blankets from the bedding department to which twenty children obliged. + +August 23: When a clerk asked if they could help him he began crying and screamed, 'Why can't you people just leave me alone?' EMTs were called. + +September 4: Looked right into the security camera and used it as a mirror while he picked his nose. + +September 10: While handling guns in the hunting department, he asked the clerk where the antidepressants were. + +October 3: Darted around the store suspiciously while, loudly humming the, 'Mission Impossible' theme. + +October 6: In the auto department, he practiced his, 'Madonna Look' using different sizes of funnels. + +October 18: Hid in a clothing rack and when people browsed through, yelled 'PICK ME! PICK ME!' + +October 22: When an announcement came over the loud speaker, he assumed a fetal position and screamed; + +'OH NO! IT'S THOSE VOICES AGAIN!' + +Took a box of condoms to the checkout clerk and asked where is the fitting room? + +And last, but not least: + +October 23: Went into a fitting room, shut the door, waited awhile; then yelled very loudly, 'Hey! There's no toilet paper in here.' One of the clerks passed out.",0 +2416,"I eat p***y like I smoke cigarettes…. All the way to the butt. + +EDIT: to all the WebMD providers who put comments about how smoking is bad for you…It’s a joke ppl. I do not smoke!",0 +2417,"A woman tries getting on a bus, but realizes her skirt is too tight. As the bus stopped and it was her turn to get on, she became aware that her skirt was too tight to allow her leg to come up to the height of the first step of the bus. Slightly embarassed and with a quick smile to the driver, she reached behind her to unzip her skirt a little, thinking that this would give her enough slack to raise her leg. She tried to take the step, but only to discover that she couldn't. + +With a little smile to the driver, she again reached behind to unzip a little more and again was unable to take the step. + +After becoming quite frusturated and embarassed, she once again attempted to unzip her skirt more in order to allow more leg room to get on the first step of the bus. + +About this time, a large Texan who was standing behind her picked her up easily by the waist and placed her gently on the step of the bus, + +She went ballistic and turned to the would-be Samaritan and yelled ""How dare you touch my body! I don't even know who you are!"" + +The texan smiled and drawled ""Well ma'am, normally I would agree with you but after you unzipped my fly three times I kinda figured we were friends.",0 +2418,"Death: Jack! Your time is up. I'll take you now.. Jack: Not today please, I have a lot more to do. + +Death: Oh no, you're the first on the list to die. + +Jack: Alright, I'll finish what I'm doing first. Even better, I'll make you some coffee while you wait. And after I'm done, we can leave. + +(Jack put sleeping pills in the coffee and when Death fell asleep, Jack erased his name and placed it at the end of the list) + +Death: Woah! My friend, I slept well. You're a good person Jack, you treated me very well. Because of that, I'll just start with the last one on the list.",0 +2419,"I found a homeless girl behind a dumpster once. So I took her home and gave her a bath. She was pretty and one thing led to another we started having sex. + +At one point we were shagging so hard the noises she was making, you would of thought she was still alive.",0 +2420,"An old country preacher had a teenage son, and it was getting time the boy should give some thought to choosing a profession.. Like many young men his age, the boy didn't really know what he wanted to do, and he didn't seem too concerned about it. + +One day, while the boy was away at school, his father decided to try an experiment. He went into the boy's room and placed on his study table four objects: + +1. A Bible. + +2. A silver dollar. + +3. A bottle of whiskey. + +4. A Playboy magazine. + +'I'll just hide behind the door,"" the old preacher said to himself. ""When he comes home from school today, I'll see which object he picks up.."" + +""If it's the Bible, he's going to be a preacher like me, and what a blessing that would be! + +""If he picks up the dollar, he's going to be a business man, and that would be okay, too. + +""But if he picks up the bottle, he's going to be a no-good drunken bum, and Lord, what a shame that would be. + +""And worst of all if he picks up that magazine he's going to be a skirt-chasing womanizer."" + +The old man waited anxiously, and soon heard his son's foot-steps as he entered the house whistling and heading for his room. The boy tossed his books on the bed, and as he turned to leave the room he spotted the objects on the table. With curiosity in his eye, he walked over to inspect them. + +Finally, he picked up the Bible and placed it under his arm. He picked up the silver dollar and dropped into his pocket. He uncorked the bottle and took a big drink, while he admired the magazine's centerfold. + +""Lord have mercy,"" the old preacher disgustedly whispered. ""He's gonna run for Congress.""",0 +2421,"When I was little, a strange man stepped out of a time machine and punched me for no reason!. So I've worked all my life to invent a time machine of my own, and I'm going back to when he was little and we'll see how he likes the taste of his own medicine.",0 +2422,"My girlfriend thinks I’m terrible in bed.. Kind of an unfair judgement to make in less than a minute. + + +Edit: Thanks for 10k upvotes! New PB is 59 seconds!",0 +2423,"I broke up with a girl once because she was having hallucinations.. She said ""Carl, I.. can't see you anymore""... That was weird. I was like- ""Babe, I'm standing right here."" then she said ""No, you don't understand... I'm seeing someone else"" which was really bizarre because it was just the two of us in the room. I had to break it off after that.",0 +2424,My wife asked if I could stop singing ‘Wonderwall’. I said maybe,0 +2425,"Once I saw this guy on a bridge about to jump. I said, ""Don't do it!"" He said, ""Nobody loves me."". I said, ""God loves you. Do you believe in God?"" + +He said, ""Yes."" I said, ""Are you a Christian or a Jew?"" He said, ""A Christian."" I said, ""Me, too! Protestant or Catholic?"" He said, ""Protestant."" I said, ""Me, too! What franchise?"" He said, ""Baptist."" I said, ""Me, too! Northern Baptist or Southern Baptist?"" He said, ""Northern Baptist."" I said, ""Me, too! Northern Conservative Baptist or Northern Liberal Baptist?"" + +He said, ""Northern Conservative Baptist."" I said, ""Me, too! Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region, or Northern Conservative Baptist Eastern Region?"" He said, ""Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region."" I said, ""Me, too!"" + +Northern Conservative†Baptist Great Lakes Region Council of 1879, or Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region Council of 1912?"" He said, ""Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region Council of 1912."" I said, ""Die, heretic!"" And I pushed him over. + +-Emo Philips",0 +2426,"An African leader makes an official trip to Russia.. As he's leaving, the Russian leader tells him that in Russia they have a farewell custom called ""Russian Roulette"", to demonstrate one's courage. + +The Russian whips out a revolver, loads one chamber, gives the cylinder a spin, puts the gun to his head and pulls the trigger... + +Click! Empty chamber. + +He hands the revolver to his African guest and says,"" Your turn."" + +Not to be outdone, the African repeats the ritual... Click! Empty. + +The next year, the Russian visits his counterpart in his country. + +As he's leaving, the African tells him that he was very impressed with ""Russian Roulette"" and that he has devised an African ritual to demonstrate one's courage. + +The African then disappears through a door, only to reappear a few minutes later smiling and says, ""Your turn."" + +The African escorts the Russian through the door. + +In the room are 6 of the most beautiful, naked women he has ever seen. + +The African explains that he is to choose 1 of the women, who will perform oral sex on him. + +Absolutely dumbfounded, the Russian asks, ""What kind of test of courage is this?"" + +The African calmly answers, + +""One of them is a cannibal.""",0 +2427,Why cant Michael Jackson go within 500m of a school zone.... Because he's dead,0 +2428,"A man is in a long line at the grocery store. A man is in a long line at the grocery store. As he got to the register he realized he had forgotten to get condoms. So he asked the checkout girl if she could have some condoms brought up to the register. She asked, ""What size condoms?"" The customer replied that he didn't know. She asked him to drop his pants. He did, she reached over the counter, grabbed hold of him, then picked up the store intercom and said ""One box of large condoms to register 10."" + +The next man in line thought this was interesting and, like most of us, up for a cheap thrill. When he got to the register, he told the checker that he too had forgotten to get condoms, and asked if she could have some brought up to the register. She asked him what size, and he stated that he didn't know. She asked him to drop his pants. He did, she gave him a quick feel, picked up the store intercom and said, ""One box of medium sized condoms to register 10."" + +A few customers back was this teen-aged boy. He thought what he had witnessed was way too kewl. He had never had any type of sexual contact with a live female, so he thought this was his chance. When he got up to the register, he told the checker he needed some condoms. She asked him what size, and he said he didn't know. She asked him to drop his pants and he did. She reached over the counter, gave him one quick squeeze, then picked up the intercom and said, ""Clean up at register 10!""",0 +2429,Please help me I'm trapped. In a Haiku factory.. Save me before they,0 +2430,"What is Harry Potter’s favorite way to get down a hill?. Walking. + +… + +j/k…rolling.",0 +2431,"My son was just thrown out of school. My son was thrown out of school today for letting a girl in his class give him a hand-job. +I said ""Son, that's 3 schools this year! You'd better stop before you're banned from teaching altogether.""",0 +2432,"Ole and Sven are elderly friends who die in a snowmobiling accident, drunker than skunks And go to Hell.. The Devil observes that they are really enjoying themselves. + +He says to them + +‘Doesn’t the heat and smoke bother you?’ + +Ole replies, ‘Vell, ya know, ve’re from nordern Minnesooota, da land of snow an ice, an ve’re yust happy fer a chance ta varm up a little bit, ya know.’ + +The devil decides that these two aren’t miserable enough and turns up the heat even more. + +When he returns to the room of the two from Minnesota, the devil finds them in light jackets and hats, grilling Walleye and drinking beer. + +The devil is astonished and exclaims, + +‘Everyone down here is in misery, and you two seem to be enjoying yourselves?’ + +Sven replies, ‘Vell, ya know, ve don’t git too much varm veather up dere at da Falls, so ve’ve yust got ta haff a fish fry vhen da veather’s dis nice.’ + +The devil is absolutely furious. + +He can hardly see straight. + +Finally he comes up with the answer. + +The two guys love the heat because they have been cold all their lives. + +The devil decides to turn all the heat off in Hell. + +The next morning, the temperature is 60 below zero, icicles are hanging everywhere, and people are shivering so bad that they are unable to wail, moan or gnash their teeth. + +The devil smiles and heads for the room with Ole and Sven. + +He gets there and finds them back in their parkas, bomber hats, and mittens. + +They are jumping up and down, cheering, yelling and screaming like madmen. + +The devil is dumbfounded, + +‘I don’t understand, when I turn up the heat you’re happy. Now its freezing cold and you’re still happy. What is wrong with you two?’ + +They both look at the devil in surprise and say, + +‘Vell, don’t ya know, if hell iss froze over, dat must mean da Vikings von da Super Bowl.",0 +2433,"My interviewer asked me to describe myself in one word.. I replied “vague” + +He asked, “can you elaborate?” + +I said, “yes.”",0 +2434,"A teacher asked the children in her 3rd-year class, ""What do you want to be when you grow up?"". Little Johnny answered first. ""I want to start out as a S.A.S. officer, go to the Middle East and kill loads of militant Muslims, return as a national hero, then become a billionaire, go to the most expensive clubs, find me the finest nymphomaniac tart, give her a Ferrari, an apartment in Copacabana, a mansion in Paris, a jet to travel throughout Europe, an Infinite Visa Card, loads of cocaine, and all the while banging her like a loose barn door in a hurricane."" + +The teacher, shocked, and not knowing what to do with this unfortunate response from little Johnny, decided not to acknowledge what he said and simply tried to continue with the lesson. + +""And how about you, Sarah?"" + +""I wanna be Johnny's tart Miss!""",0 +2435,"The wife has just phoned me to tell me that 3 women in her office have received flowers today and they are absolutely gorgeous.. I said, ""That's probably why !!""",0 +2436,"An old farmer got up in the middle of the night to use the toilet.. As he was heading back to bed, he looked out the window and saw the lights on in his shed. A closer inspection revealed men loading his tools and farm machinery into their truck. + +He rushes to the phone and calls 000 (911) + +""I need the police! There are some guys clearing out my shed!"" + +""OK sir, we have dispatched officers, they should be there in about an hour."" + +""An hour?! But they'll be long gone by then!"" + +""I'm sorry sir but there are no officers in your area."" + +The farmer hangs up angrily, waits 10 minutes and then calls 000 again. + +""Hi, it's me again. Don't worry about sending those cops, I've just shot the robbers."" and he hangs up. + +Less then 10 minutes later, three cop cars and a helicopter arrive and the robbers are arrested. The sergeant goes up to the house and bangs on the door. The farmer opens it in his dressing gown and holding a cup of tea. + +""What's going on here!? You said you shot the robbers!"" + +""You said there were no officers in my area.""",0 +2437,"My son was spending too much time playing computer games, so I said, ""Son, when Abe Lincoln was your age, he was studying books by the light of the fireplace."". He considered this for a moment and replied: “When Abe Lincoln was your age he was The President of the United States.”",0 +2438,"An atheist dies and goes to hell.... ...and notices he's in a lush park with butterflies, his physical body has transformed back into its prime, and he's then greeted by Satan who says ""sup homie? Welcome to hell. Let me show you around, you're gonna love it here mate."" + +Satan points to a nice house and says ""what do you think of this house?"" The atheist replies ""It's beautiful, I could never afford anything like that in my life."" Satan gave him a key ring and said ""well it's yours now. Free utilites, Netflix, Hulu, and there's a PS5, Nintendo Switch, all your favorite John Hughes films, you name it! It's all yours now, I like my residents to be cozy."" The atheist thanked Satan. Satan replied ""you're welcome. But before you get settled, I got more to show you. Follow me!"" + +They walk further along the park. The sun is shining bright and there's a nice fragrance in the air. Then Satan points to a parking garage and says ""click the button on your key ring."" The atheist clicks it and notices a particular car flashing its lights. He says, ""is that a silver Tesla?"" Satan replied ""I heard its your dream car, right? I just think that everyone deserves a reliable way of transportation. I don't want anyone panting to get around in hell. That Tesla is all yours."" The atheist thanked him. + +He and Satan continue walking through the park and things still seem amicable. There are critters playing and flowers blooming. Then a beautiful woman rushed up to the two and says ""what's up Satan...heyyyy, aren't you a handsome looking fellow"". Satan said, ""everyone deserves the partner of their dreams so..."" The woman gives the atheist her number and says ""here's my number, call me when the tour's over and we'll have fun."" The atheist is excited but continues walking with Satan. + +Then the atheist suddenly sees a fence. He gets a whiff of sulfur coming from the other side of the fence and hears some screaming. He looks through a hole in the fence and notices people getting tortured and impaled and pools of magma. The atheist is horrified and said ""what is going on in there?"" Satan said ""oh, those are the Christians. I won't pretend to understand why, but they seem to prefer it that way""",0 +2439,"A kid is selling lemonade…. The boy’s sign reads “1 cup for 25¢, 3 cups for $1 + +A construction worker stops by and asks to buy one cup of lemonade. +""25 cents"", says the kid. + +The construction worker then buys another one, and another one, paying 25 cents each. + +As the construction worker walks away, he turns around with a smile, and says: ""Hey kid, you realize I just bought three cups for 75¢… Maybe lemonade stands aren’t your thing."" + +""I guess you're right"" says the kid good-naturedly as he sets up the next 3 cups.",0 +2440,"a bear walks into a bar and says, ""give me a whiskey and... cola"". ""why the big pause?"" Asks the bartender. + +The bear shrugged. ""I'm not sure; I was born with them.""",0 +2441,"A cowboy appeared before St. Peter at the Pearly Gates. 'Have you ever done anything of particular merit?', St. Peter asked.. 'Well, I can think of one thing,' the cowboy offered. + +'On a trip to the Black Hills out in South Dakota, I came upon a gang of bikers who were threatening a young woman. I directed them to leave her alone, but they wouldn't listen. So, I approached the largest and most tattooed biker and smacked him in the face, kicked his bike over, ripped out his nose ring, and threw it on the ground. I yelled, 'Now, back off or I'll kick the shit out of all of you!' + +St Peter was impressed, 'When did this happen?' + +'Couple of minutes ago.’",0 +2442,Pro-Tip: If a girl in a hot bikini DMs you about crypto. Ignore him.,0 +2443,"So, these two engineers are trying to determine the height of a flagpole.... ...A blonde woman wearing a tool belt and hardhat comes walking by, notices the engineers with their problem and goes over to help. She loosens the bolts at the base of the pole, lays it down on its side, then takes her tape measure and runs it down the side of the pole. + + ""26 feet 6 inches"" She says to the two perplexed engineers, and then walks off. + One engineer looks at the other and says, ""Typical blonde. We want the height and she gives us the length!""",0 +2444,"What are the 3 most useless things?. Pope's balls, nun's nipples and thank you from Boss without a raise.",0 +2445,I used to steal Mitch Hedberg jokes.. I still do. But I used to too.,0 +2446,"A man is buying a banana, an apple and two eggs. The female cashier says: ""You must be single."" The man answers: “Wow, how did you know that?”. +Cashier: “Because you’re ugly.”",0 +2447,Did you hear about the guy who was dyslexic and gay?. He’s still in Daniel,0 +2448,"My 12 year old just told me a joke. He said “I’ve been trying to cut down the amount of video games I play, I’m only playing for 30 minutes before I go to bed. Last night I went to bed 8 times.”",0 +2449,"When receiving payment in gold coins, pirates used to verify their purity by biting into them. In other word, criminals only accepting payment in bit coins goes long way back",0 +2450,"It's my cake day, so one of my favorite jokes ... A sixteen year-old boy came home with a brand new Ford F150.. His parents look at the truck and ask, ""Where did you get that truck?!"" + +""I bought it today,"" he says. ""With what money?"" says his mother. They knew what a new F150 cost. + +""Well,"" he says, ""this one cost me just fifteen dollars."" + +The father looks at him like he's crazy. ""Who would sell a truck like that for fifteen dollars?"" he says. + +""It was the lady up the street,"" says the boy. ""I don't know her name - they just moved in. She saw me ride past on my bike and asked me if I wanted to buy her F150 for fifteen dollars."" + +""Oh my Goodness!"" says the mother. ""Maybe she's mentally ill or has Alzheimer's something. John, you better go see what's going on."" + +So the boy's father walks up the street to the house where the lady lives and finds her out in the yard calmly planting flowers. He introduces himself as the father of the boy to whom she had sold a new Ford F150 truck for fifteen dollars and asks to know why she did it. + +""Well,"" she says, ""two days ago my husband left on a business trip. Yesterday I got a phone call from his boss and found out that he really ran off to Hawaii with his secretary and doesn't intend to come back."" + +""Oh, my goodness, I'm so sorry,"" the father says. ""But what does that have to do with my son and your truck?"" + +""Well, this morning he called and told me he was stranded because he got robbed of his wallet with all his credit cards and cash. He told me to sell his new F150 and send him the money. So I did.""",0 +2451,"So was at a bar last night and saw this fat chick wearing a shirt that said, ""Caution, I'm a maneater"". I walked up to the girl and timidly said, ""Excuse me, Miss...about your shirt."". She interrupted me before I could continue and furiously shouted, ""Oh let me guess, you're here to make a comment about how I'm so fat and how I actually eat men. I can't help my weight you know. I have feelings too and your comments can really hurt."" + +I looked at her, confused and said,""That's actually not what I was going to say at all."" + +""Oh…"" she replied as a smile started to come across her face. ""What were you going to say?"" + +""That's not how you spell manatee.""",0 +2452,I was horrified when my wife told me that my six-year-old son wasn't actually mine.. Apparently I need to pay more attention during school pick-up.,0 +2453,"“I love my job!” exclaimed the farmer. “All you do is boss me around all day!” complained one of his sheep. “What did you say?” challenged the farmer. The sheep glared back and growled.... + +“You herd me.”",0 +2454,My penis size is like Donald Trump's net worth. It is a lot smaller than what I tell everyone it is.,0 +2455,"I organized a threesome last week.. There were a couple of no shows, but I did alright.",0 +2456,"A creationist told me that evolution must be wrong because it violates the second law of thermodynamics. His claim was that in order for simple organisms like bacteria to evolve into much more complex life like fish and mice and horses and gorillas and people, an enormous input of energy would be required, therefore it must be impossible. + +I stayed up all night trying to think of something that would refute his claim, and then it dawned on me.",0 +2457,"A guy was boarding a plane when he heard that the Pope was on the same flight. ""This is exciting!"" thought the gentleman. ""I've always been a big fan of the Pope. Perhaps I'll be able to see him in person.” Suddenly, the man realized his seat was right next to the Pope himself!. + +Still, the gentleman was too shy to speak to His Holiness. + +Shortly after take-off, the Pope took a crossword puzzle out of his carry on bag and began penciling in the answers. + +""This is fantastic!"" the gentleman mused. ""I'm really good at crosswords!"" + +It crossed his mind that if the Pope got stuck, he’d ask him for assistance. + +Almost as if providence struck, the Pope turned to the man and said, ""Excuse me, but do you know a four letter word referring to a woman that ends in 'unt'?"" + +The three Cardinals behind, in front of and beside him shrunk down in their seats, as far as possible, all looking for something on the floor. + +The gentleman was in morbid shock. + +He couldn’t breathe. + +He went within himself, thought deeper, longer for a plausible answer and after almost a minute, the dark clouds of evil parted in his mind and the sun shone in. + +Turning to the Pope, the gentleman said with reverence and politeness, ""I believe, Your Holiness, that you're looking for the word, 'aunt.'"" + +""Of course!"" the Pope mused, not taking his gaze off the crossword. ""You wouldn’t happen to have an eraser, would you?""",0 +2458,"A teacher tells her student to tell a story with a moral in it.. Little Johnny says, ""All right. I got one. There's a horse and chicken playing in the meadow and the horse falls into the quicksand. He says 'Hurry up! Go get the farmer! Get me out of here!' The chicken runs back to the farm, but the farmer is nowhere to be seen."" + +""Oh my,"" the teacher gasps with a horrified look on her face. + +""So the chicken takes the BMW, backs it up near the quicksand, throws a rope to the horse, ties it up to the bumper and pulls the horse out. The horse is so very thankful."" + +""What happened next?"" the teacher asks, feeling relieved. + +""A couple days later... the *chicken* falls into the same quicksand and says, 'Hurry up! Hurry up! Go get the farmer!' So the horse thinks to himself, 'Well... I could probably stand over this quicksand.' So, he stands over it and says to the chicken, 'Grab hold of my penis!' So the chicken grabs hold of the horse's penis and gets pulled out."" + +The teacher is suddenly weirded out by the direction the story is going and asks, ""Umm... Johnny? That's nice and all, but what's the moral of the story?"" + +Without hesitation, Johnny responds with, ""The moral of the story is: if you're hung like a horse, you don't need a BMW to pick up chicks.""",0 +2459,Saw a guy the other day wearing a Let’s Go Brandon T-shirt. It was nice to see someone representing the LGBTee community.,0 +2460,What is Ronald McDonald's approach to dating?. Court her. Pound her.,0 +2461,"A Russian communist is lying on his deathbed. His friends are gathered around him all somber. The old man turns to one of them and says, + +""Dimitri, remember in 1921 you were almost executed? Well, you should know that I ratted you out to the Cheka. I hope you forgive me."" + +""Oh, no worries buddy,"" says Dimitri. + +The Communist then turns to another friend. + +""Petya, remember being sentenced in 1937 to 25 years in the gulag? Well, it was me who went to the NKVD. Please forgive me."" + +""No hard feelings, my friend. You are forgiven,"" says Petya. + +""Misha, I must confess to you that I had you sent to the penal battalion in 1942. I am terribly sorry about that day."" + +""Please my friend, we all forgive you. You may go in peace,"" says Misha. + +""Thank you, comrades, for being with me throughout all these years,"" says the old communist with a tear streaming down his face. ""I don't know where I'd be if it wasn't for you. I never knew you loved me that much despite me being a stool pigeon."" + +His friends are visibly touched by his words. Finally, he gathers his last strength and says. + +""And in honor of our deep friendship I want you to fulfill my last wish. See that cactus plant on the windowsill? As soon as I die, I want you to take it and shove it up my ass."" + +Just as his friends were about to say something the old communist took his last breath. + +So Petya rushes to the window, takes the cactus plant off and together they shove it up their dead friend's butt. Suddenly, the friends hear a loud banging on the door followed by a gruff voice shouting: + +""Open up, it's the police. We've received information that an old Bolshevik has been tortured to death.""",0 +2462,"The Pope contracts a rare terminal illness.. The best specialists were quietly called in from around the world for consultation. After much debate and research, they determined that the only hope to save the Pope's life was for him to have sexual relations with a woman. His advisors were notified and they in turn spoke in confidence with the pope. The Pope informs them that he needs a day to pray about it. + +The next day the Pope summons his advisors and has the room sealed. + +""My sons, after much prayerful consideration I have an answer. I have decided that you shall arrange for this most unusual treatment to preserve my life, for the good of the church, but on three conditions"". ""What are the conditions, Your Holiness?"" + +""First, the woman that you choose must be blind. For if she sees that she is with the pope, she may either get sense of self-importance as the only woman to ever bed a pope, or she may lose her faith in the sanctity of my station. She must be blind"". + +""It will be so, what about the next condition?"" + +""For the same reason, she must also be deaf. While I try to be a righteous man, I am a man and as such I may cry out in pleasure during the act. She must not know that she is with the pope, so she must be deaf"". + +""Very wise, it will be done. What is the third condition?"" + +""Big tits"".",0 +2463,"How to help your local politician qualify for a mental asylum. A politician is visiting the local mental asylum, and asks ""How do you decide whether someone should be admitted here?"" + +""Well,"" says the director, ""We fill up a bath with water, then give the patient a teaspoon, a mug, and a bucket, and ask them to empty the bath as quickly as possible."" + +""I see,"" says the politician, ""and if he's got any sense he'll choose the bucket."" + +""No,"" says the director, ""If he's got any sense he'll pull the plug out. Would you like a room with a view?""",0 +2464,"So a village boy and a modern girl fall in love and want to try 69. The boy doesn’t know about 69 so the girl takes the lead. + +He lies down on the floor and she squats down over his face to assume the position and farts out uncontrollably directly in his face. Embarrassed she stands up and apologises. + +She squats down for another go but farts again, this time even louder then before. She gets up and apologises again. + +Before she can have a third go, her boyfriend, red with anger, gets up hurriedly, and runs out saying “ if you think I’m gonna lie there and be farted 67 more times in my face, you are mad’. + +Edit 1: Thanks for the comments, upvotes and awards. + +Edit 2: The real jokes are in the comment section!!",0 +2465,"a Scottish man walks into a bar in canada. He noticed there is an animal's head hanging on the wall and asked the bartender what is it + +""A moose"" replied the bartender + +""Jesus christ! How big are the cats here?"" Said the scot",0 +2466,"A man with severe headaches went to the doctor.. + +The doctor examined him and eventually said: “The good news is I can cure your headaches but the bad news is that you have a rare condition which causes your testicles to press up against the base of your spine and the pressure creates one hell of a headache. The only solution is to remove the testicles.” + +The man was shocked and depressed. He wondered if he had anything to live for. He thought for a while, but decided he had no choice but to go through with it. + +Afterwards, he was headache free for the first time in over 20 years, but he still felt sad that he was missing a part of himself. As he walked down the street he saw a men’s clothing store and thought he needed a new suit. + +An elderly salesman eyed him quickly and said: “Let’s see, you’re a size 44 long”. + +The man replied: “That’s right, how did you know?” + +“Been in the business 60 years!” the salesman said. + +The man tried on the suit and it fit perfectly. The tailor asked: “How about a new shirt?” The man nodded his head. + +“Let’s see, 16 and a half neck, 34 sleeve,” the salesman said. The man was surprised again that the shirt fit perfectly as well. + +The salesman then asked: “How about new underwear?” The man nodded again. + +The salesman stepped back, eyed the man’s waist and said: “Let’s see, size 36.” + +The man laughed and replied: “Finally I’ve got you! I’ve worn size 32 since I was 18-years-old.” + +The tailor shook his head and answered: “You can’t wear a size 32. Size 32 underwear would press your testicles against the base of your spine and give you one hell of a headache.”",0 +2467,"So…. +An Afghan, an Albanian, and Algerian, an American, an Andorran, an Angolan, an Antiguan, an Argintine, an Armenian, an Australian, an Austrian, an Azerbaijani, a Bahamian, a Bahraini, a Bangladeshi, a Barbadian, a Barbudans, a Batswanan, a Belarusian, a Belgian, a Belizean, a Beninese, a Bhutanese, a Bolivian, a Bosnian, a Brazilian, a Brit, a Bruneian, a Bulgarian, a Burkinabe, a Burmese, a Burundian, a Cambodian, a Cameroonian, a Canadian, a Cape Verdean, a Central African, a Chadian, a Chilean, a Chinese, a Colombian, a Comoran, a Congolese, a Costa Rican, a Croatian, a Cuban, a Cypriot, a Czech, a Dane, a Djibouti, a Dominican, a Dutchman, an East Timorese, an Ecuadorean, an Egyptian, an Emirian, an Equatorial Guinean, an Eritrean, an Estonian, an Ethiopian, a Fijian, a Filipino, a Finn, a Frenchman, a Gabonese, a Gambian, a Georgian, a German, a Ghanaian, a Greek, a Grenadian, a Guatemalan, a Guinea-Bissauan, a Guinean, a Guyanese, a Haitian, a Herzegovinian, a Honduran, a Hungarian, an I-Kiribati, an Icelander, an Indian, an Indonesian, an Iranian, an Iraqi, an Irishman, an Israeli, an Italian, an Ivorian, a Jamaican, a Japanese, a Jordanian, a Kazakhstani, a Kenyan, a Kittian and Nevisian, a Kuwaiti, a Kyrgyz, a Laotian, a Latvian, a Lebanese, a Liberian, a Libyan, a Liechtensteiner, a Lithuanian, a Luxembourger, a Macedonian, a Malagasy, a Malawian, a Malaysian, a Maldivan, a Malian, a Maltese, a Marshallese, a Mauritanian, a Mauritian, a Mexican, a Micronesian, a Moldovan, a Monacan, a Mongolian, a Moroccan, a Mosotho, a Motswana, a Mozambican, a Namibian, a Nauruan, a Nepalese, a New Zealander, a Nicaraguan, a Nigerian, a Nigerien, a North Korean, a Northern Irishman, a Norwegian, an Omani, a Pakistani, a Palauan, a Palestinian, a Panamanian, a Papua New Guinean, a Paraguayan, a Peruvian, a Pole, a Portuguese, a Qatari, a Romanian, a Russian, a Rwandan, a Saint Lucian, a Salvadoran, a Samoan, a San Marinese, a Sao Tomean, a Saudi, a Scottish, a Senegalese, a Serbian, a Seychellois, a Sierra Leonean, a Singaporean, a Slovakian, a Slovenian, a Solomon Islander, a Somali, a South African, a South Korean, a Spaniard, a Sri Lankan, a Sudanese, a Surinamer, a Swazi, a Swede, a Swiss, a Syrian, a Taiwanese, a Tajik, a Tanzanian, a Togolese, a Tongan, a Trinidadian or Tobagonian, a Tunisian, a Turkish, a Tuvaluan, a Ugandan, a Ukrainian, a Uruguayan, a Uzbekistani, a Venezuelan, a Vietnamese, a Welshman, a Yemenite, a Zambian and a Zimbabwean all go to a nightclub... + +The doorman stops them and says “Sorry I can’t let you in without a Thai.”",0 +2468,"How to get out of a speeding ticket.... Woman: Is there a problem, Officer? + +Officer: Ma'am, you were speeding. + +Woman: Oh, I see. + +Officer: Can I see your license please? + +Woman: I'd give it to you but I don't have one. + +Officer: Don't have one? + +Woman: Lost it 4 times for drunk driving. + +Officer: I see...Can I see your vehicle registration papers please. + +Woman: I can't do that. + +Officer: Why not? + +Woman: I stole this car. + +Officer: Stole it? + +Woman: Yes, and I killed and hacked up the owner. + +Officer: You what? + +Woman: His body parts are in plastic bags in the trunk if you want to see. + +The Officer looks at the woman, slowly backs away to his car, and calls for back up. Within minutes 5 police cars circle the car. A senior officer slowly approaches the car, clasping his half drawn gun. + +Officer 2: Ma'am, could you step out of your vehicle +please! + +The woman steps out of her vehicle. + +Woman: Is there a problem sir? + +Officer 2: One of my officers told me that you have stolen this car and murdered the owner. + +Woman: Murdered the owner? + +Officer 2: Yes, could you please open the trunk of your car, please. + +The woman opens the trunk, revealing nothing but an empty trunk. + +Officer 2: Is this your car, ma'am? + +Woman: Yes, here are the registration papers. + +The first officer is stunned. + +Officer 2: One of my officers claims that you do not have a driving license. + +The woman digs into her handbag and pulls out a clutch purse and hands it to the officer. The officer snaps open the clutch purse and examines the license. He looks quite puzzled. + +Officer 2: Thank you ma'am, one of my officers told me you didn't have a license, that you stole this car, and that you murdered and hacked up the owner. + +Betcha the liar told you I was speeding too.",0 +2469,"Religion. I went to an Inter-Religion Integration Seminar. + +The Bishop came, laid his hands on my hand and said, “By the will of Jesus Christ, you will walk today!” + +I smiled and told him I was not paralysed. + +The Rabbi came, laid his hands on my hand and said, “By the will of God Almighty, you will walk today! + +I was less amused when I told him there was nothing wrong with me. + +The Mullah came, took my hands and said, “Insha Allah, you will walk today!” + +I snapped at him, “There’s nothing wrong with me” + +The Hindu sadhu came and said ""Beta, you will walk on your legs today."" + +I said ""Babaji - nothing wrong with my legs"" + +The Buddhist Monk came, held my hands and said, “By the will of The Great Buddha, you will walk today!” + +I rudely told him there was nothing wrong with me. + +After the Seminar, I stepped outside and found my bicycle had been stolen. + +*I BELIEVE IN ALL RELIGIONS NOW...*",0 +2470,"A: Why are you so sad?. B: I was watching porn and all of a sudden my wife opened the door. + +A: Ok I see, but is that really such a big deal? + +B: I mean, she opened the door in the movie",0 +2471,"Jesus was wandering the desert, when he met an old man.. ""What brings you to the desert?"" asked Jesus. + +""I'm looking for my son. I lost him many years ago."" + +""How did you lose him? What happened?"" + +""I had one son- not by birth, by a heavenly miracle. He had tremendous struggles with temptation. At one point, he even died, and came back to life!"" + +Jesus couldn't believe it. Could this really be his father? + +""One last question: Are you by any chance a carpenter?"" + +""I am!"" + +Jesus rushed forward and embraced the old man. + +""Father, it is I! I've missed you!"" + +The old man smiled. + +""I've missed you too, Pinnochio!""",0 +2472,"An atheist dies, goes to hell, and finds himself in a lush park with butterflies.. His physical body has transformed back into its prime and he's then greeted by Satan who says ""Why hello there! Welcome to hell. Let me show you around, you're gonna love it here."" + +Satan points to a nice house and says ""what do you think of this house?"" The atheist replies ""It's beautiful, I could never afford anything like that in my life."" Satan gave him a key ring and said ""well it's yours now. Free utilites, Netflix, Hulu, and there's a PS5, Nintendo Switch, all your favorite John Hughes films, you name it! It's all yours now, I like my residents to be cozy."" The atheist thanked Satan. Satan replied ""you're welcome. But before you get settled, I got more to show you. Follow me!"" + +They walk further along the park. The sun is shining bright and there's a nice fragrance in the air. Then Satan points to a parking garage and says ""click the button on your key ring."" The atheist clicks it and notices a particular car flashing its lights. He says, ""is that a silver Tesla?"" Satan replied ""I heard its your dream car, right? I just think that everyone deserves a reliable way of transportation. I don't want anyone panting to get around in hell. That Tesla is all yours."" The atheist thanked him. + +He and Satan continue walking through the park and things still seem amicable. There are critters playing and flowers blooming. Then a beautiful woman rushed up to the two and says ""what's up Satan...heyyyy, aren't you a handsome looking fellow"". Satan said, ""everyone deserves the partner of their dreams so..."" The woman gives the atheist her number and says ""here's my number, call me when the tour's over and we'll have fun."" The atheist is excited but continues walking with Satan. + +Then the atheist suddenly sees a fence. He gets a whiff of sulfur coming from the other side of the fence and hears some screaming. He looks through a hole in the fence and notices people getting tortured and impaled and pools of magma. The atheist is horrified and said ""what is going on in there?"" Satan said ""oh, those are the Christians. I won't pretend to understand why, but they seem to prefer it that way""",0 +2473,I dumped my last girlfriend because she was a communist.. I should've known sooner. There were red flags everywhere.,0 +2474,"Pizza guy: your total is $26.34. Me: I can't afford that + +Pizza guy: well you're gonna have to pay some other way, then + +Me: \[takes out wallet\] wait I forgot I had 30 bucks + +Porn director: Cut, WTF?",0 +2475,"Why the head on a man's penis is larger than the shaft?. Several years ago, Great Britain funded a study to determine why the head on a man's penis is larger than the shaft. +The study took two years and cost over 1.2 million pounds. The study concluded that the reason the head of a man's penis is larger than the shaft is to provide the man with more pleasure during sex. + +After the results were published, France decided to conduct their own study on the same subject. They were convinced that the results of the British study were incorrect. +After three years of research at a cost of in excess of 2 million Euros, the French researchers concluded that the head of a man's penis is larger than the shaft to provide the woman with more pleasure during sex. + +When the results of the French study were released, Australia decided to conduct their own study. +The Aussies didn't really trust British or French studies. +So, after nearly three hours of intensive research and a cost of right around 75 dollars (three cases of beer), the Aussie study was complete. +They concluded that the reason the head on a man's penis is larger than the shaft is to prevent your hand from flying off and hitting you in the forehead.",0 +2476,"An atheist dies, and wakes up in an alternate heaven.. Baffled and full of questions he is being shown around by God. + +""Why am I here? I am an atheist."" + +""That does not matter, all good people end up here."" + +As they pass by a gay couple kissing the atheist wonders + +""Isn't that a sin?"" Can I get Covid here? + +""That does not matter, all good people end up here."" + +They come by a Galactic Rebel, silently meditating. + +""Wait, so you even take in people who believe in the Force? + +""That does not matter, all good people end up here."" + +Surprised, but intrigued the atheist looks around - when one last question comes to his mind + +""But where are all the Christians?"" + +""Well... all good people end up here.""",0 +2477,My annual cake day joke repost - how can you tell the difference between a plumber and a chemist?. Ask them to pronounce unionized,0 +2478,"Three guys are drinking in a bar. “Three guys are drinking in a bar when a drunk comes in, staggers up to the counter, and points at the guy in the middle, shouting, ""Your mom's the best sex in town!"" Everyone expects a fight, but the guy ignores him, so the drunk wanders off and bellies up to the bar at the far end. Ten minutes later, the drunk comes back, points at the same guy, and says, ""I just did your mom, and it was sw-eeeeet!"" Again, the guy refuses to take the bait, and the drunk goes back to the far end of the bar. Ten minutes later, he comes back and announces, ""Your mom liked it!"" Finally, the guy interrupts. ""Go home, dad, you're drunk.”",0 +2479,I heard 50 Cent wasn’t expected at the half time show. I didn’t think it was a surprise he came out after two quarters,0 +2480,"A Finnish joke from the Cold War. During the Cold War, a foreign journalist asked a Finnish general what Finland would do if the USSR and NATO would fight a war in Finland. + +He replied “first we would beat out NATO, and then the Soviets”. + +The journalist was surprised about the order and asked why. + +“We are civilized people. Work comes before pleasure”, the general replied.",0 +2481,"A lawyer married a woman who had previously divorced ten husbands.. + +On their wedding night, she told her new husband, ""Please be gentle, I'm still a virgin."" ""What?"" said the puzzled groom. ""How can that be if you've been married ten times?"" + +""Well, Husband #1 was a sales representative. He kept telling me how great it was going to be. + +Husband #2 was in software services. He was never really sure how it was supposed to function, but he said he'd look into it and get back to me. + +Husband #3 was from field services. He said everything checked out diagnostically, but he just couldn't get the system up. + +Husband #4 was in telemarketing. Even though he knew he had the order, he didn't know when he would be able to deliver. + +Husband #5 was an engineer. He understood the basic process, but wanted three years to research, implement, and design a new state-of-the-art method. + +Husband #6 was from finance and administration. He thought he knew how, but he wasn't sure whether it was his job or not. + +Husband #7 was in marketing. Although he had a nice product, he was never sure how to position it. + +Husband #8 was a psychologist. All he ever did was talk about it. + +Husband #9 was a gynecologist. All he did was look at it. + +Husband #10 was a stamp collector. All he ever did was...God, I miss him! + +But now that I've married you, I'm really excited!"" ""Good,"" said the new husband, ""but, why?"" ""You're a lawyer. This time I know I'm going to get really screwed!",0 +2482,"A guy sees a lamp, rubs it, and a Genie comes out. The genie is so happy that he decides to grant one wish. The guy thinks about it and says ""I want to be a powerful man in the world, and have a beautiful wife"". The next morning the guy awake in a unfamiliar room, and a beautiful woman said to him + +""Wake up John, it's a busy day, we have a car tour in Dallas""",0 +2483,"An American tourist in Australia got hit by a car.. He woke up in a hospital with a doctor standing over him. + +He asked the doctor, ""Did I come here to die?"" + +The doctor replied, ""Nah, mate, you came here yesterday.""",0 +2484,Someone got 25 years in prison for saying Putin was an idiot. 5 years for insulting the leader and 20 years for revealing state secrets.,0 +2485,One day Canada will take over the world. Then you will all be sorry,0 +2486,"Two Irishmen were sitting at a pub. Two Irishmen were sitting at a pub having beer and watching the brothel across the street. They saw a Baptist minister walk into the brothel, and one of them said, “Aye, ’tis a shame to see a man of the cloth goin’ bad.” Then they saw a rabbi enter the brothel, and the other Irishman said, “Aye, ’tis a shame to see that the Jews are fallin’ victim to temptation as well.” Then they see a catholic priest enter the brothel, and one of the Irishmen said, “What a terrible pity…one of the girls must be dying.",0 +2487,15% of women admit to having used vibrators.. The other 85% said they bought them new.,0 +2488,"Nuclear power is like anal sex. If done cleanly and properly, it might be even better than conventional methods. But add a few messy mistakes and it's considered taboo.",0 +2489,"Teacher: Use urinate in a sentence. Johnny: Urinate, but if you had bigger tits, you'd be a nine.",0 +2490,"A Muslim, a Buddhist and a Christian are forced to jump off a building. So the Buddhist man jumps first. He prays: Buddha, Buddha, Buddha, Buddha... When he reaches the ground, he lands safely. + +​ + +The next one is the Muslim. He jumps, and prays: Inshallah, Inshallah, Inshallah... Upon reaching the ground, he smashes so hard and dies instantly. + +​ + +The last one is the Christian man. He jumps and starts praying: O u r F a t h e r i n H e a v e n, hallowed be your name. YOUR KINGDOM COME! YOUR WILL... BUDDHA, BUDDHA, BUDDHA, BUDDHA!",0 +2491,"A king had 10 wild dogs. He used them to torture and kill any minister that misguided him.. A king had 10 wild dogs. +He used them to torture and kill any minister that misguided him. + +A minister once gave an opinion which was wrong and which the king didn’t like at all… +So he ordered that the minister to be thrown to the dogs. + +The minister said, +""I served you loyally 10 years and you do this..? + +The king was unrelenting. + +Minister pleaded""Please give me 10 days before you throw me to the dogs"" +The king agreed. + +In those 10 days the minister went to the keeper of the dogs and told him he wanted to serve the dogs for the next 10 days… + +The guard was baffled… +But he agreed. +So the minister started feeding the dogs, caring for them, washing them, providing all sorts of comfort for them. + +So when the 10 days were up… + +The king ordered that the minister be thrown to the dogs as sentenced . + +When he was thrown in, +everyone was amazed at what they saw.. +The dogs were wagging their tails playing with the condemned minister..licking his feet. + +The king was baffled at what he saw. ” what happened to the dogs? !!!” He growled. + +The minister then said;” +I served the dogs for only 10 days and they didn’t forget my service… +Yet I served you for 10 years and you forgot all at the first mistake!”… + +The king realised his mistake + +and + +Replaced the dogs with crocodiles !!",0 +2492,"What's a pirate's favorite letter?. A writ of safe passage from his majesty, King Charles II of England.",0 +2493,"My Daughter: ""Why did the chicken cross the road?"". Me: ""I dunno"" + +""To get to the idiots house"" +. +. +. +. +. +""Knock knock"" + +Me: ""Who's there?"" + +""It's the chicken...."" + + + +She's 8...",0 +2494,"Condom question. A girl is talking to her guy friend: ""I found condoms in my boyfriend's jacket. We don't use condoms and when I confronted him, he told me he uses them to masturbate. Do you ever do that??"" + +""Sure"", her guy friend replies. + +""Really?? You masturbate into condoms??!"" + +""Oh"", he responded, ""No. I thought you meant 'do I lie to my girlfriend'!""",0 +2495,German humor is like healthcare. Many Americans simply don't get it,0 +2496,"""As good as this bar is,"" said the Scotsman, "". I still prefer the pubs back home. In Glasgow , there's a wee place called McTavish's.... The landlord goes out of his way for the locals. When you buy four drinks, he'll buy the fifth drink."" +""Well, Angus,"" said the Englishman, ""At my local in London , the Red Lion, the barman will buy you your third drink after you buy the first two."" +""Ahhh, dat's nothin',"" said Paddy Sheehan, the Irishman. ""Back home in me favorite pub in Galway , the moment you set foot in the place, they'll buy you a drink, then another, all the drinks you like, actually. Then, when you've had enough drinks, they'll take you upstairs and see dat you get laid, all on the house!"" +The Englishman and Scotsman were suspicious of the claims. ""Did this actually happen to you?"" +""Not meself, personally, no,"" admitted the Irishman, ""but it did happen to me sister quite a few times.""",0 +2497,Why did Will use an open hand?. Because paper always beats Rock.,0 +2498,"Did you hear the Cookie Monster got Covid?. The CDC confirmed it was the om-nom-nom-nom-icron variant. + + + + +Edit: Thanks for the gold kind stranger! + +Edit 2: Thank you everyone for the awards. Just trying to brighten everyone's day with a little joke. I hope this joke spreads far and wide....like Covid. Stay safe everybody! + +Edit 3: I had not heard this joke before, but it does appear that u/GoogleBetaTester did beat me to the proverbial punchline on r/dadjokes so they deserve a lot of credit too.",0 +2499,What does D.N.A. stand for?. National Dyslexic Association,0 +2500,Maybe replacement theory is correct.. Even neo-nazi's are being replaced by black people.,0 +2501,"John Smith was the only Protestant to move into the large Catholic neighborhood.. On the first Friday of Lent, John was outside grilling a big juicy steak on his grill. Meanwhile all of his neighbors were eating cold tuna fish for supper. This went on each Friday during Lent. + +On the last Friday of Lent the neighborhood men got together and decided that something just HAD to be done about John, he was just tempting them to eat meat each Friday of Lent and they couldn't take it anymore. They decided to try and convert him to be Catholic. They went over and talked with him and were so happy that he decided to join all of his neighbors and become a Catholic. + +They took him to church and the priest sprinkled some water over him and told him ""You were born a Baptist, you were raised a Baptist and now you are a Catholic"". The men of the neighborhood were SO relieved, now their biggest Lent temptation was resolved. + +The next year's Lent rolled around. The first Friday of Lent came and just at supper time when the neighborhood was setting down to their fish dinners came the wafting smell of steak cooking on a grill. The neighborhood men could not believe their noses! What was going on??? They called each other up and decided to meet over in John's yard to see if he had forgotten it was a Friday in Lent. + +The group arrived just in time to see John standing over his grill with a small pitcher of water. He was pouring small droplets over his steak on the grill and saying, ""You were born a cow, you were raised a cow, and now you are a fish.""",0 +2502,"My wife threatened to divorce me when I said I was going to give our daughter a silly name.... + +So I called her Bluff...",0 +2503,A plane carrying Donald Trump made an emergency landing in New Orleans after alleged engine failure over the Gulf of Mexico.. Turns out there was just a loud whine coming from the right wing.,0 +2504,"Why did the Fox News Christmas tree catch fire?. They left it too close to the gaslight. + +Edit: Thanks for the upvotes and awards!",0 +2505,"Two Rednecks are eating in a fancy restaurant..... Suddenly, the woman sitting at the next table starts choking and gasping for air. Everyone else around just sits there watching, but one of the Rednecks JUMPS up, grabs the woman and yanks her out of the chair. He then pulls her dress up over her head, yanks her panties down and runs his tongue up the crack of her ass. She promptly spits out the piece of meat that was causing her distress. + +The Redneck saunters back to his seat with his chest puffed out over a job well done. Everyone in the place is looking at him in disbelief. He looks around at the crowd and loudly says, "" Whatchall looking at? You ain't never seen nobody do the Hind Lick Maneuver before?""",0 +2506,How do you get a group of loud Canadians to leave a party?. You ask them.,0 +2507,"The reason the Air Force, Army, Navy and Marines bicker among themselves, is that, they don't speak the same language.. For instance, take the simple phrase - Secure the building. + +The Army would post guards around the place. + +The Navy would turn out the lights and lock the doors. + +The Marines would kill everyone inside and set up headquarters. + +The Air Force would take out a five year lease with an option to buy.",0 +2508,"I just accidentally superglued my thumb and index finger together and at first, I started to panic but then I remembered that.... ...it’s always going to be okay!",0 +2509,"A LADY lost her handbag... It was found by an honest little boy and returned to her. + +Looking in her purse, she commented, “Hmm, that’s funny. When I lost my bag there was a $20 note in it. Now there are 20 $1 coins.” + +The boy replied, “That’s right, lady. The last time I found a lady’s purse, she didn’t have any change for a reward.”",0 +2510,"Every night, the sounds of loud aggressive pornography blast from my neighbours’ apartment.. We’ve tried talking about it but I don’t care what they say; I’m not disconnecting from their Bluetooth speakers.",0 +2511,God: Creates humans as they were meant to be.. Also god: New rules! I need you all to cut the extra skin off your penis.,0 +2512,"A lawyer goes to heaven. St Peter meets him at the pearly gates. The lawyer is impressed, but asks ""Are you sure it is my time? I'm not that old?"" + +St Peter says ""What do you mean? You're 86 years old."" + +The lawyer says ""No I'm not...I'm only 58. Why do you think I'm 86?"" + +St Peter says ""Well, we just added up all of the hours you've billed to your clients.""",0 +2513,"A French, a Brit, and an American are on an expedition in the Amazon. They are captured by a tribe of natives. The chief says to them, ""you must die for intruding our land. But it is our custom to allow you to choose your own death."" + +After some time, the Frenchman says, ""my great grandfather died by sword while fighting for France, I shall do the same to honor him."" + +He takes a sword and impales himself. The natives take him away, skin him, and turn him into a canoe. + +The Brit says, ""my father gave me his pistol on his deathbed. I shall shoot myself in honor of him."" + +The Brit takes the gun and shoots himself. The natives take him away, skin him, and turn him into a canoe. + +Awhile later, the American asks for a fork. Confused they give him a fork and he starts stabbing himself all over. + +The natives scream out, ""what are you doing?!"" + +The American replies, + +""You're not turning me into a canoe!"" + + + + +Edit: thanks for the awards! I think they are my first ones! + +I first heard this joke from an older gentleman who wouldn't have used ""foul language"", so thanks for all the alternative punchlines. They are hilarious.",0 +2514,"A Suggestion to Reddit HQ. Reddit should rename 'share' to 'spreddit', 'delete' to 'shreddit' and 'karma' to 'creddit'. Yet they haven't. I don't geddit.",0 +2515,"A bus full of ugly people crashes. A bus carrying only ugly people crashes into an oncoming truck, and everyone inside dies. They then get to meet their maker, and because of the grief they have experienced; He decides to grant them one wish each, before they enter Paradise. They're all lined up, and God asks the first one what the wish is. ""I want to be gorgeous,"" and so God snaps His fingers, and it is done. The second one in line hears this and says ""I want to be gorgeous too."" Another snap of His fingers and the wish is granted. This goes on for a while but when God is halfway down the line, the last guy in line starts laughing. When there are only ten people left, this guy is rolling on the floor, laughing. Finally, God reaches this guy and asks him what his wish will be. The guy calms down and says: "" Make 'em all ugly again.""",0 +2516,"Two engineering students were walking across campus when one asked - Where did you get such a great bike?. The second one replied, ""Well, I was walking along yesterday minding my own business when a beautiful woman rode up to me on this bike"". + +She threw the bike to the ground, took off all her clothes and said, ""Take what you want"". + +The first engineer nodded approvingly, ""Good choice, the clothes probably wouldn't have fit"".",0 +2517,"Cop : you are driving on the wrong side of the road. Driver: Sorry, I‘m English + +Cop: (shouting) Oii.. It‘s the rong soid of the roade ye was droivin down, innit?",0 +2518,"English to become the official European language. The European Commission has just announced an agreement whereby English will be the official language of the European Union rather than German, which was the other possibility.  + +As part of the negotiations, the British Government conceded that English spelling had some room for improvement and has accepted a 5- year phase-in plan that would become known as ""Euro-English"".  + +In the first year, ""s"" will replace the soft ""c"". Sertainly, this will make the sivil servants jump with joy. The hard ""c"" will be dropped in favour of ""k"". This should klear up konfusion, and keyboards kan have one less letter. + +There will be growing publik enthusiasm in the sekond year when the troublesome ""ph"" will be replaced with ""f"". This will make words like fotograf 20% shorter.  + +In the 3rd year, publik akseptanse of the new spelling kan be expekted to reach the stage where more komplikated changes are possible.  + +Governments will enkourage the removal of double letters which have always ben a deterent to akurate speling.  + +Also, al wil agre that the horibl mes of the silent ""e"" in the languag is disgrasful and it should go away.  + +By the 4th yer peopl wil be reseptiv to steps such as replasing ""th"" with ""z"" and ""w"" with ""v"".  + +During ze fifz yer, ze unesesary ""o"" kan be dropd from vords kontaining ""ou"" and after ziz fifz yer, ve vil hav a reil sensi bl riten styl.  + +Zer vil be no mor trubl or difikultis and evrivun vil find it ezi TU understand ech oza. Ze drem of a united urop vil finali kum tru.  + +Und efter ze fifz yer, ve vil al be speking German like zey vunted in ze forst plas. ",0 +2519,"A duck walks into a bar. He walks up to the bartender and asks + +""Got any bread?"" + +""No"" + +""Got any bread?"" + +""No"" + +""Got any bread?"" + +""No"" + +""Got any bread?"" + +""No, and if you ask again, I'll nail your beak to the bar!"" + +""Got any nails?"" + +""No"" + +""Got any bread?""",0 +2520,How does a non-binary samurai kill people?. They/Them,0 +2521,"Hey, I bet you're still a virgin.. Kid 1: ""Hey, I bet you're still a virgin."" +Kid 2: ""Yeah, I was a virgin until last night ."" +Kid 1: ""As if."" +Kid 2: ""Yeah, just ask your sister."" +Kid 1: ""I don't have a sister."" +Kid 2: ""You will in about nine months.""",0 +2522,"A naked man was walking down the street with a woman on his back. A bloke on the other side of the road asked, ""Where are you going?"" + +The naked man replied, ""To a fancy dress party."" + +""What as?"" asked the bemused gentleman. + +""A tortoise"", said the naked man. + +""Well, who is the woman on your back?"" said the intrigued gentleman. + +""Oh, that's Michelle."" + +EDIT - I changed the first ""gentleman"" to ""bloke."" I hope it makes more sense that way.",0 +2523,"My friend was bragging his new 3D printer can print a gun.. I wasn’t impressed, I’ve had a Canon printer for years!",0 +2524,"An elderly man is stopped by the police around 2 a.m. and is asked where he is going at this time of night.. The man replies, ""I am on my way to attend a lecture about gambling, hookers, alcohol abuse and the effects it has on the human body, as well as smoking, and staying out late."" + +The officer then asks, ""Really? Who is giving that lecture at this time of night?"" + +The man replies, ""My wife.""",0 +2525,Avril Lavigne could have just called her song Skater boy instead of Sk8er Boi.. Why'd you have to go and make things so complicated?,0 +2526,"Fred goes to a doctor.. He says, ""Doc, I want to be castrated. "" + +Doc says, ""Look, I don't know what kind of cult you're into or what your motives are, but I'm not going to do that sort of operation. "" + +Fred: ""Doc, I just want to be castrated, and I'm a littlee mbarrassed about talking about it, but I have $5,000 cash right here. Will you do it? "" + +Doc says, ""Well, OK, I guess I could make this one exception. I don't understand it, but OK. "" + +He puts Fred to sleep, does the trick, and is waiting at the bedside when Fred wakes up. + +""Well, Doc, how'd it go? "" Fred asks. + + ""It went fine, just fine. It's really not too difficult of an operation. As a matter of fact, $5,000 is a lot to pay for such a simple task, and I felt a little guilty about taking that much. So, while I was operating, I also noticed that you had never been circumcised, so I went ahead and did that, too. I think, it's really better for a man to be circumcised, and I hope you don't mind my... "" + + ""CIRCUMCISED! "" yells Fred. ""THAT'S the word!!! """,0 +2527,"An Expensive Suit. A man who just died is delivered to the mortuary wearing an expensive, expertly tailored black suit. + +The mortician asks the deceased’s wife how she would like the body dressed. He points out that the man does look good in the black suit he is already wearing. + +The widow, however, says that she always thought her husband looked his best in blue, and that she wants him in a blue suit. + +She gives the mortician a blank check and says, “I don’t care what it costs, but please have my husband in a blue suit for the viewing.” + +The woman returns the next day for the wake. To her delight, she finds her husband dressed in a gorgeous blue suit with a subtle chalk stripe; the suit fits him perfectly. + +She says to the mortician, “Whatever this cost, I’m very satisfied. You did an excellent job and I’m very grateful. How much did you spend?” + +To her astonishment, the mortician presents her with the blank check. “There’s no charge,” he says. + +“No, really, I must compensate you for the cost of that exquisite blue suit!” the woman says. + +“Honestly, ma’am,” the mortician says, “It cost nothing. You see, a deceased gentleman of about your husband’s size was brought in shortly after you left yesterday, and he was wearing an attractive blue suit. I asked his wife if she minded him going to his grave wearing a black suit instead, and she said it made no difference as long as he looked nice. + +Then it was just a matter of switching the heads.”",0 +2528,I'll never forget my Grandfather’s last words to me just before he died.. Stop shaking the ladder you little shit,0 +2529,"My father once asked me if I knew the difference between heaven and hell…. “In heaven” he said, “the Italians make the food and the British run the government” + +He then paused and said, “In hell, the British make the food and the Italians run the government” + +Edit: I’m beginning to think the reason he paused was because he realized he hasn’t been to Britain in a while :)",0 +2530,"A man had three beautiful girlfriends but didn’t know which one to marry. As a test, he decided to give each woman $5,000 to see how they would spend it.. The first girlfriend went out and got herself +a complete makeover, She told him, +""I spent the money so I could look pretty for you because I love you so much."" + + +The second went shopping and bought the man new golf clubs, an iPad, and 80-inch flatscreen television. She said, ""I bought these gifts for you because I love you so much. + + +The third woman took the $5,000 and invested it in the stock market, doubled her investment, returned $5,000 to the man, and reinvested the rest. She said, ""I am investing the rest of the money for our future because I love you so much, + + +The man thought long and hard about how each of his girlfriends had spent the money, and then he decided to marry the one with the biggest tits.",0 +2531,"Did you know the magnifying glass was invented by a Chinese guy?. Yeah, his name was Tzu Minh",0 +2532,"A joke I heard while working in China a few years ago. A Chinese state-owned container ship is highjacked by pirates. A Chinese Communist Party official is sent to negotiate. + +The pirates’ leader, waving his gun, shouted: “the ransom is TEN MILLION dollars! Or everyone on the ship will die!” + +The official responded, calmly: “I will give you twenty million, but you’ll write me a receipt of forty million.”",0 +2533,"After my dad died, I went to his favorite park to scatter his remains. A park employee came running, yelling ""STOP! You cant do that here!"" + +I said ""Why not?"" + +He said ""You have to cremate him first!""",0 +2534,I asked 10 people what LGBQT stood for?. I couldn’t get a straight answer,0 +2535,There are two kinds of people who care a lot about their exact age.. Small children and 39 year old's.,0 +2536,"A French guy showed me his yachts.. French guy: This is Un. This is Deux. This is Trois. This is Quatre. This is Six. + +Me: Where's the 5th one? + +French guy: Cinq.",0 +2537,"Husband doing crossword with his wife. Husband: Emphatic no, five letters. + +Wife: Never + +H: Pistol, 3 letters. + +W: Gun + +H: Disgust, 3 letters. + +W: Ugh + +H: Charity, 4 letters. + +W: Give + +H: Female sheep, 3 letters + +W: Ewe + +H: Pixar movie, 2 letters + +W: Up",0 +2538,Remember when Putin said he didn't have any plans to invade Ukraine?. I'm starting to think he was telling the truth.,0 +2539,"A car full of Irish nuns sitting at a traffic light in downtown Dublin, when a bunch of rowdy drunks pull up along side of them.. ""Hey, show us yer tits, ya bloody penguins!"" shouts one of the drunks. + +Quite shocked, Mother Superior turns to Sister Mary Immaculata and says, ""I don't think they know who we are; show them your cross."" + +Sister Mary Immaculata rolls down her window and shouts, ""Piss off, ya fookin' little wankers, before I come over there and rip yer balls off!"" + +Sister Mary Immaculata then rolls up her window, looks back at Mother Superior, quite innocently, and asks, ""Did that sound cross enough…",0 +2540,My wife accused me of being a Transvestite.. So I packed up all her shit and left.,0 +2541,"A couple is taking a tour through the Natural History Museum. They ask the tour guide: ""How old is this dinosaur skeleton?"". He replies: ""It is sixty five million and fourteen years and three months old."" + +""Wow! It's amazing that you can tell this precise. How do you do that? Is it with carbon dating?"" + +""I don't know"" says the guide. ""But when I first came here they told me it was sixty five million years old. And I started here fourteen years and three months ago.""",0 +2542,I've spent past 2 years looking for my ex wife's killer. No one wants to do it.,0 +2543,"Husband: ""Scientists have found that men say about 10,000 words a day, while women say about 20,000..."". Wife (shouts from the kitchen): ""It's because we have to repeat everything twice to you blockheads!"" + +Husband: ""What?""",0 +2544,"Old army joke. A new captain becomes leader of a company of soldiers. As he goes about learning everything on how they do things he finds two soldiers guarding a bench. He asks his sergeants why they're guarding the bench and they say the previous commander ordered it. He calls the previous commander up, now a major, asking why he did that and the major said its because the previous commander ordered it. So he calls that commander, now a lt. Colonel asking why he ordered it, gets the same answer that it was ordered by the previous commander. The captain goes through this song and dance a couple more times before he gets a hold of an old retired 4 star General. He politely calls him up and asks him why he ordered his men to guard this bench that all the commanders since then have maintained the tradition. The old retired General goes ""wait, is the paint still wet?""",0 +2545,"""Make me one with everything,"" says the Buddhist to the tofu hot dog vendor.. Then, after getting his tofu hot dog, the Buddhist hands the vendor a $20 bill. + +The vendor takes the money and begins helping the next customer. + +The Buddhist looks puzzled and asks the vendor, ""Where is my change?"" + +The vendor replies, ""Change comes from within.""",0 +2546,A man in my town was shot yesterday with a starter’s pistol.. Police suspect that the crime is race related.,0 +2547,"Who runs Mexican Amazon?. Jeff Pesos + +It's a silly joke but I thought of it on my own today! I found a 200 peso bill on the ground today and I was saying pesos in different accents out loud with a coworker when the joke popped into my head. I don't think I've heard it anywhere before. After I got home and searched it here I realised it hasn't been told this way on this subreddit yet either. So I'm claiming it as an original joke.",0 +2548,Mr. Bigger and Mrs. Bigger have a baby. Who’s the biggest in the family?. The baby of course - because he’s a little Bigger.,0 +2549,A woman was rushed to the hospital after stuffing 30 toy horses up her ass.... Her condition is stable.,0 +2550,"An average looking man walks into a bar.. A beautiful woman approaches him. The woman asks the man, ""How would you like to get out of here?"" and the man is stunned. +He never thought a woman like her would ever approach him, so he agreed. +They both get into his car and drive really far. +He stops at a cliff with the view of the whole city. +Within seconds they start taking off their clothes. After minutes of passionately making love they finally finish. They both put their clothes on and just sit there awkwardly. +The woman speaks up and says ""I'm a prostitute and its going to be 100 dollars for my service."" +The man is stunned and saddened that she didn't really like him. +He gives her the money and she tells him that she is ready to leave and the man replies ""I'm a taxi driver and its going to be 150 dollars for the ride here and back.""",0 +2551,How do we know that Death is a man?. He always comes quicker than expected.,0 +2552,"If Ani is short for Anakin and Obi is short for Obi-Wan, what is Luke short for?. A stormtrooper.",0 +2553,"A couple, after a rather successful first date and are heading back to the guy's apartment.. As the guy reaches for his keys, the girl says, ""Oh, this part usually tells me how a guy is in bed. If a guy fumbles around trying to get the key into the lock, it means he hasn't had much experience and has no idea what he's doing, but if the guy just jams the key in, it means he's very forceful and demanding, and that's no good either. Now let's see how you do."" + + +""Alright then,"" Says the guy with a smirk on his face. He then proceeds to lick the lock.",0 +2554,"Worst joke I know (nsfw). I was eating out this chick and I tasted horse semen. +So I looked up and said "" Ew grandma! Is that how you died?""",0 +2555,"Confucius say. Confucius say, + +Man who run behind car get exhausted + +Man who run in front of car get tired.",0 +2556,What would two termites order at a restaurant?. Table for 2,0 +2557,"I like my women like how I like my laptop. On my lap, turned on, and virus free",0 +2558,"my wife left me because i'm obssesed with africa. kenya believe it? + +and we have two kids together, this divorce is ghana be so hard on them",0 +2559,How many feminists does it take to change a light bulb?. THAT IS NOT FUNNY!,0 +2560,"A father and his teenage son is walking through the pharmacy.. As they walk past the condom rack, the son notices they come in different packs. A pack of 3, a pack of 6, and a pack of 12. + +""Dad, why are condoms sold in packs like that? Like, what's the 3-pack for?"" + +""Well Son, the different packs are for different men. The 3-pack is for college boys. One for Friday, one for Saturday and one for Sunday."" + +""I see, what about the 6-pack?"" + +""That one is for young bachelors. Twice on a Friday, twice on a Saturday, and twice on a Sunday."" + +The boy's eyes widened as he asked, ""And what about the 12-pack?"" + +""The 12-pack is for married men. One for January, one for February, one for March.....""",0 +2561,If Mary gave birth to Jesus and Jesus is the lamb of God.... Did Mary have a little lamb?,0 +2562,North Koreans believe they live in the best country in the world because they’re brainwashed by the government and the media.. When every American knows that America is the best country in the world.,0 +2563,"Two old men decide they are close to their last days and decide to have a last night on the town.... After a few drinks, they end up at the local brothel. The madam takes one look at the two old geezers and whispers to her manager: 'Go upto the first two bedrooms and put an inflated doll in each bed. These two are so old and drunk, I'm not wasting two of my girls on them. They won't know the difference'. +The manager does as he is told and the two old men go upstairs and take care of their business. +As they are walking home the first man ssys ""You know, I think my girl was dead'. ""Dead? says his friend, ""Why do you say that?''Well she never moved or made a sound all the time I was loving her'. +His friend says. 'Could be worse I think mine was a witch'. 'A witch??....why the hell would you say that?' +'Well, I was making love to her, kissing her on the neck, and I gave her a little bite, then she farted and flew out the window... took my teeth with her!'",0 +2564,"A sea cadet is being examined: ""Suppose you're at sea and a storm comes up, what would you do?"". Cadet: I'd throw out an anchor. + +Examiner: And what if another storm comes up. + +Cadet: I'd throw out another anchor. + +Examiner: But what if an even bigger storm comes up? + +Cadet: I throw out an even bigger anchor. + +Examiner: But where are you getting all your anchors from? + +Cadet: The same place you're getting your storms.",0 +2565,I like my coffee like “I like my coffee” jokes.. Not made by me.,0 +2566,"I will never forget my grandpa’s last words. He said, “quit shakin the ladder you little shit!”",0 +2567,"Two mathematicians are in a bar. The first one says to the second that the average person knows very little about basic mathematics. The second one disagrees, and claims that most people can cope with a reasonable amount of math. + +The first mathematician goes off to the washroom, and in his absence the second calls over the waitress. He tells her that in a few minutes, after his friend has returned, he will call her over and ask her a question. All she has to do is answer one third x cubed. + +She repeats ""one thir -- dex cue""? + +He repeats ""one third x cubed"". + +She says, ""one thir dex cuebd""? + +Yes, that's right, he says. So she agrees, and goes off mumbling to herself, ""one thir dex cuebd..."". + +The first guy returns and the second proposes a bet to prove his point, that most people do know something about basic math. He says he will ask the blonde waitress an integral, and the first laughingly agrees. The second man calls over the waitress and asks ""what is the integral of x squared?"". + +The waitress says ""one third x cubed"" and while walking away… + +…turns back and says over her shoulder ""plus C!""",0 +2568,"A Man Notices his Co-Worker Wearing an Earring One Day. + +A man is at work one day when he notices that his co-worker is wearing an earring. + +The man knows his co-worker to be a normally conservative fellow, and is curious about his sudden change in ""fashion sense"". + +The man walks up to him and says, ""I didn't know you were into earrings."" + +""Don't make such a big deal, it's only an earring,"" he replies sheepishly. + +His friend falls silent for a few minutes, but then his curiosity prods him to ask, ""So, how long have you been wearing one?"" + +""Ever since my wife found it in my truck.""",0 +2569,"My girlfriend just dumped me.. She said in a teary tirade: + +“I can’t take your shit any more. You’re such a pedant. Everything I do is wrong. I loved you so much, but it’ll never be enough for you. I’m leaving now. Me and Gary are driving up north through the night and then you’ll never hear from me again” + +She was about to close the door when I yelled “No, no….waaait” + +She turned back, tears in her eyes, a glimmer of hope still remained. + +That was when I uttered those three magic words. + +“Gary and I*”",0 +2570,"A woman marries a man and has 10 children. The man dies, so the woman remarries and has 10 more children. The next man dies, so the woman remarries again and has ten more children. That man dies, so the woman remarries and has 10 more children.... + +The husband dies again and finally the woman dies as well. + +At the funeral, the priest mutters, ""Thank God! They’re finally together!"" + +A man at the funeral asks another man on his left, “Which husband do you think he means? The first, second, or third?” + +The man on his left says, “I think he means her legs.”",0 +2571,"A cop pulls over an old lady for speeding on a highway. He asks for her driver's license and registration.. When she opens her wallet, he notices a conceal-carry permit. + +He asks, “Ma’am, do you have a weapon in your possession at this time?” + +She responds ""I'll bet you $100 you can't guess the answer to that question"" as she slaps a crisp bill on her dashboard. + +The cop rubs his chin and thinks for a moment and then says "" OK lady, I'll take that bet."" He guesses that she has a .38 Special in her purse. And a .45 in her glove box. And a 9mm Glock in the center console. And a shotgun in the trunk. + +“However did you guess that young man?"" The old lady says grasping her pearls. + +""You see ma'am,"" the cop said snatching up the hundred-dollar bill, ""This is Reddit. After I read about you on the tenth repost, I knew I'd find you soon enough.""",0 +2572,"My girlfriend called me a gullible idiot and said I shouldn't believe everything I see on the Internet. I told her I don't have to put up with this, not when there are desperate single milfs less than a mile away",0 +2573,"A friend of mine invited me over for a threesome with a girl.. I was hesitant at first but eventually agreed. So I went over to his place and we got started. I just couldn't get into it. A half hour in, I started wondering when the girl is going to show up.",0 +2574,"With a seductive voice... With a very seductive voice the woman asked her husband, ""Have you ever seen Twenty Dollars all crumpled up?"". + +""No,"" said her husband. She gave him a sexy little smile, +unbuttoned the top 3 or 4 buttons of her blouse, and slowly reached down into the cleavage created by a soft, silky push-up bra, and pulled out a crumpled Twenty Dollar bill. + +He took the crumpled Twenty Dollar bill from her and smiled approvingly. + +She then asked him, ""Have you ever seen Fifty Dollars all crumpled up?"" + +""Uh...no, I haven't,"" he said, with an anxious tone in his voice. + +She gave him another sexy little smile, pulled up her skirt, and seductively reached into her tight, sheer panties... and pulled out a crumpled Fifty Dollar bill. + +He took the crumpled Fifty Dollar bill, and started breathing a little quicker with anticipation. + +""Now,"" she said, ""have you ever seen $100,000 Dollars all crumpled up?"" + +""No way!"" he said, while obviously becoming even more aroused and excited. + +""Well, go look in the garage,"" she said....",0 +2575,"Once, Chuck Norris reached a point of no return….. …..and returned.",0 +2576,"I signed up for Binary 101, but failed it miserably.. I had no idea it was a Level 5 course.",0 +2577,Nearly lost my job as a roofer when I was caught masturbating on my first day at work. Luckily my boss said I could wipe the slate clean...,0 +2578,"We thought it was our ability to love that made us human,. but it turns out it was actually our ability to SELECT EACH IMAGE CONTAINING A TRUCK.",0 +2579,Where can you still get gas for $1.39?. Taco Bell,0 +2580,My wife just completed a 40 week body building program this morning. It's a girl and weighs 7lbs 12 oz.,0 +2581,"I had an idea for a movie plot where a retired CIA agent searches for his kidnapped daughter in Paris.. Turns out that idea was taken. I then had another idea for a movie where the same agent is kidnapped with his ex-wife in Istanbul, but it turns out that one was taken too.",0 +2582,What do you call a woman who knows where her husband is at all times?. A widow,0 +2583,"What do you think is history's SHORTEST joke? My submission is Miss Piggy's 2 worder :. ""Pretentious? ...*MOI ?""*",0 +2584,"Iraqi Player plays for Detroit Lions. The Coach of the Detroit Lions had put together the perfect football team. But then his quarterback got blindsided and was out for the season with a knee injury. Then his backup went down with a concussion. He tried the trading route, free agents, but nobody any good was available. + +One evening while watching the news from Iraq, he saw a young Iraqi soldier with an amazing arm. The soldier rifled a grenade on a perfect arc into a 4th story window from 100 yards, bam! + +He tossed another directly into a tight group of 12 enemy fighters 80 yards away, ka-bam! Then a humvee passed, going 60 kph, boom! Another perfect shot! +Coach said to himself, “I got to have this guy. He’s got the best arm I’ve ever seen!” +He tracks him down and convinces him to come to Detroit. The kid takes coaching perfectly, makes all the plays, and long story short, the Lions win the Super Bowl. +The Iraqi is now the Conquering Hero in pro football, and a huge story. But when the broadcast team tries to interview him, all he wants is to phone his mom. + +“Mother,” he yells over the phone, “We just won the Super Bowl!” + +“Don’t talk to me,” the woman says. “You abandoned us. You can’t be my son.” +The young Iraqi begs, “Mom, you don’t understand! Our team won the biggest game here in the U.S. Thousands of fans are screaming for me. The U.S. President is going to call me!” + +“I don’t care,” his mother snaps. “Right now I can hear gunshots everywhere. Our block is like a ruin. Your brothers were beaten half to death last night, and your sister was nearly raped.” + +Then she says, ""I can never forgive you for making us move to Detroit.",0 +2585,"Little Timmy got lost in a mine field. Where is Little Timmy?. Everywhere. + + + +I know that joke was a bit dark, but at least it got real bright for half a second!",0 +2586,"A fortune-teller told me that in 10-15 years, I would suffer the most terrible heartbreak any man has ever faced. I was so upset over learning this.. I decided to cheer myself up -- I adopted a puppy, and I've never been happier!",0 +2587,"A horse walks into a bar.... and orders a beer. + +As the bartender serves him, he looks at the horse and says ""hey, why the long face, pal? Are you depressed?"" + +The horse ponders for a second, scratches his chin, and says ""I don't think I am"" - and promptly disappears. + +See, this is a joke about Rene Descartes' famous statement, ""I think, therefore I am."" I could have mentioned this at the start of the joke, but that would be putting Descartes before the horse.",0 +2588,"A farmer had three daughters. And they all three had dates planned for this evening. The farmer got his shotgun out to clean as well for added intimidation for the gentlemen callers. +At 5PM there was a knock on the door, so the farmer answered it with his shotgun in tow. + +A young man was standing in the stoop, and said, ""Hi, I'm Eddie, I'm here to pick up Betty, we're going to go and eat some spaghetti, is she ready?"" + +The farmer scratched his chin, but turned around and called for Betty, who zipped down the stairs, kissed her father on the cheek and was gone. + +The farmer continued to clean his shotgun until 6PM when there was another knock on the door. The farmer answered the door with shotgun in tow. + +There was, again, a young gentleman on the stoop. He said to the farmer, ""Hey! My name is Joe, I'm here to pick up Flo. We're going to see a show, is she ready to go?"" + +The farmer again scratched his chin, but turned and called for Flo, who hurried down the stairs, kissed her father's cheek and left with Joe. + +The farmer returned back to his chair cleaning his shotgun. + +At 7PM there was a rap upon the door. The farmer stood and carried his shotgun to the door and answered, where there was once again a gentleman caller on the stoop. + +The gentleman began, ""Hello, my name is Chuck-"" +**BANG** +The farmer shot him.",0 +2589,"Lots of guys aren't too happy with getting a ""dad bod"" eventually in life. But I'd say im pretty excited for it. Because it's the closest thing I'm gonna get to having a father figure in my life",0 +2590,"This is an old joke that my teacher told me when I was little and most people probably already know it but I remember loving it.. A police officer pulls over a man who has penguins in the backseat of the car. +""Sir you can't have penguins in your car. Bring them to the zoo or something,"" the police officer tells the man. +The next day, the police officer sees the man again. Again, the penguins are in the backseat of the car. +""Sir, I told you to take the penguins to the zoo!"" +""I did, Officer! Today I'm taking them to the movies.""",0 +2591,Chuck Norris once threw a grenade and killed 50 men.. It exploded and killed 20 more. Then he threw the pin and killed 10 more men.,0 +2592,"Three gay men are at the crematorium. All three are mourning the recent death of their husbands and discussing their plans for scattering the ashes. + +The first, a pilot, says that he will scatter his husband's ashes from the sky in the private plane that they built together. + +The second, a sailor, says that he will scatter the ashes at sea, because their love of the sea kept them together during difficult times. + +The third, a cook, says that he intends to mix his husband's ashes into a bowl of chili and eat it. + +The two other men look at him in horror and disgust. The pilot asks ""why would you eat a bowl of chili with your husband's ashes in it?"" + +The cook says ""So he can tear up my ass one last time""",0 +2593,"My wife says if I don’t stop making puns about Russia, she’s going to hit me.. If that’s the way it’s going to be, then Soviet.",0 +2594,"Hitler dies and goes to the gates of hell.... St. Peter is waiting for him, staring at him, judging him. + +Hitler breaks the silence and asks:""Where am I?"" + +A bit frustrated, St. Peter responds:""Hell, Hitler."" + +Confused, Hitler asks again:""Ja, ja, Heil Hitler, but where am I?""",0 +2595,What are a trans parents pronouns. Who/where,0 +2596,"A man scores a hot date Not wanting to disappoint his date in the bedroom, he goes to the doctor to get his penis enlarged.. The doctor says, ""we happen to have a new experimental procedure that uses muscle cells from an elephant trunk that should do the trick."" To which the man accepts. + +Later on, the man and his date are having dinner. The man is in love with her, but is experiencing an increasingly uncomfortable pressure in his trousers. In an attempt to relieve the pain, he slowly undoes his fly. + +Immediately, his penis lunges out onto the table, grabs a bread roll and vanishes back under the table. + +His date, unsurprisingly shocked, slowly smiles and says, ""could you do that again?"" + +The man, his eyes watering slightly, replies ""probably, but I don't think I can fit another roll in my ass.""",0 +2597,Sex is like riding a bike.... People don't like it when you do it on the sidewalk.,0 +2598,"Last week, My girlfriend dumped me, so I stole her Wheelchair.. Guess who came crawling back.",0 +2599,"Adam. + One day, God summoned Adam for an important task he must complete... + +God Said, ""Adam, I want you to do something for me."" + +Adam said, ""Gladly Lord, what do you want me to do?"" + +God said, ""Go down into that valley."" + +Adam said, ""What's a valley?"" + +God explained it to him... + +Then God said, ""Cross the river."" + +Adam said, ""What's a river?"" + +God explained that to him... + +Then God said, ""Go over to the hill."" + +Adam said, ""What's a hill?"" + +So, God explained to Adam what a hill was... + +God told Adam, ""On the other side of the hill you will find a cave."" + +Adam said, ""What's a cave?"" + +God explained what a cave was... + + Then God said, ""In the cave you will find a Woman."" + +Adam said, ""What's a woman?"" + +So God explained that to him too... + +God continued, ""I want you to reproduce."" + +Adam said, ""Well, gosh, how do I do that?"" + +God muttered away to himself, rather annoyed. Then, just like everything else, God explained that to Adam as well... + +So, Adam goes down into the valley, across the river, over the hill, into the cave, and finds the woman. Then, after about thirty minutes, Adam was back... + + God, his patience wearing thin, said angrily, ""What is it now?"" + + Adam then asked... ""What's a headache?""",0 +2600,"Four nuns have just died. They are waiting to talk to Saint Peter outside the gates of Heaven. + +Saint Peter: “Sisters, confess your sins and you may enter paradise.” + +Nun #1: “Saint Peter, forgive me, in my life I once gazed lustfully at a man’s penis.” + +St Pete: “Sister, rinse your eyes with this Holy Water and then you may enter they Kingdom of Heaven.” + +Nun #2: “Saint Peter, forgive me, I once touched a man’s penis.” + +Petey: “Sister, wash you hands in this Holy Water and then you may enter the Kingdom of Heaven.” + +Nun #4: *taps Nun #3 on the shoulder and says* “Do mind if I gargle with that water before you sit in it?”",0 +2601,"Two fish are in a tank. One turns to the other and says. ""Okay, you man the guns. I'll drive.""",0 +2602,"I asked my grandpa: “ after 65 years you still call grandma darling, beautiful and honey. What’s the secret?”. +Grandpa: “I forgot her name five years ago and I’m scared to ask her.""",0 +2603,I hug my girlfriend really tight after sex.. That way she deflates quicker.,0 +2604,Let’s have illegal aliens hunt down sex offenders for a chance at citizenship.. We’ll call it “Aliens vs. Predators”,0 +2605,How does every Mexican joke start?. By looking over your shoulder.,0 +2606,"A woman is having an affair during the day while her husband is at work.. A woman is having an affair during the day while her husband is at work. Her 9 year old son comes home unexpectedly, sees them and hides in the bedroom closet to watch. The woman’s husband also comes home. She puts her lover in the closet, not realizing that the little boy is in there already. + +The little boy says, ‟Dark in here.” + +The man says, ‟Yes, it is.” Boy - ‟I have a baseball.” + +Man - ‟That's nice.” + +Boy - ‟Want to buy it?” + +Man - ‟No, thanks.” + +Boy - ‟My dad's outside.” + +Man - ‟OK, how much?” + +Boy - ‟$250” + +In the next few weeks, it happens again that the boy and the lover are in the closet together. + +Boy - ‟Dark in here.” + +Man - ‟Yes, it is.” + +Boy - ‟I have a baseball glove.” The lover remembering the last time, asks the boy, ‟How much?” + +Boy - ‟$750” + +Man - ‟Fine.” + +A few days later, the father says to the boy, ‟Grab your glove, let us go outside and have a game of catch.” + +The boy says, ‟I can't, I sold my baseball and my glove.” + +The father asks, ‟How much did you sell them for?” + +Boy - ‟$1,000” + +The father says, ‟That's terrible to overcharge your friends like that...that is way more than those two things cost. I am going to take you to church and make you confess.” + +They go to the church and the father makes the little boy sit in the confession booth and he closes the door. + +The boy says, ‟Dark in here.” + +The priest says, ‟Don't start that shit again.",0 +2607,"Three logicians walk into a bar.. The barkeeper asks: ""Do you all want beer?"" + +The first one answers: ""I don't know."" + +The second one answers: ""I don't know."" + +The third one answers: ""Yes!""",0 +2608,If having sex for money makes you a whore.... then does having sex for free make you a non-profit whoreganisation?,0 +2609,"A sadist, a masochist, a zoophile, a necrophile, a pyromaniac and a serial killer are having a stroll in the park.. This merry band of weirdoes and deviants are getting a bit bored. Then the zoophile whispers: ""Oooh, I know what we should do. Let's catch a cat!"" + +The sadist nods approvingly: ""Yes! Let's catch a cat... and let's torture it!"" + +The serial killer licks the blade of his knife, and chimes in: ""Let's catch a cat, let's torture it, and then let's kill it!"" + +The necrophile adjusts the front of his pants and grins: ""Let's catch a cat, let's torture it, let's kill it, and then let's have some fun with its corpse!"" + +Toying with his lighter, the pyromaniac replies: ""Let's catch a cat, let's torture it, let's kill it, let's have some fun with its corpse, and then let's burn it!"" + +The masochist is quiet for a moment. + +Then he says: + +""Meow.""",0 +2610,"A man sitting next to me on the bus today showed me a picture of his wife.. He says to me ""Isn't she beautiful""? + +I replied to him ""If you think she's pretty, you should see my wife"" + +He then asked ""Oh, is your wife beautiful too""?, to which I replied ""No, she's an optometrist"".",0 +2611,I’m so sick of Millennials and their attitudes….. Always walking around like they rent the place,0 +2612,"Brunette tells blonde she had sex with a Brazilian.. Blonde says oh my god you slut, how many is a Brazillion.",0 +2613,"Guy says to a Blonde girl.. I bet I can guess when you were born just by fondling your tits, + +no way says the Blonde, go on then, so 20 minutes later the + +Blonde says OK when was I born? + +Guy says: Yesterday.",0 +2614,"A man goes to confessional and tells the priest, ""Forgive me Father, for I have sinned. I took the Lord's name in vain while golfing."". ""I understand, my son,"" the priest says. ""I play the game as well, and it can be frustrating. What happened?"" + +""Well,"" the man says, ""I hit my drive on the fifteenth green and it sliced to the right, into the trees."" + +""Was that when you did it?"" The priest asked. + +""No, the ball bounced off a tree and onto the green,"" the man continued. ""But it bounced into a sandtrap."" + +""And then you cursed?"" + +""No, I pulled out a wedge and chipped the ball right out of there. It rolled down the green and stopped two feet from the cup."" + +""Ah, that was when you blasphemed,"" the priest nods. + +""No, Father,"" the man replies. + +""Jesus Christ,"" the priest yells, ""You missed a two-foot putt?!""",0 +2615,"A genie grants three wishes to an old lady.. She says, ""I want to be young again."" + +\*poof\* + +She's young again. + +""I want my little house to be turned into a beautiful mansion."" + +\*poof\* + +She's now living in a beautiful mansion. + +""I want my cat to be turned into a handsome young man!"" + +\*poof\* + +Her cat is now a handsome young man. + +""Oh cat, all my fantasies have come true! Take me in your arms, take me upstairs and make mad, passionate love to me!"" + +The cat says, ""Oh darlin', you should've thought about that a long time ago, before you had me fixed.""",0 +2616,"Homemade dildo. A man had just recently gotten into woodworking. He had made a nice table, some chairs, and a few other things around the house. + +One day, his wife came up to him and asked if he could try to make her a dildo. He found the request to be a bit odd, but being the great husband he is, he agreed. He spent a long time sanding and coating it, because, well… splinters. + +After several days of tedious work on this homemade dildo, he finally gives it to his wife and they take it up to the bedroom for a test drive. Instantly, she loses control and has an orgasm. + +I guess the old saying is true.. “if you build it, they’ll come.”",0 +2617,"It’s true women do make less money than men. But it’s their fault because they choose the lower paying jobs. Men, for example, choose the higher paying jobs like doctor or lawyer. Whereas women choose the lower paying jobs like women doctor and women lawyer.",0 +2618,"A lonely woman, aged 70, decided that it was time to get married. She put an ad in the local paper that read. HUSBAND WANTED! MUST BE IN MY AGE GROUP (70's), MUST NOT BEAT ME, MUST NOT RUN AROUND ON ME, AND MUST STILL BE GOOD IN BED! ALL APPLICANTS PLEASE APPLY IN PERSON. + +On the second day she heard the doorbell. Much to her dismay, she opened the door to see a gray-haired gentleman with no arms or legs sitting in a wheelchair. The old woman said, ""You're not really asking me to consider you, are you? Just look at you ... you have no legs!"" The old man smiled, ""Therefore I cannot run around on you!"" + +She snorted. ""You don't have any hands either!"" Again the old man smiled, ""Nor can I beat you!"" + +She raised an eyebrow and gazed intently. ""Are you still good in bed?"" With that, the old gentleman leaned back, beamed a big broad smile and said, ""I rang the doorbell, didn't I?""",0 +2619,"Stone.. Sam died and left $50,000 in his will for an elaborate funeral. + +As the last attenders left, Sam’s wife Rose turned to her oldest friend Sadie and said: “Well, I’m sure Sam would be pleased.” + +“I’m sure you’re right,” replied Sadie, who leaned in close and lowered her voice to a whisper. “Tell me, how much did it really cost?” + +“All of it,” said Rose. “Fifty thousand.” + +“No!” Sadie exclaimed. “I mean, it was very nice, but really… $50,000?!” + +Rose nodded. “The funeral was $6,500. I donated $500 to the church for the priest’s services. The food and drinks were another $500. And the rest went towards the memorial stone.” + +Sadie computed quickly. “$42,500 for a memorial stone? Exactly how big is it?” + +“Seven and a half carats""",0 +2620,Why will the American people never convert to the metric system?. Because they'll never accept a foreign ruler.,0 +2621,"My girlfriend left me because I'm insecure.. Oh wait, she's back. I guess she just went to the grocery store.",0 +2622,"Two Deaf People Get Married. Two Deaf people get married +During 1st week of marrige they found they are unable to communicate in bedroom with the lights out as they can't see each other signing and lipsing. +After several nights of fumbling and misunderstanding they finally came up with a solution +The wife said +Why don't we agree on simple signs for instance if you want to have sex with me squeeze my left breast once. If you don't want to have sex squeeze my right breast once. +The husband said ok, then asked her if she want to have sex pull his penis once and if she doesn't want to have sex,pull his penis two hundred and fifty times.",0 +2623,"Yo mama so fat, they did a story on how fat she was on the channel 3 news. I switched to channel 7 and you could still see her ass in the corner of the screen",0 +2624,"If girls with big boobs work at Hooters where do girls with only one leg work at?. +IHOP!",0 +2625,"A programmer and his project manager board a train headed through the mountains. They can find no other place to sit, except for two seats right across the aisle from a young woman and her grandmother.. After a while, it becomes quite clear that the woman and the programmer are interested in each other, as they keep looking at each other. + +Soon, the train passes into a tunnel and it is pitch black. There is the sound of a kiss followed by the sound of a slap. + +When the train finally emerges from the tunnel, the four sit there without saying a word. + +The grandmother thinks to herself, ""It was very rude of that young man to kiss my granddaughter, but I am glad she slapped him."" + +The project manager thinks to himself, ""I did not think the programmer was brave enough to kiss the woman, but I wish she hadn't missed him when she slapped me."" + +The young woman thought to herself, ""I am glad the guy kissed me, but I wish my grandmother had not slapped him."" + +The programmer has a satisfied smile on his face and thinks, ""Life is good. How often does a guy have a chance to kiss a beautiful woman and slap his project manager at the same time.""",0 +2626,"Two clowns are eating a cannibal.... One turns to the other and says, ""I think we got this joke wrong.""",0 +2627,"A couple, both age 78, went to a sex therapist's office.. The doctor asked, ""What can I do for you?"" + +The man said, ""Will you watch us have sex?"" + +The doctor looked puzzled, but agreed. + +When the couple finished, the doctor said, ""There's nothing wrong with the way you have sex,"" and charged them $50. + +This happened several weeks in a row. The couple would make an appointment, have sex with no problems, pay the doctor, then leave. + +Finally, the doctor asked, ""Just exactly what are you trying to find out?"" + +""We're not trying to find out anything,"" the husband replied. ""She's married and we can't go to her house. I'm married and we can't go to my house. The Holiday Inn charges $90. The Hilton charges $108. We do it here for $50...and I get $43 back from Medicare.",0 +2628,"The Husband Store. Credit to u/SoHiHello + +A store that sells new husbands has opened in New York City, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates: + +You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights. The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but cannot go back down except to exit the building! + +So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband. On the first floor the sign on the door reads: + +Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs. +She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign reads: + +Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids. +""That's nice,"" she thinks, ""but I want more."" +So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads: + +Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking. +""Wow,"" she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. +She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads: + +Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework. +""Oh, mercy me!"" she exclaims, ""I can hardly stand it!"" +Still, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads: + +Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop- dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak. +She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads: + +Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. + +PLEASE NOTE: + +To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opened a New Wives store just across the street. + +The first floor has wives that love sex. + +The second floor has wives that love sex and have money and like beer. + +The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited.",0 +2629,"A man goes to hell.... The devil greets him and says ""You have to pick your torture. Pick wisely because this will be your torture for eternity"". + +The man goes through hundreds of rooms but can't decide, until he sees a room where a man is sitting on a couch watching football on TV and getting a blowjob from a cheerleader. + +The man says ""This is what I want to do for eternity!"" The devil says ""Are you sure?"". He screams ""Hell, yes!"". + +The devil goes up to the cheerleader and says ""You can stop now. I found someone to replace you""",0 +2630,"Finally a smart blonde joke. A blonde walks into a bank in New York City and asks for the Loan officer. She says she's going to Europe on business for two weeks and Needs to borrow $5,000. + +The bank officer says the bank will need some kind of security for the loan, so the blonde hands over the keys to a new Mercedes Benz SL 500. + +The car is parked on the street in front of the bank, she has the title and everything checks out. The bank agrees to accept the car collateral for the loan. + +The bank's president and its officers all enjoy a good laugh at the blond for using a $110,000 Benz as collateral against a $5,000 loan. + +An employee of the bank then proceeds to drive the Benz into the bank's underground garage and parks it there. Two weeks later, the blonde returns, repays the $5,000 and the interest, which comes to $15.41. + +The loan officer says, ""Miss, we are very happy to have had your business, and this transaction has worked out very nicely, but we are a little puzzled. While you were away, we checked you out and found that you are a multimillionaire. + +What puzzles us is, why would you bother to borrow $5,000?"" + +The blonde replies, ""Where else in New York City can I park my Car for two weeks for only $15.41 and expect it to be there when I return?""",0 +2631,"Why are Americans so stupid?. Because they shoot all the ones who go to school + +EDIT: I love jokes and comedic freedom... but I AM SO SORRY ABOUT THIS ONE LOL + +EDIT 2: Thanks for letting me share the pain of this one with you, internet. And I’m not European (where are ppl getting this lol), I am also 🇺🇸",0 +2632,"The mafia bookkeeper. A Mafia Godfather finds out that his bookkeeper, Guido, has cheated him out of $10,000,000. + +His bookkeeper is deaf and dumb. + +That was the reason he got the job in the first place. + +It was assumed that Guido would hear nothing so he would never have to testify in court. + +When the Godfather goes to confront Guido about his missing $10 million, he takes along his lawyer who knows sign language. + +The Godfather tells the lawyer, + +\- ""Ask him where the money is!"" + +The lawyer, using sign language, asks Guido, Where's the money? + +Guido signs back, + +\- ""I don't know what you are talking about."" + +The lawyer tells the Godfather, + +\- ""He says he doesn't know what you're talking about."" + +The Godfather pulls out a pistol, puts it to Guido's head, and says, + +\- ""Ask him again or I'll kill him!"" + +The lawyer signs to Guido, + +\- ""He'll kill you if you don't tell him."" + +Guido trembles and signs, + +\- ""OK! You win! The money is in a brown briefcase, buried behind the shed at my cousin Bruno's house."" + +The Godfather asks the lawyer, + +\- ""What did he say?"" + +The lawyer replies, + +\- ""He says you don't have the guts to pull the trigger!""",0 +2633,Imagine if Americans switched from pounds to kilograms suddenly. There would be mass confusion.,0 +2634,"A woman is flirting with a Russian man at a bar.... She says, + +""Hi, handsome, what do you do for a living?"" + +The Russian replies, + +""I work for KGB."" + +""Cool, tell me an interesting story!"" + +""About me or about you?""",0 +2635,"There was a man who lost one of his arms in an accident.. He became very depressed because he had loved to play guitar and do a lot of things that took two arms. + +One day he had had it. He decided to commit suicide and went to the top of a building to jump off. + +He was standing on the ledge looking down when he saw a man skipping along, whistling and kicking up his heels. He looked closer and saw this man didn't have any arms at all. He started thinking, “What am I doing up here feeling sorry for myself? I still have one good arm to do things with. There goes a man with no arms skipping down the sidewalk happy and going on with his life.” + +He hurried down and caught up with the man with no arms. He told him how glad he was to see him because he had lost one of his arms and felt ugly and useless and was going to kill himself. He thanked him for saving his life and said he knew he could make it with one arm if he could go on with no arms. + +The man with no arms began dancing and whistling and kicking up his heels again. + + ""Why are you so happy anyway?"" + +The guy replied, ""I'm not happy. My nuts are itchy!""",0 +2636,"Not to brag, but we did a lot experiments with drugs, sex, and alcohol when I was in college.. Unfortunately I was part of the control group.",0 +2637,"Why did Eminem kneel at the half time show?. His knees were weak, and arms were heavy.",0 +2638,"The Bible says being gay is fine, as long as you're high.. ""A man who lays with another man should be stoned. "" + +- Leviticus 20:13 ESV",0 +2639,"I'm a physicist.. It’s 3 AM. A woman paces angrily in her house waiting for her physicist husband to come home. Finally he does. As he walks through the door she glares and demands “where have you been!?” Sheepishly, the physicist husband tries to explain himself. He says, “well my colleagues and I went out just for a friendly drink. A group of women invited us to join them, so we did. We drank and had fun talking and it got a little flirty. I got swept up in the moment and one thing led to another. I ended up making out with one of the women we met.” + +His wife listens impatiently, arms crossed, furiously tapping her foot the whole time. When he finishes, she blurts out “Liar! LIAR! You were in the lab again weren’t you!”",0 +2640,"A woman goes to the doctor and says,. “Doctor, my husband is an animal in the bedroom. He wants sex five, six, seven times a day. I love the man and the sex, but it’s just too much. Can you help me?” + +The doctor replied, “Well, medically, I can’t really think of anything. Theoretically, this might work. From now on, whenever he demands sex, demand money. $10 in the kitchen, $30 in the living room, $50 in the bedroom. The man isn’t made of money, that should slow him down.” + +She agrees and thanks the doctor. Excited, she goes home ready to use his advice. She starts to prepare dinner. Her husband comes home, doesn’t even ask about dinner, but immediately sneaks up behind her, brushes up against her and plays grab ass. She turns to him and says. “Honey, I have a new rule regarding sex.” He replies, “Okay hon, shoot!” She continues, “From now on, I demand money for sex. $10 in the kitchen, $30 in the living room, $50 in the bedroom.” He looks at her and says, “Okay, I think you deserve that, you do so much, no problem.” + +He reaches for his wallet and sees he has a $50 bill in his wallet and hands it to his wife. She says, “Okay let’s go up to the bedroom.” He shouts, “NO, FIVE TIMES IN THE KITCHEN!!!”",0 +2641,"I'm a bus driver. If I'm having a bad day. at work, I'll look in the mirror while driving, and mutter to myself "" you're all cunts aren't you ? "" and then tap the brakes twice so they all nod.",0 +2642,I used to go out with a girl who punched me in the face when she orgasmed.. I didn't mind too much until I found out she was faking them,0 +2643,"Girl in a super market says to a guy.. Girl: Hi there: + +Guy: Do I know you? + +Girl: I think you're the Father of one of my Kids: + +Guy: are you the stripper that I made love to on the pool table while all my buddies were watching? + +Girl: No I'm your Sons Kindergarten Teacher.",0 +2644,What do you get when you combine human DNA with seal DNA?. You get banned from SeaWorld.,0 +2645,I wanted to tattoo 'do not resuscitate' on my chest but my parents were completely adamant I didnt. I respected their wishes so tattooed 'I'm uninsured' on my chest instead,0 +2646,What’s the difference between sex and cake days?. Most Redditors have had cake days,0 +2647,"Tomorrow’s date will be 11/11. Unless you’re from the UK, in which case it’ll be 11/11",0 +2648,"The FBI, the CIA, and the KGB are all trying to prove they are the best at catching criminals. The Secretary General of the UN decides to set them a test. He releases a rabbit into a forest, and each of them has to catch it.. The FBI receive 1000 tips about the rabbit's location but refuses to investigate. + +The CIA burns down the whole forest and said there's no rabbit. + +The KGB drags a man out of the forest and beats him as he screams ""OK I'm a rabbit!"" + +​ + +Edit: Relevant r/polandball from u/karateema [https://i.imgur.com/4HgrgDN.png](https://i.imgur.com/4HgrgDN.png)",0 +2649,"An Irish dad calls his son in London the day before Christmas Eve and says, “I hate to ruin your day but I have to tell you that your mother and I are divorcing.”. “Dad, what are you talking about?” the son screams. + +“We can’t stand the sight of each other any longer,” the father says. “We’re sick of each other and I’m sick of talking about this, so you call your sister in Leeds and tell her.” + +The son calls his sister, who explodes on the phone. “Like heck they’re getting divorced!”she shouts, “I’ll take care of this!” + +She calls Ireland immediately, and screams at her father, “You are NOT getting divorced. Don’t do a single thing until I get there. I’m calling my brother back, and we’ll both be there tomorrow. Until then, don’t do a thing, DO YOU HEAR ME?” and hangs up. + +The old man hangs up his phone and turns to his wife. “Sorted! They’re coming for Christmas – and they’re paying their own way""",0 +2650,"Bill Clinton dies and goes to hell. The devil awaits him. He says “Bill, don’t worry, it’s not as bad down here as they say. I let you pick your eternal punishment for yourself.” + +“What are my options?” Bill asks. + +So the devil shows him around. + +Behind the first door is Ronald Reagan. He’s chained up, and getting whipped by a bunch of little devils constantly. Bill declines. + +Behind the next door is JFK. He’s on a wheel, getting his bones broken, healed and broken again. Bill declines as well. + +Behind the third door is George Bush. He’s chained to the wall. At his knees is Monica Lewinsky, sucking him off. Bill says “great! I’ll take that one” + +The devil shouts into the room:”Alright Monica, you can leave now”",0 +2651,How did the hacker get away from the police?. He ransomware.,0 +2652,"What starts with an E and ends with an E, but only has one letter in it?. Envelope",0 +2653,Why is C the only good letter in the English alphabet?. Because the others are Not-Cs,0 +2654,"A racist, an anti-semite and a black man walk into a bar. “Hey Kanye!”",0 +2655,"Burglars are getting very clever these days.. Last night, my wife woke me up, “Darling! Darling! There's a burglar downstairs!!” + +So I go down, check every room and don't find anyone. Then I realized I don't have a wife and when I went back upstairs my bed and TV were gone.",0 +2656,"A man offers a young woman $1,000,000. to sleep with him for one night. + +She looks at him, he’s a little older, a few pounds too heavy, but not too bad looking. + +“For a million dollars? Sure, I’ll sleep with you.” + +He smiles at her. + +“How about $50, then?” + +“How dare you! I’m not a whore!” + +“Look, lady, we’ve already agreed what you are, now we’re just negotiating the price.”",0 +2657,"A photon is going through airport security. The TSA agent asks if he has any luggage.. +The photon says, “No, I’m traveling light.”",0 +2658,What do you call a joke with only two upvotes?. Original material.,0 +2659,"A family went to a nudist camp for their vacation.. The son came back to the tent and shouted, ""Wow Mom! You should see some of those girls. They have got this HUGE....."" + +""Yes, well"", his mother sniffs. ""The larger they are, the dumber the woman."" + +Next day, the boy comes back to the tent again. ""You won't believe some of the guys out there. They have this HUGE...."" + +""Yes, well, like I said, the bigger they are, the dumber the man."" + +""Really"", said the boy, frowning with puzzlement. ""We might be in trouble, Mom."" + +""Why do you say that?"" + +""Because Dad's out there talking to a really stupid girl, and he's getting dumber by the minute.""",0 +2660,"A man on his death bed was speaking with his wife.. ""Helen,"" he said, ""We've been through so much together. Do you remember when the shop burned down, and we lost everything of value we had in this world? We had to start over from nothing, but you were by my side."" + +His wife solemnly replied, ""I remember, dear."" + +""Helen,"" he continued, ""when our son was killed in that terrible car accident, I was heartbroken. I didn't think I could go on, but you were by my side."" + +His wife began to softly cry, ""I know, dear."" + +""And now,"" the man went on, ""I'm about to leave this world. In my final moments, where are you?"" + +His wife sobbed, ""Right here by your side, dear."" + +""Helen,"" the man said, ""I'm beginning to think you might be bad luck.""",0 +2661,What is the difference between Politicians and Flying Pigs ?. The letter f,0 +2662,Having too much sex can cause memory loss.. I read it on page 14 in a medical journal on the 14th November 2019 at 3.19pm,0 +2663,"A kid dressed all in red rang my doorbell and said, ""Trick or Treat!"" I said to him, ""dude Halloween was yesterday."". He replied ""I know. I'm a period, I'm sorry I'm late."" + +Bloody twat earned all of my leftover candy.",0 +2664,"The trip to Rome. A man was getting a haircut prior to a trip to Rome. + +He mentioned the trip to the barber, who responded, + +\- “Why would anyone want to go there? It’s crowded and dirty and full of Italians. You’re crazy to go to Rome. So, how are you getting there?” + +\- “We’re taking United,” was the reply. “We got a great rate!” + +\- “United!” exclaimed the barber. “That’s a terrible airline. Their planes are old, their flight attendants are ugly and they’re always late. So, where are you staying in Rome?” + +\- “We’ll be at the downtown International Marriott.” + +\- “That dump! That’s the worst hotel in Rome. The rooms are small, the service is surly and they’re overpriced. So, whatcha doing when you get there?” + +\- ""We’re going to go to see the Vatican and we hope to see the Pope."" + +\- ""That’s rich,” laughed the barber. “You and a million other people trying to see him. He’ll look the size of an ant. Boy, good luck on this lousy trip of yours. You’re going to need it!” + +A month later, the man again came in for his regular haircut. The barber asked him about his trip to Rome. + +\- “It was wonderful,” explained the man. “Not only were we on time in one of United’s brand new planes, but it was overbooked and they bumped us up to first class. The food and wine were wonderful, and I had a beautiful young stewardess who waited on me hand and foot. And the hotel! Well, it was great! They’d just finished a $25 million remodeling job and now it’s the finest hotel in the city. They were overbooked too, so they apologized and gave us the presidential suite at no extra charge!” + +\- “Well,” muttered the barber. “I know you didn’t get to see the Pope.” + +\- “Actually, we were quite lucky, for as we toured the Vatican, a Swiss Guard tapped me on the shoulder and explained that the Pope likes to meet some of the visitors, and if I’d be so kind as to step into his private room and wait, the Pope would personally greet me. Sure enough, five minutes later, the Pope walked in. As I knelt down he spoke to me.” + +\- “What did he say?” + +\- “He said, ‘Where’d you get this shitty haircut?""",0 +2665,What's the difference between an onion and a prostitute?. I cry when I chop up an onion,0 +2666,"Professor X [sitting in his wheel chair] asks a girl, ""what is your mutant power?"" Girl replies: ""I can guess how many pulls to turn a ceiling fan off on the first try!"". She points up and says: ""3 pulls"" + +Professor X stands up and pulls 3 times. After the third pull the fan turns off. + +Professor X: ""Yeah thats cool and all, but not really a super power..."" +r>Girl: ""Yeah I was jut kidding, I can heal paraplegics"" + +Professor X, still standing: ""Oh my god""",0 +2667,"North Korea announced to have successfully landed a man on the Sun. During a live interview with Kim Jong-un, a reporter asked, ""the Sun is very hot! How did you land a man?"" Kim proudly replied, ""we launch at night!"" + +Meanwhile, Trump tweeted while watching the live, ""Haha what an idiot! There is no Sun at night!""",0 +2668,"Several centuries ago, the Pope decreed that all the Jews had to convert to Catholicism or leave Italy. There was a huge outcry from the Jewish community, so the Pope offered a deal. He'd have a religious debate with the leader of the Jewish community.... + +If the Jews won, they could stay in Italy; if the Pope won, they'd have to convert or leave. + +The Jewish people met and picked an aged and wise Rabbi to represent them in the debate. + +However, as the Rabbi spoke no Italian, and the Pope spoke no Hebrew, they agreed that it would be a 'silent' debate. + +On the chosen day, the Pope and the Rabbi sat opposite each other. + +The Pope raised his hand and showed three fingers. + +The Rabbi looked back and raised one finger. + +Next, the Pope waved his finger around his head. + +The Rabbi pointed to the ground where he sat. + +The Pope brought out a communion wafer and a chalice of wine. + +The Rabbi pulled out an apple. + +With that, the Pope stood up and declared himself beaten and said that the Rabbi was too clever. + +The Jews could stay in Italy! + +Later the cardinals met with the Pope and asked him what had happened. + +The Pope said, ""First I held up three fingers to represent the Trinity. He responded by holding up a single finger to remind me there is still only one God common to both our beliefs. Then, I waved my finger around my head to show him that God was all around us. He responded by pointing to the ground to show that God was also right here with us. Finally, I pulled out the wine and wafer to show that God absolves us of all our sins. He pulled out an apple to remind me of the original sin. He bested me at every move and I could not continue!"" + +Meanwhile, the Jewish community gathered to ask the Rabbi how he had won. + +""I don't have a clue!!!"" the Rabbi said. + +""First, he told me that we had three days to get out of Italy, so I gave him the finger. Then he tells me that the whole country would be cleared of Jews, so I told him that we were staying right here."" + +""And then what?"" asked a woman. + +""Who knows!!"" said the Rabbi. ""He took out his lunch, so I took out mine!""",0 +2669,"Ukrainian cleaning his pistol. It's 1961, and a Ukrainian is cleaning his pistol. His son runs into the room shouting: ""Daddy, daddy, Russians have gone to space!"" The man stops cleaning his pistol. ""What, all of them?"" ""No, just one!"" The man grumbles & continues cleaning the pistol.",0 +2670,My buddy had a threesome with his GF and her twin….. I asked him how he could tell them apart? He told me her brother had a mustache…,0 +2671,"My wife suggested we watch some porn to spice things up. I put on “Crazy Anal Chicks vol. 4”. But it was just a bunch of women yelling at me to do the dishes, put my shoes on the entranceway mat, and hang the towels on the rack",0 +2672,"Yesterday, I bought a bottle of Whiskey and was on my way home on my motorcycle. Suddenly a thought occured to me; What if my motorcycle crashes? What would I drink once I get home? +So I stoopped right then, and gulped the entire bottle down, sitting beside the road. + +I'll tell you, that was one of my smartest moves. I crashed 4 times before I reached home yesterday.",0 +2673,"I debated a flat earther once. he stormed off saying he'd walk to the edge of the earth to prove me wrong. + +He'll come around, eventually.",0 +2674,"If I had a quarter for every time someone over 40 told me my generation sucks.... + +Then I could afford a house in the economy they ruined.",0 +2675,"The three life stages of sex. Age 18-35: Tri-Weekly + +Age 35-60: Try Weekly + +Age 60-90: Try Weakly",0 +2676,"A penguin grows tired of the cold winters in Alaska.... So he buys a used Corvette and heads south for warmer weather. About five hundred miles into the trip the Corvette starts to overheat. + +He stops in a small town and finds a mechanic to get the issue fixed. The mechanic says he is not going to be able to look at the car for an hour, so the Penguin asks him if there is any place to eat while he waits. The mechanic says there is a great fish and chips right around the corner. + +So, the penguin leaves and gets a nice lunch. An hour has passed and he heads back to the repair shop. The mechanic has the car on a lift, so the penguin asks the mechanic if he found the issue. + +The mechanic says “It looks like you blew a seal.” The penguin wipes the side of his mouth and says “No, that’s just tartar sauce.”",0 +2677,"Two guys are talking about sex with their girlfriends.. Says the first guy: “Dude, have you ever tried doing it in the other hole?” His buddy is outraged: “Are you crazy? She could get pregnant that way!”",0 +2678,"How do you identify the gender of an ant?. (1) Place it in water. + +(2) If it sinks: girl ant + +(3) If it floats...",0 +2679,"A man with a 25-inch long penis. goes to his doctor to complain that he is unable to get any women to have sex with him. They all tell him that his penis is too long. + +""Doctor,"" he asks in total frustration, ""Is there any way you can shorten it?"" + +The doctor replies, ""Medically son, there is nothing I can do. But, I do know this witch who may be able to help you out."" + +So the doctor gives him directions to the witch. The man calls upon the witch and relays his story. + +""Witch, my penis is 25-inches long and I can't get any women to have sex with me. Can you help me shorten it?"" + +The witch stares in amazement, scratches her head, and then replies, ""I think I have a solution to your problem. What you have to do is go to this pond deep in the forest. In the pond, you will see a frog sitting on a log who can help solve your dilemma. First you must ask the frog, will you marry me? Each time the frog declines your proposal, your penis will be five inches shorter."" + +The man's face lights up and he dashes off into the forest. He calls out to the frog, ""Will you marry me?"" + +The frog looks at him dejectedly and replies, ""NO!"" + +The man looks down and suddenly his penis is 5 inches shorter. ""Wow,"" he screams out loud, ""This is great!!"" + +But he is still too long at 20 inches, so he asks the frog again."" ""Frog, will you marry me?"" the guy shouts. + +The frog rolls its eyes back in its head and screams back, ""NO!"" + +The man feels another twitch in his penis, looks down, and it's another 5 inches shorter. The man laughs, ""This is fantastic."" + +He looks down at his penis again, 15 inches long, and reflects for a moment. Fifteen inches is still a monster, just a little less would be ideal. Grinning, he looks across the pond and yells out, ""Frog, will you marry me?"" + +The frog looks back across pond shaking its head, ""How many times do I have to tell you? NO, NO, and for the last time, NO!""",0 +2680,Job interviewer: Where do you see yourself in 5 years?. Me: I would say my biggest weakness is listening.,0 +2681,"A British tourist visits a brothel in America [NSFW]. Shameless repost of a classic, relevant today. + +Geoffrey, a middle-aged British tourist on his first visit to California finds the red light district and enters a large brothel. The madam asks him to be seated and sends over a young lady to entertain him. + +They sit and talk, frolic a little, giggle a bit, drink a bit, and she sits on his lap. He whispers in her ear and she gasps and runs away! Seeing this, the madam sends over a more experienced lady to entertain the gentleman. + +They sit and talk, frolic a little, giggle a bit, drink a bit, and she sits on his lap. He whispers in her ear, and she too screams, ""No!"" and walks quickly away. + +The madam is surprised that this ordinary looking man has asked for something so outrageous that her two girls will have nothing to do with him. She decides that only her most experienced lady, Lola, will do. Lola has never said no, and it's not likely anything would surprise her. So the madam sends her over to Geoffrey's. They sit and talk, frolic a little, giggle a bit, drink a bit, and she sits on his lap. He whispers in her ear and she screams, ""NO WAY, BUDDY!"" and smacks him as hard as she can and leaves. + +Madam is by now absolutely intrigued, having seen nothing like this in all her years of operating a brothel. She hasn't done the bedroom work herself for a long time, but she's sure she has said yes to everything a man could possibly ask for. She just has to find out what this man wants that has made her girls so angry. Besides she sees a chance to teach her employees a lesson. + +So she goes over to Geoffrey and says that she's the best in the house and is available. She sits and talks with him. They frolic, giggle, drink and then she sits in his lap. + +He leans forwards and whispers in her ear, ""Can I pay in Pounds?""",0 +2682,"A man dies one day and finds himself in Hell, much to his surprise.. The man has never sinned, he has attended church somewhat regularly and often gives to charity. + +He asks at the gate if there has been a mistake to which the ferryman gives no answer. + +He figures there is little hope for him, but somehow he will make the best of his situation. + +He greets every demon with a smile, learns all of their names, he finds ways to keep himself somehow entertained as he is tortured, like counting every tile in the wall (yes, hell has masonry) + +He's been there a while, it's hard to measure eternity until one day he spots The Devil himself. + +He goes up and introduces himself, saying that despite everything it's an honour to meet him. + +The devil returns the greeting and they make some idle small talk, until the man asks: ""In all of Eternity, what is the one thing you are most proud of accomplishing?"" + +The devil smiles and replies simply ""I convinced humanity that there was an alternative to this"".",0 +2683,"Justin Timberlake announces that he will be joining the war in Ukrain.. +Early reports suggest that he will be stationed somewhere along the Crimea River",0 +2684,"Story of my divorce. Why did I get divorce, you ask? Well, last week was my birthday. My wife didn't get me a present and didn't even wish me a happy birthday. My parents forgot and so did my kids. I went to work and even my co-workers didn't wish me a happy birthday. As I entered my office, my secretary said, ""Happy birthday, boss!"" That moment, I felt so special. She then asked me out for lunch. After lunch, she invited me to her apartment. We went there and she said, ""Do you mind if I go into the bedroom for a minute?"" ""Okay,"" I said. She came out 5 minutes later with a birthday cake, my wife, my parents, my kids, my friends, & my colleagues all yelling, ""SURPRISE!!!"" while I was waiting on the sofa... naked.",0 +2685,"A vacuum cleaner salesman came to my door, poured a bag of dog shit on my carpet and said, ""Sir, if this vacuum can't clean it completely, I'll eat whatever's left."". I said, ""I hope you're hungry 'cause they cut off the electricity this morning.""",0 +2686,"Guys, abortion may be illegal soon. If you accidentally get a girl pregnant, make sure she’s an anti-vaxxer.. Instead of paying for 18 years of child support, you’ll only have to pay for 3.",0 +2687,I hope death is a woman. That way it will never come for me.,0 +2688,"The girlfriend asked me what I was doing on the computer.. I said ""looking for cheap flights."" + +She got very exited and said ""I love you,"" then got on her knees and + +gave me the best blow job I've ever had. + +Which surprised me as she's never been interested in darts before.",0 +2689,"Pinocchio has a new girlfriend.... Pinocchio has a new girlfriend, but they're worried about becoming intimate because she doesn't want to get a bunch of splinters. So Pinocchio goes to Geppetto and asks for assistance with the problem. Geppetto suggests that Pinocchio apply a little bit of sandpaper to his privates prior to the intimacy in order to prevent splinters. A couple weeks later, Geppetto runs into Pinocchio and asks how things are with the girlfriend. Pinocchio responds, ""who needs a girlfriend when you've got sandpaper.""",0 +2690,"Just met my friend on the street crying his eyes out so I asked him what was wrong. He said ""Today is the 2nd of the 2nd 2022 and I just turned 22 so I went to the bookies and put €222 on the second horse in the second race of the day.. It was at 2.22!"" + +""That all sounds great"" I said, ""What went wrong""? + +""He came second"".",0 +2691,"My 12 year old son tried coffee for the first time today. ""It tastes like dirt!"" + +I told him it was just ground this morning.",0 +2692,"So according to Will Smith's actions.... You can ask Jada for head, but you can't talk about her head.",0 +2693,How does every racist joke start?. By looking over both shoulders.,0 +2694,I had five hundred Hershey Bars in my fridge and my friend had one in his. I pressured him into giving his to a homeless person.. That's basically how celebrity charity appeals work.,0 +2695,"One night, Pinnochio’s girlfriend says to him, “This stinks. Every time we make love I get splinters.”. So Pinnochio goes to Gepetto to ask his advice. Gepetto says, ""Sandpaper, +my boy, that's all you need."" + +A few days later Gepetto runs into Pinnochio and says, ""So +how are you doing with the girls now?"" + +Pinnochio says, ""Who needs girls?""",0 +2696,"76% of people don’t know opposite words for the following:. +1) Always 2) Coming 3) From 4) Take 5) Me 6) Down",0 +2697,"Yoda and Luke are walking through the swamp. Part of their usual training course involves shimmying along a cliff ledge, but today, there’s a long break in the ledge they can’t cross. “Something for this I have.” Yoda says.. He reaches into his bag and takes out a bunch of regular dinner table forks and a roll of duct tape. + +He tapes several forks together to make a bridge and lays it down, allowing the two of them to get across. + +When they get back to Yoda’s hovel, they find that some creature has chewed a hole in the fence around Yoda’s garden. + +“Something I have for this.” Yoda says again. + +Once again, he takes a bunch of forks out of his bag and, using duct tape, tapes them in to patch the hole. + +Yoda and Luke return to Yoda’s home, where Yoda looks through his bag. + +He’s used all his forks but one, he discovers. + +“That’s ok Master."" Luke says, wanting to be helpful. “I’ll write us a note reminding us to buy more.” + +So he writes the note and uses the very last fork to pin it to the bulletin board. + +He looks down at Yoda expecting pride, but instead finds a look of horror. + +“Master Yoda!” he asks. “What did I do wrong?” + +Yoda replies sagely, “A Jedi uses the forks for no ledge and the fence. Never for a tack!”",0 +2698,"The King of France, The King of England and The King of Spain are having an argument over who has the biggest penis.. +Eventually they decide to let the people judge. They all stand on a stage in front of the people and drop their pants one by one. + + +The King of France drops his and the French crowd shout ""Vive la France!!"" + + +The King of Spain drops his and the Spanish crowd shout ""Viva España!!"" + + +The King of England drops his, but there is a long silence from the crowd, and then everybody shouts ""God save the Queen!!!""",0 +2699,"An infinite number of mathematicians walk into a bar. An infinite number of mathematicians walk into a bar + +   The first mathematician orders a beer  + +The second orders half a beer  + +""I don't serve half-beers"" the bartender replies  + +""Excuse me?"" Asks mathematician #2  + +""What kind of bar serves half-beers?"" The bartender remarks. ""That's ridiculous."" + +""Oh c'mon"" says mathematician #1 ""do you know how hard it is to collect an infinite number of us? Just play along"" + +""There are very strict laws on how I can serve drinks. I couldn't serve you half a beer even if I wanted to."" + +""But that's not a problem"" mathematician #3 chimes in ""at the end of the joke you serve us a whole number of beers. You see, when you take the sum of a continuously halving function-"" + +""I know how limits work"" interjects the bartender  ""Oh, alright then. I didn't want to assume a bartender would be familiar with such advanced mathematics"" + +""Are you kidding me?"" The bartender replies, ""you learn limits in like, 9th grade! What kind of mathematician thinks limits are advanced mathematics?""  + +""HE'S ON TO US"" mathematician #1 screeches  + +Simultaneously, every mathematician opens their mouth and out pours a cloud of multicolored mosquitoes. Each mathematician is bellowing insects of a different shade.  The mosquitoes form into a singular, polychromatic swarm. ""FOOLS"" it booms in unison, ""I WILL INFECT EVERY BEING ON THIS PATHETIC PLANET WITH MALARIA"" + +The bartender stands fearless against the technicolor hoard. ""But wait"" he inturrupts, thinking fast, ""if you do that, politicians will use the catastrophe as an excuse to implement free healthcare. Think of how much that will hurt the taxpayers!""  + +The mosquitoes fall silent for a brief moment. ""My God, you're right. We didn't think about the economy! Very well, we will not attack this dimension. FOR THE TAXPAYERS!"" and with that, they vanish.  + +A nearby barfly stumbles over to the bartender. ""How did you know that that would work?""  + +""It's simple really"" the bartender says. ""I saw that the vectors formed a gradient, and therefore must be conservative."" + +[Edit]: This blew up thanks guys! Hope you enjoyed the joke.",0 +2700,NSFW Why can't women ever tell men where the clitoris is?. Cause its a place to eat.,0 +2701,"A woman awakes during the night to find that her husband is not in bed. She puts on her robe and goes downstairs to look for him. She finds him sitting at the kitchen table with a hot cup of coffee in front of him. He appears to be in deep thought, just staring at the wall. She watches as he wipes a tear from his eye and takes a sip of his coffee. + +'What's the matter, dear' she whispers as she steps into the room, 'Why are you down here at this time of night + +The husband looks up from his coffee, 'It's the 20th Anniversary of the day we met'. + +She can't believe he has remembered and starts to tear up. + +The husband continues, 'Do you remember 20 years ago when we started dating, I was 18 and you were only 16,' he says solemnly. + +Once again, the wife is touched to tears. 'Yes, I do' she replies. + +The husband pauses The words were not coming easily. 'Do you remember when your father caught us in the back seat of my car' + +'Yes, I remember' said the wife, lowering herself into the chair beside him. + +The husband continued. 'Do you remember when he shoved the shotgun in my face and said, ""Either you marry my daughter or I will send you to jail for 20 years' + +'I remember that, too' she replied softly. + +He wiped another tear from his cheek and said ""I would have gotten out today.""",0 +2702,"A woman marries the man of her dreams, but on their wedding night he will only consummate the marriage under the sheets with the lights off.. A woman marries the man of her dreams, but on their wedding night he will only consummate the marriage under the sheets with the lights off. The woman thinks this is a bit strange, but she figures he's just shy about his first time and doesn't read too much into it. + +Over the next 30 years, the couple builds a life together. They buy a house, get a dog, and have three amazing children, but the woman has just one problem. Her husband will still only have sex with her if they're under the sheets with the lights off. + +One night, the woman has had enough and decides to get to the bottom of things. She hides a flashlight under her pillow, and just as things are heating up she throws back the sheets and shines the light at their bodies. She is amazed to discover that her husband has an incredibly tiny penis, and is wearing a very realistic strap-on over it. + +The woman feels betrayed and starts screaming at her husband, asking him how he could lie to her for 30 years and telling him she feels like a fool for believing him all this time. When her husband finally gets a chance to speak, he responds: + +""I'll explain the toy if you explain the kids.""",0 +2703,"I'm a 21-year-old multimillionaire. Here's how I did it.. 1. I get up at 5:00 AM every day +2. I run for an hour before breakfast +3. Afterward, I take a cold shower to wake me up. +4. Journaling is key. You never know when you might need to remember something. +5. Always write down an appointment as soon as you get it. +6. My dad owns a Fortune 500 company. +7. I meditate every day",0 +2704,"Mark went for a walk in the park.. As he strolled up the path he heard someone shout, ""Mark!"" + +He stopped and turned his head, and heard it again. ""Mark!"" + +There was nobody around except for an old man on a bench with his dog, so he walked closer. + +""Mark! Mark!"" said the dog, tugging on its leash in the man's hands. + +Mark was taken aback. ""You.. you know my name?! ..and can ***talk***?"" + +""Oh?"" the man lifted his head. ""I'm sorry, she can't pronounce her B's"".",0 +2705,"Steal a man’s wallet, and he’ll be poor for a day…. Teach him to play an instrument, and he’ll be poor for the rest of his life",0 +2706,"The traffic jam in Russia.. There is a massive traffic jam somewhere in Russia. A driver sits idling in his car. + +Suddenly a man approaches and knocks on his window. + +The driver rolls down the window and asks ""What's going on?"" + +""Terrorists have kidnapped Putin and are asking for a 20 million rubel ransom! + +Otherwise, they are going to douse him in gasoline and set him on fire!"" + +The man continues ""We are going from car to car taking up a collection."" + +The driver asks ""Okay, how much is everyone else giving?"" + +The man replies ""Oh, about a gallon or so.""",0 +2707,"I saw a woman drop her purse in the high street this morning, so…. I quickly followed her. As I was just about to tap her on the shoulder she started running for a bus. So I ran after her shouting, ""You dropped your purse! You dropped your purse!"" +She didn't hear me and proceeded to get onto the bus, so I got on the bus too. As I walked to the back of the bus I breathlessly said, ""You dropped your purse on the floor outside McDonald's."" +""Thank you so much"" she said, ""Where is it?"" +I said, ""I've just told you, on the floor outside McDonald's.""",0 +2708,"Are my testicles Black?. A male patient is lying in bed in the hospital, wearing an oxygen mask over his mouth and nose. A young student nurse appears and gives him a partial sponge bath. + +""Nurse,""' he mumbles from behind the mask, ""are my testicles black?"" + +Embarrassed, the young nurse replies, ""I don't know, Sir. I'm only here to wash your upper body and feet."" + +He struggles to ask again, ""Nurse, please check for me. Are my testicles black?"" + +Concerned that he might elevate his blood pressure and heart rate from worrying about his testicles, she overcomes her embarrassment and pulls back the covers. + +She raises his gown, holds his manhood in one hand and his testicles in the other. + +She looks very closely and says, ""There's nothing wrong with them, Sir. They look fine."" + +The man slowly pulls off his oxygen mask, smiles at her, and says very slowly, ""Thank you very much. That was wonderful. Now listen very, very closely: + +Are - my - test - results - back?""",0 +2709,A homeless man asked me for money I had 20 dollars in my pocket and didn’t want it to just go towards crack and alcohol. So I gave it to the homeless man,0 +2710,"An Airbus 380 is flying across the Atlantic. An Airbus 380 is on its way across the Atlantic. It flies consistently at 800 km/h at 30,000 feet, when suddenly a jet fighter appears. +The pilot of the fighter jet slows down, flies alongside the Airbus and greets the pilot of the passenger plane by radio: ""Airbus, boring flight isn’t it? Now have a look here!"" +He rolls his jet on its back, accelerates, breaks through the sound barrier, rises rapidly to a dizzying height, and then swoops down almost to sea level in a breathtaking dive. He loops back next to the Airbus and asks: ""Well, how was that?"" +The Airbus pilot answers: ""Very impressive, but watch this!"" +The jet pilot watches the Airbus, but nothing happens. It continues to fly straight, at the same speed. After 15 minutes, the Airbus pilot radios, ""Well, how was that? +Confused, the jet pilot asks, ""What did you do?"" +The Airbus pilot laughs and says: ""I got up, stretched my legs, walked to the back of the aircraft to use the shitter, then got a cup of coffee and a chocolate fudge pastry.""",0 +2711,"and we saw dogs mating. She said: ""How does the male know when the female is ready for sex?"" I replied: ""He can smell she is ready . That's how nature works."". We then walked past a sheep field and the ram was mating the ewe. + +Again my girlfriend asked: ""How does the ram knew when the ewe is ready for sex?"" + +I replied: ""It's nature. He can smell she is ready."" + +We then went past a cow-field and the bull was mating with the cow. + +My girlfriend said: ""This is odd. They are really going at it. Surely the bull can't smell when she is ready?"" + +I said: ""Oh, yes; it's nature . All animals can smell when the female is ready for sex."" + +Anyway, after the walk, I dropped her home and kissed her goodbye. + +She said: ""Take care and get yourself checked out for Covid-19."" + +Surprised, ""Why do you say that?"" I asked her. + +She replied: ""You seem to have lost your sense of smell.""",0 +2712,"TIL that 50% of Roger Federer's....... ....name is ""er""",0 +2713,"Vibrator. A mother was walking down the hall, when she heard a humming sound coming from her daughter’s bedroom... When she opened the door, she found her daughter scantily clad on the bed with a vibrator. + +""What in God's name are you doing?"" she exclaimed. + +The daughter replied, ""I’m 35 and still living at home with my parents and this is the closest I’ll ever get to a husband."" + +Later that week the father was in the kitchen and heard a humming sound coming from the basement. When he went downstairs, he found his daughter scantily clad on the sofa with her vibrator. + +""What the heck are you doing?"" he exclaimed. + +The daughter replied, ""I’m 35 and still living at home with my parents and this is the closest I’ll ever get to a husband."" + +A couple of days later the mother heard the humming sound again, this time in the living room. + +In there, she found her husband watching the Super Bowl on television with the vibrator buzzing away beside him. + +""What in the heavens are you doing?"" she exclaimed. + +He replied... ""What? Just watching the game with my son-in-law.""",0 +2714,"A guy with no arms……. (Long). A guy who was born with no arms goes to the doctor one day and the doc says, ‘I have bad news, you are terminally ill and you only have one month left to live.” + +The man was a absolutely despondent - but as he walked out of his doctors office, he looked up at the monastery atop the hill near town and thought to himself, I have always wanted to ring the bells in the monastery tower - if I don’t do it now, it will never happen. + +So he walks up the path to the monastery and, using his head, ‘knock knock knock’, bangs on the door. A few moments later, a portly monk answers the door and asks how he may be of assistance. The man with no arms explains his plight and asks if there is any way that the monk can help. + +The monk pauses, then looks at his watch, looks back at the man - focusing on his lack of arms - and says, ”well, I don’t know how you would do it, but it is almost time to ring the bells so I will give you a shot.” + +The man is overwhelmed with joy and can’t stop thanking the monk as the monk leads him to the bell tower, slowly waddling across the yard and up the long spiral staircase to the bell tower. They reach the bell tower with just minutes to spare. The skeptical monk looks at his watch, and when the hour strikes twelves, he says , ‘ tis time to ring the bell, my son’. + +Expecting the young man to grab the rope in his teeth in his attempt to ring the bell, the monk is stunned when instead the man leans forward and runs full speed into the bell. And ring the bell the young man did. When he made contact, the bell let out the most glorious ring - a sound so beautiful that the monk was brought to tears. And as the bell rang, it slowly swung backwards from the force of the impact before swinging back. But when it did swing back, it squarely struck the young man, sending him flying out the window and down to the sidewalk just outside of the monastery. + +The chubby monk waddled down the stairs as fast as he could - which wasn’t very fast - and when he finally gets around to the side of the monastery where the man had fallen, a passing police officer had already arrived and covered the corpse with a blanket. When he saw the monk running up in a flustered state, he just assumed that the monk knew the victim, so he pulled back the blanket and said, ‘I am sorry to ask this brother, but do you know this man.’ + +The monk paused for a moment as he looked down at the newly deceased before he said, “Well, I don’t know his name, but his face sure does ring a bell.”",0 +2715,Why do french tanks have rearway mirrors?. So the drivers could see the battlefield.,0 +2716,What's the difference between a vegan and a computer programmer?. One is disgusted by rack of lamb and the other is disgusted by lack of RAM.,0 +2717,"[NSFW] The village idiot wanted to get rich.. Everyday he would pray to the gods that he would win the lottery. + +Every night, ""God, please let me win the lottery!!!!"" + +This went on for years and years, until one day suddenly there was a blinding flash of light as the heavens open, god steps in front of him and slaps him across his face! + +""At least buy a fcukin ticket, man!!!""",0 +2718,Why is it okay to have unprotected sex with an Uvalde police officer?. Because they never come inside.,0 +2719,My girlfriend once caught me masturbating to an optical illusion.. I told her “it’s not what it looks like”.,0 +2720,"My son just asked me where poo comes from, I gave him a detailed explanation, where he then stood in stunned silence.. Then he asked, “What about Tigger?”",0 +2721,'Earth' without 'Art' is just 'Eh'.. Just like 'The United States of America' without 'heunedtatesam' is just 'Tits of Erica'.,0 +2722,"Three inmates on the way to prison…. Three inmates were on the way to prison. They were each allowed to take one item with them to help them occupy their time while incarcerated. + +On the bus, one turned to another and said, ""So, what did you bring?"" + +The first convict pulled out a box of paints and stated that he intended to paint anything he could. He wanted to become the ""Grandma Moses of Jail."" + +Then he asked the second, ""What did you bring?"" + +The second convict pulled out a deck of cards and grinned and said, ""I brought cards. I can play poker, solitaire, gin, and any number of games."" + +The third convict was sitting quietly aside, grinning to himself. The other two took notice and asked, ""Why are you so smug? What did you bring?"" + +The guy pulled out a box of tampons and smiled. He said, ""I brought these."" + +The other two were puzzled and asked, ""What can you do with those?"" + +He grinned and pointed to the box and said, ""Well according to the box, I can go horseback riding, swimming, roller-skating....""",0 +2723,"My daughter just walked into the living room and said. ""Dad, cancel my allowance immediately, rent my room out, throw all my clothes out of the window, take my TV, and stereo, and iPhone, and iPod, and my laptop. + +Please take all of my jewellery to the Salvation Army or Cash Converters. Then sell my new car, take my front door key away from me and throw me out of the house. + +Then disown me and never talk to me again. + +And don't forget to write me out of your will and leave my share to my brother.” + +​ + +Well, she didn't put it quite like that... she actually said... + +​ + +“Dad, this is my new boyfriend, he supports Manchester United""",0 +2724,R. Kelly had a chance to be a professional hockey player. But he doesn't like to score after the first period,0 +2725,"Five surgeons are discussing who makes the best patients on the operating table.. Five surgeons are discussing who makes the best patients on the operating table. +The first surgeon says, ""I like to see accountants on my operating table because when you open them up, everything inside is numbered."" +The second responds, ""Yeah, but you should try electricians! Everything inside them is color coded."" +The third surgeon says, ""No, I really think librarians are the best; everything inside them is in alphabetical order."" +The fourth surgeon chimes in: ""You know, I like construction workers...those guys always understand when you have a few parts left over at the end, and when the job takes longer than you said it would."" +But the fifth surgeon shut them all up when he observed: ""You're all wrong. Politicians are the easiest to operate on. There's no guts, no heart, and no spine, and the head and butt are interchangeable.""",0 +2726,"There was once a man with a very long penis,. it was so long that he needed a surgery to end his suffering. so he made an appointment and and got a doctor to do the surgery. +Several days later the guy has done his surgery and now is recovering in the hospital. +So he asks his doctor how did he cut it +The doctor answers “i cut 170 cm and i left the rest for you”. +Then he wonders “but doctor what did you do to those 170 cm” +The doctor answers:”simple, i just put it in a suit and now it’s the president of Russia”",0 +2727,"Why don’t you ever see elephants hiding in trees?. Because they’re really good at it. + + +Why do elephants paint their balls red? + +So they can hide in cherry trees. + + +What is the loudest sound in the jungle? + +Giraffes eating cherries.",0 +2728,"Joke Factory: Why did the [NOUN] go to the [LOCATION]?. Give me a random NOUN and LOCATION using the above format, and I'll give you the punchline. + +For example: + +Why did the soldier go to the beach?He was caught in a sand-off and came back shell-shocked. + +Ready? Go! + +\-- + +EDIT: I can't keep up! It's too much! Thanks for all the laughs everyone, they really had me bending my brain a bit!",0 +2729,I tried dating a cougar once.. Turned out she was a cheetah.,0 +2730,"What does boobs and toys have in common?. They’re made for kids but daddies end up playing with them. + + + + + + + +(I didn’t write the joke)",0 +2731,Did you hear the one about the non binary gold prospector. They dug a fortune out of them/their hills.,0 +2732,"An American, An Indian, And A Russian Meet The Devil. An American, an Indian, and a Russian end up in Hell and plead to the Devil that they don't belong here. The Devil, bored, makes them an offer: ""I will strike you 3 times with my whip, and if you survive, I'll let you go. You can use anything you want as a shield"". + +The American goes first. He builds a high-tech shield from depleted uranium and composites, and hides behind it. The Devil strikes once - the shield cracks; twice - the shield falls apart; thrice - the American is no more. + +Next goes the Indian. He puts himself in some advanced Yoga position and goes into deep hibernation. The Devil strikes once - nothing; twice - the Indian shivers a bit; thrice - the Indian grunts, but lives. The Devil is amazed and tells him he's free to go. + +The Indian asks, ""May I stay and watch? In all jokes the Russians somehow come out on top. I want to see how he will do it this time"". + +The Devil nods and turns to the Russian: ""So, what will you use as a shield?"" + +The Russian replies, ""The Indian, of course"".",0 +2733,I like my women how I like my coffee!. I don’t like coffee,0 +2734,"Sunday morning sex. Sunday Morning Sex + +Upon hearing that her elderly grandfather had just passed away, Katie went straight to her grandparent's house to visit her 95 year-old grandmother and comfort her. When she asked how her grandfather had died, her grandmother replied, ""He had a heart attack while we were making love on Sunday morning."" Horrified, Katie told her grandmother that 2 people nearly 100 years old having sex would surely be asking for trouble. ""Oh no, my dear,"" replied granny. ""Many years ago, realizing our advanced age, we figured out the best time to do it was when the church bells would start to ring. It was just the right rhythm. Nice and slow and even. Nothing too strenuous, simply in on the Ding and out on the Dong."" She paused to wipe away a tear, and continued, ""He'd still be alive if the ice cream truck hadn't come along.""",0 +2735,"One day a blind man goes to a restaurant. + +One day a blind man goes to a restaurant + +The server asked him if he’d like to see the menu + +The blind man says: “no, I am blind, just bring me a dirty fork and I will smell it and order”. + +The server, confused, goes to the kitchen, and brings back a dirty fork. + +The blind man smells it and says: “I’ll have the beef steak with mash potatoes and gravy and some chocolate brownies for dessert”. + +The server brings him his food and the blind man enjoys his meal, pays the bill and leaves. + +Next week, the blind man goes back to the same restaurant. + +The server recognizes him and wanting to see how good the blind man’s sense of smell is, he goes to the kitchen and asks his wife, Brenda, for a spoon. + +He instructs his wife, Brenda, to rub the spoon all over her private parts and so she does. + +The server hands the dirty spoon to the blind man. The blind man takes a whiff and says: + +“I didn’t know Brenda worked here”",0 +2736,"A person who speaks two languages is bilingual and one who speaks three, is trilingual. What do you call a person who speaks only one language?. American",0 +2737,"Kim Jong-un walks into a school in North Korea.. He asks a student ""Who is your father? + +The student replies ""The Supreme Leader, infinite in wisdom and kindness, provider and protector of the Koreans, he is our only father."" + +Kim Jong beams. ""Excellent. Now tell me who is your mother?"" + +The student doesn't hesitate. ""The Land of True Korea, + +outstanding in her beauty, international superpower, and + +redeemer of all civilisations, she is our only mother."" + +Kim Jong applauds. ""What a diligent student you are. What do you want to be when you're older?"" + +The student replies ""An orphan.""",0 +2738,"A husband and wife are waiting at the bus stop with their nine children.. A blind man joins them after a few minutes. When the bus arrives, they find it overloaded and only the wife and the nine kids are able to fit onto the bus. + +So the husband and the blind man decide to walk. After a while, the husband gets irritated by the ticking of the stick of the blind man as he taps it on the sidewalk, and says to him, “Why don't you put a piece of rubber at the end of your stick? That ticking sound is driving me crazy.” + +The blind man replies, “If you had put a rubber at the end of YOUR stick, we'd be riding the bus, so shut the hell up.” + +Edit: Formatting",0 +2739,"A man joins a very exclusive nudist colony. On his first day there, he takes off his clothes and starts to wander around. A gorgeous petite blonde walks by, and the man immediately gets an erection. + +The woman notices his erection, comes over to him and says, 'Did you call for me?' + +The man replies, 'No, what do you mean?' + +She says, 'You must be new here. Let me explain. It's a rule here that if you get an erection, it implies you called for me.' + +Smiling, she leads him to the side of the swimming pool, lies down on a towel, eagerly pulls him to her and happily lets him have his way with her. + +The man continues to explore the colony's facilities. He enters the sauna and, as he sits down, he farts... + +Within minutes, a huge, hairy man lumbers out of the steam-room toward him, 'Did you call for me?' says the hairy man. + +'No, what do you mean?' says the newcomer. + +'You must be new,' says +the hairy man, 'it's a rule that if you fart, it implies that you called for me.' The huge man easily spins him around, bends him over a bench and has his way with him. + +The newcomer staggers back to the colony office, where he is greeted by the smiling, naked receptionist, 'May I help you?' she says. + +The man yells, 'Here's my membership card. You can have the key back and you can keep the £500 membership fee.' + +'But, Sir,' she replies, 'you've only been here for a few hours. You haven't had the chance to see all our facilities.' + +The man replies, *'*Listen lady, I'm 68 years old. I only get an erection once a month. I fart 35 times a day",0 +2740,"A Priest was being honored at his retirement dinner after 25 years in the parish. A leading local politician and member of the church was chosen to make the presentation and to give a little talk at the dinner. However, he was delayed, so the Priest decided to say his own few words while they waited. “I got my first impression of the parish from the first confession I heard here. I thought I had been assigned to a terrible place. The very first person who entered my confessional told me he had stolen a television set and, when questioned by the police, was able to lie his way out of it. He had stolen money from his parents; embezzled from his employer; had an affair with his boss’s wife; had sex with his boss’s 17 year old daughter on numerous occasions, taken illegal drugs; had several homosexual affairs; was arrested several times for public nudity and gave VD to his sister in-law. + +I was appalled that one person could do so many awful things. But as the days went on, I learned that my people were not all like that and I had, indeed, come to a fine parish full of good and loving people.” + +Just as the Priest finished his talk, the politician arrived full of apologies at being late. He immediately began to make the presentation and gave his talk: “I’ll never forget the first day our parish Priest arrived,” said the politician. “In fact, I had the honor of being the first person to go to him for confession.”",0 +2741,"I know we're all supposed to be tolerant of people from other cultures, but is it too much to ask that Asian waiters learn that all Caucasians don't look alike? My waiter just served my food to some other customer!. Wait. Never mind. That wasn't my waiter.",0 +2742,Viruses can mutate over time. Take Covid for example.... It started as a pandemic illness and turned into an IQ test.,0 +2743,"Yo mama joke I thought of it. Yo mama is so fat and old that she’s still eating from the last supper. + + + + + +Edit : Jesus Christ this blew up. Didn’t know so many of you had to release yo mamas from your system.",0 +2744,A co-worker is in the hospital after eating a giant bacon cheeseburger.. It was mine.,0 +2745,"A 6 year old boy visits the zoo with his parents…. …where they stop to see the elephant. While the father’s in the restroom, the son notices one elephant has a rather large erection. Curious, he gets his mom’s attention. + +“Mommy, what’s that hanging from the elephant?” “Oh, that’s its trunk honey.” “No, further back!” “Ah, you mean its tail!” “No, between its legs! That, what is that?” The mother goes red. “Oh, that’s... that’s nothing, honey.” + +The father returns and the mother goes off to use the restroom. Still curious, the son asks his dad: + +“Daddy, what’s that hanging from the elephant?” “His trunk, son.” “No, further back!” “You mean his tail?” “No, that thing! Between his legs!” “Oh, that! Well, that’s the elephant’s penis.” “Oh!... Why did Mommy say it was nothing?” “Son, I have SPOILED that woman.”",0 +2746,Queen Elizabeth II may have made it to 96 before she died.... But Princess Diana made it to 120,0 +2747,"(from my 11 yo) What does Darth Vader say after cutting someone's head off with a lightsaber?. ""I find your lack of face disturbing.""",0 +2748,"I haven't had sex since 1956. A woman asked an Army General when the last time he had made love to a woman. The general replied ""1956, ma'am."" The woman, in disbelief said ""1956?! That long? Come with me and let me make your night better."" The woman and general went back to her apartment and made passionate love for over an hour. Afterwards, the woman cuddled up to the general and said ""Well, you sure haven't forgotten anything since 1956..."" The general looked at her, confused, and replied ""I sure hope not, it's only 2130 now.""",0 +2749,"Two Jewish guys are walking down the street.... Two Jewish guys are walking down the street when they spot a sign outside a church: ""Today Only: Convert to Christianity and we will give you 100 bucks cash!"" + +""I'm gonna do it,"" one guy tells the other and disappears through the church door. + +5 minutes later he's back. ""Well, Did you get the cash?"" his buddy asks. + +""Jeez Is that all you people think about?"" comes the friend's reply. + +edit: cheers for the upvotes. It was a joke John Cleese told when I saw him and Eric Idle live. Edited here for clarity.",0 +2750,"What does Bill Clinton say to Hillary after having sex?. ""I'll be home in 15 minutes.""",0 +2751,"I got fired from a sperm bank.... Every time someone walked in I'd say ""get a load of this guy""",0 +2752,"Duck walks into a pub.... A duck walks into a pub and orders a beer and a ham sandwich. + +The barman looks at him and says, ""But you're a duck"". + +""I see your eyes are working"", replies the duck. + +""And you talk!"" exclaims the barman. + +""I see your ears are working"", says the duck, now can I have my beer and my sandwich please?"" + +""Certainly"", says the barman, ""sorry about that, it's just we don't get many ducks in this pub. What are you doing round this way?"". + +""I'm working on the building site across the road”explains the duck. + +Then the duck drinks his beer, eats his sandwich and leaves. This continues for 2 weeks. + +Then one day the circus comes to town. + +The Ringleader of the circus comes into the pub and the barman says to him, ""You're with the circus aren't you?, I know this duck that would be just brilliant in your circus, he talks, drinks beer and everything!"". + +""Sounds marvellous"", says the ringleader, ""get him to give me a call"". + +So the next day when the duck comes into the pub the barman says, ""Hey Mr Duck, I reckon I can line you up with a top job, paying really good money!"" + +""Yeah?"", says the duck, ""Sounds great, where is it?"" + +""At the circus"", says the barman. + +""The circus?"" the duck enquires. + +""That's right"", replies the barman. + +""The circus?"" the duck asks again. + +""Yes"" says the barman + +""That place with the big tent?"" the duck enquires. + +""Yeah"" the barman replies. + +""With all the animals?"" the duck questioned. + +""Of Course"" the barman replies. + +""With the big canvas roof with the hole in the middle"", asks the duck + +""That's right!"" says the barman + +The duck looks confused. + +""What the f*ck would they want with a plasterer?""......😂😂😂",0 +2753,"NASA was interviewing professionals to be sent to Mars. Only one could go, and he couldn't return to Earth.. + +The first applicant, an engineer, was asked how much he wanted to be paid for going. ""A million dollars,"" he answered, ""because I want to donate it to M.I.T."" + +The next applicant, a doctor, was asked the same question. He asked for two million dollars. ""I want to give a million to my family"", he explained, ""and leave the other million for the advancement of medical research."" + +The last applicant was a politician. When asked how much money he wanted, he whispered in the interviewer's ear, ""Three million dollars."" + +""Why so much more than the others?"" the interviewer asked. + +The politician replied, ""If you give me $3 million, I'll give you $1 million, I'll keep $1 million, and we'll send the engineer.""",0 +2754,They said that my dad was gay.. Now I am trying to figure out which one.,0 +2755,"A really huge muscular guy with a bad stutter walks up to a counter in a department store.. A really huge muscular guy with a bad stutter walks up to a counter in a department store and asks, + +""W-w-w-where's the m-m-m-men's dep-p-p-partment?"" + +The clerk behind the counter just looks at him and says nothing. + +The man repeats himself: ""W-w-w-where's the m-m-m-men's dep-p-p-partment?"" + +Again, the clerk doesn't answer him. + +The guy asks several more times: ""W-w-w-where's the m-m-m-men's dep-p-p-partment?"" + +And the clerk just seems to ignore him. + +Finally, the guy storms away in anger after not being answered. + +The customer who was waiting in line behind the muscular guy asks the clerk, ""Why wouldn't you answer that guy's question?"" + +The clerk replies, ""D-d-d-do you th-th-th-think I w-w-w-want to get b-b-b-beat up?!!""",0 +2756,Whats the worst thing to hear during open heart surgery?. Anything,0 +2757,If your workplace requires password changes every 90 days.... ...Just set it to the name of the current UK Prime minister and you should be fine.,0 +2758,"A plane leaves Los Angeles airport under the control of a Jewish captain. His co-pilot is Chinese.. His copilot is Chinese. It's the first time they've flown together, and an awkward silence between the two seems to indicate a mutual dislike. + +Once they reach cruising altitude, the Jewish captain activates the auto-pilot, leans back in his seat, and mutters, 'I don't like Chinese.' + +'No rike Chinese?' asks the copilot, '....why not?' + +'You people bombed Pearl Harbor, that's why !' angrily answers the pilot, + +'No, no,' the co-pilot protests, 'Chinese not bomb Peahl Hahbah! That Japanese, not Chinese.' + +'Japanese, Chinese, Vietnamese... doesn't matter, you're all alike!' + +There's a few minutes of silence. + +'I no rike Jews either!' the copilot suddenly announces. + +'Oh yeah, why not?' asks the captain. + +'Jews sink Titanic.' + +'What? That's insane! Jews didn't sink the Titanic!' exclaims the captain, 'It was an iceberg!' + +'Iceberg, Goldberg, Greenberg, Rosenberg ...no mattah... all same.'",0 +2759,Nine years ago I asked the girl of my dreams on a date. Today I asked her to marry me.. She said no both times.,0 +2760,"A women walks into a bar and takes a seat next to an old cowboy.. ""Excuse me sir, are you really a cowboy?"" Says the woman. +""Yup, have been my whole life"" the old man answers. +""What is that makes you a cowboy?"" She asks. +The old man thinks for a minute and says ""Well, when I wake up in the morning I think about herding, all through the day I think about my herd and at night before bed I think about cattle"" +The woman thinks about it and answers ""That makes sense. See I'm a lesbian, I wake up thinking of kissing women, I spend the day thinking about touching women and I go to bed thinking about sleeping with women."" +They sit for a while longer until she finishes her drink and takes her leave. +A young man then enters and sits down next to the old cowboy. +""Hey mister, are you really a cowboy?"" Asks the young man. +The old man looks up at him and says ""Well untill a few hours ago I thought I was, but now I think I might be a lesbian""",0 +2761,What do you get if you mix human DNA and whale DNA?. You get kicked out of sea world…,0 +2762,"I received a wedding invitation.. It read, ""Your presence itself is a present. We don't want any presents at the wedding."" + +After re-reading it repeatedly, I concluded that I was not invited. So I decided not to attend.",0 +2763,"A Russian had a talking parrot that constantly trashed Putin. When the man's friends came over he'd take out the parrot and bird would stuff like ""Putin is a moron"", ""Putin without a shirt looks like a ballerina"", and ""Putin cannot swim cuz sh!t floats"". one day banging on the door, ""KGB open up!"". The man panics and hides the parrot in the freezer. The KGB ransack the house and can't find the parrot. After they leave the man takes the parrot out of the freezer and says ""you see how stupid the government is"". The parrot shaking start saying ""Putin is a genius"", and ""Putin is the best democratic leader in the Free world!"". The man is shocked and says c'mon curse them. The parrot shivering looks at the man and says, ""I just came back from Siberia, leave me alone"". + + + + +PS 1: yes, nowadays it's FSB, but KGB is a strong brand +PS 2: yes, gulags are not in vouge, but nerve gas the bird for a joke was too much.",0 +2764,"I had the best Dad moment last night... *actual conversation with my 8 year old*. Son: Dad... how many kidneys do I have? + +Me: Two. You have two, son. + +Son: Nope... I have four. *point to belly* Two kidneys here... *points to legs* ...and two kid knees here! + +The student has become the teacher.",0 +2765,I gave my wife an orgasm today!. She spit it out,0 +2766,"A Jewish man decides his son isn't religious enough, so pays for him to go visit Israel.. When the son comes back, however, he says he's a Christian now. + +The father goes to his friend exasperated to explain the situation, and his friend says ""that's funny, I sent my son to Israel last year, and when he came back he also said he was Christian."" + +The two men decide they should speak to their rabbi about this, but when they explain the situation, the rabbi says ""that's funny, two years ago I sent my son to Israel, and he also came back a Christian."" + +The three men decide only God can have the answer, so they pray. The rabbi says aloud ""dear God, all three of us sent our sons to Israel, and all of them came back Christian."" + +God's voice booms down ""that's funny…""",0 +2767,"My friend Ty came first in the Beijing marathon, but he wasn’t awarded the gold medal.. The Chinese refuse to acknowledge Ty won.",0 +2768,"A joke nobody has heard before because I made it up!. There was a man who made himself an outfit completely out of knives. Everywhere he went, any man who saw his outfit said he looked good but any woman who saw him went completely insane! Why? + +It's because every girl goes crazy for a sharp-dressed man.",0 +2769,"A German shepherd, a Doberman and a cat died.. In heaven they faced God,who wanted to know what they believed in. +The German shepherd said ""i believe in discipline, loyalty and training to my master"". +""Good"" said God. ""You may sit on my right side"". +The Doberman said ""I believe in love,care and protection of my master"". +""Aha,you may sit on my left"" said God. +Then God looked at the cat and said"" and what do you believe in""? +The cat replied "" I believe you are sitting in my seat"".",0 +2770,Pearl Jam tried to warn us about Ticketmaster in the Nineties. We didn't listen.. Probably because we couldn't understand what Eddie Vedder was saying.,0 +2771,"A young man tells his Mom he’s gay. A young man decides that the upcoming holiday is a good time to tell his Mom that he's gay. He's in college, making new friends, and will eventually want to bring one of them home to meet the family. He spends the drive home going over the conversation, what he'll say, what she'll say, how he'll answer any questions, that sort of thing. He's pretty sure she'll be accepting, but he wants to be prepared. He arrives home, there are plenty of hugs, a nice dinner, and a good nights sleep. The next morning he joins his Mom in the kitchen as she gets the holiday feast ready. He's sitting at the kitchen table, she's stirring this, and checking that. It reminds him of holidays when he was young. Finally, he works up his courage and says ""Mom, I have something to tell you."" She replies sweetly ""What's that dear?"" He’s still a bit nervous, but says ""Mom, I'm gay."" She finishes stirring one of the pots, turns to him with her arms crossed, and asks ""That means you put other men's penises in your mouth, doesn't it?"" He's caught completely off guard. None of his planned scenarios even remotely came close to that question. He stammers, and simply says ""Yes, it does."" She then reaches out and bonks him on the head with the spoon, points it at him and says ""Then don't you ever let me hear you complain about my cooking again."" turns and continues with the preparations for the day.",0 +2772,I refused to believe I was dyslexic and gay.... I was in Daniel,0 +2773,"My wife and I had sex for 3 straight hours last night…. We did some role playing. I played the doctor, she played the patient who was in the waiting room for 2 hours and 58 minutes.",0 +2774,"Joe rented an apartment and went to the lobby to put his name on his mailbox. While there, an attractive young lady came out of the apartment next to the mailboxes wearing a robe. + + Joe smiled at the young woman and she started a conversation with him. As they talked, her robe slipped open, and it was obvious that she had nothing else on. Poor Joe broke out into a sweat trying to maintain eye contact. + +After a few minutes, she placed her hand on his arm and said, “Let’s go to my apartment. I hear someone coming.” + +He followed her into her flat. She closed the door and leaned against it, allowing her robe to fall off. +Now completely naked, she purred at him, “What would you say is my best feature?” + + +Flustered and embarrassed, Joe finally squeaked, “It’s got to be your ears!” + +Astounded and a little hurt she asked, “My ears? Look at these breasts—they are full and 100% natural! I work out every day! Look at my skin—no blemishes anywhere! How can you feel that the best part of my body is my ears?!” + +Clearing his throat, Joe stammered, “Outside, when you said you heard someone coming?” + +“Yes.” + +“Well, that was me.”",0 +2775,I was curious what my parents did for fun before the internet…. I asked my 23 siblings and they didn’t know either.,0 +2776,My girlfriend just dumped me because of my gambling addiction.. But I know I can win her back.,0 +2777,why didn't 4 ask out 5?. Because 4 was 2²,0 +2778,"8 year old son's greatest joke. My son told me this joke years ago and it still is my favourite joke. He came home from school one day and says 'Dad, I have a joke for you.' I said, oh yes, let's hear it. Very low expectations at this point. He said 'Why did the chicken cross the road?', I replied with the usual, 'I don't know son, why did the chicken cross the road?'. He said, 'to get to the idiots house.' I gave him a yuck, yuck to not crush him, thinking he still is developing a sense of humour. + +Anyway, he comes back again 10 minutes later and says, 'Dad, I have another joke for you.' I said, sure thing son. He said 'knock, knock', I said, 'who's there?', he said 'the chicken'. + +It took me a moment to connect the two jokes, but I laughed genuinely.",0 +2779,Whats the difference between a school in Pakistan and an Al Qaeda base?. Not too sure. I just fly the drone.,0 +2780,"A guy sits down at the bar and orders drink after drink. ""Is everything okay, pal?"" the bartender asks. ""My wife and I got into a fight and she said she wasn’t going to talk to me for a month.”. Trying to put a positive spin on things, the bartender says, ""Well, maybe that's kind of a good thing. You know... a little peace and quiet?"" + +""Yeah. But today is the last day...”",0 +2781,"An old lady is complaining to her motel receptionist that a man in the room across from hers is taking a shower with the blinds up.. An old lady is complaining to her motel receptionist that a man in the room across from hers is taking a shower with the blinds up. + +‘It’s obscene!’, she yells. The receptionist goes up to her room and says, ‘Well ma’am, you can’t see anything from your window except the man’s head.’ + +Now she’s really mad. ‘Is that so! IS THAT SO! Get on that table and take a look!’",0 +2782,"In a mental institution a nurse walks into a room…. In a mental institution a nurse walks into a room and sees a patient acting like he's driving a car. The nurse asks him, ""Charlie, what are you doing?"" Charlie replied, ""Driving to Chicago!"" The nurse wishes him a good trip and leaves the room. +The next day the nurse enters Charlie's room just as he stops driving his imaginary car and asks, ""Well Charlie, how are you doing?"" Charlie says, ""I just got into Chicago"". ""Great,"" replied the nurse. +The nurse leaves Charlie's room and goes across the hall into Bob's room, and finds Bob sitting on his bed furiously masturbating. Shocked, she asks, ""Bob, what are you doing?!"" Bob says, ""I'm screwing Charlie's wife while he's in Chicago!""",0 +2783,"A panda walks into a restaurant and orders a plate of bamboo. When he’s finished with his meal, he hops up onto the table, pulls out two Glock 45s and unloads both magazines, blasting everything in sight. + +When the guns are empty, he throws them down and starts walking towards the door. The bartender looks up from behind the bar and yells, “Hey! What the hell, man?” + +The panda yells back at the bartender, ""Hey, I'm a PANDA! Look it up!"" The bartender opens his dictionary and sees the following definition for panda: + +""A tree dwelling marsupial of Asian orgin, characterized by distinct black and white coloring. Eats bamboo shoots and leaves.”",0 +2784,My girlfriend's red flags wouldn't have bothered me so much. ....if they didn't have swastikas on them.,0 +2785,There is a fine line between the denominator and the numerator. Only a fraction of people will find this funny,0 +2786,Your penis is just like your signature. You should be very careful where you put it,0 +2787,"If a girl says she will be ready in 5 minutes, she will be. No need to remind her every 15 minutes about it",0 +2788,UK joke - What town uses VPNs the most?. Ipswich,0 +2789,"The only cow in a small town in Poland stopped giving milk.... ​ + +The people did some research and found that they could buy a cow from Moscow for 2,000 rubles, or one from Minsk for 1,000 rubles. Being frugal, they bought the cow from Minsk. The cow was wonderful. + +It produced lots of milk all the time, and the people were amazed and very happy. They decided to acquire a bull to mate with the cow and produce more cows like it. Then they would never have to worry about the milk supply again. They bought a bull and put it in the pasture with their beloved cow. However, whenever the bull came close to the cow, the cow would move away. No matter what approach the bull tried, the cow would move away from the bull and he could not succeed in his quest. + +The people were very upset and decided to ask their wise rabbi, what to do. + +They told the rabbi what was happening. “Whenever the bull approaches our cow, she moves away. If he approaches from the back, she moves forward. When he approaches her from the front, she backs off. An approach from the side and she just walks away to the other side.” + +The rabbi thought about this for a minute and asked, “Did you buy this cow from Minsk?” + +The people were dumbfounded, since they had never mentioned where they had gotten the cow. + +“You are truly a wise rabbi,” they said. “How did you know we got the cow from Minsk?” + +The rabbi answered sadly, “My wife is from Minsk.",0 +2790,"Politicians go visit a school. High ranking politicians visit a school. The top one goes over the expenses and decides to make adjustments to cut costs. +""The lunch portions are too big. Cut them in half. Internet connection too fast. Too many computers."" + +After that, they go to a preschool. Again, the expenses are too great. +""The lunch portions are too big. Reduce them to half. Too many toys around."" + +After the preschool, they go to a prison. +""The lunch portions are too small and the selection is too limited. Get faster broadband and more comfortable beds. TVs are too old. Get a few consoles as well."" + +One of them asks the leader, baffled: +\- Are you mad? We just cut costs in schools and prechools, and now you do this? +\- My friend! We will never go to school or preschool again. But we can still easily end up here...",0 +2791,"A young Arab boy asks his father “What is that strange hat you are wearing?”. The father said: ""Why, my son, it is a 'chechia.' In the desert it protects our heads from the intense heat of the sun.” + +""And what is the long flowing robe you are wearing?” asked the boy. + +“Oh, my son!” exclaimed the father “It is very simple. This is a 'djbellah.' As I have told you, in the desert it is not only very hot, but the sand is always blowing. My djbellah protects the entire body."" + +The son then asked: ""But Father, what about those ugly shoes you have on your feet?” + +""These are 'babouches' my son,” the father replied. You must understand that although the desert sands are very beautiful, they are also extremely hot. These babouches keep us from burning our feet."" + +""So tell me then,"" added the boy. + +""Yes, my son…” + +""Why are we living in Birmingham and still wearing all this shit?",0 +2792,"A doctor had an unusual habit.. He had a fee of $50, no matter what ailment. If he failed in finding a cure, he would give $500 to the patient. + +One day, a man came to him and said, ""Doctor, my sense of taste is deteriorating."" +The doctor gave him a jar and said, ""Have a spoonful of this."" +The man tries some, spits it out, and says, ""This is shaving foam! Why would you give this to a patient?!"" +The doctor said, ""Well, it seems your sense of taste is just fine. That'll be $50."" + +Two weeks later, the same man went to the doctor and said, ""Doctor, I think I have Alzheimer's."" +On hearing this, the doctor gave him a jar and said, ""Have a spoonful of this."" +The man got annoyed and asked, ""Wait, isn't this shaving foam?"" +The doctor said, ""It seems you can remember things just fine. That'll be $50."" + +Two months later, the man once again went to the doctor and said, ""Doctor, you must help me. I lost my eyesight."" +The doctor said, ""Oh dear, I'm afraid I don't have a cure for that. Here's $500."" +The man was overjoyed on finally outsmarting the doctor. But when he saw the money, he blurted out, ""Isn't this $5?!"" +The doctor remarked, ""It seems you can see just fine. That'll be $50.""",0 +2793,"A policeman was interrogating 3 guys who were training to become detectives. To test their skills in recognizing a suspect, he shows the first guys a picture for 5 seconds and then hides it. ""This is your suspect, how would you recognize him?"". The first guy answers, ""That's easy, we'll catch him fast because he only has one eye!"" + +The policeman says, ""Well...uh...that's because the picture I showed is his side profile."" + +Slightly flustered by this ridiculous response, he flashes the picture for 5 seconds at the second guy and asks him, ""This is your suspect, how would you recognize him?"" + +The second guy smiles, flips his hair and says, ""Ha! He'd be too easy to catch because he only has one ear!"" + +The policeman angrily responds, ""What's the matter with you two?!!? Of course only one eye and one ear are showing because it's a picture of his side profile! Is that the best answer you can come up with?"" + +Extremely frustrated at this point, he shows the picture to the third guy and in a very testy voice asks, ""This is your suspect, how would you recognize him? + +He quickly adds, ""Think hard before giving me a stupid answer."" + +The third guy looks at the picture intently for a moment and says, ""The suspect wears contact lenses."" + +The policeman is surprised and speechless because he really doesn't know himself if the suspect wears contacts or not. + +""Well, that's an interesting answer. Wait here for a few minutes while I check his file and I'll get back to you on that."" + +He leaves the room and goes to his office, checks the suspect's file on his computer and comes back with a beaming smile on his face. + +""Wow! I can't believe it. It's TRUE! The suspect does, in fact, wear contact lenses. Good work! How were you able to make such an astute observation?"" + +""That's easy..."" the third guy replied. ""He can't wear regular glasses because he only has one eye and one ear.""",0 +2794,"I asked the librarian if they had any books on paranoia.. She whispered, ""they're right behind you!""",0 +2795,"An engineer dies and reports to the pearly gates.. St. Peter checks his dossier and says, ""Ah, you're an engineer — you're assigned to hell."" + +So the engineer reports to the gates of hell and is let in. Pretty soon, the engineer gets dissatisfied with the level of accommodations and starts designing and building improvements. + +After a while, they’ve got air-conditioning and flush toilets, escalators, elevators and so on ... and the engineer is a pretty popular guy. + +One day, God calls Satan on the telephone. + +""So, how's it going down there in hell?"" God says. + +""Hey, things are going great. We've got air-conditioning and flush toilets and escalators. There's no telling what our engineer is going to come up with next!"" Satan says. + +""What? You've got an engineer? That's a mistake — he should have never gotten down there. Send him back immediately!"" God says. + +""No way! I like having an engineer on the staff — I'm keeping him!"" Satan says. + +""Send him back up here or I'll sue!"" God says. + +Satan laughs uproariously and answers: + +""Yeah, right. And just where are you going to get a lawyer?""",0 +2796,The best part about being married is not having to worry whether or not about I’m getting laid tonight. I already know it’s not gonna happen!,0 +2797,The inventor of autocorrect died. The funnel will be held tomato.,0 +2798,"I saw that our local zoo has an interesting attraction : A lion and a sheep living peacefully in the same cage.. ​ + +I asked the zookeeper whether they ever fight. He said, ""Rarely."" + +I asked what happens when they do. + +""We get another sheep.""",0 +2799,"The best years of my life were spent in the arms of another man's wife. Thanks, Mom! Happy Mothers' Day!",0 +2800,"I was browsing in a liquor store when an employee asked me “Do you need help?”. I said, “Yes, but I’m here to get whiskey instead.”",0 +2801,"Two guys are playing chess.. One says to the other, ""How about we make this more interesting?"" + +So they stop playing chess.",0 +2802,"""Sixty is the worst age to be,"" said the 60-year-old.. +""You always feel like you have to pee. And most of the time, you stand at the toilet and nothing comes out!"" + +""Ah, that's nothin',"" said the 70-year-old. ""When you're seventy, you can't even crap anymore. You take laxatives, then you sit on the toilet all day and nothin' comes out!"" + +""Actually,"" said the 80-year-old, ""80 is the worst age of all!"" + +""Do you have trouble peeing too?"" asked the 60-year-old. + +""No, not really. I pee every morning at 6:00. I pee like a racehorse on a flat rock; no problem at all."" + +""Do you have trouble crapping?"" asked the 70-year-old. + +""No, I crap every morning at 6:30."" + +With great exasperation, the 60-year-old said, ""Let me get this straight. You pee every morning at 6:00 and crap every morning at 6:30. + +So what's so tough about being 80?"" + +""I don't wake up until 7:00!""",0 +2803,"[Request] Self deprecating joke about height for wedding. Long story short, I am officiating a wedding between the 2 tallest and most stunning friends I have. I am about 5'9 VS his 6'4 I would like to make some jab about them not being able to get anyone taller or when they asked me i immediately started thinking about how tall of a stool I would need to find and bring with. Just nothing seems all that funny, any ideas? Sorry if this is the wrong subreddit, feel free to delete!",0 +2804,"An Englishman is hiking in Scotland and he pauses to drink from a stream. A passing shepherd calls out ""Dinnae drink frae that, it's all fulla coo piss an shite!"". The Englishman says to him in a cut-glass accent ""I'm terribly sorry, my good fellow, would you very much mind repeating that in the Queen's English?"" + +And the shepherd says ""I'm terribly sorry sir, I was only asking if you would like to borrow this tin cup and get a proper drink?""",0 +2805,"Statistics show that 1 in 5 men in a friend group are actually gay…. I hope it’s Kevin, he’s cute",0 +2806,"Santa walks into the North Pole bar, takes a seat, and asks the bartender for his most popular shot. Bartender pours out something that looks like candy cane. “It’s called ‘Elf Cum’”. + +Santa cringes, but downs it and remarks, “Gee, that’s really good, but why do you call it ‘Elf Cum’?” + +Bartender replies, “When I tested it out with Mrs. Claus, she said, ‘That tastes just like Elf cum!”",0 +2807,"A 60 year old billionaire walks into a bar with his gorgeous 25 year old wife. Friend: How did she marry you? + +Billionaire: I lied about my age + +Friend: You said 45? + +Billionaire: No! I said 90!",0 +2808,I feel attacked.. ,0 +2809,The liberals are trying to make my plants gay!!. ,0 +2810,Happy news: thought my monstera was dead for good after I had to evacuate Kyiv for months. But it didn't give up :). ,0 +2811,Years of work gone bc of an abusive partner. My favorite monstera cut… everything destroyed. I’m at a loss for words.. ,0 +2812,Plant room at the center of my home.. ,0 +2813,What kind of plant would you recommend for my window in my new appartment?. [ Removed by reddit in response to a copyright notice. ],0 +2814,A month ago I posted about my ex destroying my plants and had a larger response than i could ever imagine. But this week this leaf broke through the destroyed stems and sprouted & it’s almost poetic since he is gone now. Not to be absolutely cheesy but I mean cmon 😂 I love you all planty people.. ,0 +2815,My white princess philodendron finally threw out a pink leaf. ,0 +2816,"Two years of remote work and I come back to THIS! Any ideas on replanting, or do I leave it alone??. ",0 +2817,My Devil's Ivy (Golden Pothos) isn't far off turning onto its 4th wall in my living room and at that point I believe it will become the proud owner of this house... ,0 +2818,"It’s been nearly two years since I made this plant stand, and it’s probably still the best idea I’ve had in my entire life. ",0 +2819,I took a family photo!. ,0 +2820,"My hotel in Quito, Ecuador has truly outdone itself. ",0 +2821,I thought you wonderful people might enjoy my newest tattoo!. ,0 +2822,so here's a glimpse of my living room in daytime. ,0 +2823,Top tier foreplay. ,0 +2824,My 4’11” mom and her amazing dieffenbachia. ,0 +2825,Pothos gone wild!. ,0 +2826,"My husband said , "" No !! "" .... ",0 +2827,My yellow hibiscus surprisingly made a 50/50 pink & yellow flower. Looks stunning!. ,0 +2828,Usually i hate 5 minute crafts…. BUT THIS??????? I dont hate this. ,0 +2829,This is your reminder to take your birth control.. ,0 +2830,The monstera where I used to work. ,0 +2831,"I’m waiting on a planter for my walking snake plant. Until then, side car it is!. ",0 +2832,I may have only booked this hotel because of the pool area 😍. ,0 +2833,"Excited to be almost finished with my cacti shelves, just need to add trim.. ",0 +2834,"Oh jeez, hope you didn’t like that one!. ",0 +2835,"Finally got to taste a monstera fruit! If you’re wondering, to me it tastes like banana, pineapple and strawberry combined.. ",0 +2836,The sun has returned to the northern hemisphere. The plants rejoice.. ,0 +2837,We removed a wall and had a custom planter railing built- I’m obsessed and only you all can appreciate my excitement! 🪴. ,0 +2838,NSFW. ,0 +2839,Finally found the *perfect* spot for my Striped Calathea 😍. ,0 +2840,@ box stores. ,0 +2841,Every day something new. ,0 +2842,"I started getting into plants last year and instantly fell in love with the hobby. I am lucky enough to own a home for them with 15 windows just on the main floor. While I get made fun of often for being a male who loves houseplants, I’m really proud of my ferns!. ",0 +2843,It may be little but man is it spicy!. ,0 +2844,A year ago today I lost my wife in a Monstera Grove in Hawaii. ,0 +2845,House “Cat”us. Saw on Facebook had to share lmao,0 +2846,Are we doing plant walls? Can I show you my monstera wall?. ,0 +2847,I made a montage of all the plants I murdered in 2021. Happy New Year!. ,0 +2848,This belongs here. Wtf have I been doing?! You mean...I can hang anything I want simply??! 🤯. ,0 +2849,"RIP beautiful, newest leaf. My “friend” “accidentally” snapped it off :(. ",0 +2850,It’s taking over the kitchen. ,0 +2851,Look who decided to make a nest in my spider plant!. ,0 +2852,My avocado tree decided to be albino!. ,0 +2853,Hmmm… or is it because of the tap water? 🤣. ,0 +2854,A year ago I did a cutting swap with a fellow redditor and they gave me this lil Monstera Adansonii. Swipe to see it today!. ,0 +2855,Gonna scroll past without saying howdy?. ,0 +2856,"I lost my whole plant collection last year to my abusive ex, he burned most of them and it was very traumatic. I had built up an expensive collection. I’m finally in a safe place and got my first plant today to start over. Here is to new beginnings ❤️. ",0 +2857,Can you guess why I got pulled over?. ,0 +2858,I've been working on this dried leaf display for the past two years and wanted to share my progress.. ,0 +2859,Flowers all year long - why aren't these plants more popular?. ,0 +2860,I rotate you every other day… yet you continue to grow in one direction…… you look RIDICULOUS. ,0 +2861,One of you guys on the subway during covid be like.... ,0 +2862,"i was in a deep depression this spring, i bought my first plant. Now i still have depression but ive got alot of plants! 👌. ",0 +2863,I would like to submit my Totoro watering can for cutest watering can.. ,0 +2864,Every time I am out and about. ,0 +2865,Happy Halloween 🤣. ,0 +2866,“When your neighbors don’t water their plants” 🔫. ,0 +2867,Saw this and thought of this group.. ,0 +2868,Which one of you deviants lives here?. ,0 +2869,My plants at home during sunset. ,0 +2870,"I found a turtle shell visiting Texas, took it home and turned it into a planter:D Had to put in 'string of turtles' of course! Hope they hold up well!. ",0 +2871,"I just bought a house with this little sunroom. Needless to say, I am excited to fill it up with plants :))). ",0 +2872,When your Hoya gets inspired by your Ficus. 😆. ,0 +2873,Look at his first leaf!. ,0 +2874,Should I roll the rubber all the way?. ,0 +2875,Color gradation on our bird of paradise. ,0 +2876,My wife's corner. I personally don't know what any of them are but it does make the room look nice and alive. I'm trying to get her to join Reddit so she can share her journey with other house plant enthusiasts.. ,0 +2877,🪴. ,0 +2878,"Husband says ""It's been a hard and stressful week babe, take $50 and go to the plant shop. They always make you giddy like a small child."" 😁😍. ",0 +2879,I keep a little pikachu in my monstera’s pot and I just noticed this (camouflaged!) mushroom today! 😭. ,0 +2880,"My Dad planted this Birds of Paradise when I was born, and after 27 years it’s finally bloomed :). ",0 +2881,DMX Challenge: Plant Edition 🪴🤞🏾. ,0 +2882,"I embroidered a houseplant hoop, this time featuring my kitty!. ",0 +2883,Facts 🪴🪴🪴. ,0 +2884,I have to share my excitement! My offer was accepted for a house that my plants could grow in 🥰. ,0 +2885,Am I the only one that agrees. ,0 +2886,Found on IG and had to share. ,0 +2887,Just bought a Birds of Paradise. Hope I don’t kill it.. ,0 +2888,To my 21st Birthday my Grandma gave me the cactus she bought 48 years ago. His name is Albus. She never repotted him.. ,0 +2889,My grandmothers prayer plant is unfairly glorious. ,0 +2890,My cactus is blooming! Had it for 3 years and this is the first time it’s ever done this 🌸🌸🌸. ,0 +2891,some of my houseplants🪴. ,0 +2892,Plant's movement after they get water. ,0 +2893,Family photo 💜 (save for an additional like 70 plants). ,0 +2894,I would like to disagree. ,0 +2895,So this happened last night.. ,0 +2896,These is my favorite begonias. ,0 +2897,"I used to kill every plant I touched, this is my home now!. ",0 +2898,"My home office plant wall. So proud of this, so I just wanted to share!",0 +2899,I took some family photos.. ,0 +2900,"I used to joke I couldn't keep a rock garden alive, but I've found my niche with tropicals. I'd like to show off my monstera, Herman.. ",0 +2901,This years crop of indoor grown coffee!!. ,0 +2902,"This cactus was a gift but I’m not sure what it is exactly. Whatever it is, it seems happy here. ",0 +2903,Conophytum pageae 👄. ,0 +2904,"So, my flowering snake plant is now sentient.. ",0 +2905,Another white leaf 😢. ,0 +2906,Burned breakfast. Burned breakfast but got a good picture at least,0 +2907,"It my be winter outside, but it is tropical up in here 🍷. ",0 +2908,My red pine is 1 year old 😎. ,0 +2909,Appreciation post for MILs golden pothos🪴. ,0 +2910,Rubber plant…2ft growth since April. ,0 +2911,Relevant.. ,0 +2912,I think my dieffenbachia has world domination plans...... ,0 +2913,In November 2021 I came home from vacation to this... but she's no quitter.. ,0 +2914,Accurate. ,0 +2915,Can anything be done here? This is the main hallway at the school I work at. There's absolutely no natural light and nobody will take care of them but this empty planter is just so sad.. ,0 +2916,Relatable.. ,0 +2917,please tell me what you think of my cabinet. ,0 +2918,She loves the filtered light. ,0 +2919,"You all were so kind about my monster rescue, so here's the rest of the room (and my dog).. ",0 +2920,accurate. ,0 +2921,Summer Growth. ,0 +2922,Hands off my Euphorbia!. ,0 +2923,My indoor jungle this spring.... ,0 +2924,My mom sent me this- don’t know the source- but made me laugh!. ,0 +2925,"I won’t even live in my regular house part, just so I could be surrounded by plants and light. ",0 +2926,My plant corner. ,0 +2927,I make stained glass house plants for all y'all with two black thumbs.. ,0 +2928,Breaking up with my boyfriend of 10 years and pulling most of my plants together as we move out. These green gals have given me a lot of joy during this time.. ,0 +2929,That's amazing. ,0 +2930,Thirsty little cactus 🌵. ,0 +2931,I love my plant wall and want to show everyone. ,0 +2932,"Rescued this guy from the trash, just put out its first new leaf!. ",0 +2933,"Anyone have an ID? I was worried it might be toxic to my cats, but they disappeared soon after I brought it home. ",0 +2934,"Plants, cats and booze sounds alright to me.. ",0 +2935,I used a tea light candelabra for my hanging plant. ,0 +2936,Look at this new leaf thooo. ,0 +2937,I grew it and I ate it 🍊. ,0 +2938,I like interior decorating with my plants. ,0 +2939,My little sanctuary. ,0 +2940,I stitched together over 10k photos to make this timelapse of a monstera leaf emerging. (~10 days). ,0 +2941,Free marketplace score. ,0 +2942,Awesome FedEx guy delivered me a smile by appreciating my plant porch as much as I do! Showed my plant babies some love.. ,0 +2943,"mods are asleep, upvote this houseplant!. ",0 +2944,Insane pothos in my mom's office. ,0 +2945,One of my first planets that started my addiction. This snake plant has had explosive growth these past three years!. ,0 +2946,I just want to be a good plant mom 😭. ,0 +2947,How do I bring my monstera back?. ,0 +2948,"I am infuriated. HD is just throwing these away. Many healthy cacti, I asked if I could get a discount and they said “no, you have to pay full price bc we can’t afford discounts”, but you’re just tossing them?? Makes no sense.. ",0 +2949,"After 1 year unemployed (Covid, depression, you name it) and a huge plant passion, today one of the best nurseries in my city called me for a job interview. I'm sharing one of my favorite plants to ask you to cross your fingers for me. I have 202 houseplants and I can't wait to have more!. ",0 +2950,"left for 4 months, and returned to discover my pothos has taken over my bed. ",0 +2951,I got a new plant stand!. ,0 +2952,My friend found the String of Hearts of my DREAMS. ,0 +2953,Which one are you? 😅. ,0 +2954,"Before & after! My partner found this flf in the trash a year and a half ago, and look at him now ☺️ He’s not perfect, but I just wanted to show the progress he’s made to people who will appreciate it. ",0 +2955,"How cute is this!?!?! This little gem is called, Sisterhood Of the traveling Plants❤️🪴 She had all types of beautiful plants!. ",0 +2956,"It Is Wednesday, My Dudes. ",0 +2957,"thanks for nothing, I guess 🙃. ",0 +2958,"I buried a dollar store toilet paper roll holder in my monstera when I potted it, to tie the stems to and hold a moss pole in the future. It made it very easy to repot recently, just lifted it out by the support.. ",0 +2959,The plant gods have smiled upon me this New Years Day. #philodendronredmoon. ,0 +2960,Saw this 40+ foot tall monstera at Gaylord Opryland today. ,0 +2961,The Carnage… and the Criminal. ,0 +2962,Gotta get that green. ,0 +2963,Is it beautiful ?. ,0 +2964,My reaction this morning of my plants hard work. ,0 +2965,Found a “weed” in my pitcher plant and gave it its own home. I adoreeeee. ,0 +2966,my monstera. ,0 +2967,My bathroom at golden hour. ,0 +2968,"I mean…they’re technically house plants, right?. ",0 +2969,"Killed a fungus gnat and put it under the microscope. Ladies and gentlemen, here's the ugly hoe that flies around your room whenever you water your plants.. ",0 +2970,My alocasia growing a huge new leaf. ,0 +2971,Hello! I don’t have any planty friends so I thought I’d post some pictures of my set up here for people who will appreciate it!. ,0 +2972,Anytime I go plant shopping…. ,0 +2973,Idk if this belongs here but my hibiscus finally opened! There are NO filters on this and it’s cloudy out. I get so much serotonin just looking at it 🥹. ,0 +2974,Alocasia Black Velvet.. ,0 +2975,Picked up this guy at the 99 Cent Store a couple weeks ago. I repeat. THE 99 CENT STORE.. ,0 +2976,"My happy monstera, ready for the warm-weather growth ✨. ",0 +2977,Favorite corner featuring half the collection. ,0 +2978,This is a safe space (not OC). ,0 +2979,Very on point??. ,0 +2980,brb buying all those pots i passed on bc they didn’t have drainage. ,0 +2981,My living room jungle in the evening. ,0 +2982,Shepherd provided for scale.. ,0 +2983,My school makes great decisions regarding the hall decorations. ,0 +2984,Almost 20 year old Croton.. ,0 +2985,During winter i killed my rex begonias with a humidifier then tossed the corpses in my garden outside & today i see one decided to randomly live. What a little shit... ,0 +2986,I want to grow up to be just like you!. ,0 +2987,Thinks he is hilarious knocking a few plants over today 😵‍💫. ,0 +2988,me: gives perfect conditions to my plants and they’re still dying. these two neglected mfs at my postal office:. ,0 +2989,All of my indoor jungle gathered together. ,0 +2990,I had no idea this wee succulent could flower!. ,0 +2991,Back when everyone was still in my greenhouse. ,0 +2992,Our photographer made our greenhouse engagement shoot dreams come true 🪴. ,0 +2993,guys.... i got the dream job 😭. ,0 +2994,My little brothers were soo excited to get this for me. I dont know how to tell them its spray paint and not a good thing. Also how do i get the paint off!!??,0 +2995,I am plant.. ,0 +2996,My living art pieces. 🌱. ,0 +2997,"What type of pest is this, and how do I remove it?!. ",0 +2998,My succulent is growing a succulent!. ,0 +2999,Shelfie Sunday featuring my pothos collection.. ,0 +3000,My new t h i c c ficus refusa bonsai. ,0 +3001,What should I feed my new houseplant and how often?. ,0 +3002,This window may have played a tiny part into my decision to move to this house.. ,0 +3003,I drew a bunch of plants 🪴 thank you to everyone on this sub for the inspiration & recommendations!. ,0 +3004,Would this be a welcome…welcome?. ,0 +3005,Monstera Deliciosa time-lapse 🌿. ,0 +3006,"I'm sorry, buddy 😄. ",0 +3007,"Wife’s plant wall. Thought people here would appreciate it. Took me 3 weekends to build it for her. I was quite pleased with the final look. She loves it, mission accomplished.. ",0 +3008,My sarracenia caught 4 wasps. ,0 +3009,A Timelapse of my plant moving. ,0 +3010,"My blooming fishbone cactus! thought it was just going to be one bloom a few weeks ago, but now there's 15!. ",0 +3011,Britney approves of the new plant corner. ,0 +3012,It's....flowering?. ,0 +3013,It's almost spring 🌱🌿. ,0 +3014,aloe. ,0 +3015,Moving and need to sell my larger plants. How would you price this?. ,0 +3016,"Is this adequate light for a ZZ to continue to grow? It gets light from north, south and west facing windows (photo taken at noon, partly overcast, 16F outside temp 🥶). Cat photo for tax.. ",0 +3017,"Cat Snake Plant, enjoying the sun. ",0 +3018,Pest identification?. ,0 +3019,Stuck in the hospital and terrified for my plants 😅. ,0 +3020,My Bulbasaur finally evolved!. ,0 +3021,Bruce Wayne 🦇 in the Garden. Got an unusual visitor hanging-out upside down my Alocasia.. ,0 +3022,Am I in love? Yes. ,0 +3023,My grow light setup for the Fall and Winter. 🎉. ,0 +3024,My grandmother gave me the last surviving pad of her passed friend’s Easter cactus years ago in hopes I could save it. My grandmother has since passed as well and today it blossomed for its first time. 💓. ,0 +3025,"I managed to put off buying a raven for years, but now this one was less than 25€ and worth the wait. ",0 +3026,“Ceci n'est pas une pipe” two-in-one propagation station I made recently. ,0 +3027,At least these will never die on me. ,0 +3028,Favorite thing about the new house - my own little potting room 🌱🪴. ,0 +3029,"I am speechless. My husband got all of these for my birthday today. I literally almost cried! The pilea is the only one I told him was on my wishlist. He walked into the plant shop, asked for a ""pepperoni plant"" and just picked the rest out! 😭. ",0 +3030,My stained glass mirror magnolia flower design. 🌸 🌿. ,0 +3031,This was my biggest plant illustration project ever! A custom deck of cards with 52 plants.. ,0 +3032,"My cactus has nipples, what are these? lol. ",0 +3033,Sideshow Bob is blooming all over the place!. ,0 +3034,guy i’m seeing built me a shelf with hangers for valentines day :). ,0 +3035,Dremel + diamond burr + a few hours = happy Orchid. ,0 +3036,It’s nice when your houseplants give you clear feedback every now and again. ,0 +3037,Moved into a new house and our new neighbors gifted us this yesterday! I’d say we picked the right house.. ,0 +3038,this took me most of this year to paint. it’s 3’x2’,0 +3039,You know Spring is around the corner when the fern wakes up. ,0 +3040,I thought this sub might appreciate these monstera leaf mugs I made.. ,0 +3041,somebody took over my english ivy. 🤩🤩. ,0 +3042,"If it's stupid and it works, it's not stupid.... ",0 +3043,After countless tries to grow one myself - I want to share my avocado with you (she's 9 months old and thriving!). ,0 +3044,MIL’s Silvery Ann pothos rooted along the wall in her bathroom in the most aesthetically pleasing way. ,0 +3045,My bromeliad bloomed and I love the colors 🦄💘. ,0 +3046,My entire succulent collection. RIP. ,0 +3047,My plant came with some unexpected guests.. ,0 +3048,Hello everyone 🙏🙏🙏. ,0 +3049,It is the simple things in life.. ,0 +3050,People keep hating on my snake plant. Do I need to do something with this?. ,0 +3051,I made stained glass art of some vaguely tropical looking leaves.. ,0 +3052,Michelle Duggar over here is so fertile that she’s trying to push a baby out of the wrong hole. ,0 +3053,My wife’s bathroom garden. ,0 +3054,The plants I owned in 2020 vs the plants I owned in 2021!. ,0 +3055,I found one of us in the wild!. ,0 +3056,My $30 fb marketplace mini greenhouse. ,0 +3057,treated myself to two new plants for my 90 days sober! they're just babies.. ,0 +3058,She won't stop shooting flowers!. ,0 +3059,Still trying to wrap my brain around this $8 find today at Home Depot!. ,0 +3060,The cutest plant store pet. ,0 +3061,Something is wrong with my mum plant. Do you think it can be salvaged? like should I water it some more?. ,0 +3062,One year update from a successful transition of this Norfolk Island Pine from and outdoor to an indoor house plant!. ,0 +3063,1 year and 5 leaves later. Another one on the way.. ,0 +3064,Look at this house in my neighborhood. ALLLL the elephant ears! 😍. ,0 +3065,One Year Difference! 😍 I grew as much as my plant did. ☺️. ,0 +3066,Turtles all the way down. ,0 +3067,Cozy. ,0 +3068,Bought this cactus two years ago with a fake flower glued on. Today it bloomed a real one!. ,0 +3069,my monstera unfurling her new leaf. ,0 +3070,It's who has the cutest watering can day:. ,0 +3071,"Pinch me! I was laid off this year from my corporate job and today I am opening my very own plant store. Still work to be done but I love the way it turned out. If you're anywhere near Butler, PA stop in at Secret Plant Co right on Main Street.. ",0 +3072,Biggus Cactus. ,0 +3073,"Bought a new house recently in France and it’s currently being completely renovated, this is going to be my chill out room and will completely fill it with rescue plants! All these plants shown I got online from people moving for a total of 100€! Can’t wait to see it full!. ",0 +3074,Family thought my plants were fake. ,0 +3075,"This flower popped up from my succulent, does anyone know what it is?. ",0 +3076,My air plant flowered! I love how weird their flowers are.. ,0 +3077,I’m sorry for the words I said after your last leaf. ,0 +3078,My beautiful 8 year old Maidenhair. ,0 +3079,I went camping 🏕 and came home to find my plant had bloomed 🤗. ,0 +3080,The new air plant gang!. ,0 +3081,Made another time lapse of my hoya blooming for you. ,0 +3082,Should I splurge and get my hands on this ~ rare ~ beauty?. ,0 +3083,on my way to 300th plants. ,0 +3084,My mom's baby. She doesn't have Reddit but she thought y'all would like it.. ,0 +3085,I now know why my avocado is dying. ,0 +3086,"Old mate dropped off the ceiling into my new spider plant. Then gave me the best spidy pose ever. Also, unsure where he is now. Slightly nervous.. ",0 +3087,"New leave unraveled today, check out the trippy gradient. ",0 +3088,This trailing pothos is so amazing I had to take a photo. At a coffee/plant shop near me.. ,0 +3089,Currently looking for a bigger house (4 month growth update)…. ,0 +3090,my favorite always changing bedroom plant corner. ,0 +3091,Made a Meme for how I feel on water day. ,0 +3092,Me taking care of my babies. ,0 +3093,Double flower all the wayyy 🥰. ,0 +3094,Power move. ,0 +3095,Best of both worlds - Greenery and Tech. ,0 +3096,"This one is officially ready for summer! Freshly repotted, coiled, and watered🤗. ",0 +3097,My husband gifted me a microscope and I took pictures of my houseplants for 5 hours today!. ,0 +3098,Someone said I have too many plants in this space. 🥴🥲 should I consider rearranging some or just continue to enjoy my plant filled living room!? Lol. ,0 +3099,Variegated monstera in the wild!. ,0 +3100,Our 65 year old jade plant.. ,0 +3101,"After 7 years, my pineapple gave me a pinnapple!. ",0 +3102,"A friend of mine said I love plants because I’m single and childless. I shouldn’t have let this get to me but it did. Anyway, found this meme and it made me laugh. Whether you’re raising plants or little humans, love what you love. And have a great week.. ",0 +3103,A new addition to our plant home and he loves the jungle 😊. ,0 +3104,Houseplant goals. ,0 +3105,My careless 1 gallon jar watergarden. ,0 +3106,The beasts are all flowering!. ,0 +3107,Not as much planties as most of you but I'm just loving my new cosy green corner. ,0 +3108,Tiny Pilea peperomioides planted in a Chapstick lid🙃 Banana for scale. ,0 +3109,Maybe I just have withering touch. ,0 +3110,Too cute to not share. ,0 +3111,So proud of what I created from just cuttings. ,0 +3112,Our place in Kandy Sri Lanka All arrangements are done by my mother. ,0 +3113,my oldest houseplant. I could never get rid of her. ,0 +3114,My hoya ran out of ink and now only makes white leaves. ,0 +3115,Look at this monstera at my school!!!!!🤩. ,0 +3116,My brother got me these begonia earrings for my 16th to match my favorite plant! 🥹. ,0 +3117,One year of growth for my fiddle leaf fig!. ,0 +3118,Y’all don’t know how long I’ve waited for this moment😭 my Hoya carnosa Hindu rope has spent the past 2 years growing almost 3 feet and now it’s finally about to bloom for the first time!. ,0 +3119,Every time.. ,0 +3120,*Crying while watering my peace Lily*. ,0 +3121,we just bought a house. The last owner left a gift in the living room. ,0 +3122,New planter🍍. ,0 +3123,What only 20 euros and 9 months of patience got me! 😍. ,0 +3124,Wanted to share my indoor plant / cat tower setup :3. ,0 +3125,Plant parade!. ,0 +3126,"Here, enjoy a little plant-specific song. ",0 +3127,"My bf: “Is that the expensive plant, with the white, that you are always telling me to look out for?”💀💀 at least he’s trying I gues. ",0 +3128,I thought you guys would appreciate this by the brilliant cartoonist Cassandra Calin.. ,0 +3129,I made a small platform for some plants above the shower.. ,0 +3130,Loving these fall colors. ,0 +3131,One year of growth🤩 My biggest tip—water your pearls! 🤭😏. ,0 +3132,Finally a real solution to dealing with fungus gnats. ,0 +3133,50 shades of green. ,0 +3134,"nah, I don't have a favourite. ",0 +3135,I’ve always wondered how mall plants can survive without sun light but mine die by the window. ,0 +3136,Squeal 😆😆. ,0 +3137,I made Wandering Dude/Jewel gifts for my family and friends. Hand painted 35 pots and the mother plant got a much needed haircut.. ,0 +3138,Feast your eyes on my little Christmas cactus!. ,0 +3139,Strange little feller. Had no idea he was going to do THIS.. ,0 +3140,My jungle loft 🌿🐆🌿. ,0 +3141,Anyone ever have a bird take over their prop shelf? 🤦🏻‍♀️. ,0 +3142,Zelly 24 showed out for me last night in my makeshift Timelapse studio.. ,0 +3143,My mom sent me this pic of the avocado tree I planted from avocado pit in summer 2019.. ,0 +3144,"Carnivorous Plants are some of the tricker houseplants to take care of properly, so I made some out of Lego instead! What do you reckon?. ",0 +3145,Jewel orchid foliage is just unreal. Those veins look like they're full of gold dust. ,0 +3146,Are any of these worth it?. ,0 +3147,A view from the bath. ,0 +3148,Local plant shop enabling my plant addiction 😬😅. ,0 +3149,I just had to share this picture of my alocasia polly leaf from the back with the sun shining through. Mesmerizing 😍. ,0 +3150,Sunny afternoon in San Francisco. ,0 +3151,My golden pothos has 6 new leaves popping up!!. ,0 +3152,Contact! This can't be an accident..... ,0 +3153,My shelf finally arrived for me to display my plants. Super happy with how this came out!. ,0 +3154,How much would a Monstera this big normally sell for? I'm going to have to start charging it rent soon because it is taking over :( I'm considering selling it even though it is my pride and joy... (it is over 5' tall and the leaves are over 1.5' wide). ,0 +3155,I think she needs repotting and that's a problem. ,0 +3156,Quite proud of this one. ,0 +3157,1500 ladybugs in a small bedroom might not have been the best choice. ,0 +3158,Just a rubber plant and a dog. ,0 +3159,Thought you guys would appreciate my new monstera tattoo! 🌿 By Dakota Herman. ,0 +3160,My first Passion Flower of the year! So proud of her 🌸💜 proud plant dad here!. ,0 +3161,Fell in love with this 1978 embroidery. ,0 +3162,With great windows comes great responsibility. ,0 +3163,Got sick of looking at an empty skylight! *shelf!*. ,0 +3164,my air plant is blooming 🥺. ,0 +3165,"Hotel pool in Cortez, CO. ",0 +3166,Was afraid my precious baby would get sunburn so my husband build it a parasol. ,0 +3167,My favorite part of my new office is coming along nicely 🪴. ,0 +3168,Just got to see my venus fly trap in action. ,0 +3169,Found out the plant that randomly appeared and that I was caring for was a giant weed. Kinda sad to see him go.. ,0 +3170,My girlfriend and I recently decided to merge our house plants. ,0 +3171,Sounds about right :(. ,0 +3172,This pretty girl know she can get anything she wants with just a look. ,0 +3173,after years of waiting my Avocado finally bore some fruit. ,0 +3174,She is one of us 💖. ,0 +3175,"I planted a mango tree and it sprouted on the side of the pot, so I added a towel and made it into a beach :’). ",0 +3176,Sunbathing. ,0 +3177,Living in my own savannah. ,0 +3178,M. deliciosa Albo Flower Opening this Morning. ,0 +3179,[RARE] MONSTERA MARRÓN BORSIGANIA VARIEGATA (super hard to find) will start bidding at $1200. ,0 +3180,"Chopped the leaves of my yucca off to make baby plants, my partner and I thought it would be funny to put a condom on top and tell everyone who comes over that it’s a well-known plant hack. 2 weeks later there’s a whopping 9 sprouts, with at least 3 other nodes that look like they’re about to sprout. ",0 +3181,Just wanted to show how big she has gotten. About 8ft. ,0 +3182,"Made this wall mount plant thingy for my fiancé, added some lights for Xmas time!. ",0 +3183,I know they are considered “boring” or “basic” but I still love mine.. ,0 +3184,"My very old, very tall pony. ",0 +3185,Lost this one to the birbs.. ,0 +3186,So we are hiding things from each other now ?🙄 smh how long were you going to keep this a secret peace lily!?. ,0 +3187,My first ever hoya bloom brightening up my Monday!. ,0 +3188,did a little photo shoot with my chinchillas🐭🥰. ,0 +3189,Is this worth it? Does anyone know what kind of dung onion it is?. ,0 +3190,Help. How do I stop buying plants. ,0 +3191,Care instructions for a few species of houseplant. ,0 +3192,Monstera deliciosa in bloom 🥰. ,0 +3193,Family pic. ,0 +3194,Happy sunday from the gang 🥰. ,0 +3195,Visiting family in Florida. Is Zone Envy a thing?. ,0 +3196,My Black Velvet Alocasia has two leaves growing out of the same stalk. These are new leaves. 2 weeks old.. ,0 +3197,One of my Monstera leaves is being ridiculously pretty.. ,0 +3198,Moving my basil in for the winter. He had a great summer!. ,0 +3199,Merry Christmas to me! My first Monstera flower. ,0 +3200,Is this humid enough for my anthurium room? 😂. ,0 +3201,Wanted to show y'all my pilea. I'm very proud of her.. ,0 +3202,Everything the light touches is our kingdom. ,0 +3203,Wanting to share my excitement for the first bloom on my Hoya Krimson Princess 🌸. ,0 +3204,this requires absolutely no explanation. ,0 +3205,My happy plant 🌱 3 new leaves 🍃. ,0 +3206,We be floppin'🪴. ,0 +3207,Gave my Pothos a haircut today and thought I’d share with my coworkers. ,0 +3208,You can always tell which apartment belongs to the crazy plant person 😂😂. ,0 +3209,My little escape. What else do I need guys?,0 +3210,So thirsty. ,0 +3211,impatient. ,0 +3212,My pride and joy: Medinilla magnifica. ,0 +3213,"Massive monstera , longwood gardens , pa. ",0 +3214,When that afternoon sun hits ✨. ,0 +3215,Little tip about majesty palms from one of my fave tiktokers. ,0 +3216,Everyone: don't overwater! Me: never water the plants. Got it.. ,0 +3217,My begonia is blooming for the first time in 3 years 💛. ,0 +3218,I'm the official plant lady in my apartment.. ,0 +3219,They all thought I was crazy trying to grow oranges in Maine!. ,0 +3220,my amazing bird of paradise. ,0 +3221,"My Mums 80 year old fern, story in comments!. ",0 +3222,Philodendron white funeral. ,0 +3223,Check out my 27 foot tall Alocasia!. ,0 +3224,This monstera in a courtyard at my uni. ,0 +3225,Wife treated me. 12 year anniversary gift!. ,0 +3226,"It’s not Christmas. It’s not even Thanksgiving. But you did your best, and that’s all that matters :). ",0 +3227,"Turned this old, thrifted cabinet into a happy little paradise for my leafy friends. ",0 +3228,I made a little treehouse for my dragon tree :). ,0 +3229,Family Spa time 🥰. ,0 +3230,Father’s job is shutting down and were going to throw away these plants. My father took them home because he took care of them for 23 years.. ,0 +3231,My non-aesthetic plant hoard can be judged by all passersby.. ,0 +3232,Indoor Jungle - I was told it causes fogging in my windows. It is too many plants or too close to the windows?. ,0 +3233,Spider Mites at Lowes. Never seen such a bad infestation IRL. My skin crawls just looking at it!!!. ,0 +3234,I used to think the Devil's Ivy was the showstopper.... ,0 +3235,My monster monstera. ,0 +3236,It took two years but this goldfish plant is finally a bloomer!!. ,0 +3237,a few days ago a random neighbor asked me if I liked plants and then gave me this absolute unit. kittybabes for scale.. ,0 +3238,Felt like showing you you my bedroom!. ,0 +3239,"My husband's mother's mother-in-laws tongue, it has to be 70 years old~should we separate it?. ",0 +3240,Tell me pothoses are your favourite plants without telling me pothoses are your favourite plants. ,0 +3241,Flf cutting going strong 🌱. ,0 +3242,went on vacation and came back to my snake plant blooming. ,0 +3243,anyone else use random items to make a home for your plants. this is a sponge holder. ,0 +3244,"The most laidback fern, Platycerium superbum, 11 months on :). ",0 +3245,Rootbound? Rootbound! 😄🪴. ,0 +3246,Christmas Snake. Getting my snake plant in the festive spirit!,0 +3247,I don’t see a ton of Chinese Money Plants on this sub. What do people think? I love them.. ,0 +3248,Mentally? I’m here.. ,0 +3249,Ooooo boy! Pray for my wallet!. ,0 +3250,When there’s a freeze warning….. I know nobody can relate. 😂. ,0 +3251,Monstera…Wednesday?. ,0 +3252,Proof that ferns will grow anywhere that isn’t my home. ,0 +3253,"I might live next to an 8 lane highway, but hopefully my lungs don’t realize it. ",0 +3254,"set out some (nontoxic) plants i need to repot, and my cat now thinks he is a jaguar. whole tabletop here and he got between them. 😂🤦🏻‍♀️. ",0 +3255,Progress of my anthurium room. ,0 +3256,"This is why it’s called a walking snake plant, so excited about this pup!. ",0 +3257,Perseverance. ,0 +3258,I thought you all might appreciate these iridescent rainbow planters + plant pairings. ,0 +3259,My corner. ,0 +3260,about half of my babies 🪴🪴. ,0 +3261,"Not a house plant, but an apartment complex plant. I think it eats unwanted visitors and protects the residents.. ",0 +3262,Not jealous at all of my local nursery’s full blown fiddle leaf fig tree. ,0 +3263,"I built an ikea greenhouse cabinet with bark and yogurt containers and planted it with carnivorous plants. It was easy to make, here’s how I did it!. ",0 +3264,New leaf!. ,0 +3265,"Bought a cebu blue in a 6” pot from Etsy. Was not expecting to open this monster of a plant. It is, indeed, in a 6” pot though.. ",0 +3266,Happy New Years from my new plant Richard. Got him for a bargain!. ,0 +3267,To think this used to be my least favorite child. ,0 +3268,This fern looks so cool. ,0 +3269,I finally got a flower on my orchid cactus! It's HUGE.. ,0 +3270,"I love my plants, but sometimes feel overwhelmed by them. Anyone else?. ",0 +3271,plant gore: went away for 2 weeks and my plant sitter destroyed everything.... ,0 +3272,I just found out my sansaveria I've had for 1.5 years has an albino mutated rhizome. How rare is this mutation and how do I continue to care for it?. ,0 +3273,I made some plant pins! Very happy and proud of the results. ,0 +3274,21 days of Anthurium growth. ,0 +3275,Too much chaos or just enough?. ,0 +3276,My hoya carnosa compacta has put out more blooms than she ever has. I’m so proud 😍. ,0 +3277,Is this enough humidity for you now??. ,0 +3278,Variegated Boston “Tiger” Fern. ,0 +3279,I propagated my first Pothos. Can I transfer it to soil or does it still need more time?. ,0 +3280,My aunt propagated some succulents and turned them into a Christmas tree. ,0 +3281,Found at Costco. ,0 +3282,Thanksgiving Cactus - Somewhere Under The Blooms. ,0 +3283,OMG! OMG! OMG! 3 Princess Of The Night Flowers Blooming All At Once! These only last for one night so enjoy! 😁. ,0 +3284,"Gosh, is this real?!. ",0 +3285,Mom is the queen of keeping orchids alive! Behold the Orchid wall.. ,0 +3286,"The ultimate moss pole …. 8 foot tree.! I’ve always had the vision to do this. Finally found the time. 3 days later, the 300lb tree is secure and over time she will fill out. I can’t wait …🥹🥹. ",0 +3287,My Alocasia Frydek leaves have been sizing up like crazy all summer!. ,0 +3288,"Love me back, GODDAMMIT. ",0 +3289,Plant birbs update. It’s getting lots of fertilizer I guess.. ,0 +3290,6 Month Progress of my Pathos Wall. ,0 +3291,Hanging prayer plant…. Someone please tell me how to keep the dang thing alive! I love them so much but cant figure it out :( photo for reference of light. Its next to the spider plant!,0 +3292,Air quality in my room is kinda good now - I wonder why?. ,0 +3293,She decided to bloom for the first time in 3 years the morning after our beloved cat passed away ❣️. ,0 +3294,Best unfurl to date 🥲. ,0 +3295,Thought you all might appreciate my 82 year old Mom's Christmas Cactus blooming!. ,0 +3296,happy vday. ,0 +3297,Just saw this comment in another sub 🤬🤬🤬. ,0 +3298,Staying at an Airbnb and walk into the lounge to see this beauty 😍. ,0 +3299,A Robin came in and hung out in my Calathea. ,0 +3300,My kitchen roof garden is going perfect. ,0 +3301,The color coordination has me like whoa. ,0 +3302,What a grand idea!. ,0 +3303,She's pushing out new leaves at an absurd rate. ,0 +3304,I have an actual houseplant. Turns out toothpaste and face cleanser are good fertilizers I guess,0 +3305,Am I watering my monstera too much?. ,0 +3306,I made a spring wreath today I thought you all might enjoy!. ,0 +3307,After having this Epyphillum bloom the rest of my plants seem boring :/. ,0 +3308,My BOP bloomed. 🦜. ,0 +3309,pour one out for 143 plants lost in a Winter deep freeze 💔. ,0 +3310,LPT: Don’t waste money on a decorative pot for your wandering dude 😂. ,0 +3311,Are you still taking submissions? This is my cute watering… snake. ,0 +3312,Really hope this is a suitable place - how do I help get this guy off my big trap?. ,0 +3313,The real houseplant guide. ,0 +3314,"My grandmother passed away over a year ago and I inherited her Christmas cactus, first time blooming 🥲. ",0 +3315,New monstera leaf has a baby double fenestration!. ,0 +3316,"Your thai constellation and pink princess isn't that rare, corporations' are just purposely releasing their stock slower than molasses to make money. ",0 +3317,went to an antique flea market… came back with this massive string of turtles. ,0 +3318,I thought you might like this anthurium leaf pillow I made for my SIL.. ,0 +3319,I made an alocasia leaf ring for a friend!. ,0 +3320,Bringing a little bit of the dark and spooky into my resin leaf dishes 💜. ,0 +3321,Moving overseas and can’t take my pride and joy with me. About 6’ tall with pot. Any suggestions on listing price? Pot and pole included. Thanks in advance. ,0 +3322,Caladium that I’ve been growing for 12+ years. I’ve gifted a lot of cuttings of it and it’s still huge 😄. ,0 +3323,Round of applause for all the Christmas cactuses who met their deadline this year 👏. ,0 +3324,There’s a snake in my boot!. ,0 +3325,Bought her for $2.64. ,0 +3326,My best friend :). ,0 +3327,My cousin said his rubber plant is a bit 'overgrown'.. ,0 +3328,time-lapse gif of a bonsai tree I am growing. ,0 +3329,Don’t they look like parent and child. ,0 +3330,a little tineke eye candy. anyone else in awe over the brushstroke-like patterns? 🤤. ,0 +3331,Houseplant people can't afford to have their blinds down. ,0 +3332,"Bought a coconut from the supermarket (Italy), I think it might be sprouting finally!. ",0 +3333,Hey planty people!. ,0 +3334,My avocado and lemon trees. Both grown from seed. I'm very proud 🤗. ,0 +3335,Came home to my boyfriend eating off what he thought was a plate. It’s a plant saucer Hahahah,0 +3336,"Sometimes I just watch My plants through My window, when i go out to smoke.. ",0 +3337,2020 + hyperfixation=. ,0 +3338,My brother-in-law's cactus turned eldritch. Any idea why or should I start worshipping Cthulhu?. ,0 +3339,"For all the monstera lovers out there . ",0 +3340,Bonsai of Wisteria in Flower. ,0 +3341,"Found this for $14.99 today, I’m in shock. I need this, right?. ",0 +3342,Finished my plant wall finally!. ,0 +3343,18 month update/plea for help. I am moving house this weekend. Any advice for getting this giant there safely.. ,0 +3344,Why??. ,0 +3345,Toilet plant is absolutely thriving.. ,0 +3346,my tomato plant needs more or less water?. ,0 +3347,Not a houseplant but wanted to share my birthday gift to myself this year.. ,0 +3348,how do you move around your heavy plants?. ,0 +3349,House plants life. ,0 +3350,We received a load of Nanouk at the nursery. My colleague knows I always take the branches that break and gave me this box. That's a whole plant right there.. ,0 +3351,Stumbled across these Thai Constellation babies yesterday. I haven’t stopped thinking about them.. ,0 +3352,My great grandmas Christmas cactus that was passed to my grandma. This is over 90 years old.. ,0 +3353,Got my grandmother a prayer plant for her birthday last year it was in a 6 inch pot and had maybe 20 leaves…this is it now. ,0 +3354,Watering day! + a tip on how to know when to water your succulents. ,0 +3355,TIL some people dont know you can dm costa farms for an id of your “beautiful home decor” tag. ,0 +3356,Drama queen. ,0 +3357,My cactus is becoming a person?!. ,0 +3358,"Pro tip: if you have a robot vacuum, don’t leave your vining plants dangling in its reach…. ",0 +3359,I rent a room from an older gentleman who has an abundance of very old plants including maybe 10 Jades that are descendants from his grandparents jades from growing up. This one in particular blooms every year around the holidays.. ,0 +3360,my mom's coleus. it's crazy how fast they grow.. ,0 +3361,"My mom's staghorn fern, and my boy, Ern. ",0 +3362,Is it cactus timelapse day?. ,0 +3363,"This is my first avocado seed ever. I thought I was doing something wrong because of the colour, turns out it's very rare to have an albino avocado plant!. ",0 +3364,"Y'all remember my post from a few days ago about an interview with a nursery? Well, I got the job! I want to thank everyone of you that wished me good luck. You are special guys! Love you all. Sharing my calathea that I love so much!. ",0 +3365,Jesus christ. ,0 +3366,I present to you: “Stweve”. ,0 +3367,"Moving house, 3 tonne truck full of plants. ",0 +3368,refusing to give my money back unless I agree to remove my previous thread and post no reviews... that doesn't feel legal.. ,0 +3369,Anyone else grow their plants in water?. ,0 +3370,Who said grass can’t be a house plant?. ,0 +3371,Found a way to combine my love of art and plants and made a pretty little plate. ,0 +3372,Pruning Cyril Ficus?. ,0 +3373,Will keeping these tiny hats on my sansevieria hinder their growth/survival?. ,0 +3374,My house plants ☘️. ,0 +3375,My exotic indoor jungle (>350 plants). ,0 +3376,I thought this sub would appreciate my artsy fartsy houseplant photos. ,0 +3377,Grow lights that don’t look like grow lights. ,0 +3378,My mom moved her plants in for the hurricane…results! Lol. ,0 +3379,I reached the 100 mark. Guess it's time for a plant ban. 🙄. ,0 +3380,"My rubber tree, as wonderful as it is, is getting too big for my apartment. What should I do?. ",0 +3381,My Reddit age is 10 hours old and I’m only here for the plants 😂. ,0 +3382,My jobsite getting with the bathroom plant trend. ,0 +3383,My hair matches my calathea!. ,0 +3384,For those asking...string of hearts was actually quite healthy. ,0 +3385,What is this growing in the roots of a snake plant?. ,0 +3386,"I’m in an absolute WAR with these mother effing gnats. I bottom water, use these yellow sticky guys, and started using Mosquito Bits. Any other suggestions?. ",0 +3387,found gorgeous monsterra in my apartment complex hallway! should i take it in?. ,0 +3388,It’s so tempting to pop this open but it’s worked so hard I don’t want to steal its thunder at the finish line. ,0 +3389,My Alocasia puts out a perfect leaf and I just wanna share it!. ,0 +3390,Pink babies that I’m gifting to a friend. Do you think she’ll like them?. ,0 +3391,I painted some of my favorite houseplants!. ,0 +3392,"I would like to nominate myself for the first annual ""Coolest watering can"" competition that I just came up with. Look how cute it is!. ",0 +3393,why is my philodendron actually rocking an ombré look. ,0 +3394,Dollar store hula hoop worked great for my pothos.. ,0 +3395,My Black plants. ,0 +3396,A week ago I posted about a growth in my snake plant and you all told me it was a baby snake - I've just came home and seen another one growing! Why so many baby snakes?!. ,0 +3397,I love the way the sunlight dapples and dances across my plants in the morning.. ,0 +3398,Family chat in the living room. ,0 +3399,"I’ve been struggling with my mental health, and my plant room has reflected that. Today my partner helped me fix it up! Hopefully it’ll be easier to care for my plants when I can actually walk in the room! Swipe for the before. ",0 +3400,$20 at hyvee!. ,0 +3401,"Hey guys, do you think my plant needs to be repotted or can it wait a lil longer?. ",0 +3402,Aquatic plants can be houseplants too! My snail vase is a year old!. ,0 +3403,"Vietnamese Blue Bell, The flower smell like grape soda!. ",0 +3404,Crack baby update.. ,0 +3405,I’m visiting Norway and I saw this beauty for sale at a GROCERY store for about 1000 USD. The leaves are massive!!. ,0 +3406,Amazing what a bit more sunlight can do. ,0 +3407,My birds of Paradise plant. My parents took some seeds from a island in Spain. This is the result. Is bigger then 2 meters and it’s very old (I think 20years).,0 +3408,Can anyone identify this strange growth coming out of my monstera? Do I need to trim and repot?. ,0 +3409,The only baby making I’m interested in. ,0 +3410,Aglaonema pictum tricolor. ,0 +3411,My home forest. ,0 +3412,Update on my pride and joy: the newest leaf on the anthurium warocqueanum that is longer than my torso!. ,0 +3413,I have no self controleus. ,0 +3414,Hey… wanna see something painful?. ,0 +3415,Dad’s special place. 🙂🙂. ,0 +3416,Maranta appreciation post. ,0 +3417,My family’s Christmas Cactus that is 100+ years old and has been passed down 4 generations. We make cuttings for all family members. ,0 +3418,"Does the term ""leggy"" fit for this plant? I'm still new to the terminology. ",0 +3419,"omg, look what's happening!. ",0 +3420,"Hello, my name is Emma and I'm a plantoholic. I might be running out of space. I'm definitely running out of pots. But today was my birthday, so I decided to relapse. And relapse I did.. ",0 +3421,My overgrown fishbowl terrarium moved outside for a bit and a family of wrens moved in.. ,0 +3422,Prettiest banana plant I've ever seen. ,0 +3423,"Have you been stabbed lately? If not consider buying a Dyckia, this lovely plant grows more thorns every time it stabs you. If that wasn't enough to convince you it dies after blooming but grows pups so it's progeny can keep on stabbing you.. ",0 +3424,"Sorry, Jack 🤷🏽‍♀️. ",0 +3425,I couldn’t help myself…… $.50 freaking Plants at Walmart???!!????!?! Say no more…. I got over 40 plants for $27.. ,0 +3426,My Philodendron Sp. Colombia put out this huge beautiful leaf😍. ,0 +3427,Victorian apartment plant room & kitty. ,0 +3428,"From my previous post on the leaf, here’s big momma herself. ",0 +3429,My inspiration …. My local coffee shop. ,0 +3430,One of my Sayuri Snakes got a new basket and now she’s a 🍍 hahaha. ,0 +3431,"SOS my fiddle leaf fig is about to hit the ceiling, what can I do?. ",0 +3432,"I mean, they’ll just (hopefully) last longer, right?. ",0 +3433,Almost a year and a half of loving this guy!. ,0 +3434,String of turtles!. ,0 +3435,Built this giant pegboard out of plywood to maximize photosynthetic real estate from the evening sun! Cheap and surprisingly elegant — I’m stoked on the result. ,0 +3436,Family member 50 years plus 1 more. ,0 +3437,Repurposed a $2 thrifted coffee warmer for my plants and I absolutely love it!. ,0 +3438,"So uh . . my boyfriend ""rescued"" this plant from his boss's office and is convinced I can save it. Any suggestions on what I should do with it? P.S. I know it looks ridiculous. ",0 +3439,OMG…. OH MY GOD!!!!!!. ,0 +3440,He's waving hello!. ,0 +3441,My friends an i. ,0 +3442,Enjoying this rain day inside. ,0 +3443,I successfully transported my Wife's giant Monstera Plant long-distance across the US from Denver to Seattle (1300 Miles) in our Toyota Rav4. More Details in the Comments!. ,0 +3444,From being abandoned to the bestest guardian of the plants …. Life finds a way .. ,0 +3445,she has been resuscitated!. ,0 +3446,In love with how comfy my loving room is.. ,0 +3447,In todays episode of nerve plant drama; 8pm vs 8am. ,0 +3448,My Jungle Themed Dining Room (please excuse the 1 fake tree). ,0 +3449,"I thought she pushed out her 3rd fully white leaf, luckily I was mistaken. ",0 +3450,Pretty happy with the new leaf on the right. 🍃💚. ,0 +3451,My mom’s nearly 30 year old ficus benjamina! It’s almost as tall as the 2 story entry way (24 feet).. ,0 +3452,"I don't get much sunlight in my dorm room at this time of the year, but when I do, my monstera turns my room into an art installation. ",0 +3453,A meme I made that describes the hobby perfectly. ,0 +3454,Soldier doing it's Job 🤝👌. ,0 +3455,I was exploring in the woods today and found this “nature made” terrarium. There was a sealed glass jar and somehow a fern made its way in and is thriving!!. ,0 +3456,"Recently replanted my monstera and added a moss pole for the first time, it looks really happy!. ",0 +3457,"For anyone looking for affordable ceramic pots—don't forget to check Marshalls/ Tjmaxx/ HomeGoods! And yes, many of them do have drainage holes this year!🙌. ",0 +3458,Morning sun hits different in this corner of our living room.. ,0 +3459,My prayer plant has gotten so big!. ,0 +3460,I think I need a bigger ceiling…. ,0 +3461,Our open stairway in 3 level townhouse. Longest pothos vines are 23+ feet and have been trimmed many times!. ,0 +3462,"Massive root porn on this elephant ear calocasia! Let’s be real, is this recoverable? Should I loosen it up or go for the avoid shock route and simply repot?. ",0 +3463,"My paintbrush plant seems to have fruited, so I thought I'd share 👍. ",0 +3464,My Haworthia Zebra has gotten crazy tall and it keeps throwing out new babies!. ,0 +3465,Did someone say plant wall?. ,0 +3466,Please help. I don't remember what plant this is and I'm accidentally killing it.. ,0 +3467,how rude. ,0 +3468,"Out of all of my plants, this one easily wins the award for greatest 1 year grow up 🌱🤩. ",0 +3469,"I don’t have the funds for an Alocasia Jacklyn but I DO have scrap paper, markers, toothpicks, and an old makeup cap. ",0 +3470,I just wanted to share this beauty!. ,0 +3471,After 5 years My pineapple is fruiting!!!. ,0 +3472,My mom just gifted me this orchid. How do I best care for it?. ,0 +3473,No one in my life cares about my plants but I wanted to show someone this leaf as big as my hand (possibly bigger?). Also that sparkle!. ,0 +3474,"I made a Suction Cup Plant Trellis for my window. My Ivy is happy, what other climbing plants would like this?. ",0 +3475,1 year of growth!. ,0 +3476,All the babies. ,0 +3477,No room for a Xmas tree - we improvised!. ,0 +3478,"While shopping for a new houseplant to add to my collection, I was assisted by a very handsome shopkeeper!. ",0 +3479,I love my black variegated monstera. ,0 +3480,Avocado plant started as a flower instead of stalk with leaves. Has anyone seen anything like this before?. ,0 +3481,Gettin a lil crazy. ,0 +3482,"Hi all, this was my parents 40 year old Ming tree I inherited !From root to highest leaf is 5’3! Can someone tell me what typeof Ming this is? Is it rare? Any advice? It’s my most prized possession! 🪴. ",0 +3483,Is this a good find?. I’ve had a Google and can’t find verigation like it so I’m thinking I’ve got a gem?,0 +3484,Parked next to this tiny carplant enthusiast yesterday.. ,0 +3485,If I do say so myself I think my syngonium is climbing nicely. ,0 +3486,The pool area in my grandparents home is such a dream 😍. ,0 +3487,Made a moss terrarium today. ,0 +3488,I posted last week about my pumpkin seed “houseplants” and I NEED to provide this update!. ,0 +3489,can someone tell me the proper name of this before i start calling it a butt plant. ,0 +3490,never thought I could love clusters of chlorophyll so much. ,0 +3491,How to know when you should water your succulents part 2: String of Pearls edition!. ,0 +3492,This planty corner makes me happy ☺️. ,0 +3493,Omg 😩. ,0 +3494,Philodendron McColley's Finale. ,0 +3495,Found somebody on Facebook local to me that's just getting into houseplants. I'm getting her set up with a small care package :). ,0 +3496,Trailing 💚. ,0 +3497,Accurate!. ,0 +3498,It's not much but I'm proud of my collection!. ,0 +3499,"Can anyone tell me what this is, was in my apartment when i moved in. ",0 +3500,"What is going on with my croton?! Leaf on a leaf? I've googled, asked friends. Still no idea.... ",0 +3501,Grandma shows her succulents. ,0 +3502,Some shots of my first cannabonsai growing over an amethyst 🌱. ,0 +3503,Pothos…so much better in the wild. ,0 +3504,This time last year.. I’ve lost a lot between winter and a tough move in that time. ,0 +3505,My happy place!. ,0 +3506,Why ruin such a lovely plant with fake snow. ,0 +3507,Just over 7 months of progress✨ So excited to watch this one grow this summer! Swipe to see how TINY it used to be😍. ,0 +3508,thank the lawd. ,0 +3509,When you’re a truck driver but house plants are life. ,0 +3510,Good morning 🪴. ,0 +3511,The prettiest leaves on my random seedgrown Plectranthus.. ,0 +3512,Got to see this beauty blossom before my eyes! Wanted to share 😍. ,0 +3513,My shower Hoya put out a perfect bloom!. ,0 +3514,"inherited this big, beautiful baby... any advice?. ",0 +3515,Just bought this 10 year old Monstera!😍 The owner is moving so she was selling her plants! Lucky me!!!!. ,0 +3516,"Just snagged this bad boy at a sale on my campus, any tips?. ",0 +3517,New house came with a solarium!. ,0 +3518,Monstera Christmas tree.. ,0 +3519,"I hope this is allowed! I'm currently in Cairo from the US on tour and I've seen so many giant, mature rubber trees! None of my tour-mates understood could relate to my excitement so I thought I'd share it with you all. Here is a small one we saw that I found so charming to look at!. ",0 +3520,My favorite place 🥰. ,0 +3521,String of pearls progress - February 2022 to November 2022. ,0 +3522,Thanksgiving cactus putting on a show. ,0 +3523,The dark side of keeping houseplants. ,0 +3524,very pleased with the results!. ,0 +3525,The plant wall is finally complete!. ,0 +3526,Finally found one of my wish list plants a Frizzle Sizzle!!!!...... ,0 +3527,Do you ever get overwhelmed by the amount of plants you have? What do you do when you feel that way? Just experienced it after rearranging these babies. 🥲. ,0 +3528,But you don’t have to be so dramatic about it.. ,0 +3529,I had severe roach infestation in my room and they killed almost all my plants but I successfully saved this beauty!✨️ March 24 > April 30 > June 22. ,0 +3530,Want to share this beauty before tragedy inevitably strikes.. ,0 +3531,Someone be excited with me! First time birds of paradise owner and I grew from seed!. ,0 +3532,"One of my favorites, my Philodendron Pink Princess.. ",0 +3533,I finally found the perfect secret spot in the shade for my piggy back turtles in my new calathea. ,0 +3534,"Our cozy nest in the desert, Arizona USA. ",0 +3535,Happy Monday! (Tropical hibiscus - Midnight Tryst). ,0 +3536,I have a maidenhair fern growing in the water reservoir of my self watering pot for my Norfolk pine.. ,0 +3537,IM a GRANDMA!!. ,0 +3538,I want this plant! Where can I buy it?. ,0 +3539,"40 year old pothos, 6 year old derpy boy. ",0 +3540,"Began to smell a delightful smell last evening. Searched high and low- couldn’t discover the source. Finally, my husband found the source!. ",0 +3541,Family Photo (Pre-Move). ,0 +3542,Saw this beauty at a bar last night.. ,0 +3543,Reviving my coworker’s abandoned plant while she’s been gone. ,0 +3544,A fabulous phal orchid I've had for 3 years now. This Winter it gave me 2 spikes with 31 buds and counting.. ,0 +3545,She escaped out of her cage. Found her chilling like this. ,0 +3546,My tomato plant reacting to late watering (1h in 30s). ,0 +3547,step into my office🌿. ,0 +3548,My snake plant Oddish is growing steadily ✨. ,0 +3549,My monstera drinking up some lovely direct sunlight ☀️. ,0 +3550,What is he??? Also how do I take care of him?. ,0 +3551,My Jade popped this year. ,0 +3552,My first ever Hoya bloom! They smell like chocolate 😂🍫. ,0 +3553,Can anyone identify this plant?. ,0 +3554,I submitted my PhD application this morning + bought this neon pothos to celebrate :) care tips welcome!. ,0 +3555,Any day is a good day to have a new house plant. Variegated money tree bought for ~$12.. ,0 +3556,My first attempt at houseplants. ,0 +3557,"This monster of a esqueleto at my local plant shop (Jungle Box in Phoenix, AZ).. ",0 +3558,Was $10 a good deal? It’s already done but I’m curious. ,0 +3559,I posted my embroidery here a couple years ago. This is A Room Full of Plants #2. I hope you enjoy.. ,0 +3560,There’s just something about a baby snake plant 💚. ,0 +3561,for when you don’t want to put your roots down just yet. ,0 +3562,I want to get into houseplants but idk where to begin. This is my blade of grass and I love him. ,0 +3563,Happy Sunday!! 🌞. ,0 +3564,There is a plant contest in Richmond in October.. this will be my entry. 😁😁. ,0 +3565,Wild Monstera with fruits in spain!!. ,0 +3566,1 year Monstera growth. January 2021 - 2022. ,0 +3567,Need some spider plant advice please!. ,0 +3568,Opened a can of seltzer while staring at a plant that needed water… had the thought so I googled it. No idea if it works. ,0 +3569,Repotted this 40 year old pothos today! 😮 I am 5 ft 6 in for reference!. ,0 +3570,Just picked up this baby at Lowe’s- care tips would be greatly appreciated!. ,0 +3571,"Me, attempting to drown the spider mites 👿. ",0 +3572,Life. ,0 +3573,"This morning, a beautiful butterfly has elected home on my Pothos. ",0 +3574,Finally got one of my dream plants— an Asparagus Fern! I'm completely mesmerized. Any tips?. ,0 +3575,I love her.... ,0 +3576,This is the only house plant I can keep alive.. ,0 +3577,Coca-Coleus. ,0 +3578,A little bit of morning sun and a rainbow on my Dragon Scale alocasia to start the day! 😍. ,0 +3579,Time to say goodbye to my monstera. Moving and can’t take him with me.. ,0 +3580,This Cebu vine has attached itself to my wall. ,0 +3581,I thought you guys would appreciate this unit of a monstera albo at my local botanical gardens. ,0 +3582,"Store closing, major score. ",0 +3583,My pride and joy. Check the 2nd pic to see where it started. ,0 +3584,lazy Saturday. ,0 +3585,My friends parents monstera. ,0 +3586,"Just bought this Monstera deliciosa for 5€ from an old lady. Best deal in my life.. Also, it was the first time today that I build a pole with moss by myself. Didn’t stand by its own, but it holds with 2 fishing lines in the roofing.",0 +3587,"Had to move my giant pothos, couldn't get her all the way untangled but here's me for size reference (5'9).. ",0 +3588,Draw me like on of your french girls. ,0 +3589,I feel personally attacked!. ,0 +3590,"""Came with this weird plastic piece sticking out of the soil with a.. Latin word on it?? I don't know Latin?? 🤨"". ",0 +3591,Is this a worthy enough pic for this forum? 😅. ,0 +3592,"I made a stand for my Jade plant, what do you guys think?. ",0 +3593,I feed this baby dried shrimps. ,0 +3594,My pothos manjula sending some love to all plantlovers out there 💚. ,0 +3595,Mystery solved as to why my jade was growing so awkwardly..... ,0 +3596,Not much but it’s mine!. ,0 +3597,crappy design? oh what i would do for this kind of space!. ,0 +3598,Depression and grief have done a number on my plant collection. Decided to start remaking them out of paper. The pilea is 22 inches tall (Apolgies if you saw when I posted outside of the correct times.). ,0 +3599,New apartment- Made a little hanging bar for the plants !!. ,0 +3600,My banana plant showed some love today. ,0 +3601,shopping at lowe’s be like -_-. ,0 +3602,happy 4/20 to all my plant lovers!. ,0 +3603,need help identifying!. ,0 +3604,I drove home from my summer vacation just to see my Hoya danumensis bloom for the first time. It was so worth it!. ,0 +3605,Update on my Monstera Deliciosa that decided to start growing a leaf out of a stump from a cutting LOL!. ,0 +3606,Thanksgiving vs Christmas vs Easter. ,0 +3607,My echeveria is flowering and the colours are very cute. ,0 +3608,Waiting for the rain to arrive. ,0 +3609,Succulents are my favorite.. ,0 +3610,Anyone have any recommendations on what might do very well in here? It’s a south facing window and I do have the ability to do hanging planters. Thank you!. ,0 +3611,I gave about 12 plants to my brother to hold onto for the winter. Now I'm wondering how I'm going add them back to the jungle fam. I wish all my problems were like this.. ,0 +3612,I'm back with the coleus! she's coming inside for the winter. ,0 +3613,Survival of the fittest. ,0 +3614,My working corner. ,0 +3615,Just wanted to share this half pink half green leaf on pink princess philodendron that my boyfriend got me for my bday 🥺. ,0 +3616,A hummingbird used my Hoya as a perch. ,0 +3617,"9 month old lemon tree, from a supermarket lemon seed. ",0 +3618,How do I tell my cactus to take it easy? Please stop .... ,0 +3619,What am I doing wrong? My Calathea isn’t dried out and dying.. ,0 +3620,When you walk with your partner in a store and reach the plant isle. ,0 +3621,My husband built me the plant stand of my dreams for Christmas. Complete with a trellis for my pothos. ,0 +3622,"spent 50 bucks on this, is that a good deal?. ",0 +3623,I know it’s not technically a houseplant. But with all the hype around variegation I feel like I can share. I’m trying to isolate this trait in this highly variegated/ almost albino cannabis plant. Don’t know how well it will do as far as production but I think it’s really cool.. ,0 +3624,I can stare at these leaves for hours...... ,0 +3625,Today I was gifted a MASSIVE monstera plant. I've had to rearrange my house for it to fit but totally worth it!. ,0 +3626,My friend grew this tradescantia during the pandemic. ,0 +3627,I hereby plague the local thrips by means of five thousand ladybugs 🫡. ,0 +3628,Can't get over how cute my Norfolk pine looks!. ,0 +3629,Home Depot was throwing all these away- employee said he’d put them by the dumpster and to take what we’d like. Naturally this occurred.. ,0 +3630,"Infested with thrips and I can’t bear to watch it die. Out of options after 4 years of battling them. Wish I could give it away free to a good home, but don’t want to pass the problem on.. ",0 +3631,PSA - these gorgeous plants are varieties of tradescantia. The original name is antisemitic. Wandering jewel or dude is preferred 💚. ,0 +3632,Bloom time lapse. ,0 +3633,Begonia ferox 😍. ,0 +3634,This Living Wall in a neighboring office building. Wowza.. ,0 +3635,Hard to believe this FLF was down to one sad leaf less than a year ago. ,0 +3636,"My gf made me this for my birthday. What should I plant in it? I'd like it to be some kind of tree, so that it fits with the theme of the Lorax. ",0 +3637,Can anyone feel my pain?. ,0 +3638,I always think these flowers look like overly plump lips. ,0 +3639,When u grow a spider plant outdoors in excessive sun 🌞. ,0 +3640,My babies on an IKEA coat rack 🥰. ,0 +3641,“She had rings on her fingers and bells on her shoes… and I knew without asking she was into the blues… she wore scarlet begonias tucked into her curls. I knew right away she was not like other girls…”. ,0 +3642,combining my loves for plants and jewelry!. ,0 +3643,Lizard friend loves his weekly showers. Keeping plants bug free and I reward him for it.. ,0 +3644,my new milsbo pulls are you kidding 😩 IM OBSESSED. ,0 +3645,Texting with my wife. ,0 +3646,Found this little guy at the grocery store for $5 so take my money thanks.. ,0 +3647,Someone is eager to reach the top. ,0 +3648,Like a phoenix from the ashes!. ,0 +3649,New plant parent here… is it normal to feel proud of your plants when they sprout a new baby?! 😂🥲. ,0 +3650,And to think I almost splurged for a 4 inch pot😏 Just under a year of growth for my VSOP! Swipe to see how it started!🤩. ,0 +3651,"Help needed, what hanging plant would suit this spot? It’s next to a north facing window so it won’t get a lot of sunlight.. ",0 +3652,I regret nothing about this. ,0 +3653,Thrifted TV + Plants. ,0 +3654,If plants trip you. ,0 +3655,Guys!! Look at my new leaf. ,0 +3656,thought you guys might like this walla art i made based on my bird of paradise. ,0 +3657,My Grandma’s 40 year old Jade plant. ,0 +3658,"I like this!!! BUT, look at all that room for more plants!!!!. ",0 +3659,My fig started to hit the ceiling. What should I do?. ,0 +3660,I made a new style for my monstera trinket dish. ,0 +3661,the new leaf on my golden photos got these holes can someone help me and explain what they are?. ,0 +3662,Soaking my plants just got SO much easier. ,0 +3663,"Outside Bird of Paradise - Aussie garden. There was a chat over the weekend about BOP being a landscape plant in Australia. + +Evidence some blooms sneaking a peak over a rather high fence near my kid’s school, which I though would bring a smile.",0 +3664,My MIL has 100 problems and they’re all mealybugs. ,0 +3665,At what point do I actually have a problem?. ,0 +3666,My mum gave me her Christmas Cactus for my birthday 🥺. ,0 +3667,My mom decorated her Monstera for Christmas this year. ,0 +3668,pshh This is nothing... I've kept my calathea alive for over a year.. ,0 +3669,"I love all my plants. All were tiny when I got them, some decades ago. ",0 +3670,"My cat’s ex is visiting for a week, this is how I’m keeping him out of my plants. ",0 +3671,How many of these plants can you name?. ,0 +3672,A timelapse of an overly dramatic plant after being fed (Begonia Rex). ,0 +3673,My favorite Christmas ornament ❤️🪴. ,0 +3674,Story in comments….. ,0 +3675,"I inherited my fathers Jade tree he grew from a leaf in 1971. I can’t stress this enough, I HAVE A BLACK THUMB, HELP ME NOT KILL IT.. ",0 +3676,We’ve been growing this palm for a while and it’s getting big. ,0 +3677,"Head and shoulders above the rest. Alas, the 3ft tall Queen Amaryllis has bloomed.. ",0 +3678,Not sure if I can post this here but Monstera growing on the side of the road is fruiting!?. ,0 +3679,i got this little white princess philodendron for $20 back in 2019. back then she could fit in one hand. 2.5 years later we are still going strong and she’s over 3ft tall with leaves larger than both my hands combined.. ,0 +3680,My coworker has been updating me on her orchid. ,0 +3681,This ficus grew a completely white leave. ,0 +3682,My 2 years old Pilea :). ,0 +3683,I think I’m obsessed with my new Velma Cox. ,0 +3684,A mini glasshouse with paper plants. ,0 +3685,Our library has this gorgeous golden pothos! How did they make it grow like this?! It’s stunning. ,0 +3686,Update: Here's the pothos I posted about earlier today. Breaking through this root system before repotting is gonna be fun!. ,0 +3687,One of my recent water-propped Monstera just unfurled the littlest most perfect fenestrated leaf!. ,0 +3688,"Does this need to be repotted, or should I wait?. ",0 +3689,Ginkgo leaves that I made out of stained glass. Colors reflecting the seasons. ,0 +3690,Traded that exposed brick wall for this floor to ceiling window with a view 🪴✨. ,0 +3691,Is your calathea dying too? mine is.. ,0 +3692,Do you ever randomly buy a plant then think how am I going to get this home ?. ,0 +3693,Life Goals. Literal house plants.. ,0 +3694,Especially when I’m giving plant tours through my house!. ,0 +3695,This plush monstera albo was too cute not to have for my office.. ,0 +3696,Got a tip that this sub might enjoy my houseplants spread in my bullet journal. ,0 +3697,Pilea peperomioides🪴 This gal started off as my smallest plant just over a year and a half ago; she’s now one of my largest 🤭🤩. ,0 +3698,Been in-love for awhile💚🪴. ,0 +3699,I Now Have Giant Boston Ferns That I Want to Overwinter Inside in about a month. Should I repot them before bringing them in?. ,0 +3700,Anyone else slowly turning their house into a jungle?. ,0 +3701,year 2 of my carnivorous terrarium. ,0 +3702,Part of me feels like I really hit the mark on this one !!!. ,0 +3703,It clearly says.... ,0 +3704,Twins on String of Pearls?!. Went to find a softer light for my baby var string of pearls because some of the pearls were turning pink. Rotated the pot and found these twins 💕 I’ve never seen anything like this!,0 +3705,two of my Lithops flowered OMG!. ,0 +3706,Thought you guys might appreciate my new puzzle.. ,0 +3707,"Anyone else wondering where the hell you’re going to put your plants when you bring them back inside this fall?. I mean honestly. I hardly had room for this girl to begin with. Now she has absolutely exploded, and she’s not the only one. So many of my plants have doubled in size or more this summer.",0 +3708,Monstera cracking the freshness seal on a new aerial root. ,0 +3709,my string of bananas plant is officially taller than me!. ,0 +3710,This is my first ever Pilea and she absolutely stole my heart since I got her.. ,0 +3711,I love them all.. ,0 +3712,New leaf on dragon scale is looking amazing!. ,0 +3713,"Yay, art saturday! Drew a few aroids again🌞. ",0 +3714,My poor Monstera Albo Borsigiana got thrips and was slowly fading away. After literally hosing down the whole plant and roots in the garden and treating it I repotted it. That was 6 months ago and it's been dormant... until now!. ,0 +3715,One hour gel removal. One hour gel painting. 3 minutes a plant mum.. ,0 +3716,Huge BOP at my doctor’s office!. ,0 +3717,"Couldn’t keep my Moon Valley Pilea happy to save my life in soil. It constantly had crunchy, limp leaves. I moved it to water a few months ago and now it’s GORGEOUS!. ",0 +3718,Pollinating feels wrong. ,0 +3719,"Spontaneously repotted this one into a slightly deeper pot last weekend, and already seeing so much new growth!🤗 Always amazed by how quickly this one grows!. ",0 +3720,"My mum's spiderplant has gone crazy this year. It needs a larger pot and I have already propagated a dozen of the babies. I don't like the thought of pruning it and just throwing it away, but what to do with so much new growth?. ",0 +3721,"I know it’s not in a house, but this looks like a satin pothos right? Wonder how this growing pattern could be recreated in a house... ",0 +3722,My tiniest Alocasia. ,0 +3723,this is in no way an attack I've killed my fair share of babies xD. ,0 +3724,"Got this beautiful 1.6m Calathea 'Triostar' as a gift, what should I look out for?. ",0 +3725,This is what Lowe's threw away today. ,0 +3726,as i live on a 3th floor appartement and have a small balcony so these are technically houseplants. this i got out of my vegetables corner today!. ,0 +3727,Letting my new Thai Constellation monstera know what I expect from it.. ,0 +3728,Condo living and my purple plant. ,0 +3729,Nobody in my household seems to think this is funny but we’ve been fighting about this for years. So today I made this little meme about it and nobody appreciated it. I thought you guys might!. ,0 +3730,Been fighting my peace lily from un-aliving itself for a year. Now it has bloomed and looks ridiculous. ,0 +3731,A sight one must share… pretty new all-pink leaf. ,0 +3732,Emergency: repairing 100-year old Virginia creeper. ,0 +3733,I made a kokedama for the first time!. ,0 +3734,"So, you may remember Albus, my 48 year old Cactus. He has never been repotted. I don’t wanna kill him. Feel free to share all your advice.. ",0 +3735,First flower of the year on my Oxalis Triangularis!. ,0 +3736,One of my lithops bloomed!!. ,0 +3737,I can't think of a better pot for this! Also what is this?. ,0 +3738,"No point to this post, only to show off my beautiful cat (don’t worry she doesn’t nibble). ",0 +3739,Moved pothos to apartment. ,0 +3740,I can’t stop staring at her. ,0 +3741,Having a hard time parting with this arrangement. Growing them from leaves and took while to get here. Hope my friend appreciate this.. ,0 +3742,What in the seven hells is this absolute abomination?. ,0 +3743,"I have mold growing in my Tradescantia zebrina shoebin vivarium. I have discovered I have mushrooms in here which I got ID'd, but I don't know the kind of mold I have, and if I can salvage any plants without spreading the mold. :(. ",0 +3744,Obsessed with my tiny window. ,0 +3745,Was lucky enough to buy some Polish pottery in Poland last week-perfect place for my little Argy!!. ,0 +3746,I now have an unhealthy obsession with Calathea. ,0 +3747,Back Porch…. ,0 +3748,Home with covid so I made a new plant shelf for morale 🔮. ,0 +3749,This tricolored Tradescantia followed me home from the grocery store this morning 🥰. ,0 +3750,"I’m sure by now everyone has seen the elderly fellow that kept tradescantia sealed in a jar for over 50 years. Inspired by him, I made my own. Going on 8 years!. ",0 +3751,VSOP✨Just over a year of growth! Swipe to see how it started!. ,0 +3752,I love my Calathea ✨🪴. ,0 +3753,Today's trip to the local garden center. I'm in heaven now. ,0 +3754,i work at a plant shop and we got a rare shipment in. all i can say is :O. ,0 +3755,Saying goodbye to all my houseplants as I prepare to move; they’ve brought me so much joy 🥲. ,0 +3756,that's out of control #tradescantia. ,0 +3757,"My grandmother has Alzheimers and most of her plants have died, but this donkey's tail keeps enduring.. ",0 +3758,I have a thing for Calatheas 😍. ,0 +3759,bear paw appreciation. love these little hands. ,0 +3760,"Not as amazing as other posts here, but really proud of my little green corner. ",0 +3761,My Hoya flowered! I’m so excited. This is my/the plants first time for this to happen!. ,0 +3762,I found a random sprout so I decided to grow it. ,0 +3763,My baby is putting on a show for me 😍. ,0 +3764,HELP !! What do I do to make it stop growing 🙄🥲. ,0 +3765,Lobby of our resort in mexico 😍🌿. ,0 +3766,What is the rubbery “cap” growing and covering the soil of this little guy? Is it normal?. ,0 +3767,Y are you like this?. ,0 +3768,"𝔤𝔬𝔱𝔥 𝔭𝔩𝔞𝔫𝔱𝔰 - My latest colored pencil drawing in my houseplant series, What theme should I draw next?. ",0 +3769,my Stapelia flower!. ,0 +3770,The movement is mesmerizing.. ,0 +3771,I’m so sad I’m going to have to trash this avocado tree I grew from a pit. We’re moving cross country and we can’t take any live plants with us…. ,0 +3772,Summer has been good to this bushy pilea! Swipe to see what it looked like before this summer’s growth spurt!🤩. ,0 +3773,Best spot to relax. ,0 +3774,Terrarium I just made. ,0 +3775,In central Italy we are facing one of the worse heatwaves ever. Temperatures are already at 104F (40C) at 10 am. This is my geranium that I watered yesterday morning. Our cities are gonna cut water several hours everyday because we're also experiencing the worse drought in 70 years.. ,0 +3776,My bookshelf. ,0 +3777,Spent £50 on this stand and most of my plants don’t even fit on it 🤦‍♂️. ,0 +3778,Because y’all deserve to see this too…what a queen. ,0 +3779,I'm in fungus gnat hell. ,0 +3780,Staghorn update: I mounted it.. ,0 +3781,I wonder if my plants feel weird when I smoke weed around them. ,0 +3782,Do y’all pronounce it “paw”thos or “poh”thos?. ,0 +3783,"I bought it for its beauty, I had no idea it was so dangerous! Is it okay to still keep it?. ",0 +3784,Just wanted to share my Monstera Albo tattoo with you all. ,0 +3785,Staghorn fern in a befitting display I made.. ,0 +3786,Pothos 'Shangri La' high-key looks like wilted spinach but that just makes me love it even more. ,0 +3787,So vibrant. No editing. ,0 +3788,Hanging plants are my favorites. ,0 +3789,Love finding tiny chairs for my plants 🥰. ,0 +3790,"Help - little red bugs showed up, who are these guys???. ",0 +3791,Oke year update of my Hoya kerrii. Its now 15 years old. ,0 +3792,I got this catalog in the mail today. Wondering if repotting in the bedroom is a thing now?. ,0 +3793,A Pothos was just released to clean air 30 times better than a regular houseplant. It’s called Neo P1. Has anyone heard about it?. ,0 +3794,Look at this beauty🔥 Spiraling cactus. ,0 +3795,my butterworts are living their best lives. ,0 +3796,"The last living member of Easy Company of Band of Brothers fame, Bradford Freeman passes away at 97.. ",0 +3797,"The Egyptians may have the most famous mummies, but they're not the oldest. The Chinchorro people of Chile's Atacama Desert were the first to mummify their dead – 7,000 years ago.. ",0 +3798,"Student finds 1.8 million-year-old tooth, one of oldest signs of hominins outside of Africa. ",0 +3799,'Forgotten archive' of medieval books and manuscripts discovered in Romanian church. ,0 +3800,"Mexico's 1,500-year-old pyramids were built using tufa, limestone, and cactus juice and one housed the corpse of a woman who died nearly a millennium before the structure was built. ",0 +3801,"Queen Elizabeth II has died, Buckingham Palace announces. ",0 +3802,Anne Frank betrayal suspect identified after 77 years. ,0 +3803,"Roman ruins reappear from river in drought-stricken Europe almost 2,000 years later. ",0 +3804,The trial of John Peter Zenger. A New York Publisher who was arrested for criticizing the government of the time. His attorneys were disbarred and he could not get representation. Hamilton showed up at court to represent him. The explosive trial was the catalyst for the 1st Amendment. ,0 +3805,"For 1st time, the names of Japanese-Americans incarcerated during WWII are collected in one place.. ",0 +3806,"6,000-year-old skull found in cave in Taiwan possibly confirms legend of Indigenous tribe. ",0 +3807,"Mikhail Gorbachev, the Soviet Union’s final leader, dies. ",0 +3808,"The discovery of the largest Nazi treasure hoard of World War II in the abandoned mine near Merkers in Germany. Over 100 tons of Gold, at today’s prices, the gold bars alone would be worth over six billion USD.. ",0 +3809,Oldest known written sentence discovered on a head-lice comb: “May this tusk root out the lice of the hair and the beard.”. ,0 +3810,Ancient temple dedicated to Zeus unearthed in Egypt. ,0 +3811,Christian monastery possibly pre-dating Islam found in UAE. ,0 +3812,"A widely believed history myth: No, ""true"" Damascus steel is not a ""lost art"". Because it has come up repeatedly over the last week on subreddits I moderate, I thought I'd revise and repost this quick explainer on the very prolific myth that ""true"" damascus steel is a lost art. + + +First of all, let's clarify what I mean when I say ""True Damascus Steel"", because it is very easy to become mired in definitions and ambiguity. + +[Top: Ottoman Pala, Pattern welded. Bottom, Iranian Shamshir, Crucible steel.](https://preview.redd.it/oj7m6y0k3e591.jpg?width=6733&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=be106e56821267c4dfb0c9c1707143f878f62c87) + +**""Damascus steel"" usually refers to two main types of steel**: + +The most common you'll see made today is ""**pattern-welded steel**"", where alternating layers of nickel rich and nickel deplete steel are stacked, forge welded, and **folded** or manipulated to create a pattern. The blade is then polished and etched to reveal the layers. While modern pattern welded blades typically use nickel containing steels to maximise contrast, historically this was not the case. + +This method of construction using stacked, folded or otherwise forge welded, dissimilar* steels is how the majority of sword steels were made, worldwide, until advances in technology allowed for the use of more homogenous steel products. Pattern welding, and variants such as multibar patterns and laminated blades, were used widely and includes swords like spatha, “viking” swords, katana and more. It is worth noting that even ""monosteel"" swords which were made without the use of dissimilar steel, but still made from bloomery or refined blast furnace steel, were also subject to similar stacking, folding and forge welding techniques. + +*Bloom is here considered to contain multiple dissimilar steels due to the heterogeneous nature of bloom. + +This description of pattern welding and forge consolidated steels is intentionally simplified as they are not the focus of todays post, however for more information - particularly on bloomery and blast furnace production of steels - I recommend ""The Knight and the Blast Furnace"" by Alan Williams. + +In the present day, this is the type you will see chef’s knives, swords, and even pocket knives being made of, and it can range from being rather cheap to incredibly expensive depending on the materials and workmanship. + +[Pattern welded Pala blade in \\""Turkish Ribbon Twist\\"" style.](https://preview.redd.it/ijgu7seo3e591.jpg?width=6000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=630b2d095047fcd34d73f1e37c87db156a4f195a) + +The other type of ""Damascus Steel"" is a form of hypereutectoid, pattern forming **crucible steel.** + +And that is what I will be discussing today. + +It is a hypereutectoid steel, which means that it has over 0.8% carbon by definition. It is formed by liquifying steel in a crucible, and is **NOT** **produced by folding** or layering steel. The typical composition is around 1% to 2% carbon, which by modern standards makes this an “ultra-high carbon steel”, often abbreviated as UHCS. + +It is formed by melting steel with specific impurities in a crucible (historically, made of high kaolin content clay, rice husks as chaff, quartz sands, and other additives), and the process of turning this crucible “charge” into steel is quite complicated, with the potential for failure to produce an attractive pattern being high if any part of the process is not conducted correctly. + +In summary, the crucible charge is brought up to melting temperature, and held at this temperature for a while, allowing the constituent alloying elements present in the steel to spread and bubbles to boil out. It is then slowly cooled, before the ingot is removed, roasted to decarburise the rim, drawn out into a bar, manipulated to produce a surface pattern with ball peens, wedges and grinding, and finally forged it into a blade, and thermally cycled. + +As stated, this steel is typically the range of carbon content is between 1 and 2% in historical examples, and thus melts in a temperature range between 1200 and 1400c (for more information, see “iron carbon phase diagrams”). It must also have sufficient levels of carbide formers (vanadium, molybdenum, manganese etc) in order to form patterns (Verhoeven et al, 1998,. Verhoeven et al 2018). + +The pattern in crucible steel are formed by ""rafts"" of steel rich in carbide formers, where ultra-hard cementite spheroids form over subsequent forging cycles, which etch bright, and areas devoid of carbide forming elements (CFEs), which remain as pearlite, a soft mix of carbides which etches dark. The shape and size of the rafts is determined by the length of dendrites that form during the slow cooling of the ingot, as dendritic regions of the steel are carbide former depleted, and interdendritic regions are carbide former rich (Verhoeven et al, 2018). + +[Crucible steel shamshir blade, kara Khorasan pulad](https://preview.redd.it/rbchxn5t3e591.png?width=8091&format=png&auto=webp&s=6081374d34827d01a9493c3673aeddc09372cbb0) + +Many people conflate pattern-welded steel with crucible steel, and call both “Damascus”. Whilst this is accepted in colloquial language, it is important to distinguish between the two – particularly when it comes to identifying antiques, or documenting them. + +""Damascus"" can therefore be used to refer to either pattern welded, or crucible steels, as both are pattern-forming steels, but it is best to specify which sort of ""Damascus"" is being discussed. The term has been used historically to describe both pattern-welded steel and crucible steel. Many swords and gun barrels made in germany were marked ""damastahl"" in the 18th and 19th century, and they were pattern welded, so there is historical precedent for such a naming convention, but the two techniques (and end products) are very different. + +**To be ABSOLUTELY CLEAR: ""True"" damascus steel is herein used as a term to refer to historical, patterned crucible steel. I am using this term entirely because it is understandable. The correct naming and etymology is discussed later. Both pattern welded and crucible steel blades can be called ""damascus"", and were historically, but the ""lost"" form is the crucible steel form.** + +**The Myth: ""Damascus Steel is a Lost Art"":** + +The is quite a long history of crucible “Damascus” steel, in the form of primary sources in which the process was written down - as early as 350BCE - 420BCE Zosimus, an early alchemist in Alexandria, wrote the following: + +>""The tempering of Indian Iron: Take 4 pounds of soft iron, and the skins of myrobalans, called elileg, 15 parts; belileg, 4 parts; and two parts of glassmakers magnesia. Then place it into a crucible and make it level. .... Put on the charcoal and blow the fire until the iron becomes molten and the ingredients become united with it. ... Such is the premier and royal operation, which is practiced today and by means of which they make marvelous swords. It was discovered by the Indians and exploited by the Persians"". + +This is by no means the only method to make crucible steel - some was co-fusion, using both cast iron and bloom, while some was indeed made with bloomery and carbon bearing material (often plants). + +Incidentally, the oldest known crucible steel sword is from the 6th to 3rd century BCE and was found interred in a megalithic site in Thelunganur, Tamil Nadu, India (Ramesh et al, 2019) and daggers from \~500BCE have been found with the associated production site in Kodumanal, Tamil Nadu (Sasisekaran & Rao, 1999. Sasisekaran, 2002). This is consistent with the Zosimus account describing the technique as discovered by India. + +[Thelunganur sword, Ramesh et al 2019](https://preview.redd.it/cfthvr2f4e591.jpg?width=2128&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e8141215372f59d840de48a1f9237b31689535a4) + +The Islamic writers al-Kindi (full name Abu Ya'qub ibn Ishaq al-Kindi - circa 800CE - 873CE) and al-Beruni (full name Abu al-Rayhan Muhammad ibn Ahmad al-Biruni - circa 973CE - 1048CE) both wrote detailed procedures for the production of crucible steel, too. + +⁠This is how Biruni described it in the manuscript Al-Jamâhir Marefat al-Jawâher. (From Khorasani et al, 2013): + +>“He says that they \[ironwokers\] include five ratl رطل of \[horse\] shoes, the nails of which are made of narmâhan نرمآهن\] in the crucible\]. Then they add ten derham درهم of each \[of the ingredients\] rusaxtaj روسختج\] antimony\], marqiša-ye talâ’i طلائى مرقيشا\] golden marcasite\] and meqnesiyâ مغنسيا\] meqnisiyâ مغنيسيا ;manganese dioxide MnO2\] to the crucible, close the crucible with clay, and put it in the furnace. Then they fill the furnace with charcoal and blow air with Rumi (Roman Byzantine/Anatolian) bellows that are pumped by two men until the iron melts. Then they add a combination of halile هليله) myrobalan), pust-e anâr انار پوست) pomegranate peel), melh al-ajeyn ملحالعجين) the salt used for dough), and sadaf-e morvarid مرواريد صدف) pearl shell). From each the same amount approaching forty derham درهم are placed into small bags. One small bag is then added to each crucible. They keep heating vigorously without pause for one hour and then stop the heat. After it cools off, they take out the iron ingot (egg) from the crucibles. A person said that he was sitting next to a smith who was making swords in the province of Send سند\] Sind\]. He saw that the smith was using narmâhan نرمآهن and putting a very soft, ground mixture, which had a red color on it. Then the smith placed it in the furnace, and took it out and hammered it, and continued this process a couple of times. When asked why he did that he looked contemptuously. When he \[the person sitting next to the smith\] looked closely, he saw that the smith was hammering and mixing dus دوص with narmâhan نرمآهن the same way they made iron ingots (eggs) in Herat.” + +The metallurgical research into how this steel gets its patterns spans back far, with Michael Faraday (yes, that Faraday) having published a paper on recreating Indian crucible steel (known to him as wootz) in 1819, with subsequent papers in 1820 and 1822. It wasn't until 1837 when Pavel Anasov, a Russian metallurgist and director of the Zlatoust arms factory, that it was successfully recreated in any substantial quantity. Since then, research has been done on modern steels (Sherby and Wadsworth, 1983) and on historical blades, revealing the mechanisms by which the patterns forms (Verhoeven et al, 1998). + +Anosov was a metallurgist and Colonel of the Russian Army during the occupation on the Emirate of Bukhara in the 1820’s, when he established contact with steelmakers in the region and attempted to recreate the steel in his steelworks in Zlatoust, but after failing asked Captain Massalski (results published 1841) whose regiment was stationed there, to observe the process and undertake further observations. + +Massalski documented the Bukhara method, noting 3 key metals, cast iron, iron, and silver. Massalski stresses the ratio of one part iron, 3 parts cast iron (N.B: a co-fusion method of making steel with the right amount of carbon) and the crucibles hold around 2.5kg of steel, making up 1/3rd of the potential capacity of the crucible. + +The metal workers start the fire and the metal begins to melt after some 5 to 6 hours, and makes a bubbling sound. When the bubbling sound ends, this is a sign that the fusion has ended. The workers remove the lid, add 0.013kg to 0.017kg of silver, stir rapidly with an iron rod, cover the charge with charcoal, and cover again with the lid. (N.B: this was a potentially primitive form of ""killing"" the steel, a process by which reactive elements in the charge react with another reactive metal - silver in this case, aluminium in modern times - and are thus removed from the reaction, resulting in less porosity due to gas production. The other method of degassing historically used was simply holding the ingot at the molten, liquidus temperature for longer). + +* N.B: Silver is not particularly reactive, so the purpose of silver might not have been killing the steel. The atmosphere and composition of a crucible melt, as well as the 1400-1500c temperature at which silver was added require further investigation to determine the mode of action. it may be that the liquid silver was moving into the grain boundaries of the steel during solidification, displacing phosphorus or sulphur. + +They return the crucible to the fire and allow it to cool as the charcoal burns out, slowly, over 3 days. After cooling, the ingot is removed and tested by polishing to check for dendrites. The steel then passes to smiths, who “know that from then onwards whether the ingot survives being forged is a matter of luck” + +[A freshly made crucible steel ingot, image credit Peter Burt](https://preview.redd.it/zkm0z19a4e591.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2c39855adc912f208268efe017e54de3cc3f55ae) + +This is clear evidence that not only was the crucible steel production process being conducted in Bukhara in 1841, but that the mechanisms of pattern formation were already being formally investigated. And this is by far not the most recent ethnographic account of crucible steel manufacture. + +In Mawalgaha, Sri Lanka, Ananda Coomaraswamy documented crucible steel production in 1903 – (Coomaraswamy, A. (1908): Medieval Sinhalese Art. Pantheon Books, New York, Juleff et al 2009). He found two crucible ingot fragments, crucibles, iron blooms and small iron bars. The two crucible ingot fragments were collected from the Mawalgaha village, where Kiri Ukkuwa demonstrated how to make steel for Coomaraswamy – providing the most recent known eyewitness evidence for crucible steel manufacturing. + +This form of ""Damascus"" steel was therefore historically used as early as the 6th century BCE (Park et al 2019) and as late as 1841 when Massalski recorded crucible steel production in Bukhara, leading to the production of Bulat in Zlatoust by Anosov, and 1903 in Sri Lanka (though it was not actively being made en masse, and was only demonstrated using previously abandoned equipment). + +**In summary: Production between 1903ish, and 1980ish, was virtually halted, thus leading to the myth of it being a ""lost art"", however as will be shown in this document, the process was well documented and has since been replicated.** + +The result is that there are now upwards of 150 individuals (at least, that I know of) who can produce crucible steel with an accurate metallurgical composition, which naturally form patterns in the steel due to carbide segregation. It is structurally, functionally and visually identical to historical crucible steel - and can only be differentiated by analysing the amount of radionuclides in the steel, as all historical steel is low background steel, and modern recreations are typically not. + +Because I recognise that many people are visual learners, here is a comparison of antique crucible steel from an Iranian shamshir in my collection, and modern crucible steel (made by Niko Hynninen). + +[Left: Closeup of an antique Iranian shamshir blade in crucible steel. Right: False-color demonstration of high and medium density carbide forming element distribution. Medium CFE density leads to divorced spheroids.](https://preview.redd.it/o9vs2c9k4e591.jpg?width=3010&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=600bb85590b62dd01d93af21df0f05345fbd15af) + +[Modern crucible steel by Niko Hynninen, under microscope. Note the clear swirling rafts of spheroid cementite, and divorced spheroids of cementite, as seen in the antique examples.](https://preview.redd.it/rju8aew77e591.jpg?width=1440&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f1e92351efb398f10465024176c2a0210cc0d9d0) + +​ + +[Crucible steel (modern) by Niko Hynninen. ](https://preview.redd.it/gk45bhnu4e591.jpg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1b32ff23995c1be858172b484bc3b2780cc6fc96) + +​ + +**Etymological information on ""Damascus"" steel:** + +Utsa / Wootz (Sanskrit- and mistranslated Sanskrit), Urukku (Tamil) Pulad (Persian), Fuladh (Arabic), Bulat (Russian), Polat (Turkish) and Bintie (Chinese) are all names for ultra-high carbon crucible steel typified by carbide segregation, which can be otherwise referred to as ""crucible damascus steel"". The modern term “wootz” first appears around 1794 in writings by Sir Joseph Banks, who mistranslated Sanskrit for “utsa” as “wootz” (Dube, 2014). In the regions where crucible steel was made, and where it was forged into blades, it was not called ""damascus"". This name is primarily a medieval name, and primarily used in Europe. + +The origin of the name ""Damascus"" steel is contentious - The Islamic writers al-Kindi (full name Abu Ya'qub ibn Ishaq al-Kindi) (circa 800 AD - 873 AD) and al-Beruni (full name Abu al-Rayhan Muhammad ibn Ahmad al-Biruni) (circa 973 AD - 1048 AD) were both scholars who wrote about swords and steel made for swords, based on their surface appearance, geographical location of production or forging, or the name of the smith. + +There are three potential sources for the term ""Damascus"" in the context of steel. + +The word ""Damas"" stems from the root word for ""water"" (""ma"") or ""broiling"" in Arabic (Sachse, 1994, 13) and Damascus blades are often described as exhibiting a water-pattern on their surface, and are referred to as ""watered steel"" not only in English but in other languages. + +The second theory is geographical, as Al-Kindi called swords produced and forged in Damascus as Damascene (al-Hassan, 1978, 35) but it's worth noting that crucibl steel blades were made in many nations, and crucible steel is not known to have ever been produced in the city of Damascus. Al Kindi also describes crucible steel production using the typical term Pulad, distinct from these damascene swords, indicating that the two types are separate. It is also worth noting that Al-Kindi did not describe these swords as having pattern forming steel. + +Third, Beiruni mentions a sword-smith called Damasqui who made swords of crucible steel (Said, 1989, 219-220). In a similar fashion, Al-Kindi mentions swords called “Zaydiya which were forged by a man called Zayd, and hence they were attributed to his name"". We therefore have a precedent for naming swords based on their makers, which may explain how ""Damascus"" came about. + +It is my opinion that the ""watered"" hypothesis is most likely for the origin, though the popularisation of the term may have indeed occurred due to western travellers who purchased the swords in damascus, and described them thusly, as it was a massive center for trade. + +**How Crucible steel gets its pattern:** + +Crucible steel, as the name implies, is made in a crucible process, and requires completely liquefication of the crucible charge. + +Most surviving ""recipes"" for crucible steel call for either a combination of bloomery iron, and cast iron, or the use of bloomery iron and organic carbon sources (like plant leaves) - but crucible steel recipes included other elements, like organic material - rice husks, leaves, bark - as well as shells, glass, and even silver. The trace impurities in the iron used, and in these additives, are key to the patterns they show after forging. + +In order to form patterns, carbide forming alloying elements like vanadium, tungsten or manganese are necessary in small amounts, with vanadium being the most common historical alloying element. These carbide formers cause the segregation of hard cementite carbides, which form the ""white streaks"" in crucible steel. + +The segregation of CFEs into interdendritic reasons is due to the differences in solidification temperature between high CFE and low CFE steel, with low CFE steel solidifying at a higher temperature than high CFE steel. This causes the low CFE steel to solidify first when the ingot is slowly cooled, and it does so by branching out into dendrities of relatively pure iron, while the impurities such as phosphorus, CFEs and sulfur get pushed into the regions between these branches. + +[Dendritic structures visible on freshly made crucible ingot - image credit Peter Burt.](https://preview.redd.it/4plho3o14e591.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5862b44b804955becc1428e59c7f6ad289ddfc0d) + +During the forging of the crucible steel ""puck"", these carbide formers are pushed into parallel, layered sheets in the microstructure of the steel (Verhoeven et al, 1998). + +[Parallel cluster sheets.](https://i.redd.it/gi70lojz3e591.gif) + +Because vanadium and other CFEs do not readily dissolve at forging temperatures and do not rapidly migrate at forging temperatures, these sheets of carbide formers form distinct bands in the steel. As the steel is thermally cycled, carbides aggregate onto the CFEs via ostwald ripening, and form spheroids of cementite. The interdendritic regions without CFEs form as pearlite, a soft two-phase mixture of carbides, or sorbite, and imperfect form of pearlite. This is diagnostic of historical crucible steel (Verhoeven et al 2018, Feuerbach 2002, Feuerbach 2006). + +It is worth noting that vanadium is not the only effective carbide former found in historical crucible steel blades, and other carbide formers like manganese are seen in historical examples - or even chromium as seen in Chahak, Iran (Alipour et al 2021). Additionally, the other microalloying elements in the steel can effect the contrast and spacing of the pattern, with phosporus notably increasing the contrast of the pattern after etching (Khorasani and Hynninen, 2013) + +**Historical perspectives on Crucible Damascus Steel quality:** + +Regarding the historical reputation of historical crucible steel swords: they were always very expensive, very desirable, and very well thought of - HOWEVER - there are accounts from the 14th century of cold-short blades (high in phosphorus) which claims that crucible steel swords are prone to breakage in cold weather. + +The exact quote is by Alī ibn ʻAbd al-Raḥmān Ibn Hudhayl, translated: + +>""the Hindy sabre often breaks when the weather is cold and shows itself better when the weather is warm” + +Despite this, they were very valued. Mohammad ibn Abi al-Barakāt Jŏhari Nezāmi in 1196 CE states a good shamshir blade of crucible steel was valued at 100 golden Dinar (Khorasani et al, 2013). + +Al-Idrisi (Full name Abu Abd Allah Muhammad ibn Muhammad ibn Abd Allah ibn Idris al-Idrisi - circa 1100CE - 1166CE) claimed that ""*nothing could surpass*"" the edge of a crucible steel sword. + +Bertrandon de la Brocquiere, a Frenchman, wrote about his travels to the Middle East in 1432CE–1433CE. He wrote: + +>""Damascus blades are the handsomest and best of all Syria... I have nowhere seen swords cut so excellently. They are made at Damascus, and in the adjoining country."" + +Note: This is potentially the source of the (incorrect but often repeated) claim that crucible steel swords were made in Damascus. + +In the early 1600's, Polish king Zygmunt III Waza ordered a Armenian merchant (Sefer Muratowicz) to purchase a number of watered steel blades from Isfahan, Persia due to their value and reputation (Muratovich et al, 1777). On this same journey, the merchant purchased carpets embroidered with the royal coat of arms, which still survive today. + +Regardless of the reputation crucible steel enjoyed in its' day, the reality is that it was by nature very clean, with minimal slag - which made it less likely to break due to inclusions - and there is a lot of variation in the metallurgical composition of this steel. Some have higher carbon, or more phosphorus, and the quality varied. Heat treatment also widely varied. + +Compared to bloomery steel which was folded and consolidated, it's more uniform and much lower in slag - the term for non-metallic inclusions. The same is true of refined blast furnace steel, which also requires forge consolidation after finishing the finery process. + +[Microstructure of a Japanese Katana, 2% Nital etch. Note the presence slag inclusions (black) within the mostly martensitic steel. Image credit George Vander Voort](https://preview.redd.it/za28tvn36e591.png?width=476&format=png&auto=webp&s=ccb54d2c5b8b2d6c6265e426cb87cce2c637a83e) + +​ + +Crucible steel can be more brittle, depending on the heat treatment, phosphorus, and sulfur contents, or it can be much more flexible. It depends on the exact sword being analysed, as crucible steel was produced for around 2 millennia and in many places. For example, some accounts of crucible steel swords being able to be bent 90 degrees exist, however these can easily be countered with extant examples that take a set no matter the degree of bending. + +**Production methods:** + +Here are 4 different processes, which were recorded from at early as Al Kindi, to as late as 1841CE with Massalski - from the Deccani process used in Hyderabad, to the south Indian process, and the Isfahan process, and the Bukhara process. + +There are more processes out there, I just haven't gotten around to writing them out. + +**Bukhara:** + +>3 parts clean iron, 1 part cast iron. Place in a crucible that is five times as tall as it the base is wide, with a mouth three times the size of the base. The weight of iron should be 2-2.5kg. +> +>Using a charcoal melting furnace with air venting holes, heat until melted (6 hours) or until a bubbling sound can be heard from the crucible. once bubbling stops, remove the lid of the crucible and add 0.013-0.017 grams of silver to the crucible and stir with a metal rod. reseal the crucible, seal all holes in the furnace, and allow to cool over 3 days. +> +>Remove the puck from the crucible, and polish one corner of it to check if the watered pattern is good. If the pattern is poor, reheat to a red heat and hold for seven minutes before allowing to cool in air. +> +>Forge into a bar using the top of the button to form the spine of the blade, and never heating above red. + +**South Indian:** + +>In a clay crucible of conical form (200mm height x 50mm diameter) add 250-500 grams of bloomery iron, as well as wood chips, rice husks, vines or leaves. Seal the crucible with a clay lid, leaving a vent hole. Allow to fully dry +> +>Using a bellow-fed charcoal forge, heat for 6 hours or until molten. allow the crucible to cool in the forge (some sources say to quench it in water). +> +>The button will have a striated appearance if everything was done correctly. + +**Deccani (Hyderabad) Process:** + +>Using a mixture of iron sand derived iron ore, and iron clay derived iron (mirtpalli and kondapur iron), place in a crucible with glass, sealed with clay with a vent hole. Place in a bellow powered charcoal furnace for 24 hours. The steel will melt within the first 3. After 24 hours, remove crucible and allow to cool in the air. +> +>Once cool, remove the buttons and cover each in clay, and anneal in a conventional forge for 12-16 hours. repeat this annealing process until the button is no longer brittle. + +**Isfahan Process:** + +>To a crucible, add 10% casi auriculata wood, and asclepias gigantean leaves with two parts pure iron, one part cast iron, and three parts silicate-rich iron ore up to a total weight of 200 grams. +> +>10-1200 of these small crucibles are heated at a time in a kiln operated with charcoal and bellows for 6 days, before the crucibles are broken open, and the buttons removed. +> +>The buttons are then transferred into a ""hot room"" to anneal and temper for 2 days so they do not shatter from cooling too quickly. + +Authors note: I suspect that if this room is a furnace-heated compartment, and is hot enough, they also experience some level of rim decarburisation, as well as converting the microstructure of the puck to a more forgeable state compared to steel which has not been roasted. + +**\*\*References\*\*** + +Alipour, R., Rehren, T., Martinón-Torres, M. ""Chromium crucible steel was first made in Persia"", Journal of Archaeological Science, Vol. 127, 2021, + +Al-Hassan, A.Y., 1978, Iron and Steel Technology in Medieval Arabic Sources, Journal for the History of Arabic Science 2: 1,31-43 + +Anosov, P.P. (1841) On the Bulats (Damascus Steels). Mining Journal, 2, 157-317. + +Dube, R.K. (2014) Wootz: Erroneous Transliteration of Sanskrit “Utsa” used for Indian Crucible Steel. JOM 66, 2390–2396 + +Feuerbach, A. M. 2002. Crucible steel in Central Asia: production, use and origins. + +Feuerbach, A. M. 2006. Crucible damascus steel: A fascination for almost 2,000 years. JOM, 58, 48-50. + +Juleff, G. Craddock, P.T., Malim, T. (2009) 'In the footsteps of Ananda Coomaraswamy: Veralugasmankada and the archaeology and oral history of traditional iron smelting in Sri Lanka', Historical Metallurgy: The Journal of the Historical Metallurgy Society vol. 43(2) pp. 109-134 + + +Khorasani, Manouchehr & Hynninen, Niko. (2013). Reproducing crucible steel: A practical guide and a comparative analysis to persian manuscripts. Gladius. 33. 157-192. 10.3989/gladius.2013.0007. + +Muratowicz, S., Minasowicz, J.E., Mitzler de Kolof, M. (1777) Relacya Sefera Muratowicza Obywatela Warszawskiego Od Zygmunta III Krola Polskiego Dla Sprawowania Rzeczy Wysłanego do Persyi w Roku 1602. Warsaw, published by J. K. Mci y Rzpltey Mitzlerowskiey, . + +Park, J.‐S., Rajan, K., and Ramesh, R. (2020) High‐carbon steel and ancient sword‐making as observed in a double‐edged sword from an Iron Age megalithic burial in Tamil Nadu, India. Archaeometry, 62: 68– 80. + +Sachse, Damascus Steel: Myth, History, Technology, Applications (Wirtschaftseverk: N.W. Verl. Fur Neue Wiss, 1994). + +Said, Al-Beruni's Book on Mineralogy: The Book Most Comprehensive in Knowledge on Precious Stones (Islamabad: Pakistan Hijra Council, 1989), pp. 219–220. + +T., F. Metallurgical Researches of Michael Faraday. Nature 129, 45–47 (1932). + +Verhoeven, J., A.H. Pendray, WE. Dauksch, 1998, The Key Role of Impurities in Ancient Damascus Steel Blades, JOM 50:9, 58-64 + +J.D Verhoeven, A.H Pendray, W.E. Dauksch, 2018, Damascus steel revisited, JOM vol 70, pp 1331-1336 + +Oleg D. Sherby: ""Damascus Steel Rediscovered?"" 1979, Trans. ISIJ, 19(7) p. 381--390. + +J. Wadsworth and OD. Sherby, 1980 “On the Bulat - Damascus Steels Revisited”, Progress in Materials Science. 25 p. 35 - 68 + +Sherby , O.D. and Wadsworth, J., 1983-84 ""Damascus Steels --- Myths, Magic and Metallurgy"", The Stanford Engineer, p. 27 - 37. + +J. Wadsworth and O.D. Sherby, ""Damascus Steel Making"", 1983, Science , 216, p. 328-330. 1985 + +Oleg D. Sherby, T. Oyama, Kum D. M., B. Walser, and J. Wadsworth, 1985, ""Ultrahigh Carbon Steels"". J. Metals, 37(6) p. 50 - 56. + +Oleg D. Sherby and Jeffrey Wadsworth, 1985, ""Damascus Steel"", Scientific American, 252(2) p. 112 -120 + +**N.B:** A brief note on the claim **carbon nanotubes** exist in crucible steel: + +The only articles that ""found"" carbon nanotubes was published as a brief communication to Nature, i.e not a peer reviewed article, not a full article. This was in 2006, and was only a few pages in length. + +It later found its away into a conference paper by the same authors, still not a peer reviewed article. This was 2 pages in length. These findings should be considered preliminary. + +The method used (dissolving crucible steel in acid and seeing what remains) revealed stands of carbon, but carbon dissolves VERY readily into steel. Crucible steel is typified by cementite spheroids, which often stretch into rods during forging as they are deformed. If you dissolve cementite in acid, removing the iron component, you are left with carbon. + +This does not mean there was an intact carbon nanotube in the core of the cementite rod - and even if it DID mean that, it would have negligible impact on performance because it is \*encased\* in cementite, which itself is in a soft matrix of pearlite or sorbite. + +But don't take my word for it. Other academics, including those who have been instrumental in understanding crucible steel (namely John Verhoeven) doubt the findings. + +"" John Verhoeven, of Iowa State University in Ames, suggests Paufler is seeing something else. Cementite can itself exist as rods, he notes, so there might not be any carbon nanotubes in the rod-like structure."" + +""Another potential problem is that TEM equipment sometimes contains nanotubes, says physicist Alex Zettl of the University of California"" + +[https://www.nature.com/news/2006/061113/full/news061113-11.html](https://www.nature.com/news/2006/061113/full/news061113-11.html)",0 +3813,"Drought in Europe exposes sunken ships, lost villages and ominous 'hunger stones' - BBC News. ",0 +3814,"4,500-Year-Old Stone Age Man Found Buried Under School. He had been laid on his right side with his head facing south, a traditional burial position in the era.Rare for Switzerland geographical area. ",0 +3815,Origins of the Black Death identified. Multidisciplinary team studied ancient plague genomes. ,0 +3816,"Archaeologist Howard Carter stole Tutankhamun’s treasure, new evidence suggests. ",0 +3817,Farmer uncovers stunning Byzantine-era mosaic in Gaza orchard. ,0 +3818,AP exposes the Tuskegee Syphilis Study: The 50th Anniversary. ,0 +3819,"Frozen in time: 3,300-year-old burial cave from Ramses II era found at popular beach. ",0 +3820,Rare 400-year-old ship found in German river is a stunningly preserved 'time capsule'. ,0 +3821,Leading archaeologist Zahi Hawass says that Queen Nefertiti's mummy may have been discovered. ,0 +3822,Maya sacrifice victims found with mysterious blue string in their teeth. ,0 +3823,"Founding father Roger Sherman is the only person to have signed all four of the most significant documents in America’s early history: the Continental Association from the first Continental Congress, the Declaration of Independence, the Articles of Confederation, and the United States Constitution.. ",0 +3824,New study suggests Māori settlers arrived in Aotearoa-New Zealand as early as 13th century.. ,0 +3825,Oldest DNA from domesticated American horse lends credence to shipwreck folklore. ,0 +3826,RIP David McCullough (1933-2022). ,0 +3827,Rare 500-year-old Tudor Structure Used To Catch Fish Has Emerged From Beneath The Sand -. ,0 +3828,"Israeli archaeologists uncover earliest known use of opium in the ancient world, dating 14th century BCE. ",0 +3829,"Coins worth up to $290,000 found under kitchen floorboards. ",0 +3830,"Stone Age humans had unexpectedly advanced medical knowledge, new discovery suggests. ",0 +3831,Ptolemaic Greek Shipwreck Loaded with Treasures Discovered off Egypt. ,0 +3832,"Egyptian researchers uncover 2,600-year-old cheese at ancient necropolis. ",0 +3833,Hundreds of mummies and pyramid of an unknown queen unearthed near King Tut's tomb. ,0 +3834,"Archaeologists discovered 7,000-year-old structure in the Czech Republic. ",0 +3835,"Explorers find WWII Navy destroyer, deepest wreck discovered. ",0 +3836,"Last World War II Medal of Honor recipient, West Virginia native Hershel 'Woody' Williams dies at 98. ",0 +3837,"After 350 years, sea gives up lost jewels of Spanish shipwreck - Spanish shipwreck in Bahamas. ",0 +3838,US Army replaces cake it stole from Italian girl in 1945. ,0 +3839,"30,000 Medieval items available online for the first time --- Seven European institutions created a database of 34,000 new images of medieval items, including manuscripts, books, and coins.. ",0 +3840,"Woman’s name and tiny sketches found in 1,300-year-old medieval text | Old English name, Eadburg, repeatedly scored into manuscript had remained hidden for more than 12 centuries. ",0 +3841,"My Uncle was a Tunnel Rat in Vietnam and has agreed to do an interview with me in the next 2 days, I need help finding the right questions to ask him.. I had posted about this in r/AskHistorians and they provided me with plenty of helpful resources in how to go about conducting the interview. What I am still struggling with is finding the right questions to ask. I don’t want to bring up anything too traumatizing for him but I also want to be able to figure out the stuff he did differently than other individuals in order to survive such a high attrition rate job. Such as equipment to individual mannerisms. + If anyone would be interested in having a question answered from my uncle please comment it below and I can ask + +Update: hello everyone! I have just finished up my first interview with my uncle a few minutes ago, we talked for about an hour and 20 minutes just about pretty much everything from before he was drafted and how that made him feel then onto his travels from the states to Vietnam, his initial experience in Vietnam such as what he was doing when he got there. From there we started to talk about Him being moved out to the “boondocks” with his unit and then becoming a tunnel rat. + +We then talked about equipment,training and initial feelings of the job. +- what would be found in the tunnels +- booby traps (the different types)(how they go about finding them) +- time spent in tunnels and what would be a reason he wouldn’t continue +-injuries + +We talked about a lot! And I was sure to record everything. My plan from here is to take everything we talked about and get a more detailed list of what I want to get more information about. +At the end of our talk today he said he would like to talk more and would tell me “whatever” I wanted to know so I think the plan is to try and do this once a week so I can get as much information about him as possible +I would love to be able to share everything I find out with everyone! I just have to find out the best way to do that + +I received some really great advice from both here and r/AskHistorians one piece of advice I got that really helped this whole process a lot is, “when there is silence don’t speak and wait for the interviewee to continue” +That piece of advice really helped get a lot more information than I thought was possible and is an area I need to improve in for next time because I can tell there was a lot more that my Uncle wanted to say before I sometimes asked the next question + +This post gained much more attention Than I initially expected and I am truly thankful for everybody’s input and advice, I do not know what I am doing when it comes to interviewing but am learning so much! I want to be able to share the material that I learn and want to be sure I do that in the correct way!",0 +3842,Thor’s hammer amulet discovered in Sweden - Arkeonews. ,0 +3843,Neanderthal extinction may have been caused by mating with Homo sapiens. ,0 +3844,Superhighway of ancient human and animal footprints in England provides an 'amazing snapshot of the past'. ,0 +3845,First Female Viking Grave Discovered In Swedish Mountains. ,0 +3846,The underground remains of the Hippodrome of Constantinople will be unearthed. ,0 +3847,"NASA leaders recently viewed footage of an underwater dive off the East coast of Florida, and they confirm it depicts an artifact from the space shuttle Challenger. ",0 +3848,Shackleton's lost ship is found in Antarctic. ,0 +3849,"Thousands of medieval images available for free, thanks to Albertina Museum. ",0 +3850,DDT was banned 50 years ago but the repercussions will last generations. ,0 +3851,"Lost islands cited in Welsh folklore and poetry are plausible, new evidence on the evolution of the coastline of west Wales has revealed. ",0 +3852,Archaeologists hail ‘dream discovery’ as sarcophagus of Ptah-em-wia is unearthed near Cairo. ,0 +3853,"Researchers studying human remains from Pompeii have extracted genetic secrets from the bones of a man and a woman who were buried when the Roman city was engulfed in volcanic ash, showing why they did not run from the eruption and providing insight into regional genetic diversity at the time.. ",0 +3854,"Archaeologists have found the 17th-century warship Applet: Maritime experts believe wreck is sister-ship of Vasa, which sank off Stockholm in 1629. ",0 +3855,"Slaves were brutally branded in ancient Egypt, research shows. ",0 +3856,A Medieval Gold Wedding Ring Found in the Mud Worth Is Thousands. ,0 +3857,Best physical evidence of Roman crucifixion found in Cambridgeshire. ,0 +3858,"To me, the most profound thing about Oskar Schindler is that he wasn’t some kind of Saint. In fact, by all accounts he was kind of a sleezeball. Set out to profiteer from the war, initially just wanted to use Jews as laborers because they were cheap, he could pay them even less than he could pay Poles. But, he was *human*. And when faced with the opportunity to save 1100 lives by spending his fortune, risking his own life and liberty, he simply couldn’t refuse. + +In his own words: + +“I felt the Jews were being destroyed. There was no choice”",0 +3859,The fully scanned contents of an 1861 illustrated Japanese book on the American revolutionary war. ,0 +3860,Mercenaries Were More Common in Greek Warfare Than Ancient Historians Let on. ,0 +3861,Justice for Japan's wartime sex slaves (Unreported World). ,0 +3862,Thonis-Heracleion: An Ancient Egyptian City that Sank Under Water. ,0 +3863,Human 'bog bones' discovered at Stone Age campsite in Germany. ,0 +3864,Hagia Sophia is still symbolic of Christianity and Islam's shared history. ,0 +3865,Anglo-Saxon hall where kings and warriors dined discovered in England. ,0 +3866,New Research Shows LSU Campus Mounds as the Oldest Known Man-made Structures in North America. ,0 +3867,The Discovery that Lemons Cure Scurvy Caused the Formation of the Sicilian Mafia. ,0 +3868,17th century shipwreck remains found on Oregon Coast near Astoria - oregonlive.com. ,0 +3869,"The World's Oldest Business Operated for 1,400 Years Before Its Liquidation in 2006 - Japanese Construction Company Kongō Gumi. ",0 +3870,The 110-year-old Titanic violin that miraculously survived the sinking ship. ,0 +3871,"Rare 3,000-Year-Old Gold Mask Found in Chinese Royal Tombs. ",0 +3872,Ancient DNA traces origin of Black Death. ,0 +3873,Revealed: TE Lawrence felt ‘bitter shame’ over UK’s false promises of Arab self rule. ,0 +3874,"Qin Shi Huangdi (259–210 B.C.), the first Qin Emperor, was a brutal ruler who unified ancient China, formulated terracotta warriors and laid the foundation for the Great Wall.. ",0 +3875,The Atari 2600 at 45: The Console That Brought Arcade Games Home. ,0 +3876,One of the longest ancient Roman inscriptions ever discovered in Britain is to go on display for the first time.. ,0 +3877,Emperor Charles V's secret code cracked after five centuries. ,0 +3878,The amazing story of Robert Smalls - he escaped from slavery and became one of the first African American politicians. ,0 +3879,"Animal bones, ancient Romans’ snack food found in Colosseum. ",0 +3880,"Are there any countries have have actually moved geographically?. When I say moved geographically, what I mean are countries that were in one location, and for some reason ended up in a completely different location some time later. + +One mechanism that I can imagine is a country that expanded their territory (perhaps militarily) , then lost their original territory, with the end result being that they are now situated in a completely different place geographically than before. + +I have done a lot of googling, and cannot find any reference to this, but it seems plausible to me, and I'm curious!",0 +3881,Machu Picchu has been called the wrong name for over 100 years. Historians reveal its true name. ,0 +3882,"Ridley Scott is making a biopic of Napoleon Bonaparte in which he will show 6 of Napoleon's 61 battles. Which 6 would you choose?. 6 seems like a reasonable number for a movie, but which 6 would be the best to represent a movie about Napoleon?Let's get the obvious out of the way with Austerlitz and Waterloo. So now which four? 🙂 + +Personally I would add the siege of Toulon, Marengo, Borodino, and Leipzig. I'd love to see Napoleon in Egypt and the battle of Acre, but at the end of the day I think there's too much story there, it could be its own movie.",0 +3883,Tutankhamun’s burial chamber may contain door to Nefertiti’s tomb. ,0 +3884,"The world's oldest toys date back thousands of years – but determining whether ancient children played with them, and how, remains a mystery archaeologists are piecing together.. ",0 +3885,Tracks Of Ancient Human Found In Spain Are 300k Years Old. ,0 +3886,The oldest version of the Qur'an. Hz. It is about 1400 years old dating from the Osman period.. ,0 +3887,"D-Day ration pack last in the world, Dorset museum says. ",0 +3888,"'Pristine' 200-year-old mine uncovered, plus personal items workers left behind. ",0 +3889,"Treasure find of Bronze Age axes and spears from 1,000 BC. ",0 +3890,"Romania: Trove of Gold Hair Rings Buried in 6,500-Year-Old Woman's Grave. ",0 +3891,Flavia Sabora: Lost Roman town is rediscovered under a crop field in Spain. ,0 +3892,"Fatty Arbuckle and the Birth of the Celebrity Scandal. Following his trial and acquittal , he was banished from Hollywood a hundred years ago.. ",0 +3893,Gold coins hidden in 7th Century found in wall. ,0 +3894,"Donkeys were domesticated just once in history, study finds. They went on to change civilisation. ",0 +3895,Bronze Age gold belt with 'cosmological' designs unearthed in Czech beet field. ,0 +3896,Somerton Man Identity Solved. ,0 +3897,"The messages that survived civilisation's collapse | ""The Sumerians, Maya and other ancient cultures created texts that have lasted hundreds and even thousands of years. Here's what they can teach us about crafting an immortal message."". ",0 +3898,Nalanda: India's ancient university rising from the ashes. ,0 +3899,Archaeologists unearth two Viking Age swords in burial ground - HeritageDaily - Archaeology News. ,0 +3900,Ancient Bronze Age city reemerges from Iraq river after extreme drought. ,0 +3901,American tourists learn different ways Vietnamese killed Americans during the Vietnam war. ,0 +3902,Cambridge University study finds Anglo-Saxon kings were mostly vegetarian. ,0 +3903,Coca leaves have been consumed on the southern Peruvian coast since the Early Nazca Period (100 BCE-450 CE).. ,0 +3904,"A new origin story for domesticated chickens starts in rice fields 3,500 years ago. ",0 +3905,Enheduanna: The World's First Named Author. ,0 +3906,"Between the 7th and 16th centuries, anonymous pilgrims and other travellers left behind traces of their presence throughout the eastern Mediterranean region, where the walls of sacred sites are emblazoned with thousands of Latin inscriptions. ",0 +3907,Study: Disease may have played a role in the collapse of Early Bronze Age societies. ,0 +3908,"Hercules statue, approximately 2,000 years old, discovered in Greece - The Jerusalem Post. ",0 +3909,Archaeologists excavate dwelling in the proto-city Çatalhöyük. ,0 +3910,Why Roman Egypt was such a strange province. ,0 +3911,"Historian uncovers the location, date, and time of the speech that convinced Dr. King of the methods of nonviolence.. ",0 +3912,Salamo Arouch: The Jewish boxer forced to fight at Auschwitz in WWII. ,0 +3913,"The bloody history of Saint Olga of Kiev. Olga of Kiev, a/k/a Saint Olga, has a revenge story worthy of *Game of Thrones* or *The Northman*. + +The Drevlians, murderers of Olga’s husband, the king of the Kievan Rus, sent ambassadors to demand she marry their prince since her son and heir was only three years old. She had the ambassadors buried alive. Without revealing what she had done, she asked her enemies for a delegation of important men to escort her. She had them burned alive. + +Still concealing her actions, she asked for a funeral feast at her husband’s grave on enemy territory. She invited her enemies to the feast and served strong drinks. When her enemies were drunk she and her small retinue slaughtered them and returned to Kiev. + +She then went to war and besieged the city where her husband had been killed. She was victorious in the field but the city held out for a year. Finally she offered peace for a small price, three pigeons and three sparrows from each house. A relieved city accepted. + +She then instructed her army to attach a piece of sulfur wrapped in cloth to each bird, set the sulfur on fire, and release the birds. The birds returned to their homes and set the city on fire everywhere at once, so the flames could not be put out. Olga’s army killed or captured all who escaped the flames, and her revenge was complete. + +Despite her bloody history as regent for her son, Olga became a saint by converting to Christianity and doing what she could to convince her son and people to convert as well. Her son refused but after her death her grandson agreed and the Kievan Rus became Christian. Saint Olga is a patron of widows and converts. + +Some call her the patron saint of vengeance, but that appears to be an unofficial title since vengeance isn’t really in keeping with Christian teachings. Nevertheless, her legend lives on. + +In the movie *The Northman* there’s a broad hint that the main character’s daughter will be Saint Olga, a rare woman on the tree of kings. Saint Olga was said to be of Viking origin. + +https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Olga_of_Kiev",0 +3914,Newly released FBI files reveal the hidden story behind the 1982 assassination of a Turkish diplomat outside Boston • MuckRock. ,0 +3915,Human burial grounds and bullets from Spanish guns uncovered at site of last Mayan stronghold in Guatemala. ,0 +3916,Out of the Dust: Kazakh Researchers Bring Back Manuscripts That Might Open New Pages of Kazakh History From World Archives. ,0 +3917,"Ancient shipwreck sees light of day again, a major milestone for Chinese underwater archaeology. ",0 +3918,Researchers look to unravel story of Islamic glass found in Scottish castle - HeritageDaily - Archaeology News. ,0 +3919,Unusual 120-Year-Old Whaleback Shipwreck Discovered in Lake Superior. ,0 +3920,Floors in ancient Greek luxury villa were laid with recycled glass. ,0 +3921,"Monster Moves: The Mach 3 SR-71 Blackbird Somehow Outran 4,000 Enemy Missiles. ",0 +3922,"Although Black Death had a devastating impact in some regions, it was found to have negligible or no impact in others.. ",0 +3923,Ancient Egyptian mummification was never intended to preserve bodies. ,0 +3924,Long-lost Alexander Hamilton letter put on public display for July Fourth. ,0 +3925,Researchers piece together the story of an ancient Roman city of Falerii Novi one artifact at a time. ,0 +3926,"Okay, folks. The Greatest Longshots in History. Let's hear about them!. The lesser known, the better, but all are welcome. + +Some qualifying examples: unlikely Individuals rising to power. Smaller forces succeed vs larger forces. Underdog winners in sport, war, politics, as well as situational outcomes for individuals and collectives. Long shot surprises of any remarkability. + +Examples: +Spartacus escaped slavery with about 70 other gladiators. He went on to raise an army of about 100,000 and defeat the greatest military establishment ever known 6 times over 4 years. One of histories favorite long shots. + +Rocky Marciano was smaller, lighter and had a shorter reach than his heavyweight opponents, yet maintained the heavyweight title without losing once during his whole career. + +The Battle of Agincourt. Henry V had a third or a fourth of the number of forces. No calvary but fought calvary. 5/6 of his forces were archers. 1/6 dismounted men at arms and an army undersupplied and struggling with debilitating sickness yet beat the French, killing 10 to 1! + +What other historical longshots come to mind? Any surprise outcomes of underdogs from race horses to national leaders to tales of survival by individuals or collectives. Let's hear'em!",0 +3927,A 1000-year-old Viking silver treasure found in Sweden. ,0 +3928,"Medieval Boat Used To Ferry Pilgrims Discovered - the pilgrimage to Compostela, Spain. ",0 +3929,How Centuries-Old Whaling Logs Are Filling Gaps In Our Climate Knowledge. ,0 +3930,"Wyatt Earp's Nephew, Virgil Earp, Talks About the Wild West. ",0 +3931,600-year-old coin may be oldest found in Canada. ,0 +3932,"Two Neolithic sites dating back to 6500 BCE discovered in Abu Dhabi, UAE. ",0 +3933,Discovery of bronzes rewrites Italy’s Etruscan-Roman history. ,0 +3934,"Korean history dates back to a bronze culture called ""Gojoseon (Old Joseon)"" that existed in modern-day Manchuria approx. 1000 BC ~ 108 BC. The kingdom left a foundation myth, 3 penal statutes, one sad song, shamanic culture, and lots of mandolin-shaped bronze daggers and dolmens. Almost all Korean children grow up hearing about the foundation myth of **Gojoseon** and the mythical god-king Dangun. Later at school, students learn about the archeological relics of the culture, one surviving poem, and 3 surviving penal statues - which is often tested in the standardized state exams. + +​ + +**The foundation myth**: + +(copied from [https://www.reddit.com/r/HistoryAnecdotes/comments/61y8dw/koreas\_origin\_myth/](https://www.reddit.com/r/HistoryAnecdotes/comments/61y8dw/koreas_origin_myth/)) + +>... Hwanung, the son of the Emperor of Heaven, wished to descend from heaven and living the world of human beings. Knowing his son's desire, the Emperor of Heaven surveyed the three highest mountains and found Mount Taebaek the most suitable place for his son to settle and help human beings. ... Leading the Earl of Wind, the Master of Rain, and the Master of Clouds, he \[Hwanung\] took charge of some three hundred and sixty areas of responsibility, including agriculture, allotted life spans, illness, punishment, and good and evil, and brought culture to his people. +> +>At that time **a bear and a tiger** living in the same cave prayed to Holy Hwanung to transform them into human beings. The king gave them **a bundle of sacred mugworts and twenty cloves of garlic** and said, '**If you eat these and shun the sunlight for one hundred days**, you will assume human form.' Both animals ate the spices and avoided the sun. After twenty-one days **the bear became a woman**, but the tiger, unable to observe the taboo, remained a tiger. Unable to find a husband, the bear-woman prayed under the alter tree for a child. Hwanung metamorphosed himself, **lay with her, and begot a son called Dangun** Wanggeom (the mythical king of Korea). +> +>In the fiftieth year of the reign of Emperor Yao (one of China's mythological founders), Dangun made **the walled city of Pyongyang** (not the modern day city) the capital and **called his country Joseon**. He then moved his capital to Asadal on Mount Paegak ... he later hid in Asadal as a mountain god at the age of one thousand nine hundred and eight. + +(Source: *Samguk Yusa or Memorabilia of the Three Kingdoms*, one of the two oldest chronicles of the Korean history, written in 1281) + +​ + +​ + +**3 surviving penal statutes**: + +[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eight\_Prohibitions](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eight_Prohibitions) + +Chinese sources say that Gojoseon had 8 penal statutes called ""Eight Prohibitions."" Only 3 of them are known now. + +* Those who commit murder shall be put to death immediately +* Those who cause injury must compensate with grain. +* Those who steal will be enslaved or pay recompense. + +which draws an interesting parallel to the earliest penal codes from other cultures (e.g. The Code of Hammurabi). + +(Source: Chinese source *The Book of Han*, written in 111) + +​ + +​ + +Song <**My dear, don't cross the river** (Gongmudohaga 公無渡河歌)> + +This is the only surviving poem from Gojoseon, passed down in a Chinese source <古今注> (written in 300 A.D.) + +​ + +>Dear, my dear, please don't cross that river +> +>Oh, my dear is now crossing the river +> +>Ah, he's drowned, he's gone +> +>What am I to do, what am I to do + +​ + +The Chinese source also tells a heartbreaking background story: + +>One day a bargeman in Gojoseon was slowly rowing in the river. Then **a madman with grey hair walked into the river** with a bottle of liquor in his hand. His wife was chasing after him to stop him. He ignored her and kept going until **he was swept away, and drowned**. In despair, the wife took out her Gong-hu (a string instrument) and started singing. **The song was unspeakably sad**. Then **she followed her husband into the river and drowned**. The bargeman came back home and told his wife about this story and the song. She cried and sang the song with her Gong-hu, and everyone who heard the song shed tears. + +​ + +(Edit: there's a famous modern interpretation of this song by musician Lee Sang-eun [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1\_zYhn6bzR0](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1_zYhn6bzR0)) + +​ + +​ + +**Bronze daggers and dolmens** + +[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liaoning\_bronze\_dagger\_culture](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liaoning_bronze_dagger_culture) + +[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gojoseon#Dolmen\_Tombs](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gojoseon#Dolmen_Tombs) + +The historical records of Gojoseon are supported by archaeological sites found in modern-day Manchuria and North Korea. The culture is characterized by large dolmen tombs and mandolin-shaped bronze daggers, among others. + +* Traditional Korean folk culture has a strong shamanic element, and many people link this trait to **shamanism in Northern Asia and Siberia**. In some Korean regions shamans were called *Danggol*, similar to *Dangun* (the name of the god-king in the foundation myth). This is often interpreted as a cognate of *Tengri* (deity, god) in many Mongolic and Turkic cultures. + +​ + +​ + +**The Fall of Gojoseon** + +[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wiman\_Joseon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wiman_Joseon) + +Around 200 BC, Wiman, a general from the Kingdom of Yan of northeastern China, took refuge in Gojoseon in the chaos of the collapse of Qin Dynasty in China. Later, WIman revolted and took over the kingdom. + +About a hundred years later, China became reunified by Han Dynasty. In 109 BC, the Emperor Wu of Han invaded Wiman Joseon, destroyed it, and established the Four Commanderies of Han. + +This triggered many Gojoseon refugees to migrate to the southern part of the Korean peninsula - **new Koreanic-kingdoms** such as Buyeo, Goguryeo, and Baekje arose. + +* In particular, the foundation myths of Buyeo (Manchuria), Goguryeo (Manchuria and Northern Korea), and Baekje (Central Korea) are interrelated. + * The mythical founder of the **Buyeo** kingdom is Hae Mo-su (the son of heaven) + * Jumong, the mythical founder of **Goguryeo**, was the son of Hae Mo-su and a daughter of a river god. Jumong was an exceptional archer, but his half-brothers got jealous of him. With the help of fishes and turtles that created a bridge for him, he escaped Buyeo and established a new kingdom. + * [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goguryeo#Jumong\_and\_the\_foundation\_myth](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goguryeo#Jumong_and_the_foundation_myth) + * There's a k-drama called ***Jumong*** that first triggered a global interest in k-drama in the mid-2000s... + * Also, Kim Il-sung created similar myths for his cult of personality... + * When Jumong left Buyeo, he left his first son there. He had two other sons, Biryu and Onjo, with a new wife named Soseono in his new kingdom. He thought his first son was dead. But when his first son showed up, Jumong immediately made him the crown prince. After this, Jumong's wife Soseono left the kingdom, taking her two sons **southwards** for them to found their own kingdom. This is the origin story of **Baekje**. + * [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baekje#Founding](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baekje#Founding) + +There are several hypotheses about who lived in the southern part of the Korean peninsula before this wave. One of the newest and most radical hypotheses I've heard is that Japonic languages had previously been spoken in the southern part of the peninsula, and these were replaced by the advance of Koreanic-speakers from the North ([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peninsular\_Japonic](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peninsular_Japonic)). Although this is a rising hypothesis among linguists, most Koreans haven't yet heard about that (and many will have emotional reactions to it). + +* The consensus among linguists so far is that the Koreanic languages and Japonic languages did not originate from the same root. They instead came up with this replacement theory. + +​ + +​ + +Hope someone finds this interesting!",0 +3935,"Ancient City of Magdala Unearthed Near Tiberias, Israel. ",0 +3936,They fled persecution in Nazi Germany. Then the British put them behind barbed wire. ,0 +3937,"See lifelike facial reconstructions of a medieval Scottish woman, priest and bishop. ",0 +3938,Identity of mystery fossils found in Chinese cave revealed by DNA analysis. ,0 +3939,"Findings from 2,000-year-old Uluburun shipwreck reveal complex trade network. ",0 +3940,German Cold War Nuclear Fallout Bunker For Sale On eBay For EUR 1.6 Million. ,0 +3941,Drought-Induced Civil Conflict Among the Ancient Maya. ,0 +3942,"Known since Aristotle, no one understood the argonaut octopus—until a 19th-century seamstress turned naturalist took it upon herself to solve its mysteries. ",0 +3943,The empire the Aztecs couldn't conquer. ,0 +3944,Ancient lore reveals how warriors manipulated their enemy’s senses in battle. ,0 +3945,New documents reveal abolitionist's court case to free her child from slavery. ,0 +3946,What Did Medieval Peasants Know?. ,0 +3947,"In my opinion, the reason a lot of people aren't interested in history as well as other school subjects is because the schools dont present them in entertaining ways. KnowledgeHub's video on The Great Depression showed up on my recommended for seemingly no reason and I'm glad it did because now I feel smarter for watching it instead of having a thought process of ""Gee that was long and boring, now onto the next long and boring class"" + +The issue I have with school is not the material itself, but the way they present it. + +I graduated high school last year online in december and all I remember is thinking ""THANK GOD! NO MORE BORING LECTURES!"" as well as other thoughts about just hating school. I feel like i've retained almost none of what I was taught in school and that sucks because some things they try to teach you in history is actually pretty cool, but its presented in a way that punishes you for not retaining it while some teachers present it with the enthusiasm of somebody that just wants to die while pretending to be enthusiastic, which makes for a nasty combo of forgetting the material, and that defeats the purpose of school. + +Im sure some teachers really do love what they do, but the chances of getting a teacher like that as well as that teacher teaching their material in a way thats fun as well as informative are the same chances of getting a romantic partner or winning the lottery sometimes + +When good stories in media references history, then the history involved with that story will usually stick out in your mind more because the pressure of needing to remember this for a test is gone and theres no uninterested teacher trying to present it with a Google Slides Presentation + +Also, when good stories in media reference history, its usually relevant to the plot sometimes, which is why I said that history involved with good stories in media helps that part of history remain in your mind + +In conclusion, Modern Society might forget history and therefore repeat it because of the way school presents it, and thats unfortunate.",0 +3948,Zakhiku: The ancient city in Iraq revealed by severe drought. ,0 +3949,Tunnel discovered beneath Egyptian temple may lead to Cleopatra's tomb. ,0 +3950,"Who were the Huns, the nomadic horse warriors who invaded ancient Europe?. ",0 +3951,"A summary of Ilya Ivanov's ""humanzee experiments"". In the 1920s, a Soviet biologist named Ilya Ivanov tried to crossbreed humans with various other primate species. He was responsible for groundbreaking breakthroughs with artificial insemination. With Ivanov’s use of artificial insemination, he was able to use a stallion's sperm to fertilize up to 500 mares. Most stallions could only father 20–30 mares through natural mating. + +This made him popular among horse breeders, who came all across the globe to work with him. He had more ambitions then just horse breeding, and his interests revolved around hybridization between species. More specifically, Ivanov wanted to see if humans could reproduce with their closest known relatives. + +Ivanov decided the best route to take with his project was to inject several female chimpanzees and orangutans with human sperms. He started his experiments when they were green lighted by the Soviet Department of Scientific Institutions in 1926. None of his subjects succeeded in becoming pregnant. + +Undeterred, Ivanov then tried to experiment with human women and ape sperms. However, he wasn't able to put his plans into motion from both opposition from his superiors and the death of his last orangutan ""sperm donor."" Any further tests were prevented when Ivanov was hit by a purge and ended up exiled and imprisoned in what is now Kazakhstan. + +I heard some very sensationalist rumors that he was somehow trying to build ""super soldiers"" for the Soviet government (something that a History Channel ""documentary"" Monsterquest touched upon). However, evidence for this is nonexistent, and I've heard more plausible reports that Ivanov's intentions was to discredit religion. + +Ivanov’s “Humanzee” experiments are one of the little known but fascinating stories of the dark side of science. His works sound like something out of B-graded horror movie. I find it fascinating about how different the ethics of science was during the 1920s then today. On a side-note, I wonder how the world would have reacted if Ivanov’s experiments successfully made a hybrid offspring? + +Sources: + +1.[https://www.newscientist.com/article/mg19926701-000-blasts-from-the-past-the-soviet-ape-man-scandal/](https://www.newscientist.com/article/mg19926701-000-blasts-from-the-past-the-soviet-ape-man-scandal/) + +2.[https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/primate-diaries/stalins-ape-man-superwarriors/](https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/primate-diaries/stalins-ape-man-superwarriors/) + +3.[https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/the-russian-government-once-funded-a-scientists-quest-to-make-an-ape-human-hybrid-5043859/](https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/the-russian-government-once-funded-a-scientists-quest-to-make-an-ape-human-hybrid-5043859/)",0 +3952,"4,000-year-old copper weapons found under a field in India's Uttar Pradesh | Times of India. ",0 +3953,Droughts in the sixth century paved the way for Islam. ,0 +3954,"Coins study suggests ‘fake emperor’ was real, say scientists. ",0 +3955,"Why was double entry book keeping such an important historical development?. Hi, + +I’m really interested in Renaissance history - have read a number of books on the Medici and Renaissance Europe. Often one of the big catalysts cited for the Renaissance was the innovation of Double Entry bookkeeping which, correct me if I’m wrong, really supercharged the merchant cities of Italy and, in particular, Florence. In turn this lead to the families like the Medici amassing fortunes that they could pour into civic, scientific and cultural development. + +Im curious to know more about Double Entry Book keeping, what it replaced and why it was such a game changer. + +Feel free to correct my take on its role in the Renaissance as well!",0 +3956,How Napoleon's death in exile became a controversial mystery. ,0 +3957,"Sah Quah More than twenty years after the American Civil War, an enslaved Alaskan walked into a Sitka courtroom and sued for his freedom. ",0 +3958,"On April 2, 1941, a Japanese foreign minister asked Pope Pius XII to speak to U.S. President Franklin Roosevelt, so as to avert ""a war of mutual destruction”. ",0 +3959,"Gold from ancient Troy, Poliochni and Ur had the same origin. ",0 +3960,How to Survive Victorian London. ,0 +3961,The Statue of Liberty Was Originally Designed as an Egyptian Woman. ,0 +3962,"Myth: the burning of the library of Alexandria was ""the most destructive fire in the history of human culture"".. ",0 +3963,The Real Story of How America Became an Economic Superpower. ,0 +3964,"The Root of Haiti’s Misery: Reparations to Enslavers (NY Times investigative series). This past weekend the New York Times published a series of articles called *The Ransom*, where they claim to have new research showing the true scale of Haiti's enforced reparations to France, to the tune of hundreds of millions of dollars that would otherwise have resulted in tens of billions more available for infrastructure and schools. + +I, for one, was never taught why Haiti was so much poorer than its neighbors. I knew only that they had won their freedom through the slave revolt, and had no idea that France came back later with new warships to demand ransom as ""reparations"" to the former slave-holders, which lasted for generations. As the debts (actually a double-debt, as France offered them a usurious loan to ""help"" them pay their debt) finally neared a close, France then locked Haiti's national bank into a system where they could syphon money off of every transaction back to France, making it impossible to build the country. + +Then an American bank, which would later become Citigroup, muscled its way in, buying up a controlling share of the national bank, and continuing the process of syphoning money out of every Haitian transaction. A few years later, that bank was one of the main instigators of the United State's occupation of Haiti, where more wealth was extracted. + +This series was eye-opening for me, and well done (although it is one of those Times articles with funky scrolling to show you different images and documents as you scroll, which isn't for everyone but I thought it worked pretty well here. It doesn't always work well in the archive.org links, though). I'm interested to know how it compares to other expert views (or non-expert). + +* [The Root of Haiti’s Misery: Reparations to Enslavers](https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/20/world/americas/haiti-history-colonized-france.html), ([archive.org](https://web.archive.org/web/20220523174900/https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/20/world/americas/haiti-history-colonized-france.html) to remove paywall) +* [Haiti's Lost Billions (a timeline)](https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2022/05/20/world/americas/enslaved-haiti-debt-timeline.html), ([archive.org](https://web.archive.org/web/20220523170401/https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2022/05/20/world/americas/enslaved-haiti-debt-timeline.html)) +* [How a French Bank Captured Haiti](https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/20/world/french-banks-haiti-cic.html), ([archive.org](https://web.archive.org/web/20220523172633/https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/20/world/french-banks-haiti-cic.html)) +* [Invade Haiti, Wall Street Urged. U.S. Obliged](https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/20/world/haiti-wall-street-us-banks.html), ([archive.org](https://web.archive.org/web/20220523001848/https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/20/world/haiti-wall-street-us-banks.html)) +* [Six Takeaways from Haiti's Reparations to France](https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/20/world/americas/takeaways-haiti-reparations-france.html), ([archive.org](https://web.archive.org/web/20220522153252/https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/20/world/americas/takeaways-haiti-reparations-france.html)) +* [Sources and bibliography](https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/20/world/americas/haiti-bibliography.html), ([archive.org](https://web.archive.org/web/20220522153230/https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/20/world/americas/haiti-bibliography.html))",0 +3965,Persepolis Reimagined. ,0 +3966,African kings on medieval and Renaissance maps. ,0 +3967,"United Fruit Company in Guatemalan Civil War. Today I was doing a little research on the Mayan massacre (84-85). Did a little digging around and found out that the 1954 Guatemalan Civil War was allegedly perpetrated by the top board of United Fruit Company(a.k.a Chiquita Brand International as of today). Seemingly they were the once that stood to loose the most if the anti-communist government in Guatemala around that time had toppled, all the more the reason. But I couldn't find any references to them claiming responsibility or even apologizing. Furthermore Chiquita, now a billion dollar company celebrated their 30 years of operating in Guatemala last year, February. Is there is any such reference or a justification that I missed? + +A lot of people died and decades of war in an already poor state for corporate profits. I found this terribly disturbing and just want to know better.",0 +3968,"Amelia Earhart, in History’s Hands: Library of Congress blog post that tells Amelia Earhart's story through an analysis of the pilot's hands. ",0 +3969,The Untold Story of the Eradication of the Original Ku Klux Klan. ,0 +3970,Bra wearing pigeons save thousands in WWII. ,0 +3971,The US island that nearly ignited a war. ,0 +3972,"Historic Youtube Channels List (Updated December 2021). Historic Youtube Channels List by I_Saw_A_Bear (Updated December 2021) + +Since this is a frequently asked question on r/History I’ve decided to put together this list of Youtube channels focused on History. This list is likely to be outdated or incomplete due to the vastness of Youtube but hopefully it helps. Note; I put strong emphasis on channels with their sources listed and channels that post regularly and focus primarily on history. + +Legend: + +(A) = Academia. Run by, or invites academics in the field to come discuss topics. + +(/) = Sources Hinted or Mentioned but Not Listed. Channels that mention or hint at their sources but don’t actually make a proper list or provide relevant links. + +(S) = Provided Sources. Channels that cite or list their sources (or reference them directly in the video). These may also include link to google docs or amazon store pages were the sources are listed (because the channels need money somehow). + +(0) = No Sources Listed. Channels that don’t meet these may or are still valued as discussion platforms. Also some channels may have started without listing source but now currently do. + +**Animated Maps** This movement mainly started out for “battle map” channels, likely inspired from gaming since maps are just a good way to show information, though channels have begun venture beyond battles: + +*Epic History TV* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvPXiKxH-eH9xq-80vpgmKQ) – General, amazing battle maps and narration, really gets into the thick of their subjects, extremely high production value. + +*HistoryMarche* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/c/HistoryMarche) – General, focusing on pivotal battles or campaigns in military history. Their Hannibal series is amazing. + +*Historia Civilis* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCv_vLHiWVBh_FR9vbeuiY-A) - A Greek and Roman Campaign focused channel. + +*Baz Battles* (0) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCx-dJoP9hFCBloY9qodykvw) – General, battles of all periods from ancient to WWII. Well narrated and presented. + +*Kings and Generals* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMmaBzfCCwZ2KqaBJjkj0fw) - Focused on battle though has expanded into non-battle subject such as rises and falls, trade & societal developments. Animation are formulaic but get the point across. Uploads very frequently. + +*Invicta* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwO-UgquohXwoe7f0e6lMnw) - Discusses largely roman and medieval era, though has been expanding with their “daily life of” and unit in history series. Battles are a mainstay but not sole focus. + +*Know History* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/c/KnowHistory/videos) – Ancient Mediterranean, Discuses various topics and locations with some Total War Rome II footage for good measure. + +*SandRhoman History* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7pr_dQxm2Ns2KlzRSx5FZA) – Pre--modern, military history, campaigns & tactics. + + + +**Other Animators:** Animations but that don’t utilize maps as their primary visual (but might include them). + +*Military History Visualized* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/c/MilitaryHistory/featured) – Largely WWI & II, focuses on the engineering and logistics behind vehicles and operations. Sweet German Accent. + +*Simple History* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC510QYlOlKNyhy_zdQxnGYw) – General, Animated story telling, myth disproving and other various subjects. + +*The Armchair Historian* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeUJFQ0D9qs6aVNyUt9fkeQ) – 18th century onwards, mostly discussing military campaigns or battles. + +*Feature History* (0) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHdluULl5c7bilx1x1TGzJQ) - General, features lesser known historical events. Dry sarcasm from Australia welcome. + +*History with Cy* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/c/HistorywithCy/videos) – Focus on ancient near eastern civilizations ranging from the Persians to the Lydians to the Greeks. + +*History of China* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLY-NCXA2dQKyEVKDZ7quHw/videos) – Focused on China (obviously) across all eras of that region’s history and interaction with surrounding civilizations. + +*History Matters* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/c/TenMinuteHistory/featured) – General, focused mainly on discussing how countries or geographic regions came into being. [Formerly “Ten Minute History”] + +*History with Hilbert* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1Zc6_BhPXiCWZlrZP4EsEg/featured) – General, animated videos. + +*Quill and ink history* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCkBMq5Kspo38-RopmroyPQ/featured) – General, focusing on Sciences, religions and societies. + +*Extra credits* (0) (https://www.youtube.com/extracredits/featured) - General, short bite sized history segments. + +*Suibhne* (0) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQD-0MjUbDBwm2UTVYr0Dag) - General, short animated summaries of countries. Cartoony animations. + +*Jabzy* (0) (https://www.youtube.com/c/JabzyJoe/featured) – Various, Bite sized videos discussing a variety of historical topics. + + +**In Real Time** Started by The Great War channel, this is a weekly format, telling the story of an even as it happened on a time scale. The Great War was retold week by week over the course of 4.5 years, giving you the impression of just how bloody and long living through a war like that is. + +*The Great War* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/user/TheGreatWar) - WWI week by week with Indie Neidell looking at each front of the war with as little bias as possible [Completed, but now ongoing with Jessie Alexander following interwar period] + +*Real Time History* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/c/realtimehistory) – Same team behind the ongoing Great War channel, Real time history follows the same week by week format but covers smallers conflicts, their first major (and well worth) series focuses on the Franco-Prussian War. + +*World War Two* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCP1AejCL4DA7jYkZAELRhHQ) ** - WWII week by week with Indie Neidell All fronts, all sides. Of special note is their War Against humanity Series covering the litany of warcrimes and crimes against humanity. It’s dark but necessary. + +*The Cold War* (/) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCGvq-qmjFmmMD4e-PLQqGg) - Follows the week by week formula but not quite chronologically. Never the less it deal with the geopolitical aspects of the cold war from planned invasions to actual invasion and the homefronts and everything in between (even the COD war) + +*Civil War Week By Week* (0) (https://www.youtube.com/c/CivilWarWeekByWeek/featured) – Follows the US Civil War week by week as it happened. Now the first episodes are rough and have gotten better over time and no sources are provided but we have to give this guy a break, it’s a full 1 man army writing, recording and editing all this together, certainly deserves some commendations. + + +**Cooking** focuses on food, something that really should tie us all together. WARNING: will make you hungry. + +*Townsends* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/user/jastownsendandson) - 18th century New World Recipes and related subjects like supplies and home building. Addicted to Nutmeg. + +*Tasting History* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsaGKqPZnGp_7N80hcHySGQ) - General, any time period that has recipes really. Awesome funny and educational. Side gig as a Pokemon trainer. + +**Modern Practitioners** Things such as HEMA instructors or academies, reenactors or curator. Who try to breathe life into the history by practicing it. + +*English Heritage* (S) - (https://www.youtube.com/c/EnglishHeritage/featured) – General English history, a charity that cares for over 400 historic buildings, monuments and sites - from prehistoric sites to grand medieval castles, from Roman forts on the edges of the empire to a Cold War bunker. + +*C&Arsenal* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClq1dvO44aNovUUy0SiSDOQ) - Attempting to cover every WWI military issued firearm in great detail. 50 minutes of history and development, 5 minutes of shooting. It more about why THIS gun was made or how X country’s situation forced them into using THAT gun. + +*Scholagladiatoria* (S-/) (https://www.youtube.com/c/scholagladiatoria/featured) - General, weapons and armor. + +*Knight Errant* (S-/) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1T4KJG1L_kTrP9RcdU5Csw) - Medieval, weapons and armor. + +*The Metatron* (S-/) (https://www.https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIjGKyrdT4Gja0VLO40RlOw) - Samurai, Medieval & Roman practitioner. Very knowledgeable, highly critical of media depiction. + +*Brandon F* (/) (https://www.youtube.com/c/BrandonF/featured) – British redcoat practitioner, he discusses movies (and heavily criticizes them) about their portrayal of battle and dress during this time period. + +*capandball* (/) (https://www.youtube.com/c/capandball/videos) – Black powder era weaponry. + +*Shadiversity* (/) (https://www.youtube.com/user/shadmbrooks/featured) – Practicing medieval archer, adventurer, back scabbard master. Shad often cites medieval works (though does not list them) in his discussion on films/tv/general fantasy tropes, but also delves into castle design and other topics. + + +**Others:** these vary in style, couldn’t really fit them into their own categories so I’m just putting them here. + +*The British Museum* (S-A) (https://www.youtube.com/user/britishmuseum) – General. It’s the British Museum. They get archeologists and experts to discuss the artifacts they have. And they have lots of stuff. + +*Jackson Crawford* (S-A) (https://www.youtube.com/c/JacksonCrawford/videos) – The Cowboy Viking himself, Crawford is a Ph.D focused on Norse language and myth. Often consulting for media works in this time period. + +*Atun-Shei Films* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/c/AtunSheiFilms/featured) – Various but mostly fixed on civil war era topics, attempting to debunk myths with a large list of sources and a little reenactment thrown into the mix. + +*Biographics* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClnDI2sdehVm1zm_LmUHsjQ) – General, takes a look at historic figures and how they affected their kingdom/country during their life and what effect they had on the world. + +*Useful Charts* (/) (https://www.youtube.com/c/UsefulCharts/featured) – Useful charts is best known for the detailed historic and scientific (and aethesthetic) charts. But his Youtube channel actually digs deeper into family lineages, and historic sourcing and comparing cultural text to real archeological finds. + +*Military Aviation History* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/user/Bis18marck70) - 1903 onwards, cause that’s when planes happened. Discusses Tactics, Doctrine and Firepower of military aircraft. + +*Dan Davis Author* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUVwT8zcS5Z_rYXnpomlbfg) – Pre-historic to Ancient, Focuses on a variety of topics in this time period especially concerning early societal development and warfare. + +*History Time* (/) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCN9v4QG3AQEP3zuRvVs2dAg) - General, long form documentaries with accompanying (though sometimes off because they have to use free footage) visuals. Great story telling though. + +*Study of the Antiquities and Middle Ages* (A) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxRSpkGOH_09pxKvgD8S5jQ) – Split between summaries of societies/kingdoms & bringing in researchers and academics to foster discussion. WARNING: you will disagree with some of the guests brought on (some of the guests disagree with each other but such is the way of hypothesis and ongoing research) ***AT THE TIME OF THIS POSTING THE HOST OF S.A.M.A. IS CURRENTLY IN HOSPITAL AND NEEDS ADDITIONAL FUNDING FOR THIER MEDICAL COSTS, DONATE IF YOU HAVE SOME TO SPARE*** + +*Nativelang* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/user/NativLang/videos) – General, Goes in depth about how languages (often no longer in use) came to be and how they were structured. Not strictly historical but closely related. + +*Liveth for Evermore* (/) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOQ-WpDxp4P1pOJ4Kbc1i2w) - Modern combat history, talk about actions relating counter terrorism, or WWII actions that often resulted in commendation or awards for the participants. + +*Lindybeige* (/) (https://www.youtube.com/c/lindybeige/featured) – General, knowledge and interesting monologues. Bit rambly, quite British. + +*Crash Course* (S) (https://www.youtube.com/user/crashcourse/featured) – General. CC actually focuses and many education topics but history is a large subsection. Very family friendly, as much as history can be, short and concise. + +*History Buffs* (/) (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCggHoXaj8BQHIiPmOxezeWA) - Focus on historical accuracy of movies and pop culture. (Has drawn some criticism for some reviews inaccuracies)",0 +3973,Tooth of Congolese president Patrice Lumumba returned to family. ,0 +3974,"Which “The Great” was the greatest?. Throughout history, many people have been given the moniker “The Great” in some form or another. General Sulla named Pompey, “Pompey Magnus”, Pompey the great. There are many others: Alexander the Great; Peter the Great; Alfred the Great; Charles the Great (Charlemagne); Cnut the Great; Darius the Great; Llywelyn the Great; Ramesses the Great. + +And I’m sure there are many more. My historical knowledge is very Europe centric and relatively limited. And I don’t know the answer, but I thought the question would provide some interesting conversations and debates you can have in the comments that I’d very much enjoy listening to. So this is the question I put forwards to you. + +Which “The Great” was the greatest?",0 +3975,"About the recent events in Ukraine. Hi everyone, + +We are seeing a lot of posts in our moderation queue about the recent events unfolding in Ukraine. Which is understandable, however these still break our rules about modern politics and modern events. +As this subreddit is not for discussion of current events and as there are other better suitable places on Reddit for that sort of discussion, we hope you do understand. + +Of course, it is still allowed to submit posts about the history of Ukraine, Russia, The Soviet Union, etc. as well as the relations between them in these periods. + +/r/AskHistorians also recognized that many people want to better understand the historical context of these events. They posted a [megathread about the recent events](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskHistorians/comments/t0gj2p/megathread_on_recent_events_in_ukraine/) which already contains a lot of great answers and insights from experts. + + +So to be clear: + +- Our [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index#wiki_rules) about modern day politics and current day events are still in place (Rule 2 and 5). +- Posts that seek to understand the historic context of these events are still allowed (given they follow other rules as well).",0 +3976,Lidar technology unearthed tropical megapolis beneath forest canopy of the Calakmul Biosphere | Ancient Maya. ,0 +3977,"1774 Smallpox vaccine hospital burned down in Massachusetts town, drunken riots follow, militias called out as towns face off over arson. Source: + +Castle Pox: The Battle over Public Health in Marblehead, Massachusetts, 1773-74 + +Eva Blake Undergraduate Senior Thesis Department of History Columbia University 17 April 2020 + +Seminar Advisor: Elisheva Carlebach +Second Reader: Hannah Farber + +A British led private hospital ran an inoculation treatment program for smallpox on Catta Island (now Children's Island), a part of Marblehead, Massachusetts. The Marblehead public was divided, poor vs gentry in social and financial strata. The poor Marblehead fishermen believed it was a plot by the British to kill off the population. This story unravels roughly 1 month after the Boston Tea party, anger was high over anything British. The gentry of Marblehead was in favor of the inoculation hospital, so this further cemented pre-existing issues. + +Two Marblehead men went to Catta island (Children's island) and burned down the smallpox inoculation hospital. They came back to the mainland in Marblehead and bragged about doing it. The men were arrested and quartered in Salem for arson and attempted murder. A drunken mob of Marbleheaders, whipped up by the revolution, anti-British politics, and fear of smallpox, descended on Salem and broke the men out of jail. Salem roused the Salem militia and marched on Marblehead. Marblehead roused their militia and marched on Salem. They met on the town borders near Lafayette st and Forest River. Fortunately, cooler heads prevailed and they were able to resolve the situation without bloodshed. The two arsonists were returned to the Salem Sheriff. + +Wow! What a story!",0 +3978,"Why are Later Rome, Byzantium, and Persia Almost Never Depicted in Western Media?. Whenever I see media based on or inspired by the Roman Empire, it's always always either set in the late Republic or early to mid Principate. Gladiator, HBO's Rome, Barbarians, etc, regardless of their varying degrees of historical authenticity all seem to have this in common. The popular conception of Rome thanks to this kind of seems to just stop at Commodus with the Severans, 3rd Century Crisis, Tetrarchy, Christian Rome, and all of Byzantium being skipped over; and don't even get me started on Persia. Their depictions in (at least western) media tend to begin with the Achaemenid Empire (if we even see it at all from a non-Greek perspective), and then just kind of stop after Alexander the Great, with no mention of the Parthians or Sassanids at all. Even when Persia does show up in western media, it is almost always either shown from the Greek perspective and demonized to the point of parody (i.e. 300) or heavily Arabized. Why is it so rare to see the main powers of late antiquity (other than China) depicted in (particularly western) media?",0 +3979,Joseph Beyrle: Dual Soldier the only man to fight for the US and Red Army in WWII and get accommodations from both countries.. ,0 +3980,"75 years ago, Hitler invaded Poland. Here's how it happened.. ",0 +3981,Researchers unveil secrets of the largest stash of Roman coins ever found in Spain. ,0 +3982,"Did high ranking officers storm the beach / drop into Normandy on D-Day?. I was watching Band of Brothers, in particular the attack on Brècourt and I've always wondered how high ranking officers such as Majors / Colonels / X Generals got past the beaches on D-Day. I noticed that Lieutenant Winter's had been issued commands from a Lieutenant Colonel (I think) at the rallying point and I wondered how such a high ranking officer got to his geographical position without having to face some action? + +My understanding is that you generally wouldn't see action if you were a Battalion XO or above, I'm curious how that dynamic worked on D-Day since they were storming the front? + +I believe there was a story of a general (Norman Cota) who stormed the beaches, but I always thought that was just a once off to help moralize the troops. It would be interesting to know how your every day high ranking officer experienced D-Day.",0 +3983,"Why did so few Roman emperors have biological children?. At least of the early period. It seems like very few emperors had any luck siring biological children, even though they very much did try. Pregnancies seem to have been few and far between, even though many emperors were married to multiple women in succession, with a great number of stillbirths and miscarriages. + +One professor of mine believed that it was because of the large amount of lead that the wealthy Roman unwittingly had in their diet, particularly from the consumption of wine, as wine was sweetened with grapes boiled in a lead pot. The toxic element contributed to a plethora of health problems, infertility being only one of many. + +I am very curious, what do others think of this subject?",0 +3984,Shipwreck The Gloucester hailed most important since Mary Rose. ,0 +3985,"Irulegui Hand: Researchers claim to have found earliest document written in Basque 2,100 years ago. ",0 +3986,The Real History Behind the Agojie Warriors of Dahomey. ,0 +3987,The ancient Islamic roots of modernity - history of the influence of Islamic design and culture. ,0 +3988,"Thomas Jefferson's work on fossils, thoughts on extinction, and the search for massive creatures in the unexplored American West.. ",0 +3989,"3,000-year-old canoe found in Wisconsin's Lake Mendota is the oldest ever found in Great Lakes region. ",0 +3990,"How come China, a patriarchal society, had recorded more remarkable women than the Roman Empire?. Chinese history has a myriad of women warriors and capable advisers from Shang to Qing that weren't exactly painted in a bad light (maybe except Wu Zetian as she was the single empress regnant and many didn't like it). I know China was under different rulers before like the Tanguts, Mongol, and Khitans who were more tolerating of women, but still. There were even records of emperors confiding in the advice of their empresses. The Yang family of Song also had female generals and these are Han Chinese. Empress Xiao Yanyan of Liao personally led a charge with her army at age 50. Most of their historians were like: ""Odd, but oh yeah that did happen."" + +How come the Romans did not have many records of capable women except when painting them as schemers wanting to get their sons as emperors? (Zenobia and Cleopatra for example.) No substantial records of women warriors, too. Theodora and Irene of Athens came close to being powerful, but we all know that historians in their times are very, very critical to Irene for wanting to be more than an Empress for the same reason why Charlemagne and HRE formed. They write very nastily about women. + +I think at this point I'm writing about the level of how objective the historians of each societies were.",0 +3991,A special brew may have calmed Inca children headed for sacrifice. ,0 +3992,"South Korea adopted color TV 6 years later (1980) than North Korea, only after the dictator Park Chung-hee's death. Park was concerned that the sense of wealth gap would be widened by color TV. However, some say that color TV just did not suit Park's stoic and militaristic aesthetic taste.. South Korea adopted color TV 6 years later (1980) than North Korea + +* [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Color\_television#Asia\_and\_the\_Pacific](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Color_television#Asia_and_the_Pacific) + +It is well-known in Korea that the former dictator Park Chung-hee banned color television broadcast. It was only in 1980, after Park's assassination, when color television broadcast was permitted in South Korea. + +Most English articles I found say that Park was concerned about the social incongruity between the rich (who will own the color TVs) and poor would exacerbate. + +[https://www.kurdo.org/2021/11/23/%EC%A0%84%EB%91%90%ED%99%98-%EC%82%AC%EB%A7%9D-opening-the-era-of-color-tv-with-dingjeon-news-paradox-of-the-growth-of-the-electronics-industry/](https://www.kurdo.org/2021/11/23/%EC%A0%84%EB%91%90%ED%99%98-%EC%82%AC%EB%A7%9D-opening-the-era-of-color-tv-with-dingjeon-news-paradox-of-the-growth-of-the-electronics-industry/) + +[https://www.kurdo.org/2022/02/16/%EA%B3%BC%ED%95%99%EA%B8%B0%EC%88%A0%EC%9D%B4-%EB%AF%B8%EB%9E%98%EB%8B%A4-korea-electronics-industry-godfather-dr-kim-wan-hee/](https://www.kurdo.org/2022/02/16/%EA%B3%BC%ED%95%99%EA%B8%B0%EC%88%A0%EC%9D%B4-%EB%AF%B8%EB%9E%98%EB%8B%A4-korea-electronics-industry-godfather-dr-kim-wan-hee/) + +​ + +However, some Koreans say that color TV just did not suit the aesthetic sense of Park - his stoic, militaristic taste (he's a guy who grew up with Japanese imperialist militaristic value). He preferred the aesthetics of black-and-white. + +​ + +This reminds me of Apple's 1984 commercial where things are black-and-white under dictatorship, while freedom is symbolized by color + +* [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VtvjbmoDx-I](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VtvjbmoDx-I) + +​ + +Are there any other powerful men or dictators who had similar tastes?",0 +3993,The final days of Anne Boleyn: why did she die?. ,0 +3994,"The Nazca lines depict people, birds, and even the rare ""pampas cat."" Get a birds-eye view of these geoglyphs.. ",0 +3995,"The rise of Confucianism, large-scale peasant revolts, and the silk road: The Han Dynasty. **Introduction:** The Han dynasty is most certainly a golden age of Chinese history. Consisting of almost 30% (modern estimate) of the world population at that time, the Han dynasty established the silk road, discovered paper, and was the dynasty in which Confucianism became popular. Out of all the Chinese dynasties, Chinese people call themselves the Han peoples (汉族人), with the Han dynasty being a dynasty which we hold with highest regard. + +Part 1: Liu Bang’s (刘邦) rise to power from a peasant to the Emperor of China + +Part 2: The rise of Confucianism, and changes in governing + +Part 3: The economy of the Han dynasty + +Part 4: Han golden age/The silk road + +Part 5: The downfall of the Western Han dynasty, and the rise of the Xin dynasty + +Part 6: The Eastern Han dynasty: Young Emperors, power struggles, and yellow turban rebellions + +This article touches upon/references some of the topics talked about in my past two posts about the Zhou and Qin dynasty:[ Zhou dynasty post](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/veyzyb/chinese_feudalism_the_zhou_dynasty),[ Qin dynasty post](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/vjhwc9/the_rise_and_fall_of_chinas_first_empire_the_qin) + +Oh and feel free to zoom in to whichever part you are most interested in, as this post is certainly not the shortest post out there… + +# Part 1: Liu Bang’s (刘邦) rise to power from a peasant to the Emperor of China + +**Introduction:** In 221 BCE, when the Qin dynasty unified China, the world breathed a huge sigh of relief. War was finally over, and with the unification of China, peace and prosperity would finally come… Unfortunately, Qin Shi Huang (秦始皇), the first emperor of China died after only 11 years of rule (some sources say he died of unknowingly self-inflicted mercury poisoning, other sources say he was assassinated). With the death of Qin Shi Huang, the centralized government that kept the empire together, shattered. Nobles forged letters that they claimed had been written by the emperor before his death, telling the heir of the throne to commit suicide, puppet emperors were installed and replaced many times by other puppet emperors; TLDR, China was a total mess, again… + +**Rise of the rebels:** The nobles were fighting to fill the power vacuum that Qin Shi Huang’s death left, and so nobody was paying attention when two peasants Chen Sheng (陈胜) and Wu Guang (吴广) rose up in the province of Henan (河南), starting the Dazexiang (大泽乡) rebellion. The Qin dynasty rule was based on harsh punishments and fear by the peasant population, but the enforcement needed the might of an army, but the Qin government lacked an army led by a powerful leader. The ensuing chaos caused multiple other rebellions to spring up all around the country. One of those rebelling peasants was Liu Bang (刘邦), a peasant who had simply gone with the flow of events and decided to join the revolt. Joining an army of peasants, Liu Bang quickly rose up the ranks, even allegedly becoming friends and ""brothers""\* with Xiang Yu (项羽), a powerful noble from the state of Chu who was a prominent candidate to become the next emperor of China. As time passed, the imperial court finally started calming down, and a eunuch named Zhao Gao (赵高) successfully took control (according to some sources, he was the one who had Qin Shi Huang assassinated). He ""inherited"" an empire in flames (congrats…). As the Qin government's internal issues were finally “solved” (not really), they sent army after army trying to quash the rebellion. + +**War against the Qin:** The rebel forces under king Huai of Chu (楚怀王), realizing that they wouldn’t last fighting against the Qin dynasty armies, decided that the rebellion had to strike at the heart of the empire and take the capital of the Qin dynasty, Xianyang (咸阳). To incentivize his people, king Huai informed his followers, that whoever took the capital first would become the king of the region of Guanzhong (关中). This caused a rivalry between Liu Bang and Xiang Yu. Because Xiang Yu was bogged down by the army of Qin (which was significantly larger than his, but he still won, defying all odds), Liu Bang reached and took the capital first (at that point, one of Zhao Gao’s puppet emperors killed Zhao Gao and surrendered to Liu Bang). Xiang Yu was furious; he buried all the 200,000\*\* soldiers of the Qin dynasty that had surrendered to him alive and marched towards Xianyang. Xiang Yu had 400,000 troops while Liu Bang only had 100,000 troops, Liu Bang was going to be decimated, unless… When Xiang Yu entered the city of Xianyang, Liu Bang allegedly groveled before him and convinced Xiang Yu that he was loyal and not a threat, narrowly avoiding death in the “Feast at Swan Goose Gate (鸿门宴)”. + +**The fall of Xiang Yu’s empire:** Having gained power after multiple victories vs the Qin, Xiang Yu became more and more powerful, slowly making King Huai (the figurehead of the rebellion) his puppet, essentially becoming emperor in everything but name. After successfully defeating the Qin government, the empire was divided into eighteen parts. One of the less attractive regions (nowadays Sichuan, 四川) was given to Liu Bang who slowly regained his strength. One of the reasons why the empire that Xiang Yu created failed, was that many of the dukes controlling the different regions were unhappy with the amount of territory they were given, as Xiang Yu was unwilling to give much power to them. This led to the same type of situation as during the Qin dynasty: The nobility wanting more power from the centralized government, fighting and plotting to destroy the regime and become king themselves. Finally, the death of King Huai in 206 BCE, whether assassinated by Xiang Yu or not, caused the feudal lords who accused Xiang Yu of murder to rebel. This group of rebelling states led by Liu Bang defeated Xiang Yu, using sheer numbers and good generals (though it took many tries, as Liu Bang lost fight after fight against Xiang Yu), finally installing Liu Bang as emperor, who astutely was more willing to share his power in order to reign over China, changing Chinese history forever. Fun fact: Chinese Chess (象棋), a game played by millions in China, depicts one part of this war, where Xiang Yu and Liu Bang make peace, deciding to split the empire in half. Of course, Liu Bang broke the peace immediately and attacked Xiang Yu while he wasn’t ready, leading to his eventual defeat (though Xiang Yu made many heroic stands). + +**The first large-scale peasant revolts and why they happened:** Before the Qin dynasty, unlike the later widespread dissent from the nobility and the peasants, there were few large-scale peasant uprisings in China, with changes in dynasties rather being caused by feuds between different tribes and their nobility. Once we reach the Qin dynasty though, large-scale peasant rebellions occurred, becoming a frequent issue in the collapse of most future Chinese dynasties. From my point of view (tell me if I’m wrong), two of the main reasons why there were so many peasant revolts in the Qin dynasty (and afterwards) are urbanization (high population concentration), and economic instability for the peasantry, caused by high taxation on top of land issues (talked about more in part 3). Though China only started seriously urbanizing in the 21st century, there is a noticeable difference in the levels of urbanization between the start and the end of the Zhou dynasty. This is because of the advancements in trade, causing the start of the early silk road, and improving inland trade using the rivers of China around 600 BCE. Furthermore, these advances in trade and the growth of the population caused increasing urbanization (as people didn’t have to be on farmland, secluded, instead making a living off creating other products and selling them). Due to urbanization, people were more likely to rebel as they could share dissent with so many of their comrades and watched others suffer and die. Indeed, as communication became easier, not only were large-scale revolts easier to be sparked, but they also gained traction faster, which could sometimes make the difference between a small revolt that was crushed in its tracks, and a revolt that destroyed a nation. + +# Part 2: The rise of Confucianism, and changes in governance + +**Introduction:** After defeating Xiang Yu at the battle of Gaixia (垓下), forming the Han dynasty, Liu Bang and his descendants would try to stabilize the empire, dealing with the threats inside. + +**The resurgence of feudalism:** With the establishment of the Han dynasty, Liu Bang had to fulfill all the promises he made to his loyal generals and advisors. He also had to manage power dynamics of the different nobles, to keep them from revolting and causing Liu Bang to suffer the same fate as Xiang Yu. As he had promised, Liu Bang reestablished the feudal system of the Zhou Dynasty, giving the land to his loyal followers (one common misconception from my understanding, is that Liu Bang feoffed the land to the Liu family members, whom he could trust. In fact, these supposed “relatives” only gained the Liu title after taking control of a state as to have the legitimacy to govern a state). Liu Bang kept around 50% of the Chinese lands that he had not given out, and instead implemented the Qin dynasty's system: The “Prefectures and Counties system (郡县制)”. Essentially this system divided the empire into certain provinces, and those provinces would be governed by governors sent out by the imperial court (the higher positions were chosen by the emperor, the lower ones were chosen by other officials). Unfortunately, the feudal system of the Zhou dynasty had many issues, as the level of autonomy of the feudal states was very high, each one even having its own laws and army, leading to many issues later on in the empire. + +**Tug of war between the feudal lords and the emperors:** For the next few centuries of Han rule, because of the power of the nobility and the decentralization of the government, Han rulers tried to take back more power while the nobility tried to gain more autonomy. This led to many wars and feuds between the nobility and the emperors. One famous example of such a revolt was in 154 BCE, where Emperor Jing (汉景帝) divided the provinces into smaller chunks as to minimize the power of the nobility. This led to 7 out of the 12 feudal lords rebelling against the emperor, fighting ferociously yet still losing in only 3 months in the “Rebellion of the Seven States (七国之乱)”, causing China to stay united. This event slowly lead to the “victory” by the emperors of the Han dynasty over the nobility and the gradual decline of a feudal system in favor of the “Prefectures and Counties (郡县制)” system of the Qin dynasty, with all provinces being converted to the latter system by 100 BCE. With “total” power and a centralized government, emperors like Han Wudi (汉武帝) and Han Xuandi (汉宣帝) finally brought a golden age in Chinese history, establishing the silk road and expanding the empire (I will talk about the silk road in detail in part 4) . + +**Stabilizing the Empire/The rise of Confucianism:** While Confucianism (儒家) emerged in the Spring and Autumn period (春秋时期), Confucianism only rose to prominence in the Han dynasty (before that Confucius was popular with the populace but not with the nobility). In fact, during the lifetime of Confucius, he had little to no success in government circles, becoming a fugitive over and over, having to escape many civil wars. In an environment where warfare ability was of paramount importance, the ideas of Confucius had very little noticeable effect and struggled to find traction. So the question is what changed during the Han dynasty that made Confucianism popular and even the ""state religion"" of the Han dynasty? Emperor Liu Bang’s humble origins made him lack a certain authority. According to the Harvard Journal of Asiatic Studies: “The prevailing conception of the ruler of “all-under-Heaven"" at the time was that he must be a man of noble origin, or a man ordained by Heaven, or a man of great wisdom and virtue. Liu Bang was not of noble birth, nor was he, to quote his own words, ""a man of wisdom and virtue.” ” Therefore, to solve the issue of legitimacy, Liu Bang went to great lengths to make the populace believe that he was indeed “ordained by heaven”, and that is when he and his descendants turned to Confucianism. It is important to note though, that the version of “Confucianism” that came about in the Han dynasty was slightly different than the ideals that Confucius had a few centuries earlier, as Confucianism had slightly changed over time with different advocates adding ideas from Taoism, legalism, and the five elements (a philosophical system of the “Warring States 战国时期” period). + +# Part 3: The economy of the Han dynasty + +This topic is way too complex and nuanced to summarize, as it is not static in the 400 years of Han rule and changed over time, so these are from my understanding some basic points: + +1. Population growth in the Han dynasty: The rapid rise of the population (the population reached over 60 million in the Han dynasty) because of the development of agricultural technology was a two-sided blade, as it caused many administrative issues and made the country harder to govern. Many people also starved as the food production was not catching up with the country's needs. In the Zhou dynasty, land was a lot easier to come by, as the Zhou dynasty was expanding rapidly into neighboring tribes faster than the population could grow. The situation was kind of the same as in America, where you could go to an empty patch of land and simply claim it, with no one caring. Once we reach the Han dynasty though, this changes, with the demand for land becoming higher, while the supply stayed relatively the same. +2. Land control in the Han dynasty: As I mentioned in my previous post about the Qin dynasty, during the Warring States period, due to the reforms of Shang Yang, land could be bought and sold freely. This resulted in generations of wealthy landowners growing their land base over hundreds of years, acquiring lands from small landowners that had fallen into debt. According to Chan Cuo, an official of the Han dynasty, the average landowning family of 5 people was at high risk of falling into debt in the circumstance of natural disasters or due to high taxation. Many emperors like emperor Ai (汉哀帝) attempted to limit the amount of land the nobility could amass, but failed as emperors (especially in the Eastern Han dynasty) relied heavily on the wealthy aristocracy to secure their position as emperor. The issue with this concentration of land under a few landowning families was that it caused even more power to accumulate in the hands of a few individuals, and it caused peasants to be even poorer. +3. Tax Reforms: To try and stop the main tax base of the peasant landowners from falling into debt and handing over their land to the nobility, and to simply help the peasant population survive, the Han dynasty continuously lowered taxes in times of instability (i.e. natural disasters). Sometimes, the land/agricultural tax was even suspended. Therefore, during periods of increased capital needs (e.g. in the case of a war), the Han dynasty would have to raise taxes on the merchants and the nobility (e.g. increasing property and poll tax, or nationalizing a certain industry). During the reign of Han Wudi, when he needed to fill the national treasury to wage his wars, he sold titles, which became a trend especially in the Eastern Han dynasty, making the government increasingly corrupt and out of talent. + +# Part 4: Han golden age/The silk road + +**Introduction:** As the Han dynasty gradually centralized its power, the emperors could finally dare to start making radical changes with a more manageable risk of being overthrown. Han Wudi (汉武帝) was the first of these “powerful” emperors. He would go on to make Confucianism the state religion, and create the backbone for the imperial service exam (科举). + +**The Han dual religious system:** Though most associate the Han dynasty with Confucianism, and though Han Wudi would make Confucianism the state religion, he would create more of a hybrid legalist-Confucian doctrine. This is shown by his legalist policies and advisors (the whole idea of a centralized government is legalist). Han Wudi even created schools funded by the government to teach the Confucian precepts. This system of a mix of legalist and Confucian ideals would lead to the China we know today and the cultural ideas of the Chinese people (also influencing other Asian nations). + +**Taking the south:** While the southern tribes of Minyue (闽越) and Nanyue (南越) fought each other, Han Wudi decided to invade, retaking land lost in the collapse of the Qin dynasty and gaining a lot of nowadays Chinese land. In order to assimilate the southern tribes and keep them from rebelling, Han Wudi used deportation, lowering the concentration of non-Chinese peoples in the south. This and many climate-related issues kept the south of China relatively undeveloped until later dynasties in which the northern nomads invaded, making the Chinese peoples migrate to the south. This flourishing of the south in the Song dynasty led to the peak of the maritime silk road and the prospering of trade in general. + +**Zhang Qian (张骞), and the silk road**: A constant thorn in the side of all Chinese dynasties, the northern nomads of the steppes (at this time the Xiongnu (匈奴)) continually raided and demanded tribute from the Han dynasty). As the Han dynasty became stronger, Han Wudi decided to stop the policy of tribute and placation, attacking the nomads in war after war (over a few hundred years, the Han dynasty would finally defeat them, forcing them to migrate to Eastern Europe, becoming the Huns). To do so, Han Wudi needed allies in the west. As a diplomat for the Han dynasty, Zhang Qian was tasked with initiating diplomatic talks between the Han dynasty and the people in Central Asia, helping to build trade routes and forming an alliance with the Yuezhi peoples (who were displaced by the Xiongnu hundreds of years ago), to fight the Xiongnu empire. On his trek to central Asia, Zhang Qian was captured by the Xiongnu, staying in their lands as a prisoner for ten years. Even so, Zhang Qian still remembered his task and escaped when his Xiongnu captors put down their guard. After a long journey, Zhang Qian finally made his way to the sophisticated nations of central Asia. Though he didn’t succeed in creating an alliance with the Yuezhi, he saw the Hellenised city-states of Bactria and Ferghana, and he finally came back to China after 13 years (being captured AGAIN by the Xiongnu on the way back) with valuable information about the Xiongnu and the nations in Central Asia. + +**War for the heavenly horses:** After defeating the Xiongnu in a war, Han Wudi would decide to send his armies west, through the Taklamakan desert to attack Ferghana for her heavenly horses. This war is the infamous Greco-Chinese war. More than half the army died from thirst, but after two tries and more than 100,000 Chinese deaths, Han Wudi successfully defeated Ferghana, taking their horses and in the process also taking control of the group of tribes inside of the Tarim basin. Stability from outposts in the Tarim basin would further lead to the creation of the silk road (and you guessed it, the trade of more horses!). + +**Issues with war:** In order to gain funds for the war, Han Wudi didn’t want to increase the taxation on the peasantry. Therefore, he had to monopolize the highly profitable iron, minting of coins, and salt industries. Finally, his government would start a trend of selling titles and offices, in order to gain money. This would cause significant problems in the future as only the wealthy, not the talented would get positions. As glorious as some modern games and historians make war seem, war in real life is of course quite gruesome (I know it's obvious, but I think it's worth pointing out). The issue with any ruler who waged continuous war, like Justinian the great of the Byzantine empire, or in this example Han Wudi, is that they use up a nation's resources. So many people died to gain some “heavenly horses”. Therefore, there is a huge disconnect between which rulers were liked by peasants at the time of their rule and nowadays people. Though nowadays we regard Han Wudi’s reign as a golden age in Chinese history, he was not actually very popular with his people, and was seen as outright tyrannical by many. + +# Part 5: The downfall of the Western Han dynasty, and the rise of the Xin dynasty + +**Introduction:** After the territorial expansion of Han Wudi, and the peak of the Han dynasty under Han Xuandi (汉宣帝), the empire started buckling under growing corruption. Issues start popping up inside of the empire, with certain clans gaining more and more power. This eventually led to the fall of the Western Han dynasty and the rise of the “socialist” Xin dynasty. + +**The rise of the Wang clan:** An issue during the Western Han dynasty that caused instability and the decentralization of power, was the growing power of certain consort-clans i.e. the emperor’s maternal relatives (this would become even more problematic later in the Eastern Han dynasty). One example of this was the Lü clan, specifically, empress dowager Lü, who essentially acted as the regent and puppeteer of the Han dynasty’s emperors at the early period of the Han dynasty\*\*\*. If the Lü clan had continued gaining power, they might have overthrown the Han dynasty at its weak and early state. Unfortunately for the Lü clan, empress dowager Lü died, leading to the downfall of the Lü clan (most of empress dowager Lü’s relatives were either killed or removed from the court during the Lü clan disturbance). This type of situation happened frequently as the consort-clans were close to the royal family, meaning they would gain more and more power. Because of young emperors and a childless emperor (which helped these consort clans gain more power as they would be put in the position to influence who would become emperor), the Wang (王) clan became more powerful in the imperial court during the late Western Han dynasty (around the turn of the millennium 0 CE). + +**The meteoric rise of Wang Mang (王莽) the humble:** One of the members of the Wang clan was Wang Mang. Unlike his cousins though, because Wang Mang’s father and brother died early on, his family never succeeded in getting high positions in the government (which would have been easier for them due to nepotism in order to fill the court with loyal people). Later in his life, since he was related to the empress, and due to his humble and helpful nature (for example, it’s claimed that when his powerful uncle was sick, he stayed day and night caring for him…), he climbed up the social ladder. Unfortunately, in 5 BCE, he made a mistake by opposing empress dowager Fu, being exiled to Xindu (nowadays Henan). In his exile, Wang Mang kept a low profile (in order to stop accusations of plotting), waiting for the right moment to stage a comeback. An opportunity came in 2 BCE, where because of the death of empress dowager Fu as well as multiple petitions for the return of Wang Mang, emperor Ai (汉哀帝) summoned him back to the capital. In 1 BCE, emperor Ai then died and empress dowager Wang seized power, making Wang Mang the regent. Wang Mang now with absolute power purged the court of all his enemies. In order to increase his power in preparation to usurp the Han dynasty, Wang Mang continued building his personality cult, with many people submitting “prophecies” in the following years comparing him to other legendary figures. Once we reach 5 CE, the thirteen-year-old emperor became unhappy with Wang Mang, as it was clear to him now that Wang Mang had killed and exiled all his family. In order to stop this threat, Wang Mang poisoned Emperor Ping, installing a one-year-old emperor. After finally defeating all his enemies, Wang Mang took the throne, using the legitimacy due to his cult of personality and the resulting prophecies to become emperor. Usurping and destroying the 200-year-long Western Han dynasty, Wang Mang formed the Xin (新) dynasty in 9 CE. (what a ride, hope you stuck through it!). + +**The reign of Wang Mang:** Trying to understand the mess that was Wang Mang is as confusing as trying to understand Caligula. Wang Mang worked so hard over the years to finally defeat the Han dynasty, forming his own dynasty. And then, he just gives it up… He suddenly starts making so many weird decisions like creating “new” coins and renaming cities, trying to take land from the nobility and give it back to the peasantry. Why? It seems that a part of the explanation is that Wang Mang was a fanatical Confucian. One of the beliefs of Confucius is that he believed that the ways of the early Zhou dynasty were the right ones. Therefore, Wang Mang spent all his time as emperor reading book after book about the Zhou dynasty, trying to understand their legal system, and implement it, essentially reversing the times to 1000 years ago. The issue was, there wasn’t a lot of information about the early Zhou dynasty, and a lot of the ideas of that time were outdated, made for a smaller kingdom. + +**The meteoric fall of Wang Mang:** Because of all these illogical/strange reforms, everyone turned against Wang Mang. The peasants didn’t like him because the yellow river floods during his reign, causing one of the worst famines in Chinese history. The merchants didn’t like him as he made trading very difficult as the new currencies (yes, there were many) were impractical, many going into the black market simply to use ""normal"" coinage. The nobility/landowners didn’t like him as he was trying to take away all their lands and return to the system in the Zhou dynasty. Once it became clear that everyone hated Wang Mang’s new Xin dynasty, the remnants of the Liu family recruited armies and rebelled. + +**Infighting between the rebels, and the rise of Liu Xiu (刘秀):** The two major peasant rebellion movements at the time were the “Red Eyebrows (赤眉)”, from the Shandong (山东) and Jiangxi (江西) regions, and the Green Forests (绿林), led by Liu Xuan (刘玄), from the Henan (河南) and Hubei (湖北) regions. The army of Liu Xuan defeated Wang Mang’s army, retaking the capital and creating the Eastern Han dynasty… Except, that was of course not how the story ended, though since Liu Xuan successfully became emperor, but had to deal with many issues. First of all, he had to handle the opposition of the Liu family, killing Liu Yan (刘演), but sparing his brother Liu Xiu (刘秀), who had before his execution become a prominent general, helping to defeat Wang Mang. Liu Xiu, secretly angry about the death of his brother, started planning a coup. Then, in the year 24 CE, the red eyebrows decided to attack Liu Xuan, destroying his regime. The problem was that though the red eyebrows were good at warfare and had a powerful military, they made many administrative ""mistakes"" (like robbing the people…). Losing the support of the population around the capital and the Guanzhong (关中) region. The red eyebrows ran out of food and supplies. Liu Xiu, who had stayed neutral in the war between Liu Xuan and the red eyebrows saw his opportunity, and defeated the weakened red eyebrows, forming the Eastern Han dynasty, and crowning himself Guangwu Di (光武帝). + +# Part 6: The Eastern Han dynasty: Young Emperors, power struggles, and yellow turban rebellions + +**Introduction:** With the collapse of the Xin dynasty, a golden age of Chinese history would start, lasting for a whole three emperors before crashing down and burning in the mess of court politics (let's go…). + +**The era of prosperity during the Eastern Han dynasty:** After the reign of Guangwu Di from 25 to 57 CE, in which the empire was stabilized and expanded, came the “The rule of Ming and Zhang (明章之治)”. In the reign of these two emperors, the people could finally recuperate (修养身息), with water reserves being built, and farming encouraged. It was at this time that paper was invented, helping the distribution of Chinese texts and making education more accessible and cheaper. Furthermore, there was improvement up to ""perfection"" of many other crafts like that of porcelain creation. Finally, the government was centralized, the Huns were pacified, and Buddhism reached China through the silk road, fighting with Confucianism for the heart of the peoples. This battle of the philosophies/religions would slowly cause the mixing of Buddhism and Confucianism over a millennium to form Neo-Confucianism. + +**The slow crumbling of the Liu family's power:** After the first 3 emperors, problems started emerging, as the emperor and his family started losing power to other factions, including the eunuchs, and the nobility/warlords. This was because the child emperors that were puppets of the empress dowagers needed the support of others like the nobility or the eunuchs to retake power from their regents. An example of this is in the reign of Han Huandi (汉桓帝), where things started changing in favor of the eunuchs. This is because in order to regain power from the Liang families clutches, Han Huandi used the help of the eunuchs, heavily rewarding them for helping him. The eunuchs were openly corrupt, and for the first time, with the emperor's approval, as emperor Huan himself was also corrupt, executing anyone who criticized his rule. To illustrate the amount of power the eunuchs had, here is a song lyric describing them: \*""Zuo can reverse heaven's decision. Ju sits by himself without a match. Xu is a lying wolf. Tang's power is as prevalent as the falling rain.”\*According to the Journal of Asian history, this increase in power of people outside the imperial family gradually led to a disregard for imperial authority, shown by the increased amount of forged letters and assassinations in the later Eastern Han dynasty. Indeed, according to the Journal of the Economic and Social History of the Orient: “private and local power came to replace public authority”. The nobility no longer saw the emperors as ""divine"" and therefore did as they wished, with many increasing their wealth with corruption. + +**Administrative issues inside the empire:** In 86 CE, because of the cultural differences between the Han governors and the natives, the sheer size of the empire (making reacting to rebellions slower), and simply bad governors because of corruption, the Qiang peoples of nowadays Xibei (西北) rebelled. The Qiang peoples and other peoples in southern China would rebel multiple times afterwards and would become a constant nuisance for the Eastern Han dynasty. This on top of the corruption of the eunuchs and emperors who sold titles and dried out all imperial talent, made the situation even direr. + +**The yellow turban rebellion:** Finally, because of multiple earthquakes, famines, plagues, and many other natural disasters in China, the people became increasingly desperate. Then, just as everyone was giving up hope, someone named Zhang Jue/Jiao (张角) presented himself as the solution to everyone's problems. He claimed that he could cure people using magical Taoist powers. He also claimed that the Han dynasty had lost the mandate of heaven, and so had to be overthrown. This led to the infamous yellow turban rebellion, which lasted from 184 CE to 205 CE (most of the rebellion was crushed a few years after they revolted, but some remnants survived for quite long). Though the rebellion itself didn’t cause the fall of the Han dynasty, it contributed to the strengthening of the warlords, as the emperor needed their help to defeat the yellow turbans. In the year 189 CE, the emperor suddenly died, and so with the power to do so, He Jin (河津), the brother of the empress dowager and “leader” of the warlord's faction decided to kill all the eunuchs (factionalism was also a factor in the eventual clash between the eunuchs and warlords). To do so, he asked for the help of different warlords around the country and attacked the eunuchs successfully killing them (He Jin died in the fight because of a plot by the eunuchs). Though the warlords won, they were exhausted. And so, when Dong Zhuo (董卓), a tyrant warlord from the far north arrived, he would find the capital in flames, and the two sons of the emperor, killing one and taking the other hostage, making the young emperor his puppet. Thus, the three kingdoms period would begin… (to be continued, and talked about more in detail in a future post). + +**End notes:** As will be evident, I’m not an expert on the Han dynasty, I’m just a teenage history nerd who wants to sort out his own understanding of the Han dynasty and start a discussion with people on this fascinating topic. As most of the things in this article I learnt from the internet, my understanding of this time period is quite sporadic and all over the place, so iv'e tried to eliminate that in this article, but some places might still be too detailed and some with not enough detail, so please tell me if there is any hole in my narrative! I hope the notes I took are somehow of value for others, and if there are any mistakes in the post or you have any other feedback, let me know! Have I missed anything important that happened in the Han dynasty? What other part of Chinese history do you find fascinating? What is your opinion of Xiang Yu? Was he a great warrior who valiantly fought off the scoundrel Liu Bang, or was he an arrogant prick who underestimated his enemies? + +\* By brothers I don’t mean literal brothers, but ceremonial brothers. At this time period, making someone your “brother” seemed to be the normal way to form a political “alliance” or bond with someone else. + +\*\* We have to keep in mind that the most reliable source we have for periods before the Han dynasty are books written in the Han dynasty, like Sima Qian’s “The Records of History (史记)”. The issue with these books is that well… they are written in the Han dynasty, and commissioned by the Han government, so are probably (one hundred percent) biased about the Qin dynasty and the formation of the Han dynasty… Another thing is that troop numbers were commonly bolstered in texts, so they might be inaccurate… Ahhhhhh, what we (amateur) historians love, a scrambled mess of stories/myths, and facts! + +\*\*\* Historians don't consider the puppet “emperors” of Empress dowager Lü as legitimate emperors. + +Edit: If you have read all the way to the end, it's been a long journey, and I hope this article somehow helped you! I find it fascinating how many people are willing to spend their day reading such a long article and even commenting, and I thank everyone for any feedback that they gave (currently, I don't have time to respond to the comments, and so I will respond in a few hours)!",0 +3996,"Three Common Misconceptions about the Sinking of the Titanic. 1. It is well known that the lookouts that night did not have binoculars, but they really wouldn't have helped. In fact, they would have narrowed the lookouts' vision and made the iceberg even harder to see. Furthermore, there was an atmospheric phenomenon that raised the horizon that night called a cold-weather mirage, and it made it so the iceberg couldn't be seen until they were almost on top of it. Add that to just how dark it was at 11:30-40. How helpful would they have been +2. I know this is weird to say, but extra lifeboats probably would not have saved as many lives as you might think. The lifeboats started to be lowered at 12:40-ish. By the time that the last two lifeboats (Collapsibles A and B, located next to the first funnel) were being prepared (2:05-2:15), the bridge was already flooding. The ship would last only 5 minutes more. They only had enough time for the 20, and even then, those two boats had to be floated off the ship in bad condition. Collapsible A was completely swamped , due to there not being enough time to raise the canvas sides, and Collapsible B got flipped upside down. Sure, some extra lifeboats could have been floated off, but due to the violent nature of the ship's last moments, how many lives could they have saved? Boat A had 13 people in it that survived the night (because everyone else in there had frozen to death), and Boat B had 29 men on top of it. + +\*Edit\* Yes, I fully understand that many of the lifeboats were launched half full, many even worse than that. I also understand that many of the lifeboats were lowered at around the same time. Yet even if all of the original lifeboats were loaded to capacity, that still would have been about 1,178 people out of 2,208. Even if more lifeboats were being loaded and launched, by the time Collapsibles A and B floated off, probably only 100-ish people would have been able to get off the ship in good condition. + +3. There is no evidence that Bruce Ismay, chairman of White Star Line, goaded Captain Smith into running at full speed. He had a corporate mind, yes, but was not mindlessly reckless. It's possible his presence had an influence, but that is just speculation. Even then, the speed of the ship was normal. Second Officer Lightoller said in his British Inquiry testimony that it was common practice that a ship speed through an ice field to get through it as fast as possible. There were no ""villains"" in the Titanic story. No one was mindlessly reckless, nor had malicious intent, nor completely careless. Everyone was just trying to do their best. It was simply bad luck that the iceberg was struck, and struck in a way that highlighted the flaws the ship had.",0 +3997,"Why do historians say the medieval period ended in 1453 when the roman empire didn't disappear completely until 1461?. There's no agreed-upon end to the end of the medieval period by historians, but one that's common in the fall of Constantinople in 1453. Personally, I've always found this to be a little confusing. The foundation of the eastern roman empire is one of the key moments that signify the beginning of the middle ages and although its capital was Constantinople for hundreds of years, Morias and the empire of Trabzon still existed after its fall. That means that byzantium still survived after 1453, so isn't 1461 more correct?",0 +3998,"What significant differences were there if any, between WW1 trenches and WW2 trenches?. Were there any differences in how they were made and used? This is a question I’ve always pondered because it seems like there should be logical variables to trench designs that are significantly impacted by the wars frontline progress, but I just haven’t seen anything specific. + +Did the constant frontline movement in WW2 compared to the more static WW1 actually impact how trenches were made and used?",0 +3999,University of York releases 500 years of city family history. ,0 +4000,Archaeologists unearth rare sword from time of the Kalmar War. ,0 +4001,The conspiracy theories that fueled the Civil War. ,0 +4002,"Jeanne Calment and her 122 years of life and drastic changes to the world. The oldest person to ever live was Jeanne Calment (* 1875, † 1997). + +When she was born Germany had just unified to the German Empire when she died, Germany had just unified again. + +The world changed a lot during her lifetime. + +To just show how much, I compiled a few of the countless events that happened during her 122 years of life: + +Cultural/political: + +The rise of new Imperialism, the scramble for Africa, +47 countries in Africa gaining independence and colonialism ending + +The civil rights movement, +The rise of the women's suffrage movement, +The end of apartheid + +The rise of nationalism and the idea of a modern nation state, +The rise of fascism and communism, +The Russian revolution, the foundation of the Soviet Union and the eastern bloc and their end, +The creation of the EU + + +Wars: + +The final period of the American-Indian Wars, +The Spanish-American War, +The Boer War, +World War 1, +World War 2, +The Cold War, +The Korean War, +The Vietnam War, +Most of the Yugoslav Wars, + + +Technology and Inventions: + +The first Development and commercial production of electric lighting , +The creation of: +the first phone, +The first automobile, +The radio (first transmission and reception of radio waves being discovered) + +Henri Becquerel discovering radioactivity, +Wilhelm Röntgen identifying x-rays, +The creation of the first ever phone , +The first airplane, + +New areas of physics, like special relativity, general relativity, and quantum mechanics, being developed + +5 five different main atom models were developed during her lifetime + +The structure of DNA being determined + +Creation of: +The polio vaccine, +Contraceptive drugs",0 +4003,What's a laureate? A classicist explains the word's roots in Ancient Greek victors winning crowns of laurel leaves. ,0 +4004,The History of Abortion & Contraception in Ancient Greece and Rome. ,0 +4005,"January 17, 1893, A historical political act : The illegal overthrow of the Hawaiian Monarch?. On this day, 129 years ago, January 17, 1893, Queen Liliuokalani, the Hawaiian monarch, is overthrown by a group led by Sanford Ballard Dole and his businessmen group of sugar planters, forced Queen Liliuokalani to abdicate. The coup led to the dissolving of the Kingdom of Hawaii two years later, its annexation as a U.S. territory and eventual admission as the 50th state in the union. Read more about this on flifle : [https://flifle.com/members/onthisday/activity/9024](https://flifle.com/members/onthisday/activity/9024)",0 +4006,"Were medieval castle earthworks overgrown?. For decades it's been the norm to present heritage sites including castles in a very formal, tidy, close-mowed style - but was this done in the past? Wigmore Castle in the Welsh Marches is a beautiful exception, allowed to grow wild as a nature reserve - and recently our local Wars of the Roses site, Sandal Castle near Wakefield, has been given similar treatment - check out my slideshow on the herstorywriting.com Walks page to see how spectacular it looks now. + +It would make more sense that when the buildings were in use, moats and mottes were allowed to grow wild with brambles, thistles, nettles etc to make the defences even harder to assail - but I've yet to come across any reference to this in historical sources, or whether sites were scythed/sheared by gardeners to make them aesthetically pleasing. Any comments or suggestions on where to look?",0 +4007,How did China view India at the time Buddhism entered through its borders?. ,0 +4008,"In Russia, archaeologists 2100-Year-Old Medallion of Goddess Aphrodite and a warrior tomb unearthed. ",0 +4009,"There were only 5 or 6 known autographs from Moonlight Graham, the baseball player of 'Field of Dreams' fame. But 4 more signatures, as well as several letters from him, were recently discovered at the medical school he attended from 1903 to 1905. ",0 +4010,"Why were Soldier's Backpacks Square and Wood-Framed in the 1800s and early 1900s?. + +Hello, + +I noticed that many military backpacks from the late 1800s and early 1900s were often square with wooden frames (ex: German 'Tournister'). That kind of design seems to completely disappear in later years from what I can tell. Any idea what the logic behind the square+frame design was and why it fell out of use? Unfortunately I have not found an answer so far. + +Examples: + +[https://www.ir63.org/tp-images/timage084.jpg](https://www.ir63.org/tp-images/timage084.jpg) + +[https://nestof.pl/en/products/great-war-1914-1918/germany-1918/imperial-german-fieldgear/ammo-pouches-bags-and-backpacks/m1895-tornister-early-model-with-fur-flap-repro-6308.html](https://nestof.pl/en/products/great-war-1914-1918/germany-1918/imperial-german-fieldgear/ammo-pouches-bags-and-backpacks/m1895-tornister-early-model-with-fur-flap-repro-6308.html) + +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0pLWX9EPhdA&ab\_channel=schutztruppe1900](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0pLWX9EPhdA&ab_channel=schutztruppe1900)",0 +4011,"For millennia, world leaders and rulers have maintained elite and specially trained/equipped security staff. What were some of the most interesting/eccentric ones?. I’ve always been fascinated by the elite special groups organized to protect the most important people in the world. The secret service being the most well known example. + +In many cases this goes beyond said forces having special training, duties, and equipment. Many of the worlds more eccentric or tyrannical rulers often train or orient their security staff to adhere to and maintain bizarre standards. Some examples being Muammar Gadaffi’s all female “Amazonian” guard, and Kim Jong Un training his staff to constantly run alongside his limousine instead of riding in their own. + +Throughout history what are the strangest and/or most remarkable examples of this sort of thing?",0 +4012,Elizabeth I and Ageing. ,0 +4013,"Most 20th century dictatorships notably involved a 'cult of personality' around a leader. Who are some of the more eccentric or unusual from History?. This has been brought about by reading into Saparmurat Niyazov and how bizarre of a human he was (replaced the native Turkmen word for bread, changing it to his mothers name, as just one example). + +I have also been thinking about the kinds of characters who are attracted to or who end up in positions of absolute power. In your opinion, does absolute power attract unusual people? Or is it that absolute power is too intoxicating for anyone to remain 'normal' whilst occupying? + +I'm thinking in particular of Stephen Kotkin and his take that though Stalin had always been ambitious, and possessed of a certain ruthlessness and a scheming nature, that it was partially having lived as a revolutionary and primarily possessing absolute power, in the context in which he had it, that sculpted the genocidal tyrant he became, and not something that happened in his childhood or some inherent psychological perversion.",0 +4014,"I'm Michael Meyer, the author of ""Benjamin Franklin's Last Bet,"" here to talk about the founder’s amazing last will and testament and 200-year wager on the working class. AMA!. I've really enjoyed this AMA; redditors rule! I'll be speaking and showing slides at the National Archives on Thursday, April 14, at 1pm EST. Tune in virtually here:https://museum.archives.gov/events/75277 + +Benjamin Franklin was not a gambling man. His first bet was on himself, his last was a wager on the survival of the United States: a gift of two thousand pounds to Boston and Philadelphia, to be lent out to tradesmen over the next two centuries to jump-start their careers. Each loan would be repaid with interest over ten years. If all went according to Franklin’s inventive scheme, the accrued final payout in 1991 would be a windfall. In ""Benjamin Franklin’s Last Bet,"" I trace the evolution of these twin funds as they age alongside America itself, bankrolling woodworkers and silversmiths, trade schools and space races. Over time, Franklin’s wager was misused, neglected, and contested—but never wholly extinguished. Franklin’s inspiring stake in the “leather-apron” class remains in play to this day. + +I took a wide route to this story, starting when I was sent to China in 1995 as one of its first Peace Corps volunteers. I wrote three nonfiction books set in China, as well as numerous stories for The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and many other outlets. I'm a Guggenheim Fellow and Whiting Award winner, and currently a Fulbright scholar in Taipei and a fellow at Oxford University's Centre for Life-Writing, working on a biography of Taiwan. I'm also a professor of English at the University of Pittsburgh, where I teach nonfiction writing and live in Mr. Rogers's real neighborhood, Squirrel Hill. + + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/zq4l0luh05s81.jpg",0 +4015,"Any historical evidence supporting the claim that some Greek philosophers were taught by Ethiopians?. I am just curious about the validity and historical evidence supporting these claims. Ethiopia is one of the only African countries to have oral literature alongside written literature in ancient times. Surely their interactions with Greek philosophers would be recorded and written on? + +Any credible peer reviewed articles or historical documentaries/ primary sources would be really appreciated 🙏🏽 + +*UPDATE: Thank you for all the comments and insights. One comment suggested the ‘History of Philosophy Without Any Gaps Podcast’ which has an episode on Ethiopian Philosophy (ep 11). I took a look and found they also had an episode (ep 8.) on Ethiopian philosophy and Greek philosophy, giving what I think is a comprehensive explanation of their relationship and exchange of ideas. The podcast comes with numerous sources that are written below the podcast for anyone concerned about credibility. + +Here is the link to the episode: https://historyofphilosophy.net/early-ethiopia",0 +4016,How slavery thrived in Renaissance Europe: An interesting article I've read lately. ,0 +4017,Halloween in Scotland: 13 ancient customs and concepts of Celtic Halloween. ,0 +4018,"The Rise and Fall of China's First Empire: The Qin (秦) Dynasty. **Introduction:** The *Qin (秦) dynasty* is the shortest official Chinese dynasty, lasting only from 221 to 206 BCE. In China, this dynasty is known for its oppressive rule and the building of the first version of the Great Wall of China (yes, there are multiple versions). + +**The rise to dominance of the state of** ***Qin:*** For a long time, the state of *Qin* was the weakest\* state of the Warring States period. To understand the rise to dominance of this vassal state, we have to go back all the way to the year 905 BCE. At this time period, because of his ability to raise horses, a man named *Qin Feizi* gained the favor of the current *Zhou* king. With the rapid expansion of the *Zhou* dynasty because of the system of feoffment\*\*, *Qin Feizi* was granted the land of *Qin*, and he became the first feudal lord of the *Qin* state (imagine becoming the leader of a small country because you’re good at taming horses…). Hundred years passed with little to no change (this is obviously simplified), until a philosopher and politician named *Shang Yang* (商鞅), a frustrated official in *Wei (卫国)*, came to the state of *Qin*. At the time, duke *Xiao* of the *Qin* state was seeking for talented people, and *Shang Yang* was that talent. After some deliberation, the duke of *Qin* decided that being one of the weakest states of the Warring States period, he had no chance to win and unify China without radical reforms, so in 356 BCE, he appointed *Shang Yang* to reform his state. + +**What in the world is Legalism?** To really understand the reforms of *Shang Yang*, (and those of the *Qin* dynasty in general) it’s useful to understand the philosophy that was behind his and most of the *Qin* dynasty's reforms: Legalism (at that time the idea of a philosophy named “Legalism” may not have existed; this word is something historians made up afterwards…). I will go into more detail about what Legalism is in a dedicated post about the religions of the Spring and Autumn and Warring States period, but since this is a very “brief” overview, this is the short version: At the core of Legalism is the belief that people are naturally selfish and short-sighted (very positive…). Therefore, legalists believed in using laws to lead society by exacting harsh punishments on those who didn't act correctly, and rewarding does who behaved. Compared to legalists, *Confucius* believed in the morality/goodness of people. Therefore, he believed that if the ruler of a country acted with goodwill, his people would follow his guidance and also be virtuous and moral. To achieve this goal of using laws to lead society, legalists believed in reforms that centralized power and built absolute obedience of the populous. A frequently asked question when talking about philosophy/religions is who created this philosophy/religion? The answer for Legalism is that we don’t know. Legalism has changed so much with so many philosophers adding to it that there simply isn’t a clear answer to who “created it”. Generally though, it is agreed that the representative figure of Legalism is a man named *Han Feizi (韩非子)*. *Han Feizi* is known for contributing massively to Legalism not by helping to reform a country like *Shang Yang* did, but by writing multiple books about the philosophy that is Legalism, which later on would be read and its ideas used by the first emperor of China, *Qin Shi Huang (秦始皇)*.  + +**The reforms of** ***Shang Yan*****g:** Though *Shang Yang* did not make many reforms to the state of *Qin*, the reforms still had a strong and long-lasting impact. *Shang Yang*’s reforms took power away from the nobility and focused the economy on building a powerful military might to rival all of the state's enemies. Shang Yang’s Reforms: + +1. **Governmental Reforms:** Establishment of the county system (县制), which made that the duke of *Qin* directly chose who was sent to govern different areas of the nation, which abolished the hereditary privileges of the nobility. Reforming the household registration (户籍) system, strengthening control on the population and where they lived. The creation of stricter laws and harsher punishments, leading to less crime.     +2. **Economical Reforms:** The abolishment of the well-field system\*\*\* (井田制) which was a system in which farmers had one plot of land where all the crops would go to them, and a central plot of land where everything would go to the government, which would then give some of the crops to the nobility. This system was ineffective because if you were a peasant, you would focus more energy on working the plot of farmland that you would get all the resources from than the one which you got nothing from. Therefore, *Shang Yang* changed the agricultural system into a system similar to the one we know today in most countries, where all land can be sold and bought freely with taxes levied by the government (yeah, China’s agricultural system hasn’t really changed much over the years). Other economical reforms were f.ex. encouraging the production of grain and cloth by removing corvee/free labor requirements for people who were farming those crops as well as uniting the measuring system (度量衡).     +3. **Military reforms:** Compulsory military service. Rewarding military service by granting titles and land-based on how many enemies you killed. This helped make people more willing and enthusiastic to fight, since at that period of time, this was one of the only ways to climb up the social ladder.The big issue with Shang Yang’s reforms, is that as we say in Chinese: he touched the nobility’s cake/碰了贵族的蛋糕 (yeah, that one was lost in translation…). Essentially, by trying to centralize the government, *Shang Yang* took a lot of power away from the nobility, and they were not thrilled. Therefore, after the death of duke *Xiao, Shang Yang* would meet a tragic death by dismemberment… (车裂). + +**Tactics of the state of** ***Qin:*** Because of the reforms of *Shang Yang* and many other Legalist philosophers, the state of *Qin* gradually became the No.1 superpower in the Eastern *Zhou* dynasty. This led the other six major states to form a coalition against the nation of *Qin*. The issue with this coalition was that the six major states only formed it out of necessity, and long rivalries between some of the major states led to a very weak alliance network, which *Qin* exploited. Long story short, *Qin* allied with the states that were further away, using their help to crush the states close to *Qin*. Then, *Qin* betrayed their allies and conquered all of China. Though this strategy certainly worked, it caused the nobility of the states who were betrayed to hate the state of *Qin*, and as they were not executed because of the two crownings and three respects/二王三恪 system, these nobles would later cause issues within the *Qin* dynasty and lead to its downfall. + +**Issues within the** ***Qin*** **dynasty/The downfall of the** ***Qin*** **dynasty:** There are many reasons that caused the downfall of the *Qin* dynasty, but in this post, I will only be talking about the 4 main reasons. Heavy taxation and corvée: Once the *Qin* dynasty defeated all the other warring states, it had countless infrastructure that needed repairing. On top of that, the *Qin* dynasty built great monuments and palaces that though certainly beautiful, were very expensive. To fund these projects, not only did the emperor make the populous pay absurd taxes in contrast to the *Zhou* dynasty, he also coerced the people of China into going to far-flung places to work on infrastructure, providing no labor fee. Harsh punishments and harsh laws: Though crime rates went down with fear of punishment, many of these “laws” were too strict, leading to the *Dazexiang (大泽乡)* uprising and people’s constant fear of death because of the law. Lack of new talent and the constriction of ideas: The burning of books and burying of *Confucian* scholars alive (焚书坑儒) event is a classic (by classic, I don’t mean good) example of how the *Qin* dynasty tried to unify the different schools of thought under legalism. This caused the drying up of talented officials who had innovative ideas and a growth in corrupt officials. Unhappy nobility: After the *Qin* dynasty defeated the other warring states, the nobles of these nations still had significant power, and they resented the emperor. These elements together with others brought down the Qin empire, and with it, so went legalism (kind of.., it's complicated). With the fall of *Qin* and the Legalist ideas, we can also slowly see the rise of *Confucian* ideals under the *Han* dynasty. + +\* There were other smaller states than Qin in parts of the Warring States period, but they are too insignificant to talk about in this brief overview. In the Warring States period, there were seven powerful states: *Qi* (齐), *Chu* (楚), *Yan* (燕), *Han* (韩),  *Zhao* (赵),  *Wei* (魏), and *Qin* (秦). + +\*\* The system of feoffment in the Zhou dynasty has similar properties to that of the western feudal system, but is not the same. Here is the link to an article that talks about this: [The differences between European feudalism and Chinese feudalism](https://www3.nd.edu/~pmoody/Text%20Pages%20-%20Peter%20Moody%20Webpage/Feudalism.pdf).  + +\*\*\* The existence of such a system of servitude renting is still contested, although we have multiple written records talking about this system existing and how it functions, we are yet to find any archaeological evidence.",0 +4019,"Was there any example of exotic animals used as battle mount historically?. Horses are the generic battle mount when cavalry was still a thing, with the occasional regional elephants and camels. Fantasy video games got me wonder if there was any historical record of people riding into battle with tiger, wolf or rhino or any other unconventional mount? + +So my question is: was there any example of exotic animals used as battle mount historically beside those listed above?",0 +4020,"How Did Cavalry Use Gunpowder Firearms?. As the title states. + +Given how slow and difficult it would be to load a gunpowder weapon on horseback, how was it efficient for renaissance and industrial cavalry to use gunpowder weapons? Was the initial barrage of having a bunch of cavalry shoot people with guns at point blank enough to warrant their use? Would a Hussar stuff his vest full of pistols or would he just pull out a sabre or something? + +Also, how the hell do Dragoons work?",0 +4021,Yuri Knorozov: The Maverick Scholar Who Cracked The Maya Code. ,0 +4022,"200 houses, 1500 inhabitants, 100 years of existence, 133 thousand eaten horses and a shaman's skull with holes - this is a Stone Age settlement called Botai.. The Stone Age is the longest era in the history of mankind and the foundation of the Bronze Age. It began almost two and a half million years ago and ended about 5 thousand years ago. + +At the end of the Stone Age, all ice ages ended long ago and the climate became very similar to the modern one. People of that time reached perfection in the construction of dwellings, the manufacture of tools from stone, bone, and wood. + +They have learned to live in one place for a long time and rationally use natural resources for food. Therefore, at the end of the Stone Age, in the Eneolithic era, large settlements with long-term dwellings appeared. These were good buildings where people lived for decades. + +Archaeologists have discovered the remains of more than a dozen such settlements in the Southern Urals, Southern Bashkiria and Northern Kazakhstan. Judging by the ceramic utensils, tools, stone processing technique, this territory was occupied by a population with similar households. + +Some villages were inhabited only during the summer or winter season, and many of them were inhabited all year round. The settlements became especially crowded in autumn and winter. In autumn, they repaired roofs and built new dwellings, in winter they organized joint hunts for large animals: wild horses, bison, saigas. Prosperous hunting and good housing were a guarantee of survival in the harsh steppe climate. + +The largest, long-term and all-season settlement of this era was discovered on the banks of the steppe river Iman-Burluk in northern Kazakhstan. Archaeologists called this settlement Botai. There once stood more than two hundred dwellings, which occupied an area of ​​about 8 hectares. The settlement was founded between the 4th and 3rd millennium BC and existed for at least 100 years. + +They began to build their first dwellings along the stream in the valley. On the south side, a small village was protected by a steep bank of a steppe river, and from the north, forested hills. + +Years passed and the population of the village grew, and new ones were added to the old dwellings. Original ""quarters"" were formed, in which there were up to three dozen buildings. Between them lay ""streets"" up to 8 m wide and up to 50 m long. + +The smallest dwelling had an area of ​​20 square meters, and the largest - 75. In the center on the floor there was usually a recess for the hearth. Often there were traces of another hearth nearby. It probably served for additional heating in the coldest winters. Hearths served not only for heating, but also for cooking and firing pottery. + +In the depths of the room, under the wall, there was usually a pit-cellar for storing food. + +Most of the finds were found on the floor near the hearth, on the side opposite from the entrance, or in niches in clay walls. That is, the ancient inhabitants spent most of their time at the hearth, and kept their household utensils in the niches of the walls. The space to the left and right of the entrance was occupied by beds for sleeping. + +In the explored part of the Botai settlement, a collection of stone axes, flint and jasper tips, scrapers, piercers, drills and many other tools was collected. Dishes were restored from hundreds of fragments of ceramics. Only in the investigated part of the settlement (10% of the total area) were found bones from 133 thousand horses. In addition, the bones of foxes, wolves, dogs, bison, deer, bears, beavers and other animals are well preserved on the floor and around the dwellings. + +At that time, the population had already formed beliefs and rituals. This is evidenced by the finds under the ""threshold"" at the entrance of some dwellings of the burial of the skull of a horse or dog. And sometimes both together. It is likely that the horse was a symbol of good prey, and the dog was a ghostly guardian of the dwelling. + +In one of the dwellings in a wall niche, archaeologists found a human skull covered with red clay. Perhaps it was the skull of a shaman worshiped by the tribesmen. Three holes were drilled in this skull during the life of a person. + +​ + +LITERATURE: + +Zaibert V.F. Eneolithic of the Ural-Irtysh interfluve. - Petropavlovsk: Science, 1993. + +Zaibert V.F., Tyulebaev A.Zh., Zadorozhny A.V., Kulakov Yu.V. Secrets of the ancient steppe. - Kokshetau, 2007. + +Zaibert V.F. Botai. At the origins of the steppe civilization. - Almaty: Baspasy, 2011. + +Kaliev. Settlement Kozhay 1. - Almaty, 1998. + +Kalieva and Logvin. Cattle breeders of Turgay in the third millennium BC. - Kustanai, 1997. + +Kislenko A.M. Experience in the reconstruction of the Eneolithic dwelling. // Problems of reconstruction of the economy and technologies according to archeology. – Petropavlovsk, 1993. + +Matyushin G.N. Eneolithic of the Southern Urals. - M.: Science.",0 +4023,"Ogden Times, 1916 - ""Europe's future mothers will be stronger and it is predicted by scientists that their ascendency over man has begun."" - Pseudoscience at best but a fascinating look at the social anxieties surrounding women's increasing role in the workplace during WWI.. ",0 +4024,"When it comes to Che Guevara's famous image, do you think the historical context of the image(the La Coubre explosion) adds any significance to the image or is it an image that stands alone culturally and ideologically?. Che Guevara's image is probably one of the most famous in the 20th century. Known as the Guerillo Heroico it is the popular image of him staring stoically in the distance. That image has been reproduce millions of times over on T shirts, plaques and statues across the globe to symbolise many things ranging from defiance, to martyrdom to revolution. The historical context of the image however is what is called the ""La Coubre Explosion"". + +Basically a French vessel that had left the port of Antwerp in Belgium full of munitions and landed in the harbors of Havana. Che was at a meeting of what was called the National Institution of Agrarian Reform to implement the Cuban revolution's land reform program. When the vessel exploded it ended up killing 75-100 people and wounding 200. Che was in the vacinity and drove his car to the area. Because he was a doctor by training Che personally administered first aid treatment to the victims. In the aftermath of the incident a national funeral was held. Fidel Castro presided over the funeral and many Cuban officials as well as international delegates were present. The famous French existentialist philosopher Jean Paul Sartre and his romantic partner and feminist author Simone De Beavoir were in the crowd with Che Guevara listening to Fidel Castro's speech. In this context Fidel Castro delivered a blistering condemnation of America, accusing them of being behind the sabotage of the La Coubre. There is no hard evidence for this accusation. However the context of this accusation was the deteriorating relations with the U.S during the Eisenhower Administration in 1960. Castro and Che had nationalised American industries and pursued land reform as well as stronger ties with the Soviet Union. As a result the Eisenhower Administration began the policy of economically isolating Cuba as well as plots to overthrow Castro's government by training counter revolutionary movements(Escambray Rebellion), assassination attemptions, and preparations for the Bay of Pigs which would take place in 1961. In the context of this speech when he was in the crowd of delegates with Sartre and De Beavoir Che's stoic image was caught. Since the Cuban revolutionaries believed America was behind the explosion(which we don't have definitive proof of) its almost as if Che is looking defiantly at the circumstances and also expecting the worst later on(which would happen in the Bay of Pigs). + +The second interesting context that's hinted at is the French. This was a French vessel that exploded in Havana. That contextualises Sartre and Simone De Beavoir's presence. But they had visited Cuba months earlier to have philosophical discussions with Che due to the fact that French intellectuals and political activists had been fascinated by the Cuban revolution and Che himself. Che would later go on a official state visit to France in 1964 and in 1967 when he was leading his insurgency in Bolivia before execution one of the combatants in his rank was a French intellectual and philosopher named Regis Debray. Debray would eventually go to serve and be a major advisor to the French President Francois Mitterrand. Now does anyone think this historical context ads any significance to the image(regardless of what you think of Che personally) or does the image itself just stand alone?",0 +4025,"When did humans predominantly cook and prepare food at home?. From my limited knowledge, cooking and baking began in most civilizations as a trade that not every family was required or had the technology/resources to prepare on their own. At what point (per civilization) were the majority of meals prepared and consumed inside the home? + +Also, any information about a particular civilizations would be greatly appreciated. It's near impossible to imagine anyone having an answer for every human civilization on the planet, any and all information is greatly appreciated! However, if certain areas of the world still predominantly eat outside the home based on competitive pricing from street vendors, please feel free to clarify as well.",0 +4026,The harrowing story of the Nagasaki bombing mission. ,0 +4027,Faces from the past – Stucco Maya masks unearthed at Toniná. ,0 +4028,"The Anti-Lee: George Henry Thomas, Southerner in Blue – Emerging Civil War. ",0 +4029,"Eyes were a potent motif in the ancient world, sometimes used to protect, sometimes used to destroy.. ",0 +4030,"Study shows that although not yet present in the preceding Iron Age, one in six equids in Roman times is a mule.. ",0 +4031,"How did countries in the Early Modern Age enforce their territoriality on their islands?. I had a professor tell me that in the 15th century China didn't bother marking the Senkaku Islands because, back then, their ""Middle Kingdom"" mentality would mean that ""all lands belonged to them"", so there wouldn't be a need to mark something as yours when ""everything"" is already yours. + +Edit: I wrote a paper on how the Senkaku Islands are Japanese territory since the 19th century considering the Japanese claims of terra nulius, because when they first approach those islands around the first Sino-Japanese War, they noticed those lands had not markings on them and after a few reconnaissance trips to those islands and China not laying formal claims for that territory Japan absorbed those 9 islands to their territories. When I presented that to my professor - that isn't a History professor, even though a Chinese enthusiast - they told me that the Chinese mindset throughout its history is that they always considered ALL territories Chinese territory so there wouldn't be a need for them to mark something that was already theirs. Honestly, I don't buy this, China had over five centuries to mark, improve, develop, use, lease, do whatever with those islands and they didn't, still my question is **Early Modern Age** related, so I would be interested to know how would countries normally mark territories as their own back then.",0 +4032,Civil War on drugs: Doctoral candidate explores the nation’s first opioid epidemic!. ,0 +4033,New York’s Grand Dame of Dog Poisoning. ,0 +4034,"Did contested amphibious landings ever take place before the 20th century?. When I say ""contested amphibious landing,"" I'm talking about an attack on a beach in which one side attempted to actively deny access to the other. So the Allied invasion of Normandy is an obvious example, and so are the island battles like Iwo Jima that took place in the Pacific. Gallipoli in WWI is another. But did this ever happen before? Obviously there have been invasions by sea since antiquity, but I'm talking about a battle ensuing upon one side landing. Throughout history, I think one side has been able to land peacefully, and travel to the battle site. Are there any pre-20th century contested landings?",0 +4035,"During the Spanish Civil War, did Soviet Russia suppress revolutionary Communism in Spain and France to support it’s international alliances and global strategic position?. Reading George Orwell’s Homage to Catalonia, he says that due of it’s strategic alliance with France, Russia suppressed true Communist revolution among Republican factions (and in France) in favor of social democracy against the Fascist Nationals. Is this true? + +And secondarily, is it another good example of a countries core belief system being unaligned and even compromised by it’s international policy.",0 +4036,"The Mamluks, from slaves to rulers of the Muslim world for 250 years. I keep being amazed at this specific period in history. +Mamluks which actually means ""one who is owned"" in arabic, were purchased as property but their status was above those of ordinary slaves, who were not allowed to carry any weapon. Over time, they became a powerful military knight class, especially in Egype and the Levant. They controlled these areas for 250 years (1250–1517) and are known for several military feats: to quote a few: they effectively ended the era of the Crusades in the 12th century, they pushed back and eventually defeat the Mongol Ilkhanate at the battle of Ain Jalut. + + +They eventually are defeated by the Ottomans in 1516 which essentially ended their era of domination over the muslim world. + + +These facts raise several interesting questions: the first obvious question of slavery and its many different forms it took over the centuries. I find it fascinating that a class of slave soldiers become rulers for so long a period while still representing the empire that enslaved them in the first place ! + + +The second question is a controversial one in the muslim world: how and why would the Ottomans, a muslim dynasty, attack another muslim dynasty ? +I read a book called about the Ottoman Empire called ""Osman's dream"" by Caroline Finkel which talks a bit about that as a side story, but not really in depth. If you have any book suggestions regarding the Mamluks, I am all ears !!",0 +4037,"Currency in the Middle Ages. Hi. Im really interested in learning to what type of currency was used in the Middle Ages and how much certain things cost, like bread or a horse for example. I know some sort of coins were used and each different coin had it’s different value based on the material it was made out of, but that’s all I know. I’d just love to know the price of things from common to grand using their own currency. If there was any sort of book out there that speaks of the price of things back in medieval times, I’d appreciate a recommendation.",0 +4038,"How could pre-gunpowder armies be ambushed while employing mounted scouts?. ​ + +In history you see countless occasions of armies getting ambushed on march. How could that happen when your army has a scouting small cavalry units around your army? If you put 3 cavalry riders together as one unit and send about 90 (30 groups) around your army, wouldn't your army basically become immune to an ambush? Even if the enemy takes down some of them, others will notify the main force. + +​ + +There could be terrains hard to approach for cavalry, but then they could simply dismount to look for an ambush. They could shoot a whistling arrow to report an encounter with an enemy. (so that other scouts around them could hear it and notify the main army) Basically there seems to be so many ways to avoid unexpected ambush that I don't quite understand why so many armies in history allowed such ambushes. Moreover, if a general sees a terrain favorable for an ambush such as a forest and cliff, shouldn't they basically send scouts to see if there is an enemy army waiting? Even if his scouts are intercepted, that could at least hint at enemy presence near by. + +How was real time battlefield reconnaissance operation before engagement conducted prior to the gunpowder era? How many scouts were grouped as one unit and sent out? How many units? Is there a reason why such unit size & unit numbers became a norm? I seem to recall in some battles generals sent couple hundreds of cavalry force as an advance vanguard with scouting duty instead of dispatching small sized units; again, why? + +I majored in modern European history and watch a lot of historical channels on youtube thanks to my interest in the subject but I've not seen reconnaissance discussed in detail. I would love to know more about it.",0 +4039,British Museum curator describes in detail a stunning ivory gothic casket. ,0 +4040,"How likely was it (in the 19th century) for an ocean liner to simply disappear?. A new Netflix release (1899) opens with the mysterious disappearance of The Prometheus, an Atlantic ocean liner, with over a thousand people on board. At first, I found this quite unlikely, but then I wondered, what if there were no other ships within broadcast range of The Titanic to pick up the survivors? Could its disappearance have become a complete mystery? How likely that would that have been? Maritime history is full of disappearances but to my knowledge I can't think of a case of a ship so large and modern just disappearing. I'd love to hear people's thoughts on this. + +P.S. For those of you that are unsure, I'm NOT asking about the accuracy of the series. I'm asking about the history of ships disappearing without a trace.",0 +4041,"""Fall of Rome Sent Europe Back"" Question. I would like to preface this post by saying that I am not a professional historian, nor am I aware of any history if debate when it comes to this subject within academic circles. + +I am assuming that the standard foundation for this understanding is the belief that the Roughly 1,000 year-gap between the Fall of the Roman Empire and the beginning of the Renaissanse was essentially wasted time and Europe would be, by Implication, 1,000 years more advanced had the collapse of the Western Empire never happened. + +Is that really true though? Does such a concept not discount the continued existence of the Byzantines? What about the Muslim Golden Age, which developed much of it's knowledge from foundations set by Classical scholars? + +The whole idea seems generally shortsighted and oversimplified, but that's the thing. I don't know if there has been serious and genuine debate on this subject within historian circles. I would usually try to ask in r/askhistorians or other subreddits for information on this subject, but I feel the high standards and engagement within this subreddit might be Worth a shot in generating some constructive discussion.",0 +4042,"Joseon, the predecessor of modern Korea(s) - Part 3: Japan and Qing Invasions (early 17th century). History of Korea (0) [pre-historic influences](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/x5egoz/interesting_parallels_between_prehistoric_korean/) + +History of Korea (1) [**Gojoseon**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x3ot4p/korean_history_dates_back_to_a_bronze_culture/) \[around 1000 BC \~ 108 BC\] + +History of Korea (2) [**Three Kingdoms**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x89pzd/koreas_three_kingdom_period_and_unified_silla/) **(*****Goguryeo, Baekje, and Silla*****) and Unified Silla** \[around 100 BC \~ 935\] + +History of Korea (3) [**Goryeo**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/xdnht8/goryeo_koreas_medieval_kingdom_918_1392_stories/)**, Korea's medieval kingdom** \[918 - 1392\] + +History of Korea (4) **Joseon, the predecessor of modern Korea(s): neo-Confucian orthodoxy and the origin of the hermit kingdom** \[1392 - 1910\] + +* [Part 1: What is neo-Confucianism?](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y3dil9/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) + * [Women's oppression in Joseon era](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/wzqxuu/womens_oppression_in_joseon_era/) +* [Part 2: Early prosperity and the cycles of literati purges (15\~16th century)](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y54lc6/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) + +# + +# Phase 3. Japan and Qing Invasions [the early 17th century] + +# 10. Japan invades - the Imjin War (1592-1598) [link](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japanese_invasions_of_Korea_(1592%E2%80%931598)) + +Then finally the unified Japan invaded, led by Toyotomi Hideyoshi (a well-known name to most Koreans). Japan first asked for ""a free passage for Japanese troops en route to China,"" Joseon refused, and Japan soon invaded. + +* For the reasons mentioned above, Japan had a stronger and larger market economy, soldiers with a lot more military experience, and muskets imported from the Portuguese. +* As I look back, what's kind of sobering is that **Joseon Korea did not have a well-trained army and a cadre of military generals. Many war heroes were outsiders and underdogs**. Deeply entrenched in Confucian orthodoxy and dependency on Ming China, Joseon did not care to maintain a functioning military. There was no way Joseon Korea could win the war alone. + +Arriving at the Southeastern port city of Busan in May 1592, **the Japanese army took the entire Southeastern province in a week, and the king of Joseon fled from Seoul in 2 weeks** from the invasion. In 2 weeks from that, Japan took control of Seoul and the Northern city Pyongyang. + +​ + +However, the war went into a stalemate because of the three factors: + +(a) Ming China's help ([Wanli Emperor](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wanli_Emperor)). China sent a small army in August, and a large one in the following year + +* Keeping it short because this part is not so much discussed in Korea... + +(b) **Admiral Yi Sun-sin's 23 unexpected naval victories and control of the Southern sea**. Having no prior naval experience, [Yi Sun-sin](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yi_Sun-sin) (a secondary naval commander back then in a Southwestern province of Korea) **won unexpected victories at sea with ridiculously few resources and support**. He remained undefeated until his death. His victories at sea **significantly disrupted the supply lines of Japan.** + +* In the beginning of the war, he found himself in a situation where all the other commanders were killed or fleeing, and many coastal villages were pillaged and abandoned. His soldiers began to flee too, but he arrested and beheaded the escapees, and displayed their heads for discipline. By July, **his fleet was comprised of 24 warships, 15 small warships, and 46 fishing boats**. +* Japan was paying all their attention to the Northern front, and the Japanese navy in the Southern sea was just sailing along the coastline, busying themselves with looting and raping + * Yi exchanged fires with some unexpecting Japanese ships in small battles, and identified their strengths and weaknesses. For example, the Korean warships were speedier and had a long artillery range, but the Japanese ships were big, carried many soldiers, and the soldiers had strength in on-board combats with their guns and battlefield experiences. Realizing that, Yi **built the famous** [**turtle ships**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Turtle_ship) **with a roof covered in iron spikes** (to prevent enemies' boarding) + * He typically used a tactic of luring the Japanese fleet with a small, speedy Korean ship, and encircling the fleet with the Korean warships with long artillery ranges. He also later mastered the use of the sea currents, straits and knowledge of the sea + * [Battle of Hansan Island](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japanese_invasions_of_Korea_(1592%E2%80%931598)#Battle_of_Hansan_Island): **using a strait, ""crane wing formation"" and turtle ships, he destroyed 59 Japanese ships and captured 12, while not losing a single Korean ship**. After this and another battle, Yi was promoted to the Naval Commander of the Three Provinces +* However, the hero was not properly acknowledged and welcomed by the king of Joseon. Framed by a double agent's [plot](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yi_Sun-sin#Japanese_double-agent_plot), **he was beaten and tortured by the order of his king almost to death**. He was replaced by incompetent [Won Gyun](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Won_Gyun) and was demoted to the rank of an infantry soldier + * In a disastrous battle led by Won Gyun, the Korean fleet of 150 warships that Yi had been carefully building were destroyed; only 13 warships survived +* After the disaster, the king and court officials hurriedly pardoned and reinstated Yi as the Naval Commander. **While recovering from the torture by the king, Yi led another legendary battle with his 13 surviving ships defeating the Japanese fleet of 333 ships, destroying 31 of them, without losing a single Korean ship**. ([Battle of Myeongnyang](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_of_Myeongnyang)) +* Sadly, **the hero died in the last naval battle in this war**, in which Korea won an absolute victory and destroyed half of a large Japanese fleet of 500 ships. He was fatally shot while commanding on the deck. He famously uttered to his son and his nephew: + * ""**Do not announce my death**"" because the war was at its height. For the remainder of the battle, his nephew wore his armor and continued to beat the war drum + +\*\* A lot of details of his life and his thought processes are described in his meticulous **war diary** ([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nanjung\_ilgi](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nanjung_ilgi)) + +\*\* [Nakan-eupseong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Naganeupseong) is one of the coastal villages that might preserve the appearance of the coastal villages at the time of this war. + +\*\* Yi Sun-shin is also known for his battlefield use of folk traditions. Take a look at how he used [Ganggangsullae](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ganggangsullae#Feature_of_Korea's_traditional_society) (ancient circle dance of women) and [Kites](https://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/nation/2018/03/362_103566.html) in battles + +\*\* Now, a big statue of Yi Sun-sin is standing in a central plaza of Seoul, [Gwanghwamun plaza](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gwanghwamun_Plaza) + +​ + +(c) Guerilla warfare + +* [Grand Master Seosan](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyujeong) and [Grand Master Samyeong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yujeong) are two famous Buddhist monks who led guerrilla wars against the Japanese force. They left a lot of folklore about their divine power to change the weather, etc. After the war, Samyeong was sent to Japan as an envoy, and rescued thousands of Koreans who had been taken prisoner. +* [Gwon Yul](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gwon_Yul) and [Gwak Jae-woo](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gwak_Jae-u) are two famous general/guerilla leaders from the scholarly class. Gwon Yul is known for his [Battle of Haengju](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_of_Haengju), where he defeated 30,000 Japanese soldiers with his 2,800 Korean troops +* [Nongae](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nongae) was a gisaeng (courtesan), who killed a Japanese general by falling off a cliff with him (uhh... in a kind of Squid Game way in retrospect) + +\*\* I later heard that Japan was puzzled about why the peasants and defeated villages in Korea still resisted so much, because the Japanese peasants would just submit to a new ruler. But to ethnic Koreans, Japan was a completely foreign land and culture after 1,000 years of separation (plus Koreans had dismissed them as ""dwarfs"" ""savages"" ""pirates"" for a long time). Koreans also viewed the Japanese samurai-style atrocities as barbaric and horrendous. This all contributed to anti-Japan patriotism + +The Japanese ultimately ended the war in 1598 after the death of the shogun, Toyotomi Hideyoshi, and returned to Japan. + +​ + +\[the legacy of the war\] + +* Devastation of the economy - famine, epidemics, and poverty combined with the Little Ice Age in the 17th century +* **Atrocities**: the Japanese violence was so gory and brutal, Koreans viewed them as ""monsters"" and ""ghosts."" A famous story is that **the Japanese sliced the noses of killed soldiers and civilians as war trophies, and were rewarded based on the nose-count.** This story is true, and there's still a monument called [Ear Mound](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mimizuka) in Japan that **enshrines the severed noses of 38,000 Koreans and 30,000 Chinese**. The original name was Nose Mound, but it would later be changed to Ear Mound, **because the Japanese thought that Nose Mound sounded too horrible** + * [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Siege\_of\_Jinju\_(1593)](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Siege_of_Jinju_(1593)) all the soldiers and civilians (tens of thousands) were killed in the southeastern coastal city of Jinju +* In the midst of the massacres and plunders, the Japanese kept [Korean ceramic artisans alive](https://www.thoughtco.com/ceramic-wars-hideyoshis-japan-kidnaps-koreans-195725) and took them to Japan. It is said that the ceramic technology was ""stolen"" - but according to some records, some artisans would not want to return to Joseon Korea because artisans and craftsmen were better treated in Japan (which had a thriving market economy) vs. Korea (Confucian orthodox) +* **Crops of the Americas** + * In terms of the material culture, something very interesting happened -- during the war, **chili peppers and tobacco were introduced to the Korean peninsula** (via Japan via the Portuguese) even though Koreans had no idea about the origin of the crops. Some ethnic Koreans were captured and sold as slaves by the Portuguese merchants, far and away + * **the spicy kimchi** as we know now evolved after this point. Before the chili peppers, kimchi was white and not spicy + * Tobacco was quickly popularized after the war. Interestingly, ""**smoking tiger**"" became a common motif in Korean folk traditions. ([link for a folk painting](https://imgur.com/a/OOqsFPw)) A Korean equivalent of ""long, long time ago"" is ""In a time when tigers used to smoke"" +* Ming China's fall + * I heard that this war partially accelerated the decline of the Ming Empire, which would soon conquered by the Manchu (Jurchen)-led Qing + +​ + +​ + +# 11. Manchu Qing rises; a pragmatic king of Joseon gets dethroned by a conservative neo-Confucian faction + +* While the king Seonjo was hiding from the war, one of his sons, [**Gwanghae**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gwanghaegun_of_Joseon)**, stayed during the war, set up a branch court, and fought battles**. He succeeded his father as the next king. He led quite nice domestic reforms to reconstruct the economy after the devastation. For example + * Redistributed land to people + * *Daedong* law - collecting taxes only in rice. This would make it easier for people to pay taxes + * *Hopae* ID - made people to carry an ID called [hopae](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hopae) so that the state can track its (taxable) population again (after many villages were abandoned and emptied) + * Compiling a [medical book](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dongui_Bogam) (led by a [royal chief physician](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heo_Jun)) +* Despite this, he was **largely unsupported** by many politicians, scholars, and aristocrats **because he was not the first-born son and he was born from a concubine**. + * Writing this, at this point I feel personally irritated lol. Why weren't all these fundies killed by Japan +* He lost support for two reasons (1) *Gwanghae* had a young half-brother born from a legitimate queen. It is commonly thought that *Gwanghae* didn't want to kill him, but the faction that supported him did. The young boy was eventually sent into exile and executed + * It seems that [The mother of the killed young boy](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Queen_Inmok) firmly believed that the king actively persecuted her son... her court maiden wrote an extensive diary about this event. It was written in the Korean script, which was widely used among women and commoners at this point +* (2) The Imjin war accelerated the decline of Ming China (Han Chinese), and **Manchu Qing Empire was rising in power.** *Gwanghae* was a practical ruler, and he tried to maintain friendly relationships with the Manchus. This upset Ming and the dogmatic Confucian scholars in Korea. + * *Gwanghae* was still forced to [send a troop](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gang_Hong-rip) to Manchuria to help the Ming dynasty. Joseon lost 2/3 of their troop in this doomed military operation +* Ultimately, a ""ultra-conservative"" [political faction](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Westerners_(Korean_political_faction)) that opposed to him made a coup, and dethroned the king + * He's often considered a victim of the crazy faction fighting that was worsening since the Phase 2. + +​ + +​ + +# 12. Qing Invasion (The Byeongja war): the King of Joseon surrenders and gives nine bows to the Manchu Emperor + +* Joseon politics was a mess. After the coup, a new king Injo was enthroned, but one of the coup members was dissatisfied with his reward, made another coup, and [occupied Seoul](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Injo_of_Joseon#Yi_Gwal_Rebellion). The economy was still devastated and an external threat (Manchu) was growing, but the aristocrats were only obsessed with court infighting. +* The ultra-conservative faction that took power abandoned pragmatism, and antagonized Manchu (""**because they're barbarians""**) + * Manchu was a new name for Jurchen, a nomadic group in Manchuria (right north of the Korean peninsula) that had long interacted with Koreans. Koreans always had despised them as barbarians + * But Manchus didn't hate Joseon Korea. They even shared a [holy mountain](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paektu_Mountain) +* However, the conservative Joseon nobles eventually upset the rising Manchu empire. Qing eventually invaded Korea (it was before Qing conquered the entire China), and drove the fleeing king of Joseon into *Namhan Mountain Fortress*. Qing brought 100,000 soldiers - while Joseon could mobilize only a few thousands from its devastated economy + * there's a [novel titled *Namhan Mountain Fortress* ](https://www.amazon.com/Namhansanseong-Korean-Kim-Hoon/dp/8956253536)which was popular in Korea +* In a siege, running out of food and supplies, the king of Joseon finally **surrendered, and ceremoniously bowed to the Qing Emperor nine times**. Joseon became Qing's vassal state, and the first and second sons of the Joseon king would be sent to China as captives + +\*\* A general [Im Gyeongeop](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Im_Gyeong-eop) beheaded one of the Manchu generals, and later went to China to help restore the Ming Empire + +* many people of Joseon thought that it was virtuous to be loyal to Ming, the legitimate preserver of Confucianism. Im is still enshrined in some shamanic shrines in Korea + +​ + +\---------------- + +To be continued!",0 +4043,"Mapping the History of Peace: How many years have we seen in human history with no major conflicts?. Calling on all the resources of [r/history](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/) here folks. + +I remember reading somewhere an historian's estimation that, in the past 3500 or so years of human history, we had seen only 268 in which no major armed conflicts were known to have been fought around the world. Only thing is, that estimation didn't include any details of *specific* years. + +I thought it'd be fun to see how many years we could find in global history where there was credible evidence of peace. + +Rules as follows: + +* Starting from 1500 BC, records previous to this are too sparse for even reasonably accurate mapping +* A 'Peace Year' can include a year during which a 'low intensity conflict' was nominally in progress (e.g. Isles of Scilly vs. Netherlands, Caste War of Yucatan, Unif. of Saudi Arabia) so long as *no major engagement* in said conflict occurred during that year +* Skirmishes and extremely localised conflicts do not count for the purposes of this exercise unless they can be said to have direct impact on subsequent military events (i.e. unless they led in some way to a war). Small one-off bouts ('handbags' as we call them in Britain) can occur in a Peace Year. +* Pogroms and state-mandated, systematic persecutions cannot occur in a Peace Year. Customary/legal allowance of what we now consider 'barbaric practices' may occur in a Peace Year for the purpose of not making the exercise totally redundant, as those activities occurred almost everywhere to some degree until very recently, even though their inclusion does somewhat cheapen the idea of a 'Peace Year' +* If the readership thinks it worthwhile, 'Near Peace Years', with only marginal conflict, can also be included. + +How many Peace Years can we find?",0 +4044,Revisiting the great exploding trousers epidemic of the 1930s. ,0 +4045,"What are some unknown/forgotten/obscure modern (post world war 2) wars and conflicts? Like, so obscure that it doesn't have a Wikipedia article, only has limited to no representation in international media, has little photographic/videographic content relating to it, so on and so forth.. For example, where I am from in Kargil in India there have been a bunch of incidents which I haven't seen in the international news: nomad conflicts, spillovers from kashmir, etc. Are there any other similar incidents from history which are not really covered in the international media? + +​ + +Examples which I found include: + +​ + +Operation Bwezani, Malawi + +Kuki-Paite & Naga-Kuki Wars, 1992 - 1998 + +Ethnic Wars and Cleansing in the North Wa State + +Hindu Extremist Insurgencies in Bangladesh post-independence + +likoni massacres + +Ndogboyosoi War + +Rwenzururu-Tooro War 1962 - 1964, Tooro massacres of Konjo and Amba + +and of course the examples I gave above from my own territory",0 +4046,"How integrated were the Balkan Slavs into Eastern Roman Empire?. I find the position of Balkan Slavs in Constantinople a bit confusing. After the initial chaos of settlement the Slavic presence is stretched through most of Greece. The establishment of Slavic princedoms during the 9th century gave their presence some administrative coherence. + +Still, what is their relation with the Romans? They live both in empire controlled territory but also in princedoms with varying degree of independence. + +What were the relations between the Slavs and the Romans? Did they have representation in Constantinople? When entering Roman society did they renounce their heritage to integrate? Did they have any political pull in court? + +And most importantly, did Romans consider them allies or just another barbarian group to use? I see people sometimes point to Slavs as one of destabilising factors of the Eastern Roman Empire but compared to their neighbours to do East it seems to me that Slavs were a lot less pushy and more inclined to accept Byzantine influence on their culture and life than the Levantine and Persian states to the East — especially after the rise of Islam.",0 +4047,"What changes in the shipping, maritime and cruise industries happened after the sinking of RMS Titanic. So I was watching an old ""seconds from disaster"" nat geo rerun a while back and it got me thinking. The Titanic was one of the biggest most public disasters of its day, right? And the reasons it sank have been known to us for a long time right? How did the ocean going industries react? Were there commissions, massive investigations, lawsuits? Did lots of heads roll? What sort of changes did cruise ships make to prevent it happening again? + +Most films and documentaries ive seen about titanic end after the survivors are rescued so im curious about the after-aftermath",0 +4048,"Did the first crusade impact significantly the war-making capacity of states like england, west and east francia? And did later crusades impose equal burdens, or was the distribution of this burden different for the 2nd and 3rd crusades?. In the first crusade it is speculated that between 60k and 100k europeans left for the holy land. Of course a big part were not soldiers and even others gave up somewhere before Constantinople, but the numbers I've seen when the Prince's Crusade gets to Nicea are over 40k soldiers. + +The biggest armies in this crusade were from Toulouse, Normandy and the Holy Roman Empire. So, my question is if this campaign took away France's and HRE's ability to raise armies. I get that at this point feudalism was more present in Europe, so kings had less power and this ability were already reduced, but did the 1st crusade make the situation worse in this capacity? + +If yes, did later crusades alter this burden a lot or, when England got more invested, did Richard the LionHeart's higher taxes help England escape this high burden. + +I imagine that if this burden was similar for the major european powers, then western Europe might have been better, peace-wise, at those epochs.",0 +4049,"Am I missing something or was the infamous Fourth Crusades simply because the Byzantines couldn't pay their debt?. I've been reading lately about it. People like to say that this caused the downfall of Constantinople and that it ""showed who the crusaders really were"" and all that but. Correct me if I'm wrong. But isn't it a terrible idea to invite an army to your country (who are mostly formed from Venetians, economic rivals). Promise them gold for a coup and then get shocked when they act violent and attack you when you don't pay them? + +Yes. Terrible tragedy what happened to the civillians. Not unique for the era and had absolutely nothing to do with religion. I feel like I'm missing something here because the only thing I've gotten from all this was that you don't make debts you can't pay. Hell. The crusaders actually ran into the opposite side when attacking Zara because they were endebted to the Venetians for building a fleet three times their size. A fleet they obviously couldn't pay. They captured Zara to payed their due. Something the Byzantines couldn't or wouldn't do for them. + +And yes. It's sad what happened to the city itself. But after the kind of attitude Constantinople was having in the last 3 crusades and after being tired of doing nothing and with the fear of everything being for also for nothing it wouldn't take any hard convincing to do what the crusaders did. To grab as much gold as you can and go home. + +In a few words. If the Byzantines didn't make false promises and didn't make debts they couldn't pay back then the Sack of Constantinople would've never happened. This had absolutely nothing to do with religion and it was no different then any other battle on Western Europe. Hell. How many longer and bigger conflicts have started for smaller reasons? Declaring war over a debt to me is perfectly logical and what is expected. Especially for the time.",0 +4050,"What did the military do to protect hearing in previous wars? Did they care and if so, when did they?. Hearing is a really important thing in battle. If you can’t hear, you can’t take orders and orders are vital to a successful battle. In WW1 and WW2, big weapons such as artillery, mortars, tanks, machine guns, and much more would make hearing very hard. In these wars (especially WW1), country’s really didn’t know much about how to handle these new weapons and what there effects on soldiers and people in general with problems such as shell shock really rising. Another problem would have been hearing. Constant bombing and gun fire can really mess up your ears so, what did these countries do to protect the hearing of there soldiers? Did they even care about this issue and if so, when did they start to care? Every time I see a picture from these wars that same question comes to mind.",0 +4051,"[AskHistorians x-post] AMA with Dr. Stuart Ellis-Gorman, author of The Medieval Crossbow: A Weapon Fit to Kill a King. AMA about crossbows, medieval archery/guns, or most things medieval warfare!. ",0 +4052,A Very Civil War – Inside Switzerland’s Astonishingly Polite Armed Conflict of 1847. ,0 +4053,"Was cotton more common in the Middle Ages than is commonly believed?. I'd like to point out these two blog articles which give an overview over historical cotton usage in Europe. + +http://costumedabbler.ca/cotton + +http://evashistoricalcostumes.blogspot.com/p/article-cotton-in-the.html?m=1 + +Italy had a cotton industry very early on and grew it locally, too (like in Sicily). Later on, it would become an industry in Southern Germany. + +Cotton was apparently cheap and used for curtains, table cloths, sails and undergarments. A lot of it was also simply mixed with other fibers. + +There's some disdain for cotton in the reenactment and Larping scene because it is considered inauthentic. That might be the case for certain time periods and regions but not as a general statement IF those two blog posts are reliable. + +I am wondering what your opinion on the two blog posts is and whether it is reasonable for a Medievil-ish reenactor/larper to utilize cotton under certain circumstances. Is cotton even available in a somewhat hostorically accurate weave?",0 +4054,"How did fashion/clothing really change through the medieval ages and early modern period?. Through history fashion changed every decade, but I wonder. Did people instantly start wearing the clothes that came into fashion (changing their wardrobes in the first 5 years)? + +For instance. In 70s America, everybody had cars from the 60s, as the 70s models weren't that common right away. They were expensive. In movies, everybody drives the cars that are made in that decade (which wasn't the case for real life). Which brings me back to medieval fashion. + +How fast did people change their fashion in medieval times (and early modern period)? Yes, the rich probably changed their closets right away, but what about the common folk? It could take decades for them to catch on. Get money for new clothes and then also be aware of the new clothes existance? Isolated villages (like in the mountains) especially. + +Sorry for bad grammar in advance.",0 +4055,"The ‘lost’ islands of Cardigan Bay, Wales, UK: insights into the post-glacial evolution of some Celtic coasts of northwest Europe. ",0 +4056,"What are some capitalist countries that the USSR had decent relations with to counter the US during the cold war? The US had decent relations with explicitly communist states like the PRC or Yugoslavia as they were outside the Soviet bloc. Did the USSR have some equivalent?. Yugoslavia and the PRC (post Sino Soviet split) are two examples I can think of as both were outside the communist bloc. For many years India was technically socialist, if not communist, and sorta softly aligned with the USSR (which is why Russia and India have good relations today) but never formally committed and, like Yugoslavia, helped lead the non aligned movement. Both had if not terrific relations with the US, certain much better than Cuba or the USSR and avoided the embargoes and sanctions and military threats. + +I am not super well versed in Albanian history, but I think this could be true for Albania as well because it tended to align with Mao and the PRC more than the Soviets. + +So it seems the US was willing to deal with or at least have open relations with communist but not Soviet bloc states. Is this true in reverse? + +Did the USSR have decent relations with some capitalist countries that weren't in the US's sphere of influence? If so, which countries and why? + +Edit: +Responses so far have been great!!!!! Tysm!!!! + +Couple thoughts + +1) I am aware Yugoslavia wasn't stalinist style communist. That doesn't mean it wasn't communist. There are a variety of flavors of communism and a great deal of thought. Gramsci =/= ho chi Minh =/= lenin =/= Tito. + +It was a different kinda of communism. Very different and unique in the communist world. + + +2) France is a really good example I forgot about. The whole reason it is part of the UNSC is cause the Soviets wanted someone to counter the British and Americans + +3) India wasn't initially capitalist. It technically still is a socialist country (though, like China, in name only) + +4) China was communist under Mao. The sink Soviet split was largely ideological as Mao felt Kurschev was basically not communist enough. Market reforms and private property only became a thing under Deng Xiaoping in the 70s and 80s. China only joined the WTO in 2001 I think. + + +5) relations between Yugoslavia and the ussr did improve, but Yugoslavia was never part of the soviets orbit. Same for Albania. This is a personal theory of mine, but I think the idea the cold war was about capitalism vs communism is wrong. To me, it was a geopolitical game. A continuation of the 19th century great game between the UK and Russia with the US replacing UK and nukes were involved so proxies were used. This would explain why the US had open relations with communist countries like Yugoslavia and the PRC but not say, East Germany. East Germany was part of the Soviet bloc. Post sink Soviet split prc and Yugoslavia were not. I was wondering if there were good examples of the reverse. France is a really good example I wish I came up with lol.",0 +4057,Prof. Aren M. Maeir - Whatever happened to the Philistines?!. ,0 +4058,"Diplomatic genius. Did Romania lose both World Wars, yet gained territory in the aftermath of each?. Through the Paris Peace Conference of 1919–1920 and the Paris Peace Treaties of 1947, Romania gained decent amounts of land, compared to its state right before the war. It doubled in size after WW1, and 16,500 sq miles after WW2. + +What's debatable (through solid efforts of Romanian diplomacy) is who's side was Romania on in each war and did it actually lose in each of them.  + +In WW1, Romania delayed entering the war for 2 years and negotiated extensively with both sides. After being forced, through an ultimatum, Romania declared war on Austria-Hungary. Over the next few months, Central Powers forces occupied nearly 2/3 of Romania's territory, prompting Romanian-German negotiations, which resulted in the Treaty of Bucharest (1918). The treaty respected Romania's independence required Romania's assistance to Central Powers in the war and awarded Romania more territory (what an interesting way to lose) through the union with Bessarabia. Despite the treaty being de facto active, and its terms being followed, Romanian king Ferdinand delayed the royal ratification. + +The day, before WW1 ended, Romania re-declared the war on Central Powers, formally retaining the status of an ally of the Entente. But was it? + +During the Paris Peace Conference of 1919–1920 that followed, Romania **gained 60,000 square miles of land and 8,500,000 inhabitants**. + +In WW2, despite being an active Axis participant, and being named a defeated side in the 1947 Paris Peace Treaty, Romania had **Northern Transylvania (16,643 sq miles and a population of 2,577,260 before the war) recognized as its integral part**. + + + +**!!! Clarification:** +I specifically wanted to compare its territories right before, and after joining the war. Because, if we start looking at what happened before/between the wars, the territorial disputes can be traced way back to Balkan Wars, then to 19th century, etc. + +Romania did lose a large portion of its territories in 1940 (Molotov ultimatum of 1940, Second Vienna Award, Treaty of Craiova), but was NOT involved in WW2 at the time, thus making it an interwar diplomatic issue. + +I look specifically at: +1. “what did Romania have at the moment of declaring war in WW1/2?” +2. “what did Romania gain as a direct result of treaties signed after the war?”",0 +4059,Canada's most famous victory animated (youtube). Kind of embarrassed I had no idea. ,0 +4060,Howard Carter and Tutankhamun: a different view. ,0 +4061,"Was all of the West Coast previously Mexico, or was it Native American territory?. I ask because a San Diego page I follow was talking about Native American tribes being in San Diego (Kumeyaay), and although I'm sure most maps will probably tell me the territory belonged to Natives, there are some maps I've seen which show Mexico go as far as several states upwards from where Mexico is today, which includes some of the West Coast of the USA. + +I'm thinking maybe the maps were drawn in different time periods? Different colonizing times? Or, was the area originally Kumeyaay and not Natives from the Aztec Empire?",0 +4062,Soviets Exposed Vice President Nixon to Radiation During Famous 1959 “Kitchen” Debate Trip to Moscow. ,0 +4063,Food and Power in Early Medieval England: Rethinking Feorm | Anglo-Saxon England | Cambridge Core. ,0 +4064,"Was there mass migration of Roman citizens from Western Empire to Eastern Empire during degredation and after fall of Western part of empire.. So as the title asks. I was thinking and it makes sense to me that it happened but couldn't find anything that proves it. +I was thinking how east had thriving economy, but was that thanks to westerners moving to east or just east by itself. + +I don't know what more I can say on my part since I am no real historian but I need to have here some more text so that bot moder allowes my post to go through.",0 +4065,Chinese scientists retrieve ancient ships from depths of South China Sea. ,0 +4066,"Horrible Histories: The best history show. So, if anyone here is familiar with the CBBC kids show “Horrible Histories” they’ll understand where I’m coming from. The show is a kids comedy sketch show that teaches kids about history and is the reason I love history as much as I do. + +I’d recommend the show to absolutely everyone and I’d imagine many of the people on here would have loved it. I feel it’s the show that most non UK born people didn’t see that they really should. + +Anybody who wants to talk about the show with me is very welcome to if you remember it from your childhood + +Horrible Histories BBC link: https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b00jzwsf/horrible-histories-series-1-episode-1 + +Fact Fiend Episode explaining why it was so good: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FPFuLS-0ezI",0 +4067,"Athrwys ap Meurig = the historical King Arthur?. A theory about Arthur which I find really convincing is that he was identical to the person recorded in medieval texts as Athrwys ap Meurig. + +Athrwys was a prince of south east Wales, and it seems that he eventually ruled over Gwent, Glywysing (basically Glamorgan) and Ergyng (encompassing parts of Gloucestershire and Herefordshire). + +Many of the early Arthurian texts place Arthur in South Wales, south east in particular. For example, Caerleon is said to be his main court in some texts, and he is also associated strongly with Kerniw in early Welsh texts, which would match the region of Cernyw in south east Wales (a large region that may have actually been another name for Gwent). + +So Athrwys lived and ruled in the same place in which Arthur lived and ruled according to much of the earliest information. + +And regarding when he lived, it’s true that most modern authorities place Athrwys in the seventh century, 100 years after Arthur. But not all scholars agree. Some place him in the sixth century. + +Here is some evidence for this: The Life of St Cadoc tells us that Tewdrig, the grandfather of Athrwys, was the great-great-grandfather of Cadoc. It is universally accepted that Cadoc was an early sixth century figure. Since Athrwys was two generations earlier in the family line, then even taking into account long gaps between children in the line from Tewdrig to Athrwys, Athrwys cannot possibly have lived later than the sixth century. Therefore, based on this information, he must have been a contemporary of Arthur. + +So, he lived at the same time as Arthur and ruled the same location as Arthur. Surely, then, he was Arthur? The name ‘Athrwys’ appears variously as ‘Arthwys’ and ‘Arthrwys’, and these could all quite plausibly be corruptions of the Latin form ‘Arthurus’. + +Additionally, the family of Athrwys matches the legendary family of Arthur is various ways: + +- Arthur’s sister Anna (*HRB*) matches Athrwys’ sister Anna. + +- Arthur’s maternal uncle Gwrfoddw Hen (*Culhwch ac Olwen*) matches Athrwys’ likely maternal uncle Gwrfoddw, king of Ergyng. + +- Arthur’s sons Morgan and Adeluf (*Le Petit Bruit*) match Athrwys’ sons Morgan and Ithel. + +- Arthur’s brother Madoc (*Dialogue of Arthur and Eryr*) matches Athrwys’ likely brother Madoc Morfryn. + +- Arthur’s son Gwydr (*Culhwch ac Olwen*) may well match Gwrhitir, the possible son of Athrwys (he was either the son of Athrwys or the son of Morgan ap Athrwys). + +- Arthur’s relative (possibly his maternal uncle) Iaen (*Culhwch ac Olwen*) likely matches Athrwys’ maternal uncle Ieuan. + +- Arthur’s father Uther Pendragon (*HRB*) matches Tewdrig, the grandfather of Athrwys, whose career matches Uther Pendragon in many key ways. And like Uther, he died when Athrwys was young. + +- Arthur’s cousin, an unnamed Irish king (*Life of St Padarn* if I’m not mistaken) matches King Brychan, the Irish cousin of Athrwys. + +The family of Athrwys is also known to have intermarried with the royal family of King Budic over in Brittany, which is the same dynasty that Arthur’s family intermarries with in the legends. + +Edit: Most of these familial connections can be found in *King Arthur: The Man Who Conquered Europe*, by Caleb Howells.",0 +4068,"When it comes to Cuba's military victory at the Bay of Pigs, does Che Guevara deserve any credit or should it be assigned exclusively to Castro's leadership?. In the Bay of Pigs affair we know of course that a major reason why the operation failed was because Kennedy refused to through with the plan fully. Known as Operation Zapata it had two parts. The first part being to train the exiles to invade. The second being that the Marines would go in if part 1 failed. JFK refused to go through with part 2 and allowed the invasion to fail. + +However major part of why Cuba won was of course because of their preparations for the operation. Now when it comes to Castro himself he of course was the leader of the country. And during the Bay of Pigs he personally commanded the Cuban army going on the battlefield himself. Che by contrast was not involved in the fighting as his forces were diverted from the battlefield by a fake mock invasion the Marines stage to split the Cuban forces. + +However in the lead up to the Bay of Pigs Che Guevara was assigned by Castro in the training of Cuba's forces as director of instruction for Cuba's armed forces. He was largely responsible for helping to form the armed forces of the new revolutionary government at the time as well as the creation of the National Revolutionary Militia, a citizens militia, that played a key role in repelling the invasion. Che along with Fabian Escalante was also important in the formation of Cuba's intelligence services. Cuba's intelligence services were of course the ones who discovered the Bay of Pigs plan. + +So essentially he didn't command the operations or participate in the fighting. That was Castro. But he formed, trained, and disciplined the army and militias that went out to fight in the Bay of Pigs. So from a Cuban political perspective would he get any credit for their victory at the Bay of Pigs or would it still go mostly to Castro?",0 +4069,"What were European natives like (Their lifestyle, culture, etc.) before they became more civilized and modern? (& another question about Native Americans). I'm from America and I just realized, how come I've never heard anything about Europeans lifestlye before all the castles and houses and roads and stuff. + +What was their life like before civilization, when they were in predicaments similar to Native Americans or the tribes of Africa? + +I tried searching this up but all that comes up is stuff on Native Americans. + +I also have another mini question. Is the United States the country with the fewest amount of natives living there? + +Almost everybody in this country is from europe, africa, south america, or asia. + +I have only seen people with clear Native American descent maybe once or twice. + +And never actually met a full-blooded Native American who is living within that culture, since most of them are on the west coast and in their tiny designated areas. + +But yeah, I just randomly had those 2 questions and figured I'd come on here to ask.",0 +4070,Does Science Need History? A Conversation with Lorraine Daston. ,0 +4071,"What was the relationship between the Greek Gods and the Greeks?. Having a difficult time finding a more accurate answer on this. I'm aware of the multitude of Gods, and the worshipping that would take place and certain rituals. I'm more referring to the understanding of the Gods relationship with humans. + +I read somewhere for example that people believed they all had a bit of Zeus's blood within themselves? Which may speak to them also having the potential to be God-like possibly? Just sort of hypothesizing here. + +Did the Greeks view the Gods as something completely external from themselves? Or were the Gods also a part of them in a sense? Were they something that Greeks thought literally existed, but also spoke to more symbolic aspects of life at the same time, being more allegorical, symbolic for different morals and values Greeks pursued? + +Trying to articulate this to the best of my ability, thanks. + +EDIT: All mostly phenomenal responses, exactly what I was looking for here.",0 +4072,"Why is the Byzantine Empire so much less ""popular"" than the (Western) Roman Empire?. I've been listening to the History of Rome podcast and I've got about ten episodes left. I'd like to start another history podcast afterwards and I'm not sure what to choose. I know there's one about the Byzantine Empire that I'm considering as a natural continuation, but I realized I know almost nothing about it. My general history education in the US didn't really discuss it like Rome. And there is almost no popular media about it or any general consciousness of its history or major political figures (Julius Caesar is probably at least as well known as Napoleon or Hitler, but I doubt many could name a single Byzantine ruler). + +Why is that? The Byzantine Empire lasted longer and is much more recent. And according to cursory Wikipedia reading it seems the European Renaissance owes much to it. Do non-american or non-western cultures have more awareness in the general public?",0 +4073,"During the 60s and the civil rights movement era, is there an article interviewing the racists of the past?. I have been recently watching the docu series by decades that was done on CNN a few years ago. I am on the “sixties” my only thought for most of it is aren’t these people alive today? Are they still not voting? Do we have any interviews with them? I tried searching but I couldn’t find anything. People assume a lot of this stuff was very long ago, but it clearly wasn’t and a lot of the same people are alive today .",0 +4074,"Are all books on history dry reads?. I am not a natural reader but I think reading about history is beneficial and also interesting to know about the lives of common people in a different era (sadly everything is so focussed on kings and life around their courts and battles which is frustrating). + +However, I had started reading The Rise and Fall of Ancient Egypt and I learnt a few things from it but, I can't even begin to comment how dry it was. It was just reading one thing and then another. This happened and then that happened and...are history books in general like this or..am I wrong to expect them to have a bit more life to them?",0 +4075,Surviving a Horrific Night in a Victorian Workhouse (Whitechapel Casual Ward) - my opinion in comments. ,0 +4076,"For 12 years during the French Revolutionary Period, France had a whole new calendar. The French Republican Calendar had 10-hour days, with 100 minutes to an hour, and 100 seconds to a minute.. ",0 +4077,The Tarascan/Purepecha Empire: Mexico's Forgotten Empire who defeated the Aztecs. ,0 +4078,The Anglo-Saxon migration and the formation of the early English gene pool. ,0 +4079,"What happened when battles were fought and enemy leaders were caught alive?. I watched an episode (S01e05) of **Vikings Valhalla \[warning SPOILERS\]** recently where King Cnut of Denmark and a bunch of other viking leaders and their soldiers have sailed to England for revenge on King Aethelred II for massacring all vikings in England. King Aethelred II dies 10 days before they get there so his young son, Prince Edmund (Ironside ??) takes the thrown and his step mother Queen Emma of Normandy still helping out. Edmund asks for help from the leader of Mercia, Eadric Streona, who bails during the battle hoping to snuggle up to King Cnut who wins. + +There's a celebratory dinner after the battle is over and King Cnut has taking London. King Cnut spares Prince Edmund's life (to rule England alongside him we later find out) and also gets Eadric Streona to come on in for the party. + +We end up with a round table including conquered Prince Edmund, traitor Eadric Streona of Mercia, Queen Emma of Normandy, King Cnut, and a bunch of other viking princes, lords, earls, etc. getting spoils and loot shared amongst his allies whilst also working out to do with Edmund, Eadric, and Queen Emma. + +He beheads Eadric Streona in front of everyone because he can't be trusted. + +Thanks for reading this far, I felt like needed to set the scene. + +MY QUESTION: + +After battles were won/lost like this, was it ever realistic to have such a scene play out? Were rulers like Prince Edmund ever just allowed to live like that on a whim instead of just killed immediately? + +Would love to know about what really happened in examples throughout history whether in Europe or not. + +Cheers!",0 +4080,How Egyptian Life Influenced the Ancient Greeks. ,0 +4081,"The Last Court Morian - The life and times of John Panzio Tockson, an African man who came to Sweden in the mid-1850s and became employed by the king.. ",0 +4082,"How Many Ocean Capable Commercial Ships Sank Before the 19th Century?. I am wondering how often ships were lost in the age of sailing and slave-rowing with wooden ships. Was there a development to less losses over time due to better ships, or did wooden ships sink alike in the Roman times as well as during the 15th century? And generally, how many ships used to be there, and what was the quota of loss annually? + +My guess would be that there was around one ocean capable commercial (aka cargo) ship per 10,000 people. With 10 million people on average living in the greater area of the Mediterranean Sea, who had a more or less direct access to a harbor and sea trade, that would result in 1,000 commercial ships at a given time. + +If you now assume a loss of 1%, that would result in 10 ships lost every year. Multiplied with 2,000 years (including gaps for periods of civilization break-down) that would mean there must be around 20,000 ship wrecks lying scattered on the floor of the Mediterranean Sea. + +With 2.5 million km² of space, the Mediterranean Sea, there should be one wreck every 125 km² or 11x11km. + +Is that around correct, or are the numbers and relations differently?",0 +4083,Medieval shipwreck discovered in Norway during hunt for WWII ammunitions - could be one of Norway's oldest shipwrecks has been found on the bottom of a lake near Oslo.. ,0 +4084,"Your favorite explorer/voyage in human history?. Mine mIght be basic but Marco Polo has always stuck out to me. A 17 year old Italian kid that passed through Armenia, Georgia, and the Pamir mountain region and crossed the fearsome Takla Makan Desert. He and his father and uncle arrived at Kublai Khan’s summer palace in May 1275. They had covered 5,600 miles in three and a half years. + +The now 21-year old Marco made quite the impression on Kublai, and was adopted as a favorite of the Mongol Emperor. He showed showed remarkable talents in cultural adaptation, soon learning four languages. The khan sent Marco Polo on special missions to other parts of China, Burma, and India. In the Travels, Marco claimed he was made a member of the khan’s privy council in 1277 and served as a tax collector for three years. He wrote the famous *The Travels of Marco Polo* where he writes about unfamiliar resources and technologies: coal, asbestos, and paper currency, used since the 600s in China. + +He recounts in detail the local people’s unfamiliar ways of life, noting their customs as an early anthropologist might. He covers specific sexual practices, most notable (and to Marco’s delight) people who lent their wives to travelers. + +On his deathbed in Venice in 1324, he was urged to confess that his stories were fabrications, Marco most famously replied, “I have not told the half of what I saw!” + +Besides Marco Polo, Ibn Battuta and Xuanzang are high up there as well. + +Tell me about your favorites!",0 +4085,The Maginot Line I ARTE.tv Documentary. ,0 +4086,"What were clocks used for in antiquity?. I google this, and most of all I get is the history of the clock. But what was the driving purpose of the clock? + +I the Wikipedia page on clocks, I see three things mentioned: + +1. ""grand clocks were symbols of status, grandeur and wealth"" +2. Scheduling assemblies +3. Interest in astronomy, sometimes for religious or philosophical reasons + +But there is not much detail and I don't see the compelling reason for scheduling meeting precisely during antiquity. Maybe religious practice played a role. But I am sure they could just signal with a bell or call to the surrounding area and roughly the right time without a clock. + +Maybe clocks just became an indicator of being civilized and that was the main driving force. + +Later, small portable clocks were very useful in ocean navigation. + +Update: + +With the help of various comments I have found: + +Religious scheduling seems to be the most common application of early clocks dating back to 1600 BC. And they were used in astronomy and astrology. The earliest commercial application that I find was for sharing well water by allocating time-slots to farmers in India. + +Clocks were used in Babylonia in astronomy and astrology. I did not see any references to use in religious scheduling there. + +But monks and astrologers tended to keep records that are less likely to be lost and not available as modern sources. Maybe a lot was lost, not sure. + +The earliest recorded marine use of an hourglass is 1345. Systems of marine hourglasses were used to calculate the hours past apparent noon as one way to estimate longitude. Hourglasses were the only accurate clock for nautical use before small accurate mechanical clocks were invented.",0 +4087,Researchers in Galicia open 15th-century tomb to test Columbus link theory. Explorer is generally believed to have been born in Italy in 1451 but some argue he was in fact born in Spain. ,0 +4088,How WW1 planes fired through their propellers. ,0 +4089,"What did the treaty of Versailles do to the Middle East compared to the Sykes-picot agreement?. What did the treaty of Versailles do to the Middle East compared to the Sykes-picot agreement? I hear that they both partitioned the Middle East and gave it to France and Brittan, but how could both treaties do that? When one searches google for ""what did the treaty of Versailles do to the middle east"" you get "" The two countries decided to divide the Arab territories of the Ottoman Empire between them"" but when you replace treaty of Versailles with Sykes-picot agreement you get basically the same thing, so my question is what did they do different? did anything happen during the time of the treaty and the agreement to allow for the middle east to get partitioned for a second time? what am i not understanding about the two agreements? I know the Sykes picot agreement happened in 1916 and the treaty in 1919 but did one of the them divide the middle east in a different way compared to the other, or is google getting them mixed up with an end, post WWI, result?",0 +4090,Archaeologists Uncover Hundreds of Colorful Sarcophagi at Saqqara—and They're Not Done Yet. ,0 +4091,"Hominin ancestor Homo naledi may have lit fires in underground caves at least 236,000 years ago, based on remnants of small fireplaces and sooty wall and ceiling smudges found in South African cave system. ",0 +4092,"Looking for historic examples of a siege strategy from a video game!. The question rose up from this thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/Bannerlord/comments/tqkbc6/pro_tip/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share + +For those who are interested, Bannerlord is a RPG/strategy game that takes place in a fictional medieval world loosely based on the Byzantine Empire. The OP shared a strategy that he uses as a wealthy warlord, where he wants to conquer a city, so he first enters the city as a merchant, purchases all the food available and then returns later with his army to lay siege and starve them out quicker. I know cities historically had lots of food reserves, but this still seems like it could be a viable real strategy to shorten a siege. As long as the city merchants had no idea of the ill intentions. Can anyone think of a real world example that worked like this??",0 +4093,"Why didn’t anyone revolt against the Macedonian kings?. I know after Alexander the great died his empire was split up into several kingdoms ruled by Macedonian kings. Usually when a group of people from a foreign land come and invade your country theirs usually a lot +of opposition to it as history shows. And the collapse of the short lived Macedonian Empire into smaller kingdoms would have probably been the perfect opportunity for the majority culture/religious group in each respected kingdom to revolt and install a ruler that represents them. It also seemed that the Macedonian kings were pretty greek centric and didn’t make much of an effort to integrate themselves with the culture or most followed religion in their respected region and even tried to Greekize or Hellenize the lands they ruled. Why didn’t anyone revolt against them?",0 +4094,"How knights transported spears/lances in middle age?. As I asked in OP, I will expand it. + +During travels, I imagine that knights going to war, in a decent number, would store their lances or spears in carts where they also stored armor, weapons etc (did they wore armor all the time of the travel, or just before the battle?) + +Maybe long travels by land, like in the crusaded (yeah I know there were many, ones more by sea and other more by land etc). + +I had this doubt because I'm writing a novel, about this knight travelling around with a squire-like guy. A long travel to a particular destination, along the path they have adventures etc, usual stuff lol. + +For simplicity i decided the knight wear the armor all the time of the travel, and the sword on the side obviously, but the lance? They have no cart. All the time, is the knight who hold the spear (maybe somehow linked to the saddle), or the squire? And if it is the squire, makes more sense he hold it in the hands or attached somehow to the saddle? + +Thank you!",0 +4095,"Why Ken Burns got the prohibition story so very, very wrong | Aeon Essays. ",0 +4096,"How did our ancestors travel by sea before the invention of ships?. I am talking about the period in which humans were migrating across the globe and exploring different lands. My question is, how did, let's say, people from modern day Korea/China settle to Japan? Yes, they could have used boats or canoes, but how did they survive their voyage? How did they deal with storms in the sea? How did they get their food? How were their boats designed to survive harsh waters?",0 +4097,"Did the military defeats of the 15th and 16th centuries nearly break the European powers?. The year 732 is widely considered to be the absolute low point for Europe’s morale, the Caliphate had recently conquered Iberia and occupied half of Francia and Gaul as well, but it must be considered that further acquisition of territory would eventually have sparked an armed struggle with the still very powerful Eastern Roman Empire. The situation in 1529 was much more dire, Constantinople had already fallen, the east Mediterranean, Balkans and Hungary gradually followed suit and a 100 000-strong hostile force had besieged Vienna. Even worse the Ottoman Empire was known to be planning to use the area as a staging point for a combined army of over 300 000 warriors and janissaries, raised with the express purpose of overrunning the rest of the European nations and bringing the entire continent under its control, forces that the defending Holy Roman Empire was coming under increasing financial strain to match. Reading through accounts from back then, especially in the aftermath of terrible losses such as at Scutari or Mohács, one senses a feeling of utter desperation in both spiritual and military leaders, a lack of confidence in their ability to turn things around, almost apocalyptic in a way. Was the somber attitude of that era only widespread among the ruling class, or did it affect the rest of society as well?",0 +4098,"President Wilson at the Paris Peace Conference. After World War I President Wilson went to the Paris Peace Conference. He was there for 6 months working on a peace treaty to formally end the war. My question is who ran the federal government back home while Wilson was in Europe? I have never be able to find an answer to this question so maybe someone can get me some insight. + + +I understand that the executive office staff was almost nonexistent 100 years ago but it seems to me that someone should still have been in charge. Did the department heads just go about their daily business with minimal input from the president? Was Wilson routinely sending directives back stateside over electronic telegraph?",0 +4099,"Looking for more information about the rebuilding of Warsaw after WW2. One for those who are focussed on urban or architectural histories... I've recently become interested in how urban spaces have been 'rebuilt' or 'reconstructed' in history following a destructive event. Looking for recommendations - books, articles, documentary videos recollecting or recounting the efforts to rebuild ruined Warsaw after the destruction wrought by bombing campaigns during World War Two. Anything I should direct my attention towards? + +I've watched various Pathe video reports from the late 1940s and 1950s, but wondered if there was anything out there which was more comprehensive or narrative in format.",0 +4100,"What was history class like before the modern era?. This is a very broad question but essentially if a person had the means to learn history what would they learn? Did Romans of the 1st century learn about Alexander? Did the Byzantines of the 11th century learn about Caesar? Were there history nerds that were fascinated of ancient Egypt or ancient Rome? What did “history class” look like in the civilizations of Asia? + +I know this is broad but any small fact would be appreciated. + +I posted this to r/askhistorians and got upvotes but no one posted a response, so I bring it to you for your insights.",0 +4101,"How did Native American tribes indigenous to Yellowstone National Park (e.g., Shoshone, Blackfeet, Crow, etc.) perceive the land (e.g., thoughts on geothermal activity) and what was their relationship like with white/European trappers and explorers entering the region in the early 1800s?. I’ve recently become interested in the history of Yellowstone National Park and am curious to learn about Native American perspectives on the land and their earliest known associations with white/European trappers and explorers in the region. + +In particular, I'd like to learn about any prominent Native American creation stories involving what is now Yellowstone NP, how various tribes historically used and valued the land (for hunting, lodging, etc.), and what their thoughts were on the geysers and the other geothermal activity in the area. From my cursory research on the subject, tons of tribes have ties to Yellowstone with some of the most prominent being the Shoshone, Blackfeet, and Crow. What are the earliest accounts of contact between these tribes (and/or others) and the white/European trappers and explorers such as John Colter, who were entering the region in the early 1800s? + +PS \~ I made a [similar post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskHistorians/comments/zbtfka/what_was_the_early_dynamic_like_between_native/) yesterday in the subreddit r/AskHistorians but it hasn't received any comments yet. I hope okay that I re-phrased my question for this subreddit. + +In lieu of a response, if anyone can point me to any good books or other resources to help give me a better understanding of the Native American tribes indigenous to Yellowstone NP, their different perspectives on the land, and/or their early dynamic with white/European trappers and explorers in the region I'd very much appreciate it.",0 +4102,I made a sulfur ball to recreate a 17th century science experiment. ,0 +4103,"Did potions ever exist in Dark ages or medieval times?. Now when I say ""potions"" obviously I don't mean magical concoctions. But I have always been curious as to where the idea of colorful liquids in fancy little cork viles came from. Did people actually make ""potions"" like this and carry it on their horses. What where they called. I know this probably could be asked in a fantasy reddit, but I am kind of interested in medicine in general from these sort of era's. Is it simply completely fictional? Cause in modern day most medicine's usually come down to base form white powders and clear liquids.",0 +4104,"The origin of age-set/generational social structures. Been doing some reading into Ethiopian ethnicities and cultures and discovered the “gadaa” system of the Oromo. Essentially it’s the structuring of society to into a constantly renewing male age-set social class system that progresses from (to crudely put it) in a boyhood-adolescence-warrior-elder cycle. There’s more sets than the ones I have stated (I think 10) and each is generally 8 years in range. + +The following sources discuss the systems and some discuss their origin: + +- https://www.britannica.com/topic/age-set +-https://www.academia.edu/64954380/The_origins_of_the_Borana_gada_system + +The second source discusses generation set systems and their characteristics. Systems where society is structured into generations, which can end up having kids and old men lumped into the same set, can be troublesome. It can thus be inferred that there seems to be a developmental ‘trend’ towards what the writer calls “true” age set systems in society’s where such systems of societal organization occurs. Or at least, they might be better long term. + +My question would be what causes the development of such systems in the first place? Are they co-existent with ‘normal’ material status structures? What are the socio-historical factors influencing the creation of such systems?",0 +4105,Fall of the East India Company. ,0 +4106,"Is there a term for this phenomenon?. Basically, I've noticed that every cultural group (the term ""country"" isn't really useful here) is inclined to look at their own history, identify the high-tide mark of their cultural group's power and influence, and identify that, consciously and/or subconsciously, as the way world ""should"" work. Is there a term for this? A few examples: + +1. China claiming vast tracts of land in central Asia/Asian maritime areas based on theoretical boundaries during [pick a dynasty]. + +2. Muslim extremist groups identifying the Middle Ages Caliphate (North Africa, parts of Spain, etc) as the way the world ""should"" look. + +3. Russia and parts of Central/Eastern Europe. + +4. Italy under Mussolini. + +The list could go on. Is there a term for this in academic historical circles?",0 +4107,"Was recently in Lake of the Woods, MN and discovered that several WWII German prisoner of war internment camps were there to support pulp wood production for the war. Interesting history here:. ",0 +4108,"Is it useful to speak of the ""Middle Ages"" outside of a European context?. I notice that occasionally certain other parts of the world aside from Europe are described using the word ""medieval"", especially parts of the Near East, South Asia/Indian subcontinent, and perhaps Central Asia. + +But I never really hear the word applied to East Asia (or of course Africa for that matter), as far as the Old World goes. Why do we speak of medieval India but not medieval China? They both had a series of advanced empires in both ""classical antiquity"" (whatever that means in that context) and the ""Middle Ages"". Was China and East Asia too much of a separate zone, largely independent in its trajectory, while South Asia and Central Asia were at least partly linked with the Middle East and thus the Mediterranean and Europe (sometimes the link with the Mongols over Central Asia and Eastern Europe also highlights this connection)? + +From what I understand, the Middle Ages are called that because they were between the fall of the old world of classical Greco-Roman antiquity and the rebirth of parts of that culture in the Renaissance and Early Modern era, but how does this apply to parts of Asia, since Rome didn't really affect them as much, or indirectly at most? Is it just a dating convention based on a Eurocentric model of history that isn't actually as relevant or applicable?",0 +4109,Katherine Swynford and the Illicit Affair That Birthed Centuries' Worth of British Monarchs. ,0 +4110,"Golden age of the English labourer (15th century). It is well known that the plague took the life of a great part of the European population. And with that a shortage of labour. The plague reached England in June 1348. The estimates of mortality are between one-third and one-half of the population, with terrible social and economic effects. the labour service largely disappeared. The period has been considered a golden age for the English labourer. Some peasants managed to get a decent life style. But apparently that golden age wasn't so bright after all. What are your views on the subject?",0 +4111,Rome: Decline and Fall? Part II: Institutions. ,0 +4112,"Book recommendations for Ukrainian/Ruthenian history?. Hi, + +I have a lot of knowledge about the Ukrainian War of Independence (I've read about it for about two years now), but my knowledge ends there. I've picked up bits and pieces of knowledge through my family and definitely know about the mainstream stuff like WWII and the collapse of the USSR, but I want to know more about the stuff that you wouldn't learn about in a typical North-American history class. I'd love to know more about the Cimmerians and Trypillians, the settling of the Dnipro river, or the Kyivan Rus. The modern stuff too -- about the modern Ukrainian national identity and political institutions. + +This is obviously a very big field that I'm sure is divided into many smaller fields. I'm sure there are people who spend their whole lives working as researchers on Cimmerians or pre-Christian traditions in Ukraine, but I would like to get a grip on the general history of Ukraine. + +What I'm hoping to get is a recommendation for a book that generally covers all of Ukrainian history. I just want an unbiased book that will help me better understand the wider history of Ukraine -- a book that may function as a ""jumping off point"" for further research and reading.",0 +4113,The SS Eastland disaster - deadlier than the Titanic. ,0 +4114,"An extensive cache of Aztec ritual offerings provides new insight into pre-Hispanic religious rites and political propaganda — excavations continue in downtown Mexico City, where the empire's holiest shrine was historically situated. ",0 +4115,"What makes the world’s first bar joke funny? No one knows.. In the late 1800s, archeologists in the Sumerian city of Nippur (modern-day Iraq) uncovered a 4,000-year-old tablet with what appeared to be the world's oldest documented bar joke. Roughly translated, the joke reads: “A dog walks into a bar and says, ‘I cannot see a thing. I’ll open this one.’” + +The meaning of the joke — if it even is a joke — has been lost. But after a [Reddit thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskHistorians/comments/tbgetc/this_bar_joke_from_ancient_sumer_has_been_making/) revived the debate, the public-radio podcast *Endless Thread* (which usually does stories focused on Reddit) decided to look into it, and they produced a two-part series. [Part I](https://www.reddit.com/r/EndlessThread/comments/wgqkzy/endless_thread_jokes_part_i_sumer_funny_sumer_not/) is about the joke, and [Part II](https://www.reddit.com/r/EndlessThread/comments/wmgrke/endless_thread_jokes_part_ii_stand_up/) goes into the origins of humor. There are interesting takes in here from several Assyriologists and scientists.",0 +4116,"The dao, a sword used during the Han Dynasty. ",0 +4117,"Assassination of Park Chung-hee (dictator of South Korea) in 1979 triggered by a chain of events that started from a labor strike by female factory workers. Female workers in sweatshops and factories in South Korea in the 60s\~70s were called 여공 (yeo-gong), exploited horribly and really looked down upon. TIL one of their strikes triggered a series of events that ultimately led to Park's assassination + +​ + +1. Working condition of female workers in the 60s\~70s + +[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women\_factory\_workers\_in\_South\_Korea](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women_factory_workers_in_South_Korea) + +[https://english.hani.co.kr/arti/english\_edition/e\_national/969735.html](https://english.hani.co.kr/arti/english_edition/e_national/969735.html) + +* The workers, often daughters of peasant families who migrated to Seoul from poorer rural areas, were horribly treated in general. For example + * Forced injection of **amphetamine** to work for extremely long hours + * Basically what's happening in North Korea nowadays + * Naked **body search** + * Can't find a source right now but I remember an old female labor activist's interview that mentioned this. Naked body search was done to prevent these workers from stealing anything from the factory. Sometimes the search was done by male overseers. + * **Routine sexual harassment** and assaults + * Things like a male overseer groping breasts happened on a daily basis +* Many suffered from tuberculosis and other diseases + * These women worked like this to send money to their family. This money was often **used to educate sons** (oppas and nam-dong-saengs) in the family +* As there was extreme forms of abuse, extreme forms of protests also happened. In 1975, young female workers at Dong-il Textile protested naked, in the hope that the male police will not be able to handle their naked bodies, only to be cruelly cracked down. + * Jeon Tae-il, the legendary labor activist who died of self-immolation, basically died for these female workers [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeon\_Tae-il](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeon_Tae-il) + +​ + +2. YH Trading Company female workers' protest (1979) + +[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Minjung#YH\_Company\_protest](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Minjung#YH_Company_protest) + +[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim\_Young-sam#House\_arrest](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim_Young-sam#House_arrest) + +* With this context, female workers at a wig-exporting company called YH Trading protested against the closure of their factory + * the then-**opposition party leader Kim Young-sam** ([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim\_Young-sam](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim_Young-sam), later elected as President in 1993) allowed them to use the headquarters of his New Democratic Party as a place for their sit-in demonstration + * 1,000 riot police raided the place, and **a 21-year-old woman was killed** in the process + * This incited criticism against Park's dictatorship + +​ + +3. Park's persecution of Kim Young-sam (October 1979) + +* Park Chung-hee (dictator) decided to remove YS from politics. The South Korean Central Intelligence Agency (KCIA) worked on that. + * YS was **expelled from** the National Assembly in October 1979 + * **all 66 lawmakers of the New Democratic Party resigned** from the National Assembly as a protest + +​ + +4. Bu-Ma (Busan-Masan) Democratic Protests (October 1979) + +[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bu-Ma\_Democratic\_Protests](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bu-Ma_Democratic_Protests) + +* **Uprisings broke out** in Kim Young-sam's hometown Busan, and it spread to nearby Masan + * Police stations, the Korea Broadcasting System station, and the Busan tax office were destroyed, for example + * Martial law was declared and the military arrested more than 1,000 people + +​ + +5. Banquet at a secret house inside Blue House (Oct 26, 1979) + +[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assassination\_of\_Park\_Chung-hee](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assassination_of_Park_Chung-hee) + +* In the midst of this turmoil, Park Chung-hee drank with his KCIA chiefs at a **banquet** at a secret house (called ""An-ga,"" ""inside house"") inside the Blue House. + * It is well-known that a popular female singer Shim Su-bong was singing at the banquet +* They started discussing the Bu-Ma uprising + * Then a hardliner KCIA guy suggested ""we should just **mow them down with tanks**"" + * In another source I remember, he actually said ""**the world hadn’t blinked an eye when 3 million people were slaughtered in Cambodia. We could get away with killing 1-2 million**."" + * (an English source: [https://english.hani.co.kr/arti/english\_edition/english\_editorials/1033401.html](https://english.hani.co.kr/arti/english_edition/english_editorials/1033401.html)) + * Park Chung-hee praised him for saying that. +* This really upset his moderate political rival, Kim Jae-gyu ([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim\_Jae-gyu](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim_Jae-gyu)), at KCIA. + * There was an existing rivalry between these two KCIA guys, but as far as I remember, what really triggered Kim Jae-gyu was this Cambodia remark, and the fact that Park Chung-hee sided with it. + +​ + +6. Kim Jae-gyu assassinates Park Chung-hee + +[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim\_Jae-gyu](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim_Jae-gyu) + +* Kim left the banquet room, and convened his closest subordinates, saying ""Today is the day."" +* He reentered the room with a pistol and **shot Park in the right chest.** He also killed the KCIA guy who tried to flee the scene. + * In the meantime, Kim's subordinates held President's bodyguards at gunpoint, and eventually killed them. Overall, six people were killed at the banquet. + +​ + +​ + +The last part is probably one of the most famous historical events in South Korea from that era, but a chain of events that built up the tension are less known. I heard about each event, but didn't know how those events actually triggered one another. Interesting period of Korean history.",0 +4118,"Why did the Habsburgs neglect the Austrian Netherlands?. Remember when Belgium was the Spanish Netherlands and it had that back and forth fight between the Dutch Calvinists up north and the gung-ho armies of Louis XIII in the south? + +It was quite an interesting period. I mean this was when there was when the most prominent cities in the low countries were Antwerp and Bruges as opposed to the Hague and Amsterdam. + +But eventually, it goes to Vienna for control yet they're very slow with beefing it up, and the Dutch just keep obsessing over ""defense"" all the time and never really forge a strong tie with the emperor. In the entire 1700s, Flanders is a sitting duck for British blockades and French invasions. + +So when Louis XV goes to war with Austria as an ally of Frederick of Prussia, he invades the Austrian Netherlands and scoops up all these towns. + +But if we recall, the Austrian Netherlands or Habsburg low countries, whatever you wish to call them, had struggles with their Ostend Company, which was laughed at by the English East India Company and the Dutch East India Company. Not to mention they didn't really have anything in the west. + +The best bankers of the day were no longer in Antwerp and Bruges, they were up in Amsterdam and London. Not even art and music were really of much talk, as they had been in previous centuries. + +So why did Austria neglect poor little Flanders like this? They were the cash cow of the Habsburg family.",0 +4119,"In the coat of arms of Georg von Frundsberg, where does the ostrich come from?. Georg von Frundsberg and all his successors had a dual coat of arms - [one part with a black mountain, the other with a white or silver ostrich](https://de.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Datei:Freundsberg_Wappen_11.jpg). Some heraldry books show it as [two different coats of arms for the same family](https://bildsuche.digitale-sammlungen.de/index.html?c=viewer&bandnummer=bsb00043104&pimage=341&suchbegriff=&l=de) (lower half of the page). + +However, Georg's Father, Ulrich von Frundsberg, and all his predecessors had a single coat of arms with the black mountain only. Where did the ostrich come from? + +Maybe a hint: on the [Frundsberg family altar](https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Mindelheim_StStephan_Frundsbergaltar-Detail.jpg) all sons of Ulrich von Frundsberg have dual coats of arms, where the second half comes from their wives (including Georg - the youngest brother, first from the left, with the black goat of his wife Katarina von Schrofenstein on his shield). However, his elder brother Adam, who never married, has the shield with the ostrich. I know, that Georg inherited the title of the lord of Mindelheim from his brother Adam. But this is not the coat of arms of Mindelheim. Perhaps, some other property he inherited the same way?",0 +4120,Coming soon: An underwater search for WWII wreckage off Alaska’s Attu Island. ,0 +4121,"Civilian participation in the Spanish Civil War. I’ve been reading up on the Spanish Civil War. What strikes me is that many civilians - aside from professional soldiers - took up arms for either the left-leaning Republic or the right-wing Nationalists. + +Not only did many Spanish people fight, many foreigners went to fight for the left as well - including famous writers like Ernest Hemingway, George Orwell, and Pablo Neruda. + +Do we know an approximate number or percentage of Spaniards that picked up a gun and fought? + +Further, in what other conflicts did civilians feel so passionate as to take up arms? The American Civil War comes to mind. Any others?",0 +4122,"Goryeo, Korea's medieval kingdom [918 - 1392] : stories, songs and Mongol invasion. History of Korea (0) pre-historic influences + +[https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/x5egoz/interesting\_parallels\_between\_prehistoric\_korean/](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/x5egoz/interesting_parallels_between_prehistoric_korean/) + +History of Korea (1) **Gojoseon** \[around 1000 BC \~ 108 BC\] + +[https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x3ot4p/korean\_history\_dates\_back\_to\_a\_bronze\_culture/](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x3ot4p/korean_history_dates_back_to_a_bronze_culture/) + +History of Korea (2) **Three Kingdoms (*****Goguryeo, Baekje, and Silla*****) and Unified Silla** \[around 100 BC \~ 935\] + +[https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x89pzd/koreas\_three\_kingdom\_period\_and\_unified\_silla/](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x89pzd/koreas_three_kingdom_period_and_unified_silla/) + +​ + +​ + +History of Korea (3) **Goryeo** \[918 \~ 1392\] - often forgotten medieval kingdom + +​ + +1. **Later Three Kingdoms** \[889 \~ 935\] + +With the collapse of the Silla dynasty (in accordance with the collapse of Tang dynasty and their international economic and political systems), **powerful local clans and warlords** called 'hojok' with their own land and soldiers emerged. Some of them claimed **reviving the old kingdoms** of Goguryeo and Baekje that had existed in the Three Kingdoms era. This era is called [Later Three Kingdoms](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Later_Three_Kingdoms)era, and lasted for about 50 years + +* [Gung ye](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gung_Ye) \- He's a **one-eyed Buddhist monk** who founded Later Goguryeo and became psychotic later. In popular culture, it is believed that he claimed to have clairvoyance. There was a popular 2000 period drama about this period, and he's **still a popular meme** in Korea.... + * Legend says it that he was born in the royal family of Silla, but the royal fortuneteller said that the baby will bring disasters to the kingdom. The king ordered to kill the baby, but the mother had her maid to escape with the baby. In the process the maid accidentally poked the baby's eye. The cursed prince became a Buddhist monk later on +* [Gyeon Hwon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gyeon_Hwon) \- The founder of Later Baekje. He's always depicted as a man of dubious morality in history books, but historians point out that that might be the bias of winners. There's a legend that his mother gave birth to him after having a sexual contact with a worm disguised as a man. + * His father Ajagae was a peasant and led a local peasant revolt. +* [Gyeongsun of Silla](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gyeongsun_of_Silla) \- The last king of Silla. He was a puppet king enthroned by *Gyeon Hwon* + +​ + +Then *Gung Ye*, the monk-king of *Later Gugoryeo*, **went psychotic**, referred to himself as [Maitreya](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maitreya) Buddha, **killed his own wife and children** as well as many other people. He lost support from the public, got eventually killed. The rebels crowned ***Wang Geon***, one of his trusted generals + +* [Wang Geon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taejo_of_Goryeo) was a descendant of a powerful maritime merchant clan in Northern Korea. After being crowned, he renamed his kingdom ***Goryeo***, led successful military campaigns, had *Silla* surrender, and eventually overthrew *Later Baekje*, **unify**ing the country again. + * [Maui](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crown_Prince_Maui), the Crown Prince of *Silla*, became a hermit Buddhist monk, and spent his whole life wearing *Maui* (hemp linen clothes) as if in a funeral + +​ + +​ + +2. **The founder of** ***Goryeo*** **and his son** \[918 \~ 975\] + +Wang Geon, the founder of *Goryeo*, allied with *hojok*s (powerful local clans) through marriage. He married **30 noble women** from these clans, and had **34 children**. Uhh outside this fecundity, he also left **10 injunctions** for the next generation kings, which allows us to peek into the belief system at that time + +(two English sources I found: [first](http://afe.easia.columbia.edu/ps/korea/ten_injunctions.pdf) and [second](https://new-docs-thumbs.oneclass.com/doc_thumbnails/new_mobile/1821735-textbook-notes-us-ucla-korea-50-textbookwanggeon'steninjunctions&developmentofconfucianpolityi.jpg)) + +\[10 Injunctions from Wang Geon\] + +* (1) Success of the state depends on the favor and **protection of Buddha** \- Build temples. +* (2) Temples & monasteries should be built upon the sites chosen by Monk [Doseon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doseon) according to the principle of **feng shui** +* (3) **Succession by the eldest son** will be the most legitimate, unless the eldest son is unworthy +* (4) We **do not need to copy the Chinese way** \- ""our country is geographically and culturally different from China"" - and **never copy Khitan** (Mongolic nomads), they're savages. + * This contrasts to the later Joseon dynasty (1392-1897) that was founded on the Chinese neo-Confucian ideology +* (5) I have achieved the great task of founding the dynasty with the help of the elements of **mountain and river of our country** (he's talking about feng shui). (While the capital of the new dynasty is his hometown K[aesong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kaesong)), **Pyongyang** is the Western Capital located in an auspicious site. Make a royal visit to Pyongyang four times a year, and reside there for more than a hundred days a year. That will ensure peace and prosperity + * Pyongyang is one of the most ancient cities in the Korean peninsula. It's such a pity that the city was destroyed so badly during the Korean War, and now we can't go there +* (6) **Buddhist lantern festival** ([Yeondeung](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yeondeunghoe)), and the Palgwan Festival that **worships the spirits of our mountains and rivers and the dragon god** are very important, and should never be abolished in the future + * The Buddhist lantern festival is still vibrant in Korea. The mountain spirit/dragon god festival was abandoned in the later Joseon dynasty. +* (7) Win the hearts of the people - lighten the burden of taxation. +* (8) The regions south of Gongju (**the old territory of Baekje**) is treacherous & disharmonious. **Do not let the people from there participate** in the government & do not intermarry with them. + * Some say that this is the first traceable record of **anti-Jeolla** s[entiment](https://brownpoliticalreview.org/2022/05/regionalism-in-south-korea/) that's still vivid today, which is a type of severe **regional discrimination** (or I'd say micro-racism) against people from the modern-day Jeolla province (which is the old territory of Baekje, even though this fact might or might not be important) +* (9) Do not change salaries for aristocrats & bureaucrats. Treat soldiers kindly & lighten their burden. +* (10) Read widely in the classics and history, and avert mistakes taking the past as a warning for the present. + +​ + +One of the founder's numerous sons became the fourth king of Goryeo, + +[Gwangjong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gwangjong_of_Goryeo): + +* He did foundational works for the new dynasty. Fun fact: realizing that he had too many brothers and step-moms from powerful clans, he tried to consolidate power and concentrate the royal blood by marrying his **half-sister**, and later, **half-niece**. +* He tried to **abolish slavery**, and establish the (Chinese-style) **civil service exam** to promote meritocracy. He also declared that Goryeo was an Empire and he himself was an Emperor, which Korean dynasties didn't usually do in order not to provoke China. He temporarily used Goryeo's own era names, instead of [Chinese ones](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese_era_name). + * Slavery revived after his attempts, and the civil service exam degenerated into some distorted form of the system of hereditary privilege, though +* Later he got paranoid, and **killed a lot of his relatives**, including a brother, and his father's in-law families. He suffered from nightmares later on, and died at the age of 50. Being a monarch must not be an easy thing. +* His son from the marriage with his half-sister became the [next king](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gyeongjong_of_Goryeo) \- he avoided politics and royalty, and hung out with commoners. Shortly after this guy's cousin became the [next king](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seongjong_of_Goryeo), who adopted Confucian political principles suggested by a [descendant](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Choe_Seungno) of the Silla aristocracy + * The Confucian suggestions are called ""Simu 28 injunctions"" + +​ + +​ + +3. **Prior to the Mongol Invasion** \[918 \~ 1231\] + +There was a nomad para-Mongolic group called [Khitan](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Khitan_people) north of the Korean peninsula, which founded the Liao [dynasty](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liao_dynasty). (The group that the founder of Goryeo disdained in his 10 Injunctions) Goryeo had frequent military conflicts with them. Three stories are famous among modern Koreans: + +* The founder of *Goryeo* disliked Khitan so much that when the Khitan king sent him [50 camels](https://www.taekwondopreschool.com/history_koryo.html) as a gift, he tied up all the camels to a bridge and starved them to death +* [Seo Hui](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seo_Hui), a *Goryeo* diplomat, led 60,000 Khitan troops to withdraw, without battles \[993\] +* [Gang Gam-chan](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gang_Gam-chan)'s military victory over the Khitan army \[1019\] + * Using classical tactics of cutting the Khitan army's supplies and attacking them in the middle of retreat, General *Gang Gam-chan* annihilated 90,000 Khitan soldiers with a lot fewer casualties on Goryeo side. This is considered **one of the three greatest military victories** in Korean history + * the other two: [Battle of Salsu](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_of_Salsu) in *Goguryeo* against Sui invasion \[612\], and [Battle of Hansando](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_of_Hansan_Island) in *Joseon* against the Japanese invasion \[1592\] + * After this, Khitan and *Goryeo* made peace negotiations and a long period of peace followed + +​ + +Pre-Mongol-invasion culture of *Goryeo* \- during this time, a few well-known \[in Korea\] historical figures are: + +* [Kim Bu-sik](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim_Bu-sik) \- a Confucian scholar who wrote ""[The History of the Three Kingdoms](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Samguk_Sagi)"" - the oldest extant work of Korean history +* [Il-yeon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Il-yeon) \- a Buddhist monk who wrote ""[The Memorabilia of the Three Kingdoms](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Samguk_yusa)"" +* [Jinul](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jinul) \- a Buddhist monk, the founder of [Jogye Order](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jogye_Order) (which still exists) +* [Ui-cheon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uicheon) \- a Buddhist monk, the founder of [Cheontae Order](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cheontae) (which still exists) + +​ + +* **Porcelain**: [Goryeo Ware](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goryeo_ware) was well-known for its **distinct color** and qualities +* Ginseng: Korea was famous for its ginseng since the time of *Silla*, exporting it to nearby Tang and Japan. In the *Goryeo* era, Koreans started cultivating ginseng \[but wild ginseng was and is still considered a lot more valuable for cultural reasons\] +* Language: the oldest extant Korean [glossary](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jilin_leishi) was found that provides information about what Medieval Korean was like. Many core vocabularies are similar to modern ones. A relevant Reddit link: [https://www.reddit.com/r/Korean/comments/x64jps/an\_ancient\_korean\_glossary\_for\_a\_chinese/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Korean/comments/x64jps/an_ancient_korean_glossary_for_a_chinese/) + +​ + +At the end of this period, **a few military generals started taking power as a de facto ruler** of Goryeo, with puppet kings at the royal court. + +* Trigger: + * In 1167, at a royal banquet, the son of the famous Confucian scholar *Kim Bu-sik* (the author of the oldest Korean history chronicle) **burned a** [**respected military general**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeong_Jung-bu) ***Jeong Jung-bu***\*\*'s long beard with a candle\*\*, and made fun of him and also mocked the whole military. The military general developed serious animosity against aristocrats and civilian/Confucian officers after this + * In 1170, the aristocrats in the royal court forced an old general in his fifties to fight a young soldier. When the old general fell to the ground, a young civilian officer insulted and slapped him. [Jeong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeong_Jung-bu) couldn't stand it anymore and knocked the young civilian officer down. This triggered **the whole military officers to revolt and eventually kill most Confucian advisors** to the king. +* [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yi\_Ui-bang](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yi_Ui-bang): the first military ruler, and a distant ancestor of the founder of *Joseon* dynasty later on. He degenerated into a despot, and killed by *Jeong* +* [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeong\_Jung-bu](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeong_Jung-bu) the one whose beard was burnt. After killing *Yi*, he ruled the country himself, but had to deal with rebellions from all over the country (**Buddhist monk rebellions, slave rebellions**) +* [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gyeong\_Dae-seung](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gyeong_Dae-seung) the third. He had a private body guard of 100 troops called [Tobang](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tobang) that attended him all the time +* [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yi\_Ui-min](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yi_Ui-min) the fourth. He was born as a slave, and known to have been very tall and had great strength +* [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Choe\_Chung-heon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Choe_Chung-heon) the fifth one who consolidated power and passed it to his descendants (while retaining the puppet kings and royal court). **During his son's reign**, the Mongol Invasion happened + +​ + +​ + +4. [**Mongol Invasion**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mongol_invasions_of_Korea) \[1231 \~ 1257\] + +And Mongols came. + +Korean history textbooks tend to just say that when Mongols came, *Goryeo*'s military rulers heavily resisted, but eventually the royal court decided to surrender and become a vassal state. + +But when I think about it, it's a bit mysterious. In Korea, I've never heard of Mongol's biological warfare (catapulting plagued corpses into sieged cities) or the reign of terror and depopulating the cities. I learned it by studying the history of Mongol invasions in other regions. + +I don't know why Mongol cruelty is not so well-known and discussed in Korea even though Koreans **heavily resisted** the Mongol invasion. For example, during the Mongol invasion, a military dictator of Goryeo **moved the royal court and the entire population of the capital to** [an island](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mongol_invasions_of_Korea#Second_Mongol_invasion_of_Korea_(June_1232_%E2%80%93_December_1232)) to resist Mongols. A Korean Buddhist monk **killed the commander of the Horde**. + +* I don't know how this didn't end up in catapulting bubonic plagued corpses or the annihilation of the entire royal court and the original capital population. If I find good answers I will add it here. There's also a Reddit discussion about this [https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/ooo4qm/why\_did\_the\_mongols\_have\_such\_difficulties\_in/](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/ooo4qm/why_did_the_mongols_have_such_difficulties_in/) + +What seems crazy to me is that during the Mongol Invasion, the royal court and military rulers funded to build an **extremely large wooden Buddhist scripture** (that consists of 81,258 wooden printing blocks) called [Tripitaka Koreana](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tripitaka_Koreana) to call for **divine power and inspire patriotism** among peasants. This gigantic artefact is still well-preserved in [Haeinsa temple](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Haeinsa) in Southern Korea. + +* This type of Buddhism is sometimes called ""Patriot Buddhism"" in Korea. + +​ + +​ + +The capital **remained in the island for 27 years** resisting Mongols. The Mongols (with Korean collaborators) made multiple invasions and ravaged Korea. + +* The peasantry resisted for a long time, but they eventually surrendered with famine and despair. There was a colony of Goryeo defectors in Manchuria (Liaoning peninsula) +* The military ruler Choe clan that **insisted in resisting in the island** was eventually overthrown by the royal court and those who were tired of prolonged war + * A treaty was signed with Mongols that Goryeo remains as an **autonomous vassal state**, the kings of Goryeo **must marry Mongol princesses**. +* [Sambyeolcho](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sambyeolcho) \- The military ruler clan's core military unit. Even after the king’s surrender, they revolted and **still fought Mongols, moving from island to island** in the Southwest Korea. They ended up in Jeju ([Tamna](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tamna)) island, which had a distinct language and statehood back then. + * The Mongol finally crushed the rebellion in 1273 in Jeju, and took the island under the direct control. They used **Jeju island as a grassland and horse ranch**. The Mongol forces remained in Jeju for more than 100 years (there are a few loan words from Mongolian in [Jeju language](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeju_language)). As a result, Jeju is still famous for its ranches and [horse](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeju_horse)s + +​ + +\* The Mongols tried to invade Japan via Korea, but **typhoons called** [**Kamikaze**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kamikaze_(typhoon)) (""God's Wind"") thwarted the Mongol fleets. While **Korea was completely ravaged, but Japan was intact**. + +* I wonder this was what caused a version of [Great Divergence](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Divergence) that happened between the Korean Peninsula and Japanese archipelago. Korea declined economically and commercially, but Japan rose + +​ + +Mongol's dominance was just about 100 years, but it left a mark that still exists in the Korean culture. For example + +* Wedding (bridal) style: Korean traditional [bride](https://imgur.com/a/39HqYxl) and Mongol traditional [bride](https://imgur.com/a/9FAycUD) (from Wikipedia) + * It is said that the **red dot**s on the bride's face (*Yeonji gonji*) and **coronet** [Jokduri](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jokduri) originated from Mongol customs +* [Distilled liquor](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Korean_alcoholic_drinks#Distilled_liquors) was introduced by the Mongols. This is the origin of Soju +* Jeju island still being famous for its horses and ranches - they have several Mongol loanwords +* Mongolian language schools and textbooks survived well into the early years of *Joseon* dynasty + +​ + +Also, two people are famous for leaking technologies from Yuan China: + +* [Moon Ik-jeom](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mun_Ikjeom) **secretly brought cottonseeds in his writing brush cap** from Yuan China, and started cultivating in Southern Korea + * I don't know why but this story is very famous among Koreans +* [Choi Mu-seon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Choe_Museon) **brought gunpowder** from Yuan China, which was guarded as a secret. He engineered **cannons and firearms** that helped the founder of *Joseon* dynasty later on + +​ + +​ + +5. ***Goryeo*** **songs** + +Many of their songs and poems from this era were destroyed and abandoned as ""Songs of sexual affairs/lust (男女相悅之詞)"" or ""Lewd (淫亂)"" by neo-Confucian *Joseon* authorities later on. Some surviving songs are: + +**Gasiri** + +>Are you going away, going away? +> +>Leaving me alone, are you going away? +> +>How can I live with you gone away, +> +>Should I keep you but if displeased, +> +>I fear you would not come back +> +>Sadly I would let you go, so please +> +>Come back as soon as you leave + +\*\* I'm impressed how this theme of ""**a loved one leaving** *(for an unknown place, another country, or the other world; death)*"" is repeated over and over from the ancient time of *Gojoseon* and *Baekje* + +​ + +**Cheongsan Byeolgok (The Song of Green Mountains)** + +>To live, I wish to live +> +>In the green mountains I wish to live +> +>Eating wild grapes and hardy kiwis +> +>In the green mountains I wish to live +> +>*Yali Yali Yallasyeong Yallari Yalla* +> +>Cry, cry, birds +> +>Wake up, and cry, birds +> +>With more worries than you +> +>Upon waking I cry too +> +>*Yali Yali Yallasyeong Yallari Yalla* + +(Translation copied from [https://bodashiri.tumblr.com/post/132995526751/goryeo-folk-songs](https://bodashiri.tumblr.com/post/132995526751/goryeo-folk-songs)) + +​ + +**Ssanghwajeom (Dumpling store)** + +>I went to a dumpling store to buy dumplings (雙花), +> +>But a Hui daddy (\* a Muslim merchant) grabbed my wrist. +> +>If the words got out of this place, +> +>I will tell everyone that it was you, young, little clown. +> +>*Deoreodungsheong Darireodireo Darireodireo Daroreogeodireo Daroreo* +> +>I will go to that bed to sleep +> +>*Wi Wi Daroreogeodireo Daroreo* +> +>There's nowhere as messy/promiscuous like that + +[https://lyricstranslate.com/en/swanghwadyeom-ssanghwajeom.html](https://lyricstranslate.com/en/swanghwadyeom-ssanghwajeom.html) + +[https://world.kbs.co.kr/service/contents\_view.htm?lang=e&menu\_cate=culture&id=&board\_seq=45726](https://world.kbs.co.kr/service/contents_view.htm?lang=e&menu_cate=culture&id=&board_seq=45726) + +\*\* This is a surviving ""song of sexual affairs"" - it's a fun song. There's three other stanzas where a Buddhist monk, a pond dragon, and a pub owner ""grabs her wrist"" + +\*\* **Arab/Muslim merchants** were engaging in trade in Korea and Japan back then. *Goryeo* imported exotic luxuries such as Southeast Asian corals + +​ + +**Homosexuality in** ***Hanlim Byeolgok*** + +* There's a bunch of Chinese style poems called *Gyeonggi Chega*. Most of them are not considered as historically valuable because they're rather imitations of Chinese poems, but some of them got attention because their homosexual tones. +* For example, in a poem, a beautiful boy and a court official ride a swing together, they sing a romantic song together saying that they want to go on a picnic together without being disturbed by others. The male narrator also praises the boy's ""beautiful and delicate hand"" + * ([https://m-blog-naver-com.translate.goog/PostView.naver?isHttpsRedirect=true&blogId=3sang4&logNo=220534386477&\_x\_tr\_sl=ko&\_x\_tr\_tl=en&\_x\_tr\_hl=en&\_x\_tr\_pto=sc](https://m-blog-naver-com.translate.goog/PostView.naver?isHttpsRedirect=true&blogId=3sang4&logNo=220534386477&_x_tr_sl=ko&_x_tr_tl=en&_x_tr_hl=en&_x_tr_pto=sc)) + +​ + +​ + +***Jeong-gwa-jeong (Jeong***\*\*'s cucumber pavillion)\*\* + +Background story: + +* A courtier was exiled to present-day Busan (a Southern port city) on charges of treason in 1151. He built a pavilion, grew cucumbers, and played *geomungo* (Korean zither) to comfort his sadness. He wrote this song to plead his innocence and show his loyalty to the king. The pavilion still exists in Busan + +>Warbling and missing my lord, +> +>A mountain cuckoo I am. +> +>The settling moon and morning stars +> +>should know it's all frauds and lies +> +>Our souls should whenever be together +> +>Ah, who was it that so asserted? +> +>No errors no misdeeds whatsoever +> +>but all groundless stories. Ah, so sad +> +>How could you ever forget me? +> +>Lord, change your mind and think of me. + +(translation copied from [https://books.google.com/books?id=Xu0eQiua6PMC&pg=PA48&lpg=PA48&dq=jeonggwajeong&source=bl&ots=8VtIqCfn1K&sig=ACfU3U3\_b4gja7WS\_LK8IN9jGqLQG6BuZw&hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwihi4bz25L6AhVqkIkEHUIVBKQQ6AF6BAgrEAM#v=onepage&q=jeonggwajeong&f=false](https://books.google.com/books?id=Xu0eQiua6PMC&pg=PA48&lpg=PA48&dq=jeonggwajeong&source=bl&ots=8VtIqCfn1K&sig=ACfU3U3_b4gja7WS_LK8IN9jGqLQG6BuZw&hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwihi4bz25L6AhVqkIkEHUIVBKQQ6AF6BAgrEAM#v=onepage&q=jeonggwajeong&f=false)) + +​ + +​ + +​ + +6. **The Fall of** ***Goryeo*** \[1351-1392\] + +**Queer king and his Buddhist monk advisor** + +* [King Gongmin](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gongmin_of_Goryeo) married a Mongolian princess named [The Grand Queen Noguk](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Queen_Noguk), and deeply loved her. However, after she died from the childbirth complication, he started developing depression and ""mental instability."" + * He started **being pederastic with young men**, and ""went so far as to create a ministry whose sole purpose was to seek out and recruit young men from all over the country to serve in his court."" + * It is often said in Korea that the king also cross-dressed in a female clothes in court, but I can't find any credible source for that for now. Perhaps a myth. + * He was **most likely bisexual**. Later he got close to a female slave of his Buddhist monk advisor and had a son with her, who later became the next king. + * Interestingly, he's known as one of the best artists from the *Goryeo* era - some of his artworks survived to the present day. +* Mongol's dominance was weakening. Upon the advise from [Choi Young](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Choe_Yeong), a famous military general, King Gongmin **tried to cut the tie with the Mongols**, while establishing new ties with the rising Ming dynasty (Han Chinese dynasty). *Choi Young* **restored some of the northern territories** lost to Mongols. + * He tried to reform the land and country with the help of the [Buddhist monk advisor](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sin_Don) (who had a dubious background - being born between a princess and a slave) he trusted. However, this was met with fierce resistance from the aristocrats who had benefited from collaborating with the Mongols + * The Buddhist monk was killed from the political opposition + * Interestingly, King Gongmin was killed by a young man who had an affair with one of his concubines +* Overall, King Gongmin was not as bad a ruler, but it seems that his ambiguous sexuality contributed to the delegitimizing of him in later records + +​ + +***Choi Young*** and ***Yi Seong-gye*** + +* Two military generals played a central role in the later story. [**Choi Young**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Choe_Yeong)**,** a national hero who won many battles with his 2,000 Korean archers in the Red Turban Rebellion in Yuan China, was a loyal patriot. He restored some northern territories in the Korean peninsula in the reign of *Gongmin*. + * He came from a famous Confucian scholar family, and was known for his strict asceticism. His motto is still well known among Koreans - ""**Regard gold as nothing but mere stones**."" + * One of the *darugachi*s (Yuan governors) of northern territories who surrendered to him was ethnic Korean [Yi Ja-chun](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yi_Ja-chun), and his son **Yi Seong-gye**. +* [Yi Seong-gye](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taejo_of_Joseon) grew up to be an excellent military general, and repelled various foreign invasions - the remnants of Mongols, Red Turban rebels from China, and [Japanese pirates](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wokou) + +​ + +**Young king orders his generals to attack Ming China** + +* King Gongmin's son was enthroned at a young age. Ill-advised and inexperienced, he ordered his young general *Yi Seong-gye* to attack Ming China. +* *Yi Seong-gye* opposed the expedition from the beginning, though. He cited four reasons + +1. A smaller nation should not attack a larger nation, as it goes against the Confucian order of the world +2. It is harsh to campaign during the summer farming season, as it will result in a poor harvest for the populace +3. With the bulk of the men away to the north, Japanese pirates will have free rein in the south +4. Monsoon rains will reduce the effectiveness of composite bows, the army's main weapon, and will encourage the spread of infectious diseases in the camps. + +​ + +**Wihwado Retreat, and the killing of Choi Young and the king of Goryeo** \[1388\] + +* Despite Yi's opposition, the king sent his army to China. However, on the way to China **in an island in Yalu River (Korea-China border)**, Yi decided to **return to the capital of Goryeo and make a coup d'état**. This event is well-known among Koreans as [Wihwado Retreat](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wihwado_Retreat). +* *Choi Young*, the loyal general and former supervisor of Yi, defended the capital and royal court from Yi's army. However, he was eventually defeated, exiled, and later killed. He famously said that ""grass would never grow on my grave"" + * He became a popular marshall god in Korean shamanism later on + +​ + +**The Killing of Jung Mong-ju** \[1392\] + +* After the coup, Yi did not ascend to throne right away. He placed two puppet kings between the period of 1388-1392. Yi was well supported by most aristocrats and the general populace, but there were a few prominent **loyalists** for ideological (Confucian) reasons. +* Yi tried to **win over Goryeo loyalists**, and did many of his operations with his [ambitious third son](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taejong_of_Joseon). *Yi Bang-won*, the third son, sent a [famous poem](https://www.donga.com/en/article/all/20070630/253839/1) to [Jeong Mong-ju](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeong_Mong-ju), the most famous loyalist: + +​ + +>What's a big deal: this or that? +> +>What's a big deal even if the mountain’s kudzu vines become tangled? +> +>We’ll be tangled like this and long live and prosper + +​ + +Then the loyalist replied in a poem: + +>Though I die and die again a hundred times, +> +>That my bones turn to dust, whether my soul remains or not, +> +>Ever loyal to my Lord, how can this red heart ever fade away? + +​ + +After this*, Yi Bang-won* (the third son) invited *Jeong* (the loyalist) to a banquet. On the way home from the banquet **at night,** ***Jeong*** **was murdered by five men on the** ***Seonjuk Bridge*** (""Good Bamboo Bridge"") + +* It is said that you can still see his blood on the bridge. The bridge is in the capital of Goryeo, in present-day North Korea + +​ + +*Yi Seong-gye* soon deposed the king, and **crowned himself as the founder of a new dynasty,** ***Joseon***. \[1392\] + +​ + +​ + +The history of Joseon is extremely well documented - both in classical Chinese (official court records) and vernacular Korean with the invent of the Korean writing system in 1443. + +* Much of Goryeo royalty was executed. It is said in Korea that **anyone with the last name** ***Wang*** **was killed**, or changed their last name to survive. +* The [extant official historical record](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goryeosa) about *Goryeo* was written in Joseon dynasty - it is said that the history written by the Goryeo dynasty themselves was burned and abandoned later. Thus, current scholarship tends to be careful about potential biases in the record. +* The *Goryeo-Joseon* transition is one of the most dramatized events in pre-modern Korean history, so the description was a bit lengthy.",0 +4123,"JSTOR Daily: Mussolini’s Colonial Inspiration - In its plans for the conquest of Eastern Europe, the Third Reich looked to the example set in Africa by Fascist Italy.. ",0 +4124,"Chester Arthur: A Birthplace Controversy, 1880. ",0 +4125,We should be wary about what Big History overlooks in its myth. ,0 +4126,"Massive ""rare"" ancient Roman mosaic, ""rich in details,"" unearthed in Syria. ",0 +4127,"The islands of Jersey and Guernsay, secretely French? (I know it sounds like clickbait, but it's not). You all know that the islands of Jersey and Guernsey came into English sovereignty in 1066 when the Duke of Normandy Guillaume le Bâtard became the king of England William the Conqueror. The Duchy of Normandy wasn't a part of England, it was still a part of France (the Duke was the vassal of the Capetian kings). Normandy and England were simply under a personal union. + +But today, Jersey and Guernsey are still under English (well, british now) sovereignty, and aside a few tries from France, it kept being the dominions of the kings of England. Important note, it's a ""Crown dependency, not a constituant part of the UK. + +That's where my journey begins: I just wanted to ask the simple question: ""when did Jersey and Guernsey ceased to be a part of France?"" My researches on wiki led to different answers in the French page (1204) and in the English page (1259), so I had to dig up a bit further. I looked at the treaties listed, but couldn't find any mention of the islands in those treaties. + +Then I found this document, from the 1952-1953 dispute between France and the UK over the sovereignty of the islands of the Ecreous and Minquiers : [https://www.icj-cij.org/public/files/case-related/17/8999.pdf](https://www.icj-cij.org/public/files/case-related/17/8999.pdf) +It's the British response. In this document, the British government did all the research for me (hurray). For those willing to read the document, the interesting part begins at section 106 (page 84 of the PDF). + +During this judgement, the sovereignty of Jersey and Guernsey was reaffirmed to be British, which was not in doubt. But the section 121 (page 92) quote an historian that claims that even after the territorial Normandy was lost by the English kings that only kept the islands, those islands were still part of France. And there seems to be a lack of legal document proving that the islands ceased to be French at some point. + +The section 127 (pages 94-95) is the most interesting. The british government is using bad faith there, with such words as ""***de facto***"", ""*such a suzerainty* ***would*** *only have been of a very tenuous nature*"" and ""*such sovereignty (suposing it ever to have existed)* ***certainly*** *ceased in time to be even a matter of form*"". So while the British government strongly denies it, there is not a real argument grounded in legal right that would deny to those islands the fact that they are not part of France anymore. + +In conclusion, considering the lack of evidence proving that Jersey and Guernsey ever ceased to be part of France, and also considering that those islands are technically not part of the UK either, we can assume that jersey and Guernsey (or should I say Guernesey?) are French islands. A French territory under British sovereignty. The fact that Elizabeth II is only Duke of Normandy in those islands and not Queen seems to validate this claim too.",0 +4128,How a Black man rose to prominence at the height of Britain’s slave trade. ,0 +4129,Redefining Reciprocity: Appointment Edicts and Political Thought in Medieval China. ,0 +4130,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, March 12, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So, do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke. + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4131,How was the Roman army paid?. ,0 +4132,"Looking for community members to strengthen the moderator team.. Hi! + +As a more serious large subreddit it takes a lot of work to maintain /r/history. This also means that we are [always looking to add a few more mods](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/mod_application) to the /r/history team. + +Because it is easy to overlook the link in the sidebar we also make one of these posts once in a while. Feel free to ask any questions. + +## What do we expect from \/r/history moderators? + +Here is a quick overview of the general things we are looking for: + +- **Experienced with reddit and \/r/history:** We are looking for experienced redditors who have been active on reddit with an account that is at least 1 year old. In addition to that we are looking for people who have contributed productively to this community. +- **A firm interest in history:** We want people that are interested in the subject, so obviously you need to have a firm interest in history. +- **Communicative towards users and fellow moderators:** You will communicate with other users on a regular basis, for this you need to be communicative, mature and civil. Lots of mod decisions are discussed in our backroom subreddit, modmail and discord, so you will need to be able to work well together with the other team members. +- **Free time:** You don't need to have a ton of time on your hands, but when you get accepted you should have enough time to actually carry out moderating duties. +- **Thick skin:** history is a subject people often try to use to push their agenda. When they are not allowed to do so they can get rather nasty. +- **Willingness to install and use third party tools:** This includes browser extensions aimed at mods as found on /r/toolbox which are essential for moderating as well as using applications for chatting with the team on discord. + +Some of the responsibilities include: + +- Review unmoderated links and modqueue reports and remove off topic and rule breaking content. +- Answer subscriber questions in modmail. +- Enforce sidebar rules. + +If you have no idea how moderating works on reddit and want to check out more about that first you can have a look at [this guide](https://www.reddit.com/r/creesch/wiki/historymod101). + +## What do I get in return? + +There is no monetary reward as it is all volunteer work. However you do get a better subreddit in return and a very friendly team work with. + +## Great, how do I apply? + + + +We'd like you to send us a modmail answering a few questions. Use [this prefilled link to modmail](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2Fhistory&subject=Mod%20application&message=%23%20In%20what%20time%20zone%20are%20you%20located%3F%20%28UTC%29%20%0A%0A%0A%23%20What%20times%20during%20the%20day%20are%20you%20usually%20most%20active%20on%20reddit%3F%20%0A%0A%0A%23%20What%20about%20history%20do%20you%20like%3F%20%0A%0A%0A%23%20What%20about%20%2Fr%2Fhistory%20%28the%20subreddit%29%20do%20you%20like%3F%20%0A%0A%0A%23%20What%20about%20%2Fr%2Fhistory%20do%20you%20dislike%3F%20%0A%0A%0A%23%20If%20there%20is%20one%20rule%20you%20would%20change%2Fadd%20what%20would%20it%20be%3F%20%0A%0A%0A%23%20Do%20you%20have%20any%20mod%20experience%3F%20If%20so%2C%20where%3F%20%0A%0A%0A%23%20Why%20do%20you%20want%20to%20become%20a%20%2Fr%2Fhistory%20moderator%3F%20%0A%0A%0A%23%20What%20would%20make%20you%20a%20good%20%2Fr%2Fhistory%20moderator%3F%20%0A%0A%0A%23%20What%20do%20you%20believe%20to%20be%20the%20role%20of%20a%20moderator%20in%20a%20subreddit%3F%20%0A%0A%0A%23%20Is%20there%20anything%20else%20you%20want%20us%20to%20know%3F%20%0A), if clicking this link does not work simply copy the questions from [this template](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/mod_application_template) and send the answers to /r/history modmail. +## How long will the applications be open for? + +We are always looking for new moderators so there is no end date as it is an ongoing process. + +## Good luck! + +The /r/history moderating team.",0 +4133,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, January 01, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke.",0 +4134,Sacrificial Chilli-Eating Monkey Found At Teotihuacán Was Gift From The Maya: Earliest evidence of primate captivity and translocation supports gift diplomacy between Teotihuacan and the Maya. ,0 +4135,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, December 25, 2021. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke.",0 +4136,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, March 05, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So, do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke. + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4137,Electric cars from the past. ,0 +4138,"Bookclub Wednesday, January 05, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist)",0 +4139,"Bookclub Wednesday, December 22, 2021. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist)",0 +4140,Why Were Medieval Monks So Susceptible to Intestinal Worms?. ,0 +4141,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, May 14, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So, do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our regular rules and guidelines still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +Questions need to be historical in nature. +Silly does not mean that your question should be a joke. +r/history also has a discord server where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts",0 +4142,"Bookclub Wednesday, December 29, 2021. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist)",0 +4143,"[AskHistorians X-Post] AMA with Dr. Rebecca Simon, author of 'Pirate Queens: The Lives of Anne Bonny & Mary Read', here to talk about gender, pirates, and maritime history!. ",0 +4144,"I have the first English translation (2021) of the only eyewitness account of the famous ""Attack of the Dead Men"" from ""The Defense of the Fortress Osowiec” (1915). I would like to share it with you all.. Just to catch anyone up and for those unfamiliar, [The Attack of the Dead Men](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attack_of_the_Dead_Men) was and still is an amazing battle where just under 1000 men drove off 14 battalions of Germans after suffering a horrific gas attack, the name coming from the zombie-like appearance of the Russian defenders. I first heard about this battle a few years ago on some corner of the internet and tried to do some research on it but all I could uncover was a stub of a Wikipedia article, a few 2-3min pop history videos on YouTube and a short Russian movie about it. No primary or real scholarly source. + +I offhandedly mentioned this to a Russian friend of mine and after some digging she told me that its actually not too well known in Russia either. She had found a few people talking about it on Russian history blogs but information was scarce, apparently information on the battle had been surprised following the Russian Revolution on account of it being the heroics of a Tsarist army. All the Russian history blogs pointed to one book, printed in 1917, just before the Russian Revolution. Its seemingly extremely rare with only a few Russian libraries having copies. + +Fast-forward a few months and on my birthday she presents me with a translation of the text (specifically the account of Osowiec) that she had spent moths translating to create the first and only copy of this account in English. + +I know she worked as a translator and interpreter for the UN for a while so I trust her work + +I have copied it from a pdf so if there are any issues or typos, its probably because of that + +Without further ado, here it is in full. + +​ + +​ + +# Preface from the translator + +This is a translation of an extract from the book called “The Defense of the Fortress + +Osovets”. The book describes the second attack on the fortress Osovets by the German troops + +in WW1. The second attack started in January 1915 and lasted for 6.5 months where the first 6 + +months and some days were devoted to mutual cannon fire. The first 40 pages or so of the book + +describe the terrain, the available weapons and the cannon fire in minute detail. I skipped those + +pages and translated only the part that is about the famous poison gas attack made by the + +Germans against the defenders of the fortress Osovets. + +The authors of the book, officers Sveshnikov and Bunyakovsky, were in the fortress Osovets + +at the time and took part in the described events. The book was published in 1917 before the + +Russian revolution. Due to that fact, the authors are using the old-timey pre-revolution Russian + +which differs in several ways from the modern Russian instilled by the Communist party after + +1917 and possesses a sort of special lilting, long-winded charm which I tried to preserve (not + +sure how successful I was). I also preserved the italicization of the original text. + +The book was written with the intention of being used by military historians interested in this + +period and as such it is not nearly as dramatic in the description of the gas attack as later + +retellings; in fact, it was only called “the attack of the dead men” much later for the purposes of + +amping up the drama. It is, however, the most accurate and detailed (and, to my knowledge, + +more or less the only one) witness account that has survived over the century that has passed + +since. The book in its physical form is only available in one or two of the biggest libraries in + +Russia, most copies having been lost or destroyed, and fans of military history are sharing it + +with each other as a pdf in their blogs. + +Also, the book contains a large number of illustrations, such as military maps and weapon + +schematics. I translated one such map covering the general area around Osovets in Photoshop + +for you to have a clearer picture of what is going on and where everything is happening. + +Hope you enjoy this text. Happy birthday! + +​ + +[Picture #3. The development of the fortress Osovets.](https://imgur.com/a/Z8RygDj) + +The Gas Attack of July 24 th + +On the 24 th of July our troops at the Sosnenskaya theatre of operations (TO) were situated as + +follows: + +The right flank of the Sosnenskaya TO by the village of Belogrondy was occupied by three + +squadrons (the 1 st squadron of the Zemlyansky regiment and 2 squadrons of militia men). Their + +task was to cover the first – the main – area of the Sosnenkaya TO from the right and cover the + +Zarechny fort from the north side using the second road leading to the Zarechny fort via the + +Budnensky bridge. + +The centre of the Sosnenskaya TO and the left flank between the Rudsky channel and the + +Sosnya village were occupied by 1.5 battalions (including 1 battalion of the Zemlyansky + +regiment and 2 squadrons of militia men), situated in the following manner: + +The first area of the Sosnenskaya TO along the railroad, as well as the Leonovo community, + +was occupied by one squadron (number 10); they had a partial support from half a squadron of + +militia men. These troops covered a most important way along the railroad and the Rudsky + +channel towards the Zarechny fort. + +The second area was occupied by one squadron (number 9) which was also supported by + +half a squadron of militia men. + +The third and fourth areas were also occupied by one squadron each (the 12 th and 11 th + +squadrons of the Zemlyansky regiment). + +One squadron of militia men was situated by the forest ranger’s house, in reserve of the + +Sosnenskaya TO. + +In view of this, the whole of the Sosnenskaya TO up to the village of Belogrondy was + +occupied only by nine squadrons (three of them consisting of militia men). In order to strengthen + +the reserves of the Sosnenskaya TO, same as every day during this period of defence, one + +more battalion of the Zemlyansky regiment was sent from the Zarechny fort on the night from + +the 23 rd to the 24 th , however, just before dawn, around 3 AM, this battalion returned to the + +Zarechny fort as usual to rest after their night watch. Due to the small numbers of the garrison, it + +was not possible to leave a lot of troops at the Sosnenskaya TO. + +Against our 1.5 battalions the Germans brought about 12 battalions of the 11 th Landwehr + +division and besides that, according to the accounts of captives, about 6 battalions were kept in + +reserve. + +Against the village of Belogrondy the Germans sent the 5 th Landwehr regiment together with + +the 41 st ersatz-reserve battalion. Their task, it seems, was to break through our defence in + +Belogrondy and furthermore to take over the Zarechny fort from the north side. + +Against the first and second areas the Germans sent the 18 th Landwehr regiment together + +with the 147 th ersatz-reserve battalion whose mission was to break through the center of the + +Sosnenskaya TO cutting off the left flank troops and making them retreat to the marshes, as + +well as attacking the Zarechnaya TO via the Rudsky bridge. + +The 76 th Landwehr regiment was tasked with taking over the village of Sosnya and then + +advancing towards the forest ranger’s house in order to act against the left flank troops of the + +Sosnenskaya TO. These infantry troops were strengthened by the 1 st combat engineer battalion + +and parts of the 36 th combat engineer battalion. + +The 75 th Landwehr regiment was advancing along the railroad staying in reserve. Apart from + +the 14 battalions listed above, according to the words of captives 2 more regiments (numbers + +unknown) were also in the reserve of the attackers. + +During recent preparations for an attack, over 30 gas batteries (several thousands of gas + +cylinders) were delivered and installed in 4 places in front of the enemy trenches, 6-7 batteries + +per installment. According to the captives, the batteries had been stealthily installed + +approximately 13 days before the attack and during this period of time the enemy was waiting + +for the most convenient atmospheric conditions in order for the poison gas to be at its most + +devastating. + +The Release of the Gas and Its Impact + +At 4 AM on the 24 th of July the gas was released. It was of a dark green colour. The exact + +recipe of it, having chlorine in its base, was hard to determine, however, there was undoubtedly + +some other addition that intensified the choking effect. + +The dense cloud of gas reached our trenches after only 5-10 minutes. It was heading + +towards the fortress fast, having a high starting speed and expanding to the sides (its initial size + +was no more than 2 versts \[a verst = 1.0668 kilometres\]) and up. + +The impact of the gas cloud was such that, on the one hand, it created a cover hiding the + +movements of the enemy, and on the other hand, it brought lethal poisoning to everything it + +touched. The first victims of the poisoned fumes were scout parties and secret sentries who all + +died. Despite the measures taken, such as burning tow and hay in front of the trenches, pouring + +and spraying of lime white and wearing respirators, almost all defenders of the 1 st , the 2 nd , the + +4 th and half of the 3 rd area of the Sosnenskaya TO were poisoned by the choking gas to death. + +Half of the people in the reserve of the Sosnenskaya TO were also poisoned. The expansion + +of the gas forward measured almost 20 versts, with the height of the cloud being 5-6 sazhen \[a + +sazhen = 2.1336 m\], but the devastating impact of the gas was notable up to 12 versts after + +which its influence weakened greatly. + +Along with the lethal assault on our front troops, the poison of the gas also overwhelmed the + +majority of the defenders of the fortress, getting into even tightly closed rooms. All flora over + +more than 12 versts was burned by the gas. + +The garrison took all of the recommended measures against the gas but it turned out that the + +anti-gas masks available at the time only helped against the gas very little due to the small size + +of their neutralizing area and possibly due to the fact that using them in combat was incredibly + +difficult as it was hard to tie them on and keep them fitted tight to the skin; it was especially a + +challenge for the officers who, while commanding the soldiers, had to take the masks off or lift + +them up temporarily. The strength of the gas was partly diminished by the conditions of the + +climate and local geography: the morning of the 24 th was cold, foggy and damp, and after + +having passed over the wet marshes, the river and the moats the gas was considerably + +weakened which saved the garrison from enormous losses. + +The actions of the attacking parties + +After the release of the gas, the enemy instantly sent up red flares everywhere, signaling that + +the gas had been released and the movement of the troops for frontal assault could now begin. + +After the flares all German batteries opened heavy fire equally at all areas of the + +Sosnenskaya TO, especially at the village of Osovets seeing as the Germans were afraid of us + +attacking the advancing enemy flanks from there; the fire also covered the only road leading + +from the reserve of the Sosnenskaya TO via the Rudsky channel to the Zarechny fort which was + +the only place capable of sending reinforcements to Sosnya, and lastly they fired at the + +Zarechny fort, the Zarechnaya TO, the other forts and the base area, and meanwhile the + +artillery shells were also filled with a concoction that, at the explosion of the shells, created + +clouds of choking gas. + +Under the cover of the artillery fire and choking gas the infantry started their assault. + +The attackers’ plan was of two parts: the first one – sending scouts ahead to investigate the + +impact of the gas on the defenders of the trenches, and the second one – storming the TO. + +The scouts were assigned, numbering 200 people from each regiment, and the main + +attacking forces moved in two lines, keeping their ranks closed and having the reserves behind + +them. + +At first the Germans attacked the first area of the Sosnenskaya TO which they were the + +closest to before July 24 th ; besides, a frontal attack may have been more difficult for the + +Germans but in case of success they would have cut off the centre and the left flank of the + +Sosnenskaya TO while pushing the troops occupying those areas out into the marshes and + +separating the Sosnenskaya and Belogrondskaya TOs. + +By this time in the first area only two soldiers with machine guns were left alive. They wanted + +to open fire at the advancing Germans but were so weakened by the gas that they were not + +able to do it; then they dismantled the machine guns and buried the parts right there in the sand + +nearby and they themselves died right there, in the machine-gun nest. + +Having quickly cut about 10 passages through the three lines of wire fences in front of the + +first area, the Germans flooded the area and went further on both sides of the railroad. The + +extremely heavy fire opened at that moment by our artillery made most of the Germans scatter + +and only some parts of the 18 th Landwehr regiment broke through and reached the trenches of + +the reserves of the Sosnenskaya TO. + +Continuing the frontal assault, they managed to reach the second area where the majority of + +defenders had also succumbed to the gas. From there a part of their forces made their way to + +the flank of the third area and another part continued advancing towards the reserves. + +At the same time the 76 th Landwehr regiment, having gathered in the forest to the west and + +south-west of the village of Sosnya and having lost approximately a thousand of their people to + +their own gas which had crept towards the west as they approached the fortress, attacked the + +village of Sosnya where very few remained alive by then. After crushing the skulls of 36 dead + +men , a part of the enemy forces moved from there towards the flank and the rear of the third + +area. In the meantime one of the fortress machine gunners took his machine gun with him, + +moved away from the village of Sosnya and, having situated himself between the village of + +Sosnya and the third area, began shooting the Germans surrounding him at point-blank range. + +He managed to spend 2 ammunition belts but when he was inserting the third one into the gun, + +the Germans used the break, attacked him and tore him to pieces; only his forehead was left + +intact. + +After that the Germans moved to the third area, surrounded it and attacked it from three + +sides but could not take it because the defenders continued to fight them off stubbornly with rifle + +and machine gun fire. + +At that time the Germans who had been advancing from the first and the second areas + +reached the trenches of the reserve and started climbing the wire fences. Their advancement + +had cut off Belogrondy as they had passed the spot with the only bridge connecting the + +Belogrondskaya TO with the Sosnenskaya one and the rest of the fortress. + +Due to the fact that the wire net only covered half the distance between the railroad and the + +Rudsky channel, some separate German parties started going around in order to attack the + +reserve from behind as they could not succeed from the front. + +As a result, out of the whole front of the Sosnenskaya TO we only had the third area left with + +us; it separated the Germans operating to the left and to the right of it. The Germans advancing + +along the railroad were in a hurry to increase their success and separated into several lines + +which followed one another and couldn’t support each other in case we counterattacked. + +The leading troops attacked the position of the reserve while the last troops were still near + +the Leonovo community which they were adapting for their own defence. + +The leader of the Sosnenskaya TO captain Potapov, seeing the critical situation his people + +were in, ordered the militia men squadron that was in reserve to move forward and take over the + +rear trenches on the hill. Thanks to this order the enemy was stalled; in the meantime the + +captain asked for reinforcements from the head of the 2 nd defense department. + +At the time when at the Sosnenskaya TO the enemy, meeting almost no resistance from the + +poisoned defenders of the 1 st , 2 nd and 4 th areas of the Sosnenskaya TO, took those areas and + +closed in on the reserve, at the Belogrondskaya TO the Germans, counting about 2 squadrons, + +followed the gas and attacked the village of Belogrondy from north-west where by that time the + +area of approximately 2 versts only contained about 20 survivors with 2 machine guns one of + +which was operated by the warrant officer Retyunsky of the Zemlyansky regiment and the other + +one by a machine gunner of the fortress artillery force. The Germans managed to cut down one + +row of the wire fence pickets within 50 seconds but were driven away by the machine gun fire. + +After that they regrouped twice for an attack but were scattered by the machine gun and + +artillery fire, and also their further advancement in the section between the villages of Osovets + +and Belogrondy was likely partially stalled by the appearance in their flank and rear of the + +scouts of the Livensky regiment that had been sent from the Budnenskaya TO to find out the + +situation at the Sosnenskaya TO. + +Due to this critical situation which the garrison of the Sosnenskaya TO was in, and also + +realizing that the current state of affairs was a direct threat to the Zarechny fort and the + +Zarechnaya TO–as the Germans only had to defeat the reserve before storming the + +fortress–the fortress artillery was ordered to create a curtain of fire in front of the Sosnenskaya + +TO and the head of the 2 nd defense department, colonel Kataev, was ordered to counterattack + +with the available units of the Zemlyansky regiment. + +The fortress artillerists, poisoned by the gas, could not start firing right away which was why + +the point units and the first line of the enemy got through the front of the Sosnenskaya TO and + +stabbed the remaining defenders, seizing the anti-assault weapons and machine guns, but the + +curtain of fire from the fortress artillery forces cut the enemy’s reserves from the first line, + +stopped their assault and drove them back with big losses. + +The head of the 2 nd defense department ordered the 13 th squadron to move from the + +Zarechny fort to the Sosnenskaya TO, halt the Germans’ advancement towards the fortress at + +any cost and gain back the lost 1 st area of the Sosnenskaya TO. The 14 th and the 8 th squadrons + +were sent after them with the following orders: firstly to take back the village of Sosnya and + +secondly to take back the 2 nd area of the Sosnenskaya TO. + +The 13 th squadron which was the garrison of the Zarechny fort had already lost 20 men to + +poison gas; the commander of the squadron sub-lieutenant Kotlinsky was also poisoned but + +remained in the ranks. Combat-engineer officer sub-lieutenant Strzheminsky volunteered to be + +deployed with this squadron in order to ascertain during the fight what fortification constructions + +would be necessary within the Sosnenskaya TO. + +The squadron, already strongly poisoned by the choking gas, crossed the bridge and the + +one-verst-long log way under heavy artillery fire from the enemy, formed a line and started an + +attack along the railway. + +Having stepped out onto the reserve echelon line, sub-lieutenant Kotlinsky personally + +conducted reconnaissance and, assessing the situation correctly, led his squadron into a swift + +attack from 500 paces toward the advancing German lines. The Germans opened heavy rifle + +and machine gun fire at the 13 th squadron and it didn’t stop the charge despite the fact the + +sub-lieutenant Kotlinsky was at this moment lethally wounded and gave the command of the + +squadron to combat-engineer officer sub-lieutenant Strzheminsky. The latter unsheathed his + +sword and with a yell of “Hurrah!” charged at the Germans, leading the squadron. The terrain of + +the attack was difficult: the ruins of old blindages were holes in the ground which people fell in; + +planks and logs stuck out everywhere, etc., but the brave squadron, truly worthy of their late + +commander, finished their swift attack and, using their bayonets, forced the Germans to + +abandon their positions and then also the front trenches of the 1 st and 2 nd areas of the + +Sosnenskaya TO; in the meanwhile 14 prisoners were captured. Our anti-assault weapons and + +machine guns that were in the trenches and had been previously taken by the Germans were + +won back from the enemy in good condition. Sub-lieutenant Strzheminsky was suffering from + +acute poisoning from the choking gas but remained in the ranks. + +After retaking the 1 st and 2 nd areas of the Sosnenskaya TO and finding out that the village of + +Belogrondy was now ours, the attack at the Leonovo community began. + +The terrain made the attack difficult. Our own wide wire fences were blocking the way. + +Attacking was only possible along the line of communication whose length was fired at by the + +Germans from the trench between the 2 nearest wire fences. We had to employ the French + +method of trench warfare with hand grenades and move forward using gun shields. + +The fortress artillery focused their fire on the Leonovo community and their efforts went + +beyond all expectations. The square plot of land, 50 paces in size, was bombarded from 9 + +heavy batteries and 2 light ones, and also our troops opened fire at the enemy’s rear from the + +Belogrondskaya TO and the first area. As a result, the Germans were mostly killed, with only a + +few of them having had time to retreat, and there was even no need to attack with bayonets, + +and that was how by 10 AM we had taken over the last and most important bastion of the + +Germans. + +At the time when at the first area there was fighting to retake the first area and the second + +one, as well the Leonovo community, and when the gas started to disperse, the head of the 3 rd + +area, the commander of the 12 th squadron sub-lieutenant Cheglokov, having found out that the + +Germans were separated into 2 forces by his area and that one of those forces had taken over + +the village of Sosnya and was determined to overwhelm the 3 rd area from the flank and the rear, + +immediately moved a platoon to the flank and opened heavy rifle and machine gun fire at the + +Germans in order to prevent their takeover. + +Despite attacking fiercely, the Germans were defeated twice and had to retreat to the village + +of Sosnya where, hiding in the folds of the terrains and in the tall rye, they continued to shoot. + +At this moment the 14 th squadron which had been sent to support the left flank of the + +Sosnenskaya TO arrived. Sub-lieutenant Cheglokov together with his people and half the 14 th + +squadron assumed the offensive energetically and, despite the Germans’ strong resistance, he + +personally led the troops into a bayonet attack which forced the Germans out of the trenches of + +the village of Sosnya (the 4 th area) which he completely took over, returning our previously + +captured cannons and machine guns and also taking 14 prisoners. + +The 8 th squadron which had been sent out after the 14 th squadron reinforced the second area + +of the Sosnenskaya TO and helped to keep it. + +In this way, by 11 AM, that is, after 7 hours, the famous gas attack was finished and it was + +brilliantly and selflessly resisted by parts of the glorious Zemlyansky regiment. + +All direct commanders of the fortress, officers and soldiers of the Zemlyansky regiment and + +the fortress artillery forces, poisoned by the gas in their majority, displayed heroism, + +selflessness and resourcefulness. The tiniest delay in sending the squadron out for a + +counterattack, any tardiness in firing by the fortress artillery – they could all have led not only to + +losing the Sosnenskaya TO but also to the Germans taking over the Zarechnaya TO and the + +Zarechny fort the loss of which to the enemy would inevitably result in the fall of the fortress. + +The captured Germans taken during the gas attack said that every attacker from the highest + +commanders to the last private of the German division had been certain that this time the + +garrison could not be saved, that nothing could withstand the power of the gaseous poison. The + +certainty that the whole garrison would perish from the gas had been so great that the Germans + +had assigned several squadrons in advance for burying the dead, and all carts had been + +prepared and ready to enter Osovets. For that reason the first shot and then the increasing fire + +from the fortress artillery was extremely astonishing and therefore it was possible to understand + +all the atrocities that the conniving enemy carried out against the honoured heroes who died for + +the precious stronghold. + +The enemy’s new unsuccessful attempt to take the fortress via a gas attack did not + +discourage further efforts and, while continuing their blanketing fire, they, according to the words + +of the Polish soldiers who had defected to the fortress, started to prepare the second, an even + +more lethal gas attack; but this second attack was late thanks to the fortress evacuation that + +followed. + +All in all, this gas attack was the end of the military operations by the fortress. Although the + +Germans continued firing at the fortress, it was no longer as intense as previously. During this + +period of firing, scout parties from both sides went out to explore and some skirmishes occurred + +between small squads. + +On the 4 th of August the fourth and the last period of the siege and defense of the fortress + +was over. + +I hope this was of interest to some people, and anyone else who may come across this in the years to come.",0 +4145,"Bookclub Wednesday, March 02, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist)",0 +4146,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, February 26, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke.",0 +4147,The Plot to Out Ronald Reagan. ,0 +4148,"What was pre-Christian religion in England?. We know a lot about pre-Christian religion in Europe, but sources for England appear less clear. Most of the evidence is archeological/linguistic rather than being based on written sources -- given writing largely came with Christianity, means written accounts (Bede etc.) are unreliable. Even Roman accounts (Gallic wars etc.) appear slanted to Roman religion rather than other beliefs. + +I'm focused interested in religion in England -- i.e., the lands that would be subject to Roman / Anglo-Saxon / Danish/Norse rule (i.e., Wessex, Mercia, Northumbria, Danelaw) and then latterly known as England from 927 AD. + +As far as I can tell there was predominately: + +1. pre-43 AD: Celtic religion +2. 43 AD - c. 410: Roman religion and Roman / Celtic hybrids, some Christianity +3. c. 410 - c. 600: Anglo-Saxon / Germanic religion, some Christianity +4. c. 600 onwards: Christianity + +What was the nature of the pre-Christian religions -- what were their deities (gods, demigods, mystical beings, etc.), practices, myths and beliefs? How did these combine with other religions - Roman, Norse/Germanic, Christian?",0 +4149,"Bookclub Wednesday, February 02, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist)",0 +4150,"Bookclub Wednesday, January 12, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist)",0 +4151,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, March 19, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So, do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke. + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4152,"Stonehenge was a solar calendar, according to research. ",0 +4153,"Benjamin Disraeli and the Jewish Community. I’m curious to know about the relationship between Prime Minister Benjamin Disraeli and the Jewish community in the United Kingdom, and in the wider Empire. I know he converted as a child to Anglicanism, and whilst I’ve not read anything to suggest he was an especially fervent Christian, I’ve not read anything to suggest he covertly practiced Judaism. I do know that he would play up his ‘exotic’ ancestry for characteristic showboating, but not much beyond that. So, how did British Jews perceive him? Especially the large families like the Rothschilds, did he actively keep a distant for fear of encouraging anti-semitism against his own person? Was he seen as an ally or a traitor? Was he even regarded as remotely Jewish by practicing Jews at all? I think it’s fascinating that Britain had a Prime Minister born to a Jewish family in the late 19th century, but this aspect of his identity is not discussed in great detail.",0 +4154,"Whenever grain was in short supply in feudal Europe, bakers had two choices: They could either raise prices or sell smaller loaves. They chose the latter. To do otherwise would invite a bread riot.. ",0 +4155,"Why did Rome lose its militaristic society by the late empire?. Hello, R/History, i am curious as to why Roman society shifted so much in respects to its martial culture. In the republic and mid-empire most politicians had to have some form of military experience and prestige gained in war, Scipio, marius, ceasar and most emperors up to trajan had some form of military leadership that helped legitimize their powet and influence and Rome at the time had a very active hand in the tribes on their border not fearing to fight them or influence their politics. But as i was reading about the Eastern Roman Empire i see emperors who never led an army personally like Justinian and those emperors using theocratic structures to gain legitimized rule and they bribe the tribes to leave them alone and have a very defensive military structure and tactics. Why is that how did rome go from a militaristic offensive society to the settled borders and less militaristic Eastern Roman Empire. Sources would be appreciated, - Thank You",0 +4156,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, January 15, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke.",0 +4157,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, April 09, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So, do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke. + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4158,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, December 11, 2021. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke.",0 +4159,Encounter: Ulysses S. Grant Talks War With Otto von Bismarck. ,0 +4160,"Viking-era sword, jewellery and large grave field discovered in southern Finland | News | Yle Uutiset. ",0 +4161,"Bookclub Wednesday, March 23, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist) + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4162,"Bookclub Wednesday, March 16, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist) + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4163,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, February 12, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke.",0 +4164,Signs of Revolutionary War POW camp unearthed in Pennsylvania. ,0 +4165,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, April 16, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So, do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke. + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4166,"Did the Medieval Romans Abolish Slavery?. According to Helene Glykatzi-Ahrweiler, a well-known Greek-French Byzantinologist, who has produced a large bibliography of historical books concerning the Medieval Roman Empire, and who was also a Principal of the University of Paris 1 Panthéon-Sorbonne between 1976 and 1981 (first woman to achieve this) and currently is a corresponding member of the Academia in Britain, Greece, Germany, Bulgaria and Belgium, and has a number of honorary doctorates and numerous decorations from the French State, that might be the case. + +In her book ""Γιατί το Βυζάντιο"" (Why Byzantium), released in Greece in 2010 (which to my knowledge has not yet been translated to English), she claims that in the context of Christian philanthropy, projected by the emperorship as a high moral virtue which they aimed to express in their external policies, and particularly peacemaking, the Byzantines were led to abolish legal slavery in the 12th century AD. She offers a passage written by Eustathios of Thessalonica, where he writes ""God calls us all sons, yet we dare to debase our brothers in the level of slaves"", which she claims was written to the Roman Emperor Manuel Komnenos, who had issued legal guarantees for the personal liberties of the Byzantines. + +Now, there are some contemporary statements from the time period which might be what she is referring to, but do not exactly speak of a widespread abolition of slavery. For example, in “Slavery in the Black Sea Region, c.900–1900: Forms of Unfreedom at the Intersection between Christianity and Islam” by Felicia Roşu we read that Eustathios of Thessalonica praised the Roman Emperor Manuel Komnenos in a funeral oration for manumitting all the slaves in the Capital (New Rome), including all those who came from beyond the Danube and the native slaves of the Pontic Steppe (today’s Ukraine and South Russia). Moving on, in “Liberty: Ancient Ideas and Modern Perspectives” by Valentina Arena, we are described how elsewhere that Ioannes Kinnamos wrote about how Manuel Komnenos also abolished a form of wage-slavery entered into by citizens because “he wanted to rule over free Romans and not slaves”. + +My questioning here is the following: Did the Medieval Romans really abolish slavery? Was there a strong Roman Greek abolitionist movement, which resulted in abolition, or at least the developments described above? Did they briefly abolish slavery but later re-institute it like France? Perhaps such a re-institution was caused by the expansion of Western European slavery in the Eastern Mediterranean, through the proto-colonies that were the Crusade States (Kingdom of Jerusalem, Duchy of Antioch, Duchy of Edessa, Empire of Romania, Empire of Thessalonica etc.) and the Trade Empires (Pisa, Genoa, Venice), who engaged in extensive slave trade?",0 +4167,Garlic May Have Saved Rasputin From Just One Assassination. ,0 +4168,Urban streams: The forgotten history of Britain's drinking fountains. ,0 +4169,Romans may have destroyed Moray metal-working site after battle. ,0 +4170,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday!. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So, do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our regular rules and guidelines still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +Questions need to be historical in nature. Silly does not mean that your question should be a joke. r/history also has a discord server where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts + +/Apologies for the delay due to bot error, thanks to those who pointed it out!",0 +4171,"How did the great powers perceive the United States on the eve of World War One?. Many books have been written about the international relations and events that led to World War One. I've read *Sleepwalkers* and *The Struggle for Mastery of Europe*, for example. The great powers all had their own interests, reasons for allying with the countries they sided with, and reasons for opposing the countries they went to war with. But I've never encountered any account of the United States' place in all of this. Did the Entente or Central Powers anticipate American entry into the war? Was it obvious the US would side with the Entente if it did enter the war? Both sides had contingency plans and military strategies. Was the US ever factored into these? Also, did the European powers understand that, by this point, the US had become a sleeping giant that could easily tip the scales if entered the war?",0 +4172,"DNA sequencing finds first known Neanderthal family, including a father and daughter. ",0 +4173,Why No Roman Industrial Revolution?. ,0 +4174,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, December 18, 2021. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke.",0 +4175,First known map of the night sky found hidden in a Medieval parchment. ,0 +4176,"What was the societal role of polytheistic Mediterranean religions and their priests?. I understand that religion is a wide subject, so I would like to stay focused on this one aspect for this discussion: + +Also, please, let's just focus on the inner workings of one culturally coherent society. The numerous (and often bloody) consequences of a society meeting another with different one only right definition of morals is covered in many other sources. + +My point is - in monotheistic (and if I understand it correctly to some extend in Hinduism too) religions, the deity is unified with whatever are considered the virtues of the society + +The god in monotheistic religions is the (body-less) embodiment - or the very definition - of what is right. + +The priestly caste then could draw their authority from the claim, that since they have higher knowledge of the deity, they can be arbiters of morals. It gives a guidance to asses whether a priest is a good one or bad and can serve as a basis for discussion about what role religion should have in politics and other questions. + +In Greek and Roman religions, the gods are pretty much just humans (with both human virtues and failings) with superpowers. But how did their stories relate to anything going on down on Earth? And why would any power derived from them give you any authority over other people? What did Greek and Roman priests even do? And why?",0 +4177,"How were knights and nobility viewed by the average peasant in the Late Medieval Period?. Did peasants constantly live in fear of knights and was chivalry largely just between nobility? An example I've heard is a knight might court a noble woman while at the same time going into a village, seeing a woman they liked and then raping her without any sort a repercussions. + +Were knights more viewed as terrorizer and peasants a subjugated people? Almost akin to the Spartans and the Helots? + +Now the late medieval period does cover hundreds of year and I'm sure different states had different laws and so on but I'm wondering about how the average person would have viewed nobility. + +I feel there's a sort of narrative that tries to depicts knights as righteous and honorable but is this largely a myth?",0 +4178,"What did General MacArthur and the U.S. government consider so valuable that they were willing to pardon the members of Japan's Unit 731 during WW2?. * [Unit 731 Wiki](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unit_731)\-Warning, contains graphic descriptions of the Unit's crimes. Not for the faint of heart. +* When I first read the history of Unit 731, what shocked and disturbed me almost as much as the Unit's horrible actions was that General MacArthur and the U.S. government pardoned the members of Unit 731 despite the horrendous atrocities they committed. +* The main reason the Unit 731 members were pardoned was the U.S. did not want any other country to get its hands on the data and results of the Unit's biological experiments, as well as the fact that the U.S. knew that they would never be able to get the results from conducting their own experiments, as the Japanese were only able to get their data from performing lethal experiments on thousands of prisoners they took during the war. +* But from what I have researched, the results of Unit 731's experiments were neither groundbreaking nor even practical for most purposes. + +1. So what exactly did the U.S. consider to be so valuable that they were willing to let these monsters go unpunished? +2. Was the U.S. aware of the full extent and nature of the Unit's crimes when they pardoned them? +3. Although this idea may come across as pretty dark, I feel that in this case, it is fully deserved, and that idea is that the U.S. would tell the Unit 731 members they would pardon them, and once they got the data, they would just execute them after. Why didn't they do this?",0 +4179,"New to history in general. What are good places to start?. I’ve been doing a good amount of traveling recently and can’t help but become fascinated by every single piece of history I see. It’s led me into a rabbit hole of very niche aspects of history, but I have a huge lack of understanding. I was a kid that always tuned out during history class and always dismissed it as boring school work, but now I love it and realize I know nothing about history in general. This is a sad thing to acknowledge but I am looking for some reference I could use to learn general world history so that I can dive deeper later on. What are your recommendations for someone who’s knowledge of history is no better then a 5th graders?",0 +4180,The historiography and debated origins of the ancient city of Great Zimbabwe. ,0 +4181,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, January 22, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke.",0 +4182,"1800s Power to UK Mansion House. I am trying to find images or drawings of how mansion houses were powered in the 1800s and early 1900s (pre 1920) and hoping someone can source it for me, as despite me searching cannot find anything, maybe I am using wrong keywords but maybe someone else can have luck. + +Basically the place I am trying to research has a mansion house in rural scotland and half a mile away from that was a building called ""Battery Shed"" and ""Engine Shed"", the engine shed had some sort of engine/fly wheel/dynamo on a large concrete block and next door was a place that has the battery cells and accumulator. + +It is presumed the engine powered the battery cells and the power from them was fed to the mansion house to supply the 110v power supply. + +As to what kind of generator/engine was used that is the big unknown question, but I did see that Cragside has a very similar looking Power House building and the generator/cells could be similar. But unlike cragside the mansion house i am investigating does not have a hydropower setup + +There was however a private water supply fed to the house from a large circular water tank on side of hill (another half mile away from that engine building) so there is a possibility that may have been used to power the generator/engine but as to how that could have been done is unknown. (the location of mansion house was not near a river or running water, so conventional power wheel would not be used) + +it is a large round tank, 7 Meters in height, 6 meters water height, 14 meters in diameter, [https://imgur.com/a/s5xUth6](https://imgur.com/a/s5xUth6) going by the size of the tank it would seem a bit excessive for just water to the mansion house, thats why i am thinking it may have had something to do with the generator, but how that would have been done is a mystery that I am trying to find out. + +If it was not water how could this engine/generator have been powered, obviously coal is an option but nothing suggests that may have been used, and the same with has nothing suggests a facility or gasometer on site. + +Water was fed into the tank from nearby hills and water fed to mansion house and associated buildings by quite large cast iron pipes so certainly the tank was used more than just for mansion house toilet and sink supply. + +So taking everything into account the round water tank seems to be the key object of use. + +So has anyone seen anything like this setup in images/drawings/plans? either engine/generator and/or batteries? + +This is layout plan of the building in question + +[https://imgur.com/AWCbp99](https://imgur.com/AWCbp99) + +Power may not have been got from the power grid until early 1940s so taking that into account then batteries/generator may have powered house but its the how would generator have been powered that is baffling me. + +To have a power house and battery cells obviously was important. I just cannot figure out how it was powered and this is why I need some other input from others as they may know something i would not know. + +1, flat roof + +2. battery house/shed + +3. engine house/shed + +4. open area full length and height but no access to both sheds except hole in wall size of large fist where flywheel pole passed through + +[https://imgur.com/a/NUQqnMf](https://imgur.com/a/NUQqnMf) + +​",0 +4183,"Bookclub Wednesday, February 09, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist)",0 +4184,Unseen Kristallnacht photos published 84 years after Nazi pogrom. ,0 +4185,"Joseon, the predecessor of modern Korea(s): neo-Confucian orthodoxy and the origin of the hermit kingdom - Part 2: Early prosperity and the cycles of literati purges (15~16th century). History of Korea (0) [pre-historic influences](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/x5egoz/interesting_parallels_between_prehistoric_korean/) + +History of Korea (1) [**Gojoseon**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x3ot4p/korean_history_dates_back_to_a_bronze_culture/) \[around 1000 BC \~ 108 BC\] + +History of Korea (2) [**Three Kingdoms**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x89pzd/koreas_three_kingdom_period_and_unified_silla/) **(*****Goguryeo, Baekje, and Silla*****) and Unified Silla** \[around 100 BC \~ 935\] + +History of Korea (3) [**Goryeo**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/xdnht8/goryeo_koreas_medieval_kingdom_918_1392_stories/)**, Korea's medieval kingdom** \[918 - 1392\] + +History of Korea (4) **Joseon, the predecessor of modern Korea(s): neo-Confucian orthodoxy and the origin of the hermit kingdom** \[1392 - 1910\] + +* [Part 1: What is neo-Confucianism?](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y3dil9/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) + +​ + +# The History of Joseon + +# Phase 1. Early prosperity [15th century] + +Joseon in the first 100 years was a well-functioning, thriving medieval kingdom. Most Koreans have heard of this rhyme ""*Tae-Jung-Tae-Se-Mun-Dan-Se*"" which is the first syllables of the names of the first 7 kings. I classify the first 9 kings (including -*Ye-Sung*) in the Phase 1, ""Early prosperity"" + +​ + +# 1. Foundation myths ([Taejo](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taejo_of_Joseon)) + +I explained how the *Goryeo-Joseon* transition happened [in my previous post](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/xdnht8/goryeo_koreas_medieval_kingdom_918_1392_stories/). The general Yi Seong-gye, who was enthroned by the Confucian ruling class, would be the founder and progenitor of the 500 years of Joseon dynasty (or Yi dynasty). + +Unlike his descendants (kings) who would be forever tormented with endless Confucian lectures from scholars and bureaucratic works, Yi was basically a military man. He grew up in a Northern military post in Korea that was directly controlled by Mongols. I don't know if he spoke some Mongolian, but at least he had close non-Korean friends such as an ethnic Tungusic (Jurchen) [Lee Ji-ran](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chonghae_Yi_clan). + +He also had a close Buddhist monk advisor, [Muhak](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muhak). There's many myths about him + +* The monk was a geomancer, and located the site for the new capital, *Han-yang*, which is an old name for modern-day Seoul. **Seoul is famously located based on Feng Shui principles** \- ""With back to the mountain (to the North) and facing the water (to the South)"" +* Another [legend](https://books.google.com/books?id=rJCboIyd__4C&pg=PA318&lpg=PA318&dq=muhak+rafter&source=bl&ots=XJaCE3hkPg&sig=ACfU3U0l-b_4TZh47vj7uhS4fKRfEQ6-Lg&hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjGy7bF25_6AhXPg4kEHR4iArMQ6AF6BAgiEAM#v=onepage&q=muhak%20rafter&f=false): Yi once had a peculiar dream. He entered an old rundown house. The floor creaked, the pillars shook, and the roof was about to cave in. Yi escaped right as the house collapsed with a boom. When he escaped, there were three rafters placed across his back. + * According to the legend, after hearing this, the **Buddhist monk prophesied** that that Yi was going to be the founder of a new dynasty. ""The old house is the *Goryeo* dynasty, and you escaped with three rafters in the shape that resembles the Chinese character **""king"" (王, wang)** + +​ + +\*\* In China, royalty and auspiciousness was symbolized by **""dragons"" and ""jade.""** Joseon Korea followed the same symbolism. King's face was referred to as ""dragon face,"" king's robe was ""dragon robe,"" king's belt was a ""jade belt,"" king's seals was ""jade seals,"" and king's voice was ""jade voice."" Finding and possessing the Jade seal was a big deal because it was thought that the seal somehow finds its way to a ruler who has ""the Heaven's Mandate"" uh.... like One Ring in LOTR, lol. + +* Many Koreans are familiar with these trivia from period k-dramas. There's a nice recent one titled ""[Six Flying Dragons](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Six_Flying_Dragons)"" (2015) (the title used medieval Korean words). I grew up watching ""[Tears of the Dragon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tears_of_the_Dragon_(TV_series))"" (1996) that was set in the same period + +​ + +​ + +# 2. The founder's 5th son kills his half-brothers and takes the throne ([Taejong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taejong_of_Joseon)) + +The aforementioned k-drama ""[Six Flying Dragons](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Six_Flying_Dragons)"" (2015) and ""[Tears of the Dragon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tears_of_the_Dragon_(TV_series))"" (1996) are based on this story. The founder's [5th son](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taejong_of_Joseon), *Yi Bang-won*, was **the most ambitious son** who had helped his father on many military campaigns and operations - including the assassination of a famous [Goryeo loyalist](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeong_Mong-ju) (it is said that the blood stain is still visible on a bridge in present-day North Korea) + +However, the founder's close [neo-Confucian advisor](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeong_Do-jeon) insisted that the youngest (8th) son be the crown prince, so that Joseon will become **an ideal kingdom that is led by a scholarly council, not by absolute monarchy**. This infuriated the 5th son. + +Then the wife of the founder king died (a mother of the 8th son, step-mother to the 5th son). When the father was in the mourning, the **5th son broke into the palace with his soldiers and killed the advisor and two of his half-brothers**, including the young crown prince. + +The two murdered princes were born from the founder king's favorite wife, who had just died and he was mourning for. In shock and disgust, the founder king abdicated, and secluded himself in the Northern border city [Hamheung](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hamhung) which was close to his childhood hometown. + +* **Disappearing messengers**: It is well-known that the 5th son tried to send messengers to his father many times - for forgiveness, for his endorsement, and most importantly, the Jade seal. However, those messengers **never returned** \- **the father shot all of them with his arrows**. + * Originated from this, there's a Korean idiom ""Hamheung messenger"" to refer to people who are very slow to return or reply. + +The 5th son first enthroned his [eldest brother](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeongjong_of_Joseon) to appease his father. But soon the puppet king abdicated (he was terrified), and the 5th son became the next king. + +There are different versions of stories about how the father and son reconciled. In a[ story](https://thetalkingcupboard.com/portfolio/king-taejo-and-the-disappearing-messengers/), the father was finally persuaded by his trusted Buddhist monk advisor to see his son again. The son (now the king) went out of his way to welcome his father, building tents on the way + +* However, upon seeing the son, the father's anger flared again and he shot his son with his arrow with the intention to kill him. But the son successfully defended himself with a shield. After this violent encounter, the father finally released his anger and they reconciled + +​ + +​ + +# 3. Taejong's eldest son chooses freedom over the throne; his brother, the third son, becomes Sejong the Great and creates the Korean alphabets ([Sejong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sejong_the_Great)) + +Taejong (the 5th son)'s eldest son [Yangnyeong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grand_Prince_Yangnyeong), as opposed to his father, **had little interest in the throne.** Folklore says that he was a **""chill guy"" who loved hunting, calligraphy, and women**. He was a rebellious teen - he ran away from the palace, and hung out with commoners and *gisaeng*s (geisha/courtesan). Perhaps watching his father killing his uncles affected his attitude. + +He had a younger brother (the third son of *Taejong), Chung-nyeong*, who loved reading and studying. One day, the young smart boy (the third son) got a cold. The king saw his boy reading a book in his sickbed. That day the king realized that *Chung-nyeong* had a better quality as the next king for his Confucian kingdom than the crown prince. + +Some say that the crown prince **misbehaved so that his father and court officials would take away his crown he didn't want**. True or not, they indeed stripped him of the crown and gave it to the king's smart third son. + +* *Yangnyeong*, who voluntarily gave up his crown, had an amazing life ever since - traveling around, enjoying his life, and still being connected to all the influential politicians at that time. According to their genealogy, the first President of South Korea is a direct descendant of this guy. + +And **the smart third son became the famous King Sejong**, who Koreans often refer to as [Sejong the Great](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sejong_the_Great). + +* His most famous achievement is **the creation of the Korean alphabet,** [Hangul](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hangul). The Korean ruling class used the classical Chinese for writing, but it was extremely difficult to write Korean sounds and native words using the logograms. + * He gave the task to a group of young talented scholars, including [Shin Suk-ju](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shin_Suk-ju). There's a story about him - one day Shin stayed up night working hard, and fell asleep on the table in his court office. The next morning, Shin realized that someone put a robe on him, and it was the king's robe. He felt ecstatic about this, and bowed towards the royal chamber multiple times in the cold morning air. + * Hangul is a **phonetic alphabet and very easy for commoners to learn** (it also has a reputation of being easy for foreign learners). The idea of a phonetic alphabet was not something new because Koreans had already been exposed to Mongolic scripts, but the shape and rules of the alphabets were **completely indigenous**. + * The aristocrats hated this new alphabet, and dismissed it as a writing system for low class. However, it slowly spread to the commoners and, particularly, women. By the late Joseon period, **Korean vernacular literature would flourish**. (section 15) + * Contemporary Koreans take great pride in the alphabet - commonly referred to as ""the most scientific alphabet in the world,"" lol. I don't know if it's true but it's a great alphabet. +* Famous books he compiled: + * Introduction to the new script: ""[The Correct/Proper Sounds for the Instruction of the People](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hunminjeongeum)"" + * First poetry book written in the new alphabet: [Songs of the Dragons Flying to Heaven](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yongbieocheonga) + * Literature book ""Songs of the Moon Shining on a Thousand Rivers"" + * A book about Buddhism ""Episodes from the Life of Buddha"" + * This is ironic because he also suppressed Buddhism and banned monks to enter the capital + * Farming guideline for commoners: ""[Straight Talk on Farming](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nongsa_jikseol)"" + +\*\* There's a mythology/fantasy novels written by a Korean scholar at this time (Tales of Geumo) [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Geumo\_Sinhwa](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Geumo_Sinhwa). In this early Joseon period, you still see the strong influence of Buddhist mysticism on Korean culture. Many of the stories are about **a man falling in love with a female ghost or fairy from a distant past.** Uhh this oddly sounds k-drama! + +​ + +* Famous people: + * [Jang Youngsil](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jang_Yeong-sil): **a court slave who was promoted to be the chief court engineer**. He was an engineering genius and built sundials, water clocks, rain measurement, printing press, astronomical instruments, etc. Unfortunately, a [litter](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Litter_(vehicle)#Korea) he built for the king broke down, and he was expelled from the court (despite the king's opposition) + * [Hwang Hee](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hwang_Hui): a politician who was the highest royal minister for 18 years. He's known to have **lived in a very humble house, and was a ""good neighborhood grandpa"" to the children in his neighborhood**. He was a perfect Confucian [ideal man](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Junzi) + * [Choi Mu-seon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Choe_Museon): a military engineer who figured out how to produce gunpowder locally + * [Yi Jongmu](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yi_Jongmu): a military general who subdued Japanese pirates from Tsushima island (the nearest Japanese island to Korea. You can see the Korean city of Busan from Tsushima) +* Less known fun facts + * It's known that he was a tall and big man, and he had 11 wives and 25 children + * **One of his daughters-in-law was lesbian** and had an affair with two court maidens. When it was caught, the poor Bong Sunbin got expelled and honor-killed by her own family ([https://np.reddit.com/r/AskHistorians/comments/4s8ect/whatever\_happened\_to\_bong\_sunbin\_joseon\_koreas/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskHistorians/comments/4s8ect/whatever_happened_to_bong_sunbin_joseon_koreas/)) + +​ + +​ + +# 4. Sejong the Great's second son kills a boy king (uncle kills his nephew) and takes the throne ([Sejo](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sejo_of_Joseon)) + +Sejong's eldest son died early, and his 12-year-old eldest son was enthroned. Throughout the Chinese history that had adopted the **agnatic primogeniture** early on, this was a recurring problem and normally didn't end well + +I wouldn't go deep into the details here, but in a nutshell, Sejong's second son (known as ""Grand Prince Suyang""), **the boy king's 38-year-old** [**uncle**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sejo_of_Joseon)**, made a coup** and exiled the boy king. Later, the poor boy was ordered to take poison and die. + +* **Bestowal of poison** was a common way to execute a noble - you see that trope in period k-drama all the time. The thick, black liquid that resembles Chinese herbal medicine normally comes in a porcelain bowl. What was actually in that liquid is unclear. +* A court official named [Han Myeong-hoe](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Han_Myeong-hoe) contributed to the coup the most. As a reward, his daughters married the new king's princes. + +=> **The coup hurt the neo-Confucian ideal of preserving proper social norms** (and thus the harmony of the world). This would sow the seeds of political factions and legitimacy disputes, which would forever plague the Joseon politics + +​ + +​ + +# 5. [Seongjong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seongjong_of_Joseon) successfully reigns for 20 years / bans the remarriage of widows and executes ""unchaste"" women + +* After the king Sejo's death, his eldest surviving son succeeded him, but he died in a year. After that, the guy's nephew (king Sejo's eldest grandson) succeeded him - Seongjong. +* He's the last king in the period I titled as ""early prosperity."" He was an ideal Confucian ruler. He lived long, cared about his kingdom, and tried to promote the Confucian ideology + * It is said that he used to disguise as a common noble and come out of his palace at night, to see the commoners' lives with his eyes + * He also finished the compilation of code of law ([State Code](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gyeongguk_daejeon)) + * the centralization of the governance of local counties was almost completed +* During his reign, women's situation significantly deteriorated, though + * The Joseon regime had gradually been stripping various women's rights, and this time, the king enacted the ""**widow remarriage ban**."" A [woman](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yi_Guji) in a royal clan committed suicide when she was caught living with her slave after being widowed. + * Eo-u-dong, a **famous** [**courtesan, dancer, and poet**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uhwudong) **from a noble family, got executed** for with being ""unchaste"" with multiple men +* He obtained **his crown prince from his concubine, who was executed for her jealousy** later on + * She was 2nd rank concubine, which was quite high. If you watch k period drama, you will be familiar with the complex rank system in the royal harem. After she gave birth to the crown prince, she was promoted to the rank of queen + * She was jealous of other concubines - **one night, she clawed her husband, leaving visible scratch marks on his sacred ""dragon face.""** The King tried to conceal the injury, but his mother, Queen Dowager Insu, discovered it and ordered the queen to be deposed and sent into exile + * **The neo-Confucian court officials petitioned for her death** for her grave sin. She was ordered to take poison - in deadly bitterness, **she vomited blood on a cloth, and gave it to her mother, asking her to give it to her son (crown prince) later on**. + +​ + +​ + +# The History of Joseon + +# Phase 2. The Cycles of Literati Purges [16th century] + +After the deposed queen's ominous death, one of the biggest soap opera moments in Joseon history would take place. This would start the cycles of literati purges, which would characterize the Joseon history ever since + +Overall, it was a period when **the initial neo-Confucian idealism was constantly frustrated by human nature, emotions, irrationality of monarchs, and the systematic problem** of the Confucian succession system + +​ + +# 6. The Deposed Queen Yun's son becomes the king, learns the truth of his birth, takes bloody revenge on the Confucian scholars, and turns the Royal Confucian Academy into a brothel + +[Yeonsan-gun](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yeonsangun_of_Joseon), the next king, would not receive his temple name (as a revered king) because he would be overthrown as a tyrant. Young Yeonsan did not know this though. He grew up believing that his mother was a normal queen, the third wife of his father + +He was an intelligent man, but showed early signs of his violent side by killing his tutor. He soon learned about who was his real biological mother, and got very emotional about that. + +He wanted to restore her title and honor. However, the neo-Confucian court officials (that belonged to a more **orthodox faction) opposed to it** (often depicted as group-chanting ""It is not as it should be, Your Majesty"" in k dramas) + +Greatly frustrated by this, when a rival faction accused the orthodox faction of something minor, the king ordered the execution of many of the faction members. ([The First Literati Purge](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Korean_literati_purges#First_literati_purge_of_1498)) + +Then a man approached the king with the details of his mother's execution, and **showed him the cloth with her vomited blood on it**. This is one of the most dramatized moments in Joseon period drama - Yeonsan became extremely upset and destabilized. + +**A bloodbath ensued** \- he beat to death two of his father's concubines, pushed his grandmother to death, and executed many court officials. He beheaded the corpses of dead court officials. He also executed innocent court officials for the crime of ""not having done anything to save his mother"" ([The Second Literati Purge](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Korean_literati_purges#Second_literati_purge_of_1504)) + +After the killing spree, he **closed the** [**Royal Confucian academy**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sungkyunkwan)**, and turned it into his personal brothel** with young women taken from all provinces. He killed anyone who dared to say anything - he ordered his ministers to wear a sign that read: + +>A mouth is a door that brings in disaster; a tongue is a sword that cuts off a head. A body will be in peace as long as its mouth is closed and its tongue is deep within + +When the chief eunuch dared to tell him to behave better, **he killed him and cut off his limbs by himself** (at this point he went complete psycho). He also punished the eunuch's relatives down to the [7th degree](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nine_familial_exterminations) + +After 9 years of tyranny, court officials finally [launched a coup](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jungjong_coup), deposed him, and sent him into exile. He died two months later (potentially killed). His favorite concubine [Jang Nok-su](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jang_Nok-su), who often enabled and encouraged his violence, was also executed (she's another common figure in k drama). + +​ + +\*\* Another article about him: [Tales from the past: Joseon's Caligula](https://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/opinion/2020/08/721_290739.html) + +\*\* He was a psycho, but I find it interesting that the degeneration of the Confucian orthodoxy was started by an unjustly murdered woman's son + +​ + +​ + +# 7. The tyrant's half-brother is enthroned; a young, popular neo-Confucian orthodox scholar attempts a reform; the king, blinded by jealousy, betrays him and thwarts the reform + +The neo-Confucian [orthodox faction](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sarim) took power after the coup. [Jo Gwang-jo](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jo_Gwang-jo), a young, energetic reformist, attempted a complete reform of the country according to the Confucian ideal - (a) strengthening the dominance of the Confucian ideology on local levels (b) **land reform** to distribute land more equally (c) inspecting bribes and corruption thoroughly + +The reform attempts led by the orthodox faction upset the ""[old merit](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hungu_(Korean_political_faction))"" faction, though - they were those who supported a powerful adult over a boy king in the section 4. **The orthodox faction viewed the killing of the boy king as an unjustifiable, un-Confucian action.** + +* because the boy king, who didn't show any merit, had the oh-so-holy divine blood as the eldest son of the eldest son of... yeah. **The divinity of the unbroken patrilineal lineage** of royals and clans is so central to Confucianism, if you don't know that, you don't understand many traditional East Asian societies. **Only paternal blood matters**. Did Confucius provide a reason why? No, he would just say it was just the way in the ancient Zhou dynasty, the Golden Ages + * I'm criticizing this because I'm critical of the Korean society that still teaches its patriarchal values as ""tradition."" Confucian values are still taught in 1st-grader ethics classes, I remember. **A lot of social norms Koreans are taught as (holy) ""tradition"" came from the Chinese bronze age, many of which were explicitly written in a very specific set of ancient scripts**, which was blindly upheld to the letter in Joseon period. + +​ + +Anyways, now there was faction fighting and legitimacy disputes. The orthodox faction attacked the privilege of the old merit faction. + +Jo was very idealistic and uncompromising, and was vastly popular among local Confucian scholars in provinces. However, the old merit faction started framing him that he was planning to be a king himself. + +* A famous story: + * The old merits (conservatives) used honey to write ""Ju (走) Cho (肖) will be King"" **on mulberry leaves so that caterpillars would leave behind the same words** \- so that it would look like a **supernatural sign**. When 走 and 肖 are put together, they form the character 趙 (Jo), the reformist's family name. + +The king started getting increasingly anxious about Jo's popularity. After a series of events ([detail](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Korean_literati_purges#Third_literati_purge_of_1519)), without telling anyone else, **the king secretly asked the ""old merits"" leaders to kill Jo. Overnight**, they arrested Jo and seven others for treason, they were about to be killed extrajudicially without trial. + +But with the War Minister's objection, the execution was delayed until the following morning and the treason was discussed in the cabinet meeting. **The entire court was shocked that Jo was arrested and the king wanted to execute him**. Many of the officials protested (in k-drama, again, they would group-chant ""It is not as it should be, Your Majesty"") - 150 Royal academy students stormed the palace to protest. However, this even more upset the king. + +Jo never believed that the king truly betrayed him, and the king commuted the death sentence to exile. However, a month later, he reinstated the death sentence. Before drinking poison, Jo wrote a death poem declaring his loyalty and bowed four times toward the palace. + +This whole event is called the [Third Literati Purge](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Korean_literati_purges#Third_literati_purge_of_1519) (1519). It was widely viewed as a missed opportunity to implement the neo-Confucian ideal in the land of Joseon\*\*.\*\* **Joseon politics would soon degenerate into power struggles among king's in-laws and relatives** + +​ + +\*\* I'd also like to point out that an ideal neo-Confucian society (which, again, was based on a 2,500-year-old ancient Zhou social norms) was never fulfilled throughout the Chinese history, where the idea originated from. After 200\~300 years at the maximum, any Chinese dynasty would degenerate into power struggles among [consort kins](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Consort_kin) and eunuch groups, partially because of the **systematic problems in the agnatic primogeniture and harem system**. When a 8 year old boy becomes a monarch instead of a 35 year old adult, there was usually a problem. + +​ + +​ + +# 8. A 12-year-old boy king succeeds the throne; his mother's brother takes power + +After the section 7, a new king was enthroned but he died quickly, and his 12-year-old son succeeded the throne. His mother became the Queen Regent; soon, her brother [Yoon Won-hyung](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yun_Won-hyeong) took power. + +This might be the point when **the neo-Confucian ideal started getting really degenerated** \- a pattern that's observed in the Chinese history over and over. + +Yoon turned into a corrupt tyrant, and massive political in-fights, framing, purges, and massacres ensued. Yoon killed his relatives and many of his opponents. + +I wouldn't go into details because it is very complicated and not well-known among the Korean public. You can get into details here: [The Fourth Literati Purge](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Korean_literati_purges#Fourth_literati_purge_of_1545) + +After the chaos of the four literati purges, many neo-Confucian scholars left the court politics - including a revered scholar [Yi Hwang](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yi_Hwang). He was famous for his cosmic theory of li (reason) and qi (energy) as two forces that shape the universe. + +* Now he's venerated by being on 1,000 won (1 dollar) banknote. I don't know why all these neo-Confucian scholars are on South Korean banknotes, even though Confucianism stopped being the state ideology + +When Yoon fell from his power, he commited suicide with his mildly famous second wife [Jeong Nan-jeong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeong_Nan-jeong) + +​ + +\*\* [Hwang Jini](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hwang_Jini) is a famous gisaeng (geisha) and poet who lived in the time of the section 7 and 8 + +\*\* There's a famous pair of pranksters/high court officials called *Oseong and Haneum*. Most Koreans recognize the names - one story I remember is that *Oseong (or Haneum)*'s parents were upset about his prank, and ordered him to count all the beans piled in their yard. However, clever *Oseong* figured out how to use multiplication. He counted the beans using a bowl and multiplication, finished the task quickly and went out to play + +* The actual pranks of the pair are... spicier and weirder than I knew. The pair also had the age gap of about 10 years [https://folkency.nfm.go.kr/en/topic/detail/5920](https://folkency.nfm.go.kr/en/topic/detail/5920) + +\*\* There's famous literary siblings (sister and brother) [Heo Nanseolheon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heo_Nanseolheon) / [Heo Gyun](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heo_Gyun). Nanseolheon (sister) had a literary talent that was recognized by her brother and male relatives. However, **after she got married, her poems got darker, emotional, and more empathetic with women's sufferings** at the time. According to her brother's records, she was in an unhappy marriage and died at the age of 27. + +\*\* [Han Seok-bong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Han_Seok-bong) is a famous calligrapher. Most Koreans recognize the name and associate it with the following story: He was talented in calligraphy from the young age, but his family was very poor and couldn't afford the caligraphy tools (ink, inkstick, and inkstone). He practiced on rocks with mountain water. His mother sold rice cakes to support the family. One day, she turned off candlelights at night, and told her son ""practice your calligraphy while I slice rice cakes."" He practiced in darkness, which improved his skill further. + +* A bit similar to the story from ancient China about [Mencius' mother](https://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2011/01/13/is-extreme-parenting-effective/what-mencius-mother-sought), famous for moving three times to **find an ideal neighborhood to educate her son**. + +​ + +​ + +# 9. The largest Literati Purge kills 1,000 court officials and scholars right before the invasion of Japan + +**Over time, the scale of literati purges was snowballing**. After the section 8, the Neo-Confucian orthodox faction split into so-called ""Easterners"" and ""Westerners"" - those who opposed to having a new king's brother-in-law (who was a scholar himself) in the court, and those who supported him. + +An Easterner went back to his hometown and formed a secret society. It spread across the Southwest province, the historically discriminated former territory of *Baekje* (see my previous [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x89pzd/koreas_three_kingdom_period_and_unified_silla/)) + +Soon there was a conspiracy that he was plotting a rebellion. This conspiracy snowballed, and it ultimately resulted in the bloodiest literati purge in Joseon politics. Over 1,000 officials and scholars (Easterners) were executed and expelled + +**While everyone was paying attention to this crazy infighting, a real threat was growing overseas - Japan**. + +* While China, Korea, and many parts of the world suffered from the expansion of Mongols in the 13th century, Japan remained intact (thanks to [Kamikaze](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kamikaze_(typhoon)), storms that swept Mongol ships). By the time of the end of the 16th century, the unified Japan had developed stronger military, economic, and commercial power compared to Joseon Korea. **They also had muskets** from the trades with the Portuguese. +* [Yi I](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yi_I), a famous scholar in the 16th century (who's on 5,000 won banknote now), had famously claimed that Joseon needed to train [100,000 soldiers](https://www.newworldencyclopedia.org/entry/Yi_I) in case Japan would invade Joseon. This was rejected by other court officials. + * \* Interestingly, his famous mother [Shin Saimdang](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shin_Saimdang) \- painter and writer - is now on 50,000 won banknote lol. She had an exceptional education unlike other women, and moved back and forth between her husband's home and her birth family's home on the beautiful eastern coast ([Ojukheon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ojukheon)), unlike other women. She was an intelligent and wise mother, and her son Yi I deeply loved and admired her. +* A diplomatic mission called [Tongsinsa](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joseon_Tongsinsa#15th%E2%80%9316th_century_diplomatic_ventures) was sent to Japan to congratulate the unification of Japan, and do some intelligence. There's a famous folklore - upon coming back to Joseon, these diplomats said ""Nothing will happen, the Japanese are savages and they can't invade a sophisticated country like us."" More details are found [here](https://koreajoongangdaily.joins.com/news/article/article.aspx?aid=2546762). + * It seems that **the Confucian orthodoxy blinded some of these diplomats**. + +​ + +\-------------------- + +To be continued!",0 +4186,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, April 23, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So, do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke. + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4187,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, February 05, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke.",0 +4188,"Has metal ever been used in ancient/medieval fortifications or any equivalent. In other word: Has anyone tried slapping some metal plates in their castle walls, whether permanently or temporarily? + +Or has metal been used in other ways for that purpose? + +I’ve heard that as the Mongol expanded and incorporated new technologies from annexed populations, they came to possess many new artillery engines, such as counterweight trebuchets, that can defeat any defensive walls, including some that utilized metal plates as wall reinforcement. + +However I can’t seem to find anything that mention such practice, whether common or rare, permanent or temporal/desperate.",0 +4189,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, May 21, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So, do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our regular rules and guidelines still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +Questions need to be historical in nature. Silly does not mean that your question should be a joke. r/history also has a discord server where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts",0 +4190,"Bookclub Wednesday, December 15, 2021. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist)",0 +4191,"Korea’s Three Kingdom period and unified Silla - mythologies, poems and war stories. I previously posted about the earliest known Korean kingdom, Gojoseon: + +[https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x3ot4p/korean\_history\_dates\_back\_to\_a\_bronze\_culture/](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x3ot4p/korean_history_dates_back_to_a_bronze_culture/) + +​ + +After the fall of Gojoseon, **a chain of kingdoms and federations of small chiefdoms sprung up** across Manchuria and the Korean peninsula, ultimately **consolidating into three** ***(Goguryeo, Baekje, and Silla)***. This period is called Three Kingdom period in Korean history + +**Two types of foundation myths** + +* There are largely two types of foundation myths shared across these small kingdoms. + * One is what I call Northern myths - the descendants of the heaven god **come from the Northern territories** and found a kingdom (shared by Buyeo, Goguryeo, and Baekje). + * Details are in my [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x3ot4p/korean_history_dates_back_to_a_bronze_culture/) about Gojoseon + * The second type is what I call Southern myths - the first king or the progenitor of a clan is **born out of an egg**. *(Silla Park clan's* [Hyeokgeose](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyeokgeose_of_Silla)*, Silla Seok clan's* [Talhae](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Talhae_of_Silla)*, and Gaya's* [Kim Suro](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suro_of_Geumgwan_Gaya)*)* + * Interestingly, Gaya's Suro is said to have married an Indian princess named Ayuta. Now a Korean city and an Indian city are sister cities based on this, lol. Mysterious. + +​ + +**Ancient social customs**: + +* A lot of what we know about these small kingdoms and chiefdoms come from a 3rd century Chinese historical text called ""Record of the Three Kingdoms: Book of Wei - Biographies of Dongyi (""Eastern Barbarians"") + * I posted the translation of one part of this Chinese record, though not all [https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/txt1qx/ancient\_chinese\_records\_of\_korean\_kingdoms\_the/](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/txt1qx/ancient_chinese_records_of_korean_kingdoms_the/) + * According to the record, most of these kingdoms had their own annual **festivals where they eat, drink, sing, and dance all day long** + * Buyeo, the northernmost ancient Koreanic kingdom, practiced sunjang - an ancient human sacrifice where they buried servants of the deceased alive. The same practice existed in ancient China too. + * Buyeo's highest officials were named after six animals - The House of Horse, The House of Ox, The House of Pig, The House of Dog, etc. + * It seems that in the Northern states, **early arranged marriage** was common - in Okjeo (a small Northeastern kingdom), a **child-bride** would live with the child-groom's family until adulthood, while in Goguryeo (a Northern kingdom), a **child-groom** would live with his future wife's family to help their work + * In the small chiefdoms in the Southern part of the peninsula, each state had a sacred district called Sodo, where **spirits were worshipped through rituals using a pole attached with a rattle and drum**. The district was sacred and was independent of the boundaries of political administration. It functioned as **asylums for refugees and criminals**, a sacred place unreached by secular authority. + * A ritual song from one of the Southern chiefdoms survived. It goes: + +>Turtle, turtle, stick out your head +> +>If you do not, we'll roast and eat you + +* lol this song was obviously from an era when life was simpler and more mystical. There's also a hypothesis that the language spoken in this Southern region (Gaya) was closer to Japonic, rather than Koreanic languages. +* Other folk traditions such as **stone fight** ([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seokjeon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seokjeon)) and Ganggangsullae (**women dancing in a circle under the full moon**) ([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ganggangsullae](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ganggangsullae)) might have originated from this ancient time + +​ + +​ + +**Wars, battles, and** ***Baekje*****'s peak** + +* [Samguk Sagi](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Samguk_Sagi) (History of Three Kingdoms - ***Goguryeo, Baekje, and Silla***), compiled in 1145 by a Korean scholar based on previous records (which are lost now), provides quite detailed stories of wars and battles. According to this, the small Korean kingdoms were **constantly warring with each other**, as well as Chinese, northern nomadic, and Japanese kingdoms. +* [The founder of Baekje](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Onjo_of_Baekje), the son of a *Goguryoe* king, went to the **southwestern part of the peninsula** and conquered the pre-existing smaller kingdoms. A king **committed suicide**, asking his enemy to take care of his people with **kindness and mercy**. +* Around 350 AD, *Baekje* thrived from **triangle trade** between Liao peninsula of China, Kyushu island of Japan, and the Korean peninsula. +* At the same time, the northern kingdom *Goguryeo* moved its capital southwards to modern-day **Pyongyang** because of the attacks from Northern nomadic tribes. This caused a conflict with *Baekje* in the south, and ultimately the *Goguryeo* king **was killed** at Pyongyang castle. + * *Baekje* also engaged in constant small battles with *Silla*, stealing and being stolen castles. +* *Baekje* had **a close tie with the emerging ancient kingdom in Japan**. It is said that *Baekje*'s scholar [Wang-in/Wani](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wani_(scholar)) introduced the Chinese writing system and Confucian classics to Japan. *Baekje*'s king also gave a [seven-branched ceremonial sword](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seven-Branched_Sword) to Japan's ruler + * Japan claims that this was a tribute from *Baekje* to Japan, while Korea claims that this was a generous gift from *Baekje*'s king. East Asian ancient history is funny - a 1,700 years old artifact is still the subject of intense emotional debates. +* Around 380 AD, **an** [**Indian Buddhist monk**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marananta) came to *Baekje* via China. *Baekje*'s king welcomed him in the palace, and soon **adopted Buddhism** and constructed a Buddhist temple. + +\*\* Around this time, *Silla* was still not much more than a federation of small city-states, ruled by three clans in turn - *Park, Seok, and Kim* clans. The early records of *Silla* implies a close (both [friendly](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Talhae_of_Silla) and hostile) relationship with Japan. Its early ruler exchanged envoys with [Queen Himiko](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adalla_of_Silla), but later Japan frequently [invaded](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heulhae_of_Silla) Silla + +​ + +​ + +**The rise of** ***Goguryeo*****, and decline of** ***Baekje*** + +* Around 370 AD, *Goguryeo* was seriously weakened. In order to suppress tribalism that weakened the kingdom, a [new king](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sosurim_of_Goguryeo) integrated Confucian ideologies into political institutions - by (1) establishing **schools** for the children of nobility (2) i**ntroducing** [**Confucian laws**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ritsury%C5%8D) **and codifying regional customs** (3) adopting Buddhism for religious life. +* The next king successfully attacked *Baekje* and formed an alliance with *Baekje*'s neighbor, *Silla*, which was still a small emerging state. +* The next king, [**Gwanggaeto the Great**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gwanggaeto_the_Great)**,** significantly **expanded the territory into Manchuria** and **into the southern part of the Korean peninsula**, conquering present-day Seoul. + * He defeated proto-Mongolic kingdoms and **regained the ancient territory of Gojoseon**. He also annexed the remainder of *Buyeo*, the northernmost Koreanic kingdom. He built a large empire, and left [**the largest engraved stele**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gwanggaeto_Stele) in the world. + * He also protected *Silla* from the attack of *Baekje-*Japan alliance. He made hostage a *Silla* prince, and made him the king of *Silla* later on. +* *Gwanggaeto the Great* died at the age of 39, but his son *Jangsu* **reigned for 79 years until the age of 98** \- **the longest reign** in East Asian history. He changed the name of the country to **Goryeo, from which Korea originated**. + * He successfully managed complicated diplomatic relationships with Chinese, Mongolic, and Tungusic dynasties that were warring with each other (\* There was no unified Chinese state at this time.) Now he tried to conquer *Baekje, Silla, and Gaya* (a small federation of city-states between Baekje and Silla) in the southern part of the peninsula +* By this time, *Baekje* was significantly weakened. It already lost a big part of its former territory to *Gugoryeo*. It was put in a weaker position vis-a-vis its old ally Japan. Political chaos ensued, and [brothers killed each other](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeonji_of_Baekje) for the throne +* The *Goguryeo* king sent a **Buddhist monk as a spy** to *Baekje*'s palace in modern-day Seoul. The Buddhist monk **played** ***go*** with t*he Baekje king* every day, and talked him into spending money in expensive construction projects. + * With the information from the monk, the *Goguryeo* king invaded *Baekje*, **conquered the capital (modern-day Seoul), burned it to the ground,** and **slew the** ***Baekje*** **king**. The whole *Baekje* nobles ran southwards, retaining a small territory in Southwestern Korea + +\*\* *Silla* was still a small peripheral country in the southeastern part of the Korean peninsula, protected by the [mountain ranges](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sobaek_Mountains) that surround it. Initially starting as the federation of three clans, their royal blood got concentrated by [**marriage between cousins**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Naemul_of_Silla)**.** + +​ + +​ + +***Baekje-Silla*** **alliance, betrayal, and** **the rise of** ***Silla*** + +* After the death of the successful *Goguryeo* king (*Jangsu*) at the age 98, *Goguryeo* gradually sled into succession problems and political instability +* In the meantime, *Baekje and Silla* formed an [alliance by marriage](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dongseong_of_Baekje) against the powerful *Goguryeo*. + * *Baekje* still maintained their tie with Japan - one of the female descendants of a [Baekje king](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muryeong_of_Baekje) **gave birth to a Japanese emperor** +* In the meantime, two kings in *Silla* quietly led a reform that would stabilize *Silla* as a kingdom beyond the federation of tribes. They (1) took the Chinese royal title 'wang' (=king), (2) adopted Buddhism + * In a famous legend, a Buddhist monk named I cha-don sacrificed his life, **with white blood spurting from his throat**. After this miracle, *Silla* aristocrats got terrified and accepted Buddhism +* With the help of their ally *Silla*, [a new Baekje king](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seong_of_Baekje) was able to restore the central part of Korea. However, a Silla king [Jin-heung](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jinheung_of_Silla), under a secret agreement with *Goguryeo*, attacked unexpecting *Baekje* army and took the central part of Korea. **Furious with the betrayal**, the *Baekje king* attacked *Silla*, but it turned out to be a disastrous battle - the ***baekje*** **king and 30,000 of soldiers got killed**. + * After this, *Baekje* got almost irreversibly weak. The **slain king's two brothers, one son, and two grandsons all left to Japan** at some point, starting their own clan there. + * [One of these men](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prince_Asa) became the teacher of [Prince Shotoku](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prince_Sh%C5%8Dtoku), a famous, semi-legendary Japanese **regent** who systemized Japanese administration and promoted Buddhism. It is said that he made a portrait of Prince Shotoku at Horyu-ji temple, an important temple in the old Japanese capital. [A brother of his](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prince_Imseong) became the ancestor of [Ouchi clan](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/%C5%8Cuchi_clan) in Western Japan + * The *Silla* king erected an engraved stele for himself, and organized a youth warrior group called **""**[**Flowering nights**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hwarang)**""** + * Which is often associated with Greek-style homosexuality later on +* For a while, both *Baekje and Silla* had a weird phase. A Buddhist *Baekje* king announced complete ban on all killings, hunting, and butchering. A *Silla* king was dethroned by his mother because he refused to marry his aunt (his mother's sister). +* [A Baekje king](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mu_of_Baekje) is known to have married a *Silla* princess, despite the intense rivalry between the two kingdoms. The legend says that when the young prince fell in love with the princess, he disguised as a commoner in *Silla*, and **taught** ***Silla*****'s children a song**, handing them out **(edible) sweet kudzu**. The song survived as a poem: + +>Princess Seonhwa, after a secret affair, +> +>Steals away at night, with Seodong in her arms + +* The legend says that the children **spread this song in** ***Silla*****'s capital**, and the angry father of the princess kicked her out. Then the *Baekje* prince married her. + +\*\* During the similar time period, *Goguryeo*'s Princess [Pyongyang](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Princess_Pyeonggang) also married an unconventional suitor - an ""ugly, dumb"" commoner called On-dal who became a general later. They're also common household folktale names in Korea. + +​ + +​ + +**The unified China's attack, and the destruction of the Sui army at the Battle of Salsu** + +* In the meantime, an important geopolitical change happened - China, which was divided in pieces for a few hundred years, became unified under the Sui dynasty. + +(copied from [https://www.reddit.com/r/DidYouKnowHistory/comments/demjr3/when\_koreans\_used\_a\_dammed\_river\_to\_destroy\_an/](https://www.reddit.com/r/DidYouKnowHistory/comments/demjr3/when_koreans_used_a_dammed_river_to_destroy_an/)) + +* In 612, Emperor Yang of Sui **invaded** ***Goguryeo*** with well over one million men. In fact, *Goguryeo* successfully defended this. Famously, the *Goguryeo* general [Eulji Mundeok](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_of_Salsu) defended against the Sui forces for months, **while secretly building a dam** at the Salsu River, cutting off the flow of water in the river. When the unsuspecting Sui troops were halfway across the river, Eulji opened the dam, **causing the onslaught of water to drown about 300,000 of Sui soldiers**. The *Goguryeo* cavalry then charged into the remaining Sui forces, inflicting enormous casualties. This is **one of the most legendary victories** in Korean history + * The failure of the Korean campaign brought down the short-lived Sui dynasty, to be replaced by Tang +* However, this **also weakened** ***Goguryeo*** + * After this, *Goguryeo* was building its own version of the **Great Wall**, but the royalty tried to kill a [young, popular general](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yeon_Gaesomun) who was in charge of this. When the young general discovered the plot, he **threw a lavish banquet** and invited one hundred royalties and aristocrats. **At the banquet he slew all of them**, went to the place and **murdered the king**. After that, he enthroend a young nephew of the king. Political instability ensued + +​ + +​ + +***Silla*****'s Queens, Flowering Knights, and the alliance with the rising Tang China** + +* In the meantime, *Silla* had two **queen regnant**s due to their [micro-caste (bone rank)](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bone-rank_system) system. There was no male heir in their royal caste (**""sacred bone"" caste**) anymore +* There was K[im Yu-sin](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gim_Yu-sin), a renowned *Hwarang* **(Flowering Knight) warrior,** a commander of *Silla* army at the age of 34, and a cousin of the new queen. His bloodline was noble enough, and he could have revolted and claimed the crown. Instead he **stayed loyal to the queen, and was protective of her**. +* [Queen Seondeok](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Queen_Seondeok_of_Silla) was the **second female sovereign in recorded East Asian history**. She's considered as a decent monarch, won the heart of people, and built many important **cultural monuments** that are **still tourist attractions** in the ancient city of Gyeongju after 1,400 years. However, most importantly, she was the first *Silla* monarch who decided to **form an alliance with the rising Tang dynasty**, while dealing with the constant attacks from *Baekje and Goguryeo* + * Some say that *Baekje and Goguryeo* attacked *Silla* more because they were **more emboldened by the female ruler** of the enemy + * **The Emperor of Tang did not take her seriously either** (because she's a woman), but with the threat from *Goguryeo*, he ultimately agreed that it was a good idea to form an alliance with *Silla* + * One of her highest officials also [plotted a rebellion](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Queen_Seondeok_of_Silla#Bidam's_rebellion) against her because ""**a woman should stop ruling.**"" However, Kim Yu-shin, the loyal Flowering Knight warrior and commander, calmed down the anxious queen and excellently took care of the rebellion. There's an interesting legend about the use of **astrology** here (if anyone's interested, click the link above) +* After the two queens passed away, the first queen's nephew, [Kim Chun-chu](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muyeol_of_Silla) \- who used to be the highest caste ""sacred bone"" but was degraded to ""true bone"" for a political reason - was **enthroned** with the support of his brother-in-law and friend K*im Yu-shin* (the Flowering Knight guy). + * There's an interesting [legend](https://world.kbs.co.kr/service/contents_view.htm?lang=e&menu_cate=culture&id=&board_seq=129745&page=4&board_code=akoreas_ani) about how the king married K*im Yu-shin*'s **sister**. Kim Yu-shin had two sisters, *Munhee and Bohee*. One night, Bohee, the older sister, had a dream where she urinated on the mountaintop until the urine flooded the entire capital city. Upon hearing the odd dream, Munhee instinctively knew that it was an auspicious dream, and suggested she buy the dream in exchange for a silk skirt. Bohee sold her dream immediately. Later, Munhee met and fell in love with *Kim Chun-chu*, and became the queen of unified *Silla* later on. + * There's more interesting details in the link. Kim Yu-shin was originally very upset about his sister's affair with *Kim Chun-chu* (because he already had a wife), and tried to burn her alive. **The queen was shocked to find it out, and saved his sister's life**. + +​ + +​ + +**The Fall of** ***Baekje*** + +* Before he became the new king of *Silla*, K*im Chun-chu* had lost his daughter and son-in-law in a *Baekje* attack. Some say that he particularly wanted a **revenge** on this. He was already a good friend of the Emperor of Tang, and he constantly pleaded the emperor to send army to destroy *Baekje*. In 660 AD, the Emperor finanlly acquiesced and sent 130,000 soldiers through the sea. +* *Kim Yu-shin*, the Flowering Knight commander, set out with his own 50,000 soldiers to *Baekje*, to rendezvous with the Tang army. *Baekje* court was **already corrupt and decadent**. Upon the news, only 5,000 soldiers and 1 general stayed to fight with the *Silla* army. + * In a famous story, [Gyebaek](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gyebaek), the last *Baekje* general, **killed his wife and children with his sword a night before his last battle** to prevent them from being enslaved + * In the battle of *Hwangsanbeol*, the 5,000 *Baekje* soldiers fought so fiercely they overwhelmed the 50,000 *Silla* army for a while. [In a legend](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_of_Hwangsanbeol), a *Silla* general sent his **young Flowering Knight** son to fight the *Baekje* army single-handedly. The young warrior got captured and killed. With this sacrifice, the *Silla* army regained morale and destroyed the last army of *Baekje*. +* There's a very famous legend in Korea that the last king of *Baekje*, Ui-ja, **jumped off a cliff with his three thousand court maidens**. Even though the story is not historically accurate, there's still a cliff called ""Falling Flowers Rock"" ([nak-hwa-am](https://folkency.nfm.go.kr/en/topic/detail/5467)) in the southewest part of Korea. + +​ + +* Lots of *Baekje* royal family and nobles fled to Japan - some already left for Japan even before the fall of *Baekje*. Some say that this mass migration impacted the language and culture of **the emerging Japanese ruling class/ aristocracy**. + +​ + +* There's one surviving song/poem from *Baekje*, recorded in a 14th century Korean [book ](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Akhak_gwebeom)\- it's a song of a **peddler's wife**, having a nocturnal thought about his safety + +>\[The Song of *Jeong-eup*\] +> +>Moon, rise high up and beam far away. +> +>(chant) eogui ya eogangdyoli, a-heu, a-eu darong diri +> +>Are you now in the market street, I fear you may step on mud +> +>(chant) eogui ya eogangdyoli +> +>Lay your luggage down, I fear darkness may fall on you +> +>(chant) eogui ya eogangdyoli, a-eu darong diri + +\*\* *Jeong-eup* is a provincial town that still exists in the southwest part of Korea + +​ + +​ + +**The Fall of Goguryeo, and the Unified Silla's War with Tang China** + +* While there are many tragic folktales about *Baekje*'s fall, there are not so many about the fall of *Goguryeo*. The once-powerful *Goguryeo* got into a downward spiral when *Yeon Gaesomun*, the despotic general who enthroned a puppet king, died. His sons and brothers got caught up in nasty power struggles, and the Emperor of Tang did not miss the opportunity. In 668 AD, the Tang army put Pyongyang under siege in concert with the Silla army. Most factions in *Goguryeo* surrendered - that was the end of the once powerful state. + * A son of a *Goguryeo* noble became an important general in Tang dynasty ([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gao\_Xianzhi](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gao_Xianzhi)), taking part in Tang's multiple expeditions to Pamir Mountains and the border with Muslim caliphates +* After the fall of *Baekje and Goguryeo*, the new, Unified Silla's major concern was how to push the Tang army out of the Korean peninsula, which tried to stay and set up a Protectorate. The Tang Emperor's original intention was to create a Profectorate and to place the entire peninsula under Tang's rule. +* [A new Silla king](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Munmu_of_Silla), Kim Chun-chu's son and Kim Yu-sin's nephew, started a new war with Tang China. After about 7 years of struggle, the *Silla* army won a decisive victory against the Tang forces in the c[entral part](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_of_Maeso) of Korea. Losing interest, the Tang Emperor ordered withdrawal from the Korean peninsula. This is considered the major victory in the *Unified Silla*'s history +* King Munmu, who achieved this victory, was worshipped as a deity after his death. He famously left the words at his death bed ""**Cremate my remains and scatter the ashes in the sea** where the whales live. **I will become a dragon and thwart foreign invasion**"" - his ash was scattered from a rock islet that overlooks the East Sea/Sea of Japan. + * Another legend says that King Munmu and the general Kim Yu-Sin (who was also worshipped as a deity in shamanism after death) appeared in the next king's dream and said: ""Blowing on a **bamboo flute** will calm the heavens and the earth."" After waking up, the king rode out to the sea, and indeed found a bamboo flute. It is said that the blowing of this bamboo flute invoked the spirits of King Munmu and General Gim Yu-sin and would push back enemy troops, cure illnesses, and bring and halt rain. + +​ + +​ + +**Surviving poems from** ***Silla*** + +After the fall of *Baekje* and subsequent [fall of Goguryeo](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yeon_Gaesomun#Death), *Silla*'s capital *Gyeongju (Gyerim)* in the southeastern part of Korea became the center of the old Koreanic culture + +There are about 25 surviving *Silla* poems, written in some [Koreanized Chinese writing system](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyangga) (e.g. Chinese writing system written in Korean word order with a few grammatical particles added) + +* A common theme was the **moon, Buddhist serenity, Enlightenment, loss and grief**, and the beauty of nature + * Moon is such a typical subject, there's even a movie titled ""The Moon Night of *Silla*"" (which is 90s' comedy though, lol) + +This article provides great translations of these poems: [https://www.worldhistory.org/article/970/15-complete-hyangga-songs-from-ancient-korea/](https://www.worldhistory.org/article/970/15-complete-hyangga-songs-from-ancient-korea/) I'm just copying some of them here + +​ + +>""**Prayer to Amitayus**"" +> +>O moon, go to the West, and pray to Amitayus +> +>And tell that there is one who adotes the judicial throne, +> +>and longs for the Pure Land, praying before him with folded hands. +> +>Ah, would he leave me outstanding when he fulfills the forty-eight vows? + +​ + +>""**Requiem for the dead sister**"" +> +>On the hard road of life and death that is near our land, +> +>You went, afraid, without words. +> +>We know not where we go +> +>Leaves blown, scattered, though fallen from the same tree, by the first winds of autumn. +> +>Ah, I will polish the path, until I meet you in the Pure Land. + +​ + +>""**Ode to Knight Kipa**"" +> +>The moon that pushes her way through the thickets of clouds, +> +>Is she not pursuing the white clouds? +> +>Knight Kipa once stood by the water, reflecting his face in the Iro. +> +>Henceforth I shall seek and gather among pebbles the depth of his mind. +> +>Knight, you are the towering pine that scorns frost, ignores snow. + +​ + +>(part of a Buddhist poem) +> +>Ah, how happy is a moonlit autumn field, ripe with the fruit of knowledge. + +​ + +'**Dedication of the Flower**' was sung by an old herdsman. One day the herdsman meets Lady Suro, wife of Lord Sunjong, and her entourage touring the countryside. The lady asks for an azealea flower growing on a high cliff, but the only person to respond is the herdsman. Giving Lady Suro the flower he sings: + +>If you would let me leave the cattle tethered to the brown rock, and feel no shame for me, +> +>I would pluck and dedicate the flowers! + +​ + +""**Song of Choyong**"" is perhaps the most famous of all these *Silla* poems. The title character is the son of the Dragon King of the Eastern Sea who one night after a party returns home to find his **beautiful wife being seduced by the Spirit of Smallpox**. Choyong was forgiving, though, and in return, the spirit promised **never to enter a house which had a portrait of him** on the door. Choyong has been identified as a shaman, or an epidemic god. This is the song which Choyong sang so charmingly to the spirit so that he left in peace: + +>Having caroused far into the night in the moonlit capital, +> +>I returned home and in my bed - Behold four legs +> +>Two were mine \*; Whose are the other two? (\* my wife's) +> +>Formerly two were mine; What shall be done now they are taken? + +​ + +​ + +\[other myths\] + +**The myth of a husband and wife drifted to Japan** + +* In Gyeong-sang province (the Southeastern part of Korea; the original territory of *Silla*), there's a myth of a husband and wife being drifted on a mythical rock to Japan - the husband disappeared first, and then the wife discovered his shoes on the rock and got onto it, then the rock carried her to Japan too. Then they became the king and queen there. Silla lost the sun and moon when the couple disappeared into Japan. Later, the husband and wife (now the king and queen of Japan) sent a special silk cloth to Silla, so that Silla restores the sun and moon in the sky. + +**The legend of the Emilee Bell** + +* [The Bell of King Seongdeok](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bell_of_King_Seongdeok), the largest bronze bell in Korea made in 765, has a legend that a child was sacrificed in its casting. >!The bell weirdly did not ring, but a Buddhist monk had a dream that if a child is thrown into its cast, the bell would ring. He took a baby from a nearby village and threw the child into the bronze cast - then the bell made the most beautiful sound ever!<. + +**Seokguram grotto** + +* [https://www.reddit.com/r/ArtefactPorn/comments/eku5ze/statue\_of\_buddha\_and\_attendants\_inside\_seokguram/](https://www.reddit.com/r/ArtefactPorn/comments/eku5ze/statue_of_buddha_and_attendants_inside_seokguram/) +* [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seokguram](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seokguram) +* This might be one of the most impressive Buddhist artefacts from the *Silla* era. However, when the Japanese tried to reconstruct it in the 20th century, they made a mistake of using concrete, which caused humidity problems that further damaged the site. There was a lot of rumor that the Japanese did that on purpose + +**Stonemasons** + +* Stonemason skills were considered valuable in the Three Kingdoms and Silla period, with all the Buddhist art. Korean stonemasons often humbly say ""each stone has its own sculpture in it, so I only carve it out that is already there"" + * Another legend: *Baekje* mason Asadal lost his wife while completing the tower of Bulguksa Temple in *Silla,* and that he committed suicide with the completion of the Buddha statue and pagodas + +**Magpies** + +* Magpies were a bird familiar with Korean people since ancient times, and the historical records of Three Kingdoms mention little myths about magpies. Many Buddhist temples in *Silla* housed magpies, and there are little legends about [Buddhist temples and magpies](https://encykorea-aks-ac-kr.translate.goog/Contents/Item/E0011213?_x_tr_sch=http&_x_tr_sl=ko&_x_tr_tl=en&_x_tr_hl=en&_x_tr_pto=sc), particularly magpies that repay the favor + +​ + +​ + +**Notable people from** ***Unified Silla*** + +* The reign of *Unified Silla* roughly corresponds with the reign of Tang Dynasty - the most **cosmopolitan** culture in Chinese history. Many **Sillans traveled to Tang China or even India**: +* Jang Bogo [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jang\_Bogo](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jang_Bogo) + * He was a Sillan peasant, and left for Tang China to pursue a career as a military official. Seeing that many Koreans were victims of slave trades, he formed a private navy of 10,000 men to **attack slavers**, leading to the Tang Emperor issuing an edict to stop slavery and return abducted Koreans to Silla. He returned to Silla as a successful general, and headquartered his powerful **private fleets in a southern island named Wando, near his hometown**. Unfortunately, his fame and power unsettled the nobility in Silla's capital, and they assassinated him when he tried to marry his daughter to the king. + * He's still called ""Maritime King Jang Bogo"" +* Choe Chi-won [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Choe\_Chiwon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Choe_Chiwon) + * He was born as a nobility in Silla's capital, and was a child prodigy. However, under the Silla's micro-caste system (bone rank system), his caste was right below the highest ""True bone ranks"", which set a limitation on how far he could achieve. **His father sent him to Tang China**, saying if he doesn't pass the highest of Chinese civil service exam, he will not see him again. Choe indeed **became one of the highest officials in China**, but at the age of 28, he returned to Silla with the permission from the Tang Emperor, for his ageing parents. Later, he is remembered as one of the most important Korean Confucian scholars +* Wonhyo [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wonhyo](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wonhyo) + * [https://www.worldhistory.org/Wonhyo/](https://www.worldhistory.org/Wonhyo/) + * He was another prodigy and a Buddhist monk. He decided to **further his Buddhist study in Tang China**, and was leaving Korea. One night, he had traveled a long way and was very tired and thirsty. He **found what he thought as a cave and crawled in**. In the dark, his hand touched a **bowl that was full of rainwater**, and he drank it before going to sleep. When he woke up the next morning, he discovered that the 'bowl' was a decomposing **skull full of decaying old water** and that he had **slept in a tomb**. He was shocked, vomited and ran from the tomb — that was when **enlightenment came**. Upon realizing that values of things depend on individual perception, he abandoned his trip to China (""now I got enlightenment, why should I go to China"") and returned his home Silla. His philosophy ""all is one and this one is empty"" influenced not only Korean, but also Chinese and Japanese Buddhism. He was also famous for **singing and dancing** in the street to spread his teaching to the mass + * His friend [Uisang](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uisang), in contrast, finished elite education in China, and became the founder of Korean [Hwaeom](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hwaeom) school of Buddhism. He has a beautiful love story if anyone's interested +* Hyecho [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyecho](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyecho) + * He's a Sillan Buddhist monk, and made a pilgrimage all the way to India. He wrote a travelogue titled ""Memoir of the **pilgrimage to the five kingdoms of India**"", containing a lot of information on the local diet, languages, climate, cultures, and political situations + +\*\* “Park” “Kim” “Choi” are still the most common Korean surnames - and they originated from Silla + +​ + +​ + +**Balhae: a multi-ethnic Northern kingdom** + +* Soon after the fall of *Goguryeo*, a multi-ethnic kingdom named [Balhae](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Balhae) was founded by *Goguryeo* refugees and Tunguisc (Mohe) speakers in the modern day Manchuria/North Korea +* One of their poems/proses survives. It was written by a Balhae envoy in Japan, who heard the sound of his hometown at night + * \* This poem is introduced in some Korean literature textbooks, that's how I know it +* This is beautiful, and sends you straight to an autumn night in 759 + +​ + +>**I hear the sound of cloth-beating at night** \[夜聽擣衣聲\] (759 AD) +> +>I was thinking of returning to my home country on an autumn night, and I heard a woman beating cloth in the neighborhood +> +>Hearing the sound of cloth-beating brings up all kinds of thoughts, I thought about who the woman was and why she was doing it late at night. Wondering whether her cloth-bat was heavy or whether it is flat, I even imagined a woman working with her fragile body, sweating fragrants +> +>Cloth-beating is a custom that does not exist in Japan. She might not be necessarily from Balhae, but she must be an immigrant from her own country, so when I heard her trimming clothes, I felt a sense of affinity and I thought of my homeland. + +​ + +​ + +**The Fall of** ***Unified Silla*** + +* The reign of *Unified Silla* roughly corresponds to that of Tang Dynasty - when Tang collpased in 906, the economic and political system of *Unified Silla* got damaged as well. Their micro caste (bone rank) system could not absorb the political desire of the rising ruling class (called ""hojok"") in provinces +* Soon, some rebels proclaimed they're the successor of old *Baekje* and *Goguryeo*, and founded kingdoms in the old territories of those bygone countries +* This will put an end to what historans think of the ""ancient"" period of Korean history, opening up the new era of medieval Korea under [Goryeo dynasty](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goryeo) (which indeed borrowed its name from old *Goguryeo*) + +​ + +​ + +I just loved writing about this early era of Korean history - it's full of mythologies, tragedies, and tranquility. [Gyeongju](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gyeongju) (Silla's capital) is still a popular tourist attraction that has the exact vibe.",0 +4192,"King’s Accommodations During Travel in Middle Ages?. When a king or noble was traveling long distances over multiple days/weeks/months, what were there sleeping arrangements like? + +This is when they could not find lodging at another noble’s estate; I’m seeking to visualize their “on-the-road” accommodations. + +How did they camp down? Did they use tents that they kept to themselves? Were there beds (if so, how were they transferred?) What about heating — did they use braziers or fire pits inside a tent? What about smoke? + +If somebody more knowledgeable could paint a picture for me, i just want to understand how it worked back then. + +Any answers related to any stage of the medieval periods across continents are appreciated; information more specific to the late 12th/early 13th century Europe are even more helpful! + +Thank you! + +EDIT: Thank you all who have taken the time to help me thus far! Each of your comments provide me interesting details and insights that are incredibly useful and I seriously, from the bottom of my heart, sincerely appreciate your help! And thank you for my first awards! I'm glad the discussion is enjoyable/helpful to others as well!",0 +4193,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, April 30, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So, do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke. + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4194,"Was there a significant, discernible or lasting cultural difference between the Angles and the Saxons?. The Anglo-Saxons are generally lumped into one cultural group, as they immigrated to Great Britain at the same time and formed a general culture there. But there were Angle kingdoms and Saxon kingdoms, and the Angles and the Saxons came from different parts of Europe, even if they were both Germanic tribes and closely related. Did any of these differences persist through time? Are modern differences between regions in the UK - e.g. Sussex and Wessex and Essex on one hand, East Anglia, the Midlands and the North on the other - attributable to this at all?",0 +4195,"Question about penniless kings (Discussion/Question). I always wondered why some kings in High meidieval ages were just too poor to do anything. I understand that some kings and Emperors like Maximilian the first of HRE were not very good with stewardship but those are times were merchants were usually richer than kings and the large part of nobility struggled to adapt to the new economic realities. + +But what about the Hight medieval ages? For example king henry III of England had problems with money and he couldn't afford to launch an invasion to get the continental lands back form france, but then how could Richard the LionHeart sail with a rather large army to palestine? The kings didn't have an absolute power but they got taxes from all lands and this should accumulate into a nice income that would allow them to have a medium sized private army. + +Please could somene explain this paradox to me because history channels are rather laconic on this exact subject.",0 +4196,"Bookclub Wednesday, April 06, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist) + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4197,"How did the change to the Julian calendar affect festivals?. So, as I understand, when the Romans switched to the Julian calendar, a longer year (445 days) was employed to reset everything back to the right solar timeframe. The years were lengthened from 355 to 365.25 days. Does this mean that festivals were previously not connected to specific dates, or did they shift throughout the years? I am wondering because most tended to be associated with events like the equinox, etc. + +Another way of asking is, do we know of any specific calendar dates for festivals record before the Julian calendar was initiated?",0 +4198,"Bookclub Wednesday, April 27, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist) + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4199,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, April 02, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So, do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke. + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4200,The mystery of the human sacrifices buried in Europe's bogs. ,0 +4201,"The western Dragon becoming a positive creature?. Do we know when it happened that the western dragon became a fantasy creature which could also have a positive image? +As far as i know dragons were regarded as hostile, being the symbol of evil forces and finaly the enemies of(the christian) faith (in contrast to the Panther/Panthier) since their inception. +So since when do we have dragons with different attributes? + + +Does this have something to do with the influence of asian culture where the Long, the chinese Dragon, is a good and benevolent creature?",0 +4202,"The importance, spread, and creation of armour in Ancient Rome: How a team based out of the University of Auckland created an exact replica of early Roman armour. ",0 +4203,"What are some of the least nostalgic periods of history?. Lauding the past generally and regarding the forebears of one's society as superior seem to be nearly universal phenomena throughout human history, but an interesting question occurred to me randomly, to explore to what degree this sentiment varies across time and place throughout history, and to identify historical moments (if any) where this was relatively weak. Let me also carefully clarify that this does not mean that previous eras were not studied or admired, but specifically the idea that they were patently *better* and that the contemporary world is best served in emulation, and assessed by approximation to the past, not validated on the basis of its own new merits. + +For instance, the 1980s in the United States strikes me, for all of the real social problems occurring, to have been notably optimistic and forward-looking in its zeitgeist, represented by not only popular culture but in foreign policy and academia. It's hard to gauge this precisely and separate an unsubstantiated image from an articulated historical reality and to maintain a meaningful and definite status against the inevitable exceptions to any trend, but insofar as I have done this with respect to this example, the impression still remains. + +Another strong example would likely be the Europe of the antebellum early 20th century, and the culmination of Victorian notions of progress resulting in a general belief that all disciplines had been effectively learned and that civilization was constantly improving. + +On the contrary, what western historiography had long considered the zenith of its civilization's manifestation in high classical antiquity, is ironically full of an impression that the legendary heroic age was still better: Juvenal decried the decrepit state of Rome's morality, Horace said that his generation was worse than his fathers', who were worse than their own, etc., so some of the most prominent literary examples from the golden age of a culture deemed one of the most penultimate in humanity attest to their own relative paucity of worth against their impression of their own cultural predecessors. + +So, what comes to mind for any of you in light of this question?",0 +4204,"Joseon, the predecessor of modern Korea(s) - Part 7: Annexation and the rise of Korean ethno-nationalism [1905-1910]. History of Korea (0) [pre-historic influences](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/x5egoz/interesting_parallels_between_prehistoric_korean/) + +History of Korea (1) [**Gojoseon**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x3ot4p/korean_history_dates_back_to_a_bronze_culture/) \[around 1000 BC \~ 108 BC\] + +History of Korea (2) [**Three Kingdoms**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x89pzd/koreas_three_kingdom_period_and_unified_silla/) **(*****Goguryeo, Baekje, and Silla*****) and Unified Silla** \[around 100 BC \~ 935\] + +History of Korea (3) [**Goryeo**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/xdnht8/goryeo_koreas_medieval_kingdom_918_1392_stories/)**, Korea's medieval kingdom:** stories, songs and Mongol invasion \[918 - 1392\] + +History of Korea (4) **Joseon, the predecessor of modern Korea(s): neo-Confucian orthodoxy and the origin of the hermit kingdom** \[1392 - 1910\] + +* [Part 1: What is neo-Confucianism?](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y3dil9/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) + * [Women's oppression in Joseon era](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/wzqxuu/womens_oppression_in_joseon_era/) +* [Part 2: Early prosperity and the cycles of literati purges (15\~16th century)](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y54lc6/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) +* [Part 3: Japan and Qing Invasions (early 17th century)](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/yb5277/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas_part_3/) +* [Part 4: Deepening Confucian Orthodoxy, Isolationism, and Underground Spread of Catholicism \[1640s\~1860s\]](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/yf6rgr/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas_part_4/) +* [Part 5 (extra): Vernacular literature (17\~19th century)](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y9fy6x/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) +* [Part 6: Queen Myeongseong (aka Queen Min) drives 20 years of opening and reform with her husband King Gojong, until her violent murder by the Japanese \[1864-1905\]](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/ynv4yh/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas_part_6/) +* Part 7: Annexation and the rise of Korean ethno-nationalism \[1905-1910\] (this post) + +​ + +​ + +​ + +# 23. Japan wins the Russo-Japanese War; Korea loses its diplomatic sovereignty to Japan + +* In 1905, however, an abrupt geopolitical turn (not just for Korea but for world history) occurred: + * **Japan defeated Russia in the Russo-Japanese War.** ([link](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Russo-Japanese_War)) + * Before, Korea had allied with Qing China to counterbalance Japan. After China was defeated by Japan, Korea allied with Russia. However, now that Russia was defeated by Japan (which no one had expected), Korea was left alone with no allies. + * **This was something no one had really imagined.** Korea's foreign policy to ally with larger continental powers such as China and Russia was a rational one. However, **Japan's modernization and military reform turned out to be really effective in a way that no one had expected**. +* The 30 years of Joseon Korea's reform (1874 - 1905) helped the Korean elites become better prepared for a wave of modernization. However, despite all the efforts, **Korea failed to raise patriotic military elites**. + * It seems that **many of the early ""traitors"" were military men**. Those who opened the gate for the Japanese assassins who murdered the queen were the military men trained and funded by Japan. + * Japan had also been funding [pro-Japan organizations](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iljinhoe), winning over those had had grievances in the traditional Joseon society (e.g. illegitimate sons) + +​ + +* **Japan–Korea Protectorate Treaty of 1905** ([Eulsa Treaty](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japan%E2%80%93Korea_Treaty_of_1905)) + * In November 1905, almost immediately the Russo-Japanese war, Japanese soldiers encircled the Korean palace. The Japanese President of Council (former prime minister) [Ito Hirobumi](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/It%C5%8D_Hirobumi) entered the palace. He gave a [treaty document](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japan%E2%80%93Korea_Treaty_of_1905) to the king (now emperor). It was **a treaty that would make Korea a protectorate of the Imperial Japan and deprive Korea of its diplomatic sovereignty**. The king refused to sign. + * Given what happened to his late wife, I think the king was ready to be killed. + * Instead, the Japanese President of Council found 5 Korean cabinet members who were collaborative, and had them sign the treaty. The five would be remembered in Korea as [Five Eulsa Traitors](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Five_Eulsa_Traitors). They were all given titles and positions by the Imperial Japan later on. + * On a side note, Japan had secretly made an agreement with the US. In the [Taft-Katsura agreement](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taft%E2%80%93Katsura_agreement) (1905), **Japan and the US endorsed each other's dominance in Korea and the Philippines**. + +​ + +* **Korean Reactions to the Treaty of 1905** + * The sign of the *Eulsa* treaty in 1905 **shocked the nation again**, after the queen's murder. In the following 5 years, public outcry, revolts, and assassinations ensued. Well-known events: + * 1905: **A famous editorial ""I Wail Bitterly Today""** ([link](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_Wail_Bitterly_Today)) was published in the newspaper [Imperial Capital Gazette](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hwangseong_Sinmun), immediately after the sign of the treaty. + * *Nara ireun seorum*, ""the grief of loss of the country,"" became a dominant sentiment in literature and folk culture soon + * 1905: [Min Young-hwan](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Min_Young-hwan), the queen's relative and the most important member of the Min clan who dedicated himself to reforming Korea, **committed suicide as a protest to the treaty** + * 1906: The first modern Korean novel, [Tears of Blood](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sinsoseol), was published. It blamed old customs and superstitions, and urged the nation's awakening + * 1907: King Gojong desperately looked for diplomatic channels, and **secretly sent three envoys to the Hague Convention at Hague, Netherlands**. However, they were treated as uninvited members, and Korea was no longer viewed as an independent nation. + * 1906\~1910: Attacks and assassination attempts for the ""Five Traitors"" took place. Some of the five were severely injured. + * 1907\~1909: Some of the former Korean army soldiers, peasant rebels (e.g. there was an army leader named ""[stone-stone](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shin_Dol-seok)"" which indicated low birth), tiger hunters, miners, etc. joined t[he Righteous Army](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Righteous_army). They had **a war with the Japanese army for two years**, with over 17,000 righteous army soldiers killed and 37,000 injured. + * The remainder of the army and leaders **fled to Manchuria** (modern-day China and Russia border region) to continue their battles, comprising the first generation of Korean diaspora in Manchuria. + * 1905\~1909: By 1905, there were **a few thousand Korean immigrants in Hawaii and San Francisco** \-- mainly Christians who were introduced to the US by American missionaries as laborers. The immigrants were greatly shaken by the news of the treaty. In 1909, the leader of the Korean immigrant community, [Ahn Chang-ho](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ahn_Changho), founded an organization named [Korean National Association](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Korean_National_Association), which would become an important apparatus for independence movement of Korean diaspora. + * 1907: [Pyongyang Revival](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pyongyang_Revival). A large-scale, historic **evangelical revival** happened in Pyongyang. A collective expression of **extreme sorrow and repentance** dominated. A missionary mentioned that it was a terrifying scene. Also, an American [missionary described](https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/evangelical-history/the-north-korean-revival-of-1907/): + +>Someone began to weep, and in a moment the whole audience was weeping. ... My own cook tried to make a confession, broke down in the midst of it, and cried to me across the room: **“Pastor, tell me, is there any hope for me, can I be forgiven?” and then threw himself to the floor and wept and wept, and almost screamed in agony**. ... \[The whole scene was\] something indescribable. Again, after another confession, they would break out in uncontrollable weeping, and we would all weep, we could not help it. And so the meeting went on until two o’clock a.m. + +​ + +* 1909: **The assassination of Ito Hirobumi, the first governor of Korea** who forced the Korean court to sign the treaty. [An Jung-geun](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/An_Jung-geun), now considered as a patriot hero in Korea, fatally shot Ito at a railway station in Manchuria. + * He didn't want to be remembered as an assassin or terrorist, but wanted to be remembered as a honorable prisoner of war. He announced 15 reasons why Ito deserved to die + * the first reason was the murder of the queen in 1895. + * He also had famously **cut off the last joint of his ring finger in a blood oath to kill Ito**. It was very noticeable in his jail photos, and his handprint was very distinct. He used his handprint as his personal signature. + +​ + +​ + +# 24. The emergence of Korean ethno-nationalism + +* **The emergence of proto-ethno-nationalism** + * At this point, Koreans were watching the world they knew fading away. The deeply isolated hermit kingdom was going through a painful identity crisis unseen from the outside world. + * ""Ethno-nationalism"" sounds a bit demonic in English language, but here I'm just going to show how it emerged in Korea as a reaction to imperial aggression. It's interesting that in light of modern scientific knowledge and methods, **some Korean scholars almost immediately started investigating their ethnic roots**. I checked what's the definition of ""ethnicity,"" and found out that Herodotus in the 5th century BC already gave a [definition of ethnic identity](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethnic_group#Definitions_and_conceptual_history). It is: + * shared descent (ὅμαιμον – homaimon, ""of the same blood"") + * shared language (ὁμόγλωσσον – homoglōsson, ""speaking the same language"") + * shared sanctuaries and sacrifices (Greek: θεῶν ἱδρύματά τε κοινὰ καὶ θυσίαι – theōn hidrumata te koina kai thusiai) + * shared customs (Greek: ἤθεα ὁμότροπα – ēthea homotropa, ""customs of like fashion"") + * **all of which had existed for at least a millennium** in the Korean peninsula. + * The neo-Confucianists in the past were not very interested in studying the linear timeline of history. Famously, when King Gojong encountered an antique [Goryeo-ware](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goryeo_ware), he said ""this is not from my country."" + * However, it does not mean that they were not aware of the historical continuity of Korean ethnic kingdoms from the distant past. The name of the kingdom *Joseon* itself came from the name of the first ancient Korean bronze-age kingdom *Old Joseon* ([Gojoseon](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x3ot4p/korean_history_dates_back_to_a_bronze_culture/)). A 15th century [fantasy novel](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Geumo_Sinhwa) tells a tale of a spirit from the *Old Joseon*, indicating Joseon Koreans' awareness of their distant ethnic past + * **Ancient ruins and old Buddhist relics were strewn in Korean countrysides and mountains.** Koreans knew that those ruins had been made by their direct ancestors. Seoul (*Hanyang*) was a relatively new city (still 500 years old), but people knew that cities like Pyongyang had existed from the immemorial past. Lots of folktales and shamanic songs told the stories of their ancestors from *Goryeo, Silla*, or even before. + * So, Koreans already had a sense of the shared distant past, and a sense of ethnic continuity. **The idea of race and ethno-nationalism imported from the 19th century Europe resonated very strongly with Koreans**, the same way it deeply resonated with the Japanese. + +​ + +* [Ju Si-gyeong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ju_Si-gyeong), **the first linguist of Korea**, founded the Korean Language System Society in 1886, and studied **Korean parts of speech and writing system**. Later he studied **phonetics and grammars**, and published many books in the 1910s. + * It seems that he also translated [History of the Loss of Vietnam](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_the_Loss_of_Vietnam) + +​ + +* National Anthem ([Aegukga](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aegukga) \- ""**The Song of Loving the Nation**"") + * The lyrics of the current Korean national anthem is traced back to the end of the 19th century. There were many different versions sung by different groups of people (court officials, military, social clubs, etc.) but it seems that most of them shared the following stanza: + +>**Hibiscus, over a thousand miles, splendid mountains and rivers** +> +>**People of Joseon, ever may preserve her.** + +* [Hibiscus syriacus](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hibiscus_syriacus) (*mugunghwa*), a type of hibiscus native to Korea, later became a national symbol of Korea. It is said that hibiscus functioned as a natural pesticide (attracting aphids and insects), so often planted next to rice fields, along with willow trees that purified water. Hibiscus is resilient and blooms a long time, so later it became the symbol of Korean resilience. + +​ + +* Folk anthem: [Arirang](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arirang) + * Arirang is the most representative Korean folk song that had been sung in all provinces with 60 versions and 3,600 variations. Most scholars seem to agree that the first Arirang came from [Jeongseon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeongseon_County) county, deep in the mountainous province [Gangwon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gangwon_Province,_South_Korea). A theory says that the song spread across the country via laborers in Seoul in the late 19th century. + * While the melodies and lyrics differ across versions, all include a variation of a refrain ""Arirang, arirang, arariyo,"" and **the theme of sorrow, separation, reunion, and love**. + * This would later evolve into an informal anthem for Korean resistance. + * In 1896, an American woman with a degree in Native American studies met three Korean students who were studying at Howard University (they had been studying in Japan, but upon the news of the queen's murder and king's exile in the Russian legation, they left for the US). She recorded a version of Arirang sung by them. + * I found a [video clip](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jnno4mRKBl8) of her recording (song starting at 6:33). While the song featured in this video is not Arirang, it is very interesting to hear how an ordinary scholar-aristocrat Joseon man, wearing a Western suit, sings in this very ancient way. + +​ + +* [Sin Chae-ho](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sin_Chaeho), **the founder of ethno-nationalistic historiography of Korea** (*Minjok Sahak*). He first developed his interest in history by reading Italian history and literature such as Dante. + * Just looking at the titles of his early newspaper columns is interesting: + * Relationship Between History and Patriotism (1908) + * The Hero Yi Sun-sin (1908) + * The Oriental Italy (1909) - he might have considered Korea as ""the oriental Italy"" + * The Introduction to Ancient History of Tan'gun (1912) + +​ + +* **The concept of** ***Minjok*** **(ethno-nation) -** [Korean ethno-nationalism](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Korean_ethnic_nationalism) + * Shin was the person who popularized the term *Minjok* (same as Japanese [minzoku](https://sociology.iresearchnet.com/sociology-of-race/minzoku/)) in Korea. It is often translated as ""race"" or ""nation,"" but I think that the most accurate translation is ""ethnic nation"" or ""ethno-nation."" + * The concept influenced the development of [**Juche**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Juche) **in North Korea,** and also **blood and soil nationalism in South Korea**. Present-day North Korea emphasizes: + +>**one bloodline, one land, one language, one culture of our monoethnic country, which has lived in purity** + +* The idea of *minjok* further developed under the Japanese colonial rule and after the Korean War. I can't describe the whole [nation-building](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nation-building) or [state-building](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/State-building) process of modern Korea(s) here in this post, I would just mention a fact: +* the **Korean language is the largest** [**language isolate**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Language_isolate)**,** i.e. a language that is not part of a larger language family. This gave Koreans a mysterious feeling about their language and ethnic origin, which led to lots of [bizarre pseudohistory](https://www.jedleahenry.org/korea-now-podcast/2020/1/2/the-korea-now-podcast-64-andrew-logie-korean-pseudo-history), some of which are still influential. + +​ + +* Mount Baekdu as a national symbol + * It's a mountain at the Korea-China border (9,000 ft) + * Shin made some pseudo-historical arguments that Koreans and Manchus were of a single race, and [Mount Baekdu](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paektu_Mountain), the spiritual mountain of Manchus, is also a spiritual mountain for Koreans. This idea was further developed later, and now Mount Baekdu is considered ""**the spiritual mountain of** ***Minjok*** **(ethno-nation)**"" by Koreans. It is considered a sacred site by both North and South Koreans + * A web of mountain ranges is now called [Baekdu-dagan](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baekdudaegan), and is considered to carry ""***Minjok*** **spirit**"" or ""***Minjok*** **energy**."" Interestingly, an [American author](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_A._Mason) made a thorough introduction online to Korean mountain sanctuaries, mountain ranges and the ethno-national spirituality ([website](http://www.san-shin.org/)). + +​ + +​ + +Well ""ethno-natioanlism"" sounds demonic in English language, but it was a resistance theory in Korea. The Japanese had their own version of [ethno-nationalism](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Racism_in_Japan), strong [ethnic body politic](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kokutai), and the theory of inferiority of the Korean and Chinese race (and others). + +From the 1930s on, the Korean ethno-nationalism would be severely oppressed under **the Imperial Japan's ""cultural assimilation"", or ""cultural/ethnic annihilation""** [policy](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_genocide#Asia)**.** Koreans were forced to [change their names](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/S%C5%8Dshi-kaimei) into a Japanese one, speak Japanese at school and in media, worship Shinto gods (Japanese indigenous religion), etc. + +Linguists were punished for doing research on the Korean language; poets were punished for writing poems in Korean. [An executed poet](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yun_Dong-ju) famously sang in 1941: + +>**With my heart singing to the stars, I shall love all things that are dying** ([poem](https://www.reddit.com/r/Poetry/comments/y01bwi/poem_foreword_by_yun_dongju_1941_in_the_1930s_and/)) + +which implied the perishing of the Korean language and ethnic culture. Thus, Korean ethno-nationalism gained **the status of martyrdom**. + +* Many Koreans still get extremely emotional about this topic -- commonly called ""***Minjok*** **emotion**."" It is commonly said that ""our spirits (*hon, eol*) were being taken away."" + +​ + +​ + +Many non-ethnic-Koreans who observe Korea now criticize the ethno-nationalism. [An American professor](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brian_Reynolds_Myers) criticizes that both South and North Korea is not founded on universal values such as republicanism or communism, but the ideology of ""blood and soil nationalism"" -- one bloodline, one language, one land. + +What is my stance as an ethnic Korean who lives abroad? I would just quote a Bulgarian-French author's observation here: + +>**The (French) condemnation of attachment to national values changes significance according to whether you live in a small country placed in a sphere of influence of a larger one** … or you live abroad in a larger country where you are sheltered from any threat by a more powerful neighbor. **Paris is certainly a place that favors the euphoric renunciation of nationalistic values. Sofia, much less so**. (Todorov, 1994, Bilingualism, Dialogism and Schizophrenia) + +I think this applies to America and Korea, too. + +​ + +​ + +Do these ""ethnic emotions"" come from one's bloodline? Race? Genetics? + +I found [a very interesting book](https://www.amazon.com/RITUALS-SEPARATION-Korean-Identity-Belonging-ebook/dp/B01MQFLWDK/ref=sr_1_1?crid=I3KOLFHETUKA&keywords=rituals+of+separation&qid=1665607664&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIwLjAwIiwicXNhIjoiMC4wMCIsInFzcCI6IjAuMDAifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=rituals+of+separation%2Caps%2C273&sr=8-1) written by **a blonde, white American woman who grew up in Seoul** between the age 0 to 16. Even after she returned to America with her missionary parents, **Korea was her motherland, even her spiritual home**. She pours out her ""ethnic"" knowledge and feelings and emotions she absorbed as a child. **The helplessness that the nation felt**, **the collective ache** Koreans feel about their history and culture. Interestingly, she talked a lot about the same historical knowledge that I laid out in this long series of Joseon posts. + +Reading this book, I was thinking that what makes me feel the way I feel is not my race or blood, but the deep and intimate knowledge that I hold dear to my heart about the language, history, and culture of the nation. + +​ + +​ + +closing episode: + +# 25. Japan–Korea Annexation Treaty of 1910 + +* By 1910, there were already about 170,000 Japanese nationals living in Korea. These settlers had already begun to colonize agricultural land in Korea - the methods were similar to what was used in other colonies. **Traditional ownership of land by Korean farmers or tenants was denied if there was no written or legal proof**, and such lands were taken and handed over to Japanese individuals or corporations. By 1910, about 5\~8% of arable land of Korea had already come under Japanese control. By 1930, it soared to 50%. +* Judging that the time was ripe, **in 1910, Japan annexed Korea**. That was the official end of the 500 years of the Joseon dynasty, and the beginning of a painful journey of Korea into the modern world. + +​ + +​ + +\--------------------- + +The next phases in Korean history are: + +* the 36 years of the Japanese colonial rule of Korea \[1910-1945\] +* US-Soviet occupation \[1945-1948\] +* Election in the US-occupied South and division \[1948\] +* Korean War \[1950-1953\] + +I'm not sure if I will write further -- the modern history is better known to the outside world, and English sources are abundant. Plus the story is very dark. Joseon was dark enough lol. + +​ + +* Just one thing I want to briefly mention is that **about 20\~25% of North Korean population were wiped out during the Korean War** ([NYTimes](https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/01/world/asia/korean-war-history.html)). Napalms were dropped upon cities and civilians in the US air raids, and only a few buildings were left in the ancient city Pyongyang. More civilians died during the Korean War than in the Vietnam War. But somehow the Korean War became ""forgotten"" although many of the US operations could be considered war crimes + * Regardless of how terrible the North Korean regime is now, this should be remembered. + +\--------------------- + +The history and culture of Joseon is not well known to the outside world, but is crucial to understand the modern South and North Korea. This series got really long but I hope this has provided a good overview.",0 +4205,Roman observation tower uncovered in ancient city of Volubilis - HeritageDaily - Archaeology News. ,0 +4206,Mashki Gate: Stunning ancient rock carvings found in Iraq. ,0 +4207,"Frozen in time: The remarkable legacy of Mary Vaux, amateur glaciologist. ",0 +4208,The evolution of Medusa and Gorgons in ancient Greek iconography and myth. ,0 +4209,"Scurvy, a history of forgetting - Naval history and exploration. ",0 +4210,St. Louis Recorder of Deeds finds original Budweiser trademark and label design. ,0 +4211,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, February 19, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke.",0 +4212,"Bookclub Wednesday, April 20, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist) + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4213,"Lost in 1944 during WWII, Rifleman Chinta Bahadur's life continues to be celebrated in his Army battalion through a sheep. ",0 +4214,Detailing a Disastrous Autumn Day in Ancient Italy. ,0 +4215,"How quick was travel in Western Europe in the late 1800s?. I am listening to the audiobook of Dracula and the travel times were a bit eye-opening to me. I know the world had shrunk a bit by 1897 when the book came out but I think I was still believing that travel times were a more lengthy ordeal. Was travel by steam engines that available and affordable? + +For example, Van Helsing is popping back and forth to London and Whitby in England to/from Amsterdam. He makes this trip in a turn around of under 24 hours at times. At one point Mina leaves England, sails to Hamburg, and then heads to Budapest. The time based on her letters/journal escape me but it was not overly long, or as long as I would have thought. + +Not trying to be exclusionary asking about Western Europe, any examples of travel times in that era would be interesting to see. + +​ + +EDIT: Thanks for all the interesting and insightful comments and information! I appreciate the details and thought provoking ideas",0 +4216,Anglo-Saxon burial ground unearthed at HS2 site in Buckinghamshire. ,0 +4217,Traditional Recipe for White Bread in Yorkshire Dialect (1952). ,0 +4218,"Manzikert: Grand Battle that decided the Empire or culmination of unsteady resurgence?. So I was looking into eastern Roman history again and noticed just how much the empire recovered over 200 years. In population, territory, and even annual revenue everything seemed to be improving relatively speaking. + +Yet, following Manzikert, it seems massive gains were made into the country by the Seljuks and other states. (Correct me if I’m wrong) + +1. Was Manzikert the climactic battle akin in which the fate of the Empire was decided or was it simply exposing a house of cards as the foundation for resurgence was built on unsteady growth? + +2. What was the current political situation like domestically and externally beyond? I believe it was tenuous but… I might be downplaying it’s importance. + +3. Did the empire’s military never recover from this? Or was it mismanagement, corruption and other foreign invasion that prevented recovery?",0 +4219,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, January 29, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke.",0 +4220,"What major event in history has been overshadowed by another major event?. I think it is Dennis Ritchie, who I believe is an Apple contributor. He is a computer scientist. He developed the C language, among many other things. + +Another contributor is Steve Jobs. He needs no introduction. + +Steve Jobs died on October 5, 2011. Dennis Ritchie died a few days later (October 12). Jobs' death was in the news (at least in the US) for several days. The major media news feeds made no mention of Ritchie's death. + +Dennis Ritchie was instrumental in inventing the software mechanisms (Unix, C language, etc.) that supported the Mac, which Jobs was eager to repurpose. + +Dennis Ritchie's death overshadowed Jobs'. It is a shame.",0 +4221,"‘Rejuvenating French pride’: The Battle of Bir Hakeim, 80 years on. ",0 +4222,"Gravestones were used by the people to build houses. Gravestones were used by the people of Cluj-Napoca in the construction of many houses. The city wall was sold in the 18th century and people bought the stones with the commitment to demolish it, and then obviously used those stones to build new houses. This is also the case of a plaque that can be found at house no. 15 on Baba Novac Street - ""Itt fekszik Pécsi Tölcséres János leánya, Kata. AD 1585"" - ""Here lies Kata, daughter of Pécsi Tölcséres János"". The year 1585 coincided with one of the worst plague epidemics to hit Cluj-Napoca and the city administration decided that from that year onwards they would no longer allow burials inside the city walls. That is practically the year in which the current central cemetery, Hajongard, was inaugurated.",0 +4223,"Separation of Venice from the Byzantine Empire and Formal Independence?. I've been doing some digging into the origins of the Venetian Republic. Unlike its eternal rival Genoa, which was invaded by the Lombards, incorporated into the Frankish Empire, then the Holy Roman Empire, sacked by the Egyptians, etc etc, Venice was part of the Exarchate of Ravenna, the Byzantines' last remaining territory on mainland Europe west of the Balkan peninsula. + +The Venetians were subjects of the Byzantine Emperor. In the 8th c. their elected leader Ursus was bestowed the titles of honorary consul (""hypatos"", hence the surname ""Ipato"") and duke (""dux"", where we get ""doge"") by Emperor Leo the Isaurian. + +Charlemagne and his son both attempted to conquer it but failed. In the Pax Nicephori treaty of 803 CE, the Franks recognised it as Byzantine. + +In practice, the Venetians were de facto autonomous since the 8th or 9th c. But at what point did Venice formally sever ties with the Byzantine Empire and become de jure independent (if ever)? + +During the 13th c., Venice was heavily involved in the sacking of Constantinople, and seized a bunch of Byzantine territories in the Peloponnese and Aegean Sea for its empire, I imagine the split would've happened before then? Or was that the breaking point? Or did it happen with its fall in 1453? + +After 1453, did the Venetians ever consider their Republic a successor-state or continuation of the Roman/Byzantine Empire (in a similar way that the Russian kings did)? + +What about religious linkages? Justinian and the later Iconoclasts had no problem with trying to impose their various religious views on Venice. Was Venice ever part of the Byzantine Church or subject to the Greek Orthodox patriarch in Constantinople, or was it always part of the Latin Rite Church and subject to the Pope in Rome? + +Any good books and primary texts, especially from the point of view of the Byzantines, Ottoman Turks and Ottoman Greeks, would be much appreciated.",0 +4224,"I was recently debating a buddy of mine about what actually makes a bad president and thought Andrew Jackson would be low hanging fruit. I was genuinely surprised when I read about his presidency outside of the trail of tears and winning duels.. + +I grew up in the fairly conservative educational environment of Zel Miller's Georgia in the 90s. During Georgia History, in the module on Cherokee history, the focus was on Andrew Jackson being an all around bad guy with no redeeming qualities, who was responsible for the trail of tears. Later in US history we were taught about how it was even worse because the Creek and Cherokee tribes helped him defeat the the English in the war of 1812. His success against the English helped him to gain wealth, and later to win the presidency and that him forcing all but a small few who sold out their kin off of the land was a personal betrayal to the very people who had put him in power. + +Going off of these notions I figured it would be easy to find lots of examples of how he was a really bad president, and I was surprised that I'd never heard that: + +1. He almost sent the US to war with France because they refused to pay off debts they owed, and they backed down after England begged them not to start another war with the US. +2. He won the election of 1824 against the secretary of state John Quincy Adams, the Speaker of the House Henry Clay, and a Georgian named William Crawford in the popular vote and in the electoral college, but didn't get enough electoral votes to get the Majority. the House of Representatives would have to vote for president with a single vote for each state. Adams won the vote and made Clay his Secretary of State, and Jackson claimed that Clay had approached him and offered to back him and have his supporters back him if he agreed to make him ""Secy"", and when he declined, Clay threw his support behind Adams, winning him the presidency. As a result of this he had a career long goal of abolishing the electoral college and setting up US elections as a popular vote. +3. He believed that Adams had fumbled agreements with the Spanish and given Texas to them despite it being part of the Louisiana Purchase and he wanted Texas badly. He was opposed to violating the US treaty with Mexico and fired his Mexican ambassador for trying to bribe Mexican officials into giving the land to the US without using the proper channels to get it. He was angry with Sam Houston, who he called a ""former friend"" after the fact, and Stephen Austin for taking Texas by force, and refused to aid them against Mexican soldiers and ships afterward. He was adamant about proving to Santa Anna that the US did not support or recognize the independence of Texas and did not aid them. +4. After the nation of Texas was more well established, he refused to annex or admit it into the US out of fears that another pro-slave state would cause uproar and possibly lead to a civil war, despite being the orphan of poor Irish immigrants who got rich selling and trading slaves, who was known for being especially brutal to slaves. +5. His primary work while in office was to oppose the Second Bank of the United States which was their equivalent of the federal reserve at the time. He was a populist who claimed the Bank’s charter gave the institution too much power over the nation’s financial markets, he argued—power that enabled it to generate huge profits for its stockholders, most of whom were “foreigners” and “our own opulent citizens.” “If we must have a bank with private stockholders, every consideration of sound policy and every impulse of American feeling admonishes that it should be purely American,” Jackson wrote. Daniel Webster and Henry Clay fought hard to protect the bank and Clay ran in opposition of Jackson for his second term expressly to protect its interests. He wrote that “It is to be regretted that the rich and powerful too often bend the acts of government to their selfish purposes,” and that ""This was unjust and dangerous to the humble members of society—the farmers, mechanics and laborers—who have neither the time nor the means of securing like favors to themselves.” + +After learning all this I am surprised more about him isn't common knowledge, I've never even heard Texans talk about his negative attitude towards their beloved fight for independence. + +Does anyone think the Fed put him on the $20 bill out of spite?",0 +4225,Napoleon and the Legendary Black General Thomas-Alexandre Dumas. ,0 +4226,"The trials of the Cuban revolution. Interesting facts about them as well as the roles of Fidel Castro, Raul Castro, Che Guevara and the historical forces that drove these events.. One major feature historical feature of the Cuban revolution and its aftermath are the political trials and executions that took place. They are both well known and little understood historically at the same time. So here are some interesting historical facts surrounding these events. + +**The crimes of the Batista era, the Law of the Sierra, and the influence of the legal precedents of Spanish Law and Nuremberg** + +* It is well known that Castro and Che came into power overthrowing another dictator named Fulcencio Batista. According to analysis done by various groups, including the CIA at the time, ""*It \[was\] estimated that roughly 20,000 politically inspired murders and deaths during revolutionary action occurred during Batista's last term in office--March 1952 to 31 December 1958*""(Political murders in Cuba--Batista Era Compared with Castro Regime, January 1963 CIA memorandum) +* This background is itself important because according to studies done on this period, ""*During the rebellion against Fulcencio Batista's, the general command of the rebel army led by Fidel Castro introduced into the liberated territories the 19th century Penal Law commonly known as Ley de la Sierra. This law included the death penalty for extremely serious crimes whether perpetrated by the dictatorship or by supporters of the revolution. In 1959 the revolutionary extended its application to the whole of the republic and to war criminals captured and tried after the war of liberation. This latter extension, supported by the majority of the population, followed the same procedures as the trials held by the Allies in Nuremberg after World War II*""\_Ramon Treto Gomez(Thirty Years of Cuban Revolutionary Penal Law, pg 115-116) + +**Out of the three, Che Guevara was surprisingly the most moderate when it came to the trials of that era** + +* Che Guevara has the reputation of being the most hardline out of those who led the Cuban revolutionary movement. In some respects he definitely was the most ideological compared to Castro, but when it came to the trials of the post revolutionary period he was surprisingly the most ""moderate"". Raul Castro at the time was the most ruthless in terms of being least likely to preside over trials that had due process. Fidel Castro presided over trials that typically involved bombastic speeches accompanied with calls for ""to the wall"" for the accused, which was pretty much a show trial. +* Che Guevara surprisingly by contrast did not presided over bombastic, show trial like judgements. According to scholars analysing this period, ""*He went over the cases with the judges and reached his final verdicts coldly and neutrally, on the basis of evidence alone. According to Borrego, Che too great care in selecting judges and prosecutors. For instance, rebels who had been mistreated were not allowed to pass judgement on their former torturers. 'There were sometimes prosecutors who were on the extreme left' Borrego explained. 'One had to moderate those who always asked for the death sentence*'""\_Jon Lee Anderson(Che, pg 371) + +**Both Fidel Castro and the Cuban revolutionaries were driven by the pressures of public opinion** + +* Scholarship on this period universally agrees that the trials of the Cuban revolution had public support. ""*There was little overt public opposition to the workings of the revolutionary justice. On the contrary. Batista's thugs had committed some sickening crimes and the Cuban public was in a lynching mood. Newspapers were full of morbid revelations and gruesome photographs of the horrors and brutalities that had taken place under Batista. Bohemia published snide interviews with suspects awaiting trial and provided sanctimonious captions to pictures of the executions*""\_Jon Lee Anderson (Che, pg 372) +* But it was simply that there was public ""support"" for the trials of the Cuban Revolution. There was in many cases active public pressure on the revolutionaries. Scholarship shows that ""*Despite the impression the U.S. media gave of the executions, there were some efforts to formalize, and even slow down, the trials. For example, on January 16, Raúl Castro announced that trials would be temporarily suspended in order to put together more convincing evidence against the defendants. The pace of executions may also have slowed as invitations were extended to several U.S. congressmen to attend the massive January 21 rally. As Castro warned, “Be assured that we are going to be much more benign than what the people want. . . . f we follow what the people want, we would have to shoot all the informers, which is a considerable quantity, but you can’t. One has to punish the exemplary cases, the minimum. For the rest, there are other punishments. Not everyone has to be shot'. But the public often felt the sentences were not harsh enough. As a tribunal member, Orlando Borrego, later recalled, people “thought the sentencing was too benign. . . . Sometimes one asked for \[a sentence of\] ten years and the people wanted it to be twenty.” Toward the end of the month trials were again delayed, and now appeals were permitted in all cases. Again the delays caused consternation, and soon new legal steps were taken to hasten the trials: the constitution was altered for ninety days in order to hasten detentions; prisoners were now allowed to be tried in any part of the island, not simply where the alleged crime had taken place; and six new courts were created in Havana to try war criminals.* ***Meanwhile, local protests continued. In Manzanillo, when two soldiers received prison terms instead of death, and one corporal was acquitted, the decision sparked a two-day riot. In Santiago the acquittal of a notorious man provoked tumultuous protests; and when the Tribunal Superior de Guerra overturned the death sentence given by a local tribunal in Pinar del Rio, sentencing the three defendants to prison sentences instead, public outrage took on ominous overtones, including veiled references to the potential such decisions had to breed counterrevolution***""\_Michele Chase(A Century of Revolution: Insurgent and Counterinsurgent Violence During Latin America's Cold War/The Trials: Violence and Justice in the Aftermath of the Cuban Revolution, pg 182-183) +* Essentially what was said above was that when Castro would give a sentence that was considered not sufficiently harsh enough, he would face a backlash from the public which sometimes in some provinces in Cuba turned to protests and riots. Continuing in this vein the scholarship also states ""*In February 1959, in several towns in Oriente Province, local anger over what were considered insufficiently harsh sentences developed into organized protests, including a brief transportation strike and declarations to a local newspaper. Two rebel army commanders were sent to stop the disturbances and release a statement of warning '\*****The problem posited by the people of Palma Soriano, protesting because Revolutionary Justice is being applied slowly and benignly \[con mucha demora y benigdad\] has served to allow Contramaestre to use the same incorrect procedure \[protests\]. . . . We say it is incorrect because they are using the same demagogic methods from 20 years ago, using public agitation to get attention. \[But\] a popular government, a government whose leaders cannot be called politiqueros or demagogues, a government that is resolving as quickly as possible all the problems brought on by the disintegration of a corrupt state, a government that loves liberty, respects individual rights, and is incapable of using public force against the people, because it emerged from the people . . . a government like this cannot be blackmailed with demagogic protests, disturbances of public peace. . . . We responsibly demand . . . that there be no more acts such as those in Palma and Contramaestre. \[We ask that\] when some injustice is committed, you go to the corresponding organisms, and you will see that justice will be done quickly****.*""\_Michele Chase(A Century of Revolution: Insurgent and Counterinsurgent Violence During Latin America's Cold War/The Trials: Violence and Justice in the Aftermath of the Cuban Revolution, pg 183) + +**Historical memory of Cuban and Latin American history influenced the decisions of the trials** + +* For the Cuban revolutionaries historical memories would have had an impact on the trials of this era though for Fidel Castro the memories emphasized would have been slightly different from Che Guevara. Castro and the Cuban revolutionaries when conducting the trials of the Cuban revolution would have looked back to the events of 1933. Whats' called the Cuban Revolution of 1933. After the resignation of Cuban President Gerardo Machado, dissatisfaction grew with the provisional government that came after him. Essentially in the ensuing chaos that took place mob justice prevailed where the people took things into their own hands which created chaos and instability. +* Castro and the Cuban revolutionaries look on those events of the past in the 30s and it informed their decisions. They saw the political trials as a way to appease the people in order to prevent the chaos of past days from re-emerging, as mentioned. This perspective is affirmed in the scholarship that states ""*Those who were in Cuba then were well aware that if the revolutionary government had not at that moment applied severe legislation against the few hundred torturers, bombers and other brutal criminals long employed by the Batista regime, the people themselves would have taken justice into their own hands, as happened during the anti Machado rebellion, and thrown society into chaos*""\_Ramon Gomez Treto(Thirty Years of Cuban Revolutionary Penal Law, pg 116) +* For Che Guevara the emphasis would have been on his experiences in Guatemala and Argentina. Lets remember he was the international revolutionary of the group who famously travelled across Latin America on his motorcycle. Che was present in Guatemala during the Guatemalan revolution of Jacobo Arbenz in the 1950s. The Eisenhower Administration, defending the United Fruit Company, initiated a coup detat to overthrow Arbenz's regime. The key to the success of the coup was flooding the radio waves with propaganda and disinformation, and also getting key generals of the military to betray Arbenz, leading to his overthrow. Che was determine not to let that happen again. So to prevent a potential coup Che supported government control of the media to prevent CIA disinformation tactics as well as the trials of the revolution to purge the military of factions that could be used for a coup. +* Che's experience in Argentina was also a factor as well. It should be remembered that he was Argentine. And for most of his life till his early twenties he lived in Argentina. This included WWII. It is well known that after WWII Nazi war criminals and collaborators escaped the Nuremberg trials. And one of the destinations they headed to was Latin America, specifically Argentina under Juan and Eva Peron's government. The trials of the Cuban revolution took place 14 years after Nuremberg. In living memory. And just like how Nazi war criminals fled across the atlantic there was a fear that Batista war criminals would flee across the Caribbean(which they did). +* What's interesting to analyse in all of this are the motivations and perspectives. The memories of both of them would have been known to both and would have influenced both. But they emphasised different memories still. Castro approached the Cuban revolution's trials from a nationalist perspective. Che Guevara from an Internationalist perspective.",0 +4227,"40th Anniversary of Largest Maritime Dig In History, Overseen By A Foundation Headed by King Charles III. In 1982 the renowned Alexander McKee's efforts to excavate Henry VIII's famous warship *The Mary Rose* paid off, and the ship was pulled from the seabed by the combined efforts of the Royal Navy and an archaeological dig team. Disaster struck during the raising and the ship was nearly lost once more, but now she sits in her own dedicated state-of-the-art museum on a naval base in Portsmouth. + +[https://www.spyglassmagazine.co.uk/post/the-raising-of-the-mary-rose-40-years-on](https://www.spyglassmagazine.co.uk/post/the-raising-of-the-mary-rose-40-years-on)",0 +4228,Jamestown: America's first English settlement now endangered. ,0 +4229,"A letter written by a ""Freedman"" to his former master.. I thought maybe people would find it interesting to read. I thought it was. + +[Letter from Jourdon Anderson: A Freedman Writes His Former Master](https://www.facinghistory.org/reconstruction-era/letter-jourdon-anderson-freedman-writes-former-master) + +32 years the man had served his master and was not paid a dime. He was shot at by his master, but succeeded to escape, yet he still considers his time 'good' when in possession of his master. (maybe related to others he had a 'good' life?) + +It's a heartbreaking story reading between the lines. (Like there are so many of them) + +These kind of letters are a good reminder of how evil humans can be! + +Edit: I found a couple more letters + +[Slave Letters](https://library.duke.edu/rubenstein/research/guides/slaveletters) + +[A letter from a slave to his mother, 1859](https://www.gilderlehrman.org/news/letter-slave-his-mother-1859) + +[Three Letters That Former Slaves Sent To Their Masters](https://allthatsinteresting.com/former-slave-letters/2) + +The letter of Jourdon is one of those 3.",0 +4230,"Historic relations between the Holy Roman Empire and the remains of the Byzantine Empire after the fall of Constantinople?. What was the relationship like between the Holy Roman Empire and the remnants of the Byzantine Empire after the fall of Constantinople in 1453? + +I'm still learning a lot about European history, but I think the Holy Roman Empire eventually consolidated into Germany and that much of what's western Russia today was part of the Byzantine Empire. I know that Tsar is derived from Caesar, but I'm not really clear on how much modern Russia is related to what remained of the Byzantine Empire. + +Secondarily, after the fall of Constantinople, how were relations between the Holy Roman Emperor(s) and the Tsars/Emperors of Russia? Did they both see themselves as the natural successors to the original Roman Empire? Were there significant conflicts between the Roman Catholic Church and the Eastern Orthodox Church? + +Thank you!",0 +4231,"History of ancient city of Aigai in Aiolis. + +Aigai, located in the province of Manisa, was established on the Gün Mountain in the Yunt Mountain Range, which was named Aspordene in ancient times. Today, Yunt Mountain is administratively located within the provincial borders of Manisa and İzmir. Its total area is 3,521,70 km wide, and it is bordered by the Bakırçay (ancient Kaikos) in the north, the Gediz (ancient Hermos) river in the south, Kırkağaç and Akhisar plains in the east and the Çandarlı Bay in the west. Highest peak of Yunt mountains, which consists of 500m-1000m hills and plains between them, stands at 1076 m. In ancient times, the mountain was the border between Mysia and Aiolis. The most important ancient settlement on the Yunt Mountain was Aigai. The archaeological data and border stones show that Aigai controlled most of the Yunt Mountain, especially in the Hellenistic Period. W.M. Ramsay suggests in his publication in 1890 that Aigai’s borders were covering a large area. + +Aiolis region, which includes an important part of the Yunt Mountain, is on the Western Anatolian shores and roughly covers the area between Gediz (Hermos) valley and Bakırçay (Kaystros) and Lesbos Island. Aeolians living in the Aiolis region and speaking a dialect of Ancient Greek, came from the north of Greece and settled in the region. + +According to tradition, these immigrants coming from Boiotia and Thesselia regions to Anatolia settled in the Western Anatolian shores in the second half of 11th century BCE. Pseudo-Herodotus, the famous historian who lived in the first age, in his work ""The Life of Homer"", quotes that the migration of Aeolians to the northwestern Anatolian shores started with the invasion of Lesbos Island in 1140 BCE. According to him, Cyme was founded in 1120; Neonteichos in 1112; and Smyrna in 1102. The Byzantine historian Eusebius, on the other hand, only dates the foundation of Myrina among these cities, to 1047 BCE about a century later. + +First group of immigrants most likely have settled along the shore. Aigai, which is 13 km inland, must have been founded later. This can be explained by the first migrants initially taking control of the area on the shore, then colonizing the hinterlands due to the population growth. Archaeological excavations and research conducted at Aigai since 2004, show that the city was founded around 700 BCE. + +Ancient geographer Strabo quotes that “Cyme is the best and largest of Aeolis cities. It can be said that Cyme and Lesbos are the metropolis (founder city) of other cities, of which up to thirty and many of which were destroyed. As can be understood from this statement, some of other Aeolian cities such as Aigai, must have been established by Cyme later. Hellenistic immigration, which had started with insufficient population to utilize hinterlands of Aiolis region as farmlands or pastures, made it necessary to expand into the hinterlands with the increase in population. + +Also, Aeolian cities which are located on the coast and are economically developed, had to keep the hinterland under control for their protection. An important ancient route passing through the slopes of Aigai, which is located on one of the important valleys lays between Lydian land and the northwestern shores of Anatolia, was connecting Magnesia (Manisa) to Elaia, the ancient port of Pergamon, and Gryneion (Yeni Şakran). These routes clarify why the Aigaians chose the area. With the foundation of the ancient city of Aigai, Yunt Mountain region must have been controlled by the Aeolians beginning from the late 8th century BCE. + +The name “Aigai” is rarely encountered in ancient written sources. However, historical events that took place in the region must have directly affected the ancient city. Midas, the last king of the Phrygians, gained the trust of Greek rulers by getting married with Hermodike the daughter of the king of Kyme, the most powerful city of the Aiolis region. This marriage has been accepted as proof of direct or indirect relationship between the Phrygians and the Aeolians on the northwestern Anatolian coast in the first half of 7th century BCE. Lydians who saved Anatolia from the Kimmer threat was the most important power of the region since the 7th century BCE. The Lydian effect on Archaic pottery found at Aigai and imported Lydian pottery prove that the region was highly influenced by the Lydian culture in 7th and 6th centuries BCE. By 546-547, the western Anatolia began to be dominated by Persians. Xenophon, in his work Hellenika, mentions that Aigai and Temnos had resisted the Persian rule and maintained their independence (Xenophon, Hell. IV.8.5). Also, according to the text, Spartan commander Derkyllidas says that Aigai and Temnos had been independent since the beginning of Persian rule in order to convince his soldiers to march on the Persians at Aiolis. Their independence may have been caused due to the fact that the cities’ location in a mountainous area and lack of Persians’ attention to the two cities. + +According to Plutarch (Them, 26.1-4), the famous Athenian statesman Themistocles, turned his way to the city of Aigai, while fleeing from Greece towards Kyme in 471/70 BCE, and without being seen, he was welcomed and hosted by his close friend Nikogenes. Then, he disguised as a woman, and continued on his way to Susa in a tent car. This proves the existence of wealthy and aristocratic families in and around Aigai from at least the 5th century BCE. Aigai was among the cities that did not pay tax to the Attica-Delos Sea League, which was established in the 5th century BCE against the Persian threat. Written sources dated to the 4th century BCE do not mention Aigai. + +After the death of Alexander the Great in 323 BCE, his successors, the Diadochi fought for control over the empire’s land. Lysimachos lost his life after he was defeated at the Battle of Couroupedium against Seleucus, in 281 BCE. After the Battle of Couroupedium, in an environment of turmoil arising from the murder of Seleucus I, many cities gained their independence. A decree found in the Aigai excavations provides important information on this period. According to the decree, the Seleucid kings Seleucıs I Nicator and his son Antiochus I Soter were honored with divine attributes in the city. Also, this inscription, erected after the victory at the Battle of Couroupedium (281 BC), mentions the deeds Seleucus I and Antiochus accomplished for the city and the day Aigai gained its freedom. + +Pergamon Kingdom put an end to the good relations they maintained with the Seleucids during the Eumenes I Period (263-241 BCE) and extended their boundaries to the north, east and southwest. During this period, control of Aigai must have passed to Pergamon Kingdom. During the Period of Attalus I, the defeat of Galatians (238/237 BCE) and then the Seleucid king Antiochus Hierax (229-227 BCE), the Kingdom of Pergamon has become the most important power of the Western Anatolia. The important achievements of Attalus I did not last long. After the Seleucid attacks under the command of General Achaeus (223 BCE), Attalus I had lost Aigai and shores of the Aiolis. After the murder of Achaeus, who rebelled against Antiochus II (216 BCE), Pergamon Kingdom took control of Aigai and its surroundings again. + +The Aiolis region and Aigai must have lived under the rule of Attalus Dynasty (Attalus I) between 218 and197 BCE. By the reestablishment of Seleucid control in the western Anatolia by Antiochus III in 197 BCE, the control of Aigai must have passed to Seleucids. Seleucids was forced to retreat to the south of the Taurus Mountains and leave the region by the Apamea Peace Treaty signed in 188 BCE. Aigai was also mentioned among the cities that gained their freedom after the Apamea Treaty. It is understood that Aigai and the whole Aiolis region has gained its independence. + +According to Polybius (His. XXXIII.13), Aigai was damaged during the war between Attalus II and Prusias II, king of Bithynia, in 156-154 BCE. In 154 BCE, Prusias II paid 100 talents as compensation to the cities damaged. Monumental public buildings such as Bouleuterion, Agora Building, Theater and Gymnasion were built at exactly this period, just after the middle of the 2nd century BCE. Attalus III donated his kingdom to Rome with a rational political decision, before his death in 133 BCE. After this date, Aigai and the surrounding region continued to exist under the rule of Rome. The earliest evidence of Roman rule in Aigai is from the 1st century BCE. + +Proconsul Publius Servilius Isauricus, a reliable man and close friend of Ceasar, helped the city and made donations for the Temple of Apollo Chresterios during his tenure as Governor of Asia (46-44 BCE). A dedicatory inscription on a sculpture base from Aigai shows that Publius Servilius Isauricus was honored in Aigai for his help. Similarly, Publius Servilius Isauricus reestablished traditional laws and independent democracy in Pergamon, and because of this, he gained the title of ""savior and benefactor of the city"". + +According to ancient writers, one of the biggest earthquakes in Anatolian history, occurred in 17 CE. Roman historian Tacitus provides detailed information about this earthquake and gives the names of the most affected cities as Sardis (Salihli) and Magnesia (Manisa). Tacitus said, “...in the same year, the twelve important cities of Asia were destroyed at midnight by an earthquake."" Roman emperor Tiberius was not very willing to help the states. However, he had made donations to Aigai and other eleven Western Anatolian cities for the destruction caused by the earthquake. A monument to honor the emperor in response to the help he had done was erected in Puteoli by the twelve Anatolian cities. There is no doubt that Yunt Mountain and other cities in the Aiolis region were also affected by the earthquake of 17 CE. + +The Goths, a nomadic tribe, destroyed and sacked many cities in the second half of the 3rd century CE. The traces of Goths threat that appeared around 260 CE, are possible to see in Aigai. The blockage by walls of the doors of the buildings dated to the 3rd century CE, show the Aigaians were aware of the approaching Goths threat. Archaeological data obtained from the excavations prove that the city was deliberately abandoned by settlers. Coins hidden in a cistern and dated to the 3rd century CE suggest that the settlers were planning to return the city. It is not known where Aigains and other settlers who lived on the Yunt Mountain area were fled at the time of the Goth danger. However, it is clear that they could not return to their cities. + +After being abandoned in the 3rd century CE, Aigai was settled again after nearly a thousand years. The last period of settlement in the city dated to the late 12th century CE. Evidence of the late Byzantine castle-settlement dated to this period is limited to the Eastern Church area. Remains of Byzantine buildings and tombs were unearthed around the church which had served a small Christian community. After the 1280s, the small Byzantine settlement at Aigai must have had its share from the Turkmen attacks took over the lands of Western Anatolia. A date around 1300 at the latest is thought of for the settlement of Turkmen groups in the area.",0 +4232,"The Guano Islands Boom kickstarted US imperialism (and other things). I think that the Guano Boom should be talked about a lot more than it currently is- in everyday conversations and academia. Not only is it an interesting little tidbit of history, but it has so many intersections of topics, struggles, and themes that it becomes even more relevant for study. + +**Background/reasons/context** + +The Inca were the first to use guano, hundreds of years before the Europeans discovered how useful a substance bird/bat poop is. Guano’s use as a fertilizer was so important to the Incas that they even had mythology surrounding the islands. Much of this was documented by Inca Garcilaso de la Vega, the descendant of an Incan and a Spanish conquistador. De la Vega even noted down the strict laws that surrounded the Guano Islands: + +* Going to the guano islands during mating season was punishable by death +* Killing the seabirds of the guano islands anytime of the year was punishable by death +* Each Incan province was assigned a guano island where every village and householder would get a part equal to the amount they would need. This was to end the privatization of the guano. + +The initial Europeans in the region focused more on finding gold than in discovering why the natives like bird poop so much. It wasn’t until Alexander von Humboldt, a Prussian geographer, who had taken samples of guano back to Europe with him to give to Pourcroy and Vanquelin. These Parsian chemists there realized that guano was very rich in nitrogen and was an excellent fertilizer. However it wasn’t popularly used as a fertilizer until Mr. Skinner, the editor of American Farmer, sent out samples of guano in the states in 1824. Europe didn’t get to try it until 1840, when England received 20 barrels of guano. + +Europe and the United States were faced with depleting topsoil. There was a large demand for effective fertilizer, with people buying into recommendations of using human pee and sawdust. However, none of these were as good as guano. It was such an effective fertilizer that the size of the crops grown with it feared many farmers. Regardless, the age of Guano had arrived. + +**Labor** + +Guano harvesting was physically demanding. So, like in many other situations where someone with capital deems it necessary for a strenuous task to be performed, someone ends up getting exploited for labor. Slaves were made of the Chinese, Polynesian, and Easter Islanders to harvest the guano. Many were kidnapped, and the adult populations of many of these islands were severely reduced. The labor was tough. Guano dust was rampant, causing people to choke and develop respiratory issues. The guano islands had no natural anchorage, meaning that the enslaved miners had to paddle boats to the ships. The water had sharks and was turbulent. There were minimal drinkable water sources. Rats got into the food supplies and would bite workers. The conditions were so bad that guards had to be placed around the shores so the slaves would not commit suicide. + +**Leading up to the Guano Islands Act of 1856** + +Journalists reported on the labor issues occurring in the Guano Islands with sensational stories. The labor issues occurring in the guano islands also brought the public's attention to the Peruvian monopoly on Guano and the trade deal they had with the British. There was an anxiety over the limited amount of guano in Europe and the Americas. Peru was able to claim a monopoly and worked out a trade deal with Britain. Americans did not like this. President Millard Fillmore addressed this issue in his State of the Union address in 1850, stating that “Peruvian guano has become so desirable an article to the agricultural interest of the United States that it is the duty of the Government to employ all the means properly in its power for the purpose of causing that article to be imported into the country at a reasonable price.” Congress passed the Guano Islands Act in 1856. + +**Analyzation of the act itself: the language and the implications of it** + +The act itself has a lot of very interesting language that have had many serious implications. + +* The first is that the act declared that the president could direct the navy to protect claims to guano islands. +* It also declared that, “Nothing in this chapter contained shall be construed as obliging the United States to retain possession.” There was no intention of incorporating these territories. + +**How the Guano Islands Act shaped the modern world** + +Along with the other technological advancements that were concurrently occurring, the guano boom greatly contributed to the creation of the modern agroindustrial complex. The standard of living doubled as a result of the increased amount of food available. + +The Guano Islands Act is also the first act of US imperialism and kickstarter America’s imperialist adventures. It was the first time territorial expansion was done not on the mainland and it was the first time that the expansion had no intention of incorporation as well. It set a precedent that wasn’t legally solidified until the Navassa Revolt and the following Jones v US (1890). I’m not going to get too much into that because while it is very interesting, it is a lot of legal jargon that I don’t have the time to read through and decipher to write here. I would still recommend looking into it because it A brief summary is that Haiti and the US both wanted Navassa and both claimed it as theirs. The US allowed the claim because it did not recognize the Haitian government at the time. Slaves at the island revolted against their enslavers, 4 of them were killed. 43 of the enslaved workers were charged with crimes in Jones v US. A lot went down in that trial, with Jones’s lawyer questioning the constitutionality of the guano island act and if the US government had jurisdiction over Navassa. The court’s ruling set the legal precedent for US court jurisdiction over future imperial holdings. + +**What the Act connects (concepts, ideas, patterns, etc)** + +The Guano Boom is a truly interesting phenomena, as I previously stated, because of the multitude of intersections between so many events, concepts, and greater historical themes. There are many, but I’ll briefly touch on some of them here + +1. California Gold Rush + +Many people migrated to California during the gold rush, and many of them used ships to get there. It was a very long journey since the Panama Canal was not yet built. The ship owners made a lot of money transporting people there, but no one wanted to go back home from California. Not wanting to have empty ships return, they realized that they picked up guano on their way back. The Guano trade wasn’t quite yet a boom, but the gold rush has made it into a boom. + +1. Communism + +Karl Marx’s Metabolic Rift was written during England’s second agricultural revolution. It was during this time that guano was in high demand because of its effectiveness as a fertilizer. Marx noticed the threat that soil depletion posed to capitalist society and had led to powers to imperialize sources of guano. Here he acknowledges not only the capitalist robbing the worker, but the soil as well. Marx also had a lot to say on the inhuman conditions the enslaved miners were faced with. I would also look into Liebig for more information. + +1. Economic Booms + +Peru benefited economically as a result of the Guano Boom. In 1853, Peru was able to be debt free through paying off their debts through the money made by the boom. The federal budget was tripled in 1860. 15 years of a guano boom had generated $150 million in revenue. This wealth created a construction boom in Peru as infrastructure was planned and built. The Guano boom unfortunately became a bust and the Peruvian economy greatly suffered as a result of this. + +Disclaimer: This post is for a class assignment for my US History class. I am currently a student, so I obviously am not an expert and it is very likely that I have miswrote and not understood and explained a concept well. If you do notice any mistakes, please let me know in the comments. I do hope you enjoyed the argument I have presented! I’d love to hear your thoughts, especially since I find this to be a really interesting part of history that I have bored all my friends talking about. + +Sources I used for this and that you can use to do further research if wanted: + +[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inca\_Garcilaso\_de\_la\_Vega](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inca_Garcilaso_de_la_Vega) + +Guano and the Opening of the Pacific World: A Global Ecological + +[https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/when-the-western-world-ran-on-guano](https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/when-the-western-world-ran-on-guano) + +[http://archipelagobatguano.com/6.shtml](http://archipelagobatguano.com/6.shtml) + +[https://books.google.com/books?id=4-R8SSzKLewC&pg=PA226&lpg=PA226&dq=guano+as+fertilizer+history&source=bl&ots=zUZ8ptG2KN&sig=fQ-pUMOcsHMvUz\_uzQr1S6c4ZcU&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0CD0Q6AEwBTgKahUKEwj8puvq87\_IAhVNrIAKHWXmDaY#v=onepage&q&f=false](https://books.google.com/books?id=4-R8SSzKLewC&pg=PA226&lpg=PA226&dq=guano+as+fertilizer+history&source=bl&ots=zUZ8ptG2KN&sig=fQ-pUMOcsHMvUz_uzQr1S6c4ZcU&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0CD0Q6AEwBTgKahUKEwj8puvq87_IAhVNrIAKHWXmDaY#v=onepage&q&f=false) + +[https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smithsonian-institution/how-gold-rush-led-real-riches-bird-poop-180957970/](https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smithsonian-institution/how-gold-rush-led-real-riches-bird-poop-180957970/) + +[https://monthlyreview.org/2018/07/01/the-robbery-of-nature/](https://monthlyreview.org/2018/07/01/the-robbery-of-nature/) + +[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Metabolic\_rift](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Metabolic_rift) + +[https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0020715209105144](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0020715209105144) + +[https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/03066150.2021.1979966](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/03066150.2021.1979966) + +[https://shibbolethsp.jstor.org/start?entityID=https%3A%2F%2Fidp.austincc.edu%2Fopenathens&dest=https://www.jstor.org/stable/41329630&site=jstor](https://shibbolethsp.jstor.org/start?entityID=https%3A%2F%2Fidp.austincc.edu%2Fopenathens&dest=https://www.jstor.org/stable/41329630&site=jstor) + +[http://www.presidentialrhetoric.com/historicspeeches/fillmore/stateoftheunion1850.html](http://www.presidentialrhetoric.com/historicspeeches/fillmore/stateoftheunion1850.html) + +[https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/how-the-potato-changed-the-world-108470605/](https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/how-the-potato-changed-the-world-108470605/) + +[https://historynewsnetwork.org/article/171898](https://historynewsnetwork.org/article/171898)",0 +4233,Researchers uncover an early Byzantine business and gastronomy district at ancient Ephesos. ,0 +4234,"Bookclub Wednesday, March 09, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist) + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4235,Large funerary building and Fayoum portraits from the Ptolemaic and Roman period discovered. ,0 +4236,"Archaeologists Find Ancient Roman Fridge With Food Leftovers In Bulgaria. The experts did not explain how the fridge had worked, but typically they were kept in underground pits that were piled with snow to keep the contents cold well into summer.. ",0 +4237,"Enthusiastic tour guide details the secrets of a medieval castle (Chepstow Castle in Wales). Includes dungeon, trap, and murder holes.. ",0 +4238,"Bookclub Wednesday, March 30, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist) + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4239,"Bookclub Wednesday, May 11. Hi everybody, + +​ + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +​ + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +​ + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +​ + +Of course it’s not limited to \*just\* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to \[read, listen to or watch\]([https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist))",0 +4240,"Joseon, the predecessor of modern Korea(s) - Part 6: Queen Myeongseong (aka Queen Min) drives 20 years of opening and reform with her husband King Gojong, until her violent murder by the Japanese [1864-1905]. History of Korea (0) [pre-historic influences](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/x5egoz/interesting_parallels_between_prehistoric_korean/) + +History of Korea (1) [**Gojoseon**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x3ot4p/korean_history_dates_back_to_a_bronze_culture/) \[around 1000 BC \~ 108 BC\] + +History of Korea (2) [**Three Kingdoms**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x89pzd/koreas_three_kingdom_period_and_unified_silla/) **(*****Goguryeo, Baekje, and Silla*****) and Unified Silla** \[around 100 BC \~ 935\] + +History of Korea (3) [**Goryeo**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/xdnht8/goryeo_koreas_medieval_kingdom_918_1392_stories/)**, Korea's medieval kingdom:** stories, songs and Mongol invasion \[918 - 1392\] + +History of Korea (4) **Joseon, the predecessor of modern Korea(s): neo-Confucian orthodoxy and the origin of the hermit kingdom** \[1392 - 1910\] + +* [Part 1: What is neo-Confucianism?](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y3dil9/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) + * [Women's oppression in Joseon era](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/wzqxuu/womens_oppression_in_joseon_era/) +* [Part 2: Early prosperity and the cycles of literati purges (15\~16th century)](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y54lc6/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) +* [Part 3: Japan and Qing Invasions (early 17th century)](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/yb5277/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas_part_3/) +* [Part 4: Deepening Confucian Orthodoxy, Isolationism, and Underground Spread of Catholicism \[1640s\~1860s\]](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/yf6rgr/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas_part_4/) +* [Part 5 (extra): Vernacular literature (17\~19th century)](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y9fy6x/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) + +​ + +​ + +So far my account of Korean history has not deviated a lot from conventional narratives in Korean history textbooks and the popular discourses. However, this section might be a little bit different. + +I took an equivalent of AP Korean History when I was a high school student in Korea. I learned about a long list of events between 1850-1900 including a coup, riot, rebellion, murder, and exile, but they all looked random to me. In this post, I argue that **all these events are best understood when one considers Queen Myeongseong (aka Queen Min), the wife of King Gojong, as the most influential court politician of the time who set out the direction of opening and reform**. + +The version of the story that is commonly remembered by the Korean public is as following: + +* 1. King Gojong was a weak man, and he was under the influence of his father and his wife. His father was a strong man, and his wife also had a strong personality. +* 2. His father and his wife didn't get along well. +* 3. The queen (his wife) lavishly spent the nation's wealth, but she was a pitiful queen at the end of the day, because she was violently murdered by the evil Japanese. + +​ + +This narrative does not highlight the fact that + +* **1. The queen was the one who ended the 10 years of extreme isolationist, conservative policies driven by her father-in-law** +* 2. **She was the one who drove the subsequent 20 years of opening and reform of the country.** She was the one who opened up the border and invited Western missionaries to build modern hospitals and schools +* 3. **She also had a keen sense of diplomacy, understood that Japan was the biggest national security threat**, and tried to ally with China (and later Russia) to check Japan's rising influence. **She was consistently anti-Japan**. **This eventually led to her violent murder by the Japanese.** + +Serious gender bias played out in her historical evaluation and later public discourses in Korea. She was often accused of being power-hungry, lavish, irrational and domineering, but the records of her contemporaries say that she was an outstanding intellectual and political figure. + +​ + +Her story is even more dramatic in a sense that she was carefully chosen as a queen by her father-in-law because she was from a peripheral aristocratic family with no father or brothers who could take power. **Her father-in-law never imagined that the fatherless little girl would grow up to be his most fierce political nemesis**. + +**Her changing relationship with her same-age husband King Gojong over 30 years was also dramatic, complex, and multi-dimensional**. They essentially grew up together (from 15 years old to 45 years old), and the king was, in the end, deeply attached to the queen. His famous exile to the Russian ligation is best understood as his shocked reaction to her violent murder by the Japanese, and his will to continue his murdered wife's policy directions. + +​ + +Overall, **I think her life is a Netflix show material.** lol. It's a fascinating time and I hope someone will dramatize it. + +The following are some of the mentions about her by her contemporaries: + +​ + +>As a diplomat, the queen demonstrated outstanding skills. When dealing with the problems of foreign powers and interests in Europe and America, **the queen carefully reviewed each issue and presented her opinions before King Gojong, and her logic was precise and orderly**, and she often impressed foreign diplomats. +> +>\- Yoon Chi-ho +> +>I was impressed by the queen's graceful and charming manners, her thoughtful hospitality, her superior intelligence and dignity. Although she was communicated to me through an interpreter, her speech was excellent. **I came to fully understand her bizarre political influence, her power to command, not just her king, but many others.** When a conversation started, especially when she became interested in the content of the conversation, her face shone with a dazzling intellect. +> +>\- Isabella Budd Bishop, ""Korea and Her Neighbors"" +> +>At that time, Japan had no choice but to eliminate the empress, a representative figure, to eliminate the possibility of collusion between Joseon and Russia. **She was an outstanding person of her time**. +> +>\- Hideo Kobayakawa + +​ + +\*\* Disclaimer: The Queen is commonly referred to as Empress Myeongseong in contemporary Korea, because she was posthumously elevated to the status of the Empress in the short-lived Korean Empire (1897-1910) later on. But I think that this is an inflated title -- Korea was never an empire in any real sense, and she was never an empress when she was alive. In this post, I would simply refer to her as ""the Queen."" + +​ + +# Phase 5. Into a Frightening New World [1864~1910] + +**The Opium Wars were a critical moment** \- everyone was watching what was happening in China. 6 years after the defeat of China in the Second Opium War (1860), **the Japanese reformists would start a dramatic coup and achieve the Meiji Restoration in two years**. From that point, they rapidly adopted Western institutions and modernized their country. This quick transition was enabled by centuries of engagement in international trades, the growth of market economies, and knowledge of the West accumulated from that. Military conscription of the ruling class did not meet resistance. + +In China and Korea, such a radical coup did not happen, and the reform was only slowly being introduced by old monarchs and aristocrats. In both countries, reformists had been poisoned, killed, and executed for decades. + +The first reform in those countries was military reform, but it was limited to raising an elite military unit with Western weaponry without changing institutions: commonly known as ""Eastern principles, Western tools"" approach. Conscription of the ruling class was unthinkable under the Confucian ideology. + +**The ideology that was the foundation of Joseon Korea was failing**, and Koreans would go through painful soul searching and eventual annexation by Japan in 1910. + +But there were two important rulers before that: *Daewongun*, a conservative isolationist who was the father of King *Gojong*, and **Queen** ***Myeongseong*** **(aka Queen Min), who would turn out to be the most important reformist politician** in Joseon court (who was originally from a peripheral aristocrat family). + +​ + +​ + +# 19. A royal outsider becomes the Regent of Joseon, and continues isolationist policies for 10 more years [1864~1874] + +*Heungseon Daewongun* ([link](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heungseon_Daewongun)), whose birth name was *Yi Ha-eung*, was far in the order of succession in the royal family. It is said that he deliberately acted libertine - drinking a lot, hanging out with commoners, and visiting gisaengs (geisha/courtesan) to avoid attention. + +Then **his son** \[[King Gojong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gojong_of_Korea)\] **was selected as the next puppet boy king**. *Daewongun* (the father) revealed his true color as an ambitious power-hungry man, and started gaining power as the regent. He effectively weakened the power of the corrupt Andong Kim clan, but he turned out to be **a stubborn guardian of neo-Confucianism and extreme isolationism**. Joseon maintained its reputation as a ""hermit kingdom."" + +It was a time when foreign ships started appearing and demanded the opening of ports and trades ([French expedition](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/French_expedition_to_Korea), [US Gereral Sherman Incident,](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/General_Sherman_incident) [US expedition](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_expedition_to_Korea)). China was defeated in the historic Opium Wars. However, *Daewongun* was stubborn and his foreign policy was simply: ""**no treaties, no trade, no Catholics, no West, and no Japan.**"" + +**Koreans were still prohibited from leaving the country** (except for a few diplomats), and all **foreigners were barred entry into the country** except for a few Chinese or Japanese diplomats. ([link](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Imo_Incident)) + +* e.g. Daewongun was furious about a precise map ([Daedongyeojido](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daedongyeojido)) made by a Korean cartographer [Kim Jeong-ho](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gim_Jeong-ho) influenced by Western science + +His most important achievement was the reconstruction of Gyeongbok Palace, which had been destroyed 250 years ago in the devastating war with Japan. + +* The Korean public weirdly remembers that Queen *Myeongseong* lavishly spent the country's wealth, but it was actually *Daewongun* who imposed a huge tax burden on the public for this symbolic project of no practical importance (other than being used as a tourist attraction a hundred years later) + +>A historian Bruce Cumings notes that \[his reign\] was not a revolution but a **restoration**, as the Daewongun was **attempting to return to the days of King Sejong in the fifteenth century** + +Overall, he was a fierce guardian of *Wijeong Cheoksa* (""Preserve the Right, Dispel the Heresy"" - heresy meaning Western science and Christianity). Japan was rapidly modernizing their country in this 10-year time period. + +​ + +​ + +# 20. The queen, a fatherless, brotherless 25-year-old woman from a peripheral noble family, effectively expels her father-in-law from power + +*Daewongun*, the regent, carefully chose **a 15-year old girl** (birth name *Min Ja-yeong*) **from a peripheral noble family (Min clan) who had no father and brothers** as the wife of his son King *Gojong* (who was also about 15-year-old). He believed that it would prevent any potential [consort kin](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Consort_kin) problems in the future. It is an interesting irony that, by doing so, he unknowingly chose his biggest political rival in the future. + +She was not a particularly feminine or attractive girl, and she did not draw any attention from the boy king for the first 5 years in their marriage. However, **she was intelligent, poised, and had a love for learning**. It is said that her free time was entirely devoted to reading -- she particularly **read books about the ancient history and statesmenship** such as *Spring and Autumn Annals* (the history of competing Chinese states 771\~446 BC), **which were not typically read by women**. In the meantime, the king, a teenager boy, was fooling around with court maidens. + +Then a palace maiden bore the first son of the king. It would have been an extremely humiliating and devastating news for a teenager queen. However, she calmly sent a very expensive gift to the mother, and congratulated her husband with a happy face at an official ceremony. The boy king was frightened and surprised. Some say that that was the first moment he ever paid any attention to her. + +That said, this was a serious threat because queens not able to bear a son could be expelled from the palace. The queen, like any other previous queens in the court, desperately prayed to the shamanic spirits. Finally, when she was 20 years old, she delivered her first son. However, **tragically and famously, the baby boy was born with an anus deformity and was not able to discharge**. He died in 4 days. Still barely adult, the queen got extremely emotional, cried, and made the whole nation to hear her cry -- by inviting several hundred shamans to sing for the soul of her child for ten days straight, and by ordering thousands of Buddhist monks throughout the nation to pray. + +* Unfortunately, the popular memory (before her reevaluation in the 1990s) only focused on this event in her teenage years (""she's irrational and wasteful"") + +After all this drama, the King Gojong became an adult, and started wanting to rule as a king himself. But he feared his father, and did not have a political knack to do so. This was the time when the queen started revealing her talent as a politician + +By this time, she had already figured out the characters of the noblemen in and out of the court. **She united the men in her Min clan, and started placing them in major court positions. She also won over the people who had been neglected by the Regent** (her despotic father-in-law) -- including the regent's elder brother. The young queen was moving her pawns while birthing children. **When the time was ripe, the king announced that he would take the reign into his own hands, and would not allow his father to enter the court.** His father was effectively expelled. + +* But his father didn't just get expelled silently - mysterious explosions and killings happened around the capital shortly after + +​ + +# 21. The queen, with the support of her husband King Gojong, drives opening and reform for 20 years [1874~1894] + +Soon, she delivered a healthy male heir. This consolidated her status and power in the court. **The young queen and king were now in political symbiosis -- her power depended on her position as the legitimate/primary wife of the king, and his power came from her political intelligence and shrewdness**. They would maintain this idiosyncratic partnership for the next 20 years, until the queen was murdered at the age of 45. + +* Many foreigners' records described the queen as ""clever, intelligent, shrewd, and witty"" while describing the king as ""kind"" + +However, it was not just the symbiotic interests that bound the two. **The two also seemed to share a common vision for opening and reform**. + +* Joseon was still a deeply isolated ""backwater"" of East Asia: [For example](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim_Ok-gyun), most Joseon scholars have **never seen photographs of the West** before this point. **Such materials had been banned** by the father of the king before. Only a very few fringe figures had access to the outside world. +* Both the queen and king were interested in new materials and knowledge coming from the outside world. It's famous that the king liked coffee, for example. **They knew that the world was changing, and were sympathetic to young scholars' sense of urgency to change and reform**. + +​ + +**(1) Opening** + +* In 1876, there was a small skirmish between a Japanese warboat *Unyo* and a Korean island fortress. Unlike *Daewongun* (the former regent), the new regime (the queen, king, and their court officials) **agreed to open commerce with foreigners**. [The Treaty of Ganghwa](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japan%E2%80%93Korea_Treaty_of_1876) was signed. + * This was an unfair treaty in the sense that it gave Japan the right to survey and locate two new ports in the Korean peninsula, and it bestowed [extraterritoriality](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extraterritoriality) for the Japanese in the special port districts. The Westerners [had forced this to Japan](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Treaty_of_Amity_and_Commerce_(United_States%E2%80%93Japan)), and now Japan was doing the same thing with Joseon Korea. + * However, the Korean history textbooks focuses only on the fact that it was an unfair treaty, ignoring the fact that it was a deliberate political decision made as an experiment. +* In 1880 a [mission](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim_Hong-jip) was sent to Japan, and they got a document from a Chinese diplomat titled ""A Strategy for Korea."" China wanted Korea to be modernized to play a role as a buffer zone between China and Japan. The document **recommended Korea stay pro-China, learn from Japan yet maintain a distance, and ally with the United States** to counterbalance Russia + * The mission also reported that, compared to the modernized and electricity-wired Tokyo and Osaka, Seoul and Busan now looked like vestiges of the ancient past + * **The queen took special interest in the strategy document, and had copies sent out to all the ministers**. This might have influenced **her life-long diplomatic stance (pro-China, arm's-length relationship to Japan, and alliance with Westerners**) + +​ + +During the early changes, **three different political parties emerged**. + +# (Party A) ""Dispel all foreigners"" - which was, unfortunately, the most popular approach + +# (Party B) Pro-China, arm's length relationship to Japan, alliance with Westerners (Queen's approach) + +# (Party C) Radicals (pro-Japan, aiming to imitate the Japanese way) - a rising faction in the court + +\*\* some radicals were sincerely attracted to Japan for ideological reasons, but later, some of those in the pro-Japan faction would be deliberately bought by Japan + +​ + +**(2) Riot and coup** + +In 1881, the court **raised an elite military unit** called [Byeolgigun](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Py%C5%8Flgigun), armed with new Western weapons and trained by Japanese officers + +However, finance might have been the new regime's weakness. Joseon Korea did not inherit a functioning market economy, and corruption had been rampant at all levels of bureaucracy (legacy from the early 19th century - section 18). + +Grievances arose among the old army. Many of them were discharged, and the rest of them did not get enough salary in the form of rice. The minister of treasury, who was a Min clan member, was in charge to pay them, but he was inexperienced and incompetent. A subordinate swindled the rice and replaced it with millet mixed with sand. It got rotten, and foul smelling. + +* This infuriated the old army, and they raided the palace ([Imo incident](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Imo_Incident)) - they killed the Japanese, the minister of treasury, and several other high officials. They considered the queen and her clan members as main enemies who prioritized foreigners. +* Opening and reform was not popular among the less educated populace (Party A), especially when it was driven by a woman. The rioters searched for the queen to kill her. However, **the queen disguised as a palace maiden, and narrowly escaped** with her guardians and maidens. + +This set back the early reform efforts. When the queen was away, the (more easily pushed around) king signed a[ treaty](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japan%E2%80%93Korea_Treaty_of_1882) with Japan that promised expensive reparations. Upon learning about that, the queen contacted China and asked for their interference. As a result, Qing China gained more influence over the Korean peninsula + +This upset the radicals (Party C). In 1884, [Kim Ok-gyun](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim_Ok-gyun), a 20-something pro-Japan radical, made [Gapsin Coup](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gapsin_Coup) with [Park Young-hyo](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Park_Yung-hyo) and [Seo Jae-pil](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soh_Jaipil) (all 20 years old) in order to replicate the Meiji Restoration in Korea, with the aid of the Japanese guards stationed in Korea. The coup only lasted for 3 days, often known as ""Three Days' Reign"" + +* This was quickly suppressed by a Chinese garrison stationed in Korea. This enhanced the Chinese influence over Korea until 1894 +* After the failure of the coup, the coup leaders fled to Japan; *Seo Jae-pil* later went to the US, studied medicine, and became the ""first Korean American."" He married an American woman. +* While negotiating with Japan and China, **the queen persuaded the Chinese envoys to keep 2,000 soldiers disguised as Joseon police without Japan knowing it**. A famous Chinese general (later warlord) [Yuan Shikai](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yuan_Shikai) stayed in Korea. + +​ + +​ + +**(3) 10 years of peace - diplomatic balance and reforms** + +Between the time period 1882\~1894, **the queen (and king) consistently pursued the policy of checking Japan's rising influence by allying with Qing China and Westerners**. Joseon signed a [treaty with the US](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joseon%E2%80%93United_States_Treaty_of_1882), [UK](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_Kingdom%E2%80%93Korea_Treaty_of_1883), [Germany](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Germany%E2%80%93Korea_Treaty_of_1883), [Russia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Russia%E2%80%93Korea_Treaty_of_1884), and [France](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/France%E2%80%93Korea_Treaty_of_1886). + +* She chose that direction because + * (a) she knew that Japan posed the greatest national security threat to Korea - other nations (China and Westerners) were less interested in Korea's territory + * (b) perhaps she did not agree with Japan's radical modernization and constitutional monarchy model. At the end of the day, she was a member of monarchy, and had a class interest in preserving its power + +Many important changes were happening. I will just mention a few: + +**Economic opening and reform** + +* opening ports and collecting tariff from foreign trades +* **establishment of first Korean corporations** +* laying telegraph lines with China and Japan +* the issue of new coinage (which unfortunately caused an inflation) + +**Medicine**: + +* an [American doctor](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Horace_Newton_Allen) treated a severe wound of one of the queen's relatives. A rumor spread that ""a foreigner with bushy red beard revived a dead noble."" Later the queen and king endorsed the establishment of **the** [**first Western hospital**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chejungwon) **and medical school** in Seoul. (a further[ story](https://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/nation/2022/03/177_285903.html)) + * [Another story about smallpox vaccine](https://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/opinion/2022/10/715_309581.html) + +**Education and culture**: + +* The queen invited many **Western (American) missionaries to establish schools**. + * The queen herself was never a Christian, and throughout her life, she followed a syncretism of Buddhism, Shamanism, and Confucianism like any other Joseon woman back then + * But she knew the practical importance of Western knowledge, mathematics and science +* The queen also gave her patronage to the **first all-girls' educational institution**, Ewha Academy (now prestitious [Ewha Women's University](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ewha_Womans_University)). + * The queen befriended several female American missionaries. The American women left many detailed, valuable records about the queen, undistorted by gender bias +* First modern newspapers were published +* Music: Christian hymns, chords, and instruments were introduced via missionaries and churches. Many of the first-generation Korean (modern) composers came from Christian families. They composed Korean anthems, children's songs, and national songs that are still taught in Korea + +**Continuing military reform**: + +* US generals were invited to Korea to provide advice and training +* Joseon court also established a new [navy](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Korean_Imperial_Naval_Academy) + +​ + +# 21. Peasant rebellion, the queen's anti-Japan stance, and the 45-year-old queen's violent murder by the Japanese [1894-1895] + +**The opening and reform was not popular** outside of Seoul, among the less educated populace. **The vast populace in the provinces was deeply suspicious of anything foreign**, and rejected the new ideas of market economy and diplomacy. + +In 1894, [a large-scale peasant rebellion](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Donghak_Peasant_Revolution) took place, triggered by a local magistrate's abuse of power (*Gobu* magistrate *Cho Byeong-gap*) in the historically stigmatized Southwestern province Jeolla. This got magnified by a new religious movement called [Donghak](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Donghak) (""Eastern learning"" as opposed to ""Western learning"" aka Christianity). It was similar to China's [Taiping Rebellion](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taiping_Rebellion) + +* *Donghak* was a syncretism of some Christian creeds (equality between people) and Buddhism and shamanism. Its descendant cults and beliefs are still alive in Korea + * My post ""[Korean indigenous new religious movements' holy sites in North Jeolla](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/xakco4/korean_indigenous_cults_holy_sites_in_north_jeolla/)"" + +The *Donghak* rebels had three initial demands: + +* (1) Stop the ban on *Donghak* +* (2) **Expel Westerners, Expel Japan** +* (3) Kill corrupt court officials and magistrates + +Some 80,000 believers gathered under the flags of ""Expel Westerners, Expel Japan"" (*Cheokyang Cheokwae*). Later it developed more radical slogans such as ""Kill all the Min clan members."" + +* They **attached warning signs ""LEAVE"" to American, French, British, and Japanese residences, and Christian churches and schools** + * Ironically, many of their campaigns were influenced by Western ideas: equality, women's rights (particularly widow's rights to remarry), people's councils, abolition of slavery, etc. +* Peasants were deeply sympathetic with them, and secretly helped the rebel army. They informed the rebels about the local geography and weather (e.g. mist), and sabotaged the state army (e.g. filling water in their cannons) +* A rumor that ghosts (supernatural power) are helping the rebels spread among the state army. + +​ + +\*\*\* + +This event might indicate the weakness of the queen's regime in controlling domestic affairs and local corruption. While she was an excellent diplomat and strategist, there's less evidence that she was good at internal affairs. + +However, I'd like to defend her given **the constraints of her time**. Noble women were normally kept in ""inner chambers,"" ([link](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/wzqxuu/womens_oppression_in_joseon_era/)) and banned from coming out of their residence in daylight ([source](https://web.archive.org/web/20060217083642/http://www.gkn-la.net/history_resources/queen_min_tmsimbirtseva_1996.htm)). The queen was deeply hidden within the walls of the palace, and **she had to be unseen**. All the official commands had to come through the king. There were few contact points between her and the vast ""real world"" populace out there. There was a limit in her capability to control the internal affairs, compared to what was available to male rulers. + +Although consort kins are normally demonized in the Confucian social systems, there is no evidence that the queen and her clan was particularly corrupt. Her personal spending was very modest, and the clan was under her control. The most famous clan member [Min Young-hwan](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Min_Young-hwan) devoted himself to reforming the country, and committed suicide when Korea lost sovereignty to Japan. + +\*\*\* + +​ + +As a reaction to the rebellion, the Joseon court organized a committee for the [first large-scale reform](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gabo_Reform). Then a series of international events followed: + +* **Both Qing China and Japan tried to aid Joseon to quell the peasant rebellion, to increase their influence** in the Korean peninsula +* There were both pro-China and pro-Japan factions in the Joseon court. The queen was pro-China (Party B), but there were lots of pro-Japan court officials (Party C) +* **Japan was expanding their influence over the pro-Japan faction in Joseon. They also funded a** [**military unit**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hullyeondae) in the capital of Joseon, which would help Japanese operations later on +* The first Sino-Japanese War [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/First\_Sino-Japanese\_War](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/First_Sino-Japanese_War) occurred - and unexpectedly, **Japan won, China lost.** + +​ + +After watching China losing the war, **the queen swiftly moved to ally with Russia to counterbalance Japan**. Japan was practically the biggest national security threat to Joseon, and the Japanese officials were already discussing a [military expedition](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seikanron) into Joseon. Her foreign policy was consistently about checking Japan's rising influence. + +* In 1895, while inviting Russians to the court, **she ordered the disbandment of the Japan-funded military unit** ([Hullyeondae](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hullyeondae)). + +This was what rang the death knell for the queen. + +​ + +In October of 1895, dozens of Japanese swordsmen entered the Korean palace. The Japan-funded Korean military unit (that the queen had tried to disband) cooperated to open the gate. **The Japanese swordsmen violently slaughtered the 45-year-old queen with katanas, ""violated"" her dead body** (I'd rather not know what happened), **displayed her dead body to Russians in the court as a warning**, **and burned her body to ash in a forest**. + +Even the most pro-Japan Western[ historian](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Donald_Keene)s describe the event as ""unspeakably barbaric."" + +​ + +​ + +# 21. The shockwave of the queen's violent murder; a short-lived Korean Empire + +Did the queen and king love each other? + +* It is hard to tell. They were primarily political partners, their fates being intertwined. The Confucian polygamy allowed (and encouraged) the king to sleep around with different women and have children with them, while the queen had to be strictly faithful to the man. Would any modern woman be able to stand it? It must be very difficult. + * But they grew together. For the first 5 years in their marriage, they were just children forced to be together. As they grew into adulthood, they discovered the potential as political partners in each other, and also became conjugal partners in a real sense. They had children together, explored the frightening new world, and pursued opening and reform together. **While the king did not have the political astuteness and shrewdness of the queen, he was a kind and warm-hearted man, sometimes had his own opinions and discussed them with the queen based on mutual respect**. +* Right after the queen's murder, the king's father *Daewongun* (the expelled former regent) immediately, a bit pathetically, returned to the palace upon the news. **The father demanded that the king sign an edict to demote the murdered queen to a lower-rank consort.** **The king refused it with unusual decisiveness, saying: ""I would rather have my hands cut off.""** + +​ + +The king was deeply depressed after the murder, and spent months in his chamber doing nothing. Then, he suddenly left his palace with his crown prince son, and voluntarily exiled into the Russian legation. There, **he continued the queen's policy direction--alliance with Russia--, and started kicking out the pro-Japan faction**. He got rid of them from his new cabinet, and executed several high officials in the pro-Japan faction. He willingly continued the policy direction of his murdered wife. + +* Soon his father died, but **the king did not even attend his father's funeral**, which was an extreme violation of the Confucian social norms. + +​ + +**The queen's death also shocked the nation, and strong anti-Japan sentiment rose**. In 1896, young [Kim Gu](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim_Gu) (later one of the most important independence fighters) murdered a Japanese man, suspecting that he was one of the Japanese assassins. He wrote in his journal: + +>Could he ... one of \[the killers\]? Even if he is not, a Japanese man with a disguise and a sword can do nothing but harm to my country and people. I will revenge for my queen by killing this Japanese man. + +He got a death sentence, but he escaped the prison (such a badass) and later organized many guerilla organizations. + +Responding to the queen's murder and also the widely unpopular ""[Short Hair Act](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gabo_Reform#Third_reforms)"" , the [Righteous Army](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Righteous_army) was also organized by Confucian scholars and concerned commoners + +​ + +In 1897, **the king proclaimed** [**the Korean Empire**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Korean_Empire) as a symbol of independence from imperial powers, and was coronated in an [imperial altar](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hwangudan) that had been only allowed for Chinese emperors before. In a [series of reforms](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gwangmu_Reform), his new cabinet legally abolished the class system, and kept collaborating with Westerners (Americans, British, missionaries, etc.) to build infrastructure. Street cars, electricity, and street lamps were introduced in the capital *Hanyang* (Seoul). + +​ + +\------------------------- + +Only one more post is left in this series!",0 +4241,"In 1911, the U.S. Courts Forced the Breakup of Standard Oil. John D. Rockefeller Emerged Richer and More Influential Than Ever. A look back at the story of the breakup of the Rockefeller empire.. ",0 +4242,"What do we know about the ancient Cretan archers, who were famed mercenaries throughout the Mediterranean?. I would be interested in descriptions that mention them, but particularly I would be interested in whether we know anything about their style of archery, the kind of equipment they were using (all the way from materials used and how it was made to the kind of decoration on them, etc.), perhaps some of their achievements and so forth. + +By extension this can also include a discussion of the wider context where these archers emerged from, since if we get an idea of Mediterranean archery at the time, as well the religious and cultural beliefs of the Cretans at the time (or rather, over that time period), we can somewhat get an approximate idea of what could have been popular among these archers (both in terms of equipment, fighting style, beliefs, philosophy, etc). + +A specific question could be: were they influenced by Egyptian, Assyrian or Persian archery, and if so, how and to what degree? Being mercenaries, who did they serve? I gather that they were present with Alexander and later also served the Romans. + +Do we have any information about views and philosophy, ritual related to their archery, similar to how we have these in other cultures where archery is an important element (see the Turks, Mongols, Japanese, Chinese and others)?",0 +4243,"Comprehensive texts on the history of Israel, Mandate era and beyond. I'm trying to get a fuller picture and understanding of the entire story and from multiple viewpoints. I've recently finished *Israel: a history* by Anita Shapira, an Israeli historian. I would like suggestions from the British and Arab side, preferably Palestinian as well as biographies of major players like Arafat and Ben-Gurion. The most up to date the better. + +I could do some searches myself but I've gotten some good recommendations from the sub before that were a bit more obscure but excellent reads.",0 +4244,"Where did the English language REALLY come from?. In recent decades, the idea that there was never an Anglo-Saxon invasion, or even a migration, has become increasingly popular. Archaeologists like Francis Pryor and Susan Oosthuizen point out that there is zero archaeological evidence to support the idea of an invasion, and in fact all the evidence currently available suggests a great deal of continuity in the lifestyles of the early medieval Britons, and that the English identity emerged organically over centuries of exposure to and trade with other North Sea peoples as Britain shifted away from being on the fringes of a Mediterranean trade network, and ended up center stage of a North Sea trade network. Basically that the Britons became the English because it was more fashionable at the time to do so. Their arguments are very compelling, and even offer fascinating reinterpretations of the written history of the period that suggest that Bede invented the idea of an English people not as an ethnic group, but as a sort of code for ""Catholic Britons"" as opposed to the ""Celtic Christian Britons"" who had all the same beliefs (more or less), but didn't report to the Pope in Rome (which makes it so much more ironic that the English were the ones who would eventually abandon Catholicism and the Irish would uphold it throughout the Protestant Reformation). + +What I cannot wrap my head around though is the linguistic side of things. Let's assume this theory is correct, and that there never was an invasion or mass migration of Germanic peoples to the British Isles in the early medieval period. In that case, how the hell did a new Germanic language spring up on an island that had previously only spoken variations of Latin and Celtic? How or why did these groups of people invent a language that belonged to a totally different language family, wildly unrelated to the languages previously spoken? I can't think of any other instance in history where that occurred without some sort of coercion or influx of settlers. It would be like if Afrikaans emerged in South Africa without there being any influx of Dutch or British settlers. Or if the Japanese had invented and then adopted a totally new Romance language after meeting Portuguese merchants for the first time. Even Swahili, which is probably the closest analogy, is still a Bantu language, even though it borrows heavily from Arabic. + +So IF there was no Anglo Saxon migration, then where did the English language come from and why is it so vastly different from Latin and Celtic? + +(For those curious, here is a documentary and a lecture from Pryor and Oosthuizen, respectively): + +https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TqDusYEXwD0&ab_channel=Chronicle-MedievalHistoryDocumentaries + +https://vimeo.com/425282049 + +EDIT: After reading a bunch of these comments, I'd like to reframe my question. If the migration DID happen in some form or another, then why is there so little archaeological evidence to support it? If enough people were migrating into Britain to change the linguistic and genetic makeup as much as it seems they did, then why is there so little evidence as to cast doubt on it in the first place? Where are their bodies? Why are their burials indistinguishable from the locals'? Why is there no discernable change in settlement or land use patterns? Why does the archaeology contradict the genetics instead of support it?",0 +4245,"Driven from this video (fiction of course, not improbable still), I searched for communication systems such as lighting beacons across long distances in any period and area of this planet. Can anyone share similar means of long distance means of communication?. ",0 +4246,Thousands of Afghani and Pakistani cameleers played an important role in shaping the Australian outback.. ,0 +4247,How Russians created infamous forgery known as the Protocols of the Elders of Zion back in the early 1900s. The very same forgery that Hitler used in his antisemitic propaganda.. ,0 +4248,Archaeologists give new insights into final blow of autonomous Ancient Palmyra. ,0 +4249,Major General Smedley Butler bares plot by 'Fascists' in Newtown Square Pennsylvania. ,0 +4250,"Bronze Age China - Shang dynasty [1600 ~ 1045 BC]. [Shang dynasty](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shang_dynasty) \[1600 \~ 1045 BC\] is fascinating because it is really mythical but still was a real historical entity testified by both ancient scripts and archeological findings - the same way Mycenae or Troy was + +​ + +* Primordial bronze age civilization before the ""moralization"" of the Chinese civilization + * Many of its bronze artifacts look kind of Latin American - **abstract, intimidating, a little bit crude**. Probably this was the time when a small number of ruling families, for the first time, started exerting absolute power over the vast majority of people (including slaves captured from wars) based on technology and weaponry. The aesthetics of many artifacts focus on the sheer display of power (scary faces, for example) + * An archetypal Shang bronze artifact: a **bronze ritual vessel** [https://imgur.com/a/l0L0t22](https://imgur.com/a/l0L0t22) + * There's also many pop theories about **human sacrifice** during the Shang dynasty. Some historians' work seem to support that such rituals had indeed happened (in the form of the execution of slaves or war prisoners) ([link](https://sites.psu.edu/kerenw/2015/05/27/historical-background-of-human-sacrifices-during-shang-dynasty/)) + +\*\* In the following Zhou dynasty, the display of power is a lot more moderated by sophistication and moral virtues. Human sacrifice disappeared, even though the practice of burying slaves alive with a dead ruler lasted until later period. + +​ + +​ + +* Primitive writing - pyromancy, divination, and oracle bones + * **Oracle bones** ([link](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oracle_bone)) are another fascinating artifacts. The origin of the Chinese characters is very mystical - ""oracle bone scripts"", a form of early logogram (similar to hieroglyphs), were **carved on turtle shells and ox bones that were used in divination** + * The divination process (pyromancy): ""Divination questions were carved onto the bone or shell in oracle bone script using a sharp tool. Intense heat was then applied with a metal rod until the bone or shell cracked due to thermal expansion. **The diviner would then interpret the pattern of cracks** and write the prognostication upon the piece as well"" + +​ + +​ + +* Archeological discovery - I think this is a beautiful story on its own! + * The 19th century: **the oracle bones were used as medicine by local farmers** (in the old Shang territory) who discovered them from ground. + * 1899: a Chinese scholar named [Wang Yi-rong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oracle_bone#Discovery) (influenced by the ""evidential scholarship"" in the Qing dynasty which was again influenced by Western science) **first recognized that oracle bone scripts might be a very ancient predecessor** of the Chinese characters + * News of the discovery of the oracle bones created a market for them among antiques collectors, and led to multiple waves of illegal digs over several decades + * 1910: The source of the oracle bones was eventually traced to a village - different scholars **hypothesized that that place might be the capital of the mythical Shang dynasty** + * 1917: A scholar named Wang Guowei **deciphered the oracle bone inscriptions of the names of the Shang kings and constructed a complete Shang genealogy** (which matched with the existing ancient historiography) + * 1928-37: The first archeological excavations of the hypothetical [capital](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yinxu) of the Shang dynasty were led by an archeologist named Li Ji, known as the father of Chinese archeology. The team uncovered **the remains of a royal palace, royal tombs, and more than 100,000 oracle bones** + +​ + +​ + +* The Yellow River civilization was more **lush and had exotic animals such as rhinoceros and elephants** + * This is similar to what happened in the Sahara - the **ecological change**. There is a book titled ""The Retreat of the Elephants: An Environmental History of China"" + * There are **bronze artifacts of elephants and rhinoceros** + * [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elephants\_in\_ancient\_China](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elephants_in_ancient_China) + * [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rhinoceroses\_in\_ancient\_China](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rhinoceroses_in_ancient_China) + * The Classic of Poetry is a Confucian classic, and a compilation of ancient poems that had been orally transmitted. One of the poems is: + +>And go to the hall of our prince, +> +>There raise the **cup of rhinoceros horn**, +> +>And wish him long life, - that he may live for ever. + +\*\* **The ancient stories and poems of China are full of exotic plants, animals and tribes** \- because the Southern part of the Chinese landmass was covered with forests, and non-Han ethnic people in tribal societies lived there. + +\*\* The Verses of Chu ([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chu\_Ci](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chu_Ci)) is also a fascinating collection of songs from a Southern state of Chu (1,030\~223 BC), which was a mixture of Han Chinese migrants and various ethnic tribes + +​ + +​ + +* ""**Pond of wine, forest of meat**"": The demise of the Shang dynasty and Shang-Zhou transition + * The legend has it that the last king of Shang and his ""beautiful yet wicked"" wife Daji were corrupt, tyrannical and even sadistic + * They had a pond filled with wine, and a forest full of hanging roasted meat in their garden. **Naked women and men chased each other in an orgiastic fashion**. The famous idiom ""Pond of Wine, Forest of Meat"" comes from a later ""Records of the Grand Historian"" (written in 91 BC) + * The people of Shang revolted eventually, and a new [Zhou dynasty](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zhou_dynasty) was established (also known as Yin-Zhou revolution) (There's a whole Japanese manga about it - [link](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hoshin_Engi) lol) + * The new Zhou dynasty had more modest and moralistic culture, which would influence the later Chinese dynasties for a very long time. They established a **strict primogeniture** (father-son succession) system that had not been the case during the Shang dynasty. + * **The house of Shang survived** though. Some of them revolted after the fall of their dynasty, but others were granted land. [The state of Song](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Song_(state)) was ruled by the Shang descendants as a vassal state of Zhou. There was more brother-to-brother succession of the throne in the state of Song, compared to other Zhou states. + +​ + +​ + +I'm an East Asian person, and I grew up knowing a few hundred Chinese characters and idioms originating from China's ancient past. So these stories are always fascinating to me. I hope someone finds this interesting!",0 +4251,Discovery in paleontologist's backyard reveals evidence of North America's early humans goes back over 37000 years. ,0 +4252,"Overlooked aspects of the ""classic"" depiction of Medieval Europe?. So, for a few years now, I've got a pet peeve regarding the depiction of Europe in medieval times in media, like games, movies, books or even toys. + +You'd think that medieval Europe has been done to death, that other areas need to get their time to shine as well etc., and that's correct. + +However, I also feel that the ""classic"" depiction of what ""Medieval Europe"" is, is also so narrow and lacking, that even when you focus on central Europe, there's still so much to discover. + +An example from my own childhood: + +Due to the common depiction of medieval castles in media, which focuses mainly on castles made of grey stone slabs, I thought there were absolutely no castles where I grew up. + +Later, I realized that that notion was quite stupid; while the area I grew up in isn't really all that important historically speaking, of course the counts and dukes built castles here. However, they didn't adhere to the typical depiction seen in media, but were instead built in a style called [brick gothic](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brick_Gothic). + +That style is seldomly depicted in media, the only instances I know of are the Teutonic Campaign of Medieval 2: Total War, depicting the Teutonic Crusades in the baltics, and factions like the Burgundians in Age of Empires 2 Definitive Edition. + +IMHO, it's a shame, since I simply love the style and would love to see it more often in movies or even as a Lego version or something. + +What are other aspects of medieval Europe are often overlooked or generalized in media?",0 +4253,"Dating the Roman siege of Jerusalem. The year of the Roman siege of Jerusalem and destruction of the second temple seems to be universally accepted as 70 CE. My question is, what are the ancient sources being cited for this date? I haven't had much luck tracking down that information. + +By ""ancient sources"", I mean something beyond citing a modern history book, which cites another modern historical author, who cites another. What I'm trying to locate is an ancient text that identifies the year in which this event took place, either putting a number to it, or referencing something else that can be numerically dated. Multiple sources would be even better. + +I understand Josephus was an eyewitness but I'm unclear on whether he actually states the year in which these events took place. Does anyone know if the date of 70 CE is flatly stated somewhere, possibly in any records of the actions of Titus (who led the siege), or is it rather a computed date based on other known dates? + +Thanks",0 +4254,"Questions For Labor Historians: Resistance In Company Towns?. Hey folks, + +I'm interested in learning more about company towns, primarily the coal-mining towns of Appalachia in the 1900s-1930s (although if anyone has any relevant insights about other times and/or places, please share!). Particularly in places where the company owned the houses, the company store is the only store, workers are paid in scrip, the next town is hours away by train, etc. + +What was the relationship like between company bosses/administrators and resistant workers? What methods did workers use to resist company power, both openly and covertly? What about family members of miners who, themselves, did not work for the mine? How did bosses try to counter that resistance? I'm familiar with Blair Mountain, but are there any other stories I should look into? + +Thanks!",0 +4255,"12,000-year-old artefact unearthed by ASI in the outskirts of Chennai in India. ",0 +4256,"Why did the belligerents of the Western Front on WW1 not have peace talks with each other once they realised that the war would be long and hard, and basically unwinnable for either side?. It is my understanding that the high commands the British, the French, and the German armies realised that the war was going to be long and hard, by the fourth month of 1914. Trench warfare had already begun, and were already showing signs of not changing throughout the war. Conditions in the trenches were horrible and I have no doubt that the high command were aware of all these. + +Also, I'm aware that at least the British were surmising that the war was going to be long. + +Valentine Fleming, then MP of British Parliament, said- + +""It's going to be a long war, in spite of the fact that on both sides every man wants it stopped right now."" + +I am inclined to believe that the German politicians and military leaders also echoed these same thoughts, at least privately, if not publicly. + +So, my question then is, why did the war in the Western Front at least not end by 1915 with a peace agreement between both sides?",0 +4257,The Rosetta Stone: The real ancient codebreakers. ,0 +4258,Warwick the Kingmaker. ,0 +4259,3d Scan and Guided Tour of the Interior of the Great Pyramid at Giza (Khufu). ,0 +4260,"At Museum for Rescued Art, Italy Displays Stolen Artifacts It Has Recovered. ",0 +4261,"Is the common “merry medieval inn” trope historically accurate?. By “merry medieval inn” I mean the stereotypical inn you see in fantasy movies or books, a place with rooms to rent and a public tavern full of life, drinking, and dancing. + +I was watching a video breaking down some medieval history when the narrator, in passing, mentioned how the idea of inns being places like “The Prancing Pony” from Lord of the Rings, places with rooms available and a public common area serving drinks and food, was a fabrication. This surprised me as it doesn’t, on the surface level at least, seem to be a completely unbelievable concept. The narrator didn’t go on to explain further, so I was curious if there is any historical accuracy to this common trope or if it is truly a pure fabrication?",0 +4262,the last french charge with the bayonet. ,0 +4263,"I'm tired of my under acceptable knowledge of history. How do i change that?. Ill cut down to the chase, the only thing my school system gave me was easy grades. In North America history is seldom memorized or gone through in depth, especially at my age. But i know that in order to become a presentable individual I need to know it. My question is where do i start and how, and I hope to find like minded hunger for knowledge in this subreddit. + +Any study guidelines or advice would be greatly appreciated.",0 +4264,The sinister history of fumigating “foreign” books. ,0 +4265,"Shipwreck of Captain Cook’s Endeavour being eaten by ‘termites of the ocean’, expert says. ",0 +4266,"Chinese Feudalism: The Zhou Dynasty. Growing up in China, the Spring and Autumn period and the Warring States period of the Zhou dynasty are two of my favorite eras of Chinese history, so I wanted to share this time period with you guys. Most people I know focus on the many cultural, educational, agricultural, and religious innovations during the Zhou Dynasty, so instead, I will focus more on the military and governance aspects in this post. + +**The** **Zhou Dynasty (周朝) and the periods it is divided into:** The Zhou dynasty, like most long-lasting Chinese dynasties, is divided into two different periods: Western and Eastern Zhou dynasty. At the end of the Western Zhou dynasty, a tribe of nomadic peoples invaded the capital, killing the current Zhou king\* named You Wang (周幽王). Because of this, the Zhou dynasty moved their capital from Xi’an to Luoyang (both of these are classic capitals of the Chinese dynasties), and placed a new king named Ping Wang (周平王) on the throne. The issue with this new king was that he only had power in name, essentially being a puppet emperor. From this period onwards we start a “new” dynasty: The Eastern Zhou dynasty (this dynasty is itself divided into two periods that will be mentioned below).[ Zhou Dynasty Illustration](https://docs.google.com/document/d/1ynLCxEh-KKcvmH_mRpkZKaqxdsq_qEJl9njfwSyjPZo/edit?usp=sharing) + +**What is special about the Zhou Dynasty?** The Zhou dynasty was the third or second (this is debated) dynasty in Chinese history, lasting from 1050–221 BCE. One of the main attributes of the Zhou dynasty is a new system of governance instituted by King Wu (the Zhou dynasty’s first king). The idea of this decentralized state system was to give land to many different nobles, stabilizing the kingdom and making it easier to govern. This also gave the Zhou dynasty the ability to expand the amount of land controlled, as the administrative problems could be solved locally by this system of feoffment\*\*(分封制) + +**The downsides of the Chinese feudal system:** Although this system had many benefits, it also had some crucial downsides which would later lead to the collapse of the Zhou dynasty. Over the centuries the Zhou dynasty ruled (the Zhou dynasty is the longest-lasting dynasty of Chinese history, so it ruled for quite long), the nobles became more and more powerful, slowly building sizable armies. The first batches of nobles who were given the land by the King of Zhou might have had qualms fighting him, the descendants of those nobles though, were not as loyal. This gradually led to what is called the Spring and Autumn period. During this time period, the king of Zhou was therefore only king in name, having minimal land (personally controlled) and power. + +**The Spring and Autumn period:** The Spring and Autumn period lasted from approximately 770 to 476 BCE, while the Warring States period lasted from 476 to 221 BCE. These two periods that are part of the Eastern Zhou dynasty are marked by a change in power of the vassal states. In the Spring and Autumn period, everyone still cared about the mandate and power of the king, following his rules. If they wanted to fight wars against other vassal states, they used the justification of “defending” the king. Furthermore, traditional rite of war was mostly followed. For example, fighting with relatively ""fair conditions"" was the “honorable” way, and there were many stories of generals refusing to attack when the enemy was not in position yet. Another example would be that depending on the rank of the feudal lords, a feudal lord might only be permitted to field a certain amount of troops. + +**The Warring States period:** Once we reach the Warring States period, everyone stopped paying attention to the king. Feudal lords openly fought each other without justification. The goal was to defeat the enemy and become king themselves, so any strategy that could achieve that goal became valid. Massive reforms were also commonplace in the Warring States period, with many states changing from a slave-based agricultural system (which was the norm at that time) to a feudal-type system (that doesn’t mean slavery was abolished though, that would take another 2000 years). + +**Army sizes:** The final important difference between the Spring and Autumn period and the Warring States period was army size. Agricultural advancements, advances in metallurgy, and the increasing size of the vassal states (which had absorbed other smaller states) led to significant increases in army sizes. During the Spring and Autumn period, armies had not surpassed several 10,000 troops. In the Warring States period though, armies reached more than several 100,000 troops (these numbers may be exaggerated, since we don’t know how reliable our sources are). + +I hope you liked this brief overview, and that you might want to discover more about this fascinating era of Chinese history! + +\*I use king instead of emperor in this post because that is what everyone at that time called their rulers. The Chinese word for emperor (皇帝) was created only after the collapse of the Zhou dynasty by the first ruler of the Qin dynasty: Qin Shi Huang (秦始皇). + +\*\*This system should not be equated with the much later occurring European contractual feudalism, which has certain distinctions to the Zhou Dynasty's lineage feudalism.",0 +4267,The Contradictory Legacy of Mikhail Gorbachev. ,0 +4268,On the Ocean: The Famous Ancient Voyage and Writings of Pytheas. ,0 +4269,The mysterious Viking runes found in a landlocked US state. ,0 +4270,Medieval bodies in Norwich well victims of anti-Semitism. ,0 +4271,How Nazi Billionaires Thrived in Postwar Germany. ,0 +4272,"The forgotten voyagers of ancient Greece, China and Scandinavia. ",0 +4273,"Is it true that the Prussian school system was designed to instill obedience in soldiers?. I have heard this a number of times that the Prussians developed their school system after losing a battle to Napoleon in the early 1800s, and that they blamed 'free thinking soldiers' as the main cause. + +However, in trying to search for anything reliable on this it seems the school system was set up much earlier and with many different reasons given. + +Can anybody point me in a direction of good sources for this, or if it is untrue can anyone point me to who or why it was made up? + +Thanks!",0 +4274,"Why was unified Italy so culturally divided but unified Germany wasn't?. When talking about Italian unification, it is always stressed how divided the italians were, from language to culture to standard of living etc. and that those problems even exist until today. + +Why is it though that Germany, having a similar history of many different states uniting into one after hundreds of years of independence and being under different countries influence don't have the same problems? I'm german and never noticed us having cultural divides like that. I'm specifically talking about the first unified Germany 1871, not 1990.",0 +4275,"The complex of Bilge Kagan and Kultigin's father, İlteriş Kagan, was found in Mongolia. ",0 +4276,"An Ordinary Pocket Watch Worn by a Postal Worker on the Titanic Sold for $116,000 at Auction | Artnet News. ",0 +4277,Glenbank shipwreck: Finnish vessel that sank off coast of Western Australia in 1911 found | Western Australia. ,0 +4278,"How and why did Ancient Greece decline so much after the rise of Rome?. How did Greece fall into obscurity compared to Rome when they were such an impactful culture, and powerful country or city states compared to Rome who were a fledgling city-state in comparison? A lot of Roman culture and religion seems to be inspired by Greece, so how did Rome rise while Greece seemed to fall to obscurity? +It always seemed to me that Ancient Greece was a place rich in knowledge and a powerful nation with the resources and armies to fight anyone, but after the Roman Empire came to be I barely see anything about the Greeks and their cities during that period of time.",0 +4279,"Do we know the specifics of early medieval scandinavian society?. So, anyone who has even a passing knowledge of scandinavian history knows that there were three social layers - the jarls, the karls and the thralls - the nobility, the freemen and the slaves. However, I've found very few sources regarding the specifics, and I really want to know the specifics. + +1. Who counted as a jarl, and how many of them were there? Would an average town house several families of jarls, or was there just one jarl? In the first case, are there different words for the jarl in power and the jarls that answer to him? In the latter case, would every settlement have a jarl ruling it, or were some of them ruled by the karls? +2. Apparently, there was a class called ""bondi"", the wealthy land owners. Who were they, socially speaking? How much power did they have? +3. How many thralls were there in Scandinavia, relatively speaking? Was it common for a family to own a thrall, or did only the rich own them? +4. Apparently, swords were a status symbol. Do we have any idea as to how common they were? Would 1 in 5 professional warriors wield a sword? 1 in 10? +5. Did medieval Scandinavia have taxes and tithes? I've read that rulers bought the loyalty of their followers with lavish gifts. Were they then collecting those riches back through taxes? Who was taxed? Do we know by how much?",0 +4280,"How did medieval country villages form? Don't farmers (tenant/crofters/serfs) live on their farms? Then whose houses are clumped together to form the village?. So please educate a whole-life urban-dweller, as I've always wondered about this. + +So from how I understand it, medieval (and even earlier) villages are formed by local peasants residing in local communities. If they become large enough, the economy would be able to sustain trades like blacksmiths, etc. Plus churches, etc. + +Good so far? + +But here's the thing--from my experience and knowledge, farmers (whether they're landowning gentlemen-farmers or tenant-farmers/sharecroppers) normally live *in* the farm. Among the fields. And given that farms are large plots of land, wouldn't that mean that peasant domiciles are actually very far apart, physically? + +I assume I'm missing something and overthinking it? :) + +Edit: I am aware that for manors, the village itself may be created and developed directly by the lord, and thus artificially force all their crofters and serfs to live in an centralized area and they'd have to commute outside the village proper to their fields. + +But there are also grassroots villages that just spring up organically. Those are the ones I really wonder about. + +Edit 2: I am actually from SE Asia, and am basing my observations on rural farmlands here. Tenant farmers here usually live in small huts located within their farmland itself. And it's a bit of a walk to get to town. So that's why I was wondering how those towns organically came to be in the first place. + +Edit 3: So the consensus is that for the most part, peasant fields weren't that big, and peasants didn't live within the farmland, but instead commuted to work (even if it's just a 10 min walk). + +Thanks, all!",0 +4281,"Has anyone read a good book that is a detailed analysis of past dictators?. I am looking for a book to read that talks about past dictators. I don't want a biography of a particular person. I am looking more for political, social and historical analysis of how dictators come about. I have heard *Dictatorship* by Carl Schmitt is good. Does anyone have any recommendations? Before you ask, yes I have read *1984* and *Animal Farm*.",0 +4282,"The Unbelievable 7,000-Year-Old Indigenous Australian Story That Scientists Proved Is Accurate - Grunge. ",0 +4283,1815: USS Constitution finishes her illustrious battle career at 33-0 after defeating the Cyane and Levant in the War of 1812. ,0 +4284,"How to learn and understand history?. Hello! I (17Y) always liked history and it was always interesting for me to understand and visualize how a lot of events in the world were happening. I had the opportunity to play games (such as HOI4; EU; CK2; CIV6) and read books related to a lot of different periods in history and get to laugh at memes related to history. + +My attachment to history became more pronounced a year ago, and I realized that there is a lot of information that is so interesting, but at the same time so voluminous that it can be devastating to understand it without having a practical plan to learn history properly. + +That being said, I've made my goal that in this summer I will try to learn and understand the key-points and events of the whole history and I've decided to make notes from high-school history-related books and read additionary informations about some events, but I still miss the big picture of most phases and events. + +I would like to ask you: + +1. How do you plan the process of learning history? +2. How do you make notes in a way that helps you maintaining the big picture of all events? +3. Are there some digital tools that might be helpful? (such as [Geacron](http://geacron.com/home-en/) or [histography](https://histography.io/) ?) +4. Do you have any books/articles/posts/videos related to learning history? + +Thank you :) + +​ + +EDIT: THANK YOU A LOT!!! never thought that many were going to respond, haha!! every single comment was so helpful to me!!",0 +4285,"Are there any examples of Retroactive Nomenclature except Byzantium?. Byzantium was a name given to the Eastern Roman Empire by later historians, while the Byzantines themselves didn't call themselves that. From what I know, this is called retroactive nomenclature (although I could very easily be corrected). Are there any other examples of kingdoms/countries (etc) which later historians have given a different name to, rather than the one used by the actual people at the time?",0 +4286,"what was the population of ancient Mesopotamia?. I tried to find out the population of Mesopotamia during the time of the late Babylonian Empire, but i couldn't find anything. All it gave me where the populations of individual cities, do we know? Or is it just simply something nobody can figure out. + +I tried searching through Wikipedia but was unable to find anything, I've found numbers between 25,000 people, to 200,000 people in the city itself, and 150,000 people for all of the Babylonian Empire which i think is goofy. So far the only source I've found that I think semi-realistically estimates the population of Ancient Babylonia isn't in the right period, its in the time of Hammurabi, and it also isn't a direct source, its a PDF for a public school. +[https://www.peoriapublicschools.org/cms/lib/IL01001530/Centricity/Domain/5669/Hammurabi%20Documents.pdf](https://www.peoriapublicschools.org/cms/lib/IL01001530/Centricity/Domain/5669/Hammurabi%20Documents.pdf) + + +The reason I'm looking so hard for this was because I got into an argument about the army size of Babylon near its destruction, I thought it was between 50-100,000, but the guy I was arguing with said populations were so small back then their army couldn't have ever reached larger than 2,000. + +Anybody know where I can figure this out?",0 +4287,"A brief summary of 3,500 years of Chinese history. I tried to be brief... but this is still a very long article for a Reddit post, lol. Here's a bit long, yet extremely simplified account of 3,500 years of Chinese history. + +​ + +**Pre-historic time**: There were neolithic cultures scattered throughout the modern-day China ([Longshan](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Longshan_culture) for example) - they might have not belonged to the same ethnic group. + +* From 1900 - 1500 BC, there was **an early bronze age culture** called [Erlitou](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erlitou_culture). Some argue that this is where the legendary Xia dynasty was. There's another [bronze culture](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sanxingdui) \[1700 BC-\] in nearby Sichuan. +* Overall, Chinese bronze age started about 4,000 years ago. + +​ + +# [When Chinese kingdoms were small] + +**Shang dynasty** \[1600 - 1045 BC\]: I wrote a [separate post about Shang](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/xuyk74/bronze_age_china_shang_dynasty_1600_1045_bc/), if anyone's interested. + +* The modern **Chinese characters evolved from their** [**Oracle bones**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oracle_bone) **and divination practices** (pyromancy). +* They made lots of interesting bronze artifacts. [The last king](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/King_Zhou_of_Shang) and his [consort](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daji) are known for their extravagant ""pond of wine, forest of meat."" The dynasty was toppled and replaced by + +(Early) **Zhou dynasty** \[1045 - 771 BC\]: It was a **decentralized, yet hierarchical confederation of small kingdoms**, with the kingdom of Zhou on top, and its vassal states (related by blood lineages). + +* Shang dynasty was a small kingdom based on the inner Yellow River basin, but Zhou's vassal states spread far and away from the Yellow River basin. The vassal states, belonging to the same ethnic or language group, were spread across [the Central plain](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zhongyuan), Shandong peninsula, modern-day Beijing area, etc. So the **main territory of Northern China** was already occupied by this group back then. +* It had a strict **social hierarchy** ([link](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fengjian)) and many elaborated rituals, which was praised by Confucius later. The culture was patriarchal, and **patrilinearity (continuing paternal bloodline)** was considered important. The origin of son preference in China. + +**Spring and Autumn period** \[771 - 476 BC\]: The ""harmonious"" system of Zhou collapsed, and power struggle between the small kingdoms began. + +* Confucius was born during this time and he missed the Golden Ages of Zhou a lot. People were using bamboo scrolls for writing, and **Confucius compiled and wrote a lot of bamboo scrolls**. One of his history books is titled ""Spring and Autumn"" - from which the period is named. +* Confucius also traveled across the small kingdoms from East to West of Northern China. His idea (""govern people by virtue and rituals"" was not popular back then, though. +* [Hundred Schools of Thought](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hundred_Schools_of_Thought) flourished, because many kings and nobles hosted philosophers and scholars, and bought the ideas. The golden age of Chinese philosophy. + +**Warring States period** \[475 - 221 BC\]: The many small states eventually **consolidated into 7 kingdoms**. Intense wars followed. Philosophers Mencius and Zhuangzi were active in this era. + +​ + +# [First unified empires] + +**Qin dynasty** \[221 - 210 BC\]: [Qin Shi Huang](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Qin_Shi_Huang), the first emperor, unifies China. He's often depicted as a terrifying tyrant. He built + +* [The Great Wall of China](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Wall_of_China) \- lots of forced labor mobilized +* [The Mausoleum and Terracotta Warriors](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mausoleum_of_the_First_Qin_Emperor) \- it is said that he was obsessed with achieving immortality (Taoist influence), and took mercury believing that it was medicinal. His tomb was full of mercury. +* I found a great write-up about the important legacies of Qin's institutions: + * [https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/vjhwc9/the\_rise\_and\_fall\_of\_chinas\_first\_empire\_the\_qin/](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/vjhwc9/the_rise_and_fall_of_chinas_first_empire_the_qin/) + +Intermittent: + +* [Liu Bang](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emperor_Gaozu_of_Han) defeats [Xiang Yu](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xiang_Yu) \- The defeat of a Southern kingdom, [Chu](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chu_(state)) + * Chu was considered exotic and tropical - full of **ethnic tribes, exotic animals and plants** \- the poems from Chu are passed down in [Songs of Chu](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chu_Ci) + +**Han dynasty** \[202 BC - 220 AD\]: The first long-lasting unified empire in China. **The Han Chinese is named after this era**. The kingdom prospered, and culture flourished. It was also the first dynasty that promoted Confucianism as the main state ideology. + +* [Emperor Wu of Han](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emperor_Wu_of_Han) engaged in many conquest wars, and vastly expanded the territory of the Chinese empire. He was the one that **conquered the territories of Southern China**, which were predominantly inhabited by different ethnic tribes. + * Modern day Thai people, for example, originated from the ethnic minorities who were living in the Southern provinces of China back then. ([Tai-Kadai languages](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kra%E2%80%93Dai_languages)) + * Southern provinces in China still speak different languages (e.g. [Cantonese](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cantonese)) influenced by the indigenous languages of **non-Sinitic ethnic groups**. Also, there are still many different ethnic groups in the mountainous regions of Southern China (e.g. [Hmong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hmong_people)). +* This was also the time when the **Silk Road** was built. +* An excellent write-up about Han: + * [https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/w3exia/the\_rise\_of\_confucianism\_largescale\_peasant/](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/w3exia/the_rise_of_confucianism_largescale_peasant/) + +\*\* Jesus was born during this period + +​ + +# [Cycles of Division and Unification] + +**Three Kingdoms** period \[220-280 AD\] + +* At the end of the Han dynasty, a peasant rebellion driven by a [Taoist cult](https://www.reddit.com/r/mythology/comments/y5uzvb/zhang_jue_a_taoist_sorcerer_who_led_the_yellow/) swept across the empire. Han Dynasty falls, and the three kingdom period begins. +* This period would become one of the most dramatized periods in Chinese history by **a 14th-century historical saga** [**the Romance of Three Kingdoms**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romance_of_the_Three_Kingdoms). Any Chinese, Korean, and Japanese person knows the basic characters in the saga. + * The famous opening line of this saga is ""**The empire, long divided, must unite; long united, must divide.** Thus it has ever been"" +* I wrote up [a very basic introduction](https://www.reddit.com/r/mythology/comments/y5tbop/the_romance_of_the_three_kingdoms_184280_ad_one/) to the Romance of Three Kingdoms. Someone made a lot more thorough summary of the saga ([here](https://docs.google.com/document/d/1fdqjbIEejuUIP1kHzOzR3tEl9i1G3dQ0nzrMd25hu6Y/edit?usp=sharing)). +* [The Battle of Red Cliffs](https://www.reddit.com/r/BattlePaintings/comments/i9nq8k/battle_of_red_cliffs_by_yan_yangli_wu_515x378/) is the most famous battle + +**Jin Dynasty and Sixteen Kingdoms** \[280 - 439 AD\] + +* Jin Dynasty unifies China... but soon, **non-Sinitic nomadic groups invaded Northern China and founded** [sixteen kingdoms](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sixteen_Kingdoms). Jin would be kicked out to the South and continue to rule there. +* **Buddhism was introduced via Silk Road** to China around this period. [Dunhuang](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunhuang) is a famous tourist attraction + +**Southern and Northern dynasties** \[420 - 589 AD\] + +* Buddhism becomes even more popular + +​ + +**Sui dynasty** \[581 - 618 AD\] + +* Another short-lived unified empire. + * But they're famous because they **built the** [**Grand Canal**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grand_Canal_(China)) that connects the Yellow River to Yangtze River. It is the longest canal in the world + +​ + +**Tang dynasty** \[618 - 907 AD\] + +It is said that Tang was the mixture of Han Chinese and Northern nomadic groups. It was **the most cosmopolitan empire** in Chinese history. Muslims and Nestorian Christians had their districts in the Tang capital [Xi'an](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xi%27an) (Xi'an still has a deep-rooted Muslim population) + +**Plump women were popular, and women engaged in sports and horseriding** \- they had more freedom. Buddhism and Taoism flourished. A type of elaborated figurines called [Sancai](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sancai) (Three Shades) were popular. Tang merchants traded far and away via Silk Road + +Tang poetry would define Chinese poetry - led by poets such as [Li Bai](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Li_Bai) and [Du Fu](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Du_Fu) + +The Tang culture also immensely influenced the surrounding East Asian culture -- notably Korea and Japan. Through Tang, Korea and Japan adopted ""**Chinese writing, Buddhism, and (Chinese style) legal codes.**"" Japan had a fledgling ancient kingdom back then, and **Heian Japan's new capital** [**Heian-kyo**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heian-ky%C5%8D) (modern day Kyoto) **was modeled after Xi'an**. Silla unified the Korean peninsula by forming an alliance with Tang. + +Interestingly: + +* Tang also had **the first and only female emperor** in Chinese history. [**Wu Zetian**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wu_Zetian) **was a consort of an emperor, but she took power, reigned as a de facto ruler, and eventually founded her own dynasty and announced herself as an emperor**. She killed her son in that process. What a character in many senses. Her reign was actually praised as effective and prosperous. +* The Tang dynasty was weakened by the deadly [An Lushan](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/An_Lushan) rebellion: An was a general, and interestingly historical records suggest that he was a Caucasian (Sogdian, which was a type of Iranian). A portrait depicts him as having blue eyes + +​ + +**Five Dynasties and Ten Kingdoms period** \[907-979 AD\] + +* After Tang's fall, many kingdoms were founded by both Han Chinese and nomadic groups + +​ + +# [Pendulum swing between Han Chinese vs Nomadic conquest dynasties] + +**Song dynasty** \[960-1279 AD\]: perhaps the first Han Chinese empire that **had a stronger nationalistic sentiment against foreign influences**. An enhanced, more orthodox kind of Confucianism called [Neo-Confucianism](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neo-Confucianism) emerged. Unfortunately, the practice of **foot-binding** also spread during this time. + +* Being frugal was considered a virtue and many nobles wore white or less decorated clothes +* **Imperial civil service examination**, which had emerged in Sui Dynasty first, now became established +* As an reaction to An Lushan Rebellion, the military generals and military class were despised and suppressed - **scholarly virtues** were praised highly + +Then: + +* [Jurchen Jin](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jin_dynasty_(1115%E2%80%931234)) emerges: Jurchen, a Tungusic ethnic group from far-east Siberia (Manchuria), invaded the Northern China and took the territory (They're the direct ancestors of Manchus later) + * [Yue Fei](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yue_Fei) is a popular Han Chinese hero who fought against Jurchen Jin +* Song, weakened by its scholarly and anti-military policies, **was pushed away into the Southern territory of China**. The Southern China was still **covered by tropical forests**, but during this time, lots of Han Chinese farmers went Southwards and developed the Southern China into a network of irrigated rice paddies. The land was wet and very fertile. Then, **gradually, the Southern China started becoming the economic center of China**. + * And many ethnic minorities would go further south, many into Southeast Asia. + +​ + +**Yuan dynasty** \[1271-1368 AD\]: + +* Then Mongol came. Mongol violently devastated the Northern Jurchen Jin, but was relatively lenient to Southern Song (or, they learned how to deal with the Chinese). +* The Mongols had a vast, vast empire and their trade network was truly extensive... +* They **discriminated against the Han Chinese and hired foreigners** for high positions. +* These types of dynasties are collectively called as [Conquest Dynasties](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conquest_dynasty) in China. Yuan dynasty is my major blind spot, I guess + +​ + +**Ming dynasty** \[1366 - 1644 AD\]: Then, the pendulum swung again, and a Han Chinese empire reclaimed China. Famously, [Hongwu Emperor](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hongwu_Emperor), a peasant from an impoverished family in the central part of China, led an army to expel Mongols, and founded a new dynasty ([Heaven's Mandate](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mandate_of_Heaven)). + +During Ming era, the **national Han Chinese folk culture** emerged that still survives in China. The Romance of Three Kingdoms and other folk literature such as [the Journey to the West](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Journey_to_the_West) was written in this period. Christianity comes. + +* **Christian missionaries** and European merchants started coming to China during this period. The Portuguese had a trading post in the [Moluccas](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maluku_Islands) and [Macau](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Macau), and traded spice. **Silver** started flooding into China +* Famously, [Zheng He](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zheng_He), an eunuch, commanded a fleet and **explored India and East Africa**, but soon such expeditions were banned. Ming China took an isolationist position. +* **The Ming territory was confined to the territory of ethnic Han Chinese**. + +​ + +**Qing dynasty** \[1636 - 1912 AD\]: Then, the pendulum swung again, and **Manchu (former Jurchen) troops came** to conquer China. + +* Qing was an interesting period - **the imperial family, who were ethnic Manchus, used** [**Manchu scripts**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manchu_alphabet) as the language of court. The imperial clan was called [Aisin-Gioro](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/House_of_Aisin-Gioro). +* **The Qing had a vast territory**, mainly through tributary relationships with five ethnic groups - **Manchus, Han Chinese, Mongols, Tibetans, and Hui (Muslims)**. Later, this would develop into a policy called [Five Races Under One Union](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Five_Races_Under_One_Union) in the 20th century. A highly political topic now. + * [Kangxi emperor](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kangxi_Emperor) is often praised for his effective reign +* The Manchu imperial family strived to maintain their ethnic identity. They had a summer palace in Manchuria, and the emperors regularly visited Manchurian cities like [Mukden](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shenyang) for summer activities and hunting +* The Qing engaged in (moderate amount of) international trades, and **silver flooded into the economy**. In the 17th\~18th century, China was the wealthiest country in the world. Qing had an active migration policy, which encouraged (mainly Han Chinese) farmers to migrate to underdeveloped lands. During the Qing era, **the population increased threefold**. +* Qing's fall: + * **Opium crisis and Opium Wars**: [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History\_of\_opium\_in\_China](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_opium_in_China) + * If you look at the graph in the wiki article, you would realize that **the British East India Company was practically drug lords**. China lost the Opium Wars with the Britain, which would prove to be a significant turning point in East Asian history + * After watching China lose the war with the West, the Japanese reformists succeeded in a [coup](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Meiji_Restoration) and in massively adopting Western institutions + * Taiping Rebellion: [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taiping\_Rebellion](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taiping_Rebellion) + * A massive peasant rebellion devastated the Southern part of China, **led by a Christian-influenced indigenous cult** + * [Empress Dowager Cixi](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empress_Dowager_Cixi)'s reign: she took power after the fatal Opium Wars, but as a conservative, she failed to modernize China the same way Japan did + * Boxer Rebellion: [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boxer\_Rebellion](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boxer_Rebellion) + * **An anti-foreign, anti-colonial, and anti-Christian uprising** shook China again, led by a [secret society/cult](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boxer_movement) + * Xinhai Revolution in 1911 **ends the Qing dynasty, and 2,200 years of imperial rule** in China + +​ + +# [Modern History] + +The rest of the stories is... + +* **Japan invasion** in the 1930s. [Nanjing Massacre](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nanjing_Massacre). +* **Chinese civil war**: between **the Nationalist Party and Communist Party** (1920s-1940s) + * [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese\_Civil\_War](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese_Civil_War) +* Long March of the Communist Party [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Long\_March](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Long_March) +* A short [alliance](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Second_United_Front) between the Nationalist Party and Communist Party against Japan through 1941 +* **The victory of the communist party** in 1949 +* **Tibet annexation** in 1951 [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Annexation\_of\_Tibet\_by\_the\_People%27s\_Republic\_of\_China](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Annexation_of_Tibet_by_the_People%27s_Republic_of_China) +* [Great Leap Forward](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Leap_Forward) (1958-1962) - the most devastating economic failure + * [**Great Chinese famine**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Chinese_Famine) (1959-1961) - famously, about **30-50 million people died**. Numerous accounts of cannibalism were reported. Massive famine and cannibalism has actually been regularly reported in Chinese history - I saw this phrase ""and they ate each other (相食)"" many times in ancient Chinese history records. [A map](https://www.reddit.com/r/MapPorn/comments/s2rr0y/map_of_cannibalism_in_china_every_recorded_mass/) shows the strange facet of the history +* **Cultural Revolution** (1966-1976) - another devastating period for China's people and culture +* And after all this chaos, Chinese economic reform (opening of the economy) came in the 80s, and we know the story after that [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese\_economic\_reform](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese_economic_reform) + +​ + +​ + +\------------------ + +Hope someone finds this interesting!",0 +4288,Falcon Shrine Unearthed at Ptolemaic-Roman Port of Berenike. ,0 +4289,"How did Medieval Muslim Merchants think about Race and Slavery? 900-1450 CE. Many people ask if the Indian Ocean Slave Trade was about race. While it didn't use the same racial system as the Atlantic Slave Trade, and people of many ethnicities could be enslaved, we can't just give no for an answer. + +*Disclaimer: I'm talking about the Indian Ocean world BEFORE European exploration/colonization started there circa 1500. I haven't researched anything after that. There was a boom in the Indian Ocean slave trade around 1900 when the Atlantic trade was banned. My knowledge is between 900-1450 AD, the heyday of maritime trade between Africa, Middle East, India, Indonesia and China.* + +**SHORT ANSWER TL;DR** + +The Atlantic slave trade was very clear cut. One drop and you're black (thus subhuman and legally discriminated against) and you're a slave unless your master frees you. Even then you're still legally black. **There was no one drop rule in Asia, and race was not a legal status all by itself. BUT! There is a persistent historical association between slavery and blackness, and prejudice towards black Africans.** Africa was the main source of people who became commodities on the global maritime market in the Indian Ocean. + +​ + +**LONG ANSWER** (see bottom of post for a paragraph sketching the time period if you want context) + +THE BASICS OF THE SLAVE TRADE + +Slavery was common within all these societies and most slaves were owned by someone of the same ethnicity as them. But when speaking of a slave trade, it's mostly African. Many parts of Africa could be raided for slaves with impunity, unheard of for India or Oman. Sometimes a local leader would sell people from his realm, or poor parents would sell a child. Other people just got kidnapped--by foreigners or a neighboring nation. A non African person could of course be kidnapped by pirates and sold, or sold by her family. But there wasn't the same kind of steady stream of people shipped all over the way there was for Africa. + +Most slaves in this trade were women and children, with women becoming domestic workers or concubines. Agriculture was not based on the slave trade. It was more of a luxury to have a slave than an economic necessity. The exception to this is the Zanj slave revolt in Iraq 869-883. Large numbers of African slaves, supported by other low ranking members of society, rose up after being forced to do backbreaking work converting salt marshes into farmland. Zanj is an Arabic word for African, which also can mean slave. It was one of the largest and most successful slave revolts in history, with a multi ethnic rebel coalition ruling much of Iraq for decades. + +Islam reformed slavery and made it more humane. The Quran frequently encourages people to free their slaves and to treat them kindly. It stresses that no person is superior to the other aside from their moral character. Muslims freed their slaves far more often than Europeans did. Islamic custom declared an enslaved woman who gave birth to her master's child was set free. It was also customary for a master to release all his slaves when he died. Children of slaves were not slaves themselves. Slaves could be educated, and some became high ranking government officials! Paradoxically, many people might have looked down on Africans and also got bossed around by one. There is even an empire in India founded by a slave. Some historians say an unintended consequence of Muslim reforms was to encourage raiding for new slaves, rather than building up a large population of slaves at home. It was against Islamic law to enslave another Muslim, though many people chose to ignore this. + +Muslims saw each other as part of one community that transcended wealth and ethnic ties. Muslims of all colors went on the same pilgrimage, and would offer each other hospitality during travel. Arabic became a unifying language spoken everywhere there were Muslims. + +​ + +PERCEPTIONS OF BLACKNESS IN THE MIDDLE EAST 800-1400 CE + +The Arabic word *abeed* means slave, and today is still used as a synonym for black (it's a slur). You can find racist descriptions in the writing of scholars and travelers from the time-- all the way back to Galen (Roman Empire) who wrote that black men were sexually insatiable. + +* In the Hadhramaut-- a desert on the coast of Syria-- slaves and freed slaves had to live in a ghetto on the outskirts of town. Freed black slaves in Syria were often stuck doing domestic work, so many of them went to sea, mostly settling in Southeast Asia. The only people lower than them were the descendants of Ethiopians who had invaded Arabia before Islam. Merchants came from the highest class of people in this society, the siyyids. Siyyids settled heavily abroad and married foreign women, but would only let their daughters marry other siyyids. The mixed children and grandchildren of these marriages were called *muwallad*. Some people in the siyyid ex pat community were prejudiced against muwallad, reflecting their anxiety about preserving Hadhrami culture while living somewhere else. +* Black Iraqis and Iranians today have a long history of discrimination, living in ghettos, restricted to lowly professions, and being told ""don't marry my daughter."" Their culture is still distinct from the dominant national culture and their heritage is excluded from the national narrative. Iranian theater has a history of blackface, which has many parallels to minstrel shows in the United States. + +However, ethnic lines were not as clearly drawn back then (900-1400). Many people who would have been black by European standards identified as Arab because that was their culture. Wealth, religion and connections were often way more important than what you looked like. In Hindu law on the coast of India, all foreign merchants were ""impure"" according to the caste system and lumped together. They had to live together in a certain part of the port city (which is what the foreigners preferred anyway!) + +On the East Coast of Africa, or the Swahili Coast, a hybrid culture formed between Africans and foreign merchants, mostly from Oman, Syria and Iran. The monsoon season meant you had to wait several months for the winds to change, so the merchants would bide their time in Africa and get to know people there. Parts of the Swahili Coast (East Africa between the Horn and next to Madagascar) were ruled by Muslims from Shiraz (Iran) and Oman at times, and local Africans had a lower status than people of mixed Arab and African descent. + +​ + +OTHER KINDS OF SERVITUDE IN ASIA + +**But most societies enslaved ""their own people,"" right?** Yes, but the line between a slave and a servant was blurry and had variations in different places. Before buying a slave from Africa was possible, the wealthy had longstanding traditions of relying on people to fulfill their whims and impunity in how they treated them. I remember the biography of Virginia Woolf remarked that before modern appliances, having servants was considered essential for having a comfortable life. Not unique to England. + +Concubines and maids in China were bought at a market with money and vulnerable to abuse and stigma. But you became a concubine when you or your parents signed a contract. It could happen to anybody, though an upright man would be horrified if he found out his new concubine came from a noble family and might let her go or even set up a proper marriage for her. Ordinary maids in China had contracts and would seek a new employer when their term of service was up. + +In India, the Brahmins and military leaders had plantations worked by serfs, bound to the land. These serfs were local people. + +In Arabia, both before and after Muhammad, you could become a slave if you got into debt or were captured in war. But you could also buy your way out. + +​ + +**SKETCH OF THE TIME PERIOD** + +So the whole coast of the Indian Ocean is engaged in constant trade, cramming multiple voyages every year thanks to the predictable monsoon winds. Madagascar, East Coast of Africa, Oman, Yemen, Iran, India, Indonesia, China and even Australia are involved. **The heyday of the trade is roughly 900-1450 AD.** Keep in mind that it was going on at least since the Roman Empire complained about spending all its silver on India's goods. Also remember there's a healthy overland trade as well, to bring the stuff from the ships to people living inland. + +There's a cosmopolitan coastal culture that is separate from the inland cultures, but melded all the continents together. If a city was a center of trade, it was home to THOUSANDS of merchants from all over the world and closely connected to other cities like it. (Keep in mind the world had way fewer people back then). It was common for sailors to have wives and children on multiple continents! Ordinary people ate exotic food and the rich enjoyed luxuries from around the world. Not many ethnically Chinese merchants actually sailed for most of this period because the central government restricted trade, though Chinese goods were everywhere. Foreigners living in China often handled most of the trade. + +​ + +​ + +​ + +My sources (It would take a long time to list them all, but here's a few) + +Dhow Cultures of the Indian Ocean: Cosmopolitanism, Commerce and Islam by Abdul Sheriff (book) + +Trade and Civilisation in the Indian Ocean: An Economic History from the Rise of Islam to 1750 by K. N. Chaudhuri (book) + +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=beXIBdLvvPc](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=beXIBdLvvPc) Malik Ambar: from Slave to King of India",0 +4290,"The greatest historical tale of survival against the odds? My vote goes to Ernest Shackleton and the Endurance.. Hear me out. + +Frozen in the ice in the middle of the Arctic sea with the ship eventually crushed leaving them stranded with no hope of survival. Spending a cumulative 2 years living on ice floes, tiny boats and desolate islands eating seal and penguin while wiping their asses with snow. + +Culminating in Shackleton and a few others leaving the rest of the crew behind on a desperate rescue mission, crossing the most dangerous ocean in the world on the equivalent of a dinghy, landing on the wrong side of the island and then having to haul ass over extremely steep snowy peaks to reach the whaling station on the other side. + +Oh, and by the way, not one crew member died! + +I was so inspired by [Endurance by Alfred Lansing](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/139069.Endurance) that I wrote a piece about it on sub stack: [https://historyofmentors.substack.com/p/leadership-in-extreme-circumstances?s=w](https://historyofmentors.substack.com/p/leadership-in-extreme-circumstances?s=w) + +If you've got anything that can beat it, let's hear it!",0 +4291,"A question about Mayan cultural homogeny compared to other Mesoamericans. So, I'm fairly ignorant of pre-Columbian history and have been trying to educate myself a little; but in learning about Mesoamerica, I can't help but be struck by the stark difference between how fragmented the culture was in the west compared to the east of Mesoamerica. + +The western half of Mesoamerica is treated with a huge amount of specificity; being split into many cultural groups/kingdoms such as the Mixtecs, Purepechans, Zapotecs, Yopitzinco, Otomies, Totonacs, Nahuas etc... + +And then being further divided, with the Nahuans being split between the Mexica, Tepanecs, Acolhua, Tlaxcalans etc... + +All of these just being the ones that existed at the time of the Spanish conquest. + +There seems to be endless division amoung the western Mesoamericans, and a strong resistance to any sort of umbrella term to group these people together. + +In the eastern half of Mesoamerica however it's just... Mayan. 2500 years ago? Mayan. At the time of the Spanish conquest? Still Mayan. + +I know that they are broadly split into the Yucatec, Kekchi, and Mopan Mayans whose languages were not completely mutually intelligible, but there still seems to be a striking lack of cultural diversity compared to what was going on in the west. + +And the thing is that the Mayans weren't all that politically united at all. There was never a single dominant Mayan kingdom or empire that united the area to standardize things. + +So, how did this happen? What were the Mayans doing that kept their culture so homogenous over such a long period, that clearly wasn't being done by Teotihuacan or the Toltecs in the west whose empires seem to have faded and left almost no mark on the cultures that follow? + +Or perhaps my question should be, how did the Mayans, despite never having a large united empire, so effectively displace / eradicate / assimilate any other cultures from their part of the world to create a vast and mostly homogeneous culture in a way not achieved by any of the large empires in the west that would seem better suited to such a task?",0 +4292,"Might be a stupid question, but I've been watching a lot of stuff regarding the Spartan and Persians recently and I always wondered how would these people have communicated back then? Were there specific scholars in both countries that were trained in various languages?. One of the things I've noticed is that all of these countries waged war with various regions and they had to somehow communicate with the leaders from that region. Obviously learning a different language hundreds of years ago is not as easy then as it is now, nor is education as accessible. So I wonder how they knew how to negotiate surrenders or peace treaties. I can't imagine the Spartans had linguists that were fluent in Persian.",0 +4293,Tomb of Egyptian commander of foreign soldiers in Abusir sheds light on 'globalisation' in the ancient world. ,0 +4294,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, January 08, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke.",0 +4295,"Past cultures that survived initial sacking of their city?. So, just finished Game of Thrones (zero historical significance, though a fabulously produced series) and it got me thinking about how I’d handle my city being burned and conquered. Honestly I’d probably go with the flow and find a way to survive. + +Are there any old cultures that survived being conquered in one form or another? Specifically, are there any books about this? There has been a lot of rhetoric lately about the current status of black people in America and how losing their culture and the institutional destruction of their community is the reason for their plight today. This is an insanely loaded topic, I don’t want to bring this discussion into this sub, but that concept is what I’m trying to gain a better understanding of through the lens of history. Just trying to find more empathy for my fellow man and learn to be a better person myself.",0 +4296,"How did 19th Century pioneers moving out to the American west decide on their destinations?. I just read “Pioneer Women: The Lives of Women on the Frontier” by Linda Peavy and Ursula Smith. It discusses and quotes from letters and journal entries of women who went out west following their husbands. In particular it describes the hardships they faced while establishing a home on the frontier. + +I read stories of families going to places like Minnesota, Montana, South Dakota, etc. I wonder though - how or why did they choose a particular place? + +Aside from the gold rush, clearly many went in search of farmable land. So then do we know how they chose a particular piece of land in a particular state?",0 +4297,"Smithsonian: An Archaeological Dig Reignites the Debate Over the Old Testament's Historical Accuracy - Beneath a desert in Israel, a scholar and his team are unearthing astonishing new evidence of an advanced society in the time of the biblical Solomon.. ",0 +4298,"This is what is known about the warrior customs of the Huetar people from Costa Rica.. **Warrior customs** + +Colonial sources provide some data about the way in which the Huetars fought. One of the most complete accounts of these practices is offered by the aforementioned Jerónimo Benzoni, when he describes the struggle of the indians of Suerre, who were joined by the Huetares of Tayutic to destroy the group of Spaniards led by Governor Diego Gutiérrez in 1544: + +""with frightful cries and noise, making a racket with horns and drums, all painted red and black, with plumage and gold jewelry around their necks and other trappings, as is customary in all these nations of the Indies when they go to war... We were soon killed with rocks and batons, and run through with spears made of palm wood... We passed through more than twenty-five Indians, and they were all lords, who each carried only one spear in their hand and a cloak thrown over one shoulder, and they had no paint like the others… we found out that they had cut off and taken the head, feet, and hands of the Governor \[Diego Gutiérrez\], as well as of two black men, and all the others had been stripped down and thrown into a stream, and that everything had been taken except the oil and the soap"". (In L. Fernandez 1889, 89-90). + +The following observations are inferred from the previous text: + +1. shouting and musical instruments (wind and percussion) accompanied the fighters, + +2. they got painted and decorated (according to Benzoni, it was general), + +3. they used rocks, batons and spears as offensive weapons, + +4. a hierarchical boss-soldier order was established, marked by external behaviors, + +5. the winners cut off the head and other members of the body as a trophy (see details on page 65). + +In 1563, the chieftain of Tayutic communicated to Juan Vázquez de Coronado that the chieftain of Suerre «has the clothes and weapons of Diego Gutiérrez and of his people» (Vázquez de Coronado 1964, 61), so that not only did they cut limbs, but that they also took precious objects. In this particular case, the weapons of the Spaniards must have caused some kind of admiration among the indians of Suerre, since they took them and kept them for almost twenty years. But the Huetares also did the same with the Spaniards they killed in the Atirro rebellion in 1564: + +\[Juan Vázquez de Coronado\] was received with armed hands and the insignias of the said dead men (M. Peralta 1883, 337). + +Finally, and according to the documentary sources, the Huetar women didn't accompany the men to war, as the Coctu indian women did, in the South Pacific of Costa Rica. Juan Vázquez de Coronado recounts that these indians had such a custom, «for which they are called by the Güetares and other nations, Biritecas» (Vázquez de Coronado 1964, 50), In the opinion of E. Ibarra (personal conversation) the situation of Coctu was particular, because they were kept in large and enclosed rooms since they were threatened. Hence the women had to help. + +**Source:** + +Quesada-Pacheco, M. (1996). Los huetares: historia, lengua, etnografía y tradición oral, pp. 58. Editorial Tecnológica de Costa Rica.",0 +4299,Lost Cities of the Amazon Discovered From the Air. ,0 +4300,"What did the Roman legionnaires do after the empire fell?. Did they just get absorbed into the army of the local barbarian warlord, or become mercenaries? Rome still had a large army even up to its collapse in 476, so what did all of these well trained and equipped soldiers do after the empire fell?",0 +4301,The History of Byzantium - Vol 1: The Rise of Justinian. ,0 +4302,"Bookclub Wednesday, February 23, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist)",0 +4303,"Why is Napoleon so important when we are speaking about especially German Nationalism?. When speaking about Nationalism we often speak first about napoleon and that he gave the Germans a Nationalism kinda spirit ""the idea"" to say it. + +But how did he give the Germans this idea of nationalism after the Holy Roman Empire was destroyed? Why don't aren't there just a bunch of states like in the Holy Roman Empire before, why was Germany developed instead of a bunch of different states? After Napoleon was fallen? + +I hope the question is understandable.",0 +4304,"Stunning discovery of 1,200-year-old shipwreck contradicts history books - CNN. ",0 +4305,Sophiatown: The town destroyed to make way for a whites-only suburb. ,0 +4306,"Is the consensus on the Mediterranean campaign in WW2 unfair?. The consensus I often see about the Mediterranean campaign in WW2, is it was one of Churchill's follies. The British diverting Allied resources in a futile attempt to defend British imperial interests and that the allies would have been far better off attacking mainland Europe earlier and ignoring the Med. Which may have allowed the Western Allies to beat the Russians to Berlin. + +To me, however, that view is based on 20/20 hindsight. The reality was, that before the second battle El Alamein, the allied armies had consistently struggled when facing German ground forces. In hindsight we know that the British forces had a logistical advantage that made a German victory improbable but that isn't how it seemed at the time. With the British army being consistently being driven back and suffering defeats at the hands of the Germans. + +This wasn't just a problem faced by the British. The Americans were routed at Kasserine Pass and were driven back. A common occurrence when green troops, with inexperience commanders, met veterans. + +My point is, the Allied armies had an inferiority complex when facing the Germans and struggled to effectively implement combined warfare. North Africa and the Med may have been a strategic backwater but it was vital for the allies to gain both the experience and the confidence that they could defeat the German army. In hindsight we know that the German war machine was far from invincible but that was not obvious in 1942. + +I doubt that an earlier focus on mainland Europe would have been wise. A green American army and a British army which was still learning how to fight a modern war, against the forces Germany had in Europe, would have been a recipe for disaster.",0 +4307,"Confused about military size spikes in 1995.. Okay, so me and a friend were debating about military sizes in Brazil, and then I checked a graph of their military size overtime, and saw it spiked an insane amount it 1995. We did some digging and it turns out that many, many countries around the pacific and southern Africa had their militaries spike as well. + +​ + +We wanted to know what could be happening to cause such spikes - is there some conflict we forgot about? There was things happening in regards to Yugoslavia, the Talib\*n (IDK if I can say that), the stock market, and Taiwan in regards to China. The Soviet Union had collapsed a couple years before so it couldn't be that. The data we found regarding the spikes in military size is found below. These numbers were all gathered from a site known as Macrotrends. NOTE: If a country is major enough for us to have checked it, we probably did and it just isn't affected. USA, Germany, France, UK, Mexico, and some others all weren't affected. + +​ + +In total, the entire world was up 30%, and south Asia in particular was up 78%. The rest of these countries are countries we found notable. NOTE: we obviously didn't check every country, but we certainly checked a lot. The following is countries we checked and were affected (in order from most affected to least affected): + +​ + +* Afghanistan-751% +* Tajikistan-500% +* Somalia-378% +* Cambodia-340% +* Kazakstan-313% +* South Africa-269% +* Laos-200% +* Brazil-128% +* Sri Lanka-114% +* Uzbekistan-108% +* Portugal & Nepal-80% +* Paraguay-76% +* Mongolia-72% +* Bulgaria-70% +* India-69% +* Tunisia-67% +* Indonesia-65% +* Belarus-63% +* DRC-62% +* Peru & Colombia-60% +* Iran-57% +* Guyana-55% +* Bangledesh-50% +* Romania & Ukraine-48% +* Pakistan-45% +* Philipenes-43% +* Sweden-42% +* Egypt-41% +* China-40% +* Chile-37% +* Oman-36% +* Madagascar-35% +* Italy-34% +* Spain-32% +* Jordon-30% +* Algeria-29% +* Russia-28% +* Lebanon-25% +* Austria-24% +* Malasyia-22% +* Morocco-21% +* Hungary-21% +* Poland-18% +* Burma-15% +* North Korea-13% +* Nigeria-11% +* Japan-8% +* Canada-5%",0 +4308,"Decoratively coloured walls are helping archaeologists paint a picture of this 2,000-year-old Roman temple. ",0 +4309,"Why do historians consider Lyndon B. Johnson a failure on foreign policy?. The most obvious case is his handling of the Vietnam war. I read that Kennedy was actually going to pull troops out, but when Johnson took office he kept them in. Johnson was responding to popular opinion at the time where in 1964 there was still clear support for the war. Of course it wouldn't be proper to mention Johnson's foreign policy without his Defense Secretary Robert McNamara. Johnson and McNamara were responsible for a massive increase in troop levels by the time mid 1965 rolled around. This was in spite of the fact that the bombing campaigns had proven unsuccessful in the north. By late 1965 even more troops were being sent in against the poor results on the ground. It's true that Johnson was in a bind considering that not sending troops would be to admit defeat. + +By 1966, Americans were getting impatient with the war and Johnson's approval rating had dropped. Johnson was getting anxious for a decisive victory, but the bombing campaigns weren't doing it. Johnson had fleeting moments of positive press like the Manila conference, but they didn't last. During this time Johnson and McNamara were continuing to send more troops into Vietnam. It got even stranger when they were technically in secret talks with the north and still commenced bombing. In 1967, the war was clearly unpopular. The death toll was getting larger. Over 70,000 Americans had been killed or wounded by that point. McNamara by this stage had actually recommended a cap on troop sizes that Johnson was against. McNamara ended up resigning. Johnson was paranoid by this point. The FBI and CIA were targeting anti-war activists and Johnson even believed these people to be part of a communist conspiracy. The animosity to Johnson was so strong by this point that he couldn't even speak at the Democratic Convention in 1968. It was so bad that it was a reason he didn't seek his parties nomination in 1968. Johnson did try peace talks by this point, but were not substantial. Nixon himself offered far better terms in the talks effectively making Johnson a lame duck. + +So why do historians consider Lyndon B. Johnson a failure on foreign policy? This blemish on his record explains a lot.",0 +4310,The Balearic Slingers. ,0 +4311,"Why do different cultures across the world have dragons?. I know this is a question better meant for the mythology sub reddit but I feel like the answer would be rooted in the country's history. Even with the endless variations of language and culture that people have created — not to mention every possible type of landscape and climate they’ve called home — time and again, our ancestors have conjured up the myth of the dragon which is really bizarre to me. Sure, there are differences per dragon, Chinese dragons are really long and smart, European ones are buff and angry but where did this imagery of dragons come from?",0 +4312,‘Terrible blowe’: gunpowder plot tipoff letter to go on display | National Archives. ,0 +4313,Are feminist historians rewriting the past? Prof. Suzannah Lipscomb. ,0 +4314,"Joseon, the predecessor of modern Korea(s): neo-Confucian orthodoxy and the origin of the hermit kingdom - Part 5 (extra): Vernacular literature (17~19th century). History of Korea (0) [pre-historic influences](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/x5egoz/interesting_parallels_between_prehistoric_korean/) + +History of Korea (1) [**Gojoseon**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x3ot4p/korean_history_dates_back_to_a_bronze_culture/) \[around 1000 BC \~ 108 BC\] + +History of Korea (2) [**Three Kingdoms**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x89pzd/koreas_three_kingdom_period_and_unified_silla/) **(*****Goguryeo, Baekje, and Silla*****) and Unified Silla** \[around 100 BC \~ 935\] + +History of Korea (3) [**Goryeo**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/xdnht8/goryeo_koreas_medieval_kingdom_918_1392_stories/)**, Korea's medieval kingdom** \[918 - 1392\] + +History of Korea (4) **Joseon, the predecessor of modern Korea(s): neo-Confucian orthodoxy and the origin of the hermit kingdom** \[1392 - 1910\] + +* [Part 1: What is neo-Confucianism?](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y3dil9/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) + * [Women's oppression in Joseon era](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/wzqxuu/womens_oppression_in_joseon_era/) +* [Part 2: Early prosperity and the cycles of literati purges (15\~16th century)](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y54lc6/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) +* [Part 3: Japan and Qing Invasions (early 17th century)](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/yb5277/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas_part_3/) + +​ + +​ + +\---------- + +Before uploading Part 3 and 4, I'm posting this sort of side story of literature development + +\----------- + +​ + +# 15. The rise of vernacular literature + +Despite the invention of the Korean alphabet in the 15th century, the male scholar-aristocrats still used classical Chinese to make poems and prose. Their poems in classical Chinese tend to be formulaic - talking about loyalty to the king, Confucian values, the same motif of pine trees and bamboos were used excessively + +* Evergreen pine trees and bamboos were the symbols of unchanging loyalty. Plum flowers, orchids, and chrysanthemum were also common motifs that represented Confucian values +* In the previous *Silla* and *Goryeo* period there were poems written in [modified Chinese script](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Idu_script) (modified for denoting Korean grammars, similar to what Japanese did) and they tended to be more interesting thematically (see my previous [posts](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/xdnht8/goryeo_koreas_medieval_kingdom_918_1392_stories/)) + * However, as Joseon turned fundamentally neo-Confucian, the scholars censored un-Confucian themes such as ""infatuation between men and women (*nam-nyeo sang-yeol ji-sa*)"" + +However, around the 18th century, with the wider spread of the Korean alphabet (*hangeul*), Koreans started writing poems and novels ([sijo](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sijo)) in vernacular Korean. **People in lower social classes and women started generating a lot of vernacular poems and prose**. They were a lot less formulaic in their themes, and contained many indigenous elements such as vulgar slangs and onomatopoeia (well Korean and Japanese languages are known for their exceptionally large inventories of onomatopoeia) + +* [Kim Man-jung](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim_Man-jung), a scholar-aristocrat and novelist in the 17th century, once said that ""**the stories told by woodworkers and laundry maidens are a lot more valuable** than [yangban](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yangban)'s cookie-cutter poems"" (\* yangban = scholar-aristocrats) + +The vernacular literature was both influenced by and critical of Confucianism: (a) it was heavily influenced by the dominant Confucian ideology (filial piety, women's chastity, etc) but (b) was **satirical of the orthodoxy and pretentiousness of the scholar-aristocrats** + +​ + +A lot of the vernacular literature was very earthy and satirical, as a reaction to the Confucian orthodox of the ruling class. **Together with the oppressive Confucian and patriarchal culture (**[**link**](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/wzqxuu/womens_oppression_in_joseon_era/)**), the earthy and satirical humor of folk culture would characterize the late Joseon culture**. A lot of what we know as ""traditional Korean culture"" have come from this culture of late Joseon era. + +​ + +\[1\] Poem/[Sijo](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sijo) + +Standard sijo (poem) follows this formula: 3 lines, 45 syllables (3/4 4/4 3/4 4/4 3/5/4/3). The first line introduces the theme, the second line expands it, and the third line twists it and impresses the audience by intoducing an unexpected theme + +* However, a new type of sijo called ""*saseol sijo*"" broke the formula, typically by extending the second line of the poem, adding verbose, bubbly and often comical phrases + +​ + +Later sijo's common themes: **Deep, unchanging love** + +>May my love become an alder tree of Kumsong in Hoeyang, and I am an arrowroot vine: +> +>Like a spider’s web around a butterfly, the vine goes round the tree, tightly this way, tightly that, wrongly loosened, properly wound, bound, then loosened from down below, all the way to the top, tightly winding round and round, without a single gap, and unchanging, day and night, it’s coiled around, twisting. +> +>Though, in the heart of winter, we bear wind, rain, snow, and frost. Could we ever be apart? +> +>(*Yi Chong-bo*) + +​ + +Later sijo's common themes: **Women's suffering** + +>Mother-in-law, do not stamp on the kitchen floor for hatred of your daughter-in-law! +> +>Was she payment for a debt, was she bought for a price? Father-in-law, severe as a sprig from the rotting stump of a chestnut tree; mother-in-law, shriveled as sun-baked cattle dung; sister-in-law, sharp as a new gimlet poking from a straw bag woven three years ago, and — like a poor crop on a field that’s made for planting good grain, having borne a son like a bright yellow cucumber flower, who has the bloody flux, +> +>Daughter-in-law, like the bindweed on a fertile field: Why do they hate her so? +> +>(Source: [link](https://books.google.com/books?id=DK_Edn9hkx8C&pg=PA157&lpg=PA157&dq=%22A+toad+grabbed+a+fly+in+its+mouth+and+hopped+on+top+of+a+compost+pile%22&source=bl&ots=ECUESMyoD9&sig=ACfU3U1BB64r-CoZYK3yOaJDgwveuS-Zdw&hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwih0t6K-8v6AhV0rIkEHaONAoEQ6AF6BAgFEAM#v=onepage&q=%22A%20toad%20grabbed%20a%20fly%20in%20its%20mouth%20and%20hopped%20on%20top%20of%20a%20compost%20pile%22&f=false) \- The Columbia Anthology of Traditional Korean Poetry) + +​ + +Later sijo's common themes: **Earthy humor; life as commoners** + +>One night in Andong, after a tour of back-alley wine shops, +> +>As I staggered, head spinning, down the narrow, paddy-field path, +> +>The two pigs grunted, grunted, So, you! Home at last! + +​ + +>A toad grabbed a fly in its mouth and hopped on top of a compost pile. +> +>It looked across the mountain opposite, and saw a peregrine falcon hovering in flight. The toad shuddered, started, tumbled from atop the compost pile +> +>Fortunately the toad was exceptionally agile, otherwise severe contusions would have been its lot. +> +>(\*\* Can be interpreted as a commoner avoiding nobles or authorities like a toad hiding from a falcon. In Seoul's old district, there's still a [back-alley so narrow that horses couldn't enter](https://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/news/culture/2013/07/320_42052.html) \- commoners used it to avoid nobles) + +​ + +\[2\] Pansori + +An oral tradition/stories sung by (often traveling) professional singers (a genre called [Pansori](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pansori)) became a national culture. The most popular stories have **strong Confucian-influenced themes (filial piety, women's chastity, rewards to good deeds)** and now commonly taught to Korean children through children's books + +* The song of Simcheong: + * the story of a filial daughter named Sim Cheong. **She offers herself as a sacrifice for 300 sacks of rice needed for her blind father to regain his eyesight**. Sailors bought her as a sacrifice to ""appease"" the dragon king in the sea. However, the dragon king is moved by her virtue, and sends her back in a lotus flower, to be shown to the emperor of China. She is chosen as his new wife, and she becomes the empress of China. + * In order to find her father, she hosts a feast for the blind. He shows up, but when Sim Cheong cries ""Father!"", he denies and insists that his daughter is dead. Sim Cheong somehow demonstrates that she is indeed his daughter (I forgot this part), they reunite in tears and live happily ever after. +* The song of Chunhyang: + * the story of the virtuous daughter of a gisaeng (courtesan) who stayed **loyal and chaste** for her scholarly-aristocrat lover, who had left for a civil service exam. In the meantime, **a greedy magistrate orders her to ""serve"" him, but she refuses and is put into prison**, wearing [a sort of pillory](https://9gag.com/gag/adL2Egj). However, her lover comes back as a high official with a king's mission, punishes the corrupt magistrate and rescues her. They live happily ever after. + * \*\* She's 16 years old (""*2x8 youth*"") and often portrayed as riding a swing, standing on it. Swinging was a way young, noble women could see the outside world, because they were confined within the walls of their residence +* The song of Heungbu: + * the story of a poor brother/rich brother. A greedy, rich brother is very mean to his poor brother (and his family). One day a poor brother heals an injured swallow. The swallow repays his kindness by bringing a magical gourd seed. Huge gourds grow on the thatch of his humble house. When they cut the gourds open, gold, silver, and jewels pour out from the gourds. The rich brother tries to replicate it, but he gets punished +* The song of Sugung (the Sea Palace): + * the dragon king is sick, and his illness can be cured by taking a rabbit's liver. The dragon king sends a terrapin (small turtle) to find and bring a rabbit from the earth. A rabbit is taken to the sea palace, but soon it realizes that it will be slaughtered. The rabbit tricks the dragon king, and escapes, ridiculing the dumb king. This song is particularly filled with earthy and farcical humor, and lengthy verbal imitations of animals +* The song of Jeokbyeok (Red Wall): + * About the famous Chiense battle of Red Wall. The basic story is from the Romance of the (Chinese) Three Kingdoms (which is an oral tradition in China itself), but this Korean version focuses a lot more on **ridiculing kings and nobles** who cause wars +* Plus there are some less-known songs such as ""a story of pheasant husband and wife"" (the husband is pathetic and demands the wife not to remarry after his death, but she ignores him) + * and a shamanic saga Baridegi (**the seventh princess of a king is abandoned because she's a daughter and unwanted**, but she goes into the underworld to find a cure for her father's treatment) +* There are also a lot of theater pieces (village ground theaters) - [with masks](https://www.reddit.com/r/EarthlingPorn/comments/x54mfv/a_scene_from_bongsan_talchum_a_traditional_korean/). The common theme is ridiculing and satirizing arrogant and pretentious scholar-aristocrats + +\*\* There's a beautiful, sad classic movie about the Pansori singers (1991) ([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seopyeonje](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seopyeonje)) + +​ + +\[3\] Novels and essays written in the Korean script + +* Hong Gil-dong: [Translated in English (Penguin classics)](https://www.amazon.com/Story-Hong-Gildong-Penguin-Classics/dp/0143107690) + * This is a story of a sort of Korean **Robin Hood**. Hong Gil-dong is born as the son of a concubine and noble father, and he's treated as a low status outsider to the family - **He ""can't call his brother ""brother"", and can't call his father ""father""""** He can't take the civil service exam, so his upward mobility is restrained by his birth + * Then he becomes the head of a bandit, learns magic and tactics, **steals from the rich and gives to the poor**. Later he establishes his kingdom in a mythical island (*yuldo-guk*) + * The name ""Hong Gil-dong"" is still used in Korean documents like John Doe + * A real bandit leader [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Im\_Kkeokjeong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Im_Kkeokjeong) was the inspiration for this novel +* Court women's diaries and essays + * [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Naehun](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Naehun) ""Instructions for the inner (chamber)"" or ""Instructions for Women"" - the oldest surviving work written by a royal woman (strongly conservative and Confucian) + * [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Memoirs\_of\_Lady\_Hyegyeong ](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Memoirs_of_Lady_Hyegyeong)mentioned above (section 14) + * Diary of a court maiden - mentioned above (section 11) + +​ + +\[4\] Novels written in the classical Chinese script + +* Kim Man-jung's work: he wrote in classical Chinese and, and wrote novels set in ancient China (as a fantastic setting) + * The Cloud Dream of the Nine [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The\_Cloud\_Dream\_of\_the\_Nine](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Cloud_Dream_of_the_Nine) + * English translation ([Penguin classics](https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/553113/the-nine-cloud-dream-by-kim-man-jung-translated-with-an-introduction-and-notes-by-heinz-insu-fenkl/)) + * a story of a man having a love affair with nine female immortals - filled with Confucian and Buddhist themes + * Lady Sa's Southward Journey ([link](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Record_of_Lady_Sa%27s_Southward_Journey)) - the journey of an ugly, yet courageous and virtuous woman - she eventually becomes beautiful and becomes an empress +* [Park Ji-won](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bak_Jiwon_(born_1737))'s satirical work: + * The story of Heo Saeng: + * Heo Saeng is a poor/fallen scholar-aristocrat who tried the civil service exam for 10 years but never succeeded. His wife complains, and one day he runs out of his house and borrows 10,000 nyang (coins) from a wealthy man. With that, he **buys up all the fruits in Seoul and all the horsehair** (used to make [scholars' hats](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gat_(hat))) **in Jeju island, raising the price ten-fold, and he makes massive profits**. But he laments how easy it is to manipulate Joseon's economy, and laments the primitive and undeveloped economy + * The story of Ho-jil: + * The story of a tiger (or tiger spirit) eating up scholar-aristocrats + * A grumpy aristocrat and rebel, he was tall, had a loud voice and was interested in folklore, apocryphal stories, and ordinary people's culture. He fiercely hated his fellow aristocrats - ""useless, pretentious, and idle"" +* ""The Songs of Monthly Events of Farmers"" + * A record of folk traditions, festivals, and [calendar events](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chunfen) for farmers. I don't know why I had to learn about this in my high school literature class (what's the literary value?), but it was beautiful anyways + +​ + +\[5\] Folk motifs - I can't list everything, but common motifs found in late-Joseon folk culture are: + +* **Women's suffering** \- a woman dying during a childbirth, woman [throwing herself](https://world.kbs.co.kr/service/contents_view.htm?lang=e&board_seq=379615) into a river after abuses of her mother-in-law and husband, female ghosts who were unjustly killed appearing to a village magistrate, etc..... + * A straw rope (called *golden rope*) was hung over a gate of a house to announce a new baby - if the baby was a boy, they attached chili peppers to (proudly) announce that it was a son + * Uh ""chili pepper"" and ""(child's) penis"" are homophones in the Korean language... because they look similar?? + * Until like the 80s, it was common to take a photo of a male child with his penis exposed on his ""1st birthday celebration"" ([dol](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doljanchi)) - because it's something to be proudly displayed +* The belief that **lepers** abduct babies and eat their liver to cure leprosy. I don't know if Korean lepers really did that, but this stereotype was so common that I still remember seeing on TV the image of a leper wandering in vast, yellow grassfields looking for a human baby + * The Japanese later built a [leper colony](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sorokdo)/concentration camp for lepers on a Southwestern island. Lots of abuses happened there, and the colony still exists there. +* There were **all-male troupes** called [Namsadang](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Namsadang) that performed theater arts, acrobatics, drumming, and village ritual music (which is a bit shamanic and trance-inducing: [Pungmul](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pungmul)). There was often a male actor who played a female role (similar to Japan), and **homosexuality** was common in those troupes. A popular movie about it: [The King and the Clown](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_King_and_the_Clown) +* **Singing beggars** \- There was a [tradition](https://world.kbs.co.kr/service/contents_view.htm?lang=e&menu_cate=culture&id=&board_seq=12630&page=7&board_code=trendkorea) of homeless performers tapping on empty tins with spoons and singing and dancing at the doors of rich people. Later [some](https://news.kbs.co.kr/news/view.do?ncd=2598589) developed into performance art + +​ + +\*\* There was a parallel trend in paintings - classical Chinese style vs. vernacular/folk style + +* Court painters followed the Chinese style: [Gim Hongdo](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gim_Hongdo), [An Gyeon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/An_Gyeon), [Jeong Seon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeong_Seon) + * [Sin Yun-bok](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sin_Yun-bok) has a distinct and realistic style. He painted lots of women, scenes from everyday life in Joseon. One of the most famous traditional painters of Joseon + * [Jang Seung-eop](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jang_Seung-eop) is also famous for his distinct style - there's a movie about him ([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chi-hwa-seon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chi-hwa-seon)) + +<> + +* **Folk painting** ([Minhwa](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Minhwa)): + * Personally I find them a lot more interesting. For example smoking tigers ([image](https://imgur.com/a/615SABr)) + +​ + +\---------- + +To be continued!",0 +4315,The Battle of Groton Heights / Massacre at Fort Griswold - American Revolutionary War. ,0 +4316,"European royalty vs. local culture, I don't understand something.... For years and years I've read about the countless intermarriages, dynasties, royal houses, etc. that ruled Europe. Based on their actions, the entire continent essentially seemed like one big property split amongst very few families, with relatives going off to rule distant and quite disparate lands- one uncle off to Spain, a daughter to Holland, a cousin to Austria, a brother to England, and so on and so forth. + +My confusion is this: the cultures of these countries vary widely from one another. Music, food, language, traditions, climate, etc. etc. etc. are all quite different. It's hard for me to imagine so few bloodlines/families just comfortably picking up and moving to run a country that's so different or, if they did integrate, far flung relatives coming together from these lands and being culturally compatible. In essence, all the thrones seemed to be involved in a huge game of musical chairs with very few families playing, but said thrones were in such different cultural locations. How did it work? There are three explanations I can come up with... + +1. The ruling elite did not, in fact, integrate well with the local cultures. An Austrian princess sent to Spain remained, in essence, an Austrian. The vast differences in the root cultures did not really permeate the personal culture of the monarchs. +2. The royals were much broader in education, exposure, and behavior than people today, such that said Austrian princess could float comfortably between Andalusia and the courts of Vienna, or any other number of places, without appearing or feeling out of place. Linguistically I could see this, but culturally I'm having a hard time buying it. +3. Somewhat a combination of 1. and 2., there was a different high general culture, a court one I suppose, that was universal across these lands and that's all that really mattered. These families all followed more or less a pan-continental culture of the nobility, and with minor help from translators and whatnot, could rule the different regional people. + +Basically if you've spent any time with people from, say, England, Spain, and France, you'd see my confusion. Thoughts? Thanks!",0 +4317,"Scrooge McDuck in ancient Sumerian. A visual image of wealth in Early Dynastic Sumer.. *I am a historian, this text (as well as others in the historical subreddits) was written by me.* + + In the popular cartoon ""DuckTales"" one of the main characters is ""the richest drake in the world"" named Scrooge McDuck. To emphasize his sheer and incredible wealth, viewers are shown his special vault for gold coins. There are so many of these coins that McDuck literally bathes in this money. + +They created the cartoon successfully used the recognizable image of wealth in modern culture and brought it to the absolute. However, we see similar pictures of bags or suitcases filled with cash in feature films and the news. + +We perceive the image of money as an image, as a symbol of wealth and opportunities. + +However, the task of quickly and clearly conveying to the viewer or reader a certain analogue of gold coins or banknotes corresponding to the place and time was also in antiquity. + +About five thousand years ago, in southern Mesopotamia, Sumerian craftsmen had to solve a similar problem. They thought like us and perceived wealth as an opportunity to go beyond their minimum needs. At the same time, wealth for the Sumerians is to live in a world without hunger, it is to have constant guaranteed access to a variety of food. + +The diet of a common inhabitant of Lagash or Ur consisted of cereal cakes, boiled grains, onions, onions, and sometimes dates. The blackheads (as the Sumerians called themselves) received vegetable oil or meat on holidays and in connection with special events. + +Therefore, it was livestock that was a symbol of wealth and prosperity for the ancient inhabitants of Mesopotamia. Fat herds were the subject of trade, an offering for deities and trophies in the bloody wars between the Sumerian city-states (nomes). + +There is no doubt that it was grain that was the basis of the entire Sumerian civilization. Grain made it possible to feed the peasants, artisans, warriors, merchants, priests and rulers. Not only to feed, but also to allow the maintenance of many people who are not employed in the household. These people invented accounting, bureaucracy, and many still useful inventions. But with all this, in the Epic of Gilgamesh, the goddess Inanna seduced the mighty hero Gilgamesh with the words: + +*Let the sovereigns, kings and lords bow their knees,* + +*May they bring you tribute from the hills and the plains,* + +*Your goats give birth to triplets, and your sheep give birth to twins,* + +*Let your pack donkey overtake the mule.* + +We can see a similar idea of ​​wealth in ancient Sumerian artifacts: + +[Door decoration, fragment | Middle East, southern Mesopotamia, Lagash region, Girsu settlement | Ancient Sumer | Bronze Age, Early Dynastic III, 2700-2500 BC | from the Barakat Galleries collection](https://preview.redd.it/1y0ot4u6je591.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=79f30e22d828262ff617de5d0cada6583746ed76) + +[Limestone and bitumen relief, fragment of wall decoration in Ninhursag temple | Middle East, southern Mesopotamia, Tell el-Ubeid (near the settlement of Ur) | Ancient Sumer | Bronze Age, Early Dynastic III, c. 2500 BC | British Museum, London](https://preview.redd.it/3nwx075aje591.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5509d8599cefc85449d1e3c35405ecf10b9dbdae) + +[Vase from Warka / Vase from Uruk, fragment | Near East, Mesopotamia, settlement of Uruk | Early Bronze Age, Jemdet Nasr period, 3000-2900 AD BC. | Sumerian Gallery of the Iraqi Museum in Baghdad, Republic of Iraq | photo Osama Shukir Muhammed Amin](https://preview.redd.it/y7mmeljeje591.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a1bc4d0d92262ab660794cd9cce249e49bada5ac) + +[“Standart from Ur”, side of the world, fragment | Near East, southern Mesopotamia, site of Ur, Royal Tomb PG779 | Ancient Sumer | Bronze Age, Early Dynastic III, circa 2500 B.C. | from the collection of the British Museum](https://preview.redd.it/bc8kzcdije591.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4dd6286a807000b50839179bbb0aad37921ecc19) + + + +This is not to say that the ancient image of fat fields with grazing cattle is completely outdated, but for most of us it is not relevant. Ownership in ancient Sumer is a debatable issue, but most historians agree that most of the wealth was in some form of collective community ownership (at least formally). + +This means that, looking at the string of cows on the sculptural frieze of the local temple, the Sumerians felt their involvement in the general wealth and prosperity of their city. + +**I want to wish you that your health triples and your wealth doubles (whatever it is measured in)!**",0 +4318,Khufu branch of Nile River once flowed close enough to Giza to carry the stones needed to build the pyramids. ,0 +4319,On the Wire above the Ruins.Funambulism in postwar Germany. ,0 +4320,"When did we really know the Vikings landed in North America?. I was under the impression that it was a relatively recent phenomenon, say maybe in the 80s or 90s. +But I’m reading Winston Churchill’s “History of the English Speaking Peoples” and I came across this quote. + +“They [the Norwegian Vikings] reached Greenland and Stoneland (Labrador). They sailed up the St. Lawrence. They discovered America; but they set little store by the achievement.” + +He says this casually, almost in passing before moving on, as if it was common knowledge. This book is copyrighted 1955 and some of the sections were written well before then. I had no idea this is something that would have been accepted so long ago. + +So when did we become aware of the Viking landings in North America and when did it become generally accepted?",0 +4321,What Was Life Really Like In A Victorian Workhouse? | Secrets From The Workhouse | Absolute History. ,0 +4322,Researchers find hints about a monastery's medieval agriculture. ,0 +4323,"Do not open: Odd 1,800-year-old grave marker for Jacob the Convert found in Galilee. ",0 +4324,"Why were the Marathas unable to defeat the British for control of India?. It is often said that the British Empire took over India from the Mughal Empire, but in fact, by the time of the early 1700s, the dominant power on the subcontinent was not the Mughals but the Maratha Empire, founded by Shivaji in 1674. The Marathas would grow to rule large portions of India, even reaching a point where they sieged Delhi and marched into the Mughal capital in 1757, decades before the British became a significant threat. + +Yet, after three Anglo-Maratha Wars, the smaller British forces were able to emerge victorious. Why were the Marathas unable to defeat the forces of the East India Company, given that +technological differences did not seem to be so big? How were the British able to beat the subcontinent's dominant power?",0 +4325,"Which was the richest of the three gunpowder empires?. +Meaning, Ottomans, Safavids, and Mughals. I’m asking based off of how the average citizen lived, not based on the empire’s full wealth, because obviously that’d be too easy for the Mughals, they were the largest by population after all. What I do know is, Mughal rulers were unbelievably rich, wealth well-known thanks to monuments like the Taj Mahal, however that obviously doesn’t indicate how the average citizen lived. I presume the average Safavid citizen might have been the most culturally rich of the three, however, I don’t know much about that one. So, based on wealth, education, and general quality of life of the average citizen, which was the most prosperous of the three?",0 +4326,Annie Turnbo Malone: One of the first African American women to become a millionaire. High school dropout with a thing for chemistry and hair care. ,0 +4327,"Who is your Favourite Diadoch (Successor of Alexander the Great) and Why?. The Partition of Babylon (and arguably the even more important Settlement of Triparadisus) took the already incredible conquests of Alexander and divided them between those closest to him - they who became known as the **Diadochi** (Successors). + +What followed were countless battles which played out in three **'Successor Wars'**, culminating in the establishment of multiple Hellenistic kingdoms spanning Europe to India which, in some cases, lasted hundreds of years before succumbing to their various conquerors, mostly Rome. + +I'm recently getting back into this period more seriously as a Classicist who's touched on it a few times before, and it seems like there's a real debate to be had as to who was most successful and why. + +I'm talking all Diadochi here: obviously there are the likes of Ptolemy, Seleucus, Antigonus, Cassander etc., but there are many others who played a serious part in the fallout from Alexander's death: Eumenes, Polyperchon & Queen Olympias to name a few. + +*In the context of their surroundings, personal intrigues, 'legitimacy', longevity, or sheer military prowess - what do we think of these various incredible figures?*",0 +4328,The Viking origin of Normandy. ,0 +4329,"Dating the Mahabharata war – A tale of eclipses, archaeology, and genealogies. ",0 +4330,Archaeologists uncover Roman villa complex in Kent - HeritageDaily - Archaeology News. ,0 +4331,World’s oldest Ottoman documents offer window into the past. ,0 +4332,"How did high rates of parental PTSD impact the Baby-Boomer generation?. Many baby boomers were raised by fathers who were part of the greatest generation that fought in World War II or the silent generation that fought in the Korean War. Given that so many men of these generations saw combat, it is likely that many of them had PTSD. How did this impact the upbringing of their children, the baby boomers? + +Has there been any studies of this question? Or are there any generally recognized trends and effects from it?",0 +4333,"Bookclub Wednesday, April 13, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist) + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4334,"When did kings stop owning all land in their kingdom?. So I have heard that throughout the medieval period that kings of the land were considered to own all the land in their kingdom and that the peasants were just consider to be allowed on it. Basically that the entire kingdom was the kings personal property. + +So my question is when did this idea change? When did the people who purchased and lived on the section of land considered the owner and not the king? + +Or if I am wrong about this please correct me",0 +4335,"What did Egyptians think of other races and their surrounding nations?. I thought all my life that egyptians saw themselves as superior semigods and saw everyone else as slaves or atleast lower than them or something like that but looking it up i cant find anything written on it so it seems like bs? +im wondering if we know what they thought of other races and nations that they could interact with and if they were friendly with any countries and was it normal and legal for Egyptians to intermarry with other nations?",0 +4336,"What is the oldest song in the world? Listen to music written 3,400 years ago. ",0 +4337,"Why is France viewed as useless during world war 2.. I recently did some research, and France did a lot more than straight up quickly surrender to the Germans, they actually had a large underground resistance along with the Free France army which fought in the war, they weren´t a trivial force, so why do people view France as so useless. Is it wanting to support the Nazis? Am I making a big misunderstanding and that they actually are talking about the Country but not the people when they call France useless. Was France overshadowed by bigger powers during the war?",0 +4338,"Why did the Western Roman Empire choose Burgundians and Goths over Egidius. So its interesting how in the reign of Libius Severus and Ricimer; the empire decides to fight Egidius with the help of the settled Goths. + +What was that about? + +Ravenna promised the Goths the port city of Narbonne in exchange for helping crush Egidius. + +Now I understand that Egidius was seen as a usurper carving out his own little kingdom in Gaul, but wouldn't it make more sense to team up with your fellow Roman and crush the Goths altogether? + +A joint army of the Gallic and Italian troops could have easily taken down the Goths. One pushing from the east, another pushing from the north. + +There was also the Burgundians who got Lyons in exchange for fighting Egidius as well. + +But this whole thing seems to ridiculous to believe. Why would the western roman government give land to the barbarian Burgundians and Goths in exchange for fighting a fellow Roman who had the support of Constantinople? + +It seems so petty and counterproductive.",0 +4339,"UK had at least two genetically distinct human groups at end of last ice age, DNA reveals | Anthropology. ",0 +4340,Medieval medicine under the spotlight in major new project. ,0 +4341,"How was the Vandalic Kingdom (a ""Germanic"" tribal confederation, nowhere near coastlines) able to establish itself as the predominant naval power in the Mediterranean in such a short amount of time?. +I've only read pop history noting that Geiseric ""commandeered the Carthaginian merchant marine"" before spreading authority throughout the western Mediterranean and its islands. But how could the Vandal military go from a roaming war band/army through continental Europe to becoming a hegemonic entity in the western Mediterranean, with no prior experience or knowledge in ship building or naval logistics? + +I'm not super familiar with Late Roman/""Barbarian"" warfare so just wanted to see if any experts on the topic might have some further reading or explanations. + +Thanks!",0 +4342,"The locations of the Alexandrias: we all know of the one in Egypt, but Alexander founded up to 70 cities bearing his name. Here are some of the other ones I’ve discovered reading about ancient geography.. Some sources say that Alexander founded up to 70 cities. Not all of them were named ‘Alexandria’ but quite a few were. Today very few of them exist, and some we don’t even know the exact location of. However a handful have become major metropolitan areas. The Alexandrias we know the exact locations of are: + +- Alexandria (the most famous one and the second largest city in Egypt) +- Alexandria on the Latmus (Alinda, now present day Karpuzlu, Turkey) +- Alexandria on the Bay of Issus (Iskanderun, Turkey. Previously known as Alexandretta) +- Alexandria in Mygdonia (Erbil, Iraq. It is unknown if Alexander founded a new city close to Arbela (Irbil) or simply renamed the existing city. Very close to where the Battle of Gaugamela took place). +- Alexandria in Susiana (Now abandoned, near Maysar, Iraq. Was also called Antiochia in Susiana and Charax Spasinu.) +- Alexandria in Carmania (Location unknown but highly likely it was located near the village of Gulashkird, Iran, now present-day Faryab) +- Alexandria in Aria (Herat, Afghanistan) +- Alexandria Prophthasia (Farah, Afghanistan) +- Alexandria in Arachosia (Kandahar, Afghanistan) +- Alexandria Opiana (Ghazni, Afghanistan) +- Alexandria in the Caucasus (Bagram, Afghanistan) +- Alexandria in Margiana (Merv, Turkmenistan, now destroyed) +- Alexandria Tharmata (Not known if this was the exact name. Located by present day Termez, Uzbekistan) +- Alexandria Eschate (Khojand, Tajikistan) +- Alexandria Bucephalia (Jhelum, Pakistan. Named after Alexander’s horse Bucephalus) +- Alexandria Hyphasis (Near Amritsar, India) +- Alexandria on the Indus (Uch, Pakistan) +- Port of Alexander/Alexandrou Limen/Xylinepolis (near Karachi, Pakistan) +- Alexandria in Rhambacia (Near modern day Bela, Pakistan) + +In addition, Alexander also founded these cities which were not named after him: + +- Nicaea in Afghanistan, located near the city of Jalalabad, Afghanistan +- Gaza, Palestine. Whether he founded it or destroyed an existing settlement and rebuilt it is disputed. Gaza is the Greek name for the city. +- Arigaeum, exact location unknown but it was in northern Afghanistan +- Nicephorium (Although some historians believe this city was founded by Seleucus). Present day Raqqa, Syria. +- Patala, located near present day Thatta, Pakistan. + +Other potential cities that we don’t know the exact location of: + +- Alexandria on the Pallakopas, potentially near Najaf, Iraq +- Alexandria Soriana (Maybe Shorkot, Pakistan) but the existence of the city is disputed +- Nicaea in India, located close to Alexandria Bucephalus. +- Alexandria of the Sogdoi, located on the Indus River in Pakistan +- Alexandria on the Acesines (located near the modern Chenab river in Pakistan) +- Alexandria on the Oxus. Location unknown, but identified as either Ai-Khanoum in Afghanistan or Kampir Tepe in Uzbekistan +- Alexandria in Sacastene, potentially near Zaranj, Afghanistan although this may also just be Alexandria Prophthasia +- Alexandropolis Maedica, unknown location in present day Bulgaria +- Alexandropolis in Parthia, potentially another name for the Parthian capital of Nisa in Turkmenistan but this is disputed +- Alexandria near Bactra, close to Balkh, Afghanistan. May have been Alexandria Tharmata or Alexandria on the Oxus. + +SOURCES: + +- The Hellenistic Settlements in the East (Getzel M. Cohen, 2013) + +- pleiades.stoa.org + +- Princeton Encyclopedia of Classical Sites",0 +4343,Ancient human bloodsucker? Skeleton of female 'vampire' unearthed in Europe during dig. ,0 +4344,An examination of a Chinese greatsword. ,0 +4345,Tigray's ancient rock-hewn churches are under threat: why it matters. ,0 +4346,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, March 26, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So, do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke. + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4347,"Former Head of Bureau of Vital Statistics in New Orleans, Naomi Drake, changed the race on thousands of birth certs from ""white"" to black"" from 1949-1965 in her quest to ""catch"" anyone with Black heritage. I only heard about this for the first time today. I knew a little about the Jim Crow South, but not a lot. I had no idea there was such a ""gotcha"" attitude to people who were even noted as white on their birth certificates. + +[http://www.creolegen.org/2022/06/25/in-pursuit-of-race-the-reign-of-naomi-drake-1949-1965/?fbclid=IwAR055QFWWDcN11E8NCN\_47CHDcmepWusaJJl-vALG8vPmXG2sklof9eRHn0](http://www.creolegen.org/2022/06/25/in-pursuit-of-race-the-reign-of-naomi-drake-1949-1965/?fbclid=IwAR055QFWWDcN11E8NCN_47CHDcmepWusaJJl-vALG8vPmXG2sklof9eRHn0) + +​ + +The story really affected me on a personal level today. My great gram Lola left Louisiana in the 1930s as a woman of color and raised us in NY as ""French"". I was researching for a documentary series Ive been releasing on youtube called ""Finding Lola"" ( I won't link so this post isn't removed for spam)--where Im working through the history of white-passing in my family and the circumstances around that in both Louisiana and NY. To be honest, I started the project angry at my Gram Lola for lying to the whole family about our heritage, but now I feel....shocked. Sad for her and how much she tried to protect the whole family the best she could. The article notes that the ""one drop rule"" (1/32 African) was still in effect until 1983. Only THREE years before I was born. In NY, we were white. In Louisiana, we were Black---and in danger. This was not that long ago.",0 +4348,"2,700-year-old Assyrian carvings found in Iraq park. ",0 +4349,How the International System Failed Rwanda: a play-by-play of how it happened and how the world chose to ignore the genocide. ,0 +4350,"Archaeologists unearth sugar bowl, pocketknife at historic Michigan fort. ",0 +4351,"Why 19th - 20th century colonies are not as industrialized as the capital of the empire? (ie. British India for UK and West Africa for France). I've read a lot about decolonization period lately and there's always a pattern that most colonies are only equipped with logistical infrastructure to transport the resources extracted to the main part of empire. +Shouldn't it make much more logistical sense to manufacture products in place where the resources are extracted? So, why factories aren't primarily build in the colonies? Is it purely political reasons or it is more effective in logistical standpoint that I'm missing here?",0 +4352,"What was used in late medieval to early modern england for mensuration products?. I know that rags were commonly used but were they a one time thing or reused? (Link to the article about rags is [here)](https://www.tudorsociety.com/menstruation-in-the-tudor-period-by-sarah-bryson/) + + +What were used if rags weren’t available? + +Was free bleeding common? + +Thanks in advance for the weird question. I just love late medieval/early modern history but I can barely find any extant texts or anything about it.",0 +4353,The British-era colonel revered in India state. ,0 +4354,"The Myths of Lady Rochford, the Tudor Noblewoman Who Supposedly Betrayed George and Anne Boleyn. ",0 +4355,Scientific American article about the history and science of archeology in Jerusalem.. ,0 +4356,"Were there any German cartoons/comedies portraying Allies leaders?. There's many famous cartoons and comics making fun of Hitler, Mussolini and Stalin from the Allies side. + +[Hitler and Stalin cartoon](https://youtu.be/ercTvP07Kqo) + + +[Looney Tunes] +(https://youtu.be/TdMlqq-vL5A) + + +[Charlie Chaplin](https://youtu.be/isLNLpxpndA) + +[""Hitlers only got one ball""](https://youtu.be/bCtOCgPITb4) + +Etc. + +Was there any light comedy propaganda from Germany (or Italy) making fun of Churchill, Stalin or Roosevelt? Or was it all serious propaganda?",0 +4357,"Dynasties of Holy Roman Emperors... Even though they are elected?. Hello r/history, + +I am fascinated by the HRE. Partly because of the awesome maps with zillions of states, duchies, even a kingdom here and there, bishopries, free cities, etc, etc. But I am most fascinated by the emperor himself, especially because he was elected in a (VERY toned down) democratic process, in the Middle Ages. But however much I've been reading, I can't seem to answer this simple question: How did the Habsburgs initiate an (almost) unbroken line of emperors of the Holy Roman Empire for hundreds of years when the title is actually not hereditary, but elective? + +Not only the Habsburgs did so, there were other lines/dynasties who did so as well. Did they bribe the prince electors? Did they just seize power and tell the prince electors ""choose my son, or else""? Were others too afraid to run against them? Or are these election not how I seem to envision them (like ""fair"" elections in which the electors can choose whoever they want)? + +I've always understood that the emperor of the HRE did not have as much power as we generally assume an emperor has, I've even seen texts that said other nobles did NOT WANT to be the emperor, because it was such a headache (constant tensions, rebellions, etc, etc) without that many benefits. Is this why these dynasties existed? On the other hand, opposing wannabe-emperors did kill each other on the battlefield a few times... + +​ + +So in summary (and TL/DR), I am confused how dynasties could exist in an elective monarchy, specifically in the HRE. + +​ + +Hope anyone has some insight, cheers, + +T",0 +4358,The Queen’s Latin or Who Were the Romans? Part I: Beginnings and Legends. ,0 +4359,VP Menon: The forgotten hero who stitched India together. ,0 +4360,"Why was France so ineffective in taking the Flemish cities as opposed to Maximilian I?. Philip IV desperately wanted Bruges, Ghent, Ypres, and the other Flemish towns, and he indeed managed to get some chunks, which is why Lille, Douai, and Bethune go over to the French crown. + +Later we get Louis X who decides to hit them with sanctions and cut grain exports, and this further complicates things and by the 1320s, we are getting revolt after revolt, then an intensity of the Hundred Years War between France and England and we have Flanders become part of the estates of the Duke of Burgundy, some call it the Burgundian State or the Burgundian Circle. + +When the duke, Charles the Bold, dies, the French king, Louis XI, starts attacking and this prompts Mary of Burgundy, the daughter of the old duke, to marry the Habsburg, Maximilian. + +And when we get to the age of Maximilian I, he goes over them and puts down a revolt against his rule and he does it so brilliantly that Bruges is finally weakened and the trade metropolis to come atop is Antwerp. + +But Bruges, together with Ghent and Ypres, put one hell of a fight against the French kings and their puppet governors. What made Maximilian and the new Habsburg dynasty able to take Flanders and establish dominance there so easily compared to the French kings who were always struggling?",0 +4361,"Why was Julius considered tall and Augustus short?. Suetonius reported that Julius was ""tall of stature"" and that Augustus was ""short of stature"" ~~but both were~~ apparently around 5'7 (in imperial feet not Roman) with Augustus being very slightly below that. ~~Were they not basically the same height~~? Also, wouldn't Augustus be tall by Roman standards anyway? I know legionnaires had a minimum height of 5'7-5'8 anyway and naturally they would have been taller than the average Roman man as they were soldiers and had better nutrition. Why weren't both men considered ""tall of stature""? + +Augustus Height Source: [https://penelope.uchicago.edu/Thayer/E/Roman/Texts/Suetonius/12Caesars/Augustus\*.html#79](https://penelope.uchicago.edu/Thayer/E/Roman/Texts/Suetonius/12Caesars/Augustus*.html#79) + +Julius Height Source: + +[https://penelope.uchicago.edu/Thayer/E/Roman/Texts/Suetonius/12Caesars/Julius\*.html#45](https://penelope.uchicago.edu/Thayer/E/Roman/Texts/Suetonius/12Caesars/Julius*.html#45) + +Roman Legionnaire Height: + +Vegetius - could not find the actual source but he stated that the minimum height to be a legionnaire was 5'8 which was eventually lowered to 5'5 (imperial units) + +​ + +**NOTE:** I may or may not have partially answered my own question as I can't find a reputable source that actually assigns a specific number to Julius Caesar's height. My new questions then are why Augustus' height be considered short when he was taller than the average Roman man and how tall was Julius Caesar anyway (if such a source actually exists)?",0 +4362,"Napoleon was not defeated by the Russian winter. Napoleon's 1812 Invasion of Russia began with the Crossing of the Nieman River on June 24th. In the first two weeks of the campaign, Napoleon lost an estimated 100,000 men to disease and desertion; by the end of the first five, his army was down to half its original size. + +After a series of attempts bring the retreating Russians to a decisive battle, the largest clash of the campaign, Borodino, was fought on September 7th, 75 kilometers from Moscow. The French failed to fully defeat the Russians, who continued to retreat, abandoning Moscow. + +Napoleon entered Moscow on September 14th, and left it with 100,000 men on October 19th, when he realized that the Tsar would not make peace. The battle of Maloyaroslavets, fought on October 24th, forced Napoleon to retreat along the same route he had used to reach Moscow. At this point, when the infamous winter retreat \*began\*, Napoleon's army numbered fewer than 100,000 men; perhaps a fifth of the force he invaded with. + +The Bulk of Napoleon's army was lost well before the winter set in, and the idea that he invaded in winter is a complete falsehood. The real killers of Napoleon's Grande Armee were disease (most notably typhus), desertion, severe heat, and rain, exacerbated by the Emperor's demands for rapid marches in his search for a decisive battle to quickly end the campaign. + +Visualization of the losses of the Grande Armee in the 1812 Russian Campaign:[https://imgur.com/a/TSvNgQt](https://imgur.com/a/TSvNgQt)",0 +4363,Civil war soldier shares his recollections in an audio recording. ,0 +4364,"Collection of letters to George III and George IV from rulers of Asian countries including China, India, and the Ottoman Empire now available online from the Royal Archives at Windsor. ",0 +4365,"Why did scholars of the Scottish Enlightenment pursue Anglicisation rather than a revival of Scots language?. Almost all works of the Scottish Enlightenment were written in pure English, and wikipedia says ""Scottish Enlightenment intellectuals such as David Hume and Adam Smith went to great lengths to get rid of every Scotticism from their writings."" + +What was the reason behind that? Generally the enlightenment in mainland Europe means a revival of written language, a spread of new thoughts and a creation of national identity. Why was Scottish scholars pursuing full ""anglicisation"" in language and literature?",0 +4366,"Earliest dated event in human history?. This sounds like a common question but I have not found a clear answer to it by its narrow definition. What is the earliest event in human history whose exact date is known beyond reasonable doubt? That is: **(1) the event is mentioned in a written source; (2) we can work out its Julian day and therefore exactly how many days ago it took place as of today; and (3) the fact is fairly certain**. + +To take the obvious example, Julius Caesar was famously assassinated on 15 March, 44 BCE. As I understand it, there were several changes to the calendar system after that date. So can we calculate the event's Julian day with certainty? And how certain is it that the assassination even took place on that date? What about famous dates even earlier, for example from classical Greece? I'm already guessing astronomy is going to come up. + +There are obviously a few variables here. But to be able to say with confidence exactly how many days ago an ancient event took place is surely a pretty big achievement in human civilization. It seems interesting to know how far back we can go. + +EDIT: A narrower version of this question is in my last comment below: **how certain are we that the Caesar assassination was exactly 754,193 days ago today?** What are the residual factors of uncertainty? ",0 +4367,"Why didn't Spain and Portugal develop more flexible banks in the 1700s?. I figured that after witnessing a whole century of decline, the Portuguese and Spaniards would look over at the Netherlands, England, and France and think ""Hmmmm... we should try to be more like them."" + +These two nations were dynamite back in the 1500s. The adventures, the spices, the building of forts, etc... but in the 1700s they practically just put their feet up. + +My question is in regard to their banking. The dominant banks in this time were in London, Amsterdam, Paris, etc... + +Yet, Lisbon and Madrid still kept very much of a command economy and didn't allow many foreign investors go in and have at it with their cities. This is totally in contrast with the Republic of Venice and Duchy of Milan which received plenty of foreign money, and tourists, together with Austrian backing. + +The Dutch Republic had Prussian investors, English bankers, and French traders all running around their cities. Dealing in stocks was a very common thing, everybody did it. + +Yet Spain and Portugal are peanuts in the century. What's up with them?",0 +4368,"What was life in the Balkan Front during ww1 like?. There are so many texts on life in the western front's trenches, but what was life like for soldiers in trenches in the Salonika Front? Surely different climate, weather, different events would create a different type of experience for the soldiers. + +I've tried looking for information online, but I've only been able to find texts on the western front or the balkan theatre overall, rather than any personal stories or information concerning how trenches looked like and how battles played out. I've found out that there was a lack of food and many soldiers mutinied but nothing much other than that. + +So how different, or similar were trenches in the Balkans compared to the Western Front?",0 +4369,"On this date 70 years ago, A young Richard Nixon, fighting for his political life, turned to the cutting edge technology of television to bypass the power brokers and take his message directly to the American people, forever changing the nature of politics in the US.. ",0 +4370,"What principles did kingdoms/governments apply to give/take people ownership of the land?. Hi, +I have been reading Niall Ferguson’s Civilization and I find it fascinating. +The more I observe politics and dive into history, the more I find important the principles of ownerships. + +Comparing the cadastre shapes in Europe and America, there are evident distinctions. The same is the case of country/state borders. While observing the state borders (USA) I woul conclude the straight lines are the evidence the states weren’t fighting but the borders were arranged. The same is with cadastre blocks. The people that came from Europe were provided with certain block of certain size in exchange for labor. + +In Europe, I don’t know what were the principles for granting people land (and taking it back). Was there any case of government redistributing private land in certain circumstances (excepting communist regimes)? + +I live in ex communist country and many people over here still advocate communist ideas of redistributing ownership by applying ‘fair share’. By the historical evidence known to me, I can’t find the example of such case in which society as a whole benefited long term. + +On one hand I believe people should have right to freely access to the sea and drinking water but I believe it is also fair to award those who turn the wild coast to usable beach and enable the rest to drink water without digging themselves. + +So actually the question is were there different principles that determined the relationship of inheritance, labor, and ownership, such as free market and something else or were there any other rules throughout different societal structures that laid foundations for today’s free market?",0 +4371,Elizebeth Friedman was America’s first cryptoanalyst who played a crucial part in busting Nazi spy ring in WW2. She decoded hundreds of enemy ciphers and saved thousands of lives.. ,0 +4372,Viking Textiles Show Women Had Tremendous Power. ,0 +4373,"Great Escape prisoner Vyvyan Howard, dies aged 102. ",0 +4374,The lost nuclear bombs that no one can find. ,0 +4375,"Is an unknown, extraordinarily ancient civilisation buried under eastern Turkey? | The Spectator. ",0 +4376,"Why is the Battle of Waterloo considered so Important?. +I understand that The Battle of Waterloo is famous for being Napoleon’s final defeat, and it’s appeal as a fascination for those who want to dissect its tactics and details, but why is it so often included on lists of “Most Influential Battles in History”, or used as a pivot point for History. For instance you often see Jokes for an alternative history where we are all speaking French had the battle gone the other way . + +In my understanding of the story of Napoleon, this was more of a last gasp or a tremendous gamble rather than a realistic situation where the former power of Napoleon’s empire could be restored. From my understanding hadn’t the ship pretty much sailed after his first defeat and exile? Had he won the battle wouldn’t it have still meant an almost inevitable defeat in the long run? At this point almost all of Europe had gotten their shit together, and turned on him , and would likely stop at nothing so see he never reached the same heights he once did. From my perspective the shattering of his army and reputation in Russia, was a way way way more important “what if”, than the battle of Waterloo, so it’s always bugged me that Waterloo is held in such high esteem in this regard. + +Again I’m trying to learn, it’s just always confused me. Someone please explain.",0 +4377,"Did the romans ”speak with their hands” as Modern day Italians and Spaniards do?. +Are there any accounts of romans being particularly expressive with their hand gestures or is this a modern culutural phenomenon? + +And if so, is there any particular reason for this unique usage of body language communication? + +For example, maybe it was a way to show that you were Roman so that you would not be viewed as a “barbarian”. + +Or could it have been a biproduct of +the very social Roman culture? + +I find the Italian and Spanish combination of body language and passionate speaking very fascinating as a Scanidinavian and I would very much like to know of it’s origins. I have always wondered if the Romans conducted themselves in the same manner.",0 +4378,"question about the luftwaffe ground forces reinforcing other german units in ww2. while doing research for a game that i’ve been playing, i’ve been trying to look into the luftwaffe and see what units they had reinforced in the later stages of the war. from what i’ve seen they were incorporated mostly if not entirely into heer units. so my main question is, were they ever sent to reinforce ss units ? not much is noted about the luftwaffe ground units after 1943 so i was just hoping to see if anyone could help me out with this",0 +4379,"The wild west didn't last that long, did it?. I mean, for all the romanticism of the time period, all the cowboys and lawmen, the stories of epic duels and gunfights, native americans continuing to power through in spite of the wrongful deeds that nearly saw them as a people wiped out so many years ago, myths and legends, true crazy events and deeds, famed criminals and even the advent of CRIMINAL COUPLES! + +Only to find out it barely lasted even a few decades...wow. + +IK that a few decades IS a significant amount of time, but dang, who would have thought it blitzed by so quick by historic time period standards? I mean, most eras in history last anywhere from several decades to a few centuries at least as far as I know, right?",0 +4380,"The Greek Exploration of Britain, Thule, the Arctic and the Amber Coast .... ",0 +4381,"Lost French Fort Caroline (1564), not where we thought?. ",0 +4382,'A historic find': Prehistoric Native American jawbone discovered near Iowa river - USA TODAY. ,0 +4383,"Does Catherine's II the Great amount of lovers stand out, compared to other rulers?. In school, one of the first things I heard about 18th century Russian Empress Catherine II the Great was that she had a very big sex drive and a lot of lovers, one of them being the last king of Polish–Lithuanian Commonwealth before the final partition. + +This suggests to me that other rulers should have much fewer lovers, otherwise it would not be said that Catherine had a lot of them. + +On the other hand, she is one of the very few women that achieved the highest position in a country/empire, and Russian Empire was quite powerful at that time, so I can imagine that such rumors about her being ""an easy, joyful woman"" could come up just to discredit her. + +Do we know, or can guess, a story behind it? How her sex life compares to the rulers of that period and before it?",0 +4384,"Bookclub Wednesday, January 26, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist)",0 +4385,"How did military encirclements work exactly?. Maps and documentaries about wars in history, especially about WWII, often depict these huge, sweeping encirclements, with arrows showing tanks going deep into an enemy's rear and surrounding a whole group of soldiers. + +What exactly did that look like on the ground though? Were there soldiers and tanks stationed at every single point of that surrounding circle? Were they separated by a certain distance? Did they only cover roads and railways?",0 +4386,"Why didn't Britain and France integrate their colonies?. As the question states, why didn't Britain and France try to make their colonies core territories of their countries? Why couldn't they, for example, use education and governance to make their overseas territories eventually assimilate and adopt a fully and completely British and French national identity and language? Why didn't they reorganize their overseas territories into normal provinces, give them representation, and eventually maybe produce prime ministers who were from their overseas territories? + +For example, Siberia, for all intents and purposes, can be considered a Russian colony. It is honestly not very different from Canada, both are remote from the respective cores of the original country, yet modern day people from Siberia, no matter native or the descendants of Russian settles, all view themselves as Russian. The fact that it is connected by land across the Urals didn't make going from Moscow to Yakutsk any easier than from London to Canberra, at least not before railroads, yet those territories are very much Russian. Similarly, Alaska, Hawaii, and the entire American west coast can be considered American colonies, but were gradually integrated by the US with a combination of settlers and the locals adopting an American national identity. + +At least, if Britain wasn't able to hold on to India or Africa, why wasn't it able to hold on to Canada, Australia, and New Zealand? These territories are not very culturally different from the British mainland, and it wouldn't require any work to make those people identify as ordinary British citizens, since most of them are descendants of British settlers. If Britain ever learned a thing or two from its loss of the United States and the collapse of the Spanish Empire, it could be that making people from those territories equal to the homeland politically might be able to preserve them, but that didn't happen, why? At least to me, it is baffling why Canada, Australia, and New Zealand didn't become just as integrally British as England, Wales, and Scotland. If Britain retained these territories, it would have a much stronger economy than it currently has and likely retain its position as a world superpower. Why would it give up on that? I don't really buy that it was bankrupt from the world wars theory, because wouldn't recovering from the war with more outlying territories not affected by the war and economic power be easier?",0 +4387,"The cuneiform tablet of correspondence between Egyptian and Hittites' Queens. The political language of the time is rather inspiring actually.. [Twitter thread with pictures](https://twitter.com/turarchaeonews/status/1487731649832001539?t=X8_u6Lf4TghlYW703JuK2A&s=19) + +A letter written in Akkadian by Naptera, the wife of Ramses II, the King of Egypt, to Puduhepa, the wife of Hattusili III, the King of Hittites, between 1275-1250 BCE. The tablet gives information on the political relations of the era and refers to the good relations between them + + + +""The great Queen Naptera of the land of Egypt speaks thus: Speak to my sister Puduḫepa, the Great Queen of the Hatti land. I, your sister, be well! May your country be well. Now, I have learned that you, my sister, have written to me asking after my health... + +You have written to me because of the good friendship and brotherly relationship between your brother, the king of Egypt, The Great and the Storm God will bring about peace, and he will make the brotherly relationship between the Egyptian king, the Great King, and his brother... + +...the Hatti King, the Great King, last forever. I have sent you a gift, in order to greet you, my sister for your neck of pure gold, composed of 12 bands and weighing 88 shekels, coloured linen maklalu-material, for one royal dress for the king. A total of 12 linen garments."" + +Found in Hattusa - the capital of the Hittite Empire, tablet made of terracotta, now in the Museum of Anatolian Civilizations in Ankara.",0 +4388,"Why did everyone want to be considered the continuation of Rome. The Holy Roman Empire, the German Empire, the Russian Empire, and the Byzantine Empires all, in some sort, declared themselves as the continuation of the Roman Empire. The Holy Roman Empire literally had ‘Roman’ in its name. The Germans and Russians emperors were called Kaiser’s and Tsars, which are adaptations of Caesar’s, what Roman emperors were called. But why did they really want to seem like the Roman Empire? I get that the Roman Empire was a massive empire in Europe, but for most of its history, it was pagan, whereas most of its acclaimed successors were Christian empires.",0 +4389,The Disappearance of William Morgan · Freemasons and the Murder of William Morgan · Union to Disunion. ,0 +4390,"Was this behavior and culture like that with the wealthy Englishmen in the early 20th century?. There's a thing I've noticed with watching programs that deal with the wealthy class of English on around the 1920's and a bit onward. Shows like 'Brideshead Revisited' and 'Jeeves and Wooster' have the characters behave and live in a somewhat quirky manner. It's an almost care-free, childlike existence and culture. They often divulge in traditions, slang, and mannerisms that border on outlandish and esoteric. Example I can show is this [scene here](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_56re3J-Vos) from 'Brideshead Revisited' and [this scene](https://youtu.be/Te3SvM-aG04?t=454) from 'Jeeves and Wooster'. So was this sort of thing commonplace with the sort or just creative writing? + +Much thanks!",0 +4391,Research attributes astronomical treatise to Galileo Galilei. ,0 +4392,Historian uncovers a less known military action of Vlad the Impaler in the summer of 1462. ,0 +4393,"Was Wehrmacht troop quality on the western front second rate?. Looking at the Wehrmacht divisions fighting from Normandy to Germany, most of the divisions were second rate, created from the husks of already destroyed divisions on the eastern front. Maybe some officers would have been veterans, but enlisted seems to be a bunch of relocated Luftwaffe/Kriegsmarine sailors or 17-18 year olds. By the Battle of the Bulge, the Wehrmacht was mostly a bunch of these Volksgrenadiers with like 2 weeks of training. Am I misreading things or were German forces on the Western front post 1944, their worst units?",0 +4394,"Why Didn't The Allies Attack the USSR After WW2?. What was the sentiment towards the USSR at this point? I believe that at one point the Third Army and the USSR's troops got into a brief engagement and Patton / Churchill were overwhelmingly outspoken against them. Patton believing in the future that they will be our next enemy, which he was kinda on point with. + +Did the allies calculate that they might lose? Was it for political reasons to avoid another war? I hear this question a lot but no one can seem to answer why, or maybe no one wanted to attack them in the first place.",0 +4395,"The Battle of Talas 751 AD. First of all sorry if on occasions I make mistakes whether it is spelling or of a grammatical nature but English isn’t my first language. And I even get to have a double excuse considering that I’m French and we do have quite a reputation regarding our English learning capacity. So please consider that I’m merely honoring my cultural heritage. + +The battle of Talas took place near Taraz on the modern border between Kazakhstan and Kyrgyzstan in 751 AD. The exact location is yet to be confirmed but the accounts of the events place it on the banks of the Talas River. It took place after a series of smaller engagements between the Umayyad (soon to be Abbassid) empire and the Tang empire, as the two major powers intervened in the local conflicts to gain or maintain control over the Silk Roads. The latest struggle being between the local kings of Tashkent and Ferghana, two local Silk Road towns. The latter won the siege of Tashkent with the support of Gao Xianzhi – a general of Gogureyo descent (a recently defeated Korean kingdom) serving the Tang dynasty – and his troops. The Tang general supposedly had the king beheaded for refusing to pay the tribute he owed the Chinese empire, which in turn caused the son of the king to call for the help of the Abbasid. There is another version where an abbasid general named Ziyad ibn Salih who was already present to help the Tashkent king in his war escaped the city when the besieging army broke in and went to Samarkand to gather an army and confront the Tang army. Meanwhile Gao Xianzhi recruited Karluk Turks in Fergana to bolster the ranks of his army. + +The sources are fuzzy to say the least and it only gets worse when it comes to the actual battle itself but whichever story we choose to follow we end up with two armies facing each other near the Talas River. + +When it comes to the numbers involved you end up with radically different versions ranging from 40 000 Arab soldiers supported by 20 000 Turks and contingents from the allied Tibetan empire according to the Arab records, to 200 000 soldiers in total forming the ranks of the Abbasid army according to some Chinese estimates. As for the Tang army, once again we are faced with wildly diverging numbers from 10 000 Tang soldiers flanked by 20 000 Karluk mercenaries for the Chinese sources, to a 100 000 to 150 000 soldiers strong Tang army according to the Arab sources. + +The Chinese records also insists on the fact that the Tang forces marched a long distance to reach Tashkent and were exhausted when the two armies came to face each other. As you might suspect, the battle itself is subject to very different accounts. One version speaks of three days of battle during which the Chinese had the upper hand on their foe but not significantly enough to rout or crush them. On the fourth day, the Karluks flanking the Tang forces turned on them and engaged the army in a close quarter fight while the Caliphate army charged them on the front. The second version differs in the chain of event yet present a similar ending: the two armies faced each other but feared to engage the fight for four days. On the fifth, a small force of Karluks that had positioned itself on the other bank of the Talas River and seemed neutral up to this point charged the Tang flank prompting the Abbasid to attack the front of the Chinese lines. In both cases we end up with a crushing defeat for the Chinese although the first version seems a bit more likely to have happened given that sources tend to tell us that despite the very heavy losses on the Tang side (according to Chinese sources that estimate the number of Tang soldiers to 10 000, Gao Xianzhi only retreats with 2 000 of his men), the Chinese also inflicted significant damage on the Abbasid forces. Whichever version we read, we end up with the same situation. The Chinese are heavily defeated due to the defection of the Karluk mercenaries in favour of the Abbasid. Whether their shift in allegiance comes from some form of transaction or from the fact that they were convinced by the Abbasid and their Turkish allies that they were closer in culture and religion and therefore in interest to them than the Chinese is hard to determine but the end result remains the same. The Abbasid routed their enemies and the Chinese are in such disarray that they leave behind their camp and all their civilian followers which the Arabs take prisoners. + +And here we touch the most important part of this story as among these civilians were engineers and artisans which supported the army in all its needs – be it administrative, with paper, or of a more strategic nature, with black powder. From this point onward, the Abbasid Empire had access to the secret of paper making. And the first paper maker workshop was created in Samarkand only a few years later and in the following half century paper would spread across the entire empire – starting in the imperial capital of Bagdad with the creation of its first paper mill in 794-795 – as the valuable support for one of the Islamic golden age of intellectual creation. Arabic sources tend to support this version in which the prisoners of war are the mean of this technological transfer between the Far and the Middle East but no usual Chinese source comes to confirm this. Yet, we have on that matter a record from one of those prisoners of war in the person of Du Huan who writes on his time in the Abbasid Empire once he returns to China. In his story, he describes how some of his fellow prisoners make use of their crafts such as silk weaving while living in the Abbasid territory. Therefore, despite the absence of other Chinese sources confirming that the technological transfer happened through these prisoners, this first hand record plus the timing on the creation of those paper mills first in the neighbouring town of Samarkand, and then in the capital of Bagdad doesn’t leave much room to think of a simple coincidence. It seems almost certain that the Battle of Talas is indeed the sole reason for this sudden breach in the so far well-kept crafting secrets of those Chinese high-end export goods that were paper and silk. + +Now, you may ask: “why is it such a big deal to know how to make paper?”. Because, at first glance, the Abbasid Empire had papyrus produced in Egypt and it was a good enough writing support to serve all the successive masters of Egypt during the Antiquity and among them the Roman Empire and the Greeks. To which you have to add parchment in some regions among which Kufa and Edessa which were famous for the quality of their production. So what could make the acquisition of paper such a revolution? Well, it all comes down to the fact that paper is easier to use because the fibers aren’t as pronounced as they can be in a papyrus and therefore leave much more liberty to trace your letters, especially when your calligraphy tends to include complex shapes such as those in Arab. It is also quite easy and cheap to produce once the craft is mastered and the technique becomes wide-spread, and on this point it is a very welcome feature seeing that for parchment, it could take a full year to prepare the skins that would compose a single somewhat hefty book and it would cost an enormous amount. And finally, it is way more flexible and yet sturdy. You can practically bend and twist the paper however you want with very little chance of tearing it whereas papyrus is much more demanding in its handling and makes for a less time resistant support in the day to day life (although, it is worth to note that, in proper conditions, papyrus may very well be more adapted to face the trial of time as long as it is kept in a very dry environment, hence the thousands of them uncovered each year in Egypt) and parchment on the other hand is much more sturdy than the two others but being of animal origin, it’s much more vulnerable to degradation due to its age. In addition to all those qualities, we can add that paper is relatively light (much more so than parchment and a bit more than papyrus) and you can also dye it which gives you much more freedom to embellish your writings. All in all, paper wins almost on all fronts compared to its predecessors and its wide-spread availability makes for the perfect condition for the intensification of written production and its long distance exchange. Finally the scientists, philosophers and thinkers of all the corners of the empire can write, exchange and receive new ideas from far away at a reasonable cost and in a timely and easy manner. It also makes room for a private market for books that allows somewhat ordinary citizens to buy and own books and access knowledge more readily. In the same spirit, it makes the creation and growth of public libraries a much easier task. In these conditions the Abbasid Empire knows one of its most brilliant era of intellectual dynamism as knowledge can flow much more rapidly, to more distant lands and reach many more readers. + +In this regard, I think that paper very well might be one if not the most revolutionary invention and its spread across the world, one of the most important events in History. And if you want to prolong this thought, I invite you to think about the impact of the paper when it came back form the Levant to Europe, most likely from the Crusades. Because, in opposition to the Middle East, Europe lost access to the papyrus production from Egypt. A loss of access that began with the fall of the Western Roman Empire and the trade across the Mediterranean Sea that severely decreased (but never ceased) and that became complete with the Islamic conquest of the region. Given this, Europe relied almost exclusively on parchment, and as we saw, it is a really costly material – both in time and money. The relative decrease in intellectual production during the Middle Ages compared to the very productive Antiquity can partly be attributed to this scarcity of writing support. With less opportunity to exchange and access new ideas, the “collective” knowledge pool grows slower and with much more difficulty. And sometimes even can go back a little as ideas die before they can reach others. It is even very difficult to imagine such a thing as the Renaissance without paper being the support of this new cultural and intellectual exchange. What would have happen of the great minds of the time if they had only access to the very slow knowledge flow allowed by the parchment? And the press would clearly not exist if paper had not found its way to Gutenberg. And with that the 17th and 18th centuries almost certainly wouldn’t have seen such intellectual pursuits and intense creation and dynamism. Or at the very least all this would have happened on a longer time period and a smaller scale. In short the whole Western and Mediterranean culture would have a really different aspect if not for this rather unknown battle in the far distant east, and I know that we have left the realm of the strict historical domain to enter the realm of hypothetical history, but I feel like it still makes sense to raise those questions as they are, to me at least, one of the major arguments in favour of studying history. Learning about bits of history like this helps realize that sometimes the destiny of entire cultures and civilisations can be indirectly influenced by seemingly very little and distant events that are far beyond the reach of those that are impacted. And personally I find it very satisfying when you can pin point those events, when you can very much see the tipping point between two wildly different futures. + +This battle has many more ramifications and consequences, among which are the Islamisation of the Turks, the rupture of communication between the Chinese and Indian Buddhism leading to the development of a separate Chinese Buddhist canon. But this text is already rather lengthy and I couldn’t have done justice to these other subjects without adding even more. + +Thank you for reading all this if you reached this point and once again, please excuse any errors or misspellings and please feel free to correct me on anything as it would help me a great deal. + +I recommend checking these out if you want to learn more on the subject of paper and its impact on civilization: + +\- Bloom, Jonathan (2001). *Paper Before Print: The History and Impact of Paper in the Islamic World* (English source) + +\- Sington, David (2020). *L’Odyssée de l’écriture*. A three part documentary on the evolution of writing throughout History. It’s in French and I don’t know if there is a translated version out there but if you do understand it I highly recommend checking it out.",0 +4396,"What battle do you find most interesting in which the locals - considered grossly less-than by the invading culture - decisively sent their attackers running to their ships/ graves/ unknown fate?. Battles big and small, from anywhere in the world. + + +Mine is the [Battle of Chicasa](http://www.msarchaeology.org/maa/johnson.pdf), where the Chickasaw Nation chased and slaughtered naked conquistadors running from their flaming huts into a very cold winter night. + +De Soto died of a fever shortly after, and his body had to be put into the Mississippi River to save it from being mutilated by the Chickasaw. The last De Soto expedition was a failure. + + +The ferocity of the Battle of Chicasa echoed for centuries. The Chickasaw were dubbed ""The Unconquered and Unconquerable"" and Europeans avoided Chickasaw lands for the next 130 years. + + +The traditional dish of the Chickasaw Nation is pashofa, which is hominy corn and pork...the descendants of the Spanish pigs they captured after the battle. It is still eaten today.",0 +4397,"THE CODE OF HAMMURABI - based on a 1915 translation. [The Code of Hammurabi](http://www.general-intelligence.com/library/hr.pdf), laws written during the Babylonian times + +It contains some ridiculous and often barbarian rules and laws. + + \- If any one take over a waste-lying field to make it arable, but is lazy, and does not make it arable, he shall plow the fallow field in the fourth year, harrow it and till it, and give it back to its owner, and for each ten gan (a measure of area) ten gur of grain shall be paid. + +\- If a tavern-keeper (feminine) does not accept corn according to gross weight in payment of drink, but takes money, and the price of the drink is less than that of the corn, she shall be convicted and thrown into the water. + +\- If conspirators meet in the house of a tavern-keeper, and these conspirators are not captured and delivered to the court, the tavern-keeper shall be put to death. + +\- If a “sister of a god” open a tavern, or enter a tavern to drink, then shall this woman be burned to death. + +\- If any one fail to meet a claim for debt, and sell himself, his wife, his son, and daughter for money or give them away to forced labor: they shall work for three years in the house of the man who bought them, or the proprietor, and in the fourth year they shall be set free. + +\- If any one store corn for safe keeping in another person’s house, and any harm happen to the corn in storage, or if the owner of the house open the granary and take some of the corn, or if especially he deny that the corn was stored in his house: then the owner of the corn shall claim his corn before God (on oath), and the owner of the house shall pay its owner for all of the corn that he took. + +\- If a man violate the wife (betrothed or child-wife) of another man, who has never known a man, and still lives in her father’s house, and sleep with her and be surprised, this man shall be put to death, but the wife is blameless. + +\- If the “finger is pointed” at a man’s wife about another man, but she is not caught sleeping with the other man, she shall jump into the river for her husband. + +\- If a man wishes to separate from his wife who has borne him no children, he shall give her the amount of her purchase money and the dowry which she brought from her father’s house, and let her go. + +\- If a man’s wife, who lives in his house, wishes to leave it, plunges into debt, tries to ruin her house, neglects her husband, and is judicially convicted: if her husband offer her release, she may go on her way, and he gives her nothing as a gift of release. If her husband does not wish to release her, and if he take another wife, she shall remain as servant in her husband’s house. + +\- If a woman quarrel with her husband, and say: “You are not congenial to me,” the reasons for her prejudice must be presented. If she is guiltless, and there is no fault on her part, but he leaves and neglects her, then no guilt attaches to this woman, she shall take her dowry and go back to her father’s house. + +\- If she is not innocent, but leaves her husband, and ruins her house, neglecting her husband, this woman shall be cast into the water. + +\- If a man take a wife and this woman give her husband a maid-servant, and she bear him children, but this man wishes to take another wife, this shall not be permitted to him; he shall not take a second wife. + +\- If a man take a wife, and she bear him no children, and he intend to take another wife: if he take this second wife, and bring her into the house, this second wife shall not be allowed equality with his wife. + +\- If a man take a wife and she give this man a maid-servant as wife and she bear him children, and then this maid assume equality with the wife: because she has borne him children her master shall not sell her for money, but he may keep her as a slave, reckoning her among the maid-servants. + +\- If she have not borne him children, then her mistress may sell her for money. + +\- If a woman who lived in a man’s house made an agreement with her husband, that no creditor can arrest her, and has given a document therefor: if that man, before he married that woman, had adebt, the creditor can not hold the woman for it. But if the woman, before she entered the man’s house, had contracted a debt, her creditor can not arrest her husband therefor. + +\- If a man betroth a girl to his son, and his son have intercourse with her, but he (the father) afterward defile her, and be surprised, then he shall be bound and cast into the water (drowned). + +\- If any one be guilty of incest with his mother after his father, both shall be burned. + +\- If a man marry a woman, and she bear sons to him; if then this woman die, then shall her father have no claim on her dowry; this belongs to her sons. + +\- If a man marry a woman and she bear him no sons; if then this woman die, if the “purchase price” which he had paid into the house of his father-in-law is repaid to him, her husband shall have no claim upon the dowry of this woman; it belongs to her father’s house. + +\- If a man take wives for his son, but take no wife for his minor son, and if then he die: if the sons divide the estate, they shall set aside besides his portion the money for the “purchase price” for the minor brother who had taken no wife as yet, and secure a wife for him. + +\- If a State slave or the slave of a freed man marry the daughter of a free man, and children are born, the master of the slave shall have no right to enslave the children of the free. + +\- If, however, a State slave or the slave of a freed man marry a man’s daughter, and after he marries her she bring a dowry from a father’s house, if then they both enjoy it and found a household, and accumulate means, if then the slave die, then she who was free born may take her dowry, and all that her husband and she had earned; she shall divide them into two parts, one-half the master for the slave shall take, and the other half shall the free-born woman take for her children. If the free-born woman had no gift she shall take all that her husband and she had earned and divide it into two parts; and the master of the slave shall take one-half and she shall take the other for her children. + +\- If a man give his child to a nurse and the child die in her hands, but the nurse unbeknown to the father and mother nurse another child, then they shall convict her of having nursed another child without the knowledge of the father and mother and her breasts shall be cut off. + +\- If any one strike the body of a man higher in rank than he, he shall receive sixty blows with an ox-whip in public. + +\- If the slave of a freed man strike the body of a freed man, his ear shall be cut off. + +\- If a man strike a free-born woman so that she lose her unborn child, he shall pay ten shekels for her loss. + +\- If the woman die, his daughter shall be put to death. + +\- If a woman of the free class lose her child by a blow, he shall pay five shekels in money. + +\- If a physician make a large incision with an operating knife and cure it, or if he open a tumor (over the eye) with an operating knife, and saves the eye, he shall receive ten shekels in money. + +\- If he be the slave of some one, his owner shall give the physician two shekels. + +\- If a physician make a large incision with the operating knife, and kill him, or open a tumor with the operating knife, and cut out the eye, his hands shall be cut off. + +\- If a barber, without the knowledge of his master, cut the sign of a slave on a slave not to be sold, the hands of this barber shall be cut off. + +\- If any one deceive a barber, and have him mark a slave not for sale with the sign of a slave, he shall be put to death, and buried in his house. The barber shall swear: “I did not mark him wittingly,” and shall be guiltless. + +\- If a builder build a house for some one, and does not construct it properly, and the house which he built fall in and kill its owner, then that builder shall be put to death. + +\- If it kill the son of the owner the son of that builder shall be put to death. + +\- If it kill a slave of the owner, then he shall pay slave for slave to the owner of the house. + +\- If any one buy a male or female slave, and before a month has elapsed the benu-disease be developed, he shall return the slave to the seller, and receive the money which he had paid. + +\- If a slave say to his master: “You are not my master,” if they convict him his master shall cut off his ear. + +""The king who ruleth among the kings of the cities am I. My words are well considered; there is no wisdom like unto mine."" - Hammurabi",0 +4398,"How Did Weddings/Marriage Proposals Work In Ancient China Between Royals During The Seventh Century?. What is the ""official"" process for if a King and a Queen of different kingdoms want to get married in ancient China, specifically during the seventh century? Would he send gifts to her family? If so what types of gifts? What does the ceremony look like? Who would typically be invited? What would the bride and groom wear? What if that king doesn't have any parents or blood relatives? What happens then?",0 +4399,"How did pirates in the 1500s and 1600s learn to navigate so well?. Either they knew some basic math and trig to plot their course on a map so they could have some idea of where they are or sea navigation did not require this and they had a much simpler way to navigate. Where did they even get accurate maps at the time or did they just have simple hand drawn maps with key landmark? That doesn't sound right if they had hand drawn maps with landmarks. Island hopping like the Polynesians don't count. Pirates were navigating from continent to continents and going back and forth and went from southern hemisphere to northern hemisphere going all over the place and even circumnavigating the world. Blackbeard, Francis Drake, etc., they had some advance navigation skills if they can sail from Europe to the Carribeans and up the Carolina coast or go around South America and across the Pacific without prior knowledge. + +Without accurate maps and some mathematical knowledge like trig you can't plot where you are and if you don't have prior knowledge you could easily get lost at sea but most pirates wouldn't have any education though so how were they so successful? Were pirates using astrolabes, compasses, math and trig, and the most accurate maps they had in Europe at the time? They aren't really depicted as the educated type.",0 +4400,The Flemish migrations to Wales. ,0 +4401,[The Guardian] ‘A moral issue to correct’: the long tail of Elena Ceaușescu’s fraudulent scientific work | Romania. ,0 +4402,"News coverage of lynchings of Mexicans, Asians and Native Americans followed established patterns. The long, gruesome history of lynchings in the U.S. is usually understood through the deaths of Black Americans – but the murders did not stop with them. + +There remains a dark legacy of lynchings of people of Mexican, Asian and Native American descent, which unfolded alongside the lynchings of Black Americans. Between 1865 and 1965, there were approximately 200 lynchings of Mexicans, Asians and Native Americans in the U.S., according to an analysis by the Howard Center for Investigative Journalism. + +Read more here: [https://lynching.cnsmaryland.org/2021/12/05/coverage-of-lynchings-of-mexicans-asians-and-native-americans-followed-established-patterns/](https://lynching.cnsmaryland.org/2021/12/05/coverage-of-lynchings-of-mexicans-asians-and-native-americans-followed-established-patterns/)",0 +4403,"Popular historical non-fiction like Erik Larson and Ben McIntyre. Typically, my non-fiction reading is confined to true crime. But I've always had a soft spot for personal/anecdotal popular history, and none have impressed me as much as books like Erik Larson's The Devil in the White City and In the Garden of Beasts, and Ben McIntyre's Agent Zigzag and Double Cross. + +Both of these authors have a taste for the quirky and peculiar details -- I really enjoy this approach. Both maintain a sense of humour throughout, which can be hard when you're writing about Nazis and serial killers. But they pull it off. + +Does anyone have any suggestions for popular historical non-fiction in the vein of Larson and McIntyre?",0 +4404,"Latina Voting Rights Activist, Nina Otero-Warren, Soon To Be on U.S. Quarters. ",0 +4405,"Did British and American support/sympathy for right-wing dictatorships in the 1930s undercut efforts to prevent World War 2?. So I’ve been doing a lot of reading on the subject of appeasement and would like to hear some perspectives on this. + +It's a truism that throughout the 20th and 21st Centuries the United States and Britain supported brutal right-wing dictatorships that committed countless crimes and atrocities. No debate needed there. + +However, US support (or rather to me, maybe a confused sympathy) for right-wing fascism in 1930s Europe seems to have a less succinct record that is acknowledged. + +Before World War 2, the Britain, France, and the U.S. committed to what I think was a position of malicious neutrality despite Axis aggression in the Spanish Civil War. Their choice to not supply arms to the Republicans to fight Francos' fascists in Spain (while pro-fascist American businesses supplied the Axis powers with oil) helped ensure that Germany and Italy had enough war-making capacity to fight in Central Europe. Roosevelt, to his credit, later admitted he was wrong. Harold Ickes, who was the U.S. Secretary of the Interior at the time, stated that “realistically, neutrality in this instance \[Spanish Civil War\] was lining up with Franco, and lining up with Franco has meant the destruction of Democratic Spain.” + +After World War 2, the U.S. incorporated not just Werner Von Braun into the space program, but major Nazi war criminals like [Reinhard Gehlen](https://ips-dc.org/the_cias_worst-kept_secret_newly_declassified_files_confirm_united_states_collaboration_with_nazis/), [Walter Rauff](https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-15069333), [Kurt Blome](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kurt_Blome#Postwar_activities_and_employment_by_the_United_States), Klaus Barbie, and others who were put into places like the CIA or US-backed client-state dictatorships. Their crimes are truly horrendous and unconscionable, they were terrible spies, and it's all in the public record and the government knew about it at the time. + +I'd like to quote some revelatory quotes and points from several texts: + +""A 1937 Report of the State Department's European Division described the rise of Fascism as the natural reaction of ""the rich and middle classes, in self-defense"" when the ""dissatisfied masses, with the example of the Russian revolution before them, swing to the Left."" Fascism therefore ""must succeed or the masses, this time reinforced by the disillusioned middle classes, will again turn to the Left."" The Report also noted that ""if Fascism cannot succeed by persuasion \[in Germany\], it must succeed by force."" (“State Department, 16 February 1937, “Memorandum for the Honorable Norman H. Davis: A Contribution to a Peace Settlement,” Box 24, Davis Papers.” (If anyone has a link where the report could be read in full, I'd love to get that!) + +""The U.S. Ambassador to Russia William Bullitt ""believed that only Nazi Germany could stay the advance of Soviet Bolshevism in Europe."" (Daniel Yergin, Shattered Peace; p. 26) Harold Ickes, on the other hand, said ""the wealthy class of England is so afraid of Communism, which has constituted no threat at all in England, that they have thrown themselves into the arms of Nazism, and now they don’t know which way to turn.” Hitler apparently said to G. W. Ludeckel: ""I’ve got to play ball with capitalism and keep the Versailles powers in line by holding aloft the bogey of Bolshevism–make them believe that a Nazi Germany is the last bulwark against the Red Flood."" (I Knew Hitler; p. 422) + +Within the Chamberlain government, Under-Secretary Vansittart ""thought that Hitler was exploiting fears of a ""Bolshevist menace"" as a cover for ""expansion in Central and South-Eastern Europe,"" and one might argue that the views of Neville Chamberlain, Lord Halifax, and especially Neville Henderson might confirm that, even when people like Churchill and Vansittart seemed to know better. + +In the British Press, William Shirer made note that Norman Ebutt "" complained to me in private that The Times \[a major British newspaper\] does not print all he sends, that it does not want to hear too much of the dark side of Nazi Germany and apparently has been captured by the pro-Nazis in London. He is discouraged and talks of quitting.” + +Some further points: + +Why is the Anglo-German Naval Agreement of 1935 never discussed? The agreement set no limits on ground forces and allowed the German Navy to be up to 35% of Britain's capacity. Is this not important at all? Is there more context to this? ""For it was obvious to the most simple mind in Berlin that by agreeing to Germany’s building a navy a third as large as the British, the London government was giving Hitler free rein to build up a navy as fast as was physically possible—one that would tax the capacity of his shipyards and steel mills for at least ten years. It was thus not a limitation on German rearmament but an encouragement to expand it, in the naval arm, as rapidly as Germany could find the means to do so.” (William Shirer, Rise and Fall of the Third Reich) How about the Franco-Soviet Mutual Assistance Treaty that seemed borne out of at least a bare recognition by France and the Soviet Union that Nazi Germany posed a threat to Central Europe at that time? It seems notable to me that given this agreement, neither the Soviet Union nor Czechoslovakia were even invited to the Munich Conference where the matter of the Sudetenland, and the obvious implications for civil rights therein, was in question. + +I just have so many questions, but this aspect of the interwar period seems to never be fully entertained. It seems to me to be one of the most important lessons to learn in full. Was the U.S., Britain, and France complicit in the buildup to World War 2 to a degree greater than is acknowledged?",0 +4406,"Were medieval peasants and nobles really that dirty and disgusting as the media portrays them to be?. Recently I've taken a interest about the medieval era and I've seen a video on how the medieval times were dirty and disgusting. About how people threw their body fluids out into the street and how people hardly bathed or washed their hands and how they had bad teeth and horrible dental hygiene. But I've read comments that said otherwise so I'm wondering, were medieval peasants and nobles that dirty as people have made them out to be. I mean, some of them had to have some concept of cleanliness right?",0 +4407,The 1950s film Duck And Cover depicted safety techniques in preparation of the dangers from Soviet nuclear attacks.. ,0 +4408,"The ""Candy Bomber,"" Gail Halvorson, passed away today.. [https://www.npr.org/2022/02/17/1081594481/the-candy-bomber-who-dropped-sweets-during-the-berlin-airlift-has-died-at-age-10](https://www.npr.org/2022/02/17/1081594481/the-candy-bomber-who-dropped-sweets-during-the-berlin-airlift-has-died-at-age-10) + +Lived to age 101. Good for him. His decision to drop candy for the children of Berlin put a public face on the Airlift, helped heal the wounds of war and helped begin the slow process of bringing the Germanies back together.",0 +4409,HS2: Vast Roman settlement found by archaeologists. ,0 +4410,"Hoping this is the right place, but I just had a question about the vastness of prehistory. Is there a name or defining concept for that characteristic in historiography of how much time there is in *deep time*, namely that for every year of human history we have effective and reliable methods for studying, there ten or more that we can't ever possibly begin to understand? + +For clarification, I'm a speculative fiction writer in my spare time, and I'm hoping to keep my work as close to reality as possible with regard to that concept of the wide gulf between what we think we *know* and what we don't even know we *don't* know",0 +4411,"Old peoples on foreign gods. I watched a video on youtube how Romans saw germanic gods ad their own but only with different names. For example: Odin was Mercury and Thor was Jupiter. But at the same time they accepted foreign gods in their pantheon: most famous are Isis and Abnoba. Which one was it then? + +On the other hand: Jews and early christians saw other gods as demons. For example: mesopotamian gods Dagon and Moloch became lords in hell. + +My question is: did ancient people belived in other gods as real? Did they feared them? Or did they see the other god as misinterpretation of their own in general?",0 +4412,"Examination of Battles Featuring Extreme Examples of ""Mother Nature"". We have to keep in mind that there is no such thing as an EASY battle. Each and every battle is difficult in and of itself, and every soldier enters battle knowing that death is a possibility. + +The purpose of this post is by no means to compare atrocities across battles. More-so, what I am interested in, is an **Examination of Battles Featuring Extreme Examples of Mother Nature.** + +I am interested in learning from the guys and girls in the sub about battles that included examples of one or more of these three main facets: + +1. Battles Featuring **Extreme Weather, Climate, or Natural Disasters** +2. Battles Featuring **Extreme Terrain Challenges** +3. Battles Featuring **Extreme Encounters with Nature or Wildlife**",0 +4413,"What is your favorite historically accurate movie about a historical event?. My favorite historically accurate movie based on a historical event is, and always will be, called ""the Day of the Siege"" about the Battle of Vienna that is about several countries working together to try to stop the Muslims from invading the Golden Apple. It is my understanding that most of the fleets that fight the Muslims are Catholics, but correct me if I am wrong, please and thank you. The battle was on September 12th 1683. There are dilemmas between the countries at the time and the movie portrays the situations quite well. + +Of course, if you know the basics of this battle, you'd know how Poland played a crucial role in this battle. Sabaton's song ""The Winged Hussars"" depicts this perfectly. + +​ + +This movie has a special place in my heart b/c I was born in Poland. :D I myself have watched this movie 4 times since mid 2019 or so. + +​ + +Edit: As long as this post is not archived, you are more than welcome to post your favorite historically accurate movie choice here! + +​ + +Thank you for your time.",0 +4414,The Belgian scientist who inspired the US dollar. ,0 +4415,"Pearl Harbor at 80: My Grandfather's story as an 9 year old eye witness.. As told to me in 2012: + +""71 Years ago today I had just turned 9 years old, and was in the 4th grade.. The president had previously issued an ultimatum to the Japanese to get out of Burma and this was the deadline day. (China was our friend then) Hitler was raising all kinds of hell in Europe and England. (Germany was our enemy then)(Japan was our enemy then) + +Joe Louis was heavy weight champ of the world, and as far as I knew always had been. + +Roosevelt was President of the United States and as far as I know always had been. + +Jesse Owens was still a national hero after the 36 olympics, and Jim Thorpe had not had his medals returned. + +June of 1940 I was put on the USS Mariposa to go live with my dad in Honolulu. He worked for the government at Hickam Field and lived in Hickam housing. + +On the day of Dec. 6 he worked from 4:00 till midnight as the Army Air force had decided to move all the instruments from one hanger to another. I rode my bicycle from the housing to the field about 8:00pm and took him his dinner. + +The next morning I was playing out in the front yard, when all of a sudden these small airplanes with brilliant suns painted under their wings and on their tails flew over our house about 50 feet above ground. They proceeded over the housing and I could hear the bombs and the guns when smoke erupted from the field. The planes would then turn right over Pearl Harbor and soon there was heavy black smoke everywhere. + +I went to wake up my dad, and told him what I saw. He said it was just military maneuvers and not to bother him. ""About that time another zero passed over and he jumped out of bed. He put me and my step mother into a 1939 Pontiac after gathering a few clothes and we were off to the mountains where he had friends. Our car was strafed by a lone plane and had about 6 holes in it, but we were not hurt. + +After dropping us off in the mountains my dad returned to Hickam and we did not see or hear from him for 4 days. He related that the Hanger they had emptied the night before was totally destroyed, and the one they moved to was untouched. + +I remember lying on the floor in front of a big radio with a big green eye in it telling us what had happened and that the government was fearful that there might be an invasion. In June of 1942 I was placed on the USS Lurline and returned to the US to live with my mom where I lived happily ever after. (Through both democrat and Republican Presidents)"" + +When I asked my grandfather more about it, he said: + +""A few days after returning to Hickam housing, I rode my bike to the main gate of Hickam field. The guards were armed with sub machine guns. A 1934 ford with 4 Japanese men approached the gate and were told to halt. They accelerated instead and the guards opened fire killing all 4, the car swerved out of control and rolled over. I can still see that in my mind"" + +I asked if my grandfather would have ever come back to the mainland if that hadn't happened. He said: + +""Not sure. Even tho my dad had remarried, my mom was trying to get to Hawaii , but the only way was by boat which was hard to do on $4.00 a week"" + +*(Note: My grandfather passed in 2016, so I have no means to follow up on any questions you may have)*",0 +4416,"2,100-year-old burial of Aphrodite 'priestess' discovered in Russia. ",0 +4417,"Joseon, the predecessor of modern Korea(s) - Part 4: Deepening Confucian Orthodoxy, Isolationism, and Underground Spread of Catholicism [1640s~1860s]. History of Korea (0) [pre-historic influences](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/x5egoz/interesting_parallels_between_prehistoric_korean/) + +History of Korea (1) [**Gojoseon**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x3ot4p/korean_history_dates_back_to_a_bronze_culture/) \[around 1000 BC \~ 108 BC\] + +History of Korea (2) [**Three Kingdoms**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x89pzd/koreas_three_kingdom_period_and_unified_silla/) **(*****Goguryeo, Baekje, and Silla*****) and Unified Silla** \[around 100 BC \~ 935\] + +History of Korea (3) [**Goryeo**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/xdnht8/goryeo_koreas_medieval_kingdom_918_1392_stories/)**, Korea's medieval kingdom:** stories, songs and Mongol invasion \[918 - 1392\] + +History of Korea (4) **Joseon, the predecessor of modern Korea(s): neo-Confucian orthodoxy and the origin of the hermit kingdom** \[1392 - 1910\] + +* [Part 1: What is neo-Confucianism?](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y3dil9/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) + * [Women's oppression in Joseon era](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/wzqxuu/womens_oppression_in_joseon_era/) +* [Part 2: Early prosperity and the cycles of literati purges (15\~16th century)](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y54lc6/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) +* [Part 3: Japan and Qing Invasions (early 17th century)](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/yb5277/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas_part_3/) +* Part 4 (this) +* [Part 5 (extra): Vernacular literature (17\~19th century)](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y9fy6x/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) + +​ + +# Phase 4. Deepening Confucian Orthodoxy, Isolationism, and Underground Spread of Catholicism [1640s~1860s] + +Contemporary Koreans often ask ""Why was Joseon not able to modernize itself like Japan did?"" Then the answers tend to blame a particular political figure, like *Heungson Dawongun* in the 19th century. + +However, many also view it as **a systematic failure of neo-Confucianism as a political ideology**. + +* As I said, **neo-Confucianism basically idealized the social norms of the ancient Chinese bronze age**, based on what was written in 2,500-year-old scripts + * It was indeed effective in preserving the stability of an agrarian society, and preserving the social hierarchy (landed aristocracy) +* **Joseon became a radically neo-Confucian society in the 15th century, resulting in the lack of merchant and military class** that would have been naturally open to the Western/modern ideas (in contrast, there was a strong merchant and military class in Edo Japan) + +Well, to be fair, as long as the imperial China stayed in power, Joseon's model could still work. Joseon would have stayed their **most loyal vassal state**, and the imperial China would have protected Joseon, so that Joseon would remain as an isolated, agrarian hermit kingdom**.** + +* That was Joseon's state model called *Sadae*. ([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sadae](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sadae)) +* **North Korea's Juche (self-reliance!) is a reaction** to this *Sadae. Juche* is an interesting successor of Joseon's neo-Confucianism - ***Juche*** **radically refuses the influence of any foreign empires, but its social ideal is still a ""pure,"" agrarian, self-sufficient society** not so different from what was idealized by old Confucianists. + +And the model worked again in the Japan invasion - Ming China eventually helped Joseon, and the kingdom of Joseon survived even though its population and economy got devastated (the main [royal palace](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gyeongbokgung) got destroyed and didn't get restored for 250 years) **The royal family and the landed aristocracy survived and continued their old way**. **No travel, no trades, no foreign ideas**. And it worked for the following 200 years. + +​ + +​ + +# 13. Diplomats and princes bring Western science and Christianity from China; The Crown Prince is poisoned to death by his father for that + +* Since the 16th century (1500s), China and Japan were exposed to Western science and Christianity by Portuguese/Italian/Dutch missionaries and merchants, but Korea was not + * No Catholic missionaries visited Korea yet. Christianity (Catholicism) was first introduced into Korea by Korean diplomats and princes returning from China + * It is allegedly a diplomat named [Yi Su-gwang](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yi_Su-gwang) who first introduced Christian books (written in Chinese) into Korea. He also wrote a giant [encyclopedia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jibong_yuseol) \- he was critical of the scholarly class in Joseon, and said "" there are too many sajok (scholarly class), idlers, vagrants and too few people liable for (military) service"" +* The [Crown Prince](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crown_Prince_Sohyeon) of Joseon was a captive in Qing China for 9 years, and returned to Korea with new ideas - Western science and Christianity. His father, the king who was humiliated by Manchu, hated this and was suspicious of the Crown Prince. Soon after, **the prince was found dead in his chamber, with the signs of poisoning** + * The king sent three sons of the killed crown prince into exile, and never visited the crown prince's tomb + +\*\* Around this time, **the first westerners were drifted to the Korean peninsula in shipwrecks**. The first Westerner was probably this [Dutch guy](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jan_Jansz_Weltevree) who got Korean name *Park Yeon* and settled with his Korean wife. He worked as a government official, and was not allowed to leave Korea. + +* Then another group of Dutchmen, [Hamel and his crew](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hendrick_Hamel) were drifted to the island of Jeju from Japan (Jeju is an island that has a distinct history and its own [Koreanic language](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeju_language)). It is said that when *Park Yeon* saw his fellow Dutchmen after like 20 years, he cried a lot. Hamel and his crew were sent to Seoul, and were sent around to different towns, until they eventually escaped to Japan after 13 years. Hamel was invited to many aristocrats' houses (for their curiosity), and **later Hamel's observation of the ""hermit kingdom"" was published** in Netherlands ([link](https://www.hendrick-hamel.henny-savenije.pe.kr/home.htm)) +* I didn't read his manuscript myself, but according to this [article](https://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/opinion/2020/07/137_169998.html), he mentioned **while Japan traded far and away, there were no foreign ships in Korea** other than a few Chinese and Japanese ones. Plus, it seems that he complained about having to eat rice only with salt and water... + * However, later Japanese envoys to the US made an opposite complaint. When the Japanese asked for rice, the Americans gave them rice with sugar. The Japanese were so shocked by that + +​ + +# 14. Orthodox faction fighting, consort Jang Hui-bin's curse + +The royal family and landed aristocracy maintained their old way. Around this time Confucian political factions would be called ""*bungdang*."" In early Joseon, the factions fought over matters of practical importance - such as land distribution. However, in late-Joseon, the faction fighting came to be centered around **the literal application of ancient Chinese family rites, and legitimacy disputes**. + +\*\* Typically, a faction fighting would go this way + +* A faction disapproves the legitimacy of the incumbent king (e.g. ""he's born from a concubine or a court maiden""; ""he shouldn't have acted hat way, that was against the Confucian norm) + * As people suggested in the previous post, the plot of Kingdom on Netflix is based on this +* Or, a faction accuses another faction that they're traitors and they're secretly trying to enthrone another prince (often a half-brother) +* => triggers the insecurity of the incumbent king +* => purges/kills/expels the accused prince and all members of an affiliated faction (often their families and relatives, too) +* => Now the winning faction becomes dominant in court. **Then they split again over the most insignificant, petty issue that they can't agree upon** +* => Repeat + +The most amazing example of this, well-known to Koreans, was decades of faction fighting over **whether a deceased king's young stepmother should wear a funeral robe for three-years, or one-year.** This debate led to another faction fighting, then another faction fighting. + +This crazy court in-fighting was entangled with **three generations of royal family drama**. Fortunately, someone else had written an incredibly rich account of the timeline of the faction fighting on Reddit, so I will add a link here. + +[Check this!](https://www.reddit.com/r/badhistory/comments/2sg2tf/this_is_literally_the_worst_thing_i_have_ever/) + +I think this comment succinctly summarized the situation + +>It's like **the equivalent of Keynesian and neo-liberal economists regularly accusing each other of treasonous conspiracies, burning each others books, and convincing the government to murder each other**. + +This [**link**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Northerners_(Korean_political_faction)) also shows a nice overview of the crazy complex genealogy of late-Joseon factions. + +​ + +\*\*\[\*\*Notable event: **Consort Jang Hui-bin (*****Joseon*****'s Ann Boleyn?) and her shamanic curse\]** + +* This is the most dramatized event during this period +* King [Sukjong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sukjong_of_Joseon) actively engaged in faction fighting, changing dominant factions (by bloody purges) depending on his mood + * When his **beloved concubine** [**Jang Hui-bin**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Royal_Noble_Consort_Huibin_Jang) **gave birth to a son**, he was ecstatic and tried to name the boy an heir apparent. The dominant faction opposed to it because she's a concubine, and **the king got infuriated and purged (tortured, killed, beheaded, sent in exile) the dominant faction members**. Hui-bin got promoted to the rank of queen, and the existing queen got demoted. + * Then the king took another concubine, and some complex court infighting unfolded. The new concubine gave birth to another son. The original queen got reinstated. **The king's love interest changed**, and he gave less attention to Jang and her son. He betrayed her and her affiliated faction + * For the following 5 years, **Jang Hui-bin used shamanistic ritual to curse the reinstated queen. Some scary witchcraft. The queen indeed died.** + * I heard that the voodoo dolls were excavated until quite recently around royal places in Seoul + * Eventually, **Jang Hui-bin got executed by the order of her husband. Poison bowl**. Gone. + * She's one of the most dramatized figures in k period drama, although she might not be well-known to the outside world + * However, after her death, her son became the next king. Another large-scale purge ensued. The new king died early, though. + +\*\* it is interesting how much the fate of a political faction depended on whether a particular queen from their faction (clans) produced a male heir or not. I find that this was a typical issue not just in Joseon, but also throughout the Chinese history within the Confucian patrilineal/polygamy system + +* **A queen's fate utterly depended upon whether she gives birth to a son or not**. And infant mortality rate was extremely high in this era. In the pre-modern time women had no control over that, so **these women desperately relied on all types of superstitions** + +​ + +# 15. Yeongjo successfully reigns; his Crown Prince Sado develops psychosis, and gets publicly executed by his father + +[Yeongjo](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yeongjo_of_Joseon) is enthroned in 1724, and leads Joseon's relatively stable 18th century. His mother was a concubine of low birth, so it is commonly said that he always had huge status anxiety about that + +He had an acute political talent and charisma, and minimized the faction fighting under his policy called ""Grand Harmony"" (*tangpyeong*). He established ""universal"" and fair military service tax, and [sent secret royal inspector](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secret_royal_inspector)s to provinces to inspect corruptions at the local level. [Park Mun-su](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Park_Mun-su) is a legendary secret royal inspector, and any Korean person would recognize the phrase ""Secret royal inspector here!"" (*Amhaeng-eosa chuldu-yo*) + +Under the stability, the economy revived and Seoul became the little center of commerce + +* However, it should be noted that Joseon Korea still did not engage in any large-scale international trades. Commerce was still at a primitive level, compared to Japan and China. Joseon was a **deeply conservative isolationist hermit kingdom**, and its capital was smaller and poorer than Edo (Tokyo's old name) or Beijing. Plus, Japan and China might have actively obstructed Joseon from developing its own trading network + * \* Korean history textbooks commonly say that ""early capitalism was budding” but I'm not sure how true this was. Joseon still had a strictly isolationist, agriculture-based economy +* That said, aristocrats in Seoul enjoyed imports from Qing China, and ""Qing style"" material goods became popular. + +Despite his achievement, unfortunately Yeongjo is most famous for **the dramatic public execution of his mentally ill son,** Crown Prince Sado. The Crown Prince started showing signs of violence and mental illness at the age of 22. He killed eunuchs and maidens, walked around the palace with their severed heads, and corpses and injured people had to be carried from the palace every day. He had paranoia about his father's scolding, thunders, and bizarrely, dressing. He started using immense amount of clothing to get dressed, because if something went slightly wrong in the dressing process, he would freak out and start the process all over again. When servants made a slight error, he hurt them or even killed them. + +* His symptoms are well-described in the diaries of his wife (written in the Korean script) - [Memoirs of Lady Hyegyeong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Memoirs_of_Lady_Hyegyeong). Her descriptions are very detailed, and she made her own theories of why he came to be that way. It's perhaps because of his upbringing, his father's constant scolding and extremely high expectation, and/or the curse of Jang Hui-bin (Sado grew up in the pavilion where Jang had resided). She said otherwise he was a decent and handsome man. **Modern scholars suggest that he might have had schizophrenia** +* The father fiercely hated his son, and never forgave his weaknesses. Ultimately, on a hot July day, **the king ordered the mad crown prince to climb into a wooden rice chest in the middle of the court. After screaming for his father's mercy for eight days, the prince died**. The Crown Prince Sado is one of the two examples of madness in the Joseon royal family, with the other being *Yeonsan* (section 6) +* There's a recent film about it that was popular among Koreans [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The\_Throne\_(film)](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Throne_(film)) (2015) + +​ + +​ + +# 16. The rise of Pragmatist School (Silhak) and Catholicism + +* ""Pragmatist School"" is my translation because no one reading this would remember the word *Silhak*... there was a small yet growing number of Confucian scholars who deviated from and **criticized the dogmatism** of Joseon neo-Confucianism. + * Starting from a diplomat Yi Su-gwang's [encyclopedia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jibong_yuseol) work, the school slowly grew during the 17th and 18th century. The scholars who belonged to this school **commonly traveled Qing China, and saw how the Qing economy benefited from commerce and Western knowledge** + * Many of the pragmatists still focused on land reform -- a traditional, Confucian way of addressing economic issues. However, there were more radical thinkers who thought that Joseon needed to break out of isolation and engage more in international trades. [Park Ji-won](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bak_Jiwon_(born_1737)), a satirical writer, was one of them. His travelogue [The Jehol Diary](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Jehol_Diary) extensively discussed the topic + * [A scholar](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yu_Deuk-gong) was influenced by Qing's evidence-based historiography (which was again influenced by Western science), and identified forgotten histories of the Korean peninsula (*Balhae)* + * A [scientific minded scholar](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hong_Daeyong) was deeply impressed by the Copernican theory + * There's a folklore that when he talked about his theory (""the earth revolves around the sun!""), other Confucian scholars just said ""huh huh that's interesting"" and paid no attention to it + * They were mostly **underdogs and outsiders** of the scholar-aristocrat class, mainly based in the capital Seoul. For example, [Yi Ik](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yi_Ik_(born_1681)) **saw his brother beaten to death involved in the Consort Jang's witchcraft scandal** (section 14), and lost interest in court politics + * However, the school grew substantially by the late 18th century, and some of them would be hired by the king Jeongjo (will be explained later) + +​ + +* Famously, **Korea is the only country where Christianity (Catholicism) spread by locals indigenously** without the presence of Western missionaries. Catholicism was first introduced by a Korean diplomat returning from Qing China in the 17th century. **He brought a bible translated in classical Chinese**. It was understood as part of ""Western knowledge."" Knowledge about the Christian teachings slowly spread among dissasified scholar-aristocrats and merchants in Seoul and Northern provinces (Pyongyang). + * About 100 years later, **still without the presence of any Western missionaries, the first Catholic prayer-house was founded in 1784 in Seoul** by [Yi Seung-hun](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yi_Seung-hun), a diplomat who had been baptized in Beijing. He brought Christian books, crucifixes, and other Catholic artifacts to Korea. + * By the time when an ordained Chinese priest arrived Korea in 1795, **the underground Church had grown to over 4000 members**, with many of them being nobles and aristocrats. + +​ + +​ + +# 17. The mad crown prince Sado's son, Jeongjo, is enthroned. He hires the Pragmatists and partially explores Western knowledge + +* Despite his father's madness and tragic death (section 14-3), [Jeongjo](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeongjo_of_Joseon) grew up to be a smart boy and became the next king. +* He's remembered as the most progressive king in *Joseon* history, and still beloved and lamented by many Koreans. He: + * **hired the Pragmatist school scholars**, mostly notably [Jeong Yak-yong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeong_Yak-yong) + * Jeong famously built the [Hwaseong Fortress](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hwaseong_Fortress) using **Western technologies** + * Many pragmatist school scholars were also **affiliated with Catholicism -** [**Jeong's brother**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeong_Yak-jong) **was central to the Catholic community in Seoul**, and he translated catechism in the Korean script to spread the beliefs to more people. He would be martyred in the persecution that would follow the death of Jeongjo + * Jeong himself had denounced Catholicism, because he was deep down a Confucian scholar and was repelled by the Catholics' refusal to do ancestor spirit rituals. This would save his life later. + * During the first Catholic persecution (1801), Jeong was spared his life and sent into exile - famously in a Southwestern county *Gangjin*. He would spend 18 years of his life in exile. He was extremely prolific there and wrote 500 volumes and 14,000 pages of books - on classics, politics, ethics, economy, natural sciences, medicine, music, and even fishery. **His book on the ethics of governors**, *Mokminsimseo*, is still popular and read by modern Koreans + * However, he was confined by the constraints of his time - some of his arguments were still deeply retro-oriented and Confucian. For example, he argued for **the restoration of** [**the well-field system**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Well-field_system)**, an idealized land distribution principle that had existed in the 9th century BC China**, instead of promoting commerce and international trades + * The king established a new royal library named [Gyujanggak](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kyujanggak) to promote knowledge (which still exists as part of the prestigious [Seoul National University](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seoul_National_University)) + * The king also **allowed for a free market in Seoul** (before that, only a few state-endorsed merchants could operate) + +\*\* However, the king had a conservative side too, and banned ""new styles of writing"" in documents, only allowing classical Chinese style. He also banned the import of many Western books. + +* He knew that he had many conservative enemies who opposed to his reforms. He **built a group of private royal bodyguards, and had his servants taste his food first to test for poisons**. An advisor named [Hong Guk-young](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hong_Guk-yeong) is known to have helped him a lot. +* However, despite all the efforts, **he was found dead mysteriously** at the age of 47. He was previously healthy, so many people suspected poisoning. + +​ + +​ + +# 18. Andong Kim clan takes power and provides queens for three puppet kings; Rampant corruption destabilizes the society; China loses the Opium Wars + +* Jeongjo died (or got assissinated) in 1800. His 10-year-old son got enthroned, and his grandmother (Jeongjo's stepmother) took power as the [queen dowager](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Queen_Jeongsun). She was Jeongjo's stepmother who was only a few years older than him; she was 15 year old when she married 60-year-old Yeongjo +* She was a deeply conservative 50-year old woman, and her faction was against Catholicism. They **launched an all-out attack on Catholics** \- which was understood as a bizarre foreign cult, that refused to do ancestor spirit rituals, and thus denied the teachings of Confucian classics and the divinity of the royal family (in their cosmology, the royal ancestors are kind of at the top of the pantheon of the ancestors of clans) + * In the [persescution of 1801](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catholic_Persecution_of_1801), several hundred core members of the Christian community in Seoul were executed, including many nobles +* Then power was transmitted to the young boy king's [father-in-law](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim_Jo-sun_(politician)), who was the leading figure of the queen dowager's faction. He married his daughter to the boy king +* Andong Kim clan means ""Kim clan originating from the town of Andong"" (many modern Koreans still belong to [such a clan](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bon-gwan)). Under the king's father-in-law's ladership, the clan took power, and took many important positions in the court + * **Rampant corruption** ensued - the civil service exam degenerated, and exam takers started **bribing the clan members** for government/provincial positions. Those who bribed for their position became extremely exploitative of their land and peasants + * Tax system also degenerated - the practice of ""taxing yellow mouth"" (taxing newborns) and ""taxing white skulls"" (taxing dead people) emerged. Overall, the **tax on peasant population became extremely high, which caused peasants to run away from their land and disappear** from the state registry. This exacerbated the tax burden on the remaining people +* The clan enthroned three puppet kings, and it is famous that the [last of them](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cheoljong_of_Joseon) was a distant relative who was living as a poor peasant in an island. + * Context: The puppet king's grandfather was a half-brother of King Jeongjo, but the family was **executed and sent in exile because his wife and daughter-in-law were Catholic.** The puppet king grew up as a poor peasant in an island with limited education. When the royal envoy appeared at his village, he was petrified. He did not have any real power in his reign. + +​ + +**\*\* China: The opium crisis and opium war** + +* In this period, t[he opium crisis in China](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_opium_in_China) was started by the British East India Company (gosh, they were drug lords! The graph in the wiki article reminds me of Narcos so much) and China lost the historic Opium War. +* This would turn out to be the most important watershed moments in the East Asian history + * Famously, after watching China losing the two Opium Wars, **a coup happened in Japan that would lead to a complete reform of the government and Westernization** ([Meiji Restoration](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Meiji_Restoration)) + * Why did Korea fail to do the same? Modern Koreans are still haunted by the question. However, realistically, I think it is important to note that Japan and Korea in the 19th century were **not on an equal footing**. Japan and Korea's path had been diverged since the time of Mongol invasion in the 13th century. Japan had been engaging in international trades ""far and away"" for hundreds of years, ranging from the Moluccas in Indonesia to the Sea of Okhotsk (far east Russia). Japan already had a relatively good understanding of Europe, European languages (mainly through [Dutch studies](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rangaku)), and their institutions. + * Korea was a completely **isolated society - it was a closed world**. Koreans had been **prohibited from leaving the country** except for a few diplomats. It was **not that different from modern-day North Korea**. International trades were extremely limited except for occasional trades with China and Japan at a designated place (Korea-Manchu border, and a small Japanese district in Busan). + * As long as the Confucian cosmic order was alive, Koreans were content to live and die in their ancient homeland, living in their old ways inspired by the ancient classics. However, things were falling apart, and Koreans were only slowly making sense of what was going on around their small world. + +​ + +* **Foreign ships appear** + * By this time, more foreign forces started visiting Qing China - from the UK, France, US, Russia, etc - and they **frequented the Korean shore** as well. Some of them sacked Korean coastal cities. Famously, some French sailors dug up ancient Korean royal tombs + * Isolationist Joseon Korea just reacted by shooting the ships with cannons +* **An apocalyptic sentiment** emerged nationwide + * Major social unrest was unfolding. A [major rebellion](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hong_Gyeong-Rae) occurred in a Northern province around Pyongyang. + * The ancient city of Pyongyang was always a bit rebellious in the late-Joseon era, and it was becoming the Christian center of the nation at this point +* [**Andrew Kim Taegon**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andrew_Kim_Taegon) **became the first ordained Korean Catholic priest**. I remember his story that he crossed the Korea-China ice-covered river border on foot in an extremely cold weather, and walked all the way down to Macau (near Hong Kong) to attend a seminary there. Back in Joseon Korea, he preached, got arrested, and executed at the age of 25 with thousands of other Catholics. + * It is said that the spectators were impressed by his poise and serenity at his execution. They asked ""What about the faith made him like that?"" His last word was: + +>This is my last hour of life, listen to me attentively: if I have held communication with foreigners, it has been for my religion and my God. It is for Him that I die. My immortal life is on the point of beginning. Become Christians if you wish to be happy after death, because God has eternal chastisements in store for those who have refused to know Him + +* **About 10,000 Korean Catholics were killed in this period.** [**103 of them**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Korean_Martyrs) **were canonized as martyrs** by the Catholic church later +* However, Catholicism was still a fringe foreign belief - it was called ""Western learning,"" and many Koreans were deeply suspicious of that. Soon, an **indigenous new religious movement called ""**[**Eastern Learning**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Donghak)**""** would catalyze a large-scale peasant rebellion that swept the Southern part of Korea. + +​ + +Some minor 19th century figures: + +\*\* [Kim Satgat](https://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/news/opinon/2012/11/162_92963.html) (""Kim the Hat"") was a legendary bard/minstrel who wandered around the peninsula + +\*\* [Bongi Kim Seondal](https://folkency.nfm.go.kr/en/topic/detail/5454): A legendary swindler/con man from Pyongyang who famously sold free water to people from [Daedong](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taedong_River) River + +\*\* ""Chusa"" [Kim Jeong-hui](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gim_Jeong-hui): a calligrapher and pragmatist scholar famous for his very distinct calligraphy style + +​ + +An interesting fact: + +* According to [a scholar](https://koreatimes.co.kr/www/opinion/2019/11/739_261434.html), Korea probably had the greatest concentration of genealogical publications (Jokbo) of any country. Jokbos in early Joseon era included the names of women and female descendants, but in the late Joseon era, it would be **exclusively about male lines (patrilinearity)**. +* When the social system started collapsing in the late-Joseon era, Jokbo was also bought and sold. **A large number of peasants who were wealthy enough bought Jokbo from fallen scholar-aristocrats**, and claimed ancestry to nobles and kings. ([link](https://www.seattletimes.com/nation-world/world/in-s-korea-a-town-of-kims-and-an-unusual-shared-history/)) So even though a Korean person you know has an extensive family genealogy book, there's a good chance that it was bought multiple generations ago. + +​ + +\-------------------------------- + +To be continued -- + +If you are interested in the vernacular literature that emerged in this period, check [Part 5](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/y9fy6x/joseon_the_predecessor_of_modern_koreas/) that I posted earlier.",0 +4418,Iraq's answer to the pyramids. ,0 +4419,Inside the Pentagon's shameful effort to draft mentally disabled men to fight in Vietnam. ,0 +4420,"Unique Economic Systems from History. I recently learned about [Rai stones](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rai_stones), immobile circles of limestone used as a unique form of currency by the inhabitants of the Yap islands in Micronesia up until the early 20th century. + +What are some other interesting economic systems from history? Not just looking for novel forms of currency - tell me about systems for distributing resources in a society that tickle your history bone. I tried searching around for examples on my own but my search terms were muddled by macroeconomic textbook info.",0 +4421,Meet a medieval woman named 'Tora' who lived 800 years ago in Norway. ,0 +4422,How mail-in voting began on Civil War battlefields. ,0 +4423,"Why didn't the late Roman Empire fund campaigns across the Rheine?. I know that the Roman Empire at this point was already too expansive to govern itself with just one emperor. However, there is at least one example of Julius Caesar doing this in retaliation for an attack without subsequently occupying the territory he invaded. I believe the late Roman Empire successfully invaded and left Persia as well. + +There are also other examples from other cultures of attacking the homeland and an aggressor, and retreating without bothering to occupy the territory. This generally satisfies the desire for revenge, and reduces the ability of those attacked to be a nuisance later on. + +Why didn't the late Roman Empire host retaliatory excursions against the Germanic tribes, the Huns, and others who invaded their lands?",0 +4424,How did the modern dragon come into being? Daniel Ogden traces the six stages of the creature’s evolution in the west – from ancient serpent to medieval fire breather. ,0 +4425,"Historical examples of people traveling/gathering to witness a spectacle?. I’m traveling to Florida space coast to see the launch of NASA’s new SLS rocket, the largest most powerful rocket ever launched from earth, And I’m meeting many people from all over the world who are making the “pilgrimage” to see this rocket that will eventually bring humans back to the moon. they come From around the country and world to witness the launch of the Artemis mission From Kennedy space Center. Are we part of a historical tradition? The scene has me wondering if there are examples in history, especially ancient history, of people traveling or gathering to witness some sort of spectacle. Do you think of any? I’m struggling to come up with any. there are however some great historical newspaper clips of people witnessing the first rocket launches from Cape Canaveral, back before the government realized that announcing these things would be great PR, word we just leak out about this top-secret launches through the “Grapevine“ is how the articles put it. And those didn’t get the word who happened to be out late on Cocoa Beach would get quite a surprise. By the time the mercury program came around launches were announced in the tiny town of Titusville will be overrun with traffic so horrible that houses would burn down because the fire department couldn’t respond.",0 +4426,"Why do all cultures seem to have spooky folklore?. **Why is it that across history there are so many cultures that have developed supernatural or frightening folklore? Are these myths created independently of one another or do some have common origins?** + +As an Australian, I find our aboriginal folklore to be pretty fascinating. It's very spiritual and very supernatural, containing spirits and demons and god-like beings. A pretty common figure among them is the rainbow serpent, said to have formed the features of the Earth and governed the first animals and people in what is known as *The Dreamtime*. Whats so interesting about this civilisation is that they were pretty well disconnected from the rest of the world for thousands of years. It's not unlikely that any remnants of culture from their initial migration were forgotten. They were a nomadic people prior to western settlement. They would leave their mark in caves and on rock faces with ochre painting, a technique so rudimentary yet so long-lasting that we still have vivid ancient rock art today, some specimens being dated to as old as 17,000 years. + +[A collection of rock art images](https://www.pinterest.com.au/lukecranach/aboriginal-rock-art/) + +There's also plenty of spooky Asian folklore, lots of myths focusing on death, revenge etc. So, why do you think these supernatural and frightening themes are so universal in folklore?",0 +4427,"How come the Ottomans never made an attempt to colonize the Americas. The Ottomans being known as a relevant power of the time, was proven more than capable of seafaring expeditions through their previous maritime voyages in the Indian Ocean, East Africa, and Indonesia. The idea of conquering up to Morocco and establishing a coast on the Atlantic Ocean uncontested by Europeans, to be used as a base of operations for colonization efforts in the Americas was floated around, and therefore why did it not come to fruition? Were the Ottomans not worried that the west would try to convert the natives to Christianity, did they not have the foresight to see the immense riches involved in colonization especially after seeing the successes of states like Portugal, Castile, and Aragon?",0 +4428,"I would like to revisit all those history and social studies classes that I never paid much attention to when I was in school. What's a good way to do that?. Basically the title. + +I remember vaguely learning about the Fertile Crescent, and ancient China, and The American Revolution, and Napoleon, and the Russian Revolution, and the American Civil War, and the American Civil Rights Movement, and these things. + +But it's been so long, I was a stupid kid, I didn't want to be in school, and I didn't recognize the relevance and importance of these things until much later. But now I'm really interested, and almost wish I could go back and sit through all those classes all over again. + +How would you recommend getting started?",0 +4429,"The Forgotten Disaster of the SS Eastland. A documentary-style YouTube video on the tragedy of the SS Eastland. Well worth the watch for those interested in American history, forgotten tragedies, ship-related history, or historical events in question. + +Please note that there are images (black and white) of deceased persons in the video. Very educational but viewer discretion is still advised.",0 +4430,"Korea had an unbroken chain of slavery that lasted for 1,400 years because the ruling class did not change for millennia since the time of Unified Silla (668~935). ",0 +4431,"Did Hitler and Stalin downplay their origins in Austria and Georgia, respectively?. Since both were known for their promotion of chauvinism for their adopted nations, even through some of the hardest policies known to history books, I would imagine that they shied away from mentioning their national upbringing. + +If they thought it would hurt their image, what lengths did they go through to hide their history under covers? Speech lessons to erase their accents? + +Did all publicly accessible information about them lie or underplay their origins? + +Did their opponents attack their foreign origins in the earliest moments of their political careers? Was calling these men Austrian or Georgian used as an insult? Did early rivals mention this to show any hypocrisy?",0 +4432,The Roman emperor who tried to make his horse consul. ,0 +4433,"why did Polish Fashion switch back to a western aesthetic in the 18th century?. During the Middle Ages, Polish Fashion wasn't that dissimilar to their western european counterparts +That changed around 16th and 17th centuries, where Polish Fashion began, leaning towards a more eastern aesthetic due to having a close proximity with the Ottomans and Nomadic Tribes. In the 18th csntury however they seemed to revert back to a more western aesthetic. + +What caused polish fashion to revert back to a more Western sensibility?",0 +4434,"Did real world map makers keep up with Axis territorial gains/losses IRL?. So this might be a dumb question but I can’t seem to find the answer online. All I find is maps showing WW2 after the Axis was defeated. A recap basically. What I’m trying to find is different. For example, before the USA joined in 1941 would children going to school had looked at their teachers globe and seen Mega Germany and Mega Japan with all their territorial gains? Or did they only show pre-1939 borders with France, Poland, and China still looking the same? + +Thank you if you read this all",0 +4435,"Bookclub Wednesday, January 19, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist)",0 +4436,"Hitler's promises to the Japanese. I understand that Hitler encouraged the Japanese to attack the USA because Japan being at war with America would possibly reduced the amount of aid that America supplied to the Soviet Union and Britain. I also understand that he thought a war with the US was inevitable because he believed in a conspiracy theory regarding American Jews and American plutocrats conspiring against Germany. + +I don't understand though what exact promises Hitler made to the Japanese. Did he actually promise the Japanese that he would attack America if the Japanese did so first? + +Secondary to that question, would Roosevelt have had the political support and the support of the American people to declare war on Germany if Hitler had not declared war on the US?",0 +4437,Found an article about an era I don't hear much about: The Golden Age of Black Business (from 1900-1930). Thought it was interesting. ,0 +4438,"Why Didn’t Vikings Bring Disease To The Indigenous People Of Greenland?. Why didn’t the Norse people bring the same kind of devastating diseases to the native people of Greenland that would characterize later European-Indigenous contact in the Americas? + +The Norse never had large-scale cities or towns on the island, to my knowledge, but I would think that after having a presence there for nearly five centuries they would have exposed the native population to the various diseases that would later wreak so much havoc further south. + +Any ideas?",0 +4439,[Runology] A rune-incised bone discovered in an Early Slavic context making it the first writing among Slavs.. ,0 +4440,Viking women were most certainly not stay-at-home moms. ,0 +4441,How Njoya the Great put his African kingdom on the map. ,0 +4442,"How did architects/builders draw up and plan a structure as complex as Angkor Wat before paper was readily available?. Angkor Wat has fascinated me for a while now and I can't wrap my mind around how the central temple was planned and designed without the benefit of any ""blueprints"". I've tried googling the subject but it usually only brings up the ""why"" and not the ""how"". + +Considering there was a plan to not only build the structure itself but also carve particular statues and images on almost every surface in a very precise fashion, there had to be some sort of impermeable blueprint that would last for many years. So how did they plan it?",0 +4443,"Not truly ""The Great"". There are plenty of monarchs who were nicknamed ""The Great"" throughout history. I bet most of you are capable of naming at least half a dozen with no effort. + +Thing is, was there a monarch in history with such a nickname that doesn't deserve it? If not, who would you name to be the most unremarkable amongst the likes of Alexander and Peter the Great? + +And going even beyond, what other monarchs had misleading or just plain untrue nicknames? Maybe a lie, or a false rumour who tainted his reputation for centuries to come? + +One i can think of is Charles the Bald, who has a disputable baldness, to say the least.",0 +4444,"Why would aristocratic families sign their children up for the Royal Navy during the Age of Sail?. The film *Master and Commander* (2003), which takes place in 1805, depicts aristocratic boys and teenagers aboard a Royal Navy frigate, in training to become officers. Why would noble families, who presumably have options, sign their sons up for such a dangerous life where they were at risk of dying in battle or from disease? + +Were these younger sons or from big families? Also if they start so young, does that mean they forgo traditional schooling to learn the rules of the navy? Or would they have a chance to attend college after their time aboard a boat?",0 +4445,"Interview / documentary: ""I helped building Adolf Hitlers Eagles Nest - Interview with a construction worker"". This might be interesting for you guys: + + +In this documentary the accountant Ludwig Seiwald describes his memories of the +construction period in the restricted ""Fuehrer Area"" on the Obersalzberg in the +years 1936 / 37. +This previously unpublished interview is the only one that Seiwald ever gave and he tells impressively about his experiences on Germany's highest construction sites between Bormann's model farm, the ""Gutshof"" and the ""Eagles Nest"". +Just as unique as this interview itself, are the detailed accounts in his diary, which complete this documentation in an exciting way. +Seiwald's account of his time on Obersalzberg is unique in that he experienced both the most important years before the war and the years immediately after the war on Obersalzberg. +The intervening time on the front is portrayed in his diary in an exciting and at the same time critical manner and covers the entire range between the most eventful epochs of his life. + +​ + +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vLmC3Jwvsrw](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vLmC3Jwvsrw)",0 +4446,"The US Occupancy of the Philippines. After the Spanish-American War, control of Cuba and the Philippines was transferred from Spain to the United States in 1898. Cuba gained it's independence in 1902. The Philippines, where they fought America at one point, didn't get that until 1946 and only after a bill was passed about 10 years ago to make for the transition. What happened? + +Did the American government plan on keeping the islands as an American territory like Hawaii until the Filipinos desire for independence (which is why they sided with America during the war in the first place) became too much to bare or did the process just get bogged down by bureaucracy?",0 +4447,Griffintown: Archaeological discoveries. ,0 +4448,Ancient Fish Weir Identified Off Coast of Alaska. ,0 +4449,The Painters of Pompeii. ,0 +4450,"Scenes from the Roman-Gothic wars [3rd c. CE]: the less-famous warfares at Thermopylae, the Philippopolis' siege, etc. As these were deciphered from the palimpsest leaves of Cod.Vind.hist.gr. 73 [Scythica Vindobonensia-Dexippus]... at least till my readings. Maybe a known work & findings, however I've tracked them lately, and were a quite interesting read... + +In an 11th c. byzantine manuscript \[Cod. Vind. hist. gr. 73\], they were discovered four palimpsest leaves \[8 pages\], which they were hiding some greek writing. Till my readings, the 6 out of 8 pages have been deciphered in some sufficient way, and they have been divided in 3 parts \[Empire in Crisis \[2020\], pp. 8-9\]. All scholars agree that the texts should be from Dexippus' Scythica of the 3rd c. CE, describing the Gothic invasions in Greek mainland of the same century. + +\-\[the deciphered greek text can be seen in Anhang I, Empire in Crisis \[2020\], pp. 545ff\]. + +I'm giving here a somehow summary of each part with some notes and references, based on the deciphered text & on the available analyses-translations by the scholars. + +​ + +**a. Fragment Ia–Ib, fol. 195rv \[two pages\]** + +The excerpt actually describes some preliminary war tactics by Cniva \[the Gothic general & king of the 3rd c. CE\] trying to take some Thracian city; which it has been identified by the scholars as Philippopolis, besieged and taken in 250 CE. + +\_\*an english translation of the 1st page 195r in Martin & Grusková \[2014b\], p. 737 // and a german translation of 2nd page 195v in Grusková & Martin \[2015\], p. 39 + +>The Scythians \[=Goths\] withdrew pretending that they abandoned the siege, so to confuse the Thracians, and camped some distance away. And it seems that the besieged believed it and relaxed somehow. However, a traitor approached Cniva and promised to show to him the spot of the city's fortifications, which would be passed more easily. Cniva picked 5 volunteers and sent them at night so to confirm the information; he actually had also set prizes. The Thracian guards were drunk or asleep and the 5 Scythians managed to remove them and pass. Then they gave a signal with a torch and 500 men of Cniva tried to enter the city with ladders, but the Thracians noticed them... + +""*the identification of the town as Philippopolis is possible and plausible, though by no means certain.*"" Grusková & Martin \[2014b\], p. 748 + +​ + +**b. Fragment IIa–IIb, fol. 194rv \[two pages\]** + +If I understood well, the first page of this text \[194r\] had some more difficulties regarding deciphering. In any case it seems describing some war preparations by Roman emperor Decius against Goths, but after the fall of Philippopolis in 250 CE. + +\_\*a german translation of 1st page 194r in Grusková & Martin \[2014c\], p. 33 // and an english translation of 2nd page 194v in Grusková & Martin \[2014b\], p. 736 + +>Ptolemeus the Athenian was set by the emperor to guard the area between Macedonia and Thessaly. And Athenians, Boeotians and some selected Lacedaimonians gathered at the narrow and safer passage of Thermopylae, probably waiting for the enemy. Here the text doesn't seem crystal clear. Nevertheless, most possibly the leader of the Scythians \[=Goths\], named Ostroggouthos, was informed that the Scythians took Philippopolis and that Cniva was praised for it. So under some pressure to accomplish a similar achievement, he started marching against Decius with 50000 men. +> +>Decius gathered 80000 soldiers and waited at Amissos near Beroina \[?\]. When he was informed that Ostroggouthos' army was near, he decided to speak to his men. He tried to reanimate their spirit, saying that they shouldn't be discouraged by some recent misadventure in the nearby field and the defeat at Thrace \[Philippopolis\], but they should accept reality like prudent men. Because the first failure \[in the nearby field at Beroina\] came cause of the scouts, while the Thracian city was lost by ambushes... + +As Philippopolis is taken and Decius is still alive, the narrated events should be placed somewhere between, 250-251 CE. + +The historic elements of this excerpt have been mostly compared with the Jordanes' Getica of the 6th c. CE, then with Syncellus' Ekloge chronographias of the 8th-9th c. CE. The latter is using as source Dexippus, as it's stated in the work. + +In Jordanes \[Get. 101\], when the king Ostrogotha died it seems that Cniva took afterwards the leadership of the Goths. If both accounts are accurate, this would mean that Cniva maybe served for sometime as general under Ostrogotha's command; though there could be some anachronisms. \[Regarding leader Ostroggouthos: ""*It occurs otherwise only in Latin sources: see in particular Jord. Get. 98–100, where the form Ostrogotha is used.*"", Grusková & Martin \[2014b\], p. 740\]. + +Regarding the toponyms Amissos & Beroina, where Decius waited and gave his speech \[Grusková & Martin \[2014b\], p. 740\]: + +""*The text may contain (an) unknown geographical name(s) or corrupted known name(s).*"" But adding: ""*an association may immediately suggest itself with Beroea in Thracia (Βέροια or Βερόη, Beroea, Beroa, or Berone of the Tabula Peutingeriana VIII 2), the town where Cniva ambushed Decius several months before the moment when our passage is set*"". + +It's probably related with the misadventure in the nearby field at Beroina, that Decius mentions in his speech; i.e. a previous failure at Beroa. Jordanes \[Get. 102\] had written that Decius faced unsuccessfully Cniva there, but in a course of events that would place it after Ostrogotha's death; possible anachronism. + +\* Thermopylae are given as 'gates' \[πύλαι\] in the greek text. + +​ + +**c. Fragment IIIb–IIIc, fol. 192v+193r \[two pages\]** + +Maybe the most confusing excerpt regarding dating and identification of the mentioned persons. + +\_\*an english translation of both pages 192v+193r in Mallan & Davenport \[2015\], p. 205ff + +>After an unsuccessful try to besiege the city of Thessalonica, the Scythians \[=Goths\] decided to march against Athens and Achaea aiming for the loot. When the news were heard, the Greeks started to be gathered at the narrow coastal passage of Thermopylae, carrying spears, axes, or whatever each could & then fortifying an already existing wall. Afterwards the generals were elected: Marianus, who had been previously chosen by the Roman emperor to govern Greece south of Thermopylae, Philostratus the Athenian, and Dexippus the Boeotian \[possibly not our historian\]. And in order to to encourage the men, Marianus gave a speech. According to its start \[which is the only that has been read\], he tried to remind to the Greeks the importance of the place of Thermopylae during previous battles, like in the Persian wars \[480 BCE\], the Lamian war \[323 BCE\] & against Antiochus under Roman leadership \[191 BCE\]... + +The text unfortunately stops before some battle. Syncellus \[Ecl.Chron. 466\] is also speaking of a military force gathering at Thermopylae, after a successful defense at Thessalonica, in the years of Gallienus. Neither there a battle followed. And it's noticeable that comparing this text with the previous one of the Decius' years, Thermopylae should be considered a good spot for defense. However, here an encouraging speech to the soldiers was given and generals were elected. While it has been noted eg. a successful defense in Achaea during the years of Gallienus \[HA Gall. 6.1\]. + +\*Thermopylae are given here, too, as 'gates' \[πύλαι\] in the greek deciphered text. While with its complete name in Syncellus. + +Generally he text has been compared mainly with Syncellus' Ekloge chronographias of the 8th-9th c. CE. & Historia Augusta, Gallieni duo. But other sources too, like Zosimus & Zonaras. + +One other point that I've noticed is how general Marianus was identifying the Greco-Romans, to whom he spoke; i.e. with the Greeks defending against Persians in the 5th c. BCE, with the anti-Macedonian league who defeated Antipater in 323 BCE & with some united-said Greco-Roman forces who fought against Antiochus in 191 BCE. Noticeable that it isn't mentioned the case of 279 BCE, when mainly the Aetolians faced the Celts. However, here only the start of the speech is surviving. + +On the possible dating I've read various aspects placing the events mainly during the reign of Gallienus \[253-268 CE\], in a length of about 16 years; i.e. 253/4, 259, 262, 267/8 \[the latter however being more doubtful\]; and this I presume has roots in the identification of the persons \[like general Marianus\] and the parallel reading of the rest sources \[check Martin & Grusková \[2014a\], Mallan & Davenport \[2015\], p. 215, Potter \[2016\], p. 336, Boteva \[2020\], p. 207\]. + +* ""... *the defeat of the Goths in (most likely) 262/263, by the population of Achaea under the leadership of Marianus, Philostratus, and the Boeotian Dexippus*"". Mallan \[2020\], p. 252 // for 262 CE check also Mallan & Davenport \[2015\] +* ""*So far, the modern authors working on the new fragments are discussing two possible years in the attempt to date this siege of Thessalonica, AD 253/254 and AD 262,58 and each of the two has devoted advocates, who date this siege using literary texts: Historia Augusta, Gallieni duo (late 4th c.), Zosimus (5th c.), Georgius Syncellus (8th c.) and Zonaras (12th c.). It seems now that the available late-antique and Byzantine texts cannot be of further help when trying to reason which one of the two years was really marked by the Scythians’ (to use the language of the palimpsest) unsuccessful siege of Thessalonica and by the urgent organization of the defence of Thermopylae*"". Boteva \[2020\], p. 207 +* ""*... I now think that it is wisest to be somewhat agnostic and recognize the possibility that the events at Thermopylae may be earlier than the siege and capture of Philippopolis in 250, but that too is problematic as the Gothic operations still seem quite distant from Thermopylae*"". Potter \[2020\], p. 358 + +​ + +**References:** + +* Grusková, Jana & Martin, Gunther \[2014a\], Dexippus Vindobonensis (?) Ein neues Handschriftenfragment zum sog. Herulereinfall der Jahre 267/268, in Wiener Studien Vol. 127 (2014), pp. 101-120 // in [https://www.jstor.org/stable/24752199](https://www.jstor.org/stable/24752199) +* Grusková, Jana & Martin, Gunther \[2014b\], ""Scythica Vindobonensia"" by Dexippus(?): New Fragments on Decius’ Gothic Wars, in GRBS Vol 54, No 4 (2014), pp. 728-754 // in [https://grbs.library.duke.edu/article/view/15071/](https://grbs.library.duke.edu/article/view/15071/) +* Grusková, Jana & Martin, Gunther \[2014c\], Ein neues Textstück aus den ""Scythica Vindobonensia"" zu den Ereignissen nach der Eroberung von Philippopolis, in Tyche Band 29, 2014, pp. 29-43 // in [https://tyche.univie.ac.at/index.php/tyche/article/view/4966](https://tyche.univie.ac.at/index.php/tyche/article/view/4966) & [here](https://tyche.univie.ac.at/index.php/tyche/article/view/4966/html_63) +* Grusková, Jana & Martin, Gunther \[2015\], Zum Angriff der Goten unter Kniva auf eine thrakische Stadt (Scythica Vindobonensia, f. 195v), in Tyche Band 30, 2015, pp. 35–53 // in [https://tyche.univie.ac.at/index.php/tyche/article/view/4995](https://tyche.univie.ac.at/index.php/tyche/article/view/4995) & [here](https://tyche.univie.ac.at/index.php/tyche/article/view/4995/4857) +* Mallan, Christopher & Davenport, Caillan \[2015\], Dexippus and the Gothic Invasions, in Journal of Roman Studies 105 (2015) 203–226 // in [academia](https://www.academia.edu/14833894/Dexippus_and_the_Gothic_Invasions_Interpreting_the_New_Vienna_Fragment_Codex_Vindobonensis_Hist_gr_73_ff_192v_193r_Journal_of_Roman_Studies_2015_) & [https://www.jstor.org/stable/26346898](https://www.jstor.org/stable/26346898) +* Potter, David \[2016\], War as Theater, from Tacitus to Dexippus, in The Topography of Violence in the Greco-Roman World, 2019 \[2016\], pp. 325-347 // in [https://books.google.gr/books?id=E6h\_DAAAQBAJ&source=gbs\_navlinks\_s](https://books.google.gr/books?id=E6h_DAAAQBAJ&source=gbs_navlinks_s) +* Empire in Crisis \[2020\], Fritz Mitthof, Gunther Martin, Jana Grusková (eds.) \[English; German; Italian\], 2020 \[2017\] // in [https://library.oapen.org/handle/20.500.12657/37435](https://library.oapen.org/handle/20.500.12657/37435) +* Boteva, Dilyana \[2020\], Some Considerations Related to the Scythica Vindobonensia, Empire in Crisis, 2020 \[2017\], pp. 195-212 +* Mallan, Christopher \[2020\], In Praise of Gallienus? Reconsidering a Gallienic Date for the Εἰς βασιλέα of Pseudo-Aristides, in mpire in Crisis, 2020 \[2017\], pp. 245-262 +* Potter, David \[2020\], Dexippus’ Gothic Anthropology, Empire in Crisis, 2020 \[2017\], pp. 357-368",0 +4451,An even more divided Florida. That time the US Army Corps of Engineers almost split FL in two.. ,0 +4452,The Treaty of Waitangi: the troubled history of translating the concept and intent of sovereignty in a foundational agreement between New Zealand's Māori and Pākehā.. ,0 +4453,Launceston Castle: Whale could have been the ‘dish of the day’.. ,0 +4454,Wacky War Tactics used in History. ,0 +4455,"How were the Yuan and Qing Dynasties viewed by Han Chinese during their reigns?. The Yuan (1279-1368) and Qing (1644-1912) Dynasties of Imperial China were distinct in that they were not established by Han Chinese. Not entirely sure if there were other non-Han dynasties in China but the two I just mentioned are the most prominent examples. During the time of their rule, were Han Chinese ever critical of them due to the fact that they were considered to be foreign and not ""real"" Chinese? Both dynasties were oppressive and there were many uprisings against them, then again, the Han-ruled dynasties more or less had the same problems. I do know that there were rebellions against the Qing grounded in Han ethno-nationalism, but those were late in the dynasty's existence after European ideas of nationalism and national identity had reached China. Was there any criticism of the Qing prior to the 19th century that was based in the idea that because they were not Han, they were not truly Chinese? Was the Yuan Dynasty criticized during its reign for roughly the same reasons? Or were criticisms of those dynasties amongst the common people based on the same grounds as other, Han-ruled dynasties, and ethno-nationalism just wasn't a thing in China then?",0 +4456,"The Kingdom of Buraghwata and the Fake Prophet Salih Ibn Tarif. Whenever I read history, I sometimes stumble into relatively unknown gems, so I would like to share this one: +in 744 CE Morocco, during the caliphate of Hisham ibn abd al Malik, a self-professed Prophet of a new judeo-christian religion by the name of Salih Ibn Tarif starts to spread his new found religion in the region of Tamasna. According to Ibn Khaldun, Salih ibn tarif claimed to have received a new revelation from god, containing 80 chapters, from which some were named after famous prophets like Adam, and Noah. In his religion, his followers would fast the month of Rajab instead of Ramadan, they would pray 10 daily prayers instead of the required 5 (while not doing any prostration), and they would have no restrictions on the amount of spouses they could take, while Islam limited that number to 4. His grandson, Yunus ibn Ilias ibn Salih took over the torch and carried out this new religion forcefully, even killing an estimated 7000 people for not adhering to it. + + +The Almoravids will fight them in 1059. Their spiritual leader Abdallah Ibn Yassine will die, but his companions end up winning, and they partly erase any trace of this ""blasphemous"" religion, until 100 years later where the Almohads finish the job. + + +There aren't a whole lot of source on this (Ibn Khaldun, Al Bakri are the ones that I know of), if you know more please let me know :-)",0 +4457,"Reading about the American Expeditionary Forces in Northern Russia in WW1 and I just learned about this mad lad. Excerpt from the text is as follows, + +“It was during the shelling incidental to this that Edvinson, the Viking, did his stunt. He was in a machine gun emplacement which was hit by a small H. E. shell. The others were considerably shaken up, and pulled back, reporting Edvinson killed, that he had gone up in the air one way, and the +Lewis gun the other. We established the post a little farther back and went +out at dusk to get Edvinson's body. +Much was the surprise of the party +when he hailed them with, ""Well, I think she's all right."" He had collected himself, retrieved the Lewis gun, taken it apart and cleaned it and stuck to his post.” + +Soldier gets blasted by artillery, survives, and decides the next course of action was to clean his weapon.",0 +4458,"What is the most interesting or unique political intrigue event in history which you love but most people have never heard of?. There are a lot of interesting and unique DIP events in history. (Diplomacy, Intrigue, Politics). Some are extremely famous like the ascension of Caeser, the general idea of the wars of Napolean and assassination of Caeser or the Hundred Years war. + +Others are less well known to the average person. The negotiations of Louis the Great of Hungary to put all his daughters on thrones. The uniqueness of the Roman Socii(ally system) vs the eastern style satrapies. The pre-cabinet intrigues of the CABAL ministry under Charles II of England. + +The existence of the Polish Lithuanian Commonwealth is not at all common in the United States. Much less specific events such as the life of Jadwiga, that Lithuania once ruled all the way to the Black sea, the history of the Jagiellons, the dozen attempts to form the Commonwealth of Three Nations. The interaction of the thrones of Bohemia and Hungary with Poland, the unique elective monarchy, the Sejm, and the Sczlachta, and the Golden Age, and certainly in the mind of most Americans the events of the Deluge are not what comes to mind when thinking of conquests of Poland.",0 +4459,"When it comes to Cold War history, what do you think of these amusing(and some what funny) historical anecdotes about JFK, Fidel Castro and Che Guevara and their interactions?. When one things of JFK and his relationship with Che Guevara and Fidel Castro one thinks of it largely in terms of being Cold War enemies due to the Bay of Pigs and the Cuban Missile Crisis. But they also in the context of the 60s shared certain similarities and interestingly enough there were some somewhat amusing moments between them. Which might sound unbelievable given the fact that we're talking about the Cold War here. These are just some statements they made about each other directly and indirectly that are somewhat amusing. + +**JFK on Castro** + +* Castro once was giving his typical speeches which were at once charismatic, energetic and bombastic at the same time. JFK is asking a female reporter who's met Castro about it and he states, paraphrasing 'Why does Castro always have to give these long speeches. And what do people see in them'. Then JFK says 'Who does he sleep with? I hear he doesn't even take off his boot'. Then JFK says 'Castro gives all of these long speeches but where are the dames?'. So essentially JFK thinks that Castro gives so many speeches that he forgets to take off his fatigues so he can sleep with someone. +* There's a couple of ironies. The first is that from what is known Castro himself was a major playboy......like Kennedy himself. It almost became a major issue for him in fact where the CIA actually weaponised it for an assassination attempt. Second.....Kennedy trying to analyse and understanding the charismatic appeal of a young revolutionary at the time is......well ironic. + +**JFK on Che Guevara** + +* JFK is looking through photos of his daughter Caroline while speaking to the same female reporter who he spoke to about Castro. He isn't looking at the reporter but at the photo album. While looking at the photo album he says 'So tell me about El Che'. The reporter has also met Che and in fact interviewed him. Basically to paraphrase the reporter she said 'Well Che is charming, charismatic, cool, pragmatic, intellectual and blunt....a little like Kennedy'. The reporter notes about this conversation that when she would talk to Kennedy, he'd ask about Che, and when she'd talked to Che, he's talk about Kennedy. She also said that if they weren't political opposites, they would hit it off. When JFK heard these descriptions he allegedly said 'Something tells me you've got the hots for Che'. The reporter is kinda floored and she says ""do you not see the photos of me arguing with him?"". And JFK states 'Yes but as any good psychologist would tell you, opposites attract'. +* There is another occasion where JFK overhears that Che was somewhat fascinated by Jacqueline Kennedy his wife and actually said she was the one American he'd like to meet. JFK responded by saying 'Well he'll have to wait in line'. + +**Castro on JFK** + +* These are largely Castro's reactions to Kennedy's assassination. In the lead up Castro is speaking with a French reporter Jean Daniel. He is acting as a liason between him and JFK because they are in negotiations about normalising relations. Jean Daniel states that Castro said '*He still has the possibility of becoming, in the eyes of history, the greatest President of the United States, the leader who may at last understand that there can be coexistence between capitalists and socialists, even in the Americas. He would then be an even greater President than Lincoln. I know, for example, that for Khrushchev, Kennedy is a man you can talk with. I have gotten this impression from all my conversations with Khrushchev. Other leaders have assured me that to attain this goal, we must first await his re-election. Personally, I consider him responsible for everything, but I will say this: he has come to understand many things over the past few months; and then too, in the last analysis, I’m convinced that anyone else would be worse.” Then Fidel had added with a broad and boyish grin: “If you see him again, you can tell him that I’m willing to declare Goldwater my friend if that will guarantee Kennedy’s re-election*!”'. +* When the assassination was taking place Castro's reaction was one where '*He came back, sat down, and repeated three times the words: “Es una mala noticia.” (“This is bad news.”) He remained silent for a moment, awaiting another call with further news. He remarked while we waited that there was an alarmingly sizable lunatic fringe in American society and that this deed could equally well have been the work of a madman or a terrorist. Perhaps a Vietnamese? Or a member of the Ku Klux Klan? The second call came through: it was hoped they would be able to announce that the United States President was still alive, that there was hope of saving him. Fidel Castro’s immediate reaction was: “If they can, he is already re-elected.” He pronounced these words with satisfaction*.' +* A somewhat amusing turn in a very morbid way was when the broadcasters were describing the details of the assassination, '*One reporter felt he should mention the difficulty Mrs. Kennedy was having in getting rid of her bloodstained stockings. Fidel exploded: “What sort of a mind is this!” He repeated the remark several times: “What sort of a mind is this? There is a difference in our civilizations after all. Are you like this in Europe? For us Latin Americans, death is a sacred matter; not only does it mark the close of hostilities, but it also imposes decency, dignity, respect. There are even street urchins who behave like kings in the face of death. Incidentally, this reminds me of something else: if you write all those things I told you yesterday against Kennedy’s policy, don’t use his name now; speak instead of the policy of the United States government*.”'. + +**Che on JFK** + +* The closest interact Che had with Kennedy was indirectly through JFK's aide Richard Goodwin. Its at a major conference of the Americas in Uruguay in August of 1961. The Bay of Pigs happened months before. JFK's personal aide along with the Secretary of the Treasury to Uruguay had travelled their to announce what was called the Alliance for Progress. In this conference Che gives a blistering speech denouncing the Alliance for Progress. However behind the scenes Che actually seeks out Richard Goodwin, JFK's personal aide. +* Che challenges Goodwin to a smoking competition when seeing him smoking a cigar by daring him to smoke a Cuban. Goodwin takes it up. During this meeting they had a relaxed atmosphere with Goodwin allegedly not wanting him to ""out proleterianise"" him and so they sat casually on the ground with each other. In the process Che says the famous lines ""Thank you for the Bay of Pigs, before it the revolution was tenuous, now it is stronger than ever"". Goodwin of course responds ""You're welcome, now perhaps you might invade Guatanomo"". Che of course just smiles and says never. Che then states that he actually did see the Kennedy era people as a new generation that actually wanted change but that the reforms he was proposing was too late. Then Che fascinatingly goes on to describe Cuba's problems bluntly, including what he saw as the failures of his own monetary policy(knowing full well this is JFK's personal aide). Che then gives Goodwin a gift of Cuban cigars meant for JFK from Castro with a personal message to Kennedy. Famously Kennedy sees the gift and just asks ""are they good""? + +Its just fascinating that they had these somewhat ""amusing"" interactions(though indirect) while being involved in some of the most intense clashes as Cold War enemies.",0 +4460,Human Remains May Have Revealed the Site of a Medieval Friary. ,0 +4461,"See How Experts Restored 1,000-Year-Old Nubian Wall Paintings, Recently Discovered in Sudan, to Their Original Religious Glory | Artnet News. ",0 +4462,"Death by Arsenic A brief history of women, poison, and murder in 19th century Britain. ",0 +4463,"Most bombed place on earth- Malta 1940-42.. + +As you might know, Malta holds a very important place in the history of EOD. Between 1940 and 43 over 15,000 tonnes of bombs fell on an island merely 27 km long and 14km wide. At one point it was technically the 'most bombed place on earth'. It is said that about 15% of those bombs did not detonate. The EOD ('UXB') team on the island during the war disposed of more than 7,000 bombs in two years with a team never exceeding one or two officers and 16 NCOs and sappers. + +Over the past few months, my reenactment group has been restoring and researching bomb disposal in Malta during the war, which is very interesting and has affected Royal Engineers' bomb disposal in general greatly. I will attach some pictures of the original equipment below as well as a link to an article we wrote for anyone that wants to know more! + +[https://battlefrontmalta.com/royal-engineers-bomb-disposal-malta/](https://battlefrontmalta.com/royal-engineers-bomb-disposal-malta/)",0 +4464,"How come ""Commonwealth"" is not considered as antiroyalist term?. I am a bit surprised that after the Restoration the word Commonwealth was not considered too Republican or too Antiroyalist. Isn't it a bit strange to name the offspring of the British Empire the Commonwealth of Nations or that a successor of the British colony is called the Commonwealth of Australia? I guess it makes sense to name an US state the Commonwealth of Virginia, to emphasize the republicanism.",0 +4465,"Knights and Squires in the Last Duel. Hello there. I recently read the book The Last Duel (haven't seen the movie yet) and it raised a question about knighthood/nobility in the 14th-15th centuries. + +In the book, Jean Carrouges is said to be a Squire until the age of around 50, before being Knighted after the campaign in Scotland. But his father was a Knight. Le Gris was a Squire until the duel I think, where he was knighted so they would be on equal terms. But they both held lands, manors, political offices/military commands etc. + +I had previously been under the impression that a Squire was essentially an ""apprentice knight"" but after doing some light reading on the subject I am not so sure. I was wondering, is Squire a title? As in the lowest ""rung"" if Nobility, or some kind of functionary office? Is it hereditary? What makes you eligible to become a knight if you are a Squire? Is military service, regardless of birth, the prerequisite for a Knighthood? Basically, how does the rank of knight, squire, relate to noble birth/common birth etc. + +I know that answers obviously change with what century/place you're talking about, so I suppose I am specifically asking in the 14th-15th centuries (1350-1450 say?) around about ""Western Europe"" (England, France, Italy, HRE, etc) But if anyone has some extra tidbits to add about other areas (Bohemia, Hungary/Croatia, Poland) that would be interesting as well.",0 +4466,"I want to learn about history and I don't know where to start. Hi everyone and thank you for reading this. + +I am 32 years old and have lets say a basic knowledge of history. I was in love with history in my middle school (actualy don't have those in my country but it's the same agewise), but had a horrible professor in high school where we litteraly didn't learn anything for 3 years, and in the 4th year we got a new professor.. but it was kind of late for that (although I did my final paper for graduation in - history, goes to show you how love for something doesn't die). I read articles on Encyclopedia Britannica, but I'm all over the place. I don't want to learn from history books in my country, because for the last couple of centuries were turbulent here and authors are biased. + +Can you point me to a couple of books that would be great for starters? I'd like to go chronologically. Also, I'd love to learn in detail, and I don't care if it takes me decades. Interested in the history of the world. + +Thank you! + +Edit: I just wanted to say that you people are great and thank you for your advices! Sorry for some of my responses being long, I am just invested :D",0 +4467,"Does the historical record support or contradict the following hypothesis: A strong factor for centralization of power in a state is foreign pressure?. One of the main functions of a state is defense, and I think it's reasonable to think that if a state faces a strong foreign threat, that would lead to centralization, and the government would be strengthened and assume more power (of course, that assume the state in question doesn't collapse/get conquered from the pressure). Conversely, a time of prolonged peace would lead to fragmentation and weaker governments. + +I've seen some evidence for this idea in Walter Scheidel's books, The Fall of Rome, and The Great Leveler. But I wonder to what extend is it a consistent trend in history? How much of centralization was actually driven by outside pressure vs other factors?",0 +4468,'Flesh of the Gods': The Trippy History of Magic Mushrooms - the ancient history of psychotropic fungi.. ,0 +4469,Is Danish king who gave name to Bluetooth buried in Poland?. ,0 +4470,Battle of the Monongahela. ,0 +4471,"Ctesias and the True Date of the Trojan War. The Trojan War is normally dated to about 1200 BCE, give or take a few decades, placing it right at the end of the Bronze Age. That date is basically derived from Ancient Greek and Roman statements about when it took place in relation to other events in history. Modern archaeological discoveries relating to Bronze Age Troy are perceived as fitting the legend in some senses, but there is considerable debate about this and many researchers would argue that Homer’s descriptions better fit an Iron Age setting. + +Notably, the calculations of those ancient writers were not necessarily accurate. In fact, in many cases, we know for a fact that their calculations were incorrect. Often this was because of using average generation lengths which were much too high. + +Ctesias’s information about when the Trojan War took place in relation to Assyrian history seems to suffer from this very problem. It seems that he was assuming an average generation length of about 45 years, when a more realistic average would be something like 25 years. For that reason, he massively misdated the Trojan War in relation to the fall of Nineveh. + +Additionally, the fall of Nineveh itself was misdated by almost three centuries by the Greeks, further misdating the Trojan War. + +With the more accurate knowledge we have about things like the fall of Nineveh, we can see where Ctesias’s information *actually* places the Trojan War in the stream of time, and it is much more recent than c. 1200 BCE. + +https://greekreporter.com/2022/07/19/trojan-war-ancient-date/",0 +4472,"Independent Inventions of Writings. I’m aware that Humans have only invented writing a handful of times and all other scripts are either descended from, based on, or simply inspired by the originals. + +The most accepted origins of writing are +1: Mesopotamia +2: Egypt +3: China +4: Mesoamerica + +Other undeciphered examples not universally accepted as writing but often included are + +1: Indus River Valley (Indus Script) +2: Vinča Culture (Vinča Script) +3: Easter Island/Rapa Nui (Rongorongo) +4: Mi ‘ kmaq People (Miꞌkmaw hieroglyphic writing) + +Also what of the Aegean Scripts? Were they really inspired by Egypt or Sumer despite the lack of similarities. Or an independent invention, I know they had relations with Egypt. + +I’m just very curious about this and want others’ perspectives. Along with possible other examples. Especially from those more knowledgeable on the subject than I am. + +Also hope this is the right sub for this question?",0 +4473,When Jawaharlal Nehru read ‘Lolita’ to decide whether an ‘obscene’ book should be allowed in India. ,0 +4474,"Do you consider the ""good"" Roman emperors (Aurelius, Trajan, Vespasian) as evil people solely due to the fact that they were tyrants?. I'm quite fascinated with how the Roman people lived under and were proud of their republic for so many years and then ended up living in a non-democratic yet very successful state. + +It makes me wonder how we modern, democratic people should view those who ruled as tyrants but brought prosperity to their people. + +I for one, wouldn't consider them to be evil, because it is my understanding(!) that people living under them didn't yearn for the right to vote or the democratic process. Please correct me if I am wrong about that. But is someone who is undemocratic but doesn't suppress democracy evil?",0 +4475,"Looking for a historical account of the 1990s in the United States. + +Hallo everyone. That’s my first post on reddit so let me know if there is something I need to do differently. + +Recently I have gotten very interested in the time period from the end of the Cold War up to 9/11. From what I have read about it, this decade is often described as having been somewhat carefree and stable due to is placement in history between the two aforementioned historically significant events that changed the world in profound ways. Domestically the US economy was booming, foreign politics was out of tension after the fall of the Soviet Union and Pop Culture was flourishing with exciting new Movies and Music. I know that it wasn\`t really as carefree as often depicted, and a lot of it is probably due to nostalgia from the people how grew up during that time. And I am also aware that you can’t really fit history into convenient boxes like the 90s. Nevertheless, it’s a good way to think about history sometimes. + +Unfortunately, I haven’t really been able to find a good historical book on those topics. I am especially interested in the economic and political side of things, but I would also like to learn little bit more about the Culture in those times. Since Clinton was President almost throughout the whole decade, I also thought about reading a book on the Clinton years. + +Any suggestions are appreciated",0 +4476,"How did food become so diverse?. I know a little bit about the medieval ages through this game called Kingdom Come Deliverance. It boggles me that after centuries of people eating like this and it working perfectly fine, they just decided to experiment for some reason. + +Cereals remained the most important staple during the early Middle Ages. Barley, oats and rye were eaten by the poor. Standard foods included bread, porridge, and gruel. Fava beans and vegetables were important supplements to the cereal-based diet of the lower orders. Meat was expensive and prestigious. Game was common only on the tables of landowners. The most prevalent butcher's meats were pork, chicken, and other domestic fowl; beef, which required greater investment in land, was less common. Cod and herring were mainstays among the northern populations; dried, smoked or salted, they made their way far inland, but a wide variety of other saltwater and freshwater fish was also eaten. + +So when on earth did that change into stuff like cake, pizza and other complicated stuff? Did peasants just bass food together, cause I find it difficult to believe that someone decided to get an egg, get some bread, get some yeast, heat those three things together, add chocolate and then get some cake if the regular stuff available for thousands of years did not get changed.",0 +4477,Building the Egyptian Pyramids: Economy and Construction Techniques. ,0 +4478,Götz von Berlichingen - 16th Century German Cyborg Knight. ,0 +4479,How the ‘Grape Man of Texas’ Saved the French Wine Industry. ,0 +4480,"Was Suvorov a Good General?. Suvorov is one of those generals with an imposing historical reputation, but who is almost impossible to research. + +I could find no book dedicated to Suvorov’s campaigns in English, making my only recourse Wikipedia articles, which can hardly be trusted. + +But judging from the scant battles he fought recorded on Wikipedia, his victories - of which there were around 60, him never losing a battle - were all either small or indecisive. Focsani was fought between two forces of over 25,000 men each, but casualties were no more than 2,000 for the whole battle. He won great victories against polish rebels, but the articles do not go into great detail on whether these were professional forces or a more slapped together assortment. + +The only information that can be found in great depth on his campaigns (from what I’ve seen) is his brief encounter with France in Italy in 1799-1800, where he proved himself capable. + +So was he a good commander, on the level of Frederick the Great or Napoleon? Or was he just the only capable European general of the generation between both of them? + +Also, what - if any - English sources exist about Suvorov?",0 +4481,"Just my curiosity, do generals throughout history feel guilty when their bad decision make many soldiers got killed in battle?. I once read an article, it says the mindset of some generals are approximate to those of the serial killers. + +Just like serial killers, generals lack the ability to feel guilty on their wrong behavior and cannot sympathize with others. + +Like Napoleon in Russia, did he feel guilty that his bad decision made his Grande Armee decimated? + +Did Montgomery feel guilty when Operation Market Garden was a failure and got many Allied soldiers killed? + +Or do the generals think casualty is the nature of war, so people can't blame me for such thing. + +Is there any written material that shows the guilt of a general after a lost battle?",0 +4482,The Romano-British Writing Tablets of Vindolanda. ,0 +4483,"How did reinforcements join a battle?. When two armies are fighting each other, and then reinforcements arrive for one of them, did they take the time to deploy in battle formation? Or did they attack in the column formation they were marching in? + +I know for cavalry it's easy to spread out because of their speed and there wasn't usually that many of them (generally speaking), but what about 10s of thousands of infantry? I would assume that if your allies were about to be routed, you would try and turn the tide as quickly as possible. Or did their mere presence stop any thought of routing? + +This is one of those shower thoughts that any fan of history usually gets.",0 +4484,"Do ""The Troubles"" in Northern Ireland meet the threshold of a Civil War?. It would seem to me as though The Troubles tick each box of what we'd consider to be a civil war, yet in the UK at least, it's not thought of that way. + +The main players from each side would have held the same passport. There was a clear intent from one side to separate from the parent nation... the parent nation resisted this act. Weapons were fired, people died and much misery was produced. + +Do The Troubles meet the standard of a civil war? If so, how and if not, why?",0 +4485,The unsolved mystery of Skeleton Lake. ,0 +4486,"What were the fundraising ramifications of the Battle of Monmouth for the American Revolution?. I've been fascinated recently by the Battle of Monmouth - although militarily it was considered a draw, with neither side inflicting much damage or gaining any strategic advantage, the Americans (including Hamilton) played it up as a major victory, and the American press enthusiastically cheered it as a great win. + +Indeed, it seems the main purpose of the fight was to generate this ""propaganda victory"". Washington knew that many Americans (including Congress) were getting impatient with his hesitance to assault the British army. He considered that it would look weak to allow them to march unresisted from Philadelphia to New York, and so he engineered a fight just for the sake of facing off the two armies. He didn't seem to truly attempt a strategic coup (like attacking the supply train,) he deliberately chose a smaller engagement that seemed largely designed to risk little while being able to say that we ""beat the British"". And while the claim of victory is not without merit (after all, the Continental Army stood toe-to-toe with the main force of the British Army, fought primarily against their elite units, and ended up taking the field and inflicting more casualties than they took) it seems the real objective was the generation of positive propaganda. + +So, my question is, how effective was this propaganda? Did the Battle of Monmouth have a material impact in helping solicit contributions to the rebel cause? At this time, there were still a huge amount of Loyalists in the colonies - did news of Monmouth strike fear into these Loyalists and suppress their activities, and did it encourage those who were ""watching where the wind blows"" to join sides with the rebels? Were people more willing to accept Continental paper currency after hearing of this ""triumph"" of the Americans over the British? Were the states more willing to send money, soldiers, and provisions to Washington's army after this win? It seems that all these factors were the main motivation for the fight - how well did they play out?",0 +4487,Juneteenth 2022: The Historical Impact of the 54th Massachusetts Volunteer Regiment | Article | The United States Army. ,0 +4488,Jack the Ripper-The Whitechapel Killer. ,0 +4489,"What is the last war of aggression between major powers where the aggressor was victorious?. I love history but in a casual sense. WW1 & 2 the aggressors lost the war, Napoleon was the major war I remember before this which the aggressors lost. + +I understand there was a war to open Japan, or Japan taking over china which may have been wars but I can't remember the last time a Major power like the UK took over and held another country for over 100 years. + +Ancient history is full of this, wars of aggression between major powers which were victorious for the aggressor. It seems to me that aggressive wars were much more successful in the past. When I think of Rome, the Mongols, the Huns, Alexander. It seemed that wars of aggression built empires in the past and there wasn't that united front which seems to stop this for a few hundred years now. + +When was the last time something like a top 15 major power taking over another completely and holding it a long time happened?",0 +4490,"Are there any written accounts (in English) about life as a small merchant in a trading republic such as Venice. I'm not interested in an explorer account like Marco Polo, I'm interested in reading the written accounts of a normal merchant in a trading republic such as Venice. + + +I'm interested in things like what goods are bought and sold, how are they moved, how are the items kept track, how does the person spend their free time, how do wars affect them, how do bandits affect them, what is their relationship with the local nobility/power structure and simple things on the mind of such a person. +I don't mind if the accounts are mainly on a trading galley or by land but I'd like to know what a simple merchant would have to do and think about in his everyday life and how outside politics affected him or not. I quote enjoy the channel ""Voices of the Past"" and I would like to read something similar to his source content.",0 +4491,"Did marijuana exist in precolumbian north america?. I've encountered a lot of people saying that cannabis existed in precolumbian north america. However, When I google this subject, the only articles I can find are from websites selling pot, which I do not trust for obvious reasons. +These websites reference the book ""*Prehistoric Textile Art of Eastern United States* (1891)"" By William Henry Holmes, Which reads, ""*This fiber has been identified as that of the \_Cannabis sativa\_, or wild hemp.""* +Besides that, they also reference early explorers like Jacques Cartier who mention hemp. I've looked at these, and provided my translation is correct, they do indeed say hemp. +These sites also refer to a hopewell pipe dating to 400BC which they claim contains cbd residue. But when I google this, nothing turns up except more pot sellers referencing each other in a circle. +My suspicion is that this is a myth generated by the confusion surrounding the terms ""Apocynum Cannabinum."" ""Cannabis Indica."" And ""Indian Hemp."" +I suspect that William Henry Holmes was mistaken, as there was no dna analysis back then and one piece of 2300 year old string looks much like another. +I suspect that Cartier was mistaken or misquoted. Again, one bast fibre is much like another. +And I don't know what to think of the hopewell pipe claim as I can't figure out where it came from. + +In short, I would like to know if there is any weight to this idea or if it's just a modern myth for selling pot.",0 +4492,"Was there ever a battle, during the American Revolutionary or Civil War, where one side set up a bunch of loaded rifles and then fired them quickly, to make the enemy think they were being attacked by a larger force?. I remember my history teacher in about 7th grade mentioning this happening in some old American war, but I can't find anything about it after searching. + +I seem to recall that he said they set it all up overnight to attack some sort of fort or other structure, and distinctly remember him talking about people cutting down small trees to construct scaffolding to set multiple rifles up on, and they went down the lines firing, to make their number seem bigger. + +It's an interesting story and I can't find anything about it, if it happened I'd love to know more about it. I've searched probably 20 different ways to find something. Thanks for any help!!",0 +4493,"When/why did Greek mythology and literature overtake Roman in terms of influence and popularity?. From Medieval times on up, Latin literature was considered the essential core of classics and the Greek stories that were studied were mostly studied through Roman translations. Roman names (Jove, Ulysses) and stories are much more common and in general Roman writers had a huge impact on early English literature. + +By the present day (at least late 20th century onwards) the opposite is true. Greek literature like Homer and Sophocles are much more likely to be studied than something like the Aenid. Big pop culture movies like Disney's Hercules draw mostly on Greek names and versions of myths. + +When and why did that change happen? Was it a sudden event, or did it happen gradually as we got more access to Greek writings? My background is in Anglophone literature so I'm coming from that perspective.",0 +4494,"How common was a having a horse?. Hello all! + +I’m in a debate with some friends about horses and how common they were. I’m taking the stance that horse ownership was pretty +Common in a lot of cultures and they were part of everyday life for most people. They are taking the stance that only the elite and Nobel had horses. I understand that in Europe during the time of kings and colonial America horses were most commonly owned by the wealthy. But even at that my understanding was that most people who had a farm even if it was small had a horse. I’m also making the argument that the tribes and nomads of Eurasia where horses first became domesticated would have had a culture where every warrior would have their own horse. I’m not really finding great results on the Google so I figured someone here may be able to help point me in the right direction or have some cool knowledge to share. Thank you! + +edit: a lot of awesome, well thought out responses here and I appreciate you guys!",0 +4495,"What Makes a Mountain Historically Sacred? One Common Characteristic. To the Ancient Greeks, [Mt. Olympus](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/1/17/Mytikas.jpg) was the home of the gods, the birthplace of legends. For all they knew, Mt. Olympus could very well have been the tallest mountain in the world, as there weren't any mountains nearby that were nearly as high. Nowadays, we know that Mt. Olympus, with an elevation of 2917 m, is less than one-third the height of the tallest mountain on Earth—Mt. Everest—which has an elevation of 8849 m. Perhaps if the Ancient Greeks had seen the Alps or Himalayas, they would have thought differently. + +Throughout history, numerous mountains around the world have been regarded as sacred by local populations. In biblical allusions, [Mt. Ararat](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/7/75/Mount_Ararat_and_the_Yerevan_skyline_in_spring_%2850mm%29.jpg/1920px-Mount_Ararat_and_the_Yerevan_skyline_in_spring_%2850mm%29.jpg) (elev: 5137 m) is held to be the landing site of Noah's Ark. To the Ancient Chinese, [Huangshan](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/1/1d/Huangshan_pic_4.jpg) (elev: 1864 m) is seen as the place where the Yellow Emperor created the Pills of Immortality. In the San Francisco Bay Area, [Mt. Diablo](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/6/62/View_of_Mount_Diablo_and_CA_Highway_24_from_Lafayette_Heights.jpg) is regarded by the Miwok and Ohlone Tribes as the creation point of the world, despite its relatively low elevation of 1173 m. + +None of these mountains are even remotely close to being the tallest in the world. Yet, they all have one thing in common: they are ***dominant points***. The definition of a dominant point is quite simple: + +Imagine you're standing at the summit (the highest point) of Mt. Olympus. Let the *horizon* at the summit refer to the flat plane that intersects the summit, to which the direction of gravity at the summit is perpendicular to. In other words, the horizon represents your flat eye-level when you're standing at the summit. Something is *above the horizon* of the summit if it's on the side of this plane that is opposite of the direction of gravity. In other words, when you're standing at the summit, you'll have to look above your flat eye-level to see a point that is above your horizon. + +A point on Earth's surface is a ***dominant point*** if nothing on the planet rises above the horizon of that point. Standing at a dominant point, nothing rises above your horizon. You are *on top of the world*. + +For instance, Mt. Olympus is a dominant point because nothing rises above your horizon when you're standing at its summit. Sure, [Mt. Etna](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/3/39/Mt_Etna_and_Catania1.jpg) in Italy may have a higher elevation of 3357 m, but Mt. Etna is so far away from Mt. Olympus that due to Earth's curvature, the summit of Mt. Etna is approximately 30 km *below* the horizon of Mt. Olympus. (Sorry, flat-Earthers!) + +Meanwhile, [Twin Peaks](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/1/11/Twin_Peaks-San_Francisco.jpg) (elev: 282 m) in San Francisco is not a dominant point because there are higher mountains nearby that rise above the horizon of its summit, including Mt. Diablo, which rises over 700 m above its horizon. As expected, Twin Peaks does not have the same sacred status as Mt. Diablo, which is a dominant point. + +Why are so many sacred mountains dominant points? It turns out that back in the day, when knowledge of distant lands was limited, a local mountaintop that feels like the top of the world may as well be thought of as the tallest mountain in the world, lending it divine significance. + +That's not to say that all sacred mountains are dominant. Many non-dominant mountains are held sacred for their unique shape or other subjective factors, as is the case for [Mt. Kailash](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/e/e3/Kailash_north.JPG/1920px-Kailash_north.JPG) (elev: 6714 m) in Tibet or [Uluru](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/f/fc/Uluru_%28Helicopter_view%29-crop.jpg) (elev: 863 m) in Australia. But ultimately, a dominant mountain has a much greater likelihood of being sacred, and a sacred mountain has a remarkable chance of being dominant. + +Perhaps to our ancestors, being on top of the world, after all, was the closest that one can get to the heavens. + +--- + +For a more technical explanation of dominant points, check out this [research paper](https://arxiv.org/abs/2208.01600).",0 +4496,"How much smoke did warships produce in World War II?. This is a question I've always wondered about, and wasn't sure where to ask or who to ask it to so I'll ask it here. Did warships in World War II produce a lot of smoke? Did it depend on how much stress they were putting on their engines when increasing speed for instance? Would it only produce thick, visible smoke if the engine was damaged or running inefficiently for whatever reason? I'd like to know just out of curiosity since I've seen videos and images where in one instance a ship is pluming out smoke out of its smokestacks, and in others they run perfectly clear.",0 +4497,"Is there a modern consensus about the fate of Edward II of England?. Some years ago I read Dan Jones' The Plantagenets which simply states Edward II ""most likely"" was murdered by agents of Roger Mortimer in 1327(ish) and he offers no other alternatives. Accordingly I believed this to be the case until now, I've recently read Ian Mortimer's biography of Edward III, ""The Perfect King"". In which he discusses, in detail, and states with certainty that Edward II was in fact not murdered, but kept alive. Was ""definitely"" alive in 1330, and in all probability lived in Italy as a hermit under the careful watch of the Pope and agents of Edward III, probably until about 1341. + +What surprises me here is that Mortimer's book predates Jones' book by about 6 years. Given that Jones' book is a much higher level book (in terms of detail), covering hundreds of years in just 600 pages, it is to be expected that he might not cover every angle, but to not even mention the idea he might have survived 1327 strikes me as odd. + +Is there a modern consensus? Has Ian Mortimer changed the way historians think about the end of Edward II? Or has his position been discounted, and hence ignored, by Dan Jones?",0 +4498,"How is history taught in china related to the qing empire?. Hello everybody, I am curios of how is the qing empire and it's legacy is taught in modern china, one interesting factoid I know, that the current head of the last imperial house, the house of Aisin-Gioro, was even a local level politician and scientist, so they were not outright persecuted, also Pu Yi the last emperor, although tried as a war criminal in ww2, after re education he was allowed to live as a regular citizen, a gardener if I recall corectly. If you have any further information I would be very interested to read it. Thank you",0 +4499,How did mideval/Roman soldiers keep their money safe?. Ceasers legions leading expeditions for years in foreign territory. English army's fighting in France marching for months at a time. How did these soldiers keep their money safe? Did they just keep it in the backage train trusting it to be there when they needed it? Did they send it back home? I remember hearing about some sort of banking system where someone following the backage train would essentially hold your money for you and give you a note for it but that sounds really unsecure.,0 +4500,Ukraine once had the 3rd largest nuclear arsenal in the world.. ,0 +4501,"Did it take a specific amount of money to have a fortune in the 19th century, or did it just mean you had some investments / land?. In literature and period pieces, you often hear people refer to their fortune, or their lack of a fortune. But these are phrased in vague terms. It also seems like having a fortune didn't mean you were considered rich. For example, this article, it refers to [Ward McAllister](https://suburbs101.com/ward-mcallister-the-gilded-age/) saying he was not rich, but that he had made a modest fortune. + +When I tried to dig into the matter, I wasn't able to find out what exactly a fortune meant in historical context. I can find things like the net worth of the ultra rich, like the Rockefellers and Astors. And I can find the incomes of the more typical working class person in the US or Britton. But I wasn't able to find a good definition of a ""fortune."" + +All I can tell is that a ""fortune"" 100 years ago was simply what we would call a nest egg today. For example, a lawyer with $3M / $4M today might have a good nest egg, but I don't think anyone would call that a fortune now. But that seems to be how it was used in a historical context? + +Was there more to the term? Was it money handed down from one generation to the next? Would it include non liquid assets like land? Was it income generating? Or is it just a nebulous term like ""Rich"" that was relative from person to person.",0 +4502,Long-lost sphinxes of Egyptian king Amenhotep III unearthed at Luxor. ,0 +4503,Retracing Julius Caesar’s path through France. ,0 +4504,"How did slavery work in imperial China?. I was under the assumption that chattel slavery (to differentiate it from indentured servitude) wasn't common in China during the Ming or Qing, but after taking a read of the translated Qing Penal Code, I find a lot of laws that referenced ""slaves"" and their rights under the law. For example, such slaves as denoted were not allowed to marry under threat of punishment by Qing law. Slaves were also not allowed to leave the households of their masters without permission as well. + +All this hints that Qing society (and I assume other dynasties as well) had some form of chattel slavery system going on. Was it on the same scope as slavery in colonial Americas? Where did slaves come from? How can slave free themselves? Any insight or literature will be appreciated.",0 +4505,"Joseon, the predecessor of modern Korea(s): neo-Confucian orthodoxy and the origin of the hermit kingdom [1392 - 1910] [Part 1]. History of Korea (0) [pre-historic influences](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/x5egoz/interesting_parallels_between_prehistoric_korean/) + +History of Korea (1) [**Gojoseon**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x3ot4p/korean_history_dates_back_to_a_bronze_culture/) \[around 1000 BC \~ 108 BC\] + +History of Korea (2) [**Three Kingdoms**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/x89pzd/koreas_three_kingdom_period_and_unified_silla/) **(*****Goguryeo, Baekje, and Silla*****) and Unified Silla** \[around 100 BC \~ 935\] + +History of Korea (3) [**Goryeo**](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/xdnht8/goryeo_koreas_medieval_kingdom_918_1392_stories/)**, Korea's medieval kingdom** \[918 - 1392\] + +​ + +​ + +\*\* the whole post exceeded the text limit, so I divided it into different parts. + +​ + +Wow when I started writing this, I didn't expect that this would evolve into this giant monstrously long post. Also, I realize that the whole post reads a bit like ""[History of the Loss of Vietnam](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_the_Loss_of_Vietnam)"" that was written in 1905. It is said that the book, written by [a Vietnamese](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phan_B%E1%BB%99i_Ch%C3%A2u) anti-colonial thinker, negatively assessed the Nguyen dynasty turning to **ultra-orthodox conservative Confucianism which led to the failure to modernize**. + +This post definitely reads a bit like that. Neo-Confucian orthodoxy (I will later explain what it is) led to Joseon Korea's **five centuries of isolationism and gradual impoverishment** of the nation, which had a violent end in the beginning of the 20th century by annexation to Japan. + +This post is comprised of a long introduction on what is neo-Confucianism, and 22 time periods that involve events well-known to the Korean public, which typically involve one or several monarchs. + +This post is extremeley long, but I hope one can have an overview of what kind of place Joseon was by just **skimming the section titles and emboldend sentences**. + +At the end of the post, I discuss a bit about how the legacy of neo-Confucianism and Joseon still remains in present-day South Korea and North Korea. + +​ + +​ + +\--------- + +​ + +The *Goryeo-Joseon* transition at the end of the 14th century occurred smoothly without any large battles, as an aftermath of the Mongol dominance and the decline of Mongol Yuan empire. A new ""retro"" sort of ideology commonly called **Neo-Confucianism** grew in popularity among the aristocratic class. + +* The neo-Confucian aristocratic class hated Mongol (considered barbarians), and supported the rising Ming dynasty (Han Chinese dynasty that promoted neo-Confucianism) +* When General Yi Seong-gye disobeyed the last *Goryeo* king's order and brought his army into the capital, it was considered as a Heaven's Mandate. The ruling class of Korea enthroned him as the founder of a new dynasty - Joseon (detail: [in my previous post](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/comments/xdnht8/goryeo_koreas_medieval_kingdom_918_1392_stories/)) + +​ + +​ + +# History of Korea (4) Joseon, the predecessor of modern Korea(s): neo-Confucian orthodoxy and the origin of the hermit kingdom [1392 - 1910] [Part 1] + +# + +# 0. Neo-Confucianism + +Before going through stories, I'd like to discuss how neo-Confucianism transformed the Joseon society, which is still an important substratum in today's modern Korean societies. + +**What's Confucianism?** + +* A common answer to this question is that it is an ancient Chinese belief system that emphasizes interpersonal ethics and morality. However, this common understanding does not take into account a fundamental fact that it particularly emphasized **the social norms of the ancient Zhou** (1,046\~771 BC before division) society. In other words, in a fundamental sense, it was a **""retro"" sort of ideology that idealized an ancient, agrarian society**. + * In the midst of the chaos of Spring and Autumn (770\~476 BC) and Warring States period (476\~221 BC) in China, it seems that there was a common sentiment of **nostalgia towards an idyllic, distant past**, symbolized by two mythical emperors [Yao](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emperor_Yao) and [Shun](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emperor_Shun), the same way Greeks were nostalgic about a mythical Golden Age. + * However, different schools of thought in the Spring and Autumn period had different attitudes towards the mythical, idealized past. [Legalism](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legalism_(Chinese_philosophy)), which was a dominant school of thought during the Warring States in China, made it clear that the Golden Ages would rarely ever come again because humans are flawed. Legalist [Han Fei](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Han_Fei) said: + +>(Most rulers are) Mediocre rulers. These mediocre rulers ... need to hold to the \[universal\] law. If you wait for a Yao or Shun to come, ... it will only be one generation of order in a thousand generations of disorder. + +* This line of thought is much closer to the modern Western thoughts, in a sense that it did not romanticize a distant past, and focused on building a system that worked for the present +* Confucianism had a different approach from Legalism. It drew on the nostalgia of the past. The basic idea of Confucius (551\~479 BC) was that **if everyone was civilized and well-mannered following the ancient rites and morality of Zhou** (or the times of mythical Yao and Shun)**, the peace and stability** that had existed in the good old times **would be restored**. +* e.g. **Confucian classics are basically about the rites, poems, histories, and divination mysticism of the ancient Zhou** **(800 BC or before)**. For example +* [Book of Rites](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Book_of_Rites) (or **Rites of Zhou)**: a collection of texts describing the social forms, administration, and ceremonial rites of the Zhou dynasty +* [Classic of Poetry](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Classic_of_Poetry): a collection of ancient poems that date back to the early Zhou period +* [Book of Documents](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Book_of_Documents): the history of the mythical era, (mythical) Xia, Shang, and Zhou dynasties +* [Book of Change](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_Ching) (or **Divination of Zhou** 周易): a synthesis of divination mysticism passed down from the immemorial past (yin/yang - famously [Leibniz](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Binary_number#Leibniz_and_the_I_Ching) got the idea of binary mathematics from this book) +* [Etiquette and Ceremonial](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Etiquette_and_Ceremonial): Zhou dynasty social behavior and ceremonial rituals - many rites and rituals regulated women's life, particularly. For example [**three obedience**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Three_Obediences_and_Four_Virtues) **of women** +* Note that these are all knowledge about a society that existed in 1,000\~500 BC, but were used as the core text for scholarly education and civil service exams until the 19th century + +\*\* Interestingly, the civil service exam itself was not the product of the Confucian tradition; it was more of a Legalist idea in the beginning + +​ + +* Then what was the ideal Zhou society like, in Confucianists' minds? I would say: + * Back then, land was fairly distributed, farmers and peasants were happy, and tax was low. Farmers barely knew that a king existed. **The younger revered the elders, women obeyed their husbands, children obeyed their parents, and local nobles paid respect to the highest king.** People were well-mannered and did not break proper social norms. Things did not ""deviate"" and everything was in harmony. The time was peaceful. If people are civilized and educated with **proper rites and rituals**, the world will regain harmony again. +* This simple idea was mixed up with various other ancient mysticism such as yin/yang, five elements, [four pillars](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_Pillars_of_Destiny) (divination chart that originated from the ancient pyromancy and oracle bone practices), dragon symbolism, etc. +* Plus, the **Confucian spirituality** was centered around **patrilineal ancestor shrines**. The holy rites of Zhou was often referred to as ""t**he laws of spirit tablets**"" (spirit tablets for ancestor patriarchs). Through regular ancestor spirit worship rituals, **the unbroken lineage of paternal bloodline of a clan became divine**. Not being able to continue it was not just the matter of inheritance disputes, but **the matter of a spiritual sin**. This ""laws of spirit tablets"" would become so central to Korean political ideology and spirituality in the Joseon period (**and turn out to be very oppressive to women**). + +\*\* Another idea of Confucius was to judge (and thus control) a ruler's behavior by means of history writing. His history book *Spring and Autumn Annals* provided the style and criteria of evaluating a ruler. The Chinese (and Korean) practices of giving a king a ""posthumous temple name"" according to their behaviors, and having an office of historiographers who kept the records of state affairs every day, originated from this. + +​ + +**What is neo-Confucianism?** + +* Neo-Confucianism is an academic term to describe a later version of Confucianism enhanced with more **self-disciplinary principles and esoteric theologies** influenced by Buddhism and Daoism (e.g. In addition to ""be well-mannered,"" now you were taught to ""have less desires""). This first emerged during the medieval Song dynasty in China (around 12th century AD), synthesized by a scholar named [Zhu Xi](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zhu_Xi) +* I have limited information on how neo-Confucianism unfolded in China or Vietnam - when I know more, I will add more information. +* However, I know how it unfolded in Joseon Korea. **The 15th century medieval Joseon was a radically different society from the bronze age China in the 10th century BC**. In order to restore the ideal of the Zhou society (that had existed 2,500 years before) envisioned by Confucius, **Koreans went radical and dogmatic in applying the ancient social norms** to the contemporary life in Joseon Korea. For example, + * e.g. ""[**Mourn for three years when your parents die**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Filial_mourning)**""** \- even the Chinese did not literally abide by this, but Koreans did. There was a political storm caused by this which I will mention later on + * e.g. ""**Men and women do not sit together after the age 7**"" (source: Rite of Zhou) - this ancient social rule is not even well-known among the Chinese themselves, but Koreans followed it. Most modern Koreans still know this phrase + +\*\* In both China and Korea, **the rise of neo-Confucianism tended to go with the** [**harsher oppression**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women_in_ancient_and_imperial_China#Ming_dynasty) **of women** + +* e.g. **Three Fundamental Bonds and Five Constant Virtues** ([link](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Three_Fundamental_Bonds_and_Five_Constant_Virtues)) + * This ""principles"" that govern social relationships became central in Neo-Confucianism. Neo-Confucianists believed that humans could become sages through perfecting these relationships and virtues, by practicing proper rites + * Three bonds: + +>The lord is yang, the retainer is yin; the father is yang, the son is yin; the husband is yang, the wife is yin. The way of yin cannot proceed any where on its own.... Therefore, **the retainer depends on his lord to gain merit; the son depends on his father; the wife on her husband**, yin on yang, and the Earth on Heaven.... The Three \[Fundamental Bonds\] of the kingly way can be sought in Heaven + +\*\* ""**Men are the Heaven, women are the Earth**"" is a Korean proverb that originated from this idea - any modern Korean person has heard of this phrase + +* A neo-Confucian book ""Zhu Xi's Family Rites"" ([link](https://baike.baidu.hk/item/%E5%AE%B6%E7%A6%AE/8239843)) was also widely distributed in Joseon +* Interestingly, the emergence of neo-Confucianism coincided with the emergence of foot-binding practices in China + * even though this might be just a pure coincidence + +​ + +​ + +**Was Confucianism a bad ideology?** + +Confucianism as a political and state ideology is dead in all modern East Asian societies, as monarchy was abolished and no one considered the ancient agrarian Zhou society as an ideal anymore. + +The intention of Confucius and Confucianists was not bad. They idealized the Zhou dynasty because they viewed it as more moral than the pre-existing, more ancient [Shang dynasty](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shang_dynasty) where bloody extravagance and (allegedly) human sacrifice had been performed. They also thought that governance by ""rites and ethics"" was more humane than governance by impersonal law and systems. + +Confucianists were concerned about peace, stability, and overall welfare of the society. **Any serious Confucian politician would try to reform land distribution, store grains to give out to poor people in bad times, and lower the taxes for poor people**. + +* However, the Confucian ideal was always modelled after a distant past. **Confucian reforms were about the ""restoration"" of the ancient ideal**, not about finding a new, better way to do things. +* For example, Confucian scholars often thought that it is ideal to **restore the ""**[**well-field system**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Well-field_system)**"" that had existed in the 9th century BC**. *Jeong Yak-yong*, a Joseon reformist in the 18th century (explained in section 17), still argued for the restoration of this system. + +​ + +In the face of modernism, many Koreans started viewing neo-Confucianism as something **obsolete and oppressive** \- also, a ""wrong"" kind of ideology that significantly weakened *Joseon* in comparison to Japan. + +In retrospect, we might think that Confucianism **attributed a wrong factor** to the peace and stability of the early Zhou society. The Zhou society was stable and peaceful ""not because"" the people had the right ethics and social norms, but because it was just lucky in its timing and location. Early-Zhou (bronze age) China did not have a lot of external threats. The **bronze age civilization** was relatively safe and well-protected from the outside world, the same way Egypt was - **only under that condition, a purely agrarian society ruled by ""divine"" rites without military and commercial power** could peacefully exist. + +Confucianism also had an idealistic view of human beings (at least **men**) as being [innately good](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mencius) or as having a potential to be good. Neo-Confucianists constantly debated about human nature throughout Joseon Korea. This idealistic view, sadly, proved to be incompatible with the advent of the global market economy and the rise of new military powers (Japan, Western powers) + +* Compared to this, many dominant Western ideologies view human nature as flawed - in Christianity we are all sinners, and modern economics posit that we all pursue self-interests. This sobering view about human nature tends to require a more impersonal, universal system or principles. + +Overall, **the intention behind the idea of Confucianism was good, but idealizing a 2,500 years old bronze age society was essentially anachronistic** \- especially in places like 15th\~19th century Joseon. **Orthodoxy was a problem** in Joseon Korea. Over time, the focus of the Confucian debates in Joseon **moved from the substantial welfare of the people to the literal application of obsolete norms**, which turned out to be unproductive and oppressive. + +* Uh... I think we are perhaps seeing... a similar trend in the United States?? + +\*\* Although Confucianism died as a political ideology, it is still very much alive as a collection of social norms and symbolism in South Korea, and also in North Korea. Even the South Korean flag is based on the [ancient Confucian mysticism](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bagua) (based on a divination book mentioned above) + +\*\* There is also an interesting overlap between **Confucianism and communism. A society of happy farmers with equally distributed and communally owned lands** \-- doesn't that sound familiar? That was exactly the ideal of Maoism. ""The agrarian utopia on Earth"" -- to some extent, **the Maoist ideal society was essentially an old Confucian ideal without the scholarly class and monarchy**. + +* Both in Confucian and communist regimes, sadly, the agrarian utopias would often come to an ugly end. + +​ + +​ + +**How did neo-Confucianism transform the Joseon society?** + +* **Confucian orthodoxy**: The Joseon ruling class set up many Confucian academies and institutions throughout the country, and aimed for the transformation of the whole society based on the Confucian classics written over 2,000 years before. + * Why this happened is still a bit unclear to me. There was a similar trend in the Ming China (and perhaps Vietnam) - **rejecting foreign, impure influences** (Mongol, nomadic culture, Buddhism, etc) and trying to **go back to the pure Confucian ideal** + * **Joseon Korea was on steroids** with this, though. Perhaps because of the **much smaller size and ethnic homogeneity** of Korea, the Korean ruling class could implement the retro movement a lot more thoroughly than their Chinese counterpart did + * In the modern Korean Internet slang, extreme social conservatism is pejoratively called ""Confucian taliban""... for a good reason. + * The Korean ruling class considered their country as a small China, or even a more successful and purer successor of the ancient Chinese ideology. It was reflected in their cartographic worldview: in this [map](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gangnido) made in 1402, **China is at the center of the world, while Korea is the second largest country in the world** right next to it + +Impact: + +* (1) **Women's status and rights significantly deteriorated** + * This is one of the most conspicuous social changes commonly associated with the *Joseon* era. Women's status was not as radically low in the previous *Silla and Goryeo* \- *Silla* had several queen rulers. + * What happened in Joseon is like, with only a little bit of exaggeration, watching the Handmaid's Tale unfolding over 500 years. I made a separate post about this before: [https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/wzqxuu/womens\_oppression\_in\_joseon\_era/](https://www.reddit.com/r/korea/comments/wzqxuu/womens_oppression_in_joseon_era/) + * In a nutshell: **divorce was banned, a widow's remarriage was banned, women had no rights to inherit from her birth family, a woman's duty came to be serving her in-laws and producing a son** (to continue the **divine** unbroken patrilineal lineage of her in-law's clan)**, and patrilineal villages emerged** (brothers, fathers, sons, and male relatives live together while women are exchanged between villages at young ages), and so on - all this made a woman a slave to her husband and in-law family + * I heard that there's a Chinese proverb ""a woman without talent is virtuous"" - the same idea existed in Korea as well. Plus a woman was taught to ""Obey your father, then your husband, then your son"" +* (2) **Filial piety** + * Filial piety (孝, pronounced as 'hyo' in Korean) is a very important virtue in Confucianism; from the Western point of view, it is often viewed as (unquestioned) **deference and obedience to one's parents** \- that still influences the culture of modern East Asia + * Somewhere in the Confucian classics it is mentioned ""Mourn for three years when your parents die"" - a renowned neo-Confucianist named Jeong Mong-ju [literally followed this](https://folkency.nfm.go.kr/en/topic/detail/215) by **spending the entire three year living in a shack beside his parents’ graves**. After this, three year mourning became very popular throughout Korea + * During the war with Japan, some generals and soldiers in the war left the battlefield when they heard the news of the death of their parents to mourn for three years +* (3) **the** [**purge**](https://read.dukeupress.edu/journal-of-korean-studies/article-abstract/22/1/101/166804/Buddhism-during-the-Choson-Dynasty-1392-1910-A?redirectedFrom=fulltext) **of** [**Buddhism**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Korean_Buddhism#Suppression_under_the_Joseon_Dynasty_(1392%E2%80%931910)) **and shamanism** + * **Buddhist temples in cities were either closed** or transformed into a Confucian shrine - That's why most Buddhist temples in Korea are now deep in the mountains. **Shamans (mostly female)** were also heavily oppressed and ostracized + * But many Joseon women preserved their strong faiths in Buddhism and Shamanism - **Confucianism offered spiritual solace only for men in a patrilineal clan**. Women went to Buddhist monks and shamans to pray, confess their problems, and cleanse their souls. Buddhism is still a large religion in Korea (despite the spread of Christianity), and about [50,000 shamanic rituals](https://www.npr.org/2021/05/08/973254913/shamanism-endures-in-both-koreas-but-in-the-north-shamans-risk-arrest-or-worse) are still held each year in Greater Seoul now. +* (4) **Centralization and land reform** + * In the previous *Goryeo* period, [only 1/3 of administrative units](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Injong_of_Goryeo) were under the direct control of the central government. The *Joseon* government started sending **magistrate**s who passed the centralized civil service exam to most localities. They wore a special kind of clothes ([image](https://imgur.com/a/11djvLr)) + * There are many folktales where a new magistrate is killed by female ghosts in a new village. There's a theory that they were actually poisoned and killed by old local clans + * There's an interesting theory that there was [a unbroken chain of slavery](https://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/nation/2022/09/638_289137.html) in Korea for 1,400 years since the time of *Unified Silla*, because the ruling class never changed (comparable to France) + * While *Joseon* did not abolish slavery, it **abolished ancient slave ghettos** called [hyang/so/bugok](https://www.wikipe.wiki/wiki/ko/%ED%96%A5%C2%B7%EC%86%8C%C2%B7%EB%B6%80%EA%B3%A1). They were most likely villages that had lost the war in ancient warfares (comparable to Japanese [Buraku](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Burakumin), which still exists). + * Confucian scholars cared about the **fair distribution of lands**. In the early Joseon period when the society was healthy, land reform was the most important political issue. +* (5) **Anti-commercialism, Isolationism, and anti-militarism** + * This perhaps was the factor that most heavily influenced the geopolitics of Joseon. Given that Confucianism was basically a retro ideology that idealized an agrarian past, Joseon scholars **put agriculture (rice farming) on a pedestal, while discouraging trades and commercial activities** + * [Confucian hierarchy of occupation](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_occupations): **Scholars > Farmers > Craftsmen > Merchants** \>>> Slaves + * The legacy of this is still alive - for example, blue collar technicians in South Korea are still heavily looked down upon compared to college graduates + * **Isolationism** \- Joseon kept only [one port](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Busan) open for Japanese traders. There was still a little [Muslim](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Islam_in_Korea#Decree_against_the_Huihui_community) merchant community by the beginning of the 15th century, but they were forced to abandon their headgear and close their mosques. This contrasts with the previous *Silla* and *Goryeo* period where the ruling class engaged in international trades more actively + * The domestic trades were also not active - the government collected taxes in the form of agricultural produces and regional specialties, instead of coins. In other words, the economy was largely a barter economy. **The anti-commercial and frugal taste of the ruling class** was reflected on cultural products - the porcelains became [simply white](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joseon_white_porcelain), often without any decorations <> in contrast to much more sophisticated [Goryeo wares](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goryeo_ware)*.* *Goryeo* used to export *Goryeo wares* to China and other countries, but more crude Joseon porcelains lost markets. + * **The clothes were white** **without any color or decorations** for both upper class and commoners + * The influence of anti-commercialism was limited in Ming China because the Chinese economy was already way too large, and silver was pouring in from, for example, Portugal. However, the anti-commercialism and isolationism **effectively impoverished the nation** + * Lastly, anti-militarism. Confucianism (and thus Joseon) idealized an ancient agrarian society in the 10th century BC **when there was no external threats** such as powerful nomadic groups or Japan. The Chinese Emperor [Wen of Han](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emperor_Wen_of_Han) dynasty (in the 2nd century BC) was praised for levying only 2\~3% of tax on the population, but it was only possible in an ancient time before the rise of nomadic military powers and later, the West and Japan + * However, based on the Confucian orthodox, the Joseon scholarly ruling class paid little attention to military organizations or intelligence on other nations, only focusing on internal affairs, royal succession, and ""rites."" Even after the devastating experience with Mongols. **This effectively rendered the country powerless when Japan successfully modernized** + * The same trend occurred in Ming China as well - resulting in them being easily conquered by Manchus (former Jurchens) later on. [This book](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_the_Loss_of_Vietnam) says that the same trend existed in Vietnam too. + +​ + +Overall, neo-Confucianism as a retro ideology dominated the Joseon society for 500 years, and its legacy still lingers on. Many Koreans believe that this laid the foundation for the **social conservatism and patriarchy** that's still deep-rooted in South Korea, and **isolationism and three generations of patrilineal succession** in North Korea. + +* I'm not saying patriarchy doesn't exist in other countries (including the West), but for example, South Korea has the largest gender gap in income among the OECD countries. +* **Samsung Lee family and North Korean Kim family still follow the same pattern of succession** \- [agnatic primogeniture](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Primogeniture#Agnatic_primogeniture) \- the eldest son inherits no matter what, and female/maternal lines are ignored. The Japanese (also Roman) way of taking a competent man into the family as a son-in-law is unheard, and unthinkable. **Paternal blood is the most important**. + +​ + +​ + +\------------------- + +Oh well this was a very long intro, lol. The history of the Joseon is extremely well documented, but many materials are still only available in Korean. + +In this series of post, I'll introduce the 500 years of Joseon history at a level that most Koreans are familiar with. The whole post got crazy long so I had divide it, but still this is not that much deep. I divided the history into **5 phases and 22 time periods** that involve a major event or monarch. Most Koreans are familiar with the way I described Phase 1\~4. I went a lot deeper in the Phase 5 (the last phase before the annexation to Japan), and provide a little bit different interpretation than what most Koreans are familiar with, especially with regards to the role of the last queen Myeongseong. + +* This post is very monarch-centered because that's how the [Veritable Records of the Joseon Dynasty](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Veritable_Records_of_the_Joseon_Dynasty) was written, the main source of what we know about Joseon. **Many Koreans know a lot about Joseon kings and their stories**. Interestingly, however, I heard that North Koreans do not teach people about the history of monarchs. They instead focus on generals, folk heroes and artists. + +​ + +\----------- + +The post continues with + +​ + +* Phase 1. Early prosperity \[15th century\] +* Phase 2. The Cycles of Literati Purges \[16th century\] +* Phase 3. Japan and Qing Invasions \[the early 17th century\] +* Phase 4. Deepening Orthodoxy and Isolation \[1640s\~1860s\] +* Phase 5. Into a Frightening New World \[1864\~1910\] + +I will post later.",0 +4506,Mercenaries may have helped ancient Greeks turn the tide of war | Science. ,0 +4507,"Bookclub Wednesday, May 04, 2022. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist) + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4508,"Educational podcast about the lives of citizens immediately following the fall of great empires?. I have hours of time on my hands where I can listen, but not watch or read the content I would like to hear about. So a podcast that focuses on audio would be amazing. + +Anyway, I've learned plenty about the military and macro-political aspects of the rise and fall of various great empires but I feel like we hear little about the lives of the everyday civilian during the falls. For whatever reason, I have a particular interest in the fall of Nazi Germany and the USSR, so I would love to learn about the lives of every day civilians during and immediately after the fall of these two empires. + +For instance, I heard briefly in a previous podcast that the industrial sectors of Russia after the fall of the USSR were run but warlords which eventually became the oligarchs we see today. I would like to learn more about this specifically, and the ways it affected the lives of the workers, how they were paid, how goods were distributed, etc. + +I also have a particular interest in the lives of civilians all over the world in the immediate aftermath of world war 2. + +Thanks folks :)",0 +4509,"Why did the U.S. involve itself in the Philippine-American War?. I've been trying to find out more information about the Philippine-American War (or the Philippine Insurrections depending on how you want to view it). Coming on the coattails of the Spanish-American War, where the stated goal of the U.S. was to free Spanish colonies from the tyranny of the Spanish Imperial governments, why did the U.S. immediately turn around and fight a war against the Philippine people, who, once free of the Spanish Tyranny, formed their own elected government and declared independence? + +I would say it was the imperial ambitions of the U.S. at the time, but the U.S. government turned right around 14 years after it ended and said, ""Oh yeah, we're going to give you independence at some point"" with the passage of the Jones Act. From what I've read of the Spanish-American War, McKinley wasn't actually enthusiastic about fighting it even though his Congress was, so I don't what what the impetus for the U.S. trying to hold onto the Philippines was from a foreign policy perspective. From what little bit I can gather of Philippine-American War, it seems like General Otis may have gone a little overboard or off the reservation. I also can't find anything about the U.S. wanting any kind of precious natural resources from the Philippines. + +I'd say all wars are stupid and wasteful, but this one seems especially so. 4,200 Americans and 200,000+ Filipinos died for what end? Any recommended reading would be appreciated.",0 +4510,"Why did no country make a colony on the northern tip of an Antarctica?. Pros: + • No nation has any (serious) claim + • There is no indigenous population + • Right next to one of the biggest trade routes in the world + • Close enough to Chile and Argentia to buy supplies easily + • Not that cold, it's closer to the equator than most of norway or alaska + • Perfect base for reseach trips to the rest of Antarctica + • Great for hunting whales, seals and penguins + • Great place for fishing + • Would give your country a good claim to the rest of the continent, in case any natural resources be found or something. + • Very few plants and animals means a lot of empty space + • A jagged coastline means lots of places to build a small town, many of which will have cliffs and such for natural shelter. + +Cons: + • cold + • windy + • far away + • can't grow crops + • expensive + +I mean, those cons are a big deal, but Surely it would be worth it for one of the big naval empires like Britain, France, Spain, Portugal & the USA or chile & Argentina. Obviously now we have the Antarctic treaty, which forbids it, but surely it would have made sense in the height of the colonial era, or when whaling was common, or the early cold war.",0 +4511,"I think I found a cook book made by Thomas edisons wife.. The cover has an image of Edison with his name ""TH. A. Edison. The book itself is labeled ""the Edison Compostion"". The pages inside have worn handwritten recipes. The book is in VERY poor condition but its still holding together and the text is all legible. + +The most I could find on Google was that Edisons wife wrote cookbooks. There are no images on Google that match the cover of this book. + +Does anyone know what I have?",0 +4512,Scientists Reconstruct Face of 19th-Century Man Accused of Being a Vampire. ,0 +4513,"When it comes to Cold War history and its relationship with the Anti Apartheid Movement which is more accurate to say? That Nelson Mandela and the ANC was allied with the Soviet Union or that they were part of the Non-aligned coalition?. During the history of the Cold War there were 2 camps that emerged. First was the camp of the West and its allies, especially the N.A.T.O alliance. And the Soviet Bloc and its allies in the communist alliance. Then you had a 3rd section called the Non Aligned movement. Leaders such as Ghana's Kwame Nkrumah, Egypt's Nasser, Tito from Yugoslavia. Then you have a complicated factor in this history and that is leaders who had one foot in one of the Cold War camps and another foot in the non aligned movement. For example Castro was on paper a Soviet ally. But under his leadership Cuba was also part of the Non aligned movement, with him being the general secretary from 1979-1983. On the other side of this coin Suharto of Indonesia was a Western ally. But at the same time kept Indonesia in the non aligned movement. Nehru of India was non aligned but India leaned more to the Soviet side during his leadership. + +Now when you add Nelson Mandela and his organisation the ANC into this complicated mix its interesting. Because he and the ANC initially sought assistance from the United States in the apartheid struggle. But they were turned down in 1960 according to him(that was during the Eisenhower Administration). Later they sought assistance from the Soviet Union and especially Cuba and they received it. In 1961 when Che Guevara published his classic on guerilla warfare Mandela and the ANC leaders incorporated it into the doctrines of the military wing the formed called UmKhonto Wesizwe(Spear of the Nation). In 1962 Che met Spear of a Nation fighters. Before this Oliver Tambo(who would serve as leader of the ANC in exile when Mandela was imprisoned) would visit the Soviet Union to have advisers train ANC fighters and also developed ties with the East German government. Later on when when the South African border war developed in the various theatres such as Angola, Namibia, and Zambia the ANC allied with the independence fighters their as well as the Cuban armed forces and the MPLA marxists in Angola, receiving training in Cuban training camps present as well as participating with Cuban regulars in the theatres of war against the apartheid regimes military. + +At the same time the ANC maintain ties with some Western countries where they could get support such as the Swedish government, the Australian government and especially the Canadian government. Canada is interesting too because Mandela and the ANC developed ties under Canada's conservative governments(John Diefenbaker and Brian Mulroney). Furthermore Mandela emphasised repeatedly the ANC's independence in terms of its relations with foreign nations and a bigger bulk of his support came from Third world nations who at the time were explicitly non aligned such as Ben Bella's Algeria or Nasser's Egypt. So would Mandela and the ANC fall more in the Soviet camp or the non aligned camp from a historical perspective?",0 +4514,How looking through glass made us view the world in a different ligh. ,0 +4515,"Dr. David Kertzer has published a new book detailing Pope Pious XII's relationship with the Axis Powers during WWII. What Kertzer, a Vatican historian, discovered in the Vatican's own archives something he calls 'flabbergasting'. ",0 +4516,Australia: Evolution of a Nation - Episode One: The First Australians. ,0 +4517,"Any recommendations for a history of cultures/society documentary with a focus on the impacts of geography?. After some searching, I haven't been able to find anything. + +Functionally, what I'm looking for is an overview of human history, or a more specific look at a particular culture which looks at its development through the lens of geography. + +For examples: +The Mongol hordes were so successful as nomadic raiders because of the flat steppe. +Russia continually invading mainland Europe to secure its border on the North European Plain.",0 +4518,"Did people ever wear swords strapped across their backs in history?. You see it a lot in movies, TV, and games, a swordsman who wears a sword on their back, hilt just above their shoulder. But as I thought about it more, the less sense it seemed to make. I imagine it would be a comfortable way to carry a sword, it wouldn't get in the way of much, but the unsheathing process would be quite difficult. + +To unsheathe the sword, you'd have to reach over your back, grab the handle, and pull it straight up until it was out of the sheathe so you can use it. But for most sword lengths, as you pull it straight up and out, your arm would be fully extended before you'd be able to get the sword all the way out of the sheath. + +Of course this depends on the length of the sword, arm length of the individual, etc. But I imagine it'd be a difficult process regardless. So I was wondering if this is just something we see in media because it looks cool or if there is historical precedent for this method of sword carrying? Perhaps the sheathes you'd wear across your back would be designed differently from traditional sheathes?",0 +4519,"I am looking for the name of an allied soldier from WW1 who has an amazing story. First I'm sorry if I'm on the wrong subreddit, but it is this kind of story which makes History amazing + + +A few years ago I heard the story of an Allied soldier from the Commonwealth (I think he was Australian) that stuck with me. + +During a trench attack in France (probably in 1916, 17 or 18) he found himself in a vast shell hole with a German. At the end of a hand-to-hand combat, he mortally wounded the soldier German. Dying, he gave to the Australian soldier a letter (and possibly some personal items) to send to the German soldier's family. + +And somehow, the Australian managed to post these letters and the German family received them. Besides, I even believe that after the war the 2 families kept in touch + +I could not find the name of the Australian soldier because I would like to see the original wikipedia page",0 +4520,"How come the Ottomans didn’t attempt to colonize the Americas?. The Ottomans were a great power in Europe at the time, and had ambitions of conquering up to Morocco to build themselves an Atlantic coast to colonize the Americas from, considering they have been proven fair maritime explorers through their expeditions in East Africa, the Indian Ocean, and later Indonesia, how come they were so uninterested in building colonies in America? Were they not concerned that the west would attempt to christianize the natives? Did they not have the foresight to predict the tremendous profits resulted from colonization, especially after the witnessing the successes of the Portuguese, Castilian, and Aragonese states?",0 +4521,"What battles or tactics are involved with the Château de Puilaurens?. The [Château de Puilaurens](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ch%C3%A2teau_de_Puilaurens) has a very striking architecture, standing on the top of a very accidented rock, its building alone raises questions of how it was done. But what got me wondering was its use in battle. + +I could not find any resource talking about sieges or tactical uses of the Chateau. The only reference is about its involvement during theAlbigensian Crusade against the Cathar heresy on the 13th century. + +My assumption is that it'd be near to impossible to invaded it without artillery and still very hard even with guns. But that would be necessary, as it also seems to me that maintaining supply of the castle, its small area and impractical sorties. + +I imagine it being used as a very strong position to defend a lord from a stronger force while waiting for reinforcements . + +Maybe it was little used, but there are similar structures that can reveal what's its intended use. + +But I don't have anything to back or correct this assumptions, so I ask you.",0 +4522,"Cost of taking a train to move out west vs a wagon. I started watching the show '1883', and the first episode has a group of german immigrants taking a wagon train from texas to oregon because they could not afford the locomotive. Was it really cheaper to travel 2000 miles via wagon instead of a train in 1883? The show mentioned it was $200 per family to take the wagons, but in reality did poor immigrants still migrate via wagon despite all of the risks instead of the train? How much was a train ticket during this time that would make a family even consider going via wagon?",0 +4523,"The legacy of Napoleons invasion of Egypt. After listening to the fantastic “rest is history” podcast on Napoleons invasion of Egypt, I have suddenly become fascinated with all things Napoleon. + +He appears to have instigated the first of what we might know call “Liberal interventionist” foreign policy of the kind practiced by Western powers over the next 200 years in such places as Vietnam, Bosnia and Iraq. (If any can suggest any earlier examples do let me know?). France, a country having recently undergone an enormous social and political revolution, felt the need during their invasion of Egypt to not only conquer the land of the Nile Delta in order to cut off the land bridge between the Mediterranean and India for the British, but also also expunge the enlightenment values of “Liberté, Egalité, Fraternité"" to the bewildered Egyptian subjects. + +I am particularly interested in the long term legacy of the invasion, both on the French and the Egyptians, if anyone has read any good books on the subject do let me know. I have listed a few examples below of the impact below on the two countries. + +France - discovered field of Egyptology, Birth of orientalist movement for 18th century (see galleries dedicated in musee d’orsea and Lourve), expansion of French presence in North Africa (with ramifications to this modern day, as the tension between secular France and Islam persists) + +Egypt - rise in European ideas of nationalism, liberty and secularism , weakening of ottoman state, modernization efforts of later rulers such as Muhammad Ali (pivoting long term towards western methods) and ultimate failure to withstand European colonialism (the country becoming a British protectorate after First World War) + + +[The rest is history](https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-rest-is-history/id1537788786?i=1000543316217)",0 +4524,New Fake Russian History: The Costly Winter War With Finland. ,0 +4525,"Is the story of the French Balloon Duel in 1808 true?. I've found many [articles](https://www.geriwalton.com/a-french-balloon-due/) on the internet describing the story of a duel between two Frenchmen, Monsieur de Grandpré and Monsieur le Pique, who decided to settle a dispute over a lover by having a balloon duel. The story goes that the men constructed identical balloons and went up in the air at 9 o'clock in the morning with their seconds and armed with blunderbusses. The balloons ascended from the gardens of Tuileries surrounded by a crowd of curious onlookers who thought they were observing a balloon race. After a signal was given, le Pique fired the first shot and missed. Grandpré then fired, who's shot hit its mark and le Pique’s balloon collapsed and descended with “fearful rapidity” who then hit a house top and were ""dashed to pieces."" + +This story sounds insane, but I could believe it actually happened in this wacky world of ours. It seems that the source for this story is a newspaper article: “A Balloon Duel,” in *Buckingham Advertiser and Free Press*, 25 April 1863, p. 2. Notably, this article was published 55 years after the fact, so I'm curious how accurate this story is? + +Another source I found was The Book Of Days, by Robert Chalmers, published 1863, [page 809 of volume 1](http://books.google.com.au/books?id=2LIMAAAAYAAJ&pg=PA809&dq=book+of+days+pique+grandpre&hl=en&sa=X&ei=hv-RT-H3HInsmAXUzITVAQ&redir_esc=y#v=onepage&q&f=false).",0 +4526,The Myth of the “Maltese” Cross in the American Fire Service. ,0 +4527,"Why Isn’t the New Testament in Latin?. I could be off about this one, but I read at one point that the reason the New Testament was written in Greek was because it was the lingua franca of that area, owing to the centuries the Greek Seuclid Empire held dominion over Canaan, but by the time of the early Christian writers, the place had come under Roman rule, and usually, when the Romans take over an area, people quickly begin start speaking vulgar latin (see Gaul, Hispania, Romania, Provence). So my question is, why was it that the linguistic influence Rome usually had over its conquered territories did nothing to dislodge Greek as the language of choice for the composers of the bible?",0 +4528,A documentation of the German November Revolution in 1918 by Jonas Ceika. ,0 +4529,"Goldenrod Land Speed Car. So I was in the Henry Ford museum in Michigan. They had this section in the exhibit on race cars through out the decades. There I found the original Bob and Bill Summer’s Goldenrod Land Speed Car made in 1965. I found it fascinating because it held world record for the fastest car till 1991. + +However there was no video shown on how or what it looked like running. + +Come back to the hotel room, hours later, with family and my uncle bought a book about some of the cars from the gift shop. That car was written in and I’d mention about not seeing a video. Then I looked on YouTube and Vimeo and saw nothing. + +I know I could look deeper and I should before asking here but I really don’t know what to look for after that. I will say the Henry Ford Museum dose have a video on the car on YouTube, but no evidence of recording. + +https://youtu.be/i1cw6BdAPqA + +There is recorded evidence of the Golden Arrow from 1928/9, that’s a different car. + +https://youtu.be/VoG4fgAk9S0 + +If anyone here has any leads or any other subreddits that I should ask that would be really appreciated.",0 +4530,"Simple/Short/Silly History Questions Saturday, May 07, 2022. Welcome to our Simple/Short/Silly history questions Saturday thread! + +This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post. + +So, do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away! + +Of course all our [regular rules and guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/index) still apply and to be just that bit extra clear: + +- Questions need to be historical in nature. +- Silly does **not** mean that your question should be a joke. + +--- + +*r/history also has [a discord server](https://discord.gg/7XkFuez) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts*",0 +4531,The Gladiatrix – The Roman gladiators that were women. ,0 +4532,"In Miami, a Prehistoric Civilization Lies Beneath Condo Towers.. ",0 +4533,Archive shows medieval nun faked her own death to escape convent. ,0 +4534,"You ever think about how incredible the Norse were?. We never talk about how the Vikingr of the dark ages somehow sailed across the entire Atlantic in their little ships. + +You're talking ships that are long but not deep, + +They weren't like ships of the 1700s or even like Greek Trieme, + +You're talking about ships where you just sit in and row. + + There was no upper or lower deck. There was just a floor. + +If you were lucky they had tables in some of them you could sit in, and maybe tents to sleep in, but they were essentially like rafts. + +And yet somehow, they managed to get to Iceland, England, France, Ireland, even America. + +They sailed across the ocean in a tiny flat little ship, knowing that they could be sailing for days, even months + +The world could've been flat and they could've fallen off the edge, or there could've been sea dragons or sea monsters + +And they took this risk, + +Yet SOMEHOW they pressed on, determined to find new land. + +It's just mindblowing. + +To put everything on a gamble, European ships were destroyed by waves and storms but somehow Vikingr ships withstood it all. + +It just astounds me compared to other cultures how fearless the Norse were, + +How purely dominant and powerful. + +They traveled the coast of Africa, ventured to Byzantium, Arabia..everywhere except Japan, Antartica, Oceania, China and South America (maybe others?) + + +My point is, there was no other warrior culture on the planet as incredible as the Norse were, + +They weren't even 6'8 with bulging muscles and horn helmets, + +They (probably) weren't even covered in tattoos, (only 1 Arabic account mentions it and we aren't even sure if was akin to modern tattoos) + +But their presence and sheer tactics overwhelmed the Angles, Jutes and Saxons, impressed Basil II of Byzantium enough to become his personal guards, enslaved the Celts (who themselves were incredibly vicious warriors) and managed to even baffle historians of today. + +The whole of the dark and middle ages was in their grip, and their legacy (while heavily romanticized and commercialized at times) couldn't be any further from something truly awe inspiring.",0 +4535,"Why do you like history? What aspects of the subject fascinate you? What advice would you have for someone looking to find their passion for history?. So I am curious to understand why history buffs like history. Why do you guys like thinking, reading and talking about it? When did this interest start and how did it develop? + +I myself wouldn’t exactly I am “passionate” about history but I wanna read and know history, because I want to understand how we got here(aka 2022) and how different people took different journey through time to get here. +I am looking to develop my passion for the subject along with my knowledge and would love to here your answers, opinions and any advice for me if you have any!",0 +4536,"Did Samurai really follow a daily code of honor?. Hundreds of years later it seems like people act as if Bushido were some daily occurrence in the life of a Samurai and that we too can make it a daily practice in our lives. + +I came across this article referencing how a company's software developers were following the Bushido code and it made me wonder: Is that a real thing or is it lore? + +Obviously it sounds cool to say you adhere to an ""ancient"" code that follows principles of self control and honor. I understand why people would be drawn to the idea that there is some sort of timeless wisdom in warrior code. But was there an actual warrior code? + +Were there rules passed down from generation to generation that samurai followed or did some historian just find a reference to it once and subsequently an entire lore was built around it because it sounds nice?",0 +4537,"What is the oldest tribe or clan that has been existing throughout history? And also, the oldest ethnicity?. By this I dont mean tribes like e.g. Amazonas tribes or Aborigines or Khoisan of Africa. I am also not asking for family lines. Ive heard of Chinese family lines going back to the Zhou dynasty. But I am interested to know of broader groups of an identity that would also manage to keep their language and more or less their culture. The continuation of its location is secondary. Obviously, for this question we can exclude the cultural change (industrialisation and huge advancement of technology etc.) that happened the last centuries. + +E.g. the Guran tribe of Kurds goes ultimately back to the Iranic tribe of the Avestan people of ca. 1200 BC and has kept the language (continuously the same) and all the core aspects of culture. Its the oldest continuously living group. Arguably with the Yazidi Kurds and perhaps with the Indo-Aryans too. Since the Egyptians became assimilated to Arabs in language and culture and the Greeks became Christians (change of culture). I am not knowledgeable about the Chinese in this case. Ive only taken some information from Wikipedia. The **Han** Chinese people are not as old as the Indo-Aryans or as Guran either. Am not sure how the Chinese prior to the Han are connected and/or interrelated with the start of the Chinese from the Han dynasty onward. + +Thanks in advance.",0 +4538,"How did Stanley Baldwin survive as Tory Party leader for so long?. Stanley Baldwin is remembered by most as a successful Conservative Prime minister, governing the country on three separate occasions between May 1923 to January 1924, from November 1924 to June 1929, and from June 1935 to May 1937. + +But for the early years of his leadership, Baldwin was of questionable talent as a leader. Stanley Baldwin was popular enough to command enormous majorities at the ballot box by the mid-1930s, but he forced a hung parliament in 1923 when an election was arguably unnecessary (allowing for the first Labour Government) and again in 1929. Many political parties have lost their position for far less than this. It seems that he should have lost his mandate in 1923, as most leaders would have. What was it about Baldwin, who had many internal enemies, that allowed him to remain leader despite odds? Was there no clear alternative to succeed him?",0 +4539,"What exactly did medieval regiments or companies even look like?. Specifically, I am speaking about late crusade era armies (1200s). I am very confused as to how divisions of soldiers actually functioned. By this, I mean how many men were usually in each “company” - if there even was such a thing? How deep and wide was the company when in formation? Did they move as later companies would (i;e detached), or all in one huge line? I am specifically referring to infantry in this case, but it’s hard to tell even in general. In movies it’s usually this huge line of people with no organization whatsoever, whereas in video games you generally have different detachments of some hundreds of men you can move around. Obviously, neither of these mediums are indicative of reality, and so I am curious as to how it often worked in reality for painting some 1:1 6mm models haha. Many thanks for the help!",0 +4540,Tangled Tale of the Fugitive Nazi and the Syrian Secret Service. ,0 +4541,The Davison Freeway in Detroit was the first US urban freeway and was open for use in 1942. ,0 +4542,"Dr Adrian Gheorghe co-author of ""Corpus Draculianum"" explains the possibilities where Vlad The Impaler could be buried and how can he be identified using modern technology [ENG SUB]. ",0 +4543,"How can modern civilization keep records to last for hundreds, thousands of years?. A lot of history has been lost. Be it due to wars, tragedy, or the deterioration of texts, it's unfortunate but it's true. We've gotten very good at putting the puzzle together from the remaining pieces, but it's a puzzle nonetheless. + + +How could we, in modern times, best go about recording our own knowledge? Of course, the internet is a simple answer, but the internet is not permanent. Vaults exist, like the seed vault, that could be used to house texts-- in addition to things such as the library of congress, etc. + + +What can the everyday person do to write about modern life and ensure as best as possible that those writings will live to hopefully one day be rediscovered in the future, in the event of global catastrophe? + + +As a side note, I'm not implying that I think ""the end is nigh"" or anything along those lines. I just want to make sure that no information is lost over time. It never hurts to prepare, I suppose. For instance, if a modern burning of Alexandria were to occur-- the internet, some way or another, is lost-- or perhaps some catastrophe or circumstance that would cause a deterioration of physical texts were to occur, what can we do to maintain access to all of the information we have now? All of the history, culture, scientific development-- it's heartbreaking to think of all the information lost over time, and more so to think of all the information that WILL be lost over time.",0 +4544,"Thai (Southeast Asian Historical Literature). I am curious as to what the oldest extant written records or literature are for the Southeast Asian countries/languages such as Thai, Cambodian, Burmese, etc. + +A cursory search showed that the oldest extant Thai written work is from the 1800's. However, that seems shockingly recent considering what a rich and long history the culture has. I could maybe chalk it up to the hot climate but plenty of Vietnamese records seem to exist from several centuries ago. Perhaps that is thanks to the Sino literary culture that the Vietnamese adopted. + +Also, I am curious how writing was done in SEA (besides Vietnam). It seems they did not use the brush and ink typical of the Sinosphere countries so what were the everyday writing instruments? Does pre-modern calligraphy art exist?",0 +4545,"At what point does a British person living in the American colonies becomes an American?. I have been recently reading a book about American History and I am wondering where is the line that when crossed makes us call someone an American rather than a British living in the American colonies. I feel like we can see this example happening nowadays in Ukraine as well as historically they have been part of the Russian Empire, which begs the question again when does someone become a Ukrainian if X generations ago their grandparents were Russian? + +Is it number of passed generations or cultural differences?",0 +4546,"Letter home during Japanese occupation, October 1945. *A Navy Intelligence officer reflects on his experiences in Japan in the immediate aftermath of the surrender.* + +ISBN 0-87011-638-X + +Otis Cary (Ed) + +From a Ruined Empire + +a sample: + + +Oct 28, 1945 + +From: Sherry Moran in Tokyo + +To: Mrs Frances Moran in Ohio + + +Dear Fritz, + + It is probably too soon after the war for people in America to realize what an amazing course the occupation has taken in its first eight weeks. Even I, who expected the Japanese to surprise us by their adaptability, who always thought it was a mistake to hold that the Germans were simply misguided human beings, susceptible of re-education, while the Japanese were animals to whom decent behavior could not be taught--even I find the Japanese reception of us heartening beyond all previous expectation. And I cannot help but wish that there were some adequate way to convey my feeling to you at home, to make you sense what it is like for us living and working among the Japanese. + +I was going to tell you about the flood of letters which Japanese have been sending General MacArthur, who is now regarded by many as a savior, in approval of his policies. Some of the letters have been translated, and their general contents published in the *Nippon Times*; twenty-four letters in favor of prosecuting Japanese war criminals, sixteen in criticism of the Japanese government, and so forth. But a sample of this kind is not very convincing evidence of the Japanese state of mind. It has no statistical validity, unless one perhaps considered how unlikely it was that even this many letters were sent by Germans to their Allied masters. And it will not impress you with the genuineness and human appeal which the same sentiments convey when presented, as they are to us, in the context of personal relationships in the course of everyday life. + +One day recently I had to visit someone who lived outside of Tokyo. When my party reached the town, we stopped to inquire the way at the local police station, and, as always seems to happen, we were furnished with a policeman for a guide. I had hoped this could be avoided, since the man we were calling on might be frightened when he saw us approaching with a police escort. It proved unavoidable, however; the policeman insisted on coming along for what I later learned was his first ride in a jeep. The ride was a bumpy one, of course, and conversation was difficult above the thump and rattle which marked our passage over each hole in the road. But the policeman kept looking at me as if he had something important to say, and when we ran into a short stretch of fairly smooth road, he finally came out with it. + +""I am truly grateful to America for finally bringing us peace. Before, it seemed as if hardship and suffering would never end, and now suddenly it is gone."" + +""Do you think that everyone looks at it the same way?"" I asked. + +""Oh yes, almost everyone"" + +""How about the police?"" + +""I think that most of the police feel as I do. I realize that we have a reputation for oppressing the people and preventing criticism of the war, but what else could you expect the police to do in wartime?"" + +""Well, the bad reputation of the police did not start with the war. Their tyranny has been well-known for years."" + +He was stopped for a few seconds, then remarked that he had not joined the police until a few years ago and could not speak about their earlier conduct. But he was sure that even the police were struck by the fine behavior of the American troops. ""They are"", he said, ""an inspiration to us; as representatives of democracy, they are winning many Japanese over to your way of doing things."" + +""How long do you think we will have to stay in Japan to get the country started on the right road?"" + +""Sah...(the Japanese equivalent of ""You've got me there""). It is hard to say how long it might be. But I think you should stay until the job is done"". + +I do not think the policeman told me these things just to please me. He was under no obligation to say anything more than ""Right"", ""Left"", or ""Straight ahead"", when we came to crossroads along the way. He may not, it is true, have been speaking for the majority of the police in Japan, but his sentiments must be those of many Japanese, for otherwise Americans would not find it so safe and pleasant as they do to travel around the countryside. These trips frequently take us far from the protection of any occupying force, and it would be an easy thing for hostile elements to do away with us, leaving no trace or clue to our disappearance. On dark nights I have traveled alone in a jeep, unarmed, in wild country far from an occupation outpost. A well-placed boulder in the road, at the end of a sharp curve, might have thrown the jeep and myself into a deep canyon, where the wreckage would not be found until the next day, too late to start a search for saboteurs. + +Almost every day I meet people who speak as the policeman did. Only once so far have I run into a person whose feeling toward Americans did not quite fall into the common pattern. In our barracks building there was a girl named Aiko, who served in the mess upstairs. When our medical facilities were well enough equipped, it was decided to test the waitresses and kitchen help for venereal disease and tuberculosis. Aiko was declared tubercular and had to stop waiting on tables, but apparently she was not anxious to look for a job elsewhere. Her home was in Northern Japan and she had no desire to go back there; so, I learned on speaking to her in the hallway one day that an arrangement had been made for her to stay on doing maid's work while the medical people continued to treat her tuberculosis. + +""I never expected them to be so kind,"" she said, ""I hoped they would let me stay on, but it did not occur to me that I would also be given medical treatment. The kindness of Americans amazes me. Your arrival here has meant just the reverse of what we were told it would mean. It actually seems better that Japan did lose the war."" + +A few days later I heard that Aiko was acting as an assistant to the Army doctor who treated the Japanese personnel working in the building. He had established a dispensary on our floor, and I began to notice that Aiko seemed to have a lot of spare time on her hands, for she would hang around the officers' quarters and occasionally offer to darn someone's socks. I also noticed that she gradually adopted the un-Japanese habits of chewing gum and smoking cigarettes, and that she attempted to enhance her natural attractiveness by an increasing use of make-up, which must, I thought, have been received from an American admirer. + +One night after supper I was standing in the hall, eating an apple and thinking about what I would say in a letter I was about to write to you. Aiko came down the hall and sat down at a desk near me. She seemed less gay than usual, avoided my gaze, and hardly answered my ""Good evening"". When I asked if anything was the matter she was slow to speak, covering her mouth with her hands so that I could barely understand her request for me to sit down at the table and talk a while. + +""You know about my tuberculosis, don't you, and the work I am supposed to be doing for the doctor in his dispensary."" + +""Yes, I know. Have they told you to leave?"" + +""Oh, no, it is not that. I am not really consumptive. I am sure the doctor just said that to make me work for him; he knows that I can't get a job anywhere else after being declared consumptive. You see, there is really no dispensary here at all and the doctor does not even intend to establish one. I have tried to ask him for work, but he doesn't understand my poor English. Won't you please speak to him about it? Ask him to get me some work and a girl to keep me company at night."" + +I did not like the idea of prying into matters that did not concern me, and since Aiko seemed to be accusing the doctor of some vague foul play, I hesitated to approach him without a much better case to present. At the same time, I have run into many misunderstandings which arose simply from language difficulties, and felt obliged to offer myself as an interpreter in getting the matter straightened out. I indicated to Aiko that her story was a little hard to believe. Trying to get at the heart of things, I asked what reason the doctor had in keeping her on. + +She started to cry. ""The doctor forces me to sleep with him."" + +""Forces you to sleep with him?"" + +""Yes"", she sobbed. + +I wondered what could be done or said about such a delicate problem. Aiko thought my puzzled look meant that I did not believe her. She pulled me up by the sleeve. + +""Come with me."" + +I followed uneasily. Through my mind ran a suspicion that the girl's distress might be faked, a device to get me alone with her in the dispensary. + +We entered a suite of rooms, over the door to which was painted, in English and Japanese, the word ""Dispensary"". Inside I found a scene which quickly dispelled my doubts--a little love nest of makeshift couches, a whisky closet fairly well stocked with ""Suntory"" Scotch and some American liquors, a few novels and miscellaneous furniture which could hardly have been put to any medical use. The doctor had apparently been drinking and playing solitaire. Dirty glasses and cards were strewn about the table. Most convincing of all was a .45 pistol lying among the cards. I stared at it. Aiko murmured, ""He threatened me with that pistol"". + +Plainly Aiko was not deceiving me, but those sordid surroundings made me very uneasy, and I left quickly, pausing outside the door just long enough to make sure of the sign above it: ""Dispensary"". As we hastened back down the hallway, she begged me to write a note to the doctor in English. She did not wish to sleep with him that night because she was menstruating. I had a little difficulty over the Japanese word *mensu*, which I realized later was borrowed from the West, and my difficulty was heightened by her female embarrassment in explaining what she meant. After the note was written (it said she ""would appreciate waiting a few days before going further with the doctor""), I agreed to meet her again in the morning and promised that I would bring enough yen for her to buy a ticket to her home in the North. + +Aiko must have left very early the next morning because she did not meet me as planned and I have not seen her since. + +The whole experience shook me pretty hard at first, but I guess nothing can be done about it now. Americans have an awful lot of power over people here, and those who want to misuse it can do our cause plenty of damage without getting caught. + +All my love, + +Sherry",0 +4547,Britain's Frozen Aircraft Carrier. ,0 +4548,"Some thought-provoking quotes from Theodore Roosevelt's memoirs. I wrote down a bunch of select quotes from Roosevelt's memoirs when I read the first few chapters a while ago. Though the man himself is obviously very well known, his actual words on certain issues might not be for some people. Below are the quotes I personally found the most interesting and relevant for Roosevelt as a man and a president. + +\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ + +On empathy and true Americanism: + +>I do not think that a man is fit to do good work in our American democracy unless he is able to have a genuine fellow-feeling for, understanding of, and sympathy with his fellow-Americans, whatever their creed or their birthplace, the section in which they live, or the work which they do, provided they possess the only kind of Americanism that really counts, the Americanism of the spirit. + +On career politicians: + +>I did not believe, and I do not now believe, that any man should ever attempt to make politics his only career. It is a dreadful misfortune for a man to grow to feel that his whole livelihood and whole happiness depend upon his staying in office. Such a feeling prevents him from being of real service to the people while in office, and always puts him under the heaviest of pressure to barter his convictions for the sake of holding office. + +On the average citizen vs the career politician elites: + +>As a result of our wrong thinking and supineness, we American citizens tend to breed a mass of men whose interests in governmental matters are often adverse to ours, who are thoroughly drilled, thoroughly organised, who make their livelihood out of politics, and who frequently make their livelihood out of *bad* politics. They know every little twist and turn, no matter how intricate, in the politics of their several wards, and when election day comes the ordinary citizen has merely the interest that all good men, all decent citizens, should have in political life, finds himself as helpless before these men as if he were a solitary volunteer in the presence of a band of drilled mercenaries on a field of battle. + +On corporations: + +>It was very early borne in upon me that almost equal harm was done by indiscriminate defense of, and indiscriminate attack on, corporations. It was hard to say whether the man who prided himself upons always antagonising the corporations, or the man who, on the plea that he was a good conservative, always stood up for them, was the more mischievous agent of corruption and demoralisation. + +On only criticising the wealthy: + +>We grew to heartily distrust the reformer who never denounced wickedness unless it was embodied in a rich man. Human nature does not change, and that type of ""reformer"" is as noxious now as he ever was. The loud-mouthed upholder of popular rights who attacks wickedness only when it is allied with wealth, and who never publicly assails any misdeed, no matter how flagrant, if committed nominally in the interest of labour, has either a warped mind or a tainted soul, and should be trusted by no honest man. + +On opposing labour: + +>As a matter of fact, we found that it needed much more courage to stand up openly against labour men when they were wrong than against capitalists when they were wrong. The sins against labour are usually committed, and the improper services to capitalists are usually rendered, behind closed doors. Very often the man with the moral courage to speak in the open against labour when it is wrong is the only man anxious to do effective work for labour when labour is right. + +On how to be a great politician: + +>There are plenty of decent legislators, and plenty of able legislators; but the blamelessness and the fighting edge are not always combined. Both qualities are necessary for the man who is to wage active battle against the powers that prey. He must be clean of life, so that he can laugh when his public or his private record is searched; and yet being clean of life will not avail him if he is either foolish or timid. He must walk warily and fearlessly, and while he should never brawl if he can avoid it, he must be ready to hit hard if the need arises. Let him remember, by the way, that the unforgivable crime is soft hitting. Do not hit at all if it can be avoided; but never hit softly. + +On understanding lower-class peoples' support for local corrupt leaders: + +>He may be a very bad and very corrupt man, a man whose action in blackmailing and protecting vice is of far-reaching damage to his constituents. But these constituents are for the most part men and women who struggle hard against poverty and with whom the problem of living is very real and very close. They would prefer clean and honest government, if this clean and honest government is accompanied by human sympathy, human understanding. But an appeal made to them for virtue in the abstract, an appeal made by good men who do not really understand their needs, will often pass quite unheeded, if on the other side stands the boss, the friend and benefactor, who may have been guilty of much wrong-doing in things that are hardly aware concern them, but who appeals to them, no only for the sake of favours to come, but in the name of gratitude and loyalty, and above all of understanding and fellow-feeling. They have a feeling of clan-loyalty to him; his and their relations may be sustantially those which are right and proper among primitive people still in the clan stage of moral development. The successful fight against this type of vicious boss, and the type of vicious politics which produces it, can be made only by men who have a genuine fellow-feeling for and understanding of the people for and with whom they are to work, and who in practical fashion seek their social and industrial benefit. + +On being impartial in politics: + +>My duty was to stand with every one while he was right, and to stand against him when he went wrong; and this I have tried to do as regards individuals and as regards groups of individuals. When a business man or labour leader, politician or reformer, is right, I support him; when he goes wrong, I leave him. The principles or methods which the Socialists advocate and which I believe to be in the interest of the people I support, and those which I believe to be against the interest of the people I oppose. + +On forgiving people who worked in corrupt institutions: + +>There are many good, unimaginative citizens who in politics or in business act in accordance with accepted standards, in a matter-of-course way, without questioning these standards; until something happens which sharply arouses them to the situation, whereupon they try to work for better things. The proper course in such event is to let bygones be bygones, and if the men prove by their actions the sincerity of their conversion, heartily to work with them for the betterment of business and political conditions. + +On law and unlawfulness: + +>If there were wrongs, I would join with a full heart in striving to have them corrected. But where there was violence all other questions had to drop until order was restored. This is a democracy, and the people have the power, if they choose to exercise it, to make conditions as they ought to be made, and to do this strictly within the law; and therefore the first duty of the true democrat, of the man really loyal to the principles of popular government, is to see that law is enforced and order upheld. + +On criminal rehabilitation: + +>When the criminal has been punished, if he then shows a sincere desire to lead a decent and upright life, he should be given the chance, he should be helped and not hindered; and if he makes good, he should receive that respect from others which so ofte aids in creating self-respect - the most invaluable of all possessons. + +On cowardly moralists: + +>Yet there were misguided professional philanthropists who cared so much more for names than for facts that they preferred a ""peace"" of continuous murder to a ""war"" which stopped the murder and brought real peace. + +On just wars: + +>The true preacers of peace, who strive earnestly to bring nearer the day when peace shall obtain among all peoples, and who really do help forward the cause, are men who never hesitate to choose righteous war when it is the only alternative to unrighteous peace. + +On standards: + +>There must be a raising of standards, and not a leveling down to the standard of the poorest and most inefficient. + +On votes: + +>A vote is like a rifle: its usefulness depends upon the character of the user. + +On ungrateful husbands: + +>Let the remark that whenever a man thinks that he has outgrown the woman who is his mate, he will do well carefully to consider whether his growth has not been downward instead of upward, whether the facts are not merely that he has fallen away from his wife's standard of refinement and of duty.",0 +4549,"The Great French Revolution, 1789-1793 - Peter Kropotkin. ",0 +4550,Find this article on Nebraska outlaws interesting. ,0 +4551,"History's Greatest Longshots!. The lesser known, the better, but all are welcome. + +Some qualifying examples: unlikely Individuals rising to power. Smaller forces succeed vs larger forces. Underdog winners in sport, war, politics, as well as situational outcomes for individuals and collectives. Long shot surprises of any remarkability. + +Examples: +Spartacus escaped slavery with about 70 other gladiators. He went on to raise an army of about 100,000 and defeat the greatest military establishment ever known 6 times over 4 years. One of histories favorite long shots. + +Rocky Marciano was smaller, lighter and had a shorter reach than his heavyweight opponents, yet maintained the heavyweight title without losing once during his whole career. + +The Battle of Agincourt. Henry V had a third or a fourth of the number of forces. No calvary but fought calvary. 5/6 of his forces were archers. 1/6 dismounted men at arms and an army undersupplied and struggling with debilitating sickness yet beat the French, killing 10 to 1! + +What other historical longshots come to mind? Any surprise outcomes of underdogs from race horses to national leaders to tales of survival against the odds by individuals or collectives. + +Let's hear'em!",0 +4552,"What was the international reaction to Anne Boleyn's execution?. I'm reading the third Hilary Mantel Book, The Mirror and the Light, and she makes numerous references to how the European thoughts on Henry VIII executing Anne are less than favourable. While it's well known that she wasn't a beloved figure *at all*, it seems that even the European leaders were shocked at how he got rid of her to such an extent that Henry was unable to secure Christina, the Duchess of Milan, as his fourth wife. + +So, I'm curious: was there any official reaction to Anne's death from the Emperor or Francis or any of the other leaders?",0 +4553,Wreck of last US slave ship mostly intact on Alabama coast. ,0 +4554,Hurrem Sultan: The Sultan’s Concubine Who Became Queen. ,0 +4555,"The Development of Consumerism in real time/Mass Production in late 19th Century England: looking beyond theory and trying to find actual accounts of everyday life from factory owners to their workers to upset artisans.. Hello everyone! + +I'm interested in development of consumerism and how Victorians obsessed over products. However, I've read a lot of theory and struggled to find much dated and ""concrete"" information. Wilde's ""The Soul of Man under Socialism"" and Engel's *The Condition of the Working Class in England* might be some of the better primary sources I've read. + +Of course, I'm reading E.P. Thompson, but I'd love more personal sources— anything from artisans or factory workers would be amazing. Political cartoons/artistic response is fascinating too. As long as it's a ""real"" look into someone's life alongside industrialisation, I'm interested. + +Thank you all so much for any and all help.",0 +4556,"Historical factors in the 1950s and 60s that made the Cuban revolution and its leaders(Castro and Che) popular in the developing world that I think should be appreciated more.. The Cuban revolution was a significant event in the 20th century and one that propelled its leaders, Fidel Castro and Che Guevara, to become iconic political figures in the 20th century. Their reception varied depending on the context they were viewed in. In an American context they were viewed negatively due to the association with communism and authoritarianism. In the developing world though at the time, it was widely different. They were admired as revolutionary leaders and these are historical factors. These factors will include both the context as well as historical precursors that could have shaped global perceptions in the developing world of the Cuban revolution in the 1950s and 60s. + +**(i)Post War decolonisation and Che Guevara's internationalism** + +* When the Cuban revolution started out Castro and many of his compatriots were nationalists. They were focused on specific issues in Cuba and they drew inspiration from historical Cuban nationalist figures such as Jose Marti and Carlos Manuel Cespedes. Now even with this specifically nationalist focus the revolution was famous enough. +* Che Guevara's presence in the ranks of the Cuban revolutionaries was important in terms of bring an internationalist perspective. Which isn't that surprising. The Argentine who on his motorcycle travelled all of Latin American, landed in Guatemala when the CIA coup was taking place, and then landed in Mexico to meet Castro. Che brought an ideological internationalism to a revolution that had a nationalist start. And you could see this in the roles that he played. He was one of the founding fathers of Cuba's Medical Internationalism. He was a key diplomat who was important in forging the revolutionary government's diplomatic ties both with the Eastern Bloc as well as many of the Non Aligned countries of the third world as well as revolutionary movements. +* Che's internationalism happen to take place at the same time that you had post war decolonisation movements. The Egyptian revolution of the 50s under Nasser. The Algerian revolution of the 50s and 60s with Ahmed Ben Bella. The independence movement of the Congo, etc. Che's internationalism formed if you will a bridge between the Cuban revolution and the anti colonial movements at the time. And this is symbolised in Che's speech in Algeria in 1965. + +**(ii)The Bay of Pigs and the context of CIA coups in the developing world** + +* Another reason for the Cuban revolution's popularity in the developing world was the victory at the Bay of Pigs. The historical context for this being significant are the CIA coups of the 50s and 60s. When you place the coups in Iran(53) Guatemala(54) Congo(60) and other attempted coups such as Indonesia in the background of the Bay of Pigs it becomes obvious why many in the developing world at the time would view this as an inspiration because it ended up symbolising a type of defiant self determination. + +**(iii)The Cuban revolution and the background of Latin American independence leaders** + +* I had hinted at before the role of Cuba's independence leaders like Cespedes and Jose Marti in terms of inspiring the nationalist element of the Cuban revolution. I also think that the memory of Latin America's independence was what inspired its popularity throughout Latin America. Figures such as Simon Bolivar and Jose San Martin's story of fighting an anti colonial war of independence throughout Latin America would have had some similarities with the story of Castro and Che in the minds of some Latin Americans. Especially Che Guevara's story of the Argentine who journey's North, mirroring Jose San Martin in his meeting with Simon Bolivar. + +**(iv)The Cuban Revolution and the Anti Apartheid Movement** + +* The Cuban revolution had a major inspiration on the Anti Apartheid movement of the 20th century. In the 1960s when the ANC was forming its military wing they took as an inspiration for their military doctrines Che Guevara's manual on Guerilla War. When Nelson Mandela made his ""I am prepared to Die"" speech he states explicitly it was partly inspired by Castro's ""History will Absolve Me"" speech. And then there was the military assistance Cuba gave during the Cold War. This of course amplified the Cuban revolution's popularity in Africa. + +You combine this with both the military and medical internationalism of the Cuban government during the Cold War and it explains its popularity.",0 +4557,Ancient Anecdotes | The Painting Competition. ,0 +4558,What Caused Ancient Egypt’s Decline?. ,0 +4559,"Ahead of Planned Rail Line, Archaeologists Uncover Early Medieval Cemetery. ",0 +4560,"American Slavery and Iron Working. I tried asking this question on /r/askhistorians but it keeps getting removed by the auto mods and I am not sure why. + +I am reading the book ""The American Slave Coast: A History of the Slave-Breeding Industry"" and I came across something puzzling. + +In the book, it is stated that the American enslaved produced almost everything needed for running of the plantations, the wood to build buildings and docks, the bricks for the mansion, tools, etc. They even did iron working, with two exceptions: They didn't produce chain - this makes sense to me - and they didn't produce hoes. + +So I can't figure out why they wouldn't produce their own hoes; is it the sharp metal edge? But why then the specificity and not just ""sharp objects that could be used as weapons""; if they made shovels and axes, why not hoes? Am I missing an obvious answer? It was mentioned that they did USE the 'bows' for the farming instead of plows because it was harder work so they'd have less energy to try to escape or revolt. + +I hope the moderators will allow this question. I am just curious about the answer and I hope this is not considered a 'basic' question. It's certainly not homework, I'm 44. I appreciate people giving up some of their time to satisfy my curiosity.",0 +4561,"SS Central America: Haunting photos recovered the ""ship of gold"" wreck on ocean floor. ",0 +4562,"How did the Franks fit in with the Gallo-Roman nobility ?. Hello, I find it hard to understand how the Franks managed to integrate into the Gallo-Roman nobility and rule over their territory when they were a tribe seen as barbarians by the Romans, who invaded and plundered Gaul, and they were in the minority in view of the weak genetic novelty they brought. In short, how could an invading people become the new rulers in a way that I think is quite peaceful despite everything ?",0 +4563,"How long did it take to restore the Berlin underground after WWII?. During the Battle of Berlin, a lot of engagements took place through the underground railways and tunnels of the Berlin metro. Taking the metro would allow Soviet soldiers to easily launch surprise attacks or regroup with other sections of the force. As a result, the German army chose to completely flood the network, killing or injuring nearly everyone inside at the time. + +My wonder is, after the city was taken and the third Reich fell, how was the underground city restored? In cities the size of Berlin, a metro is vital to get people to work on time, and avoid overcrowding the other methods of transport. How did the project to drain, clear, and rebuild the underground work, and did the Soviet Union provide any funds to the reconstruction? Any information is much appreciated. Thanks.",0 +4564,"Does anybody know any information about the setting of this photo? This was passed down to me from a family member who doesn’t know the identity of the man in the photo, but I believe it could be one of my ancestors. Is there any information in the photo that signifies when or where it was taken?. Photo: + +[https://imgur.com/a/kzAY2uH](https://imgur.com/a/kzAY2uH) + +[https://imgur.com/a/hjuIIAU](https://imgur.com/a/hjuIIAU) + +I assume that the outfit the man is wearing is likely military garb, but apart from that I wasn't sure how to identify it. I know it's almost definitely from the 19th century, but I didn't know if it was from a period of wartime. My first thought was that it was a union uniform from the Civil War, but I would also be interested in figuring out where the regiment that wore that uniform was from. Any tips on how to identify military garb from the 19th century US would be greatly appreciated. + +Also, are there any tips on how to store this photo and keep it safe?",0 +4565,"How would I go about researching historical events? (lgbt+ history). This isn't necessarily an ask to help me in my research, but just in general how to get started on doing it. I'm a total amateur and I've got no formal history education, I only have access free sources like my country's national archives (UK) and possibly local archives and libraries but I'm under 18 so even getting into the national archives was a challenge. + + +For context, I'm quite interested in the punishment of lgbt+ soldiers in the early 20th century as I don't know a lot about it. Logically, I assumed records would be kept in court martials and I looked in the national archives but I couldn't find anything beyond ""indecency"" and ""civil laws broken(or something like that)"". + + +Any help or advice would be cool.",0 +4566,"Did (or why didn't) many of the Japanese kamikaze planes of WW2 fly high and nosedive towards the target at a steep angle? (compared to flying low at the ship). The vast majority of the documentaries and animations I've seen show or portray Japanese kamikaze planes as flying low close to the water on their approach to ram US ships. At most, I've seen a few planes dive at something close to a 45 degree angle. + +Did (or why didn't) many of the Japanese kamikaze planes of WW2 fly high and nosedive towards the target at a much more steep angle? + +Wouldn't flying high and taking a steep plunge have been more effective than flying low due to a steep dive angle creating a higher velocity, increase the chance of a destroyed plane wreckage still crashing into the ship, and limiting the ship's anti-aircraft gun field of fire? + +I'm thinking if a plane is almost directly above a ship and flies straight down, then the anti-aircraft guns would have a much harder time aiming at it.",0 +4567,"Octavian life before caesars death. Gaius octavius was born in the city of rome on september 23, 63 bce, on a small property nearby the forum, on the palatine hill. If not for augustus, we most know him by octavian, which is an anglicization of the adjectival form (octavianus) of his birth name, which he used when he accepted caesars name - gaius julius caesar octavianus. Gaius is the masculine form of gaia; interesting that it didnt even cross my mind, hope im not alone. Gaius was commonly abbreviated as C., based on the original spelling, Caius, which dates to the time when the letters c and g werent differentiated; u probably have saw this weird abbreviation before, even with others names. I dont know if on english the “caius” name is commom, but here in brazil it is (caio); im just surprised i never knew this awesome meaning to this name; probably because we dont use caia, but gaia instead - which isnt used for naming here though + +His father, of the same name, had him in his 37. I couldnt find his maternal gens, but from his father, he was from the old plebeian gens octavia, which originated from the volscian town of velitrae, in the alban hills, 40km SE of the center of the city of rome. His immediate family was from velitrae as well, it was a wealthy and equestrian branch of his gens. He reached his career peak being one of the would-be candidates of the consulship of 58, but he died (aged 41) on the 59, in the city of nola, after crossing the sea from the roman province of macedonia, where he was a nice governor. Its said he was just, courageous and a good administrator and diplomat + +Octavians mother was called atia balba. She had 22 years old when she conceived him. Her maternal gens was one of the oldest patrician gens, the julia; which originated in the alban region, approximately 20km se of the city of rome. Her father gens was called atia, originated through one of aeneas son, as legend says. Her immediate family lived near velitrae. Its said she was very pious, the opposite of romes hbo portrayal + +Octavian had two older sisters. The younger, the only full sister, had 6 more years than him; she was considered one of the most prominent woman of ancient rome, being noble, loyal and humanist + +Little after her husband death, atia married again with the former syrian governor and caesar supporter, lucius marcius philippus. His father gens was the marcia, one of the oldest and noblest gens of rome, but in his time, a plebeian one, but still senatorial; they probably descended from the sabines. He was consul when octavian were 7. Philippus treated atia children as his own + +On ancient rome, it was the father who managed the child education; as octavian lost his father when he was 4, it was his mother who managed his education. He had a standard aristocratic education: latin, greek and oratory. By the age of 11, he delivered a speech on his grandmother, mother of caesar, funeral (jesus!); caesar was also really impressed with him on the occasion + +When caesar decisively won against pompey on the battle of pharsalus, he was 15. He donned his toga virilis, a completely white toga, meaning he was now a male adult citizen, commoner or lower senator, when he attended formal occasions. He was elected (with caesar help) one of the 16 pontifex, the highest religious office in the republic, excluding the maximus, which was their leader and the rex sacrorum, which was a special office; the pontifex managed the roman religious system. Caesar also got him in the office of prefect of rome, a cerimonial office, but highly important for octavian being noticed + +As u saw, caesar already had octavian under his umbrella, giving him fuel; i cant help but to imagine his counsels etc. But from 46 onwards, this helping hand was even more abundant: octavian attended with ceasar, the theater, various banquets and social gatherings. Octavian also shared caesars carriage. On caesars triumphs, octavian took part in the procession and received military honors without having fought in not a single battle (hahha). Man, octavian was so close to caesar, that people would ask him to intervene in their behalf with caesar, this is nuts! + +Ancient roman aristocratic teenagers was already expected to participate in wars, perhaps not necessarily on thick of a battle, but yet… anyway, caesar wanted octavian to help on his african campaign, there were still pompeian resistance there. But octavian fell ill, when his mother, an utterly protective mom, didnt want him to go - again very different from hbo. She consented to let him go to the spanish campaign (more pompeians), but he fell ill again. He got better, and accompanied by a few friends (including the famous agrippa, who was a close friend till the end), he sailed to hispania. They shipwrecked on a spanish beach, they had hostile territory between them and caesar camp. They had a hard time crossing it, octavian made some hercules deeds and caesar was again impressed with him. Caesar started teaching him provincial administration while campaigning on spain + +They returned to rome, with caesar being master of the roman republic, on the 45. There, caesar secretly got him as primary heir in his will deposited with the vestal virgins. Caesar used his power to elevate octavian even more + +Caesar wanted to keep improving octavian education. He sent him, along with his friends, to apollonia, greece, so he could learn academics, self control and military doctrine. On macedonia, there were 5 legions stationed, preparing and drilling for a parthian campaign. He would be the master of the horse on the next year, which meant he would be the second most powerful one in the roman republic by the age of 19 hahaha + +But shit happens, caesar being assassinated made octavian ambitions much much harder to achieve. Antony was a huge barrier, i cant imagine how infuriated octavian were when antony denied his rightful wealth. Octavian was savy and decided to be pacient. But he kept being backstabbed, until he decided to be more agressive when he saw that patience wasnt enough anymore, if he intended to be more than he already was. I believe that ambition in detriment of others lives is wrong, and i think that we should analyze any person, in any period of time, using an universal measure (which doesnt mean my measure or 2022 measure is the right one), but it must be so hard to turn the other cheek in octavian case. But when i think of the armies numbers in the upcoming wars… iirc it was like the double from caesar-pompeian one, which were already insane, not forgetting the social war and sulla-marius war before...",0 +4568,Buried Alive: Pompeii and the Archaeology of the Uncanny. ,0 +4569,"Why do the Italian wars seem so forgotten? Any good English books on it and that era of Italian history in general?. Good books on Italian history from around this time? Especially the Italian Wars? + +I really want to learn more about this. Stuff like the city states of Venice, Genoa, Geneva, etc. I want to learn about their naval ventures and their impact in crusades even. But especially the Renaissance period within Italy itself + +But most especially I really want to learn about them during the Renaissance and Italian Wars. I know virtually nothing about either topic but they sound extremely interesting. + +These wars raged on for seemingly have a century and had tons of warfare and players from Scotland to the HRE to Spain. It seemed to dominate European wars for ages, and yet I hardly ever hear anything about it and don’t know anything about it either. + +Why are they so poorly known? I’ve never heard anyone talk about them aside from brief passing mentions + +Thoughts?",0 +4570,The Worst Mistake in Greek Drama. ,0 +4571,"Japanese Emperor Hirohito’s godlike status. Ive recently finished Dan Carlins brilliant podcast Supernova in the East (and the coda chapter on hardcore history addendum). + +One question I have is regarding the status of Hirohito. During and before the war he was seen as godlike by the Japanese population. But after the war that changed. He was still revered and admired but more like a king than a god. Can anyone explain to me why this was. + +Its hard to believe that The post war rulers just changed his status or new constitution actually changed what people felt. Surely if u believe someone is a god a man made law wouldnt change that + +How did it come to be that he fell from being a god to just someone revered",0 +4572,"History books/articles that read kind of like stories. I've recently gotten interested in learning about history, however most of the sites I find are written in a very textbook-like way, and I personally don't find them very engaging. + +As a child I used to love Horrible Histories, so something in that type of style but for adults would be great. In general though, I'm just looking for books and/or articles that are engaging and targeted towards people with no academic experience with history. I'm really interested in Ancient Rome and Greece, but recommendations for anything history related would be appreciated. Thanks :)",0 +4573,"How crazy of an idea were nuclear weapons before they were invented?. For example, today the spaceship warfare seems like a pretty crazy idea, and mainly exists in the sci-fi era. However things like nuclear fusion seems like a very real possibility today. + +So how do these ideas compare to things like the nuclear weapons before it was invented? + +Any answers besides nuclear weapons, like weaponized aeroplanes are also welcomed.",0 +4574,"Bookclub Wednesday, December 08, 2021. Hi everybody, + +Welcome to our weekly book recommendation thread! + +We have found that a lot of people come to this sub to ask for books about history or sources on certain topics. Others make posts about a book they themselves have read and want to share their thoughts about it with the rest of the sub. + +We thought it would be a good idea to try and bundle these posts together a bit. One big weekly post where everybody can ask for books or (re)sources on any historic subject or timeperiod, or to share books they recently discovered or read. Giving opinions or asking about their factuality is encouraged! + +Of course it’s not limited to *just* books; podcasts, videos, etc. are also welcome. As a reminder, /r/history also has a recommended list of things to [read, listen to or watch](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/wiki/recommendedlist)",0 +4575,The Worst Radioactive Ideas in Nuclear History. ,0 +4576,Scotland's Panoptician: The Image-World of George Washington Wilson. ,0 +4577,"A short video about Armenian Kingdoms, their rulers and enemies.. ",0 +4578,Lucy Parsons: Woman of Will | Industrial Workers of the World. ,0 +4579,"What was Nationalist China's reaction to the dropping of the Atomic bombs on Japan, exactly?. I've been searching for a while on what Nationalist China's reaction (both the general population and the government) would be towards the atomic bombings of Hiroshima and Nagasaki. I can imagine that they would either be very relieved or shocked, but oddly enough I'm having a hard time finding any information relating to this. All I seem to have found so far is that Nationalist China had entered a very short period of peace following the A-bombs, the Soviet invasion of Manchuria and the Japanese surrender. I'm just curious as to what their reaction would be towards the Atomic bombs, or if they even knew much about it at all.",0 +4580,"Why was there a major Anti Catholic Sentiment in England and across other Protestant nations?. I have always heard that monarchs of England have been traditionally Protestant, (with a few exceptions of course). But why was their such hatred towards the pope and the Catholic Church in general? My best guess is that it has something to do with the Spanish being Catholics and that Spain and England at the time were not really on the best terms. What other factors led to persecution and sometimes violence against them?",0 +4581,"Tent colours in military camps 11th-15th century. Hello! + +Does anyone have some knowledge about the colours of military camps in the medieval era, especially crusader armies? + +We have a discussion in our reenactment group. + +One side says that the tents where mostly blank or natural. + +The other side says that the tents where colourful. Representing the colours of the owners. + +​ + +In particular the crusaders and the knights that followed them are of special interest. + +Are the tents dyed in the orders colours? + +​ + +Some sources would be great!",0 +4582,"How does the peerage titles work with power/responsibilities/ownership of land?. Hi! I've been doing some research for a creative writing process, but I've found it almost impossible to find a valid source of information that details properly who own a piece of land, and where is it situated geographically in the grand scope of things. I'm looking into trying to know how it really worked before. + + +As I understand, a baron owns a piece of land given to him by the king. But what about Viscount, or Counts, or Marquess and Duke? Is there a hierarchy of political/revenue power going on and everyone owns a piece of land like a baron does but they have political jurisdiction over a bigger area and must refer to their liege for anything else? Or do the Duke/Count don't really own a land? I'm a little confused about the land owning part from all those specific titles and how they relate to each others.",0 +4583,"Absolutely fascinating paper about the Lincolns. I could not stop reading, and felt immersed in their marriage.. ",0 +4584,"King Louis XVI’s and Marie Antoinette’s characters. My class recently just finished a test about European history from the late 1700s to the early 1800s and learning about the French Revolution was by far my favorite part. I am a bit curious about Louis and Marie’s characters because after I learned that some of Marie’s personality was greatly exaggerated (let them eat cake) and that Louis wasn’t actually this fat bumbling idiot, I want to learn more about them and what they were truly like. Was Marie actually charitable but insensitive with how much she spent? Was Louis truly looking out for his people and didn’t want any of them hurt? Is it true she didn’t actually spend that much compared to other royals? + +I did try using google but everything I saw just didn’t feel like it was true (the websites felt off) or they didn’t go too in-depth of their personalities. I heard this subreddit has a lot of history so I was hoping y’all could help me out. + +Thanks.",0 +4585,"What is the best evidence to pinpoint the date for Julius Caesar's assassination?. I get that 44 BCE is the date. I get that it is considered ""rock solid"" by most. I'm just curious what is the actual evidence for that assessment? I realize most historical dating is relative. I also understand that certain dates can be attested by comets/stars/eclipses, etc. Julius Caesar's death is said to accompany an auspicious comet (C/-43 K1). However, I was somewhat shocked that wikipedia chose to editorialize the sources for that comet as ""sketchy""; and for scholars at UCLA to ""consider...the comet's non-existence...as a serious possibility."" Finally (and I realize I am pushing the bounds of my original question), but how much of our current calendar and dating hangs on this event?",0 +4586,"Is there any historical evidence to suggest ancient opposing armies solving entire conflicts by having 2 elite soldiers duel?. I am asking this based on stories like David and Goliath or Paris and Menelaus. I understand that with Paris it was more him fighting for Helen but it still dosen't make sense. I mean the Greeks gathered an entire army and traversed a sea, I can't imagine that was all for nothing. I am very interested in hearing any additional instances of this or at least learning that this did not actually happen.",0 +4587,The Coin Standard: On the failed dreams and forgotten ruins of William Hope Harvey. ,0 +4588,"Alright, I need help picking another point in ancient/medieval Chinese history BESIDES the famed Three Kingdoms Period to research and look into. Anything before or after it, but NOT colonial or early modern history.. We all know about colonial China when the British Empire was kicking around the area, we know that China had some contact with Japan during the samurai hayday in the late and post sengoku jidai period, we know about the famed rise of communism over there too. However, China is a wonderful country beyond the oppressive regimes its sadly slagged with nowadays (not that there werent other moments of tyranny in the past mind you, just nothing like THIS...), it has a beautiful culture, and a fascinating history to boot. + +Therefore, I ask that, besides the Three Kingdoms period of China that gets beat to heck and back in terms of how often it gets representation in popular media, what other periods from Chinese history can you suggest I look into? What other dynasties, points in time, would prove interesting for my own historic curiosity? Are there any periods which detail a history just as storied and fascinating as the Three Kingdoms period? Surely there must be, right?",0 +4589,"Bite sized non eurocentric histories in English. So, I'm a huge fan of channel: History Civilis, with it's short video summaries of events, or political synopsis. It covers mostly Roman events, with some divergence to ancient Greece and random topics. All high quality good stuff... + +I'm curious if anyone can recommend similar short podcasts or video essays of non eurocentric events. Particularly, I'm would be interested if anyone here can recommend content about pre-colonial India, the Middle East, or China.",0 +4590,World's Oldest Family Tree Created Using DNA. ,0 +4591,"Eunuchs role in Ancient China / how did they obtain so much power over the court?. How did Eunuchs in ancient China end up having so much power over the empire? + +I am a westerner and just starting to explore Chinese history (it’s like game of thrones turned up to 11) and I’m a little confused as to the role of Eunuchs in China’s court. I read some books saying that they controlled the court and emperor and I’m just curious how they managed this? + +Did they self castrate? + +How did they obtain so much power? + +What exactly was their role in the kingdoms?",0 +4592,Why did the USSR detain American pilots who bombed Tokyo?. ,0 +4593,"What is the greatest personal success story in human history?. What is the greatest example of a human being using their own skills to acquire more wealth, power, status, and/or influence than they started off with? + +They don’t all have to be rags-to-riches stories. For example, Julius Caesar was born into a relatively privileged family, but still made accomplishments well beyond the advantages of his station, that would continue to shape human history for thousands of years. This to me is more impressive than, say, being born poor and going on to start a Fortune 500 company. + +My vote is for Muhammad, the guy does almost nothing of any long term historical importance for the first 40 years of his life, (he does handle the black stone 5 years earlier) then conquers almost of all of Arabia, founds the second biggest religion of all time, and permanently transforms the religious landscape of one of the major regions of the world before he dies. + +Suddenly achieving unprecedented major success at 40 is pretty impressive and unlikely TODAY. Let alone with the average life expectancy back then. + +What do you think?",0 +4594,Why Genghis Khan Refused To Invade India ?. ,0 +4595,Napolean and Rabbits. ,0 +4596,"Why were Lancasters rich (Discussion/Question). Bear with me, most of my knowledge of English history comes from Real Royalty, Extra History Kings and Generals from youtube and from public forums. + +So, I've had recently learned that one of the sons of Edward III got himself and nice duchy of Lancaster through his marriage with his wife and became one of the richest men in England. Now here is my question, why were lancastrains rich? Duchy of lancaster is not a big piece of land and I haven't heard anything about any natural riches so could someone please tell me were did Lancasters got so much money from?",0 +4597,"Does this mosaic depict labyrinths being used in city defence?. I have recently found [pictures of a mosaic](https://www.flickr.com/photos/carolemage/32584586736/in/photostream/) with its description being "" **Mosaic depicting a labyrinth surrounded by city walls with towers, 100-80 BC, from Piazza San Giovanni in Laterano, excavation of a Republican Domus, Centrale Montemartini, Rome.""** Can anyone explain to me what this means? Is it just a labyrinth surrounded by city walls or is it a part of the city defence?",0 +4598,"Location, date, and time of speech that convinced MLK of the methods of nonviolence, revealed. The speech took place at the First Unitarian Church of Philadelphia on November 19th, 1950 at 3:45 pm. The Church's application to place it on the National Historic Registry will be heard on June, 7th.. I have been researching the early years of Martin Luther King Jr. for the last seven years to try and convince the state of NJ to place a home in Camden on the NJ and National historic registries, but they refuse to budge, Even though I have several letters of support from some of the nation's most renowned historians, the state of NJ still considers MLK's first civil rights battle, which took place in Maple Shade, NJ, on June 12th of 1950, to be of ""minimal historic import"". King and three friends were chased from an all white establishment by the proprietor, who shot a gun of into the air when the group refused to leave and said ""I'll kill for less"". + +In 2020, the NJ DEP sent me a denial letter, which included the opinion of two historians, opinions that were used without the authors permission. Both of the historians have since written a letter of support to place the home where Dr. King planned his first protest from on the historic registry., but NJ authorities still refuse to accept their expert opinions. + +A couple of weeks after NJ denied the application in 2020, I found the holy grail in the study of the research of Dr. King, which was the date and time of the speech that was given by Dr. Mordecai Johnson. Not only did I locate the date and time, which had gone unknown since the study of King began, but I found the correct location of the event, which was previously thought to be held ""at the Fellowship House"", but it was not. The Fellowship House, which was an organization dedicated to bringing equality amongst the races and sexes, sponsored a monthly speakers series that took place during 1950, at the First Unitarian Church of Philadelphia. + +We now know the date, time and correct location of the speech that Dr. King himself, claimed to have convinced him of the methods of nonviolence that King wrote in Stride Toward Freedom that he had been searching for months for the right method, which is a passage that never made sense prior to my discovery of the date and time. It was previously thought that the speech took place in the beginning of 1950, which was months before the event took place Maple Shade, but we now know that it happened months after the Maple Shade events fizzled out. + +King had been searching for ""months"" due to the events in Maple Shade not panning out the way he had planned, so he needed a new method, one that would be effective for the social change he was trying to effect, which is exactly where the speech my Mordecai Johnson fit in. We now finally have a date, place and time that we can celebrate the speech that brought Dr. King to nonviolence, all from a high school drop out.",0 +4599,These are men - a propaganda film using filmed speeches of Nazi leaders dubbed with satirical English text.. ,0 +4600,"Our earliest memories of pivotal world events. A post on another sub asked a question about a map. Specifically if anyone could figure out when that map was published. It appeared to have the Soviet Union, Czechoslovokia, Yugoslavia, and a united Germany. Which should have placed that map sometime around 1991. But this got me thinking: + +1991 was a year that radically changed the political landscape of the world, and I was alive at the time; young, but I was alive. Yet I don't remember these events. + +So I asked myself, what is the first major historical event I remember, and what is the last major event that I have no memory of. + +My memories will be in the comments.",0 +4601,"1553 CE: The succession options for Edward VI were all women: his two sisters and Lady Jane Grey. But England had never had a queen regnant. Who was Edward's closest male relative and why didn't this man put forward a claim (or did he)?. On his deathbed, Edward VI completed the ""Devise for the Succession"", a mechanism for excluding his two half-sisters - Mary and Elizabeth - in favor of Jane Grey. All three possible successors were women, even though England had never had a Queen (Regnant). + +The last credible woman to claim the throne, Matilda daughter of Henry I, lost the succession battle to a more distant male relative - Stephen - during the Anarchy. + +I understand why a woman was more palatable in the 16th century than in the 12th, but I don't understand why NO male heir put forward a claim in the days after Edward's death. Succession wars were fought throughout the 15th century during the Wars of the Roses; surely there must have been a Tudor man somewhere - even a distant one - who had a reasonable claim. Henry VII didn't have any other sons, Henry VII didn't have any other (living) sons. Yet someone must have held the claim to closest male heir based on primogeniture. Did this person have any interest in claiming the throne? If not, why not?",0 +4602,"Examples of underdog victories - Specifically, UNORTHODOX, brilliant stratagems (even if apocryphal). To clarify, I do not mean the most frequently cited examples which so often comprise the bulk of ""listicles"" around the internet (e.g., Agincourt, Malta, Narva, etc.). + +I am looking for historical and even apocryphal examples of victories in battles or skirmishes where, against overwhelming odds, the underdogs prevailed by using totally unorthodox, inspired stratagems. Even ones thought to have been embroidered over time, such as the Battle on the Ice in 1213, which some historians suspect may have embellished aspects of the story like the ice of Lake Peipus shattering beneath the Teutonic Knights during their retreat. + +I'm looking for examples where the underdogs made remarkable use of subterfuge, limited resources, the environment, even the weather, to prevail against a stronger force, even if the story may have become more colorful as it was retold over time. It could be a force of ten against fifty, or ten thousand against fifty thousand, the scale of the battle makes no difference to me.",0 +4603,"Most unusual ammunition used by tanks in WWII. Technically never mounted on a tank (but certainly in halftracks and armoured cars), I always found the 2.8 cm schwere Panzerbüchse 41 (sPzB 41) ammunition very interesting. The projectile carried two external flanges; as it proceeded toward the muzzle, the flanges were squeezed down, decreasing the diameter with the result that pressure did not drop off as quickly and the projectile was propelled to a higher velocity. The barrel construction resulted in a very high muzzle velocity - up to 1,400 m/s. The entire system was very lightweight and could be used by infantry jaeger units and airborne as well. It did have it drawbacks, low lifespan of the barrel (about 500 rounds), its low range, (about 500 yards), it’s use of very rare war material in its tungsten rounds: + +https://worldwar.quora.com/In-World-War-2-what-was-the-most-unusual-ammunition-used-by-tanks-1?ch=17&oid=323387884&share=702de556&srid=3ABXo&target_type=answer + +Space: + +https://worldwar.quora.com/?ch=17&oid=1588504&share=396067ef&srid=3ABXo&target_type=tribe",0 +4604,"There's a famous saying attributed to ancient Sparta, ""Come back with your shield, or on it."" In ancient Greece, were those killed in battle carried home on top of their shields? How did that work?. So, the saying is attributed to Spartan wives and mothers. The idea is that if you win, you'll come home with your shield, and if you flee, you'll have thrown your shield onto the ground and run. If you come back on your shield, you'll have fought to the death. So women would tell the men, ""Be victorious or die trying, but don't run."" It's a cool saying, but I've never understood the ""on your shield"" part. Why would someone be brought back on top of his shield? From a physical perspective, that sounds incredibly awkward. Would Greeks carry shields with dead bodies on them? If they put dead bodies on wagons with shields under them, wouldn't the bodies slide off? Nothing about this sounds practical.",0 +4605,"What is the period between 1648 to 1789 called?. You know? That period starting from the peace treaties made after the thirty years war all the way down to the French revolution which rocked all of Europe. + +Usually, I think of it as a period of big wigs and globalization. We have the brutal war of the Spanish succession where Habsburg Spain is no more and overall things get more lighthearted, less morose, more Versailles, more Rococo. + +Many companies we have today come from this time such as Twinings, Sothebys, etc... there was trade with Qing China before it got too beaten up, there was all the thrills of new sailing techniques and witty French theatre. + +The music of Mozart, Vivaldi, Handel, Lully, Paisiello, Bach, etc... + +The frivolous plays of Sheridan in London and Goldoni in Venice. + +The age of Hume, Rousseau, Locke, etc... + +What was this age called?",0 +4606,"How exactly were the children of kings and nobles titled BEFORE the 16th century?. I've been trying to do research on this subject and it has been so frustrating! You can find dozens of pages describing how titles worked in the 17th and 18th centuries, but virtually nothing on how titles worked in pre-renaissance (medieval) england, france, germany, and italy. With that in mind, here's what I want to know. + +* When did the children of kings start being styled as ""Prince/Princess X""? One resource suggested that, prior to the Hannover succession, children of the kings of england would've simply been titled the Lord or Lady X. +* I understand that, during the renaissance, children of Sovereign Dukes & Princes in the Holy Roman Empire were been styled as Princes... but was this the case in the middle ages as well? +* Given that French vassals were virtually sovereign during most of the middle ages, would their children have been styled, or at least regarded, as a Prince or Princess (i.e. children of the Dukes or Counts of Burgundy, Aquitaine, Normandy, Anjou, Flanders, Champagne) +* I noticed that during the middle ages, a lot of english princes and princesses are styled as ""Firstname of Place"" (i.e. Mary of Woodstock, Elizabeth of Rhuddlan, Edward of Westminster""). Why was this; would this factor in to their official style? i.e., prior to her marriage, would Elizbabeth of Rhuddland be styled as ""Elizabeth, Lady of Rhuddlan""? I know that in france, sons & daughters were often titled ""Monsieur/Mademoiselle de "", with being a random holding of their fathers'... I wonder if this practice is related somehow? + +I know these questions may sound trivial, but I'm trying to create an accurate titles system for a video game mod I'm working on.",0 +4607,"Why is there a discrepancy between the titles Armeniacus and Germanics ascribed to Emperor Nero on Roman coins and inscriptions?. +Why is the title Germanicus ascribed to Nero on many Roman coins and inscriptions even though he didn’t achieve a military victory for this title and only got it through his adoption by emperor Claudius while the title Armeniacus, which Nero obtained through Corbulo’s victory in Armenia, is only ascribed to the emperor on several cointypes from Caesarea and no inscriptions at all? Does it is has to do with a wide consensus and different views throughout the empire on granting these victory titles to Nero or what were the reasons for the discrepancy of the spread and quantity between the title Germanicus and Armeniacus on Roman inscriptions and coins dedicated to Nero?",0 +4608,"The Real History in Uncharted. Late to the party I know, but I’ve started playing the Uncharted series (popular video games series if you’re unfamiliar). Now, I know it’s a video game, so I don’t expect the history to be super accurate. But I’ve always been interested in history on my own terms and whenever I get a random spark of curiosity. + +All that being said, does anyone know enough about the series and the actual history its referencing to give me an idea of where to turn in terms of some reading? The first game seems to deal a lot with Sir Francis Drake if that’s helpful. Anything at all really would be appreciated. Thank you!",0 +4609,"More programs like ORBIS. So I'm looking for programs like ORBIS. For those that don't know what ORBIS is, its basically an interactive map that allows you to see how long it would go from Point A to Point B during the times of Ancient Rome. I'll include a link below. You can check the cheapest, fastest, and shortest routes and mess with other little gadgets. It's super interesting and fun to mess around with. + +​ + +I teach seventh grade world history (which is basically ancient to medieval times) and I wanted to give the students something fun and interactive that they could do. I already found a couple of assignments based on ORBIS about plotting a certain journey and then explaining why it goes through that route based on lecture notes. Just wanted to see if there was anything else out there like this, doesn't have to be about Rome, could be anything. + +[https://orbis.stanford.edu/](https://orbis.stanford.edu/)",0 +4610,"A rare find: Archaeologists unearth 4,000-year-old board game in Oman. ",0 +4611,"What exactly was the process in which the Prince-Electors chose the Holy Roman Emperor?. I know that those three Archbishoprics along with Saxony, Brandenburg, Bohemia, and Palatine of the Rhine would choose the next emperor following 1356 but what I'm unsure of was the exact process. + +Did they meet somewhere? + +Where there arguments among the princes where one would say they'd make a better emperor than another guy? + +I imagined that it was like a presidential debate with candidates slinging mud at each other and trying to woo the electors and I'm 90% sure that's not correct. + +I know this is a small window since everybody just let the Habsburgs have it after 1442 but I'm really curious.",0 +4612,"Did the Roman Empire have a ""Pentagon?"". At the height of Rome's power it managed a diverse Empire spanning the Mediterranean and Western Europe. It maintained similarly diverse and vast military garrisons for its various townships/cities, and fielded a number of standing legions, paramilitary/policing forces, and a navy. How did they manage this? Was there a centralized bureaucracy that doled out funds, decided on the clothes, equipment, and training? How did they decide what a Roman legionaries' standard kit would be? Who managed the likely large provisioning requirement for this force?",0 +4613,"There were no revolutionaries before the Bastille fell during the French revolution.. Keith Baker states that the notion of revolution as a fact, gave way to the conceptualisation of revolutions as an ongoing act. His entire idea is based on the fact that all revolutions follow a script from one another, however each revolution is still unique in its own way, due to culture, the political and economic sphere, etc... Therefore, with this transformation “revolution” assumes its modern political meaning and the French revolution became the script upon which subsequent revolutionaries improvised. +I find this to be a quite interesting statement, regardless where i agree with it or not. What is your opinion?",0 +4614,"When did all of Russia learn about the deaths of ALL the Romanovs? (Aka Russia’s last monarchy). When Tsar Nicholas II and his family were murdered in 1918, how long did it take for the rest of Russia to find out about their deaths? I understand the Tsar’s death was widely reported (I’m not sure how long after that was) and they didn’t report the deaths of the children. The big question is when did they found out about the children's fates. How long did the Russian government try to keep it a secret that they didn’t kill the children and what was the public reaction?",0 +4615,"Ancient Ukrainian “megasites” may have been the world’s first cities, challenging long-held views on the beginnings of urbanism. ",0 +4616,Narration about Dunkirk and the events sorrounding Operation Dynamo. ,0 +4617,"Are there any busts and sculptures found from the Byzantine empire that are post Arab invasion?. I know that statues were still being made and modified during the Byzantine empire. For instance, a statue of Empress Irene comes to mind. That one was placed along the Spina of the Hippodrome. + +There’s a famous “roundel” that depicts John 2 Komnenos in the Dumbarton Oaks museum. For me this comes close towards a more sculptured depiction of a byzantine emperor. Of course there’s also the amazing ivory works during the Macedonian era, which really shows the skill of artists in this era. + +Roundel: + +https://www.doaks.org/resources/bliss-tyler-correspondence/art/bz/BZ.1937.23.jpg/view + +Macedonian era Veroli casket: + +https://collections.vam.ac.uk/item/O70463/veroli-casket-casket-unknown/ + +These two examples are only relief art, and are not classical statues like they were being made in the pagan era of the empire. The casket also is made of ivory and is of course quite small. + +Even though a lot of statues are reportedly reused to depict a different emperor, new statues were being made throughout the byzantine era. However I can’t find any physical evidences. + +It seems to me that any statues and busts post Phocas/Heraclius seem to be entirely lost. Even Justinian era statues and busts are rare…",0 +4618,Faraday and Babbage - Semiconductors and Computing in 1833. ,0 +4619,Nuri Pyramids Included In The World's Most Endangered Histor.... ,0 +4620,"Help on studying about the T'ui Tonga Empire. Hello guys! First time posting here, and I've come to ask for aid in studying the T'ui Tonga empire and of the isles in general. + +I've always liked to see what happened in history in various places around the world, and when watching the video that Wurtz made (the history of the entire world, i guess) he mentioned the T'ui Tonga empire, which intrigued me, but for a while, I didn't think much about it. + +Recently, though, I've been remembering it and I got more and more curious, and I'd like to know some good sources on studying about the empire, and the general history of the region too! I'm mostly interested in a documentary or well-made, well-sourced video as I've been reading and writing a bit too much lately and wanted to watch something for a change, but I'd love to have some book suggestions too! I can't read them at the moment but as soon as I have a bit more free time, I'll gladly take any you guys suggest!",0 +4621,History of Jammu district Reasi. ,0 +4622,The historian Adrian Gheorghe show us the CRYPTOPORTRAITS of Vlad The Impaler and explains the methods used to identify him and separate him from his contemporary image of Dracula. ,0 +4623,‎American History Tellers: The Great Mississippi Flood | When the Levee Breaks on Apple Podcasts. ,0 +4624,"What are the differences between tribes, societies, ethnicities, and culture? Which came first?. This question might show a general ignorance of these terms. I’m really interested in the dispersal of societies as it contributed to the spread of civilization. In my lay-person mind, I imagine tribes were fairly homogenous, developed common culture, and this led to a society. Due to general in-group breeding, they developed specific discernible traits - both physical like blonde-hair in Nordic peoples, and cultural, like a common alphabet/language/beliefs. Is this sort of right? Is it simpler, or more complicated?",0 +4625,"why do Roman coins get worse?. The art on Roman/Greek coins keeps getting worse until by the Byzantine period they're unrecognisable. They even go for a front face view at some point as if they're trying to make it worse + +I've heard some say it's because as Rome's economy problems but that can't be it because the same happens in Persia where the economy just keeps growing. Tho the quality of the arts on Persian coins is far more inconsistent than Rome's just compare Ardeshir coins with Khosrow's coins to see they've gotten just as bad + +And who designed and made these coins anyway? What process did they go through to be ""mass produced""?",0 +4626,"Is it possible that the term “Yankee” originated from the Ottoman Turkish “Yengi,” meaning “new”?. Here’s my logic: the earliest etymological origins of the term “Yankee” are—as far as I can tell from cursory Google and Wikipedia searches—unknown, and neither it nor the lyrics to the song we know as “Yankee Doodle” seem to appear in the historical record before the early 18th century. There are a number of established theories regarding the origins of both words (e.g. the Dutch “Janneke” and the German “Dödel”) but it seems as though none are considered authoritative. On the other hand, we know that Europe maintained extensive contact with the Ottoman Empire from the 14th century onward, and that the term “New World” was rendered in Ottoman Turkish as “Yengi Donya” (“Yeni Dünya” in modern Turkish). Being that the word “Yankee” has only ever been used to describe inhabitants of North America—often referred to as the New World—could there possibly be any connection between the Turkish term, the song’s lyrics, and the modern slang?",0 +4627,"What made ruler's conquer?/ Book request.. Of course there are many reasons why ancient ruler's tried to conquer other nations or expand their influence. This is also not to say many don't do the same today, or at least try to put a different paint over it. + +But I'm interested in learning more about the psychology behind why certain leaders did what they did? Why were they power hungry? Did they just think they were the best for the job? + +Why did they constantly try to expand? Did the rewards that greatly outweigh the cost both in lives and resources? How much did they actually care? Were they trying to gain more land for their people or were they just looking for a shiny new toy? + +Also why did they treat the inhabitants of conquered lands how they did? Once they were conquered did they consider them their people? Why or why not? + +Were they just trying to build a legacy? Why was that so important to them? + +I would love to hear comments on this. Especially if someone has a book to recommend. Also this is my first time posting here. If it doesn't belong my apologies!",0 +4628,"What made the ancient Eyptian and Maya civilisations so successful?. First of all, I hope I'm posting this question in the right place. If not, please let me know. + +I have always been particularly fascinated by the long and rich history of Ancient Egypt. I don't think I have to explain how long and rich it is on this subreddit, but recently I have been doing some digging and found a question I can't answer: what exactly made them so successful? + +Some background to my question: It seems to be generally accepted that Ancient Egypt reached the pinnacle of its power/civilisation during the New Kingdom period (1549 BC - 1069 BC). By this time, they had already been around for well over a millenium, and even if their decline started then, it would take until 30 BC before Egypt became a Roman province at the end of the Ptolemaic dynasty. Altogether, this civilisation existed for more than three millennia. The only other civilisation that I know of that comes close to this is the Maya civilisation, which arose during the Preclassic period (ca. 2000 BC). It suffered from a collapse during the 9th century BC, followed by the much diminished Postclassic period that lasted until the Spanish conquest in the 16th and 17th century. + +The longevity of these civilisations is something that has always impressed me deeply and I have been trying to come up with explanations myself, such as the presence of fertile land or natural barriers to keep invaders out. However, these 'explanations' seem to be insufficient, as these geographical features are not unique by any means. + +Has there been any (historical) consensus on why exactly these two civilisations have been so successful/long-lasting?",0 +4629,"How much of France actually took part in the Revolution. Hi everyone I was wondering how much of France actually took part during the Revolution. Wss it primarily the the capital and other big cities or did the rural areas also actively participate in the Revolution? + +My understanding was that the Revolution was chiefly driven by the relatively rich Bourgeois class within the big city while during and after the Revolution the rural peasantry remained largely antagonistic towards the Revolution, remaining loyal to king and church. + +I have not been able to find anything on the Internet so any help would be appreciated. Thank you for helping!",0 +4630,"What misconceptions did we have about the ancient Egyptians prior to the discovery and translation of the Rosetta Stone?. Since we couldn't decipher the language yet I imagine that researchers had incorrect theories about the Egyptians based on interpretations of the various murals and artifacts that had been discovered. I'm wondering what assumptions about Egyptian life, culture, or religion existed prior to the ability to translate their language that turned out to be wrong. Was there anything major that changed or was it mostly little things researchers were incorrect about?",0 +4631,Operation Bumblebee-US Navy Top Secret Ramjet Program. ,0 +4632,"How did people store their writings in Ancient Greek and Rome?. From what I found online, quill was invented only in 600 AD. Greeks and Romans used wax tablets and stylus. + +Was it stored on wax tablets as well? Was there any way of copying? + +Say, Aristotle works. There are about 1500 pages. You definitely couldn't write with as small of a script on wax, so one modern page should have at least 2-3 more text. That means, there should be at least 3000 wax tablets to for Aristotle works. That's like a full room of tablets! And that's only his works. What about the works of other authors that he read.",0 +4633,Sushruta: Was This Indian Genius The First Plastic Surgeon? - Historic Mysteries. ,0 +4634,Inner Sancta of Ancient Artists. ,0 +4635,"No, the Vikings didn't wear helmets with horns. ",0 +4636,"Historians and history students of reddit, which historical fiction novels have you read that are historically accurate, or at least authentic?. I'm trying to find a series of historical fiction novels to get into and, honestly, as a history student myself who places high importance on historical accuracy in media, I have a hard time trying to find a series - or even a stand alone novel - that properly portrays the time period when trying to tell its story. + +For example, I read a sample of Conn Iggulden's *The Gates of Rome*, and I could not help but groan when Pompey Magnus, when declaring Caesar an enemy of Rome, referred to Rome's holdings as ""our country."" Plus, as is also the case with his *Hundred Years War* series, his contemporary prose takes you out of the experience, and does not feel like you are witnessing a story taking place in a different time period. + +But enough of my rant. Overall, I'm looking for a series that not only has a good plot, but stays true to the time period it is representing. Although I prefer military and political history, I'm open to any time period. + +If any of you need more specifics, please let me know. Thanks a lot in advance everyone! + +P.S. I've heard good things about Bernard Cornwell's *The Saxon Stories*. Would that be worth checking out?",0 +4637,WWI's Christmas Truce: When Fighting Paused for the Holiday. ,0 +4638,"Watch ""Doolittle Raid Over Tokyo WWII Newsreel (Great Original Footage)"" on YouTube. ",0 +4639,"JFK's Last Hotel Room - Hotel Texas (Fort Worth, TX). ",0 +4640,"Back before the printing press, and news was delivered by individuals traveling for great day, how common were things such as lying or embellishment of news?. I love period pieces and a part of history that’s always interested me was how slowly news spread around. + +I’m only using this example because it’s the most recent thing I’ve been watching…but in Viking (just started Season 5, so no spoilers please :P ) so much of the plot involves people sailing around and filling each other in on news of things that happened days ago…and everyone just…believed each other? + +Was life just…slower back then? And people more trustworthy? What’s stopping me, say, from delivering false or embellished news to someone I wanted to overthrow, to give them a false sense of security?",0 +4641,"Has anyone tried to create something like Mark Twain's idea for an ""ancient news"" site?. In Twain's Autobiography, he wrote: + +""I started to say, a while ago, that when I had seemingly made that discovery of the difference between ""news"" and ""history"" thirty-nine years ago, I conceived the idea of a magazine, to be called The Back Number and to contain nothing but ancient news; narratives culled from moldy old newspapers and moldy old books; narratives set down by eye-witnesses at the time that the episodes treated of happened."" + +As a good example, he wrote about this"" + + +""I wonder what the Morris incident will look like in history fifty years from now. Consider these circumstances: that here at our own doors the mighty insurance upheaval has not settled down to a level yet. Even yesterday, and day before, the discredited millionaire insurance magnates had not all been flung out and buried from sight under the maledictions of the nation, but some of the McCurdies, McCalls, Hydes, and Alexanders were still lingering in positions of trust, such as directorships in banks. Also we have to-day the whole nation's attention centered upon the Standard Oil corporation, the most prodigious commercial force existing upon the planet. All the American world are standing breathless and wondering if the Standard Oil is going to come out of its Missourian battle crippled, and if crippled, how much crippled. Also we have Congress threatening to overhaul the Panama Canal Commission to see what it has done with the fifty-nine millions, and to find out what it proposes to do with the recently added eleven millions. Also there are three or four other matters of colossal public interest on the board to-day. And on the other side of the ocean we have Church and State separated in France; we have a threat of war between France and Germany upon the Morocco question; we have a crushed revolution in Russia, with the Tsar and his family of thieves--the grand dukes--recovering from their long fright and beginning to butcher the remnants of the revolutionaries in the old confident way that was the Russian way in former days for three centuries; we have China furnishing a solemn and awful mystery. Nobody knows what it is, but we are sending three regiments in a hurry from the Philippines to China, under the generalship of Funston, the man who captured Aguinaldo by methods which would disgrace the lowest blatherskite that is doing time in any penitentiary. Nobody seems to know what the Chinese mystery is, but everybody seems to think that a giant convulsion is impending there. + +That is the menu as it stands to-day. These are the things which offer themselves to the world's attention to-day. Apparently they are large enough to leave no space for smaller matters, yet the Morris incident comes up and blots the whole thing out. The Morris incident is making a flurry in Congress, and for several days now it has been rioting through the imagination of the American nation and setting every tongue afire with excited talk. This autobiography will not see the light of print until after my death. I do not know when that is going to happen, and do not feel a large interest in the matter, anyway. It may be some years yet, but if it does not occur within the next three months I am confident that by that time the nation, encountering the Morris incident in my autobiography, would be trying to remember what the incident was, and not succeeding. That incident, which is so large to-day, will be so small three or four months from now it will then have taken its place with the abortive Russian revolution and these other large matters, and nobody will be able to tell one from the other by difference of size.""",0 +4642,Weird old book finder. ,0 +4643,A Brief History of Computers and Computing (from Babbage's Diff Engine to James Webb Telescope). ,0 +4644,"Question about Helenic ancient history. So, let me start with embarrasment admitting that now that I looked back, I have not touched a history book(And I used to love history) for at least 10 years, so there, that is out on the air. + +Now forgive me for my ignorance, but I was thinking, while replaying AC Odyssey, about my time in Greece and about what I remembered of history, but checking online and for what I remember, before certain period, it is all myths + +Is that correct? Is everything before around the 500/600s BC only myths? Do we really have absolutely no information of time before that with the exception of said myths? + +I mean, I know there is information about, say, mesopotamian culture, so I really cannot(OR don't want to) believe that we have nothing but myths from Greece",0 +4645,"History of gelatin based confectionery. Hello all, + +Some time ago I was eating a pack of Drumstick Squashies made by Sizzels whose logo proudly states "".. since 1928"". That got me wondering for how long have Haribo candies been around - the answer is a bit longer, since 1920. + +Now if you do a web search for ""History of gelatin based confectionery"" the first of results will all be telling the history of the Hans Riegel who started up Haribo. However when looking at the various types of jelly candy you can see that some of the first sources to mention them were from about 50+ earlier: gumdrops (1859), jelly beans (1861) and apparently the british Jelly Babies who were produced and sold since 1864. + +Something else I found weird is no references of Lokum (Turkish delight) which I believe should be much older than the previously mentioned sweets. + +That being said can we consider that gelatin sweets were present in different parts of the world simultaneously without being in contact? Or perhaps is it a particular region that was responsible for spreading the methods of making gelatin sweets? Perhaps the craft itself and shaping the recipes into business models did not occur at the same time/place? Feel free to add anything that can make the picture clearer! + +I'm in no way a historian or somebody that has received proper education in the field. The above is what I have gathered from web searches and wikipedia articles, which in the past I've been told cannot be considered as credible sources. + +Thanks!",0 +4646,"When and why did the American political parties flip?. I often see it brought up “Lincoln was a Republican” or “Democrats were pro-slavery”. + +It seems obvious to me a shift occurred in American politics and the Republicans went from the left to the right and vice-versa. I say “obvious” but my study of American politics is extremely amateurish, it boils down to high school AP history, podcasts and simple books. American history isn’t really my main interest. + +Maybe this shift didn’t actually occur how I imagine it did. + +However, if it did in fact happen, then when did this happen and what lead to it? If it didn’t happen… what did?",0 +4647,"Where do you draw a line?. Where (or do you even) draw the line between the Roman Empire, the E/WRE and the Byzantine Empire? Why? And also, does it make sense to study these as separate entities or not? Why? + +I draw the line of the RE and BE at IIRC Heraclius' oath to manage the empire for Mary. Before this it was all about law and such. This is a distinctly different governing and political philosophy, the empire with republican forms has become a theocracy. I also accept that this is not uncommon in history, and we refer to all sorts of polities that have a very different political conception now than they did. At the same time though, the methods and devices of governing changed too. The language changed, the religion changed, the ethnicities changed. While the official terminology stayed, nobody considers Charlemagne as a Roman Emperor, nor Ivan Grozny, and certainly not ibn Qutalmish. + +For another example of continuity that I think is better, Great Britain. At every point of change, there is a differentiation via name. GB started in Roman times, but nobody says that at any point GB was ""Rome"" even though they kept the forms for some time. Every turning point in GB history seems to have a corresponding polity to go with it, England is different from Murcia, is different from the UK. Nobody seriously says that the UK is Rome, England, or Wessex. It also goes in reverse, nobody confuses the UK history with English history. And nobody thinks Canada will be or is now a continuation of the British Empire, even though they still like the queen (do you?). + +If some calamity happened in 1890 and the only part of the British Empire that survived was India, would we really call the Subcontinent ""Britain""? I honestly don't know on this one. + +So why do we do this debate about RE/ERE-WRE/BE? + +I think it lends a certain shorthand to history to refer to this as the BE rather than the RE or ERE, but at the same time I am fine with considering it all under ""Roman Studies"". + +I am open to all ideas and reasoning on the topic, but keep it to *why* in the sense of how we study it, not the facts of terminology or whatnot, we all know those. Why would the fact that people refer to themselves in a way that we know is fallacious, or at least an affectation, be a reason? That kind of thing.",0 +4648,"Baochuan, how realistic could they have been. It's not just the matter of the length of the hull, that could supposedly be reinforced enough through seemingly superior (yet rather evasive in their description) Chinese shipbuilding techniques, the implausibility also comes from the sheer height and mass of the sails (and in particular the central one) which according to pictures is insanely big. I can't imagine anything made of wood resisting the wind pressure it can get, and the weight of the sail itself. + +a site among other speaking of them + +[https://naval-encyclopedia.com/medieval-ships.php](https://naval-encyclopedia.com/medieval-ships.php) + +​ + +So any insight from you guys? Do you think or do you have serious articles on how plausible they were?",0 +4649,A People Without History: T.S. Eliot's Critique of Evolutionary History. ,0 +4650,"A German Volunteer at the Siege of Tsingtao in 1914, as told by a 90-year-old in 1980. Also how Indigo blue dye came to China,. ",0 +4651,"How didn't several islands in the westernmost of Japan (Ryukyu Islands) either transferred or handed over to the Republic of China (Taiwan) after WWII?. In the brevity historical reference, the U.S and R.O.C officials discussed each other with small mentioned on several islands of westernmost Japan should be given a gift to the Republic of China's territory. There was a conspiracy several or many months before the end of WWII about the unresolved fate of the Ryukyu Islands. + +According to author Robert D. Eldridge, President Truman asks R.O.C Generalissimo Chiang Kai-shek about the voluntarily joint administration of the Ryukyu Islands after Japan surrenders to the Allies to safeguard the terrified civilians. Chiang replies, ""China would be agreeable to joint occupation of the Ryukyus by China and the United States and, eventually, joint administration by the two countries under the trusteeship of an international organization."" But due to complicating deal, the R.O.C dropped the pretension to join the occupation of the Ryukyu Islands. It didn't want to offend the R.O.C forces to pretense permanently staying in the Ryukyu Islands as allegedly eliminating the Japanese culture. We may be concerned about the violation of the U.N Charter. Therefore, the Ryukyu Islands were temporarily administered by the U.S post-WWII. + +In conclusion, Chiang and his representatives declined the offer of military occupation ""that neither the Minister for Foreign Affairs nor any other part of the Chinese Government contemplated their return to China in a peace settlement."" + +The overall negotiation about the Ryukyu Islands talks through during the 1943 Cairo Conference. + +​ + +Website reference: [https://cpri.tripod.com/cpr1999/ryukyu.html](https://cpri.tripod.com/cpr1999/ryukyu.html)",0 +4652,Did Nero really fiddle while Rome burned?. ,0 +4653,A Brief History of Abortion Law in America. ,0 +4654,"AJP Taylor's Origins of the Second World War caused a controversy amongst scholars on its release in 1961. How do historians view his thesis today?. I posted this in Ask Historians but didn't get an answer :( + +​ + +The controversy seems to have been over the notion that Hitler wasn't following a grand plan for a grand war but merely reacted to events as they unfolded around him. At the time this book caused a storm of fierce debate. + +Now, at 61 years distance to its publishing, how do historians today consider this thesis, and has it had a lasting impact on the discussion of the subject?",0 +4655,"Looking for WWI documentaries. Just looking for some good documentaries on WWI and the lead up things like the race for Africa and the rise of the Entente and the Central powers. I’m even willing to start back to the German Unification period. Just want something good to watch. I am really trying to get my self a more complete view of the modern world with some more international perspectives as I live in the United States and most content her takes that US perspective. Anything helps really, I would really like to see the various European perspectives and hopefully an east and central Asian perspective. I think I books would help too but they take long to get through for me.",0 +4656,"Shield wall: A non Sword Formation?!. My personal conclusion + +The shield wall, a dense formation of overlapping shields, appears in Movies and games and reenactment, However there seems to be the widespread idea that the shield wall is a formation of swordsmen even in reenactment. However every historical depiction i have seen shows spears. + +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VM-afOXLBdM&t=427s](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VM-afOXLBdM&t=427s) + +Every swordsmen would have been a Spearman, with the term swords men not even existing in ancient greek. The only exception to this is the roman legionary, who didnt fight in a shield wall. + +*""Now, a Roman soldier in full armour also requires a space of three square feet. But as their method of fighting admits of individual motion for each man—because he defends his body with a shield, which he moves about to any point from which a blow is coming, and because he uses his sword both for cutting and stabbing,—it is evident that each man must have a clear space, and an interval of at least three feet both on flank and rear, if he is to do his duty with any effect.""* + +As one roman would meet to greeks, a greek just takes 1.5 which is pretty much shoulder to shoulder it fits the description of a (really) dense formation. + +The greeks at least would place their elbow over the shields, it therefore would be impossible to raise the shield to block a strike from above like from a sword. This would also explain why shock weapons, like the dane ax or the falx are striking from above, and are so effective. The roman fighting moves, use a lot of raising the shield which matches with the quote. What is interesting is that the romans stole thier weapon designs from the Gauls, who use oval, and other tower shields, with some rectangular however being relatively narrow. SO the roman descriptions of gauls fighting in a loose fashsion, individually, mid just mean that they fought similar to the romans, the narrow shields could allow to use the individual while still fighting relatively close together, They seem to small for overlap. When Cesar came they allready adopted a phalanx formation. + +Back to the topic, the shield wall seems to be the best formation for fighting a cohesive unit as a team, a tactic where the individual skill and movement is suppressed for the good of the whole. A Sword on the other hand seems to be the symbol of the individual fighter, the hero, the king, the champion, the raider. + +The question is, can you keep up a shield wall in sword distance, and should you? + +When watching those reenactment battles or sca, what i noticed is that people tend to raise their shields to stop the the enemy from striking over it. so both sides stike somewhat blindly over each others shield once they go shield to shield. The shield wall really seems to work and hold when at spear point, which happened much more at sca (watched mainly Bridge battles, as they arent as chaotic) where spears and other pole arms are used as much if not more than shields. Sooner or later the shields would charge and often go shield to shield and engage in the above or even push into or back the formation. Its pretty brutal. pole arms are also surprisingly effective in this mess, being even (sometimes) able to hold thier ground and fight as their shield wall collapses into chaos. + +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vGR4dgeStOQ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vGR4dgeStOQ) + +​ + +The sword is an individual weapon, why would you even what to fight with in in a formation when you cant really support each other with it. + +in a shield wall it also seems hard to block strikes from above, like from a sword, + +whis would aso explain why shock weapons, like the dane ax or the falx are striking from above, and are so effective. + +The wedge formation makes also seense, as it is not a shield wall, (seems hard to impossible to maintain a dense formation with overlapping shields, tho a dense formation would be needed if you want to shove throu the enemy). The point of the wedge mind not be to push in or thru the formation, (could be and depends on angle, mass ecra) but you close in. + +Putting the boldest, best and most armoured, the leaders in the front, they take the brunt of the defence. The defender spear men mid all aim for the one in the front allowing and forcing the other to close in. Another posibility could be that large parts could reamain outside the spear range. + +But that are just idears. + +Let me know what you think or what you know/ have expirienced. I want to see other view point and opinions than mine on this. This is pretty theoretical and logical, so dont just quote some historian or try to interpret some other question into this. think and theorise about it, you mid just come up with a new posibility. Oh if you have any historical acount that fit the topic feel free to share them. Just be civil. + +This one is interessting as it would contradict my idear some what, but i dont know what thier souces are [https://weaponsandwarfare.com/2016/06/30/behind-the-saxon-shield-wall/](https://weaponsandwarfare.com/2016/06/30/behind-the-saxon-shield-wall/)",0 +4657,"How did various Power of Europe response to agricultural and industrial revolution?. Britain Agricultural revolution(Tunip Townshend etc.) come about as a result of landowners(Including middle class who buy land from nobles) effort to increase productivity and to gain profit by selling grain,these would in turn lead to surplus labors and culture climate that lead to Industrial revolution.Russia on the other hand is a much bigger place than Britain and with poor transportation network,This mean that Russian peasants and land owners couldn't export grain properly. Since even if they did produce more grain there would be little profit,the peasants/Serfs stay with three field subsistence farming and the landowners didn't care much,This situation persist even after the abolition of Serfdom in 1861 but would slowly change since the Russian Imperial government started expanding railroad after the Crimean war and by 1890s Russia became the World largest exporter of grain. +What about other nations like the Austrian empire,Prussia and Italy? Are there experiences similar or different from Britain and Russia.",0 +4658,"Spanish conquest of Mexico- Why it really succeeded and its long lasting consequences.. + +Hi! I´m new in this sub so sorry if I put up the wrong flair, or if I’m on the wrong sub for that matter. Ok, so I´ve seen a lot of debate surrounding this topic and I wanted to throw in my own input into the mix. + +I was recently reading “The broken spears” by Miguel León-Portilla, I gotta say- a heartbreaking book, it truly moved me. It's a recollection of testimonies translated from nahuatl (the aztecs language) about the conquest, presenting their side of history and bringing to light the true extent to which indegenous culture was destroyed and all the things that were tragically lost. It got me thinking…what was the real cause of the fall of Tenochtitlan and all the things that followed? How could such a glorious culture let itself be taken down so easily? + +No doubt we´ve all heard the tales of Spaniard superiority and how the white man's outstanding technology gave them an easy win, but I call BS on that. I think that it was most likely the clash of cultures and not the clash of weapons that broke them down. I mean, think about it- indegenous societies were much more stable and tranquil, they were unprepared for the aggressive, perverse demeanor and culture of the spaniards. It makes sense that that caused a state of anomie and individuals couldn't help but feeling futile; emotionally, psychologically empty and confused in the face of their previous morals and values disintegrating. + +I also think that indigenous people were too good for their own good. In various letters to the king from Cortes, as well as in the testimonies of several other people who accompanied him (Díaz and Gomara) it states that Moctezuma humiliated himself in front of Cortez by looking him in the eye (which was a forbidden thing to do for those who were not nobility) and kneeling submissively. Cortes and his army got a welcome so warm to the point they were almost treated like kings. All this was of course before they knew their true intentions but it still was a big contributing factor to their downfall, and even after their downfall most of these individuals did not fight back- much to the contrary, they licked their enemies boots. Fray Bartolomé de las Casas (a spaniard historian) describes them as good servants “God created them as simple people, who are free of evil \[...\] they are obedient, humble and serve their christian masters faithfully .” + +And then of course there was the strategic killings of key power figures such as Moctezuma and Cuauhtemoc which were each described by Zamora (a messenger to the king) to “give birth to of a sort of chaos \[…\] a void of emptiness in which the universe disappears and pain is the only thing that remains.”, the people would suffer and feel aimless at the absence of a leader, which of course would make the conquerors job much easier. + +Moreover, Fray Bernardino de Sahagún tells us in *The Florentine Codex* how the Spanish soldiers destroyed and burned down Huitzilopochtli's *cu mayor* (something like a church for their main god.) This action only confirmed the presages Aztecs had seen just a few days before the spanish arrival. I think this may contribute to the loss of trust between Aztecs and the colonizers and showed how their ""friends"" were. + +After the Aztecs managed to put out the fire, they cried and cried, the fire was a bad presage, even more since it started in a sacred place. + +I should say, this wasn't the only time the conquerors disrespected indigenous believes, we have so many examples i.e. Cholula and Templo Mayor's massacre, they even stole and kidnapped people from Tlatelolco market. These people weren't soldiers, they were merchants, artists, they were common people. + +And of course there is more but that's the sum of it. Sorry for mistakes, english’s not my first language. + +>I would love to hear what you guys think about this.",0 +4659,"Cutting hands on Appanin Peninsula. Sorry for my English, I'm trying my best. + +Recently I found a song of Przemysław Gintrowski, Polish artist , called ""Kataryniarz"". I recognized most of historical references but I can't figure out this one: + +My translation: +""And a ghastly waltz sounds as the world goes dancing +Ang once again to the windmills someone rushes on a horse +Once again Abel falls deas, the murderer- unknown +And he who fought for the people has his hands cut off"" + +Polish version in case I messed something up: +""I brzmi walc upiorny aż wiatr poszedł w tany +I znów ku wiatrakom ktoś pogna na koniu +Znów Abel padł martwy, morderca- nieznany +A kto za lud walczył, obcięte ma dłonie"" + +The first part is referencing Don Kichot of course, I wanted to quote the whole part to give context. It's probably referencing something that happened on Appanin Peninsula since the song also mentions Bastille, Florence and Rome, no other places. + +I think I read that in Florence thieves had their hands cut off but I wouldn't say they fought for anyone. I'm once again sorry for chaotic writing and possible mistakes, thanks in advance.",0 +4660,"Were shields used by knights in early XVth cetnury?. It is the fact that shield vanished from knight combat gear in circa 1400s, and the reason was, as we know - ""plate armor became too tough and shield were useless, etc"". But it is surely more complicated, right? + +Now, my question is not about footman, crossbowman or tournaments. What i'm trying to understand - is that were heater shields used by knights in real foot combat in circa 1400-1430? + +I've done a little research myself and came to some interesting conclusions. For example, in some illustrations of the code of Wallerstein we can see fighters in plate armor using heater shields. Interesting thing is - they're use it either with and without spear, even for parrying sword: + +[https://wiktenauer.com/wiki/File:Cod.I.6.4%C2%BA.2\_082v.jpg](https://wiktenauer.com/wiki/File:Cod.I.6.4%C2%BA.2_082v.jpg) + +[https://wiktenauer.com/wiki/File:Cod.I.6.4%C2%BA.2\_091r.jpg](https://wiktenauer.com/wiki/File:Cod.I.6.4%C2%BA.2_091r.jpg) + +[https://wiktenauer.com/wiki/Codex\_Wallerstein\_(Cod.I.6.4%C2%BA.2)#/media/File:Cod.I.6.4%C2%BA.2\_104v.jpg](https://wiktenauer.com/wiki/Codex_Wallerstein_(Cod.I.6.4%C2%BA.2)#/media/File:Cod.I.6.4%C2%BA.2_104v.jpg) + +In some of illustrations shields are lying on the ground, as like knights somehow dropped them, but still, they were carrying it. + +I understand that this manuscript is dedicated for fencing and tournament fight, but still, it could be kind of ""battlefield reflection"" in some points. Important detail about code of Wallerstein - is that we don't know exactly when it was written. Wiktenauer claims date range as circa 1420-1470. So it could be both early and late XV century. It's hard to tell something with that range. + +Another example is in French Book of Hours ca 1425-1430. In the scene of crucifixion we can see a man in chainmail and brigandine, holding a large heater shield in his hand: + +[http://ica.themorgan.org/manuscript/page/88/76786](http://ica.themorgan.org/manuscript/page/88/76786) + +Another one - French ""Chroniques"" ca 1412-1415. There are almost no shields in this manuscript, but seems like they're still appear in the battlefield. In this particular illustration we can see a large round targe and possibly heater shield in the left. Both are hyperbolized in sizes, but they're still held by heavy armored footmen. + +[http://ica.themorgan.org/manuscript/page/28/147009](http://ica.themorgan.org/manuscript/page/28/147009) + +One more French example - ""Battle with dragons"" from Historia de proelis, ca 1420. + +[http://www.bl.uk/catalogues/illuminatedmanuscripts/ILLUMIN.ASP?Size=mid&IllID=50219](http://www.bl.uk/catalogues/illuminatedmanuscripts/ILLUMIN.ASP?Size=mid&IllID=50219) + +English one - ""Battle of trees"" by Christine de Pisan, dated 1436. Might be not the real image, but there is still some sort of large, possibly metal shield used by foot knight with the sword + +[https://www.bl.uk/catalogues/illuminatedmanuscripts/ILLUMIN.ASP?Size=mid&IllID=13334](https://www.bl.uk/catalogues/illuminatedmanuscripts/ILLUMIN.ASP?Size=mid&IllID=13334) + +​ + +So yes, this question is pretty hard. Of course, majority of manusripts of that time do not depict shields at all, but those images that were still depicting them causing even more questions because of it. My version is - shield usage depended on geographical place and economical wealth of knight. Perhaps, Milanese nobles threw out their shields even in XIV century, but plate armor of early 1400s still was not that perfect, and maybe some part of knights somewhere in England or Holy Roman Empire had not enough money to afford best gear possible, so still used shields in combat. Surely, they were not used widely, but the question is - was it possible to see a foot knight with shield in that years at all? + +What do you think about this?",0 +4661,"Why weren't Native Americans able to industrialize after centuries of contact with Europeans?. In this I refer to all natives from North and South America as native Americans. So why, even centuries after Europeans arrived on the continent, did the majority of native Americans not industrialize or at least develop basic industries? It seemed that by the early 19th century, the natives still occupied much of the interior of the continents and had already made contact with various European powers. Why couldn't they for example send people to be educated in those countries and return with technology? That approach seemed to have worked for China and Japan. + +The only example of a native state that was able to compete with states established by the descendants of colonists on equal footing seemed to be Paraguay, and even they were colonized for several hundred years and were heavily influenced by European culture. In other parts of the world, for example China, Japan, or various Indian states and even the Dzungar Khanate, which was a literal steppe nomadic empire, were all able to industrialize to some degree after contact with Europeans (obviously some states like Japan were far more successful than said Indian states or Dzungar Khanate).",0 +4662,"Why is medieval history so full of misconceptions and myths that still linger on despite its vast popularity amongst the mainstream population and large amounts of research about the era, and/or its inspiration for many works of fiction?. This begs the question why is medieval history so full of misconceptions and myths despite its popularity and/or its inspiration of many works of fiction as a large portion of the medieval era is passed down by the use of popular myths or classical fables like the archetype of the honourable knight and the Crusades, the myth of King Arthur, the popularity of the use of the Medieval Era as a theme or a source of inspiration in several works of fiction like Game of Thrones, Lord of the Rings and the Witcher. + +There is a lot of romanticism and interest about the era but there are also misconceptions that still linger on. + +Some of these are ones that I was not aware of until later on such as the reoccurring theme that the Medieval era was less advanced than the classical era during the time of the Western Roman Empire, or that the Medieval era is rather filthy and gloomy compared to other eras, or how actually honourable or dishonourable the knights were or the vast number of different types of samurai or the brutal lifestyles and deeds that they did in the name of honour and carrying the art of the war. + +​ + +I keep on noticing that these themes still exist and I am curious why this is the case",0 +4663,"Who Are the Shadiest Characters in US History?. I am trying to compile a list of figures who somehow succeeded in what they do ie swindling a lot of money and ruling a bunch of people only to allow justice to teach them a lesson in the end. Also with the supposition that they got many chances to come clean but yet greed and sinister behavior prevail. Below are a couple of characters along that vein: + +* Samuel Brannan: Mormon settler that profited over the CA Gold Rush while turning his back on the church. +* William Walker: the dude that manage to declare filibuster wars against sovereign nations against the will of the US govt and somehow managed to rule some parts of Mexico and Nicaragua albeit for a very short period. +* Albert Fall: Sec of Interior of the Warren Harding administration that transferred control of oil navy preserves of the navy to oil men taking exorbitant bribes +* Henry Starr: bandit that somehow managed to rob 21 banks in his entire career and arrested multiple times including a pardon by President Roosevelt but always reverting back to his crooked ways after each release. +* Boss Tweed: Leader of the NYC Tammany Hall that somehow managed to pilfer so much money out of govt and engage in so much corrupt practices. + +I'm sure there is more than a handful like that throughout history. Please share...",0 +4664,"Is the Swedish royal family, Bernadotte, related to the house of Vasa?. I know of most major Swedish lines of succession, but one line that bothers me is the house of Bernadotte. Not because it was “adopted” into Swedish royalty, but rather because I am unsure whether or not the family is linked by blood to the house of Vasa. I know there is a connection between Bernadotte and the house of Glöcksburg via princess Ingrid, mother to the queen of Denmark, but my knowledge of Danish royalty stops there. I’ve tried googling it but the information in English is far too complicated for my vocabulary, I don’t understand Danish and the Swedish search results are mostly discussions on forums, which I don’t trust. + +So I’ve come to you, masters of Reddit, in search of true knowledge. Is the Bernadotte family related by blood to the house of Vasa? It’s personal and very interesting to me.",0 +4665,"How common was it in the early and mid 20th century to carry large amounts of cash?. What prompted this question was a scene in a movie from the 1950s where a guy hops on an overnight train on the spur of the moment and pays nearly $50 cash for a ticket, which is the equivalent of about $500 today. He had no prior plans to take a long trip. How realistic was this at the time? Did people back then ordinarily carry around the equivalent of hundreds or thousands of dollars without expecting to make a large purchase?",0 +4666,"Study problem: Partholon and Nemed and sources of Irish history.. Considering these two figures as far as I know are mainly featured in the Labor Gabala, and are to academics a pseudo history created by christians to make the history of Ireland more Israelite-like I would like to know .. what are non-christian, proper' sources to Irish mythologies and histories? + +I am currently studying the cycles (of Irish myth) but its chaotic because of the above butchering, and despite having loads of books at this point about the subject I cannot see a clear path through.. perhaps someone here can help me? (Don't just post googled links, I mean someone who actually studies this too and can help me out at a higher level than that.) + +I would like to find proper pre-christian sources of symbols such as the Dagda, Danu and Ogma etc, and peoples such as the fomorii and de Danann, and not of christian sources such as Nennius and the likes. + +Hope someone here can help. At wits end here. + +\-Cal.",0 +4667,Historian explains the event behind the Germanic pamphlets of Vlad dinning under the bodies of impaled people and the fate of his family. ,0 +4668,"This online portal shows where more than 1,400 Canadians who fell in combat during WW1 were born, lived, killed and presumably buried around Ypres (Belgium). ",0 +4669,"Good or Bad? The Impacts Of WW1 On Canada. + +The First World War had a mostly negative impact on Canada because of declines in the agricultural sector and poor treatment of non-Western European people in Canada. The war to end all wars led to the plunge of the farming sector in Canada, and factories had a prominent role to play in this. Non-Western Europeans were not liked in Canada, and the great war turned hatred against them into paranoia, which led to their poor treatment. The great war had a positive impact too, like the recognition of the contributions made by women during the war. + +The great war hurt Canada because it led to the agricultural sector's decline in Canada. More and more factories were being built, and the factories of the Imperial Munitions Board employed 250,000 men and 50,000 women. A historian named William Young said in the article, ""After the fighting, a nation changed,"" ""The high wages paid by the new munitions factories seemed to exercise an almost irresistible attraction for the comparatively underpaid agricultural laborer's who flooded to the cities to work."" Prime Minister Borden allowed farmers' sons to be exempt from conscription, but this promise was broken, further worsening the employment crisis in the agricultural sector. This led to less agricultural production, which put the sector into a decline. A vital component of war was now in short supply. + +Non-Western Europeans were not liked in Canada, and World War I caused hatred for them to skyrocket. German speakers, people from the Austro-Hungarian empire, and Ukrainians were thought to be disloyal to Canada. This hatred only escalated when a lot of people faced internment because of their ethnicity. In May of 1919, there was a huge strike in Winnipeg, which increased paranoia and made it seem that capitalism and good order were under attack. This made Canada have fear and unrest as the nation was getting so divided, that ethnicities were getting spied on for fear of rebellion similar to Russia’s 1917 Bolshevik revolution. + +The way women contributed to Canada allowed them to get rights after the war had ended. Before the war, women were housewives while men were the workers, but when the war came, though they had lower wages than men, they filled the positions of men. This allowed women to show their abilities and since this was a major change, it attracted the government’s attention. Women were seen more in the workplace, though later on in the war the amount of women in the workplace returned to pre war levels. In 1917, during the Canadian elections, women, especially those that had relatives on the front, were allowed to vote. Even though it was a political move, this eventually led to the permanent right for all women to vote in 1918. These contributions led to the government recognizing women's efforts, paving the way for the call for more women's rights. + +World War I had a bad impact on Canada because of the decline of the agricultural sector and more hatred against non-Western European people in Canada. Hatred and agricultural insecurity resulted in a slew of setbacks for Canada. There were some positive impacts too, and one that I have talked about is the increase in rights for women. World war one had a lot of positives. The positives of World War one show that, there are many negatives to World War one, but sometimes great sacrifices yield future gains. + +​ + +What do you think about the impact of World War 1 on Canada? Was it good or bad?",0 +4670,"I am beginning my step into the field archaeology, are there any important info of the American Revolution that I missed and should know about ?. Hello everyone I am new to this sub, I am trying to learn more about history and I needed a place to start, so i chose american history because I am an american, originally I was going to do research on why we have a separation of church and state because I heard the country was created because the founders was trying to escape religion oppression but when I learn that it was because Great Britain was taxing Virginia for whatever reason and that the country was already a country, I decide to go all the way to the beginning to understand more. So for about an hour I did research on why the country was founded and this was the fruit of my labor. + +I wanna know is there anything else important that I missed, I think I got all the major important stuff ( or the things I thought was important) but I wanna know if there some other information that would be important to know ? + +* The United States was formed as a result of the [American Revolution](https://www.ducksters.com/history/american_revolution.php) when the thirteen American colonies revolted against the rule of Great Britain. +* **American Revolution**, also called **United States War of Independence** or **American Revolutionary War**, +* The war started April 19, 1775 – September 3, 1783 and america was declared there independent on July 4, 1776 the war lasted 8 years +* The main cause of the war was taxes and a lack of representation, but there was other reason +* [Parliament](http://www.parliament.uk/) wanted the american colonist to pay for the [French and Indian War](https://www.ncpedia.org/colonial/french-and-indian-war), +* In order for the [Parliament](http://www.parliament.uk/) to try to get the colonist to pay for the war they pass taxes a year after the war in 1764 with the Sugar Act. and the [Stamp Act](https://www.ncpedia.org/stamp-act) a year later which basically cause the American Revolution +* The american colonist revolt started small and peaceful with boycott and protest but eventually turn into war +* The colonist used anyone who was willing to fight in their war as soldier, including regular civilian + +​ + +>By the 1770’s, Great Britain had established a number of colonies in North America. The American colonists thought of themselves as citizens of Great Britain and subjects of King George III. + +Also I was wondering if anyone could explain this to me? I got this information from this link [https://jyfmuseums.org/pdf/tea-overboard/Why\_were\_the\_American\_colonies\_unhappy\_with\_the\_British\_government.pdf](https://jyfmuseums.org/pdf/tea-overboard/Why_were_the_American_colonies_unhappy_with_the_British_government.pdf), It just confuse me because I thought by this time period the American Colonist thought of themselves as their own citizens, so why would they think of themselves as Great Britain Citizen? from what I read the whole reason they went to war was because they thought of them self as their own country and didn't think it was fair for them to be tax. The only explanation I can think of that make sense to me is that this link is just wrong, but I am new to this field! + +​ + +Here are the links i use for research in case your curious where I got this knowledge from + +1. [https://www.digitalhistory.uh.edu/disp\_textbook.cfm?smtid=2&psid=3216](https://www.digitalhistory.uh.edu/disp_textbook.cfm?smtid=2&psid=3216) +2. [https://www.ncpedia.org/history/usrevolution/reasons](https://www.ncpedia.org/history/usrevolution/reasons) +3. [https://jyfmuseums.org/pdf/tea-overboard/Why\_were\_the\_American\_colonies\_unhappy\_with\_the\_British\_government.pdf](https://jyfmuseums.org/pdf/tea-overboard/Why_were_the_American_colonies_unhappy_with_the_British_government.pdf) +4. [https://www.ducksters.com/history/american\_revolution.php](https://www.ducksters.com/history/american_revolution.php) + +I wanna thank all of you that will help me in advance!",0 +4671,"How could longer swords been used in shield wall /phalanx warfare. As an example lets take the roman auxiliary (spear men) how could he have used his sword against an enemy sidewall formation of spear men of similar quality. The biggest advantage that i see would be to target the fingers and arms of the enemy spear men. + +But how well can you fight in a dense formation with longer slashing swords against spears, what if the enemy draws theirs to. + +Swords are mentioned in descriptions of battles (then it cam to swords / than it came to swords and maces) + +Sword fighting is always said to take more skill, but how much skill would their be at hacking at each other with vertical cuts? + +Just my thought, let me hear yours",0 +4672,"Examples of the best death by a historical figure?. I was reading one of Montaigne's essays, specifically II:13 ""On judging someone else's death,"" and he describes some of the examples of what he considers to be the most noble deaths in history. He includes Socrates, pointing out that he kept his composure for 30 days after receiving his death sentence and then killed himself ""without fuss"". He also includes Cato the Younger, who killed himself rather than participate in Rome after the fall of the republic. These are examples of people that bravely faced death, but not what I would call the best death. Socrates was condemned to death by his own government, and Cato was forced to commit suicide rather than be captured by Julius Caesar. + +It got me wondering about historical figures that have had the best deaths. By ""best,"" I mean someone who accomplished all of their goals, put their affairs in order for their successors, and then died at the right time without embarrassing themselves or becoming a burden to their families. Do any such examples come to mind?",0 +4673,"Were there such things as raves/clubbing or any equivalent pre-20th century?. Nightlife, fast dance music, clubbing and raves are a big part of modern society today, and to my limited knowledge, started its fruition during the 1900s with things like the 20s swing and dance, etc. + +However, seeing TikToks of people making “classical” versions of hip hop songs and clubbing got me thinking - were there anything like this before the 1900s? Or was everything purely what we now consider classical, the type of music Beethoven (and others) made from this era (era being a sweeping statement I know), no real such thing as a nightlife as we would recognise as todays society?",0 +4674,"Works on the history of drugs. Hi! + +I recently finished a book called “Historia General de las Drogas”, from [Antonio Escohotado](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antonio_Escohotado) (General history of drugs in English). + +The author analyses the use of and society view towards drugs from antiquity to the 90’s. + +It was really eye opening and totally recommend it. The author has published several books on the topic, some shorter, some denser. + +Any other recommendations on the topic of drugs/ethnobotanics? Their history, uses, creation…",0 +4675,"Did Ancient Sculptors Throw Lots of Versions Away?. I was just looking at an image of an ancient Roman sculpture of an Emperor and wondered how they got such detail right first time - or whether there was ancient land fills full of half finished statues! I Googled it and got some answers around clay modelling first and then using some kind of device that maps it to the marble; but that seemingly was only invented in the 18th C. Others mentioned reworking bits around a mistake, which makes sense in some cases, such as changing the hang of a garment or the like. But you couldn’t do that if, say, you’d got the dimple in someone’s chin too deep, for example, not when it’s a real person who’s possibly gonna be offended at the massive chin dimple and can also have you crucified….",0 +4676,"Vikings, Werewolves and Madness - 30 minute video exploring the beliefs and mental health issues of the Viking Age. Detailed summary of ideas on what caused berserker frenzy. Academically referenced at the end.. ",0 +4677,"What would happen to the families of the Ottoman princes after they were murdered by the new Sultan?. After the death of an Ottoman Sultan, I understand that there would be a succession crisis resulting in one of the Sultan's sons inheriting the throne, and the rest of them being executed. But what would happen to the families of the sons who were executed? I'm sure they all had children, wives, probably a living mother, sisters. I assume that any of their male descendants would be executed, but I'm not sure what would happen to the women. Would they be spared? If so, what would their lives be like after?",0 +4678,"Earth hit by gamma ray burst in 775? Annals of the Four masters record, a great fire in the sky near that time.. [https://academic.oup.com/mnras/article/430/1/32/983802](https://academic.oup.com/mnras/article/430/1/32/983802) + + +There is quite a bit of science in regards to the earth being hit by a gamma ray burst in the year 774-775. Coincidently, in the Irish ""Annals of the Four Masters"" near that date is recorded- + + + + +#### M767.7 + +The fair of the clapping of hands, *so called* because terrific and horrible signs appeared at the time, which were like unto the signs of the day of judgment, namely, great thunder and lightning, so that it was insufferable to all to hear the one and see the other. Fear and horror seized the men of Ireland, so that their religious seniors ordered them to make two fasts, together with fervent prayer, and one meal between them, to protect and save them from a pestilence, precisely at Michaelmas. Hence came the Lamhchomart, which was called the Fire from heaven. + + +The precision of the Annals is often suspect, however, this appears at first glance to be more than a coincidence. Any thoughts?",0 +4679,Hitler's StG-44 in Postwar Service. ,0 +4680,"Saragarhi, The British Humiliation Of 1897 And Modern Propaganda. ",0 +4681,How Did Technology Help Create China’s Historically Large Population?. ,0 +4682,"Language, heritage, and disestablished Indian reservations. I've posted elsewhere about an [Indigenous Languages Map](https://www.reddit.com/r/IndianCountry/comments/se6jis/indigenous_languages_of_the_us_and_canada_version/) I'm working on. It's currently getting a revamp using treaties and the Indian Claims Commission to give me a better sense of what language(s) were last spoken in an area, which is the basis for the map. (The clearest example is Potawatomi around Chicago rather than Myaamia. It's the same principle that codes the Black Hills as Lakota rather than Cheyenne.) + +However, I've run into an issue that I'm unsure quite how to resolve. The reservations in Kansas and Missouri were temporary, just 24 years in Kansas' case, before the feds again forced people to leave. This was on already-taken land, of course, mostly Kansa and Osage. + +The intention of the map is to show which indigenous language was last spoken in an area. My gut says it makes sense to code these now-extinct reservations to the language of the people forced to live there, but I also don't want to gloss over the fact that this was someone else's stolen land first. What do you think?",0 +4683,"Best books on The Troubles/Northern Irish Conflict...that offer or even focus on Unionist/Loyalist/British perspectives. I'm currently invested in reading up on The Troubles, but I find that most books approach this period solely from the Nationalist/Republican perspective. This, to me, is where the meat of the history lies, but I'd like to ensure that I'm seeing the period from all angles, insofar as this is possible. + +For example, I'd like to learn a bit more about Ian Paisley (whatever your thoughts on him may be) and, separately, the inner workings and structure of and personalities (e.g., Gusty Spence) comprising the UVF and other Unionist paramilitary groups. I also think it would be fascinating to know about the conversations that were occurring in Downing Street, for example, leading up to rulings by the ECHR finding that certain measures taken by the British army in the 80s constituted human rights violations against Northern Irish Catholics; e.g., to what extent was Thatcher, a known Unionist sympathizer, involved in the decision-making processes that led to such violations? + +Can anyone recommend books that delve into Unionist/Loyalist/British perspectives on The Troubles and/or general Northern Irish conflict? + +Graduate-level/academic readings are preferred, but I will take any and all recs. + +Thank you!",0 +4684,"Where did the U.S. Army Air Corps get stationed in New Zealand during WWII?. Now that New Zealand has recently amended their travel restrictions so that Americans can visit, I was thinking of following my Grandpa's footsteps and take a history holiday. My Grandpa served as a Mechanic in the US Army Air Corps. He eventually made his way to Burma, where he presumably worked on aircraft until the war ended. However, he always told his kids (my mom) that New Zealand was an incredibly beautiful place. Keep in mind that he lived in NYC all his life, so he was probably just culture shocked by seeing a new country. + +I'm trying to figure out where exactly the US Army Air Corps headed to Burma would have been placed before continuing on. That way I can tailor my holiday accordingly.",0 +4685,"Memorable reference points or big trends in medieval history?. Awhile ago I spent a lot of time reading about ancient and classical history and started to build up a sense of a broad sequence from Greek dark age through to rise and then decline of Rome - I had a broad sense of what was going on century by century and did some deeper dives into particular points along the way. + +With medieval history I'm struggling a bit. I've read several overview type texts but am left with few memorable reference points and they're mostly pretty parochial as a brit (Alfred, Norman conquest etx). The first crusade and the black death might be the only wider ones. But otherwise if someone asks how 1000s/1100s/1200s/1300s differ I don't have much intuitive sense or reference point. + +That means when I read something happened in 1183 the date doesn't really lock onto a reference point like it does with more ancient and more modern history (though for modern in all honesty I'm pretty vague on lots of 17th to 19th century too). + +Any suggestions of themes/events/books/podcasts that would help? In the past I've read some pretty hefty academic tomes but tbh right now with the pandemic and work I'm pretty tired most of the time so ideally looking for things that aren't entirely dry!",0 +4686,"How to search for historical plants. Hey all, + +​ + +I'm not 100% if this belongs here, but I'm striking out elsewhere and my google-fu is failing. I'm trying to do some research on plants used throughout history in various areas, and I guess I have no idea where to start without getting extremely granular (like searching every potential plant one by one rather than by potential usage). + + +Every time I think I'm getting somewhere, I run into something like ""...which was introduced to Ireland as an ornamental plant in 1897..."" or ""Was thought to be used as such in Mycenean Greece, but had spread throughout Rome and greater Europe..."" and stuff like that. + + +Would anyone have any idea of how I could get started? If it helps, the main things I'm looking for are plants used in traditional (read-primarily local, rather than via formal education) healing salves/preparations and poisons, in the Celtic areas of Europe (but I'd like to draw a distinction, if there is any, between mainland Europe and England/Ireland). + + +I'm not looking for direct answers, necessarily, but more...a starting point on how to search/parse this?",0 +4687,Interesting article about the history of a silver alloy in world money. ,0 +4688,"Help with the name of a book? About a Dutch German Soldier in WWII?. Hey all, + +I was searching posts on this sub about Stalingrad a few days ago for fun and remember reading a comment about an (auto)biography about a Dutch teenager who joined the German Army in WWII. I forgot to save the post. + +It was akin to All Quiet on the Western Front in that the protagonist began filled with a desire for adventure, honor, etc., but, as the war progressed, he became the antithesis of that. + +Any help would be super duper appreciated :)",0 +4689,"East German Citizens Political Swing. This week I've fallen into a Cold War Europe interest rabbit hole. Today I was wondering how Eastern Germans so quickly adapted from Nazi propaganda denouncing Communism as evil to becoming communist themselves. + +Surely the East German citizens couldn't have had such a political swing so quickly, or was it just so oppressed because of the Stasi etc. that no one dared to speak out against communism? + +I know about 1/4 of the population fled to the West but many stayed there for the rest of the country's existence.",0 +4690,"How Period Accurate was Benedetta?. Benedetta is a new film by Paul Verhoeven that takes place in the 1600s and is about the Catholic Church at the time. I am interested in knowing how period accurate the production design, costuming, dialogue, and general depictions of life are. + +Did people dress that way, use that type of vocabulary, Use those objects, Get tortured that way, Did people really wipe their ass with straw they way they do in the film? Etcetera. + +If they're are any historians out there who can educate me, I would love to know after seeing the film. Please link or forward any resources that may also help or answer this question.",0 +4691,"Can I have some recommendations on Documentaries/Books about indigenous life and history. Hello guys! An average curious person here. I am very interested in the history and life in different places. But rarely see indigenous groups being represented in history books. As a Brazilian, I had the opportunity to be immersed a little bit more in the history of the indigenous people of South America and I find it extremely intriguing. So I've been wondering if you guys can recommend me some material on peoples of different regions. + +I am already seeing a lot of stuff on native Americans, so it is a plus if you know from other places. But I am also open to more recommendations on the matter. + +​ + +Ps: Already seem the recommended list",0 +4692,"Question: Japanese History, Edo Period foccused - What are the different ranks of Yujo? (Japanese Prostitutes). Hi! I've been googling this for the past couple hours and the amount of conflicting information is astounding. I'd really appreciate some help figuring this out, as well as the actual differences between the ranks. + +Here's my current list (...of lists, because of the lack of consistency) of Yujo ranks from highest to lowest. Please let me know if I am close. Seems like the ranks evolved with time, so perhaps my issue is information regarding different time periods. There's also the use of Oiran, which seems to be a catch-all term for high rank Yujo, perhaps applied belatedly, or maybe not. And there's also the comon misconception that Geisha were prostitutes (which is debatable, ""they weren't supposed to be"" seems to be the realistic answer,) further muddying the waters. + +​ + +List 1: [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oiran#Ranks](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oiran#Ranks) Wikipedia, the most illustrious of sources. + +1. Tayū - The Highest Rank and very rare. Didn't sell sexual services. Didn't sit in the Harimise for viewing by the public either. Had Kamuro, these young female servants. They had to be contacted indirectly through other people. ""Oiran"" seems to fit this rank too. +2. Kōshi - no idea +3. Yobidashi Tsukemawarashi - Yobidashi means ""by appointment only."" They did'nt sit in Harimise. As for Tsukemawarashi, it's apparently mid-level, but no explaination why. +4. Sancha - no idea +5. Tsukemawarashi - no idea +6. Zashikimochi - unsure about this. Elsewhere said they had their own room and Kamuro and which puts seem to put them higher up the ranks...but here they are at the bottom. No idea why. + +​ + +List 2: [https://ceas.yale.edu/sites/default/files/files/Yokoyama%202016.pdf](https://ceas.yale.edu/sites/default/files/files/Yokoyama%202016.pdf) + +From this PDF, table 8.1 showing the ranks, prices and population for each rank. I added Tayu despite the table not showing any. + +1. Tayu - "" "" +2. Koshi - Still no idea +3. Tsubone - Apparently used to be a high rank, but became devalued to the point of working in ""cubicles"". The diagram in the PDF looks like pretty bad conditions, but not a cubicle. +4. Sancha - No idea what makes them better than Jijoro. + +.Chusan - A high rank Sancha + +.Umecha - A low rank Sancha + +5. Jijoro - ditto + +​ + +These are the 2 most consistent ranking systems I've found, with others adding or retracting various ranks, such as a Heya-Mochi who was lower than Zashiki-Moshi, but had her own room, Kashi Joro who are suspiciously similarly named to Koshi and placed at the bottom. Found those here: [https://www.japanese-wiki-corpus.org/history/Yujo%20(prostitute).html](https://www.japanese-wiki-corpus.org/history/Yujo%20(prostitute).html) and here [https://www.japanese-wiki-corpus.org/culture/Oiran.html](https://www.japanese-wiki-corpus.org/culture/Oiran.html) + +There were others, where I frankensteined most of the reasoning behind the ranks from, but I can't find them anymore. Sorry. + +I hope I provided enough information for everyone to go through. + +Extra sources: + +here's a wikipedia page in Japanese that seems like it would be helpful, if I could read it. [https://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E9%81%8A%E5%A5%B3](https://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E9%81%8A%E5%A5%B3) + +Here's a site with a very comprehensive list, confusing me even further after showing that a lot of these terms above might not be ranks at all. [http://www.issendai.com/japanese-courtesans/researching-oiran-in-japanese.html](http://www.issendai.com/japanese-courtesans/researching-oiran-in-japanese.html) + +On the same site is a list of has ranks I haven't managed to find else where. Perhaps they are just variations, such as licenced or unlicenced, hired or in-house, etc. [http://www.issendai.com/japanese-courtesans/lower-ranking-prostitutes-names.html](http://www.issendai.com/japanese-courtesans/lower-ranking-prostitutes-names.html) + +​ + +Honorable mentions: + +Here's the same site talking about Kamuro, just because I thought it was facinating, and wanted to share [http://www.issendai.com/japanese-courtesans/kamuro.html](http://www.issendai.com/japanese-courtesans/kamuro.html) + +Here's someone who has drawn many types of historic japanese hairstyles. Actually very helpful in identifying various ranks of Geisha, Oiran, and the like [https://www.deviantart.com/shotakotake/gallery?catpath=%2F&q=nihongami+tutorial](https://www.deviantart.com/shotakotake/gallery?catpath=%2F&q=nihongami+tutorial) + +An odd text to speech video, but actually had some neat details about Yujo such as their daily routine and such. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Av-7UYGxXU](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Av-7UYGxXU) The rest of the channel has other videos on Geisha and Oiran which are all quite good, except for the AI voice. + +And that's it. I've lost my mind over this, so I'm going now. See you later. Thanks for reading! + +​ + +Edit: Added descriptions for Yobidashi and Tsukemawarashi.",0 +4693,Medicinal uses of tobacco in history. ,0 +4694,"Did King Alfonso V of Portugal send any military squadrons to fight the Ottomans in the 15th century? I ask because that was one of the deals made with Pope Nicholas V in order to get recognition of Portugal's trading rights in Africa.. During the 15th century you had a couple of events that were taking place at once during the ""Age of Discovery"". The Ottoman Turks began the process of laying siege on Constantinople in the 1450s. At the same time Portugal was expanding and solidifying their holdings off the coasts of North and West Africa following Henry the Navigator's attack on Ceuta in 1415. When the Ottomans were laying siege on Constantinople Pope Nicholas called for a Crusade to counteract the Turks. Many European states did not respond to the call. France and England could not respond for instance because they were exhausted from the Hundred Years War. Portugal however responded under the condition that the Pope recognise Portugal's colonial possessions off the coast of Africa, which was being contested by Castile. Pope Nicholas does this both in the Papal Bulls Dum Diversas(1452) and Romanus Pontifex(1455). + +My question is did King Alfonso V or Portugal ever respond with their end of the bargain by actually sending a military force to fight the Ottomans during the middle of the 15th century?",0 +4695,"Best monographs for the French Resistance and the Maquis during WW2?. I'm usually an ancient history buff but there are a few topics I became interested in. WW2 is definitely out of my wheelhouse and I'm looking for a well rounded, detailed overview of, specifically, the French Resistance and the Maquis. + +I'm interested in how the cells operated, their operations against the Germans, their relationship with Vichy France, notable people, their origins and endings, how exactly they helped the allies, and the methods they used. + +No, this isn't for ""homework"" (I'm a bit removed from college at this point). I'm just a history buff, but like I said, I'm usually into older history (especially the Bronze Age, Classical, Post-Classical, up to the Renaissance sometimes). +But also, I'm a French citizen but I only have a vague understanding of the subject. And I definitely want to know more about the history of my heritage (or least the parts are really interested in to start, lol). If this is the wrong subreddit, let me know. + +And personally, as a casual enthusiast, I prefer the monographs or general overview scholarly books rather than digging through articles and journals on JSTOR (so publishers like Metro Books, Oxford University Press, Harvard University Press, etc are what I normally look for). + +I'm also looking for books on that quality for the French Revolution (which is its own can of worms, I know) but maybe that deserves its own post? Idk + +Any suggestions?",0 +4696,Well-written article analyzes Dresden bombing.. ,0 +4697,"Evaluating history using modern moral standards. Regarding debates surrounding status of figures like Churchill, Thomas Jefferson, John A. Macdonald (founder of Canada), or the repatriation of relics to their countries of origins. + +Do people trained as historians and historian academics have a consensus on this ? Or is there a hot debate still going on ? + +I feel there's a growing trend of expeditive judgement regarding historical matters where, if something is unacceptable today, then it should be seen as retroactively unacceptable forever, something which tend to also contaminate someone or something's entire legacy. + +Examples are many and I suppose everyone here are familiar with them: slaveowners (people and countries) who made significant advancement to end slavery, champions of democracy and liberalism who have become comparatively reactionary by modern standards, museums who old relics that were fairly and legitimately acquired... yet under a colonial regime. + +I dont feel like my quiestion is clear, but this is such a wide debate. I'm just wondering how to people trained as historians, feel about this, whats their contribution on the question. Is there decent reading material on this ?",0 +4698,"Sort ambiguous data like dates.. Hi, + +Is there any way to sort ambiguous data, like dates of period in time. Has there been research on this? + +Since whatever is new from modern times, has probably been well recorder and has a date including year, month and day, it's not the case for ancient things that are ambiguous. + +Maybe there are out there models/standards on how to sort and organize dates with a mix of arab and roman numeric, depicting both precise dates, or periods in time. BC and AD. + +Any ideas? Like, how would you tag them correctly? + +Doing it on excel. + +So I have these dates/periods from architectural monuments. That I would like to sort, I will have dozens more, and as I introduce more monuments, I want them to automatically sort into the right order based on age. Sometimes dates are ambiguous because the monument had multiple interventions throughout centuries. + + XVI-XVII + I AD + 1479 BC + XIV + VII-IX + XIV-XVI + I AD + XIII + XVII + XVII + 2020 + 1530 + XVI + XI-XVI + XIV + 3 BC + 2007",0 +4699,"Opinion about the Bone Wars. I have been researching about the quarrel between the paleontologists Edward Drinker Cope and Othniel Charles Marsh, I can't help but feel it was a very one sided ""war"" in favor Marsh, who apparently started it and tried his best to ruin his former colleague's carrier. The history goes that Marsh first bribed the diggers that worked for Cope to send the best fossils to him, mocked him for the mistake with the Plesiosaur head (and was proud of that apparently), published papers to invalidate most of his works and on top of that tried to take the fossil collection of Cope after he was put as head of U.S. Geological Survey, and at the end he was the one who managed to find more fossils. Only thing that he lost was his personal collection, due to not being able to prove it's ownership. +Meanwhile, every move Cope made against his rival felt more like retaliation or self preservation, like trying to buy every copy of the journal his artcile was published, accusing Marsh of being corrupt and a fraud, and buying a Scientific Journal so his publications would be printed first, also not only he lost the competition but also died from an illness he got while looking for fossils. At least this is what I could get from looking up Youtube videos and the Wikipedia article about the subject. + + +**So why am I bringing this up?** + + +I wanted to present this part of history from the most neutral point of view possible for a personal project of mine. I wanted to bring up the most main parts of the conflict while not favoring neither of the sides. + + +**What is my opinion about it?** + + +I am not sure if I am forgeting important details or if I misundertood something, and of course many parts of the story might been lost in time and died together with it's main characters, but from what I could get, Marsh was a kinda of a ""bully"" who ended up damaging the reputation and career of both and Cope was mostly defending his honor, though I don't thing he was 100% innocent (apparently his accusations against Marsh were infunded) and he certainly overreacted many times, it didn't feel like he was trying to activelly prejudice his rival just so he couldn't get on top. + + +So now I would like to ask what is **your** opinion about it? Do you think Marsh was the bad guy of the situation, or he just started it and they both built up a conflict? Also if you think I am missing something or want to give some better sources feel free to point out and do so, thank you for reading till here.",0 +4700,"I have seen so many battles where the smaller force won that it is almost starting to feel like a pattern than an exception. I feel like the only era where you can see the larger force more consistently winning is in the modern era, right around the late gunpowder era and even in this case, it predominately becomes more about attrition than actually taking tactical advantage of overwhelming size, except with unique cases such as massive technological gaps between the two sides. The ability for an army to sustain itself and continue to have the will to fight, only seems to become an absolute truth in the modern era and not just with material resources but also with PR (just look at Vietnam). It's hard to assess tactical prowess in modern war a lot as strategy and politics start to govern the victor more than anything the individual soldier does, so even when a general is tactically superior to another in the modern era, it gets muddled with ""well you had more stuff to work with than your opponent."" + +But before that, when wars were mainly fought during pitch battles, it almost seemed predictable from what I saw for the smaller force to win. It seemed like a great generals tactical prowess and the army's efficiency started to decline as their force got larger just based on instinct. Is their any legitimacy to this? Would Napoleon or Alexander's campaigns have not gone as well if they were the one's who always outnumbered their opponents and not vice versa?",0 +4701,"Settlers, possibly Celts, came to North America 350 years earlier than Vikings. ",0 +4702,"Mary, Executed Queen of Scott’s was a master origami maker…maybe. ",0 +4703,Ancient Europe and Ukraine. ,0 +4704,"Roman siege warfare and the impact on economic/social inequality?. Hi. Recently I came across Scheidels 'great-leveling' these, stating that mass-mobilization warfare, state failure, transformative revolution and plagues are four phenomena that level economic inequality between rich and poor. As siege warfare is quite often a form of mass mobilization warfare and total war, one would expect that in some cases economic inequality between rich and poor would level.Scheidel gives some examples of how sieges may contribute to leveling social inequality, but does not extend too much on the topic. + +Do any of you know some examples of sieges where Scheidels phenomena could be applied to (even if it is in a very minor form)? Or do you rather think that the these does not really apply to roman siege warfare? I have strong believes that it does, but could not find any convincing examples... + +Excited to hear some of your responses and thanks in advance :)",0 +4705,"The impact of the American Civil War on southern wealth. The conventional wisdom, among those that are even aware of it, is that the South lost the Civil Wad and “won” the aftermath of it. With the end of Reconstruction, the former Confederate states of America experienced a snapback to the bad old days. The planter aristocracy that had ruled much of the region prior to 1860 regained their power, blacks were terrorized and beaten into political nonexistence, and thereafter the region was preserved in amber until MLK Jr. and the Civil Rights Movement came along to help destroy Jim Crow. + +[This paper](https://www.nber.org/system/files/working_papers/w22184/w22184.pdf) argues for a much more nuanced look on the assertion that planters of the antebellum south remained in power. For sure, there was a re-entrenchment for some old slave holders and plantation owners. Using heretofore unused methods, the authors show that economic mobility has been vastly understated by historians of the time period and that many of the old planter class *did* indeed lose their fortunes and status in the aftermath of the war and emancipation.",0 +4706,Priority for Understanding the Pupillary Light Reflex in Ancient Ayurvedic Treatises. ,0 +4707,‎History Extra podcast: The Jagiellonians: the dynasty that shaped central Europe on Apple Podcasts. ,0 +4708,"What made a king a king in medieval England? What were the key characteristics of kingship and royal authority then?. Originally, I wanted to ask whether Richard III was 'the last medieval king of England', as he is often said to be. But I think this leads to another question: what defined kingship and royal authority in medieval England? How did its key characteristics evolve? + +I understand that Henry VII initiated numerous wide-ranging changes in government, but I still can't wrap my head around the idea that his reign represented so great and so clean a split from medieval kingship, whatever that was, which is why I'd like to clear up these definitions for myself first. Thank you so much!",0 +4709,"Various Type of Armor Resistance. It will be a ""generalist"" thread about armors resistance to weapons in middle age (not against firegun, only against cold weapon). + +I readen many explanations often telling the opposite thing. + +Let's start by the main ""type"" (bad word I know, but is to give the idea) of armor. + +The chainmail: the sources, but also what pop culture shows, are not univoque. A chainmail could protect from the cutting/thrusting of a sword, from an arrow, from a bolt (crossbow)? + +The plate armour? On this, there seems to be more 'consensus', it protects from swords, not from lance, against arrow/bolts not clear. + +And lamellar armor from the east, how were them? + +I know there are other type of armor (leather for example, or ones made with wool etc), and many variations of them, but I would like to have a general idea about the protection they could give against different weapons. + +Only thing that look sure is that both of this can't protect from blunt weapons and their effect on the body under the armor.",0 +4710,"Were ancient Greeks motivated to invest their economic capital into culture, literacy, and education?. What are the economic c prerequisites of the burgeoning classical Greek culture? Was Greek elite motivated to invest their capital into education, art, literacy? Were there any governmental institutions that steered the inflow of capital into the development or at least maintenance of the Greek culture? + + It may sound like a gross generalization but the Ancient Greek art and culture seem to be quite advanced compared to contemporary Mediterranean. This itself may be a very questionable and oversimplified statement, but let's not delve into the detail of it for now. Many other peoples seemed to be interested in acqiring at least some aspects of Hellenic culture, which perhaps became more noticeable in the Hellenistic era. At least cultural achievements of the Greek civilization in sculpture, fine arts, architecture, mechanics, other fields are rather impressive. Still, not to say necessary supervisor to others but still impressive.",0 +4711,"Question about a Jacobin Article that I read and the economics of West Germany. Hi, + +Article: +https://jacobinmag.com/2022/02/price-controls-supply-chain-economic-policy-free-market-inflation + +The argument is about price controls and it lays out a specific historical example, West Germany. I am not well versed in West German history, are there Germans here or those who are familiar with the history that can fact check the following quote? + +"" +The term “price controls” points to the market mechanism’s long history of dysfunctionality, which also partially explains why the debate makes so many economists nervous. The most important legitimate argument against price controls is that of prices’ “signaling function,” which is said to ensure an efficient distribution of resources over the medium term. That isn’t very helpful in a crisis, but nevertheless, I’ll propose a compromise: rather than control prices, why don’t we limit profits? + +The history of the emergence of Germany’s social market economy proves surprisingly instructive in this regard. After World War II, West Germany was plagued by strict pricing rules, shortages, and rationing. The minister of economics at the time, Ludwig Erhard, planned to bring these conditions to an end via means of a “free market economy” and comprehensive price deregulations. With permission from the American occupiers, he took the first step in this direction with a currency reform launched on June 20, 1948. + +But Erhard’s assumption that prices would soon “level off” proved to be erroneous. Instead, rapid price rises led to desperation and were soon followed by angry protests. A solution was promised in the form of the so-called “StEG Program”: surplus military gear was to be repurposed for civilian use on a mass scale and introduced onto the market. Nevertheless, prices stayed high and trade profits continued to rise. + +The situation only changed with administrative measures that contradicted Erhard’s beliefs: on September 6, 1948, the authorities established legally binding “maximum prices for end consumers” and capped profit margins at 20 percent. Only after this combination of price controls and revenue caps did prices finally go down — including those of competing “free” goods. The successful program was wound down in 1953, and Ludwig Erhard — quite absurdly — became a symbol of successful economic policy. +"" + + +Is this true? Is there additional context missing? What are the economic implications?",0 +4712,"Help me find a WWI rap that I learned ~20 years ago. I recently finished watching a WWI movie and was reminded of a rap my middle school teacher played \~20 years ago (it's amazing the impact that good teachers can have on you). To the best of my memory, my history teacher did not write this rap himself, but played it off of a CD or maybe the internet. I tried searching for it but came up short, so I'm wondering if reddit can help. Here's the lyrics that I remembered: + +>World War I began to breathe June 28th 1914 +When Gavrilo Princip of the Black Hand associated Archduke Ferdinand +Some Serbs resented Austria for occupying Bosnia +To understand the enmity between Serbia and Austria-Hungary +We must regress to an earlier date, the summer of 1878 +> +>\**Then some more verses that I cannot remember and the final lines were:* +> +>10 million men were in their graves +Germany lost but no one gained. + +If this is not appropriate for this subreddit, I would appreciate a referral to another forum. THANK YOU!",0 +4713,"What is Cultural History?. I hope I'm posting this on the right subreddit. If not, please let me know. + +So my question is, what does this particular subject area really talk about? I'm assuming it is mostly about arts, cultures and traditions, historical lifestyles - is that correct? From what I read on the internet, some sources state that it also talks about the socioeconomic side of history? I'm not entirely sure. + +Suppose if a person is only interested in the 'arts and culture' aspect of history and not the political or economic side, would it be appropriate to say that they are interested in cultural history rather than history as a whole? + +I would appreciate some insight into this. Links to reliable websites would also help :)",0 +4714,"Andalusia,Isabella,and The Origins of April Fools?. + +There's a popularly believed historical narrative that I've read in many websites and articles,that The Origins of The April Fools Day were the persecution + expulsion of Muslims by Catholic Monarchs. The so-called historical narrative as following: + +>**Don't be fooled by April Fools: Expulsion & Bloody Genocide of Muslims, Spain and 1st April 1492.** +In Spain, after centuries of Muslim rule, the Muslims were overwhelmed by the Christian Army,led by Catholic Monarchs. However,on 31th March (*When The Decree of Expulsion was issued by The Catholic Monarchs*), the Muslims hid & they were fortified in their homes. The Christian Armies wanted to get rid of the Muslims somehow. The Christians told the Muslims that the Muslims could leave their homes safely and could take only the necessary things from their homes. Muslims also were told that they could sail away from Iberian Peninusla in the ships anchored on the quay side with the royal safeguard from The Christians and The Catholic Monarchs on their expulsion. The Muslims did wonder and they were skeptical if this ploy was a trick by The Catholic Monarchs and their armies.Then,Muslims were requested to go to the quay side to check the ships. Later,Muslims did so and were convinced. Then Muslims made preparations to leave. The next day, 1st April, Muslims took their essential belongings and walked towards the quay side. But then,The Christians,perpetrated by Catholic Monarchs suddenly sieged & encircled The Muslims from all directions. The Christians looted their homes and then set fire to them. Before the Muslims got to the ships, the Christians had set fire to the ships as well. The Christians then attacked the Muslims and massacred them all without mercy at all,including men, women and children. Consequently,all Iberian Muslims in the port were brutally massacred. Blood pooled everywhere,and The blue-colored sea had turned blackish red,because their corpses were dumped into the sea. So,The Muslims were totally fooled & massacred *en masse* by Ferdinand,Isabella,and their armies on 1st April! Since then,the Christians then celebrated this massacre event on 1st April (a.k.a April Fools!). This then became a ritual that was celebrated every year and that has been carried on until this day not only in Spain but in other countries, too. People on this world celebrate 1st April as well as playing jokes on others on this day through sheer ignorance of this historical fact. We should bring out the facts of the story to all in order to put a stop to the practice of celebrating this bloody and shameful episode. + +I'm very skeptical on this popular historical narrative. Some websites say this ""Bloody Muslim Massacre / Genocide on 1st April"" happened on 1st of April 1487,while some say this happened on 1st of April 1492. But,as far as I know,The Alhambra Decree expulsed Jews only. It wasn't until 1502 that The Muslims were expulsed,and it wasn't until 1582 that the tradition of April Fools' day began. Although,The Siege of Malaga did happen. But The Siege of Malaga happened 7 May 1487 until 18 August 1487,not 1st of April 1487. + +Well,but I could be wrong. But is there any truth inside this popular historical narrative,or is this whole narrative just a fabricated story / lie?",0 +4715,"The word Blitzkrieg origins. After the battle of France, reporters, mainly Americans, started using the work Blitzkrieg a lot, but to many, it was a mystery of its origins. Historians have still debated this question. + +I decided to do some original research. + +I went to a site I love. + +[https://www.elephind.com/](https://www.elephind.com/) + +Entered the term Blitzkrieg and looked for the earlier reference. + +What I discovered was San Bernardino Sun, Volume 45, 8 October 1938 from California + +Where it stated + +""In the last war Germany attacked Belgium, and although Germany lost the war she managed to keep it off German soil. In any future war that will be completely impossible. No matter which country is the victor, its cities, its towns, its communications, will be laid waste and its populations will be either destroyed or condemned to live, like moles, underground. Since the experience of Spain, which may possibly live in history as actually the test war to end war, we know that the ""Blitzkrieg"" theory of Gen. Goering that a swift and fearful air attack can be made which will totally demoralize populations is no longer tenable. Aerial warfare is not swift, but slow"" + +​ + +It appears that Goering used it for air warfare, nothing to do with the tactics used in the Battle Of France that made it famous. This idea of such an air war was common at the time. + + + +Interesting, I thought. Does anyone have any comments?",0 +4716,"Did cleanliness problems in the French military yield an increase in casualties during the revolutionary period?. I’d appreciate serious responses only, preferably from persons with legitimate historical expertise in military history, medical history, OR the Napoleonic wars and French revolutionary era. + +I’m currently finishing up Tim Blanning’s “the Pursuit of Glory”, which is the third book in the Penguin history of Europe series that I’ve polished off, and he made a very interesting claim. To summarize, he asserts that a French dignitary noticed, while visiting and touring English naval vessels in the late 1700s, that the ships and personnel kept exceptionally clean, and that the ship was tended to daily. This, supposedly, came as a shock to him, and was in stark contrast to the French navy. + +While this would be unremarkable on its own, the next claim did come as a surprise to me: he asserted that the lack of cleanliness in itself was actually responsible for an increase in French casualties during the revolutionary period and the Napoleonic wars. After Trafalgar, obviously, the British established their clear dominance over the sea, so the later naval impact seems limited, but has anyone come across statistical evidence or other historians who would support this claim? + +Is there evidence of the French suffering elevated hygiene-related casualties during the same period in land battle as well?",0 +4717,"How would a 19th century rigged sailing vessel prepare for a violent storm?. My entire media diet as of late has existed of Hardcore History and the wonderful *Sixteen Ways to Defend a Walled City*. I've also revisited some early 2000's classics and it has rekindled my love for all things nautical. + +What are some of the finer details in how a vessel might prepare for a storm? As far as my knowledge on this stretches, the three death sentences would be falling from the boat, fires and taking waves broadside which would likely be responsible for tossing you over. What precautions were taken for fires? Would crew tie themselves down or secure themselves to the deck in some other manner? + +Anyone familiar with this topic have some info for me? Would love anything on this. Thanks!",0 +4718,"Half-way through The Making of a Counter Culture by Theodore Roszak. Absolutely excellent examination of the psychology, sociology, and philosophies of the 1960s counter culture movement. What’s facisnating about this book is that it was written amidst it all, so you have a primary witness with the sentiment of what it was like to be part of this crazy time. + +This book is a deep and fair analysis of the counter culture, with a good part of it dedicated to philosophy. I really beleive more history books should be like this because it encourages understanding at the deepest level, with our being overly sympathetic. + +Does anyone know of any other books like this for other counter cultures or revolutions? I would love to read a book about nihilism and the Bolsheviks that attempts to explain the revolution on similar grounds.",0 +4719,"Heroes, biographies, and historical characters.. In the US there is a healthy and sometimes unhealthy debate about how to teach history. I want to avoid specifics and politics but I encountered a structural idea that strongly clashes with my historical lens. The idea was “we need heroes”. + +Elaborating further, the idea was that whether those heroes are the original founding fathers or some other subset of people it is culturally important. This isn’t a brand new idea, there are a bunch of “great man” type histories out there. There is a constant flow of biographies of famous people. + +I just fundamentally find that a flawed and fraught lens. We don’t need heroes. We can tell complicates stories about complicated people and maybe the best stories aren’t ego-driven at all. + +Power seems inescapably self justifying. Achieving power is a fundamentally selfish act we constantly try to cloak in selflessness. + +How do you think about heroes and the centrality of famous people in history?",0 +4720,"The Heroic in History. **1. Introduction.** Thomas Carlyle was a Scottish historian and philosopher. He is best remembered for his controversial classic *On Heroes, Hero-Worship, and The Heroic in History.* Carlyle brilliantly analyses history, religion, and politics through the lens of heroes👇 + +**2. Paganism**. Carlyle argues that paganism comes from hero-worship. The ""perplexed jungle"" of Paganism arises from the human tendency to admire and worship other humans as well as forces of nature. + +**3. Hero worship is super innate.** Carlyle writes that even if all ""traditions, arrangements, creeds, societies"" disappeared, hero worship will remain. Hero worship is not a constructed practice, it's a deep *instinct.* People need heroes as they need a north star on a stormy night. + +**4.** Carlyle writes that the noblest human feeling is ""admiration for one higher than himself."" To find an *idol* is to find an *ideal*. From our heroes, we reverse-engineer the principles and practices we want to live by. + +**5. The great man theory of history.** Carlyle is best remembered for this line: ""The history of the world is but the biography of great men."" Carlyle believed that history was made not by cultural or technological factors, but by great men. + +**6.** Carlyle was aware that the **hero worship instinct can go wrong**: ""Woe to him that claims obedience when it is not due."" Obedience and loyalty are not things to be asked for - they can only be given as a natural response to authentic heroism. + +7. **Carlyle on politics**: ""Find in a country the Ablest Man that exists there and raise him to the supreme place: you have a perfect government for that country; no ballot-box, parliamentary eloquence, voting, constitution-building, or other machinery whatsoever can improve it a whit. + +**8.** Carlyle breaks down the word worship into ""worth-ship."" He's not promoting a blind allegiance to unworthy heroes, but precisely the opposite - a knowing allegiance to heroes who are worthy of it according to one's own judgement. + +**9. What is the nature of these heroes?** Above all, heroes ""stand upon things, and not shows of things."" Heroes confront reality while others hide behind simulations and pretense. Heroes can't swallow lies no matter how ""regular, decorous, or accredited by Conclaves"" they are. + +**10. Bottom line.** Carlyle's book is interesting and worthwhile because it eloquently challenges ideas that are taken for granted today. Carlyle writes that recognizing and venerating the heroic is important because the alternative is ""to be forever governed by the Unheroic."" + +Intrigued? Learn more about this controversial book: + +1. [The primary trait of a hero](https://memod.com/jashdholani/the-primary-trait-of-a-hero-3640) +2. [How your skepticism stops you from acting](https://memod.com/jashdholani/wh-3644)",0 +4721,Interview with the Author of Christian Platonism: A History. ,0 +4722,"How much different is the 500 from the 1500? How much has humanity evolved and why?. I don't know what to write. Here's an example: Consuls Flavius Patricius and Flavius Hypatius. Did they do anything important to be remembered in 1000 years? Or the founding of the Abrahamite monastery in Constantinople. The Great Lavra has survived. Or Theodoric visited Rome and celebrated 30 years of his power there. Who is this? St. Genevieve (about 422 to about 500), patroness of Paris, died. This city became... better? The Byzantine emperor Anastasius Romeus grants the Frankish king Clovis the titles of patrician and proconsul. An important event. Gundobad repels an attack by the Franks. Gundobad's assassination of Godegisel. Gundobad becomes the only king. The Ephthalites capture the Jamna-Gangetic valley, the Indus valley, Rajasthan, Gujarat, Kathiawar and parts of Central India. Coup d'état in the Qi Empire. Siege of the palace. The ruler of the northern edge of the Qi was handed over to the Wei Empire. Triumph of the pro-Chinese party in Gaochan and dissolution of its alliance with Zhuzhan. Does all this make sense after 1,000 years?",0 +4723,"""Toileting"" in the early 1900s U.S. rowhomes. Hello Everyone! What do we know about relieving oneself at home in the early 1900s in Philadelphia? [Here's a floor plan of a Philadelphia rowhome from 1900](https://libwww.freelibrary.org/digital/item/65458). There's a ""W.C."" (assuming water closet?) behind the kitchen that you would access from the outside. I've read about cesspits/pools and eventually flowing water being used to manage that, though not sustainably, but what was the day-to-day experience for the people who lived there and had to use and clean these facilities? When did flushing toilets get installed inside the homes for the ""working class"" people who lived in these homes? Upstairs the floor plan depicts a bathtub, something round that we can guess is a basin/sink. What could have been the use for the space to the left of the sink? It is drawn similar to how the W.C. is drawn. Maybe you could just pee upstairs? If not Philadelphia, maybe we have more information from another large city like Baltimore, DC, NYC, Boston, Chicago? I've been pondering this topic since I saw this floor plan at the ""Philadelphia: The Changing City"" exhibit a few years ago and am hoping folks here might enjoy discussing it too.",0 +4724,"Book suggestion/mini review: Empires in World History-Power and the Politics of Difference by Jane Burbank &Frederick Cooper. +https://www.amazon.com/dp/0691152365/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apan_i_JGHTG2S07HSCSAD1FG43 + +Hey all, just want to make a mini review of this book. There are two things that sets this book apart from the others: one is that it has a quite impartial/unbiased perspective on how empires throughout history have operated, and the other is that the authors would actually compare the differences between empires in similar timelines. Another thing is that they include how empires have had to deal with their conquered subjects without risk to the ruling power. In addition, this book explains in great detail about how both the strengths and weaknesses of various empires contributed to their peak and decline. My favorite part of the book would probably be how in the fall of the Western Roman Empire entirely new empires have had to somehow find ways to set religion,like Islam and Christianity, as foundations for their legitimacy. + +Overall, I would give this book a rating of 9.5/10. It's basically sorta does go into human history starting from the Roman Empire, so I'd say it's like a better , more detailed and less biased version of Noah's Homo Sapiens, except it doesnt go into prehistory that much. + +For any of you who actually read this history book, any criticisms about it? What book can you suggest to me that actually approach the same premise a lot better?",0 +4725,"How true to reality is Semenov's novel about starvation in Petrograd during Russia's Civil War in 1919?. Authors often embellish historical events when they write historical fiction, to make a better story. Yet the facts are often kept true. But not always. + +Has anyone read S. Semenov's account of the starvation that occurred during 1919 in Petrograd, when Russia's Civil War was happening (Reds vs. Whites)? With the event that occurred over 100 years ago, people are likely to not get their info from the facts, but rather from fictional literature, and the fictional stories, though historic in nature, could be misleading. + +Link I mentioned: [Starvation in Petrograd | Kindle Vella (amazon.com)](https://www.amazon.com/kindle-vella/story/B09YJ8NPPZ)",0 +4726,"Were Roman Dodecahedrons possibly tools for extrusion?. I recently watched a video on YouTube about Roman Dodecahedrons and the mystery behind them https://youtu.be/BNrhlQE-EMg. It was really interesting and I’d like to take a guess as to what their purpose was. + +My hypothesis is that the dodecahedrons were used as dies for extrusion, specifically for arrow and ballista shafts. + +The holes on them all seem to go from one large size, progressively down to a small final size. Holes opposite one another are smaller, but seem to be reduce at a proportionate rate. If you take something malleable and force it through one hole it will come out the size of the hole opposite to it. + +I think to use it, an arrow maker would rest the dodecahedron between something solid using the knobs on the corner to brace it. You start with a small fresh cut branch of a tree that you want to turn into an arrow. Push it through the largest hole into the hole opposite it. Using a mallet to force the piece of wood through the hole you can quickly change the diameter of the piece your working on. + +Next, flip the object around and find the hole that your piece now fits into and push it through the hole opposite it, again using a mallet to force it the rest of the way. + +Repeat this process until you’ve gone through the smallest hole and you have created a usable arrow shaft in a shorter time than if you had carved it. + +The shape of the dodecahedron allows you to properly balance it no matter which face you’re using. You can get 6 operations with one tool, turning any piece of tree into a solid shaft in short order. With them being made of metal and not wood, you can put an edge on the die making the operation more efficient. Also metal would stand up to the abuse that a tool like a die goes through far longer than wood. The fact that they are hollow can help explain as well since if your tool gets clogged you have access to clear it out. + +The video said that most of the dodecahedrons but not all were discovered at military sites. If they are tools for extrusion this would make sense since extrusion isn’t used in very many industries outside of manufacturing. One thing you would need to have during a military operation is plenty of arrows. The tools could be used until they broke and then remade as necessary and because of this they wouldn’t all necessarily be uniform. + +The video talked about an icosahedron fashioned in similar design to the dodecahedrons that was discovered. I think that one could of been used to extrude pasta. An icosahedron would allow for 10 operations which would be necessary when handling something delicate like that. This could explain why they are found all over and not just at military sites. + +Feel free to share your thoughts and opinions on my hypothesis. Do you have any personal opinions as to the purpose of the dodecahedrons?",0 +4727,"Why did Kings Need Money?. We hear about kings always being in debt, needing to borrow money for expensive lifestyles or to wage war. + +But why did they need money in the first place? As king, you can just tell people what to do, or heads roll! ""Build me this palace, peasants"" or ""Grow this food for me, peasants"", or ""Go fight for me, you guys, and you guys"". + +What's the point of being king if you have to pay people?? Then you're just like everyone else. How are you special?",0 +4728,"Who is This Journalist?. Does anyone know the name of the journalist interviewing James Baldwin in this video? He did an amazing series of interviews with black thought leaders in the 1960's, including Baldwin, Malcolm X and others. I've always really appreciated how he was able to highlight the philosophical differences between different leaders. But I've never been able to successfully look him up and I'm not even sure which program this is. + +Thank you! any ideas are appreciated. + +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MsGxlRDWPg4&t=46s](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MsGxlRDWPg4&t=46s)",0 +4729,rainy day stock. ,0 +4730,My first ever chicken stock. ,0 +4731,Making a mushroom veggie stock for my mushroom risotto. ,0 +4732,The stock market has been down and it’s cold outside. So my wife made this to help lift spirits.. ,0 +4733,tomato soup & grilled cheese [x-post r/soup]. ,0 +4734,Some experimental soup I'm working on. ,0 +4735,2 year old post coming back: SHIFTING INTO SOUP MODE. ,0 +4736,I cooked the stock for this soup 48 hours. ,0 +4737,"[xpost from CasualUK] Been in a depressive slump for 2 months, but today I managed to push myself to make a home cooked meal for myself instead of relying on my partner, thought I would share. ",0 +4738,Vegetable stock I made for a pork belly ramen. ,0 +4739,"Miso Nikomi Udon - fat noodles stewed in a miso stock - served at ""Yamamotoya Honten"" chain of restaurants in Nagoya [x-post r/foodporn]. ",0 +4740,I found the front of the ramen guy! X-post r/dankmemes. ,0 +4741,F u laddies. ,0 +4742,"What should I do for the best ROI on my stock?. I mean, I have the turkey carcass to use at this point, obviously. But I want to really get the most flavor and nutrition into this stock as I can to really get a return on my investment of time and ingredients. What sort of veggies and additions have worked well for you in the past? + +I feel like onion, celery, and skinned carrot are a given, as well as bayleaf. What more could I add that would work well at the stock making stage?",0 +4743,Beginner question for Stock Brokers:. Let’s say you use onions to marinate chicken overnight. Could you then reuse those same onions to help make chicken stock?,0 +4744,My coworkers say i have issues... ,0 +4745,"Before Gordon Ramsay there was Marco Pierre White, all hail the bouillon king!. ",0 +4746,"Pig bone soup at Korean bbq. We let this evaporate, and added all kinds of meat & fish balls, and it got so think, the flavor was phenomenal!!",0 +4747,What stock should i invest in?. ,0 +4748,Soup time. ,0 +4749,"Don't stocks inherently lose value as the dollar inflates?. I haven't heard this discussed and I'm curious if my interpretation is correct and what that means for equities. Inflation is high right now, and the USD has inflated around 11% since 2020. In other words, $1 from 2020 could get you $1.11 today. This means that even if a stock stays flat for a year, its inherent value actually went down. + +With that in mind, you could say that the SPY at its $405 low was trading at around $365 in 2020 dollars. Only slightly more than it was at the peak before the COVID crash, about 7% higher (16% unadjusted for inflation). + +Is it fair to assess prices in this manner or is there something I'm not considering? Because I'm not sure I've ever heard a trader factor this in, even in this very high inflationary environment. People look at stock prices from the '90s and it seems incredible how far up we are, but the USD is worth half of what it was back then so you have to factor in that stock prices back then vs. now is only a fair comparison if you half the current prices. + +Thoughts?",0 +4750,"How many chicken thigh bones should I use?. I’ve been saving them up for use in stock, how many do you think I’d need for a good chicken stock? + +I’m low on cash so I can’t get a whole chicken carcass to use instead",0 +4751,"Double roux on this community: Viva la Soup!. Hey BROTHers, this is our moment, to take this sub to r/all, we need to meme harder then we have ever meme'd (about soup) and really explode all over reddit as the center for soup related memes. + +Just look at these other subs, I mean, there's so many memes and memes waiting to happen: + +* r/soup +* r/food +* r/recipes +* r/FoodPorn +* r/ShittyFoodPorn +* r/ShittyBeerWithAView +* r/Cooking +* r/EntTreats + +Go forth and **make meme magic my BROTHers and SOUPsters**",0 +4752,"Every single industry ETF has now hit death cross.. My goal was to try and find the next up coming sectors to put some mone to work in. So I have been reviewing every industry ETF available at TD while only looking at ones still positive for the year. I noticed every single sector is now facing a death cross, including utilities and energy. I have not found any sectors looking at a golden cross or bouncing significantly. Has anyone else looked at these trends?",0 +4753,no pork broth in the supermarkets?. why is this? i can only find beef and chicken. and where can i find some pork bone broth without having to slow cook it myself? Pork broth is so much tastier than beef in my opinion…,0 +4754,[crosspost r/Ramen] steak ramen with some chimichurri. ,0 +4755,"Help finding a simple turkey stock recipe?. Hello, I have never ever made a stock before but I have a gorgeously smoked turkey that will otherwise go to waste. I tried googling how to make it, but I keep getting confused with all the ingredients. Do I need extra things, or is there a way I can make stock with only leftovers? + +Thank you for your help, soup and stock friends!",0 +4756,Why don't you share?. Why doesn't anyone on here want to help others out and share their stock secrets? Has anyone made a wiki yet?,0 +4757,"Swanson's Chicken Broth. Hello, Broth-ers, + +I recently moved to a tropical climate, and began making ice cubes out of Swanson's Chicken Broth for my dogs to help cool them off after a walk. I read on the label that once opened, it should be used up in 3 days. Is this true, or is this Big Broth-er trying to get me to re-up sooner than necessary with a new box on broth? How long can I stretch it if it's capped and refrigerated?",0 +4758,Fist time putting 20 bucks into a stock what should I buy. ,0 +4759,"Is there anything that you can't freeze for stock?. Vegetables, chicken, fish... it all seems possible. Which is wonderful, but is there anything that you shouldn't freeze before making stock out of it? Either for taste or nutritional reasons.",0 +4760,Bears take a break! Bulls taking over!. ,0 +4761,"First time using chicken feet with my stock, what is this blackish blotch?. ",0 +4762,[x-post r/ShittyFoodPorn] Wyd if you went to their house and they made this on the first hangout 😳 (pickle soup) 🤢. ,0 +4763,"Market squeeze?. I remember this forum being responsible for AMC and games top, anybody down to try and do a squeeze on Lockheed Martin since they're inevitably going to go up and then down from the Russian Ukraine war?",0 +4764,Slowcooked BBQ drumsticks. Can I clean and save the bones for stock in the future?,0 +4765,"Top all time posts on r/Stock re-flaired w/ new colors! Viva la Soup!. Direct link to [the top posts on r/Stock](https://www.reddit.com/r/stock/top/). + +It's not much karma, but they're worth more than their weight in stock. + +Winter is coming my BROTHers and SOUPsters, so look back at our history, get ideas, **get motivated, and start making stock**. Make so much that you fill every inch of your fridge with delicious stock. + +Don't forget that every pantry & cabinet can store soup; you can never have enough canned soup stored for any future event. Pandemic? Canned soup. Apocolypse? Canned soup. Jan 6 coup? Canned soup! + +Viva la Soup!",0 +4766,What stocks should I buy before the holidays?. Looking to make 5-10 % by January if I buy in September. Do any stocks consistently go up in holidays?,0 +4767,"new post flair: DANK STEW & new flair colors! - r/Stock, Viva la Soup!. All new flair colors based on how they look typically, for example pork stock can have a white/gray color, which reminds of bone which is funny because that's what stock is (bone broth), but the color really comes out in pork stock especailly: + +So the flair ""pork stock"" is the color hex code for literally the color of bone. + +Minor update; have a great week my BROTHers! + +**BTW** old flair color didn't get updated retroactively, so you have to manually update it on your post and it'll get the new flair colors!",0 +4768,"For ramen lovers ❤️🍜. ​ + +https://preview.redd.it/vr77omdce0g91.png?width=600&format=png&auto=webp&s=01eb25ec4820bb72c5a3d24caca46dab43c20eaf",0 +4769,"X-post from r/ShittyFoodPorn: ""yummy ramen"". ",0 +4770,"How do we think about MSFT and NUE? I currently have less technology. MSFT and NUE are strong and on the rise, should I leave or stay, what is everyone's opinion or advice on them? Will they continue to rise strongly later on",0 +4771,"Where to buy US OTC stocks as a European in Europe?. Hello everyone I have a question. + +I am trying to buy some interesting companies in the US but they are only available on the OTC market. + +I am from Europe and it's almost impossible to buy them here. + +I'm using Degiro and IB but they don't offer any of the markets I'm looking for for example BLIAQ stock. + +Any help appreciated!",0 +4772,"How many bull-on cubes for stock?. Maybe it's cheating, but in a bull market these bull on cubes make you rich! + +Other stocks come up short, not talking about bear, but venison soup yeah, so I'm dropping mad cubes for flavor. + +**Marco Pierre White** literally uses them in every dish! + +Btw what's the difference between the bull on cubes and bull on bars? + +**Update** this is satire/trolling...",0 +4773,"Stock going public means. instead of going public,startup’s began cutting costs and laying off employees. + +What does mean by going public",0 +4774,Bonds. Whats a good ratio of the portfolio to have in the bond market?,0 +4775,Tesla Stock. What’s the good price for buying Tesla Stock?,0 +4776,Which stock advisors are generally best?. I have been looking at a lot of the big ones and am seeing contradicting opinions. Anyone have any thoughts on Motley Fool. What about Seeking Alpha? Or would you guys just recommend investing in a ETF instead,0 +4777,"What is your guide on ""How to do Due diligence"". What is your guide on ""How to do Due diligence""?",0 +4778,Ideas. What’s your apple watch faces for stocks need some ideas,0 +4779,"What 5 divident stocks would you passively invest (dca) in for 10 years?. If you could only pick 5, which ones would you choose and why?",0 +4780,"ELI 5. So, after reading some explanations. Now, I understand what shorting a stock means. + +Essentially you borrow let’s say 100 shares from XYZ and sell it to the market at a price of $10/share and pocket the money and when the price drops to $5/share you buy the stock back, return it and you get $5/share. Correct ? + +Question : Does it have a time period ? Like I borrow the stock from XYZ , do they have time period of when I should return it ? Can’t they just ask me to return their share when the market is high so they gain profit not when it’s low ? Also on what site can I short a stock ? Any platform for it ?",0 +4781,anyone actually got the new stocks in their brokerage account from T?. ,0 +4782,Intel. Why is wall street not believing in intel. Is the ape squad believing or is IT Just me. Should i sell Intel. With a PE of under 10 i thought it is a good investment,0 +4783,"is there such thing???. I want to invest in the SP500 index fund but there are some companies that I want invest in in the the index fund. In short, can I make a custom SP 500 invest?",0 +4784,"Confederate flags are banned from CMA country music festival, officials announce. ",0 +4785,"Dollywood, Dolly Parton's amusement park, announced that the company will cover 100% of tuition, fees and books for any Dollywood employee who chooses to pursue further education. This will be offered to all seasonal, part-time, and full-time employees, and they can enroll day 1 of their employment.. Article: https://fox17.com/news/local/dream-more-dollywood-to-pay-100-of-tuition-textbooks-for-employees-pursuing-education-pigeon-forge-tennessee-herschend-enterprises + +PIGEON FORGE, Tenn. (WZTV) — Dollywood on Tuesday announced they'll start paying a hundred percent of tuition for employees who wish to further their education. This includes the cost of fees and textbooks. + +The education benefit package is available to all team members on the first day of their employment. The company says it's a way for employees at all levels to pursue their personal and professional dreams. + +Piloted by Dolly Parton's operating partner Herschend Enterprises, the program from GROW U. will mark a significant investment for workers. President of Dollywood Company Eugene Naughton says it's an opportunity for employees to grow. + +""One of The Dollywood Foundation’s key tenets is to ‘learn more.’ This program is created with that very tenet in mind. We want our hosts to develop themselves through advanced learning to fulfill the foundation’s other tenets: care more, dream more, and be more."" +The program will officially launch Feb. 24 for all seasonal, part-time, and full-time employees at Dollywood Parks & Resorts. Hosts can enroll in the program on their first day of employment. + +""When our hosts strive to grow themselves, it makes our business and our community a truly better place,"" Naughton said. ""We care about our hosts’ development and we want their future to grow because of love—not loans.""",0 +4786,"Taylor Swift's private jets took 170 trips this year, landing her #1 on a new report that tracks the carbon emissions of celebrity private jets. Article: https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/kylies-17-minute-flight-has-nothing-on-the-170-trips-taylor-swifts-private-jets-took-this-year-1390083/ + +As the world quite literally burns and floods, it’s important to remember that individualism won’t really solve the climate crisis, especially compared to, say, the wholesale dismantling of the brutal grip the fossil fuel industry has on modern society. Still, there are some individuals who could probably stand to do a bit more to mitigate their carbon footprint — among them, the super-wealthy who make frequent use of carbon-spewing private jets. (And let’s not even get started on yachts.) + +While private jets are used by rich folks of all kinds, their use among celebrities has come under scrutiny recently, with reports of the likes of Drake and Kylie Jenner taking flights that lasted less than 20 minutes. In response, the sustainability marketing firm Yard put together a new report using data to rank the celebrities whose private jets have flown the most so far this year — and subsequently dumped the most carbon dioxide into the atmosphere. + +Drake and Jenner both appear on the list, but they’re actually nowhere near the top, which is occupied by none other than Taylor Swift. According to Yard, Swift’s jet flew 170 times between Jan. 1 and July 19 (the window for the Yard study), totaling 22,923 minutes, or 15.9 days, in the air. That output has created estimated total flight emissions of 8,293.54 tonnes of carbon, which Yard says is 1,184.8 times more than the average person’s total annual emissions. (At least one more flight can be added to that list, too: The flight-tracking Twitter account Celebrity Jets notes that Swift’s plane flew today, July 29.) + +“Taylor’s jet is loaned out regularly to other individuals,” a spokesperson for Swift tells Rolling Stone. “To attribute most or all of these trips to her is blatantly incorrect.” + +To create this report, Yard scraped data from Celebrity Jets, which in turn pulls its info from ADS-B Exchange (“the world’s largest public source of unfiltered flight data,” according to its website). Yard based its carbon emissions estimates on a U.K. Department for Transportation estimate that a plane traveling at about 850 km/hour gives off 134 kg of CO2 per hour; that 134 kg estimate was multiplied with both time-spent-in-air and a factor of 2.7 to account for “radiative forcing,” which includes other harmful emissions such as nitrous oxide (2.7 was taken from Mark Lynas’ book Carbon Counter). That number was then divided by 1000 to convert to tonnes. + +Coming in behind Swift’s plane on Yard’s list was an aircraft belonging to boxer Floyd Mayweather, which emitted an estimated 7076.8 tonnes of CO2 from 177 flights so far this year (one of those flights lasted just 10 minutes). Coming in at number three on the list was Jay-Z, though his placement does come with a caveat: The data pulled for Jay is tied to the Puma Jet, a Gulfstream GV that Jay — the creative director for Puma — reportedly convinced the sneaker giant to purchase as a perk for the athletes it endorses. + +While Jay-Z is not the only person flying on the Puma Jet, a rep for Yard said, “We attributed the jet to Jay-Z on this occasion because he requested the Puma jet as part of his sign-up deal to become the creative director of Puma basketball. The Puma jet’s tail numbers are N444SC at Jay-Z’s request. N, the standard US private jet registration code, 444, referring to his album of the same name and SC for his birth name, Shawn Carter. Without Jay-Z, this jet would cease to exist.” + +The rest of the celebrities in Yard’s top 10 do appear to own the jets that provided the flight data for the report. To that end, though, it’s impossible to say if the specific owners are the ones traveling on these planes for every specific flight. For instance, Swift actually has two planes that CelebJets tracks, and obviously, she can’t be using both at once. + +So, beyond the Jay-Z/the Puma Jet, next on Yard’s list is former baseball star Alex Rodriguez’s plane, which racked up 106 flights and emitted 5,342.7 tonnes of CO2. And rounding out the top five is a jet belonging to country star Blake Shelton, which has so far taken 111 flights and emitted 4495 tonnes of CO2. The rest of the Top 10 includes jets belonging to director Steven Spielberg (61 flights, 4,465 tonnes), Kim Kardashian (57 flights, 4268.5 tonnes), Mark Wahlberg (101 flights, 3772.85 tones), Oprah Winfrey (68 flights, 3493.17 tonnes), and Travis Scott (54 flights, 3033.3 tonnes). + +Reps for the other nine celebrities in the top 10 of Yard’s list did not immediately return Rolling Stone’s request for comment. + +As for the two celebs who helped inspire Yard’s study: Kylie Jenner’s jet landed all the way down at number 19 (64 flights, 1682.7 tonnes), sandwiched between Jim Carey and Tom Cruise. And Drake’s plane popped up at number 16 (37 flights, 1844.09 tonnes), in between golfer Jack Nicklaus and Kenny Chesney. While Jenner has yet to address her 17-minute flight, Drake did respond to some criticism on Instagram by noting that nobody was even on the seven-minute, 12-minute, and 14-minute flights his Boeing 767 took during a six-week span. The explanation, in all honesty, doesn’t do him any favors. + +“This is just them moving planes to whatever airport they are being stored at for anyone who was interested in the logistics… nobody takes that flight,” Drake said. (A rep for Drake did not immediately return Rolling Stone’s request for further comment.)",0 +4787,Rage Against The Machine says “abort the Supreme Court” at first concert in 11 years. ,0 +4788,Drummer Taylor Hawkins from the Foo Fighters has passed away. [https://twitter.com/foofighters/status/1507552958988255234?ref\_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Etweet](https://twitter.com/foofighters/status/1507552958988255234?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Etweet),0 +4789,"BREAKING: Joni Mitchell has followed Neil Young’s lead and removed her music from Spotify. ""Irresponsible people are spreading lies that are costing people their lives. I stand in solidarity with Neil Young and the global scientific and medical communities on this issue."". ",0 +4790,Rage Against the Machine Donating Ticket Sales to Reproductive Rights Organizations. ,0 +4791,Russian Rapper Oxxxymiron Cancels Sold Out Moscow Concerts in Protest of Ukraine Invasion. ,0 +4792,Elon Musk calls Nine Inch Nails’ Trent Reznor a “crybaby” for deleting his Twitter account. ,0 +4793,Coolio Dead at 59. ,0 +4794,"Phil Collins bids farewell to fans as he performs his last ever show amid health battle. Enjoy your retirement, Phil!. ",0 +4795,Adidas ends massive deal with Kanye West after antisemitism controversy. ,0 +4796,Justice Department opens investigation into Ticketmaster. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/11/18/technology/live-nation-ticketmaster-investigation-taylor-swift.html,0 +4797,Rick Astley (me) - abcdefu (Gayle cover) [pop]. ,0 +4798,'Nevermind' Baby's Child Porn Lawsuit Against Nirvana Dismissed. ,0 +4799,"Spotify sides with Joe Rogan over Neil Young and has started removing Neil Young's music from their platform. Spotify has begun the process of removing Neil Young’s music from its catalog. The move was done at the singer-songwriter’s request, who cited his disgust over the proliferation of “fake information about vaccines” on the streaming platform. Young specifically took issue with Spotify’s promotion of the Joe Rogan Experience, which has become a breeding ground for false COVID information. “I want all my music off their platform. They can have Rogan or Young. Not both,” Young wrote in an open letter sent to his management and record label on Monday. + +In a statement acknowledging Young’s request, a Spotify representative said, “We want all the world’s music and audio content to be available to Spotify users. With that comes great responsibility in balancing both safety for listeners and freedom for creators. We have detailed content policies in place and we’ve removed over 20,000 podcast episodes related to COVID since the start of the pandemic. We regret Neil’s decision to remove his music from Spotify, but hope to welcome him back soon.” Young’s discography will be removed from Spotify later this evening.” + +Meanwhile, in a new open letter Young elaborated on his stance. “Spotify has recently become a very damaging force via its public misinformation and lies about COVID,” he wrote. “I first learned of this problem by reading that 200 plus doctors had joined forces, taking on the dangerous life-threatening COVID falsehoods found in Spotify programming.” + +“I realized I could not continue to support Spotify’s life threatening misinformation to the music loving public,” he continued. “Before I told my friends at Warner Bros about my desire to leave the Spotify platform, I was reminded by my own legal forces that contractually I did not have the control of my music to do that. I announced I was leaving anyway, because I knew I was. I was prepared to do all I could and more just to make sure that happened. I want to thank my truly great and supportive record company Warner Brothers – Reprise Records, for standing with me in my decision to pull all my music from Spotify. Thank You!” + +Young noted that Spotify accounts for “60% of the streaming of my music to listeners around the world… Yet my friends at Warner Brothers Reprise stood with me, recognizing the threat the COVID misinformation on Spotify posed to the world – particularly for our young people who think everything they hear on Sptofiy is true. Unfortunately it is not.” + +He closed his letter by encouraging other musicians to follow suit: “I sincerely hope that other artists and record companies will move off the Spotify platform and stop supporting Spotify’s deadly misinformation about COVID.” + +You can read Young’s full note below. + +SPOTIFY has recently become a very damaging force via its public misinformation and lies about COVID. + +I first learned of this problem by reading that 200 plus doctors had joined forces, taking on the dangerous life-threatening COVID falsehoods found in SPOTIFY programming. + +Most of the listeners hearing the unfactual, misleading and false COVID information on SPOTIFY are 24 years old, impressionable and easy to swing to the wrong side of the truth. + +These young people believe SPOTIFY would never present grossly unfactual information. They unfortunately are wrong. I knew I had to try to point that out. + +All my music is available on SPOTIFY, being sold to these young people, people who believe what they are hearing because it is on SPOTIFY, and people like me are supporting SPOTIFY by presenting my music there. + +I realized I could not continue to support SPOTIFY’s life threatening misinformation to the music loving public. + +Before I told my friends at Warner Bros about my desire to leave the SPOTIFY platform, I was reminded by my own legal forces that contractually I did not have the control of my music to do that. I announced I was leaving anyway, because I knew I was. I was prepared to do all I could and more just to make sure that happened. + +I want to thank my truly great and supportive record company Warner Brothers – Reprise Records, for standing with me in my decision to pull all my music from Spotify. Thank You! + +Spotify represents 60% of the streaming of my music to listeners around the world, almost every record I have ever released is available – my life’s music – a huge loss for my record company to absorb. Yet my friends at WARNER BROTHERS REPRISE stood with me, recognizing the threat the COVID misinformation on SPOTIFY posed to the world – particularly for our young people who think everything they hear on SPOTIFY is true. Unfortunately it is not. + +Thank you WARNER BROTHERS for standing with me and taking the hit – losing 60% of my world wide streaming income in the name of Truth. + +SPOTIFY has become the home of life threatening COVID misinformation. Lies being sold for money. + +There is an upside for my listeners, people who may be listening to the 60 years of music I have made in my life so far. It is this: many other platforms, Amazon, Apple, and Qobuz, to name a few, present my music today in all its High-Resolution glory – the way it is intended to be heard, while unfortunately SPOTIFY continues to peddle the lowest quality in music reproduction. So much for art. But now that is in the past for me. Soon my music will live on in a better place. + +I truly want to thank the many, many people who have reached out to me thanking me for taking this position – people who are health professionals on the front lines, people who have lost loved ones to COVID or who are worried for their own children and families. I have never felt so much love coming from so many. + +I sincerely hope that other artists and record companies will move off the SPOTIFY platform and stop supporting SPOTIFY’s deadly misinformation about COVID. + +In the name of Truth. + +neil young + +Article: https://consequence.net/2022/01/spotify-neil-young-removes-music",0 +4800,Kanye West Tells Alex Jones: ‘I Like Hitler’. ,0 +4801,Neil Young Demands Spotify Remove His Music Over ‘False Information About Vaccines’. ,0 +4802,DL Hughley says Kanye West would ‘already be in a conservatorship’ if ‘he had a vagina’. ,0 +4803,"Blink-182’s Tom DeLonge, Mark Hoppus, Travis Barker Reunite for World Tour and New Music. ",0 +4804,Russia is banned from Eurovision after invasion of Ukraine. ,0 +4805,"Kanye West Barred From Performing at Grammys Due to ‘Concerning Online Behavior,’ Rep Says. https://variety.com/2022/music/news/kanye-west-grammys-concerning-online-behavior-1235209759/ + +>West’s rep cited a report in the Blast posted late Friday claiming that the artist’s team received a phone call Friday night informing him he had been “unfortunately” removed from the lineup of performers for the show due to his “concerning online behavior.” While West, who is up for five 2022 Grammy Awards, was not among the first list of performers announced on Tuesday, he may have been a planned performer. A rep for West sent Variety a link to that story, saying only “This is confirmed”; the rep did not respond to requests for further information, although the Blast report states, “Our sources say Kanye’s team isn’t surprised by the decision.”",0 +4806,"MF DOOM’s Widow Says The Rapper’s Rhyme Books Have Been Stolen | The rapper’s widow, Jasmine Dumile, confirms that a music executive is in possession of her late husband’s rhyme book and won’t return them.. ",0 +4807,"Two months after disaster, media is actually starting to forget what happened at Astroworld. These are the results if you google Travis Scott today.. Self-post because of subreddit guidelines. + +[Link](https://imgur.com/a/YqUPKq0)",0 +4808,"Blink-182’s third album, Enema of the State, was released June 1, 1999. Nobody likes you when you’re 23.. ",0 +4809,"Dee Snider explains Twisted Sister song to ‘fascist moron’ supporters of Arizona gubernatorial candidate Kari Lake | ""This is a pro-choice anthem you (are) co-opting. It was NEVER intended for you fascist morons."". ",0 +4810,"Dolly Parton declines Rock & Roll Hall of Fame nomination: “Even though I am extremely flattered and grateful to be nominated for the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame, I don’t feel that I have earned that right. I really do not want votes to be split because of me, so I must respectfully bow out.”. Article: https://pitchfork.com/news/dolly-parton-declines-2022-rock-hall-nomination/ + +Dolly Parton has removed herself from consideration for the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, which she announced in a statement on Monday (March 14). “Even though I am extremely flattered and grateful to be nominated for the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame, I don't feel that I have earned that right. I really do not want votes to be split because of me, so I must respectfully bow out,” she wrote. This year was Parton’s first time being nominated. Read her full statement below. + +This isn’t the first prize that Dolly has turned down: she twice declined a Presidential Medal of Freedom from the Trump administration, and has said she’s not sure whether she would accept one from the Biden administration, either. + +Eminem, Beck, A Tribe Called Quest, Carly Simon, and Duran Duran are still among those on the long list for the Rock Hall, with inductees announced in May. Fans can vote for their choice at the Rock Hall website through April 29. + +Dolly Parton: + +Dolly here! Even though I am extremely flattered and grateful to be nominated for the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame, I don't feel that I have earned that right. I really do not want votes to be split because of me, so I must respectfully bow out. + +I do hope that the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame will understand and be willing to consider me again - if I'm ever worthy. This has, however, inspired me to put out a hopefully great rock’n’roll album at some point in the future, which I have always wanted to do! My husband is a total rock’n’roll freak, and has always encouraged me to do one. I wish all of the nominees good luck and thank you again for the compliment. Good luck!",0 +4811,Aaron Carter dead at 34. ,0 +4812,"Bo Burnham wins his first-ever GRAMMY Award for his song ""All Eyes on Me"" from his Netflix special ""Inside"", winning in the category 'Best Song Written for Visual Media'. Article: https://www.nerdsandbeyond.com/2022/04/03/bo-burnham-wins-first-ever-grammy-award-for-inside/ + +Bo Burnham is officially a first-time Grammy Award winner under the Best Song Written for Visual Media category for his song “All Eyes On Me” from Inside. + +“All Eyes on Me” faced off against “Agatha All Along” from WandaVision sung by Kathryn Hahn, “All I Know So Far” from P!nk, “Fight For You” from Judas and the Black Messiah by H.E.R., “Here I Am” from Respect by Jennifer Hudson, and “Speak Now” from One Night in Miami… by Leslie Odom, Jr.",0 +4813,"Crosyb, Stills, and Nash join Neil Young in demanding their music be removed from Spotify over COVID misinformation.. https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/crosby-stills-nash-neil-young-in-removing-music-from-spotify-1294044/",0 +4814,"When Your Favorite Artist Becomes a Nazi: Kanye West is gone, and he's never coming back. ",0 +4815,Kate Bush thanks Stranger Things fans as Running Up That Hill climbs charts. ,0 +4816,Let’s put Weird Al on the Super Bowl Halftime Show!. ,0 +4817,Tom Petty’s estate to sue Kari Lake for using his music without permission: ‘This is illegal’. ,0 +4818,"Dee Snider Supports Ukrainians Blasting ""We're Not Gonna Take It"" as Their Rallying Cry: ""This Can't Happen to These People Again!"". ",0 +4819,"Slipknot drummer Joey Jordison was not shown in the Grammys Memoriam, even though he was nominated for 7 and won 1 Grammy. ",0 +4820,Jeff Bezos awards Dolly Parton $100 million to give to whatever charities she chooses. ,0 +4821,"Spotify CEO addresses Joe Rogan controversy: “We don’t change our policies based on one creator”. Article: https://pitchfork.com/news/spotify-ceo-address-joe-rogan-controversy-we-dont-change-our-policies-based-on-one-creator/ + +Spotify CEO and co-founder Daniel Ek has addressed the company’s handling of the ongoing controversy surrounding Joe Rogan and his Spotify-exclusive podcast, The New York Times reports. “In general, what I would say is, it’s too early to know what the impact may be,” Ek reportedly said during an earnings call on Wednesday, February 2. “And usually when we’ve had controversies in the past, those are measured in months and not days. But I feel good about where we are in relation to that and obviously top line trends looks very healthy still.” + +According to The Times, Ek also stated during the call: + +I think the important part here is that we don’t change our policies based on one creator nor do we change it based on any media cycle, or calls from anyone else. Our policies have been carefully written with the input from numbers of internal and external experts in this space. And I do believe they’re right for our platform. And while Joe has a massive audience—he is actually the number one podcast in more than 90 markets—he also has to abide by those policies. + +Along with his remarks during the earnings call, The Verge reports that Ek addressed the controversy during a town hall event with employees. “Regarding our platform rules, the fact that we hadn’t moved fast enough to make our policies available externally has made the situation especially difficult,” he reportedly said. “And these policies have been in place for years, but it was a mistake that they weren’t public. And that’s on me, and something that I will learn from.” + +In December 2021, 270 medical professionals published an open letter criticizing The Joe Rogan Experience and claiming that the host has spread “false and societally harmful assertions” about the coronavirus. Since then, Neil Young has removed his music from Spotify, stating, “They can have Rogan or Young. Not both.” Many other musicians—including Joni Mitchell, Graham Nash, David Crosby, and more—have also sought to have their work taken off Spotify in support of Young and his protest. Spotify has responded to the departures by adding content advisories to podcasts that discuss COVID-19.",0 +4822,"I spent the past year listening to over 7500 songs that were posted to reddit by independent artists. Have you ever wondered what the Grammy's would look like, if it only awarded undiscovered artists? Here are the 2022 Reddit Grammy Awards!. Hey guys, thanks so much for checking out my post and for giving these underground artists a chance! This year I am giving out 182 awards that range across 179 different genres. Click the link below to check out the full list! Awards are given out per genre, each category includes a link to the artist's Reddit account. + +# Click here >> [2022 Reddit Grammy Awards](https://docs.google.com/document/d/1YI4CRjIHQA_ebJyRZM8zILVmesbpSo8D8JsZuw6IzNI/edit#heading=h.dmjpl3xwwzzy) << Click here + +​ + +|Playlists: [YouTube Playlist](https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYbyG3wDWegUzLozImmfOXMy0L4rSJ-MY) | [Spotify Playlist](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5hx02iZROIPTN4V0Uvbr8P?si=409ab8280b6e4ebd) | [Apple Music Playlist](https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/2022-reddit-grammys/pl.u-Zmblxbms0zRjlb7)| +|:-| + + +​ + +\--- + +**Song of the Year:** [Framing Skeletons - Flight in the Failing Knot](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R-1oZhGFPCk) + +**Male Vocalist of the Year:** [Pultixima - Killing](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XtZVbMt0Wq0) + +**Female Vocalist of the Year:** [Mallika Vie - Let It Go](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GRsEeYx9Gj0) + +​ + +Best Rock: [The Chaw - Hours & Days](https://youtu.be/aREfvBU6WRo) + +Best Pop: [The Eves - Brand New Day](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F5cJT-a6Nsc) + +Best Metal: [Zunapalooza - Whispers in the Dark](https://youtu.be/V9qUD99MM1M) + +Best Folk: [Dream Of Sleeping - Anew](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pauGLyrUtLM) + +Best Lofi: [Falling To Earth - Solitude](https://soundcloud.com/falling_to_earth/solitude) + +Best Breakbeat: [Noah Bugalski - can't cut the noise](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y_uOoMz22do&ab_channel=NoahBugalski) + +Best EDM: [VLN - Frequency](https://soundcloud.com/vln_official/frequency) + +Best House: [Latch - Wasteland](https://open.spotify.com/track/360x7qJfiX3khCjKkToVWD?si=tV9Mozw9QB2z2cZU5Oc6wg) + +Best Techno: [Sertulariae - Phase Inversion](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VpPDtATOV1Y&list=OLAK5uy_mCnk7jCTvPoLrmo-IiGyoc-ULsSp8B3QU&index=1) + +Best Future Bass: [Crèmium - COULER](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CNNzQB25lwQ) + +Best RnB: [Oshua - Midnight Lows](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WIg-zQsyHUs) + +Best Trap: [Washyb. - Antebellum](https://open.spotify.com/track/3R2C4gT6wzkSMPNhBqyegb?si=25e6b1c7afc74d78) + +Best Reggae: [Raynbird - Children of the Beast](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FffuPDlWOZo) + +Best Synthwave: [Macrowave - Dystopia](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_zhd6Ym8cHY) + +Best IDM: [Crith - Erasers 2 legs Let](https://soundcloud.com/crithlors/erasers-2-legs-let) + +Best Chiptune: [Felknia - Salty Shores](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I_uDTBXLcCA) + +Best Funk: [Vivid Fever Dreams - Get Through This Together](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=grsgLQ9R2zM) + +Best Experimental: [Mari Geti - Risky](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GOULD2ukfdY) + +Best Instrumental: [Daniel Diaz - War and a Brief Vision of Light](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1wohd0sf2XY) + +Best Americana: [Bubba Bellin - Steel Guitar](https://youtu.be/KnjFge3Gls0) + +Best Downtempo: [Pingoin - Calm Fridays](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WXK7gq6IbJc) + +Best Electronic: [Mistral - Burn](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQmjELdeVE8) + +Best Trip Hop: [C.T. Lee - A Sinister Philosophy](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JW2tyOvkojY) + +Best Hip Hop: [Mike Fate - Natural](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DP5bqomcQe8) + +Best Opera: [Chiel Nugter - Kwetsbaar](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XjTsBsBUaj4) + +Best Folktronica: [Striped McCoy - The Fighter](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QuN5zKXDKaM) + +Best Folk Singer-Songwriter: [The Finders - Jupiter’s Moons](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BoZhmNF1j9c) + +Best Indietronica: [Moonglow - Breathe In Breathe Out](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wq2F_JhhrZc) + +Best Indie Folk: [Dreams of Lasers - The Leaves Love the Wind](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gUJTWZCvUVU) + +Best Crossover Jazz: [Casey Haynes - Raregroove](https://soundcloud.com/user-901469319/raregroove) + +Best Alternative R&B: [Quami.xyz - I Know The Sound](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oIsJhDUbvUw) + +Best Smooth Jazz: [Friends Of The Unknown - Recording Your Mind](https://soundcloud.com/colin-labrie-gagne/recording-your-mind-1) + +Best Acid Jazz: [Dr. Lite - Apricot Jam on Rye Toast](https://soundcloud.com/dr_lite/apricot-jam-on-rye-toast?in=kittensrjerks/sets/imf-favorites-jan-2021) + +Best Chillhop: [Star Smash - Empathic Telepathy](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G8bXQB8_wfU) + +Best Chill: [Latin Shui - close your eyes.. and drive?](https://soundcloud.com/latinshui/close-your-eyes-and-drive) + +Best Spaghetti Western: [Nacho Marques - The Sheriff](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4z2wUNTvEc&ab_channel=NachoMarqu%C3%A9s) + +Best New Age: [Priscilla Hernandez - MORA-IA](https://youtu.be/4XLDqRsiH64) + +Best Electro Pop: [JYLDA - So Alive](https://open.spotify.com/track/0Id8VIeSh0Twdx7JKXKJtE?si=0829ec83f62f4c76) + +Best Melodic Dubstep: [Matfroninja - Hear You Again](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BbiCmfvr-0Y) + +Best Neurostep: [Synova - Jeal:ousy VIP (ft. clickbate)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wx7-QBu01c) + +Best Neurofunk: [Sky Loom - In the D](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2xMntLp0FcY) + +Best Glitch Hop: [Sharp Sevens - Galaxy](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XdyJXeMYer0) + +Best Pop Punk: [Tochiro - Exit](https://youtu.be/Cty8T832b0Y) + +Best Indie Pop: [Scott is Ok - Patience](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fh8j3wpm6zw) + +Best Synth Pop: [Hurling Pixels - Under Summer Skies](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=feVOOBLCad4) + +Best Electronica: [Minev - Night Shift](https://youtu.be/AxOoAYawSLg) + +Best Dance Pop: [TigerMarie - Bad Friend](https://soundcloud.com/pete-bell-998388691/bad-friend-demo) + +Best Electronic Pop: [Gutter Punk - The Rest of My Life](https://open.spotify.com/track/2ga3wb0xwej9mGhDj5Ksgl?si=5f3bc84aab9b45ff) + +Best Noise: [Lucy’s City - Noise, My Love](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bKFHrTXiYic&list=PLu0ExkTEAbXd9wWMt4MHS0EdA2YRmf76o&index=1&ab_channel=Lucy%27sCity) + +Best Bedroom Pop: [Whoismedicate - All In My Head](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wLDaDmALeCA) + +Best Alternative Pop: [SIXSIX - hobbies](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dpsOXf5kiLg&lc=UgytTQV_4EzLdyLtcud4AaABAg) + +Best Instrumental Folk: [FlukeyMcSwagger - Prairie Boy Zero](https://soundcloud.com/user-987132093/prarie-boy-zero) + +Best Dream Pop: [Andrew M - Bounce](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PTsnWbdvV70) + +Best Future Pop: [Catnip Cloud - Illumination](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NOf_RDcDlkA) + +Best Psychedelic Pop: [I n o - Jungster](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XGNkeE5-LbQ) + +Best Disco House: [Vrdnyn, Summer School - Hurt No More](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yxiNeBorCWQ) + +Best Hyperpop: [Mybittersweetheart - sometimes i wonder](https://mybittersweetheart.bandcamp.com/track/sometimes-i-wonder) + +Best Dark Pop: [Maeve - Manic Pixie Dream Girl](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5nARkgVV8q0) + +Best Symphonic Pop - [Daphne Cerez, apaleblueeye: A Universe Without You](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rg-OTQPmZ4U) + +Best Soundtrack: [Reuben Louis - The Secret Garden of Pavithra](https://soundcloud.com/reuben-louis/the-secret-garden-of-pavithra-reuben-louis?in=kittensrjerks/sets/imf-favorites-jan-2021) + +Best Alternative Rock: [Mud Whale - Scapegoat](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Oca_XZhcgc&list=PLYbyG3wDWegUc22taqxwDC6FoTWjNe_on&index=3) + +Best Electronic Rock: [REPLEO - Marching On](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4uKJheUNbNY) + +Best Soft Rock: [Magic Jones - You’ll Still Be You](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P3ERA6MsSac&list=PLu0ExkTEAbXewcnh3Df974mSq48GQfscC) + +Best Hard Rock: [The F-use - Chaser](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9hm50GDt4lc) + +Best Surf Rock: [Beach Bomb - Cannibals](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SEyU13y1vPM) + +Best Progressive Rock: [Cut the Berry - Illusion by Confusion](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSjrY5AhnoE) + +Best Industrial Rock: [LOHM, David Petty - Dirt](https://open.spotify.com/track/4tfux7uM1Ze8R2cGAr9EWT?si=3zdUdWljTxC2kgdKpZ1ebg) + +Best Post Drone: [The Anthropophobia Project - Entropy](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wkW4t6G9zQQ) + +Best Pop Rock: [Empty Elles - Waste Away](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WTqCTTRCjWI) + +Best Indie Rock: [The Parasocials - Karmatose](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xo3o-kXsqqI) + +Best Folk Rock: [Muma, Lloyd Degler - Sensible Oddities (Hold On)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vBSLjrwRWmI) + +Best Acoustic Fingerstyle: [Internet Dust - Gary](https://open.spotify.com/track/0Saupueq1ADDJaac7kWuHQ?si=KaJ_vwFfRxe9-WQLTtqLgA) + +Best Grunge: [Flora Lin - Keep Believing](https://floralin.bandcamp.com/track/keep-believing) + +Best Post Grunge: [King Rizz - Weirdo](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yy2ker7mxRU) + +Best Post-Hardcore: [Sugar Glue - Brain Chemistry](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sxm1XXz241s) + +Best Chillwave: [LeftWay - Drive](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mcluumBJRwM) + +Best Progressive Metal: [Framing Skeletons - Flight in the Failing Knot](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R-1oZhGFPCk) + +Best Folk Punk Song: [Goodwin Rainer - Paying Gigs](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JimLWEqwZcc) + +Best Symphonic Metal: [Willie Dangerr, Daphne Cerez - Sacrifice of Time](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7c8a1RTDidc) + +Best Psychedelic Folk: [Noah Colley - I Am](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FO8EWPvfYEA) + +Best Darkwave: [mötoo - overXtend](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tK1OseSFFhw) + +Best Alternative Hip Hop: [JOEJAS - VENTURE?](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=to2yzV1iljU) + +Best Future Garage: [Zodat, Tonze, LJAY - Fade Away](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBCchQJUMdE) + +Best Disco Pop: [Fhernando - Together](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6dI1U6vAsCw) + +Best Piano: [Marc Gedeon - Prelude n1](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8qem0rrdYro) + +Best Alternative Trap: [Omen Bates - Stars and Back](https://soundcloud.com/user-315639177/stars-and-back) + +Best Digicore: [Okay Yeah - On The Floor](https://soundcloud.com/okay-yea/onthefloor) + +Best Ambient: [Madach Ren - Olas](https://madachren.bandcamp.com/track/olas) + +Best Experimental Hip Hop: [Max Exodu$, Purple Gem, Evan Parisi-Sanchez -Distortion Hikuuu](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KgAJaiATr8E) + +Best Chamber Pop: [Louise Marshall - Blue](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W9lPTlJ6Goo) + +Best K-Pop: [Cosmoose, OK Feather, DHXP - Eyes Wide Open](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nu4Z0726f4M) + +Best Lofi Pop: [Bran - Breathe Slowly.](https://youtu.be/oDGBDcImCE4) + +Best Chillhop: [Star Smash - Empathic Telepathy](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G8bXQB8_wfU) + +Best Twee Pop: [Girls With Depression, Popijininsky - Dust, Pt. 2](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0MrU04LnFh8) + +Best Blues Rock: [Sentientsimian - more or less](https://soundcloud.com/sentientsimian/sentientsimian-whiskey) + +Best Shoegaze: [Machine Idle - Sharp](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YY2hOcbDu_k) + +Best Indie R&B: [Javii - Giants](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OYjyha01kk8) + +Best Bass House: [Sonar Seven - Sunbird](https://soundcloud.com/sonarseven/sunbird20) + +Best Future Funk: [Chrylo - Vulcan (feat. Happy Cola)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qFidB-gguwQ) + +Best Dream Trap: [Murr - Rigged](https://soundcloud.com/murredbeats/rigged-from-the-start) + +Best Emo Hip Hop: [Iamj.nocap - ZOMBIEFACE](https://soundcloud.com/iamj-nocap/zombieface-prodlove-matt) + +Best Indie Hip Hop: [Forrest Del - Pain](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U04BXAzL4PE&t=746s) + +Best Industrial Hip Hop: [VLN, Equinox - Hungry](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cMGQCOTniW0) + +Best Jazz Rap: [J-Benz - The Rejects](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji9j26mn3L8) + +Best Pop Rap: [Retropxssy - Sleepy Head](https://youtu.be/oQFt0N0I2Vg) + +Best Hardcore Rap: [Slick Naari - Why Bother?](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VncTz621rjs) + +Best Turntablism - [Keyote - Grand Scheme](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=16vPsdGiQyc&t=2s) + +Best Metalstep: [Blind Lies, SEVER THE DAY - Into Flames](https://open.spotify.com/track/1CGRj50P84co37oWfv4p4D?si=66381781a6e14be8) + +Best Nu Metal: [The Opinion Industry - They’re Recording This](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S1O2WdLiQtc) + +Best Industrial Metal: [PIX3LARMY - Outside Your Door](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fCc7Qm34bg8) + +Best Emo Rock: [I Hate It Too - Soul Searching & Me](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qVYZQkBkK0w) + +Best Dance Rock: [SMTC - The King of Sound](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUJsKMKVtkI) + +Best Dreamgaze: [Foxmore - I Got You](https://soundcloud.app.goo.gl/7XGj9vz3kZteFVEX6) + +Best Experimental R&B: [G1ydr - grey\_hues](https://soundcloud.com/g1dyrisonline/grey_hues) + +Best Future Punk: [Morning Trips - Assault](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=64uhJ9s1FiI) + +Best Art Pop: [Gutter Punk - Why Does It Matter?](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NAvFCnrjQKs) + +Best Psychedelic Rock: [Dog in Confusion - Turbulent Mind](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYuEPjhtJHk) + +Best Hardcore Punk: [Mud Dog - Bite Down](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_QaLO4VTmjk) + +Best Skate Punk: [Sore Thumb - Officially Late](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gd0_5rHd8mE) + +Best Rap Rock: [For the Love of God - Osay, The F-use, Pix3lArmy, LOHM](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9TW-ccd1kss) + +Best Indian Classical: [Srabasti Acharya - Jao Pakhi](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dCRp1ml2rn4) + +Best Salsa: [PapaSon - Nada Personal](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vx4z_Pm03lU) + +​ + +​ + +edit1: + +I wasn't able to include every winner in the main post. To see the full list check out this link-> [2022 Reddit Grammy Awards](https://docs.google.com/document/d/1YI4CRjIHQA_ebJyRZM8zILVmesbpSo8D8JsZuw6IzNI/edit#heading=h.dmjpl3xwwzzy) + +edit2: + +This is my 3rd year sharing a [Reddit Grammy post](https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/le2uak/i_spent_the_past_year_listening_to_over_15000/). Last year a few people mentioned to me that they would be interested in becoming involved in the process of listening to and rating music. I think creating a scene within Reddit where music lovers are paying attention to the underground artists that post music here would be amazing. I'd be interested to see how it effects the music scene. Maybe more people would discover new music that they love. Plus, having more people vote would broaden the overall appeal of the winners. + +**If you'd like to be a judge of next year's Reddit Grammys,** I invite you to join the [Official Reddit Grammy's Discord](https://discord.gg/v42vz2uQ4n), where we will be listening to and rating music that gets posted to various music subreddits! + +​ + +\---",0 +4823,"Longtime E Street Band Member Nils Lofgren Pulls Music From Spotify, Encourages All Musicians to “Cut Ties” With Service. ",0 +4824,Paramore’s Hayley Williams to host 20-part BBC podcast “Everything Is Emo” on the evolution of emo music. ,0 +4825,Christine McVie of Fleetwood Mac has died. Posted to her official IG that she passed this morning from a short illness. So very sad!,0 +4826,Pink Floyd to release first new music in decades to support Ukraine. ,0 +4827,"Should Weird Al be in the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame?. My answer is yes. He’s been active for around 40 years and has managed to stay relevant. Sure, he makes parodies, but look at all of the artists he’s ~~produced~~ parodied and the variety of genres he can rock out with an accordion. He’s an immense talent and deserves to be awarded for it.",0 +4828,Blink-182 Tickets Are So Expensive Because Ticketmaster Is a Disastrous Monopoly and Now Everyone Pays Ticket Broker Prices | Or: Why You Are Never Getting An Inexpensive Ticket to a Popular Concert Ever Again. ,0 +4829,"Ticketmaster gets worse every year.. Trying to buy tickets to blink-182 this week confirmed to me that I am done with Ticketmaster. Even with a presale code and sitting in a digital waiting room for 30 minutes before tickets went on sale, I couldn’t find tickets that were a reasonable price. The cheapest I could find five minutes after the first presale started were $200 USD plus fees for back for the upper bowl. At that point, they weren’t even resellers. Ticket prices were just inflated from Ticketmaster due to their new “dynamic pricing”. To me that’s straight price gouging with fees on top. Even if I wanted to spend over $500 all in on two tickets for terrible seats, I couldn’t. Tickets would be snatched from my cart before or the price would increase before I could even try to complete the transaction. I’m speaking with my wallet. I’m not buying tickets to another show through Ticketmaster.",0 +4830,"Isaac Hayes Estate threatens legal action against Donald Trump for unauthorized music usage at Trump's campaign launch. Article: https://www.billboard.com/music/music-news/isaac-hayes-estate-threatens-lawsuit-donald-trump-sam-dave-song-campaign-launch-1235172024/ + +Donald Trump kicked off his third bid for the White House on Tuesday night (Nov. 15) at his Mar-a-Lago estate in Florida and within an hour the twice-impeached one-term former president was already facing his latest threat of legal sanction. + +In the midst of a nest of investigations into Trump’s actions before and during his tumultuous four-year term, the estate of late R&B/soul legend Isaac Hayes tweeted that it was exploring its legal options to stop the former reality star from using one of Hayes’ compositions at his campaign events. “Once again, the estate and family of Isaac Hayes DID NOT approve the use of ‘Hold On I’m Coming’ by Sam and Dave by Donald Trump at his 2024 Presidential announcement tonight,” read the tweet from the reps for the singer/composer who died in 2008 at age 65. + +“We are exploring multiple legal options to stop this unauthorized use,” it warned. Hayes co-wrote the 1966 hit and in a subsequent tweet the estate added, “Stopping a politician from using your music is not always an easy task, but we are dedicated to making sure that Donald Trump does not continue to use ‘Hold on I’m Coming’ by written by Isaac Hayes an David Porter in further rallies and public appearances.”",0 +4831,Justin Bieber Reveals He Has “Full Paralysis” on One Side of His Face Due to Ramsay Hunt Syndrome. https://www.billboard.com/music/music-news/justin-bieber-face-paralysis-ramsay-hunt-syndrome-video-1235085836/,0 +4832,Lorde: “Touring Has Become a Demented Struggle to Break Even or Face Debt”. ,0 +4833,"Did you ever listen to a cover so good that the original song doesn't sound that good anymore to you.. I'll start with mine, +Greta van fleet - Change is gonna come +(Edit) +I'm gonna add +Unlike Pluto - No scrubs +I've seen quite a lot of people mention some covers so i'll put them here +Disturbed - Sound of Silence +Faith no More - War pigs +Tool - No Quarters +Hurt - Johnny Cash",0 +4834,Billie Joe Armstrong Tells British Crowd He's 'Renouncing' U.S. Citizenship After Roe Repeal. ,0 +4835,"Taylor Swift Ticket Sales Crash Ticketmaster, Ignite Fan Backlash, Renew Calls To Break Up Service: “Ticketmaster Is A Monopoly”. https://deadline.com/2022/11/taylor-swift-tickets-tour-crash-ticketmaster-1235173087/ + +>Fans trying to purchase seats for Taylor Swift’s Eras Tour, which went on sale this morning, were irate at Ticketmaster for long waits, technical glitches and outright site crashes. + +>Some compared it to The Hunger Games. Overwhelming demand from the same fans who had rocketed 10 songs from Swift’s most recent release Midnights to the top 10 of the Billboard Hot 100 — a first-time feat in the chart’s history — caused what Ticketmaster characterized as “intermittent issues with the site.” Potential ticket buyers complained of waiting hours with little to show for it. Others said they were being automatically logged out without being allowed to complete their purchases. + +>Rolling Stone reported that “As of 11 a.m. on Tuesday, the site was experiencing major issues, with fans either completely logged out or in a queue 2,000-plus people strong that appeared frozen.” + +>One famous Millennial echoed decades-long calls for legal action against the service. + +>House Rep. Alexandra Oscasio-Cortez wrote on Twitter this morning, “Daily reminder that Ticketmaster is a monopoly, it’s [sic] merger with LiveNation should never have been approved, and they need to be reigned in. Break them up.” + +>A fan added context to the Congresswoman’s call by replying with a photo of Jeff Ament and Stone Gossard on Capitol Hill in 1995 reminding that “@PearlJam were aware of these monopolistic practices back in 1995. They even testified before congress regarding the issue.” The group at the time also filed a complaint against the ticketing giant with the U.S. Justice Department and tried to set up an alternate ticket-buying channel. + +>Ticketmaster posted several Twitter updates this morning as the site’s issues escalated. Among them was advising fans not to log in through the Ticketmaster web site, which was experiencing “unprecendeted demand,” but to initiate purchases through the presale links texted to them. + +>The ticketing service pushed back presales for a number of West Coast cities from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. today. A presale for Capitol One cardmembers was pushed to tomorrow.",0 +4836,"Trump recorded an opening video for Kid Rock's new tour, and after playing it the singer launched into an obscenity filled song about Fauci and BLM. ",0 +4837,"Travis Scott clearly doesn't understand how his behavior directly links to the violent outcomes of his shows.. His latest interview discussing things makes it clear he doesn't understand his responsibility/culpability. Link included. +Having been a metal head my life, attended shows and been injured, it's astounding this played out the way it did. Artists like Randy Blythe faced the consequences of their crowds getting out of control head on, while Travis Scott is ""trying to understand how to prevent this from happening"". Maybe try not inciting riots at your shows to start? + +[Travis Scott interview](https://youtu.be/FS9SvGvbSgw)",0 +4838,"Pink Floyd’s Roger Waters says he’s ‘far, far, far more important’ than Drake, The Weeknd. ",0 +4839,Chris Martin says Coldplay will stop making music in 2025. ,0 +4840,"My 82 year old neighbor just released his first album in over 40 years today! He'd love if you listened to it.. My neighbor is Tommy McLain, he's a bit of a local legend down in Louisiana and just released his first album in 40 years today. It was supposed to come out a couple years ago, but he had to re-record the album after a series of hurricanes damaged his house and then an arsonist burned his house down (thankfully Tommy wasn't in the house at the time). Then Tommy had a heart attack, and the label the album was supposed to come out on dropped him. Thankfully Tommy is still with us and his new album is finally out! + +Take a listen on Bandcamp (preferred since they're the most artist friendly): https://tommymclain.bandcamp.com/album/i-ran-down-every-dream?label=3415690771&tab=music + +but here's Spotify if you dig that: https://open.spotify.com/album/2puqlsB6uiM3jsJ2ZU1D25 + +Love you Tommy!! You won't see this but I'll show you later!",0 +4841,"Coachella drops COVID restrictions, won’t require negative tests or masks. https://pitchfork.com/news/coachella-drops-more-covid-restrictions-wont-require-negative-tests-or-masks/ + +This year’s Coachella Valley Music and Arts and Stagecoach festivals will no longer require attendees to wear masks or provide negative COVID-19 test results, Rolling Stone and Variety point out. Stagecoach announced the news via social media earlier today. Coachella did not make an announcement via social media, but the health and safety guidelines on the festival website has been updated to communicate the new guidelines. “In accordance with local guidelines, there will be no vaccination, testing or masking requirements at Coachella 2022,” it reads. Pitchfork has reached out to festival organizers Goldenvoice for further information and comment. + +Back in October, Coachella and Stagecoach announced that they would no longer require full vaccination for attendees at the 2022 festival. The new changes in COVID-19 protocol follow California’s statewide termination of mask mandates, which went into effect today. The updated guidelines will still require vaccinated people to wear masks in some settings, such as K-12 schools, on public transportation, and in healthcare settings. Masks will be required for unvaccinated people inside of churches. There will no longer be a requirement to provide a negative test result to visit hospitals and nursing homes. + +Elsewhere in its health and safety guidelines, Coachella’s website states that protocol “may change at any time as determined by federal, state or local government agencies.” These changes may include “proof of vaccination and/or negative COVID-19 test, and other protective measures such as requiring attendees to wear face coverings.” + +Coachella is scheduled for the weekends of April 15-17 and 22-24, 2022. Kanye West, Billie Eilish, and Harry Styles are set to headline. Both the 2020 and 2021 editions of the festival were canceled due to the COVID-19 pandemic.",0 +4842,"BET Awards 2022: Janelle Monae says 'F**k you, Supreme Court', divided social media calls her 'classless'. ",0 +4843,Pink Floyd founder cancels Poland concerts after war remarks. ,0 +4844,"I am corey taylor, #8 from slipknot.. Slipknots new album The End So Far is everywhere now. This is my Ask Me Anything. + +*EDIT - Thanks for hanging out. Pick up the new Slipknot album 'The End, So Far' now at https://slipknot1.lnk.to/TheEndSoFar and we'll see you on the road. + +Proof: https://twitter.com/slipknot/status/1577000085040246785?s=20&t=PepCVzFBPGx5z86GYmfkYw",0 +4845,"R. Kelly Sentenced to 30 Years in Prison : ‘I Pray That God Reaches Your Soul,’ Victim Tells Him. Source - https://variety.com/2022/more/news/r-kelly-sentenced-1235305953/ + +>R. Kelly was sentenced to 30 years in prison in a New York court Wednesday. + +>Kelly, one of the most successful hitmakers of the 1990s and early 2000s, was found guilty of all nine counts against him in September, after a six-week trial revealed how he had used employees and intermediaries to lure fans and hopeful singers into sexually abusive and controlling conditions, including locking them in rooms without food or access to a bathroom for days. + + +>The 55-year-old singer, whose full name is Robert Sylvester Kelly, was convicted of racketeering and eight counts of violating the Mann Act, which prohibits transporting people across state lines for prostitution. He has been in jail since July of 2019; 45 witnesses testified for the government.",0 +4846,"Kate Bush - ""Running Up That Hill (A Deal with God)"" has reached #1 on the Billboard Global Singles Chart!. Link to chart here: https://www.billboard.com/charts/billboard-global-200/ + +This is Kate's first ever global #1 song!",0 +4847,Kanye West suspended from Twitter after posting swastika inside the Star of David. ,0 +4848,"Albums where EVERY song is an absolute banger?. As the title suggests, which album/s IYO have songs that are ALL absolute bangers or are catchy/memorable.. + +For me, it has to be Demon Days by Gorillaz... The spectrum of music they created there is large, every song is memorable, it had a few big radio hits, features some other fantastic artists.... I could go on.... + +EDIT : Didn't expect this to gain as much attention.. thanks for the awards too :) I guess this post can now serve as a mass suggestion list for everyone!! Each and every one of you is a beautiful legend.",0 +4849,"44 years old and attended my first Hip Hop show in 20 years. Things have changed.... This is some old man, corny shit, so please bare with me... + +I love just about all music and I love going to shows. There's something about being a part of the masses moving together as one. I've seen big venue, little venue, clubs. I love it. But there's been something missing... + +When I was 18 I had a really bad experience at a club I went to in Philly to see, of all people, Rob Base and DJ Easy Rock. I'd seen them the night before but this second show, I was one of the only white people there and the show had an entirely different tone to it to the point where I felt excluded almost to the point where I felt unsafe. + +This sucks because my favorite genre is Hip Hop. I was a big Public Enemy/BDP fan and grew up in white washed Midwest suburbs before moving to the Philly area. I was made fun of and bullied for my music choices and excluded, so my Rob Base experience pretty much made me uncomfortable with the idea of going to a hip hop concert. + +That was in 96. I saw Common and a 50 cent concert from VIP boxes and outside of a very random 'The Streets'' show, I've forever put off setting my favorites live while in the crowd. + +Until last night. + +Another dad (who happens to be a teacher who teaches kids how to express themselves lyrically) invited me to go with him to see Denzel Curry (Who I absolutely love) at the Fillmore. He said it would be fun and have a lot of energy and that the crowd would be young. We could hang out on the side and watch it all go down. + +After reading about and seeing the Travis Scott stuff, I had my reservations. I'm not particularly fit and while I love a good mosh pit, I wasn't sure what to expect so I was feeling reserved. + +The opening acts were incredible and so full of energy that I began to develop anxiety about being there on the sidelines, but everything was so aggressive and watching the water get passed around between sets was making me feel like I was out of my element. + +But something weird happened in my brain. I thought if I were there with this other guy who had experienced this, that I should at least give it a go and, being good at navigating crowds I got us center stage about ten ft away. + +As I looked around me, I realized that the crowd was this incredible amalgam of male and female and all colors. There was a young black kid, at least 20 years my junior, that I turned to to ask if he was okay with where I was and he said 'Yeah man, ain't nobody going down tonight' and I suddenly felt safer and that 18 year old me just wanted to cry at that moment. + +Needless to say, the concert was insane. I had to make my way out and back in a couple times because, well, I'm old and out of shape. But not once did I feel afraid and it was amazing. + +I have to say, I'm proud of young people and their ability to be so inclusive. That experience was probably the greatest concert experience I've ever had because it broke so many things open for me and gave me hope for my kids who I hope to take to a show like that in the next 4-5 years when I think they can handle it. + +So that's my story. I'm sore as hell, but full of life after that. To the younger generation, keep doing your thing. You all are amazing and coming together even more at a time when the world from my view feels like it's coming apart. + +Thank you for including me and if you see a person fall, pick them up! + +TL;DR: Had a jolly good time at the show.",0 +4850,Tattoo Removal Studio Will Remove Tats From Regretful Kanye West Fans for Free. ,0 +4851,"Never Gonna Give You Up is 35 years old today!. Given that so many of the people who continue to contribute to it’s presence in online culture reside here on Reddit, it seems like the perfect place to give thanks! The song has a life of it’s own, which my daughter was the first to point out to me several years ago. It brings a smile to my face to see all the fun people have with the song and the video, and really I’m just thankful for all the doors it’s opened for me over the years! Love you Reddit - Rick x",0 +4852,"Earth, Wind & Fire saxophonist Andrew Woolfolk has died. He helped the band bring its signature shine to “September” and other big hits.. Article: https://pitchfork.com/news/earth-wind-and-fire-saxophonist-andrew-woolfolk-has-died + +Andrew Woolfolk, a longtime saxophone player for Earth, Wind & Fire, has died. In an Instagram post, Woolfolk’s Earth, Wind & Fire band mate Philip Bailey wrote that Woolfolk had been dealing with a serious illness for several years. He was 71. Pitchfork has contacted representatives for Earth, Wind & Fire for comment. + +Woolfolk joined the band in 1972, sticking with the outfit through 1985. He re-joined the band when they returned from a hiatus in 1987 and kept his role until 1993. Bailey, who had known Woolfolk since their high school days, had recruited him to the group after the departure of Ronnie Laws. Woolfolk’s period with Earth, Wind & Fire covered much of their most celebrated material, including “September,” “Shining Star,” and “Boogie Wonderland.” He was inducted into the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame with the rest of the band in 2000. + +Outside of Earth, Wind & Fire, Woolfolk worked as a session and touring player for other artists, including Bailey, Phil Collins, Level 42, and Deniece Williams.",0 +4853,"Taylor Swift tries to clarify that she wasn't even on most of those 170+ trips her private jet took this year, saying she just loans out her private jet to friends regularly.. Article: https://www.avclub.com/taylor-swift-private-jet-170-flights-statement-co2-1849352396 + +It’s often hard to quantify the excesses of the rich and powerful. Sure, we can clock the total cost of a red carpet outfit, do some napkin math to figure out how much a big gala must have cost, or watch the super-mansion price listings like very jealous hawks. But for most of the things that separate the Famouses from us Normals, it’s very hard to get any kind of itemized listing of all the ways they’re just plain better than us mere mortals. + +The exception to that rule, typically, is private jet use, on account of flight records being public knowledge that has to be logged with various airports—hence a whole little cottage industry of blogs and accounts that keep an eye on the flight times of the hoi polloi. And, now, a new Rolling Stone piece laying out some of the biggest private jet users in the world (and their subsequent carbon emissions), with Taylor Swift topping the list with 170 flights taken by her private jet this year so far, and counting. + +Presumably realizing that the optics on this aren’t great—private jet flights are harder on the environment than almost any other action an individual can take (while still being a tiny fraction of the emissions put out by the fossil fuel industry, natch)—Swift’s team quickly issued a statement to Rolling Stone, clarifying that Swift isn’t even on most of those flights. Being a generous soul, she loans her jet out liberally, apparently, so she’s not the one taking the flights. (It’s…still her plane, though? We’re not actually sure how this statement helps, if we’re being honest.) + +None of which has stopped a healthy crop of mocking jokes about Swift’s plane usage from popping up all over the place online today, in a very “My statement about how I don’t actually take a lot of private jet flights has a lot of people making fun of my private jet use” sort of way. (Many GIFs of random people riding in helicopters are involved.) + +In addition to Swift, other folks named in the list (assembled by sustainability marketing company Yard, working with data scraped from Celebrity Jets) include professional athletes Floyd Mayweather (177 flights) and Alex Rodriguez (106 flights), as well as Jay-Z, who gets credited with all the flights taken by Puma’s private jet, because the brand apparently bought the plane at his suggestion. Others on the Top 10 of flight takers include Steven Spielberg, Blake Shelton, Oprah Winfrey, Kim Kardashian, Mark Wahlberg, and Travis Scott, all of whom reportedly thus have carbon emissions footprints several hundred times higher than the average American’s.",0 +4854,"Eric Clapton Has Covid, Cancels Shows; Guitarist Had Denounced Vaccine Protocols. “Eric Clapton, who last summer declared that he reserved the right to cancel performances at venues where audience members were required to show proof of Covid vaccination, has indeed canceled two shows, but for another reason: Clapton just tested positive for the coronavirus. + + + +The announcement of the show cancelations in Zurich and Milan was made on Clapton’s official Facebook page last night. + + + +“Eric Clapton is unfortunately suffering from Covid having tested positive shortly after the second concert at the Royal Albert Hall,” the post reads. He has been told by his medical advisors that if he were to resume traveling and performing too soon, it could substantially delay his full recovery. Eric is also anxious to avoid passing on any infection to any of his band, crew, Promoters, their staff and of course the fans.” + + + +The performance in Zurich was scheduled for today, May 17, with Milan initially set for May 18. Clapton’s team says the guitarist hopes to resume the tour starting with the concerts in Bologna on May 20 and 21. + + + +Clapton has been a prominent opponent of Covid protocols in the UK and the U.S., most notably the lockdowns and business closures enacted during the early days of the global pandemic. Clapton, who claimed last year that he experienced “disastrous” side effects – his hands and feet, he said, were “frozen, numb or burning, and pretty much useless for two weeks” – collaborated with singer Van Morrison in 2020 on the anti-lockdown song “Stand and Deliver,” which included the lyrics “Do you wanna wear these chains/ Until you’re lying in the grave?” + + + +In his own song, “This Has Gotta Stop,” Clapton sang ” I knew that something was going on wrong/When you started laying down the law/I can’t move my hands…This has gotta stop/Enough is enough/I can’t take this BS any longer.” He subsequently subscribed to a conspiracy theory that vaccination was being encouraged through subliminal hypnosis and “mass psychosis.” + + +On his Facebook page last night, Clapton’s team wrote, “It is very frustrating that having avoided Covid throughout lockdown and throughout the period when travel restrictions have been in place Eric should have succumbed to Covid at this point in time, but we very much hope he will be sufficiently recovered by the end of the week to be able to perform the remainder of the planned performances.” + + + +A further announcement will be made concerning the rescheduling of the postposed shows later. + + + +Clapton recently announced North American tour dates for September, including stops in Columbus, Ohio; Chicago, Pittsburgh and two shows at New York City’s Madison Square Gardens.” + + +https://deadline.com/2022/05/eric-clapton-covid-cancelations-shows-canceled-1235025854/ + + + +EDIT: + + +Hey y’all. According to the article he had received the vaccine, but supposedly sustained loss of feelings in his extremities. I haven’t been able to find any other cases with this being the result but this is what he reported. + +EDIT PT II: + +Per u/RadioFloydHead + +“Hang on. Let’s go a little deeper here…Clapton was diagnosed with peripheral neuropathy (meaning loss of feeling in the nerves outside of the brain and spinal cord, which causes weakness, numbness, and pain in the hands and feet.) back in 2013. + +There are reports of these symptoms in patients that took the COVID vaccine but also in patients that had the COVID virus, specifically “long COVID”. Out of tens of millions of people, there are only a small handful of these cases numbering in the hundreds. + +Back to peripheral neuropathy… Prolonged alcohol and drug abuse is one of the most common causes. Also, things like smoking, not living a healthy lifestyle, liver disease, kidney disease, etc. are all major contributors as well. + +Could the vaccine have exacerbated the symptoms of peripheral neuropathy? Possibly. Could COVID exacerbate the symptoms of peripheral neuropathy? Certainly, from what we know. Clapton’s doctors knew the risks with his pre-existing conditions and recommended the vaccine because, without it, COVID would have likely have taken his life, all things considered. + +Regardless, what is more likely here? That the vaccine caused the effects he claimed or that it is was from something that was already there and getting worse with age. Occam’s Razor would suggest the latter. + +Edit: spacing”",0 +4855,Conservatives Are Melting Down Because Lizzo Played James Madison’s Crystal Flute. ,0 +4856,"I feel bad for Dave Grohl.. From all the interviews I've seen, it seems like Dave and Taylor Hawkins were incredibly close. Dave still gets asked about the loss of Kurt, and now he has this. I hope Dave, Pat Smear, and the rest of the band have good support systems to help them through these difficult times. + +My condolences to Taylor's bandmates, family, and friends, including his wife and three children.",0 +4857,"Cant we just agree that careless whisper-George Michael is a musical masterpiece. I would like to say that careless whisper is seen as one of those funny songs. But George Michael is a mastermind in music and so is careless whisper, so what are songs u think got ruined because of social media?",0 +4858,Anyone else's Spotify getting really lazy with their Daily Mixes?. I used to love them because they helped me discover new music. But now I'm starting to find they just keep making the same playlists over and over and it's getting really redundant and lazy. Anyone else feel this way?,0 +4859,N.W.A. - Fuk Da Police. ,0 +4860,"Kanye West’s Massive Reddit Page Overtaken by Taylor Swift Appreciation, Holocaust Awareness Content as Fans Abandon Him. ",0 +4861,"What's the saddest song you've ever heard?. I'm trying to put together a playlist of the saddest songs of all time. Here's the playlist if you wanna see what I have already: [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4WX4CyPQkNUvMk0e52Rren?si=af2310fd16a64b53](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4WX4CyPQkNUvMk0e52Rren?si=af2310fd16a64b53) + + +Preferably underground stuff! I wanna hear something I haven't heard before :)",0 +4862,"List your two favourite bands and get a third recommended. Saw something similar on r/moviesuggestions and thought it would be great for bands. +Everyone can comment a suggestion for a band that might fit, the more obscure the better! +If you want to list your top three or top five for it. +Let’s share some awesome music.",0 +4863,"Krakow cancels Roger Waters gigs, urges him to visit Ukraine. ",0 +4864,"Kid Cudi saying that he refuses to be friends with Kanye West again gives me that little bit more respect for him. [Kid Cudi said](https://tenpiecesofeight.com/2022/08/18/kid-cudi-says-itll-take-a-miracle-to-be-friends-with-kanye-west-again/) it would ""take a miracle"" for him to be friends with West again after the whole Pete Davidson episode. Gotta say, takes balls. Even Drake went back.",0 +4865,"Beck reveals that he denied Weird Al’s “Loser” parody back in the ‘90s and regrets it to this day. Article: https://www.stereogum.com/2191860/beck-denied-weird-als-loser-parody-back-in-the-90s/ + +Beck did not want “Weird Al” Yankovic to turn his song into a joke. Back in the ’90s, when Beck first broke through with his out-of-nowhere hit “Loser,” Yankovic said that he wanted to parody the song. Yankovic doesn’t need to ask artists’ permission, since parodies are protected under the First Amendment, but he always does it as a courtesy, and Beck said no. Today, Beck says that he regrets the decision. + +As Billboard reports, Beck has a podcast coming out as part of Audible’s Words + Music series. In his episode, which he’s called “Dear Life,” Beck tells some of the stories of his career. At SXSW this year, Beck mentioned that he had re-recorded new versions of his hits “Loser” and “Where It’s At,” and he did that for this podcast. Billboard has a clip of the first episode, and it features the re-recorded “Loser,” which now sounds considerably less ramshackle, as well as the story about “Weird Al” Yankovic. Beck says that Yankovic wanted to call the parody “Schmoozer.” Beck turned it down because he was afraid that he wasn’t being taken seriously. + +In the clip, Beck has this to say: + +I had a lot of people who were veterans in the business telling me at 20, 21, 22, “You should go back to school. You don’t really have the talent to do this. The songs, as they are, aren’t going to work. They’re too rough. They’re too raw. They’re not real songs. These are kind of, like, sort of hodgepodge ideas.” It wasn’t really taken seriously at all. And when it came out and it was popular, it still wasn’t taken that serious at all. + +I mean, you can go back to the press of the day. I just remember myriad articles and headlines of “one-hit wonder joke band Beck,” “novelty act.” I remember there was a review in a big paper in LA once, and it was not a lot of kindness. I felt very dismissed and kind of, like, a bit of a footnote. + +“Weird Al” Yankovic tried to do a parody of [“Loser”]. It was going to be called “Schmoozer,” which I regret denying him permission to do. It would’ve been an amazing video. I’m actually really sad that it didn’t happen.",0 +4866,"Can anyone explain to me the appeal of modern rappers like Playboi Carti, Lil Uzi Vert , Travis Scott... ?. I really don't get it. To me, it's mediocre, bad singing/rapping, uninteresting, nonsensical/misogynist texts.. I can only see an interest in the production value of what 'they' do, but I don't even think that those people make their own beats. + +Edit: I've read all the answers so far, and thank you all. A few things I have to add: + +This post is by no means derogatory to the people who enjoy their music. It doesn't come either from a perspective of ' i have such great tastes, this is peasant music' + +The rap/hip-hop world is a little bit out of my grasp, hence why often, I just cannot rely to it. That's why I have the point of view of an external observer, who is curious to understand the how's and the why's. + +That being said, I do enjoy a lot of rap artists, modern or old. Tyler the Creator is one, Asap Rocky is another... + +I'm not looking for particularly deep or meaningful or skillfully musicianship when I'm listening to music. I enjoy a lot of un-serious artists as well + +I was just curious, because those modern rap artists are like super-popular, revered by millions. And I feel alienated from that. So I'm interested in understanding the narrative behind it: what do those people stand for? Why did they become famous in the first place? What do they represent for people who actually enjoy them beyond the hedonistic and fun aspect? When I'm talking about the artists I really like, I can get really passionate about it and talk about music for hours, beyond the 'to each their own' ",0 +4867,"I believe Midnight City by M83 is one of the best songs to come out in the last twenty years.. It's difficult to describe, but the best I can do is that it makes it feel like the world fades around you. The instrumentals are amazing, and...I don't really know what to call them, if they're vocal noises or some kind of instrument, the ""ha heh hoo ha"". And that's not even mentioning the gorgeous lyrical work, and the way it even further immerses. + +This song is amazing, and I'd rank it as being one of the best songs to come out in the last two decades.",0 +4868,"Why does this sub hate rap music so much?. Everytime I see a post relating to rap music or hip hop it always has toxic responses and getting hated on. Rap music/ hip hop is also a music genre just like every other genre, this doesn’t make it better or worse in any way.",0 +4869,"Meat Loaf Dies: ‘Bat Out Of Hell’ Singer & ‘Rocky Horror Picture Show’ Actor Was 74. https://deadline.com/2022/01/meat-loaf-dead-bat-out-of-hell-rocky-horror-picture-show-1234917056/ + +>Meat Loaf, the hardworking singer and actor whose theatrical Bat Out of Hell is one of the best-selling albums ever and who played Eddie in The Rocky Horror Picture Show, has died. He was 74. + +>The Grammy winner born Marvin Lee Aday died Thursday night surrounded by his wife Deborah, daughters Pearl and Amanda and close friends, Meat Loaf’s longtime agent Michael Greene told Deadline on behalf of the family. A cause of death is not being released. According to TMZ, the singer died of Covid-related complications. + +>“We know how much he meant to so many of you and we truly appreciate all of the love and support as we move through this time of grief in losing such an inspiring artist and beautiful man,” Meat Loaf’s family said in a statement. “From his heart to your souls…don’t ever stop rocking!”",0 +4870,Nirvana Has Lawsuit Over Image of Naked Baby on 'Nevermind' Dismissed. ,0 +4871,Simon & Schuster book publishers admit their $600 autographed Bob Dylan books were actually autographed by a machine. ,0 +4872,Britney Spears loses her 'miracle baby early in the pregnancy'. ,0 +4873,'Nevermind' baby refiles lawsuit against Nirvana. ,0 +4874,"4 people accuse Arcade Fire frontman Win Butler of sexual misconduct, Allegations prompt calls for ticket refunds, tour cancellation. ",0 +4875,"Taylor Swift Makes History as First Artist With Entire Top 10 on Billboard Hot 100, Led by ‘Anti-Hero’ at No. 1. ",0 +4876,Rick Astley (me) - Either Way (Chris Stapleton cover) [folk rock]. ,0 +4877,Kid Rock Threatens to Cancel Concerts Where Vaccine Mandates Are Enforced. ,0 +4878,Taylor Swift fans sue Ticketmaster for fraud after Eras tour fiasco. ,0 +4879,"I feel like my music rotation is stuck in the 90s and 2000s. What great new artists have come out in the last 10 years?. Any style, I mostly listen to old school hip hop, trance/edm, indie rock and funk but I'm open to all suggestions! Repost due to auto moderator bot killing my first one. + + +Edit: Thank you for all the suggestions, I'm creating a queue with all these artists, please keep them coming!",0 +4880,"Jerry Lee Lewis, Influential and Condemned Rock & Roll Pioneer, Dead at 87. ",0 +4881,"I'm Slash – Ask Me Anything. Hey, I’m Slash and I’m here to talk about my new album 4 and my upcoming tour with Myles Kennedy and The Conspirators. AMA + +Preorder the new album, out 2/11: https://Slash.lnk.to/4AlbumRD +Check out US Tour Dates starting 2/9: https://www.slashonline.com/tour +Watch Slash featuring Myles Kennedy and the Conspirators perform the album – Friday 2/11 at 11am PT: https://Slash.lnk.to/LiveAtStudios60RD + +Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/slash +Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Slash +Twitter: https://twitter.com/Slash +SMKC TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@smkcofficial + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/iim31leyipf81.jpg",0 +4882,is it worth going to a concert alone?. i want to see the cure but i dont have anyone to go with,0 +4883,"Music elitism is getting annoying.. Yes, you can listen to Pink Floyd, The Beatles, Paul Anka and a lot of old school stuff. But that doesn't mean modern music is ""not real music"" and that music is getting worse. As a matter of fact, I should be able to listen to what I want and not feel judged. + + + +Edit: Alright, this post is getting out of hand. + +From people missing the point to people assuming things about my life, I've never felt so confused. + +I'm French so bear with my broken English lol + +As I said multiple times, I have a very eclectic music taste going from classical music to more contemporary stuff such as Serge Gainsbourg or Stevie wonder to the latest mainstream artists (Tyler the creator, Kanye west, even Billie Eilish). My point is that people are biased and refuse to listen to modern music. And yes, a lot of people might relate to the things I said which is why I received so much hate. + +For the people saying I don't know music. +I was in a conservatory (is that English? I mean music school) from the age of 6 to 14, so, as you guys may have guessed, not long ago. I have learned music theory through classical music for years. I know most of the people reading this have also learned music the way I did so it's nothing special. But I'm just trying to explain that I am not an uncultured kid that only knows ""mumble autotuned rappers"" (?!) . + +Now yes, I'm only 16, I don't have much experience. But that doesn't mean you should treat me like you were superior to me. + +""Modern music has meaningless lyrics"" +To pimp a butterfly by Kendrick Lamar is probably one of the most grandiose and profound albums I've ever heard in my life, both lyrically and musically. It was released in 2015. + +""Modern music is full of autotune"" +I'm pretty sure the people who say this refer to Melodyne. Which, doesn't bother but can bother people and I fully understand. Now, autotune is mostly used for stylistic purposes, T-Pain has a really beautiful soulful voice, but uses autotune because it matches what he wants to make. Kanye's 808's and heartbreaks is mainly based on autotune and has set the standards for cloud rapping. + +""Modern music is all the same"" +This is probably the worse I got here. +Let's run it back to the 80's, MOST mainstream songs were similar, the same mixing, the same annoying reverb on the snares, the same synths. Do I consider the 80's as a bad era for music ? Hell no, Michael Jackson's groundbreaking thriller album changed the music landscape with his music videos. Prince's 1999 album influenced a whole generation of artists and so many talents emerged in the music industry. + +Now if we're going in the 2010's you can pretty much split it in half, from 2010-2015 the main genres in mainstream music were EDM pop and House, and from 2015-now the dominant genre is Hip-hop. +Two really different genres. We've got some pretty great mainstream albums this decades, An evening with Silk Sonic, Kids see ghosts, Good kid M.a.a.d city. These are all pieces of art that were highly streamed and mediatized. + + +I feel like when you grow up, you can't catch up with change and you start just hating on modern stuff or new generations, sometimes it's based on solid points, most of the time it's based on nothing. +I'm not gonna lie, this comment section got me scared as I don't want to end up hating on newer stuff when I grow old. + +Also the Paul Anka slander is killing me lol",0 +4884,"Activists protest the Lollapalooza 2022 music festival over youth curfew. The city’s 10 p.m. weekend curfew is waived for ticketed events like the festival, which protestors say unfairly benefits wealthy tourists and white suburban teens while penalizing Black and Brown youth.. Article: https://pitchfork.com/news/activists-protest-lollapalooza-2022-over-youth-curfew/ + +On Thursday July 28, the opening day of Lollapalooza 2022, a group of activists protested the festival over Chicago’s ongoing youth curfew, as CBS News reports. The group included members of GoodKids MadCity and the Brighton Park Neighborhood Council. A letter to the city calling for the order to be rescinded claimed the measure was unconstitutional and disproportionately affected Black and brown teens. + +The weekend curfew was recently rolled back from 11 p.m. to 10 p.m. by the Chicago City Council after a 16-year-old named Seandell Holliday was shot and killed during a large gathering in Millennium Park in May. While the ordinance applies to anyone under 18, but attendees of ticketed events—such as Lollapalooza—are exempt, a loophole that activists say unfairly benefits wealthy tourists and white suburban teens while penalizing Black and Brown youth. Pitchfork has reached out to Mayor Lori Lightfoot’s office for comment.",0 +4885,"Foo Fighters ft. Shane Hawkins Perform ""My Hero"" | MTV. ",0 +4886,"R & R Hall of Fame declines Dolly Parton's decline. This seems completely disrespectful to go against an artist's wishes, especially an artist as so revered as Dolly Parton. + +​ + +[https://www.usatoday.com/story/entertainment/music/2022/03/17/dolly-parton-remains-rock-and-roll-hall-of-fame-ballot/7076229001/](https://www.usatoday.com/story/entertainment/music/2022/03/17/dolly-parton-remains-rock-and-roll-hall-of-fame-ballot/7076229001/)",0 +4887,Albums that you need to listen to at least once in your lifetime?. Just looking for suggestions! Any kind of music is appreciated :),0 +4888,"For those that hold their phone through an entire concert, was it worth it?. My biggest pet peeve at any concert would have to be the people who consistently hold their phones and record the whole show. What do people get out of that? + +I will take a few obligatory shots of different things. But the phone goes right back in the pocket. I like to enjoy the venue and experience the bands in full. + +What are some of your biggest pet peeves at concerts?",0 +4889,"Olivia Newton-John dies at 73, husband says. ",0 +4890,"Everytime you hear an ad on Spotify you are indirectly paying a dollar amount to a company whose CEO just invested 100 million euros in AI military technology. Just fyi. [Thought some of y'all might like to know about this](https://www.digitalmusicnews.com/2021/11/30/calls-to-boycott-spotify-grow-online/) + +At the same time Spotify pays artists horribly - [somehow less than even Amazon does](https://soundcharts.com/blog/music-streaming-rates-payouts) which makes them literally worse than Jeff Bezos (joke)",0 +4891,"As a middle aged rock fan who listens to the same old stuff, I finally found a new band that I really like. For many Gen X'ers like me, rock peaked in the early 90's with grunge. Pixies turned into Nirvana (who were great) turned into Bush (hmmm) turned into Vertical Horizon (ugh) and it got worse from there. I also loved 80's punk like Bad Brains, innovative bands like Fugazi and Janes Addiction, old RHCP, The Replacements, and the like. + +I'm always actively looking for new music and have found some good stuff over the years, but not that really great band with energy, lyrics, and a great sound. + +I stumbled on Turnstile's ""GLOW ON"" recently. Right out of the gate, the melodies were solid, the choruses catchy but not trite, and I got the same feeling I had when I listened to Nevermind or Nothing's Shocking for the first time. Great songs, great energy, great lyrics, elements of the old alternative bands I liked. + +Anyway, I've been listening to it on repeat for a while so thought some of you out there might enjoy it. + +Sample: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Ny1fjdLKew + +Edit: thanks for the gold and all the great recommendations! Will definitely check them all out!",0 +4892,Shakira could be jailed for 8 years in Spain for tax fraud. ,0 +4893,'Weird Al' Yankovic Is Finally Getting the Graphic Novel He's Always Dreamed Of. ,0 +4894,"30 years ago today, Sinéad O'Connor ripped up the Pope’s photo on SNL. ",0 +4895,Tron Legacy Soundtrack is so good.. The Tron Legacy soundtrack is so incredibly good. Tron is one of my favorite movies and the soundtrack by Daftpunk is a huge part of it. Anyone agree with me?,0 +4896,"What's your favorite one hit wonder? Mine is Steal My Sunshine by Len.. I know it's just a lame pop song but man is it ever catchy! + +https://youtu.be/E1fzJ_AYajA + +Edit - This has turned into such an awesome thread! I'm sitting here playing all these awesome songs that I haven't heard in ages and completely forgot about! Thank you to everyone! + +Edit 2 - Flagpole Sitta for the win!",0 +4897,"The first two minutes of Wish You Were Here by Pink Floyd have hit me harder than any other song in my life. Anyone else? I know it’s not a secret that this song is amazing, but its one of those that still hits me every time I listen to it no matter how many times",0 +4898,"I’m sick of the debate that “Hip/Hop isn’t what it used to be” & “Everything sounds the same” so I made a list of 5 dope albums from every year starting at 2010. For years I've chatted with dozens of people and read countless comments online claiming Hip/Hop has lost itself. How “Everything sounds the same” and “Nobody cares about lyrics anymore” and every time I just laugh and say “No yeah totally” because I know it’s not even worth tryna make an argument with some of those people and believe me I have tried. Other times it just doesn't feel worth it because trying to explain how there are dozens and dozens of dope projects that span over a decade plus is a very broad subject to discuss in one conversation. + +So I went ahead and made a list of 5 dope projects both underground and mainstream all the likes starting in the year 2010 to show those who might claim Hip/Hop is “Dead” that isn’t the case you just haven’t listened to enough of it. **These aren't what I believe are the best projects per say that year** but one I enjoyed. I guess I'll also mention as well **I tried not to include an artist more than once** unless they collaborated with another artist or used another persona too diversify the list. + +As a huge diehard fan of the genre it sorta irks me hearing this so much so I finally decided to disprove it once and for all in a little post. I don’t really expect this to change anyone's mind but hopefully I can maybe just put some people onto something dope that maybe they didn’t know about in the process. + +And I’ll leave with the ol’ Kung Fu Kenny quote + +“Critics wanna mention that they miss when Hip Hop was rappin'/“ + +Motherf-ker if you did then Killer Mike would be platinum/“ + +​ + +# [TL'DR:] + +I hate the argument Hip/Hop is dead when there are plenty of dope artist that have been dropping quality projects for the past decade plus. I feel like people just haven't bothered to zone in on enough of it. Hence this, I made a list that highlights 5 dope albums from each year starting in 2010. + +Edit: I just realized I added two Kanye solo projects so ima swap put TLOP for A Tribe Called Quest - We got it from Here... Thank You 4 Your service + +Edit 2: Dam! Thanks for all the awards guys. I’ve never had a post on any platform blow up this much. Definitely glad so many of y’all enjoy it and i’m super happy to see I was able to put some people on, Much love! + +Here is a [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/196lDarQa9z4a6s7jO0Z48?si=OFswyHepRcOM2D_woZ7Mig) playlist graciously provided by u/ckisela + + +# [THE LIST:] + +# [2010:] + +1. Kanye West - My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy +2. The Roots - How I Got Over +3. Kid Cudi - Man On The Moon II: The Legend Of Mr. Rager +4. Waka Flocka Flame - Flockavelli +5. Nas & Damien Marley – Distant Relatives + +# [2011:] + +1. Danny Brown - XXX +2. Shabazz Palaces - Black Up +3. 9th Wonder – The Wonder Years +4. Kanye West & Jay-Z - Watch the Throne +5. Curren$y & The Alchemist - Covert Coup + +# [2012:] + +1. Killer Mike - R.A.P. Music +2. Joey Bada$$ - 1999 +3. JJ Doom - Key to the Kuffs +4. Ab-Soul - Control System +5. Death Grips - The Money Store + +# [2013:] + +1. Earl Sweatshirt - Doris +2. Quasimoto - Yessir Whatever +3. A$AP Rocky - Long.Live.A$AP +4. Eminem - The Marshall Mather LP2 +5. Black Milk - No Poison No Paradise + +# [2014:] + +1. Schoolboy Q - Oxymoron +2. Busdriver - Perfect Hair +3. Mick Jenkins - The Waters +4. Mac Miller - Faces +5. Step Brothers - Lord Steppington + +# [2015:] + +1. Kendrick Lamar - To Pimp a Butterfly +2. Drake - If You're Reading This It's Too Late +3. Travis Scott - Rodeo +4. Logic - The Incredible True Story +5. Donnie Trumpet & The Social Experiment - Surf + +# [2016:] + +1. Chance The Rapper - Coloring Book +2. Run the Jewels - Run the Jewels 3 +3. Aesop Rock - The Impossible Kid +4. A Tribe Called Quest - We got it from Here... Thank You 4 Your service +5. Isaiah Rashad - The Sun's Tirade + +# [2017:] + +1. Jay-Z - 4:44 +2. Open Mike Eagle - Brick Body Kids Still Daydream +3. Big K.R.I.T. - 4eva Is a Mighty Long Time +4. Migos - Culture +5. Jonwayne - Rap Album Two + +# [2018:] + +1. Kids See Ghosts - KIDS SEE GHOSTS +2. Tierra Whack - Whack World +3. CZARFACE & MF DOOM - Czarface Meets Metal Face +4. Noname - Room 25 +5. Black Thought - Streams of Thought, Vol. 1 + +# [2019:] + +1. JPEGMAFIA - All My Heroes Are Cornballs +2. Freddie Gibbs & Madlib - Bandana +3. Rapsody - Eve +4. Dreamville - Revenge of the Dreamers III +5. Sampa The Great - The Return + +# [2020:] + +1. Benny The Butcher - Burden of Proof +2. Nas - King's Disease +3. Ka - Decedents of Cain +4. Jeezy - The Recession ll +5. 21 Savage & Metro Boomin - Savage Mode II + +# [2021:] + +1. Tyler, the Creator - CALL ME IF YOU GET LOST +2. Backxwash - I LIE HERE BURIED WITH MY RINGS AND MY DRESSES +3. Vince Staples - Vince Staples +4. J. Cole - The Off-Season +5. Little Simz - Sometimes I Might Be Introverted + +# [2022:] + +1. JID - The Forever Story +2. Boldy James & Real Bad Man - Killing Nothing +3. Pusha T - It's Almost Dry +4. Black Thought & Danger Mouse - Cheat Code’s +5. Denzel Curry - Melt My Eyez, See Your Future",0 +4899,Dr. Dre Inducts Eminem Into the Rock Hall of Fame: ‘I Knew His Gifts Were Undeniable’. ,0 +4900,"I kinda miss Radio being a main way to discover music. Call me ignorant, lazy or uneducated or a ""boomer who just hates modern music"" or downvote me for having the same old complain like a lot of others. + +Idk why but I liked listening to the radio especially because of how it’s a better way to discover music. + +Ever since everything became digital it’s kinda difficult to find real good stuff you like and it’s annoying to hear when People say ""well then you aren’t looking well enough there’s plenty of underground stuff"" + +I don’t really like to search for the underground and i don’t think most people who complain about modern music like to do that. + +I liked when I listened to the radio and it just presented to me music, especially because unlike with streaming services where they algorithmically present you music which often just results in the same stuff on the top. + +with the radio it had a more human process involved where real humans present you music over radio which often meant that it was probably actually good music and with other people listening to the radio it became popular and through that you could also discover stuff + +I miss when the mainstream was good and showed you good stuff and you didn’t have to search for it + +Btw: sorry for my English it’s not my native language",0 +4901,"Daft Punk made an AMAZING soundtrack for Tron:Legacy and I don't care what you think. I know the movie itself is kinda doo-doo, it's an okay sequel to a cool movie and it's forgettable. + +But for SOME REASON, the soundtrack for this movie is in my opinion absolutely amazing. It's so space and original and I love when movie productions give full control to artists. Daft Ounk really went all out and I wasn't the biggest fan of their newest, ""more pop oriented"" albums. + +I think this movie stuck with me simply for the soundtrack, they really understood the assignment. + +Edit: guyss I don't ""don't care what you think"" it's a figure of speech! I just love that there's a conversation around the soundtrack cuz that's all I wanted, keep the ""that's not a hot take"" comment going I clearly didn't get the memo lol. + +Peace and love to all 💜☮️✌️",0 +4902,"We're Death Cab for Cutie - Ask Us Anything!. We just released our 10th studio album *Asphalt Meadows* on September 16, 2022. You can listen to it on [streaming services](https://death-cab-for-cutie.lnk.to/AsphaltMeadows) everywhere and pick up a copy [online](https://deathcabforcutie.lnk.to/Store) or at your [local record store](https://recordstoreday.com/upc/655173920718). The Asphalt Meadows Tour begins this week - tickets and info [here](https://www.deathcabforcutie.com). + +We will be here on r/Music from 1-2pm ET today to answer your questions. See you soon! -Dave, Nick, and Zac + +Proof: https://imgur.com/JxKzCf9",0 +4903,A Porno-Metal Song About Gay Cowboys Is Disrupting the Anti-Vaxx Trucker Convoy. [https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/anti-vax-trucker-convoy-porno-metal-ram-ranch-1297926/?fbclid=IwAR2KID\_mWQUNPqGrYBapHRHwdmy8ru7fQer0wixYGjCqezooXF7-FWxHaKg](https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/anti-vax-trucker-convoy-porno-metal-ram-ranch-1297926/?fbclid=IwAR2KID_mWQUNPqGrYBapHRHwdmy8ru7fQer0wixYGjCqezooXF7-FWxHaKg),0 +4904,"Ticketmaster, Live Nation Merger Should Be Unwound, Group Tells DOJ. ",0 +4905,"Yoko Ono ruins a beautiful performance between John Lennon & Chuck Berry. This was a great television moment ruined by Yoko Ono. John Lennon gets a chance to perform with his idol Chuck Berry and Yoko decided to wails for no reason. It added nothing to the song. All that it did was ruin a great performance. Fortunately, the audio engineer salvaged it the best he could by turning her mic off. Poor Chuck + +[Watch the video here](https://youtu.be/NgZiPO9V_aQ)",0 +4906,"Atlanta’s Music Midtown festival canceled after court ruling made it illegal to keep guns out of event. Article: https://www.billboard.com/pro/atlanta-music-midtown-festival-canceled-gun-laws-georgia/ + +The long-running Music Midtown festival at Piedmont Park in Atlanta, scheduled for Sept. 17-18 with headliners My Chemical Romance, Future, Jack White and Fallout Boy, has been called off, according to a statement issued by festival organizers. The likely cause, industry sources tell Billboard, are recent changes to Georgia gun laws that prevent the festival from banning guns on to the publicly owned festival grounds. + +“Hey Midtown fans — due to circumstances beyond our control, Music Midtown will no longer be taking place this year,” a statement posted on Music Midtown’s website reads. “We were looking forward to reuniting in September and hope we can all get back to enjoying the festival together again soon.” + +While owner Live Nation didn’t provide any additional details for the cancellation, pro-gun rights groups had been emailing and posting comments of the festival’s social media page for several months, hinting at potential legal challenges from gun groups following a 2019 ruling that expanded a 2014 Georgia law that critics had dubbed the “Guns Everywhere” law. + +That law – officially known as the “Safe Carry Protection Act” expanded Georgia’s already permissive gun statues to grant residents the right to pack heat in bars, churches, schools and other private businesses with the owners permission. It also expanded gun carry rights on publicly owned land, like the city-owned Piedmont Park, although there was no legal consensus on whether or not the law applied to private events on city property, like Midtown Music. + +That changed in 2019 when the Georgia Supreme Court set new rules on what types of businesses could and couldn’t bar guns on publicly owned land. Five years earlier, a Georgia gun rights group filed a lawsuit against the Atlanta Botanical Garden after one of its members was briefly detained for attempting to openly carry a holstered pistol into the garden, which is located on publicly owned land. + +As part of the 2019 ruling, Georgia’s high court set a test for how the Safe Carry Protection Act was to be enforced by private businesses using public land. Businesses and groups that held certain types of long-term leases for state-owned land could legally bar guns, while businesses with shorter term leases could not. While the ruling favored the Botanical Garden, it created legal issues for festivals like Music Midtown that held short term leases for city parks sites. + +The festival, launched in 1996 by Atlanta-based music promoters Alex Cooley, Peter Conlon and Alex Hoffman, had long barred attendees from bringing guns into the event. In general, most major companies will not host a festival in a location that permits gun owners to carry their weapons into an event, with an exception sometimes made for law enforcement. Some artist riders actually have specific language saying that artist will not perform in cities or states where gun laws grant attendees the right to bring weapons inside of a concert venue. + +While the 2019 ruling by the Georgia Supreme Court made it more difficult for private companies to deny licensed and armed citizens access to events on publicly owned land, it did not give the city of Atlanta the authority to enforce this decision or force the festival to allow guns into the event. Instead the law created a pathway for gun carrying individuals, who had also purchased tickets to the festival, to successfully sue event organizers if they were denied entry to an event taking place on public property. + +Additionally local authorities are typically involved in security for large scale events and likely would not have been able to enforce an illegal gun ban, so the festival would have had little to no backup to keep firearms out. + +Cancelling the 2022 festival gives Live Nation an additional year to weigh its options and potentially move the event to privately held land or to lobby the state legislature to update the law when it is back in session. + +Gun rights groups are also refining their own strategies for expanding gun carry rights into concerts and festivals and have begun identifying other Georgia events and venues on public land to test the boundaries of Georgia’s gun laws.",0 +4907,Sex Pistols - God Save the Queen [Punk]. ,0 +4908,"Oscar-winning composer Vangelis passes away. Vangelis Papathanassiou, better known to international audiences simply as Vangelis, passed away on Tuesday at the age of 79. + +He was best known for winning the 1981 Academy Award for Best Original Score for the film “Chariots of Fire” and scoring Ridley’s Scott “Blade Runner”. + +He also wrote music for films including “The Bounty” and “1492: Conquest of Paradise”. + +[https://www.ekathimerini.com/news/1184779/oscar-winning-composer-vangelis-passes-away/](https://www.ekathimerini.com/news/1184779/oscar-winning-composer-vangelis-passes-away/)",0 +4909,"Live Nation/Ticketmaster subsidiaries got millions in aid meant for independent concert venues. Congress wrote a pandemic relief law that excluded Live Nation/Ticketmaster, but the Small Business Administration gave nearly $19mil to Live Nation subsidiaries in which it has a significant investment.. Article: https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2022/05/22/live-nation-pandemic-aid + +In the early months of the pandemic, as lawmakers toiled on an aid package for shuttered concert halls and other performance venues, a major company lobbied to be included in the relief. + +Live Nation Entertainment — the corporate parent of Ticketmaster and a dominant force in the entertainment industry — urged Democrats and Republicans in Congress to let it be directly eligible for the $15 billion emergency relief program, according to five people familiar with the matter who spoke on the condition of anonymity to describe private conversations. + +Congress was wary of allowing grants to publicly traded companies such as Live Nation, worrying that the funds could be used to bail out stock market investors. In the end, lawmakers wrote the law to exclude public companies, as well as firms they own or control. + +But the parameters set by Congress and the Small Business Administration, which disbursed the funds, allowed several companies in which Live Nation has significant investments to receive grants: Nearly $19 million went to firms listed as subsidiaries on Live Nation’s 2022 securities filings or in which Live Nation has a substantial, though not majority, ownership stake, according to a Washington Post review of Securities and Exchange Commission filings, state corporate documents and SBA data, as well as interviews with executives at companies that received grants. The grants do not appear to have violated the law or any rules set by the SBA. + +Nevertheless, the revelation demonstrates how a large company with stakes in hundreds of smaller businesses could, while following the rules, reap a benefit that some legislators didn’t want. And it shows that how agencies implement a law can be just as important as the way it is written by Congress. + +“When we wrote this, we specifically didn’t want these publicly traded companies — Live Nation foremost among them — to get their hands on this money,” said Rep. Peter Welch (D-Vt.), a key co-sponsor of the relief legislation. “I did not want Live Nation getting a nickel.” + +Live Nation as a parent company did not directly receive any money from the program, but the government relief to its subsidiaries still protected its investments and improved its long-term outlook, however slightly. The earnings of its subsidiaries provide Live Nation with crucial cash flow and enable it to service its debt, it said in securities filings. The aid enabled the companies to pay staff and recover more quickly from the disruption, their executives said in interviews and emailed statements. + +In one case, one of the companies that received funds from the SBA borrowed money from Live Nation and its other owners in the first months after covid hit, showing how the parent company played an active role in its survival. In another case, one of the subsidiaries that received taxpayer funds did not need to tap an available credit line from Live Nation, showing how the grant could have shielded the parent company from having to finance the entity’s survival. + + +Several companies listed as Live Nation subsidiaries in February SEC filings received funds from the grant program, according to SBA data. They include Wisconsin company Frank Productions Concerts LLC, which received $10 million; artist management firm Gellman Management LLC, which received nearly $407,000; and Missouri firm Delmar Hall LLC, which received $1.75 million. Corporate documents filed in Wisconsin and California list Live Nation executives or subsidiaries having roles at Frank Productions Concerts and Gellman Management. Frank Productions Concerts, Gellman Management and Delmar Hall are all included on a list of hundreds of subsidiaries filed as part of Live Nation’s annual report covering 2021. + +A fourth company, The Pageant LLC, received $6.7 million from the program. It, along with Delmar Hall LLC, is 50 percent owned by Live Nation, said Patrick Hagin, who co-owns both businesses. He added that Delmar Hall was erroneously listed as a Live Nation subsidiary. + +Live Nation said in a statement that it does not have majority ownership or a controlling stake in any of the entities that received funds. + +“Therefore we don’t have the ability to tell these partners that they can’t get access to these funds, especially considering the SBA reviewed and approved their applications before any funds were given out,” the company’s statement said. “These entities control their own day to day operations, and the folks running these small businesses used every resource legally available to them to support their employees through this crisis, which was not only their right but also an entirely understandable and human thing to do."" + +In a written statement, an SBA official defended the awards as proper and said that Live Nation does not “directly own” any entity that received grants through the program. + +“SBA is also aware of and monitoring all applicants and awardees in which Live Nation Entertainment, Inc. has disclosed to the SEC in its annual filings as being ‘subsidiaries,’” the SBA statement said. “Through a robust grant monitoring process, SBA reviews and investigates, as necessary, to ensure the law is being followed and vice versa, that businesses are not penalized for having non-controlling, silent investors or completely typical legal and tax structures.” + +Live Nation is a dominant force in the entertainment industry, with operations in North America, Europe, Asia and the Middle East. Music industry experts said that after nearly two decades of acquiring smaller companies and regional chains, the company has deepened its geographic reach and now reaps profits along each step of the entertainment business — from artist management to venues to sponsorships to ticketing. + +A 2010 merger with Ticketmaster and the company’s dominance ever since has drawn intense criticism from some antitrust experts and members of Congress, and in 2019 the Justice Department alleged that Live Nation had violated the terms of the merger settlement. In an agreement reached between the company and the federal government in 2019, Live Nation’s antitrust consent decree was modified and extended through 2025. + +“Even before the merger with Ticketmaster, it was indeed an amalgamation of many different local promoters and even local venues that were brought under the same umbrella,” said Brandon Ross, an analyst at LightShed Partners. + +Live Nation continues to deny DOJ’s allegations. + +“The live entertainment industry has never been more vibrant and competitive, which is evident from the many companies that continue entering the market,” the company said in a statement. + + +Live Nation’s business includes storied concert venues like the Fillmore in San Francisco and the House of Blues chain, popular festivals like Lollapalooza, and talent management firms overseeing hundreds of artists. In its most recent public filings, the company said it has more than 10,000 full-time employees. It brought in $6.3 billion in revenue in 2021. + +The Shuttered Venue Operators Grant program was passed by Congress in late 2020 and offered relief awards of up to $10 million to performance venues, museums, producers and talent managers. The money was approved at a time when much of the concert industry across the United States was shut down because of restrictions meant to prevent the spread of the coronavirus. Congress later added more funds to the program, for a total of more than $16 billion. + +Lawmakers unveiled the plan, then known as “Save Our Stages,” in mid-2020. The National Independent Venue Association (NIVA), an alliance formed in response to the pandemic, was a driving force behind the measure and urged lawmakers to support it. + +“This was about, yes, Nashville and New York. But it was just as much about the Fargo Theatre or a small, small country music venue in Texas,” a key supporter of the measure, Sen. Amy Klobuchar (D-Minn.), said in a speech on the Senate floor in December 2020. + +In an interview with the trade publication Pollstar published that month, Klobuchar was blunt in saying that lawmakers did not think Live Nation should qualify for the funds. + +“It’s true it [the legislation] doesn’t include Live Nation venues, because they have such a vast empire with the ticketing and things,” she said. + + +In making their case for the funding, advocates emphasized the intense financial pressure that small businesses faced, including the risk that owners who had made personal guarantees would lose their homes and life savings in trying to meet their obligations to employees and vendors. + +“The thousands of independent venues that came together to form NIVA could not have survived the pandemic shutdowns had it not been for the emergency relief provided by the Save Our Stages Act,” said Rev. Moose, NIVA’s executive director and co-founder, in a statement to The Washington Post. “Our members are small business people that don’t have access to Wall Street financial instruments to survive a historic crisis not of their making.” + +By the time the measure passed, trillions of dollars in pandemic relief already had been approved by Congress. That created an opportunity to apply lessons learned when designing the new funding. One lesson in particular stood out: Taxpayer funds should not be used to bail out the shareholders of public companies, which unlike mom-and-pop businesses can access capital markets to raise money. + +Congress was especially displeased that aid meant for small businesses via the Paycheck Protection Program, launched in spring 2020, had in some instances made its way to large public companies. The news that major hotel and restaurant chains helped drain the program’s funds sparked a backlash and calls for more oversight. + +Public companies received $1 billion in stimulus funds meant for small businesses + +“They got burned by PPP on both sides of the aisle. They were very focused on that,” said one person with knowledge of the congressional negotiations who spoke on the condition of anonymity because they weren’t authorized to discuss the deliberations. + +Still, Live Nation initially sought to shape the bill so it could qualify for the funds, according to five people with knowledge of the discussions. Live Nation ramped up its lobbying in the fall of 2020, seeking to make it easier for the company — and its many subsidiaries, large and small — to access the money, one of the sources said. They specifically opposed language barring aid to publicly traded companies, according to a congressional aide, who spoke on the condition of anonymity to describe private conversations. + +The amount that Live Nation spent on lobbying the federal government on a variety of issues, including the grants, more than doubled in 2020 from the prior year to more than $1 million, and increased again in 2021, according to a tally by OpenSecrets, a nonprofit group that tracks the influence of money in politics. + +Ultimately, the measure approved by Congress excluded, among others, public companies — or venues or firms “majority owned or controlled” by such companies — from receiving any of the aid. + + +In its statement to The Post, Live Nation said its lobbying effort was meant to protect jobs. + +“As the largest employer in the live music industry of course we advocated for support to be available to all live music workers no matter where they work,” the company’s statement said. “Ultimately Live Nation wasn’t eligible and that’s ok, we still supported the bill for the good of the industry.” + +But while Congress wrote the broad rules of the program, its implementation and exact requirements were left to the SBA. Majority ownership is relatively straightforward to determine, but corporate experts said determining “control” of a company can require more nuance and case-by-case analysis. In this case, the SBA defined “control” as “both the strategic policy setting exercised by boards of directors or similar organizational governance bodies and the day-to-day management and administration of business operations as overseen by principals,” according to an agency document on the program. In other words, a firm could be the largest single shareholder of a subsidiary but not technically “control” it. + +The SEC’s definition of “subsidiary” is “an affiliate controlled by such person directly, or indirectly through one or more intermediaries.” + + +Keith Higgins, a retired partner at the law firm Ropes & Gray and a former director of corporation finance at the SEC, said the definitions reflect “simply two separate sets of regulations administered by two different agencies.” + +“Even though the language in the two regulations appears to get at the same concepts, it is not inconceivable that an entity the SEC considers a subsidiary for its purposes is not ‘controlled’ for SBA purposes,” Higgins said. + +In 2018, Live Nation purchased what it described at the time as a majority interest in Frank Productions, a concert venue promoter based in Madison, Wis. Frank Productions’ operating company, Frank Productions Concerts LLC, received $10 million from the SBA grant program in July, the maximum amount possible. Both Frank Productions and Frank Productions Concerts are listed as Live Nation subsidiaries in the SEC filings. + +Joel Plant, chief executive of Frank Productions, said in emailed statements to The Post that Live Nation only has a minority stake in Frank Productions Concerts, the entity that received the SBA grant. + +“It is accurate to say that both Frank Productions and Frank Productions Concerts are subsidiaries of Live Nation, and it is important to note that under the SVOG program, simply being a subsidiary of a publicly-traded entity does not make an entity ineligible,” Plant said. + +Frank Production Concerts’ 2021 annual report, filed with the Wisconsin Department of Financial Institutions, lists a corporate address that is the same as Live Nation’s Beverly Hills headquarters, and was signed by Live Nation Worldwide, Inc., a Delaware subsidiary of Live Nation Entertainment. Live Nation Worldwide is described as a “member” of Frank Productions Concerts in the filing, which also states that the company’s management is vested in its members. + +“The day-to-day operations and management of FPC remains the responsibility of our local management team,” Plant said. “The filing of annual reports is an administrative function that Live Nation has taken on as part of its joint venture with Frank Productions, LLC.” + +Plant said the SVOG funds enabled the company to quickly hire back employees it had temporarily laid off during the pandemic, and overall get “back to full strength and beyond very quickly.” The company’s pared-back spending and the grant helped ensure that FPC did not have to borrow money from Live Nation, he said. + +“We have mechanisms with Live Nation to lend us money that we did not access during covid,” Plant said in a phone interview. “The intent of the (SVOG) program was to keep people employed and keep businesses operating and it did that. There was a pretty complicated and thorough set of rules and guidelines promulgated about the program; we read through them carefully and we are eligible at the FPC level to receive the funds.” + +Gellman Management LLC, an artist-management firm with offices in California and Nashville, received around $407,000 in SVOG funds. Gellman Management LLC was listed as a subsidiary in Live Nation’s 2022 SEC filings, and corporate documents filed in California in August 2020 name Live Nation CEO Michael Rapino as a “member or manager.” A past Live Nation annual report stated the company acquired a 50 percent stake in Gellman Management in October 2010. + +In a statement to The Post, Gellman Management said its grant helped the company retain staff. + + +“None of these funds were allocated for personal gain of management, nor [for] Live Nation,” the statement said. “We did everything by the book and followed all of the guidelines outlined by the SVOG, and it is unfair and incorrect to insinuate otherwise.” + +In July 2021, nearly $8.5 million went to a pair of St. Louis venues — Delmar Hall and The Pageant — in which Live Nation holds a 50 percent stake and is the largest single stakeholder, according to SBA data and information provided by the venues’ co-managing member, Patrick Hagin. Hagin said he and his business partner each own a 25 percent stake in the businesses. + +The venues, which sit next to each other on the city’s famed Delmar Loop, are a staple of the St. Louis live music scene. Because they are 50 percent — but not 51 percent — owned by Live Nation, Hagin said, the venues qualified for the grants. + +“We are following the rules here,” Hagin said in an interview. “We are very conscious of what the rules were.” + +In addition to the federal aid, The Pageant LLC did receive a loan from Live Nation to help it survive the pandemic, Hagin said, though he and his business partner also contributed a “proportionate” amount. He declined to specify how much. + +In its 2022 SEC filings, Live Nation lists Delmar Hall LLC as one of its subsidiaries. But Hagin said Live Nation plays no role in running either Delmar Hall or The Pageant, and neither venue is a Live Nation subsidiary, adding that he did not know why Delmar Hall LLC was described as a subsidiary in the SEC filing. He said he would contact Live Nation to alert them to what he believes is a mistake. + +Hagin said the SBA grants had made an enormous difference for the venues, enabling them to retain the vast majority of staff and keep up with rent and utilities. + +“It would have been really, really ugly without it,” he said.",0 +4910,"What song is funniest when replacing “Heaven” with “Kevin”?. I can hardly get through “knock, knock, knocking on Kevin’s door” without cracking up.",0 +4911,"Canceled Spotify premium. Can’t support that service anymore. I get everyone should have a voice. I chose not to support Joe Rogan’s voice. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk. + + +Edit: guess I touched a nerve.",0 +4912,"In Major Victory for Britney Spears, Judge Orders Jamie Spears to Be Deposed and Produce Documents Related to Surveillance. https://variety.com/2022/music/news/jamie-spears-deposition-britney-spears-surveillance-1235315511/",0 +4913,"Seven Nation Army just played on the classic rock station and now I feel old.. The song was released in 2003. Fell in Love with a Girl in 2001. + +ETA: I get early nineties was added to ""classic"" rock rotation by now. It didn't hit me nearly as hard as this one did. I started to become ""old"" awhile ago when I stopped recognizing the music my students play. That just felt like difference of preference. White Stripes are from this millennium! + +Also - I agree with those saying ""classic rock"" should be considered a genre and not based on time passed. Unfortunately I don't make the rules! + +And - People keep bringing up Nirvana. We do understand the difference between 7NA and Nevermind (1991) is more than an entire decade?",0 +4914,My Chemical Romance Mark Musical Return With Six-Minute Epic 'The Foundations of Decay'. ,0 +4915,Rebecca Black claims she was ‘scammed’ into endorsing Mexico’s former president when she was 14. ,0 +4916,"30 Years ago today, Ice Cube had a good day. 10 years ago, a tumblr user Donovan Strain [did the maths](https://murkavenue.tumblr.com/post/16553509655/i-found-ice-cubes-good-day) and worked out that the only possible day Ice Cube could have been referring to in [It Was a Good Day](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h4UqMyldS7Q) was January 20th, 1992, as it was the only day that: + + +* Yo MTV raps was on air, +* It was a clear and smogless day, +* Beepers were commercially sold, +* The Lakers beat the Supersonics and +* Ice Cube had no other events happening. + + +I’d highly recommend reading the post for all the details, but anyway happy anniversary to Ice Cube’s good day, hope you’re all suitably enjoying yours and not having to use your AK’s.",0 +4917,Vancouver radio station has been playing RATM Killing in the name for days. ,0 +4918,"Which band came out with even better albums as they aged?. Most of my favorite bands from my youth disappoint me with their later albums. I was listening to The New Abnormal by The Strokes and I think it's my favorite album of theirs. But that's the exception, not the rule.",0 +4919,"Is 90s hiphop the new dad rock?. I'm in my 40s now and just about everyone I know speaks very fondly of 90s hiphop. It's usually the preferred music when we're anywhere. + +It's anecdotal but I've noticed similar trends outside my circle. + +​ + +Feb 2 Edit .Wow - my first time making it to the Front Page after being on Reddit since 2012. Appreciate the awards",0 +4920,"Fall Out Boy's guitarist says he sat out of the band's last album, Mania, in protest of its direction. ",0 +4921,"R.E.M.'s Losing My Religion is such a banger. Just re-discovered this masterpiece after many years of not hearing it. I was just a little kid when it was released in 1991 and had liked it throughout the years but had just kinda forgot about it for a while. Man, am I glad I came across it on Spotify. Definitely one of my favorite tracks from the 90's.",0 +4922,"Ticketmaster cancels General Onsale for Taylor Swift's upcoming tour.. Twitter: + +https://twitter.com/Ticketmaster/status/1593333211769106433 + +Thoughts? Kind of wild to me that this is even possible.",0 +4923,"What artist left a band and went on to have a more successful solo career?. I'd give an example, but I can't think of any! I'm looking for some of the best solo careers out there, and to learn more about artists than I know now. Have at it!",0 +4924,Huey Lewis and the News Sell Catalog for Reported $20 Million. ,0 +4925,"What song has the best guitar solo of all time?. Or your personal favorite. Do you know any that are really underrated or from smaller bands? Im trying to get a list of the best guitar solos across all genres of music. + +Three i already love- + +Comfortably numb by Pink Floyd + +While my guitar gently weeps by the Beatles + +Through the fire and flames by dragonforce + +Edit- alright didnt expect this many answers. Thanks to everyone who commented! Got a lot of new music to listen to the next few days",0 +4926,"MTV or some other network needs to reboot the UNPLUGGED thing. I am sitting here watching STP and just got done with Alice in Chains Unlpugged, This needs to happen more often. If you are too young to know what I am talking about, here are some links. MTV used to do stuff like this. Get a band to play in front of an audience, acoustic style + +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9EKi2E9dVY8&list=RD9EKi2E9dVY8](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9EKi2E9dVY8&list=RD9EKi2E9dVY8)",0 +4927,Lil Wayne under investigation after reportedly pulling gun on security guard. ,0 +4928,Epic Games Acquires Bandcamp as 'Fortnite' Maker Expands Into Music. ,0 +4929,10 years ago today since 'Gangnam Style' became a global hit. ,0 +4930,"Thing is, Springsteen can say NO to Ticketmaster's dynamic pricing initiative but has obv chosen not to.. ",0 +4931,"Is Tenacious D a real band?. Their music is really good but I feel like if I tell someone I like them they’d just tell me it’s a comedy group and not a real band, but at the same time they have full albums, so are they a Legit band?",0 +4932,Jack White’s National Anthem in Detroit at Tigers Opening Day!. ,0 +4933,"Piano man by billy Joel is in my opinion the most immersive song ever.. Now I don’t think it’s the best song ever, close but not the best, but the way he describes the bar and characters slowly brings us into his world. Like when he sings “And the piano sounds like a carnival and the microphone smells like beer” just sticks in my mind. And the quickly descriptions of the characters. And I mean, “they’re sharing a drink called loneliness, but it’s better than drinking alone” come on! Anyway that’s it, I don’t post on this sun much just needed to get this thought out. Xxxx",0 +4934,"Russia’s Biggest Rappers Are Going Hard Against Putin’s War. Article: [https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/russia-rappers-putin-war-ukraine-1322497/](https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/russia-rappers-putin-war-ukraine-1322497/) + +Ordinarily apolitical hip-hop stars are defying the Kremlin’s crackdown to speak out against the invasion of Ukraine. A handful of other prominent Russian rappers have been slowly but steadily voicing their opposition to the war. It’s a change for a scene that has often walked a delicate balancing act between being critical of the government and retaining the ability to perform publicly.  + +With protest songs unable to gain airtime, artists must stick to social media. Much of the scene has quickly moved from Instagram, which Russia recently banned, to Telegram. Although officially also restricted in Russia, the platform is rapidly becoming the digital shelter for Russian rappers. ",0 +4935,Tenacious D - The Government Totally Sucks + Lyrics [Rock]. ,0 +4936,Adele Talks Canceled Vegas Residency: 'There Was Just No Soul in It'. ,0 +4937,"Russia Can Compete In Eurovision Despite Ukraine Invasion, Organisers Say. https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/eurovision-russia-ukraine-invasion-2022-song-contest_uk_621799a3e4b0f800ce1d5757 + +  + +> Eurovision Song Contest has said it plans to allow Russia to compete in May despite Vladimir Putin’s invasion of Ukraine. +> +>   +> +> Organisers described the competition as a “non-political cultural event” and appeared to dismiss suggestions that Russia’s attack on its neighbour would result in the country being banned for 2022.",0 +4938,"Bruce Springsteen Sells His Masters, Publishing to Sony for $500M. ",0 +4939,"An unexpected casualty of music going digital is albums no longer have hidden tracks.. It used to be CDs would leave 5-6 minutes of silence after what was listed as the final track. So you would think the album was done but were busy doing busywork and didn't get the chance to turn the CD off -- and then a new song would just come blasting out unexpectedly without announcement. Now with digital, all tracks have to be separated since you can pay for them individually... and the runtime of the song is listed upon purchase so there are be no surprises to be had. In fact, listening to album throughout, from beginning to end, is almost a lost art form in itself.",0 +4940,"Guy Fieri can’t stop going to Rage Against the Machine concerts. Article: https://consequence.net/2022/08/guy-fieri-rage-against-the-machine-tour/ + +Guy Fieri just can’t seem to get enough of seeing Rage Against the Machine live on their long-anticipated reunion tour (grab your tickets here) and who can blame him? Just days after a video of him rocking out at the July 27th Cleveland concert went viral on TikTok, the Mayor of Flavortown attended a show in Raleigh, North Carolina. + +Prior to attending the first gig at Rocket Mortgage FieldHouse, Fieri excitedly shared a video on Twitter about the “moment in history,” describing it as the culmination of a “lifelong journey” with his son Hunter. “They’re going to crush it tonight,” he added. + +Fieri was spotted at that show raging to “Bombtrack” with a drink in one hand and a stogie in the other. After @ltmagnotto posted the clip to TikTok, it spread across social media and made its way back to him. While acknowledging a reposting of the video on Twitter, Fieri wrote, “The best concert ever. Until tomorrow night in Raleigh….. RAGE RULES.” + +Indeed, he was spotted in the crowd on July 31st singing along to “Killing in the Name” at PNC Arena and briefly put on the Jumbotron. Watch fan-shot footage of that moment below, followed by the aforementioned TikTok. + +Rage Against Machine aren’t the only rock band Fieri has been seen enjoying publicly. In May 2021, the daughter of Slipknot’s drummer posted a video of him headbanging at a pre-pandemic show. His love of music extends beyond hard rock as well; earlier this year, he posted a TikTok soundtracked by none other than Phoebe Bridgers. + +https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sk9_rZlEB58",0 +4941,"UPDATE: Going to a concert alone... I made a [post here](https://www.reddit.com/r/Music/comments/u4caew/going_to_a_concert_alone_and_i_dont_really_like/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) two weeks ago talking about my anxiety and how nervous I was to go to a concert alone, it was my favourite band I didn’t want to miss it, etc. + +I got so many comments telling me to just go and do it. I hesitated for a few days after making the post, and then I bought myself a single ticket so I had to commit to going. + +I was so nervous all day leading up to it, excitement but nerves, I couldn’t stop going to the bathroom and I was sweating all day. I got there and I was surprisingly nervous but comfortable. Got myself a nice piece of merch, a nice Coca-Cola. + +It was amazing. I recommend it to anyone, especially if you have bad anxiety. Getting out of your comfort zone is the last thing you want to do when you have anxiety, but sometimes it’s just what you need. I didn’t feel pressure to dance. I didn’t feel weird for not dancing. I surprised myself by cheering and clapping. The people around me were really nice. It was great :’) + +Thanks again to everyone who helped give me encouragement and confidence to go by myself!",0 +4942,Bo Burnham - Welcome to the Internet [Comedy/ Synth-Pop]. ,0 +4943,"What’s the saddest song you have ever heard?. Songs that are sad in every aspect (production, lyrics, vocals..)",0 +4944,"Bands with extremely recognizable vocalists. What bands (or individual singers) come to mind who have very distinct sounding singers? Ones where, even if you’ve never heard the song, you know immediately what band/singer it is? + +Three immediately come to mind for me: + +- Tool +- Interpol +- The Smashing Pumpkins",0 +4945,"Is it just me who thinks lyrics are secondary to the sound of the Song?. Okay I’m a metal fan so do what you will with that but I think lyrics don’t matter as much as everything else. Prime example Bat country and Beast and the Harlot are songs I love, but I have no idea what their saying at all but it fits the rest of song so to me it’s a good song just me?",0 +4946,"Has any band had the fall that Coldplay had?. Their first 2 albums are two of my favorite albums ever but everything since for the most part sounds like a less talented and less creative band trying to sound like Coldplay. And the BTS collaboration... holy shit + +I guess Imagine Dragons fell quite a bit after their great early stuff",0 +4947,Regina Spektor announces first new album since 2016 is coming out this June!. ,0 +4948,"Ticketmaster’s Taylor Swift chaos triggers US Senate antitrust hearing. A US Senate antitrust panel will go ahead with a hearing on the lack of competition in the country’s ticketing industry after Ticketmaster’s problems last week managing the sale of Taylor Swift tickets. + +Ticketmaster’s parent company, Live Nation, has blamed presale problems for Swift’s Eras tour – the pop superstar’s first US tour in five years – on “unprecedented demand” and an effort to keep out bots run by ticket scalpers. + +After registered fans struggled with glitches for hours to get tickets in the presale, and tickets quickly began appearing for resale for as much as US$22,700 (£19,100, A$33,500), Ticketmaster cancelled sales to the general public. It later claimed the demand for Swift tickets “could have filled 900 stadiums”. + +Swift has said it was “excruciating” for her to watch fans struggling to secure tickets and that she had been assured Ticketmaster could handle the demand. + +The chaos attracted the attention of US politicians, many of whom have voiced concerns about how dominant Ticketmaster has become after it merged with the entertainment company Live Nation in 2010. + +Tennessee’s attorney general, Jonathan Skrmetti, has said he will launch a consumer protection investigation into the company after his office was bombarded with complaints from Swift fans. + +The congresswoman Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez has also criticised the merger. “Daily reminder that Ticketmaster is a monopoly, its merger with Live Nation should never have been approved, and they need to be reined in,” she tweeted. “Break them up.” + +On Tuesday the senator Amy Klobuchar, who will chair the panel, and the senator Mike Lee, the top Republican on the committee, announced the Senate hearing would go ahead. They have yet to provide a date or a list of witnesses. + +“The high fees, site disruptions and cancellations that customers experienced shows how Ticketmaster’s dominant market position means the company does not face any pressure to continually innovate and improve,” Klobuchar said. “We will hold a hearing on how consolidation in the live entertainment and ticketing industry harms customers and artists alike.” + +Ticketmaster denied any anti-competitive practices and said it remained under a consent decree with the Department of Justice after the 2010 merger, adding there was no “evidence of systemic violations of the consent decree”. + +“Ticketmaster has a significant share of the primary ticketing services market because of the large gap that exists between the quality of the Ticketmaster system and the next best primary ticketing system,” the company said. + +Klobuchar was one of three lawmakers who argued in a letter on Monday that Ticketmaster and Live Nation should be broken up by the Department of Justice if any misconduct was found in an ongoing investigation. + +The department has proven in recent years to be much more willing to file antitrust lawsuits against giant companies – including the ongoing December 2020 lawsuit against Google – and to fight mergers.",0 +4949,"Takeoff reportedly shot and killed according to multiple sources on Twitter. # [EDIT 4: CONFIRMED BY TMZ (Contains NSFW Images).](https://www.tmz.com/2022/11/01/migos-takeoff-dead-dies-shot-houston-quavo-migos/) + +​ + +There’s multiple photos and videos of the rapper after apparently being shot and killed. It's said to have happened outside of a club in Houston, Texas, over a dice game. Quavo was apparently present during the shooting. It's unclear as to whether he was he also shot, but media is circulating of him stood over the late rapper at the scene of the incident. + +**EDIT 3: Take caution when getting updates on Twitter - there are multiple NSFW sources of the aftermath of the incident.** + +**EDIT 2:** SFW sources I've been able to find: + +* [https://twitter.com/DoubleDownNews/status/1587389687286464512](https://twitter.com/DoubleDownNews/status/1587389687286464512) +* [https://twitter.com/wrld\_mag/status/1587379151576735745](https://twitter.com/wrld_mag/status/1587379151576735745) +* [https://iharare.com/migos-rapper-takeoff-shot-dead-at-club-over-dice-game/](https://iharare.com/migos-rapper-takeoff-shot-dead-at-club-over-dice-game/) +* [https://www.news.com.au/entertainment/celebrity-life/celebrity-deaths/us-rapper-takeoff-28-shot-dead-in-houston-texas/news-story/a6bf2350ca04f4ed563aa0a82ece3323](https://www.news.com.au/entertainment/celebrity-life/celebrity-deaths/us-rapper-takeoff-28-shot-dead-in-houston-texas/news-story/a6bf2350ca04f4ed563aa0a82ece3323) +* [https://twitter.com/theonlyjasonlee/status/1587381508653711361](https://twitter.com/theonlyjasonlee/status/1587381508653711361) +* [https://www.clashmusic.com/news/reports-migos-star-takeoff-shot-dead/](https://www.clashmusic.com/news/reports-migos-star-takeoff-shot-dead/) + +**EDIT:** There are many NSFW sources on Twitter clearly showing **^(NSFW:)** >!Takeoff's body on the floor.!< It's yet to hit mainstream media. + +~~I'll continue to update with more information when it becomes available.~~",0 +4950,"What’s a song that instantly puts you in a good mood?. My top 3: + +Half Mast by Empire of the Sun + +UnderCover Martyn by Two Door Cinema Club + +Up, Up and Away by Kid Cudi + +Edit: + +Playlist Created By Your Fellow Redditors: + +https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2pB5E3UB8ekddRMkiEYgMY?si=8e85c77137734482",0 +4951,"Pink Floyd and David Gilmour removing music from digital platforms in Russia and Belarus in solidarity with Ukraine.. Article: https://pitchfork.com/news/pink-floyd-and-david-gilmour-removing-music-from-digital-platforms-in-russia-and-belarus/ + +Pink Floyd are removing some of their catalog from digital music platforms in Russia and Belarus, the band announced today. “To stand with the world in strongly condemning Russia’s invasion of Ukraine, the works of Pink Floyd, from 1987 onwards, and all of David Gilmour’s solo recordings are being removed from all digital music providers in Russia and Belarus from today,” they wrote. + +The musical output that will disappear from Russian and Belarusian platforms includes the Pink Floyd studio albums A Momentary Lapse of Reason (1987), The Division Bell (1994), and The Endless River (2014). Gilmour has also released four solo studio albums in his career, the most recent one being 2015’s Rattle That Lock. + +Pitchfork has reached out to representatives for Gilmour and the band for more information. + +Earlier this month, Gilmour showed his support for Ukraine with a message on Twitter: “Russian soldiers, stop killing your brothers. There will be no winners in this war. My daughter-in-law is Ukrainian and my grand-daughters want to visit and know their beautiful country. Stop this before it is all destroyed. Putin must go.” + +Roger Waters, who left Pink Floyd in 1985, has also condemned Russia and President Vladimir V. Putin’s invasion of Ukraine. “I am disgusted by Putin’s invasion of Ukraine, it is a criminal mistake in my opinion, the act of a gangster, there must be an immediate ceasefire,” he wrote in an open letter to a Ukrainian fan this week. “I will do anything I can to help effect the end of this awful war in your country, anything that is except wave a flag to encourage the slaughter.”",0 +4952,"Best One-Hit Wonder of All Time. Which artist you can think of that just had one hit, but their song made it count? For me Gotye - ""Somebody That I Used To Know"" is the best one-hit wonder of all time. It was the decade-defining song of 2010s. Won multiple Grammy awards and 14X platinum in US. The song was number one in the Top 100 Hits of 2012. You can check out the countdown [here](https://recordmojo.com/year-end/top-100/2012).",0 +4953,"Does Clare De Lune make anyone else feel transcended and calm?. I don't know why out of all classical music; I am so attached to Clare De Lune. + +For some reason, every time I hear it, I shut down. It's like I transcend planes. + +I can't explain the feeling it gives me, like a euphoric calmness that I feel I have not felt since I was a child, maybe even a baby. + +Perhaps the song was played for me as a baby or even in the womb, and maybe hearing this song triggers some sort of response. + +Anyway, does anyone else have this sort of attachment or response to Clare De Lune? + +​ + +Edit: Thank you for all being so kind in this discussion. So much of Reddit is so douchey and disrespectful and everyone here has genuinely contributed to the conversation and was so nice. So thank you! ",0 +4954,Trevor Strnad of The Black Dahlia Murder has passed away at age 41. ,0 +4955,"Singer Omarion Speaks Out: 'I Am an Artist, Not a COVID Variant'. ",0 +4956,"When will OutKast ACTUALLY apologize a Trillion times?. + +In the song ""Ms. Jackson"" OutKast says: + +""I'm sorry Ms. Jackson, I am for real. + +Never meant to make your daughter cry, I apologize a Trillion times."" + +I wanted to know how long it would take for them to ACTUALLY apologize a trillion times. I figure that song will be played forever so at some point they will apologize a full trillion times. + +In the song they say either ""I'm sorry Ms. Jackson"" or ""I apologize"" a total of 20 times. + +So in order to apologize 1,000,000,000,000 times, how many times would the song actually have to be played? + +50 Billion times. + +On Spotify the song has been streamed 621 Million times. + +There is no data on how many times a song has played on Apple Music but according to a 2021 article Spotify had 31% of the music streaming market share.  + +Lets assume that other streaming service users listen to the song at a slightly lower rate than Spotify users do. + +We can multiply the Spotify listens by 3x to make up roughly the whole market share of streaming services. + +Total Estimated streams on current music services + +1.863 Billion + +On YouTube it has been played 392 Million times and ""Stankonia"" the album it came from has sold 4 million copies. Lets say that on average (conservatively) people that bought the album listened to that song at least 10x through  So lets add another 40 million listens. + +So from what we have so far we can say that the song has been played a minimum of 2.295 Billion times. Which is 45.9 Billion apologies. + +Now the song came out 22 years ago and Spotify didn't even launch until 2008. So we have to think of Napster and Limewire downloads, and not just the downloads. How many times it was played on average by each user that downloaded it.  + +Then we get to radio play and concerts/DJ's playing the song in clubs etc. I have no idea how to begin to estimate the number of times it has been played in those type of situations. + +This also leads to an interesting question, for the apologies to count towards the trillion does it have to be said? Or just heard? + +I.E. if the song plays and 10,000 people hear it does that count as 200,000 apologies over the course of the song or still just 20 because it was said 20x? + +I really don't know the answer so if you have any more insight on ways to find how many times the song has played I would love to know.  + +In conclusion. IDK if they have apologized a trillion times yet or not, I'm guessing its probably close.  + +I would love any and all comments on my pointless research. + +Edit: cleaned up wording on messed up paragraph +Edit 2: The song is just called Ms. Jackson (not I'm Sorry Ms. Jackson)",0 +4957,"Fashion Nugget by Cake is such an underrated album!. So I'm re-watching *The Sopranos* (partly because of David Chase's amazing taste in music) and *Frank Sinatra* is a song that plays at the end of an episode. When I checked it out on Spotify, I binged through the entire album! It's shame they aren't better known. + +Edit: Wow this exploded. I posted this just before going to bed and when I wake up, boom! Thanks for the gold, kind stranger! + +So going through some of the comments I guess they aren't as unpopular as I thought they were. Forgive me, I'm a 2000s kid and yesterday was the first time I heard of them. Furthermore, *Frank Sinatra* on YouTube only has 3.5M views over 16 years which I thought was criminally less for such a good song",0 +4958,"Hey, let's say ""Happy Birthday"" to Mr Rick Astley!. What would you choose as a gift to him? + +Which song would you dedicate to him? + +Which Rick Astley's song song would you like to see covered by another band and which song would you like covered by Rick Astley? + +As for me, I'd like to hear his cover of Sultans of Swing. + +And I'd like to hear a cover of his song ""Walk Like A Panther"" by System Of A Down (I still hope, yeah) or by... Well, I'll be obvious here: Foo Fighters. + +Edit: Mr Rick Astley saw this post and thanked us all for the good wishes. This was my best in here ever.",0 +4959,"King gizzard and the wizard lizard. So I've known about this band for about 4 years now. New a couple of their songs always thought they were cool but never got into them. Bro they have like 30+ albums I was listening to their music and almost every single one is a certified banger. I wish they were more popular so I could talk to other people about them. + +Edit: they might actually be popular considering the amount of people that have commented on this post lol. Maybe just not in my area",0 +4960,"Today is a sad day in music history.. As some of you may know, today marks the 5th anniversary of the death of iconic Grunge vocalist Chris Cornell. + +The night of May 17th, he rejoined with Soundgarden to perform live at Fox Theater in Detroit, Michigan. + +After the show, Cornell returned to his hotel, where the last people to speak to him was Chris's wife Vicky over a phonecall, and his bodyguard. + +Both had reported that Chris had been acting strangely that night, so after rising concerns and the fact that Chris had become unresponsive, his bodyguard had requested from the hotel staff to open Chris's room for him. + +The hotel staff had refused, however, as it wasn't his room, so with no other choice, the bodyguard broke down the door to Chris's room. + +It was in there, locked in the bathroom, Chris had hanged himself using the shower curtain rod and an elastic sports band. He was pronounced dead on the scene by paramedics. + +And on that fateful night, the world lost and incredible and powerful voice, and an inexplicably broken, yet beautiful soul. + +. + +. + +. + +I discovered Chris Cornell for myself later that year, completely unaware of the tragedy for a short while. + +His work had connected with me in ways I couldn't have imagined. Battling with trauma, drug abuse andchronic depression myself, I felt the words in Chris's lyrics and they tugged at the darkest parts of my aching heart. + +His music got me through many hardships in the years to come, helped me resolve faults in my past, and even inspired me to continue with my own music and branch out to other grunge scene bands, and eventually out further to other genres. + +Chris Cornell was an amazing gift to this world that was taken far too soon from us. + +To any fans of his reading this, I'd enjoy if you'd post your favorite song of his, or that he has featured in, and perhaps a backstory on your experience with his work or why that particular song is your favorite. + +Thanks for thanking the time to read my rambling. + +*Rest in peace, Chris Cornell.* + +*No one sings like you anymore.*",0 +4961,Kanye West Reportedly Wanted To Name Album After Hitler. ,0 +4962,"Alec John Such, original bassist and founding member of Bon Jovi, dies aged 70. ",0 +4963,"tell me the most beautiful song you know. What is the most beautiful song/songs you have ever heard? + +PLAYLIST HERE: + +https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5AAU8twIHvXSfyy0dJsmps?si=wiyH36kiSfCUq5ysdedlXg + +not every song will be in here but i try to add as many as i can 🥰 + +thanks everyone for commenting!! so many great songs. I’m trying to make the playlist 100 hours but reddit keeps crashing when i scroll to far down 🫣",0 +4964,"Bob Dylan has sold his recorded music catalog to Sony Music for an estimated $200 million. Sony now owns the master rights to all of Dylan’s albums and “multiple future releases."". ",0 +4965,"[Unpopular Opinion] Adele's 30 Album is Boring & Getting Undeserved Praise. It's been a month now since I rushed out to target to buy Adele's 30 CD with the bonus tracks. + +I got home played it once and then played it again the next day... and I haven't played it since. 19,21,25 I have played over and over and over when I got them. 19 was the best of all since it was unique and offered a flavor Adele hasn't returned too. 21 & 25 could have been a double CD on the same album. Same type of songs and themes. They had her biggest hits we all know them. I enjoyed them both but for 6 years of listening to them. 30 should have been an entirely different Adele experience. + +It simply wasn't. It was literally just more of the same but not as ground breaking or amazing as the previous two albums were. I don't know maybe the Adele flavored gum in my mouth has lost it's flavor but I haven't had any desire to hear 30 again. It has a few good songs ( I liked about two of them) but nothing I felt I wanted to listen to on repeat like I did the other Albums. Even the bonus tracks that came on my Target CD were kind of so so. + +Being an actual fan of Adele this album to me was not worth a 6 year wait. It sounded like something he could have thrown together in a weekend. There was literally no new vibe on this album. Same broken hearted wailing over a piano. Is it really so hard for her to work with producers that make different music? or even other artists? Even a track with Adele and the Weeknd, or Sia or Lady Gaga or anybody else would have blown my mind and given me a break from the same old tired lost my love tracks. + +Some new instruments...? Maybe some 808 drums. A Moog, a Prophet 5.... just introduce some new sounds to your music please. + +The praise I've seen this album get is a head scratcher for me. This is not a ground breaking album and it's the weakest offering. An album that took 6 years to put out should sound freaking Amazing. Every track should be a hit. This Album just sounds like songs they found under a couch in her mansion. I really really really was hoping this Album would have been where Adele either went back to the 19 mindset and experimented with her voice and music and gave us a fresh new Adele... but it wasn't. It was literally 30 Adele with a Tired and Old sound. + +I thought this album would grow on me but I've personally had no desire to even add it to my playlist. I enjoyed ""To be Loved"". Best song on there imo but again that could have fit right on the sounds from 21 or 30. + +I can't be the only one noticing this can I? No hate for Adele I love her work but this album is just so so.",0 +4966,"What bands do most people consider one hit wonders, but actually have a bunch of killer tunes?. Inspired by a post in this sub about ""signature songs"". To me, the difference between a OHW and a band with a song that is ""theirs"", is a library of bangers to back that song up. + +Prime example for me: Rusted Root. Everybody knows ""Send Me On My Way"" but have people heard ""Exctasy""? + +What are bands/artists I might know one song by, but am missing out on a whole lot of? Where should I start? + +Edit: Yo, great stuff y'all! Was expecting to have a few recs for a playlist. I reckon with all the bands listed, it'd run about a year! Thanks for all the comments (and the awards lol). So fun to see so many people passionate about bands they love!",0 +4967,"B52's Fred Schneider in this morning's NY Times interview about their farewell tour: ""We’ll still do shows, but no more touring. I love being onstage, but I got tired of people with cellphones not paying attention and blocking everyone behind them"". ",0 +4968,What artist never released one bad album?. Which bands have avoided the sophomore slump? Which bands albums have been all killer and no filler?,0 +4969,"This is Ken from Dropkick Murphys! Our new album, the Woody Guthrie collaboration This Machine Still Kills Fascists, was just released today! AMA!. I’m Ken Casey from the band Dropkick Murphys!  + +We have a new album out today, called *This Machine Still Kills Fascists*, which features Nikki Lane and Evan Felker from Turnpike Troubadours. Watch the album trailer [here](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bH_Zc8vX3zc)! The entire album was created from and around a collection of mostly unpublished Woody Guthrie lyrics, and we got to work with Woody’s daughter Nora Guthrie and the Woody Guthrie Center to bring it to life! AMA about Woody, our over 25 years as a band, all things Boston, or our newest album, which you can learn more about [here](https://dropkickmurphys.com/)!  + +​ + +Edit: [PROOF](https://twitter.com/DropkickMurphys/status/1575926966137458688) + +​ + +Update: I need to run, this was great. If it turns out I missed any meaningful questions, I'll try and get to them in the morning.",0 +4970,Public Image Ltd and The Clash guitarist Keith Levene has died aged 65. ,0 +4971,"What’s the happiest song you’ve ever heard?. I’ve seen this question asked a lot but for sad songs so I decided to make a thread for happy songs and by happy I don’t necessarily mean songs with happy lyrics anything that makes you happy or uplifts your mood is fine. + +Edit : Thank you to everyone for your suggestions and awards. I’m super grateful.I’m making a playlist of the songs. I’ve added more than a hundred of them and I’m still adding. Here’s the link for anyone interested: + +https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/songs-to-make-u-happy/pl.u-MDAW2PDuRbAvEy + +Edit 2 : So many of you guys asked for a Spotify playlist. I don’t have Spotify but a few people in comments made a playlist of the songs mentioned in this thread. Since I can’t pin a comment send me a dm and I will send you the link to one of the playlists.",0 +4972,"Tom Morello was accidentally tackled by security guard at Rage Against the Machine show last night. Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0PQsL_vlieA + +Article: https://pitchfork.com/news/tom-morello-accidentally-tackled-by-security-guard-at-rage-against-the-machine-show/ + +Rage Against the Machine have had a bumpy start to their long-awaited reunion tour. Earlier this month at their Chicago gig, vocalist Zack de la Rocha appeared to injure his leg and has been performing while seated ever since. Now, guitarist Tom Morello has suffered a bit of a tumble, as TMZ and Rolling Stone point out. Last night (July 23), during the band’s show in Toronto, a security guard was apparently chasing down a man who had rushed onto the stage. As the security guard tackled the stage crasher, he also made contact with Morello, knocking the guitarist down as the band performed “Killing in the Name.” + +De la Rocha briefly stopped the show, saying, “hold up, hold up, hold up” as he waited to see if Morello was ok. Morello was then helped to his feet and returned to his post onstage. The crowd cheered and the band continued performing.",0 +4973,"Who is the ultimate triple threat of Singer, Songwriter and Guitar player?. There are so many who are great at 2 of the 3 but the true trifecta is rare. Jason Isbell brought the question to mind - that dude could make a living as any of the above individually, no question. + +Prince is another that springs to mind, but how many others are there who you regard as truly great at all three? + +Edit: if one more person says 'How has noone mentioned John Mayer!?' I'm deleting the post",0 +4974,"Foo Fighters Announce Taylor Hawkins Tribute Concerts in Los Angeles and London. [https://variety.com/2022/music/news/foo-fighters-taylor-hawkins-tribute-concerts-1235287635/](https://variety.com/2022/music/news/foo-fighters-taylor-hawkins-tribute-concerts-1235287635/) + +>Foo Fighters will stage a pair of tribute concerts in honor of their late drummer, Taylor Hawkins. + + +>With the blessing of Hawkins’ family, Foo Fighters will play shows at London’s Wembley Stadium on September 3rd and Los Angeles’ Kia Forum on September 27th. These “all-star rock shows” will also feature as-yet-unannounced special guests, including musicians who were inspired by Hawkins. + + +>Tickets go on sale June 17th, and fans are encouraged to stay tuned to Foo Fighters’ website for more details as they are confirmed.",0 +4975,"Jon Batiste exits Late Show With Stephen Colbert as bandleader after 7 seasons. Article: https://pitchfork.com/news/jon-batiste-exits-late-show-with-stephen-colbert-as-bandleader-after-7-seasons/ + +Jon Batiste has departed The Late Show With Stephen Colbert on CBS after seven seasons as the show’s bandleader. Louis Cato has been promoted from interim bandleader and will take over permanently. “We've been so lucky to have a front row seat to Jon's incredible talent for the past seven years,” Colbert said on the show. “And will we miss him here? ‘Yeaaa!’ But we're happy for you, Jon, and I can't wait to have you back on as guest with your next hit record.” Watch the announcement below. + +Batiste won Album of the Year earlier this year at the 2022 Grammy Awards for his album We Are. He was nominated alongside Kanye West, Billie Eilish, Taylor Swift, Olivia Rodrigo, Lil Nas X, Doja Cat, Tony Bennett and Lady Gaga, H.E.R., and Justin Bieber. He was the most-nominated artist during this year’s Grammys. + +“It has been one of the great honors of my life to work on this show, alongside some of the most talented musicians and creatives I know,” Cato said in a statement. “Watching and learning from both Jon and Stephen for these past seven years, I’m genuinely excited to continue the tradition of excellence they’ve established.”",0 +4976,Bo Burnham - How The World Works [Comedy]. ,0 +4977,"Aerosmith Cancels Las Vegas Shows for June, July as Steven Tyler Enters Rehab. https://www.thewrap.com/aerosmith-cancels-las-vegas-steven-tyler-rehab/ + +>Aerosmith has cancelled its first set of Las Vegas residency shows in June and July 2022 so that Steven Tyler can recover from a recent relapse in sobriety. + + +>“As many of you know, our beloved brother Steven has worked on his sobriety for many years. After foot surgery to prepare for the stage and the necessity of pain management during the process, he has recently relapsed and voluntarily entered a treatment program to concentrate on his health and recovery."" + +>“We are truly sorry to inform our fans and friends that we must cancel our first set of Las Vegas Residency dates this June and July while he focuses on his well-being"" + +>“We will continue our 2022 dates starting in September, and we’ll let you know any further updates as soon as we can. We are devastated that we have inconvenienced so many of you, especially our most loyal fans who often travel great distances to experience our shows.”",0 +4978,"Country superstar Loretta Lynn has died at age 90. Article: https://pitchfork.com/news/loretta-lynn-dies-at-90/ + +The country music icon opened up the genre for generations of women",0 +4979,"Dave Grohl - My Hero [Rock], performed 1999 with Taylor Hawkins looking on. ",0 +4980,"It's breathtaking to learn that Alanis Morisette was just 20 years old when she recorded the album ""Jagged Little Pill"". ",0 +4981,"Ian McDonald, co-founder of King Crimson and Foreigner, has died at 75.. https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/ian-mcdonald-king-crimson-dead-obit-1298588/ + + +Ian McDonald, a multi-instrumentalist and songwriter best known for his co-founding roles in both King Crimson and Foreigner, died Wednesday at the age of 75. A rep for McDonald confirmed the musician’s death, adding that McDonald “passed away peacefully on February 9, 2022 in his home in New York City, surrounded by his family.” His son reported on Facebook that the cause was cancer. + +McDonald was known as one of the key architects of progressive rock, playing both saxophone and keyboards in King Crimson and co-writing its iconic 1969 debut, In the Court of the Crimson King. The record’s opening track, “21st Century Schizoid Man,” featured McDonald’s wild double-tracked alto-sax solo, which he performed the same year at a famous concert in London’s Hyde Park. He left King Crimson before the year was over, moving on to a duo project with Crimson drummer Michael Giles. He would also appear as a session musician on King Crimson’s 1975 classic, Red. + +Later, McDonald co-founded rock outfit Foreigner with guitarist Mick Jones, playing various instruments and singing on their first three LPs — all of which cracked the Top 10. + +McDonald also performed as a session saxist on T. Rex’s classic 1971 album, Electric Warrior, and later reunited with part of the original Crimson lineup as a member of the 21st Century Schizoid Band. His final major project was the rootsy rock band Honey West. + +Ian McDonald was born in Osterley, Middlesex, in England, in 1946. He served for five years in the British Army, playing in a jazz band. He collaborated with the group Giles, Giles, and Fripp — an early project featuring fellow Crimson co-founders Robert Fripp and Michael Giles that planted the seeds for King Crimson. His jazz sensibility was key to the early King Crimson sound. A piece that he wrote for the army band called “Three Score and Four” would turn into the midsection of “21st Century Schizoid Man.” + +“I was very into things like Stan Kenton and these kind of big bands at the time,” McDonald told Rolling Stone in 2019. “I was still in the Army. I wrote this piece called ‘Three Score and Four,’ and we put it into ‘Schizoid Man’ there. That whole section is mine that I lifted from that score that I had written.”",0 +4982,Jimmy Eat World - The Middle [Rock]. ,0 +4983,The Darkness - I Believe In A Thing Called Love [rock] (2002). ,0 +4984,"Mariah Carey is trying to trademark ""Queen of Christmas."" Some artists say she doesn't hold that title – and they're trying to stop her.. ",0 +4985,Maybe the people nominating the artists should take this as a cue of who is not rock and roll: Dolly Parton to Rock Hall of Fame: Thanks but no thanks. ,0 +4986,"Saddest Song(s) You've Ever Heard. I was listening to some pretty rough songs today (by accident - shuffle) that turned my emotions out a little bit. Very tough, depressing stuff. And then I heard a song by a well-known 80's pop band, Mike + The Mechanics, about a son regretting not making peace with his now deceased father, ""The Living Years,"" and realized even sad songs can be hits and even wild pop sensations. Crazy to think a song that personal hit #1 in the US! + +Are there any songs for you that affect you with their heaviness?",0 +4987,"Red Hot Chili Peppers to Receive Star on Hollywood Walk of Fame on March 31, 2022. [https://variety.com/2022/music/news/red-hot-chili-peppers-walk-of-fame-1235187607/](https://variety.com/2022/music/news/red-hot-chili-peppers-walk-of-fame-1235187607/) + +>Hollywood’s very own [Red Hot Chili Peppers](https://variety.com/t/red-hot-chili-peppers/) are getting a star on the Walk of Fame. + + +>The “Californication” rockers will receive the honor at an unveiling ceremony scheduled for Thursday, March 31 at 11:30 a.m. The star — the 2,717th on the Walk of Fame — is located in the second row at 6212 Hollywood Boulevard, adjacent to Amoeba Records on the south side of the street, and next to TV producer Harry Friedman’s star. Pat Sajak and Jack Paar’s stars will neighbor the Chili Peppers’ to the west and east, respectively. + + +>George Clinton, who produced the band’s 1985 album “Freaky Styley,” will unveil the star alongside Woody Harrelson, Bob Forrest and emcee Nicole Mihalka, chair of the board for the Hollywood Chamber of Commerce.",0 +4988,"Any fans of Aesop Rock?. This song is so soothing to me, even though I have absolutely no idea what he’s saying. + +https://youtu.be/Z3MDtACX3-s",0 +4989,Kendrick Lamar - The Heart Part V [Rap]. ,0 +4990,Audioslave - Like A Stone [rock]. ,0 +4991,"Spotify soulmates?. When Spotify wraps are released, Spotify should match you with another user according to similar music taste",0 +4992,"What song packs so much in, is so intense, that it leaves you physically exhausted after listening to it?. Spotify shuffle just chose for me ""Three Days"" by Jane's Addiction. Anytime that song starts up, I know I'm in for a ride. I actually felt *spent* by the time it was finished. + +I'd say the same about ""Angel"" by Massive Attack, ""Dazed and Confused"" by Led Zeppelin, and even the 1812 Overture by Tchaikovsky. + +​ + +What are yours? + +​ + +Edit: Love that this took off. Love even more the incredibly varied answers. Shows how much music can affect us all.",0 +4993,Rick Astley (me) - Together Forever (4K Video and Audio Remaster) [pop]. ,0 +4994,"Neil Peart, the Rush drummer who passed away in 2020, would have been 70 today.. His legacy and inspiration will live on... + +http://news.cygnus-x1.net/2022/09/remembering-neil-peart-on-his-70th.html",0 +4995,"I have 17,057 songs on my Spotify library give me a number I’ll give you a song.. *17,337 + +Songs, live versions, remixes, copies. A whole bunch of different genres there’s a whole bunch of songs! + +(Can request as many as you want within reason) + +:) + + +If you comment please upvote! + +It might take me a bit to get to them but I will try to get to them all! ♥️ + +Edit: Spotify won’t let me put all of the songs from my liked music into a playlist. I’m pulling them from my liked music but there’s so many that it won’t allow it to be added to a playlist unfortunately. + + +1 is -. by no man and is an interlude of silence from one of their experimental albums. + +6969 is I Miss The Misery by Halestorm + +69. 2.02 killer year by King Gizzard and The Lizard Wizard",0 +4996,"Rammstein - Sonne [Industrial metal] Friendly reminder; this song was written as an entrance song for the former world champion heavyweight boxer Vitali Klitschko, who is now the Mayor of Kyiv🇺🇦 With recent events the song could be interpreted completely differently - in a good way. Slava Ukraini!. Mainly I see ""die Sonne"" as a possible metafor for a motherland - i.e. Klitschko's - Ukraine. Interestingly the sun is a female noun in german, therefore in the lyrics when they refer to the sun the pronoun she (sie in german) is used, further backing new interpretations. + +What other details could lead to a new interpretation of the song? + +Link to song: https://youtu.be/StZcUAPRRac + +Link to wiki: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sonne_(Rammstein_song) + +Edit: just quickly, my own comments aren't an interpretation on their own, I was trying to propose ideas of how the song could be viewed later, I won't comment on if I think that's good or not. The possibility of a new interpretation and what it may look like is what I'm personally interested in. + +Edit 2: Thanks for the awards! I want to say the interpretations on Rammstein have been fun. On a more unfunny note I think I've been a bit misunderstood at times, (english is my third language so that's on me) on the surface a new interpretation could come across as somewhat fascist, but I still think if you dig deeper it's quite the opposite. Seeing leaders stay and fight with the people and defying the common situation of only the blood of the working class being spilled in war, is nice. Furthermore the imagery of a unearthly power (The sun, or a people fighting for the right not to be ruled by an omnipotent leader and his plutocrats) possessing the human body and fighting in an already lost battle, is stunning - and to me only possible when dedicating one self to a community, or other higher - literally in Sonne - cause (Rammstein counting the boxer out, before the song really begins, vs. the grafics of military power, and accounts of Russian superiority we have seen the last days). +Hope that isn't to incomprehensible.",0 +4997,"Neil Young > Joe Rogan.. Just cancelled my 7 year subscription over it. They wont miss my $10 a month and probably wont miss yours either. Fuggit. Its a morality issue at this point. + +Edit: Since so many people keep crying ""censorship"", let me clarify that this isnt about that. Its about enjoying music over supporting a platform that props up a meathead thats spews nonsense. Even IF Spotify were to ditch Rogan (they wont), thats not censorship. He still has his right to talk out of his ass all he wants. A private company can do what they want with their platform. Similar to Twitter or FB pulling Trump for his nonsense. Or Spotify for keeping Rogan. I personally dont really care what they do. I just want to hear some tunes and not support Spotify anymore. Thats literally it. Not to mention they pay musicians peanuts to use their music. This was just the nail in the coffin for me and decided its time to dip out. + +It IS kind of amusing that this is pissing off so many people though. Dont know why you care what I do or what I like and dislike, but whatever. 🤷🏻 + +Heres a link for the ""who cares"" crowd. https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2022-01-27/-spotifydeleted-trending-amid-the-platform-s-neil-young-dilemma + +And another one for the ""truthers"". https://www.washingtonpost.com/arts-entertainment/2022/01/14/joe-rogan-spotify-doctors-covid-misinformation/",0 +4998,"I am Michael Pfaff. I play Percussion in Slipknot and our 2022 KNOTFEST Roadshow tour starts today. AMA…. Hello Reddit. My name is Michael Pfaff. I’m the percussionist in Slipknot. Leg 1 of our US Headline Tour (3/16 - 4/17) kicks off tonight with In This Moment and Wage War. The 2nd leg (5/18 – 6/18) will feature special guests Cypress Hill and Ho99o9. + +Tickets are on-sale now at https://knotfest.com/roadshow/ + +***Update - Thanks for the questions everybody. Tour starts TONIGHT. Look forward to seeing you on the road. + + +Slipknot +https://www.instagram.com/slipknot/ +https://www.tiktok.com/@slipknot +https://www.facebook.com/slipknot +https://twitter.com/slipknot + + +Knotfest +https://www.instagram.com/knotfest/ +https://twitter.com/KNOTFEST +https://www.facebook.com/KNOTFEST/ +https://www.tiktok.com/@knotfest + + +Proof: https://imgur.com/IqoSG9P",0 +4999,Anyone remember listening to 1-minute snippets of pop songs on a HitClip?. ,0 +5000,"There is a music genre that romanticizes 80s shopping mall culture, called Mallsoft. ",0 +5001,"The Wanted star, Tom Parker, dies aged 33 after a fight with terminal brain cancer.. ",0 +5002,Rammstein officially banned Viagogo from reselling concert tickets. ,0 +5003,"What double albums are all killer, no filler start to back?. In my experience, most double albums, even the uber-famous ones like Tommy and The Wall, are seen as being overstuffed. Can y’all think of any double albums that aren’t “classic single album + album’s worth of filler” and are actually really high quality the whole way through?",0 +5004,Kate Bush - Running Up That Hill (A Deal With God) [Pop]. ,0 +5005,"Britney Spears Thanks Fans As ‘Hold Me Closer’ Enjoys A No. 1 Run On iTunes Chart. The re-emergence of Britney Spears on her new single with Elton John has been an interesting story to watch! Link to article below + +https://uproxx.com/pop/britney-spears-hold-me-closer-no-1-itunes/",0 +5006,Yeah Yeah Yeahs - Maps [Alt]. ,0 +5007,"Taylor Swift turns down offer to play the 2023 Super Bowl Halftime Show. Article: https://pitchfork.com/news/taylor-swift-turns-down-offer-to-play-2023-super-bowl-halftime-show/ + +The Apple Music Super Bowl LVII Halftime Show takes place on Sunday, February 12, 2023, and despite rumors, Taylor Swift will not be performing at the Arizona event, TMZ and People report. According to TMZ, Swift was asked to perform at the NFL’s show, but declined the opportunity so that she can continue the process of re-recording her back catalog.",0 +5008,"YSK - Spotify has a “don’t play this artist” feature. Artist’s Page > … > Don’t Play This Artist + +It was easier than picking Kanye out of all of my playlists.",0 +5009,"“Beastie Boys Square” approved for Paul’s Boutique street corner in New York. The site of the famous album cover, at Ludlow and Rivington, will be officially named in honor of The Beastie Boys: MCA, Mike D, and Ad-Rock.. Article: https://pitchfork.com/news/beastie-boys-square-approved-for-pauls-boutique-street-corner-in-new-york/ + +In 2014, a New York community board rejected a proposal to rename the Lower East Side corner of Ludlow Street and Rivington Street—made famous on the cover of Paul’s Boutique—as “Beastie Boys Square.” Eight years later, a renewed application for the designation has been approved by the New York City Council, reports PIX11. A street sign honoring Michael “Mike D” Diamond, Adam “Ad-Rock” Horovitz, and the late Adam “MCA” Yauch is set to go up, pending the bill’s signature by Mayor Eric Adams. + +“As many of us know, once the Beastie Boys hit the scene, it really changed the hip-hop game,” said council member Christopher Marte, according to PIX11. “I see it as a celebration. A celebration for the Lower East Side, a celebration for hip-hop, and especially a celebration for our community who has been organizing for a really long time to make this happen.” + +LeRoy McCarthy, who spearheaded the renaming efforts, previously got a special mural to commemorate the 25th anniversary of Paul’s Boutique approved at the same spot in the Lower East Side. In 2013, a park in Brooklyn Heights was renamed Adam Yauch Park, too. + +Over the years, McCarthy also campaigned to establish A Tribe Called Quest Boulevard in Queens—the corner of Linden Boulevard and 192nd Street in the St. Albans neighborhood was later renamed after Phife Dawg—and Boulevard De La Soul in Long Island.",0 +5010,"What on earth is the point of keeping MTV?. MTV had a fantastic run from 1981-1991, it was easily the golden era of music videos, so many fantastic videos then like Father Figure, Thriller, When Doves Cry, Like A Virgin and many more and even many music related MTV shows that were short lived were awesome too like Club MTV. + +Starting from the early 1990's, they were gradually drifting away from music videos and then it you had so many crap like The Real World, Celebrity Death Match, Daria, Beavis and Butthead, it was gradually killing MTV and what it once was. + +It hasn't had any relevance and impact on youth culture since the early 1990's. It use to be about music not crappy shows + +Discuss.",0 +5011,"We are Tim McIlrath and Joe Principe from the band Rise Against. Ask us anything.. We're Tim McIlrath and Joe Principe from the band Rise Against. We just released our new video for Pain Mgmt [here](https://youtu.be/d-x8YiEpe4s) and you can listen to our EP Nowhere Generation II anywhere now. We are heading on our European tour this Fall and are here to answer any of your questions! + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/gbdt3lfo25o91.jpg",0 +5012,"Best songs that are 10 or more minutes long?. Or any you find extremely underrated. Live songs also + +A few of my picks - + +Rosetta stoned by Tool + +Maggot Brain by Funkadelic + +Playing in the band by The Greatful Dead",0 +5013,"Arctic Monkeys releasing their new album on October 21st.. You can preorder it now, since about half an hour. + +[https://store-eu.arcticmonkeys.com/products/the-car-lp](https://store-eu.arcticmonkeys.com/products/the-car-lp) + +Any AM lover? Thoughts or comments on the track list? + +​ + +Edit: There was a concert in Zurich yesterday where they played the second song of the tracklist live. + +""**I Ain’t Quite Where I Think I Am""** + +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cZxwDLbBV20](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cZxwDLbBV20) + +What's your vibe for this album?",0 +5014,The Offspring - The Kids arent Alright [Pop Punk]. ,0 +5015,"Tony Bennett, 95, becomes second-oldest Grammy winner with traditional pop album award. ",0 +5016,Foo Fighters Cancel All Tour Dates After Drummer Taylor Hawkins' Death. ,0 +5017,Electric Six - Gay Bar (Uncensored) [rock]. ,0 +5018,"What band or musician never released a bad studio album?. Any genre of music + +My personal pick is Rage against the machine 4 studio albums all packed with jams",0 +5019,"Ozzy Osbourne Announces New Album “Patient Number 9” Featuring Tony Iommi, Taylor Hawkins, Eric Clapton, & More. ",0 +5020,Attack on Titan The Final Season Part 2 Opening Theme Reaches #1 on U.S. Billboard Hard Rock Chart. ,0 +5021,"Do you like Phil Collins?. I've been a big Genesis fan ever since the release of their 1980 album, Duke. Before that, I really didn't understand any of their work. Too artsy, too intellectual. It was on Duke where Phil Collins' presence became more apparent. I think Invisible Touch was the group's undisputed masterpiece. It's an epic meditation on intangibility. At the same time, it deepens and enriches the meaning of the preceding three albums. Listen to the brilliant ensemble playing of Banks, Collins and Rutherford. You can practically hear every nuance of every instrument. In terms of lyrical craftsmanship, the sheer songwriting, this album hits a new peak of professionalism. + +Take the lyrics to Land of Confusion. In this song, Phil Collins addresses the problems of abusive political authority. In Too Deep is the most moving pop song of the 1980s, about monogamy and commitment. The song is extremely uplifting. Their lyrics are as positive and affirmative as anything I've heard in rock. Phil Collins' solo career seems to be more commercial and therefore more satisfying, in a narrower way. Especially songs like In the Air Tonight and Against All Odds. But I also think Phil Collins works best within the confines of the group, than as a solo artist, and I stress the word artist. This is [Sussudio,](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r0qBaBb1Y-U) a great, great song, a personal favorite.",0 +5022,Jamiroquai - Virtual Insanity [Jazz Funk]. ,0 +5023,Ukraine to Mark Independence From Soviet Union With a Massive Rave. ,0 +5024,Describe a band poorly but accurately. Cocaine fueled dance/gospel group fronted by a gangly white guy who moves like spaghetti and happens be on the autism spectrum.,0 +5025,"California Legislature passes rap lyrics bill. Lawmakers in the State Assembly and Senate have unanimously voted in favor of what would be a first-of-its-kind law, which would limit the use of rappers’ songwriting in court cases.. Article: https://pitchfork.com/news/california-legislature-passes-rap-lyrics-bill-which-awaits-gov-newsoms-signature/ + +The California Senate and Assembly both unanimously approved a bill today (August 22) that would restrict the use of rap lyrics as evidence, Billboard reports. The bill, AB 2799, would ban lyrics from being cited in court cases unless prosecutors can illustrate that the words are directly relevant to the case in question and won’t “inject racial bias into the proceedings.” The bill will now go to Gov. Gavin Newsom’s desk, and he is reportedly expected to sign it into law. + +The bill would also require that courts consider testimony from experts on the genre of expression being discussed by prosectors, as well as testimony citing research and studies regarding how a genre is met with racial bias. + +“Under current law rap artists can feel as though they are being read their Miranda Rights before they even begin to write music: ‘You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law,’” Assemblymember Reggie Jones-Sawyer, the bill’s author, said in a statement shared with Pitchfork. “We should not stymie the creative expression of artists. Unfortunately, racial biases play a role when talking about musical genres. Rap music lyrics share many similarities to that of other musical categories yet are singled out by the judicial system to characterize an artist. AB 2799 would disallow prosecutors from triggering racial biases or reinforcing racial stereotypes and it gives judges guidance on the use of creative expression in court.” + +A similar bill was passed in the New York State Senate earlier this year; the New York legislation, however, did not pass the State Assembly. California’s bill arrives as Atlanta rappers Young Thug and Gunna were arrested in Georgia on RICO charges, and the indictment extensively cited the artist’ lyrics. On a federal level, a new bill called the Restoring Artistic Protection Act (or RAP Act) was introduced in the U.S. House of Representatives; it similarly seeks to limit how creative expression can be used against artists in court.",0 +5026,"Mariah Carey recorded a grunge album in 1995, and she wants you to hear it.. ",0 +5027,"What bands have multiple lead singers?. Not bands who replaced the singer. But bands where different people sing certain songs. Obvious ones for me are + +The Beatles - I still enjoy trying to tell who's singing. John and Paul mostly but Ringo and George sang some. + +Fleetwood Mac - three different singers. Right? + +The Cars - I didn't realize that two guys sang until Ric Ocasec passed away. + +The Who - Pete Townsend sung some.",0 +5028,"There are 4,228 songs in my playlist, pick a number and I will reply with the song it correspondes with. Then you can listen to the song and rate it or something... + +Have a wonderful day/night :) + +EDIT: it's getting kinda late here... I'm going to sleep and I'll continue tomorrow + +EDIT 2: I'm back",0 +5029,"My 7-year-old nephew has taken up drumming. Who are some great drummers I can show him for inspiration?. Hey folks! Like the title says, I’m looking for some drummers I can introduce my little nephew to. Here are some that I’ve already shown him: + +Buddy Rich + +Art Blakey + +Mark Simmons + +Danny Carey + +Brann Dailor + +Neil Peart + +Gavin Harrison + +Looking forward to your recommendations, and thanks in advance! + +EDIT: I am floored. Thanks all, great suggestions, you guys are awesome. + +EDIT 2: Some of you raised a point about potentially discouraging or intimidating him with some of the flashier players, which is an excellent point I hadn’t considered.",0 +5030,"Who is a terrible performer live?. Who is the worst performer to see live? I have been to multiple shows where “artists” would show up late, cancel, and play half their set, and it would be years later I realized they are not that great. What are some bad experiences you have with artists?",0 +5031,"""Perfect"" albums?. The only records I've heard from front to back that I'd give a 10/10 are: + +Jeff Buckley - Grace + +Alice in Chains - Dirt/Tripod/Jar of Flies + +Fleetwood Mac - Rumours + +Tyler Childers - Purgatory + +Gregory Alan Isakov - This Empty Northern Hemisphere/The Weatherman + +The Wonder Years - The Greatest Generation + + +At least that's all I can think of as of now. ""Perfect"" meaning you never skip any songs, the album flows seamlessly, and there's an overall theme. + +edit: ....jesus, thanks for all the suggestions!",0 +5032,"Do you know any songs beginning with a sound of a bell?. Recently I realized that I know three different songs starting with a bell (those being For Whom The Bell Tolls from Metallica, Hells Bells from AC/DC and High Hopes from Pink Floyd) and I was wondering if there are any other.",0 +5033,"Feist Leaves Arcade Fire Tour, Citing Win Butler Allegations. ",0 +5034,"Hip Hop Song Linked to a Reduction in Suicides in the US: A popular hip hop song by Logic has led to an increase in calls to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline and a reduction in suicide, a new study reports.. ",0 +5035,"Ticketmaster - “Sorry, another fan beat you to this ticket” but the concert is in 5 months and it’s not a mega-popular band.. I apologize if this is the wrong sub- please point me to the right one if so. I’m trying to see Bikini Kill 5 months from now. I am really surprised, as I’ve never had this issue at another concert or with ticket master— I saw The Smashing Pumpkins after buying tickets the night before the show. Bikini Kill is a big deal but they aren’t Lady Gaga big, and the concert isn’t for 5 months. Could it be a bot attack? Is there any way to beat this? + +UPDATE: screw ticket master. I went on the venue’s website like a couple of you said to do and I got tickets for much cheaper than ticket master advertised them to be, no hassle. Deleting my account immediately… what the hell.",0 +5036,"What cool female guitarists should I recommend to my 15yr old niece?. My niece is a pretty good guitar player and singer already, and has her own taste in music that I'm not going to disrupt, but I want to introduce her to some underrated cool guitar players she can check out. I'm not thinking about amazing virtuoso guitar players, or old school artists, but sort of newer hip guitarists so she can see what some women are currently doing in the music scene. +I already recommended: Tash Sultana, Jessica Dobson from Deep Sea Diver, & Brittany Howard from Alabama Shakes. I can't really think of anyone else at the moment.",0 +5037,"Shout out to Tears for Fears. I saw them last night and was absolutely blown away by how insanely good they sound live. Absolute legends for being able to keep going for as long as they have and never lose their sound. Also huge shout out to their back up singer Lauren Evans, she absolutely killed it and has an amazing voice.",0 +5038,"The Cure to release a new album in October entitled ""Songs of a Lost World."". ",0 +5039,"25 years ago today, Notorious B.I.G. was murdered. ",0 +5040,"Can we appreciate Linda Ronstadt BEFORE she is gone?. 11 Grammy Awards +24 studio albums, 15 compilation or greatest hits albums +14 RIAA Platinum albums, one which was 7x Platinum!, 3=3x, 3-2x. +4 RIAA Gold albums +100 million record sales worldwide +Twenty-one top 40 singles, ten in thetop 10, one #1 +Voted the Top Female Pop Singer of the 1970s... + +​ + +and she is (and will always be) drop dead gorgeous... + +​ + +[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Linda\_Ronstadt#Discography](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Linda_Ronstadt#Discography)",0 +5041,"Vinyl sets new weekly sales peak for modern era: 2.11 million vinyl albums were sold in the week ending December 23, making it the biggest vinyl sales week since at least 1991. https://pitchfork.com/news/vinyl-sets-new-weekly-sales-peak-for-modern-era/ + +Over two million vinyl LPs were sold last week, making it the biggest vinyl sales week since at least 1991, Billboard reports via MRC Data. The total—2.11 million vinyl albums sold—bested the 1.842 million LPs sold during the week ending December 24, 2020. + +It’s been a big year for vinyl sales, which already increased 29.2 percent in 2020, according to the RIAA. Strong vinyl sales in 2021 have been bolstered by marquee albums from Adele, Taylor Swift, and Billie Eilish. Back in August, Eilish’s Happier Than Ever sold 73,000 vinyl copies in its first week—the second-highest vinyl sales week since at least 1991. Then, in November, Swift’s Red (Taylor’s Version) sold 114,000 vinyl LPs in its first week, setting a new record for the modern era. And, later that month, Adele’s 30 moved 108,000 units, making it the new second-best debut vinyl sales week. + +Adele’s 30 has continued to sell well on vinyl, becoming the best-selling vinyl album of the year. 30 was also the top-selling vinyl album during the record-breaking week, moving 59,000 copies, according to Billboard.",0 +5042,Franz Ferdinand - Take Me Out [Rock]. ,0 +5043,"On this day, 30 years ago, Billy Ray Cyrus released ""Achy Breaky Heart"". ",0 +5044,"What’s your favorite bass line in a rock song?. Any song by RHCP would be my answer, but Californication is probably my favorite.",0 +5045,Dio - Rainbow In The Dark [Heavy metal] 1983. ,0 +5046,"Seasonal reminder that sia has a Xmas album of all original songs. My family listens every year and it's one of the only Xmas albums I enjoy.. Sia is one of the only artists I know of that has an original Xmas album. It's great as a lot of the old xmas songs bring up not the best memories. Also Sia's songs aren't religious which is awesome. I'm not affiliated in any way, just want to share some music that I like. + +https://open.spotify.com/album/2vcGYJcPfXUmCdcXXqqukg?si=GJHYKlMMRCWE7S69swfuzA&utm_source=copy-link",0 +5047,"Happy 49th Anniversary to the greatest album ever made...The Dark Side Of The Moon. I'll never forget my first time listening to this album with my father. We were fishing together at my grandparents lakehouse when the maniacal laughter from ""Breathe"" began playing from my dad's boombox. + +""Whose that?"" I asked him + +""Oh them? That's Pink Floyd...you'll understand how important they are when you're a little older. But that doesn't mean you still can't enjoy them."" + +Boy was he right... + +If you can find a more iconic album than this masterpiece, let me know...but until then, let's take today to appreciate a work of art <3",0 +5048,Mac Miller died 4 years ago today. ,0 +5049,"A butthole surfers album at the wrong speed affected my taste in music.. When I was 14 in 1989, I was given a copy of the first Butthole Surfers album Brown Reason to Live. I was not familiar with the band, and it was just another used record in a pile handed over to me by my local record store owner to listen to. He had taken an interest in my musical growth and was letting me preview a curated selection of vinyl and to buy what I liked and return the rest. I recognize now how fortunate I was for this. + +The thing about Brown Reason to Live is there isn’t any indication on the label for the speed it should be played. It jokingly states 69 RPM, and I thought that since 33 times 3 is 69, that it should be played 33 1/3. I listened to that album at the wrong speed for 13 years and thought of it as a sludge masterpiece. I still have my cassette I dubbed it to so I could listen in my car. I still think that album was my gateway to liking The Melvins so much and then getting more into doom and stoner metal. Since then, I’ve always been partial to the slower metal sub genres. + +When I was 27, I put my record on while hanging out with some friends and about 2 minutes into Lee Harvey’s Grave someone said “yo, record is on the wrong speed”. I was incredulous and insistent it was right. Once my buddies realized I wasn’t joking around they couldn’t believe I had been making that mistake for years. They played it at 45 and It just sounded horrible to me. I couldn’t even listen to it and switched it to something else. + +I still get teased from time to time by my old buddies and I think it’s hilarious too. However, I still only listen to that album at the wrong speed. + +**EDIT** + +I just found that someone uploaded a song from the album at 33 1/3. Get a glimpse into my 14 year old world. Dang. I turned out ok as an adult + +[The Revenge of Anus Presley](https://youtu.be/8odKI9c5AQ0)",0 +5050,"They Might Be Giants perform ""Sapphire Bullets of Pure Love"" in reverse. ",0 +5051,I would pay extra to go to a phone free concert.. I would litterally pay double ticket price to go to a concert where phones are not allowed. To see a whole crowd living in the moment and seeing the performer with my eyes instead of the screen of the phone in my view. I barely had a chance to go to one or two concerts before they become a sea of phone screens as I'm not particularly old but I remember a sea of lighters during a slow song and I remember seeing a crowd there to see and listen to live music and it was amazing. I'm sure lots of people disagree with me but that's why it would be cool for not all concerts to be phone free so that everyone can enjoy concerts the way they prefer.,0 +5052,The B-52s Announce Farewell Tour. ,0 +5053,Eminem turns 50 today. ,0 +5054,The Mighty Mighty Bosstones - The Impression That I Get [Ska]. ,0 +5055,"James Blunt’s music deployed in New Zealand to repel COVID protesters. Police have also been blasting out Barry Manilow's greatest hits and '90s Spanish pop smash 'Macarena'.. https://www.nme.com/news/music/james-blunts-music-deployed-in-new-zealand-to-repel-covid-protesters-3160626 + +Police in New Zealand have turned to the music of James Blunt in their latest effort to repel protesters who are camped outside of parliament. + +The demonstrators, who are angry at COVID-19 vaccine mandates, have been blocking the streets of the country’s capital, Wellington, since Tuesday (February 8). + +Tactics used by the local authorities to try and get rid of the protesters have included turning on the water sprinklers on the lawn where they camped. But protesters retaliated by digging trenches and building makeshift drainpipes to re-route the water, according to BBC News. + +When the sprinkler tactic proved ineffective, police turned to blasting out Barry Manilow‘s greatest hits, which include ‘Mandy’ and ‘Could It Be Magic’, on a 15-minute loop from one of parliament’s loudspeakers, as well as the ’90s Spanish hit ‘Macarena’ and a number of vaccine messages. + +After catching wind of what was happening, Blunt offered his services to New Zealand authorities via Twitter. “Give me a shout if this doesn’t work @NZPolice,” he tweeted, sharing a story on the protests. + +A few hours later, it appeared the singer-songwriter’s offer was accepted, with his 2005 chart-topping hit ‘You’re Beautiful’ being played over the loudspeaker. + +However, protesters seemed undeterred, responding by singing other songs over Blunt’s track and playing songs such as Twisted Sister‘s ‘We’re Not Gonna Take It’, all while dancing in the rain. + +The demonstrators have been inspired by similar protest in Canada but their list of grievances has expanded to include general dissatisfaction with Jacinda Ardern’s government. + +On Thursday (February 10) police said they had arrested 122 people, charging many with trespassing or obstruction. + +New Zealand has employed strict coronavirus restrictions to contain the virus for almost two years now. Lockdowns and an international border closure has helped keep infection rates and death toll numbers very low. + +But the duration of many restrictions – including a minimum 10-day isolation and a vaccine mandate – has fueled growing resentment in the community.",0 +5056,Legendary Motown Songwriter Lamont Dozier Dies at 81. ,0 +5057,"In 1999, on the 1st of June, Napster launched. ",0 +5058,"StubHub is selling gift cards that CANNOT BE REDEEMED. Stop buying StubHub gift cards immediately!!! + +Gift Card says redeem at purchase. When purchase tickets there is no option to put in gift card number. + +FAQ says to redeem into StubHub wallet. StubHub wallet giving out errors. + +Called customer service and they knew about the problem, said they would reimburse me to my account. I read off the card number and was assured i would get the money in a few days. No dice. And still no way to enter the card number into the website either at purchase or to the Stubhub wallet. + +This is a disaster. Has to be illegal to sell gift cards that cant be redeemed (!?). I'd bet theres a million dollars worth of sold gift cards that are currently nonredeemable. WTF",0 +5059,Foo Fighters cancels all upcoming tour dates. Tweet: [https://twitter.com/foofighters/status/1508878928105988096](https://twitter.com/foofighters/status/1508878928105988096),0 +5060,"Bill Pitman, Wrecking Crew guitarist, is dead at 102. ",0 +5061,"Does anyone else sing along to a song in the same accent as the vocalist, even if it’s different to your own?. To elaborate, I’m Australian, and the vast majority of music that I consume is by American bands. I’m beginning to notice that I can (more or less) naturally sing along to a song with an American inflection, often without noticing it. It’s probably entirely natural, but I honestly find it quite fascinating, and I was wondering if anyone else has experienced it.",0 +5062,"Crosby, Stills & Nash return to Spotify after 5-month boycott from Joe Rogan-Spotify controversy. Article: https://pitchfork.com/news/crosby-stills-and-nash-return-to-spotify-after-5-month-boycott/ + +Crosby, Stills & Nash have returned to Spotify after a five-month boycott. The group and its members announced in February that they were joining Neil Young’s protest against the platform—citing misinformation about COVID-19 and vaccines—and their catalogs mostly disappeared soon after. Now, Graham Nash says in a statement that Spotify has “taken a positive step by adding a Covid content advisory to podcasts that include a conversation about Covid, directing listeners to a Covid information hub.” The group will donate revenue from its first month back on Spotify to charity, according to the statement. + +Young first demanded Spotify remove his music from the platform in January this year. He called out the Joe Rogan Experience podcast, which doctors have repeatedly urged Spotify to censor. “They can have [Joe] Rogan or Young,” he said. “Not both.” + +Young was soon joined by Joni Mitchell, Crazy Horse’s Nils Lofgren, India.Arie, Graham Nash, and later Stephen Stills and David Crosby, who all removed large portions of their catalogs. At the time, the trio said, “We support Neil and we agree with him that there is dangerous disinformation being aired on Spotify’s Joe Rogan podcast.” They appear to be the first of the high-profile departures to return to the platform.",0 +5063,My lifetime of concerts from the days when tickets had stubs [1970s-2000s]. ,0 +5064,No Doubt - Don't Speak [Alternative Rock]. ,0 +5065,RIP Ronnie Spector. Voice of the Ronettes has died at age 78. [AP News link](https://apnews.com/article/entertainment-music-arts-and-entertainment-phil-spector-ronnie-spector-84c905db02a01ffa43a6052c3ce66920?utm_medium=AP&utm_campaign=SocialFlow&utm_source=Twitter),0 +5066,Rage Against the Machine cancels 2023 North American Tour (Zack tore his Achilles tendon). ,0 +5067,Vicente Fernandez has passed away at age 81. [ww.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna8497](https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna8497),0 +5068,"PSA: The box office is still a thing! Quit giving Live Nation free money.. As summer concert season is heating up and COVID restrictions are in the rearview, you're probably excited to see live music. Just a reminder that you don't have to always buy tickets on a Ticketmaster/Live Nation website. + +While it may be unavoidable for certain large shows that sell out fast, you don't have always line LiveNation's pockets with convenience fees. Search box office times for the venue and just buy them in person if you're nearby. If not, many venues still let you order by phone (likely with a small convenience fee though). + +It's well worth my time to drive to the venue to save $30-$40 on a pair of concert tickets. + + + +EDIT 1: many have pointed out that a portion of those service fees actually go to the artist. You can still save money and use it to buy merch that the artist gets 100% of profits from. + +Also this doesnt work everywhere all the time, but its still worth your while to at least research and give it a try if you want to save money for drinks and merch. + +EDIT 2: This has worked for me at LiveNation owned amphitheaters in Raleigh, Charlotte, Atlanta, and Asheville",0 +5069,"Rock & Roll Hall of Fame to Induct Dolly Parton, Eminem, Duran Duran, Pat Benatar, Lionel Richie and More. [https://variety.com/2022/music/news/rock-roll-hall-fame-inductees-dolly-parton-duran-eminem-judas-priest-1235257791/](https://variety.com/2022/music/news/rock-roll-hall-fame-inductees-dolly-parton-duran-eminem-judas-priest-1235257791/) + +>Well, Dolly Parton didn’t get her wish. The country superstar will be inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in November — a possibility she said last week she’d come to terms with and would “graciously” accept, after initially trying to get herself nixed — along with Duran Duran, Pat Benatar, Eminem, Lionel Richie, Eurythmics and Carly Simon. + +**Performer Category** + +* Pat Benatar +* Duran Duran +* Eminem +* Eurythmics +* Dolly Parton +* Lionel Richie +* Carly Simon + +**Musical Excellence Award** + +* Judas Priest +* Jimmy Jam & Terry Lewis + +**Early Influence Award** + +* Harry Belafonte +* Elizabeth Cotten + +**Ahmet Ertegun Award** + +* Allen Grubman +* Jimmy Iovine +* Sylvia Robinson",0 +5070,Eiffel 65 - Blue - Da Ba Dee (1998) [Dance]. ,0 +5071,Dave Grohl. Happy 53rd birthday to the Nirvana drummer and Foo Fighters leader Dave Grohl!,0 +5072,Mac Miller - NPR Music Tiny Desk Concert [hip hop]. ,0 +5073,Souls Of Mischief - 93’ Til Infinity [90s hip-hop]. ,0 +5074,Audioslave - Like A Stone [Rock]. https://open.spotify.com/track/3YuaBvuZqcwN3CEAyyoaei?si=rvq-uCuQQny8DiBRaJEdVw&utm_source=copy-link,0 +5075,Thundercat - Dragonball Durag [R&B] [Soul] (2020). ,0 +5076,"In your opinion, which albums should everyone hear at least once?. In your opinion, which albums should everyone hear at least once? + +I'm looking to broaden my musical tastes and was curious about your must-listen albums. It may be any genre; I simply want to know what you believe should be heard. It could be by unappreciated artists or well-known artists, but you must think it's a good album. It would be nice if it was accessible on Spotify, but it doesn't have to be. + +So which albums, in your opinion, should everyone listen to at least once, and why? + +EDIT: I fell asleep and woke up to see that this post had blown up. Thank you all very much for all of your suggestions. I'll listen to as many as I can and come back to this thread anytime I am looking for ""new"" music to listen to. Thank you all once again. + +​",0 +5077,The Wallflowers - One Headlight (Official Video) [Rock]. ,0 +5078,Sublime released ‘40 oz. to Freedom’ thirty years ago today.. Groundbreaking album. Still one of my favorites. I tell ya my roommate had it freshman year of college (‘97) I was like yeahhhhh,0 +5079,"Most Modern Country is pandering trash. I can't understand how anyone can like some of the modern country I hear when I'm around people that listen to country. Example: the song I just heard was simply a sort of hip hop rip off with the singer having a southern drawl singing about having a truck with big tires. I get that it's trendy to certain people but it's just as dumb as mumble rap. There is some classic country and a few modern artists that actually write good music but honestly, what is the appeal of garbage like this. It's as bad as Takashi 6×9 IMO.",0 +5080,"potentially unpopular opinion, john mayer is massively overrated. i can appreciate that he’s an excellent guitarist but most of his music is just so bland that i don’t think he deserves to be held in as high a regard as he is",0 +5081,"All this talk about closing songs, what’s an epic opening song from an album?. For me what comes to mind is The End on My Chemical Romance’s Black Parade. Also on Fun.’s album Some Nights, Some Nights(intro). + +Edit: so so so many good songs, great job everyone! + +Edit 2: this is going to make a helluva playlist",0 +5082,"[crosspost] We’re The Black Keys, a rock band from Akron, Ohio. We just released our new album Dropout Boogie and we’re getting ready to kick off our North American tour. AMA!. ",0 +5083,Led Zeppelin's John Paul Jones Re-Records 'When The Levee Breaks' With Musicians From Around The World….I want to research every musician that appears in this clip now! there are too many to name here just watch the thing [Blues/Rock]. ,0 +5084,"What (at least 3-person) bands have members that ""most"" music fans would know all their names? After thinking it over with friends, we only came two! The Beatles and Red Hot Chili Peppers. Some close contenders inside. Add more?. So we were thinking of not who are the most popular bands out there, but also what bands are made of all popular individuals as well. + +You take a band like Foo Fighters or Pearl Jam and yeah maybe I can get 80% of them, but definitely don't know a few, and ""most"" music fans would probably be even lower. You want to say Led Zepplin, but could most music fans name John Paul Jones? Same with Rolling Stones. How many people can name Ronnie/Charlie? Maybe lots. We forgot. But again just spitballing here. + +Nirvana could come close. U2? We just couldn't find many!! + + + +The Beatles + + +Red Hot Chili Peppers + + +Pink Floyd + + +Rolling Stones + + +Fleetwood Mac + + +Led Zeppelin + + +Rush + + +Spice Girls + + +Wu-Tang Clan + + +Edit: I’m not Flea",0 +5085,"We are WALK THE MOON, aka the Shut Up And Dance guys. We just released our fourth album and it’s better than the last three combined. AMA.. We make original music and play it around the world in an effort to make people dance and cry at the same time. Our latest album HEIGHTS just dropped. We started in a college basement and now our music has billions of streams, we love our moms, we stand for Queer rights. Ask us literally anything. + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/cwjlzevz9l581.jpg",0 +5086,The Surfrajettes - Britney Spears Toxic [Surf Pop Cover]. ,0 +5087,"'Stranger Things' Star Maya Hawke Releases Explicit Music Video for Her Single, ""Thérèse"". ",0 +5088,"Kali Uchis - After The Storm ft. Tyler, The Creator, Bootsy Collins [Funk/Soul]. ",0 +5089,'Fame’ and ‘Flashdance’ singer Irene Cara has died aged 63.. ,0 +5090,Garbage - Stupid Girl (Late Show with David Letterman 1996) [alternative rock]. ,0 +5091,"I really miss Andre 3000’s music. He made some really good music especially around 1990’s -2000’s. Anyone else feel the same? + +Edit: kicking back timeline as many of you have pointed out and also to clarify that I miss the fact that there’s no new music lately.",0 +5092,"BBC News - Ticketmaster demand-based pricing system criticised. BBC News - Ticketmaster demand-based pricing system criticised +https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/entertainment-arts-62919634",0 +5093,"Best Male rock singer of all time?. Who do you think is the best male rock singer of all time? Obvious Choices are Freddie Mercury, Robert Plant and Axl Rose and others + +I honestly feel like Paul McCartney doesn't get mentioned enough he has had some insane vocals and has many songs where it almost sounds like a completely different singer. I've got a feeling his vocals are some of the best ever then you look st his vocals on Oh Darling, helter skelter etc. Definitely think he is right up there and I've always preferred his voice over Lennons.",0 +5094,"Frank Turner: ""Addiction will always be part of my life. I think about drugs three times an hour. It's a constant fight."". ",0 +5095,Gogol Bordello - Start Wearing Purple [post-punk]. ,0 +5096,"Alice in Chains released their album Dirt 30 years ago today!. Article: https://albumism.com/anniversaries/alice-in-chains-dirt + +What's everybody's favorite song from this one? Doesn't get much better than ""Would?"" in my opinion",0 +5097,"Bob Seger is an American treasure. Not many artists can tell a story quite like Seger. His music always takes me to a better place. Roll Me Away, Turn the Page, Mainstreet, Night Moves, Against the Wind, You'll Accompny Me, Hollywood Nights, etc etc..so many timeless classics. Bob Seger, in my opinion, is the greatest rock artist the United States has produced.",0 +5098,Kanye West Locked Out of Twitter Following Anti-Semitic Tweet. ,0 +5099,"I just recently discovered Portishead. Title. I just can't stop listening to them. They're unlike anything I've ever heard, which is rare for me because I basically obsess over finding new music. Their first two albums sound so modern compared to bands at the time. Is there any other bands out there like this? How do you all feel about them?",0 +5100,Green Day - She [Punk]. ,0 +5101,"Made a Spotify playlist based off of “most beautiful songs you’ve ever heard” on r/askreddit. Check it out if you want and leave some song suggestions you may have ! + +https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1FUbvTL8qQrxQ3veYhNJjH?si=1xYXqQy8TAWFOtPfKqmZGA",0 +5102,"Are the Beastie Boys respected in the rap community?. Not looking for a big debate or nothing, just a general pulse from the community. They were obviously very popular and have alot of fans but are they considered greats the same way we look at Tupac or Eminem in the rap world (not saying they are as big as these 2 but respected for what they accomplished). + +Edit: just to clarify, I'm asking in part because how often my freinds talk about the best and they never either bring up the Beastie Boys or have never heard of them but will mention rappers from the same era",0 +5103,"Japanese musicians will held charity concert for Ukraine tomorrow.. # No war. I’m Against war. + +We call for support and donations to those who had been hurted by President Putin’s invasion of Ukraine and are in danger. + +I want to have this place for people who have vague feelings and are anxious about this situation. + +Date/time: 5th of March (sat) from 12:30 to sunset Place: South exit of Shinjuku station + +Streaming : [https://youtu.be/Qa8CNW\_cgvc](https://youtu.be/Qa8CNW_cgvc) + +# Statement of the event below + +I’m against war. + +I typed the word in and tried to post it, but my emotion couldn’t be settled and it certainly eroded my daily life. + +The anger and sadness from the evilness of war is indescribable. And no matter what words I try to describe, the feeling of helplessness still sticks around me. I’m just opening and closing my mouth in my bed. + +I’m against war. Is it meaningless to say? + +On 26th of February, I joined a protest against the invasion of Ukraine by Putin’s Russian troops. No, it was more like I was just standing and listening to the urgency of the speeches of the Ukraine people rather than participating . + +“ I came to the protest for the first time otherwise I just crying in my home.”  A old Japanese lady who was waving a small Ukraine flag at the back of the crowd told me with her small voice. I replied I felt the same. + +Is this little flag waving by the lady meaningless? I kept thinking. + +Although the speech ended, my reality of living in Japan in 2022 had nowhere to go and was floating. + +Some faces I knew remained at the scramble intersection in Shibuya, perhaps they had the same feelings as me. + +There we had dialogue not just sharing the information. + +I’ve been to some protests , but I’ve never settled here well. It isn’t easy to get consensus between different people. In the protest hosted by Ukraine people on 26th of February, there was a flyer posted on the statue of Hachiko by someone saying “Kill Putin” under the flyer of “No war”. + +I closed my eyes from the contradiction. The enthusiasm is always close to danger no matter how beautiful it sounds and this is why I’ve never fit in protests. + +Still, protests create new possibilities by meeting people. Going out to the city, meeting people with your own voice and feelings have huge potential that goes beyond imagination. In fact, this NO WAR 0305 action started from the day of 26th by seeing friends at the protest. + +Meeting people opens up infinite new possibilities. Therefore, I believe that it is meaningful to create a place to gather, even if it is under the pandemic. There is no difference from the Zenkankakusai (The music festival that Mahito has been hosting for over 10 years) that I personally cherished. + +One of my Ukraine friends complained to me, “ Everyone has sympathy for Ukraine but they don’t really take action.” + +In this NO WAR 0305protest, I would like to ask you to donate to the war victims and refugee support organizations. + +To take a break, I stopped writing and sat down on the bench in a park nearby. Open a can coffee and took a deep breath. + +Two kids playing with a ball in front of me. When I was looking at them, my nose became muffled. The scent of spring goes through my mask. + +There must be a park like this in Ukraine. The museum you went on the first date, ordinary way back from school, favorite view of the city from the bus stop and the grave where ancestors sleep quietly. Every destroyed building had its own original memories. + +There must have been scenery like what I’m seeing in Ukraine. + +Now people in Ukraine are suffocating on the platform of the subway, the scene keeps destroying one after another, and the seasons slowly move over. + +It’s hard to believe that more than 2000 Ukraine citizens died, how many spirits and scenery are gone. + +And among the 6000 Russian soldiers who reported to die, there would be people like the children playing in this park. + +Where the tears from partners and friends can be dropped. People who play guitar like me are now forced to hold guns. + +Imagine the song they wanted to sing. + +Music evokes the scent of life which is replaced by the number of the people who have died. + +Music reminds us of the temperatures of the people which have been referred to as Russia and Ukraine. + +I want to have the outline of hatred of war which robbed them of being able to go out and the joy of meeting people. + +The war situation changes day by day and it became more and more complicated. + +People in Ukraine are gathering together to fight despite the overwhelming difference in the strength of armed forces. But is there any reason why people really have to kill people in the first place? + +What is the feeling of leaving your hometown and passing through the burning houses, straddling the place of soot-painted memories? + +I heard the report that Russian soldiers who were much younger than me entered the battlefield despite being told to be training. + +An unthinkable domineering runs through. + +A Russian friend who came to an anti-war protest here is full of Ukraine flags. A Russian friend who can’t send money to their parents in their homeland because the bank is suspended. A Russian friend in Paris whose visa is going to expire in 2weeks and will be forced to join the army soon after he goes back to Russia. + +Complex divisions that can’t be easily stated are confused in front of me however, what is certain is I am AGAINST WAR. This is an overwhelming evil that hasn’t changed. + +What I want is not enthusiasm but the NO WAR that arrived to you through your real feelings. And I want to acknowledge that it certainly makes sense to put it into words. + +Shinjuku on 5th of March, I want ask you to bring the NO WAR placard with you. Doesn’t matter if the paintings are good or bad, respect each other’s expressions. I don’t think this anti-war protest can capture the feelings of everyone in the complex layers. On the day of the event, there will be protests organized by Ukrainians at different locations and perspectives. I think it’s healthy for each person to choose for themselves where to belong. + +As with the protests that are taking place all over the world, it is meaningful for people to get together for being against the war. + +The message that we care about you in a difficult position due to this invasion is connected like a morning relay all over the world and has a not-so-small meaning. + +Difficult situations such as Covid-19 are still continuing. If you want this rally to run to the end, please wear a mask and not be too dense, bring your imagination. And at the protest, please listen to the staff’s guidance and do not step on the Braille block. If anyone is in trouble, help the staff or the participants. I want you to be considerate. Because everyone is the party who lives in this sad situation. This is my heartfelt request. + +When the feeling of helplessness that was letting you play alone in the room begins to have a temperature, imagine people who are still living in a difficult situation at this moment. + +Those who fled Ukraine and became refugees. Those imprisoned for being anti-war under Putin’s administration, those with minorities who are even more at stake in this situation, power should be used to support them. + +Don’t waste our energies to sneer, scrutinize discussions and encourage division. + +Act means a lot even if it feels like a small voice or small amount of donation. + +Imagine what is happening now, not captured as a subject of distant country, but as a human being who lives as we do. + +Everyone should  think by themselves about what can be called justice and choose what you believe. + +On the 5th of March, I wonder if the old lady is going to come? + +It’s a crazy period but you and I still exist. + +Let’s prove we are still alive. + +Mahito the people",0 +5104,Blondie - Heart Of Glass [Pop] (1978) - Debbie Harry turns 77 today!. ,0 +5105,The Ting Tings - That's Not My Name [indie pop duo]. ,0 +5106,"What's the best American rock band of all time?. What's the single best American rock band of all time? (Not necessarily your favorite!) + +America has produced many great and influential individual musical artists, like Muddy Waters, Chuck Berry, Elvis Presley, Bob Dylan, Prince, and more. But what American rock band do you think stands with the best rock bands in history? + +I'd guess many rock observers wouldn't hesitate to put non-American bands like the Beatles and the Rolling Stones on the list of the all time best, even if they personally don't consider themselves to be fans. But it seems there is a lot less agreement when it comes to rock bands from America. + +I thought it might inspire some interesting discussion here. I'd love to hear your thoughts and opinions. Thanks in advance!",0 +5107,The Presidents Of The United States Of America - Lump [Alt Rock] (1995). ,0 +5108,"The Mars Volta announce self-titled album, their first one in 10 years, due September 16th.. ",0 +5109,Flobots - Handlebars [Alternative/Indie/Rap]. ,0 +5110,Mazzy Star - Fade Into You [Alternative/Blues Rock]. ,0 +5111,Happy 62nd to They Might Be Giants' John Flansburgh. ,0 +5112,"Never gone to a concert and want to go to the Coldplay concert but no friends want to go, should I go alone??. Update: +Firstly, I honestly never thought my post would blow up to such an extent and I’m so humbled by every one of you fellow random strangers and redditors who took time out of their day to comment and give me some solid advice. + +So, I have bought my ticket for the 21st of August this Sunday for a seated one because the standing was unaffordable, £350+ which is insane. However, I’m super excited for this concert since it’s my first one and of a band I like. Having never been to a concert, I’m just thrilled to see what’s in store for me there as an experience. I will put up an updated post, once done from the concert! + +There are a 1000+ comments so its really difficult to try replying to all but I’ll try to reply back as much as I can! +____________________________________________________ + +Original post: +Hey guys, I’m a new fellow Redditor and I want to go to the Coldplay concert but all my friends already went to the previous ones without letting me know or are not interested in Coldplay! + +I’m quite extroverted but don’t have many friends due to moving to a new city (London, UK) and their next and last concert is a week from now in my city! I have gone alone to quite a few things like movies, plays, stand-ups and enjoy them alone but a major concert as theirs has just got me worried and nerves + +Therefore, should I go alone to a concert and if I go then what should I expect as my first concert?",0 +5113,"The band that has brought me the most joy..... Sublime. Just thought I'd mention the band that has probably brought me the most joy in my life, Sublime a punk/reggae/ska band from Longbeach California. They are probably the greatest band to chill to in the world with some beer or a spliff. That said, some of their songs are quite punk rock. The reggae tunes they made though are absolutely.... Sublime! 😉 +If you like chilled reggae check out their song Badfish. I recently discovered another band called Pepper who are quite similar but have their own style and some fantastic songs. Slightly Stoopid are also well worth mentioning.",0 +5114,Genesis - Land of Confusion [Pop rock]. ,0 +5115,The Stone Roses - I Wanna Be Adored [Alt Rock]. ,0 +5116,Sublime Biopic in the Works With Sony. ‘Ozark’ writer Chris Mundy to write the script.. ,0 +5117,Legendary NAZARETH Singer DAN MCCAFFERTY Dead At 76. ,0 +5118,Elton John receives National Humanities Medal during White House performance. ,0 +5119,Sneaker Pimps - 6 Underground [Trip-hop]. ,0 +5120,"I still think Songs for the Deaf is the greatest rock and roll album of the 21st century, so far.. Obviously, there are many many other claims for this. Is This It comes to mind, Elephant, Toxicity, American Idiot, shit even QOTSA's own Like Clockwork may have a say. + +But i still think, Songs for the Deaf is unparalleled 21st century Rock and Roll. The band itself had an almighty lineup at the time of release - Dave Grohl, Mark Lanegan (RIP), Nick Oliveri and of course the mastermind himself Josh Homme. + +And as for the music itself, at the time, it was completely idiosyncratic. Absolutely no one sounded like Queens of the Stone Age, and still no one does in my opinion - like NIN, there are either ""generic imitations"" or bands echoing that sound in a ""true, less imitative way"". + +From start to finish its 100% all killer no filler. 'Deaf opens with one of the most visceral songs in the QOTSA catalogue, such a fitting choice and ends with a beautiful acoustic ballad that could be argued as a definitive homage to the Josh Homme's ""Desert"" upbringing. + +That itself actually brings a lot of understanding as to why Deaf' is so unique and in a leage of its own. Josh, was conditioned to sound like no one else. He oftened said if you sounded like someone else, you got silence instead of boo's, which was way worse. + +So, he obviously brought that discipline into creating one of the most orginal guitar albums of the 2000's, and of the 21st century so far. + +What I love is how the album is so bombastic and hard rocking, but like the bands name itself, has a layer of sensuality to it too. Go With The Flow for example - A song that makes you feel like you're moving at 200 mph, yet Homme's tender vocals and sensual lyrics are right there in the middle of it all. + +Of course, a thoroughly enjoyable moment of the album is when we get a different singer. Nick and Mark had their stand out moments to truly solidify the essence of this album. + +Like I began with, I could absolutely understand other Albums being the Greatest So Far, but in my opinion, Songs for Deaf is number 1. + +It prouldy wears its ZZ Top and Black Flag influences on its sleeve and its completely unapologetic about whats its trying to say in a Post - Nirvana world. + +Songs for the Deaf turns 20 years old today.",0 +5121,"Anyone else missing mac miller?. Probably one of the only artist i could relate to growing up, me and my friends loved his music and it created so many memories for us. Kool aid and frozen pizza is close to my heart.",0 +5122,"We Are The Warning 3 sisters from Monterrey, Mexico making and playing music is our passion. Long Live Rock and Roll! AMA!. After building a global fan following ＆ capturing the attention ＆ respect of a lineup of rock legends, Monterrey Mexico hard rock sister trio The Warning have unleashed [MAYDAY EP](https://thewarning.lnk.to/MAYDAY) via LAVA/Republic Records. If anybody can usher rock’s comeback, it’s these 3 ladies. + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/0wpp1r2dy1z71.jpg",0 +5123,Which band mates hated each other the most?. I’ve always been curious about internal feuds that bands have had. In your opinion which was the most legendary?,0 +5124,"Mark Lanegan, Rock Pioneer and Screaming Trees Frontman, Dead at 57. https://consequence.net/2022/02/mark-lanegan-dead/ + +  +> +> Mark Lanegan, the powerful force behind Screaming Trees who was also known for his work in Queens of the Stone Age and The Gutter Twins, has died at the age of 57. +> +>   +> +> +> ""Our beloved friend Mark Lanegan passed away this morning at his home in Killarney, Ireland,"" a representative said in a statement. ""A beloved singer, songwriter, author and musician he was 57 and is survived by his wife Shelley. No other information is available at this time. The family asks everyone to respect their privacy at this time.""",0 +5125,"Dance Gavin Dance bassist Tim Feerick has passed away.. https://twitter.com/DGDtheband/status/1514668275442991110?t=g8zzO0QAM5j8hwuqzcskiQ&s=09 + +""We are absolutely devastated to share the news that our friend and bass player, Tim Feerick, passed away last night. + +We ask that you respect our privacy and that of Tim's family while we deal with this heartbreaking and untimely loss. + +We will share further updates on Swanfest and our upcoming touring schedule as soon as we have them.""",0 +5126,"Red Hot Chili Peppers announce ""Return of the Dream Canteen"" new album out October 14th. https://twitter.com/ChiliPeppers/status/1551049497136009216 + +2 Albums in 1 year. They stayed busy during the pandemic.",0 +5127,"NENA - 99 Luftballons [synthpop] (1983) Happy Birthday to Gabriele Susanne Kerner, known as NENA!. ",0 +5128,"Fleetwood Mac Released Their Album, Rumours, 45 Years Ago Today. https://consequence.net/2022/02/fleetwood-mac-rumours-anniversary-analysis/ + +Success, of course, is an understatement when it comes to Rumours. The album sold more than 10 million copies during its first month out in early 1977 and eventually more than 40 million worldwide. It launched four Top 10 singles (including “Dreams” at No. 1) and won the Grammy Award for Album of the Year. Rumours was subsequently inducted into the Grammy Hall of Fame and the Library of Congress’ National Recording Registry.",0 +5129,Bo Burnham - All Eyes On Me (Song Only) [Comedy hip hop]. ,0 +5130,"Naomi Judd, of Grammy-winning duo The Judds, dies at 76. ",0 +5131,"Ten years ago today, Kendrick Lamar released his second studio album, good kid, m.A.A.d city.. ",0 +5132,Taylor Swift’s ‘Midnights’ Blasts in at No. 1 on Billboard 200 Chart With Biggest Week for an Album in 7 Years. ,0 +5133,Outkast - Da Art of Storytellin' [HipHop]. ,0 +5134,"Deftones’ White Pony is one of the greatest albums of all time, and it deserves more love outside of alternative/nu-Metal fans. My god. + +Absolutely haunting throughout its entirety. The lyricism, themes, instrumentals, Chino’s vocals and screams. Everything about this album is perfection + +I could (and have) listen to this album front-to-back multiple times a day. + +Digital Bath, Passenger, and Knife Prty are the highest points of the album IMO, with Digital Bath being the album’s magnum opus.",0 +5135,"Jeff Cook, co-founder of country band Alabama, dies at 73. ",0 +5136,"30 years ago today, Pearl Jam released the video for ‘Jeremy’ on MTV. ",0 +5137,White Town - Your Woman [Alternative Dance] (1997) Underrated classic that deserves more love.. ,0 +5138,Portishead - Glory Box [Trip Hop] (1994). ,0 +5139,"Do you like Huey Lewis and the News?. Their early work was a little too New Wave for my taste. But when *Sports* came out in '83, I think they really came into their own, commercially and artistically. The whole album has a clear, crisp sound, and a new sheen of consummate professionalism that really gives the songs a big boost. He's been compared to Elvis Costello, but I think Huey has a far more bitter, cynical sense of humor. + +In '87, Huey released *Fore!*, their most accomplished album. I think their undisputed masterpiece is ""Hip To Be Square"". A song so catchy, most people probably don't listen to the lyrics. But they should, because it's not just about the pleasures of conformity and the importance of trends. It's also a personal statement about the band itself.",0 +5140,NOFX - The Idiots Are Taking Over [Punk]. ,0 +5141,"Best examples of a great song paired with a perfect scene in a film…. It’s nearly impossible to choose my favorite song/scene duo, but three of my favorites are [Ordinary World by Duran Duran in the movie layer cake](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=k6WEatV1oEc), [Head over Heels by Tears for Fears in Donnie Darko](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VWJPa0bvWnM), and of course [Where is My Mind by Pixies in Fight Club.](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=jbWHZwD5rGQ). What are your favorites?",0 +5142,Anti-Flag Die for the Government (punk). ,0 +5143,"Megan Thee Stallion, Coldplay and Future sign petition against rap lyrics as criminal evidence in US court | Music. ",0 +5144,"Lollapalooza security guard arrested for allegedly making false mass shooting threat to leave work early. Article: https://nypost.com/2022/08/04/lollapalooza-security-guard-arrested-for-allegedly-making-false-mass-shooting-threat-to-leave-work-early/ + +A security guard who worked Chicago’s Lollapalooza music festival last weekend is accused of making fake mass shooting threats to get out of work early. + +Janya Williams, 18, allegedly sent her supervisor an anonymous message via TextNow Friday afternoon that said, “Mass shooting at 4pm location Lollapalooza. We have 150 targets.” + +The supervisor quickly contacted their supervisors and the Chicago police and the FBI were notified. + +When the supervisor told the team about the threat, Williams allegedly told the supervisor that her sister had seen a similar threat on Facebook. + +After the supervisor asked Williams to send a screenshot of the threat, she is accused of creating a Facebook account under the name “Ben Scott” and posting a message that said, “Massive shooting at Lollapalooza Grant Park 6:00 p.m.” She then took a screenshot of the post and sent it to her supervisor, prosecutors alleged. + +The FBI, however, reportedly traced the TextNow message back to Williams’ IP address and iCloud, prosecutors said. + +She allegedly admitted to faking the threats “because she wanted to leave work early,” prosecutors said, and was arrested for felony making a false terrorism threat. + +She was booked into jail and is being held on $50,000 bail. + +Lollapalooza took place Thursday through Sunday last weekend. + +Williams is scheduled to be in court on Monday.",0 +5145,"It has been 10 years since we lost MCA (Adam Yauch). Share your favorite MCA memories, stories or thoughts",0 +5146,"Just listened to Led Zeppelin IV from start to finish.. Listened to this particular LZ album for the first time in its entirety out my back garden in sunny Belfast, Northern Ireland accompanied with 7 pints of Guiness. A Rock and Roll Masterpiece.",0 +5147,"TIL The Monkees released an album of new material in 2016...and it's kind of great. Didn't have a strong opinion on the Monkees - liked the show when I was a kid, and always thought their hits were fun bubble-gum. Yesterday came across [this Rolling Stones article memorializing Michael Nesmith, who passed away last year.](https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/michael-nesmith-monkees-last-interview-final-tour-micky-dolenz-1278666/) + +It led me down the rabbit hole of discovery/re-discovery. The 2016 album has songs written by [Rivers Cuomo](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kpp-Ry2ZNhY), XTC's [Andy Partridge](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mbf6HbKZSMk), previously unused songs written by Harry Nilson and Carole King, a barely released Neil Diamond songwith Davy Jones on vocals...a fun album, and great for music nerds. + +Also led me to Nesmith's largely ignored albums with The First National Band, country rock fusion before that was a thing.",0 +5148,Fleetwood Mac’s Christine McVie dies at age 79. ,0 +5149,"20 years ago today, Wilco released ‘Yankee Hotel Foxtrot’. ",0 +5150,Blues Traveler - Hook. ,0 +5151,"Andy Fletcher of Depeche Mode has passed away. From their official FB page a few minutes ago: + +We are shocked and filled with overwhelming sadness with the untimely passing of our dear friend, family member, and bandmate Andy ""Fletch"" Fletcher. + +Fletch had a true heart of gold and was always there when you needed support, a lively conversation, a good laugh, or a cold pint. + +Our hearts are with his family, and we ask that you keep them in your thoughts and respect their privacy in this difficult time.",0 +5152,I DONT KNOW HOW BUT THEY FOUND ME - Do it all the Time [alternative/indie]. ,0 +5153,Tenacious D - Kickapoo is one of the best metal songs ever made.. Tenacious D + Meat Loaf + Dio. What a godly song with absolutely legends.,0 +5154,"'Every Breath You Take' - The Police [Cover] : My Dad has been playing bass in the LA Philharmonic for the last 35 years. During Covid lockdown all of his concerts were canceled, so he spent time creating renditions of his favorite rock songs. Here is his latest.. ",0 +5155,A Flock Of Seagulls - I Ran (So Far Away) [Rock]. ,0 +5156,"My Dad won a music award!!!. Sorry if not allowed but I’m so so so proud of him, he composed this piece for an animated short and did so well!!! I’ve attached a link in the comments if anybody wants to watch :)",0 +5157,"Opinion: B-sides often show the most interesting parts of an acts artistic work. When learning about a new act, you’re often introduced via. singles (hits). If it’s something you like, you move further a listen to the other songs on their releases. When you got past that point and if you’re hungry for more you may be lucky, that B-sides have been released. + +To clarify for those who don’t know it: B-sides are tracks, that are recorded but are not included on an album or EP. They often find their way to supplements on singles or bonus tracks in some sort. + +I’m a big fan of Manic Street Preachers. Their B-side album *Lipstick Traces* is full of truly great songs, where you dig deep into the soul of the band. On many songs, you can hear why it didn’t make it to the album, but still it’s very interesting. + +Nirvanas B-side album *Incesticide* is another example of a great album of this kind. + +With the B-sides you get to explore the more quircky sides of your favorite acts and you may even experience a more deep connection with them.",0 +5158,Fitz and the Tantrums - Moneygrabber [Indie/Soul/Pop]. ,0 +5159,"KSI here, AMA. Hi Reddit it's your boy KSI. I have a song out this Friday with Tom Grennan and I'm currently in training camp for my fight with Alex Wassabi on the 27th August, AMA! +https://i.redd.it/i01pf7omm3f91.jpg",0 +5160,"Dolly Parton says her joining Rock n' Roll Hall of Fame would be like ‘Putting AC/DC in the Country Music Hall of Fame’. Article: https://variety.com/2022/music/news/dolly-parton-rock-hall-ac-dc-country-fame-1235207998/ + +On Thursday morning, Dolly Parton ventured into the belly of Fox News’ hotbed of propaganda and misinformation, “Fox & Friends,” in an attempt to set the record straight about her decision to decline her likely nomination into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. + +“Well, I didn’t feel exactly right about that,” she said, while being interviewed on the show along with James Patterson, who co-authored her new book “Run, Rose Run.” “Because my perception, and I think the perception of most of America — I just feel like that’s more for the people in rock music. I’ve been educated since then, saying that it’s more than that, but I still didn’t feel right about it. It kind of would be like putting AC/DC in the Country Music Hall of Fame. That just felt a little out of place for me."" + +She also spoke about her decision to dedicate her appearance on the ACM awards to the people of Ukraine, even though she recently said she’d rather “pass a kidney stone” than be political. + +“Well, that’s not political, that’s a humanitarian issue there,” she replied. “And I just knew we were all going to have a big time that night while all those poor people in Ukraine were suffering and misplaced and going through all kinds of hell. So, I felt it only right for me to say something about that.” + +The Rock Hall has not yet commented on how it plans to handle the issue if Parton is indeed voted in.",0 +5161,Funkadelic - Maggot Brain [Funk Rock]. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JOKn33-q4Ao&ab\_channel=NickMystic](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JOKn33-q4Ao&ab_channel=NickMystic),0 +5162,"what do you think of the song ""Big Iron"" by Marty Robbins?. I've always liked the song, personally, I think the wordplay is clever, and the vocals sound nice.",0 +5163,"Metallica Announces New Album, '72 Seasons,' and Two-Year World Tour. ",0 +5164,"RIP The Hawk. Ronnie Hawkins, musician who called Canada home and mentored the Band, dead at 87.. ",0 +5165,"Guys Do Y’all Think Marshall Mathers LP Is A Classic??. I personally love it its also one of my favorite albums Of All Time +There are so many good songs on it and my most favorite song is “Stan”",0 +5166,"Kendrick Lamar Announces New Album ""Mr Morale & The Big Steppers"" Releasing on 5/13/22. > https://oklama.com/ + +https://twitter.com/kendricklamar/status/1516114615477825537",0 +5167,"Philip Bailey, Phil Collins - Easy Lover [Pop rock, 1984]. ",0 +5168,Green Day Frontman Says He's Renouncing Citizenship Over Roe: 'F**k America'. ,0 +5169,The Fratellis - Chelsea Dagger [rock]. ,0 +5170,Bush - Glycerine [post-grunge] 1995. ,0 +5171,"We’re Porcupine Tree, and we’ll be answering your questions about our first album in over 12 years, ‘Closure / Continuation’ today at 4pm BST!. Following a career spanning an excess of 20 years, and with 10 studio albums under their belt, Porcupine Tree have long-established an undiminishing reverence held by fans and critics alike. Hailed as a genre leading, and defying alternative rock band, their inimitable sound effortlessly flirts between a multitude of styles including the classic rock foundations of Pink Floyd and King Crimson, the downturned metal of TOOL and Opeth, and the expanding electronics of Neu! And Japan. + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/to1a63km9f791.png",0 +5172,"Jimmy Eat World - Bleed American. Bought this album at a garage sale yesterday for a dollar–popped it in for the drive home and all the memories from the 2000s came flooding back. My cousin (love you lou rip), malcolm in the middle, teenage angst, ex-gfs, ex-friends, cheap beer, cheap cigarettes–it's such a memorable album. + +Hope others feel the same!",0 +5173,Electric Light Orchestra - Don't Bring Me Down (Official Video) [rock]. ,0 +5174,"Sum 41's debut studio album, aptly named All Killer No Filler, is genuinely great all the way through.. I have been listening to this album regularly for the last couple months after finding the CD at a thrift store and I haven't gotten sick of it. I don't think I was familiar with any of the songs besides Fat Lip and In Too Deep before I picked it up and I was surprised at how good the entire thing is; every song on this thing could have been a single. And it flows so well - I absolutely love how all the songs transition into the next one. + +Though I really do love the whole thing some of my favorite tracks are Rhythms, Motivation, Heart Attack, and Summer.",0 +5175,The Presidents of the United States of America - Lump [Rock]. ,0 +5176,Peter Gabriel featuring Kate Bush - Don't Give Up [Progressive Rock]. ,0 +5177,"Hi, I’m Eric Johnson, guitarist, songwriter and occasional water skier – looking forward to answering your questions. AMA. I’m excited for everyone to hear my two new albums coming out on July 29th and tomorrow I have two more singles hitting digital outlets, “Move on Over” and “To Be Alive.” +I am looking forward to everyone hearing my new music and playing these songs live next year. + +Connect with me on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/officialericjohnson/?hl=en), [Twitter](https://twitter.com/ejupclose?lang=en), and [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/OfficialEricJohnson). +Check out [my website](https://www.ericjohnson.com/) for news and tour information +[Pre-order my album here](https://ericjohnson.lnk.to/soundtrack-yesterday). + +Ask me anything on June 9 @ 2pm ET. + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/940uyw5s9w291.jpg",0 +5178,"Dived into Led Zeppelin Today. 28M and only ever heard the mainstream songs. + +Today I dived into the discography and falling in love very quickly. + +Happy to hear some of your favorite songs that might be flying under the radar.",0 +5179,Keane - Somewhere Only We Know [Rock]. ,0 +5180,MF DOOM - Rapp Snitch Knishes [Hip Hop]. ,0 +5181,"Taylor Swift album party becomes superspreader event after nearly 100 test positive for Covid. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/world/taylor-swift-album-party-becomes-superspreader-event-nearly-100-test-p-rcna9125 + +A Taylor Swift album party in Sydney, Australia, appears to have been a superspreader event, with authorities issuing an urgent warning after the party was connected to nearly 100 Covid cases. + +In a public health alert issued on Thursday, the New South Wales Ministry of Health said it had been notified of a ""venue of concern"" in Sydney connected to at least 97 confirmed cases of Covid-19. + +The health ministry said that anyone who attended the ""On Repeat: Taylor Swift Red Party"" at the Metro Theatre from 9 p.m. local time on Friday Dec. 10 is considered a ""close contact"" of a positive Covid case and ""must immediately get tested and isolate for 7 days."" + +The health ministry said it was likely that at least some of the cases identified were the omicron variant. + +NSW Health said it was also asking all household contacts of those at the event to get tested and self-isolate until a negative result is received by everyone in the household. + +It said it was ""urgently contacting"" at least 600 people who checked into the event via a QR code. + +Anyone who did not use the QR code, it said, should ""urgently get tested and isolate."" + +The health ministry also asked that the broader community work to ""ensure other potential attendees are aware of this advice."" + +In the wake of the incident, NSW Health said it wanted to remind ""everyone of the importance of maintaining Covid-safe practices as transmission is occurring at social events during the festive period."" + +""Everyone should remain vigilant when celebrating with family, friends and colleagues and should not attend any social functions if they have any symptoms,"" it said. + +Cases in New South Wales have surged in recent days, from a 7-day average of 214 cases identified a day at the start of the month to a 7-day average of 1,091 as of Thursday, according to data maintained by the Johns Hopkins University. + +NSW Health said penalties for non-compliance with isolation, testing and quarantine rules have been increased from $1,000 for individuals to $5,000, with penalties for corporations rising from $5,000 to $10,000. + +The superspreader event also comes as countries around the world grapple with a surge in Covid cases amid the spread of the omicron variant. + +On Thursday, President Joe Biden warned of a ""winter of severe illness and death"" for those who are not vaccinated against Covid-19 amid a surge in delta infections and as omicron spreads. + +The warning came after a briefing with advisers, with the president warning omicron is ""now spreading and it's going to increase."" + +Earlier this week, the U.S. passed the grim milestone of 800,000 coronavirus deaths.",0 +5182,"Foo Fighters' Taylor Hawkins had 10 different substances in his system at the time of his death, Colombian official says. ",0 +5183,"JUST realized (20+ years later) how amazing Trent Reznor is. I've enjoyed NIN since high school (circa 1994) and after years of making music on my computer and samplers (analog & digital) just started re-listening to Pretty Hate Machine, Broken and The Downward Spiral a lot. + +Just knowing the complications of modern digital sampling (which have to be SO much less) vs ""classic"" sampling and production, in general... + +How Reznor created such AMAZING albums in the 90's is God-tier in music production. + +We can discuss, or not... but I just had to say it on a massive platform.",0 +5184,Billy Talent - Red Flag [Punk Rock]. ,0 +5185,"Happy birthday Tom Waits!. [This](https://youtu.be/W9mhsW5aWJM) is probably my favourite Tom Waits song. + +There's a leak, there's a leak in the boiler room... + +Edit - I was a few days late wishing him happy birthday, it was the 7th! Happy belated birthday Tom. + +Edit #2 - Thanks for the awards and thanks to everyone who posted links, my Monday evening Tom binge is sorted!",0 +5186,"I completely underrated Louis Armstrong before Ken Burns Jazz series slapped some sense into me.. I finally started Ken Burn's epic doc series *Jazz.* My dad and I have been trying to watch that together since I was in middle school, and as soon as we saw an open window, we jumped on it. + +Now I'm no alien to jazz music: I can hold my own in a conversation on it and have a vague sense of its history, from its stylistic evolution to its notable historical figures. Upon reflection though, it appears to have been more of a surface level perception. I didn't know that the saxophone was a late edition to the genre (or that clarinets were even considered ""cool"" at some point), the existence of people like Chick Webb, or Coleman Hawkins role as a sort of proto-bebop musician (especially on his rendition of *Body and Soul*), or how ""bebop"" was kind of the punk rock of jazz music: Charlie Parker juxtaposed against the jazz before him is *exhilarating.* + +The biggest takeaway though: sweet Jesus did I take Louis Armstrong for granted. I feel like if you'd asked me about him prior to this, I would've said ""Oh yeah. He's the smiling trumpet guy who sang 'What a Wonderful World' right?"" I always thought of him as ""America's crazy uncle"" or something, a light entertainer, a kitsch one at that. Think the Biz Markie of the early 20th century lol. + +I've definitely Charo'd the poor guy. Dude was an absolute master of his craft, more or less turning jazz from a mere novelty into the art form we know it to be. There's a distinct before and after when it comes to his presence amongst the genre. Even little things like scatting and referring to people as ""cat"" largely came from him. It's also fascinating with context to see how he (and Ellington to some degree) were pretty avant-garde for their time. Even the way he sings, a voice I always dismissed instead of seeing the quality within it. One of the episodes ends with his rendition of ""West End Blues"" and [you can tell it's done as a total mic drop on Burns' part.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=blitf8jBXQw) It totally knocked me out. + +I've been listening to his collection of recordings with his Hot 5 and Hot 7 bands and his duet albums with Ella Fitzgerald, having the time of my life.",0 +5187,"Does anyone else struggle with finding new music and actually listening to it?. Hello! + +Whenever I go looking for new music, even if I come across a song that I enjoy, I will listen to it that one time and then never again. Nothing really sticks. The music I will listen to always turns out to be the songs I've known and loved for a long time :( it's frustrating",0 +5188,The Cardigans - My Favorite Game [indie/alt]. ,0 +5189,"Ticketmaster is selling the exact same ticket for 2 different prices; $100 vs $185. Screenshot: +[https://imgur.com/a/Antt19k](https://imgur.com/a/Antt19k) + +They are selling the same GA tickets for $100 or $185 if you are not careful. Great business practices. + +Event link: +[https://www.ticketmaster.com/iron-maiden-legacy-of-the-beast-newark-new-jersey-10-21-2022/event/02005B7DD1624D55](https://www.ticketmaster.com/iron-maiden-legacy-of-the-beast-newark-new-jersey-10-21-2022/event/02005B7DD1624D55)",0 +5190,"Post Malone - 2 NEW SONGS [Hip Hop/Pop]. 2 new songs tomorrow June 7th 😈 + +https://reddit.com/link/v6jwe2/video/2qbg0ykrx3491/player",0 +5191,Powerman 5000 - When Worlds Collide [Nepotism Rock]. ,0 +5192,"I’m Julian Lennon. Artist. Adventurer. Aries. I sometimes drive all the way to Italy just for a plate of Vongole. AMA.. I’m a singer/songwriter, fine-arts photographer, author, documentary filmmaker and humanitarian. My new album JUDE comes out in September. I invite you to ... check out my [catalogue of videos](https://www.youtube.com/c/JulianLennon). View the world through [my lens](http://julianlennonphotography.com/). Help Ukraine by [downloading 'Imagine'](https://julianlennon.lnk.to/ImagineTW). Support [additional projects](https://whitefeatherfoundation.com/choose-a-cause/) that make our world better. #onlylove + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/qgztjxrin1791.jpg",0 +5193,Grammys issue apology for not including joey and other musicians in the memoriam segment.. ,0 +5194,Outkast - Hey Ya [pop/R&B/soul]. ,0 +5195,"Ruin a band name by changing only one letter.. I'll start: Poo Fighters +(Sorry if this doesn't belong here)",0 +5196,"I’m electronic music producer Lane 8 and I’m here to answer all your questions. AMA!. I’ve just released my fourth album ‘Reviver’ on my This Never Happened label. While making ‘Reviver', one of my primary goals was to reinvent myself as a producer. I've always felt this way while working on albums - a nagging desire to break new ground and avoid repeating myself - but the feeling was stronger than ever this time around. But while making the album, I realized how much I have changed as a person in the two years since my last album. Events that happened both in the outside world and in my personal life changed me and my outlook on life, almost comprehensively. In reality, I didn't really need to reinvent myself in any intentional way, because I myself had changed. The liberation I felt after making that realization was extremely powerful, and the music poured out almost effortlessly in the months after. + + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/5s3crr98qod81.jpg",0 +5197,"Released 40 years ago today, Michael Jackson and Quincy Jones' 'Thriller' remains the best-selling album of all time - and is back on the charts.. Way ahead of #2 - AC/DC's Back in Black - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_best-selling_albums#40_million_copies_or_more +In hindsight, some ~~white~~ boomer ex-hippie music critics don't look like very good music critics at all - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thriller_(album)#Critical_reception",0 +5198,"Please make the stripped-down, slow-tempo covers of popular rock and alternative songs GO AWAY. This has been an ongoing trend for the last decade or more. A great rock or alternative song gets covered by some Lana Del Ray-sounding, hip-singing female (and sometimes male) vocalist. It's usually stripped and slowed down to an almost unbearably nauseating level, with the idea that this somehow adds a lot more meaning to the song. I've seen this in countless commercials, TV shows, and movies. Yes, there are much bigger issues in the world, but does this bother anyone else? Is it because we're out of original ideas, and this is way more marketable? + +EDIT: For clarification, of course not all stripped, slowed-down covers are bad. Johnny Cash's ""Hurt"" is an example that's been mentioned a lot in this thread, and that's a great exception. I'm specifically referring to the increasingly commercialized trend of ""sleepy-sad-indie"" cover of almost every popular song from the last 50 years. If you like these covers, then more power to you.",0 +5199,What's the saddest album you've ever listened to?. I can't pick one actually. But BALLADS 1 was pretty sad imo.,0 +5200,Franz Ferdinand - Take Me Out [rock] 2004. ,0 +5201,Happy 56th to Hootie & The Blowfish's Darius Rucker. ,0 +5202,"Madonna's Like a Prayer is a killer track. I've never been a huge fan of Madonna. I've liked a few of her songs throughout the years but Like a Prayer always slaps. It's just a phenomenal tune. Madonna's vocals are on point here and I dig the slow pace at the beginning only to pick up to a beat. + +Classic tune that I don't hear talked about often.",0 +5203,Spotify Loses $2 Billion as Stock Plummets After Neil Young’s Joe Rogan Protest. [https://ca.sports.yahoo.com/news/spotify-loses-2-billion-stock-182108629.html?src=rss](https://ca.sports.yahoo.com/news/spotify-loses-2-billion-stock-182108629.html?src=rss),0 +5204,"Heardle - Like Wordle, but for music. Daily intro music game for you guys to try! + +[Heardle](https://www.heardle.app)",0 +5205,"What band do you feel like more people should know about?. + +For me, it's Thrice. I feel like the complex rhythms and haunting/soaring melodies go so well with the heaviness inspired by their early stuff. +They started out as punk/metal, with raw energy oozing out of every song, while still being melodic and very well written. +Then they slowly transformed their sound into what is now a unique style. +I've never seen them live, but if I had to choose one band to see, they would be the one, by far. + +Edit: I'm gonna have a LOT of listening to do... You guys are awesome!",0 +5206,"Siamese Dream is a masterpiece. The more I listen, the more I hear where Billy Corgan is coming from, and the more I appreciate the composition. I can feel this album start to finish and it resonates more than almost any other album there is. I love this album.",0 +5207,"I just discovered a new band after never learning their name and I am ecstatic. A few months ago I attended a Dance Gavin Dance concert on my birthday with some friends, and one of the opening bands BLEW ME OUT OF THE WATER! I couldn't get enough of the guitarist. I took so many videos but NO WHERE could I find their name, especially with a venue like the House of Blues being loud as it is and their name was no where on any flyer or ticket. I came across a meme on TikTok that had a really cool song, so I decided to pop over to Spotify and start listening to this artist. After the first song played, I recognized the second one IMMEDIATELY. Fast forward a bit, I knew it was them. Went back to Snapchat, watched the video, and no shit they are playing the same song. The overwhelming joy I had was insane now I know what's on repeat in my car. + + +Ladies and gentlemen, I bring to you: Polyphia",0 +5208,Joy Division - Love Will Tear Us Apart [Alternative/Indie]. ,0 +5209,"When We Were Young Festival in Las Vegas, October 22nd 2022. ",0 +5210,Do people still listen to Jack Johnson?. Back in the mid 2000’s he was everywhere. I loved his music and it seemed like everyone did. Super chill and laid back. I thought he would always be around but I never here his music on the radio or Sirius anymore. I never here people play him or mention him. But I still love his music.,0 +5211,Why are NPR’s Tiny Desk concerts so much better than the band’s actual album?. Every time I discover an amazing band from the Tiny Desk series I go to listen to those tracks off their album and they sound like over produced tinny garbage.. what gives!?,0 +5212,"John Prine (1946-2020). I think more people should know who he is. While at the same time, I like the fact he's not some mega star. Unfortunately he passed from Covid early in the pandemic. He was big in the 1970s and then was releasing some good music again in his later years until sadly he passed. Anyway, he's a singer-storyteller of country folk. His songs can be deep and meaningful (Hello In There, Angel from Montgomery) but many are feel-good funny songs (Illegal Smile, When I Get to Heaven, In Spite of Ourselves, Please Don't Bury Me). His songs can always help me get through work and the day. I just thought I'd share. RIP John. + +​ + +Do you have a favorite John Prine song? I'd love to know what it is!",0 +5213,"Breakup songs but wishing the other person the best. So I've been through a breakup recently and even though it still hurts I've accepted it is the way it is. I don't hate him and I deep down still love him him but I know it wasn't meant to be. I was listening to Shawn Mendes' - 'It'll Be Okay' and realised how little heartbreak songs exist focused on acceptance and wishing the other person the best even through your own pain. + +Do you know anything like it?",0 +5214,"Who are the most underrated guitar players of all time?. I gotta say Elliott Smith, people praise his songwriting (as they should) most of the time but fail to mention that he was an incredible guitar player. Listening to “Tomorrow, Tomorrow” or “Angeles”, “Southern Belle”, cements that for me (among others) he was inspired by flamenco players and you can hear that in the way he fingerpicks + +What are y’all’s examples and why?",0 +5215,Ukrainian woman plays the piano in her ruined house. ,0 +5216,Dolly Parton's Imagination Library to give books to refugee children: Singer's global initiative to offer a book each month to 200 refugee children in London until they turn five. ,0 +5217,Eels - Novocaine For The Soul [Alt Rock]. ,0 +5218,"D.H Peligro, drummer of punk band Dead Kennedys, has passed away.. According to reports, Peligro passed away October 28th, 2022 at his home due to head trauma from an accidental fall. + +Peligro was best known for being the drummer of iconic US punk band Dead Kennedys. He contributed to several other projects, including a stint with the Red Hot Chili Peppers and a solo album entitled “Sum of Our Surroundings.” + +D.H, or Dirty to his friends, will be dearly missed.",0 +5219,The Kunts - Prince Andrew Is A Sweaty Nonce [Parody]. ,0 +5220,The Mars Volta - Drunkship of Lanterns [hard alternative progressive Latin jazz rock]. ,0 +5221,"Another Artist Nils Lofgren removes Music From Spotify following Neil Young. “We encourage all musicians, artists and music lovers everywhere, to stand with us all, and cut ties with Spotify,” he wrote. [Full Story Here](https://www.imagesum.com/another-artist-nils-lofgren-removes-music-from-spotify-following-neil-young/)",0 +5222,RIP to Peter Steele. 12 years ago today Type O Negative ended their run after he passed away suddenly. A foundational band in my developing musical taste.. ,0 +5223,"I am glad Arctic Monkeys aren't ""giving the people want they want"". Obviously, there many like myself who adore TBH+C and are ecstatic over the sound of The Car so far, but let's be honest....and come on, this isn’t a far fetched observation, its very obvious and visible; There are still many many many people wanting another AM experience. Another stadium filling collection of popstar super hits....and according to Matt Helders, its never gonna happen. And i'm all for it. + +Obviously the monkeys found something on Tranquility and they're sticking to it. It's ""picking up where the other one left off, and its never gonna be like R U Mine again"" says Helders. And I'm all for it, and I know a lot of you are too, but a lot of people are not for it...and I think that's great too. + +I sometimes wonder if music fans legitimately understand that once you become a musician with ambition....You still age? + +I find it so funny how people think Alex, who is 36, is intentionally straying away from banging tunes for teenagers, and adults, who aren't really adults yet. As if Alex is still capable of that lmao. + +If you expext a 36 year old man who has shown strong musical ambition and hunger, since he was a teenager to continue to write music for teenagers, and do this sort of ""same album every time"" sort of style, you're kind of an idiot.",0 +5224,"Pink Floyd's Animals has re-entered the Billboard Top 200, at rank 21, 45 years after release. ",0 +5225,"I'm KT Tunstall a Singer/Songwriter from Scotland. I’ve sold 6 million records there or thereabouts, moved continents, lost my hearing, started writing Musicals, and found sisters I never knew I had. AMA!. I'm first and foremost a Songwriter and Singer. My new album, NUT, is out today and I'm really excited for everyone to hear it. It’s the final album in a trilogy of records, where each album zeroes in on a single concept: soul, body and mind. The first, 2016's KIN, was the soul record; 2018's WAX was the body record, and the new NUT is the mind record. I was adopted a few weeks after my birth and it was my adoptive parents who nurtured my innate love of music. My debut album, Eye To The Telescope, was inspired by my physicist Dad at University of St Andrews having the keys to the Observatory, getting me and my brothers up in the night when we were kids and showing us the stars and Haley’s Comet. You probably know two of the songs from that album, ""Suddenly I See"" and ""Black Horse and the Cherry Tree” which got a nice Grammy nod! I’ve toured the world and had the great opportunity to perform with amazing artists along the way. At the end of 2021, I headlined the legendary New Year’s Eve celebrations in Times Square, New York. You have not quite experienced ringing in the New Year until you’ve done it in Times Square in front of a billion people watching on TV - it was amazing! I’ve had Tinnitus for over ten years, and in 2018 I went spontaneously completely deaf in my left ear. AMA! + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/labgeb4t8d0a1.png",0 +5226,"Windowlicker by Aphex Twin is still one of the most impressive songs I've ever heard.... It's incredible how chaotic the song is and it's still coherent in its own chaos. The song has parts, which sound like an story with beginning, middle and end, even though there are no lyrics. + +It shows Richard's complete understanding of tension and release, just when you think you got the song figured out he throws another curveball at you. + +So, what do you guys think of Aphex Twin? Personally, I love his piano/keyboard work. + +Edit: Thanks for the awards, guys. Just sharing some love for music <3.",0 +5227,"Red Hot Chili Peppers release new song “Eddie,” a blistering tribute to the late Eddie Van Halen.. Since they are in the r/music hall of fame. I can’t post the link as a subject. + +Peppers fans for the most part are vibing the hell out of it. New album in a few weeks, their 2nd since Frusciante’s return and also their 2nd in 2022. + +https://youtu.be/pXMEXCT5ohY + + +Edit: while I have the chance and visibility here… I’ll toss in some thoughts after lots of polarity in the comments. + +This is NOT an unusual guitar track for John. He’s not really imitating EVH, or if he is then he has been his whole career. Maybe there is some “dedication” in there, but I disagree with the take that it was a poor EVH impression. What it was, for better or worse, is 2022 Frusciante giving the Peppers some of his best and them vice versa. This is where this band is at. And I think it’s a banger… **for RHCP**. And honestly kind of fresh to hear in the rock world, and these guys are 60. + + +I think some Van Halen/that genre fans, God bless you, saw my title hoping for some little lick that even 25% of EVH could’ve came up with, but ended up coming in for a little ripper that to many will be ""just another Chili Peppers song""… which I totally understand is not everyone’s cup of tea. Others, we'll take it all.",0 +5228,"Best Song Ever Written (in your opinion)?. What song would you consider the best written that you've heard. Whether it be technical, emotional or just the thing you think when you hear it. + + +Mine is probably Avalanche by Leonard Cohen.",0 +5229,"Gogol Bordello - Wonderlust King (Official Video) [Ukranian Gypsy Punk]. https://youtu.be/K3SUPPeuRdU + +Some Ukranian Gypsy Punk Rock for the occasion. Great band and fantastic live shows. The Lead is named Eugene Hutz. He was also in one of my favorite movies-Everything Is Illuminated. Which is about a young jewish man going to Ukraine to find the woman who saved his grandfather from the Nazis. I also highly recommend it, too. Hilarious and sad. + +Edit: see a lot of comments about how they aren’t a Ukrainian band because only the front man is Ukrainian. I think this is one of those grey areas we can debate endlessly. It’s more a matter of opinion. I say Ukrainian, because the founder/composer/lead singer is Ukrainian. Most of the music seems influenced by him and at most also the Russians in the band. Some could argue they are an American band, because they are based in New York. Labeling things is subjective at best. I felt this was an appropriate label. Regardless, it doesn’t matter, the music is still awesome. Let’s just enjoy that. It’s why we’re here.",0 +5230,Kate Bush & David Gilmour - Running Up That Hill [Pop]. ,0 +5231,Millencolin - No Cigar [Punk] (2000). ,0 +5232,Deftones - My Own Summer [Nu metal]. ,0 +5233,Do you guys think that it's time to retire award shows?. We have seen that basically award show has been losing viewership over the years. I feel like this due to the fact that they are just not as interesting anymore like they used to be. I'm curious to hear what everyone else thinks.,0 +5234,"Spotify has some bizarre auto-generated playlists that you can only find by searching them. Two of my favorites are Spooky Evil Jazz Mix and Tennessee Pirate Mix. There's also Battle Clown Music Mix and Babysitting Pirate Mix. Plenty more to be found.. Filter your search by Playlists and try some of these phrases: + +""goblin mix"" + +""pirate mix"" + +""spooky mix"" + +""vampire mix"" + +""clown mix"" + +""night mix""",0 +5235,"Dec. 5, 1981 “Damaged” was released. Here’s to 40 years of Black Flag!. The album was largely ignored by critics and the public at the time of its release but has since been recognized as a classic and one of the most influential punk rock records ever made, appearing on a number of ""best of"" lists by fans and critics alike. + +While the album did not gain much attention from the general press on its original release, the album retrospectively has been given critical acclaim and has been cited as one of the most important hardcore punk albums ever released.",0 +5236,Veruca Salt - Seether [Alternative Rock]. ,0 +5237,"Silversun Pickups announce fall tour dates in support of the band's new album, Physical Thrills. ",0 +5238,"I performed live for the first time today!. I've been writing lyrics for a couple of months now and I think I've gotten a lot better. I found a local pub that hosted open mic nights and I went for it. Everyone there was really talented and supportive. + +I was super nervous but I think everything went great! There's definitely room for improvement (like holding the mic closer to my face and keeping it plugged in lol) but overall I'm proud that I took the first step. I'm going to keep writing and see what else I can do :)",0 +5239,"Which musicians aren't that great musically, but got lucky to be in right bands?. How do you think who doesn't sound that great, but got super famous anyway because they happened to be in the right band? + +I know people like to say Lars Ulrich, but I want to hear other names.",0 +5240,"I just discovered the song ""She Sells Sanctuary"". I mostly listen to rap/newer music. However, I love finding new music and listen to mostly everything. I just found this song and would love some recommendations to other songs like this.",0 +5241,"10 great rock songs I never need to hear ever again:. 1. Hey Jude - The Beatles +2. Stairway to Heaven - Led Zeppelin +3. Bohemian Rhapsody - Queen +4. You Shook Me All Night Long - AC/DC +5. Smells Like Teen Spirit - Nirvana +6. In The Air Tonight - Phil Collins +7. Hotel California - The Eagles +8. Sympathy for the Devil - The Rolling Stones +9 War Pigs - Black Sabbath +10. Enter Sandman - Metallica + +EDIT: +By popular demand, Adding in... + +-Sweet Home Alabama and Free Bird - Lynard Skynard + +-Don't Stop Believing - Journey + +- Loving On A Prayer - Bon Jovi + +- Sweet Caroline - Neil Diamond + +-Sweet Emotion - Aerosmith +-Sweet Child O Mine - GnR + +All good songs I loved at one point or another. But so overplayed and internally memorized by osmosis if I never hear them again, that would be just fine. + +What about you? What songs did you LOVE, that you just can't hear anymore? (Of any genre)",0 +5242,Rage Against The Machine - Wake Up [Rock]. ,0 +5243,"Why is no one going against Ticketmaster?. Edit about Phish debate: They aren’t popular in Europe as in America so my bad on the well known stuff. But you have to admit they don’t have a global fanbase. Please no more argument about Phish. + + +Hey everyone, I've been thinking about how good of a band Pearl Jam is and I started researching about the Pearl Jam vs Ticketmaster. After some reading I saw that even though PJ tried breaking the monopoly they failed eventually. What I don't understand is that why there is no way around them. We are living in the Digital Age. Why is there no other corporation that organizes this kind of events while getting a reasonable amount of fee? I know that the music industry is a corrupt one but this issue seemed easier to solve than the other ones.",0 +5244,Violent Femmes - Blister In The Sun [Folk Punk]. ,0 +5245,"I'm Tove Lo - Ask Me Anything!. Hi Reddit, Tove Lo here. Excited to answer questions about my new album, Dirt Femme that came out today! You can check it out [here](https://tovelo.komi.io/). + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/3siwx09kymt91.jpg",0 +5246,"Best Three Album Runs In Music. What are three consecutive records by an artist that you think are truly special, I’ll add mine later on",0 +5247,Dinosaur Jr. - Feel The Pain [Alt Rock] (1994). ,0 +5248,Sade - Smooth Operator - [Sophisti-pop]. ,0 +5249,"System Of A Down, Korn, Deftones, Incubus, Etc. Expected To Play 2023 Nü-Metal Festival 'Sick New World'. ",0 +5250,"I love Limp Bizkit. I thought it was just ironically at first, but I started listening a lot. I know every critic will say they’re the worst thing ever, but I can’t help but get hyped up to one of their many bangers. Any bands everyone hates that you love? + +Edit: Thanks for showing me I’m not alone, keep on rollin’ baby.",0 +5251,"Do you ever just sit down and listen to music, like you would do with a book, tv, movie etc?. I am asking because I really love the act of just sitting down, putting a CD/Vinyl or whatever in my stereo, getting the booklet and just reading and listening to a whole album from start to finish. I sit in my chair, on my bed or wherever and just let it transform me for an hour. + + +I feel that nowadays with all these streaming platforms, that people consume music very differently. Almost like a way of background music while cleaning the house or doing other things in life. Which, yknow, is no judgement, but I am wondering if other people can just sit still and just listen? + + +If so, what is your favorite place to do this? Have a good day :)",0 +5252,"Worst lyrics you've ever heard?. From any genre, what are some of the worst lyrics you've heard or read? They can be cringy, insensitive towards something or someone, or just outright bad. Maybe some that are so bad that they ruin the whole mood of a song, even if the song itself is amazing.",0 +5253,"Three Dog Night may have the worst ratio of ""number of hits"" to ""band name recognition"" in history. 1000 people will read this and think ""who?"" The resume: + +1. Joy to the World (Jeremiah was a bullfrog) +2. Mama Told Me (Not to Come) +3. Celebrate (...dance to the music) +4. One (...is the lonliest number) +5. Black and White +6. Try a Little Tenderness +7. Shambala +8. Old Fashioned Love Song + +...and then a bunch of other great songs that aren't ""common knowledge"" famous.",0 +5254,"Radiohead's OK Computer. turns 25 today. Released May 21, 1997. The beginning of a new era of their sound IMO that cemented their place in music history.. Ranked #42 of 500 from Rolling Stones Greatest Albums of all time, *OK Computer* is a sonic & lyrical journey that is as relevant as ever today. The album draws influence from The Beach Boys, Myles David, DJ Shadow, The Beatles, PJ Harvey and Queen to name a few. The album strays from the guitar focused sound of *The Bends* and introduced sampling, experimental recording techniques, unconventional song forms and various other instruments like the Mellotron keyboard and Rhodes piano. The result from the minds of each member of the band is a masterpiece that blends their alternative rock roots with house, jazz, musique concrete, electronica and prog. *Kid A* was next... + +I have to add that *Paranoid Android* is one of the best music videos of all time.",0 +5255,"Incubus - Nice To Know You [Alternative rock, 2001]. ",0 +5256,What joke / parody song is an absolute banger?. I'm on a Boat by Lonely Islands is a certified banger. Some of those Flight of the Conchord songs are serious bangz as well.,0 +5257,"REM: Losing my religion about to hit 1 billion views. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xwtdhWltSIg](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xwtdhWltSIg) + +I like this song. Go take a view before it gets there. + +​ + +edit: I sent an email to REM about the pending 1 billion views and asked if any one would like to talk about it here. Maybe someone will post... who knows.",0 +5258,"The Wiggles making history taking out #1 spot in Triple J Top 100. https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/news/musicnews/the-wiggles-historic-hottest-100-win-tame-impala-like-a-version/13724886 + +The Wiggles (children's entertainment group) take out #1 spot in Triple J's Hottest 100 countdown with their 'Like a Version' cover of Elephant, by Tame Impala. + +The Triple J Hottest 100 is an annual music listener poll hosted by the publicly-funded, national Australian radio station, Triple J. Members of the public are invited to vote for their favourite Australian and alternative music of the year in an online poll conducted two weeks prior to the new year. + +* First children's group to reach Hottest 100 #1 +* First artist in 28 years to debut in Hottest 100 at #1 +* First 'Like a Version' cover to reach Hottest 100 #1 +* Oldest artists to reach Hottest 100 #1 + +They beat out Justin Bieber and Kid Laroi - Stay (#2)",0 +5259,"Blind Melon - No Rain [Alternative rock, 1993]. ",0 +5260,"The Seatbelts/Yoko Kanno - Tank! [Jazz/Soundtrack, 1998]. ",0 +5261,Mr. Jones - Counting Crows 1993 [Pop Rock]. ,0 +5262,"Bands who have never released a bad album?. What band/artist, in your opinion has never released a bad album? + +My answer would be the band Death. I honestly don't even know if they have a bad song. Chuck was a genius",0 +5263,Chris Cornell - Nothing Compares 2 U (Prince Cover) [Live @ SiriusXM] | Lithium [Rock]. ,0 +5264,Kendrick Lamar’s new album ‘Mr. Morale & the Big Steppers' is out.. Double album featuring a packed guest list including Beth Gibbons of Portishead. I'll being doing a deep listen tonight. Any thoughts on the album so far?,0 +5265,"What small detail in a song, which generally goes unnoticed, will totally ruin the song the moment you pay attention to it?. I was having a discussion with someone regarding the most annoying/unbearable song they’ve ever listened to. Their response was Usher - Yeah. + +When I asked why, he told me the small triangle noise that plays in the background of the song makes the song an unbearable listen after being 3 minutes into the song. + +Now I’ve probably listened to this song about a few dozen times in my life now and it was a song that I was generally okay listening to. But after hearing the song again, I CAN’T STAND IT! The triangle is just awful to listen to. + +But it has gotten me wondering: are there any other songs like this, where the small details can totally ruin a song or make it an unbearable/annoying listen for anyone who pays attention to that detail.",0 +5266,"Animals by Pink Floyd turns 45 today. My favourite Floyd album with longform songs I get lost in.. For an album that really only has three 10min+ songs coupled with a short intro and outro song forming concept/protest album, it's refreshing that it received positive reviews and was commercially successful. There were no singles for this album. It reached #2 in the UK and #3 in the US. The concept behind this album is roughly based on George Orwell's *Animal Farm*. The songs *Dogs, Pigs* and *Sheep* describe the differential societal classes of the times. Front to back, this album is a political musical journey that paved way for their next album... *The Wall.*",0 +5267,"Italian singer Adriano Celentano released a song in the 70s with nonsense lyrics meant to sound like American English, apparently to prove Italians would like any English song. It was a huge hit. ",0 +5268,Australian PM Warning Kanye West to Be Vaccinated for concert. Australian Prime Minister Warns [Kanye West](https://www.imagesum.com/tag/kanye-west/): Be Vaxxed or No Tour Here. Full story [here](https://www.imagesum.com/australian-pm-warning-kanye-west-to-be-vaccinated/),0 +5269,Dirty Vegas - Days Go By [Electronic] (2002). ,0 +5270,#BreakUpTicketmaster. ,0 +5271,The Breeders - Cannonball [Alternative Rock]. ,0 +5272,Dave Gilmour and Roger Waters - Comfortably Numb Live at the 02 Arena 2011 [Rock]. ,0 +5273,"We're Big Time Rush, the comeback boyband of the year. Come ask us anything about our upcoming summer tour and our brand new single, ""Not Giving You Up""!. We're Big Time Rush and we just released our first two singles in eight years, ""Call It Like I See It"" and most recently, ""Not Giving You Up"". You can check out our brand new music video for ""Not Giving You Up"" at bigtimerushofficial.com/ngyuvideo. We've also just announced a nationwide tour for this upcoming summer! You can find tickets at bigtimerushofficial.com/forevertour . After a long hiatus, we're back and better than ever and ready to answer all of your questions! PROOF: https://twitter.com/bigtimerush/status/1499474699314610198?s=20",0 +5274,Bad Religion - I Want To Conquer The World [Punk]. ,0 +5275,"What musician have you lost the most respect for after they did something you didn't approve of?. If I had to ask my own question, it would be Mark Kozelek of Red House Painters and Sun Kil Moon fame, it angers me that such an incredible singer-songwriter can be that awful of a person.",0 +5276,Cameron Crowe says 'Almost Famous' is about the last moment before big money took over music. ,0 +5277,Phoenix - Lisztomania [Synth-rock]. ,0 +5278,Guns N' Roses - Civil War [rock] - Released 29 years ago today. ,0 +5279,DAVID LEE ROTH Confirms Discussions With ALEX VAN HALEN & JOE SATRIANI About Possible Van Halen Tribute Tour. ,0 +5280,Norma Tanega - You're Dead [Folk/Vampires]. ,0 +5281,"300 years from now, which bands/musicians/composers from the 20th century will be talked about in musical history class the way we talk today about Beethoven, Mozart, Bach, Chopin, etc.? What will they be remembered for?. I think the only sure bet is the Beatles because of how influential they were, with Elvis and Michael Jackson being two good contenders. Maybe John Williams. Maybe Chuck Berry, Jimi Hendrix, and Nirvana. + + +EDIT: I see a lot of posts about artists that started their careers in the 2000s and 2010s. I feel compelled to point out that the 20th century ended December 31st, 2000. + +EDIT 2: It looks like Kanye West is being mentioned the most. To the naysayers I suggest listening to [this gem](https://youtu.be/dQw4w9WgXcQ) and reconsider your argument. + +EDIT 3: After reading through as many of the comments as I can, it seems to me that the most correct answers are Frank Zappa and Igor Stravinsky. No bias here, I hadn't heard of either of them before this thread.",0 +5282,Alkaline Trio - Private Eye [Pop Punk]. ,0 +5283,99 Luftballons or 99 Red Balloons?. I don’t speak German at all and still sing along to 99 Luftballons. I think the flow in German sounds way better and fits the track more. Which do y’all prefer?,0 +5284,"D.H. Peligro, drummer for punk band Dead Kennedys and Red Hot Chili Peppers, dies at 63. ",0 +5285,"30 years ago today, Mary J. Blige released her debut album, What’s the 411?. ",0 +5286,"Toto’s best song is “Hold The Line”. Yes, everyone knows “Africa” but “Hold The Line” is an absolute banger. Is there a better Toto song out there?",0 +5287,Mos Def - Mathematics [Rap]. ,0 +5288,Iranian rapper may be executed for being the “voice of the protestors” check out his squid game sound on spotify and consider supporting him in any way you can. ,0 +5289,"Mazzy Star Is Incredibly Underrated. I can sort of understand why Mazzy Star is often overlooked in conversations of best 90's music. The vibe they capture is far more subdued, arcane, less in-your-face than their contemporaries. + +But good God they capture that vibe well. + +IMO they have 3 immaculate albums in a row. (Can you guess which) + +You can play all of them straight thru without any skips. Beautiful ethereal lyrics. Hope Sandoval has such a unique and dreamy voice. The instrumentation is so tasteful and subtle. The songwriting is amazing. Just top tier all around. + +Thoughts?",0 +5290,"Will Maroon 5 have a legacy as a corny pop group?. The title says it all, they seem to be a group who has gone from decent, to alright, to mediocre, and unlistenable in the span of 20 years. + +Decent yet corny pop/rock: + +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nIjVuRTm-dc](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nIjVuRTm-dc) + +Alright repetitive pop music: + +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=suRsxpoAc5w](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=suRsxpoAc5w) + +Mediocre bland rap/pop: + +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XatXy6ZhKZw](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XatXy6ZhKZw) + +Trend hoping unlistenable: + +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BSzSn-PRdtI](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BSzSn-PRdtI) + +​ + +People harp about their first album being great, it is fine but it is an album of its time and the songs are no better than other songs of the pop music of that era from what I can recall. But miles better than what they do today. + +What happened? Why did Adam not just release music under his own name and drop the gimmick?",0 +5291,Soggy Bottom Boys - I Am A Man Of Constant Sorrow [country]. ,0 +5292,"Why tf aren’t the Smashing Pumpkins in the Rock and Roll hall of fame and Eminem is going to be?. Is there a reason for this? Did they turn it down or something? + +[I mean, listen to this and tell me I’m wrong…](https://open.spotify.com/track/6B4S0AvZZv6UboiimP0jOZ?si=fZWp-WpIRMWiij2J-QlM6A) + +Eminem be like “Kylie Jenners boyfriends concert drew attention, Jerry lee Lewis faster than kardashian, supervisors finger quickly hit the switch, lazy afternoon Turkey sandwich” + +The Smashing Pumpkins be like “sadness inside of me, we live in a society” 5 minute song break followed by cringe inducing guitar screeches",0 +5293,"Anyone else feel theres so much good music to listen to but we just simply don't have nough time to listen to it all?. I'm constantly finding myself going through different ""artist phases"" and I just feel there isn't enough time here on earth to listen to all the good music. There's just too much to listen to! + +Anyone else feel the same or is it just me?",0 +5294,"I’m Lzzy Hale from Halestorm. Our new album “Back From The Dead” is out now. Ask me anything!. I’m Lzzy Hale. I'm a singer, songwriter, and guitarist from the Grammy-award winning band Halestorm. + +Our new album “Back From The Dead” is a rollercoaster ride of power, angst, debauchery, redemption and hope. Whether you are a die hard fan or are discovering Halestorm for the first time, I know that you are going see yourself reflected in this album. It is both our most personal and universal album to date. So Raise Your Horns, hell could not hold us down. + +Download/Stream “Back From The Dead” -https://halestorm.lnk.to/BFTD + +Follow us: + +https://tiktok.com/@halestormrocks + +https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjPsvugkwOr9oOk8D7icstQ + +https://www.facebook.com/halestormrocks + +https://twitter.com/halestorm + +https://www.instagram.com/halestormrocks/ + +https://www.halestormrocks.com/ + + +Proof: https://imgur.com/qO7jRJp",0 +5295,"Anthony Kiedis and Dave Navarro perform together for the first time in 20 years, cover Lou Reed's ""Walk on the Wild Side"". ",0 +5296,Rick Astley - Highway to Hell - cover [rock] - Happy New Year Reddit - Rick. ,0 +5297,"As a person born in the late 70s, raised on 60s & 70s music, and given a wonderful appreciation for all music since (even rap), IMO the soundtracks for Guardians of the Galaxy 1 & 2 are some of the best selections of music to just chill and have a good day to.. Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays/Whatever you worship (or don't), everyone!",0 +5298,"I’m poet Ab-Soul from Top Dawg Entertainment. The Black Lip Pastor is ready to answer your questions.. There’s been a lot of questions about where I’ve been and what music is coming out after I released the official “Do Better” music video last week. I’m gearing up for the new album. AMA. Shoot. + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/l07ek1j03gw91.jpg",0 +5299,What’s your favourite song starting with “Mr.”?. I’ll go first: Mr. Brightside is super catchy and fun. What do you all think?,0 +5300,NOFX to Break Up After 2023. ,0 +5301,Paradise Circus - Massive Attack [Electronic Trance]. ,0 +5302,"Rush's Geddy Lee celebrates his 69th birthday today!. A brief bio on Geddy and what's he's been up to recently... + +http://news.cygnus-x1.net/2022/07/geddy-lee-celebrates-his-69th-birthday.html",0 +5303,"Stub Hub cancelled my concert tickets right before the concert.. I bought tickets to Rob Zombie for my wife's birthday. Stub Hub sent me message three days prior to say ""Enjoy the show!"" but funny, I couldn't get the barcode in my email. I called customer service day of show and they said they'd have it fixed in a couple hours. Called back in a couple hours and they said they would ""absolutely, guaranteed, 100% have someone call me before the show."" Right before the show I called again, they said ""We're sorry but Stub Hub froze your account and we can't give you the tickets. But we will refund the cost."" Thanks guys, I drove from Salt Lake City to San Diego for this, so I guess the hotels and food bills are on me, and my wife's birthday is bust.",0 +5304,"The Isley Brothers are arguably one of the most important acts ever yet they’re never talked about them so it’s time to give them their flowers while they’re still here. It saddens me that despite many threads for some of their songs (usually the regular hits) or artists covering them it never gathers much upvotes or discussions, and they’re rarer reviewed by relevant current media outlets or mentioned, no single youtube video covering them at all - sometimes some of their albums make it in “best ever” something list but rather low and not remarked or commented on + +So maybe this won’t either get much traffic but whatever, if you want a change you got to make it yourself right? + +Let me put it this way to start it right off the bat: The Isley Brothers PREDATES The Beatles and are still actively touring today at the age of 80yo, let this sink in + +Actually come to think they have to be in a very small cycle of one of the oldest bands still active if not the number one on that list! + +Their first album came out in 1959 and right off the bat, you know what song is on that album that they wrote? “Shout”, the song later covered by Lulu, The Beatles, Joan Jett, Tom Petty.. even Michael Jackson sampled it for what would become a b-side on his last album + +But you know what’s even bigger? they followed that album with Twist And Shout, now granted they covered that song, but they made it into a hit that then The Beatles picked up from, so a lot of credit goes for them for putting that song back on + +And that’s just the beginning of their legacy: A young Jimi Hendrix was a fan of them and met them and played Shout for them and got hired, they toured and lived with him for months and learning guitar tricks and what not that The Isley Brothers legendary guitarist Ernie Isley still uses today on stage at 78yo something, like playing the guitar behind his head or with his teeth + +By then the band had evolved from a 60s doowop singers act to now a full on 70s complete band and made real albums, they even covered Bob Dylan + +And by the time the 90s arrived and rap blew up, everything changed, they got sampled by everyone you can think of, from Dr Dre to Ice Cube (it was a good day!) Tupac (and not just once!), Jay Z, Big Notorious (bro the famous sitar on Big Poppa? that’s their song!) - all the way through the generations not just the 90s: Lil Wayne, Thundercat, Kendrick Lamar (the whole instrumental of the song I, also the guy singing the outro of How Much A Dollar Cost? it’s Ronald Isley himself) Aaliyah and Frank Ocean both covered them, and the list goes on. + +So i get it, it just comes down to the audience: they’re not a critic bait band, they make feel good music, it’s not that whole Pitchfork stuff and all that.. but does it mean we’re just gonna ignore one of the most impressive run and legacy? never mention them in anything or cover their history at all even tho all of our greats through every styles and generations, decades of music around the globe, have listened to their records and covered and sampled them? what does that tells us about them? that we should celebrate them as much as they have!",0 +5305,"Music that absolutely takes over my senses please.... I am looking for songs that sonically take over me completely, soundscapes that are full to the brim with nowhere to go. Or it may be a kind of emotional thing, like crescendos, time signature changes, lyrics that are ""deep/strong""... Extreme music that is of high quality, production... good art essentially! Essentially all about the sound; something that fills you up in all kinds of ways. The ephemeral is hard to put words onto... + +Here are some songs for reference: + +Comet Is Coming (NPR tiny desk) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gpfpYTmohAk (first song and second song) + +Howie Lee - The Gate https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jaHHaUG-ybM (VIDEO!!!) + +Terry Riley - Persian Dervishes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sqQ59i4PmGE + +Kinoko Teikoku - Whirlpool https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=33JNwxSNNNY + +Koen Groeneveld - 1981 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-QDuudMELBI + +Yann Tiersen - Ker al Loch https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RHiYco6Sd_k (VIDEO!!!) + +Bonzai - I Did https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fbf1tPbTW7w (VIDEO!!!) + +Idles (NPR tiny desk) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wMehItNQKAA + +Floating Points - Falaise https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xJfpOgQcq9I + +Asa Chang & Jun Ray - Hana https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sPrQ6HSQkAc (VIDEO!!!) + +Rage Against the Machine - Bombtrack https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hVck6DkOi38 + +Akiko Kiyama - Rainbow In The Hand https://www.beatport.com/track/rainbow-in-the-hand-original-mix/415333 + +Also classical pieces like Tchaikovsky (Piano Concerto #1), or Lizst (complex arrangements), very dramatic intense pieces. I'm not so familiar with classical music although I love it more than anything, so recommendations in that category are very very welcome. + +Perhaps it is a bit of an abstract question, so the examples are to give an idea of what floats my boat. Any genre... as long as it takes over everything in me! If the video is crazy (denoted above with ""VIDEO!!!"") that helps :) + +I would be so so grateful of any cool recommendations. Hope it is the right place to ask. If not, I'm sure it will soon be made clear ) + +EDIT: start to be too many replies to respond personally, and i'm of course using this as a tool to procrastinate; gotta get back to work. THANK YOU i got some new sounds ) peace + +EDIT 2: wow, start to get some seriously impressive recommendations... please don't stop... what a fantastic resource redditors are sometimes ) i can't reply to everyone now, but i will when i get time. i'm extremely grateful + +EDIT 3: i wore my headphone battery out listening on max volume to all your amazing music (and neglected most of my work duties today) so now i am having to hear the music in the starbucks i am sitting in. pain. *absolute pain*, compared to what i've just been treated to. but you humans are the reason humans are... worth saving... thank you i appreciate all, and i hope a lot of people can enjoy new music from this thread. will reply to everyone individually the next few days. i'm so happy i asked this question + +EDIT 4: wow i did not expect so many replies. i *will* listen to every recommendation, and reply with my thoughts, for what it's worth. i slowed down a bit today, but will get back later today and tomorrow. this is my favourite thread ever on reddit. thank you everyone!!!! + +EDIT 5: day two. i am... in another world of sound. one of the best decisions in my life was to ask this question here. favs so far include KNOWER and DEATH GRIPS and DAN BEACON, some of their tracks have been on repeat. also one dude linked his playlist https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLcGBhw42S1l12IEizaT2fiGOhC-LMLd2V which is, well, pretty unbeatable, congrats r/goodbuddyoldpal ... i am making a massive playlist on youtube of all the tracks that did me dirty. will make a new post when that is done... i have no idea how many i have replied to and how many still to go. you guys are very cool. + +EDIT 6: life gets in the way. but however long it takes i will get back to everyone. i am making a playlist of tracks that did the job, here it is so far https://m.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLzUkC6SzCXg3RXQ7G2fCy70lcc9lrry3s x",0 +5306,Weird Al - Amish Paradise [Parody]. ,0 +5307,"Proud Dad! My Kid Performed On Stage With New Found Glory!. My eight-year-old daughter has been playing bass for almost two years now and is getting pretty good. She was recently assigned a New Found Glory song (Vicious Love) for her school of rock, and liked it so much that she made a cover of it for her YT page. + +Ian Grushka (bass player) and the rest of the band saw the video and invited her to play the song on stage with them at their Las Vegas show last week. Even though there was nearly 3,000 people there, she wasn't nervous at all and crushed it! My wife and I are super proud of her and forever grateful to the band for being so nice and giving her the opportunity. + +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39o4mzVd1F8&ab\_channel=JoannaLearnsBass](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39o4mzVd1F8&ab_channel=JoannaLearnsBass)",0 +5308,"Why does Dark Side of the Moon by Pink Floyd, that was engineered 50 years ago, sound like it could have been released today, while those songs produced 50 years earlier sound horrible?. I was listening to DSOTM and it hit me it was produced 50 years ago but the sounds are clear crisp. I went to listen to songs from the 20's and it's night and day. Did we reach a level of engineering in the 70's where only small advances in engineering happen or are my ears just deceiving me?",0 +5309,Brand New - I Will Play My Game Beneath the Spin Light [Indie]. ,0 +5310,"The problem isn’t Christmas music. It’s the lack of variety.. Reposting this here because the mods over at r/unpopularopinion are being dumb. + +I’m one of those super obnoxious Christmas creeps who begins preparing for the holidays as soon as it turns to November 1st. I always look forward to this time of year, as it’s the best opportunity for me to see close friends and family (I have a pretty busy work schedule). + +I do share one common frustration with the holiday season. It seems every year, more and more people grow tired of hearing the same, annoying, repetitive Christmas tunes on the radio. I myself have never been too fond of holiday music, and with how commercialized and poppy the genre has gotten, I’ve actually grown to actively dislike most of it. That’s not to say all Christmas music is terrible of course (pretty much anything Mannheim Steamroller puts out is as good as gold), it’s just often much harder to find in the midst of all the garbage. I find good holiday music is a lot like anime in that regard. + +All that being said, I’m not interested in attacking something that’s already been beaten to death long ago. What I’m more interested in is *why* people don’t enjoy Christmas music. + +There’s plenty of blame to go around, but the number one culprit is there’s no variety anymore. If it seems like all Christmas music sounds exactly same nowadays, that’s probably because it is. I mean, think about it; there’s only a handful of holiday melodies being covered, and while there’s plenty of different renditions and interpretations of, say for example, Jingle Bells, it doesn’t change the fact…it’s still just Jingle Bells. + +This is also true when it comes to Christmas carols, even those without religious/cultural context like “Deck the Halls”. + +Even “newer” Christmas music is almost impossible to separate from one another. Many of these songs share the same lyrical structure, same bridge, similar lyrics (snow, decorations, bright lights, mistletoe, etc.), and have that same overly-upbeat, stupid “it’s Christmas time!” Yuletide merrymaking. It’s also no surprise a lot of this music comes from the same artists, such as Mariah Carey and Michael Bublé. + +I suppose all that’s left to discuss is the steps we can take to make Christmas music not just more tolerable, but sincerely enjoyable for listeners. While there’s plenty of room for improvement, the top priority should be that these songs don’t shove the holiday  theme down our throats. What I mean by that is, artists don’t necessarily have to make it so blatantly obvious these are holiday tunes. You don’t need mention snowmen or presents  to convey the holiday spirit. Anybody who hears The Nutcracker can automatically recognize the pieces as holiday-themed, simply through its composition. It captures the mystical quality of Christmas through its subtle instrumentation, without any lyrics to suggest it’s about Christmas. + +That actually leads me to my next point. For all the cliché about being the “happiest time of the year”, it’s important we recognize for many people, the holidays (and winter in general) can be an incredibly lonely and often most miserable time of the year. This is especially true for people who work long-distance jobs, as they’re separated from their friends and family for extensive periods of time during the winter. The overly-sentimental and jolliness of pop-Christmas will do nothing for these people; if anything, it will likely only make them more depressed than they probably already are. [Seriously.](https://www.healthline.com/health-news/is-christmas-music-bad-for-mental-health) + +I’m not trying to argue holiday music alone is what makes people anxious or depressed. I will attest it does often exasperates the problem, though. + +It IS, however, imperative holiday music doesn’t lose the quality that can truly make it magical: its mysticism. Many modern holidays are derived from pagan tradition, religion, ancient folklore, and fantasy/science fiction. There’s unexpressed beauty in these traditions and cultures, and I really hope more artists get creative and begin to experiment more with different instruments and musical themes. Ironically, the same people who are lonely and separated during the holidays might be able to draw their own, more positive interpretations about the holidays through comparatively somber, mellow music. + +Finally, this may be difficult for some people to hear, but I do think its a serious issue. Christmas music should not play on the radio and in public, or at the very least, exposure to this genre should be decreased. It sounds easy for people to just ignore or tune out this kind of music, but holiday music is everywhere. Restaurants, shopping malls, and even workspaces will constantly blast this music out their speakers. It’s clear many people dislike this genre, and we need to be considerate/mindful of them. + +This post was not made to take shots at people who enjoy modern Christmas music. That’s perfectly fine if you do, and I’m happy you can find more enjoyment in this genre than most. But there’s a call for change, and this is one way I think we can tackle this problem. Here’s to better holidays to come!",0 +5311,Melvins - Honey Bucket [Sludge Metal/Grunge]. ,0 +5312,"This 715-song playlist is scientifically verified to give you the chills, thanks to “frisson”. Ive never heard of this concept of 'Frission' before and came upon this and figured it was interesting. Searched to see if its been shared already and see that its a pretty commonly known concept. guess i dont know much. Anyways... enjoy if youre into it... + + +[Link to article](https://bigthink.com/neuropsych/frisson-song-playlist/)",0 +5313,"Cher's ""Believe"" is an absolute banger from beginning to end.. Like the title says. Just finished another listen through and the whole album is like a journey. It's not my typical taste but it just scratches an itch. Had me dancing, singing,and smiling like a madman in my kitchen when I really needed that today.",0 +5314,"U.S. Senators to Investigate Ticketmaster’s Dominance Over Concert Ticket Sales. U.S. Senators Amy Klobuchar and Mike Lee will lead a new subcommittee investigating the lack of competition in ticketing markets. Klobuchar stressed the need to scrutinize Ticketmaster’s dominance over the concert ticket market in light of chaotic Taylor Swift Eras Tour sales last week. “Ticketmaster’s website failed hundreds of thousands of fans hoping to purchase concert tickets,” Klobuchar said. “The high fees, site disruptions, and cancellations that customers experienced shows how Ticketmaster’s dominant market position means the company does not face any pressure to continually innovate and improve.” + +Ticketmaster blamed unprecedented demand and a “staggering number of bot attacks” for the Eras Tour fiasco, ultimately canceling a scheduled on-sale date for the remaining tickets. The company apologized to Swift, who had written a pointed statement that read, in part, “It’s really difficult for me to trust an outside entity with these relationships and loyalties, and excruciating for me to just watch mistakes happen with no recourse.” She added, “I’m not going to make excuses for anyone because we asked them, multiple times, if they could handle this kind of demand and we were assured they could.” + +Two days after the initial debacle, Klobuchar took up the cause in a letter linking Ticketmaster’s “dramatic service failures” to its “power in the primary ticket market.” Klobuchar, a Democrat from Minnesota, chairs the Senate judiciary subcommittee on competition policy, antitrust, and consumer rights, of which Lee, a Utah Republican, is a ranking member. The hearing date has not yet been set.",0 +5315,"blink-182 - I Miss You. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s1tAYmMjLdY](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s1tAYmMjLdY) + + + +Just came across this song. I can't believe I had never heard of this before.",0 +5316,"Opinion: At a gig, your phone shouldn't get a better view than you do.. If ever I record a video or take a photo at a gig I make sure that my phone doesn't get a better view than I do. + +By that I mean nobody behind me should be able to see it. + +It should be entirely covered by my silhouette. If this means holding it in front of my own face then so be it. After all, I'm looking to capture my own experience for a momento, and I'm not 10ft tall and hovering above the crowd. If I don't want my own view to be ruined by someone's phone, neither does anyone behind me. + +If everyone did this I don't think people filming at gigs would be an issue.",0 +5317,Wintergatan - Marble Machine (music instrument using 2000 marbles). ,0 +5318,"angry songs recommendations?. i'm so upset about something that recently happened & i don't have friends i could vent to. so yeah, recommend me some angry songs & i'll add them to a playlist i'm making. any genre is okay & would be very much appreciated. thanks!",0 +5319,Queens of the Stone Age - In The Fade [Rock]. ,0 +5320,"Trent Reznor takes over the airwaves, from 2005. Maybe this is already well known by fans in this sub, but in case not, there's a 2-hour long MP3 of Trent Reznor as guest host of the BBC Radio 1 Rock Show, while NIN were touring *With Teeth* in the UK in 2005. + +He answers listener questions over a bed of NIN songs, and plays 18 songs by other artists (plus two NIN tracks). Not the best quality, but interesting to hear what he was listening to back then. [Here is a list](https://www.spin.com/2020/04/nine-inch-nails-best-instrumental-tracks/?utm_source=cftw&utm_medium=003&utm_campaign=news) of their 10 best instrumental Tracks. Considering this is a 'Rock' show, there's very little metal. It's more a selection of indie/alternative bands from the time, like TV on the Radio, the Rapture, LCD Soundsystem, etc, and some older New Wave influences, like Talking Heads and Soft Cell. I think this is why NIN and Deftones are the two heavier bands I've always gravitated towards the most - their wide-ranging influences. You can see it in Deftones in their choice of covers, everything from the Smiths to Sade. + +Also of note, Reznor plays two Saul Williams songs and sings his praises, two years before *Niggy Tardust* came out. This show was my introduction to Saul Williams, and particularly his self-titled album, so I was over the moon when they announced Reznor would be producing his next record. (though still didn't beat the day it was announced Reznor was collaborating with David Lynch!). + +I'm not sure if an old radio rip counts as copyrighted material, so apologies to the Mods if they have to take this down.",0 +5321,Migos: Takeoff shot dead in Houston age 28 | Music. ,0 +5322,"Who is watching the Taylor Hawkins tribute concert right now?. It just started and already my emotions are all over the place … it’s a heavy event and that’s really resonating with me right now, but it’s great to celebrate with all this music.",0 +5323,‘Britney was broken. I’ve been broken and it’s horrible’: Elton John on helping Britney Spears sing again. ,0 +5324,"Which band's best song is actually their famous one in your opinion? (not one hit wonders). I love the Killers, but it doesn't matter how many times I hear it, Mr Brighside knocks it out of the park",0 +5325,Geto Boys - My Mind Playing Tricks On Me [Hip Hop]. ,0 +5326,"How is Machine Gun Kelly getting these headlining spots at major music festivals?. From the little I’ve listened to his music it sucks. Sounds like uninspired pop punk. His album reviews have been relatively negative to moderate, but nothing of high praise. His fan base seems to consist mostly of teens. So how is he getting headlining spots at major festivals like Lollapalooza and Bonnaroo? He just seems out of place as a marquee name for those festivals. Is he deserving of these headlining spots, or does he just have a really good management team? Am I the only one confused by this?",0 +5327,The song that eventually became A-ha's 'Take On Me'. ,0 +5328,"Michael Kiwanuka appreciation.. I just want to show some appreciation for Michael Kiwanuka and I found it funny that I suddenly found myself singing “I'm a black man in a white world” as a very white and blond man. + +I’m usually not that good with listening to entire albums but ended up listening to Love & Hate and I can honestly say that every song on that album is fantastic.",0 +5329,"Recovering from drug addiction right now... Need music to calm my mind (Recovery music). I'm not even Cold Turkeying but I lowered my dose to 1/10 of what I used to take pretty quick because the drug I used happened to have SSRI properties and it's dangerous to quit right away. My nose is runny, eyes are watering, body is freezing, stomach is turning, sweating, mind is racing and of course anxiety to top all that goodness off. + +I'm just listening to music to ease my mind right now. I have Thirteenth Step on repeat by A Perfect Circle, aswell as Mer De Noms. I love Eminem, AIC, Tool, NIN, Pink Floyd, APC etc... I need something to relate and hang on to or get lost in. Feel free to recommend me anything related to recovery. + +Current favorites: + +[https://youtu.be/cqJJwv\_Caaw](https://youtu.be/cqJJwv_Caaw) + +[https://youtu.be/SEeP8SdhqrU](https://youtu.be/SEeP8SdhqrU) + +[https://youtu.be/oGyqB3yC87k](https://youtu.be/oGyqB3yC87k) + +[https://youtu.be/FVhPJZWV0uM](https://youtu.be/FVhPJZWV0uM) + +​ + +EDIT: Did not expect all this support. Thanks to everyone who recommended some amazing music. This is more recommendations I can handle to go through at this point but you are very welcome to add it to my list down below if you have Spotify because the list is in constant rotation. I'm having pretty bad withdrawals now but I love answering all messages and reading your comments because it keeps my mind off things so you are very welcome to message me if you want. You inspired me to go CT today from all your amazing comments and messages. Know even if I maybe won't answer because of reasons I'm happily read every one of them. I'm already having one hell of a week and it won't get better. + +The only thing that makes me feel is music. + +Thank you so much. + +[https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3YKql2VlBNCbULpIeMQ2bF?si=32df0e565ef64d20](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3YKql2VlBNCbULpIeMQ2bF?si=32df0e565ef64d20) + +Feel free to listen to my playlist. Follow if you want and add music guys. Tell me if there's any problems adding music. Almost 400 songs now :)",0 +5330,"Dolly Parton wants to make a rock album, and Nancy Wilson of Heart wants to write it with her. Who would be your pick for Dolly's rock and roll album dream team?. ",0 +5331,"Hi This Is Flume - AMA. Hi This Is Flume - i’m @humblebuzz on Reddit and doing my first AMA since releasing Palaces - featuring Damon Albarn, MAY-A, Caroline Polachek and more. My US tour starts next week - AMA. + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/mhje389k2lj91.jpg",0 +5332,Sister Rosetta Tharpe - Didn’t It Rain [Blues / Gospel]. ,0 +5333,"What one hit wonder was genuinely a great song?. There are always new one hit wonders, but, to me, many aren't worth remembering past their 15 minutes (looking at you, ""Friday"" and ""Gangnam Style""). Are there any that you've kept listening to, or that introduced you to a band you now love?",0 +5334,King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard - Catching Smoke [Psychedelic Pop/Rock]. ,0 +5335,Pet Shop Boys - West End Girls (Official Video) (HD REMASTERED) [synth pop]. ,0 +5336,"Leonard 'Hub' Hubbard, Longtime Bassist for The Roots, Dies at 62. ",0 +5337,Phil Collins - declares this to be the last [ever] Genesis show. ,0 +5338,"Sting - Russians [rock, pop, political] can't believe this is relevant again. 🇺🇦. ",0 +5339,"Maggot Brain- Funkadelic. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=JOKn33-q4Ao + + +Does anyone know of any other songs, artists or albums, that sound like this song? The melancholy shredding is just so overwhelming, I’d love more like it.",0 +5340,"Artists with the warmest, richest voices of all time?. Definitely Karen Carpenter. If a perfect cup of coffee had a voice, it would be hers. Any others?",0 +5341,"Rick Beato: Why Gen Z Doesn't Care About Music (Alternate title: An eyebrow-raisingly massive generalisation based on fuzzy logic with a conclusion that is just... not true?). Rick Beato's [latest video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ag4iFa6E_yY)is, well, to say the least, odd. Anecdotally, myself and my Gen Z friends are absurdly passionate about music. Non-anecdotally, there is zero data to support music's popularity declining. And the argument isn't even about that - the discussion implies that it's a forgone conclusion that Gen Z doesn't care about music and instead just wants to watch Twitch streamers or play their video games. Is this where the ""rock is dead"" discussion is at now?",0 +5342,Carlos Santana Collapses During Michigan Concert. ,0 +5343,"Alice In Chains - Would? (MTV Unplugged) [Grunge, 1996]. ",0 +5344,"The hard feelings of seeing your favorite band, who has been a part of your life for many years, decline.. Here the other day I went to a show with my favorite band. They have been a part of my life for 25 years. In the past 10 years I started getting a felling that they were on a decline. Before this I had the feeling that everything they touched turned to gold - I don’t have that anymore. +Their stage performance is beginning to feel more like a rutine job, following a clear script. The same gimmicks, the same jokes. It’s not new and fresh anymore. +It’s just tough to witness when you have this long history with the band. It kinda feel like a really longlasting friendship. + +Has any else experience this?",0 +5345,"I keep seeing people do these Usher vs Chris Brown Verzuz discussions and I'm confused. Maybe it's because I'm 29 turning 30 so I'm out of touch, but am I crazy to think Usher's catalogue is just leaps and bounds better than Chris Browns?. 8701 and Confessions are modern-day classic albums. Usher has 9 number 1 hits on top of that. I think Chris makes good bop songs that chart, but then people quickly forget about them. Yeah, and Confessions came out 20 years ago and people still bump those songs. Idk maybe I'm old and it's a generational thing.",0 +5346,"Give me one album I must listen to at least once in my life. I’m really curious to see everyone’s answer here. I will start by suggesting God Save the Animals by Alex G. I ask that if you see this, you leave me an album suggestion that you cannot imagine having lived without ever listening to. I will listen to all of these!",0 +5347,Cocteau Twins - Heaven Or Las Vegas [Dream Pop] (1990). ,0 +5348,"What albums have absolutely impeccable production/mixing?. Here are my picks: + +​ + +1. Aja (Steely Dan) +2. My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy (Kanye West) +3. Kid A (Radiohead)",0 +5349,Do you ever intentionally avoid listening to your favorite songs so that you won't get sick of them?. Or do you listen to them constantly because you like them so much you would never get sick of them?,0 +5350,"Bad Company's 1974 self titled debut album is such a banger.. I'd like to point fingers and say that people don't talk about Bad Company enough when discussing classic rock but honestly, I'm one of those people. They are almost never in my regular rotation but always find them again. Bad Company (album) is a classic rock staple and a real banger from beginning to end. Thanks Spotify.",0 +5351,Children of Bodom - Are You Dead Yet? [Melodic Death Metal]. ,0 +5352,Michael Jackson’s ‘Thriller’ Returns To Billboard Top 10 After 38 Years. ,0 +5353,"1.3 million people tried to buy tickets for Adele's Hyde Park show, biggest ticket demand of the century in the UK and the biggest since Oasis at Knebworth in 1996. Article: https://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/music/music-magazine/live-music/live-reviews/adele-hyde-park-bst-review-b2114312.html + +Sixty-five thousand of the 1.3 million people who applied for tickets – the biggest ticket demand since Oasis at Knebworth in 1996 – cram the barriers to the increasingly exclusive VIP zones, with Tom Cruise reportedly spotted in the ultra-mega-costs-a-kidney-platinum-plus enclave. There’s nary a glass of lambrusco or a box of Kleenex to be had this side of Watford.",0 +5354,"What band did you love but now could die happy never hearing again?. I’ll start, Sublime. I was so into them in middle school/high school! The stoner friendly sound was on point for where I was at in my life. My car in high school had a 90% chance of playing 40 oz to freedom as soon as it started. Now I hear them and sort of shutter. Sad, but true. Sorry Bradly",0 +5355,Tears For Fears - Everybody Wants to Rule the World [New Wave]. ,0 +5356,Mighty Mighty Bosstones - Someday I Suppose [ska core] RIP. ,0 +5357,"What band has incredibly high highs, but equally bad lows?. Weezer is the obvious one that comes to mind. Maybe metallica as well? + +Edit: I can't believe no one's said green day yet",0 +5358,Manu Chao - Me Gustas Tu. ,0 +5359,Lauryn Hill - Doo-Wop (That Thing) (Official Video) [Hip-Hop]. ,0 +5360,Happy 57th Birthday Eddie Vedder.. Glad you are still [Alive](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qM0zINtulhM&ab_channel=PearljamVEVO)!,0 +5361,‘Delete Spotify’: Users cancel music service after Rogan-Young incident. [https://www.wjhl.com/news/delete-spotify-users-cancel-music-service-after-rogan-young-incident/](https://www.wjhl.com/news/delete-spotify-users-cancel-music-service-after-rogan-young-incident/),0 +5362,Iron & Wine - Such Great Heights [Folk]. ,0 +5363,Rancid - Time Bomb [ska / punk] (1995). ,0 +5364,"For new Metallica fans, discovering the band from Stranger Things:. ​ + +1. Welcome! There may be a vocal minority on this sub who for some wild reason, see discovering the band through a Netflix show to be wrong and that it makes you a “poser”. Don’t listen to these people. +2. if you’re looking for more songs like Master of Puppets, you will probably like songs like “Creeping Death”, “Battery” and “One”, just to name a few. +3. You also know a few of their 90s tracks like “Enter Sandman” and “Nothing Else Matters” too, these have a bit of a different feel to the 80s tracks, but it’s worth giving “The Unforgiven” “Holier Than Thou” and “King Nothing” a listen if you like the 90s hits. +4. The band Megadeth is an incredibly similar band(Founded by an Ex-Metallica guitarist), many fans will agree to be as good, if not better than Metallica- definitely give “In My Darkest Hour” and “Holy Wars… The Punishment Due” some time also. Other bands which are worth a mention are Slayer, Anthrax and Diamond Head. +5. Finally, it’s 100% ok if the band’s other songs aren’t for you, and you only like MoP. What’s important is you like the song. You can check out all their 151 songs ranked [here](https://www.spin.com/2015/07/every-metallica-song-ranked/?utm_source=cftw&utm_medium=003&utm_campaign=news)",0 +5365,"What's a song you would listen to while holding off the enemy to buy time for others to escape, all while knowing your gonna die.. What's a song that you would listen to while holding off the enemy while others escape knowing you'll die. Something sad and heroic.",0 +5366,Genesis - Land of Confusion [Rock]. ,0 +5367,Anyone else hate the song “abcdefu”?. To me the song writing is subpar and the catchy tone can be deafening to the ear. I might just be being harsh.,0 +5368,Scissor Sisters - Take Your Mama [Alt Rock]. ,0 +5369,Outkast - B.O.B (Bombs over Baghdad) [Hip Hop]. ,0 +5370,"Best fake band. Little side bar from the best soundtrack post i made +What’s the best fake band to come out of movies/tv +For example: the blues brothers + + +Edit: the gorillaz are the wrong kind of fake for this kid + +EDIT 2: if the band in question would not have been made if they didn’t make the movie then they count",0 +5371,"Who is your “nobody knows this band” band?. After talking to a buddy about underrated albums yesterday due to a Reddit post, we got on the subject of bands we felt that we only knew. So now I wanna know Reddit’s unknown bands. + +Mine are: +-Cloud Cult +-Tub Ring +-Hurt +-Last Days of Empire (hard to find their stuff now, a MySpace era band) +-Ghostly Kisses +-Count the Stars +-Gazpacho",0 +5372,best back to back album releases of all time?. First pairing I thought of was Highway 61 and Blonde on Blonde,0 +5373,Leftover Crack - One Dead Cop [Punk Rock]. ,0 +5374,"Underrated rock musicians/bands 70s-80s-90s or early 2000s rec.. The title pretty much sums it all. I would like you to share an underrated rock musicians in the previous century or early 2000s, before 2010.",0 +5375,"Hi, this is Joss Stone. I'm excited to answer your questions. Ask me anything ! xx. I had so much fun writing and recording my new album with Dave Stewart. The release date will be early next year and I can’t wait to share it with you. Follow along during my ’25 Days of Christmas Advent Calendar' as I reveal behind the scenes moments. There just might be a big surprise at the end! https://www.instagram.com/jossstone/ https://www.facebook.com/jossstone https://twitter.com/JossStone https://orcd.co/neverforgetmylove + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/u1xmu4t6as581.jpg",0 +5376,Which artist has the best album debut and follow up?. They say you have 10 years to write your debut and 6 months to write the follow up. Who has avoided the sophomore jinx and written the best 1-2 album punch?,0 +5377,Iconic Brazilian singer Gal Costa dies at 77. ,0 +5378,"Thought I'd just provide a friendly reminder, Ticketmaster sucks. Yup. The general experience of seeing a live music act has been completely commoditised and watered down by Ticketmaster. Completely commercial and generic. This isn't a high quality post, just a general PSA to remember the shitheads that are watering down music and the general experience. + +Cheers matey! + +Edit: Yep I know something similar was posted - too bad TM sucks that bloody much.",0 +5379,"Does anyone else prefer complete albums over playlists/radios/etc.. I use Spotify a lot when I'm out and about, but I pretty much always prefer listening to complete albums over the endless playlists and radio stations that are available. Probably comes from listening to mostly records at home. Also the artists went through a lot of work sequencing the albums to tell a story from beginning to end and I like to relive that rather than have loose pieces here and there. Probably why I also am not a fan of best-ofs and compilations in general... Anyone else?",0 +5380,"More than a decade ago I interviewed Smash Mouth bass player Paul DeLisle for an article that never ran and he talked about the band's ""I'm a Believer"" cover for the movie ""Shrek."" I just found the interview and thought that portion was interesting enough to share.. Smash Mouth was supposed to play the Greek Festival in Kalamazoo, Michigan, in 2009 but canceled, so my article never ran. But I just found my interview notes and thought they were interesting enough to share here. + +On recording ""I'm a Believer"": + +""I remember when we recorded that we were working on our third album and we were like literally in a studio working on an album and a producer came into the main room where we were recording (and said), I just got a call from these people that are making this movie 'Shrek' and they wanna know if you could cover 'I'm a Believer' by Neil Bennett. And we all knew – I'm like, I know that song, and Greg's like, I know that song and Michael our drummer was like I know that song. So we literally just interrupted our session and just knocked it out, like the basic tracks were done really quick. We were already recording, we were in the middle of a song for our third record and we just interrupted that and just knocked it out I think in like less than an hour."" + +They had no idea it'd come to define one of the biggest animated films ever: + +""No, and in fact at the time we had no idea that that movie was gonna be so big. Before it came out it sounded ridiculous. ... We just thought, you know, what the hell is this? But our label thought it was a good idea so we all knew the song, we just knocked it out. And after we were done we just kind of forgot about it cause we were focusing on our record. No one had any idea the impact that that movie would have.""",0 +5381,"I’m Dan Wilson - I’m a singer-songwriter, producer and visual artist. I’ve written and produced songs with Adele, Mitski, Taylor Swift, Weezer and I’m the frontman of Semisonic. AMA!. Hi, I’m Dan Wilson and I’m here to answer your questions. Today, I released a a six-song EP called Dancing On The Moon that you can stream here: https://ffm.to/b22057j  + +My songwriting resume includes ""Closing Time"" (which I wrote for my band Semisonic), ""Not Ready to Make Nice"" (co-written with the Dixie Chicks) and ""Someone like You"" (co-written with Adele). I earned Grammy nominations for “Closing Time” (Best Rock Song) and my work on Taylor Swift's Red (Album Of The Year) and won Grammys for Song of the Year (“Not Ready to Make Nice” in 2007) and Album of the Year (which I won in 2012 as one of the producers of Adele’s 21).  + +I’ve been fortunate to collaborate and write/release songs with an amazing array of artists including Adele, Mitski, Halsey, Leon Bridges, Taylor Swift, Claud, John Legend, Keith Urban, Weezer, Noah Cyrus, The Chicks, Joy Oladokun, Celine Dion, My Morning Jacket,  Pink, Phantogram, Cuco and many others.   + +I have also created an online series of songwriting and collaboration advice titled Words Music in Six Seconds. The series can be found on Instagram: #wordsandmusicinsixseconds. In November 2020, I released the Words Music in 6 Seconds deck, a collection of cards which I wrote and designed based on my Instagram series. + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/8uylzyytkvn91.jpg",0 +5382,The Darkness - I Believe In A Thing Called Love [Rock]. ,0 +5383,"Songs that have not aged well (relating to the topic, not the sound of the song). Looking for songs that have a topic that is controversial now, but was fine to make a song about years/decades ago. Researching on how music has changed over time.",0 +5384,"BTS Members to Complete ‘Mandatory Military Duties’ in South Korea, Extending Hiatus Through 2025. ",0 +5385,Lustra - Scotty Doesn't Know [Pop punk] (2004). ,0 +5386,Mountain - Mississippi Queen [Blues Rock]. ,0 +5387,Metal Music. Any metal freaks here?? if this even is the right community for it,0 +5388,"What band/bands did you give a concerted effort to like, but in the end, they were just not your jam?. In the past I have given some bands more time than I should have. Even bought their albums. Here are some of mine: +KISS, Coldplay, Modest Mouse, and Ben Harper.",0 +5389,What song that you listened to when you were young did you realized later was about sex?. For me it was Meatloaf’s “Paradise By The Dashboard Light.”,0 +5390,Natalie Imbruglia - Torn [Pop]. ,0 +5391,Stevie Wonder - Superstition [Funk] (1974). ,0 +5392,"What’s your most controversial music opinion?. What opinion do you think will cause the most controversy? + +You lease don’t downvote people if you disagree with them. The point of this is for fun. + +Me first. The used/my chemical romance cover stands up against the original well. It’s certainly not better but it’s perfect at what it sets out to be. + +EDIT: sorry the post should be more obvious. It was their combined cover of under pressure. I know it didn’t add a lot to the song but it was a risky move copying one of the greatest songs by two of the greatest artists and they did an excellent job of it. + +Also. I apologise to the people saying this is a low effort post. I love reading peoples alternate takes. I’m sure a lot will only extend to band X is over rated but I also hope more good conversations open up.",0 +5393,"What albums are “They must’ve sold their soul to the devil” good?. My husband and I are on a road trip and we’re trying to think of albums from bands/solo artists that are just leaps and bounds beyond what came before and/or the rest of their catalogue. + +Our list so far: + +Judas Priest - Painkiller + +The Beatles - Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band + +Tom Waits - Swordfishtrombones + +Rush - Hold Your Fire + +YES - Owner of a Lonely Heart (apparently this is a single and not an album, husband still wants to include it as it is “a technical marvel of the time”) + +Jethro Tull - Stand Up + +What are some others? + +Note: Thank you everyone for adding to the list and making our long drive way more fun! There are clearly some glaring omissions from our initial list, lol. Edited a bit for clarity, but our “criteria” is admittedly very loosey-goosey - thanks for being groovy!",0 +5394,"I too am almost 40 and started a one woman band. I recorded my one and only EP as an homage to my favorite bands of the 90s, Veruca Salt and Garbage.. (https://open.spotify.com/track/7nBdbrlS5ZFfUOIK11PlMo?si=Lmb4UtdnQzmB6jSrtgKW7w&utm_source=copy-link) + + +Edit: thank you so much everyone for the kind words. It really means the world to me 🤘💖 + +Another Edit: you guys are so amazing; reading all these kind-hearted kudos is so incredible. Knowing that so many people out there are digging the music is literally a dream come true for me. Thank you again, and keep rocking. It's never too late! 🖤",0 +5395,Ben Folds Five - Brick [alternative] 1997. ,0 +5396,"Give me one song to listen to, just one.. It can be your all time favourite or what your into now.",0 +5397,"Champagne Supernova by Oasis is a real gem of a tune. Been on a 90's kick lately re-visiting some older tunes. So many classics that I had forgotten about. Champagne Supernova comes on and it was an immediate ""holy shit!"" moment. I hear Wonderwall quite a bit on SiriusXm at work but never Champagne Supernova. Glad I was able to come across this song again! + +How many special people change?",0 +5398,"What would you consider to be the greatest non-English songs of all-time?. In other words, what non-English songs are held in such critical acclaim they'd make an all-time greatest songs list? + +I'm thinking more critical reception (i.e. Plastic Love) rather than mass popularity (Gangnam Style/Despacito)",0 +5399,"96 Quite Bitter Beings by CKY has one of the catchiest and contagious riffs in rock/metal.. What other songs have something so catchy and contagious? + +[Song in question.](https://youtu.be/FtH7sgn5af4)",0 +5400,"What's your 'zen' album, that reduces your stress and makes you feel at peace?. Mine would have to be Moondance by Van Morrison. Honorable mention to Pet Sounds.",0 +5401,The Pogues star dies aged 72 as the band pay tribute. ,0 +5402,Who is the currently the best drummer in the world?. Who do you think is the best drummer right now in music today.? Theres a ton of options so interested to see what you say. Let the debate begin..,0 +5403,"Sturgill Simpson - Turtles All The Way Down [Psychedelic Rock]. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6gBV-Nzq7Pg](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6gBV-Nzq7Pg) + +​ + +There is a gateway in our minds, that leads somewhere out there far beyond this plane.",0 +5404,"Eminem, Dr. Dre - Forgot About Dre [RAP/HIP HOP]. ",0 +5405,"saddest songs of all time?. my choices: + +- fourth of july by surfjan stevens +- needle in the hay by elliott smith +- funeral by phoebe bridgers +- class of 2013 by mitski +- wish you were here by pink floyd +- alone again (naturally) by gilbert o’sullivan +- between the bars by elliott smith +- how to disappear completely by radiohead +- brothers in arms by dire straits",0 +5406,The Hu - Wolf Totem [Folk Metal]. ,0 +5407,Whats a band that is known for a certain style of music but actually had a completely different sound originally?. For example Ministry was originally a synth pop band but over time became more of an industrial metal band,0 +5408,"Reat in Peace to Mexican music icon Vicente Fernández.. This morning we lost one of the absolute icons of Mexican music in Vicente Fernández. Know as El Rey del Mariachi (the King of Mariachi) Fernández had a long carrer spanning five decades and producing countless classic songs. I know this sub doesn't talk about Mexican music but I thought it would be nice to share for those here that are fans. RIP to El Rey. + +https://youtu.be/YGbiWnoWTto + + +Edit: Rest",0 +5409,"Support Jinjer! 🇺🇦. Jinjer is an amazing metal band from (I believe) the Donetsk area of the Ukraine. Their music is awesome, and with everything going on their song Home Back definitely carries more meaning to me now. Thought I'd share this as I remembered seeing a bunch of posts about other music related to what's going on and I felt they deserved some attention. + +Edit: This has really blown up, thanks for all the recommendations on awesome artists. I'll have to go through and check them out. Slava Ukraini! + +Edit 2: https://help.rescue.org/donate/ukraine",0 +5410,Just how popular was Michael Jackson at his peak during Thriller?. I know the album sold incredibly well and became the highest selling album of all time. I’m a huge fan of pop culture and was born In 2000. I always like to find out how popular something was pre internet because it relied solely through word of mouth. My parents said it’s hard to describe the whole experience of that time but if you guys could try your best to describe it?,0 +5411,Bone Thugs N Harmony - 1st Of Tha Month [hip-hop] (Explicit Version). ,0 +5412,Does anyone know song's about a father regretting their decision of not taking better care of their child?. Sorry if it's oddly specific but I just want atleast one song about this.,0 +5413,Band of Horses - The Funeral [Alternative Rock]. ,0 +5414,Best debut album of a band?. For the 20th century Led Zeppelin easily. For the 21st Century I think I’d have to go with The Strokes - Is This It,0 +5415,King Crimson - Starless [Progressive Rock]. ,0 +5416,"Blues Traveler - Hook [Indie, Rock, Blues]. ",0 +5417,The Prodigy's Fat of the Land turns 25 today. One of the finest electronic albums of the 90s. Happy birthday and we miss you Keith,0 +5418,"Name a great song cover that completely reinvents the original.. So, not just a straight up cover but one that swaps instruments, changes the tempo, etc. + +I like Lorde's rendition of Tears for Fears' ""Everybody Wants To Rule The World"" and Ashely Johnson's version of aha's ""Take On Me"" from The Last of Us Part II + +Edit: this kinda took off. Thanks for all the great responses!",0 +5419,Zack de la Rocha Injury Forces Rage Against the Machine to Cancel European Tour. ,0 +5420,"Recording mistakes that were left in the final mix.. What are some of your favorite examples of times where a musician made a mistake, but it was left in due to it adding to the song?",0 +5421,"Listen to one album each day with this site i created.. Hey! + +Posted this site in here roughly a year ago or so but we're now celebrating 2 years and there's a few new features, so thought i'd let people know! + +There's a book called [1001 Albums You Must Hear Before You Die](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1001_Albums_You_Must_Hear_Before_You_Die) so i created this site to make it easier to actually listen to all those albums. Enter a username and then you'll get one album each day you should listen to, all taken from the book. Features includes: + +* Rate every album and get stats based on your ratings. +* Add reviews and read other people reviews. +* Onpage wikipedia-summary for each album. +* Spotify/Apple Music/Amazon/Tidal streaming links for each album. +* Create a group and get the same album as other people in the group, great for your workplace! + +It's just a hobby project so everything isn't perfect. Feedback welcome! + +Note: A lot of usernames are taken so it's a good idea to add a number or something at the end. As long as you remember it everything goes! + +Edit: Note that by default you won't get any new albums for weekends. That can be changed by clicking ""more optional settings"". + +[https://1001albumsgenerator.com/](https://1001albumsgenerator.com/) + +There's also a sub to share album reviews or other fun stuff: /r/1001AlbumsGenerator",0 +5422,A Tribe Called Quest - Electric Relaxation [Hip Hop]. ,0 +5423,"I just got my 21 year old into Pink Floyd. We started with Dark Side of the Moon and then Wish You Were Here. + +Just wanted to share with people that will care. :)",0 +5424,Depeche Mode - Enjoy The Silence [Industrial music ]. ,0 +5425,"Lemmy. #OnThisDay +December 28, 2015: Motörhead frontman Lemmy Kilmister dies of cancer. +(24 December 1945 – 28 December 2015)",0 +5426,New Radicals - You Get What You Give [Alternative Rock]. ,0 +5427,"Pink Floyd��s The Division Bell album was released on this day in 1994. Tweet: [https://twitter.com/pinkfloyd/status/1508377873555628037](https://twitter.com/pinkfloyd/status/1508377873555628037) + +Pink Floyd’s The Division Bell album was released on this day in 1994 and went to number one, spending a total of 63 weeks in the chart - but who suggested the title?",0 +5428,"I hate playing my instrument. I have been playing the clarinet for the last 10 years. I've been on competitions, both solo and in a quartet and I have always done well (always in national round). The thing is, I just hate it. Whenever I practice at home, I start feeling physically sick after a few minutes of playing it. In lessons I often get stuck at some random bar and I keep replaying it not because I'm unable to play it, but just because I don't like the way I played it, it's not perfect, so I play it over and over like 15 times, which might seem like it's the normal way to practice, but it's not that type of replaying, it's just a very frustrating loop and it hurts both mentally and physically. + +I just hate it, hate it, hate it. The problem is, I'm kind of a part of the school, part of the orchestra and also a member of a trio. We are supposed to compete this year. My grandma also used to teach at the music school, so I'm basically the known kind of talented kid. I'm firmly stuck in this role. My grandparents bought me a really, really good clarinet a few months ago which makes the situation even worse. I'm really grateful for this, it's a beautiful gift and I would love to enjoy it, but I just hate it, hate it, hate it. + +It seems impossible to stop. Everybody thinks I'm the clarinet kid, I've been there for too long. It just sucks. + +Thanks for any advice!",0 +5429,"Mr Morale & The Big Steppers is out. What is your opinion on this new album considering it is new release. + +**Im stepping big tonight**",0 +5430,"Most overplayed songs. What are some songs that you believe are overplayed and that you were kind of sick of hearing? + +For me it is the following: + +-Freebird + +-Hotel California + +-Bohemian Rhapsody",0 +5431,"Amazing bands with terrible names.. \*Required text to fit character length for post\* + +Throwing this out there before the comment section gets spammed with it: + +Live. Worst band name ever. Luckily, they formed before the internet was really a thing. But, imagine the hassle it would be to Google a band if they were to form today and name themselves ""Live."" + +I'm not talking about goofy/funny band names like Butthole Surfers or Pearl Jam, but actually, downright terrible names. Like if a band used emoji's or something stupid.",0 +5432,"We are The Midnight. Our new album Heroes was just released Friday, and our US tour starts this month. Ask us anything!. Hi, we are Tyler Lyle and Tim McEwan - collectively known as The Midnight. We met by chance in LA a few years ago and have been putting out music together ever since. Our 5th album Heroes came out Friday, and we start our US headline tour next week. We have the best fans in the world and we are excited that everyone is here. Ask us anything! + +https://linktr.ee/themidnightofficial + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/yx0o2o0icxm91.jpg",0 +5433,"I Want To Conquer The World by Bad Religion might have the most awesome lyrics I've ever heard.. This is some high poetry here. First class. Here is the link. + + [I Want to Conquer the World - YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tBGVqy8pGQc&list=RDGMEMloCJr0whxmhUCIkaMY7iOwVMc_BcivBprM0&index=2) + +Hey brother christian with your high and mighty errand +Your actions speak so loud, I can't hear a word you're saying +Hey sister bleeding heart with all of your compassion +Your labors soothe the hurt, but can't assuage temptation + +Hey man of science with your perfect rules of measure +Can you improve this place with the data that you gather? +Hey mother mercy, can your loins bear fruit forever? +Is your fecundity a trammel or a treasure? + +And I want to conquer the world +Give all the idiots a brand new religion +Put an end to poverty, uncleanliness, and toil +Promote equality in all of my decisions +With a quick wink of the eye +And a ""God you must be joking"" + +Hey mister diplomat with your worldly aspirations +Did you see your children cry when you left them at the station? +Hey moral soldier, you've got righteous proclamation +And precious tomes to fuel your pulpy conflagrations + +And I want to conquer the world +Give all the idiots a brand new religion +Put an end to poverty, uncleanliness, and toil +Promote equality in all of my decisions + +I want to conquer the world +Expose the culprits, and feed 'em to the children +Do away with air pollution, and then I'll save the whales +We'll have peace on Earth and global communion + +I want to conquer the world +I want to conquer the world! +I want to conquer the world +I want to conquer the world!",0 +5434,Sneaker Pimps - 6 Underground [Trip Hop]. ,0 +5435,Phil Collins and two Genesis bandmates sell song catalogue for a reported $300m. ,0 +5436,Slayer - Hell Awaits [Thrash Metal]. ,0 +5437,"David Bowie. 6 years ago today, English singer, songwriter, and actor David Bowie died. Bowie is regarded as one of the most influential musicians of the 20th century, helping transcend fashion, music, and pop culture in general.",0 +5438,"The sexiest songs that come to mind?. Do I Wanna Know? by Arctic Monkeys is the first song I think of. Also, Wicked Game by Chris Isaak, Need You Tonight by INXS and Make It Wit Chu by Queens of the Stone Age. + +What’s yours? + +Lets get a steamy playlist going.",0 +5439,What's your favorite anti war song?. During the Vietnam war there was a ton of anti war songs. Not really sure after that though. so I was trying to make the best list of anti war songs you know of. Thanks for commenting.,0 +5440,Happy 49th to Queens of the Stone Age frontman's Josh Homme. ,0 +5441,Loretta Lynn - Coal Miner’s Daughter [Country] RIP to a legend. ,0 +5442,"Your favorite top 5 albums of all time. Have to be different bands/artists. My twist is your age. We have Boomers, Gen X, Gen Y, Millennials and Gen Z out there. Let's do this.. I'm 50. I'm sure that 20 year olds will have a different list than me and I'm excited to see that list so I can check out new music. + +My list, in no particular order. Pink Floyd: The Dark Side of the Moon (first album I ever bought 40 years ago. It's my favorite). + +Led Zeppelin: Led Zeppelin II (favorite band of all time. I think this is their best album followed closely by Physical Graffiti.) + +Rage Against the Machine: Rage Against the Machine (I was in college at the time. This album blew me away. So different from anything else out there at the time. Played on repeat for hours). + +Dr. Dre: The Chronic. (Was already a fan of rap/hip-hop but this album was genre defining. I probably listened to this non-stop for a week straight). + +Bob Marley and the Wailers: Exodus (The album Legend got me turned on to them but I think this is their best album. Just a masterpiece.) + +5+1 The Beatles: White Album (personally, my favorite Beatles album. So many memorable tracks.) + +5+2 A Tribe Called Quest: The Low End Theory (East coast hip-hop at it's finest. The jazz influence really shines. RIP Phife. We miss you) + +5+3 The Allman Brothers Band: Live at Fillmore East (probably the best live album of all time. The shared and timed musicianship is out of this world.) + +I could go on, but then it's not a top 5 is it? Have fun y'all. I look forward to your choices!",0 +5443,"Eric Church Cancels to Watch the Final Four. For those of you who haven’t heard, country music star Eric Church cancelled his show in San Antonio so he could go watch UNC in the Final Four. + +I get the significance of the game, but I’m amazed by how many people on social media have no clue what fans do to attend a concert for an artist they’re dedicated to; taking vacation time from work, maybe get non refundable airfare and/or accommodations. + +Actually I’m not amazed. People are completely clueless and have no concept of empathy. They might not be into music so of course go ahead and devalue it and F everyone as long as they got theirs. + +As a music fan who does enjoy traveling to see my favorite bands, I would be livid if the headliner pulled the rug out from under me. + +What if a basketball team decided to go see a concert instead of playing the game? Oh of course then we’d see the ‘real’ outrage. + +Edit: Just want to be clear that one of my key points is that if the situation were reversed, sports fans would be freaking out in unabashed fury. + +Edit 2: Some of these responses are baffling (big surprise). This has nothing to do with entitlement or celebrity worship. If you are hosting an event, you are obligated to show up.",0 +5444,"As you grow older, do you find it’s harder to find new music that hits you like it did during your formative years?. It seems I can’t find new music that impacts me as much each new decade of life. There’s new albums I love, but after a few Months it’s all forgettable. Maybe this is a generational thing, and music “peaks” for a person during their teen years.",0 +5445,"Dolly Parton Changes Her Mind on Rock Hall Nomination: ‘I’ll Accept Gracefully’. https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/dolly-parton-reverses-herself-hall-of-fame-nomination-1344857/ +>Six weeks after pulling herself out of contention for the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame, saying she hadn’t “earned that right,” Dolly Parton has had a change of heart. In a new interview with NPR’s Morning Edition, the country icon said would indeed receive the honor if she’s voted in. “I’ll accept gracefully,” she said. “I’ll say ‘thanks’ and accept that.” + +>She explained that her initial reaction to the nomination was based on a misconception about the institution. “It was always my belief that the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame was for people in rock music,” she said. “I have found out lately it’s not necessarily that. But if they can’t go there to be recognized, where can they go? And so I felt like I was taking away from someone that maybe deserved it certainly more than me since I never considered myself a rock artist. But obviously, there’s more to it than that.”",0 +5446,"Sonic Youth - Bull In The Heather [Alternative rock, 1994]. ",0 +5447,AURORA covers Massive Attack - Teardrop [Synth Pop]. ,0 +5448,"Jimmy Page. Happy 78th birthday, Jimmy Page. +Thank you for your extremely versatile and beautifully powerful guitar playing that made Led Zeppelin one of the most highly innovative rock bands of all time. You are eternally one of the greatest guitarists of all time.",0 +5449,"In your opinion, which album released over 20 years ago has stood the test of time?. I'll go... ""Dummy"" by Portishead. I still listen to it regularly and it gives me the same happy chills as it did nearly 30 years ago. It's a musical masterpiece that could be released now and still sound fresh. + +EDIT: to stop the whinging, what I meant was which albums don't sound dated. Like, they could be released today and still sound like ""new"" music. I love Soundgarden's Superunknown, for example, but to me it *sounds* like a 90s album. Sheesh.",0 +5450,"Ozzy Osbourne Guitarist's Randy Rhoads died 40 years ago today.. Article: [https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-features/ozzy-osbourne-randy-rhoads-tribute-rock-hall-1169415/](https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-features/ozzy-osbourne-randy-rhoads-tribute-rock-hall-1169415/) + +*“It’s a long time coming, but he got there in the end,” Osbourne says. “He was a great player.… I mean, the guy should be still alive. The way he died was a terrible thing.” Here, the singer reflects on the guitarist who helped him start over. “I owe my career to him,” Osbourne says.* The guitarist, who played on Osbourne’s first two solo albums, will be recognized by the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame later this year",0 +5451,Blur - Coffee And TV [Alternative Rock]. ,0 +5452,"What’s the best story ever told in a single song?. For me, it’s probably ‘Ode to Billy Joe’ - by Bobby Gentry; it’s like a whole novel in a single song, but I would love to hear about some of your suggestions",0 +5453,"Alice Cooper & The Muppets - ""Welcome To My Nightmare"". ",0 +5454,What’s the worst between-song banter or crowd work you’ve seen at a concert?. Basically the title. The more awkward or inappropriate the better.,0 +5455,"Pantera - Metal Magic [Metal] Forty years ago I recorded an unknown band in the studio using a crappy tape recorder. The band became wildly famous, so I finally decided to post the entire tape online.. ",0 +5456,"I really like Frank Zappa (appreciation). One of my few reasons to keep going anymore is Frank Zappa, his music genuinely continues to comfort, invite and make me a cup of tea with nice biscuits while it's at it. + +I don't know how one man could make all of the tunes he has, even his silliest of tunes male me feel so good about myself knowing I have lived in a world Frank Zappas genius has touched + +(My favorite Zappa song is Catholic Girls)",0 +5457,Who else loves punk rock covers?. I have been listening to punk covers all morning. It started with 99 red balloons covered by Goldfinger. I truly believe alot of songs were supposed to be punked out.,0 +5458,"Michael Lang, Woodstock Organizer and Co-Creator, Dies at 77. ",0 +5459,"The Rolling Stones - Paint It, Black [Classic Rock] Released 56 years ago today. ",0 +5460,"KEXP live sessions are awesome. I have discovered several bands thanks to their live sessions. + +I find it difficult to discover new music in Spotify so I really enjoy the KEXP YouTube channel and how they promote, interview and setup all the live sessions. + +Kudos to all the team.",0 +5461,"Why are People Incapable of Praising Old Music without shitting on the new Music?. Whenever I see old music praise, I love it. I'm only 18 but I listen to basically all eras of music, so I love seeing praise for my favorite oldie songs. But I get annoyed when they ruin it by adding ""unlike today's meaningless songs"" +I'm sure there are many meaningless songs from the 60s as well.",0 +5462,Portishead - Roads [Trip Hop]. ,0 +5463,Supergroups that were actually good?. It seemed pretty trendy in the 2000's to form supergroups and I was wondering if any of them were actually good as most of the ones I've heard were pretty underwhelming. Them Crooked Vultures made a good album and I know Cream was a supergroup but does anyone else know of any good ones worth checking out?,0 +5464,Colombian singer Maluma walks out of Qatar human rights interview. ,0 +5465,"Smashing Pumpkins are the most unique band of the ""Grunge"" Era.. I love Pearl Jam, Nirvana, Alice in Chains, STP, etc. But I feel like Smashing Pumpkins were the only band, besides maybe Blind Melon, that didn't have roots in 80s metal or punk. They just had a way different sound. Obviously everyone has their roots but I don't see it as Obviously with them. What does everyone think? + +Alright. Thanks for all the feedback. I understand they have metal, punk, 80s alt influences but my point was that the overall sound is very blended to the point that it doesn't share much of the same sound with most bands of the era. Maybe I'm wrong but that has been my feeling + +Again guys/gals lol.. this was meant to debate about SP in comparison to the other ""Grunge"" bands, which i get is subjective or maybe not even a real movement at all. Alice in Chains, Pearl Jam, Soundgarden, Stone Temple Pilots, Nirvana in no particular order. I love all the discussion and I guess I'm more of a reddit lurker so commenting back alot has been a challenge. Sorry if I don't get back on everyone at this point",0 +5466,"If you like rock music, you should seriously check out Japan. Over the last few years, a bunch of really good Japanese bands put their stuff on YouTube and Spotify. A lot of them are really, really good. I don't even speak the language, but I listen to a bunch of them, because they have great musicians and most of them are more about melody than screaming. + +Some examples that I recommend: + +Babymetal - Headbanger Live: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I2vuKOmd1js + +Polkadot Stingray - Electric Public: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S5st_BGFpLI&list=PLnpw7cPDExTG2kTa_amUW50earGczolYS&index=21 + +Non - わたしは部屋充 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yOUXPstANrI&list=PLnpw7cPDExTG2kTa_amUW50earGczolYS&index=53 + +Ieri Leo - Shine: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pr8Crpu16Pc&list=PLnpw7cPDExTG2kTa_amUW50earGczolYS&index=61 + +SHISHAMO - 熱帯夜 : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l-d26xbK1T0&list=PLnpw7cPDExTG2kTa_amUW50earGczolYS&index=97 + +There are a ton of other great bands, from punk, to metal, to rock and pop. I honestly think the music scene in Japan is WAY better than America right now, especially on the radio.",0 +5467,"Who are your favorite unconventional vocalists?. Would love to start a discussion around unusual voices. Whether they’re subtle or completely off the wall in their uniqueness, what “odd” voices do you consider yourself a fan of? No genre is off limits!",0 +5468,What’s your favorite absurd band name?. I’m partial to Fine Young Cannibals and The The. They were really just naming bands anything in the 80s.,0 +5469,"25th anniversary of OK Computer - Radiohead. Released 21/05/97. Where did that time go? Still genius. Memories and thoughts on this great album? + +Sorry, no link as they are Hall of Famers for the sub.",0 +5470,"I just received my dream instrument from my friend, no strings attached. An EWI5000. I don't deserve him.. I'm in shock. I don't know what to say, posting this is partially me just working out these feelings like a journal. I hope yall don't mind, just let me know and I'll delete it. + +My friend took me out for ice cream last night, and after some conversation I mentioned how I had a passion for sax + dabbled in other wind instruments all throughout highschool, but dropped off when I graduated for various reasons. I never lost the drive or desire to play wind instruments though. I tried getting a flute a few years ago when I lived fully on my own, but even playing it quietly made me tense. + +I told him I've been dreaming of owning a decent electronic sax, something I could practise at all hours with headphones without disturbing people. WAY out of my current price range, but something to hope for. + + He goes ""I have one. I can't play anymore because of school and work, and I don't just want to sell it back to the store I got it from. I can afford not to sell it.. You want it?"" He truly acted like he was giving me a .25c plastic recorder. + + When I recovered from my combination heart and panic attack I sobbed yes about ten million times. + +I've been playing any time I have a spare second. It's still all there years later, like playing a bicycle. I can't believe this is real. How is this real. + +(Edit: oh hah hah ""no strings attached"" you guys are HILARIOUS. Lol)",0 +5471,Death Cab by Cutie - Soul Meets Body [Alt Rock]. ,0 +5472,Who is your favourite artist from a music genre you are not generally a fan of?. Maybe you’re not a big fan of hip hop but you love Kendrick Lamar or you hate country music but you love Johnny Cash. Are there any artists you love despite not generally liking the genre of music they perform?,0 +5473,"If Elvis is the King of Rock & Roll, and Michael Jackson is the King of Pop, who is the King of Rap/Hip-Hop?. Seeing as rap/hip-hop is one of the biggest genres of music around, wonder what the general consensus is (if there is one) on who it’s “King” is.",0 +5474,"I’m Chris Robinson from The Black Crowes, come celebrate 4/20 with me! AMA!. I am the lead singer of the rock band, The Black Crowes. We’ve done just about everything a legendary rock group should do from selling out shows worldwide, being kicked off a tour for insulting the sponsor, getting screwed by bad record deals, marriages and divorces, fighting amongst ourselves and against the rest of the world! Recent projects include the 2nd leg of our Shake Your Money Maker Tour (this summer), and 1972 Album (Cover Ep of the greatest rock and roll songs to come out of that year, in exclusive partnership with Amazon Music). Ask me anything! + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/77ztbk9qvcu81.jpg",0 +5475,Canadian Radio Stations Pull Arcade Fire Music As Band Kicks Off Tour. ,0 +5476,Low's Mimi Parker Has Died. ,0 +5477,"musician pnb rock has died at 30.. https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/music/story/2022-09-12/rapper-pnb-rock-shot-at-l-a-restaurant + +Passed in a robbery-gone wrong. May he rest in peace.",0 +5478,"I miss Tom Petty. +Time To Move On from the album Wildflowers came on my shuffle today. I haven't heard the song in awhile & it hit me something fierce. + +Broken skyline, which way to love land + +Which way to something better + +Which way to forgiveness + +Which way do I go + +🌸🌼🌼🌼🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌼🌼🌸🌸🌸🌼🌼🌸🌸 + +It's time to move on, time to get going + +What lies ahead, I have no way of knowing + +But under my feet, baby, grass is growing + +It's time to move on, it's time to get going",0 +5479,King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard - Rattlesnake [Psychedelic Rock/Alt Rock]. ,0 +5480,"What do you think is the best male/female duet song. Like a song where both male and women people are featured (ex. American Boy, Yo love)",0 +5481,"What's your favorite album of 2021?. Mine is Gojira's ""Fortitude"". Followed by Doja Cat's ""Planet Her"". + +Edit: Thanks to everyone for their thoughts and recommendations, now I have a huge list of new things to listen to for the start of the New Year. Happy New Year to you all!",0 +5482,"A recent house sale on Fire Island uncovered about 200 tapes of original DJ sets from Fire Island Pines and NYC from 1983 to 1999. [Here is a very short article about the tapes with a link to where all the sets can be streamed for free](https://www.testpressing.org/magazine/the-pinewalk-collectionamazing-discovery-of-fire-islandsleaze-dj-sets-discovered) + +For context, these are House and disco sets from some of the biggest parties from the beginning and height of the AIDS crisis. Many of the people who attended these parties were lost way too soon to the disease. This is a musical record of what is largely considered a lost generation of gay men. + +Not only is it historical, the mixes are absolutely incredible. Most are about an hour and a half long. Some over 3 hours. + +The sets are currently being digitally restored and remastered and uploaded as they go, but they've uploaded a lot of them already. + +My favorites so far have been The White Party 1989 and Danceteria 1991. + +Hopefully this is appropriate for this sub.",0 +5483,NOFX - Linoleum [Punk] (1994). ,0 +5484,Faith No More - The Gentle Art of Making Enemies [Alternative Metal]. ,0 +5485,"George Thorogood - One Bourbon, One Scotch, One Beer (live) [Blues]. ",0 +5486,Monkey Gone To Heaven - RIP Mike Nesmith. [https://ultimateclassicrock.com/monkees-michael-nesmith-dies/?utm\_source=Sailthru&utm\_medium=email&utm\_campaign=New%20Campaign&utm\_term=UCR](https://ultimateclassicrock.com/monkees-michael-nesmith-dies/?utm_source=Sailthru&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=New%20Campaign&utm_term=UCR),0 +5487,Living Colour - Cult Of Personality [Hard Rock/Alternative Metal] (1988). ,0 +5488,"Weezer Cancel 2022 Broadway Residency Due to “Low Ticket Sales,” Rivers Cuomo Says. ",0 +5489,"Is Starman or Rocketman the better space song?. No further details, just the question. I feel like they both have the vibe you need, so it's a close call. I might say starman because it's more optimistic.",0 +5490,"People to know: Frank Zappa. Rock and Roll, Jazz, Funk, Classical, doo-wop, commercial jingles, etc. sometimes all at once, and with the highest degree of musicians available at the time. This is what you will find should decide to investigate the offerings of Frank Vincent Zappa. + +Zappa was a composer, guitarist, political personality, vocalist, workaholic, satirist, and absolute musical genius. + +It would take several albums to fully realize the scope of what his catalogue has to offer. I personally started with Apostrophe then moved onto Overnight Sensation and One Size Fits All. Joe’s Garage is a wild ride of an album not for the feint of heart. + +I could not possibly do justice to the man and his extensive catalogue in the context of a Reddit post, all I can do is tell you that if you are a serious music lover and you want to see a composer tackle and succeed at a multitude of genres you need to dip into a few of his albums. + +His son Dweezil also tours under the moniker Zappa plays Zappa performing his fathers material. That is 100% worth your time as well. + +Comments section help me out!",0 +5491,I am obsessed with Mayonaise by The Smashing Pumpkins.. I think this might be the best songwriting I have ever seen combined with the sound is just incredible. Anyway just had to tell someone.,0 +5492,Cake - Frank Sinatra [Alt Rock]. ,0 +5493,"[Meta] Ween deserves waaaay more respect.. I’ve been a fan for decades. I’m honestly shocked they aren’t more popular despite their “acquired taste”. After watching the 25th anniversary of Ween jamming with Primus I’m convinced anyone who doesn’t “like” Ween can suck a duck. + +World renowned artists like Trey and Matt could have chosen any bands for their show. They picked 2. Ween and Primus. I understand why Primus was included but why Ween? You gotta ask yourself why?",0 +5494,Righteous Gemstones - Misbehavin' [Church]. ,0 +5495,"what’s your favorite song, ever?. mine would have to be “Every Breath You Take” by the Police.",0 +5496,"Pet Shop Boys - West End Girls [Synth-pop, 1985]. ",0 +5497,"Does anybody else simply not care about the ""message"" behind the music as long as the music it self slaps?. I usually don't even register it, I listen to a really wide variety of music and artists, many of whom contradict each other in their beliefs and many who don't exactly align with mine either (weather it's politics, religion, etc...) + +As long as the music slaps tho I simply enjoy it for what it is 🤷 I vibe with the beat, the sounds, the way the words intertwine with each other, the actual lyrics play second fiddle in my eyes ya know? + +Also just to clarify, I don't have a problem with artists expressing their opinions and beliefs in their songs, if anything I'm actually all for it, I'd rather it'd be expressed through beautiful art over most other ways, even if I don't personally agree with it. + +Edit: I feel like this post is doing an ill-job of conveying what I mean exactly, wrote [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/Music/comments/vzql13/does_anybody_else_simply_not_care_about_the/igaqmlk?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3) in the comments and I think it sheds better light on it if anyone's interested.",0 +5498,"You’re driving in your car down the highway in the summer, windows down, & the sun is starting to set. What song(s) are you listening to?. A few come in mind for me. “Band on the Run” by Paul McCartney & Wings, “In A Big Country” by Big Country, and “Into The Great Wide Open” by Tom Petty & Heartbreakers",0 +5499,"This weekend is the 20th anniversary of Warren Zevon's final appearance on the Late Show with David Letterman. On October 30, 2002, Warren Zevon appeared on the Late Show With David Letterman after being diagnosed with mesothelioma earlier in the year. With the knowledge that Zevon had just months to live, Letterman did something that he had never done before and dedicated the entire show to Zevon's music. Zevon was the only guest on the show that night and he played three songs: Mutineer, Genius, and Roland The Headless Thompson Gunner. Those three songs were Zevon's final public performance. + +Letterman's YouTube channel just uploaded the full show from that night. I highly recommend giving it a watch this weekend. Enjoy every sandwich. + +https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=giTi8KWSZl4",0 +5500,"Best cover song?. Although there many contenders, for me Nirvana's MTV Unplugged cover of ""Where Did You Sleep Last Night? by Lead Belly (amongst others) is #1. When Kurt Cobain's voice cracks and escapes from his soul at the end of the song gets me everytime.",0 +5501,"Need weird songs. I'm making a playlist that might make someone go ""wtf are you listening to?"" Something as weird as ""Paralyzed"" by The Legendary Stardust Cowboy. ""Frownland"" by Captain Beefheart. ""Please Mr. Gravedigger"" by David Bowie, and ""Philosophy of the World"" by The Shaggs. + +Do you know some weird songs like that? + +[Playlist](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7yXpe5mzb92VjoGTYvWN5U?si=1TLIUF-iTLO6_-wSkfoWIw&utm)",0 +5502,"What's the biggest upset in music history?. It could be an unfinished album by a great artist, the untimely death of a band member, an album winning a Grammy when they shouldn't have or vice versa, one album winning album of the year over another, a fantastic artist not in a musician hall of fame, anything. What's something that upsets you about a past occurrence in music? + +Should add - while I'm a gigantic fan of both artists, Eminem should've won album of the year 2001, not Two Against Nature. Both are *amazing,* but Steely Dan had their time, while Eminem was young and prosperous.",0 +5503,"Dermot Kennedy ‘amazed’ after Taylor Swift approves his Live Lounge Anti-Hero cover. Irish busker turned pop star, Dermot Kennedy, covered Taylor Swift's latest hit Anti Hero and Taylor Swift loved it! It's a really great cover. + +https://www.sundayworld.com/showbiz/irish-showbiz/dermot-kennedy-amazed-after-taylor-swift-approves-his-cover-of-her-song/1605533806.html",0 +5504,"Daddy Yankee, the 'King of Reggaeton' announces retirement. ",0 +5505,Natalie Imbruglia - Torn (1997) [Pop]. ,0 +5506,"I saw Lindsey Buckingham play a small theatre and it was one of the sublime, unworldly experiences I’ve ever had. I’ve been wanting to capture it in words for weeks now and the words still escape me. + +700 seat theatre. 7th row, on the aisle. + +Watching him finger pick and wail on that guitar……especially during Go Your Own Way. + +My friend and I looked at each other and said holy eff. A lot. + +I’ve been to at least a hundred concerts. I’ve been front row. + +I’ve never quite seen mastery like I saw that night. To be that close to someone so skillful…..I wish I had the words to capture the feeling. + +Awe. + +Rolling Stone ranks him as the 100th greatest guitarist. I can’t believe he’s not higher. + +I hadn’t really been that close to a finger picker of that caliber before and he was unbelievable. + +And at 72. Life goals. + +If you get the chance, go see him.",0 +5507,Sting calls war in Ukraine 'an absurdity based upon a lie'. ,0 +5508,Del tha Funky Homosapien - Mistadobalina [Hip Hop]. ,0 +5509,I really like the Blue Öyster Cult song ‘Godzilla’. I can’t get it out of my head. It’s so good. It’s been two days and all my thoughts have it playing in the background.,0 +5510,"David Bowie, you are missed. I just went down a rabbit hole of Youtube David Bowie videos and I so wish we still had that voice with us. That's all.",0 +5511,"Recently discovered Beastie Boys, unbelievable!. I'd always heard from my older brother that I should check out almost all of the Beastie Boys back catalogue. Thank god I did as it's almost all fantastic. + +Everything from 1989s Paul's Boutique to 1998s Hello Nasty is absolutely fantastic. I love their production and the way in which they actually use real instruments that give their sound an almost timeless feel. Also they're one of those bands that had a consecutive run of five star albums. + +Towards the end quality I thought slipped a tad and it's sad that one of them passed. But seriously check them out!",0 +5512,"George Clinton deserves way more recognition than what he gets. I saw him last night with 3rd Gen Parliament and everything down to the simplest rhythm of a tambourine was perfect. Of course he sang, but the artists and musicians around him were wonderful. They put four different instrumental solos into Flashlight, did a funk/rock intro to Atomic Dog, and did covers of rap and pop songs in a more funky way. The vocal ranges of Parliament blew me away and the overall show felt like something straight out of their early days even on that small stage. And that’s not even mentioning the development of the P-Funk storyline. + +There were elements of his music that you could definitely hear in more recognized artists like Prince and Bruno Mars. + +In listening to earlier Parliament albums, the range in the music and how it reflected the changes that were going on in the world is absolute genius.",0 +5513,Allanis Morissette - You Oughta Know [Rock]. ,0 +5514,August is Falling - August is Falling [Pop Punk]. ,0 +5515,Faith No More - Epic [Rock]. ,0 +5516,"Artists you love but find it morally hard to listen to.. Hi. So do you have any artists or songs that you love but have trouble because of the group or band who did the song? Or can you separate art from who does it? + +For me it’s lostprophets and As I Lay Dying. They have some of my favorite songs but the singers did terrible things. Especially lostprophets frontman Ian Watkins. + +Another complication is streaming revenue (as low as it is). On the occasions I do listen to them I consider that the other members of the band (the ones who didn’t do anything) are getting money too and they probably need it because their jacked up lead singers screwed them by their actions.",0 +5517,Pneuma by TOOL is a hard rock masterpiece. I think this is the perfect hard rock song. I can listen to it over and over and hear something new every time. Agree or disagree?,0 +5518,Brass Against - Toxicity (System of a Down cover) [Brass Rock]. ,0 +5519,The Locust Drummer Gabe Serbian Dead at 44. ,0 +5520,I just discovered Radiohead and love them. Other than Creep I had never really listened to Radiohead before. After tuning into a few albums I can say that I really enjoy their sound and think they were pioneers for the types of instrumental experimentation you hear in a lot of bands today. The National Anthem is my jam!,0 +5521,"Green Day - Longview [Pop punk, 1994]. ",0 +5522,Audioslave - Like a Stone [Alternative rock]. ,0 +5523,"Today I Heard: Bad Brains: I Against I.. Go listen to that album right now. + +Punk-Yes + +Metal-Yes + +Reggae-Yes + +New Wave-Yes + +Perfectly blended. Phenomenally mixed. Criminally underrated.",0 +5524,Any other bands that sound like the Talking Heads?. Big fan of them. Any recommendations for bands that sound like the Talking Heads? I don’t like Byrne’s solo work,0 +5525,t.A.T.u. - All The Things She Said [Pop] (2002). ,0 +5526,What's your favorite album to listen to overall. I work early morning and most of the time im playing my own music until I end my shift but I want to try listening to some newer music. Introduce me to your favorite albums and ill give them a listen when I start my day :),0 +5527,The Postal Service - The District Sleeps Alone Tonight [Pop]. ,0 +5528,Name a time that the opening act outshined the main act at a concert you attended. I remember seeing the Head and the Heart open for Iron and Wine (who I love) back in 2011 and was blown away by the Head and the Heart’s opening act.,0 +5529,"In Keeping Secrets of Silent Earth: 3 by Coheed and Cambria might be one of the best albums I've ever listened to.. I'm not a huge fan of the genre this album is placed in, but I feel like this album and the band as a whole kind of go beyond what they are labelled as. Their entire discography is worth a listen.",0 +5530,The Misfits - Saturday Night [Hard Rock]. ,0 +5531,Soft Cell - Sex Dwarf [new wave] banned version 1981 NSFW. ,0 +5532,"Some choices the singers and producers made in famous songs that you just don’t agree with and makes you ask “Why??”. +Alicia Keys in her song No One being kinda flat especially in the chorus. I don’t know if it’s intentional but if it is, I guess in kinda works in the context of the song but hearing it on earphones for the first time (though I heard multiple times on the radio already), it just feels odd especially when the harmonies come in. + +The obviously autotuned harmonies at the end of All of Me by John Legend kinda ruins the song for me too. + +How about you? + +Edit: Thinking of making a part 2 of this for foreign songs.",0 +5533,Gordon Lightfoot - Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald [folk rock] 1976. ,0 +5534,Love for George Michael. How great was George Michael? I don't know why his songs touched me so deeply but I know I'm not alone. I still miss him so much. His song Amazing always makes me grateful to be alive. Fast Love is just an absolute funky banger! He had it all man. I love you George 🙏,0 +5535,Whats the best use of music in a film/tv show scene?. I have a lot of favourites: either the cher song shoop shoop song in 7 lives of lea was really good. Or i did like the dos gardenias in narcos that scene was really powerful.,0 +5536,"Metallica’s “Master of Puppets” enters Billboard Songs Chart for the first time after Stranger Things placement. Article: https://pitchfork.com/news/metallicas-master-of-puppets-enters-billboard-songs-chart-for-first-time-after-stranger-things-placement/ + +Metallica are the latest beneficiaries of the Stranger Things bump. The band’s 1986 song “Master of Puppets” has reached No. 40 the Billboard Hot 100, scaling the singles chart for first time since its release 36 years ago. The title track from their third studio album was recently featured in the season finale of Stranger Things’ fourth season. In one scene, metalhead Eddie Munson (played by Joseph Quinn) delivers the song’s shredding guitar solo while in the Upside Down. + +Last week, Metallica shared a statement thanking Stranger Things creators Matt and Ross Duffer for featuring “Master of Puppets” so prominently in the show. “It’s an incredible honor to be such a big part of Eddie’s journey and to once again be keeping company with all of the other amazing artists featured in the show,” the band wrote on Instagram. The actual guitar solo performed on the episode was recorded by Tye Trujillo, son of Metallica bassist Robert Trujillo. + +The surge of new Metallica listeners follows the increased popularity of Kate Bush’s 1985 song “Running Up That Hill,” which was featured as a motif throughout the fourth season of Stranger Things (it was also the favorite song of the character Max Mayfield, played by Sadie Sink).",0 +5537,"Carlos Santana collapsed - Pine Knob, MI. My friend just texted us to let us know, Santana was playing and just collapsed on stage. They put up a curtain to block the audience view + +As of posting, he's been down for 12 minutes. + +[https://imgur.com/gallery/sk4kaQi](https://imgur.com/gallery/sk4kaQi)",0 +5538,"Are concerts too loud?. Am I just getting old? The last two shows I went to made me want to use ear plugs lol. Everyone is going to 11. Is it just me? + +Edit: Wow! Lots of feedback, thanks. Will definitely invest in a good pair of earplugs going forward. For those who asked, it was a Black Crowes concert, and it was great. Just a bit too loud lol.",0 +5539,What cover version of a song do you think beats the original?. I find most original versions of songs unbeatable. What cover versions do you think leave the original in the dust?,0 +5540,I never hear many people talk about John Prine.. I love John Prine! His song writing is amazing! Just wondering if anybody feels the same way.,0 +5541,"I have just discovered Simon&Garfinkul and i'm in love. I know i'm few decades late lol ,but i'm just happy i came across them.",0 +5542,"Filter - ""Take a Picture"" [Alternative Rock] (1999).. ",0 +5543,"Are there any songs about sex addiction?. Ik its a weird question but since there’s songs about almost everything, there has to be at least one about this. Or any songs about prostitution as well.",0 +5544,Dio - Holy Diver [Metal]. ,0 +5545,"Was never a huge Arcade Fire fan but The Suburbs is such a banger. Feels like Wilco meets Jane's idk + +Better than the Rush version by a lil bit + +After some Trader Joe's Block Red ;) + +What yall think? + +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Euj9f3gdyM&ab\_channel=ArcadeFireVEVO](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Euj9f3gdyM&ab_channel=ArcadeFireVEVO)",0 +5546,"Happy 50th birthday to Green Day frontman Billie Joe Armstrong!. Happy birthday Billie Joe! I'm sure Green Day was a seminal band for a lot of folks here, myself included. Any favorite tracks to celebrate Billie Joe's semicentennial? + +Jesus of Suburbia is still his magnum opus: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JMcNzjzw63I",0 +5547,Toto - Hold The Line [Rock]. ,0 +5548,Mr. Bungle - My Ass Is On Fire [Experimental Jazz Metal] (1991). ,0 +5549,Supertramp - The Logical Song [Pop Rock]. ,0 +5550,"What ""song"" never fails to make you cry when needed?. It could also be just some instrumentals or anything else; it could be te vibe of a note or the strenght of a sentence. + +I'd love to know which one's yours and why... + +To me it used to be some old song from Avril Lavigne (Nobody's home) for example. I had a memory connected to that specific song and to a certain point I'd just break out. I'm not sure I can even recall which memory as of today... + +​ + +Edit: We get to a point where we simply need to cry for one thing or the other, either because we're just too happy and need to release some excitement or viceversa we need to erupt some bad vibes we've been holding too long. Either way the right song can help us. Please share your story. + +​ + +Edit2: [New Divide - Linkin Park](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ZBnwBVjwOk&list=RDMMCkFYV9S0YDo&index=7) + + ""In every loss, in every lie +**In every truth that you'd deny** +And each regret, and each goodbye +Was a mistake too great to hide +**And your voice was all I heard** +**That I get what I deserve** + +**So give me reason** +**To prove me wrong** +**To wash this memory clean** +Let the floods cross +The distance in your eyes"" + +​ + +Thank you in advance.",0 +5551,"Mr. Bungle- California. I don’t think anything I will EVER listen to will scratch the same itch that this album does. I’ve listened to all the related listening suggestions and scoured the internet for any trace of an album that makes me feel like this one does and I come up short. + +Every. Time.",0 +5552,Alice In Chains - Would Live [Grunge] (1993). ,0 +5553,The Mars Volta - Eriatarka [progressive rock]. ,0 +5554,"bands using orchestras in their song.. I loooove bands that incorporate orchestras into their music. Songs like Nights in White Satin, A Day in the Life, and Sweetest Perfection are a few I can think of off the top of my head. What are some other examples?",0 +5555,"I’m bored- A song that everyone on Earth loves…except you?. I expect this won’t turn out great but I’m really bored and has a bad day so maybe someone will also be bored enough to humor me. The song I would choose in this scenario would be “Brass In Pocket.” I can’t help it. I have no sane reason but the song actually hurts me in a crazy way, like fingernails on a chalkboard but not quite. Even the thought of the video hurts. It’s been this way for me for my entire life (80s baby, brand new MTV generation which loved to have this song played six thousand times a day I think.) Yet, everyone and I mean everyone I know loses their minds when it comes on. It’s like a dog whistle. I’m so sorry. + + +*Edit to say- Wow thanks so much to everyone who has been keeping this thread going and me entertained. I’m epileptic and sometimes I have issues with sleep. I don’t sleep then I seize then I’m afraid to sleep and it’s an endless cycle and… anyway- this is really fun. Thanks again. I love when Reddit is like this",0 +5556,"Best three song sequence in an album?. My friends and I were discussing what the best three song sequence in an album we have heard. + +For me, it has to be: + +Thriller +Beat it +Billie Jean + +From Michael Jackson’s Thriller. Interested to know what Reddit thinks! + +Edit: loving to see all the responses, I have a lot more albums in my library now!",0 +5557,'This Is Spinal Tap' Sequel Coming With Rob Reiner and Original Cast. ,0 +5558,Psycho Killer - Talking Heads [Alt Rock] (1977). ,0 +5559,"Days the music died. Was messing around and made this list for one of my friends. Thought you guys might appreciate it. + +* 1951 - DJ Alan Freed starts playing a mix of country and black artists and kills off Big Band +* 1954 - “Shake, Rattle, and Roll” by Big Joe Turner and “Rock around the clock” - Bill Haley and kills R&B +* 1959 - The Day the Music Died (Buddy Holly, Big Bopper, Richie Valens) +* 1964 - Beatlemania and British Invasion kill off Ricky Nelson +* 1965 - Dylan goes electric at Newport Folk Festival kills Folk +* 1966 - Beatles stop touring and get inventive with recording +* 1969 - Woodstock and Altamount kills the 60s +* 1973 - KISS forms +* 1974 - Disco kills rock music +* 1979 - [Rock kills disco](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disco_Demolition_Night) (edit: suggestion from many users) +* 1980 - Lennon Killed; Bonham dies (/u/zoso1992); Punk dies; Prince and MJ starting using drum machines +* 1981 - MTV debuts and kills the radio star (/u/jazzoetry) +* 1991 - Nirvana kills Hair Metal +* 1994 - Kurt kills Nirvana and Grunge and himself +* 1996 - Telecommunications Act allows consolidation of radio stations killing radio (/u/JHXC16) +* 1998 - Cher releases the Auto Tune hit, ""Believe"" (/u/itsphonetic) +* 1999 - Woodstock 99 kills the Woodstock ideal +* 2000 - Metallica vs Napster +* 2001 - Ipod debuts and kills albums and [good sounding records](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loudness_war) (/u/madeofpockets) +* 2005 - Nickelback releases “Photograph” +* 2006 - Last Tower Records store closes (/u/Tullimory) +* 2011 - Spotify gets huge +* 2020 - Covid cancels live touring (/u/creetoinfinity) +* 2035 - Death of the last Classic Rock star + +Edit: This is meant to be ""tongue in cheek"" and is not meant to be a definitive record of rock or general music events. It was a fun exercise I did to collect all events where people declared that ""rock is dead (long live rock)"". Was intended to be for discussion purposes and to have a little fun with the ""music is dead"" trope.",0 +5560,Miike Snow - Genghis Khan [synthpop]. ,0 +5561,Slowdive - Sugar for the Pill [Shoegaze]. ,0 +5562,What album have you listened to the most this year?. The album doesn’t have to be from 2021. Mine is Dirt by Alice In Chains or The Wall by Pink Floyd.,0 +5563,"As much as I love metal and rock, I hate guitar solos. Am I the only one who thinks like this?. Not all guitar solos are bad to me but a good handful just feel out of place in the song. Anybody else out there think the same thing?",0 +5564,Spacehog - In the Meantime [Alternative Rock]. ,0 +5565,"MF DOOM - Hoe Cakes [Hip Hop, Rap]. ",0 +5566,"During the months of September and October, I listened to over 900 songs that were posted to Reddit by independent musicians. Whenever I ran into one that I enjoyed, I added it to this database! I'd love to share it here with anyone interested.. + +Hey guys, I am back with another spotlight! As usual I found a few hidden gems that I would love to share with you. I've been searching music on reddit about 2 years now and I love sharing what I find with you guys. Keep in mind music is subjective so we might not have the same tastes! + +The music is separated by platform. Each platform has artists that are unique to it, but it also has some of the same ones. The best way to hear all of the music is to check out the [full database](https://docs.google.com/document/d/1jkHXZZYyaOnYnB47CCtv0gOXfwEd-5QFhsNjGjItD9U/edit?usp=sharing). + +Each song has the genre listed below the name within the [database](https://docs.google.com/document/d/1jkHXZZYyaOnYnB47CCtv0gOXfwEd-5QFhsNjGjItD9U/edit?usp=sharing). Some genres included are Alternative Pop, Industrial, Experimental, Cinematic, Trip Hop, Folk, Singer Songwriter, Metal, Indietronica, Trap, Shoegaze, Synth Pop, Hip Hop, DnB, New Age, Psychedelic Rock, Indie Rock, Classical, Art Pop, Hyper Pop, Chillwave, Electro Pop, Post Rock, Dream Pop, Grunge, etc. + +\------ + +[Full Database](https://docs.google.com/document/d/1jkHXZZYyaOnYnB47CCtv0gOXfwEd-5QFhsNjGjItD9U/edit?usp=sharing) (103 songs) + +\------- + +Playlists: + +[YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p56nCeqakwA&list=PLYbyG3wDWegXMIL0hUDkT_n1SjtsYwQPZ) (76 out of 103) + +[Soundcloud](https://soundcloud.com/kittensrjerks/sets/imf-favorites-september) (52 out of 103 ) + +[Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5n3axALmwkaAVi8hcue87D?si=661b43e4f6824f8b) (68 out of 103)",0 +5567,Harvey Danger - Flagpole Sitta [alternative/rock]. ,0 +5568,Metric - Help I'm Alive [Alt Rock]. ,0 +5569,What’s Everyone’s Favorite One Hit Wonder?. Mine is Come On Eileen By Dexy’s Midnight Runners or Forever Young By Alphaville I also really like Tainted Love By Soft Cell but I like Forever Young and Come On Eileen more if I had to pick between the 2 I’d probably say Alphaville,0 +5570,The Mars Volta - Blacklight Shine [Prog Rock] - First new single in 10 years. ,0 +5571,Alice in Chains - Bleed the Freak [Grunge]. ,0 +5572,Neil Young will only tour if it's fully environmentally sustainable. ,0 +5573,"Garbage - Only Happy When It Rains [Alt Rock] (1995). Recently saw them live with Tears For Fears, both bands still kick ass",0 +5574,New Owner of Death Row Records: Snoop Dogg says ‘I am thrilled’. ,0 +5575,What do you guys think about Eiffel’s 65 “Blue (Da Ba Dee)” song?. Is it a good song in your opinion? It was really popular when it came out but i listened to it because at the start of Iron Man 3 this song is played and i have loved it ever since and i want to know other people’s opinion on it.,0 +5576,"Alan White of Yes has passed away at 72. Also played drums on John Lennon's Imagine album and his Live Peace Toronto show and Instant Karma, and on George Harrison's All Things Must Pass album in the 1970s. An absolute prog rock legend. + +https://consequence.net/2022/05/alan-white-yes-john-lennon-drummer-dies/",0 +5577,"The day CHRIS CORNELL did an AMA on Reddit.. [(1) Hey Reddit, I'm Chris Cornell from Soundgarden. AMA in 45 min! : IAmA](https://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/1bxp4f/hey_reddit_im_chris_cornell_from_soundgarden_ama/) + +It feels so strange to read this after his death...He was a good man, his family was part of almost every answer he delivered.",0 +5578,"Peter Gabriel Set to Release New Album, His First in 20 Years, Tour in 2023.. ",0 +5579,"One of dimebag darrell's most soulful guitar solos, wanted to try my hand at it.. ",0 +5580,Richard cheese - People = Shit [lounge]. The fantastic original to slipknots cover :),0 +5581,King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard - Magma [Rock - live]. ,0 +5582,Eric Prydz – Call On Me [house]. ,0 +5583,"Why is it impossible to post anything here?. I can't post anything without it getting filtered. There's nearly 29 million subscribers and there's nothing interesting going on here. The new tab has almost no actual music in it and it's just spam. How is it possible that such a big sub has such little engagement? What's even the point of this sub anymore? + +I get that such a major sub probably get's spammed, but the filter is preventing anything from actually getting posted here. What can we do here?",0 +5584,Yeah Yeah Yeahs - Heads Will Roll [New Wave/Alternative]. ,0 +5585,"What’s your unpopular Christmas song opinion?. I am a big fan of Christmas music, helps lift my spirits and get me in the holiday mood. But I cannot stand “Santa Claus is Coming to Town” by Bruce Springsteen and the E Street Band. Just terrible.",0 +5586,"Buckethead - Underrated Legend. I first discovered this amazing guitarist when listening to the soundtrack from the Mortal Kombat movie in the 90's. He provided some work on the musical score. I'm afraid he's undervalued as a musician and maybe even unknown to some. + +Here's some tracks of his I recommend: + +1. For Mom +2. Lirtson Nostril +3. Watching the Boats with My Dad +4. A Dream that Dreamt +5. A way to Heaven +6. Jordan",0 +5587,"Corey Hart - Sunglasses At Night [New wave, synth-pop, hard rock]. ",0 +5588,Jinjer - A Message from Ukraine {non-music video}. ,0 +5589,The Postal Service - Such Great Heights [Synth-Pop]. ,0 +5590,"Give me an Album YOU would consider a 10/10 and I’ll listen to it.. I work in an environment that let’s me listen to music a lot and lately I’ve been listening to complete albums. I’ve run out of ideas so I’m counting on you to help me Reddit! + +I listen to all music on the spectrum, from bluegrass to emo-core, avant-garde and even classical.",0 +5591,"Jim Croce - Bad Bad, Leroy Brown [Folk/Rock]. ",0 +5592,"I saw the Steve Miller Band live last night, and I was blown away. When I closed my eyes I couldn't even tell he was 78 years old. One of the best live musical performances I've heard.. The dude is an impeccable musician, his voice hasn't changed one bit over the last 60+ years. His guitar playing is the best it's ever been, no kidding, his live solos blew the recorded versions out of the water. Even his harmonica playing had professional level tone. The band was flawless and Joseph Wooten on the keys was ripping on another level, I've never heard a pianist add so much to a live rock band beyond Billy Preston. Steve even shared some anecdotes about his god father Les Paul, and how he taught him his first chords. + +Steve Miller Band is just one of those bands that's been known for so long they're a standard but not in public conversation. I had to give some love. Have you seen him live? What's some of your favorite songs/moments?",0 +5593,The Smiths - The Queen is Dead [Jangle Pop]. ,0 +5594,"Who is the Queen of Rock and Roll?. If Elvis is the King, who is the Queen? Pat Benatar? Joan Jett? Debbie Harry?",0 +5595,New Grunge Supergroup Featuring Members of Soundgarden and Nirvana Drops Debut LP. ,0 +5596,Outkast - B.O.B. (Bombs Over Baghdad) [Hip-Hop] (2000). ,0 +5597,Depeche Mode - Enjoy the Silence [Synth-Pop]. ,0 +5598,A Flock Of Seagulls - I Ran [New Wave] (1982 Live). ,0 +5599,"Chris Issak- Wicked game. https://youtu.be/jd-qI62gNJM +This is the most perfect song in existence! Change my mind!",0 +5600,"What's your favorite song with the first lyric being ""Hey""?. Mine's ""Hey"" by the pixies. And not far before ""And she says"" by Talking Heads.",0 +5601,"LCD Soundsystem fans: what's your favorite song of theirs?. I have always loved the song ""Someone Great"" but I haven't gotten into too much of their other stuff. Any one have suggestions?",0 +5602,"We’re Barenaked Ladies and we’re taking our “Last Summer on Earth” tour out on the road in June and July with Gin Blossoms and Toad the Wet Sprocket. AMA. Hey Redditors! This is Jim Creeggan, Kevin Hearn, Ed Robertson, and Tyler Stewart of Barenaked Ladies and we’re looking forward to answering your questions. You may know some of our hits including ""One Week”, ""If I Had $1000000” and the Big Bang Theme. We’re psyched to tour North America this summer, but not before we answer your questions on May 17th at 1pm ET! +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/l76btjvf6yz81.jpg",0 +5603,"The first ten seconds of Strawberry Fields Forever is incredibly beautiful.. The whole song is great of course, but there’s something about the first 10 seconds that is so peaceful, I can’t quite put it into words.",0 +5604,Thomas Dolby - She Blinded Me With Science [New Wave]. ,0 +5605,"Best women vocalists of all time?. Alright. Last night there was a discussion about the best male vocalists of all time https://www.reddit.com/r/Music/comments/vmdpu0/best_male_vocalists_of_all_time/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf +Tonight its about the greatest women vocalists of all time. Aretha, Lauryn Hill, Whitney Houston. Who do you put at the top? + +We all know there’s a ton of subjectivity and personal preferences. Some of my personal favorites are Amy Winehouse, Lady Gaga, and Karen O. Maybe they’re not in the same stratosphere as Aretha, but sometimes I feel like they are singing to me directly.",0 +5606,"I spent the last 2+ years working on an album by myself in my room, inspired by acts like The Beach Boys, Animal Collective & Brian Eno. Last week I released it.. https://arvidthemusic.bandcamp.com/album/pyreburning + +Like the title says, I worked on this album over the past 2-3 years, doing everything myself, from writing to performance to mixing and mastering. I posted my last album here as well back in 2018, and since then I became pretty obsessed with trying to make something better, and this record is the culmination of everything I came up since then. + +This album is about the loss of a loved one, a really personal album to me that I sunk a lot of time and energy into. I'd really appreciate anyone taking the time to check it out and I'm down for any feedback/critique. I don't expect that it'll be everyone's cup of tea, but I'd appreciate anyone taking the time to listen. Thanks :) + +EDIT: [Here is the album on Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/album/1MyX9av13F7lwSQkxKpUmy?si=2f7xFGTbRQiUdYY0DNkeBg) as well for anyone who prefers that!",0 +5607,Birdhouse in Your Soul - They Might Be Giants [Alternative] a classic piece of 80s alternative music from this creative pop duo. ,0 +5608,The Mars Volta Return With First New Song and Tour in 10 Years. ,0 +5609,Procul Harem’s Whiter Shade of Pale is such an odd and unique song. I was listening to this song today and ended up doing a light internet dive on the meaning of it. I saw some article snippet mentioning how this particular song “evokes a strong feeling of sadness” regardless of the lyrics or meaning and I could not agree more. Does anyone in this subreddit know any trivia about this track? I’d love to know more.,0 +5610,"New Zealand is such an untapped haven of classic indie rock from the 80s and 90s that most people have never heard before.. Here's a playlist with all of the Flying Nun/Dunedin Sound bands that I mention: + +https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7tf1wzg4rdE&list=PLS3FgAA2aSpIxg1dMZtrxgV6ax8V8IFvj + +Comment below after reading this post, and I'll answer every question you want. + +The New Zealand scene from the 80s and 90s has such an untapped wealth of indie rock and post punk that most people have never heard. You have to check out the Dunedin Sound especially. Here's a comment I made a while back that should help to give you a starting point. + +I've talked at length about music in new Zealand, as seen with my [article on the Chills](https://www.reddit.com/r/CollectionHauls/comments/q2q6d8/lets_talk_the_chills_and_the_band_that_could_have/) and my [article on Chris Knox](https://www.reddit.com/r/LetsTalkMusic/comments/mwy6ir/lets_talk_chris_knox_and_his_influence_on_indie/), so I've got a ton of recommendations to give in this list below that I wrote a while back. Hope you enjoy. + +If you are talking about New Zealand, you have to listen to the bands on Flying Nun. They helped foster an indie scene that went on to influence artists like Pavement, Dinosaur Jr, and Neutral Milk Hotel. all of these bands came from the southern island city of Dunedin, which is where most of this Indie rock comes from in the first place. + +First, [The Clean](https://i0.wp.com/www.radionz.co.nz/assets/news/106828/eight_col_wysiwyg_full_clean4.jpg?zoom=2): You listened to them here, but you have to listen to their EP Boodle Boodle Boodle. The best way to describe it is ""Surf Rock Velvet Underground"". My favorite tracks on it are [Anything Could Happen](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7tf1wzg4rdE) and [Point That Thing Somewhere Else](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0_0y68pNuU8&feature=emb_title). They also have [Getting Older](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=72-FPkrWVkw&t=100s), which was originally their swan song, as they broke up due to not being able to handle the success they were experiencing. They formed back together in 1989 and have released quite a few albums, but I think they don't reach the heights they reached with the first two EPs, those being [Boodle Boodle Boodle](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4qt8ZqvWy1o)(which they recently reissued along with their first single [Tally Ho](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cVkC8W_-a-8)) and [Great Sounds Great](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ol3JHWlSRzc). + +[The Chills](https://www.audioculture.co.nz/content/images/321/hero_thumb_A1104.jpg): They were the big band on Flying Nun in the 1980s and early 90s. They have a poppy indie sound that's appealing and almost has a Twee pop vibe to it in some aspects, and they also have some noisier tracks. Some favorites are [Kaleidoscope World](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9LCoA3Syor0), [Pink Frost](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjW3MT8D9RY), and [Doledrums](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUeQrLTrLSk). Their first 3 albums, which are [Brave Words](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O9JG-fJXR-o), [Submarine Bells](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-9xq5JBC1WE), and [Soft Bomb](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Djmq_EHafI) are great listening experiences. + +[The Bats](https://www.audioculture.co.nz/content/images/7970/hero_thumb_The-Bats-1984_-Frank-Shepherd.jpg): This band was the band that the bassist from the Clean founded after they initially broke up in 1983. They have more of a folk rock/indie Byrds sound to them that I like. Some favorites include [By Night](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s3MftuY1BmA), [Claudine](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CxU8gDQ2zMg), [Made up in Blue](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1NC3s3Xhphs), and [North by North](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xC4SX4c50Ig). They have quite a few good albums to check out if you want, my favorites being [Daddy's Highway](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zrftWX6s28Q), [The Law of Things](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gm3lx4o4keQ), and [Fear of God](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dItV8k_Xkyk). Silverbeet and Couchmaster are good albums too. This band really doesn't have any bad albums, go for all of it. + +[The Verlaines](https://www.audioculture.co.nz/content/images/3883/hero_thumb_v3.jpg): They were the more artsy band in the early period of Flying Nun. They have more of a classic rock vibe to them. They had a sizable influence on the band Pavement. Some good starting points include [Death and the Maiden](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5w48pSoLkx8), [Pyromaniac](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cvLT8251MFs), and [Doomsday](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oyyu4IuNbgY). These are just single tracks, but their EPs and albums also have good tracks to offer, such as [It Was Raining](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rAfxwBG6df8), [CD Jimmy Jazz and Me](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i4xug01aKGI), and [Joed Out](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_EJEm4QYndw). + +[Straitjacket Fits](https://www.audioculture.co.nz/content/images/15480/hero_thumb_1990.jpg): These guys were more of the rocking side of indie rock. They were apart of the second wave of Flying Nun bands and had some good hard rock tunes to boot, like [She Speeds](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OMIddxUAAQw) and [Dialing a Prayer](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rf5bKWWTx7w), and some Beatles-esque ballads like [Down in Splendour](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g9U9cKp9ybU) thanks to their guitarist Andrew Brough (R.I.P). Other notable tracks include [Hail](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZ9aPT8czog) and [Bad Note For a Heart](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7cnq_p2X8Qw). + +[Chris Knox](https://www.audioculture.co.nz/content/images/4269/hero_thumb_a208.jpg)/[Tall Dwarfs](https://www.audioculture.co.nz/content/images/4278/hero_thumb_a216.jpg)/[Toy Love](https://www.audioculture.co.nz/content/images/4008/hero_thumb_TL13.jpg) - I love everything this man did in the 80s and the 90s. He's basically New Zealand's David Bowie, and probably the most important person to all of New Zealand music. He first made records with his band Toy Love, who are more straight [New Wave](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N7qCpSDMIgs) and [Punk Rock](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCnpAruNqco), but they inspired all the bands from Dunedin to pick up a guitar and create their own songs, spawning the Dunedin scene in the first place. Chris Knox also recorded all of the early material by all the aforementioned bands. He then went on to do Tall Dwarfs, which is an experimental mindscrew and one of the original Lo-Fi/home recording bands. They have songs like [Turning Brown and Torn in Two](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZ4ctw2mwoc) with the weirdness factor, then they do psychedelic jams like [Crush](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zLJipEp5U2Q&t=148s), and then they do [Sign the Dotted Line](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WfTO85WlAK8), an acoustic song that Jeff Mangum even did a cover of. They go all over the place. His solo career also has quite a few bangers, like the ultimate love song [Not Given Lightly](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NaSV0ymL8jk), rockers like [Half Man, Half Mole](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fPkZLgeEmv4), and more acoustic songs like [Lapse](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vRgX5H7Q6KY). He is an interesting and important figure in New Zealand indie music and has a vast catalog to look through. It's unfortunate that he had a stroke in 2009 and can no longer create such great music anymore, but what we do have is great. + +Honorable Mentions: [Look Blue Go Purple](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XtmlfuEukMs&t=75s)(An all female Indie group), [The 3D's](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ePvmxGA2vqU)(Noise-Pop extravaganza), [Garageland](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BicnLPwBwWo)(Power Pop Punk), [The JSP Experience](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLSgk78IfNM)(Also pretty weird),[Sneaky Feelings](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=okYMUMEYQVo)(Byrds/Motown Pop sound), [Able Tasmans](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwqahYs4SJI)(Indie pop with a level of musical sophistication). + +I could go on even longer with the bands, but I feel this is enough to get you started. If you want to, tell me what you think of some of the bands. + +Little fun fact about New Zealand music, they basically had [MTV 5 years before MTV was a thing with Radio with Pictures, and was the direct inspiration for MTV](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pD-t6j9-yVM). + +In terms of other bands from other labels, here's some artists from Propellor and Ripper records, which came before Flying Nun, and assorted artists from other labels + +[Blam Blam Blam (very new-wavey with a post-punk edge)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vIxc1NbvDCc) + +[The Androidss (just a good punk single to check out)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iM92AA81qnU) + +[Suburban Reptiles (the first New Zealand punk band to release a record, their second single slaps so hard)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T7yZH-SZKdg) + +[Spelling Mistakes (some good power pop punk)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HM-Et9xPl6k) + +[The Swingers (New Wavey band who had a one-hit wonder with Counting the Beat)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nMSB1prro_k) + +[The Dabs (a one-off band with a good first impression track)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dUoCkprYXT0) + +[Th' Dudes (a pop-rock group with a drinking anthem for the ages)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5kmSgCPpXw) + +[DD Smash (I like this one single, even for its clean nature)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-TIj-l3nykw)",0 +5611,Who is a musician or band that you don’t understand why they are famous?. Name some artists or bands that you have no clue how they blew up in the first place,0 +5612,Happy 35th to folk-soul artist Michael Kiwanuka!. ,0 +5613,Type O Negative - Black No. 1 [doom metal]. ,0 +5614,Stop Spotify showing podcast recommendations?. I only want to listen to music on Spotify and I want as many recommendations and options as possible. Is there any way to stop Apotify doing this?,0 +5615,"Luke Bell, country music singer, dead at 32. ",0 +5616,"Why are there no girl rock bands nowadays?. As a 15 year old women who is learning and lives to play guitar, I find it kind of disheartening that there's no popular girl bands or more exclusively, no female rock bands now. I would say I listen to alot of genres, but I really really like rock and will listen to any rock I can. + +I wonder if genZ are just not interested in making rock bands? I would love it if an all or mostly female rock band blew up right now. + +Edit: thank you guys so much for these recommendations! I'm checking them out and it makes me quiet happy how many there actually are!",0 +5617,Lil Nas X Pauses Atlanta Concert to Take a “Mean Shit”. ,0 +5618,Gin Blossoms - Hey Jealousy [Alternative/Indie]. ,0 +5619,"What's the heaviest metal song you've ever heard?. I'm really just curious to see your answers. + +​ + +I'll start, for me it's ""Brutal Rush"" - by ""Dehumanizing Itatrain Worship""",0 +5620,"On July 21st 1987, 35 years ago to the day, Guns and Roses released their debut album ""Appitite for Destruction"", and it took another year for it to reach commercial success.. This was the first album (cassette) that I ever bought with my own money as a kid. I even bought the long sleeved Jack Daniels style colour print Tee that I have never been able to find another of in all these years. Unfortunately I have lost the original G&R labeled cassette a long time ago, but still have the case and inlay and the shirt still fits too. + +It's an album that put me on my path that cemented my musical tastes.",0 +5621,"What the hell happened to humor in music?. Especially in the 90s there always seemed to be bands that had a certain ironic, juvenile and fun sense about them, bands like like blink-182, Barenaked Ladies, most third wave ska, Ben Folds Five, and even Green Day's joke songs, but now everything, no matter which genre I look at, seems to be so serious or edgy. I don't get it, what happened? I wish music was more fun now, mostly because I've never gotten a chance to grow up with that stuff, it just kinda sucks. + + +EDIT: thanks everybody for the song recommendations, they're great, keep 'em coming! I'm trying to listen to a decent amount of tracks from each of them, I just wish most of this stuff was more mainstream!",0 +5622,Carly Rae Jepsen Wants You to Know You’re Not Alone. ,0 +5623,Placebo - Every You Every Me [Rock] (1998). ,0 +5624,"TIL in 2001, Kate Bush made a rare public appearance to collect a Q Award for Classic Songwriter. She accepted it with the words: “Oohh I’ve just come!”. ",0 +5625,Australian music festival patrons launch world first class action against NSW police alleging unlawful strip-searches.. ,0 +5626,El Fother Ft Luigui Bleand - La Weed [Official Video]. ,0 +5627,"What bands are still touring without any original members?. Autograph, known for their 1984 hit “Turn up the Radio” opened for Vixen last night at the state fair. The current version of Autograph does not include a single original member or even a long time member. What are some other examples of bands touring that do not include a single original member?",0 +5628,Rick Astley - Wiggle Waggle Dance - [children's music]. ,0 +5629,"Toad the Wet Sprocket is one of the most underrated 90s bands of all time.. Bread and Circus is great. Listen to the bass player with headphones in. + +https://youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_mYKHCJuxbrKtnKh3Zax6GbDL90t98Ee5s",0 +5630,"It's been five years today since the music world lost Chester Bennington.. My first post here but it really hit me hard remembering that today marks 5 years since Chester Bennington passed away. + +Linkin Park was my favorite band growing up and still is to this day. Never forget such an amazing man. Rest in Peace Chester, you are missed dearly.",0 +5631,"Does anyone remember the band Hed Pe. It is a band that i grew up with. An amazing mix of rap and metal, they are such an underrated band in my opinion. Would love to hear anyone else who listen to Hed Pe!",0 +5632,"Favorite 70's prog rock song?. I've always been a fan of 70's prog rock bands like Yes, King Crimson, Pink Floyd, Rush, Starcastle, and a ton more. Came here wondering what other people's favorite 70's prog rock song is?",0 +5633,Sade - Smooth Operator (live) [smooth jazz]. ,0 +5634,Living Colour - Cult of Personality [Hard Rock]. ,0 +5635,"Bluegrass music puts me in such a good mood when I listen to it. There something inherent to traditional bluegrass music that has a uplifting appeal to it, despite the lyrics being rather dark at times. I would love to hear from someone who studies music why that is. I grew up in Appalachia so I think partly for me it takes me back to my childhood",0 +5636,Chris Isaak - Wicked Game [Soft Rock]. ,0 +5637,Mr. Bungle - Retrovertigo [Experimental Rock]. ,0 +5638,"Prince - 1+1+1=3 [Funk] If you want to know what made this guy great watch him direct his band, the audience, even the audio techs all while laying down a groove that has everyone in the house on their feet.. ",0 +5639,"WOW, Haven't had a song move me like this one, released a couple of days ago. ",0 +5640,The Dead Milkmen - Punk Rock Girl [Punk] (1988). ,0 +5641,Godspeed You! Black Emperor - East Hastings [Post Rock]. ,0 +5642,Most overplayed rock songs. What are the most overplayed rock songs that you are sick of hearing?,0 +5643,"Should Duran Duran be more highly regarded?. The 80’s is a while ago now but they have so many huge songs that have lasted decades. From movies, television, commercials they are such a pop culture fixture. I just wonder if they get the credit they deserve. + +What is the feeling on Duran Duran nowadays?",0 +5644,Andrew Fletcher: Depeche Mode’s Keyboardist and Co-founder Dies Aged 60. ,0 +5645,"Hi. I’m Bonobo. A producer, DJ and live performer. Here to answer all your questions! AMA.. Hi, my name is Simon Green. I’m a musician, producer and DJ. I also go by Bonobo which is the name of my musical project. + +I’ve been releasing music for over 20 years on various labels but mostly Ninja Tune and more recently my own imprint OUTLIER. + +I released my new album Fragments in Jan this year, which I made for the most part during lockdown in Los Angeles where I’ve been living for the past few years. I’m currently on tour in North America with my new live show. The tour will be stopping in Europe and the rest of the world later this year. Check bonobomusic.com for details + + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/7b7wz2u7k2m81.jpg",0 +5646,"I'm Brian Fallon from The Gaslight Anthem. Ask me anything!. Hey, Brian Fallon here! You may have heard that The Gaslight Anthem is returning to full-time status as a band AND we're hitting the road this summer! To celebrate, come ask me anything! + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/rzmw8qoq0lr81.jpg",0 +5647,"Recently listened to Thick as a Brick by Jethro Tull.. holy shit. + +​ + +I think this isn't just Jethro at their best and most creative, but maybe even prog rock at its best and most creative. Both 20 minute songs fly by with blistering speed. + +If Aqualung was Jethro leaning into the rock part of prog rock, this is Jethro leaning into the prog part of prog rock. If you have the time, PLEASE listen to this album",0 +5648,Warren Zevon. I just gotta say that I have been listening to Warren Zevon for about 10 months now and I have not been able to turn down spotify since.,0 +5649,"Kate Bush - Running Up That Hill (A Deal With God) [Art pop, 1985]. ",0 +5650,"Carly Rae Jepsen - The Loneliest Time [Pop]. The one and only Pop Queen, Carly Rae Jepsen, just dropped a new album, for any of you pop fans/Carly Rae stans, this one is definitely worth a listen. She is not just the Call Me Maybe Girl, She is literally one of the best current pop artists out there and she has developed quite the cult following over the years! + +https://open.spotify.com/album/3l2Gi0hMjZV2uvKoWlFkoQ",0 +5651,"What's the worst cover version by a well-known artist?. Here are my top 5: + +Miles Cyrus - Smells Like Teen Spirit +Madonna - American Pie +Counting Crows - Big Yellow Taxi +David Bowie & Mick Jagger - Dancing in the Street (the video is hilariously bad) +Megadeth - Anarchy in the UK",0 +5652,"Taylor Hawkins of the Foo Fighters dead at 50. Family is requesting privacy and cause has not been stated at this time. + +https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/foo-fighters-drummer-taylor-hawkins-obituary-1327112/",0 +5653,"Up For Opinions: What’s the Greatest Debut Album in Rock History?. I’m thinking Boston’s first is up there and hard to beat, but we all know there are numerous others. Chime in!",0 +5654,"Has a musician’s concert lateness ever turned you off from being a fan?. Went to a concert last night and the ticket said 9pm doors/show and he didn’t come on until 1:30am. To make matters worse he reposted a picture of him backstage around 12am. We left and didn’t see the show. I can’t listen to his music this same. + +EDIT: my ticket said show/doors 9pm but the ticket website event details says: doors 9pm show 12am. Idk if they added that recently or why it’s not on the ticket, so idk who to be upset w now lol",0 +5655,"Give me two artists/bands and I’ll tell you which one I’d pick and why. I saw this cool dynamic that sounds fun! Make me choose between two artists or bands (that could fit in the same genre or category) and I’ll tell you why I choose them! You can join in too with your opinions, would love to read them! + +Valid example: The Who vs The Rolling Stones (Both British 60’s bands with similar sound) + +Not Valid example: 2Pac vs Beethoven + + +Hit me with your best shot! Looking forward to reading your matchups! + +Edit: Due to the overwhelming response of this thread (thank you by the way!!!) I've decided to implement a new clause: +If I don't reply to your comment it's because either: +1.- Your pick is sadly unknown to me and you gave me a deep cut I wouldn't be able to tell you +2.- You've suggested a matchup that's way too repeated (Metallica vs Megadeth, Green Day vs Blink-182 vs MCR, Strokes vs Arctic Monkeys, Tool vs Primus, Blur vs Oasis were repeated a lot, so if you scroll down you'll probably find my answer to those.) + +Cheers!!",0 +5656,"What's your favourite song that's title starts with ""The Ballad of"". Mine's gotta be The Ballad of the Costa Concordia by carseat headrest (don't bully me) it just really hits those feels and vibes and gives me a very detailed visualisation... + +...Closely followed by The Ballad of Harambe",0 +5657,David Bowie’s Estate Sells His Publishing Catalog to Warner Chappell. ,0 +5658,"DAE get annoyed seeing someone wearing a band’s merch whose beliefs are obviously counter to what the band stands for?. Watching John Oliver’s show, and a guy wearing a Rush hat was angrily yelling about how poor people deserve to lose their housing. Shit like this pisses me off.",0 +5659,"Groovifi - the Ultimate Playlist Generator for Spotify. An app that creates Spotify playlists by mood, BPM, genre and even musical key. Completely revised and free. + +​ + +[iOS app](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/groovifi/id1597777786) + +[Android app](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.parshendata.groovifi&hl=en_US&gl=US)",0 +5660,Vince Staples - Norf Norf (Angry Christian Lady Remix. ,0 +5661,Portishead - Roads [Electronic]. ,0 +5662,Serj Tankian of S.O.A.D. Releasing New EP With Augmented Reality App. 1st single out today.. ,0 +5663,"I am Mike Campbell - lead guitarist for Tom Petty ＆ The Heartbreakers. I toured as a member of Fleetwood Mac in 2018-2019 and now sing and play guitar for Mike Campbell ＆ The Dirty Knobs. Our new album 'External Combustion' is out now. AMA.. Hey everyone, Mike Campbell here. You probably know some of the songs I’ve co-written over the years including Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers’ “Refugee,” “Runnin’ Down A Dream”, “Stop Draggin’ My Heart Around” with Stevie Nicks and Don Henley’s “The Boys of Summer.” I have new album out with my band The Dirty Knobs called External Combustion. It’s full of gypsy lyrics and guitar melodies. I'm very proud of these songs and I hope you like them as much as I do. You can buy it now on [iTunes](https://music.apple.com/us/album/1604404108) and [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09Q2JPP3S) or listen on your favorite [streaming platform](https://thedirtyknobs.lnk.to/ExternalCombustion). I'm excited to talk to you all and answer any questions you may have.  + +We're going to get started at 1 PM PST, so start preparing your questions! I'll be here for an hour and want to answer as many questions as I can. Here's your chance. Ask me anything. + + +PROOF: https://i.redd.it/8jlhncdpaff91.jpg",0 +5664,Korn - Got The Life [Rock]. ,0 +5665,"On this day 35 years ago, U2 released The Joshua Tree. ",0 +5666,"I am studying music theory and am out of music to listen to. I WILL LISTEN TO ANY ALBUM THAT ANY OF YOU PUT DOWN IN THE COMMENTS.. Please keep it, like, actual recommendations. Like, music you actually enjoy? Please? +( Edit: oh dear this is a lot.)",0 +5667,The Cure - Lovesong [Gothic Rock]. ,0 +5668,"Any modern songs with a “retro” or disco pop feel? Particularly one with a lot of synths.. I’ve always been a huge lover of 80’s pop, so if anyone knows of any songs in that being, please let me know. As of right now, I am trying to make a playlist of synthpop songs but don’t know where to start. I have two in my playlist right now but I’d like to add more. + +Some examples of songs that I really like that have the style I’m referring to are: + +[KARIO - Aliyah (Against The Sky)](https://open.spotify.com/album/6Y0Z0jwG8xuwMHgvjLGQWI?si=VCOh4Dt2RFi4SABmgNV8JA) \- It has a deliberate throwback classic and sounds like Sam Cooke and Quincy Jones. + +[The Weekend - Out Of Time](https://open.spotify.com/track/2SLwbpExuoBDZBpjfefCtV) \- One of my favorites from Dawn FM, with such a strong pop appeal that I'm surprised the song isn’t as popular. + +[Daft Punk - Random Access Memories](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wIMSU8otS-g) \- I found Daft Punk from Giorgio By Moroder, and just fell in love with the song and the album itself lol. + +This also made me wonder if synth-wave and retro pop will become the next big thing in music? Because I’m going to be so happy if it happens because I’ve been a major fan of the retro synth-wave scene for a while.",0 +5669,Placebo - Pure Morning [Alt Rock]. ,0 +5670,Music Theory in 5-minutes. No joke!. ,0 +5671,"Little Simz wins the Mercury Music Award for her 2021 album ""Sometimes I Might Be Introvert"". ",0 +5672,"What’s been your favorite Super Bowl halftime show of all time?. I always thought Bruce Springsteen & the E Street Band put on an insane performance. High energy, nice setlist, crowd was loving it, etc…",0 +5673,"metallica. say what you want about the black album, it being a sellout and all that crap but its still easily one of the most influential rock/metal albums ever. change my mind",0 +5674,"Am I alone in thinking the band: GARBAGE is criminally underrated?. Please voice your opinion on the subject. I believe GARBAGE has a perfect catalog, rife with catchy melodies, incredible vocal prowess, and cheeky humor sprinkled throughout. I truly love this band, and I'm interested to see if you do too...",0 +5675,"14 years ago on this day, Lady Gaga released her debut studio album The Fame, changing the world “one sequin at a time.. Absolutely incredible debut album that has stood the test of time. It came out in January 2009 in the UK and I bought it the day it was released because I knew after hearing Just Dance that there was something so special about this new artist Lady Gaga. The rest as they say is history",0 +5676,"After a seven year hiatus, The Gaslight Anthem announces a full-time reunion!. Via: https://www.facebook.com/thegaslightanthem/posts/526190365539716 + +Hello everyone, Brian here. I hate to disappoint you, but I need to inform you that there will not be a 10th anniversary Handwritten Tour, or a documentary film… However, I am very pleased to announce to you all that The Gaslight Anthem is returning to full time status as a band. We’ll be announcing a lot of tour dates in the next couple of days. We’re also beginning to write new songs for what will be our sixth LP. We’re very much looking forward to the future and seeing you all again. We want to thank you for staying with us. Stay tuned! - Brian, Ben, Alex, and Alex.",0 +5677,Jon Lajoie - I Kill People [Gangster Rap]. ,0 +5678,Betty - Yung Gravy [Rap] TIL Yung Gravy sampled Rick Astley in a song. ,0 +5679,"‘People took so many drugs, they forgot they played on it’ – stars on Exile on Main St, the Rolling Stones’ sprawling masterpiece. ",0 +5680,"Jazz legend Pharoah Sanders has died at 81. Article: https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/pharoah-sanders-jazz-saxophonist-great-130421865.html + +Pharoah Sanders, the jazz saxophonist who worked closely with John Coltrane and was a pioneer of the avant-garde movement, has died. He was 81 years old. + +No one played the tenor saxophone quite like Pharoah Sanders. When he blew his horn, it was as if he was a dragon breathing fire. He played it so loudly and with such a fierce intensity that what came out of his horn was a startlingly eerie howl, like a hurricane crossed with a flame-thrower; a sound that had a brawny and burning physical presence and yet oozed a sense of deep spirituality. It was raw, tough, and sinewy and yet could also be incredibly tender and beautiful – and to some listeners, it seemed to be a sonic gateway to transport you to another place and time, far beyond the temporal world. To his devotees, Sanders was a spiritual messenger carrying on the astral explorations of his mentor, John Coltrane, and using musical self-expression as a means of self-discovery that allowed him to reach out to touch the infinite and get closer to God or The Creator. + +In a career that spanned seven decades and yielded over 30 albums, Sanders, despite having a singular saxophone sound, proved to be a versatile musician who initially was a key architect of an intensely emotional and highly personal avant-garde style that came to be known as spiritual jazz in the 1960s. As his career progressed, he went on to build musical bridges between different musical idioms and the sounds of other cultures. And then, just as it seemed he was going quietly into that good night, a 2021 collaboration with Floating Points, a British DJ and producer, brought him back into the spotlight and proved a remarkable coda to a storied career. + +Pharoah Sanders was born Ferrell Sanders in Little Rock, Arkansas, in 1940. He was the only child of a father who worked for the city and a mother who was the cook in a school canteen; both taught music on the side and their enthusiasm for it rubbed off on their young son, who started out playing the drums before switching to the clarinet after seeing one for sale advertised on his local church noticeboard. “That’s how I got my first instrument,” he recalled to The New Yorker in 2020. “Seventeen dollars!” + +After mastering the clarinet, Sanders set his sights on another reed instrument: the saxophone, and took up the alto variety, which he rented from his high school but eventually, his fascination with the more popular tenor sax took hold, and he sold his clarinet to buy one. Sanders honed his craft by playing in the high school band and found a mentor in the shape of band director Jimmy Cannon, who introduced the young saxophonist to jazz. When Cannon left, Sanders took over leadership of the band while also playing local gigs; sometimes, he would steal into jazz and blues clubs where visiting musicians played and sat in with them. + +While his instrumental prowess was developing, Sanders was also nurturing a passion for art, and his talent for painting got him a place at Oakland Junior College in California, where he was able to study art alongside music. Dubbed “Little Rock” by his classmates, Sanders played jazz and rhythm and blues gigs on the side and then moved to San Francisco, where he attended jam sessions. But in 1962, at the age of 22, he decided to move to New York, then dubbed the jazz center of the world, where he believed greater work opportunities lay. + +He hitchhiked his way to the Big Apple, but life there was tough at first. No one knew him or could vouch for his musical accomplishments, so work was hard to find. He was homeless for a time, living rough on the streets but was able to rustle up a few dollars to buy food by giving blood, pawning his horn or getting an occasional job as a chef or waiter. + +After scuffling for a few years and living from hand to mouth, in 1964 his life changed for the better when he came into the orbit of the cosmic-minded bandleader Sun Ra, who led a large, family-like ensemble called the Arkestra; Ra took him in, provided him with some decent clothing, and crucially, persuaded him to adopt the name Pharoah. He also brought the saxophonist into the ranks of the Arkestra though his time with them was short as Sanders desired to lead his own band. Gradually, he began to make a name for himself and after cutting some sides with avant-garde trumpeter Don Cherry and pianist Paul Bley in 1964, he led his first recording session in September of that year which was released under the title Pharoah by Bernard Stollman’s ESP ‘Disk label. + +A momentous inflection point in Sanders’ life came the following year when became reacquainted with John Coltrane, whom Sanders had first met in California in 1961 when the older saxophonist was playing in the Miles Davis group. Coltrane, who’d gone from bebop to modal jazz, was searching for another direction in his music and after his regular drummer, Elvin Jones, couldn’t make a gig, took a chance on a young avant-garde drummer called Rashied Ali, who took Sanders and saxophonist Archie Shepp along with him. + +Coltrane, who was fourteen years older than Sanders, was fascinated by these young musicians and their approach to jazz and started going to their gigs. Eventually, he brought them into his new, expanded group. Sanders played on the Coltrane album Ascension - a fiercely avant-garde large enable piece that still perplexes the jazz critics - in 1965 but was unsure of what was expected of him. “I didn’t feel like, at the time, that I was ready to play with John Coltrane,” he confessed to The New Yorker. “Being around him was almost, like, ‘Well, what do you want me to do? I don’t know what I’m supposed to do.’ I don’t feel like he needed me or another horn. I think he just felt like he was going to do something different.” + +But Coltrane was feeding off Sanders’ approach to the saxophone and finding musical nourishment; and crucially, he was bringing some of that visceral rawness to his own sound, which was becoming more dissonant and exploratory on his recordings in 1966 and 1967. + +Coltrane’s producer Bob Thiele realized that Sanders had become an important new voice in jazz and signed him to the Impulse! label in 1966. His debut album for the company, Tauhid - which featured the epic “Upper Eygpt And Lower Egypt,” one of Sanders’ signature tracks with its screaming saxophone over a mesmeric groove - should have been a cause for celebration, but just before it was released, Coltrane died from cancer in July 1967. + +Perceived as Coltrane’s heir apparent - or the son to Coltrane's holy father, as the avant-garde saxophonist Albert Ayler saw it - Sanders picked up the spiritual jazz baton, but as he told JazzTimes, he wasn’t continuing Coltrane’s work. “It wasn’t a carry-over of something that he did,” he stated. “Whole different thing from what I was doing.” + +During the next five years, he would release a series of albums on Impulse! - including Karma featuring arguably his most famous piece, “The Creator Has A Master Plan” - which expanded jazz’s frontiers with long, open-ended pieces that featured assorted African percussion and incantatory vocal chants. On those records, he was trying to find a balance between freedom of expression and connecting with his listeners, as he told All About Jazz in 2003: “At that time, when I was making those albums, I was trying to do both kinds of things, play ‘in’ and ‘out,’” he said. + +The 1971 album Thembi introduced one of Sanders’ most well-loved pieces, “Astral Travelling,” which encapsulated the saxophonist’s quest to discover other worlds via an explorative journey into sound. The track was written by Lonnie Liston Smith, a pianist who went on to forge his own successful career as a jazz-funk pioneer. “Pharaoh could sound like he was playing two or three different notes at one time,” Smith revealed to this writer in 2012. “With Pharaoh, it was so organic, ‘cos we didn't rehearse that much - we’d just go and play. You had to really be creative and stretch out. He said, ‘Let's start at this point and then we just go as far as we want to go but then we always bring it back to where we started because you don't want to leave the audience out there in space.’ So people started relating to what Pharaoh was doing because of that.” + +In the late 60s and early 70s, Sanders also played with Coltrane's wife, Alice, who began her solo career after her husband’s death. He played on three of her albums, including the remarkable Indo-fusion gem Journey in Satchidananda in 1971. Sanders stayed with Impulse until 1974, but as the decade progressed began hopping from label to label; perhaps the most significant recording during that spell was a short stint at the major label, Arista, in 1978, where he made a slick commercial album called Love Will Find A Way produced by a former Coltrane acolyte, drummer Norman Connors. Though mellower and not as outre as his earlier records - it featured soul singer Phyllis Hyman - Sanders’ tenor saxophone still possessed a blowtorch intensity on some tracks. Amazingly, the record made No. 163 on The Billboard 200 and rose to No. 41 on the US R&B charts. + +Come the 1980s, Sanders found a home at the small California-based Theresa label, where he stayed for several albums and recorded in an organic style more in keeping with the sound and spiritual messages of his earlier albums; he also revisited some Coltrane numbers on his own records and appeared on pianist McCoy Tyner’s Blues For Coltrane, a tribute to the saxophonist that reunited him with the Impulse label. + +Wider public interest in Sanders blossomed in the 1990s, initiated by his appearance on The Trance Of Seven Colors, a 1994 album with Gnawa musician Mahmoud Guinia that was produced by Bill Laswell in Morocco. Lavishly praised by critics, it helped Sanders find a new audience, as did his appearance on the Red Hot Organization compilation album Stolen Moments: Red Hot + Cool released the same year. It included a trip-hop remix of Sanders’ signature piece “The Creator Has A Master Plan” and received many accolades, including an album of the year recommendation by the influential Time magazine. + +As a result of being festooned with critical plaudits, Sanders’ stock rose significantly, leading to him signing with Verve, where he released two well-regarded albums which reunited him with producer Bill Laswell; the first and best of them, 1996’s Message From Home, was a mash-up of jazz, funk, dub, world music and trip-hip that produced the memorable track “Our Roots (Began In Africa),” which made Sanders hip with younger listeners, as did his exciting collaboration with former Public Image Limited bassist Jah Wobble on the album Heaven & Earth. + +Sanders was much in-demand as a special guest in the late 90s and early 2000s, appearing on albums by artists as varied as folk-soul troubadour Terry Callier, hard bop trumpeter Wallace Roney and avant-garde saxophonist David Murray, while also recording his own music for a variety of labels. But after his 2003 LP Without A Heartbeat for the Evolver label - which put him back in the studio with Laswell - he never made another solo album. Nevertheless, he was still in demand as a live performer - often playing at jazz festivals around the world - and the reissue of his Impulse! back catalog in the 2010s saw to it that he didn’t fade into obscurity. + +His place in the pantheon of greats was cemented by his becoming a National Endowment for the Arts Jazz Master in 2016, but his appearances on record were becoming noticeably more sporadic. He did, however, make a surprising and memorable return in 2021 when he collaborated with the British producer and DJ known as Floating Points (Sam Shepherd) on the album Promises, recorded with the London Symphony Orchestra. On the immersive 46-minute project, Sanders was the star of the show; his saxophone - hoarse and braying one minute, soft and seductive the next - was framed by a lush soundscape of delicate keyboards and sonorous strings. + +According to the album’s press release, Sanders was impressed by his young collaborator, and despite the 45 years that separated them, they discovered common ground. “I think Sam is a great musician, and one of these geniuses just walking around on this earth,” he said. “I love the way he plays, and I love the way he writes.” + +Shepherd, for his part, was awed by his new friend. “Listening to Pharoah play on this piece, it was like the instrument was an extension of his being.” he gushed, “like it was a megaphone for his soul.” + +Heaped with universal praise, Promises drew a new audience to Sanders’ music but sadly turned out to be his epitaph, albeit an elegant one that captured his uniqueness as a musician as well as the often underappreciated beauty of his sound. + +“People think I don’t talk much, but I try to speak through my music,” he said a year before his death, acknowledging that he made up for his legendary off-stage taciturnity and dislike of interviews by communicating through the reed of his saxophone, which allowed him to bear his soul and reveal his true self.",0 +5681,Mustard plug - Mr.Smiley [Ska]. ,0 +5682,The Smiths - Heaven knows i'm miserable now Cover [Pop]. ,0 +5683,"Elvis Costello - Alison [New wave, ballad]. ",0 +5684,Bad Brains - Big Takeover [Hardcore Punk]. ,0 +5685,"What’s your favorite song sang by someone who WASN’T the band’s lead singer?. I’m sure there are more popular/famous songs out there, but my favorite is “Shackled” by Keith Kane (guitarist) of Vertical Horizon. + +It sticks out to me because I didn’t know it was sung by someone other than the lead singer until I saw them live. + +I already liked the song and was excited to hear them play the song. I was wondering why stage hands were putting ear buds into the guitarists ears… and then he suddenly stepped up and started singing! + +https://youtu.be/Oq6DG-Sm2zU",0 +5686,"Recommend me some instrumental albums.. Looking for some instrumental albums to listen to while I do college work. Doesnt matter if there's a small amount of vocals but they tend to distract me so preferably kept to a minimum. Not too bothered about genre but here's a couple of albums that I like for reference: + +Bonobo - Black Sands + +Jon Hopkins - Singularity + +Sparky Puppy & Metropole Orkest - Slyva + +Polyphia - New Levels, New Devils + +C418 - Alpha + +Animals as Leaders - Animals as Leaders + +Any help would be amazing! + +Edit: Wow! Did not expect this many recommendations. Suffice to say its going to take a lot of college work to get through these. I'll give as many a go as possible. If you've got more, keep them coming! + +2nd Edit: I never expected this many recommendations. I don't think its even feasible to get through this many albums in a lifetime. Regardless, thank you all very much for the suggestions. Don't think I'll struggle for things to listen to ever again.",0 +5687,"Finally saw Cake live over the weekend. So good!. Such a fun time! The banter and playfulness with the crowd had us howling. John isn't shy about telling the crowd what to do and we had a blast basking in their goofy funkiness. + +Any other Cake heads have any live experiences?! + +I've heard pray tell of some people thinking John was rude or sassy in concert! I'm inclined to believe he was just playing around and it was misinterpreted. We had a blast and three halves! They don't tour too much it seems, but can't recommend enough. + +After the show I realized Cake is the closest we'll ever get to actually seeing Mike Myers' beatnik poet character from So I Ever Married An Axe Murder having a successful music career. ""Harriet! Sweet Harriet!"" with some funky bass and vibra-slap would fit right at home on a Cake record! + +Maybe also worth mentioning: definitely purchased a vibra-slap the day after the Cake show and it has already paid itself off in laughter.",0 +5688,"If you could choose any band to do an MTV unplugged style acoustic session, who would it be?. A few bands I think would be really interesting to hear stripped down and acoustic would be Smashing Pumpkins, TOOL, System of a Down, Pink Floyd, and Queens of the Stone Age",0 +5689,"Give me your favourite Metal Band from your Home country. Greetings, fellow human beings, + +I'm looking for new bands to listen to from all over the world. Give me recommendations from your home country, no matter the particular sub genre of metal or language. + +Best regards, + +Kadzur",0 +5690,"I Put A Spell On You (1958) by Screamin' Jay Hawkins is one of the most ahead-of-it's-time recordings ever.. I can't imagine what people in the late fifties thought when that album dropped. Lol. Listening in the 2020s and it's still weird, scary, and hilarious. One of, if not the, best holiday recordings of all time.",0 +5691,Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds - Red Right Hand [Gothic Rock]. ,0 +5692,"Unfailingly sexy album?. For me, Portishead - Dummy [trip-hop] is the ultimate *let’s have sex* album - it just does something magical - with or without someone else in the room. What’s yours?",0 +5693,"What's an acoustic or stripped down version of a song that is on a whole different level of awesome than the original?. Everlong by Foo Fighters + +Take on Me by Ah-ha + + And for stripped down, Lady Gaga's version of Edge of Glory on Howard Stern is amazing. + +What's yours? + +Edit: phenomenal contributions! + +Edit 2: imagine trying to pick the *best* song on Nirvana's Unplugged. It's not possible.",0 +5694,"The Verve - Lucky Man [Britpop, 1997]. ",0 +5695,The Used - The Taste Of Ink [Emo]. ,0 +5696,Songs with drummer as lead singer??. Was watching a video of a live performance for a song I had heard many times… did not realize until seeing it that the lead singer was the drummer. I thought this was pretty unusual so I wanted to see what other songs were out there like this.,0 +5697,"What would be your pick for a rock/metal band that is a lot older than most people would think?. For example, Tool has been around for something like 30 years now. + +What other bands do most people just not realize were around decades ago?",0 +5698,IDLES - Danny Nedelko [Post Punk]. ,0 +5699,"Deceptive artist names/band names. I read about why Alice Cooper was called Alice Cooper, and started thinking about other artists/ band names that aren't what their names might suggest + +Drake - not an actual duck, not a lot of quacking in the songs. + +Florence and the machines - no machines involved and their name makes them sound like a metal band. + +Scisor Sisters - not even one sister in the band. + +Any others?",0 +5700,The B-52s - Rock Lobster [New wave]. ,0 +5701,Blind Melon. One of the great underrated bands of the turn of the century.,0 +5702,Incubus - Drive [Alternative Rock]. ,0 +5703,Tracy Chapman - Fast Car [Folk]. ,0 +5704,"Paul Oakenfold: ""Dance music doesn't just live in the nightclub. It's for the world to share, explore, and love."". ",0 +5705,"Great albums with one, lone terrible song?. I’d have to nominate Guns N’ Roses’ Use Your Illusion II. The way that the unlistenable embarrassment that is “My World” is just carelessly tacked on to the end of an album that contains “Civil War”, “Breakdown”, “Estranged” is just mind boggling to me.",0 +5706,"The Beatles Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band turns 55 today. Released June 1, 1967. The 1st rock album to record with orchestra, sound effects and tape manipulation. The 1st album to be considered a concept album with The Beatles as an alter ego band.. It's remarkable that George Martin and the engineers found innovative ways of recording this epic album despite only having four-track recording technology. Recording only spanned 129 days. + +Ranked #24 of 500 from Rolling Stones Greatest Albums of all time, *Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band* is a pop/art musical journey that broken traditional expectations on what a rock album should be by showing that pop music could be high art. + +Listening to this iconic album for the first time felt like such an enriching listening experience closing with *A Day in the Life.* One of the greatest rock songs in history IMO. Each song has such strong imagery and imaginative music arranging by the team. The animated album cover helps sets that scene plus the release of the *Yellow Submarine* movie a year later. Can you name the people on the album cover? I'll start with an obvious one... Bob Dylan.",0 +5707,"Songs where the Guitar truly ""sings"" As if it is a being speaking with its soul. Im talking about like 'Cemetary gates' Right before the gnarly riff hits. If you've heard it you'll know what I mean. If you havent heard it then you can play it [here](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fiPEn2W_8oE) + +Edit: Thx so much for silver award, this is the most comments and upvotes i've gotten on a post, feels nice ngl thank u all, so many good songs. Will try to respond to all comments but theres so so many to respond to",0 +5708,"Ever had a song hit so hard it made you feel about 20 years younger?. This one did it for me - https://youtu.be/7G1eLTV89dM + +Wolf Parade - I'll Believe in Anything + +I was watching some show on Hulu and this song drops and about every feeling of my youth rushed at me at once. It made me nauseous and elated at the same time. I wanted to cry, because I felt like I had just seen a dead friend briefly. + +Nostalgia. Nothing like it.",0 +5709,"R.I.P. to my hero. Im sorry if this post is against the rules, but I've been having a very difficult time this week. My teacher and inspiration to strive to be the best guitar player, brother and son, has passed away. My grandfather Doug, was the best guitar player you've never heard. He played from the age of 12 all the way till his passing this Wednesday at the age of 78. He traveled as a young man in the early 60s in the Nashville scene, and was in a band called the vagabonds. I am truly grateful for the 27 years I got to spend with him. His music inspiration was Chet Atkins, so if you get the chance today give him a listen.",0 +5710,"Blind Melon is the most underrated band from the 1990s. The 1990s was a fun yet bizarre decade for music as rap transformed into something new and fresh and hair metal died to make way for the birth of grunge. Let's also not forget the emergence of boy bands... + +In all the musical chaos of this great decade, the one band that stands out amongst the rest (TO ME) isn't Nirvana or Green Day or OutKast...but Blind Melon. + +We all know their famous chart-topping single *No Rain*, but their legacy carries on further than that. Their eponymous debut album combined elements of the new alternative scene with southern-rock roots and a blend of 70s retro-rock. Shannon Hoon's scratchy and high-pitched tone brought such a unique vibe to the record, and his sound truly seperated the band from the high influx of grunge/pop-punk bands. My best friend described his voice as the male version of Janis Joplin, and that's honestly the best comparison I've got for his unique range. Just as Blind Melon stepped into the spotlight, Shannon Hoon passed away from a drug overdose. This ultimately ended the band's fifteen seconds of fame and they slowly drifted away from stardom. + +Listen, I love grunge music more than anyone...Alice in Chains and Smashing Pumpkins are two of my all-time favorite bands, however, the genre can sound very redundant similarly to the previous Hair Metal phase of the 1980s. Although my love for grunge music is immense, it's nice to have a breathe of fresh air, and Blind Melon delivers on all cylinders. Give their short discography a listen if you haven't yet... + +[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blind\_Melon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blind_Melon)",0 +5711,"My parents treated me horribly because I was a girl and now they want me to take care of my adult brother who's incapable because he's spoiled. I'm a 21 year old woman who lives with 2 of my roommates in an apartment, we follow the same course in college and we all work, so we can afford the apartment and live somewhat in peace. I moved out the moment I finished high school because of how I was treated at home, I was struggling financially on my own until I found my friends. Now, I'll explain the family part. Ever since I was a kid my family would make sure that I knew that they weren't happy that I was born a girl and that my mom cried the first time she found out and didn't believe it until I was born, my mom would also say that she was very happy she could give my father a son who would continue the bloodline and that she would be devastated if she couldn't have her baby boy since she ""tried so hard to have him"", weird thing to say to me but back then I didn't really understand so whatever. My brother is 4 years younger than me, I remember that when I was a kid and family members would visit they wouldn't even look at me but they'd go straight to the boy of the family, my dad is an only child so yeah apparently my brother was a big deal. The worst thing is that my parents would ignore me, sometimes it would go so far as refusing to buy me basic needs stuff such as clothes, medication or anything if my brother would ask for something expensive. On my own birthdays my parents would get my brother gifts with the excuse of ""he's younger so he'll get sad and you have the cake anyways and it's your party"" but I was never allowed to invite my friends because we had to invite his friends and the family and it would be crowded and messy. He would often demand to have my things, shoes, phone, pencils, bags, jackets and my mom would literally almost rip them off of me to give them to him, I remember that I refused to give him a paper house I made in 5th grade and as a punishment she cut all of my hair off. My teacher found out and she called my mom and it escalated a bit, when we went home, she refused to let me eat food for a day and would yell at me because I was breathing. I was never allowed to go on trips with them because ""respectable girls don't travel"", I don't know how they came up with this atrocity but they did. I was only allowed to buy new clothes every two years and had a tight budget for that, while my brother got everything he wanted. If my brother wanted more food, my mom would take the meat out of my plate with her fork and give it to him, without asking, once she tried to do this with cake and I pulled my plate away and she tried to hit me, but things didn't get more serious because my grandma was there and she wasn't having any of that. My brother would hit me a lot but if I even pushed him off he would scream and cry on top of his lungs and my mother would slap me for making him sad since "" he was just being a brother"". After my paternal grandma died her house went to my dad and the men of the family were discussing who it should go to after my dad since we already have our house that my brother would inherit, my maternal grandpa said it should go to me but my dad's uncle got up and argued about how I was just a woman and the house would end up in a stranger's hands after I'd get married, so they decided to give this one to my brother too. My brother grew up to be violent, lazy and quite rude. My mother would beg him to tell her why he wasn't talking to her by saying ""Don't you love your mom?"" and it was simply because she told him not to leave plates on his room, I still remember the awkwardness of those situations as she begged for forgiveness as if she had done something horrible. Eventually they made me move into the storage room which was tiny and took three days to clean out, because my brother wanted my room because it was ""cleaner and had more light"" but didn't want to move his computer and stuff from his other room, so now he had two rooms and I barely had any space to move. But this didn't bother me for long since I graduated shortly after and moved out. Now after a good amount of time my mom and dad called me and told me that they wanted to move to the old house because my brother wanted to live alone, but they couldn't leave him alone and it would be nice if I sent him food on the daily and cleaned the house every weekend. I laughed and asked them if they were serious since this was the first time they called me in a while and that was the first thing they said, they got mad and told me I was mocking them and that they were right to not give me anything. All the anger I kept inside for years got the best of me and I went off on them, I told them they could make a kangaroo pouch and take their man baby everywhere if they were so worried about him since they spoiled him rotten to the point where he has zero life skills and the fact that he is as stupid as they are didn't help, I told them I wasn't going to do sh\*t for them or him and to never call me again. Later that night my mom calls me and tells me dad ended up in the hospital after what I said, I asked for proof and she hung up. Later my maternal aunt calls me and tells me that my mom is lying and they were both over at her house for dinner and how they planned it in front of everyone to lie and guilt trip me, she told me it was messed up and I didn't have to worry and to just focus on myself. Me and my friends have been laughing and honestly I've been crying a bit over this, I just wanted to talk about this since I've kept to myself for a long time. + +Edit: I want to share with you guys a generous (sarcasm) offer my brother made me, he said ""You can move back in but only if you stay in the small room again, don't come out when I have my buddies over, clean and don't spend water and electricity, if the bills skyrocket because of you, I will kick you out"". I don't know where he gets the impression that I would want to move back in that house, especially since he expects me to be a maid. He also made sure that I knew that I'd have to move out the moment he got a girlfriend since he'd have her move in with him and they'd need privacy, at the end he added ""I hope you understand what I mean"". I replied with ""Don't delete the text with the rules, you might need to forward them to your future gf, since you're dense enough to actually do it"" and I blocked him. It honestly is funny, I don't understand where this entitlement comes from. I obviously blocked their numbers and somehow they found my friends' numbers and they had to block them too. My mom found my social media and texted me ""You have to send him food at least because I can't move out in peace, who do you think you are, disobeying me? You're going to hell for this"". I've been cackling at this message because I don't remember being born to take care of their mistakes, not to mention that my parents will still live closer to him, they just want to put their irresponsibility on my shoulders. Apparently my brother told them to leave since ""He was an adult and wanted to live as one now, with privacy"" and they're still trying to blame me for the problems created in a household I haven't been a part of in years. At this point it's hard for me to take them seriously and I can't even bother to deal with them so I just block them.",0 +5712,"I showed up to Christmas dinner purely to intimidate my homophobic family out of bullying my sister. Idk I just want to tell this story to someone. I (23F) wasn’t planning on going to Christmas with my family, I only live 30 minutes away but I’m not close with anyone but my sister (20F). I told her I wouldn’t be coming and she cried, she still lives at home and my family is not kind to her. I told her if she needed me to let me know and I’d come. Christmas Day she texted me a little before dinner. She Identifies as “queer” and she said she’d already been called the F - slur 3 times and people had only been there for a few minutes. I was livid. My family has hardly seen me in the past year, so I decided to be a bit dramatic. I dressed up in one of my favorite outfits with high heeled boots (I’m a D1 athlete and I think the fit shows off my muscles pretty well). My family has almost never seen me in makeup so I did my best winged eyeliner and gold eyeshadow. I walked in the door unannounced and refused to hug anyone but my sister and little brother. One of the first comments said at dinner was someone degrading my sister so I stared them straight in the eyes and called them out for it. I stayed the rest of the night practically daring anyone to so much as look at her the wrong way, but no one said anything after I responded to the first couple comments. +I feel a little guilty for being so icy especially to my mom, but we aren’t close and she was a huge part of the problem. This probably wasn’t the most mature way to handle things but I’m proud. I lost a lot of confidence growing up with these people and have spent most of my life terrified of being disliked or ridiculed. I haven’t always stood up for my siblings like I wish I had, and honestly it’s empowering to not be intimidated out of it anymore. +The great news is she’s finally financially able to move out of there and will be rooming with me in a couple weeks.",0 +5713,"Mom switched up her prayer tonight.. My parents have always done family devotions before bed with us kids (I'm 19 years old now, almost 20, so not much of a kid anymore lol) and we all pray together at the end. My mom tonight was praying for me and my school. I have exams tomorrow. She was initially praying that I'd ""get good grades"", but stopped herself and corrected to ""does her best"". Idk but that little change meant a lot to me. My parents have always had high expectations and I no longer share my grades with them unless I get above 90. It was nice to hear that she just wants me to do my best.",0 +5714,"I’m (F24) about to care on the responsibilities of taking care of my younger brother (10).. Edit: **about to take on the responsibilities of^** + +My mom passed away over 2 years ago when I was 22 and my brother was 8. My dad (who is addicted to drugs) was turning left into the neighborhood after school when her car door got hit. Because she was sitting in the back with my little brother, her body saved him. She bled internally and died later at the hospital. My dad waited 4 hours to call me (f22) and my younger sister (f18). It was the saddest day of my life. + +My brother, then moved in with family. He slept on the couch and got verbally bullied. + + +Fast forward to a year ago, he moves in with our dad. He has gone all day without my dad home or food. I’ve brought them food multiple times and often bring more than 1 meal at a time or groceries (kid friendly). + +He’s going to middle school next year and will start to experience the social hierarchy. (Ah I remember those days) + +It has become apparent that I cannot let my brother continue to live with family or dad. Alone, I currently make $60k annually in Tx and am looking for 2b/2b apartments with my bf (m26). I don’t make a lot at the moment but I know my future is bright and this is a sacrifice I’m willing to make. + +Is my brother too young for antidepressants? +Am I making the right decision? +Should I get an apartment for just him and I? How would I pay for it? What should I do and how do I proceed/move forward?",0 +5715,"I’ve been bullying my mom back and it’s amazing. A few months back I saw this post about a girl who was obligated to live with her parents until she’s 18 , so she decided to traumatize them back. I too decided to do the same , I’ve been gaslighting bullying and manipulating my mom for a few months now . BEST DECISION EVER . + +My mom has gaslight me for my whole life and now she’s just as confused as she made me + +Mom: hey there were drinks in the fridge, were did they go ( there weren’t ) + +Me: oh yeah , I was lookin forward to having one , unfortunately you finished before I could it’s ok tho , I’ve been trying to watch my figure + +Mom : what ?! No , I didn’t have any ( stumbles trying not to expose that they’re actually never were drinks in the fridge ) + +Me : huh , then maybes it’s the sweet rolls you’ve had this week , your top looks really tight for some reason + +Mom: *has mental break down* + + +I’ve been doing similar things for the past year , absolutely destroyed her . Only problem now is I sometimes slip into character when talking to other innocent ppl. I’ll quickly snap out of it tho + +Anyways thanks to who ever gave me that advice very good . 10/10 would recommend",0 +5716,"Took my son park hopping!. It's like bar hopping but with parks. Our goal was 10 minutes per park and we wanted to get through 10 parks! We had so much fun, got slushies and lunch in-between! We didn't make it through the 10 parks we stayed 15-50 minutes per park usually on the lower end but one park we stayed quite awhile & we completed 7 parks! Such a fun and inexpensive thing to do with the kids - I must say though I was so tired that it felt like I bar hopped lol. I recommend it to anyone with kids, especially those on a budget!",0 +5717,"Wife lied about miscarriage and had an abortion. Hi, first of all I am a firm believer of woman's choice, so please no political views. + +Ok so we have been married 10 years and have 3 beautiful boys, so me and my wife decided to go for a fourth, hoping for a girl. The stick turned blue so she went off to the docs for a scan etc. All normal aprox 9 weeks and doc said she should have a blood test as wife is now 37yrs. Blood tests came back normal and all was progressing well. Then a week later my wife bursts into tears saying she had been bleeding, obviously we were upset. She went off to the docs again and he confirmed a miscarriage. Five days later my wife came to me and admitted that it was not a miscarriage, she had self medicated with the abortion pill given to her by a shifty doctor but she was 14 weeks gone and the tablet did not terminate the pregnancy properly so she has to go to a neighbouring country to get an abortion as our home land does not do past 14 weeks. Oh and the reason she terminated the pregnancy is because the blood test showed it was going to be another boy. +I am obviously furious she lied and decieved me and at the point where I don't know if I will ever be able to trust her again, possibly ending our marriage. My question is am I overreacting?",0 +5718,"Brother accused of sex abuse. My 15 y.o. niece came out and told the family that my brother had abused her. An investigation was conducted by the authorities and determined it to be a false accusation. She now lives with her mom and isn’t in contact with my brother anymore. + +The fun part is that now I’m unsure of what had actually happened. My wife and I don’t want him around my two daughters just in case. When I told him this he told my dad and pops is losing his shit, accusing me of destroying the family without any proof. I think I’m doing the right thing. Even if my brother didn’t do anything, he’s a grown man and he’ll live. Has anyone gone through something like this",0 +5719,"Today my 4 year old tried to ""poison"" me... HELP. + +PLEASE HELP, am I overthinking or do I need to be concerned? + +So My 4 year old daughter and I have a wonderful relationship, we all (husband, me, 4 year old daughter, 6 month old baby) have really been hitting our stride with our entire family dynamic and things are honestly going well. It's everything I never had and I feel incredibly grateful for my family. + +My daughter has her share of tantrums and can be sneaky, but I feel it's by no means out of the ordinary. She hasn't show any behavior that concerned me before this. Overall she's a caring and very sweet kid. She's always been advanced in her communication, and expresses her feelings well for her age. + +Then today out of nowhere, she did something super strange. And I'm freaking out! + +She walks up and offers me a water bottle, and I say no thank you. Then i notice that the water inside looks all soapy so I ask her why there was soap in the bottle and she just looks at me and after a minute says + +""I can't tell you mom you're really not going to like it"" + +And I reassure her she can tell me anything and it's better to tell the truth and such and she then says + +""I just want to eat ice cream whenever I want"" + +And I'm like what does that have to do with this? What's going on? And she tells me + +""I was just trying to poison you so you would die"" + +....okay... And after I take a second to soak that all in I ask her a few questions and she basically tells me she put dish soap in my water to see if I would die so she could eat ice cream whenever she wants. we then have this LONG talk about hurting people and that if I died I would be gone and on and on and during the talk she was apologizing and crying and seemed genuinely like she felt bad and I just hugged her for a long time. After everything I told her I loved her and she was ready to move on and play more and I dropped it. When her dad got home we all talked more, and when it was just us he told me I shouldn't worry too much and that she just doesn't know what it meant. + +What should I think? How abnormal is this??? Part of me thinks it's funny and wants to laugh and the other is hurt that she tried to do that and I'm so scared that it might be really concerning behavior. I don't have parental figures to go to with this and my friends don't have kids. I'm really needing some advice right now... thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this.",0 +5720,"Was I wrong for calling CPS on my sister?. I (27) female recently called Child protective services on my sister Bethany (34) and her boyfriend Martin(33). My sister Bethany has three children with her boyfriend, Micheal (13), Sarah (7), and Susie (2). Martin has struggled with alcolholim for the past 13 years and has gotten 4 DUIs, has totaled 3 vehicles leaving the famoly with no way to get around, and shows no remorse for his behavior. When he drinks he becomes very destructive and destroys my sisters home, punches holes in the wall, slams things, calls my sister the worst names, and does all of this in front of his children who are terrified of him. Recently my nephew micheal (13) disclosed to my mother (his grandmother) that he is afraid that his father is going to hit his mom and that he wishes he would go away. My mother promised to call the police next time this happens and told Micheal to call her if she needs to do that. Backstory, my mother has tried to financially support and convince my sister to leave Martin many times over the years but Bethany always takes advantage of her help and then returns back to Martin who makes false promises to change, but then returns to this behavior. Recently, my sister Bethany sent me a text that was not supposed to go to me stating “the baby is asleep on the couch, i will call you if he starts again. He won’t do anything with you on the phone.” I immediately called her and she explained that the text was supposed to go to a friend and that Martin had driven home drunk and that he was screaming at her calling her names, breaking things, and eventually locked himself in the master bedroom where my Susie’s crib is located, so she would have to sleep on the couch. When i told her to call the police and that he is abusing her she said that she would if he did it again. However I heard Michael say in that back ground to call his grandmother. I remembered that Micheal associates his grandmother / my mother with the police so after hanging up I called the police and asked them to do a wellness check as my sister is in an abusive household and I am unsure if she and her kids are okay. When the police arrived, she kept Martin in the bedroom and lied to them saying that they had a silly fight and that it was really nothing to worry about. She called me FURIOUS however I still heard slamming and yelling in the background. My sister has recently told me that she needs him to get out and that she would call the cops if he continued to scare the children and drink and drive etc. so i was confused as to why she didn’t tell the officers the truth. An hour later, i made a CPS call and told them everything. I wanted them to stop scaring the kids after and before school, and be good parents and i felt like CPS would force my sister to be truthful and accept that this man is abusing her and the kids. However when they came she again lied about the abuse. Her kids however did not and now she has follow up visits from CPS until this case is closed. She has cut me off ever since and blocked me on everything. I feel awful and even though I felt like i was doing the right thing at the time, i now question if iit was worth losing all contact with my sister. Was i wrong?",0 +5721,"My parents are concerned about my breasts?. I’m (20F) an only child college student who comes home every so often to visit my parents. While my mom and I were shopping recently, the topic of boobs came up since we were looking at bras. She then said to me how last time I was in town, she could see my nipples through my shirt and how uncomfortable it made her. She then proceeded to say she had a conversation with my DAD about it to which he agreed. First of all, I have super small boobs so I can get away without a bra. Second of all, wearing no bra is way more comfortable to me, and no one else has ever had a problem with it. I can’t stop thinking how uncomfortable that makes ME, the fact that both of my parents were looking at my boobs enough to be bothered by them. I feel disgusted and violated. Am I in the wrong for not “hiding” them better? + +Edit: thank you for all of your responses! I failed to mention when my mother made this comment, it was in more of a judgmental tone than coming from a place of genuine concern. I mentioned it in another response, but her first thought was “what would your uncles think?” Yes I’m fully aware my nipples show through my shirt, but it’s hurting no one and should not make anyone, especially my male relatives, uncomfortable. It is what’s comfortable for me, and that should be all that matters.",0 +5722,"Advice on whether I’m doing the right thing not dropping daughter (2.5years old) off with MIL anymore, after she told me “grandma touched my vulva”. I know by the title the answer seems obvious, but maybe with backstory it’s not so black and white and I’m really struggling with the fallout this has caused and whether what I’m doing is right, or if I’m overreacting. My husband and I have been together for 7 years and my MIL and I have always had a really great relationship, she felt like a second mom to me and we both have confided a lot with each other. Something that bonded us together is that we both have family history of childhood sexual abuse. My brothers were both sexually abused by my father and I was also most likely when I was baby, before my mom found out and left him. My MIL was sexually abused by her father for much of her childhood. I noticed my MIL and I’s relationship started to sour when my daughter went through a mild health scare (at 16 months old) and I stopped dropping my daughter off at her house, she kept insisting I didn’t trust her anymore and that something must be wrong and that I don’t like her (to my husband). I kept reassuring her that I still love and trust her but I want to be with my daughter until she’s better. Our relationship kept fracturing after this because she continued to insist I have a problem with her and don’t trust her. I started feeling like she was pressuring me through my husband to drop our daughter off with her. I started to feel uncomfortable by how much she was insisting on being alone with my daughter, it wasn’t good enough if we visited she wanted me dropping her off. I potty trained my daughter at 18 months and around 20 months she told my husband and I while we were in bed (after spending the day at grandmas) “grandma touched my vulva”. It bothered me but my husband was positive it was just from wiping and dismissed it. We stopped dropping our daughter off for about a month partially because life got really busy and partially because I felt uncomfortable. Eventually we started dropping her off again because maybe she did just say that from wiping, and I was starting to feel more confident that nothing happened. Shortly after starting to drop her off again she told my husband and I (after spending the day at grandmas) “grandma touched my bum and my vulva. I show you”. Then she pulled her pants down and pointed to her bum and spread her vulva open. I’ve never seen her do that, I’ve seen her explore her privates after potty training but this was different. My husband said “while wiping right?” And she repeated “like this I show you”. And pulled her pants down again and spread her vulva open. I asked her “when grandma touches your vulva does she use her hands or toilet paper?” And she responded “fingers” (I never said fingers as an option), then I said “can you show me how grandma touches your vulva?” And she sat down and said “daddy come sit” and patted the floor beside her, but he stayed standing. Then she spread open her vulva again with her fingers and started pinching and touching her clitoris. I felt so sick, and felt like my instincts were right, this was as clear as it gets, I felt angry and sad and sick. I think had my husband sat next to her when she asked him to she would have used his hand, but idk. My husband still thought it was related to wiping. I called a crisis line a few days later, I needed to hear if this was normal or not. They reported to social services, who told us we shouldn’t leave our daughter alone with grandma anymore. Lots has happened since then as this was 4 months ago. My husband thinks there’s no possible way this happened, and I understand that feeling because it’s his mom. There were other little things that made my alarm bells go off, but these were the big things. His whole family hates me now and his mom is blaming me. She told my husband I want him all to myself and have always tried to drive a wedge between him and his family, and I’m going to take our daughter and run away and abandon him. She also says I’m paranoid because of my family’s history with sexual abuse, and that I have trust issues. I feel like distance is growing between my husband and I because we both believe different things, and I’m afraid we’ll end up breaking up over this in the future. He wants to be able to drop our daughter off with grandma again, and I’m firmly saying no, not while she’s this young and vulnerable. I just need to know I’m not being paranoid and stubborn, and that I’m doing what’s right for my daughter. I need to know that I’m doing the right thing, because protecting my daughter is worth risking my marriage. + +TL;DR: My daughter told my husband and I that grandma touched her vulva and his family now hates me because I won’t let grandma be alone with her anymore. Am I overreacting? + +Edit: After the last time she told us about grandma touching her she also completely regressed with potty training, started just standing in place and peeing her pants and peeing the bed 2-3 times a night. Before this, she was amazing at using the potty and would only pee the bed 3-4 times a month.",0 +5723,"My Father-in-law is being weird with my 2-month old daughter.. My boyfriend's dad came over to visit. I should point out that I really don't like this guy at all. He is just such a raging narcissist. It's a terrible custody battle with his ex wife (my boyfriend's mother) that includes physically and verbally abusive behavior on his end. He really doesn't like me and tells my BF that I remind him of his ex wife. What I'm trying to say is that I am biased. + +Anyways, he came over a couple of days ago to visit with his grand daughter and son. He's a somewhat awkward guy but it caught me really off guard when he started taking pictures of her. She was on her tummy time mat on her back on the floor. My boyfriend was beside her laying on the ground. His dad decided to lay on the ground and immediately started taking pictures of her. That's whatever I guess. But what my BF couldn't see was that he also started taking a video. He kept zooming in on her lips and kind of idk shoving her own hand into her mouth to suck on while videoing it?? Isn't that weird or am I overreacting? I don't know if maybe that's something he did with his kids and thinks it's cute??? He knows she uses a binky too so I thought it was super odd. My BF is offended because I said it was creepy but he also didn't see what I saw. He thinks I'm exaggerating a little. What's your take on this???",0 +5724,"Please help me figure out a present to gift my younger sister for when I pass away.. Hello. I’m a fourteen-year-old girl that has been living with acute lymphoblastic leukemia for a very, very long time. Recently, my family was made aware that my time is narrowing, and that I only have a little more time before I pass away. Between sobs and hugs from my parents, I have been thinking about my little sister, Rosa, who is seven years old.  + +I love her more than I could have ever possibly known, though I understand that she has lived a difficult life that has been shadowed by my leukemia—especially because she was born five years after I was first diagnosed. And—now that I’m nearing my end—I want to give her a present and a letter. + +I already wrote the letter, which detailed how much I love her and such. I have already found a place to put it for safety until she can find it, though now I’m wondering about the present. I want to leave it for her whenever she’s ready for it—which I’m assuming will have already been after my passing—though I’m wondering what the gift shall be. While I’m sure she would love something as simple as a ‘Rainbow Loom’ kit, I’m hoping to give her something more sentimental; something she will truly cherish. + +Something to establish how much I love her. + +Though I’m at a sudden loss. I can’t think of anything she would want. Because, you see, I wish to give her my old teddy bear, though I’m hoping to give her that sooner, so she will have it for as long as possible. But, for this particular present, I’m hoping she will open it when she feels she’s ready for such. + +Thank you dearly, and I am very grateful for any suggestions you may have! + +TL;DR—I’m hoping for sentimental gift-ideas for my seven-year-old sister for when I (inevitably) pass away.",0 +5725,"Am I crazy for thinking my parents might of adopted me just to care for my disabled sister? And how do I tell them I'm mad they decided for me that she'll be my responsibility?. I (16f) was adopted at birth. My parents already had a bio daughter with down syndrome. My sister (22f) needs a lot of care and will never be independent. I've been helping care for her for most of my life. I love my sister but I've started to get angry about how I have to miss out on stuff to care for her and it seems like my whole life revolves around her. We used to get a carer in twice a week so I started playing soccer but then her disability payments changed so we couldn't afford it any more and I had to quit, and I'm still mad about it. + +I've always known that when my parents can't care for her anymore she will be my responsibility. I just accepted it when I was younger but now I hate that it was just decided for me that when I'm older I'll have to center my life around caring for her. I know she's better off with family than in some crappy state facility and I'm the only person who can take her in when my parents are too old, and honestly I know I will do it, but I hate that I never got a choice. + +I read about savior babies recently, when people give birth to a baby to use as a donor for their sick kid, and I'm starting to wonder if my parents adopted me just to have someone to care for my sister when they're too old. This is especially because it's pretty much all my parents ever say about me, like every time they talk about me to their friends they talk about how proud they are of how much I help out with my sister. They never talk about how I'm good at art or soccer or anything. + +I asked my nan about it and she said I sound insane and ungrateful and I should never say anything like that to my parents because it would upset them, but I can't let it go. Do I sound crazy? Is it nuts to think maybe the only reason they adopted me is they knew they wouldn't be able to care for her forever and we don't have much family so they needed someone else to take over for them? Should I talk to my parents about it or at least tell them how I feel about them not giving me any choice in being her carer? + +Tldr: my sister is disabled and can't care for herself so my parents always got me to help care for her. Now I'm starting to think they adopted me just to have someone to care for her when they get too old. I don't know how or even if to bring it up to them.",0 +5726,"I think my father’s a p*rvert and idk what to do.. So basically, I live in a very conservative country. We are a family of three (mom, dad, and daughter[me]), and none of our relatives are near us. We live decently and I have not observed any indecent acts from him until just a few days ago. We have this family room with youtube on TV. The account used for it is guest, so it doesn’t really allow history to be viewed. But still, search history is an exemption. Being the only man in the family, I respected him, not until I saw the search history. My mom barely use youtube and going into that room, and I was very sure it was him since i know I didn’t do that either and that he was the only one there the night before i saw it. At first, I cleared the search history, afraid that my mom would see it and blame it to me. The searches were terms like “braless videos” “breast enlargement masaages”, “no bra” and other things related to breasts. I WAS TERRIFIED OF COURSE. I started thinking what went on his mind, if he had another family, or just any malice towards me. I couldn’t avoid this thought. It feels disgusting that I witnessed such thing from a person that I looked up as a father, and i think, it was better that I had not known it since it was our family device. I know this may not be that big of a problem for others, but for me it is. I’m afraid that if i tell my mom, our family bond would break. And for a context, I’m an 18f and my father is 58m. Please tell me your opinions. Would it be better if i ignored it?",0 +5727,"Just had a run in with my 5yo as both of us were headed to the toilet at 1:30AM.. The little shit had the audacity to challenge me to a game of Rock Paper Scissors for who got to use the toilet first in which he then one after two null hand throws of paper-paper and rock-rock, he then threw an unexpected rock as I threw a scissors and walked away without even acknowledging his win. + +This is why children are great no matter the issues the cause in every other walk of life these random unexpected interactions really show what being a parent truly is.",0 +5728,"How do I tell my parents I’m pregnant?. Hi so not sure where to start. I am 17f and just found out I’m pregnant via five tests taken today over at a friends house. Baby’s dad isn’t in the picture as he and his family moved out of state and he’s since ghosted me. + +My parents are very strict and still think I’m innocent. So how do I tell them? Any advice please? + +Edit to add an update + +Thank you everyone who helped with approaching my parents about this. I did sit down with them, told them, and it went a lot better than expected. They are disappointed and tears were shed along with some yelling. In the end both mom and dad support whatever choice I end up making. Not saying we won’t be discussing it in the future and that things aren’t tense but I feel like I did the right thing in coming to them now rather than waiting. + +I will not be responding to this thread from here on out. Again thank you to those who helped me figure out the best way to tell them.",0 +5729,"My Islamic father (56) messaged me (22) “Remember that Muslim women cannot marry outside of Islam”. For some background, I was born Muslim in the Middle East. My parents divorced when I was 2, I was raised by both and when I stayed with my father I practiced the religion. When I was 11 years old, my mom got my fathers consent for my mom, brother and I to move to the US. He stayed behind. As you can imagine, I’ve been here for a decade now and I’m not the Muslim child that follows her fathers requests anymore. I haven’t seen him since then and I talk to him every once in a while. The past 6 months I’ve messaged him 5 times, none of which he responded to but seen (Facebook messenger) out of no where he sends me a bunch of messages about how God is close to me if I am close to him. That God gives me a lot of gifts. That I cannot marry outside Islam. And not to worry because I am on the “right side.” Then ends it on “this is the truth.” + +I don’t believe in religion, but I believe in a higher power. I have never had a calling, and I haven’t followed a religion in 5 years. I have tattoos, I have an American boyfriend, I believe in the modern age spirituality and do my “prayers” everyday as words of affirmation where I sit in silence and think about all the things I’m grateful for. He doesn’t know any of this about me. + +I need to respond to him, tell him who I choose to marry is not his choice. That Islam is not my religion. That I am an adult who makes her own decisions. That as much as he may want me to, I will not abide. But I need to say all of this in a respectful way, I want to consider his feelings, his perspective, his way of living. I want to respond empathetically, he’ll still be upset and probably message my mom and brother asking what happened to me but I can’t live in hiding anymore. I love him and I want him to be included and accepting of my life.",0 +5730,"I think my son is embarrassed that I am a garbage man. Advice?. I went to my son's school yesterday for parent career day and I was the last parent to explain my profession. I told the kids that I was a garbage man and I pick up their trash everyday. I noticed that when I was talking, my son was looking down and looked embarrassed. Maybe it's because a lot of the other kids parents were lawyers, bankers, scientists and doctors. We don't have much money, but I work very hard to provide for my son and it just hurt me a little bit that he put his head down and looked embarrassed while I was explaining my profession. When I pick him up from school, he was very quiet and didn't say much at all which is unusual because he's very talkative. Is he embarrassed and ashamed of what I do? He is 10 years old.",0 +5731,"My 4 year old daughter peed on her bed (awake) because she was too lazy to go the toilet. What would you do to her if you were in my shoes?. My daughter has been behaving like a teen lately - resisting and challenging everything. I suspect it has to do with the fact that she has a new sister. Anyway, am really lost on how exactly to parent / reprimand her. I am struggling to manage her irrationality. If you’ve been there, pls guide me. Thank you.",0 +5732,"My brother moved to college, and I miss him a lot. I still look for him in his room, and sometimes I even cry a little bit. What can I do? I am a 12-year-old boy.. My brother move to Vermont in the US, but we are from Spain, the time zone is a 6 hours difference, it’s hard to talk with him at real time, I just can talk with him at real time once since he move, and our family isn’t rich to visit him every time we want. He moved on August, 2021. + +He asked me if I want him to stay with me he will stay here, and I told him to move, I told him to move out and now I regret it, I miss him so much, I want to be with him again. ;(",0 +5733,"AITA for making my FIL cry?. FIL asked me when I was 6 months pregnant if he could be in the delivery room. My husband explained that we just want it to be us in the delivery room but that he can obviously come to the hospital after he was born. + +I was in labor for over 26 hours and the epidural wore off by the time of the delivery because I felt EVERYTHING! While I was in labor we told my FIL that we would call him when he was born so he could drive to us. That way would give us 4 hours to bond/breastfeed. He was upset by this and insisted on being at the hospital when he was born. We explained that he would have to wait hours after he was born because that bonding time was important and he would have to wait in the lobby until we were ready. + +So as I’m in the delivery room trying to breastfeed I see my FIL at the door. He tries to come in but the nurse stopped him and asked if we were expecting anyone. We were not ready for visitors so she told him to go back to the lobby. In this time he heard the baby crying and texted my BILs and told them the baby was born. My husband was upset when he found out because this could be our only chance at having a child and he took that moment from him. My husband went to the lobby and told him it wasn’t okay that he did that. My BIL called and yelled at FIL. + +I had no idea any of this was happening. About 3 hours later they moved us back to our room and FIL came to see us. He’s barely saying anything to me. He’s mumbling under his breath but I didn’t think much of it. I thought he was trying to speak softly because of the baby. I was having trouble getting the baby to latch in the delivery room so the lactation consultant came to see us maybe 10 minutes after he got there. She asked me to do skin-to-skin so I go to take my gown off (but I had a bra on) my FIL abruptly said bye. Again, I didn’t know there was an issue so I said bye and focused on the lactation consultant/my baby. + +As my husband walked my FIL out my FIL said he didn’t appreciate the way I said bye to him. My husband said she’s trying to make sure our baby is being fed properly. They go back and forth then my husband says he’s not dealing with him right now and walks away. + +Now there’s a rift in the family about this. FIL says he did nothing wrong and will not apologize. He is expecting an apology from me (not my husband or BIL. Just me). He says I made him feel unwelcomed and he drove home crying about it. So, were we being unreasonable? Should I apologize so we can just move on?",0 +5734,"Husband threw son out. I live with my husband and his son 12. My 23 year old was living with us because I choose to have him here, he works a full time job but doesn't make enough to live on his own.We bought a home during the pandemic my son bought things for the house helped with bills and gave us money each week for board. DH had a meltdown one day saying he hated having to cook meals and feed my son and that my son was useless because all he did on his days of was play video games. He basically stayed out of DH way to avoid confrontation. After DH meltdown my son moved in with his uncle because DH contstanly threatened to beat him up.I'm not happy that DH acted this way especially since his son is here and basically does the same thing, constantly playing video games only he is failing school doesn't help with the household chores at all. In my family we don't make someone leave once they reach a certain age. I feel like it was very one sided and am feeling very resentful towards DH.",0 +5735,"My mother knows everything about me.. without me knowing. My brother has just admitted to me, that for the past 3 - 4 months, my mother has had access to one of my old mobile phones, that is synced up to my current Apple Account, and she has on a daily basis, been reading all of my messages, looking at all of my photos, search history, emails etc. + +All because “She doesn’t trust the guy I’m with”. I’m hurt, angry, frustrated and feeling absolutely betrayed. I feel like I can’t keep any secrets to myself. I’ve basically been monitored every single day, without my knowledge what so ever, for the past 4 months. + +I’m a 24 year old woman. I’m creeped out. I seriously believe my mother has mental problems, and is an absolute control freak.",0 +5736,"Let those little boys play with kitchen set and dolls. The other day I found myself scrolling down my Facebook news feed with the same question over and over being asked.. Should little boys have kitchen sets? Without hesitation I say why not? Why don't we let little boys have dolls and kitchen sets? When they grown up should they not learn to cook? Do they not become dad's? Aren't most of the most successful chefs in the world men? Why are kitchen sets and dolls perceived as feminine. A girl's toy! Then my brain dug a little deeper.. as society we don't teach boys how to be dad's the same as we teach girls to be moms. Shouldn't little boys know how to change a diaper, feed a baby and change their clothes. Why is it that when men become fathers they are looked down as not knowing how to be one when we never took the time to teach them. It's our fault! Men have the ability to be just as good as moms sometimes even better. It's our job to do better as parents. It's our job to teach those little boys to be great dads not just how to be action hero and play with their work benches.",0 +5737,"Step-dad who's younger than me??. My mother (50) F, has married a man (23) M, and I don't know how to feel about it. I am happy that she's moved on from the divorce (with my dad) they had a very toxic relationship. I don't know how to feel about her bringing her new husband into our home. We've been working hard all our lives and we're forced to grow up, pay the rent, and contribute financially. At this very moment, my elder sibling (27) F and I (24) F have been running the business while our parents have been away. +We've been left to raise our younger sister and pay all the bills including personal debts of our parents. My mother now wants to bring her new husband into our lives. To live in our home, the home we (sibling) and I struggling to pay for. Feels like a slap in the face, since this new husband doesn't even have a job. We will essentially be looking after him. I'm trying to be supportive and happy for her but I don't know how much more I can take. Am I being unreasonable?",0 +5738,"My step father told me he liked me more than the normal parameters. When my mom was gone, he talked to me about it and said he was ashamed of his feelings towards me. I couldn’t stop thinking about my mom. She got divorced and married my step father and she is very very happy with him. As much as I want to tell her, she deserves to be happy. I told him that I would stay away and never tell my mom because it would break her heart. I told him He needs to keep loving her (he says he still does anyway). + +My stepfather raised me since I was 10, he taught me math in school and I used to hug him a lot because my relationship with my biological father is not the best. My biological father has another family and staying with him is not an option. My stepfather really had my trust but now I’m rethinking every moment we spend together. + +Since this secret is a time bomb, I can’t tell anyone but I don’t feel comfortable in my own home now. I’m trying to stay out as much as I can. +I’m really clueless about what to do. + +I’m nearly 17 by the way",0 +5739,"Mother passed away, found some notes that bother me.. I need some advice. + +​ + +My Mother suddenly passed recently. + +​ + +Her and I were very close. So close that it at time caused friction within our family. + +I boil it down to envy, because my dad and I were never close. + +My dad was a terrible communicator and didn’t know how to vent anything. + +So he would say and do some mean things, nothing ever violent, just comments and name calling. + +He would make excuses about his parenting skills “I dont’ know how to be a father because I never had one”. + +He is not a bad person. Just flawed like the rest of us. + +​ + +In recent years mum and I would talk on the phone and she would tell me how my sister Kelly was so demanding of her. + +She has 2 girls under 5 and lives 40 minute drive away, and expects my mum to drive up there 3 - 4 times a week and she would call her 4 times a day. My mum is 69 years old, retired and its alot for her, earlier this year she fell asleep at the wheel with the 2 girls in the car and luckily those road bumps on woke her up. This didn’t at all worry my sister and carried on with her demands. She would yell on the phone and hang up on her if she didn’t get the response she wanted. + +She was always like this as a child so im not surprised, but it’s sad to see it continue as a 42 year old woman. + +​ + +Mum trusted me, no question. I had access to her phones etc. + +I was looking through her phone for numbers of friends to contact and decided to look at her notes app. + +And I found 2 notes, both written the week she passed away. + +One was titled “putdowns” and one was called “Kelly”. + +All the other notes were passwords etc. + +So I had a look at them, curiosity got the better of me. + +""Putdowns"", was a note with a list on names my dad had called her and underneath how it made her feel. + +Horrible shit!!! Absolute mean hurtful things. Also how my sister would yell at her and my dad would never defend her. + +​ + +""Kelly"" is my sisters name and it’s the same thing, not a list of putdowns but how she would make her feel. + +Never appreciating her, rejecting things she would do for her grandkids. + +It’s heartbreaking stuff. + +​ + +I'm aware of these types of things because mum would tell me, but to see these notes just makes it more real. + +One of them was written 3 days before she passed. + +​ + +I feel I should just delete them, to prevent them from seeing them, it could really hurt them. + +But on the other had I feel maybe at some point maybe they need to? + +​ + +​ + +​ + +Here I am supporting them, organising everything and knowing that they were like this. + +It’s hard. + +​ + +Im not great at writing , but if anyone could give me their thoughts on what to do, I’d welcome any and all feedback. + +​ + +Thanks.",0 +5740,"My family cropped me out of my sisters wedding photos. I came out of the closet a while ago to a very unsupportive family. Im transgender mtf. They threatened me into wearing a suit for the wedding. Then, they forcibly tied my hair back into a man bun. A part of me figured that after putting up with that, they would see me as a part of the family. But they’ve admitted that having a trans kid is bad for the family image. I’m hardly even surprised at this point. I guess that I needed to vent. I kind of thought that things would start changing but stuff like this has been going on for years.",0 +5741,"my mom said something that hurt my feelings while angry and even though it's been months it still bothers me. (BTW: i'm only 16 years old) + +this happend a few months ago (october to be presice) i accidently broke one of my mom's super expensive designer plate while playing with my younger brother and as anyone would be my mom got angry and started scolding me until she started saying some things that were not about me being irresponsible about my actions they were about my grades(i never got good grades only b's and c's) and started comparing me to my sister who gets really good grades and that was tolerable too until she started saying this.. + +""i can't wait till the day you die"" + + ""maybe i'll have some peace without having a worthless incapable human like you in the house"" + +""i should've given you up for adoption when i had the chance... but even if i did nobody would want a good-for-nothing child"" + +she sounded like she was getting things off her chest they sounded so real after i heard these words come out of my own mom my eyes automatically filled up and i couldn't even control it i ran back in my room and ended up crying for an hour after that she called all of to dinner she was strangely calm like nothing ever happened and after that i layed on my bed and started remembering other things she said that were similar to this when i was younger like + +one day when i was 13 i asked for a video game for my birthday and she said + + ""you don't even get good grades why do you think you should have that video game"" and honestly it felt like she only loves me if i get good grades + +in the same year (i think so) we were at a bakery and we were getting some deserts my older sister and younger brother got their deserts but when i asked for it she said"" if you loose some weight you can eat as many as you want"" + +even though she sounds like a horrible person she has always protected me and loved me or maybe it's just me who thinks that way + +these days whenever i see her i feel like i should hide from her because i feel like a dissapointment and that she would be so much better if she didn't know i exist + +what do i do now? should i speak up to her? but if i do so i think she'll hate me more",0 +5742,"Is it normal for a toddler to watch the same movie over and over again?. My toddler (3 years old) is obsessed with Paw Patrol and literally watched the Paw Patrol movie 5 times today. Once it was over, he wanted to watch it again and again. He basically watched it all day long today. Is this normal?",0 +5743,"I am unable to disclose grandmother's death to my 8 months pregnant wife.. heyy, so situation is like this.. My wife is really close to her mother's family as she was spent most of her life with them and they also love her like their own daughter, especially the maternal grandmother. + +Major fact here: My wife is 8 months pregnant and the pregnancy has not been easy as my wife has been facing blood pressure issues and back and legs pain. + +Yesterday, I received a call from her uncle that her grandmother has passed due to a sudden heart attack but he made me promise him to not tell my wife as she can't handle the news without getting sick and that my wife spend 9-10 days with her just last month. + +I wanted to tell my wife about this because I know how much she has for her grandmother and how beautiful their relationship has been. But her family told me that when her grandfather passed several years ago, my wife fainted everyday for atleast a week and her legs would swell so much that she was unable to walk. + +My brother in law, my mother in law and all her relatives are reaching out to me and telling me things from her past looses and how she just shut herself until she herself decides to come out that grief which usually takes weeks. + +Now, with pregnancy and her health and all these things, I am also thinking it's better to not let her know untill our baby is born. But what's killing me here is that my wife is unaware of any of this and she constantly talks about her grandmother and shows me pics and how she will call her first when the baby is here and I know that's not possible now. She has seen me crying 2-3 times now but I make up an excuse and she doesn't think much of it. + +I had a conversation with her gynaecologist and she told me that she wouldn't recommend telling her now but it's my decision at the end. + +Now, I am torn and feel really guilty when I see my wife even smile and have no idea where to go from here and how to handle things. + +Please help me.",0 +5744,"We had a secret bathroom for 13 years and the kids never knew it. So I grew up in Astoria NY. We are a very quick subway ride into the heart of NYC. + +I was raised in a two family house for over a decade. My family consisting of 5 children, 2 parents and a grandparent shared a 4 bedroom 1 bathroom apartment. We lived on the top floor. On the 1st floor was our neighbors and then in the basement was where the washer/dryer, garage and bike racks were located. + +As you can imagine it was very hard to share a bathroom with 8 people in the apartment. My mom had an egg timer and each morning every person (except grandma) was allowed 8 minutes to get whatever they needed done. It was insane. Often I would just bring my toothbrush and stuff to school and would get ready in the bathroom. When I was in my teens we moved to Long Island where we found a house with a full bath and one half bath (still same number of bedrooms, sigh). + +Anyway fast forward a couple of decades and I saw my old apartment was for rent and decided it would be fun to revisit it. It brought back some amazing memories. + +But then when we went to the basement I noticed a room I had never seen before. A fully furnished bathroom. I asked the owner who was there if it had always been there. He said yes. When I laughed I explained why. He shook his head and said that my parents knew the bathroom was there. It was in horrible condition and needed a lot of work which the owner was not willing to do. So he put some Sheetrock against the door and left it alone. + +I asked my Dad if he knew about this and he nodded. I asked why he never fixed it up to allow us another place to use. He was in construction and had done so many little and large things around the apartment. The bathroom had been serviceable. It just needed a new light fixture, new toilet and some deep cleaning. His answer was that he never found the ""time"". + +I just had to laugh. Sure having 5 kids, a demanding wife and a full time job was a lot for a guy to tackle, but I cannot even begin to imagine how amazing it would have been to have some additional time to get ready in the morning. Or as a teenager who shared his bedroom with 2 very young brothers, how amazing it would have been to have some privacy for more than 8 minutes. + +Anyway, just a funny story I had to get off my chest. My husband and I now live in a large house and while it is only the two of us, we have our own bathrooms.",0 +5745,"My mother passed away.. My (31 f) mom (69f) passed away Monday. It was unexpected. And I am devastated. I live over 1k miles away from her and the last time I saw her was Thanksgiving. I usually call her daily at this time and idk what to do. + +Idk why I am posting this on Reddit, maybe away to get some of this aired out and get my feeling opened up for myself. We're not doing a funeral per her wishes. + +I wanna tell yall about my mom. + +She was the embodiment of sunshine dipped in sass. She was my rock that kept me footed. When I was little she was always there for me, but never fussed over me. She truely wanted me to be an independant woman. She saw me at my ugliest (and i dont mean in looks) and still loved me. She accepted me and my decision to go through a teen pregnancy and supported me and my son without faulter. She loved my husband as her own. Some say she was reclusive in her retirement, but she wasnt. After a long career in customer service she was just done with bull shit. She was an avid reader, and i will be reading her favorite books to see where she would escape to. She was a die hard cowboys fan and the strongest woman i know. + +I didnt get her for a long time and i feel emense guilt for not calling her on sunday like i usually do. I wish she was here with me. + +Thanks for letting me get this out.",0 +5746,"Putting my father behind bars for child molestation. Sorry this is so long! Names are fake for obvious reasons. + +In 2019 I Confronted my father about his lifelong physical, mental, and when I was 14, his repeated sexual abuse of me. It was done so with my mother present, and my husband. Since my mom and dad have another daughter who was on the cusp of 12 at the time, my mom decided it was a good time to serve him divorce papers and request full custody of her and supervised visitation for him. They had been separated for 5 years by this point and my sister, Emma had been going to our dads every other weekend. It should be noted that my dad had repeatedly refused to share his address with my mom despite this. She did not know about the sexual abuse until days before the meeting happened. + +When Emma had a severe panic attack at a competitive sports event that my dad had forced her to participate in despite the fact that my sister is not competitive at all, she was puking in the trash can at the event, so my mom picked her up. She noticed that Emma's eyelashes and eyebrows had been obviously plucked out to the point where her eyelids and brows were very thin and patchy. Unable to fathom why she did this, my mom asked her why out of concern and was finally able to get out of her that she had done this because she liked the way the pain felt. Since I had a time in high school where I was self harming, then attempted to commit suicide, my mom was worried and turned to me for advice. + +That's when I told her the depth of the damage my father had done to me and why. She was shocked and hurt and angry and we cried about it together. It turns out, my dad has a track record of this as he had done similar things to my mom's sisters when they were young teens and I was just a baby, but he lied to her about what happened and she believed him. They are 5 years apart and she was a young mother of two, she came from severe abuse, and had been fooled by him their whole life together (almost 24 years and married for over 10 before they separated). Obviously she was righteously angry and we decided to plan the meeting I mentioned before. It was surprisingly civil and calm which is so much more than he deserved. He apologized to us and to me and tried to poorly excuse and explain away his actions and it was clear that he didn't expect any real consequences for his actions. He did not agree with the terms of the custody arrangements, but was told until an agreement could be made, Emma would no longer be going with him for overnights. + +A few days later, he showed up at Emma's school with his sister and tried to pick her up despite what he was told. He was insistent that him agreeing to go to therapy a certain amount of times was sufficient enough to be able to resume the previous verbal custody arrangement they had been doing before. My mom got to her first but she was shaken and freaking out about the situation. She was seriously worried he would try to abduct my sister and cut off all financial support for my mom. So I made the decision to go to the police and file a report of what he did to me because I was worried about my sister. I will also mention that this man has worked with kids literally his entire life. He had built his career as an educator, and eventually became an administrator, so I went ahead and filed a complaint with the school district he worked in sincei felt he couldn't be trusted working with kids. + +Long story short, after investigating my report, he was charged on three counts of felony sexual assault on a minor. So he was arrested in 2020 and had to bail out of jail after it was lowered for low flight risk and I got granted a restraining order against him. His defense of course is claiming that I am just an unstable person who is confusing the times that he molested me with another time I was sexually assaulted by someone else, and my mom is just mad at him for cheating on him and walking out on their marriage. It's alright though, we can prove he said the things he said. So after two years of Covid keeping the courts shut down, I am hopeful that it will finally be over this year. + +This has been incredibly hard for me. On top of telling my mom about it and officially breaking the family apart for good, I have had to open up about this very traumatic thing to law enforcement as well as the other tine I had gotten sexually assaulted, I have lost family members including my aunt on my dad's side, my half brother, and all my cousins, family friends who have watched me grow up, all believing in his lies and manipulation while I struggle with the physical memory of his hands on me and how messed up it made me because of it. I am going to have to testify about what he did to me, all while being a sahm to two young daughters. I know it will be worth it in the end, after all, he has pretty much nothing now, he lost his job, this whole situation is draining his money, he hasn't seen Emma in person in almost the two years since lockdown started (they have supervised video visits twice a week) and he will never have control over me or my family ever again, and will likely have to serve jail time and register as a sex offender. And it's all because I am the one who dared to put an end to it. + +I feel like I can't say much more since there is still an ongoing case about it, but if anyone cares, I'll update when things get back on track with the courts being open again. Thanks for reading, I know it was long but it feels good to get this out there for anyone who might have been intrigued by my vague title. I hope it was at least somewhat coherent. + +TL;DR Father molested me as a teen and has molested two other teens around the same age before that, and I'm going to put him in jail for it if at all possible to protect my sister who is now around the same age.",0 +5747,"am I wrong for hating my mom for my dads death?. I'm 22 my parents have been divorced since I was 3 and I've always been much closer to my dad. My mom had a boyfriend that she had been dating for a few years I had been begging her to leave him because he is crazy and kept threatening to kill me and my family. He told my mom he wanted to kill someone when he got off parole and that if he ever saw my dad he would kill him. My dad came to town to visit and him, my aunt, my sister and my mom went out to the bar together my aunt then realized she forgot something at my moms house. My mom had invited my dad to meet her new boyfriend earlier that day so my dad went inside the house and decided he wanted to talk to him about the fact that he had been threatening to kill his daughters. They supposedly got in a fight but according to my mom it wasnt that serious. As my dad was going to his car my moms boyfriend ran out and beat my dad to death in front of my aunt and sister. I'm angry at my mom because this would not have happened if she would have left that guy and it wouldn't of happened if she didnt go out to the bar with my dad and invite him to meet her boyfriend. I'm also angry because her story of what happened has changed so much that its really complicating the murder investigation its seems like shes covering for him. Some People have told me I shouldn't be so angry at her because she wasnt the one who killed him and that she was probably scared to leave him but I cant help but hate her. Am I wrong for feeling this way?",0 +5748,Anyone else think Starbucks is overrated and over priced?. All the hype about Starbucks when they absolutely Suck. They are overpriced even though their drinks aren’t even worth the price. Every drink I ever had sucked. Anyone else think this?,0 +5749,"PARENTS: do you think a parent's dedication to their child ends when they turn 18?. Not sure if dedication is the right word, but my Dad thinks that once we turned 18, his role as a Dad ended. Curious to hear other parent's views. + +EDIT: thank you to everyone for your considerate and well thought-out replies. You sound like great parents. My Dad just called me to apologise and said that we should make an effort to spend more quality time together. I think a lot of his initial response to the situation was him feeling defensive of me criticising him as a parent. I guess a part of growing older is realising your parents are people that also have triggers and immature responses sometimes. I’m still hurt, but I hope it’s something we can move past.",0 +5750,"Is it weird that my (22 F) dad (57 M) makes comments about me having a nice butt?. My dad made comments about my butt being big (I guess nice part is implied) twice in front of my mom and brother over like 2 weeks lol. First time he said that I’d be good at a dance with my “big ole booty” and second time my brother said I looked Asian and he said I couldn’t be with “an ass like that”. My mom lightly scolded him for that one lol. He replied “What, I can’t state the obvious?”. Is this normal? Do other people’s fathers make comments like this lol? We’re not super close lol, we’re rebuilding a relationship that hasn’t really been strong since I was like 12 or 13. + +(Edit) I guess he never said that it was “nice” exactly, just that it was big lol.",0 +5751,"My son came out to me as gay and I still love him.. My 15 year old came to me tonight and told me he was gay. He said ""I have a friend who is Trans and goes by Jack. Also, I'm gay."" I was speechless for a dew seconds, then said I love you and still do. He was worried to tell me, but I am so glad we have the trust that we do so he felt comfortable telling me. Yes, my idea of what his future would look like has changed, but I still love him. I had friends literally thrown out of thier homes and families when they came out. I refuse to do that to my child. He knows that no matter what, I will love him.",0 +5752,"Nobody here knows me but I am hoping that I can spread my story. My name is Ramon Garcia. My sons name is also Ramon Garcia. This is where my story begins. I have kept this a secret from most but I am not biological father to my son.. I met my sons mother when she was mere weeks pregnant. At the time netiehr of us knew. After our second date she told me she was pregnant. At the time we were in Daytona with her mom touring possible rentals. I was 19 at the time. Living with my cousin. I made the decision at that moment, at a hotel in Daytona Beach, that I would be that kids father. I would support that child no matter what. Through thick and thin. I would be that child's father. + +My dad was never there for me. He left when I was young. He battled drug addiction and mental illness. I forgive him now but can never relive those momennt wishing my father was by my side. + +I vowed that my son would never have to wonder if his dad loved him. If his dad cared for him. + +My son was born at Daytona Memorial hospital and from that day, I would do everything in my power to protect him. To support him. To let him know his dad loves him. I would be his dad no matter what even if DNA said other wise. + +And that is why I am making this post now. Me and my sons mother separated when he was 5. That does not mean I left my sons side. I did everything possible to support my son. When my sons mother pushed me out of our house I visited every day I had off. When she could no longer support herself, at the time I was living with my uncle for the past few months, the power was about to be turned off at the house my son lived, so I moved back in so that I could work and pay all the bills to keep a normal functioning roof over my sons head. + +I never left my sons side. He has always known that his daddy loved him. + +I know that I am not my sons biological father and I knew that was a conversation that we needed to have when my son was old enough to understand. My sons mother took that from me. I wanted to be the one to tell him because it was important to both of us. She told him when he was 7 years old. That is too young to bring on any child. But now he had the knowledge that he has 2 dad's. + +Now I know that I am not my sons biological father but there is no doubt in anyone's heart that I am my sons Dad. My sons mother knew this and has used it as a threat to make me satisfy her needs. I have lived under constant fear that if I do not bend to her whims and go out of my way to help her that she would take son from me, and by law there is nothing I can do to stop her. She has said hurtful things like ""I allow you to PLAY dad"" and ""I let him live with you because he is your emotional support"". These things make me realize that she sees our son as a a thing get her way in life. As a asset. + +My son has always lived in the same house as me minus 9 months when I had moved in with my current fiance. I have had my son living with me primarily for the past 3 years. Up until this summer. + +At the end of summer I sent my son to his mothers so that she could spend time with him. After a week she decided that she didn't want to give him back after we had a disagreement. She said she would not bring him back. And by law since she had possession of my son at the time I could not stop her. + +We live in Florida. She left for Kentucky with plans to buy property out of state with her new husband and with plans to shut me out of our sons life. + +The last time I seen my son was in July. I got a lawyer. + +August 1st was the last day she allowed me to speak to my son. I have called son every night at 9pm since this started. She had my son call me Aigust 1st to ask me about the lawyer and why I would do that. My son is 10 years old as of March this year and is behind developmentally because of the trauma and stress of me and my ex's relationship and the constant moving of schools. She had a 10 year old call to ask his father to drop the case because if I didn't I would go to jail. She told a 10 year old that if his dad didn't do what she said he would go to jail. + +That was the last day I heard my sons voice. The last thing he asked to do was to play Cuphead on our Nintendo switch and get caught up so that when the new DLC came out we could play it together when mom let's us hang out again. I told him of course and that I'd call him the next night at 9pm to get tips on how to beat the Bee boss I'm stuck on. + +I never got to get those tips because his mother has blocked me on all fronts. + +I come here to reddit hopping that story can be spread to those that are willing to hear it. + +The story of a father who wants nothing else but to let his son know how hard he will fight for him. To know that his dad loves him more than anything else in the world. I come to tell my story of unconventional fatherhood. + +I have paraphrased some aspects but I promise I am hiding nothing. Any parts that need to be cleared up I will answer. + +I simply want my son to know that his Daddy loves him and will never stop fighting. No matter how bad the odds.",0 +5753,"Am I Too Old To Sleep in the Same Bed With My Dad?. To preface, I want to say that this doesn't happen often. + +I'm an almost 24-year-old woman and I have my own place, but every once in a while when I end up spending the night at my dad's house I end up sleeping in his bed or vice versa (if he spends the night at my place sometimes he'll sleep in my bed). + +For added context, I'm an only child and my mom passed away when I was 2. I slept in the same bed as my dad until I was around 8 (because I used to have really bad night terrors) and would every now and then until I moved out just (because sometimes I just needed that extra comfort). + +My dad and I are super close and I know he would never even think about doing anything inappropriate to me, but me and my friends were all talking about our parents and our relationships with them and the sweet things we have with them, and I mentioned sleeping in the bed with my dad. Most of my friends said it was sweet and one of them even said she still sleeps in the bed with her mother whenever she goes home, but one girl said that she found that strange and weird and that it ""could easily turn sexual"". + +Most of my friends, aside from this girl, have met my father and know him well enough to know that would Never Ever Happen, but her saying that made me feel a bit insecure about it. So here I am asking strangers on the internet for affirmation that there's nothing wrong with being comfortable enough with my own father to sleep in his bed, even as a grown(ish) adult.",0 +5754,"Is providing food for your child the bare minimum or a luxury?. Had an argument with my parents about how they refuse to feed me and when my mom said ""What, you expect me to feed you everyday?"" +I told her ""Isn't that your job?"" + +Am I a spoiled brat or is my mother setting herself up to pathetic standards?",0 +5755,"Are first borns always more special?. I'm second born in my family. 2 months ago my mom, dad and older sister went on a vacation and I wasn't with them because of my work. Their vacation post on Instagram read: ""A flashback to family of three times"" which made me a little sad. For my sister's birthday last year, my mother wrote on her Instagram account: ""My dear daughter, who made me a mother, you'll always protect your special place in my heart."" I finally brought this subject up to my mother and my mother told me: ""We love you both equally, but your sister is our first child and every moment we shared with her was unique. You will understand when your first child is born."" While my sister's memories with my parents were new to them; memories with me were just repeat to them. So there's less special things about me for them than about my sister. Still, I don't think that's enough to justify their stance. What are you thinking? Are first borns always more special?",0 +5756,"My nephews, so proud to be their Aunt. Earlier this year we gained custody of our nephews, 9 and 14. Their Mom was very young when she started having kids, ended up addicted aaaaand here we are. I don't doubt a bit, she loves these boys, she's managed to barely keep them with her all this time. But she never really learned to parent and so they've come to us far behind where they should be socially and academically. + +They have ASTOUNDED us since being here. They are sleeping wonderfully, working hard in school, following rules, doing chores, earning allowance, just typical kid stuff they have NEVER done before. The 9yo has advanced his abilities in school by 2 grade levels in a few months. We had a lot of behavioral issues with him initially, but we're currently wrapping up a full month with no phone calls or referrals coming home. The teenager was VERY shut down with thick walls when he got here, understandably. But he's started talking to us and hanging out more and sharing things he's interested in. They're both making friends - they never could before so only had minimal socializing in school and never attended anything after school activity wise. Now when we go to town events, they're running into buddies and leaving us behind a bit to go hang out with their friends. + +I'm just overwhelmed with pride. And I really think someone should make a movie about them one day - the science behind having simply the bare necessities met for them has changed their lives completely. And they're old enough to recognize that and appreciate which is wonderful to see. + +We are tired and overwhelmed having jumped back in to parenting YEARS after our kid has been a full, independent adult plus doubling our household in a rough economy. But they keep us going and provide inspiration each day. I treasure the relationship we've built in such a short time. + +TL;DR: my nephews never had a typical life and now, less than a year being in our house they are amazing and disturbingly smart. I think they're going to be better than ok. I'm grateful to them for trusting us.",0 +5757,"Getting woken up every day for no reason, even multiple times a day.. I'm 21 years old and currently live my with my grandparents. I've been living with them for almost 2 years and now and there never really have been any big problems. + +A few months ago my grandpa started going into my room while I was sleepiNG almost every single day. Sometimes to look out of the window, ""steal"" (I kinda allowed it) my change money thats laying around (to buy beer...), while looking for something etc. Sometimes he also wakes me up to tell me things like ""Oh I met (person I've never heard of) and he has a new car now."" He knows how much it is annoying me but he just thinks it's funny. + +Then there's my grandma. She gets mad really fast and screams a lot during the day. Sometimes she literally screams at my grandpa because the TV remote is a meter too far away. So if my grandpa doesn't wake me up it's her screaming that wakes me up... + +She likes to scream my name until I wake up just to ask ""are you awake?"" for no reason at all sometimes, like... Why? After screaming my name 6 times it should kinda be obvious that I'm sleeping? When I wake up and answer she just says ""Oh okay"" and that's it... + +I have to get up at 4am to deliver newspapers and letters (I do that besides my other job) and get back into bed around 6:30 am every single day. Today I have a day off from my other job after having a really rough week. +Now after my grandpa woke me up again I just started crying when he left my room. I tried to talk to my grandparents about them waking me up every single day. (didn't tell them that I literally cried) but my grandma just got mad. Basically said something like ""The youth only thinks of sleeping. We weren't that lazy back in our days."" and my grandpa just laughed. + +Why do they do that? How can I talk to them about it in a way that they might understand? + +Thanks to anyone who read that mess. 🖤",0 +5758,"I overheard my mom this morning.. I just wanted to express my love for my mom because this morning I overheard her speaking with my dad. For some context I'm very sick, so even though I'm 21 I still live at home because I help take care of my mom and my vice-versa. So anyway I overheard her say ""You need to start putting your daughter first before other peoples children."" (My dad is ok, but he puts other people before his family usually. I'm indifferent to him tbh.) My mom continues ""She's sick and you need to care for her. My baby will always come first! She knows that I love her and I'm very proud of her."" And she does, she tells me all of the time. Honestly, I wanted to cry because it was SO sweet of her to say all of that.😭😭❣️❣️ Thank you for letting me speak~. Hope everyone is having a good day/night. + +TL;DR: My mom is so sweet and the fact that she always looks out for me is so loving and I love her~.",0 +5759,"My 12 year old boy is romantically interested in an 8 year old girl. What do I do?. For some context, the boy is my kid brother who I co-parent. His interest in this girl (8) is new and appears to be mutual. I really don't know how to go about explaining to him that it is inappropriate due to the significant age gap. I'm concerned about outright forbidding it as this could result in him just doing it behind my back. We currently have a very open relationship and it's important to me to maintain that. I would really appreciate some input and advice.",0 +5760,Aita for telling my sister it’s not safe to have random guy sleeping in the bed w her and kids. My sister and the father of her children are going through a rough patch maybe separating. So my sister likes to have her friends over sometimes when I’m at work(work overnight). So I came home in the morning and see a car in the driveway it’s not her usual girlfriend’s car. I thought little strange but ok. I get in the house I don’t see the kids or her asleep on the couch sometimes the fall asleep there so I check in the room and see some random dude her and the kids asleep in the bed. I rush in grab the kids saying it’s time for school they pop up the guy grabs his shoes and runs out. After he leaves I tell I don’t care about her seeing someone else but that’s not safe having the kids sleep in the bed with guys. Her response “my kids are okay”.,0 +5761,"Is giving a child away possible?. So my (17F) parents (mid 40s) want to give my sister (10F) away. I don't know if that's even possible right now. + +My sister throws tantrums when things don't go her way. For example, when she's given an allocated time to play electronics, she promises to give it back but usually goes overtime and gets mad at my parents for taking it away. The reason why there's an allocated time is because she forgets about everything (eating, homework). It happened again and when my dad tried to ask her why she was angry, she had another massive meltdown and couldn't even talk because she was hyperventilating. My parents are sick of her tantrums happening almost every day and want to give her away. I personally think we should find the underlying problem first but they're not listening. And this time, they're quite serious about it which is worrying. + +TL;DR Parents are adamant about giving sister away because of her tantrums, what can I do to stop them?",0 +5762,"My intellectually disabled brother just knocked up a girl he met 2 months ago. How can I be happy for him?. So my brother had a stroke several years ago and he has been struggling to live with the impairments that it left him with ever since. + +He broke up with his long term partner and has been living with my parents, but it’s been very difficult. + +He drinks a lot of alcohol and then misuses his medications to try to compensate and avoid seizures, which he has an ongoing history of. + +He has been on a tinder binge since the start of the year hooking up with every girl he can find with worse problems than him and he recently met a girl who he has now gotten pregnant. + +This girls has 4 kids already to 2 different fathers and lives in a caravan. + +He always wanted to have kids, but he can’t even cook for himself, he has no concept of money, he can’t stop drinking even to save his own life (literally) and many other issues. + +I can’t muster a shred of happiness for him and don’t know whether I should tell him he’s a drop kick or to go along with it.",0 +5763,"I think I hate my mom and that’s ok. So, to provide some context of the post, I’m a 30yr old black male. I barely speak to my mother and for a very good reason: I hate her. There are things she’s done to me in the past that are unforgivable. Our relationship is cordial at best, but it’s emotionally exhausting being in her presence. When I was 11 or 12, my mom overheard me saying a bad word to my brother. She walks me to the kitchen and pours a cup of bleach and tells me to drink it. I was like “mom, that’s poisonous. It could kill me.” To her response, “drink it or I’ll knock you out and pour it down your throat.” I took my chance at survival and knocked it back like a shot of whiskey and held it there. After however many agonizing seconds, she then tells me to spit it out and not to tell anyone at school about it. For weeks I could barely eat or drink. The constant pain was a reminder of the trauma reliving itself with every sip and swallow. + +That’s when our relationship turned for the worse and that boy never really recovered from that evening. Fast forward to 2021, I confronted her about what happened when I was a child. She tried to deflect taking accountability for abusing me and did not apologize. Instead she says “____, you were always hard to love .”I cried on my way home that night with my son in the car. Not my proudest moment. Out of all of the terrible things she’s done to me, I just wanted to know she was at least sorry for THAT ONE incident. + +Needless to say, I think, no, I know I hate my mom, and that’s ok.",0 +5764,"Help With Son's Sexual Condition. Hey all, single mom of 2 teens here. I have a daughter that's 14 and a son that's 15. I would appreciate if anyone had any advice on how I could deal with this embarrassing situation with my son. I feel like I've done a good job explaining sex to my kids and would consider myself a ""sex positive"" parent. We've discussed various topics in our house for the sake of education. My kids feel comfortable and not embarrassed to express to me anything they need or have questions about. My apolgies for the long-winded post but I wanted to establish as much as I could. + +So recently my son told me that he has a really sore feeling in his testicles and that it has been the case for over a day. Our immediate thought was maybe he injured himself in gym class or sports since he is involved in a few. It was late at night so my instict was to rest up and see how he felt in the morning, if it continued I would take him to a doctor. + +Next morning I asked him how he was feeling and he said he was fine and that it went away. Figured it was just a sports injury and told him to be careful. + +Maybe a week later, he said it was happening again, just as bad as before. He said he's been extra careful and was really sure he didn't hurt himself. I asked him to examine his test and see if he noticed anything unusual, maybe anything abnormal. Nothing other then them just being really tender. I told him same as last time to rest up and see if it helps as it seemed to work last time. Next morning he woke up and still had same issue, so I let him stay home from school and I scheduled a doctors appointment for later in the afternoon. He went back to bed, and maybe an hour later I went to check on him and he was getting changed, I asked how he felt and he said he feels OK now. He slightly embarrassed expressed to me that he had a nocturnal emission while he was having a nap. He also said it happened the last time this happened a week prior. Both times the pain went away. + +So yeah... turns out that pain was a pretty severe case of ""blue balls"" for lack of a better term. I asked if he's felt that pain in the past, and he said he has as of more recently. The two times he told me about were the most intense they've been and he doesn't think it should be happening so much and have that much pain. I understand it's normal for hormones to be raging at that age, but definitely seems not normal for pain and the frequency of it. + +So, I took him to a physician who has worked with my kids since childhood, I figured it would be less awkward. She and I have developed a good relationship. I filled her in and she recommended that he come in for a physical and a semen sample/measurement. + +I had to schedule for like 4 days later. So we go to the doctors, his physical is great. I was in the room with him throughout that. Then came time for the sample. His was given a sort of measuring cup with a lid. He had a private room that he could take care of it in. The doctor left, I stayed in the exam room, and son went into the private room. A little later, he came back with the cup and it was quite filled to say the very least. The doctor eventually returned and she was even surprised about the amount. + +To make a long story short, it turns out that my son has what is called hyperspermia. Basically an excess production of seminal fluid. Essentially there are no health risks associated other than the potential for fertility issues (which is not something that is to be a concern of his any time soon). She said she is not sure if this a simply a phase or something that will be a condition of his long term, but she said she wouldn't be surprised if it was something that lasted just throughout his teens due to raging hormones. When asked about how much volume come out when he releases, he said usually anywhere from 10-15 spurts on average. Apparently he can be reset and release the same amount within half a day. + +I asked what she though the best approach is in this situation and how I should handle with him. She said that she cannot advise how we handle it at home, but it was her recommendation that he releases at least twice a day for the next 2 weeks to see if it helps and to track any changes in how he feels or how much he releases. She also reccomended that I reach out to a sexual health or family specialist to see what their thoughts on the situation are. + +So as awkward of a situation this is, how do I go about handling this? This was yesterday, I talked to my son and said as of now just make sure you are releasing regularly. Do I advise a routine for him? Should I be any more involved/how involved should I be? How do we deal with the hygiene and clean-up? + +Thanks so much, really looking for advice from moms on this but anyone with insight would be great!!",0 +5765,"Happy New Year my mom is gone 😓. I feel a bit ill, I've had 4 cans of beer, my mom passed away this afternoon due to complications from some medicine she was on, she had a stroke and that was that. 😥 + Now they are having fireworks and I'm just trying to take my mind away but all I can think about is my mom 😑",0 +5766,"My parents want to kick my sister (20F) out but I don't want her to live with me (28F). My parents have been having a very rough time with my 20 yr old sister and they're at their last straw with her and want to kick her out. She lives with them but never contributes to anything, doesn't respect them, smokes weed all day, and is basically never home and treats the house like a hotel. + +The last straw is because she has been sleeping over her friend's and bf's house for the last 4 nights and hasn't called my dad who's been very sick to ask about him. My mom broke her ankle 2 months ago and my sister has also not done a single thing for her. I don't live with my parents and I do way more in a day when I visit than she does in months so my parents have had it with her because she's not respecting their house and rules and they just basically don't get along anymore. + +She does have a part-time job and goes to school but she doesn't drive yet so she's still completely dependent on them or me for rides and finances. + +I moved out a few years ago and I live alone in my own house because I couldn't handle being around my family too much since they're super old fashioned and have basically made me responsible for my sister which isn't fair to me. My sister is a mess, she's not responsible, never listens to anyone and is kind of selfish. I've had her stay with me a few times for a night and it just ended up being a huge mess ending in a fight. If my parents kick her out, I've already told them that I'm not letting her live with me. I don't want to be between them because then my mental health will start deteriorating and I moved out in the first place for a reason. If my sister lives with me, she definitely will not respect my boundaries and will rely on me for everything. + +I'm not sure what to do. She doesn't have anywhere else to go and can't afford to pay rent. I know if it comes down to it, I'll be forced to have her live with me but I honestly would rather not. I do love her but we'll both start resenting each other and our parents if it gets to that level. I definitely will be cutting ties with my parents if they do kick her out because they're putting me in an unfair situation because they know I'm her back up option. + +TL; DR My parents want to kick my sister out but I don't want her to live with me. + +​ + +EDIT: my sister is now threatening to cut ties with me. She asked to rent out my basement and I said no. He refuses to speak with me and has sworn at me quite a few times. I don't want to lose her but if she's going to treat me this way while she needs a favor from me then I definitely know how I'll be treated if I let her move in.",0 +5767,"Don’t want unvaccinated family around newborn. Basically what the title says, my husband and I are both vaccinated and boosted. I absolutely do not want my unvaccinated family or his unvaccinated family around our newborn. They are being stubborn and refusing. I told my husband I will barricade myself in the bathroom if they come over. Am I wrong? My husband doesn’t like to make waves but I have strong beliefs and I’m not going to roll over. + +Edit: I appreciate everyone’s thoughts and responses (even if we disagree). I would like to mention, I am aware that even vaccinated people catch Covid - I have an autoimmune disease which I guess just makes me extra cautious and frustrated when people refuse to get vaccinated. I have to wear a mask constantly when I’m out in public. We live on a farm and rarely see people so I do have the luxury of not having to interact with many people.",0 +5768,"Just because someone is “family”, doesn’t mean you have to tolerate lies, drama, chaos, manupulation & disrespect.. .",0 +5769,"Betty White had no family, yet was surrounded by love.. She was an only child, and had no children. Family is important, but those without still are fulfilled.",0 +5770,"In laws won’t call me by chosen name. My name is Sam, never gone by Samantha. They have a brother named Sam. So they started calling me Samantha. I’ve told them a bunch of times to stop, but they just keep doing it. I’ve offered the alternative Sammy but it won’t work. Already feel distant from them, not sure what to do. Husband pretty much takes their side. So idk what to do I’m fuming.",0 +5771,"Adult son broke up with fiancee but we still want to let her know we care about her. My adult son (he's mid-20's) broke things off with his fiancee. They were together for about 5 years or so and had lived together for about 3. I haven't gotten into the details of what happened and don't plan to. I figure that's their business. I also realize it's possible things could go back and forth but they both seem to have an amicable part. + +Anyways, my wife and I liked his fiancee a lot. I am wondering if anyone has advice of an appropriate way to let her know that we care very much about her. It's understandable if she doesn't feel the need to say hi to us down the road all that often but for some reason, I feel I compelled to say something to her and let her know that we care very much about her. She was very kind and considerate towards us and the rest of our family. She went out of her way to make friends with our son's sisters and their children. + +Thanks for reading.",0 +5772,"I had an amazing mother. When I was little my mother noticed that I have a special hobby, not everyone will think of it as a hobby but still it’s something that made me happy, she noticed that I like making gifts, in no specific occasion, when I was six years old there was no one I used to know back then that doesn’t have something from me, that I gave as a gift, and most of those gifts are childish drawings or letters that said thank you or I love you or papers cut with different shapes of flowers an cars…, therefore my mother decided to teach me how to knit ( in order to be able to make useful gifts), it was the most beautiful gift I have ever had, by the age of nine I was good at knitting. +One day my grandmother came to visit, its been a long time, so I decided to knit something for her:let’s make a purse. Well I did, but it looked more like a pencil case, however I was so proud I made my grandmother a little red purse for her pennies. +When she came, I gave it to her, she was surprised, she complemented it and praised me, then she turned it back in my hands and said: it’s nice, but I don’t need it, I think you need this more than I do. +I have never experienced such a moment, for the nine years of my life, no one has ever turn back my gifts. I took it, I smiled in grandma’s face and left, I remember that I was holding tears in my eyes cause I didn’t want to be seen crying. +At dinner, when I was acting like nothing happened, my mother said: I felt jealous today, I always wanted a small purse for my pennies, and the red one that you made, I thought it’s going to be mine, I really envy your grandma. +I remember saying: you liked it!, you can have it, my grandmother already has one. +It have been 17 years since that, and I had to say goodbye to my mother two years ago. +a month ago I opened her closet looking for something when I found the red knitted small purse with some pennies inside it.",0 +5773,"I asked my sister to leave the house I inherited.. A little background info. My mother passed a few years back and my dad was left alone. My other 7 siblings decided it would be a good idea if my sister Mary moved in with all expenses paid plus an income to provide care for my dad. Most of that money coming from me since I’m the one who is most well off. + +I am out of the country and am unable to physically be there since I have a disabled daughter who needs my full care and support. + +As the years went on I realized that she was neglecting my father. She would leave him alone for days and would constantly ignore him. She would also request more and more money each time. + +My father passed away this year with a broken hip and sever anemia. I was so angry because I had expressed my worries with everyone and they just brushed it off. + +They read the will and I was the one who inherited everything. Now everyone is angry and ransacked the house because they disagreed with that idea and the fact that I asked my sister to leave the house. They say it’s unfair to do that to her since she needs a place to stay and that I should be the one who supports her since the house is under my name. Now they insult me and anyone who agrees with me. They excluded us from their family. + +My parents were a priority to me. I’m angry that they are acting like I’m wrong for doing what I did and that my sister isn’t at fault . + +Edit : I wasn’t just a sitting duck. I had a few restrictions. My daughter was getting the best care here. I also am on process to getting my residency. I’ve requested to be allowed to leave but was denied. I’ve also thought of flying my dad out here with me but his visa was denied. I brought up the idea of hiring help a few days a week to cook and clean. My siblings turned down the idea because “who better to take care of him than his daughter”. At the point when he broke his hip and had surgery I was about to drop everything and leave my daughter with my other children but I was too late. It’s also a selfish thing to do. But I was desperate. I do feel guilty for not being there but I felt I was stuck.",0 +5774,"my family doesn't want to attend the baby shower for our first child. We are organizing a baby shower for our first daughter. My immediate family - mom, stepfather, sister, grandmother, aunts and uncles, cousins, live several states away, about 2 hr flight. We have not seen each other in over 2 years and there are some difficult things to resolve there regarding my relationship with my mom. +We have been experiencing difficulties in pregnancies since 2020, so this baby making it to third trimester is truly a miracle in my eyes. We are organizing a baby shower for friends and family (a $3000 event) to celebrate our daughter, but there is the feedback we got from my side of the family. + +- apparently my mom has told the rest of the family that I've been FAKING becoming pregnant an miscarrying ""for pity and attention"". + +- when I told my mom we were 6 weeks along she got angry that I'm lying ""again"". (There is a lot more to this here) + +- when I told my 13 year old sister that we are expecting a baby and we are 12 weeks along at the time, my mom blocked my number so that I wouldn't be able to talk to my sister. She told my grandma and the rest of the family to not speak to me either. + +- my mom has NOT ACKNOWLEDGED MY PREGNANCY AT ALL. Not one mention of the baby or question how I'm doing. NOT ONCE in 6 months. + +- when we announced the pregnancy and the gender of the baby online, my mom got extremely angry that she wasn't told this first, which I tried telling her about the pregnancy and she has had my number and social media blocked at the time we found out the gender. She started reaching out to my aunts to screenshot pictures I posted, even though it was HER who blocked ME and could unblock at any moment. My aunts sent me messages scolding me for that situation. + +- recently I got a chance to speak to my grandma who said that as far as she knows, nobody is coming to the baby shower. I have not heard anything from anyone since we sent out invitations in second week of July. Baby shower is by end of August. + +- the reasons for not attending the baby shower are: ""everyone's got their own life"" and ""it's too expensive to go to the other state for it"". I offered to buy plane tickets for my mom and sister (grandma isn't feeling well enough to fly), but still no answer from my mom or anyone else. + +- I believe my mom has made it so that none of the family members want to participate because of the drama caused. This also goes for my stepfather's sisters and family here in the state we live in, as I haven't heard from any of them either. + +- I was clear telling my grandma that following the baby shower in August, the next time we will be accepting guests will be for baby's Christening in February 2023. We don't want a lot of guests in months immediately after she's a newborn. + +So now we are throwing a big celebration but none of the women from my family will be there. My husband's family has already started questioning why my mom isn't around at all, through the rough 2 years we've had in hospitals, trying to have a living baby, and now that we are finally pregnant. I'm tired of lying on her behalf while she so bluntly hurts me, pushes me out of my own family, and doesn't even acknowledge the existence of my daughter. I'm starting to regret spending so much money on an event I tried making big enough to make it ""worth it"" for my family to come for. + +I want to be angry with them and give them ultimatum that if my mom isn't willing to be a part of the baby's life starting now, I'll take it as a decision to not be a part of her life at all. Meanwhile I am 6 months pregnant and could be over-emotional about this, so I wanted an unbiased opinion. + +There are many more details I can share and answer questions, but don't want to make this post 3 miles long.",0 +5775,"my 9 year old daughter came out to me.. My daughter told me on Friday that she used to be pansexual but now she knows she's a lesbian. She started puberty last year and I think its fair to say she's developing early. + +I let her know that every gender was normal, that gay was normal, straight was normal, lesbian is normal and that I loved her no matter what.",0 +5776,"My brother was struck by a car. Shortly after midnight on Sunday, my (28f) younger brother (26m) called me to give him a ride. He and his friends had been drinking at a local bar and his ride left. When he called me, he already had left the bar and was at Meijer. I told him to stay put and that I would be there soon. We live in a rural area that has no streetlights. It was very foggy on this particular night as well. + +I was almost to Meijer and stopped at a 3-way stop. As I pulled through the intersection, I noticed an SUV pulled off to the side of the road and realized there were people standing around it. They began running towards my vehicle and were waving their arms for me to stop. I realized they were teenagers so I stopped and rolled down my window to see what was wrong. I had noticed something laying in the road further up ahead, but figured it was a deer. The kids were in hysterics and told me they hit a man. It clicked instantly that it was my brother. + +I tuned the kids out and leapt from my car screaming my brother’s name, which in turn made the kids more hysterical. I ran up the road and it was my brother. He was still breathing and the kids had already called 911. I sat next to my brother and called my family until the ambulance arrived. My best friend (28f) who had just had a c-section three weeks ago instantly left her house when she heard and arrived on scene since I could not leave. The police wanted me to stay in the event the investigator needed to speak to me even though I did not witness the accident. I overheard a lot of details when the kids were interviewed. It was even worse to hear the kids were going 50 MPH when they struck him. + +I am not mad with the kids that struck my brother. The speed limit on that road is 50 MPH, there are no streetlights, and it was foggy. While I waited at the scene, I sat with them and held the driver (17m) while we waited for their parents to arrive. I kept thinking of my nieces and nephews who are teenagers, and I kept thinking about how upset I would be if this happened to them. + +It is important to know for this next part that in 1999, my older brother who was 21 at the time died in a car accident. + +While I was still at the scene of the accident, my sister (34f), niece (19f), and mother (63f) all went up to the hospital. My mother did not want to listen to protocol and rules of the hospital. She yelled at a lot of staff and made a scene about not wanting to lose her only living son. It got worse when the doctor informed us that my brother had several broken bones, a collapsed lung and bleeding/swelling in his brain. When I finally arrived, my mom was inconsolable. The doctor informed us he was being transferred to ICU and that we would have to come back in the morning. + +Later Sunday morning, we came back and were told the bleeding hadn’t gotten worse, but the swelling had continued to progress and a neurosurgeon was going to consult. They continued to monitor the swelling throughout the day and we will be speaking to the neurosurgeon later this morning. + +It’s been a very long weekend and I cannot close my eyes without seeing my brother laying in that road. Really hoping to hear good news today. I don’t think my family can handle losing another child, sibling, cousin, nephew, etc. + +TLDR; brother struck by a car and I arrived moments after it happened and saw him laying unconscious and non responsive in the road. He’s in critical condition. + + + +UPDATE: + +My brother has a subarachnoid hematoma. The bones he broke are bones in his face and skull, L4 in his back, and his left clavicle. However, the swelling in his brain has started to go down. He was taken off the respirator and can breathe on his own. Once the sedation started to wear off, he began to move around and groan. He kept trying to sit up and pulled out his chest tube for his collapsed lung, so they decided to keep him sedated so he would not hurt himself further and restrained him to his bed. + +I exchanged phone numbers with the 17m driver since the accident to keep him updated on my brother’s condition. He asked to exchange numbers before I left the scene of the accident.. and to be honest, I just really needed to know he is going to be okay. It was just his luck to hit someone walking, but to also have the first passerby be directly related to the man he just hit must have been terrifying for him and his friends because I was in hysterics until the ambulance arrived. He has been having a hard time sleeping but is hanging in there. He keeps apologizing to me and saying i should be upset with him. I have reassured him that I am not upset with him because I am not in the least bit.",0 +5777,"Is being sexually molested as a child a normal thing ?. Is being sexually molested as a child by a close family member something ""normal"" that happens to alot of us ? + +Like do families really do this and just keep it hidden under the rug to avoid having the family separated or whatever...? + +I'm genuinely asking , this happened to me and someone else in the family and when it was brought up to my parents we both were shut down and attacked pretty much questions like ""why are you telling me now why didnt you tell me before "" +""Well then you let it happen"" + +Please answer with sincerity I take what people say too serious sometimes 🤦🏾‍♀️ + +EDIT: 12/13/21 2pm central time- + +1st trauma- 7ish years old (X person about 13ish) +2nd trauma- 10/11ish (X person about 16/17ish) +3rd and last trauma- 13ish (X person about 19/20ish) (about 2-3 years later around 16yrs old I made the decision to leave my parents house because of X person) +I'm sure it happened more but I dont remember and idk if its recommended or not but I dont think i want to know honestly. + + +Also when I posted last night , I really thought that this was something normal , I really did think at a moment that maybe it was my fault that maybe I was being dramatic and i let it happen and everything else that was being said to me. + + +Thanks so much to everyone sharing your stories and your outcomes , reading everything is making me feel less alone and a little more normal. I'm grieving right now the loss of my family and it hurts a lot, this is without a doubt the hardest pain I have ever experienced in my life, it hurts me literally to my heart. + +But I do have my 1st appointment with a therapist next week. And also I have my physiciatrist whom I talk to every month. + +Thank you for all your support I took the time to look into support groups and have found a few around me I will definently do that as well. Idk yall are really making me feel warm inside , thank you !!! I cant say thanks enough!!! Thank you!!",0 +5778,"I'm going to become an orphan again. After living in an orphanage for the first two years of my life, I (22F) was adopted by a kind and loving family who couldn't get children biologically. I was raised an only child and had the best life an orphan could ever imagine. I was given a chance, but it was more like a trade with the devil. Both of my parents got cancer when I was still very young and suffered a long way of chemo therapy. My mom eventually past away when I was only fifteen, and soon my dad will have to follow her. + +I'm so scared for the future. I know I'm not a child anymore and considered a legal adult now (hence not receiving any help anymore) but I still know nothing about life. I need help. I don't want to be alone again. I don't know how to deal with all this. I love my parents. I care for them so much. I have worked so hard to give them everything they wanted, to be perfect for them. I don't think I can continue living without them. I'm constantly reliving the death of my mother all over again. I'm just not ready to let go of my father, but he's too sick and I don't want him to suffer anymore, because of my selfishness. I just need him, but he needs to be relieved from all the pain and suffering. + +And then I'll be alone. I'm still studying at university, hence no work/income. How am I supposed to pay for all the bills, where am I supposed to live, can I still continue to study, will I become homeless, what with all of the sorrow buried in my heart? I don't know how to be an adult. I'm just crying every day because I don't know what to do. I have feared this moment ever since my mom passed away seven years ago, but it's getting too real now. My dad is hospitalised in a special care unit and I only get to see him once a day for a very limited time, but I just wish I could stay with him all day. I'm just alone at home, crying, because of all the things that will be lost. Everyone I love dies. + +EDIT: FAQS + +1. Counseling: I'm already in an intensive counseling traject for almost a year and I was doing great processing my past trauma, but this recent development is tearing me apart. I knew it was going to happen sooner or later and I mentally prepared myself for it, but I never expected it to hit me so hard. +2. Inheritance: I'm the only heir so I will inherit our estate, however I don't know how to deal with the inheritance taxes and the (medical) debts. It's just that I don't know how much it is, whether my dad already took care of it, etc. etc. I can't talk much to him anymore since he's basically on life support. +3. Safety net: All the family on my mom's side have passed/I don't know them. My dad has one sister (who has a husband, children and grandchildren) who used to come over every so often, but in general we didn't receive much support from them. About one month ago they cut us out of their lives because ""taking care"" (running errand 2-3x a month) of my dad was weighing too heavy on them. I do have a boyfriend (21) who supports me a lot and takes care of me - and my dad (making food, running errands, cheering me up, etc.). +4. Severity: The doctors claim he is not yet terminal, but we've hit a wall. He needs to be operated in order to get better, but he's too sick to operate. So we're now waiting for him to get better, but it doesn't seem like that's going to happen since his body is too weak. My dad has requested euthanasia if he needs to be transferred into intensive care unit/palliative care. We're not going to try alternative medicines because we/I don't believe in it. I roughly give him a few weeks.",0 +5779,"My nephew calls me dad.. My sister f30 & my nephews 8,12 & niece 3 moved in with me m24 fleeing an abusive relationship. She has been living with me for 8 months now & things have been amazing. My nephew 8 has called me dad on a few occasions the first being when I was playing games with them on their Nintendo switch. “Choose pikachu dad he’s my favourite” I smiled hearing him say that, my other nephew noticed & reminded him that I am his uncle & not his father. We all laughed together & I said that’s okay my boy. He got a little embarrassed & said “oh yeah uncle”. The second time being this Halloween. my nephews/ niece carved pumpkins & my nephew ran up to my car when I pulled into the driveway after work. “Come see my pumpkin I carved dad” he was so excited to show me the pumpkin that he let the “dad” slip out. I let them know that I was proud of them for being so creative with carving their pumpkins. I see it as being a compliment but on the other hand it makes me sad because I wish the biological father was there for them. I grew up without a father so I try my best to be an involved uncle. My nephews & niece are a blessing in my house. I get to wake up & make breakfast for them & take them to school. They are always there smiling & waiting for me when I get back from work. So what are your thoughts on the matter? Should I correct my nephew when he calls me dad? I don’t mind it, it just makes me sad knowing that their real father isn’t in the picture & I guess it triggers my own trauma with my own father.",0 +5780,"My sons are disrespectful to my wife!. Might as well use the internet. My four sons are Louis (20), Michelangelo (17) Johnny (23), and Romeo (15). Treat my wife like shit because she’s not Italian for one and two they’re angry because I and their mother got a divorce. Whenever they come over they say sneaking stuff like “this pasta is nice for a white lady” or they'll say “ my mother cooks better than this” And I have to hear my wife cry for hours when they leave because they say this to her face while I go to the bathroom or cook! It's getting ridiculous because it's no more of “oh this taste okay for someone like you” it's now to the point where she's saying they're all cursing her out. These boys are getting out of hand I put my foot down and told them they will treat her with respect every time I tell them they can't come over if they won't treat her right they ignore my calls and block me. It's so hard not being able to see my sons and my granddaughter. My son won't let me see her when he's mad because I told him to respect my wife. He told my granddaughter don't call her grandma because she isn't her grandma while my wife was there. I love my sons to death I mean I worked my ass off in the army and when I retired I got two crappy minimum wage jobs working morning to night NEVER getting sleep just so they could get what they want. It hurts because my family is my whole world I want a relationship with my sons and granddaughter but they won't let me unless I let them disrespect my wife.",0 +5781,"The abuser has left this world. So my mom's son sexually abused me as a child. He was 12 years older. It started very young . As far as my memories go back he abused me. + I know it's terrible but I'm happy to say he will headed to crematory soon . This is my justice because I never got it. Will I go to his memorial? Most likely if I go it will only be to protect family from having to make up a story. There are others he abused and are not ready to tell their story. +This is my first time on Reddit so be kind to this old lady because at 58 I still struggle everyday with my abuse. I kept it bottled up until I finally told my mom some 20 years ago. I was already married with 3 kids. She just didn't get why I told her In my 30s because it was over and past. She just didn't understand what it can do to a person.",0 +5782,"Cousin embarrasses her husband while he is talking to us.. Every time we hang out with cousin and her husband, she corrects him, tells him he talks too much, and apologizes to us about him, While he is speaking. I find this very uncomfortable and rude. He’s a great guy. He does seem unable to pause while talking but he is aware of social cues and stops when you indicate that the subject is over. He is an over talker but also a sweet and polite person. Her put downs of him get more intense each time we see them. Clearly she is over the relationship. I want to say something but it’s so awkward. If I stick up for him I don’t know what to expect her reaction to be. How should I handle this? Speak up in a group? Talk to her privately?",0 +5783,"AITA for not giving my sister my money so she and her husband can get a house?. My dad worked very hard to make money so we could go to college. He made sure to never be unfair to us, he saved enough and gave both me and my sister (who's 9 years older than me) the same amount of money for college. When she finished high school he gave her the money, she gave college a try but got married a year later, told my dad that she'd still go to college but she didn't. My dad ended up not caring because he gave her the money himself and said that she can do whatever she wants to it then, because he knew that something like this could happen. I don't care about this part either, but I worked part time jobs and saved some money on the side. I started college this year and everything was going fine, I still work now that I'm in college. So I'm trying not to spend too much of the money that my dad gave me. However my dad got the news that one of his relatives had died so he decided to go back to our home country for the funeral and would stay there for a week. My mom has health issues so she didn't go, I decided to visit my mom last weekend because I hadn't seen her in a few weeks. When I got home I saw that my sister was also there, my mom told me that she came half an hour after she told her I was visiting and my mom looked really annoyed by her visit and I couldn't understand why. After we ate dinner my sister sat us down in the living room and said she had to talk to me. She asked me to give her the money dad gave me because she and her husband wanted to have a child but they couldn't do that while they still lived with his mom, so with my money they'd add to some savings, his mom would help and they'd get a house. For context, she and her husband lived off the money dad gave her for a while. They went on vacations and stuff but as they ran out of money they had to get jobs. He eventually found a job with an okay pay but my sister juggled job options and was unemployed for longer than she was employed. Now I don't want to paint her as the evil sister who is irresponsible and wasted money, because it was hers and I couldn't care less what she does with her money or with her life. But she was asking for my money and this made me really uncomfortable. I said I was sorry but I needed the money for college, she said she knew I was working in high school and that I still work, so I could pull through with the money I make and they'd eventually repay me after raising the child gets ""less expensive"", which is stupid. I said no, I told her I wasn't giving her the money and that if she can't afford a house she shouldn't have a child. She literally went berserk, got up and got physical, grabbed my hair, scratched my face and tried to kick me but my mom got in between. Then she started a screaming contest with us, she told me I was keeping something good from happening just so I could spend the money on myself, someone who's pathetic, and she kept going on about how I would be responsible for my mom and dad not having a grandchild, how if she waited longer to have kids she'd be too old and have problems (which is extremely weird to say), how I was just jealous of her, how I was ugly so at least I should spend it on having some work done to my face. Then she grabbed her bag and stormed out of the house. Me and my mom were left in shock, my face was red and I had scratches on my scalp and forehead, after an hour I get a few messages from her ""friends"" telling me how I had no soul and that I showed my true face deciding not to help a couple have their ""dream family"", I was extremely uncomfortable and anxious so I texted my dad. Then I get a call from my sister's husband calling me a c\*nt, spoiled and useless, telling me that if I had a brain I'd know what the right choice would be and that I don't need or deserve the money, especially after ratting them out and complaining to my dad. Later our dad called us and told me not to worry, that the money was mine and it wasn't my responsibility to make their dreams come true. This put me at ease, honestly, I'm scared because college is expensive, I don't want to be pushed in a corner and burden my dad even more asking for money, most importantly, I know my sister and I know I'm not getting the money back. + +But I also feel like I need advice, like what should I do, I definitely shouldn't give them the money, I don't owe her and apology because she literally attacked me, but their friends have been harassing me on social media on the daily, I deleted most of my social media. My sister gave them my number so I spent some time blocking numbers and my sister's too. It feels like this won't stop and they're constantly guilt tripping me telling me I'm selfish. Am I selfish? Did I make the right choice?",0 +5784,"Parents found out im sexually active in the worst way possible.. Hi my boyfriend (17m) and I (17f) have been dating for about a year and 4 months, my family loves him and they have been very supportive of us even though we are really young. Last Saturday I went out to shop and I forgot my phone at home, while I wasn’t home my dad went through my phone and found multiple videos of me and my boyfriend doing it in my hidden album (I thought he didn’t know my password) he didn’t confront me until today afternoon and I feel very embarrassed, and stupid. He’s very upset but he is trying to be understanding. My mom on the other hand is furious, she is ignoring me and has called me multiple degrading names, she says that Hers and I relationship is forever damaged and that she will never trust me again. I know I completely messed up and my parents have the right to be upset, I just don’t know what to do to make it all better, and I don’t know how to cope well, and I feel like this is I’m gonna completely destroy my mental health. Help :(",0 +5785,"Aunt in-law wants us to pay her back for a loan she gave to her sister.. My mother in-law left her narcissistic husband, but she had to borrow $200K from her sister to make it happen. Now two years later her sister is demanding she pay her back so she can make an investment. Unfortunately my mother in-law can't pay her back, so the aunt is demanding me and my wife give her the $200K. We have two apartments, so she demanded we sell one of them, but that rental income supports our current home. We have offered her some of our equity for her to make an investment, but she wants the cash. We told her we are unwilling to sell because that will kill our families retirement plan, and force us into paying thousands more monthly which we can't afford. + +Can anyone think of another way that we could pay her back? Just to complicate matters the sister in-law is my boss at work... This feels like coercion.",0 +5786,"Hi i feel like an awful person and could really use some advice. I (m19) just found out that my boyfriend (m30) was already married to a woman. +hi, I'm not sure if this is allowed here and if it isn't I'll remove this. This is a throwaway btw. + +I've been dating a man for about a year. I thought it was going super well, he was nice and funny he even said that he loved me, and I thought I did too. yesterday I had just finished school and a woman stopped me she looked to be in her late 20s early 30s and asked if my name was what my name is, she said that she needed to talk to me. I agreed and we walked a little bit to a bench and sat down. She told me that the man I was dating was her husband, to be honest, I didn't believe her then she showed me the pictures of her wedding and them together. once I saw them I admit that I was crying a little I had no idea that he was cheating on a lovely woman with me. I just felt really guilty and just awful, I told her that I had no idea and I'm so sorry. She said she believed me and she was sorry too. I told her that I would break up with him right there and then but she said she gonna make him break up with me. We talk about some other things about how our relationship started, how long it was going on. I asked about how she found out, and it turns out he was bragging about the stuff he got me to do with his friends. She was really sympathetic towards me. + +Today I just felt awful and sad, it might be selfish but I did love him and he said he loved me. I'm just not sure what to do. He hasn't sent the breakup text yet should I do it or wait. How do I apologise to her? Do I just leave her alone? Any help at all would be appreciated.",0 +5787,"I no longer want to be apart of my second family.. My parents are divorced. My dad remarried when I was 4 to my step mother. Eventually my step mom had kids of her own with my father. As I was growing up in two separate households going back and forth, I realized I never really wanted to go to my fathers house. My father was barley home and I’d only see my step mom and sisters. + +I’m currently 24 years old and internally struggling with the mental/emotional abuse I endured as a child. As you could imagine I was not the favorite child. I was always the butt of every joke, teased about for my grades. I could never bring friends over because my step mom was cruel to them. The punishments she gave me were unruly. The manipulation gave me anxiety. As a child I walked on egg shells. The only person who ever had my back was my real mother. + +To this day, I’m still the butt of jokes. I can’t go into my dads house without feeling on edge, waiting for my step mom to make a slighted comment about me. I think it’s even worse now because my two younger sisters join in along with her… I don’t know what to do, I’d love to cut ties but I still want to have a relationship with my father.",0 +5788,"Took My Elderly Mom On Vacation. I live part-time out of the USA in the UK. + +My mom, in her 70s, was always talking about going on a trip to see where I live the other half of my life. Well, I finally got around to arranging a trip to Scotland and side trip to Vienna, Austria. The days were filled with museums, touring, food, wine and lots of exploring. + +We just parted ways and I must say, I learned a lot spending the last 5 days with her sans my siblings. + +The most important thing I learned is patience. Spending this amount of time with mom, I saw that she is slowing down (she not out of the game - still very active). I learned to not be strict with time, not to rush. That sometimes it took her a little bit longer to get places. I realized, figuring things out like the train schedules, manuevering the busy aiport and other logistics were stressful for her. So, I stepped up to the plate and also used those periods to be extra kind. + +It was painful in my heart to see the reality of life; my mom is getting older and some day she will not be with me. + +As I left her at the gate, she was flying back to America and me back to the UK, I couldn't help but feel really sad. She was crying, not out of sadness she said, but of having, "" the most wonderful trip of my life with my son"". + +I wanted to share this experience and remind everyone that life is so short, travel with mom (or Dad) while you can. Sitting in the lounge looking at photos from the last few days I can't help but getting a little teary-eyed.",0 +5789,"My father wants to leave my mom because of an affair that happened 22 years ago and kicked her out of their house.. My parents are together since their early 20s. My mom is 58 and my dad is 61. They have 2 children me (32F) and my brother (18). Like every relationship they had some ups and downs but overall I would say they were really happy. + +About 22 years ago my mom went on a vacation to Greece alone. My parents were going through a pretty rough patch that time. She met a guy there and had an affair that lasted a couple of days. She never told anyone except me, but after a long time when I was in my late 20s. She said she feels ashamed about it even after such a long time. She said she regrets it and never did anything with anyone else and has been loyal to my father ever since, I believe her. + +About 3 months ago my father was cleaning their old garage and he found some old letter and photo from that guy. I have no idea why mom kept it, but she forgot about it and left it there. He confronted her and she admitted to the affair. My dad went completely mad, he called her a whore and other insults, said their whole relationship is a lie and even said that me and my brother may not be even his. He suspecs her of cheating the entire relationship and doesnt trust her anything anymore. They had a huge fight and he kicked her out of their house. + +I understand his frustration, but I dont understand why would he throw everything away like this. My mom made a terrible mistake, but it was a long time ago and she has been nothing but a devoted mother and partner ever since. She even gave up her dream job and career so he could pursue his, because his job required us to travel a lot. + +The problem is my parents never maried. He made all the money and she was a SAHM. Eventually my dad became pretty succesful and my parents own a very nice home and a couple of cars, but everything is legally owned by my dad only. + +Right now my mom is staying with me and my husband, because she has nowhere else to go. She never really had a job in her life, so she has little to no retirement. They were planning to travel the world after my dad retires, but he wont even talk to mum anymore, he literally kicked her on the street. + +I understand he may not want to be with her anymore, but he just cant leave her homeless at almost 60 years old. She raised his children, took care of his home her whole life and has nothing. He could comfortably afford to at least rent her an apartment, but he wont. + +I’m pretty desperate and dont know what to do. How can I talk some sence into my dad? + +TLDR - My mom had an affair 22 years ago on a vacation. She still regrets it and never did anything like that ever again. My dad just found out and kicked her out of their house and left her homeless. My mom has nothing. + +EDIT - My parents have been using that garage as a storage unit for a long time. They traveled a lot together and they love to buy souvenirs and bring them home. The letter was in an envelope and it was a goodbye note saying how nice it was meeting her and wishing her the best in life. The photo next to it was a picture of them on a beach. She says he gave her the envelope personally on the last day when she was leaving and she put it next to the other stuff and forgot about it. + +EDIT2 - We already talked to a lawyer. We live in Czech Republic and by our law she is entitled to nothing. They never married and everything is legally owned by him. She also cant get any retirement from state, because in order to get any you need to work certain time.",0 +5790,"How to tell mom I don’t want a relationship with my brother?. TRIGGER WARNING❗️⚠️❗️SA mentioned. + + + + + + + + + + + + +Please don’t share my post. Typing from mobile so sorry about any format issue. + +I 24F don’t know how to tell my mom 48F that I don’t want a relationship more than holidays with my brother 28M. + +My mom and I have a really good relationship, we talk frequently and she is a good grandmother to my daughter 1F. + +My brother is mildly autistic (And just to clarify I work with children with special needs as my career and love it.) and very pessimistic and into creepy/violent topics. He has no filter and it has bothered me since childhood. He makes me constantly uncomfortable. He will go on and on about violent politics, and won’t stop even though I have voiced these topics of conversation makes me uncomfortable. I personally don’t want to hear gruesome details about the beheadings in the Middle East or his favorite dictators, guns, ect. + +He does not ever leave my parents house unless it is to walk their dog or go to stores with my parents. He his holed up in his room on the laptop all day unless he is eating, using the restroom, or out with the dog/my parents. It has been this way since I was a young child. He has not had in person interactions with people on a regular basis since he graduated from his school program at 18 years old. So ten years. His state of mental health scares me. + +When I was ten or eleven years old my brother sexually assaulted me. My parents both worked long hours and typically weren’t home until evening. I was watching tv in my parents room, he came in started going through their closet. He found a box full of my parents “toys” and pulled out this weird play condom thing. He put it on and told me to take my pants off and proceeded to climb on top of me and try to penetrate me. I slipped out from under him and ran away. That’s all I remember about this incident. My parents do not know about this. + +A couple years ago my parents caught him selling his body sexually to older men he met on the internet. They would pick him up from the house and take him wherever. + +About a year or two ago my mother told me he had been begging her to buy him a gun. I didn’t really say anything about it because I don’t want to cause a rift between her and I. But of course he got the gun. He has access to both the bullets and the gun at all times. I don’t think this is safe, my brother gives off school shooter type vibes. + +How could I tell my mother that her sweet first born golden child who can do no wrong in life ever, scares the shit out of me and I don’t want to have to see him??? He will positively live with my mom until she passes away. + +My husband 28M, and I had a baby in 2020. I have been to my parents house with baby a handful of times and while breastfeeding my brother will stand behind me and look down at my breasts while my daughter eats. I had to start asking him to leave the room for feedings. + +My mom is constantly trying to get me to have a closer relationship with my brother. She will use guilt tactics like crying and say things like “I need to know your brother will have family when I die”. “your brother asks about her all the time” “you really should visit so your brother can see her it would mean a lot to him.” My mom has a paper thin temper and could blow up in a second. So I usually don’t say much until she changes the subject. I think my brothers obsession with my daughter is inappropriate. I have two amazing BILS and while they love my daughter to pieces, they never beg to see her. I just feel like what if my brother tried something inappropriate with my daughter? I can’t trust him. + +TLDR: +I don’t know how to tell my mom that I’m uncomfortable coming over to her house because of him. Or that I don’t really want a relationship with him outside of major holidays. My mom can be mean at times, and I honestly don’t know if she would believe me about the SA incident. I just don’t want to ruin the relationship I have with her. + +If you read this far thank you, and I appreciate all advice. + +*ETA: For all of those worried for my daughters immediate safety: I have not been to my parents house with her in more than a year. She will not be going there at all. I do not have any direct contact with my brother: my mom just tells him about us I guess. Obviously her safety is the most important thing. I was looking for gentle ways I could bring this up to my mom.",0 +5791,"Is taking someone to a restaurant they enjoy considered a good Christmas gift or not?. My grandmother is very important to me. At christmas, when i was a kid, she always gave really good gifts. Now that i'm an adult and have my own money, i wanted to get her a good gift. + +But i didn't really know what to buy her. I thought i'd take her to a restaurant she really enjoys, Cracker Barrel. I thought it'd be nice since nobody else in the family likes eating there. + +Is this a good gift or is it considered to be cheap and tacky?",0 +5792,"My mom made my pregnancy a very bad experience, and I contemplate even letting her see my daughter (her first grandchild) at all.. I (19F) got pregnant about a year ago while still living at home. I had decided to do an adoption as my partner and I were not ready to have kids. I had picked out a family and was super excited about my decision and everything. However, my mother claimed I was being irresponsible for not taking responsibility for my actions (aka raising the child myself). She also liked to use phrases like ""you're taking away my grandbaby"" and ""you're stripping me of this opportunity to be a grandma"". It made living at home unbearable. We fought every other night. I cried myself to sleep. I had panic attacks like no other. It wasn't healthy living there anymore. So, I moved out with my boyfriend. I had the baby and gave her to this really great family. Now, I'm sitting here, feeling bad that my mother can't have a relationship with her first grandchild. However, I can help with that as I can have visitation times where I can invite my mother. There's one side of me that feels bad for her, but theres another side of me that doesnt believe she deserves this opportunity I could give her. I dont know what the right thing to do is.",0 +5793,"Help (21M) Slept With Woman (44F) - Now Have a Child. New relationship - new life?. Give you the short version. + +I had sex ONE TIME with a woman I worked with who was 44 years old. I barely knew her. Twice my age. This happened when I was 21. I am 25 now, she is 47 now, and the child (M) is turning 3 years old in May. + +You can definitely judge me. I was stupid and really drunk from a work party. The woman looked at me before and said ""I can't get pregnant."" No joke. Was probably on hormone medication and sleeping with multiple men to get pregnant (don't know, but guessing bc of the comment & she had me take a paternity test.) She is a twice single mom, same scenario with other child she has.. The other child she has is my age. + +I pay $500 a month. It's all I can afford. + +I don't know what kind of relationship I want with the kid. It was a one night stand. I don't know what I owe to them, but I don't want to abandon. I know the kid didn't do anything wrong, but I can't stand the woman and I feel like a sperm donor with financial benefits. I have met him twice yet. I can count on my fingers how many times I've met the woman in person, but she gladly takes $500 from me a month. + +I have a girlfriend now whom I want to start a family with someday. The situation is so embarrassing, do we tell our families? Do we just let them be - as the mother of the child would prefer, and just keep sending money? And start a new family - never telling them they have a brother out there? + +If anyone has a crazy family life or perspective. Would love to hear your thoughts.",0 +5794,"Does anyone else feel judged by family members?. I have relatives who like to bring up my past from 12 years ago when I was an angry teen. I’m 29 years old now and much calmer, rarely get angry. I only lost it last Sunday because my 22 year old niece was bad mouthing me and throwing my past in my face. Yet the family member who judges me most often, has an older daughter who is a convicted felon. She can’t make me seem like I’m an evil and a horrible person while her adult children aren’t perfect.",0 +5795,"my brother is the coolest kid. He was born when I was 9. He is disabled (down syndrome) and I was worried it would affect him, since my mom said he will be different. I learned SO MUCH about it so I can help him (i even asked my teachers stuff haha). I spent my free time with him, trying to help him with verbal communication, physical interaction and obviously had fun the whole time. Now, he's 7 and doing amazing. I just came here to say I love him so much. He says I love you to me but he says it to everyone lol. He's such a cool kid and makes friends every single day. Not to mention how he's so funny and nice. He can be a bit of a troublemaker but he understands empathy and gives me hugs whenever I cry. I wonder how I got this lucky to have such an AWESOME SIBLING! He's the coolest kid in the world! whenever someone stares at him or feel bad for me, I let my brother know that he's a cool kid and others opinions don't matter :) + +TL;DR my brother may be different but don't underestimate him, he's probably the coolest kid you'll meet!",0 +5796,"My parents and I got into a huge argument, it got reported to CPS and now they are really hurt because of it. + +I have no idea where to start but somehow I will. + +My parents were concerned about me because the night before I started having a panic attack at the dinner table because I realized I had two really big events back to back (debate tournament and the SAT the next day). My breathing got rapid and my head started spinning, my mom told me to go on a walk and took my phone. So i left the house and started crying and I couldn't breathe, it was just a terrible experience. I went walking for about an hour, i had lost track of time and it was night so my parents came looking for me. My dad wasn't mad at me, he told me that but I could tell my mom was. She told me how stupid I was for doing that. + +The next day during the evening my parents called me into the living room and asked me how I was doing. I told them I cried in the bathroom during school but I felt fine. They went into the lecture they always give me about how I need to have a healthy diet and a better sleep schedule. I know this, I just can't do it. I told them how stressed out I was, about how the tutoring sessions that they made me do is kind of stressing me out and I want to take the SAT in june. Thats when my parents started freaking out, they thought I didn't want to take the SAT at all and stop the tutoring sessions they've been doing which is the farthest thing from the truth. I started panicking and crying, I can't take it when people are mad at me and the yelling got worse so I went into another room. I know its immature but I hate it when people yell at me. My mother grabbed my arm and pulled me into the kitchen and they started telling me how I'm such an spoiled brat and ungrateful I am. How I've never had to work hard for anything in my life but now that I have to work hard I just want to give up. I couldn't take it and put my hands over my ears and closed my eyes. I thought of my happy place. At point I removed my hands and looked at them and tried to talk. I can't remember how it happened but I moved from my spot in the kitchen to a couple of feet over where I was sitting on the floor. I had one of my knees to my chest and my eyes closed. My mother started hitting me on my back and I freaked out and moved into the hallway. I was panicking even more. I couldn't breathe and my head hurt so much. My parents cornered me and my mother grabbed my arm while I kept saying please don't hit me over and over which she scoffed at. I had my back against the wall and I banged my head against it 3 times. I can't exactly remember why I did this but I remember telling the counselor it was to get away from my mother. + +From that point on they made me sit down on a chair and drink some water which tbh was kind of hard because i was taking shallow breathes and coughing up the water. My mother told me how good I have it and i shouldn't be feeling this way, that it just should stop. I shut down and stopped responding. + +Yesterday the lady from CPS came to visit and I started crying. I cry a lot if you haven't noticed. She talked to my sister and I but when she started talking to my mom, I couldn't breathe and tears were coming to my eyes again. The CPS lady told me to go outside. 10 minutes or so had passed and she told me to come in where she sat down with my parents and I. She wanted us to have a talk and I saw a side to my parents that was surreal. I couldn't believe how much the tone had shifted from that night and it was about how much they cared for me and were worried about me, I was in awe. + +I walked the CPS lady to the door and asked if my parents were mad at me and she said no, she assured me that they were not and she told me that she would visit me at school this week. I went back inside and my mom was crying. They told me that they were going to take my phone away and turn the wifi off at a specific time. She left to go pick up my grandmother and I asked my father if he was mad at me. He told me he didn't know. I asked if I could go for a walk and he said yes. + +This morning my mom told me to clean my room. While I was doing so we had an argument about last night. She told me that I made her seem like an abuser, that she abused me. She told me that she was waiting for an apology. I did apologize but I didn't mean it. + +Am I wrong here? I have done some stupid things in the past like sneak out of the house and plan to do drugs with some of my friends but she hit me and left a bruise so I have no clue about what I am. + +TLDR: My parents and I got into a big fight over a week ago and the next day I was talking to my counselor about it who reported it CPS. Now my parents are super pissed and I have no idea what to do.",0 +5797,"Father asking for a liver transplant. Hello, I’m not sure if this is the right area to post this but I’m seeking advice. + +My father has been an alcoholic for basically my entire life, as long as I can remember he’s been drinking. Alcoholism runs in the family as it affected both my dad and mother. My relationship with my father is strange, every time I try to bring up the alcoholism he sweeps it under the rug and says it’s not a problem. My childhood along with my siblings have been greatly affected by this addiction. I don’t necessarily hate my father but I just wish that he could see that he is slowly dying. + +Today he asked me if I could give some of my liver to him because his liver is severely damaged. I’m just about to join the military and I don’t think it’ll be a good idea if I join and go on medical leave right away. I’m torn between helping him out and realizing that it I do this he could just continue to drink. In my head I just think he could die within a year or two or if I give him my liver he could die within 5 years or so. + +I do apologize if the situation is all over the place but he’s in and out of the hospital every week. I’m slowly coming to the realization that I won’t see him much longer.",0 +5798,"Partner has an odd relationship with her son. Hey, + +So my partner has 2 kids, a son and a daughter but is blatantly more affectionate to the son. She barely registers her daughter's life but is all over her son's comings and goings. + +She is also a 'naked' mum which is odd to me but initially I didn't see a problem. She walks around but naked and often goes into their rooms, chats on their beds etc naked. + +She always talks about how pretty, strapping, beautiful her son is and also has made several mentions of how hung he is and was as a baby. + +We once had a raging argument and her response was to go and lie in her son's bed. + +I've no idea why I'm worried about anything untoward but I am. Any advice?",0 +5799,"My FIL beats my MIL. Should I let my boys be around him? I know the answer to this but my husband thinks I’m overreacting by saying I don’t want them near him. I don’t want them to grow up thinking this is ok. They’re old enough to understand. They are 17, 15, and 13. My husband gaslights me and will tell me I’m crazy for thinking something or say he didn’t say something I know he said. It really makes me question my decisions and thoughts so I’m reaching out for help.",0 +5800,"Brother in law does nothing for my sister on Mother’s Day. They have three kids but says it’s a Hallmark holiday and thusly does nothing and it seems to have rubbed off on their kids… I just talked to her and she sounded embarrassed to say that there was absolutely nothing done to commemorate the day or celebrate her in general. + +I’m not really into starting drama but I think I should tell him it’s really uncool. + +I know she does things for him on Father’s Day +I think valentines is not celebrated… but they definitely celebrate Halloween so… it’s inconsistent as heck in terms of which holidays get celebrated or not + +What would you do?",0 +5801,"I saw my stepdad smelling my 9yo little brothers briefs. I am a 13yo girl and I saw my stepdad(48M) smelling my 9yo little brothers briefs, It was like 12 am, and I saw him on my brother's room smelling my brother's briefs (my brother was sleeping), he was wearing only his long pants pijamas(he probably was sleeping before) and when I asked him silent + +\-What are you doing? he told me. + +\-I am just taking the clothes for wash them. Then he took another clothes of my brother on the floor, and put it on the washing machine. (It's weird to clean the clothes at 12 am, but it's also weird that he clean it instead of my mom.) + +Should I tell my mom about that or talk with my stepdad or another adult? + +He never do anything evil with me before and I never saw him doing something with my little brother. Maybe it was only my imagination, or he actually was not doing anything bad. + +What should I do now?",0 +5802,"My girls are fighting. I have two adult daughters who are fighting. It's driving me crazy and breaking my heart at the exact same time. Christmas was awkward and sad, as they refused to speak to each other. They also keep trying to drag me into their fight, and it's very hard to remain neutral as a mom. + + +My younger daughter is 20 and pregnant. Baby's dad is currently not in the picture, and my daughter is living with me as she is still in school. Baby was the result of being inconsistant with birth control. + + +My older daughter is 24. Also living at home, but will be moving out to live with her boyfriend in a couple of weeks. They will be moving about 7 hours away from us. + + + +My older daughter called my younger daughter an idiot for not taking her birth control. Said that my younger daughter's life will be miserable, and that I spoil my younger daughter too much. Called her a rude name. + + +My younger daughter said that my older one is selfish for moving away before the baby arrives. She also said that her older sister is a failure for still being at home at 24. Called her a rude name back. + + + +How do I deal with this? I feel like a terrible mother. All I want is for my girls to get along.",0 +5803,"My son looks nothing like me.. I’m Asian and my wife is Caucasian. My son is 6months now and he looks nothing like me. So much so that her side and my family is always teasing me, even her friends. It’s kinda making me wonder. Should I get a paternity test? I love her, but it’s for my sanity. + +Sorry if this the wrong place to post this. + +EDIT: thank you all for helping me out. I’ve learned a lot about this topic through your opinions and personal experiences . Especially the fact that everyone agrees “genetics are weird”. I’ve decided to talk to my wife about the comments from our families. We’ll squash the beef on both side together. Who knows? Maybe my son will end up looking somewhat like me😄. I love her and I don’t want to add distrust in our marriage. I may have pissed some of you off with this post, but that was not my intention. I was going to delete this post but I’ve decided not to. If you’re in my shoes, read some of the comments below. They’ll definitely help you out.",0 +5804,"Fiance(f29) wants to put our engagement on hold after learning I(m29) got back into gymnastics and thinking I'm ""not straight"". **TL;DR**: Fiance wants to put our wedding on hold because I attended an adult gymnastics class and because ""guys who do gymnastics are usually feminine"". She knew I did it in high school, but said it was ""different back then"" because ""no one knows what they want to be yet"". However, she said that I'm ""possibly not straight"" and ""never had a chance to explore such feelings"" due to my religious upbringing and possible fear of being reprimanded, thus why she wants to put the wedding on hold + +​ + +We met each other in college, but have been dating for the past 5 years. We had to push back our wedding date due to covid, but finally rescheduled for the early part of this year after some drama with her parents. Long story short, her parents are vaccinated, but they didn't want anyone to know that they were. The only reason they got the shot was because they wanted to go to their vacation home out of state. But, when it came to the wedding and our request that guests be vaccinated, they told family and friends that we were wrong (among other expletives) to request that and that they weren't vaccinated, not to mention berating others who stated they were vaccinated. It caused a lot of stress as some people dropped out from attending as a result, but I tried my best to assure my fiance (Nicki) that I didn't think of her differently because of her parents, and I've told her that many times too + +However, the stress has crept into other areas of her life such as her job and certain people who saw her parent's messages that she was tagged in, but it's also crept into an issue with me that she recently told me about too. She said that she wanted to put the wedding on pause after getting flack for rescinding her parent's invitation, and I figured that maybe we could do a smaller thing with less than 10 people and without those involved in the drama. However, one of the reasons she included when we spoke, was the fact that there was something about me that bothered her too, and when I asked what it was and tried to explain, there was just no changing her mind. Maybe it's the stress of everything, who knows. That's the reason I'm writing this now, to try and find out + +In-between my work schedule as an essential worker last year, I returned to an old hobby besides my usual gym routine, and she knew that I used to do gymnastics when I was in high school. After finding an adult program that allowed me to get back into what I loved/missed, I simply signed up and began going for a few weeks, and it was really refreshing in the midst of all the craziness. However, when we spoke, she said that that's ""been on her mind for some time"" and that ""while it was fine in high school when I didn't know what I wanted to be yet"", it bothered her that I got back into it and made her question if I was straight. I told her that that surprised me and that I was straight, but she said she ""wasn't sure"" and that my religious upbringing (not religious now) could've made me ""afraid to explore those feelings"" because of my parents or fear of coming out when we attended church. She also said that guys who do gymnastics are ""usually feminine"", to which I told her that that was an assumption/stereotype, but she said that she needed a break to reconsider everything. Maybe it's the stress from her parents pouring into other aspects of her life, but I'm honestly not sure. She told her parents that she's going no contact with them recently, so maybe her issue lies solely with me. Regardless, it's been three days, and I haven't contacted her as she asked. I just feel alone and confused as to what her issue really is, and I want to ask what I should do from here. I've considered therapy and talking to someone, but while I'm considering my insurance options in the meantime, I wanted to ask how I should proceed here first and what I should do in the meantime until hopefully connecting with someone",0 +5805,"Dad told me I make my mother uncomfortable.. My dad told me a few weeks ago that I make my mother feel uncomfortable and that she doesn’t know how to talk to me. I haven’t been able to stop thinking about that comment since. We’ve always been close as a family, but I’ve always felt closer to my dad than my mum, whereas my sister is closer to my mum than she is to my dad. It just feels weird that my own mother doesn’t understand me and feels uncomfortable in my presence.",0 +5806,"Found out yesterday I was born out of sex work, not sure how i feel about it. Hey, throwaway account as too personal. I'm 15F. I've never met my biological dad and recently I've been asking my mom and curious about him. Yesterday she told me that i was born out of sex work. I'm not sure how I feel about this and I feel kinda sick about that my dad was the kinda man who bought sex. My mom had my (half) brother when she was 18 and then she was did a degree as a single mom and was really struggling with money and everything during this time and felt like she had to do sex work to make money. She graduated when she was pregnant with me and after that it got better and she got a reasonably good job and got married and now we're quite well off I think. Recently she has had another baby and i have a little sister. I am pleased she told me and proud that she got us all out and built a great life for us from where she was. I love my mom and we are super close. But I feel like its a bit disgusting that my biological dad paid for sex and it just seems gross and exploitative and i feel bad that she went through that when she thought she had to do that. I'm also kinda embarassed about it that that is my dad and feel a bit sick thinking that's how i was created and how i came into the world with something so gross and exploitative. I also feel like my mom should have aborted me and I can't imagine why she would have a baby in that position and when i was born out of sex work and i feel like she probably should have aborted my brother too and I don't understand why she didn't and I definitely would get an abortion if i was in her position. But at the same time if she had i wouldn't exist and i feel wrong thinking this and i just feel a bit confused and sick at the whole situation. Not sure if this is right to think like this or what i should be feeling. I don't know if i should be posting about this or what i am even asking",0 +5807,"Caught my stepdad looking through my phone, I’m 26. I’m so distraught at the betrayal and violation that he’s put me through. It’s taken me forever to even begin to trust him as it’s difficult for me to trust men in the first place and I was so closed off but thought he’s done a lot for me, always helps and supports me with food shopping, events or any small thing that needs to be sorted out and he’s been married to my mum for 10 years. + +I left my phone unattended because it didn’t even cross my mind and he must have not heard me coming towards him and he was fully reading messages between me and one of my male friends (I know him and my mum do not like or think he’s worth dating). + +I was so shocked distraught I didn’t even know how to process it. He just quickly said sorry I was just trying to turn off your music (but that was a lie.) He was literally in the middle of messages from weeks ago. I just took my phone and went back where I was trying to process what I just saw. +The further shock and violation for me is I was recently living with them for 6 months and I had all my diaries in my room and he must have read them there’s a high chance he went in my room and read them if he felt comfortable enough to go through my phone. I’m so hurt and feel so offended I don’t know how far this goes but it’s honestly scarring and I don’t know what to think. +He used to get irritated at me sometimes but funny enough he started being extremely supportive towards me which I always just thought was because I put in a little effort into being respectful and accepting of him and started calling him my stepdad. Now I wonder if he read my journals and saw some of the things I went through and felt empathy towards me. + +And the further violation is what if he went through my pictures and other private conversations. God I hope not but I just don’t know and that’s even more upsetting like what was he trying to achieve. I know he usually scorned at this male friend and said “what are you doing with a guy like that if you date him you’re out of your mind he hasn’t got anything good to offer, I don’t know why he’s sniffing around you etc” so at “best” maybe that’s all he looked at because he was so curious if I’m more involved with him than just friends and he’s being protective but I don’t know that. Idk if he just violated to know more about my private life. It’s honestly left me so defensive now. + +I’m renting an apartment that him and my mum own on a year contract and now that’s making me even uncomfortable and I don’t know how to even respond to this at all",0 +5808,"Is it wrong to read my deceased brothers life journal?. After my brothers (36) passing, we discovered 5 boxes full of spiral notebooks that contain basically a journal of his life in his home. He was very distant from the family. He lived 7 states away and hardly ever came around so we didn’t know him very well at the end. So I decided to read his notebooks for two reasons… To find out if anything had been going on since his death was suspicious at the time. And to catch up on the years I missed out on. But some family argue that these are his private notes and they should be destroyed out of respect. Especially after the autopsy determine his sudden and unexpected death was due to a ruptured brain aneurysm. So is it ok to read my brothers life Journal?",0 +5809,"My aunts flirt with me, how do I stop this?. My aunts from both sides of the family flirt with me, and I don’t know how to stop it. I’m really uncomfortable at this point. Recently one of them was drunk and she was making *very* obvious advances towards me in front of our other family members and I couldn’t do anything but uncomfortably laugh and glance at her husband for help. (he did jump in there and he obviously noticed because he glares at me now like i’m trying to steal his wife, my aunt, from him) But it’s to the point where I’m just not sure how to stop it. Please what do I do. I can’t confront them about it because I feel like they’ll say that they “were just being friendly” and make me look like the weird one. But if I don’t confront them they’ll keep going.",0 +5810,"I kicked my sister and her family out in the middle of the night. I really don't want to write a whole novel here because I don't like overthinking stuff but I feel very stressed. I don't use reddit, but I see those stories that they put on tiktok so I decided to vent a bit because everyone in my family is furious at me. I've never been the angry type, never argued with anyone in public places such as school or anything, always the one to calm down first and pull back. Even if I get angry, which happens rarely, I calm down immediately. I'm a guy and I'm 24, my life is a bit draining at the moment but I'm securing a good job so far. I do lab work but I don't get a full pay like others because I'm the newest member and I need some type of experience to secure my job, so in the meantime I'm a teaching assistant at our local university thanks to my GPA and my professor who put in a good word for me because I was the best in his class, I'm also good at what I do. This means I wake up at 6am, get to work at 7am, leave 14:30 and go to my other job, where I am until 6pm, Monday-Friday and twice a month even on a Saturday ( no teaching assistant shift on Saturday). I'm not going to lie, socially I've always been what they call a ""nerdy loser"" and I'm not proud of it, but I've also worked since 15, part time during HS and full time in college. I live on my own in an apartment which has a small bedroom, a living room with a kitchen attached to it and a small bathroom. It's tiny but since I live alone I don't need more space and it helps me save money. I have two sisters, the oldest who I'll call T and the youngest who I'll call B. T is an absolute boss I'll say that, she literally took care of me more than our mom, at the moment she's living in another country with her husband and kids and I'm glad she's living a good life. B on the other hand is the most spoiled kid in our family, my mom loved her the most because she looked like her mom, my grandma. B has stolen, physically attacked me and T several times and our parents would always blame us because ""she's younger"". The point of us hating eachother was when B got pregnant at 17, I had already moved out and gone to college (I'm 2 years older than her). She knew me and T worked, she separately told us both that she had gotten pregnant and was scared, didn't have money to get rid of it and asked us for money while begging that we tell nobody. Both me and my sister fell for it and gave her money from our savings, next week my mom has a family gathering without telling us why and my sister announces she's pregnant and my mom fully supports her getting married there and then, me and T asked for our money back and realized we were both fooled, her surprise party went to hell and she started crying because T wasn't having her sh\*t, my mom slapped T and told her she should have more respect towards a pregnant woman who was also her sister, after that night T cut contact with my family and hasn't spoken to them in years, she's only spoken to me so far and I've seen my niece a few times. However, I never saw that money again. B ended up giving birth to a boy and shortly after 2 years she gave birth to two twin girls. My dad did the best he could to support B and her husband since they were both around 18 when they got married, his mom also worked so both him and B decided to not work a day in their life. Stuff went to hell when my dad retired a year ago and couldn't afford to take care of them, B's mother in law died 6 months ago and this is where hell broke loose. Her husband still didn't get a job because B decided to do those product tester gigs, he thought that was enough and you'd see this motherf- send good morning streaks at 3pm, yeah he uses snapchat religiously. So 2 weeks ago at as I was getting ready for bed at 10 because I had work in the morning, I hear banging on my door as if 10 people wanna get in. I open the door and I see B, her husband and their kids. B looks at me as if it's her apartment and demands to come in. She and her family walk in as if they're in their own house and demand to know if there's hot water, I ask what's going on and she straight up says they got kicked out because after his mother died they couldn't pay rent because ""she didn't leave any savings for emergencies"", I was so shocked I couldn't lift my jaw from the floor. Then I told them they had no right to barge into my apartment unwelcome and my sister started screaming, crying and arguing with me, her little girls started crying and I felt horrible and told her to sit down and discuss it. She said they had nowhere to go and our mother wasn't picking up, it was cold for the kids to sleep in the car. I felt so bad for the kids, I told them they could only stay one night but one night only and they'd go to my mother's house tomorrow because my place is tiny and I can't have them there. I go out and take my sister with me so we can buy some mattresses so they can sleep in the living room, my sister made some weird comments about my tiny car for a ""guy who works so hard"" but I held the petty comments back because I was tired. We got home and I see my brother in law looking around my apartment and giving it nasty looks and then he tells me ""small space you got here"", I stared at him and said I liked it and it was enough for me. They got settled and I texted my mom to expect them tomorrow. We woke up to my mom making a hundred excuses about them not going to their for at least a week because she has a bad cold, this that, the kids will get sick. I already had a headache but being the idiot I am I sat down with my sister and talked about it, but I told them to not get the wrong idea because I couldn't have them over a week. That night I didn't get any sleep because my sister's son demanded different chicken nuggets and said that the one's we made at home were stinky (obviously they weren't), he cried until 2 am and I couldn't sleep until 4 because of my niece not going to sleep jumping all over the living room, coming into my room and leaving about 30 times, but I can't get mad at toddlers for just moving around. After 3 nights of this going on repeat I almost passed out at work due to lack of sleep, excused my students and told them to go home and went home and went to sleep. I woke up at 8pm to my nephew crying because he can't pay for a game in my phone, I seriously got worried about this and told my sister to not give him my phone and we had a small argument about how no harm was done. Next day I came home around 10 because I got off work later since I had to explain and teach the stuff I couldn't last time to the previous group of students and I also had to buy groceries. I get home and they were surprisingly quiet, I looked at them and they were just sitting down and looking at the floor, I asked if everything was okay and they said yeah, I went to the bathroom and in my head I was thinking that they were going to ask more but I had made up my mind and I'd tell them to go. I walk into my room and my stomach fell, my work laptop was destroyed, broken in half, both of my computer monitors broken and they were just there. I got extremely angry and before I got out to confront them, realizing they had been in my room, I checked my emergency money that I keep in cash just in case and as I expected 1200 euro gone. I walked out and said what the hell happened, my sister starts to explain how her son was playing with the laptop while watching youtube on it and for jokes he tried to open it the other way by sitting on it and broke it, then when she wasn't watching he snuck into my room to turn on my PC because he had nothing to do and his dad wouldn't give him his phone, but since I put my computer on the upper shelf he had to get on the table to reach but he tripped and fell on top of my big monitor and as he held onto the small one he broke that one when he let go of it and it fell on the floor. I started screaming on top of my lungs telling her that she had one thing to do and that was to look after her kids so they wouldn't break valuable stuff, she starts yelling and tells me that she stays on this place too and she's been doing her share by making her bed and cleaning her own dishes so I need to shut up and be more human, I told her that was my apartment and told her I knew she had my money, turns out she looked for the money, found it, went out and bought a new laptop to replace the old one SINCE her son had nothing to do and she couldn't deal with it, her son starts yelling at me with his spoiled self and says I'm grown and I shouldn't whine over a laptop and that was for kids his age, my sister giggled and her husband gets up and tells me ""don't be a p\*ssy you'll buy new monitors and see laptop's already new"". I was already mad and ready to snap at my brother in law and my sister said ""relax we can't fight this early, I talked to mom and we'll have to crash here for another week"", I told them all to get the f\*ck out, I told them they replaced it with my money and that I didn't care what happened to them and that I wanted them to get the f\*ck out, I dragged my brother in law out because he refused to leave and wanted to fight me physically and my sister followed screaming with her kids, her kids were screaming, crying, snot running down my nephew's nose because he wanted to take the laptop with him, I threw their bags and clothes out and when I saw them going for my car (I guess they wanted to use mine too to sleep the night) I threatened to call the police, they got in their own and drove off. The people who live next door to me are a girl and her grandma, I explained to them and apologized for the noise and the girl said that it was okay. I went to sleep and woke up to my mom sending me voicemails on how they showed up at her house and how she doesn't deserve this at that old age, calling me names and telling me that she never wants to see my face again. These 2 days I've had a tight chest and I've been sweating like crazy in my sleep, I just wanted to let this out.",0 +5811,"I am going to be kicked out of my house at 16yo!!! HELP!. My *grandmother* wants to **kick me out** of my house for ruining one of her pots for cooking. I live alone with my grandmother as my parents are divorced. This whole summer my grandmother was absent on a vacation, and I have been living alone and looking out for myself for 3 months. She got home about two weeks ago and she was horrible towards me. She is constantly yelling, waking me up with cold water and she hasn't cooked since she got here. Now she is mad and wants to kick me out because I ruined her pot while cooking for myself. In a few days, she is again going on a vacation and wants to kick me out. What should I do, should I protest or just leave?",0 +5812,"I (19M) got into a fight with my brother (28M) for not letting his stepson play with my toy collection. I (19M) have a bunch of Marvel action figures that I’ve been collecting for years. This past weekend, my brother (28M) came to visit for our father’s birthday (I still live at home), and he was with his current girlfriend and her 5 y.o. son. + +Without my knowledge, my brother took upon himself to take the kid to my room to show him my collection, that’s on display on shelves. When I found them there, the boy was understandably eager to play, but of course he couldn't reach the shelves by himself. I told him those weren’t regular toys, those were quite expensive and aren’t for playing. Next thing you know: the little boy started to cry and my brother got mad with me for not allowing him. + +I told my bother those are my possessions, I bought them, I decide what to do with them, and he shouldn’t have taken the child to my room without asking me first. This argument between us pretty much ruined our dad’s birthday and he left (with the girlfriend and the kid) pretty much after lunch. Our mother also think I was being selfish and that I should call him to apologize. + +What do you all think I should do?",0 +5813,"My Brother is a single dad and its killing my Mother.. I dont know what to do. Has anyone been in a similar situation? I need an advice. + +I (24) study at the university in other part of the country so im home like 1.5month a year and whenever i am it just kills me to see how my parents struggle beucase of him. + +The story: my Brother (30) had a kid (Now three years Old girl) with a woman (28) that turned out to not love the kid and him so she straight up said she doesnt want it. The court decided to give the rights to my Brother after long period of time. The thing is. My parents are 65/67 years Old and just tired and dont have much strength (years of hard work, having three Kids etc.). + +My Brother has been a single dad for three years and all of this time he has been giving the kid to my parents to take care of it while he goes to work. The kid is sometimes a nightmare to spend time with as she cries all the time is moody etc. My mom just cant take it anymore, she has been raising Kids Since twenties but she is 65 now and doesnt have the strength to do it anymore. My dad Works till evenings. In the evenings Brother comes and takes the kid home. + +Things got a little better when she started attending a kindergarten so sometimes shes there Instead of my partents' place. Although she very often gets sick and nowadays when covid is a thing they are very careful and sens Kids home when they sneeze etc so shes at my parents' place very often. + +He cant afford a babysitter for entire month. + +And my mom just cries out of helplessness and so do I. She cant just refuse to not take care of it because my Brother has to work and he cant afford babysitter for entire month. So my mom cant do anything. Shes stuck in this loop. And im concerned for her overall health. With every year its getting worse and worse and the kid is just 3. + +Thank you in advance.",0 +5814,We are called an child abuser because I rather use my healthy son to save my daughter with leukemia. We are called a child abuser by family and friends because my husband I have decided to use our 10 year old son to save our 7 year old daughter who is suffering from leukemia. We were informed that our daughters leukemia about 1 year ago and she has to go through bone marrow transplant and our son said he will do it since neither my husband or I are a match. We spoke to our son and told him that if he decides that he doesn’t want to do it anymore he can always tell us. When our family and friends heard about it they called us a child abuser because we force him into it and not use outside source.,0 +5815,"Was this sexual abuse. So I finally have the courage to post this/ask about this for myself. I (24f) growing up, have not had a very good relationship with my father. He did some things to me that I view as sexually abusive, but I recently brought it up to my mom over the phone (they are still married and live 2+ hours away) and she said that he likely doesn’t view it as sexual abuse, that he was doing things to mess with me. +The examples of these things are: +-constantly grabbing my butt growing up, well into my early/mid teen years, which I told him I didn’t like it and to stop, but it didn’t. +-if I was upset for any reason, not allowing me to go to my room and instead forcing me to sit on his lap until I stopped crying. If I tried to go in my room anyways he’d threaten to spank me with a belt or wooden paddle they had, or to take my door off completely. +-on two occasions, holding me to his lap and forcing his tongue into my ear. I reacted to this by crying, screaming no and stop, and hitting him. After the second bout he threatened to send me to the hospital if I ever punched him like that again (my hand was swollen from hitting him). +-threatening that if I didn’t wear at least one article of colored clothing, top or bottom (I wore all black at the time), that I would have to model my underwear for my father (either he or my mother said this, but if my mom did I firmly believe she was either threatened or manipulated into doing so) +-threatening to take the doors off my bedroom for locking my door (only did so to change) and off of the bathroom door because I took too long in the shower (30 mins tops) + +I had nightmares after all of these occurrences. I didn’t feel safe in my own home, and avoided being alone with him ever. Many of these things happened in front of my brother and mom, but all three of them would laugh at me crying and freaking out. +He only ever stopped any of these behaviors when we essentially had an intervention, when I told him that I never wanted him to touch me again. Everything pretty much stopped here. Him and my mom have caused me harm in other ways, but I don’t view those as sexual in nature. I know I need therapy, I just don’t have money for it right now. Any advice is appreciated. + +TLDR: growing up, my (24f) dad had some weird behaviors that made me feel unsafe and uncomfortable, I’m trying to figure out if I’m overreacting or if it was sexual abuse",0 +5816,"My mom used me?. My mom took my 50 thousand dollars savings which i kept for buying a house (i am 28 and unmarried) still finishing my bba and 20,000 of my boyfriend (whom i have been dating for 7 years) she promised she would use that money to invest in share market. She lost it in casino and share market… she even sold the jewelry she made and never told me the truth… now she told me the truth and i am heart broken she is now telling me that I should not be with my boyfriend as he is telling me that my mom messed up big time. What should i do?",0 +5817,"Moms going back to school at 45.. My moms a mother of 5 and just decided to go back to school, she’s excited and all I can do is be happy/encouraging for her! It’s never too late y’all, encourage your family to pursue more👌🏼",0 +5818,"My Nephew Died Yesterday. My oldest nephew turned 17 today. Instead of celebrating with his family, he was hooked up to a breathing machine and laying on a cot in a hospital. + +Brain dead. + +I was there when he was born. I helped babysit him. I've been with him so much of his life. He was like a little brother to me. + +I feel so broken. So helpless. + +I want to hug him again. Tell him I love him. + +Please love on the people you hold most dear. You just never know what freak accident will end their life.",0 +5819,"my grandmother said something that broke my heart into a billion pieces and i wish to never see her again. I (f18) belong to a middle class traditional indian family. There is a festival where the mothers of our house keep a fast for the sake of their children. Atleast that's what i was told. Today we were discussing why they shouldn't do this and my mother says this is for my son and daughter and for them i can do anything. +My grandmother was sitting beside me and said it's only for the sons, not the daughter. Her reasoning behind this for that girls leave their homes so they are of no use. She also smirked and nudged me as if she was taunting and teasing me. +My parents came to my defence and my father said don't say such stuff in front of my daughter. I love her just as much as my son if not more. +It is just really difficult for me to fathom that my grandmother said this and to see that my family STILL differentiates between my brother and i breaks my heart into a billion pieces. +I don't know if I'll be able to forgive my grandmother and IF it's even my place to forgive her. I didn't know what to do.",0 +5820,"I was asked to fly out to help an in-law with health issues, it was a bait and switch. I assumed it was to drive the person to the doctor, make meals, etc. They put on a show about how badly the person was doing and asked for a lot of money. That is all they wanted, I had to buy airlines tickets, get a hotel, etc. for that. I spend a day with the sick person, told them how to get insurance and disability benefits and flew home five days early. I could have done all of it by email. How upset should I be?",0 +5821,"Am I wrong fo going NC with my mom because I might be the product of incest. I (24F) recently found out when I was born there were some questions about who my dad might be. +Until age 7 I thought my mom's husband was my dad. On his visitation weekend after they separated he came to pick my younger sister and me up. He grabbed my sister's hand, looked at me, and said ""I'm not taking you and you can ask your mom why."" When we got home that day she explained to me that he wasn't my dad. When I was born my dad wasn't ready to be a father so he decided it would be best for me if he stayed out of the picture. +My mother got remarried a year after that event. +When I was 10 I started asking question about my dad. She said she will never say anything bad about him, he made the best decision for my wellbeing and that he has never missed his $50 monthly child support payment. She said they dated on and off in HS. (She had me at 18.) I told her I wanted to meet him. She and my then step dad said they would try to find him so I could. Fb was a few years old by then but they couldn't find him and that was that. +At 14 I went away to boarding school on the other side of the country. At 16 my Dad sent me a friend request on FB. I was shocked. Confirmed it and immediately called my mom. She was very angry that he did not ask permission from her before doing this. I didn't understand why so he and I continued to talk anyway. +That same month my mother told everyone that her brother, who was VERY involved in my life my entire childhood, had SA her when they were teens. This tore the entire family apart and i have only seen my uncle once since then. +My dad and I continued to build our relationship over video chats and phone calls multiple times a week. We had a falling out for a year but picked back up after that. Because we lived on opposite sides of the country and didn't have much money or time off work we were never able to visit eachother before he passed 2 years ago. During our relationship he never really said anything about my mom. He would ask how she was and would listen nicely when I talked about her but that was really it. +When I talked about my relationship with my dad to my mom it was a different story. She would get visibly uncomfortable and upset. +My mom and I have never had a close relationship. When I graduate HS I stayed on the other side of the country for another 5 years. Our relationship was on and off. Her and my younger sister have always been tied to eachothers hips. I'd say they are somewhere in between codependent and enmeshed. +For example; a few months after I moved back I lost my living situation my mom and her current husband helped me get my things and put them in the back shed. That day I told my sister I was going to ask mom to stay in the spare room. She said, ""Don't even bother she's going to say no. There's no room for another person in that house."" And I knew she was right. But a few months later my sister, her husband, and newborn baby moved into that spare room. +After that happened I was venting to my dad's mom about it and how I've always felt like my mom looks at me a bit different then my other siblings. I was crying about having low self worth and how I don't understand why both my parents never really wanted me. Told her how my mom's 2nd husband wanted to adopt me when I was 12 and how excited I was but when it came down to finally doing it he decided not to so they would keep getting the $50 in child support. I was crying because I wasn't even worth more than $50 a month. +She calmed me down and told me she doesn't know if it's her place to tell me what she was about to tell me but since my dad is gone and can't she was going to. She said that when my mom was with my dad he walked in on her with her brother multiple times around and after I was conceived. He told her to stop or he would leave. She didn't. He couldn't handle it. And moved a state away. He refused to pay child support until there was proof I was his. After that was confirmed (my grandma thinks possibly a test may have been done) he paid. She said there's no way it was $50 and she rembers it being more but was unsure of how much it was. He asked her for visitation but my mom told him the courts would never alow it. -IMO she can be very intimidating and manipulative. I'm sure she was very convincing when she said this. Not proven fact just my thought from what I've seen from her.- +I went a year without ever bringing this up to my mom and continued to watch how my sister is treated differently than me. +A few weeks ago my parents and sister moved across country. The night before they left we all got in a huge fight over me defending my youngest sister. Towards the end of the fight I asked my mom why I was treated so differently my whole life. She deflected. Since then I have been no contact with any of them. I want to ask my mom if there was ever a paternity test actually done or if my whole life she has wondered if I am a product of of something else. But since I wasn't there I don't know if she was SA by my uncle like she says or if she was cheating on my dad with him. I definitely don't want my sister to know about any of this I want it just between my mom and I. But I don't think if she was cheating she would ever even admit the truth. So then what would be the point. AITA for cutting off my family over something that happened 24 years ago and not telling them why? +TLDR: AITA for cutting my mom off because I think I might be the product of her and her brother.",0 +5822,"How do I tell my brother I don’t want him to interact with my kid?. I am expecting my first child in early October, and naturally my family is excited. However, I have a major problem with my brother, who would be the child’s only uncle. A few years ago, I found out that he sexually abused my sister when they were both children. Growing up I had no idea. + +That being said, his childhood behavior was unusual. He was far too open, naive, and trusting, and sucked his thumb until he was a teenager. I suspect he had mild developmental and intellectual delays that went unaddressed. I also suspect my brother was sexually abused himself, though I don’t have proof and I haven’t asked. It’s mostly that he was easily manipulated, and that often sexual abuse perpetrated by children is a reenactment of abuse they experienced elsewhere. It seems like putting two and two together. + +Unfortunately, the bottom line is I don’t know if he would do it again. And I’m not comfortable taking that chance. I don’t want him to interact with my daughter. As it stands, he lives in another state, in a house with my father. I would like my dad to interact with the kid but not my brother. I actually am not sure if my dad knows about the sexual abuse. My dad has offered to fly me out to visit, but I just don’t want my child around my brother. I don’t know how to bring it up with either of them but it absolutely needs to be addressed. My sister is the one who told me about the abuse. People in my family don’t usually talk about things until they’re at the point of blowing up or breaking down. + +How can I approach the subject with minimal conflict? I’m trying to avoid high stress situations because of my pregnancy, but clearly this is an inevitable conversation. At this point I’m focusing on damage control.",0 +5823,"Just broke the news to my parents. I’m 26, Indian, Hindu living in the USA. I just broke the news to my parents that I’m in love with a guy who’s a Christian (Indian). I come from a Brahmin family, I’ve never been into religions, caste and stuff. But my parents are old school. My elder sister married a guy from another caste few years ago. He is not from a lower caste in their opinion. My mom was neutral about their wedding but my dad didn’t attend. They have a baby now and my dad is doing well with them now. My mom brings up all those incidents now and tells me that both her daughters didn’t wish for her to be happy. + + +They still want me to get into arranged marriage. My parents consider our family as upper caste and my boyfriend’s family is lower class. My dad even though disappointed, said he can’t fight because he understands that no good can come from that. My mom has been worrying all night on what people would think, how everyone is going to blame them and that I did this out of spite. She woke up in the middle of the night and obviously wasn’t quiet so I had to wake up, she then wished she didn’t give birth to me or my sister and that she wants to end her life. She is worried that she won’t be respected by anyone anymore. These words didn’t surprise me as I have always been hearing them from my childhood days. I’m trying to stay strong but these words still hurt me. I don’t know why I’m sharing maybe for validation or some pick me ups or tips from parents POV on how to make them stay at peace",0 +5824,"My dad chose to go on holiday rather than come to my wedding. So this happened a while ago but I'm still upset, I am looking for advice in whether my dad should still be invited to my wedding. + +FYI wedding was originally going to be in Sri Lanka. + +So, I (24f) got engaged to my Boyfriend and when I told my dad and stepmum they both pretty quickly told me if I have the wedding in April then it'd be easier for them as its the Easter holidays and my little brother and sister would be able to come. Which I had planned anyway as I wanted them as flower girls/boys, etc. + +I started planning for an April Wedding and then a few weeks later my dad comes to me and sits me down and says he and the family have decided to go to Vietnam in April and said ""I'm telling you now, we will not be in this country or any other country for those two weeks in April"". By other country I can only assume he meant Sri Lanka. Later on he then told me he guesses he can fly over for the day of the wedding. + + I was pretty upset, although didn't show it at the time and decided if he would rather go on holiday than to his eldest daughters wedding then I didn't want him here. + +The thing is, now the date of the wedding has changed to March, when they are not on holiday. I no longer speak to my dad or much of his family (edit: not speaking is not do do with the wedding situation) but others think I should still invite him to my wedding. What do you guys think? + + +TLDR - my dad chose to go on holiday rather than come to my wedding, wedding plans changed and it is now being held on a date he is not on holiday, should I reinvite him?",0 +5825,"My mom caused my bother and sister to become morbidly obese... I've had so many arguments and fights over this topic where she buys them fast food every other day since they were 6 + +Buying family sized Pepsi with meals even though I tell her no to + +And letting my younger brother and sister eat whatever they like without any regard for what's healthy for them + +I've been attacked by my whole family because of how ""strict"" and ""intolerant"" I am when it comes to junk food + +We live in a desert area, so outdoor activities is pretty much non existent + +My brother's BMI is currently 46, he's just 23 + +My sister is about 40 BMI, she's only 14 + +It makes me sick thinking about the struggles in life ahead of them because of my mom feeding them all this junk food when they were young kids + +Diabetes, heart disease, loneliness, infertility and not being able to have kids + +And yet + +My family have reached a point where they ""troll me"" using this topic because they know how I much I hate fast food and sugar, and how much I'm concerned about their health + +They send pictures of desserts and burgers on the family group chat saying things like ""it's delicious"" and mentioning my name + +I reached a point where I feel like quitting and letting them experience whatever it is they're heading towards and cutting all my losses and moving on, taking care of my own health and my future children's health + +It's just sad that a child at 14 never had a chance to experience what it's like to have a healthy body, and it pains my soul to think about it. + +I have no idea what to do.. + +TLDR; My mom is the reason why my brother and sister are morbidly obese, and they're not aware how seriously sick they are.",0 +5826,"My mum followed me after I left home, and I don't know what to do. Hey all, I hope this isn't too messy. + +I am a 19 year old and find myself in a dilemma with my family. I was in my last year of pre-medicine in Australia, but dropped everything, left home and moved to Paris, now studying law. It was hard at first, but I’ve finally settled in a small apartment with a healthy and stable routine. + +On short notice, my mother has relocated the whole family to my apartment (her, and my two sisters, aged 8 and 15). I have given them my room and taken the couch. Every morning and often in the afternoon/night also, the kids are left at home with me and it is impossible to study. My 8 year old sister has terrible behavioural issues and they are always for me to deal with. When I ask my mum to get the little one to leave me alone to study, my mum refuses to tell her anything at all. + +At night when I call my boyfriend before bed she will constantly interrupt, to tell me off that I’m not focusing on my studies or mock me for making a “baby voice” with him (which isn’t even true). Since day 1 she’s been making trouble, and constantly raises her voice at me and yells at me for anything (asking everyone not to wear their shoes in the house, asking my sister to stop wasting the food I buy, scolding me for being on the phone with my boyfriend, shaming me for my weight even though I'm fine, etc.). My place was spotless, and suddenly is filthy, with clothes everywhere and a general, big mess that they refuse to clean. + +She’s got no plans on leaving anytime soon and has even been suggesting to leave one or both of the children with me while she leaves on vacation. I used to have a very healthy routine of waking up, my morning preparations, studying, doing my hobbies, going out for exercise and then spending the evening with my boyfriend on the phone. Which is now completely disrupted. We argue constantly (she is obsessed with the fact that I have a boyfriend) and at one point, she said that just because I’ve been away from her for two months doesn’t mean that she can’t tell me what to do. I have no idea how I can fix this problem. It’s impacting the time I can spend on my relationship and also my ability to study (with exams right around the corner!). Any advice? + +TLDR: After leaving home and moving to a different country, my mother has relocated the family to my apartment with no clear intention of leaving. It's affecting me, and my sisters. Advice would be appreciated. + +​ + +Edit: Thanks so much for the advice, everyone. I really really appreciate. Just thought I'd clear that we are all French citizens but lived our entire lives in Australia. ",0 +5827,"Aunt shamed us for celebrating Thanksgiving. My husband worked on Thanksgiving so we're having our Thanksgiving dinner today. His Aunt who lives in Canada, wrote me a snarky letter on Facebook about celebrating today. + + +She said, "" Today is not a celebration day for us Canadians."" + + +I replied that I know that Thanksgiving is celebrated in October in Canada--I live in the USA. + + +She said that she wasn't referring to that, but that today is the day my husband's father died eight years ago, and that we should be remembering him. + + +I was floored. I can't believe she said that. My husband works in emergency medicine and just worked a long stretch and will begin another long stretch tomorrow. This is the only day we have to celebrate Thanksgiving. Also, we try not to think about our loses on the holidays but are grateful for our many blessings. + + +Also my husband's father was an abusive drunk, and my husband really didn't grieve for him. +Of course, I won't tell her that, but I'm not really sure how to reply to her.",0 +5828,"What’s the most hurtful thing your partner has said to you?. My ex (m36) told me he could sleep with whoever he wants and no one will ever want me (f36) while I’m pregnant with our baby! + +This is in no way the worst thing he has said to me, I think it’s just taken away the last bit of self worth i had (he said it about a month ago) + +I was with him for 16 traumatic years, he mentally, physically, sexually, financially and emotionally abused me, oh and of course cheated on me multiple times. + +I’m going to write a post all about it one day, in hopes i can save someone else, if we had of stayed together one day he would of killed me, in fact he threatened to three times last year.",0 +5829,"I can't help but feel like I ruined my family.. So, context: Last year at Christmas, I (18) snooped around my dad's (41) phone since I was getting curious who he was talking to all the time. My mom (42) is a nurse, and works 8 hour shifts so she's gone most of the day. Curiosity killed the cat, and I found out that he talks to ""his friends"" through an app that he deletes when my mom comes home. I couldn't find any exchange of messages that directly showed he was cheating but, why would he feel the need to delete the app if he wasn't? It was incredibly hard for me to endure what I found so I told my closest cousins about this. As the months passed by, I have collected several screenshots of him talking to women and most importantly, I was able to get concrete evidence (exchange of messages) that confirmed he was indeed cheating on my mom. I always told my cousins everything in a group chat, so we kind of kept this thing between ourselves. My mom sometimes uses my phone and when she did earlier, she discovered me and my cousin's group chat. She asked me what I knew about my dad and I told her everything. Then, I hear my parents arguing, dishes breaking, and crying. After a while, I talk with my mom in a room. + +She just had so much to worry about this year: me starting college and the expenses that would come with it, my brother (21) needing to complete flying hours (he's studying to be a pilot) before he graduates and the amount of money needed to pay for his school, and most importantly, our upcoming interview in the US embassy so we can finally migrate to the US. When she found out about my dad cheating, everything that she had planned for our family is suddenly affected. They want to get divorced. She still needs to migrate and bring my brother to US, so that would leave me and my younger brother (9) alone in our home country. Honestly, telling everything here would be too long and confusing but she had planned every single thing to the tiniest details and now everything is ruined. + +My mom doesn't blame me. But I can't help but feel like I ruined everything for her. If I just had kept this secret for a little longer, maybe things would turn out differently. I desperately want to cut connections with my dad, but I worry about my little brother. I am just so lost and scared right now, and have no idea what to do next. + +TL;DR: I find out my dad has been cheating on my mom, she accidentally discovers it. Now everything that she has planned for the next few years is ruined. + +Edit: My dad just apologized to me. He said he had already talked to my mom and that they are on good terms already. He said he was sorry that I got caught up in this and that he'd never do it again. I felt a bit angry since that was what he said in the past then he cheated on my mom again. I don't know if what I did was right but I stayed silent, not really acknowledging his sorry. Well that and I couldn't really speak without crying. + +Hiii english isn't my first language so I'm sorry if there are grammatical errors :))",0 +5830,"In Laws constantly rejecting me. Husband doesn't want to get in the middle. I'm heartbroken.. Hello all. Throwaway, as I am an avid redditor, and dont know if the people being mentioned have accounts. + +For context, I've been with my Husband for 13 years now. We dated for a year before I met his family because I have severe social anxiety and wanted to wait for our relationship to get serious before introducing that step. His family was upset with me over this, stating that it was ""disrespectful"" of me to wait that long. I wasn't trying to be disrespectful, but I literally get sick to my stomach thinking of meeting new people, so it took a long time to gather the courage. +Since then, things have always been rocky between my in laws and I. My husband has a child from a previous marriage, and they always made out of line comments about me in regards to my stepdaughter. For instance, my mother in law took it upon herself to bash me on a public forum instead of speaking to me directly, stating I'm ""Hitler"" keeping my stepdaughter in a ""concentration camp"" all because I asked her to do chores. The chores in question? Rinse the dishes and load them in the dish washer. My stepdaughter didn't want to do it and so she told her grandparents, my in laws, that I'm ""mean"" to her and make her do things she doesn't want to do. It's ironic because she only does that ""chore"" once every other month or so. She doesn't even have daily or weekly chores. Still, my in laws told me I shouldn't ask her to do anything and that I ""knew what I was getting into and therefore should shut my mouth and do it instead of telling her to."" + +Then there's my Husband's baby mama, who regrets getting divorced from my husband, so when she heard he got remarried, she contacted my mother in law via Facebook messenger, and they both trashed talked me saying horrible things about my appearance, how my husband should leave me, how he deserves a ""real woman"", etc...and then baby mama screenshot it and sent it to me, laughing. To let me know that despite her cheating on their son and giving him a child that turned out not to be his, that they would still choose her over me. To this day I've been nothing but good to their son and cordial to them, so this really killed me. + +My Husband didn't want to confront his mom because he didnt want to believe his mom did that, even when i showed him the screenshots. He asked me to forgive her and try to have a relationship with her despite this. I swallowed my pride and reached out. We ended up forming, what I thought was a relationship. Before I knew it I would be invited over every couple of days, and mother in law and I would sit at her kitchen table, laugh, drink tea, and bond. I really started to feel comfortable, began spilling my guts out about my life in a bid for her to get to know me, and felt like I finally had a ""family"", because I didn't have one growing up. + +Imagine my surprise when I receive screenshots yet again from baby mama, containing a conversation between her and my mother in law, where my mother in law told her everything I had said in private. This was about my upbringing, my hurts, everything. My mother in law and her ex daughter in law were bonding over bashing me. I had an emotional break down and felt beyond inconsolable. My husband immediately went to his parents house and let his mom have it. But since then, I have received the cold shoulder from them. Any text I send to extend an olive branch goes ""read"" but no reply, any family event, I was told second hand that only ""family"" was invited to, and my mother in law flaunts her relationship with my husband's baby mama, calling her ""daughter"". My mother in law is angry at me causing a discord between her and her son after finding out about the private conversation, and she stands by the fact that it was ""private"" and so wasn't any of my business. Because my heart can't hold onto hate, I sent an edible arrangement with a long letter to them 2 days ago, hoping to open the channel up for a conversation, but instead found myself blocked on all social media platforms. I am in shambles. I've been good to their son, and good to their granddaughter. And I have exhausted myself trying to be the bigger person over and over again. Reddit, help me not care about their rejection anymore. It's so hard not to internalize this as a reflection of my worth.",0 +5831,"My parents are getting a divorce. So my (15f) mom moved out today. Dad caught her cheating or the guy told him or some stuff like that. A lot of arguing ensued and finally she just told him she couldn’t handle being a mom and wife and feeling like that’s all she was or something. She especially couldn’t handle that my little sister (13f) is pregnant and that my dad won’t let mom force her to get an abortion if she doesn’t want. He’s still pissed but has already told her she’s gonna have to grow up a little and decide what she wants. + +This all came out last night and today mom left. She didn’t even say goodbye just packed up her bags. Dad sat us down and was all like mom just needs some time and shit like that. + +I honestly don’t know how I feel about this. My older brother (18) and my older sister (also 18) don’t seem to really care. My younger sisters (the 13 yo and 8yo) are crying uncontrollably but I just don’t feel a thing. As far as dad goes it’s easy to see he’s devastated. He’s trying to pretend he’s not though. + +I don’t know why I’m posting this and I hope it’s ok I am. I guess I just want to know if it’s ok that I just feel nothing. So is that ok?",0 +5832,"My brother (16) keeps threatening to kill the family. We were adopted by our grandparents on our dad's side because our mother was neglectful and abusive. I used to have homicidal thoughts but I grew out of that quickly once I was put into a normal home. My brother however has only gotten worse over the years despite our grandparents trying to get him all the help he needs. He has a history of violent outbursts and takes it out on our younger siblings who can't defend themselves. Has pushed our Grandpa to the floor (They are old and frail.) And recently keeps saying how easy it would be to kill everyone in the house. Our Grandma is scared of him and our Grandpa keeps brushing off his behavior as 'normal'. + +At this point I'm more concerned for my two younger siblings because I don't see my brother changing for the better. + +Edit: He is in a mental hospital now (long term.)",0 +5833,"Sister-in-law keeps leaving her child (my niece) at mum's. I live with my mum, so after the handover between her and mum, I pretty much care for my niece the whole day. + +There is no thank you, rather I feel jealousy is brewing since my niece is very clingy to me and often tells her mum to ""go away"" in her little tantrum voice (despite myself telling her she can't say that to her mum) + +I work from home and this habit has completely decimated my structure. I even have to move my work-out around my nieces structure. + +\~Anyway today was exceptionally difficult as my niece is sick and I couldn't get her to stop coughing and vomiting. I'm wondering what exactly is her mother doing that she can't be with her daughter right now. She doesn't have any real employment, she does odd jobs for my brother who manages two shops. From literally 10am to 7:30pm-8pm my niece is at home with me. I stay up late in the evening to complete work, and I'm just so tired of this structure and wish she could stop talking how motherhood has changed her but actually prove it with actions. + +I'm so worried because she is pregnant with a second and I am literally exhausted. Whereas she has the financial protection of my brothers earning, I have to make my own living while caring for their children with no compensation.",0 +5834,"I just found out my parents are pregnant with twins after I moved out. Not even sure where to begin here but my family and I just found out my parents are pregnant with twins..(Que the total shock). I’m 21 and my little brother is 11, so I already have a crazy age gap with my bro. Mom is doing great and super healthy. + +Here is where I’m struggling — I moved out earlier this summer about 40 minutes away and typically go home to visit over the weekends because I nanny for a living (I also freelance in SMM/Digital marketing). + +Due to my dad’s crazy work schedule, he just won’t have the time and availability to help much with the twins and I’m already feeling overwhelmed for my parents. My mom made a small comment about me moving back in to help occasionally and I’m honestly feeling so guilty, especially since I work AS a nanny. It feels wrong to watch other people’s kids when I know my mom will be home taking care of twins. Am I crazy for feeling this way? How do I balance being a good daughter/sister but still have my own life? I’m considering switching to a fully remote position to have more flexibility to help. + +(PLEASE no negative comments, I’m stressed enough 🤣 All of the love and positivity please!)",0 +5835,"Ashamed of Large Family?. Hello, I wanted to ask if it's normal to be ashamed of a large family. For a bit of background: I am 15 yo, and there are seven kids in my house (five are younger than me), and my mom is pregnant with another one. We are poor, and I often wonder why my parents would ever have so many kids since we don't have the money to do so comfortably. My mom doesn't work even though she has a degree. Having a lot of kids isn't connected to my parents' religion at all, so I just don't understand. Whenever I try to ask my mom why, she just gets mad and evades the question. I just can't help resenting them. The house is a terrible, horrible mess. Food is often left out overnight, the toilet hardly ever gets clean, there's dirty clothes in every room, and the sink is always piled high with dirty dishes. We don't have a dishwasher and we only have one bathroom. For all nine (almost ten) of us. When I am around a family member individually in public, I'm usually not ashamed of them, unless it's my mom or brother (my mom always wears dirty and stained clothing everywhere, and my brother is really gross and strange, even in public). But when my whole family is in public at the same time, or at least the majority of us, I am extremely ashamed and don't want to be associated with this big group of people. Even in our home, I can't stand being around them all at once for any length of time. I start to get irritated and upset about the state of things. Is this normal? Is there any way to not feel like this? Thank you.",0 +5836,"I had sex with my dads boss [update]. Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/family/comments/rv762m/i_m18_have_been_having_sex_with_my_dads_boss_and/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf + +Hey, it’s been a month since I posted the original post about me, my dad and his boss. I got a dm a little while ago asking if I was okay. that I only saw now so I thought I would make an update. + +Things have been pretty shit, to be honest, I followed the advice of sending him a letter and then leaving the ball in his court, but he hasn’t responded or talked to me since he found out me and his then-boss so I think my relationship with my dad is completely over and ruined, but I did get a text from my step mum calling me a “disgusting faggot” so he’s definitely talked her about what happened. The boss won’t leave me alone. every time I block him he messages me from a new account or a new phone number telling me he was sorry and if he can see me, I’ve stopped reading them and just now just block him. + +I’ve begun talking to a professional about my mental health which I think is helping me. My therapist has given me some help regarding how to process what’s happened. + +I still feel awful for what I did to him but knowing I’ve ruined everything between us just makes me feel empty. + +I'm gonna send him one last message and then I won't contact him again. + +I know this isn't the happiest update but writing this all out kinda made me feel better + +I also wanted to thank everyone who took the time to comment and give me advice even though it didn't work, please know I really appreciate it.",0 +5837,"I just discovered my dad was murdered. First of all, I'm (16F) hispanic, english is not my first language, so sorry for any mistakes I might make. For clarification, my dad is not my bio dad, but he has been there for me through my childhood while my bio father had never been in the picture. Onto the issue: + +My dad died around 6 or so years ago. He was a known politician, but for privacy I won't mention who he was. My mom told me he had died because of a car accident, and his death had caused me to develop depression for years. I had become quiet and antisocial, and I would break down crying randomly at any given time, needless to say I loved my dad. I still struggle with his death, but I am in a better position mentally. + +Today, while lying in bed with my brother, he showed me a picture he found of my dad, and while looking at it, I saw it was attached to an article that mentioned the word ""murdered"" which caught my attention. I searched for the article on my own, and found out he had been shot to death, and found very graphic pictures of his lifeless body. I honestly wanted to puke, not just because of the pictures, but because of I had just found out the real cause of his death. I couldn't hide my tears from my grandparents and talked with them about the issue, but I'm scared of approaching my mother with this. Any advice?",0 +5838,"Is it normal for my mom to check her childrens heartbeats and breathing at night?. It’s an obsession, she has to know that her children are breathing. She checks their breathing 2-3 times per day (when they are sleeping) When I bring up the fact that it’s not the healthy to some extent, she shuts me out and tells me that I possibly couldn’t understand since I am a ”child” (i’m 18). Idk if she suffers from OCD, since she shows a couple more symptoms of it. She doesn’t have any traumas related to checking someones breathing to my knowledge. I want to hear your perspectives, what could this possibly mean?",0 +5839,"My husbands family disowned him. +Hi so my husband (25M) and I (25F) got married last year after years of his family not approving. They didn’t accept me, I wasn’t the perfect daughter in law and they gave him a choice either them or me. He chose me and I feel guilty every day since he is no longer in contact with his brothers or sisters. They all chose to cut him off completely. Sometimes he tries to text them every few months and they always leave him on read. BUT whenever they need something like recently they wanted him to remove the younger brother from his ps4 out of the blue. He was so mad they didn’t even ask him how he was, they just asked him to do something they needed. Then they go back to ignoring him. He goes ahead and does it because that’s his family. But secretly I just want him to stop replying. I think he wants to prove he’s the better person and that ignoring family is wrong. But he’s in pain every time he responds and they ignore him again for the next x months until they need something again. Should I tell him to stop replying to them? Is that wrong?",0 +5840,"My grandma is infuriating. My mother's mother (82F) is a nightmare! She keeps making vulgar statements to me (22F) and my mum (50F) about her genitalia. Her balance is bad and on a few occasions, she's grabbed my tits to get up, thinking it was funny and it makes me feel very uncomfortable and embarrassed. She does it in front of my mum. I went on a date to the cinema a few months ago and she was asking me sexual questions about it in front of my uncle (53M) he even told her he didn't want to hear about that kind of stuff about his niece. She has a neighbor (21F) who wears crop tops and shorts and she keeps asking me why I don't dress like her and show my ""nice figure"" off. She was upset about my little cousin (17M) transitioning to male because she remembered bathing him and changing his nappy and saying he was a ""perfect little girl."" Is my grandma a creep?",0 +5841,"My mom (F42) isn't understanding my elder sister (F21). How do i (F16) explain it to my mom?. So, my mom got remarried 2 days back and my sister doesn't want to change her surname to that of our step dad's. She doesn't want to call him 'dad' as well because she doesn't feel that bond. +My mom and step dad aren't understanding as they think that my sister's feeling isn't valid. I know my mom doesn't mean wrong for my sister. I want to make things ok because my sister is angry with my mom. And my mom is worried about my sister. I want to make my mom understand my sister's point. My mom feels that a man (her new husband) is finally accepting us as his daughters and my sister is just insulting his love and acceptance. How do I explain it to her ? +I belong to an Indian family.",0 +5842,"I heard my parents having sex. Im f17. Its not the first time it had happened, I’ve trained myself to either go to bed very late or very early, not during the hour that they’re getting in bed. But usually i get over it after a couple of days (i never said anything, they dont know i can hear). But each time i hear my mom moan I immediately put my headphones on and try not to puke. Im scared to bring friends to sleepovers because im scared they’ll do it and the friend could hear thems too because it feels like they’ve so unaware of themselves and their surroundings. My dad showers and dresses with the door opens and their room is right down the hallway so everyone who goes down the hall see right into their bedroom, and I’ve trained myself to close my eyes until i get into my bedroom each time he’s home because seeing him naked grosses me out. + +Today i got back home from a friend in the afternoon and my mom wrote in the family chat group that she’s going down for a nap so I’ll be quiet when i get in. I did. I got in as quietly as possible and made myself a glass of water before hearing a loud moan from my mom and my heard sank to my chest, I immediately put on headphones with music and waited about thirty minutes trying not to cry and puke. I cant handle this stuff. Im planning on making a big deal out of it this time since they knew I’ll be home soon and still decided to do it in the middle of the day. I feel so angry and anxious and i dont know what to do. I grabbed some stuff and texted them im going to sleepover at a friend’s tonight. I cant look at them eight now. It was the last straw. +And i know i sound dramatic and selfish and childish but i cant help but feel this way. I know couples have sex, but i cant help with my dad having no boundaries with his body while having three teenage daughters at home. And i cant help but feel angry at their sex habits because I actually rather die than go back to this house for the next couple of days. + +I made this anonymous account because i guess i needed to vent about this, or maybe get some advice on what to do because im literally in the bathroom at my friend’s house shaking. Today was seriously the last straw.",0 +5843,"LGBT teen. My 15 year old nephew just came out to me as gay. He hasn't told his parents yet and doesn't really have plans to at the moment. I know if my brother finds out that I knew and he didn't, he's going to be mad. He's not homophobic (I think) but it's more about me knowing something about his son that he doesn't. But I still think the right thing to do is to keep this information private until my nephew is ready to come out to his parents - right? + +UPDATE thanks for advice everyone. I definitely won't tell anyone.",0 +5844,Normalise not seeing family on christmas.. Can we just normalise not seeing family on Christmas. Especially when they barely make the effort to talk or see you.,0 +5845,"Got pregnant late in life…. My baby won’t have grandparents or family, it’s so sad. I lost my mom when I was in my early 20s. I tried getting pregnant before she passed and the dr told me I never would be able to have children, Now my dad has remarried, we don’t speak. Most of my family has passed away or moved on. Well I’m 39 and recently got pregnant!! I have absolutely no family. I’m not worried about diapers or major things I have bought everything. I already know I won’t have a shower. The saddest part is.. my baby won’t have cousins to play with or family, no grammaw time. So sad",0 +5846,"Is it okay for parents to use older siblings to get a long break from parenting daily?. Whenever I (16 F, I don't know if this is needed but i see notations like these are needed, but I see these in posts like these) get home from school my sister (4 F) is sent into my room where I am alone with her for 2-5 hours. She typically watches my computer and I cannot use it for the duration she uses it (reducing my productivity). She can also be very messy and destructive, she also likes to take things she finds interesting for herself and I'm not allowed to take them back. This arrangement has made me not like going home right afterschool and not enjoy time with my sister since it is frequently forced upon me and unpleasant. I'm not sure if this is a normal and fine thing and I just need to get used it or if it's something I need to work up the courage to address. + +Edit: tried telling her and she tried to gaslight me and say 'it's for a few minutes' and 'siblings have duties'.I forgot despite the fact she acts like she's completely open to discussion it's less discussion and more 'let me explain to you why I'm right and you're wrong'",0 +5847,"My mother did a topless shoot. Hello everyone, would like some advice on this situation lol. For context I’m a male (22) and recently my mum (45) decided to do a professional photoshoot of herself. She’s been working out for the last couple of years and she’s proud of the progress she’s made and wanted to get professional pics done as this is the best shape she’s ever been in. + +She wanted to do the photoshoot in a set of bikinis on the beach and mentioned she wanted to get a couple topless photos done as well. I really didn’t know how to feel about that but it’s not like I could stop her. It’s her life. + +She was really happy with the way the photos turned out. And she was excited to show me the results. She connected her laptop to the TV and we went through the photos one by one. The moment the ones of her topless came up. I didn’t know how to feel or what to say. I was really confused and shocked. + +Don’t get me wrong I’m proud of my mum for how hard she’s worked on her body. And I’m happy that she’s happy with the results of the photo shoot. But idk I just felt kinda awkward seeing her topless. Am I overthinking this and being dramatic? + +How would anyone here react if they saw a family member naked? Or have any of your family members done something like this?",0 +5848,"My mom told me she didn’t want me anymore today. I’m 15f and today, my mom told my dad he could keep me. We had a big fight 2 weeks ago and I’ve been staying with my dad to let her and myself recover and apologize like all the other times we had fights. But this time, she didn’t apologize. She told my dad that I had to give her the house keys and never come back. I’m going to pick up my stuff tomorrow and I don’t know how to feel. Does anyone know how to deal with this. I have to leave my cat and half of my family because of this. I am sad. +Tl/dr: my mom abandoned me and I need help on how to deal with it. + +Edit: I realized i didn’t give enough context. We had a great relationship but occasionally had fights like that. This time it was because I accidentally didn’t answer a message she sent me. I don’t know what made this fight worse that the last ones but she got physical. Today I am going back to « move out » of her house and collect everything from my room. She blocked my number and social media accounts, told her side of the family to block me too. Yes, she was physically and verbally abusive at occasions. Those are the things I forgot to tell. + +Edit 2: she did not want me to get my personal belongings and money back. My dad and I knocked at the door and she refused to answer.",0 +5849,"My dads new girlfriend and her daughter are taking over my and my brothers rooms. Ok so my parents got divorced about 8 years ago and my dad has now moved on with his ex, let’s call her E, from right before my mom. He very much described E to me through my parents’ marriage as the one who got away, he would continually talk and fantasize about her while they were married (he even continued to keep the line of communication open by FB messaging her many times while my parents were married), and often said marrying my mom was a mistake but was settling so he could have kids birthed and raised the way he wanted. He even proposed to E 30 years ago but she rejected it and he eventually left her bc she was cheating w many men. He has since moved on from my parents’ divorce, finally settling into a house that feels like home for my brother and me. We both have our own rooms and it’s a haven for us. I’m 24 and doing grad school in another state but come back to visit/stay w my family a lot. I had plans to return and stay w my dad during winter semester as Ill be taking some time off school then. My brother is 20 and still in college but returns home often. After many many moves and many chaotic years of their nasty divorce, it has felt like the dust has kind of settled and it’s nice to have an extra home and we feel very welcome/that it’s our place. + +Well a year ago he started dating E after finding out she’s getting divorced and lives about 30 min away from him. She has a 9 year old, let’s call O, and has not even filed for divorce bc she will have to pay alimony to her ex. She has full custody over the kid bc the ex is allegedly an alcoholic. They’ve been dating for only a year now and from what my dad tells me it is very toxic (she uses him for free babysitting, gets upset when he wants to hang out with friends/me when I’m back in town, freaks out if he doesn’t answer the phone immediately, is very very jealous) and she was not very kind when I met her once. Last week she applied to get her 9 year old into a new school in my hometown where my dad lives and unexpectedly got in. My dad let me know beforehand that he did not expect her to get in, wouldn’t want them to move in anyways if she did bc theyre slobs and he likes having his own space and spaces for us, but immediately after she got in, he texted me brother me and me that we have to move out bc they’re moving in. She completely was the facilitator of that decision but he’s clearly going along with it to placate her. They will reconfigure the house so O takes my room, my dad and E will make my brother’s room the master, and my dads old room will be her closet. He’s made it clear theyre his new priority in life, he has gaslit me into feeling like I’m crazy for feeling that the dynamics bw us are changing, and now this solidifies that he is replacing us with the life he always wished he had. Is it wrong to feel hurt by losing my physical place in his home, feeling replaced by these shitty people, and not wanting to see my dad after he’s chosen them? I know I’m grown but it hurts to feel replaced and like I don’t have a home to come home to anymore.",0 +5850,"I’m adopted. Yesterday (or technically 2 days ago now) my dad sat me down and told me I was adopted as baby. I thought I was born in Swansea and moved to my current home in south England at an early age. Turns out I was born in a town outside of Swansea, put up for adoption as a baby (I don’t know the reason why and I want to keep it that way). There I was found my parents, who changed both my first and last names, and moved to my hometown. + +My dad said I should’ve known sooner but he didn’t dare tell me in case it caused me sone mental issues. So he waited until now where he felt fit to tell me. He said if I ever needed any form of therapy or needed answers he’d be more than happy to assist me. + +I’m still processing everything, because it’s understandably a big shock. I never thought I was adopted. I mean, sure I look a bit different to my parents. Like my hair is slightly lighter and I’ve always been on the chubby side. But that’s easily overlooked though right? Your not gonna be identical to your parents are you? + +If anything I respect my parents even more now I know the truth, because I know how difficult it can be to tell people the truth from my own experience (I was diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago). I admire my parents so much for the fact that they took the time to take me on as a baby, with no obligation to do so. I don’t really know what I’m gonna do from now on. If you took the time to read this, thank you so much :)",0 +5851,my father hit me because I intervened in his fight with my mother that he was about to hit. This has been happening for the last few years. I can't take anything anymore. i'm a minor and I just want peace. Be happy with my dogs (center of the whole fight) and be a musician. Everyday my rage fills more about him.,0 +5852,"Husband hates my mother. My husband and I have been married for 4 years, 8 years together. Everything started out fine with my mother until one day she decided to make comments about his work and lack there of (he worked a union job and generally in the winter months it’s slow and he’s laid off but still collects unemployment). Ever since then it’s been kind of rocky but my husband has bit his tongue. She was never really excited when we got engaged, got married or announced we were pregnant. My mother and I have had a tumultuous relationship over the years but she has been there for me when I had my son and was a single mom for a few years before I met my husband. Anyway there have been periods of time throughout my life where her and I have blow up fights and don’t speak for months. Once we had my daughter my husband boils whenever she makes any kind of suggestion about parenting like oh it’s cold she should put socks on etc. I think this is just her being a grandma but it’s gotten to the point where last year he told her essentially don’t tell me what to do with my kid when you’re in my house or you can leave and my mom was so offended she left and didn’t speak to us for months. I’ve tried talking to her about her overstepping boundaries and she thinks we’re too sensitive and she’s just being a grandma. Well eventually after 8 months not speaking she came with flowers on my birthday and apologized but now a few months later she’s back at making her little comments about the kids should be this or that and my husband is at a point that he said she’s not allowed to see our daughter anymore and he never wants to see her again. I want to side with my husband but I also feel like my mom doesn’t have bad intentions and I would feel very guilty if I cut her out of mine and my kids lives and then something happened to her. People of Reddit I need advice. + +Ps I have offered to go to therapy with her but she refuses",0 +5853,"Was anyone else this shocked when the became an adult?. So It’s a few months until I’m nineteen years old, and suddenly I feel like something clicked, maybe a month or so ago? I used to always think my parents were annoying, but now whenever my parents and younger siblings are arguing all I can think is that my sibling are so rude and disrespectful, not only to my parents but to each other. Honestly I’m a little appalled to think I might have acted like that at some point. And I’m not saying they shouldn’t question authority, I just think they could do a little better at treating my parents like actual human beings. They literally insult my parents to their faces and outright ignore them all the time for pretty much no reason. Not to mention they also yell at each other and insult each other as well. The weird thing is I didn’t feel this way a few months ago. This is so crazy.",0 +5854,"Mom refuses to treat me as an adult. Opinions?. I would like to start off by stating I am 28(F) and the youngest of 4. I am the ""baby"" of the family. As I grew up, my mom found it difficult to cope. She cried on milestone Birthdays (15,18,21,25). Additionally, she continues to call me her baby, which is fine but she does it in front of aunts uncles and everyone, doesn't matter. If it was just her using an endearing nickname I wouldn't care but in my opinion she takes it a little too far. She literally treats me like a child. There are times when we have differing opinions and she will be relentless with me arguing with me until I give in. I get visibly upset and she does not care. She feels that because she is the mom, her opinions are more valid and I should give in to her because ""Mother knows best"". It can be as small as what plate to eat out of to speaking up for me when I didn't need or want her to. For example; today my family and I were debating whether to take a taxi back home or walk (about a 25-30min walk). The group decided to walk. I made a comment to her and said ""If I knew we were going to walk, I would of brought my gym shoes"" (I had thin sandals on) she literally stopped the whole group from walking and demanded we get a taxi because I was unable to walk in sandals and was going to hurt myself if I walked. She wasn't being condescending or sarcastic, she was dead serious. I was mortified. I never said any of that. I was so embarrassed and told her to stop and that I would walk, explaining that it was just a comment and I was fine to walk. She flagged down a taxi and practically shoved me in it, leaving half our group behind. When we got home she said ""Im going to protect you even if you get mad at me"" . I get that she's a mom and is protective but she honestly does too much. My aunts and uncles treat me younger than I am and I'm sure it's because of her. They literally treat me the same way they treat my minor teen family members and I'm literally almost 30yo. I feel this is a deeper rooted issue of her not accepting that I am an adult and my own person now. Or am I being dramatic? Opinions? + + +TLDR; Mom of 28F (me) treats me like a child by overpowering my opinions/needs. Am I being dramatic by letting this bother me?",0 +5855,"Why do family members get so weird after you have a baby?. I’m three months postpartum with my first baby and my in laws are driving me crazy. Compared to some other stories I’ve heard I don’t have it too bad but their still driving me crazy. My mother in law bought a play pin with a changing table and bassinet for her house before she bought us anything for the baby, she also has a good amount of baby stuff at her house and the baby doesn’t go over that much and is only there for an hour or two while I grocery shop. She also always give the baby a bath when she’s watching her even when I tell her she just got one that day. My sister in law makes tik tok’s where it looks like she’s her mom. If you didn’t know that it was my baby you would think it’s hers. She’s also 20 years old and bought baby blankets to keep at her house. My other sister in law lives two hours away and is still scared to hold the baby but jokes ( at least I’m hopping she’s joking) that she has a whole nursery at her house and wants the baby to stay there. She’s barely three months old. It bugs me so much! I know it’s all out of love but I need some boundaries and I don’t know how to tell them. Their all so sensitive and the littlest comments set them all off. Has anyone else had this happen? Also I have talk to my husband about it and he doesn’t get it, he just thinks their all just really excited because our baby is the first grandchild. But I feel like this stuff hits the mom in different way.",0 +5856,"I'm changing my middle name and my family HATE me for it. Ive always hated my middle name so I'm finally getting it removed. My middle name is Margaret. No offense to all the Margarets out there, but I really dislike it and it doesn't go with the rest of my name. My mum gave me the name after her grandmother who she thought alot of, but I never knew her. + +I dont mean to be insensitive or hurt my mum, I've just never liked it even as a child and I dont identify with it. My mum is very upset. And the rest of my family are calling me pathetic and vain for wanting to change it. I pretended to throw the papers in the bin so they'd stop giving grief. + +I dont know what to do.",0 +5857,my sister (7) never leaves me alone. I'm 16 and whenever my friends come over she makes us play with her and never let's me hang out with them alone or she throws a tantrum. whenever I want to go out to hang with my friends she throws a tantrum so my mom makes me take her with us. I haven't gone out in weeks because I don't want to push babysitting on my friends. I love her and I make sure to spend a few hours of playing with her everyday but I don't know how to make her understand that I want to be with my friends alone. how do I get her to understand?,0 +5858,"My sister in law. A positive story (mostly). I met my future sister in law back in 1999 it was New Year’s Eve. She was 20 with a 2 year old son. She seemed nice enough. Was dating a nice guy. Over the next few years her life seemed to be always in flux. She dropped the nice guy and dated a drug dealer. She moved apartments every few months. Her bother and I lived an hour away so we only really heard from her on holidays or family events. A couple of times we babysat for her. In 2003 she was pregnant by the drug dealer. She gave birth to a girl. At the time she seemed a little rough and guarded. We had no idea where she was living. She was very thin. Her skin was horrible. We knew something was up and asked if there anything we could do to help. But she said it was all fine and she had it under control. + +In 2005 she finally admitted to needing help. She was living in a one bedroom apartment with 2 kids. She was single and sick. She had been on drugs for the last couple of years and hit rock bottom and decided to detox alone. She had no money, no food in the house and could not get out of bed. We went by Costco and picked up $300 worth of food and my spouse went to take care of her for a week. +After that she knew it was time to remove herself from her current environment. We drove up a week later and took anything salvageable from her apartment and brought her back to our condo. +It was a tight fit. We only had two bedrooms. We put the kids in the guest bedroom and moved our living room around and bought a cheap bed and she slept in the living room with some privacy screens we found cheap at a local store. +She instantly found work. But her credit was shot, so she was unable to rent a place and also unsure if she could juggle a new city, 2 kids, staying away from drugs and a new job. +So my spouse and I sold the condo and bought a 4 bedroom house a little further into the suburbs. The commute only added 20 minutes to my drive and it was in a better school district for the kids. +Over the next 3 years we saw everyone thrive. The kids were doing great. My sister in law had found a newer , better paying job. Was taking some night classes and was quickly making a positive impression on the company owners. +She was dating this super nice guy who loved the kids. +She moved out of our place and moved in with him just 5 minutes down the road to a nice apartment. +A year later they bought a house very close to us. +She had an actual a career at this point and was making double what she was making just over a year ago. +She had a third child with her new boyfriend and everyone was insanely happy. +There were some odd bumps in the road. Around 2011 I think she felt she was losing herself as just a mom and girlfriend and decided to put the heals on her relationship with her BF. He was the father of her child , and they lived together but she was not a fan of marriage. She wound up renting a small apartment that she could work out of. Because she worked from home and wanted to just be able to get from the chaos of 3 kids. +At one point they broke up and he lived in the house with the kids and she lived in the apartment. +Somehow they made it work. +Then at some point she wanted to own land and purchased 10 acres of land and built a nice house on it. +She had her own company at this point. +She and her BF decided to give things another try. They all moved to the farm. +In 2020 she was making $100k a month with her company. +She and investment properties. +She recently bought a house in another state so that she could expand her business out there. He stays with the kids during the school year and then on long weekends, holidays, vacations and summer he and their youngest daughter go to the second house to live with my sister in law. It’s not perfect. But it seems to work for them. +Her son helps her maintain the properties and makes a living wage +Her oldest daughter is just starting college and is living off campus in a condo that her mom bought for her. +The youngest is in 5th grade and as smart as a whip. + +So while their family life might make people question things a little. It’s undeniable that she is an amazing woman who went from nothing to making something out of herself. We are so proud of her. + +Sadly we don’t talk as much as we used to. She is incredibly busy and unfortunately we have let political differences cause some division between us (like so many Americans). But we are still proud and cannot wait to see what the next chapter in her life brings.",0 +5859,My Mom seems to only be interested in my money.. I’m 20 years old and moved out of my moms to be closer to my work. I am saving up to get my own place nearby and it’s all coming along perfectly. When I lived with my mom she always asked me for money out of the blue and most of the time I would cave in and give it to her but I would always later learn that she would never use it to pay a bill. One time she did manipulate me into taking on my rehab bill which I guess I am okay with paying but it doesn’t seem to be enough for her which makes me angry. She quit her job and wants to move across the us and now is now asking me for money so much that I don’t see how I can afford to even get my own place because of her. I don’t know how to tell my own mom that hey I’m done giving you money especially since it doesn’t make a difference. Also I paid for our dinner on my birthday last year? Thanks mom your love for me is based on how much I give you I am about to never forgive you for that. Not really sure what to do here!,0 +5860,"I 25F found out my husband 25M abandoned his son. 5 years ago. What should I do?. + +Long story short me and my husband have been married for one year. My husband confessed to me when he was 20 he and his girlfriend who was 20 at the time also had sex and she got pregnant. When she gave birth my husband left the hospital and left the kid. What should I do?",0 +5861,"My spouse hides things.. I just don’t understand it. My spouse (34f) NEVER puts something back in the place where she got it. Scissors are the worst. After being unable to find a pair, I started going through her stuff and found, no lie, 9 pairs of scissors hidden about our home. And when I say hidden, I mean lost. She doesn’t hide them intentionally, she just puts them somewhere out of the ordinary and instantly forgets. No lie, the woman has probably wasted weeks - if not months - of her life looking for stuff. + +Back when our baby was born, we would spend HOURS looking for the baby stuff (finger toothbrush, combs, etc). It got so bad I had to go out and buy extra items to hide where I could find them easily. + +Another one is tweezers. At one point there were at least six pairs of tweezers, yet I can never find any. I even went out and bought my own - hid them - and she still found them and now they’re gone. I just went to get them this morning. It’s actually quite shocking lol + +She also misplaces her car keys at least three times a week, which obviously causes delays and people being late for things. And these situations in turn cause my spouse to become a psycho hose beast, but not angry at herself for being careless and irresponsible, but angry at me for being annoyed I cannot find my child’s hairbrush. + +Btw, since I met her, she has lost $100.00, three cell phones (all of which I had to replace), as well countless debit cards and other forms of ID. + +I, on the other hand, have only lost is my patience.",0 +5862,"Brother/SIL got married on anniversary of my daughter's stillbirth, and didn't tell me, knowing the significance of the date for me.. A couple of years ago, my husband and I had a daughter that was stillborn. It was obviously traumatic for us and something that still affects us. + +Last year my brother got engaged to his girlfriend, and they mentioned to me they wanted to do a courthouse wedding with very few present and it would mean a lot to them if I would be a witness for them. I agreed happily. SIL then mentioned the date they wanted to do it on, and it was the anniversary date of my daughter's stillbirth. So I reminded them both the significance of that date to me, but said I would push through the fact that it's a sad day for me, if that's the date they really want. SIL immediately said she would pick another date as she didn't want her wedding anniversary to be on a date that has a sad meaning for us. They told me a new date that was a few months later than the first and we discussed what they wanted to do etc. +Three months later, I find out they actually went ahead and got married on the date of my daughter's anniversary anyway, using different witnesses obviously. Only, they didn't tell me. I found out via a general fb post the following day, despite the fact that I even spoke to my brother both the day of and the day before. When I expressed to my brother how it was upsetting to me that they didn't tell me personally that they had decided to use that date anyway, he told me they didn't mean to hurt me, but they didn't want to ""interrupt"" the meaning of the day for me, and so didn't tell me. SIL messaged me a week later saying simply she's sorry if it was a surprise for me. +They are now acting like there was nothing unusual that happened, but I still feel hurt by the whole thing. I feel disrespected and lied to, and as though I and our relationship (the sibling relationship. We have always gotten along well, ftr) are insignificant to them/my brother. Am I overreacting? + +TL;DR: my brother knowingly chose the anniversary of my daughter's stillbirth to marry, and then chose not to tell me about it, even though I had been involved in their plans prior. I found out via a general fb post. Am I wrong to be upset?",0 +5863,"I am complete. Tonight watching football with my stepson (14) he, I and the two dogs fell asleep on the couch together. That’s it. It’s the little things that really tug on my heart and this is it.",0 +5864,"My older brother sexually assaulted me and now my mom is trying to make me feel sorry for him. +It started when I was in first grade, my brother (4 yrs older) would sleep on the same bed with me and on some nights he would touched me inappropriately but I was too young to understand what happened. + +Fast forward to when I was around 15, my older brother, who was finishing highschool at the time, would sneak into my bedroom at night, removed my pants while I was sleeping and sexually assaulted me. He also would put my hand on his private parts. After waking up to it happening one time, I was traumatized and unable to tell anyone about it. + +He basically ruined the first half of my life. I had to leave the country for bachelor degrees, when I came back due to Covid-19 my dad passed away and I was unable to find a job. Obviously, I became depressed and suicidal-> I finally opened up to my therapist and he told me that’s it’s ok to be angry and not forgive my older brother. + +So i told my mom about it, Im now 25 with a stable job and in a happy relationship. It just feels like it doesn’t hurt as much to talk about it now so it’s ok to tell her. Her reaction to it is just.. triggering + +To summed it up +1. She blamed my dad for being abusive to him. Excusing his behavior because he was “going through puberty and extremely repressed” or because my dad watch porn infront of him at young age and would hit him. + +2. Begged for me to forgive him because she doesn’t want siblings to be on bad terms with each other and she would cry while asking “please do it for me” she would say + +3. Said when he came to pick me up at 4am at a bar when I was blacked out drunk, or baked me a birthday cake compensated for his past wrongdoings + +I stopped talking to my older brother after he lost ten millions of my mom money in crypto investment and shamelessly asked her to fund his dream to study in Paris at the age of 29. He never had a real career and this is the second time he lost our family’s savings to investment scam. (1st time 4 millions to forex) + +Apparently he is now very depressed that me and my lil brother doesn’t talk to him (for obvious reasons) and vent to my mom. +She is now in distraught and recently had a mental breakdown bc i refused to wish him happy birthday. According to her, he is aware of his actions and want to mend things with me if i would give him another chance. What should i do? + +Ps. I don’t hate my mom, she sacrificed so much for our family and I never doubt that she loves me. The thing is that she probably loves my brothers just as much and is at loss at what to do.",0 +5865,"Family angry at me for wanting DNA test.. My dad and “sister” are angry at me for wanting a DNA test between me and my sister. She’s only a half sister and I’ve heard from multiple people that my sisters mom was sleeping around before she was preggo. And now my dad and sister are angry because I just want proof. Me and sister didn’t grow up together and we’re separated at when she was 3 and I was 13 when my dad went to prison. And now she’s back in our lives now that shes 14. I just want proof before I invest my life sorta into her. I don’t feel it’s fair I should just listen and be this person because of what someone told me. + +*** EDIT*** + +For some reason people think I’m hung up on my sister only being a half sister. I’m hung up on her possibly being not my sister at all.Also I’m a dude for everyone calling me she lol. + + +2nd edit**** + +A lot of people think I don’t realize you can have blood outside of family. My grandpa who was basically my father was not blood to me. He raised me as my own though and was a badass for that. People mention experiences and emotions over and over and I get that. The fact that I don’t have any experience with this person who may be my sister is kinda the point. That’s why knowing if we’re blood matters.",0 +5866,"Older brother knocked up my ex.. I (33M) was in a 1.5ish year relationship with a someone (29F) several years ago. The relationship was pretty toxic from the start, and she quickly became emotionally and verbally abusive, and eventually at the end physically abusive. I’ll admit I was not perfect and contributed to the dysfunction but more on that later. + Last year my brother (39M) hit me up basically asking if it was cool for them to hang out “as pals of course.” But I knew there was no way that was going to be the case. I was correct and he hit me up to say they had chemistry and he wanted to go for it. He basically left it up to me to give him a yes or no to which I in so many words said “you’re a grown man, and can make your own decisions. I’m pretty uncomfortable with it, and would be hurt if you chose to go through with but it’s still not up to me what you choose to do with your life.” +He chose to pursue her, even after I warned him of some of her abusive and manipulative behaviors. He told me the whole “people can change” thing. Turns out she didn’t and he’s never said a positive thing about her - which confirms to me that though I was no angel she definitely made it out to be that I was crazy and controlling and manipulative and the reason things didn’t work out between us. + Fast forward to yesterday. I got a phone call and he informed me she is now carrying his child. My brother and I’s mutual friend told me later that she is extremely manipulative and abusive toward him, and has already theatened to leave him and raise his child without him. +It makes me so sad because he wants to be a dad so bad but he was blinded by whatever and has now impregnated someone who is not only unstable, toxic, abusive, and honestly not a great person, but also happens to be my ex that I was happy not having in my life anymore. I worry for him and kind of hate her for this.",0 +5867,"they didn't pay me.. So my aunt commissioned me to edit her photos for her mayoral campaign, it was a lot really. I made everything perfect as she asked, and she didnt pay me a thing even if she said she would. This is not the first time that she did this to me. + +The first time was when I travelled the whole city to give meds and campaign her alone, She even told others (inside the family) that I was really selfish for asking her to pay me. + +Should I still ask her for it? I really need the money for school. : ((",0 +5868,"There is a problem with me if my sister’s success bothers me. Help. My younger sister is graduating this month with a BS in Criminal Justice. She plans to go to law school next year, become an attorney, and open her own practice one day. + +I know she deserves this. She is very smart, super passionate about justice, and I have no doubt that she will accomplish her dreams. I am so proud of her! She’s told our friends and family all about her goals and everyone is happy for her too. + +I’m trying not to be jealous of her success. And the more I think about it, it’s not her success or potential that bothers me, it’s the fact that she is following her passion and I am not. + +I am 3 years older, graduated with a BA in International Studies. I’m now a Consultant for a software company. I’m not passionate about my job or field. If I had known what I know now, and I was more sure of myself, I would have studied something else and I think I would be happier. Everyday I wish I could break in to a new field. + +So my sister is not the problem, but seeing someone so close to me live their dream while I can’t figure out how to get to mine bothers me. Need advice on a new mindset and deeper perspective.",0 +5869,"Missing out on Thanksgiving dinner with my family after finding out my cousin had Covid. Was set to go to a belated Thanksgiving dinner with my entire family today. Cousin texts me and after some conversation tells me she had Covid earlier this week but is negative now and going to dinner. My husband is very immunocompromised and this same family got us all sick with Covid last year at Christmas, and has gotten me sick on multiple holidays throughout the years. I decided we were no longer going. I’m upset because I really wanted to spend time with my family - but just because SHE is negative doesn’t mean someone else in the house didn’t pick it up along the way and is not showing symptoms yet. My parents and sister think I’m being over the top. And if my cousin finds out that’s why we didn’t show, she will probably be annoyed too. I just want to be cautious. And honestly, I’m tired of that family infecting me and MY family when we all get together lol. Ugh, am I being dumb? Should I just go? I don’t even know what to do anymore.",0 +5870,"Family is upset with my decision regarding my child's birth. Hello! I am going to try to explain the situation in as much detail as possible without revealing too much personal information in case someone I know finds this post. The situation has already caused enough drama as it is. + +I and my husband (both mid 20s) and our families have been extatic about this baby, as it is the first grand and great-grand on both sides. We have been pretty open about our birth plan with everyone; we want to have a midwife help us at home, just the 3 of us in the house. We have done plenty of research and have talked to my doctor, I have a pretty low risk pregnancy as far as first babies go. No one has had any problems with this, as far as we've been told. + +The problem started when hubby and I decided we may want a couple days after baby is born to ourselves, to figure out how this whole parenting thing goes; breastfeeding, sleeping, trying to recover my (possibly) torn-apart body after such a (possibly) traumatic experience. We let both sides know we will want this time alone; probably only a few days, but depending on how it all goes, possibly a week. We just don't know, we've never done this before lol. We've let them know we aren't doing this because we hate them/don't want them to see the new baby/whatever else, but both sides have been pretty upset, and have threatened to come over unannounced. One of our parents even told me to my face that ""if you wait too long, no one will care about your baby anymore."" + +I don't want to start drama with anyone but I also feel as though this is not an unreasonable request for me to make. From what everyone keeps telling me, birth can be very difficult, and I don't want to feel pressured to let people into our home immediately after such an experience. + + +TLDR; I want at least a couple days alone with my husband and new baby. Family is not happy and threatening to come over anyway, and told me no one will care about the baby if we wait ""too long"".",0 +5871,"How do I tell my brother who recently came out as gay (only to me) to start getting serious about his responsibilities in life ?. My brother (27) and I (30F) are pretty close in a non-traditional sense.... We don't speak to each other everyday or hang out much but we both know we have each other's back come what may. We share secrets, ask for advice and mostly have a fair idea of what's going on in each other's life. + +My brother recently came out to me. I fully support his life choices and I am very happy he confided in me. However, due to the religious/cultural beliefs our family holds dear, I do not think he will +1) even be able to successfully explain this to our parents and other immediate family without some serious backlash. My parents would disown him. +2) find any sort of support, be it emotionally or financially if the news gets out. + +We both are aware of this predicament and when he left to pursue his higher studies in a different and a more liberal country, my firm advice to him was to become independent enough to live life on his terms. My parents will soon start presurrizing him to get married (an arranged marriage) and if at all the news comes out, he can forget coming back to us ( or even our city) and live peacefully. + +My brother initially found a part time job in the new country, working at a student job to have a side, disposable income as my parents were paying for his degree. He enjoyed living on his own, being 'free' and staying true to who he wants to be. + +But now his degree is over, he is nowhere close to Landing a decent job. He is still having fun and wasting time when he should be doubling his efforts in finding a job. From our conversations it seems like he is not serious about the job hunt and is happy working the part time job. + +While I understand his new found freedom and I am happy for him, i worry about the day my parents find out and what it will do to us.... To him. I want him to be able to support himself if it comes to that. + +My brother is pretty sensitive and has already stopped talking to my mom as she keeps asking about his job search. I want to seriously talk to him but I am worried he will cut me out too and stop talking to me if I nag him. I cannot have him go AWOL on me. + +Please advice on how do I communicate my thoughts to my brother without coming across as an insentive prick",0 +5872,"Step-father has announced he’s taking my laptop. So In my final year of school, my mother bought me a laptop for me to complete my last years of school, which was mainly online due to covid. Now I have finished, they have both said to me that my stepdad will be taking my laptop, for him to start his side-business along with his current job. + +This is without any prior discussion with my and without any request. I feel this is a bit invasive of my property since it has been mine for 2 years and my mom bought it for me. They claim that I “don’t use it enough” and as far as I’m concerned this isn’t true. I would like to keep my laptop and I’m pretty sure that they wouldn’t even pay me for it. I am fine with him using it, but not for me to completely reset the laptop and for it to be configured to his liking and details. What should I do?",0 +5873,"Anxiety over my (36F) upcoming wedding and my red-pilled brothers (41M & 38M). I'm getting married this fall and the task of sending out invitations has been causing my anxiety to skyrocket. Backstory on the title--my older brothers have always leaned more conservative than my sisters and I. Growing up, my parent's divorced after a toxic and abuse-laden marriage. My father was in the military and spent most of our childhood stationed abroad, leaving my eldest brother (we'll call him Sean) to fill in the role of man of the house. It didn't help matters that mother, who comes from an abusive childhood herself, parentified Sean in ways that robbed him of his childhood. My brothers both bullied me when I was a kid--Sean mores than my other brother. (We'll call him Owen.) But by the time we were in middle school/highschool the bullying subsided and my brothers eventually became the two men in my life I looked up to, especially in my father's absence. + +Fast forward to 2020. During quarantine both my brothers were fortunate enough to work from home. This led to them both spending way more time online and they were eventually led down the rabbit hole of men's rights/Jordan Peterson/Kevin Samuels---the whole women-hating enchilada. To make matters worse is they are both, and have always been, way under-socialized. They bought a house together and have never had much of a social life apart from co-workers. During the Spring of 2021 I noticed they both began sprinkling their conversations with my sisters and I with the cliched terms from the red-pill community. Sean referred to himself as an 'alpha' and a 'high-value male'. Owen let it be known that Black women and single Black mothers were the cause of 'the Black communities' social ills. Their conversations were just a list of grievances against our mother (69F) and made our father (68M), who was (and still is) abusive, out to be the blameless victim. + +I had been estranged from my father since 2010, but he re-entered the picture last summer. I figured since he was retired from the military and had been in therapy for PTSD that perhaps he and I could begin to find a way towards building a relationship with one another as adults based on mutual respect. Boy, was I wrong. The time I spent with my dad and my brothers I was gaslit any time I tried to bring up issues from our childhood and the trauma I suffered due to my father's absence. I was mocked and dismissed and this escalated to one day Sean telling me that I was his 'subordinate' and that he didn't respect me. Any time I have tried to reach out to he and Owen I am either outright ignored or simply sent a Kevin Samuels video as a reply. + +I understand that this is misplaced aggression on their end and I have done a lot of work on myself so that I neither take it seriously nor put it on my shoulders to change them. I don't hate my brothers, but I am furious with my father that he has led them down his path of paranoia and misogyny. I feel like the manosphere has wiped away any traces of the men my brothers were. I know our relationship even before the pandemic had its issues---but we could at least discuss our differences then. Now--I'm ignored or insulted. + +Owen texted me recently to let me know that if our dad wasn't at my wedding then he wouldn't be either. As much as this crushed me (Owen and I had always been closer than Sean and me) I told him I had made peace with the possibility of his absence. + +I hate what the red-pill community and online misogyny has done to my family. But in a way, I know this conflict has been a long time coming. + +tl;dr + +my brothers, who have always been conservative, have gown full tilt red-pill. Our estranged absentee father is back in the picture further radicalizing them and driving a wedge between the siblings and now I have to deal with the possibility of my brothers being absent from my wedding this fall.",0 +5874,"Parents don't want to see my wife. My wife argued with family and I have been trying to fix the relationship. We've seen them face to face, but have tried to be clear that when we meet, my wife and I should be there together. She shouldn't be excluded. My Mum has asked me to meet her on our own. In reply I asked if she would like to come to our house where my wife and kid would be. Mum has said she wants it to be just me and her. I feel like I would be walking into an ambush. I'd consider recording the conversation.",0 +5875,"My family has always shared and reused bath towels and I only just realised how gross it is…. So I’m 15 and ever since I was little my family always had some towells that we would use after a shower then hang up to let it dry and then another member would just grab a towel off of the dryer once they needed it (whether it had dried or not) and we usually had about 4 in rotation. (We would use the same towel to wipe our mouths after brushing our teeth as well) + +Some how I never thought about it and now I am freaking out because its unsanitary and also it’s really gross and if anyone finds out I will get made fun of and people will be grossed out. Should I bring this up to my family? +Should I feel guilty and ashamed like I do? + +Thanks",0 +5876,"Parents paid for younger siblings to go to Disney and my younger heart is hurting.. DISCLAIMER: Before I start, I just want to say that I am fully aware I’m an adult and my parents don’t owe me anything (especially a trip to DisneyWorld) and if I really want to go I, of course, will have to pay for it (and I would if it weren’t 2/3 of what I pay a semester for college). Nor am I mad at my younger siblings. + +I am 20(F)years old and my siblings are 18M and 17F. To start, when I was a sophomore in high school, about 15 or 16, there was a Disney World trip in band and I especially wanted to go. But I couldn’t work for said money (nor would my parents let me and they didn’t want to give me money for chores either, so I was essentially out of luck). My parents also refused to help me simply because it was a lot of money ($900) so I watched all my friends go while I sat at home bored and sad all of spring break. + +Fast forward five years, and surprise, surprise, there’s ANOTHER Disney trip! And my parents want to fund my younger siblings way so they can have the experience of going. It really hurt my feelings watching them being so enthusiastic about paying for them to go. My mom even wanted to pay for HERSELF to go too, but sadly she could not. However, a week ago, they offered to let her go FOR FREE. So essentially I’m back in the same place, except I’m going to be alone. I was silently under the surface seething with jealousy as family members all bought them clothes and snacks and the whole 9 yards for them to go and have the time of their lives on this trip. + + +I did make plans to go somewhere with my boyfriend spring break, however with him having to pay out of pocket for tuition (he wouldn’t have been able to afford sit until after Spring Break), we had to drop it so he could focus on that. + +And I know it’s childish and silly to feel resentful of something that didn’t happen FIVE YEARS AGO, but now that it’s actually happening, it’s making me upset all over again. Why couldn’t I have the same experience? I wanted to have that experience like them. I’m glad they get to go, but I can’t help but feel sad. Also I’m the oldest so it makes me a little upset from time to time watching my siblings get what I wish I could’ve had. + +TL;DR My parents would not fund my way through a trip five years ago but now they’re making sure my younger siblings have the opportunity to do so and I feel resentful about it. + +EDIT: I understand the fact that maybe they couldn’t afford the trip five years ago and I can’t be mad at that at all, but that doesn’t stop me from feeling upset? I never knew because they didn’t tell me. They just essentially said “no”. And now they’re spoiling my younger siblings by paying for BOTH of them to go. It’s good for them and I’m not going to give them any crap for going.",0 +5877,"My(16) little brother(13) John punched my little sister(12) Jane so hard in the gut she was struggling to breathe.. All names are fake + +my older sisters(18) Alex pov. + +From the other room I heard arguing and then a small bang, then I startes hearing skin on skin contact(at least i think). Then I heard it stop and my little sister, Jane, came in my room gasping for air and couldn't get any in. I was trying to figure what was the problem and John was spouting nonsense to keep from getting in trouble like normal. Whan Jane gained a little bit of her breath back, she didn't get it back fully, she started telling me about how John hit her in the back and stomach and ribs and she couldn't breathe. Once I got her breathing back to normal, I had her tell me what happened. Jane said John threw scrunchies and a hanger (he throws things at us all alot. He enjoys it. Doesn't care unless he gets in trouble.) And he wouldn't stop so she shoved him away and his head hit the wall (she didn't mean to shove him that hard, she was just annoyed at having things thrown at her face). When he hit head, he couldn't control his anger like normal and started to beat on her like normal. Then I called our mom and basically told her to get her butt home. + +Dj(me) + +I (16) was outside practicing my guitar when my little brother John opened the door and said something about someone not being able to breathe. He was really calm which confused me even more. After a minute I figured out it was Jane who was having trouble breathing. I have asthma and was breathing fine, Alex has asthma and if she was having trouble breathing, Jane and John would have been screaming there heads off, and John didn't seem to be having trouble breathing, so that left Jane. I went inside and asked John if he said Jane was having trouble breathing. He said yes. He was very calm, like are little sister was just fine. I went to my room and Jane unlocked the door(me and Alex were tired of John bursting into our room. He saw me changing multiple times. Last time it happened, I had just got the dress on. It wasn't done up, but I was covered. Everytime he would burst in, I was covered, as in bottoms and sports bra covered. He would also hit our door and pick the lock so he could continue to beat on us. He still tries but we have a lock that requires a key. Alex told are mom we were getting the lock, mom didn't have a say. Are mom doesn't really punish John.). Once I got in the room we got talking. + +TL;DR little brother hit little sister so hard she couldn't breathe and didn't even care + +Edit: I want to add, John has sensory overload and is taking medication for it. It really helps him. The thing I'm worried about is his reaction. + +Edit 2: more info I also have a brother who is trans(female to male) Mike shares a room with Jane. Alex is paraplegic and has many medical problems. I have ADHD and asthma, and many a few others. Mike has anxiety and depression. Jane has trouble sleeping so she takes melatonin. John has ADHD and sensory overload. I am gender fluid, but use they/them. I'm pretty sure we all have more problems. Mike is in therapy because of his depression. +Also, I don't trust school workers cause of something that happened + +Edit 3: it's 00:15 and I have school tomorrow so I'm going to try to sleep + + +Edit 4: I got a new phone. I was in school and I was rushing to my next class and it fell while I was on the stairs. Also, everything is OK. John had time away from everyone. And Jane has decided to make me her new target instead of John + +Edit 5: Look. Jane is rude to all of us. She flips all of us off and throws a fit when she doesn't get her way. Like sit on the floor and scream. Jane has attached me, John, Mike, and Alex on multiple occasions. Mike has anger issues and has literally sat on Jane before. John is a jerk. Jane is a jerk. Alex is a jerk. I am a jerk. Mike is a jerk. Another thing you need to know is Mike never let's John get in trouble. Mike has gotten in trouble for trying to keep are mom from getting John in trouble.",0 +5878,"My mom is absolutely disappointed in me for being fat. Basically the context but I’m fat I’m a girl, I wear xl clothes and yeah + +Basically last week I bought a jar of mini cookies ( the Trader Joe’s ones if anyone knows what I’m talking about) and through out the week I 80% finished them and the look in her eyes when she saw... I was gutted it was awful. She didn’t say anything but you could see her disappointment. Mind you I’m not obese or anything like those 600lb tlc shows but I do have a stomach and thighs. I’m 5’1 and weigh 200 pounds. She wants me to lose weight but it’s hard and I didn’t think it was bad to eat that many cookies over this week but god do I feel awful + +Anyways just a vent but man I want to lose weight but really didn’t try this week and she’s not happy :/ + +It’s like every little thing with weight is so important to her and I get it she wants me to be healthy and I do to but sometimes I just want a break from constantly eating healthy and exercising",0 +5879,"Should I let my drug addict cousin move in with me?. My (27F) fiancé (29M) and I recently bought a new house. It’s a 5 bedroom 3 bath. We plan to flip it and sell it eventually, like we did with our last house. It is a big house for just two people and two dogs, but it’s part of our larger plan. We have 3 empty bedrooms, plus an office space. I work from home. +My aunt, who I love and respect, has a son, my cousin (24M), who struggles with drug addiction. I believe he is addicted to Oxy. +He has a girlfriend (26F), and they currently live with the girlfriend’s mom. I haven’t spoken to my cousin in several months, but I have heard from other family members that he “doesn’t look too good”. I met his girlfriend once and they both seemed high. My sister is also a drug addict, so I’m well aware of the signs. +Anyway, my cousin called me today out of the blue. It was a three way call with his mom, my beloved aunt. She let my cousin and his girlfriend do most of the talking (well, actually rambling…they talked on and on and hardly made sense),and after several moments of them blaming the gf’s mom for kicking them out, they told me they needed a placed to live…temporarily. +He has a job at a convenience store, but he doesn’t have a car or driver’s License. Not sure about the gf. I asked for some time to think about it. +The thing is, my sister who is also an addict has robbed me and my fiancé before. This was when we were still bf/gf. She broke into our bedroom (we lived with my dad at the time) and ransacked our bedroom while we were out of the country on vacation. She stole a gold necklace containing my fiancé’s father’s ashes. I think she just saw gold and took it, I don’t think she realized what it was. It was hard for us to overcome, but eventually we did. We bought a house, got engaged, sold the house, bought a new house, and are getting married this September. However, this stealing incident almost broke us. My fiancé told me it made him scared of my genetics, and what that might mean for our kids. I feel like letting my cousin live with us opens us up to that same situation. I really don’t want to hurt my aunt, and I have a lot of empathy for drug addicts. +It wasn’t so long ago that my parents were asking family members for a place to stay for my sister. + +My aunt offered my cousin to live on her couch, but she doesn’t have room for both him and his gf. They don’t want to be apart, so that’s why they’re asking me. I mentioned the extra bedrooms in our house because I think my family sees that we have extra room and can afford to take in extra people. + +UPDATE: I talked to my aunt. I told her that my fiancé and I unfortunately decided we cannot have my cousin and his gf live with us. I told her I’m not saying no forever, but for now. I told her that I think he needs to go to rehab and have consistent employment for 6 months before we can consider opening our home to him. She was disappointed, but ultimately understood. She said she wanted my cousin to have positive role models, and she hoped we could provide him with some guidance. It was painful telling her no. It sounds to me that she is in a bit of denial…he has held down his current convenience store job for 2 weeks. To my aunt, this means he must be off the drugs. I told her I love and respect her, and I hope this doesn’t impact our relationship. She didn’t reassure me, and we got off the phone. +Thank you for all the responses. I read each and every reply. A special thank you to the addicts in recovery who shared their stories. The overwhelming response of “just say no” has helped me feel strong and justified in my decision. I’ve had a heavy heart since we made this decision, but I’ve accepted that being guilty for a little while is a smaller price to pay than the potential nightmare we could have invited into our home.",0 +5880,"PLEASE HELP, I am begging: being forced to chose between family and husband. I (21F) got married over the summer to my husband (22M). My husband is now in the military and I am finishing up nursing school and will graduate in December. He is stationed a 23 hour drive from our hometown, which is where ALL of our family and friends live. I have a 2 and a half year old daughter from before I knew my husband, but he has been in her life since before she was 1 and is the only dad she has ever known and is an amazing dad to her, raising her as his own (even though he is technically her step-dad). My daughter receives early intervention special education here for a speech delay and extreme picking eating problems. I have so much family/friend support helping me with her while I am still in school and they would continue to help me when I graduate and am working full time (eliminating the need for day care, babysitters, a nanny, etc). My parents have also been very financially supportive for me and my daughter while I am in school since she was born when I was 18 (free housing, essentially buying everything her and I need since I don't work much so I can focus on school, and watching her whenever I have school, studying, or work). They stopped paying for so much when I got married, but I still couldn't have done any of it without them. I am a HUGE family person. When I say my family is here, I mean *all* of my family (parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins) who I have always lived like 15 minutes away from and have always lived with my parents. No one in our family doesn't live in this city. + +The dilemma is that my family does not want me or my daughter to move to be with my husband. They say that we are so young, all my help is here, we would be completely on our own out there and not know anyone, and it would be really *really* hard trying to figure out how to live away from home, be newly married and young parents with no help (especially after coming from SO much help), and navigating my first year working full time as a nurse. When we first got married and when he got into the military, we decided my daughter and I would come when I graduate school. But now after my family (who I know care about and love me) is being so persistent with the fact that I/we couldn't handle it (they always say it in a nice way), I am starting to think maybe they are right. They say we should just stay here because all of our help and my daughter's resources are here. I even started applying for some jobs here that I would consider ""dream jobs"" and have gotten job offers that I would take in a heartbeat if there was no moving question. It has been negatively impacting my mental health SO much and it is starting to effect everything I do (including studying and just functioning over all). + +My parents say I just need to ""make a decision"" and that everyone will be fine with whatever the decision is. However, if they think I am leaning towards leaving, they start being stand-offish, not helping me as much with my daughter when I need to study, avoiding me, etc. One time, I even made the ""final decision"" and was ""sticking to it"" like they told me to do, but then they talked me out of it and convinced me it would be horrible. It even feels as if they are trying to convince me that it will be all *me* if I went out there and that my husband wouldn't help. They also say things like, ""he is the only one that benefitted from you getting married, he got his own apartment versus having to stay in the dorms on base, he got a new car (that THEY gifted to us for free), and he got a pay increase (which technically is benefitting me too)."" And that I didn't get anything I have always wanted and deserved (a big wedding, a bridal shower, a bachelorette party, a honeymoon, etc. I didn't even get a real ring until we had been married for 2 months and the pay was increased and our money was combined, and I still never got a proposal). It almost seems as if they are trying to convince me that he got married for the wrong reasons and it was a mistake. + +One of my big reasons to my husband that coming may be a bad idea was my daughter's resources. I talked to my daughter's therapists and they all said she would thrive and do great anywhere, and there are services every where for her. The city we would be in is a HUGE urban city with tons of resources (maybe even more than here at home), so that reason is out. Now my reasons are turning to I am not mentally stable enough (probably because of all of the stress and anxiety of deciding), everyone says I am too immature, and I just don't think I could do it. + +I feel like I am starting to question my whole life (which is probably dramatic), but I don't know what to do and I need advice. My family is so convincing, but I love my husband more than anything. He is completely alone there and is SO lonely--he would do anything for us to come. I think the biggest thing is that I am scared my family is right. Do I rip the band-aid off and officially start my own family and own life, or listen to my family who I love and respect (especially my mom, who is very rarely ever wrong about these things)? + +TL;DR I need to decide if I should move 23 hours away from home and my family to be with my husband and my family seems to think I couldn't do it.",0 +5881,Trouble with adult daughter. My daughter is 20 and her and her 24 year old boyfriend live in our home. We had a disagreement that ended in her telling me she hated me all because I asked her to clean the baseboards. This is the second argument in less than two weeks. In that argument she told me to kill myself. I’m at a loss. I don’t know what to do. Any advice?,0 +5882,"Husband keeps giving me chocolates. Not sure if this belongs in this sub but the etiquette sub has been dead for 2 years. + +My husband keeps giving me chocolates for every Valentine’s Day and Mother’s Day. They’re the fancy kind that comes in a box (Godiva, Leonidas). I like the sentiment but honestly I don’t like chocolate that much. The size box he gets me are huge, maybe 30 pieces - it would take me 3 months to eat it all. + +Thankfully (??) my toddler has occasionally snuck into my chocolates and eaten some, so that whittles it down. And I offer my husband chocolates because he likes them but I don’t do that too often for fear that he’ll discover that I don’t really like chocolates. I’m afraid if I tell him, it’ll hurt his feelings. Now I have a huge box of chocolates on my desk from Mother’s Day and I only ate 2 pieces so far. I can’t bear to throw them out, I hate wasting food. What should I do?",0 +5883,"Did I Overreact?. Yesterday I wanted to spend time with my father during winter break by shopping together. I was happy to be able to talk to him after four months of not seeing him. We were having a nice chat during the car ride. Then out of nowhere, he reaches over and grips my thigh without saying anything. I told him it makes me feel uncomfortable whenever he does this, but he says he just wants to feel if I lost weight during my time at college. He then raised his voice at me after I told him to stop whatever he was doing. + +Later during dinner, he touched my bra strap. When I firmly told him to stop, he laughed and denied doing anything. This isn't the first time he has done this sort of thing. He has touched my bra numerous times, put his hand on my thighs and knees, touched my behind, and once put his face in my breasts (For context: During high school, he would come upstairs to wake me up & eat breakfast. He usually just called out my name, but one time he got onto bed with me and put his face in between my breasts. After that incident, I used an alarm clock to wake myself up instead for the rest of high school). I also used to wear a vest and baggy pants whenever I'm around him to hide my body. + +I told my mom about this last night, and instead of talking to my father about this situation, she decides to ""cheer"" me up by putting cartoons on TV. I am almost 20 years old and I really did not appreciate being treated like a child. I got extremely frustrated and lashed out at them. + +This morning, my mother tells me that I'm too sensitive, and that I should feel happy that I have such good and loving parents. I told her that I am uncomfortable around my own father because he never listens to my requests to stop touching me and never respects my boundaries. She then told me that she knows that there is nothing wrong with my dad and he is just showing fatherly affection. + +She talked to him this morning and he said that he wishes that I am more happy to see him after a semester of college. I truly wanted to go outside and have joyful time with him this holiday break. I wanted to put everything he did in the past and just hang out with him. I was very glad to be with him until he decided to ruin it by ignoring my boundaries. I don't know what he expects from me. He has never supported me emotionally, constantly criticizes everything that I do, and laughs at me whenever I'm in tears. Whenever I call him out for doing something wrong, suddenly I am the colder person. + +My mother is ignoring me & refusing to talk to me, and I feel like I've messed up for saying anything about this situation and feeling disappointed about my dad. I feel like a horrible daughter. I am so unsure about my own emotions, even though all of this feels so wrong. I cannot express any emotions or thoughts to my parents without being criticized for being too sensitive or ungrateful. Did I overreact? + +I need some advice. + +​ + +**TL;DR**: I wanted to spend time with my father during winter break, but he continues to harass me and violate my boundaries. Both of my parents got mad at me for being upset with him and called me oversensitive and ungrateful for them.",0 +5884,"My dad “forgave” someone who almost killed me and my mom.. Before I start, I just want to say one thing; me and my dad aren’t on bad terms, but this is something I want other peoples opinions on. I just don't like the way he handled this. + +So I live in a large city, and it’s not exactly the safest one, unfortunately. We’re particularly known for bad accidents in our area, and the amount of flowers on roadsides are WAY larger than it should be. (For those who don’t know, this means someone passed away there.) We’ve even had a few family members pass away from car accidents. + +A Sunday afternoon, me and my mom were driving home from the mall, as we normally would after a day at the mall. It was on a main road, where thousands of people go per minute. + +Suddenly, there was a huge crash in the back of my car, the car then spun in circles and started going in a whole other lane. + +I was freaking out, I honestly didn’t know what to do, I just started screaming, then crying. (And I don't cry very often.) My mother, (the one driving,) was able to save us by stopping at a slightly safer area. We got out of the car to discover the entire lane was cut off. Two off duty firefighters who happen to be near came and helped us by calling 911. + +The person who smashed into us, was being careless. He wasn't even driving his own car, it was his brothers car. He had to give my mom his information. Police came, and +I messaged my dad ""CALL ME ASAP."" after he didn't reply to a few calls. When he called me back, he asked me why I was calling him and I had to explain what was going on. I gave him the location and told him to come and help us. He asked if we were alright and needed a ride back and I said I didn't know if we were alright as my back and shoulders felt horrible shortly after this happened. + +Shortly after he arrived, I noticed he was telling the person who crashed into us carelessly these words exactly: ""don't worry about it, it's alright. These things happen"" + +Seriously? + +This guy almost killed your wife and daughter, the only two people who life in your house, the two most important people to you, and that's what you say? + +I wasn't in the best head space so I didn't tell him anything, we agreed my dad would take me home and I'd go get some rest while my mom deals with the car getting towed and everything else. (The car was gone. Totally broken. It wasn't in drivable condition at all after the accident) + +When me and my dad went home, he asked me: ""did you notice what the first question I asked you on the phone?"" + +I told him it was why I asked him to call me, and he said ""after that"" + +I said he asked if we were alright. + +He said ""see, I didn't ask if the car was okay I asked if you were okay"" + +Well I mean that's kind of a given, I really appreciate that he asked that I do, but it's bare necessities to ask about your family over your wife's car, no? + +We eventually got a new car 2-3 days after dealing with our insurance companies reimbursements. +It was a older but next to unused car. + +My dad said: +""We've been looking for a new car, so this all actually worked out really well!"" + +I didn't appreciate this statement too much. It all worked out well? Me and my mom almost dying worked out really well? + +Tell me if I’m wrong but I feel like he didn't really handle this too well in some ways. He didn't seem to acknowledge that I’m terrified to drive or even be in a car now due to this near death experience due to a distracted/careless driver. + +Please give me your honest opinion, this situation really upsets me. I don’t feel it’s his place to forgive the person who crashed into us as he didn’t experience it. + +TL;DR: a careless driver almost killed me and my mom and my dad said “it’s okay these things happen don’t worry about it” and said “it all worked out really well in the end” because we got a new car from it as the one we were in was undriveable.",0 +5885,"My parents in law hate me and want me to work to give the money to my husband.. I am a female (23) and just finished 4 yrs of 2 different programs at uni and I am starting 2 masters this fall. I was always an academics kind of girl and I want to become a lawyer or something high profile. I got married really young because I was in love, but my husband is from the country side and finished university but works as a driver. His family has a lot of money but they are countryside people, working as farmers. Since day 1 they wanted me to stay at their house and take care of animals as they do and keep the farmer work. But I am not build like that. My family boldly stated that we should stay and study to have a carrier but they don’t think you can make money that way. From my first day of uni (mind you, I was studying at 2 different universities at same time) they wanted me to at least get a job as a cashier somewhere, even though my family supported with financially and I also received money from a scholarship. My husband was also a student at the time and worked, but barely attended classes. For 4 years there has always been this fight about me going to work, even though I paid for everything myself, our rent, taxes and food, also paid for everything at my uni and personal stuff because duh I am a woman and I have needs. With his salary he only paid his car and his stuff and just rarely bought food. +3 years passed and I said I wanted to move out from that rented apartment and buy our own, because we were married and wanted a home. Because I paid for rent the 3+ yrs until we bought the ap through a loan, I said that he should pay the mortgage. Seemed only fair. A year has passed since he paid the mortgage every month and he always insisted I should pay too because he doesn’t have any money left at the end of the month. After I graduated, his parents thought I wouldn’t follow another programme at school but were shocked to hear I wanted to attend 2 masters programmes. They insisted I should get a job somewhere to support their son, who btw, doesn’t even buys his own socks, I buy them for him. I am supported financially by my parents because they want me to study debt free, and I also work part time projects to make myself some money. Their problem (my in laws) never was that I didn’t work, but that I didn’t continue to pay for everything and that I insisted to get an apartment to put their son in debt. Am I the bad guy?",0 +5886,"Do I disown an 11 year old.. Edit* Thank you to all the lovely people who took time out of their lives to support me this evening. With careful consideration I have decided to pursue this new journey with my sister who’s I live very much and welcome the good, the bad, and the ugly one day at a time. May God bless you all. Thank you so much for your time. + +I’m abit stuck so I’m reaching out to people I don’t even know. Go easy on me. I am a 28(F). I am a single parent due to the death of my fiancè and have a 3 year old daughter. + +To give you abit of background. I have 6 siblings. 4 girls including me and 2 brothers. 2 of my other sisters and I are close in age. Oldest 31, middle 30 and me 28. My brother is 17 lives with his dad and there is one younger brother left aged 14 and a younger sister 11. + +Me and my 2 sisters whom are close in age got taken off our mother at a young age and grew up by the state and social services. Each of us separated until we was old enough to meet again. We have done considerably well surprisingly however still haunted by the demons of a traumatic childhood. + +My younger brother and sister were taken into foster care a year ago but they have just allowed for my brother to go home to my mum. My sister however does not want to go back and is crying to for help to both her social worker and her foster parents to come and live with me. + +Usually I would just say yes but since she was 7 she has been in and out of my care on 2 other occasions and when I get somewhere to giving her a somewhat normal childhood they take her and fetch her right back to my mother. The last time this happened 3 years ago I was beside myself. I had just had a baby and worked two jobs 2 weeks after giving birth to ensure I could provide for her and give her eveything she needed aswell as my baby. When she was taken it broke my heart completely and I promised myself I would never put myself in that position again but fast forward to 3 years and now she is in a foster home she is distressed, not sleeping or eating and wants to come back to me long term. + +I just don’t know what to do. I have a child I need to prioritise and although I am in a comfortable position to take her on and provide for her aswel as having the room in my home for her I don’t want history to repeat itself. I am scared but how can I say no? How can I turn my back on a vulnerable child who I love with all my heart. I would have loved an older sibling when I was little to take care of me so I didn’t have to suffer like I did and so I don’t want to turn my back on an 11 year old who is in need of her family but I’m scared of the hassle it may bring as I have built a good life for myself with no drama and away from the demons of my past. + +I don’t have contact with my mum. I hate her and walk past her in the street like she is a stranger when she’s the person who brought me into this world. Im not even sad about it. I feel nothing when I see her. I have done well with my life, achieved amazing things and I want my little sister to have that chance too. To grow and be someone she deserves to be. I don’t want to be selfish as she needs me more than ever right now but I don’t know if it is the right thing for me and my 3 year old little girl as I don’t want my own child to suffer. It’s not even a big commitment. It’s a life changing decision. + +Thank you god bless",0 +5887,"Feeling bad about signing lease for my (23F) first apartment after my toxic parents stormed out of my graduation. Hi all, + +I’m 23 and graduated from college a year ago and throughout college lived with my family. Since I’ve been working for a year I’ve saved up a good amount of money, but my plan was to save enough money for a down payment and buy a house (very expensive where I live). I was in no rush to leave, but also craved the independence of being an adult. + +I love my family and my parents are very generous in paying for food and living expenses for me and my siblings. I live in one of the nicest neighbourhoods in my city and have access to cars, and am just overall very comfortable. I spend a lot of time with my sister and my new kitten and I hate being on my own and get lonely if I’m home alone too long. + +However, My relationship with my parents has just gotten so bad that I’m not happy around them at all. Im a good kid but am treated like the worst child ever. They always hold money and what they provide over my head, like “oh we just took you on this trip so you have to do what I say”. My dad has severe anger issues where everyone is walking on eggshells, and my mom is super controlling. My dad is never sorry after he screams and breaks things. He gets mad several times a week. The two of them together is constant fighting and meanness towards me. They never apologize or admit that they are wrong ever. Every time I do anything minor like leave a plate on the counter or spend something on something they don’t approve of I get screamed at and threatened to get kicked out. + +I had the last straw this week when it was my graduation ceremony (delayed one year because of COVID). I wanted to stay 5 min longer after the ceremony to take photos, and my dad screamed at me in front of all my classmates that I was “wasting his time and had meetings to get to”. So I just let my parents leave and celebrated with my friends. It was so humiliating and ruined a day that was supposed to be special. He wouldn’t apologize and kept on insisting I was wasting his time, and said he wishes he didn’t go. + +I usually check out rental listings on a regular basis to see if anything comes up that’s nice and in my budget. I found an apartment for a great deal in the perfect walkable location. All my friends were supportive of it. So I go and see it, and put an application not thinking I would get it. I get a call from the agent and they want me to sign the lease that day. I didn’t have much time to think it through so I signed for it. The apartment is a 20 min drive from my house now. + +I told my parents I’m leaving, and my mom is really upset and trying to be nice to me. My dad actually apologized for the way he treated me too. I’m not sure if this is just for me to stay or if they genuinely mean it. I’m scared that if I didn’t take the apartment I’d just regret it after they yell at me a week from now. + +Now I’m feeling really sad and maybe that I made a rushed decision. I hate being lonely and I’m scared that I’ll feel super limited without a car. I’ll also miss my sister and cat so much. Im also worried that im missing out on saving more money to eventually get a house. But also I’m looking forward to freedom and having my own space, and a walkable lifestyle. + +I’m just not sure what to do. Should I cancel the lease and move out at another time? Like will these feelings go away? Will it get better? Should I trust their apology? I just need some guidance. + +Thanks so much. + +Summary: I made a fast decision to move out of my comfortable family home after my parents ruined my graduation and wouldn’t apologize. Now I’m feeling sad about moving out and nervous.",0 +5888,"Step mom wants me to ask every time I come home.. So background, I’m 18 and still live at home. I will take the opportunity to move out when I see the time is right and I do work full time. My dad doesn’t seem to care when I come home but my step mom sends me a text whenever I come home and asks me to text her whenever I’m coming home. She said it’s disrespectful of me to come home without warning and she watched the doorbell camera to monitor when I’m home. Am I weird for thinking this isn’t normal?",0 +5889,I decided to cut off my dad... am I bad?. My dad sexually abused me when I was young. Years passed and I still can't forget nor forgive what he did. I was diagnosed with Bipolar and Depression with him as a trigger. We decided to cut him off and today is the last day he will be visiting my house. Am I a bad person?,0 +5890,"My son is angry that I'm pregnant. I have 3 teenagers (aged 17, 15, and 14) and a baby on the way. The baby is from my current fiancé, and my teens are from a previous marriage. + + +My girls are happy about having a new brother or sister, but my 15 year old is NOT. He stormed out of the room when we told them the news, and has been giving ME the silent treatment for the past few days. He told my fiancé ""I don't care about this stupid baby"" and he rolls his eyes whenever the baby is mentioned. + + +I'm in shock. Normally he's such a sweet kid. Is this a typical teenager reaction to this news? And will he eventually come around?",0 +5891,"Uninvited to Thanksgiving advice. My (30F) aunt and uncle have always claimed my sister (31f) and I as 'their own' since our parents died 8 years ago. We go to their house for family events (birthdays, Sunday dinners, major holidays, etc) along with their two kids (our cousins), and their spouses and children. + +This year they confirmed for Thanksgiving and stated that aunts two siblings and families would be coming from out of state as well - these are people we know well throughout the years and have shared many meals together. One of aunts siblings, her sister, has cancer and given about 12-18 months. + +This week my uncle texted myself, sister, and husband informing that there would be many people at Thanksgiving and in attempt to make the day easier on aunts sick sister, we are moving family dinner to Friday. At first I took that to mean that they were going to have an 'adults' dinner (aunt, uncle, aunt siblings) and that myself, husband, sister, and cousins + their families would need to do something amongst ourselves on Thursday. Seemed reasonable, and I offered to host that portion. + +Turns out - myself, husband, our two small children, and sister are the only ones uninvited to Thursday. Cousins and their entire families + children are still going. We're merely invited to have leftovers on Friday... + +On one hand, I get it about aunts ill sister and wanting to keep things smaller, but on the other I do feel really hurt that after all this time being told we're 'their own' and participating as such we're the only ones expendable on the holiday. I'm sure aunts siblings are going to inquire why we're not there - even the sick one who we have a good rapport with. Always a nice visit and conversation. + +Should I feel this way, or is it a reasonable reason to uninvite someone?",0 +5892,"i’m 19 and my parents are divorcing. my parents are divorcing after 38 years of marriage. i found out a few weeks ago that they were planning on it. just last week though, they confirmed that they are going through proceedings. for the past few weeks i’ve been selfish and thinking about myself, in my own world. the only reason i know this is because my close friend has been calling me out on it. is it normal to be like this. i feel like since i’m 19 i’m supposed to have this sense of maturity over it. i just feel kind of lost right now, lots of anxiety and being in my own head. just want some affirmation that these feelings are normal.",0 +5893,"Is it weird for a full grown son to go to the sauna naked with his mom?. I (18M) know the title sounds very weird but hear me out. Here in Finland most apartments and houses have a private sauna in the bathroom and it’s common to use it. + +I met two exchange students today and they’ll be staying here for the rest of the semester and after chit chatting we started talking about the sauna and I told them that you’re supposed to be naked there for maximum relaxation. After I told them that they were pretty shocked and asked me if I didn’t have any shame for being naked in front of my own mom. I told them that for me it’s okay and it’s the same as if we were wearing clothes but we’re by no means nudists or anything. + +So after that discussion I started wondering if maybe it is indeed weird that I’m regularly fully naked with my mom in a fully non-sexual way.",0 +5894,"My parents want to kick my sister (19F) out but I don't want her to live with me (28F). My 19 yr old sister smokes weed all day long and it's really effecting her mental health. She's been caught doing it too many times but she doesn't care about getting in trouble and has kept doing it knowing it's bad for her. She does have a job and goes to school but her mental health is getting worse by the day. My parents have had it with her and are now starting to talk about kicking her out because she's not respecting their house and rules and they just don't get along anymore. + +I moved out a few years ago and I live alone in my own house because I couldn't handle being around my family too much since they're super old fashioned and have basically made me responsible for my sister which isn't fair to me. My sister is a mess, she's not responsible, never listens to anyone and is kind of selfish. She talks about being depressed all the time and I have tried to get her help but she doesn't want it right now. If my parents kick her out, I've already told them that I'm not telling her live with me. I don't want to be between them because then my mental health will start deteriorating and I moved out in the first place for a reason. + +I'm not sure what to do. She doesn't have anywhere else to go and can't afford to pay rent. I know if it comes down to it, I'll be forced to have her live with me but I honestly would rather not. I do love her but we'll both start resenting each other and our parents if it gets to that level. + +​ + +TL; DR My parents want to kick my sister out but I don't want her to live with me.",0 +5895,"My father said I'm ""the most entitled person he's ever met"" - how do I mend his outlook?. I started therapy, and it made me realize how much my childhood has molded me. + +I didn't have the best childhood. Parents divorced when I was 7, mom decided it would be best if I lived with dad so that it would best reduce his depression and suicidal tendencies. + +This became more apparent when I reached my teen years. Finding razors, sleeping pills, notes, waking up each day wondering if dad was still around. + +Thing is, due to the situation I've **always** felt like the parent between us. Our relationship has been more like best friends than a father/son. It took me years of convincing him to seek help. I helped him get mental help, I helped him get the job he has now by networking for him, I helped him be open to dating again to better his life after being single since my parents divorced. + +He tells me now that I'm an adult with a job that he feels I'm entitled when we see each other every few weeks and he buys dinner for us. He feels I'm entitled when I ask for a slightly expensive Christmas present when he asks what I want. He feels I'm entitled when we make plans ""it must adhere to my schedule"". + +See, I don't expect these things, but perhaps part of me feels like I've always felt like the parent and the giver, it's nice to receive since I was deprived of much of that when I was younger, and I've done so much. + +Any advice on how to mend our relationship? I do love him. + +Tl;Dr: I grew up being the giver for my father and now that I'm older and he's successful and has the free time to give, it's seen as an entitlement.",0 +5896,"Am I too young to get married?. My (23f) boyfriend (24m) proposed last week. We talked about it for over a year now (we are together for 5,5 years at this point, living together for 2 years) and we both agreed on beeing ready for marriage. So I obviously said yes when he asked me to marry him. +We were on vacation, so we send a picture to family and friends to tell them about the news. Everybody was excited, except my parents. They have never been good at showing emotions, especially excitement, but it took them several hours to respond and they only send ""congratulations"". Even for them, this was a very poor response. Since then, they avoid this topic. +For context: In my boyfriends family it is pretty common to get married at a young age (his parents got married at 18&20) and to have children pretty early in life. My family is the absolute opposite. My parents got married in der mid-/late thirties and my dad was in his mid fourties when I was born (I'm the youngest of three). +My parents really like my boyfriend, this is not because they don't think he is not ""the right one"" (... I hope so at least) . They just have a pretty conservative view on how life should be (study & work in your twenties, marriage and kids in your thirties...). I don't think I am too young to get married, especially because we don't want to rush into things. We plan to get married in the summer of 2023 (we will be 24 and 25 and together for nearly 7 years then) and don't have any baby-plans for the next couple if years. +How do you think I should handle this topic with my parents?",0 +5897,"Am I wrong to assume that if family wants to spend more time with my son then they should make an effort to come visit us?. My family (husband and son) and I just moved to a different state, that is about 2.5-3h drive to his parents house and add another 1h to my BIL's. So needles to say it's somewhat of a drive especially when your 1.5 year old isn't enjoying the ride. When we moved here we made a promise to my husband's parents that we would drive up there once a month to visit them and so far we have kept that promise. Usually when we go, his brother's also come to spend time with us and to see our son, but last month, one of his brothers and his husband didn't want drive to their parents house and wanted us to go to them to have lunch and then have us drive back to the parents house because one of their dogs had an ear infection and their dogs just don't like being in the car (they live 45minutes-1h from their parents). My husband asked his brother if he could leave his dogs for a few hours and just come over to have lunch with us and that they didn't have to spend the night like they usually do. We just didn't want to have our son suffer in the car for 2 more hours of not necessary. And they said no and we said no. +Well needless to say my brother in law got super upset, saying that we don't care about them and that they would not try to visit us or our son anymore. From what I know him and his husband have not once tried to visit us even after inviting them over. And we moved about 4 months ago. They feel like they are missing out on my son's milestones and that because they can't physically have children they want to be as present as possible with our son, yet they don't FaceTime or call or even text to ask about him YET they want us to drive to them when they don't even try. So my question is am I wrong for thinking/assuming they should be making more of an effort to see my son instead of the other way around?",0 +5898,"My mom found a porn spam email on my dads phone, and she doesn’t believe it’s spam.. I’m sure you guys know about these spam emails, but my mom never received them before. So when she saw it on my dads phone, she won’t believe him when he says that it’s a spam email. What should I do?",0 +5899,"Need opinions: you live in a 3 bedroom row home with yourself and your spouse, a 16 year old teen and a 3 year old toddler. You’re expecting another baby. What bedroom do you put them in?. We know that the baby needs to sleep in our bedroom for 6 months to 1 year per pediatrician’s recommendations. We’re looking for opinions on what room to put the baby after that time period. + +Parent’s bedroom= main bedroom. Kids bedroom #1 is small (10x8ft) but fits a single child. Kids bedroom #2 is medium (11x10ft). 2 children are going to have to share the medium room. + +Gender is the first thing that comes to mind when putting 2 children in the same room. Teen is a female, toddler is a female. We’re not sure what the sex of the expecting baby is yet, but we’re starting to remodel the bedrooms (unisex themed) and have no idea where to put anyone. The teen doesn’t want to be bothered by a toddler or baby (can’t blame her). But would the toddler be able to sleep with a screaming baby? If this expecting baby is a boy, can he share a room with one of his sisters? Or would he get his own room? I’ve went back and forth on this with my husband, we got so many different opinions, we are at a loss.. what would you do?",0 +5900,"Is it weird that I have no desire to leave my parents?. I am a (28M) and will be 29 at the end of July. I am in grad school and live with my parents. The few friends I have I DON'T want to live with, and I enjoy spending time with my parents more than anything. I am dreading losing them and want to spend as much time with them as possible. My brother is the opposite. He moved out last November and barely calls us. He says he wants his own space. My sister is away at school but will probably move when she graduates. I graduate grad school next year, and I just have no desire to get my own apartment. Am I weird? I am on meds for OCD and many professionals have speculated I may be on the autism spectrum, so that might be it. Yet, I feel weird when I see people my age living on their own. I'm happy with my choice but I get this awkward feeling that I can't shake.",0 +5901,"My daughter has become a stranger and I can't relate to her anymore.. I originally posted this on relationships, was directed here and to parenting as these are more appropriate subs for the issue at hand. + +I'm 53F, my daughter is 27, almost 28. + +I'll start off saying my husband and I are really not the college type. We both took some classes at community college after high school but never graduated. Well my husband technically has an associates, he took enough classes to get one and just didn't apply for graduation and get the piece of paper. :) + +Our first daughter was always very smart, we realized she probably needed to go to college. We didn't have the money to pay for it but she got a ton of scholarships and took out loans to cover the rest. When she was in her 2nd year she got the idea she wanted to get a masters and PHD and teach at college instead of high school which was her original plan. We said okay, but to not expect us to foot the bill or provide assistance for multiple degrees that were unnecessary when she was willingly turning down a major that would have let her work right after graduation from college. She said to not worry and to her credit she worked out a deal for both her masters and PHD that she'd teach in exchange for her tuition and a paycheck each month. She said she'd do it and she did. She is now working on her PHD and says she is going to graduate probably next year. She is just writing a lot now on her thesis. + +My daughter was always a bit odd. Not bad odd, just sort of weird. Definitely didn't fit in with a lot of her cousins or most kids in school. She was reading full books on her own by age 3 and could follow very adult conversations that her grandma and her grandma's best friend would have. This is a child who would debate politics with me at age 6 because she didn't like that I voted for George Bush. She was probably just repeating what her grandma and grandma's friend said, but still. + +Anyway, she was generally a happy go lucky goofy child (although definitely stubborn and opinionated) but turned very serious around junior high age. She was always bookish and liked video games and nerdy things and in high school she also got interested in art and writing. She never dated in high school. Her high school self still got a long well with us and would watch tv with us, sit in the garage and talk to the neighbors, normal stuff like that. + +She became an english major in college in order to teach high school english but as I said that turned into wanting to teach at a college. College definitely encouraged her more weird habits and she found friends who were very similar to her which of course is wonderful. Her friends in high school weren't quite as strange as she could be and I think because of that she kept some of that to herself. I felt like every time she came home she had changed a bit more. As far as I can tell she never dated in college or at least never introduced anyone to us. + +Her masters and PHD was like college on crack for this. She got her masters at the same school she went to college at and graduated with a masters at 23. she then moved halfway across the country to get her phd. She now has a lot of professor and student friends who she hangs out with. It's almost insane to see some of the out there events she goes to whenever she's home (we live 20 mins away from away from a major city). Art shows, ""theory reading groups"", movie discussion groups, going off to play chess in the park, getting all sorts of wild food. Definitely not interested in hanging out in the garage with all of us anymore. + +We can hardly talk to her anymore because we just have no clue what she's even talking about even when she tries to describe it. It's like she moved to another planet. Every thing about her is different. She used to be the pickiest eater ever and now she claims she was ""never picky"" she just didn't like ""boiled unseasoned vegetables and meat loaf"". Every time we call we ask what she is having for dinner and the last three times it was stuff we never knew she liked or taught her to eat, like indian food, sushi, truffle chicken, all kinds of stuff we never fed her. We ask what she's up to and she's going to ""theory reading groups"" or disucssion groups. Never just hanging out. + +We tried going with her to some things which she seemed excited about because she said she gets bored just sitting and talking to the neighbors so she brought us to an art gallery and then happy hour with some of her professor friends and it was just really strange. Really abstract, out there art that we couldnt make heads or tails of but she took in like it was a toddler book. And then drinks with a bunch of professors who wanted to talk about the weirdest topics ever. Daughter was making the rounds and we came up to her to ask to leave and she was in the middle of talking about marxism with someone she called ""her favorite victorianist"" (I think she's a literature teacher). + +My point is that we have no idea who our child is any more and have no way to relate to her. We keep asking her to just spend time with us and the neighbors and she will but I know she's bored. We feel as though she no longer sees us as good enough for her. She would rather go off with the jet setting crowd to the art shows and discussion groups then spend time with mom and dad. + +I'm at a loss for how to connect with her again because we have nothing in common and I don't know if I can handle doing another day of her usual activities. I am looking for any advice on how to reconnect with someone you have nothing in common with. + +""TL;DR"" My adult daughter turned into a completely different person in college and we have nothing in common any more. I miss her and feel as though we are not good enough for her. I want to reconnect but we have nothing to connect on.",0 +5902,"Need advice on dealing with daughter marrying into family who is better off financially than me and ex husband. My adult daughter who is 27 is marrying in July. Her father (ex-husband) and I got married at 19 and had her at age 20. We divorced when she was 2. My ex remarried and had four kids with his second wife. I didn't remarry until 12 years later. My ex and I had her needs covered, but we couldn't give her a lot of extras or luxuries in life. + +Anyway, the young man she is marrying comes from a more an upper middle class family and they have been very kind of my daughter and are paying for most of the wedding. My ex and I are contributing a bit of money. It's been been a bit difficult seeing her future in laws being able to offer and do amazing things for my daughter. My daughter and her fiancé recently bought a house and his parents purchased them a new dryer and washer and coffee tables. At this time, I'm unable to buy any housewarming gifts in those price ranges. A couple of weeks ago, I went over to visit when my daughter's fiancé showed me the gifts. I admit that I when drove home I cried a bit because I do worry that I'm not going to be able to have an impact on my daughter and future son in law's life. + +Last night, my daughter came over for Easter dinner at my home and revealed to me that her in-laws have invited them on a trip to Spain set for next December and are paying for everything. It will be her first time on an airplane and her first time leaving the country. She was supposed to go on trip to England back in June 2020, but due to covid she canceled. + +Again I'm feeling down because of how her future in laws are able to give her and my future son-in-law amazing things and opportunities. I'm worried for the future as I will always come into second place when it comes to gifts, experiences, etc. I also worry about future grandchildren because I figure his parents will be able to give a lot of expensive toys and trips.",0 +5903,"Conflict with my husband, he won't allow unvaccinated family members to meet our daughter. I am writing here because I am desperate. The pandemic, and also many other non-related to pandemic factors but a maszive strain on our marriage and I dont know how much longer I can continue. +We used to be the best couple for over 8 years, then kid, then pandemic and health related issues. +The pandemic has been a massive conflict point. We live in the country of my husband and because of it i have barely seen my family during the last 2 years. This is not his fault but his lack of support and empathy and general attitude of ""it's how it is, deal with it"" is killing me inside. +Traveling to home is not only expensive but a massive stress and worry to not catch covid there or on the way. +But above all now he says he won't allow the wife of my brother anywhere near our daughter, even if she tests. +The wife won't get the shot ever, she is reluctant. +I understand his worry and the rational argument, but I don't understand the lack of common sense and the lack of desire to find a solution (testing). He says: be mad at her, not me, and I know rationally he is right, and she won't lift a finger to under our situation. But it is burning inside, this feeling of him being so insanely rigid about this and drawing this line in the family. +I guess ny question is - has anyone experienced this? Is it ""normal""? Is it excusable? I know he is technically ""right"" but I simply cant get over his complete lack of understanding on how this affects me and the family. +Advice? (Talking to him and explaining doesn't help)",0 +5904,"How much is too much for a mother to be invested in her child's appearance?. 25F here. My mother & I had a good relationship. I know she loves & cares for me a lot & I'm thankful. But sometimes, she gets on my nerves, especially this year. + +Actually, she's very concerned about my appearance & weight. I have been out of my normal weight range for more than 3 years & I'm trying my hardest to slim down. Obviously, my mom wasn't happy about it & she told me, repeatedly, to watch what I eat, eat her food, cut back on cheese & chocolate (which are my guilty pleasures), & weigh myself in front of her. + +I would happily oblige if she hadn't been harsh with her words. I understand she's frustrated with me not being healthy & looking good. She also said women who are overweight are unworthy & lose their value in life & that's what she said to me. Those are her words. Not mine. + +The worst part of it was when she said, 'Step on the scale'. I get very anxious as I know she'll either be very happy when I lose some or very upset when I gain some & go on into a passionate speech when I do gain weight. + +Her way of encouraging me was to use her words harshly. Constantly nagging me, berating me, & pointing at my belly bulge. She felt if she was harsh, that would motivate me more. In fact, she said she wouldn't have act that way if I just do what she says. She would sometimes compare me to the other girls I knew & be embarrassed with the way I look in front of them, thinking they'll make fun of me (although I knew they're not that). I bet if she ever saw the 'that girl' trend on Tiktok, she'll say, 'Why can't you be like them'? + +I want to slim down & be healthier. I really do. It's just that I feel like I'm accomplishing my mom's goals when it should be me all along.",0 +5905,"What is an appropriate amount to give my nephew's 1st bday, when his mother (my sister) owes me money?. My sister has decided to host her son's 1 year bday at a nice restaurant. My wife says we're expected to give a cash gift. I initially said $100, then raised it to $200 at my wife's urging. My wife thinks that's too little, but I think it's spot on. + +A few months ago, my wife and I decided to gift business class tickets to my parents, my sister and her husband. The idea was my wife and I would pay for the tickets - while my sister and her husband would get the rental cars. The other costs we would split. The plane tickets were north of 12k, while the car rentals were $1000, which we are fine with. My sister then decided she couldn't afford the trip at the time ( after agreeing on the date months prior), so I rebook the tickets, incurring a $1200 fee, which my sister did not pay for. + +Then we finally go on the family trip together. My sister asks if I could pay for all the trip expenses first, as my card would not get charged an exchange fee - that she would pay me back after the trip. When we came back from the trip, my sister says she can't pay me back until 2 months from now, as she wants to have a big party for her son. My wife is annoyed at my sister as well, but has more sympathy than me, and wants to ""help"" her pay for the party by giving $500, maybe even $1000. OH, did I mention my sister is dentist in the U.S., and makes good money? Granted she owes 150k in student debt, but her and her husband own 2 properties. The debt for the trip isn't much, about 3k...I am just really frustrated at her lack of respect.",0 +5906,"My dad is supposed to pick us up from school, but he hasn’t answered my texts or phone calls. He’s supposed to pick us today, and I’m supposed to tell him to pick us up, but he hasn’t answered my texts or my phone calls. Either he’s asleep or drunk out of his mind. I sent my first text twenty minuets after he dropped us off, and he hasn’t answered this or any further texts. He can’t have gotten drunk that fast can he? I seriously need some advice here because now I’m stranded in school and my mom is currently at work…",0 +5907,"My Family Won’t Pick Me Up From The Airport. Do I Have The Right To Be Angry?. I’m angry because I just helped my parents move down south and now I’m flying back to Philly and nobody in my family will pick me up from the airport: + +It will be about $100 to take an Uber home and neither my wife or my sisters will offer to come get me. + +Do I have a right to be angry ?",0 +5908,"Wife doesn’t allow me to interact with our son. Background information: I (25m) live in France whereas my wife (23) lives in England (our son is 4 months old). Because we live in different countries she often visits me every other week or once a month. We’ve been married for 2 years. + +My wife refuses to live in France because she can’t understand the language, doesn’t like the area we would live in and doesn’t have any friends there. Even after I said that I could help change everything that is stopping her from moving, she still declined, so I moved without her. Before the baby she would be here for 2 weeks then in England for 2 weeks to see her friends and family but now we have a baby she’s there full time. + +Ever since I found out she was pregnant I wanted her to move to France so I can support her and get to know our son. She refused to move because she’ll need help from her family, I obviously agreed so I suggested that we can invite them over for how ever long she’d like but, she declined my offer. + +9 months later, the baby is born in England and thankfully I was there for it. A week later, I have to go back to work and I once again asked if she could visit me more often so I get time to actually see my son but she said she doesn’t want to go to France until he’s the ‘proper age’. 2 months later, I still haven’t seen my son except from a facetime call every other day, she always updates me on every little thing he’s doing, which I’m thankful for but I just wish I could be there in person to see. + +A month ago my wife has began visiting me but every time she arrives she doesn’t let me do anything. I try to change his nappy (she interferes), I try to soothe him (she interferes) every little thing I do she just interrupts, claims I’m doing it wrong and takes the baby away to do it herself. I have such little time to be with our son and she always takes every moment away from me. I’ve tried numerous times to explain that I don’t appreciate it when she just interrupts and takes him away but she just says that she’s doing it because of her ‘motherly instincts’ + +My wife arrived here Sunday and is leaving tomorrow evening and I still haven’t had any time to actually be there for our son. Every time I bring it up she just shuts me down. I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve tried everything. + +TLDR; my wife and I live in different countries, every time she visits I try to be there for our son but she always interrupts + +*I don’t know if this is the right sub for this so I apologise if it’s not. Throwaway account for obvious reasons. I have posted this in another sub*",0 +5909,"What do you think about distancing toxic family. So shit happened and I don’t see myself ever wanting to involve myself with particular company. Other family members say you can’t drop your relationships with blood but I see otherwise. For the sake of my mental health I’ve cut off relatives, I’m at peace with this because I forgave them but I never want them involved in my life ever again. I’ll be civil but set boundaries. Is this selfish or is this not?",0 +5910,"My wife gets mad with me because I was sending our kids at a swimming pool for their own.... All february I was sending my two children (13M and 10M) at a swimming pool every saturday, while I take care of my mum (my wife is an event organizer and she isn't at home all saturday), the swimming pool is like 40 minutes from our house , so I give my eldest son money for the bus and for food, I let them went to the pool alone because my eldest son has been attending swimming lessons for the last 6 weeks, so I guess he already know how to swim and he can take care of my youngest son... + +This morning when my wife found out, she gets crazy and really mad with me, saying that I was putting our kids life in danger. + +When I was a kid I used to went out with my siblings alone. + +Never happened something bad with our kids, they already went alone to school, etc. I really didn't find anything wrong with that. + +I am wrong?",0 +5911,"Is it my (23M) responsibility to stay with my mom(57F). My father passed away last year.. I have been thinking about this for a while and my sister believes I should take care of my mom as my father passed away. Personally, I don't want to stay with my mom, I'm 23 and I need to do lot of things in life and my career is my first priority at the same time I am into travelling, meeting new people and offcourse women. + +I feel like if i stay with my mom I won't have entire freedom to whatever I want and if i don't stay with my mom i would become selfish aashole. + +We have a house in a small city and I want to move to metro city so I can grow and have more opportunities and plan is that my mom will also join me here. + +So I'm really confused about this +Would appreciate your advice",0 +5912,"I kinda feel dumped by mom ... am I being oversensitive ?. Well i'm a 22 male . I live with my mom and 2 brothers . we really are very close to eachother after my dad left us for like 10 years now . + +So , along the years I don't know if it's true or not but i feel like my mom prefers my older brother than me . btw i'm the middle bro. When she has an argument with him and he may get angry and do some bad stuff , like a couple of hours pass or even a day and they get good together again . As for me , If i litterally just get her a bit angry she shall not talk to me like for a weak or smt and act as it doesn't even matter for her. + +too much stuff like this to say so i hope u understand what i want to say + +my main problem here is : + +my last birthday was in september when we all have summer vacation so we kinda have time to celebrate . but , what happened is , not a single one of them did even remember my birthday and the day passed like any other day . I remember only mom writing a 2 - lines post on fb . + +so I was a bit mad and spoke to mom and told her how disappointed I am . For my surprise, she got mad at me and how i'm so shallow and that they all have stuff to do and that my big brother is surely busy with his work and we are kinda grown ups and we DO NOT NEED to care about these stuff . So on that love is in the heart and it doesn't have to be expressed . + +well I got past it and didn't make it a big deal . + +today, it's my big brother birthday . I have exams from yesterday for like 1 month long in Medical faculty , so I really am short in time and over stressed by studying . But for my surprise , mom woke up so early today and started setting up the house with decorations and gifts . Then she started making a cake and ordered his favorite food . + +So , I told her that I'm short in time and maybe we can delay it for tomorrow after my exam so I could have some time till the next exam . but she answered that I still have a month to go and today is his birthday so it can't be tomorrow . + +I'm a bit frustrated .....actually I'm so disappointed and feel so dumped . But maybe the circumstances differ . Am I shallow ? or that really hurts to see you being neglected ?",0 +5913,"I think my child is being poisoned. Throwaway account. + +I think my young song (4) is being poisoned by his father. + +At first it was just a joke I made with my friends, because he was often getting sick (fever, throwing up, stomach ache) when he went to his fathers. We have 50/50 custody, one week on, one week off. It’s been six months and at least once a month, when at his fathers, he returns him to me saying he’s sick and he doesn’t want to get the other people living in his house sick (he lives with his girlfriend and her toddler). + +I might just be paranoid, I’m well aware. But what do I do to check? Is there anything I can do? + +I live in Canada if that matters.",0 +5914,"(MTF 27) I'm ghosting and lying to my parents (60 m and f). how do I know if ghosting and lying to my parents is justified? + + +I'm trans, my parents are fairly radical and extreme, racist anti LGBT anti-trans . + + +my dad hid at work for most of his married life and most of my childhood and my mom is a screamer and manipulator. Either that or me and my sister are overreacting and constant yelling and a complete lack of parental affection is normal. + +In about 2 or 3 months it's most likely going to be impossible for me to interact with them at all without them figuring it out, and for my own safety I faded into the woodwork. + +Over the past few days I've played three card Monte with my own address. And told a few outright lies so they think they know where to find me and they actually have no clue + + +But it feels like I'm betraying them. + +I'm 80% sure they wouldn't do anything physical, but really that's not high enough. And I'm 10,000% sure they would be aggressive and emotionally manipulative which I don't know if I could stand right now I'm just starting to heal + +They're not exactly cuddly people, I remember once when I was a teenager I told my dad I wanted to commit suicide and he told me to go ahead. + +Loving and comforting and supporting they definitely are not.",0 +5915,"ok did ANYONE'S parents NOT give them weird trauma growing up which now needs therapy?. My siblings (4, in mid to lates 30s) and I had considerably awful parenting with manipulative and emotionally abusive father (who also traumatized our mom) AND said mom who had her own knicks and knacks. + +Now well into adulthood, few of my siblings have kids but looks like they havent recovered from their childhoods resulting in some extremely weird, push-it-under-the-rug parenting. + +Is this some impossible cycle to break out of? + +What did your parents do SO well in parenting that you don't need therapy or what are you doing now as a parent to raise kids who will grow up to be non-traumatized adults?",0 +5916,"I never want to live away from my mom.. I’m 23F, and I recently graduated college. I worked and went to school both full time, i pay all my own bills, and some of the household bills, & pay rent to my mom. I have my own car, license, the whole nine. I think I’m successful, & independent. But I live at home with my mom. Me and my mom are the BEST of friends. People are always saying “don’t you plan on moving out soon?” or “you should be moved out by 25” but I don’t want to. Thinking about moving anywhere without my mom makes me want to vomit. My mom and I have even been discussing buying a new house together, where we live now is dangerous, in another state. I really don’t plan on moving away from her any time soon… does that make me seem immature? I don’t even know why I care what it makes me “seem,” but I do. Societal pressures have been getting to me recently. I just want to know others opinions. Is this normal? Am I limiting myself?",0 +5917,"My brother is about to make a huge mistake. do I tell him?. So my brother is engaged to a horrible, horrible woman. No one in the family likes her and we're all upset but no kne is saying anything. +She's a few years older than him and treats him like a child because of it. She's INCREDIBLY rude, entitled, talks down to everyone she meets, is lazy, lives in filth, and makes my brother take care of her (while infantalizing him). +She's making him choose between a cool car and a baby, because she doesn't want kids (valid, and probably for the best in her case) but my brother has always been very vocal about wanting them his whole life and would make an absolutely wonderful father. +She also refuses to let him invite anyone to the wedding because she doesn't get along with her family (they bought her condo though) which is another thing that's very important to him. +She NEVER stops taking and will bulldoze every conversation because she's right about everything. +My brother is extremely sensitive and kind hearted, with a lot of love to give and it breaks my heart to see him in a one sided relationship. He has been engaged before to someone who also took advantage of him and its destroyed the bit of confidence he once had. I hate that he thinks he can't do any better than her and is willing to compromise so much of himself. +So my question is, do I tell him? I don't want to ruin our relationship but he's making a huge mistake.",0 +5918,"I think my dad [58 M] is porn addictive and I [19F] feel very uncomfortable. What should I do?. When I look at his phone, I often see the porn sites. I was like well, it’s just an entertainment. So, I didn’t really take it seriously. But u know, it becomes too often and I start getting worried for him. + +So, I looked at his phone browser history. To my horror, he was just searching and watching the videos of father and daughter ****ing up together. He also searched what would the baby be like if a woman get pregnant with her own father. Like wtf + +I noticed that he was being strange during these months. Whenever he hugged me and kissed me while saying good night, I feel like he was touching my skins. So, I’ve been avoiding to do these things cuz I feel uncomfortable. + +Recently, I caught him staring at my boobs but I thought it was just an accident and he wasn’t intentionally doing it. But now, I feel so scared. Whenever I think of it, it’s so disgusting. + +I feel like I’ve lost my dad. I loved him. I trusted him. Everything is ruined. I guess I’m not a daughter to his eyes anymore.",0 +5919,"My sisters boyfriend is causing rifts that no-one wants to address. Content Warning - mention of paedophilia + +Currently I (22m) am a university student, so I go back to my family home outside of term time. My sister (27f) finished her degree and lives permanently in our family home. My sisters boyfriend (28m) used to visit the family home quite regularly, and then moved in permanently at the start of the pandemic. He has a lot of debt (>£50,000 that I am aware of) that he has got from issues surrounding his family, and had a minimum wage job until he was furloughed at the start of the pandemic, so has not had a source of income for nearly 2 years. He has minimal qualifications beyond high school, and has not been looking for a new job while he has lived under my parents' roof, instead just using the rent-free situation to slowly chip into paying off his debt. + +My sister is now employed in a fairly well paying job, and is helping to pay off his debts, meaning that they are not saving money to move out of the house, as my parents want them to do. He has a lot of bad habits and poor manners, often leaving dishes unwashed, not helping with chores, leaving things out for others to clean up, playing loud games until the early morning (stopping my sister from sleeping, as well as the rest of the family) and helping himself to food and drink that isn't his. My mum takes particular issue with his behaviour, often finding him unbearable/embarrassing to be around for his sloppy dressing and eating habits, even out in public. My sister and her boyfriend have made many impulse purchases that litter my parents house, much to the disdain of my mother, also exacerbating the issue of saving money to move out. + +This has also damaged my relationship with my sister, as while I am back home for university breaks, we rarely see them since they will cook their food and go back to their room, increasing the distance between them and the rest of the family and making it harder to raise concerns. + +Both he and my sister are anti-vax, and have received no doses of Covid vaccines, despite living with my parents who are both at fairly high risk due to their age and health conditions. My parents have wished they would get vaccinated to remove the unnecessary risk, but feel unable to bring it up to them. + +Despite both of my parents having multiple issues with them, including around the length of his stay, neither of them have ever mentioned much at all about this to either my sister or her boyfriend, instead taking the passive-aggressive route to get their message across, and venting to each other or me about it. They do this because we live in a home that is too small for our family, so we all have to live in close proximity, and my sister can be quite unpredictable with her reactions. She has a history of lashing out when she is angry or upset, often directed towards me by hitting or pushing me, and is extremely defensive of her boyfriend, so no one wants to criticise either of them on anything for fear of her reaction, which could include her disowning our parents. Often, if they take a direct approach to bring something up to my sister, it ends with her in tears, and the subject is promptly dropped. + +The boyfriend's debt issues stem from problems he has had with his family in the past, with a large fracture occurring due to his Dad being a registered sex offender, having slept with a 13 year old girl after meeting her online, causing the parents to split up and the Dad doing jail time after his wife threatened to go to the police. Despite the rest of his family disowning the Dad, my sister's boyfriend is the only one that has remained in good contact with his Dad. This has caused some concerns in my family over the involvement of his Dad in family events, as the sister's boyfriend would likely want him to come along. Mentioning these concerns would likely cause greater rifts, so this has never been brought up to either of them. We have young kids in our extended family, so I'm not sure parents would be comfortable with him being there if him being on the register was not kept a secret (there is no open register in my country). + +I am concerned about the long term effects on my family from bottling up all of these issues in a very confined space, and it does not seem like the situation will change anytime soon without some kind of intervention. + +TL;DR My sisters boyfriend has overstayed his welcome at my family home, but my parents are too scared of my sister's reaction to mention anything, despite the rifts it is causing.",0 +5920,"Unvaccinated Christmas. This is my first post here ever and I need some unbiased advice. I’m struggling with this and I always try to follow my instincts. We’re going to visit family for Christmas- my in laws. I also think my husband’s sister and her family will be there. They are all anti vaxxers. Everyone of them (3 including the kids). They aren’t taking the pandemic seriously, they don’t wear proper face coverings when they go out, they think that it’s not as serious as the government makes it to be, they also think that it’s all a scam/big pharma scheme. I don’t want to go there for supper and seeing them in their home. I don’t feel comfortable but feel a lot of pressure from my husband. Our children want to see everyone but I don’t think they get the gravity of the situation. Then again I feel if I get COVID or a variant, I’ll resent my husband. I don’t know what to do. Am I being too paranoid? I’m considering sending him alone and then making him isolate. Please help… also I hate this pandemic.",0 +5921,"I dont want to get my aunt a gift bc she disrespected me. Okay so, every Xmas my family draws names out of a hat and there's a $50 limit on what you can gift to the person whose name you pull. I got my aunts. My aunt is known for poking fun and teasing us but I feel like this is just straight up disrespect. I asked her what she wanted and she said a gift card to a bar she frequents. I messaged the bar on FB to see if they do giftcards since there's no other info about the bar online (very small town bar). My mom called me and told me that she knows for a fact that the bar doesn't do giftcards and my aunt knew that. So, she wanted to send me to this bar, which is about 1.5hr drive away from me, to try and get a giftcard she knew didn't exist. Am I crazy for feeling disrespected since she thought it was funny that I would put in the effort to drive there, waste my gas, and give her $50 for the bar when she KNEW that I wouldn't be able to get her gift there?",0 +5922,"Should I discipline my toddler for not wanting to share his toys, or should it be the mothers responsibility to supply her kid with his own toys?. My son is the only child. My sister's 11 month old moved in with us for a while until she could save up for her own place. My son HATES sharing his toys and cries if his cousin even touches them. Even if it's a toy he's not playing with, if his cousin crawls over there and plays with his toys, my son will go over there and cry and want to take it away from him. I want my son to learn how to share his toys with others, but on the other hand I don't know if I should discipline my son because he's used to being an only child and not used to sharing his toys.. My nephews father gets after my son for not sharing.. + +​ + +What's your opinion? Should I get after him for not sharing or is it not his fault for acting like this because it's his toys and that his mother should give him his own toys.",0 +5923,"Tired of my brother asking me for money. I (26f) am the oldest with two younger brothers. 19m and 15m. I do not live at home with the brothers or our parents but I am not far away. + +About every other time I my family, 15m will ask me for money. Just today I was on the phone with mom and he chimes in asking for $10-20. I always tell him no. My mother usually sides with him, telling me that I should be a good sister and help out and it's not going to hurt me to give him money. + +From my end, I don't want to start giving money because I fear it will become a habit. Also (and I know this sounds mean) but I didn't grow up with older siblings and had to make do. I knew better than to ask for money because we didn't have it and it was only my parents I could ask. + +Every time 15m asks me for me for money, I tell him that he has 2 parents and a brother at home. He replies that they're either broke or refusing. Like I said, if it was good enough for me then it's good enough for him. + +I think my refusal today made my mom a bit more mad than usual so I came here for advice.",0 +5924,"How to get over being the ugly sister?. Hi Reddit, I (18f) have a twin sister(18f) and an older sister(23f), and we are close and I love them. + +But I've always been envious of them for being the beautiful sisters. I don't mean it in a self-deprecating way, but as an observation. + +Whenever relatives come to visit, my sisters are showered with compliments on how pretty they are, that they could be a model, they look like \*insert beautiful actress\*, their hair has such a nice color, etc., but say nothing of the sort when they see me. + +One time my sister noticed it and became kinda uncomfortable, so she mentioned to a relative that I looked pretty today & the relative just hummed while looking away. + +It's not just family, random people in the street literally compliment them by calling them beautiful. They've had multiple boyfriends together and even more guys who had an unrequited crush on them. + +It sounds petty, but it's been affecting my self esteem and I've been thinking that on Christmas cards and such people probably automatically label me as the ugly sister. + +I've worked hard to be an educated and well-read person, and have worked hard on my personality to be a kind person to kinda compensate for my appearance, but sometimes I just want someone to see me as they see my sisters. + +I know pretty people don't automatically have it easy due to their appearance, my sisters have often felt uncomfortable when strangers comment on their appearance & have lost important friendships when a guy's crush was unrequited, and they are both interesting & funny & smart & loving people who deserve to be seen as more than their beauty. + +But it's been bothering me more than usual lately, so I wanted to know from fellow ""ugly"" siblings out there, what do you guys do to make yourself feel better?",0 +5925,"My 25M mother 50+F left me my dad 60 and my sister 20F because she was unhappy with the arranged marriage and went abroad in 2014 I never talked to her since and she wants me back in her life.. As the title says , she divorced and left abroad to her new husband after more than 20 years of marriage and two children. + +For me atleast it came out of blue and I shut myself to her , she was horrible , she just left us all hanging here even my sister who was still in school at that time , I was in collage. + +Because of her my dad had to change the house come to the place where I had my collage as my sister needed support and we managed in a good way. + +Now I am 25 with a great job , dad is retired and sister is on her way to become a doctor. + +I never talked to her since she had gone , I mean I talked but just hi , happy birthday etc . Just like a far relative. Now she came back to India ( where I live ) met me and my sister and cried and said she can't live without us and that I and her please talk to her more as she needs us . + +I am still not talking where as her ways of messaging and calls have changed , she is lot more into talking . + +Sister and I are silent, dad says to forgive her , but it's not only about that its about her wanting to be my mother while she wasn't a mother or deserving of that post. She is back now that we are all mentally stable and are almost over her . + +Who all have been in this situation? How have you handled it ? Therapy helps yeah that is there . + +TL;DR! My 25M mother 50+F left me my dad 60 and my sister 20F because she was unhappy with the arranged marriage and went abroad in 2014 I never talked to her since and she wants me back in her life.",0 +5926,"How much money should I give my mom?. My mother 55F lives with me 32F and my husband 32M and three kids, 5yo, 3yo and 6 month old. My mother does not work because she had a shoulder injury at work 5 years ago as a CNA. And because people ask all the time, my mom sued and they settled for 20 grand. She doesn’t get disability because they found nothing wrong. She has no retirement and no pension. She says she is in constant pain and can no longer work. So, she has been living with us for about 3-4 years now. I use to give her money but in 2020 I stopped because I wanted to save as much money as possible in order to buy our first home. Since we stopped paying her, my husband and I relationship with her has deteriorated. +I thought finally fulfilling our goal in buying our home WITH a mother in law suite would help. But our relationship is still rocky. +And so this is why I’m writing on here for some opinions other than mine and my husbands opinion that, let’s face it, we are a bit resentful. + +Here is our situation: my husband works from home M-F, I work 12 hour shifts from 6am-6:30pm with a 60-90min commute on Mon and Wednesday and every other weekend. My mom comes over to take care of the kids on Mondays and Wednesdays. She comes over and makes breakfast for the kids and changes them.. then she informs my husband she is gonna go eat breakfast and leaves for 2 hours. Then she comes over helps as my husband makes lunch for the kids. Then she leaves for her lunch and comes back for 1-2hours so my husband can make dinner, give them a bath and puts them down for bed. On my days off she might come over 2/3 days off and wash dishes and start a load of laundry. She might sweep and vacuum all the while commenting how I can live in such filth and how I don’t discipline my kids to clean. My husband doesn’t want to start paying her again because he says since he has worked from home, she has done less and less and he pretty much takes care of the kids. I do agree with him there. My husband is tired of her always complaining about me or to me. And I am too. But I am very grateful that my kids don’t have to go to daycare. They adore her. And I don’t worry when I go to work far away. So I do want to compensate my mother at least some. +My husband is very mad that she wants money on top of living here free and he doesn’t like the way she treats and gaslights me. I almost don’t want her over to help when I’m off because she does make me feel like shit. My husband is also mad because my mother is very wasteful. The settlement money is gone. The 400-600 a month I use to give her is also gone. She actually owes money on credit cards right now. She says it’s because she puts gas in the car and groceries but I pay for everything and I tell her if I forget to get something for her or fill the gas to let me know. But she says she hates asking for money like a child and I should just give her money each month again. My husband points out that we still have debt to pay off and we have some goals we want to achieve and to replenish our emergency funds. That maybe we should do that first. +I understand but I also don’t want to take my mom for granted like she often states. So my question is, should I give my mom money each month and how much? + +TLDR: Should I pay my mother for taking care of my kids when I support her and my husband feels she helps minimally and is wasteful and a bit toxic?",0 +5927,"I (25F) have to parent my mother and my 3 younger siblings (21M, 17F, 11F)…. I have a 17 year old sister who drives my moms car around with no license, with all my moms weed and weed paraphernalia in the car because that’s where she keeps it. I called her out for it and was gaslit to the high heavens. She told me my sister was 17 and could just go get a license if she needs one so bad. I was so shocked I didn’t even know what to say. + +Later I approached my sister and will end up having to help her get her license. + +My youngest sister is 11 and her dad is a registered sex offended who was charged earlier this year. (We all have different fathers) I told my mom that my sister should see a therapist just to have a professional to talk to (which my sister really wants) and my mom said that since my 17 year old sister went to therapy and it didn’t help that she didn’t think it was necessary. (I was also medically neglected and found out a few years ago I’ve had a myriad of untreated mental health disorders.) + +So now, I will be setting up my sister with a therapist and driving her there once a week… (They live an hour away.) + +This is just two things of so, so, so many. She’s never home, my youngest sister is always home alone. Shes supremely immature… like she genuinely has the mindset of a 14 year old. I’m not even gonna start with my childhood (if you could call it that.) As the oldest I was basically an “adult” when I was 12 and moved out at 18. + +My brother had a mental breakdown last year and I convinced him to move in with me and my husband and now he has his own place, works at my job, and is doing really, really well. + +I’m kind of venting but also posting because I want advice. I don’t know how to tread with my relationship with her and my sisters… My mom is constantly offended my my meddling. I want to be there for my sisters as much as possible but I am constantly struggling with drawing healthy boundaries and knowing what my responsibilities as an older sister actually are.",0 +5928,"What else can I do?. Ok so here is my situation. + +I am 16, and pregnant. I know I screwed up. I went to a party in July and let a guy talk me into doing things. + +When I found out I was pregnant I had an oh shit moment and it took a few days to settle in. I also realized that I need to grow up and change my behavior. When I told my parents they were understandably upset. My mom burst into tears as she was yelling at me and my dad just said he wasn’t my dad anymore. + +I am now 20wks along with a little girl. I’m planning on keeping her. I’ve got a part time job at a diner, and I tutor a few middle school kids online durring the weekend. Im maintaining A’s and B’s in school, mainly A’s. My friend group has changed and I don’t party anymore. I’ve also been helping more out at home. Even am trying to learn to cook. + +My dad won’t even be in the same room as me. My mom is at least civil to me now but she will also make comments about how she can’t even trust me when I go to the movies or something like that. + +I don’t know what to do to even start repairing this. So I’m here to ask; what else can I do?",0 +5929,"Feeling sick/ anxious at the thought of going to my brother's birthday party. I'm the youngest of my mom's 4 surviving kids. I've been there for everyone when they've needed me but the one time I asked for help they promised and lied.. Now they live happily as if I never needed or asked for their help. They come to visit and brag about all the vacations they've been on while I've been here 24 hours a day, 7 days a year. I could just walk away and drop her in a home, but that's not what her nor my dad did to us when times were tough for them. I asked for their help and they lied. + +Now my sister in law is giving my brother a birthday party and I am filled with nauseating dread at the thought of being around all these happy people while I am so sad and exhausted. If I don't take my mom, they'll talk about me like a dog. If I send my mom with my late brother's wife (she's the only one that helps me from time to time), they'll talk about me like a dog. If I go, I'll sit there quietly while they brag and laugh and give one word answers to keep from crying. And they'll talk about me like a dog. I can't win. + +TL;DR: do I go to my brother's birthday party knowing how miserable I'll be",0 +5930,"Will my daughter ever forgive me?. Will my daughter ever forgive me? + +My adult daughter (24)will not talk to me. I recognize my part of it, and I understand her initial pain, but when I go out of the way to apologize and try to heal with her, and she still perpetuates (publicly) that I am some monster that has disowned her, I just don’t think there’s anything I can do, it’s in her court now. + +I was not accepting when my daughter came out as a lesbian, I am a lifelong Catholic. I told her I will always love her, but I don’t agree with her choice. I believe you can love people without agreeing with every part of them. For a while, our relationship was rocky until she started dating a girl, and I asked her to keep her relationship separate from our family, and now I realize how wrong that is. She has not spoken to me since, I’ve reached out multiple times to tell her I’m sorry, she missed the death and funeral of my grandmother who had a huge upbringing in her life because she refuses to talk to me. I’ve offered ro go to therapy with her, she refuses. She no longer even talks to her sisters because of their proximity to me, and says they enable me being hateful and abusive because they won’t stop talking to me. + +She got married last week, none of her family was there. My friend sent me a screenshot of a post she made about how she didn’t have a supportive mother to help her plan her wedding or pick out her dress, and honestly it made me so angry, I wanted nothing more but to be there. + +I understand the hurt I caused, but I believe this goes beyond me. I love my daughter so much, regardless of her life choices, she could be in prison and I would feel the same way.",0 +5931,"I often wish I was born into a functional family and sometimes feel jealous of others. I'm sure I'm not alone?. I come from a family with intergeneration trauma, abuse, neglect, and the whole nine yards. We are largely healed by all of it, but it's taken decades of work and therapy and it's been really tough. + +I 've long since (I'm 40) have accepted the fact that my family will never magically heal, and that what we have now is not great but decent (dad remarried mom didn't, estrangement is still present) But I still sometimes get upset when I see other functional families or people who DIDN'T go through decades of therapy. + +I'm well aware that not all families are functional and even functional families have issues. But I'm also very ambitious and I often wonder what it would be like if I had been able to realize my full potential earlier. I've done lots of CBT and reframing this issue but just today I think I had a breakthrough that it makes more sense to just embrace the unfairness and crap that I happened to inherit a lot of pain. Not my fault but my responsibility. No point arguing with reality, and why I am making this post. + +Life can be unfair (though I strive for fairness) and just acknowledging I was playing with a stacked deck did make me feel better in a way that countless articles about how adversity doesn't prevent success (it doesn't, there are many successful people with dark pasts) didn't. After all, while I can be inspired and inspire others, I still need to live my life and I'm only human, as my therapist reminds me all the time. + +The responses to my last post here were very helpful so I am posting again. I hope everyone is having a great week.",0 +5932,"My mother always slaps my face. I can't stand it anymore. I don't know what else can I do, she's very aggresive I don't hate her because she's very lovely too, but I don't want that kind of love, some days she's mistreating me and the other she pampers me. One day she broke the broom on my head",0 +5933,"my dad (49) is making me uncomfortable, how do i tell him to stop?. for some context, my mom and my dad are separated. i live with my mom and see my dad every other weekend. me and my mother are super close, but me and my dad…not so much. anyways, im a teenager and like to have a personal bubble. i’ve never been a touchy person (hugs, holding hands, etc.) that much, only with people like my mom and very close friends and family. whenever im with my dad though, he always gets really touchy with me. he’ll put his hand on my thigh or make me hug him. it’s never gone past that, but i still don’t like it at all. sometimes i’ll inch away from him when he tries to put his hand on my shoulder, and he takes it offensively. one day i told him “im not a big fan of unwanted physical contact” and then he went on this whole rant about how children are supposed to love their father. i knew exactly that he was going to say that, and i felt horrible. i felt like i was in the wrong and that i was being mean. + +i haven’t told my mom about this yet, and i dont know what to do. he hasn’t stopped and if i tell him again, he’ll do the same thing. i have a lot of problems with my dad but this ranks the highest. anybody have any advice?",0 +5934,"Having BPD or similar disorders isn’t an excuse to abuse your children. You decided to bring your child into this world, you are the adult who has experienced more. The responsibility is solely on you. You do not bring a child into this world to use as a scapegoat, to use to enact your trauma on, or even to be loved. Your child is a blank slate that owes you nothing. If you expect anything, stop passing on the generational trauma and show up for your children. Be the parent they deserve. Stop making excuses. Stop expecting them to lighten the load of your problems. That isn’t and never will be their job. + +You deserve all the sympathy in the world for the trauma you experienced and that caused your personality/mood/mental disorder. But you deserve absolutely no sympathy for abusing your children and passing on the trauma. +And if you don’t have children yet, seriously consider why you want them and if you should. + +Being imperfect and human doesn’t have to include abuse. Being human means having the ability to self reflect and consciously act. You were given that ability. Use it. + +If this post doesn’t apply to you, then it doesn’t apply to you. There are no excuses.",0 +5935,"Uncle said as long as I rent a room landlords grandkids get to use it when I’m out of town….. I’m trying to wrap my head on this situation because when I moved to California. I lived with this family, they are very nice no doubt. After everytime I come back from a vacation whether it’s out of the country or to another area my room has been used by the landlords grandkids and I confronted them because it didn’t say anywhere in the contract that they can use it when I signed it. So they stated that they thought I will be okay with it. So I brought it to the schools attorney who helped me with the situation but that’s beside the point. I asked my uncle for his opinion about legal issues and he stated it doesn’t matter what I signed on the contract, it’s their house and when I am out of town they can of course let their grandkids use my room. I need your advice on this matter.",0 +5936,"My boyfriend quit his job to become a professional wrestler. But we have bills and kids to take care of and i don't know what to do.. + +We both work full time but we don't make a lot of money from our jobs. We do make above minimum wage and both our checks are necessary to pay the bills. He's also very obsessed with wrestling, He watches it multiple times a week and often goes to Indy shows around us. He also blows a lot of money of crap, like buying actual gear the wrestlers wore in the ring. We also have 2 kids (17 and 7) + +HIs boss called the house today, he asked me if my boyfriend was ok and that he suddenly quit today. I told them i had no idea what's going on. He got home, i asked why he quit. He sat the family down and said he was pursuing a childhood dream, he was going to train to become a professional wrestler and was quitting to pursue that. I asked how we'd pay for that, he said we could get it out of the savings account. I asked about bills and he said we'll just have to cut back, maybe get cheaper plans on internet and cancel the netflix, oh and buy generic groceries. + +I don't know what to do. He's in his 40's and isn't even much of an athlete, he's on the husky side, plus he's only 5'8'. I guess it wasn't enough to watch this crap every week, now he wants to be in the show. I tried telling him this and he brought up how many wrestlers got started when they were older and a lot of wrestlers have been overweight. I tried telling him to at least work part time, but he said it takes dedication and he's sick of working like a dog all day, ""It's time i do something for myself."" + +I'm pretty sure he's having a midlife crisis. I don't know what to even do about this. How can i get through to him? That we can't afford him to go through with this and that he's not built for wrestling.",0 +5937,"It's normal or appropiate for a 13 year-old boy to bathe with his 10yo little brother?. I am 19yo, usually I am not at home Wednesday, but yesterday I came to my home just to ask my 13yo brother a favor, and I heard my two brothers laughing on the bathroom, and I saw them with the door opened, they were on the tub together, my 10yo brother was naked just wearing a white brief, and my 13yo brother was also shirtless just wearing his blue short pants who use to play football. The tub is for just one person, so my 10yo brother was laying over my 13yo brother. + +I was shocking, but anyway I entered to the bathroom and I started to talk with my 13yo brother, and he was talking with me and playing with my brother at the same time, acting like it was normal, then I just left. + +This morning I talked with my mother about that, and she says that it's normal and even cute, but I find it weird and inappropiate. + +It is appropiate?",0 +5938,"Is it normal for me to get hurt when my father brought in his second family when my mom passed away last year?. My mom passed away last year. My father had an affair 13 years ago that we know nothing about. In April of this year, my father brought them home. + +Is it normal for me to feel sad, to feel hurt? Is it normal that I feel like my father abandoned us? And replaced us with his second family? + +Or am I just overreacting?",0 +5939,"is it ok to be mad at my parents for having me?. i just found out my parents are related and i cant stop hating them for having me knowing they could of given me genetic defects. they keep trying to talk to me but i dont want to talk to them, i hate them so much right now. they keep saying its unfair for me to be mad at them.",0 +5940,"Dad forcing me to dump boyfriend. So for a little background, my dad and I have never had a good relationship. Growing up, I was never really allowed to do anything, I couldn't drive or have a job, I couldn't cut my hair short or dye it, I couldn't have piercings even on my ears, I HAD to go to church. I was only allowed to do one sport starting my sophomore year of high school and it took HOURS of begging from my whole family. I felt like who I was, was his choice not mine. All I really did was get straight As and hangout with my friends once my school work was done. My home life was a disaster and I never wanted to be there. But my dad did always provide for my family and I. Fast forward to my junior year of high school, I'm 17 and I start dating this guy who is a grade above me but also 17. We date for couple months then break up. I don't think we ever really wanted it to end, at least I didn't. But he was dumb and going to college and didn't want a long distance relationship at the time. Over the next year, I tried dating another boy and my dad was furious and refused to let me date because I was so upset about the first breakup. I never brought home any more boys after the second. When I tried applying to colleges, my dad would not let me apply to the place I really wanted to go because he said it wasnt a good enough school for me. I didn't care though, it had everything I wanted and was in a great area. Still, I wasn't allowed to apply and my dad said if I did, I was on my own after I turned 18. I should've applied looking back, but I was terrified of being on my own. + +Over the next two years, I go to a college my dad wants me to and me and the first boy start texting on and off and meeting up on and off. We never officially dated again, but we would start talking then have a dumb argument and stop again. Finally, after my first year of college, he tells me, he loves me and wants to be with me and for the past year we have successfully done long distance and have been totally faithful to each other. We can work through issues, change perspectives, and have had a totally healthy relationship. At six months of dating, I told my dad I was talking to him again. Note, I'm 20 years old. My dad was EXTREMELY mad and threatened to take my car, stop paying for my school, and leave me at college to figure it out. So we have kept our relationship a secret since then. + +I'm not sure if I'm a bad kid for lying to my dad. The rest of my family knows and has told me to just get through college because it's not worth the debt I'd have to take on. I just want to do right by my dad, but I truly believe I've found my soulmate and I dont want to lose that over my dad being controlling. I feel like i've never got to make a choice for myself, and for once, I want to choose my what my life is like.",0 +5941,"I’m being called “ungrateful” for not accepting a job offer from my uncle. I have no idea what to do. I hate my current job. I’ve been applying and interviewing for jobs at hospitals in my area. Im not giving up. + +Recently, my uncle heard that I hate my job, and offered me a position at the store he manages. Told me he needs people for the holiday season. He offered me a cashier position, for WAY less than what I make now. Absolutely no shame to cashiers, but that’s the last thing I want to do. I haven’t worked retail since my teens, and I’m not going back. I politely declined…but he just hasn’t stopped. + +He’s called me 4 times in the past 2 days, and sent long paragraph text messages. My grandma (his mom) has even started to call me. I told her I don’t want the job. My uncle said “Most people would be grateful to have a job handed to them. I stopped replying to his text messages and calls but he won’t STOP. I have no idea what to do next. My grandma is trying to talk me into it. She said “Uncle really needs help” + +I don’t want to work for a family member. And again, NO shame to cashiers, but I have an education, and years experience. I just got an EMT certification. Im applying for positions at hospitals. I don’t want to go back to retail. + +Im so close to blocking his number. I love my grandma and don’t want to disrespect her. But he just.won’t.stop. + +It also feels shitty to have a degree, and have someone come along acting like a savior for offering you a $9/hour job… + +Anyone have any advice?",0 +5942,"My family lied about and didn’t invite me on a holiday. My mum (50) and big sister (33) live together with my sister’s kids (13 & 12). (My mum moved into their house a bit over 2 years ago after my mum lost her home). I (28f) see or talk to my mum every other day and I would consider us pretty close. + +In July my mum told me that my sister had just booked a 5-day destination holiday for them all in September. I got excited and asked if me and my son (2) could join them. My mum appeared excited too, so I got her to text my sister and ask if it was ok. I made it clear to my mum that it was ok to say no and that I understood if they just wanted to go by themselves. + +My mum got a text back, she read it but said it wasn’t my sister, and that she was probably still sleeping. I asked to see what my mum had wrote. The conversation went: + +Mum: I told her about the holiday and she wants to join us. + +Sister: Are you with her now? + +Mum: Yes. + +So my mum lied, my sister did write back. I didn’t say anything at the time and just gave her phone back. Later that day my mum text me the travel dates, but I replied that it was clear from the text exchange that I wasn’t *really* welcome and I told her not to worry about it. + +My mum tried to reassure me that they did want us to come. When I called her out on the lie that my sister hadn’t replied, she said it was because my sister hadn’t given her an answer yet (that doesn’t explain why she said she’d be sleeping). When I said the texts made it sound like they didn’t want me to come, she said my sister only asked if my mum was with me because my mum had lied to sister about where she was (confusing right?). She also said they just hadn’t thought to invite me yet because my sister had only just had the idea and impulsively booked the holiday the night before. + +Well, that was another lie because tonight I was at their house and I happened to see a holiday countdown chart that clearly showed the holiday has been booked since at least March 1st, 4 months before my mum mentioned it. I didn’t say anything and they don’t know that I saw it. + +While it does kind of suck to not be invited on their great holiday, I can understand them just wanting to go together with the 4 of them. I made that clear so I don’t think I’m being selfish, I just don’t understand why all the confusing lies upon lies. It makes me feel like they actually just don’t like me, don’t want me around, and are talking about me behind my back. Why else would they not mention it at all for 4 months and then tell so many lies? They would have definitely known I would want to go. + +Should I confront my mum that I know it has been planned since March or just drop it? They leave in 10 days so I don’t want to negatively impact their holiday but this is really getting to me. How should I approach this? + +TL;DR My mum, sister, niece & nephew have been planning a holiday since March and didn't invite me and my son. They hid it and lied about it, now I feel like they don't like me.",0 +5943,"Was this an appropriate response.. Alright this one might be long so I apologize for that. + + +When I was around 8 I accidentally discovered adult content on a pay per view channel and my mom found it on a bill the next month and boy was I in trouble. I’m talking, me being chased around the house with the belt. + +Now that led to me being curious about thing I wasn’t old enough to know about. + +And long story short after that from the ages 9-12 I was messaging men online that wanted ya know. NSFW stuff. + +My mom found out about this each time it happened cuz I wasn’t smart in hiding anything. And Again my moms response was to spank me. (In our family that looked more like us trying to run and then chasing us with ever they could get their hands on. + +That kinda thing happened few times in those years. + +I used to joke about these instances for years because it was normal to me. I had done something wrong in messaging these men online. So I got punished. + + +It wasn’t till The other day though I was telling a friend of mine about it, making a joke like I always do. and she looked at me like I was insane. And she told me that it was abuse and totally not a appropriate response to my being groomed. And I’d never thought about that before. That I was even getting groomed or that it was an unnatural response. + + +So I’m thinking was that abuse? Usually when I hear of abuse it’s way more then that. For me It happened all of 5-8 times. And I mean it got me to stop after a few years of that cycle of behavior. so ive never been that mad at my mom for it. Still not. Cuz a bit confused?",0 +5944,"Advice asked: 22 year old son: how much clutter to accept in his room. My son, 22 years old, is studying law. We are very happy with him, he does sports, is involved in clubs, has a nice girlfriend, goes next summer in the army to an elite unit. He lives with us in out house, gets 400 dollars a month from us for his living expenses, in addition he works, he can keep the money, we also pay his insurances. The only thing that freaks him out when you ask him about it is the order and cleanliness in his room. Dirty Laundry on the floor, piles of paper, dust because he doesn't vacuum for weeks. Frankly, this bothers me as a father and I can't understand it. On the other hand, I understand his argument that he can do whatever he wants in his room. Question: as a homeowner and a father who lets him stay with me for free, do I have a right to have a say in the tidiness and cleanliness of my son's room?",0 +5945,My grandma said she had an affair with Bill Clinton. She’s been diagnosed with dementia for a while now. We were warned she could have delusions but didn’t expect anything like this. It wasn’t too shocking since she used to have a crush on him but still quite a surprise to us. She insists she and Bill were a thing back in the day.,0 +5946,"How to pay rent if family bread winner dies?. My mom recently passed away and she left very little behind. Only 3000 dollars which we used to pay rent for 2 months. My dad is currently unemployed because he has to take care of my little sister who is eight years old. I am a full time university student (18). Our total expenses are about 2800$ a month. 1600 in rent, 300 for car insurance, 700 for food, internet and phone bill, about 150$ a month for gas. My dad will get some money from the government monthly as child benefit. But the rest, I’m not sure how he’ll pay it off. + +I’m hoping to not live in the streets with my dad and my 8 year old sister. Any advice would help. + +Thank you",0 +5947,"Brother taunts his daughter about her weight. I want to get her and him help.. + +My brother \[32M\] and his daughter \[13F\] recently moved in with my husband \[35M\] and I \[28F\] due to money and housing issues. I am currently supporting his daughter financially in the eyes of the law. My brother has struggled with alcohol dependency since the passing of his wife four years ago. He works in construction and has been traveling for contracts during the pandemic. Last I saw them was pre-pandemic and I noticed my niece, let's call her J, was a tad chubby then but it wasn't anything serious. I figured she would grow into the weight with time. When I picked them up from the airport, I almost didn't recognize her because she's gotten so big. I've never seen a child this heavy. She seemed to struggle getting out of the car and carrying her luggage had her winded. I was shocked and concerned to see her this way. My brother is tone deaf to the emotions of a 13 year old. He frequently refers to J as 'muffin-top', 'slim' or other inappropriate things especially when he's been drinking. I notice J hardly eats dinner but drinks sweat tea and soda, supplied by her father, almost exclusively. She sneaks food at night and has been caught many times. Once her father caught her and made a big todo about it, waking everyone up. She was crying as he forced her onto our bathroom scale and made her 'face her weight'. + +Later when she had gone to her room, I got into a fight with my brother over it and told him to knock that shit off. He said she is over 260 pounds at 5'4 which is heavier than anyone else in the family. He says her weight is out of control and he's been forcing her to go on runs every Sunday but she can hardly keep up and complains nonstop. He wasn't sure what else to do. I told him that while he means well, his tactics are bad. Of course she knows she is fat, and at that weight running is probably torture. He agreed to lay off her and let me handle some of it. + +Once all the junk food and drinks had been consumed, I simply stopped buying any and told my brother to do the same. I also told him no more fast food for her. J has certainly noticed this change and I often see her rummaging about the kitchen for snacks we no longer have. As a result, she started eating a lot more at dinner, more than anyone else, and afterwards complains of being hungry. Sometimes she throws a fit about it. She has started buying junk food after school by walking a half hour to the liquor store and back. I told my brother not to make comments on that. She doesn't have that much money to spend and its not a bad idea to get her walking. + +I've never talked to her directly about it, but I know she gets bullied for her size. It breaks my heart to see her crying after school or begging me to let her stay home. Whats worse is she also gets bullied at home. According to her, my brother still makes fun of her weight but only when I'm not around. I'm going to confront him about this soon. The next step I think is to get J to a dr's appointment. She hates the idea of it and hasn't been to a dr since her mother passed. The plan is to get her a referral to a therapist from the dr so she can unpack her issues and hopefully get her eating under control. Anyone have any ideas about what I can do to support this kid? + +TL;DR: Trying to get help for overweight 13 year old niece when her father is unsupportive but ultimately dependent on me financially.",0 +5948,"Am I wrong cutting my birth family off?. Here’s a little backstory + +I was adopted a birth, my birth mom was young and in college and didn’t want to have a kid. + +Growing up I always struggled with the fact that I was put up for adoption and felt like a mistake and wasn’t meant to be alive. When I was 14 I reached out to my birth mom. My parents told me her info (they were still in contact with her). So my parents and I flew across the country to go meet her and my birth grandma and grandpa. It went really well. + +Fast forward a year I flew across the country by myself to go see them. My adoptive mom made it a point to watch what they said because I was struggling with my mental health and was really sensitive. I stayed with my grandma because my birth moms new kids didn’t know about me and her new husband didn’t like me. + +Once I landed my grandma made me block all of our family members because they didn’t want them finding out about me (since my birth mom had a kid young with a guy she wasn’t dating). Which really hurt my feelings.I wasn’t allowed to post photos of us because they wanted to “Protect the family’s reputation”. Fast forward a couple days and my birth grandma said that we were meeting up with my birth mom and her friends at a hotel. We get there and my birth mom introduced me as their “family friend” which took me aback. After 5 minutes I excused myself to the “bathroom” I called my adoptive dad crying my eyes out and I told him what happened and he was livid and 2 hours later I was on a plane on my flight home. + +That trip was kind of my breaking point with them. I felt like such an outcast and felt like it was a waste of a trip and felt worse about myself. It re-unforced my feeling about being a mistake. She withheld information about my birth dad so I wasn’t able to contact him. (Luckily my birth dad found me when I was 20 they are way my loving and supportive) + +I sent my birth grandma on my mom’s side a note saying how much they hurt me and made me feel horrible about myself. They are angry that I cut them off and I’m starting to feel bad, was it wrong for me to cut them off? + +TLDR: Birth family treated me horrible am I wrong for cutting them off?",0 +5949,"My father has a preferred child. My dad met this girl at work 15 years ago, she is my age and she does not have a father. He treats her as her daughter. He gives her money (n.b. she is rich), attention, and send lovely texts to her every week to remind her how much he loves her and how special she is. He calls her with the nickname he used for me when I was a child (he does not use this nickname for me anymore). +I have not done anything bad to deserve this treatment. That girl is just “better” than me. Also, my father was never present during my life, he was always busy at work. +I have done my best in the past 5 years to “win” back my father’s love, but he still prefers her over me. (I am 35 now). +As a result, I developed low self-esteem and an unexplainable rage and hate towards him. +I have also lost the desire to have children, as this girl had children last year and my father and her are constantly texting about the babies are doing. +What should I do?",0 +5950,"I’m not willing to give my abusive dad a second chance. I’m turning 22 this year. I have two older brothers aged 26 and 29. All three of us are bonded and we like spending time with our mum. + +However, there’s an unspoken tension with our dad. + +We come from an asian family where it’s quite common to hit children as a form of discipline. Well in our family, my dad has been the one to practise that the most. Other than hitting us, he’s thrown chairs at 10 year old us. As per his belief, it was a form of disciplinary action. + +My mum is quite strict. But she’s not physical with us. We trust her a lot because we can feel her care despite her scoldings. Despite her strong character, she too has been a victim of abuse from my father. He has hit her and has thrown things at her, which has caused bruises on her body. + +Naturally, my siblings and I are distant from my dad to this day. + +However, my dad has noticed that we’ve been much closer to my mum. At times, we do act like he doesn’t exist and ignore him. He’d bring this up and claim that we’re being unfair for not giving him a second chance to be a good dad. He guilt trips us into thinking that we’re bad kids for ignoring him. I strongly think that all of this was caused by his own actions. + +Well the thing is, he has changed mostly. But two years ago on my birthday, he flung my cat across the hallway which caused her leg to be injured. I hated him so much on that day. How could anyone treat an innocent animal so badly? + +He claims that he’s changed. But I don’t believe him. I feel disgusted and most uncomfortable when he tries to “mend” things by wanting to kiss my cheek and hug me. I can literally feel my body tense up when I’m next to him. + +TL;DR - I can’t seem to forgive my dad for being abusive to everyone in my family even though he claims that he has changed for the better. I try to tolerate him, but its getting out of hand when he tries to “bond” with me",0 +5951,"Am I wrong for wanting my mom and her boyfriend to break up?. I know this might make me a bad person but I don’t care anymore. + +My mom and her boyfriend have been together for 2 years now, until he moved in this year. Last month he sexually assaulted me while they were both very intoxicated. My mother was passed out on our porch and that’s when he threw himself on me, I managed to get away in one piece. I waited till they were both completely sober to confront this issue, I hesitated at first but seeing him all fine and dandy while I was hurting inside boiled my blood. Out of rage and frustration I exposed this matter. I approached him and told him that he confused me for my mom he was embarrassed and said it wouldn’t happen again. I didn’t tell my mom because I didn’t think she would’ve done anything about it, if anything I think she would’ve said something disgusting among the lines of ‘you were asking for it’ + + +He told my mom and she confronted me about it. I told her everything and he said that he would leave and move out. A week later they’re talking about getting married, disgusted enough I asked if he was still moving out, they said ‘it was still up in the air’ Fast forward to today it’s finalized, he’s not moving out. So everything that happened didn’t mean anything, to either of them. Me and my little sister talked about ways to get him out, because he’s assaulted her as well while he was drunk and she was sure that because of what he did to me he would be gone but I guess not. So some way some how we have to live like this, until we move out. I just thought that my mom would want us to be safe but instead she let’s an alcoholic pedophile in the house. + + +For a split second she made me feel like my voice mattered, like I had a say on him moving out, like what he did to me was so terrible and traumatizing enough that he’d be gone, but no. It was all a lie. +And for that I wish nothing but the worst on their relationship. I want them to hate each other so much that they separate. He’s a stand up kinda guy but he’s weird and now I know this. I don’t talk to him any more and I keep my distance of course but to live like this is shitty. Did I mention my mom wants us to dress a certain way because ‘a man has wondering eyes’ She’s threatened by us, she thinks that her dude stares at us while she’s not around and for that we can’t wear shorts, no crops tops and we must always wear bras 24/7, we can’t be comfortable in our own house but for her, she dresses as she pleases. I hate it here.",0 +5952,"Did I hover too much?. I (24F) have a little sister who is 15. She asked me to take her and her boyfriend out yesterday. I chauffered them to the diner, but DIDN'T sit close to them because I didn't want to be embarrasing. I kept my distance while keeping an eye on them. + +My sister is mad that I stayed there at all. She said that I should have just left and picked them up when they were ready. She says that I'm treating her like a baby and that she doesn't need a sitter. + + +Was in I in the wrong here?",0 +5953,"My grandma will not stop commenting on my weight. What are some ways to tell her to stop?. I’m a 30F & my grandma is turning 80. I have had an unknown chronic illness for about 7 years & had been trying different medications to help alleviate some of my pain. I had been underweight since I was born, but from 2019-2021, I was heavily medicated & gained about 40 lbs. Early this year, I got off all my medications, which obviously made me lose all the weight. I’m back to the weight I was before I was on the medications, but my grandma will not stop commenting about how “skinny” I am. She left me a voicemail yesterday out of the blue saying that “you’re too skinny and you need to eat”. I’ve told her multiple times, this is natural & I don’t have any issues with eating, but she won’t stop. I’m getting sick and tired of it, because it feels like nothing I say gets through her head. I’m self-conscious already with the weight loss, I don’t need her comments on top of it.",0 +5954,"AITA: asking my mom to leave my house for lying. I (32F) have asked my mom (66F) to leave my house after lying to me about my brother(36M). To give a little more context, my brother is Drug addict and has been in and out of prison. When I was younger I would help him all I could, I stopped around 24 because he abused my help and I realized he didn’t want to help himself. But my mom has spent more than 60k to help with his felonies. Recently, he has been breaking into cars and the cops raided my moms house where he lives. They closed down her house because they found meth and said it needed to be tested, so tells me he was doing drugs in her house. She keeps saying he is not on drugs, and it must be an old pipe that he left a long time ago. 🙄she called me crying and asked if she could stay at my house until she got this figured out so I let her stay because she had no where to go, with her 15 year old dog. It’s been almost 60 days since this happened. She has been paying for him to stay at a hotel this whole time but lied about it to me and said he was paying or my other brother was paying. She has been caught in multiple lies and when I confronted her today she said it’s to protect me. I looked the other day and my brother has another warrant out for his arrest and she is letting him drive around in her car. She is still saying he is innocent and that I don’t get it because it’s not my son. She says I’m a horrible person for not helping family. +And her dog… Normally I’m okay with older dogs but I have two dogs and they hate her dog. My dogs rarely have accidents in my house and the whole time her dog has been here they pee and poop on everything! Her dog is blind and deaf and pees everywhere! I’ve asked her to leave and she keeps telling me her house hasn’t been tested, which I’ve offered to pay $2000 for, and that she is trying her best but then says I’m a horrible person for not caring about my family. AITA for not wanting to enable my mom while she is enabling my druggy brother? + +TL;DR My brother got my mom kicked out of her house for drugs. She has been with me for 60 days and keeps lying to me.",0 +5955,"I lost my dad last night. And feel all the feelings in one moment, how can I get over my sadness as quickly as possible + +Edit + + Thanks for these tips + +Today I feel much better + +Although I still feel fear from the future and iam so upset that my last days with him were full of Arguing, cursing, and other problems,Which makes me feel the most remorse",0 +5956,Polygamy. I am here for sound advice and insight! I have been with my husband for 11 years married for 4 years. Throughout our marriage we have had multiple miscarriages due to the multiple losses my husband had expressed how he agrees with the poly lifestyle and since I can’t have kids to bring someone in who can! What a blow to my ego and feeling inadequate as a woman. He says he doesn’t want to lose me but my mind is strong on divorce! Not because I do not love him but because we no longer agree. I told him he can have that lifestyle and I will leave. I also said I appreciate his honest on telling me how he feels and that he should have what he wants and I find who I want and best for me. I didn’t get married with the intentions of adding spouses. What should I do? I’m really hurt by this,0 +5957,"What's the best way to tell our family/friends we don't want dogs at our wedding?. My fiancèe and I are planning to get married and we are discussing what we want for our wedding. Be it food, dj, location and so on. +We are also discussing wether we want our friends and family to bring their dogs with them. + +To make it short: +In total there would be around 12 dogs from our family and friends and that's way to much for my fiancée and me. + +In addition: +My cousins dog acts very aggressive towards other dogs AND humans. Also tends to bite! It's also her cHiLd and has SpEcIaL RiGtHs. +My aunts dog is very old, becomes easily sick and just wants its peace. + +My fiancée has two sisters: +Sister 1 has a literally puppy, which gets very excited, wants attention anytime and still needs to learn very much. +Sister 2 has two dogs. These are the most spoiled animals I have ever seen and she can't seem to 'control' them. They eat EVERYTHING, jump at people and are very very wild. They also drool a lot. + +Our friends dogs are a mix of every dog I just described. + +We both like dogs but we came to the conclusion that we don't want them at our wedding. +The music would be loud, there are guests dancing and drinking alcohol. +Something like glass could break! + +I don't think that's an enviroment you would want to put your dog in! + +There also some guests who don't like animals in general beeing too close to them. Wether it be sniffing, caressing or jumping. + +I don't want dogs slobbering on dresses or suits, barking at each other or at all and to get special treatment. For example booking an extra room away from the party so they can get rest. And yes I overherad my aunt talking about something like that which she requested for another party... + +To my lack of understanding our family, especially my family, would want special rights for their dogs, special seats because of their dogs bla bla bla + +I also suspect that they would throw a huge fit and would not only uninvite themselve but would also trashtalking about me to our relatives which would result in that none of my family except for my grandpa, my mother, stepfather and brother would showing up. + +Especially my cousin doesn't give a shit about other peoples wishes. She also gets support by her sister and her mother. + +My fiancées family would be more understanding I guess or at least I hope. + +The thing is if my family put their dogs wellbeeing over my wedding I would be very sad and also disappointed. +I already not inviting my father and his part of 'family' due to losing and breaking contact. But thats another story. Let me know if you want to hear that in the comments please. + +TL;DR +My fiancèe and I don't want dogs at our wedding. Our friends and my finacées family might understand but I suspect my family would throw a huge fit and will uninvite themselve and also would trashtalk at out relatives so no one will show up except for my grandpa, mother, stepfather and brother. That would really hurt me and see myself as not important to them at all. It would seriously make me cry.",0 +5958,"my dying grandmother wants me to make amends with my abusive father who I haven't spoken to in almost 2 years. I(16f) haven't spoken with my father in almost 2 years. He's an abusive piece of shit who is very manipulative and I want nothing to do with him. Well his mom(my grandmother) is dying and wants me to make amends and apologize to my dad and I honestly would rather never see him for the rest of my life. + +She says it's her dying wish and that I should honor it. The issue is that me and her don't have any relationship with one another and I don't even call her grandma. She hasn't ever been interested in my life so why should I be interested in any part of the end of hers. + +She says she's going to make us talk again and honestly I'm a nervous wreck thinking about that possibility.",0 +5959,"Why would a family member not want to be helpful?. My little sister (she's 30 btw) has been a selfish terror for as long as I can remember. Though I didn't wholly recognize it until she lived with me a few years ago and she was absolutely disgusting, refused to get a job, and would throw tantrums of epic proportion screaming and throwing things when civilly confronted. + +Last year at my grandmother's out of state funeral my family gathered to pay their respects. My grandmother's friend and neighbor graciously volunteered her home to relatives who needed a place to stay for the week. We were far out in the country with no hotels nearby. + +Anyway, my sister was a low key terror most of the week and I just avoided her as best I could. In the mornings my grandmother's elderly friend was busy cooking up a big breakfast for everyone and naturally needed some assistance. I overheard my terror sister bragging that she intentionally would stay in bed until she heard breakfast being served so she wouldn't have to help get food on the table. She said something about not wanting to be a ""slave."" I was so embarrassed to be related to her in that moment. And even more mortified when my parents who heard this laughed and condoned her behavior/attitude. I really hate it when generous people who don't owe anybody anything are taken advantage of. My sister is an entitled freeloader who prides herself on cleverly not making any contribution. + +How do people get this way?! 🤮",0 +5960,"My mom is secretly dating a married pastor, what should I do? I need Help!. well the title says it all.. but here is the details + +one day I unintendedly heard my mom talking on the phone with her sister (my Aunt) admitting that she is secretly dating the pastor of the Evangelical Church who is married and she was telling my aunt that she don't want to tell me about it because I might get angry which I am not, but I do see something wrong in the picture and I really want your advice hoping to fined a solution for this problem. + +anyway I want my mom to be happy but not with the married pastor if you know what I am saying .. not forgetting to mention that the pastor wife is a good friend of my mom.. + +thank you for taking the time reading, I really wanted this to be as short as possible but I can surly provide more details for those who wants them to go towards a fair solution for this problem.",0 +5961,"I baked a simple cake.. Today is mom's B-day, so I baked a cake. + +I just woke up, remembered it was my moms birth day, went to the store, bought simple ingredients, got to mom's home, congratulated her and took the kitchen over. + +It's not the prettiest cake, it's not professional, I've baked some cakes trough my life, I know I'm not an expert, I know they don't look ""pretty"" or ""nice"" or whatever, but I can guarantee the flavor. + +I made one mix and it came out wrong, so threw that away and started over, I started around 10 AM, finished around 2:30 hahaha. + +The final cake wasn't without mistakes, the cake was a touch too dense, but the sponge was thoroughly cooked and tasted of Vanilla, which was what I wanted, the buttercream held it's shape well enough, I don't have food coloring and I didn't find it when I went to buy the ingredients but it was a nice white and the texture was fine, it was tasty, no granular feel or clumps, just a basic vanilla buttercream covering and filling. + +Mom loved it, so it was all worth it...",0 +5962,"Problem with mother in law. My (F33) husband died 3 years ago. He had renovated his grandparents' house (that is just next to my parents in laws' home) and we lived there with our newborn daughter (now 4yo). My MIL has always been a bit intrusive, often getting into our house without asking permission even when we locked the door, it took a lot to make her understand we hated that habit. Her son was very direct and often lost his patience with her intrusiveness but she often pretended she didn't understand. + +After his death this situation escalated. She has an asphyxiating relationship with my daughter, always making subtle comments about how I cook, what I buy, what I do, how I raise my daughter. Every time my mum comes to visit she swoops in giving unwanted advices or getting the attention of my daughter. + +She lives as if I owed her an explanation for everything I do and everywhere I go (honestly I've never done it with my parents). She doesn't get along with her husband so she wants to have this...toxic relationship with me? And I don't even understand why, as I have a very introvert and cold personality. Every time I go anywhere she asks me to join, if I ever plan a holiday with my daughter she wants to come too with the excuse that ""she wants to help with the kid"" or proposes to go to their holiday house at the sea, and she gets offended then pretends she didn't understand when I tell her that I want to go alone. + +Yesterday I told her that today I would have gone out for lunch with a group of friends to a tourist area (I had to tell her because that place is quite far and I needed to use my husband's car that is in their garage) and she just invited herself. I was speechless, I hadn't met these friends in months and really wanted to join them once in a while. She started saying that it wasn't a problem if one person more joined, that she had to help with my daughter because it would have been too boring for her to go to a restaurant, she started saying that we had to leave earlier to get back home, pretended she didn't understand when I told her I wanted to spend a day with my friends, that they had invited *me*, so she suggested we went to that place anyway but in a different restaurant. I abruptly said I had changed my mind and wouldn't have gone anywhere. Again she pretended everything was ok. + +I cried all night. I feel a total failure. + +I'm a grown up adult but I constantly live with someone who wants to check every aspect of my life. I always feel indebted with these people because I live in a house that belongs to their family and they're very helpful with my kid but this situation is just insufferable. I wish I could move somewhere else, but I can't afford it. I don't even care anymore about how much my husband worked for renovating this house (for clarification, the house legally belongs to my father in law since he and my husband hadn't sealed the transfer of property yet). Every time I try to set boundaries she pretends she didn't understand, and it's so exhausting. I don't even know how would she react if I'd ever meet another man and start a new relationship. + +I know it had been very hard when her son died and I would never hurt anybody's feelings, I try to be polite and sensitive but I have no more private life, maybe it's selfish or maybe I'm the one who's wrong here but I feel like I'm paying for my husband's death and for her unresolved issues and I don't know how to change this situation. + + + +Tl;Dr I just needed to let some steam off about my mother in law's intrusiveness",0 +5963,"Son involved in all kinds of stuff… at a loss as to what to do. Help!. My son is 14. He has a trans boyfriend, also 14, and they have denied doing anything more than kissing and cuddling but it seems very clear from their texts (which were checked by both kids’ parents due to a hunch that they were lying) revealed that they have been waaaay more sexually active than we’d realised. This is despite mostly spending time together at one or other of our homes with bedroom door left open and frequent checking etc. + +Messages also indicated that they had been smoking weed, as well as planning to buy cocaine. He has stolen alcohol from us at home on 2 occasions (it’s all hidden and locked away now). + +We have yet to speak to our son properly about all of this. Boyfriends mother has gone ballistic and is going to prevent them seeing each other I think, but isn’t really communicating openly with me. Boyfriend has denied using drugs himself and blamed our son for everything. They are madly in love and devastated to be kept apart. + +Last night my husband heard our son in the kitchen and when he went in, our son had got a very sharp knife and was trying to hide it. He then threw it down and stormed off. He has scratched himself once on the arm a few weeks ago and refused to talk to us about it. I was so concerned I let his school know so they could get the pastoral worker to meet with him. He was angry that I’d done that but understood it was because I was concerned and also unsure what was really going on. + +We are so so very worried about him. He’s incredibly angry and probably feeling very ashamed as well. We’re not keen on punishing him unnecessarily and are more keen to find out what’s troubling him. But he’s just so angry and upset it’s very hard to get through to him. + +We’d welcome any advice!",0 +5964,"Advice Needed: Cancer-Stricken Sister Always Needs Money. Hi, + +It will be difficult to keep this short because my sister has *a lot* of problems in her life right now. Here are the facts about my older sister: + +* She is 49. +* She has Stage 4 metastatic breast cancer. +* She is a single mom of an 11-year-old boy. +* She homeschools her son. +* She works from home, usually taking on writing or tutoring jobs. + +My sister has a great deal of anger and lashes out at people. She's very anti-conformist and does not like being questioned. She does not talk to our mom, and has even started referring to her as ""the birth mother"" because she believes our mom is a narcissist and does not love her. She has a habit of sending an extreme amount of text messages when she's angry--we're talking sometimes 50-75 a day of her ranting about how she has been emotionally and mentally abused by our mom. There is so much more to say about my sister that would illustrate just how angry of a person she is and how irrationally she behaves, but I don't know if examples are necessary. What is relevant here is just knowing she can be very intimidating when you don't do things her way, and her behavior can be downright crazy. + +So here's the reason for this post: My sister recently took all of her savings and bought a $4,000 used car, which turned out to be a lemon. I feel terrible for her, but I don't want to give her any more money. I have helped her many times in the past. I even gave her--*gave her*\--my car (my husband and I now share one vehicle). She got in an accident in the car I gave her, and used one of my brother's cars while he was overseas. My brother recently came back to the States and took his cars with him to his new home in Boston. My sister is MAD. She bought the used car (mentioned earlier), which now needs major repairs and is undriveable. She needs money, and I feel bad for her. My husband and I have been trying to save $500 each month so that we have a year's worth of our salaries and enough in savings for emergencies, like unexpected medical bills or a new car. We are 1/3 of the way to our goal. Is it wrong for me to not want to give my sister, a single mom with Stage 4 breast cancer, the money I've worked hard to save? FYI, my husband and I are in our late 40s and early 50s and make a decent combined salary (we gross around $100,000 annually), but we live a very modest lifestyle with our two young children. My husband does not want to give her any more of our money because he knows she won't use it wisely and believes that giving her more money will only enable her to keep asking for handouts. + +I appreciate any advice and thoughts on this matter. + +Thank you.",0 +5965,"My X husband spreads lies about me alienating me and my children.. +My x husband and I divorced because of domestic abuse, among other reasons. He lives abroad, and I live close to his parents. I was planning to continue the relationship with his family for my 3 children, especially because one of them is autistic, so I need some support. +I never told anyone the true reason for our divorce because I knew my x husband would never admit it and I didn't want anyone to feel like they had to pick a side. + +Since the divorce, things between my x and I did not get better as I had hoped, and I had to apply for a protection order because he threatened my life when he was visiting. In revenge, he blocked me from the family WhatsApp group and must have told his family something because everyone I sent a happy Diwali message to today have not responded. I wonder what he said to them to make them avoid me. I feel bad for my children because they want to see their cousins and grandparents, but this is out of my control. + +When his parents chastised me for filing a protection order against their son, I sent them the video of him beating me, they still said that I was wrong, and they want nothing to do with me. I feel like telling my side to the rest of the family members who told me that I will always be their sister when they heard we were divorcing, but I am scared that they won't care just like his parents did because it did hurt. + +I feel so angry and sad and helpless, but I'm here alone with my 3 children and I have to keep it in, pretending like nothing happened. I don't know what to say to my children when they ask about their cousins or wanting to call them. I even have to pretend like their dad is the most awesome being on the planet because my youngest is her dad's biggest fan. I just don't know what to do, but I feel like my children are being punished because of me. I hate that I can't do anything except to vent here. Thanks for reading.",0 +5966,"My parents won’t stop shaming me. I (f14) have a major issue with my body. I feel overweight all the time and always cautious with my body shape. I’m currently 165cm and 63kg. I’m on a diet which include only eating dinner once a week. Every time I would eat at dinner, they would shame me for it saying something among the line of ‘remember that ur on a diet, don’t eat too much’. Every time they would say this, it would make me sick, (I had an eating disorder for a while). I would start to cry every time they bring this comment up. It seems like they don’t get a hint and blame me for overreacting and being sensitive and can’t take a joke. I’ve tried to talk to them, it never works, always end up with crying, screaming and shouting. I don’t know what to do… + +EDIT: +A few people have been asking so here’s some answers: + +1) THERAPIST +For therapy, including school counseling, they don’t help with anything at all, I’ve tried going there about my depression to see what they say but they ends up either telling my parents very specific details which I do not want them to know or brushing it off. My parents also did not react well when I contacted kidshelpline. They ended up being abusive when they found out after going through my phone. + +2)OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS +I’m living in Australia and all my relatives are all living overseas. Contacting them wouldn’t really be an option as they would then tell my parents and things would go really bad from there. + +3) SPORTS +I play a great amount of it, ice hockey, netball, basketball, badminton, football, swimming. I also used to play volley ball until I got an injury from it causing me to have to stop. + +4) FRIENDS +As for friends, they probably have no idea what’s going on in my life as I’m that bubbly, extroverted and ‘mother of the group’. I tend to want to keep it that way.",0 +5967,"Boyfriend’s sister magically is ready for me to be an aunt now that she’s seen how I am towards my nephew. For the past 2.5 years, my boyfriend’s (27m) sister (31f) has treated me (27f) like an extra in her life. She treats everyone like this including her family. What I mean is she treats everyone as “how can you benefit me” and that’s it. She has always been self centered (she gave 10 people Covid because she wanted her deck built). When we first started dating, she asked us to babysit a few times and would pass off her kids to us any chance she could. I used to be a nanny and a preschool teacher and I have a long history of working with kids, especially those with special needs, so I didn’t mind. As we kept dating, I offered to take her kids out for the day, to bring lunch to her, do activities, etc. She always ghosted me or pushed me away which was fine. I have always gifted her kids great and thoughtful gifts yet never been appreciated. She has every right to parent how she wants to but I got tired of being pushed away. + +I slowly backed away when my nephew was born 5 months ago and decided to support my sister and my nephew’s father. They have been extremely appreciative of the things I get my nephew and I know it’s really helped them out. I really do it so I can spoil my nephew but helping them out is nice lol. I’ve gotten them a crib, changing table, tons and tons of clothes, nursery bedding, and some toys. I just bought custom shirts for him that I designed and it’s turned into this sore topic with her and her husband so I simply don’t bring it up. My sister and I are also working on a goal so she can let him stay with me for a weekend when he gets older so I’ve been looking into getting items for my place. + +Now that she sees how much I give my nephew, she suddenly wants me to do all of that for her. She has been trying to get my boyfriend and I to take her kids for the weekend, she keeps calling me their aunt (when she wants something), and gets upset when I buy my nephew something and not her kids. She has always been self absorbed but it’s so funny now because she doesn’t realize how she sounds. We can’t take her kids because she pawned her dog off on us who bit her kid (she never respected the dog’s boundaries and the dog nipped the kid when he wouldn’t stop hitting). She also forgets I have given a lot to her kids and still do while also forgetting she’s the one who avoids us taking her kids out. She has so many people who she wants to help her out and take her kids yet she’s focused on me who is helping my sister. + +I’m not even upset but find it so funny that now she cares. I still plan on treating the kids the same but even my boyfriend has started reminding her of the truth. + +Note: Gifts are shared expenses because I really enjoy gift giving. I make quite a bit more than my boyfriend so I have extra money to spoil kids with and it brings me joy. I have definitely spent more on my nephew then her kids individually (not overall) but he also came right after our mom passed. Our family is significantly smaller than their family. + +Tl;Dr: Boyfriend’s sister now wants me to be an aunt to her kid.",0 +5968,"Ballerina with divorced parents, help me!. I (16F) am a ballerina. My winter showcase is quickly approaching, and I am beyond excited for it. Unfortunately, my parents are divorced, and they refuse to be there at the same time. I told them that they don't even have to sit near each other, but they insist that only one of them go. And now they want me to pick who should go. + + +My mom says that she pays the dance bills and that the showcase is on her week with me, so she should be the one going. + + +My dad says that he is going to be on vacation when the next showcase happens, so he should get to go. And he says that he doesn't get to see me dance as much as my mom does. + + +What should I do? I love both of my parents, and I don't want to pick sides. But at the same time, if I don't pick a side, I'll have no one there at all.",0 +5969,"Tormented mother of 3. My ex husband passed away recently and left nothing for our mutual children (we had 3 together). His gf/wife claimed they had nothing to their name and therefore did not give a dime to his 3 only children. However since his passing she has had multiple cosmetic surgeries, stopped working, bought designer bags and travels 2 out of the 4 weeks a month meanwhile he passed away 3 months ago. What is my position as the mother of these children ? I do not want anyone to think that I want a dime but I feel terrible for our children who are old enough to see what everyone else is seeing and will never have their father there to help them.",0 +5970,"Husband won’t allow my mother see our baby. +deleted",0 +5971,"My dad (56)cheated on my mom (49) and they stayed together. I don’t know how to cope. (f22). My dad cheated on my mom with his coworker (/employee) who is about 30 years old and knows that my dad has a family. We found out a year later and my dad insists that “it only happened twice, but it wouldn’t matter if it was more”. +Our relationship is now really bad as we fight a lot and he just can’t understand that this situation hurt me too, not just my mom. How should I deal with this when I feel a lot of anger towards him now? Should I just forgive him and move on? + +edit: thank you so much for the answers, they were really helpful and I appreciate them lots:)",0 +5972,"14 y.o nephew not in school. When everything closed down in 2020 due to COVID, my nephews mother did not want him to do E-learning so she pulled him out and said she was going to start “homeschooling” him. Which my nephew even admits that she is not actually homeschooling him. She is SOO anti-mask, anti-covid vax, anti anything that has to deal with covid really. When in-person school started up again she refused to send him since they are enforcing masks. So, my 14 year old nephew has not had any form of education since 2020. And he is starting to go down the wrong path in life. Is there anything anybody can do to try and get him back in school? Or anything at all we can do to help him?",0 +5973,"Please help, I am desperate. My daughter is almost 6. She's been difficult since the beginning. Once, when I asked her why she was crying/what happened, she told me she just likes to cry (this was when she was around 3?). She is whiny, clingy, and does.not.stop. tantruming-- especially recently. At school, they claim they don't see it, except for her having ""big emotions"" at times, but (a) I don't buy that 100% and (b) even if it's true, she's literally ruining our home life. She screams non stop. She whines non stop. She cries non stop. I never realized how bad it was until we went to a public place today and she didn't stop screaming for over half an hour, with nothing being able to calm her down, and everyone was staring. I am so worried. PLEASE do not suggest therapy-- we're already working on that-- but rather anything and everything that has helped you and/or your child and/or someone you know in a similar situation in the past. In the past month, she slammed her door so many times we needed to remove it, she told me every day that I don't love her, she screams multiple times daily that life is unfair and no one listens, she kicked my driver's seat so hard that I had to put her carseat in the back of the van, etc. I show her empathy, I hug her, I tell her I love her and am proud of her every day. I feed her healthy (ish) food, she has toys, I give her one-on-one attention, I snuggle with her, I tell her everyone loves her and that she is smart and strong and capable... and nothing. Over the past month, it's gotten so much worse, and I cannot figure out why. I am at my wit's end. We've been able to deal with her until this past month, when she got sick with a cold (no fever, no COVID) and since then, has ramped up her poor behaviors so that they are so bad, I just cannot handle her anymore. She woke up at 1:30 and 4:30 am last night, and am unsure if she went back to bed? At her 5-year appointment, her doctor suggested we lock her room door from the outside, but said that this may cause her more trauma? She's just sad and angry and frustrated all the time, and I don't know how to help her.",0 +5974,"What's something your family member has said or done to you that has hurt you for years?. What's something your family member has said or done to you that has hurt you for years? + +My family is so conservative that they will never accept me the way I am or my queerness. My heart feels broken and I still hurt to this day.",0 +5975,"Am I a Special Person?. My father used to say that I'm a very special girl, beautiful and smart. I believed him. I worked towards it. I got a good education and a good job. But now since things are falling apart one by one, (I lose friends, my boyfriend and so on) I now believe that there's nothing special in me. I'm an ordinary person. I don't have that kind of special capabilities as said by my father. I practice law of attraction, affirmations, listening to subliminals more than 6 months now. I can't understand what's going on with my life.",0 +5976,"My family depends on me emotionally too much. Hey everyone I am new here. +My parents can’t live without me. They can’t imagine this especially my mom. Their relationship with each others is not good and enough for them to be content with their lives. I planned to relocate but actually they put their plan to relocate nearby me. I want to start my life away from judgements, discussions, and negativity. Especially they are religious and extremists and I am totally the opposite. What should I do and how to do this transition smoothly",0 +5977,My mother. I havent spoken to my mother in years. Like 3-4 years. She is mentally ill person. She caused me a lot of pain in the past. She is also alcoholic.. she left us my sisters and my father for another man. Her and my father used to fight a lot even physically. When she left us and they got divorced I was feeling relived. I dont speak to her as she tried to stab me with a knife! Cuz i said i want her out of the house and to live us alone. I know that she is mentally ill but thats not an excuse for what she did. She was a bad mother overall. But now she keeps ringing my phone messaging me on facebook i dont respond to any of this. But i ve read how she was sorry and that she wants to make up and that she want forgiveness and that she is a changed person. But this was at 2 am and I am assuming she was drunk and I know she is not drinking her medications. I know she is not changed cuz she is also very manipulative person! I really miss having a mother cuz right now I really need a mother cuz I am going through my own hardest period in my life.. but she is not that kind of mother that I need😞 Maybe I should forgive her. For myself? But I dont think I will see her again or let her meet my daughter(her grandchild).,0 +5978,"Is it bad that I’m cutting my daughter off?. Her mother died when she was 3, so it was her and I. She’s always been a good kid, but has gone down a dark path. It started when she hung with this girl who I’ve seen at at least 10-11 parties that I’ve been called to(I’m a cop). She then decided that she was going to move in with her boyfriend at 18. She lied about it, claiming she lives on her own, but I surprised her and found out it wasn’t true. I told her she can make her own choices, but it doesn’t guarantee my support. I told her the deposit I was giving her for school was the last assistance she’d get from me financially until she stopped shacking up. I haven’t brought myself to talk to her since I’m so disappointed in her. Am I wrong?",0 +5979,"Here’s to all you of who raised yourselves, who experienced or are experiencing trauma at the hands of your mother, and to all you cycle breakers.. ",0 +5980,"How to deescalate the tension between my son and his father??. Throw away account. + +I'm 45 yr old female and my husband is 45 H and our son is 18 yr old. Let's call him F. + +H and F has a really bad relationship in general. F is lazy and take little care of his room. This always triggers H. Sometimes things escalates between them. But yesterday and the day before it reached a new level. + +The day before yesterday: F was sleeping in the room he shares with his younger brother. As H came in to wake his brother he saw clothes on the ground. He turned the lights on and yelled at F who was sleeping at the time. F woke up and didn't speak. + +After his father left the room. F grabbed the clothes and it wasn't his. He then went to his father and put the clothes near H. Saying ""It wasn't mine"" in an aggressive tune. His father followed him to his room. And said. ""You is that how to speak to your father??"" in a more aggressive tune. More of a threat. +F then in the same exact way replied asking if this is a way to wake up your son. Then things started escalating. In the middle of all that F has some dumbbell set in his room. H took one of the Dumbbells and hit F's back. This was when I jumped in and tried to separate them. H then walked to F's bed and flipped it. F was silent but he looked very aggressively at his father. The father then went back and spit in F's face. I tried to move H out of the room. As F walked to his bed. Near the door there was a small trash can. H then took it and threw it at F. F however was able to grab it mid air and put it on the ground. H went out of the room cursing F. And thay pretty much started treating each other with silence. + +Yesterday things escalated. As F went to his university walking. Wich took him around 3 hours and came back with a friend. He was clearly annoyed by this. But as soon as he came back. He started studying. H started giving him chores. F didn't do anything and just ignored all of them. H stormed the room an hour later and asked aggressively why he didn't do the chores. F ignored him at first, but H asked again. F replied that he has his mid term exams coming and that he needs to study. He then said that he has no time for his father and his games. He said that in a joking tume ""I'll play with you later. H ran and kicked the book away and yalled. Saying that if F want to stay in this house he has to follow the rules of it. Saying that he doesn't care what F has for an excuse. His word tops all of that. I quickly jumped in and started pulling H out of the room. H then puched me away. As F stood up and thay were chest to chest. As I begged both of them to stop. Everyone gathered in the house. H then said. ""not a single one of you say a word to this basterd. Or you'll deal with the consequences."" he then looked at my son and said. ""you'll come back to me dog"" and walked out of the room. Afterwards we all walked out and F went back to studying. + +I then tried to speak to both of them alone. + +H told me that I need to leach my dog who is disrespectfull, ungrateful and challenging. + +I asked F why he's so aggressive and asked him that if he had a son would he want his son to treat him the same way. F said that he asks God that if his son do the same if he treat him like H. Saying that this maybe will be aye opening for the idiot. I told him that this is no way to treat his father. And that he needs to be more gentle, calm and respectful. To wich he replied. I'll think about it. He then proceed too bring me water because I started coughing. He gave it to me and went back studying. + + +So my question is. How can I bring them together. And if things escalated how can I deescalate it. I feel that F is drifting away from the family. He just keep arguing with his siblings and just isolate himself in his room. Studying, reading or just on his phone. + +Tl.dr my son and husband went into a fight and now thay dont want to talk to each other.",0 +5981,"My (22M) older brother (39M) did two tours in Iraq. He has never told me what it was like over there until recently when he was drunk and getting divorced.. Obviously I was born a lot later than my brother Noah. My parents had him when they were young and then had me when they were more ready. + +My brother was 20 when he signed up when the Iraq war started. He did two tours as a marine. + +I was barely three when he left so obviously the only brother I know is the one that came back. + +He was always a good big brother to me and he seemed, at least to me, to come back from the war relatively unscathed. He married Emma about ten years ago and they have a son together. + +A few nights ago I got a call from him. He was at a local bar and was obviously pretty drunk and asked me if I could come and pick him up. It was a little ways away from me but I didn’t want him to drive so I said sure. + +When I got there he just hopped in the car and the drive home was pretty quiet. When I drove up to his place, I noticed because it was pretty late that Emma’s car wasn’t there. I asked him about it and he suddenly got emotional and started talking. + +He said that Emma and him were getting a divorce. This surprised me as I never suspected anything. + +When I asked him what happened, he said as two decades approached since he was deployed that it has all been hitting him. He said he did horrible things and had to make horrible decisions and as a result he started drinking more and fighting with Emma. + +I asked him to elaborate but he wouldn’t and I took him inside and put him to bed and stayed the night. I had to work the next morning so I left early but when I texted him later that day he said that he was fine and just hungover and thanked me for picking him up as he doesn’t remember much. + +I don’t know how or if I should bring it up with him what he said?? He’s never really talked much about it before and certainly not in this way. + +What do I do here?? I don’t even know where to start. I don’t want to make things worse for him but he’s clearly spiralling. + +Tl;dr: Older bro is a veteran and recently has been spiralling with his divorce and memories. Don’t know how to talk to him about it",0 +5982,"My mom stole $8k from me…. What to do??. I recently refinanced my house to buy an investment property. This process started on Nov 20th, 2021. + +On that date, my credit score came back at 760 and everything was normal. + +Fast forward to today, I got an offer accepted on my investment property and had to start the process again and they pulled my credit and it dropped to 730. + +I was like, “ok, how did that happen? I haven’t bought anything or opened any lines of credit”. + +After going through all the items on the credit report, we saw that an old-inactive bank account of mine had an $8,000 line of credit used on Nov 27th. + +I opened this account when I was 18 which was 21 years ago and haven’t banked there in a decade. When I was 18, my mom had to co-sign so I could get a personal line of credit to start building credit because that’s one thing you could do back in the day to establish credit. + +I figured my mom accidentally moved money from the wrong account. I called the bank and explained the scenario and asked the banker to call my mom and have it fixed. + +Due to some family issues, I haven’t spoken to my mom in over a year. So, hence the reason I asked the banker to call and fix the issues. She said she would do so. + +3 minutes later, I get a call back. The banker couldn’t reach my mom but said the other banker was there that helped my mom and would share the notes from the call since I was on the account with her. + +Supposedly, she was in the process of doing a home equity line of credit but she didn’t sign in time and her loan application expired (my family loves real estate and leverage). So, she had to start from scratch and it was gonna be another 30 days. This is a classic move that my mom always pulls. She always puts herself in these last minute situations. + +In the meantime, her car broke down and she wanted to buy something nice. She knew she had this money coming so she wanted to pay for the car with cash. But, she was $8k shorty. + +So, what did she do?? She went to our old bank to find old Lines of Credit that were not being used. I’m sure she thought she’d be sneaky and use the money and put it back before I ever found out. + +But, I was in the middles of these housing deals and it got caught. The banker told me that she noted the file that my mom knew it was my account but she needed to buy the car. + +This ended up causing all my interest rates to go up substantially which won’t cost me a lot today but if I we’re to keep all houses for 30 years, at the same rate, it’s an additional $120k in interest because of that credit score drop. + +Even if she paid it off today, it wouldn’t matter. + +It literally felt like someone stole from me. I have had a car stolen and my car broken into a couple times and this is exact same feeling. Plus, very angry and feeling betrayed by my own mother. + +I haven’t talked to her in a year but she knows if she needed money in a bind, she could call me. + +I haven’t confronted her about it yet because I talked to my sister about it and it just made me so mad. + +I would love to hear some feedback and suggestions on how to handle it. + +Thanks",0 +5983,"Sister refuses to leave abusive relationship. My older sister refuses to leave an abusive relationship. Let me tell you about the events that unfolded last April + +* my sister was beat to a pulp by her boyfriend. He burned and smashed all her stuff (computer, phone, burned her purse.) He also threatened to kill her and bury her body in a hole in his backyard, kill her two cats, kill my parent’s if she ran away to their house… and more. He also strangled her and r*ped her multiple times. & then cut the breaks to her car. + +This all happened April of 2021. The cops were called and my parent’s rescued her and she lived with them for 6 months until they found out she was seeing him. Once they found that out, they kicked her out. + +Lastly, yesterday my mom found out via Facebook that they are engaged and my sister has a tattoo of his name on her chest. I’ve been seeing my sister on a couple of occasions throughout the year and texting her often but I am 100% done with this relationship with her. I wish her the best and hope he doesn’t kill her. It’s my worst nightmare. I just cannot continue to be involved in her life when she’s engaged to this maniac. I refuse to have any ties to him and a relationship with her would be a tie. + +Please let me know your insight on this awful matter. I love my sister I really do. I just can’t continue to let this take up my mental health.",0 +5984,"Is it wrong to give my mom control of my money?. +I’m 25 female and have a job but live with my mom. She forbids me from moving out but I can’t say I’ve put up much of a fight. She doesn’t work and hasn’t worked in a long time. She know how to get her way because she manages to live a pretty nice life considering how little she has worked in her life and how much she spends on expensive things/vacations not to mention how much she spent with her severe shopping/hoarding addiction. + +My dad gives her half his salary every month even though they separated a little over five years ago, hates her and lives with another woman and her kids. She also gets significant help from her mother who was until recently paying for our rent. + +3 years ago, I dropped out of college (which my dad payed for) due to mental health issues. I moved in with my mom (because I am not at all close to my dad and can’t live with him for complicated reasons). + +I’ve been living with her for about three years and I recently got a full time job that is pretty labor intensive but good and pays very well. I’ve let my mom have total access to and control of my bank account which I’m not allowed to use money from, especially without asking her permission. She has repeatedly said I am prohibited from using my card (though I do anyways and hope she doesn’t notice/remember/care). All my money is basically going to her and to rent/bills now. It’s not a ton of money as I only work 25 hours a week at the moment but the pay is good and the work is hard. She still gets money from my father, but it’s not enough I guess. We are always overspending and she gets upset when I try to worry about it or bring it up or suggest we not buy something. I feel terrible as I think my dad is living in poverty basically and working his ass off. And I feel worse because I can barely talk to him (though that’s his fault to some extent). + +Anyway, I don’t know what to do. I also used my paycheck to pay for her college class, for her haircut, for her MacBook, her iPhone, for some expensive clothes (one of those was a gift for Mother’s Day though), for groceries — and then with rent it’s basically all my salary. I know I’m being exploited in some sense but I don’t even care. I mean a part of me wonders what I could do with all the money I could of saved. And feels guilty for supporting someone who doesn’t really need or deserve it (but who I love). And part of me is concerned at how much she controls and prohibits my own spending but I can’t put my foot down with her I just agree to everything because it’s easier and it makes our relationship “work” Is this wrong of me? Am I doing the wrong thing?",0 +5985,"My mom is demanding a valentine's gift. My mom is demanding a valentine's gift. So Valentine's day just passed by and my mom was texting me asking me what I got her. I told her that Valentine's Day is more of a couple’s holiday and she got upset. She started texting me “I have sacrificed so much for you”, “ why won't you get me something”, “ you’re just like your father”. My parents don’t have a great relationship. Anyway, it's not like I don’t get my mom gifts. I buy her stuff for Christmas, Mother’s Day, birthday, etc. But it just slipped my mind that I had to get her something for valentine's day. + +Also, I’m not really in a spot financially to spend a lot of money. I'm 26M and I have 155K in student loan debt. I make good money, 70K, I live in an expensive city, Boston Ma. So I really have to budget my money. My minimum payment each month is $1100 and I usually pay extra a month. It just really hurts that she would question my love for her when it's just hard for me right now in my life. It also doesn’t help that my brother showers her with gifts. A new Car, Vacations, he remodeled her kitchen for her a few years ago. He also makes 600K and lives in NYC. So apples and oranges I guess. + +I did end up buying her something. I got her favorite flowers shipped to her address. I just feel like I should talk to her about this because I think it can hurt our relationship down the road.",0 +5986,"Growing up with the same parents, doesn’t mean you have the same parents. It’s a cliche when one child out of several seem to not be well adjusted, one child makes BIG mistakes, is awkward, doesn’t like their parents and then the other 2-6 children think they have the best parents in the world. People wonder what’s wrong with that *one* child. + +Well, that’s the one they abuse. That’s the one they take all of their frustration out on. That’s the one they have the highest and strictest expectations for. + +“The Black Sheep” + +I always thought something was instead wrong with me. And A LOT of therapy, education, medication, rest, and becoming adjusted with life later; I finally *know* in my soul, that it was never me. + +I was the one with an attitude. I alienated a lot of people I could have not. BUT, I also had no idea what it meant to be kind to someone. My parents *were* kind to my siblings, but, then they’d talk crap about my sibling to me while also hitting and disparaging me. My siblings think my parents were great, apparently I was the only one they did this to. + +Each of my siblings were in a team sport, while I was told we didn’t have enough money. Each of my siblings had friends whose houses they went to and hung out and had sleep overs, while I was told that it wasn’t safe for me and I couldn’t go anywhere because *everyone* was someone to fear. If I thought what they were doing to me was bad, “just wait until I found what the world had in store for me.” There was evil everywhere. Well, except at church. I was allowed to go to church. + +I actually went to 3 different churches so that I could go do things every day of the week. This I how I chose my friends and how I got to see them. 6 days of week of church services and 1 day of community service through the church. + +I’ve grown to learn that the world is actually pretty great and I’ve undone a lot of the damage this environment caused. + +Just keep in mind when you wonder “what’s wrong with that kid, when all the others are so great” *Siblings don’t always have the same parents*",0 +5987,"My parents marriage failed, my mom cheated on my dad, my dad never was present for my mom when she need him, my dad was never there in my life growing up and my mom is hypocritical and thinks it's okay to play the moral high ground with excuses thinking i don't know she cheated.. Yet they think i don't understand, know, or can't clearly see the visible cracks in our family. They fight, disagree a lot, and my mom treats my dad like shit now for treating her like shit before. And I'm caught up in the middle of it. + +It's honestly annoying. When they try to act as if I'm some troubled teenager who'll ruin their reputation as if cheating can't do worse.",0 +5988,"My dad forced my sister to eat until she threw up. This is my first post so sorry if it’s a little rough. A couple weeks ago we were on a family trip and for dinner we were having a meal with chicken, we didn’t have a way to heat it up so the food was cold. My little sister (11) hates eating meat (especially cold) and ate everything else but refused to touch the chicken. My dad told her she had to eat or she couldn’t have desert and she saidshe didn’t care and kept saying she wouldn’t eat it. My dad told her she had to eat it anyway even if she didn’t want desert. Basically this went on for a long time with my sister crying and my dad sitting there yelling at her until she finished the entire meal. We were in a small camper trailer so there wasn’t really anywhere to get away from it. As soon as she ate the last bite she threw it all back up on the plate. My dad got upset with her and said he might make her eat what she threw up again. I don’t think he meant it but she started freaking out. My mom stepped in at this point and told him to let it go and let my sister leave the table. Later we were having desert and my dad wouldn’t let her have any because he said she worked herself up like that on purpose. +I keep thinking about it feel bad we all ate desert without her and how upset she was through the whole thing. She is really picky though and sometimes it does seem like she has issues eating food in general. So I guess I wonder, was it bad for my dad to make her eat the food she hates or is this just something she needs to learn?",0 +5989,"What was the exact moment that made you want to go no contact with family?. There was a lot of horrible reasons why I should've ended sooner but I was too young/naive to or I was brushed of by other family members stating, ""be a good *blank* and never turn your back on family."" + +I think my stories would hit a lot of triggers so I'll keep them to myself for now. + +I just want to know that I'm not alone. Thank you ❤️",0 +5990,"Cheese it, we've been found out!. My daughter busted my wife and I; called us out for being the Tooth Fairy lol + +She was out in the living room and she said loudly like a ""Eureka'' moment, ""Wait a minute!"" then pitter-patter of her running. + +She opened my office door and said, ""You're the Tooth Fairy!"" + +I asked her why she would say such a thing and she said + +""Because, I was out there playing with brother and started to pretend to be the Tooth Fairy and it hit my mind that if I can pretend to be the Tooth Fairy, that means you and mom could be pretending to be the Tooth Fairy. I just found you out, so Ha! There will be no more sneaky funny business around here, because I got my eyes on you now!""",0 +5991,"Good News Dad! Mom has Aphasia & can't stop us from selling her house!. My mom had a stroke and has aphasia, so my sister and dad forced her into a nursing home because she ""can't say anything"". + +I've done everything possible to stop them from selling her house so she can be taken care of at home. Revoked their power of attorney, they filed a TRO against me so I can't see her. They have emptied her house throwing 50 years of memories and heirlooms away not giving anyone a chance to save anything from their childhood. Not letting my mom see letters written by her mom and hearing her voice one last time through her words. + +My mom is trapped in this nursing home, fully competent but can't say the right words. She is paralyzed on her right side so she can't write. She was/is a creative person, always using her hands to make art, rub your back, write, roll tortillas... + +She's counting on me to help her and with every try my sister calls cps, tows my car, sells my moms truck I was driving for work, barges in my home at midnight claiming my dad owns the house and told her to, has called the police on me countless times when I go to my moms house to see what they are throwing away of hers in the dumpster. I found all my grandpa's letters from world war 2 written back and forth between him and his parents and him and my grandma. +I don't know how to keep fighting them.",0 +5992,"Question: Feeling guilty for not helping my family anymore. I'm 26, I started working since I was 17 years old. I put myself through university without any help from my family. My childhood was awful, a lot of trauma from abuse, neglect..etc. Apart from the abuse, my father choose to 'retire' at 35 and not care about his four children at all, even though perfectly in good shape to work. + + +For the last (almost) 10 years, I helped them a lot financially, helped with my siblings.. and 3 month ago I got a loan to build a house for them. I don't know if its from the abuse that they witnessed or from the neglect but my two younger brothers 21 and 17 only get in problems..such as dropping out of school, a lot of fights and now smoking weed all day - no work, no uni --nothing. I tried almost everything with them, but simply they are not interested to work or care about their future. Every time they end up disappointing me. + + +In the past week, they really proved to me that they won't change and they don't give a sh\*t about me. They spend a lot and don't care at all. Same for my father, last week, instead of using the money that I sent for the final part of the house he took it for himself just because he 'needed' it. + + +For the last 3 years, I think I even forgot to live for myself, all my money and my energy went to them. Now, I got enough and I decided to stop with all the help but I can't stop feeling guilty about this and feeling afraid at the same time that if I don't help/care my brothers will end up destroying their lifes. + + +Any comments, suggestions, what would you do? + + +Thank you! -- FIT\_Major1183 (quite a username :))",0 +5993,"How do I convince my parents to let me stay at home while they’re going on a family trip?. [Im 14 M] My parents will go on a 4 day trip to somewhere in our home country with my aunt, uncle, nieces, grandma, grandpa, father, mother and my siblings. I am not looking forward to this since there is no one of my age and I will be bored as shit. + +So I made plans to do stuff with friends before my mom told me we are going there. Apart from that I also have work and I would go to my girlfriend. + +I think they won’t let me stay at home, but I know how to cook, I can clean the house, take care of myself and know what to do in case of emergency. So how do I convince my parents to let me stay at home?",0 +5994,"Cutting out abusive parents. I (21F) have 2 sisters (31F “Alice” and 16F “Anna”). + +My father was an ass, told me and Anna since we were young that we are a waste of his money and time. As we entered adolescence he simply became impossible to tolerate, constantly telling us how he would never pay us college, initiating arguments for no reason and even refusing to shower, urinating in the living room. We know he’s mentally ill and has regular psychiatry appointments which my mom brings him to. + +Anna and I told my mom to separate him and us because his sheer presence was making our lives impossible to live with. She never listened and said how dare we think of abandoning our dad. What is family to you and stuff. + +Alice being a decade older, who moved away before all these, had a very different idea of him. To her he was a normal parent, so she does not fully believe what Anna and I report. + +So pretty much I hated my abusive, dysfunctional family. The only place I feel love was school. My teachers were the adults in my life. They did everything for me that my parents were supposed to do, eg listening to me cry, hearing stories of my first crush and heartbreak, choosing college with me. Esp my favorite teacher Miss “Watson”. She is my mom in everything but name and blood. All through high school, the person whom I gave Mother’s day flowers to was her. + +So I graduated high school and moved away. They don’t pay my college, but however much I hate my parents, I still go home once a while to see my sisters. + +Fast forward I’m planning to get married. Obviously I’m not inviting my parents, they made my life a misery. But I don’t want to make Alice +choose between me and them. Deep in my heart I believe Alice would choose them because she never experienced what Anna and I went through. (Anna is still living with my parents) I also don’t want to make it even harder for Anna if I invite her but not my parents (I’m scared of what they would do to her in this case). + +In my wedding I want Miss “Watson” to be mother of the bride. I want her to go dress shopping with me. I want her to enter the church with me. She means everything to me. But she has made it clear she won’t if that is going to cause a huge conflict. I also don’t think she should get involved in the drama. What should I do?",0 +5995,"My wife's family makes fun of her all the time. We’re 3 years together and not living with relatives. Since our first days together, I've been trying to make her a better person and give her a little more self-confidence. But the problem is that my wife has been given the role of ""silly girl"" within her family since childhood. Her father died early due to drugs and her psyche suffered from that. I never noticed anyone within her family praising her or encouraging her. All the attention went to her brother who is a musician, so it's like she doesn't get noticed. Moreover, when she does something ""wrong,"" such as breaking a glass, her family allows her to be ridiculed for being ""clumsy,"" ""inattentive,"" and so on. These taunts don't sound harsh, but they make her a hostage to this ""role. And even though we don't live with her family, they don't miss a chance to talk to her on the phone and laugh at her everyday problems. + +Do you think I attach too much importance to this? What is the best thing to do in this situation and should something be done? Personally, I want her to stop talking to people who make her feel insecure. But she wants to communicate with her family all the time...",0 +5996,"Family member complaining about my housekeeping. Anyone else have a family member who always makes comments about the house? Like ma’am. I have a 4 year old, a 2 year old, a 3 month old & a husband who works full time. My dishes are done, counters are cleaned off, floors get vacuumed every single day & the trash is taken out everyday. We live here, it’s not a show home… I know people have different definitions of clean but she literally loses her shit if there’s a single crumb on my countertops. Everything is 100% accessible & functional. + +It’s not really even what she says that bothers me. What really bothers me is whenever we visit her no one is allowed into the family room because it’s so hoarded. You can’t even see past the entrance past all the boxes of crap. Her kitchen is so messy there’s not any work space on the countertops. Her dining table is barely functional. She doesn’t have anyone living there but her. + +I don’t get why she feels the need to make comments about my house when hers is 10x worse.",0 +5997,"My sister is a psychopath and my mum is helpless. +My (21) sister (19) has been showing anti-social behaviours since she was about 13, but it's getting out of hand now. For years now she's been going out and not coming back for days, ignoring phone calls, lying and manipulating. She's been stealing from me, trying to get with every one of my boyfriends. She doesn't go to school, doesn't work, and whenever met with any threat of punishment, she threatens to kill/harm herself. My mum believes her because she's done it in the past. Despite not attending school she still manages to pass each year because of her manipulating teachers and counsellors about trauma and actually harming herself and showing the scars. She's been going to therapy for 5 years and whenever met with a suggestion to change the therapist she again threatens to harm herself and says ""If it wasn't for him I wouldn't be alive so he does help"" but her behaviour has only worsened. My mum was somehow managing through all that but yesterday she found that a significant amount of money (90%) was stolen from her piggy bank where she'd been saving up to renovate the kitchen. She was devastated, it's obvious that my sister's done it and there is no way of punishing her. Dad is out of the picture, my mum doesn't have it in her to kick her out, therapy and meds aren't making things better. I feel hopeless for my poor mum who is now stuck alone with this absolutely scary monster of a human under one roof. What can she/we do?",0 +5998,"My mom is pissed that I came home late. I’m 25 years old and sadly still lives at home with my parents. I was out with my boyfriend and I got a text from my mom asking when I’ll be home. I said in 10 mins because we still had to drive back. I came inside and my mom went off telling me how I have no consideration for anyone but myself and that she could of been asleep. I told her that she could sleep and explained that I’m an adult so I can come in whenever I want. She told me that I can’t take a shower because she doesn’t want to hear it and she wants to sleep. I’m curious for opinions from anyone that is in the same situation as me or just opinions overall. I’m so upset and pissed like in my opinion I’m an adult and I can come home when I please. Also, demanding I’m not allowed to shower is horrible.",0 +5999,"I've just found out I'm pregnant, what are your funny/cute/sweet anouncment ideas?. I havn't told my husband yet, we've been trying since the start of the year so I'm not worried about his reaction being bad or worried or anything. Hes gaming at the moment so I have a few hours to prepare something, any ideas? + +UPDATE: + +Thank you for all the ideas in the comments but I couldn't wait for postage to arrive and we don't eat dinner at the table so had to wing it haha. + +I snuck off to go buy a tiny onesie, filled it with a bag of chips, told him I got snacks and wanna watch movies this afternoon with just the three of us and passed it to him. + +He looked concerned at first that I've got baby fever so bad as to start dressing things up around the house and playing woth baby clothes ""why though, your not pregnant?"" ""Yes I am"" took the test out that was poking out of the collar. + +He's been talking about all the things he's excited to teach him/her all evening 🥰",0 +6000,"Grandparents are old but will not stop working. Hi everyone. Just looking for advice on how to approach this situation. + +My grandparents are already in their 80s and retired. I can tell they're definitely getting weaker even though they are relatively strong compared to others their age. + +Thing is, they won't stop working. My grandma still loves cooking for people, cleaning the house. My grandfather sometimes tinkers with broken appliances. Which is fine except there've been multiple times they've overexerted themselves and we've had to bring them to the hospital. + +Their children, including my mother, keep trying to convince them to hire a caretaker. They can definitely afford one. My grandmother refuses because (1) she doesn't want to have to deal with someone new living with them and (2) she feels she won't have anything to do anymore. + +I definitely want them to stay healthy much longer but I also understand that they'll lose their sense of purpose. I mean what's the point of living long if it they just end up bored and feeling useless? + +How do me and my family approach this? + +TL;DR Grandparents love to do housework but it's taking a toll on their bodies. On the other hand, being busy gives them a sense of purpose and satisfaction.",0 +6001,"students petition to ban school uniforms in sex shops and pornography. I hope this is appropriate and allowed to share, will delete if not! Also I will try to turn off comments, however if I can't PLEASE remember that there is every likelihood the students will read them so I beg you to remain kind, I know not everyone will agree but these children are incredibly brave and I am so proud of them. +I'm a teacher at Sandbach High school and my INCREDIBLE students have recently created a petition to ask that the use of school uniform be banned in pornography and in sex shops (and other retailers such as Amazon and Ebay), following their collective experiences (and the experiences of their peers in other schools) of being sexually harassed wearing school uniform walking down the street and in public spaces, which they feel is exacerbated by it currently being legally acceptable to fetishize and sexualise school uniform, especially girls school uniform. + +They are a passionate mature and incredible group of young people. I am inordinately proud of them and I would so very honoured if there was any way you could share/mention/promote their petition. We have 8400 signatures at the moment, but need 1600 more to get an official response from the government. We have spoken to the press all over the country and even abroad in France and Canada, and everyone is being very supportive (on the whole!) And we would LOVE to have the support of the local community. + +https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/615829 + +Please don't worry if not! We understand it's a tricky topic, but I am so passionate about empowering these young people and helping them get their voices heard. +Take care and have a lovely evening. +Sarah and the Sandbach High School Feminists",0 +6002,"how do i get closer to my dad? we have nothing in common except that he’s my dad.. i am 23f and he’s almost 47 i believe. i don’t know his exact age. i love him and i show him through gifts, aka today is father’s day and i got him a meaningful gift of candles because i noticed he always burning one + $20 cuz that’s what he actually asked for lol. and i know he loves me and it shows through his actions as well. my “rent” is extremely low, he still pays for my phone bill and car insurance, etc. i still live with him. but we’re not really close. idk how to make us closer. i don’t believe in forcing things but i do believe a lot of good things in life only come after you put in enough effort.",0 +6003,I feel bad my girlfriend had a C-Section. My girlfriend and i went in so she could get induced. Things were rolling fine till she paused in dilatation and couldnt bare the pain anymore. After her epidural the doctors had to take her to the OR for an emergency C-Section. Bother her and baby’s heart rate and blood pressure dropped. It really terrified me i couldnt stop crying like a little baby because i thought i would lose them both during a often performed procedure. I cried even after i found out they were both okay and i could see them both in the operating room. All i can feel is guilt and anger towards myself. How could i let something so out of my control happen. I feel like im dying inside and i dont want to tell her because she literally went through the same thing but it was obviously worse for her. She feels bad she didnt deliver naturally but it literally was not her fault. Baby rolled a weird way and got the umbilical cord wrapped around his neck and got stuck. Am i wrong for feeling this way?,0 +6004,"My moms politics make it hard for me to interact with her at this point in our relationship.. My mother and I grew up being pretty aligned politically. While we never really spoke about politics, it was still nice to have someone who I could talk to as I was growing up. + +Then in the late 90s my mom married a racist. He was a nice guy and always nice to her children. I was in my twenties by then and did not interact with him all that much. But I remember a few conversations when I confronted him on what he was saying and voicing concern about him influencing my much younger brothers. But my mother would always say ""you are young and have not lived in his shoes"". + +Then Fox news and the alt right misinformation machine started and she bought into it fully. It wasn't till trump and the rise of the white supremacist that we finally came to blow and didn't speak for months at a time. No matter what we spoke about it all would end up in politics. + +Me April 2020: Went food shopping today and wow there is nothing on the shelves. + +Mom April 2020: DEMONcrats are trying to make President Trump look bad by blowing up this flu and making it more than it actually is. + +Anyway you get the idea. I thought things would calm down when trump was fired, but of course she thinks the election was rigged and Jan 6th was a peaceful protest. + +I have really lost a ton of respect for her. She is my mother and I love her, but I cannot stand being around her.",0 +6005,"My mom is getting old, Im scared. Im 25. I live on my own. My mom is turning 63 this summer, and I've come to realize that she's getting old. +Im feeling sad and scared, Im starting to see signs of aging: she's becoming more tired, and she's about to retire from her work soon. After ten years she'll already be 73! The thought of losing her just feels too scary. I've always been very close with my mom, and I don't know how I'll survive when she's gone. Makes me want to cry.",0 +6006,"Disappointed. So my family got together today for an early Christmas as my daughters will be spending Christmas Day with their partners families. No one asked me how I am or what have I been doing even though I asked everyone those questions in the hope they would ask me in return. If they had they would have found out that I started a new job last week. Now this is big big news for me as I’ve been looking for a job for a long time. Not only that my son also had big news to share, he has a girlfriend, and they didn’t ask him either. We both feel like outsiders in our own family and it feels like they just don’t care. Now I’m going to see how long it will take before they eventually do ask.",0 +6007,"What's a good gift that doesn't feel like a handout?. My sibling has been struggling to find work ever since they were laid off about a year ago. I can tell they're beginning to feel depressed about not contributing to the household as their partner brings in the sole income. They're flat out ashamed of being out of work (to the extent that they're flat out avoiding calls and visits with the rest of the family) and they'd never ask for help. + +I'm afraid they'd refuse or feel embarrassed if I were to try gifting them cash. So what can I get them that doesn't seem so much like a hand out? + +Since we've been adults, we usually give one another gift cards to our favorite restaurants (fast food, Starbucks, olive garden, etc), but I'd really rather get something a little more useful, if possible. But it can't seem like I feel sorry for them or am offering a handout.",0 +6008,"My 4yr old nephew is more aggressive and I'm worried.. He's been screaming more, throwing tantrums and hitting. Like today he threw a chair, screamed and was hitting because I didn't want to give him ice cream. He already had a whole donut and candy. He needed to eat. Idk if it's because of the kids at preschool. I know one autistic kid screams/cries a shit ton. I'm going to ask his teacher. + +He screams for everything. I took away his iPad without him realizing it because he's acting up. I think the games he plays makes him aggressive. My sister put a child block on it and deleted the games. Apparently Roblox is violent. I don't live with my nephew but I do take care of him and my niece. Any advice on how to handle him? + +TLDR: Nephew is aggressive possibly due to kids at preschool or possibly video games. Tantrums, hitting, screaming. Help me out?",0 +6009,"What age do you think is a good age to have children?. I'm 28 years old & I've been with my husband for eight years now. He always tells me he wants to be a dad & most of his siblings now have children which makes him even more clucky. +I also want to have children right now! But apart of me still feels like i have so much to do before i have children. I'm abit of late starter with alot of things in life & i do look years younger, so i don't particularly feel ready to have children. What are your thoughts on this? I'm a little worried that i could be running out of time, but i don't want to grow up too fast.",0 +6010,"Is it possible to stop caring for your own parents?. My grandma died when I was 11, and amidst all that, my father raped me and I only found out that it was wrong when I was in senior high school. I then tried to forgive him, but I ended up cutting him up from our family in my 2nd year of college. + +Now, I live with my mom, but every time we fight, she always says that she isn't happy, that I should die, that she will leave, or that she will bring me back to my father. It went on and on and now, I ended up shouting at her telling that she should be the one to leave as it seems she never was happy with me, even when I decided to cut my dad off to protect myself. The reason I think I lost compassion is because, I don't feel guilty at all. I'm sad, yes, but also hoping that she would leave so I can breathe. I hate to think that I might have learned how to loathe my parents.",0 +6011,"I haven’t been back home to see my mom since June 2019. Long story short my mom and I always had a rocky relationship. I was 22 & homeless after she kicked me out for a man. + +She took a 2 1/2 drive to visit another man several times a couples months ago who ironically lives 40 mins away from me. She failed to stop by & she knows where I live. + +She wants me to come to visit her for the holidays at this point I’m never going home. I don’t think I’m ready to see her after everything she has put me through..please share with me any thoughts, guidance etc + +UPDATE: thank you to everyone for your guidance. Although, I’m not going to see her for thanksgiving I did decide to see her for Christmas. I don’t plan on staying the night but at least to spend a couple hours with her.",0 +6012,"Aita for telling my sister what she did was wrong ?. CONTEXT : I (18F) have two older sisters. The oldest (27F, lets call her C) doesnt have the same father as me and my other older sister (23F, gonna call her M) . When I was young I didn't see C much because she lived with her father, and I and my sister M lived together with our two parents. I feel way more close to my sister M because of that. + +Now the problem : my sister C works on a kindegarten. She likes to send us videos of the babies she works with on the snapchat group in which there is my two sisters and our mom. In these videos she's mocking them because they cry, because they look ""ugly"" according to her, or saying racists and horrible things about asian babies she's supposed to take care of. I didn't say anything before, but the last time she did it, i said her it was very disrepectful, and even out of laws to film babies without their parents consent. She started saying I was in a bad position to judge how she works because I never did. (Reminder : i just started college, and before hade a very important exam which extends over two years. ) +Then I told her that if her baby's nany did the same things she would have beat her. +We argued like this for 15 minutes, I still was saying that taking videos of babies wothout their parent's consent to mock them was very disrepectful, while she was saying that I do nothing, and never did, that I miss school ""for no reason"", and much things that have nothing to do with filming babies she's supposed to take care of (i still passed my exams the first time, with honors, while she did not). + +When it was about 15 minutes of arguiing with her, my other sister M send me a message, in our private convo, saying to stop arguing with C because she was crying etc. +I told her that I was crying to and that it was really unfair to telling ME to stop arguing while C was litteraly threatening me to come hit me in her snap vocals. + +M started to say to me that since awhile i've been acting like I was more mature than I really am, that we all have faults etc etc etc. +The fact is that whenever C says something horrible absolutly NO ONE reacts. Even if she says racists, islamophobics, or anything else phobic things. + +I can't stand it anymore. Why would she have the right to say horrible things and to film babies at WORK, but me, i don't have the right to tell her that it's bad to do it. + +Moreover, M told me to try and speak to C like MATURE persons. Iam I not supposed to be the 18yo girl, while C is supposed to be a 27-year-old married woman and mother of a baby ? +Isn't C supposed to be the ""Mature person"" in this? I don't feel like she is, and C Isn't to. + +So AITA for arguing with C for that, and for nor wanting to do the first step to talk about it ?",0 +6013,"My husband is adorable. We have been married just under three months. A while ago, he saw my book with instructions for braiding hair. He then decided it is time he learns how to braid my hair. When he gets interested in something, he goes all out. He searched Google and Youtube for more info and instructions, then tried to braid my hair. He struggled, but he keeps asking when he can braid my hair again. And when we watch women sport where the women's hair is braided, he gets excited about how nice it looks, and how impressive it is that someone was able to do that. I love that man from the bottom on my heart! + +Edit to add: My dad used to braid my and my sister's hair when we were little. He's brush ""100 times on the same spot"", lol, to make our hair shiny. Some really good memories.",0 +6014,"parents force me to accept affection. i (13f) dont like being touched or kiss in anyway by family, it makes me incredibly uncomfortable and ive expressed that to my parents many times, yet my mom tells me ""you have to accept kisses from everyone"" and my dad got mad at me the other night for trying to resist him kissing me telling me ""ur pushing ur limit"" ??? i know its just a teenage thing but my dad also slaps my ass and it just icks my grandmas kissed my chest before even though i told her not too. its making me hate them",0 +6015,"Need to figure out how to help elderly couple (85 and95 year old). Me: late 20s guy married with a toddler. + + +Them: 85 and 95 year old couple that are in my community. Their only child lives on opposite side of the world and has very little chance moving here. On social security and cannot drive anymore. Completely financially stable. Wife recently fell down and cannot cook/clean as much now. Speak broken English. + + +I have been helping this elderly couple for the past 2.5 years. Groceries, doctors, medicine, going to restaurants, laundry etc. + +6 months ago I moved 1.5 hours away from them. Now I spend 1 day to go out there and do what's needed every week. + +Personally I don't mind because I'm the only one who they can rely on and I feel that they're extremely lonely and I can bring them just a little bit of joy. But I know my family (spouse and parents) are annoyed. + +I need some advice on how to handle this situation. Maybe I'm venting. But even advice on finding volunteers in my area to do some tasks. Even though they have plenty of money to use delivery etc, for some reason the husband thinks it's too much money.",0 +6016,"My brother died and both the children he left behind are disabled. My brother was a single father and left behind 2 children. One has epilepsy (under control) and the other is diabetic. They live with their grandmother (my brothers mother, we are half siblings) and she’s extremely disabled too. The children eat processed food and sugar all day and have had many trips to the hospital. I want to take them and care for them but first of all they live across the country second I am a really poor student living with my parents and third no one else in my family cares about them they have completely abandoned them. I am so upset w my father for abandoning his grandchildren and for my brother being disabled and having children knowing they would suffer with the same disabilities. But these children don’t deserve to die over being born into a bad situation and I love them. What should I do?",0 +6017,"150k for my son’s degree in business and he wants to be an artist.. I talked with him for hours and don’t see really see his motivation to switch academic path, but he assures me this is the right decision for him (this would mean an additional 50k). How can I make sure this the right decision ?",0 +6018,"Brother-in-Law won’t move out. My partner (25f) and I (29m) co-bought our house not too long ago. We purchased the property specifically because it had an ADU (separate dwelling) for my partners mother to be able to retire in peace without any worry for bills or rent. + +I’d like to say I was and am completely happy with this arrangement. My mother-in-law (MIL) has, in essence, her own home in our backyard so no shared living space. + +I’m less happy with the additional guest. + +My partners brother (38m) has been living abroad for the last decade in various parts of Europe without much direction. My partner and MIL convinced him to come back to the states to get his life more put together and maybe start a career instead of staying in low opportunity work. + +He is a nice guy, but he has been SLOW to get his life together. He’s been living with us for just over a year and only got a service work job a few months ago. He is pretty messy, watches TV constantly, and is living is what is supposed to be my office (I work remotely). He seems to lack drive completely and I know he’s on anti-depressives. + +He’s looked at a few house shares but can’t seem to pull the trigger and actually leave. Like he’s only looked at 4 apartments total and my partner basically has to send them to get that process going. He hasn’t paid any rent - the thought being that would only extend how long he would need to stay with us. + +Now we’re getting into the holiday season and he’s talking about costumes and how he’s going to decorate his bedroom (my office) for Halloween and Christmas. That, for whatever reason, has really got me angry because he’s assuming he’ll be here through the new year and clearly not putting enough effort into finding a place. + +We live in Austin so it’s a relatively expensive city and I know he will live in a worse place but I’m at my wits end. “Getting on your feet” was a 3-6 month plan and we’re double that. + +So AITA if I give him a 2 month window to get out? He’s nice but at this point everything he does is annoying me and it feels like he’s taking my generosity for granted. + +I know it’ll cause tension but I feel like I’ve been more than compassionate and agreeable and he’ll continue like this unless I look like the bad guy. + +TLDR: brother in law is nice but has overstayed by 6 months. I feel like I need to set a move out date and basically kick him out. but I know it’ll seem like a big tone shift since I’ve been nice for the last year. + +EDIT: My partner is also frustrated but travels about half the year for work so I don’t think she’s hit the same level I have. She gets breaks from him, I don’t.",0 +6019,"I’m in lifelong pain because of domestic violence. My mum just called me “the weakest link”.. Hi, so I’m 27. I’ve had a pretty tough time - nearly 10 years of extreme physical domestic violence and lots of loss. + +I’ve been out of the abuse since I was 24. But my body still suffers. I have chronic joint and muscle pain, haven’t slept a full night in years because if I move in my sleep, I wake in agony. I have chronic, daily headaches from consistent head trauma and awful memory. I don’t think about the abuse anymore. I don’t have flashbacks or nightmares. That part left a long time ago. I have made peace with my experience, but it doesn’t negate the fact that those experiences have left me with lifelong pain. + +I had plans to go shopping with my Mum today, but woke in agony. I had barely slept and my shoulder and knees are frozen. + +I explained to my Mum the pain I was in and she huffed and puffed and said “you have no excuse.” I said, “I was repeatedly beaten for nearly 10 years. Of course that has left me with issues.” + +She said, “well you never got hospital treatment!” I did. I had stitches when he stabbed my knee. I went to the hospital for a miscarriage but was left waiting over 8 hours and decided to come home to my existing child instead as he was left with said abuser. Seeking medical advice was almost impossible with an abuser. I most often treated myself, my own concussions, my own bruises and cuts. Seeking medical advice for domestic violence often means the immediate loss of your children. + +Eventually, she said “you are the weakest link. You are weak.” + +What irks me is I’m so supportive of her and everything she goes through. She complains about the same thing day in, day out. I listen every time. I give her patience, understanding and advice when she needs it. I’m always there for her. I never tell her she’s exaggerating or shouldn’t feel a way. I listen to every worry. Every complaint. Every pain. I go out of my way to help her (like redecorating her bedroom to help her mental health even though my own physical health was deteriorating and I was exhausted.) + +I don’t understand why she’s like this. And it hurts. I’m not weak because my body is damaged by a horrendous experience, surely? + +How would you deal with a Mother like this? I love her but I honestly just feel like I’m still with my abuser. She says all the things he did when he wasn’t busy beating me. So the only thing I’m really missing here is the punches.",0 +6020,Is this a reason to cut family off?. Well I’m going to try and keep this short and sweet if I can. My older sister and I are both married. My sister is married to a total POS. He’s not only an alcoholic but has put hands on her and my nephew multiple times. She almost lost my nephew because of him as well. He has been in jail recently and I have been watching her son while she works. As of last week he is out and of course these two are back together like nothing happened. While this was happening she cut off my mom because she didn’t like the fact that my mom told her to never go back to him for the sake of their son. Since that happened my mom has only called me to know what was going on with my sister. Never to ask about me or my kids. So now that he’s out my mom talks to them like nothing happened (she also hasn’t talked to me in 2 weeks). Since then my sister stopped talking to me as she doesn’t need me anymore which has been a pattern since we were teens. Anyway my point is my mother is always so welcoming to my brother in law and treats him so well. My husband on the other hand not so much. My mother has tried to have secrets with my husband about some things and of course my husband didn’t tolerate that and told me. When I confronted her about it she lied and said that my husband made it up. She never comes around when he’s home and ignores him completely if he’s there. I’ve had enough of just being used or talked to when I’m needed. Also I’m tired of my husband not being treated with respect. I have no other family and it hurts me that my mom plays favorites and my sister uses me. Is this a valid reason to stop talking to both of them? I hope this all makes sense. Im on break and I’m trying to type this as fast as I can. Thanks in advance!,0 +6021,"Have you ever thought someone was being lazy or exaggerating symptoms but it turned out the person was actually sick?. If so, what was the situation? Did you feel guilty?",0 +6022,"Mothers of reddit, where do you hide the good snacks at home?. I hide mine in the laundry. As I know no one will ever go in there but me.",0 +6023,"Help! I (16F) found multiple pairs of my underwear and thongs in my (18M) brother’s bedroom! TLDR. So there’s been a lot of drama going on in my family and my brother saying some rather, threatening, scary, things to me and my family. So tonight he wasn’t home, and I know I shouldn’t have, but I decided to snoop through his room to see if I could find anything, if he had been planning anything or whatnot. Well, I came across my thongs and underwear in his dresser drawers. I’m so grossed and creeped out I don’t know what to do please someone help",0 +6024,"My mom is going to Kill someone. My mom has voluntarily drove under serious influence of alcohol everyday for the past year. She comes home barely being able to walk, on school nights she doesn't come home until 2 hours after school has started. She comes home at 10 am and sleeps till 7 pm, in which the cycle repeats. She spends all our money on gambling and alcohol to the point where we barely have enough food and water to support 1 person let alone my two siblings. No matter what or how we tell her, she won't stop. I've taken her keys but she just walks back to the bar at 2 am with nothing to defend herself. For her safety I usually walk her there. She comes home and belligerently begs for money and when I say no she gets angry at me. Her sister was killed because she was drunk driving leaving a 5 year old without a mother or a father. She will surely leave the same fate or worse if she continues. She puts others lives at stake and doesn't care. Please help.",0 +6025,"Is it appropriate that my cousin calls me?. I(20 M) have a younger cousin(10 F) who just randomly calls me on discord at night while I am watching shows or doing whatever. She just wants to talk about her day, and what happened at school or ranting about a classmate of hers. We are pretty close and our family's hang out a bit and go to different trips together. I am fine with talking to her and it's actually pretty entertaining to listen to what random things she has to say. There is just one thing I worry about is that it doesn't feel very appropriate to be calling a minor since that's like the social norm to not do that? + +- My aunt knows about it and hasn't done anything to stop it",0 +6026,"Is this cousin a creep or nosy. If a older cousin in his 40’s often goes through your phone (you’re in your late teens/early 20’s) to see if you watch p0rn, have nud€s or are $exting are they creepy or just nosy? +They don’t pay for your phone but they are a elder. +If they find out you are $exually active should you be punished or shunned? The cousin and family are religious. Should you be worried if they go through your phone because you are active? They have tried to go through it more than once and aggressively ask why you won’t let them see.",0 +6027,"Is it weird that my parents are asking my sister to pay rent?. My (17f) sister (now 26f) has been living on her own since she was 22. My parents are newer immigrants so are renters, but they have a sizeable amount of savings for a downpayment for a house. My sister was also renting at the time. Due to inflation and the pandemic, my parent’s thought we should all move back in a bigger house together rather than separately pay more rent for smaller apartments respectively. Back then my sister and her boyfriend were still together and were planning on soon living together so we agreed that they would pay 1/3rd of the rent, and parents pay 2/3rd. Everyone was ok with this move but my parents were definitely happier about it. Come to a few months ago, my sister and her boyfriend broke up (so it would only be her income). She also didn’t have a job for a while due to the pandemic and had to take out loans for other expenses. When the news came of my sister finding a job, my parents told her they still expected her share of rent from her since we couldn’t afford the house just with parents income. My sister is upset because she thinks my parents should support her with their savings for a few more months so that she doesn’t stay in debt. She’s also upset because my parent’s haven’t really cared about her struggles. on one hand, my parents are getting older and still working long hours. On the other hand, my sister has gone through a lot this year and my parents can use their savings to pay the rent to support her for a while more. Things are pretty tense and I don’t rlly know who’s side I’m on.",0 +6028,"My 9 year old nephew is the most inspiring and awesome person I know. He has been through a TON. My brother (his dad) and his ex absolutely hate each other and pretty much always did. They stayed together because they foolishly combined their finances and he had to see a lot of physical violence and fighting. When they finally split he'd spend time with both parents but my brother was an alcoholic gambling addict and his mother was a lunatic. Neither one cared for him the way he deserved. When he was five his mother was arrested for the attempted murder of her landlord and she's currently serving a 22 year prison term, and that's for the best. She is the worst and scariest person I have ever met and 22 years is too soon, honestly. + +My brother did a couple jail stints for DV and DUI but the tipping point was in 2019 when he gambled away his car and violated probation by failing an alcohol test. Instead of three years in prison the judge sent him to inpatient rehab. While he was there my wife and I took our nephew in. He's such a smart kid. Creative, curious, and so sweet for a kid who was dealt such a shit hand. + +My brother is clean now. We surrendered custody back to him last year but we still visit all the time. For a kid who's been through so much to have such an incredible attitude is so inspiring. He's so resilient. And he loves my wife and I and tells us that we're both his favorite aunties (we are a same sex couple.) It may be weird for a 29 year old woman to idolize a 9 year old boy but I truly do. I've learned way more from him than he ever could from me.",0 +6029,"AITA for insisting my wife stop wiping our 4 year old DD's butt for her?. Long story short my wife and I have been clashing over whether we should be wiping our 4 year olds (just a bit shy of 4.5) butt after she poops. DD has been potty trained since about 2 and she has been going to pre school. I have exhibited my frustrations with my wife that she wipes her butt after her #2, but she keeps doing it anyway. She (wife) doesn't want to, but can't stand hearing DD cry about how she can't do it, so she just does it to avoid the protest (this happens with TV time too unfortunately). The problem is that her pre school teachers have complained about her toileting and I have to deal with DD refusing to do ANY part of the toileting process (wants to be carried to the bathroom, pull her underwear down, and put her on the toilet) when she has to go #2 because I refuse to wipe for her (I will absolutely help her with the process, including holding and guiding her hand if needed, but strongly believe we shouldn't just do it for her so she can learn and practice). When she needs to go #1, she will independently do everything without issue. I'm not worried she will start having accidents again because she won't use the bathroom when mom is at work or hurt herself trying to hold it in. Thoughts? AITA?",0 +6030,"My mother gave family heirlooms to Goodwill. I (23F) had to buy back 4th generation night stands today because my mom gave them to good will. My great grandmother had a bedroom set: a massive dresser with a beautiful mirrored vanity, a cabinet dresser, a head board, and 2 night stands. When she passed away she left the set to my grandmother. When she passed away it was left to my mother who let my sister use it in her bedroom in her late teen years. Eventually, we had both moved out and I was in my second apartment when she decided to remodel my sister's bedroom into a home gym. She reached out to see if we wanted the furniture set and while my sister wasn't in a position to take the set I had enough space. She gave me everything except the night stands, which I didn't know existed as they never went in my sister's room. A while passed and my mom continued remodeling the house and getting rid of excess things from the basement. I noticed the one night stand while waiting for a dilevery for her, but thought she was just moving things to the kitchen while remodeling and I didn't want to assume she wasn't still using them for the new guest room. A few weeks later and she's over to baby sit so I can go out on a date with my bf for the first time in 3 months, it's hard getting out of the house when you have a young kiddo. She's talking about how she went to goodwill the day before and how the night stands were a part of it. I kind of brushed it off saying how she only had one anyway so while sad it wasn't a big deal. To which she said there were two..... the first thing we did that day was run to good will! They had already put it on the salesfloor and a part of one was broken of from being mishandled (nothing I can't fix). The associate told me I'd have to pay for it since it was already on the floor, which wasn't too bad considering it was $16 for the set. They were selling 4th generation antiques for 6.99 a piece! I get that it might be hard to tell what's a treasure and what is trash, but they don't make furniture like that anymore unless your coughing up hundreds to thousands of dollars brand new. We can laugh now but I'm seriously lucky they hadn't sold already! The best part is I live across the street, Directly across the street, from this good will so it was a matter of asking one question and turning right instead of left.",0 +6031,"My mom always favors my brothers. My mom has always favored my brothers over us the girls and today something happened that just broke my heart, as stupid as it is it still hurt me. +So I went to another city where the have a signature sweet so I thought I’d bring back my family some of it, when I arrived and opened it my mom immediately put the best biggest pieces for my brothers and put me a small broken one. She didn’t think oh my daughter payed for this and brought all the way home from another city in a taxi so I should give her a good piece. I don’t care about the sweets or that broken piece but I hate how she always put my brothers before me and I hate living with them because of it",0 +6032,"I pushed my mother and she is now bruised.. I’m 21 living with my mother and unfortunately we had a very huge argument, I kept telling her to leave my room and she kept shouting at me, I had slightly pushed her for her to leave my room to not cause any more problems. She tried to hit me and my stepdad wouldn’t hold her back after i asked him several times I accidentally pushed her and she fell and hit her back on the table and bruised her back. I’m like this in general even with my friends sometimes I don’t realise how I strong I am. I would never harm a woman especially one who gave birth to me and someone who I love so much but I do not know what to do as I feel extremely depressed and bad for what I did. Can someone tell me if I was in the wrong or what I should do from here.",0 +6033,"My family doesn’t clean up after themselves [F17]. I’m just so so tired of my family at this point. Everything is just chaos at all times. + +I can start off by saying that no one except for me atp cleans up after themselves. They leave laundry everywhere, cooked food (that they haven’t put in the refrigerator leaving it out for days) and plates in the kitchen, dishes in the living room, throws their jackets and shoes everywhere in the hallway, leaves dust and dirt everywhere and sooo much more. I’m so tired of this. The worst part is that my mom complains about it being dirty and messy all the time, talks shit and blames my dad for it while she’s just as big of a problem as him. If I question her on leaving anything after her or not cleaning she gets mad and starts to yell, or says that she left the food out “on purpose” for example because I didn’t WANT the food (which I haven’t even said, she just makes things up to have something to blame it on). And then proceeds to stay mad at me forever. She always does this. I used to clean the house all the time before but I decided that it’s not my problem that they’re messy people who don’t give a shit about keeping it clean and hygienic, but that didn’t make any difference. They still don’t clean no matter how messy it is. Now I only put my plates, my food, my clothes away and clean my room and nothing else because it’s not my responsibility to clean up after grown people but I don’t know what to do. I can’t live in a constant mess where it is so dirty that we have literal maggots in the kitchen and silverfishes in the house because they can’t clean. Can someone please tell me what do do because I’m so done with this. No matter what I do or try to tell them nothing happens.",0 +6034,"I found my grown brother on a teen dating/making friends app.. + +Hey. So I’m 16 (f) and I came across my brother on one of the apps I’m on. So the app has functions to where u set it depending on your age. My age is 16 ofc, so putting that I can only talk to 16 year olds and 2 years down. It’s a friend making app (the reason I’m on there) but most teens use it to date. I haven’t been on in a while, and decided to go check on it. (I get lots of notifications) and it’s fun going through them every once in a while. + +Going through my requests I see my 21 year old brother.. he made his age “17” which means he can ONLY talk to people 16, and 15. At first I was like maybe he just wants younger friends? But no. His whole acc was explicit pics. (He’s gay) he had arch pics, ass shots, a fake name, and snap in the bio. He was asking for nudes in the bio and also asking to exchange nut vids.. with minors. + +I was so shocked. I immediately screenshot and blocked him. I don’t know what to do.",0 +6035,"My parents were the best possible parents and I was unappreciative as an earlier teenager , and I’m so angry with myself for it. My parents are the best parents anyone could ever ask for. They loved me unconditionally, they helped me out multiple times when I was in my worst mental states, like my anxiety problems or when I was having friend problems in elementary, I’d do anything and everything for them , and I’m although I’m not an emotional person, I’m crying right now and I hate myself thinking of myself 4-5 years earlier as an early teenager being a stupid ungrateful pos and being upset and things like they didn’t get me all the new latest things like my friends parents did and seemingly being stricter in some ways and that they were different than my friends parents , and I wished at the time I had parents like my friends, but now I realize my parents were the ones that every kid should have, they 100% wanted the absolute best for me and for me to be successful and feel loved and I was a POS . I wouldn’t ask for any other in the world, I wouldn’t want any other life in the world that isn’t mine. I know this is mostly rambling but I’m crying and I feel like shit and I was so unappreciative about the life I had when there’s millions of not billions of people than aren’t as fortunate as my life was and I wasted it just being jealous of everyone and wanting everything to be different instead of appreciating what I already have. I wish I could just make it up to my parents, everyone in the world, and the universe by what a POS I was, and. I just want to altogether stop being selfish like I was as an early teenager and just help other people . I love you all",0 +6036,"Am I too old to be sleeping with my dad?. A friend of mine thought it was a bit weird for me (20F) to be sleeping in the same bed with my dad as we’re staying at my grandparents’ house visiting family. I grew up being comfortable sleeping with my parents, so I kinda thought it was normal. Thoughts?",0 +6037,"Am I wrong for cutting my mom off financially?. Hi Reddit, my brother mentally and physically abuses my mother. He is an addict and needs serious help (everyone has tried to help for years, won’t go into detail here). My mother has been supporting him for years as he hasn’t worked and manipulates her into giving him all her money. Long story short my mother sold her house at a great gain, bought another one and within one year gave all the extra money from the sale of her house to my brother. + +Now that she has nothing, she only has money from her job to live off of. She makes around 65k a year which should be plenty for her to live off of since she doesn’t have a mortgage and her taxes are very low. The problem is that my brother keeps manipulating her into giving him money. I have seen him do it and it is horrible and I feel bad for her. I have tried to help both of them. + +Since she can’t afford to support the two of them she keeps asking me for money. I have given thousands and know that I will never be paid back. I am 26 and I do well for my age (6 figures). I work very hard, normally 60+ hours a week in public accounting. I am engaged and my fiancé and I are saving for our first home. We hope to buy within a year but who knows with interest rates now. + +It’s gotten to a point where I can no longer keep giving my mom money when all she does it give it to my brother. I feel bad not helping her anymore but she treats me horrible. Last week when I wouldn’t giver her any more money she spit in my face and hit my hand so hard that all my nails cracked off. She doesn’t even ask me nicely. She will keep calling or texting me until I finally give in and send her money. Or if I am visiting her, she will get in my face and hide my phone/wallet/ belongings so that I can’t leave her house. + +I am no longer seeing her for Christmas as the plane ticket plus fee for my cat comes to $700. Why would I pay that much to see her when I am treated horribly? Last year I locked myself in the guest room while my brother was screaming at my mom and grandma. The police were called three times in a week by neighbors. I would rather be alone on Christmas than go back to that. + +I feel bad cutting my mom off, she is my mom after all. But every time I give , she just keeps coming back for more. I hate to get mad at her since she is abused but I can’t be dealing with this anymore. It makes me miserable. AM I wrong for cutting my +Mom off?",0 +6038,"My mom wants to invite other people for Thanksgiving dinner.. Ever since I was young, my family always hosted holiday parties. During those dinners, my siblings and I were treated like strangers, were told to stay in our rooms until the guests left, were not given food while the guests were eating and when we complained to be hungry, my mother would flip. It was more like a show for the guests while we were alienated. So, I’ve always had a disdain for guests especially during the holiday. My family has grown apart since then and the older children (myself included) have left home and we’ve never had a normal family Thanksgiving. This year, my mom refused to cook for Thanksgiving dinner and did not want to host anything. All the guests from our previous years have grown distant and don’t visit as usual so I took it upon myself to cater for the family. This might be our last year as a family to have a normal holiday dinner since many things are changing. I planned the pickup, drinks and even bought my sister’s plan ticket to fly back for Thanksgiving. My family and I were in agreement that this would only be us. But this morning, one of the guests asked if they could join us along with another family for Thanksgiving. My mom immediately opted to invite them and their friends (a total of 10 extra guests) and even started making arrangements to cook and make the meals even though she opted out of it. She said she doesn’t want to look like the villain and wants to make these people happy. She has always chosen being perceived like a saint than her own family. I don’t plan on joining them for Thanksgiving and I cancelled all the catering. Am I wrong for this?",0 +6039,"Is it common for stepparents to be this close with their stepchildren?. The inspiration for this question is my \[20m\] girlfriend's \[19f\] half sister \[mid 30sf\] and her relationship with her stepson \[11 or 12m\]. Just the other week, she came to visit my girlfriend out of town with her stepson for the weekend. I've only been with my girlfriend for little under a month, and that was the first time that I met any of her relatives in person. + +One thing that caught my attention about them was how close they were. The sister and her stepson were quite openly affectionate with each other. They would exchange hugs, kisses on cheeks and foreheads, and ""I love yous."" He confided a lot with her and my girlfriend about his problems with his teachers and friends, and they gave him a lot of advice in handling them. In return, he always tried to make himself helpful with the groceries, and wanted to help her with the cooking. When we ordered Pizza, the sister gently made sure he didn't overeat. The two even curled up together on the couch while we were watching a movie. + +If my girlfriend wouldn't have referred to the kid as her sister's stepson to me and if he didn't address her by name, I would've assumed that she was his birthmom. This of course isn't a problem to me by any means, but I was taken aback a bit. + +Although none of my stepparents were never even remotely terrible to me, we never had a close relationship either. My mom's second husband was essentially nothing more then a presence in my house. He was a pleasant enough guy, but was always preoccupied with his bio children or work, and we didn't bother talking much. + +I think I only had 3 or 4 conversations beyond basic greetings (and without my dad present) with my dad's girlfriend. Like my mom's second husband, she was a nice lady. But she clearly wasn't that interested in me, and I never felt any motivation to be close with her. + +After seeing my girlfriend's sister and her stepson interact, it made curious on how typical that is in stepparent-stepchildren relationships. As again, I never had any of that with my parents' partners. Are such dynamics typical in these sorts of relationships, or are my girlfriend's sister and her stepson mostly exceptional?",0 +6040,"Boyfriend told my daughter( 20) she is a loser, pothead and kicked her out of his apartment.. Boyfriend told my daughter( 20) she is a loser, pothead and did not want her in his apartment because she was disrespectful. She says that she just could not handle his political talk she could not eat breakfast and wanted him to stop and told him half the time he does not know what he is talking about. I’m stuck in the middle any suggestions? He is angry and says he has no regrets. I’m a mom first.",0 +6041,"Made my mom cry, now I feel like the worst person in the world. What do I do?. Hi, thanks for reading my post. Me and my mom are out at a restaurant earlier today, and she was driving us home when she decided to stop by a grocery store. When we got in, she told me to help her find stuff that my sisters had sent her to buy via text. + +After we bought the stuff, I asked her if she bought anything for herself, and she said no. The when we got back in the car, I started telling her to stop worrying about other people and start focusing on herself more. I kept trying to get across the point that I wanted her to start caring for herself more, and she started crying. + +For reference, both of my sisters are 18+, they can easily walk to the nearby grocery stores, yet they always burden my mom with stuff like this. It’s not only just getting groceries, but they constantly ask her for money, for her to get them stuff, and I fear she’s just working around the clock when she should be focusing on herself instead of them. + +Now I feel bad, and I don’t know what to do. I’d appreciate some advice.",0 +6042,"If You Care About Your Child's Gender, Don't Have Kids. This might be a hot take, but I have seen so many posts on reddit about kids who were very messed up because of how their parents stuck them to strict gender roles, wanted them to be a certain gender, or favored children of one particular gender. + +I am an only child and one of the only boys born on my mom's side of the family. My mom has one sister and my maternal grandmother has four sisters and one brother. When I was a teenager, my grandmother admitted the family was preparing for a girl, but clearly that's not what happened. But once I was born and turned out to be a boy, my grandparents just said they were happy to have a grandchild and would love me no matter what. My grandparents loved watching my mom's ballet performances, and I grew up to be a theatre and choir kid and was performing constantly. So my grandparents still got their wish to have a grandchild be a performer. + +But if any prospective parents out there are extremely wishing to have a child of a certain gender or believe they'll love a child more if they are one gender, don't have kids. Just save them the trauma that is probably going to happen.",0 +6043,"Jame White, R Texas H of Rep just said the quiet part out loud…. He affirmed that people’s rights to own & carry guns, any gun, supersedes a child’s right to go to school safely & not be shot & killed. He just said it on MPR (Minnesota NPR - I listen online from MI) on morning edition (around 9:15-9:30am EST - Detroit time) & I just f-ing can’t…. A person’s right to carry a deadly weapon into a school supersedes any right my children have to live & learn safely. I’m so angry & pissed & sad & demoralized…. WTF 🤬",0 +6044,"I need to tell off my partner's stepmother for racist remark, how do I do this?. My partner's father and stepmother came for lunch yesterday. I don't have a great relationship with them as they're often quite judgmental, but everything is civil and I am pleasant. However, yesterday a line was drawn when the stepmother said to me ""you have quite slitty eyes don't you?"" I am of Japanese descent and felt this was too much. I played it off cool at the time, but I am angry about this. This isn't the first time she's insulted me, ""do you have napkins where you're from?"" ""your English is very good."" Those I excused for ignorance, this time it was a blatant insult.",0 +6045,"AITA for not wanting to share, or feeling mad about sharing my salary?. I, 23(F) have been my family's breadwinner for quite a while now. + + +Ever since I entered college, I stopped asking my parents for extra allowance knowing how tight our family's finances were. For context, my dad had a stable paying job, however he gambled A LOT. My mom had a job as well, but she had to pay most of the loans we had to take out to make ends meet. My older brother was a graduating student at that time, and our younger sister was in highschool. During my uni days, we'd have a hard time paying off my tuition, so they did cut my allowance from 150 PHP a day (2.87 USD), to 100 PHP (1.91 USD) to save money because we were paying off our house as well. Because of that, I learned how to save my allowance and was able to save some extra for my uni needs. At times, when budget was really tight, they wouldn't give me any allowance and that's when my savings would be very useful. It also helped our household budget. When our brother graduated uni, we thought it'd be smooth sailing. However, he became estranged from our family instead. Long story short, he lived on his own and cut most ties from our family. + + +When I graduated college, I was able to get a job in the company my dad was working at. My dad worked at the biggest broadcasting company here in the Philippines. My first salary was 15,000 php/mo (286 USD/mo). To help with the bills, I shouldered the internet and the cable bills. At times, I helped with the household budget as well. Time passed and I was able to save more than I did in college. I spent some money on myself, given the fact that I couldn't do it before. Probably the biggest spenditure I did was to buy a laptop for myself. I've always wanted one, and as a Communication student before, I did have a hard time keeping up with my classmates because I didn't have the materials needed (for editing, for graphic works and such) but I never complained. I knew I could wait until I had a job and I had money for myself. Srill, I shared what I could to the household budget. I was never late with the bills and such. + + +Fast forward a bit and the pandemic happened. I was on my second job as a freelance ESL teacher. I earned around 120 php/hr (2.29 USD/hr), working for at least 3-6hrs a day. The broadcasting company my dad was working at was shut down by the dictator of the president we have, and he was one of the employees they had to let go (my dad worked at the company for 21 years, and he was the oldest production staff. he worked behind the camera) He was able to get some money for the service he rendered during all those years. We were able to pay for the house, his motorcycle and we were able to live without me having to contribute. I was able to save more despite earning less as a freelance ESL teacher. However, my uncle (our dad's youngest brother) was struck by severe COVID and he needed help paying his hospital bills. My dad paid around 800,000 PHP (15,000 USD) for that, which was most of his savings. + + +Currently, I am working as a Campaign Associate for a marketing firm. I'm earning around 19,000 PHP/mo, (363 USD/mo) and I give half of my salary to my dad for the household budget. Not inclusive of the internet bill which is around 1,500 PHP/mo, and some loans I pay on my own. I took an extra job as a freelance ESL teacher (again), and I'm currently looking for a third job. Just so I could have savings and I could buy the things I want. +My parents have split due to reasons I don't know and our mom doesn't live with us anymore. I give her money when I could, and she recently visited us. She lives in a different province now and she has to go back, however I feel like I'm obliged to give her fare for when she leaves. + + +Is it wrong to want to save my salary for myself? Is it bad that I'm annoyed by how I'm being treated? For some reason, I feel obliged to give them half of my salary but I don't want to. I love my parents, they're the greatest I swear. But they piss me off so much when it comes to money talks. I don't know why ever since I was in college I've felt the burden to contribute to the household budget. + + +TL;DR AITA for feeling upset about sharing my salary, when I've been giving money to my parents ever since I was in college?",0 +6046,"My estranged family is trying to communicate with me again but I don’t know how to feel.. This all kinda started when my dad died in 2019. I was 19, living with my cousin and his wife when my dad killed himself. + +They just had a new baby boy and I was already paying rent to live with them and it was going okay. But I worked with my dad at his business so when he died, I lost my job too. My mom was quick to help, sending me rent payments. + +Things quickly got awkward, I didn’t have my driver’s license so I couldn’t get more work, and I was broke so I couldn’t take driving classes, but they never really helped me get my license, so I felt like I was just in limbo. + +Also at the same time my cousin told me I needed to stop “mooching off my mom” and get a job so my mom- (Who lives in another state) -wouldn’t have to pay my rent anymore (it was $350 a month- plus utilizes after my dad died) when I told her what they said, she was mortified, because at that point, she only had paid one months rent for me, +which she was happy to do because I was going through one of the lowest points in my life and she’s my mother, so she was happy to do anything to help me. + +They started to get estranged from me and his wife was basically ignoring me. I felt so guilty about everything that I stayed out of their way and was in my room a lot and hardly ate anything. + +Whenever I’d hear his wife leave her room-I would always excitedly leave my room and go find her and try to talk to her, if she was in the kitchen, she would very quickly hurry up what she was doing rush to go back into her room. It made me feel like the scum of the earth. + +Keep in mind I only actually was with them for 3 months after my dad died. +I lost 40 lbs in the time I spent in my depressed state. + +My mom offered to fly me to see her and stay with her for a month, I’d leave my dogs and cat with my cousin and she’d still send a rent payment for the month I was gone. We agreed on these terms. + +When I returned from my trip, my room was covered in dog urine and feces, and my cousin admitted to never feeding my cat once and just forcing him to be outside for the whole month. + +I am still livid about all of these things. +My dad raised him and his brother like his own sons, and he lived with us as adult rent free many, many times before he was really on his feet. + +They treated me like a stranger in my most dire time of need. I needed a brother, and I called his wife my sister. +That’s what I needed and that’s not what I got. + +But now, they’ve started texting me again, inviting me out to see them again. I haven’t seen them since I left 3 years ago. + +We have texted a little, and called once or twice, but they always seemed pretty condescending, and they never really seemed all that interested in knowing how I’m doing. +they don’t know where I live, they don’t know who I live with, they don’t know what I do for work, they don’t know anything about me anymore. + +I do miss them. But I feel like talking to them again is just setting myself up for more heartache, because, they just don’t care about me :/ + +I just needed to vent. You can make all the assumptions about me based on this that you want. Maybe I seem selfish, maybe I seem spoiled. But the people that I lived with for those three months, those three lonely months. Those were not the people that I knew and loved before my dad died. They were completely different people. like a switch had been flipped. + +(TL;DR, my dad killed himself, The family that I was living with ignored me and made me feel like I was nothing, (and abused my pets while I was gone for a month) I was very depressed for a while until I moved out. I don’t talk to them much anymore but they’re trying to talk to me again and want me to come visit them. + +(EDIT +I think they might be talking to me again because the 3 year anniversary of my dads death was just 6 days ago. I’ve been lightly texting with his wife for 3 days, I don’t have the courage to bring up my feelings, I don’t know how, I just know I need to.) + +Thanks for all the kind responses, if you want to know what happens after I confront them I’ll edit this post again.",0 +6047,"Should I tell my parents I’m pregnant?. I (31f) and my long term bf (30m) are expecting our first child. We’ve been together for over 10 years, and own a house together. We’ve shared the news with everyone except my parents. + +For some background, my partner and I are of different races and my parents do not accept our relationship. My father in particular has said some truly horrifying, racist things about my partner and I have since given up on trying to make them understand, both for the sake of my partner and my own mental health. As a result, I have no contact with my father and minimal contact with my mother (mostly just happy birthdays, the occasional puppy picture, etc). + +I think news of my pregnancy will get around soon and part of me thinks it’s best if the news came from me. But another part of me thinks they don’t deserve to be part of our lives. + +Just wondering what other people’s thoughts are. + +Jan 10: Updated for additional context +Thank you to everyone who took time to respond! I didn’t expect this many answers. + +Some further context may help explain why I’ve been debating back and forth: we live in America. My parents are immigrants from India (so I am Indian) and my partner is mixed Hispanic. + +My parents grew up in a community of people who looked like them, talked like them, etc. so, of course, it’s a culture shock to see the diversity of backgrounds. Despite having lived in America for many years, they have not ventured far from their own community. That being said, it does not excuse their inability to grow and learn tolerance and acceptance of other cultures/races. It certainly does not excuse the racist things my father has said about my partner in anger. + +The reason I’m torn about telling them is because I’m still holding onto the hope that they will come around when they realize what they’re missing out on. This would be their first grandchild and they’re not likely to have another any time soon. + +I have had all the same thoughts about how our child would be 50% his race and I would certainly not want my child to be exposed to that kind of hate. Telling my parents about our pregnancy would not allow them free access to our child. I’m only hoping that it would start a conversation towards reconciliation. It would take a lot more work to get to a place where I would let them back into our lives. + +For the record: my partner thinks we should share the news with them because they are still my parents. But he agrees that there would need to be some serious conversations before they are allowed to see our baby.",0 +6048,"My adult brother started calling our stepmum 'Mum'. My (20M) oldest brother (26M) - Let's call him Ron - has started calling our stepmum 'Mum' and calling our birth mum by her first name (behind her back). +We had a troubled childhood because of our birth mother's alcoholism and abusive relationships. +Because of this, my younger brother (18M) doesn't talk to her anymore and lives with our Dad and stepmum. He began calling our stepmum ""Mum"" a couple of years ago. I understood and support him. + +However, Ron has now started doing the same. I find it extremely creepy and weird considering that he's an adult and was not raised by her. I respect that he feels close to her and sees her as a motherly figure but it's like he's decided to switch Mums. (He's still in contact with our birth mum) +While I'm still close to our birth mum, I've never pressured any of my brothers to do the same. We've all coped in our own ways. However, this feels different. + +Today was the first time I've heard Ron refer to our stepmum as ""Mum"" and I said it was weird. I explained my reasoning and he completely disagreed. I know it's not my place to intervene and stating my opinion will likely only put a wedge between us but I just reacted as I was shocked. +I might have seen this name change as a sign of affection but at the same time, he's started referring to our birth Mum by her first name, like he's switching them. +I should point out that I like our stepmum and I have nothing against her. But he's known her since he was 13 and only now has decided to start calling her Mum, it feels so unatural. + +Our younger brother who also calls her 'Mum"" supports Ron. So maybe it is just me who has an issue with this? + +P.s. My brother lives on Reddit so if he happens to see this: +I'm not trying to offend you but I have no support system and need to know if I'm just too emotionally invested to look at this objectively. You can do what makes you happy but I hope you understand I can feel how I feel. + +TLDR: My 26 year old brother has started calling our stepmum ""Mum"" and I find it weird. + +Edit/update: +I see the issue was with me and that's something I need to work through. I've apologised to him and he was understanding.",0 +6049,"I don’t fit into my dad’s new family. My dad and mom divorced when I was an adult, 20. My dad adopted me when I was a month old and is in all aspects my dad. My mom up and left one day when I was in college, still living with my parents. I was my dads shoulder to cry on and emotional support, he was controlling to my mom and I understood why she left. Only 6 months later he replaced my mom with a new lady with 3 kids (L). L is kind enough, tries to include me, but I’ll always come second to her children and my dad doesn’t feel the need to stick up for me. I have been fighting tooth and nail to stay involved and be a part of the family but I don’t really fit in, my sister stopped trying years ago because she feels she is a second class human and she doesn’t fit into the puzzle that is their “perfect family.” + +My family came into town a couple days ago and I wasn’t told until they had been here for 5 days. This may seem selfish but my birthday was a few days ago and my dad and L didn’t get me anything or do anything for me, but I make sure to get them and her three kids gifts every holiday and birthday. My Nina asked me why I hadn’t stopped by. I was honest and said, “Well I haven’t been invited…” +She said, “you have to be invited to your own dads house?” + +This was a really sad realization for me, my family has always had open door policies all throughout my life, L’s own children have open door policy and can show up whenever they please. + +It was a realization that literally without my efforts, I wouldn’t be involved with this family because I’m not a part of the family. + +After my nino’s leave town, I plan to continue conversations with them and keep that relationship open. But when it comes to my dad and L, I think it’s time I separate myself from a situation I am not welcome in. My heart is broken that my dad has so easily allowed my sister and I to be cast aside, but I refuse to keep begging for something that’s not going to work, I’ve been stupid enough to do it for 3 years.",0 +6050,"I don't really know where else to post this but I just want to say I miss my brother, a lot.. My brother passed away when I was 17, he was just a year and a half older than me. We were very close, we taught each other so much. My sense of humor basically came from him. + +I'm 31 now and, like now, I still break down every once in a while thinking about him. Sometimes he's in my dreams, I'm not religious, but I like to think maybe he's visiting me. + +Idk but [this](https://youtu.be/sxpLiQgdTI0) song always feels like something we would've done for one of my sister's once they got married. + +Just cherish the time you have with your loved ones, there's no telling when they might be lost.",0 +6051,"How often do you hug your spouse?. We have 3 children. All out children are bellow the age of 14 years of age. Both me and my wife are in our early 30s. We both have demanding careers. Both are exhausted at night. However, we can go days without hugging but we do chat. + +I'm not worried. Just curious. I know each relationship/marriage is different.",0 +6052,"Am I irresponsible for spending my own money?. I am a college student (21F) and live with my grandparents (64F) and (75M) for some background; I have been living with them for four years, I am a full time college student going for my bachelors degree. I work part time for 9$ a hour so my income can be minimal at times. When I was 19 I decided to buy a car from my grandma- which I paid off two weeks ago it took me 2 and a half years to pay off. Now I don’t owe her anything but she still keeps tabs on my bank account. Recently I received a good amount of money on my tax return and I set some aside to buy new tires for my car when they wear out. Two days ago I found out one of my closest friends was struggling financially. She hadn’t eaten in a few days due to having to choose between bills and groceries. I couldn’t just let my friend go hungry, as I’ve had a rough upbringing and know how painful it is to not eat for several days. I went with her to the store and bought enough groceries for several weeks for her. Totaling out to about $200. I wasn’t concerned about using some of the money I set aside because I knew that I’d be getting a few more hefty checks from different places due to my scholarship and left over funds. My grandma checked my bank account yesterday and was extremely angry that I spent some of the money. She yelled at me and stormed out of my room. It’s been a day and a half and she hasn’t said a word to me since. The other checks came in and the money I set aside for tires is back in the account, the rest in savings but she still won’t speak to me. She said that I am irresponsible and stupid for wasting money like that. +Am I irresponsible for spending my own money to help out one of my friends? + +Edit: bills and costs of the house are split 50/50 I pay for half the bills and groceries in the home equaling about $780 a month in bills",0 +6053,"My mother is an hundred per cent sure my father is cheating on her with the maid.. EDIT [there's a new addition at the end] + +Hi everyone, for a bit of context, we are from an European country and English is not my first language. I'm a 23 years old girl and only child. My mother is 60, my father is 58. They both are very handsome and look at least 15 years younger than they truly are. + +My parents have been married for 25 years, they've always loved each other very fondly, we are rather wealthy. Our biggest issue is the fact that, 5 years ago, my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer. They told me about this one year later, because when they found out and she underwent surgery I was studying abroad in Japan for a year. Now she's kind of stable: she still has the tumor, but she's taking this pills that act as a suppressor and give her almost no side effects (it's not body-consuming as the chemo is, so she's living her life with this apparent normality). The fact is that her disease changed our lives, and we are always under pressure and thinking about everything falling apart sooner or later. My father is experiencing a sort of low-intensity depression. I mean, he still does everything as he used to, but we can tell is bearing an heavy weight on his shoulders and his relationship with my mother has slightly changed. He seems more detached, but I know that this is his self-defense mechanism. In part I know because I can feel it myself, in part because he told me several times (he's deadly scared of loosing her.) + + I am very close to both of my parents, but I share something deeper with my father. We have a different kind of bound, mostly because I am more similar to him rather than I am with my mother. This is why I may be biased on this matter. + +My mother has always had some tendencies regarding ""conspiracies"" against her, and when she is convinced about something there's no way of changing her mind. When se believes something, she assumes that it should be the same for everyone (usually, my father and I do disagree with her, and it surely doesn't help). Since her disease, this got worst. She is often upset about my father and I, because she thinks there are things we share between us two, excluding her, or that we plot against her and all of this stuff. + +During the last 3 years, following my grandmother's advice (from my father's side) we aired this foreign 40ish woman as a maid (""Camilla""), and she comes at my house 3 times a week. I always thought her being very kind and affectionate with all of us, even though she's not beautiful at all. We all adore her because of her kindness and amazing skills on doing her job. She also gifts us food specialties from her home country, she taught my mother how to do some of those herself. Her older sister works as a maid at my grandparents' place, so every member of my family has always spoke about them very highly. Including me, my mother, and of course my father. But I mean, whenever he has said something good about her, about her being a blessing for the tidiness of hour home, he was following the lines of my mother, or my lines, or he was followed by us. + +Yesterday at lunch, totally out of the blue, my mother, visibly upset and angry, told us that probably Camilla is going to leave us. I knew that, before covid, she used to work as a maid in a hotel, so it had happened that she wasn't able to work for us because of this. Nevertheless, I was a bit concerned about my mother's assertion and asked her why. She gave me a sort of questioning yet hushing look and remained silent. I insisted, but still, no answer at all. At one point, my father said ""She's going to work in the hotel again"". My mother totally changed her countenance and became furious, asking my father how did he know about this, so he casually said that it was rather obvious, given the fact that it had happened in the past. + +I swear it: my mother was the the definition of ""angry"". I couldn't understand why. She continued questioning my father and said that it was impossible that he knew about it because she didn't know herself. She just said that she had overheard a phone call between Camilla and someone else, concerning the hotel reopening, so ""she needs to go away from this house"". My mother stressed several times that sentence ""she needs to leave/ she needs to go away"". Of course I became suspicious and asker her ""Why are you saying this as if you are implying something more"" and she answered ""You are very sharp, you are indeed"". I can't stand it when she acts like that, so I started to be angry myself, but my father told me to call it quits, and my mother to do whatever pleased herself more. He was just worried about finding someone else as good as Camilla. + +Later that evening, when I was preparing dinner with my father while my mother was still working, he mocked that sentence ""She needs to leave"" and we both laughed about it, still don't understanding what she meant and why she was that angry. I told him the exact same thing I told her ""She said that as if she was implying something more"" and that was it. + +This morning, my mother said in front of my father and I ""Did you see what Camilla had done? She ruined your white carpet, putting it in the laundry with the red one"" then she gave me a strange look ""This is not like her. She wasn't herself yesterday"". + +Before my father left for work, he told me ""She has something against Camilla, I truly don't understand her"" and I agreed. + +While my father was out, I was doing an online lesson, when my mother told me that she believes that my father is having an affair with Camilla. I asked her why. She said that yesterday she ""surprised"" the two of them talking in the living room and, when they heard her approaching, my father threw a bag he was holding so as ""to distract my mother"", then he left and Camilla run away to continue her cleanings. She also said that Camilla acted oddly during the rest of the morning and that she snapped during lunch because she wanted to ""warn my father that she knows"". + +Of course I asked her what evidence does she has, she said that she's just ""collecting the dots"" (I can't help it but I just think she is being paranoid as she always is) + +During November, December and the first half of January, my father was utterly sad and kind of depressed because of problems at work and the worsening of my mother condition (luckily it was a false alarm, but we couldn't know back then). Because of this he poured himself a bit of alcohol every night after dinner: he wouldn't get drunk of course, but we all were suffering and that was his way to sleep at night. Lately he's doing a lot better: my mother is not going to die, things at work are fine again. + +But my mother is convinced that he is doing better because he is cheating on her. I reminded her that he was suffering because of all the things I wrote, and she said that he's doing just fine because he found a lover. I have an excellent memory and I can remember the date of every event, so she asked me when certain things happened so as to justify her ""hypothesis"". She assured me that he started his affair recently so she wants Camilla to go away before she finds out ""real evidence"". ""All men are the same and your father is not different from them"". + +""I don't want to find it out, I'm not going to do anything about it, but I want her gone without doing any shenanigans or acting out crazy."" + +She had me swore that I won't talk about this with anyone, first of all, with my father. + +I'm not going to betray her, but still I could never believe this. I know my father, and I know my mother and this all seems to me as delusional fantasies. + +I'm not going to betray her but I can not let it pass and act as if nothing is happening here, I need to confront my father in a way that doesn't involve my mother. + +Honestly, I don't know what to do. I needed to write it down. I need help. + +EDIT [my father told me ""I can't really understand what has gone through your mother's mind. Something really bad must've happened, or maybe she is under the impression of who knows what. Who knows what is she thinking about. She even bitterly told me that she doesn't want to know what's going on here"". +And I just shrugged my shoulders and said nothing] + +TLDR: even though she doesn't have any proof or evidence, my mother is convinced that my father is cheating on her with our maid; all of this is based on her perceptions and her collecting docts that I'm not able to see. I tend to believe that she is being paranoid and I hold my father in a very high regard to believe in that.",0 +6054,"Can only hope this invasion ends soon.. Today I meet a woman that is from Ukraine. She was very upset about what was happening. Sure she is here (USA) away from the war, but her family is still in Ukraine. I can't imagine how many people are here for one reason or another and their family is still in Ukraine. Can only hope this ends soon.",0 +6055,"my siblings get inheritence but I have to meet requirements to access any of it?. My dad is getting quite old and has recently announced me and my 2 siblings will be receiving a fairly large sum of money as a gift, it's basiclly early inheritence which I'm of course very grateful for! + +It is split between us so the exact same amount however my siblings have already received theirs a few days after he said this without me knowing plus they already received a bit of financial help from him a few years back, again an amount he said he has for me, also very grateful but have never seen any of it. + +I am in the process of trying to buy my first ever place or trying to anyway, I'm in my mid thirties and earn far far less than my siblings and even moved back in with my mom just to save (parents are divorced) my siblings however are in a relationship, earn 3x more than me and already own a house and an apartment which they rent out on top and I just feel it's incredibly unfair as I haven't had a penny from him and can barely rent on my own. + +I have confronted my dad about this many times but says his reason are he doesn't want me to buy anything too old or in the wrong area or that costs a lot to maintain etc. Feels like he doesn't trust me to do the right thing. I can't figure out if its just tough love or just doesn't want me to have any. I've always felt like the outsider anyway and he does often say I never really listen to him so it's confusing. I don't even really care about the money, its the feeling of not being treated equally, plus my siblings have kinda gone quiet so won't do anything to help me probably because they know its unfair? + +Just after an opinion as one minute i think I'm being oversensitive and other times I think he's very out of order.",0 +6056,"Am I a bad daughter for asking for some space from strict dad?. I (23F) have always had a rough relationship with my dad. He (65M) immigrated here when he was 30 something and has very … special .. views on parent-children relationships. He’s always spent money on me and my brother (19M) for everything we’ve needed but he’s very strict with what we eat, when we sleep, when and how much we socialize, etc. He has a bad temper and can say some mean things when he’s upset (calls himself a “different man” when he’s angry) and we’ve been called selfish/ungrateful if we push back against his strictness and meanness because “he spends time reading up on health tips and gives us money so we should respect him by being understanding.” + +I just started grad school about 1000 miles from home and I get a livable stipend so I don’t really need money from him anymore. However, he did pay for me to go to an expensive undergrad institution so there’s that. Since becoming pretty much financially independent from him now, I’ve tried to be more transparent about getting some space and less hover parenting. Dad didn’t really take that well, said I’ve already changed so much even though I’ve just moved away/made some of my own money and who knows “what” I’ll become in the future. Meanwhile, my brother is an undergrad at another expensive school (that my dad encouraged him to attend) so he’s still pretty reliant on my dad right now. + +Recently my dad stated his “expectations” of us since we’re both now getting more … independent-minded. He said he’s going to change his will this year and asked us to write up a “contract” outlining what we think we can do to “get along” with him and he’s going to use that to decide how to change his financial aid for us, so to say. The expectations he gave us were for us to learn how to forgive him when he becomes the “different man” because he’s “invested so much in us” and he’s “allowed to withdraw whenever he likes” (i.e. say what he wants and we should be understanding enough to not get upset). + +I’m writing this out not to complain or anything. My therapist says my dad is trying to maintain control over us because he feels himself losing it and his financial power is all he has right now. But I still feel guilty standing up for myself sometimes because I do understand what my dad has sacrificed for my brother and me to be who we are today (for better or worse). I sometimes wish I could be the daughter my dad wants me to be but I can’t and still hold on to my mental stability. Any advice?",0 +6057,"My (29) little brother (10) who has a learning disability keeps wanting me to play with him but I can't stand to play any of the things he wants to play and he can't play anything I want to play, advice?. So I have a little brother who is aged 10 that my parents adopted some 6 or 7 years ago now, he has a learning disability and as such finds many concepts and ideas difficult that most 10 years olds can handle (for example he still struggles to spell his own name). + +I am myself an avid gamer and being a kid he likes playing games too, however a lot of the games that are appropriate and are easy enough for him to understand I find extremely grating and infuriating to play. + +Most often he wants to play pretend and whilst I enjoy TTRPGs like D&D I can't seem to get myself into the headspace to enjoy playing pretend with him like I would've done when I was his age. + +I'd considered introducing him to a very simple version of D&D however he still struggles greatly with his addition and even when playing something as simple as Uno he will struggle to process the numbers and the game. + +I REALLY want to find something we can play together because he hasn't got any other siblings or friends to play with when he's at home (our older sister passed away before my parents adopted him and his bio siblings live on the other side of the City), I also fear him having a lonely and boring childhood. + +I was already practically the Elsa to my Sisters Anna and I fear I am repeating the same mistakes again but very often my depression will make me unable to leave my room or have the energy to do anything. + +I don't know what to do and could really use some input?",0 +6058,"How do i ask my spouse i need time to study?. So me and my spouse have been going on a rough ride for a while. After a lot of thinking as a sole bread and butter earning for the family of 4, I decided to pursue CISSP certification in the hope of a career jump and a better salary. +Asked my spouse if she can give me some privacy and quiet time for two months so i can focus on the study. Since then she has been making my life more hectic by throwing the kids to babysit while she hangs out with friends. + +How can i make her understand that i really need the time and privacy to focus on this certification?",0 +6059,"Step dad refusing to let me see my biological family without him. My dad died from melanoma when I was 2 years old. When I was 4 my mom remarried. My step-dad has a daughter 4 months older than me, whose real mom turned her away from our family, resulting in us never being close. We’re both in our twenty’s now, and the only time we see her is on Christmas and her birthday so she can collect gifts from my mom and step dad. Back to my step dad. He always told my mom he never wanted kids, not even his own daughter. I was 4 when he remarried my mom, and he never tried to develop a relationship with me and never adopted or even wanted to adopt me as his own, despite me living in their house up until I went off to college. I am still in this house when I am home for breaks. So when I say he never wanted a relationship with me, it goes from not saying hi, good morning, or anything to me unless I say it first which has gone on for years, to wanting to address something with me and even if I’m in the room he’ll say it to my mom so my mom is the one to talk to me. So with Christmas coming up, every year on the day after Christmas me, my mom, my step dad, and my step sister go to my biological fathers family Christmas. Every year, my mom complains because my step sister wants nothing to do with us the rest of the year but is there on this day collecting gifts from my biological fathers family. Finally, this year, I asked my mother if there was any possible way we could go to this get together without them, since it isn’t their family anyway. Her argument is it is their family through marriage, however my dad died and my step dad didn’t marry my dad, so technically no, it is not their family. This has resulted in my mom calling me evil, a failure of a daughter, selfish, and manipulative. So I’m asking for opinions: am I being selfish for asking to celebrate the holidays with my biological fathers family without my step dad and step sister? Side bar, none of the family at this gathering is even my moms family, it is solely my fathers family so the only relationship they have to any of them is through me and my mothers past marriage. Please tell me what you think. + +Also, when brought up to my step dad, he said to my mom, with me in the room, that if she (meaning me) doesn’t want us to go him and Carly (my step sister) will go by themselves. None of them are their family. My mom is also refusing to go unless we all go. I said if they go, they can go by themselves and I’ll stay home and my step dad and step sister can celebrate Christmas with my biological fathers family if it’s so important to them. Am I being ridiculous, or do I have a right to feel this way?",0 +6060,"How to share our kids bedrooms out?!. 15 and 12 year old brothers live with us 50% of the time….. plus 10 year old step brother who is autistic lives with us 100% of the time. + +Autistic 10 year old has no learning difficulty, but has sensory issues and wants to be alone and have his own bedroom. + +15 year old really wants his own room +Because age&privacy. + +We only have two bedrooms so only one child can have their own room. We can’t agree as a family on what is best. I can see both sides! + +Who do you think should get their own room and why?! Please help?",0 +6061,"Anyone feel their parent(s) were neglectful in some way?. I've been doing a lot of work on myself to heal my childhood but the fact is my family wasn't the greatest. They were very dysfunctional and neglectful especially my mom unfortunately. + +She had me when she was a teenager and raised me as a single mom with the ""help"" of my grandparents. Unfortunately she grew up with me and didn't always make the best choices. My dad was never in the picture and never saw child support. He was also married and had children of his own. + +Things like making sure I had health insurance, teaching me how to ride a bike, how to swim, teaching me to drive, those weren't things she wasn't jumping for joy to teach me how to do. I had to bug her constantly to teach me the basics of life. Even when I got my first checking account, it wasn't her who took me, it was my first boyfriend when I was 18 who helped me open one. + +My family never vacationed because we were kind of poor. We lived in the shittiest, run down house on the block. My grandpa was pervy, my grandma was mean, and my mom was depressed and didn't work for most of the time I was in school. + +They never took me to parades or any local festivities in the neighborhood. We werent a happy family. My whole family was depressed, all the adults chain smoked and my grandpa was an alcoholic. We lived in filth. A few neighbors called child services a few times but nothing ever happened surprisingly. + +I'm in therapy now trying to work out my anger issues at my mom because I felt she didn't try hard enough to create a better life for the both of us, mainly for me. After all I'm her daughter. She was a high school drop out, never went back even though I bugged her. She's never taken classes to advance her career. She allows her boss to verbally abuse her. I have sympathy for the fact that she had a rough childhood but at the same time she needed to think of me. + +I felt I didn't have a normal childhood and looking back she never takes accountability for all my issues and blames it on my grandparents when they're the ones who provided a roof over our head rent free. She chose for us to stay there. + +I felt I was forced to settle for less, and be bullied by the other kids and bullied in my adult years and my romantic relationships were a result of my lack of self love ending up in codependent, abusive relationships. + +It's only now after so many years where I'm trying to fix things for myself knowing my family will never change and are set in their ways, I tell myself just because I came from nothing doesn't mean I have to settle for less. I can work towards the life I want. It only took me 30 something years to finally love and believe in myself enough to go after the things I want and believe I deserve good things and love.",0 +6062,"paying for Thanksgiving?. My husband keeps asking if I want to go out of state to spend Thanksgiving with his aunt. She's charging everyone $40. I just find it bizzare to pay for a Thanksgiving gathering. Even some of my friends from college have last minute invited me to their Thanksgiving dinner and I didn't even have to bring a thing. + +I don't mind bringing a dish,dessrt,drinks,paper plates,I've etc. but to pay like a restaurant takes away the family feel to it. + +Does your family do this,would you go?",0 +6063,"Found out my great grandfather and great uncle were paedophiles - what do I do now?. So I’ve just found out my grandfather’s dad and brother were paedophiles who abused a now adult member of my family. Both abusers have now passed away, but I’m not sure how to deal with that knowledge. + +Does anyone who has had a similar situation have any advice to give? Or any resources that might be useful for coming to terms with that knowledge? + +Please and thank you!",0 +6064,"Is this normal? Please help, my mom is confusing me. I dont have a bedroom anymore because my sister kicked me out. Its been 7 months and I sleep in a mattress on the floor now. Now I’n starting to question whether it is normal or not for me to have a bedroom.. My mom keeps manipulating me and yelling at me telling me a “bedroom is not mandatory” when there are many options, and, shes using a silly excuse of “middle class men” people. I don’t understand how that makes any sense? And should I report her for leaving me in these conditions? She doesnt care that I’m living like this.",0 +6065,"How do I tell my dad his business idea is terrible. TLDR: ""How can I get my dad to realize his business idea is terrible?"" My dad is a 60 year old taxi driver. He used to rent out his 3 cars a few years ago. Didn't really work out as people kept stealing parts of the cars so he sold them. One of the people he met with that business kept in touch. I'll call that guy Tazo. Tazo had a new business idea: He'd make a thing where people give him money, and he gives that money to people who need surgery. Apparently it has a name but I don't know what. To get the word out he will apparently make an ad on TV. He says they'll find a sponsor. He hasn't found one yet. He told my dad that idea and said that they should start that business together. He said they'd make a ton of cash. My dad loves money and isn't very smart so he agreed. My dad told my mom. My mom realized how much of a shit idea that is so she said no. Now my dad is extremely angry. My mom says we don't have the money, she doesn't trust Tazo and we don't have the time either. If something needs to be done for that business, my dad will make my mom go. The thing is, I'm gonna get surgery to fix my scoliosis so my mom needs to take care of me. I won't be able to do anything for hours if she's gone. Not to mention there's no guarantee people will donate anything or that they'll find a sponsor to get the money for that ad on TV. We ourselves don't have any money, too. We're lower middle class and absolutely don't have money to start a business. It seems like an absolutely terrible idea. How can I get my dad to realize that?",0 +6066,"TW: SA. I think I was abused by dad as a child, but don’t want to cry wolf.. I’ve recently cut both of my parents out of my life and started working on healing myself from my trauma brought on by both them. As I do this, more and more memories of me as a kid come back. I never realized how much my brain repressed until I took the time to work through it all as an adult. I have very little memories of me between the ages of 4-10, unless they are memories with my siblings. I do however have very vivid memories of me always being in the hospital or doctors office when I was young. I constantly had horrible yeast infections and UTI’s so bad that I would have to have a catheter inserted because I couldn’t go to the bathroom myself when they got bad enough. I was a pretty hygienic for a child my age, because I knew how bad the pain was and my doctors said it was from wiping the wrong way. It was not. They kept coming, and my mom started telling everyone I had a kidney disease, because everyone started becoming concerned. What would cause these to happen? One day I just stopped getting them. Nothing was ever brought up about the infections or the “kidney disease” again. + +Now, I’m 25, and when I’m intimate with anyone, certain touches trigger me. I have no reason for feeling this way, no memory of anything happening when I was a child, and still I’m filled with rage, fear, and sick to my stomach when I’m touched the wrong way. I’m too scared to tell anyone I know, or ask questions to find out if anyone knows anything. I also am so scared to say anything, and be wrong. It just doesn’t make sense to me. My dad gives off inappropriate vibes though towards his grandchildren. He once tried putting his hand down my nephews pants when he thought he was sleeping and laughed it off when my nephew asked what he was doing. He only dates females with young daughters or young granddaughters. He used to hide in my closet to watch me get dressed after a shower when I was a teenager. + +There’s really no point to me sharing this. I just really needed to get it off my chest, or maybe get opinions. If you’ve read this far, thank you so much. + +TL;DR: I used to have medical problems associated with sexual abuse in children, but no memory of anything happening. My father gives off pedo vibes.",0 +6067,"New money here. Can I help my family without ""making it weird?"". 26F, moved to Hollywood in 2018 to work in the film industry. My job isn't glamorous, has 13-15 hour days, and takes a lot out of me. Nothing has come easy but I quickly rose to the top of my field. I'm now working on blockbusters and making 6 figures. + +My spending never changed. I get clothing at goodwill, buy food on sale, and drive the $900 craigslist car I bought when I moved here with nothing. The result is that my bank account is growing fast but I don't tend to think about money anymore. + +Meanwhile, my mom is a recently-abandoned single parent and two of my siblings are where I used to be - working multiple jobs to put themselves through college. It hurts to visit home for the holidays and see them stressing about a $50 expense, when I suddenly have complete financial peace. + +I want to take care of them. I'd love to fly my mom out for a visit but I have to keep her from trying to pay for MY flights for the holidays. It feels weird when they spend anything on Christmas gifts for me. (I know it's about the love/thought that goes in, but there inevitably is some money involved too and $5 is worth more to them than to me) + +I'm not worried that they'll take advantage of me; it's the opposite concern with New England independence and pride. They'd never ask me for anything and I don't want to make things weird. They notice I'm not worried about finances, and will make lighthearted jokes about how I'm ""rolling in money."" I low-key paid for everyone's Chinese takeout on Christmas, but both my brother and I know that that'd be an entire shift at work for him. + +I don't want to become that cold relative who thinks problems can be solved with a firehose of cash. I'd love to pay for vacations someday but I know that can get weird. + +TLDR: I'm afraid of alienating my family as I try to help financially. Even if money ""isn't a thing"" for me it is for them.",0 +6068,"My dad makes me uncomfortable. I have a troubled relationship with my dad. +When I was 16 he kissed me on the lips while I was lying down on my bed with my eyes closed. +I’m 24 now. I moved out of my home country 4 years ago and visit my family often. I’m visiting my parents again and doing an internship here. My main reason to come back is because I miss my mom. + +Since that happened, I haven’t been myself anymore my dad. I’ve also seem him staring at my body, and my face, even when i’m not speaking. +I’ve confronted him but he and my mom always pair up and they deny it. My mom always defend him. + +I have to be covering up with loose clothes around the house. When we eat, I always have to be looking down because he sits in front of me. I also can’t feel comfortable being alone with him. + +I’m so tired of this situation. I don’t know what to do. Why is he like this?",0 +6069,"I found out my brother is Mom's favorite, but I don't mind.. My wife and I moved into a house w/ my folks. It's not ideal, but it was our most affordable option. + +I have a brother named Dario who is the funny one. Many have accused him of being Mom's favorite, but she denies this. During visits or family gatherings, he announces his presence by shouting: + +""It's-a me, Dario!"" a la Charles Martinet. + +Dario and other relatives helped us move in. It was stressful and tough on us all. Mom broke down in tears at the end of the day when everyone went home. I tried to console her by bringing her a drink and shouting ""It's-a me, Dario!"" + +She turned around with utter joy on her face followed swiftly by crushing disappointment when she saw little old me instead. I knew then and there that Dario was her favorite kid. + +Edit: My relationship with my mom is still good. Just because Dario is her favorite doesn't make me chopped liver.",0 +6070,"I cut off my mom. I recently cut off my mom and I need to vent. My mom is 48yrs old, I am 24 and I have a 15yr old brother. +My mom married my dad at 20 and they had me at 25, my mom left my dad when I was about 5 years old and we came to Texas to live with my grandma, we had a good life in Mexico, my dad was an accountant with a good paying job and he was able to buy us whatever we wanted. My parents didn't break up, my mom just wanted me to have a better education here. When I was 9, my mom got pregnant with my brother, when she found out she was pregnant she called my dad to come ""visit"" her and she pinned the baby on my dad. My dad moved to the United States to be closer to us, he left his good job and has been bouncing around jobs like Taco Bell, construction, restaurants since 2009, he doesn't even have a stable home, he's always moving to different places with roommates bc he can't afford much. My dad started off in Louisiana, he would send my mom money every week meanwhile she was also asking my brothers real dad for money. In 2016, my mom and I got in a really big argument, I left the house and called my dad and I told him my brother was not his real son. My dad told me not to tell my brother anything since he was still going to love him and raise him as his own, he moved to Texas to be with us, started from zero again basically. +I want to add that my mom goes out every weekend since my brother was a few months old, she wouldn't let me go out with my friends bc she said I had to watch him, I feel like I raised him in some way. She has a new bf all the time, there was two that SA me when I was young, there was a recent one that slashed her tires and threatened to kill her. That man came to my home last year on my sons bday, and since then my husband and I decided that we will no longer let her bring any men around our house or our kids. My sons bday is next Saturday and I told her she could not bring her new bf, she said if he can't come then she won't either. She has left me on my bday before to go hang out with her bf but I will not allow her to do that to my kids. The reason I decided to cut her off was because my brother tried to kill himself last week, my brother claims my mom doesn't care about him bc she goes out a lot and is rarely home. My mom is in complete denial and says she buys him clothes and orders him food whenever he wants, my brother is very depressed and has a lot of anxiety and she is not taking any responsibility when this is all her fault. He is currently at a behavioral hospital bc of the incident, my dad and I went to go visit him this weekend and he cried a lot, he said he doesn't know who his real dad is and he was not aware that my dad was not his dad. Of course my dad told him he loves him and that he will always be his son even if they are not blood. My brother is getting out tomorrow and my dad wants to take him to go live with him, my mom refuses and she even said my dad will not see my brother anymore since he is not his real son so he doesn't have any rights. My mom is currently house hunting with her bf and wants to take my brother to live with them when they find a house, my brother doesn't want to. Does my dad have any rights? Should I call CPS on my mom? Idk what to do but I did block her on everything.",0 +6071,"How would you handle sensitive family member inviting themselves on your vacation?. Wouldn't be an option to say yes because it would ruin the vacation, trust me. I can't make it about hotel rooms because this relative was willing to get another room. + +I just cannot say yes, but at the same time I have no idea how to say no. I would rather find a reason that doesn't hurt feelings because if it was just no we'd rather you not it really would cause a lot of hurt feelings and I don't want to make this person feel bad or rejected.",0 +6072,"Calling a nephew sweetheart ?. I call my 4-year-old nephew sweetheart. I’ve babysat him, changed his diaper, fed him, and I love him. I love being his aunt. I can’t remember the first time I called him that but it just came out. Is it ok that I keep calling him sweetheart or is that inappropriate? Is that a name that I should be calling a romantic partner instead?",0 +6073,"Was you an unplanned baby?. Hi, + +Yesterday I found out that I was unplanned from my mother, who else was unplanned? + +How did you feel after finding out for yourself?",0 +6074,"Should I lie that I stole my sisters money. My sisters have had 5000 dollars stolen from someone in the family and she blamed my dad for it, they had a huge fight. My sister said she doesn’t view my dad as her father anymore and my dad said he doesn’t view her as his daughter and he wants her to move out, I feel like I should lie that I stole the money so I can get them to talk with each other and hopefully forgive on another. I hope somebody replies and tells me what I should do because I have cried non stop since then and I want them all to stop fighting + +Update:I tried to make them talk things out calmly and reasonably and that didn’t work. My mom got involved and she started spreading lies and then my sisters said they’re cutting my dad out their lives. Parents are getting a divorce and I think I could have done more",0 +6075,"Marrying into a new family and being with them over the holidays was awesome.. Because of many difficult turns my life took, I hadn’t had big family gatherings in almost two decades. My son had virtually NEVER experienced that except for a couple one-off things over the years. + +But in these recent holiday gatherings I had new appreciation for the whole thing both good and bad. The weird family dynamics, little idiosyncrasies, big gatherings around the table, having a heated ping pong match for probably the first time since I was a kid, the way my kid and another kid smashed the ball so hard they weren’t even aiming for the table anymore… + +I never expected to have this all back again. I fully expected my in laws to hate me. But they don’t. We seem to enjoy each other’s company and that is far more than I could have ever asked for.",0 +6076,"AITA for threatening my parents by saying I'm going to get emancipated because I don't want my baby to die.. Hi, I will keep this as short as possible. + +My (17M) girlfriend (16F and we will call her Ava) just gave birth to our son and they're both the loves of my life. Ava and I have been together since I was 14 and even though we're young I would consider it a serious relationship and even if she hadn't got pregnant I still would have thought about marriage like I am now. Though we wouldn't get married for a couple more years. + +Recently Ava and I talked about moving in together. This is mainly because she can not raise our son herself. She is suffering quite serious post-partum depression, (starting next week I am paying for her to somebody to help) and can barely pull herself together some days, let alone look after a baby as well. Ava' parents did not support the birth of our son so they won't help her other than letting them live in their basement. I feel bad that she's to fend for herself and I can't help as much as I want to. + +But, I have been working for several months to be able to afford 4-6 months of rent, depending on where we choose to live. Sorry Reddit but I don't know the logistics of post-partum depression so I don't know how long it will go on for, but my plan was that after a few months Ava could work too so we could both be going to school, working, having our son and living on our own. + +But my parents were not up for this. They told me that if looking after my son would interfere with me having a full education I simply couldn't be involved with his life. I was embarrassed for them saying this because I would do anything for my son, and I hoped they would do anything for their son. After all I assumed they had been expecting Ava and I to mature and make mature decisions for the benefit of their only grandchild. + +I told them I'd get emancipated if it meant I was freely able to support Ava and my son as I ""didn't want them to die"". + +I assume I overreacted because I have a tendency to do that but can someone please tell me... + +AITA for threatening my parents by saying I'm going to get emancipated because I don't want my baby to die.",0 +6077,"Toxic sister diagnosed with cancer. My older sister and I have always had a very toxic and turbulent relationship. At this point we’ve blocked each other and haven’t spoken for a couple years. I found out last night she’s been diagnosed with uterine cancer and is really distraught/alone. + +I couldn’t help but feel like I should reach out and be a support system to her. Putting myself in her shoes, its a really terrible situation. Honestly I haven’t had anyone close to me be diagnosed with cancer so honestly just trying to figure out how to navigate this whole situation.",0 +6078,"Am I asking too much from my only son?. I gave the world to my son. Made many sacrifices to give him a good life. 5 years ago he and his wife moved to Washington State and I and his father remained in Texas. When my husband died(his father) he did not come down to visit me. When my house flooded, he did not come to help me. We talk on the phone every day and he means so much to me. I gave him all of the money from my husbands life insurance (400,000$)so that he and his wife can buy a house. + +Now I have to travel away for 2 weeks and I’m scared to leave my house,dog,cars,possessions, unsupervised. Especially since the last time I traveled my house flooded and it cost a fortune to repair. I asked my son if he could come down here and house-sit for two weeks and HE SAID IM ASKING TOO MUCH. He said he has his own life and even though both him and his wife work from home, they are too busy. + +What do you think? Am I asking too much? + +EDIT: I’m not trying to be toxic but I have no one here. My husband died and all of our family is overseas. 😏 my son is the only family I have here in the states.",0 +6079,"Stepmom about to be a grandma. Need advice, please.. My stepson (I use the word to clarify the relationship. He’s been my son in my heart for 20 years.) and his wife are having a baby in earth January. I’m so excited to be a grandma. This will be the first grandchild for all families. But, I have a few questions related to etiquette. + +Her mom wants to be called Gigi. I’m not sure what his bio mom wants to be called. Would you suggest calling myself grandma or should I choose another name to be called? + +Is it appropriate to start turning my spare room into a nursery now? They haven’t started yet since they still have time and will likely get a lot of useful items as shower gifts. I’m seeing so many adorable ideas and I really am so over the moon excited. Would I be overstepping if I start now? + +Also, what can I send to her (I shop online a lot and they live about an hour away) as comfort gifts or pampering while she is pregnant? It’s been a very long time since my first pregnancy and I know there’s a lot more cool stuff out there than there was 25 years ago. + +Any advice or recommendations about useful mom and baby gifts would be appreciated.",0 +6080,"How I Dealt With My Daughter Speeding Ticket. When my daughter was 16 and had first gotten her license she was driving on a long stretch of open road on her way to school. Doing 55 in a 40, she was pulled over and given a ticket. She came to me in tears and told me about it, the only excuse she had was that she just didn't realize how fast she was going. As a father I liked when my kids were caught doing something wrong early in life. It was easier to get them to change before bad habits got entrenched. As the one that payed for the insurance I was unhappy to say the least. + +I decided to have her go to traffic court and face the Justice of the Peace for our township. He was my former boss. I went to see him, told him of the ticket and had a special request. I told him he could do whatever he thought was right with regard to the ticket, but I'd really appreciate it if he could say something - anything to her that might help keep this from repeating. I basically wanted him to scare her a little. + +My daughter was always been an easy child to deal with. A look or a quiet word could bring her to apologetic tears. I never had to yell at her, threaten her, or ground her. She'd do something, I'd indicate disappointment and she'd change her behavior. I'll never know why she was so easy to raise. Maybe because she was the third one we'd gotten it right finally or maybe she was a reward from heaven for me not killing her older brothers when they messed up. Whatever it was, taking to her always worked. + +On court night the judge called her before the bench and gave her a long lecture. He really went above and beyond for me. He mentioned her responsibility to the law, to other drivers, to her family. He talked of consequences, being sorry couldn't undo any damage, injury, or death the next time. She meekly listened. I couldn't hear all that he said but he apparently made quite an impression. She was barely able to keep back the tears when he told her he was going to give her a break this one time, but he'd be watching. The ticket was dismissed. + +It came to light years later when, during a family discussion on youthful indiscretions, I mentioned how I'd asked the judge ahead of time to scare her a little. She reacted in real surprise and mock (I hope) anger. She never knew I'd gone to him. She told me how she'd been so afraid for years after that that she had always tried to pay more attention to the road and stay below the limit. That sounds like a big win for all of us and at the very least dad should get some credit for his outstanding judgement in the matter.",0 +6081,"AITA type question about having another baby. Throw away account for obvious reasons + +My husband and I have been married for 10 years and have a 2 year old. Our marriage became pretty rocky after about 5 years mostly due to my husband's drinking, but he's since quit drinking and things between us are stable. I wouldn't say I'm madly in love, but I'm happy enough and we get along and he's a great dad and provider. So, in general I have no plans to end my marriage. He's a work-a-holic but I'm very independent and it generally works for us. + +Here's the tricky part. Last year my husband was offered a new job. He desperately wanted it, but it required us to move out of state. I 100% did NOT want to move, it meant leaving my entire family, all of my friends, my job, my childcare infrastructure, and the place I've always loved and called home. I even had to give up my favorite hobbies because I can't do them in this flat area. I ended up agreeing because my husband is incredibly career-driven and it didn't seem fair to prevent him from chasing his dream. More importantly, he told me that he'd agree to a second baby if we moved, which he'd been waffling on. + +Anyway, our child just turned 2, and it's always been my goal to have a 3ish year age gap between kids. So now that we're settled in our new home, I brought up the subject of timing, asking if my husband that starting to try for #2 later this spring would be good. He goes on to tell me that he's only agreeing to a second baby because of the deal we made, but he ""100%"" doesn't want another baby. And if we proceed, I should know that I'd be doing it ""despite his feelings"". He was also aghast when I said I could live with that, because ""we're talking about a human being"". + +He doesn't want another baby because of how difficult the pregnancy/birth/newborn stage was. But im the one who would go through pregnancy, give birth, and i stayed home with our child until very recently (now i work twice a week by choice), there are NO financial concerns. Im the primary parent while my husband climbs the corporate ladder and works long hours. He is also an only child and doesn't understand the value of siblings. I grew up in a big family and really value my sibling relationships. I have always wanted at least 2 kids. He was nervous pis about having our first child, but he is IN LOVE with our LO and a terrific dad. + +I know this might sound terrible, but I love my child a lot more than my husband, he brings me more happiness and joy than I have ever experienced. Having another child is more important to me than our marriage. And I DEFINITELY wouldn't have agreed to move if he wouldn't have agreed to another baby baby. + +AITA if I proceed with the pregnancy? + +I also want to add in case anyone's advice is to separate and find a new partner to have a child with: +-I'm 36 +-We just bought a new house in this incredibly inflated market +-We're now residents of this state, so even if we separated I couldn't go home with our son, I'd be stuck here. +-I would prefer not to disrupt my child's stability",0 +6082,"Leaving my kids for better opportunities. +hello reddit friends + +I want to vent and more than anything seek advice + +Years ago I lived in the USA, I returned to my country in Central America and a few months ago I discovered that I was an American citizen, I went to the embassy and they gave me my American passport (I did not live more than 5 years after I was 14 only 2 in the USA). + +Despite living in a 3rd world country, my family lives well, I have my fiancee and my 2 children have our own business, children in a good school, cars of the year and I'm not trying to brag, I just want to give a little context of my life, but I want a better future for my children and I have decided in the following months to move to the United States and in 1 or 2 years bring with me to states my children and my fiancee (the mother of my children) the thing is that I have never slept without my children and I don't know how I can bear to live without them, more than anything my boy he is super attached to me and I can't even go to the corner without him crying for me, he is 5 and my girl is 3, I want to know what I can do? I don't want to leave them but I have to do it for a better future for them, although we are doing very well with the business there is a lot of crime here we always receive extortion calls from gang members and that kind of thing although we are used to it, it never stops scaring us, But I want advice so much for me that I have suffered from depression and anxiety, not to mention being without my children and also what can I do so that my children do not suffer so much while I am without them while I can get a green card for them? + +I am happy and excited by the idea of ​​taking them there but at the same time devastated because I don't know how I could sleep one night without giving them a kiss and seeing their beautiful face. + +thanks friends for reading me and helping me vent and for your advice",0 +6083,"My daughter (20F) mistreats me, her mother (65F). I’m 65F and I have a 20F daughter. I feel that I have failed in parenting her. She is vaping, smoking weed, and watches things on TV with a lot of coarse language. She is really kind to everyone, treats her friends with a lot of affection, though she sometimes get into arguments with them, and says she hates her friends outloud in the house but never to their face. She doesn’t treat her parents with the same kindness or affection ever. She used to casually date and sleep with many men for two years without my knowledge, she luckily has learned her mistake and has stopped, because she met a boy she likes, though when she feels like he is going to leave her she gets in extremely bad moods. When she is in a bad mood she lashes out yelling and starting fights and sometimes even hitting me or throwing her phone at me. I am paying for her university education and for the past two years she has been failing a few classes, but fortunately succeeding in some, so she is still enrolled, but on academic probation. She is living in my house rent free and acts like she is stressed out even though she always gets many hours of sleep (I only get 4). I wonder what I have done to get her to have the audacity to act this way towards her parents?",0 +6084,"I really love my brother (no romantic/sexual ish yuck). I'm 18 (f) and my brother is 28 (m) and I really love my brother so I want to pour it out here. So he has always taken care of me ever since I was a baby. He took care of me while he was 10 - 11, he was also sad when he couldn't meet me when I was born because he was on a school trip. Basically he is one of the closest people in my life and I don't know how to show that. So I usually give him hugs and/or pinch his cheeks and cuddle sometimes. We also have this one greeting where we imitate cats because we both love cats. We also have a difficult father and we comfort/defend each other when he argues or yells at us for no reason. I feel sad knowing that our paths are already beginning to diverge, but I'm also glad I have him because he was a baby in war and I couldn't imagine my life if he didn't survive back then. I also give him some of my stuffed animals when he has stomach ache or just a bad day. (In my country it's not common or possible to move out of your parents' house as soon as you can) So that's it basically, I hope we will continue to be close like this in the future and it will be sad when he leaves the house or country.",0 +6085,"my mother hates me and i don't know how to live at home anymore. so my(f16) mother (f50) hates me so much that it becomes suffocating to live at home or spend time alone with her. her voice changes when she talks to me and it is becoming evident how much she doesn't want to provide for me or spend any amount on money on me (even basic necessities and clothes). i have been paying for my stuff and even some bills from what little money my dad transfers to my account. she has also stolen cash from me that i saved up from gifts by relatives. she also refuses to give me some cash prizes i won that was transferred to her account. + +i love my dad a lot and he loves me more than my mother ever could. my dad is going on a business trip for a couple of weeks and I am dreading living alone with my mother. she doesn't hit me or anything but her emotional torture has been the reason for my depression and crippling anxiety. + +please suggest some ways which might help. please please please don't recommend talking to her about this. i have tried talking to her but it just ended with me crying and my mother hating me even more. she is an amazing manipulator who would make you believe that you are wrong and she is the victim.",0 +6086,"Goodbye, little brother. I am about to bring my dog to the vet for the last time. + +Sorry for my English as it's not my first language. + +I know that for some of you a dog might not be considered as a proper individual, but he was the closest and best friend I've had in my life and thanks to him I felt I was not alone in this planet. It was like ""me and you against the world"" . + +He has cancer, in his cheek, and it's been growing steadily for the last 5 months, to a point where he struggles to do basic things. + +He's been with me 10 years, through hard times, depression, awful working hours and a manipulative mother that gave me issues I am still fighting against with a professional to this day, with some degrees of success. I still live with my parents (as in my country it's kinda normal not being able to afford to live by yourself before you're 30 even if you work regularly), and I have a sister that's been... let' just say terrible to me growing up, that now lives in another country. + +My dog arrived that he was a small orange puppy that used to bite everything playing, he was always with me and my friends when we were here at my place and we had walks in the countryside surrounding my house every day. + +He had the universe in his eyes, with many sparkles of color and an orange circular outline. + +The last 2 weeks though, it's been only the 2 of us, as my parents needed some days away from here and it was hard. We live in the countryside, and I have a big house to take care of, a cat, chickens, a vegetable garden, and I need to be 50km away before 9 a.m. to work. After some days I was destroyed and my dog was getting worse and worse even with his treatments. + +His cancer pains him and he often scratches his face and eye, as the mass pushes on it, and sometimes it bleeds. +The other night I came home from work at 8pm, made him dinner and then tried to calm him down as he was fighting against his urge to scratch, and after a bit I just felt empty. +I just laid next to him on the ground and started crying, as I don't recall ever feeling so alone in my life. +But that didn't last long... + +After a while I was empty guys, I just felt nothing at all. I had no strength left, I had cried all my tears, I had tried everything, I was just impotent. + +And now we are here one next to the other, and I really have no clue of why I am writing this, I probably just need to vent to somebody, to remember to those who have a dog, or any animal the huge luck they have, because sometimes we give their love for granted or we just get used to it, while time passes without us noticing. +10 years have passed, and I still don't know how. + +For every run in the green field, in the rain, snow or sunny day, for everytime you waited for me to come back from work late at night, for every toy you broke or for everytime you made me mad. For every hug, sunset, laugh and tear we shared. + +Thank u Freddy, the best friend and brother I could have ever hoped for. + +Gonna miss u boy + + + +TLDR: my dog's got cancer, needed to vent",0 +6087,"In law and husband issues. My MIL is a very opinionated person. But she also has issue with cleaning her own house up. My parents bought a house for me and my little family to live. But my in law has been coming over to our house unannounced and uninvited almost everyday. She will come over and take over the living room and kicked my kids to their own room to watch their own TV cause she is watching her shows. I got really annoying by it and told my husband to have a talk with his mom that she is here too frequently and invading our space. But he ignored me. So a month ago, with bunch of other problems and stuff she said to me to make me uncomfortable. I reached my breaking point. I told her how much I dislike her behavior and I wish I don’t need to deal with her ever again. Of course she was not happy and my husband is not happy that I told him she can’t come over anymore. +The reason why I don’t want to interact with her no more is that I’m faded up and I don’t feel being respected by her. She says whatever she wants and always wants to over powering me. Telling me how to do my parenting or crossing lots of my boundaries. But my husband is straight up Mama’s boy. Only care about her, after this fight, he even wants me to be civil with her cause I love him and I should at least do that for him. But I ask him how about me? I don’t deserve to be treated with respect and fairness? He recently finally decided to go ahead buy a house so we can move in. Cause he feels like I’m dictating everything due to the house belongs to my parents. I still allow my kids to see their grandma and I also told him that she can come but can’t be too often and staying so long to watch shows. She should be focusing on spending time with the kids as she told everyone that she comes over often to visit them. She is full of shit with an attitude of this is how I roll. That also makes me want to walk away from any chance of interacting with her. +Now I know if my husband really gets us a house, I will living with even less rights and power. Cause living in my parents’ house he and his mother had already acting this way, I have been thinking about just get a divorce with him. Cause I can’t imagine what kind of life I would have with them. + +I need an outsider’s point of view.",0 +6088,"Family tradition. I come from a patriarchal family and I’m the eldest of 4 siblings: 3 sisters and 1 brother. The family business that my family owns goes to my younger brother because he’s the son. As the eldest I’m business savvy and have ran the business and made sure it didn’t go under during the pandemic. During the pandemic everyone was stuck i abroad and I ran all the businesses. I filed for SBA/ppp/grants to ensure the businesses stay alive. + +During that process I found out that my father had his son and my baby sister as shareholder’s in the business (they’re his fave kids). When I found out I was hurt that he left me and my other sister out of the business (we are divorced and the most outspoken). My brother does not contribute to the business as much and travels on the company funds all around the world. As a single mom of 2 kids, this hurts me (I previously owned a business that I built and lost it in the divorce). My mother says it’s tradition for the son to gain the business and she won’t listen to my frustrations, let alone ask me how I survive. + +A few months prior my father asked me to help with the business, (I left working for him last year to focus on my career and school) and I said sure. He was excited and I know why, I’m capable of running it but this time around I decided to do an audit of the entire businesses performance and emailed the audit and suggestions. He was shocked to see the thoroughness of the audit report and I told him if he wants me to return I want 30% equity. He said he can’t do that and that was that. + +Today in a heated argument my mother said all I care about is money and business, little does she know that I’ve been surviving on food stamps and state assistance while my brother galavants across Southeast Asia. + +I want to get myself out of this rabbit hole and back on track, living 15 min away from them and the business doesn’t help. + +Just venting…n pulling myself back together.",0 +6089,Would you have gone to the bbq?. My dad has 3 more kids with his second wife. So my three half siblings and I always were a bit distant but up until recently after having a minor argument with their mother all three of them said they don’t want 1. Relationship with me 2. Engagement. This 4th of July my dad invited me to a bbq at my grandmas and one of my half siblings was there. I politely said I rather not and just go home. My dad got upset and said “you are here for me though” I told him I am but she should at least apologize if I’m going to see her. He stormed off,0 +6090,"Was I sexually abused by my sister?. Hi This has been on my mind for quite some time and I need some opinions. + +When I was about 8 and my sister was about 10 she started making me touch myself and her as well. She would come up with these “games” and make me do sexual acts on her. I never wanted to do these things but she would keep asking me to until I did. She would say we need to practice for when we get boyfriends. I always felt ashamed, embarrassed and disgusted that these things happened occasionally at night. I have never ever told anyone what happened to me. This went on for probably another 2 years until I was 10. I try not to think about it and usually forget this happened to me for long periods of times. But when it comes up it eats at me and brings up a whole lot of anxiety. + +I don’t know if it’s considered sexual abuse but I feel like those experiences set me up for a lot of traumatic events because I allowed it to happen. This is a whole other story but when I was 14 I was coherence’s and blackmailed to do things for almost a year. I just feel like my innocence was taken from me @ too young of an age and if things were different I would have made different decisions. + +I want to also mention for some background info that my sister is diagnosed bipolar along with other depressive issues. We have always had a rocky relationship. She has always been physically abusive (punching me ect). I have over the years learned to be careful what I tell her because she would use information as blackmail against me. Our last fight I was ready to drop her for the rest of my life until she had my nephew and I want to be apart of his life.",0 +6091,"In-laws won’t leave baby alone. My baby is now 4 weeks old and every time we see my in-laws, whether it be at their house or ours, they can’t leave my baby alone and she becomes so overtired. It’s so frustrating because they’re not the ones who have to deal with trying to get her to sleep later. + +They don’t seem understand that newborns sleep most of the day and no matter how many times I tell them when they’re holding her, she needs to go to sleep or she getting tired, they don’t listen and just keep stimulating her. + +I am currently dealing with a very fussy and tired baby today because we were at their house for dinner last night and she only had 5 minutes sleep the 2 hours we there. She was so hard to settle all last because of it too. + +We’re supposed to go to their house tomorrow to celebrate Easter and I’m so worried she’s just not going to get any sleep . It stresses me out so much!",0 +6092,I 18f still cuddle and hug my mom and I weird. I love my mom and we even have matching bracelet charms. My mom hasn't been doing as well since she and my dad keep arguing so I'm just trying to help my mom. Am I weird for still cuddling and hugging my mom when I am 18 years old.,0 +6093,"Constantly being made to feel guilty by my Dad for not looking after his kids, am I a bad daughter for not wanting to look after them more often?. I am 29F, my mum and dad broke up when I was 17. My Dad had been having an affair with a woman who I will call A and left my mum for her. A was very toxic and nasty- she would often make things up about me being rude to her etc and run straight to my Dad. A would also provoke me (my fault for taking the bait but I feel like I am a lot more grown up since then) into saying things and then run to my Dad. Dad would also take her side a lot of the time. It got to the point where I didnt even want to see my Dad because any time I would see him, she had to be there as well. I told him this but he said that he wanted to take A's feelings into consideration and she would want to know why she wasnt invited along to things. + +Shortly after my Dad and A broke up, I ran into her at a bar. She came up to me and threw a drink on me, it was pretty embarrassing from her end. + +The break up with her and my Dad was very messy, long story short my Dad, 2 sisters and my mum all have restraining orders against this woman. While Dad was with A, he started seeing someone else and consequently left A for this new woman, who I will call P. She is a lot younger than my Dad, and is only 34. + +They had 2 kids very quickly, Dad told me early on that P really wanted to have kids so it was a matter of if not when. The kids are now 4 and 2 and very high energy. + +Lately my Dad has been asking me a lot to come over and babysit quite a lot so he can go out with friends, go to work events or go on date night with P. I dont mind helping out occasionally but not all the time. Sometimes he will want me to come over after work, or spend my whole Saturday there. They are very hard work and pretty hyperactive. I work 8-5 in a pretty demanding job and my mental health is not great at the moment , Looking after 2 young kids would really stress me after a busy day at work and i am mindful that I need to look after myself as I am still recovering from a 4 year relationship ending in October and my Grandma passing away in December. + +I have 2 younger sisters who are a similar age -they don't work full time and have a lot more time on there hands. They will often babysit and Dad will mention that they babysat last weekend so I should do it the following weekend. I feel like he guilts me into not helping out as much as they do. I also feel like as they are his kids, he either shouldnt go out drinking with his mates or on date night as often as he does or should look into hiring a babysitter. + +TL;DR! ; My Dad is constantly asking me to babysit his 2 young kids and makes me feel guilty. Am I a horrible daughter for not wanting to babysit often, and if not, how do I set boundaries with my Dad",0 +6094,"I've been a terrible human being to my little brother most of his life, and now I feel extremely guilty. How do I go repairing our relationship?. For Context: I'm a lot older than he is, we're 8 years apart. I used to yell at him, call him names, make fun of him, and being an overall disgusting human being to someone whom I love so much. Believe it or not, I was already 19-20 years old when I started being a complete piece of shit to him, and thinking back I don't know how I ever thought that it was okay. I moved back home recently and I do sometimes get mad at him, but never as bad as before. We don't have the greatest relationship, and I want to fix that. Problem is, he's only 16 and we don't have much in common. I want to be a better brother to him but I'm such a dumbass I don't know how. Any advice would be great, thank you.",0 +6095,"daughter wants to move out of her parents' house and into shared accommodation: should parents finance additional costs?. Our daughter (20 yrs) studies. The studies are almost free in our country, she lives with us in our house and we pay everything. In addition, she works to be able to afford certain luxuries. She wants to move out and start a shared apartment with two friends. The cost for us would increase from $400 to $1000/mth. We could afford that. Two other children also studying and live at home. Should we finance this luxury of no longer living at home for our daughter? Thx for your advice!",0 +6096,"My family stops insulting my sister. So my sister (11F) has memory problems and she often mistakes different words as the same. For example: + +She mistakes a traditional food ([Kamat](https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2FShareMasakanShareResepi%2Fphotos%2Fkuih-kayu-keramatsumber-googledicuba-oleh-lmah-rahmanbahan-bahan12-kilo-tepung-g%2F1871951549556671%2F&psig=AOvVaw0vwWBcvpxiJehf_Lw2eHuL&ust=1641714436084000&source=images&cd=vfe&ved=0CAsQjRxqFwoTCKjN0YLVofUCFQAAAAAdAAAAABAM)) as bulu. Bulu is pubic hair in Malay. I do not know how she managed to mess that one up but it's funny. + +And my sister is not so smart. My mom teaches her math but she's so frustrated because my sister keeps forgetting how to solve questions despite doing math practice regularly, like every day. + +We like to joke about this and similar incidents but then my dad noticed that the jokes are going too far and we keep bringing up the same incidents over and over again. Me (14F), my parents (43M & 43F) and my sister (17F) finally sat down and had a serious discussion about it. We decided it's best if we stopped making these kinds of jokes and call her dumb because it can be damaging to her self-esteem. + +It's been a couple of weeks and i feel like we're doing a pretty good job. Everyone does their part and day by day, the degrading jokes are decreasing. Every time my sister does or say something wrong, we'll just laugh about it but make no comments like ""you're so dumb!"" and move on from it. No bringing up any of the incidents again. Sometimes, we'll just pass it off as a no biggie, no hurtful jokes. + +If someone brings up any of the incidents, we'll quickly shut them down (not harsh, like a polite no) and remind them of the agreement. I think this is a success as my family likes to joke around too much. I personally don't mind when people joke about me but i don't like when people bring up embarrassing mistakes of others so I'll try to tell them off. My sister (17F) goes to a boarding school so she is quite harsh because of her friends but I know she's trying her best to stop making degrading jokes about my little sis. + +We're trying to change ourselves and that's good. + +TL;DR : **my whole family is doing their part to stop degrading jokes and so far, we're doing a great job!**",0 +6097,"Can my birth parents take me away?. Throwaway because my parents know my regular account. +Please don't judge me, what I'm going to talk about is stuff I cant seem to talk to anyone about. + +I'm 14 Male, in grade 8 and going to grade 9 next year. I've been living with my new mum and dad since I was 9 years old. I'm Hispanic so its obvious that I'm adopted. Being in and out of foster care I did learn some of my heritage and I did grow up for a few years with my biological mother and her hundreds of boyfriends. My mum is so beautiful and smart, she is a Black woman and my dad is white so it's nice being in such a mixed family and I speak English, Deutsche(my mum is German) and Spanish I'm also learning French with my dad on duolingo. This is the best family I've ever been with, this is the first family I've been with who help me with homework, I do work around the house and get paid according to difficulty and they actually say ""thank you"" This sounds silly but I full on cried when my mum introduced me as ""her son"" to her work colleagues. I've always been introduced as ""this is the kid I'm fostering"" +I can feel that I'm loved, I have my own bed, my own room, my own toys. My dad and i are always doing new hobbies. The school I go to now is amazing, I was struggling to keep up in the beginning but now I'm 3rd in class. There are no gangs, no bullying, no one trying to sell us illegal stuff. I'm incredibly lucky. But I do still have to visit my birth parents supervised. I don't hate them, but I don't want to live with them. I know you may think that I don't want to see them just because my new parents are rich but it's not that, I haven't had head lice in years, my parents don't beat me when i break something on accident, I don't live in fear of saying the wrong thing to them, I don't live in fear of them being in bad moods and taking it out on me. My birth parents used to beat us every day, I've gained weight, I actually have energy to read and have hobbies now, I don't have to get a job in order to earn my bed here.  I still suffer from anxiety and some depression and I am on medication. When I get hurt or get sick I don't have to ""ride it out"" my parents care for me, I don't have to be mean and tough anymore and this feels great. I don't want to ever go back to my birth parents, I know this sounds bad but I don't miss my siblings either, we all hit each other and we all had to be mean to survive. My mum has been speaking about us moving to Germany (we go visit her parents alot) and my dad asked me if I would want to live there, I speak the language well so yes I definitely do. I want to get as far away from my birth parents, from all the stuff they put me through. I'd love to be in a place where I pass as my parents real child and we are always treated as a real family there. I don't know why but my mum told my birth mother about us moving and when I visited her she started crying and begging me not to go, she called me her baby and told me that she needs me here. It felt nice hearing her say those nice things to me but everytime I give her a chance to change it never lasts. They were also using racial slurs against my mum and refer to her as the ""N"" word ""B"" word and it makes me so mad! I really don't want anything to do with them, I never want to be in their family again and I my birth mother told me she will have the courts get custody of all of her kids and take me away. She said I'm not a real Hispanic and that my parents will never be my parents because blood is thicker than water. I want to run away, I just can't go back to living with them. Can they make the courts take me away from my parents?",0 +6098,"Tough Love 😔. I feel so bad for telling my sister no I can’t give her any money to help her on her rent. Every month she asks me for money because she doesn’t have it. And every month she tells me she is going to save her money etc. etc. yet here we are again. Last month they put a note on her door because she was late, now instead of saving her money she spent all her checks she had 4 this month! and is now short 600$ for her rent. I feel like she never will learn unless I tell her no. But I’m like what if they evict her? I hate this, I don’t have money to just give it up to her, I have children and my own bills to pay.also she doesn’t even pay me back like she says she would. I already told her “no” but I’m just tempted to give it to her, but also i want to stand my ground 🤦🏽‍♀️ and make her learn",0 +6099,"Should I call the police?. My brother (22) has been aggressive and verbally abusive for many years and it’s terrifying to the point where I don’t feel safe in my own home. Over the yeas it’s gotten worse to the point where every night ends in yelling and banging. While he hasn’t physically harmed anyone I’m scared for me and my parents life. My parents have tried to help, bringing him to the hospital and trying to get treatment but he refuses. He has something called “cannabis psychosis” but after 2 day of being clean he started smoking again today and I feel like he’s just going to get worse. He has these episodes where he acts like a psychotic villain in a comic and manipulations everyone. I wish he would go away but I don’t know how to help since I only just got into high school and have no power whatsoever, my only plan is calling the police the next time something goes bad but I don’t know if it’s the right choice.",0 +6100,"My family is struggling financially. What do I do?. My family is poor. I’m 14 with a family of 3 (including me) that constantly struggles to make ends meet. My mom works very hard but is being paid minimum wage, in which I’ve learned that her yearly salary could even be considered poverty. Not only that, but the increase of the prices of food and other necessities, including gas, makes it even worse. My heart breaks for her, knowing that I can do little to nothing in terms of even helping with basic necessities since it’s just about impossible for me to get a consistent money flow because of my age. I’m a good student in school and make perfect grades, even having a work permit. Though, at this point it’s useless since nobody will hire me. I have art commissions open but only once has someone bought from me. I don’t want to have to wait a year until I’m 15 because they cannot wait, they are struggling. It hurts so much because I feel so useless. I hope that at some point I can do something useful and can help them. Any advice? + +(TL;DR) My family is poor and I don’t know of how to help them since I’m only 14.",0 +6101,"My sister is my dad’s favorite daughter and it’s glaringly obvious, even to outsiders.. My sister and I(also F) are 19 and 21, respectively. Our dad clearly has a favorite daughter, and it’s obvious to others outside of the immediate family. My cousin has pointed it out several times, even friends have noticed. +Here’s some examples: +-When I turned 16, my budget for a car was 6k and I had to pay half. When my sister turned 16, my dad bought her an $8,000 car and didn’t make her spend a penny. +-He would ask me to clean up after dinner, empty the dishwasher, vacuum the floors, sweep the porch, etc… but never my sister. Never her. +-When my sister shut the door on my cats leg (he’s fine) he made ME pay the vet bill. +-When I started college, my dad offered to pay for ONE semester of room and board. He told me I had to get a job to pay for the rest. I was responsible for the rest of my tuition. When my sister started college, my dad took out a loan to pay for her college in full. He also told her he doesn’t want her getting a job. He also said she can stay in the dorm as long as she wants to. +-My dad finds random excuses to visit my sister at college. One time he even went there just to measure her fridge for a shelf. My parents went up there to surprise my sister for her birthday just a couple of days ago. I couldn’t go because I was working and my dad called me selfish for it. I never got a visit on my birthday when I was in the dorms. I spent my birthday totally alone. + +My mom thankfully is sympathetic. She sees how I feel about this and feels the same way.",0 +6102,"Today I accidentally didn’t feed the baby. but do I deserve to be yelled at for it. I get it I could have caused problems. I also know that I messed up the feeding schedule. But do I deserve being told I could be homeless.. I’m not used to feeding her a bottle at 3:00 so in all honesty it’s my fault I have to change my timers but I wasn’t expecting the feeding times to change. I plan to help mom fix her feeding times tomorrow if they aren’t fixed + +I try so hard. Even before the baby I did everything I don’t do everything now. But this used to be my chore list since high school + +Dishes +Walk dog +Feed dog +Sweep +Mop +Clean the house +Clean the counter +Clean the bedrooms +Wake Et +Wake luna +Vacuum +Dust +Feed the chickens +Collect eggs +Do the trash +Organize +Put dishes away",0 +6103,"Is it normal to cry after your family leaves?. I’m a college student and I live alone, and normally I’m totally okay with that, but my family visited for the past couple of days and when they were leaving, I started choking up and then I was crying after they left. It’s silly but I miss them already. Is that normal?",0 +6104,"older sister told me and our other sister to “go f*** yourselves”. I (19M) have two older sisters (22F, 24F). + +The oldest sister has a kid (and we all live together) and works overnight shifts from 10pm to 6am. She doesn’t drive and thinks she’s too good for the bus so she always gets people to drive her. For the next two weeks she’s trying to get our middle sister to do this, but she herself works two jobs, often finishing her day at 10pm and having to get up at 8/9am for work the next day. So naturally she obviously has complaints about this which is very valid. + +Oldest sister starts invalidating her feelings saying “we all have work. our parents would always drive me. my other friends have their siblings drive them” and it goes on and on cause she is the most entitled person ever. + +i step in and let her know how ridiculous she’s being and instead of listening she tells the two of us, “go f*** yourselves, i want nothing to do with you guys”. + +first of all, in general who talks to their little siblings like that. second of all, we already sleep with her kid every single night while she’s at work, middle sister drives that kid to tae kwon do and soccer practice 3x a week but apparently those aren’t enough? we have to be willing to do anything and everything for you with no complaints or otherwise we’re being “selfish”? + +worst part is now she’s no longer asking for rides at all, but it’s because she thinks middle sister is being selfish and unwilling just for the sake of it, rather than genuinely seeing that other peoples lives don’t just revolve around her. + +i just need advice on how to deal with such an entitled prick. i’m thinking realistically this woman does not listen to anything anyone says and anything i say will just fall on deaf ears. so planning to ignore her for a bit, wait for her to cool down and just accept the fact that she is a narrow minded entitled prick and nothing will change that. open to other suggestions though",0 +6105,"Advice about my sister being neglected. My 22 year old sister is being neglected by my mother. She’s been having a lot of mental issues for years due to being isolated. (My four siblings and I were all raised this way, but everyone but her has been able to move out). Last year she went through an episode of psychosis and my mother decided to take her to a psychiatrist. She has been heavily sedated for months and is unable to move forward with being independent despite her communications of wanting to be. My mother will not help her move forward. My sister sits on the couch all day every day while my mom plays movies for her and feeds her microwave meals. My dad and my brother visit my sister weekly and she hardly talks. When talked to one on one she breaks down crying and goes into panic. We live in Texas. Does anyone have any advice or know of any agencies that help with situations like this?",0 +6106,"Why are kids the way they are?. + +So yesterday my son who is 7 was sitting at the table eating a hotdog. I’m at the counter making everyone else’s plate when I hear a smack on the table I look over and my son is pointing to his mouth. I asked him “are you choking?” +He doesn’t shake his head or or say anything I panic and start rushing towards him I ask on my way towards him “are you choking?” He doesn’t say anything until I’m right next to him he said “no mommy I have ketchup on my lip.” +I instantly am mad I don’t yell at him or anything I just start crying and I tell him “don’t you ever do that to me again, do you understand?” He said sorry mommy and then said “you know your pretty without makeup?” I just looked at him because I very rarely wear makeup. Like once/ twice a year if that. Then he says” do you feel better now?” +Seriously 😒",0 +6107,"Does anyone else really have issues with ""parentified"" older siblings that see themselves as actual parents, and then overstepping.. I have two older sisters and I typically have issues with the oldest who was parentified by my parents from a really young because she is the firstborn. Well, I have always had issues with her because I completely hate how she acts like a parent and not a sister and sometimes she looks down on me concerning certain issues. It gets especially bad when she refuses to hear my side of anything simply because she always has my parents' side AND that ""I have it easy"" compared to them.",0 +6108,"I don’t want to invite my sister to our wedding.. I (21f) and my fiancé (28m) are getting married next year. I’m planning the wedding we have agreed from the get go that my “sister” will not attend, however, my Grandmother says that we should let bygones be bygones for the sake of my late aunt and the peace of the family. + +For some context, my aunt was a foster carer in life and adopted some of the kids she fostered. One of them was so out of line as a teenager (throwing her adoptive sister downstairs and breaking her collarbone amongst other things she has done) that my aunt kicked her out. +Not wanting her to be on the street or in and out of care, my mother took her in. Everything was great and I considered her my sister until she started behaving the same way with us. She told lies about my mum, basically saying that she was being neglected (she wasn’t) all because my mum chose to buy me a new pair of school shoes which I needed for school over buying her a new pair of trainers which she did not need. She also threw a glass bottle at my mum. +I chose to forgive her in my teenage years until she chose her paedophilic partner over her daughter (my niece) resulting in my niece being adopted and our family not being allowed to have contact. + +Her adoptive mother (my aunt) died a few years ago and she and I were very close. I nursed her when she was dying etc with no help from any of her kids. After the funeral my sister attacked me and we threw her out of our home and she went to live with another family member. I never really forgave her but decided for my grandmother that I would try to be civil. When I went to visit I thought everything was going to be okay until she started making unrealistic demands. My fiance and I were only visiting for three days and had planned to see other family as she stayed in a different country where we used to stay as a family. She started telling us that we had to see her that night because she was working the following day when we had originally agreed to meet her. We told her that we had planned to go for dinner as we just had a six hour drive and we were absolutely exhausted so we’re going to go for dinner and go to bed. She would not take no for an answer and so we relented and went to go and see her when she asked us to. She was on perfect behaviour been nothing but polite so I thought everything was going great until the next day when I woke up to a text from her saying that she had gotten the day off work to spend with us however we had already made other plans with other family. She started calling my grandmother crying and saying that we were excluding her and didn’t want to see her when I explained my grandmother that that was not the case at all and that she had said she could not meet up that day she started messaging me with hateful messages that were filled with name calling and cuss words. +She told us that if we didn’t want to see her then “we could all f*** off” and she doesn’t want anything to do with us. + +Flash forward to now, my Grandmother is insistent that we invite my sister to the wedding which we do not want to do as we know she will just cause drama and make it all about her. This is typical behaviour for her. My Grandmother blames my sister’s foetal alcohol syndrome and depression for her actions and basically says she is not capable of being responsible for her actions which I disagree with. + +Tdlr: Sister makes trouble at every opportunity and we don’t want to invite her to our wedding despite my Grandmother begging us to.",0 +6109,"My brother is a bully. Stuck on a vacation with him for 3 days. What should I do to prevent getting bullied?. So the title is pretty self explanatory. I'm (23F) going on a family vacation tomorrow with him, my parents and cousins for 3 days and I'm really really dreading it. My brother (20) has a way of making me feel bad about everything. + +He will make comments on my weight, my career, my looks, basically anything he can think of. And they are really hurtful, but offhanded, and he thinks of them as 'jokes' and makes fun of me for being too sensitive. I've been bullied in school as well, so this is particularly difficult for me, and I usually end up crying a lot ( not in front of him, but alone ). At this point, i don't even talk to him, I don't instigate him, he still doesn't leave me alone. And somehow, whenever he makes these jokes, my family laughs and kind of don't stand up for me. I have tried to stand up for myself a couple of times, but it doesn't work. He just ends up making more fun of me, and I really can't handle it. + +I told my parents about it as well, and I told them I didn't want to come on the trip, but they got a little mad at me , and said I need to come since it's a family trip and i need to keep the peace and basically told me to stop fighting. He had gone abroad to study a year ago and he's back from Christmas break for a few days. So they say that he's just here for a few days, and tell me to be generous enough and take it. + +At this point, i really really don't know what to do. If anyone has any advice on how to handle it, or make myself feel better at all when he makes such comments, please help me out. +P.S. i have the most supportive boyfriend, who will be available on text whenever I need him.",0 +6110,"Are there other families who are as weird as mine?. About 30 minutes ago family members of mine got into a fight because one of them was pouring chip bags into bowls instead of eating them out of the bag. + +That just seems crazy to me. Why would someone argue about that? + +The argument was that one family members thinks it looks cool to have chips in bowls and the other thinks it's wasting bowls. + +This is basically why I want to be alone forever though. It's just crazy to me.",0 +6111,"Family cut my hair without my consent. Is it wrong to cut them out of my life?. I have an extended family on my mum's side that consists of her mother, her 3 sisters and their families. Every single Saturday night I used to go to dinner with them. + +On my aunt's birthday in October, multiple relatives started saying rude things about my hair, which has always been very long because that's how I like it. They said it was unprofessional, wispy, that I never look good, that ""you look like one of your mad patients"" (I work on a psychiatry ward and I found this very insulting to them as well as me). Normally I ignore their judgy comments but I decided that I could use a trim as I hadn't had one for months. I agreed to let my aunt trim 10cm of my hair maximum to get rid of some split ends. They reassured me I would look really nice afterwards and I trusted they would do a good job. I'd never been to a hairdresser but I trusted these people (clearly, more than I should have) + +40 mins later, my aunt and her daughter said they were done and it looked ""so nice!!!"" Guess what, I had lost 30cm of my hair. THREE TIMES THE AGREED LENGTH. My hair used to be down to my hips, I could sit on it if I tried, and now it was barely at my nipple line. I was absolutely shellshocked. No one apologised when I said it was so short. My cousin pushed me around to show off her amazing handiwork to everyone, repeatedly exclaiming ""so pretty!!!"" and I kept saying it was much too short, but there wasn't a single family member who stood up for me. The only person who thought it was bad was my twin brother, who asked me how I felt when he drove me home and said he was shocked it turned out like that. + +I was devastated and felt I'd lost my identity and my self image destroyed. Also that I'd lost my trust in these people. I cried all night and my parents realised how upset I was the next day and they felt really bad they hadn't supervised the haircut, but they had trusted my relatives too. Unfortunately my partner wasn't there that night and he felt upset about that and cried when he saw me the next day because he is supportive and thoughtful and actually cares about my feelings. + +The worst part is that I confronted my aunt and cousin and they were horrible about it. My aunt said ""fine then I won't give you any more advice anymore"" and said ""next time I won't cut your hair again"" and ""sorry you have reacted this way"" as if she had done me a favour that I was crazy to be upset about... And my cousin had the nerve to tell me a) she had a bad haircut in the past which made her feel suicidal (which makes me think why on earth would you do that to me?!) and b) we didn't cut much hair off (I really lost it, how tf do you cut off 30cm of hair and not admit it?!). I was furious and disgusted with them. If they had owned what they did and apologised properly it would've made it so much better, instead of trying to gaslight me into thinking it was my fault for ""reacting badly"". After that they sent me apologetic texts but I felt it was much too late. I only said thank you for their texts because my mum is so enmeshed in the family that she had a breakdown about the situation, and I had to do it for her sake. I spent the whole week extremely upset. My therapist said I'd been through a traumatic experience and it would take me a while to recover, which I resolved to do. + +A friend wouldn't do this to me. Yes they are family but it shouldn't mean lower standards are acceptable. Anyone I told about it was immediately horrified at how wrong it was. But no one in my family could see that. No one else reached out to say they were sorry about what happened - and there were probably 15 people there that night. I felt violated. I know my hair will grow back, but it will probably take 2 years and I have to see it every day, while they all carry on tjiughtlessly. The behaviour in this family disgusts me. They think that I should be over it by now. Another of my aunts writes her son's take home essays and everyone praises him for doing well at school. It's like they have no sense of right and wrong + +I haven't been to any Saturday dinners since and haven't missed seeing any of them, although it was nice to play games with my other cousins before; it's really nice having the night free and not have them pass judgement on my appearance or my life choices. I know they've helped me in other ways in the past, but I don't feel that makes their poor behaviour excusable. I've spent my time doing things I enjoy with people who are supportive and respectful, which seems like a much better use of my free time. + +The only complication is that my grandmother has been quite unwell for a couple years with kidney failure. I used to visit her most weeks in addition to Saturdays (no other grandchild did that) and we were very close. I called her once since October which was fine. But I'm still upset because she had been bugging me a lot, saying I should get a haircut, and that was one of the contributing factors that led to this happening - I wanted to look neater to make her happy. And she said that we should all get along and refused to condemn my aunt and cousin for what they did. I'm just worried that something bad will happen to her and I won't have seen her. I've been sick for 3 weeks with a bad cough so I probably couldn't visit anyway, but I am going to Christmas dinner for a short while just because it's not worth causing more trouble... but honestly I really wish I didn't have to go. + +Upon reflection, I've realised that my extended family is probably quite toxic and my life would probably be happier without them. Is it wrong for me to cut them out of my life? + +Any thoughts appreciated. It's been a rough couple of months for me. I'm still upset when I think about it. In two years my long hair will be back but I don't know if I'll ever think positively of my relatives again. + +Tldr: my aunt and cousin cut off 30cm of my hair when I agreed to 10cm. Realised that my relatives are probably quite toxic. Is cutting them out bad?",0 +6112,"My father refuses to find a job. It's been two years since we fled from an underdeveloped country and had to borrow a lot of money from a lot of our relatives for the moving and settling in. So now we are deep buried in loans. But honestly think all of our efforts of moving to a new country was for nothing, our life has gotten worse in every aspect and despite my dad having being a nurse with college degree in medicine, he refuses to find a job and we are stuck relying on welfare and benefits, paying off loans bit by bit every month. + +Due to the financial difficulties, our family is stuck in the house, doing nothing and struggling to live a normal life, pursue our interests and spend time together as a family. + +My dad refuses all kind of jobs and gets irritated whenever a friend or a relative finds or even offers a job position. He refuses even the simplest of jobs such as working at a kiosk for 6 hours. We have been in this situation for two whole years now and its have gotten to the point I am severely depressed. + +Despite me having just turned 17, I am not allowed to find a job since he thinks I'm not capable to do that. I honestly don't know what to do here and there's no one that can relate with me. He does the same with my mother by hiding all the job offers from her and telling her too that she's not capable to have a job.",0 +6113,"I can't handle living in this family anymore, but I can't afford to leave. I (17F) am the middle child of my family. I'm also the ""good child"" because my two sisters are living nightmares. + + +My older sister (18) got pregnant when she was 16. My parents have full custody of my nephew right now. My sister is out living her best life and partying. She's been arrested for shoplifting and a drunken fight. She takes up a lot of my parents time, as they're trying to ""fix her"" + + +My little sister (almost 14) is acting up at school. She's constantly getting into fights, dresses like she's going to the club rather than school, and dates every guy she can find. Being in the same school as her is mortifying. It's like she *wants* to end up like our older sister. But my parents say that she's ""just going through a phase"" and ignore her wildness. + + +Everyone in town gossips about us. My teachers look at me judgementally. My parents put a lot of pressure on me because I think they want a kid that they can be proud of. I can't handle it anymore. + + +How do I function in such a dysfunctional family?",0 +6114,"my sister broke my trust. I did not do anything bad against my sister but she attacked me for being engaged. She doesn't like how I got engaged and the man I chose to be with. So after all the hurtful words she said I defended myself and confronted her. I pointed out how wrong her doing is and explained to her my side but she ignored me. Then after that, she met with my parents and exposed me to them that Im not a virgin anymore and that Im just taking birth control pills. + +My sex life is a thing that I never wanted to share with my parents because that's my privacy and at the time I thought she can be trusted to keep my secret since she is my sister. But now I feel betrayed because I trusted her and her gf for keeping my secret and they teamed up against me and spilled something sensitive for me. Now I have no choice but to confess to my mom about it and she said I have nothing to be proud anymore since im not a virgin. She wants me to approach my sister in a friendly manner and patch things up with her so she won't spread the face that im not a virgin. But personally, I just don't care anymore and I just wanna cut her off. + +How can I handle this situation?",0 +6115,"My son told me I’m not allowed to date. Reposted from the relationship advice sub since they didn’t allow me to post this there for some reason. I could really use advice. + + +Hello, Im am older woman and living with my son since the passing of my husband. I wasn’t doing well mentally so my son had me move into his family home, all he requires of me is to help out with childcare and for me to assist in chores. This is a fabulous arrangement for both of us. I’m grateful to my son but lately I feel as if he has been intruding on my private life. I went on a date with a man about a week ago, it was pleasant but my son was very upset when I told him about it. I didn’t think he would actually go as far as to forbid his own mother from dating, he even threatened to not allow me to leave the house unaccompanied if I insist on what he calls ‘feminism nonsense’. He also keep disparagingly calling the man I’ve been talking to as ‘Chad’ which honestly confuses me. + +What should I do? I’ve been considering moving in with my younger daughter instead, I’m sure she could use some extra income from the rent I would offer her and I’m financially comfortable. I don’t want to hurt the feelings of my son and his family.",0 +6116,"Rude Daughter-in-law. So my daughter in law recently blocked me, my daughter, and my youngest son on all social media. +For context, she's anti-vax, hard right religious nut, married my oldest son, who was raised Jewish. Since day one we have been more than supportive, in fact, we have been paying their rent for over 2 years, as they try to establish themselves. They came up for a visit, and my husband and I spent the entire week watching their 3 kids (7, 3, and 1), while they slept in, went out to eat, etc. etc. + +I recently posted some funny videos of my hubby with the grandkids, and tagged my oldest son. He responded in the comments and tagged his wife, our daughter in law.....clearly, if she's blocked me, she won't be able to see the videos. This made me realize he doesn't know she blocked all of us. + +Do I say something, or let things unfold???",0 +6117,"Sisters boyfriend lives rent free at my family home, I am not happy with it. Context: So my sisters boyfriend (28) moved into my family house with me, my sister, and my parents about a couple months ago. He doesn’t like his parents because they do not approve of my sister for not being a part of his culture. My sister is currently unemployed and he is in school working for his nursing degree. My parents allowed them to stay at the house for however long they want until they feel comfortable to move out. I don’t particularly love the guy that my sister is dating, but he is nice. My girlfriend finds that there is something off about him and she just does not want to really hang out with him and her when they ask me and my girlfriend to hang out. I feel bad about it because my sister is always with him and never leaves their room so I don’t get a chance to hang out with her one on one. It is starting to become more and more of a pain that he is here and my girlfriend warns me that he is taking advantage of my home and my parents with how comfortable he is to stay here and sometimes doesn’t even say thank you when they buy him dinner. I agree, and I wish that he would just live with his parents (30 min drive) and drive here every once in a while instead of staying here, using my bathroom, eating all the food etc. + +I want my relationship with my sister to be good, it’s hard for me to see her with our schedules being different. I want to figure out a way to hang out with her and not have him involved. If he comes, they will ask my girlfriend and she won’t want to come, and I’d rather it just be one on one with her. Him living here also stresses out me and my gf is concerned because she always worries about me because she has seen people staying rent free at someone’s house and not leaving. I’m hoping something can change, if he could rather not just live here but live at home or get a cheap apartment. I know he is in school about to get his job in a year. Should I voice my concern to my parents that he should move out when he has a job? I was always raised to work hard without any handouts, so it was unexpected that he moved in so suddenly with my parents hesitant at first but them getting used to it. My parents don’t find it an issue that it’s affecting my peace, and me and my gf relationship with my sister. AITA for feeling uncomfortable with the whole situation and wanting to do something about this? + +TL;DR : my sisters bf moved in for the past year, not paying rent. Nice guy, but does not really have manners and he is kinda taking advantage of resources at my house. Parents let him stay and live here after his parents didn’t welcome my sister to their house, it’s affecting my ability to function normally and my ability to hang out with my sister one on one. Gf doesn’t like him, thinks my sister can do better, we both think he shouldn’t be staying at my house.",0 +6118,"My brother wants all of our Harry Potter books to himself. And i don't want to give because they're valuable for me too.. Hi everyone. This is my first post and i hope i(33f) can express myself well, because i am newbie at reddit and i hope this is the right topic for my issue. + +My brother(29m) wants to take all of our Harry Potter books to himself. He wants take them from our parents home, and put to his house's own bookself. But i don't want to give because they are valuable memories for me. I suggested him to share books, but he rejected and wants all of them. I couldn't decide to leave it to him or insist on sharing them. Or at least take the first book to myself. Because when i hold it, that gives me the memories of my teen times and i like that feeling. What are your suggestions about that?",0 +6119,"My (28M) cousin (24M) wants me as a best man at his wedding. His older brother (28M) wants me to step down and I refuse. What should I do?. Spelling mistakes are possible as I’m not a native English speaker. + +Names are changed for privacy reasons as I think my cousin uses Reddit. + +I never thought I’d use this sub for help but the situation is getting out of hand. So help me navigate through before something happens. + +My (28M) cousin (24M) “Dan” came to visit me with his fiancé “Sally” (24F) in April. We haven’t seen each other in a long time so we decided to go to my flat and share a couple of drinks. + +As we were talking, Dan asked me to be his best man at his wedding in September. I was initially shocked but also flattered that he chose me. Sally said that her big sister “Lisa”(28F) was gonna be the MOH. I knew Lisa as we went to the same high school together. We were never best friends but we have a good enough relationship with each other. I accepted and thanked Dan and Sally for the honor. We had a couple more drinks and they went to their hotel. + +One week later, I received a phone call from my other cousin, “Nick” (28M). Nick is Dan’s big brother and the golden child in the eyes of my uncle and aunt. Nick, Dan and I grew living close to each other so they came to my home or I went to their and we played after school. Nick was always terrible to Dan. He always mocked and bullied him. I tried to protect Dan to the best of my abilities but I could do only so much when I am not living with them. I think the main reason Nick bullied Dan was because ever since he was a kid, Dan was smart while Nick was an absolute idiot and I often wondered how he managed to tie his shoes. + +Me and Nick don’t see eye to eye mainly because of an accident when we were 17. Nick was going to what I can describe as a “player phase”. One such flirt led to him playing a good school friend of mine. Poor girl cried her eyes out and fell into a nasty depression. I, of course, was furious and confronted Nick. Things escalated and became physical. After this, we were never left alone without an adult in the room. + +So, Nick called me and asked why the hell am I the best man at his brother’s wedding. I said because Dan asked me. Nick proceeded to scream at me how this was his birthright (yes, he used this exact word) and how I’m trying to drive a wedge between him and Dan. I told him that he managed to do that a long time ago so there is no use in whining now. He tried to scream at me again but I cut him off, told him to go eff himself and hanged up. + +Now, the whole family is talking how awful I am. My grandma (dad’s mother; a person I don’t exactly like) called me and told me I should step down as a best man because Nick is Dan’s brother. I told her being someone’s brother doesn’t mean he’s automatically nominated as a best man. My uncle and aunt also called me and told me what I terrible cousin I am. I told them I don’t take insult from crappy parents. + +What pisses me off the most is the fact that my parents, who decided to stay out of this until now, are trying to talk me out of being the best man at Dan’s wedding. I told them what I told all others: A: I don’t know is Nick is even invited and B: Hell will freeze over before I step down. + +What to do? Do I step down to avoid more family drama or tell them to take a hike? It's been almost a month and I'm starting to lose my patience with them. + +**TL;DR: My cousin wants me as a best man and now the whole family thinks his bully of an older brother deserves it more and thinks that I “stole” this honor from him.**",0 +6120,"This is a tough one. Hope someone can help.. My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We have two children a boy aged 12 and a girl aged 10. Our son has some behavior issues and things escalated severely today when he stole his teacher's juice after class. + +​ + +My husband is absolutely furious and has told my son that if he gets expelled he's on his own. He's giving up. The school is threatening to expel him since he had his ""last"" chance ages ago, but I refuse to believe that's true. I need advice/help/anything because I've been defending and trying to help my son but the only effect was that now my husband is angry at me. In our country schooling is still mandatory for several years more, so I don't know what my husband is hoping to achieve through this. + + +My daughter does have a few issues, nothing too serious, but she'll sometimes ignore us when we speak to her, and often get mad and just go sit in her room. I don't have any issues with this and see it as typical (pre)adolescent behavior but my husband takes this especially personally and has told both kids that he will give up on them. I'm afraid of how this might hurt and scar them for the future. + +I am an absolute nervous wreck. Please be kind if you can. + +​ + +TLDR - my husband is threatening to give up on our kids",0 +6121,"Saw something my son was doing.. This is kind of a weird one! But I have to get it off my chest. + +My son was married last summer, he and his wife are both 26 (I’m 51) if that matters. My husband and I love our new daughter in law, she’s perfect for him and I consider her part of our family. + +Last week they watched our home while my husband and I went to visit my sister. We came home half a day early, and I came inside whole my husband ran an errand. When I came into the house, I saw through the back window that my son and his wife were in the back yard, by the pool, making love. + +This is not upsetting to me! They are newlyweds, it was a beautiful south Florida afternoon, things happen. What I feel weird about it is that I didn’t immediately look away. In fact, I couldn’t take my eyes off of them. + +It was such a beautiful expression of love, of passion, of sexuality. I just was lost in the moment. + +I haven’t told anyone about this. Is this the weirdest thing you’ve ever read? Please be honest!",0 +6122,"Need advice. My boyfriend (m27) and I (f25) have been dating on and off for about a year. I’ve never met his parents (even though he met mine 1 month into dating & his also live about 2 hours away). However, I did meet his sister (f29) at a basketball game last New Years for a couple hours. I thought it went well, only to later find out that she absolutely hates me. (She didn’t like that I ordered a tequila water, the way I ate & just overall my personality.) Fine, so be it. + +Fast forward, and this has caused a lot of issues in our relationship. Whenever my boyfriend & I fight he tells his parents & sister everything, which obviously, from his point of view paints him as the victim and myself as the problem. For this reason, I have been excluded from any family event this past year. For example, his sister had her baby shower last March (before I even knew she hated me) and specifically told him I am not invited, although the shower was at the bar down the street from my apartment. + +This past weekend, I was finally able to meet his parents. We went to a brewery and all had a nice time for about 2 hours. I had assumed I was spending the entire weekend with my boyfriend, as this is one of the free weekends we both had together (he leaves town a lot during fall to go hunting.) well a few hours into meeting them, they tell us it’s time to leave to go to the pumpkin patch. Here’s the kicker: I am not invited because his sister is attending. I asked if I could tag along and just being cordial with his sister there, and he tells me no. Obviously at this point, I’m extremely embarrassed and hurt by this, so I excuse myself to go to the bathroom and let out a good cry. Once I’m back, I say goodbye to his parents and hug his mother letting her know it was nice to finally meet her. As I’m saying goodbye to my boyfriend I beg him to not leave me (he sees his parents often, and we work opposite shifts so we only have the weekends together) but he tells me that he is going anyways. He also showed me a text that his mother sent him saying “I hugged her because she’s so broken, and you can’t fix that”. I’m not sure what she meant by this text. + +Anyways, we go our separate ways, and the next day he calls/ texts me to apologize many times to apologize and tell me how sorry he is for ditching me on the weekend we were suppose to spend together. I’m still so hurt and have not replied to his messages. + +Where do I go from here? I love him to death, but I cannot imagine never being invited to family events all because his sister does not like me. + +Any advice helps!",0 +6123,"I am comfortable with the lack of relationship my mother and I have. Trigger warning: Emotional, mental & physical abuse +Post: Long + +People incl. Fake names +Myself (F 26), bio dad (Robert 51), sister (Maddy 22), bio mom (Janine 44) & mom's husband (Larry 66) + +A bit about our family beginning - mom and dad met in Australia, married and had myself and my younger sister Maddy then moved us all to where we are now and have lived for the most of our lives. + +Our childhood was filled with mixed experiences but most were tainted because of the narcissistic & manipulative behaviour from our mother. We moved house(in the same town) on average about once every three years or so, so it was hard to feel settled as a child. + +Before the divorce, my mother was a two faced doll, one person when dad was home and another when he was at work or away from the house(this is where most of the hard yards are). + +She made sure to never leave the kind of mark that didn't look like 'regular discipline'(eg. Redness or slight swelling from a smack-back when it was more acceptable to hit your children behind closed doors). She made sure to cover her tracks, but she left the real marks where she knew he wouldn't see. +She made herself the demon in the house. We cowered around her when she stomped through the house, winced if she made any sudden movements, feared punishment if minimal things weren't done(minimal like close the washing machine lid after taking washing out of it or hung anything slightly off centre) and did what we were told when we were told to do so. + +Robert was stern with our schooling, he wanted a good education and homework done in good order, easy. Janine made school feel like freedom and home feel like a prison camp. +I would help my sister get ready for school, make our Lunches, pack our bags and get us off to school - when home, empty our bags, clean our lunchboxes and lay our homework out as expected. But we would rarely get time to do our homework. We then would have to finish the 'home tasks'(be bossed around to do measly tasks while our mother sat and drank a couple glasses of wine while she read a book/watched a show and occasionally sneer at us if we walked near her). If we did something wrong or she wasn't happy with how the job was done, we were yelled at and disciplined. These seem like the normal things for children to help with and or learn to do, but we were being treated as the help in our own home. +We were not old enough to cook dinner at this point so Janine would prepare dinner and we would stay out of her way while she did so(that's where most of the tools for her discipline were). + +When Robert would get home, it would change. The doting wife and mother would come out, good conversations, giggles and all sorts. Most of the time, we stayed quiet and did not speak unless spoken to. Then he would ask about homework, and we would have the same answer almost every night: 'we haven't done it yet', followed with a 'and why not?' to which we would not be able to answer, as our mother is sitting at the table looking at us with these 'speak up, I dare you' eyes. Truly terrifying to a 12 and 9 year old. + +At age 13 I started taking the brunt of the punishments, I had started to understand that this was not healthy. I took responsibility for most mishaps and mistakes and I did everything I could to keep Maddy out of harms way - sometimes I couldn't do anything though. I had not told anyone of this until this year when I told Maddy, but Janine attempted my life twice - once when I was 7 and another when I was 14. She backed out last minute on the first & was startled by dad coming home early on the second. She kept me out of view and I had to either wear turtle necks or scarves at all times. +I was already doing most things for my sister at age 11 but I had really started emotionally supporting her by 13 and helping her learn how to take care of herself. + +Robert is a kind man, has a lot of time and love for his family and friends and while he may go through his own things, he always knows how to make someone feel loved & appreciated. So it came down to him giving her the benefit of the doubt when she would go on her nightly speil about how us children were just 'always misbehaving'. + They would argue occasionally, and loudly. They are both outspoken but Robert argued with logic and Janine argued with an 'I must be right, pity me' attitude. Seeing the way she was with him, we weren't able to speak up or tell him what was happening in fear of repercussions. + +We never blamed nor thought lowly of Robert as he had no part in any of our 'discipline', he had raised a hand once to me but I had deserved it then. I understood why he raised a hand. I had already acclimatised to my mother's form of discipline so he did not hurt me, but surprised me enough that I never did that thing again. Never hit me again, never hit Maddy. + +They were married for approximately 16 years, and 2014 they got a divorce(messiest I've ever seen), and I did not find out about the true reasoning behind their separation until I was 19(5 years post divorce). + +Heres the bit, + +When D Day came on the day of their separation, they were arguing again. It was vile that day. I was shut up in my room as normal and Maddy was in her room crying(she would normally come to me if it was too much for her and I would put on a show and give her headphones to distract her). There was stomping, rustling and copious amounts of shouting from both parties. Janine was packing her bags. +I will remember her words that day until I die: 'Keep the kids, keep the dog, keep the f house, I'm leaving' +She said this while rushing out of the house, fumbling to get her bags in a taxi with Robert begging her to 'stay for the girls'. My dad out in the front trying to plead, Maddy upstairs(front facing window, full view of mom leaving) screaming and crying for her to not leave and me, just standing on the bottom floor just watching and listening to this happening. + +I had never seen my dad cry that much that in that one day. + +Janine spent nearly 2 weeks at one of her girlfriends' houses, and in that time adopted a 'I'll get what I'm owed' attitude that continued for years after the divorce. +A few examples: +- She manipulated my sister and I to write letters explaining that she has more custody than Robert does so she can get more child support payments +- Commuted fraud to claim backdated child support pay(in the 10's of thousands, don't know how she managed this or got away with it) +- Misconstrued family counsellor sessions to her lawyers +- Told family members and friends Robert was emotionally and mentally abusing her and lied about why she left +- Attempted to get a restraining order against Robert +- Tried to forcefully remove us from his custody +-Threw full blown tantrums when he wouldn't give her what she wanted then would proclaim self justice through lawyers + And left out the all crucial detail + +Yep, she had not one but 2 affairs in the later stages of her marriage to Robert. + +The first being a member of the same surf club Robert was a part of(he was married), +And the later(Larry 66) ALSO being a member of the same club(also married) +Two families were torn apart that day. +The final argument was about the affair, Larry's wife had reached out to Robert and explained what she had found on Larry's phone and email history with Janine. + +Here's why I feel I do not need to confront nor do anything about the situation and haven't for years. +My mother has kept her bahviours and hasn't seemed to work on any of her own trauma to benefit. She is still mentally & emotionally abusive, but now that we have grown older and have a grasp on right and wrong, she rarely tries it. When she does, she gets shut down. We either just say 'No' or we get up and leave without a word. We leave no room for any of it now. + +She married Larry, and she is now miserable. She has lost 95% of the friends and family she had and gained through her marriage to Robert and is still driving people away. +I heard from Maddy last week that Larry is done with her s*** and is considering leaving. + +I am now older, have a stable relationship of 5 years, we are settled in our own home, working full time and setting up a business on the side for when I am eventually home and we have a child of our own. I have gone through extensive therapy and counselling but am told that I am not required to return or be medicated as I have a 'clear head' about my emotional and logical responses to it all. I am happy. +I show love where I can but I do not do so at any expense. I rarely go out to see her at home and we don't hang out on the regular. I, 1. Do not have time 2. Do not feel the need to make time + +TD;LR +My mother tainted us as children and that's why both my sister and I will be working on PTSD for the rest of our lives. Narcissistic, controlling, abusive, two-faced & manipulative to all around her and it seems she isn't working on any of her behaviours, she is continuously loosing people in her life. I have let karma do the work and she has come through. +Am I right for distancing myself as much as I can and only having a 'I have love, but only because she holds the title of mother' kind of love for her?",0 +6124,"My son was indefinitely suspended. He’s an 8th grader who was kicked off his debate team, was suspended indefinitely, and is up for review(could possibly be expelled at semester end). It happened because his teammate from Debate was named as a member of the regional team and she is giving an acceptance speech for the honor. She’s a good kid, deserves it for sure. She was practicing her speech during debate practice(not what the time should be used for) and she was thanking the “ancestors” for the support and belief un her(she’s black). My son laughed and said the “ancestors were a figment of her imagination like fight club. He was sent home from practice, sent home when he arrived at school, then a letter was sent sharing all the news. I talked to an administrator who is a frat brother and he said that basically, the school is pushing my son out subtly. He said that, in all likelihood, the suspension will last 2-4 weeks, then he’ll finish the semester and then he’s gone. I asked if my son could redeem himself or if it’s over, the admin said it’s over. He said the only prayer for my son is to issue a groveling apology to the girl and her family, then keep his head down and hope administration doesn’t want to bother with the removal process. I think this is ridiculous, all over a 13 year old making a joke. What should I do?",0 +6125,"My sister thinks I should pick up my nephew from school for because I’m a stay at home mom. So I am a stay at home mom of twins toddlers and a one year old. I just recently move back to the city where most of my family lives. Well sometimes I regret it because as a stay at home mom they think just because I have a availability I can do things for them while their at work. Take for example my sister. + +She knows that getting extended care for son is pretty competitive. So the parents are supposed to sign up really early to be on the list even like 7 months in advance before the school year their aiming for. She was notified this plenty of times to put her child on the list because she works and won’t be able to pick him up if she doesn’t put him on the list. She decided she wasn’t going to put him on the list because she going to move out of the state with her new boyfriend. We gave her plenty of advice to just put him on the list just in case she decided to stay put but she didn’t take the advice. Mind you it’s totally free to put him on the list! + +Fast forward it’s the new school year and she in fact did not move with her dead beat boyfriend. Now she has no choice but to keep asking me to pick up her son from school, but with three kids I find that unfair. Just because I stay home she thinks I should do this for her. Am I being mean? I already go though a lot at home trying to take care of my own household. Im also starting to homeschool my twins. It’s like she feels just because things can be rearranged that I have to rearrange them for her when she should have listened to wisdom and put her son on the list in the first place. + +I barely ask anyone to help me, not that it’s wrong to ask for help from time to time but she wants me to pick him up for the rest of the school year. It is about three days out of the week since his dad gets him the other half since they share custody. This isnt my sisters only problem she’s constantly broke asking for money I don’t know what she does with her money. She can get paid the same day and broke the next asking for gas money. + +I even had to pay for one of her kids school clothes this year. It’s really starting to bother me her lack of responsibility. Anyways I just wanted opinions on what others would do or if I’m being unreasonable.",0 +6126,"Is it weird that I lock my door?. To start, I (16f) have two separate households that are so different. My parents have been separated my whole life but it’s still hard to adjust to this. My mom raised me to always sleep with my door locked due to her own childhood trauma, and I never questioned it (mostly out of fear of punishment). I always did this whenever I actually had a room with my dad or at least until I was old enough to know the reasoning for it. Heck, my bedroom door at my mom’s house has a lock that doesn’t work but I still lock it. With my dad I have the luxury of having a bedroom with a lock. So obviously Im going to lock it when I sleep. But my dad likes to check on us when were sleeping. Which I find sweet and a little creepy. But in his new house it is really hot upstairs and i get cold if i leave the fan on, so I sleep with a tshirt, no bra, no pants, but obviously undies. Which is even more reason to lock the door because I sleep crazy which means if someone were to walk in the blanket might not protect me. But there had been times when I hear my doorknob juggle then I hear my brothers door open, meaning my dad is trying to check in on us. So recently he asked me to stop locking my door and I told him no (with attitude because I thought his request was absurd). He said what if he needs to get to me and I just walked towards my bed and he walked away from my door. He may be more comfortable knowing he can protect me anytime, but I feel more comfortable that my locked door can protect me in my most vulnerable state. Is that weird ir is it justified? + +TL;DR I always lock my door before sleeping whether the door works or not. My dad doesn’t isn’t comfortable with not being able to protect me easily. But I feel comfortable with a locked door, is that weird?",0 +6127,"my brother doesn’t know I’m his sister. my brother does not know that I am his sister. I was born out of an extramarital relationship, I am a daughter who has been kept secret for years. I know I have a brother, and I know him. sometimes we chat ok social medias. However, he does not know that his father is also my father, also we have different last names, but in my opinion we look very much alike physically. +What should I do? Should I wait for him to find out on his own or for someone in his family to tell him, or should I try to talk to him? I don’t want to upset anyone, but the situation is just too big for me and I always want to talk to him even if I can’t because at the end he is my brother, I like him as a person and sometimes I miss him. He is very kind, and I am also afraid that he might feel some fisicamente attraction for me. This situation is really upsetting me",0 +6128,"Mother lied about being in therapy. My husband has been no contact with his mother for about two years. There is a long history of manipulation and abuse. He has been in therapy himself for many years trying to deal with this. He put boundaries up and asked his mother for space, but she continued to barrage him with texts, calls, emails etc. + +He doesn’t want to block her on these platforms because she is older and he still carries guilt about what if there is an emergency or something happens to her. So he told her that he would like to work on their relationship, but only if she is working with a therapist. + +She agreed to this, but her behavior continued and in many ways worsened. All the while she was telling my husband “well my therapist says this, and my therapist says that…” + +He would relay all of this to his doctor who seemed confused by her behavior. +Finally I got sick of it and told him he should just straight up ask her for proof that she’s in therapy, which he did. It was probably bad for me to do that but it was so painfully obvious she was lying, and by doing so, messing with my husband’s earnest and honest attempts to not only go to therapy for his own mental health, but repair his relationship with her. + +She immediately got defensive and started saying “Well I WAS going, but I can’t afford it anymore so I stopped. Why can’t you just accept me for who I am instead of giving me an ultimatum about therapy?” + +He really stuck to his guns and said “Three weeks ago you were telling me you had a therapist. I need proof that was true or I can’t continue trying to work on our relationship.” She went radio silent after that. + +I’m furious, sad, and disgusted. How can you do this to your own child?",0 +6129,"Ending sexless marriage. I have been married for 11 years to the woman I loved, and love still. We have been together for 15 years. She told me she was a sex worker about a year after we were dating. Of course it hurt me, but after much thought I chose to forgive her past, and see the love in her heart. For the past 9 years, since we had children, she does not want to have sex with me and this makes me extremely unhappy. I feel strongly depressed. I am a loving husband, a good father, and a good provider for our family. I help around the house, and with all our chores. Our family is the most important thing in my life and I always put it above everything else, no matter what. I have trouble in every other aspect of my life because I don't know how to solve this problem. A sexless marriage pains me, I feel rejected and unloved. I feel loved through physical connection and I miss it. I have tried endless couple's therapy through different sources, including specialists, psychologists, church pastors, and sex counselors. I have read several books about how to be a better husband/partner/lover, I apply everything I learn, and nothing I try ever seems to work. Everything I try is never good enough. I feel she wants to avoid leaving me and wants me to leave her, which I'd always promised I would never do. I know I am a fool and I know she doesn't love me; I am delaying the inevitable. I feel defeated and ready to move out remove myself from this marriage, as much as it hurts me, and will hurt our children's present and future. I feel she will be happier this way, and I want her to be happy.",0 +6130,Is a parent abandoning their child always wrong or does it depend on the gender?. Me and my female friends were talking and we were talking about people who abandon their children and she said if a mother does it it's empowering and her choice but when a man does it it's evil. Now just some context to the scenario here. We were talking about a situation where a woman has a boyfriend and she get's pregnant and she gives birth and leaves or she raised the kid for 5 years and she leaves. She said that was empowering to women and she said when a man does it it's evil and vile. What do you think?,0 +6131,"Do you think it’s okay to go through a adult relative’s phone ?. If a adult relative is younger than you and you saw they built wealth they didn’t tell you about over a few years you didn’t speak (clues like big house in a gated community, expensive clothes and luxury cars) would you feel you being older gives you permission to snoop through the younger relative’s phone (messages, calls, voicemails, emails, photos,) to find out how your relative attained this wealth? +To see who they are in contact with too. + +I ask because I know someone who thinks it is okay and they are entitled",0 +6132,"Mother's Day celebration with grandparents. Having a tough time trying to make everyone happy in our families -- my wife and I have have two young children and we are very fortunate that both of our families live nearby, however we struggle with trying to share holidays and make everyone happy. This mother's day in particular my mom wants us to spend with her and doesn't seem to understand that I need to do what my wife wants to do, as my wife is the one currently in the trenches with our young ones and needs this day for her. + +Problem is, my wife also has sisters who live nearby (they are moms too) and for the last few years they've all enjoyed having our families get lunch and spend the afternoon together. This includes her parents too. My parents are always invited to join but my mom keeps insisting on having her ""own day"" because that makes *her* happy. I love my mom (we all do) but I'm having a very difficult time trying to get her to understand our side of it and that it isn't right to ask my wife to give up her day to try to make my mom happy on mothers day. We just can't have it both ways. + +Am I wrong in thinking this? Is offering to have my mom join us AND also offering to spend all of Saturday (the day before) with her not enough? Should we *not* have this mini-tradition with my wife's family? + +I get it -- I'm an only child and my parents are having a hard time in general attempting to split holidays with my wife's larger family, but my parents are always invited and included and we do our best to rotate/split holidays as we can each year. Of course the holidays end up skewing a bit heavier to my wife's family as there are multiple cousins/nieces/nephews and those are the days we are all able to get together, but isn't that typical? There's a broader debate about more holiday's but in this moment the big one is mother's day... am I wrong in pushing back a bit on my *mom* on this day that should really be more focused on *wife* in the present?",0 +6133,"I told my mother I don't care about her feelings. Hear me out guys, its a bit deeper than the title + +Background: While it is very complex I will try to sum up as much as possible. I grew up with my mom primarily raising me, as my father was in and out of the picture frequently due to the very toxic relationship that they had. Neither of them are at fault because BOTH of them were guilty of consistent infidelity even to the point of not being able to distinguish my birth father at one point. This lead to a broken household scenario for a larger part of my early childhood (taken away by CPS, witness to verbal and domestic abuse, ect.) This continued until I think I was 12? After my parents separated, I often felt more like a parent to my mother than her child. She used me to trauma dump (relationship problems, financial problems, substances abuse problems, social anxiety, and countless more). Which resulted in harming our relationship and she forced me me ***to harbor, regulate, and facilitate*** her emotions, not later did I realize she was doing this till I had become a bit more mature. + +Recently, my wife and I welcomed our beloved daughter in December after moving halfway across the country for a job opportunity that was in the best interests of our new family. + +Now for the thick of it, even more recently we invited my mom to come stay with us to meet her granddaughter and spend some time with me for her birthday. I was the one who reached out and scheduled it as I really figured that it was the right thing to do. (My mother is a very unsocial individual, and the only other human on the planet that she see's or talks to is her overseas internet husband ---Another story in itself---) I had completely dreaded this visit months before it occurred just because of the emotional baggage I knew would fly 1,500 miles on a plane to our new home. Before she had come I had clearly set expectations from her as she is a cigarette smoker, and insured her that because our daughter is so young it is still difficult for us to give her up for prolonged amounts of time. TO MY SUPRISE these conversations went over well, I say this because normally I would end up getting gaslit and listen to her play the victim with her good o'l comments of ""I'm just a piece of shit"" yadadada. This was just usual for her as a self proclaimed empath, taking everything on a personal level and is by far the WORST pity seeker I've ever met. + +Fast forward to arrival day, Everything had been going relatively okay she fell into the expectations previously set and I didn't particularly feel stressed out of my mind. Until Day 2 my wife came to me concerned and with tears in her eyes, our baby girl had kid you not smelled like a straight up cig butt. I work from home so I know that my mother had been following the guidelines we set, it just wasn't working out to well our living room, my office and the guest bathroom had began to wreak. I approached my mother in a kind and fair manner to engage her on a discussion about it in order to find a resolution. At this point my mother began to backpedal and express that she was being treated unfairly by my wife, seeking pity because of a infection she had, and she was ""very tired from her 3 hour flight"" eventually it developed to her empath stage where she insisted that she would do anything for her granddaughter. At this point I picked up on her pattern and did my absolute best to diffuse the situation, eventually we came to the agreement that she was to shower and change her clothes before holding the baby/sitting on couch. This brought on a looming conflict in the household that I took on facilitating during a very busy time at work which constantly took me away from work as I had to be a bridge for handoff's of our baby between wife and mother, sit in for any conversations between wife and mother, and keep my mother fed as I didn't expect my wife to make meals for her. I did all of this to keep the peace as 5 more days of the trip were left. + +I found myself ending up in the very stressful environment that I had dreaded for months before, facilitating my mothers emotions. While I was able to keep my cool It was draining rest of the day, in-between all the facilitation while attending very high priority meetings at work in front of CEO and VP, I was beat. The next day was my mothers birthday, after letting her sleep to almost 1pm I basically forced her out of the house (Anti-social so heavily to the point going out in public is a chore). We went and had breakfast and I took her to Dave & Busters as I knew that there was a Star Wars VR game setup (She's a bigtime Starwars fan). Overall she seemed to really have enjoyed it, as she never really celebrated her birthdays. We returned home and she went to the office where she had a bed out for her, said that she was going to talk to overseas husband and take a nap. Around 6:30ish I started preparing the birthday steak dinner that had been planned, I was wrapping up and told my mother it was going to be about 15 minutes till dinner, My daughter had terrible timing as usual and went to breastfeed with my wife just as I went to grab my mother for dinner so we ended up eating just the two of us. I then had dinner with my wife, helped her and the baby get to bed and returned to my office to wrap up some work. + +This is where it all goes down. + +My mother began dumping on me and insisted that she shouldn't have been ""cooped up in the office all day"" Which I pointed out was an outrage given that she was the one that chose to return to the office the moment we walked in the door after returning home. Then immediately backpedaling and insisting that my wife was keeping my daughter from her. ( On the basis that she was a noshow to dinner) At this point I was getting irritated and told her that its simply not true and she has to stop taking everything as a personal attack (to my own fault I should've known better as she's been this way since before I can remember) This progressed into a rant that my wife is just simply out to get her and the showering and changing clothes was excessive and that its only because my wife doesn't like my mother. I assured her that that is a impossible truth as my wife has made every attempt to obtain a healthy relationship between the two so our daughter would have a grandmother in her life, my wife was actually the one that insisted that my mom should come. Spiraling out of control my mother began to lose it, pulling out her trump card of ""I understand I'm just a piece of shit"". I started snapping at this point becoming verbally assertive and raising my volume ""This is not a personal attack and you need to control your overbearing insecurity and realize that"" She flipped into the woman that I despised most, unwaveringly forcing her emotions upon me in a attempt ***to harbor, regulate, and facilitate them*** bringing up past traumas she's suffered, overexplaining to me how hard it is for her, and gaslighting me to join ""her side"" of the argument. + +I snapped inside, note that I while am emotional I don't normally get worked up or in any visible distress. So when I say ""snapped"" I shutdown all emotional visuals, turned to my computer and started working as she continued. I guess thinking back I did actually just shutdown, I couldn't handle it anymore. I thought to myself I moved halfway across the country to get away from this vicious cycle, this cycle that I'd been through hundreds of times, that drained my later childhood, that ruined a lot of my understanding and connections to my own emotions. I even started to adopt this cycle at one point thus hurting my beloved wife earlier in our relationship, I tear up writing this that my own mother taught me (whether intentionally or not) to hurt my loved ones. I resent my mother for that more than anything else. + +Then I said it. + +""I don't care about your feelings anymore"" + +""I don't have the capacity to ***to harbor, regulate, and facilitate them""*** + +""I have my own family that I must give that capacity too, and there is no where else in the world I'd rather have my energy""",0 +6134,Am I wrong here?!. (Me 30F My s/o 32M) We have been having the worst time seeing eye to eye on a majority of his actions. One of the big ones for me is how he prioritize the family he came from over the family he’s made. Our kids range from 1-13. Am I wrong for feeling that we should be prioritized over the family he came from?,0 +6135,"How do I (19F) deal with an emotionally abusive brother (21M). None of my family backs me up because he’s not home often. My parents are pretty good at not showing favouritism but they will never stand up for me when my brother berates me and takes any opportunity to insult my personality. An example is this morning I was just chatting about how I wanted to celebrate Christmas like an American where they decorate elaborately and bake creative little treats because you don’t really have that in the UK and my family in particular isn’t really festive. He then took the opportunity to disagree and say that the only difference is that Americans have a lot of family round (not sure where this argument came from) and i said in this case I just wanted to decorate and bake and he got annoyed, told me I was argumentative and that I have no friends and struggle to make friends because of my terrible personality. This happens every single day and I’m called aggressive and argumentative for standing up for myself. He also explains simple things to me solely to remind me how stupid he thinks I am and then when I ask him not to he will manipulate the situation to seem as though he is being caring and I’m being aggressive. Sure, sometimes I misinterpret and cause arguments but it’s because I have to have all my walls up at all times because I’m so scared of what he might say to me. Sometimes he is physical too and he is a lot taller and stronger than me. Extended family prefers him and are closer with him so I just don’t know what to do or how to reach out to anyone I’m so distressed. + +TLDR: emotionally abusive brother and no family to reach out to and I don’t know what to do",0 +6136,"Dad has a second family and double life. So my mom and us (me and my sisters) found out that my dad has been living a double life for 20 years. He has a girlfriend and 2 other kids that are around 15 years old! He lied about having work trips and that’s why he travelled a lot. When we found out , he acted insane, and started treating us very weird, saying we have no right to be mad, because its a marital issue and has nothing to do with us. I was really heartbroken because my mom was completely in love with him and was devastated when she found out. Right now they just got divorced and he left with the other family. He doesn’t call us for birthdays or any day, just sometimes sends a chunk of cash or something expensive. I don’t know how to act. People say to just forgive him becase “boys will be boys” (i hate this society) and some people say to never talk to him again. I’ve gone to therapy and nothing works for me…he completely destroyed my family and doesn’t take accountability for anything…he just says he’s depressed because this happened to him, and he’s acting like a victim…he is a narcissist losing control. He had everyone’s respect and appreciation and now everyone hates him…doesn’t care at all how we feel…never asked once how we are doing! I don’t know how to act or feel. Right now i don’t want a relationship with him at all. *but i do want his sweet sweet cash 🤷🏽‍♀️ any advice?",0 +6137,"is it normal for a family member to choke you?. choking, as in putting their hands over your neck and lifting you up a bit, but only for a few seconds, sort of restricting your breathing. it's only happened once, a long time ago it feels. ive never put much thought into it until recently, nothing like it had ever happened before or since. so is it normal for this to happen at least once in your lifetime with family/authority figures? or is it something to watch out for?",0 +6138,"Husband let a neighbor walk in to our bathroom that is just disgusting without asking me. I am upset and am I overreacting?. Husband let a neighbor walk in to our bathroom that is just disgusting without asking me. + +I was not able to stop him as I was in the middle of doing something. I am really ambarrassed that our neighbor was able to see all the gross things in our bathroom and am really really upset that my husband didn't care. We only got to know this neighbor like last week and he was there to help with a lighting which could have been easily done by my husband. + +Just for clarification: the neighbor was not using our personal bathroom. He was simply helping lighting that could have been easily done by husband. + +It was our personal bathroom not one for guest and it’s very messy and cluttered as we haven’t cleaned it for a long time. There was absolutely no need for the light to be changed so urgently as we were fine with other remaining lights. I would never show my personal bathroom unless it’s tidy and he just let a neighbor in with all stuff cluttered around with dirty mirrors and everything. + +My husband doesn't understand why I am upset and I think this should be a common sense to know that it's ambarrassing to let someone (you barely know) in the dirty bathroom. I am very tired of explaining why this is frowned upon. Am I overreacting?",0 +6139,"My crazy father beating my 6y.o brother to ""raise him like a man"". This is my first post, just to give you an idea on how or family be. so I'm almost 20 and i have a sister 15 and a brother 6. Throughout this whole 20 years my dad always been nuts He's a bipolar narcissist and both verbally and physically abusive to us especially our mother which made her fall into a deep depression. In September he left us and wanted a divorce ( for the billionth time), we were really fine and happy with him being gone but a month ago he got back because ""he wanna raise his kids"" all he does is boss us around, smoke weed/ciggs(in front of my lil brother), says every cuss words, he leaves us with no money no food, comes back home very late at night, overall being a shit dad/husband. I just don't him to raise my brother the same way i was raised it really affected me emotionally, mentally and physically. I got stabbed, choked, beaten till i couldn't breathe, stepped on, kicked in my stomach and I just don't want this to happen to my brother too, i can already see that our family situation is affecting his behavior. +Idk what to do to prevent this, I'm looking for a job atm but other than that idk what to do.",0 +6140,"My aunt’s cat is dying while she’s on vacation. Should I tell her how serious it is?. TLDR; my aunts cat is probably gonna pass away soon while my retired RN aunt is on vacation. Should I tell her things are getting worse? + +Hi y’all, so we live in New York and my aunt is taking a two week vacation to Florida until the 17th. She asked me to watch her 2 cats every few days while she was gone which I happily obliged. I set my mind to go every day despite her only wanting me to go every couple of days. + +Now a little context, I’m a CNA (certified nurse’s assistant) and she is a retired RN so we’re both very familiar with death and the dying process. Her cat has been declining little by little and she knew that the cat could possibly pass away while she was gone. + +She told me the cat was incontinent of urine (meaning she can’t hold in her pee) and every few days she wouldn’t make it to the box. Also keep in mind the cat in question is very shy and hides under my aunts bed while I’m there and I always check on her to make sure she’s okay. + + Well my first day (last Monday) I saw a soiled pad outside the box with one pee stain, I pick it up and go in with the rest of the care. Next day I see another soiled pad with one pee stain, which means things are getting worse. + +I told her this and she acknowledged it. Every day it was the same thing, a soiled pad with one pee stain. Come Saturday I couldn’t make it over because I got busy but no big deal they had food and whatnot. Sunday I go over, I see two pee stains and they’re both further away from the box than normal. No big deal, until yesterday when I saw TWO MORE stains. I tell my aunt this and she acknowledges it again and recognizes this means things are getting even worse. + +Today (Tuesday) I go in and the cat isn’t under the bed, theres vomit on the stairs, there’s THREE pee stains on the pads and one is VERY dark in color. After tearing the whole house apart I find the cat hiding behind the TV breathing very laboriously. + +When things start dying it’s common to vomit and to have dark colored urine. For cats too they hide in really strange places when they’re dying, it’s a defense mechanism so they don’t get attacked in a vulnerable state. + +My question is should I tell my aunt the reality or should I just let her enjoy her vacation? She would totally get it but I don’t wanna ruin her fun ya know? + +Thank you in advanced! + +Edit: I called her and told her. She had a feeling something was up but she’s ready for whatever happens",0 +6141,"I hate being the sibling/child that everyone calls for money. Are you your family's ATM?. Removed the details of my post because some of you were reading things I DID not type. I NEVER said I always gave them money. If anything, I've said no more than I've actually gave them anythin. They know that i dont give away money like they. They just continue to ask hoping for a payout. The success of our business just makes them a bit more comfortable asking. + + +I NEVER asked for financial advice. + +I just wanted to know your story",0 +6142,"I find some of my family members annoying and this prevents me spending time with them. I dont know of a healthy way of dealing with this.. This relates to my parents and siblings who I dont live with anymore. I'm 39 year old male. + +My parents - I find my parents quite hard to be around. I find them overbearing. They tend to hijack conversations, and repeat old stories all the time. They seem incabable of listening and speaking from a place of authenticity. Feels like everything from them is scripted or rehearsed. Honestly I find that they just blabber and talk nonsense. I find them a bit akward socially, forced, domineering. + +My brother - I find him very overbearing. He is loud and opinionated, always expressing very strong views about the world and how it works. It leaves no space for anyone else. One-on-one he just steamrolls me. In social setting I cringe as he goes off on some wild theory about the world.. He swears too much. He is too loud. etc etc + +Important to note that my parents and my brother are all well liked and have lots of friends. This isn't about labelling them as bad people or saying that I'm any better. I'm just describing what arises in me when I try spend time with them. I'm far from socially skilled and I dont claim to be superior to them. +But what I describe above is what arises in me and its a problem because I would like to spend time with them and have them in my life. But these feelings that arise make it hard. + +I like people who make space for everyone in the conversation, who can listen and converse in what feels to me like a civilised way. And I dont feel my family has these skills. I find them hard to be around, and frankly, I find them a bit embarrassing, like for example if they are around my friends or around my in-law family. + +I've tried to gently brings these issues up but, of course they take great offense and call me judgemental and then proceed to point out my flaws (which I'm sure are valid). I understand where they come from. And I recognise that perhaps this is a ME problem. On the other hand, my wife also sees what it is that I dont like about my family, although she has much more patience for them that I do. +This weekend my wife's parents and siblings are coming to us for dinner. I told my wife that my parents might take offence if we dont invite them as well, but she responded that the vibe isn't as chilled when my parents come. And her brother finds my brother a bit much to handle. So its clearly not ONLY me that feels this. + +What direction do I go in to address this? Is just about working on my self and my ability to accept them? if so how? Or should I just accept that they are annoying and spend less time with them when possible (which is basically what I do)? Or should I find a way to confront this with them? If so how do I do that without them simply getting offended?",0 +6143,"My mom just destroyed my whole school life now trying to destroying my college life too. Read the full post till end. major hinderances in my lifr are provided by my over protective parents . Mostly my mother she is just too much. She wants to control everything in my life she wants to know with whom i am talking with she wants to know what apps i jage in my phone ( she doesn't know i use this app as i have kept it hidden) . Well the origin for her behavior is dated long back when i was 5 now i am 19 . At the age of 5 i got diagnosed with benigin tumor in the gland just near down my neck so during that time doctods has to reduce my antibody using some medicines to stop its spread and after that my life changed . I would get easily infected with diseases due to my low immune power and due to this my parents has to monitor each and every object i.e. the food i ate , the water i drank , preventing exposure to excessive cold or heat etc. And due this my mom's mind is still fixed in that age eventhough i am 19 now for her i am still a 5 yesr old boy in her mind. So she doesn't allows me to go gor school teips with my friends because she is afraid what if i get hitted by objrct or something and sometimes else happens with me . But what she doesn't understands that due to her this behavior i am feeling likr a caged animal in a zoo .can you tell me how can i changed her mindset. + +i dont have any right to folloe my chocies to choode a particular college . The college which is best according to them i have to follow that and whenever i raise my voide that i don't wanna study in that college they will be arguing me and force me to for that college only . So they are forcing me to study in VIT (Vellore Institute of Technology) but i wanna study in Amrita Vidyapet college . As VIT is near to our home and my mom can easily monitor me and control me. please someone tell em a way out of it",0 +6144,"My grandfather still talks about his ex-wife (my grandmother). My grandparents have been divorced since before i was born, I think they married in 1966 and divorced in 1994. So they had around a 30 year marriage. From what I gather they had a very unhealthy relationship and had gotten married at 17 (grandfather) and 18 (grandmother) years old. I honestly think that my grandfather never got over it I have no idea who divorced who, but he talks about her a lot and asks me about her now. It’s just weird bc both of them are remarried, my grandmother is happy but I don’t think my grandfather likes his new wife that much (I don’t like her that much either she weirds me out). I still kind of feel bad for her tho. And the very few times that I have heard my grandmother talk about him was in a negative way.",0 +6145,"I am estranged from my sister whom I love dearly.. It's a very long story, the short version is that her boundaries are weak and she's unable to talk to me without being triggered. We come from an abusive family with nearly 2 decades of abuse. We are both in therapy. + +I have not had any form of communication with her in 3 and a half years. It is wearing on me because I see no end in sight. + +I am hoping she gets better before I well, die (not being morbid) + +I'm trying not to write too much here because it's difficult for me to explain the situation. Most people don't even understand why I can't talk to her. I'm writing because I'm sort of at my wit's end and I honestly don't even know what response I am expecting, except that I hope it is civil and not hurtful.",0 +6146,"I'm concerned about the anime my son (17/m) watches. What should i do?. My son has been into anime for awhile, and if i'm honest, i hate it. It's all weird nonsense to me. But it's his main hobby so i let him enjoy it. + +But i've seen some things that i don't like. He got a job and has been buying anime with the money he made. He orders stuff online. When the packages come, i look at what's inside, he got one today and the cover, the girl was half naked. I get he's at the age where you start liking girls but he's not looking at real women. He's looking at animated ones. I showed his dad and he just said ""Oh, that's just how they hook people into buying them. I wouldn't worry."" and about how all comics that came out when he was a kid had the female hero's in skimpy outfits. + +I hoped it was a one time thing, but a looked through some of his other movies he owned and i saw a pattern, at least 1/4 of his movies had suggestive covers, were rated 18+ and prominently showed half naked girls on the cover. Some of them in school uniforms, so not 18. Even Yugioh, he said it's a kid show as did IMDB's parents guide, but there's a blonde woman walking about half naked. That doesn't seem like a kids show. + +I saw a show called Strawberry Marshmallow which had a girl who looked 12 at most in a bikini. + +Same with his manga, some of his manga had full blown nudity. A lot of his manga also had girls with non-human characteristics, like elf ears. He read something called Plus Size Elf, which has several pictures of a naked woman with elf ears. So it's making him lust after fantasy creatures too. + +I don't want this stuff turning my son into something bad. I have half a mind to just box this stuff up and not let him watch it. Cause clearly it's inappropriate. Every package he orders, i think i should inspect it. I know i should've been monitoriing this hobby from the start, but we all make mistakes. I blame myself. I guess i never monitored what he was watching. I assumed since it was animated, it was kid friendly. + +I'm very concerned about what this is gonna do to him and his mind. This stuff can't be healthy and i feel will harm his development. What should i do?",0 +6147,"I don't think I would be very sad if my mum died. Am I a bad person?. My mum had a heart attack last week and is in hospital. I have gone over to her place so that I can look after her when she gets out. Had an argument with my sister today because she claimed our mum did OK as a parent. In reality, she was abusive and since the argument I have been getting flashbacks of all of the cruel things she used to do. Although I am mostly hoping she will recover, part of me wonders at times whether this is karma. + +Then my thoughts went over to how I would feel if she died. If I am being honest, I would cry and be sad for a few days. But after that? I would probably get over it quicker than most people would when their parents die. + +Maybe it's because I don't get to see her now due to the Covid restrictions. Not being able to see how frail she currently is and remembering the way she was when she had her full strength has probably hardened me. Is this wrong? + +Tl;dr I am having unsympathetic thoughts about my mum after she had a life-threatening event and wonder if there is something wrong with me",0 +6148,"Please help me somebody!. I am f/21 +I live with my grandmother who has dementia it’s just me and her it is really hard to look after her because i am still young i have no friends because i am home all day/night. She gets her pension which runs the house, my parents are immigrants and have there own shop(6,565km away) . I can’t go to college because parents are not willing to fund me and wants me to look after my grandmother also when i ask for pocket money they make a huge fuss about it where am i to go what am i to do please someone help me i am suicidal",0 +6149,"My little brother thinks our upper middle class family is poor. Me, my parents and brother live in the Seattle, Washington area. My parents purchased a condo here because the finance industry is located here. We just took a trip to see relatives who happen to have a very large house and now my brother thinks we're poor because ""our house is small"". He is 7 so he doesnt really grasp the concepts of money and social class. How can i get him to see that we are actually well off? We also attended private school our entire lives but he doesnt really understand the difference between public and private school",0 +6150,"Mum and husband really do not get along. Advice please. I love my husband I love my Mum. They hate eachother. + +I have tried to remain neutral but of course its impossible, I love them both. I don't take sides but I call the other out when its clearly thier fault or a line has been crossed. Tbh thier score cards are pretty even at this point. + +I have no idea how to handle this, I hate being in the middle, our daughter is also in the middle if this too, she spends a lot of time with her nana and they are very close. And of course her Dad is her Dad and shes a daddy's girl. + +I am tired of them making me feel I have to choose between them. Verbally they say I dont have to, but thier actions say otherwise - one accusing the other of brainwashing me if I defend either of them. They both also say that the other is trying to alienate me against the other. + +I'm absolutely sick to death of it. What do I do??",0 +6151,"Should I report my daughter’s teacher?. Long story short, he encouraged my daughter’s boyfriend to break up with her, called him “one of his favorite students.” And told him not to mess around with immature peers. He is putting the student into the Honors Program, said the student is too young for a girlfriend(Grade 7), then he even acknowledged favoritism in calling the student his favorite. Is this at all appropriate? Should I report him?",0 +6152,"Is this kid's parents' parenting good?. My friend's brother is a kid and I don't know if this parenting is good. Ok so they started homeschooling him when he was 10-18 and during this time he didn't have friends he went to church for about an hour and then everyone went home. The closest thing to a friend he had was one of the cashiers from the store he went to a lot. He would ask if they were going to the store or movies since that was the only time he really got out. The pandemic was really easy for him since he was already living that way already. In fact he was shocked everyone on the news and social media was having such a hard time in lockdown that he said ""it's not that hard"". His parents didn't allow him to watch Disney Channel shows like Jessie, Zach, and Cody because they felt like they were bad lessons the kids were sometimes disrespectful and got no consequences from them however he was allowed to watch animated superhero cartoons and superhero movies. He wasn't allowed to watch Powerpuff girls since it was for girls or My Little Pony and Monster High for that matter. He wasn't allowed to watch kid shows on Nick Jr since they were below his age range. They said he could only watch TV/MA things when he was 18. They didn't abuse him they feed him, take him on vacations sometimes but do you think this was good parenting why or why not?",0 +6153,"Family can't respect boundaries with our children. My family is mostly hardcore conservative and very religious (Christian). My wife and I are not hardcore by any means. We both work in healthcare and are expecting twins next month. We currently have a 2 year old girl at home. My wife and I are fully vaccinated for COVID. My dad and one of my sisters is vaccinated while my mom and other sister are not and will not. My mom quit her teaching job of many years to avoid the vaccine requirement. + +When we had our daughter in 2020, we did not have any family around her for several weeks. We did visits through the glass front door and shared photos. After a month or so we started to allow family to visit. They were asked to wash their hands, wear a mask, and not to hold her up to their face. Some of my family members didn't like the rules so they never held my daughter. They have not gotten to know her because they would rather not know her than to see her but not hold her. + +As we are getting to the final weeks of our pregnancy with twins we created a small list of rules for when they are born sincd they will be born during Flu and RSV season. We sent that list out to everyone in our family. + +The rules are: + • No visitors at the hospital + • No home visits until invited + • No kissing the babies + • To hold them you must be fully vaccinated for COVID + • If you are holding them and they begin to cry, please give them back to mom/dad + +Nobody responded except for my paternal grandmother. Who stated, ""Since we were disowned as your grandparents and we've been deemed unworthy to touch your children. At least we know where we stand with you."" + +We have never told them that they couldn't touch our children, they chose to not respect our wishes and therefore never held our daughter. I responded with, ""that is not the case, but okay"". + +Are we being ridiculous for having boundaries for our babies safety? + +TLDR",0 +6154,"How Old is Too Old (realistically) to Become Parents?. My fiance (27m) and I (28m) come from two very different family situations, but we both agree we want to have kids some day. + +My parents started young, had 5 kids, and are only just now in their late 40s down to 2 teenagers at home. His parents adopted him when they were in their early 50s, and now that they are pushing 80 the question of them living to meet their grandchildren is genuinely a concern for all involved. + +We have two very different stances on the matter: I want to be a younger father, so that we can enjoy our golden years/retirement in relative peace without having to figure out paying for college while on a fixed income. He thinks we could be parents whenever, because his parents did it. That said, he's an only child. + +We both want 3-4 kids, ideally some adopted and some biological, but between how long adoption can take and the process for surrogacy, and wanting to have financial stability to support the family, how old is too old to actually become parents? + +I know there are grandparents raising their grandkids, and people have late in life children naturally, but realistically those have a myriad of complications associated with them. Like I want to be attending college graduations when I'm in my 60s, not high school graduations. + +EDIT: WOW. Weird undercurrent of younger folk saying ""if you don't have kids in your 20s, then you're going to be too old to take care of them"" which just seems like nonsense. + +My mother is 48 and has two teenagers at home And works a full time job where she coaches kids and works in a hot, humid pool all day. And she does that voluntarily because shes bored at home from not actually having to be all that hands on anymore. Dad is 45 and he's out playing basketball with teenagers and guys in their 20s and is running circles around them. + +Funnily enough, the responses saying ""you can wait"" are from folks with much older children and who waited until they were older to have them. + +Obviously starting to have babies when we are already middle aged is pushing it, but it's not like waiting a few years til we are more financially stable than we are now is a bad idea. That's just decent family planning.",0 +6155,"My father keeps offering/giving food that has a lot of carbs like bread even though I’ve told him not to cause I really need to lose weight. I have high blood pressure, sleep apnea and other health conditions attributed to being obese.. My father and I have had arguments and although I highly doubt it, I think he could be sabotaging my progress on purpose. He knows I have temptations and because it’s served rather than me doing it on my own, I’ll take it.",0 +6156,"Untouched...Unkissed....Unf*****. So.... I'm in relationships with my partner, my childs father, for over 14 years + +Needles to say, he was love at first sight to me and we had that zing from a first time we looked at each other. We spend our time doing all the things we loved, movies, music, walks and trips to see new places. We met at work, so was there constantly together too + +We moved in together and soon after we were expecting. Our parents loved us both and got along with each other as well as we with our partners parents. I know, sounds like a fairytaile. And so it was for 6 years or so..... + +After about 6 years the arguments started, first it was small things, then eventually it turned into bigger things and so on. My partner started having drinks on almost every weekend he could possibly have, the arguments grew bigger and pain even so. Ive tried talking, ive tried being kinder and nicer, always supporting and understanding, but all seemed to go in a bin. I worked full time and also done all i could to be a perfect mum and wife. + +Some days i felt like leaving, but tho he was not best at that time i kept thinking of how good of a father he was and that we shared so much together, tho i felt lonely and forgotten inside, i felt unloved and unatractive. Eventually i had meltdown and i quietly realised im somehow depressed, i had change of mood rapidly, lack of appetite and stopped looking after myself so much that ive had no need for sex and it felt like im not wanted anyway. Might come as a shock to some, but we ended up having sex, maybe, up to 5 times a year + +I was fine with it and he didnt seem to mind either, so it stayed like that for few good years. + +In 2019 ive changed my job, long story, but it was for a best, to part time. It came in like a fresh breath in to my life. I finally started seeing what im missing. Ive left my friends out of my life, i felt ugly and unatractive and still lonely. So i started working on myself. I regained my friendships and started taking time for myself. Than in january 2020 me and my partner had a heart to heart talk and decided we are going our separate ways once we pay off some of the things we had together, because this wasnt working. But as everyone is aware, the pandemic hit and we sort of had no way to move apart. It was hard to find another way than just stick it out as it is. All the time we spend together we sort of rekindled what we have been missing and from friendship we, sort of, got that tiny bit of love back. But things were not at its best anyway, but bit better. I hope this makes sense. + +So last year, 2021, somewhere in may we sat down to have another heart to heart and we literally talked about everything, including our sex life, which was still not grate. Like, Im just over my 30s and im not a fool or a nun, I would love to have regular sex with my partner also at that stage i felt more confident with my body so was looking to get laid. But most of the time it was just, goodnight blah blah + +Ive tried different ways, new nightdress, new underwear, cuddles and kisses, but it seemed that my partner didnt feel attractive to me. + +So after our talk hands down for a few months it all improved, we were closer, more loving and more concerned of each other. + +Just to say, my partner is 13 years older than myself, but im not complaining because of it, age doesnt matter in my opinion. + +Then the situation got even worse, pubs started reopening, there was no need to just be us two and so on. + +​ + +Now.... my feelings now.... + +Im with a man in the same bed, house, room or garden. We dont touch, we dont kiss and we dont get intimate in any way. We dont argue any more, but we dont have conversations anymore. Its all about our child, school, work, shop and house. I feel like i live with my friend. I tried some things to rekindle, ive looked up some ideas, but it's like there is a wall that I can't climb over. Every time hes off it seems he prefers to have a drink instead of having to spend time with me in any way. + +Im unhappy, i feel unloved and all i want is to feel like a woman again. + +Im thinking of leaving him, as i dont see a point in wasting my time when i could meet someone who would care for me as much as i care for them. Am i really so worthless + +I hate feeling so lonely, I hate that im constantly crying in silence in bathroom. I hate that im not touched and hugged. Its not just about sex, i want to feel safe in someones hands, I want to feel that closeness that i mean something. + +Im not blaming him maybe theres just nothing between us no more. + +This is my last resort for advice. Please be kind I know im not perfect, but i just dont know what to do any more.",0 +6157,"My dad ( m56 ) wants me ( f16 ) to pay for his rent. He lives separately from where I live. His account got frozen or something. He can put in money, but he can’t take it out. He says it’s because of his cafe’s bankruptcy eight months ago, though I find it weird that the bank would do this now specifically. He asked me today if I could pay some of his bills, rent ( 1000$ ) and the like. I have a part-time job, but I don’t make much, especially not enough to support him for long term. I currently have enough to support him for at least two months, three at most. I think he said he’ll pay me back in cash. He told me this will be our little secret. I feel .. I don’t know. Conflicted ? Used ? Worried ? Could I get some outside opinion on this ?",0 +6158,"Estranged Niblings found. help. Sorry this is on mobile and I'm in a mild anxiety attack at the moment. + +Long story short, my brother and his ex had 2 kids, currently 15f and 13m. when they devorced my ExSIL accused and had my brother charged with assulting their daughter. Court went sideways and in fear, my brother signed a plea deal to a lesser charge. ExSIL took the kids and moved from the west coast to east coast, blocked my entire family and it's been 12 years since I have been able to reach any of them. in the early years any and all gifts were either returned to sender or name swapped and presented as a gift from Santa or even from ExSil (that one hurt). With it being such a nuclear topic in my immediate family. nobody brings it up and I have been told to step back when asking for updated addresses phone numbers etc to try and stay in touch. SIDENOTE: brother and ExSil are both a trip. I don't believe my brother did what he was accused of but they both accused each there with infidelity; all around a real bad environment for kids. + I got different stories from both bro and EXsil so I honestly can't tell you the whole truth as I don't know. + +fast forward 12 years, I get/save postcards from my travels, gifts and have kept them all in a box for a ""maybe someday"" + +Problem: As the kids have grown up I knew it was only a matter of time before their online presence was started. So naturally I Google their names every once in a while and never find anything. + +today was different. + + When it randomly popped into my head (like it usually does), I pulled out my phone and googled their names. bam, there she is. my niece and in her friends group her brother (nephew). I have struck out so many times I really didn't think today was going to be any different. My palms started to sweat, body heating up, neck muscle tensed resulting in me hiding out in the walk-in fridge to help cool down. + +what do I do? + + I want so badly to send a message them I want to know them I want to hear their stories and catch up, but at the same time the toxicity around the whole past, i find myself frozen. what if their mother has said something or not said, what if they view me as a guy who abandoned them or whatnot. I'm stuck and I don't want to cause waves but also I want them to know they have never left my mind and heart. Has anybody ever been in this situation? please help.",0 +6159,"I met my father for the first time ever, turns out he’s gay and has a family [M14]. I made a post here two days ago, this in an update I guess. + +So, my mom has cancer. She contacted my dad because I think she’s worried that her treatment might not be successful. I met him for the first time yesterday. That was.. a lot. But kind of nice too. Apparently I look a lot like him. And he looked pretty cool. Not like a dad at all. When he told me he’s gay I thought he’d look more like Chandler’s dad from Friends. But yeah. He has a husband, they live together in the UK. And if he wasn’t joking then apparently i’ll have step siblings soon. Which is just a lot to take in. + +Neither he or my mom wanted to tell me why he wasn’t in my life though and it makes me so angry. I only know he was in military at the time when I was born. But how can it be a reason to abandon your family? I don’t understand it. There’s more to it but they don’t want to tell me anything, as if i’m too young to get it. + +Also, there’s something he said that bothered me a lot. He said that there’s a spare bedroom in his house for me. Which sounds like he’s ready for my mom to die and for me to move in with him and his family. I hate it.",0 +6160,"I’m confused as what I did wrong?. I went out of my room as I was getting a soda. My dad asked how I was doing and I said “Good just tired”. He than said we all are. I said ,Yeah but I got home late”. I work nights so that’s what I meant. He said why did I get home late? I told him I got home at 3 am as I get off at 230. He than said I was impossible to understand and I asked him how he was and he didn’t say anything except to bring the dogs out before I leave for work. + +I called my mom and she said he seemed okay when she left for work. I’m really confused as what I did wrong. I maybe said it with an attitude but I didn’t mean to as I’m just tired as I’ve been working a lot and I have job interviews this week. I would apologize but when he gets mad he won’t take an apology",0 +6161,"How to make the girlfriend jokes stop from older relatives. Both my grandfathers make comments whenever we go anywhere together. + +They say things like ""did you see the looks we got?"" and + +""next time I'll grab your hand and say this way dear"" or + +""This is my girlfriend"" + +My grandpa told me he needs a girlfriend, I suggested we find him someone his age at bingo or something. He joked that he should find someone 30 who he could get pregnant. + + I'm 29 and my sister is 31. I laughed it off and I get that he is joking, but the age thing is weird to me. This has been happening all my life from my other grandpa as well. + +​ + +I want to make this stop without upsetting them. I could really use any advice anyone has on how to stop this. I hate it so much. I don't care if it's a joke. Please help me make this stop.",0 +6162,"My grandmother is refusing to leave. Hey everyone, I just want to ask for some advice. I have a grandmother who has come to stay with me and my parents, but there are a few issues. First, she just told my father that she is coming without asking permission beforehand, and expecting to stay as long as she wants. She did not okay it with my father, and literally just booked a flight and came here. She has been here for about a week now, and my father clearly stated that she is only allowed to stay for 2 weeks. The issue is that she lives outside of the US (that's where we live), and we can not book her a flight without her passport. Since she has come here from outside of the US, she has to get a round trip ticket since she doesn't have a visa. But, whenever asked about it, she refuses, absolutely *refuses* to give any information about her flight info, claiming that she can ""do it all herself"", and if we keep asking her about this info, she threatens my father telling him that she will go to the police. My dad won't enforce any rules to her, and definitely won't push her to leave even when he is fed up with her. I am wondering what we can do if she refuses to leave, because she is acting like she can do whatever she wants whenever she wants. My grandmother was also here a few years ago as well, and it was extremely uncomfortable and disruptive for everyone, and she overstayed her welcome by a very substantial amount. I'm wondering what I can do about this since my dad hasn't given any indicators that he will actually do something about her being here uninvited and unwelcome. + +Tl;dr, My grandmother is here uninvited, and won't give my dad information about when she booked her flight back home. My dad doesn't seem like he will do anything about her behavior, and she might end up staying a long time, which no one wants. ",0 +6163,"All this time i thought my parents were toxic it was actually my older sister. It’s a long one so thank you in advance for reading. +For context, I’m 23 and recently moved back home with my parents for grad school. I moved out at 18 for college, so it’s been 5 years since I left. +Before leaving for college I knew I needed to go to a college far enough that I had to move away. I hated my life at home. It wasn’t terrible but i hated the regular fighting, arguments, lack of freedom, no privacy, etc. +So I was pretty nervous to move back home, but I knew I had matured and thought things could be okay. Things have been more than okay. I find that I can easily talk to my parents. They are so supportive and helpful and it’s been great. Way better than some roommates i had in college lol. +The thing is my older sister recently moved out, before I moved back in. I didn’t realize how toxic she was. AT ALL. i thought she was my cool big sister but i was wrong. She’s 5 years older than me and has always had terrible anger issues, she would yell, break things, hit me, and cause fights with my parents all the time. I believed my parents were the problem, but really it was her. She was mean, got into trouble with her delinquent friends and my parents knew. She would also lie about going to college to take money from my parents and claim it was for school. She was a terrible influence on me and what’s funny is that she would help me do “bad” things yet was never there for me when i needed help with “good” things like making friends, gaining self confidence, help with school, etc. But she would help me sneak out and encourage me to stay in toxic relationships with guys. I know this wasn’t intentional, it was what she knew and what she was doing. +Before moving back with my parents I asked if i could stay with her. She said no because her fiancé didn’t like the idea, even tho they had an extra room. Ever since then i have sort of resented her. We were extremely close. I always forgave her for everything she did, even though she never apologized. I’m really hurt she didn’t help me the one time i needed her. Also her fiancé is a loser felon who’s broke. +I JUST came to the epiphany that she’s kind of a POS and not a good sister. All this time i blamed my parents for the family issues but it was her. This hurts so bad because I’m realizing all the shitty things she did to me as a kid. She was so mean, so mean, she would call me ugly, make fun of me in front of my friends and roommates, hit me, blame things on me, and lie to me. As a teen I was going down some bad paths and she never steered me in the right direction, if anything the opposite, and encouraged things like stealing and lying. I’m shocked. Can anyone relate to having a toxic sibling who really hurt you as a child and you didn’t recognize the abuse until you became an adult? + +Also, I have a younger sister too! I live with her and it’s so easy to not be an abusive sibling. She’s a teen and I’m always trying to build her confidence, teach her things I wish I knew at her age and just trying to be there for her. +That’s where these thoughts started. I can’t imagine treating my little sis the way my older sister treated me. Just thinking about treating my lil sis like that makes me cry. How could my older sister do all those things to me? She was 5 years my senior. It just grosses me out. + +TL;DR +I just realized that my older sister was emotionally and physically abusive to me as a kid and teen. At the time I thought the fighting was normal and channeled my anger towards my parents, but I realized my sister was the toxic one.",0 +6164,How often do you see/talk to your sibling(s) as an adult?. Either in person or over the phone?,0 +6165,"My mom is a cheater (she cheated on my dad) and thinks I don't know.. My mom cheated on my dad with a guy in his mid thirties despite being in her early 40's. +I've moved on from it but she keeps lecturing me every conversation. + +I wanted to show her this report I wrote for school asking for her feedback. She says it's okay then proceeds to randomly lecture me to be careful of what my choices are because chances are it's wrong or bad and will affect her reputation, image and just herself in general. + +I find this extremely hypocritical because she keeps saying it to me all the time despite her constantly being unfaithful in her marriage. +She even introduced me to the guys she's dated as ""friends"". She also assumes I don't know she's cheating. And I don't know how to tell her I know right now because we kinda live together and it'll become awkward.",0 +6166,"I can't stand autistic son.. For a little exposition I (44F) live with my husband(45M), and my two kids, my son(17), and my daughter (13F) + +I CANNOT stand my autistic son. I know the little sounds bad but hear me out, I just can't handle living under the same roof with him, he makes both me and my husband's life a living hell. He has constant outbursts that often turn violent(usually punching walls or damaging property), and puts a lot of strain on everyone in the house. Despite being Asian himself he seems to have white supremacist beliefs. He was only taught only love and respect from us, even after sitting down and explaining the problems with his behavior he just won't quit! I think it is because we let him spend too much time on the internet and it has been a bad influence on him. I have since taken away his internet because I don't know where else he was taught these ideas. + +When we threatened to take away his gaming console. He punched a hole in the wall right there in front of us. It was shocking, and yes we have tried to get him help or on medications. We even had him on a pill before and for a while everything was going well. But since he is a compulsive liar he stopped taking them and things went back to the way they were before. I work as a nurse and when I'm not working I run a daycare out of my house. I make sure to have it in the basement away from him. We lock him in his room when it's usually running. (the kids' parents know about his disability) My husband works long hours and is often up early for work and home late. I'm not saying he isn't helpful, just that we can't have an eye on him at all times. + +One other reason I want him out is because of the people he hangs out with. He often puts us in the position to allow them over because he invites them over without asking and we find out after they show up. All they do when they're (3 other boys his age) together is cause havoc in our neighborhood. I've seen on the community facebook page stories of people getting stuff thrown at cars, disturbing people at night by being super loud, and starting fights. Like this time I took him shopping because normally he loves doing that with me. He was being good so I agreed I'll buy him a drink. As he was walking up to get the drink a little kid was walking up with his dad. The dad said to my son ""hey man let the kid grab one first."" That sent my son into a whole fit. I was so ashamed I paid for the guy's groceries and gave him 50 dollars. + +One night I had gotten a notification on my ring doorbell. During the night, I was scrolling through the camera when I saw the car pull out of our driveway. It could not be anyone else because his father was out working, and I was the only person in the house, other than our daughter. He apparently just wanted to go on a joyride around the neighborhood. He is a danger to himself and the people in our neighborhood. I cannot control him and this event was the final straw. I just don’t know what possessed him to do something like this, he doesn’t know how to drive and I can thank god that he got back safely. After the car incident me and my husband can not leave anything laying around. We should have learned this lesson a while ago when he stole our credit card and bought 500 hundred dollars worth of online currency. We made him pay us back after he got a job at McDonalds but he got fired from his job for yelling at a customer.",0 +6167,"Dealing with the narcissistic inlaws. I’m 29/F husband is 27/M baby 10m/M + +I'm at my wits end with my husbands family, and with him too sometimes. They've hated me from day one and have played every card they can to split us up, and honestly I'm just waiting for the day for it to happen. One day I know one of us is going to walk out and not look back if we don't get help, but my husband refuses any kind of help because he wont admit they're emotionally abusive and narcissistic because that's his ""normal"". They don't have anything to do with our baby, they choose going out drinking over seeing him, and then they blame me for not having a relationship with him. I've given them all chance after chance to have the relationship but they won't because deep down they're not really interested, but they need someone to blame so they don't look like the bad people. I don't want our child to be brought up around abuse/this kind of behaviour, but I've never stopped them trying. Whenever I ask my husband to defend me he says ""let's be honest, you'll never let [our child] be a part of their lives. When our baby was born (we lived with her until he was 5 months), my husbands mum would lock me and the baby out in the rain (put her key in the door) so we couldn't get in, she wouldn't let us put heating on in the house so I had to take my newborn to a friends house every day (even though we paid all of her rent), she's tried tripping me up whilst carrying the baby at church, which several people witnessed and were going to call her out but I asked them not too because of the argument it would cause, I would hand the baby to her when he was a little one and she would put him down to wash dishes or play on her phone, then tell everyone I don't let her see the baby, and now my husband has told her to come see the baby and *I'M* going to leave the house so she doesn't feel uncomfortable. Which if/when I refuse to do it’ll come back to ""you'll never let my mum see him"". I've accepted the fact that my husband will never back me, not any time soon anyway, and it hurts me. But my child will always come first. And honestly, the family is toxic. They're not just emotionally abusive, but my husband was physically abused when he was a child so it really irks me when he turns on me because I'm not willing to take that risk because ""they've changed"". + +I've told my husband I'm not going to wait around forever for him to sort out his priorities. + +Aside from counselling (husband refuses) and leaving (…lol) what even is there left to do.",0 +6168,"Hello, Waiting until after the holidays to break up with my fiancé. I’m not happy with him any more and I think he might feel the same.. We’ve been together for almost seven years and been engaged for 3. We now have a 5 month old and he has a son from a previous relationship who I’ve been around since he was 3 years old, he’ll be 9 in December. I love his kid like he’s my bio son. My fiancés mom and I get along very well and she lives with us. I feel like when it’s just her, me and the kids everything is so calm and we have such a good time and the energy is so positive but when he comes home or comes around the energy is down and he just brings so much negativity. Even when before I had the baby. I’m starting to take it very personal and I feel like I also hold a lil resentment toward him because of what he says to me when we argue. Out of love and respect I don’t take it as far as he does. He always goes below the belt. I feel like he’s very unappreciative and I just can’t take it anymore. I realized that I am very unhappy now and I��m ready to just let it go. He’s a good provider and I’m not saying he’s such a terrible guy I just think we just might not be good for each other. I’ve realized my worth and I know I’m the real deal(meaning I’m a good partner). I’ve helped with his mom for years, and his son for years and Have made things easier for him but I feel like all I get is his ass to kiss. He says he appreciates me but I don’t feel the appreciation at all. For the kids sake I’ll wait until after the holidays but I think this is it for us.",0 +6169,"Thanksgiving. I (f 25) was invited by my boyfriend's (m 30) families thanksgiving. We have been together for 9 months and are serious (planning on moving in together in 5 months.) I asked my mom what time she was having Thanksgiving dinner at, and she told me 3:30pm and I told her I was going to my boyfriend's parents at 5, and she blew up. She told me we aren't married and that it would ""be a shame"" if I missed anything. And that she assumed I would be spending the holiday with family. + + Is it unreasonable of me to split the holiday with my family and my boyfriend's family?",0 +6170,"My mom is showing signs of Dementia/Alzhemiers. should I move home?. I'm 31 and wondering if I should quit my job and move back home to help out. I like my job but I'm not making crazy money to where it's dumb to leave. My mom has been acting strange and calls me asking where shes livesn and can I come take her home. Even though she is calling me on the home phone. My dad is there to help her but a part of me feels like I should go back. + +Just wondering if anyone has been through something like this and advice on what's the best decision.",0 +6171,"My mom’s friend has been ignoring her calls and text messages. But when I text her, she replies to me. What should I tell her?. So lately, my mom has been complaining that one of her friends hasn’t been responding to her text messages. Which is quite rude considering that my mom has always been there to help her during her toughest times. And she’s also quite a nice person, easy to get along with. No one has ever had anything negative to say about my mother. I’ve even seen her handle the hardest people you can ever imagine. Likewise her personality is calm and she never likes to escalate a situation. +So now after weeks of reflecting, I decided to text her friend by asking where she’s at. And then I get a sudden response from her. So now I’m not so sure what to say to her. Should I confront her about the ignorance she has towards my mother? Or should I just leave it between my mother and her friend?",0 +6172,"Who should get the biggest room?. Moving into a new house, have 3 children, 5[F], 9[M], 15[M]. There are 3 rooms other than our room, one large one with a bathroom, and two other smaller ones that are similar sized. Who should get the largest room? The oldest? Or should the female get their own bathroom?",0 +6173,"Fear-based parenting radiates anxiety and doubt. It sends your child a message that the world is dangerous and they need to be very afraid.. Fear-based parenting involves a lot of restrictions that are meant to protect and guide a child. When a parent uses fear-based parenting, they tend to be overprotective and rarely let their child get into situations that are tough or uncomfortable.",0 +6174,"I'm off to a bad start with potential step-family.. I know you shouldn't judge a book by its cover, but we're really off to a bad start. This kind of bad start might be an omen for incompatibility in the future. + +To me, a hug has always been an unspoken way to saying ""I love you like family."" I typically wouldn't hug the mailman, but I hug all my relatives and closest friends. + +My dad's girlfriend ""Nicole"" is a nice woman, who's a bit religious, and that's perfectly ok. From her previous marriage, she has one son and one daughter. They're all really nice. + +Unsurprisingly, I gave all three of them hugs. I did this every time I saw them. I have given them lots of hugs. I've been doing this for months. + +Yesterday Nicole told me that she knows I'm just being nice, but I should stop hugging her son. We're not family yet and she doesn't think boys and girls should be hugging. **EDIT: Just to clarify, she didn't mean that to be cold. She kind of emphasized the ""yet"" part. It was like we're almost family, and we're going to get there, but we're about 90% of the way so far.** + +The fact that she waited months to tell me this is a red flag. Also, the fact that it's a problem for her is another red flag. + +I'm not saying she's wrong. She's entitled to her beliefs, but if her beliefs clash with mine so much, then maybe this is just the tip of the iceberg. + +Do you have any advice?",0 +6175,"Mum has lied to me (25m) for months about finances.. Hi- may be a long one and any takes on this would be valuable. + +So around 2019, our family had a housefire and had to move. We rented, and still do, so mostly the big issue was insurance around possessions. We got the payment for this, which was very clear cut, extremely late, and gave us a really bad year moving from place to place with friends, etc. + +We moved in to a new place at the start of 2020, and we all know how that year went financially too, for most. + +My mum had told me she was going to an Insurance Ombudsman about the insurance company, and that we were entitled compensation for it. Through this process, she seemed to be very consumed contacting people, getting details, etc. + +(For those that don't know, an Ombudsman is, from what i understand, a government body that holds insurance companies to account over their policies for discrepancies/injustices.) + +Eventually, we fast forward to January. Throughout this time, my mum has relied on me a lot, when I've been in work, when I've not had work, when I started University, for finances. I took out a £2900 loan with my bank to buy her out of a loan that she had taken with a 'payday loan' company with insane APR%. She promised to pay this off, but never did- I had to pay the full sum. Alongside this, support with board to pay the rent which is around £990pm, and various bills that she comes up short on. + +​ + +She cannot work, due to a litany of nasty surgeries she's had to have done, and for the most part, spends her time indoors. + +In January however, she told me that we had finally won the ombudsman case, and that the Insurance Company would be fined £23k. That's a lot of money- yet her reaction seemed off; she did not celebrate at all and seemed nonchalant. She coupled this news for further asking for support financially, on top of that which I'd paid, and I did, as the assurance of more money was coming. She'd promised to give me some of this money for my help. + +As the months went on, she kept explaining the delays on payment. I noticed a trend that this was ALWAYS on the expected payment date. I mildly confronted her in March that this was very odd, and that I couldn't really believe it, but she said it was the case. + +Today, she asked me for further financial support- bearing in mind I am a student who currently does not have a job as of the past few months. I told her that I'm doing all I can, and that I am already in overdraft (which is true.) but she insisted that, when you divide it month-by-month, it wasn't that much that I'd paid. + +I got angry at this, and began to confront her. I confronted her about the ombudsman, and asked to see a single email from them. She grew extremely defensive, we argued, and then I went for a walk. + +Fifteen minutes into my walk, she sent me an image of the email- which looked very unprofessional. When I got home, I asked to see the email address, and it was as I suspected, a fake email address setup by 10minutemail (temporary free email address). + +When I confronted her that she was lying to me, and told her that I held no judgement and wanted to just talk about it and know the truth, she routinely denied the fact that she was lying despite overwhelming evidence. I asked her to swear on my life that this email was real, and she did- despite the fact it is from a spoof email. + +She then changed the subject onto something I'd not heard before; that she was struggling with her mental health, that she had attempted suicide twice, and that the pressure was getting too much. + +​ + +I did not push the ombudsman an inch more, and focused on learning about this from her. She was extremely upset. I tried to assure her that I am present for her, and if she ever feels like this again that she should tell me. I also implored her to speak to a medical professional about her attempts, but denied that she wanted that. After that, she left for a few hours and is now barely speaking to me, very withdrawn. + +​ + +I cannot lie- I am still overwhelmingly furious that I have been gaslit for months on end, promised financial help myself, and then lied to, all to use as leverage for borrowing/taking more money from me, but I don't feel like I can express that to her with how she is at the moment, and what she told me. I feel like I'd be sticking the dagger in more. + +​ + +I've been considering moving out of the house, now I'm at University, as it would probably be cheaper and I'd have more independence, but I'm now so split on it. I feel like my trust with my mum has been absolutely destroyed. On the other hand, she's my mum, I still love her, and her stories about her suicide attempts make me feel like I would be leaving someone who already feels so alone. + +It's a tricky situation, and I feel like I needed to put this somewhere, or speak to someone, or it'd drive me insane, but if you have any thoughts, let me know. + +TL;DR- My mum lied to me that our family had won a legal case, and lied about the payment coming in soon for over a year as leverage for me to give her more money. When confronted and proven wrong, she denied it, and told me that she was feeling suicidal, had attempted it twice, and that the pressure had become too much. I don't know how to support anymore.",0 +6176,"Do Aunts Have Lasting Relationships With Their Niblings?. My brother and his wife have a baby is just over a year old now, and I love him so much. He's one of the greatest joys in my life and I don't plan on having my own kids any time soon. My brother and I have a good relationship and me and my sister-in-law get along really well. I live in the apartment right above them so I try to stop in and say hi every day. + +That being said, I don't have any close relationships with any of my aunts or uncles. They were around a lot when I was growing up, mostly because me and my cousins were close in age, but as I got older I saw them less and less to the point where I didn't even know my aunt moved states. I just want to know if this is an inevitability? Will my nephew eventually see me as a stranger?",0 +6177,"Will constantly pressuring my wife to having sex eventually ruin our marriage?. I Want more sex, but she wont give it to me, is it bad to ask for it every night and pressure?",0 +6178,Anyone else who doesn’t enjoy Christmas much?. For me I feel like the day is just about pleasing everyone else. Being somewhere else all day long when you’d rather be doing your own festivities at your own home. Getting the death stare when you want to leave after being there for a whole 10 hours.,0 +6179,"I cut off every possible way for family to reach out to me. Hi everyone, + + +This might be long and I just want want to vent. +Family means so much to me, I love them so much, but I had to put a stop. I'll try to make it as short as possible. + + +I am from Morocco, and a about 1.5 years ago I went to the US, to live, since I couldn't remain anymore in my birth country. The reason is I am transgender, and probably something really bad could happen. +I started my life here, transitioning, working and building something for myself. I had a hard time explaining to my family my situation, but they just don't get it. Their minds can't process it. I don't blame them. My twin does understand, he is not religious, but still he doesn't want to use my correct pronouns under the excuse that he spent a lot of time with me and it's weird. He is not muslim, he's doesn't like religions so that's not a factor. He's just hard headed, and he is just against the whole idea of LGBTQ. + + +This took a tole over me. Once I start feeling good about myself, one quick call would turn upside down and put me in depression and dysphoria, with comments about my eyebrows, my mannerism, and suggestions to marry a woman and give birth to a child. I am a ""man"" and I should man up, grow a beard and some \*alls. + + +I am really tired, surviving and wishing to breath another day. With this also on my plate, I decided to turn off all my social media, and stay away from them. I love them so much, I would \*ill for them, they are good people and kind and loving. But I'm really tired, and this hurts like a \*itch. + + +Can anyone share their experiences similar to this (breaking off with family). I think about them every second, and I don't really know how to cope. + + +Thank you for reading this long text.",0 +6180,"Is this too much candy for a goodie bag for preschoolers. My sons preschool is having a Halloween party this week at his school. All the parents are bringing goodie bags in for the kids. + +Here’s what my goodie bags have in it for each kid: + +6 small tootsie rolls +2 popping candies +2 dum dum suckers +1 blow pop sucker +1 snack sized riced crispy treat + + +Is that too much to give 3 and 4 year olds?",0 +6181,"Friends, I finally got married! I'm so glad I found a woman with whom we completely match and complement each other! I wish y'all the same happiness.. I feel incredibly happy. How long will it last? I think I did everything right and have no regrets. Love y'all!",0 +6182,"What to do about my son getting expelled?. He’s had some behavioral incidents, recently had to serve an indefinite suspension. I was called on Friday and told the school is dismissing my son, they believe him to be a nuisance that harms the school culture. I don’t understand how I’m the world he can get expelled when he was already suspended, but I’m told the decision is final. What should I do?",0 +6183,"I inherited. Should I pay my cousin's bills?. Throw away account. Please forgive the genderless pronouns and clumsy writing. + +My parent died 4 years ago and left me a decent amount as primary heir. My parent also left my cousin a house free and clear, all the cousin needed to pay were upkeep and taxes. I just found out that they have NEVER paid the taxes and now could lose the house. + +My parent raised this cousin's parent after they were orphaned. My parent felt deep responsibility for their sibling and bailed them out of multiple situations over more than 50 years: debt, bankruptcy, DUI's, you name it. My cousin has taken after their parent when it comes to bad decisions. Before they died, my parent told me that they had done their best by their sibling and it was NOT my responsibility to continue bailing them out. + +When my parent died, their sibling was not happy with the will and made my life hell with vicious calls and voicemails, so I blocked them. I maintained some contact with my cousin. Just to add, my cousin has a young child who my parent adored and set up a college fund for. + +As I see it, I have the following options: + +1. Do nothing. Let my cousin risk homelessness for them and the child. +2. Alert cousin to the facts and hope they make good. ( I know they don't have the ready funds to catch up on the taxes, but maybe there is something to be worked out with the county.) +3. Pay the back taxes and give cousin a stern warning that I won't do it again. +4. ??? + +I don't want to be a sucker, but I don't want to be an AH either. And I really do worry about the child. Please give me some input. + +UPDATE: I sent a text, playing casual.. ""Did you know....?"" Cousin responded, ""Yes, I'm taking care of it. Don't worry."" I guess that is that. Thank you everyone!!!",0 +6184,"Two bedrooms and 3 children living space. Does anyone here live in a small townhouse with 2 bedrooms and 3 children? +Due to the rising cost of living here in Australia, I am considering moving into my mother’s brand new townhouse and helping her with her mortgage. She won’t be living in the house but I feel unsure about it. My children are 8,4 and a newborn. My two boys can easily share the same room as they’d prefer to share their space for now and I’m thinking to give up my room once the baby girl is ready to have her own room. + +I am thinking to get a really nice sofa bed that I can sleep in until we have enough savings to buy our own place or rent a bigger place once my youngest goes to school. Childcare will be more expensive in the next four years and I feel this is the best way to manage it all for now. + +Any advice? I guess I’m looking at different perspectives and getting opinions on what to look out for down the track as I’ve been feeling down for not being able to provide my children with a better living space. Thank you!",0 +6185,"Virgin until 34. Hi . I know technically I wasn't a virgin until I was 34 as I had sex on one occasion when I was 21 but I didn't have sex again until 34. + +I was extremely shy and self conscious and I was extremely shy around girls so I basically stayed away from girls altogether until I met my now wife at 34. + +Looking back there was nothing actually wrong with me as I was quite attractive and my body was pretty good. I just had very low self esteem and I thought no woman would ever want me. + +Now this is where my issue is. Now I have a young son who is 17 and he started dating a girl about 2 months ago. We sat down and had a talk one day and he told me he was having sex. + +When he told me he was having sex I got extremely jealous and I have not been the same with him since. I am moody around him.. + +You see I am am extremely jealous that he is having all this sex with a pretty young girl and he is only 17 and I had to wait until I was 34. I feel sick to my stomach that he is having a great time and is probably having sex all the time with this pretty girl. + +I never experienced all that he has now and I am so jealous of him. I feel it's just not fair as I had a crap teen and young adult years. + +How can I fix this.",0 +6186,"Formerly incarcerated parent says we are not his children anymore. My father was in prison for 7 years. 3 months ago he moved back into my family’s house after being released. For the first two months, I think he was love bombing my siblings and I. He bought me nice clothes, my brother a new car, etc. He would take us out to nice dinners too. + +We were all kinda quiet/awkward towards him for those two months. Even before he was incarcerated he was not around and didn’t raise us, so none of us feel super comfortable with him. + +Two weeks ago, he went into my sister’s room and accused us of not being his kids. He kept asking her to take a DNA test and then proceeded to kick our dog. He said that we are not his children and that he doesn’t want us to live in our own house anymore. He claims that all we want is his money. He told us to call the cops on him. Ever since the house has been extremely tense and uncomfortable. + +The reason for his meltdown? Apparently because we are not communicating with him enough despite his efforts to connect with us. According to him it’s also because the four of us are messy and don’t clean up after ourselves. I admit that the dog does pee on the floor and it can take hours before one of us cleans it. Sometimes we leave the laundry sitting in the dryer and forget to fold it. Yes, we are wrong for being messy, but it does not excuse his abusive behavior. + +Ever since he moved back in, our mother moved someplace else. She is extremely passive about all of this, blaming his behavior on the weather and stating that he will always be our father so we should be actively trying to mend the relationship. + +I’m just extremely angry and tired and sick of all of this. I’m tired of family members excusing his behavior. I’m tired of his actions dictating my mental state. I thought that him being in prison was hard enough, but it has been even harder with him on the outside. + +We are constantly gaslit by our parents for feeling this way so I just want to ask am I the crazy one?",0 +6187,Anyone dealt with someone who shows up early to make them look late? What personality disorder is that?. Showing up early to make a person feel late especially a person with ADHD is such a mean thing to do! It took me almost 15 years to figure out my ex did this to make me frantic and my brother even asked him about it and my ex told him he does it to keep me on my toes. Also showing up unannounced or offering wonderful things on a moments notice all turned out to be manipulations! I thought I'd finally mastered the situation by not accepting rides or by simply being on time for family events with our daughter as scheduled and yesterday I got bamboozled again! Daughters college orientation. She lives with me and he was picking her up for orientation and dropping her off back at home. He offered to take me because I really wanted to be there too and we could go as a family. I agreed. Two days before he said be ready by 9:30. The night before he said be ready by 9:30. The morning of the orientation he texted be ready by 9:30. By 9 I was showered and dressed and ready to go and I needed to walk the dog before we left. At 9 22 I'm 3/4 of a block from home and I get an angry call from him saying hello we are in the car and have been waiting for you your late and if your daughters education is not important to you fine I'm leaving without you and as I approached the apartment at 9:24 they were already gone. I put the dog inside went back outside and called at 9:26 and he did not pick up. I texted my daughter she said she tried to make him wait but he sped off angry and that I should not Uber or bus as it would make him more angry and I said no problem. I don't want to stress her out on an important day but I did cry a little I felt so defeated. It was an important event that won't happen again and I let myself miss it. I was 6 minutes early and he acted as if I was late. It took years to learn that it was happening and years to learn to avoid situations where I could be stressed out our late. Worst is he laughs at me for being upset about it and said why should he care about my feelings if I don't care about his. Is this a symptom of a syndrome or personality disorder? It's part of gaslighting I know because originally he did it to make me think I was late but then I caught on. Has anyone else ever dealt with people that go to elaborate ends to make them miss important events to make them look irresponsible to their kids or others? Luckily my kid knows what happened she just does not want to make her dad mad he's got a bad temper. But yelling only not abusive.,0 +6188,"Is my family weird?. So this may sound weird but I want to know if other families have this as my boyfriend is struggling with my crazy family. +My family have this weird non verbal language thing we can all do, we can have full blown conversations and arguments with this non verbal communication. It mainly involves eyes, facial movements, some head gestures and some arm or hand movements but it is mainly in the face. +I didnt realise how much we use this until i was talking about it with my boyfriend. Apparently me and my family can make decisions such as what we are doing or where we are going without saying a word. And my boyfriend doesnt know what the plan is, because we didnt actually say anything lol. I never realised this until he said something and then I had a long think about it and was like holy shit we do do that! +Do other families have this kind of communication? +Side note this also includes the wider family, we all bloody do it 😂",0 +6189,"I'm tired of my parents pretending they didn't raise me to be me (rant). I (25f) was always a very well-behaved child and had really good grades. I never gave my parents any trouble. They both worked full-time my whole childhood, though, so we had nannies come over and watch me / do house chores. Imo that's what made me really independent. I played alone, I started cooking for myself at like 9, and I did most homework by myself (except math bc I hated it; they helped me sometimes at night with specific questions when coming back from work, but they got pissed if I waited for them to start hw). They never had to worry about me. My brother (18) had a completely different childhood because my parents were older, they change their shifts to half-time, and he was much closer with them, my mom cooked for him and helped with his homework all the way through high school. + +That's fine. I love that my brother had the opportunity to share more time with them, and I'm glad he received the help I once didn't. I get things were harder when I was a kid, and they had to work more hours and they weren't able to be around as much. + +However, they don't like that I almost always want to be alone, they don't like that I am more reserved and don't share much about other aspects of my life; my older sister told me they think I'm super grumpy, but I'm not, I'm just not close with my parents (I have very close relationships outside my family). But the thing is, they practically pushed me to be that way, and it's really unfair that they don't see where my behavior and attitude come from. It feels almost like gaslighting (they're both psychologists, btw, they should deduct these things). They want me to be like my brother is with them, but I simply can't, and it's not my fault. I like our relationship as is, with some distance. + +In short: at 25, my parents want a closer relationship with me but were very absent during my childhood, and I'm comfortable keeping some distance. I hate that parents pretend to forget what their kids' childhood was like.",0 +6190,Is it unreasonable to ask family for money towards a home down payment instead of anything for Christmas?. I’m 33 with a wife and 2 year old. My wife and I both would like to be in our own home by the time our son starts school and we had been working towards that until we had to drain our savings due to having to take time off due to illnesses in the family. That being said my stepmother and father keep bugging us on what we would want for Christmas. Neither one of us are materialistic but my stepmother goes crazy with the holiday and usually gets us useless things. My stepmother and my father are pretty well off and my wife and I never ask for help with anything unlike my brother. Is it unreasonable or rude to ask for money to help with a down payment?,0 +6191,"Should I ignore my mom's opinions?. I'm an adult trying to build a life and move out of my parent's house. However, I'm afraid I won't be able to do that with my mom's approval. + +My mother says she always imagined I would buy a new apartment in the center of the city. However, that's not even what my boyfriend and I want at all. We want a house with a small garden since we really appreciate a little space outdoors. + +Last week we showed her a house we were considering buying. It was a nice house, 5 min away from the city center and with a small terrace. However, while we were there, my mom had a total MELTDOWN, had to sit down for a minute because she was ""so horrified"" and then proceeded to argue with the real estate agent. Then she started crying as if someone was dying and acting like this was the WORST THING that has ever happened to her. + +When we went home, she started talking about how miserable she was with our choices, how it was affecting her health and well being. I tried explaining to her that this is OUR life and OUR dreams, not hers. That we wanted her honest opinion about the house and not a meltdown about it not being ""her dream"". + +I love my mom and I feel like I need her approval for everything in life, but I'm afraid a house is just too much. She will never agree with anything we pick. I'm afraid I have to cut her out. What should I do?",0 +6192,"My [20 f] Girlfriend doesn't want kids, but I'm [23 m] opened to having kids in the future. What future steps should I make?. My present girlfriend is 20 female and I'm 23, we've been together for almost 2 years now, I love this girl so much, she really gives me that special feeling that you don't find in everybody, I really feel safe and warm like I'm home when I'm around her. + +I can't contemplate not being with her. I am madly in love with our relationship and the bond that we have created is something from another planet. I really want my future to be with this girl because is something special about this girl that I never felt in my previous relationships. + +I knew pretty early in our relationship on the 1 year mark that she is not a big fan of having kids in the future but at the time I didn't think it was a big deal to me. But as time goes on I think I will find myself struggling to contemplate of never having kids, and not even trying to have them in my lifetime not even trying to maybe have them. + +And I really don't know what to do it literally drives me crazy because I thought that my present girlfriend and my potential kids are non-negotiable things in my life. And it hurts like hell because for me it means giving up on my dream of a perfect life and having kids and a beautiful house with her because she's a really special girl, she really is. + +But she's really a great person she really loves me, and she adores pets and it's good with my younger siblings, she likes their company. But for now, she told me that she doesn't feel that special about young kids, like some other friends of hers when they see them. Because I think she has that one big fear that she would be a bad mom to her children like her father and mother have been to her. She really had a hard childhood and teenage years, her parents fought for years with all the yelling and screaming, and they really had a bad relationship with each other and also with kids. Because her dad is a real pain in the ass when he has a bad day he is really arrogant, and multiple times told her, bad things about her and how bad of a mother she would be. And then I realised where is the real root of a problem for her not wanting kids because she doesn't want to be like that to her children and she's scared as hell that she would be I guess. And we are fairly certain that it has rolled over into this situation. She is afraid that she might f up their lives by being a bad parent. She also struggles with bit of depression and anxiety but i think we are making progress and appears to be slowly getting better + +We have a conversation about half a year maybe more ago about kids and all about how we see our future. Why she would give up so early in her mind of never wanting a family? She told me that she would be a bad mom and that she doesn't have patience with kids and to much people on planet everything, but when talking her ratio of wanting kids and not wanting is like 90% sure of not wanting kids, and like 10% for having them. But if she would have kids and could choose she would have maybe one baby boy. She told me that she's thinking of us breaking up, because it's maybe best for both of us, especially for me because she doesn't want to hurt me if she doesn't change her mind. Because everything she wants is all the best for me and doesn't want me to hold me back and she's ready to break up with me because of that. But I want kids in maybe I don't know in 10-15 years' time (and no sooner) because I want to build my career first to. And I don't know what to do if I let her go and break up or is it better to stay together move in together (because we don't live together at this point we live with our parents) and isolate her from that toxic environment and show her the real world without over stressing about parents and all. + +At first, I was like ok rip the bandaid and break up with her it is what it is, its no other way out of this but I don't know if it is the right thing to do. I know that I'm a bit selfish and that I want both her and the kids with her, but I don't know if she would change her mind. I really do want to work things out in the future and have a perfect life with her and have the perfect life with her, but future me is not sure if I could end my dream of pursuing a family and having kids. + +For now, we figured out that we would stay together and tried to figure things out down the road. I thought a lot about that and I think breaking up with her this early in life is kinda pulling a trigger way to early and letting her go because we are not into the marriage territory yet. Because I think we are both a bit too young to think about kids but I'm scared as I kinda wait for her to figure things up and fully deice what she wants I'm scared that she waits for me to figure things out. + +Maybe some general advice from people that had a similar experience really would mean the world to me because I'm literally broken on the inside because she really is something special. And as much as I know what the general advice will be, I need to hear it because I may never face up to the truth of it. Don't hold back.",0 +6193,MIL hasn't met our 10 week old son. For context. MIL had a friend who was pregnant at the se time she was expecting my partner. Her friends baby was sadly still born. Now the issue is we gave our son the same name as her friends son without knowing. MIL told us the day after our sons birth and wanted us to change his name but I said no because we had decided on this name after my 20 week scan. I snapped because I believe that my MIL doesn't want to meet him because of his name but my partner said I don't think that's the case but has not messaged her to find out why.,0 +6194,"Spending all my money on keeping my family.. I received a settlement for an injury at work (55F) my spouse of 34 years (62M) is taking advantage. He left a good paying job, 10 years ago to start his own company. I was a SAHM when our kids were young because of how expensive child care is. I’ve paid for food and bills for years but, for the past 4 months I have been paying everything; rent, bills, food, gas out of my settlement. This has added up to over $5000 a month. I bought a car cheap because ours was too expensive to repair and is sitting in the carport. The landlord has done no repairs since we’ve lived here (15 years) because hubby made some “deal” to not pay rent for a couple of years for a % in his company. I haven’t spent the settlement on rehabilitation for my injury, only living expenses. My parents are dead and any inheritance I ever got went to supporting our family. In our area I can’t even afford a 1 bedroom on what I could make and I still have 2 kids living at home. I know I need to go but I’ve been with him since I was 19, I have no college, no real computer skills, no marketable job skills, and no where to go. Please don’t be cruel, I need real advice on getting out. I realize, finally, that he has always been taking advantage of me one way or another. + +TL/DR feel like spouse has always been using me, now I have nothing left",0 +6195,"What’s your worst childhood experience that you feel you can’t speak about because everyone acts like you’re crazy?. So here goes. I’ll start by saying my father having visitation rights to me. That was my worst experience. Growing up I watched many things happen that a child should never get to see or experience. +I was very young and got drug searched by three male police officers and they had dumped all my belongings onto the side of the road. Here’s another anytime I came over I was blamed for the mess that was in the kitchen forced to clean it the moment I got there, and expected to clean again just before going home. + +I was bashed for not giving what most would called a sister my stuff. I had money stolen clothes stolen and most importantly my phone stolen. + +I know for sure if I could take back time and change one thing it would be that my dad never got a chance to meet me.",0 +6196,"My sister is basically getting catfished & I’m not being supportive enough?. My (44) sister has been heavy all her life & had received gastric bypass about a year ago. Since then she has been on all these different dating websites & has a very “active” social life. I keep telling her to be careful because you never know what kind of creeps are out there & if these people are even who they say they are. + +Well, for about 5 months now, she has been talking to a man that is much younger than her & “supposedly” in the military in a different country. Now, not trying to be mean because I love my sister but after that surgery she looks much older than what she really is & this kid…..well, looks like a kid. Yeah I know there are such things as men & women looking for sugar mamas & daddy’s but this is ridiculous. + +Anyways, she talks about him all the time. It’s like listening to a teenage girl go on & on about her new boyfriend. My son lives with her & he tells me he can’t stand it & he’s upset because everyone in the family & all the family friends can see this guy isn’t who he says he is. We’re not trying to be mean at all but I feel we’re all coming off that way to her. +Since losing the weight she looks frail & like she’s in her mid to late 50’s. This guy is 32 & looks like he’s 20. She’s sent me the pics he sends her & while handsome, he’s not the type of guy you would think she would be with. The family has told her time & time again that she’s getting catfished. + +Here’s another reason we say that. He told her that he lost his wallet & phone. He hadn’t texted her for a couple days & when he did, that was his excuse. He told her that he hasn’t eaten since then either due to not having his card anymore. He asked her for some money for food & she sent it. (side thought: why didn’t he just eat on base) At first they had trouble with the sending so he suggested bitcoin & told her to send it to his friend. Y’all see where I’m going with this. + +Fast forward a week & she found out someone had tried to take $88,000 out of a dummy account that she uses specifically for buying things on Amazon. She only puts money in that account when she makes Amazon purchases so there is typically never money in it. She had to deal with the bank & it was a mess. Mind you she didn’t tell me about this, my son did. He said he was tired of trying to make her see. He didn’t want me to tell her he mentioned it so I had to give it a couple days & bring up the fact of the original amount she sent & I told her to be careful because this guy could easily take all her money. She’s all “no, he’s not like that. He’s such a sweet guy & would never do anything like that. I’m not stupid sissy, I would never fall for the okie-doke.” 🫣😒🤔🤯 + +She says that this guy told her he was supposed to get out of the military in early May. Now it’s pushed back to late July. Mind you, I’m a military wife myself so I know this can happen but this seems awfully fishy to me. This guy supposedly told her that they are gonna move into his house together when he comes home & that my son can move in too. 🥴 Ummmmm, ain’t no man gonna let another man he doesn’t know move into his home. Alfa male & all. Not gonna happen. + +I have said things to her so many times about making plans with a guy she has only Skyped with one time & the picture was grainy. My teenage girls told me, “Mama, there’s an app that you can get that will do that so you can’t be seen clearly. (side note: what’s with these kids knowing this mess now days). So my ask is, how the heck do I get it through her head that this is fantasy & not reality at all? She is basing her life around what this “kid” wants. WTH?!",0 +6197,"Would you consider this possessive. a relative who demands you to sell your investments (stocks, real estate and more) so you don’t “lose everything”. +They don’t know what you sold, when you sold, what you bought or when you bought. They just take a interest in your finances including you credit score (which they don’t know) and this isn’t a spouse we are talking about. +Just a relative who knows you are successful and keeps saying you will lose it all for being a bad person. They also scream when you don’t give them thousands of dollars. It seems entitled",0 +6198,"19 weeks pregnant with biracial baby, my father insists on making racial slurs. I need advice. As the title says I (21f) am 19 weeks pregnant with a biracial baby. My boyfriend (24m) is Mexican, his family crossed the border while his mother was pregnant with him. My father (44m) grew up partially in rural Illinois and partially deep in southern West Virginia. My father and I have always had a rocky relationship because the way he presents himself is very offensive. He is very opinionated, vocal about those opinions, and has no consideration for how anybody else feels. I have came to accept him for who he is and began to overlook the things I don’t agree with as he is my father and his absence in my life has always hurt me. (He is a international semi driver so physically he isn’t around basically at all). My boyfriend is from California and so is all of his family, my boyfriend is currently living in West Virginia with my family and I. Neither of us had close grandparents growing up and since his parents are 2,500+ miles away, I have been heavily relying on my parents to give my son the grandparents I feel like he deserves. They are both happy and so excited to have a grandson and up until this point they have been offering me a lot of help and trying to be there for me a lot which I really appreciate. Although, my dad and I have extremely conflicting views to when it comes to raising my son. I intend to take a gentle parenting approach, my father makes countless comments over how I am going to end up smacking him/hitting him because that’s the only option to make babies learn. Also to make them tough and ready for the “real world”. I of course don’t agree with that, explain to him every time why I do not and it usually ends up with him just laughing and disregarding my feelings and I just ignore him basically. Now, we have already had issues before over him saying inappropriate things to my boyfriend over his race. The real deal breaker happened yesterday morning though, my dad looked me and my boyfriend dead in our face and said that he will be calling my boyfriend, and my son both very offensive racial slurs but that he doesn’t mean anything about it. In his words, he “just says funny shit”. Even to the point that he said he would look at my boyfriends mother and call her the same offensive things, and make offensive jokes. Basically just being straightforward that he will be saying out of pocket things to my son, to my boyfriend, and every one of his family members. I told my dad that there is no way that he can do that. He responds with he won’t change who he is and if I don’t want him to talk like that around my son then he won’t be around him at all. I guess that speaks for itself, but I don’t want things to be this way. I understand he wants my son to be tough and ready to brace the real world but I do not want my sons trauma to come from his family. I don’t want to keep my dad out of my life forever, I would love for my son to have a relationship with him and I hope my dad wouldn’t ever actually say anything like they to him anyways but I can’t ignore these comments. I respect my boyfriends family tremendously and would never want my father to talk to them in the ways he said he would and I love my boyfriend so much this whole situation is really hard on him. We both want my dad around us and our son but agree unless some changes are shown there doesn’t seem to be anyway that will be happening. Is there anything I can say or do to make this better? I can’t imagine explaining to my son that his grandpa isn’t around because he can’t stop himself from making ignorant remarks. This whole thing is so stressful, heartbreaking, and downright infuriating. Any insight is appreciated as I feel lost. + +TLDR; my dad said he won’t be a part of my sons life if I don’t allow him to call him racial slurs, along with my boyfriend and his entire family. I want him around but not like this. I don’t know what to do.",0 +6199,"Who’s wrong in this situation?. Hey! I’m a 20 something married mother. I have always struggled with boundaries when it comes to my parents and my husband and I have often done what they want to keep the peace. (Ex: spending every holiday with them, never declining a dinner invite- we tried once and my mom lost it) + +I grew up in a Christian home and I still hold those beliefs. My husband has struggled with severe anxiety and was always afraid of medication. My parents told him to just pray about it bc we are not supposed to be anxious. My husband tried to self medicate for over an year on and off. He used delta 8 and he did lie to me about it. One day he came to me and told the truth bc he was sincerely sorry. He confessed that my brother (who used weed even before meeting my husband and who also struggles very much with mental health) and him had been doing it together occasionally. Obviously I was hurt by the lies but my husband and I have worked through that. We are better than ever. This is where it gets messy. + +My brother had been living with us at the time and begged my husband not to tell me. We told my brother that he had to work at least 25 hrs a week and he refused so we said he had to leave. He’s now living with my parents and he hates us. + +My parents blame my husband for where my brother is at. My dad will send group messages and not include my husband, they don’t visit us or check in. They think it’s all my husbands fault that my brother is in this situation bc they blame him for not being a better example. My husband did say he was going to try and help my brother so in that sense I can see how they feel betrayed. But they also sent their son to live with a 20 something, father of 2 who also struggled with mental health. That’s a lot of pressure. + +And instead of them sympathizing with my husband and showing him forgiveness they have cut him out until he does what they want which is take the blame. They have always been our support but since this situation they are not. Their love is so conditional. I can never imagine not be their for my children because they make mistakes (or their spouse does!) or chose to live differently than I have. + +(Adding this: my mother never apologized growing up, she was the victim in every situation, she hung up the phone on me when I FaceTimed her to show her my haircut bc she didn’t want me to cut it and I was 23, she cried when I announced my Pregnancy bc she said I wouldn’t have as much time to help her… just some examples) + +I guess I’d like some input from those out of the situation. Sorry if this is confusing! + +** editing to add that my husband is literally 1 year older than my brother and we are all in our 20s",0 +6200,"My dad tries to make me feel bad for not wanting to be a super aunt to my nieces and nephew. Am I crazy for feeling like this?. Hello everyone, I have three nieces and two nephews. One of my nephews died in 2018 from cancer. I have to say, that I absolutely love all my nieces and nephews. But, my dad expects me to be some kind of mother figure to them. Let’s start from the beginning. My mother died when I was 11 years old from breast cancer and my dad raised me and my two older brothers. My parents where married when my mom died. My oldest brother have three daughters and my middle brother have two sons, his oldest son was the one that died from cancer. I’m 24 years old and I’m trying to figure out what I want to do with my life. I just graduated from university this past May, I got a job a month and a half after graduating, I did that for about five months, and now I’m doing an internship for a law firm. I’m trying to move out of state in February to March. As much as I love my dad and brothers, ever since my mom died 12 years ago, they caused me a lot of pain. + +My mother loved children and I feel like my dad expects me to be like her. I think children are a blessing and deserve wonderful homes, but I’m not interested in having children of my own any time soon or raising someone else’s. I’m tired of being taken advantage of. My oldest brother doesn’t reach out until he needs me or my dad to watch his youngest kids. My dad volunteers to watch them and then he just pawns them off to me. Every time my nieces come over, I cook for them, clean after them, and take care of them. And my dad just goes on about his day doing whatever he wants, while I stay at home with them. Whenever I don’t feel like dealing with my nieces, he tries to make me feel bad about it. He reminds me that they are my nieces and I need to be there for them. My oldest brother just got a divorce for the third time. He went on and on about how I can relate to my nieces because their kids and their parents are no longer together. I told my dad, my mom dying and my niece’s parents no longer being together are two completely different things. They have their mother and father. + +My oldest niece have a lot of mental health issues. She’s 15. She tried to kill herself in March and she was sent to a mental hospital. I love my oldest niece to death, but she’s exhausting to deal with. She throws a fit whenever she doesn’t get her way, she will bombard you until she gets what she wants, she wants everyone to feel bad for her, and she’s a serial liar. I love her to death, but I don’t have the energy to deal with her. She came to stay with us July 2021 and the whole time she was here, I was miserable. My dad kept telling me that I needed to support her, show her that I love her, and I needed to be a better aunt. I was frustrated because he was taking his frustrations out on the wrong people. It’s my oldest niece’s mom and my oldest brother’s responsibility to make sure she’s getting the help and support she needs. I just started my new job then, and it was my very first job. I was new to the workforce, trying to learn my new job, and my dad expects me to focus on being a super aunt. + +I’m a 24 year old virgin woman. I made the decision not to have sex until I am married. I don’t want to chance any possibility of me having a child right now because I know that I would be a horrible mother. I’m not willing to sacrifice everything I need or want to do. I also have PCOS, so I might have a hard time having kids in the future. I want to move out of state, start my career, and start living for myself. Ever since my mom died, my whole life has been dealing with my exhausting family. Am I crazy for feeling like this?",0 +6201,"Shunned by family. A family member had a hunch I was dating, told the rest of the family and because of the whole 'wait till marriage' I got heavily scrutinised, talk badly about behind my back and when I decided not to stay in the family home instead prioritise myself and stay alone in a different city, I was completely shunned. + +It's hard not having any kind of support. The kicker is we broke up, I truly am alone ... don't know why I fought so hard to keep him in my life. He knew how what we had strained my relationship with family but still kept putting pressure on me to prioritise him, and I did (ultimately I have no one else to blame but myself)",0 +6202,"My nephew is deaf, where can I learn sign language?. I (22F) have a nephew (6M) we've just found out he's deaf and the older he gets, the more he'll lose his hearing. I'd like to learn British sign language to help him out. I love him to pieces and I see him like my son at times, so I want to be able to help him communicate. Does anyone know where I can learn British sign language? It would really benefit him if myself and my family learned.",0 +6203,"Is it normal for everyone to walk on eggshells around “man of the house”. Growing up I didn’t have my father in my life so I don’t know if this is a normal thing. Whenever I stayed with my friends who father lived with them, whenever the father came home it seemed like everyone tiptoed around him. Like they all got quiet around him and went to their rooms. They didn’t talk about certain things around him either. + +Now that I (24f) am older, with a child myself I wonder if this is just a normal dynamic. My partner (24m) and I just had a baby. We also have his cousin (16m) staying with us. Whenever my partner comes home, we stop talking about whatever we’re talking about and go to our separate rooms. My partner will then stay in the living room for hours playing the game/watching tv until he’s ready to go to bed. Even the dog we have will come in the room with me too, like the dog can feel the energy of like “give him space”. I don’t really like this dynamic but I don’t know is this is just a normal thing in families/something that shouldn’t be addressed. + +Background: my partner and I have been living together for 4 years. In the past I would do the same thing, give him space but it just feels toxic now that there are other people living with us, and I don’t think I feel comfortable with it continuing when our child gets to be older. + +I guess my question is it this normal and if it’s not normal, how should I approach this?",0 +6204,"Should I Just Contact My Younger Sister Who Had No Idea I existed Until Last Year?. + +So my parents broke up when I was 1 and my sister was born to his second wife when I was 2, I spent short periods with my father until I was 12 and then he kind of gave up as my mum was going down the court restraint route. + +From then I just spoke with my father about once a year until I was 30 which was 6 years ago, from then I've spoken with him about once every couple of months, so for 5 of the last 6 years I've been requesting he tell her about me. + +Last year my cousin who's good friends with my sister told her about me as she was sick of my father not telling her. Prior to that she had no idea I existed and so from that point I've now been requesting to meet her, as I haven't seen her since I was 12 and she was 9-10, though he always says maybe next time. + +Should I just directly contact her, as to me it seems as though he's never going to arrange anything. + +She runs her own private small(1 person) business so I can just call her anytime if I choose to. + +TL;DR Younger Sister had no idea I existed until last year, father doesn't seem interested in me meeting her, should I just call her?",0 +6205,"My aunt (75F) thinks that I (34F) should be my mom’s (73F) caregiver. I disagree.. To start, I am very conflicted about this and have been since my mom started having more serious health problems in 2020. I absolutely adore my mom and we have a great relationship. + +My mom and aunt, her older sister, are both retired and live together about an hour from where I live. It’s just the two of them. My aunt is the breadwinner of the two, so to speak, and my mom has lived with her in homes that my aunt has purchased. My mom receives social security and retirement, but I don’t know what if any financial arrangement they have. At one point I know my mom was paying rent to my aunt, but I don’t know what the current situation is. They bicker a lot and my aunt is not shy about telling anyone how she thinks things should be, but I’m glad they’ve stuck together. They’ve both been through very hard times in their lives and should enjoy retirement as much as they can. + +In 2020, my mom had what we thought was a heart attack but turned out to be angina. She has been a cigarette smoker for 30+ years and is now majorly dealing with the repercussions. She has stage 3 COPD, high blood pressure, and a-fib. I went immediately to be with her when I found out she was in the hospital, and for the rest of 2020 I took her to all of her many appointments with specialists and saw her in and out of the hospital a few more times because of her heart problems. It was a scary and traumatic time, but I was happy to be there for her. + +As you can imagine, her breathing isn’t great and she has a terrible cough. Heart attack and stroke are very relevant concerns with her condition. She had an oxygen machine for a while following the several incidents in 2020, but now she either no longer has one or never uses it. She’s on several medications for her heart. She’s not very active because of her condition and does use a CPAP while sleeping. She takes care of herself though and doesn’t seem to have any issues with that. She still goes to play bingo and little things like that that she has always done. + +The biggest problem is that she’s still smoking, which is going to make everything much worse much faster. Believe me, I’ve talked to her so many times about quitting along with everyone else, including her doctors. She also has a terrible diet and always has, but that’s also something she refuses to listen to me about. It’s heartbreaking because I want her to get healthy so badly and wish I could change it, but it’s ultimately her life and her decision so there’s not much I can do if she’s not willing or wanting to change. + +The last time I visited my mom and aunt was about a week ago. When my mom was outside smoking, my aunt brought up her smoking and told me I had to get her to quit. We had a genuine conversation about all the things I’ve mentioned, which has been discussed many times with the family as everyone has tried to get my mom to stop smoking. In short, my aunt told me that eventually I would need to take care of my mom because she doesn’t want to deal with it when it inevitably gets worse. + +For some family background, addiction has been very present in my immediate and extended family. My childhood was very traumatic and I grew up extremely poor. My mom had issues with alcoholism throughout my childhood but she busted her ass to raise two daughters as a single parent. I have an older sister who is estranged from the family because of drugs. My dad was also not around much and isn’t part of my life currently because of drugs as well. My family has always been dysfunctional and filled with trauma and drama, but I like to think that I “made it out.” Many of my family members have had to raise each other or take in other family members’ children temporarily or fully because of addiction issues. My aunt and I miraculously ended up on a more straight and narrow path and she has always been a strong female influence in my life. I very much respect her, even though we don’t see eye to eye on a lot of things. (Southern conservatism fyi) + +I’m single and live on my own. I do well for myself, especially considering where I came from. I’m financially stable and make a decent salary, but I don’t make a lot or an exorbitant amount of money. I get by and I’m proud of how far I’ve come, but I’m not in a position to be able to afford taking care of someone else on my own. + +Because I’m one of few stable and independent family members, it often gets suggested from various family members that I “should” do more to help out, such as raise my sister’s kids for example. (That’s a whole story on its own.) I’m not unaccustomed to being called selfish by my family, though I don’t agree. I don’t think it’s selfish to not want to take on someone else’s responsibilities or avoidable circumstances to the detriment of your own situation and quality of life. I help my mom and family whenever they ask and will always be there when I can, though they aren’t the type to always ask for help more than assume you should just be involved constantly. + +My thing is that I’ve overcome a lot of adversity to make a comfortable life for myself. I don’t have any crazy aspirations by any means, I just want to be happy and to be at peace in life. I had to grow up fast and look after myself a lot when I was growing up and, as much as I hate to say it because I love my mom to pieces and she has done a lot for me, I don’t want to be someone’s caregiver and responsible for their well-being. + +I hope to find a lifelong partner one day and am open to the idea of children but that is a different situation as far as being a caregiver, especially when you have someone to share the responsibility with. I feel like I haven’t lived much life yet and have struggled to get to where I am now. I’m sure my aunt feels the same way, so it’s very hard to know what the right thing to do is. + +I love my mom so much and don’t know how much longer it’s going to be before she needs more help taking care of herself, but it does seem inevitable. I don’t think the burden should automatically fall on my shoulders, but is it wrong to feel that way? I honestly have no idea what to think or what I should do. Any advice would be very appreciated. + +TLDR: Mom will inevitably need living assistance because of health issues due to chronic smoking. My aunt thinks it should be my responsibility. I disagree. What’s the right answer?",0 +6206,"Sisters don't like me changing.. Well here it goes my 2 oldest sisters just came out to visit me I am 26. Oldest is 41 next oldest is 39 they flew out to CA so they could take a cruise to Mexico and see me and my future husband. Well they seem to have a problem with how I have change they seem to think I am getting to ""uppity"". Even asked why I was changing so much ""for him"" Insinuating that I'm trying to change my appearance to appease him. While I am changing and he is the reason not in a bad way he loves to work out and is in fantastic shape. He is not forcing me to work out I just started going with him at first so we can spend more time together. Now I have come to enjoy it. He has just helped me find a better and healthier self. I was a thicker girl size 16 when we first got together I am now down to a size 10 working on becoming a 8. I am dressing up a lot more i am going and getting my nails and hair done. Mostly because I'm feeling more confident about myself and my appearance. Yes I am expanding my wardrobe beyond Target and Walmart. They seem to think I am turning into some kind of soon to be trophy wife. They are very dismissive of me just evolving as a person. + +After they left my FH was explaining that they are toxic and have had bad relationships their whole lives so they don't understand happniess. That they're jealous because I'm surpassing them. He said I'll no longer be relegated to the nerdy ugly fat sister. That I have matured and grown that they cannot accept that because then they have to accept the reality of their failures of their own life. That my success and happiness only cast light on their unhappiness and their failures. + +Does that make sense kind of see his perspective but could my sisters really be that shallow and vain.",0 +6207,"""I am Too Young to be a grandparent!"". ok so i remember the day when my daughter at fourteen told me she was pregnant. and showed me the pregnancy test. so i called up her boyfriend's parents and says that they moving and looks like they did not even care. so when my Husband came back and freaked out. however i calmed him down, and 9 months later, my daughter gave birth to Zephyr. TLDR: it is going well with me i am the most happier than ever! Feel free to ask questions in the comments.",0 +6208,"Father in law is child abuser. Ok, this is a bit of a complicated one.. I'll start with the beginning. 4 years ago, my sister in law admitted after being caught with cocaine that she abuses substances to forget the trauma of being abused and molested by her uncle (her mother's brother) from the ages of 3 - 11. +She also admitted that her maternal grandmother walked in on the abuse and chose to ignore it. + +In a seperate incident, when she was just 7 and due to her past, she says that she initiated sex with her step - father (my partner's father) who willingly complied. + +My partner's father is now 60, he's always had learning difficulties - can't read or write, and he's had multiple strokes. My partner remembers both his uncle and his father being arrested when younger but says nothing came out of his father being arrested after he was interviewed. Sister in law says her case against uncle was thrown out of court as there wasn't enough evidence to prosecute. + +She then told us that their other sister was also abused once by the uncle, when she was around 3, although no one is sure if she remembers the incident. + +My view on all of this is simple, I don't like the uncle or father, I won't have them around my children. I also don't like the grandma for her awareness and compliance in the abuse. + +I have confronted the uncle in the past to let him know I am aware of what he's done and what I think of him due to him being lazy during covid and not looking after his parents who's house he still lives in at 45 years old and having the cheek to ask us to do their shopping, he made his mother (The grandmother) aware of my message and she reportedly said I had a 'filthy mouth' to her daughter (partners mum), which was passed onto me. + +My partner is a little on the fence about all of this. He doesn't know whether to believe his sister about their dad. He does believe her about his uncle and fully supports my decision to keep him away from us. He won't confront their dad as he doesn't think he will understand due to his mental state, or be able to give him a clear answer. He won't confront his nan either, says her and his gramps are end of life and he doesn't want to see them die with bad blood in the air, also doesn't think they will remember. + +The younger sister who may or may not remember being abused by the uncle, is a carer for their father, she does his shopping, she cleans his house, she spends a lot of time with him. He's not able to have a real conversation or say or do anything articulate, he just sort of laughs and says 'yeah, yeah' or simple sentences, he has a very low IQ. I can't understand how or why my partner's mother managed to have 3 children with him but I know they split up when my partner was 6. + +The question I suppose is what do I do here, how do I handle this? The younger sister keeps commenting that their father doesn't get to see our boys and tries to arrange visits. She has a young daughter herself who their father sees a lot. I keep fobbing her off with random excuses. I don't know what she is aware of - if anything. My partner thinks we should let him see the children as he will be supervised and is apparently 'harmless' and even if what my SIL said is true, he was also mentally 'like a child' so can't be blamed or called a rapist and wouldn't be a danger to our boys. + +I think he must be aware enough.. I mean, despite his disabilities, he managed to have sex to make 3 children and have a hand in raising them for a fair amount of time. We've had many heated arguments about it all, he still loves his dad and grandma. + +Do I speak to the younger sister and tell her what I know? I do feel like this would be opening old wounds and that I would be throwing older SIL under the bus and creating family drama. But at the same time I don't want a man who is capable of sex with a 7 year old around my children. + +HELP.",0 +6209,"My 15 year old brother just had his first breakup and is distraught and withdrawn because of it, how can I help him. My 15 year old brother who because of complicated family circumstances lives with me. Has been distraught because his first boyfriend broke up with him the other day, I came home work to find him crying outside and I ask him and he told me his boyfriend told him that he needed personal space and didn’t feel like he was in a good space to date. My brother took that as him dumping him, which unfortunately sounds like that was that case. I really want feel bad for him, I was his age when I had my first girlfriend, and I remember she left me for similar reasons and I was devastated. Unfortunately relationships come and go and break ups are an inevitable part of life. I explained that to him and I think he understands but is still an emotional wreck. He won’t come out of his room, we were supposed to go to six flags on Saturday but he’s dead set he doesn’t want to go now., since his boyfriend was supposed to come with us. I get it is sucks losing you’re first relationship and I really feel bad for him, I know he liked the guy he was with. However I don’t want letting this get him depressed either. I’ve told him the last thing he should do at least for right now is try to contact him, if his boyfriend needs to be along for awhile respect that. All that will do is move him further away. Should I just let this run it’s course and assume he’s just being an over emotional teen who just had his first heartbreak, after all, we’ve all been there. or should I be worried.",0 +6210,"I recently found out that I have a half sister that I’ve been friends with my whole life. So my friend Naomi and I used to hang around with eachother growing up as we lived near each other, we done everything together went on holidays together went to the same school etc, 3 days ago my dad told me that she’s my half sister as my mum and dad split up before I was born, when I found out I was shocked but was very happy at the same time, she also found out the same time as me, a lot of people do say we look the same which I don’t think so other then the blonde hair I don’t think we look the same but that’s peoples opinions, has anyone ever had this sort of thing happen?",0 +6211,"My mother said my cousin was abused because she was naughty & I'm dumbfounded. My mother & I were having a discussion about my cousin one day. You see, we found out last year that my cousin was physically abused by her ex-father throughout her childhood. I feel very sorry for her. Since then, her mother divorced from him, received therapy, & is doing well in life. + +However, my mom pointed out that my cousin is an exact copy of her ex-father: cold & lying. She could've been that way her entire life but mostly, I believe her abuse made her that way & as a survivor of childhood rape, I can relate to her (though I'm different from her in terms of personality). + +The most shocking thing I heard from the conversation was my mom telling me the reason why my cousin was abused. She was naughty as a child. Look, she was actually naughty back then. People who'd known her said she's difficult to be around & I was even scared of her. But that doesn't give a reason for her to be beat up. We're also Vietnamese & in our culture, physical punishment is common. Discipline is one thing, abusing children to teach them a lesson is not. + +My mom is actually against physical punishment but respects other parent's ways of disciplining children, including hitting them. Now, all I can say is, WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH HER? She's crazy to think it's my cousin's fault that she's being abused for being naughty. I think she would still be abused even if she's not naughty. Her ex-father was not a pleasant man to begin with & actually served prison time for molesting a boy before she was born. Although my mom understood my trauma, I don't think she'll ever want to understand my cousin's trauma & will always blame her & for that, she's a big coward.",0 +6212,"My dad stares at me like a woman - why?. My dad is 67 and when he sees me he stares at my ass or between my legs with evident pleasure. +I find this repulsive but also I totally do not understand why he does this. +Any idea?",0 +6213,"Tell he is not mine. I'm a dad raised my child for 20+ years, love him to death. I am highly suspicious he is not mine do not know for sure, if I ever found out he is not mine(dna) should I tell him.",0 +6214,"I can barely talk about anything to my parents without it turning into a fight. I (20F) always try to talk about things in a civilised fashion. However, they just cannot do the same. There are certain topics that I cannot freely talk about without the conversation turning into a shouting match. + +For example, I cannot talk about pets. At all. They shoot that conversation down as soon as they're able to. I cannot talk about how cute dogs are, for example. This one is the most taboo subject of all. + +Another example is university. I cannot talk about the stress it causes me without them screaming at me. + +I cannot talk about my country's state. I cannot talk about anything related to politics. I cannot talk about me being childfree. I cannot talk about life in Western Europe. I cannot talk about music. I cannot talk about books. I cannot talk about green lifestyle. + +If I bring any of these up in a conversation, they will scream at me. + +Basically, I can't talk about basic, everyday things. + +Does anyone else have the same problem? What should I do???",0 +6215,"My 11 yo sister does not want to go to her face to face classes. So my sister is in her last year of elementary school and she will be graduating this June. Our family is urging her to join her face to face classes rather than online to make her socialize with her classmates. We want her to join the face to face classes because she's in her adolescence and socializing with her friends is so important at this point in her life. But the problem is she doesn't want to and would prefer to just lay in her bed all day. I'm afraid she will miss out in life and would not have enough experience in making friends (she's very socially shy and introverted). + + +Should we respect her opinion or should we push her to join the face to face classes despite her wishes not to? (We have explained to her all the advantages to her but she really does not wish to go)",0 +6216,"Step dad just punched me in the face.. A half injured duck came into the house in the night. I wanted to trap it and feed it and nurse it I woke my mum and by proxy her partner. He immediately got violent. Threatened me then tried to got me. He's in early retirement so has nothing to get up for despite me waking him early. + +He punched me square in the face. He had to be restatined. He then played it down how do I proceed from here. + +UK + +Btw in here to be with my mother who has tried to leave him for eight years but he keeps emotionally blackballing her into staying even tracking her down + +I do smoke. Weed recreationally and mushroom and I'm worried he's use this against me",0 +6217,"What are the next steps in cutting off toxic family?. I constantly see conversations on reddit about the reasons why people cut off toxic family members, but I need help on the actual process. I know that I need to cut off my toxic family members, they have been extremely hurtful. Yet every time they come around they I seem to give in and I get burned again. I dont know if it's that a part of me is hopeful or if I'm just scared because it's not easy to imagine cutting out your own sister or mom. + + +Anytime I try to communicate with them has resulted in them denying, being spiteful, and blowing up. I can't have a single normal conversation with them. I've tried reading books about it and talking to others, but I just don't know how to cut them off. They bring so much sadness, anger, and frustration so I know I need to. + + +What are the steps that you took to actually cut a close relative out of your life? How did you overcome these feelings?",0 +6218,"How hard is it to support a family on a full time server salary?. Long story short, I got knocked up by my current boyfriend. I'm currently in my first semester of college. I currently work part time cuz I'm still in school but I'm planning on dropping out and switch to full time work after the baby arrives. There's no way I can work full time take care of baby and go to school at the same time. If I were to switch to full time, I would probably make around 40-50k/yr including tips according to my estimates, which isn't too bad especially with my bf working as well.",0 +6219,"booking . com doesn't see anything wrong with accommodation staff filming our 5 year old daughter in her underpants. Me and my husband have been saving for years to go to a holiday outside of our country. We finally did it after 13 years of marriage! We arrived in Thailand to the accommodation property we booked through booking.com, a private house with a garden and a tall wall around it for privacy. +We realised after checking in that we can not make the stove work so we contacted the property through booking.com. Since there was no staff around that time on Sunday evening anymore and the staff has a day off on Monday then they came around on Tuesday morning, which we didn't know to expect. Our 5 year old daughter was still in her underpants when 2 staff members arrived. She sat on the sofa in the open kitchen-diningroom. I was not expecting anyone to come around right away in the morning as they mentioned they don't start work until 11 am. One staff member stayed standing by the front door whilst the other one who spoke English and did our check-in came inside to show how the stove works. I told her afterwards that I'm gutted they didn't show us right away as we spent so much money on groceries we couldn't use and had to eat out. She started saying she showed us how to do it and that we are lying. I told her that I don't appreciate being lied to, we would have used the stove to cook food otherwise and saving on eating out as it is expensive for a family of 5! During the arguement nobody raised voices but I did confront her by being very forward of her lying and pointing out facts. Then I noticed that the other staff member by the door was filming us. I confronted her by asking to see her gallery. She was acting dumb, showing me Facebook and TikTok and saying she didn't film us. I then said she will have no problem showing me the gallery then. They finally did so I pointed them both out the 2 videos they took where my 5-year old daughter is in her underpants in the front of the video and me in the back. I said that this is a violation of privacy, we are in our privately rented property and they absolutely crossed the line. During this I paid attention never to raise my voice as I never want people to accuse of being aggressive, but I was very honest so I used direct language. I deleted the videos with shaking hands because this was such a surreal and shocking situation for me. I then contacted booking.com with that information, they didn't do anything. I chased them for 4 days about this as I didn't feel safe in this property, especially because every morning I noticed our garden gate was wide open even though I always make sure it was locked the night before. Booking.com said there is nothing they can do and they see no security issue as I deleted the videos. So my question is: for example if a police officer confronts a thief red-handed, trying to arrest them and the thief says they'll return the stolen items, has there been no crime? So I'm questioning if I'm over reacting about the staff filming my family in our privately rented property and it isn't a security issue? + +I feel unsafe being here, I'm worried leaving it incase they tamper with any of our stuff. They keep lying about so many things now. I don't know what to do.",0 +6220,"How do I (23) tell my biological father that I am his son?. We have never met, for as long as I can recall, but I think he knows I exist. I have his phone number and he was active on WhatsApp, so I think he's still alive. I lost my mom a few years back, so I cannot meet him through her. They were never married, and I don't know the details on their relationship, but I think it might have been an affair. + +I was thinking of calling him, but given how much of a shocker getting called by your long-lost biological son might be, it could be a bad idea. I don't want to beat around the bush and i want to try to get straight to the point with him, but I'm not sure how I can do that as best as I can. Do you have any suggestions on the approach? + +TLDR : want to call his phone, what should I say ?",0 +6221,"How would you approach it if your son or daughter just posts or sends pics of one of their children or the other is put way in the background all the time?. UPDATE: Thank you to all for responses. As some questioned, I also wondered why anyone would get after her especially her family for her own child not looking like her side more than others. I did ask my son after writing this original post. He himself does not have a social media account so he just hears what some say when they go to like family events. Let's say that although her parents are also mixed race, my DIL and her 2 brothers clearly show their mother's native looks but were always told they were lucky they did. When her family made verbal remarks and he would ask her if it bothered her she said she ignores it but he said itbmust if she really cannot post all the pics they take or feels threatened to show off both girls he knows she adores as much as he. He was going to ask to see some of the posted comments to see how bad it has gotten and step in but would also intervene both for the girls and her sake. He did email me himself some beautiful pictures he had taken over the years of both girls individually, together and with other family. He also agreed it was not good especially if one day the girls saw these on accounts they had. He was also thankful that we loved the girls and their mom as much regardless. Again thanks for your input. +ORIGINAL POST: +Abit of background. Son is married both 30. They live across the country. He travels a lot for work. Sometimes the family goes with but not much since the oldest started school. They have 2 girls ages 4 and almost 7. Of course you can understand that when memories come up there is a lot of their oldest almost every day of her first three years of life. You do understand that perhaps you don't have the time or energy when the 2nd or any after to document ever moment. However even since the younger daughter was born most photos sent to family or posted on social media are focused just on the oldest and maybe in the background the little one is sitting or playing in the background. The exception may be a family pictur of all of them they get at Christmas. One day I just mentioned how I would like to frame a picture of each of them individually. My son said that sounded great and he would have his wife send me pics of each. She sent me one of my oldest granddaughter alone and one of my oldest granddaughter lifting her sister up so she was kind of bent over. I messaged her and just asked if my son told her I wanted to have individual pictures of them framed to put up. She asked why. I then asked why she doesn't have that many pics of the little one and she said big sis would be traumatized and feel she was being replaced. I asked my son about this and he said his MIL kind of got on his wife when someone told her that the oldest did look like her but the little one must look like dad's side because she doesn't look like her. He said they have pics but she won't share them because she fears people badmouthing her and perhaps one day the girls. She does look like her dad but with longer hair. He didn't want me to let her know he told me. The thing though is other family are starting to question as well.",0 +6222,"Is it childish to feel hurt about this?. I’m a 25 F and my birthday was a month ago and I didn’t get any gift from my family. I’ve always been generous and I’ve never missed to offer them a gift in their birthdays. I thought I’d at least get a little thing but I really got nothing and it made me sad in a way. I don’t gift them stuff to expect anything in return. Is it normal to feel a little hurt about this? Would you still buy them gifts after this? + +Edit: I’m not expecting crazy gifts. I would’ve been okay with just some pajamas. It’s the fact that I’ve been giving them gifts for their birthdays and I didn’t receive anything not even a birthday card.",0 +6223,"Do you think this is rude?. My parents and I provide my sister with free childcare. We watch her baby from 9am to 2pm Monday through Friday. Her husband picks up the baby everyday at around 2:30. Before he leaves, he grabs two cans out pop for him and my sister. He just opens the refrigerator, grabs two cans of pop and stuffs them in the diaper bag. He does this every single day he picks the baby up. He doesn’t ask, he just grabs them. Do you think this is rude?",0 +6224,"My grandparents constantly kick me out of the bathroom when I use it.. So I’m living with them while my family goes through some issues and they are totally fine with that bcs I contribute money from my weekend job and help with household chores. + +Something I’ve noticed is that when ever I use the bathroom, one of them suddenly needs to go right after I go in there, bang on the door for me to get out or complain that I’m always in there. + +I’ve even resorted to waiting for them to both use the bathroom then I go to use it but somehow they still manage to need it at the time I’m in there. + +It’s really frustrating because if I need a shit I’m going to be like 5-10 minutes so I’ve again resorted to doing my business late at night when they are in bed 2-4am yet they STILL wake up and complain that they need to use the toilet. + +I’m so confused and don’t understand why they need to go when I go. I can’t find a minute to use it on my own. I even started asking them before hand if they need to use the toilet and they say no so I do my business and STILL find them knocking on the door to get in while shout my at me they they are old so they need to use it straight away.",0 +6225,Do you get along with your in laws?. I used to get along with my in laws but the past couple years I can feel they don’t like even tho I’ve never done anything to change our dynamic.,0 +6226,"Brother adopts animals and isn’t responsible for them.. My brother (22) has adopted 3 animals since 2016, two huskies (high maintenance dogs) and one cat. Shortly after the first husky’s adoption, he abandoned her in a patio. He’d only have contact with her to feed her and walk her rarely. Last year the husky died in a high-risk surgery and he was apparently feeling remorseful about having forgotten about her for years. Before this death, he adopted another husky. My mother and I spend all day at home since we work remotely and take care of this dog. I do not mind doing so while my brother is not home. But when he is, he is only in his phone and completely ignoring the dog. He hasn’t bathed her in months, he doesn’t take her for walks, I end up doing all this because it’s not the dog’s fault to have her needs ignored. It’s become a pattern: he gets excited about the dog for the first months, then leaves the burden to others and when he’s bored, adopts another one. I don’t know how to address this with him, whenever he is told something, he starts yelling and swearing, making communication super difficult.",0 +6227,"My sister does not like me.. Im a f14 and i have sister f25, and we have never really had a good bond. Ive always tried to be nice to her but she sees me as an annoying little sister. She has never been friendly with me and we have never talked in a normal conversation. shes not interrested in anything i say and she makes that very clear that she does not want to communicate with me. (For example: she gets annoyed by a simple question, she never wants to do stuff with me, and she avoids me, also says very rude stuff to me). i have been used to this all my life but it really hurt me when i asked if she was gonna come to an event for me. Its an event that happends in my country that is important and all family members come and celebrate you becomming a member of the church or something related, she told me that she wasnt comming beacuse ""youre asking a stupid question"". This year my sister is having a baby and for the baby shower i was told that the only reason i was invited is beacuse ""the babys cousins (2 girls that are older and younger than me) on the fathers side are comming so they had to invite me. +(Edit: btw my parents have witnessed all this, look in the comments and you will understand how they treat this behavior, and also i should have mentioned this but my sistes does have an disorder that makes her not think before she acts thats why my parents react the way they do. Do not blame my parents, they have done done much for me and have been helping me through this but there is nothing they can do about my sister. I have two sisters and i didnt have a good connection with her either until she became more adult and beacuse of my parents help i now have a good releationship with her so they help where they can)",0 +6228,"Felling bad about how I treated my dad. He passed away and I can't tell him I'm sorry.. My (F26) dad (M65) died unexpectedly six months ago. I didn't get the chance to say goodbye and tell him I'm sorry about the way I treated him for several years. I've been dealing with mental health problems for over a decade now and that affected how I behaved towards my family members. My dad worked a lot and I didn't see him much until he retired a few years ago. Consequently, I talked to my mom more. There was a period when he was going through something and he made a mistake. I was so angry with him for many years, but I never told him that. Instead, I complained to my mom, sisters and friends. I said some terrible things that I didn't even mean, but I could not control myself. I was blaming him for things he had nothing to do with. For some reason I picked him to dump my distant attitude on, perhaps because we were very similar in character and I was projecting. I rarely called him and we never really talked at length. Despite my attitude, he always did everything for me. He took me on trips with him, bought me my first car, always gave me extra money to spend on movies, fun, etc. During the pandemic, when I was home, we got a lot closer. It was like I finally saw him - his humour, his great storytelling, his generosity, and his love for our family. I became very grateful for him, but I still did not know how to tell him that because I was always bad at showing affection. Also, I was still kind of distant, but it was not because of him, it was because of my anxiety and depression. + +I feel shattered because he was taken from us, from me, when I was just getting to know him better. I'm sorry for not asking him more questions, for not having more conversations with him, and especially for my distant attitude. The guilt is so strong. I feel like his death is my karma for being a bad daughter. How will he ever know now that I love him, that I am so grateful for him and for everything he did for me... I never wanted him to think or feel like I loved him less than mom, because I love him just as much, I just didn't know how to show him. + +I miss him so much and I wish I was a better daughter to him. + +TL;DR; I feel so guilty about being a bad daughter. Now my dad is gone and I can't tell him I'm sorry. + +Edit: spelling",0 +6229,"Non-traditional family: Is it strange to care?. I'm twenty-nine (NB), and have been single for about a decade now. (thanks Covid and overwork.) I've always loved kids and the idea of family- so when my best friend of over a decade told me she and her husband were starting a family, I was overjoyed for them. Even moreso when they both invited me up to live with them during the last stages of her first pregnancy, to get me out of a rut and away from an emotionally abusive family. + +During the first child's first six months, we all lived in an apartment together, and I was made apart of the child's life- I was the third non-doctor person to hold her, and I've done everything from change diapers to wearing one of those (super uncomfortable) baby harnesses so she could get some outside time. I adored every moment I was given. After those six months, I moved into an apartment of my own about five minutes away from my friend's new home, and am still apart of their life. This includes the life of my recent new godson/nephew. + +You see, at first we thought that I should be one of two godparents for the kids- apart of the family. I took lots of pictures of the kids, and I love to tell stories about my time with them. But I've noticed something odd, at least to me. To be clear, I am not blood related to either child, but I love them like my own. But it seems to be largely strange- I even had to leave a job because of the pushback from a nosey manager about why I spent so much time I could have been working overtime, looking after my godkids. The negative responses have gotten to the point where, after a sit down, the family agreed to just announce me as the uncle of the children, brother to my best friend. And I don't understand. + +Is it odd to be deeply attached to kids not related to you by blood? Is it 'creepy?' I want kids of my own some day, but I""m not willing to settle for someone I don't love in order to have that. + +​ + +TLDR- The response from coworkers and distant family has me asking- is found family not a thing? Is it strange to love children not your own?",0 +6230,"I feel like no one shows more disgust or repulsion towards me than my dad.. I'm in my 20s, but I've always felt my dad is disgusted and by me. Like, the only person who'd be able to list all my flaws – besides me, **and sometimes not even myself** – is my dad. This may sound good, but it's really damaging. I feel unappreciated– regardless of what I do, any type of affective gesture, he'll either ignore it or think I'm **""pretending""** or ""not me"". I've always tried so hard **to earn his love** towards me but it seems impossible more often than not. + +Does anyone else feel this way towards their father?",0 +6231,"Unemployed, spoiled and ungrateful sister [F24] How can I support her better?. Hello, my [M21] sister [F24] has been off school since she was 17. She went to apply for work as a waitress but left after 30 minutes because she hated everyone there. She then applied to become another waitress then quit after 2 weeks because she hated the boss. Ever since, she has been unemployed and is now 24. She gained a considerable amount of weight which I believe hurts her self-esteem. + +She never helps around the house, always rudely talk back to my parents and stays in her room playing games for the whole day. My dad is retired and wished she was there more but she doesnt understand. He buys her everything from her car and let her stay at his house for free. We come from a country where family means a lot so there’s no idea of “kicking” her out the house. But it could be an option if we are desperate. + + +She went through therapy too because she got too by herself that she lost touch with all her friends and feels lonely. I can tell she is silently suffering and I’m always there for her to listen. But I myself can’t do much but be a brother that listens because I have things to deal with to. + +Currently, I’m studying in UK and my mom wanted a life-changing experience for her so she sent her here for 2 months. But oh boy it’s already 2 weeks in and she called my mom saying I’m abusing her by walking a lot (it’s London ffs we will walk a lot) and that she never wanted this. My partner even drove us around UK and his mother let us stay in a resort that she gifted us. Yet my sister doesn’t care. She was on her phone most of the time and didn’t acknowledge the scenery. She never helped made dinner with my partners family and just played games in her rooms. + +I care a lot about her. I know her potential but she is struggling. How do I tell her to be more respectful to people and stuff? Or to bring the conversation up. She’s very stubborn and walks away when told. How should I deal with this? I don’t know if I can continue this when she’s acting like that- mentally and financially. + +Edit: thank you all for the response. I read them every time someone posted and every time it opens my mind. I actually asked my sister what she wants in life and we had a very long conversation. I told her there’s people like her that exist (just like some of you who commented) and she can do her own stuff. She suddenly more excited for the trip and actually helped make dinner! Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart.",0 +6232,"Here’s a little story since this is my first post (What would you do if your child/teenager threw a birthday party and, nobody showed up?). So this didn’t happen to my kid but my little brother, on his 7th birth day party (I was turning 11) + +Me and my brothers birthday are a day apart his the 21 of June and mine the 22 so most of are birthdays we had a party together. But this year my mother said I could have my own party since I was getting to old for bouncy houses or whatever (your never to old for bouncy house 😒😒) + +So I was going to invited a bunch of my friends practically my full grade. And we gave my brother a bunch or cards to hand out to his class or just his friends with all the information, and that same day he came home crying because no one took an invitation. I was really pissed but I wasn’t going to beat up some 7 year olds. So I asked my mom where my brothers party was going to be, and she said I was going to be at a sport place and I was like can you give the parents the location so I could go with my brother so he wouldn’t be there at his party alone. + +So she did and the day came and non of my brothers friends showed up and all of mine did and we had a blast some of them even bought him a present too because I told them why the party wasn’t going to be at my house anymore. And since that day I still have party with my brother and I’m turning 15 in a couple weeks + +-Nikito Wixx <3",0 +6233,"Would you attend your spouse’s family gathering without your spouse?. My husband’s cousin invited us to BBQ at some park and he doesn’t want to go. He simply doesn’t like to be around with a large crowd, which is understandable. He’s even okay if I go alone with his siblings, but I would feel more comfortable if he joins us. + +His best friend’s wife expects me to be there and even offered a ride if my husband doesn’t attend. My mother in law is also not going, but encourages me to. I’m not sure if this is a cultural thing where everybody thinks attending your spouse’s family gathering without him is totally an acceptable etiquette? + +We live in Germany and the family is Arab, if that makes a difference at all.",0 +6234,"What's eating my older brother?. He is 28 years old, I have a few observations. He used to be a very well-liked, successful guy. He went to college, has had about 20 girlfriends, and used to have tons of friends. + +He doesn't talk much at all anymore. He doesn't hang out with anyone. His expression is always neutral. He still goes to the gym a couple hours every day, takes great care of himself, enjoys his hobbies, but there's been a shift in his personality. I try to talk to him but he doesn't open up, and avoids me afterwards. He used to be very outgoing, very well-liked, and always doing something. He just doesn't interact with anyone anymore. No autistic or asperger's symptoms whatsoever - no antisocial tendencies whatsoever - just *A*social the past couple years... Quiet and polite. What do you think is up?",0 +6235,"My brother is the best!. I’m so glad that I have siblings! I (29F) am the baby of the family and have two older brothers and I appreciate them so much! My brother (30M) offered to watch my kids for the weekend to give me a break and the other (39M) forced me to go outside and go for a hike, which I complained about at first, but I’m so glad I went! Now we are having drinks and I realize how lucky I am to have some people that love and care about me!",0 +6236,"UPDATE: I'm really uncomfortable with my soon to be step-brother.. Let me start by saying this. No, I'm not making this up as some kind of weird fantasy. Gross. + +Last time I posted about ""Nicole,"" my dad's girlfriend, who didn't like how I was hugging her son. That came as a surprise to me, because I'm used to hugging all relatives. + +Nicole said that she understood that I was just being nice, but that we're not 100% family yet, and that we're about 90% there. Again, I don't think she meant that to be cold. I think she was just uneasy about me hugging her son, and she was trying to say it in the least-awkward way. + +As some of the comments said to do, I told my dad about this, and he talked to Nicole. My dad reported back to me that Nicole really wasn't trying to be rude. Apparently Nicole thinks her son is having a little too much fun with those hugs. + +Now I'm really uncomfortable with this whole arrangement. I want nothing to do with Nicole or her son. + +I'm 16 (almost 17). I'm only going to be in this house for another year. Maybe I should tell my dad to hold off marrying Nicole until I graduate high school and move out. When I leave for college, then he can do what he wants since it won't affect me as much. + +I can't imagine moving in with a stepbrother who-- ugh. + +Do you have any advice?",0 +6237,"I'd like some inputs from unbiased strangers. Background +I'm now in my 40s. The middle child. +Mother defined us when we were young. +Big sister ""Angel""overachiever, conscious and responsible. Sensitive and fragile. +Little brother ""Dearest""Sweet and lovable. Overwhelmed by the big sisters. +In later years Dearest has had helpful added to his definition. (To the point where he's credited if I do something.) +Me rude, selfish and loud. Rejected mother, never made her feel accomplishment as a mother. Upsetting everyone by showing off how much better I am. (I'm good at picking up words so as a toddler I often received compliments for knowing big words.) +Whining about not being respected when I was too stupid to be taken seriously. +As I said I am loud so when one of the other upset me. Dearest, for instance, pulled my hair until he was a teenager. I was sent to my room to reflect on the errors of my ways . +Angel put so much pressure on herself and needed to let out some steam. +Dearest was excused because he was just taking a stand against the big sisters. +I can't help thinking they wanted me to be the doormat. By refusing to comply I just proved my ego and lack of empathy. + +Oh, my siblings earned leniency and space. But I was too stupid to figuring out how they did that and used that to complain about unfairness. + +Today +I feel we are stuck in these patterns. I still walk on eggshells around them. +When we are together and sit down to plan the day, if I say anything the best case scenario is them ignoring me. +Because of my wickedness they are committed to put me in my place to keep my ego at bay. + +Mother will frequently bring up the hurtful things I did as a child. Most of the times I am able to bite my tongue. But sometimes I prove my immaturity and bitterness by telling her how I remember the situation. + +I am constantly told to get over the past and show an adult behaviour. + +I'm an expat. The last time I went to my country was because father was dying. I didn't make it in time to see him. +Angel told me she and Dearest had a conversation with father where he shared his thoughts on the funeral and inheritance. +But she made it clear it would be inappropriate to bring it up. She only told me to let me know he reminded them that I was to be included when they split his estate. And she promised to honour the request. Which is kind of weird as the laws in our country won't allow for a legal child to be excluded. +I argued that I at least should be let in on the funeral plans. +Mother, who divorced him in1995, heard about our disagreement and was put out by this. +""They just lost their father. Is it too much to ask of you to stop thinking about yourself for a moment and at least try to be mindful of their grief?"" + +When I left I told them if they want to see me they know where I am (I live in a tourist area with plenty of short term rental housing) +My sister tried to set me straight and told me to get over myself and my bitterness. + +Mother also made an attempt to reason with me. They all agreed that I need to get over the past. +I told her as long as the behaviour patterns of the past continue that will be close to impossible. +So maybe they could consider seeing me for who I am today instead of the disgusting child I used to be. + +But again, I am unfair with mother. She does apologize for being too hard on me. Sadly in my self absorbed state I tend to focus on the second part of the apologizes. ""I was at my wit's end. I couldn't help it because you were so infuriating"" + +Also, I know what I am about to say will , by some if not all of you, be seen as confirmation that I don't take responsibility for my wrongdoing. +But whenever we talk about our issues with each other I kind of end up with a list of things I need to work on. + +To wrap up this post. +On a scale from 1-10 +how unreasonable am I to want my family to validate my feelings of being hurt by them? +Wishing to be included? + +I was diagnosed with high functioning autism about ten years ago. +Mother will often bring up how hard it was on her to raise an undiagnosed autistic child. +I once tried to apologize but she shut me down for making her feel worst ( something in the line of her needing to vent and I made her feel guilty) +So how can I show her that I am sorry without it coming across as guilt tripping? + +For now I am on low contact with them but I know it's hurting them. + +Anyone cares to weigh in on go on a visit and deal with the hurt I feel. (Imagined hurt, mind you ( + +Edit +Thank you all for the feedback. +Adding to the backstory. +My parents were akademics and resourceful. +No substance abuse, absolutely no alcohol. +I was always well feed and clothed. +Except when my behaviour was truly horrendous and they had to remove me physical they never hurt me. No beating or starving. + +Before I was diagnosed and granted disability pension I couldn't hold down a job. Most of my twenty some jobs I quit enjoyed and I did well. But I always ended up in a conflict where I was the only one to be in the wrong. +I think those experiences prove my family right. I am a bad person and difficult to tolerate.",0 +6238,"Looking for activities to do with my 91 yo great-aunt!. She has recently lost her last sister, and she's grieving. I love her like if she was my grandma, and I'm trying to spend as much time with her as I can. + +For now, we cook and dine together, gossip about my friends and co-workers, watch TV together, and look at cute pics online. + +Things I've already planned to do: +- Have her teach me how to crochet; +- Teach her how to use the smartphone to chat with me and other relatives; +- Watch some old movies together on Netflix. + +Since I'm passionate about genealogy, I have also thought about asking her help to work on our family tree... But I want to wait until she feels better about the recent loss before talking about it. + +I need to also add that she's developing dementia. It isn't too bad at the moment (she forgets some daily things, like if she had already had her meds today or not,) but still it's a matter of time for it to get worse. + +Any activity you can suggest us to do? :)",0 +6239,"My mom was diagnosed with cancer and I’m about to meet my father for the first time in my life (M14). Last month my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. She’s doing okay at the moment, responding good to treatment, she seems to be thinking clearly and all, she goes to work like normally. But it worries me that she decided to contact my father. As if she wants to make sure there’s someone to take care of me when/if she’s gone. And I hate it. I know nothing about my father. My mom barely even knew him, they were really young when she got pregnant. I don’t want to have him in my life, it’s 14 years too late and my mom and I are doing great on our own. We don’t need him. I’m supposed to meet him tomorrow though. And I’ve never been more nervous.",0 +6240,"Mom only talks about herself and I don't wanna talk anymore. Hi guys, I'm having some problems with my mom and I need some advice before I go talk to her. Basically the problems is that she talks too much and only talks about herself. Everytime we talk is like a therapy session, 50 minutes at least, and when finally she sometimes asks ""what about you?"" I have absolutely no will to talk. I understand it is common for older people (she's 60+) to lose reference of time and just keep on talking. Also, she lives alone and is a very lonely person so I never want to interrupt her. The real problems is that since the pandemic hit she is the only subject of our talks. When I start to say something, she frequently interrupts me, which makes me want to talk even less, and this has become a horrible vicious cycle for me. And I feel completely drained after being with her for a while. + +I love my mom but I got to a point where I just can't stand her and I don't pick up the phone because I know it's gonna be long and boring. + +I have decided to talk to her but I'm afraid I will hurt her if I say ""you only talk about yourself"" / ""you are self-centered"" / ""you don't listen"" / ""you can't read the room"" / ""you talk too much"", etc, although this is really how I sense it :(",0 +6241,"Anyone else family dont talk to them?. Am I doing something wrong or just not approachable enough? Even in the same roof I dont get talked to that much while other people get swarmed like flies without effort, I like being the black sheep anyway its more peaceful less drama…. + +Ive always been treated differently since childhood but never really noticed till later, even when I established relationships with people they all just stopped talking to me for some odd reason, its not like I mistreated them or something…..",0 +6242,"i think my father has been touching me inappropriately and i dont know what to do :(. +hi everyone. im 16F, and just like any other teenager, i never really had a smooth sailing relationship with my parents (ESPECIALLY my dad) things started to take a turn when i realised what he’s doing to me is just..disgusting. ive finally mustered the courage to speak up about this. (yes im posting this online) + + +when we’re out on family outings, he would sometimes casually come close to me and caress my back and sort of touch my bra through my shirt. he would rub my back or like i don’t know pretend?? to massage my back to feel my bra. sometimes when i try to move away, he would casually touch my shoulder and this makes me SO UNCOMFORTABLE. it’s disgusting whenever he does this. and i’m at a lost because it could mean that he’s touching me inappropriately or he could just be showing fatherly affection. i really dont know. or it could really just be me overthinking. + + +there was a separate incident when we were on a escalator, he would touch my back again and i would show obvious signs of discomfort. he clearly knows im extremely uncomfortable and even asked “why do u keep moving around? it’s not like i will do something to u” along these lines. i feel so disgusted and angry that my own father is doing this... + + +because of him, im scared to wear proper bras outside (embarrassing to say) and scared to even go close to him :( + +and no, my mum and sister doesn’t know because im too much of a coward to speak about this openly to them (let alone my father) so im seeking advice here on reddit. + +TLDR my own father touches me inappropriately (?) and it makes me extremely uncomfortable and disturbed. seeking advice.",0 +6243,"AITA My father did not show up for my kidney transplant. +Long story short, my parents have been divorced since I was 5. I am 34 years old now. My dad has been in and out of my life throughout the years but for the past 6 years, since my mom died, we have seemed to have a good relationship (phone calls multiple times a week, visits to each others homes out of state, etc). + +My dad, younger brother, and I all share the same genetic condition, Nail Patella Syndrome. It causes kidney failure and my dad and brother have both had kidney transplants. + +In May 2021 I was put on dialysis after my kidneys failed. I was listed on the transplant list in Aug 2021. A living donor found my videos on Tiktok at the beginning of 2022 and proceeded to be tested for living kidney donation. We found out his was a match and the surgery was scheduled for 11/17/2022. + +One of the first people I told was my dad so he would be able to make reservations. That’s when the excuses started. He said I would need to line him up transportation as he said he couldn’t drive in Lexington, KY. (He drives all over the panhandle of Florida for his job). He also said he would be coming alone, my stepmom (she calls me her daughter all over Facebook) and my younger brother would be going to my stepmom’s family home in Arkansas for Thanksgiving. I questioned why and he said “she already had this trip planned”. + +I did end up having my surgery 11/17/2022 and my dad did not show up. When confronted he said it was because I did not line up transportation for him, that he couldn’t stay in the same hotel as my in-laws due to funds, and that no one volunteered to pick him up from the airport. + +I really gave him and my stepmother a piece of my mind. I feel I was treated unfairly. They both attended my brother’s kidney transplant. Why couldn’t they even make the effort to come visit me, even if it was just to make sure I survived and shake the hand of the man who donated a kidney to me? Instead they took information my in-laws gave them and posted it as if they were there in the waiting room with all the updates. + +They did go to Arkansas to my stepmom’s family home. Even though they told me they needed 8 weeks notice to get off work (another lie). They had over a year to begin preparing their bosses for this surgery. + +AITA for wanting to completely cut them out of my life? Enough is enough.",0 +6244,"Advice. I am going crazy over my extravagant sister's financial crisis. Help me think please. Hi All, + +I need sound advice on how to help myself in this situation. + +Tl:dr - my younger sister lives WAY beyond her means. I am anxious and need help minding my own business. Please advise + +Background: +Immigrated to US 5 years ago. We are still individually learning about personal finance, tax, investments and how to use credit cards responsibly. Her (26) lucrative employment contract ended 2 months ago, which triggered her most intense mental breakdown yet and severe depression hit. She has a maxed out cc. $7000. + +Scenario: She has financed her glamorous life just fine until she lost her contract job 2mo ago. She is in a bad place mentally, suicidal. We are a tight knit family. We are our only support network. So, my other sister, my mom and I have been there to cover her expensive apartment while she job hunts. It's not looking good. She updates us on the job search but I strongly suspect she's not aggressive because of depression - she unable shower for days. She's had a great fall! + +Me: unfortunately, I (31) was her guardian, elder sister, advisor, friend growing up and I feel I'm too invested in her well being, causing me my peace. I am frugal, live in a housemate situation, no debt, 3mo emergency fund so far and generally eat rice and beans (and other frugal meals). I have a strict budget. + +I've offered my financial advice in the past which was well received. She then fell back into old shopping/ high life patterns by cc and income. She revealed that she's an 'emotional shopper'. Since she said that, I offered to keep her cc and advised her to remove the details on her shopping websites. + +Thing is, I lose sleep mentally crunching numbers that I feel would educate her. I am driving myself insane with worry. I feel financially responsible for her. I am partly resentful to have to 'rescue' her because I really sacrificed for mine. + +Culturally, we are not allowed to give up on family, we are our sister's keeper. It feels like the worst moment to set boundaries because it's literally her lowest point. + +I recognize that we both have made different life choices. Its 3am and I'm up and can't stop my mind. My mom and sister are also very concerned. + +She's unable to coordinate a move out - hiring movers and keeping items in storage as she couch surfs with us. It's the cheaper option but it doesn't make sense if the few job leads yield something. Also the idea of packing up is overwhelming to her. + +I welcome your thoughts on how to think about this and act with my best interests at heart.",0 +6245,"Telling the kids we’re having a baby. Hi everyone, + +This is my first time posting, so I’m sorry if I make any mistakes. I’m on my mobile. I’m being a little vague in details because I don’t want to be identified by this post. + +My partner and I are having our first child together. He has 3 beautiful children from his previous relationship. We’re getting ready to tell the kids that they’ll soon have their first half sibling. We’re in a shared custody situation so we don’t have them full time but they’re with us each week. Ages range from 6-12 years. We get along really well and I consider myself lucky to have such awesome bonus kids. + +If anyone has any advice on how to set it up and/or any cool gift-from-baby ideas (given the age ranges), I’d love to hear them. I might be really overthinking it, but I spend a lot of time on AITA, and the number of kids and adults who have awful stories about blended families has made me really paranoid. I really want this to go well and I don’t want the kids to feel threatened or replaced or anything like that. + +Thanks in advance.",0 +6246,"Why do only our parents trigger us like no one else can?. Its so annoying. I'm 36F and I still become the most childish version of myself when my mother or father grates my nerves. + +Even with my dad, for example, we've always had a strained relationship due to his drinking/anger when I was younger. He's a great dad now but my teens and twenties were hard. Therefore, to this day I'm mostly anxious around him which translates to him thinking I'm grumpy and unsmiling in general. + +Today he compared me to Michelle Pfeiffer’s character in Frankie and Johnny and it just.. Sent me lol. (if anyones seen it she's a depressed spinster 😂). + +If a friend had said that I would not have cared but coming from a parent it's just UGH! It's like our parents refuse to acknowledge the evolved versions of ourselves?!",0 +6247,"Why am I so petty??. My sister lets my 9 year old niece disrespect me and she doesn’t do anything. She talks to me like she’s a grown woman and when I give my niece the same energy my sister gets mad and leaves…. +I watch my baby niece who is a year old so my sister can work … i just wanna block my sister and stop watching her daughter out of spite. I also feel like she doesn’t appreciate me and just uses me. She pays me to watch her but it’s not enough…. What should I do????!!!",0 +6248,"My two year old daughter will start going to school. My daughter was born in the pandemic and has never had contact with other children, she is very lonely and only now she goes to school, I am worried because I have never left her with anyone like this, here in my country we recently had a case where children were tortured at school and that always made me afraid, I don't want that to happen, I'm a first-time mother and I wanted to know how I can see signs that my daughter is suffering from something at school.",0 +6249,"This is just a rant, I just really wanted to get this off my shoulders.. I'm the oldest in a family of 4 kids. I was my mom's firstborn so I received a lot of attention and love. When my younger sisters were born, I felt the happiest. But the then my younger brother was born. My parents moved to America. They left with my youngest sister and brother, and left me and my younger sister with my grandma. My grandma wasn't working, so it was difficult for her to take care of us. I spent around 1-2 years living without my parents. I didn't question their love for me because my grandma gave us all the love she had. + +It was when I turned 6 that I finally met my mom again. I was nervous, but also excited. It was so unfamiliar, I knew she was my mom but I couldn't recognize that she was my mom. When I arrived to America I almost couldn't recognize her. She would laze around, we would stay in our house everyday. It was difficult to come up with weekend story telling in school. I was taken out of kindergarten when my mom went back to Vietnam because she wanted to hang out with her friends again. And of course she took my youngest sister and brother. So it was just me, my younger sister, and dad. My dad couldn't take care of us alone while working so we drove 5 hours to my aunt's house. I didn't know what was going on and I had to stay with her family for a year. I felt so out of place during then. We only pack 1 suitcase full of me and my sister's clothes. We would sleep at different family members houses. I got along well with my cousins but I was always so jealous of them. They all had their own moms and dads and they would share hugs and kisses. It was a year later that my parents picked us up, we were now living in a completely different house. Things kept on changing and I was only around 8. +I graduated elementary school, middle school, and currently on my way to being a Junior in high school. Through those years my mom would keep reminding me that it was for her to love me. That I was hard to love. It was hard for me to be reminded of that everyday. I also feel that it was my fault that she should couldn't enjoy her youth because she was pregnant with my at 23. I still find it so hard to confide in my mom. I don't see our relationship as child and parent. While all of this, my dad only worked, eat, and sleep. So I didn't have any bond with him either. These days I've noticed that it was stressful to the moment I woke up. I would feel so much anxiety. Every time my and my mom would talk, she would always put me down, my confidence level is so low. I lock myself in my room and cry so much now. I feel like I'm overreacting, that I shouldn't cry over these things because there are people worse off than me. So crying makes me feel even shittier. Every time I cry it would last 4 hours or more. I'm so tired, I want everything to end so bad. Everyday is filled with stress and anxiety, so I'm gonna give it until I'm 18. I miss being so happy back in Vietnam. If there's anyone that read it this far, thanks for listening.",0 +6250,"Parents who chose their sister as a surrogate, how did you deal with the weird feeling about it?. My partner and I have been talking about kids for a while, recently our lives have been so successful and so perfect, at least in comparison to our unfortunate pasts, that we felt like we were missing something. + +At first we were considering adoption. But we figured that since we can afford it, we can as well try surrogacy. And so a few months ago we had a talk with my sister about her becoming our surrogate. She was hesitant at first but after some time she reached out to us saying that she thought about it and she’s willing to do it. We’ve already started the legal process and set a date for the first fertilization appointment. We’re more than thrilled at the moment. But what’s giving me doubts is how weird other people find it. Apparently it’s as if “i’m having a baby with my own sister”. + +My siblings know about it and all of them are extremely supportive. My abuela however had some comments. Not exactly pleasant ones. Same with some of our friends. And strangers. We haven’t told my husband’s family yet. They come from a very backwards country. Where IVF is believed to be unnatural. So we’re still waiting with breaking the news. + +But I really hate the second thoughts that i’m having. And I was wondering if anyone experienced the same feelings.",0 +6251,"only brother moved away because of me. Hi everyone, just wanted to see your opinion on what should I do. I have a younger brother that just moved away recently. Most of our lives we didn't really get along, always fighting, picking on each other etc. +In the last couple of months I was really bad to him, got in a couple of big flights, I said some bad things to him, and I was always arguing with him. It's just that I never showed him any loving emotions, just the bad, nervous ones. +In the last couple of months he was talking about moving away and getting more independent and I was kind of making fun of off him and saying he couldn't do it. Well he did it. And now I feel so bad I never showed him I cared and loved him as he is and I just feel its too late to change that. +And just to let you know, if you say he should move away etc, we live in a country where its normal for a family to stay together and for two brothers to live with each other",0 +6252,"I saw something on my step fathers phone that made me very uncomfortable. WARNING! READ AT YOUR OWN RISK + +My step father is very kind. He treats us nicely and you can't say anything bad about him. I am 17 yo female. One time he gave me his old phone (he's buying a new one maybe). He gave me the phone without deleting the files on it. As a very curious person, i looked into his gallery... It was on the recently deleted photos and i saw some screenshot of girls from the internet. The girls are on their bikinis. Some wear shorts (in which u can see the private area). There are also nude photos of girls. I immediately turned off the phone.. I was in shock. My heartbeat is beating fast. I don't know what to do and it's hard for me to keep it to myself. It was very hard for me to process what i saw because i was very comfortable with him and then just this. I'm not against into p*rn and those girls i think they're amazing, but +the way those photos are screenshot,, it was like a pervert took it. I feel very uncomfortable and I don't know how can I move on from this. It was my fault for being nosy but it's just too much to handle for me. What can I do to get this off my mind? + +PS. this is very traumatic for me and maybe you won't think of it as a big deal, but it is. I hope you people would understand",0 +6253,"My parents would hate me even more if I didn’t get good grades. They’re so disappointed in who I am as a person, they told me. My dad said that I’m only smart academically and that I’m an idiot at everything else. They aren’t really proud of me, they are proud of my grades. Not anything else that I work hard on. I hate myself so much. What can I do to be enough?",0 +6254,People with SOs.. Do both of your families get together for holidays as one big group? Or do you go to separate events?. Was just wondering cause my sister's husband's family never joins our family for Christmas and I'm not even sure that it's a normal thing for both families to get together.,0 +6255,"I don't feel any type of emotional connection to anyone close to me.. I'm writing this post because I want to see if anyone else feels the same way. Basically I don't feel any type of emotion for my family/friends. I have moments with them where I laugh, I have a good time but I feel like they are not an important part of my life. When both my grandmas died I wasn't sad or anything, for the most part I was feeling uneasy because everyone else would seem sad and I wasn't. +If I had to stop seeing/talking to my family/friends I would not care, I probably would not feel anything if they died. The only thing I'm glad of is that I do feel bad about thinking this which is probably the only thing that separates me from a sociopath I guess.",0 +6256,"I don't understand why I don't fit in with my family. For reference I am 24 yo woman. I have a younger sister, two parents. For as long as I can remember, I have felt so disassociated from them. They have overlapping interests, emotional bonds, and somewhere along the way, I became farther estranged from the family dynamic. + +It makes me sad, because at one point, during my lowest lows of addiction and depression, even though I did not reach out to them for help, I knew that at least they loved me. + +Now, it feels like I walk, talk, and think in a way that is judged by them. Holidays are hard because I do want to spend time with them, but I just feel no connection, and in my heart I don't care. + +Connection is hard to begin with for me, but at some point the general disassociation I felt became elevated to the point that I feel like they are strangers. I don't know what the deal is. + +I vascillate between ""it's me"" and ""it's them"". I definitely have animosity regarding how they have chosen to relate to me in the past. I also know that I am not easy to connect with, I have been withdrawn from them for most of my life. Does anyone have experience with overcoming this? + +TL;DR I have no connection with immediate family, anyone with similar experience? Did you let it be, or try to repair the relationship?",0 +6257,Does parents feel sad when they see their kids grown up. Every time I talk to my dad he says how proud he is and I am currently 20 years old and I haven’t lived with him since I was 16 years old (my choice I still have lots of love for him) and every time I bring up something new or exciting he seems almost sad but still really proud and he says it’s just cause I’m growing up and I don’t see him a lot since I’m in college 2 hours away.,0 +6258,"Dad denied me food after working for 10hours and forced me to reenact a traumatic car accident. I’m a 22 y/o student who works 40+ hours per week and lives at home because I’m saving for a mortgage. +A few days ago, I came home from working a 10hr day and my dad forced me to recreate an accident my sister and I were in and yelled at me, gaslit me and humiliated me to break me down. Earlier in the day, I broke down while driving from my anxiety that was a result of the recent accident; I was not in the right headspace to revisit the incident. My dad withheld food and water to me as I broke down explaining I was exhausted and could answer the car accident related questions adequately once I ate. +Last night around 9:30pm, I came home from another 10hr day showered, and came downstairs to wash my lunch dishes and make some dinner. Out of nowhere my dad yelled at me to leave the kitchen. I calmly asked why and he screamed louder for me to leave. I was already shaking from hunger and left the house to get my own food. My mom justifies his actions and always refers to his ‘positive traits’ so I’m on my own in this. +I’m considering moving out now because of this toxic behaviour from my dad towards me. It’s unwarranted, completely inappropriate and shameful.",0 +6259,"Does anyone else have family who live far away and never made an effort to visit?. I’m now 30 and have been living on my own since undergrad. I’ve supported myself the entire time and never got financial help from family. + +I moved across the country for 8 years and not once did my biological family visit me. In fact, I spent 6 years not seeing them in person because I was too poor to afford a plane ticket because I was paying for college and my own bills. When I graduated college (the first in my family) not a single person asked about graduation plans. They never even offered to help me pay for a plane ticket so I could see them. + +Two years ago I moved closer to home, an hour from my family, and not a single person has even made the effort to visit me in my city. Every single break I get im expected to travel. I’m so tired of it. 10 years and my parents have literally never seen my home. It’s beyond embarrassing when someone I’m close to in my life asks why my parents never visit… + +My parents say they’re afraid to travel into on the city but you can’t suck it up for one weekend?? + +Anyone else have family like this?? How did you navigate it?",0 +6260,"My dad. By god i hate myself. Me and my father like to sit down in our garage, have a drink or two. We talk. We have fun. He is a bit older you know (63), and sometimes i feel he doesnt know his limit. He's kinda drunk and gets tired. I was just outside calling a cab for myself and suddenly i hear him falling on his knees. He's fine, the tiredness just caught up with him. Brought him upstairs so he goes to bed. But i feel i somehow forced him to stay with me because he loves talking with me since we didnt quite have the chance to do so a few years ago. I told him several times to go upstairs if he's tired. But he just refused saying he enjoys the conversations so much. I think sometimes i should just stop and make him go to bed (dunno how to say it without sounding weird). I just want him to be save and not exceed his limits. :/",0 +6261,"AITA for not wanting to have a relationship with my parents?. For context, I am 20f and have lived with my parents until now. I have been a very successful student with the help of my parents paying for my college. I’m in my last year of undergrad and moving out now. I am moving slightly far away and do not really care to make an effort to see them once I have. I’m the oldest, so you can assume I’ve had the second mom/housekeeper/babysitter role for my siblings a lot of my life, and I’m tired of it. I have basically been treated like an adult since I turned 12, doing my own thing without much help besides basic necessities, which were constantly thrown in my face. To try and counter this, I started working as soon as I was 16 and I have been working nearly full time while being a full time student since I have started college. I’m not home (I commute) unless it’s to sleep or get clothes. I work so much so that I don’t have to parent my siblings, which may seem harsh but my parents DON’T need the extra help and abuse my presence when I AM around. They have started doing it to my boyfriend when he comes over (which is once every few weeks- he loves my siblings but he’s not a free babysitter/housekeeper either), assuming since we’re there, we are willing to do whatever they don’t want to. Aside from that, 20 years of emotionally distant parents, getting their household responsibilities dumped on me, and emotional neglect (you’re so independent!) make me not want to talk to them once I leave. It makes me feel guilty because they paid for my college, and honestly I have never said anything about how unhappy I am with how they act as parents to both me and my siblings, but now that I'm older it feels like it's too late to say anything. I plan on reaching out to my siblings after I leave, but not my parents. + +TLDR; I'm moving out soon and don't plan on keeping in touch with my parents because of how they have treated me my whole life, but I don't know if that's harsh because I never told them how I really feel.",0 +6262,Was I wrong for doing this?. A few weeks ago I reported my Mum to the police without her knowledge for physically abusing me when I was 9. She didn't get arrested but they took her name down. I know she had mental health issues but this was before then and she never abused my brothers only me. I've forgiven her but I just felt like doing something seeing as it's had a profound effect on me even though it happened many years ago. So was I wrong to do this?,0 +6263,"Facing losing my dad. Today I have to face a life without my daddy in it. Without being able to pick up the phone and call him and tell him about my day, how my teens are driving me nuts, or to fill him in on the progress of my business in which I’d never even have if he didn’t believe in me much more time. Yes he’s had health issues but mostly of the variety that have us calling him the bionic man due to surgeries that require replacement of body parts that he has had fall apart due to many many years of a hand working man. Seeing him in a ventilator, tons of machines and being told there’s next to a zero chance of survival tore my heart out. I haven’t slept in 30 hours, I haven’t eaten, I can’t stop shaking internally. And this pit In my stomach and heart is where I know I will forever have a hole without him. I have never lost someone close to me other than a great grandparent or grandparent. I’ve been blessed to up till now not know this kind of agony and I’m afraid I’m not strong enough. How do others live with this hole? Live with memories that should be happy but just make you go throw up stomach bile because you know you’ll never have them again? Questioning everytime you could have called him that you didn’t. Could have visited and didn’t. Please tell me this gets better. Tell me I’ll be able to concentrate on something, anything other than this pain. For now my daddy holds on for dear life in the icu against all odds. While we take turns sitting with him around the clock. I just want to see one more smile, one last true hug, one last hello sweetheart how is everything? Im gutted. to invest in my dream. To have to imagine holidays, birthdays, special events such as my daughters sweet 16 in 4 weeks without him there to dance with. I am 38 years old. Not young but not old. He is 67. I thought I had so much more time. Yes he’s had health issues but mostly of the variety that have us calling him the bionic man due to surgeries that require replacement of body parts that he has had fall apart due to many many years of a hand working man. Seeing him in a ventilator, tons of machines and being told there’s next to a zero chance of survival tore my heart out. I haven’t slept in 30 hours, I haven’t eaten, I can’t stop shaking internally. And this pit In my stomach and heart is where I know I will forever have a hole without him. I have never lost someone close to me other than a great grandparent or grandparent. I’ve been blessed to up till now not know this kind of agony and I’m afraid I’m not strong enough. How do others live with this hole? Live with memories that should be happy but just make you go throw up stomach bile because you know you’ll never have them again? Questioning everytime you could have called him that you didn’t. Could have visited and didn’t. Please tell me this gets better. Tell me I’ll be able to concentrate on something, anything other than this pain. For now my daddy holds on for dear life in the icu against all odds. While we take turns sitting with him around the clock. I just want to see one more smile, one last true hug, one last hello sweetheart how is everything? Im gutted.",0 +6264,"Feedback on parents stopping support for adult (50 y/o) child.... I was approached today by my in-laws about my thoughts on a reverse mortgage. I've been in finance for over 20 years so they tend to run money related questions by me. After probing a bit, it turns out the question stemmed from my grandma-in-law is thinking about doing a reverse mortgage so she can continue to support her son who is 50 with a wife and kid. I gave them the technical/monetary feedback about the reverse mortgage but ended with the grandma can easily end up in this situation 5 years from now if she doesn't do something to address the issue with the son. + +The son doesn't have much in terms of career options. He works hard but mostly jobs that are slightly above minimum wage and his intellect likely in the bottom third. Furthermore, his wife doesn't work and not likely to anytime soon. + +Has anyone's family actually been able to cut off financial support for someone after their 40s? If so, how did they do it? + +TL;DR: Grandma in law is thinking about wrecking her finances to continue to support 50 year old son. What steps can be done to have him support himself?",0 +6265,"Am I being u reasonable (22m) or is my mum?. I have recently moved home from 4 years of university where I have been independently living. I was considering finding my own place but work allows me to be at my parents house and both parents wanted me home. My room has always been too small and my mum agreed that I would convert the spare living room into a bedroom for me (this was over lots of arguments over petty details). + +I have mentioned this before but I just mentioned once again today that I was going to replace the TV in there as it is very outdated and is 10+ years old, since it will be my bedroom I'd like a nice new TV. Of course I would pay for the new one and probably give away the other or store it away. + +But as I mentioned it my mum threw the biggest fit and we got into a massive argument, I asked why she wanted to argue over something so small and she kept repeating that she paid alot of money for the TV and I'm not getting rid of it. I've tried explaining that I'm going to be paying for a brand new one which is way better and that since it'd end up in my bedroom anyway it wouldn't affect her. However she threw the biggest rage and has been going on all day angry at me. I can't understand why she'd be so mad at such a thing. We often argue over stupid things, she tends to angry over silly stuff. + +Even a few hours after the argument I was watching TV and tried to chuck the remote to the other sofa as I was leaving. This fell on the floor an made a loud noise, mum walks in and goes off asking why I'm angrily smashing things. I said it was an accident but she went off ranting again. + +Is it really that big of an issue that I'm replacing the TV? I get that back 10+ years ago she paid alot of money for it, but it really is on its last legs and it's pretty much worthless right now. Before you say that I should just move out, I have tried having this talk and since mum wants me home she then has another rant accusing me of threatening her with leaving the house. Whether I stay or go it seems there is no winning. + +I need to have my own space without the constant arguing of any little thing i want to do (i.e, changing the layout of the room any which way), how could I explain this to my mum without causing an argument, as I fear if I leave the house now then I won't ever come back",0 +6266,"AITA for being ungrateful to my parents??. I (19F) have always wanted to pursue engineering and worked throughout my high school for the same. For a clearer contect, I live in India. I got really high scores in my college entrance exams and even got a full scholarship. But my parents decided that I needed to do medicine and made me take the entrance last minute. Unsurprisingly, I didn't score very well and ended up getting into a very good college but with no scholarship. I suggested to my parents that i prepare for an year and retake it. But again they decided on their own that i had to go to the college on the other side of the country with very high tution and living expenses. And they paid completely for it. Now i am in my second year of college. From being a topper in school, I am now a very average student here. I have no passion for this course. And everytime i go home, my parents always tell me how much I have cost them and how I should forever be grateful to have parents like them. But all I can feel is anger knowing how they have forcefully pushed me into something that I didn't want and they expect me to be grateful about it. Now, I love my parents to death. But I am afraid that they will always control my life and all my decisions like they derailed my career. But I feel really guilty for wanting to distance myself knowing how hard they have worked to pay my fees. But i feel really trapped and have been really depressed for over a year. What should I do?",0 +6267,"How often is too much to visit parents?. I'm engaged and have a good relationship with my parents. I recently told my fiancé I'm planning on visiting my parents once a week when we move in together/get married. We both have jobs in which we work from home so my plan was to go to my parents one weekday morning, help them with things and visit, and head back home that evening. She said she feels this is way too much and us seeing them every other weekend to go out and eat should be fine. + +I'm an only child, my parents are mid 60s with some health issues and frankly I do enjoy their company. In this situation, how often is too often to visit?",0 +6268,"I sent my mom on a scavenger hunt to find her son!!!. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9V82Bf3vulI&t=3s](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9V82Bf3vulI&t=3s) + +This past weekend I flew my brother Max home to surprise our entire family. No one knew he was coming home, so I set up a mini scavenger hunt and told my mom Nina that I had a present to give her",0 +6269,"How to live with my parents again after years of living on my own?. Hi all, + +Earlier this year, I (28F) called of an engagement, and my ex-fiancé stayed at the apartment we had been renting together. So I moved back in with my parents and younger siblings. It has been quite an adjustment. I haven't lived at home with my parents for over 7 years, and lately it's been challenging being back home. + +Growing up, my parents were VERY strict and overprotective. I barely had a social life until I was 18, so I was very sheltered until I started college. My relationship with my parents is complicated, and I was so happy to move out and be on my own (living with my then-partner(s)). + +After calling off my engagement, it was a weird point in my life and I sort of lost my sense of direction, and my parents wanted me to move back home to get myself together, and to save money which I appreciate. + +I contribute at home (not with rent), but I cook meals, take care of my younger siblings, help food shop for the household, clean up after myself, do my own laundry (normal things), run errands, offer rides when needed, etc. I still continue to pay my own bills, and I work a full-time job and have a small business. Living at home is temporary, and I am also going back to pursue my doctorate and will be mostly out of the house due to school. + +I feel like I'm in a weird limbo between being an adult and being their child. They expect me to tell them what I'm doing, where I'm going, who I'm with, when I'll be back, etc. (My mom has even asked me to input my schedule into the family calendar). When I was living on my own, my parents rarely knew what I was doing with my life lol. + +I feel like I'm slowly losing my mind lol. I appreciate my parents and them letting me stay to get back on my feet and to save money, but I don't know if it's worth going back to feeling like I did when I was younger with feeling restricted and monitored constantly. I've since stopped sharing my location with my mom, and she had a fit. I feel suffocated. Should I just move out (definitely would not be financially smart, because I'm starting grad school soon and that costs $$), but is it worth it for my mental health?",0 +6270,"How do I explain to my elderly parents they cant stay at ours anymore?. So my parents are elderly and both in poor health. My father has been having chemo and my wife and I offered for them both to stay with us whilst going through it. +My father was very poorly with the chemo and my mother also needed a lot of support too during this difficult time. They’ve stayed with us for almost a year. The chemo is finished and both are doing a lot better. But they are expecting to continue to stay with us long term because we’ve wanted them to feel welcome and that this has been no trouble. +We started with the best intentions but unfortunately having both parents live with us for a prolonged period has taken its toll on us. We’ve been running ourselves ragged and are stressed. My wife’s depression has worsened and we’ve been affected by lack of privacy and personal space. Also we haven’t been able to spend as much time as a family with our children, one of whom has special needs. My workplace has been very understanding and have let me work from home and take time off when needed, but I am concerned of exhausting their sympathy. +My wife has made it very clear that this cannot go on in the long term. I am concerned about my wife’s depression worsening. We feel the best option would be to help support my parents in their own home, now that they’re better, with the support of carers. And if this doesn’t work, a care home or assisted living would be the next step. +I don’t know how to discuss this with my parents. I don’t want to hurt their feelings so need to be very careful how I address this. My inclination would be just to tell the truth about the difficulties, but my wife says I’m too honest sometimes and that this would just hurt their feelings. Also my wife doesn’t want to be blamed and doesn’t want me to mention the depression worsening. We need to do something though as the situation is not sustainable long term. Any ideas how to approach this? +Perhaps instead of addressing the difficulties, I just suggest now that they’re doing better they can try living in their own home with support? What if they say they couldn’t cope? Perhaps then suggest the care home? +As a side thought, when I was a child, my parents didn’t offer for my grandparent to live with us when they similarly unwell. I remember the conversations from my childhood when they came to that decision and my parents must know that this hasn’t been easy and the reasoning why this isn’t long term solution. +Any help appreciated!",0 +6271,"My sister's friend just died what do I do to help her?. My sisters friend was in accident which meant she went into a coma and then sadly passed away a few days later. My sister seems to be really struggling but I have no idea how to help her because (very luckily) I've never really had to deal with grief. Any help would be greatly appreciated I don't want to make it worse for her I just really want to help. + +Thanks",0 +6272,"Keep getting body-shaming from my dad’s side of the family. How do I get them to stop.. I came from an American-Taiwanese family. Taiwanese from my dad’s side. I just don’t get why those people would say something like “oh you are a fat mess” “look at your brother, learn from him” and more like that to a FAMILY member. It’s been going on for 3~4 years and today I snapped. Today is the Ching Ming Festival which is the festival which you get together with your family and clean up the family cemetery. When my dad, my brother and I showed up at the ranch my uncle owns, my uncle immediately said “oh man you got fatter look at that belly of yours” the first thing he saw me, and the rest of the family just started laughing at me. I felt humiliated and my tears were at the edges of my eyes but I didn’t let them out because they’re super old school and can’t tolerate boys crying so I told them I need to go to the restroom and I cried there. I’ve never cried so hard in my life before. By the way, I’m 18 and I’m 5’9, 154 lbs. I know I’m not in perfect shape like them but I love my lifestyle and am not intend to change. They’re my family shouldn’t they be on my side? Plus, my uncles are bunches of losers who borrowed A LOT OF money from my mom and after they lost it all, nobody’s ever got the thought of compensating my mom. Just ranting lol.",0 +6273,"i don’t often get introduced as the fifth sibling or youngest child. i have four older siblings, each of them have a 2 year gap and i’m the youngest as i was born 13 years later. it’s understandable that they know most people and most people know them except me, but it sucks when strangers or family friends/distant members don’t even know i’m part of the family because i don’t get introduced as a member so often. sometimes they’ll be like “oh the youngest is a boy” which isn’t true because that’s me or they’ll only be counted as 4 children??? idk if i’m being dramatic, but it lowkey hurts and makes me angry sometimes, to the point that i doubt i’m like a legit child. + +has anyone ever experienced this? does anyone know why my family is like this?",0 +6274,"""You've already done what you have to do after marrying"". My mom said that, when I told my mom I had just got sexually assaulted by a stranger. That was the worst words that I've ever heard. +Sometimes I think I should yell her how you could say that. but I couldn't say anything because I was 10 years old, I just got raped, I was confused, embarrassed, and in pain. +Mom took me to hospital and I got cured physically. No one cared my trauma. My dad told me just to forget it. My parents have never figured out I was crying, and I'm 35 now, I still have the nightmares. + +I've never dated anyone because I'm afraid of men. but sometimes I envy my sister, she's married to a good man and has a cute baby. + +At that time, all I wanted was a consolation that it wasn't my fault. + +I feel like I'm still 10 years old. +And I still haven't forgotten the hand that covered my mouth and hit me in the dark basement.",0 +6275,"Worried about my twin. Hi everyone so I’m f(20) and i have a twin sister who i love to death but im just incredibly worried about her well being. As I’m writing this she is currently in the hospital as she suffers from these really bad stomach pains and today was one of those days where she couldn’t stop throwing up. Im worried because this is not the first time it has happened but if im being honest I feel that I’m watching her slowly kill herself. There are days where she won’t eat all, she goes to sleep incredibly late or she’ll wake up at 1-3 in the afternoon, and she spends most of her time on her phone. Recently she lost a lot of weight and only weighs about 92 pounds. I know she’s incredibly stressed out about school and her major and she has told me that she is considering dropping out. But whenever i tell her to wake up and eat she just wont. I don’t think she suffers from any eating disorder but I’m just worried for her. My twin means the world to me, she’s my best friend and i get very emotional knowing she’s suffering and there’s nothing i can do to help her. I’m sorry this post is long but I’m hoping someone could help me out with this",0 +6276,"I feel like my dad has replaced me with his new gf and family..moved in after 3 months.. I'm an only child, so I'm probably not good at sharing, but this situation has me all kinds of upset. + +My dad and stepmom (30 years together) split about 18 months ago. She left, as did my mum years before that. The stepmom was the other woman. + +Anyway, since then my dad has been madly dating to find a replacement. I'm talking like 100 dates in the last year. He's in his 60s, retired. Wanted to find someone he could travel overseas with, go to wineries, you know..retirement life. + +I've met four ""serious"" girlfriends this year alone. He broke up with a lot of them because they weren't financially stable, and he's quite wealthy..well less wealthy now that my stepmom took half. And now he's settled for someone in a much worse financial positions than they were. + +So this latest girlfriend has 3 kids. Youngest is like 13. Last night I went for dinner, and he showed me how she had moved into my old room (after three months of dating her mom). I just died. My dad didn't even think to tell me they were moving in. Just ignored my feelings. It usually feels like home, but I just felt like an intruder. + +Here are some other things that are upsetting me: +* He has booked a trip to Hawaii for all of them. He's paying. We were meant to go on a family trip before covid hit, but it got cancelled. So he's now rebooked it with them, and didn't even think about me and my husband? (We were paying our half on the original trip) +* She is Mormon, she can't drink wine or coffee. My dad is Anglican and loves those things. Winery trips are his passion! Even has a wine cellar. They can't even share a bed until they're married, which makes me think it will happen soon.. +* He wanted to be able to travel anytime..now he's with someone who is still working and with kids in school. +* They are gold diggers for sure. Telling me how they like staying at my dad's house because it's so much nicer than theirs. My dad spends every day trying to fix their house. I fear he's being taken advantage of when he could be out living his best life. +* I fear he is going to being taken advantage of and end up broke and won't be able to afford any care should he need it in the next 15 years. I personally can't afford to pay for it either. +* In my state after 6 months of dating, you are a defacto and can take the other person for half. I'm concerned she will do this as she has 3 kids, 4 grandchildren, and not a lot of money. (When my stepmom left, she told me she hoped I didn't mind that she would be cutting me out of her will as she wants to give the money to her nieces. As an example of the relationships he's been in. Money hungry women.) +* He's hardly seen me since he's been with her. I supported him daily through his divorce, and I've just been dropped like a hotcake. He even spent Christmas Day with them like I didn't even exist. +* I'm just so worried he has settled. Like square peg, round hole. And he could be with someone who is so much more suited. +* Also worried that when we have kids in the next year or two, he'll be so preoccupied with her family that he won't even see our kids. +* Dad is already treating her kids better than he ever treated me. He's got this happy family now, when he never even tried to have one when I was around. +* When the rapid antigen tests were ridiculously rare in our city, he secured some for his new family. But not me. Who has a heart condition and would definitely go down hard if I had covid. Like if I were in the opposite position and had access, I'd be making sure he had one before us? +* My dad had a hard time with monogamy, which is why three marriages have ended. I'm not sure why he's so desperate to settle down again..when he can just live freely. + +I'm just a mess. Has anyone been through this? Should I be taking a different perspective? I want to be happy for him, but I'm concerned he will be taken advantage of.",0 +6277,"I don't know how to deal with my rude and mean stepdaughter.. EDIT: Look I will just say that I am keep trying to help my stepdaughter, and if this keep this way I am just going to agree with my husband to kick her out, I am really tired of that, I will left reddit. + +​ + +I married 6 months ago and move to my husband's house, I have two sons and he one daughter. + +The move started very badly, at first we had to give away my stepdaughter's 4 cats because my youngest son is very allergic, and then we had to change our stepdaughter's room (which it one of the biggest in the house) to another more small because my two sons sleeps on the same room and my husband decides that they need a big room, so the relationship with her and my family started very bad. + +She also is some jealous, I think, because she gets very mad with my youngest because he is very affectionate with his stepdad (he always wanted a father because my husband left when I was pregnant of him) my youngest likes to hug and kiss his stepdad, he even cuddle with him at couch or bed, and of course he calls him daddy, she tells him things like “ he is not your father “ or “ we are not your family, we don't love you “ . + +She also calls me lazy and even fortune hunter, because I am a stay-at-home mother, even if I do everything around the house and she doesn't help me with anything. + +My husband is completely against her, he even love more my sons than his own daughter. He even threatens to throw her out of the house, but I believe that we can changed her behaviour. + +Can you give me any advice? + +And if this matters, my age is 30, my husband is 53, my sons are 10 and 8, and my stepdaughter is 21.",0 +6278,"Is it bad that I dislike my mom's family?. Like my (21F) maternal grandparents, my mom's sister and brother and their respective families. They're all just so toxic. Attention seekers, fake, plastic, gossip mongers, self obsessed narcissists, have bratty badly brought up destructive disrespectful kids who even abuse in public (they're all below 14 years of age) and they all use my mom. But they still wanna act nice because ""family"". + +I find this all very exhausting and is causing me a lot of distress and anxiety. My mother has called them all over for New Year and I've gone into a state of trauma and rage. + +She didn't even tell me they were coming until I found out and she just lied to me saying they weren't because I was pissed. But now I found out it was a lie to keep me calm. + +She won't even let me leave the house because it would be disrespectful to them. She makes me feel like shit for hating on them and I'm starting to feel so messed up right now like I'm a bad person or something. It's making me question whether I'm a good human or not.",0 +6279,"Dad brings new girlfriend to thanksgiving and she's my new boss. I want to state here I love my dad he's always been an excellent father to me and my siblings and he's always been an amazing human being but this situation has gotten Very weird for me very fast. so to preface this my mother died at the beginning of this year. it happened very suddenly and none of us really saw it coming, My mom owned a business and was very skilled in her field I also work for that business, now my dad decides to sell the business and since I'm a pretty indispensable part of the business I come with the business, the woman who bought the business is a very nice and lovely woman let's call her Carol (obviously not her real name) I've known her for years she's also very skilled in her field and I had no problems what so ever going to work for her, life is going well then my dad comes to visit us (we live in different states) for thanksgiving and as soon as he gets into the house he said ""we need to talk"" not something you ever want to hear, he sits us down and tells us he's been dating Carol for about a month and she's coming to thanksgiving. I'll admit it wasn't a surprise that my dad was dating someone he's not exactly Subtle, I just didn't know who. It was a slightly awkward thanksgiving, I'm happy for my dad and Carol I really am, but I don't know things just seem really weird for me and I imagine it's going to be weird for a while hopefully I can shake off this weird feeling soon.",0 +6280,"My Mom refuses to take me to the doctor after getting seriously injured. Basically the title. I'm 15m. I play soccer a lot. A month or so ago I was playing ( I primarily play Keeper and striker) and was punting the ball. I wasn't focused on the punt its self, rather where I wanted to put it. This happened twice where I screwed up the punt and just missed the ball completely or had a really bad punt. This doesn't happen often for me. I was also crossing the ball twords the goal a number of times from both the left side and from corner kicks. This all led to the area where my leg connects to my torso feeling really awful. I thought it was a small issue with a muscle but I realize its probably worse than that. This weekend I played in a local pickup game. My leg was feeling fine. I hadn't given my self a lot of time to heal because I thought it was a relatively small issue. I practice dribbling a bit before we started. I took one shot before it was supposed to start, and that was it. I felt something absolutely awful happen. I thought I could feel it straight up detach or something else. It was an awful feeling. I can barely walk now. I have a lot of trouble doing basic things that involve walking and standing up. Sleeping is awful due having to lean on side of my body. It absolutely sucks. Walking around at school is not fun. I was suppose to do the school soccer team this year for the first time. And it was supposed to start this week. I really wanted to do it but I very obviously can't. I talked to the coach and he suggested it could be a stress fracture. Now the part about my mom: I have asked her repeatedly if I could go to the doctor to get it looked at because I'm afraid its worse than I think. Every time she gets frustrated and refuses. She says its just a pulled muscle and going to the doctor won't do anything and they will just say what she says. This is infuriating. I want to make sure i heal properly and she is refusing to take me to the doctor. I haven't been to the doctor in over 2+ years as well. She isn't anti vax, there aren't money issues, she just doesn't want to. I don't like arguing with her bc she just gets all pissed and yells. Not something I have the emotional Capacity or effort to deal with at the moment. + +What do i do. I don't want to jeopardize my health or ability to play soccer in the Future. + +Tl;Dr I hurt my leg badly, Mom is refusing to take me to the doctor. + +​ + +Edit: Im from the USA",0 +6281,"No hopes of better life. My husband is a single bread winner of the family of 3. He works so hard but makes $3k per month after taxes. In that $2k goes for rent and utilities & $600 for car emi and insurance. I cannot work as I have baby to take care & though I work I have to spend on day care so I want to take care of baby till he goes to school. My husband is trying for new opportunities but no success. Life is becoming too hard. No savings and I’m scared about tomorrow each day. Can you give me some inputs where I can work from home with entry level jobs. Tried in indeed, ZipRecruiter and nothing works",0 +6282,"Children born eight years apart with the exact same birthday… Girl and boy… Pros and cons. I am currently nine months pregnant with my second child a son, but I was just informed that the delivery date will be the exact same day as my firstborn daughter; I would like to have some context on children/ people who have experienced the same situation years apart like on your relationship, birthdays, etc. +Pros and Cons. + +If you can provide some examples of being kids and transitioning into teenagers, transitioning into adults, would be much appreciated, and if you would recommend it for other people. + +Thank you.",0 +6283,"My sister is copying my identity. I (18 f) have a sister (16 f). It all started a few years back. I was really into art and one of my classmates, who were also into art, asked me if I wanted to attend private art lessons with her. I asked my parents and they said yes. The art teacher only accepted 5 students at a time, so we were a pretty small group of children between the ages 10-14. +I went to the lessons once a week for one year, when Suddenly out of nowhere, my sister became really interested in art, and begged my parents to let her attend the lessons too. For some context, my parents had just gotten divorced a few weeks prior and the lessons wasn’t cheap. My sister also took recorder lessons wich wasn’t cheap either. They let her attend even though they had a hard time paying for it. I was also taking dance lessons at the time, but decided to quit, so my parents didn’t have to pay for that too. Around the same time I started getting really into anime and a week after my sister found out, she got obsessed with anime too. +I started wearing a lot of dark clothes and alway wore a leather jacket, that I bought myself. My sister begged my mother for a leather jacket and got one, that she now also always wears. +For my 18th birthday I got a pair of leather boots. My father bought my sister a pair of almost identical boots a few weeks later. I already have dark brown hair and my sister is blond. I cut my hair short a few weeks back and dyed it black with a purple stripe. Now my sister has short black hair with pink ends. She wears the same type of clothes as me, she listens to the same music, plays the same games as me, draws in the same style as me, she has almost the same background on her phone as me and she even quit her recorder lessons a few months back. I feel like she is copying my whole identity. She is also studying the exact same thing as I am. +It has come to a the point where I don’t tell my family if I find a new song I enjoy, wich games I play, or what my future plans are. I brought it up to my mother, but she told me that my sister just looks up to me and that I should be grateful for that. I don’t know what to do about this. I feel trapped and suffocated.",0 +6284,"My mom told me to stop working out. Should i stop or continue.. I (15m) tried some workout stuff yesterday because i wanted to have a good figure when i turn 18. But today when i woke up my body felt sore causing me to have to limit my movement. My mother (35f) needed help to do some basic stuff like taking care of my brother(2m) so i helped. But when she asked me to go buy something i said i cant because my body hurts and its difficult to move. She said im full of crap and i wont look better. We argued for a bit more because i said why wont she give my brother to our stepdad(37m) since he does nothing. She dodged the question saying how im not appreciating the fact that she feeds me and this is all i can do to help. But our stepfather literally sits all day doing nothing( not even paying for his son's baby stuff). I thought this arguement would benefit noone and i just went to my room and cried a bit(its not what men do i know). Now im puzzled should i believe her or quit because i really want to have a good body shape before i turn 18.. +Ps: she did say that i should kill myself before. +And sorry if there were any grammatical errors.",0 +6285,"My parents take my bedroom off me as a punishment, is this normal?. I (18f) have reasonably strict parents, a a lot of the time we manage to get along. I am the oldest of 3, with 14m and 11f. Since i was about 8 my parents go to punishment has been to take my bedroom of me and make me share with my brother. We have enough bedrooms in our house for everyone to have their own bedroom, so its not like we don't have enough rooms, and if this was the case i wouldn't mind at all. The most recent time was as a 14 and 15 years old i was forced to share my brothers room with him, he was 10 and 11 at the time. This meant i had no privacy for 2 years, and completely stopped having friends over to save the embarrassment of explaining the situation. The reason for the punishment was my room wasn't always tidy, there were usually clothes on the floor and this was 'disrespectful' which i get but 2 years seemed a bit harsh. I try my best to be tidy but it doesn't come easily.  During this time our main bathroom was also 'confiscated' for a few months due to the fact that my siblings couldn't be bothered washing down their tooth paste and flushing the toilet every time. Again i understand that this needs to be addressed but it meant i had literally no privacy for 3 months, as the other toilet we used had no lock on the barn door, and came straight of the living room. As a teenage female this was terrible, and I mainly tried to use the school bathrooms. I am now 4 days away from my final school exams, and i have been threatened with losing my room 3 times this week. It is usually the first thing to be threatened if i do something like not clean the kitchen properly. I have been consistently threatened since i got own room back, and am constantly reminded that's its not my house and they can take the room at any point. I am moving out next year and my parents were super surprised and asked why, and i said that i am sick of having my bedroom taken off me/being threatened to have it take it off me. I said i would consider staying if they promised i wouldn't take the room but they said its their right, and if they want to they will. I don't want to be a uni student sharing with my then 15 year old brother. Its worth noting that i have been moved out of my room as a punishment 4 times since i was 8, ranging from 1 year to 2.5 years and my brother hates it too. In terms of my behaviour i am at an academically selective school and get As and Bs, although i am a procrastinator. I behave reasonably well, don't drink, don't sneak out, on paper the worst thing i do is do my assignments the night before. Basically I have not been a bad kid. This is my first time using reddit so please forgive me if the post isn't right. I just want to know if this is a normal thing to take away privacy as a punishment? I am constantly internally angry about it because it really took away my confidence in trying to make friends, and just life in general. Any opinions would be great. ",0 +6286,"Is it OK for me to tell my niece's daughter to help her around the house?My niece has cancer. My sister, which is my niece's mother help her with chores shopping etc. My niece's daughter who is 14 will not do anything for her mom. I told her a few times to help her mom around the house. My sister and I can't be there all the time. Then my niece got mad at me for telling her daughter to help out,she told me to mind my own business. I'm doing this because no one else will tell her. My niece told me if I tell her daughter to help one more time, she doesn't want me over. She has pets to that she will not take care of. My niece can't do it she's sick all the time. Please tell me what to do or say to them.",0 +6287,"Mom still treats me like a child when I’m almost 25 years old.. I got out of the Marines last year and moved in with her during the transition period of going back to normal life. This was about a month I stayed there until I moved out and went to college. Then a year later I moved out of my apartment because i wanted to move somewhere else so I’m staying with her again while I wait to move into the new one. So to be clear, I moved out at 18 and only have been back home for a total of 2 months and she acts like I never moved out at 18. Also yes I asked her first before I stayed with her again both times and she agreed. When I say she acts like I’m still a child she constantly complains that I stay up too late(Not because I’m making too much noise) and she also doesn’t like when I go on dates with girls. Lastly, she complains that I’m not working right now because I get paid enough money to go to college for free due to my military background. I’m never going to move in with her again after this but it has definitely hurt our relationship where I don’t think I’m going to speak with her much after I’m gone unless she starts treating me like an adult. What can I do to make her treat me like an adult? Don’t say get a job because I’m focusing on school and have plenty of money.",0 +6288,People with harmonious families... What's your secret?. How do you balance all the stuff in your life and how do you solve all the family issues?,0 +6289,"How can I cope with the fact that my dad is no longer with us?. My dad was feeling suicidal since they cut off his leg in November of last year. Yesterday I went to visit him and he was getting upset with me because I didn’t answer any of his phone calls, and I told him you don’t have to call me so much, you know I’m gonna show up anyways. Then last night my dad ended up shooting himself. I feel like if I answered his phone calls, he wouldn’t have done that. I cried a lot last night, but now I don’t know how to feel.",0 +6290,Grandparents rules. I live on a large family ranch and my 10 year old is getting to know her grandfather now. She recently decided to ride her four wheeler down the road to her grandpas house and knocked and nobody was home so she went In and sat on the couch to use his WiFi on her phone and he got back home and was upset. He told her she needed to not go in his house if he wasn’t home and ask before using his WiFi. Was this okay or a bit over the top to be so upset with her about? She’s used to her grandmother from where we moved from living in our sane town and we were used to being allowed to show up if she was there or not. We never even knocked. She feels uncomfortable around my dad now and I was hoping she would bond better with him but he makes it a little uncomfortable for her.,0 +6291,"Thought SIL was dead, but apparently she's not. I'm posting for my mom with her full knowledge. + +Background: my mom (73F) and my stepdad (71M) got married in 2004. When he and mom got married, he told us that his whole family was dead, mom, dad, and both siblings. My mom was SD 1st marriage, although he was her second. I'm also only child to my mom and SD didn't have any bio-kids that we're aware of. When they both retired, they moved to my city since I'm pretty much their only family. So for essentially 18 years my mom believed his family was gone. + +A couple of months ago, SD passed away very unexpectedly. Of course, it hit my mom hard. So I've pretty much incorporated her into my life, and my husband has been awesome in making sure she has been taken care of. + +Today when checking her mail before going to her house, there was a card in the mail. It was from SD sister. There was a note inside from her. And now mom is VERY confused. A person that she thought was dead for the last 18 years is not only NOT dead but also sending mail. The note didn't have the SIL name, phone number, email, or even a mailing address. We would both like some advice as to what do we do now. Do we try to find SD family? Do we just accept it at face value? If we do try to find her, what would even be the first step?",0 +6292,"My dad wants me to cover up my shoulders. So im a f24 and my parents aren’t together they are separated but keep it civil and we go see my dad on special occasions maybe once every other month or something (probably less than that), even though i love my dad we’ve all just sort of got on with our lives so I dont see him much (he lives in another town about an hour away) + +Would like to say that my parents are muslim and I am not (out of choice, even though I was raised as one), but they do not know I am not a muslim anymore (i would never want to upset them like that, my mom is a bit more liberal with what i wear/do). I get that he has always been raised with that mentality but I dont want to say to him anything that could hurt him because hes my dad and always tells me how proud he is of me because of my education and the things I do. + +I recently graduated on an extremely hot day just a few days ago and wore a dress to my knees (midi) and it was an off the shoulder one (no cleavage, just showing my legs from the knee below). + +On the day everything was fine, i told my mom im wearing the dress because its hot and definitely not wearing tights or a sleeved dress/cardigan. She was a bit hesitant but understood and said it was fine. My graduation went great and my dad probably only said it once jokingly about me covering up but that was it. + +Today we spoke on the phone and it was nice catching up and then he randomly said but dont wear clothes like that again (not yelling at me or saying it angrily but calmly) so it surprised me and i said but it was soo hot that day im not gonna cover up and he said but you’re muslim it was showing your shoulders etc and i just said im not gonna cover up and he told me to promise him I wouldnt wear stuff like that again and i said i cant promise you and he said then i cant talk to you and cut the phone off. + +Ive messaged him that he should stop acting like that and that it was such a hot day, and that wearing those clothes doesnt make me a bad person or anything. He hasnt responded but its annoying and hurts. + +I mean I could tell him that I promise I never would wear clothes like that again and he may never find out, but i may post a picture some day that he would see, or maybe if we went to the beach as a family id wear a dress etc. i also dont want to lie to him because id feel bad about that too. + +Any advice on what to say to him to make him understand? Or what I can do? + +TL;DR- Wore a off the shoulder midi dress to my graduation and my muslim dad wont speak to me unless I tell him that I promise I will never wear clothes like that again.",0 +6293,"Will my family recover? Dad (56) got scammed by a ""woman"" he was having an online affair with. She said she was 28. I, his little girl, am 26; his other child is 25. They had been speaking on Facebook for maybe 5 months. She said she was having relationship troubles. She also said she was rich, and gave the name of some influencer that is Googleable, used her pics too. They exchanged naked photos (disgusting). They talked about moving in together. Two weeks ago, my dad rented a studio flat a couple miles away from the house that he and my mum (59) have been sharing for 25 years. He gave the ""woman"" £8k. This wealthy woman. Idiotic. And, of course, it was a scam. + +My mum is furious and hurt, of course. But she's strong. My dad is broken. He's always suffered from depression and anxiety, which appears to be genetic as his father killed himself decades ago and myself and my brother have depression and anxiety too. He says if he is kicked out of the house that he'll probably kill himself. So, while my mum would otherwise file for divorce right away, she's holding off on that for now. But she needs some self preservation. He says it won't happen again but we don't trust him. So far, they are going to see a lawyer to make the house under her name only, and they will both write a will to leave their pension, assets, etc. to me and my brother rather than to each other. The landlord for this flat was understanding and the tenancy agreement is being cancelled. At least there's that. + +My brother doesn't know yet. He's got his final year exams so he'll only be told afterwards. He already figured out that Dad was scammed but he doesn't know the nature of it. I imagine he will go ballistic. As I mentioned before, the three of us (brother, dad and myself) suffer from mental health issues. My dad is having therapy, but my mum won't get counselling as she doesn't want anyone else to know even with the obligation for confidentiality. She deserves better than how my dad has treated her. She and I agreed that she shouldn't rule out divorce in the near future. We're considering how Dad shouldn't get away with this behaviour without facing consequences, but at the same time we're concerned that he will kill himself. I don't want that, thank you. I said to Mum, keep him here for now but just treat him like a man who happens to live here, a lodger, rather than a husband. She's so independent and fulfilled anyway, she doesn't need a man to be happy. + +Don't suppose anyone has advice for me? How can my mum get rid of my dad without him killing himself? He's been rather dependent on her company, good advice, her careful financial planning, her excellent organisation skills, her housework (he does maybe 30%) - while you can say that taking her for granted, it also means that he will struggle living on his own. And the fact is that he is highly unlikely to find another woman to settle down with in the long term at his age. Far less a woman who is richer and two years older than his eldest child. So if he leaves, he'll be lonely forever and he'll probably end it. That's not our responsibility, but we don't want to see that happen. + +TL;DR Dad had online affair which turned out to be a scammer, now suicidal - how do we as a family move on from this without him killing himself?",0 +6294,"any advice would be helpful. So I'm a 16 year old and i live with my mom my parents got separated when i was in kindergarten ( not divorced) and they recently got divorced in like 2019 my mom has anger issues like she screams gets angry and even like throws things around when she's upset and blames everything on me like all the problems happen because of me like everything even at times she says stuff like you never should've been born or you should've been killed when you were born and stuff like this but i really love her i can't leave her alone and live with my dad cuz she has like eyesight problem so she can't cook or see small stuff ! Which is why More often than not i try to stay at home and not go anywhere leaving her alone at home i have had anxiety attacks panic attacks i hid it from her and whenever like i tell her my problems the next time we argue she uses it against me because of all these problems with my mom I can't seem to identify myself I'm confused about who i am and how am i good or bad im so like stuck in between !!! +Last night i was going to commit suicide because i couldn't take it anymore but I'm just trying to ask for help i can't discuss anything with dad he has blood pressure issues and other medical problems and stressing is bad for his health with my brother he doesn't like talking about this stuff idk what to whom should i go ! +Idk what to do where to go whom to ask for help ? +A friend of mine suggested this Reddit app so I'm trying this for the first time",0 +6295,"Uncomfortable keeping in touch with family member. I (32M) haven't spoken to a family member (25M) in another country for at least 3 years. The last time we even saw each other was through a video call with a cousin of mine where he didn't say hello or even acknowledge my presence, so awkward for me that I ended up saying I had to go and he still didn't even say goodbye. Reaches out the other day to say he's moving to my country and starts asking for favours because the cousin from the video call ghosted him after getting the hunch he's moving here. I feel it's fair for me to ghost him too because....self respect. Am I being irrational here?",0 +6296,Step parents. I don’t think it’s right for step parents to be able to hit their step children as someone who has had a stepdad who I believe was unfair and would constantly threaten to hit me I don’t think it’s right for someone who isn’t remotely related to a kid be able to hit them or be able to act like they have total authority over someone as their “father” / “mother” especially when the kid doesn’t want them as a replacement dad/mom I can respect that a mom/dad would want to find new love but don’t personally believe in step parents hitting their step children period.,0 +6297,"I've been thinking a lot about my childhood, mostly about things my dad has said and done in the past.. I (ftm19) am not really sure how to write this. There are some things I'm scared to type kinda, but something that triggered me to write this post was, I ordered pants and didn't realise they were those pre ripped jeans, I suddenly remembered being a kid and getting holes in my jeans. My dad wouldn't like it, so he would tackle me to the ground as I remember and rip the jeans completely off, he did this multiple times. I think the last time I was in middle school and a small hole ripped in my favorite pants at the time, and my dad shoved me on the couch and tore them off. I hated it. I don't remember if I cried or what I was feeling, but I know now that I feel extremely uncomfortable and almost scared to put on these new jeans. It was all supposed to be fun and games to my dad, but he didn't ever really play with me as a kid. I don't really remember ever really roughhousing with my dad besides that. + +In fact, playing was discouraged in the house; my mom was in chronic pain and was on a lot of meds and would sleep a lot. She wasn't super involved; she was there but not THERE. But, since she was sleeping and/or in pain, having friends over wasn't really allowed. So I would watch TV a lot, I was a kid so I watched disney channel, my dad didn't like that, he called it childish, not funny, and would just complain about how much he didn't like it whenever it was on. He would take the remote and change it to car shows. One of the shows tho, my dad didn't complain as much, because he thought one of the girls on it was hot, he would talk about how he should get a poster of her for his room. ((He was joking about the poster obviously but still why say it)) I learned recently that the actress was about 15-17 while on the show. My dad didn't and doesn't know that, but looking back and seeing Clips from the show, she looked that age. I just gave up watching TV. No matter what I put on, I felt like I couldn't just like it; HE had to like it. + +A few months ago, my dad asked, ""Do you not like watching TV in the living room because I used to make fun of you?"" I said,""Yeah, "" he replied, and I'm not making this up.""I didn't actually do that."" Just UGHGHG, all I felt I could respond was 'okay.' it was just easier to agree. + +I feel like I'm reading into nothing, but also, I just can't stop thinking about it. Theres other things, but I can't really find a good way to explain them and some stuff that I feel like my brain is making up to make me a victim, I don't know, I have trouble trusting myself. + +He still will shit on things I like. The last time I was driving with him, he told me to turn off my music. Any time I talk about something I'm interested in, he'll roll his eyes and just literally say ""whatever"" or talk about how much it isn't ""his thing."" I adopted a non personality with him anything I'm interested in he won't like so I just don't tell him, he thinks I like everything he does, it's just easier that way. + +He's said other things like yelling, ""MAN LANA DEL REY GOT FAT!"" While my gf at the time was over, who had really bad eating problems. My dad has also said starving is a good way to lose weight and it's okay for a husband to have sex with his inebriated wife. And other things about how high school boys can't control themselves. + +As well as many ignorant things about mental health and trans issues, but thats just dads I think. + +TLDR: My dad used to push my down and rip off my jeans that had even small holes, he would shit on every show I watched as a kid except the disney channel show where my dad found a girl in it hot. I adopted a non personality because it's easier than having to deal with him saying how much he dislikes the things I liked.",0 +6298,"How do I deal with my family's complete denial of my medical issues?. A little over a year ago, I (43F) contracted COVID while in the hospital for a kidney stone. + +I had the worst of it. I was unable to breathe unless I was flat on my stomach, I could hardly eat or drink because I'd start coughing and choke, and likely should have been on a respirator. As a result, now a year + later the damage done to my lungs is significant enough that I am reliant on Albuterol and have lost 15-20% of my lung capacity. + +My parents also had COVID as did my brother, however for them it was nowhere near as severe. They're also firmly in the ""COVID isn't serious, and the whole thing is a government hoax"" camp. None of them are doctors or in the medical field. + +My mother in particular is the biggest denier of the three. She is convinced the scarring and nodules in my lungs will go away if I just ""get more exercise"", and is openly skeptical of the recommendations my pulmonary specialist gave me to see a cardiologist to make sure my heart isn't also damaged. Her insistence it can all just be fixed by hopping on a treadmill (against the advice of my doctors at this time) is getting frustrating, as no matter how I word it or how many times I explain it, the doctors are wrong, it's not that serious, didn't I have that issue before, everyone has these problems, etc. + +I really don't know what to do here. I love my family, but as the one who is dealing with this, not being heard because my family has some ridiculous political agenda and feels the need to politicize a sickness is really upsetting me. + +How can I deal with this without losing my mind or my relationship with my family?",0 +6299,If your dad cheats your mom .... Would you tell her?? Why???,0 +6300,"Hello, I'm 22 yo and trying to help my depressed grandma.. She's always been a melancholic, depressed person. She doesn't leave the house for more than a decade, has no friends at all, only the few relatives that didn't die yet. And her family which is me, my sister, my cousin my mom my uncle, and her husband. My grandma has been having more and more health issues, I believe shes now around 80 yo. My sister, my mom and I want to cheer her on and clean her house which looks like a depressed person's home, if you know what that looks like. So we know we can't change much, we just at least want to clean it so that it doesn't become a hazardous place for her to live in. I don't know what else can I do for her, i'm not really a family person I visit them whenever they invite me on sunday's BBQ. But i truly care for her idk what else can/should I do to help her, I fear its going to be the last years of her life. My mom's trying to help with medic stuff because she doesn't believe in doctors, obviously not psychology either. + +​ + +Thank you for reading and hope you have a great day. + +Thank you everyone for your suggestions, sometimes when something happens even the simplest answers don't come to our mind... ",0 +6301,"I have the opportunity to get revenge without being found out. Do I Do It?. Thanks for reading before I start. + +​ + +I wont go into specifics, however I have the opportunity to get revenge on someone (non physical), this someone had mentally tormented my wife, my personal family, and members of their family. Destroyed relationships and caused some long term effects such as social anxiety, depression and confidence issues. Caused rifts in their own family and ours. + +I am not one for revenge, I am a humble person, however I have the opportunity to implement some low level revenge, just enough to stress and have a taste of their own medicine. This includes letters to workplaces. Rspca and potentially a social worker. + +​ + +I've not made my mind up just yet, it's not in my nature to hurt anyone, but I want some of the pain (mentally) accumulated throughout the years be presented on their doorstep. Obviously you don't know the ins and outs, however so far every bit of stress had been this end. Is revenge a sort of ok thing to do or am I overthinking things and should just leave it be. Any information would be amazing. Thanks!",0 +6302,"Hourly pay cut after asking for part time.. So I work in the health care field and these past years have been extremely tough. I work in a private office and asked to go part time by taking a day off my week to have more time for my family and myself, my parents have health issues and I want to be there for them. My manager was okay with it but said he needed to hire someone and asked for a month. After I agreed and the month is here he warned me that I would lose benefits, life insurance and my holidays paid. My company has always paid holidays with PTO and since im young im okay with not having the rest. Well he wasn’t happy about that decision and then told me my hourly wage would be cut 20-25% because he doesn’t feel I’ll be responsable for the same work load as anyone else although I’m keeping all my daily responsibilities and tasks.. any advice would be welcomed. Thanks!!",0 +6303,"my unintelligent mom putting all her money into bitcoin after watching youtube videos. Before the crypto lovers come at me, I work in finance and understand it quite well, it's not about that but the reckless process of watching youtube videos of charlatans, taking them seriously and then deciding to actually follow through. + +Wondering if anyone has dealt with this. + +My mom has always had a very child-like mind, she is quick to anger (the kind of person to get mad at employees for no reason), and bad at ever reasoning things through. When I told her I thought the youtube videos were nonsense she got extremely upset at me for disrespecting her. + +The reason it worries me is financial stability, my mom has never really worked a job, she divorced my dad and got his house almost 20 years ago, which she was able to sell for a couple million. She should be able to live off this but as you see, overnight bitcoin investments without strong thesis, the price can quickly go down 20% and she might panic and then goes 20% of her entire life savings.. + +Maybe not looking for advice as much as rambling, my mom is honestly a horrible person, no friends, always angry, very mean. etc. But finding this situation kinda ennerving just to process, that your own mother could be fooled so easily by charlatans on youtube.. and when you try to explain things, she gets angry at you for not respecting the youtube vids hard to describe but not a good feeling. + +​ + +hoping people who have experienced this can share their experiences here",0 +6304,"the netflix show “maid” re-surfaced trauma in me. (There are no real spoilers about the show, but you shouldn’t watch it if domestic violence is triggering for you.) + +A number of months ago, my S/O and I watched the show Maid. The premise of the show is that a woman is trapped in an abusive relationship with an alcoholic, has a kid with him, and can’t get out because of financial reasons and fear of losing custody. There are multiple moments in the show when he gets aggressive, and for the last few episodes I cried continuously. Then, called into work the next day. I am not one to cry; not because of gender norms (I’m queer), but because I physically cannot most of the time. + +I saw my mom a few days ago and she told me that she watched it, and it reminded her a lot of my dad who passed away, and was an alcoholic. It had clicked for me then, that watching that show had been familiar but I just couldn’t look away. That show hurt me in a way a show never has. There are times I think my inner child is healed, but this show made me think otherwise. And question if I even want kids or if everyone’d be better off if I broke the cycle. I am waiting for health insurance at my upcoming job to seek therapy. + +My relationship with my family has been rocky for years. At times, my mom and I are besties—and then things will flip and our relationship becomes based on monetary exchange or conditional love. My mother is often the last person I tell my good news too, as she doesn’t have much of a reaction. + +In the cold months when I am lost in my thoughts, I am grateful to have formed a loving family with people I’m not related to. My amazing S/O and all of my friends. This kind of went on a tangent, and I’m not really looking for advice, this has all just been weighing heavy. Thanks for reading. + +TL;DR: “Maid” brought up violent scenarios from my childhood and has made me question my relationship with my family.",0 +6305,"My sister is throwing shade. Okay so about a year ago, I (16F)ended up getting pregnant and having an abortion. I didn’t tell my dad so I couldn’t have it at home. My sister(27F) was there to support me at all my appointments and I even stayed there when I took the pills. Well today, she sent a very political post to our sisters group chat (there’s 3 of us) and it said “sorry I don’t accept “follow the science” from people who say babies aren’t alive until they are born”. +She knows that this topic is very sensitive to me. Do I confront her about it?",0 +6306,"In laws want to stay for 2 weeks. Is this normal?. My in laws want to stay with us for 2 weeks over the Xmas holiday, though they originally said only 3 days. They have a history of ignoring boundaries so I’m not sure if this is normal or not. For the record, I think 3 days is plenty …..",0 +6307,"Great relationship with parents - extremely anxious to move out and crying. Hi all, not sure if this post will reach many people but I need a terminal to express this feeling. + +Growing up I have always had great great relationship with my parents. We share many points of view, humors, and we stay close to each other. I have never left home living on my own before. + +My girlfriend of 5 years and I have been passively looking for an affordable place but wasn't all that proactive, until just recently we have made an offer on a place we like and will most likely be moving in 2-3 months. + +When I was searching homes during those times, it was half excitement and half stress, but the stress had always been about the finance and getting along with my girlfriend. But then until I actually knew I would be leaving home, my mind has been bombed by the thought of leaving my home and my parents. + +As I said, growing up I have a great relationship with my parents. Whenever I know they are getting home from work, I would go by the door to greet them and carry their stuff inside home. I always stay around the kitchen during dinner preping time so I can spend more time with my mom. And I always take the initiative to do house work / gardening work with my dad so I can spend more time with him. + +The thought that I won't be able to see them everyday is making me very anxious and sad. I am a 26M and always want to make sure I dont show my weak side, and I dont want to make it sound like I am blaming my girlfriend for wanting to move out (which she also has great relationship with her family and my family as well, and it is just the right timing to move out), but she is very independent and has no issue moving out. + +I dont know exactly what I am feeling or want from this. My parents have been very supportive and say I can always come home for dinner and visit (new place is not TOOO far from them), but still, I dont know how long it is going to take me to adjust. Obviously many people are doing this and they are very independent, but I dont know why I am feeling so weak. + +All and all, I know life must come a stage we have to start a new chapter, and I know this feeling will mostly be temporary, but I have just been feeling very hard to cope. + +Thanks for reading!",0 +6308,"my dad says a good son follows orders. is this exactly true?. I'm 18 y/o my dad has been stressing me out recently. + + I've been working while I wait for school to start (I start college in spring) and he complains constantly that he doesn't like my work hours even though he doesn't live with me and I drive myself to work. + +He tells me he needs to know where I am at all times and that I should be following all of his orders. + +He complains about the things I do on my free time, my friends, and my part time job (the work rather than the schedule) + +(he says my friends are not ""go-getters"" and that they're bad influences (we are all going to top schools like UCLA, Berklee College of Music, and UCI)) + +He has kicked me out of his house twice because I ""don't respect him"" when he physically pushed me and I told him to stop. The second time I told him he should respect me too but he said ""what are you gonna do? why should I?"" + +He complains about how I drive and the music I listen to even though he has a record of speeding/parking tickets and a DUI. I have never been pulled over. + +He has told me that I am similar to problem children seen on Dr Phil. + +He says he tells me all of this because he knows what's best for me and that he loves me. + +I like to think I'm on top of things and the rest of my family thinks I've been a great kid but my dad is making me question it. + +Is any of this fair or am I just being a bad kid?",0 +6309,"I hit my 10 year old brother for hurting my sister. My 10 year old brother always bullies my little 7 year old sister. He emotionally and physically abuses her on daily basis. My parents tell him off however he never gets any serious punishments. +Today I heard crying to find my sister crying hard unable to talk and she later Said that he hit her . I went to shout at him and he replied with very disrespectful words. I lost it and hit him for about 20 seconds ( I’m 17 yo girl) . + +I feel guilty because you should never hit a child and that’s abuse but I don’t know how to put him in his place. +Any thoughts or suggestions?",0 +6310,"Those who have moved away from friends and family, do you regret it?. My wife & I both work remotely and have lived in our hometown our entire lives. We have the potential to live anywhere we want & feel very blessed to have that luxury. We have no children, but our families and friends are all within an hour drive of us. We've been considering the idea of moving to a new part of the country, but have some hesitation. The only thing keeping us here are our friends and family.",0 +6311,"Grandpa kept making me very uncomfortable. Back in August, I went to my grandparents house. +While I was there, hence the title, I was very creeped out by my grandpa. Here's why. + +He kept trying to make sexual jokes about me like me watching porn (when the subject wasn't even about it? I was watching my phone, why is he sexualizing me?) and saying that I have big breasts and giggling (I have a flat chest but I still feel uncomfortable about it). He also used to always walk into my room at night and when I was left alone without my parents and grandma, he would always get into my room and try to get very close to me, trying to ruffle my hair for no reason and touch my face. One time he put his hand on my hip and it made me very uncomfortable. I told my mom about it and she didn't really care but told my grandpa about it anyway and he argued with her and threatened to throw our clothes out of the house. For some reason, he has a bad relationship with every adult in the family, including my aunt, but he's obsessed with the children and only talks to them in private. Kinda creeps me out, idk. + +Anyways Reddit, what should I do? +I'm in another country to my parent's country now btw, so I can't directly talk with them anymore.",0 +6312,"Should I cancel my flight for my mom's birthday?. I (M27) just booked a flight to Japan for my honeymoon next year to catch the cherry blossoms (only blooms at a certain time time each year). I knew that my mom's birthday would fall within this range, but I had checked with my parents the previous day if this was okay. They were talking about their own trip after my mom's birthday, so I brought this up as it was related. They continued their convo and did not raise any objections. The next day, when I told them I booked my flight, they were surprised. My mom is turning 55 this year so she sort of wants/expects a big celebration. Now I am feeling guilty and thinking of postponing my trip as this celebration means alot to my mom, but my wife and I are not exactly happy as this was supposed to be our honeymoon. We have considered celebrating earlier, but I think my mom won't be fully happy with that. Does any one else have any advice to offer? Please and thanks! + +TLDR: booked honeymoon overseas, clashes with mom's birthday which is a big deal to her. What should I do?",0 +6313,"Is my mom racist?. I, 17f, think my mom (41f) is racist but she thinks she’s not and tries to make excuses that she isn’t. + +So about a month ago, me and my mom were talking about the LGBTQ community, and she started bringing up stuff about how trans people are gross, how “god decides your gender and not you” and other nonsense and I’m brainwashed for thinking that’s not true. But for some reason she told me she fully supports gay, lesbians and bi people but tells me she is transphobic. I told her she was being stupid and she rolled her eyes at me. + +And about the racist thing, she was joking about how there should be a white history month and that “black people are selfish and think everything is about them” I told her she was racist and she was trying to make it seem like she was ‘joking’ or ‘fibbing’. I told her no that’s racist and she got mad at me and told me she wasn’t then went on again about how Muslims shouldn’t wear hijabs and that how most of them are terrorists. + +I hate how she thinks and how she doesn’t think she is racist or transphobic.",0 +6314,"How can I strengthen my niece's confidence?. My niece, age 6, is a very clever girl, but there's a situation that breaks my heart. +Her mom(a psychologist), has pressured her since the day she was born. She doesn't treat her like a child but as a cadet in a military academy. +If they play a simple game, my SIL tries to make everything about competition and winning, she pokes and mocks her, and if my niece says while playing games ""hold on I'm thinking "" she yells at her ""focus think and fast... life is fast so you need to be fast"" while clapping, when my niece says she no longer wants to play she calls her a crybaby and imitates her in a very humiliating way ""I don't wanna play anymore, I'm out of the game and I will ran away and cry"" . +She also often tells her no one will want to play with her and mocked her when she couldn't do a right move in the game. +My niece gave her a very strong look of resentment and sadness. + +Also, every time my niece asks a question she answers to her ""I don't know"". + +I see she's generating a great deal of anxiety on the kid at a very early age... Do you agree? + +It's also strange she only treats my niece like that, not my nephew. + +My niece is very charismatic and a leader, could she be jealous of the natural charisma and leading abilities of her? +I know my SIL had a tough childhood, could she be trying to give her the same type of childhood? + +I see my niece not being able to lean on her mom at all. She is very close to my brother (her dad) but he travels quite a bit for work, leaving my SIL with the kids. + +They live abroad. I will be traveling to see them after 2 years, and I want to make sure I reinforce her self esteem and I want her to know she's worth more than gold. +Do you have any suggestions on how to achieve this in a short time span? Is there any game or activity you can suggest? + +Of course I see them via Webcam all the time but it's not the same as being face to face. + +Thank you !",0 +6315,"91% of kids under 12 can't call 9-1-1 in an emergency. Sign my change.org petition. It's not just one reason - from lack of education, to lack of age-appropriate devices, school policies, and so much more - the most vulnerable demographic in our society is almost completely disconnected from emergency services. + +With millions of kids going back to school next month we need to be asking what we are doing holistically to keep them safe. We know that child predators are most often the people closest to them in their lives - parents, teachers, and friends. This year [4.3 million kids](https://www.change.org/p/equal-access-9-1-1-our-kids-call-for-help) will be referred to child protection agencies for abuse. + +This epidemic isn't easily solved. But the power of a camera and a phone cannot be ignored. When you give kids access to connected technologies in a safe manner, including the ability to call emergency services, you PREVENT harm, not just solve it after the fact. + +Let's ask our elected leaders, our education establishment, and society at large why we do not take more seriously the need for kids to have the ability to call for help. + +Sign my [change.org](https://www.change.org/p/equal-access-9-1-1-our-kids-call-for-help) petition!",0 +6316,"I fee like my mother isn’t present. Hey guys - I, 16M have lived with my dad for the last 10 years ever since my parents separated. + +I see my mother around once a week, but recently I’ve felt like it’s a chore to do so and I don’t know why. She’s not a bad person, she has never hurt me on purpose. She just doesn’t know how to fit that role of a mother that I need. + +Especially when she is suffering with her own depression and she always brings it up when we’re together, which I feel stops me from being able to talk about my own sadness and problems. I don’t want to add any more pressure on her. + +I don’t know what to do. I really feel like I need more of a mother figure in my life but I don’t know how to tell her. Can anyone relate/help? + +Thanks❤️ + +tldr: Parents separated. I see my mom but not often and I feel like I am forced to do so. She has depression and brings it up when we are together indirectly asking for support. What can i do to ask her for my own support and for her to be more present?",0 +6317,"my mother is really mad about me shaving my head.. f20. i’ve always wanted to shave my head just to get a fresh start with my hair, so i did last night. my mother just found out and she’s so mad at me. she told me “only people who have mental breakdowns do stuff like that”. i do have quite a few mental illnesses and every time i do anything slightly “strange” to her she thinks i’m going crazy. now i’m just embarrassed and i feel stupid for shaving my head.",0 +6318,"Advice on sister. Mother wanted me to post this but basically my sister has planned to move out. She is 18 and works full time at a kbbq spot and has found a studio apartment. Our family is not the richest so obviously she would have to support herself if she did move into this apartment which she agreed upon. She mainly wants to move out because she doesn’t like staying at home and wants freedom. She typically does not listen to any rules or boundaries our parents set up in the household which are very basic and honestly reasonable. (Things like not bringing people over too late and other basics). + +I believe my parents are very reasonable and honestly very laid back and relaxed but recently she has been bringing over a guy. I do not know his age but he is definitely on the older side as she met him at work. She would bring him over until late in the morning and while i don’t think my parents have caught them doing anything my mom and dad have voiced their disapproval at my sister bringing guys over this late at night till morning. She had enough of this and got into multiple large arguments claiming that its normal and that every girls brings home their friends to hang out with (which my parents have no problem with but she is missing the point of it being 5am). + +Now onto the main point. After having found this studio apartment and making plans to move in, she said she would look for a roommate to share the rent with. Yesterday she abruptly disclosed that she would sharing the place with the guy she has been hanging out with and brought home. My parents obviously were completely against this and another argument occurred where she stated that every other “American” (implying that she was raised an American and our parents are asian and were not) does this and that this is very normal. She continuously argued that no matter what she does my parents don’t have a say since she is paying the rent herself and our parents are not paying for it. + +I believe that my parents are very reasonable and even if they are not paying for her rent they were ok with her moving out and getting a place for herself. She is literally still a teenager and while she might legally be an adult my parents are obviously going to be worried about her sharing a place with a guy. I don’t even know the specificities of who he is to her but it also seems like a very rash move. I just wanted insight on what you guys think and what the best course of action might be.",0 +6319,My dad (56) refuses to go out with my brother and I for Father’s Day unless he takes brings his new woman (28). So my dad told my brother and I that he’s seeing a 28 yr old woman about 3 weeks ago. He didn’t tell us she was going to be coming to visit for a couple of days so me and my brother were taken back when he offered us to meet her. We all know she’s taking advantage of him since my dad makes good amount of money and she doesn’t have papers. My own brother is 30 so he doesn’t want to meet her it’s awkward and I completely understand that. I’m 23 and I was open to the idea of meeting her but later on it was all way too soon. My dad was very understanding and told us that’s fine. Today is Father’s Day and yesterday was his birthday so my brother and I wanted to take him out to eat. He texted my brother he won’t be going to eat with us unless she’s invited too. At this point I’m pissed off because I know for a fact that woman is controlling him. I’ve been nice and chill during the divorce with my mom and dad even though my dad had been cheating on my mom multiple times and did her dirty. I sent him a text basically telling him he’s putting a woman he’s barely even met before his kids and if she’s the one telling him to do this than her intentions aren’t good. I’m just mad at this point because everyone sees she’s just using my dad and my dad rather take sides of her than us.,0 +6320,"My family envies me and I’m trying to not let it bother me (and here it is bothering me). I work hard I’ve been working really hard on everything in my life everything and it’s showing everything is getting better and everything is improving. My father and older brother have always tried to shut me off shut me down from the beginning, starting with my goals and other shit always made me believe That I’m less than what I know I am. Now, recently I’ve been glowing improving in money, fitness and overall discipline, they are HATING it… they also have ramped up their work ethic and are acting really really weird. It’s honestly bothering me because they are acting really weird and even giving me weird vibes of like competition… I know some people look at life as competition but for real your own family?!! Are they motivated by me or are they super envious? My brother is really pissed lmao 😭 it’s just heartbreaking that I always knew they envied me from the start…",0 +6321,"What are my wife's cousins to our son?. As the title says really, we're trying to figure out what my wife's cousins are to our son. + +We're thinking second cousins or something?",0 +6322,"My mother said I'm financially irresponsible. I'm (22M) and live by my own since a year now. I had a good job and was financially independent since I moved out. +But for the last 4 months I have to do something like a year for the community where you're not really earning much money, it pays the bills but that's it, no fancy things. That's why I started a side hustle so I can enjoy my life as a young adult. +My mother got mad at me because she was scared that I would overwork myself and begged me to quit the side hustle and she would also pay me whatever amount I'm making with that. +So I said to her if she would be happy with that we can make it work and I would require 100 bucks per month (nowhere near the money I made with the second job but I don't wanna live a adult lifestyle on the costs of my parents. They are in a good state when it comes to money but that's still no reason for me to ask them for more than I need ) + +So 2 weeks ago I stated to my parents,that I wanted to buy a motorcycle soon. My parents are not pleased by the idea and I knew that so I wasn't really shocked when my dad got mad and my mom threw a massive tantrum. But today she called me and said that she thinks I'm irresponsible for wanting to buy luxury goods for myself when I'm not even financial independent from my parents and she dares me to buy a motorcycle from her money. After that statement I immediately drove up to her house and gave her 400 euros (the amount I received from her since I'm getting her financial support) and said following:"" thank you for your financial support and your help but I don't ever want any money from you again because my freedom of choice is worth more then money could ever buy me"" +She bursted into tears and I drove away. Normally that's nowhere near my style but I was so unbelievably mad at her for saying I spent her money irresponsible. + +I could really use somebody else's view on it, because my feelings got pretty hurt by her statements but nevertheless it's still possible that she's right with her opinion. + +Thanks in advance + +TDLR: +I want to buy a motorcycle but my mom dared me to buy something like that from the money she gave me",0 +6323,Sister taking bedroom. So I’m going away for 4 months to England and my younger sister who is 21 and I’m 24 is expecting to move into my bedroom. I live out the back in a granny flat and I have been here for 10 years. Do you think she should be able to move into my room? Or should I be able to get my room back once I come back home.,0 +6324,"It’s a Boy!! The wonders of a life in recovery. I shared a while back about being a new dad(she is still pregnant)at 45 and the fear/excitement I was feeling. As I sit here typing this post I am very proud. Recovery from addiction has brought me many gifts. But the gift of being a father, a husband(soon), and a family is the most precious thing I can be gifted. We are having a boy, we have chosen his name, and I just couldn’t be more proud. + This is such a beautiful life I live today. My personal work has brought me to a place where I know any type of pain is outweighed by the joys that a new attitude and outlook on life bring. + My love is boundless and I am so happy to have family to share it with.",0 +6325,Weird Family Birthday Tradition. I’ve heard of families that do birthday spankings or even light punches on the arm but my family is a bit different. On your birthday you had to worry about the dreaded “birthday wedgie”. That day was partially a competition between your other family members to see who could give you a birthday-worthy wedgie first. This usually meant you would be woken up with one but when you weren’t you had to be on guard all day and beware the wedgie. 😂 just felt like sharing,0 +6326,"I abandoned my own twin brother and now I think he's dead. My brother and I were raised in an extremely abusive environment, in every way possible. We moved to the US from Central America when we were both 8, we were the oldest from our 6 siblings. Our mother died while giving birth to our youngest sister so since we came to America, it was just our dad. It took me years to realize what kind of person he was. I'm sure he messed with all of our head's to the point beyond repair. I'm saying it because how can you still look up to and respect someone who sexually abused you? I honestly feel brainwashed and no amount of therapy will ever fix that. + +While my way of coping with my father's abuse was simply complying with everything he said and avoiding reasons to make him angry, my brother chose an opposite approach. Since he turned about 13 he started leaving the house and not coming back for days, hanging out with suspicious people, getting high in some ditch and making money in the most disgusting ways. + +When we were 17, my father caught my brother with another guy in his room. Something to know about a latino, catholic, abusvie, obsessively conservative and masculine man - he was not very happy about it. He kicked my brother out that day. And I didn't do anything. Not then and not for the next 9 years. I think that this is just another thing that will keep me up at night for the rest of my life and won't let me look at myself in the mirror. + +The other day I went back to our hometown to see some of our old friends. Just to maybe find out something about what he's doing now. But no one could tell me anything. Except that the few days after we separated he was staying next to a motel, on the street. After that, it's like he disappeared. I searched online, looking for any information, social media but I found nothing. So he either changed his name, moved from the country and is living a very successful life or he just met the same fate as many people that we used to know when we were kids.",0 +6327,"Feeling unmotivated after death of mother..... Hi, just in need of a little advice or some suggestions here... + +We lost Mom on 12/10/21. + +I can't seem to get out of bed. I don't want to get out of bed. I feel like I don't even have the energy to get out of bed. +If I could, I would lay here all day... and the next... and the next. + +I don't think I grieved right because I don't cry about her often, and when I do it's really short and only a few tears... But we were so close. I don't understand this. + I try not to think about her, and when I do it seems like my world is crashing again. Over and over. Each time I think about it. + +I feel like I can't go on anymore a lot of the time. + +I feel hopeless with my life. + +I can't remember anything from my childhood. I already have memory problems, but I feel like they've gotten a lot worse since this has happened. +So bad, that I forgot what time my workplace closed last night, and ended up closing early, forgot to do a lot of things that I normally would not forget. + +I often feel very lazy and belittle myself for sitting in this bed so much. + +I can see it in my father too. He tells me that it's hard to start the day. + + +If anyone has been through anything similar, how did you overcome this feeling of laziness after a close death? I feel like I haven't even started the stages of grief yet. I saw that there were 5 stages. + +Is it normal not to cry much after a very close death? + +Is it normal to experience extreme memory loss after a very close death? + + + I'm not sure if this is not the right group to post in, I've only posted in one other place before, so forgive me if I'm in the wrong place.",0 +6328,"Family trouble. My husband and I Live in a tiny three bedroom trailer with our two kids Three years old boy and one year old baby girl. I go school for cosmetology and my husband works at Tyson we love to try to help our family but lately it’s been getting hard. +Recently my brother and his wife was there four kids lost their house so me and my husband decided to take them in (bad idea) It’s been almost 1years now sense they moved it. The kids are so rude and mean to my kids. They don’t clean, The room looks like a hoarder room, cook they don’t even work. My brother plays games all day and his wife sit on her phone all day. +Some times they will just leave me or my husband with the kids an not say anything to us. If I Kick them out they have nowhere to go. + +Asking for help what do I do??????? + + + + +Update +Me and my husband talked it over and I want to say thank you to everybody. it was hard to hear but I needed to hear it they have until January 22 to find a job and a place. Thank you everyone for helping me find my back bone.",0 +6329,"Users of Reddit what would you do?. I booked my daughter in for a party and not one family member came. I don’t know what to say, no family no friends nothing. My daughter didn’t seem to mind as she is only 2… but that’s not the point. + +I’m just saddened by the whole situation.",0 +6330,"Should my step mother apologize?. TW: SA + +Okay so I was wondering should my step mom apologize after saying numerous horrible things to me? +So I’ve been living on my own for a year now without seeing my dads side of the family for that whole year, now my dad and I are both kind of reaching out to each other but I refuse to go to any family events, visit him at his house, or see my stepmom. The reason being is my step mom abused me. For 7 years she non stop mentally tortured me and my dad who was FULLY aware of the whole thing turned a blind eye. + +Right after highschool I had just turned 19 and my step mother and my dad had kicked me out. The reasoning behind this was because my step mother had told me that my abuser should have (in better words) “done worse”. I won’t say what exactly she said as it’s THAT bad but to sum it up beat me till I died with certain things happening between that. She expected me to apologize to her for HER saying that to me. Doesn’t make sense? Exactly what I was thinking..... +This wasn’t the only thing she said revolving my death. Multiple times she was tell me how I should kill myself or that she’d do it for me, she’d also text my stepsister (her daughter this). Mind you she’s been saying this to my step sister since I first moved in at 12 years old. And I have many screenshots to prove it. This isn’t just it though, she’s said so many cruel things to me during those years of growing up regarding my weight, school, friends (it eventually came to a point where she banned me from having friends) etc. The list goes on and on and on and my dad stood by her side through it all. The only time she got physical was a couple months before she kicked me out and before her fist could hit my face my older step brother caught her and got her to leave me alone. She was on one of her drunk tangents again and was mad that I had broken my leg a month prior. + +My dad is fully aware and thinks I’m being dramatic. Both even went as far as to make me apologize to my step mother for her saying my sa abuser should have done worse and killed me(to sum it up). I sent him all my proof and he still chooses to ignore it. + +I honestly believe she should apologize to me. Am I in the wrong for making my step mom apologize to me before I involve myself with them again? + +Serious comments only please",0 +6331,"For those of you with your familys intact.. Especially this time of the year, be grateful you have your loved ones still here. Tomorrows never guaranteed. Dont let small petty things get in the way. I lost my dad on December 23rd of 2016. It still hurts not having him here, I miss him so much. He was the leader of our pack and demonstrated to me what a should be and the extent that you may need to go sometimes for your family. My wife lost her cousin whom she was very close with as well the day after my dad passed. So to say this time of the year is rough for us is an understatement. We have a 13 month old little girl who is the best thing thats ever happened to us both and seeing her happy makes everything my dad did for me growing up make sense. I know youre not here with us physically dad but I know youre around. You'd love your granddaughter shes picking up things so fast and is already running around. Anyways, sorry for the rant everyone. But I have one ask if you are arguing about something small and petty with a loved one, let it go. Appreciate the time you have with them. Happy holidays.",0 +6332,"We Laid My Mother-in-Law to Rest. Ohmygoodness I freaking lost my shit during the 3 hours back-to-back Visitation, Funeral & Graveside Service I’m shocked that I cried my eyes out for the entire 3 hours.",0 +6333,"Ex fiance is suing me to force me to sell our home. Let me start out by saying, I really hope I don't get attacked again. I came here looking for support. I know I have made stupid choices and I know I deserve to be punished. However, my kids do not deserve to be hurt.. + +​ + +My now ex fiance and I bought our home in September. Last month he suddenly decided he did not want a big family or me and left. Today I received a letter from an attorney stating that I have to either refinance to get him off the mortgage or I need to sell the house. He says he can make me sell it. + +I have three children who live here. And I am 32 weeks pregnant with our twins. He says he needs off the mortgage so HE can get a house for our twins. He say she does not care if I have a place for them to live. + +I have obtained an attorney but she says I may be forced to sell. I don't make enough money on my own to get approved for a mortgage. Nor would I qualify for a rental that would be big enough even if rooms were shared. + +I agreed to pay the entire mortgage and get a second job once the twins are born. I can afford the house by myself already but things would just be tight til I got a second job. So he does not have to pay a dime. + +Has anyone else ever dealt with this kind of situation? Can I do anything to keep the house?? I don't want my kids to be uprooted again. I have learned my lesson and I am staying single until the kids are grown and moved out. I just want them to have a peaceful and stable life and I don't want them to be hurt anymore because of my stupidity.",0 +6334,"Should I rat my sister out for deceiving my parents?. Long story short my sister is 46 been dating a felon for about 2.5 yrs. He's a scumbag ,doesn't work, doesn't want her to see her family and she turned against all of us to stick up for him. Not sure what happened cause she lies so much idk when she's telling the truth. My parents half a broken relationship with her because of this scumbag, but she supposedly kicked him out and got a restraining order but still sees him and he hasn't been served with the retraining order cause she's not really trying. He started to remodel her house and it's still not finished, my parents believe her that she dumped him and are now fixing the house up for her , she has a 17 yr old and a 13 yr old. BUT I have proof she is still seeing him and lying to my parents. My mom is 76 and my dad 84, they are being taken for a ride! Do I tell them?",0 +6335,"Distant family reached out and I don't want to know them. I (30F) was recently informed that my cousin had got into contact through some ancestry website with my father's biological son and his adopted daughter. + +My dad was married before I was born, then he filed for divorce from his ex-wife and his wife took the kids away for whatever reason and left and my dad never saw the children again. Then my dad met my mum, had me, and I had a happy time growing up, no issues. My father was a lovely man but my dad has since died never seeing his first children ever again. + +Skip forward to now, 45 years later, my dad's adopted daughter and biological son reached out and spoke to my cousin and they're all friends and getting to know each other... and he's me, confused, with no input or say in any matter. I don't really feel like I want these people in the family. Why are they only reaching out now? I don't understand. Their step-father (who married my dad's ex-wife) recently died... so I assume they were now trying to find their long lost dad... my dad. Well, it's too late, he died 6 years ago. + +I want nothing to do with them to be honest. I grew up an only child and never wanted a sibling. I feel distant with my cousin now, I feel like she's over-stepped a bit and not included me or considered how I would feel with them making contact. But I keep being told that these people are apparently ""family"" and my cousins deserve to know them. + +What kind of family doesn't reach out for 45 years? Then come waltzing back in as if nothing happened? My dad tried and tried to find those children, but they wanted nothing to do with him. Now when he's dead they suddenly want contact with this side of the family? I don't know, it just doesn't sit right with me, and I will keep my distance. + +Am I ok to feel like this? + +TL;DR half-siblings made contact with family after 45 years and I want nothing to do with them",0 +6336,"What shall i buy my aunt?. Hi + +We just went to visit family in Europe and my aunt received us in her spacious home. (We are in the USA) +We had not asked anyone to host us and she offered. +We had our own 2 bdrm apt, pool, private car garage, huge back porch in a lushly landscaped yard. What a wonderful place for free. +She is extremely comfortable financially and a very giving, hard working and nice person. +She fed us sometimes too, and this lady can cook. +We wanted to send a nice plant but she has a very busy schedule and is away from home half the time. +She might find the plant dead at her doorstep. +What would you send her? No candies or sweets, she watches her waist. + +Thank-you",0 +6337,"my mom NEEDS to have my things. so i (f/20) live at home with my family and my mom (f/50) is weirdly obsessed with things that are mine. for example i used to have a decent car. good on gas, reliable, and honestly a cute car. My mom would always insist on using my car b/c she would claim it’s good on gas and that it’s a nice car. i didn’t really mind as long as i didn’t need it. But recently that car like broke down and is just unusable right now. So i ended up having to get another car and it’s old, okay on gas, and just honestly not a very nice looking car. it’s decent and it gets me where i need to go. but now my mom insists on using my ‘new’ car all the time. i don’t understand why. it’s not like the car is nice or anything. her car is significantly better. but she’s obsessed with needing to use my car and it’s frustrating",0 +6338,"Living with an alcoholic. Why do those who drink to oblivion feel the need to belittle others? Why do they not understand that words hurt more than acrions? Words aren't forgotten. +Then they act like they didn't do anything wrong and want to know why you're mad. I will never understand it. +I wish sometimes that I had a decent enough car to just drive away and not come back.",0 +6339,"I hate my parents. I've been a long time lurker and just love this community. It's so great to be reading stories from people I'll probably never meet in real life. Using this account as I have friends in the other one. + +I'm your typical breadwinner Asian woman and sometimes, I just hate myself. I've always been that jolly, positive girl you'll meet in school. Friendly to most, achiever, self-reliant, and part of the dream squad in school. + +Growing, I've always known I have the responsibility to help my 5 younger siblings to school. But I never knew it is going to be this difficult. + +My father doesn't have an income and never had a stable one. We used to live my other family members as they help us with food and daily expenses. My mom had always been a SAHM. Her sister and our grandma helped with our upbringing. + +I'm the first ever person to graduate college in the family. I've been blessed to secure a scholarship in college which supported everything I needed. I started working and finally, I started earning enough to help with my sibling's college fees. + +1 of my siblings in is college, 1 in senior year, and 3 of them in grade school. I provide everything at home. The house monthly bills, the utility bills, the food, our daily expenses, school fees, and their daily allowance. + +I'm in my late 20s and I feel like I have been given a responsibility of providing for a family I did not sign up for. Recently broke up with a boyfriend as I have seen red flags. He started relying on me financially too. In some cases, he reminded me of my father who doesn't know how to find a way to solve problems. + +It's really been bugging me how I will be spending the next 5 to 7 years of my life dedicated and imprisoned to this situation. I want to build my own family too. But all these responsibilities are suffocating me that the thought of having a child of my own scares the shit out of me. What will happen if the father is not as responsible as he should be too? + +I'm sorry. I've been having drowning thoughts about life these days that I just need to let this all out. + +TD;LR Parents not financially ready for a family ended up with 6 kids. Now, I, the eldest is fulfilling their responsibility for them",0 +6340,"Little sister is just always rude and causing arguments. My younger sister (19) has always been spoilt and causing arguments but as she gets older she’s so much worse. +She still lives at home with our parents who do everything for her but she is so awful to them, she speaks to them so horrible all the time despite how much they do do her and it’s so hard to watch. + +We lost our older brother suddenly a few months ago but she has been like this since before he passed away. And she still continues to treat our mum and dad this way despite knowing what they’re going through losing a child. + +She refuses to eat unless it is certain foods which is hard to get all the time, she will make us leave a restaurant if she doesn’t like anything on the menu or we don’t get a seat that suits her. She refuses to do anything for anyone else or compromise, it’s so awful. She doesn’t have any friends or go out anywhere I feel bad for her until I see how she treats other people. It causes arguments between me and my parents as I hate how she treats them and often interfere + +Is this something she will grow out of or will we always just dislike each other. She just seems like she will always be like this and takes everything for granted.",0 +6341,AITA for not wanting to call my FIL wife grandma. When my daughter was born 4 years ago my husband and I spent a lot of time discussing what to call our parents other halves. For context my mum passed away 4 years before my daughter was born and my dad had just re married and my husbands parents divorced when he was in his mid 20s (we’re both early 30’s now) his father re married a year before we had my daughter and his mum has a partner she has been with for several years. My sister already had a LO that called my dads wife KIKi (her name is Nicky) so that was an easy decision to make. I really wanted a way of keeping my mums memory alive and my kids to know who she was so I wanted to reserve a title just for her. My husbands mum wanted to be nana so we gave grandma to my mum grandads are grandads and decided all partners would just use first names. We felt as none of them are step parents to us and are not overly involved in our lives it was fair. Both my dad and husbands mums partners were fine with this but my FIL wife hit the roof. Now for a little extra context here she has never really liked my husband and has not hidden this fact well. They didn’t even invite us to their wedding. However she got very angry and screamed we were trying to push her out the family. Ultimately things calmed down they ignored us for a few months and then went back to normal. That is until my son was born a month after my SIL had her first (she called FIL wife Nan) it came to head when we invited them for lunch at Christmas and FIL wife cornered me in the kitchen 2 month old baby in my arms and starts yelling telling me I’m rude and Ungrateful and yes your mum is dead so why do her feelings count more then mine as I’m alive and here. I was left in tears and feeling really angry. They haven’t spoken to us since (it’s now august) But my SIL Is now also on their side saying it’s just a name we should just back down. Am I wrong for letting this be the hill we die on?,0 +6342,"How Much Do I Owe My Mother. Mt parents are in their 80s (but very independent) and have a terrible relationship. As far back as I can remember they can’t stand each other and I was put in the middle from the time I was a little child, mostly by my mother. I had to be her emotional support at times and she’d use me to try to get my father to do things for her. They both had affairs, have been emotionally abusive toward each other (tho I highly suspect my father is an actual narcissist), refused to get a divorce “for the kids” even tho we’re grown. I don’t speak much to my father and brother anymore bc of their verbally abusive and sexist ways. My mother has guilted me about my brother and put pressure on me to fix things which isn’t gonna happen. She guilts me about her being stuck at home w my father even tho she has friends she sees all the time. She recently told me she did kick my father out once when we were very little but we begged her to let him come home…making it sound like the kid’s fault she didn’t follow through. She says things like “I don’t want you to feel guilty if you don’t spend time with me. I don’t want to bother you” why would anyone say that unless they actually want someone to feel guilty?? She does nothing to make her situation better, never has in my life. This week is going to be really hot and she called to complain that they don’t have the a/c units in so I said I’d send my husband over to do it. She said no bc it’ll only cause problems. We were away for a week so I told her to stay at our place but she refused that too. A relative was going to visit another relative out of state for a few days and invited her to go w her but she said “no” and she had just been guilting me into taking her somewhere for a trip. I swear she likes there to be issues! Because of the heat and no ac she’s been guilting me about spending time w her. I’m going through my own crap with change of life and am frequently exhausted and drained. This just makes it worse. I’m trying to establish boundaries but my family doesn’t get it. How much do I owe my mother in this situation? I don’t believe it’s my job to care for her in this way bc I’m being expected to save her from her own doing. I’m being put in the middle as usual. I’m just learning about boundaries and healthy relationships so often don’t know what’s healthy. I need advice!",0 +6343,"I need help with my three year old.. I'm an older mom. I work full time and have two children 11 and 3. My 11 year old is as an angel. The three year old is not. + +She is destructive and argumentative. Every night, it's something. Last night she snuck into her sisters room and pushed her tv off her dresser destroying it. Tonight she found a pencil and drew all over her dresser, earlier in the week she took a rock and killed a small frog with it. When I asked what happened, she told me she wanted to ""Bash it"". I'm around plenty of other toddlers and know normal vs abnormal behaviour. She gets into these wild spells where it's almost like she's manic. Sugar exacerbates the issue so we try to cut it as much as possible. + +I don't like hitting, but I am so tired of yelling. Punishments and time outs for short and long periods of time do absolutely nothing. She wails, she thrashes, she is unmanageable. Then there are times when she is very loving, affectionate and sweet. + +I started splashing cold water in her face to make her snap out of it, and it seems to work and calm her down. I'm afraid though that this is going to seriously mess her up. + +We have an appointment with her pediatrician next week to discuss possible add, adhd, odd and whatnot. I just need some kind of coping skills because I literally have times where I think I'm going to lose it and strangle her (not literally - but you get what I mean).",0 +6344,"I (F25) are sick a tired of my Mam treating me like a child.. So I still live with my family since I’m at university and it is literally impossible for me to be able to move out with my dog, and still easily access work / university. I pay them rent. + +Whenever it’s my day off my mam seems to think she has to ‘tell me’ how to do my ‘chores.’ She’ll wake me up at 8am saying I need to walk and feed my dog, get dressed and just generally ‘get sorted out.’ + +I do all of these things myself even without her intervention. I’ve had arguments about it before, where I say ‘I’m a literal manager, I have a job, I study and can function without you telling me what I need to do in my day.’ + +And she claims she will stop, but then the next day she’s back at it and says ‘if you don’t want to be treated as a child, don’t act like one.’ +My family is hardly the abusive toxic type, but I don’t understand why I can’t sleep to when I want to, do the things I need to do in my OWN time? I work late nights (sometimes finishing at 2am) so I can go to class on a morning, and she’ll STILL shout me awake. + +It’s honestly driving me insane, I’ve tried from civil talks to screaming matches to get her off my back - but it doesn’t work. + +Does anyone have any advice?",0 +6345,I’m bummed. I was thinking about how when I was a kid my parents would take my brother and I to the video store and BK/McDonald’s on Friday nights. The ritual of it was great. Now I can’t do that with my step kids and it’s really bummed me out. Yeah we can still get the fast food but then what find something on HBO Max or w/e. What’s the difference between that and a Tuesday? It’s just really bumming me out.,0 +6346,"Should I ask for permission or should I just let them know?. I’m 19(f) and I plan on going with my bf 21(m) to Mexico for summer. I’m going to be with him but we’re staying at his family’s place over there . I live with my grandparents and 2 older brothers , I feel like at my age I shouldn’t have to ask for permission because I’m not a minor and Ik how to take care of myself. I understand that people my age still ask their parents for permission on various things but I feel like it not necessary as long as I tell them where I’m going to be and with who . It’s not like they’re paying for the plane tickets. Should I asked for permission or just let them know in advantage ?",0 +6347,"My family doesn't understand how much university stresses me. They just don't want to understand it. My father always tells me that ""It's only gonna get worse."" and stuff like that. None of my parents are empaths. They have no idea what I'm going through. I'm struggling with depression and anxiety, but they don't understand the concept of it and they don't want to believe me. Whenever I told them that I need professional help, they screamed at me that I'm a disgrace to the family and that I should either off myself or suck it up. + +I don't have any motivation to study, even if I love my program. I don't have motivation to do my homework. I'm tired of being stressed all the time. I have 12 different classes. I just want to be able to relax without thinking that I wasted my whole day and that I could have studied. I just want to relax without feeling guilty. + +I'm thinking on taking a passive semester, but my father most likely would disown me if I did that. + +I don't know what to do.",0 +6348,"For those of you who cut off their parents forever, do you regret it/are you happier this way?. I have narcissistic parents unable to apologize and full of childhood traumas. I want to break the circle and although it's absolutely scary to think that I'll have no 'resource' if I ever get everything wrong in my life and end up homeless, it'll still be better than them hosting me but screaming at me all the time or being aggressive because it's all they can do with their children. I think. I am still very sensitive. + +My mum did some suicide blackmail and my dad casually says stuff like 'I'm not going to apologize, I'm not your dog' or 'you will not dominate me' or 'you are an annoying little shit' when I point out that those reactions do not solve the problem. I came to accept that they won't change. + +I cut my mom a year ago, I cut my dad today as he totally left me alone for a surgery that I happened to have fifteen days ago. As if I needed another proof... + +So, how do you feel? Are you happier? Do you have regrets??",0 +6349,"My dad drinks. Yesterday my dad came back from his parents house drunk. I was in the kitchen with my mum when we heard something heavy fall. Turned out it was my father who tripped and hit his nose. My mum immediately sent me into my room, but I could still hear my parents. + +I am currently a teenager and I used to live a happy life with my mum, dad and sister (who is a bit older). My dad is also currently 51 and my mum 50. Luckily, my dad isn't violent when he is drunk but I'm afraid if he continues to drink like this he will eventually become. HE DOESN'T DRINK OFTEN. + +My mum helped him to take a shower and put him to bed. She then had a breakdown and bursted into tears. She had been really struggling after my grandma passed away unexpectedly. Both of my mother's parents died recently and she only has her brother left. + +I'm scared for my mum and sister's safety. And I don't know if and how I will tell my dad's parents. They become very protective when it comes to dad and would do anything just to get him out of trouble. I don't know what will happen after this event, but I'm afraid my mum will divorce. And I couldn't bear that. I love both of them so much and my sister would get ruined if they do divorce. + +TLRD: My dad drinks, but he is not violent. He also doesn't drink often. I am scared for my family's and of course, my safety. What should I do?",0 +6350,"My dad abandoned me as a child and now his other daughter wants a relationship - advice please!. I haven’t seen my biological dad since I was about 6/7 and I do not remember him fondly, there is a lot of heartache and unfinished business between us (on my end at least) and he was very unkind to me when I was a child. At 22 I feel like I finally got to a place of healing and acceptance and I would like to mention that I have the most amazing step father in the world who, for all intents and purposes is my “dad” - I even have friends that do not know he is not my biological father. + +Recently, my bio dads other daughter (my half “sister”) reached out to me via social media, she is only 13 so there is just under a 10 year age gap and was very obvious she would like a relationship with me, and wants to meet. + +I just don’t know what to do; I don’t want to hurt the feelings of a 13 year old girl who can’t help what happened between me and her father (who she lives with and from what I can tell, has a great relationship with) but also speaking to her opens the possibility of him reading our conversation/knowing information about me that he has no right to know. it has also opened up a lot of old wounds and been affecting my MH this week. + +Rightfully, she is going to be curious about why I don’t see our father and I know whatever he has told her is fake news but I don’t want to be the one to change her perception of him and alter their relationship. So if she asks, do I lie? Do I sugar coat the truth? Also, I’m conscious that not seeing her is going to hurt her but seeing her may hurt my mother/step dad or lead to drama between me and my bio dad. + +Either way, I feel like once again I am the one that gets hurt in this situation despite trying to do the right thing - which is why I distanced from that entire side of my family (also, they are not very kind people) + +I would happily have a relationship with her, and I’ve always wanted a sister - but is it possible to have that healthy relationship and keep my distance with the rest of them? + +I just feel totally overwhelmed and lost as to what the right thing to do is. + +TL;DR estranged biological dad has another daughter who has reached out to me and wants to build a relationship - I don’t want to hurt her feelings but also I can’t be hurt by that side of the family any longer, especially in my adult life when I have finally healed from the trauma.",0 +6351,"I was going to buy my dress, shoes, and accessories for a formal dance, but my mom bought them without talking to me first. Now she wants me to pay her back.. I’m 16 and I’m in JROTC at my high school, each year we do a military ball, so obviously I want to go because I absolutely love the environment that JROTC has. I showed my mom a dress, shoes, shawl, and some (cheap) jewelry that I was saving up my paychecks to be able to purchase. This is what because whenever she buys me anything nice, she then gives me a very extensive list of things to do so I “don’t have to pay her back”. The total of everything I was going to buy was a little over $200 cus I got really good luck and found a cheap but nice dress. Yesterday, my mom text me saying that she had bought my dress and the things to go with it, so obviously I was very happy and kind of relieved because buying all of it would have been two or three paychecks for me, so I would’ve been cutting it close to the date of the dance. + +This morning I wake up to a text from my mom with an extensive list of chores (that I already do daily) as well as a few others that are just simply not my responsibility saying that she wanted all of that done before she gets home, and if it is, I don’t have to pay her back. + +I don’t know if I’m in the wrong for being upset over this, but it happens all the time. I was planning on buying the dress and everything myself because then I wouldn’t have to cancel my plans I had today. + +I’m the sole keeper of the house and I go to school (obviously) as well as work up to 20-25 hours a week. I’ll deep clean the house and then a few days later, my mom and stepdad have almost completely trashed it. They never put things away where they go, never even put a plate in the dishwasher after using it, never wipe down the counter or table after spilling, ect. Sometimes my stepdad will even try and tell me how messy I am just because my room is a mess. I waste so much time cleaning that sometimes I can’t even go out to see my friends for days on end because there’s just always so much to be done. + +Am I just being sensitive and not wanting to clean more than I already do? I feel like I’m in the wrong for being upset, but this happens all of the time, even when she buys me something that I *needed*. + +TLDR: My mom bought my dress and accessories for a dance that I wanted to buy myself, now she wants me to deep clean the house after I just did so a few days ago, but the house is already a mess again due to my parents not cleaning up after themselves.",0 +6352,"My dad got a job after 2 years of belying jobless and he’s refusing to wake up early enough to avoid traffic. Every time he leaves, he blames traffic. My mom tells him to leave earlier, he says the will, and proceeds to wake up early and not do anything and leave late again. You think someone who didn’t have a job for two years would go leaps and bounds to keep that job, but not my dad. Should I confront him about the problem he has? My mom always tells me no, but I just think he needs someone other than my mom to tell him the truth.",0 +6353,Ideas for family time together!. Hello everyone. I have a 4 year old boy and a 6 year old girl. I'm looking some suggestions for things to do as a family at night time after work. I'm sick of this TV culture and just want some inspiration for something different to Do with my family at night times. I'm from Belfast so it's dark and wet for the next few months. What do you guys to to spending time with the family that's fun and creative. Many thanks in advance for suggestions guys.,0 +6354,"My dad makes me uncomfortable! :( What should I do?. Hi, I’m Farah!.. and well, I’m gonna be talking about my dad, who is way older than me of course, and makes me uncomfortable, as you can see in the title :( +So, my dad just makes me uncomfortable, which I have mentioned a lot, but I don’t know any other words to use. Anyways, the things he does just makes me uncomfortable. He will most of the time touch me in places where I do not want him to at all, at places close to my private parts, or just really at my private parts. It really makes me grossed out and uncomfy, and I hate it! He also sometimes looks at me, but not in a way like just normal staring but, he does it really weirdly, not just at my face but at my whole body, and when I catch him doing it, he just looks away. I’m not sure why he does that, I’m only just looking at him looking at me, weirdly. :/ Also, he plays like really weird songs around me, and when I say weird, I mean like sexual songs. What makes me uncomfortable about this, is that whenever he is around other family or friends, he seems to just play normal songs, that have little to no sexual content in it at all, but when around me, the songs are mostly to 100% sexual. +There is also something he said too, which makes me feel really weird, in a bad way. This was at the time my parents were separated and he didn’t have anyone with him. He said, “I don’t have a wife, or girlfriend, you’re the only one I can love.” Wife?! Girlfriend?! I am your child! I am your own blood! I’m not your wife or girlfriend, I’m someone you are supposed to love and protect, not just someone to make uncomfortable and weirded out! And plus, I already have a crush.. It’s just weird… and also he’s just really possessive. +I really wanna tell my mom about this, but I’m just so nervous, because I feel like she won’t understand, but whenever I tell her about something that’s wrong, she’s always so supportive and understanding of it and tries her very best to help me, but I just don’t know about this one. I mean, that’s her boyfriend, and that’s my dad. How is she gonna believe, or even understand that her own boyfriend is doing this to her own child? There’s no way she will understand. I’m even scared to talk about this to someone who isn’t my mom. I need advice badly… +TL;DR: My dad makes me really uncomfortable, and I really need advice.",0 +6355,"What is Christmas to you?. Ok this is going to sound like a stupid question and I hope this is the correct place to post this. + +To make a long story short me and my kids (ages 4, 3, 2, and almost 1) recently had to move (read past posts for more context on that if you want). We never were allowed to celebrate Christmas. My mom and stepdad would say it was because they didn’t believe in it. + +I’m staying with a friend and her family who do believe in celebrating. They are fantastic and I feel kinda stupid for even asking this but how do you celebrate Christmas? What is the point? + +So far I’m just seeing a lot of consumerism which I had noticed from the side lines before and I’m not sure I want my kids a part of all that. But I see how much they love and have loved the decorations and then part of me is like learn about it then decide. + +So my major question is what is Christmas to you?",0 +6356,"Should we tell my boyfriend’s family why I won’t be attending Christmas?. I (28f) have been dating my boyfriend (27m) for about 2.5 years. His dad’s family Christmas is the day before the one year anniversary of my mom’s death and ten anniversary of my last goodbye to my mom. I’ve healed a lot but the one thing I’ve struggled with is his dad’s new wife “Lucy”. I have shared some information on her (see my past posts) but to make this long story short, Lucy is self centered and drama filled. She doesn’t do anything major enough that people ban her from events but has done enough small things to piss a lot of us off. + +I’ve had to hold my tongue and avoid any room she’s in because I can’t stand her. She is a two faced snake to me but will act so nice when others are around. She’s inappropriate and makes life all about her. My boyfriend, his sister, & brother in law know so they keep us separated discreetly. I just can’t do it for Christmas. I can feel myself breaking down already and knowing how Lucy is, she will make a stupid comment and I’m going to say something I might regret. Probably won’t regret it but I don’t want to deal with the drama and I don’t even want to pretend. + +I know my boyfriend will understand where I’m coming from but I don’t know how to break it to his family why. I’ve considered just lying about being sick. Thoughts?",0 +6357,AITA?. Brother in law is visiting the area from across the country. We set up a meeting at a local restaurant for brunch. Less than 2 hours before he texts that he needs to do something and will be late. I have a PT session scheduled for mid afternoon and now the schedule has been compromised. AITA for not going to the meeting 2 hours later than set?,0 +6358,"My brother hurt me over a disposable plastic water bottle.. Last year in August our family attended a camp. Only I (22f), my father (60m), nephew (9m), brother (28m) and his wife (25/26f) managed to attend. Only 4 tents where available so i shared a tent with my nephew, my brother with his wife, dad had his own while the other tent was used as a food storage. +I along with my parents are HIV positive, they somehow contracted it before I was born and unknowingly transmitted it to me. Basically I have depended on medication all my life. Whenever I go somewhere I always make sure to carry a water bottle along even the disposable water bottles come in handy as I don't like walking to the kitchen at night to take my medication. +At that time I had a disposable plastic water bottle which I had bought from the shops some time before. One day during camp we were all sitting under a shade and my bro spotted my water bottle under the chair, took it and he and my nephew started playing fetch with it while I went to grab something in the kitchen. Upon seeing them playing with my water bottle I told them to put it back as i didn't want it to get dirty. He refused, telling me how it was so cheap that he could buy many more of them if I wanted. Mind you we are in the woods, that's the bottle i use at for my meds. I took the bottle from the ground as my nephew failed to catch it. My brother asked for it back and I said no, telling him that it was mine. Her forcefully took the bottle from my hands and somehow I hit him with the plate I had in my hand. He then held both my wrists in anger telling me i should never do that again, i just said yes and went away as soon as he left me. +What did he do next? they continued playing with my water bottle. to say that i was angry is an understatement, I was more than furious but there was nothing i could do. I kept my self together so I wouldn't cry in front of my nephew. + +I later on poured out my feelings to my mother in private, shedding a loads of tears telling her that i wanted to go home. she told me to hold on, that she would talk to my brother. I don't know how that conversation went but that night my brother asked to talk to me in private. He apologised but I was still to angry to even consider forgiving him. His presence angered me to the core, I just said yes hoping the convo would end but it did. he then made things worse by telling me I had anger issues and that because he is a counsellor he can tell I needed help the reason being that after showing that much anger I then pretended as if everything was fine. did he actually expect me to start crying infront of them? I denied everything while ke kept pressing the issue even further. Eventually he concluded everything by asking me to seek counselling. how do u disrespect someones property, use force on them and later tell them they need counselling after they react? + +it's still difficult for me to forgive him. How can he (being a pastor) exert physical force on me being a female with a small structure (weighing 45kg)? He's wife tried telling him to stop but he didn't listen. the only one who had the power to stop the commotion was my dad but he just decided to stay quiet and enjoy the show. There was blood under under my skin showing where his fingers were pressed. It took days for the mark to go away. I'm still deeply hurt by this",0 +6359,"I feel guilt for leaving husband alone for the holidays. Me (31F) and my husband (32M) are together for nearly 14 years now, married 4, we have a daughter (7) together. We live abroad, far away from family, since 2018. We have never been home for Christmas since. This year I promised my daughter to go home so she can be with her grandparents and have that ""real"" Christmas feeling, opening a bunch of presents under the tree and so. Unfortunately, my husband can't come because he has to work between Christmas and New Year. My daughter is excited to go, but now I feel guilt for leaving my husband home alone for the holidays. He will be alone for his birthday (24th Dec), Christmas and New Year. All our friends are going home, too. We are going to be away for 10 days. Am I overthinking, or are my feelings valid? + +EDIT, so I don't have to reply with the same answer everywhere. I made that promise in August, when our best friends (who are also from the same country as us and we all live here abroad) has invited us to their wedding, which is in between Christmas and New Year, at home. The bride wanted me as her witness, and I said yes to that. My husband should have been the groom's, but he wasn't sure if he will make it. I said to my daughter that because the ceremony will be in between holidays, we will go on the 23rd home so we can celebrate with her grandparents. My husband didn't said a word. Then in September he told his best friend that he will not come to their wedding because of work and no day offs left (they are coworkers btw). I already bought a dress for the wedding, and I didn't want to let down my friend saying I'm not going either. Oh, and he's not religious, he often works at home on the holidays, sits down to eat with us and returns to his work, so for him holidays are free time to do housework and hobbies rather than family time (not saying he doesn't care about his family, he's just the type who doesn't want to sit around not doing anything when he has the time to do something productive).",0 +6360,"Is my brother ok? And how do I help?. My brother (38m) and his wife (31f) have an adorable almost 2 year old son. I love my sister in law (she’s bubbly, welcoming and friendly) but recently I (and others in our family) have been seeing concerning behaviour. They ask someone to mind their son very regularly (3-4 nights a week) and when we have him it’s always a long time- dropped off early morning and picked up the next day in the evening. We all adore him but it seems they never want to have him? My SIL is always going out of town or off to some activity or event (away every weekend and doing something 4-5 nights a week). My brother is clearly not coping (they both work , he is full time she is 3 days) and he has gone from a bubbly happy go-with-the-flow person to seeming to be depressed/exhausted etc. He is a great dad and their son is a joy but I am honestly really worried about him. Our father passed away last week and he went to ground. He couldn’t deal with the funeral arrangements and needed others to come mind his son. This is fine but on the day he died his wife had a hair appointment that she didn’t even think to cancel and instead our other brother had to come look after my nephew. This week they are saying that because they had such a great Christmas with our family last year that this year they will focus on hers- I’m all for spending time with the other side of the family, but that story is not at all what happened. Last year they spent Xmas eve with her family, went to her aunts in the morning and only came to see us at 12. Well at 12:15 she got a call saying she’d been exposed to covid and they had to leave and isolate (state mandate at the time)- so actually last Xmas was not with us at all? I find that this is a pattern of late- reality not matching what my SIL is saying/doing. So- my question is - is there anything I can/should do or should I stay out of it? I will keep helping practically by taking my nephew when asked, but I worry that isn’t really addressing their issues?",0 +6361,"Parents making me feel guilty for not giving them money. Context: I grew up with my family until about 18y/o in a modest eastern european household, then I moved to a more developed country where I got a degree and a very well paying tech job. I visit home about 1 month a year. + +I've been sending some money monthly to my grandparents because they can't live off off the state pension and I have also always been willing to help my parents financially in case they couldn't cover their living expenses, but this has not been the case yet. + +Problem: Recently one of my parents has asked me for a considerable sum of money for buying a local business after someone convinced them that it would be a good idea as a way to leave their low-paying 5-9 job. I have refused to give them this money because I have zero confidence in their business management skills and I have no reason to believe that the business is even close to lucrative. + +After this my parent proceeded to try to make me feel guilty with stuff like 'I thought you want what's best for me' or 'I won't ever ask for your help again'. I don't think I'm in the wrong here, if anything I think it's really shitty from them to try to make me feel this way and I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. + +I'm looking for some advice. Am I the bad person for not giving them this fairly large sum of money, even if I have the means? If they keep being upset about this and get more distant is it a sign that I should consider breaking ties with them?",0 +6362,"Sisters birthday party. So this is purely a rant about my mum. + +My sister lives 2.5 hours away from us. Today we had a birthday dinner for her because she can’t come down for her actual birthday. + +So my mum was up at the crack of dawn cooking a roast dinner, had it ready for lunch at 12pm. Only issue? Sister wasn’t arriving until 3pm, and she knew that. + +Continuously interrupting sister at dinner when we were trying to find out what was new with her. To the point that we had to tell her multiple times to shush so sister can finish her story. + +After dinner two of mums friends show up at the door, they are doing some charity thing together. And they had apparently called multiple times to no answer, (we were having a party). So of course they had to drive around and ‘check if she’s alright’. + +To clarify, it is not unusual for them to not talk for months at a time, but they have this charity thing coming up soon. + +So they come, they see that she’s fine, just busy, and leave right? + +Nope! Mum invites them in, offers them a glass of champagne each and proceeds to spend nearly an hour talking with them in the kitchen whilst we are all in the lounge. Sister is leaving tonight, and I could see she was disappointed that mum chose friends over her. + +I’m actually really angry that she did this..",0 +6363,"Want neutral opinions on this incident.. When I was 17, I was a very silent person. My mother was quite upset about this one day; she started hitting me about the head. I did not respond. At that point I'd gotten used to it, or just didn't feel the need or the right to defend myself. I thought 'she's angry and hurt, and has the right to take it out on me, and I can give her an outlet'. I felt it was kind to allow her to do it. But afterwards, I felt numb. She tried to choke me in the bathroom, having somehow taken me there, and then put me just outside of it. I didn't feel like moving and I just sat there... my father crossed over me to take a bath, and then crossed over me as he came out. + +I'm 23 now. My parents do want a relationship with me, and they've paid for my university and are still taking care of me physically, I guess. But I realised I'm still responding the same way to their behaviour. My father accidentally hit me with a cupboard door recently, and did not notice, maybe, and I remembered this incident and how I felt. I don't know what to process about it. What I did wrong before or after, or what I ought to be doing. I don't blame anyone and don't feel angry now. I'd like advice on setting boundaries. + +Note that I'm looking for a job and looking to move out eventually, as soon as possible. I'm sharing this on here because I need to solidify that decision. I'm wavering. There's no one, or was no one, I could share with before. I was homeschooled at the time.",0 +6364,"Grandma always under-appreciates my sister (f18) while over-appreciating me (m20). For context, we all live together largely to take care of our grandma. My sister and i will cook dinner together and our grandma will only thank me until i remind her that my sister helped too. My sister will make lunch for our grandma, tidy up, hang out with her, whatever, and then my grandma starts telling family members how much of a help I am for picking up groceries or refilling her meds. + +I constantly have to remind her to be thankful for everything my sister does because she’s always too busy telling me that she appreciates me. And like it’s nice to be recognized for the things i do sometimes, but not when it’s at my sister’s expense and she isn’t getting the credit she deserves. + +I don’t want to have to keep reminding her that my sister is helping her too, but she deserves credit for it. What can i do to have her remember?",0 +6365,"AITA if I never forgive my mom?. I (24F) have never had a good relationship with my mom (53F). She always favored my older sister (27F) our entire childhood. I felt neglected by her and honestly emotionally abused. At age 8 my mother told me I was the reason for her depression. It gradually got worse as I got older. At age 17 she left my father, my sister & myself with no warning due to us confronting her about not taking her mental health seriously and also her alcoholism. She refused to get help until the point that she got a DUI. She got sober and claimed she was better and would be a better person. If only that were the truth. Nothing I did was ever good enough for her still and it was my fault for not making enough effort to fix it. I actually decided to take a few months break from her to clear my head. We ended up sitting down and having a talk and I thought we made some progress. It only took 4 months for her to show her true colors to me again. She came to my dad’s house and yelled at me because I made a birthday post for my oldest sister (31F)(who is not her daughter & my mom was the type of step mom to treat her differently because she wasn’t her blood) saying i appreciate her and how shes been a second mom to me. She spewed so much hate towards me (think of any vulgar curse words you could call a female and that just about sums it up.) I cut her out of my life in 2017 and I have felt mostly peace. Unfortunately, when I cut her out it was basically cutting her entire side of the family out as well. Only my dad’s side of the family knows the full truth because we have always been closer to them. My grandmother (mom’s mom) asked us multiple times but we refused to tell her because anyone that knew the full story cut my mom out but anyone who doesn’t my mom has manipulated to make it seem like my dad brainwashed me into never speaking to her again. I just need an outsider’s perspective. Unfortunately, I don’t even know if I included enough information for someone to form an opinion but I can add an additional post if people want to know more. AITA if I never want to have a relationship with her again? + + +Edit: I’d like to add that I am very close with both of my sisters also. My mom used to try and put me and 27F against each other which we eventually grew out of in our teen years. We both have always been close with 31F though. Either way just wanted to let you guys know I don’t resent 27F. She never did anything wrong and was innocent and never the spoiled brat sister.",0 +6366,"My husband vapes in the house. My husband of 33 years started vaping a two years ago. he works from home and has a great businesses. We have three grown up sons that just left the house. I am a cancer survival with very sensitive nose and vape smell make me nauseous. I prefer smoke small that at least smell something natural. I ask my husband to not vape in the house already maybe 10-15 times, but he still ""secretly"" does it, and not going to respect my sensitivity. We have a garden to do it, but he does it in his office but it goes all around the house. I am so exhausted. What can you recommend me.",0 +6367,"I hate everyone I live with. + +Im 18m and live with my mom and her bf. My mom has custody of her grandson(my brothers kid) and she insists on convincing me to babysit and I've repeatedly said no as I'm not comfortable with infants and she treats me like shit for it. She says that I should be ashamed that I stay in my room all the time when I'm not at school or working and hates the idea of me relaxing instead of offering to help her(I'm willing to but she never wants to ask) and she's a generally toxic person + +Her bf us a narcissist prick who will start a fight over anything and everything and mom defends everything he says and I generally hate both of them. I get yelled at for leaving the room when the baby cried since my ears are sensitive to high pitch noises and I'm blamed for it. + +I cant even move out for awhile since I'm still in highschool and don't have the money to move out yet. How do I deal with these people",0 +6368,"My brother hits me. I'm not sure what to do about this. + +I'm 18 and he's 12 but it hurts when I get hit still. He is almost at my height and this has been going on for about a year. + +He's also hit the two other brothers and has used objects to hit people as well. + +I'm not sure what to do anymore, parents won't do anything about him besides the lecture and yellings but that doesn't seem to do anything, he doesn't seem to realize he's hurting us either, he says it doesn't hurt but it does to us. + +I can't move out either since I can't support myself yet. + +Do I call someone or do something? I don't want him to go to jail but I'm concerned and just can't deal with getting hit at home.",0 +6369,"Cut ties with mother. My mother kicked me out so I cut ties with her, don’t talk to her and now she’s depressed. I’m scared she is going to die, maybe suicide, and that we would be angry when she dies. I don’t want to stay angry my whole life. My dad is like that. He’s an angry man. + +And at the same time my mother can be really mean to me, even told that that I was dead to her. What should I do? Should I talk to her again or not?",0 +6370,"Should I go to an estranged brother’s funeral?. So my dad had multiple children before he divorced and met my mom. I didn’t grow up with those children as they were already adults, I only met one of them who visited me once when I was a kid. A few years back when I graduated from law school, I took an ancestry dna test and the service instantly matched me with him so we were able to reconnect through there. While we never ended up meeting, he would call me every few months and check up on me. + +A few weeks back I got a call from his sister that he passed away. His sister told me he would talk a lot about me since I was the lawyer in the family. I was invited to the funeral which is next week. I’m not sure if I should go. I didn’t have a real relationship with him and he never was around. Moreover, it would require me to meet my other half brothers that I’ve literally never met. It would be a weird situation. Not sure how to approach this.",0 +6371,"Parents forcing me to get more COVID boosters. I need serious advice about a situation I am in with my parents I’m an almost 22 y.o. female college student but rely on my parents completely financially, for my apartment, car, food, etc. As a student with a list of medical issues I can’t work at the same time and I’m just trying to get my degree. + +In preparation for a family vacation in the next few weeks, they made me get another covid booster— my 5th one. They think it is best to be protected, and I am extremely liberal and pro-vaccine and social distancing and all of that we dealt with the last two years, but I haven’t seen any hard research online or comments from experts saying it’s safe. It doesn’t feel safe to me and I’m tired of getting pushed around by my parents. When I try to say no— that I don’t feel comfortable, they yell at me and tell me I’m going to get them sick and I’m being irresponsible and they threaten to cut me off entirely (my dad is very scary.) I need to make it through my last year of college, so this time I didn’t even put up the fight, just got the shot. My heart has been racing, I feel nauseous, my lungs feel tight, I am so tired and my head is pounding. My parents said that is “the shot working and that means I really needed it,” which is just WRONG and I want to tell them they’re wrong. I’m so angry that I don’t get a choice in my own health, that they tell me it’s my responsibility. I don’t want to have to do this again and I wish they would respect my boundaries. +1. Is it safe for me to have gotten 5 covid vaccines? +2. What can I present to my parents to get them to respect my bodily autonomy, and if they won’t, what should I do next?",0 +6372,"Brother won’t leave. I’m the idiot for not kicking my brother out the first time he disrespected me. Please do not be like me and allow family to abuse you and your living space. It’s been since November and my brother and his girlfriend don’t pay and still live in my home. I am going crazy. He is guilting me and making it seem like I’m a selfish and evil person… and I’m starting to feel like I’m about to be one if he keeps living here. I work my ass off to house him and his girlfriend while they blast the ac and cook in my kitchen. + +Can I just change the locks??? They have a lot of things in here",0 +6373,"My (23M) sister (20F) has gone to college in a far away state today. How do I deal with the sadness?. +My family travelled to her college state and we have dropped her off today. We're back in the hotel now and will leave the day after tomorrow. We live far from here in another state. + +It's the middle of the night, I was having a dream with her in it, and then I woke up and realised she's not here with me. And now I can't go back to sleep. + +I love her more than anything in the whole world. She really is the most precious thing to me. We've always lived together, except for 2 years when I went to college, although I was in the same state. I kept visiting once every couple weeks, but she's gonna be gone for months before I see her again. + +I didn't say much when we said goodbye because I knew I would just start bawling. I'm crying even as I write this. + +I just don't know what to do. I can not imagine going back home and not having her there. She'll likely visit two months later. I know it will get easier with time, but right now I feel like there's no way I could live without seeing her everyday and talking to her and playing with her and just goofing around together. + +God this is hard. + +I have no other sibling btw. Just my parents and my sister. + +I would appreciate any helpful comments. Thank you.",0 +6374,"Aunt and uncle threatened my cousin and I if we ever decide to go back to US. Cousin and I are the only ones in our family in Europe to be born in the US. We just returned to Europe after studying in US for 5 years due to COVID but want to return to US to find a full time job. Our parents don’t care if we find jobs in the US but we have to find a decent job to support ourselves. But when our aunt and uncle found out that we want to go back to the US, he threatened to have us arrested and they threatened to disowned us. It pisses the both of us, any suggestions on what to do?",0 +6375,"What are cool places to hang out with a 16-year-old?. This is going to be a family hangout. I (28F) am living in a fairly big city with my boyfriend. I've met all his family that lives here as well, even in distant neighborhoods, including his cousin ""C"" (16F). Her mother (my bf's aunt) is bipolar and refuses to seek treatment, making everything a living hell for the rest of the family. C's father, who's never been married to her mother, is ""not a nice person"", according to my bf. She then has their grandma, who is the solo caretaker of their grandpa who has dementia. +C's having a hard time, but she's the sweetest kid. I liked her so much from the first time we met in family celebrations! I told bf my feelings towards her were like the little sister I never had, but asked him not to mention that because I didn't want to seem creepy or anything. A few encounters later I heard their grandma telling my bf how much the family liked me and how C seemed to ""admire me like a big sister"" and I literally cried. I cannot explain how someone I barely know is so dear to me. +I told my boyfriend we should take her out and spend like a day together the 3 of us, so she can maybe have some family time without the daily issues and maybe vent to us if she feels like venting to grown-ups who are closer to her age... Bf really liked the idea, and grandma said C got ecstactic with our invitation. The only issue is: I have no teenagers in my family, I had no idea where to take her! Teenagers and people close to teenagers, please help us have a nice and fun day with C!",0 +6376,"My Mom won’t talk to me.. I live in a cottage on my parents property. My parents agreed to watch my dog for me as I planned a long day with appointments and commitments. The evening before at 7pm, they say we have to drive 5 hours to your brothers house, they need us to watch the kids. + +I say I wish you would have considered my schedule as well. Is there some sort of emergency that requires both of you to go? + +She says, yes, they need us to baby sit. + +I say it’s unfair that you’ve left me in this situation. + +She responds sorry you feel that way. + +Then she proceeds to not talk to me for 2 weeks and counting now and when I’m around her she won’t acknowledge that I am there or in the room. + +I’ve just been letting her be because I can’t control her behavior and have been dealing with my own life. I can avoid her. I’ve been in therapy long enough to know my mom is not emotionally stable. + +Today my Dad approaches me and tells me you better try to talk to your Mom. She’s really upset that you did that. She’s so upset she might not talk to you again. I tell him I’ve tried and she ignores me and that’s all I can do. He’s like keep trying…. + +So what would you do? Part of me thinks in the long term I need to find a different place to live. While we are separated by acres, I’m still on their property and this gives them the ability to try to control me. It’s also sad to be confronted with the reality that your parents are emotionally abusive over and over again.",0 +6377,"How to get rid of financial guilt?. I’m the oldest of 4. My family background is rooted in poverty. Food scarcity, electricity scarcity, and moving to 17 different houses in the course of 20 years made me promise financial independence for myself once I got to high school. (It’s worth noting that there was never a shortage of love during my childhood.) + +I’m 27 now and went from using $5 to spit between gas and a McChicken to $96K a year. I became laser focused on my future at 15 and haven’t let up since. However, my siblings don’t have the same mindset as me. + +I don’t want to “down” my siblings, but I’ve always had intelligence, work ethic, and charisma on my side throughout my life. There skill set is simply different than mine. + +Now that I’m making money that I’ve always dreamed of making, my main goal in life is to get out of debt and start building wealth so that my family can enjoy the fruits of my labor some day. I don’t want my kids to ever question whether or not there basic needs are going to met or whether or not the power will be turned off when they come home from school. + +All of this comes with immense guilt though. When I go visit my family, I’m happy to see them, but I’m torn apart on the inside because it feels like we are living completely different lives. Almost as if we didn’t even grow up together. One sibling is on section 8 while I’m throwing $2K a month towards my car payment to pay it down. I always help them without hesitation when they ask, but I just don’t know why this weights so heavily on me. + +I know their situation is not my fault. But does this guilt ever go away? Is this normal? :/",0 +6378,"I honestly feel like I don't like my twin sister... and at times I feel embarrassed we are related.. It's been about 8 years of strategic avoidance and I finally explained to her why I've been distant for most of our adult lives. In the past, she has always said that she misses me but I honestly think I would be a lot happier without her in my life... A lot of times between twins there's one that's more extroverted / dominant. I'm not necessarily more dominant, but I was more socially adept than her as a child and she grew up relying on me. As we've gotten older I've tried my best to separate my life from hers as much as possible but its difficult because she is very sensitive and relies on my attention for her validation. She has literally threatened to end her life because the only reason she felt worth living was 'because of me' because she's lonely, and she misses being friends with me. + +During the conversation, I explained to her that I have never felt respected by her, which is why I choose to be distant towards her. Its taken me a while to tell her this because she always has out of proportion emotional reactions to things, and It's an insane amount of pressure under. I feel like I'm constantly walking on egg shells because I honestly think she isn't a good person. She's an alcoholic, a addict, and a liar. Basically anything destructive, manipulative, or dangerous is what she's attracted to including trying to be a stripper or going into p\*rn. (I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it, but when you have the same face as someone is becomes a different story). She's scammed and cheated people, stolen things from my family, taken advantage of me and others, and tried to sabotage me for things I've worked for, like my relationship with my (now ex) partner, and overall She's just selfish, she's lazy, and plays the victim. She expects everyone to bend over backwards for her. She usually blames it on her being sad, or because 'her life is just os hard and she's been through so much'. And when anyone resists she throws a fit, goes on a bender and does something incredibly dangerous like wind up in jail for the night or get hit by a car. So now my parents are afraid of standing up to her even remotely, because they're afraid she will die because she can't take the emotional responsibility of the damage she's done. We've all tried to help her, and in return we get a sarcastic, in-denial, refusal to change attitude. My parents got her a spot in rehab and she finds a way to get herself kicked out. They got her a therapist and she decides after 2 weeks the therapist isn't good enough for her. I'll often try to talk to her, encourage her and help give her some pointers in life and she starts attacking me, saying I'm 'mean' to her, I think I'm 'better' than her, and that I'm a 'bully'. And then when I don't try to talk to her or help her, she's sad and 'nobody cares about her'. + +I could go on and on but I think you get the picture. I just hate being compared to her because we're twins and we look and sound alike, but I also feel bad at times that I want nothing to do with her. And a part of me feels self conscious about having the same face as her, because she walks around the street high on m\*th, and steals things from stores, and gets into arguments with strangers in public. I'm trying to be professional artist and I just don't want anyone to mistake her for me. Anyway. I'm not perfect but I'm fairly normal for a person in her mid - late twenties. I live in a big city and am working on pursuing a career there. I'm positive and outgoing, I'm pretty well connected and I have friends and I don't do drugs, and I dont involve myself in illegal stuff.. I set boundaries with her but then sometimes start to feel guilty. Sometimes it will come up in conversation and I never have anything good to say about her. She tells me how she always talks about me to her friends, and shows them my art page. I know most identical twins are good friends but I dont think I have a single photo with her on my instagram. She says that I'm mean to her and that I'm a narcissist and that I'm selfish. I don't think we will ever have a good relationship and I'm ok with it. I think she secretly looks up to me but will never admit it, and instead tries to bring me down with her, so she doesn't feel so alone.",0 +6379,"My mom doesn't understand that I (32M) don't want any presents for my birthday, just time with family. I have this thing with my mom every year. I don't care for presents, much less if it's money. I just want to ha e cake and coffee with my family. However, my mom insists on getting me a present, but since she's not very interested in my day-to-day interests and hobbies, she doesn't come up with any ideas other than money. + +A moment ago, she called me to ask if I wanted the gift in cash or if I want it straight to my bank account. I said that I don't want money, especially in the current situation (I'm on sick leave for burnout, don't want any extra stress). She insisted on giving me money, which I again declined and told her to give the money to my kid or to donate it to Ukraine instead. + +She started crying, saying ""what's the point of us coming to visit you then"". I answered that that's the point, I want to spend time with everyone on my birthday. She stoll kept crying and insisting on her wanting to give a present, and then she ended the phone call. + +Sigh. How would I get her to understand that I value relationships and family time over gifts and money? Gifts, especially random junk, is something I don't care about, and I'm really well-off so the 20€ she would give me doesn't make any difference to me - but it would be a lot more important if sent to e.g. Ukraine.",0 +6380,"alcoholic grandmother with unhealed childhood wounds. hi! so i just wanted to share something absolutely wild that happened today. wild for me at least. bear with me. first, i’ll start with how i’m pursuing a masters in clinical mental health counseling. this ties into what happens later on. basically, my grandmother has never been the nurturing type of grandmother you would expect. the kind of grandmother who makes you cookies or brings you a blanket when you’re cold. she’s always had a drinking problem that i didn’t realize until i was older. we’ve never been close. i think it’s her lack of knowing how to connect in her interpersonal relationships because of how her mother treated her. so this has resulted to her having mental health issues, substance abuse issues & alcoholism. well i’ve been traveling with my mom, dad & brother to see her ever since i was a small child. i am now 24. tonight, she was drinking a lot. she has survived 2 strokes. i have gotten used to her cognition not being the same & her stuttering & not being able to find the words she can. it gets worse when she drinks, as you would expect. she’s 81. tonight, she opened up more than i’ve ever seen. and the person she opened up to happened to be me. i noticed myself using my therapeutic skills without trying to. it just came naturally. she started telling this story about how she remembers being on a helicopter & all these doctors standing over her. she started saying how there was lots of back & forth & all she was thinking was that she wished it would just end. that’s all i could understand with what she was saying & then it clicked in my mind that she was referring to her stroke. she kept saying how her brain was broken & didn’t work in the same ways & i just saw her as this wounded person who experienced a lot of trauma. i can’t believe the words that came out of my mouth, but i told her “people that survive hard things usually have scars of some sort. some may be visible, some may not be. your scars are more visible & that doesn’t have to be something to be ashamed of. you’re a survivor.” i also said “grandma, now you’re safe in your home & you never have to experience something like that again. i’m proud of you for pushing through it.” my grandmother then teared up & said “thank you so much for saying that.” i could tell she really needed it. some more context- my grandparents are so private & have always self medicated. i was so surprised she started talking about her trauma with me. she was under the influence & she probably won’t remember in the morning, but i’m so glad there was something about my spirit that allowed her to feel comfortable opening up. my parents were sitting on the other side of the room & noticed it & both started tearing up. my dad NEVER sheds a tear lol but he did this time. i think it was the first time my entire family has seen my full potential. i, myself, realized tonight that i am capable of doing hard things. there were moments in that conversation when i wanted to break down because she’s my grandmother & it was hard to hear her talking about her pain like that. but in that moment, i pushed through. i will never forget this moment even if she does. if anyone has family members like this, just know nothing is impossible. you always have a chance to break through. i had been dying for a closer relationship with my grandmother for years. since i was a child & even if she doesn’t remember this in the morning, i will. i saw her true self come out & i will know that it was because of how i listened to her in that moment.",0 +6381,"My mom (47F) fat shames me (22F). My mom is actually extremely loving, but lately she's been commenting a lot about my weight and I told her to stop it, and that I was actually comfortable with the way I looked. She continued to be passive aggressive about it. One day she insulted me in front of my friend, told me I looked ugly in my dress, that I looked too fat. I got very upset and told her about it. She denies fat shamming me. She acts like it never happened. But she later apologized. + +Today we were having a conversation, it was very normal. And she suddenly called me a narcissist. Because I never do work around the house. Also because I think I'm better than anyone. Somehow I bought up the fat shamming thing and started crying midway. I told her I know she loves me and that I've forgiven her. + +She got angry and told that I still hold a grunge on her and that's why I'm crying. I cried because it hurt when I spoke about it again. I denied her accusations. + +She called me ungrateful. And how I didn't help her much when she had anemia and was sick (I really do regret not caring for her enough but I was there) + +I'm not sure anymore. I feel like the bad guy and I feel guilty. I love her very much but she keeps fighting with me. How do I overcome this? When I try to have a conversation about this, we always end up fighting. I'm tired. + +TLDR - mom fat shames me and brings up bad things I did to her when I confront about the matter",0 +6382,"Need Advice: Elderly Grandmother outlives all her children. Hello. I really need some advice and I don’t have anyone to turn to. So a little background. I am writing this as the granddaughter, oldest child to my late father and the oldest cousin. My grandmother has four kids, 3 of which are in the US and the fourth in china. Currently we all live in the us and moving would not be an option unfortunately. So my grandmother is 92 years old and tragically she had to watch her children (my uncles and dad) all die one by one. She will soon outlive her last remaining child who is also her caretaker. In this case, Who legally is next in line to be her care taker?. she used to live with her second eldest child but he passed first so she moved out into a retirement home but they don’t check in on residents everyday. Then the oldest, my dad, passed a year after him. after her third passes, who becomes next of kin? would this fall on the first daughter in law. Or does it ultimately become me? She needs a 24/7 caretaker as she’s old and frail and can’t cook for her self but I’m sure her assisted living place doesn’t do this. + +Please I hope this gets approved because I have no one that can help. This is such a rare occurance. I’m only 26 and still in grad school and I’m scared. Please help.",0 +6383,"Should I reach out to my parents?. Hi so I am 19f. I don’t know where to start this so I’m gonna start at the beginning. + +I met my now ex boyfriend (20 now) when I was sixteen. Things were rocky and we were on again off again. My parents hated him and tried to keep me away which caused so much tension. Kinda felt like we were living out Romeo and Juliet or something like that I guess. I’m still trying to figure out what I was thinking. + +When I was seventeen and he eighteen I got pregnant. My boyfriend convinced me to run away from home and I left. I didn’t even leave a note as I just couldn’t think of what to say. It wasn’t something I necessarily wanted to do but at the same time I felt like I had to in that moment. + +Things just went downhill fast from there it seemed like. We fought constantly and were barely making ends meet. Our son was born in July of 2020. + +Life goes on and somehow we made it through the worst of things. In August of 2021 I got pregnant again (due in March). One month later he hit me for the first and only time. I left with our son into a shelter. I was so lucky and durring the process of looking for a place that would accept me I found this fantastic wonderful elderly couple or they found me. And well I ended up breaking down. They took me and my son in. Have treated me as their own. + +Under their guidance I now have my GED, have a full time job (I do it partially remotely which is awesome. They helped me to get it but I’ve had to prove I can handle it), will be going to college this fall (job is helping pay for it and this will lead to a higher paid position). They care for my son when I have to go into work and have just helped so much. + +We were recently talking about family. I found out that they never were able to have kids and they asked about my mom and dad. I told them and they said I should contact them. I’ve been thinking about it since then. I just don’t know if I should. I treated them so horribly and I don’t know if they would want a screwup back. + +Advice please. I don’t know what to do here and I’m also overly emotional too. Lol. + +Edit to add. I am going to write a letter. With contact info included. It feels right to at least try but I am so scared to at the same time.",0 +6384,"My dad only ever hit me once, is it really that big of a deal?. I was talking with my boyfriend last night and I happened to casually mention that when I was around 13, my dad hit me during an argument. He never did it again and I know he felt bad about it. My boyfriend is saying it’s a big deal and that I should be putting boundaries in place with my dad even though it was around 7 years ago. I’ve never had a relationship with my dad and even to this day don’t really know him, even though him and my mom never got divorced and he lives in the same state as me. I know he would never do that again and that’s not who he is anymore, and I forgive him. I don’t really think it’s a big deal at all. +Should I be angrier/more upset about this?",0 +6385,"Found out my dad cheating. Recently I noticed that my dad was being suspicious; he would look around on his environment before using his phone. I had the chance to snoop on his phone while he is sleeping and I found out that he has been cheating. I don't know if I should tell my mom or not. She found out that he had an affair before and they had a huge fight. I don't know if I should wait to tell her before I reach her (because me and my dad live a flight away from my mom) or tell her right away. In general, I really don't know what to do. I don't have anyone to talk to because I'm sure they would tell mom right away. I'm only asking here on reddit because of anonymity.",0 +6386,"My mom is gradually descending into a flat earther. She wasn't like this two yrs ago, and I can't argue with her alone because my family don't say anything, they don't agree nor disagree with her, so I'm the only one who can't keep my mouth shut and starts talking, and when I do everyone starts shitting on me and she gets mad saying ""I'm very smart I've never failed any class, I was educated before you.... Etc"". + +Now true, she's educated, she's a retired lawyer, but this is dumb.. help pls.. her flat earth arguments are so dumb",0 +6387,"Should i go to this wedding or not?. Hello im 15(M) And 2 days From now I have to go to The wedding of My cousin (from my mothers side) but The day after the wedding i have an important midterm exam, But my mom says come to the wedding because of me. its sort of a favour/request, and i would like to go because she did a lot of things for me Also she said we will leave Early. But i dont know what to do because i have an exam the day after and the reason my exam is soooo important is that its a midterm exam and its Offline and i have to go to school(so i cant cheat with my friends) and im sorta a Sleepyhead so it will be kinda hard for me to wake up. my exam is at 8 in the morning but i have to wake up at 6:30 so i would be ready for it. + +What should i do? + +(sorry for bad english)",0 +6388,"Am I being too sensitive. +So i 22F just graduated from college and the major i chose was the same line of business that my father is in since being the oldest you are just assumed to take on the family business but I recently started to get anxiety just thinking about it . A reason for that is during college i did my internship and spent quite a lot of time there trying to make a project for my graduation project too and all this while I was never complimented by my dad (which frankly i didn't expect from him ) but other people who helped me a lot during my project really appreciate it . I do think that wasn't my best work and I could do better but I was still proud to complete it and I did graduate because of it but still he never showed any interest to look into my work so I also did't bother him by it . Then after some time during a conversation with the family he brought up my work and said that it wasn't to his liking and used a horrible word to describe it and looked at me to agree with him but I just ran away to my room and broke down which i don’t even think he noticed as he later asked me if what I didn’t like what he said to which I just pretty sarcastically said no but since then honestly I dread going back to work with him",0 +6389,"Would you consider someone paying for your meal as a payment instead of paying you for gas money?. My sister can’t drive so sometimes I have to pick her up and take her places. When we do go out, we sometimes get food and she pays for my meal and gives me like $10 for gas money. Just out of curiosity, would you consider this as a payment instead of giving me more money for gas? The restaurants are never too expensive but it’s never McDonald’s or anything like that.",0 +6390,"Parents call me ""dumb"" for moving out. Apparently I'm ""totally irrational"" because I want to move out at 26, but my parents say that it would be better if I lived there for another 4-5 years, saved up money, and the bought a ""starter home"" after that. + +I qualify for a mortgage, but my parents think I'm making a stupid mistake, going from living with them to owning a home. + +They even suggest I rent in Boston (average price 2-3/month) if I want to move out now to gain experience before I become a home owner. + +I think they must be living in the 1970s. They are baby boomers. In my opinion, homes are only going to get more expensive and interest rates are only getting higher. No such thing as a ""cheap home"" in this economy. + +Waiting longer (until early 30s) to move out offers me no benefit, and severely hinders my social life. + +Renting in this economy if you don't have to, throws your money away. + +I think it's completely rational to become a home owners in my late 20s. I'm about to graduate college and step into a six figure career. + +My mother said if I move out now, she would never visit me, and that I would get no help buying the home.",0 +6391,"is it normal to feel scared when parents come home?. every time my mom comes home i feel like im being jumpscared. the sound of the elevator is already scary to me, cuz i wonder if its her and when i hear that its her coming home my body goes into panic mode. im not being physically abused by her, so its confusing to me.",0 +6392,"feel guilty about moving out because my mom's so attached to me :(. im moving out for college soon (this is not my first year so nothing new) but every time i leave home after visiting i always feel so guilty and sad for leaving my parents alone, especially my mom. i grew up with pretty strict parents and didn't feel like i could fully live my life growing up because of their rules, but they're still great people who truly care for and love me (and support me; they've become a lot less strict as they saw me take responsibility in college). + +i go to a great uni that my parents are proud of but its far from home and every time i start packing and get ready to leave, i can sense my mom becoming more sad, and her behaviour depicts that. she never stops me from leaving but i know she always feels lonely whenever I'm away from her, especially since we're pretty close and i tend to be her emotional support. does anyone know how to deal with these feelings when I'm away in college? + +i always enjoy being on campus but feel as if I'm not entirely allowed to enjoy it and tend to feel guilty because i know i could've stayed closer to home and commuted every day rather than moving out (even if i still feel that moving away and living on my own during the school year is better for me. okay rant over hahah thank you for reading :)",0 +6393,"Does anyone have a grandparent still alive?. All of my grandparents have now passed away, my maternal grandmother died two years ago at 85 and was the last of mine. It’s still odd esp at holidays.",0 +6394,"My brother’jokes’. This is an example of how far my spoiled brat of a brother can go. + +One day on holiday in California last year, me (at the time 14 years old), my then 11 year old brother Josh and my twin sister Cleo were in a milkshake bar. My other sister was with my parents. We ordered 3 milkshakes. Me and my twin sister both have a severe peanut allergy so I made sure none of the milkshakes came with any peanuts in. I got a dairy-free strawberry one (because I’m lactose intolerant), Cleo got a dairy-free vanilla one and Josh, being Josh, demanded I bought him an extra large cookies and cream milkshake and access to the toppings bar (you had to pay to use it). We picked them up and then I went to the bathroom. When I came back I see Cleo is gone. Josh said she went to wash her hands right after I left. When she came back we all drank the milkshakes, and we left. After a few minutes of walking down the street I started to feet really nauseous. I didn’t say anything but as we kept walking I started to feel more and more like I was gonna be sick. So I slowly made my way down the street, trying my hardest to make sure I didn’t puke onto the street. And then Josh turned around and said to me with some sadistic twinkle in is eye: + +‘Connor, you don’t look so good’. + +Turns out while me and Cleo were gone he went to the toppings bar, grabbed some crushed peanuts, ground them down into almost dust and spiked my milkshake. And this was his sick idea of a joke. He stirred them directly into the milkshake so I had no possible way of knowing they were there, nor could I taste it at all. I spent the next day or two stuck in the hotel room throwing up over and over again. He showed no remorse, never said sorry and got zero punishment at all from my parents. + +I’ve also not had a strawberry milkshake since",0 +6395,"Should I include my mother-in-law in our trips?. Hi, +My father-in-law died a few months before my wedding. At the time my husband and I had just signed a one year agreement for our apartment and had jobs close to our homes so we couldn’t move in with his mom. His mom has been living alone in her house for about a year and a half now. I had all these plans in my mind about trips that I wanted to do with my husband which we have done together this year. But his mom keeps on inviting us on trips that are hers. I really don’t wanna go on trips with my mother-in-law. I don’t mind hanging out with her. She is a nice lady and she loves me. But I want to keep the trips with my husband ours. She keeps bring up the idea of us going together on trips and how she doesn’t wanna travel alone. I don’t wanna be straight forward with her. Her husband died. She feels alone. We are planning on moving in with her which would help her feel less lonely but I don’t wanna turn the vacations with my spouse into a vacation with my mother in law as well.",0 +6396,I truly have finally lost all my family. How do I find a new “family”? I’m so lonely. I come from a broken family that’s finally completely fallen apart despite my best efforts to try to keep ties with them. I have a baby and don’t want to be alone. I don’t want her to wonder why we never see friends or family. I feel so lonely. Friends I have aren’t in the area and we aren’t very close. How do I make a friend “family” for us both? (The dad isn’t involved it’s just me and LO),0 +6397,"little brother found my ""toy"" 😭😭. So idrk what to do... I (20f) hide my ""toys"" in my room, I don't hide them very hard, but in retrospect I should have been more careful, I guess I figured my siblings wouldnt go digging and my dad would respect my space since I'm an adult. Anyway, yesterday I came home to the drawer where they are wide open... I honestly thought it was my dad or sister (17), so while it freaked me out, I kinda just let it go and hoped whoever it was wouldn't say anything idk, but this morning my sister calls me... she walked in my room, and seen my brother (11) sitting on my bed with it in his hands. She told him to get out and not go snooping in our stuff, and then called me. I'm not home yet so I haven't seen him since it's happened +Should I say something when i get home? I obviously don't want to tell my dad and I don't want him telling my dad either, but should I do that? Or should I just talk to him? Or pretend it never happened? Idk, it's weird and awkward and gross :/ I understand being curious and stuff and I wouldn't mind talking to him if he has questions (Especially because my mom passed away), but I really wish it didn't come up this way yk? I should have hide those dang things better 😭😭 + +TL;DR my 11 yo brother went snooping through my stuff and found my ""toys"", im not sure what to do because he's so young and in general it's a really awkward situation... advice?",0 +6398,"Parents Age Gap Makes Me Uncomfortable and Sad. Hi! +I am a 17 year old girl. My parents have a 25 year age gap. My mom is 47 and my dad is 72. (Yes, you read that right.) I also have a 15 year old sister. Growing up, I never saw this as anything out of the ordinary. I mean sure, I knew my dad was older than everyone else my ages’ dads, but it never seemed significant to me. Now, however, I see it somewhat differently. To 17 year old me, it makes me uncomfortable to think about my parents getting together when my mom was only in her 20’s. I get that she was legal but it’s still kind of weird. As someone who is turning 18 in a few months, I can’t imagine even dating someone 5 years older than me, let alone 25. In fact, I am 6 months older than my boyfriend. While I realize that she was out of college and a full grown adult, I just don’t understand why he couldn’t have dated someone closer to his age, and same for her. Ever since I was much younger, I have been aware of the inevitable. Obviously, my father will be gone long before most of my friends’ fathers. In recent years, I have felt occasional anger towards both of my parents for choosing to have children knowing this would some day be the case. I don’t think it’s fair for me to live knowing that it’s a possibility my father won’t be around to walk me down the aisle or meet his grandchildren. If anything, I’m closer with him than my mother. I know my dads a good guy and had no I’ll intentions and I’m in tears as I type this but can’t help wishing my family situation looked different. Sometimes I feel very bad about myself and think that I shouldn’t be here, that maybe my sister and I are mistakes and outcasts. The thing is, no one treats me differently because of this, and my friends hardly ever mention it, at least not to my face. This is mainly an issue I feel personally. I’m not sure what I should do. I do love both my parents but I just wish I had a normal situation, with normal aged parents. Any advice or thoughts? TYIA.",0 +6399,"I made her cry…oops I did it again. My entire life my “older more beautiful supermodel drama Queen entitled sister” has bullied me and been mean/cruel to me. She has always been fighting and ironically has been jealous of me as far back as I can remember. I left home at 18, several years before any of my siblings could. Every summer I came home from college was met with screaming, fighting and crying. Being her sister was always on her terms, otherwise I was cruel and insensitive. She’d have a calendar and put celebratory stickers for whenever I was leaving every year. My parents enabled my sister in her behaviors. My sister never respected my boundaries and would purposely see how far she could push me. She would sneak in my room to see if she could find anything. She was always judge mental. I had a stalker once and she was trying to get ahold of him to find out more information about me after I told her not to. I always hid in my room to get away from her. I always thought she was bipolar or had some emotional mental disorder. My brother would tell me he was disappointed I never came out of my room to finally put her in her place, I was always just quiet and kept to myself. He was a bit of a jerk and would team up on her side because he was jealous of me too. We were in our 20’s (!!!) and my sister would try to pick lock my door so that I would finally hear her out. My sister always cried wolf, she would say sorry then was back to her old tricks. My parents said that’s just how she is and it won’t change. There were never any consequences. Two years of very low contact passed. My sister had always been trying to compete with me and I was surprised when she asked me to be her maid of honor and I thought she was changing her ways and was thinking of ways to reconnect with me. When she spoke to me one on one, she mentioned she was different and she wanted to include me in this very important time in her life. I thought this was genuine. I was so happy and thought we’d actually be sisters. Days leading up to the wedding she starts to fight non stop. In front of others she becomes a completely different person. She calls me “mija” in from of cousins which means daughter in Spanish. She starts ignoring me when I ask her a question or chime into a conversation. I only went out with her fiancé once with my family. Her fiancé was rude when I told him to stop throwing a ball over our picnic site because they could hurt us. He says “sometimes you have to live a little”. I had to grab the ball and throw it at the other side of the park so he could stop. She says I’m too sensitive because he has adhd and doesn’t process things as well. She starts fights with my brother and removed him from being a groomsmen. At her wedding I lied at the reception, I said all these amazing things about my sister that I did not believe. I didn’t want to make a scene and didn’t want to embarrass my sister in front of her fiancé and dozens of people during my speech. I just said good things I didn’t believe. My aunt, who knows my sister, came up to me and said “you lied”. I honestly felt like my sister had always been suffering from an emotional imbalance and my parents enabled her actions of entitlement. So I truly always blamed my parents for her behavior. After the wedding, my brother and I don’t want to have much to do with my sister. She leaves and we don’t hear from her for some time. She contacts me and starts fights again. I told her that I’m tired of her not attempting to learn from her mistakes. I told her she’s constantly being uncharitable and fighting with people. I told her that I needed her to know that if she continued to be like this, we would be no contact. I told her that I did not mean what I said at her wedding because she’s always fighting and ignoring things she needs to work on. She was disrespectful to me leading up to the wedding as she always had. I told her I didn’t know what kind of relationship we had because as far as I was concerned we had none. Well… her eyes swelled, turned wide started crying histerically and she turned to every family member on both sides of the family and told them a twisted version of what I said. Everyone who doesn’t know my side of the story (in our family) sides with her. After two years no contact, I had a baby and she said in an email “hey sista I know you’re probably too busy trying to figure out motherhood but wanna chat?”. I didn’t respond. Another two years pass by “hey sis, don’t feel pressured to respond just now but I was wondering if you want to have a chat? I’m sending you photos of my kiddos”. It’s been two years no contact. She could care less to apologize and I know how she is. My dad sides with her and now we are no contact as well. I mean, I never want to see her or her fianc�� ever again. I don’t care if I exile myself from an entire community of my family. I want out. Never to return. I want to free myself from the chains of enabling bad parents and entitled siblings. I want to be left alone to break this curse. I want to be free from all and everything that proves to me that is toxic. I want to be free from people who show me they don’t love me. I want to be surrounded by people who care about me. I’m soooo done from being surrounded by people who make me miserable.",0 +6400,"Why I can’t heal the traumas of bullying in high school? Now, I am 24 years old and I am so insecure about myself, low selfsteem and because of that, I never had girlfriend or invitations to parties in college, I feel so depressed and my family is upset because I don’t do nothing everyday. I want to kill myself, I can’t even be in a job without people fired me",0 +6401,"Controlling Husband. I've been married for 12 years and together for 14 years. We have 4 children together. + + I've been cut off from my whole family and I recently made some great mum friends but my husband has continuously made me feel like shit every time I've made plans to go on a mum's night. + +He compared my mum's night out with only married mums with kids, to him having a night out with his friends and sleeping with a whore, then coming home with an STI. +I thought he was being stupid but he seems to think this is the correct comparison to me just having a drink at the local pub and him sleeping with a whore!!!! + + +I just feel lost he made me feel like I'm not the good mother and wife that I have always thought I was. + +should I be feeling like this or should I be concerned that he doesn't want me to have a life outside of being a mum and his wife? + +I cook, clean, cut and maintain his toe and fingernails, beard, wash his feet, and clothes also make sure he is continuously supplied with fluids and also sleep with him when he wants. + + +What more does he want from me..... I don't want to stop these monthly nights out, but tonight when I told him I loved him he just ignored me and shrugged his shoulders. + + +Why is he making me feel like shit for going out once a month to spend time with my other mum's friends? Am I in the wrong????",0 +6402,What is Father's Day really?. I understand families want to do stuff for the father. But shouldn't the father just do whatever he wants?,0 +6403,"AM I MY MOTHERS CHILD? OR HAVE THEY LIED MY ENTIRE LIFE.... Based on how I'm treated in this family of 6, I jokingly (seriously) purchased a AncestryDNA kit to see if I'm adopted or notice anything unusual. + +Being that I didn't want to purchase a full-on paternity test, I went with ancestry DNA. After taking it, I realize I'm the ethnicity I knew I always was, so that's a good first sign 👍🏼 + +Then, I see plenty 2nd & 3rd/4th/etc. Cousins with my last name. Which kinda proved , I'm just delusional and I'm just mistreated and projected onto in my family. I'm the scapegoat, and this black sheep / scapegoat person is gonna leave soon and live on his own. So, I guess I'm more of a lone wolf? + +Now... Thinking everything was ok... I stopped searching. Went on with myself... Untill I got email notification from ancestry.... And again another cousin was linked to my DNA, again same last name. Then it hit me... I haven't seen any of my mom's last name pop up... I mean deeeeep down yes. 2 or 3 but even tho she has a huge last name... She's my mom, she was 1 of 10 in a family of boys only, meaning that last name should have been SCREAMING COUSINS or DNA MATCH more than my father being he has less family and smaller last name . + +So now again I'm unsure how to go deeper in this. I believe something happened to me as baby... I always did but no one answered. Now being older I noticed my family answering with a panic but either brushes me off or answering angering. My mother has images of everyone while pregnant. Then, professional pictures of all the kids ... And my brother was an age that I should have been born... And in the group picture also... Then... The only pictures of me as a baby were in the hospital , small, sick, and with a huge burn or infection covering my arm, legs and stomach. Then another picture , I had gone thru a surgery by my lower right abdomen. My mom said growing up I had my appendix removed. That isn't true tho. Being my current doctor checked me when I had pain in my teen years and said my appendix was inflamed .. I told her I don't have one but she insisted I saw for myself from imaging. + +Growing up my memory was ELEPHANT like. Inhumane, along with my hearing and all else... Till this say... I have more sensory levels. So, I remember as a verrrrry young kid. My dad finding out from the thousands of beauty marks we have (being European) he would point out ones in the same area as to how we are family....even without asking him. I have a beauty mark on my lower left chin...he would point out how he had one , but on his lower right chin...and how we all right with our right hands! Wow...how distinctive. Then growing older my oldest abusive sister would end an argument ""that's why they found you in the trash!"". And as a child I thought it was a regular bullying phrase...she said it not knowing or just thinking I would get mad .. + +I'm almost 30 now ..and I'm gonna figure this out. +Too much pain. Too much hate towards someone who only wanted to be loved normally. I think humans have a strange intuition for things. Follow it... I think I'm in the wrong family, and they won't let me out :(",0 +6404,"Why do parents who have had a child/children removed from their care think they’ve done no wrong?. Currently dealing with a situation where multiple children have been removed from a mothers care on separate occasions over a few years. While all this has been going on this woman feels as if she has done no wrong, that she’s entitled to whatever she likes and speaks down to people looking after her children PROPERLY. Its gotten to the point we’re it’s making me angry because I don’t understand how she can sit with her head high acting like worlds best mother?",0 +6405,"Moving out of my parent's (60F, 58M) house soon, and I (21F) am being guilted.. ",0 +6406,"Am I the only one who refuses to call my older brother and sister my half siblings?. My parents both had kids when they were younger before they met. When my dad broke up with his daughters mother, she kept her away from my dad. My mom’s situation on the other way worse. My eldest brother’s biological father left my mom when he found out she was pregnant and never looked back, leaving my mom to raise my brother on her own. Fast forward a few years later and my parents met and got married. My dad took in my brother and raised him as his own. Then came my older brother and I. + +We grew up with our eldest brother and only knew of our eldest sister and had never met her. We finally met her and I was 17 at the time and she was married with kids. We all got along like a house on fire and our relationship with her is only getting stronger and stronger. We refer to my eldest siblings as my brother and sister but some family members (uncles and aunts) always correct us and say “half brother and sister”. I personally don’t care and every time they do that I get annoyed. So what if we don’t share the same mother and father? They’re my siblings and everyone else can go fly a kite for all I care.",0 +6407,"Stepdad is a jerk. I am a 17 (m) and I live in a really really religious Muslim family. +My mom and stepdad have been married for 6 years. +And I didn't like his personality since the start. +He deosnt hit my mom but he keeps shouting,yelling and insulting her everyday for as long as I can remember. +Anything I do or she deos, he finds something to yell about. +And of course since it's a relegious family, he is extremely misogynistic and ALWAYS keeps quoting stuff from the Quran. +He litteraly is so religious that he made me hate my religion. +Everything I do, he keeps saying I do it like a girl and I am not a real man. +Then he becomes kind with my mom sometime like he didn't shout at her for doing something wrong 1 minute ago. +I honestly hate him, but I need to be nice to him because my mom says so. +Do you guys have any advice for me ?",0 +6408,what if my cousin is also my sister?. Is this common? How does one deal with this?,0 +6409,"need advice, how to ignore parents?. 27f, it's always boggled me how kids and adult children can ignore their parents? + +I want to learn this skill. + +I grew up being way to concerned over what my parents think. Are my grades good enough, what do they mean by X, do I dress nice enough etc. Not to mention occasional insults (what makes u think ur good enough, why u stupid etc), and sometimes parents just being worried (what makes u think its easy to move out, are u sure u can do this etc) + +I get very VERY worked up emotionally when I get stuff like this from my parents. My guess is cuz my parents themselves see me saying 'stop it' as 'talking back'. Literally, I'm an adult now I still get egos flaring. I've walked out on them a few times. They're just being themselves, really. They don't mean anything bad by it most of the time. + +Yeah, how do u guys do it?",0 +6410,"My mother has been taking my food to feed my brother. My brother (31M) is working hourly at our mother's (61F) company. He and his wife make a household income of 6-figures and he never bothers to cook or buy his own lunch. His words were ""I never plan on having lunch lol. But mom gives it to me anyway."" + +I'm his older sister who fell on hard times during COVID and had to move in back with my mother. I help with groceries and food and housework. I do not make 6-figures and just trying to get back on my feet. I recently found it suspicious that my groceries do not last a week between my mother and me. She admitted it's because she takes it and feeds my brother. + +Now I'm divided. Technically, I gave the food to her. She's able to give it to whomever she wants. + +But on the other hand, I'm still peeved at this momma's boy behaviour. My mother is taking not just her portion of food, but she's taking mine. My brother never plans on having lunch but relies on our mother for hand-outs. I find his attitude despicably low. He's capable of feeding and buying food for himself, but instead passively accepts the food our mother takes from 'our household'. + +Am I over-reacting? I don't know how to navigate feeling mooched. + +​ + +Edit: Yes, I realize there's some underlying issues here and a past history I need to work at. ",0 +6411,"Mum is verbally abusive - PULLS KNIFE ON ME. So me (M21) still living with my mum I work 40 hours a week and help out with rent. + +What happened - +Mum wants me to put a shelf up in the kitchen the kitchen is cluttered so is the house ( Mum most likely is a hoarder ) I go down to look where to put the shelf and move things around for it - CONVO BELOW + +Put this shelf up for me + +Me: okay but where shall I put the shelf + + Here but move the notice board and chalk board first +Me: where to + + anywhere just move it anywhere for now + +Me: You can't just move it anywhere + + I said move it put it in a plastic bag + +Me: you need space for it first or it will clutter the house + + DON'T ARGUE WITH ME I SAID MOVE IT AND PUT IT IN A BAG + +Me: when will you find a space for it today tomorrow next year + + I don't know I just want the shelf up do it NOW + +Me: okay I just want to find a space for the other stuff first so it doesn't clutter the house + +DON'T PUT THE SHELF UP I WILL DO IT MY SELF YOU NEVER LISTEN TO ME GO NOW GO AWAY NOW + +Me: I'm just trying to be reasonable and you're just going to clutter the house more + + ( PICKS UP KNIFE POINTING AT ME ) GO AWAY NOW YOU TERRIBLE SON YOU WORTHLESS SON GO AWAY STOP ARGUING WITH ME ..... YOU ARE KILLING ME ALWAYS ARGUING WITH ME I ALWAYS HAVE TO SHOUT + +Me: ( Leaves room goes up stairs ) + +SHOUTS AFTER ME YOUR PROBABLY NEVER SUCCEED AT UNIVERSITY YOUR WORTHLESS YOU DON'T RESPECT NOR LISTEN TO ME ALL YOU DO IS STAY IN YOUR ROOM ALL DAY ....... + +( 30 minutes later she's still shouting at me making me feel down and depressed )",0 +6412,"My dad is set on going to fight for Ukraine, he has no military experience, how do we stop him?. My dad called me and my little brother today and told us he's messaged the Ukranian embassy in London and they've told him he's eligible to go to Ukraine and fight the Russians. He's never served in the military, has no shooting experience and I know he would just be used as cannon fodder if he went over there. + +My, my mother (his ex-wife) and my brother do not want him going over to fight this war, how can we convince him not to?",0 +6413,"Longterm relationship with BF’s father is being inappropriate. I have been with my boyfriend for four years. He is wonderful in every way and I want to marry him. However I know when you marry someone, you also marry their family. I come from a broken household, so I understand that every family isn’t perfect, but this situation is making me re-think the big picture with my boyfriend and the family we could make/have together. + +Let’s call BF’s father David. + +Last year at the start of the pandemic, bf’s allowed me to move in with them since we were still in college. His parents were always very kind to me, and the David was always sentimental, trying to make jokes, and sometimes his words came across as strange. As the pandemic progresses, BF’s mom passes away very suddenly. This has an obvious traumatic effect on BF and David, and I try to help in any way that I can while being there. + +I mention this because I feel that David has lost all that he has known with the passing of his wife. However, he has made numerous comments about me and my boyfriend, my friends, his niece, and crude comments to the women in my family. Examples include telling people present at his wife’s wake that me and BF are probably having sex, while in reality BF was trying to hold it together for so long, he needed space after delivering his mother’s eulogy, so we stayed back for a half hour. + +He has also talked to my mother and grandmother about porn he watches and made a joke to my mother about jacking off. After previous comments he made about me and at the wake, I became enraged because now this involved my own family. + +BF is also angry, but sees his father as the only family he has left since his mother has passed. + +Flash forward to today, my mother calls me distraught that David has randomly sent her a photo of himself at a nude beach. My mother is very conservative and is confused, embarrassed and feels extremely uncomfortable. She said that she didn’t want anything to do with him anymore (understandably) and that she doesn’t want me to be around him anymore either because she thinks that he is dangerous. + +I agree and am enraged that this stuff is happening. I fear that if I have a daughter with BF, I would have a constant worry of David in our lives. + +I have decided that I nor my family will have anything to do with David anymore since he cannot NOT Be creepy. + +I don’t know what this means for the future of mis and my BF’s relationship, as I don’t want him to not have a relationship with the only family he has left. + +TLDR: Boyfriend’s father has made sexual and crude jokes about me, friends, niece, my mother and grandmother even after being told it makes us uncomfortable. Boyfriend’s father proceeds to send my mother a naked photo of himself because he thinks it’s funny.",0 +6414,"When should parents stop undressing in front of their children?. I don't think of myself as a prude or an exhibitionist. it's just a question that's been bugging me lately. +I know our bodies are meant to be considered natural and beautiful but they are our bodies. When were and how we share them with others is always been a topic of contention. +I'm curious what others think is appropriate age(of the child), for parents to stop undressing(semi or fully or naked), in front of your children? Especially in front of your children of the opposite gender.",0 +6415,"3rd language. I want to teach English to my 4-year-old daughter as a third language. + please guide me. Our mother tongue is Azerbaijani Turkish and we live in Iran and the official language of my country is Persian. + My daughter Anil has now learned Persian and Turkish well and I was able to teach her numbers and some colors in English. But I need good guidance and reference to continue working. Because I do not know English well enough. + +Thank you for your advice 💕",0 +6416,"How do you deal with a difficult mother??. So, I'm a person who don't express too much to my family and even if I'm in my 30's I don't know how to hanlde my mother when she Is upset about ANY REASON, can you share some advices so I can have a more peaceful life??",0 +6417,"Am I selfish for not wanting to celebrate my birthday.. Hi, I’m (f) and my 16th birthday is coming up. (The 13th) I grew up in a abusive house hold where my mom treated me very differently. My mom would force me to celebrate my birthday with my little brothers birthday(his is the 21st), it wouldn’t be a problem with me but it was more so his birthday party that I just attended at and she would put my name on the cake. If I didn’t like it she would just not let me celebrate it at all, and I grew used to it. I always dreamed to finally have that sweet 16th party by myself.. and that was the one thing my mom did agree to. well 6-7 months ago my mom kicked me out. (There’s a on going case rn) but anyways,she reported me a runaway after I refused to come back, since it wasn’t the first time. I was sick of it, and tired of the abuse. Because of that, I’m not legally allowed to get a job without her. And I’m out of school. So I have no money or friends to do my birthday. It just seems pointless. The person I’m staying with keeps insisting on doing something.. and my cousin wanted me to celebrate it as well. She told her mom(my aunt) to merge my birthday with her younger brothers.. which is today. And I feel it’s wrong. It’s just the same thing all over again, and I already decided to just not celebrate because these past few months have obviously been mentally and emotionally draining with a big toll on my depression. I have no energy in me to interact at a party. Let alone feel like im stealing my little cousins day. (He’s turning 14) it just seems rude. She told me I can’t say no, and so did my “roommate”. I honestly just want to be left alone. It’s not worth celebrating. And my cousin shouldn’t have to share just because I have a bad home Life. So, am I selfish because I want to be alone on my birthday?",0 +6418,Can I report my ex partner for letting my daughter go to his mothers when he knew she had COVID which my daughter may have picked up?. Can I report my ex partner for letting my daughter go to his mothers when he knew she had COVID which my daughter may have picked up?,0 +6419,"Hi, you might remember the post I made here a little whole ago, I just wanted to say thanks. Hi + +I made a post here a couple of days ago, talking about how I want to kill myself. I have been feeling awful about myself for a while and it just boiled up to a point where I felt hopeless. I haven't told anyone about how I'm feeling and I just need to get it out, so I choose this subreddit. + +I just wanted to thank everyone who took the time to respond and give me advice about what I should do. I have begun looking for therapy. I'm still scared to tell the people in my life about how I'm feeling but I'm sure I will eventually. + +Thanks again to everyone who replied, you don't know how much it helped me.",0 +6420,"Anyone else having to parent their parents?. Dunno if this is me developing as a person or something that happens when you hit a certain age but omd my parents are annoying the hell out of me. Simple things like telling them not to use certain words (racism) or to tell them they need to do life admin (yes you need to renew your driving license) to them not listening and asking the same questions each week. The worst is that they completely change any story we've told them when telling others until the point it becomes something so unrealistic and nowhere near the truth! + +Mine and my OH's parent range between 60-70 but I'm genuinely concerned the days of putting them in a home will be here pretty soon!",0 +6421,I wonder how is the life of the people who have bad family (parents and siblings) and no uncles or aunts? Are friends alone enough? (If yes how many friends you have). How's your life going? Do you always feel like you're missing something? Do you always wish you have a good family?,0 +6422,"My grandpa died on last sunday, I feel really lost now.. I feel broken right now. + +I live with my mom and my grandparents (mom's parents), never had a father, I always looked at him like my father and grandpa in one person. + +He told us a few days ago, he is not feeling well, we were about to take him to the doctor today. I never saw him sick in my entire life (23m), I was scared. Yesterday morning he told me he is feeling better, but early night time my grandma said, he just lay on the bed, and breathing heavily, and not responding. My mom is a nurse, she did everything, I called the ambulance, they came, and tried to save him. But sadly, he passed away. + +It hurts so much, I don't even know what I feel now. Makes me even more sad to see my mom and grandma crying. + +The real problem is, we can't leave grandma home alone, since she is old, has high blood pressure, sometimes she fainted, last time she broke her arm. We would worry to leave her alone at home, when both of us (mom and me) are working. + +We don't want to give her in an elder care home, since in my country, they are not care about them, they just let them alone. + +The house feels so empty, even though we are home. I feel like there is no point to live anymore, I mean.. what to do now. + +He did everything around the house, feed the animals, chopped wood, did smaller and bigger repairs, and always had a good idea, when a problem came up. Now I'm just waiting for his words and advices, but those are never ever comes. + +I'm not sure about the future. I can't leave my mom and grandma behind me, it feels like never. I'm stuck in this city, even though I really want to move somewhere better. I guess I'm already too attached to them. + +Give me some advice please.",0 +6423,"My mother doesn't get that I'm traumatized.... For back story purposes I was in foster care by the time I was 13. Growing up I was told how my father beat me at 6 months and raped my mom and got her pregnant. She claimed she was raped by a few different people growing up. She married a guy who made a bet he could take her away from the man I came to know as dad as he never left my life. The man she married spent a year in jail when I was 3 for sleeping with a 14 yr old. Growing up I had to call him dad or get beat. I had to be his slave or get beat and I mean right down to taking his socks and shoes off and putting them on. He raped me when I was 7, his brother raped me for 2 years after and a few times in my teens, his father raped me every chance he could from 8 to 13 right down to the father asking to take me to his weekend cottage and my mother always saying yes. I rode in the window of the car so many times showing myself to the world with my shirt up cause he likes it. I could have fell out the car window at any time and him doing 60-65. I I told my mother what was happening when I was 11. She told me I needed to ""stop flaunting it"". I started cutting myself and caught the attention of the school which is why i ended up in foster care. + +I met my father at 13 and he was a drunk. Not really the best role model. I ran away from his house 6 months after I was placed there. I was only allowed to eat dinner. I watched my 8 siblings on that side be abused while I was there .3 days before I went into labor with my twins my father was sentenced to prison for sexually abusing my step sister. + +In the end the step dad killed himself in 2009. His father died of cancer last year and from what I hear his brother is doing well for himself but not under the best circHalloween. + +A couple months back the step dads mother confided in my mother that she hated me she beat me and that she knew about the rapes her words were "" We treated her so good I shared my man with her she should have been greatful for us and what we did we showed her how to grow up. It's too bad she didn't appreciate it and now has all her screws loose"". + +This summer my mom's boyfriend of 9 years decided to break up with her about her about 4 months after he got caught cheating on her with a very well endowed woman. My mom has always been on the smaller side in everything. He was a bigger guy with her weighing in about 140 and him at 330. She was upset and nothing my sister (step dad real daughter reason they married) or I could do would help her. She found comfort in being around her boyfriends step daughter from a previous relationship. + +My sister and I relationship was never a good one we fought like crazy and when her dad died she blamed me for awhile. We have since reconciled and have an amazing relationship. One that I never thought I could have. My sister and I had been fine with everything until halloween. + +My sister asked my mom to go trunk or treating with them. My mom's excuse was she didn't have the gas she was in pain ( this woman had me hooked on pain meds at a young age but she has horrible back problems so we didn't think anything of it. Fast forward a week to Halloween and my mother is sending me pictures dressed up as a native American. I couldn't understand why didn't say anything though. She then tells me she's going trick or treating with the step daughter. I'm like ""ok"" ya know cause I understand. At this point I didn't know my sister had asked her. My sister messaged me telling me she was taking her children out for trunk or treating I said ""oh awesome I'm surprised mom didn't ask to go with you I guess she's going with (insert step daughter name)."" My sister lost it. Well in talking to my mom I found out she was favoritism the step daughter kids over mine or my sister's. Her biological grandkids. They didn't matter. I can't tell you last time my mom wanted to talk to my child. Well I called her out on the favoritism because I'm not playing the same game that was played with me. She got mad send me a email about how I don't care about her I don't know anything and I need to do better as a person. + +I left her unread for 2 weeks. She never tried to call me she never tried to message me til a couple days ago. I lost a set of twins at 19 yrs old. They were born at 23 weeks. She completely got the one daughter's name wrong for purposes we will call my kids rose and Kay. She said Cassie. I don't have a Cassie. + +I messaged her and said ""mom it's _____ not Cassie"". And tried to explain to her why I'm dealing with so much. She replied with ""omg I'm sorry I spelled her name wrong I'm sorry I ruined your life I tried my best with you I can't handle you anymore.your such a miserable person"" + +Now I'm a nice person I will give you the shirt off my back and my pants if I thought it would help someone else. I have given my now husband's ex step daughter the coat off my back when she was freezing because I knew I had another one and she didn't have any. My mother is the kind that unless it benefits her she don't want to. + +I replied "" this is why I can't talk to you."" And restricted her messages again without reading another. + +What do I do now is my question? How do I help my mental health? Do I not talk to her anymore because of everything and I'm just mentally drained or do I keep trying because she is my mom and she gave birth to me? All advice wanted please",0 +6424,"I was feeling bad for moving out but my mom just washed away my high school scribble shirt and was laughing.. **Edit** \- Told my dad about this and he said - ""OKAY"", what else was I even expecting lol + +20F here, moving out in about a week. I was starting to doubt my decision and was thinking that after all, these people aren't that bad. But my mom, just helped me stay firm to my decision. + +We have a tradition in my country where on the last day of high school, people write stuff on each other's shirt. Teachers sometimes participate too. We call it The Scribble Day. It consists of funny and memorable stuff. Like one of my girl friends had written, ""*Would miss sleeping on your shoulder in the school bus*"". I was kinda a shy kid back then, so a sweet guy wrote, ""*I like everything about you. You're so special. I wish you a lot of confidence"".* Things like these. I do not even remember half of them. It's been two years since I graduated high school and I had kept the shirt safely. Everybody does. Yesterday, my younger sister \[14F\] secured an admission into that same school and here comes my mom today, out of the blue, ""Look babe, I have the shirt ready for your new school"". SHE FREAKING WASHED AWAY MY SHIRT. It was all colourful highlighters, so there's hardly any imprint left now. And she was laughing loudly. How could she not see and feel the hurt visible on my face. And no, we are not financially constrained. We can obviously buy a new shirt. Like I think, isn't it so stupid and immature of her to do that!? + +I didn't say a word. She would just find a way to blame it on me, as she always does. At this point, I am just out of the energy to even talk to these people. I guess, I am clearly reminded of the reasons why I decided to move out in the first place. + +​",0 +6425,"My grandma and cousins all came back to town but didn't tell me on purpose. I feel really sad.. I just need to rant a bit. + +My grandma and cousins came back to our hometown. They didn't tell me on purpose and had a family get together without me. Even my mom was there. + +I'm still here for grad school and don't live at home so didn't realize they were here until they sent a family dinner photo to the extended family group chat. I was really surprised. + +I feel really hurt. These sorts of family dynamics have been ongoing since I was a kid. My grandma told me that she couldn't love me because she hates my dad and my aunt used to tell my cousins not to hang out with me because they'd turn out to be ""poor and stupid"" just like my mom and me. We grew up low income and my cousins lived in a wealthy household. + +I get that I probably didn't miss out on much if they treat me this way, but a part of me feels really sad that I was deliberately left out. As a kid, I used to think something was wrong with me all the time. The way they treat me, like I'm the dirt beneath their feet, makes me feel like they would be happier if I didn't exist. + +I wish I could get them to understand the hurt they caused me. All the reasons why people have said they can't love me are all things that happened in the family before I was born. It's unfair. I wish I could just be included.",0 +6426,"My brother (24 & married) sleeps in parents bed. So my brother has always had sleep issues where he would never wake up even if his alarm was on full blast. Also his newly wed wife is still back home, but she isn’t aware of this situation. So my brother relies a lot on my parents and lately, his alarm rings throughout the day and night. Currently he’s sleeping next to my mom which is quite odd considering he’s 6 ft tall, a fully grown man. My dad meanwhile is downstairs watching tv, so I’m not sure what his reaction will be once he finds him in bed. Job/income wise, my brother has always been lucky, but even his colleagues have had complaints about his sleep. What should I do? I’ve tried to explain this to my parents but they think he’ll mature by time which isn’t true. +Ps, if I was ever asked about the luckiest person in my life, I can easily say it would’ve been my own brother.",0 +6427,"Drunk at my grandmothers (79f) birthday!. We went to some good Italian restaurant, and I (22M) and my cousin (24m) had a total of 15 drinks combined. I had 8 and he had 7. The family wasn’t too happy with us, and my mom and dad yelled at me on the way back home.",0 +6428,"Abandoning My Elderly Parents. My parents are in their late 60s. They did not plan for the future, so they now live off tiny social security checks, and in a tiny house that is literally falling apart. + +I've lived with them (as an adult) for the last 10 years. They gave me a place to stay when I could not afford to live on my own. + +I'm now in a position to leave, and I would very much like to. My father is violent and an alcoholic, my mother does not clean up behind herself and I always come home to a house that's an absolute pig pen. She will literally feed her dog on the couch cushion, not with a plate. Just meat dumped onto the cushion for the dog. She ""washes dishes"" by running them under hot water. She also has a bad temper. + +On top of this, my parents don't get along. They fight like cats. I literally had to stop my mother from stabbing my father a feeonths ago. Both of them are currently involved/ having an affair with other people. I honestly think they're both talking to online scam artists. + +I know it sounds like the obvious choice would be to leave. But....without my financial support they would not be able to buy food, pay for medical expenses, feed their pets, etc. For reference, they make about $2500 per month, but mom's income is only $800 of that. Zero savings, nothing for emergencies, no resources to fall back on. + +If they split up, my mother in particular would have no where to go. She doesn't even have a car, and could never afford anything with that level of income. + +I hate living with them. I don't want to live my entire life taking care of them, but if I leave...what will they do? + +I nurtured this situation. I played a part in creating this problem by being a financial/emotional crutch for so long. How can I possibly abandon them now, where they're even less stable than before? + + +Idk what to do anymore",0 +6429,"I stepped in my moms boyfriends cum. Recently i was in my moms room having a conversation with her. Her boyfriend just left an hour ago and she just got out the shower & put night clothes on. After about five minutes of us talking i feel something wet on my sock. She has wood floors throughout the entire house. I immediately stopped speaking. I asked her what was it i just stepped in? I thought it was piss at first. I took the sock off quickly and asked again with urgency what tf I stepped in? +I hesitantly smelled the sock and it smelled like cum. i know what cum smells like. It has a distinct chlorine, bleach smell. It was also white/clear and my the color of my socks were bright red. I started panic screaming at the top of my lungs. I ran to the shower to disinfect my foot all while screaming. I had my phone in my hand and i called my grandmother while i was in the bathroom screaming and telling her i just stepped in her daughters boyfriends cum. I was disgusted and horrified, trying not to throw up. + +To give clear context, i am a woman in my 20’s living with my mom. I work part-timr, take full-time college classes and fully contribute to the household by paying for food, cleaning, & maintaining a clean house. I have a car (which my mother uses as needed) & other bills which makes it really difficult to move out at this time. We keep our living space very clean however this is still my mothers house & she pays all bills related to the home. + +I stopped speaking to her for two days out of trauma because i was so disgusted. This is not the first time her boyfriend she constantly invites into a space we share has done something nasty. He has incontinence issues so he pees constantly. His aim is horrible and he pees on the toilet seat, floor & bathroom rug when he uses the bathroom. From my mothers account on their recent vacation to Florida, he peed in an empty soda can on the plane while he was seated and gave the urine to the flight attendant for disposal. His hygiene overall is thee most atrocious thing i have ever witnessed. His home is disgusting and my mother refuses to go to his house anymore. + +When i tried to be mature & speak to my mom about this, she called me disrespectful for not speaking to her for 2 days and said its her house so she can have cum anywhere she wants. She insisted on me being disrespectful for calling my grandmother as i stepped in cum. She also insisted that i was wrong for telling her mom and her sister what occurred. She continued to double down on her pride and embarrassment by saying if I dont like it, i can leave. We are both adults. Sex is apart of life & i am in no way prude. I dont expect an apology from her but just a calm conversation & confirmation that things like that wont happen again in our living situation out of basic respect for each other. + +Writing this anonymously because this is one of the crazier things thats happened to me in my life and I am unsure of how to move forward with a resolution that doesnt end up with me living in my car. + +TL;DR +I stepped in my moms boyfriends cum. Im slightly traumatized. My mother thinks im disrespectful for not speaking for 2 days. Advice on how to resolve or resources for me to move out.",0 +6430,"How do I handle my hatred towards my step father?. My parents got divorced in 2015 and my mum and I moved in with my now step father name “Anthony” and the first week was a little hard for me because it was a very big adjustment for 10 year old me. + +The first three years everything was great and him and I got along well. But there would be moments where when he got angry about the smallest things and he would full on break things and get very physical. But he would never hurt my mum and I. + +Fast forward to now, he has change and he isn’t the man he once’s was before. Now when there is an issue and we get in a argument he would rises his voice and call me all types of names. Now when I think about it he has never apologised for ANYTHING and he would ALWAYS say his always right and never wrong. + +The more we talk the more I start to hate him because he has never apologised once for anything he had said about me. + +What should I do to control my anger and hatred towards him?",0 +6431,"Mom doesn't want to have husband over. I've recently travelled about 6 hours with small children to see my mother and father and so my mother and father can see their grandchildren even though we live far away. My mother however now, after only seeing us once, wants to see only me and my children for an entire day. It sort of feels unfair to my husband that has also travelled all this way, despite not wanting to because none of my parents have been particularly nice to him previously but we haven't seen them in about a year. It feels sort of rude to me, am I overreacting? I'm tempted not to go meet her again now, although it seems sort of wasteful to have come all this way (although we have seen other family so it's not all been a waste I suppose).I feel like It's his children too,and he wants to spend some time with his family all together before our vacation ends. He has never done or said anything mean to my mother. It's worth mentioning my mother is mentally ill and struggles a lot with depression and paranoia at times. Does that excuse being so mean to my husband however? I don't think so (she has said really mean stuff to him before, called him a looser, lower class etc)",0 +6432,Baby Pictures On Facebook. My wife and I just had our baby and some parents decided to announce photos and name on their own on Facebook. We didn’t ask them to not post about it but we figured they wouldn’t jump the gun on something like that since we’re still in the hospital. We’re trying to keep his digital footprint to a minimum. I feel like it would start a war if it’s not mentioned to them the correct way. I don’t want to say take it down but has this happened to anyone? ShouldWe just please say don’t post anymore?,0 +6433,"My daughters dad works away, he's missing the entire summer holidays and I'm living in my overdraft trying to keep our child entertained and cool. I'm emotional because I'm stressed so please keep that in mind. +My daughters dad (Going to call him Z 26M) and I (24f) broke up three years ago, we've been friends and coparents since. Two years ago we both got new partners, Z moved in with his after a year and since then hasn't really had to worry about money since. Z's partner works a stable job that pays considerably well, he works as a contractor and gets good money too. +I on the other hand left work a few years ago and couldn't go back. I'm in a place where I'm finally trying to get somewhere with education and a career but in short, I'm broke. My partner works for just over minimum wage so he too is skint. We can't move in together because it's simply not financially viable. + +When Z and I first split, the deal was everything 50/50. We have our daughter for a week each and we are responsible for everything that week. But when he worked away, I'd have our daughter for longer periods of time so he would send 20% of his wage (of his own volition) to cover child support payments. This worked pretty well and I'm not sure when or why it stopped but it did. Since he was only away for 2-4 weeks I've never said anything because I can manage, after I run out of money I'll use my overdraft if I need to. + +Last month he agrees to a month long job, which I'm more than okay with. Boy's gotta make his money. He came back for a week because my partner and I had booked a holiday we were both really looking forward to (the entire 6 days cost about 450 for two adults, it wasn't a glitzy holiday just a chance to get away). + +Z agreed to pick up another 4 weeks (minimum) and I told him it was fine because I felt guilty about keeping him from work for a week. But now I'm kinda realising how not fine it is. It'll be lucky if it's only another month the job runs on for, it's more likely to go on for another 2 months. This means that he will have missed her 7 week school holidays completely, regardless of whether it runs on or not. I was struggling when I only had to pay for her breakfast and evening meals and 1/2 activities/days out on the weekend, now I have to keep her entertained, fed, clothed every day and its getting to a point where I'm going to have to choose between getting her a swimming costume that fits or putting money on my electric meter. + +I don't feel like I can talk to anyone about this, at the end of the day I chose to be a parent and a single one at that. I told Z it was absolutely fine for him to take on this work, I can't take that back and I definitely can't ask for money, I still haven't paid him back for the school photos we went halves on. + +Advice, comfort, anything is welcome. I mostly just needed to tell someone because I really don't feel like I can talk to anyone else about this. My partner thinks it's so unfair and I do feel that inequality but life's unfair right? It's not worth damaging a relationship right? + +EDIT +I spoke to him and of course because he is a good man and an excellent father he apologised, said he'd forgotten and is sending me money. As I said in a comment below, I should have more faith in this guy, he's more than earned it and I see now that my reluctance to speak to him was more out of my trauma than him ever being shitty over something like this.",0 +6434,"Are there any other working adults who live at home rent free?. Just asking after an intense conversation with my mom. I don't live with her, I live with her mom, my grandmother. + +I (25f) work full time and pay virtually nothing. Most of my money goes to savings. I pay my own car related bills, food, personal spending, personal bills. I clean and cook for myself. +Is anyone else in this position? + +My view was that this was a privilege to give me a leg up in life to pay off student loans and save for a house since my grandmother isn't hurting for the money. + +Am I wrong for this lifestyle?",0 +6435,"I am starting to notice that a lot of my family members are kind of pretentious and self centred.. so to start i do love my family that’s not in question. they overall have been great and the older i get things are getting easier and having issues with family is completely normal. however as i get older i have started to notice that not all of the members of my family give a shit about being nice. by no means is anyone perfect and nice all the time but something i’ve noticed is that general kindness just doesn’t seem to interest them. by that i mean simple things like being kind to strangers by holding the door open for them, thanking service workers, or even just giving compliments to people, being a courteous driver on the road, and many many others. but just everyday small acts of kindness. we just celebrated my brothers birthday and went out to dinner. as we were leaving i saw a couple walking towards to door and saw one had a knee brace i decided to stay a few extra seconds and hold the door open as i almost always do anyways, my brother turned to me and said “hey u don’t have to hold the door for them let’s go”. i didn’t listen and stayed the women was very kind and even complimented my hair, her hair was also just adorable but i didn’t get time to tell her sadly but the man also thanked me and they seemed thankful. things like that and other small deeds seem small but they really do mean a world of difference and the fact that most of my family members don’t understand that scares me. the lack of understanding that they have that other people are just that people. being annoyed when ur server isn’t at your table constantly waiting on you when they also have 8 other tables to manage in a busy reassuring just doesn’t sit well with me. making shitty regards to the family with 4 kids sitting next to us and commenting on their parenting skills is unnecessary. doing small acts of kindness or just being polite is the one thing i try and do anytime i’m out and i’ve met some wonderful people and had some great interactions. i dunno it just feels like i’m a completely different person and sometimes hate being associated with them. + +TL:DR +My family doesn’t seem to understand the importance of small acts or gestures of kindness and it’s making me sad.",0 +6436,"My Mother isn't interested in a relationship with my disabled son. Would appreciate advice on what to do or say.. My Son has low functioning autism. He is almost 18 and lives in a care home, he has the mental age of a two year old. + +My mum and I have had big gaps in our relationship. She stopped talking to me after asking social services to put me in Foster care. She didnt try and phone or message me, not once. When my son was about 9 months old I got in touch with her again. She babysit him about 5 times, and saw him on many occasions aside from that. When he was four I was annoyed that her and my brother were supporting my brothers Dad who social services said was a paedophile. I didn't confront this issue with them but I did go quiet. I was surprised my mum didn't try and get in touch with me. I stalked her online, saw that she was working, doing a language course, playing in a band, had a boyfriend and was playing games on her phone. I got angry and upset that she did all this but still hadn't bothered enquiring about her grandson. I hurt for myself too, especially when she hadn't messaged me at Christmas. But the thing that hurt the most was that she didn't care about him. In some ways I felt the pain of her ignoring me after she gave me away all over again, but on behalf of him. + +My sons behaviour was and is very challenging. But she has worked with disabled kids. Been a carer. So if anyone could have loved him regardless, it should have been her. + +Over a decade passed. I got in touch with her again. My son was in a care home. She sometimes asks about him but acts uncomfortable and changes the subject or finds a reason to end the call. She hasn't asked to see him despite me dropping hints as she works right next to his care home. + +She's made a massive effort with me. She's called me a lot, sometimes twice a week but sometimes a few weeks in between calls. I've called her too. The conversations have never got beyond surface level. Whenever I talk about my feelings she give a standard platitude in reply or just says 'oh dear' or 'all right'. My friends rang her up at the end of the decade she didnt try getting in touch and said to her I was suicidal, and she still didnt message me. She rang up a crisis centre because two of my friends did (this was in lockdown). But she rewrote history and told my friends she was respecting my wishes and that I'd blocked her. We didn't even have an argument and I only blocked her after she didn't message me on Christmas. Since we have been back in touch she's been flash with her cash. She tells me she loves me at the end of every call. She's really trying beyond anything I ever thought she could or would. But still she's not interested in her grandson. + +I feel like cutting her off. But other than my son I have no other family except her and don't want to be too hasty. We didn't talk about feelings. We don't. I don't know whether to try talking to her about it. I worry that if I ask her why she hadn't asked to see him, she will then ask, and I will not think she is asking out of genuine care for him, but rather that she's doing it because of the fact I asked. I feel like she will probably say 'you didn't suggest me meeting him so I didn't think you wanted me to'... or whatnot. I feel she will say something that makes herself look good as other people's perceptions of her are important. And I will be taking away the one opportunity she has to make this genuinely right, by her saying she misses him and wants to see him. + +Tl;Dr My mum and I have been in touch for 2 years after a 12 year break. She has not asked to see my son, her grandson in that time. Shall I end our relationship?",0 +6437,How would you react if your same gender sibling and your significant fell in love with each other. How would you react if your same gender sibling and significant other told you that they were in love with each other now,0 +6438,"How do I nicely tell my girlfriend’s sister I don’t want to watch her kids anymore?. I’ve been watching my girlfriend’s sisters 2 kids (8moF, 2.5F) every Monday for the past 4 months for free, cause, family. +Her budget is tight, and she already has a limited amount of people that offer to watch the kids, but she also pays them. + +I’m starting to run out of patience, and it’s not fair to me or my nieces for me to not have energy for them. I don’t feel like I get enough time to myself to be able to do what I want, and lately I’ve been getting irritated easier. + +I really want to tell her I can’t watch them anymore, but I know she’ll take it personally, and most likely take it out on her sister (my girlfriend) in some form if I stop watching them. + +Any advice on how I could go about nicely letting her know I can’t do this? I tend to be very straight forward and come off as demanding when expressing my needs which is why I’m reaching out.",0 +6439,"I think my sister is lying about being terminally Ill and I don’t know what to do.. Hello I (24F) have a sister I’ll call her Nicole (not her real name) (f36) who told our family about three and half years ago that she is sick, it first started with breast cancer this run in our family and sadly would make sense for her to have she told us that she will be starting chemo soon three weeks go by and my parents offer to take her to a schedule doctors appointment since she does not drive ( side note: she was diagnosed with ADD when she was young and was basically told she isn’t smart enough to do anything I.E driving, getting a job, living alone, finish school ect she bought into this and decided never to try any of these things) Nicole was very stand off ish about them taking her but accept but then once they arrived she refused to allow our mother to go in with her which at first I didn’t think that was too odd our mom isn’t the great In these type of situations and often causes more stress and then help. They came back and she basically just said they are running more test and she will be schedule for a mastectomy. Now from that day till about 9 months later she just kept pushing back this surgery date stating reasons like I won’t have anyone to take care of my kids, her husband doesn’t help with them at all but you would think he would step up so she can have this surgery but she says it’s fine and that her doctor said she can wait till the summer time so her kids do not have school. We don’t hear anything about this and she doesn’t mention anything other then bringing up how bad she feels, fall of 2019 comes and she calls me crying saying the cancer has spread from her breast into her throat and brain. At this point multiple people in our family do not fully believe her but I just couldn’t believe she would lie about that. We quickly fall back into the same thing she’s missing appointment when anyone offers to go with her she won’t answer the day of and then once she finally does says something along the lines of husband couldn’t take off work to be with the kids or that she was already at the hospital because the night before she fainted. When any of us ask about treatment plans she just tells us she’s taking chemo pills which we have seen her take pills when we go to visit. Now Covid hits and basically that becomes the reason for her not starting chemo or going through with surgery well so I thought until earlier this year where she told me she actually has stayed at Mayo Clinic for a biopsy but I guess decided to not tell us she blamed it on memory loss due to the tumor in her brain I shrugged this off as I just still couldn’t let my self to even think she not telling the truth. The results of that biopsy comes back and she tells our family the doctors told her it’s now stage 4 and the cancer has spread through out her entire body and that she may only have months left. This is in when everyone with doubts decided to let them go because none of us wanted to believe she would go that far. It’s been 5 months since then and she kept saying she will be schedule to go and start chemo treatments and need to get the cancer port she told me last week this will be happening this week so yesterday I called her asking where she was and no answer till this morning and all she said was she will be going home tomorrow so I called her no answer so I decided to call both the hospitals that she claims to be receiving treatments and both stated they have no one with her name there right now so I text her that and she just say she will call me in a moment and I say okay we’ll can I get your hospital room number so I can speak to you and she said yes I’ll ask my nurse and then never reply’s back I have called her phone so many times today and no answer I also tried her husband no response my nephew have a phone and they picked up and said they are at a water park with their dad and that she is at home. +I don’t know where to go from here with this if anyone has any advice I’m all ears thanks",0 +6440,"Help settle a fight! Do you want the same amount of kids as the family you grew up in?. Hey reddit! My boyfriend and I got into a heated discussion. I said that people generally, if they want kids, want about the same size family as what they grew up with e.g. if they grew up in a big family with a lot of siblings, they also want a lot of kids. He disagrees. + +The reason why I hold my view is that many people around me have given that answer (I want 2 kids because I liked having a sibling etc) and also many people on social media, when asked that question, also give that response. + +What do you think?",0 +6441,I believe oral history from our elders is important.. I just contacted one of my elder family members about our oral history. I’m excited for the reply.,0 +6442,"Am I (23M) in the wrong for telling my mother (43M) that she can be mad at me if I did something wrong?. My mother abandoned me when I was 3 months old and moved to another country, she was somewhat present by calling every so often when I was a kid, I spoke to her and I knew she was my mother but the relationship was more of a distant aunt-nephew, not mother-son. + +Anyway, she started helping me financially when I was 17, when I started my degree in medicine, I wouldn't be able to afford the rent + food +transportation if it wasn't for her, I'm grateful because of that. + +Last year I failed my first class ever, it really affected me, not because it was the first but because it was the last before my clinical rotations + I had already bought the uniform with some money my mother gave me. + +I told my family and some of them, from both sides were really harsh, especially my father, except for my mother, she told me she doesn't have the right to be mad at me, for anything, And I told her that I wouldn't feel bad, if she was mad. Obviously I'm not asking for her to stop helping me in anyway but I wouldn't feel bad if she told me to study more, be more mindful of the money spent on me or whatever. I don't want her to be just my piggy bank. + +I told my family and both sides are really angry at me for what I said to her. She's not perfect, and I've forgiven her, but I don't know if what I did was the right thing to do or maybe I was wrong?",0 +6443,"Mom somatizing *my* feelings. My mom complains I'm too apathetic and quiet, but whenever she notices there's something wrong going on in my life it affects her mood as well and I'll see her walk around the house teary-eyed or hear her throw up at night sometimes. + +It's not her fault for empathising too much but it doesn't really make me want to open up to her if it's going to affect her this way. + +I feel like I can't process my feelings around her or she'll blow them up out of proportion and I'd just rather bottle them up instead.",0 +6444,"Marriage. Marriage is Scary, +Marrying the Wrong Person is Terrifying. + + +Sadly, I am surrounded by couples having toxic marriages. Three women close to me were married to gambling addicts, 2 of those experiencing abuse, whether verbal or physical, and neither of them doesn't wants to separate from those marriages. The other 1 is just brave enough not to be under her husband. + + +The other woman who's very close to me doesn't have a gambling addict husband or an abusive husband, but her children have a hypocrite, one-sided piece of shit father that causes their children to have a mental breakdown, depression, and suicidal thoughts. In short, mentally unstable, especially the elder who silently cries every night hoping to not wake up from her sleep. + + +It sucks that it made me just want to be single my entire life, being single is the best and always the best option. Though I want to have a child so I think I need to start earning and saving for IVF.",0 +6445,Why do people assume that I must love my mother. My mother hasn't respected me for most of my life so it's pretty hard to love her. Why do people always assume that I must love my mother? Hasn't it ever occurred to them that not all mother's are alike?,0 +6446,How to deal with your dad choosing a new wife over me and my brother?. When I was 17 my dad kicked me and my twin brother out of his house (for going to visit my mother) whenever my mother moved back to her hometown and left us with him. (I still have a decent relationship with her as she has continued to take care of me somewhat from a distance.) Since then he hasn't been close to me or my brother(21 now) and I'm really struggling without having someone like that in my life. The most painful part is that he has been doing good and he seems so happy without really us in his life. I'm normally a pretty happy guy but now every time I think about my dad I think of all the good times and how he did that to us. I break down into tears and I'm past the point of anger and I just want my dad back in my life. Every time I seem to reach back out it seems like I'm just met with more distance from him and he promises me we can see each other sometimes but we just never do.,0 +6447,Should I tell my mom that my Dad got remarried?. So here’s the problem… once upon a time my mom married my birth father and he gave me and my siblings years and years of trauma and pain especially my mom. Luckily for him he was horribly emotionally abusive so all of our scars were hidden…They weren’t close but it was all she had hopes and dreams of him changing. She is a hopeless romantic. they were married for a couple decades and he would leave to different states for jobs even though he didn’t have to. The got divorced a few years ago so it’s still hard for her. My mom thinks it’s scary and embarrassing to date and also doesn’t think that there is anyone out there for her which is a big ass lie. She is beautiful and wonderful and deserves soooo much better. She is processing and trying to heal. A couple years ago I looked I my insurance card online and I noticed a womens name that I didn’t recognize and I’m the only one on his insurance because My sibling’s are too old so i have been the only one that knows which sucks!!! I think it will help her move on but idk if it will break her heart. I have not contact with my dad… idk just wondering what you guys think. I think she still has a little bit of a fantasy that it could someday work with him which breaks my heart. I don’t believe that it would be a child because we were his only children that I know of.,0 +6448,"My family keeps treating me like a child. How do i stop this?. Today i went to my uncle’s birthday party. But everyone kept treating me like a child. I get that i’m decades younger than most adults there, but i’m almost 18, i’m not gonna play with my cousins (aged 8/11). + +How do i make it clear to them that i’m not 8 anymore without being rude?",0 +6449,"Who should raise our baby if we die?. My husband (41m) and I (35f) recently had a baby. We randomly got into a discussion of who should raise our baby if the worst were to happen and can’t agree. + +The contenders: + +His parents? +Pros - love the baby ridiculously, financially very stable, lovely people +Cons - their age (they’ll hit their 90’s before the baby turns 13) + +My mum: +Pros - loves the baby, fairly financially stable, younger (currently 62) +Cons - a bit racist (can’t lie) + +His brother: +Pros - younger (obviously), works in education +Cons - wanderlust (can’t seem to settle down), lives across country, don’t want to upend his life + +My friends: +Pros: lovely people, stable marriage, already raising a beautiful baby around a year older +Cons: lives across country, massive thing to ask non family members. + +These are the people we would trust to see our baby safe and healthy through to adulthood. + +So what do you think?",0 +6450,"My dad doesn’t like it when my mom wants to go shopping with him, but he hates it when she goes shopping by herself and gets angry.. I just don’t understand his mind. She’s doing exactly what you want her to do and he gets angry when she does, but when she doesn’t, he complains how she can’t do anything like shopping without him. What is wrong with him? I just don’t understand.",0 +6451,"Activities to do with my sick mom. Hey guys. I want to ask for ideas to do with my mom. She is home alone most of the time while me and my siblings are at work and school. When we get home we’re tired and just wanna chill in our rooms. My mom basically spends everyday between four walls. I want to ask ideas on which activities I can do with her. She has trouble walking for too long, so maybe not something with that. Thank you + +Edit: thank you so much for all the ideas 🥺 I’m literally getting emotion because I love my mom so much and I want her to feel appreciated. Remember to appreciate your parents as well!",0 +6452,"My older brother is really weird and makes me uncomfortable. TLDR. My brother keep bullying my sister everyday infront of everyone, her friends, teachers and our relatives. He would shut down my sisters computer when she's studying and with friends, showing up on the camera half naked and embarrassing her everytime. He sometimes keep adding her name to random things he say to himself everyday and it creeps me out thinking he like my sister ( she's only 9 years old). +And also harming her reputation by saying false accusations to her friends. The thing that made me disgusted of him was that during a family reunite with our relatives, he said to my sister, ""What? Do you want me to bully you?"" INFRONT OF EVERYONE AND IT WAS NOT EVEN A WHISPER, I AM SURE THAT EVERYONE HEARD It. What is wrong with him? TL;DR",0 +6453,"My mom has been hospitalized for 31 days, fighting for her life. How do you reconcile holding out hope, w/planning for the worst?. Hi. + +In short, I took my mom (69) into the ER on 12/15 after getting an urgent call from her just as I was beginning my work day. Within two hours, the both of us took a cab to the nearest ER to take a look at the acute abdominal pain she'd been having. Two days later, she'd been diagnosed with mesenteric eschemia; a blood clot had severely done damage to her small intestine, damage that may have already been occurring sometime before the ER visit. + +Her health has been on a rollercoaster of recovery, setbacks, and surgeries, and as her son and de-facto caregiver (35), I've felt every one of those hits. The length of it all, a month, has felt like a year so far. Thankfully I've had a solid support system w/family, and an understanding staff at my job to get me through day-by-day. + +My older brother and I have begun the due diligence of taking care of her finances, estate and final wishes throughout this period; we both took time off of our jobs to hold ourselves together and be a near-daily presence at the ICU, but also planned for every scenario in a thorough, drama-free manner. + +As I fill out this kind of paperwork...it's that feeling. I continue holding out hope for her until the absolute last moment, but also taking care of this kind of paperwork/organization and feeling horrible. + +I'd had these frank discussions with my mom about the day she's no longer here, up until this past year. She wanted me to be informed and prepared on every matter regarding her estate, pension, cremation, etc. Even provided me the paperwork which I'd continuously store in my lock box unread, because I honestly didn't want to think or talk about that day, at all. + +But that's the way she's always been; a Sara Connor-esque preparation for the worst...blackouts, snowstorms, pandemics, her own passing. Because she loved her sons, and felt her mission, as an immigrant raising herself, and then two children out of poverty and into stability, had been accomplished. + +I'm getting ready as she'd suggested, but also hanging on an emotional hook for her to make it. If anyone's had a parent or a loved one hanging on, how did you deal? It's overwhelming, and it was difficult typing this so thank you for bearing with me.",0 +6454,"My sister doesn’t want to share a 40.000 heritage with my parents whom are quite poor. +Hi everybody, + +I feel like my sister is being very selfish. I got into a huge fight about it. And i’m not sure what to do and maybe if im being too emotional about it. + +So first some explanation about the heritage: + +At the country where I (F21) live (Netherlands) you have to pay a lot of taxes when the heritage is more than 20.000. So my grandpa divided 500,000 from him and my grandmother over his 13 grandchildren instead of their own 5 kids to prevent money going to the taxes. This means that every grandchild will get € 40.000 taxfree (20.000 from my grandpa and 20.000 from my grandma). + +I was quite shocked when i heard i would get that much money. My dad probably isnt getting any heritage though. Very nice of my grandpa to arrange before he died, but It kind of feels like I don't deserve the money at all. Especially because my parents are quite short on cash, they have huge debts as well (it’s also because of stuff they can’t do much about). My parents were close with my grandpa, so it’s not like he didnt want them to get the money for personal reasons. It was just him rationally thinking about what would be the best outcome financially. + +I really wanted to give a part back to my parents and asked my sister if we could do it together because they really need it. But my sister says she doesnt want to give any money to my parents. I feel like it’s totally common sense to share some of the heritage espacially since we both got € 40.000 per person and my parents didnt get any and need it more. Am i wrong for being mad about her not wanting to share? + +TL DR: My grandpa gave all the heritage to us grandchildren instead of his own kids because of taxes and my sister doesn’t want to give any of it to my parents who really need it.",0 +6455,"I'm 20 and my dad is leaving my mum. I've never posted on reddit before but i have no idea what to do or what to make of this. +My mum F42 is physically disabled, she was in a car accident 25ish years ago that left her unable to walk properly. She now suffers chronic pain, osteoarthritis, and multiple mental health problems. In the last two years, she has been unable to leave her room most of the time due to anxiety, let alone leave the house. She hasn't been able to work since 2015, so my dad M48 has been the sole provider for the house. They have been together for 23 years. +We found out today that he has decided in the last TWO WEEKS that he wants to leave my mother and his two children. My 12 year old sister found the messages he had sent to my aunt last week about leaving my mum and resorted to self harm because she felt like she couldn't talk to anyone. +He made this decision by himself and didnt explain to my mum why. he just said he was leaving and went to work as if everything was fine and left us to deal with the aftermath. I don't know how to get rid of the hatred i feel towards him. All i know is i need to protect my mum as she is estranged from all of her family and is unable to be financially independent and he has drained the bank accounts. I understand he has been under stress due to her condition but all i feel is complete anger. i feel less equipped to deal with this as an adult as i would if i were a child. +if any adult children of divorce have any advice for me please let me know. + +EDIT: There have been some positive developments. My dad has seemingly come to the conclusion that what he did was selfish, immature and he was running away from small problems that he didn't want to deal with. I should have noted, he does deal with bipolar, which doesn't excuse what he has done but does give somewhat of an explanation. I'm hoping this blows over and they can find a way to reconcile, if not for their sake but for their children. They still love eachother, my dad has just always had a major issue with confrontation. He just needs to prove from now that he will never, EVER do this to my mother again.",0 +6456,"My father has bad-ass scars but the reason is pretty depressing. So, just for context. I(18M) have lived a pretty wonderful life with my Father(35). Him and my mother had me when he was 17 and she was 18, but regardless of their age, they worked hard to give me a good life. Sadly, when i was 3 years old my mom committed suicide shortly after my grandmother died from an aneurysm. Leaving behind only a handful of notes for Me, My Father and her younger sister who is my now 22yro aunt. + +All the notes have her apologies to not being here with us and how she is proud and will always love us no matter what. It still brings me tears whenever i read them. + +Now for what the reasoning behind the title. Me and my father like to play wrestling in our backyard, its nothing serious, just playful stuff. And recently i noticed how he has a lot of scars on his chest. I've noticed them before but this time there were definitely more scars to the count. Some vertically cut, some horizontal, some big ones and small ones. I always thought they looked super cool but lately I've been wondering why there were so many + +I looked at him and asked: +""Hey dad, what's up with all of those scars ?"" +His face went from a goofy dad smiling, to a cold blank expression, he looked at me and just replied with: +""Guilt."" + +I was confused at first but after it sunk in, i broke down crying and hugged him super tight. My dad was never one to show negative emotions, when he's angry he just watches his favorite show at his bedroom, when he's sad, he just sits in bed looking blankly at the floor for a few minutes before regaining his senses. + +I never once saw him cry or shout at me. He's always been a positive man who always tries to cheer me up regardless of how bad things might look. But knowing that he physically hurts himself as punishment for something he feels guilty of, just breaks my heart. + +My mother's death was out of our control, and i always say that there wasn't much we could've done, as it was her decision. My father, however, thinks he is guilty of not being a better man when my mother needed him the most, and this is something that stuck with him since that tragic day. + +He reaffirmed me that it had been nearly a full year since he had given himself another scar, and he has been learning to stop doing that to himself all in hopes of getting better and finally learning to move on. I gave him another hug and walked back inside our house with him. We ordered some food and the day just ended like many others did, however this has been stuck in my mind. +How such a positive and bright man like my father, can have so much going on inside his mind and not let anyone notice it, is incredible and sad all at the same time. I asked him about getting family therapy for both of us and he said he'd think about it, but for now, he just wants things to be as they always were + +TL;DR: +My father has cool looking scars all over his chest and the reasoning behind them is his own trauma of my mother's suicide 15yrs ago",0 +6457,"Those with large sibling gaps (20+ years) - what has been your experience?. I (24F) just found out my dad and his much younger girlfriend are expecting their first baby together. I’m happy for them and so excited but of course it’s a lot to wrap my head around. I also have a full biological brother 3 years younger than me. Those who grew up with large sibling age differences, what was your experience (either older or younger)? What were the good and bad aspects of it? What were the ‘weird’ parts?",0 +6458,"Ordering a Child Back. Hello , +I’m a 16 year old male and this august my parents gave me permission to go and live with my grandfather seeming my mother isn’t..well so healthy mentally which caused an awful living situation for aslong as I can think of it and my grandfather place is probably the safest I can go to. As of late my mother has been threatening to order me back , I know usually whatever the parent says especially the mother , it’ll happen. Is there any leverage I can get just in case she does order me back to be able to stay at my grandfathers? Worried about going back to the hell hole of the house with her and would much prefer to stay with my grandfather. I’m also not emancipated. And my mother and I are in different states. I’m honestly very clueless to the procedures of it so I apologize. I tried doing some research and it’s 50/50 between I’ll be sent back no matter what or if there’s a valid reason for me not to go back then I can stay or it’ll have to go through court. + +(TL:DR) +16 YO child worrying about mother ordering him back into an awful +Home after being gave permission to live with grandfather in a safer situation.",0 +6459,"Spouse wants to go no contact with my family. + +I'm posting from a throwaway account because I want to stay anonymous. + +I've been reading through some subs on reddit and taking in a lot of the perspectives from people here with toxic in-laws who have gone no contact. I am on the other side of this equation - the spouse with an enmeshed, oftentimes toxic family with no boundaries. In the past, my spouse has felt disrespected and rejected by my family, especially my parents. He's experienced rude and abusive behavior at larger family events -- both towards himself and others in the family. + +My family will never understand that he doesn't want to go to these events. I've been increasingly going on my own because we fight and there's a rift between us every single time we do an event with my family, even if it's just a quick lunch or dinner. But he sat me down recently and says that he doesn't want to have a relationship with my family at all -- that he's not going to stop me from seeing them or building up those relationships, but that for his own mental health and for our relationship, I can't ask him to spend any time with my family anymore. + +I grew up in a family that was very big on just dealing with it when people were rude or challenged your boundaries because ""that's how family is."" It's been stressful for me as an adult to try and form my own boundaries. I have clarity when I'm away from it but when I'm with my giant extended family, there are literally 100 people telling me that I'm not doing enough for the family, not showing up enough, that my parents are getting older and I should just suck it up and spend time with them, etc. + +I understand my spouse's POV and I know that he's being dead serious when he says that this kind of issue could be a relationship killer for him. I want to respect him and do the work to repair the damage that has been done from these ongoing issues, but I don't know where to start or what to say to my family? + +Any feedback from those on either side (ones who have gone no contact with their in-laws or those whose spouses are no contact with their families) would be helpful.",0 +6460,"I dont wanna lie to my mother but I need to avoid conflicts, help !!. Hello, + +So I (28F) have a best friend (28F) who I know from the university and she has been there for me when I needed her , she is funny and nice . But my mother never liked her as a friend of mine , we have been friends for 10 years . Many times I had conflicts with my mother because she was angry that I am friend with her and was telling me that she is a bad influence for me. This friend doesn't have any bad habits, doesn't smoke, doesn't do drugs. She has always been a little bit promiscuous but that's all. Also after we graduated my friend made some porn movies but other than that she is the same person I always knew, humble and funny. So at that time I started telling my mother that I stopped talking to this friend in order to avoid conflicts . Many times me and my friend we travel together and I say to my mother that I go with other people when she asks me . Sometimes she doesn't believe me and I feel bad for lying to her . But I cannot deal with her anger or conflicts anymore so this is my only solution. I know it is not moral to lie but I dont know what can I do . Any ideas ? + +I wait your replies, thank you.",0 +6461,"My father has been bald for 30 years without me og my brother knowing. I am a 27 year old male, and my father is 57. We have a very close relationship and I have always known that I can come to him if I have something on my mind. + +A couple of days ago I started talking about my receeding hairline, which is not bad and it’s not really bugging me. But I asked him how good his hairline is. He always has his hair down so you can’t see his hairline. He then pulled up his hair and told me his hair is glued on (like a hairpiece). I was in shock and said: «since when?», to which he responded: «for the last 30 years». I just started laughing, not because it’s ugly but because he’s been looking like this my whole life and I never knew. + +After he told me I can’t get it out of my head. This might seem like a superficial and esthetical thing to get hung up on, but my father has always taught me to be confident and not care about what other people think of me. It just dawned on me that he has had this huuge insecurity mye whole life, without me knowing. + +I did’t really know why I’m writing here, but I would love to hear if someone has an opinion about this situation.",0 +6462,"My friend did nothing wrong and my mom was clearly overreacting on this. I'm black and a friend of mine, who is white, gave me some of her old things because she was moving into her new place. But when my mom saw that she gave me some paper towel, she became really angry and accused my bestie of acting like she was better because of her skin color. I too, was really mad at my mom for playing the race card and again calling my white friend a racist. She threw the paper towel away, but I went behind her and took it back out, just to show her I'm not gonna put up with this anymore. Then when she found out I took it out the trashcan, she really got furious and accused me of being disrespectful and going against her wishes. Although, I didn't really care ’cause 1. I wasn't being disrespectful. 2. My friend gave me that paper towel. And 3. My mom was overreacting! + +I told my nextdoor neighbor about the whole situation and she understood what I had to deal with, but she told me I should talk to my mother about this and how much it's bothering me. But, I can't because she'll be mad at me again and make me look like the bad guy. I can't talk to my other relatives about this because they'll just take my mom's side and say she's right then that it's all my fault. + +I want someone to see where I'm coming from with all this and also pick my side to understand that I'm right and that my mom is in the wrong.",0 +6463,"Am i wrong for being angry at my parents?. So my parents and my siblings have been living in apartments and trailers my whole life i am the oldest of 5 now, i love my siblings this isn’t them but about my parents they don’t make a lot of money , since they migrated to this country in their teens and thing is i understand ItS a struggle but the fact that they just had another baby after 13 years of my other youngest siblings my parents rely on food stamps, government help and i am tired, we have been living in trailers and our trailer rn is falling apart, roaches , constantly dirty bc my brothers r young and they don’t pick up after themselves or the dog , we live in 3 room trailer the floor is collapsing bc of the wood it’s a shit show and i try explaining to my mom that hey you shouldn’t be having more kids when you can’t even provide for the ones you have now. It’s unfair to bring a kid into a broken trailer with roaches and no room for even a crib for them here. Constantly sharing basically one functioning bathroom with 7 people and they tell me I’m wrong and money isn’t everything but kids are expensive and they can’t even discipline my siblings to clean after themselves at least . I feel embarrassed to even live here I’m grateful for what they have provided but they shouldn’t have had so many kids when they aren’t financially stable at all.",0 +6464,"I (29F) really need your advice in figuring out how to deal with my sister (44F) and her husband (42M). I need to take in your anonymous thoughts or advice to figure out how to deal with my sister Lori and her man Brandon. + +It is a very complex story to write down but I'll try to keep it as comprehensible and clean as I can. I will also keep it vague, as I do not want to be identified. + +# TL;DR + +Lori and Brandon broke contact with the rest of my family except for me and a mutual sibling. They pushed me into taking their side and do the same. When I told them I wouldn't break contact with the rest of the family, they harassed me for a whole year, weekly. + +They had a cancer sick child which became fatal, making us re-establish contact. After her passing, we still interact and communicate, but it is really tough and painful at times. + +I have since met a partner. He is understanding but fed up with how they have treated me and what Lori (but mostly Brandon are capable of. + +I worry for Lori and her children because Brandon is intense and seems controlling/abusive. I want to be there for her and the children. At the same time, I am torn from the stress & harassment of the past. + +# ___ + +# History of harassment against me + +Brandon and Lori had a child together who I had a special bond with. The child sadly got cancer. + +At the same time they had a long-lasting fight with our parent and parent’s partner. The conflict spawned from racism and political views. Brandon and his children are darker colored than white. Ultimately my parent went no-contact with them and the only contact they had was with me and another sibling. + +They tried pushing me into doing the same; taking their side. But it was their decision and fight. I did not want to end my relationships within my family. When I refused and stood up for myself they harassed me for a whole year. Every other day or so, I would get a text asking why I was spineless and weak coward, why I was an egoist and a betrayer. That their child was asking why I wasn't there, etc. It was very painful and stressful. It was so bad I had to get help from the psychiatric intensive care. This was a couple of years ago. + +After a long hiatus of three years or so onward, news reached me that the cancer reappeared in my niece and that it would be bad. Palliative care. My niece had also gotten a sibling during the time. We re-established contact and I spent a lot of time with them again. Felt important to be there for my niece. And for Lori. Until the very end until my niece... + +It was terrible and heart-aching for all of us. I have since kept in touch with them. + +They now have two lovely children. They are both very energetic and curious. One is diagnosed with ASD and ADHD, the other might have speech delay but is not investigated or really suspected for ASD. They are both very mobile and everywhere. They need a lot of attention and care. + +I myself found a fiance, moved away and we have a child together. I take them with me when I visit Lori and Brandon. + +\_\_\_ + +The story could end there, but things are sadly much more complex, and this is what I really need your thoughts on. + +It is exhausting and unbearable to be to close with them these days. Brandon makes it very difficult for Lori, their kids, us or whoever is near him because he is infinitely arrogant, manipulative, mentally abusive and intrudes into social situations (e.g. sibling conversations) where he makes himself the protagonist or completely changes the narrative of the conversation. He has always been this way. It is nothing new. + +# Lori + +1. Lori is noticeably burnt out. She never gets the peace and quiet she so very much deserve. She never gets to recover from the kids or Brandon. +2. Lori has voiced that since the passing of their first child, life hasn't really felt worth living (which I can grasp) and that she lives for the kids. She has mentioned suicide when she has been to her very limit. +3. Speaking of which, she is at her limit very often. Every quarter of the year or so. This usually leads to a huge fight with Brandon and she ventilates to me or our sibling. It's hard to hear and listen when I cannot really offer help, because she wouldn't take it and feel its insulting. +4. She has mentioned wanting to leave Brandon at the climax of those fights, but has always bounced back to ""normal"" (which REALLY is chaotic to say the least). +5. Even though Lori has harassed me in the past, me being there for her in that situation means a lot to her I feel. I feel the harassment was more Brandons doing, by manipulation and gaslighting. + +# Brandon + +1. Brandon is 110% intense. And he loves to talk. To keep himself updated about you, your current thoughts and opinions. So that he knows where he can place you in his hierarchy model. But first and foremost, he talk about what he thinks and ponders on. He takes you on this analytic journey where he asks you questions but then doesn't care what you answer or have to say. He just wants to have your constant attention. +2. He can say awkward and uncomfortable things, +3. He has got a black-and-white perspective on things and has a hard time navigating gray areas. E.g.: Doesn’t understand how people can be dwell and be anxious over things when they should be able to not be phased by it from the beginning. +4. While being hyper-social, he doesn’t pick up on social cues regarding when he should stop talking, be gentle, etc. Doesn't really read the room. Thus, he comes of as being very arrogant. He even says out loud that he takes pride in being arrogant. He is unbearable and everyone I know who interacts with him get exhausted and should step aside to save their sanity. +5. He is currently being investigated for autism because his child got diagnosed. Me and my partner already suspected he’s a bit out on Asperger scale & ADD-scale. +6. He has said out loud many times that he doesn’t want to earn a living for the family because he wants to be with the family at all times. Says it’s because nothing else matters after his child died. + +​ + +​ + +None of them are have income from jobs. They don't work. Lori is on long term sick leave. Brandon is pushed by government programs to become working again. He is not motivated to go back working, so he keeps coming up with ways to ”pause” this push. They have been on social security for years. They borrow $ from time to time to make ends meet. + +Their social network is small. It consists of me, my sibling and around three other persons they communicate with. It's kinda obvious and sometimes evident they analyze snippets of information they get from our everyday life. They often make false deductions about us which is annoying. + +At least one of their children has special needs, but they are both very energetic and loud. It can get quite chaotic in their house from them alone. They scream, cry, laugh, and shout. They crave constant attention from Lori, less so from Brandon. This can spawn conflicts between anyone of them and raise the average dB to unhealthy levels. It is super exhausting for me and my family when visiting. + +It is not ALL bad when interacting with them. I get to have a sister-relationship with Lori and I like being with her and her kids. I like bringing little gifts to them as they don't have a lot of money or get gifts from the rest of the family. And I have great talks with Brandon as well at time to time. + +As aforementioned, BIG fights will happen between Brandon and Lori every four months or so. Often because of how Lori is sick of Brandons shit. At least one time I know of, Brandon has broken Loris things. While Brandon has never physically hurt Lori, he has put himself between Lori and the room's exit making it impossible for Lori move around him or leave. Lori will went to me or our sibling. I can only listen and be there for Lori, but often wish I could do more. It feels somewhat terrible to write out but... sometimes I wish for Brandon to be struck by lightning or die from a random natural cause I think it would be alleviating for Lori. + +Apart from that Brandon is subjecting Lori to psychological violence. It doesn't come as a surprise to me because I know what least harassment Brandon is capable of. My partner thinks Lori is afraid of ending things with Brandon because she alone knows exactly what Brandon is capable of. And because she would have to have the spare energy to take care of the kids extra. + +About two weeks ago they brought up some minor family related stuff in our group chat consisting of me, my sibling and Lori. That was enough to stress me out and spike my adrenaline. I couldn't think or relax for half an hour. My partner had to still my guts and take me outside for a walk with our little one. He told me it looked a text-book panic attack. + +# Partner (+ our child) + +My partner understands what the situation is but wasn’t in my life when Lori and Brandon went no contact or the stressful year of harassment. + +My partner got fed up with Brandon when he saw the texts (I saved every message from the time when they harassed me. + +He has suggested I could break contact with them (but keep a door open for Lori + kids) to spare myself, him and our daughter from future potential harassment and exhaustion. But ultimately says the choice is mine to take. + +Partner doesn’t really like for our child to be present in their chaotic environment, where sudden out-lashes may happen, now that he knows what they’ve done to me in the past. + +Partner does not want our child to be exposed to their harassment or their conflict with our family. + +\_\_\_ + +# How I feel and think + +Now, all of this makes it feels like I am being pulled by the bad times in the past on one end. In the other end I feel pulled by the need to be there for my sister and her children. And keeping status quo. Status quo = I/we meet them, but it's on their terms as to not upset them so we keep a low profile. Both me and my partner do not to our full selves at their house and I know we both are selective about what I tell them because we're afraid that what we say will be used against us (mainly by Brandon). + +I realize there will come a day where either + +• my partner will become too fed up with Brandon while we are visiting and things will get dramatic or, + +• My child will see/hear things that aren't appropriate or harassing. + +I feel like I manage this somehow. But it's hard because I get scared because I know what kind of oppression follows and bonds that might break. I am afraid to not be able to interact with my sister. + +I welcome your views on how you would act and think in such a situation.",0 +6465,Worst way to betray a child?. We often read about children who have betrayed their parents in acts of selfishness or even in times of Civil War. But what would be the worst way for a parent to betray their own child?,0 +6466,"I am very angry with my parents how will I overcome this?. 8-9 months ago i started having therapy, and we have started with focusing my family and i have started to see my parents mistakes, exploitation and especially lack of their emotional, economical support in my life. I thought i was settled but for a month i have a huge anger inside of me towards my parents, it gets bigger everyday and i don’t know how to handle it, i know that forgiving them will be better for me, anger is poisonous, but i can’t and my behavior towards them gets worse everyday, i can’t stand my dad right now. I don’t know what to do, what can you suggest me to do?",0 +6467,"Need advice. I am a mom of 2 kids. I have a 2 year old and a 1 year old. My partner recently got let go of his job. He parted from company as amicably as possible with a separation agreement. I haven’t been working since I had my first child. I am the primary caretaker for the kids. Since my partner found out about the job situation, I started applying for jobs myself. I am going to receive an offer from a great company with a great salary/benefits. I am hesitant and anxious at the thought of taking on a job that would shift our family roles so significantly. But I also feel like I don’t have much a choice. Does anyone have experience like this or advice?",0 +6468,"Should I (F21) visit my 69yo grandmother when I just found out about a crazy family secret?. I've always had a weird relationship with my paternal grandmother. She has been living in the same village since I was a kid, and during my childhood, we visited her every summer because it was far from where we lived, about an 8 hours car trip. She was with a guy (I will call him Jean) not my dad's father, since about 15 years. They had a son together who may be about 34 years old now. We would spent a month there. She disliked my mom and made sure everyone knew it. + +I could feel she didn't like me neither, even from a young age. She was cold, rarely smiling, barely giving us a kiss even after not seeing each other for a whole year. I say ""us"", because there was my sister, who is 11 months younger than me. I don't know why, but she always preferred her. I'm not mad, I don't mind since I don't like her very much neither. + +One day, she married Jean. I was about 12. I remember feeling odd during the ceremony, the mayor said her full name and I realized that was the first time I heard it. I never knew her last name before this. I also realized there was no one from her family. This day, I realized that I've never heard a thing about her parents, possible siblings.. But at the time, I was already doubtful about her because when we were around 10 years old, not long after our parents weren't together anymore, our older brother, who is not from the same father than us, confessed that our grandmother had abandoned 3 children before having my dad and being with Jean. He told my sister and I that it was a huge secret, that we must not tell anyone, and that we'll learn more details when we're older. + +We grew up, and our mother told us more things : When he was a kid, my dad found 3 chain bracelets with unfamiliar names. When he asked his mother, she confessed to him that she had been with a man who abused her, and one day she left, without her 3 kids. + +I never knew more, and we continued to see her each summer, mostly because our dad moved in the same village as her with my step-mom and their 2 kids, because Jean found a good job opportunity for him. So we visited her a day or two while we were there. We just pretended we didn't know anything. The mood wasn't excellent. Once we've exchanged a few words about our current lives, we had nothing else to say and we would barely talk. She was more talkative with my sister, I wouldn't speak to her because she'd always talk down to me. + +About 2 years ago, our father told us that he and my step-mom went into a argument with grandma and Jean about preference in kids. Grandma and Jean were spending a lot more time with their other grand daughter, the one from the only son they had together. +They tried to rekindle the relationship but finally, they stopped talking and seeing each other. + +Last year, the story took a whole new turn. Because I need to specify that, for the whole time, my sister and I acted like we didn't know anything in front of our dad. We never spoke about it. But one night, he was a bit tipsy and began telling us everything. He told us he figured out the identity of his abandoned siblings, found their facebook, but was too afraid to send them a message. +He seemed sad and I saw how much it affected him. + +Right now, I'm 21, currently visiting my dad, and, when I thought I knew everything, I couldn't say a word when he told us about his last findings. + +Basically, he's been in contact with one of his half-sisters, and he learned even more! + +The man with whom she had the kids she abandoned was actually her husband, and she did not ran from him because he was abusing her but actually because he found out that their first daughter wasn't his, and that she cheated. This man was a criminal, carrying guns (when it's illegal in my country), apparently a convicted robber. So she must had been scared of being killed and actually left their children to her own mother. My father's half-sister told him they had an awful childhood. They were mistreated, beaten, malnourished and insulted by her mother (So, my great grandmother, who I've never saw or even heard about, I hope this is clear) + +So that's the thing. That's what she did. + +Half-sister also said to my dad that, a few months ago, her husband was sick, she was a bit lost so she decided to try to contact my grandmother. She was not well received. After hearing from the daughter she gave up years ago, she told her on the phone ""Your will have a shit life, just like the one I have"" + +My dad discovered new family members on Facebook. Everyone has turned their back on her, knowing what she did. She has a brother, older than my dad, who has the same first name as him. My dad is tormented and it breaks my heart. +And now, after our father told us all of this, everything, he then asked us a few days after if we were going to visit her while we were here, knowing that I have not visited her last year, but my sister did. + +I think I hate this woman and I don't want to see her ever again but at the same time, I wish I could hear her side of the story, but I'm not sure if she will share it with me. Should I visit her, or not? Just forget about her? What should I do? + +That's pretty much it. Thank you so much for reading this long story. Sorry if this is a bit messy. If something isn't clear, feel free to ask any questions. English is not my native language BTW. + + +TL;DR : grandma gave up 3 kids, leaving them to her despicable mother, after her husband discovered she cheated 35-40 years ago. been lying to everyone for her whole life. now insulting her children when they try to rekindle the relationship and married to another man. I'm not sure if I hate her or if I want to give her a chance.",0 +6469,"I'm about to adopt my son!. I'm a parent to a bunch of stuffed animals. This is an ongoing series but i havent posted here before. I've been going through the adoption process since 2017, and finally, FINALLY, I got an email from the adoption agency this morning saying the final paperwork will be processed within 24 hours! That was at 8:42 this morning, which means by the time I wake up tomorrow, he will be officially adopted! I'm buying him his favorite treats later today and I'm going to throw him a special party! I'm SO SO SO excited!",0 +6470,"I dont want any of my family to pass away.. I'm 15 and I'm just overwhelmed by the fact that my parents one day will not be here. I love them so much but I just would rather kill myself than have them die, and I've been crying about it recently at night. I'm crying as I type this. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you",0 +6471,Is blood always thicker than water. Can your own family do you wrong,0 +6472,"Family bullying help. Hi everyone. So today I found out that a few of my cousins have a group chat where they talk shit about me and send my pictures to one another and talk about what they dislike about me. I am beyond hurt and stunned that no one is defending me and that 2 of them in particular are able to say all this in front of the others. Does this imply that this group chat is a safe space to talk about me? + +I’m confused on what to think/do. Why are they bullying and talking shit about me? Should I ask the cousin in the group I thought I was on good terms with what’s going on? Do I confront this situation at all? Any help is much appreciated.",0 +6473,"What to gift my Father for Father’s Day?. I got him a card that doesn’t stop saying “dad” until the battery dies and if he rips into it… well let’s just say he’s gonna be finding glitter everywhere for a long time. I also got him a vanilla candle, smells great. Til you burn it for a bit, then it smells like farts. +My bf told me my gifts were too mean, that I should get him a real gift as well… +Should I get him a nice cooler for his new RV, or are my gifts good enough? I don’t want him to think I hate him, but I really don’t have a ton of money to spare 😫 feeling dumb for buying gag gifts now.",0 +6474,"Record your elderly relatives when you have the chance. My Grandmother (I call her Nana) is the matriarch of our large family. Every time I visit (which is a long and expensive journey) I reside myself to the fact that this will be the last time. + +Since then she's broken her hip, is now fighting cancer, has emphysema and a host of other problems that comes with being 96 years old. But she fights on. + +I call her twice a week and while she can bearly hear me she appreciates it - and complains that I'm the only one who calls her - out of 6 grandchildren. (this breaks my heart but is not the point of my story.) + +The last time I was up to visit - on the advice of my friend - he told me to record her voice and just listen to her stories. + +This is the best advice I have ever gotten - when she finally goes I with have those memories and something to play back whenever I miss her. + +TALK TO YOUR ELDERS - They are wiser than you think - And record it for prosperity + +Here's a photo of the legend she is. + +[https://imgur.com/a/kC16N1y](https://imgur.com/a/kC16N1y) + +I'm going up soon and will do an AMA with her.",0 +6475,"Is it right for my parents (especially my mom) to expect me to be more patient than my brothers just because I am a girl?. I am already an adult now. All my life my mom has told me that I should be the patient one in any situation involving my brothers regardless of me being in the right or not, all because I am the girl. It has only been recently that I started to question this which led to many fights and arguments with my mom. +She would make a huge deal out of the littlest mistakes I make and make me feel like such a bad person and when it was my brothers who did the same things or worse more often than not, she would deal with them with a softer approach or let it slide all together. And when I would confront her about it, Ofcourse leading to arguments, she would end up telling me that I would end up being all alone with this personality after she dies. +I am so fed up with this. I try to ignore it half of the times but it just feels unfair to be judged more cruelly. And then it makes me feel even worse for acting out like that because I’m a grown adult.",0 +6476,"I just found out my mother isn’t dead and found a way to contact her. What should I do?. As this says, I just discovered my mother isn’t dead. I’m 22(M) and was told as a child (8) that she was dead. I’ll admit I was foolish, believing it at face value and carrying it for 14-15 years now. My other relatives also told me the same thing as well as some things she’d often do. Recently those relatives have come to light as awful people. +Tonight, my friends and I were on a site looking at records when I decided to enter my mother’s name. Flash forward, one thing to another and I found her social sites and media. +Should I see her? Reach out? Talk to her? The question is most likely obvious and I’m sorry if this post doesn’t fit this place but I’m in complete shock currently. + +TLDR: Found out mom was alive, not dead and was lied to. Shocked and unsure what to do. + +Update: I’ll be contacting her at the end of this week. I wanna give myself time to prepare and face what could possibly happen. After reading your guy’s comments and talking to some personal friends of mine, I think just at least seeing her one time/contacting her might help me. Maybe I’ll make a friend and have a mom in my life. Maybe not. But… It’s worth a shot. Thank you guys for the kindness and I’ll update when there’s contact.❤️❤️❤️",0 +6477,Toxic father. So i have a controlling father who tries to tell me where I should go. I have a doctors appointment in nyc that my father is paying for but he randomly said since I am paying for the appointment i dont want you to visit Brooklyn. Im originally from Brooklyn and i have friends i visit there every few months. My dad doesn’t like me going there because of the crime rate. Im an adult so i I deserve to go where i want. I told him this and he said since you an adult stop asking me to support you. I agree with his statement at 24 I shouldn’t have him help with my bills but paying for a doctors appointment is something you should never rub in someones face you should do it out the kindness of your heart without expecting to control that person. He has 700k in his will that he threatens to give all to my sister when i dont obey his rules. I never asked him to leave me this money and i feel that its a scummy thing to shove in someones face. I got triggered and told him if its wasn’t for his money I would not have anything to do with him. And the argument escalated and he made disrespectful insults about my Grandmother who had nothing to do with the conversation. He has a way of using his money to control people and having disrespectful outbursts when u don’t what he says. I have a full time remote job and im moving to Europe in 3 weeks so i can support myself 100%. I wont need money from him when i make this move but I recently blocked all contact with him for the sake of my mental health. Do you think im justified to cut all contact?,0 +6478,"Feeling conflicted about supporting my older sister financially. It’s been almost 2 years since my sister and I lived together in an apartment where I pay for all of the maintenance fees, water bill, electricity etc - as well as most of our takeouts (which can get pretty often and pricey). + +I made this housing change, fully aware of what I needed to pay as my sister was still doing her PhD and had no income. She recently graduated and is looking for a job but no luck so far at all. + +Regardless, every so often, feelings of frustrations, discontentment, and annoyance creep up for me. How much longer do I need to keep paying for her meals? When will she be able to contribute? Why isn’t she keen on applying to part time jobs? Just work part time while applying to other jobs so you have some income? + +I do have a good relationship with my sister but when you involve money, I feel like that changes the dynamic and my outlook towards her. Because I do get this sense of entitlement as the one paying for everything (I try not to, but it’s def there). And also even if we do have a good relationship, there should be boundaries.. + +So my dilemma is that on one hand, it’s not as if I’m supporting her indefinitely and she will get a job eventually right? I mean it’s only been 1.5 years. Once she gets a job then she can start contributing (altho all those money I’ve spent, well that’s gone. Just how it is). On the other hand, I just get so frustrated at times and wish she would just stop trying to apply to only high level positions that are a bit beyond her means and just get a job, any job already. + +So what would you feel in my shoes? I have actually had money talks with my sis before too but right now I’m trying not to rush her because I do see her trying to get jobs diligently. And these things take time.",0 +6479,"Do I look for my biological dad?. My mum and dad told me when I was 13 that my dad wasnt my dad, the guy she was with when she became pregnant ""wasn't interested"". My dad raised me since I was 4 and he loved me all the same. I'm now coming up for 30 and had never really given any thought to who my biological dad might be - until I sadly lost my dad a few months ago. Now, I can't help but think life is so short, does he know about me? Does he care? Is he still alive? Does he have a family of his own? Is he a horrible person and I'm better off without him? My mum was 20 when she fell pregnant so chances are he was only young too. +I have absolutely no information at all. His name isn't on my birth certificate. My mum, gran and aunt will all 100% know who he is but 30 years is a long time to wait before asking the question, I wonder if it's too late now and I should just forget all about it. +I can't believe it's legal to not include a parents name on the birth certificate, no matter how uninvolved they want to be at the time😔",0 +6480,"My brothers are lazy and single mom is struggling, not sure what I can do.. Need some advice as I do not know what to do in this situation. + +Backstory: I used to live in a small town somewhere in the USA, when I was 18 I moved across the country solo a week after my parents got divorced. (I am the youngest son and first to move out) + +The issue is my 2 brothers are taking advantage of my mom because she cares about them, neither of them have jobs or do anything around the house. My mom has personally told me when they tell them to get a job they just laugh about it. And my mom they doesn't like it but they get frustrated so they tend to just do everything themselves and ignore the issue. I feel bad because I don't think there is anything I can do to help them, even if I try and tell them to get a job they won't listen because I am the youngest out of all of them (There are two). My mom is around 50 years old and is still working and unable to save any money to buy a house and retire *(They had to sell the house after the divorce and used the money to pay credit card debt and to live in general)* due to having to support both of them (22 and 25 years old). Im not sure what to tell them / what I can do because they are too nice to kick them out and I feel like if they try and threaten them with it they will just laugh at her as they already do. This has been going on for almost 2 years and I don't know what to do. + +TL;DR: Brothers are lazy and won't get a job and my mom is too nice to kick them out.",0 +6481,Brothers First Apartment.... My little brother just got his first apartment - he's in his late 20s and I am wanting to get him some apartment warming gifts... but I really want to get him some stuff he'll need. He's quite a dork - love him for it... but the dude would live off ramen noodles honestly lol,0 +6482,"Losing the love of my life due to step kids. I love my girlfriend to bits. She's the best thing thing that's ever happened to me. We've been together nearly 3 years which doesn't seem like long but we've both had abusive ex relationships, we know this is the real deal. Until recently we had no doubt that we were going to be married and we'd grow old together. We were engaged and had a date set for our wedding. +But as time has gone on I've grown to hate my stepkids. And I don't use that word lightly. +They're disrespectful, rude, argumentative, annoying, spend most of their lives shouting at each other or arguing or fighting. And this isn't just to me, my gf (their biological mum) has the exact same issues with them, and knows that their behaviour is terrible. She hates it and agrees that they need sorting. But nothing works. Most of their issues probably stem from their biological dad whose idea of parenting, let's not even go there. He probably shouldn't even see them at all unsupervised, he's that bad for them, but currently that's the only way we get a break from them, or they'd be here 24/7 and it'd be even worse. +No kids are angels but by comparison my two kids are brilliant. They play nicely most of the time, are kind, don't shout or purposefully annoy others, do mostly what they're told, and have respect for grown ups. No kids are perfect and I know that. But by comparison, it's just night and day. +But the more this goes on, the more I worry that my step kids behaviour will rub off on my kids though. +I've tried parenting and disciplining my step kids, that doesn't work. I've tried not parenting them (I've read about it online, can't remember the term exactly) letting her deal with it, that doesn't work. And doing that just makes it look to my kids like I don't care about bad behaviour, as I'm not telling them off or reacting to it. +I've asked her to move out. And it's broken my heart. And hers too. The worst feeling of my life. +I'd really like it if we could stay together but living and parenting apart, but I don't know if she's on board. I think I've broken her heart (and mine in the process) and can we really go from being madly in love and spending every second together to living in seperate houses and seeing each other... when, only when her kids aren't around? +Am I being stupid thinking that it's going to work out and should start preparing myself for the further heartbreak now? +And if I do lose her, I don't want to consciously or subconsciously blame my kids for me losing the love of my life, seeing as how I'm giving her up for their best interests. +Really need advice on best ways forward.",0 +6483,"Stomach problems - any suggestions on how to make my son feel better until his appointment would be appreciated!. My son (15) has been having stomach issues for the past year. We have been to the doctor, multiple times, and have not figured out anything. He has an appointment (finally) with a GI doctor, but not until May. Symptoms include stomach aches, cramps and sometimes bloated. Certain foods can cause more upset, but we are keeping track of that. + +Any suggestions would be great! TIA. + +Edit: Editing to add that he is taking a probiotic and we have tried a number of stomach relief items (I.e. ginger, mint, pepto, etc.) with either not much relief or not liking the taste.",0 +6484,"I don't like being around my family, and I have no reason to feel that way. My (18M) parents are wonderful. They've never abused me, they're supportive of me, and they encourage me to become my best self. Despite all this, I feel terrible when I'm around them. I don't feel comfortable opening up about my personal life, I can't spend extended periods of time in the same room as them, and if I don't have a choice *but* to do so then I start feeling panicked and even start hyperventilating or tearing up. For context, I'm not this way around anyone else. I love being around friends, I'm super close to my girlfriend's family, and I'm a fairly social person. I have zero explanation for this reaction and it makes me feel like a terrible person for wanting to limit time spent with the people who raised me and cared for me my whole life. I want to try family therapy so badly but my mother said it wouldn't help anything and my father rarely talks about his emotions so I don't know if he would be willing either. I feel at such a loss and I don't know what to do.",0 +6485,"How do you deal with your mother giving you the silent treatment?. After choosing a college that she didn’t want me to go to, she gave me the silent treatment. She ignored me, raises up her video volume when I speak, doesn’t answer my texts, and she’s even giving the silent treatment to my dad because she thinks he had something to do with it. How the hell do I deal with this?",0 +6486,"Our own room, finally!. Well, finally made it a week after two other failed attempts. My wife and I have 7 kids aged 3-17. We tried to move the three year old out of our room twice in with our smallest children but it just wouldn’t work. This time we talked to the oldest ones and they said they would make it work. Last night was the seventh straight night that my wife and I had our own bedroom for the first time since we were newly married. + +This is living! Haha.",0 +6487,"What classifies as being ""kicked out""?. + +For context I am 16 years old and have not been living with my family for over a year because I had been according to my definition ""kicked out"" over a year ago after an argument. They sent me to go live with different relatives against my will and when those relatives tried to send me back to my parents my parents said I was not allowed back at the house or near the family. I have been sent to different places in the country to stay with different relatives and for the last year have had no control over where I am staying or my entire life. + +Recently I began to have contact with my parents and today I got in an argument with my mom. She said that the reason I am still not allowed to get my license or even start drivers ed although I have been asking them if I could start it for some time was that I had ""rejected the family"" last year and didn't want to live with them. I was extremely confused and said ""what do you mean, you kicked me out!"". She said that she never kicked me out and that wasn't kicking me out and it was my actions that forced them to not let me live with them (which is basically them finding a knife in my room, as a suicidal teen, and them assuming that I had it because I was planning on killing my mother. They did not find the knife or talk about it until months after I had been kicked out and it was not the reason I was kicked out. I still don't even understand the real reason they kicked me out as I can't even think what I did wrong and no one in my life understands till this day). + +Well anyways my question was does it count as being ""kicked out"" if they technically made sure I had a place to stay. They didn't just leave me on the streets, but I thought it still counted as being kicked out as I was sent against my will out of their house and I was not allowed back and I'm still not allowed to live with them because they don't want me ""influencing"" my siblings, whatever that means.",0 +6488,"My mom is always degrading me.. Growing up, I had a pretty good relationship with my mom. I always thought that she was amazing and really kind. As soon as I hit puberty, it was like a switch flipped for her. For years now she constantly berates me, calls me terrible names and is always dismissive of my accomplishments. I lost most of my love for her when she said that she doesn’t love me anymore. The only times that she will stop degrading me is if we’re in the presence of non-family, or if she needs a favour for me. I know I’m not in upstanding kid. I haven’t done anything spectacular but I do well in school, and I do practically everything she asks me to. I don’t know how to make her love me again and stop hurting me. Is this a normal mother-daughter relationship? I’m about to turn 17 so it’s not like I can just move out. I’m not sure what to do.",0 +6489,"Mom explained me the past of my father. So one year ago me (22M) an my mom (54) were talking about the relationship of her and my father (54). She explained to me that one night after work my father went to f*** prostitutes when I was only 1 year old and after that she forgave him to ""have a structured family for me"". My dad fell in a really hard depression after that. + +Now, after she told me I couldn't have the same relationship with my father and I think I will not ever have it. But I'm struggling a lot with it, do you have some tips to make it better?",0 +6490,"Need advice with my sister. Hi All, + +I hope you're all keeping safe during these times. + +My sister is 14 and in secondary school (UK) she met a boy she really liked and he's started being really awful. + +It started off with him being picky and jabbing Comments at her and being rude. + +And now it's turned into him telling her what she can and can't wear, who to hang around with and asking her for money for cigarettes of which she's not giving him luckily. + +What's my play in this situation? We've tried talking to her about the issues but without throwing the abuse card out to a 14 year old girl and with trying to make her realise that he's not someone you want to be with I suppose my question would be. + +What do I do? + +She was over at his house this evening and he went through her phone and read all of our messages between me and my sister, my sister and our mum etc. + +It's getting to a point of where I don't know what to suggest or do, I wish I could rattle some sense into the kid but y'know as a brother its really tough to see your best friend and little sister go through that. + +Thanks for your time all. + +Bradley x",0 +6491,"I’m the youngest but I feel like I have the most “responsibility” in my family. I have 5 other siblings all of whom have finished their college degrees and have stable jobs. 3 of them have their own families already. My mom and my dad are both retired already. Recently, mom moved in to my apartment due to some circumstances. Right now, I’m taking care of her and recently she got hypertension. My siblings knew of it but still most of the responsibilities (taking care, buying meds, cooking for her due to strict diet, etc) is on me. I’m 26, with a mid senior role in an ICT company. I’m already at the point where I’m having a hard time juggling personal, family and work. I just feel like i have too many responsibilities in my hand right now but even though I ask for help or even if I tell my other family members of the condition of my mom, still the burden (i really dont want to call it that way) returns back to me. + +I just need some advice on what to do… 🥲 thank you all pls be kind. 🥲",0 +6492,"My grandma (with dementia) needs a guardian. My uncle backed out. What do I do? Has anyone been in this situation before?. Some background information: I'm a 23 yo female. My parents and my grandma's other children want nothing to do with this situation because of childhood issues. + +Here we go. + +My grandma has dementia and is being scammed by someone. She's convinced she's in love with him and sends him money via gift cards. EVERYONE has tried to convince her that she is being scammed, but she's very stubborn. We have reported this to the authorities, but they've done nothing. She's spent all her savings and currently has $20 to her name. She pays her bills late or not at all, so I've been taking over and paying them as soon as she gets her social security check. + +My uncle and I sat her down and told her that we were worried about her. We talked for a long time and she agreed that she needed help with her finances and getting to the doctor, etc. The plan was for my uncle and I to be co-guardians for my grandma. She agreed to the court proceedings, but when it came time to talk to the investigator and attorney, she did a complete 180. She says we never asked her anything, that she knew nothing about any of this, and that she doesn't need any help. Because of this 180, my uncle wants to back out of the responsibility. + +My question is this: WHAT DO I DO? Do I back out as well and let a court appointed person be her guardian? Do I try to be her only guardian and do it all myself (and possibly burn myself out)? Do I drop the whole thing and let her do what she wants and become homeless? I'll be starting grad school in the Fall and will possibly be moving. I have considered taking my grandma with me, but I don't know if she'd leave our state. Has anyone dealt with a situation like this before?",0 +6493,"What's wrong with me? I always want to be alone. Most days, I feel overwhelmed by having people around me. My partner and his dad live with me, and I live next door to my mum and my sister. I feel like I'm constantly having to give them attention or entertain them, when I just crave some alone time. Even when I do get an hour alone every now and then, I spend the whole time counting down to when I'm going to have to go and talk to somebody. + +My mum has always been extremely controlling, and my partner and his dad are both very opinionated and complain about everything. + +I just want to be alone 😂 + +tl;dr I crave alone time and don't like being around people",0 +6494,"I paid 2 dollars for the last bit of my sister's pumpkin pie. My mother bought us a little treat this week, a pumpkin pie, and we were each having a slice today. After I finished my slice, I asked my sister if I could have the little piece of pie left of hers, and she said yes, but only if I gave her 3 bucks. And so I did. + +Earlier today, my sister wanted to trade a five-dollar bill for 5 ones, but my mother only had 2 ones, so my mom gave her 2 ones, took the five, and said she'd give my sister the 3 dollars once she had them. + +My sister wanted to get all the ones today, so I paid it to her in trade for the pie, but once she told me she wanted to cheat our mother out of 3 dollars, I said I was going to tell on her. So she gave me a dollar to keep me quiet. + +My sister's seven years old.",0 +6495,"When is it ethical to not give money to your poor mother?. My mother first married my brother (who is 9 years older than me, has temporary contracts as a school teacher)’s dad, then they divorced. Nine years later she met my dad, had me and married. Then divorced two years later. + +Prior to this, when my brother was 16, he decided to leave our home to live with my grandparents. In his words, because he couldn’t stand my mother. He also said he was concerned I could be abused or raped in the home, not sure if that was his young (he was 10-11) perception and interpretation of reality. My father is not mentally okay, he’s also very neglectful and emotionally abusive. My mother well, she lives in her own world. + +My mother has been a single mother 90% of her motherhood. Usually working in the private sector with very good salaries that allowed us to live well. She‘s also gone through phases when she didn’t and then we would move to our grandparent’s. She had a truck accident, a truck interceded her car, while she was going really slow and respecting the law. Since then, she’s had back problems. The family has always been divided: my grandparents and brother (who rejects my mother profoundly, to the point that if she enters the room he gets tense and leaves the room) and my mother - and me as I didn’t want her to feel alone. + +I remember I once came back home, I was probably 6-9yo, and I heard a fight. My brother said to my mother ‘watch out tonight, because I have a knife’. I don’t remember anything else, I can’t even tell what the rest of the family replied to that. I only remember I slept with my room door open that night to make sure my mother was okay. Nothing happened. + +Now my mother (60yo) doesn't work, she gets a public pension. She is allowed to work in certain jobs, however she risks losing her pension. On the other hand she‘s very religious and according to her ethics, it’s not okay working under the law. So she doesn‘t work at all. She gets very little money so I’m used to buying her new glasses, getting her car fixed and I’m also paying half of her rent at the moment. I get paid very well, so it’s not a problem. But I’m fully aware that it’s not my responsibility. My brother has never helped her, I guess because he rejects her and doesn‘t have love for her. He probably feels abandoned because he left home, even though we moved to his city to live closer to him. He just hates her. I think it’s a feeling he simply can’t manage or control. He also has anger issues, he’s broken several windows and furniture pieces. + +The point is. My mother went today to pass the annual control for the car. The car didn’t get through so she took it to the car fixer. He said she has to pay 1k, and asked me to pay it. At least part of it if my grandma was happy to pay half of it. + +My mother has been looking after my brother´s daughter (1 year old) for four months. He would rather take her to nursery but my sister in law would rather have my niece looked after her grandmother. They used to pay a nanny 500 a month. They don’t give anything to my mother. So I thought, well, they’ve saved 2k in these 4 months my mother has been helping, surely they will have the ethics to help. My brother and her decided to give her only 500 out of the 1k she needs. She then called my grandmother who said I should be paying for that as I have a good European salary. But she accedeed to pay all of it. Then she told me I was selfish to not give all of it to my mother straight away. I think she didn’t know I pay part of my mother’s rent and all the help I’ve given her, my grandmother is senile at the moment. + +Prior to that, my mother told me to speak with my grandmother to convince her to help her. I told her that wasn't okay, because she was 1. Asking me to manipulate my grandmother, so her mother. 2. She was making mine a problem or responsibility that’s hers. She told me that I’m shit, the usual. Even though I pay 50% of her rent and I’ve helped her in numerous ocasions over the years with other stuff. + +She said she will now charge me if she takes me to places, for the car fuel. Even though I always pay for everything we do together. Cinema, restaurants, you name it. Always. I paid for her tickets so she could come visit me, 800 euros. I also paid 600 euros to make it home for Christmas. I have spent over 300 euros in presents for everybody, while I rarely get presents. No one sent me anything in my birthday, or for new home (now I’m renting, I live on my own). I understand they know I get a good salary and I don’t need it. But I also work a lot and live alone in a country different to my own, and like any other human being, appreciate help and a kind present. + +I feel really bad and selfish, even though I don’t think that’s fair towards me. I know the situation will never change, as my mother is only getting older, hence less capable of work, and also she doesn’t want to. She’s supposed to get a pension raise in 5 years, but until then I’ll have to continue to provide, unless I have or decide to stop. Events like today’s will continue to happen and at some point my grandmother will be gone, so the responsibility will be on me. + +Could someone fact check what I’m saying please? + +Thank you very much!",0 +6496,"rAITA - Wife naps in the middle of the day and up at 4AM. OK, AITA? + +So, my SO has some issues and as a result will be subject to major mood swings. This means me and my progeny are, at times, walking on eggshells in the house while she is in a bad or depressed mood or napping or the recipients of the super sweet mom persona. Since I work from home I am around to see the effects and sometimes step in to take care of the kids, be the shoulder for her, pick up the slack in housekeeping, et cetera. But mainly I am the steady rock on which the sea of my family beats. That being said, it has become more and more frequent that the SO will nap during the day while I am working, leaving my little ones to the care of the TV or their older sibling or me when I come out of my office. The little ones have started to follow suit and will now nap during the day and were up appallingly early at 3:30 AM, for my SO to deal with. +I wake up this morning and find both of the little ones asleep on the couch in front of the TV and the SO on the phone with her friend (as usual). So I go into parent mode and tell the children to get up, they need to be awake during the day so they can sleep through the night. There is much complaining and grumbling but I stand my ground and try to keep them up. SO steps in and says what is wrong with you, I remind her that this is a bad precedent and they need to be awake during the day for school and such. She fires back with, if they need a nap they can have one, you are just going to go back to your office and I can use an hour without having to watch them. +I respond that this is not how normal people should operate and they are doing the same thing she does but they will actually have to deal with being tired in school while she can just nap at home while everyone tiptoes around her. + +She claims I am overreacting but I feel I am trying to prepare these children to face the world in a normal way. I am open to feedback.",0 +6497,"Birth Order Woes. Does anyone else feel like what the eldest sibling does is expected, while whatever the youngest does is phenomenal? + +Ex: My husband and I (29F, 32M) are both the oldest in our birth orders and bought our house last year and immediately did a ton of fixing up and remodeling. This year his youngest brother (26M) and his wife (26F) bought a house and did a couple minor fixes with the help of her family. My MIL is over here acting like they are the next Chip and Joanna Gaines. Feels a lot like since we are the oldest we are ""expected"" to own and fix a house, where they being the youngest its more of an impressive feat. + +So I'm just wondering if any other ""oldests"" have had similar experiences? There's been many moments like this for us, and now I'm just curious!",0 +6498,"Question - would you buy a gift for someone who dog sat for you?. Hey folks + +Looking for feedback from others....My brother recently went on vacation for 2.5 weeks and asked me to housesit and take care of his 2 dogs. One who was a hyperactive puppy who needed an hour hike every day. When he returned from his vacation he barely said thank you and certainly there was no gift. Personally if someone housesat and took care of my dogs for 2.5 weeks I would have gotten them a thank you present. My brother is arguing that its not normal to give a gift etc. He said a 'thank you' should be sufficient. + +Thoughts?",0 +6499,"My dad wants to leave us because he said he is tired of us. today during lunch, my dad was trying to be affectionate and I rejected him, and then he got angry, started saying stuff to me and I started crying, my sister was supporting me. + +and next thing I know, my parents fight after lunch. +He told her he wanted to leave or she was leaving with us, because he was tired of us. +because he can't say anything without having us quivering about it and that he won't tolerate it anymore. + +I know we're ungrateful and most of the time I'm cold with him, but was that so terrible that he wants to leave? most of the time I tried to tell him my stuff, he won't listen or answer, he keeps looking at his phone, or just say ""hm"" or continue watching TV or eating his stuff, because we only talk at the table, at breakfast or lunch. + I've been feeling invisible and avoided sharing my stuff in the end because it was a lost of time. +He tends to bring me down with his comments, always criticizing or saying I'm not this and I'm not that"" and obviously making my self steem drop, and he treat my mom like she is a fool, always making fun of her opinions and minimizing her, she told him to stop and he kept doing it. +He buy us a lot of stuff and I'm grateful, I said thank you"" many times, and he's been so busy with work so I guess it could be stress because he puts so much effort, and I'm also grateful for thar. +But I'm not the only one who have something that doesn't tolerate but I didn't quiver, I've been holding it down for a long time and well, I guess it became obvious with my cold behavior. +I grew distant too, so what should I do now? He is our economical provider, if he leave us then.. How am I finish school? my mom doesn't have a job and.. +Anyway, isn't he",0 +6500,"My brother attempted su*cide. My brother is older than me, he has a family (wife and two daughters), but early this year a woman contacted him to do a DNA test, turns out my brother has another child he knew nothing about, apparently he had an affair 7 years ago (before he got married). This completely ruined his marriage because he cheated on his current wife when they were just dating, this whole year my sister in law have been trying to stay by his side bc she loves my brother, but she can't really forgive him and my brother can't either forgive himself. My sister in law confessed me days ago my brother did try to end his life but regretted in the last minute, she says she can't be with him anymore because she can't get over the fact he cheated AND has another child. +The other woman wants nothing to do with my brother, she just wanted to know who is her child's father, she won't even ask for child support or anything. The child is 7years old, apparently this woman have been asking DNA test to many man during all this years. And my brother also don't want to know about this woman or the child + +I don't know how to feel or what to do to help my brother, i said to him he needs to get professional help but he won't listen, he's very reserved with me and my parents, he won't speak to us and I'm afraid of what can happen if he gets divorced. He worked very hard to marry, find a job and a house for his family, and now because a stupidity he did 7 years ago he's gonna lose everything he worked for. Please help.",0 +6501,"How can I fix things. I (18F) got very angry and said things I regret. I caused my brother to pack his things and leave, caused my dad to yell at me and say it’s my fault and I escalated a situation that could’ve been fixed through communication. It’s just that I have been super stressed and angry because of the way my brother has been acting and I bottled up my anger which caused me to explode. I dont know how to fix things. I don’t want my dad or bother to hate me but I am scared of the way my dad or brother will react if I apologize. We don’t apologize much in my family and I’m just lost on what I can do to make things better. + +We fought because my brother and his gf were not cleaning up after themselves and being very dirty making me stressed and angry. It’s been happening for a few weeks now and I would just bottle up my anger and today I just had enough and yelled at my dad and my brother. I said mean things. I feel like I was in the right to be upset but I reacted poorly. I want to be better than my dad and my brother but i dont know what I can say or do to make things better. I’m scared that my dad will yell at me and that my brother will not want to come back. I just want to be on good terms with anyone but like I said i dont know what I can do.",0 +6502,"Feel like Parents are Pushing me out.. Hi guys! Lately I have been feeling super anxious about moving out of my Dad and Stepmom's home. I start school soon for the winter quarter, and for the spring quarter I plan on Moving into a dorm as they're planning on moving and buying a house about 2 hrs. away. They have made it very clear that that does not include me. I just feel anxious that they aren't making any space for me, especially my step mom. When they look at houses they don't talk to me about it at all and I've noticed they're looking at only 2 bedrooms. (My step moms sister will be living with them as well) I just feel sad that I won't really have a home to go to. To me it feels like they just don't really want to be parents. Sometimes, they'll even make jokes saying, ""Hey we found a house we're leaving in a couple weeks, what are you going to do?"" I feel like a total baby, but I just wish i had parents who didn't feel like parenting their children was a burden to them. And i hate feeling sad whenever this pops into my head. (small, but random I also don't currently have health insurance because my dad says it's too expensive and that I need to find and pay for my own. I' m currently freshly 19.) am I crazy? I feel incredibly frustrated and like I'm going insane.",0 +6503,"Idk.. My sons 4th birthday is on the fourth. I have a two year old daughter. I have court tomorrow because I’m facing an eviction. My car note is a bit behind. I no longer work because I don’t have a sitter and no family. I can’t get vouchers for daycare because I don’t work… I Don’t even have a sitter for court in the morning. So I’m a full time parent. I do shipt to keep up with what I can which has been keeping me afloat as well as my small business. I’m a very spiritual person and I’m always very grateful for being able to wake up healthy with my kids everyday But I really could use some encouragement and kind words right now. I have no one to vent to so I’m writing here. + +Even after court tomorrow, I have to still put on a happy face and take my kids trick or treating and make sure my son has an awesome birthday in a few days. I’m not asking for money, I just need kind words. + +TLDR",0 +6504,"jealous of cousin personality. I really want your opinion on this. I have a girl cousin naned stacy who is 24 and im one year younger than her. Since childhood she was everyones favorite in the family. I was extremely introvert and shy and i have social anxiety and didnt know how to interact with people but she was the complete opposite of me. She always had many many friends and acquaintances. Wherever i go people ask me where she is and talks about her and for example when i go to a family function everybody just talks to her and flatter her and she becomes the centre of attention. She befriends every single person and everybody just loves her and invites her to everything. They want to include her in everything. I dont have that gut to befriend like her. I do talk to people but people choose her over me always. She is extremely cool . Even at school she was extremely popular. Sometimes i just go to a new place and tries to befriend people and whenever they hear my surname they say ""oh is stacy your cousin?"" And i think why does this name STACY always follow me wherever i go and doesn't let me survive. Every friend she has calls her to inform and update her on everything and me i dont even how how she does this to attract so much happiness success and love. Now she works at a bank occupying a high position. And her mother and father now are extremely arrogant and ignore us and dont wanna talk to us just because we are not successful as them. Im not exagerrating at all in this post it is only the reality that i've faced i'm narrating. Now i'm kinda jealous of seeing every boys and girls being her friend compared to me who has no one. How should i ignore the fact that everyone loves her and how not to feel jealous when everybody takes her name wherever i go? Im depressed sad and jealous. Thank you.",0 +6505,"Too many families probably use praying as a way to say nice things to each other without having to be directly open and vulnerable.. My family won’t compliment each other directly, but we might brag to God about it in front of you.",0 +6506,"Why am i being punished for being a victim of bullying?. I'm 14 years old. i am in my freshman year of high school. i've been dealing with bullying for a few years now. I kept it to myself for a while due to shame and embarrasment. I recently told my dad about it. The bullying has been verbal and physical. + +I told him what other kids have done to me. I told him that other kids tease me and call me names and stuff. i've told him another boy kicked me in the back during lunch time, a girl smacked me in the face with lotion in her hand and her friends laughed, another boy pushed me down the hallway, etc. + +After I told my dad this information he became upset and scolded me. He told me, ""WHAT?! DON'T EVER LET SOMEONE PUT THEIR HANDS ON YOU AND LET THEM GET AWAY WITH IT. NEXT TIME IF THIS HAPPENS FIGHT BACK. IF THAT BOY WOULD'VE KICKED ME IN THE BACK I WOULD'VE BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF HIM. WHEN THAT GIRL SMACKED YOU YOU SHOULD'VE GOT UP AND SMACKED HER BACK. YOU'RE NOT A PUNCHING BAG. D'ONT ALLOW PEOPLE TO TREAT YOU THIS WAY."" + +I told him, ""But I don't want to get in trouble for fighting."" he said, ""I WOULD RATHER YOU GET SUSPENDED FOR SELF-DEFENSE THAN TO JUST SIT THERE AND TAKE THE ABUSE. AND YOU WILL NOT BE PUNISHED BY ME FOR DEFENDING YOURSELF."" + +""BUT RIGHT NOW YOU'RE ON PUNISHMENT FOR BEING A PUSHOVER. NO TV, NO VIDEO GAMES, AND NO CELL PHONE FOR A WEEK. I'M ALSO GOING TO HAVE A TALK WITH THE SCHOOL ABOUT ALL OF THIS."" + +I understand where my dad is coming from but i don't think i should be in punishment for being bullied. i didn't do anything wrong. it's on the bullies to not be bullies and to not be doing their cruel behavior. it just so happens they see me as an easy target. + +also i don't know how to fight. I get upset when these kids do these things to me, but i don't know how to respond. i freeze and take the abuse. it doesn't come naturally to me to be mean. i try to be kind to other people. + +what do you all think about all of this?",0 +6507,"Should I be concerned about the relationship between my brothers?. I strongly believe that my younger brothers have a toxic relationship that needs some kind of intervention. So I'm seeking advice from Internet strangers.... + +**Situation:** The younger one (10) is always walking on eggshells around the older one (17), and always does everything the older one asks (""get me water"" ""drop and give me 20"" ""get off the computer and go read"" ""go to bed"" etc.) Not all the ""orders"" are bad orders, but it's the way the little one always just leaps to do whatever the big one asks that concerns me. With me (F27) and his parents, that doesn't happen. He's more relaxed and natural in front of us, but as soon as the big one is around, he becomes stiff and so servile. + +They also do these daily, supposedly playful, ""wrestling matches,"" which are ""obligatory"" according to the older one. In those matches the little one often gets bruised, but always brushes them off as nothing when I ask about them (""they don't hurt"" ""we were just playing""). When I confront the older one about them, he says I'm being dramatic and they're not that bad. When I tell parents about the bruises, they scold the older one for a while, but nothing changes. The little one is ALWAYS bruised. + +More recently, the older one shaved the little one's head. Little one told the family that's what he wanted to do, but when I pushed him to tell me the truth, he confessed that the older one made him do it because ""he had bad grades on his report card."" He made me promise NOT to tell anyone in the family because otherwise the older one would ""make his life harder."" When I saw him look at himself in the mirror that day, I heard him say ""I'm so ugly."" It broke my heart. + +It also made me wonder what things happened between them that little one never tells us about. + +When I write it out like this, I can tell it definitely is toxic and abusive and a form of sibling hazing. I want to break my little brother out of it, but I don't know what to do. I talk to parents about it, but they tell me it's nothing and that it's just ""brothers being brothers"" and ""boys will be boys."" I talk to the little one about it and encourage him to stand up for himself, but he simply can't. Whenever I talk to the older one, he just brushes me off and tells me I'm acting crazy and dramatic. + +I don't know what to do. And maybe I am being dramatic and this is normal brotherly behavior. I really don't know! I feel like it is a big deal but no one in the family is treating it like a big deal so maybe I really am the crazy one. That's why I resort to ranting on Reddit. What do you guys think? + +TL;DR: I think my 17yo brother is hazing my 10yo brother, and family doesn't think it's a big deal. I don't know if I should be concerned or what I should do.",0 +6508,"I didn't know my sister was starving. I live with my 3 sisters. We are all adults and work. My sister was going through a rough patch financially recently and we all knew. The thing we are all in debt and I stopped lending money in the hopes of clearing some. + +I was living perfectly fine in debt in terms of food and buying what I wanted but my sister who didn't have access to credit didn't. I lent her what I could to help bills and gave her a little bit of money for food once. She would say stuff like I haven't eaten since yesterday or I don't know what I am going to eat today but I never knew she really meant it, as these are things we all say when we've been busy or couldn't be bothered to cook. She one time asked if I wanted to go to the foodbank. I was working so I couldn't go. I did see her cook and eat but nothing ever that nice. + +After a month I found out whilst we dicussing the state of the economy and how broke we were, that she was thinking of going to the foodbank for food and not to volunteer. And that she was literally starving. I was in shock and asked why she didn't tell me that and she said that she did. I did ask why she did explicitly say what she needed money for or that she literally has no food. + +Should I have realised this and am I the worst sister ever?",0 +6509,Anyone else not close with their family?. Other than parents I really never had a close connection with my family. They were older than me and my family never went to family gatherings. After my grandparents died the family got even further apart. I had them on facebook for years and never contacted me. I went to one family gathering i just felt awkward. I felt like they knew nothing about them and they knew nothing about me. I seen them once since i was since i was kid. I always wanted my family to be close but I realized thats the way it always will be. Any familiar experiences?,0 +6510,"I feel a little uncomfortable about my parents age gap.. I don’t want to see my dad in a negative light, but he was 27 when he married my 19 year old mother. I’m 19 now, so this makes me extra uncomfortable since I still feel like a kid. Plus she was 17-18 when they met which makes it worse to me. + +Similar thing happened with all of my grandparents due to our cultural background, with one of my grandmothers getting married at 15 and a *great great* grandmother getting married at 13. THIRTEEN! + +It just makes me feel icky lol",0 +6511,"(School survey) Impact of petcare on human wellbeing. Hey everyone, + +If you've got pets or have had pets. Can you help me out with my survey? + +[https://00x88vbiskf.typeform.com/to/V3ZdvDtH](https://00x88vbiskf.typeform.com/to/V3ZdvDtH) + +THANKS A LOT + +Pets include all these and more:🦉🐼🐰🐷🐸🐥🐢🐍🦍🦧🐘🐇🦜🐈‍⬛🦢🐓🐑🐵🐟🦫🐀",0 +6512,"Gratitude, and complaints about parents. I find it weird that just because I complain about my parents, people think I don't appreciate them. + +I mean, yeah I appreciate the heck ton of effort they put in to raise me. But there's 27 years of occasionally invalidating and scolding me when I tell them how I feel about what they did/say etc. Only ""because I want you to"" or ""because that's your brother"" end of story. They were probably don't want any more problems, that's why the shut down when I was a kid. They did listen as I slowly open up as an adult. But even then, it's ""you're an adult now, so I'll listen"". listening is conditional I guess. + +I'm pissed they haven't apologised at all the admittedly small things. Tbh I think it's petty asking for accountability for something that happened so long ago. But I'm still pissed. + +But does that mean I'm not thankful that they work hard to put food on the table? No. I don't think any parents would put in the effort they've put. Away from home 6am-9pm on weekdays, that's tiring af.",0 +6513,"My mom keeps calling my husband ""hot"" and not sure what to do about it. This is something that started happening recently, whenever me (20F) my husband (22M) and my mom are in public, my mom will call my husband hot out of the blue, I haven't yet asked him about how he feels and if it makes him uncomfortable, and I don't know what to do about this. My mom has never been married and has had multiple relationships with different boys (my father being one of them, of course) and I fear that if we keep meeting up with her, she might do something to him that we both won't approve of. I trust him not to cheat on me cause I would never do the same, but my mom is a very tough woman, and I have a feeling she might force him into something he doesn't want to do and I won't be around to stop it, I have to meet my mom soon but I'm thinking of letting my husband drop me off and drive back home and calling him after to pick me up or having him stay in the car, for his safety and my own. After the doctor appointments are over (getting me approved for disability checks), should i cut off contact or just pretend like nothing happened? + +TL;DR: My mom keeps calling my husband hot in public and I'm not sure if I should intervene or let it continue",0 +6514,"My sister burned bridges. Well today my sister burned the bridge with me and it's because of a dog. We live in a house but my parents aren't officially residents there. She is the owner of the dog and has the responsibility for that dog. She hasn't been doing any of that because I have been taking care of that dog and she throws him on me when she goes out of town which is now weekly. She goes to family parties that I don't know of so I have to take care of the dog. The dog has recently been peeing on my bed and last week was the last straw but I didn't know how to approach it because it's a dog. I called my father and asked for advice on what I can do and he suggested to tell her that ""I cannot take care of the dog anymore. He is your responsibility and if you're going out of town you need to look for someone that's not me or take him with you."" I said that and she completely went silent. Today the dog pushed open my door and peed on my bed and I told her that ""I'm going to put his nose into my now smelly bed sheets to discipline him."" She stormed into my room saying that she has a real job ( I'm a college student with a part-time job filling shelves) and that she has a life and she stopped talking to me because of what I said to her and that I'm going to cry to dad about the dog and what she was saying to me. She then said it ""I'm done. You are on your own. I have a life to live"". I held in my anger and just left the house at that moment and went to university early and as I was driving I was taking it in and just got to the point that she had burned her side of the bridge and no I just gotta burn my side. (She just texted me right now saying that she's sorry and if I can take care of the dog this weekend. Ironic). So basically now I have to get ready for calls from the family of her side of the story and most likely get excommunicated from my sister's and probably but not likely the family.",0 +6515,"a threat or punishment?. Okay reader I need to know, when a father tells his children that one chore needs to be done, if not I will be turning off the AC and the wifi during the day. Is that typical father punishment or does that feel almost threatening? Three siblings go to college, one does not. +This family resides in Texas, so today it's 94F + +Also during the night he turns it off, so all academic work must be done during the day, he is not consistent with this. Also during Sunday, he wants the children to participate in church, some siblings do attend and some do not. If a sum of them don't attend he turns off the wifi. This essentially is suppose to be a ""punishment"" or to encourage you to wake up at a proper time and do one chore. + +Now, a little bit more about this father, he doesn't do housework or lawn maintenance. So we see very little productivity from him. The only work he does is in the office. + +Is he a good role model for the actions he partakes and the position he holds in the family? + +Advice, opinions, concerns, and questions are encouraged",0 +6516,"I'm 26 and still crying about my 18th Birthday. I (26F) when I was 17 turning 18 my mom at the time was 39. + +For my birthday I just wanted to spend my birthday going on a Nature walk in the Cemetery behind our rented house with my mom, come home watch Silent Hill, Donnie Darko, and the anime Hell Girl/Jigoku Shoujo with her an our two cats.When she found out I didn't want to go to the Goth club + +sidenote: they let me in the 21+ goth club every week since I was 17 because i didn't like the music they played on All Ages Night, I didn't drink and everyone knew I never had a boyfriend/relationship, but a big crush on a guy a that was younger than me (his mom also went to the Goth Club) and they knew my mom + +When my mom found out I didn't want to go to the Goth Club for my 18th birthday she threw a fit cried she wasted 5 years of her life on me + +another sidenote: my great grandparents raised me till 12/13 because my mom had been into thugs an guys who wanted to be rappers who would end up abusing her + +My mom told me my crush was going to be there so I got all cute flatiron just my curly bangs straight into V shaped bangs, my hair was purple and 3c hair type, when I was flat chested I loved wearing Peter pan collard black dress (short sleeveless Wednesday Addams type dress from the 1960's show) with high heels that were a size too big stellito (forgot how to spell) didn't wear make up except foundation and mascara + +the club was pretty empty like normal, someone brought a volleyball so I played with it and had no idea I could run in heels that were too big, I noticed my crush's mom asked where he was she said he wasn't there tears ran down my face I said he was the only reason I came here, she told me he wanted to have a sleep over with me, an the tears stopped + +My mom was getting a back massage from our one friend which made me upset because I don't like seeing people be so close to my mom I was very over protective of her + +But here is what I am crying about right now + +instead of singing me happy birthday, a bunch of people gathered around non of them even Goths i didn't even know them, and said ""Hey (my name) F@(k You!"" + +I just stood there smiling and told my mom I wanted to leave, it was all too much for me and I screamed at her in the car she said to get over it they were joking she said she wouldn't of cared if they did that to her. + +when I got home I buried my face into my cat and cried while petting her, I never went to sleepover with Mt crush because I had anxiety he would want to do more than kissing a ran away from that situation + +TLDR; I'm just still mad, sad every emotion inbetween how on my 18th birthday I was told F' You by a bunch of random people + + and + +I'm mad at my mom who is now dead/not alive she is not dead to me she is not on this earth anymore",0 +6517,"Why is being a housewife viewed a bad thing?. Both my husband and I use to work a lot. Then my toddler developed a speech delay because we were too exhausted to give him any attention or communicate with him. I felt so bad that I wanted a part time job and take care of my son, and my husband would be the one that works full time. But the downside that if I had a part time job and hired a babysitter, I wouldn't make any money at all. So I've decided to be a housewife. I've got so many negative feedback from people when I became a housewife. We do make less money but my husband makes enough money for us to survive. After I became a housewife; we ate more homecooked meals, my son's speech development and his behavior improved a lot, my house is always clean and my husband seemed to be a lot happier. I'm happy about the benefits of being a housewife, but yet sometimes criticism me feel ashamed I'm a housewife.",0 +6518,"Cancer can suck it.. I’m at a loss. Last week we found out that my mother in laws cancer is terminal. We do not know how long she has got left as she doesn’t want to know. But based on what we have read up it’s between 4-8 months. + +I am devastated! She has been apart of my life for the best part of 20 years. I’ve been through this with my dad, who passed away form cancer when I was 20 (17years go) and recently with my mum who beat bowel cancer. But, my wife’s world is falling apart. She is her best friend and the only person in her life that she can go to for advice. She doesn’t have any close friends and she only has me for support but when there issues with us she goes to her mum. + +But I’m more upset for my 5 year old son. How do I tell him that the person he loves more than his mum and dad in the world will no longer be there? When ever we ask him what he wants to do or where he wants to go he always askes for his ‘Lally’ (his name for her). He adores her more than anything in the world and it’s going to beak his little heart. + +Have any of you been through this before and what did you tell your kids? How did you cope with it and how did they cope? + +TL:DR mother in law has terminal cancer and I don’t know how I’m gonna cope with it.",0 +6519,"Kicked mom out. My family has continuously disrespected my +(3shoved my ex down his throat. They have +made comments to him over the years that I've had problems with. They tell him he is just the stepdad. They will say happy step fathers day instead of just happy +Father's Day. They remind him he's my 2nd husband (no, he is MY husband). My mom/sister (41f) are friends with my ex on FB. My mom had posted on his page that he is +the best son in law ever. He replied, you know you have a new one right? My sister calls my husband sensitive and insecure for getting upset. I set boundaries to please not +bring up my ex anymore. We don't hate the guy, we are just trying to live our life out of his shadow.Things have been weird too. My mom Facectimed me once and there was my ex sitting on her couch. No one told me he was +visiting her or asked how I would feel about that. She has told him he can stay with her anytime he's in FL. My mom +has said to my husband she wished me and my ex would have worked out. Then she has said I should have just banged him (ex)instead of marrying him to hubs face. told +my mom it makes me angry that she checks up on my ex. I feel it's not her place to be doing that. They were never +even close when we were married. She was supposed to visit from FL but we got into it about my ex so she canceled. We were out 500 bucks that week bc we let our +nanny have the week off since my mom would be here. She went to my sisters. She later msgd me asking if she could come down after said planned time. I said ok. Well, +while here she gets a FaceTime call from my ex. She then says she didn't know why he called, that she doesn't talk to him anymore. I went and called my ex who then sent +me screenshots of her reaching out to him the week prior. She sent selfies of herself, pics with my sister and pics sisters dog. This really angered me as I had already told my mom she didn’t need to still be contacting someone I’ve been divorced from for over a decade!! Why can’t she put the same effort into my marriage and the man who is raising our boys and is a wonderful husband?? So I told her to get the F out of my house!! Literally screamed if she couldn’t respect hubby and my family then get the F out. She did. + +She has been telling people my ex made all those messages up to get me upset. Ya ok. Anyway, she left me a voicemail after not hearing from her in a month saying “have my grandson call his grandmother” + +What should I do? I don’t want to involve him in this mess. They don’t regularly talk anyways.",0 +6520,"the mystery of why my entire family has always hated me. wish i knew why, maybe then i could change so they would like me + +my parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, family friends all ignore me or obviously hate me + +i keep asking why but they wont tell me + +im not allowed to eat with them or go on holiday with them i have to go stay with someone else when they go on holiday and that person always hates having me there. they stop talking when i try to join a conversation or they move away to talk somewhere else + +i dont know what i did wrong as a baby to make everyone hate me so much + +i get what the law says they have to give me like food and education and medical care and only that, no more. no love, no conversation, no hugs, no nice stuff my siblings get, unless its a hand me down from them and no cousins wanted it",0 +6521,"Just found out my wife (28) has diminished ovarian reserve. Will we be able to have kids?. My wife just found out today that she has a diminished ovarian reserve. She is 28 years old and very healthy. Aside from an eating disorder when she was in high school, we are not sure what may have led to this and what it means for us now. We are waiting on lab results to verify AMH and another lab. + +We were just 2 months from starting to try for a baby, which we were so extremely excited for. It has been our absolute dream to be parents. Now, we are petrified that we may never be able to have children of our own. + +Can someone please help us figure out what we can expect and if anything can be done to give us a better shot at fulfilling our dream of being parents? Thank you all so much, this has been a heartbreaking possibility that shocked us today.",0 +6522,"Would you share your lottery money with your family. If you won the lottery, would you share your money with your family",0 +6523,"I’m not sure how to feel about this. So I (18F) went to go to lunch with my family visiting from Texas. They all have pretty strict diets including anything from no food dye to no gluten. When we went to order, my mom had told me not to order anything besides water (even though I could pay for it myself), in order to not make any of the kids feel bad that they got water. Every time my mom and I spend time with them she always makes me cater to their diet by eating and drinking the same things as them, regardless if I pay or not. How should I feel about this?",0 +6524,"I know I’m the least favorite child. I (15f) know I am my parents least favorite child. I have two older sisters (24f) (20f) both of which seem to have no survival skills at all, they both live at home and do nothing to help around the house other than the occasional chore, they both get their college paid for free and the younger one doesn’t even have a job. They both have no plans to move out or get a real job they also spend money like it grows on trees. My parents have made me do chores for a long time now, ut wouldn’t be as annoying if I got paid but I don’t even get paid a dollar. I’m constantly doing chores and when I complain they yell at me, just today I was eating while watching a movie and my dad kicks me out if his seat and then he stubs his toe on the vacuum cleaner my oldest sister just used we are all sick with Covid but since my dad is feeling better we all must be feeling better, anyway I start to get up after he hurts himself and he yells at me to vacuum the stupid house and then put it away, I quite literally asked my sister to put away the vacuum not even 5 minutes before and she literally says no and walks away. After he yells at me I run to my bedroom and start crying because this isn’t the first time this has happened where my sister says she doesn’t want to do something and my father puts it on me to do. Another thing is this past school year I got mono in September and missed a bunch of school because I kept getting sick every week with something new like eye Infections ear infections and even a nasal infection. That whole time I was sick my dad made me do chores every single day I wasn’t at school, like if I am sick I should be laying in bed getting better, but the thing that makes me even more mad is he doesn’t have my sisters do almost anything during that time. I have explained to him multiple times I don’t feel good and I just want to lay down and he says he doesn’t care and that it would just take a minute but after that minute chore there’s about 300 other one minute chore. This is honestly just the start of me complaining online. What should I do? I’ve told my mom and dad how It makes me feel and it gets better for a day and then goes back to the way it was.",0 +6525,"I hate my sister as a parent. My sister is 38 years old, I am 25 (no kids) nephew is 7 and the only child within our immediate family. I’ve adored my nephew his whole life but I HATE my sister’s parenting style. She is such a disciplinarian and goes on full blown tangents, no matter who’s around. Also a spanker. It’s quite embarrassing and annoying as a spectator because the behavior NEVER warrants the reaction. She has been like this his whole life, he now acts with bad behavior at school and somehow doesn’t see that SHE is the problem. We used to live together when he was age 0-4 and she was that way even then. So much so I’d deliberately stay away from my own home as I could not handle the sound of baby cries and a woman yelling like a lunatic in response… for virtually no reason. It’s like she doesn’t have the patience to be s mother, and it honestly hurts my heart for my nephew. + +*Nephew drops ice cream cone* +Sister: *enraged tone* See you’re never careful, always making mistakes never getting ice cream again…. *continues to rant for 10 minutes* +*Nephew being playful and a literal child in a PRIVATE pool* +Sister: *yells louder than my nephew telling him how he needs to respect people at the pool. +*Nephew does something out of curiosity that’s not sitting down, shutting up and playing with toys* +Sister: *yells about how he always doing something and needs to sit down somewhere. +*Nephew is sad / upset about something* +Sister: *Little to no compassion, a lecture and somehow he’s doing something wrong and it’s his fault* +*Nephew at his soccer game trying to be normal with other kids* +Sister: *yelling at him from the sidelines, correcting everything he’s doing.. The only parent doing that* + +Because she seems to be such a nitpicker and hardly provides praise, every chance I get when I’m around I try to uplift, encourage and remind him that not everything is his fault. I’ve spoken to my sister about childhood trauma and how she truly could be affecting him — she still doesn’t see it’s HER the 38 year old adult that needs to do the role-modeling. + +I’m not sure the opinions of “gentle parenting” but regardless, why would anyone want to hang out with someone that is screaming at or belittling their child every chance they get? Her behavior is completely irrational and feels almost triggering. I think she thinks if she’s not being mean every 20 minutes then she is not being a good parent, like I really dont get it. When she invites me to do things with them I feel sick to my stomach because I want to be there for my nephew, but I can’t stand how overbearing and controlling she is. She really puts a damper on the while mood when she goes out of her way to “parent” FOR NO REASON. When I’m watching him alone, he’s literally not a problem, JUST A KID BEING A KID. + +Idk if i’m just ranting or what help could come from this but thank you for reading. I now have to decide if i’ll be spending the weekend with them at a summer camp. I would love to for my nephew but to be trapped listening to her spew criticism onto her son? Bone chilling. + +EDIT: I have ADHD (diagnosed as an adult, my family doesn’t know jackshit about mental illness) however, his school and my sister suspects that he may also have ADHD or autism because of his behavior. Wanting to medicate him..Though that diagnoses is a possibility, I literally think my sister takes 0 accountability in how her behavior influences his behavior for a diagnosis to even be accurate at this point 😅 Ugh",0 +6526,"Should I tell my mom I don't want her to babysit my infant because of her health issues?. She's had a ministroke, doesn't take care of her health, I think she's a danger to herself and in real danger of sudden death any year now not to mention falls due to not doing physiotherapy as advised with a torn tendon (caused from falling off a ladder, also something she shouldn't have been doing with a bad back). Overweight, possibly diabetic or prediabetic (can't imagine how not) but she's super excited about babysitting my 2 month old son. I've been dodging the issue, I don't want her to babysit him unsupervised. Am I right to think that? Should I tell her? + + +TL;DR My mom is extremely unhealthy, don't want her to babysit, what would you do/tell her?",0 +6527,"Tired of family asking for money. Ever since I started my business my family constantly is asking me for money. Even before i started it they did but now it’s worse. Every week my niece, sister, mother and girlfriend ask me for money. It is so draining. It’s usually only 15-20 dollars but I hate even seeing there name call me. It’s always asking for something. I can’t even have a conversation with my mother without her talking about money or how she doesn’t have money. I have about 40k saved up and I want to buy a multi family house soon as my mother is talking about moving in the other side. I do not want to do this as the point of getting a two family is to collect rent from the tenant. I recently broke up with my girlfriend because I got tired of paying for everything . I work really hard for my money and I feel like they can too. + + +How can I tell everyone don’t ask me for anything without sounding rude. This is mentally draining me.",0 +6528,"I want to start a family soon, but my parents don’t accept my marriage. I don’t know if I should cut off contact with my parents or let our parent / child relationship deteriorate.. I know I ultimately will be making this decision, but I need some input from an impartial party. + +My husband (28M) and I (28F) have been together for 11 years, married for 2.5. We started dating when we were in high school and my parents have never supported our relationship. My parents (68M & 63F) are Christian and I was raised Christian. (I am not Christian though, to be clear. I believe in a higher power, not God per say, but that’s not relevant to this.) The reason I bring in their religion is because that’s their reasoning behind not being supportive of us. + +My husband is trans and my parents say that they just can’t support LGBTQ+ because their God says it’s wrong. (I know plenty of Christian’s who are the exact opposite, so I am not placing blame on Christianity, but pointing out that my parents use that to justify why they aren’t supportive in any capacity.) It’s been a rollercoaster for the last 11 years with my parents. When my husband and I started dating he hadn’t came out as trans yet and I didn’t know my sexuality. Which caused problem with my parents (they were so stuck on me labeling myself as lesbian or bisexual, and they were so sure it was phase, blah blah blah) and they gave me ultimatums. They wouldn’t pay for my college (that they raised me with the intention of paying for my college) if I stayed with my husband, told me they’d pay for all of my living expenses if I left my husband, and so much more. + +I’ve had to tell them that I won’t stand for any disrespect towards my husband or our relationship, and they seem to have somewhat been good about it. They don’t offer to pay for my life if I leave him anymore. + +I also want to add when I say they don’t support me, or I want their support: I don’t mean I’m asking for them to decorate their house in rainbow flags, go to pride, and change their beliefs. I’ve only ever asked for them to physically be there and be civil for the sake of me, our parent / child relationship, and our future. I have spent the last 11 years splitting my holidays between my parents and my in-laws, tiptoeing around talking about my husband in any manner (a few years ago I stopped this, because I’m not going to act like he doesn’t exist), and getting married without my parents there. To top it off: They’ve never officially even met my husband. They’ve been in the same room once, and then when I moved out of my parents house at 18, my mother was within 10 feet of him and said incredibly rude things to him before she stormed off. + +There’s so much more and I don’t even know if any of that made sense. I’m struggling because I want to start a family soon and the way that my relationship with my parents has been is making me really buckle down and think about how it’ll continue in the future. I hope to have children, and if that happens I don’t plan on having my parents involved if our relationship doesn’t change dramatically. + +I don’t know if I should just completely cut them off, just cut off contact and deal with that emotional whirlwind, or if I should just let it fizzle out, for lack of a better phrase, and eventually I won’t be able to come over for holidays and phone calls / texts will be less frequent, at some point they’ll stop. My children won’t know their grandparents on my side of our relationship stays the same, and that kills me. I had a pretty decent relationship with my parents growing up. I was taken care of: home cooked food on the table, both parents, yearly vacations, I felt loved for the most part. Despite being incredibly sheltered and not having much privacy, I had a good childhood with my parents. + +I’ll stop here, otherwise I’ll keep going. If you’ve read this far, thank you for your time. + +I guess my questions, or areas I’m looking for input are: +-Should I cut them off or let it fizzle out? +-Anyone who has gone through something similar, or has had to / thought about cutting off their parents, how did you come to that decision? +-Have you had any luck with religious parents or family members who weren’t supportive, becoming supportive in any way? +-or the opposite, have you had to live your life with out your parent involved and how do you cope? + + +I am so lost, I really hope I get some help from this post. + +(TL:DR My parents don’t support my LGBTQ+ relationship, and I don’t know if I should cut them off.)",0 +6529,"My brother got back together with his baby momma. +My brother (30) had drinking issues, anger issues, and was just a very jealous person who would cause a lot of arguments with his baby momma (29, I think) so it was definitely not her fault and I put the blame on my brother. This was back in 2018 when they were still together. They were living in my parent’s studio home behind our house for a couple months with his baby momma while they barely had their baby. They were fighting everyday so she decided to move back with her parents. She’d come back all the time to work it out with my brother and at this point he was living back with us in our actual house, but she’d always be coming and going making a huge scene with their arguments (there was never any physical violence btw). I was 19 at this time and my parents would get involved and meanwhile I would be taking care of my nephew and try distracting him while all this shit was happening because it was a lot of yelling and slamming doors. But they officially break up later on. My brother is a wreck still but he eventually starts to get therapy and he’s doing a lot better now so I’m happy for him! + +Fast forward to now…my parents got a divorce and my brother and I live with my mom and my grandma since my mom has always been the better parent who cared for us more. And my brother had the convenience to have my mom take care of my nephew while he and his baby momma were working. I’m home most of the time so I help at times with my nephew and he’s not an easy child to say the least lol. + +My brother and his baby momma just got back together a week ago because they both got COVID and stayed isolated together but my nephew didn’t get it so my mom was the only one who could take care of him meanwhile since his other grandparents also had COVID. I helped take care of him too and like I said he’s a handful. + +I’m happy for both of them because I know how it feels to get back together with someone you really love so I have nothing to say about that and I can see how much my brother has been trying to change. HOWEVER, my brother is still a pretty jealous person and my mom and I both know how he is. The reasons for his jealousy is just based on stuff that doesn’t even matter like stuff that’s happened in the past. All the arguments him and his baby momma had were about her past relationships before they got together. She never cheated or did anything to hurt my brother. + +My brother had told my mom, grandma, and I that they’re gonna take things slow but it doesn’t seem that way. Idc if they take things slow or not but the issue I’m having is that she’s deciding to sleepover every single night. She’s here all day everyday. It’s not that I don’t like her or have an issue with her personally but I’m afraid one of these days my brother is gonna start an argument and it’s gonna be bad. My mom is also afraid it’s gonna happen and still needs to talk with him but doesn’t get the chance to because my mom recently started working and his baby momma is always here so she can’t really get a moment to talk to him privately. + +Another issue is that I don’t want them taking advantage of my mom. My mom already has been doing so much for them by taking care my nephew every single day while they both work. My mom is an amazing human being and thinks about her own kids and grandkids before herself so she tends to overwork herself. My brother doesn’t cook or clean EVER. The only thing I give him credit for is paying a good amount of rent but other than that he doesn’t do anything else around the house. His baby momma doesn’t really do anything either. I just want my mom to relax. I want my brother to just learn how to take care of himself because he’s grown and so is his baby momma. If she’s gonna be mostly living here then they should consider finding a place for themselves soon. His baby momma makes good money and my brother makes a decent amount so they can definitely afford a place. + +All in all I just want my mom to finally sit back and relax because she deserves it! She’s been in an awful marriage since she was 21 that she barely got out of being 52 and I want her to enjoy her time being stress free.",0 +6530,"Dad asks for money even though he has a job and supports no one but himself. I (20) started working August, it’s my very first job ever. I had to work because my parents can barely support me anymore, mom being jobless and dad barely gives me money. Sometimes he does, sometimes not. They are already separated and I live with my mom together with my stepfamily. I decided to obtain a job since my stepfather always throws me out of the house and my mom does nothing about it. Now that I've begun working, everyone has been nicer, even my stepfather, which makes me laugh even though it repulses me. My father started messaging me more frequently and would subsequently ask for money. Every pay day, he would do this. So now, my mum, dad, and cat each receive 20% of my salary, with the remaining 40% going toward my food and travel costs. I don't mind giving back to my parents, however, there are times when I wonder why my dad would ask me for money if he no longer supports me, makes more money than I do and he just supports himself, nobody else! I don't understand why he's always short on money since he lives alone. Is he acting fairly? Am I thinking rationally if I feel this way? + +Let me just ask for your opinion and let me know if I think wrong or not.",0 +6531,"Are these red flags about how my grandma doctor been acting?. OK, so he had been treating her for her heart problems. Once you got discharged, he personally drove her home. I know this, because I was there to pick her up, but she was already gone. Additionally, he was over with us this past Father’s Day weekend. We had a big dinner, then he went up to the room with my grandmother. As he was leaving, I was washing dishes, and he called me a moron for washing the dish with the soft side of the sponge. He has never befriended me, now he is taking my grandmother on a cruise for the next two weeks. Is it appropriate? Does it stand out as weird to you?",0 +6532,"7 mths pregnant and dumped - how to cope?. My partner has told me he no longer wants to be together. There is no changing his mind. I'm pregnant with my first baby with him, we live together. I'm going to lose my home, the life I thought I had. I'm reeling. And so afraid. Afraid to give birth alone/single, afraid I won't be loved again, especially as a single mum. I wanted babies because I wanted HIS babies... I don't want this. I wish he would change his mind. I am so broken and worn down. I have thought of suicide so much but I could never do that to the baby. I just want it all to stop. I am so tired of fighting and being strong. I am not strong enough for this. Life is exhausting and I am alone.",0 +6533,"Would you be upset if you had a long lost half sibling your mom never told you about. Let’s say you and your siblings found out that your guys mom had another kid before all of you guys that she gave up for adoption before she met your guys dad,would you and your siblings be upset with your mom for never telling you",0 +6534,"My brother doesn’t work, how do I nicely ask him to go find a job?. My brother is 26 years old. He got his pharmacist license last year but doesn’t want to work as a pharmacist because somehow it’s not his passion. He is currently living with my mother, she’s paying for his part-time car mechanic program (which lasts for about 2 years). He doesn’t care to even get a part time job or anything and my mom is very upset. She asked me to tell him to get a job because she’s done nagging her son for not doing anything but using her money. I mean my mom is literally paying for all of the household expenses (since my dad doesn’t work also). My brother will sometimes ask for mom’s money to treat his girlfriend a nice dinner here and there. I don’t want to be mean to him but by his age, he is supposed to be on his own right now, not under mom’s roof. I kinda feel like a hypocrite since I’m also borrowing my mom’s money for college; and I do hate that I’m a burden to my mom. What should I say to him so he can just go find a job to support himself? TL;DR",0 +6535,"my baby sister took her first steps today!. I'm beyond excited about this!! I (20F) am the second child to a family of 10 (8 children + parents) Growing up, I've seen 6 of my siblings take their first steps, but this one was different. + +I've often helped mom with childcare but the most I ever did was make some milk or put them to sleep like once every three months. The case was different for my youngest sister (1), who was born on the 7th month of pregnancy. It was also mom's 5th c section in a row (legally, up to 6 c sections are allowed here). That and the fact that the pregnancy period was the worst mom ever went through; even just walking would cause her to bleed heavily, not to mention that she had a miscarriage just a few months before that, and my brother (3 almost 4) was hardly 1.5-2 years old when she got pregnant, meaning her body just wasn't ready to carry another baby yet + +I've repeatedly mentioned that she and dad are very reckless and that she needs to take more care of herself, but she just loves children so much and never listens. Anyway when my sister was born, mom's body was weak as heck, as expected. My older sis is a med student so she couldn't help much, thus the responsibility was passed on to me (dad used to work in another city). + +I've been like a second mom to my sister, I fed her, changed her diapers, put her sleep (she slept on my bed almost every night, unless I was tired and asked my sister to take care of her instead, still it was me who would check on her if she woke up at night), stayed up with her when she was sick, woke up early in the morning to expose her to the sun as my mom couldn't breastfeed, took care of her while keeping up with my own studies and work. + +She turned 1 two months ago and started crawling around a month ago, gradually she started walking while holding on to stuff and today she finally took her first few steps without support towards me! I yelled in excitement like "" Dad! Did you see that?? She walked!"" I think my sister understood she did great because she sat down laughing and clapping her hands + +It was such a great moment! I am so proud of her! Can't wait to tell mom when she wakes up 😆 + +TL;DR: my baby sister, who I had taken care of like a second mom, took her first few steps towards me today and I couldn't be happier",0 +6536,"The sibling that doesn’t move away. I (24f) have 3 brothers that both moved away to different countries. Although I live on my own, I still live pretty close to my parents so when my brothers come to visit, they expect me to stay with them at my parents house so that we can spend time as a family. The issue is they always come at separate times so although for each brother it may be a total of a month out of the year where they’re putting their life on pause to visit their family - I have to do this for 3 months + my regular visits I do with just my parents. + +They visit expecting to be able to take my car whenever they want, ask me to cancel my plans, make plans on my behalf without letting me know ahead of time. So I wanna know if this is something isolated to my family and boundaries or if other siblings that stay behind have ever experienced this?",0 +6537,"Family. When I was 1 week old my mother passed away with child birth complications. My dad would say that she left to a “business trip” or left us, I think it was to make him feel like she was actually alive and breathing. + +After my mothers death, my dad started to take his work my seriously. Started to work longer hours, study even more. My dad is a surgeon. I wont specify the type of surgeon he is yet. + +He would say that “it was all his fault she didn’t make it”. Child birth isn’t part of his medical degree, I mean he didn’t go +To collage for the study’s of child birth or anything like in the child delivery field. He does know how it works. He had no control over it. It all happened so fast. + +Years passed by and he still hasn’t moved on. I get it. I think he has a crush on a nurse. A nurse that works in the hospital. She comes over sometimes and my dad always has the biggest smile on his face. + +He won’t admit that he has feelings for the woman. I see it in his eyes that he likes her. She is a remarkable woman. Truly amazing with a pure heart. + +My dad would always say that I was the only person he needs. I would like to believe it but I know soon I would be going to collage and medical school. Even in the area of Manhattan. I’ve got scholarships to many great schools. + +I am said to be graduating early. We’re both very proud of that. The woman is too.",0 +6538,"Mother not willing to take care of her personal health. So my mother that works all 5 days a week isn’t willing to take any medications that will help her diabetes. She is also deficient in iron and constantly drinks tea and coffee. I’ve been trying to convince her to take care of her personal health but she neglects it. Like she’s fed up with the treatment as if she ever tried. + +I’m assuming she’s kinda depressed and anxious since she’ll come home and still be on her feet when instead she should be resting. What should I do? I’m a part time student and I’m also working. And don’t like seeing her like this.",0 +6539,"Don't put off a conversation - you might not get another chance. My grandad died yesterday. It was a sudden heart attack whilst he was on a trip out the country to see a football game. The only blessing about it was that it was quick. He was in his 60s and was healthy so it was a shock, the last person youd expect in our family to have one. + +The worst part is I was thinking I should message him to catch up two weeks ago. I never did. The last time I saw him was October and the last time I messaged him was Christmas and new year for the usual well wishes. + +He told me when he came to visit me that he was scared he was loosing me, that we were drifting away. We never meant to let it get to that but once he moved away it was harder. He divorced my nan years ago and only about 5 years ago did he leave town. That's when I started loosing contact. I should have reached out more but I thought I had nothing to talk about. Even a quick hey how are you would have worked I see now. + +I have so many things i want to tell him, that I have a boyfriend now, that I hate uni but I'll stick it out, that I think I failed one of my exams, that I am going to learn to drive in the summer, that I'm going to dye my hair a different colour, I'm going to get more piercings, get a tattoo. + +I wanted him to see me graduate, get married, have a home, be able to drive, hell if I had them soon enough even kids. I thought I had time. + +I'm going to have regrets for the rest of my life about this. How I should have messaged him two weeks ago and not put it off. + +Your favourite team won their match today by the way, 2:0. I know you would have been happy about that. + +I'm going to miss you a lot grandad, I hope you were as proud of me as I was of you, I love you xxx + +TL;DR +I regret not catching up with my grandad before his unexpected death.",0 +6540,"I have eight siblings. I’m not joking. I am the oldest of nine, 6 boys and 3 girls. My dad always wanted a lot of kids as he only had one sibling and wished he had more. My mum always wanted a big family so yeah, here we are. Me and my siblings are all biological siblings meaning none of us are adopted or half siblings, our dad actually grounds any of us if we jokingly say that our siblings is adopted and also grounds us if we pretend the other doesn’t exist. I had to help my parents with my siblings once I turned 13, it was annoying at first because well I was 13 and had my own stuff to do, luckily my other siblings had to helped once they turned 13. To be honest when I started high school I didn’t want anyone to know I have eight siblings so I didn’t tell anyone I had but eventually people found out, people ask why I didn’t tell them to which I respond saying “ didn’t think it was that important”. + +Another thing is that we’ll one year apart from each other, so I’m 17 after me is my brother who’s 16 than after him is my sister who 15, mean the youngest is 9 years old. Growing up with eight siblings is fun and great, our parents weren’t strict or anything. Like bedtimes, they told us to be in bed by 8:00pm but didn’t say what time we had to be asleep by and with school, they always says to do our best, they never focused to do anything we didn’t want to like with homework they would encourage us to do it but if we didn’t do it, they wouldn’t be mad or anything. They parenting style was kind of free range, they really disagree with strict parenting, our mum says that strict parenting will make kids hate their parents when they’re older. And with dating they allow it, they was no rule of what age we’re allowed to date but of course they tell us to be care and told us to never cheat on our girlfriend/boyfriend, I think that’s the only thing they were really strict on besides that they weren’t strict. + +We weren’t really that spoil or anything, we were taught from an early age that we can’t always get what we want and there always supported our decisions. My siblings and I are always there for each other, I love my family. What do you think about my family",0 +6541,"Tired of family and being the second mom to little sister. I just wanted to get this off of my chest I'm currently 19 (turning 20 this summer) and ever since my sister was born I've taken care of her. She's 13 at the moment and I'm just fed up. I have to cook, clean, and basically be responsible for her. Heck I'm even involved with her education. I'm tired that she's been babied and spoiled growing up. She has the nerves to be lazy and not do things for herself and is toxic.My mom is busy working out of state and my brother and dad don't care at all doing their own thing. I even do the chores and do the all of grocery shopping. It's exhausting to the point I feel like a maid and caretaker. Hell I don't even want kids at all since I raised one since I was little. Sadly after I graduated (2021) couldn't go to school due to the fact I didn't have my license, bank, and enough money saved up. The amount of times I broke down and cried because of this whole situation growing up is too much for me to the point i'm fed up. While also dealing with stress, my depression, and anxiety I had to take care of my sister yet she's never been grateful or understanding at all but instead comments on my weight and have an attitude. My life so far has been miserable and I can't stand my family at all.I honestly don't know what to do to get out of this situation. + +Edit: my grammar isn't great sorry and thank you for the replies everyone!",0 +6542,"My grandma passed away yesterday and I keep texting her messages saying I love and miss her.. She passed away from cancer. She's been in my life since I was born. She always told me she loved me. She passed away yesterday and I gave her many hugs and kisses for my whole family. (My mom couldn't bare looking at her dead body). I've been staying strong for my mom so I haven't been crying and have been consoling her all day. Even took the day off from work. + +As an attempt to cope, I began texting her heart stickers and I love you messages on Facebook messenger knowing at the time she wouldn't see them. As the day progressed, I got more and more depressed. I started texting her crying stickers and I miss you messages. The worst part of it all is when I'm not on my phone, my brain thinks for just a second the check my pgne because my grandma may have replied to my messages and when I remember, my heart shatters. I can't stop crying.",0 +6543,"Am I a bad son if I don't loan money to my family?. I'm a 19 year old living in the Philippines and I have a high paying job. When the family knew about it, word spread like wildfire. So far 3 of my relatives keep asking for money because I'm ""A good son"" and my mom keeps bugging me to loan some to her as well. It's like they're taking me hostage sheer family pressure. I always keep denying them because I have plans on my own money. Now they call me a good for nothing arrogant of a son for it. Even though I buy them monthly some groceries for their needs. Am I a bad son? + +TL;DR, I have a good job and my family demands money from me and pressures me in doing so.",0 +6544,"Just discovered I have a half-brother. Where should we meet?. I (32f) took an ancestry test and a name showed up in my family tree that I didn't recognize. Come to find out, I have a half-brother (43m). He has decided he'd like to meet with me and my dad (67m) who is his biological father. Any suggestions on where to meet up? I figure we'll do a lot of talking. Is a restaurant okay? A park?",0 +6545,"I still could not forgive my mom for tapping our house telephone. It happened 15 years ago, and I still could not let it go. I didn't tell her I knew she tapped the telephone in the house, and I believe no one else except her in my family noticed that. She really crossed the line to me. +What would you do if you found out the same thing happens to you ?",0 +6546,"Don't ask me to repeat myself, please. I live with two adult siblings and my mom and we get along okay. It's just the way the talk to me that makes me wanna punch myself in the face. + +Like they'll ask what we should have for dinner and I'll throw out some suggestions and we'll agree on something and then five minutes later they're back, asking the same questions. And it happens over and over again, for everything. I've brought it up and tried to explain how it feels disrespectful to do that because it feels like they weren't listening or they really don't care what I have to say but they keep doing it. It's driving me insane + +How do I ask them to stop?",0 +6547,My MIL. my future mother in law told my fiancé grandmother that our engagement was fake. And it really pissed me off. This isn’t the first time we’ve had issues. she loves to play victim and stuff. and i’m just irritated,0 +6548,"Concerned about my bf's nephew killing an animal. TW: Animal death, violence + +I,39F, have been with my bf, 34M, for about 6 years. I grew up in a small town then moved to a small city, where I lived until about 8 years ago. +I get along well with his family for the most part. His family are kind of like the stereotypical ""redneck"" country family that love the outdoors, hunting, etc. +I've noticed some things that I find odd about his family previously, but I'm also wondering if it's just the area we live in & perhaps some for lack of a better word ""cultural"" differences? I don't like to judge people just because I was raised differently than they. +Over the weekend, we went to have dinner with his family & picked up his nephew, 13, who had had a sleepover at a friend's house about a mile from our house. +In the vehicle, he was telling us about his weekend. Sounded like a good time. Then he got to a story about a rabbit. +He said he & his friend were chasing a rabbit through the woods with the friend's dog. The dog caught the rabbit by the leg, but it was still alive. The nephew was smiling & was explaining how him & this other boy stomped the rabbit to death, figuring it would've died anyways. At first. I'm thinking. Ok, a mercy killing... although it sounds kind of unmerciful. I had commented ""why didn't you go get a knife or gun or something..."" but then let it drop. +Don't get me wrong. I am a hunter & I like to fish. What I kill, I eat, & we use what we can ( the hide to make gloves, etc.) +We arrive at his grandparents house & have dinner & are talking. That's when the nephew starts to talk about this rabbit again. Yal, he has a video of him & his friend literally stomping on this rabbits body & head with their sneakers, until the rabbit stops moving. I have never seen anything so disturbing before. The kid is kind of laughing & all his grandpa says is ""oh tenderizing it huh.. did you make stew or anyhting?"" No. They left it there. Then I remembered a time before when the boy had talked about shooting small animals with his bb gun before.. mostly nuisance animals like red squirrels they don't want on the property because they can be so destructive to structures. But he would shoot birds & stuff too... +Then I'm piecing together a time when his brothers cat ""went missing"" & it was later discovered it had been brought to a shelter with a gunshot wound to its leg. +This boy seems incredibly nice & is helpful. But I am finding all of this extremely disturbing & his family just kind of shrugs their shoulder's about it. +Is this like totally normal behavior for country boys or something?? + +TL;DR My bf's 13 yo nephew & friend took a video of themselves laughing & stomping a rabbit to death, claiming that it was a mercy killing after a dog caught it by the leg. And now I'm wondering if he enjoys torturing small animals because he's always shooting birds & squirrels. But also his brothers cat went missing before but was found later with a gunshot wound to it's leg. I am getting a lot of red flags here.. but his family acts like it's nothing...",0 +6549,"My mom made me laugh so hard last night.... She came knocking on my door with beets she just cooked. + +Thanx! i said. + +Then she said \`do you want me to peel them for you? + +I'm a 42 year old, self-employed man living in his own house. + +I laughed for the whole evening thinking about how ""overly caring mommy"" she was...lol.",0 +6550,"My mom won't stop until I yell and explode in rage. My mom is currently living with me; 80% we are okay; but she has this incessant urge to constantly control me, tell me what to do, complain and whine I am still unmarried and the list goes on and on. My usual reaction is initially I will ask her to stop politely, she won't, ""mom stop"" again calm and politely and I repeat this easily a few times BUT she won't. And then that's it; I explode in anger, it's like a rage I don't see myself having; now she stops, but I go on for a few minutes yelling, screaming and saying all the shitty things and then I calm down. This episode makes me very tired and exhausted. I calm down, she is quiet and usually gets away from me. + +This happens every week; like every week and it will repeat. I am an advocate of kindness and compassion and even meditate. But, some how my mom's behavior bypasses everything and brings out this really horrible human in me. I never yell or shout or show this level of anger to anyone else BUT my mom. + +Can anyone relate? What can I do? + +I don't know what to do or how to handle this.",0 +6551,"I’m not sure if my father is treating me like most dads treat their children. Hello. This is my first time posting, so apologies for any mistakes. This post isn’t very organized, but I did the best I could do at this time. + +I’ve grown up with a dad with a short temper. I have a couple of older sisters and quite a few other close family members I grew up with. Nobody really talks about my dad’s temper, but we all know about it. It’s like an elephant in the room. It makes me wonder if this is normal in a family or not. + +It was a lot worse when I was younger. I got yelled at on a regular basis. I don’t remember much of when I was little, but I do recall some things I consider to be pretty messed up. For example, if me or one of my other young family members accidentally dropped a piece of food in the car, it was game over. My father would yell and the entire trip afterwards would be filled with dead silence. If one of us got upset and began to cry because of the yelling, he would just get angrier. It became common knowledge that crying is the last thing that should be done in that sort of situation. + +It’s gotten better over the years, but it still is not where I’d like it to be. His fits of anger are more spread out and he apologizes afterwards, but in all honesty, after 17 years, it’s gotten pretty old. I tell him that I forgive him because I do not want to make him mad again, but I really don’t forgive him. It’s exhausting. + +For context about what he does more recently, my dad will aggressively shove, throw, and/or slam things when he gets angry. I always reflexively jump or gasp, but I try not to make it too noticeable because I don’t want him to get angrier. Sometimes after he yells, he’ll mutter stuff under his breath, which makes me more nervous. As much as I try, it’s difficult to hold back my tears. Every time he sees me crying afterwards, he does a big sigh and stomps out of the room. He usually later returns and apologizes, trying to hug me and ask if I forgive him. He says things like “I’m a bad dad,” which just make me feel worse overall. + +My best friend’s dad seems to be much different. Maybe it’s different when I’m not around, but I honestly cannot imagine him doing that at all. He’s very calm and kind. He and my friend seem to have a decent relationship and in all honesty, I envy it. + +Anyway, other than this, my dad isn’t bad. He supports my hobbies and stuff. He’s supportive and plans to help me pay for college, etc. I don’t know. I guess I’m just asking if this is abusive, normal, or something else. Thank you to anyone who took the time to read, writing this out has made me feel a bit better. + +TL;DR: My dad yells a lot. He throws and slams things when he gets mad, which isn’t terribly rare. Is this normal behavior for a father?",0 +6552,"My brother is in a toxic relationship for over 5 years now and now he wants to live together with his girlfriend. I don't know what to do.. So as the title suggests, my (M20) brother (M23) has been in a toxic relationship with his girlfriend (F21) for over 5 years now and they now want to move in together. I will start explaining the whole story from the beginning here. It's a lot to unpack, so my apologies for the (very) long read. + +5 and a half years ago my brother came home with his girlfriend. She seemed nice, had some friends in school, was into sports and seemed like someone who you'd think was a decent girl for my brother. At that point in time, we were all going to the same highschool so we could talk about some things we had in common there. + +However, after the first few months, I started noticing the first red flags. Whenever they were texting, it seemed like she made problems out of certain things that weren't that big of a deal. For example, when my brother wanted to go to friends but she wanted to hang out with eachother, she would get mad, even though they didn't plan to hang out in the first place. It seemed weird to me, but I thought it wasn't that big of a deal at that time. + +Over time, the controlling and unreasonable behaviour got worse. The main issue became that it looked like that she was not able to see certain issues from someone else’s point of view. For example, she had a male friend from the local pizza place where she worked, where she would be at his place meeting up with only him until 5am in the morning. When my brother said something about that, that he did not like the idea of her spending the night with another guy alone, she did not see any problems with that. Meanwhile, he could not even meet with a group of friends, because she wanted to claim him for the evening. In that period, he told her and even me many times that he missed seeing his friends that much and that he did not like it that she would be standing in the way every time he wanted to meet with them. However, she did not see the problem, made it look like it was the problem of my brother, and it always was his fault (which he told me he found really hard to deal with, since my brother has always tried his hardest for his girlfriend) and would not stop behaving the way she did, which eventually led to my brother barely seeing his friends outside of school and sports anymore. + +Ultimately, after 2 and a half years together, my brother really got enough of it. He tried talking to her about these problems countless times, but it would only help for a few days, only for her to be unreasonable again and to try to control him afterwards. At a certain point, he broke up with her. I was supportive and there for him, but I also expressed my happiness, because it was better for him being out of that relationship. He acknowledged that, we talked about other things he didn't like about her and being with her, but also how he missed her and felt empty. I thought that would be the end of all of it. + +About a month later, they got back together. Honestly, I couldn't believe it and didn't understand why, but they were and although it seemed like the relationship was better than before, it soon got way worse. In my opinion, she turned more (mentally) abusive. Let me explain why. + +First of all, she calls him ""fatty"" (the Dutch equivalent) as a joke all the time. The problem is that my brother is insecure about his body and used to be overweight until he was 15 years old. He has asked her many times to stop calling him like that, and even though she might have stopped with calling him fatty that frequent, to this day she still does. You can clearly see in his facial expression that he doesn't like it when he's called that, but still she continues doing it. + +It feels like whenever my brother says something that does not follow the guidelines in her head, she instantly becomes angry and plays the victim role. +For example, my brother's girlfriend sometimes hits my brother in a ""jokingly"" way, where for instance my brother makes a joke and she hits him on the arm saying ""staahppp itt"". Depending on how hard and everything this might (?) be okay, but me and my brother have a history with domestic violence where we would get hit by our father, so for us it's not. He already told her many times that he doesn't like it when she hits him like that, but yet still she continued doing it. One time my brother got hit again a bit hard (even though it was meant as a joke), he had enough and grabbed her by the arm to firmly ask her to stop doing it. She responded by getting her stuff, going downstairs (where I was sitting in the living room) and smashing the door shut behind her. I immediately went to my brother's room asking what happened and he explained everything, but it felt so stupid that she was the one who did something bad and still she played the victim role. + +There are a lot of other things that she did, which i think definitely crossed the line. Moments where she got mad for no reason, acted unreasonable or just acted very unrespectful. I will give some examples of the most important events. + +One day my brother and I were working together in a phone shop as a summer job. His girlfriend visited him during work, and they had a bit of small talk together, nothing weird. After a while she asked him if he wanted to hang out that night, but my brother told her that he was thinking about going to a barbecue with his friends, but wasn't sure yet on whether or not to go. She instantly got mad at him, and asked him if he was really considering visiting that barbecue over hanging out with her. My brother told her that he was just thinking about it and he didn't know the answer just yet. That's when she got even more angry and stormed off out of the phone shop, just because he was considering his choices. Not only was this something very unrespectful, but also humiliating, since there were some other customers watching and hearing it all happen. What makes this even more outrageous is that my brother went after her, bought her flowers (it should be the other way around?!), and made up with her. My brother always seems to be too good for her. When she's the one misbehaving, he is the one that's apologizing. + +Also, I have the feeling she does not communicate well with me, my girlfriend, or other people in my household. Most of the times when she visits or leaves, she doesn't say hi or bye to us, unless my brother says something along the lines: ""are you going to say goodbye?"". Whenever she tells a story or you're having a conversation with her, she talks towards my brother and keeps minimal eye contact with you. She sometimes interrupts us when we're trying to say something, doesn't include us in conversations and it doesn't seem like she tries to. +One time, I came home, and I wanted to tell how my selection procedure went for becoming a fighter pilot, something I was really ambitious about. Since there is a strict selection procedure for becoming a fighter pilot, and it was difficult to get accepted for the job, it was something very important in my life. At home, my girlfriend, my brother and his girlfriend were there. My brother immediately asked how it all went and I started talking about it. In the meantime, my brother's girlfriend didn't bother to pay attention to the story and continued to watch TV, which was on when I came home. I really tried to include her in the story, make eye contact with her, but she didn't bother. I found it weird, since this was a major life event for me, but I continued. At one point, however, she interrupted me to tell my brother to look at something that happened on TV, and my brother responded with ""haha, yeah"" and continued listening. 2 minutes later she interrupted with ""Look! Look! This is what i meant the other day!!"". My brother told her that he was trying to listen to my story, and she got silent and looked a bit irritated. I just continued with my story, but I found it very rude of her. She ignored me being there, even though I was telling something very important to me. + +Some other example: It was my birthday on Monday and we got the message that the dad of my girlfriend had been in contact with someone with covid on Saturday. We happened to be in contact with my girlfriend's dad Sunday. When we notified everyone that that was the case before we came to the house to celebrate my birthday, my girlfriend's brother decided that she did not want to come to our house, and she said that she did not want my brother to come to my birthday either. He did not see any risks, because of the short timespan that all of this happened, so he decided to come, but he had to promise her to keep his distance. On the one hand, I understood it, because safety first in covid times, right? However, a few weeks prior, my girlfriend had a runny nose and we were together the whole day with the three of us (so my girlfriend, my brother, and me). When my brother’s girlfriend heard that my girlfriend had a runny nose, she immediately came to our house to pick up my brother, so that they could go to her house together. This felt a bit weird, because, if you are so afraid of covid, why would you want to pick up your boyfriend that has had contact an entire day with someone who potentially has covid? And currently he might have covid as well, and she is okay with being around him too. It just feels a bit like she is using and bending certain information and arguments to get things her way (so not having to go to my birthday, but having my brother for herself when she wants it). + +I also want to share just a small side story about something that was also just really weird. One evening me and my brother were just gaming, when she came into the house via the back door. She closed the door and when she saw us gaming, she stopped and stood in the entrance just staring sternly towards us. I didn't understand what was happening and asked my brother what was going on and what she was doing. He stood up went to talk to her. I could not really hear what they were saying, but he was talking with a bit of a higher pitched voice (he always does that when he's apologizing to her), and she was just mad. When he walked back towards me she went into our backyard to grab her bike and leave again, but waited and stared at us for another 10 minutes. My brother told me that he had said to her that he could not meet with her, because he had to do his school work. He actually needed to do his school work, but he just took a break to game with me. Even though it might have been longer than he should've taken a break, it doesn't justify her extremely weird behaviour. +Sometimes my brother does make up excuses so that he does not have to meet up or talk to her. For example by saying he is going to bed, so she is going to bed as well, so that he can have some time for himself or with me. Imo It seems unhealthy that she does not leave him alone until he really is doing something she cannot be a part of. + +A similar kind of thing happened with Christmas. We all said that we would meet with our family on Christmas’ Eve, because everyone had other plans on the other days with their families or friends. When we were done with eating and giving presents, we wanted to do the games that we had gotten each other that night. We asked my brother’s girlfriend to play along with us, but she didn't want to. I thought that was pretty sad, but okay. After only like 20 minutes she asked my brother to stop playing and go to bed with her. It was around 11pm, so it was a bit early if you ask me, since we only saw each other on Christmas’ Eve (they would also get away with New Year’s Eve and Day, so we would not see them before the next year), but it was alright if she felt that tired. The problem was that she did not want to go to bed by herself, which was a bit annoying, because we wanted to play a game with everyone, including my brother. They compromised (compromising is something my brother has also told me he is tired of doing in their relationship) and we would play one round and then they would go to bed together (she still did not participate though). However, we did not know the rules of the game so the first round was an explaining and quick round. When my brother proposed to do a ‘real’ round, because now we all understood the game, she just stared at him angrily, like she did at the gate. He did not see it but me and my girlfriend did and we looked at each other like ‘what the heck is she doing?’. When we wanted to play one more quick round after that, she looked at him the same way again, this time he noticed that and they went off to go to bed. + +Next to these big events, there are also smaller things that I think shows that they're obviously no fit for eachother. My brother is very open-minded, she is rather narrow-minded and wants things her way. My brother likes to taste food and try new things, she eats only very selective few foods, and also doesn't want to even try things she thinks she won't like. Also when having dinner, we always serve the food on our own plates in the kitchen, and then take a seat around the table. She however, always stays seated and lets my brother do it for her, which I find kind of weird (my brother also told me that he doesn't like that he always has to do these kind of things for her). Also, whenever she thinks she isn't going to like what is being served, she lets my brother make her a sandwich instead. It's like she acts very dependent, even though she shouldn't be. + +There are a lot more things that happened that are out of line, but these examples were the most important ones. I had multiple conversations with my brother about some of the things I think are wrong in their relationship, even one about 2 months ago, where he agreed with almost everything I said. First he wanted to defend her, about how me and my girlfriend never gave her a chance. However, we most of the time are the ones to invite them to things and we never get anything ‘in return’ from her (my brother does propose to do something now and then, just not his girlfriend). When we had that conversation, he started to agree more with me, and when I asked him if she is the girl he wanted to marry, he said ""no, at this moment I don't think I would want that"". I responded that after 5.5 years into a relationship, it felt off that he still did not think she was the girl for him to marry. He even started talking about the complications if they broke up, because they have some shared items (for example a Nintendo Switch) and on what to do with those things. After this conversation I really thought that the relationship was going to end soon, because it really sounded like it. But, according to my brother, after one conversation between them, everything became clear and everything was alright with them. Let me be clear, it has not gotten any better. Now, yesterday, they started talking about how they were looking for a place to live together. I just feel like the bubble that she has already created (I am lucky if I see him once a week), is going to just grow bigger and bigger, which may lead to him finding these things more and more normal, leading to me eventually losing my brother and my strong connection with him because of her. + +If he was happy with her, and their relationship was just about equality, then I would not comment about it. But I cannot do nothing and sit tight, because I see my brother being manipulated and almost emotionally abused. Maybe it sounds like I'm only picking the bad times to talk about, but to be honest, there aren't genuine fun moments I experienced when she was around. Of course we do not see everything, but that goes both ways. We may not see the good parts of the relationship, like my brother always claims we don’t when I bring up the relationship, but I also think that there is way more bad things going on than I already know. I think we gave her many chances for a very long time, and tried to look at it objectively, but as they now are talking about living together, I believe it is time to step up and protect him from her and himself. I really would like some advice on what to do, for him, but also how I can help him to see what the outside world sees. + +TLDR; My brother is in a toxic relationship and now they want to live together. There are a lot of bad things his girlfriend does and in the way his girlfriend misbehaves. I don't know what to do.",0 +6553,"Neglectful toxic parents. I’m 29 yo and I have 4 younger siblings, we’re a typical Arab conservative family My parents hate each other and they are both neglectful of the house needs and my siblings’, they are also emotionally, verbally and occasionally physically abusive which caused me and my siblings chronic anxiety and depression. I am married and I don’t live with them but my siblings still do, they have always been dependent on us to take care of each other and I am constantly worried about my siblings as 2 of them are still minors, legally the girls are under their control and I occasionally help them in whatever way I can. How can I deal with this endless situation? It’s causing me severe depression and it’s affecting my husband and daughter.",0 +6554,"Am i wrong for how i reacted and dealt with the situation?. + +For context: + +Me (26m) and my sister (32f) have always had a really good relationship with one another. We helped each other out when needed, myself more due to availability. I would often spend time at her place and look after her kids when they were sick. + +When I was at her place I would always clean up her kitchen because it was always nasty (days worth of dishes and old food) + +There were times when she would tell me off if some water got on the counter or a table saying it could ruin it. Similar things would happen if i were to sit on the couch using a blanket or a pillow for comfort, or even laying down. + +Saying things like ""those are only for decoration"" or ""you can't use that one, use this instead"". Which to me was always weird since if it's there, it's there for a reason and you should be able to use it. This is something that she did constantly for years, I would ask why she would have it if it can not be used, but I never pushed it or got angry with her since it was her home. + +To the story: + +About a week prior to the conflict, she had come to visit and I was driving with her in the front seat and her two kids in the back. I am an overly safe driver, even more so with children in the car. + +There were multiple times when she would scream / yell loudly to watch out for a car or a pedestrian. I told her to stop since it was making me nervous and the children as well. It could also lead to an accident by having me distracted, I explained. + +Eventually, I ended up pulling the car into a parking lot and telling her to stop or I would have to ask her to get out of the car. As I was not comfortable, nor did I feel safe having her as a passenger. + +The catalyst was when we were celebrating christmas. On multiple occasions over 3 days, she berated me for putting a cup on the table or countertop. Her reasoning being that it would mark the counter. +(There were no coasters available, might I add, I also only had water. My parents also had drinks but weren't told off) + +My sister and her SO have a couple of wood burning stoves in the new house. She had shown me how to use it as I had asked the day before. The following night I asked if I could light it since it was freezing cold where I was going to sleep. +As someone who knows how to light wood burning stoves I assumed that my sister would trust me enough to safely light a fire in the stove. (As our dad would be allowed to) I was wrong, and she said that I was not allowed to do it and refused to give me a reason why. As well as, snatching away the lighter from my hands and went upstairs to light the stove herself. +I ignored it because I didn't want to make a scene in front of the kids + it was christmas. + +The moment I had had enough was when she came up to me and screamed that I was “ruining the carpet” since it was bulging slightly from being moved forwards when I had sat down on the couch and leaned back with my feet on the ground. After that, I was just done. I promptly stood up without saying a word, got dressed and went outside and sat in the car until the following morning when I could leave. (there was a snowstorm so I couldn't leave earlier) +Our parents came out to me multiple times trying to comfort and encourage me to come back inside the house. I politely declined explaining why i wouldnt come back inside and everything else that has happened over the years and how I truly felt about it. +My sister came out asking me to come inside so we could have a talk about what happened. I said no, explaining that I would not be able to keep myself together and I wouldn't want the kids to see me like that, nor us fighting. +I have not spoken to her nor opened her messages since christmas. She has made no attempt to apologize or acknowledge how she made me feel. +The only two messages she has sent me have been about irrelevant things. +*It was very emotional for me, because at that point I couldn't tolerate her behavior towards me anymore. I have done nothing wrong and have always tried to be on the best side as a brother. As well as a guest. It was years of pent-up comments and continuously making me feel like I have done something wrong. I don't feel like an adult around her, I feel like a child.* + +TL;DR: I´ve decided to not speak with my sister until she realizes how much she hurt me and apologizes / acknowledges how i feel. +AITA for what I did / how I reacted?",0 +6555,"My Brothers are not talking to each other because brother A (married ) said that mom food taste very bad and then brother B (single) said that this is because you get used to shitty food(his wife food). [Sorry for my bad English] + +So last week my two brothers started this stupid fight, brother A (married ) said that mom food taste very bad and then brother B (single) said that this is because you get used to shitty food and that mom food will always be the best. Brother A got very mad and said that his wife food is not shit and told brother B to stop saying shit like this and then he stopped talking to brother B. +Brother B tried to start a normal conversation the next day but brother A didn’t go along with it and he said that he won’t talk to brother B unless he apologize for what he said about his wife food. + +Brother A lives abroad and this is the first time we see him in three years and then this happen :( +I was looking forward for happy family times and I don’t know what to do.",0 +6556,"My dead dad's evil sisters.. In 2018 my dad died. As he was dying in the hospital, his sisters went into his place and stole all of his stuff. Guitars, tvs... you name it. At first they told my brother and I it was ""to protect his items being taken by his landlord"", but later we realized they just wanted all of his items. My brother and I have NOTHING of our dads now, not even something as simple as a t-shirt. Even worse, when we tried to debate them for his stuff back, they looked for ways to make things worse. For example, they had the audacity to hold a small, private funeral for him without inviting us. Before we knew it, we had a bill in the mail sent to us for his funeral costs saying ""because you are next of kin, you can pay for this"". It still disgusts me to this day.",0 +6557,"Need advice on how to support my mom. My parents have been fighting a lot every single day so I try to stay out of the house- usually it’s my dad who provokes her, won’t go away when he’s clearly upsetting her (she’s actually screamed at him to go away a few times too), or isn’t helping around the house much- sometimes my mom also gets upset because he hasn’t been employed for 4 years now and we are in a financial struggle with 2 kids in college and a loan for the house and one for a car, and my mom is the sole supporter of our house. Today I was home , I heard my mom’s heart wrenching pleads to my dad to find a job (he has been unemployed for 4 years now, hasn’t even been trying to pick up small jobs like be a tutor) and he didn’t even seem to care. I’m so tired, hurt, and stressed for my mom that she has to deal with so much mental pressure and pain. I have a minimum wage job and try to help out with minor things like some food/ extracurricular class wages here and there, but I wish I had more ideas for something more I could do. + +I physically can’t talk to my dad due to bad PTSD, but I would greatly appreciate any advice on how to manage this situation. I know he might be stressed too, but I cannot interact with him and I’m just angry. + +TL:DR how can I help my mom in a clearly abusive relationship with my unemployed dad?",0 +6558,How do I (then 10)deal with sexual childhood trauma caused by elder brother(then 16) ?. I was numb and did not know what to do. I left from the room and since then have never spoken to anyone about it,0 +6559,"Struggling with family and how to support my suicidal brother. TL;DR: Difficult family dynamic. Don't know how to support suicidal brother. + +BACKGROUND + +Me and my two brothers had a difficult upbringing. Mum was emotionally unavailable and vulnerable, a victim of domestic abuse for much of it and working 7 days a week in a minimum wage job for much of it. Didn't get much love care and attention. She would self-harm (cutting) and I would support her as a 9-12 year old as best I could. I looked after my younger brothers a lot and babysat from age 10. My nickname was mum. Stepdad sexually abused me. + +My little brother B had anger problems and outbursts (threatening other family members with a knife on a couple of occasions) from 5 to 12 years. There were a lot of professionals involved in our childhood in addition to bailiffs and police and creditors. + +My social anxiety was bad and self esteem shaking but I moved out as soon as I could and kept some distance from the family until my brother P attempted suicide 7 years ago, mum suggested he come stay with me for a couple nights (I suggested sectioning but she was opposed). I had some good quality time with brother P but sadly I hadn't the emotional skills to support him. 3 months later he died suddenly. It was thought to be suicide initially but was found to be SADS. + +I then made lots of effort with family and despite being with an abusive partner, I gave the time and energy I could to them. + +A year after brother P's death, brother B attempted suicide. I took the train to visit him in hospital and offered help, money for therapy and told him how much I loved him. I paid for 12 weeks therapy which he said was great and was enough to support him and I was pleased he seemed better. + +2 years ago brother B married and it was the best day of my life. His partner is a bit nasty and controlling (I now see) but I was happy that he seemed happy. My mum was happy that he seemed happy. + +A year ago, after I get out of my abusive relationship (which my family knew about but didn't comment on), I get into a healthy relationship with an assertive and kind person. We got married 6 months ago and although my mum claimed to like my partner, she chose our wedding day to publicly humiliate and berate them. It was traumatic and terrifying and all those childhood feelings of fear came flooding back. My sister in law joined in shouting and screaming while my partner cried and my brother was quiet and lost. I was suicidal and have been in weekly therapy since then. I'm getting more grounded. After my wedding, I went to see mum to ask her gently to explain her outburst. Mum said that my partner was too quiet and dismissive and ruined her evening with my brother. I was shocked and sad and felt very low. Then mum asked for distance so I hid her and sister in law from my social media updates (not that I was posting much). This made them angry. I got invited to a family party at mums. I said I'd love to go but was too upset. Tried to be gentle about it. This led to my mum blocking my number after a single message to say she couldn't cope with this. + +My brother has since called to say he doesn't like that me and mum aren't speaking. I said I need her to apologise for verbally abusing my partner on our wedding day in front of all our guests. He says she won't but he wants all to be back together. I cannot bring myself to forget the abuse and disrespect which was just a continuation of neglect from childhood. I understand my mum had a rough upbringing and that mine was marginally better but she can't berate me like that!? + +She asked me to meet for coffee a couple months ago. I said sure it would be good to talk. We met. I asked her why she acted how she did at my wedding and she said she refuses to take responsibility and accused my partner of being controlling. This makes sense as I was a doormat for my previous partners so my mum can't handle seeing me stand up for myself and be with someone healthy. + +I love her SO much. I've supported her emotionally and financially over the years and this is the first time I've ever said no to her. She walked out of the coffee meet before the coffee even arrived saying she couldn't handle it. + +Brother becomes hard to reach, deletes apps and unresponsive to messages checking in. I give him space and ease off on the messaging. Brother calls my partner up drunk and says he wishes it was me mum and him back together as a family. My partner explains that I've been really hurt by what has happened and want an apology from my mum. He hangs up. Sister in law then messages me a week later to say me and partner have really upset him. I don't respond to her. + +I sent a Christmas card and wrote him a poem which I folded and put in the card. By Christmas morning I'd not heard anything so I called and called. Seemed like he'd blocked my number. I decided to email! He responded to my email to say he hadn't got my calls or messages but loved me very much and wished me a merry Christmas. + +LAST NIGHT + +Brother was found on a bridge, overdosed and with alcohol poisoning. I find this out through a family friend who calls me. Sister in law and mum don't contact me. I'm told he's lost his phone. + +I've sent my brother an email almost as long as this post to say how I love him and how amazing I think he is as a human, how proud I am and that he can talk to me if he likes or just hang out if that's what he wants. I said I just want to help him be well in a way that suits him. + +What can I do when it seems my mum and his wife want to keep me away from him? How can I support my brother? I feel so pained by him feeling so low. + +Thank you for reading.",0 +6560,"How to deal with out of touch family members taking it personally that we moved a bit far for financial reasons. To cut a very lengthy story shortish, my husband and I as well as our two kids with our third on the way (and our cat Sierra) just bought a house in an area that's a little bit remote from where the rest of my family is living. + + +Just at the beginning talks Of us planning to buy this house, my mother was so upset she didn't speak to me and canceled Thanksgiving, Christmas etc and has only recently reached out to me as of this week. + + +I've also spoken to my aunt and my grandma and basically the consensus of all three of them is that we moved way too far away and that we will never see them again because we're too far away to visit. + + +I find this a bit ludicrous because my mom is living about two and a half hours away from my grandma and my aunt, and where we live is about 3 hours away. Not only that but to get to where we live there is no traffic and to get from where my mom lives to where my grandma and aunt lives there is a ton of traffic so sometimes it can take even longer to get between those two locations; but from either where my grandma and aunt lives and where my mom lives it takes about 3 hours to get to where my family just bought our house. + + +My mom is always going over to my grandma and my aunt's houses because she helps them a lot. Keep in mind these people are all born in the 50s or earlier so they are very out of touch with how hard it is to afford renting and everything in our current world especially because my husband (main income earner) is on temporary disability due to a terrible car accident. + + +So yeah they are all taking it very personally that we bought this house down here. My mom is being very melodramatic and talking about how she packed up all the baby stuff and she doesn't want to look at it because it's too depressing. It was honestly kind of triggering to hear her say that because I've lost a child before and have literally been in too much pain to even look at my kids things but sure, complain to me about how depress you are that your grandkids moved 3 hours away. + + +I really don't know what they were expecting us to do because before this week we're living in hotels due to the situation. We have been living in an apartment but the place was a dump and they raised the rent right after we got in our car accident so we decided to leave because we could not afford it. Not that living in hotels is necessarily cheap but the advantage is that you don't have to have a credit score to get in so that's what we were doing so that we didn't have to be homeless or separated by shelters (especially because of my cat we would probably have to give her up and I did not want that to happen because she is my emotional support animal) + + +And while we were in this desperate situation of living in hotels I happen to find this extremely cheap property. Sure it's in a remote location and a small town that I had never really been to before but with everything that my husband and I have been through we were willing to make the leap. + + +Personally I feel like we made a great decision because now we are going to own our home and yes it needs some work which is why it's cheap but my husband is a carpenter and the doctor even said that a great way for him to start recovering his strength is by doing work on this house ( with help of course) + +I guess I'm just looking for reassurance that I'm not having a selfish perspective, I feel like we did the best thing for our kids by doing this and even though it is a little bit far for extended family members to visit, it's not like they were visiting us very much where we were living before anyway (aside from my mom because she lived about 10 minutes away but even with her she is very unreliable and flaky with plans) + +It's not like I was depending on my mom to babysit my kids or anything like that (and not that she would or that I could depend on it enough to be able to actually get a part-time job or anything lol) so staying in that immediate area just was not a very high priority for us especially because of the area she's living in has gone way up in price for rents and if you want to buy forget about it (at least in our income level) + + +Another fun fact is that my husband and I were actually considering moving 3000 miles away to the other side of the country before the car accident happened, because that's where his family lives, but we decided against the big move after that car accident because until recently we were both too injured to even spend more than an hour in a vehicle and the thought of moving to another state and going through all that just seem like too much. That idea is still not completely out the window but it's definitely been postponed for a few years while we recover from this car accident. But I just wonder how their reaction would have been if we actually went through with that plan! + + +Not only that but before my husband and I had kids and were married, we lived about 6 hours away from my mom and she loved coming to visit us and when we moved from that location she was very upset! + + +So yeah the tldr version is my family is taking it very personally that my husband and I are buying a house that's a little bit far.",0 +6561,"My mother (68F) started confiding to me (31F) about her strained relationships with her sister(my aunt), son (my brother), and husband (my dad) and I don’t know how to handle it.. My mother called me like she usually does, and was telling me about an argument she had with my grandma. I didn’t think it was serious, but she did. She wanted to know if I thought she was right to be upset and to basically choose a side. However, I couldn’t bc I only know my grandmother as how she was in front of me and how she treated the rest of my family. And she would never intentionally hurt a family member’s feelings. + +She did the same thing when she asked me about her struggling to help my brother (who is on the spectrum) find a job and my dad being annoying and her sister being rude. It’s this and a whole bunch of things. + +I told my bf about this feeling I started having. I’ve only been a “stable” adult for so long so I don’t know much about life yet, but it was like there’s this point when you get older when you start seeing your parents differently….not like strangers but like you see them through a different lens. Has anyone else experienced this and felt weird when your parents spoke to you not as your child, but as a “friend” or a familiar adult? It really took me off guard and I didn’t know how to respond to my mother unloading on her struggles with people I grew up looking to for guidance.",0 +6562,"I feel like my parents fight in front of me and in front of other people on purpose somtimes. It’s like they want to prove how miserable they are to everyone around them. Even on “happy” occasions, they fight and purposefully make rude comments towards each other (and towards my sister and I) to show that we are unhappy around each other. + +It was my birthday today and my parents argued on the way and at lunch, and then my dad called me selfish and said that he wanted to get away from us for a while and my mom said that this was why she goes out all the time. What am I doing wrong? I ruin everything.",0 +6563,"I’m struggling. Ok, it’s exactly as the title says! My child had a stroke. They were left with life changing effects, my life is not the same, I cant sleep, I can’t work, I want to, I don’t want to. I’m struggling to accept it all. I kept being told to be grateful that they’re here and I feel like telling them where to go. Of course I’m grateful they’re alive!! But this shouldn’t have happened. They were healthy. An innocent child. I’m not grateful this has happened. I resent it and I don’t know what to do.",0 +6564,"My adopted little brother is incredibly needy how do I deal with him. I'm 33 (f) and have an adopted little brother who's 24 (m). He has autism and has always demanded a lot of me. I must admit that ever since he came into my life when I was 9 I've been incredibly busy. Certainly when he was little and I was starting University I had absolutely no time for his games. Every year he would cry to my mom that I was selfish for getting a summer job to pay my tuition rather than spend time with him. It was because of his need for a private school why I got a summer job. + +Even when I moved out to residence at my University when he was 12 I would get angry texts that sometimes frightened me. By the time I was 23 and fully moved out he would show up unannounced at my apartment and say that no one at his High school wants to spend any time with him. Even when I brought over my bf now husband he would make every effort to push him away as he was a distraction from him. Even at my wedding back in June 2018 he was crying at the wedding at 20 for crying out loud. + +Lately with COVID things haven't improved and the pandemic restrictions and isolation have taken a toll on him. Especially since he's graduated University and has nothing to do he just demands so much of my time. + +TL;DR My adopted little brother has autism and demands an unbelievable amount of time and resources on me. He always views me as his protective big sister.",0 +6565,"MIL moving in permanently. Any success stories?. I’m writing this to get advice from others who had/have similar situations. I really don’t know what to expect. My husband (41M) and I (36F) are planning on moving his mother in with us indefinitely. It was always agreed she would come live with us one day after her retirement. She has been retired for several years now and as she is getting older her house is simply too big for her and her body is having a hard time keeping up with the work as well. My husband is her only son and while there are some cultural expectations, he has always felt a duty to make sure she is taken care of which I totally respect and understood before we got married. + +Here is where I think I’m in over my head; She’s a bit of a tiger mom where she doesn’t 100% trust we know what’s best for us (even though we are almost middle age). She constantly makes remarks of what we ought to be doing rather than what we are doing. This is across the board from house work to choices in careers. She doesn’t trust the way we run our house currently, she thinks we eat terribly and keep a messy house. This is not true and while I understand sometimes people just need to see things before they start to believe it, she has already stated once she moves in she will make sure to see we take better care of ourselves. + +Its comments like these that I get anxious about the day she is moving in. I’m worried about losing my choice to be my own person. I won’t have the luxury of choosing my own meals, grocery shopping, sleeping in, or even how many hours I put into work. I also feel scared she is going to try to make this into an “us, vs. you” thing. In her eyes her son can do no wrong. I know this because before we got married she made sure to explain that to me. If we ever get into an argument I’m afraid I am going to get gained up on and essentially feel like the outsider. + +I have spoken to my husband about this and he has agreed to have a conversation with her. He said he will reiterate that she needs to respect the way we manage the house and our schedules. But is that really all it takes to make this work? Is that too simple? + +If there is anything I have learned about him is he absolutely respects and admires his mother and expects no less from me. I would not say he’s a “Mommy’s” boy but I think if I were to ever “bite back” on some of her comments then he would be quite upset with me. She doesn’t really have a filter and will make remarks about our appearance/weight. When I tell my husband how much it bothers me that she says stuff like that he says I need to have thicker skin, I’m too sensitive and that he doesn’t see this as a problem. + +We are planning on having a conversation with her tomorrow on the exact move in date (early next year) but some helpful advice and success stories would be so nice to hear. I know a positive outlook on this is key and it’s something I’m working on. Please tell me this can be managed. + +TLDR: Mother-in-law is moving in indefinitely but not sure what to expect or boundaries to put in place to make this successful. Can this work?",0 +6566,"How should I (19F) react when my partner’s (20M) 5 y/o brother throws a tantrum?. My partner and I have been dating for 9 months and because of the stage of life we’re at now, we spend most of our weekends at his house with his family. + +However, I’ve noticed since the beginning that his brother gets very little attention at home and gets spoiled with new toys to make up for it. As much as I love and care for his brother, it’s hard for me to be there for him and teach him when I only see him once a week. I know it isn’t my responsibility to parent him, but it pains me to watch a good kid act so violent just to get a second of someone’s attention. I try my best to gentle parent whenever I can because I fear traumatising him if I react wrongly. + +For example, I noticed he’s had an issue with sharing that his parents clearly do not care to properly address. They usually give us a portion of whatever he’s refused to share when he isn’t looking, and as a result he learns nothing because he wasn’t even aware he’s been deceived. + +In the most recent case, we ate some snacks that were bought for sharing, and when he found out he threw a tantrum and demanded we slice open our stomachs and return the snacks to him. I was a little taken aback, and tried to explain that he had to learn to share things that didn’t belong to him, and that he has a family who loves him and shares things with him all the time. He refused to listen and got angry at me, demanding me to promise never to eat snacks again. I refused to make a promise I couldn’t keep, so I let him self-regulate until he’s calmed down. + +I’ve been trying a gentle parenting approach whenever possible since all his parents do is laugh his bad behaviour off or threaten him with unrelated consequences. May I have some advice on what to do or say? + +TL;DR Partner’s brother refuses to share things that aren’t his, and I don’t know how to respond to his tantrums.",0 +6567,"I (20f) can’t go on “family” trip with my family due to new job. Help?!. Hello, let me say right off the bat that my mother is very toxic. She gaslights, and turns everything into an argument. She’s a very picky and negative person and barely trusts anyone in her life. My father is a sweet guy, and puts up with half of it. And I have two brothers I grew up with. We fight like siblings but pretty much get along. + +I recently got hired at a news company. This was a very competitive position that I worked hard for. I have training and certifications to get out of the way before I start. This and my first shift is around the same time as a family trip my mother planned. Due to my job I can not go. I’ve lightly mentioned it already and my mother is already making an issue out of it. My father joining along. My family means a lot to me, but I feel they are already making me choose between “family time” and my profession. + +To go more in depth on my mother, she hates my girlfriend. We have done nothing wrong for her hating of our relationship. The only issue is that I have been spending more time with her than my mom. Which is normal, that’s my significant other. Growing up me and my mother would fight a lot. I was the escape goat and “problem child”. Anyways, she is blaming my girlfriend for me not going on the trip. And she is turning my brothers against me and my girlfriend. If I go on this trip I may loose my position at the news company. + +To sum up, how do I turn down this trip without destroying my relationship with my family.",0 +6568,"19 yo boy. Our son is 19, so technically an adult, but honestly about as mature as a 15-yo. He is angry, hateful, spiteful, yells, screams, cusses us out, and quite flatly refuses to take responsibility for anything. He is incredibly disrespectful, and I have had ENOUGH. Suggestions? If we were to “kick him out” he’d break a window, walk in, and act like he belongs there. + +It’s getting to a me or him situation. I have been sick for 18 months with long Covid and I know I will never heal in this toxic sludge that is my life. But I’m afraid if I don’t stay, it will permanently break our relationship. On the other hand, it may already have done that. + +Suggestions? This behavior is not anything like what he has been raised around.",0 +6569,"Brother is a domestic abuser, is this forgivable?. TL;DR +Am I wrong for not being able to forgive my abusive brother but still feeling upset that he might be alone on christmas day? + + + + +My (22F) brother (37) is having a mental breakdown. This time last year his wife left him with the two children (3&5) as my brother was abusive towards my sister in law in front of the children. She moved to a refuge and out of the flat they shared in London. She is now in a safe house a few hours away after 6 months of being inside a hotel room which was the refuge. Throughout this time he was also very abusive towards family members on chats and pushed everyone that tried to help away. He also phoned my mom at one point saying he was going to kill himself and when she drove 3 hours to him he then acted as if nothing happened and got angry. + +I was living at home with my mom (57) and sister (18) up until June this year as my brother had moved back home and I could not stand being around him. I do not agree with what happened between him and my sister in law and do not tolerate any sort of abuse nevermind if i am related to this person. I have now moved into a flat on my own as I could feel my mental health declining the longer I lived there. + +My brother states that he was ‘not well’ last year which was why he acted the way he did, and just continues to feel sorry for himself. Recently he has gotten bad again and has stopped working completely. He still owns the flat in london but wont go back there as he says hes ‘not well’. He has no money and is in serious debt as he doesnt work. He mopes around the house as he says hes too anxious to do anything, but is not doing anything to try and help himself. At this point I feel he is a complete lost cause. I have a few other brothers who all live on their own. Everyone is avoiding him as he is draining everyone around him and is truly a selfish person, and no one can confront him as he gets angry. I know from reading this post it may seem like I am being brutal and mean and not compassionate but I have dealt with mental health issues. I know many people who also have dealt with severe issues and I feel there is a point where you stop feeling sorry for yourself and have to help yourself slightly. + +Fast foward to Christmas day this year. I am going to be spending it with my sister in law and the kids (i havent told my brother this as he will get angry). My sister is spending it with her boyfriend and my mom will be going to my aunties as she does not want to be around my brother. + +My other brothers are all busy with their partners or do not want to be with my brother. + +He will literally be on his own, and I cant help but feel horrible, but also incredibly torn because no one else wants to spend time with him because of how mentally draining he is. I also feel bad that I left the family home and left my mom and sister to deal with it. I dont want to forgive him but feel like Im meant to because hes my brother? +Has anyone else had a family member who was a domestic abuser and how did you personally deal with it? + +How do I stop feeling so bad for someone who doesnt deserve it?",0 +6570,"Was this abuse or is it just typical sibling stuff?. So I’ve (24f) been thinking back to the family dynamics from when I was growing up from childhood up until moving out for my studies. I am the youngest sibling with an older sister (28f) and an older brother (27m). One thing that has stuck with me is the way my brother was with my sister and I. He was never happy at school, felt self conscious, insecure and had anger issues, for which he had sessions with a secondary school counsellor at one stage for anger management. In his behaviour towards my sister and I, he would always come home from school (~ 8yo-14yo) and take out his frustrations on us by wrestling with us unprovoked and with no context until someone ended up crying but he would always laugh it off. He then used to physically block the door & stop my sister from leaving the house if he thought her skirt was too short or her clothes were “inappropriate/dressed like a slut.” When we used to get into arguments he would almost always be the one to start a physical fight. His tendency to resort to physical fighting carried on into his late teens (19-20y/o) where he would also punch, slap across the face, push us, square up to us/get right in our faces, pin us up against a wall, have a squeezed hand around my neck and also shove and push my parents. He was quite obviously also physically stronger than us as well. It was a driving force for my sister to move out for university to get away but it still carried on with me. I’d say he fought with both of us equally but he was physically more violent and verbally wearing with me, he was more intimidatingly aggressive, manipulative and verbal with my sister. + +I know to an extent it’s normal for siblings to argue and physically fight, which is why I find it hard to tell. What do you think? + +TLDR: when does fighting between siblings cross the line into abuse territory?",0 +6571,"Is it ok to not buy my husbands family Christmas gifts? Or Birthday gifts?. Over the years I've brought my husbands family gifts every christmas & birthday. +I've stopped doing it now that his siblings are all adults. Just recently it was his siblings 18th birthday & i didn't buy them a gift & i just said to my husband ""you can buy it when you get paid."" I work so hard to the point my hands have cracks in them & i just thought why should i spend my hard working money on someone who doesn't even work? My husband was ok with me not buying them a gift & he'll buy it when he gets paid, but he did say he thinks they will be annoyed with getting their gift late. I'm also not saying i would never buy his family gifts! There have been times when they've told me they want something & I've suprised them with it, but I'm just saying for birthdays & christmas i don't go out of my way to do that i let my husband do it.",0 +6572,"Approached by a parent regarding their Will. My mum approached me to talk to me about her Will. She wants to know how I would feel if she were to leave more or maybe all of her assets to my half brother and half sister, and leave myself and my sister little or nothing. Back story is my mum had 2 kids (my half brother and half sister) in a previous marriage and tragically her husband passed away, didn’t leave much behind. My mum then met my dad and they had myself and my sister. So she has 4 kids in total. Recently my mum and dad divorced. My dad has said his Will states his assets will be divided 50/50 between myself and my sister. My mum is saying because of that she feels a fair thing to do is to give her assets to my half brother and half sister. My dad was in my half brother and half sisters lives for 20 years but sadly not now as the divorce split the family up. + +She would like my opinion. Part of me thinks this seems fair and the other part feels it’s not my fault that these sequences of events have happened. I’d be grateful for different outlooks or a viewpoint without emotion attached. Thank you.",0 +6573,"My niece is terrified my boyfriend. I (17F) have a 16 month old niece. My mom watches my niece during the week, and our family is very close, so she's here a lot. I'm also expected to occasionally look after my niece. + + +I've brought my boyfriend home four times now, and every time my niece sees him she gets really upset. She starts shrieking and crying the second that she sees him. She says ""no!"" and points like she wants him to leave. She's shy around strangers to start with, but I've never seen her react like that to anyone. + + +What can I do? I don't expect them to be besties, I just want them to be in the same room without her getting so upset. He's very gentle and patient with her, but she's an angry toddler and doesn't care.",0 +6574,"My mom's happiness depends on me?. I love my mother SO MUCH but it's getting harder and harder to deal with her. She likes to have control over everything related to my life and my sister's life, but sometimes I think she overreacts! + +One time I had a haircut she didn't like and she became completely depressed and stopped sleeping because of it. She wouldn't stop talking about how I ruined my hair and how she was SO sad about it. Like, it's just hair??? It grows?? + +Everytime I do something she doesn't agree with or that isn't exactly what she has dreamed for me, she becomes severely depressed, takes pills to sleep and acts like it's the worst thing I have EVER done to her. Even if it's something simple like a haircut. + +I'm worried because I'm an adult and I'm trying to build myself a life and move out. Last month I found a house that I absolutely LOVED, my boyfriend and I were so excited about it. The second I showed it to my mom, she immediately said she didn't like it (she didn't even see the inside) because it was ""far away"" (it's a 10 min drive) and it's not what she has imagined for me. Once again she became depressed over the house, cried her eyes out and took pills to sleep. After that, I wasn't so sure I wanted the house anymore. + +I find myself constantly worried about her and trying to make her happy, even if that means I'm sacrificing my own happiness.",0 +6575,my mum drinks too much. it makes me so cross. she behaves so embarrassingly and then I have to put her to bed. I wish she wouldnt do it.,0 +6576,"My sibling keeps on posting hate towards financially successful people and I think it’s about me. Ever since I had a kid and became a single mom, I started working really hard because I wanted to give my family the best life. It’s so happen I became successful enough to help my family (mom, dad and unmarried older sibling) + +I always wanted to help my family because I grew up so poor so I did a lot of overtime til my skills got recognised and got promoted 5 times. I got relocated overseas with my kid and I managed to buy a house, a nice car and 2 investment properties in a span of 5 years. + +I rarely use social media but recently, I saw my sibling post hate towards people who, according to my sibling, measure success through financial stability like having a good paying job, cars and houses. I decided to open my sibling’s profile and got shocked with the amount of posts about it daily. It’s hate towards people like me. + +I feel sad and angry at the same time. I love my family so much but now I’m thinking they don’t really like me. I help them out in a heartbeat but now I wonder if they silently hate me for it. Whenever they have problems that require money to solve, I listen patiently and help them out straight away. I call them everyday to chat with them and only miss out when I’m sick because I do feel homesick sometimes but not once did I notice any ill feelings towards me. + +Should I confront my sibling about it or just continue ignoring? Maybe those posts aren’t for me? I can’t really unsee what I saw but I am truly sad and I feel unappreciated. All I wanted to do was to help my family. I don’t even scold them. I don’t power trip or anything. I just call and have nice chats with them but maybe they see it differently.",0 +6577,Bringing 4 Month Old To Thanksgiving Events?. Most of our aunts/uncles/cousins have yet to meet our baby yet. There will be at least 25 of us at a relatives house for dinner. There are also in laws/mixed families wanting to see the baby the same day too at different houses. I'm kind of dreading the thought of everyone wanting to hold the baby and being in the babies face all Thanksgiving. It's RSV/Flu season (Covid ran through our house already). Is 4 months still too young to throw the baby into the family thanksgiving hysterics or am I being crazy?,0 +6578,"My 28yo brother has special needs that have never been addressed by my parents?. So my brother has some kind of undiagnosed autism or aspergers (I'm not for sure because my parents have never taken any initiative to get him help or checked out). It's not that my parents don't care; I think they just fear the social stigma of having a son with special needs. This is why my mother did all his work in school, even through college. This has been happening his entire life, but it's more obvious now that he's older. + +My mother is also a very outspoken Christian who detests any kind of profanity, drinking, loud music, ""promiscuous women"", etc. Because of this, my brother only watches G/PG rated movies and never goes out to live a little. + +Anyway, my brother entertains himself by doing very simple things, like watching children's television shows (Blues Clues, Max and Ruby, etc). He's 28 now, and he literally cannot do anything without help. Whenever I bring this up to my parents, I get the same ""he's fine, he'll-get-there-when-he gets-there"" response. + +I always sorta bought into this, but now he's well into adulthood, he still lives at home with his parents, works a minimum wage job (even though he has a degree, albeit one my mother earned for him), and still can't get himself up in the morning. That's his only life. All the years of refusing to put him in special education or getting any kind of help are catching up. I'm afraid of the responsibility that will be on my shoulders once my parents pass. + +Anyway, what can I do to accommodate my parents' outright denial that there's something wrong? + +TLDR: My brother has special needs that have gone unaddressed his entire life. What can I do?",0 +6579,"Am i a bad daughter?. I (24F) moved to another country by myself 5 years ago, for economic reasons (and honestly also because I didn't want to) I haven't returned to my country to visit. + +When I lived there with my mom, we hardly ever got along. I never felt like she treated me with understanding. Everything was always based on what she thought I had to say or do. No matter what I felt about it, this was the case. She never let trust grow between us, and always made me feel that my feelings were not valid if she didn't know exactly why I felt that way. That's why she would demand that I tell her what was happening to me. The result: I never wanted to tell her anything, she got really angry and then made me feel guilty about it. She has never apologized for anything, a classic ""im perfect"" behavior. + +My first year abroad was when I realized I was free from her cruel and silent treatment that caused me pain. That's when she realized she no longer had control over me and began to improve her attitude. Our relationship has never been better since being so far apart. Now after 5 years she is going to come to visit me for three months. When she started dropping hints about staying to live with me here I was very clear with her that my intention would never be for us to live together again. It took a few days for her to understand, but I think she did + +Now she's talking about staying here, but renting an apartment for herself. Am I a bad daughter because I don't want that either? I have gotten used to being here without family and honestly, in these years I have never felt that I miss her. I feel comfortable with our long-distance mother-daughter relationship and don't want my life to change because she's here. I do love her, but I don't like who she is as a person.",0 +6580,"[Please read- something urgent] How do I deal with this toxic situation. So my father is a narcissistic guy, from my childhood (21years old now) he always used to scream about what an achiever he is, how he’s better than others, how much he has done for his family, he does this whole day, screams loud… he always used to hit and beat my mother from childhood and we used to see them doing this, he used to curse her parents, he still does but doesn’t beat her now! And as we grow old we all siblings distanced ourself from our father. Again, I have a elder brother who is 4 years older than me, always had temperament issues from childhood which grew with him. He always used to thrash and break things while arguing or fighting, from mobile to table, dishes to doors.. and he too used to show tantrum on my mother. From last 3/4 years I have distanced myself from him too just because he fights and shows tantrum on my mother and then she cry’s. I feel like he has lost his respect for both the parents. (He was average student who doesn’t study anymore, got no ambition, sleeping till 1 and then starts using phone whole day and sleeps late) as I have a bad relation with him too I always shut the door which is in between our room to keep a boundary. 2 days ago my sister passed an entrance to admit for post graduation, so she asked my mom that she’ll need 1000$ to take admission there. We were all at the kitchen drinking tea, he was there too, he then said these admissions/institutes doesn’t need entrance exams to get admission there (while they do) he behaved like he knows everything, always does. So my mother said don’t behave like you know everything, you always act like you know everything but at the end just nothing (she said this because my father tried really hard to make him grow in life, but he rejected all opportunities, he was admitted in law college he dropped out from there too) so words from her made him angry and he threw pastries on my mothers face and then left the kitchen. After leaving I told my mom to have some self respect and keep a distance which he listened to from his room. And then when I arrived in my room he was standing at the doorstep and warned me in anger to never enter in his matter and if I do it’ll be last time i speak, (threatened me basically). Things never were easy for me, my house feels like shit always around people I don’t want to be with. I started hating his existence lately. How do I cope with this, this problems are always in my head which never let me stay happy in home, please suggest something logical to do as I can’t discuss these stuffs with my brother cause we never shared such a relationship. And I can’t leave my house till next year because of college.",0 +6581,"I hate my parents but I also miss them, how do I heal?. Late at night, I (24F) tend to think about my family. My parents divorced when I was around 12-13 but were separated when I was 9-10. After the divorce, my mother very rarely dated but never remarried and my father remarried two months after the divorce with his mistress/girlfriend (they were dating during the separation but from stories, they were seeing each other during my mother’s and father’s marriage). + +Growing up, coparenting was hell. It was a lot of “He said/She said,” kids being put in the middle (I.E. if one parent was late to the drop off point by 30 mins, other parent would purposely extend 30 mins their time causing us to stay up late on school nights), miscommunication, etc; my parents just could not get along. They never went to counseling for coparenting. I give them the benefit of the doubt that they tried their best but I don’t think they realize that their “war” against each other really hurt us, the kids (3 of us, me being the oldest). + +Under my mother’s roof, we were raised in a Christian household and under my father’s roof, we were “Christian” but never really practiced and often gone to Shamanism family events. Family conflicts under my mother’s roof was resolved with “prayer,” and stories from The Bible. With my father, it was either never talked about, shunned, or having “family meetings” but it was really to make the child who made a mistake feel bad in front of the whole family. As a child, I learned to accept that this was just my life but now that I am a young adult, I’m starting to realize that all the sh*t they put me through, I didn’t deserve it. + +My mother is a control freak and tends to have tantrums when things don’t go her way. She can hold grudges and be two-faced with friends and family. I made teenage mistakes like any teen would, nothing illegal or dangerous (hanging out with friends in the afternoon instead of coming home after school, cut class once in awhile and go to work, sneak out at night to see a boy) and I always came home. I always felt like I was never good enough for her. She was always comparing my smarts and my weight to how she was in high school. I wasn’t living to her standards as a Christian to how she liked it and that was always hard for me because she was sometimes a hypocrite when it came to forgiveness. She was always there for me when I succeeded but when I failed, it was like she’d knew she’d be disappointed. So I always felt like I had to be a certain way to receive her love. + +My father is very good with his words. He’s charismatic and good at twisting any story to his narrative. My father was OK for showing up physically (school events, paying child support, celebrating birthdays) but emotionally, he was absent. Anytime I would refuse calling my step-mother, “Mom,” he would make me feel like the bad guy. I would try to tell him that it didn’t feel right and he would tell me that I was making her feel unwelcomed (even though her and I talked about it, she was OK with me calling her by her first name). When I first told him I got sexually harassed at work at 16, he got mad at me and blamed me for it happening. A lot of times bridges were burned between my father and I, but I was always told to be the one to mend it because he’s “my father” and “I only have one dad.” With my father, I felt like other things came before me and that things were never his fault and if it was, there was always an excuse to his behavior. I felt like since he failed his first family, he moved on to his second family like we didn’t exist. + +I don’t communicate to either parent for my mental health. I have abandonment issues, anxiety-attachment issues, occasional depression. With both parents, if I rebelled a little bit, I was kicked out. I wasn’t a perfect child growing up but they treated me as a problematic child when I did something they didn’t agree with. I could’ve been worse. I was just a kid. All I wanted was to be loved as I am and to be forgiven as much as I had forgiven them. I’m not a parent and I understand it can’t be easy, but I would never have my kids doubt the love I have for them. How do I heal from this because I thought time heals but I just feel more alone each year? + +TL;DR- divorce caused abandonment issues, mental health issues. Stuck on wanting to be close to both parents but are the reason to my mental health, how to heal?",0 +6582,"Should I (22f) tell my mom (52f) that I'm decorating my room how I want or should I let her do what she wants?. So I recently graduated college and I'm living with my mom for a year or two until I go for grad school. I've mostly been living on the couch, which is honestly something I've been doing at my parents' houses for years now. I think this is partly because my bedroom hasn't really been a place I've felt super comfortable in, especially since I've never really had the chance to decorate my room exactly how I wanted it until I moved out for college. I've struggled with depression for a while, so the living room as been a more comfortable place for me to sleep since my bedroom had always given me a depressing, lonely vibe. The living room is more open and the presence of people there makes me feel less depressed. My sister (21f), whom I've shared the bedroom with, just moved out so my mom started to rearrange our room in her absence. I'm hoping this could be a chance for me to decorate the room how I want to and start sleeping in there again, but my mom has been taking over. She's chosen all the new decor, furniture, and placement for everything. She likes to have things a certain way and is a bit of a control freak. It's her house though, I'm old enough to move out and I'm not paying her any rent, so I'm not really sure if I have the right to tell her I want to arrange the room the way I want it. Especially since I haven't even been sleeping in there lately. What should I do? + +TLDR: My mom wants to decorate my room for me and I'm not sure if I should let her or tell her I'm doing what I want",0 +6583,Dad constantly just sings and it’s driving me crazy. Okay okay so I know at first you may be like aww that’s so wholesome why would that drive you crazy but please hold on and listen to it all I swear I’m not just some evil anti song human lol: so for as long as I can remember my father has just done this thing where everyday he is hooked on one line from a song and will sing that line on repeat for hours with a 5-10 minute rest in between and varying ranges (for example sometimes he may sing it quietly and then very loud or anything in between). He does this no matter what (even if he sees me reading or other activities that you may think Humm maybe I should be quite) I have brought it up to him before but nothing has come from it and it kind of just seems like it may be something he just can’t help? It’s driving me beyond crAzy but I wanted to post this to see if any one has experienced this or have any idea why this might be occurring?? Thank you!,0 +6584,"What can I cook or do to help?. So I (18F) live with just my dad. It used to be me, my dad and his wife but unfortunately they are getting a divorce and she is no longer around. I would like to help out my dad as much as I can. But the thing is when she was here she did most of the cooking while I was at school and my dad was at work. I don’t want my dad to come home everyday and have no food to eat or to cook for himself. I love my dad a lot and I am heartbroken that he is going through this. We have a fridge full of food that i dont know how to cook and I don’t want it to go bad. I guess i am just here to ask for simple recipes or any advice on what I can do to help. If anyone wants to message me and I can show you or tell you what we have so I can get some advice on what to cook I would greatly appreciate that! I love my dad a lot. He is my best friend and I just wanna make it a bit easier on him. Please help.",0 +6585,"I want to report an abuse case but don’t know what f it’s valid. My father hits me if I’m to loud, ask for things or does something that irritates him. My mother is generally manipulating me and is not supportive. I’m considering reporting this for 2 reasons. 1. I’m scared. I’m gender fluid and am very afraid to come out to them or if they find out because the relationship will get worse. They already found out I was bi and my mother gives me dirty looks if a have anything to do with pride. The second reason is they choose money over me. We moved from Australia to the uk and I get bullied here everyday and they don’t do anything about it. I asked them to move back even just by myself and they said we have to stick together because we’re family. I explained to them how I felt and my mother and father basically said :”think about us, you don’t support us why do complain when we don’t support you?” I then told them that they are my parents. They need to support me first. My father then told he didn’t care and that he didn’t care what I did but just to get away. I’m not sure if mental abuse cases are valid yet. + +TLDR my parents don’t care about me and are abusing me mentally",0 +6586,"I hate my dad. + +I hate my father. + +I grew up in a rural area, and had a family farm. Every summer, I had to work for him, \~14 hour days, all day, everyday over summer. I feel like this stunted my social growth and grew my hate for him in that he would always be so mad whenever we did something wrong. + +I also hate him because he lost his job and now does nothing all day, every day. He refuses to get another job to do anything useful, but remains spiteful at me not doing the cat litter every day because I have school and am busy. He is just always angry at me, and I don't know that I have ever heard him say ""im proud of you"", ""good job"", or ""I love you"" in a real way. + +I hope one day I will be able to forgive him for what he's done to me, emotionally and mentally, but I just can't right now. He is so hypocrital in a way that I just can't handle. + +Dad, if you ever find this, I'm not sorry. Work on yourself before you try to work on your kid",0 +6587,"My dad's pretty dope.. Since I was young I've been a daddies girl. I remember clearly on so many nights being so excited when we got home from work. I have fond memories of us playing in our basement which had stuff like a air hockey table, a ping pong table, and a some basketball game that I loved seeing my dad and brother compete in. + +But a little about him--in my opinion he had a pretty rough childhood. Didn't grow up in a super safe area, had a simotainously good and bad relationship with his father, later lost his father to suicde, and even later my mom divorced him. On a lighter note, though, he owns his own pest control bussiness that he really seems to love. He doesn't have any employees and does all the work, paperwork, and makes all purchases himself. He works 24/7 365 and I honestly admire his dedication and perserverance. + +There's never been a dull moment with my dad. Even just sitting in his house eating dinner and watching TV shows is fun. He did a *lot* of activities with me and my siblings when we were younger, and still does. Agian, never a dull moment with him. + +My dad's probably the person I'm post comfortable with. I can talk to him openly about my feelings, thoughts, and mental health and can honestly just be myself around him. I care about him a lot and worry that he's not giving himself the credit he deserves. He's an amazing father and person in general and I love him a lot. I know this sounds really sappy and all but I really cannot express how much I love, admire, and appreciate my dad. It really sucks to think that some kids don't have their fathers in their lives, or even if they do, their dads are really shitty. I defiently don't take mine for granted. + +Anyway, just a rant I wanted to do about my dad, lol.",0 +6588,Never before seen 1989 Tiananmen Square photos found in shoebox. ,0 +6589,"I wrote to my photography teacher who I hadn't seen since I graduated high school about 18 years ago. He wrote back.. You know those teachers who made an impression on you? Thank them. + +I had a small handful of teachers who really stood out to me, and one of them was my high school photography teacher. This was at a time when professional digital cameras were fairly new, but my teacher showed me a bit about his 1D and Canon lenses. The class, however, was almost entirely focused on B&W film shooting, development, and enlarging (printing). To this day, I have the 50+ rolls worth of Ilford HP5+ negatives I shot and developed for his class. + +There are so many memories of that class, and none were about other students. The memories are about my teacher's patience, my creativity, and the feeling of Zen I got in the darkroom when making my prints. + +Why has it been nearly 20 years without me ever acknowledging him? I don't know. But here's what I wrote: + +> *I wanted to wish you and your family a happy holiday season. I write to you as a XXXX High School grad of 2004, having taken your photography class as a senior. You left a great impression on me as a student. I still have the binders of HP5+ negatives I developed with your help as well as the many prints I made in your darkroom.* + +> *In the past year, I've put more time into growing my freelance photography business. Until now, it has remained steady for 17 years as a side job. I have more clients this year than ever.* + +> *I have you to thank for helping instill a passion for the art and teaching me the foundations of studio & action photography. Hopefully you are enjoying retirement in health and happiness.* + +I sent the letter off with some postcards I'd made over the years, and my contact info. I sent it to an address that I Googled, hoping I had the right person. + +Today, I got a letter back in the mail. I don't know how I recognized his handwriting on the envelope after all this time, but I did -- and I knew it was his. + +> *What a pleasure it was to receive your card. When I saw your name on the envelope, I knew immediately who you were. Teachers always remember their best students. It's nice to know that you are still into your photography and I hope it's going well for you. Thank you for the photographs and your business card. I will check out your web site.* + +> *I wish you and your family the happiest of holidays and a wonderful new year.* + +This made my week, if not my month or my year. I was welling up as I read his card. I really didn't expect to get anything back, but I just wanted to get my thanks out into the universe hoping it would land with him. The response was just icing on the cake. + +Thank your teachers.",0 +6590,Kebab seller image wins international food photo contest. ,0 +6591,"Harassed by someone while taking photos at a park..... So every day after work I head to the park about 5 minutes away from my apartment to take photos of whatever I find interesting. Mind you I work from home, so after 5PM is usually my only chance to get out of the house. + +​ + +I've been going to this park every single day for the last 3-ish months to practice. 0 issues. It's a wide open basin where people only really come to take their dogs to. I've snapped some really good photos of dogs, birds, butterflies, trees, whatever. + +​ + +Today, I made my daily trek to the park, and as I was entering the front gate there was a man parked outside that commented on my camera, ""Nice camera"" or something to that extent, to which I said ""Thanks!"" and kept on my way. + +​ + +I walk to the other end of the park, sit down, unclip my camera from my backpack, and start shooting. + +​ + +This dude gets in his truck, drives over to the side of the street near where I'm sitting, gets out, puts a GoPro on a chest mount, straps it to himself, breaks his phone out, points it directly at me, GoPro also rolling (I own one and can tell when they're on), and proceeds to start questioning me like a cop while both devices are recording me. + +​ + +Him: ""What are you taking pictures of?"" + +​ + +Me: ""Uhh...anything I find interesting? I come here practically every day after work..."" + +​ + +Him: ""What do you usually take pictures of?"" + +​ + +Me: ""Again, anything I find interesting really...last weekend I ended up shooting the car show at Downtown (Insert city name here)."" + +​ + +Him: ""You taking pictures of children??"" + +​ + +Me: ""Sorry? Didn't catch that"" - I had my airpods in talking to some friends and thought I had misheard him at this point and had to do a double take. + +​ + +Him: ""I said are you taking pictures of children?"" -There's not a single kid in this park or in any sort of distance that I could shoot with a telephoto if I even had one mounted... + +​ + +Me: ""No? But if you're interested, you can view my portfolio on my personal website and Instagram.."" + +​ + +Him: ""Hmm...You know there's some nice birds over that way right?"" and points to the exit of the park + +​ + +Me: ""Yeah dude...birds are cool..."" + +​ + +At this point he backs away slowly while continuing to record me. + +​ + +I don't think too much of it and keep on snapping pictures. I look back about 10 minutes later and I see this guy sitting in his truck, phone camera still pointed at me. + +​ + +At this point I'm feeling slightly uncomfortable and walk to the other side of the park and sit back down. + +​ + +Dude drives his truck around the ENTIRE park, right up to the side of the street where I am, and proceeds to once again continue recording me. + +​ + +I kind of just brush it off, keep shooting for about 30 minutes (I make some occasional glances back and low and behold he's still recording me the entire time), and then get up and start walking back to my place. + +​ + +So now here I sit, anticipating that a recording/picture of me is about to pop up on social media and I'll have a libel suit on my hands. + +​ + +What the hell is wrong with people?",0 +6592,"Am I morally obligated to alert a friend’s wedding photographer?. UPDATE!!!! + +Update from the weekend! + +So the wedding occurred this weekend. I opted to not say anything to the photographer and just leave it be. Wipe my hands of the whole situation. + +So you are probably wondering how the new photographer turned out…. + +From what I was told, the guy who showed up shot the entire wedding on a point-n-shoot camera similar to a Kodak PixelPro (I don’t have camera details but that is the best explanation from the details I was given.) My “spy” told me that he had flash going the entire time and it was distracting during the ceremony (I mean, you do you boo-boo, but I only use flash when absolutely necessary. I prefer natural light.) + +I specifically used the term “ceremony” at the end of that statement. Dude bounced after the ceremony. (Don’t know the contract, nor do I care at this point but the bride was mad that he was gone.) + + +Oh, and the reasoning i was “fired?” + +Bride admitted that she had a long-standing crush on me. + + +Background: + +I am an amateur photographer, I mainly shoot landscape, Motorsports, etc. but I dive into portraits occasionally. + +2 of my good friends are getting married later this year, in which they asked me to be their photographer for the wedding. I, of course, obliged and offered to shoot it free of charge as a gift since they are doing this wedding on a budget. (Yes I know it devalues everything, but it was my suggestions) + +I did their engagement photos and produced 40 high quality, print quality, photos and provided them with a month of the shoot. Two months later, they demand the rest of the photos (~430 individual exposures.) I kindly explain that the others are not that great and were me doing from bracketing to find the perfect setting for the photo. They still demand them, so I send them over. + +I get a very angry phone call a week later about how shitty the photos are and they have decided to “fire” from the wedding. (Like completely uninvited now.) + +They have since hired another photographer, but did not disclose their expectations. + +My question is, am I morally obligated to notify their new photographer of what has occurred with the couple? + +What are your thoughts?",0 +6593,"To all those who got their first camera this holiday season. Welcome! You're in for a whole lot of fun, and well, inevitably frustration as well. The good news is, we live in the future, and there are endless resources right at your fingertips - many of which we have right here in this sub. + +Our FAQ has a section dedicated to new photographers. [Start here](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/wiki/advice). Topics include: + +* [Advice for new photographers: 2020 edition](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/kkhqg2/advice_for_new_photographers_megathread/) + +* [What you wish you knew when starting](https://redd.it/ezr3p0) + +* [Educational posts from our users](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/wiki/advice#wiki_educational_posts_from_our_users) + +* [Online learning resources megathread](https://redd.it/fq1od1) + +* [Much more](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/wiki/advice) + +Have a specific (or broad) question? Head on over to our [Official Questions Thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/about/sticky). A new one goes live every other day, it is auto sorted by new, and any unanswered question automatically gets posted in the newest thread when it goes live. We have incredibly knowledgeable photographers who volunteer their time to regularly go through those threads and answer any questions they can. + + +You can search by flair for informative topics like: + +* [Tutorial](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/search?sort=new&restrict_sr=on&q=flair%3ATutorial) + +* [Technique](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/search?sort=new&restrict_sr=on&q=flair%3ATechnique) + +* [Discussion](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/search?sort=new&restrict_sr=on&q=flair%3ADiscussion) + +We also have daily community threads where you can engage with other photographers (of all levels!) Here's the schedule of those: + +* **Monday: Anything Goes!** This is an open thread to discuss anything you'd like. I can personally attest to the relationships I've made in this thread, as well as the knowledge I've gained. Highly recommend. + +* **Tuesday: Album Share**. Have a collection of photos you'd like feedback on? Here's the place to share them. + +* **Wednesday: Wins Wednesday**. What's something you've achieved lately? Allow us to bathe you in congratulations. + +* **Saturday: Salty Saturday**. What's annoying you in the photography world? Get it all out each Saturday. + +* **Saturday: Raw Share Thread**. Share some of your own raws for others to edit, and edit some others' raws. + +* **Sunday: Self-Promotion Sunday**. This is the thread where you can share that YouTube video, zine, blog post, or whatever other project you've created. + +* **8th of each month: Social Media Follow**. Share your socials and follow other photographers. + +* **14th of each month: Portfolio Critique**. Get feedback on your full portfolio. + +* **20th of each month: Gear Share**. Get something new? Share it here! + +Finally, we want to see your photos! Keep in mind that r/photography is specifically not for sharing photos, but for discussing the craft. We have a sister photo sharing sub where you can share your photos: r/photographs. Please just be sure to take a moment to [read the rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/photographs/comments/e2d6u1/reminder_of_the_rules/) there before posting your images. + +Once again, welcome to photography, and to the community. We look forward to seeing your contributions!",0 +6594,Record-breaking camera keeps everything between 3 cm and 1.7 km in focus. ,0 +6595,"Effective immediately, Getty Images will cease to accept all submissions created using AI generative models. From an email they just send out: + +> AI Generated Content +> +> Effective immediately, Getty Images will cease to accept all submissions created using AI generative models (e.g., Stable Diffusion, Dall‑E 2, MidJourney, etc.) and prior submissions utilizing such models will be removed. +> +> There are open questions with respect to the copyright of outputs from these models and there are unaddressed rights issues with respect to the underlying imagery and metadata used to train these models. +> +> These changes do not prevent the submission of 3D renders and do not impact the use of digital editing tools (e.g., Photoshop, Illustrator, etc.) with respect to modifying and creating imagery. +> +> Best wishes, +> +> Getty Images | iStock + + +https://i.imgur.com/ShiUaof.png",0 +6596,"Photographer asking me to send him pictures in the lingerie I plan to shoot in. I’ve shot with this photographer 5/6 times . I sent him some pics of the lingerie I want to wear , and he text me and asked me to “please take pics with it on so he can see what it looks like on me” +I feel very offended ! He is a reputable photographer with over 300k followers on Instagram. +Why do I need to send personal pics in lingerie??? I’m at 27 year old female. This shoot is $600.00 of my money, plus makeup . What should I do? +Is this appropriate or am I overreacting? +This is the first time he’s asked this of me… is this normal? Because I’m not comfortable! + + + +Fyi. It’s a $600.00 shoot. Every time Ive shot I’ve brung multiple outfits to choose from. He and I usually choose what’s best. Sometimes I bring a friend along ( now his policy says no guest allowed ). I’m confused on why I must send intimate selfies in ALL of the outfits when I’ll be trying them on anyway. + + +This makes me not want to shoot with male photographers anymore .",0 +6597,"""It’s Been 50 Years. I Am Not ‘Napalm Girl’ Anymore."" ~ NYT. ",0 +6598,"Good photography channels on YouTube?. I've already been digging through earlier posts with the same question, though I didn't really find what I was looking for. + +I've fallen into a rabbit hole on YouTube after I got into analog photography; I think analog photography has a lot of great content on YouTube and I really enjoy watching this stuff. I find it as enjoyable and relaxing as educational. I really like the style of grainydays, Willem Verbeek, negativefeedback, Brae Hunziker... +(Note: I don't necessarily watch those for the ""masterclass photographs"" or the LoFi beats....) + +I seem to enjoy laid back, photography-focussed videos with a story, not (only) trying to sell me gear (except Squarespace subscriptions). It feels like you're talking about photography or going on a photo walk with a buddy. + +I am trying to get back more into digital photography but I feel the (usual) channels geared towards digital are either often too ""philosophical"" (The Art Of Photography; The Photographic Eye;...) or too ""energetic"" (Peter McKinnon) for my likings. + +So here's my question - are there any good YouTubers that do laid back, quality content about (digital) photography without too much sales-pitches, overly crazy lifestyles or getting deep into quasi-philosophy all the time that you could recommend? + +________ + +Thanks for all the suggestions! +Since there's so many - here's a list of the suggestions so far in no particular order other than when they were posted: + +* Adam Gibbs - https://www.youtube.com/c/AdamGibbsPhotography +* Thomas Heaton - https://www.youtube.com/c/ThomasHeatonPhoto +* James Popsys - https://www.youtube.com/c/JamesPopsysPhoto +* Simon Baxter - https://www.youtube.com/c/SimonBaxterPhotography +* Gavin Hardcastle - https://www.youtube.com/user/fototripper +* Andy Mumford - https://www.youtube.com/c/AndyMumford +* Expressive Photography - https://www.youtube.com/c/ExpressivePhotography +* Hudson Henry - https://www.youtube.com/c/HudsonHenryPhotographyYT +* Mads Peter Iverson - https://www.youtube.com/c/MadsPeterIversen +* Nigel Danson - https://www.youtube.com/c/NigelDanson +* Morten Hilmer - https://www.youtube.com/c/MortenHilmer +* Sean Tucker - https://www.youtube.com/c/SeanTuckerphoto +* Jason Kummerfeldt (aka Grainydays) - https://www.youtube.com/c/grainydaysss +* Nick Carver - https://www.youtube.com/c/nickcarverphoto +* Nick Page - https://www.youtube.com/c/NickPagePhotography +* Shoot Film Like A Boss - https://www.youtube.com/c/ShootFilmLikeaBoss +* Steve O'Nions - https://www.youtube.com/c/SteveONions +* Film Photography Channel - https://www.youtube.com/c/FilmPhotographyChannel +* Michael Shainblum - https://www.youtube.com/shainblum +* Vuhlandes - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCla3VF8y6VixwulHEHZ9MQQ +* Jan Wegener -https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoU0PYNZQXRhFrDdffDCVhQ +* Glenn Bartley - https://www.youtube.com/c/GlennBartley +* Jared Polin (aka FroKnowsPhoto) - https://www.youtube.com/c/froknowsphoto +* Weekly Fifty - https://www.youtube.com/c/WeeklyFifty +* Straight Out Of Camera - https://www.youtube.com/user/Kritikakis1968 +* Matt Day - https://www.youtube.com/c/mattdayphoto +* Henry Turner - https://www.youtube.com/user/HNT182 +* Richard Tati - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-KNiVo4X76cJIMphH1lEdA +* Ben Horne - https://www.youtube.com/c/BenHorne +* Lynne Luxon-Jones - https://www.youtube.com/c/LynneLuxonJonesphotography +* Samuel Elkins - https://www.youtube.com/c/SamuelElkinsPhoto +* Anthony Sheardown - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPqQjlX_RxnUqeI_pfihL7w +* Northborders - https://www.youtube.com/c/NorthBorders +* Hayden Pedersen - https://www.youtube.com/c/HaydenPedersen +* 7th Era - https://www.youtube.com/c/7thEra +* Optical Wander - https://www.youtube.com/c/SamuelBassett +* Pierre Lambert - https://www.youtube.com/c/PierreTLambert101 +* Bryan Birks - https://www.youtube.com/c/bryanbirks +* Borut Peterlin - https://www.youtube.com/c/BorutPeterlinPhotography +* Andy Mumford - https://www.youtube.com/c/AndyMumford +* Jamie Windsor - https://www.youtube.com/c/jamiewindsor +* Mik Milman - https://www.youtube.com/c/MikMilman +* Tony and Chelsea Northrup - https://www.youtube.com/c/TonyNorthrup +* Photography Online - https://www.youtube.com/c/PhotographyOnline +* Jordi Koalitic - https://www.youtube.com/c/jordikoalitic +* The Naked Photographer - https://www.youtube.com/c/TheNakedPhotographer +* Adorama - https://www.youtube.com/c/Adorama +* Pushing Film - https://www.youtube.com/c/PushingFilm +* The Art Of Photography - https://www.youtube.com/c/theartofphotography +* Joe Greer - https://www.youtube.com/c/JoeGreervlog +* Serr - https://www.youtube.com/c/serrv +* Koki Yamaguchi - https://www.youtube.com/c/Kohki/videos +* Kanbokeh - https://www.youtube.com/c/Kanbokeh/videos +* Nick Exposed - https://www.youtube.com/user/NickExposed +* Stephen Topia - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJITVk078n9BhQxN5e8O6UQ +* Nev Cartledge - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuu2x6nteWZ6gvLr6iadOOA +* First Man Photography - https://www.youtube.com/c/Firstmanphotography +* Pat Kay - https://www.youtube.com/c/PatKay +* Alec Soth - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHIxfgu7HE9_Tok9OGNrQ_g/ +* Alyn Wallace - https://www.youtube.com/c/AlynWallace +* Peter Zelinka - https://www.youtube.com/c/PeterZelinka +* Mike Browne - https://www.youtube.com/c/MikeBrowne +* Gerald Undone - https://www.youtube.com/c/geraldundone +* Samuel Streetlife - https://www.youtube.com/c/SamuelLStreetlife +* Mark Denney - https://www.youtube.com/c/MarkDenneyPhoto +* Snappiness - https://www.youtube.com/c/snappiness +* Evan Ranft - https://www.youtube.com/c/Evan5ps +* Faizal Wescott - https://www.youtube.com/c/FaizalWestcott +* Mango Street - https://www.youtube.com/c/MangoStreet +* Jason Friend - https://www.youtube.com/c/JasonFriendPhotography +* Manny Ortiz - https://youtube.com/c/MannyOrtiz +* Mark Levoy - https://www.youtube.com/user/marclevoy +* Jeff Rojas - https://www.youtube.com/c/JeffRojas +* Matthew Vandeputte - https://www.youtube.com/matthewvandeputte +* Camera - https://youtube.com/c/Camerasnaps +* Full Bleed - https://www.youtube.com/c/FullBleedTV +* T. Hopper - https://www.youtube.com/c/THopper +* William Sheepskin - https://www.youtube.com/c/WilliamSheepskin +* Brae Hunziker - https://www.youtube.com/c/BraeHunziker +* Christopher Frost - https://www.youtube.com/user/christopherfrost +* Framelines - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCg97Ni73ozwdoSytGSqTRyA +* Dan Milnor - https://www.youtube.com/user/SMOGRANCH +* John Free - https://www.youtube.com/user/JohnFreePhtography +* Samguw - https://www.youtube.com/c/samguw +* Julia Trotti - https://www.youtube.com/c/DigitalFilmLabs +* Bayou Josh - https://youtube.com/c/BayouJosh +* Digital Rev - https://www.youtube.com/digitalrev +* Espen Helland - https://www.youtube.com/c/EspenHelland +* Craig Roberts - https://www.youtube.com/c/e6Vlogs +* Robin Wong - https://www.youtube.com/c/robinwong +* Peter Forsgard - https://www.youtube.com/c/JPeterF +* Steve Mattheis - https://www.youtube.com/c/SteveMattheis +* Tyler Shields - https://www.youtube.com/user/tylershieldsvideos +* Mat Marrash - https://www.youtube.com/c/MatMarrash +* Marc Silber - https://www.youtube.com/c/marcsilber +* Omar Gonzales - https://www.youtube.com/c/OmarGonzalezPhotography +* Kyle McDougall - https://www.youtube.com/c/KyleMcDougall +* Mark McGee - https://www.youtube.com/c/MarkMcGeePhotos +* Ben McLean - https://www.youtube.com/c/BenMaclean +* Carey West - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXZ7Zc8DhfvT4_YR3iXRCsw +* Tom Jurjaks - https://www.youtube.com/c/TomsJurjaks +* Willem Verbeek - https://www.youtube.com/c/WillemVerbeeckFilms +* Artur R. (reviews) - https://www.youtube.com/c/ArthurR +* Christian Irmler (landscape) - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChHudeF-1905SXyYqzfvzTQ +* Jason Morris (Video + reviews) - https://www.youtube.com/c/JasonMorrisphotocinema/videos +* Jiggie Alejandrino (flash + portrait) - https://www.youtube.com/c/JiggieAlejandrino +* Oma Ghomrawi (reviews + tutorials) - https://www.youtube.com/c/OmaGhomrawi/videos +* Hybrid Shooter (reviews) - https://www.youtube.com/c/TheHybridShooter/videos +* Photo Genius (beginner tutorials) - https://www.youtube.com/c/PhotogeniusAu/videos +* Leigh TheSnapChick (tutorials + reviews) - https://www.youtube.com/c/TheSnapChick/videos +* Dave Morrow - https://www.youtube.com/c/DaveMorrow +* Ryuta Ogawa - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIQnVbLMpn_Sqor7dxSDcyQ +* Roman Fox - https://www.youtube.com/c/snapsbyromanfox +* Becki & Chris - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIXKkzlHjD1rUPOLRfJZvrg +* Kyle Johnson - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_qp57xQ0Y3LZ-CVwevLXOw +* The Photo Dept. - https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePhotoDept +* FStoppers - https://www.youtube.com/user/FStoppers +* EyeExplore - https://www.youtube.com/c/EYExplore +* Peter Coulson - https://www.youtube.com/c/PeterCoulsonPhotographer +* Photography Pro - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9n0tUXP7QB5ALfg3PFO19A +* Camera Club Live - https://www.youtube.com/c/CameraClubLive +* Gone Feral - https://www.youtube.com/c/GoneFeralUK +* Jessica Kobeissi - https://www.youtube.com/c/JessicaKobeissi +* Irene Rudnyk - https://www.youtube.com/c/IreneRudnyk +* Andrew Kearns - https://www.youtube.com/c/andrewtkearns +* Martin Wong - https://www.youtube.com/c/MartinWongPhoto +* Dante Sisofo - https://www.youtube.com/c/streetphotography +* Liam Gordon - https://www.youtube.com/c/TheLiamGordon +* Ari Jaaksi - https://www.youtube.com/c/ShootOnFilm +* Morten Rustad - https://www.youtube.com/c/RustadMedia +* Teo Crawford - https://www.youtube.com/c/TeoCrawford + + +**Companies / Corporate:** + +* Moment - https://www.youtube.com/c/moment +* CineStill Film -https://www.youtube.com/c/CineStillFilmOfficial +* Kamerastore - https://www.youtube.com/c/Kamerastore +* Greys of Westminster - https://www.youtube.com/c/graysofwestminsterLondon +* Filtergrade - https://www.youtube.com/c/Filtergrade + +EDIT: Wow, this blew up; cheers for all the feedback and the awards! Once I have time I'll add the missing channel-suggestions. + +EDIT 2: It's getting hard to keep track now :) - also, I agree that it'd be good to categorise them as there's just such a huge volume of channels listed here; I might sit down and go through them but I'll need some time + outsource this to a separate post.",0 +6599,A Hillsboro woman waited until she was 60 to learn photography – now she’s capturing life in a small town. ,0 +6600,"Hilton hotel took photos off of my personal IG and is using them for marketing promo…. Not sure if this sub has the answer I’m looking for…but can they just do this? + +Had some professional photos taken recently at a Hilton hotel (inside the lobby/common area - no logos or distinguishable building characteristics in the photos), and discovered that they are using the photos for marketing purposes on their IG pages now. + +Nobody asked permission…they just did it. The photographer was also unaware, as he was not credited, until we messaged him. + +Only found out about this after friends started asking if we did a marketing campaign with the Hilton. That’s how it appears when you look at their posts. In reality they just ripped the photos off of my page and created an ad from them. + +Thoughts ?? + +Edit: The space was rented out for an engagement ceremony, which is where the photos derived from. I am the client. The photographer has no affiliation with the Hilton and was unaware of this as well.",0 +6601,"Unpopular Opiniom? If your posting about your new camera purchase - don't show a picture of the camera - show a picture you TOOK with the camera.. Kind of a vent - tired of folks saying , ""I just bought a \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_"" and show a pic of the camera we've all seen. Take a picture WITH is - not OF it. /vent",0 +6602,"Nikon reveals its new $6,500 800mm F6.3 VR S super telephoto lens for Z-mount cameras: Digital Photography Review. ",0 +6603,"“Always keep your photos! Just buy more storage.” I just deleted 20,000 photos.. I’ve seen it quite a lot “hard drives are cheap, just keep your photos”. But I disagree. Culling is an important part of the editing process, and something I’ve fallen behind with lately. When I first started taking my photography seriously, I would take many repetitious shots, test shots, or just junk shots. And deleting photos which don’t meet my standard, which the client will never see, which I will never share, or never even give a second look, are not worth keeping. They make navigating my Lightroom catalogue difficult, and get in the way of finding the images I’m really looking for. + +My catalogue was about 80,000 photos, and now I’ve reduced that to 60,000 - about 800gb of photos. And I’m pretty pleased to see them go. Do you keep every single photo? Or do you have a culling method of your own?",0 +6604,"I was just followed around for at least an hour before I escaped in a taxi.. So I'm in a pretty huge city. I deliberately came here to do some street photography/rediscover my love for photography. For this reason I decided to travel alone. + +I was on an intersection taking some panning shots, and noticed a guy over and over when I looked around me. It didn't seem worrisome at the time so I just let it be. He looked straight at me on multiple occasions. + +After like 5 minutes I decided to walk towards my hotel and totally forgot about this guy. Then around 30 minutes later I turn around and... there he is. Again. It can't be a coincidence right? + +It's very crowded so I'm not too worried, but decide to walk in a somewhat random pattern. He follows my every move. My heart starts beating faster. Do I walk into a restaurant, do I ask for help, do I find some cops? + +That's when I noticed some taxis and hopped in one and made my escape. I don't really feel like going out again, at least tonight. I'm here for 2 more days. + +I don't know what would have happened if I didn't notice him. In hindsight he looked pretty crazy. I was carrying an R6 and 70-200mm so it's not exactly a sly setup. Kind of making me doubt taking it out again. + +Feel free to share your stories. That was a scary experience.",0 +6605,"American photographer William Klein, who strongly influenced fashion and street photography, dies aged 96. ",0 +6606,"Panasonic, Nikon quit developing low-end compact digital cameras. ",0 +6607,"13 Tips on How to Photograph Tiny Spring Flowers. Hi Reddit, + +It's been a while since I published an article here. I posted a similar article for [little mushrooms in the forest some time](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/j9ogr9/10_tips_for_photographing_little_mushrooms_in_the/) ago and it was very appreciated by this community. So here's a similar article on little spring flowers! + +​ + +[a little snowdrop in between crocus flowers.](https://preview.redd.it/nevkxrqnucl81.jpg?width=1800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=637b7db1fec0e3a98d25ba9bc29a112bbc087a53) + +Spring is around the corner and the little flowers start to pop up everywhere. This article focuses on how to photograph these little flowers with a macro lens. However, you don’t necessary need a macro lens to use these techniques. A longer lens with a large aperture will also work, but you won’t get the super smooth silky bokeh (that beautiful soft part behind the flower). For the best results, especially with tiny flowers, get a macro lens or use the cheaper option: macro rings (Google them for your lens). And let the fun begin! + +***Disclaimer: I photograph macro mostly different than a lot of other ‘macro photographers’ as I am doing it the ‘easy and lazy’ way, meaning I don’t use a tripod which makes me fast & flexible. Everyone works different and in my opinion there is no right or wrong. I am simply explaining you how I work. The article is meant to get you inspired!*** + +These techniques can literally be used anywhere. You only need a small patch of flowers. You can even do it in your garden! In this article I'm mostly using a little field of Snowdrops and Crocus flowers next to my house. To put it into perspective: here's how the field looks: + +​ + +[field with little snowdrops and crocus flowers next to my house.](https://preview.redd.it/9pmxxt8kucl81.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7fa4640647d51090867945e5c960df0f46e31ea6) + +**Let's get started!** + +\- Get low on eye level with the flower. Don’t photograph them from an angle up top, you won’t get proper depth that way. + +https://preview.redd.it/54md7dfuucl81.jpg?width=1800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=63c2485709861f22d0853c76610fa0b99eec7496 + +\- Shoot during early spring mornings to get dew drops on the flowers. You may also bring your own water spray to get that ‘wet look’ but I find the little dew drops more natural and beautiful. + +https://preview.redd.it/c94intpwucl81.jpg?width=1800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3b0a447eeb51b29e170cab17f9451c67341ebcac + +\- Light: Different kinds of light give a completely different mood. Photograph in the evening to get a ‘darker’ mood, and photograph on early morning to get a more colour full mood. This kind of photography can be done perfectly fine at any time of day. An overcast day is actually perfect to spend some hours of macro flower photography. When it’s very sunny, strong shadows can be difficult to work with. Try to find shade (behind a tree) or create your own shade by bringing a white umbrella to put it over the flower! + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/wfz90uhyucl81.jpg?width=1800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=924e55ecb40d70d79f50e5b56211dec6097f5c21 + +\- Composition comes SUPER precise. 1 cm to left or right completely changes your composition. Therefore you can take countless composition with just 1 subject. Try slightly moving and take all kinds of different shots from the same flower. + +\- For my style of shooting I don’t use a tripod. 2 reasons are: I often need to get extremely low to the ground and a tripod makes it cumbersome. And second: with hand held shooting I can move composition extremely fast & precise. It takes some practise though, and when it gets darker you need to ramp up your ISO a bit. + +https://preview.redd.it/0juoune2vcl81.jpg?width=1800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=97be77e9bec07c2039b994d2c3149df02760c7d3 + +\- Shoot from a bit further to see the flower with its environment. Seeing it stand in between the ’big’ grass or other bigger flowers makes it look tiny and adds emotion. + +https://preview.redd.it/9x7kqvx4vcl81.jpg?width=1800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=02d3c3b8ed248115c604008dd0e7e70a9187af53 + +\- Shoot super close, to basically get a ‘portrait’ of the flower. And you can shoot even closer to get only a tiny bit of detail of the flower. + +https://preview.redd.it/4hvsj446vcl81.jpg?width=1800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=33c41c28138968c5ec7799166b5fcc37a56de4c4 + +\- Focus comes EXTREMELY tight. I often use autofocus and I am really careful with my focus point. Determine exactly what you want to focus on: The top of the flower or the leaves itself. I often focus on the stern, and sometimes on the outside of the leave. See what you like best! + +\- Most of my shots are taken wide open at f/2.8 with the macro lens. This gives me that super dreamy look. You may want to stop down a bit more if you want more of the flower in focus. + +\- Use other flowers as foreground bokeh. This gives an intimate look. + +https://preview.redd.it/1abbanf7vcl81.jpg?width=1800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=aa5ef60710eea2e83d26134986c8014b68ae4666 + +\- Background is almost more important than the flower itself! Having the right light and colour in the photo can make or break it. It often only takes a super small movement to change the background. So take that time to find the proper background. + +https://preview.redd.it/51b48dy8vcl81.jpg?width=1800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=deed16a47ce665db689fef9026dfeee9013adbdd + +\- Use streetlights or car lights as interesting bokeh backdrops! Flowers can often be found right next to the road. You can use building or car lights to your creativity. + +https://preview.redd.it/lijf45w9vcl81.jpg?width=1800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0ab921839828ad5ed52079cdd49000562f606b40 + +\- Use editing techniques to make your shots even more dreamy, by removing distracting little parts (like little dirt on the flower, or distracting things on the grass). If you're interested in how I edit my images, I have a course available on my website. + +*- Bonus tip: A flip screen on your camera is super handy for all of this. If you don’t have one, you’ll need to lay down on the ground. Bring a carpet :)* + +I hope you found these tips useful. I wanted to add 1 more thing. You DON’T need an amazing camera do do these shots. The lens (macro lens or standard lens with macro rings) is the most important here. + +Gear that I've used in these shots: Sony A7RIV (this is a high end camera, but even my old Sony A7II will get the same results with this lens -> ) - Sony 90mm f/2.8 Macro + +Feel free to drop any question in the comments! If you're interested in my other work, please check my [website](https://www.albertdros.com). + +**Albert**",0 +6608,"""Would Showing Graphic Images of Mass Shootings Spur Action to Stop Them?"" ~ New Yorker. ",0 +6609,"[small rant] I am a photographer, stop asking me to take videos.. TLDR: I'm tired of people asking me, a photographer to take videos. + + +I applied for a job as a photographer in a social media agency, in the beginning of the interview, all was fine. They only asked photography related questions, later however. They asked me that one dreaded question. ""We are looking for someone who can do videos too, do you edit and take videos?"" + +I said no, and I could see on their facial expression that they were disappointed. + + +I'm making this thread because it's not the first time it happens, I wanted to work at a music festival as a photographer, but they wanted me to take some videos too. + +I wanted to handle the social media content of a big hotel, but they wanted me to do videography too. + +I always make it clear that I don't do video, I don't have the equipment for it, I don't have the experience and most importantly, I have no interest in it. But they just keep asking for it. + +It feels like today, videography is seen as a more important media form than photography and that's completely fine. I just want people to understand that some people are photographers, and some people are videographers. Asking a person to do what is not their specialty is just dumb.",0 +6610,"The legendary Sicilian photographer Letizia Battaglia, who spent years photographing the mafia's brutal reign over Sicily during the last half of the 20th century, has died aged 87.. Letizia Battaglia was an incredibly brave woman and a great photographer. I was highly impressed with her after seeing the documentary film ""Shooting the Mafia"" about her. She and her work should not be forgotten! + +[Legendary Italian photographer Letizia Battaglia has died aged 87](https://euroweeklynews.com/2022/04/14/italian-photographer-letizia-battaglia-died/) (Euro Weekly News) + +[Letizia Battaglia: the Sicilian woman who shot the mafia](https://www.huckmag.com/art-and-culture/photography-2/letizia-battaglia-the-sicilian-woman-who-shot-the-mafia/) (huck Magazine) + +[Archive of blood: how photographer Letizia Battaglia shot the mafia and lived](https://www.theguardian.com/artanddesign/2019/nov/27/archive-of-blood-how-photographer-letizia-battaglia-shot-the-mafia-lived) (The Guardian) + +[Letizia Battaglia's best photograph: mafia murder victims in Palermo](https://www.theguardian.com/artanddesign/2014/feb/20/letizia-battaglia-best-photograph-mafia) (The Guardian) + +[Letizia Battaglia: In Conversation](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2iQGhdmEXO4) (YouTube: Letizia Battaglia introduces her work on display at Open Eye Gallery, Liverpool, and gives insight to her life as a photojournalist documenting the Sicillain Mafia's violent reign of tyranny)",0 +6611,"Sonoma Raceway tried to force all pro-photographers to provide free copies of their event pictures within 72hrs. They claimed unlimited freedom to use the images, without crediting the owner, and if they found unshared images on social, that photog would be banned from accessing the pro-photo areas. [Letter](https://i.imgur.com/8qBpwHy.png) + +They [walked it back a bit](https://i.imgur.com/akLyXPc.jpg), but I'm curious if any of you have run into similar over-stepping of control by the venues you shoot at. + +EDIT: I should have stated that this is about 8 months old and back pedaled within a day or two. I just came across the FB screen shot I saved, from ~8mo ago when it happened, and thought I'd see if it's totally outlandish in these strange, greed-is-the-new-norm days we're living in... it would be awful if this kind of thing started gaining traction.",0 +6612,"Just had my laptop, camera lenses, hard drives, and SD cards, LED lights, money, passport, everything, stolen.. I’m still in a state of shock. I’m on my honeymoon with my pregnant wife in my home country of Costa Rica. We spent the last 2 weeks with friends a family, taking pictures and enjoying our first vacation in years. I can’t believe someone broke into my car and stole my entire livelihood out from under me. I went to the police, I asked every local business with cameras, I asked strangers on the streets and patrolled the area for any trace of my bags. + +I’m devastated. I don’t even want to open my eyes because I am surrounded by so many beautiful things that I could take pictures of, but the only thing I have left is my R5 camera body. + +Has anyone here lost everything? How do you recover? I feel so stupid for not taking my one important bag with me during my 20 minute stop to have a smoothie.",0 +6613,"Potential hot take: The most important accessory for a photographer is a good pair of shoes.. Street photographer? Get some pavement pounding comfy trainers because you'll be out in a city all day long chasing light and do you WANT blisters the next day? I didn't think so. + +Landscape photographer? Walking boots. WALKING BOOTS. My dude. Even if you're taking the hike *without* the camera you'd be a lunatic to not buy good boots. + +Work on weddings and events? You're on your feet for 8 hours plus **get some nice shoes**. + +Run a studio in your garage and have people come in for portrait sessions.... Well you my friend deserve some nice fluffy slippers.",0 +6614,"How rude is normal for photographers?. Basically I just had my first ever photo shoot for work (strip club) and it was awful. He didn’t introduce himself, was incredibly snappy and had a real attitude. He didn’t ask before pouring whipped cream all over my lingerie, berated me for forgetting a hair tie on my wrist, and kept putting me in position where hair fell on my face then saying my hair was “a real problem I needed to get under control” and “unattractive and unmanageable”. There were other things like asking me to strike a sexy pose then saying “that’s the opposite of sexy”, as well as acting very annoyed with me in general. + +While I understand he needed to be firm with direction as I didn’t really know how to pose, is this normal? I was under the impression photo shoots are meant to be kinda fun and boost your confidence instead of the opposite. One of the other girls was defensive (because he was “her” photographer the club hired) and said I was being sensitive and that all shoots are like that but the girl I did a duo shoot with said he was definitely being nasty and that it wasn’t normal. Thanks!",0 +6615,"Has anyone else noticed a considerable decrease in engagement on Instagram recently?. It's no secret that IG is betraying the photographers that helped build its empire by burying their work behind ads, reels, and the almighty algorithm...but has anyone noticed a sharp shift in engagement in the past month or two? + +I've made the commitment to pursue photography and filmmaking full time and I've completed and posted some of my best work as of late...and my likes and engagement are down by at 75%. My stories still get some views, but my posts seem to get buried. I only post when I have new work to share, which is no more than one a week. I've reluctantly made some Reels that have picked up some steam (averaging 4000 views) but it's still no where near tik tok and followers still seem to trickle in. + +What gives?",0 +6616,"Co Worker is too cheap to pay for professional photos. So this just happened a few minutes ago. My co worker's wife is bugging him for professional family photos. + +He starts looking at prices and immediately starts complaining to me that it's way too pricey($200 for a basic package $800 for the most expensive) and he won't have access to all of the photos that would be taken. He also doesn't want any photos of his family on any photographers website(he's super paranoid about it). + +I try explaining to him the reason behind those prices and that some photographers use photos they take for their portfolio but not without permission, etc.. and he's just not buying it. + +So now he's talking about just getting a tripod and using his phone to take his family photos. In his words ""How hard can it actually be?"" + +I don't know whether to laugh or be offended.",0 +6617,Rapper Nas Dragged To Federal Court Over photograph with Tupac he posted on IG without photographer licensing. ,0 +6618,"Why are people selling cameras taking bad photos of their cameras?. Just looking around eBay, it's weird how many people with at least enthusiast-level cameras are selling them with [shaky, blurred or out-of-focus photos](https://imgur.com/a/pIOzxoI). + +I know those last two look ""cinematic"" but that wide-open, shallow DOF means only the eyepiece is in focus. Can't see anything else on the camera. + + +Is it just me? If I'm selling a camera on eBay I at least want to take a clear sharp photo of it, not just take a half-assed grab-shot like it was a party and I was drunk, and not just focus at f/1.7 on a wafer-thin slice of the mode dial. It's embarrassing.",0 +6619,"A world ablaze, captured by AP photographers in 2021. ",0 +6620,"Does anyone here feel like photography has shifted over more towards marketing, rather than the art?. *Back then photography was about taking photos and enjoying take a nice photo.* + +>I feel like the aim of it was to not be the ""first"" to take a photo or be trendy (which is what it feels like right now). + +These days most photographers are seeking to follow or start latest trend such as: + +* I wanna take the photo that every Instagram person has. +* I need to do reels as every big channel is doing that. +* I wanna start a trend so then I can become famous. + +*Nowadays... everyone is rushing to be the first to upload a new years photo or the japanese Blossoms.* + +*Also people now say you need to be on TikTok + Instagram... or Youtube + Insta + Tiktok etc...* + +... + +I honestly feel like sometimes I am ""missing out on the trend"" or feel like I need to post my ""best photo"". + +*TLDR*... + +*I'm not saying social media is bad (as it is a way to share our work/passion), but social media feels more like an integrated responsibility than fun. I enjoy the journey of photos and not being the first to upload a special photo..*",0 +6621,"Just lost a client because someone else is doing the shooting for free. I just got a message from a client who almost booked a shooting last week, but then wanted to wait because of the weather. Today she wrote me that she would do the shooting with someone else because that person is doing it for free and that maybe she'd come back later because she really likes my photos. Even tho I appreciate the honesty it really sucks because I would have loved the job and I could also really use the money.",0 +6622,"Anybody shoot a lot of photos, then don't look through them/edit them?. I find myself doing this often lately... I go out and shoot for a day, or on vacation, or a hike... then I just can't be bothered to go through and edit them, or even look at them in many cases. + +I tell myself I'll get around to it, then months will go by and they're still sitting on a card. + +I think it's because when I have free time, I do like going out and taking shots, but don't really want to be sitting behind a computer to look through them / edit them haha. + +Eventually I will but I'm sitting on stuff from over 6 months ago at this point. + +Note, this is for my PERSONAL stuff. + +For my paid stuff, I look through them and edit them right away.",0 +6623,"What Burning Man Does to Cameras. Lensrentals.com's [Post](https://www.facebook.com/Lensrentals/posts/pfbid02LjDXnnNgbnfPpnk6Z1CYoB5ctjNVUQbWH1i1NZBQyznfykAz74NE6SkC6hNYBJXZl?__cft__[0]=AZWcbiw0B3YOguef3GE06y99X2Bov6qgKNACGRLtfS-AXb6WWzf0ZtbKxspb40XnvANTQi1hYDyoyxiy7E8IwTn1y8mMr7G2csgOFDTrSuC63pteKl9o-dsb61f5E_QTJFTwxZEODVSU5HQKMUacriJn2xKZqecwQP-PCngtIq2MQkG5sn-QBd01N2pvjeSHA35IjHphE0He90VF5B-HWO7t&__tn__=%2CO%2CP-R) showing some gear that was rented and taken to Burning Man. As someone who could barley afford the camera I have, the idea of taking it to burning man is horrible. Im like the flash when I even swap lenses.",0 +6624,Sabine Weiss: Legend of street photography dies at 97. ,0 +6625,"People don't appreciate good lighting. This morning I was running to the bus, stressed out and sweaty I glanced to my right to spot incoming traffic as I was crossing the road. + +To my surprise the sun is perfectly shining on this old street narrow with wooden houses. + +I can see the particles in the air, it's almost glistening. This is not normal where I live. Once a year type sunshine. + +Anyways, I get to my bus stop and see my coworker. Ofcourse I have to mention how crazy the ligh is today. ""Oh is it?"" - She responds. ""Yes, look over there!"" - I say, and point to the street. The response is something like ""ah, okay"". + +I guess photographers learn to appreciate unusual weather more than others. Just an observation today, thought I'd share. + +Have any of you had the same though?",0 +6626,"Why is Japan so photogenic?. This may sound weird, but this thing is leaving me so frustrated. I travel often between Japan (my home) and my home country India. + +Same camera and same skills. But every photo I take in Japan, be it the city, the mountains and lakes, or just of my friends, turns out so beautiful. The lighting, composition, the colour, everything is so perfect. And it comes out so effortlessly. + +But in India....? My photos just don't turn out good. Photos are just dull, flat, uninspiring, and not beautiful at all. What am seeing and what my camera captures are just too different. And I had to spend so much time editing on lightroom. Note that I have never edited my Japan photos ever except for cropping. + +After years of photographing, I was so frustrated with myself, that I found myself today studying aperture, shutter speed, other settings, what poses are good etc....all the basics again. + +Looking back I experienced the same frustration in Hawaii, but France (Reims) turned out really good. + +Anybody has any theories about why this happens? + +EDIT 1: Am so thankful for everyone's views and valuable advices. I have read through each and every comment, and summarized them: + +1. Air Quality / Percentage of Dust: In India, there could be dust that makes the color look washed out. Burn season affects the air quality UV, and haze. Air quality and less haze helps makes things more dynamic and saturated as opposed to photos having a certain tint to them when shooting in somewhere with worse air quality. (18 Opinions) - And I really agree with this the most. That was really the biggest issue I was facing. Desaturated photos with dull colours. And so many people who said this, were also from countries with problems with air quality and said they have experienced the same issue. + +2. Architecture / Painting like feeling: emphasis on capturing the natural beauty, essence, strength of the thing in question. Culture holds design in general with high regard. impeccable colour palettes from the buildings to nature. Contrast of incredibly new building to century old ones standing side by side, varieties of flowers. The lanterns, the written language, the screen doors, all of that culture placed in contrast or melded with modern architecture is fun to take shots of. (18 Opinions) +3. No on street parking in Japan / Pedestrian-centric / not so much cars in view (14 opinions) +4. Clean and tidy streets (9 opinions) +5. Because I am too familiar with India / Seen things hundreds of times / Desensitized (8 Opinions) +-I thought that this could be the case, but then I strongly realized that it isn’t. Reason would be explained in Edit 3. + +6. Harsh sunlight in India compared to the warm sun and good natural light in Japan (7 Opinions) +7. Tonnes of things adding to uniqueness / visual media / there are cherry blossoms, clean streets, oriental architecture, and hip looking people / women walking around in kimonos everywhere / love for retro / celebration of pop culture, geek culture, historic culture and no hesitation for the Japanese to show that in their architecture and fashion (6 Opinions) +8. Humid/rainy in Japan / being surrounded by the sea: That would probably soften up a lot of lighting, especially compared to India (4 opinions) +9. Incident angle of light: Japan is higher up from the equator. Depending on time of year, it gets a shallower angle of light throughout the day (3 opinions) +10. exotification/orientalism (3 opinions) +-a strongly disagree with that. I have lived in Japan and worked here for so long that there are too many things for me to dislike about JP then like it. India seems much more exotic to me lol. +11. My own mindset (3 opinions) +12. Because my camera is Japanese (2 opinions) +13. Because Japan #1 (1 opinion) +14. Bcuz of ""UwU"" (1 opinion) + +EDIT 2: Note that I am not saying that India is un-photogenic / dull / boring. It is a beautiful country and is definitely makes for great photos. My question is about why an average photograph shot by an average photographer (Me) turn out so nice compared to that average photographer's average shots of India + +EDIT 3: I was just too restless and tried doing an experiment. I wanted to compare the average photo of India vs average photo of Japan. I wrote around 40 hashtags: name of Indian and Japanese cities, towns, villages and regions. I searched those hashtags on instagram and analyzed hundreds of photos. Sorted by both Recent (getting more of amateur photos) and Top (more professional photos). My findings on the elements of the photos were extremely interesting. However am so sleepy rn, and will share that tomorrow. Take Care!",0 +6627,Kat Von D Sued for Copyright Infringement over Miles Davis Tattoo. ,0 +6628,"I did an analysis on the Pixel 7 Pro zoom processing. Something is fishy.... The Pixel 7 Pro introduces a lot of new software tactics to get better images, particularly at various zoom levels. I did some detailed testing, here is what I noticed. I also included a link to a photo album showing examples. + +# How does Super Res Zoom work + +For the uninitiated, Super Res Zoom is Google's magic to make a zoom shot better than simply cropping an image. It uses the shaking of your hand to gather more information about the thing you're taking a picture of. + +This is important because when you hold the camera 100% still (such as putting it up against a window), the phone will artificially engage the OIS motor in a circular motion to simulate a slight hand shake. This is important and I used this in the testing to determine WHEN Super Res Zoom is active. + +The video in my album shows this. Shake starts at 1.5x, stops at 5x. + +Main sensor: 50 MP binned to 12.5 MP +Telephoto: 48 MP binned to 12 MP + +# Main sensor + +It appears Super Res Zoom is not active up to 1.5x zoom. I took a screen recording of the camera so I could study the viewfinder closely, and when at 1.5x zoom and below, there is no artificial motion being introduced. + +Above 1.5x, it starts shaking the camera module for you. I believe this used to start at 2x zoom in previous Pixels, so they have decreased the limit here. That means 1x - 1.5x is still just a crop, but even at 1.5x the resulting image is still 12.5 MP so they're filling in missing pixels through traditional interpolation. + +At 2x, Google says they turn off pixel binning on the sensor and use the middle crop of pixels from a full resolution image. +The camera shake is still present at 2x zoom. So even though they are cropping the middle pixels from the sensor, they are still using the Super Res Zoom technology from before in conjunction. So, then the question might be ""Would a 1.9x shot look a lot less detailed than a 2x shot?"" + +Well, I tested this multiple times with a completely stabilized phone and still objects, and... Yes. + +1.9x is quite a bit worse than 2x if you crop in on the details. From just looking at the full-size images side-by-side on a large monitor, you don't really notice. But when you zoom in, there is definitely a difference. Take a look at the 2x and 1.9x shots in the album I linked. + +The other thing is that the 2x shots consistently took up about 2.5 MB more space than the 1.9x shots (about 30% more space), every single time. This further supports the idea that the 2x shots have more information. So, in other words, if you are looking to zoom around 2x, just use 2x. Anything below that results in a loss of quality. + +Just for kicks, I also tested 2.1x zoom, and it looks nearly identical to 2x (even though the 2.1x shot also took up 3.5 MB less than the 2x shot for some odd reason). I looked at a leaf near the edge of the image to avoid telephoto augmented results (explained below). So essentially, anything below 2x gets nerfed, and anything below 1.5x gets extremely nerfed. + +However, I decided to test that last part too, and the difference between 1.4x (no Super Res Zoom) and 1.9x (with traditional Super Res Zoom) was extremely small. Look for the crop-b images for this comparison. + +# Augmented main camera + +At zoom levels above 2x, Google claims to use the telephoto lens to augment the main lens. However, the telephoto lens can't see everything the main lens can. So, wouldn't that mean that the center of the image will be substantially better quality than the edges? Well, I tested this too. + +The answer, unequivocally, is yes. In fact, there is a clear square in the middle of the image where the image is substantially better quality than the rest. Take a look at the ""3x"" photo with the yellow square I drew in the middle, which highlights where this quality difference is. You will need to zoom in, but you'll definitely see it. The portion inside the square is much better quality than the portion outside it. + +However, the color profile of the telephoto is fairly different (cooler) than the main sensor, so they seem to have corrected for that in post to prevent the middle of the image from looking like a different color from the rest. I have the ""5x telephoto"" shot in there just to give you a reference of what the telephoto lens was seeing, and you can see it pretty much lines up with the square I drew, but with a different color temperature. + +I wonder if they could do a similar thing for 1x - 2x, where they use the middle pixels for the center of the image to augment the edges being pixel-binned on the main sensor. However, this might be really difficult to pull off. I didn't notice any square in the middle being more detailed than the edges in the main sensor images, so I doubt they are doing this. + +I wonder if some super genius could come up with an algorithm where they take both pixel-binned shots and full 50 MP shots and combine them to increase both resolution and dynamic range. + +# Telephoto + +So, here's the weird thing. At no point does the telephoto lens intentionally move the motor in the OIS for you when you are stabilized, regardless of zoom level. Yet, they're almost certainly using Super Res Zoom to achieve that 30x zoom, so how are they doing it? Are they assuming that at that zoom level the user won't be holding the camera steady regardless? + +I tested at 9.8x zoom and 10x zoom and, surprisingly, there was actually no difference, unlike for the main sensor. Even though Google SAID that they were cropping the middle pixels at 10x zoom. In general, the lack of the OIS motor movement and the lack of the quality improvement at 10x makes it seem like they forgot to implement Super Res Zoom in the telephoto lens. + +Take a look at the 5x crop, 12x crop, and 30x crop images. The 12x crop and the 30x crop look nearly identical. The 5x crop only looks bad because it is such a ridiculous crop that there are barely any pixels in the image, whereas the other two appear to just be upscaled versions. Now Google says the upscaling ""uses machine learning"", but why not use their own superior zoom technology? It's like Super Res Zoom isn't enabled for the telephoto. + +Here is the link to the album with examples: [Pixel Super Res Zoom analysis - Google Photos](https://photos.google.com/share/AF1QipO9BvRD6Z9XWkAe-QFGhTNhNKKDrhUQhVHZ-ZI1FmQQlmgKBn8WzMiB8Z1Tq70hag?key=aGdzbjhVdnZYTTJyMmc0aVRBOHRuSmg2MHhoaXl3) + +EDIT: it may also be possible that they are intentionally cancelling out any intentional OIS motor manipulation and hand shake in the viewfinder so that the image looks stable. Otherwise it might look really shaky to the person holding the phone. They did say in the keynote that they are implementing strong stabilization. + +EDIT 2: I also didn't compare a 5x crop to a 10x crop, I only compared a 9.8x crop to a 10x crop. I did this because I was expecting there to be a major difference just like with the main sensor from 1.9x to 2x. + +So I tried that this morning. I did a 5x shot with a crop and a 10x shot. The 10x shot does look better, even though the difference isn't nearly as much as with the main sensor. +Again, this must be due to the ""machine learning upscaling"" but what isn't adding up is why 9.8x and 10x look so similar. + +I also tested whether lighting made a difference in how these lenses are engaged. So today morning I also did a 9x crop vs a 11x crop. They look fairly similar to my eyes. I mean there are some differences, but nothing like the difference between 1.9x and 2x, which is quite stark. + +I've uploaded these additional shots to the album, and labeled them with different colors to help differentiate.",0 +6629,"Not everyone will like your photos, and that’s ok!. Hey folks, just a little thought I wanted to share with you all! + +I’m beginning to realize after many years of enjoying photography as a passion, that it’s not wise to put stock on hoping others will take interest in your work, or to wish for attention on social media platforms. People these days have short attention spans, and it isn’t their fault, being bombarded by content all the time. You can spend hours and hours working on a photo so that in your eyes it’s perfect, but to someone scrolling Facebook or Reddit or Flickr it’s just another image amongst the rest. + +I’ve found it much healthier to enjoy photography for myself. To really feel the camera in my hands and be in the moment, to enjoy the process of creating, and not worry what people think about what comes out of it at the end. When I’m out shooting I think about what pleases my eye, my subjects are things that interest me. The feeling of pride I get from producing an image that is wholly mine is what really matters; whether or not other people see it, or their opinions about it, are secondary. + +Your photos are your vision of the world, and not everyone will see it the same way you do. So don’t worry that awesome photo you took that you’re super proud of didn’t get many likes, or no one noticed your effort. You produced a great image that made you proud, and no one can take that from you! + +I’d like to hear what you all think about this approach :) thanks for reading!",0 +6630,How Does Kodak Make Film? (Kodak Factory Tour Part 1 of 3) - Smarter Every Day 271. ,0 +6631,"Is there any difference in light from a sunset vs sunrise.. I want to shoot a series of golden hour landscapes in my local area. I’ve got two young kids so I’m always knackered, getting out of bed at 4am is just not going to happen but trekking off somewhere at 9:30pm just might. Wondered if there would be any difference in light? + +EDIT 1: My lord, I am aware that the sun rises and sets in different areas of the sky and I will have to consider that in my composition. + +EDIT 2: I’m also aware that the sun doesn’t actually rise and set, it is the earth going about its rotation. Im not a flat earther. + +EDIT 3: It’s 10:15pm here in England and I’m going to bed. It’s been cloudy as balls all day so didn’t get out with my crappy camera. Night.",0 +6632,"Guide for Photographing Tulips in The Netherlands.. I always enjoy tulip season in the Netherlands. As a landscape photographer from the Netherlands, I have been photographing them for many years from [every possible angle](https://www.albertdros.com/post/2018/05/04/dutch-tulips-from-the-ground-and-sky). + +First things first: Over the last few years local 'Tulip Tourism' has exploded. The most famous place in the Netherlands to photograph flowers is Keukenhof. ([I shot a photo series of the place during COVID without any people](https://www.albertdros.com/post/the-most-beautiful-flower-garden-in-the-world-without-people)). The tulip fields around this place were exploding with people in recent years. Unfortunately, many tulip growers had to take action and put fences around their fields and actively protect them from tourists 'destroying' their fields. The sad truth is that there are lot of people (definitely not everyone) that have no respect for the tulip fields, stand on the flowers while taking selfies, and even take the flowers from the fields. I would normally end my article with this, but I feel it deserves extra attention today: Respect the growers fields! + +*As a local photographer who has been photographing the fields for many years, I have made friends with tulip growers (of* [*PolderPride*](https://polderpride.nl/en/home-en/) and other local grower companies\*)\* *. I enjoy seeing them every year and taking beautiful photos of their tulip fields. When I photograph the fields, I always make sure I am careful. And when I enter the fields, it is with their permission.* + +Now let's get to the fun stuff, because photographing tulips and flowers is FUN! There are lots of different angles and conditions to photograph tulips in. Here is some inspiration: + +\- ***Use the obvious leading lines***: The easiest way is to just use the leading lines of the tulips in your composition. These images always work well and are very simple to photograph. Make sure you turn on the grid on your camera. This way, you make sure that the lines are perfectly going tho the exactly middle of the image. + +[leading lines between the flowers are easy to use in a strong composition.](https://preview.redd.it/100kz77epxm81.jpg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=195eac9ad1323ef0c1456fcd27e5cf7f8f20ba13) + +***- Photograph with lots of different conditions!*** Of course, a spectacular sunset or sunrise is beautiful around the tulip fields. But dark skies, storms and even a blue sky with puffy clouds looks beautiful above the tulip fields. There's really always something to photograph on the fields! + +​ + +[In 2021 I finally photographed tulips in combination with a thunderstorm. Something that was on my list for years :\)](https://preview.redd.it/pedo721gpxm81.jpg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d7df6f1fc51bb9f2291383adacb76f40cdd71744) + +\- ***Use a Drone:*** Photographing with a drone gives you a different perspective. Top down views can give very beautiful abstract images of tulip fields. Just make sure you're allowed to fly at the field. It's not allowed in every area in the Netherlands. + +https://preview.redd.it/zjo8lbehpxm81.jpg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9eba327327c7c91e064ce2a1c8878a0bbed1c131 + +\- ***Use Complimentary and Contrasty Colours:*** A Tulip field often has many rows of different colours of tulips. You can use that to your advantage if you want to match the tulips to the colour of the sky. Bright red tulips work well with a dark blue sky for example. + +​ + +[The dark blue in the sky works very well with the red tulips as a complementary color palette.](https://preview.redd.it/vtjuavyipxm81.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f33658bf4db00fde474da9d56c2e87067fbdb80a) + +\- ***Use a little bit of a higher ISO:*** It can get windy in the Netherlands. To make sure the flowers are sharp, you often have to use a slightly higher ISO (especially when photographing at sunset or sunrise) to make sure the tulips are sharp. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/5q2frrokpxm81.jpg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e4368f4af97bcfd84842acbb5e62f78d6ffcbef7 + +\- ***Portrait orientation:*** Experiment with portrait orientation. Don't only shoot in landscape mode. Portrait orientation can occasionally give more depth and layers to an image. + +https://preview.redd.it/6dj2hlkmpxm81.jpg?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dc405ad529004e78ff998644cacd8c5e0bb14864 + +\- ***Get super close & use focus stacking***: You can get very low and close to the flowers. It takes some time to find 'the perfect tulip' on the foreground, but it can be very rewarding when you do. With this technique, your image will look very 3D. You get so close to the tulip on the foreground, that you can't get everything in focus. Basically, you're near your maximum focus distance of your lens. If you can't get both the foreground and background in focus, you can use a technique called 'focus stacking'. With this, you take a photo of the foreground, mid-ground, and background, and merge them together in postprocessing to get a sharp photo from front to back. Note that this technique can only be done with basically no wind. I also teach this postprocessing technique in my [editing course](http://www.edityourlandscapes.com/). + +​ + +[By getting super close to the foreground tulips you create a 3D effect.](https://preview.redd.it/nb0qjqqnpxm81.jpg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=69fccbb30e8b6ceb706a284935287b4a9fc88dac) + +\- ***Find interesting tulips that stand out and take close ups:*** Closely walk past the rows of tulips and see which ones stand out. And try to take a photo of them with a telezoom. I sometimes even use 400mm and get quite far away. This way you can take a super dreamy image of a single tulip. Of course, you can also use a macro lens. **Fun fact**: While the the tulips that stand are beautiful, they are are usually 'sick' . The tulip growers all remove them from the fields before they do their harvest. + +​ + +[It's not a tulip, but still a very interesting little flower in the middle of row between the tulips!](https://preview.redd.it/442fjmeqpxm81.jpg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=887471661c7da0c6e2ceb56de9ccca406c120fce) + +\- ***Get even closer: shoot macro or details of the flowers:*** You can get super close with a macro or telezoom to photograph the little details of the tulips. Dew drops in the morning for example, or simply the elegant shapes and colours of the flowers. Sometimes I can spend an hour photographing a single tulip from all angles. + +https://preview.redd.it/10ia4xlspxm81.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=90d234b954d109f6cea0c6a7cfe07ae8eeab35d1 + +https://preview.redd.it/vsx3xiurpxm81.jpg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=93849a09b3b5114160696b8cc73faafb49e95a81 + +**When?** + +If you visit half April you're usually good to go. We can never be sure when the first tulips pop up, and different parts of the country blossom at different times. The tulips weeks early or weeks later depending on the weather of the season. As it's quite warm the beginning this year, we're currently expecting to see the first tulips in the beginning of April or maybe even a little bit earlier. + +**Where to find the most beautiful tulip fields in the Netherlands?** + +This is a question I get asked a lot and the truth is: I can never be exact. The tulip fields are always different every year. Of course there are areas in the country with a lot of tulip fields, but you'll have to check them out every year to see what exact field looks the best. They also often slightly change, as it's difficult the grow the same flower on the same field for multiple years in a row. That could mean that you have a beautiful tulip field right in front of a windmill in one year, but it won't be there the next. + +In [my 5-year old article](https://www.albertdros.com/post/2017/04/20/where-how-to-shoot-tulips-in-the-netherlands) I'm showing you some areas where to find the tulips. There haven't changed much. There is also a [tulip route](https://tulpenrouteflevoland.nl/) in the Noord Oostpolder of the country, which is a designated route with tulip fields that you can drive by car. I would recommend doing that if you don't know where to start. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/6q2ct3dupxm81.jpg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a2a7fefa2d5e92388e5add5e5c3c80c5f89ab6b0 + +**Rules** + +I'd like to close off this article by referring back to the beginning. Photographing tulips is great, but keep in mind you're on someone's property. + +**DON'T** access tulip fields that have a fence round it. That fence is there for a reason. + +**DON'T** walk into the tulip fields when you don't have permission from the tulip grower. Sometimes they're working on their land. If you see people working, simply walk up to them and ask who's the owner of the field. This is how I made friends over the years. I love to chat with the growers about their flowers. They always talk with passion. Then simply ask if they don't mind that you're taking some photos of their flowers. Ask their email address and email them some of your photos. This way you'll always be welcome on their fields. + +**DON'T** take flowers from the fields. They're not yours! + +**DO** always be careful when walking in the fields (with permission). Treat the field like it's your own garden. Respect the fields. + +**DO** take beautiful photos! + +\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ + +Photographing the tulips is different each year. Different conditions, different flowers (did you know they come up with completely new tulips every year?), different weather, different fields. I can really never get bored of photographing the tulips! Let's all stick to the rules and be nice to our tulip growers. And enjoy the beauty AND the smell of these beautiful flowers! + +Any questions? Feel free to drop them in the comments! + +Thanks! + +Albert",0 +6633,"My girlfriend hates the photos I take of her. My girlfriend is beautiful and she photographs so well but whenever I take photos of her she says they are extremely unflattering. I think they look good, but she can’t stand them. What am I doing wrong? Is there a way girls like their photos taken? Please help me",0 +6634,Man Ray’s Famed Photograph of Kiki de Montparnasse Sells for Record $12.4 M.. ,0 +6635,"Does anyone find working as a professional photographer sucks out the fun of photography. I used to regularly shoot events, portraits and weddings as a side job when studying at university. + +Now, every once in a while I will get an old client who wants to rebook me or a referral but when I do these shoots now I realised how much I disliked working professionally. For me personally it sucks all the fun out of photography. + +I wouldn’t say I’m introverted but I do put in extra effort when interacting with guests and clients and I found that very draining. +I personally would much rather focus on taking a photo instead of having to keep up my extroverted personality for a full wedding day and I just found that super draining. + +Does anyone feel the same? If not, would love to hear everyone’s thoughts",0 +6636,Photographer Born In 1843 Talks About the Wild West - Interviewed in 1941 - American Homesteaders. ,0 +6637,"Bride wants me to edit out the ""fat cheeks"" (Wedding photos). The bride talked a lot about wanting to look like a princess. They said due some health issues they gained some weight and wanted me to photoshop them so they look ""smaller"".... they want smaller cheeks. + +**Honestly speaking this a very difficult task (for 2000 photos), how would you approach these things?** That's thousands of photos to do. + +*Side note: How do you consider requests like this? Do you straight out reject requests like this?* ***E.g. Photoshop to make me look thinner, remove the pimples from my face etc...***",0 +6638,"Being paid between 2-4 dollars for a magazine cover with over 600.000 publications (EyeEm/Getty Images). Hey, + +I recently got tagged on Instagram by a well known verified magazine with according to Wikipedia over 600.000 publications weekly... And to my surprise they had used one of my images as their cover photo, now ofcourse I was very honored and proud. + +The issue is that when I contacted EyeEm (the service where I originally uploaded this photo with the option to sell it for commercial use) about when I could expect the payment for this cover... They told me I had already been paid so I went to look at all the sales regarding this image and over 4 years it had been sold for a combined total of : 75 dollars.... Now I looked at the last year of sales since I doubt the magazine had bought my image any later then that (due to privacy reasons EyeEm couldn't tell me when and for how much they bought it) and all the sales of last year of this image were between the 2-4 dollars. + +Now my question to you: + +Is this normal? Should I just accept the L and move on? + +Tldr: sold my pictures trough a stockphoto company, photo got used on the cover of well known magazine, photo got printed 600.000 times and used on their social media, I got paid 2-4 dollars....",0 +6639,"Alternatives to Instagram: The Short List. Hi everybody, + +My last post on the same subject drew so much insight—I had never heard of half of the online photo communities that you suggested. Here, I have attempted to boil them down to a handful of frontrunners. Please weigh in if you use any. + +I think our goal is to have as robust (large, active, talented) a community as Instagram, only without Instagram. We're talking about *hobbyist and artist photographers* here, and maybe not so much commercial, wedding, or advertising shooters who are trying to get the attention of potential clients. + +Criteria for the Short List: iOS + Android app, sound ownership, large contributor base, more emphasis on viewing and less on selling or contests. Reasonable monthly fee and/or free option. Was this a scientific process? God, no. You should see my ridiculous scribblings. Did I download and attempt to use a bunch of them? Yes. Oy. + +# The Short List: Viewbug, Flickr, VSCO + +*Notes*: **Viewbug** has small but growing user base, and small but growing image library. My go-to search was the term ""New Topographics"" (a somewhat obscure style I like and attempt to shoot) and Viewbug did yield results, but only several dozen from only a couple contributors. **Flickr** is described by some as tired, old (it is), and abandoned, and maybe that's true. Others say it's vibrant and busy. I can't tell how much new work gets uploaded daily, so if you're a user, please describe your experience in the comments. But it's a deep bench and seems to function well, despite being a little dated-looking. (Is it really any worse than IG? BTW Yahoo owns it.) **VSCO** returned plenty of search results for me (as did Flickr) and I even saw one of my IG follows on there. Browsing images seems to happen in two columns. If you're a regular VSCO user please let us know if the experience is OK. Do videos end up in your feed? Can they be suppressed? The work is there. Big user base too. + +*Honorable mentions*: **Vero** (Possible dubious ownership, but enthusiastic and growing user base), **Glass** is very photo-centric, perhaps to a fault. The feed is JUST photos. No names or locations (God, I love a location). Likes are hidden. Glass is supposed to release its Android app this month. Finally, it's divided into a list of categories, and photo subject is not searchable. So, *New Topographics* was a bust. Watch this one: It has a ton of potential. $30/year. + +*Frontrunners left off and why*: **500px** — Horror stories about Chinese ""stock photo"" agency ownership, no control of images deleted or not, Chinese state disinterest in intellectual property rights, as pointed out by a Redditor (and elsewhere). *Lots* of stories about rampant bots (like IG). Unfortunate, as it's a large and talented user base, and a good app. **Behance** — I may have misjudged based on my cursory research, but it seems more like a stock photo and design marketplace. Based on ""projects"" concept. **100ASA** — Baroque ""curation"" process. **EYEEM** — Beloved but seems laser-focused on selling. I don't know about you, but I could live without that angle. + +The leftovers: **Ello**, **Hive**, **Pixelfed**, **Portraitmode**, **Storyark**, and **Tumblr** all had one or two strikes against them. Either there's a missing app either iOS or Android, a very small user base, or an emphasis on contests, selling, or family photo sharing. **Newgrain** and **Grainery** are film-only. Pixelfed is such a cool concept: Open-source. That said, no apps. + +**TL;DR** — Viewbug, Flickr and VSCO are very good. Others may have issues. + +If you're sick of this topic, thank you for reading—You're not alone. If you're interested in a graceful yet disruptive mass-migration to another app from crappy IG, please leave a comment. Thanks!",0 +6640,"""Meteor Storm"" potential tonight. This will be the first time the Earth has passed directly through the debris trail of a comet that broke apart in 1995 creating a new shower called the Tau Herculids. + +[https://www.google.com/search?q=tau+herculids](https://www.google.com/search?q=tau+herculids) + +A really good meteor shower produces 3 or 4 meteors a minute. The shower tonight however has the potential to be a Storm rather than a Shower - producing 30 to **40 meteors a second**. (That's not a typo!) + +... or it might produce bupkis. + +They just don't know - such is the nature of ""first time"" events. It will either be really fantastic, or fantastically boring. It all depends upon the speed at which the comet debris broke away and they can't really measure that, hence the uncertainty. + +If you have clear, reasonably dark skies tonight you might want to consider rolling the dice on it as a subject for your photography. I'm stuck with ""Mostly Cloudy"" so probably won't have a shot at it - going to try though. ;)",0 +6641,"What's the deal with security guards and photography?. I regularly photograph in busy cities (e.g., Philadelphia, Detroit, Chicago, NYC). And on basically every outing, I've had one (often more!) security guards tell me that I need to leave, that I need to point my camera away from a specific building, etc. + +If I were tresspassing, I'd understand, and I wouldn't fault them for sending me packing. But I'm specifically careful *not* to tresspass. All of these incidents have happened on public property. For instance: + +* In Detroit, I was told I ""can't photograph anywhere in this area."" The area was a three-block section full of public sidewalks and roads. (The security guard was sitting in a booth in front of a parking garage and I was three blocks north of him, so he yelled across the space to make sure I knew.) +* In Manhattan, I was told that I needed to stop photographing because I was standing in front of a private building. Yet I was very clearly on a public sidewalk, and I wasn't even pointing my camera at the building in question; I was facing in the opposite direction photographing some skyscrapers. +* In Philadelphia, I was told I couldn't take a photo of a building across from the super-touristy city hall. +* In Chicago, I was told I couldn't use a camera in Millennium Park (""only a smartphone camera,"" I was told). When I went back the next day and asked for clarification, a different attendant told me that I could do whatever I wanted. + +I do have a reasonably large setup (a mirrorless camera on a tripod), but as far as I'm aware, these security guards have no legal standing. (EDIT: Just to be clear, I'm a hobbyist, not a professional, and none of my images are for professional purposes.) If I'm on a public sidewalk, I can photograph whatever I like, at least in the US. So does anyone have any insight? What, in particular, are these security guards worried about? And why do they think they can prevent photographers from shooting? Does this ever happen to you? + +Sorry for the frustration-filled post. I just got kicked out from another location the other day, and at this point it feels like security guards just enjoy exercising power. I want to believe they have good intentions, but it's tough.",0 +6642,A film photography revival is developing in the Northwest. ,0 +6643,"Photography is not about the gear you have, but... So, a few weeks ago I finally made the jump from a Sony A58 to a fullframe mirrorless A7iii. For context, I do photography only as a hobby but have been at it on and off for over 12 years. Started off with my father's old DSLR, bought my own after a few years. Did a few small gigs here and there but never enjoyed it too much, maybe partially because I'm very critical of my own work and don't feel like I can deliver the kind of quality people look for in a professional photographer. The A58 was *fine* but really starting to show its age in some aspects, and it took a lot of micro management to get my pictures looking the way I wanted them. + +Anyway. Had a nice pay raise at work and decided I was going to finally take the leap from the 10-year-old APS-C DSLR and I gotta say, I'm blown away! + +* **BOKEH** for days obviously +* The body feels so much better in my hands, the weight difference isn't massive but it really matters. +* Battery life is fantastic. I've been shooting it extensively for a few weeks and have never seen it dip below 60%. I love that I can charge it by USB, just leave it in after transferring the RAWs. +* The autofocus speed, WOW. The A58 was fairly slow and noisy (with a budget Tamron lens mounted) but even the kit lens on this setup just blows it out of the water. It's nearly instant and perfect almost every time. +* Focus points on the touchscreen seems like such a no-brainer but I never considered that it's a feature nowadays. It's just such a massive QoL improvement. No more *center focus, reframe composition, shoot (slightly out of focus)*. +* Incredible low light capabilities; this one is honestly insane. The A58 was borderline unusable above 800 ISO (I don't like noise) and I would usually lock the ISO to 100/200 and make up for it with aperture or shutter speed. On the A7 it only gets ""too grainy"" above, say, 6400 ISO. Anything under 1600 looks virtually noise-free. +* Lack of cropping is great and gives me extra freedom while shooting. The wide dynamic range is very useful for RAW editing. +* Picture quality is fantastic and 4K or 1080p/120fps video is awesome. +* Burst mode is very fast and works well, the camera feels very fast and responsive overall. + +But what I love most about all of this is that it has refueled my passion for photography. As time went on I found myself grabbing my DLSR less and less. Not saying that this was all to blame on the camera, but oftentimes I would edit my photos afterwards and find that many of them were simply not as good as I had hoped (at times ending up with 0 keepers). With this one it feels like my ""success rate"" is way higher: after a day of shooting I can always pick out at least 10 photos that I like. Some shots make me feel proud, I share more of my work with friends & family again. I enjoy editing my RAWs and sometimes just browse through my Lightroom catalog to see if I've missed any good ones. I take more random walks or tag along to places I normally wouldn't just so I can get some more shooting in! + +Now of course, I understand that gear is not the be all end all and the passion/motivation might come and go again in the future. For the time being though, I'm really enjoying photography again after years of barely picking up my camera. Not sure what the point of this post is except to share my enthousiasm I guess!",0 +6644,"I hate to say it but Instagram has defauted my mind into 9x16 and thinking ""mobile first"" is this what photography has come to, or do I need to disconnect and get off ig?. I have a love hate relationship with that app, and since TikTok came about they've switched to heavily video oriented content. We need a social media app designed for photographers. I mean there are a few but none of them have really translated to the world of apps (I.E. Flickr is almost a ghost town bar for uploads, the communities are dead). + + +Maybe I'll just start posting more on Reddit, although, the community aspect of Reddit is borked into the old ways of just being a glorified forum.",0 +6645,"Why do you take photographs? What do you actually do with them? At the end of the day it's just gigabytes worth of very visually similar images that only I and a few others will ever see. So what's the point? And how could I turn this 'pointless' hobby into something more fulfilling?. This is NOT meant to be an inflammatory or provocative post - I am not trying to belittle a much-loved pastime! :) + +I've been a keen (very amateur) photographer since for the last 35 years. It's something I've done ostensibly for fun, and now having gone though a hiatus of not owning a 'good' camera, I'm looking to get back into it. + +When my kids were younger I took thousands of wonderful photos of them with my DSLRs and have hundreds of keepers - photographic and video memories of them that I'll treasure forever - we look at them regularly thanks to having them uploaded to Google Photos with it's ""this day 10 years ago"" reminders etc. + +**Just for those photos alone I'm happy to have gotten into photography, so maybe that's enough of an answer to my question!** + +But aside from those treasured family photos, 99% of of the tens-of-thousands of photos I've taken will never be seen or edited and just gather digital-dust on my hard drives,never seen by a soul. I tell myself I'll ""do something with those when I'm older and have more time"" but I know I probably never will. + +I've found myself looking at cameras again this last month with a view to getting a mirrorless or DSLR again. + +But then I think - why? 99% of the shots I'll take will be of 'stunning landscapes' that seem interesting at the time or fancy rocks on a beach, but inevitably they all look exactly the same on my computer screen. Maybe there's 1 in 100 that is something special. But so what? It's just a picture of some hills or a tree that I'll likely walk past again and again anyway (health permitting etc of course). + +I don't share them with anyone on Flickr or Instagram etc, and even if I did they might get a few Likes, but then... what? Just more digital detritus in an endless sea of 'stunning landscapes' on the internet. + +I would love make more of a hobby that I love to dabble in but currently leaves me feeling a little flat. Find the passion and the reason to do it that I once had. + +So what are my options, and does anyone else feel like this?",0 +6646,"Legal Question: A shot I took at a large music festival got picked up by the city and they’ve asked for a copyright release to use it.. I apologize for my ignorance in this area of the industry, however I’ve never had this happen before. Is this something I should expect compensation for since they’d be using it commercially? Pros and cons if I do release it for them to publish it? Thanks in advance.",0 +6647,"How have you gotten your non-photographer friends to take a decent photo of you on a trip?. To be clear I'm not a photographer. I'm a casual who bought a Fujifilm X-T3. I don't pay for any editing software. My photos are whatever. + +But what bothers me is I'll be out with friends and I'll take a quick photo of them and then ask them to do the same and it's just like... people seem to go fully blind when they take a photo of me? Arms chopped off out of frame. The picture is completely lopsided. The top of my head is an inch from the top of the frame. Instead of the monument or large feature being visible, they take the photo so my body is completely blocking it. Or the monument is just half cut-off. I try to explain to people what I want, or I even shwo them the photo I just took of them and ask them to emulate it, and again, they just seem like they lose their eyesight. + +I want good pics of me!!!! How do I explain things better? + +Edit: Thanks, all! A lot of people say it's time to just use a tripod. That will annoy my friends, who probably want to get a move on, but screw them!!!",0 +6648,"Can we ban double-page images in photographic albums?. This is only half serious, but I am really fed up with the most iconic images quite often getting a double-page spread and becoming totally unenjoyable. It should be illegal. + +Did the editor of these albums ever hold a BOOK? Magazines are fine, but books usually really need to be forced to open up enough for this to be anything less than a tragedy. + +Sure, not doing this means that the image will end up with less area, but as a compromise, they could print it in a portrait format on a single page. I would be more than happy to rotate my book. + +Am I missing something? + +Thank you for contributing to this rant on either side. + + +EDIT: As a clarification, I am mostly angry about big publishers printing photographic books in this manner.",0 +6649,"Finnish Nature Photography Award 2022 winner. Winner Antti Strang['Threat from the depths""](http://www.vuodenluontokuva.fi/vlk/userfiles/vlk2022/sarjavoittajat/e.1._uhka%20syvyyksist%C3%A4_antti%20strang.jpg). +Series winners [here](http://www.vuodenluontokuva.fi/vlk/sarjavoittajat2022). Site in Finnish. +A year ago I sent feedback to the NGO organizing this contest to update their site to english and better looking. I truly think the level is really high in this competition year after year and they would deserve a better site.",0 +6650,"Thoughts on photographers that only shoot girls?. Is it just me or do most of these photographers just use photography as an excuse to get girls? Recently I’ve been working with a guy like this, and the way he talks about some of these girls to me is honestly pretty weird. He’s always talking about the last girl he shot and how he’s “in love with them”, I’m like bro did y’all collab on a shoot or go on a date which one is it. Had a girl complain to me about him because he shot with her for hours and didn’t even send her any pictures, now he’s always asking her to go get out to eat with him. + +Another photographer I know seems to be in constant rotation of dating girls he’s met from shooting, and things seem to never end well with these relationships he has. A male model friend of mine asked him to shoot one time and he straight up said “nah I only shoot girls”. + +I have countless other stories about photographers that I really don’t feel like getting into because they’re way worse than the first examples. I’m not saying every one is like this, maybe I’m just getting unlucky with the people I meet. Just have yet to have a good experience with a photographer that strictly shoots females, so I’m genuinely interested in hearing other peoples experiences/opinions on this topic. Also if you’re a photographer who does shoots like this, would love to get your perspective on things as well. + +Edit: The 2 guys I mention are not friends of mine, just acquaintances from client shoots. I’m so close to calling the first guy out on his behavior if I get a good chance to.",0 +6651,"Effects of Lens Focal Length visualized. ​ + +[Given the same aperture and sensor size, while moving camera to compensate for focal length.](https://i.redd.it/40gw2jzxq4f81.gif) + +\-""Compression effect"" happens because light rays get more parallel with higher Focal Length. This is not happening because of Focal Length, but because of higher distance from subject needed for same framing. + +\-Depth of Field region size changes (smaller region/faster defocus fall off with higher Focal Length) + +\-More near and far DeFocus with higher Focal Length + +(This is in Unreal Engine, video credit goes to William Faucher onYT)",0 +6652,"I am a hobbyists photographer but lately I'm finding myself taking my camera out less and less and preferring to just use my phone's camera. I have a Sony nex 6, it takes beautiful pictures, but I am finding myself taking it out less, especially in trips where luggage space is a premium, I'd rather leave it at home and the times I do take it I find myself using it less often than my cellphone camera. + +I am finding more joy using my cell phone camera (at the sacrifice of sharpness and picture quality). + +A friend of mine had a similar feeling and he felt the joy of photography again by buying a pocketable compact camera (like a Sony RX100) and he finds himself using that more than his large Sony A7. + +What are your thoughts on this?",0 +6653,"Why do people think photography is not art?. I feel like maybe lots of people have asked this before or spoken about this before. Lately, I've run into a bunch of different people who keep telling me photography is not art. + + +I know photography is art but my question is why do so many people not see it as art? + + +Is it because they don't see the person who put in the work and only see what the image is. Maybe because they don't know what work goes into creating a shot or is it something else?",0 +6654,"Finding great photography without Instagram, part one: photojournalism. +[Part 1: photojournalism agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ygufpb/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 2: photo book publishers](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/yhghy7/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 3: photography galleries](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/yjkpir/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 4: commercial photography agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ylrpjm/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + + +[Part 5: fashion photography agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ylv8ii/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + + + +I’ve seen a lot of posts (like [this one](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/yge2gi/is_anyone_starting_to_find_the_perfection_of/)) from people who are frustrated at the kind of photography they are finding on places like Instagram, flickr, 500px, and reddit. While those places can be great for community and for seeing what your peers are doing, they can sometimes seem flooded with amateur level or unoriginal work, or work that's only posted to please the algorithm. + +Personally I’ve always preferred to find inspirational photography at good old fashioned websites. I like seeing an individual photographer’s entire portfolio, presented in the way the photographer thinks fits the work (rather than in forced into the constraints of Instagram or edited to please the algorithm). + +A good way to find the websites of the world’s best photographers is to start by looking at the websites of agencies, book publishers, or galleries. So for example if you’re into photojournalism, look at some of the world’s top agencies for photojournalism: + +[Magnum](https://www.magnumphotos.com) + +[Agence VU](https://agencevu.com) + +[VII](https://viiphoto.com) + +[NOOR](https://www.noorimages.com) + +[Panos](https://www.panos.co.uk) + +[Oculi](https://www.oculi.com.au) + +[Contact Press](https://www.contactpressimages.com/index.html) + +[Contrasto](https://www.contrasto.it) + +[Middle East Images](https://meimages.com/photographers/) + +[13 Photo](https://www.13photo.ch/fotografinnen/) + +[4SEE](https://archive.4seephoto.com/index) + +This is just a small selection of the agencies out there, but each one of these has dozens of photojournalists working at the top of their game. You can view a selection of their work on the agency website, but be sure to click through to their individual websites for the best presentation and more work. + +There are similar sources for finding the world’s best commercial, documentary, portrait, and art photography. I have collected hundreds of bookmarks, and I recommend anyone who wants to look beyond Instagram to do the same. + +(Disclaimer: if you already knew this and do this, please ignore. This post is intended to help those who have trouble reaching outside of Instagram / Flickr / Reddit etc. for inspiration)",0 +6655,"Client want's their image deleted from social media. I recently had a session based on time-for-print. +We both signed a contract which stated that I got the right to publish every picture I take. +We mainly made portrait shots and some erotic ones. + +I photographed her for 3 hours, gave her 30 edited images for free and of course, posted some of my favorites on my social media. +Two out of four pictures I posted contained a bit of skin. And I really mean A BIT. +It showed her legs, thats it. No cleavage, no butt, nothing. She even posted said pictures herself. + + +Now she want's me to delete those two pictures from social media. How would you react?",0 +6656,"So it turns out that a decent proportion of 'candid' paparazzi shots are arranged in advance. Thoughts?. [Read an interesting article in the Guardian today about modern celeb photography](https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2022/aug/17/people-think-we-are-scumbags-but-celebrities-are-ringing-us-the-changing-world-of-the-paparazzi). I always thought it was done by a dude hiding in a bush 3 miles away with a 1200mm super tele setup but I guess it's not the case these days. Does this change your perceptions on the ethics of the genre? + +Edit: sorry if it was unclear, I don't care for celeb journalism at all, it just surprised me that public perception of paps as some kind of professional stalker harassing their subjects was quite far from reality and maybe a lot of the distaste directed their way is unwarranted.",0 +6657,"How do you feel about sharing techniques with other photographers?. I'm always a bit gutted when a photographer wants to gatekeep their techniques (see the message I received on IG below when I asked a specific question about their work). I think a photographer's work is good because of much more than just the techniques applied. If Picasso taught someone else his style, that wouldn't make their painting's as good as Picasso. I believe in sharing and mentorship, as someone who is still early in their photography career (<1 year into getting paid work), I have loads to learn and I'm interested in applying skills and techniques from a whole host of styles. Sometimes a photographer can explain two lines about their approach and it opens a whole world of possibilities for me. Not wanting to 'reveal too much' feels like such a position of elitism and exclusivity. Maybe I'm being unfair, I understand someone's work might have a particular style, but these days no one is original anyway, it's how you choose to use your artistic brushes, not what they are that counts! + +How do you all feel about sharing specific camera techniques or choices? + +https://preview.redd.it/0yg17m7ucez81.png?width=710&format=png&auto=webp&s=9b19c428a0f332163e22689a19d87a68f4396c84 + +Edit: Typo + + +Update: Crikey! This got more of a response than I expected. Thank you to everyone for taking the time. I read every comment. It's lovely to hear so many of you open to sharing your tips and tricks, it's also useful to hear the flip side of the coin. I wasn't referring to sharing locations at all on this, I can understand why folks might want to keep that more guarded. I'm definitely going to experiment some more as recommended and see where I get to. ",0 +6658,"in your opinion what photography related YouTube channel is the best?. In your opinion what photography related channel on YouTube is the best and explain why. For me, I have to say Jamie Windsor because unlike most channel who's too busy explaining the how, he explains the why. + +He basically talks about the art of photography in itself and the subject matter and a genre as a whole rather than just particular photos and how he got it like I think most photography YouTubers seem to do.",0 +6659,"Client wants RAW images. How do I nicely say no?. My contract doesn’t specifically say no to sending RAW files, but I’d have to completely go through and pick out the good ones all over again which would add on at least an hour of work for me. I’ve already had to upload their gallery twice because they “lost the photos” last time. + +“My brother-in-law is a photographer and wants to play around with some of the images. He has a style and wants to try some things.”",0 +6660,"I lost an argument against a friend about phone cameras vs photo cameras. So I'm a hobby fotographer for 4 years now and last night I went out and took some pictures of the moon. I have a Sony a7R2 and a Tamron 70-300 tele/macro for Canon with an Adapter. Don't worry, its not my main lens. (main lens is Tamron 28-75mm RXD) + +The pictures turned out to be ok...they were not perfectly sharp but I was happy with them because I didn't touch my camera for half a year now because of school/work -> no time. I uploaded one of the pictures unedited onto my discord server I have together with some friends and 2 minutes later one of them replied with their own picture of the moon and it looked way better honestly. + +The caption was ""My phone takes better pictures, why did you buy this stupid expensive camera if its crappier then my phone"". He has a Samsung Galaxy S22 Ultra. + +I tried to argue that my foto was unedited and then I did something unforgivable: I blamed my equipment, I said its because of the cheap/crappy lens. (I know, never balme your gear) Then he just started to say that cameras and lenses in general are crap and that his phone is way better in every aspect of photography because he can do so much more with it then just take some pictures. Then he trash-talked me and my hobby into the ground for another 5 minutes or so and after that I didn't know what to say. + +How would you guys argue with someone like this?",0 +6661,"Did I Get Duped?. Hello r/photography, +I recently had a one-hour photo session at my home. $600 total. Signed the contract up front, paid half ($300). 2nd half due when images are sent. + +Received images, went in to pay remaining $300, but see that I am being charged $650 for the second half instead. + +I inquire with photographer. He says we went 36 minutes over our allotted time. At no point during the shoot did he warn us that we were going over. We were never told ""Hey, we've got 10 minutes left in our hour-long slot, did you want to stop or add on more time? If you want to add more it would be _____"" Or something to that effect. + +Now, the photographer is holding half of our images hostage. What is my recourse here? Do I have any? +The contract language reads as such: +""PHOTOGRAPHY TIME AND ADDITIONS: The Client and _____ Photography agree that cooperation and punctuality are essential to accomplish the goals and wishes of all parties. Photography coverage commences at the scheduled start time and ends at the scheduled end time. If the Client does not arrive at the appointed time for the session(s), shooting will commence at the scheduled start time and end at the scheduled end time. All additional time beyond the scheduled end time will be billed to the Client. If Photographer is late, the hired hours of coverage starts at the time Photographer arrives."" + +I guess what I'm saying is, when we're in front of the camera and being in-the-moment, how are we supposed to know if time is getting slim? Isn't that part of the photographer's duty to keep an eye on the time? We met at 9:30am, he was not early but was not late. Am I supposed to assume our hour begins as soon as he walked in the door? What about his camera set-up time or the bathroom break he took? Is that included in our hour? + +It just feels like a bit of a bait-and-switch. We were never alerted that we were getting close to going over. I read the contract ahead of time, I just didn't expect this kind of treatment afterwards. I've been really nice in my emails to him discussing this but he's being a prick now. + +The images were uploaded to an online private gallery. Originally, all the images from the whole shoot were there. Once you pay, they are activated for download. I paid the $300 second half from the original contract immediately because I didn't want him to think I was ignoring him or not intending to pay. But I wanted to inquire about the additional charges before blindly paying it because I truly thought it could be an error on his part. + +His answer to that was to remove half the images from the online gallery. He says, ""My work is by time based on my skill, not by taking images and then a client retroactively deciding whether they would like to purchase my time based on viewing those images."" +The first set have been activated for download, since I paid the $300. But now, he won't even let me SEE the second set of images anymore. If I want to see them I now have to pay an ADDITIONAL $100 for ""recovery""!!! So he is now charging $750 instead of $650 for the second half. Instead of the $300 signed by contract. AND now he won't let me see the images. But before I had paid anything at all on the second half, I was able to see EVERYTHING (all the images taken)! + +I'm kicking myself for having paid the second $300 before this was all settled. I was just trying to be nice. + +Am I just stuck with paying the $650 to get the other images? It just feels really shitty. + +UPDATE (12/7): +Wow. THANK YOU to everyone who responded. This is a wonderful community. I really thought my post might go unnoticed/unanswered. Bless all you beautiful people for the advice and support you've given. I am working hard on trying to reply to each one of you. + +My head is swimming with all of this information and I'm truly undecided on what to do. I can't decide whether to just do a chargeback or to pursue small claims. I know small claims is no big deal but as a new mom (hence the REASON for the photoshoot), I barely have time or energy as it is. + +I went to download the (first set) of images last night assuming they'd just download to my computer but instead I get a prompt that says ""Enter your email and we'll let you know when your download is ready!"" Hence, I assume he knows that I have not downloaded ANY images yet, and he will know the second that I do. So right now I have paid the $600.00 and I have NO photos. I am wondering how that impacts things, if at all. At this point the photos are sullied from this terrible experience and I don't even want them anymore. I'm tempted to just do the chargeback for the full amount, not download any photos, and then tell the CC company that the photographer provided no photos. I don't know if that would come off as dishonest though and if I'm better off just getting the first set and still pursuing a chargeback. Or small claims, if I can muster it. + + + +UPDATE (12/7/21): +Here is the contract I signed: https://imgur.com/a/3jCm6rI + +Note that there is a start time but it is NOT the correct time (we started at 9:30am, not 8:00am). There is no specified end time either (I'm not sure if that matters). + +UPDATE (2/3/22): +I'm not sure if anyone is still following or cares about this, but I thought I would update anyway. I ended up filing the chargeback back in December for the full amount. My funds were immediately returned back to me by my bank, and then I got a letter in the mail stating that the merchant would be notified and that they may choose to fight it. If I didn't hear anything by March 3, then I was in the clear and the chargeback would stand. + +Before I filed the chargeback, I had pleaded with the photographer to see if we could come to some sort of compromise (even though it pained me to do so for this prick, I laid it on thick so he might take pity on me and see the error of his ways, and I figured the only way to get somewhere with him may be to stroke his ego a bit). He did not offer any sort of compromise. After that, I wrote him a professional-yet-scathing email and then blocked him from emailing me back using BlockSender. I did not tell him in my email that I was going to file a chargeback. + +This week on Monday (1/31) I received another letter from my bank stating that the merchant is fighting the chargeback and is asking me to reach out to him for a resolution. Well, I already did that obviously, and the bank has proof of that, but they suggested I try one more time. I sent an email yesterday asking him in what way he would like to compromise on this. I have not yet heard back. + +Here is the catch... If I continue to pursue this (assuming he ignores my request for a compromise), then the case goes to arbitration with VISA. I'm totally fine with this because I feel I am in the right, HOWEVER, if I lose then I not only have the chargeback reversed but I am ALSO charged an additional $500.00 by VISA!!! + +I am trying to decide what to do. Out of principle, I want to continue this to arbitration. However, if I lose, I'm out roughly $1,100.00 and I only have half the photos. Or, I could have simply paid this prick $1,100.00 from the beginning and had all my photos instead. + +What would you guys do? + + +UPDATE (3/18/22): +I ended up sticking to my guns and continuing with the chargeback, come what may. I wrote my stance out with complete documentation and submitted it back. +On 3/4, I found out that I won! The bank awarded me with both chargebacks, case closed. I asked whether the photographer was charged with the $500 VISA arbitration fee instead of me, since I won, but my bank person said they just ended up deciding on the matter in-house (within my credit union). + +HOWEVER! Today I get a letter from an attorney. It states that I owe the photographer $633 (full conract amount) within 14 days, since I have half of the photos. If I do not pay, they will advise the photographer to file a lawsuit that will ask for $1,012.80 instead. + +They will also claim I committed credit card fraud, and under that claim, the photographer, ""...will be able to recover triple damages plus all of the costs and attorneys fees incurred in the lawsuit. Your exposure could easily be $6,000 or more."" + +So... wtf? What would you guys do? He's obviously trying to intimidate me. I have no idea if he'd actually file a lawsuit, but maybe he would. I already tried reasoning with this douche. I'm willing to pay him $316.50 since I got half the photos. But obviously that's not gonna be enough for him. + +I filed chargebacks on both charges because that's what my credit union suggested I do. + +Should I get a lawyer to write a response back? Respond back directly myself? Do nothing?",0 +6662,"PSA. Watch out when buying used lens from Amazon Warehouse.. Just had such a bad experience. Got a used lens from Amazon warehouse, when I got the box it was way too light to be what I ordered. I took a video before opening and lo and behold, its some cheap crappy lens. I wonder if someone just returned the wrong item on purpose or it was exchanged at the warehouse. Either way, talking to Amazon to get this fixed was such a nightmare. Took 3 calls and in the middle of the first two my calls were dropped out of nowhere. Last time buying from Amazon, such a bitter experience. I should have done more research first. + +​ + +EDIT 1/21/2022: Quick update in case anyone reads this, they received my return for a while now, checked twice with CS and they just keep on extending the time frame. Now they want me to wait until the 28th. Crazy, I will filing a charge back as it seems that is the only course left. Such a bad experience.",0 +6663,"Studies show over 80% of phone users on dark mode. What does that mean for editing?. I'm assuming many of the users using dark mode also use a blue light filter (or ""Eye comfort shield"" on Samsung). + +I've edited many photos on my computer that then don't look so great on my phone because of the filter. + +Curious how you guys approach this. Do you edit to look good with/without the blue light filter? It totally changes the appearance of the shot. + +Edit: Okay I'd like to clarify things. I'm fully aware of the difference between dark mode and blue light filter. I included the dark mode stat in the title because I couldn't find any statistics on the blue light filter which is really what this post is about. + +I assumed blue light filter and dark mode were strongly correlated...but according to your responses, this may not be the case.",0 +6664,"Do you still get nervous before a shooting?. I’ve been a photographer for 15 years and still every time I have an event/shooting coming, I get REALLY nervous, and I mean like anxiety since days before. I feel like something is going to go terribly wrong, the photos won’t be what customer expected, a camera will stop working during the shooting, I will be forgetting something important at home, you name it. Usually the hours before the shooting I’m thinking to myself what am I doing being a photographer, I should do something else, etc. At that time I’m actually wishing that for some reason the shooting gets canceled. + +Then the shooting starts and I get to feel great again and I enjoy doing my job. + +EVERY +SINGLE +TIME. + +It’s like torture. Maybe I should try therapy. + +EDIT: My English is not good, it should say something like “photo shoot”, not “shooting”. Seems like I can’t change the title. 😳",0 +6665,"Company wants to redo head shots. Infuriated.. **UPDATE:** *Shoot went well today, had a slight hiccup with my aliens bees tripping power, appeared to be an outlet issue. Most employees told me they preferred their previous head shot over the ""new"" straight on one.* + +*I used my humor, said ""It's like being at the DMV again isn't it?"" joked around saying that I was intentionally going to suck this time, so we'd have to do it a 3rd time. Everything worked it self out.* + +​ + +I had a staff member reach out for some head shots a few months ago, and let's just say it's been less than great dealing with them. + +There's about 40 staff members, all women for starters who some HATE the way they look. + +I photograph all 38, because 1 was out of town, and another's kid had COVID and was waiting on a test to come back to the office negative. + +I was told a horror story of the previous round of head shots that the photographer enlarged their breasts, slimmed their waists. + +So by default, I do head shots at an angle to show off the company logo. And then over the course of a few weeks, taking time out of my schedule, I photograph two of the staff members in remote locations, I deliver the images back to the company. I get a pay check. + +And then, a staff member reaches out 2 weeks ago, says that they want to redo head shots because they wanted to match the same look as the higher up people, who weren't a part of the round of head shots, and the person who reached out to me for the head shots, NEVER told me a thing about this. + +My thought process is that, shouldn't someone in charge have said during the shoot ""Hey, we want these to be straight on photos"" (which are generally VERY unflattering, a rule of thumb is that straight on face forward photos aren't ever encouraged) + +What would do you? Refund the company? Do the reshoot?",0 +6666,"I lowballed myself. So after serval years of doing photography I’m finally going through with making it a business. No longer just a side hustle. I had been really wanting to do a witchy photoshoot. So I put a word out on small town USA’s Facebook page about “witchy photoshoot” for only $30. It’s not even been 24hrs since I posted it and almost all sessions are booked… I posted 20 open spots. Then I find out some chick with a iPhone is charging people $250 for a similar. I realized that so many where booking because I’m more affordable… and my portfolio is more quality. I’m so annoyed with myself for charging $30 I could have at least charged $50. Anyone else every lowball themselves this bad? Only bright side I can see it that I’m going to be making lots of contacts and building a bigger client list. +UPDATE +thank you all so much for your advice and information! I’ll definitely be raising my rates and making sure to make the most of the sessions through networking and future projects. I’ll be doing Christmas photo soon and the information I gain through this post and you all your comments have helped my plan my future projects!",0 +6667,Awe-Inspiring National Award Winners of the 2022 Sony World Photography Awards. ,0 +6668,"""Replacement"" of Instagram for Photographers?. Dear all, hope you are all well. + +Are you happy with Instagram? I mean, as a person who loves photography and make photos, Instagram was the perfect place at the beginning. + +But now? With all that Reels (i'm not a video fan), strange algorhythm...still the place to be? + +Someone from Petapixel, I think, that Instagram should co-exist. Means that we, as ""photographer"" should use multiple platform for showing up our pictures. + +What do you think about? What about IG and which platform are you using and how? + +Many thanks and stay healthy",0 +6669,"How to step in Nude Photography. Hello everyone, I’d love to explore new styles of photography. I’ve been trying landscape, cityscape, street photography and portrait styles. This time it’s different as it deals with people’s intimacy. I’m considering trying artistic nude photography, as an amateur photographer, I don’t know how to step in this style or approach people without feeling like a creep or some kind of pervert. So if some of you who have been in this style for a while and have some advice, I’d be very happy to hear from you! +Have a nice day!",0 +6670,"(Serious) Photography helped me come out of depression.... Hi all, I just realised that this is something I have failed to share with my fellow photographers and it's something that I should do to give photography the credit it deserves in my life. +I would keep the story short, my SO cheated and we separated and thanks to the betrayal I was in a deep depression for almost 4 years and mild depression for another 3, the thing that helped me come out of my depression and back to normal life (where I could study and work and live a normal life without being constantly sad) was photography, I know for most people it might not be the case and some might even not believe it to be effective and I wouldn't argue that, but I sincerely say this atleast in my case photography saved me, it helped me get out of darkest time of my life.",0 +6671,"Leica sells for record-breaking 14.4 million Euros.. The Leica O-Series no. 105 sold for a record-breaking 14.4 million Euros (includes buyer's premium) at today's Leitz Photographica Auction in Wetzlar. + +The camera belonged to Oskar Barnack, the inventor of the 35mm Leica. + +The 0-Series was released in 1923 in an attempt to see if there was actually a market out there for a 35mm cameras. Although it received a mixed reception, Ernst Leitz Wetzlar (who founded the company that would eventually become Leica) still decided to release what would become the first commercially successful 35mm camera, the Leica A, just two years later. Only 23 0-Series models made, of which only “around a dozen” survive to the present day, according to the auction listing. That makes any example historically important, but this one also has the added distinction of having belonged to none other than Oskar Barnack—the inventor of the 35mm Leica. + +Barnack’s 0-Series is widely considered to be the most distinguished Leica in existence.",0 +6672,"U of M exhibition: ""Largest assemblance of Black American photography ever"". ",0 +6673,"Canon officially announces first APS-C RF mount cameras, the EOS R7and R10. [Press release from Canon Europe](https://www.canon-europe.com/press-centre/press-releases/2022/05/canon-eos-r-system-innovation-meets-the-aps-c-format/) + +[First look from DPReview](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKFcEfrOiI8) + +R7 looks to be a hybrid 90D/7DII successor, with a more consumer-quality body but a bunch of very high end AF features. R10 is their new entry level body, slightly upmarket in terms of feature set from their existing Rebel line. + +$1499 body only for the R7, $979 body only for the R10. + +Also a couple new kit lenses, an 18-45 and an 18-150.",0 +6674,"My Job Wants Me As An In House Photographer, I Don’t Know What To Do. At the place I work, they are looking to have me also be a photographer for them for events, socials and advertising. They’re saying I’ll be paid £10 an hour separately to my contracted job. I am paid minimum wage (£9.50) as I have limited experience in the field. £10 to me says they view my photography as a little more than minimal experience which is not the case. + +I don’t feel £10 is a justified rate as I am published, I have won awards and have years of experience (they know all of this). Most of my portfolio is the type of photography they’re asking for. +However I don’t know what rate to charge as this would be my first commercial photography gig. Does anyone have any advice on pricing? + +I’m also unsure how to do a contract with them as they would want all rights to the photos taken for socials, advertising and their website. Copyrights and still retaining rights to my photos is important to me. Does anyone know anything about making a contract for this? + +Thank you for all your help in advance.",0 +6675,"Is it still ‘my’ photo if I don’t press the shutter button myself?. I feel like the answer is ‘yes’ but at the same time I can’t help but get hung up on it. + +I’m doing an online photography course with the OCA. One of the assignments calls for a sequence of staged photos. I want to be in those staged photos, but because they’re shot from a distance (across the road sort of distance) and in the city centre I can’t just set my camera on a tripod and leave it unattended. Therefore, I will need someone else to press the button, but I’m doing the planning, posing! post editing, etc. + +In a philosophical sense, it’s still ‘my’ photo, right? Is this something that other photographers are known to do?",0 +6676,"Client doesn't want to pay. Last month, I had a shoot with a wellness retreat. I had to give them 125 photos and 5 videos. + +Contract was signed about the amount I was being paid and the deliverables. + +Client paid 50% before the event. + +I delivered the material and the client didn't like it at all. It never happened to me before and I truly think the client had unrealistic expectations. + +We called and I told them I'd do everything I can so that they like the stuff. + +Now, the client is ignoring me in an attempt to not pay the remaining 50% payment. + +What to do? I live in Canada where she did business in for the retreat and she lives in the US. There's no clause in the contract that says what happens if the client is unhappy with the material.. + +Thanks! + +EDIT: A lot of people are saying take the loss and move on as court fees will be high. In all honesty, they still owe me 1750$ and I spent 4 days at the retreat + around 8 hours editing. It feels totally dishonest and mean from them to not pay the remaining amount after spending so much time working for them. I gave them a very good price because it was their first retreat and they said they had no budget, but I'll never do that again. + +EDIT 2: They are doing another retreat at the same place in my country in April. You bet I'll show up and ask where my money is in front of all their guests. + +EDIT 3: My contract doesn't specify that I hold copyrights for the photos until paid in full. I just added it. But, the client is now using 4 of my images on their social media without full-payment.",0 +6677,"What are your thoughts about using different aspect ratios in photos?. Recently, I saw a post on Reddit of a landscape photography using the 2.35:1 aspect ratio. There was this user in particular who disliked the way the photo was cropped, saying that ""this is not a movie, this is a photo"" and he should be using the standard 3:2 aspect ratio instead. Their comment was apparently well received, judging by its upvote count. + +Personally, I think that there are no rules when it comes to aspect ratio in photography. I've shot pictures of people in events and parties and later cropped them using cinema-like aspect ratios and they were well received. I've shot portraits and off-centered headshots using 16:9 for that dramatic effect and they looked great in my opinion. + +Photography literally means ""painting with light"". When you see a painting, the width and height of the canvas is also an important part of the composition and helps us to connect to the artist. I think that the same goes for photos. + +Aspect ratios, in my opinion, are not rules written on stone, but instead they are a tool for improving your photo composition and helps the photographer to deliver different emotions to their viewers. Do you want to use the good old 3:2? No problem at all. It works great too. But don't be afraid to explore different aspect ratios in your photos.",0 +6678,"Is it good practice to tag a photographer on social media even if I have paid to use their images?. As the title states, I paid a photographer to use their images on a businesses social media sites. Should I still tag them when they are posted? I bought quite a few, and they will make up a lot of my posts, so it would be preferable to not have to tag the photographer in all of my posts. + +The usage agreement does not mentioned crediting them, just affirming that I may use it on all material, social media, print, or otherwise. + +Let me know any of your thoughts. Thanks!",0 +6679,"I'm Tamara Lackey - Professional Photographer, Author, Nikon Ambassador, and Co-Founder of Beautiful Together. AMA!. Hi, I’m Tamara Lackey, and I’m very grateful to have been asked to host this AMA discussion. I met /u/ccurzio while co-leading a photography workshop in the Amazon Rainforest, along with my friend and fellow Nikon Ambassador Joe McNally. + +I’ve been shooting professionally for over 19 years now and have been fortunate enough to have experienced quite a variety of work in my career. I’ve shot thousands of lifestyle and commercial portraits, taught mentor treks and photography workshops for 12 years now, written 9 books on photography, and spoken all over the world - from Google to Disney to CES, Harvard and more. I hosted a photography web show called [The reDefine Show](https://www.adorama.com/alc/series/redefine-show-tamara-lackey/) for seven years. I also created, hosted and photographed a show for PBS NC called [Chasing Frames](https://www.pbs.org/show/chasing-frames-tamara-lackey/). I would say one highlight for me, though, was shooting a campaign for Nikon with their first pre-production mirrorless camera and then being one of two photographers in the world invited to Tokyo to show my work and speak on the technical merits of the new Z gear as part of Nikon’s global launch of the new mirrorless system. + +In 2014 I co-founded the non-profit [Beautiful Together](https://beautifultogether.org/), an organization powered by photography, film, and storytelling that was focused on supporting children living in crisis. The majority of our work has been in Ethiopia, although we also completed projects in the U.S., Syria and India. When we got grounded in 2020 though, we decided to continue the work regionally and combine two meaningful missions: continue to support children living in crisis but also connect them with animals in need of refuge. North Carolina has the third highest homeless pet euthanasia rate in the country, and photography can power a lot of change. We launched the [Beautiful Together Animal Sanctuary](https://beautifultogethersanctuary.com/) in October of 2020 and, throughout the following year, pulled over 700 homeless pets out of overcrowded shelters and found them homes. We continue to build out our animal sanctuary on 83 acres of land in Chapel Hill, and we have built out our regional youth programming along the way. In 2022, we will be bringing these two endeavors together at our sanctuary. Children experiencing depression, anxiety and loneliness while living in at-risk situations will help to care for animals desperately in need of refuge, experience “pet therapy” along the way, and receive creative arts academic enrichment as they go. Our goal with Beautiful Together is simple: To use photography as a means to support the vulnerable and the voiceless in ways that benefit us all. + +So please, ask me anything about travel photography, animal/wildlife/pet photography, or anything about the work we do at Beautiful Together and/or Beautiful Together Sanctuary! + +https://preview.redd.it/d8uxrqyid0l81.jpg?width=2615&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=120ef418f21cbe77f7e0d0e0a42e4add48c3f61c",0 +6680,"BEWARE of Fred Miranda, FredMiranda.com B&S Forums, a PSA. So this is a bit drawn out, but it's a PSA to others as nobody will speak out about him on his own website. However, his last actions are completely unacceptable by me and I feel people should be aware. This is not a rant, but a factual account of events which have transpired by myself and multiple other individuals, but it is never discussed. + +This was recently brought on, as Fred Miranda has cancelled my FM account, completely out of nowhere and not allowing me any say so or will even respond to my emails. His reasoning was simply that he labeled me a ‘commercial dealer’. This is after I paid his B&S membership fee, which EXPLICITLY states that a user can post as many listings as they want. He legitimately states this as being a perk of said B&S membership. I was in no way any type of dealer, I was a hobbyist who sourced items for individuals, helped the community with great deals and made quite a few friends along the way. Half my feedback was not even from my own listings, but from individuals contacting me. Pair this with how he's also completely forfeiting said financial agreement of the B&S membership fee I paid, not refunding me a dime and it's just a completely perplexing situation. + +If one delves a bit deeper into this, what's incredibly off-putting, is that there are a couple other individuals on that forum (not going to name names, but they coincidentally live in California like Fred) who post a massive amount of listings and are still freely posting. If you message same people inquiring about price, they'll even blatantly tell you that they HAVE margins and can't go lower.......just as a dealer would. I honestly believe Fred is in cahoots with a couple guys there who give him a kickback, and I was stepping on toes because I was hooking up the photography community at WAY better prices than all these other guys and Fred saw nothing from it. Otherwise it would make no sense why I was banned and they're still there, creating daily listings. + +​ + +**HOWEVER THERE'S MORE:** + +​ + +Myself personally, actually had a transaction with Fred around 5 months ago. It was my first dealing with him in a transactional manner, and even though he lowballed me well below market price (seems to do it a lot from what others tell me), I said what the heck, sure I'll let him have it just so I can simply garner feedback from the website owner. He paid me, a done deal, promptly sent him tracking next day via FedEx Ground across country and all was well. The \*DAY\* prior to package arriving, Fred messages me and says that he's cancelling the deal, as he talked to some of his 'buddies' and is deciding against it. No inquiry as to if it's possible, flat out just cancels the deal as if I'm Amazon Prime. The lack of professionalism, disregard for my time, how he would tie up my funds/money as if I wasn't utilizing that for another purchase or bills and overall sense of entitlement from this in itself, almost led me to leave the forum then. To him, it was just no big deal and he wouldn't accept any other solution other than to recall the package and give him a refund. + +​ + +**ADDITONALLY:** + +​ + +After reaching out to multiple people since my ban in the last 24 hours, surprisingly, I have had more than FIVE different people also now tell me that they have experienced odd things with him as well! From claiming minor scratches/damage that was never there after sending him a lens, asking for partial refunds because the lens isn't 'centered' and other ridiculous things, it seems this behavior I experienced from him is not an exception, but has happened many times over the years. All of said individuals, simply obliged and never complained, as they didn't want to get banned from his site. + +This behavior is no longer acceptable to me though and people need to be made aware of how he truly interacts/conducts professionally. I'll be a voice who speaks out about this here, as it's not fair to the photography community as a whole for him to be operating in this manner, in a dictator like way of handling himself. + +I'm more than happy to answer any questions on this thread, or directly via PM.",0 +6681,"First paid shoot, and now I'm facing the opposite of a more common problem: client claims to love the photos, but I'm unhappy with my own work.. Did my first paid gig, a personal branding photoshoot. Tried doing my best on editing, delivered the pictures but now looking back I feel like they have dull colors, the saturation could be better and I didn't notice because of an uncalibrated monitor. Images also weren't as sharp as they could have been. The client is a family friend, she claims to love the pictures, already posted them on her social media and didn't raise a single complaint. But I'm still feeling like I failed her and like I could've done much better. + +**EDIT:** Deleted overly detailed bits of the post to preserve my anonymity here :) + +And I want to thank everyone who replied, awarded, and helped me deal with this feeling. I was planning on thanking each person individually but this post ended up getting a LOT more traction than I ever expected. I got *so* much great advice, and it's great to get other people's perspectives on this. I'm feeling much better and ready to use this as a learning experience to improve my photography. Also, good news: one of my client's followers even asked her for my contact info after seeing the photos on her social media! 😁 All is well. Thank you, Reddit.",0 +6682,"How do I *actually* go out and take photographs?Lack of energy and anxiety.. Now this title is probably quite vague, and that is sorta on purpose, because I cant really explain what I mean in a simple way. But the main struggle I have with photography is actually getting out. + +Grabbing my camera, going on the train somewhere and taking photographs is so difficult for me. It isn't that Im not inspired or that I don't know what I want to photograph. I actually have a lot of stuff on my 'to photograph' list, be it cities I want to photograph, or specific buildings or landscapes or just shooting street stuff in places I like. Or even just things I want to see in general. But even as Im thinking about what to shoot I know that I'll probably never actually go out and do it. + +I think the main problem I have can be summed up with just never feeling energized or motivated. No matter what the situation is, I feel like it's so difficult to actually go out to a place, because I just dont have the energy. I make a plan, pack my gear, make food and then when Im ready to go I just lose my energy and motivation and stay home because actually stepping out of my home and doing what I want to do feels almost impossible sometimes. And because of that I feel miserable and bored and that demotivates me ever more and makes it even less likely of going out the day after. + +And I just ugh, really don't know how to overcome that feeling. Last week for example, after like 7 weeks of holidays and staying at home I actually went out to a place to photograph, but even then I feel how much energy it takes, the amount of time spent in traffic and I just don't get the satisfaction of taking that photograph, because while I like what I made, the effort and energy I put in doesnt feel to be worth it for an image that doesnt wow me. + +And the second thing that I really struggle with is anxiety. Im always worried about what other people think when they see me with my camera, and if me walking around with a camera puts a target on my back for being robbed, and this is a real issue when at urban places. I like shooting architecture and cityscapes, but even when Im out and about with my relatively small Fujifilm camera Im always worried that I might get in trouble when I shoot somebody, or that I might get robbed or worse. Even just taking out my camera and shooting in a place that isnt a tourist hotspot makes me worried. And when you live in a country with not that many tourist hotspots, that kinda limits where you can go haha. Oh and don't get me started on walking around with a tripod. I've done that once and the only moments I wasnt worried that something would happen was when I was focussing on the reading the map because I got lost. + +So yeah, I really don't know how to fix this. Im basically very often thinking about places to go to and shoot at, but when the time comes I basically never go out and actually shoot the place or thing I wanted. And it just makes me feel sad and worthless, and in all honesty Ive sometimes even thought about selling my camera gear just so that I have one less thing to think about. + + +I thought about how I could rephrase this essay into specific questions but If im being honest Im now incredibly tired so this will be the rambly mess that it is. + + +Okay wow this post blew up and I did not expect that. Ill try to reply to everyone as soon as possible. Ill just say thank you to everyone already who replied at first!",0 +6683,"Finding great photography without Instagram, part two: photo book publishers. [Part 1: photojournalism agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ygufpb/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 2: photo book publishers](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/yhghy7/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 3: photography galleries](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/yjkpir/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 4: commercial photography agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ylrpjm/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + + +[Part 5: fashion photography agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ylv8ii/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + + +I’ve seen a lot of posts from people who are frustrated at the kind of photography they are finding on places like Instagram, flickr, 500px, and reddit. While those places can be great for community and for seeing what your peers are doing, they can sometimes seem flooded with amateur level or unoriginal work, or work that's only posted to please the algorithm. Meanwhile some of the most original and valuable voices in photography are underrepresented on those media. + +Personally I’ve always preferred to find inspirational photography at good old fashioned websites. I like seeing an individual photographer’s entire portfolio, presented in the way the photographer thinks fits the work (rather than in forced into the constraints of Instagram or edited to please the algorithm). + +For all kinds of art and documentary work, **photo book publishers** are fantastic curators. Below is my current list of bookmarks. It’s by no means exhaustive but there is plenty there for hours and hours (days, weeks) of discovering fantastic and original photographers. If you see some work you like, find find the photographer’s website for more work and a better view. Download some of the images for later reference if you like. Create your own system independently from Mark Zuckerberg. + + +[Taschen](https://www.taschen.com/pages/en/catalogue/photography/all.htm) + +[Aperture](https://aperture.org/) + +[Phaidon](http://de.phaidon.com/store/) + +[Steidl](https://steidl.de) + +[Mack](https://mackbooks.co.uk) + +[Morel](https://morelbooks.com/collections/all-books) + +[GOST](http://www.gostbooks.com/) + +[Kominek — Kominek](http://www.kominekominekominek.com/inek) + +[Little Brown Mushroom](https://littlebrownmushroom.tumblr.com) + +[Palm Studio](https://palmstudios.co.uk) + +[Twinpalms](https://twinpalms.com) + +[Bloom](https://bloompublishing.com.au) + +[Idea Books](https://www.ideabooks.nl/search?search=/photography) + +[Radius](https://www.radiusbooks.org) + +[Kehrer Verlag](https://www.kehrerverlag.com) + +[Dewi Lewis](https://www.dewilewis.com) + +[The Eriskay Connection](https://www.eriskayconnection.com/18-books) + +[The Observers](https://www.theobservers.co/books) + +[Art Paper Editions](https://artpapereditions.org) + +[Aint Bad](https://www.aint-bad.com) + +[Mendo (store)](https://www.mendo.nl/store/shelves/photography/) + +[Setanta](https://www.setantabooks.com/collections/photography-books) + +[Nazraeli Press](https://www.nazraeli.com) + +[TBW](https://tbwbooks.com) + +[TIS](https://www.tisbooks.pub/collections/all) + +[Charcoal Press](https://charcoalpress.com) + +[Hassla](https://hasslabooks.com) + +[Mast](https://mastbooks.com) + +[Stanley / Barker](https://www.stanleybarker.co.uk) + +[Anthology Editions](https://anthology.net/books/) + +[Shashasha](https://www.shashasha.co/en) + +[Twelvebooks](https://twelve-books.com/collections/photography) + +[Hoxton Mini Press](https://www.hoxtonminipress.com) + +[Café Royal](https://www.caferoyalbooks.com) + +[Fishbar](http://fishbar.ph) + +[Lodima](https://www.lodima.org) + +[Pomegranate Press](https://pomegranatepress.club/) + +[Trespasser](https://trespasser.co/) + +[Etudes Studio](https://www.etudes-studio.com/en-us/collections/books) + +[J & L](https://www.jandlbooks.org/) + +[Deadbeat Club Press](https://deadbeatclubpress.com/) + +Note: some of the links above may be book sellers rather than publishers. I just bookmark places I find books. Please go ahead and add your own links to the list. + +Edit: I just found an old bookmark to [this huge list of international book publishers](http://fotoroom.co/international-photobook-publishers/).",0 +6684,The Apollo space missions as you’ve never seen them before. ,0 +6685,"As a beginner, should I learn Lightroom first or Photoshop?. Which one is easier? + +Which would you recommend if I want to learn how to edit photos well? + +Any other advice about starting to learn editing? + +Edit: didn't expect so many people to help me out. Yall are really great. I'm a few drinks down and I love you. + +Happy new year. + +Edit 2: Thanks for all the help, I can't reply to everyone since there are so many comments. I'm sure this post will help a lot of people.",0 +6686,"Is it worth it paying thousands of dollars at professional educational institutions to learn photography?. Here in Australia there are photography courses that range from a few thousand dollars to 10 thousand. + +From the course material, I see things being taught like composition, editing and how to use a camera. Some do cover commercial photography. + +**Do you think it is worth 8000 dollars to 4000 dollars to learn how to take photos?** ***OR should I just look at videos online / read some books.*** + +Here's one example. + +https://preview.redd.it/g9s26aafoj691.png?width=1964&format=png&auto=webp&s=fb3144e7419a9d8a234337f11c05992f2398041d + +https://preview.redd.it/1qp6hk09oj691.png?width=2734&format=png&auto=webp&s=fbd6615503f1497a6a3a6b65745d2a1939345fa3",0 +6687,"Client wants to send a picture of a check as payment. This feels odd, right?. A guy contacted me to shoot his family reunion at the end of the month. He signed the contract, and after I sent the invoice, he said he would rather write a check, email me a picture of it, so that I can then use my bank’s mobile check deposit feature to take a picture of the picture of the check to collect payment. + +I’d never heard of this, though I can see why it would be convenient for him. I offered to use PayPal and he said he had a bad experience using it in the past (yeah, okay buddy). + +I asked my buddy who’s in cyber security and he hasn’t heard of any tires of fraud or scams using this method, but it still feels off to me. I’d rather he just mail the check to me so I’ve got a tangible record of receiving payment. + +Have any of you encountered this type of payment method before? Is this a totally normal thing that I shouldn’t be so fussy about?",0 +6688,"Why do photographers get so critical of others work when art is subjective?. I always wanted to discuss this topic. I find myself sometimes in that mindset as I brows flickr or Instagram. I always keep my mouth shut though because it’s not my place to tell someone how their art should be who didn’t ask. + +I notice quite a bit on reddit pages or any photo group where someone is proud of something and they share it, people rip them to shreds on how it should be. + +Why is photography stuck in this Stone Age of thinking where everything needs to be the way a book says it should be? + +Curious what your thoughts are. Is it elitist mentality, egos, self consciousness of their own work?",0 +6689,"How to prevent my father's work from being lost. Hello hello, + +my dad was a soccer photoreporter for almost 40 years. A few months ago he died and among his belongings there were six large boxes full of CDs and DVDs ( (terabytes of files) with photos taken by him from the last twenty years. A photographic archive of World Cups, soccer teams, famous players etc. + +I'm digitizing them, even if it will take a long time... but then? + +I wouldn't want to leave them all unused on hard drives, but I just don't know how to prevent his work from getting lost and forgotten. He was very loved, appreciated and awarded in his work field. + +I had thought of some sort of online archive or a sort of foundation in his memory, but I'm not sure how it could work. Do you have some examples of a similar situation for reference? + +Any other ideas? + +Thank you! + +\*\*\***Edit - Update\*\*\*** A huge thank you to everyone!!! I did not expect all these replies, I am very touched. I will take a few days to decide what to do exactly, but you have given me so many ideas, each as beautiful as the other. First of all I have to check the copyright issue, my father collaborated with newspapers, Getty, Sky etc. but not all the archive was under contracts, I think I will also ask to some of his colleagues to understand better. One thing is for sure, the priority now is to save all data from CDs / DVDs in a safe way. You have given me so many interesting options! + +I also loved the idea of ​​the photo book <3 + +One step at a time, treasuring all your valuable advice. + +Thanks again everyone!",0 +6690,"maybe a dumb question but before digital cameras, how did photographers know they got a good shot without being able to view it instantly like how we do now?. so im starting to get into photography after using my camera strictly for vlogging all this time. i always wanted to learn photography and lately ive been on a roll especially after discovering the genre of street photography. ive been watching a bunch of youtube videos to educate myself and been putting myself out there to shoot. + +today i learned a lot about shooting manual and using the viewfinder. i never used the viewfinder before. i always looked at my screen whenever i have to take a photo. but ive been using them now and i really like it. + +learning all of this, i begin to wonder, how did people before the invention of digital cameras, specifically the feature wherein we can view our photos on the camera's screen after taking the shot just by pressing a button, how did they know things like, whether or not the shot was over exposed, or too dark, or out of focus, and etc? did they have a way of knowing before developing the film? + +ive been trying to shoot manually using my camera, i have an sl2 and 50 mm lens, learning how to adjust the iso, aperture, shutter speed using the physical buttons as opposed to on the screen. ive also tried disabling live view mode so i don't get tempted to look at my shots everytime. + +however, i find that when i do this, my images turn out to be very inconsistent esp when i change scenes or location wherein lighting is different than the previous one. + +can you predict how the photos will turn out just by looking at the meter in the viewfinder? did old cameras have this feature, like being able to see the exposure values and meter when you look through the viewfinder? if not, how do they make sure they got a good shot? + +sorry if my question is a bit confusing. i can explain more if needed. but i appreciate all the insights if i make sense. :) tysm.",0 +6691,"Work with a client left me with bad rep. I had this client coming up to me to ask for a gig. Her deal was 5 photos (5 models), so it would be 30€ (29$) per photo, 150€ in total. I agreed. Although I found it a bit strange because I spent 8h shooting plus editing, so it would make like 10h of work for 150€. + +When I delivered the final photos, the client wanted more. So, following our agreement, I said to her politely ""ok, so if you want more photos would you please pay for them?"". I could sense she didn't like that whatsoever. Since I live in a small country and it's a small community, I know that the people who work for her didn't like my attitude because they thought they were offering me an opportunity and I should take it. I didn't like that at all and I hate that my name is getting spread around left and right. + +She posted the photos tagging everyone in the team except for me. + +Was I in the right for standing up for myself and valuing my time/work or should I've delivered the extra photos?",0 +6692,"Leica Photo Store robbed in San Francisco. $178K worth of camera equipment stolen in armed robbery at store near SF's Union Square +SAN FRANCISCO (KGO) -- Nearly $180,000 in merchandise was stolen from a camera shop in a lightning-fast armed robbery near San Francisco's Union Square. + +Surveillance from the area shows four individuals get out of a gray sedan around 1:20 p.m. on Saturday near Bush and Grant Streets.",0 +6693,"Disposables Are Fun!. I bought a disposable camera for a family reunion, which was such a great idea. No settings, No lenses, I wasn't worried about dropping it, and no one was trying to re-take a photo 50 times because a strain of hair was out of place. Just point-shoot and move on. The best part about it is that my family and friends posted all of their photos immediately after the event, and here I am two weeks later with fresh pictures to share that people more than likely forgot about (Yes, Walgreens gives you digital and physical photos) + +The pictures aren't perfect; they are grainy. Some are too dark, some heads are cut off, and I accidentally snapped a photo of the ground, but the nostalgia makes it all worthwhile, especially when people use IG filters to get the grainy look. You should grab one (or two) on your next road trip. I need this feeling more often.",0 +6694,"52 Week Photography Prompt Challenge: 2022 Edition. Hello again, r/photography friends! For the past couple of years I've invited you all to join in my 52 Week prompt challenge ([2021 announcement](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/k9w9lt/52_week_photography_prompt_challenge_2021/) & [2020 announcement](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/eifkjl/52_week_photography_prompt_challenge/)) - and I'm happy to do so again this year. While I may have gotten this post up just under the wire, the community is ready to take on another set of weekly photography prompts in 2022. + +I'm extra excited about this year's set of prompts, as I've really focused in on what participants liked about the previous years. There's a segmented structure with includes regular concrete prompts, artist spotlights, and prompts which are open for interpretation. + +Just like last year, you can partake via the dedicated subreddit (/r/clondon52), instagram, flickr, facebook, or even email for those less social media-inclined. Last year I added a [Discord server](https://discord.gg/apWEvvMmhv) to keep people more engaged in the prompts, and we could always use more voices there for discussion, feedback, and motivation to keep us all going. We even had a virtual feedback session which was a lot of fun. I hope to include those more regularly this coming year. + +#[Here's all the information, and how to take part!](https://www.clondon.me/blog/52weeks2022) + +___ +**FAQ:** + +*""I don't have a camera, can I use my phone?""* + +* Yes! There's no gear requirement for this challenge. All the prompts are accessible to photographers using any camera. + + +*Who are the prompts suitable for?* + +* Photographers of all levels will get something out of the prompts. They are not targeted specifically at any level - so if you're brand new, or an old veteran, you can take part. There also isn't a specific genre which the prompts are aimed at. We have all different types of photographers who participate, and are always welcoming more. + +*I don't do social media, can I still participate?* + +* Absolutely! I have a few participants who email me their prompts weekly instead of posting to any social media, and some others who share their submissions exclusively with their other photography friends. + +Feel free to ask any other questions you have here, or in PM, if you'd prefer. I'm looking forward to seeing what you create in 2022!",0 +6695,"After twenty-five years, photography is still magic.. I'm a hobbyist that for years was dedicated to fast primes and documentary-style shooting. Over the past few years though, I've consciously shifted to using lighting as most of my photography involving a camera is about people now. By people, I mean mostly my kids. As my kids go to ballet though, some bleed through started as I shot a ballet competition my kid had a very small part in and I also shot all the competitors that were from her school. I did well at that show if \`I do say so myself, especially considering that I had no special access. + +The show photos led to the school proprietrix asking me to go in and take do a portrait session for part of the staff. She decently inquired about paying me, but for several reasons I demurred. This isn't what I do for money so I can't say I have tons of finely honed experience, the school is very new, we have a good relationship with the proprietrix and you would not believe the nightmare it would be for me to legally invoice for these services in this country. + +I went in with a pair of wireless flashes, light stands, shoot-through umbrellas and a 70-200mm f/2.8 that's a relic from when I was single and childless. Spent about 10-15 minutes settling up in one of the studio rooms with a plain off-white wall. I decided to go manual on everything to reliably lock exposure. One flash & brolly was up high camera right at a roughly 45° angle while the other was camera left, roughly level with the subject and slightly behind. After a couple quick tests to settle framing and confirm exposure, I put a tape mark on the floor and went for it. + +As my subjects were almost all ballet dancers who know a thing or two about presenting themselves, I just let them do their thing, trying a few poses out and giving them previews so they could adjust. Worked out very well except in one case I really should have directed one of the guys to turn his head a little and one of the others just looks better in person than in photos. Two of the dancers looked really good, and one wasn't doing more than just standing there and looking relaxed. + +I'm a middle-aged dude that's been doing photography for almost half his life, but I got to say, there's still a kind of magic in being able to take a very dull corner of a random utilitarian room, set a person there and make them look their best. Doesn't even take that much hardware and technique.",0 +6696,"I'm a photography teacher who needs to blow off some steam. First of all, please excuse my English. I am from Colombia. + +I have been a photography teacher for almost two years in an academy dedicated to Photography, Graphic Design and Filmmaking. This academy is in a small town, there are no more than 100 students and our resources are limited. In the academy we only have two cameras, two led lights and a 5 in one reflector. We also have one tripod for camera and two tripods for lights. As you can see it is very modest (this is not really the problem). + +We have shown with what little we have... However, the problem is that for some time now, the students have not shown the interest or the expected results. The photographs lack aesthetics and composition, they are not well illuminated. The use of the camera and composition is something that is taught from day one, we are very reiterative with that, they should really learn it. + +It is quite demotivating to see all that we teach, all the instructions and advice we give so that they take photos that are not good. I don't know what other methodology to use for them to learn well. In class they seem to learn everything but when I see their homework it seems like they have forgotten everything. + +How can I motivate them? I understand that we lack a lot of resources, but that same lack of resources has given us creativity, they should take that creativity. They can take very good pictures with a simple cell phone, they don't need to have the most expensive equipment in the world. + +I read all your tips and experiences, they would be very helpful to me. Thanks to all of you",0 +6697,"Client didn’t tell me what he wanted until after the shoot. My friend asked me if I could take some photos that he could use to market his website. I asked if he had any ideas in mind, what he wanted, look & feel etc. He gave me nothing, just said he ”wanted some photos” so I came up with my own ideas which he said he really liked. Went out and shot them and now suddenly he has a lot of ideas how he wanted the photos to look. Says they’re not fitting for his ”brand”. Well before he said he didn’t know anything about marketing, didn’t have any brand guidelines or anything, just ”wanted some photos”. + +Atleast he really liked how the pictures looked, not just what he wanted. This was my first ”gig” so I feel a bit dumb that I’ve failed to make him satisified. But I also think he could have told me when we discussed ideas what he wanted instead of telling me now afterwards. He also said I was gonna get paid, but now I don’t know. Since he’s my friend I don’t want to argue over money with him, but I feel a bit bummed since I spent a lot of time on this project. + +Could use some cheering up, lol",0 +6698,"What is the picture you can't show but that you are proud of. And no I don't talk about the nudes ones. Mine is a great picture of my recently dead grandfather on his deathbed, it would hurt my family to show it. Marked it NSFW because of death.. + +​",0 +6699,"How much do you make?. Full-time photographers. How much money do you make? Not your total business revenue, but the money you take home that you consider your 'income'. Yes, the BLS statistics exists, but it lacks nuance. If you're a high-earner, what do you do? Or maybe a low-earner? Could you make more? + +I've searched around Reddit and various forums for something like this but no luck. This industry is sort of opaque in some ways. Would be nice to just see a plain ol' dollar amount. On multiple occasions I've discovered that ""successful"" photographers are actually doing something else in addition to photography. Nothing wrong with that, but they don't present themselves that way. It makes the earning potential of this job ambiguous. As someone who's considering photography, it'd be nice to see some non-hyped income numbers.",0 +6700,How to Quickly Ruin Your Camera and Lens | Lens Rentals Blog. ,0 +6701,"Do you sometimes have full PC of great RAWs, but you know, you are not that great with photoshop, so you just photograph more RAWs instead?. Hello, do you have sometimes anxiety, when you see a totally average RAW photograph and you know you have better in your PC, but after Photoshop skills their photo is much, much better than yours? So instead you rather not produce any photos at all, because you are perfectionist? + +My anxiety is I can never be a Photoshop pro and its tedious. Everytime I feel, that my photo could be so much better with great edit and its ruining my photography passion. + +In the end I rather dont edit and produce photos at all :/.",0 +6702,"Client editing photos I've delivered to them and posting them to social media without notifying me. Looking for advice on how to proceed.. I've recently shot a music video for a client which included promotional photos for their social media and website. A roll of 35mm film and about 30 digital photos. + +I've edited and delivered the photos to the brief that they gave me and they seemed happy with them. + +A few days later I've seen a photo I sent them in colour edited into very crunchy black and white in quite an amateur way posted to their social media and they've tagged me in it as the photographer. + +The quality of the photo now is something I definitely wouldn't post myself and I'm at a loss as to why they wouldn't just ask me to send them a black and white version. Is this something I'm right to be annoyed about or am I just worrying aimlessly?",0 +6703,"My Guide to Buying Your First Camera. Hello to all members of r/photography! In this guide I will share my recommended process for choosing your first camera. This is but my approach, and I can only cover so much. *If you were directed here upon request for advice, please read the subreddit’s official FAQ first.* + +# Step 1: Establish your budget + +The first step in your research should be determining a non-negotiable cap on spending. There’s no use for chasing after ‘the best camera’—look at the options available to you, that you can comfortably afford, because there is great value to be had at any price range. + +The initial camera (or camera and lens kit) purchase is unlikely to be your last. Depending on which you path you choose, you should prepare for additional expenses on other items—digital storage, additional lenses, lighting equipment, etc.—that could potentially exceed the cost of the camera over a few years’ time. So think about your long-term prospects and consider halving your planned budget for the initial purchase. + +# Step 2: Consider the way you’ll use the camera + +The way you intend to use a camera is a major factor in picking the right one for you. Cameras that offer a great deal of creative control often yield inconsistent results when the user forgoes that control. Cameras that operate very well in a fully automatic mode often provide very little added value to the photographer willing to venture beyond it. + +Controlling a camera manually is not rocket science, but it does take time to learn and practise. It is also not strictly necessary to control it manually at all times, but you do need to learn that, to be able to override the automatic settings when needed. The manually controlled camera doesn't have to be your only camera, either; many photographers (myself included) use their phone for quick snapshots. + +# Step 3: Reflect on your needs and what you’re looking for in a camera + +Form yourself a list of requirements and wishes in this new camera. There are trade-offs to be made, and competing cameras can be most suitable to different people. Some tips to help you form that list: + +* *Draw from experience* shooting with a phone or an old camera. If you’re looking for a new camera, there must be something you felt was missing in the ones you’ve used before. +* Write down your *subject matter*—i.e. things you want to photograph. Pay attention to factors that make some subjects harder to photograph, such as low light (indoors/night-time), fast motion, distance, etc. +* Consider your *intended output.* It doesn't take a lot to get a good Instagram post, but large prints pose a bigger challenge. +* Other things that are *important to you,* such as light weight, durability and weather-resistance, etc. + +# General camera-type recommendations based on these criteria + +These are the categories in which I recommend you start your research: + +**Fully automatic operation:** + +* Default: high-end phone +* Some more flexibility in a zoom range: high-end compact camera (as in the Sony RX100 line) +* More flexibility, including distant subjects: high-end superzoom camera (as in the Sony RX10 and Panasonic FZ1000 lines) +* Extremely distant subjects in daylight: consumer superzoom camera (as in the Nikon P line, Panasonic FZ80, etc.) + +**Manual/creative control:** + +* Default: mirrorless camera +* Cheaper alternative (i.e. no mirrorless camera that suits your needs is available under budget): DSLR +* If you’re absolutely sure that’s the only lens you’ll need: fixed prime lens camera (as in the Fujifilm X100 and Ricoh GR lines), high-end compact camera or high-end superzoom camera + +# Key concepts and terminology + +There are some concepts, terms and features of a camera that you’ll need to learn about to really understand camera reviews and see how one camera differs from another. The following is a list of such terms for you to look up if needed. Unfortunately there is great confusion and some misinformation around a few of these online, so I may write some follow-up posts explaining these; if I do, I’ll be sure to link to those posts here. + +* Exposure, noise, dynamic range +* Camera design: interchangeable-lens cameras and fixed-lens cameras, mirrorless and DSLR +* Image sensor: size and surface area, resolution +* Lens: focal length and angle/field of view, maximum aperture, lens mount and format coverage +* Autofocus +* Continuous/burst shooting, buffer depth +* Viewfinder and display +* Image stabilisation +* Weather resistance + +# General advice + +A camera’s age is irrelevant. Cameras don’t age like phones or computers do, because they have no increasingly demanding software to keep up with. So as long as a camera is in good working order, it should work as well as it did when it was brand new. Don’t mind the launch date of a camera—focus on the features you care about and the capabilities you need. + +The lenses you choose will have a far greater impact on your photography than any camera ever could—well, in most cases, at least. That is true for both interchangeable- and fixed-lens cameras. If you choose the latter, you must pick a camera based on the sort of lens you need. If the former, I'd recommend starting with a standard zoom lens that's offered in a kit, as that's the cheapest way to get up and running, but prepare to buy other lenses over a few years' time, and possibly replacing the kit lens if and when you find it inadequate. + +Shop used; that’s common, well accepted and well established in the camera market, even at the high end. Try reputable outlets (KEH and mpb) and the used sections on big retailers (B&H and Adorama in the US) and local camera stores. You can also find refurbished cameras sold directly by the manufacturers’ distributors. + +Visit a camera store, if you can, after you’ve narrowed down your search to a few models, and try those in your own hands. Ergonomics are important and too often overlooked. + +# Where to go from here + +This is my go-to resource for everything to do with cameras: [https://www.dpreview.com/](https://www.dpreview.com/) + +Use their buying guides to start your research and quickly see what’s available, then dig deeper into the full reviews. (Note that some buying guides may not always be up to date.)",0 +6704,"Scammer targeting photographers and video editors on Instagram. I got a DM today asking me from someone claiming they wanted a video slideshow for their daughter’s birthday next week and that they would pay me $300 to do it. While I thought it sounded a little suspicious, I played along and said if they would pay me 25% up front I’d be happy to do it. + +Soon they’re telling me they accidentally requested an electronic check from their “account manager” for **$3000** and they can’t request another check for a month. They want to send the check as is and I would send back the difference. At this point I'm on high alert that this is a scam. Still, I'm a good sport and tell this person to send me their email address and I can send an electronic invoice that can be paid via debit or credit card. Of course they say the check is the only option. At that point I say there's nothing more I can do, report them to IG as a scam, and block the account. + +I know I'm not the first person nor will I be last who gets targeted by this kind of scheme. Just want to make sure others are aware these people are out there. We all work hard for our money and don't deserve to be ripped off by people trying to play on someone's naivete. + +FWIW, this person went by the name ""Anna Bryse"" and claimed they lived in Hawaii. I'm sure those details change depending on the target, but maybe somebody has encountered this or a similar named profile in the past.",0 +6705,Last week it was $30 amazon radios this week its almost outdated Canons. ,0 +6706,"First Wedding Shoot, client is requesting raws after only a few days. Hi guys, I hope I’m ok to ask this here. I’ll try to keep it as to the point as possible. + +I’ve done photography semi-professionally for about 3 years now, but mostly property and real estate photography and headshots. A friend of mine was getting married and his wedding photographer became incapacitated and asked me to do it last minute. I agreed but made him aware that I am not a wedding photographer and it would be my first wedding. He also happens to be a wedding photographer himself. He said it was no biggie and agreed to help me out with logistics and such. I agreed. After I agreed he asked me day or two before the wedding if he could get the raws when I was done so that he could edit some if he wanted because he is particular. Again, I agreed. + +The wedding was this past Saturday, and yesterday he began asking for the raws. I haven’t gotten much of a chance to scratch the surface of my edits, and there are some test shots, etc. in the raws that are frankly awful. I was trying desperately to get the hang of photographing fast moving people in super low light at the reception. + +Most of my hesitation is my own insecurity, but I just wonder how you would suggest handling the situation. Should I be honest and tell him I would prefer he wait until after I have edited? Or should I just swallow my pride and hand over the raws? Payment has been received already, but to be honest it is not on par with what most photographers would charge. I was lenient on price as I wanted to give them a deal as a sort of wedding gift, so I told them just to pay what they believed to be fair. It’s about half of what I would typically charge for that long of a shoot.",0 +6707,"Wedding Photography advice- is it appropriate to cancel this wedding?. 🚨 NEW UPDATE 🚨 + +Totally forgot to post an update! The wedding was great! + +No issues and the day went really smooth. + +Thanks again for all of the advice! +_________ + +UPDATE #2 + +Surprisingly, I received the signed contract and the full payment before the final ‘last chance’ deadline I gave her. + +Had a chat on the phone with her too and she explained there had been a lot of personal issues going on- the wedding was touch and go if it was going ahead, they were in limbo with everyone and she was embarrassed to have ‘that’ conversation. She apologised and said she had been stalling everyone until her and the groom made a decision. They worked it out and it’s going ahead. + +Long story short- I have the signed contract, the full payment is in my bank account and the weddings going ahead. + +This is not how I expected this to end but I do realise people have circumstances that we may not be aware of and although she could have been upfront with me I do realise how chaotic that must’ve been for her as well. I’ve booked two more weddings since posting this and have made changes to my booking procedure so this doesn’t happen again 📸 + +Thank you for the helpful comments! + +_________ + +UPDATE #1 + +After sending her another message after reading all your comments (thank you for your advice), she finally responded. + +So according to her she’s now getting married at home instead (I’ve no idea what’s went down) and wants photos at a nearby outdoor spot. I google mapped the house address she sent and it’s a random field in the middle of nowhere? I’ve no idea at this point, I’m beyond done lol. + +I still haven’t received all the info I had asked for but in her mind I’m ‘booked’. + +I replied to her to let her know she’ll have to sign the contract this evening and send a deposit immediately. I don’t think she will and now I sort of hope she doesn’t because I’d rather cancel considering the whole situation sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. + +She also threw in a few other excuses as to why she hadn’t responded. + +I’m still included to cancel, she seems like a nightmare. + +————- + +Original post: + +I've been doing wedding photography for a few years and have never had any issues with clients. + +My full time job is in Film/TV and I only take bookings when I know I have a break in filming. My schedule was clear for this September so I booked a few weddings in and I was relying on the money from the weddings to take a bit of a longer break. + +1 in particular is in 10 days. The bride has ghosted all of my messages apart from a few short replies here and there over the past few months. I always have a pre-wedding consultation, whether that's in person (preferable) or over zoom/a phone call to gather all of the details, get an idea of the types of photos they like, their expectations and so I'm not meeting strangers for the first time on their wedding day. + +The bride has avoided all my attempts to even have a phone call- as of right now I still don't know where the wedding is, where the reception is or any wedding details. I've messaged her 4 times this week and haven't got a response. I've even sent her a list of questions (where's the wedding, what are the times etc) and told her I need to prep- still no response and she's seen the messages. + +Is it just me or are these major red flags? I also haven't received a deposit because she's been virtually uncontactable so I'll lose the entire day's fee. + +My main concern is the fee- she reminds me of the type to not pay. It's never happened to me but I've heard horror stories from wedding photographer friends who've been down this road with a client. Another wedding photographer told me it's a major red flag if the bride/groom won't meet you for a pre-wedding consultation before the wedding. + +I've asked photographers I know but want a wider opinion before I pull the plug! Any advice would be appreciated",0 +6708,"Want to feel better about your photography? Review your old work.. As part of a ""clean the house"" project I've been scanning old photographs, mostly stuff my parents took when I was a kid. But today I dug out a couple of boxes of prints and started digging through stuff I took back in the 70s, 80s, and 90s. And holy crap is it awful. 99% is of the ""point the camera and hit the shutter button"" variety with little or no concern for framing, composition, color, yadda yadda yadda. I may not win awards today, but man am I a better photographer than I was 40 years ago. + +Try it. It can give you a bit of a perspective on where you are, whether you've got decades of pictures like me or just a few years.",0 +6709,"Why do so many portrait photographers use that brown filter to edit their photos?. I feel like I can’t escape it. Every time I look up portrait or wedding photography, everyone’s photos look so brown. It makes everything look so moody to me. Is it a current trend or what clients are requesting? Walk me through the thought process please",0 +6710,"What men have done to a female photographer.... Community. Please read the post linked below. This happens in all too many walks of life. We owe it to ourselves to call it out and do what we can, whichever niche of whichever industry we're in. This particular post is about wedding photography. But that's almost irrelevant. + +https://www.instagram.com/p/CZEaE18sD-g/?utm_medium=share_sheet",0 +6711,"Wedding booked for Saturday and groom and his mother has tested positive for COVID. They still plan to go through with the wedding. What are my next steps?. I’ve had this wedding booked for some time. It’s been a multi-weekend, multi-event south Asian wedding. Last weekend was the religious ceremony and this weekend is the reception. I got a message the day after the ceremony saying the groom and his mother tested positive for Covid. They were deciding what they wanted to do and are now deciding to go through with the large reception on Saturday. I have no clue how to proceed with this especially given the amount of money this wedding was booked at. I also have another very large wedding next weekend to consider. + +Any advice?",0 +6712,"Some Observations I've Made From My First Two Years of Selling Physical Goods Online.. *Preface to this post: I started selling physical goods in 2019, but things didn't really take off until 2020. Also, I'm not claiming to be an expert, as I still consider my sales numbers to be considerably lower than anyone considered a professional. I just thought it would be interesting to share my findings from the last couple of years for anyone in a similar situation. However, take it all with a grain of salt if you only value the experiences of photographers living like Scrooge McDuck off their photography*. + +Being immersed in the world of photography has had its benefits. For example, it's helped me grow my understanding of the basics like composition, as well as more advanced editing techniques like focus stacking. It has also given me motivation to explore lesser known areas of Japan, some of which have remained among my favourite travel destinations. It's also introduced me to the works of both amazing professional and hobbyist photographers. However, one of the most important things it had left me completely unaware of is what the 'general public' wants. + +Because I spent so much time consuming photography based content, I was always so focused on things that, more often than not, only avid photography lovers really seem to notice (or care about, I suppose). On top of that, I've come to realize that sometimes an 'amazing image' for a photographer may not translate to 'best selling'. That being said, I'm a nobody, relatively speaking, so keep in mind that the things I mention here come from someone with no fan base whose primary customer base is (what I assume to be) the general public, primarily found through search algorithms. Also keep in mind that my marketing has been incredibly minimal, in that my only real 'marketing' strategy is sharing my images online with links to my website easily available. Also, my website and social media are the first things that pop up when you Google my name... if you decide to do that for some reason. + +As I've started selling more and more products online, I've noticed some interesting things, that may or may not apply to everyone, but I thought would be worth sharing for anyone hoping to turn their hobby into a few extra bucks, or whatever your local currency is. + +I don't want to turn this into a novel, so for your reading pleasure, here is a quick rundown of my main findings. + +​ + +1. **People Like Landmarks** \- Of my current sales, every single one has included a landmark (or city skyline) of some sort. This may be a 'no duh' moment for many, but as someone who primarily focused on following pros, it seemed like you could take a landscape image in the middle of nowhere with some good conditions and convert it into a selling image. This might be true for an established photographer, but it turns out when no one knows who you are, they care more about recognizing the things in front of the camera than the person behind it. At the end of the day, Mount Fuji sells my pictures, not my name. +2. **The Opinions of Other Photographers Don't Really Seem to Matter (Keep in mind, my customers are the 'general public')** \- I'm basing this on responses to my photos on photography websites or in photography communities. Of the images I've sold, only one of them has received high praise and a few of them got a middle of the road reception. The other images I've sold are ones that I wouldn't bother sharing, because I know they'd be received poorly. As it turns out, photographers and non-photographers look at images quite differently. Just because some stinky shutterbugs think an image is bad, it doesn't mean some lovely person with impeccable taste in art living in West Virginia wouldn't love to hang it on their wall. At the end of the day, the opinion of that person means more to me, at least when it comes to the business side of things. +3. **Your Opinion Doesn't Matter** \- I've mentioned in the past that I don't like referring to my own images with terms like ""best"". Rather, I prefer ""favourite"". Regardless of what term you use, it's been clear that the images that mean the most to me don't seem to connect with customers. None of the images in my personal top 5 have made a single sale. It's possible this is because of the experiences I connect to the images that the average person wouldn't consider. The vast majority of non-photographers don't think about how a photo was taken, just how the finished product looks. This is why I find it helpful to get opinions from people who don't know anything about photography, as it helps me better understand what the general public might be interested in, once you eliminate all of the personal connection and technical mumbo-jumbo. +4. **Varieties of Images Help** \- This might be another 'no duh' moment for many, but I've heard people say you should stick to a single focus with photography. However, the variety of images I've sold has been quite eye-opening. Of the images I've sold, they've ranged from landscapes to city skylines to travel to lifestyle/street photography. Had I stuck only to nature photography or city photography my sales would be significantly lower. Of course, once you build a name and a brand, it's best to stick to what people best know you for. However when nobody knows you, it never hurts to be a jack-of-all trades, master of some. +5. **Varieties of Products Help (or how I learned to stop being pretentious)** \- I'll admit, when I first opened up my shop back in 2019, I was a little snobby. I thought that I'd set up an art print shop, do some marketing, and the sales would start rolling in. As such, I set up my shops to only sell photography prints. Selling my images on things like postcards, t-shirts, or posters felt beneath me and my work. However, after a year of 0 sales, I finally came to my senses and expanded my offerings to things like posters, t-shirts, masks, etc. Shortly after that I sold my first item (a post card), and then another ( a poster), then another (a framed print), and now sales have remained more or less consistent from month to month. Products I've sold have varied from t-shirts to masks to framed art prints, but my best selling items are posters. It's clear to me that the 'average person' isn't willing to drop over $100 on a framed art print from some nobody on the internet, but they're more than willing to spend $15 on a poster of that same image from that same nobody. By limiting my images to framed prints and art prints, I was essentially alienating a large group of potential customers. At the end of the day, I don't really care in what form people own my art, only that they get a chance to own a piece of my art within their budget. I'd rather have someone own my image on a $2 postcard than be priced out of owning a piece of art they like. +6. **I Still Have No Idea What People Want** \- Before starting to sell my photos online, I thought I had it all figured out. I thought I knew which of my pictures would be best sellers, only to find out just how little I actually knew. Years later, I wish I could tell you that I know exactly what will sell and what won't, but I honestly still have no idea. While this might just sound like I'm a clueless idiot, this revelation has actually had a rather positive effect, as it's made me much more open with my photography. I'm more willing to shoot things I'd never shot before, because I'm looking at scenes as a photographer, but also considering what potential customers might like. I'm also willing to edit and share images that would have ended up on the cutting room floor, before. This isn't to say that I only take pictures based on what I think will sell. Rather, this means that I'm enjoying taking and editing more photos than when my goal was to impress other photographers, as a result, fewer images are slipping through the cracks. + +These are the main things I've noticed over my first few years of selling my prints online. I hope these help you if you're thinking of setting up a shop or have a shop but are yet to make a sale. + +If you've learned something from selling your work, or selling your work to the general public has changed the way you shoot, let me know below. + +Thanks as always for reading.",0 +6713,"Darktable is actually pretty good these days. I've spent the last few years complaining about Darktable in various contexts, but recently I gave it another shot and holy crap has it gotten better. I feel like I have a duty to recognize that, so here's my experience. + +I switched to Linux several years ago for work, and the only software I missed was Lightroom. I have ~100k photos going back decades, and nothing else, including Darktable, even came close to organizing & processing them as well. It was buggy, the UI was completely unintuitive, it choked on my library, it crashed a lot, and the countless modules left me confused and frustrated. I basically got out of the hobby for awhile. + +We had a kid recently, which has naturally pushed me to get my camera out again. I decided to give Darktable another shot, and was really pleasantly surprised. + +* The UI has been overhauled, and it's fine now. It's still not on the same level as Lightroom with its infinite budget, but it's perfectly usable provided you're willing to spend some time learning it. +* You can tell that a lot of bugfixing work has gone into it. I experienced far fewer issues this time around. +* The new scene referred workflow was hard to learn, but now that it's clicked I'm getting better, more consistent results faster than I ever did with LR. You don't need like 30 different modules, you only need a handful, and copy-pasting settings across images requires a lot less tweaking. + +It's still not perfect. You have to be really deliberate about learning to use it. Read the documentation, and watch the developer's (very long) youtube videos on it. It has quirks and frustrations, but if you're tired of paying $15 or whatever to Adobe every month it might be worth checking out.",0 +6714,"Why is it hard to take interesting pictures when traveling around beautiful areas?. Old historic buildings, gorgeous landscapes, you name it. No matter how hard I try, they always end up being boring photos. In the meantime, pictures that involve a random subject? They suddenly become fun to look at (if done well of course). + +I'm in Barcelona right now and I'm surrounded by beautiful things everywhere, and pictures are forgettable as soon as I look at them, even if I try my best to be creative. Is it because intuitively, our eyes tend to look at the beautiful subject, rather than trying to find a fun and unique composition? Is it because beautiful things are pictured every day and posted on internet, postal cards, books, seen on TV, etc... while ""normal things"" don't get the same treatment? + + +And regarding this, do you guys have any tips for taking interesting pictures when traveling? :)",0 +6715,"Agency model published a badly photoshopped photo of mine and refuses to remove it.. Canadian photographer here. + +So I'm shooting new faces books for many agencies in my city. I worked my way to their good graces, they are pleased by my work, everyone is happy, scratch their back they scratch mine. + +I shot this one model (for free) a few weeks ago. Since it was for a concept of mine, I do normal shots for the agency + my project. It's fun, results are great, I retouch the selection. Agencies are always a bit picky on how they want things done (and it's often different from one agency to the other) so I always tell them that I'm available if they need something adjusted to their taste. + +I sent them the pictures at the end of last week. I hear nothing back, but monday morning, the model tags me on IG. + +Wow, that was quick, she must have been really happy with the results...oh...WTF ? + +She edited the pictures with those ''IG fake faces'' kind of app. She changed the color of her skin and she looked baked. Her eyes are so white, it's evidently fake and she applied a texture layer in a round shape around her face (so the rest of the picture has not the same sharpness). It's look baaaaaaaaaad and I don't want my name attached to that thing! Her 1000+ followers from the industry can see it and my name attached to it. + +This is NOT representative of my work. I ask the model to remove the picture, I call the agency. While the phone rings, I see the agency sharing the pictures on their social as well. + +On the phone, it's clear they think I overreact, because they say stuff like '' oh...it's barely noticeable, it takes a real connaisseur to be that picky about retouching style'' and after a while they admit not have looked at the picture. They assured me it's a first in 30 years of business that a model does this. I didn't want to bring up my rights and all the canadian legal stuff we have around ownership because I don't want to be *that* ballistic with this business relationship. + +They remove their sharing of the picture and say they will handle things with *this young models that is such a good human but still has things to learn*. They still look forward to work with me in the future. Cool. + +Meanwhile one of their employee reach out to me by mail, say they are sorry for all of this, but ask me to retouch the picture midway between what I did and what the model did. Fine, no big deal, I was open to modifications in the first place. From then on, I think everything is fine. + +24h later and model still has her crappy edit up online. I write to her directly and she replied that everyone of her models friend does it and it's no problem, never. The images are HER images too and she will do as she pleases with her IG profile. + +I. am. pissed. + +So I call the agency. No response, but I leave a message saying that I thought I was not the one to have a conversation with the model about professionnal faux-pas and copyright law. + +Seriously, if she had edited the image just a tiny bit, just because she didn't like the shape of her face or whatever complex she has, whatever. I would have been annoyed, but nothing more. But her edited picture is just so bad, I can't have my name tied to it. If I was paid for this shoot, it would be less annoying. + +I feel I'm right, but for some reason, that I burned a bridge with an agency. + +If the model is right and ''all of her friends do it'' does that mean that photographer let shitty edit of their work circulates without complaining ? + +Edit : So I got a call from the director of the agency. He excused how badly his staff handled the situation. That it was inexcusable, especially for a creative shoot where I did not get paid for the right of usage of the pictures. Model was contacted and she finally removed the picture. + +I just want to add that a model + an agency sharing one image of mine leads to at least 1 new client everytime. Because new models, actors, talents...discover me through them. If it's the first image they see, and they notice it's overbaked, then they will probably discard me and pro makeup artist won't want to do anything with me.",0 +6716,"Do I save battery life if I turn off my camera between shots?. When I go hiking for example, I'm not shooting a picture for an X amount of time. Two minutes can go by or sometimes ten til I found a scene I'd like to capture. + +My question would be if I conserve more battery life if I turn off my camera during the downtime or if I keep it on. Because I remember my physics teacher saying that the most amount of electricity is used up for turning on a device than to keep it running. + +I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. + +edit: spelling",0 +6717,"Turning sunlight OFF in daylight images via raw subtraction. This idea has potential for awesome day-to-night converted images. Imagine photos of people going about their daily lives in darkness while only part of the scene is illuminated. E.g. single light source in a busy street or a restaurant + +How: simply capture two consecutive frames with same exposure settings where one image has additional lightsource(s) added, while ensuring the dynamic range can fit both cases (and minimal movement between frames). Then quite early in the image processing pipeline (when still in linear domain) subtract the BEFORE image from the LIGHT\_ADDED image, and you have successfully turned OFF all of sunlight (and all other light sources like regular lamps, neon lights, tv/smartphone displays). The added light source needs to be quite bright in order to have good signal-to-noise ratio after the subtraction. Maybe a xenon flash? + +I tried to google if this is a well-known approach that is already utilized widely but I didn't find any examples where anyone had done this. I was very surprised as the idea is so simple. I ran into this approach while studying color science stuff and in one publication they presented this idea in order to produce a daylight-subtracted version of a scene. This example is from that publication (LSMI dataset by Kim et al (2021)) but unfortunately the image had pixel saturation so that's why the bedcover becomes black. The added light should have been brighter in order to have better end result, w.r.t dynamic range of the camera + +https://preview.redd.it/dnnvmykki32a1.png?width=1662&format=png&auto=webp&s=9ff76ffd186dcfff2f9cbf815c83eecf54842043 + +Edit: u/SSChicken made a better example of the technique. Thanks! and good work! + +[https://i.imgur.com/wpt5f0V.jpg](https://i.imgur.com/wpt5f0V.jpg) + +[https://imgur.com/BLlUGR7.jpg](https://imgur.com/BLlUGR7.jpg)",0 +6718,"If computers can correct chromatic aberration, why don't mirrorless lenses cost 10x less?. For 100+ years, camera lens design has been a balancing act of building a product that: + +* Has clear focus +* Has a good size aperture +* Has appealing bokeh +* Is lightweight +* Is affordable +* Avoids chromatic aberration +* Avoids distortions +* Avoids spherical aberration +* Avoids lens flare +* Avoids vignetting + +Even the first camera lens by Charles Chevalier in the mid 1800s worked to correct aberrations. And engineering to these constraints can be difficult—correcting one issue like chromatic aberration, makes it more expensive and heavier. + +Now with mirrorless camera, the only thing that ever sees through a lens is a computer. And computers can easily use math to remove half of the constraints above. **There is no reason for a lens on a mirrorless camera to NOT produce vignetting or barrel distortion, since such lenses can produce better results in some other dimension.** + +So, why do mirrorless lenses not cost 10x less?",0 +6719,"Scam Alert - scammers claiming to be big companies offering remote jobs based on Indeed resumes. I've gotten a few of these so far. One last week, then 3 yesterday. + +The initial email gives a very detailed description of a way too good to be true job with a well known company, saying they saw your resume on Indeed and were impressed. + +They always come from Gmail accounts though - usually ""\[COMPANY\]jobs2021(at)gmail.com"" or something like that (I wish I noticed this sooner). + +They always sign off the email as someone they found on Linkedin, either at the company or at a similar-sounding company. The first one I got was for Knickerbocker NYC, a clothing company, and later discovered that the Linkedin profile for the name at the end of the email was for someone at Knickerbocker Group, an architecture firm in Maine. + +I was initially fooled by that first one, out of hopeful desperation, so I replied to the email, answering all the many interview questions (nothing inappropriate or personally identifying - just standard photo job questions). + +About 6 hours later, I got an email back saying I got the job - no interviews or anything, just a job offer, which was the first red flag. This is when I noticed the Gmail address. + +The worst though was the ""official"" job offer pdf they wanted me to sign. Up to that point, they'd done a pretty good job making everything seem legit (except the email address), but that pdf was just a total mess. It was full of weird formatting and spelling errors, and it changed fonts like 8 different times. For some reason, they even listed a company address, which turned out to be for an abandoned building in upstate NY! If you're gonna include an address for your scam, at least pick one in the same city as the company you're claiming to be! + +I mostly forgot about the whole thing until yesterday, when I got 3 more - this time, from Getty Images, Dillard's, and Universal Pictures. Wow! I'm so popular all of a sudden! My cup runneth over! + +All of them were for amazing sounding remote jobs, and all of them came from Gmail addresses. + +I know you're all probably well accustomed to people trying to scam you, so I'll spare you the ""be careful out there"" speech, but this is just one more scam to be aware of.",0 +6720,"Make-up artist overstepping?. Y'all I need your opinion. I need to know if I'm just being petty or if I'm justified in my anger. Today I had my first unpaid styled shoot - I organised everything, gathered the vendors (gown, make-up artist, model, flowers, accessories), and paid for the studio. + +The make-up artist has been doing make-up professional for 3-4 years now. She's very active on her social media and I saw that she likes taking behind-the-scenes for couples while following pre-wedding and wedding sessions (for touch-ups.) She has an expensive camera (a Sony a7iv, I only have a Sony a7iii) and a Tamron zoom lens. She takes photos of couples/brides during photo shoots and posts them to her instagram without credit to the photographer, even though it was the photographer who positioned them, posed them etc, and it was their photoshoot session. + +I didn't think much of it, and I thought it would be cool to have a behind-the-scenes make-up artist. Anyhow I invited her to the shoot and she agreed. She brought her big camera and lens with her. She adjusted the model's hair every few seconds because it wasn't ""perfect"", and when she wasn't adjusting she was busy snapping away. It distracted the model, who would look at her instead of me, and the autofocus beep wasn't off so it went BEEP BEEP BEEP. She kept getting in the shot to adjust hair or to take her photos. + +I was miffed but I'm not confrontational so I didn't say anything. I still haven't said anything. I did consider uninviting her from my next styled shoot, where she'll be assisting her mentor. I'm afraid she'll take photos of the model at the styled shoot I organised and pass the photos off as ""taken by her."" + +So a few hours have passed and she just posted a photo of the model in our styled shoot group chat, saying the photos are backlit and she didn't know how to edit them, and maybe next time she needs to position the model by the window. + +I'm so angry my hands are shaking. Not only did she post photos before me, she also complained about the lighting and the positioning of the model. Throughout the shoot I could hear her complain about the backlighting, but I wasn't going to budge because I wanted that specific background. Backlighting doesn't bother me. She even tried to position the model in front of some ugly beige curtains and I said no. + +Am I overreacting or being petty? What should I do moving forward? Should I uninvite her from my next styled shoot? I partnered up with her (we offer 5% off our services for mutual brides) because I didn't know she was going to be so difficult to work with. What would you do in my shoes? + +If you read this far, thank you so much for your time. I really appreciate you. + +UPDATE: Thank you all for your responses! I'm really thankful you took the time to read my long rant and write a comment. Your comments were all super helpful! I have drafted a super long feedback document and sent it to her on whatsapp. In it I told her everything she did wrong (respectfully) and listed stipulations for our next shoot - that I will provide photos, she is welcome to take a few before and after shots and nothing more, and she cannot jump in during shoots to arrange anything (I said this nicely.) If she's not comfortable with this she can let me know. TBH I hope she backs out of our next shoot because I don't really feel like working with her again. I will keep you all updated. Thank you so much for your comments! + +UPDATE 2: I forgot to mention she's told people (my sister) that she actually wants to be a photographer. So she could be stepping on us photographers to build her portfolio. Which I thought was unbelievably sneaky. My sister hired her for her wedding day, which is how we met.",0 +6721,"What's the best cereal box to carry your expensive camera around?. I'd say a box of Rice Krispies filled halfway with the cereal still inside their plastic bag. + +Clearly, I'm asking out of amusement here (I tagged this post as humor), but I was mortified to see my friend pull out her Sony Alpha a6400 from a box originally packing granola bars. I mean, imagine those hard, dry bars hitting the lens! + +Edit: True story!",0 +6722,"Finding great photography without Instagram, part three: galleries. +[Part 1: photojournalism agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ygufpb/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 2: photo book publishers](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/yhghy7/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 3: photography galleries](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/yjkpir/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 4: commercial photography agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ylrpjm/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + + +[Part 5: fashion photography agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ylv8ii/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + + + +The intros to the first two series explain what this is about, but to summarise: As photographers we like to find inspiring work from other photographers, but places like Instagram, Flickr and reddit sometimes fail at delivering the best work in the best way. The resources I’m posting in this series form an alternative. + +As with the previous two episodes: use the links to find the photographers that interest you, but then try to find the photographer’s website to see more work and to see it presented the way the photographer feels fits the work best online. Bookmark their website, maybe download some work for later reference, create your own system. + +Most of these gallery websites have a page called ‘artists’ or something similar, which will be the quickest way to get an overview of the artists they represent. If there is no artists page, browse current and past exhibitions. + +And again, this is just my personal bookmarks dump so it’s not going to be comprehensive or even balanced in any way (entire continents are missing). Please add your own bookmarks if you have them. + + + [FOAM (Amsterdam)](https://www.foam.org) + +[Huis Marseille (Amsterdam)](https://huismarseille.nl/en/) + +[Fotomuseum Den Haag (The Hague)](https://www.fotomuseumdenhaag.nl/nl) + +[Nederlands Fotomuseum (Rotterdam)](https://www.nederlandsfotomuseum.nl/en/) + +[Ravestijn Gallery (Amsterdam)](https://www.theravestijngallery.com) + +[Wouter van Leeuwen Amsterdam)](https://www.woutervanleeuwen.com) + +[Kahmann Gallery (Amsterdam)](https://www.kahmanngallery.com) + +[Michael Hoppen (London)](https://www.michaelhoppengallery.com/artists/) + +[Galerie Catherine et André Hug (Paris)](http://www.galeriehug.com) + +[Zink Waldkirchen (Germany)](https://www.zink-waldkirchen.de/artists/) + +[Fondazione Sozzani (Milan)](https://fondazionesozzani.org) + +[Hamiltons (London)](https://www.hamiltonsgallery.com) + +[The Photographers' Gallery (London)](https://thephotographersgallery.org.uk) + +[Camera Work (Berlin)](https://camerawork.de/en/) + +[Kicken (Berlin)](https://kicken-gallery.com) + +[Photo Gallery International (Tokyo)](https://www.pgi.ac/en/) + +[Zen Foto Gallery (Tokyo)](https://zen-foto.jp/en) + +[Les Douches La Galerie (Paris)](https://www.lesdoucheslagalerie.com) + +[Polka Galerie (Paris)](https://www.polkagalerie.com/en/home.htm) + +[In Camera (Paris)](https://www.incamera.fr) + +[Galerie Vu (Paris)](https://galerievu.com/) + +[Fifty One (Antwerp)](https://www.gallery51.com) + +[Yancey Richardson (NY)](https://www.yanceyrichardson.com) + +[Yossi Milo Gallery (NY)](https://www.yossimilo.com) + +[Gitterman (NY)](https://gittermangallery.com) + +[Bruce Silverstein (NY)](https://www.brucesilverstein.com) + +[Howard Greenberg Gallery (NY)](https://www.howardgreenberg.com/exhibitions) + +[Nailya Alexander Gallery (NY)](https://www.nailyaalexandergallery.com) + +[Rick Wester Fine Art (NY)](https://www.rickwesterfineart.com) + +[Laurence Miller Gallery (NY)](http://www.laurencemillergallery.com) + +[M+B Photo (LA)](https://www.mbphoto.com) + +[Fahey Klein (LA)](http://www.faheykleingallery.com) + +[Fraenkel Gallery (San Fransisco)](https://fraenkelgallery.com) + +[Haines Gallery (San Francisco)](https://hainesgallery.com) + +[Jackson Fine Art (Atlanta)](https://www.jacksonfineart.com) + +[Robert Klein Gallery (Boston)](https://www.robertkleingallery.com) + +[Stephen Daiter Gallery (Chicago)](https://stephendaitergallery.com) + +[Stephen Bulger (Toronto)](https://www.bulgergallery.com) + +[Jeu de Paume (Paris)](https://jeudepaume.org) + +[MEP (Paris)](https://www.mep-fr.org/) + +[Robert Morat (Hamburg)](https://www.robertmorat.de) + +[Gallery Luisotti (LA)](https://galleryluisotti.com) + +[Rivalry Projects (NY)](https://www.rivalryprojects.com) + +[Huxley Parlour (London)](https://huxleyparlour.com)",0 +6723,"Why does everyone use Lightroom Classic over Lightroom CC?. I am somewhat new to professional photography but noticed that nearly every big youtuber who is a photographer edits in classic over cc. Is that because of something internal that classic does that CC doesnt? I've kinda gotten familiar with CC but just about every tutorial I find is in classic, so I am not sure what to invest my time and learning into.",0 +6724,"Do you use your photos as wallpapers?. Hello everyone. + +I wanted to pop in and ask if you use your own photos as the wallpapers to your, phones, laptops, etc. + +If so, how often do you change them? +If you do not, why do you choose not to? + +I myself like to change the photo every couple days. As a beginner this helps me notice some flaws, which I had not yet known about while looking back at the photo for the first time. Sometimes I find flaws in lighting, color, composition. Whatever it may be, as I learn more everyday, I can look at that photo and point to a flaw. + + +Have you considered this method?",0 +6725,Mitochondria Double as Tiny Lenses in the Eye | Quanta Magazine. ,0 +6726,"How do you hobbyists pull the trigger on such expensive gear?. I've been staring at the Amazon cart for weeks trying to justify a Canon R6 or Sony A7 IV but I just can't place the order. I can afford it; I just can't get over the fact that it will be the single most expensive thing I own (besides a car). + +Hobbyists, how do you justify the purchase price of this stuff?",0 +6727,"Darktable 4.0 released. To my surprise a new feature version of Darktable was released yesterday: [https://www.darktable.org/2022/07/darktable-4.0.0-released/](https://www.darktable.org/2022/07/darktable-4.0.0-released/) + +I mainly use it for converting DSLR scans and I am very curious if any developments are made in that direction.",0 +6728,"What photography-related content do you watch most on youtube?. This is sort of a general question, looking for channels to follow and docs to watch, but I'm also curious what genre of photography content is your favourite? Is it behind the scenes? Editing? Creative process stuff? Gear reviews? Are there any Youtube photogs who stand out to you as doing something different and unique?",0 +6729,"Learning and doing Photography as a Hobby started feeling exhausting. How do I bring back the fun and joy in it?. This is a post I was unsure of if I should even make it. + +I've been doing Photography for over a year now. I've started out on film and recently added my first digital camera (XT-3) to my gear. I mostly do Nature, Architecture/Urban Photography, as well as some Portraits and Bordoir Photos. I want to explore astrophotography in the future when I have a greater degree of mobility, as my current place is in a very bad spot for Astro shots, because of light pollution in my state. + +Since almost the beginning, learning everything there is to know about photography, from the basics about exposure and composition to the intricate details of post processing, felt like work, as there is so much to learn and improve at. And I know you have to put in work to be good at something but this is just a hobby and isn't my profession that pays my bills. + +I also struggle with finding subjects to shoot and having the eye to find them. I have a main photo project that I am working on sometimes, but besides that everything feels aimless and sometimes I take random shitty photos just to take a photo even though I probably shouldn't. + +And when I make good images it is hard to accept, because I get imposter syndrome. Seeing other people's work and comparing myself to them (which I know is stupid) makes it worse. + +I still enjoy photography very much, that isn't the problem. The problem is that it's exhausting the way I am doing it currently. + +Sorry if this is just one big ramble of an amateur photographer, who is an overthinker as well as a perfectionist at times. I just want to regain my joy in photography and find direction again to make meaningful images. What would you as a more experienced photographer or someone who has been in this situation before recommend me?",0 +6730,"Should I give permission for a big company to repost my photos for free?. Context: I'm a hobbyist photographer that runs a photography Instagram account for fun with a small following (<1000). I just got contacted by the marketing agency of an internationally well known airline company, asking for my permission to repost a photo of mine to a few of their social medias. They promised to credit my social but nothing else. + +The discussion: Should you allow big companies to repost your photos for no return other than crediting your socials? If not, what should you ask in return for the repost of your photo?",0 +6731,"How to overcome the loss of my first camera?. Hello, everyone. + +I got my first camera, a Sony A7iii with a kit lens during Thanksgiving 2021. I've always been very enthusiastic about photography ever since as a child but only recently did my financial situation enable me to buy a professional camera. I lost the camera along with an expensive peak design bag I splurged my money on since I thought it was a one-time thing. I'd say it was my absence of mind, carelessness, or whatever you can call it. I put an enormous effort into searching for the camera but it did not help. The fact that I lost $2300 worth of equipment along with some incredible pictures I took that I was really proud of keeps me from sleeping, and has terribly affected my mental health. I hate myself for not being in the moment and losing a device that was so close to my heart. + + +I'm seeking help to understand if any of you here have experienced a similar situation, and how did you make up your mind to understand the reality and move on. + + +To everyone: Please put a tracking device like an Apple AirTag in your bag with your camera. You'll never know when that will come in handy.",0 +6732,"Advice - Paying a photographer. I found a post in one of the hiking groups I’m in of photographer giving free sessions in a nearby national park in order to build her portfolio so she can branch into similar jobs in the future. I was so excited to see this because I’m an avid hiker and work part-time in outdoor recreation. We messaged and agreed to a date and time for her to take couples photos of my partner and I. Being a broke college student, I was so excited to have the opportunity to get nice pictures taken at a low cost since I wouldn’t be able to afford most professionals fees. Here’s the thing- I feel bad about using her service for free with compensating her somehow. My plan was to offer to reimburse her for the park admission fee and give her a card and a baked good (I’ve been told I’m an excellent baker). Does that sound like a good idea? I’m really grateful and want to show my appreciation, but at the same time, I really can’t afford to pay the standard rate for the service.",0 +6733,Bethenny Frankel sued for copyright infringement over Instagram post. ,0 +6734,"Newbie here... Anyone else here HATE having to pose people?. I like candid photos. I like to just be in the middle of everything and get photos as it's happening. If I happen to miss something then I'll ask someone to just do it again, no problem. But I HATE posing people for photos. + +Partially because it's just hard to get the vision across so I end up having to physically put people where I need them to be and I don't like disrupting personal space lmao (social anxiety is a pain in the butt) but mainly because then people tend to overthink it (understandably so, I am the same way) and the photos don't seem as natural and... immersive? + +Are candid photographers a thing? I would love to be able to bring this hobby to a side hustle level but I never really try to pursue it for this reason.",0 +6735,"How do you get more comfortable “doing photography” as a hobby?. I love photography and taking photos, I’ll never do it professionally as I feel that might kill the love I have for it. But I find myself going weeks, months without actually spending time with my camera. Sure, I’ll take it on trips and vacations and such. But I find it hard using it during every day life if that makes sense. I’d love to carry my camera everywhere but I shoot with a full frame mirrorless so it’s not super practical to carry a body and multiple lenses around with me. + +How do you guys incorporate your photography into your everyday lives?",0 +6736,"How to become a more likeable photographer?. For context, it's not that I'm unpleasant. I'm a real estate photographer full time for a company. I have a 98% approval rating from clients so that's not my issue. My issue is that a lot people I know are aware that I'm a professional level photographer that's capable of doing portrait work, yet they opt to spend more money on ""newly professional"" photographers purely on likeability. So obviously I'm losing out purely on that. I understand the ""hire your friends"" aspect, but even my friends choose to go with other photographers at a higher cost and usually what I feel a lower quality product. I don't hard market to people since I'd be annoyed if someone did that to me, so I just let people know ""hey I've been doing professional photography since 2016, let me know if you need any photo work done."" Am I just being too unapproachable, or am I just not being assertive enough?",0 +6737,"Is it just me or is popularity in photography really misleading?. I have been trying to find inspiration, so I have been looking at photographers old and new, trying to figure out what makes someone a well-liked, great photographer. Some of it makes sense - I can totally see why some photographers are famous. But I have noticed that many photographers take quite ordinary photos. While there is occasionally an explanation like maybe the photographer was one of the first to popularize color photos, many times there doesn't seem to be any. Their works are displayed in famous galleries, and I don't really see why. + +What am I missing? I am confused as to what really makes someone a great photographer. + +Edit: My mistake, I was posting from my phone so couldn't really link some examples. I had a bunch of them that I can't recall at the moment, but the most recent ones are from W. Eggleston. He definitely has some amazing clicks - and he was one of the first to popularize color photography apparently. But the following photographs just seem ordinary! I feel like I have probably clicked a 100 such photos over the last year, but I bet they'll never go on a gallery wall. + +[https://news.artnet.com/art-world/william-eggleston-launches-foundation-1712784](https://news.artnet.com/art-world/william-eggleston-launches-foundation-1712784) + +[https://www.ft.com/content/b64b6c4a-bbb8-4c64-9a89-16cac2979a31](https://www.ft.com/content/b64b6c4a-bbb8-4c64-9a89-16cac2979a31) + +[https://www.nytimes.com/2016/06/03/arts/design/william-eggleston-joins-zwirner-gallery.html](https://www.nytimes.com/2016/06/03/arts/design/william-eggleston-joins-zwirner-gallery.html) + +[https://www.gibbesmuseum.org/programs-events/depth-of-field-william-eggleston/654](https://www.gibbesmuseum.org/programs-events/depth-of-field-william-eggleston/654) + +[https://www.imaging-resource.com/news/2013/04/25/william-eggleston-the-worlds-greatest-photographer-or-the-worst](https://www.imaging-resource.com/news/2013/04/25/william-eggleston-the-worlds-greatest-photographer-or-the-worst)",0 +6738,"RAW / Processing Fatigue. I’ve reached a point where the thought of having to sift through and process RAW files is preventing me from picking up my camera at all. + +I love taking photos but in recent years the pipeline between lens and finished article feels like it’s become so long and complex that it’s daunting to the point of off-putting. + +I shoot a Nikon Z6 and my workflow is (roughly): import RAWs into Lightroom CC to an album named for the shoot; apply a baseline profile to all pictures (Nikon colour profile + a few tweaks); quickly flick through all shots using shortcut keys to mark “keepers”; filter by and flick through all “keepers” to mark favourites for additional processing; process individual photos; export all the “keepers” to Apple Photos. + +On the face of it, this doesn’t seem like an overly complex workflow and I don’t really know what I could do to shorten it. Despite that, the prospect of getting home with a memory card of 100+ shots and having to do this just leaves me cold. + +Does anyone else experience this? How did you get past it? Any advice much appreciated.",0 +6739,"Confronted about taking a picture. After 8 years of fooling around with cameras, today was the first time I actually got confronted for taking a picture. I was on an afternoon walk with a camera and walked past an industrial building that had nice shadows on the facade and there were two workers in high-vis jackets outside having lunch. I stopped for a second and took it from pretty far away (I'd say 30m). As I continued to walk along the fence, one of them walked to me and asked me, what I took a picture of and I told her, it was just a wide shot of the building (I assumed she was concerned about taking photos of private property or something) and I could erase it if she wanted. She said it looked like I was taking a picture of them (two women), to which i replied they weren't visible and we went about our day. I deleted the picture right after because they were in a corner and I respect if someone doesn't want to be in a picture. + +The reason for writing this post is mostly to get it off my chest, because I've been overthinking it since. It didn't really occur to me it would seem creepy from such a distance with a small Fuji X100. I didn't notice they were women, otherwise I probably wouldn't take it (as I understand it is creepy when a guy takes photos of random girls in public). I just wish I ended the interaction with an apology, but was too surprised by it to think. I don't want to be that guy walking around with a camera and making people uncomfortable. What is your take on this? + +Edit: I am not concerned about the legality of taking photos of people, I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable. Also not in US.",0 +6740,"Does Anyone Feel Like a Conditional Photographer?. I'm a hobbyist and really enjoy travel photography. The melding of elation, inspiration, and memory capture is a heady high, and many of [my](https://www.flickr.com/photos/158790081@N05/48774544431/in/album-72157710794182343/) [favorite](https://www.flickr.com/photos/158790081@N05/51820429839/in/dateposted/) [images](https://www.flickr.com/photos/158790081@N05/48458402881/in/album-72157709845137826/) were [derived](https://www.flickr.com/photos/158790081@N05/49166155126/in/album-72157712558917937/) while walking foreign shores. + +COVID made me branch out a bit and discover the joy of insect macro. The weird contortions. The sweat. The rocking back and forth trying to get a fraction of a millimeter in focus. The cursing. And finally the [wonder (SPIDER WARNING)](https://www.flickr.com/photos/158790081@N05/51357968973/in/photostream/) of getting a [close up](https://www.flickr.com/photos/158790081@N05/51524307616/in/album-72157719920338326/) shot of an [insect](https://www.flickr.com/photos/158790081@N05/51360720540/in/photostream/) that could fit on the end of your pinkie. + +But when I'm not traveling or chasing bugs, my efforts stagnate. I live in New York - the source of uncountable iconic images - and my motivation is ""meh."" I'll grab a camera and wander often, but recently there's little spark and I end up documenting my path more than capturing something compelling. Other people come here and are overwhelmed with the cornucopia of opportunities, but my local efforts are recently limited to walks on familiar paths and the very occasional planned sunset or sunrise. I was more prolific before WFH, when my daily commute passed by [multiple](https://www.flickr.com/photos/158790081@N05/43808705960/in/album-72157672392371908/) [landmarks](https://www.flickr.com/photos/158790081@N05/48806107033/in/album-72157711092607431/). But now it's tough to push myself to revisit those same places for the purpose of taking photos. + +I've only taken one leisure trip since COVID in that wonderful window between vaccination and Delta, and it did result in some of that [spark](https://www.flickr.com/photos/158790081@N05/51203180503/in/album-72157719094500569/) [returning](https://www.flickr.com/photos/158790081@N05/51201268569/in/album-72157719094500569/). But how do I replicate that interest back home? Why am I excited to get up at 4:30AM to nab a landmark in DC but can't be arsed to wake up at 6:30AM to catch the sun rising over one in New York? + +Maybe this is just the winter blues and COVID-era blues coming together to make some general malaise and spawn a long ramble. Thanks for listening; I'm curious to see if anyone else feels similarly.",0 +6741,"Street photography near beaches? When does street photography cross the line into being creepy?. Is it creepy if one were to do street photography near a popular beach? I took some photos around Waikiki beach (toward the city side but walked along near the beach as well) and wondered if it was kinda creepy to be walking around with a camera near the beach? Especially wearing darker clothing and non beach attire lol. + +At what point does it become creepy and not street photography? Thoughts on this?",0 +6742,"Client Wants photography services for free.. I have a lady client who is an events decor provider. Occasionally she calls me to take decor photos for her and she pays for the services (her pay is not that good). I have known her for 4 months now. She recently called and wants me to take photos at her daughters graduation party for free. Her argument is she doesn't have money and that she really wants to work with me. This lady has gigs every weekend and sometimes weekdays. +I am conflicted, I don't want to work for free since most photographers from my area have avoided her for paying late for jobs or not paying at all. I feel I might agree to work for free and then I find out she paid all other service providers but me. I don't want to be a victim but I feel I am being used. + +UPDATE +I told her that I can't make it for personal reasons. +She ranted saying that I have failed her on her most important function and its like I have ""crossed"" a line. She sent countless texts saying she is disappointed in me. She also said that most photographers are not available yet I know a few who are not working that day. + I know I dodged a bullet. She is such a manipulator.",0 +6743,"Hear me out: is it weird to ask to take pictures of peoples' kids on Halloween?. My mom had a stroke and is in a hospital. She loved giving out candy to the kids and seeing their costumes, and she won't be able to do it this year. + +I want to take pictures of the kids to show her but am afraid even ASKING will make me the weirdo in the neighborhood who takes pictures of kids. + +Should I do it or not? + +On a broader level, how do you take pictures of kids? I just don't but I'm missing out on a lot of fun. I like doing occasional street photography and I ask people and they smile and pose and have a great time, and I know kids love to ham it up for the camera...but they don't really have the agency to say yes or no, and their parents are going to judge the 30 year old single bearded man with the camera asking.",0 +6744,"What photography fad from past/present did you think was horrible and what’s one that wasn’t so bad?. Never understood soft focus and washing out pictures and it’s been a very common fad for the past decade. + +I never disliked color accent nearly as much as other photographers. As long as the black and white section had a good balance of lights and darks, it was usually a nice little pop for the picture. + + +Hall of Shame: Color vignettes. Kill me.",0 +6745,"Ruined family photos. We hired a photographer to take our family pictures this year. They were awful. All of them were dark and blurry. Photographer cited that the ""crop sensor on his camera was bad and needed replaced"" and he didn't realize it during the shoot. (We saw him viewing the images on the screen as we went.). Is that a real reason or is he just making something up? When really they're just out of focus and completely amateur. + +What should I do in this situation? Besides a full refund request. Obviously it took a lot of prep to get a full family with small kids ready for this. He did not offer to reshoot, not that we want him to anyway.",0 +6746,"I photo retouching a dead career?. As the title suggests. I’ve been a professional photo retoucher for almost 30 years (yes, since photoshop 2.5!). I took a couple years off right before the pandemic (and during!) to attempt some voiceover transition as my photo retouching jobs kept getting lower and lower in pay. However, that didn’t pan out like I hoped. + +I tried going back, but couldn’t find a job to save my soul! I’m now stuck in a dead-end retail job for the past year, and have been applying to all manner of retouching jobs over the year - and NEVER heard a single reply back - let alone an interview… + +Until this week from an online news site… and they offered me 2 grand a month for a full time, 5-day-a-week + occasional weekend job sourcing & processing 30 images a day. That’s less than minimum wage where I’m at ATM! + +My current part time dead-end job at FedEx Office pays more than that. + +What the hell here!? Am I just a lost relic/dinosaur? Are jobs in retouching totally gone at this point??? + +Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated! Thanks much in advance!",0 +6747,"What was the best move you made for your photography?. For folks who do photography for a job (full time, part time, whatever) what was the best move you made for yourself? Was it getting experience? Focusing on your style? Getting a business degree? Being a second at an event? Joining an agency? + +What did you do that you feel benefitted you the most and made you grow?",0 +6748,"What makes a Photographer a ""Professional"" compared with an ""Amateur""?. Question is self explanatory really, and am sure its been done to death on here, so already hearing the rolling of eyes lol!... But often wonder where the line gets drawn between someone who is a Professional Photographer, and someone who is just an Amateur... I mean is it when: + +1. They first get published. +2. They start making money from their work +3. The stage when Photography is their career + +For me its No.3 from the above + +But equally wonder what everyone else thinks, and if there is a point in progression that I've overlooked",0 +6749,"Are photo ""awards"" and competitions now completely pointless?. I can think of more than one reason why being an ""award winning photographer"" is now all but meaningless. + +1) Photo contests now seem to have so many categories that you could take an out of focus picture of the floor and there could well be a category you could win. (""I am deeply proud to announce that I won a participation award in the category for ""best sunset taken with a micro four thirds sensor camera from a third storey window in Manhattan on Friday March 6th"""") + +2) The photos which win ""landscape"" contests are often so over-processed that they barely deserve to be called photos, so they are no longer awards for photography but for photo manipulation. Similarly, it's now pretty common to come across cases in which the winning photo in a journalism competition was staged / manipulated. That may have been a genuine scandal once, but now everyone shrugs and assumes that it's normal. + +3) If you have enough followers on social media, you can easily win a competition if it's decided by social media votes/likes, rather than by competence as decided by someone who actually has some knowledge of the field. + +I'm sure there are others. + +However, some people may feel that there's still some point to photo contests, so hopefully this will get a civil discussion going.",0 +6750,The conservation photographer capturing mesmerizing images of Mexico's flamingos. ,0 +6751,"Retouching photos to hide (alleged) crimes. I read a fascinating article from ICIJ about how some photos in Architectural Digest had been airbrushed to remove potentially stolen Cambodian artwork. + +From the article: +Asked about the edited image, Erin Kaplan, spokesperson for Architectural Digest, a Condé Nast publication, said by email that the magazine published a photo that did not show the relics because of “unresolved publication rights around select artworks.” Kaplan declined to say who altered the photo or clarify her comment about unresolved publication rights. + +Seems a bit rum to me. + + +[https://www.icij.org/investigations/pandora-papers/lindemann-cambodia-relics-altered-photo-magazine/](https://www.icij.org/investigations/pandora-papers/lindemann-cambodia-relics-altered-photo-magazine/)",0 +6752,Does anyone look through the viewfinder anymore?. This may make me sound like an old fuddy duddy but does anyone look through the viewfinder anymore? Or is using the LCD screen exclusively only done by people who film behind the scenes content for IG and YouTube? I’m not saying one way is right and one way is wrong but for me the lag of using the LCD deters me from using it all the time (obviously save for those times when I’m getting an angle where I can’t physically put my eye on the camera.) What do you look through and how do you feel about the opposing style?,0 +6753,"How do i tell people the free photos i took didnt turn out good?. I recently got into car photography and i go out to a lot of meets in and around my area and take a lot of photos that im very proud of. But sometimes the photos dont turn out to my standard or are just plain old blurry. I get messages asking about the photos because i do promote myself and my instagram out so people can see rhe photos i take. So how do i tell them that the photos didnt turn out? + +Edit: thank you all for the suggestions! Im deffinitely going to try using some of the suggestions you guys gave me, i really appreciate it!",0 +6754,"My best friend asked me to do shoot her maternity photos, someone else asked if she can shoot them too and she agreed. Am I in the wrong for wanting to hold off on our session now?. I could be outta line and in my feelings about this one, so I'm asking for unbiased opinions. + +My best friend is pregnant ask asked me last month if I could do her maternity photos. I said yes, I'd taken her engagement photos a few years back and it went well. I'm an amateur and think I was on my way to starting a business before 2020 came and shot it to hell. I've barely picked up my camera since then. I'm by now means ""bad"", but I'm very critical of myself and my work and tend to beat myself up over anything I wish I had done better. This would've been my first time my camera in a year, so I've kinda been nervous about it but of course agreed because she asked me and I couldn't tell her no. + +So there's a girl who we've recently became friends with who is a professional photographer. Her work is stunning and she and my best friend have become really close. Best friend recently posted a photo of her bump on facebook. New photog friend comments ""omg i love you can I do your maternity photos?"" to which my best friend replies ""omg yes I love you"" + +So at this point, I'd rather not do them because I feel like I'll be playing second fiddle. Best friend says she wants as many pictures of her pregnancy as she can get. but I'm already really hard on myself as it is, I'm very anxious about having my work shown besides new photog friend's because I know I'm nowhere as good as her. They're both pretty big on social media, I know her photos will be circulated and praised, as they should, but I already feel uncomfortable and inadequate. We all have a book club and meet up in person, I already see everyone gushing over her work, and I'll just feel... bad. + +Best friend wants to know if I'll still shoot too, and I'm on the fence about it. She'll be in good hand with our new photog friend anyways. Maybe I'm making this all about me when I shouldn't be. But it still makes me feel some type of way, even though I've tried again and again to reason with myself. Does anyone have any thoughts?",0 +6755,"Photographers at my job keep asking me to model for them, is this sketchy?. For context I’ve worked at a wedding venue for several years, so I’m meeting new photographers regularly. Yesterday one approached me again wanting to do a shoot with me. This one told me he doesn’t usually shoot anything aside from weddings but that he wants to do a shoot with me, free of charge. + +This is the fourth or fifth time this has happened with different photographers, I’m wondering what’s up with this? + +Should I just give it a shot? Is this normal in the photography world or is there usually an ulterior motive? The one who approached me yesterday travels the world shooting events and owns a photography company. I don’t want to miss an opportunity for free professional shots but also don’t want to be naive. Advice needed. Thanks in advance! + +Edit: Wow, thank you guys for the suggestions and advice, it’s so helpful!! I appreciate you all!",0 +6756,"Why is it not 'commercial use' if a website is using your image to help draw traffic for profit?. Edit: This will sound rude but, this is one of those threads where you're better off lurking than trying to submit your 2 cents when you've little to no experience with the topic. I don't claim to know everything, but if all you've ever learned is ""you have the right to chose how your images are used!"" then maybe sit this one out because that's a given and really didn't need stating as a top level comment. + +I regularly get declined by Pixsy on sites that are clearly using my image for blogs/articles on private sites (not twitter or mass hosts) as they're not 'commercial' usage and therefore they won't seek a case. + +But these sites are using my images to draw in traffic and users and profit from my images. + +What gives? Why is that not a valid case to raise and claim for? And should it be? + +Copyright law honestly needs to change. After the 1000 submission to pinterest or twitter (fyi, above, I'm not talking about these sites, this is a separate rant!) to remove my images, I should be allowed to seek damages because they continue to allow users to upload my images even though they absolutely have the ability to block the image during upload or run image searches to detect previously submitted images - I'm sure there must be a class action available there if enough people were interested - proving that the host is not taking reasonable effort to prevent infringement.",0 +6757,Very basic tip 101: always double check every setting before you shoot. I knew this already but I was really excited to shoot in a new city this morning and I just took it for granted that everything in my settings was fine. Not quite sure how my preferences got switched but I ended up shooting the whole day in jpeg and not raw. Really unfortunate as I got some solid street shots and now there’s not a lot I can do with them. Lesson definitely learned tho and I just wanted to hop on here to potentially save any other new photographers the headache,0 +6758,"Finding great photography without Instagram, part four: commercial photography agencies. As photographers we like to find inspiring work from other photographers, but places like Instagram, Flickr and reddit sometimes fail at delivering the best work or showing in the best way. The resources I’m posting in this series form an alternative. + + +[Part 1: photojournalism agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ygufpb/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 2: photo book publishers](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/yhghy7/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 3: photography galleries](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/yjkpir/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 4: commercial photography agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ylrpjm/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + + +[Part 5: fashion photography agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ylv8ii/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + + + + +There are probably hundreds of agencies for commercial photography all over the world, representing some of the absolute best photographers working today. My bookmarks folder has over a hundred but I’m just posting some of my favourites here to keep things manageable. I intend to post a comprehensive list of this and the other posts in a Google doc on my website at some point. + +Many of the big commercial agencies feature both fashion and advertising / lifestyle photographers. The below are mostly focused on the latter and I will post a list of top fashion oriented agencies later. + +https://claxtonprojects.com + +http://www.rose-paris.com + +http://wyattclarkejones.com + +https://www.probationagency.com + +http://www.emeisdeubel.com + +https://lairdandgoodcompany.com + +https://agentbauer.com + +https://www.lgamanagement.com + +https://bransch.net + +https://supervisionnewyork.com + + + +In one of the other threads someone commented that all the galleries, publishers, agencies etc I posted also have Instagram accounts. To that I said yes, but: + +1) In order to find their accounts them you need to know they exist. Not everybody does which is why I'm posting them here. + +2) Even if you find them on Instagram, their Instagram pages don't offer a comprehensive list of all their photographers. Their websites do. + +3) Their individual photographers' Instagram pages don't offer a comprehensive overview of their work, they don't show full series, they don't show archives of older series, and they don't show the work any bigger than 1080px. Their websites invariably do. + +4) I feel strongly about showing people that the world of photography is bigger than Instagram, and I am of the opinion that we shouldn't let Meta and its algorithms control everything we do online. + +I hope that clears things up for anyone else wondering.",0 +6759,"Do you find that certain genres of photography just aren't for you?. I've been taking a photography class for the past month and we've had to do a few different kinds of assignments. The first was photographing an object, the second was landscapes, and the third and fourth have been portraits. + +I find that I dont really like taking still portraits as much. I feel like I'm wasting someones time when I have them stand there and I fumble around with camera settings. It stresses me out. I'm also just not very creative, compared to the other people in my class, and have trouble with composition and never sure what looks good. + +I did take some pictures at a meetup for one of my hobbies and found that was a bit more enjoyable, I think because it was more candid. It was pretty challenging too because there was a lot of movement. I had trouble keeping people in frame, some pictures came out overexposed, and blurry because I set the shutter speed too high for the lens I was using. + +I really enjoy landscapes, especially astrophotography, the whole process of finding places to go and wandering around in the dark at night has been fun. Post processing has been a little frustrating and challenging though. + +I think the next class field trip we might be doing street photography, so maybe that will be enjoyable? Are there any genres that you've found just aren't for you?",0 +6760,The Natural Landscape Photography Awards Results - 2022. ,0 +6761,"Are you a ""Prime"" or ""Zoom"" lens type of person, and what decided it for you?. So as a person that is still incredibly new to photography and videography, I still have limitted equipment. I am still learning on what my camera can do and what it's limitations are, and learning composition techniques. + +I own a Micro-43 system (Panasonic G85) with the standard kitlens (12-60 F/3.5 - 5.6) and the 25mm F/1.8. I am currently in some sort of quest to figure out which way I want to go in terms of acquiring lenses. + +I pulled the trigger on the 25mm a little too fast. I was getting all hung up about the conversations online about ""*How the crop-sensor + kitlens wont really work in low light situations*"" and how the ""nifty fifty"" is considered an all-rounder for many photographers. + +Although I can agree that the low-light capabilities of this specific prime are indeed very nice, I ran into 2 situations: + +1. I rarely take pictures at night time or indoors. Most of my pictures are done outside with decent enough light. +2. The 50mm quite often feels ""too thight"" for me. During certain moments while travelling around, shooting outdoors but also indoors, the thighter fixed focal length limitted my ability to make some great pictures. In certain instances I was physically unable to take another step back to get anything into frame, which let me to not being able to take the picture I had in mind. + +Not only that, at the same time I feel like I am missing some sort of flexibility. Obviously, primes are usually sharper and are better in difficult lighting, but to me, swapping over has been quite an annoyance so far. I am more of a run-and-gun shooter, and missed quite a lot of moments due the limitations of the prime-lens. Somewhere in the future I will be also using this camera for video, so a zoom lens will probably be the best things I could invest in. The zoom that I had in mind was the Olympus 12-40 F/2.8. + +The only thing that is holding me back a bit is how quite a lot of people seem to be quite vocal about how zoom lenses ""aren't professional and shouldn't be used for professional work"". I wonder how some of you think about this?",0 +6762,"Camera as a social crutch?. I like people but surface level small talk can be exhausting. I often relish being the family photographer because I can hide behind it, or use it to move on from a tiresome conversation. “I should go capture that…” + +But it has a downside when I genuinely like all the people and I don’t want to be “working” and would rather just hang out. + +Anyone have similar experiences?",0 +6763,"Deleting a photographer's photo of my products??. I'm a business owner for a very small food/drink company with no employees. Today I received an Instagram message from a photographer asking me to take down a photo of hers from my business page and I have no idea how to proceed. + +We sell our products at the local gym and do events there every couple of months to promote our sales. During the last event, a couple of women asked if they could take a photo of themselves with our products. My business partner handed the products to them and a woman who worked at the gym took a picture. The photo ended up on the gym's Instagram page and we reposted it. + +A few days later I got a message on Instagram from the photographer introducing herself. She asked for us to use her for photography work for our business and to compensate her for the photo, otherwise to take the photo down. In my eyes, if she is taking photos of my products at an event that I'm working at, this is a ridiculous request. I should note that she might just be an instructor at the gym who does photography on the side, not an official photographer for the gym. + +Frankly I don't really care about taking down a single photo, but we do these events pretty often and I'm worried that this type of thing will happen again. To complicate things, my wife goes to this gym and shares a lot of friends with the photographer. I also don't want to get any gym management involved. Any thoughts on how to deal with this?",0 +6764,what's the most expensive mistake youve made with your camera gear?. 2 weeks ago I was canoe camping and capsized with my camera out of the dry bag. I lost close to $5k on this silly mistake as nothing is fixable. I'm curious to hear other people's bad mistakes they've made during their hobby or professional careers with photography?,0 +6765,"How do you ask to take pictures of others’ cars?. One of my recently moved in neighbours has this beautiful silver 560SL, and on a snowy day I tried asking for permission to take a few shots of their car. They said yes but the entire time they were giving me suspicious looks, and especially when i wiped the snow off the model emblem and Mercedes logo(they agreed to me wiping off snow) they started asking what was my purpose of taking these pictures. In the end, I finally managed to convince them I really was just taking these shots for my own enjoyment, but it still didn’t feel right to have taken pictures this way. How do you guys go about taking pictures of others’ cars?",0 +6766,"I hate it when I mess up.. Recently did a shoot for a client on black and white film, which is what I’m known for, and what I always shoot and why people come to me. + +Y’all ever mess up with small brain farts so bad that you send the photos and admit + “yeah so I kind of butchered this, I’m not stamping my name on these images, come back and I’ll redo the shoot on me?” +I know many people will say “don’t bring up a negative until they show dissatisfaction “ +And that’s entirely true. But I feel like in this case the images came out so far from my usual look, I just had to admit the error. Regardless if they loved them or not. + +I typically shoot black and whites in front of a white seamless. But this time I did the shoot in front of a grey (darker grey). +Strike one against my “look”. (I shoulda done tests) + +Then some how, some way, the dark grey mixed with my typically higher contrast style lighting, just made everything DARKER (less light bounce). +Strike 2. (She also had Filipina skin, sooo she ended up looking…dark). + +Then my dumb ass was shooting at f9ish instead of my meter reading of f8, and if anyone shoots on Mamiya you know you compensate in close up images by 0.5 stop. So I should have been at f6.3, instead I was shooting at the equivalent of f11. +Strike 3. + +The irony of this is that I never shoot color, because I dislike shooting color, the color images came out great. This was the one time the black and white came out dog water, and colors came out awesome. + +Anyone ever get these small brain farts that dismantle your look and client expectations? Just me? + +I feel like me outright hard nope-ing the images and asking for a reshoot builds some kind of rapport with clients that says “okay this guy gives a shit about his work, I’d recommend him”. Rather than being seen as a weakness, e.g “he has no clue wtf he’s doing”. + + +Sorry, I had to vent a bit. I’m angry at my self for faffing the portraits and literally not paying attention to my aperture, etc. +my gf thought my being upset is trivial, I’m hoping here I get a bit of relating. + +Haha. + +Cheers peeps, pay attention to those settings. -.-",0 +6767,"Is it wrong to be losing interest in photography while taking a course dedicated to it?. As what the title suggests, I’m trying out a photography course and so far it’s not going terrible but I’m starting to feel a bit of a disconnect between myself and photography itself, and my inspiration seems to be falling off again. Another worry I have is that I could get bored of it if I do it too repeatedly in a year or it could get too challenging that I might eventually collapse. Don’t get me wrong, there’s things I enjoy about it but I sensed that something just feels weird. + +This may not be the right post to this sub but I wanted to get some thoughts out.",0 +6768,"What does another brand do really well? | Canon | Nikon | Sony | Fuji. So obviously everyone prefers their own camera brands... otherwise, why wouldn't they switch. + +Ultimately, all the big 3 + 1 are all more than good enough that you can't really tell the difference between a well-processed image taken on any of them. + +What's something one of the other brands do really well? + +​ + +I think I've seen a few general observations to get us started (trying to be as unbiased as possible). + +​ + +**Nikon** tends to make excellent lenses. Their lenses tend to be the top lens or the second best lens in that class ^((I have friends who are optometrists and they are constantly raving to me about their Nikon optical machines)). I'd almost say Nikon are a lens company first and a Camera company second. + +​ + +**Canon** has really great skin colour accuracy. Have the most unique (although polarising) raws. Really pioneered the dual photo/video camera. Canon really focuses on aesthetics (of the images). Also Canon always just do things a little differently. + +​ + +**Sony** was such a great disruptor and a real breath of fresh air into the industry (although their first mover advantage to mirrorless looks to be starting to evaporate). Sony has completely changed the game when it comes to dual photo+video cameras. + +​ + +**Fuji** has really changed the game when it comes to camera & sensor size and might be the first company (since the FullFrame era) to make really make a comprehensive APS-C camera & lens lineup, putting APS-C first.",0 +6769,"Attacked for making photographs… in Times Squre. I’m a long time photographer, but I’d describe my style more of landscape / urban rather than people or “street” photography - which is to say that I’m not super interested in people as the subjects of my photos (context for what follows). When I’m in a new city I like to walk around a lot and just make photographs of whatever interests me. + +I’m in New York right now, a city I’m very familiar with and one I’ve photographed a lot. I was wandering down 7th avenue towards Times Square when I saw a line of food carts along one street that I thought looked interesting. As I was waiting for the light to change I made a quick shot with my Leica Q2 (an absolutely rubbish shot, as it turned out). Anyway, out of nowhere, this guy appears and starts shouting at me for taking photos. I didn’t like his aggressive attitude so I quickly shouted back that it’s a public space and I can photograph wherever I want - which is absolutely true in America. At that, he lunges at me and grabs my camera! But for the fact that I had it strapped around my neck, I am pretty sure it would have been grabbed and smashed. As it turns out, the guy was one of the vendors on the food carts - he wasn’t even in the shot. I was pretty shook. I’ve been nervous in other parts of NYC (e.g. Central Park and under Brooklyn Bridge before sunrise) but I never expected to be set upon in Times Square, easily one of the most photographed locations on the planet. + +Anyway, my main take-away from this is to always keep your camera strapped to you - even if it’s something pretty compact like a Q2. I also told some cops nearby what happened and I know they went back to talk to the guy. I didn’t go with them because the guy was an immigrant working a shit job and while he needs to know its not ok to assault people I didn’t want to unnecessarily esclate. I’m 6 foot and male - if I had been say elderly, smaller or female, it would have been pretty terrifying.",0 +6770,"OM Digital Solutions unveils the OM System OM-1, a 20.4MP Micro Four Thirds camera - DPReview. ",0 +6771,"For hobbyist photographers, how do you meet other photographer friends?. I just started doing photography with an Olympus EM10 Mark II and I've been really enjoying it so far, but I'm not quite sure how to meet other hobbyist photographers. I'm 24M living in NYC and when I look at meetup groups, so many of them are basically dead with the last meetup being back in like 2019 and/or 2020 (I'm sure COVID killed these groups, but still). + +For hobbyists here, how are you making friends with other photographers? I want to hang out with people and go out shooting together every now and then. + +Museum memberships (for events)? Photography classes (unfortunately, expensive for me)? In public? Workshops? Photo walks? Photo clubs? + +I live in NYC and I'm literally having trouble finding these things. Am I just bad at researching or what?",0 +6772,"too much editing...how can I politely ask for less editing. Hello Photographers. Not sure if this is the right place but need advice. I had mommy & me photoshoot with my 1 year old daughter. I got my album today and some of the photos my face is just way too edited it looks like someone else's face on my body. These are photos I wouldn't share with family or friends. + +What's the best way to politely ask to have a handful of pics less edited and look more natural? Is it rude to ask?",0 +6773,"Tips for self portrait photography?. I’ve been doing photography for about a year now on the side and have gotten fairly good at several techniques, but I struggle with self portraits. I use the canon app on my phone to control the camera and although I’ve gotten some good shots of myself, for the most part my photos end up being extremely unnatural, unsatisfying, and not photogenic. I don’t really know how to “model” for photos which might be a big part of it, but are there any basics I should reevaluate to help improve ?",0 +6774,"Anyone on here make their income from photography? What do you do?. Just trying to gauge the community here, are most people on this sub looking for advice & in the beginning of their hobby or career, or are there any others that consider this their career? + +I’ve been freelance for 2 years and would be happy to answer questions relating to the field, but would also like to connect with others who are here seeking community or are in similar positions. For context I have mostly shot for brands & editorial publications during this time. + +All the best! + +Edit: Thank you for all of your wonderful responses! Reading through them I can see there are quite a few of us who consider this their full time job, some of us that are trying to make it work, and some of us who are hobbyists, who may or may not be thinking about turning this art into a career. I'm so glad to see there is such a strong community here. My apologies for the late replies, but I'm going through everything now and will answer any questions! Thanks so much y'all I'll definitely be more active here now. Can't wait to see your work.",0 +6775,"Does anyone else not mind working on holidays?. I get this is brought up frequently as a con to being a photographer, but I’ve come to prefer it over time. Just today, I’ll be making $1,500 working an event for Easter. $500 of the total alone is a surcharge for ‘working on a holiday.’ Compared to last year when I didn’t work on the holiday, it’s far more preferable. Another plus is when I do take time off for my equivalent of a given holiday, it’s usually less inexpensive and if I’m going somewhere, it’s typically less crowded.",0 +6776,"In the Mac 14"" and 16"", having the ability of set presents with a specific luminance is just godsend for photography... such a simple yet genius perk in my experience.. for as long as I remember I always struggled/worried when editing photos on laptop screens as it was hard to make sure luminance was an at appropriate level (between 80-120nits is often recommended). for years I would make note in which percentage (in Windows) or at which specific spot of the slide brightness slider in MacOS would correspond to 120 nits. + +now with the 14"" and 16"", I can just customize a Present to have 120 luminance and dont have to worry about it anymore as the slider gets grayed out so I cannot ruin it myself; making photo editing way more enjoyable. + +I think this feature gets a little bit under-appreciated compared to many other features of the new miniLed screens. + +I have seen it in Pro types of monitors like BenQ, ProArt but this is the first time I see this in a laptop. Just sharing my experience.",0 +6777,"Photographer Ron Haviv talks about historic photos he took. Hats off to this guy, it's amazing how many historic photos he took.",0 +6778,"Question: if you were in college and joined a photography club- what would you have liked to see/do?. I am on the board for my colleges photography club and I, along with the other board members, are struggling a bit in creating ideas for club meetings. We would love some input or ideas for things we can do to get our club members engaged! Everyone is welcome in the club and the minimum requirement in joining is having a phone camera. We took a poll for what the club members wanted to see and a lot of them wanted to learn how to use a camera, how to do portraits, how to shoot film, mobile photography, etc. We aren’t professional photographers by any means, we really just enjoy taking photos which is why I feel we are struggling to create some structure. Any input or ideas are welcome! Thanks! + +Edit: Wow thank you so much for all the feedback and the award!! I really appreciate all the suggestions and comments!! + +Edit #2: I didn’t realize just how many comments there were thank you so much! I’ll try to respond to as many as I can!",0 +6779,"Help, Client cancelled event after signing contract but before paying booking fee. I had a client booked with signed contract for a corporate headshot session at their company retreat. + +My booking fee was $100 to cover the cost of buying their specific color backdrop, and is due on signing and non refundable upon client cancellation. + +Yet the company signed the contract and had me send an invoice to accounting, but the next day they cancelled the event and now are ghosting me on all communications. + + What would be the best action to take in this situation? I had a slow month and could really use that booking money. And feeling a extra dumb for buying the backdrop before they paid 😪",0 +6780,"Clients are Crazy Pt II. [Two years ago I posted this thread that was pretty popular.](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/m6pkd1/clients_are_crazy/) + +Well I'm back to regale you with another fantastic tale. + +Earlier in the week I was tagged in a Facebook post by my best friend. The singer in (one of) his bands was looking for a photographer to photograph their show this weekend. The singer messaged me and asked to see my portfolio and asked me for my rates. + +He wanted me to take photos of two bands, and said it would take about two hours. I told him I would do it for $175, which for me is a ""friend rate"" since my best friend is in the band. + +A couple days go by and I hear nothing. + +On Thursday he reached out again, and said that he really likes my work, but because they have to split the door with the other bands and the venue, they don't really make any money for playing, and what would it cost for me to just come for one hour and only photograph *their* band... + +Again, being that my friend is in the band, and if my friend had asked me I would have attended the show as a spectator anyway, I said I would come photograph just their set for $100. To be clear, I don't need the money, but if I'd normally stay at home, and you want me to come out to work, I have to be paid *something* on principle. + +I was told the band would go on at 10:15, but was asked to come a little earlier ""so we can go over everything."" + +I ended up arriving at 9:30, and I introduce myself to everyone in the band. The singer pulls me aside and says ""okay, so here's the *real reason* you're here. I'm going to propose to my girlfriend during the set, and I want you to get photos of it."" + +Oh Jesus Christ. + +Obviously, I'm not happy. As you all know, photographing live music and shooting a surprise proposal are quite different events. + +I have a strict no engagements/no weddings policy in my photography. I've turned down very good friends and family for these things. 90% of my work is corporate. While I've **never** had to reshoot anything, I like knowing that I can if my client isn't satisfied. I simply don't want the stress and responsibility of capturing someone's ""special moment."" + +But I think what bothered me the most, wasn't the fact that this person just thinks I'm some photography juke box, but that they haggled me on the price. + +I calmly explained to this person that I don't do engagement photography, and that I cannot be trusted to get the shot. He slaps me on the shoulder and says ""you'll be fine, don't worry about it!"" My best friend is there with his wife, and some of our other friends, and everyone is clearly very excited for the proposal, and that I'm there to photograph it. Had this been any other situation, I would have told the client no, and simply left, but perhaps I'm too loyal to my friends, so I decided to stay and do the job. + +The client was *extremely* lucky that I actually brought the appropriate gear, as I almost brought just my Ricoh point and shoot since it was such a cheap shoot for some local cover band. + +The icing on the cake was that, as it often does, a 10:15 start time turning into an 11pm start time. So my ""1hr photoshoot"" turned into about 3, and at the end of the show, the singer thanked everyone: the other bands, the fans, the sound guy, the bartenders...no mention of the photographer. + +The only silver lining being that I took the opportunity to experiment with some different techniques, including slow shutter speed with flash and I got to hang out with some of my friends. + +If anyone is wondering if I got the engagement shots, I did. They're okay. + +**EDIT 1:** The proposal was a surprise. I don't know when the rest of the band was informed, but no one outside of the band and myself knew that it was going to happen. Sorry if that wasn't clear in my OP. + +**EDIT 2**: For those saying ""you were going to take crappy pictures with a point and shoot"" I guess this is a good time to pull out 'ol reliable ""gear doesn't matter."" I wouldn't consider a $1,000 Ricoh GRIIIx a ""crappy camera"", and I highly doubt anyone would be making comments if I said I showed up with an interchangeable lens body but only had a single prime with me. The venue has no backstage, no media pit, and was basically at max capacity. Navigating that space with a full frame camera+zoom lens+ flash was actually a huge pain in the ass. ",0 +6781,"Clarity: Beyond 100%. This is a little trick I've discovered recently. Shocker: The Clarity slider also goes in reverse! And because of the way Clarity works, a negative value can quite decently smooth out ""blurry"" areas of an image, while keeping things in focus mostly sharp. + +  + +[Image as shot](https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/1002435574247997472/1037308990322901022/unknown.png) + +  + +[Image with clarity set to -60](https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/1002435574247997472/1037308975038869545/unknown.png) + +  + +Maybe this is news to noone but me, but I've started using this to good effect, so I'm posting this in case it helps anyone else.",0 +6782,"If you'd live in a city which didn't inspire you visually, how would you keep the hobby of photography going?. Would be interesting with some thoughts, as I live in a city which many think is beautiful, but I'm bored of. I see all these beautiful Instagram profiles with inspiring landscapes, cities and objects. At the same time I'm sitting in a huge city without inspiration, but once I'm abroad - my love for photography comes back, why?",0 +6783,"I want to sell my street-photos as prints but I’m scared of failure. I love street photography and I’ve finally developed a collection of my own work that I’m proud of. + +People seem to enjoy my work. My page has just under 10k followers who I love interacting with. + +I felt that I could sell my prints to them, but then I remember that most of them are photographers that probably won’t buy prints. + +I still want to sell my work, but I don’t know where to share it. And I’m worried that I’ll fail.",0 +6784,The photographer documenting Australia's abandoned places. ,0 +6785,"How do you treat license plates in your pictures that aren't yours?. I recently went to a car meet and snapped a load of pics and met a bunch of other great auto photographers, it was a great time. The only problem is that a few of the shots I took have the car's license plates clearly visible and easily legible, a few of those shots already made it onto my Instagram and the owners of both vehicles now follow me and asked for the photos for their own Instagrams so they didn't mind. My issue now though is: should I post those to other Social medias? Like Flickr or Reddit? I would've just decided it wasn't worth it but since I believe it's some of my best work so far, I would like to post it to sites where I feel I can get more advice and constructive criticism. Is publishing a license plate really all that bad? I mean anyone who sees the car can see the plate... but I'm still unsure and would like some more opinions before I decide. ",0 +6786,"Female Photographers Taking Photos Alone - Safety Advice/Things to Avoid. + +Hello, + +This comment is directed at female photographers...I'm a very small young woman and I'm afraid to venture out alone onto nature trails or into the city to do photography. In my town a young girl was walking alone on the nature trails around our lake and was murdered. I don't live in a dangerous town, it's supposed to be pretty safe here, although I am on the outer edge of the metro area of a big city that has had a reputation for being very dangerous (it is being built up now and the downtown has gotten much better though. I live in USA). + +Do any female photographers have advice or tips for staying safe while going out to shoot alone? Or what to generally avoid, like trails in the woods, any city photography etc? So far I've only had the courage to go out with my camera to these places while having a male friend with me but it's very restricting to have to accommodate a friend. + +Please no rude or snarky remarks, I'm sure some people would say that it's safe to do this but I've already had crimes committed against me in the past. I'd rather not do anything that could unnecessarily make me in the wrong place at the wrong time.",0 +6787,"Someone keeps insisting I shoot 4:3 on a full frame camera.. Sorry for bringing this semi-pettiness forward, but I'd appreciate a third voice (or more) on this. My roommate keeps telling me I can't possibly take good 4:3 pictures for twitter just leaving my full frame camera on 3:2, and that it's a no brainer to just always set the camera to crop to 4:3. They keep insisting I'll lose detail and I try to explain to her that isn't happening with going from 3:2 to 4:3. I explain I just shoot on the slightly wider/farther out side to be safe with a 7008x4672 resolution and not lose any significant detail while having far more flexibility in post and they insist that is just wrong. I explain that I'm not just shooting for twitter (I'm mostly focused on 11""x17"" 300dpi prints and sub 12mp photo essays without a strict ratio right now) and other sites have different ideal formats anyway. + +They insist I can't possible frame 4:3 pictures well on the fly while it's set to 3:2 (even though I do for a multitude of end aspect ratios). They'll pull up websites talking about 4:3 sensors and claim the website is saying I'm wrong; I'm kind of at a loss of how to explain it to them. I'm also open to just being wrong if I've misunderstood something. + +(More ranting) There's been tons of times where requirements changed or perspective shifts were needed and having the shot a little farther out saved me, and my roommate has wasted my time modeling for them by taking pictures of me not understanding focal lengths, which I couldn't save because they went too tight in and there wasn't room to do perspective shifts/lens corrections. They also insisted to have $4000 in camera gear set to only medium quality jpg when they were shooting it, so it's just boggling my mind their stance. They basically only ever take selfies with their phone but will plop themselves down next to me and start an argument like I'm the one that doesn't know what they're talking about.",0 +6788,"about the future of photoclass. Hi photography, + +For the last 9 years I've been organising the yearly photoclass and I've decided that the next year will be my last. I love doing it but ten years has been enough and it's time for some new project. + +It's been a pleasure to see so many aspiring photographers learn and grow and my hope is that this can go on in the years to come. Some of my former pupils are now professionals, others just followed a couple of classes but have now learned to use their camera just a little bit better... + + +So here is my question: Is there anyone, or idealy a group of people, that would like to continue this labour of love in the spirit of paying forward and take over from 2024? + +For next years class we can do it together and share the load a bit so you get to know the class and methods and then from 2024 you can continue for 5 or even 10 years :-) + +about the workload: + +photoclass has a current duration of about 8 months and especially the first 2 can be a good amount of work. After that it starts to become more manageble. But in all I would estimate it takes me about 1h-2h a day the first months, down to half an hour after that. + +Most of the material is pretty well tuned in now but some updates are always needed to account for changes in technology. + +So, my question is, is there anyone who's interested to help, to take over?",0 +6789,"Am new to using gels on speedlights on location to mix with environmental lighting -- made a ""cheat sheet"" to share and gather feedback.. So, I usually shoot in studio or simply with available daylight. Recently I've been doing more event stuff and having to wrestle with matching my speedlights to environmental lighting temps. I made this ""cheat sheet"" to keep with my gear and calm my head when I'm on location and think I'm going crazy. Would love feedback from more experienced shooters (did I get it right?) and any advice on how to improve this. Hoping it will be something that can help others! + +ETA: I understand that when shooting RAW there’s no need to adjust white balance but I usually save a JPG copy to a separate card as backup (ie RAW+jpg on two different cards) in case of corruption on the RAW caed and would like the JPGs to be properly balanced as well. At least, that’s my thinking it it’s not flawed. + +ETA2: I updated the image based on a few comments here (3/24/22) + +https://preview.redd.it/4ixay2z1pcp81.jpg?width=1029&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dd7f9beece487168c72e1d60a2ea4d2edd595bb5",0 +6790,"Want to avoid tourist crowds but love the location? Use the rain!. When I was working in Los Angeles, I had a long list of places I wanted to photograph. The problem was that I only had weekends off. Which if you know LA, makes half of the locations virtually impossible to get to. Most of these locations were small famous view points, parks, or monuments without parking or only 3-5 parking spots. Even if you could get to the place, good luck capturing a photo without crowds in them. + + +I started only visiting popular areas during the rain. And it was a miracle! In most instances I was the only one there! I’ve always preferred bad weather photos because I think clouds and wet terrain make it easier to fill your composition with interest. The lighting is less of an issue because there’s plenty of cloud cover and the clouds offer interest in the sky and there are also reflections on the ground. I didn’t have to use a rain cover on my camera very often because it’s weather sealed, it wasn’t raining very hard, and I was hopping in my truck between locations. I kept several microfiber towels handy and zipped my camera under my rain jacket when I wasn’t actively shooting. + + +That’s my super not so secret trick. It sounds so easy I didn’t think it would work, but there really aren’t many people willing to brave the rain to see an attraction! It doesn’t solve the occasional location that closes in the rain or aren’t open on weekends, but most of the time nothing got in the way. + + +I’m sure it’s been mentioned here already but with fall approaching I’ll mention it again. + + +PS. *You could use long exposure times to eliminate people from your scenes. But I usually find this too troublesome aka carrying a tripod with me through the city. And if there’s a real crowd, you’ll just get a blurred people colored scene. + +*You could also visit these places at night, but I would argue against it unless you bring someone with you. There are some unfriendly characters that wander cities at night and police might also question you. + + +Have fun! Play in the rain!",0 +6791,"Imagine if Nikon or Fuji dropped a modern film camera. The film industry is taking off. Film prices are through the roof, there’s a shortage of labs, and the demand is as high as it’s been in the last 10 years. + +I think the R&D would be semi softly for Nikon, more so for Fuji. If Nikon were to take some of the F6 technology and apply it to be compatible with Z mount lenses, people would buy it right up. It would be revolutionary. Imagine it, people all over the world having access to film technology with modern lenses and camera algorithms. + +Just an idea, might send a letter to Nikon, might not. + + +EDIT: scratch that. Wouldn’t work. My shower thoughts never turn out the way I want lol. + +2nd idea is that someone (not Leica, too expensive) makes a fully mechanical, m42 mount 35mm camera. If someone knows of a brand that does this, hmu. Otherwise I think it would be pretty neat, as most “reusable” film cameras today are no better than a pinhole with a magnifying glass.",0 +6792,"Anyone else enjoying Vero at the moment?. I noticed after Peter Mckinnon's video about instagram being dead photography wise, whole bunch of people have jumped on Vero to give it a shot, myself included. I'm barely a photographer, but am def enjoying the platform more than instagram, for posting photos. + +One of the key things that bothers me about instagram is that there seems to be a weird taboo against clicking on someone's profile and going back and liking a whole bunch of their photos. That taboo doesn't feel like exists on Vero, and it definitely shouldn't exist on a photography focused platform. + +It's also really nice knowing that when I post a photo, the people following me will *actually* see it if they log in that day and scroll, since the feed is just chronological, no algorithm whatsoever. + +I struggle a lot with scrolling addiction, so it's also really nice knowing that I can just open the app and instantly know if anything new has been posted by the people I follow, because that new stuff is always at the top, and I can just scroll until I hit something I've already seen — rather being shown random memes and videos and content I'm barely into but that's just interesting enough for me to keep scrolling.",0 +6793,"Photographing child in swimsuit. Hi all, + +I'm a part time pro wedding photographer who also occasionally does family/portrait work, and have done for the past decade. + +Today I had a slightly unusual request from a prospective client who wanted portrait photos of her daughter (12) with her collection of swimming medals, but also while wearing her swim suit. + +It's not something I've done before and although I would make sure a parent would be there at all times, I'm not sure how I would feel about it. + +I'm not crb checked as I've never needed to be so. + +Any ideas or opinions on how would you feel, given such a client request?",0 +6794,How to find the motivation to shoot in the cold?. I know there's always snowy landscapes and cozy street shots but when the cold rolls around it's just so unpleasant to be outside. I love waking up at 5am in the summer when the weather is beautiful and not too hot yet and there's a lovely summer breeze. Heaven. Flash forward to now and it's so cold it hurts to breathe. How do you guys navigate the cold? Does it change the way you shoot? What do you do for personal projects in the cold vs the warmer months?,0 +6795,"Am I in the right to issue a chargeback for cancelled shoot?. I've never had professional photos done so I'm not sure how the industry works. I'd like to know all of your thoughts as professionals: + +My girlfriend and I scheduled to have a photographer take pictures of us as part of a mini photo shoot. It was only 40 dollars for 15 minutes due to some kind of promotion. I've already paid the money as a ""retainer fee"". The photos were originally scheduled for today at a public park between all of us. + +Yesterday, we get a message from the photographer saying that she wants to cancel because the forecast says it's going to rain. We ask if we can proceed in the rain or switch to take pictures indoors. The photographer says cannot take shots in the rain because of her equipment. That's ok with me because I understand the equipment is very expensive. She also says she would have to charge more for studio shots if we wanted to do it indoors. I don't understand this response but I drop the idea. The photographer tells us that she won't refund the retainer fee but we can use the money we paid to go towards a rescheduled photoshoot. We don't want to reschedule simply because its a huge hassle for us. + +Anyway, today is now here and the rain is nowhere to be seen. In fact, the sun is out right now. The contract we signed says that the retainer fee is non-refundable, but I'm on the verge of issuing a chargeback because she isn't available for the original time I paid for, so it's not really a retainer fee. + +I'm a bit of a social shut in, so I don't know what is normal for this kind of situation. Is it wrong for me to get a refund? Looking around, I understand that the price we're paying for this is very very low, but it's still $40 that I would like to have back if she isn't doing anything. I also didn't negotiate this-- her price was her own advertised sale price. There is nothing in the contract about rain. + +TLDR: Photographer cancels due to rain in forecast. Day comes, no rain. Should I issue a chargeback? + +​ + +Edit: + +I read the majority of these responses. Thank you for your input. I feel like people have this idea that the photographer and I are in a massive conflict over $40 bucks, but it's not that way at all. The photographer's work is good and I have no reason to be nasty to them. The conversations between us have been polite. This is just an unfortunate set of circumstances where a good day isn't being used because of the forecasted weather. The photographer isn't willing to issue a refund, but I don't want to pay if no work has been done. That's it. We have no reason to hate each other over $40. + +For those of you who must know... We aren't able to reschedule due to our child and work schedules. My girlfriend works really long hours on variable days and I'm also on call, so it's hard for us to figure out a block of time we can get together and look nice. ",0 +6796,"Anyone else struggle with sharing images to.. just about anyone?. Hi + +does anyone else have this issue of loving photography and never sharing the images? I've been doing a lot of photography for almost 10 years, but I still have huge issues of sharing my images. Even those I take of my friends and family. I always have a camera at hand and I strive for the best quality no matter the situation, but noone ever sees those photos. I also happen to love editing the photos to the fullest. I can basically keep polishing a turd until it looks good for hours, but all it will end up as is an image next to the other thousands of images that just sit in my lightroom collection. It's like photographing with your phone - you never actually go back to those photos. They just sit there like they're in limbo. An endless limbo. Sharing photos is just so.. boring? Time-consuming? I don't really even know. + + +Anyone else have this issue? 60 000 dslr photos just sitting there. Waiting. Forever...",0 +6797,The best article I found to learn photography basis.. ,0 +6798,"Is it ever in bad taste to photograph certain things?. Basically title, I’ve been thinking about this for a while. The picture that comes to mind is “the most beautiful suicide,” like was it not in bad taste for this guy to just walk up and start taking pictures of this woman who just took her life for a good shot? Or would it be seen as him just documenting the harsh reality of life?",0 +6799,"What is are your worst habits in photography and how do you try to overcome them?. Mine is taking lots of quick low effort snapshots (or lens tests) and thinking they might look better when i come to edit them or i can fix them up in post. This leaves an unsatisfied feeling. + +To over come this i try to slow down, feel the shot and ""work it"" if i feel there is something there.",0 +6800,"The one that got away: what’s the best photo that you didn’t take?. I’m leaving for the hospital in a few hours where my wife will be having our twins (kiddos #3 & #4… send help) and it has me thinking about my most regretted missed opportunity. + +My story:: + +When my wife was in labor with our last kid, she had agonizing back labor. After a night of pain, the time was coming closer and the sun was just rising outside of our large, eastward-facing hospital window. My chair was under the window, facing into the room. My camera sat beside me. A few yards in front of me, my wife was on the bed, on all fours, in her hospital gown, head hanging down, eyes closed, weathering the pain. + +The horizontal blinds were down, but the slats were open, projecting horizontal lines across my wife on the bed. There was a dim light on above the bed that would give me just enough fill. It was perfect. + +Then my subject… my beautiful wife, enduring immense pain in the truest, most literal, labor of love. Her hospital gown draped down, but not immodestly so. It almost felt tattered, as if to reflect her battle of willpower against nature and biology. The awesome pain coupled with bringing life into this world. + +Everything about it was perfect. Minus the fact that this was as private moment as one can have. She wasn’t expecting her photo to be taken. It felt like it would be a violation to take that moment. And given the circumstances, if she heard my shutter click, she would’ve probably stabbed me in both of my eyes and I couldn’t have faulted her for it. So I just sat there and took it in. + +This time around though, I told her I won’t pass up another opportunity like that. And I’ve made it clear that as a trade-off, she has 100% authority to delete any/every photo that I take. + +That was far more long-winded than intended, but hit me with yours. What was the one that got away?",0 +6801,"With the tech of modern phones what are your thoughts on dedicated cameras. I bought a Sony a6400 a couple of years ago with a nice lens. Spent ages looking forward to it, and honestly, it’s great. It takes great photos and video. + +There’s no doubt that if you want to take the best quality photos or video, perhaps for your work, you need to get equipment dedicated to it. Probably something much nicer and expensive than what I have, mind you. + +But, I’m not a professional. I take photos when I travel and video journal for another hobby / kids and upload to Facebook sometimes. + +I find myself questioning wether there’s even a reason to lug around a dedicated camera with a bulky lens for people who are not using it professionally. + +My iPhone takes fantastic, vibrant photos with convenient features and fits in my pocket and the detail loss is barely visible on social media platforms like Facebook and definitely not noticeable on Instagram. + +Moreover phones and even action cams to some degree are much more discreet, I don’t do street photography but whenever I see somebody doing it it certainly makes me feel self-conscious. + +So what say you? Due to the quality of mobile devices nowadays, have dedicated cameras and DSLRs become pointless for the average user that just wants to do general photography? + +Edit: Thanks to everybody who replied. My bad, I didn’t realize this question is asked a lot. Even with all the mobile tech it seems DSLRs really do have their uses even for non professions. Personally I don’t think I could enjoy taking travel photos without having a proper zoom lens, so that’s me decided.",0 +6802,Do you guys keep your lens caps on when your lens/es are in your bag?. ,0 +6803,"Do you gladly disclose the location of your photos if asked or do you keep it to yourself?. I'm a hobbyist landscape/woodland photographer, and I mostly shoot in a less popular part in my country. Sometimes I post my photos in a hiking or mountain biking related fb group (because I took them during hiking or mountain biking), and in the past, when I had been asked where my photo was taken, I gladly provided the location. I didn't see any reason as to why not, quite the contrary, I felt that it made me happy that I can help others to see the beauty of this less popular place. + +But then covid came, and a lot of people went out into nature because there were less things to do at home and in cities. Small villages near cities saw a lot of people rushing in during the weekends. But with people, litter also came. I started to see litter at places where I have never seen before. I realized that as the popularity of a location increases the chances for incidents are also increasing, and that might pressure the authorities to do something about it, and that something might be just simply denying access, because it's easy and cheap. I also realized that I really like hiking/photographing when noone is around, the feeling of being alone in nature, being one with nature, as cheesy as it sounds, is really great. + +So now my mindset has shifted, and I think that the less people know about a location, the better. I do realize though, that it is somewhat of a hipocrisy, because I do like to travel to somewhere else to see the nature there, so I'm doing what I don't want others to do. On the other hand, we have already seen that some very popular locations in the world had to put limits on the number of visitors because of the negative impacts. At the end of the day, there is no way that one location can be visited by everybody on earth without that location suffering, so it's impossible to provide a chance for everyone to see it. I don't know what's a good answer for it, but I fear that nature is shrinking year by year, and that just aggravates this problem.",0 +6804,"How to find inspiration to shoot in small boring town?. I live in a small town in the interior of the country, this city looks dead and have no personality, architecture is poor, its in the middle of nowhere in an endless flat terrain, no rivers, no nothing... What can I do to take nice pics?",0 +6805,"If you couldn't show or share your photographs with anyone again, would you still be a photographer?. ​ + +Just a general question I was thinking about.. + +If you couldn't share your work anywhere (No Instagram, No Facebook, No showing friends, No selling prints) or with anyone and you were the only person who'd see your photographs, would you still take photographs? Would you still be interested in pursuing photography? + +I understand its very different for actual pro photographers who pay rent with their photographs, so I guess this wouldn't apply to those who identify as a pro working photog. + +​ + +I'm asking because before 2019, I was extremely used to being pretty popular on social media. I'm talking 2k-3k+ likes per photo, 100+ comments, consistently. Even if I posted 5 photos in a row, they'd all do extremely well. But the issue was I found myself going out to photograph things I thought would do well on social media vs photographing things I really felt like photographing. For example, my nudework and sunset photos were extremely popular and I'd always have the idea of how it'd be received in the back of my head. Due to alcoholism and other life issues, I started posting significantly less frequently to the point where i'd go 2-3 weeks without sharing anything and it became very consistent. Now, I don't get the same numbers (think less than 100 likes and 1-2 comments, if any) and find myself not taking my camera out with me as much as I did before. I find myself significantly less hungry for ""the shot"" than how I used to be years ago. + +​ + +I remember around the time I realized that I was too attached to how my photos were received via social media and I actively tried to force myself out of that perspective. Trying to give alot less credence to social media responses to my photos. But I feel like... One of the biggest reasons I got into photography was that I was a very lonely/depressed person and heavily enjoyed the amount of attention/love I would get from my photos when I started shooting.",0 +6806,"How viable is a career in photography?. So, to start, I'm currently in middle school, so I'm still pretty young, but university is looming right around the corner and I think I'm in the stage where I'm trying to figure out what I want to do in life. I'm extremely fortunate to come from a well-off family, and my dad's a doctor. As your standard asian parents, they're pushing me to also pursue a career in medicine or some other life science due to the financial stability it offers. However, I picked up photography about a year ago, and since then, I've been hooked. All my money from my job is going towards improving my gear and setup, and I try to go out and shoot as much as possible. I'm also passionate about videography and filmmaking. + +I'd love to get some advice from those who have made it in this industry, or even those that didn't and learned some valuable lessons. How competitive is it? Is the market oversaturated? The majority of photographers I know are wedding photographers, which makes me think that is the only really financially viable route in photography. Is this true? I've been watching YouTubers like Pierre T. Lambert, Peter McKinnon, and some other travel photographers, and their lifestyle seems like my dream, even though I know that what they show on youtube isn't nearly representative of all the struggles that go on behind the scenes. The problem is, I don't even know where to start when it comes to trying to figure out how to find a foothold in the photography business as a whole, if it's even a valid career path at all, so I'd love to see how some of you experienced guys have done it. + +Thanks. + +Edit: Wow, I definitely didn't expect this post to gain as much attention as it did. I really do appreciate the time you guys have taken to offer me advice. Going forward, I think I might focus on medicine, since I am interested in it and for the financial stability. Photography/videography will always be there for me, whether as a hobby or a possible career path down the line, but right now I have an opportunity to get a great education that I might not get again. Who knows, though? I'm still young and I've got a solid decade of school/university ahead of me if I study medicine, plenty of time for me to really get a better idea of what I want to do. I've been offered a small gig by my school to run a photobooth at a social, so that might give me a look into what professional photography is like. Thanks again for all your advice!",0 +6807,"My mom is addicted to taking photos. So this is something I have never seen anyone talk about before. + +My mom is addicted to taking photos. She lives through photos and taking them. She takes pictures of everything, birds, a selfie, going to a restaurant, her dog, things at the store, and even the tv. And it’s not just one picture, it’s multiple. And if the picture is of people, this photo will be “perfected”, no matter how many photos this takes. On Christmas Eve last year for a family photo it took from 1 am to 3am to get the “perfect” picture. I was annoyed as hell. + +This may sound maybe just a little annoying and not a big deal, but I think my mom does this to cope. I have a sibling with a terminal illness, and my theory is she wants as many pictures as possible when they’re gone. The problem with this is she is absolutely not living in the moment of any situation. It’s almost like a way of dissociation for her, for her not to be in reality. But it’s become such a problem in life with her that I truly cannot stand it. + +It’s affected me in weird ways that I honestly feel guilty about because at the end of the day, it’s just pictures right? Sometimes I absolutely blow up on her, when the perfect picture isn’t perfect yet and I’m standing in the snow for 45 minutes straight. I freak out and reach a point where I yell or leave and get upset and then feel bad because I know she just wants a picture. But it’s also caused severe body dismorphia in me, I don’t think it’s the only cause but it elevated it so much. No matter where I went, i needed to look picture perfect. And as I grew up, and moved away, and didn’t focus on my looks as much anymore, any pictures of me would drive me absolutely crazy and I would be so insecure. + +I don’t know how she is supposed to let go of needed to capture every moment perfectly and instead just be here, now.",0 +6808,"Photographing alone?. The main thing keeping me from doing more photography is safety (i.e. getting my camera jacked). I want to go to all these places to take pictures, but I usually have to ask a friend at least a week in advance if they're willing to come with me to act as a guard or an extra pair of eyes. This prevents me from traveling alone to shoot pictures because...I just don't want to get jacked. Am I the only one here or am I being too paranoid?",0 +6809,"How do you carry a DSLR, or mirrorless?. No strap, neck strap, wrist strap, hand strap? What is most secure and comfortable? I use a neck strap and it isn’t comfortable.",0 +6810,"Discussion: what piece of kit do you regret buying?. We all like to gush about our purchases, but I'm sure many of us have bought some real stinkers in the past, right?",0 +6811,"Is it possibility to completely learn photo editing just from YouTube?. I’ve been watching YouTube Lightroom tutorials/tips videos for the past few weeks. It’s been good, but I do feel that the information is all over the place and you have to track it down from different teachers. So you’re jumping from teacher to teacher, video to video, subject to subject, and essentially hoping that the path that you’re taking is in the right order of lessons that you should be learning. + +I’m wondering, are paid courses THAT much better? Obviously the format is going to be more streamlined A to Z, which will be helpful, but what other benefits over YouTube do they have? Many people on this subreddit always say “everything you need to know is free on YouTube”. How much truth to this is there? + + +Have you ever paid for a course? Would you recommend? + + +Has anyone here learned 100% off of YouTube alone? + + +Should I just save a few hundred and keep watching the YouTube tutorials? As unorganized as a learning process it is, I of course have no doubt that I’ll learn it eventually if I keep at it. + +Advise.",0 +6812,"Did my first farmers market. Sold my first prints at a farmers market! 8×10's for 35, and 11×17 for +45. I sold one big one at the very last minute. Farmers market was slow due to wind and cold. I need advice on a good setup, I know mine is obviously trash (it was very last minute). My set up was just a binder with the 8x10’s in sleeve protectors. The larger ones were gonna be out on the table but the wind was too strong so I just left them in the bag, and pulled them out for people when needed. I’m thinking I’ll get frames and have a few out displaying my work. Then I could have some pics spread out on the table. Still super exciting to sell even one print!",0 +6813,Sony a7R V announced - $3899. ,0 +6814,"Worst Indeed Photography job postings you have ever seen?. The nerve that some of these companies have to try and hire independent contractors for $15/hour is wild to me. A retail clothing store near me recently posted a photography job for an ""intern"" at minimum wage. What the heck is an intern at a retail store? I'm inspired by another Indeed-related post on r/photography right now- what is the worst/ most exploitative/ red-flag-ridden photography job posting you have come across?",0 +6815,"To Viewfinder or Not To Viewfinder. I’m noticing a switch in photography where people shoot through the live view a whole lot more than the viewfinder themselves. I’ve even seen people shoot portraits using the live view, how do you guys shoot? I’m a stickler for tradition when it comes to photography so 95% of what I shoot is through the viewfinder. I use the live view when I get way down low and using the viewfinder would be physically impossible. + +Any reason why people would forego using the viewfinder?",0 +6816,"How do you handle requests to share your work in offices, restaurants, etc.?. From time to time I get a request or an offer to share some of my photography in restaurants, medical offices, and local shops that are not photography based. The first time I was flattered and I took them up on the offer, (this was a restaurant and I'm fine with that), the other times I have declined. I declined because I feel that for the most part, they are just wanted FREE work to display to cover their walls and I did not want to go to the time and expense of selection, printing and framing. I was actually a little miffed at the last request, a dentist office, that was just newly built. I thought to myself, if they really like my work that well, they could purchase a few prints instead of asking me to donate. Am I wrong in feeling a bit resentful that do not offer to pay me, especially the dentist office? No doubt, their thinking is it's free exposure for me, but I do not see that helping me at that kind of business. So I ask you my fellow photographers, how do you feel about requests like this? + +Thanks for sharing your thoughts!",0 +6817,"Would you ask to be paid for a photo shoot that was 'rejected' by the client?. Hi photographers, I have been shooting photos for 6 years now, since the age of 16. Over the past 18 months I've been able to pick up clients, shooting product range portfolios. + +So I have been working with a guy who wants a range of product and lifestyle photos. He gave me some products to trial some photos with. I sent him a series of photos, about 12 in total, with a variety of techniques, adereing to the brief he had given me. + +After several back and forth emails, he has decided that he is unsatisfied and has suggested that 'we draw a line here'. + +I have asked that he pays me for half a day's rate to compensate for the materials and time that I've invested into the project. However he has not replied.. + +Do you think this is fair? What would you do in this situation? + +Sorry if not allowed, but wondered how a more experienced photographer would deal with this..",0 +6818,"Do you necessarily need professional gear to make photography into your fulltime job?. Basically what the title says.. + +I'm not gonna say anything else cos I got attacked in another subreddit for saying my budget was 700 euro in total (around 500 or a bit higher for a camera and around 200 for lenses). And said I want to make photography my career but am still a ''student'' (not officially, yet) or rather amateur but have been shooting with my Canon EOS 700D and have taken some really great pics with it, with the kit lens. Now I never said I don't want to upgrade my gear whenver I have the money for it but I am literally a broke student who can't afford stuff like this yet, I don't even have experience with shooting people yet - only architecure and landscapes, etc.. + +Another 2 dudes claimed you can't transfer RAW images trough WIFI even though Nikon can, and I think there were ways for Canon and Sony (and other brands) as well.. + +Opinions? + +Edit: To clear things up, I’m not trying to shit on people who have expensive gear, I just find it unfair for professional photographers to shit on students who are broke and can’t afford their expensive gear yet. + +Also - I am mainly willing to shoot portraits (people in general not necessarily only portraits) architecture and product. I don’t think I need the most expensive gear for that, and it’s not even realistic for me to buy the most expensive gear atm. I do think it would help me a lot, it’s just not realistic for me and I don’t necessarily need it either. I also think that experience and skill are way more important than gear, I was just curious.",0 +6819,"Is it just me, or..?. Hi guys, I have this interesting thought. I have been photographing as amateur for more than 10 year now. Whenever I go through my older photos and remind myself the places and story behind, I feel that what makes the best pictures isn't the location, light, knowledge or equipment, it feels to me that it is the mood (= how I felt at the time) what matters the most. + +It is quite incredible, because some of my very old pictures are really good even by my today's standard. In past I often took pictures in awkward locations and in not so ideal light, but still when I felt good, when there was something special about the moment, the results were always much better than average. + +It also works the other way. Sometimes I felt down, depressed, unhappy, while being in a very attractive and photogenic locations. Then my photos were usually average even despite being at great location and time. + +This phenomenon seems to affect my job as well a bit (software developer), however it is most obvious to me in my photos. + +Does it work the same way for you too?",0 +6820,"What’s the best technique for switching lenses in the field?. In the 12+ years I’ve been using interchangeable lens cameras, I don’t think I’ve ever switched lenses in the field without it feeling like a very fragile and awkward dance. + +My technique, if you could call it that, is the following: + +1. Have the body on a neck strap +2. Half twist off the attached lens +3. Pick up the new lens and take off the back cap, holding it between my fingers or somewhere else close +4. In one motion, twist off the attached lens with one hand then twist on the new lens +5. Attach the back cap to the old lens and put away + +This works fine, but it’s a delicate process to avoid dropping either lens or getting dust anywhere it shouldn’t be. + +Anyone have tips or tricks to make field switching lenses feel better, or is it just forever doomed to be a bit awkward?",0 +6821,"After a recent photo trip, I’m struggling with the volume of photos I brought home. Looking for thoughts on post-shoot workflows for personal photos.. I’ve been taking pictures for a little over a year, and I should first clarify that I’m not shooting for clients. These photos are for me, but I do like to blog and share what I see with friends, family and the Internet. + +Up until now I’ve always managed to stay on top of my backlog of photos: selecting/rating/post-processing, and eventually posting. + +I recently went on a long road trip (33 days, 7,500 miles) and came home with ~15,000 photos after visiting many national parks and driving the entire Pacific Coast Highway. + +The thing I’m struggling with is the sheer volume of it all, and while I’d usually just work through a whole shoot in a few post-processing sessions, I’m getting overwhelmed by the sheer volume of photos this time around because I couldn’t keep up with it while I was on the road. + +I’m scared to death about accidentally passing over good shots, but if I go through them all as meticulously as I usually do, it’s gonna take me forever to get through them. + +Has anyone experienced something similar? I feel like I need to adjust how I’m approaching this, but I’m not entirely sure what that looks like yet. + +I’m hoping to spend a lot more time traveling in the coming year, so this will be a continuing challenge. + +It’s a great problem to have - so many beautiful places to remember - but I don’t want this to start feeling like a chore. + +Thoughts? + +**Edit:** Many thanks for all of the thoughts so far. I should also add that I’m currently using Lightroom Cloud on a Mac. When I started shooting, this was sufficient, but many of the ideas here are making me realize that I might need more flexibility than the Cloud version currently offers. + +**Edit 2:** Thank you all so much for the useful and practical advice. I think my biggest takeaways here are: + +1. I need to stop putting unnecessary pressure on myself and just take the time +2. I need to separate culling from editing +3. I’m definitely checking out Photo Mechanic +4. I’ve been considering a switch from LR cloud to Classic for awhile and this thread has pretty much solidified that decision in my head +5. Love all of the practical tips re: different ways to use 1-5 and tags, bulk edits, etc. +6. Open a bottle of wine ;) + +I’ll share some shots soon!",0 +6822,"Are super intricate composition grids overrated, or am I just dumb?. I've seen people talk about the Fibonacci spiral, the phi grid, dynamic symmetry, higher order harmonies and so on, but to me it sort of just ends up looking like the Rule of Thirds with extra steps, and it seems much less intuitive to shoot for by eye. + +I'm pretty new at photography so there's a good chance I'm missing something, and I don't mean to be dismissive - if people find this stuff genuinely useful in their work I'd be interested to hear how it works for you!",0 +6823,"A Model I Took Photos Of Wants To Sell Prints - What's The Standard Approach?. Pretty much what the title says. Last year I took some photos of a cosplayer and this year they are getting a booth at a con, and they want to sell prints. They don't many photos of their own and want to use some of the ones I took of them to sell prints in return for a portion of the sales. + +So what's the standard boilerplate thing for this? Does anyone have any boilerplate contracts you'd recommend? I'm thinking I'd probably just release the files to them so they can make their own prints and just have it in contract that I get I don't know like 10% of the sales? I super don't know what the standard thing here is and I don't want to under-value or over-value my work here. + +Any links to standard boilerplate contracts would be great as well! Thanks!",0 +6824,"Wondering how to make Money as an independent photographer. Hello I am a highschool senior and I have been in a tech school for 3 years now learning how to edit photos and videos. I have a few small projects and have done some videos for local businesses. I specialize in macro photography and landscapes with a fantasy/post apocalyptic style trying to highlight the beauty of nature and the havoc humans can have on the natural world if left unchecked. My videos have been progressively been getting more and more ambitious as the years progress and my skills get better. recently u have started working with VFX and a few other post effects. + + +But as most of y'all know $$$$ is a real struggle for independent artists starting out. and I don't really know how I'm going to pay for collage or how to repair my car that's slowly falling apart. I have a part time job at Wendy's but Im only making 12.50/hr and I just had my inspection that cost me around 1k for all the repairs. So I was wondering if anyone on here knew any ways to get more into the film industry and make some cash as well. + + +TLDR: Broke highschool senior looking how to get their feet wet in the film industry to finance collage. + + + +Full experience, Working as a prop and location scout since I was 5, been an actor in an S&T bank commercial when I was 6, helped location scout for an indie film when I was 7, been doing some small projects here and there since I was 8 untill now. I have a certification in photoshop, Premiere, and am working on my After Effects certification right now.",0 +6825,"How did you learn?. I’m curious to know people’s stories, which is a major reason I’m interested in photography. + +How did you learn Photography? Did you have a mentor? Trial and error? YouTube? A book? +What about Lightroom/Photoshop (or any other editing program)? +How long did it take? Where do you seek out new skills? + +Edit - typo.",0 +6826,"40mm in movies is ""20mm"" in photography NOT 40mm. I've been wanting to talk about this for a while and now that there is yet another post about ""Why 40mm is popular in movies, but not in photography"" I think the time is right to end this misconception once and for all. + +Everybody at least once heard/read about how 40mm is popular in movies and how it is close to what our eyes can see, that Wes Anderson only shoots 40mm, and so on. + +Yet how come 40mm isn't as popular in photography? + +The reason is... 40mm in movies ISN'T 40mm in photography(ff). + +40mm in movies is indeed popular, but... + +It's 40mm anamorphic that is popular in movies, not 40mm spherical. + +A 40mm anamorphic lens produces a squeezed image on the sensor. Once the image is unsqueezed to the actual 21:9 aspect ratio of the lens, the horizontal field of view is equivalent to that of a 20mm rectilinear lens on a ff camera. + +The look of 20ishmm with some barrel distortion is popular in movies due to the exaggerated proportions helping to make the scene more tridimentional. 2 of the biggest examples is Roman Polanski that used only 18mm and 25mm spherical to shoot Rosemary's Baby, which is why Wes Anderson uses a 40mm anamorphic so much (as he is a fan of Roman Polansky work). + +So that's it... Comparing 40mm in movies to 40mm in photography isn't a 1:1 comparison. Things get even more complicated when you factor in if the 21:9 ratio was cropped into a tighter aspect ratio, or if the movie was shoot in super 35 in which the horizontal FoV would be 30mm. + +Edit. Removed repeated word and replaced retilinear with spherical ",0 +6827,"What's the shameless you've ever been to get a shot. I used to be a photojournalist and got used to access to things. No longer in the field I still find myself trying clever ways to get a bit closer for a shot. Does anyone else do this? Sometimes I feel bad but I try not to overdo it, I can get caught up though occasionally.",0 +6828,"What’s your opinion on metal prints?. I recently went to a Peter Lik gallery for the first time and was blown away by the prints. I did some Googling and found an article about how he uses metal prints for his work. + +I was curious about the reality of using a similar medium to print on since all the info I could find was marketing information so it was obviously only positive. + +Edit: metallic prints not metal. But I’m now interested in both",0 +6829,"How do you guys afford latest cameras/lenses?. Just got curious as to how do you guys manage or afford to buy latest cameras and lenses given that some of the cameras and lenses are super expensive. + +Do you save for a few months for that. Do you take up side projects and make money to upgrade your gear. Or do you just buy them from the savings you already have?",0 +6830,"Boudoir Photography: Does anyone else find some Facebook boudoir groups for photographers trying to get into the field a bit sketchy?. I'm part of two boudoir photography groups. Not really sure if I should give out the names. One of them is actually pretty good just not a lot of engagement. The other one I'm in however comes off really sketchy. There's some good stuff in it too but there's a lot of shilling for the courses the photographer sells (Which are essentially just several PDF's priced for hundreds of dollars.) A lot of people post about how much money they make and practically swear on their graves that the photographers courses helped them make all the money. + +Edit: I’m specifically talking about Facebook groups trying to sell courses for ridiculously high prices rather than the industry and photographers. Boudoir photography can attract creepy men but I wouldn’t use that to dismiss the whole industry as I feel like their are lot of reputable women and men in the field as well.",0 +6831,"Fellow landscape photographers, how do you scout for locations without physically being there?. EDIT: Apparently one of mods decided to permanently ban me after the automod removed my post so I can't reply back. Thank for the help! + +Hola, + +At home I have the luxury of time. I can go to the same location multiple times and see something different. + +When I travel abroad, I don't really know what to look for, nor do I have the time go to the same place twice. I often google the top photography spots in the place that I'm traveling to, but to me it feels like I'm taking the same shot thousands of others have taken. + +Finding new locations is the part of photography that I feel that I should greatly improve upon.",0 +6832,"Do you feel the increase demand for video is going to overshadow photography?. As social media platforms are pushing videos due to increased consumer engagement, I wondered if anyone has noticed an increase in clients asking for video work? + +I remember back when Instagram was just flooded with travel photos and selfies, but now all I seem to come across are videos and TikToks. + +Has this change had a knock on impact for anyone?",0 +6833,"Losing passion for photography even as I still like it a lot. Hi Everyone. + +I started taking photos in 2016 and got my first mirrorless camera in 2017 and started taking a bunch of pictures. I naturally do not have a specific genre that I am into as I usually just take what I find interesting. however, I am usually trigger happy and it usually ends up with me having a lot of raw files that I would have to end up looking through and post process, which usually ends with me burning out, as I am not decisive in trimming my collection of photos to post process so I usually end up post processing everything. + +In addition, I feel that I am pretty basic when it comes to taking photos, and I would like to get out and explore things like taking a Timelapse, Nigh Photography and how to capture reflections nicely. I still suck at post processing so yeah sometimes my photos come out weird. + +Honestly, I would appreciate any advice when it comes to regaining my passion for photography (Peter McKinnon definitely helps to a certain extent). Where can I find resources to better myself and to improve my whole perspective and practise to taking photos? I would like to start an insta account to post what I take, but I feel that I do not really feel confident enough of my work. + +Anyways, thank you for your time in reading the post and I appreciate anything that comes my way.",0 +6834,"How do you deal with not having someone to talk to about your photography consistently?. Now, I know that we can all go to a discord server, a subreddit, find some sort of club. + +However, there are some of us out there which do not really have people to talk to about our hobbies. Simply because of our nature. As someone who is more reserved I find it hard to go out of my way to look for people at a similar skill level, a similar interest combination, etc. + +What helped you to get over this situation? How did you choose to ""solve"" it? + +This is for both in-person, and online situations. + +Side Note: (If you're a complete beginner like me, feel free to message me, maybe we could be friends) + +:)",0 +6835,"Famous photographers and their preferred focal lengths?. I'm a huge fan fan of the 35mm field of view in full frame cameras. Some masters who used this field of view includes Alex Webb, Bill Cunningham, David Alan Harvey, Abbas. + +Of course, HCB preferred the 50mm. + +Anyone else?",0 +6836,"We Are Lensrentals.com Ask Us Anything! (x-posted from r/IAmA). We're answering questions over on r/IAmA NOW! Come stop by and ask any questions youve been dying to get answered! + +[https://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/vd0k7p/we\_are\_lensrentalscom\_ask\_us\_anything/](https://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/vd0k7p/we_are_lensrentalscom_ask_us_anything/)",0 +6837,"Is there a technical reason 40mm seems to be unpopular?. With 40mm being fairly close to being normal on film, I get why it's a popular choice for cinematic work next to 50mm. + +But in photography, it's usually 35mm or 50mm and coming from videography, I'm just not deep enough into the technical history of photography to know wether old film segment ratios might have been different, normalizing something other than 40mm for stills. + +So... why is 40mm not the go-to focal length for stills it is for movies? Is there a historical background?",0 +6838,"Question—for every shot you take that ends up being worth sharing, how many shots get thrown out?. A fun question here. I asked a similar question to a professional musician about working in a recording studio; his answer was that every minute of music recorded would usually take at least 2-3 hours of recording sessions, not including post-edits.",0 +6839,"Anybody shoot for a loss intentionally?. I guess for those who don't rely on the income from shooting, what's the most you've spent to take an unpaid shot? + +I'm spending around 600 for an upcoming shoot and trying to relay to wife, that it's worth it to create my vision. She doesn't really get it but thankfully doesn't seem to care. + +I get these concepts for shots that ""this needs to be a thing"" lol. Getting paid for portrait work is cool but doing it for the art of it engages me. Anybody else? + +For those curious on costs: MUA, hair, furniture rentals, additional modifier, and scenery pieces.",0 +6840,"Wedding clients want to change booking. Last year I booked a quick 4hr wedding that’s coming up this summer. Contract was signed and deposit paid. Today I get an email informing me that they want to change from the 4hr package to the 10hr package. If that’s what they wanted in the first place, I probably wouldn’t have booked the wedding. I’m thinking of giving them the option to book an additional photographer after our time runs out, or they can go with a different photographer all together, but the deposit will not be returned. (It states in my contract that if the couple decide to hire someone else after signing the deposit won’t be returned.) I’ve never had to deal with this situation before so I’m not sure if this is the correct approach. Keep in mind, Ive been a photographer for more than 20 years, but I only shoot weddings part time for some extra cash. Any advice would be great.",0 +6841,"Massive opportunity to work with a famous photographer. I'm wondering if anyone could offer me advice on this or has been in a similar situation. I'm going to keep it vague because I don't want to reveal any identities but I have an incredible opportunity to be the assistant of a famous photographer in my home state. + +I had connected with him through Facebook a while ago and ran into him in person for the first time 2 weeks ago during low tides. On Saturday he invited me to help cover an event for a reporter friend of his who had to have emergency surgery and couldn't cover the event. I got incredible experience and he said he wants me to help him with events like that in the future and they will most likely be paying $500 or more per event. + +He implied that if things go well the next few times I help him out that I may be able to cover Pearl Jam with him in a few months. I've got good photography equipment and my father was in film and video productions and my grandfather was also a talented photographer so I've learned quite a bit. I just want to make sure I don't come on too strong but so far I'm taking his direction and I got the photos that he wanted and then some. He was very happy with my work. + +Not fully sure what I did exactly for him to take an interest in me but I'm very excited that he did",0 +6842,"Discussion: Would you consider screenshots from a video as photography? Not that deep, just curious what people have to say.. I love recording videos on my iPhone 13 Pro, and recently have gotten into recording concerts for fun. I’m usually at the rails up front and record 4K 60FPS. I do 60FPS for the fact that I can pause the video at almost any moment and get a clean image that’s not blurry, and I’ll screenshot amazing stills. I’ll sometimes edit the photos on Pixlr, so saturation, color, etc. Would you consider these screenshots of bands or people from a video as photography? Thanks for reading.",0 +6843,"Photography budget hacks/tricks. I see people doing stuff like using stockings over lenses, crinkly cellophane over lights, and using old baking pans as backgrounds for products as cool effects when taking photos. I've also seen people use shower curtains to diffuse light instead of a softbox and I've seen it work really well. + +I feel like there can be such a focus on gear that people forget some things you can do for basically free that really up your game. Photography is art and it doesn't have to be all high end products all the time, sometimes we can do similar effects for like five bucks and it works just as well. It's not much, but sometimes I'll hold up some leaves or flowers or something in the corner of the lens so it's blurred out but looks like a pretty, blurry effect. + +What's something you do that's maybe not pretty or polished, but it works?",0 +6844,"What's the best way to mark your photos so that people won't steal them?. I know that you can do tile watermarks. But that really taints the photograph. And if you just do one in the corner, people can remove it or crop it out. I'm an amateur photographer who's trying to start my business, and I just want to know how to protect my work.",0 +6845,"What was your biggest loss of photos due to an error/not backing up or incident?. Mine was about 40 countries (I had some good photos like a selfie with a great white, and another with a gorilla). Happen because I crashed 2 hard drives in a row, I had a panic attack for like a year. Now I am chilled about it though. I just had a hard drive crash now and am backing up the back up so thought I would ask this on reddit.",0 +6846,"Should an Amateur have a Portfolio?. Just what the Title says. Should i, an amateur photographer and videographer have a portfolio? I've done videography for 5 years now (16) and had two paid shoots, but i don't think my work is good enough for a portfolio. Same with photography except i only have 1 Year of experience. I want to get some opportunities for shooting because i am confident in my abilities as a filmmaker and i believe i could make something very good. I would also like to take pictures for free to build out my portfolio.",0 +6847,"TW: Self Harm - Should scars be removed in post?. If this is inappropriate to ask here, please let me know. I also am under the impression that this qualifies as a decently broad question, but if the mods would prefer me to move it to the question thread I would be happy to. Thanks :) + +I have a client who struggles with severe depression and has many SH scars on her arms and legs. In a recent shoot, the scars are VERY obvious and some of the more recent than others. I am struggling on whether to edit them out or leave them in. + +Should I just ask the client what they would prefer? Is there a rule of thumb about scars generally, or even just about SH scars? I have been dwelling on this for days so any input would be greatly appreciated. :) + +EDIT: Wow; thanks for all of the answers everyone. I did want to clarify that I do NOT see her scars as ugly or a problem. I just have only worked with one other client with scars in the past and he wanted them removed because they reminded him of a time in his life he didn’t want to remember, and I respected his wishes and removed them. I wasn’t sure what to do when someone didn’t specify - I definitely was leaning towards leaving them, but I wanted some other input. Thanks everyone!",0 +6848,"Can I make suggestions to my wedding photographer about color editing ?. Hi everyone, + +I got married recently after postponing for 2 years because of covid, which means that our suppliers were chosen 3 years ago, and deposits paid at that time. + +We really loved our engagement pictures (taken in 2019), but in the past years our photographer has gone increasingly dark and moody, whereas I realized that I like more ""realistic"" colors. I hesitated about whether to tell her or not, and most ppl I asked told me artists hate being told what to do lol and that I should respect her style, which is fair enough. + +It didn't seem like a reason big enough to break a contract, given that we like her, didn't want to take this job away from her since she's struggling financially and also didn't want to lose the deposit lol + +We've since gotten our sneak peaks, and while I love the way she captured everyone's energy, I'm not a huge fan of the ""darkness"" of the colors, and I'm worried for the rest of the gallery. I do love the black and whites, so it's really about the ""coloring"" work. + +Should I just suck it up, or is there a way to gently tell her that I also like cold colors (I was reading another wedding photographer post who was saying that there's a trend right now for a kind of ""terracotta"" filter where blues and greens go away)/colors closer to what our eyes see ? (sorry I'm clearly not a photographer and unsure how to phrase that lol) + +Can I get raw files in addition and pay someone else for editing, or would it be obvious to her that I'm going to do that and it would be very insulting ? + +I'm really trying to find a way of being respectful of her work, while also recognizing that we chose her a while back and that tastes change... + +Thanks in advance for your advice ! + +ETA: our engagement pics were already a bit in that dark and moody style, but they were taken in the fall so it just really suited the mood. I then realized she edits all her pics in that way, even colorful summer weddings (which we had), and I would just like to have a ""mood"" closer to the real colors then. ",0 +6849,"What are your day jobs? What are jobs that make it possible to do photography?. Hey guys, + +I want to eventually build my own business offering creative solutions to people (photography, videography, design, etc.) + +But I don’t want to put all my eggs in one basket. I recognize I want and need some stability before my own thing becomes viable. + +I just wanted to get a sense, what kind of safe or stable job do you guys do that pays the bills and pays for your creative endeavours? + +Right now, I work as a data entry specialist / administrator and I hate it. I’m looking to go back to school or reducate myself in some way… I want a day job that is creative in some way. + +Doing tedious, overly detailed work drains me mentally and I find it hard to work on my photography and side business.",0 +6850,Samyang AF 135mm F/1.8 Prime Lens Introduced. ,0 +6851,"In The Age of Online Compression, Does Sharpness Matter?. What’s the point in stressing over gear being the sharpest and clearest if most content is consumed after being compressed? I understand for professional level shoots that retaining quality is important but, I feel that most people are just quickly consuming online pictures through social media platforms that will compress the sharpness you spend so much money to achieve. I was reading reviews for a Panasonic 45-150mm F4-5.6 and the main complaint is that images are soft but, when looking at videos and images online, I couldn’t tell. + +I’m only a beginner so, I don’t know if this is just a me thing.",0 +6852,"Embarking on my first solo photography trip. Good day, + +I'm a hobbyist (aspiring professional) photographer with a large chunk of my interest and work being street photography. I recently watched a YouTube video by James Popsys about investing in yourself as a photographer and one of the overlooked investments is travel. Living in a smaller city (Halifax, NS, Canada) can really put a damper on your photography when you're constantly shooting the same scenes. So with that, and the current state of the world, I said screw it and booked a trip to Chicago. + +I fly out tomorrow afternoon and I'm spending 4 days there with the mission of exploring and capturing as much as possible. I'm excited but I'm also a bit nervous. I've only been to the US once before (Florida) and I don't have much of an itinerary/agenda. I've made a Google Maps list of some spots to check out and suggestions from other photographers/YouTube. + +I'm looking for input or advice from anyone who has done something similar or maybe there's many of you on here who do this sort of thing all the time. Any input is appreciated! + +Bonus points if you've got suggestions for Chicago in particular :) + +Thanks!",0 +6853,What does Sigma's support mean for X-mount?. ,0 +6854,"Do you ever find yourself attached to a camera you no longer use?. I have an old Canon T3 (not even a T3i, haha) that I have had since 2014. I have put a lot of miles on it with all of my travels. + +But now I shoot 100% exclusively on my 6D Mark II and haven’t picked up the T3 almost 6 months. This leaves me to not really know what to do. The only real sentimental value is that it was my first DSLR (my Konica FP-1 hold more value because that is what I learned the craft on starting back in 1998). + +Do you guys ever find yourself in the same situation? If so what have you done? + +- Make the camera a display piece? +- Sell it to pocket some extra funds? +- Keep it to shoot with it occasionally? +- Use it to take riskier shots where damage is very likely? + +Im leaning towards selling it but not sure what else people have done in this situation, hence the question,",0 +6855,"Opinion on overlapping shoots. I’m a professional videographer and occasional still photographer. Used to work with a guy who is trying to make himself a known photographer in our industry. + +Anyway on more than a few occasions he would come in to my lit video set ups, snap a few photos and walk out. Since we were shooting for the same client (agency work) I never really said much but now he’s sharing that same work and tagging everyone except the one that actually lit and staged the shots. + +Am I being petty over this?",0 +6856,"Advice— boudoir photographer is charging me $1200 for two hours.. I understand if I don’t agree with this I don’t have to do it, but I just wanted to get some feedback from other photographers? + + +Also the photographer says that they will permanently own all rights to the photos. + +I have to bring my own props, and outfits. + +This is my first time doing this type of shoot so again just looking for feedback. is this normal?",0 +6857,"How can I improve my homemade lens?. ​ + +https://preview.redd.it/5ij7iz5i51v91.png?width=560&format=png&auto=webp&s=6abea6cd87b374649e478355479ba3639a943254 + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/20qtel6k51v91.png?width=832&format=png&auto=webp&s=bcc2a137705afc1873282f55ec889ebe9bb5235a + +I made this homemade single element lens (\~60mm) a few weeks ago and although I really love how it turned out, I'd like to know some ways that I could improve it. + + +I am not looking for perfection! I'm just looking for cool things to do/try with optics + +some things that I am working on for my next lens: +Thinner lens for less distortion +wider radius lens for more light + + +I am using soda-lime glass, a belt sander and a glass lathe which I'm aware are not professional-level tools for optics + + +Someone introduced me to the Cooke triplet lens design. Does it look like it would fix some of my problems? +I am having a hard trouble finding documentation on the focal lengths required for it, and a hard time finding sources for double concave flint glasses. + + +if there are any other interesting things that I could try with optics with these tools let me know. I'm interested in trying new things!",0 +6858,"Photography and socialising are inextricably linked. So I am quite keen to become a photographer for a local sports team (cycling, basketball, Motorsport). +Having looked at interviews done by notable photogs in these fields is that you must be able to make connections with the athletes and their teams/families in order to succeed. It is not good enough just to be able to photograph the actions and moments. + +So, as someone who finds it hard to socialise with others, especially elite athletes, it’s made me feel that it will be quite difficult to break into these fields + +Just wondering if anyone has any tips or thoughts on photography and being able to interact with your subjects + +Edit: I am looking to take photos for their social media page during a race weekend/week (similar to F1 teams social media content). I mainly shoot for fun nowadays, so I am not looking to do any freelance work + + +Edit: I am naturally introverted and at my full time work I also have a lot of client interaction. As a result I don’t want to be doing something that I don’t want to do in my spare time. I love taking photos, but I find building relationships with subjects intimidating and draining",0 +6859,"What are you trying to see through the view finder when shooting a person?. I think this question needs a bit of explanation: + +I am doing mainly street photography. Normally I try to compose the shot in my head and when the time has come I raise my camera and hope I will get it. + +At the moment I try to learn a little bit about portrait photography. Everyone is talking about getting the subject comfortable and not thinking about the gear and stuff. Which is oc fine but it also implies that you cannot stare into the view finder and think about your picture for a long time (like eg in landscape). + +Therefore my question, assuming that I have dealt with the camera settings and every picture taken is ""correctly"" from a technical point of view.",0 +6860,"Client Seems Disappointed. Hey! So this is a situation that's already happened, but some advice on what to do in the future would be helpful. (Lots of context coming) + +I posted to a neighborhood site advertising mini sessions for $100, for 30 minutes of photography. When I client asked for more details I told her it was $100, 30 minutes, and up to 4-6 people. She'd asked about a family of 9-10, and I let her know that was a family photoshoot, which I charge $300 for one hour. I find that with that number of people, it can get hectic and take a lot more time and thought it's reasonable to do that. She was surprised but said she'd talk to her family and see. She agreed to the shoot, which was going to be the day after Thanksgiving since her whole family was home. I sent her a contract with the location TBD, and the cost at $300 for one hour. By the time of the shoot, she'd had to change times and dates 3x. Once was to do Friday at golden hour, but then the family wanted to do something, so we moved it to Saturday golden hour. Then she was told some people had to leave on Friday so we moved it to early Friday morning. + +We get to the photoshoot and I'd recommended, to make sure we got what she wanted, that she write down shots that were most important (which family pairings she needed most) to make sure we capture them all. We started taking photos, and they weren't wanting the ""lifestyle"" shots, just nice family posing, standing up straight kind of thing so the shoot wound up being much quicker and simpler than I'd expected. We were done with everything in roughly 15-20 minutes. Everyone was cold, but I'd tried offering to do a shoot later for her as well f she wanted since she'd paid me for a full hour, and she said they'd probably take me up on that. + +So fast forward, I work a full time job and have been on huge deadlines there so it took me a little more than a week to get her 25 photos, edited, and sent back. Our contract guaranteed 15 images minimum for one hour of shooting. She responded that she liked the photos, but here comes the inevitable ""but"". I'd focused more on their bodies, and less on getting their bodies and shoes, etc. in the shot, and she wasn't a fan of that. She didn't like how awkward she said they'd look if I cropped it in further, and seemed super disappointed that I didn't capture full body. + +Now I admit, looking back, it's easy to see, man I wish I'd shifted down a bit, or we should have told him to center his belt, or remove his phone. I feel like an idiot for failing to see those things. I'd hoped I could edit out one guys white undershirt from below his collar, but alas I couldn't. + +I HATE disappointing clients and already struggle with feeling like maybe I overpriced myself, but I'm not sure what to do here. I've offered her a reshoot if she ever wants one, but she seemed perturbed. And I just don't know if I should've taken money off or not. But we both signed a contract and it protected me from whether I captured something perfectly. I just don't know how to deal with this. As a note, I have also sent her the few pictures I did have where I'd captured a wider field of view, but couldn't do that for all of them. + +TLDR: I'm struggling to feel like I overcharged for pictures the client seems only moderately okay about receiving, as the field of view was awkward/cropped at an awkward spot (shoes cut off). I've sent what I could that was a wider field of view, but don't know if I just overcharged or if I did the right thing in saying 'I'm sorry this is what I have, and I apologize for not capturing what you'd intended'.",0 +6861,"Do you use your real name for your photography or do you have a pen name?. I am currently considering creating a website and also using some social media to slowly build up a portfolio. + +Now there are photographers who take as domain for example ""FirstnameLastname.com"" or similar and then have the same or a different username on social media. + +Others also use their username/Nickname/PenName as a domain, e.g. ""UsernameXY.com"", which they also use on social media. + +In my case I have already thought about a username, but that fits more to night photography, but I also take many photos during the day and I think that unfortunately does not fit so well + +How do you handle that? + + +Do you think it's better to use the real name if it's pure hobby photography and you don't aim for ""customers"" in the real sense, but rather to share images and maybe offer prints or something in the future? + + + +**EDIT:** + +So I'm concerned with the pros and cons of, for example: + * Sean Tucker -> seantucker.photography + * Paola Franqui (aka Monaris) -> monaris.me",0 +6862,"Would it be weird if I message Wedding Photographers asking if I could 2nd shoot for them?. So Im a student/photographer from Europe and Im coming to US this summer through Work & Travel program where they offer students to do jobs in US such as Waitering, Bartendering and etc while exploring US and their culture. + +I've already done more than 100 Weddings here in Europe but they are much, much different than what I've seen in US but I have strong desire to give it a try as a 2nd with an experienced photographer. + +The issue is I dont know how to go about it, what do I even say? Will they get weirded out or offended? + +Any help would be appreciated + +Small Update: 4 Emails sent, 0 Replies received so far.",0 +6863,"Pursuing modelling / portrait photography as a hobbyist. I've always done street / landscape Photography to a degree but have recently got into photography as a whole and have started investing a lot of time and money into it. Really loving it. + +One avenue I'd like to go down is portraits and model photography -using lights, studio space and models for my photos. Would this be seen as weird as someone who is not getting paid? Purely a (new) hobbyist and doing photography as a creative outlet and social thing - I've never earnt a dime from photography and probably never will but I'd like to venture into this.",0 +6864,"Good literature on photography.. Hi all! I’m looking for some books on photography to kick start a hobby business - does anyone have any recommendations? I’ve already got On Photography by Susan Sontag, and a couple of the Read This if you Want to Take Great Photographs series by Henry Carroll. Many thanks for any ideas 😁",0 +6865,"My experience with Magnum Square prints/rant regarding Magnum. Not sure where to post this but here felt fitting. + +Ordered a magnum square print for the first time last sale, had been on the fence about them for years. Seemed a lot for the size but I’d just been paid as had a discount code so thought I’d treat myself as some really nice photos had been selected. + +Fast forward to it arriving, entirely underwhelming considering the £100 spent. First thing I notice, cut a skew. Second, information label on the back had lines across it from poor printing and was also stuck on at a bad angle. And finally, the paperstock was godawful despite claiming ‘museum quality.’ I’d let this pass if the print was half the price but it felt more like a postcard than a £100 print, seriously, I would’ve failed a module I’d presented that to a lecturer in my first year. + +Back and fourth with customer support after they said this was ‘impossible’ as they have a strict quality control. Eventually got through to head of said department who said to send it in, had to be insured and tracked otherwise (at an £8 cost to myself, joy.) + +Just heard back today ‘only issue was the cut, we can rectify and send it out or refund’ then got pasted the FAQs about what they consider to be ‘museum quality.’ So the way I see it, magnum consider their shoddy printing to not be an issue by refusing to acknowledge it. + +My point, stop buying these things. They are only an ‘investment’ because of the magnum namesake. The quality is quite frankly, arse. Bought a lovely print from a local photographer running an independent print sale for half the price, quality trumps the magnum print ten times over. I know a small scale print is going to be easier to QC but still. + +Magnum over the past few years has gone from an org I aspired to be a part of in some capacity to a company I entirely resent, all I see them as are photographic gatekeepers, a bunch of ‘elites’ in a giant circlejerk. Charging stupid amounts for courses, prints, events just ‘because magnum’ + +TL;DR: stop supporting magnum square prints, buy direct from photographers who need the money.",0 +6866,"The ethics and best practices of using flash for bat photography 🦇📸. Hey there beautiful internet people! I recently found a spot where bats gather to drink sugar water that the locals put out. I'm determined to go photograph them, as they are relatively still while drinking (like hummingbirds). The problem I have is the absence of available light. +I have a nifty fifty that I can adapt to my M50, and I was considering using flash to further enhance the sharpness of the photos but I'm concerned that, one, it might hurt the bats, and two, that it might scare them away. Neither of those are things I'm willing to allow to happen. +Can someone with experience in wildlife photography (especially bats and other nocturnal creatures) give ?me some advice? I've looked online and it seems at face value that the flash doesn't really harm the animals (especially since they navigate through ecolocation), but I wanted to check in as to what the ethics and best practices are. +Bats are my favorite animals, I want to enjoy photographing them knowing I'm not doing any harm.",0 +6867,"How do you politely decline to take photos for someone?. Like the title says, how can I politely tell a friend no without upsetting them? They want their graduation photos taken. They asked me. I don’t consider myself a pro and have never done it for money. But they know I like to take photos as a hobby. Which… is the only way I like taking photos. As a hobby. No plans, no stress, no pressure, no expectations. Lol.",0 +6868,"How do you plan for good conditions?. I've been doing photography for a while now, but I feel like I never get good conditions for my photos. For example, I see these YouTubers constantly getting fog, sun rays, and better light consistently. Everytime I go out, I feel like it's always grey and miserable. I check the weather a lot, but I still always get bad conditions. Maybe it's the city I live in? What are your thoughts and tips on how to get better conditions for photography? + +Edit: thank you everyone for these tips. I have been reading them but can't reply to all due to work. I am going to learn how to embrace the bad weather, as it seems we have a lot where I live. Your tips are going to be apart of my planning now.",0 +6869,"What do you call the photos that don’t make the final cut?. Currently trying to improve my digital house keeping and going through my files! Cannot for the life of me think of the name for the photos/footage that’s been edited, but not part of the final shots or selects. + +Any ideas?",0 +6870,"Going to a wedding tomorrow, asked to take candid shots after the pro photographer leaves. Any advice?. **UPDATE:** + +So I went to the wedding. + +PLEASE NOTE; because it was a private event and am not comfortable sharing photos online of people without their permission, I won't be posting any here. This will be focused on reflections. + +As it turns out, they *did* have a photographer for nearly the full night; the only times I shot were the social period during the official wedding party photos (as the photographer wasn't around to capture others mingling during that time) and after she left (she covered everything including some dancing shots before leaving). I did not take photos of the ceremony nor of any of the official proceedings (I knew this going into it). This is important context because I didn't *need* to shoot; the photographer covered all the ""need to have"" bases. + +As a note, when the photographer was present, my camera was *in my bag*; they hired a pro and I let her do her thing. At no point did I feel obligated to take photos, so I was able to mingle, eat, dance, and enjoy the evening with some photography thrown in mainly for fun. + +When I was shooting, it was during golden hour light (when the wedding party photos were being shot, was asked to take a few of everyone else mingling) and after the photographer left, when it was very dark out. This was a fully outdoor event with some string lights for illumination once the sun went down. The golden-hour time period was nice to bring a camera for since I really didn't know anyone (my SO was in the wedding party so when they were taking photos, I was on my own, having something to do was nice). Golden hour resulted in some great shots of groups mingling, some of the decor, and some lawn games they had set up. + +Once the sun went down, I decided to take the advice (once I saw the shooting conditions) to shoot manual with auto-ISO, and using burst. While this yielded (predictably) very noisy shots, I managed to capture some really nice moments that I was happy with; the advice of capturing the memory rather than fussing about noise worked out well. + +I ran into an issue with weird very under-exposed photos (some nearly black) in some of the burst sequences which is unfortunate, as they were too noisy to bring back. I couldn't tell why this was occurring because while it was dark, there was definitely lights around and most were correctly exposed using the autoISO. Some of these were half-exposed (upper portion exposed or one half of the image exposed) so if anyone knows what might've caused this, let me know :) + +I took around 300 shots total (many of those due to burst mode), and culled to around 50 ""good to great"" photos (relative to the equipment and skill limitations here). These include general wider-angle scenes of the venue, moments in the afternoon portion, a few posed group shots, and then some great dancing action shots. Note that the evening dancing shots are good from the *perspective of keeping the memory*, none of the dancing shots would be ones I'd consider portfolio-worthy or anything like that. + +My next steps is to try Topaz for some denoising but otherwise, pleased with the results. + +I viewed this as a great learning opportunity so here are some of my learnings as a beginner in this side of photography: + +* Using high ISO is okay! +* Buy a flash :) +* I have no intentions of becoming a pro wedding photographer (bless those people) but bringing my camera along *as long as there's no expectations* can be fun and rewarding! +* Limitations of my current setup +* I really enjoy capturing moments for people, but get a bit self conscious snapping photos of people if I don't know them or know if they even want photos of themselves taken (I never asked unless for a posed shot). Some shots had people looking directly at me sort of curiously which I feel is something you learn to get better with over time with candids. As time went on and I introduced myself to more people, they (and I) became more comfortable and by the evening it was no issue, and some even posed without prompting. +* I would not agree to be the primary photographer of a wedding, even if paid. I understand my limitations and would not want that kind of pressure. I believe those commenting that I shouldn't do it probably assumed more expectation behind it, and if there was, I wouldn't have done it. + +I well understand that a full frame camera and flash could help significantly with lower light; however I had a great time with my existing setup and thanks to the many of you who provided feedback. The feedback about technical settings was helpful, and the feedback about keeping expectations low was also good because I think it allowed me to be happy just to get anything, and enjoy myself. + +Finally, for those saying it would ruin my experience with ""obligation"" and I'd be running around all day, I think 90% of the time I was spent enjoying the wedding with only a short period taking photos. I took that warning to heart and made sure to enjoy the event itself, so I appreciate those warnings as well. While some cast doubts on the claim that there was no expectations, never once was there any pressure or issue, so I guess this was one of the good outcomes. + +Thanks for everyone's feedback and support! + +**Original:** + +I will preface this by saying there is no pressure on this, the couple are good friends and stressed that they want me to enjoy the night; they just know I enjoy photography and asked if I could take a few when the pro is busy (with the posed photos) or after the pro leaves. The photographer is aware and I'll be certain to avoid getting in their way (not pretending I'm a pro at all and don't want to be ""that guy"" who owns a camera at a wedding and follows the pro around). + +This is a little short notice so I haven't had much time to prepare or really even try my hand at event photography, so I'm diving into the deep end here. + +I have a Sony A6000 and have been shooting for about a year; typically just friends and travel photography (see profile for some examples). The lenses I have are the kit lens, Sigma 30MM F1.4, and Sigma 18-50mm F2.8. Between the prime and the zoom I believe I am pretty well covered for focal lengths and low light; or at least hope to be, since I don't have a flash other than the small built-in one. The prime has served me well in evening and indoor photos so far. The venue itself will be pretty well lit. + +I'm mainly looking to capture moments during the wedding so I'll likely need a fairly quick shot to capture focus and eliminate blur as much as possible; my goal is to take some test shots to dial in the settings beforehand. I understand that crop sensor is a disadvantage for low lighting, so the goal is to dial in the prime and keep ISO on Auto, with a max of 1600. I'm sure they'll not be nearly as picky as us hobbyists, but I want some good photos for my friends :) + +I won't be expected to do portraits or anything like that, so more just focusing on the candid moments. + +I haven't shot event photography like this so any advice is appreciated :)",0 +6871,"No more flagship DSLR for Canon and Nikon, how long away are we from DSLR being completely dead?. So quite recently, arguably, mainstream camera powerhouse brands, Canon and Nikon revealed they will stop focusing on DSLR production. Sooner or later, they will stop making them altogether I assume. + +No doubt mirrorless cameras are getting more popular by the day but it doesn't mean DSLRs are obsolete just yet. We probably can expect to be able to use them for professional work over the next 10 years. Safe to say i can stretch out my 5D MK4 for a good decade. + +My question is.. **when can we expect DSLR to be entirely obsolete?** + +***""Not yet""*** + +So far when looking and asking around why people are not switching, the answers are always: + +\- Digital viewfinder still not optimized and not quite there yet + +\- Less tough body and more 'vulnerable' ergonomics + +\- Battery life + +But these reasons are just that, ***""Not yet""***. I was thinking because DSLRs are still in the main market, that's why the mirrorless cameras haven't received these changes and improvements, but when they switch places, they will inevitably be updated. + +​ + +# But how soon is that?",0 +6872,"How do you decline a colleague's request of asking your photos for free?. I'm the documenter/social media guy in my office, so I'm used to ""giving away"" my shots for ""free"", uploading photos & videos of work/events we do online. Nothing wrong though, I'm being paid for that. + +Occasionally though, I shot some more thoughtful scenes when out in the field for my own use. Wether it's only for my desktop wallpaper, my personal social media, or if I deemed it worthy enough, to be sold on stock photo websites. + +There's this one new guy likes to be photographed (I think) too often _and_ asking for the photos I intended for my own use. At first it's fine, I thought he's new, I'm sure he only wants to tell his parents or something. But lately it's been too much for me. Why would I keep his photos for free, wasting my storage space, wasting my camera's shutter count etc. So lately I've been asking back for his phone to snap him (though he often also says something along the lines of ""but you have a better camera"" etc). + +Asking for photos I intend for my own use, I always jokingly say ""you gotta pay for it"" and he replies with ""don't be so stingy"" rather seriously. I've explained not all photos in the world are free, so do some of mine, but he is persistent. I don't want to be seen as a stingy jerk, but to shut him up and coupled with my pettiness, I put a readable watermark in the middle of the frame, and sending him the pictures intentionally using WhatsApp picture sharing feature, rather than as a file attachment so it's compressed as heck. He seemed not bothered for whatever reason, he still posts those pictures on his social media. Free advertising I guess. + +Btw yes, I use my own camera I already have before I joined this company. The office has one but too lackluster and slow.",0 +6873,"Landscape Photography: How to deal with a picture not showing the true beauty of a view?. So every now and then I come across a sight that is I find really beautiful (village on a Hill, a rocky coast, ect..). I tried really hard to get it onto a picture, but very often I end up dissatisfied with the result. I will have tried different angles, played with the settings, etc, but I rarely manage. I assume it is the depth of your eyes that a camera simply cannot pick up. I however am left wondering if there is a way I can manage to picture them.",0 +6874,"Help!! Client (family friends) agreed to photos for $400 but now wants a ‘small video’ included in the price.. Haven’t been able to get clients lately so I agreed to do a family friends at-home 40th birthday party (photos only) for $400 from 6-10pm. It’s also a 2 hour drive away from me. + +A day went by and they’re requesting a ‘small video’ to be included with the price of the photos. + +I can do video but of course it comes at additional charge. + +I’m regretting even saying yes to working with family friends now. + +I clearly am confused on how to respond at this point as I feel taken advantage of. + +Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you. + +UPDATE: Firstly, thank you so much to all of you kind people for taking your precious time out of your day to help me. Forever grateful 🙏🏽 We decided on only photos and no video since I only have one camera. Thankfully, they seemed understanding. 😅",0 +6875,Nikon announces the 28-75 2.8 (Non-S) and development of the 800mm 6.3 PF S. ,0 +6876,"Do I really need dual card slots?. Hello, I wanna start doing wedding photography professionally, but my budget is only around the $1000 us mark for a body, and majority of cameras there only have one card slot. + +Here on reddit everybody says that it’s better to have dual. if im gonna shoot weddings, is it really necessary? Can I start off with the single slot for now? + +Thanks",0 +6877,"Client asking weird request for event photography?. So a gentleman contacted me through my google page. Asking if I did event photography and if I accepted major credit cards. I said yes. + +I told him I would get started writing the contract. +No post work just raw photos from Noon to 6pm. + +I then told him I require 50% down as a retainer fee upon signing of the contract. + +He then said that was fine and said he needed me to assist him. He said his event planner doesn’t take credit cards and needs some money to get some stuff for the occasion. He wants me to accept the amount when he gives me the deposit. + +This seemed like an odd request and very unprofessional on his part. Or am I being to weird because I get spam vibes.",0 +6878,"Stock photography goes AI. I just got this email from Shutterstock regarding using stock images for data training. + +It'll be interesting to see what kinds of source images will be used, or will be in demand. It's good that they will be compensating the source providers for however much that ends up being. + +___________________________________ + +Working together to lead the way with AI + +We’re excited to announce that we are partnering with OpenAI to bring the tools and experiences to the Shutterstock marketplace that will enable our customers to instantly generate and download images based on the keywords they enter. + +As we step into this emerging space, we are going to do it in the best way we know how—with an approach that both compensates our contributor community and protects our customers. + +In this spirit, we will not accept content generated by AI to be directly uploaded and sold by contributors in our marketplace because its authorship cannot be attributed to an individual person consistent with the original copyright ownership required to license rights. Please see our latest guidelines [here](https://support.submit.shutterstock.com/s/article/Content-Policy-Updates-AI-generated-Content?language=en_US&customer_ID=2349095&campaign_ID=shutters.27752625&launch_ID=125303365&utm_source=sstkemail&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=2022-Q3_MC-5574_EMAIL_SSTK_AI-Gen-Content-Contrib-EN&pl=emailcore-shutters.27752625&c3ch=Email&c3nid=2022-Q3_MC-5574_EMAIL_SSTK_AI-Gen-Content-Contrib-EN_2022-10-25&cr=null). When the work of many contributed to the creation of a single piece of AI-generated content, we want to ensure that the many are protected and compensated, not just the individual that generated the content. + +In the spirit of compensating our contributor community, we are excited to announce an additional form of earnings for our contributors. Given the collective nature of generative content, we developed a revenue share compensation model where contributors whose content was involved in training the model will receive a share of the earnings from datasets and downloads of ALL AI-generated content produced on our platform. + +We see generative as an exciting new opportunity—an opportunity that we’re committed to sharing with our contributor community. For more information, please see our [FAQ](https://support.submit.shutterstock.com/s/article/Shutterstock-ai-and-Computer-Vision-Contributor-FAQ?language=en_US&customer_ID=2349095&campaign_ID=shutters.27752625&launch_ID=125303365&utm_source=sstkemail&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=2022-Q3_MC-5574_EMAIL_SSTK_AI-Gen-Content-Contrib-EN&pl=emailcore-shutters.27752625&c3ch=Email&c3nid=2022-Q3_MC-5574_EMAIL_SSTK_AI-Gen-Content-Contrib-EN_2022-10-25&cr=null) on the subject, which will be updated regularly.",0 +6879,"Most efficient and accurate way to level your camera. Hello all. I am trying to phrase this as a discussion and not a question because I am aware of a few different ways to level my camera, and I want to hear everyone's opinion. + +I photograph real estate for a living so I value accuracy and speed for anything I change in my day to day operations. I currently use the in camera level (sony a7rii), but I find that it isn't always correct and I end up correcting a decent amount in post. I'd like to eliminate this if possible. I am aware of bubble levels also, but I find that they are usually are too slow for me. Does anyone have any experience with any other leveling systems that you think might fit my workflow well? Anything that is automatic? + +Thank you + +Edit: I also should have mentioned that 90% of my work is basically smash and grab real estate photography. For my non luxury package, my clients are paying for an hour in the field, and about an hour of editing. They want 48 hr turnaround and as long as the photos look professional, they don't care (or even notice) if every perspective distortion is corrected. It's actually kind of blasphemous, as someone else below mentioned, but it's a great lesson in business and what the market will bear in my area. Yes I get luxury shoots every so often where I spend the entire day on location and a 3 or 4 day editing sessions, but that's probably 10% of my work. I am the guy they hire to shoot a 2bed 2bath condo getting sold for $200k and needs to be listed asap.",0 +6880,"Concert photographers; does the music blog need traffic in order to get photo pass?. Hi, +I’ve been interested in concert photography for a long time. + +Some long-time photographers advised me to reach out and submit my portfolio anyway and say I am a college student looking to get more work. I can confirm after a year and a half of using this technique, I got absolutely got no responses. Mind you I have also reached out to many local artists as well. But it seems that most of them already had an established photographer. + +From the other advices I get, I kept hearing to create your own music blog. Now I can see this working. I already have experience with both writing and photographing, however does the blog need to have traffic as a starter? + +What are your thoughts? How to break into the industry? Thank you",0 +6881,"What is your go-to editing TV show?. I’m mainly looking for recommendations for what to watch while stuck in Lightroom for hours. I’m editing a family reunion right now… + +I’ve been watching GOT for the first time, but you have to pay attention too much. I used to do Psych and H20 (I know), but I’m looking for something new. Preferably something happy since I tend to edit at night.",0 +6882,withdrawing consent to publish pictures.. I was asked to take photographs at a public function which I did and have supplied a good selection of jpegs to the organisation. They have since asked me for copies of the RAW images which I politely declined. Now the organiser has emailed me and said they withdraw consent for me to share online or publish any images of them specifically. I'm not going to because tbh I've better things to be sharing online but from a legal stand point can they do that given that the pictures were taken at a public function?,0 +6883,"Is starting a blog a good idea?. Full disclosure: I did already start a blog, but I am curious to hear thoughts and opinions about the idea. + +Is starting a photo blog a good idea in 2022? + +I started a blog as a way to feature my photography in a more meaningful and permanent way than social media provides. I was pushed over the edge because I have finally given up on Instagram as a place for creative expression. + +Another reason is because I have had portfolio sites before, but I wanted to drive more viewers (through SEO and content that can be updated more often). + +What are your thoughts? Any success stories? Words of warning? + +Edit 1: Wow, thanks for all the response on this post. I am definitely going to read all the responses and consider your input. I'll do my best to reply to those that leave me with questions or who are saying something unique from their personal experience with blogging.",0 +6884,Leica’s New Camera Puts Skill Back Into Focus | Shooting with Leica’s M11 digital rangefinder underscores how technology has all but removed human ability from the process of taking a picture.. ,0 +6885,Canon announces RF 800mm and RF 1200mm lenses. ,0 +6886,"What’s a good photo documentary worth watching?. After going on a documentary binge recently and re-watching (for the umpteenth time) Sally Mann's What Remains and Gregory Crewdson's Aesthetics of Repression, and having just finished up Everybody Street, I gotta ask... + +What's one photo documentary you recommend watching? I love sitting down to watch one even when I don't have the ability to go out and shoot when I want, or if i'm just looking for something to get my brain kickstarted again into thinking about art & photography.",0 +6887,"What do we think of the price on this job posting?. ""Approximately 500-600 Photographs and brief 5-10 second video clips required for an exercise app and website. Videos wont be as plentiful as photographs and are to complement photos. Photographs, still shots and or videos will be of various body parts eg arm, hips etc performing an exercise."" + + +$1,200.00 USD",0 +6888,"Have you ever had to take a step back?. Posting here because aside from my spouse, I’ve been to embarrassed to admit this to anyone else. But I’ve had only 1 booking for the past 6 months. +I do photography part time/ as a hobby. I’ve been doing this for about 4-5 years. Started off doing portraits, recently fashion/ editorial and a little commercial. This year has been extremely rough and defeating. I feel like I’ve spent so much energy trying to promote my work, create new work and branch into other fields like lifestyle and concert photography (<- just wanted to branch out a bit because I was getting bored). But it feels like nothing is working out for me. It’s exhausting feeling like I wasted so much energy and kind of embarrassing only having old photos to post. Instagram is definitely a source of frustration because every day I see my peers get booked left and right. +I had hoped I could go full time with my photography but thats clearly not happening. So now I want to leave it all together and go on hiatus so I can get my life back and not stress over all this. Only thing is I’m nervous when I pick it back up I won’t be taken seriously because I’m inconsistent so it’s a double edged sword. Anyone else take a break at some point? What was your experience like?",0 +6889,"Photog family member passed away, what should I do with her photos to honor her?. My family member was an amateur photographer for 25 years. She has some stunning photos from her travels around the world — mostly of landscapes. They were all shot on film and I have the digital, high res scans. All of her friends are elderly and don’t need prints. I’d like her work to get out in any form to help her legacy live on. We gave away most of the prints, sans a few, to friends and other family members when she died. Sold and donated her equipment (most of it was outdated and pretty beat up).",0 +6890,"Winners of Red Bull Illume Image Quest 2021 announced. [Link - Winners of Red Bull Illume Image Quest 2021 announced.](https://www.redbullillume.com/stories/article/will-saunders-becomes-overall-winner) + +As someone with a strong interest in extreme sports photography, this competition is a highlight for me. Extreme sports shots don't often get much love on this subreddit, and I appreciate that this is generally because people don't have an interest in the subject matter! However, I think every shot from this competition can be appreciated from an artistic point of view, regardless of your interest in the sport. + +If anyone has more suggestions for where I can mind more shots of this sort of subject matter and calibre, drop them in the comments below!",0 +6891,"What photo of yours do you really like, but don't think would generally be popular if you shared it? Why do you like those photos?. There's a handful of photos I've taken that I really liked, but I don't think many other people would care about. Mostly, it's when the subject is special to me - the family dog that passed away, memorable nights with friends, etc. + +But for stuff that was more ""serious photography,"" there's other reasons. It might be composition that *I* find interesting, but most folks probably wouldn't care that a tree's leaves were arranged a certain way. There might be colors or textures I find neat, but most regular folks would think it's a picture of nothing. + +Do you have examples of images like this that you'd be willing to share, and explain why you like them / think they wouldn't be popular to a general audience?",0 +6892,"What do you think about the recent AI art advancement (midjourney, Dall-E, Stable Diffusion) and its effect on photography?. I'm not sure if by this time, any of you have tried, but Vox has a really good video about it: + +https://youtu.be/SVcsDDABEkM + +At this moment, it's been quite popular, there are already several fb groups and reddit for AI art itself. + +Of course, at this stage, it's not exactly a perfect tool for creating some 'pictures or paintings' but it can at times, do a really good job. + +I've tried it myself, mostly with midjourney. While it wasn't perfect at getting what I had imagined, it was decent enough I can use it to explain what I have pictured in my head. + +As a tool for photography, I've used it to explain concepts and styles for my clients and talents, and as I've said, while not perfect, it does a pretty good job of explaining. Sometimes, what I had in mind don't exist on Pinterest, so it can be a good tool for storyboarding. + +I've also seen in being used in some photography fb groups I am in, where they comped models into AI art flowery backdrops for example, and it can work well at times. + +The thing is, for stuff like Midjourney, it gave me 'concept artish' looking works, which I don't think I have to be concerned about as a competition to actual photography. If anything, the only photography I can see really being affected are stock image photographers, where there is less of a need to shoot an image when clients can type in prompts. + +Another potential creative sector that may be affected is the concept art artists and storyboard artists, since these applications may be a time and money saver for clients. + +What do you think about this technology? Would love to hear your opinions.",0 +6893,"Photography with Glasses. Okay this is gonna be a bit of a weirder one but if anyone has experience with this then I would really appreciate any advice. + +So at the ripe age of 28 I just got my first pair of glasses. Apparently I have an astigmatism. So my eyes are blurry, I guess. Anyway, where I am having issues is taking any pictures while wearing my glasses, I obviously cant press my eye to the view port with my glasses on but I feel like with them off then every time I shoot I am going to be shooting to the focus of my eye not a baseline 20/20 focus. So all of my shots will come out blurry, right? Obviously I can shoot with my glasses on its just so ungodly uncomfortable. + +So am I overthinking this? Is there a work around that others have figured out? I've tried looking around on the internet and the best i can figure is just switching to contacts but i've got personal issues with sticking things in my eyes but if its the only way then its the only way. + +​ + +Thanks in advance!",0 +6894,How Front Element Scratches Affect Your Images | Lens Rentals Blog. ,0 +6895,"Photographing a sports event at night advice needed. I've never photographed something like this before so I need some advice. The area is well lit so I shouldn't have to use a flash or other light sources. I just need to take care of my camera. I have 2 extra batteries and I know that I should keep them in an interior pocket so they won't get cold. I also have an usb powered dew heater (I do some astrophotography from time to time) which i could use to prevent dew from forming on the camera lens. + +It could also get quite cold at about 0°C/ 32 fahrenheit. + +Any other advice you could give me or other stuff I should pay attention to? + +Thanks in advance",0 +6896,"How to take better wide angle shots?. Hi everyone, + +This is a bit of a weird thing I have going on. My favorite go to lens is my 70-200. However, after some online inspiration, I want to try and start getting wide shots that tell stories and have more of the environment involved. I recently bought a 35 1.4 prime to help me try to achieve those shots. + +I feel like my wide shots look like cell phone photos; it's like i have trouble showing a wide shot where the subject is the subject, if that makes sense, or that the background is so prevalent that it's distracting. I realized that's why I enjoy using my 70-200 so much is because I can take shots that show the subject, isolate the subject, and it tells you what the photo is about. I guess you could say some of my wides look busy with a lot going on because the subject of the photo isn't isolated. + +Has anyone else ever had this type of creative issue? Thanks for any advice.",0 +6897,"Full-Time Photographers, What keeps you motivated?. Hey all, Iv been photographing professionally for a few years now in a very part time capacity. (A wedding a year, and a few sessions here and there) I just quit my full time job and I'm seriously considering trying to do this full time. + +But I'm suck on the existential question of why. Why do I want to do this? Money? Passion? To make a name for myself? Because of all the job applications iv put in that iv been rejected to? + +I'm curious why you guys do it (especially full timers). What motivates you when things get tough. Why did you choose to do this? Do you experience burn out? Did you destroy your fun hobby by making it a job? + +I think this is a really important question I have to answer because I need to come back to it when (and they will) things get tough.",0 +6898,"Dumb mistakes you made when first starting out. Thought it might be fun to make a thread where we all talk about dumb or silly mistakes we made when we were newer to photography, and it might help keep others from making the same mistakes. Theres 2 main ones that come to mind for me + +1. Using way too high of an ISO. For some reason I was way to worried about keeping my shutter speed fast, so I would crank my ISO up ridiculously high all the time. I guess I just didn't notice how atrociously noisy my pictures were turning out, but it makes me cringe looking back at how awful the image quality is on what were some of my favorite images at the time. +2. Worrying too much about getting a nicer camera when the lenses I was using were total crap. I realize now looking back that a lot of my money would have been much better spent on getting nicer lenses, and I probably would have been satisfied with the camera I had at the time for a lot longer.",0 +6899,"Article: The Secret of the Family Photo. For a while now, I've come to peace with the idea that I am ""just"" a family photographer. I'm not going to document important world events, make stunning landscapes in remote mountains or execute high concept studio work. And that's ok. In fact, it's more than ok. It's what the vast majority of photographers do, even enthusiast photographers. And considering how many people practice this type of photography, there is precious little content being made about it in the hobby space. So reading Mike Johnston's (aka The Online Photographer) new piece in The New Yorker was really refreshing. It's a wonderful read with lot's of anecdotes about the uniqueness and importance of Family Photography. I'll quote one section that I really liked but the piece covers a wide variety of angles. + +>Let’s say a family of four is going on a weeklong vacation to Hawaii. One of the adults is taking a good-quality dedicated camera, and everyone else will be snapping away with their smartphones. How many pictures should the family aim to end up with? +> +>Consider the possibility that a reasonable number is eight. Why so few? Because life is full, and pictures accrue. The events of life come tumbling along, and the photos pile up, like the days and the hours do. The more family pictures you amass over time without editing or “organizing” them—without keywording, without making the hard decisions about which are the best and most essential—the more chaotic, dispiriting, disorganized, unlabeled, unsearchable, and jumbled the great mass will be, and the less well any given one of them will function for its purpose. Surfeit adds up to failure; selectivity leads to success. + +Preach! Edit. Your. Photos. Don't be afraid of deleting something that might be a good or usable photo some day in the future. The special photographs that have a place in your memory are special because you've looked at them a hundred times not because of any inherent specialness they contain. But they can't attain that status if they are buried in an overwhelming stream of photos. + +>So there’s nothing wrong with lavishing care, time, love, effort, skill, persistence, intention, and enthusiasm on our family archives. Find ways to photograph whatever is closest to your heart. What better subject is there, in the end? + +Thanks, Mike. + +[https://www.newyorker.com/culture/annals-of-inquiry/family-photos](https://www.newyorker.com/culture/annals-of-inquiry/family-photos)",0 +6900,"How to be more photogenic?. Ive never been photoghenic. Im objectively attractive in real life, and I get a lot of attention for my looks, but I have very soft features, and I really don't look good in pictures. Even my mom says so, and that says a lot. So, how to be more photogenic?",0 +6901,"Can you use baking paper as photo album paper?. Okay I dont know where to ask this, I went to Askreddit as years ago (ten years) i used to ask random questions like this there, now its all open questions only so I don't know where to ask random daily questions that google didn't work for. + +I made a really awesome special fathers day book last year for my partner with lots of photos of our child's first year with him, but I don't want the photos to end up sticking together as photos do. Old photo albums have that special paper between the pages, I can not find that paper anywhere! So I'm wondering will baking paperwork be the same? or will it wreak the photos? Any other suggestions of what to stick between the pages to keep the photos in good condition? + +thank you- (this is now my 3rd time trying to post this question.. trying different subs and having my question promptly removed because of wrong sub grr)",0 +6902,"How do you compose your images for 4/5 instagram aspect ratio?. I'm not sure if this question is allowed as a self topic, bare with me if it isn't. + +When I look at my images after a walk, debating which could be my next Instagram post, I often have the problem, that my shots won't fit in a 4/5 aspect ratio without cutting something off. This happens because I tend to fill the whole frame while taking shots. In the end, I might have a decent image, that won't look good on instagram and so I drop it. + +Do you actually compose your shots with the 4/5 aspect ratio in mind? What is your approach?",0 +6903,"How can i make winter nature photography less boring/more exciting?. So i live in a small town in western switzerland. i have pretty much photographed all roads and paths in this town. In spring everything seems so exciting and colorful. Now in Winter its just all grey and Boring. i find it hard to notice composition in a scene and if i do, the photograph just looks boring and not special to me. In my photos i was always looking for this light, organic, athmospheric feel. think light colors, morning dew, misty. now that is just gone. i have been thinking about shooting black and white instead but i find that very hard to do, as light feels just very flat. I also find it very hard to show depth in an image, without using lines. + +Do you guys have any tips on how i can get creative again? + +I have been thinking about traveling to a different location, maybe go to the alps. + +​ + +p.s i am not a beginner. i have been shooting for roughly 3.5 years. i have shot a lot of still life, but found that i should switch genre for some time. so now im trying to understand landscape photography. i love shooting portraits, but rarely do it, as i rarely see anyone but my family or close friends. I wish to practice it more, but dont know how i should approach people, as most people in switzerland are rather shy towards strangers.",0 +6904,Light Lens Lab Hints at Prototype for Replica Leica Standard. ,0 +6905,"Free Cheat Cards (Snap Cards). I recently was looking at my Facebook and the [Photzy Snap Cards](https://photzy.com/ld/snapcards/) kept popping up as an ad, so I went looking for some free ones. Snap cards (or cheat cards) give you a starting point for shooting different objects, people, animals, and gives some unique ideas. + + +Here are two sets from Digital Camera World for a total of 72 free cards. Thought I'd share. + +[(the first 44 cards)](https://www.digitalcameraworld.com/tutorials/tips-cards-for-photographers#section-44-original-tips-cards) + +[(the second 28 cards)](https://www.digitalcameraworld.com/tutorials/tips-cards-for-photographers#section-28-new-tips-cards) + +To get them in a large format, right click and ""Open in a new tab"" then go to the new tab and right click the picture to save image as.",0 +6906,What are some general rules for when photographing people?. For example this weekend I took pictures of a person for a first time and noticed that I couldn't go under a certain Shutter (cuz unlike objects people move :D) Are there any specific setting values you shouldn't go over?,0 +6907,"What is your ""good"" picture to ""bad"" picture rate?. I recently got into photography as a hobby so I can have a new reason revisit some of my favorite hikes and to have better pictures after traveling, and after a reviewing my pictures from trip where I took about 1,000 shots in eight days, it seems like I have one ""good"" picture per maybe every 30 taken at best. + + +I noticed that automatic mode on my D3500 seems to really produce some low quality pictures, at least compared to what I actually want to see. Using manual mode just takes me too long right now and turns a two hour hike into a four hour hike, so I use it sparingly. + + +How bad were your ""good picture yields"" when you first started?",0 +6908,"Asking to edit wedding photos?. Hello! + +We recently received our wedding photos back and they're beautiful! However our flowers are wilted in some of our photos and our florist had missed a large section of flowers in our arch. I noticed these things the day of, but I wanted to be gracious and not make a fuss. I contacted someone who specializes in Advanced Photoshop to see if they'd correct these issues for me and they said I needed permission from my photographer. I was surprised by this, but after doing my research I understand why they still own the copyrights. I respect it. So I reached out and still haven't heard anything back yet. My question is whether or not this is offensive to ask, considering it's not a service she offers? + +How likely would you be to say no to a client who's requesting this? We hired a professional photographer, paid $4,000 for 5 hours of coverage, and have done everything to be as easy going and gracious as we could be as clients. I'm scared she'll say no, because at that point everything that other vendors missed the mark on will be forever on film. Which originally wasn't a huge deal for me because I kept telling myself ""we can edit out those things later. It's not a huge deal "" But now I'm worried I'm stuck with photos that I'm not 100% happy with. Her composition and tone is great, however, there's not much you can do to fix wilting or missing flowers. Just looking for some inside information from people in the industry. Thank you so much!",0 +6909,DPReview TV – The Best & Worst Cameras and Lenses of 2022. ,0 +6910,"I like shooting at noon, on bright sunny days. I enjoy the challenge. What photography “rules” do you break intentionally or disagree with. I think it’s because I read so many times to avoid shooting at noon in hard lighting conditions that got me intrigued. It’s my most convenient time of day to shoot. I also love being able to manipulate objects with light and shadow to bring out textures and different color values.",0 +6911,"When doing street photography or taking a photo of a scene with people in it, do you just take the photo or do you ask people first if they’re okay to be in it?. For example, taking a photo of a guy smoking on the side of the street. Or taking a photo of a full gas station with people filling up their cars. I would assume some people would get mad at you or start questioning you after taking a photo of them. + +In that one photo of the examples I linked, if someone were to take a random photo of my kids I would feel a little weird. + +Just wanted to see you all’s take on this and how I should start approaching it. + +[Examples](https://imgur.com/a/b6ytv1L)",0 +6912,"Portrait photography gives me panic attacks, how do I get comfortable enough to take photos of people?. I’m new to photography, but my social anxiety is keeping me from being able to do my project for class, which is to take at least 40 portraits. 5 were supposed to he strangers, and I already decided to just not do those shots because every time I try to take pictures of strangers on campus i get panic attacks and depressed and can’t do it. And even with people im close with, I just feel extremely uncomfortable asking to take their picture. Like I feel like im asking for too much intimacy. The only time i can get portraits is if its friends i know very well and they dont know im taking the photo. + +How do i not get anxiety attacks when taking pictures of strangers and even family/friends?",0 +6913,"An ode to big cameras. Rest in peace, chunky DSLRs of the past. + +I will miss your healthy grip and well-balanced heft. + +Your ergonomics suited my large hands + +Your weight helped keep my hand tremors in check + +Now all we're left with is itty bitty mirrorless cameras + +Made for ""average"" hands + +Tell me, Nikon, Sony, Canon, and Fuji + +Where the hell is my pinky supposed to go?! + +​ + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/jlsdrq01q9p91.png?width=2072&format=png&auto=webp&s=c451a62e670f0d716df5ede8507a4369c76a0c72",0 +6914,Canon Ambassador Tasneem Alsultan on breaking gender stereotypes through photography. ,0 +6915,"How do I politely ask clients not to post my photos with a filter?. I’m mainly a product photographer but I do a handful of weddings and family portraits. I’ve noticed that some people like to post my finished photos with a filter over them (like an Instagram filter). I don’t know if I’m overreacting but I really don’t like when people do that because it looks like the filtered photo is my final edit. I understand that once the client has paid me they have ownership of the images so I might be overreacting, but I cringe at the idea of someone seeing a filtered photo assuming it’s my edit and thinking it’s bad. + +Does this bother anyone else and if so how do you handle it?",0 +6916,"Putting together a portfolio and I need some help. So I’ve been doing photography for a couple years at this point. I have shot both digital and film, and I think I’m pretty good in my own opinion. I really want to do something in photography as a career, so I’m putting together a portfolio of some of my present and previous work. I’m currently using a professional Instagram to compile my photos together, making it easier to share with people who are interested. + +As I move forward and start to take pictures new pictures for my portfolio, should I be aiming for specific things to highlight in my photography? I currently do a lot of nature photography, I’m wondering if there isn’t certain subject matter that people are looking for in a portfolio. Open to any suggestions. + +Sorry if this is all a bit vague. I don’t really know exactly what type of photography I want to do yet. I love it all.",0 +6917,"Please help me get out of sunrise/sunset only thinking!. I love hiking up a mountain before sunrise to snap the sun breaking through. + +I love moody sunsets and golden hour for landscapes. + +Basically every good photo I’ve taken in the last five years is at these times. + +I can’t even see the point in taking my camera out when not at these times. When I do the shots look flat and boring and would just be better at sunrise or sunset. + +What do you all think? Can you inspire me to take my camera out on my next midday walk? Thanks!",0 +6918,"Imposter Syndrome. Hi guys. First of all, I want to wish everyone a great day. Now my little story: in December last year I went to photography school and successfully graduated from it. Since then, I have accumulated somewhere around 16-17 photo shoots, but I have a problem - impostor syndrome. I can't upload these works anywhere, because most of them were made during lessons at a photography school. I cannot 100% consider them mine, because the model, light, image, clothes and poses were not chosen by me. I just caught the moment, chose the angle and pressed the button. Can I still consider myself a photographer and these photos are mine? Your thoughts? Sorry for the mistakes, English is not my native language. + +UPD: +Thanks to each and every one of you guys! Thanks for the kind words and incredible support. It's amazing to get so many good words, emotions and advice from strangers and it's very inspiring! I hope that each of you is well and you are in a great mood!",0 +6919,"A question for professional photographers about copyright.. Hi there, I need some input from professional photographers regarding copyright ownership of photos taken. + +So my fiance and I are planning our wedding and have found a great photographer that we want to book. Reading through their contract I noticed that it states that all copyright ownership stays with the photographer, and that we are only allowed personal non-commercial use of them. + +Is this a standard clause in photography? + +I used to be a freelance graphic designer and when I did a job for someone (poster, business cards, album cover etc) those works were then owned and copyright to the client (I retained permission to use them for marketing and promotional purposes only). + +This doesn't seem to be the case here though. Now I'm not planning on printing and selling pictures of our wedding (I mean honestly who cares about *other* peoples wedding photos), it's more the principle that I'm paying for a service/product and I feel like I should have ownership of it. + +Am I out of line here? Any feedback and opinions would be welcome. + +​ + +Edit: I'm in Australia + +Edit: thanks everyone for your input, it was very helpful. It looks like this is standard for creative work and done to help protect the artworks/photos. + +They're a great photographer so we'll definitely be using them.",0 +6920,"How to regain confidence in our own eyes when shooting photos ?. I went in a photoclub for almost a year, and discovered many ways and techniques to shoot photos, and at the same time, I discovered my flaws... +Now I'm lost, I don't know anymore what I like to shoot (landscape, streetphoto,...), all my photos seem so lame... +Have you already felt the same ? How did you regain confidence ?",0 +6921,"A friendly reminder. To actually print your images. There are many photos that I have shown friends and family that haven't always gauged the reaction I thought they may, after showing them again when spending the money to get them printed professionally I was met with the reaction of 'You took these?' multiple times from the same people I had shown the photo on a screen. Don't let those wonderful photos sit on a hard drive, get them into the world!",0 +6922,"Ego. When I started getting complimented and people reaching out to work with me, I started to believe that I might be able to be successful. In the beginning of my learning, I was very uncertain and insecure. Whenever I would get a compliment I would never accept it. + +I'm still young and I'm very afraid of my ego getting ahead of me. I've met some photographers from my community and they seemed so self-centred and above everyone else. I just don't want to turn like them. I'm from the fashion industry. + +Sometimes I can feel myself being influenced by this community, and I definitely don't want to be like this because I would like to keep my humbleness. + +Does anyone ever felt like this in their career?",0 +6923,"Chasing perfection in photography. Lately I’ve been going back to many of my photos that I posted on my Instagram and Twitter page and finding small “imperfections” that I feel like I could have made changes to when editing the picture. Like many of the photographers, I am really heavy on editing my pictures in post production. For e.g - while they might seem good to me in the the moment, I always feel like I could’ve made a picture- cooler/warmer, less saturated and cropped it differently. + +Have any of you faced similar dilemmas or doubted yourself when looking at a picture in retrospect?",0 +6924,"An attempt to guilt me into a free photoshoot…WWYD?. Alright, so I’m an amateur photographer. I’ve been shooting for a couple years but mostly Motorsports and animals. Earlier this year, I took photos of a girls horse (let’s call her E) and she referred me to a friend of hers (let’s call her L) last month who wanted photos for her kids birthday. I said that’s absolutely fine but I haven’t shot groups of people so…kind of a get what you pay for thing, and this things free for a reason. + +She said that’s fine, got in touch with L and asked her what she was thinking. She said she wanted a group photo session of her daughter and large group of friends, and I said I can do that, and asked the date. She said ‘either the 22nd or 29th’ and I said ‘okay just let me know’. Next day I followed up, asked her to have her kid make a Pinterest board as well to give me an idea of what they want the photos to look like. She said she would, and then I didn’t hear from her. I work a 50 hour job and I have 11 animals and travel a lot for family and work, so I was slammed and didn’t think much about the shoot pst that, knowing I had full intentions to do it but not thinking about the undecided date she had. + +I get a text from her TWO days ago saying ‘we still on your schedule for this saturday?’ I was frustrated because she acted like we did decide on a date, despite her never giving me one. I understand I should have followed up as well though so I was going to change my plans for her and make sure I still got her in, but I also would have preferred ‘Sorry I never got the date to you, is this Saturday okay?’ Small things, so I was going to move on and slipped a disc in my back which put me in the doctors office on heavy drugs so I didn’t immediately respond to her. I get a message from E saying ‘are you doing the photoshoot for L??????’ To which I also didn’t immediately respond. When I finally felt better I did message E first and said ‘hey! Sorry-wasn’t sure if we decided on the 22nd or 29th, let me just double check! I’m sure I can fit you in.’ ‘We are all good for this Saturday!’ And then I responded to L saying ‘my apologies for the late response; I’ve been at the doctors and was bedridden. We hadn’t decided on a date so I wanted to make sure I had space for her Saturday. I just messaged her.’ I receive back ‘you need to let us know asap or we will find somebody else.’ I informed her I will, however I do expect to be respected and treated with patience as she informed me late what date she wanted as well.’ E said ‘this is extremely unprofessional. You should’ve asked for a date first thing when she contacted you instead of leaving them in the dust. This woman would have got you so many contacts-she knows many people. She’s also a surgeon who runs 50 different surgeon facilities. I’m telling her she is finding somebody else because you let her down.’ Oh lord Jesus. + +I responded ‘I did actually request a date, L gave me two and I asked her to let me know which she ends up picking. I don’t appreciate the way you’re speaking to me, it is just as much her responsibility to get her dates picked. If you prefer finding somebody else, that is fine with me, but don’t tell me I let her down because you picked somebody else-I already told her I’d be there to do it. You seem to be the one letting her down now.’ Immediately I get the response ‘I’m so sorry I won’t even be there I’m not even involved in this photoshoot I am just protective of these kids, they have had terrible lives and deserve this photoshoot, please do it for them I won’t be there at all you won’t see me but you really need to be better about following up so you don’t let people down.’ + +I absolutely don’t want kids to be punished for some random friend of moms so I think I’ll do the shoot, and I need to set a reminder in the future to call a person two weeks after our initial convo to get a set date, but I don’t really know how to respond to this situation. I suppose since it’s a friend that I now know isn’t even involved at all I should just say ‘I’m handling this with the subject.’ Maybe? + + + +Update: So I text L yesterday morning saying I can do Saturday at 10am (which is the time we talked about). I hadn’t heard from her before bed so assumed it was all off at that point…I got a text from her just now at 11am saying to be at a completely new location, not the one we agreed on, at 5pm tonight, a completely different time. I’m baffled. + + +Update 2: I told L that I would not be able to fit her in at the new time and new location due to the same day changes, and that I would need a more advanced warning. She responded that she always planned a sunset shoot (this was never said-I looked through our very small number of texts and I was correct), and that I had let them down and she will never use my services, and I am a disappointment. I said sounds great have a fantastic day, lol. I don’t even have services yet, she was again getting this free and thinks she was doing me a favor. So glad I’m not wasting time there.",0 +6925,"How can I grow my photography circle as someone who didn't pursue photography or a related field in college?. I got into photography couple of years ago. Now I am 29 years old. My primary job is in tech. But I intend to spend more and more time on photography in the years to come, maybe get into videography but that is a different topic. However unlike my tech job, I don't know a lot of people in this field in real life. I post my pics on photography platforms and I get a lot of appreciation but I still feel like a lone wolf. + +I am a boudoir and fashion photographer and I travel a lot and most of my acquaintances are models that I shoot with. It would be good to know fellow photographers irl maybe even work together. I sometimes see photographers posting their shoots and usually they have a crew and it feels more enjoyable and social. + +It would also help me connect with people who share similar passions and talk about it with them. Right now most people I know are related to tech and so there are rarely any people that I can discuss this with irl. Would appreciate any ideas and suggestions. Thanks!",0 +6926,"Nervous about my first ever photoshoot. Sooo I recently got the opportunity to take my first ever photoshoot. + +I am 0% photogenic, I am quite an introvert as well soo Idk what I am going to do. + +They want a stranger things season 4 styled photoshoot and they needed someone with specific characteristics, anyway I will end up doing Eddie Munson’s character. + +This is not even a gig , a photographer posted it in a group of casting I was in when I was paying people to help me with a small project and saw this post and well here I am. + +I don’t know how to pose , they want me to make specific shots and what not, idk how to get rid of the nerves , I am fairly self conscious tbh. + +The reason I did this in the first place is to put myself a bit more out there and to get out of my comfort zone. + +EDIT: It went well , I personally don’t like the few pics I had a chance to look but I think its my self-conscious ass since the photographer said they where okay and I overheard her wife saying It looked cool in some shots. + + +They will email them to me throughout next week, thanks for everyone’s advice, deeply appreciated.",0 +6927,"Always check and double check your settings (and just in case, read the manual thrice)!. Feeling just a little bit annoyed. Went out for a nice walk with the family earlier and went home with some pretty decent pictures. When we got home I went to import them and start editing and saw that they were all jpeg. Now, this isn't a humongous issue, just an annoyance. The thing is, though, I always shoot in RAW+JPEG. + +I don't know if this is unique to the EOS RP or not, but if you decide you want to mess around with HDR, it will automatically set your output to L JPEG and turn off RAW output. Just annoyed. Little rant over. Have a wonderful weekend, peeps.",0 +6928,"Struggling with ethics. Context: I reconnected with a good friend, and we were talking about politics. Something that stuck with me was when we talked about people who were left behind by both political parties. + +I decided that this was a project that I wanted to pursue. + +Scrolling through the internet, I saw some posts and lots of comments discouraging photographing people who aren’t as fortunate and street photography in general. + +Then, I see the Americans by Robert Frank and India by Steve McCurry and feel inspired + +Edit: Below, I said I took photo of someone on the street. This was taken while in a flow state walking through a city. Made me think about ethics of photography as I hadn’t really thought about it very much at that point. I didn’t take the photo to be a part of a potential project + +Then, I did some research online about the ethics of photography. I would like some additional information on how you choose who to photograph and who not to. + +I chose this subject because I wanted to pursue something I felt strongly about. I felt I would get nowhere photographing something I didn’t. Maybe I will change subject before starting but ethics is something I should definitely brush up on before pursuing any street photography.",0 +6929,"How did you get into photography?. For me, it was my mother and aunties who loved taking pictures when they were younger. It wasn’t until my early 20s that I began messing around with Point & Shoots. Now, though still a hobbyist, I shoot with just about any camera I can get my hands on.",0 +6930,"How often do you shoot on auto?. Hello, thanks for taking the time to read. I have a Lumix S5, some quality glass, and I always find myself resorting to auto unless I’m going for something specific. I have captured some insane shots, but the two that stand out to me as the best were both shot on auto. + +Is this uncommon? Am I a “fake” photographer? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts.",0 +6931,"What questions would you ask an extremely successful photographer/filmmaker?. Emphasis on the extremely. + +I am about to meet someone that's directed and produced many of the David Attenborough documentaries. I'm buying a second-hand lens from him. + +I don't know how best to use this presented opportunity, but I don't want to overdo it and be a pest. But I also don't want just to turn up and be like, ""yeah, those docos are pretty sick"". + +I'm feeling a bit star struck lol",0 +6932,"Music/event/presumably lots of other types of photographer too - include a portfolio when pitching yourself to a client!!. I wanted to put the title in caps because I cannot reiterate this enough. + +I work on major festivals and events and we get quite a lot of photographers emailing in seeing if we're looking for photogs. Normally we are, as most events, especially larger festivals, have a team of ""official"" photographers we pay for, and I assume this is the case for all sort of events from sports, to conferences, to whatever. + +Yet 99% of the time the email ***doesn't include a link to their portfolio*** and often also includes spiels of information about their ""passion"" for events and also often a long list of the equipment they use. + +So a few handy points I hope will help people out as I imagine many people on here are finding their feet and looking to get work shooting events - + +1. ***INCLUDE A PORTFOLIO LINK!!!*** Like I say, can't make that clear enough, that's literally all we care about. Someone could send a link to a portfolio and a subject line that simply says ""Looking for photographers?"" and *nothing* else, and if I click on it and the photos are good, I'll email them back for more info. I have employed photogs who have sent initial emails like this before. +2. We don't care about your background. If your photos are decent and you're not a psychotic axe murderer who's going to storm into the artist village and start killing DJs, that's all we care about. Your passion for photography, how much you want to build a solid career, how you fell off your bike when you were 9, are all irrelevant. Past experience is largely irrelevant too - we just want to see evidence of it in your portfolio. ""A picture is worth a thousand words"" REALLY does apply here. +3. We don't care what equipment you use. A lot of people include detailed lists of all their lenses, even just a short explanation of what gear they use. I'm a photographer and I don't care. We've had decent photogs turn up a prosumer DSLR and a kit lens and take shots the promoter has used as the main photo for marketing campaigns for the following year's festival. We also have plenty of guys (normally older local newspaper photographers who've been doing local news shooting for decades) who turn up with tens of thousands worth of lenses and multiple pro bodies, and their photos are awful and arguments with the local newspaper editor ensue over approval for use. Furthermore, at one event I work on for example, the actual decision on which photographers we hire is made by the head of marketing, who while a lovely person, can barely operate a point and shoot, let alone know what a Nikon 14-24 f/2.8 is. They do know if the shots look good though, that's all that matters. +4. Don't worry if you're not Rukes or one of the other big name photogs and your portfolio isn't quite up to the top-tier level. We can tell if you have potential and in the past I've hired guys who have been ""decent enough"" but their experience at events (both actually shooting and getting editing tips from other photogs, often some of the best in the world who are more than decent when it comes to sharing ""secrets"" with younger less experienced photographers) means they've massively improved over the years and now make decent money travelling with artists. We accept that everyone has to start somewhere. EDIT as a few have asked - an Instagram page is fine. Yes IG compresses and crops photos, but anyone who is decent at marketing or PR, even if they're not a photog themselves, realises that IG does that and can still see if you're decent. +5. Don't under-sell yourself. Yes, it's a real hot-potato in the photography world, and I have extensive experience on both sides. If you are good enough, and charge a fee, then you should make this clear. If you're taking the piss with how much you charge it's an obvious no, but don't just go in with an offer of a freebie either. Yes, budget is *always* limited and we aren't just lying to exploit you, so we will often say, quite truthfully, that we have spent our photographer budget for the year but we're more than happy to sort hotel, travel, and food if they want to come along still. I know it's a big debate among photographers, and yes I know many people think people like me (as a photographer) aren't helping the problem, but I've shot massive events and clubs in Ibiza, and had an amazing time saving literally thousands on what it would cost for me to get tickets, getting full backstage access often with free beer (itself a massive saving given Ibiza prices!) on top of what a normal paying punter would get, for no actual payment. I certainly don't regret it and it has given me my career, but I do understand that working for free is something many, quite rightly, refuse to do, so if you do charge, just tell us. We'll let you know the situation. + +There's probably more, but questions, comments, discussion on this, all welcome!",0 +6933,"Asking as a client: How long should it take to get photos back?. I'm more of an amateur hobbyist. I took photography classes several years ago and my instructor always suggested a two-week turnaround time to release the finished edited photos back to a client so I'm not sure if that's usually the standard. I recently hired a photographer to take photos of my baby for her birthday (which was March 11th). The photoshoot was on February 26th and I chose my favorites out of the unedited gallery on the same day. The photographer said she would have the photos done by the following Wednesday as she was having surgery that day and wanted to have them done beforehand. That Wednesday came and went, and still no photos. No problem though, I was fine with that and only hoped to have the photos by March 11th for my baby's birthday. I still hadn't received the photos by the 11th though so I asked if I could have any photos and she told me I could download one of them that she shared on her Facebook page. She was apologetic and said she was working on them that day and would have them done by the end of the weekend of the 11th. I told her no rush since I understand how rough it can be to recover from surgery. Now it's March 25th (nearly a month later) and I still don't have any of the photos and I'm wondering if I should ask again or if I would be nagging at this point? I don't mean to be impatient.I was hoping to include prints of the photos in the thank you cards I'm going to send out for my baby's birthday gifts. I also had to pay $650 up front for the whole shoot and I bought about 27 photos so I guess I'm getting a little anxious about that. I've also seen the photographer posting new photos from recent studio shoots so it would appear that she's now back at the studio and well enough to continue photographing new clients. Should I do or say anything at this point or would that make me a Karen of a client?",0 +6934,"Can muggers tell the difference between cheap/expensive cameras? Ie. Photography tips for staying safe in difficult times.. There has been a fair amount of violence lately and there are fairly regular gunshots, muggings, etc as well as at least one recent homicide in the neighborhood. + +Originally, I was planning on getting a Mirrorless or good DSLR but after being regularly harassed, followed, filmed by harassers, and having some very close calls (all during reasonable hours with large, bulky clothing on, nothing expensive), I just don't think it's a good idea anymore, especially because I am Asian, child sized, and female since if something happens the suggested plan is to throw my stuff in their direction and run. No, guns aren't an option. + +In general I've noticed people being significantly less ostentatious about displays of wealth, particularly as the year has gone on and even if it's not at all intentional like designer shoes or a bag, even if the DSLR I was planning on getting is the more affordable alternative to the Mirrorless I want, a professional looking camera is often ostentatiously expensive. + +So my backup idea was to get a cheap secondhand DSLR from Poshmark, Ebay, etc and use it to build skills until things get better but I doubt muggers or people who may target people with perceived wealth care much about the difference between a secondhand DSLR and a Z9 or Leica, etc. + +I really, really want to get to improve my photography skills, and it's basically the best time right now, ie. Before I can travel but not at the risk of my safety or life. How do you stay safe with your camera in dangerous times or areas where people experience a lot of difficulty? + +People who may be more likely to be targeted, how do you stay safe? + +Edit to add: While I appreciate everyone who's saying to move, staying on campus is the safest option until I graduate and there's a fair amount aof animosity/jealousy(?) towards the students from nearby neighborhoods. Tried commuting but things have been so bad in general (ie. anywhere but especially public transportation) that staying here is probably the safest bet. ",0 +6935,"What personal projects are you currently working on?. What project are you working on (or have worked on in the past) that you are doing just for yourself, not for a client or job? + +I've been a hobby photographer for a few years now and I've been thinking about starting a long term project but I wanted to come to this sub first to get some inspiration.",0 +6936,"What does ‘budget’ mean to you?. I really hope this is okay as a stand alone thread, but when I search for ‘budget’ cameras I’m always amazed at how it varies wildly from person to person. Yes, it’s all about the individuals earnings and status in life, but that doesn’t stop some YouTubers touting £1000 as a ‘budget’ camera. + +Personally, ‘budget’ to me would mean somewhere below £250, which is going to get you a fairly decent starter camera, especially if you buy used. + +But where do *you* stand on the whole ‘budget’ market?",0 +6937,"Do you have other life events responsibilities that limits your hobby?. I've been thinking about it lately. Not covid, not just myself but also others I know. We do a bit of photography on the sides but often we just have things with life that takes precedence. How do you fair in this regard? For myself, I just have to set aside time where I could do some photography for an hour or two, or if we head to the beach or waterfront I might have 20mins for a wander with my camera. + + +Often it is just work, family commitments, kids and then it's people that we know like the summer backyard BBQs we are in the summer now (southern hemisphere) and people I know anyway tend to just bring their cameras with other things they are doing like family summer vacations, maybe that ski trip like you guys now in the northern hemisphere, various family road trips etc. Plus people have other interests like fishing, beach, beer and wine festivals etc. + +​ + +Like to hear your comments and cheers.",0 +6938,"Making sure my photographer (family member) enjoys my wedding?. I didn't realize just how much went into photographing a wedding or how the professionals usually do them when I asked my sister's mother to do it for me. She denied the offer of payment, stating that she'd be happy to do it as a gift, but after finding that they usually do this in pairs and exactly how much wedding photographers usually make, I want to do everything I can to make sure she actually enjoys the day. + +First of all, since she has refused proper payment, I want to insist I pay her travel and boarding expenses. How do I approach this without making it seem like I am spurning her gift? Is it likely that she would honestly prefer payment and is just trying to help me with money at the expense of herself? + +Secondly, I want her in some of the pictures and I don't want her spending the entire day taking them. I want her to enjoy herself and leave feeling tired from a day of fun, not from a day of work. What things can I do for her to make sure this happens? + +I don't want to rescind my asking her, because she seemed like she genuinely wants to do it, but I also couldn't stand for her to not enjoy herself. I had initially expected to pay her for her time, the offer to do it for free hadn't even crossed my mind. I asked her because I love her work, I trust her, and a stranger buzzing around me all day at my wedding would make me nervous. Now that I know what I know, I almost regret asking to begin with. Shared experiences and discussions of photographers who have been in her position are very welcome. I would love the insight into what made those experiences good or bad so I can do my absolute best for her. + +Edit: She has shot weddings before and her work is far more than good enough for me. I'm not super picky about the pictures, the sentimental value of having someone I love behind the camera would more than make up for any percieved flaws. I would never criticize her work, allow others to do so, or allow her to feel less than valued. I love this woman and she treats me like one of her own. + +Update and conclusion: So, after speaking with her and having a nice long discussion about it, she does actually want to shoot the wedding. As it turns out she is a bit like myself and has to force herself to be social at events. Her biggest concern was that her camera may not be up to the task if we decide to do it in a lower light setting, so we arranged that I will pay to rent the camera of her choice if that is the case. She will have a couple of assistants, so she won't be working alone, and she has a friend who may also attend to take the shots that include her. We're going to sit down and make a list of the photos we absolutely want taken, most of which will be of the ceremony and right after, but before the reception. I'm keeping these to a minimum and I will arrange someone else to collect people for them so she doesn't have to deal with any stress that might entail. + +During the reception she'll take just a few pictures, the first dance, parent dances, and cake cutting. We will be planning those for a certain time block at the beginning, so once she puts the camera down she doesn't have to pick it back up. The rest of the reception she'll just take candid photos with her cell when she feels like it, no different than any other family event we attend. All in all I intend to keep her more professional photography to two hours maximum, preferably less, and the rest be just what she normally does for fun. + +As far as editing goes, we'll decide beforehand which photos she'll edit, probably just the ones likely to make their way to my walls (I can only think of 8, so not many). If she decides later to do further edits, I will insist on paying her for that time. + +Due to the natural inclination of people to take pictures with their phones during events like these, we are going to encourage it of the guests and request that they send all of the pictures to me after. We believe that between everyone who takes them for fun, most of the event will get captured by one person or another. + +She has agreed that we will talk closer to the wedding date about my at least paying for her travel and food. My next step will be getting with my sister to find a thank you gift that really shows my love and appreciation of her. + +Thank you everyone for your insight and sharing your experiences! Thank you also for giving me a sounding board, it's really helped me put things into perspective. I'll keep these comments in mind as we move forward to give her the best experience possible.",0 +6939,"What’s the most spectacular natural light you’ve photographed in?. Like the title says, what’s the most beautiful/spectacular natural light you’ve had the chance to capture with your camera? Or wish you had been able to photograph? + +I haven’t experienced any very incredible light, but I live in the Swedish countryside with lots of forest, hills and lakes. The golden hour light makes everything look so magical in the summer/early autumn. + +Edit: I really enjoy reading all the replies and looking at your pictures, thanks!",0 +6940,"Reflections on the meaning of ""take a picture"".. After almost 40 years without a camera, I recently bought a Nikon 3500 with the idea to get back into photography. I used to take lots of B/W, develop everything myself, etc. This is my first attempt at digital photography. Not quite understanding what ""post-processing"" entailed, I signed up for an online photoshop class. I know I'm older, and all that, but nothing quite prepared me for this. The last few nights I lied awake wondering if being a ""good photographer"" (which I thought of as creative vision plus understanding of camera optics), now really means knowing how to use software. I was really shocked to watch the teacher take a photo and totally transform it via the computer to a completely different photo. It's caused me to wonder now, when I see a photo I think is stunning, how much of it was photographer's patience and vision, and how much was done in the living room on a laptop. I'm doing it myself too. In this class, I removed people from in front of a building in a photo. Now I am wondering - what did it mean to take that picture? If someone see it do they wonder how I found this crowded square empty of people? Or do they wonder about the skills it takes to remove people from the original photo? There is no answer to this, it's just my wandering thoughts. I am embracing this new photography journey, and also reminiscing of the days of my Nikon FM and a roll of Kodak Tri-X. + +End of rant. Change is the only constant.",0 +6941,"In praise of older cameras. I was invited to a friends birthday party. I decided to do a simple setup( 2 lights) photo booth. Since alcohol would be involved, I didn’t want to take my latest and greatest camera and lens. I decided I would use my old, canon 5D mk 1 with a 50. + +I had forgotten how good the files looked. It was also a joy to not have wait forever for Lightroom to download and render the image files. I have some other fun shoots coming up…. This camera may be coming out of retirement for these as well.",0 +6942,"[Canon R3] The new Benchmark. As is tradition, my almost yearly Canon body review thread. + +I'm one of the lucky few that got a camera from the first batch of deliveries and of course lucky enough that I can afford it. Given that I'm predominantly shoot wildlife and birds this was a no brainer for me. + +TL;DRs at each section for those who don't like to read and some sample pictures. Note: Images are not edited beside default lightroom settings and ""Faithful* camera profile, WB is also in camera. All pictures taken with a Monopod + Gimbal. 100% crops are screenshots from lightroom. + +___ + +^(Given that I rarely update my online presence nor that I make no money from photography and I just shoot for myself: I hope this can stay up, this is purely informational for those few curious people around here.) + +#Eye Control + +**TL;DR: Works, it reads my mind and Canon better not remove this ever from their pro camera line up, worth every penny** + +Let's start with the most anticipated feature. And yes, I call it a feature and not just a gimmick. It works, I have dark eyes so no issues with registration. After a few calibrations it works fine. It's not always perfect but as long as you get it into the ballpark where it should focus, it will catch onto animal/face/car or an object that stands out. + +It **is** revolutionary. If Canon doesn't keep this around for all their pro cameras, I'll be pissed. I haven't moved the focus point with the joystick or the smart controller (nor the touch screen). It's that good. It could only get better if it read my mind. I'm almost at a point where I will disable the crosshair because I don't need it, because I trust the camera to know where I'm looking at. + +Best feature ever. + +Given the high percentage of dark eye colored people in Japan, I'm not surprised that this feature has some issues with bright eye colored people, I'd argue this will get fixes in future updates. + +#Image Quality + +**TL;DR: Perfectly fine 24MP sensor with very good high ISO performance, no rolling shutter for real use cases** + +Since the R5 has basically beaten all FF cameras with the highest dynamic range^[1](https://www.photonstophotos.net/Charts/PDR.htm), no one talks about DR any more ;p But as is tradition, we Canon fanboys don't care. The sensor is fine, I don't pixel peep and I don't do DR tests on my images. But for those who want to see them here are a few shots with 100% crops at challenging lighting conditions: + +[1/800s f/8.0 ISO 20000 @ 1000mm](https://i.imgur.com/L6z5B2E.jpeg) - [[100%]](https://i.imgur.com/3xonmxi.png) + +[1/160s f/8.0 ISO 6400 @ 1000mm](https://i.imgur.com/QRg7DRK.jpeg) - [[100%]](https://i.imgur.com/aTTLiRe.jpeg) + +[1/200s f/8.0 ISO 12800 @ 1000mm](https://i.imgur.com/TtfuDvw.jpeg) - [[100%]](https://i.imgur.com/EBR2WnJ.jpeg) + +Nothing to complain about. Some lower ISO shots: + +[1/400s f/4.0 ISO 640 @ 500mm](https://i.imgur.com/8vfjsGU.jpeg) - [[100%]](https://i.imgur.com/3vPaSsD.png) + +[1/250s f/4.0 ISO 1000 @ 500mm](https://i.imgur.com/Yf07bms.jpeg) - [[100%]](https://i.imgur.com/XP4AuqR.jpeg) + +[1/100s f/5.6 ISO 500 @ 700mm](https://i.imgur.com/TrfV667.jpeg) - [[100%]](https://i.imgur.com/rz3A6fL.jpeg) + +So let's talk about the elephant in the room. ONLY 24 MP. You might care and that's fine, you can skip this part. + +Not to get into the weeds but lenses will never resolve the sensors, not a 50MP nor a 24MP, there is always a loss in sharpness. That loss is way larger on high MP sensors than smaller ones. I looked up the DXO values (yeah I know) for my lens on a 50MP sensor it will resolve around 30MP, on a 24MP (I had to extrapolate since there wasn't one in the DB) it is around 19-20MP. Note: the 50MP sensor they used is the 5DSR which has NO AA filter. So what can we take from this? The loss in MP will be significantly higher for higher resolution sensors, to be blunt and slightly imprecise: tons of useless data. But long story short. Here is the sharpest picture I could find from my R5 vs one from the R3 enlarged to 45MP as a 100% crop. Spot the difference. + +[One](https://i.imgur.com/u2UFlwX.jpeg) - [Two](https://i.imgur.com/fS6tc3Q.jpeg) + +Is there a difference? Sure. Enough to bother? No. + +#30 FPS + +**TL;DR: Crazy but most of the time pure overkill, but perfect for my use cases** + +I really need a quick way to switch between full 30 FPS and slower FPS settings because you can't take pictures fast enough without going through 2-3 shots: + +[Lightroom Library View](https://i.imgur.com/HtyZkKJ.jpeg) + +Trying to taking single pictures, not happening with 30FPS and trying to avoid camera shake by slowly taking the finger off the trigger doesn't help either. Adding to that, most situations even when you need burst 15-20FPS is enough. Humans don't move that fast and you just end up with 20 shots that look more or less the same. + +I see tons of culling in my future ;p + +There are some use cases however. You can find the ""perfect"" shot where everything lines up. When you take 10 shots in a fraction of a second, one of the shots will just look better than the other. If it's slight motion blur, camera shake or eyes open/closed, I noticed this myself already. + +BUT when there is action, it's worth every penny. I didn't do any measurements, but most reviewers claim it is 30FPS no matter what. I didn't find a setting to prefer ""in focus"" over ""FPS"" that only exists for non-servo AF which is kinda weird. I did notice slight slow downs when there is no focus at all. + +[full 30FPS](https://i.imgur.com/3z19Hvz.jpeg) + +[full 30FPS](https://i.imgur.com/Rfn27C6.jpeg) + +Even if 50% of those shots were out of focus, still tons to pick from. But let's talk about Auto Focus to put this into perspective. + +#Auto Focus + +**TL;DR: Snaps better than my 1DX II, sticks better to the subject than my R5 and does it all at 30 FPS** + +I only have a single RF lens (70-200 f/2.8) so it's hard to know if there is more potential there. Canon claims there is, and from this single data point that I have, I tend to agree with them. The 70-200 snaps. Infinity to close range is fractions of a second and it doesn't yoyo, it sticks. My wildlife lens is the older EF 500mm f/4.0 II so it doesn't have the new motors but given the larger battery, the camera can drive the focus faster. + +And boy does it do a good job (choice frames in a series, 100% crops on the focus point): + +[1](https://i.imgur.com/PdpAUaT.jpeg) - [2](https://i.imgur.com/Vx7Uhsi.png) - [3](https://i.imgur.com/7clPFMv.jpeg) + +note that I included the border of the last frame, it was easily keeping focus so close to the border. + +These two shots were taken moments apart using the Eye Control to switch between them: + +[One](https://i.imgur.com/a1PNptu.jpeg) - [Two](https://i.imgur.com/6vggfWe.jpeg) + +Timestamp is 1 sec apart but I'm certain I took the shots within a second. + +It's really crazy: Finds eyes on every animal I shot today and tracking is spot on. I'd say Cats + Dogs will be easy work for this camera. Small birds are another thing entirely. The kingfisher from before, well it couldn't track it: + +[Crude Photoshop stacking](https://i.imgur.com/ybjo9ew.jpeg) + +There is a visible gap, either me going off the trigger or the AF couldn't keep up and thus didn't take a picture. +There could be many reasons why it failed: + +1. bad AF settings (I didn't adjust the default AUTO mode for now, it's a new mode which detects the use case and adjust AF settings, so I had to try it out) + +2. Old lens with a 1.4x + +3. Or the camera just can't comply. Small birds flying partially at camera at close range and bad lighting conditions is just an edge cases most reviewers never test, so here it is, maybe the camera, maybe me. We'll see in the future. + +#Overall + +**TL;DR: Best camera I've used, Eye Control is the future unless I can implant a chip into my brain** + +Many reasons why this Camera is perfect for me: Fanboy, sunken cost fallacy and GAS. I like the small image files, editing flies by. I had a blast going through all the image and it becomes harder and harder to find the out of focus images to delete... It's clearly better than the R5 and 1DXII is no competition, luckily enough the batteries from the 1DXII work like a charm for this camera. Eye Control is a joy to use even though I only used it for 2 days I trust it blindly (no pun intended). + +Also: 1300+ shots today and slight above 50% battery still left. + +#Verdict + +10/10 + +★★★★★ + +#Gallery + +Edited images + +* [1/250s f/4.0 ISO 1000](https://i.imgur.com/Lm8SMYL.jpeg) + + *Lions were a bit tired and scuttled away when it started to rain* + +___ + +* [1/100s f/5.6 ISO 500](https://i.imgur.com/R0mu3CV.png) + + *IS works like a charm* + +___ + +* [1/200s f/8.0 ISO 25600](https://i.imgur.com/BrQRYxJ.png) + + *Noise somehow cleaned up nicely* + +___ + +* [1/200s f/8.0 ISO 12800](https://i.imgur.com/ZV6ML8Q.png) + + *Sometimes blurry feathers look nice* + +___ + +* [1/250s f/8.0 ISO 25600](https://i.imgur.com/e11bUEi.png) + + *Black birds are always tough, worked out good enough* + +___ + +* [1/160s f/8.0 ISO 6400](https://i.imgur.com/b4FM8fg.png) + + *Pretty eyes, never seen that before* + +___ + +* [1/800s f/8.0 ISO 20000](https://i.imgur.com/Wnzc8wE.png) + + *I got swarmed by sparrows, I think they thought I had food* + +___ + +* [1/2500s f/4.0 ISO 16000](https://i.imgur.com/D2wNGc2.png) + + *Not full sprint, but running directly towards me, all shots in this series were in focus* + +___ + +* [1/320s f/4.0 ISO 1000](https://i.imgur.com/gVVuMCl.png) + + *Family shot* + +___ + +* [1/800s f/4.0 ISO 3200](https://i.imgur.com/JkToIOC.png) + + *Taking in the morning air* + +___ + +* [1/2500s f/5.6 ISO 25600](https://i.imgur.com/roWCKwo.png) + + *Beautiful bird, now that I know where to find him, I'll sure be there again soon* + + +^(Note: lightroom introduced some weird red blotches in the background, not sure why, doesn't happen with Canons own software. Sadly not a lot of action shots, even though they are all in focus, the shots are too bad ;p Guess good cameras don't make good photographers ;p Also some shots are through fences which creates a messy bokeh, this is not the camera.) + +#AMA + +I'll answer any questions as soon as I can. + + +#EDIT + +* I just checked, PhotonsToPhoton now says the R3 is currently the dynamic range leader for FF cameras. Only being beaten by pixel shift modes. + + [DR really doesn't matter any more when Canon is on top...](https://i.imgur.com/hAWBxLz.png) + +* So there has been the critique brought up, that because Canon is cooking their Raws (which I don't like either) that's why they have more dynamic range. I may not be a sensor specialist but I worked with data, the moment you remove noise, you lose information, and when you lose information, you do not magically gain ""more"" range. + + One could argue that the information ""gained"" is fake and it just looks like data but is washed out noise. My theory is, Canon figured out how to remove noise from signal because the R6 and 1DXII are suspected to be the same sensor. Here are the DR charts: + + [Dynamic Range, 1DXII vs R6](https://i.imgur.com/v2QomkE.png) + + And here are DPReviews Dynamic range test shots. You can see more detail in the R6 than the 1DXII. Maybe it's better image processing, but I suspect, the raw noise reduction actually works: + + [Comparison](https://i.imgur.com/xM320pG.png)",0 +6943,"Teaching photography classes - advice. Hello! Recently someone reached out to me about me giving their son some lessons on photography. I said I could but that I’m no expert. I only really know the basics and put most of my time into the specific field of bird photography. He however is interested in some things like landscapes but is willing to learn anything a beginner needs to learn first. I’m going to try my best to help this kid, but I was wondering if anyone had any advice or input about how to teach people photography, especially younger people. And how I could structure the classes and so forth. I have started making some cheat sheets that I think could help him learn some concepts but if there’s anything else I can do I’d like to do that too. Thank you!",0 +6944,"Which was your first owned camera? Did you sell it?. Just curious about your first approach to photography. My first owned camera was a Canon 600D with standard lenses (18-55mm). Cost 600€. I did a looooot of photos with it, tried so hard to learn, and it lasted about 7 years till i sold it for 300€, and upgraded to Sony α7R III, and upgrades again a few years later... + +What's your story?",0 +6945,"How to manage feelings of “what’s the point?” when shooting. How to manage feelings of “what’s the point?” when shooting + +I’ve been doing photography for three years. + +I bought a camera recently and haven’t even picked it up since the purchase. Not even one shutter click. Seriously thinking about selling it. + +I’ve taken thousands of photos. And honestly, I haven’t really done anything with them. I don’t really even show them to anyone. Lately the amount of photos I take in a week or month has dwindled significantly. + +A few days ago my friend was showing me one of his friends Instagram pages, the guy does scenics, so I scrolled through, and this guy had obviously invested some time going through to some middle of no where wilderness taking these shots, had good gear, and when I looked at his likes, he had 10-20 likes on each picture. And I’m guilty of this too; I looked at his photos, and while they’re good, they’re not mind blowing. They looked like every other good scenic I’ve ever seen, and not because they’re bad, but because there is just so many mind blowing scenics I’ve had access to, and even with an eye like mine in which I saw the work involved to take and edit these photos, all I can feel was mild apathy, and I think that’s how most people feel about most photographs at this point, a medium that has been around for over a hundred years. And that’s how I feel about my photographs too, rarely do I see photographs and think “WOW” other then the greats we all talk about; but I wonder, is this a dead medium? Have all the greats come and gone? Is there space for more? I don’t know? + +Sure; you shouldn’t use likes to validate your work, sure, you should make art for the sake of making art, but it was sad that no one had noticed any of his work, which was good and that he had obviously put a lot of effort into. + +All I can think about is various negative things like. + +* “What’s the point? No one will see my photos? Even if I put them up somewhere just to share them no one will see them, and nothing is special about my photos and there are millions of photographers and heck even people with an iPhone who can take the same picture” + +* no one has the attention span or interest in anything i’ll ever do + +* there is a saturation of images in the world, even if something is good there are just soooo many photographs that yours won’t even get seen + +* Every image of every thing has already been taken, at this point I’m just recycling motifs of things. + +* Pure images no longer exist. Anytime I see a photo; it goes into the mental bin with other similar photographs, oh, here’s yet another picture with fog and a naked girl that is very attractive; here’s a scenic; here’s a bird, here’s picture of some pompous celebrity, here’s a picture of a cute dog / cat / baby. Perhaps it’s the internets fault. + +* Photos are a dead medium, video is what’s popular now. + +* No one needs photographers anymore, and whenever I offer to take a picture of someone they just say “I can take a picture of myself with my iPhone” + +* you can’t even put them up anywhere because all social media is video based/. Instagram moved towards reels and social media appeals to the lowest common denominator. + + +Still, I shoot for myself, I’ve always shot for myself. I have about 40k photos that I rarely go through or look at. But sometimes I wonder what’s the point, and I’m struggling a lot with that",0 +6946,"D3200 - Am I bad, is my lens bad, is my camera bad, or are smartphones just that much better?. To make a long story short, I'm feeling a little frustrated with my experience with my DSLR camera. It is just an entry-level Nikon D3200, an older camera (though from what I understand quite capable for an amateur) with the original kit lens. Thing is, I have taken a lot of time over the last year to get to know the camera and how to make use of the F stops, ISO settings and exposure times, I got myself a tripod and learned about a lot of fundamentals of taking photos and yet.. its still usually outclassed by a google Pixel 2 smartphone with HDR+ enabled. The phone can generally eek out more detail and clarity and does better with avoiding over and under exposing. I don't get it - it's a basic camera but the APS-C sensor is much larger, the optics (even though entry level) should be better than whats on an old smartphone, I'm making sure not to over or underexpose, I'm dialing in my focus as much as I can. Is this an optics thing, a user skill problem, or just.. how good modern image processing has become and is it making cameras a bad deal for beginners? Kinda sad that I've invested time and energy and interest into learning how to use these functions only to be easily out-shot by myself using auto / photo on an old smartphone :(",0 +6947,"Wedding photography - Is it bad to tell couples it's ""time"" to finish up?. If couples or friends keep wanting more and more photos and it's late (midnight), is it rude to just say ""It's time to pack up and go""? + +**""1 more photo"" they say.. that turns into 20 or 30.** + +***A lot of the time I've been in this situation where I'm meant to finish at say 11 or 12, and I end up leaving at 12:45 or 1....***",0 +6948,"What are your opinions on photography POV videos?. I'm curious how others feel about the POV video genre, such as [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J_pe2B9ygcY). Is it a passing fad or are these videos genuinely relaxing or helpful to others? If you're a fan, what are some of your favorites?",0 +6949,LensRentals blog—why manufacturers make a specific camera lens. ,0 +6950,"I printed a shot that I look and it looks dramatically less good on paper. How do I fix that?. Hey all, ran across a problem I haven't had before. + +Went through my photos and picked one I like to have framed. Put it on a thumb drive and took it down to the photo shop. + +File was a jpg. Photo shop was a basic 'corner store' where they have that boxy machine do all the prints. Just like a drug store or office place, but this one was small and does photos only. Came recommended on Reddit for the neighborhood. New place for me, the places I used to use have shut down. + +The print comes out looking very washed out and the colors are considerably less vibrant than the file on my computer. + +So, I think I know the reasons why- + +The monitor is lit where as the paper print is not. Still though, the colors might not be as 'bright' or illuminated. But they still should be colorful. They should still *have* color. Right? + +How my monitor is calibrated and how the photo store printer is calibrated are different. I get this. And for sure, it's likely that the store printer is more closely calibrated to 'actual' color than my monitor. I don't do photo processing on my monitor I just use it as a monitor. + +So my main question is what do I need to do to get what I see on paper to match more closely what I see on the screen? And fwiw, for sure I'd love the pictures to be more like what I see on the monitor. + +Do I need to go to a more advanced print shop where I can talk with them, have them pull it up on their screen, discuss elements of the print and then have them print it out? Slightly more expensive and a hassle time-wise, but doable. + +Briefly about me- I don't really edit photos. I used to shoot on film and never really made the transition. I play around a bit here and there but I don't really know what I'm doing and haven't learned. The photo I chose was unedited. + +The photo is a 5.65MB jpeg. ~~I believe it was taken with a Sony rx100 M6. If not then it was taken either with a phone or~~ The photo was taken with an older panasonic Lumix. + +I'm kinda at a loss here, I've never ran across this before. I have several pictures I've taken that I've liked enough to be framed. And I've always been happy with the prints. ~~But nothing from these new cameras. Everything else with either film, the lumix or a phone camera.~~ + +Any advice appreciated. + +**edit 4:** I'm working through the replies, thanks everyone for the advice! So far things seem to be breaking into 2, maybe 2.5 camps. + +Camp 1- Try a new print shop. This is probably what I will try first as this is the path of least resistance. And without getting into it, I'm not convinced the monitor is the problem. I'm ok with *some* difference between print and screen, but in this particular case it's dramatic. Essentially everything else is the same- Same camera, file type, monitor, etc. as other pics I've taken, have had printed and have been happy with. The one variable that definitely changed is the print shop. + +Camp 2- Learn color calibration and all that photo technical stuff. Definitely something that's good to know and to explore, and something that I should be getting into if I'm going to take this stuff seriously. And I like my photos enough, and have enough of them already printed and framed, to really take this more seriously. + +Camp 2.5 - Photo editing. Also something I haven't done and would be good to learn. Same as 'Camp 2'. + +**edit:** People are asking about color space. Unfortunately I don't know what that is. The properties-->details of the file say sRGB under Color Representation. I don't know if that's the same thing. + +**edit2:** after figuring out the camera where the photo came from, I realize that I've had prints from this camera before and have been happy. Eg- the only different factor here is my monitor and the print shop. The monitor is fine, I've never calibrated it but I'm not a monster, I know 'normal' colors when I see them. So maybe I should just try a different print shop. But still open to any suggestions/information. + +**edit 3:** The image and picture of the print are here: https://imgur.com/a/ZrWJAHf (It's not high-art. But it had a quality I liked. And I wanted a nature-season type shot. Ok- self effacing rant over).",0 +6951,"What is your favorite photography-related quote?. ""I have paid a good deal of attention to light, but no one could begin to do it justice."" -Marilynne Robinson, from the novel *Gilead*",0 +6952,"Taking photos of Strangers?. Hi all! I am new into photography & ive been following accounts that post their own. I also look at photobooks at local labs! I am curious if anyone has had this thought & or if anyone has ideas on how I should move past this; i feel weird taking photos of strangers. it can be a simple pose or their unknowingness, but I just feel like a creep or I’m invading their space. Is this a common dilemma in the art world? I’m unsure how to expand my portfolio given that people are my muse, but how do I get candid pics? I am just all over the place lol",0 +6953,"What time do you usually wake up?. Some context to the title: I'm somewhat new to non-phone photography, a bit of a hobbyist I suppose. And I've been seeing a lot of beautiful sunrise posts on my IG lately from photographers I follow, and its got me thinking: Do a lot of you lovely people have early wake-up routines, and usually go for a morning walk to see what's around? Or is it more likely that the people I'm seeing are picking particular mornings to do photo shoots? I'm curious to hear if there is a general early-bird trend with (especially nature and landscape) photographers. Thanks!",0 +6954,"Which part of photography gives you the biggest fear/anxiety?. As someone fairly seasoned, my biggest fear/anxiety is losing shit. I have a lot of equipment, and on bigger shoots, you have a lot of equipment in use. + + I'm quite meticulous, but maybe not OCD enough. It's happened before when I left an item at one part of the shoot, and at the end, I panic and go 'where tf is it' + +Most times I trace back and find them, but sometimes I simply don't. And it's mostly the small items like clothespin, gaffer tape, clamps, you know, the regular item you would most use on a big production. I know they are replaceable, but I just hate the thought of going through that process. + +Oh and of course, losing photos by accident. You can be the most prepared freaking photographer and shit sometimes just happens.",0 +6955,What’s everyone’s thoughts on ND filters? Do you personally use one? Been wondering about them for a while and am still not sure if one would be worth the purchase.. ,0 +6956,"First time using green screen. I’m still fairly new to photography, I’m still at the hobbyist stage. I agreed to do a family friends Christmas card pictures (I did them last year and she was very happy with the results) but instead of outside she wanted a studio picture. + +I don’t have a professional studio setup or anything like that, just an amateur lighting kit that came with a green, white and black screen. I figured I can do a green screen background and then digitally add whatever to it later. + +I’m reading online on how to do it an it appears with a green screen there can be problems with the green reflecting and it will be impossible to remove or it’s very complicated. I only have an okay grasp of photoshop. + +Would it still work if I use the white screen instead? Help please! + +EDIT: I have been reading all the suggestions throughout the day, this afternoon was the photoshoot so I was frantically running around which is why I haven’t been able to answer everyone! I just want to say thank you to all you guys, your input saved this photoshoot since I decided to forgo the green screen and instead use the white. It’s going to be a little tedious editing but I don’t have to worry about any green fringe or anything like that. Again thank you for all the support this is a wonderful community!",0 +6957,Comparing Studio Strobes and Constant Lighting for Photography | Lens Rentals Blog. ,0 +6958,"Photography, Instagram and inspiration - have any of you felt lost?. I started shooting analog photography 5 years ago and like anything new, I had an extreme burst of creativity. It was like magic in a bottle. I’d always taken photos but this was the first time I invested in a camera and took it seriously. The emotions were deep and high, I was travelling and taking a lot of photos. My photos were getting a lot of compliments, engagement, and likes. + +Fast forward to now, the last 2 years Ive lacked inspiration and anytime I did have a resurgence of creativity, my developed photos would come back not very impressive at all. Either overexposed, flat, or just really mediocre. In this time, Instagram has also changed its approach and it feels like the app is no longer “interested” in photo posts but reels instead. its left me feeling a bit lost. + +It’s reminded me to take photos for my own enjoyment instead of a desired outcome, but it does kinda feel a bit lifeless when I post something I’m excited about and it gets 10 likes. It used to feel like I’d be sharing my photos and view of the world and now it feels like something to scroll past. + +Have you felt similar, how did you overcome it?",0 +6959,"Flickr Pro - half price 2yr membership offered. So I went to renew my flickr pro sub. They wanted UK £111 for a 2 year sub, their ""best deal"". + +I wasnt happy, selected cancel. If you do this, you get a box saying sorry you want to cancel, have it for £83. Much better! However, I then noticed this was still a lot more than I paid for the year before (£36 for one year). I emailed the billing support stating this, and they immediately applied a 50 percent credit to the 2 year deal, making it £55!! + +I hope this helps some people who want a flickr pro sub at half price, good luck!",0 +6960,"Taking Apart A Canon DSLR Indefinitely. Kind of a weird one here: + +​ + +I want to take apart my first real camera (a Canon 80D) and mount all the individual pieces in a floating frame so that I can keep my first ever (pretty much useless) camera forever. + +Has anyone done anything like this before? If so any info on a process like this would be sick! More so unsure of how I'm actually going to mount the pieces in a frame. + +​ + +(P.S. so i don't get attacked, the camera is broken and a fix would cost more than it's worth. also i've already bought a new 80D for my secondary, so no harm no foul.)",0 +6961,"As Black Friday Approaches - What Advice Would You Offer?. What would you advise other photographers NOT TO BUY or spend money on? I'm sure we've all made some purchases we regret. + +I'll go first, don't buy any type of white balance filter that goes on or over your lens. Get yourself a grey card or invest the money in a light meter that also does color temperature. + +Also, a lot of online and print outlets will be offering ad discounts. If you're a professional and looking at advertising, make sure where you are advertising actually reaches the type of person you want to hire you. Just because they reach 100k people doesn't mean a large portion of those people are looking for your services.",0 +6962,"Just booked my first session, how do I get around the awkwardness and my lack of experience?. Fortunately it’s with friends and they understand that I’m new to portrait photography. As well as that I’m not charging them so there’s no stress on making sure the photos are at 100% I’ll be able to stay focused in that sense. + +I know my camera and gear but I’ve barely done any portrait photography.. so the fact that I won’t know how to pick good background and angles combined with my inability to hold small-talk for longer than a minute has me feeling very nervous about all of it. + +On top of that I’ve read a lot about posing and the information is all there in my head but in practice, I just can’t apply the knowledge to do things the way I’m supposed to + +Any advice as well as your personal experiences would be greatly appreciated 🙏 + +Edit: Well this blew up. Thanks for all the advice I feel like I have 20 photographers at my back every time I look down my lens now",0 +6963,"Incredible auction of photography in New York. Honestly can’t imagine a more diverse and incredible display of original prints from photographers from Edward Weston to Philip Lorca diGarcia, Cindy Sherman to Ansel Adams and everyone in between including the mighty Robert Frank, for gods sake. If you live in New York, do yourself a favour and go to the viewing, maybe even buy a print, then come back here and tell us all about it! + +https://www.phillips.com/auctions/auction/NY040122",0 +6964,"Shyness photographing people. 30 year old female here. I've been doing photography for a couple years as a hobbyist, mostly just wildlife and landscapes. Lately I've had a desire for wanting to photograph people though. I've been trying to get into street photography and shooting people in other places, but every time I go to a site I noticed I just feel really uncomfortable when I start taking photos of people, especially children. My photos come out horribly. I don't feel like I'm doing enough to prep my shots because I'm too nervous to take the time. + +I really want to shoot people, but I don't know if I'm suppose to ask first or like act a certain way. I've also thought about getting into portrait photography possibly in the future, but no idea how I would start with no experience as a portrait photographer. + +I honestly love candid photography the most, I would love to just have the ability to follow someone around for a day and capture a rare moment of who they are. I'm not sure if there's a name for this.",0 +6965,"Difficult time taking ""normal"" photos. Do you sometimes find it difficult to take a good photo of normal things? Do you feel like you need to find an interesting subject, a really good composition or light, maybe all together, to take a photo? + +Most of the time this is the problem I live when I go out. I carry my camera all the time, to everywhere. It is a small camera and I am not shy about taking it out in public to take a photo. The thing is that I feel like I always have to find something interesting. Something that will make me say ""ah, this IS the shot"". As you know, this is not the case most of the time. However, when I see photos that are not that special on Instagram or anywhere else, I like them very much. Just random things, a common scenery, or a not-interesting portrait, doesn't matter. If I am to take such a photo however, I find myself unmotivated about it. I feel like I put stress on myself about taking a good/interesting photo. + +What do you think about this? Have you experienced it? If so, how you dealt with it?",0 +6966,"What lens spec are our eyes?. A bit of a shower thought; +If we were to specify our eyes the same way we do lenses, what mm, f/, zoom/prime would they be!? + +Was in my own thoughts focussing at different lengths and realised the parallels!",0 +6967,"photographing a punk band?. Hey y'all, I manage a touring punk rock band. Every time they perform live, the overwhelming reaction is “holy shit, they’re actually really hype!"" We appreciate that, but it means our branding is falling short. Concerts are where the band is supposed to deliver on months of fan initiation, where fans say “hell yea this is what I came for!"" Ultimately, the content that fans see leading up to a performance is just not doing the job of showing how punchy and mean they are, which means our content isn't even attracting the *right fans.* + +I'm trying to figure out how our visual content can be punchier and meaner. I'd really appreciate your insights. So far the only ideas I have are to have more daring/aggressive postures... but this feels kinda gimmicky. I'm wondering if there are other ways I can frame all this energy? + +*(EDIT: ideas for non-performance shots are also really useful!)* + +Hey thanks for all the comments!!",0 +6968,Review: Rotolight AEOS 2 and NEO 3 lights use RGB LEDs to offer loads of creative color options. ,0 +6969,"Getting a faster shutter speed in non-ideal conditions. Hi everyone, new to the group but certainly not photography lol. Even with years of experience, I was hoping someone could lend me some insight on a problem I am having. + +I've been trying to shoot some birds lately but with their sudden movements, I have to try to increase my shutter speed as much as possible to avoid blur. I generally set my aperture to as low of an f number as possible like say F4 given what the lens will allow when zoomed in. Then I tend to find it forces me to increase my ISO otherwise the shutter is open for way to long of a period. In turn, I get tons of noise. + +I guess what i asking is if there are any tips to allow more light in so I don't have to increase the ISO so much but can still have a fairly fast shutter?",0 +6970,"What do you love about your favorite camera ecosystems? (No comparisons, just vibes!). I'm a still photography hobbyist. I am preparing to jump into my first full frame mirrorless system after 10 years of learning on a crop sensor, and I'm trying to learn about the aspects of a camera brand that more experienced people care about. I've found plenty of reviews and specs for various models and lenses - and way too many ""X is better than Y"" flamewars. But I'm hoping to better understand each major brand's big-picture ""philosophy"" behind its cameras and OEM lenses. + +Here are a few things I wonder about (this isn't a list of specific answers I'm looking for; just ideas.) + +* If you have been on your system for some time, what do you think a less experienced person might not realize about that brand? +* What aspects do they emphasize in their camera and lens offerings? +* Do your brand's cameras tend to produce images with certain color or rendering characteristics? +* Which kinds of photographers and photography do they cater to? +* Do their camera bodies have any signature characteristics when it comes to ergonomics, controls, displays, etc.? + +Sell me on the experience photographers have when shooting with that system! I'm not looking for comparisons or reasons why someone else's answer is wrong. I don't care which system is Number 1, I just want to know what you like about your system. + +(And if you're familiar enough with more than one system and can make a case for others, I'd love to know about those, too!)",0 +6971,"Onion skin in camera?. I’m trying to figure out if there is any way to onionskin a previous photo onto the viewfinder/monitor to help with stop motion. In camera I’m able to do multiple exposures where it will let me shoot a photo and onionskin it so I can frame up the second exposure. It even saves both exposures as separate images and one with them layered. Basically I don’t need the layered images and just want the onionskin to help with framing. Hopefully I explained it well enough, thanks in advance!",0 +6972,"Hobbiest Photographer- Insurance expert. Hey everyone. Just wanted to pop in to give a little insurance advice. (I am a licensed Commercial insurance broker in Ontario Canada) + +If you are shooting professionally in any manner I would suggest to find an insurance broker. A lawsuit, or equipment loss for instance can really hurt your business. + +So a little advice from me as to what to I'd recommend you look into and ask about: + +-Commercial General Liability- This is base line insurance any professional should have to protect themselves and their business. One lawsuit can be devistating. This will also cover you for venues to get certificates of insurance. + +-Professional liability- Honestly this one I recommend just to cover yourself for failure of service delivery due to things outside your control. A memory card failure, a broken camera, or even if you can't meet the delivery timeframe due to personal event happening. Especially if you shoot events, because you can't reshoot a wedding. + +-Commercial Auto- My advice is Ontario based of course because auto does vary a bit depending on where you are. If you are driving to any shoot sites, client sites you should have commerical auto. Honestly it's not too much different than personal auto when you are driving your own vehicles and it offers much better coverage. We can always add personal use to commerical auto policies but most personal auto will not add or cover commercial use. It's worth a quote. + +-Equipment coverage - stolen and damaged equipment happens a lot for photographers. You are on site, shooting moving around. The equipment is expensive and if something happens this coverage is valuable. + +Of course depending on what you're doing everything can be tailored for you. + + +2 pro tips I'll leave you with. + +-Always read the exclusions in any policy. And ask questions to your broker if you're unsure what they mean. + +-Don't hesitate to call in a claim. Your broker can advise, and submit it for you. It can always be withdrawn if needed. + +Anyway I hope to get more into hobby shooting again so I'll be lurking around for all the advice and inspo! + +Hope this was helpful 😃",0 +6973,"What's in your minimalist camera bag?. I used to carry my DSLR in a shoulder bag with 3-4 lenses and a TTL flash. I wanted the full range of focal lengths with wide apertures, to be prepared for anything. But as a result, I would generally not take my camera with me on outings, unless I planned to do serious photography. It was a waste. The best camera is the one you have with you. + +I since moved on to a simpler and lighter set up. A Nikon Z5, with the 24-50 4-6.3S kit lens and a 50mm 1.8G, that's it. Neatly nestled in a PeakDesign Everyday Sling 3L. Definitely not pro gear, but it meets 90% of my needs. Most importantly, I can take it anywhere and carry it all day. + +What's in your minimalist camera bag, and why?",0 +6974,"landscape photographers, how do you make a living?. Landscape photographers of reddit how do you make a living? I love taking landscapes, seascapes and astro shots along with dabbling a little in macro and food photography. How do you do it? I've started writing articles but haven't published any yet and want to start a podcast and YouTube of sorts but haven't started either yet. Any help is much appreciated. I have an Instagram for those that are curious.",0 +6975,"Do monitor calibration tools (Spyder, x-rite, etc) wear out over time?. I have a really old x-rite and it works fine... as far as I can tell anyway. I assume that these are good forever but it made me wonder if I was wrong about that. Could the color recognition for these drift over time, or is it probably fine? Thanks!",0 +6976,"How much are you willing to risk your personal safety for a photograph?. I was followed to my car once after doing some architecture photography in a rundown downtown. The person following me was far enough back that I wasn't immediately concerned for my safety, but I did keep my keys between my fingers. That was enough for me. On the other hand, a friend of mine did a solo travel photography trip through South America, including some very dangerous parts of the continent. What's the most concerned you've ever been? And how do you decide when it isn't worth the risk to attempt a photo? + +Edit: multiple people have given advice on the keys-between-fingers thing. Not sure where I picked up that as a safety measure. I appreciate the correction, as I've just moved to a larger city and thus live with a slightly higher chance of risk to personal safety. I'll consider pepper spray. + +Edit 2: wow guys, I appreciate all the engagement on this! It's so interesting to see 1) all the types of danger that come with different types of photography and 2) the very broad range of risk aversion and mitigation different people have. I'm at work so I don't have time to respond to everyone individually, but some of you have some crazy stories. For those people who say they'd never take any risk for a photo, that's fine, and I'm sure my mother would prefer I take that approach. I do want to remind you that being human is an inherently risky business, though, and we all have to choose what daily risks we are willing to take in order to embrace our humanity. For some people, photography is a part of what makes them feel fully human, and there's clearly a broad spectrum of what they're willing to do for it. We will all die eventually; I personally have no interest in dying for a photo, but it appears a few folks wouldn't mind that being their way to go. It's been eye-opening to see where different people draw the line, and I don't see a reason to be condescending towards those who are willing to take a bit more risk. Just remember not to put anyone else's life in danger in the process. + +When all you have is a hammer, every problem starts to look like a nail. When all you have is a gun...",0 +6977,"Why do some people look good in photos while others don’t?. First of all, Merry Christmas everyone! For this Christmas my family hired a photographer to take those Christmas themed family photos of us. It was pretty fun considering this was the first time I’ve had pictures taken of me in a professional way, but some family members aren’t okay with how the photos turned out . I have a cousin who is extremely pretty, but in pictures she looks completely different compared to the way she actually looks like in real life and I don’t understand why…I am trying to get into photography and I am wondering why some people look so different compared to real life while others (like me) look the same… what is the reason for that?",0 +6978,"Tell us the dumbest way you’ve injured yourself on the job, so we can all not do it. As I sit here on Planet Zippy, concussed from walking around a construction site with my face buried in a viewfinder and standing up directly into a piece of house that had no plans of standing up with me, tell me: + +What is the dumbest or most avoidable way you’ve hurt yourself in photo work, so we can all hopefully avoid it in the future, and if there was a good lesson please share that too! (mine is simple - the above story, and then actually make sure you look where you’re going with your eyes first haha) + +Edit: Thanks to all of you for your responses! Cheers to good health and great shots :)",0 +6979,Full Frame to Fuji - 6 Years Later As A Landscape Photographer -. ,0 +6980,"Hobbyist photography with a day job. For those of you hobbyist photographers with a day job: how do you improve and/or practice? I usually only do photography when I travel and have lots of leisure time. I can't seem to find anything interesting to shoot during the workweek, with the constraints on lighting at night, inability / lack of energy to look for things to shoot after work, and frankly just uninteresting subjects around in my neighborhood.",0 +6981,"I've lost interest in Photography 😔. I used to love photography so much, I don't know what exactly happened to me but I've been trying so hard to get back into it. How does one fall in love with it again???? + +Sometimes I think the pandemic is the reason why I'm no longer interested but I also blame Instagram and myself as well. I feel like I've also lost the eye for getting the perfect shot, the more I try I can't seem to do it like I used to. I'm at a point where I feel like selling my equipment, sold a couple of lenses so far and now I'm debating about selling everything else and find a new hobby. Been thinking about buying a drone, but I also feel like I'll eventually get bored of it or rarely use it. + +Give me some advice, talk me out of selling my equipment. 😭😭",0 +6982,"Which warmer cities are great for photographers / artists to live in ?. I’m a photographer / artist based in London, currently travelling and thinking about moving to a new place. + +London has been great in many ways but the terrible weather and the high living costs have just become too unbearable for me. + +I’d love to move somewhere where it’s cheaper to live, where there’s a decent creative / artistic community and where it’s warmer & sunnier. + +Primarily I just want to focus more on my artistic practice — focus on my personal projects, photo books etc although I would like to keep growing as a commercial / editorial photographer as well (I work across fashion, lifestyle, commissioned portraiture for artists, etc). However I wouldn’t mind travelling to bigger cities for the bigger jobs and living somewhere else where it suits my lifestyle better. + +I’d love to stay in Europe although open to Latam and Asia as well as possible alternatives. + +So far I resonate most with Lisbon , Portugal — seems to have a thriving artist community, relatively cheap and good weather. of course commercially it doesn’t compare to Paris or London. Portugal has been experiencing a massive migration recently though and I wonder if that might be a downside. Porto is also an alternative, probably even less opportunities but apparently a more authentic artistic community + + +Other places I’m considering are Barcelona, Madrid, Mexico City, Mallorca, Ibiza (yes they’re islands , not cities ) , Oaxaca city (Mexico), Bali. + +And if nothing really suits then I could live with colder winters but still somewhere cheaper than London. So Berlin, Belgrade are possible alternatives + +Edit 1: wow thanks for all the comments. So far the ones that hold my curiosity the most are Lisbon, Barcelona, Porto, Bali, Madrid, Mexico City in that order",0 +6983,"Lunar eclipse photography. Hi! There will be a lunar eclipse for me tomorrow morning and I want to capture it with my camera. I have a cannon eos m50. My main question here is with the lense I have (15-45mm) will I be able to effectively photograph the eclipse. Also, how should I frame it? Moon on black sky, moon with tree in foreground? Thank you for reading!",0 +6984,"Shots for a taller woman/shorter man couple?. Hopefully this is a general enough discussion to warrant its own post, please let me know if it’s not! + +I (26F) am 6’2 and my partner (31M) is 5’11. Money is tight, so we will be doing our own engagement photos this weekend with a tripod. I’m often self conscious in photos and feel very large next to him, even though it’s only a few inches. What kind of poses/angles are good to use for couples with a taller woman? Obviously sitting and laying down shots are options, but the standing ones might be more difficult. + +We don’t want to use a step stool, everyone knows I’m taller. Lol. + +Edit: I just want photos where it isn’t as obvious. I am not self conscious about it irl because there is context and movement, in pictures it’s static and can make me look how I don’t want to look (large). People cover up all kinds of things in pictures from zits to cellulite to bad hair. Sure they could embrace those insecurities, or they could take pictures that make them feel cute and confident. + +I appreciate everyone trying to hype me up, but my defining personality trait isn’t my height, and I’m not gonna miss if it’s not in pictures lol. Also to everyone who said they hate straight couples, lol. Neither of us are straight anyway.",0 +6985,"How many shots of a single place is too many?. I used to be a hobby photographer, but then my camera broke, and I guess I wasn't into it enough anynore to get a new one. Now I'm itching to pick up the camera again, but I remember that I basically only go to more or less the same places in my city (Berlin) all the time. I have a lot of pictures from all these places already. The question is: how many pictures can you really take of a place before you feel done? + +Do you go to the same place over and over again and shoot? Do you hope to accomplish something different when you do? Or do you have to keep seeking out new places to shoot? I'm not talking about paid gigs, btw. I'm talking about it strictly as a hobby.",0 +6986,"advice on wildlife photography as a career. Hi guys, + + +Firstly , I want to explain my situation. + +I'm an art graduate (music production) who has somehow ended up in a good management position in something I'm not interested in at all (people management) + +I've been in love with photography for years , and about 5 years ago took a plunge and bought a d5300,which has ultimately been upgraded to a d850. + +specifically , I'm in love with wildlife photography. + + +It would be a dream to work in anything related to it,even if it means a big paycut or some kind of apprenticeship ,and i believe my photos are competent enough, but I don't know where to start. +This kind of stuff doesn't seem to be written anywhere, and is only behind dodgy YouTube paywalls disguised as courses, which I've had bad experience with before. + +Does anyone have any advice other than ""keep on taking photos""? Ive been taking photos nearly every weekend for the past 5 years, and I know I've got a decent portfolio.",0 +6987,"Hiring a Photographer. I have no experience working with a photographer so I’m hoping someone here can help me or point me to the right sub. + +I want to hire a photographer to take really nice photos of my husband’s military ceremony and of us as a family there. + +I usually get services from recommendations from others but I’m in an area saturated with photography business (due to frequent military ceremonies) so everyone self-promotes, not narrowing down my choices. + +What questions, comments, or concerns should I bring to the table when interacting with a possible photographer? Can I ask to see a portfolio? Am I allowed to ask for proof of happy customers (like good reviews)? What are considered good/fair prices? Do I get digital copies upfront? + +I have so many questions and no idea where to start. Thanks in advance for any advice or help. + +Edit: Thank you all so much! This is such a wonderful community and I wish you all the best in your photography endeavors!",0 +6988,"Building owner wants all rights in exchange for signing property release?. I'm photographing a project for a client of several finished sites they designed (exteriors/architect). I need to get property releases signed by the building owners to photograph them, and one of the site owners is asking for free rights to the photographs for any useage in perpetuity of the building in exchange for signing the release, which is ridiculous to me. I asked the building owner to understand that the client is paying for creation of the images and a license to use the images for their business, and useage by other businesses require the purchase of a license for that (but that I would supply watermarked images they could use for their social media). + +Anyways, the building owner finally replied several days later that they have never been asked to sign a property release (at a very popular high end restaurant), that people take photos of it all of the time and regularly release the images to them, and that they are tired of providing value without compensation (hello, I know this problem very well) - and that everything should be all good because I would still get to provide the images for the client - and that watermarked images that can be used for social media aren't good enough. + +I am at a loss here because I would hate to say that I won't photograph this site for the client because this person is requesting free photos that may be used for years to advertise their business. Do you all have any advice on helping this person understand that I also am providing value that would be uncompensated? Any suggestions on helping this person understand useage rights? Any advice at all? + +Thanks for any and all viewpoints.",0 +6989,The year's most remarkable architectural photos revealed. ,0 +6990,"Photography style. I recently wondered about if it's important to have some kind of genre or style that you stick too. I remembered reading somewhere that this is apparently important but personally I really don't like the idea of shooting the same thing over and over again. I wanna try everything, I wanna do what I want and like. I really don't get how some people can do only b&w square format, micheal kenna copycat style photos or whatever. + +Just wondering what you think of it. It would be cool if I could make a name of myself some day but do you need certain genre or style to achieve that?",0 +6991,"Useful constraints in your photography jurney. What are some useful constraints to set to oneself, to help learn about composition, tone and light? + +I'm doing the [Black and White](https://52frames.com/albums/2022/week-5-black-and-white/challenge) challenge over at 52 Frames, and I've taken my camera or phone a few times over the last few days, to see how this or that scene would look in B&W. + +And I've noticed something. Constraining the photo a little by removing colours simplifies other things. I noticed a lot more _textures_, for example, and areas where the light flows. + +What are some other useful constraints, besides just going black and white? What has helped you learn in this way?",0 +6992,"Organizing photos and file structures—unconventional ways, theories, ideas, etc.. I want to open up a discussion for the more unconventional ways of organizing photos specifically in folders, file structures, project/album names, catalogs, etc. + +Commercial work for clients is pretty simple in my opinion: + +Client -> Project name / date + +or + +Category (fashion, etc.) -> Client -> Project/date + +or something similar + +It's the artistic and/or personal photos that I'm having trouble with and would like to hear your thoughts. + +Conventionally, I think most people organize photos based on date: + +Year -> Month -> Day + +To me this is pointless, since almost all cataloging software has search tools that can search by the photo's meta date ('search for all photos taken in 2020', for example, and boom, there you have it) + +Also, if we think about how we look for photos, dates don't make much sense. For 'I wanna look at photos from my 2018 trip to Spain', dates can easily be searched for via tags/metadata. For 'I want to find all photos of sunsets in my entire life', date-based organization doesn't make sense (you'll end up having to slog through multiple catalogs looking for 'sunset' tags) + +Another common approach is sorting by genre or subject, for example, 'street', 'nature', 'travel', 'food', etc. + +However, things can easily get messy. For example, what if it's a street photo taken on one of your trips abroad? What about a photo of your dog in a vast forest—is it 'nature' or 'pets'? How about a photo of your coffee on a balcony overlooking the sea—is it 'food' or 'landscape'? Should you duplicate them and put them in multiple categories? + +You see how this can get confusing, and I'm sure we've all experienced something like it. Therefore, to me, tags seem to work better for genre/subject, as you can have multiple tags and search by them. + +That leaves the question still of how can we best organize photos in file structures/albums/groups etc? + +Personally, I have two large Capture One catalogs (outside of commercial work): 1) 'life' and 2) 'studies' + +'life' basically contains all the personal photos I've taken, trips abroad, photos of my friends, pets, food I've cooked, etc. + +'studies' are things that seem like they could be taken by anyone and have no distinct personal subjects. For example, if I'm on a trip abroad and I take a photo of a beautiful tree alone in a field, I'd put that photo into 'studies' + +Still, this gets tricky in a way similar to my genre/subject example above. A photo of a friend posed beautifully in an empty ocean at sunset—does that go in 'life' or 'subjects'? + +Also, as you can imagine, these catalogs are very large and a bit unwieldy. + +I'd love to hear your thoughts for more unconventional ways of organizing photos so they're easier to find or make sense of in large groups, particularly for artistic / personal work.",0 +6993,"What to do when you do a poor job. Had a nightmare of a weekend working family events. + +First I shot OCF portraits and outdoor photos in normal JPEG instead of Raw for most of the day until I realized it was happening, no idea how the settings were changed. Images are correctly exposed for the most part just smaller ipegs instead of full size raws + +Second event was indoors in a poorly lit church, shot in aperture priority to make life easier and on reviewing certain images realized the shitter speed had dropped and there was motion blur in some images. + +This is the first time I've had gear act up like this and I'm concerned about returning sub par images to clients. + +What's the nest approach when this happens ? +Admit the error and refund when sending images ? +Send the best images and wait and see if client comments ? + +Edit: +To clarify, any mistakes with settings etc are on me. I only mention my camera as I would always have it set for each event but I must have missed a setting/pressed something by mistake for these. + +Any complaint/request for refund I'll just take on the chin and move on, mentally ill beat myself up for the mistakes as I hate delivering less than 100%",0 +6994,"How to shoot against sunlight in palace. We went to a palace yesterday and it was beautiful. We got some great shots from outside the palace where light was great. But faced problems taking photos indoors. + +For some photos, we wanted to stand on the openings in the walls of the palace, but the backlight was very strong, which gave a silhouette kind of feeling to the photos. To compensate for this, we set the focus on persons eye, and then took the photos. + +Some of the photos came great, but in few, the skyline and background is totally overexposed and white washed. Hence my question. What are some tips to ensure this doesn’t happen. Subject is in shade, background is harsh light, and to avoid over exposing the background while still keeping the subject in proper light. + +Settings that I used were aperture priority, f/3.5. + +TIA.",0 +6995,"Boudoir photography: when is it legit and when is it borderline a scam?. Ok a little back story. I’ve been modeling for photographers for years. Sometimes paid sometimes for free. Recently boudoir photography was recommended to me. I have a lot of respect for some of the boudoir photographers I’ve met but there have been a few where they have felt like they are borderline scamming people. Example: one photographer spoke to me on the phone and booked a shoot with me. I paid for the shoot. The contract stated hair and makeup would be provided but when it came time she had neither and claimed that over the phone she mentioned it wasn’t included and I had agreed to that (I didn’t recall that part of the conversation but I let it slide). I said I’d pay extra for a hairstylist months in advance and a week before she said she couldn’t find one willing to come do hair. (This seemed like red flag number 2 for me). Then she never sent me any information about costs for digital images and packages. When it came time to see the images the cost was substantial. At this point the whole thing had been such a hassle/ disappointment as far as experience etc that I decided to just part ways with the photographer and not purchase images. This was my first time paying a photographer so I was shocked that the experience was worse than when I’m with a photographer who pays me. My question is is this a common issue? How do you tell a legit photographer from someone who doesn’t seem to know what they are doing BEFORE going into a shoot? Are some boudoir photographers engaging in scam like practices? Thoughts? +Much appreciated",0 +6996,"Has anyone modified their car to take photos from inside the car to the outside?. This is my idea. The reason is because here where I live it is very dangerous to go out to take photos in the towns or on the roads, especially because you have to get out of the vehicle and that is where the situation becomes dangerous. + + So what I'm looking for is to make some modification in the car's cabin so that you can take photos of landscapes inside the car and at the same time it doesn't get in the way of the car's roof. Any ideas, suggestions or comments?",0 +6997,"Im a hobbyist who got asked to shoot a funeral tomorrow will take any advice.. I meant to make this post earlier this week so I figured late is better than never. + +​ + +My good friends just gave birth to their still born son. Tomorrow they are having a graveside funeral. I am not sure how many people will be there but I was asked to take pictures. I asked my friend what she wanted pictures of, how I don't want to be intrusive, and how to be respectful. She essentially said she wants some candid shots and some shots of the family. + +​ + +I generally enjoy shooting candids anyway so I have at least some ideas of what to shoot and what to look for but this situation is obviously different. The first thing I read after ""how to photograph a funeral"" said not to take pictures of peoples faces without asking them first. This will really only be a thirty minute to an hour long. It wouldn't work to ask everyone, I also want to be as discreet as possible. + +​ + +Any advice on how to go about this would be nice. I know I cant be invisible. I don't want to offend anyone by taking pics but I am also not going to tell a grieving mother ""no.""",0 +6998,"Quitting my photography job to persue my own photography business. Like the title states. Currently I'm working at a photography studio and also do outdoor shoots for this company. This is mainly families, families with pets, kids, babies, maternity, newborn, etc. +In a year (or two) I'm really looking to quit this job to run my own business. But I would like some tips and lessons you have learnt if you have done this! +- what things should I set up and do before I quit? +My passions are families, events and weddings. I don't have my own studio and only do outdoor shoots/on location venues. +I'm not particularly into maternity or newborns as I've found I'm not too keen on photographing newborns. +Considering at the moment I kind of clash my own family photography with the company I work for, so I can't photograph families for my own business when I work for them, as this could be a conflict of interest. So, at the moment I am thinking of promoting weddings and events so I can earn enough money to quit my job and run my business to it's full extent. I'm also looking at doing a totally different business model than I am doing at the moment (currently editing everything from a session and delivering it) +I just would like to know any tips you may have, what things to do for the transition to go smoothly, things you wish you knew if you are in my position. + +// EDIT ! For those of you wondering: I have my business semi up at the moment and focusing on events - but I want to do this more. +I definitely do know all of the work that goes into it. I am going to keep this job for the next 2 years until I have mine up and running. All of my spare time focuses on my own business and building it up/marketing/ads/clients etc, I definitely do know it is more about the business side than shooting, but I'm okay with this. +I also don't have a non-compete with this company, I just feel a little morally wrong to photograph families when I do it as a job. + +Thank you for reading this far!",0 +6999,"I realized I'm not better at photography: I just learned to be more efficient. Let me elaborate: + +Yes, the first years of learning, when I still didn't feel comfortable using a camera, I was really bad, in terms of composition, choosing the right subject, getting things in the right focus, etc... + +But for the last years, I realized I haven't really improved from the basics, I just gained efficiency. + +Efficiency means I already know places and the best hour to shoot them. +I bring the right lenses, as I already have the idea in my head. +I don't spend 30 minutes finding the right angle: I already know what works best. + +So at the end my time shooting is better because it doesn't depend on sheer luck, but rather on experience, and making the best use of time. + +Is therr anyone who feels the same about this?",0 +7000,"I don’t use my D7000 any more. I took two trips abroad in 2018 and 2019. In 2018 I faithfully toted my D7000, which I got in 2012, up and down Western Europe and took hundreds of photos. For the 2019 trip, I wanted a lighter setup, so I borrowed my dad’s Canon Powershot G12, but mostly ended up taking photos with a Samsung G7. I was looking through the photos yesterday, and I have to say, I enjoy the phone photos just the same. Obviously the D7000 photos are a higher image quality, but the flexibility, lightness, automatic editing, and quick movie function of the phone made for a much more spontaneous and lifelike collection of travel images. Since then, I got an iPhone and the image quality is even better. + +Frankly, I was never really impressed with my D7000. I’ve inherited and acquired great glass—basically all of Nikon’s mainstream prime lenses, 24, 28 2.8, 50 1.4, 55, 105 2.5–and they’ve only ever manage to look ~good~ on the D7000. But I feel like I have to work/edit very hard not to make images look flat and grey. I’ve read that later iterations of the D7xxx series had major sensor improvements. + +In Fall 2019, I strapped those classic prime lenses on the family Nikon FM (back when film + processing was still $12 total) and rediscovered the joy for photography that film originally gave me. Nowadays, I carry a Nikon F100 for occasional, artsy shots, and I take everything else with my iPhone. I haven’t used the D7000 in years. + +I’m sure someone will comment to say that the D7000 is a fine camera and that I need to spend more time editing my photos, and that the phone does that automatically which is why I like it. Fair enough. I’ve been shooting for 20 years, but I’m a hobbyist and don’t want more excuses to be on the computer. For me, switching away from the digital SLR has given me the results I want, faster. + +Anyone else ditching their older DSLRs—for travel if not for life?",0 +7001,"Tall photographers. I’m 6’5, and have have always struggled to consistently get images I’m happy with, because my height gives pictures an awkward and unflattering perspective. I am pretty mindful of this, regularly stooping down to frame my pictures. I am still struggling tho somehow. + +Being tall I am often physically looking down on the world, and my photos often find the same perspective try as I might to avoid it. + +Any other freakishly tall folks have a similar struggle or tips to avoid this? + +My photos often have an “abnormal” vibe, regardless of whatever other good or bad things are going on, because of the height perspective.",0 +7002,"Tips on improving the overall session experience for a guy?. I am currently seeking suggestions/tips on improving the overall session experience for the guy during an engagement session/ wedding, and dad during family sessions. + +I'm honestly feeling very defeated in this area. I realize it's likely not their favorite thing to do, but man... I've had some real doozies lately. They arrive to the session (or wedding newlywed portrait time) in a mood and their body language makes it very clear they do not want to be here. I receive eye rolls, sighing and 80% of the time they're not even listening to prompts or directions. This of course stresses out the bride/wife/mom. She is now appearing very tense and the joy I noticed at the start of the session is nonexistent. + +I try to make things as fun as possible. I start off by stating this will be a chill and unique date night for them, to relax, be silly, I want them as comfortable as possible, let loose, cuddle and just love on each other. During our time, I ask questions of interest, treat them like old friends, make jokes, create a little banter, shower them with positive reinforcement and compliments, and mix in a ton of prompts for those genuine natural emotions. And through it all, continue to receive annoyed looks and completely blank stares from the dudes. + +I literally cried at the end of one of my last sessions. I asked the gentleman if he had fun because he ROCKED IT! He didn't, but ya know, just trying to lift him up and be positive. And his response ""Actually, not really. It was very overwhelming. You were asking me to give her a hug like I haven't seen her in a year. I have no idea what you wanted me to do. I have no idea what that means. Where am I supposed to put my hands? Around her waist? Around her neck? Around her back? I have no idea. So no, it was a lot to take in. Not my thing and I did not have fun. It was incredibly stressful."" + +If you've made it this far in my post, thank you for coming to my Ted Talk. I'm just really feeling pretty low lately and would appreciate any tips you can throw my way.",0 +7003,"teaching a photography to a child. Hi guys, + +I have started my journey last year and I am well equipped (mid life crisis...). I would like to get my eldest (6 y.o) to develop an interest early so I bought him a Canon sx620 (a decent point and shoot with some manual overrides) + +I was surprised that he picked up the camera and quickly understood the blur effect that changing the aperture achieves (literally right off the bat). + +Would you guys have some suggestions on how to teach him? How to make sure he develops and interest? + +I intend to do photo walk with him so that he can shoot and then we can print some of his pictures but apart from that I am not too sure. + +Thank you! + +EDIT: thank you! + +Hi all, I won't be able to reply individually to all of you so I want to say a big THANK YOU for all your recommendations, tips and words of encouragement. +For those who are worried ""the old man"" is trying to force something onto his kid, it is not the case. I don't mind if he loses interest next month (but I doubt). My eldest is quite the creative type and I think photography will allow him to harness this natural predisposition :) if not: I will find a nephew to give the camera to 😉 +Have a good weekend!",0 +7004,"Advice for first wedding shoot. I have agreed to be the photographer for my friends wedding. I currently shoot with a Fujifilm X-T3. + +I have 2 lenses: + + +Viltrox 85mm f1.8 and +Fujinon XF 10-24mm f4. + + +Most of the shoot will be outside with PLENTY of space. The venue is amazing, its an old castle. + + +I've never shot weddings before, and im looking for any advice i can get, specifically i have a few questions +1. Should i get a lighting setup? Or have a flash? Currently have neither, but as stated most of the time will be shooting outside so I don't think this will be an issue. + + +2. I plan on using the 85mm f1.8 (130mm f2.8 full frame eq.) A great lens for portraits, but I'm worried that being too far from the subjects might be a problem , especially if i want to do some photos at nighttime indoors for the party/dance. + + +3. If i use my 10-24mm f4 , which is f6 FF eq. Will that be too stopped down for general use? Outside should be fine, and i plan on using this for group photos, but maybe i can even use my 85mm for that since there is a lot of space to work with. + +​ + +Any other general tips are much appreciated, + +Edit: the venue is not at the castle itself, but in the garden in front of it with party tents",0 +7005,"Renting a studio space, what can I expect?. Hello fellow photographers. I'm a Canadian (Ontario) photographer and I'm in the process of signing a lease for a studio space. I'm wondering if anyone has any tips for running a photography studio or if they experienced anything unexpected in the process. I'm also looking at getting insurance for the space and I got a quote for a $10k premium to cover what's required by the lease as well as to cover renting the space out to other photographers. Is that a normal amount for commercial insurance?",0 +7006,"Marketing strategy : social media ads really worth it?. I officially opened my home studio last summer. Since then, I’ve done tests with almost all important agencies in my area, one recently called me back for paid work and I also booked a few weddings. + +My folio is stacked at a level that satisfy me: tons of agency portrait, weddings and I did some TF to add corporate portraits and romantic couple photoshoot in my offering. + +All of that by mainly cold calling agencies and browsing wedding Facebook groups. I have other seeds planted here and there, waiting for them to grow, but I want to get the ball rolling further more. + +I’ve questioned investing in social media ads, but it’s a bit overwhelming. + +I don’t know if I’m ready to throw 500$ blindly in the void. + +Facebook ? Google ? Instagram ? Tiktok? + +I’ve tried putting 5-10$ ads here and there just to see how it works but it’s hard to really judge if my strategy is good since I don’t know what I should be doing and how it should/could perform. + +I feel that Facebook/Google would be for the wedding customer base, but what for my portrait services ? + +I try to compare myself to others in my area, but its hard to do when they have 4x times my following or have been established for 10+ years. + +So yeah. If you are a photographer who invested (or has invested) in social media ads...is it worth it? + +Is there a key moment in your business plan to start considering social media ads? + +What about the « goals » you set for ads ? They often give you the choice between having more profile visits/ more messages or more website clicks. They all sound similar to me, is there one I should prioritize?",0 +7007,"What are some things you wish you knew before taking your first LONG photo trip?. I'm going on my first extended solo trip to Europe in 6 weeks. I've only ever travelled for 5-6 days at a time YEARS ago to Chicago from NYC like twice. I'll be heading to Portugal and Spain (and then maybe Italy or the UK or cuba) for about 50+ days. The trip is exclusively centered around taking pictures. I'll be going with a project or two in mind. + + +I feel like the travel forums that I browse aren't very specific so... Are there any tips you wish you knew in regards to travelling as a photographer abroad? Especially in Europe or any of the countries I listed? Or just things you wish you knew before you landed or arrived somewhere?",0 +7008,"Finding spots to take photos. I live in Manchester NH, mainly taking landscape and nature photography but my problem is that I have no idea how to find spots. I know it sounds easy as “driving around” but I feel like I just end up aimlessly driving before I find anything good. Any suggestions?",0 +7009,"I just finished testing over 60 lights, here's all the data!. So I just recently finished a huge light bulb test, testing was done with SEKONIC C-800. + +The original intention was to collect data in order to better simulate daylight spectrums indoors. + +[Here's the original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/Biohackers/comments/vbbmzj/how_to_replicate_full_spectrum_sunlight_indoors/) on r/Biohackers + +Testing wasn't super scientific. I didn't use a white reflector dome and didn't wait for the lights to warm up completely before taking readings, so the duv for example wouldn't be super accurate after an hour or so. + +But here's the data if anyone wants to check it out: + +[Google Sheets: Light Bulb Test Data](https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1MD_e4lvUJd6U3bL1Lhf93nOXHY2mX8H4RtZMDhjLJEY/edit#gid=0) + +Some findings that may be of interest to photographers: + +* Many of the lights advertised as ""High CRI"" for things like photography, such as the WaveForm and Yuji lights, performed worse than the NorbSmile and GE Sun Filled lights using SunLike diodes. +* However, WaveForm and Yuji both have no low frequency flicker, while NorbSmile and GE Fun Filled both do. +* There was one outlier. The [Shanpu Z0855Pro](https://drive.google.com/drive/u/1/folders/1kvE2y2kTzDQFr45Ku09PGUcmtcf8U7rT) which I found by miracle. The spectrum on these bulbs is amazingly realistic. With a CRI Ra of 98.1 and 99.1 With Rf of 98 and an Rg of 100. And no flicker from these from what I could see. I had returned my meter by the time these lights arrived, but I get nothing in the slomo, which is a good sign! + +Anyway, someone mentioned this data might be useful for photographers, so I figured I'd share it.",0 +7010,"How many 'portfolio worthy' shots do you usually take in a year?. Just curious what it's like for you all. I know personally it's a pretty small number, like 5-10 shots a year. Idk if that's common, or do you end up with more/less shots that you feel are worthy of portfolio inclusion.",0 +7011,Camera Straps. So I love take photos but I often find the weight of the camera to be too much weight to carry around my neck for too long. It doesn’t help that I’m heavy chested which makes it awkward with straps I’ve tried. Does any one have any suggestions for a good carrying method for a camera? I looked into the wrist straps ones and thought that may be an option but I am looking for some opinions,0 +7012,"I'm returning after a 10+ year hiatus, and everything has changed. I'm wondering if there are any new-old newbies. + +It's amazing to see how much equipment has changed, how advanced and streamlined editting software has become etc. + +I thought I'd be able to pick up my new camera and go but I feel like I'm back to day 1, fumbling along and looking up the new terminology",0 +7013,"What are some of your go to directions for shooting candid photos?. Professionals often recommend that you ""direct the action"" when taking photos of people. + +What are you go-to directions for people to loosen up and snap real photos of them? + +Here are some of mine: + +* if there's children: say ""ASS/FART/whatever word makes a child laugh"" +- on a group of females: say ""kiss the one in the middle!"" +- on a group of males: approach dancing and invite them to dance silly +- family photo: stay silent as long as needed until someone says something silly + +I mostly shoot weddings and stuff so they are more biased to partying and whatnot, but feel free to input yours!",0 +7014,"Props to wedding photographers. I got to hand it to you. You are amazing. Not just for photography skills, but people skills. Today I am working as a second on my first wedding, and holy crap. Between the mothers arguing over what photos should be taken when (even though there is already a contracted shot list), the ""friends"" who keep insisting for photos of them and ""suggesting"" the types of photos we take, there is the bridezzila to contend with. The groom? Cool as a cucumber. The dads, awesome. Best man? Amazing. Without the dads reigning in the bride and the moms, more than a few times, I think I would have already lost my shit. + +The lead photographer has done a stellar job at ""guiding them"" to the shots we need without sounding like they are barking orders and without sounding like they are saying to ""no"" to every little demand. I have done portrait work for a few years now and a wedding is whole new level of stress. + +So yeah, mad props to those of you who choose to make a living with wedding photography. Maybe I will feel better after it's all over but I think this just might be my one and only wedding photoshoot. I will update this later today when it's all over. + +[update] + +Once things got rolling it went smooth enough, for the most part. I talk to the photographer more after it was all over and she agreed with some of the people here. The more people pay the better they seem to be. I don’t think I will be looking to be a wedding photographer though. It was a good experience, and I may try to help her on another shoot just to do more than one. For now though, I have no interest in doing another one for at least a month. This has been physically and emotionally draining. Trying to stay positive and professional while listening to people argue about the shoot who have nothing to do with it will wear on you. + +Thank you to everyone who responded. Your input was much needed.",0 +7015,"What is your current set-up?. This isn’t a ‘what camera should I get’ post. I thought it would be fun and was curious to see what everyone is rocking in terms of their body and lens at the moment. + +Currently I have a Pentax K1000 with a 50mm lens and a Sony a6000 with the standard lens. + +Both very basic cameras, nothing too fancy, perfect for what I use them for.",0 +7016,"Share a huge source of inspiration for your work.. So, I'm really interested in what others would categorize as hugely influential to their photography. It could be another photographer's body of work, a song or music video, some architecture, your kids, whatever. I'm always interested in what someone else thinks is important and inspiring and then try to figure out how they apply it to their own work. + +I shoot a decent amount of street/travel photography and very occasionally freelance event work. Recently I've been thinking a lot about a music video I love ([Waiting on You by Future Islands](https://youtu.be/-5Ae-LhMIG0)). Thematically, aesthetically, and compositionally it is stunning and am trying to shoot more photos that capture a similar feeling. Every frame is painting. Recently shot an event not totally unlike the rodeo in the video (indoor motorcycle race in Milwaukee, WI) and while it wasn't perfect, I think I'm on the right track. Hoping to improve on that in the future. + +So, what is currently getting you jazzed?",0 +7017,What are some things I can do to give me an edge?. I’ve been trying to do photography and I’d eventually like to be a professional but I can’t get the edge on my peers who are in similar situations. My pictures seem good but that’s until they are put in comparison to other amateurs. What are some things I can practice that will give me an edge on those around me? I ask because I would eventually enjoy notoriety for the sake of being able to use my passion as a prosperous career.,0 +7018,Tamron 50-400mm f/4.5-6.3 Di III VC VXD: “ultra telezoom” approaching. ,0 +7019,"Second Shooters paying the main photographer to tag along.. So I'm part of a FB group where you can either request or put yourself out there for opportunities to be a second shooter at weddings. + +It's mainly for what you would call experienced second shooters, but every so often you would get an inexperienced one asking to tag along in order to get some experience. + +One person in the group suggested that if you are less experienced and you are wanting to second shoot for a wedding, then you should be paying the main photographer for the opportunity to do that. + +And a lot of people agreed, although some didn't like the idea and there was quite a bit of discussion at how the relationship changes if the second shooter is paying the main photographer and not the other way around. + +I'm just curious to know what the lovely community here on Reddit thinks about it.",0 +7020,"The ""When are you available?"" back and forth. Hey everyone! + +I been doing paid photography for several years now and I've recently been trying to think of a way to streamline the process of someone booking a shoot with me. In the busy seasons for me (graduation shoots), I get TONS of inquiries and it can be very time consuming to have the same ""when are you available?"" conversation with 20+ different people at once. + +Recently, I started using Calendly for people to book shoots with me and see my availability so that I can just give them the link and they can take a look. I was just wondering if anyone had any tips/advice on how you efficiently communicate and schedule all your clients with the least amount of time/effort haha. + +Any help would be greatly appreciated! + +Brandon",0 +7021,"RawTherapee 5.9(ish) WIP Update. Hi all! + +The [RawTherapee](https://rawtherapee.com) team has been working diligently towards a 5.9 release in the near future but they wanted to share a progress update on all of the wonderful work they've been up to for over the past year. I wanted to share their post (and a summary) in case there were other photographers using this wonderful raw processing tool. Their original post can be found on their website here: + +[https://rawtherapee.com/2022/07/rawtherapee-5.9-wip-and-project-updates/](https://rawtherapee.com/2022/07/rawtherapee-5.9-wip-and-project-updates/) + +Despite the lack of news the developers and contributors have been working **super** hard behind the scenes to bring a host of great new features to RawTherapee, including: + +## Local Adjustments + +Complex local masking can be accomplished now (similar to U-Point in Nikon Capture N2, Nik Collection, DxO Photolab, and Capture NXD) where similar regions are automatically selected and various tools can be applied just to those specific regions of the image. + +It's a quick and intuitive way to make selections in an image for specific processing workflows! + + +## Abstract Profiles +Custom image effects from defining CIELAB or CIEXYZ values as both _input and output_. This allows you to adjust the Tone Response Curve, White Point (illuminant), and the Primaries. + +## Waveform and Vectorscope Views +Two new views of the color data in your image beyond a typical histogram including a Waveform view as well as a Vectorscope! + +## Camera-based Perspective Correction +An automated perspective correction (if the image has strong horizontal or vertical features) or simple manually defined lines to have the algorithm automatically perform a perspective correction. + +## Fullscreen/Detached Inspector +The inspector window can now be detached and moved, resized, or made fullscreen independent of the working windows. + +## Improved Film Negative +Film negative processing has been improved and now allows you to specify separate white balances for the negative backlight source and the actual negative scene. + +## Spot Removal +A simple spot removal tool allows quick and easy removal of objects in an image. + +## Iterative Temperature Correlation White Balance +There's an entirely new (from scratch) white balance option that can sample a large number of colors in an image and compare it with a set of reference colors and their associated spectral data to create a fast and accurate white balance for images. + +## Dual demosaic with Bilinear +There has been dual demosaic options in the past in RawTherapee (the combination of two different demosaic algorithms to produce a single image) but now with the addition of a Bilinear demosaic option that can be combined with any of the other types available (blinear works great for smooth, low-contrast regions). + +## Wavelet Improvements +Multiple improvements have been made to wavelet processing including many associated tools that use this function such as _Contrast_, _Chroma_, an several other modules. + +## macOS app +The macOS app now uses the standard Apple LaunchServices bundle structure and is now hardened, sandboxed, and signed by the developer. + +## And more! +There have been countless bugfixes and smaller improvements to the software. Importantly, camera support has increased to include the processing of files from ProRaw, EOS R5, EOS R6, EOS RP, GFX 100, Z5, Z50, and others. + +These features are all available right now in the nightly builds of the project. Kudos and congratulations to the developers for all of their hard work and pushing such a great new suite of improvements!",0 +7022,"Business Cards as a Beginner / Amateur Photographer. Hi r/photography, + +So I recently bought an used DSLR to start taking photography a little bit more seriously, and I'd like to take photos of random strangers / street photography. I have been trying to take a lot of photos to try and buildup my portfolio (well some good photos and some shit photos), but I have this fear of people getting hostile / confrontational if I take pictures of them. + +So I was thinking if I should get a simple 'business' card printed and carry it around with me whenever I go out and take a picture. The card itself will probably only include my name, link to my facebook page, IG handler and also my flickr page. + +Do you guys think its a good idea? + +Or is it too pretentious / too much of an overkill for a newbie who literally just started taking photos?",0 +7023,"At what point did photography become your main source of income?. How long were you taking on free work, building a portfolio, and network until photography became something you were comfortable taking on full time or even part time? (I mean part time as in half income is from photos and half from a real job) + +Photography for me was just a hobby until about a year and a half ago when I started sharing my work and working with people for free just to get more experience and confidence as a photographer. I’d say I’m still in the portfolio building stage and think I’m pretty bad relative to what the pros are putting out, but I wouldn’t even know at what point ones work goes from “yea I’ll work with this guy if it’s free free” to “I’d definitely pay for that”. + +Niche: portraiture/fashion/product.",0 +7024,"Full frame vs APSC as a professional option. I hear a lot and read a lot that some people only use full frame cameras for professional work. I’m not professional in anyway but I’m genuinely curious why they say that. I’ve heard a difference in the bokeh and what lens you need at different distances, but is that really it?",0 +7025,"have images lost power in their ubiquity and appropriation or can new meaning always prevail?. I know this is not the typical discussion on this sub, but I'm just trying to get some thoughts on this topic as you are all familiar with the process of dealing with a large quantity of images. On one hand we're in a golden age of accessibility to the creation, propagation, and mass consumption of images. I'm so grateful for the ability to capture and manipulate imagery, and give my own little frame, and especially to be able to access a plethora of amazing art. + +But on the other hand I can't help but feel that the image has become cheapened by the sheer scale of its reproduction. I think a good example are those default wallpapers on Mac Os. You would think those landscapes would feel grandiose or sublime , but they just feel mundane to me. Or sunset pictures on a beach- once beautiful, now cliche and generic. I know there are always new perspectives, new stories with images that I can find, but even so they live in juxtaposition with so many others. You can't escape that completely without shutting yourself off from images like a curmudgeon. Every image we see is sharing headspace with other images we've processed before. + +I understand this is not unique to our digital age, that people probably freaked out about the image even when the cliche or stereotype was just the name of a printing process. I mean even before the printed or painted image physical scenery got old. + +I'm not trying to rant or whine, and I'm not sure if this is the right sub for this, but I genuinely am interested in others' takes. + +Edit: I thought I'd add another important aspect to this abundance of images that I wasn't clear on. It's not just the personal creations and sharing of images that we're experiencing all the time, it's also the corporate appropriation of imagery for deceptive purposes. I feel like this is the more problematic part because at that point it's not just a matter of a difference in personal expression, it's really muddying the waters on what is genuine and the way branding relates to our own images. The personal use of images on social media of course also has this problem, but that is partly a result of specifically profit driven interfaces.",0 +7026,"Thoughts on using a camera you don't like?. About a year or so ago, my dad bought me a Canon G7X for Christmas. I've been trying to be grateful and open minded with it but it is just such a hassle and learning curve. I'm used to clunky dslrs with a viewfinder, and this is the complete opposite; a pocketable mirrorless point and shoot, lcd only. Although it makes fantastic images when you try enough. I was already on the fence about continuing my photography hobby, but I'm on the verge of killing it for good, solely because I feel like I can't make it work. Maybe I'm just getting old. Or picky. + +I'm not really in a position for a new camera right now. I'm kinda venting. Thoughts, though?",0 +7027,"Screen/device bias against panoramic images. Can anybody else relate? It bums me out that panoramic images are so difficult to appreciate on most screens. And what’s worse, horizontal panoramas appear as a tiny stripe when autofitted to most vertical screens. Print is the only format where they make sense.",0 +7028,"MPB will only ship purchases to the Billing Address if you use a Credit Card. Hey everyone! + +I just got stung by this so I wanted to warn others. MPB had some issues with fraud, and lost some protections from the card companies. As such, to prevent losses, they instituted a new rule: Any purchase made with a credit card can only get shipped to the billing address. + +The only ways around this are: + +1. Using PayPal +2. Temporarily changing the billing address on the credit card + +They wont make an exception under any circumstance, no matter how high you escalate it. + +This is not noted or shown *anywhere* on their site right now (2021 DEC 09) so please let your friends know. The reason this is important is I know a few people are traveling for the holidays, and may ship their purchases to wherever they are going. It will also affect you if your addresses dont match up for any reason, such as you are using a parent's card and dont live with them. + +Transparency: I have no affiliation with MPB, I have purchased 2 things through them but I just use whatever website has the best price for the item I am getting.",0 +7029,"Limits of editing and photoshopping. Hi. + +​ + +As a new hobbyist photographer - I consume a lot of guides and videos and material about photographing and stuff related to it at the moment. I'm interested in peoples opinion about editing photos. I don't mean to offend anyone, but I don't like the idea of editing stuff out or in to the picture that couldn't be achieved naturally by changing lightning or waiting for people to pass by, for example. I mainly shot portraits so far, and only edited shadows, highlight and other stuff to make my subjects stand out a bit more, but haven't added or removed anything that couldn't be achieved without external programs editing. + +​ + +I see so many popular youtube videos and guides, how to add this and that to make picture cooler or better, but for some reason the idea off adding stuff to the photograph that couldn't have been achieved changing your setup naturally really doesn't stick with me. + +​ + +I know it's supposed to be about what makes you happy or what makes you money if you do it for a living - but what are peoples opinion on this in general? Can you really call it an photograph of someone or something that never even existed? I see so many pictures that claim to be unedited and raw, but even to my eyes are so obviously not. It's like claiming fake natty bodybuilder. + +​ + +**e: Pardon my poor English, obviously I didn't make the question stand out enough from other statements -** + +**Where do you draw the limit on what is an photograph and what is digital art?**",0 +7030,"I fulfilled my dream of buying a Full Frame camera, and I think I feel a bit regretful.. Long story short: I'm a hobbyist and I changed the 70D and the 18-35 1.8 that accompanied me for many years for an EOS R + 24-105L RF. + +I love the new kit, the ergonomics of the R are not great but I can get used to it, and while the lens is quite a bit darker at F4, with the ISO I can compensate more than I lose compared to the Sigma 1.8 I was using before. + +The problem is... the camera is big and heavy (as much as what I had before anyway) but this time it's quite a bit more expensive, and I dread the thought of using it on the street and thinking about doing something like street photography, which I love and wanted to take up again now. It also doesn't help much that I heard about and tried the Fuji X100V and fell in love with it at first sight because it is so small and functional, besides taking pictures (with the filters) very similar to analog film. + +The takeaway? I learned that ""moving up"" to full frame is not always the only way, and that while I like the camera and will most likely keep it for use at social or family events I attend, I will try to save up the money to buy an X100V or similar for use on the street without much fear.",0 +7031,"Finding great photography without Instagram, part five: fashion photography agencies. As photographers we like to find inspiring work from other photographers, but places like Instagram, Flickr and reddit sometimes fail at delivering the best work or showing in the best way. The resources I’m posting in this series form an alternative. + + +[Part 1: photojournalism agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ygufpb/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 2: photo book publishers](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/yhghy7/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 3: photography galleries](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/yjkpir/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 4: commercial photography agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ylrpjm/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + +[Part 5: fashion photography agencies](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ylv8ii/finding_great_photography_without_instagram_part/) + + + + +There are probably hundreds of agencies for fashion photography all over the world, representing some of the absolute best photographers working today. My bookmarks folder has over a hundred but I’m just posting some of my favourites here to keep things manageable. I intend to post a comprehensive list of this and the other posts in a Google doc on my website at some point. + + +https://www.artandcommerce.com + +https://www.mapltd.com/news/london/ + +https://www.webberrepresents.com + +http://cadence-image.com + +https://maworldgroup.com + +https://www.clm-agency.com + +https://www.streeters.com + +http://www.minititle.com + +https://www.artpartner.com + +https://www.lgamanagement.com + +http://lundlund.com + +https://www.wschupfer.com + +https://theassociates.management + +http://www.shotview.com + +https://www.defactoinc.com + +As always, be sure to check the artist’s individual websites for more work.",0 +7032,Am I the only one that doesn’t use lens caps?. I haven’t used a lens cap in years. Everyone thinks I’m weird but they just get in my way. And I don’t go sticking my lens in places it doesn’t belong. Doesn’t get anymore dirty than normal either. Just thought I’d see if I’m alone on this one!,0 +7033,"How much gear do you carry on trips with you?. Hey everyone, + +I’m preparing for a 3-week roadtrip across the US West Coast (first time there ever) in two weeks and I’m pretty much settled on what I’ll carry but wanted to hear what do other people carry. + +I’m gonna take my D700 w/ 35mm f/2 and 50mm f/1.8, as well as the XPan + 45mm. + +I’m leaving my 28mm, 35mm f/1.4, 24-70mm and XPan 90mm at home. + +I was even debating on whether to take the 50mm at all seeing as 99% of my shots are taken with the 35 and I’m so used to that perspective. + +I was curious how much gear do others pack for a trip like this? I know some people would prefer a single zoom lens but the 24-70mm is just so big and heavy, I don’t wanna walk around with that everywhere. + +What are your thoughts?",0 +7034,"To Those that shoot film. For those that shoot film part time or full time, I was wondering how approachable you think the developing process is? I shoot digital with a Nikon D750, and have recently been interested in trying my hand at film as well. I've watched several tutorials on developing, and between the investment into the chemicals and gear, and the amount of time you have to spend, I was wondering if you recommend, or if it was a lot of trouble. What pathway do you typically recommend for acquiring the chemicals/gear, and how often do you find yourself developing? + +​ + +THANKS!",0 +7035,"Am I the only one just not enjoying mirrorless?. I'm a hobbyist photographer. Occasionally I shoot cars or parties (not so much parties right now). I'm 24 years old. For the past 4 years I've mainly shot analog on my Pentax 645, Pentax LX and Nikon FE2. But for the professional paid stuff I've used my trusty D700. + +3 things changed: + +1. The 1080p era came to an end, and 12mpx was really getting deprecated +2. Film got way too expensive for my liking +3. My absolute favourite film stock, Fujifilm Pro 400H got cancelled + +So I wanted to switch to digital. Long story short, I figured mirrorless is the future, so I sold some equipment. I got a Z6. Because of + +1. I don't have any Canon equipment +2. I had some Nikon lenses (Ai-AiS-AF-D) +3. Sony colours made me throw up in my mouth after a few weeks of lending an A7R + +The Z6 is a perfect camera. The EVF is crisp (for EVF standards), it's super fast, image quality is excellent, and it's a gorgeous camera to see and hold. + +But there was a big problem. I just don't enjoy shooting it. Any Sony/Nikon mirrorless for that matter. The reason being, it feels like using a computer. I understand this is the working photographers dream, where speed, performance and quality equal money. But for me, a super-semi-professional hobby photographer, there's no real appeal. + +It's as if there's no place for the joy of photography. I love the grunt my Pentax 645 makes when it winds to the next frame, I love the snap of the Nikon FE2's titanium shutter, I love the way I see the 35mm F2 AF-D snap to focus through the OVF on my D700, I love looking through the hybrid VF on the x-pro1. + +I miss a body/system that gives me the urge to shoot. A tool I want to use not just for the output, but also for my personal enjoyment. And Nikon doesn't really seem to offer something to appeal to that. They're obviously trying with the ZFc, but I think that's just cosmetics and not really getting to the core of what photographic enjoyment is. + +I want to know how other new Z or mirrorless shooters experience this. Is it just me?",0 +7036,Darkroom yesteryear. I am prepping my basement for construction so I'm going through a lot of old boxes. I found all of my darkroom stuff from college. I'm trying to decide if I should offload or keep. If I ever took classes again (Mt daughter is getting older now) I would probably specialize in revamping my digital editing skills. I'd love a vote on whether or not I should keep the stuff.,0 +7037,[Thomas Heaton tests Hasselblad IBIS] There's One Thing About The Hasselblad X2D 100mp Camera. ,0 +7038,"Tip: Battle Murphy’s law by throwing a spare SD card in your camera when you need to transfer photos. The amount of times I’ve showed up somewhere without my battery, SD card, or both is ridiculous. I take a lower capacity SD card I won’t be missing anytime soon and throw it in my camera just in case. + +We are battling against Murphy’s Law on a daily basis. Stay vigilant, brothers.",0 +7039,"Have you done a Photography course or workshop?. Hey, has anyone been on a photography workshop or course to improve their photography? + +How did you find it, and did you get what you were looking for out of the course? + +And do you feel it improved your photography? + +I've been thinking about doing a photography workshop as a present to myself, so I just want some info about other peoples experiences. + +Thanks. + +Edit: I've seen a lot of replies saying about watching YouTube videos. I've done that, and it's not the same thing being out with someone or other people and seeing what they can produce in the same environment as well + +​ + +Edit II: Thanks for all the replies and information. I am going to look into meetups/photography groups as well. I'm in the UK, so community college isn't really a thing here. + +I'll most likely do a travel photography workshop. It's something I'm interested in, and I'd like to improve, but I tend to avoid. + +Thanks all :) ",0 +7040,"Thinking about switching to jpg based workflow. I’ve been shooting RAW for over 10 years. As time goes on, I hate editing more and more. I’ve tried about a dozen different editing softwares, I’ve found a couple that I prefer for workflow and fast results, but I still find myself hating editing - to the point that I’ve got about a dozen cards sitting on my desk, being avoided as best as I can (nothing for clients, or anything anyone is waiting for). + +I don’t know what changed, just as time goes by I hate editing more and more. +I still love photography. I love working with people and making pictures. + +I light most of my scenes, and with live preview on the mirrorless, it’s not often I end up with an image that needs a lot of recovery. + +So, I’ve been thinking about still shooting JPG+RAW, but instead of editing the RAWs, saving them for the occasion where I really need to recover something or if I feel like doing some kind of crazy edit, but using the unedited JPGs 99% of the time. + +Am I crazy for thinking this way? + +Is anyone else doing something similar? + +Would it be better to focus on creating a handful of presets and work more toward fast/easy batch processing the RAWs?",0 +7041,"Dissatisfied with all the pictures I'm taking right now. Compared to the pictures I was taking even a month ago, I am taking significantly better pictures, and my editing has gotten significantly better. Yet, I can't help but feel miserable because pretty much every picture I take has some flaw that makes me dissatisfied with it. It could be better, therefore it isn't good. I'm not sure how to cope with this and it's making me feel depressed about my photography. Does anyone have some tips to help me get out of this rut so to speak + +It just makes me not want to even attempt taking the picture because I know the product I get will be something that I'm not satisfied with.",0 +7042,"What inspires you as a photographer, and what keeps you going?. This will be my first full year as a full time photographer, and I don’t think I’ve ever asked myself what inspires me. I’m feeling intense burnout and desire to change my style to something that gives me joy, but I don’t really know what is inspiring me to do so, and I don’t really know what I want to create right now. I feel sad, because I think the vast majority of my time learning and shooting has been to chase the next job and paycheck coming in. I don’t want to do that anymore.",0 +7043,"About adobe Lightroom and it's worth. Lete start off by saying I have been working as a freelancer for about 8 solid years. My question is in regards to paying subscriptions for software like Lightroom. I have heard some raving reviews about it to it being just not worth the monthly payments. What do you guys think of Lightroom being cloud based? I'll admit I am a bit of a curmudgeon and cheapskate since I don't like the idea of my files being on another servers storage while at the same time I have been using Lightroom 3.2 (yes you can laugh or scoff at that). I want to find a reasonable replacement for Adobe but I feel at this point I'm so far into using it and the rest of the industry keeps it as a standard. +Are there any really good alternatives or should I just bite the bullet and start paying for the subscription?",0 +7044,"Am I the only one who would like an auto hyperfocal distance focus mode?. Back when I used manual focus primes on my film cameras, I most often just set the focus to the hyperfocal distance when shooting landscapes. Doing that with modern cameras, especially with zoom lenses, is not so easy. + +We have all sorts of powerful auto-this, auto-that modes. Why not have an option to automatically and continually set the focal distance to the hyperfocal distance? That should be easy for software to handle based on current aperture and focal length. + +Is this option out there on some cameras and I have just missed the discussions? + +Full disclosure: my camera is modest, a Panasonic FZ-1000. But even that gives me lots of options for automatic control. Do any cameras have this feature?",0 +7045,"Do you prefer printing single photos or having photo albums/books?. For the last 10 years I've been printing single photos and placing them in a box. Some of them have dates, location, or event. + +I currently bought a google photo book with various pictures of a trip I took a couple summers ago. + +I liked the book, but the are printed directly onto the page, so if I ever wanted to frame a particular picture, I would have to print it separately. + +How do you keep your photos? Anyone still doing photo albums that you fill yourself with printed singles? I don't really like that personally so I am looking for options!",0 +7046,"What Have Been Your Most Memorable Cameras?. Digital photography renewed my interest in photos, especially the software element, no need for a darkroom. That is what stopped me with film, the next obvios step was setting up a darkroom but didn't have the space. I was developing my own BW film. + +I have owned MANY digital cameras over the years, from that crappy Kodak 1.3MP PNS. Thinking back over the gear, here are a few of my favorites - and why. I hope others share their list and stories. BTW I am still shooting in the M43 system with two Lumix G9 cameras. + +Fujifilm S5000. I bought this shortly after I discovered how horrible that Kodak camera was back in 2003. What immediately grapped me was the zoom lens. I was doing urban photography is a potential dangerous environment and did most of my shooting from the driver's seat - and was fortunate that nobody shot back. + +I went through a slew of cameras after that, brdige cameras. I think I shot with at least 4-5 different Canon power shot models, an a Minolta...and then Fujifilm came out with the HS series. Wow - the image quality on the HS10 was way ahead of the other cameras. + +My next significant camera was the Lumix GX7, another step up. I have migrated to detachable lenses. + +And for the past few years, Lumix G9 - and I still think it is a great camera. For what I do, I am still satisfied with the results and really like the portability of my gear. + +My main film camera was a Minolta SRT-101. I am getting it back after decades - it is crawling across the country via USPS and should be here, along with various lenses, extension tubes and a light meter - and should be at my door next week. + +​ + +Please share your stories.",0 +7047,"sRGB vs. Adobe RGB monitor for photography. I have been researching this for a while and I can’t find a consistent answer. I looking to buy a monitor for photo editing and have to decide if I need a “100%” adobe RGB monitor. + +Have been editing in sRGB on a Macbook pro for years and haven’t felt that I was missing anything colour wise with the ability to grade in Adobe RGB. + +I know you don’t need or should use Adobe for online use, but I have been thinking about getting more into printing and that’s why I am speculating about working in Adobe RGB for this aspect. + +But as I have found there are many different opinions about what colour gamut to use for printing. + +From my understanding one difference between the two is the ability to get more saturated colours but for “standard” photography is this really something you need? I have never pushed the saturation to a point where I have ever come close to the limits of sRGB. + +I have also found different opinions about whether or not commercial printing labs will be able to print in Adobe and also that what paper you use will affect the ability to show these colors. And if it's even possible to print in the full Adobe spectrum. + +If I edit in Adobe RGB but can’t represent the colours in the print then there is a higher chance of the edit not representing what I’m seeing on the screen right? So then wouldn’t it be a better idea to just stay safe and edit in sRGB? + +Like this opinion: [https://www.kenrockwell.com/tech/adobe-rgb.htm](https://www.kenrockwell.com/tech/adobe-rgb.htm) + +And this: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKfg8GtT75k](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKfg8GtT75k) + +Those Adobe RGB monitors are really expensive so if I can get by with a good sRGB monitor why spend the extra money? + +Opinions?",0 +7048,"Full time photographers, when starting did you have a full time job on top of it? How long did you go on like this?. ",0 +7049,"How many digital photos do you have?. Just out of curiosity, how many? I currently have about 2k on my phone and 25k in the cloud. I have been accruing digital photos since 2008. + +edit: thanks for all the replies! I’ve learned so much!",0 +7050,"At what point is your phone camera better?. Sorry if this is an ignorant question, I recently got the Samsung s22 Ultra and was amazed by the camera, and it inspired me to get back into photography. I was never more than a novice, but I did have a Canon T6 that I dug out. I brushed up on how all the settings work and set out to get some photos around town with the kit lens. As I was taking shots, they looked amazing in the preview, but when I got home and used my computer to go through them they were just... Bad. + +I'm sure a lot of it has to do with my skill and I know it's a budget camera, but I feel like I would be able to get much better photos just using my phone with the expert raw app that lets you have full control. And It wasn't just because my phone does a lot of processing and spits it out ready to post online, I could take raw photos from both cameras and try to edit them using Lightroom and the photos from the T6 were so much worse and became noisy much faster than my phone. I feel like it doesn't make sense that a dedicated DSLR, even if a beginning level, would be worse than a tiny phone camera, but I just can't seem to match the photo quality. Is this an actual thing and I should just use my phone until I can get a better camera or do I just need to get better lenses/get better at it?",0 +7051,"What counts as an amateur photographer? and where do we draw a line?. So I've been in a few contests over the last year or so. I've never won (Yes I'm a little salty lol). All of the contests have been for ""Amateurs"" because that's what I am. The discouraging thing about all of it is the fact of the term amateur not being outlined or distinguished in any way other then you can't have had your photo published in any professional works i.e. a magazine or gallery. So the problem is the gap between people like me who owns maybe $2000 worth of equipment and travel locally are going up against people who have $20,000 of equipment and have traveled to 20 deferent countries. I just wondered if anyone else felt this way, what could be done to help all of us out and is there such a thing as being able to buy your way to a good photo. I'm not doubting these photographers skills, they are good and sometimes down right amazing. But most of us can't afford to visit big cultural events around the world or spend 3 months traveling to have the opportunity to capture these photos",0 +7052,"Photography blogs- not yours ?. Can anyone recommend me some good, decently active photography blogs that are not just about hawking affiliate links or content marketing? I mean people thoughtfully writing about their work and subject matter and such like that.",0 +7053,"Product Photography : Donating Products. Does anyone have a place they recommend to donate products used after a shoot? + +I often have tons of leftover products afterwards. Everything from lemonade powder to supplements to skin care … + +I’d like to donate some of these things to individuals that would actually benefit (vs selling or donating to goodwill). + +Thoughts? +Edit: Located in the United States.",0 +7054,"The average photographer seems like they have different tastes in photos than the average person. How and why do you think that is?. I'm curious if anyone has some examples or thoughts on if this happens, and why! + +I've noticed this most obviously with landscape photos... you'll see photographers criticize photos that are overly saturated, have heavy-handed HDR use, etc. But those photos are frequently the exact ones that are so well loved on more casual photo sharing subreddits. + +That's not to say those photos are bad, or that those photos are the *only* ones that are popular. It's just that it *seems to me* that people who are into photography have, on average, different tastes than the average Joe. + +Another example is skin retouching - lots of photographers don't like very heavy-handed editing, but those kind of skin filters and editing are very much in demand from people. + +Are these trends real? If so, what makes this happen, or have you experience it? Are there examples other than post-processing?",0 +7055,"Experimental photographers, do you ever feel the urge to ""apologize in advance"" or justify your work to friends?. I have two portfolios, one with traditionally beautiful photos that I might post on my main Instagram, and another with experimental work that a lot of people find ugly or unappealing. I don't want to advertise my own work, so I've pulled an example off Instagram. + +Picture: [https://imgur.com/a/5iV6L2W](https://imgur.com/a/5iV6L2W) + +I find pictures like this really appealing. The grain, fog and flat colors could indicate this photo was taken in the 1930s or today. To the average person, however, this isn't a particularly notable picture. + +The simple answer is just to get over it, obviously the more ""out there"" photos inevitably confuse people are aren't deep in the medium. I just find myself being a little hesitant sharing my work with friends because a lot of the time they might not get it or get bored because it isn't that compelling to them. + +Do you just neglect to share your work with people unless you feel they'd really care? + +*I had to re-post this with the removed instagram link, if you're curious where I found it just dm me I guess*",0 +7056,"Do you like film photography?. Hello everyone! I've purchased a film camera to try something new. Btw, I like my digital camera a lot, but film photography seems to be interesting too. + +I'm just curious, guys. Is there anyone who also likes film cameras? What do you prefer more? Film or digital photography?",0 +7057,"Is trying to re-create the feel/look of an image you like a reasonable way to learn? I want to learn portrait/boudoir photography; I've historically actively avoided photographing people, focused on landscapes/birds till now.. I have always loved taking pictures, a few years ago I switched into more of a photography-based mode, more purposeful photos, learned a bit of editing, my focus was birds/flowers/landscapes but then lost interested and switched hobbies. I've realized the photography I am always following and drawn to is actually portrait/boudoir... Recently I've been interested again in starting back into photography and I really want to learn portrait photography and would love to learn boudoir (actually I always have, I've just been too chicken to do it). I am terrified of taking pictures of people (friends or otherwise), it's possibly a self-imposed fear, of just taking terrible photos... but if I had a target image/lighting/setup in mind, would that maybe help? Would that maybe just set myself up for failure if I couldn't figure it out? I've thought about doing self-portraits for a while, to learn to play with lighting. I don't have any family near nor do I have any pets, so using them as guinea-pigs isn't an option. I also wouldn't want to post images of people on social media, so I am not sure how I would get feedback... Find a local mentor maybe? Do professionals mind doing things like that? + + + tl;dr - I want to learn portrait to move into boudoir but I have always avoided humans in photos since getting into photography. Would trying to recreate images I like be a useful learning tool (light, composition, etc.)? How do you get feedback without social media, would professionals do mentoring?",0 +7058,"Can a single-use camera still be developed, 16+ years later?. Hello! We're a municipal archives in Canada, and someone just donated their single-use Kodak Max HQ camera, which on the bottom says ""develop before"" September 2005. + +Is that just something they'd print, to make sure that the cameras would return to Kodak in a timely fashion? Or does the film itself actually break down? + +If it can still be developed, where or how? + +Thanks for your help!",0 +7059,"Shooting outdoor portraits with manual lenses - advice needed!. Hi everyone, + +Good friends of mine asked me to take their engagement photos this weekend. They're not fussy and expect something on the casual side; they just want some photos they can print for themselves and their family. + +I am not a portrait photographer, I do landscape and macros. My camera has an APS-C sensor and my lenses are all manual. I was thinking of using a 50mm 1.7 lens. It's my sharpest (even handheld) and has a nice bokeh, and it has a decent reach considering the crop sensor. The location is outdoors and I can play with the distance easily. I also have a good tripod. + +Do you have any tips on how to shoot portraits with manual lenses? I've been reading guides on posing and composition, but I fear that certain options would be limited with my equipment (like specific movements or angles). + +I know it's doable. I am familiar with my equipment and I'm a decent photographer, but portraiture is just not my forte and I want to make up for the lack of confidence by preparing well. + +TIA. + +P.S.: Happy Canada Day to all the Canucks here!",0 +7060,"Are there books that explain technical (and possibly advanced) stuff?. At this point, after a few years taking photos, I think I quite understood the basics of photography. + +Now I'd like to study how/why things actually work.What kind of things? For instance: + +* why aperture actually changes sharpness and depth of fields +* how metering works and what kind of meterings exist +* how digital noise works +* etc + +I know that many of this things come from really technical stuff, that either a physicist or an engineer knows (thus a person with a specific degree). + +I also know that many of this things can be found in articles online (that I've read), maybe scientific papers and surely in some university text book. + +Is there some book that covers at least some of these topics? A book for a photographer that wants that extra step of knowledge, without having to enroll in a physics degree at a university.I obviously do not expect a book to cover topics this big and hetherogeneous, just something that goes a bit further; I feel like it's something that is missing. + +I've tried looking both on the internet and in some libraries, but the only things that I've found are a countless number of books that explain the basic, always the basics. Any help? + +Edit: +I know going into particular details is not necessary, but let's say I have mostly two reasons for doing it: + +* I want to +* it's not necessary, but it can help, in some ways, to see photography differently and to take pictures differently (hopefully better). This hold for many things, for instance: you don't need to know how computers/OS work in order to code, but knowing it can help a lot, and in some cases (in the particular case of programming) it's basically required + +Another thing I want to point out. A reason why I specifically spoke about books is because books have some order, one can read a book starting from the beginning and going step by step. Googling stuff is perfectly fine, in fact that's what I do most of the times, the problem is that if someone doesn't know what to look for, the risk is to go back and forth looking for things. This doesn't happen with books, in the sense that in a book there's a linearity that helps you start from the basics up to more complex things. Hope this is clear. + +Anyway, thanks to everyone, I've seen many useful recommendations : D",0 +7061,"How to handle cases of stolen photos when trying to create name recognition and goodwill on a new beat?. Hi all. + +So, I'm a sports photographer. I specialize in action sports-motocross, mountain biking, road cycling, auto racing, etc. As a motocross rider myself I go out to the local tracks a lot to shoot the races, and I've gotten some decent traction with DMs on Instagram and some basic laminated signs with QR codes to the purchase page posted around the venues. Thing is, I was checking my Instagram just now and I spotted a couple posts from riders that made me load up my website and sure enough, they had obviously screencapped the preview and posted that, cropping out the watermark. + +My problem is this-I'm a relative newcomer to the motocross media scene around here. I have a pretty regular gig with the cycle sports and the outfit I subcontract for is very well-known in the local scene, but I shoot motocross solo and I'm competing against a number of other people. Obviously, nobody wants their work taken without payment or permission, but at the same time, if someone isn't looking to pay the $7.50 for a social-sized file or the $10 for the full-res one anyway, I'd rather have it shown to people that not. The problem with *that* is that neither of the posts I saw that did this even credited me in the description, so it's not like I gain anything at all by letting those posts slide. + +I'm kind of befuddled as to how to handle this. What I did was to redesign the preview from a small opaque logo in the corner to be very large and central to the image, but almost completely transparent, so you can obviously see it's there and it's definitely going to be visible if someone does this again, but it doesn't really affect the viewing of the image from the perspective of deciding whether to purchase it or not (at least, from my point of view). My only concern is that if someone is going to try the screencap special again, they might not post about it at all because of the more prominent watermark. + +What do y'all think I should do? I'm loathe to demand they take the posts down because I'm trying to come across as a nice guy that just wants to shoot some photos and make some people happy when they see themselves frozen in time doing something cool, but of course this is also a business, and every time I let something slide like this it just increases the chance it'll happen more often.",0 +7062,"First job - probably a stupid question. So I applied for a job shooting a local music event, they have replied to say they liked my cover letter and have asked me to send my portfolio over. This is probably a stupid question, but in what format do I send my portfolio over? I want to come across as professional so I'm guessing I can't just send over individual JPG's as attachments?",0 +7063,"Webinar today on ""Selecting the Right Paper for Your Prints"". I've seen several questions recently about what paper stock to use for prints, especially from photographers looking for higher quality fine art prints. + +Digital Silver Imaging is one of the printers I highly recommend. They're hosting a free webinar today in conjunction with Hahnemühle at 2pm EST on the topic - [Selecting the Right Paper for Your Prints](https://digitalsilverimaging.com/dsi-event/selecting-the-right-paper-for-your-prints-webinar/). I think they've also got a small discount for webinar participants so you can try out their Hahnemühle prints. + +Note: I'm not employed by or affiliated with DSI in any way, just a satisfied customer. And I ran this by the mods before posting it.",0 +7064,"I enjoy taking photos... but then lose interest. I like to go for walks with my camera, whether it be round my local area, around a city, or out in the country somewhere. I'm in the lookout for photo opportunities, looking up and down and all around, and I enjoy framing a shot, shifting around to get a good composure, then I play about to get the exposure right, and will take a few shots to be sure. Finally, I'll see my photo on the camera's screen and smile - I'm happy with that, I've made the best shot I can out of that view. + +But that's it. Once I'm back home, the camera goes back on my shelf, and it might be weeks or months until I can be bothered transferring the shots to my laptop. Then weeks or months until I review them, delete any duds or repeat shots and any limited amount of post processing I do. And even if I do all that, I rarely go back and look at my photos. But in the meantime I'm still going out and taking more. + +Basically, I enjoy taking photos, but that's about it. Anything after that's a chore and I just haven't got much interest in looking back at my work. Not even that I'm not happy with them - I have got some good shots - just not interested in them. + +Anyone else relate to this?",0 +7065,"Shooting with models and their expectations. Hey guys, I do a fair amount of editorial studio sessions with various models. for the most part it's gone very smoothly. once in a while however I'll get a model who looks nothing like her portfolio (extreme post editing touchups) or a model who shows up completely unprepared (no wardrobe changes, expects a shoot wearing just street clothes after discussing concepts and wardrobe at length). + +a couple weeks ago I had a model in the studio, we'll call her ""S"". we had a month workup discussing concepts and wardrobe. I did my end by making sure the appropriate props and lighting were on set. Her job was to bring mulitple changes of wardrobe centered around the concept themes we had discussed. + +day of the shoot she shows up in just street clothes and didn't bring any changes of clothing. She was resistant to wearing other outfits we had on hand, so we shot one set in her street clothes. I knew while shooting this was a waste of time for me since non of the content would be useable for my portfolio. I cut the session short and sent her on her way. + +Now she's blowing up my phone asking where her pictures are and how it's unprofessional of me not to respond despite only giving me a few hours to respond. I texted her back that it was unprofessional of her not to come prepared and that it was a complete waste of time for me and that I would send over the edits when I have the time. I don't intend on spending any more time on this shoot in post editing since her unpreparedness resulted in a massive time waste for me, and my crew. + +Could use some opinions/comments on how I could have handled this situation better. I've since had to block her on instagram because of threats of ""ending me"". it's too much sometimes... + +​ + +edit: this shoot was a tfp",0 +7066,"When is it ok to shoot for free. As a former wedding and event photographer I understand the value of not undervaluing your services. But, I still enjoy going down to the local soccer game and shooting some pictures and then sharing them with the club and players. + +Would it be bad for me to do this if another photographer is being paid to do the work? +Or perhaps it may lead to some expectations that photography is a free service amongst players and the club?",0 +7067,"A Legally Blind Hobbyist. Hello! A friend suggested I talk about my photography hobby and how I adapt the primarily visual activity for a legally blind person like me. Apologies for the wall of text. + + + + +My vision with glasses is 20/200. That means whatever I can see clearly from 20ft away, the average person can see from 200ft. I used to despise being a part of photos or even taking them, but I met someone who constantly pestered me into taking photos with their phone. As time went on, they upgraded their phone, which had a better camera, and I continued taking photos for them. I learned to enjoy telling a story through a photo, posing with my friend, and adjusting scenery. After two years, I decided to double down and get a camera. My friend's dad is a photographer and suggested I buy a Nikon since they keep the same lens mount, so I would not need to buy new glass if I upgraded. I did some quick research and bought a new Nikon D3500 and the 18-55mm and 70-300 kit lens. After two years, I decided to buy a Sigma 18-35mm f/1.8 lens as an upgrade. + +At first, I tried using the viewfinder, but I could barely see anything through it and resolved to use the live view and peer at the LCD screen for my photos. After about a year of using live view, I realized some shortcomings; it was slow, when it was bright outside, it was difficult to see the screen, and it was difficult to adjust settings quickly as I would need to lower the camera, put my face up to the screen and change settings, and then readjusting the camera. I solved some of these issues by getting a magnetic eye cup attached to the LCD screen. It blocked out the light and had a 1.5x magnification, so I could read and adjust the settings without losing my camera position. + +I do, of course, run into the issues you would expect with focusing. I cannot tell how clear an image is on the camera, so I take multiple shots and then look at them on my computer and see what I could have done better. If I have a friend with me, I could ask them for assistance, but I try to maintain my independence, and I also do not want to bug them. My camera's autofocus is not perfect; the following subjects are complex, and the face-detect function works but seems to miss a handful of times. That also does not mention that it is face-detect and not eye-detect. To focus on my subject's eyes, I would need to manually change the focus area, which takes much time for me and does not work with my subjects, which are not the most patient (usually, we are in the midst of an activity, so pausing to take photos and adjust settings is not as feasible). I have been looking into better and faster AF systems so any suggestions would be excellent. + +I experience severe imposter syndrome when I go out for a shoot, and half of my photos do not make the cut. I become stressed when thinking I have become stagnant because I cannot focus properly—""Am I not good enough?"", ""Would I have done a better job if my vision was better?"", ""Will I ever get better?"", ""Is this all a waste?""— cripling questions I hate to ask myself, but I do it a lot. + +I plan to continue my photography journey as far as my vision and passion take me. If you have any suggestions or input you think might help, let me know. I hope to improve and make some accommodations to get better at photography.",0 +7068,Photography etiquette?. I was recently paid to shoot a trail running event by the race organizers. I sent them an album of about 100+ photos that they were very happy with (lifestyle and race photos). I know many of the people in the photos that I took and would love to just send a copy over to them so they have them. But since the race now “owns” the photos is that not considered kosher in the photography world? I also have people DMing me on instagram because they saw a photo with them in it and are wondering how to obtain copies. I don’t need to get paid by them. Would gladly just send them a copy.,0 +7069,"Wedding photographer keeps pushing delivery date, 3mos out. How to proceed?. Our wedding was at the beginning of October. We had a coworker of my wife’s as the photographer. At the time he was excellent, and we were very happy with everything. Paid him in full (probably our big mistake), and he said he would have them by thanksgiving, then before Christmas, and now we’re just getting his VM when we call. + +Professional photographers, what do I do next? Am I being unreasonable? + +Edit 3: We got the pictures! He dropped off 2 USBs last week with 1500 pictures on them. They look very nice, and we’re happy to have them. + +Edit 2: he responded to my email. Apparently he’s been very sick with multiple hospital visits and Covid complications. He says he will have the photos for us in a few days, and he apologized for not being in contact. I’ll update once I actually get the photos. + +Edit: thank you all so much for the advice! + +1. We have a contract, it states approx 3 weeks for a USB drive to be delivered. We are well past that point now. +2. I have left most of the contact up to my wife since she was the one who knows him. +3. I left him a VM asking for a delivery date a few days ago, with a follow up email asking for a firm date or at least an explanation if there is a major issue. It was a very pleasant email considering the circumstances, and I left him several “outs” as I am not an unreasonable person. +4. Suing is probably not an option as we will probably spend as much on a lawyer as we would potentially recover. +5. Really I would be happy with 10 decent pictures, edited or not at this point. He took about 4K photos on the day, there’s no way I made a weird face in all 4,000!",0 +7070,"Looking for photographers advice/perspective as an unhappy client. Thanks in advance! This might get long. I also want to preface I have learned to be even more careful with understanding contract terms and working with acquaintances/friends. 🥴 also for context, after pictures are purchased, this cost me $1,500+ in the Midwest. + +I went with a photographer that did my sisters wedding because I fell in love with his work and his energy- super positive and contagious. I booked a package that included maternity pictures and then hospital photos, newborn photos, and eventually 1 year photos. He is a pretty busy person/successful entrepreneur so I was totally prepared to be patient but there have been a lot of… hiccups and I’m feeling so unhappy. I’ve had a lot of professional family pictures taken and never felt this way before. As context, this photographer sends galleries watermarked, you select what you want to buy or the whole gallery, pay, and then you get a download pin. + +- I received my maternity gallery for review in a timely fashion (Pics in May, gallery viewable in June), but so many of the pictures were terrible- like me mid-blinking. I have never received a gallery with so many pictures like that (if any)? + +- His instructions at this time said to favorite the photos and then a download pin would be sent. I never got a response from him so over a month later (and after baby was born and had done hospital photos), I asked for an update early July and got no response still. + +- Hospital pictures happen early July and newborn photos happen late July + +- No “sneak peaks” are given and nothing is posted on social media of pictures as a preview + +- Contract states services rendered are within 60 business days. I think this means downloadable photos, but it isn’t specified. I’m sure he would argue it’s gallery delivered with watermarks. + +- I request an update 60+ business days past hospital photos. I request an update on downloading my maternity pictures, and status of hospital and newborn pictures. + +- He says it isn’t past 60 business days (even though it is), offers no apologies, and says he’s conveniently sending off hospital photos that day and what place in queue I am for newborn pictures. He claims there was an e-mail issue with the maternity pictures and gave me the ability to download free. His email excuse was super sketchy but I’m thinking maybe it’s going to be fine now and that was his way of making things right… + +- I get the hospital pictures gallery and it’s the same issue. So many pictures are bad. I get I’m not the most photogenic person but I seriously have never gotten galleries like this. I immediately respond requesting to purchase the whole gallery (it ends up cheaper per pic and there’s at least good pics of baby). This happens Oct 7. + +- A few days later I get the newborn gallery. This one I am most heart broken about with the bad pictures. It included pictures with my other kids, which I know is chaos, but it’s what I paid for. I once again request the full gallery (Oct 17). + +- I forward my Oct 7 and 17 emails to him today (Oct 31) for an update. He responded thanking me because he missed my Oct 17 email and then sent me the invoice for the newborn gallery. I paid it and I received the downloads later in the day. But… no update on the hospital photos! + +I think I would feel better if I had at least gotten sneak peaks through out this time or even an apology, but with the bad pictures and clearly poor management, I just feel upset and immensely disappointed. It’s so frustrating to me to see him posting sneak peeks for sessions that have happened after my sessions and I can barely get an email response. + +I know photographers get burnt out and I empathize with being busy, but this has left me feeling so shitty. + +- is it normal to send so many bad pics in a gallery? (There are still enough good to purchase th whole gallery for price reasons, but not enough good for me to be happy I went with him) +- as a photographer, what do you feel is services rendered? +- is more than 60 business days reasonable? +- I want to request a partial refund because I don’t want to do 1 year pictures with him. any advice on doing that? + +Any insight would be helpful. Even if it’s to tell me I’m being unreasonable or being Karen-like 🙃",0 +7071,"photography friends. Hello, do you find it more fun to do photography with other people, or by yourself? I usually go out alone as I don't really know anyone who is into photography or I'm out with friends or my wife, in which case they get my attention and I can't focus on photography or be as creative without holding them up. + +I think it would be good to find people into photography to go out shooting with and share photos with, critiquing each others work and learning more through that. As well as comparing gear and seeing differences and what works for who, etc. + +I'm going to join a local club as a way of finding photography people. Thought I'd see what others here thought as well. + + +Thanks",0 +7072,"Do you colour balance your photos for compatibility on smart phones?. This is an issue that, like many, I’ve always had when uploading or looking at any of my photography in comparison to a desktop after already colour balancing accurately through Adobe processes. + +If and when you’re uploading your work on social media to the public, do you combat this issue by colour balancing to cater to phone screens so your work is represented how the original is meant? Or do you ignore this and not include the process? + +I find that so many of my photographs are severely warmed when on phone screens and it’s a massive bug for me. It’s also difficult to troubleshoot as not everyone will have an iPhone, and it may be a case where a lot of other manufactured phone models are more colour calibrated. + +I can’t really find anywhere that this topic is spoken about, so I’m interested to see what others think.",0 +7073,"Need advice for a dj set tonight. Hi, I’m photographing a dj set tonight for the first time for a friend. I just got a flash & a Magmod diffuser and have 0 experience shooting with it at an event. + +Can anyone provide some advice & tips and tricks for tonight? + +Gear: +Sony a7iv +Lens- Zeiss 24-70 f4 +Flash- Godox v1 + +Edit: the venue is outside + +https://www.instagram.com/p/CdHYURrv3kl/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=",0 +7074,"How long did it take y’all after getting your first camera to feel good about your photography skills?. I’m curious to know - how long after getting your first professional camera did it take you to feel confident in your technical skills/final product? + +I got my first pro camera this past year, and the technical skills definitely need work. I signed up for a class to help, but it made me wonder how long it took others to build confidence in photography?",0 +7075,"A packing mistake on my end reminded me of an old photography lesson or two and solidified what kind of (hobbyist) photographer I am and want to be. Possibly long read upcoming. + +I own a Sony NEX-5N and the two kit lenses (18-55mm f/3.5-5.6 zoom lens, and 16mm f/2.8 pancake lens) that came with the package when I first bought it. Due to circumstances both within and outside my control, I have not used my camera very much throughout the years, and the camera still looks fairly new and functions well despite having owned it for some 10+ years now. + +I landed a few hours ago after spending a week in Greece. What little I saw of Greece (Athens, Meteora) was an absolutely wonderful experience, camera or no camera. + +As implied in the title, the snafu was absolutely all on me, and there are two parts. Here’s part 1. + +I had intended to bring both lenses with me, but idiot me left the zoom lens behind, and all I had was the pancake lens that I had been using for a different shooting session earlier in the summer. I will admit that when I realized this hours after landing in Athens, there was the urge to look up camera shops and find a replacement, or treat it as an opportunity to “upgrade,” as I had never bought other lenses before, occasionally trialing others for brief periods instead. + +However, I listened to a small voice in my head that simply said, “Work with what you have. Work with it, or around it.” And I’m glad I listened because that week has spelled out what I REALLY want in a future upgrade. + +More often than not, whenever I lined up to take a shot of various things, I couldn’t help but mutter “this isn’t exactly what I’m seeing.” I wanted to capture what I was seeing from the current location, at least as far as perception and relative sizes were concerned, but due to the nature of the pancake lens, obviously everything was wider than what I was seeing. So I decided to focus even more on composition. For example, if the monastery was no longer the focus, or looked too small, then fine, I looked for ways to further highlight the sense of isolation. Sometimes I got shots that were better than my head was imagining, and other times, the outcome wasn’t personally satisfying. + +This unlocked a memory of a photography class I took ages ago. At the time, the instructor brought a mix of film SLRs and point-and-shoot cameras, and one tip he mentioned was to keep both eyes open even when you’re using only one to look through the viewfinder, the reason being that by keeping both eyes open, you’re able to see the scene you want to capture in context with the rest of what’s in front of you. It’s funny - because this memory popped up mid-shoot and I literally yelled, “Shit, THAT’S what he was going on about!” And for those who aren’t familiar, the early Sony NEX cameras did not have a built-in viewfinder; it was just a live view LCD that is hard to see in broad daylight. Hence my exclamation. + +So that was my key takeaway: my next camera will have a viewfinder, and I will pair it with a nifty-fifty prime lens. Mind, I am not seeking recommendations as camera shopping is a much longer term goal based on current circumstances. What I do know is that I will not be looking at new lenses to buy because I do not know whether I want to stay with Sony’s E-mount or switch over to something else. + +That said, I do not consider my current NEX as dead weight because I can still continue practicing composition and experimenting with the exposure triangle. To give a real-life example of this from my trip, I hiked to the top of Mt. Lycabettus with a miniature tripod to get some sunset and night-time shots of downtown Athens. The fun began past 8PM once the evening rays disappeared. At first, I merely adjusted the ISO to account for little light, fixed the aperture to f/2.8 and adjusted the shutter speed to see what would come out of it. Then I thought, “Hmm. What if I shrunk the aperture, and extended the shutter speed?” and was surprised at how the results differed. So that was actually fun (even despite what I felt was an attempt at pickpocketing..joke’s on them - my pants doesn’t have rear pockets!). + +What about part 2? Well, I forgot to charge the battery before going out on my first day of sightseeing. Yes, a very stupid mistake, and only I am to blame. Which leads to the timeless adage of “the best camera is the one you have on you,” which was my iPhone XR. Similar story to above: no zoom (digital zoom does not count), all wide, more thinking required, etc. But again, similar conclusion: some good shots, some bad shots, BUT all memorable shots for better or worse. And no viewfinder sucks. + +So there you have it. Hopefully this story will serve as a reminder to always double-check your equipment, no matter what. And I also hope you gain some amusement from my troubles. + +tl;dr: I want a viewfinder. I like nifty-fifty. My future camera will have those. And I need to remember to charge batteries.",0 +7076,"Share a moment that you realized you had made a mistake during a shoot, but you didn’t discover until you’ve started editing 😂. I’ll go first: +Literally just now, I’m editing a commercial shoot I did last week for a pet store. And I just now found out my model had her phone in her back pocket the entire time, while wearing form fitting jeans… so it’s in plain site with any shot on her right side…not a good look for me hahah + + +What’s yours? And don’t say you’ve never had a “too late” mistake. I can guarantee we all have lol",0 +7077,"Email from Skylum (creators of LumarAI/Neo). It seems most of their operations are based in Kyiv. + + The drone is undoubtedly the wildest photography development in recent memory. Skylum is proud of our community of drone enthusiasts who promote creativity and give new opportunities to photographers all over the world. + + +Now, as Russia invaded Ukraine and is trying to shatter everything that the Skylum Team stands for, we’re asking our photography friends for support. +Ukraine is asking you to become our guardian angel! + + +Donate your drone so we can ensure the safety of Ukrainian citizens. +Your drone will remain unarmed and will be used for surveillance purposes only. + + +We need: +\- DJI Mavic 2 Zoom +\- DJI DRON Mavic 2 Enterprise Dual +\- Autel Evo 2 + + +You can help Ukrainians to protect themselves as your drone will provide real-time pictures of the situation on the ground. Our defenders can act faster and more decisively with the help of drones and provide better security to civilians with prior warnings about imminent danger. Your drone will be saving lives! + + +This unjustified war in the middle of Europe has to be put to an end, and you can make your contribution. Share this information with your drone community and on social media. + + +To get further information please contact Sabina Iliasova from Skylum Team at sabina@skylum.com. She will provide you with further support and information about the delivery address.",0 +7078,"Are there any websites/databases like Shotdeck but for photography?. Shotdeck is a website used by many people in the film industry. It's a database of high definition screenshots from films and you can sort them by Director, Director of Photographer, lens type, color, setting, etc. + +I was wondering if there is something similar for photography? Specifically ""classic"" photographers like Bresson, Eggleston, etc.",0 +7079,"How Do You Differentiate Between Product Tiers, on Social Media (or in general). **Or, Keeping Volume Work from Hurting the Perception of Your Brand** + +Some background: I'm a dog walker and I've been getting into taking more photos and video of people's dogs (clients like this). I haven't rolled any of this out yet, but I'd like to start posting daily photos of the walks (to offer value to dog walking clients and grow the business and interest) *and* I'd like to begin sharing more high quality photos (to also offer that same value, but to also begin to pivot into pet photography). + +My question is about differentiating between these two types of content: how do I make sure I'm creating a differentiation between daily/lower quality snapshots and higher quality photos. By producing somewhat more pedestrian content, I'm afraid of hurting the perception of the dedicated photography brand I want to create.",0 +7080,"[NEED HELP] How to direct couples for pre-wedding photoshoots?. Im a studio photographer that shoots mainly families/kids/maternity & etc. I would say im pretty good at what i do. + +Recently, ive decided to challenge myself by doing more pre-wedding shoots. So i posted a 'couples photoshoot giveaway"" thing on my photography account. Ive done a few pre-wedding shoots before. But i was never great at directing the couples. The energy needed to direct adults vs the energy needed to direct kids is extremely different haha. Im great w kids. Not so much w adults i feel like. + +Regardless, im up for the challenge. Ive watched how-to videos online on directing couples for a couples photoshoot sesh. But theyre all in the western part of the world lol. I say this bc i live in an asian country whereby the people here are more.... reserved. Extremely reserved i would say. With westerners, you barely need to guide them and they'd know how to fake laugh and pose and etc. But with asians, it's very very different. + +So my question is.... how do you get those natural lifestyle shots where the couple are all smiley and laughing and etc. I'm super used to posing people but i can't get them to laugh and stuff you know what i mean? I would hope that the answers i get would be helpful for asians couples who live in an asian country haha. + +Any tips/recommendations/advice?",0 +7081,"Gifting prints: is too big inappropriate?. I would like to have aluminum prints made and gift them but I feel like it could be cumbersome and a bit presumptuous to assume others would want my picture on their wall. + +Personally I want nothing more than to fill my walls with prints of the pretty things I've captured, but trying to be minimalist in many more aspects I can perfectly understand someone else wanting their walls relatively blank (or just displaying something different). + +Is there any kind of etiquette to this? Is 20x30cm generally safe? or 30x45cm (still 300 dpi)? Am I overthinking this because they are free to pass it on to someone else anyway and I can give them the choice to take it or not in the first place.",0 +7082,"Publishing photos that clients didn't select. What's everyone's opinion on publishing an image that client didn't initially select from the proofs? + +I really love an image I took (no people in it) and want to add it to my portfolio. + +The shoot was about two years ago and client never came back lol... + +Thoughts on doing this? Has anyone else done it? I mean they published other shots from the same room and its a standard contract where photographer owns the copyright...",0 +7083,"Self-Promotion Sunday: November 20, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7084,"I am losing my passion for photography and don’t know how to rescue it…. I’ve been doing landscape photography for three years or so on and off and enjoyed it for the most part. But in the last year or so I have really struggled to maintain my motivation for getting out there and shooting. I had goals at the beginning of the year to start printing my work and get a website going. Both were apart of a much bigger goal of making photography apart of my income within 5 years but I have achieved neither thus far. I’ve read online and seen in countless videos that you should try and focus on what makes you passionate about picking up your camera but I don’t know what that is? + +I’ve tried forest photography, ocean photography and even bird photography most recently. Being located in New Zealand it’s pretty easy to get caught up in the cliche of just shooting the wide landscape and I wanted to do more with my photos. I wanted people to stop and think about my photos and how they make them feel. I am hugely influenced my the likes of Rachael Talibart and her story of finding her niche and place in photography and thriving. + +I just really wanted to settle myself into a niche I can be passionate about and motivated to shoot week in, week out but I am really struggling to determine where to go from here with my photography. As I say I love photography and the experiences it leads me to within nature but I always feel I am losing my motivation. + +Any help or suggestions would be really appreciated.",0 +7085,"Camera features you personally find useless/pointless?. I know we all have our own opinions about what's useful hence I am looking at what you find useless. + +Personally, creative filters that look like early 2010s Instagram filters, on pro camera bodies. It's probably the least used setting out there. Sure, on consumer friendly models, there may be a market for it, but if you make a pro model, at least make them look....usable? + + If I'm going to do it in camera at least have them less 'strong' in terms of tonality. At least that was from my experience of seeing these in camera filters in the settings. The B&W are often very strong.",0 +7086,"About the large format and medium format ""look"". Thought I'd open a discussion about this with sharing my thoughts! I've also been having a fairly bad evening and just feel like thinking more about this. + +Anyway, I always see a lot of people talk about the LF or MF ""look"" being something magical and I disagree with that sentiment (lovingly though as I do prefer using my RZ67 and Speed Graphic over my Nikon Z7). + +For large format: there is a specific instance where you can get a unique look that can't be achieved on 35mm: fast lenses like the Aero Ektar 178mm f2.5. On 4x5 with that lens wide open (which is also quite sharp), you get the DoF equivalent to a 50mm f0.7 lens on 35mm. Aside from that, you aren't getting anything special in terms of more ""depth"" or ""fullness"" from the larger format. Your greatest benefit is just a film format thing in terms of better resolution and finer grain compared to smaller formats. + +For medium format: There is no particular benefit over 35mm digital cameras aside from the fact that MF lenses (both film and digital) tend to fair better at apertures that give extremely shallow DoF because optics are less problematic when dealing with larger sensors/film. The biggest benefit of those $20k+ MF cameras like you'd find from Hasselblad and Leaf/Phase One are the quality of the sensors - extremely fine grain, effectively perfect color science, etc. + + +As for the special ""look"" a lot of people claim to see in bigger formats, I don't think that has anything to do with the equipment making things look a certain way. For example: + +When you see someone like Tyler Shields or Anne Leibowitz using a Phase One XF or Hasselblad H6D, you're probably watching someone at the top-tier level of professional photography. They'd be able to capture the same beautiful image on any consumer DSLR. + +When you see someone using medium format film, you're watching someone use a camera that gives them 10-12 exposures per roll of expensive film. It forces you to slow down and think thoroughly about each time you hit the trigger. + +When you see someone using large format, you're seeing someone spend between $1 and $50 per picture. Not only that, but the process is inherently slow. Unless you're using something like a Graflex RB, you can't run and gun these things. Photographers using LF cameras will often spend at least 5 minutes *per picture* getting everything on their camera looking perfect - and that's after spending quite a bit more time figuring out the perfect angle, elevation, etc for the picture they want to take. And after that, most people shooting this format self-dev and scan (because LF at a lab costs a fortune) which means the level of effort required each time you hit the shutter is very high. That special ""look"" is usually directly related to the level of thought that has to go into each picture. + +I think these points are great things to consider as a photographer. Slowing down, calculating every component of your image, and acting as if each exposure requires a deep level of care - they're great traits to learn. Ever since I started often shooting film in MF and LF, I feel like the quality of my photography has been rapidly increasing because I care more about perfectionist detail in my workflow. + +Anyway, let me know what you all think! Agree or disagree with me here? Think I'm missing some aspect about this topic?",0 +7087,"Colour grading and colour blindness. Hey all! + +I want to to get into colour grading my photos. Whenever I see a tutorial or video about it, I like the results, but have zero idea how to get there. I use Lightroom almost exclusively for my editing and know the basics of colour theory. + +But: I am red-green colourblind. This means I don't see ""enough"" red and generally like blue colours more. Are any of you in a similar position? Do you have any tips on how to approach the subject? Should I just randomly jank the sliders until something comes out? Grading yellows, greens, browns and purples seems like almost Impossible for me.",0 +7088,"Want to improve your shots in one easy step?. I see so many shots that could be so much better if level and square. Lazy composition can really mess up an otherwise great shot. Level and or square up your lines in camera or in post. Trees and buildings, horizon lines etc should form right angles and or level planes unless tilt is deliberate and stylistically added. Tilted landscapes look terrible.",0 +7089,"Is being a photo editor a thing?. Hi everyone! I am a photographer who prefers the editing to actually taking the photos. I am a stay at home mom at the time and would really love to find a job working from home! + +I absolutely love editing photos and am very good at it. I don’t have time to go out and shoot right now but plenty of time to edit. Is there a place to find photographers in need of editing help? I’ve tried things like Fivver and upwork but there is always someone else willing to do the work for stupid cheap. + +Any thoughts appreciated!",0 +7090,"Photographing a loved one who is dying. My mom has just been diagnosed with cancer. She's in a hospital and gets the adequate treatment there and awaits a big surgery on Wednesday. My dad spoke with the doctors if she can come home and meet her children and grandchildren for a final goodbye. They kindly agreed. + +I've decided that I'm going to bring my camera with me and capture the last moments with her and in their home among their loved ones. + +I'm by no way a professional but I consider myself an enthusiast when it comes to photography. But frankly, I'm kind of scared of the task but I still feel more than dedicated to it. + +Do you have recommendations for a dignified and empathetic way to take pictures in this setting? It'll be mostly indoors with a lot of crying involved (myself included). I've got a 77D with the Sigma 18-35mm f1.8, the 50mm f1.8, and the 70-200mm f4. No flashes or other equipment (except a tripod). + +Thank you so much in advance!",0 +7091,"How to deal with unsatisfied clients. I’ve been doing senior photos for students at my college this quarter and for the most part it’s amazing. I love taking photos and I’ve gotten quite good at composition and editing in Lightroom. I’ve discovered my own particular editing style (thinking of making my own presets to make the process faster). Most of them seem pretty happy and say that they love the photos. + +But there’s always that one person who’s not happy exactly with the selection of edited photos and asks for the RAWs or if there “were any others”. Now I totally understand where they’re coming from, some photos that I and maybe other people would consider “objectively” great may highlight some features that the clients are a bit insecure about. I’ve had a photoshoot done for prom where I felt she did an amazing job but some of the pictures captured my worst angles. + +When they ask for the RAWs, that’s where MY insecurities start to come out. Mulling over all the photos I carefully selected and edited, then looking at the RAWs and thinking “there’s no way I can send ALL of these!“ like I’m not gonna lie some of them are trash, something’s out of focus, eyes closed, wrong exposure, ugly trashcan in the shot. While I’ve definitely gotten better at taking more quality shots and not just quantity…some of them are testers…some are bad. + +It’s hard to for me to send all of the bad ones unedited, since it really doesn’t represent all of my talent and skill, it’s not FINISHED. Plus I really don’t think they will find a “better” one in that pile of rejects. + +How often does this happen to the rest of you? How does one deal??",0 +7092,"Orange/Blue editing style?. I follow a couple hundred instagram photographers and I notice about maybe a third? of them use this editing style that really emphasises the oranges and blues of images (or colour correcting green to blue, yellow to orange, etc.) Does anyone know why this is so popular? I know orange and blue are complimentary colours, but by that logic why not do yellow and purple? Does anyone have any insight?",0 +7093,"Self-Promotion Sunday: November 13, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7094,"How long did it take for you to get into paid photography (or videography) work?. Im not sure if this question is okay to post here, if not, please remove it. + +I’m a student, learning photography, and I have a huge passion for it. I’m keen to get into working photography jobs in a couple months when I truly know my camera and some techniques. + +My main question is how long after you started learning photography did you feel confident and comfortable enough to start looking for paying jobs, and how did you market yourself? + +Edit: Thanks for all your replies! It’s given me some great ideas on a game plan to getting paid gigs. I absolutely love hearing all your stories :)",0 +7095,"2022 r/photography Mentor List. Our sub has no shortage of talented photographers that work in many genres, and we have a tradition of volunteers who are happy to share their knowledge through mentoring. +___ + +If you’d like to talk to a mentor, please do not add a comment here! Browse the list below, pick a volunteer, and use their preferred method of contact. + +If you’d like to volunteer as a mentor, please post a comment below with your details. And thank you for volunteering! Here’s an example of how to format your comment: + + /u/thisIsNotActuallyARealRedditUser + + Name: John Doe + + Specialty: Weddings, Product, Sharks + + Location: City/State/Country + + Portfolio/Social Media: + + http://example.com + + http://flickr.com/whatever + + http://instagram.com/whatever + + Preferred Method of Contact: Reddit PM, email + + + + +Sometimes life gets in the way, people get busy, and as a result they are no longer available to act as a mentor. No worries! If you need to remove your availability as a mentor, simply delete your comment below. (Please be sure to also get in touch with anyone who has already established contact with you to let them know you are no longer available. It’s just courteous.) + +NOTE: Our list is not curated. Anyone willing to be a mentor can submit their information, and anyone is free to contact mentors. + +This is purely volunteer-based with no formal structure whatsoever. As such, decisions on the level of depth in answering questions as well as involvement in the process are left up to each individual mentor. + + +*When contacting mentors, please let them know how you got their information. Just a simple “Hi this is . I saw your name on the /r/photography mentor thread and I have a couple questions” will save a lot of confusion.*",0 +7096,"Is back-/front-focusing still a thing in mirrorless cameras?. I've recently purchased the Sigma 18-35mm f/1.8 DC Art lens for my Canon EOS R7. I noticed that there was a USB Dock compatible with this lens, and while I have some Sigma lenses already, the USB Dock is a new concept for me, so I went online to a Canon Discord server to ask about it. + +I was advised that it would be nice to have the dock to update the firmware of the lens, make configuration changes if the lens have some (from what I understand, this particular lens does), and to make focus adjustments. + +That last part, ""focus adjustments"", is to adjust lens focusing to compensate for back-focusing and front-focusing. + +I have since ordered this dock. I also have a mild (mild he said... hahaha) onset of GAS so I don't need much convincing of these things. + +However, is back- or front-focusing still a thing with mirrorless cameras? + +The reason I ask is that the way I understood it, and obviously my understanding might be completely wrong, on (D)SLRs, the sensor/film is separate from the focus sensors, which means that any misalignment in either how the light bounces towards the sensor, or the distance it has to travel, will lead to focus issues. The focus sensors might think everything is peachy, but once the mirror flips up and the actual sensor/film is exposed, it isn't. + +However, in mirrorless cameras, either with contrast focusing or dual-pixel autofocus which my R7 has (and I guess there might be other variants), I would assume this would no longer be a thing, as the same sensor that determines whether the subject is in focus is also the one going to take the actual picture. + +My assumption is that the focus system in a mirrorless camera doesn't analyze the data it has available, determine that focus is off by 18 micro-oomphs (a random unit invented by me just now), and then tell the lens to compensate by dialing in negative 18 micro-oomphs, and then it is done. + +Instead, I am assuming that focusing is actually done by analyzing the data, determine a guesstimate on amount and direction, tell the lens to adjust, re-measure and re-analyze, rinse and repeat until in focus. As such, if my assumption is accurate enough, I would imagine the end result would be in focus, whether the lens would need adjustment for a (D)SLR or not. + +So, how wrong am I in my understanding or assumption? Is back-/front-focusing still a thing? Please enlighten me.",0 +7097,"Wins Wednesday: November 23, 2022. **Time for some positivity!** + +Have you had any recent photography wins? Share them here! +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7098,"How to correctly enlarge your pictures with Photoshop - Step by step tutorial. Hello fellow photographers, + +I made a video tutorial about it, but apparently, I can't share any video in here (or am I dumb?), so I decided to share it as a step-by-step. + + +# 1) Open your image in Photoshop (obviously) + +# 2) Make a Selection of your subject like here: + +https://preview.redd.it/cwsxidtmchc81.jpg?width=1073&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6f392be9005c866e0d96bb0fa12f2bff02675066 + +# 3)Right-click on your selection and save it: + +https://preview.redd.it/p2prrkd1dhc81.jpg?width=1073&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d55479b4c3cd73e56254f3c7824b2635f4ef114b + +# 4)Name it ""Subject"" or whatever you'd like + +https://preview.redd.it/wpuox1jxchc81.jpg?width=1076&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4261023d8dbc1eb1a8943b1ee4e453784ac9a856 + +# 5)Now you can go to Edit->Content-Aware Scale: + +https://preview.redd.it/ez1zkgphdhc81.jpg?width=1079&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2fa6294a31ba55cadfa275693dc7b1ec9196d979 + +# 6)And choose your selection in the ""Protect"" settings: + +https://preview.redd.it/usuborfldhc81.jpg?width=1075&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f27de3ec899d9c65d202ad74d1c33918c4aaf218 + +# 7)You can now enlarge your pictures without distorting your subject: + +https://preview.redd.it/4j3etztodhc81.jpg?width=1073&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=34e8804eb4152126d7cc4a896fcbeafa7a6fd3a9",0 +7099,"Using older digital cameras for interesting results. I have no idea how well known or discussed this is in the photographic community, but I think using older digital cameras for shots is quite underrated. People tend to discard older technologies (that aren't analog) once they are obsolete, even if they're still perfectly usable. + +I can't afford ""good"" DSLRs and as a occasional hobby/amateur photographer so for photos I'm resorted to whatever is in my pocket (AKA my phone). I was inspired by LGR to look out for older digital cameras in thrift stores, and seen that they're so cheap (mostly between 1 and 7 bucks) they produce such interesting results. I believe many people don't know, but just like with already shot film in that they age with time, so do imaging sensors. Some in my opinion like a fine wine. Colors may not be 100% accurate, the older the camera the more challenges you experience with shooting an accurate photo since certain things like white balance and contrast, etc. + +I already collected a few cameras along the way, and got very satisfying results. I wonder what you guys think of all this. I'm open for discussion on this. :)",0 +7100,"hobbies/work outside of photography?. Hi, curious how many of you, whether you work as a photographer, are a student or just a hobby- also create work (for work or hobby) in other fields, like writing, traditional art, illustration, 3D, animation, etc?",0 +7101,"Album Share Tuesday: September 06, 2022. **Let’s see your work! Use this thread to share an album, get feedback from, and give feedback to your peers.** + +Before posting, be sure to give feedback on other people’s albums. Feedback can be as little as “I like this photo best!” + +If you are more confident in your critiquing abilities, give reasons why x photo was good, and/or what can be done to improve y photo. + +Please post curated albums! + +Do not post your entire Flickr/instagram feeds or website, nor albums of hundreds of photos. You will get more meaningful feedback on albums of fewer images. +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7102,"How has your relationship to photography changed over the years?. For years as a beginning-to-intermediate hobbyist, I was killing myself with the pressure to constantly shoot as often as possible, and guilt trip myself for missing a good photo because I didn't have my camera with me. I know other photographers have felt this way, and I believe I've seen it brought up on this sub. I've noticed in the past few years - even before the pandemic, though that certainly played a part - that pressure to shoot, shoot, shoot, has subsided, and when I do feel it I'm much better at handling it. My relationship with photography has matured. I know how it fits into my life. I'm a professional now, so I know I always have a chance to shoot, and I'm genuinely making a name for myself which I'm proud of. I take fewer photos now but I know what and how I shoot. It also helps that I have picked up other hobbies and interests. + +What are your thoughts? What was your relationship with photography like when you started and what is it like now?",0 +7103,"What motivates you?. I LOVE photography, or at least I say I do. My first camera was a birthday gift, a cheap Orange and Silver point and shoot film camera from Walmart, I wish I still had it. Then I bought a slightly more expensive, maybe $50, Nikon SLR film camera from Walmart. Then, as a Christmas gift from my parents, I received a Sony a55, which I used off and on for a few years, and now I own a Sony A7iii and a couple lenses. Honestly, I say all of this to come to the point that for years I thought if I get new gear it will drive me to get out and take photos. This is a lie, it will not. I find myself now wanting another lens (Sony 200-600), but knowing I don't ever get out and use my camera. I HATE this about myself. I want to get out and use my camera more, but I just don't. So, what motivates you? What gets you off of your butt and drives you to enjoy photography? + +*UPDATE*: Thanks everyone for your advice, there truly is some great wisdom in there and actually some stuff I might try. At the end of the day the repeated wisdom that we have to find what motivates ourselves is what seemed to rise to the top and I couldn't agree more. I hope everyone keeps pursuing their passions and are able to find joy, provision, or whatever it is you seek behind the lens. +Grace and Peace be with you.",0 +7104,How do people know the difficulty level of designing a lens?. Sometimes I read Sony alpha rumors comments and I often come across comments where the person says one lens is more difficult to design then another. How do these people know what they are talking about? Is there a general rule that the wider the lens the more difficult to design? I am not sure what terms to google to find a good explanation on how to know if one particular lens is harder to design than another.,0 +7105,"Photographer presenting contract after shoot. Hi r/photography! + +My fiancé and I have been having a not so pleasant experience with our photographer for our engagement photos and I’d really appreciate anyone’s professional opinion on our situation. It’s a long story but I will try to keep it brief. + +The TL;DR of the situation is: we’re being asked to sign a contract months after our shoot and after we’ve chosen photos. The contract contains language referring to both the shoot and photo selection in the future tense even though it happened months ago. It feels really wrong to us to sign a contact for something that’s already happened, but these are our first professional photos and don’t know. We feel taken advantage of. + +Longer version: we got connected to this photographer through my fiancé’s mother’s entrepreneur group. We met her in November and talked about what we wanted and Zoom called a couple times before our shoot at the end of February. Our photographer was nice enough but she really treated us more as “friends” than clients. She flaked on 2-3 Zoom calls because her kids wouldn’t eat dinner. Then changed locations of the shoot 2 days beforehand. Nothing deal breaking, but frustrating nonetheless. + +A few weeks after the shoot, we met to go through pictures. We had taken over 1200 photos but only got to see 95 of them. Still haven’t seen the other 1100. Maybe this is standard, like I said it’s our first shoot and we don’t know. At this meeting we were shown a pricing sheet for prints and the photographer said she doesn’t do just digitals. The cheapest option was over $2500 for a super over the top, custom made box with 25 prints which we’d also get the digitals of. We were not given the pricing of prints before this. To be honest, we possibly were shown the sheet during our initial meeting 5 months prior, but were certainly never given a copy to keep and refer to during these months. Again, this felt odd, or even dishonest. We were certainly not clearly told that there are not digital-only options. Every person we’ve talked to has said the price is exorbitant. It was certainly out of our budget. + +We eventually discussed a new package with her and have a new one without the crazy box but with the same 25 prints and digitals for $1300. Still out of our budget but better. The thing is that we are just now being shown a contract to sign, being told “it’s just a formality”. A major red flag is that a lot of the contract refers to both the shoot and photo selection in the future tense even though both have taken place months prior. This leads us to believe she “forgot” to share it with us beforehand. + +We’ve told our photographer how uncomfortable this whole situation with the lack of pricing transparency and now the contract makes us feel. She has given us the chance to essentially back out and she’ll delete the pictures (we’re not in love with the photos and only got 1 photo each of our dogs and 2 of the 4 of us together, but that’s another can of worms). But after us bringing it up twice, she has not addressed the contract issues. + +Are we in the wrong for feeling hesitant and uncomfortable? We really feel taken advantage of since we told her we’d never done pro photos before. Is it normal to be asked to sign a contract AFTER the shoot and photo selection? We just don’t feel comfortable signing a contact for something that already happened. This whole thing has left a bad taste in our mouth and don’t look forward to booking a photographer for our wedding. Again, we’ve never had professional photos taken before and I would really appreciate anyone’s professional insight into our situation. + +Thank you in advance! + +EDIT 1: Thank you for all the responses, everyone! I’m sorry I don’t have time to respond to all of you. To add some information, we saw a portfolio on her website, but there was no pricing listed. When we were finally given a pricing sheet (after photo selection), we were told we can’t show it to anyone since her pricing changes. This woman also teaches photography at a local college so we had faith she’d be professional. Honestly, now we worry that her students would be doing our edits. Probably not, but our trust in her has been really shaken. + +I’ll talk to my fiancé tonight, but we’ve been thinking of backing out. Realistically, we will probably look at the photos and just remember our anger and frustration, no matter how good they turn out. Not what we want for our engagement photos. + +EDIT 2: I should clarify, the $2500 was just for the prints and digitals. We’d already paid $500 for the actual session.",0 +7106,"Here are Some Small Changes I've Made to my Mindset to Improve my Chances of Getting a Keeper. While I’m not going to argue that a camera and lens are important parts of taking a photo, your mindset plays a huge role in your chances of success. I always like to say that a lot of photography is ‘right place, right time, right gear, right mindset’. While we might have limited control of the first two, and we may face gear limitations due to budget, the one thing we always have control over is our mindset. In the past, due to being too rigid, I’ve returned from countless outings empty handed because things didn’t go exactly as I’d planned. As I’ve continued to grow as a photographer, and as my time with my camera has become more limited, I’ve had to make a few changes. Not to gear, nor to my software, but to the way I think while heading out or in the field. While some of these might seem like common sense, I thought it might be worth sharing some of these changes to my habits, in the hopes that it might help someone out there who’s struggling to get a keeper or to even find the motivation to take their camera out of their bag. + +**1)** **Work With the Conditions You Have** \- I can literally hear your eyes rolling at the idea of this being some kind of breakthrough, but hear me out. I can’t count the number of times that, in my earlier years, I’d arrived at a specific location to shoot a specific scene, only to leave empty handed, because the sunset wasn’t quite nice enough. In many of these cases, my camera wouldn’t even leave the bag. I think my original fascination with perfect conditions came from spending too much time on the photography side of the internet. Being primarily exposed to epic landscapes with epic conditions led me to believe I had to be striving to produce the same level of image every single time. However, in recent years, I’ve become a little more flexible when it comes to what I’ll shoot, which means even if conditions aren’t perfect I’ll try to find a way to make the scene work with the conditions I have, rather than the ones I wish I had. Sometimes, I’m able to shoot the subject or landscape I was planning to, but sometimes it means I have to look around and find something else to point my camera at. It doesn’t always generate a mind-blowing image, but 60% of the time, it works every time, which is better than not even trying. + +**2) Embrace People** \- We’ve all been there, you’re on your way to a location with the perfect image in mind only to get there to find the worst mammal of all deciding to simply exist in the very location you planned to shoot. How dare they. In the past, that would have been curtains for my shoot as I used to consider a shot ‘unusable’ if even a single person was in my frame. However, living in Japan, finding a location without at least a few people in the frame can be quite challenging. As such, in recent years, I’ve embraced including people in my frame. Despite how I used to think, people can actually enhance an image by adding life to the scene or by being used to show the scale of the elements within your image. These days, I more often than not find myself actually hoping to have a few people at the locations I plan to shoot. Of course, this depends on the situation, but next time you’re out and someone gets in your frame, rather than thinking they’ve ruined your perfect shot, try to find a way to have them enhance it. You might be surprised with the results. + +**3) Stop Worrying About Looking Weird** \- Speaking of people, their impact on us in the field goes beyond them ending up in front of our camera. They can also change how comfortable we feel behind the camera. I’ve been in more than a few situation where I wanted to get a shot, but I hesitated, because I was worried about looking weird. However, whether it’s contorting yourself into a position that can only be described as ‘crazy person yoga’ or using your body as a shield from the wind, sometimes you’ve just got to do what you’ve got to do. This has most often been an issue for me when shooting abstract architecture in cities. In Japan and Korea, people usually just stopped to look at what I could possibly be taking a picture of, but back home I’ve had people shout at me from their cars. However, these days, I try my best not to care how I look, so long as I get the shot and I’m not impeding anyone. People might have questions or thoughts about my weirdness, but I have responses. What am I pointing my lens at? A perfect subject. Why does it look like I’m hugging my camera on the beach? I’m a romantic. Is my butt hanging out? You’re welcome. At the end of the day, most people aren’t going to think about you for longer than a few minutes, so go ahead and look weird to get that shot. + +**4) Just Do It** \- On the topic of hesitation, I think most photographers can relate to lacking motivation from time to time. Sometimes, I stand over my camera bag and think to myself ‘is this going to be worth the effort?’ It’s a question I still find myself asking on occasion, and the answer is almost always ‘probably’. I’ve found when I’m lacking motivation that leaving the house is the often hardest part of a photography outing. In the past, the effort of packing everything into my bag, and the thought of lugging that bag around was sometimes enough to make me cancel an outing altogether. However, that feeling usually starts to subside once I actually step out the door. It doesn’t always happen right away, but when I’m out in the field, I tend to feel my creative juices get flowing and I find my hesitation replaced by motivation. It doesn’t always result in a keeper, but sometimes photography is more about the experience. At the end of the day, an outing where you come home without any photos was still a day spent out of the house which, unless you have a particularly nice house, isn’t usually a bad thing. + +5) **Take One More Look** \- Ideally, when photographing a location, we arrive having done some digital scouting to get a rough idea of what our composition is going to be. Then, when we finally get there in person, we find the composition we scouted, get our gear out, choose the proper settings, and snap away. Content with the image we’ve captured, we pack up and move on. However, in the past I’ve sometimes been too quick to leave, causing me to miss out on what might have been a better composition I hadn’t noticed while scouting. These days, I make a conscious effort to take one more look around before packing up, especially if I’m doing photography on a trip. On more than a few occasions, I’ve come across a new composition that I like more than the one I thought was perfect. This also goes for the images you’ve taken. Before packing up take a long hard look at them to make sure there aren’t any distractions your eyes missed the first time around and make sure everything is in focus. There aren’t many things worse than leaving a location proud of the shot you took, only to load it into your editing software and discover there’s an issue with it that even Photoshop can fix. There isn’t enough Rocky Road ice cream in the world to quell that feeling of regret, so just take one more look. You’ll come home with better images more often, and you’ll save a fortune on ice cream + +**6) It’s Worth Going Back, Even When it Isn’t** \- This one is a bit similar to my previous point, but has to do more with that feeling you might get in your gut telling you that you are leaving too soon. This applies most to when you’re shooting at sunset or sunrise, as the light can change the scene in ways you couldn’t predict. I can’t count the number of times I’ve packed up my bags, walked away, stopped to think about it for a minute, then left while thinking ‘it’d be a pain to go back’. This might seem like a totally normal thing to do. After all, your gear is all packed up and the location you were shooting at is like 200 meters from where you’re currently standing, that’s like 656.16 foot-long subs away. However, in recent years, I’ve made an effort to go with my gut when it tells me to go back. Most recently, on one of my trips to Yamanashi, I was standing by my car, gear already inside, when I decided to turn back and look at Mount Fuji one last time before heading to my hotel. I had that same internal discussion I’ve had so many times before. ‘it might be worth it to go back’. ‘Do I really want to drag all my gear all the way back there?’ ‘That is so many foot-longs’. However, on this particular day, I decided it was worth it, so I grabbed my gear, and headed back to the beach I had been standing on. I ended up staying for another 45 minutes or so as the light continued to change over the scene, and it was in those moments that I captured two of my favorite images from the whole trip. However, even if I hadn’t captured any more images, there’s not a much better way to spend a crisp spring morning than taking in the sounds and sights nature has to offer. + +While none of these changes are a magic bullet, they have helped me increase my rate of success, and more than a few of the images in my portfolio are a direct result of these changes. I hope that you will find some or all of these helpful. If you’ve made changes to your mindset to increase your chances of success, feel free to share in the comments below.",0 +7107,"Self-Promotion Sunday: September 18, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7108,A local Hospital has a spot open for New born Photography. Any ideas on what I should be aware of?. How exactly should I go on about this? If anyone can provide advice on how I get people to buy the photos? Or is this something that the nurse/doctor offers and then I come in and give a rate. Is it normal for me to independent in the hospital as a vender or as a member of the staff?,0 +7109,"Album Share Tuesday: October 18, 2022. **Let’s see your work! Use this thread to share an album, get feedback from, and give feedback to your peers.** + +Before posting, be sure to give feedback on other people’s albums. Feedback can be as little as “I like this photo best!” + +If you are more confident in your critiquing abilities, give reasons why x photo was good, and/or what can be done to improve y photo. + +Please post curated albums! + +Do not post your entire Flickr/instagram feeds or website, nor albums of hundreds of photos. You will get more meaningful feedback on albums of fewer images. +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7110,"The photographer with 60,000 undeveloped images of rock history ‘waiting to come back to life’’. ",0 +7111,"Contract must-haves. So I recently made a post about clients putting filters over photos, and most comments made clear that it is very important to have a contract and make agreements. + +I don't have one yet, because I'm very new to the scene and I usually shoot for nothing too serious and don't get paid a lot. In the future I obviously will need a proper contract though, so I am starting to look in to this. + +I was wondering what, in your opionion, are some must-haves in a contract that should definitely be mentioned?",0 +7112,"From a “technique “ standpoint (or at least mainly non gear-related), what is a genre of photography that has gotten better through the decades?. I don’t know if it’s the one that has “advanced” the most, but wedding photography has to be up there, no? + +It might be related to affordability of a professional photographer surely, but look at the wedding pics of our parents. And nowadays even a hobbyist that somehow ended up shooting a wedding might try their hand at some interesting compositions that are better than just the bride and groom awkwardly smiling at the camera on a photo that’s not even centered or leveled.",0 +7113,Why are camera companies so strict on warranties?. I have always been wondering on why are camera companies so strict on buying camera only from you’re country. Like if I am traveling to a different country and want to buy a camera while I am over there at a authorized seller and bring it to the US. Most companies won’t help you with warranty if something goes wrong. I just don’t get it. I think camera companies have one of the most strict warranty policies.,0 +7114,"Wedding pros, what's your stance on 'that guy with a camera'?. I tend to bring my camera. Take a few pictures, from wherever I sit/stand, very discrete, I don't want to come of as a photographer. Then put it away and continue as a guest. That's why I'm there, as a guest. A quick edit and I give the results to my wedded friends. Funny thing is I spot the professional in one of the photos and he's giving me a most peculiar evil stare... + +Edit: Thanks for all your stories and POVs",0 +7115,"Social Media has ruined photography for me - is it possible to come back from this?. I believe this is my first post in this subreddit, although I been reading posts here on & off but I gathered the courage to share my low point in my photographic journey which may cause me to get some criticism but I am also hoping it could help me and others who find their selves in the same kind of situation. + +First a bit of a backstory - I started to take photography serious around 2010, although I been taking pictures before that but 2010 was more serious where I felt that there maybe something here that was enough to derail my interest in IT that I was going to school for, I mean I was even Cisco certified because I wanted to be a Network Engineer (I would have made lot more money than photography with that job! lol) but I felt with photography that I didn't feel with the IT stuff, I guess you can call it joy. It made me get outside and enjoy nature and the sights that I just ignored because I was looking at computer screens all the time. It eventually even got me interested in hiking and exercising which caused me to lose 150 pounds and because of photography, I am a much healthier person today than I was when I worked on computers - Photography saved my life and I'm happy about that. + +Back in 2010 social media wasn't really as big as it is now, in high school the only social media we had was MySpace, I used it until I started to get hate and threats on there and I shut that shit right down, I despise cyberbullying. So I didn't really use social media until around 2016 (when I happened to get my first smartphone, yeah I'm late to the game), I did have a Twitter account in high school that I used to keep up to date on a lot of tech things but recently I decided to delete my account because I don't like the way Twitter was going, especially with photography and silly NFTs. + +I joined Instagram - I didn't know what I was in for. Shared photos and got lots of likes on my photos and boy did that feel good, something I didn't really experience before. I wanted more likes, more followers and I kept that up for a while until I lost it one day when I shared a photo I loved but it hardly got any likes. I got so upset over it that I smashed my phone (something I regret doing). I ended up deleting my Instagram account and stayed off of it for a while but I had that need for validation that I so desperately wanted so I started to use Twitter, Flickr and even Facebook in the same way and I also kind of ruined those for myself, even Flickr. Yeah its basically dead these day, but I still today find myself seeking ""favorites"", I'll even try to optimize my posts for maximum reach via tags and groups. Its pathetic. When I was using Instagram, I stopped using Flickr for a good 2 years because well Instagram was everything, I spent all my time there. + +I knew at this point, I had an addiction to validation. + +Eventually I created a new Instagram account which is what I use today but I haven't logged in for well over two months now. But before I stepped away from Instagram, I noticed I was being heavily influenced by other photographers on Instagram, I was taking pictures that I knew would get likes and get upset when they didn't and would to start thinking that I sucked. When a photo got lots of likes, I felt happy and felt like I was going in a good direction with my photography but the bad days on Instagram kept getting more and more and more and it was really having an affect on my mental health because man I was so addicted to the validation and the fear of losing followers. I was spending 5-8 hours a a day on the app! Granted it was probably all due to the shitty algorithm but I legitimately thought it was because of my photos even when others told me it wasn't - I didn't believe them. I knew something was wrong with me so I had to step away and I haven't been back yet. I'm not sure when I'll log back in but only when I feel ready, I do miss my friends though. + +So I been avoiding a lot of social media lately (except Reddit apparently) and I'm trying to learn again to take photos for myself but its not going well and I feel like giving up and selling my gear because I don't know if I enjoy photography anymore. I feel confused, lost. Social media or I guess I should say ""Instagram"" has got the wires crossed in my brain that I can't even enjoy my own work anymore. + +Even though I think I'm a failure, I also know that I am not. I've had plenty of success too. I've sold 30 prints, made enough to buy a new camera/lens and I've had photos win in competitions and be on the front cover of a newspaper and yet I don't feel like I deserve any of it because I don't know if I am doing it for myself or for the validation. + +I should say that I do struggle with anxiety, self esteem and confidence issues which I am trying to work on these things and I know some of that might not be helping this situation very well. + +I know every photographer reaches some sort of low point in their journey and I'm starting to believe this is my low point. I don't want to give up, I don't like giving up anything so I need to keep trying to find my way back to where I can enjoy photography again and be happy with my work + +Anyways, I just wanted to talk a little about what's on my mind and for anyone who is reading this who is struggling with something similar due to social media sucking the joy out photography just know its okay and you're not alone.",0 +7116,"KEH.com in 2022. Has anyone experienced issues with KEH Lately? I’ve tried to purchase 2 separate cameras from them in the past 6 months and they’ve both arrived broken. Very obviously not functioning fully from the moment I pull them out of the box. Almost like they were never tested. Reaching out to them, the customer service is almost none existent. + +Between 2007 and 2015 I ordered a lot of gear from them and it was always a great experience. Now getting back into photography , it’s like it’s a completely different company. + +Did KEH change ownership? +Has anyone else experienced this ? + +update 3/7/22: I still haven't heard back from anyone in the customer service department at KEH + +update 2 3/7/22: after a business day and a half of not being able to speak to anyone, after the close of business . I filed a PayPal claim and a complaint with the BBB. Then magically at 9 PM ( 2 hours after they apparently close) someone responded to my original email. I will be returning it at my , not so, nearest fed ex and be done with this whole saga. + + +I share all this as my personal experience with KEH from how it first was in 2007 to the negative experiences Ive have the past 6 months. I personally wouldn't order from them ever again but do your own independent research.",0 +7117,"Here is an article I found that may inspire some of you all to take pics of things you haven’t before!. https://www.wix.com/blog/photography/amp/photography-inspiration-ideas + + I always love exploring nee ways to shoot.",0 +7118,"Default image file names from various brands. Hi! + +I am writing a small software tool for a friend, and for an idea he had, it would be super useful to know which camera brands use which default file naming convention. I was not able to find a list anywhere, so I hope it is okay for me to ask here, if we could maybe collectively get such a list going. + +I will try to update this post with the results, so that it might be of use to someone else. + +The ones I *think* I have figured out so far, but would like to confirm (x = single digit): + +* DSC\_xxxx - Sony DSLRs +* DSCNxxxx - Nikon DSLRs +* DSCFxxxx - Fuji DSLRs +* IMG\_xxxx - iPhone, possibly many others +* IMGPxxxx - Pentax DSLRs + +Is this correct so far? If you know others, I'd be very grateful if you could add them! + +Thanks in advance! + +*Edit: I am aware that most cameras let you customize the naming scheme, and some names are shared between brands. This is not an issue in my case, and I am mostly interested in the settings that you have out of the box, without any user-made changes.* + +​ + +The list so far: + +* DSC\_xxxx - Sony, Nikon +* DSCNxxxx - Nikon +* DSCFxxxx - Fuji +* DSCxxxxx - Sony mirrorless and point and shoot / action models, Nikon depending on color space used +* Pxxxxxxx - Panasonic Lumix, Olymupus Tough +* \_DSCxxxx - Sony a6000 +* \_MG\_xxxx - Canon EOS +* IMG\_xxxx - Canon EOS +* DJI\_xxxx - DJI Mavic 2 Pro",0 +7119,"Safari with only 1 body. Hello everyone! I have a trip coming up in a few days to Kenya. I shoot with a Sony A7c. I will be joining a group safari. What’s the best way to handle only having 1 body? + +I will be bringing a 24-105, and a 100-400. + +I’m worried that I’ll have on the 100-400 and we will have some animal very close. Buying another body is not an option for me. + +Also we will be in a safari van, not a jeep. + +Edit: thanks everyone! A lot of great tips in here. I think i will be okay with the 1 body and keeping the 100-400 on there most of the time. It’s a 7 day safari. Hopefully I get some great shots. I’ll share a link in here in a few weeks with some shots. Again thanks for the responses!",0 +7120,"Not knowing where to start.... I'm 18 and fresh out of highschool with a desire to be a wedding photographer. I have nowhere to start though. I've been told photography doesn't require college or at least very much college. Still if I want a company to hire me I feel that having some sort of education looks good on my resume. So far I've taken 4 years of photography and editing throughout high school. + +​ + +I know there are at least a few professionals here that have made a career out of it. I feel lost and I need to know what to do now. Help?",0 +7121,"Weirdest Photoshop Request You've Received?. I find that sometimes my photography clients aren't entirely aware how Photoshop works and see it as a magical fix all button (perhaps they've seen a few timelapse videos that show hours of work boiled down to 30 seconds and think that it only takes a minute to do pretty much anything). + +I'm curious what the weirdest, most awkward, clueless Photoshop request you ever received was... + +I once had a bride ask me to remove her sister's (now) ex boyfriend from every photo he was in. We're not talking about just portraits that he happened to be in, but erase him from every picture that he appeared in like he never existed. When I said that was an extremely labor intensive process, she said, ""It's not really that difficult to Photoshop him out, is it?"" + +So what's your Photoshop story?",0 +7122,"Places to go to practice photography?. Hey everyone, + +I have some time daily to go out and practice my photography while also working on my mental health by being outside and walking. My issue is I live in America and everywhere around me is setup for car traffic. I can’t just hop on a subway and walk and explore. So I get stuck in destination photography and I start running out of places to go. + +What are your goto places to get out and take some images? + +Thanks!",0 +7123,"Just got an offer to photograph a family friend’s sweet 16. ai’m an amateur 16 year old photographer, and I’ve never done work for money, nor have I worked for other people. Part of me doesn’t want to take the offer because I’m worried I’d mess it up, which would be a horrid situation for everyone, but I know it would be a really good opportunity. + +I suppose I’m asking for a little reassurance, but mainly does anyone have any tips on how to best prepare myself? Anything no matter how small is greatly appreciated as I’m completely new to this. Thank you all!",0 +7124,"Yes or No to white borders?. To all my social media users, I shoot film and I often think the white borders are necessary. However, i feel like that look for feeds are a bit out of style.. Let’s discuss",0 +7125,"I’m an aspiring photojournalist who only wants to shoot in the fully auto modes. Am I making a mistake?. Ok so, I am a 17 year old aspiring to be a photojournalist as a career. I have been a photographer for about 4 years now since I joined my schools photojournalism class, and I’ve been in love with it since. I’ve carried my camera (Canon T-100) everywhere I go and have really gotten good at taking photos. I even now have an internship at my local paper and have finally gotten my pictures on the front page. For all instances I’m am on the right path to be an actual photojournalist. But one thing has been bugging me, and that’s I’m worried I’m a hack since I only shoot in full auto. +Now when I mean full auto I don’t mean aperture priority or shutter priority. I mean modes like sport, portrait, landscape, and macro on my T-100. The reason I’ve used these modes is mainly because I just like the way the look image wise. I can never replicate the same style of photos on manual or semi-auto mode. Now, on my own terms I would be just fine and content just continuing to use these modes, but I also want to be a photojournalist. And I wonder if in order to be a photojournalist you have to shoot in manual modes or else your a hack loser fraud. I’m honestly just super paranoid I won’t achieve my dreams the way I want and I don’t want to end my life and what I love over it. So what should I do? + +Edit: Thanks for all the replies and advice. I first want to say sorry the scrambled wording of my original post, I was going through a depressive stint when writing it but I’m kinda better now. I’ve taken peoples advice on learning manual and raw and I’ve realized it’s way more easier then I initially thought, I was just confused more at my camera ui rather then how iOS or aperture works itself. I’m also going to get soon the canon 50mm prime lens so I hope I kind really get more experimental and really improve my style. Thanks again to all who replied!",0 +7126,"Ethics of protest/riot photography. How does everyone feel about protecting anonymity when photographing riots or protests? On one hand, I don't feel a responsibility to protect the identity of those committing crimes. On the other hand, I'd hate for a photo I took to incriminate someone whose job/family/community might not approve of them participating in a protest. + +Is the onus on the individual to protect their identity at these events? Or do we have a responsibility to only post or publish photos with the express permission of individuals?",0 +7127,"Album Share Tuesday: November 22, 2022. **Let’s see your work! Use this thread to share an album, get feedback from, and give feedback to your peers.** + +Before posting, be sure to give feedback on other people’s albums. Feedback can be as little as “I like this photo best!” + +If you are more confident in your critiquing abilities, give reasons why x photo was good, and/or what can be done to improve y photo. + +Please post curated albums! + +Do not post your entire Flickr/instagram feeds or website, nor albums of hundreds of photos. You will get more meaningful feedback on albums of fewer images. +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7128,"Would you rather err on the side of too many shots or too few shots?. Just a question I found myself asking as I'm jumping back into photography, and interested in others' opinions as well. + +When I first started years ago, I always erred on way too many shots, and it usually meant most of my photos were sloppy and overall just not great. It was kind of disheartening getting 5 good shots from an outing and having to sift through 200 shots to get there. + +Now, I find myself leaning the opposite way, trying to only keep the best, ""perfect"" RAWs on my cameras to have way fewer to go through at the end of a day. This saves time, but I often find myself wishing I had taken a picture of this thing or that person. + +Which to you seems like the ""safer"" side to edge towards?",0 +7129,"Share your encounters with strangers while out shooting. I mostly do street and suburban photography or places where they'll be people around. Today, i was walking down a quiet residential street with my camera and saw something interesting, i can already be quite self conscious and wait until there's no one around. After taking the photo, this guy comes around the corner just as i put the camera down: + +**""What you doin' round here man?** + +**What do you mean?** + +**You know what i mean, what you doin' round here?** + +**Just walking around** + +**Yeah, what you doin' with that camera?** + +**Taking photos** + +**Taking photos of what?** + +**The streets** + +**That doesn't make much sense does it** + +**Well it does to me, i'm a photographer** + +**Yeah, more like a fed (police) looking to get knocked out** + +**No, more like i've got a hobby** + +""**Yeah yeah...""** + +As he walks off... + +Seemed like this person was a mixture of angry and looking for an argument and paranoid, accussing me of being a police officer. + +While not as hostile as this person, in the last few months i've had other encounters of strangers asking me what i'm doing. One person said ""people don't like that sort of thing around here"", an old man asked ""can i help you?"" from his back garden when he saw i was taking photos on the canal that his house backed onto. And just the other week, i was followed by a man that caught up with me and asked if he was in any of the photos i had just took of a market, because he's drug dealer. + +I understand if people feel like i'm an intruder and up to no good, especially in a suburban area. But i'm coming to the conclusion that it seems the only people asking these questions are overly paranoid elderly people concerned for their safety or people up to some kind of dodgy shit. + +When i take my camera out i'll sometime be in certain mood, whether it be based on nostalgia, a certain music genre that links to images i associate with it, inspired by cinematography etc ... you kind of romanticise your surroundings when taking photos, and things like this just burst my bubble and for me it just completely takes me out of the mindset i was in before, it can cause a complete mood swing. + +I'm curious about others people's encounters of all kinds with strangers. I'm sure i'm not alone when i say as a street photographer, i can be self conscious and i'm always aware that someone might be wondering what i'm doing. If i'm in a place that's socially accepted as a place of ""beauty"", it's fine, i feel quite comfortable with my camera. But unfortunately not everyone sees the beauty in something like a street or a building. + +I've been into photography for most of my 20s (i'm 31 now), i've had a couple friendly conversations with strangers here and there (unsurprisingly these have all been in natural beauty spots, never in the middle of a town or city). But these encounters, where someone is directly asking what i'm doing have all happened in the last 2 months which is really weird, it feels like i'm being tested or something. + +This stuff can easily make you more cynical, and i already lean more towards the introverted type. But it can also make you appreciate the people that just let you get on with it or the ones that actually show interest in your hobby. It can also make you more understanding of other people's interests, no matter how far removed from your own world view they might be. + +Share your thoughts / stories below. I feel like we should have therapy sessions about this stuff",0 +7130,"Self-Promotion Sunday: May 22, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + +**This is not the place to just drop a link to your website, social media profile, or portfolio. We have dedicated threads for those purposes.** + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7131,"What are some little-known avenues to pursue a career in photography?. There are clearly paths to make money with photography in the various forms of portraiture, product photography, food photography, landscape, nature, events, etc. What are the photography related jobs or niches that no one thinks of?",0 +7132,"What is your system for organising selects and finished output images?. I've been shooting ""properly"" for about 8 years and in taht time I've used Lightroom to ortganise, catalogue, edit, and then output my images. I have all my raw images organised by date with many backups, and I've been fairly organised with my flagging and tagging process that I can find all my selects very quickly. + +What isn't so organised however is my jpg outputs folder, up to this point I just have one big outputs folder with subfolders for each event or occasion I've shot, eg, ""Japan February 2020"" or ""Chilham Walk"". With around 30k total images and around 5k outputs it's starting to get unwieldy! + +Now I shoot with multiple digital and analog cameras so it's getting even more confusing when it comes to outputs, do I put these in a film folder marked by camera and film stock or do i continue with my project based naming! Since everything, including film scans go through my lightroom I can often more easily find the image I want by re-exporting from there than searching through my outputs folder at this point! + +So what do you do when it comes to organising your finished images? What's your process and how do you keep on top of long running series, location based events, holidays and even potentially professional gigs? (I keep those completely seperate personally).",0 +7133,Photography Podcasts?. What are some of your favorite photography podcasts?,0 +7134,"How to deal with Instagram becoming a video platform. There's been a lot of talk about Instagram's move to video lately. Here's my two cents. + +Instagram was always an advertising platform. People who sell make up use it to advertise their make up, people who sell food use it to advertise their food, people who sell their personality use it to advertise their personality, people who sell photography use it to advertise their photography. + +The medium for promoting these things on Instagram used to be photography, which was convenient for photographers since the thing they're selling could go straight onto the platform. Everybody else needed to go through the extra step of photographing whatever they were selling and then posting the pictures. + +Now that Instagram has started transitioning to a video-first platform, photographers will need to go through an extra step too, just like everybody else has from day one. Photographers will need start creating videos of some kind in order to promote their photography work on instagram. + +It's an extra step but a fairly easy one for photographers. They already have the still images and they know how to use a camera and editing software so the world is their oyster in terms of creating slideshows, video versions of their still images, behind-the-scenes videos, videos where they talk about their work, or any other promotional videos they can think of. That could be a lot of work on top of your core business of photography but that’s the nature of advertising. If you don’t want to do the advertising yourself, you can outsource it to someone else the way many businesses already do. + +Now if you are a photographer who isn't selling anything and just wants to share their work with other photographers and photography enthusiasts, Instagram is probably no longer the platform for you. It was never the platform's intent to be a photography community, you just got to come along for the ride for a while. Even before the move to video there was a lot about Instagram’s business model and algorithms that made it problematic as a fun hobby / sharing / community platform. Platforms like flickr and 500px are dedicated to doing this a lot better, and there are many communities on Reddit as well. + +So this is a good moment to ask yourself why you're on Instagram in the first place. Are you looking for community, feedback, viewing work, sharing your hobby or geeking out? Then you might be better served by a different platform. Are you working commercially and using Instagram to promote your work? Then you should probably treat it like the advertising platform it is and work to make the best use of it in order to promote your business. + +And maybe this renewed separation between photography as a hobby and photography as work is a good thing. I’ve seen many photographers start off with a fun hobby only to find that the pressures of Instagram made them start working for likes/followers or trying desperately to make money from their hobby, killing their enjoyment in the process. Perhaps they would find more joy if the default platform for photography enthusiasts was a an enthusiasts community, and not an advertising platform. + +Of course none of this is entirely black and white, all or nothing. But still I think it’s helpful to see the platform for what it is and be clear to yourself about what you want to get from it. + +End of thought.",0 +7135,concert photography gigs. Those who have done photography for concerts... how did you do it? It has been my dream to be a concert photographer but I don't know where to begin. I've done some sports photography (specifically ice hockey and softball) and I've photographed some dogsled races but I feel none of that is close enough to help me get into it. Do I reach out to the artist themselves or their management? Do I reach out to the venue?,0 +7136,"Small photoshoot set to practice photography?. Anyone know of a good way I can put together a small makeshift set to practice shooting on small things (decorative flowers, random toys/figurines etc.) Obviously don’t wanna break the bank on this so budget friendly would be good if you could. Thanks :)",0 +7137,"struggling with knowing if my photos are good or not. So as the title says I am struggling to know if my photos are good or not. a lot of the time the photos I prefer seem to do worse than the ones I don't like. could it be that I just don't see what other people see or is it just that the majority of people cater to certain things? I did a test with 2 images I shot one I like and one that I thought was alright but not anything special and the one I thought was better lost every time. +has anyone struggled with something similar and how do you improve seeing which image is the better image?",0 +7138,"What's the next step in social media for photographers?. Not sure if others have experienced this, but my engagement on instagram has plummeted the last few months. Only about 10-20% of my follower count sees my actual content, where it used to be more like 80% - and the quality of the content, as far as I can tell, has actually improved as my photography skills have improved. + +I only care about these numbers because increased engagement has helped me find clients in the past, and this year I was planning to get serious about building my photography business. I was counting on instagram to be a source of those clients - but now, it seems like a lot of effort for very little return. Now that instagram is more or less trying to be tiktok, where are photographers sharing their work with other potential clients / photographers / makeup artists / stylists / art producers / agencies? If not on social media, where and how do you market your work?",0 +7139,"Album Share Tuesday: October 04, 2022. **Let’s see your work! Use this thread to share an album, get feedback from, and give feedback to your peers.** + +Before posting, be sure to give feedback on other people’s albums. Feedback can be as little as “I like this photo best!” + +If you are more confident in your critiquing abilities, give reasons why x photo was good, and/or what can be done to improve y photo. + +Please post curated albums! + +Do not post your entire Flickr/instagram feeds or website, nor albums of hundreds of photos. You will get more meaningful feedback on albums of fewer images. +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7140,"How to Prepare For My First Shoot. I’ve really been getting into photography lately and have been toying with the idea of starting a business, but before I do so, I’m trying to hone in on my skills both in shooting and editing. I’m getting comfortable shooting in manual and just invested in a nice lens. I’ve also shadowed a few photographer friends of mine. + +I threw out to friends and family that I would shoot them for free so I can practice and work on my portfolio. Well, a good friend of mine reached out and said she wanted to take me up on the offer to shoot her, her girlfriend, and new puppy. She’s also planning on proposing and wants me to capture the moment. + +Im super excited, but a little nervous because I don’t want to mess up such an important moment. Im scouting out good locations, and once she picks one, I'm going to practice there at the time of day they plan to do the shoot to get an idea on the lighting situation. I’m also going to work with my sister and her boyfriend to practice directing couples into poses and what works and what doesn’t. I’ve been studying my favorite photographers works to see what I like in terms of composition. I’m also going to talk to my friend about how she sees the session going in regards to the proposal and how it’s going to happen so I’m not thrown off. + +I’ve got a little over a month to practice and get ready for this shoot. Does anyone have any advice on more ways to prepare that I'm not thinking of?",0 +7141,"I ordered my first photobook from Costco and I'm beyond thrilled!. [Click here for album I used in the photobook.](https://imgur.com/a/fDp0nkz) + +**They say a photo doesn't exist unless it's printed.** + +I've been doing photography for about 3 years and I was always too lazy to ever print any of my work. I never realized how easily it was for my photos to just disappear as soon a I exported them to my external hard drive. They just kinda sit there and I never see them again. I do share my work on Instagram, however I only glance at them for a few seconds and then I'm done looking at them. + +I was inspired to make the effort to print them after listening to an episode of The Beginner Photography Podcast. The idea just sounds so appealing! I've been imagining what the experience would be like to see my name on a hard cover book, feel the pages as I turn them, and stare at the work I created. I'm excited to experience my own reaction and feelings of seeing these 12x12 photos physically in front of me. To have this in my apartment means I will constantly be seeing it, wanting to flip through my work, and have it available for guests or friends to take a look at as well. I think the impact will be great and I'm just ecstatic for it to arrive!! + +For anyone curious, all photos were taken on my XT30 and a variety of Fuji lenses such as the below. Also, all my work is edited through Lightroom. + +* 23mm f1.4 +* 35mm f1.4 +* 56mm f1.2 +* 35mm f2",0 +7142,"How do you organize your travels?. Until now I've just been dumping everything onto my PC by the folders created in camera, i.e. ""111\_FUJI"". But now I've just done my first vacation in years to Yosemite, and I realized I don't want to dump them in 111\_FUJI along with a ton of other stuff, and maybe I want to start organizing by memories. + + +So tell me, how do you organize? Do you have the name of the location as a folder? Everything by date? What happens when some things don't fall neatly into either category?",0 +7143,"Sigma 150-600 Canon eye-detection AF pulsing - recommended settings. Duade Paton released a video after working with subscribers on settings to improve the eye-detection autofocus pulsing issues reported with the Sigma 150-600mm lenses. The recommended settings reduce but don't completely fix the pulsing issue. See video for more info. FYI - u/DarkwolfAU + +https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l7TEu1Tgq5I + +Note: reposted as text post, not link",0 +7144,"Tips on creating consistency in your work?. I'm feeling pretty defeated. I have struggled for years on creating a consistent edit or style when photographing portraits in natural outdoor light. I understand there are many factors that come into play such as lighting, time of day, exposure, etc. I use the same camera + lens and make sure to have a consistent white balance of around 5,600K. I do primarily shoot in the evenings and I also slightly underexpose. Overall, I am really trying my best to keep everything the same as much as I can in camera for all of my sessions. In theory, shouldn't my RAW images be somewhat consistent-ish? Obviously not identical, but basically in the same realm? + +I use the same Lightroom preset on my images and no matter how much I tweak, I cannot at all keep a consistent edit. I see other photographer's Instagram grids and man.... all images, skin tones, white balance, HSL are SO amazingly consistent. As an example, here is a photographer that I greatly admire: [https://www.instagram.com/twigandolive/](https://www.instagram.com/twigandolive/) See how skin tones, coloring and lighting is so cohesive? They look as though they are all from the same session, even though they are not. I feel like my images are all over the place. + +Do y'all have any tips or tricks that would be helpful either when shooting portraits in camera or while editing?",0 +7145,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: September 03, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7146,What is your favorite photography movie or documentary?. ,0 +7147,"Wins Wednesday: October 19, 2022. **Time for some positivity!** + +Have you had any recent photography wins? Share them here! +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7148,Samyang announces new 85mm f/1.4 lens for full-frame Sony E-mount cameras. ,0 +7149,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: January 29, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7150,"What is your workflow on choosing the best photos to edit?. I only practice photography as hobby next to my full time job, so my time is quite limited. Due to the almost unlimited storage space of digital photography, I often end up with lots and lots of pictures and very often I just get to roughly sort them but then I simply feel overwhelmed and never touch the pictures for the final editing again. +What are your strategies to tackle these kind of problems? Do you you limit yourself already during the shoots? Out of a shoot, how many pictures do you usually chose to edit?",0 +7151,"Dear (model) photographers do you usually lead the conversations?. I’m usually not the guy that starts the conversations unless it’s a close friend of mine or feel comfortable to be around with. + +I really want to make sure that the people i meet, my clients are having a good time and my biggest fear is having a very uncomfortable/awkward relationship, us not bonding + +All i can think of is, be nice. (That’s was just a short example, there’s much more than just being nice)",0 +7152,"Any tips on working angles with a tripod and finding different compositions of buildings quickly?. I have been working in commercial real-estate photography for the past 6 or so months and it's the only experience I have in photography. I am decent at working angles when I am walking around day time. During the sunset when I have 10 or so minutes to get 50 pictures or so with the tripod I struggle. My boss tells me one shot one kill. lmao I need to put it on a sticky note next to the view finder because I will re shoot the same picture because I am worried I cut something off or didn't get enough breathing room. I feel like I have ocd which has probably saved my ass a few times because I try to be on top of my shit. But it is a double edged sword because need to be able work efficiently and know what I need to prioritize. Any advice would be appreciated. +Edit- sorry if I rambling in the comments I am just kinda typing this stuff out to help me remember",0 +7153,I like my raw headshots better than the retouched. Question about etiquette. So I recently got my retouched headshots back and I like the raw images a lot better. I am black/white and there is something about my skin tone that was a bit off in the editing. My photographer was also my photography professor so I have a good connection with her. She also sends her shots to a retoucher rather than doing them herself. Would it be rude to ask for the unedited version? What’s the rule on this?,0 +7154,"For those interested in doing wedding photography, this video is interesting. I feel like I've watch a ton of videos on event photography (often weddings) that cover kit and lighting and organization and promotion and retouching [but this video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0k3zeoQSYBM) is really something different and, I think, worth a watch. + +You're basically following around a (clearly talented) wedding photographer as he does a full shoot. It's relaxed, jovial, and I think it really gives you a sense of how a pro handles the situation. The photographer featured, Sam Hurd, may be well known but he's new to me and I've found this a worthwhile (if long) watch. + +I'm curious what others think.",0 +7155,"Country, culture, and effect on photography. I'm from the UK and lived there until I was 30; now I live in Japan. + +I was out walking this evening and as usual I had my camera with me. I passed by a small park where some parents and kids were playing - well, the kids were playing and the parents were doing whatever parents do. + +There was some really nice light too, but - and this is what the title is about - in the UK (when I was there, anyway) - even being in visible possession of a camera within a ten million mile radius of children is enough to get you accused of being a pervert, paedophile, etc (hyperbole employed for effect). + +I know that it's different in Japan. If you take a picture, for example, of someone's dog, the owner usually says ""thank you"". But my ""national conditioning"", so to speak, means that I just can't photograph kids unless it's very, very specifically clear that it's OK to do so. + +I imagine we have a range of nationalities on here, so how about you guys and girls? Is there anything in your national psyche or character that impacts, for better or worse, your enjoyment of photography?",0 +7156,"how to deal with insecurities and shyness as a photographer. when i was younger, i was a very creative person— i drew, painted and did causal photography. i was that person in class that people would think about when it comes to art. so with that being said, i feel like i’ve always had to carry the expectation of being good to the point where i was afraid of messing up, creating bad work and learning. + +as i grew older, i experienced situations in life that eroded at my self esteem and i became anxious and overwhelmed at the thought of doing photography—especially portrait. so when i was a freshmen in college, i sold my camera. in 2020, around the time the pandemic started, i purchased a new camera but ever since i’ve been stumped on what my purpose and vision is with it. i realized that i don’t know how to reconnect with what interested me in photography in the first place because of my fear of not being good. + +and in addition to that, i’m from an area where doing photography makes you have more clout/popularity especially if you’re good. so it’s almost like you’re only respected if you put our good work/have connections. i also don’t want to feel like i’m copying other people by choosing to do photography when so many people in my area already do. i just feel like such an underdog. + +all of this might sound immature but i’m ready to overcome my creative insecurities. i would love to read any insight anyone might have. + +EDIT: THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH! I read through all your comments and they were so comforting, empathetic and helpful. Thank you for relating with my story and sharing your personal stories. I deeply appreciate you all for your kind words and suggestions. I ended up picking up my camera, going for a walk with my friend and talking a bunch of pictures that made me feel content and inspired. I realize that I just need to push past my repetitive thoughts and connect to the core of my passion.",0 +7157,"Shoutout to Canon CPS.. I have a 24-105 that has the common aperture flex ribbon failure. Fantastic walk around/travel lens just shelved for almost a year. + +I checked around and couldn’t find a copy for less than $450. Canon quoted me $300 to fix it. And the parts only value after eBay fees was like $100. + +Well a ‘new’ eBay lens is going to break the same way eventually anyways, so what the hell I may as well fix this one and buy as much time as possible. + +Upgrading from the free tier to gold got me 20% off and free return shipping which paid for its self immediately. + +I figured what the hell. Gold gives me five free cleanings a year I may as well send this 5d IV before I sell it. + +Turnaround time on the camera was literally same day. It shipped Monday afternoon, canon received it Tuesday morning and I had it back Wednesday. From receipt confirmation to return tracking was *six hours.* + +The lens, which requires almost complete disassembly and resoldering had a whopping 27 hour turnaround. They took delivery at 9AM Tuesday, if shipped at 12 PM Wednesday. + +This is an insane level of support and they deserve to be applauded for it.",0 +7158,"What photography career path likely has the most opportunity?. I’m a hobbyist photographer wanting to start a career. + +I try and take pictures in all styles: portraiture and fashion, to product and architectural. +I’ve tried to expand my palette as much as possible, and as a result have hit a sort of crossroads. + +My love for multiple styles is making it difficult for me to niche down and follow a specific career path. +I realise the safest bet is probably starting a career in an industry that is the most opportunistic (and lucrative). + +Are there any seasoned photographers here who could lend some career advice? + +Maybe explain what your career has been like and what you wish you did and/or didn’t do!",0 +7159,"Did you shoot 35mm in the old days. What DSLR do you feel was the first to rival film for image quality. + +When i say image quality i mean things like eyes being round and seeing individual hairs not just the pixels. + +Or maybe another way to put it is, when did you move to digital, what camera convinced you digital was the way to go. + +Did you buy a D3 or 1Ds on day one of wait for something better?",0 +7160,"Online Photography Courses. I am looking to get some online courses on photography and I am confused on which platform to use. Is any of you having online courses that provide some kind of certificate? I was also looking for the courses that MAGNUMPHOTOS provide, did any of you had any of them? What is your opinion?",0 +7161,"How Do You Become a Professional Photographer?. I started photography as a hobby 2 years ago but I'm starting to think I might want to pursue it as a career choice. I'm 24 and still haven't decided what I want to do in post-secondary. I do love photography, especially portraiture and aspire for the quality of my images to reach a professional level someday. So I've decided I'd like to get into it professionally. I mainly like portrait type photography but understand that other professionals often do real estate and product photography, so I'm open to that path as well. +What steps would you suggest I take in becoming a professional? Any advice? What timeline do you think i should aim for, if any? +Thanks in advance.",0 +7162,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: January 01, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7163,"Album Share Tuesday: August 02, 2022. **Let’s see your work! Use this thread to share an album, get feedback from, and give feedback to your peers.** + +Before posting, be sure to give feedback on other people’s albums. Feedback can be as little as “I like this photo best!” + +If you are more confident in your critiquing abilities, give reasons why x photo was good, and/or what can be done to improve y photo. + +Please post curated albums! + +Do not post your entire Flickr/instagram feeds or website, nor albums of hundreds of photos. You will get more meaningful feedback on albums of fewer images. +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7164,"Tips for shooting in public?. I’m an illustrator so I usually work alone, by myself, in my house. I love photography though, and right now I mostly just take and edit etsy product photos, or abandoned buildings in my hometown. I live in what I think is the most beautiful part of a major historic city, and I want to try my hand at street photography, or even just nature photography at the park, but I feel awkward just thinking about it. How do you get past the initial nervousness? Is it better to be obvious with a big camera, or discrete with a little one? Any and all advice is appreciated.",0 +7165,"Share a situation/nightmare that motivated you to never work w/o a contract again.. Contracts have SAVED me from demanding clients and flaky models and have ensured my time and efforts are respected. + +I had a client demand for 1000+ RAWs and requested that I send him previews where he would 'approve' my editing style before batch editing. Luckily, my contract specified I'm not obligated to provide RAWs and that the editing style was left to my discretion. + +Feel free to share your personal experiences where contracts have saved you from a crazy situation or encouraged you to establish a contract fast!",0 +7166,"How do you overcome the dreaded GAS?. Gear Acquisition Syndrome. + +I recently got back into photography after hibernating my hobby for a good 10 years. I wanted to start slow and just be able to take better pictures than my phone so got a Canon M50 mirrorless camera. I love the thing and I’m amazed at how much things evolved in the past few years. I already had a few EF good quality lenses in storage so my initial plan was to simply get a body under $500 that could use the lenses I already had. + +But now I am obsessing about getting a new EF-M lens or two... or maybe a full size DSLR or the EOS R or… well you get the idea. + +I have barely made less than 100 “keepers” with less than 10 “5 star” pictures in the first month since I got the new camera. + +How do you personally stop thinking about spending so much money just to make your pictures that little bit nicer? I only do this as a hobby and don’t make money with photography, so more cameras or more lenses are just expensive toys really. + +Should I set a yearly budget? Simply use what I already have? Or only replace what gets damaged or lost…",0 +7167,"What makes you give up photography?. To me, it’s photojournalism to be specific. I don’t really ever want to pick up my camera and shoot another editorial/news photo or project again. + +It’s a dead profession. Dead, not dying. Non existent job security. You are the first in line to get axed. + +Very few job openings. With that it comes to a hellish high expectation for just even an internship, let alone a full time job. You are expected to have a portfolio of photos, videos, multimedia, long term projects. The bar keeps getting higher and higher. What do you do if you are lucky enough to get your foot in the door? Most of the time you shoot daily news assignments given by editors. Like 101 stuff. But it requires so much more to get in. And random daily news photos will not help you go higher. You need to do a lot outside of your daily job to maintain your portfolio to float above the water. So forget your work/life balance. And what are portfolio reviews? You bring your best work to a bunch of elitists whom have no idea what the scenes were and how hard/limited your ability was when those photos were shot to criticize and judge and belittle. + +The pressure of “publish or perish” also makes people crazy enough to try so hard to “make something new”. So when the “literal” topics are exhausted, they try to “visualize the invisibility”. That takes the definition of photojournalism to another level of wackiness. Abstract photo projects and/or photo series that leave the audience to interpret themselves, therefore distorting the real meaning. So many projects cover the same topics with the excuse of “nuances”. That word, to me, is a glorified BS. + +In addition, the “networking” thing is absolutely disgusting. You are never taught about it officially, but you network even more than the business people. Kissing asses unapologetically to get some boring assignments with a big press’ name slapped onto them at your own cost. Huge waste of time and money. + +Finally, the relationship between you and your subjects is questionable in many cases. Many times the photographer takes the majority of the benefits. They try so hard to convince the subjects to open up their lives in order to get the stories. In other words, it’s a parasitic relationship. + +End of rant.",0 +7168,"Portrait photography struggle. Sorry for my english as it's not my first language. + +​ + +My interest for portrait photography started a few years back and began to take action almost a year ago, i have a huge inspiration from [BrandonWoelfel](https://www.instagram.com/brandonwoelfel/), [AndrewJmes](https://www.instagram.com/andrewjmes/) & [Huy\_trn](https://www.instagram.com/huy_trn/) (my edits looks very similar to theirs). + +I didn't have friends i could take pictures of so instead i had to ask strangers around the city if they were interested for a photoshoot which went pretty great until now. + +​ + +I usually take photos during sunlight (mainly golden hours) and ask those who are either sitting alone, or taking pictures of each other OR have a unique style. + +​ + +I always make sure to find a pretty good open location and just hoping that someone is there, 80% of the time there's none that fits into my description. + +​ + +What can i do that can boost my progress?",0 +7169,"Discussion: Is Product Photography still viable versus 3D Rendering?. Hello. So I work for a company that delivers photorealistic 3D renders of products and scenes for some of the top brands out there. The only photography we do is 360 shots of some products with the sole purpose of creating an accurate 3D model of them. Basically, any marketing materials that you see online or in print depicting FMCGs is 90% of the time a 3D render. Yeah, even the props are 3D, the liquids, the plants, fabrics, everything is! + +So I am wondering what other people think about Product Photography. Is it still viable as a business? Is there still a demand for it? Does the demand come from smaller businesses that still don't know about the possibility of doing product visualisation faster, cheaper and with greater flexibility? I won't say that product photography is dead, I can definitely imagine scenarios where 3D is not viable, but that's mostly when people and animals are involved. If it's still life, then it's probably 3D. + +Any thoughts?",0 +7170,"Anything Goes Monday: February 28, 2022. What are you up to? Share with your e-friends! What's that shiny new piece of equipment? + +Show off cool photography-related stuff you've created or experienced here in the comments of this post! We want to see and discuss your pictures, videos, website... anything, really! + +If you've got interesting links to stuff created by someone else, we'd love to discuss that too! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7171,"My photography story… feeling kind of down lately.. So I got into photography around 2015 - 2017… I shot consistently for a few years and amassed a decent following on Instagram and actually had clients that paid well for projects (did events for $500, a big headshot session for $800 in 2017). I was very happy with the direction of my life and career. I thought I was ascending. + +I was doing all this while in school in Toronto but just as I was building my skills and getting ready to grow my client base and grow as a photographer, my part time job fired me and I ran out of money to stand on. + +I was desperate because I had no consistent clients or consistent income to buy new equipment or book studios or anything at that point. I just needed money so I could continue growing my photography business. + +So next I left school to find work based on my experience in administration and from 2018 until now I’ve been stuck in this cycle of working my day job in admin to keep consistent money but being too burnt out from it to grow my reputation and skills as a photographer. + +I thought I was pretty decent back in the day (2017 - 2018), but now I feel like this job is almost killing my creativity and my eye for photography. + +I want to get back into photography (and do videography) and I built a small home studio to practice lighting and improve my portfolio but I’m a little overwhelmed at the moment… + +is it too late for me to make good money at this thing I love? Am I even good enough to compete with other photographers who have gotten a leg up on me in the last few years that I stopped shooting? + + +I just don’t want to be a starving artist, but I do want to create things and do more portraits, products and real estate photography. + +Just kind of looking for some honest feedback + venting about my situation. + +Tbh I kind of have felt like a loser this week when I look back to where I was 5 years ago in 2017 and how far removed I am now while all my peers seem to have developed as photographers with consistent work in that time. + +Is this still worth pursuing for me or should I kill the dream and just go work a more secure job in tech or something? + + +For perspective, I am a 26m living in Toronto with my parents. I just don’t want to be 30 years old and still be an amateur who is “chasing the dream” and it’s not going anywhere. + +TLDR; is it worth it for me to continue this journey of photography? Is it realistic or am I past my creative prime? Can I make enough doing photo and video in Toronto to eventually live off of?",0 +7172,"Apparently all my pictures are out of focus. I will try to be brief. So a few days ago I sent some pictures to shutterstock to get them reviewed (yes I know it’s weird) as I don’t have real intentions to sell my work as Its a hobby, I’m not good enough and I don’t have the equipment to pretend to live of my pictures. But I do think that every body here wants to become better at this beautiful hobby or become better professionals. + +So I knew that when they turn down your pictures at Shutterstock they tell you the reasons for that decision. And I know they are picky so I knew I would get professional unbiased opinion. So there I sent 6 pictures to get them reviewed and, logically, were turned down. One thing that all of them have in common, and in some cases the only flaw they had, it’s they were not sharp enough or subject out of focus. Keep in mind that all pictures are landscape/travel photography. + +Some pictures were processed through DXO pureraw before sending the pictures, and even with enhanced sharpening wasn’t sharp enough. So what’s going on here? What I’m missing? I’m shooting at narrow F aperture, fast shutter speed when handheld, improving sharpness in post, etc. obviously I set the focus point on my subject. + +In case that matters (some people would argue that it doesn’t matter which lens you have, but in this case it may be a contributing factor), here is some of the equipment used for those pictures: + +-Canon EOS 200D and canon EOS R +-Lenses: 50mm F1.8, RF 85mm F2, RF 24-105mm + +Any input, tips and advice would be more than welcome as I would like to be good enough to be accepted by a stock image company. + +Also pretty nice from shutterstock to give the reasons behind the decision and even pointing out what might cause it.",0 +7173,"Photography Newby Advice Needed- What to Do When You Mess Up a Paid Shoot. Hello, + +​ + +Please delete if posting is against the rules. I am a hobby photographer, I mainly ask my friends if they want to be in my pictures and stage it with whatever theme I come up with. One of my friends had a friend who was getting engaged and asked her if she knew any photographers who would take covert photos as the engagement was a surprise. At first I said no- I don't have the equipment nor the experience and they should find someone more qualified. My friend and the person who needed a photographer assured me that's fine, and that he had looked for professional photographers and wasn't interested (I think maybe it was the price he wasn't interested in paying??). So I relented, since I thought it would be good experience, plus they knew my skill level. This is my first time getting paid for a shoot. + +The problem here comes from the fact that, all of the photos of the man getting down on his knees and proposing are out of focus. I know this is my fault. I was caught off guard by how quickly he started proposing (we had agreed on a body cue he would give before getting on his knee but he didn't give the sign) and I had to run to where I going to take the photo from, so the camera was out of focus. I fixed this once he got up and the couple started hugging. The photos from there on are fine. But I have so much guilt from messing up what are the most important moments. I can give them those photos but I was wondering how you would go forward. I charged $50- should I return the money? Is there anything I can do with the out of focus photos to make that look intentional? Would you accept the money and just give them the good photos afterward? Have you been in a situation like this before and how have you handled it? Thanks in advance :) + +​ + +EDIT: Thank you everyone for your response! This shoot and your comments provided a lot of lessons for me. I let the client know that the proposal pictures were out of focus (I did not give him any excuses) and offered to do a re-shoot for free. He rejected, and said to send him the rest of the photos. After editing those, they look great. I am also looking into potentially enhancing the blurry ones through AI, and also sending him those, so at least they can post those even on just their IG feeds. I read every comment and appreciate every bit of feedback I got- it provided a glimpse into the professional photography world. So yes, overall, thank you all, a lot!",0 +7174,"DIY print hanging options. I’m really falling in love with printing at home, and I got a great deal on a canon p1000. I’ve picked up a bunch of small frames at thrift shops in normal sizes, but I love the huge 22x17 prints I can make. + +Trouble is, I can’t find an economical way to display them. + +Just gluing the print to a piece of foam seems easy to get damaged and not attractive. Anyone doing this at home with good ideas?",0 +7175,"How do you get honest critique on your photos?. I started in a different art medium and was lied to for years. Almost nobody gave me honest critique about what was wrong with my drawing and sketchings. I can remember in one hand the number of people in my life that was upfront with me. It broke me into tears that I was proud of my work and never improving because I was lied to that I was great. I was not going to grow that way. My figures had proportions all wrong. So much was wrong. + +Where do I get the honest critique I didn’t get with my drawing and paintings? How do I get told about failing at my point of view objective, too much negative space, too much clutter? How do you grow as a photographer if those around you hold their tongue? If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all.",0 +7176,"NPR comments on race and camera development - not marketing.. On the radio, NPR was interviewing a person I think as part of the Superbowl runup, and she was of the opinion that camera's have been historically designed and manufactured so as to not be as advantageous or flattering to POC as others. I did not hear any specific statements other than about skin tone rendition but I did not hear the whole interview so please excuse me if the story was better explained to the complete listener. + +Now I am as about as woke as they get, but I can't see how camera's could have been developed with this in mind - either practically or scientifically. We all know race has a huge component in marketing but she wasn't talking about that. Basically if cameras had been developed by/for POC they would somehow be fundamentally different than they are today. + +I am generally aware of early actors having issues with certain film types due to eye color - like light blue-eyed actors looking like 'demons' on certain early film (Stan Laurel comes to mind for some reason) but that's it. + +I consider camera adjustments for POC the same as subjects with different complexions (ruddy, sallow, etc.) and skin tones, i.e. merely adjusting a tool to accomplish a slightly different task for optimum results. + +Her statements were the first I've ever heard of this and I have had training on implicit bias so would like to know if I'm missing something here - anyone know more on this or what she was talking about?",0 +7177,Where do you see photography technology advancements in the next 40 years?. ,0 +7178,"How can i stay creative for longer during a photoshoot?. So this has been a thing since when i started photography. whenever i go out on a shoot, may it be in my hometown or somewhere else, the first hour im usually super creative and have tons of ideas, everywhere i look. but after roughly an hour, i can no longer think creatively enough or dont have any ideas anymore. its like i have a ""hunger"" for creativity and when i have been creative for a while, i get ""full"". almost always when taking pictures, im on a walk and after an hour, i start to get slightly tired. its almost like my creative state of mind vanishes. + +maybe this is, because i have somewhat low body weitht, being a male with a fast metabolism, despite working on construction, i only weigh 60 kilos at 172 cm tall. i can eat more than any of my co workers and gain absolutely no weight. if i do more, i am more hungry, if i do less, i am not as hungry. + +i have noticed when taking it more easy, lets say not walking as much on a shoot, i dont stay any more creative, but still feel like im exhausted, despite lower physical intensity. but i do enjoy photowalks a lot. i have also noticed that if i eat something like a sandwich that i dont stay more creative for any longer. can i maybe do something to stay creative for longer? could i eat certain foods that make me more alert and more creative for longer? do any of you experience the same?",0 +7179,"Feeling ""Maxed"" Out.. What do I do?. So I dedicate all of my time to photography. I am self taught & Its been my life nonstop for the past 3 years. I don't consider myself a pro because there is always something new to learn. + +My specific area of photography is creative portraits. I always look for new ways to do something no one has done or do it my own way. Weird out of the box ideas even. + +Until recently I thought I had it figured out. That I wanted to work for magazines, music artists, etc. + +I'm decent enough to understand my camera and how it works, I've done work for local magazines and won a couple contests in the past couple years. Even then I know there is so much more to learn. + +I still do work & people tell me they like it but I've reached point where I don't know where to go from here. I don't have a mentor or any friends who are on my level of what I would call ""creative obsession"". + +I don't make near enough money to afford all the things I need so I struggle constantly to find the next best thing. + +I have lost my creative ""flair"" and haven't found a way to go any farther. What can I do? + +Who do I talk to? How do I get better? + +Edit: I found the Mentor List in the Info Thread section. Messaged a couple of photographers so hopefully it'll help. Still would love advice!",0 +7180,"Is it inappropriate for me to request digital copies from a photographer that I hired for my wedding?. Hi all, last year I hired a photographer to shoot me and my wife's wedding and I never really bought any of the pictures since there were so many cell phones there. Well fast forward to today, our anniversary is coming up in a few days and I want to surprise her with all of our wedding photos, so I reached out to the photographer for some prices, and he sent me back a quote for different sizes. Quite frankly I would rather just have digital copies, not only so I can archive them to preserve original quality, but I would prefer to have the flexibility to print my photos right away (I'm a last minute kind of guy and the photographs wouldn't arrive in time for the date we have planned anyway). + +I understand that this is how he makes some of his money (it's a side business that he owns). I won't really get into my thoughts on the prices since I've never hired a photographer before so I don't know what's considered a fair price, but he quoted me $1 each for 4x6 and $10 each for 8x10. + +I just want to know if it would be offensive if I responded for a request for the digital copies? I want to respect his profession as a photographer as much as possible, and I know how difficult it must be to make some money in such an in-demand field. I'd like to also mention that we did already pay him to DJ at the wedding, and take photographs. At the end of the night we had some family also hand him a couple hundred dollars. I would appreciate some answers from a subreddit who has some experience in this field. Thank you.",0 +7181,"Photography Art Scam. Hey everyone! + +I just wanted to share some information about a photography scam. I wasn't able to find any information about this particular approach via Reddit, but it seems to be a variation of more common ones. + +I recently received a DM on Instagram from an artist requesting permission to paint a portrait I took of someone. They were working on a new art project that was commissioned by a sponsor in Illinois and the exhibition was coming up in January. + +Red flag #1. I inquired about the sponsor/exhibition and was told that the information was confidential? Red flag #2. I asked about compensation and was told I would receive a $1800 check, of which I was only entitled to $500. The rest I would have to pay the artist for materials. Naturally, I was curious about the contract so I requested that they send me one. Here's a picture of it: [https://imgur.com/a/9fE0oGu](https://imgur.com/a/9fE0oGu). + +Aside from the obvious grammar issues, never have I been asked about the name of my banking institution. The amount also didn't match up with what we were discussing. + +Anyways, please keep an eye out for these kinds of messages. I have to admit that the offer was tempting as I've been impulsively buying new camera gear lol.",0 +7182,"Salty Saturday: January 29, 2022. Need to rant about something in the photography world? Here’s your safe space to be as salty as you want without judgement. + +Get it all* off your chest! + +*Let’s just keep the personal attacks and witch hunts out of it, k? + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7183,"What is your favorite photographer(s) that you draw inspiration from? It can be any style of photography, portrait, editorial, street photography, sports, architecture, etc.... ",0 +7184,"Street Photography basics. Hey everyone! I would like to dive really deep into street photography. I’ve been practicing it for a while but I would like to study and have theorical basis and get to know the most important photographers. Any book, documentaries, artists I should explore? Thank you!",0 +7185,iPhone camera replaces person's face with leaf. ,0 +7186,"35mm film vs digital to learn / improve skills. Just getting into photography and have got myself full setups on both sides, however I'm wondering which one is better to learn on and improve my skills with. + +\- On one hand you have digital where you can shoot a ton without expense (and experiment more as a result), get immediate feedback on pictures and post-process them with ease. + +\- However, with film you can take it back to basics, slow down, think more before shooting, and have less handholding - i.e potentially needing more creativity / skill to get certain shots. + +Thoughts?",0 +7187,"How do you plan a creative model shoot?. I would like to get a bit more creative and pro-active, as I want to do a real photoshoot, as in actively creating the composition instead of „finding“ it. +I would like to photograph something extravagant, a model wearing weird or non-average clothes of some sort. + +Those who have experience in this field: How do you plan the shoots, how do you get ideas where to shoot and what clothing the subject should wear etc. etc.?",0 +7188,"Self-Promotion Sunday: September 25, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7189,"Is it weird to give “friends” model release forms?. So I’m new to client work photography and as of now have been building up my portfolio by taking portraits of my friends. Up till now I had no issues with posting the images taken to my socials or website. Recently though, a friend/coworker asked me to take pictures of them because they liked my work. Since I wanted pictures for my portfolio I agreed to basically do it for “fun”. The shoot went well and we had fun. After, I started editing some of the pictures and expressed to them which ones were my favorites, they didn’t say anything at the time. Meanwhile I ended up spending like 6+ hours editing a couple pictures and ended up with a product I loved. I was so proud. Then, I sent them to the person and asked if it was okay for me to post them on social media. They said “I don’t like my arms”, and that was it. I instantly realized how silly it was of me to invest so much time into a product that at the end of the day I couldn’t use. In conclusion, I feel it’s my fault for investing my time, energy and all my equipment with no guarantee that I could use the pictures. + +So, I feel it would be smarter to give a release form to people, including friends, so that there is a clear understanding of how I intend to use the pictures/ have the rights to. But I’m curious as to whether this is weird to do with friends or how to go about it with them? If anyone has experiences with this plz share :)",0 +7190,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: April 02, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7191,"Why do ALL of my photos I edit in Lightroom look awful?!. So I've had this issue for a while now. When I shoot RAW on my canon 5d mark iv with a class 10 memory card then try to edit in LR, it looks terrible!! Like high contrast and I've messed with all of the sliders and everything. I've tried color calibrating my screen and seriously nothing works. At this point I can't tell if it's my new camera, memory card, LR, or editing skills? + +My friend has the exact same set up as me, and her photos look so good when she edits them. Is there something wrong with my LR? My photos used to look great when I edited in LR but for a while they haven't...I'm so frustrated lol + +UPDATE: The photos are here +https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Vexe1aJn0XWM4krTNNqEM5LSDQXBPBw7/view?usp=sharing + +https://drive.google.com/file/d/1PmrEwxBd1oo20_Kk-t8WM0rRqcrWxC_h/view?usp=sharing + +https://drive.google.com/file/d/1C4z_IVH9jf586U-W2T5PqCcmDIPg6mta/view?usp=sharing + +Edited: +https://drive.google.com/file/d/1FO2Zo4JxPUYTs175196v-Xc5aASq4cSp/view?usp=sharing + +https://drive.google.com/file/d/1fcbK0YATlg1jd8FyyUQcbxqKXyFpMoyG/view?usp=sharing",0 +7192,"Salty Saturday: March 19, 2022. Need to rant about something in the photography world? Here’s your safe space to be as salty as you want without judgement. + +Get it all* off your chest! + +*Let’s just keep the personal attacks and witch hunts out of it, k? + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7193,"[SCAM] Miami Vibe Magazine. Not sure how these scammers found my info but its one of the best photography scams thats contacted me yet. I did not see anything in the searchbar so thought I’d share. + +The whole thing unravels to any seasoned photographer when you suggest reaching out via phone/video chat which is where I got skeptical and did a little digging. + +Just trying to spare anyone else the trouble and disappointment I am currently feeling. + + https://www.diyphotography.net/psa-miami-vibes-magazine-doesnt-want-your-photos-its-a-scam/",0 +7194,"Photographing Ballet Performance in a Theatre. Help please! I’ve volunteered to take pictures of our studio’s ballet performance late April. I’ve never done this before as I typically photograph outside. I have a Canon 5D Mark II and will using a 100-300mm f/2.8 lens. I will practice at their dress rehearsal. However, I’d greatly appreciate advice on camera settings, (AV or TV mode), ISO, shutter speed, metering and focus modes. Thanks so much!",0 +7195,"Can a freelancer use headshots commissioned by another company?. Context: I was hired by a company to take headshots of their employees. One of them was a freelancer (working almost full time for them, sort of a permalancer) and is now asking me if they can use their headshots for their own usage (business + personal). + +I have no issue with them using their headshots for anything. However I'm not sure I'm the one who is allowed to grant this authorisation? + +Since the company paid for the headshots, do they dictate how/where/who is allowed to use them? + +Any help appreciated, thanks!",0 +7196,"Do all your weekends need to be free if you are taking photos for a photography/events company?. *Advice needed please.* + +* *Do all your weekends need to be free if you are taking photos for a photography/events company?* +* *Do all photography / events company tell you when you'll have an event within short notice?* + +... + +*I work for a wedding / events company and get told events with very short notice... but he pays well.* + +The wedding/events company that I am taking photos for likes to tell me 2 - 4 days in advance of an event. I spoke to the manager at the company, and he is like **""l'll try to give you more time in advance""**. + +He still doesn't give me a week's notice. *Is this normal for photography companies?* **This is a very frustrating situation... Money is good... it's just hard to plan for life.**",0 +7197,"Your top 3 places to learn and get inspired from. Hi! I've been shooting for one year now and feel like I need more references and inspiration. +I've only been on YouTube and Instagram for inspo so far. + +Would be fun if everyone could name their favourite places to learn about photography, like +top 3 websites you visit ,top 3 photographers, youtubers, Instagram accounts",0 +7198,"Confused as a hobbyist. Update: thanks everyone for your answers. You guys are very supportive. Really appreciate all the inputs. + +Original post: +I’m a hobbyist, and I like to travel; and document my travels. To do the same, I bought a camera earlier this year. + +Somewhere while learning about how to take better travel photos, I got more into, how to take better photos, and how to do street photography, etc. and now, +I’m super confused about what I like to do. + +Ideally, since the main purpose earlier was to do travel photography, maybe I’d only concentrate on that, and leave other stuff aside, but somehow, I do enjoy taking pics of other things too. + +Problem is, sometimes they don’t overlap. Example would be, tonight. I went out to winter market in Germany, and it was beautiful, and instead of taking photos of myself, or my friends at the market, to make it memorable, I just kept taking photos of the place. Photos of shops, and rides, and random stuff… + +Even though some of the pics came nice, and maybe it will also serve as memory when I go thru them again, this is not why I bought the camera… + +Is it common to feel this way? Or am I overthinking?",0 +7199,"Wins Wednesday: April 20, 2022. **Time for some positivity!** + +Have you had any recent photography wins? Share them here! +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7200,"Album Share Tuesday: February 22, 2022. **Let’s see your work! Use this thread to share an album, get feedback from, and give feedback to your peers.** + +Before posting, be sure to give feedback on other people’s albums. Feedback can be as little as “I like this photo best!” + +If you are more confident in your critiquing abilities, give reasons why x photo was good, and/or what can be done to improve y photo. + +Please post curated albums! + +Do not post your entire Flickr/instagram feeds or website, nor albums of hundreds of photos. You will get more meaningful feedback on albums of fewer images. +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7201,"Carrying the camera around with square filters attached. Recently was out hiking and taking water pics with square ND filters installed. To keep them clean and safe from scratching, I opted to take them off after every set of shots, hike X miles, reinstall, repeat…. + +Is there a good way to protect the square filters without taking them every time I need to move on?",0 +7202,"Wins Wednesday: September 07, 2022. **Time for some positivity!** + +Have you had any recent photography wins? Share them here! +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7203,"The best cause of action for photographs below the expected standard?. I commisioned a freelance photographer to take some stylised studio photography of our products, based on the very impressive work on their website and an initial conversation where they shared a moodboard I had high expectations. The standard of the shots is not what I expected even after feedback and one round of amends. I have basic photography experience and I don't think it's much of a step up from what I create. + +I'm not sure what the best outcome is here, I don't know how much these can be saved in more rounds of lightroom, whether a reshoot is required, and where the burden of costs lie? Please share any experience you have here.",0 +7204,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: August 06, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7205,"RIP D500 - D500 is now discontinued per both B&H and Adorama. I haven't seen any news outside of the camera sellers it's discontinued. Grey market item now only on B&H and Adorama has no listing. I had to go dig the listings out of my history to verify: + +https://www.adorama.com/inkd500.html + +https://www.bhphotovideo.com/c/product/1214161-REG/nikon_1559_d500_dslr_camera_body.html + +I bought a second one a few months ago when they were in stock due the discontinuation in Japan/Asia in February 2022 and I expected it would happen in the US this year. I'm not ready to move onto mirrorless yet and this camera has been amazing, hitting almost 500k shutter count with no sign of slowing down on my first one! A beast of a camera that really encouraged my wildlife photography. Here's to hoping Nikon decides to make a D500 mirrorless successor. + +Edit: /u/paving_paradise pointed out in a comment it's still listed as ""back-ordered"" on Nikon site so that's potentially your best bet if you were on the fence and want to try to wait out what happens: https://www.nikonusa.com/en/nikon-products/product/dslr-cameras/1559/d500.html I suspect the major camera retailers are no longer getting stock and Nikon may just be waiting on a shipment to sell off their last ones. Just speculation on my part.",0 +7206,"What do I need to know before publishing a website portfolio?. Hi all, and happy Easter to those who celebrate! + +I'm looking to publish my website portfolio this week and I need some advice from someone with a bit more experience. I'm also well aware that I'm likely to find more information on the topic in a web dev subreddit, **but I am mainly looking for feedback from photographers who have set up their own websites similar to myself.** + +The website has a very simple concept and only three parent pages so far - portfolio, about, and contact me. It's built in Wordpress and I used the Elementor plugin. Content-wise, I'm 90% done, I just need to tweak my About page (hate those!) + +I made sure contact form works, I confirmed the that the links are live, I've checked every single image multiple times, and I tested the site on multiple devices. + +**Do you have any suggestions for what else I might need to do before going live?** + +Some ideas from the blogging and web dev communities included setting up analytics and SEO, but I left those for later since I just need something functional (and secure) to refer people to, not so much to be discovered at this time. + +Thanks in advance!",0 +7207,"Sigma unveils its 16mm, 30mm and 56mm F1.4 primes for Fujifilm X-mount cameras. ",0 +7208,"Recreating the darkroom experience. Yesterday, randomly, I got nostalgic for the darkroom. I haven’t been in one since college 20+ years ago. But it was a good sensory memory. I fantasize about recreating the lighting, the sound of trickling water and analog timers ticking, the SMELL! Maybe taking my laptop in there and doing post-processing photos in that simulated environment. + +I remember going into the light tight room and popping lids off of canisters, spooling the film, developing the film—doing all this in pitch darkness. + +/fantasy",0 +7209,"I have my first nude photo shoot this week, what’s some advice/tips you have of this topic?. What are some things you do to make the client feel as comfortable and confident in front of the camera as possible? I’ve done a handful of boudoir shoots in the past and they’ve all gone well, but I’ve never done full nudity and I recognize that there’s an added level of intimacy there and I want to make sure it feels as comfortable for her as possible. + +This is a shoot for a good friend of mine and I’d like to believe it won’t really feel awkward as a result, at least on my end I know it won’t, but I want to be sensitive to how she’s feeling in the moment as well. She actually told me that she specifically asked me because of all the people she knows and photographers she’s talked to I’m the only one she’d feel comfortable and safe to do this with, which honestly made me happy and I’m glad she feels safe to come to me for this sorta job. + +Should I bring anything, like a robe to cover up when we move locations? Tell her to bring anything? I’ve told her she can have a friend with her if she feels more comfortable with that, to which she said that she doesn’t think that’s necessary and that she trusts me. + +Are there things I should avoid saying or doing? Aside from the blatantly obvious things like staring or touching the subject (generally I try to avoid touching the subject even when they’re clothed). She told me she also feels like I’d be the only one to be able to get her to laugh throughout the shoot and she wants to be genuinely smiling in some of the shots and now I feel a little pressure to be funny after I spent so long training myself to not be so jokey during intimate shoots.",0 +7210,"A fun exercise to improve understanding of angle of view. I like to use primes and often travel with two or three, but I'm trying to cut down on the number of times I switch lenses. So I just started this exercise: + +1. Pick any lens you want (it could be a zoom, but fix it to one focal length for this exercise). +2. Look up or calculate the angle of view ([here's a good calculator](https://www.pointsinfocus.com/tools/depth-of-field-and-equivalent-lens-calculator)). In my case, right now I'm using a lens with a 48 degree horizontal angle of view. +3. Hold out your arms to make what you think that angle is. +4. Walk around and try to compose a scene without looking at/through your camera. Hold up your arms if necessary and estimate where the camera should be to get the composition you imagined. +5. Hold up the camera and see if your estimate of camera position was correct. You don't have to actually take the picture, this is just getting a feel for the angle of view. +6. Repeat steps 4 and 5 for several different shots. + +I just came up with this exercise and I've already improved in just a few minutes. I expect over time I can use this to instinctively know which lens and where to stand when planning a shot.",0 +7211,"Best Tips for good composition?. This seems to be the hardest thing for me to nail right now. I feel like I’m good at selecting a subject and having adequate lighting, but where to have the subject and what angle for me to take the photo from are difficult.",0 +7212,"Those who take photos as a hobby: How do you incorporate drone footage?. Hi all, +Looking to get some inspiration. I picked up a drone and am looking to utilize it to enhance my shoots when I am out hiking taking landscape shots. I'm looking for ideas on what those of you with cameras and drones do. Do you put together videos with drone footage and your stills? Do you do short clips for Instagram or others? + +I've always loved drone shots but just don't know how best to incorporate it into my shooting. I'm not one to chase likes on IG or FB so I'm not too eager to just dump it on social media. + + +Thanks :)",0 +7213,"How robusts are camera lenses?. Today my girlfriend told me she thought I would be more careful with my camera gear, as I was putting them into the dry box. due to how many compartments there are, and how long my lens were I might have bumped the side a little bit as sliding them in. She asked whether if I not care if I might mess up the internals or something so now it got me thinking... + +​ + +How durable is a lens actually? I feel like my bumps are honestly so short-ranged and minor that it shouldn't really matter, but I'm not sure if I should really baby it and be VERY careful when putting it away...",0 +7214,"Favourite Photo of 2021 Discussions. Well, it's December 28th (where I live), which means it's officially time to take the Christmas tree out back and shoot it. However, with 2021 coming to a close, it's a good time look back at the year that was. 2021 was yet another challenging one for many photographers, but that shouldn't stop us from celebrating our accomplishments. So, let's discuss our favorite single photo or photo series we've taken this year. It doesn't matter what you shot it on, if it's edited, or straight out of camera. It also doesn't matter if it's your first photo or your fifty thousandth, all skill levels are welcome. + +Same as last year, the goal of this is to encourage **discussion**, so to avoid this just turning into a collection of links to picture for self-promotion or internet points, I'll put a few ""rules"" below. + +1. Must have been taken by you in 2021 (however, if you were not able to get out and shoot at all, a new edit from an older photo will be acceptable, given the circumstances) +2. It doesn't have to be your 'best' image/series, but rather your favourite image/series of 2021. +3. Please explain the reason the image/series your posting is your favourite. This could be due to a challenge you gave yourself, a new technique you used for the first time, the story/journey behind it, the impact it's had on you, just about anything. **Do try to make it meaningful**, not just 'this one got so many likes on social media' or ' I like how this one looks', as the goal is to encourage discussion about your work in 2021. +4. No dump and dash - if you're going to share your image/series, be sure to look at others and engage in conversation about their image/series. Don't just post an image/a series and leave. +5. You can post either a single image, or a series you've worked on during 2021. If you choose to post a series, there must be a cohesive theme connecting the images, not just ""my favourite pictures of 2021"". +6. There's a wide range of experience and opinions here, so if you'd like to ask for specific feedback on your image/series, feel free to ask for some. Discussions are encouraged. +7. **Only post one** image or series. I know it can be hard to choose, so think it over. +8. No digging for follows on social media and no unsolicited links to your social media accounts. +9. We're not here to discourage newer photographers, so the downvote button is not for images you think are 'bad' or you 'don't like'. +10. Be respectful. Keep in mind that everyone is at a different level in their photography and has had different challenges this year. +11. If your image/series is NSFW, please label it as such. + +I'll be posting my image in the comment section below a little later, rather than here, as I want to make sure the comments below are all a response to the discussion prompt, and not a response to my particular image. + +Obviously, I can't enforce any of these rules, and I don't want to create extra work for the mods, so we're going honor system on this one, folks. Mods, feel free to change the comments to contest mode.",0 +7215,"I teach photography and want to give my students a range of recommended artists to look at.... They have chosen independent photo projects to work on and I have a good running list of photographers but could always use more! Below I have their topics listed. Thank you!!! + +​ + + + +Vintage flash photography? + +Sunsets + +Portraiture + +Night photography + +Trees + +Close up portraiture (friends/strangers) + +Candid photos of people + +Aerial circus performers + +Animals and plants + +Landscapes/Cityscapes + +Movement (mountain biking)",0 +7216,"Album Share Tuesday: October 25, 2022. **Let’s see your work! Use this thread to share an album, get feedback from, and give feedback to your peers.** + +Before posting, be sure to give feedback on other people’s albums. Feedback can be as little as “I like this photo best!” + +If you are more confident in your critiquing abilities, give reasons why x photo was good, and/or what can be done to improve y photo. + +Please post curated albums! + +Do not post your entire Flickr/instagram feeds or website, nor albums of hundreds of photos. You will get more meaningful feedback on albums of fewer images. +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7217,"Self-Promotion Sunday: October 16, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7218,"Discussion: What’s your opinion on someone selling prints of photos they took of public murals?. Large painted murals are getting more and more popular in public/popular areas, and it’s really cool to see!! +Which in turn influences lots of folks to take photos of them. Which is totally cool for the mural artist since more people will get to see it. + +But what’s your opinion of a photographer taking a photo of it, and turning around selling prints of it? + +I see it very often. Almost too often. But curious what everyone else’s take would be since we’re in an artistic community. + +Would you say it’s fair game since it’s public? Or would you say that it’s unfair since it’s not their artwork? + +Curious where the majority is + +Edit: This is not referring to me personally. Im a product photographer and don’t offer prints. I just have a background in murals as well which makes it relevant for me.",0 +7219,"What should be the correct way to expose in high contrast scene?. I'm relatively new to photography, been practicing taking pictures for awhile now for my personal joy. Whenever I shoot backlit subjects with the intention to bring back the details later on in post, this is what I do. + +I expose for the sky (the brightest source) and naturally the other part will be almost black; I lock the exposure; I refocus on the subject I want to shoot; crack up the exposure compensation just before the highlights gets blown out and take the shot. It's just some trial and error method I'm experimenting to get as much detail as possible. + +Could you guys share your opinion on this?",0 +7220,"We need to talk about content moderation policies as well in regards to conversations about Instagram failing as a platform.. Hello, + +I apologize if this post violates the rules about ranting, but I feel this is a very important topic that needs to be discussed alongside the 'Instagram conversation'. We all know that Instagram has been going down the drain lately, but it's not only because they are trying to copy TikTok and the overabundance of ads. For many artists I know, we have been directly impacted by Instagram's increasingly strict and nonsensical community guidelines. + +I am a photographer who does mainly erotica and portrait photography. A lot of my work has nudity or sexual content which is why I display it in multiple different places (I have a website, am active on Twitter and do gallery shows alongside Instagram). Up until about a year or so ago I honestly didn't have many issues with Instagram's nudity/sexual content guidelines because all I needed to do was censor the images and omit the sexually explicit ones and it was fine. But something changed with their algorithm recently where any image that remotely resembles a sex work ad (whatever that means), even if it is censored, is removed for 'sexual solicitation'. + +Now many photographers I know including myself are at a constant risk of having our accounts deleted. Images that are already censored and do not contain any sexually explicit material are still being removed for 'nudity' or 'sexual solicitation' when they... contain NO nudity and are not a sex work ad. I have never posted sexual solicitation on my account and this continues to happen. + +This matters because artists like myself rely on Instagram to be apart of different international communities and build followings. I also have a large network of artists and galleries I communicate with on Instagram. To make matters worse this isn't only affecting photographers, I have seen painters and sculptors I know getting posts removed because it depicts nudity. + +The worst part of this for me though is that because Instagram is so central to the intersection of art and commerce its censorship policies have had a negative impact on the type of images that are being produced and the spread of important art and archival images. It is much more difficult than it needs to be to post erotic images or nudity in places where people can easily find them. This is very similar to when Tumblr went SFW. It had a miserable domino effect on a lot of communities, including sex workers and artists, who used to platform to network and post their art. + +I was wondering if anyone else is feeling the same stress from this issue and if we can start a conversation about how it has a seriously detrimental effect on the art community when the most popular platforms have such strict guidelines. Adults should be able to post work for other adults, in an artistic context, without it being removed. I hate this trend of puritanical B.S. + +Also, I saw other alternatives to Instagram posted but was wondering which one has the most lax rules on nudity. Sometimes they aren't completely upfront and it can be confusing. + +If you read this whole thing: thanks! I am an artist and it's one of my sources of income and community so I care about it very much. + +Edit: Want to add in here that Instagram is also very inconsistent with whose images they choose to remove. There are a plethora of 'sexy woman' photography pages that seem to be able to post whatever they want, but if your work is explicitly queer or trans it seems to be almost targeted for removal.",0 +7221,"Why use an old digital camera in 2022?. Hi all, I thought I'd write a short little essay piece because I feel like it. I say 'essay,' but not in a literal sense if that makes sense. I mean it's going to be wordy and I'm going to say a lot of things that are just my opinions + +I believe I am aiming to write this piece to a specific audience -- other beginner photographers like myself. But if you're more of an experienced photographer, or a professional, you might find what I'm about to say interesting if you have a moment spare to read. + +The question I pose is, why use an old camera for photography in this current time, or the future perhaps? Today I'm using my Canon EOS 5D as an example. + +The 5D is a 15+ year old camera that I bought second hand from a camera store chain approx. 2 years ago. The reason I got it was firstly: the price. And secondly, it was to be my second camera body as a backup just in case anything happened to my T7i, the first digital camera I ever bought. The 5D costed $400, came with a second-hand warranty and two batteries + a charger. Before deciding to pull the trigger to buy it, I did a little research. It was ultimately Mattias Burlings' YouTube video that led to my decision. 2 years later, it's still an awesome photographic tool that I use for the majority of my photography. And I'll also explain why I use it more than my T7i, even though this is a 17 year old camera with less overall features. + +**Not like your smartphone.** + +I mean that in a few ways. I think what the general consumer doesn't know is that older cameras don't become paperweights over time like many smartphones and other electronics do. After awhile, if the updates don't cripple your phone, the lack of updates will. And by that, I mean the updates can/may slow down the users phone. At the same time, at some point the user will stop receiving updates. And in a few years, that phone will not be able to use the latest apps. It's not exactly the same with computers as you can change parts, but some people will just buy a new computer if their current PC slows down or isn't as responsive as it used to be. With most cameras, the manufacturer may provide only one or two updates for their cameras throughout their entire production run. + +This 5D here still takes photos without any hiccups. In fact, the only time it may slowdown a little is during playback. But the action of pressing the shutter button and getting a well exposed photo is instantaneous. I like to compare aged cameras to old video game consoles, I'm thinking of the Playstation 1 as an example. There's still a ton of people playing retro consoles, or playing 20+ year old games on emulators or modern consoles without any issues. These older consoles are made to last. Similarly, these old cameras were made to last, too. And as such, I'm still using it. With the only quirk being inherent to older 5D models: there's a chance the mirror might pop out as quite a few users have reported this strange occurrence. Apparently, a quick and easy fix is to just glue it back on, which I find quite funny + +Here's some history about the 5D. It was the first lightweight full-frame DSLR that Canon had made up to that point, being released in 2005 and was priced at approximately $3300 USD. It's other full-frame offerings, the 1DS and 1DS Mark II were chunky, heavy and expensive DSLRs. It seemed as though the 5D was to the 1DS series back then, as the 6D is to the 5D today. The 5D was meant to be a 'more affordable' full frame option for the masses. And it has a very similar appearance to the Canon EOS 1V, a 35mm full-frame film SLR released 5 years earlier. + +Since it's a DSLR, it offers a lot of advantages over a phone. Full manual control, multiple auto exposure modes, interchangeable lenses with hundreds of options to choose from, solid ergonomics, doesn't take a long time to power on (0.2 Sec), a very shallow depth of field with large aperture lenses, And the list can go on and on. Of course, the phone has it's own advantages. JPEG processing is very impressive, especially now with night sight or similar modes, as well as quick and effective HDR during auto mode. But I do know for my needs a DSLR is my tool of choice for photography. They say the best camera is the one you have with you. For me, that's the 5D as I take it out whenever I get the chance. + +**Better than a rebel?** + +Better in this case is quite subjective, as I don't use the features like WiFi or Bluetooth on my T7i. Nor do I use it's extensive creative auto modes. My preference is either shooting in Program or Manual, centre-weight metering, single centre point AF (back-button focusing), auto WB and JPEG + RAW. And that's how both my 5D and T7i are set up. With the way they're both set up, they're both very similar cameras. But I think I realise that in hindsight, I probably would have preferred the 5D as my first camera over my T7i, and for a few reasons. + +The first is the price. Because both cameras behave similarly for the way I shoot, I don't have much of a reason to use a camera like the T7i over the 5D. The only real reason I can think of is dynamic range. From my observation and at ISO 100, I can recover a lot of shadow detail in the CR2 files with my T7i. With the 5D, it's a little more tougher. And as a beginner, this teaches me the fundamentals of proper exposure. And if I decide to commit to underexposing my shot for creative reasons, to make that choice carefully with my 5D knowing that I may not be able to recover much detail in post. + +And like an old film camera, there's was no auto ISO with the first 5D. You have to set it manually in most modes, except green auto mode. Which sets the ISO automatically for you, but only up to ISO 400. This was a pain for me at the start until I realised later on that I don't like auto ISO sometimes. I preferred to set my ISO like a film SLR and commit to it, only changing it when required. For example, in poor lighting situations. + +There's a lot to like about the 5D over most rebels. Firstly, it's pentaprism viewfinder is much brighter and clearer than the pentamirror viewfinder on most rebel cameras. This annoyed me as a beginner as I couldn't tell when something was in focus with the T7i, whereas I trust the 5D more as I can tell when the part I'm focusing on is sharp. Not much chimping is required. The only issue with the 5D is that the LCD screen has a very low resolution and isn't very colour accurate, giving some of my photos a puke-green aesthetic lol. This is hilarious to me, because if I show the images via the back screen to someone else they immediately notice the bad colours. + +Another thing I like about the 5D is that it's just a purely photographic tool. It's so tempting (and I'm the fidgety type) to play around with settings, play with video, use liveview mode. With the 5D, there are no distractions because you have none of that fun stuff. I just take a photograph and move on. I rarely touch any setting on my 5D as there is very little to touch. Just your typical image setting (JPEG, RAW, RAW+JPEG), picture mode (standard, portrait, etc.), white balance, custom functions, sounds, et cetera. And not much else. You can't even set a max ISO to use as there is no auto ISO. + +Note, I haven't mentioned the full-frame sensor. But only because to my eyes and the way I shoot, the results almost look the same between my T7i and 5D. But I will admit, both DSLRs produce very gorgeous results. I'm especially fond of editing, and I like to touch up my photos a little in Lightroom. Use presets and edit to my taste. So if you notice any weird colours, that may be my fault. In fact, it's definitely my fault But I love the fun of photography, and to me post-processing is apart of that fun creative process. + +**Je ne sais quoi?** + +I've heard from some users of the 5D say that to their eyes, the images that come from the 5D are very film like in terms of colours and the noise looking more 'grain' like compared to other digital cameras. I can't really comment much on this, but at the very least, I can safely say that every ISO value is usable, which I can't say the same for with my T7i. The T7i can go all the way to 51200, but at that stage the images that come from the sensor are extremely noisy and are difficult to salvage. I limit myself to 12800, which is still noisy, but can be recovered with some success. + +Another point to note is the AA filter on the 5D. It's a 12.8 megapixel sensor, and a lot of users mention that the filter is fairly weak. And I noticed that too, moiré shows up easily with fabrics and patterns. To me, this camera has a very good sensor, and I have heard some people say that Kodak collaborated with Canon to calibrate the colours? I actually can't find anything on this, and it does seem odd to me that Kodak would work with Canon and Canon not mentioning it in ads or to the press. Apparently there's evidence, I haven't seen it yet. But that would be pretty cool if that happened. + +Maybe it's the colour science or the auto white balance, but I feel as though I never need to do much editing to get my images to sing. And in some cases, I just apply a little bit of contrast and call it a day. I love it. + +Most underappreciated feature of this camera? The shutter. It annoys non-photographers, but to my ears it sounds exactly like a EOS film SLR. Something like a 1V, for example. It has good oomph to it, and it makes me feel as though I'm taking an important shot. Of blueberries lol. + + **So why use a old DSLR?** + +You'd think me strange for saying this, but I don't mind using an old camera like this for photography. I am fascinated and drawn to shiny new toys. The higher pixels, better ISO performance, better dynamic range, IBIS and eye autofocus. + +At the same time, I'd be content with using this if it was my only option and if I couldn't have anything else. And paired with the 40mm, this becomes a very capable general photography kit. It's not too heavy, the lens is almost as sharp as a knife up to f/11. And I much prefer the 40mm over the nifty fifty. + +If your interested in getting older equipment, keep in mind it may not have the features you need. Throughout this post, I'm not suggesting everyone should own a 5D, or a Nikon D700, or Leica M3. I think you'll know what specifications you're after, and the issue with old tech is that it was released to be competitive with other tech at its time. In 2005, most DSLRs did not have liveview, video or auto ISO. No IBIS, no auto HDR, no a lot of things. + +Even so, you need not look far to find good camera deals. I think I've seen the 6D for around $800 AUD in a local camera store? Even an older semi-pro camera like the 70D, I got it for $300. + +Also, one more thing to consider, some camera brands will not offer repair for discontinued cameras. I knew the risks and inherent fault with this particular camera, but it's something to be aware of in general. + +And with all that rambling and nonsense said, happy shooting. Not shooting literally, but for photography :) + + https://imgur.com/aGWdzBK",0 +7222,"What are some cases you all have found where you absolutely needed to use the lens hood that came with you lens?. I personally don't ever actually use the lens hoods for my lenses but I am curious as to what situations you all may have found when you are taking some photos where you really needed it. + + + +Update: + +Along with reducing flaring that can limit contrast, there were some pretty interesting applications or reasons you all use lens hoods. I thought I would place some different use cases here. + +1. To protect the lens from bumps and water. +2. To remove or reduce reflections when shooting against a glass or window display +3. For adding more size for a lens heater to coil around the lens",0 +7223,"Advice on how to proceed with a client. I recently took photos of a recurring sporting event for a client. 63 photos were taken in total, with 20 being deemed worthy of edit by my standards. Upon receipt of the photos, the client said that they were expecting more photos. I offered to take more photos free of charge at the next event of kind, and that offer was accepted. However, the client has asked me to release to them, the remaining 43 unedited photos. + +I believe in only releasing my best work, so releasing unedited photos is against my principles. I'm still relatively new to professional photography, and am still getting my name out there. I'm just curious as to see how the community would recommend proceeding. Any feedback is greatly appreciated.",0 +7224,"Has anybody else ever lost 5-10 years worth of photos? If so, how did you get over it?. ",0 +7225,"How do you approach businesses to sell prints?. As the title suggests, I want to begin marketing my work to local shops and offices (really anywhere I can)... + +More specifically, I'm going home for about a month (Salt Lake City area) and will not have a reliable income during that period. +Beyond family, I don't have any personal connections to people or businesses in that area, so I doubt I can make any money with portraits. + +Do you have any advice on starting conversations with businesses and/or seeking out opportunities to sell my work while in a new town? + +Thank you!",0 +7226,"Anything Goes Monday: November 21, 2022. What are you up to? Share with your e-friends! What's that shiny new piece of equipment? + +Show off cool photography-related stuff you've created or experienced here in the comments of this post! We want to see and discuss your pictures, videos, website... anything, really! + +If you've got interesting links to stuff created by someone else, we'd love to discuss that too! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7227,"What is my responsibility if a subject just doesn’t look good?. I have been doing amateur self taught photography through word of mouth for over 15 years now. I charge just a little and do very basic shoots. No weddings, no studio work, just basic natural lighting portraits or family photos. Sometimes, I get a client just looks disheveled or poorly dressed, maybe wearing un-ironed clothes. Sometimes they’ll have their cellphone or wallet in their pocket and it shows, or they have bad makeup. Usually, if hair is out of place or they have something glaringly obvious, I will fix it for them, but if they are simply wearing messy clothes or being incredibly awkward, where is the line of my responsibility as a photographer? How much can I fix someone? How many times should I give instruction on posing or relaxing before just giving up and shooting them as they are? As long as I’ve been doing this, I’m still very much an amateur and I really don’t have any photographer friends to compare notes with. + +Also - what are the best practices for giving instruction on posing? How can I sound nice and not demanding, and how can I not make people feel awkward? + +Any tips for getting subjects to laugh and relax? Thanks so much everyone.",0 +7228,"Has anyone else struggled with others-specifically parents-not taking your actual labor and effort as a working professional seriously because it's not a ""real job"" or is ""voluntary""?. Lately, I've been absolutely busting my ass to get my name out there and build up a network. I primarily shoot sports, and have a regular gig shooting mountain bike races for another photography business, which has meant many weekends of dragging myself out of bed when it's still dark Saturday morning, shooting on Saturday, car camping on location, shooting Sunday, and then making the couple-hour drive home to get my stuff ingested, processed, and uploaded usually that same Sunday. Even aside from that I've been doing a *lot* of my own work-motocross, auto racing, all kinds of stuff. I've already been contracted for a full 10- or 11-hour day of shooting photo, video, and subsequent post-production for a SCUBA expo near me, and have an MTB race to make it to on Sunday. Don't get me wrong, I'm very happy to get paid for something I really do love to do, especially in an area that is as absolutely cutthroat for freelancers as mine, but all of that means I basically don't get a weekend before I go back to my office job on Monday. + +The trouble with the situation is that my parents just don't seem to take my work seriously. When I told them that the contract had officially been signed for this Saturday, rather than be happy that I'd gotten a pretty handsomely-paid gig, my stepmom basically said ""Ok, well you don't get to complain about being tired when you get home on Sunday"", and only really half-jokingly suggested that she and my dad should be entitled to some of that money even though I already pay them (not-inconsiderable) rent. This isn't the first time I've heard something like this, and honestly I'm beginning to resent it more every time. I've also heard, in a conversation about how much I work compared to how much money I make (and why it'd be extremely difficult for me to live on my own, or even with roommates), that my freelance hours ""don't count"" when tallying up how long my work week is because it's ""just a side hustle"" and is ""voluntary"", and lots of other flippant remarks that seem to indicate that they don't respect the amount of time, effort, and energy I'm investing to ""make it"". They seem to think my photo and video work is some kind of extracurricular activity rather than me fighting and clawing to chase a job I truly love to do instead of one that pays the bills but makes me want to jump off a cliff with boredom. + +Has anyone dealt with this kind of thing before? If so, how did you deal with it?",0 +7229,"Anything Goes Monday: August 01, 2022. What are you up to? Share with your e-friends! What's that shiny new piece of equipment? + +Show off cool photography-related stuff you've created or experienced here in the comments of this post! We want to see and discuss your pictures, videos, website... anything, really! + +If you've got interesting links to stuff created by someone else, we'd love to discuss that too! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7230,"Paying to learn from other photographers. On some photography-related sites, I've read articles written by people who mention that they teach - be that one-to-one, or in the form of seminars, workshops, etc. In some cases, the work they show in the article is *really* good, and makes me think that ""if I were going to learn from someone, this person would seem to be a good choice"". In others cases, the work they show has the exact opposite effect. + +I've spent money on video-based instruction before (and so far I haven't been disappointed in a purchase), but never in person. So I got to thinking about what would - and wouldn't - encourage me to sign up for a seminar, workshop, etc. from another photographer. Firstly, I'd have to consider their photography to be better than mine or to have a characteristic that I'd like to include in my own photography (for instance, if the composition or use of light or colour stood out as exceptional). Secondly, it would have to be a field which interested me - i.e. even if Annie Leibovitz herself was doing a workshop on portraits, I probably wouldn't be interested as I never do portraits (although it would be worth considering just to see her in action). Then there's the price and what you can expect for it. And lastly, there's the personality of the photographer, although that's far more nebulous. + +So, I'd like to turn this one over to everyone: + +1) If you have, in the past, paid for a seminar / workshop or similar, what was the motivation for signing up for it? And did you find it was worth it? (If you're happy naming names, then please feel free). + +2) If you haven't attended such an event, but would like to, what would get you to sign up, and (conversely) what would be a red flag that would stop you from signing up? + +3) If you teach, or have considered teaching, what do you feel qualifies you to do so (for instance official qualifications in photography, years of experience, demonstrable commercial success, etc.), and what do you feel that you offer in your workshops, seminars, etc? What's your unique selling point? (I'd never dare teach photography for money, so this one's of particular interest to me).",0 +7231,"Nikon announces Z 9 firmware 2.0 (12-bit N-RAW 8.3K 60p and ProRes RAW HQ 4.1K 60p), Z 7II and Z 6II firmware 1.4 (AF improvements) and Nikon CFexpress-B high performance card. ",0 +7232,"Album Share Tuesday: April 05, 2022. **Let’s see your work! Use this thread to share an album, get feedback from, and give feedback to your peers.** + +Before posting, be sure to give feedback on other people’s albums. Feedback can be as little as “I like this photo best!” + +If you are more confident in your critiquing abilities, give reasons why x photo was good, and/or what can be done to improve y photo. + +Please post curated albums! + +Do not post your entire Flickr/instagram feeds or website, nor albums of hundreds of photos. You will get more meaningful feedback on albums of fewer images. +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7233,"New changes to Flickr NSFW and private storage policies--your thoughts?. Flickr has, in my opinion, always a great service purely from the perspective of how the images are displayed and organized, although it isn't nearly as dynamic as the social media platforms that have long since eclipsed it in popularity. It has seen its share of financial troubles, and some recently-announced policy changes are evidently intended to alleviate that. + +1. **The ability to share restricted and moderate content will be reserved for Flickr Pro members.** +2. **Free accounts will be limited to 50 non-public photos.** + +The timeline for implementation hasn't been announced yet, but this means that users of free accounts will eventually risk having content deleted that contravenes these restrictions. In its earlier days, Flickr was used as a backup/storage option by many, so this will affect the usage of any who still view it that way. + + +My initial thoughts: + +\-Limiting NSFW content to paid accounts could reduce the amount of non-artistic nudity (which is currently rampant), but it also makes the platform even less attractive to those who are looking for Instagram alternatives for sharing artistic nudity. + +\-They have every right to make the changes necessary to render the platform profitable (if that is even possible), but this is unlikely to increase their popularity, to say the least. + +*What are your thoughts?*",0 +7234,"How common are work-for-hire portrait photographers?. I’m a freelance portrait photographer and recently lost out on a client because they wanted to own the copyright to the photos. They told me they only planned to use the photos for work and personal use (ex. Social media, websites, digital promotional materials, etc) which is allowed in the licensing agreement in my contract. + +I explained that unless they are planning on selling the photos for profit commercially, there is no reason they would need to own the copyright and that I do not sell my copyright anyway. + +They responded by thanking me and saying they understand and that they would look for a work for hire photographer. Am I right to think that freelance work for hire portrait photographers don’t really exist? How common is this to hire a portrait photographer and own the images as the client? + +Edit: wording",0 +7235,"Ever mailed a famous photographer (and got a reply?). Inspired by a similar thread earlier about mailing photography teachers. + +I've mailed three top-level photographers (Jay Maisel, Nick Brandt and William Albert Allard), and they all mailed me back, which tells me that they're not only great photographers, but they're decent people too. + +I guess that's also one of the better points of the internet: you can get in contact with these people much more easily. + +(Some years back I went to an exhibition of a photographer - the name escapes me at the moment, he wasn't super-famous - but among the exhibits was a handwritten letter to the photographer from Henri Cartier-Bresson. I think I spent more time looking at that than at the pictures).",0 +7236,"Self-Promotion Sunday: June 26, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + +**This is not the place to just drop a link to your website, social media profile, or portfolio. We have dedicated threads for those purposes.** + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7237,"Wins Wednesday: June 22, 2022. **Time for some positivity!** + +Have you had any recent photography wins? Share them here! +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7238,"Struggling to find clients as a freelance photographer... any ideas ?. Hey guys, I have started photography 3 years ago. I did not do any photography school, learned everything by myself and I think I'm quite good at it. Im starting to have my own style. + +Recently, I finished my studies and I had a lot of trouble to find a job. I decided to try making some money with photography. Since I do not have a studio, I plan t shoot a bit of everything except portraits. Here are the steps I took: + +- made some pictures to have a portfolio for specific niches (some architecture, some still life/product photography, and some ""travel/lifestyle photography""). I used real brands but made sure to put a small asterisk that said that this is not an official shoot for the brand. + +- made a clean website with portfolio section divided in categories, about me section and im planning to make a blog section in order to do some post to rank thanks to local seo. + +- announced on my ig page that i was starting freelancing. + +I didnt expect clients to fall from nowhere, but im kinda lost as to which next steps to take. Does anyone have any idea what to do to get first clients ? I thought about making a linked in in which i would make some ""history of photography"" posts to bring awareness to my profile (i can add a few people i know that are occupying very important roles in business/politics)... + +I also plan to make a photography youtube channel. The channel would be about photography but more about the creative aspect. I hope it will maybe bring some clients as I will shoot in cities in my country and put the cities name in the video title. + +I thought about mass cold emailing businesses in a niche (for example flower business by showing a few impressive still lives in the mail). + +I also wondered about paying for instagram ads. + +I have some cool portraits shot with a friend at my house, but i feel like it is a bit weird to invite strangers at my place for portraits... + +How did you guys do ? I seriously think that nothing else than being a freelance photographer would make me happy. + +BONUS QUESTION: Is there a way to be a ""photography nomad"" ? If so how do you find clients easily and fast ? My dream is to travel through europe doing photograph to afford a place to stay and some food. + +Other bonus question: is offering small videos seen as not pro ? I never see photogs offering both...",0 +7239,"Shooting strangers in the streets [Europe version]. Hello there fellow button pressers ! + +So here's the deal. I've been into photography for some time now (about 12 years) mainly doing portraits and stills. And I've been seeing here and there on the internets the trend of shooting total strangers in the streets (of course informing them either beforehand of afterwards). + +That is an idea that I really would like to try out just wandering in the streets with a 50mm. But how to do it ? I feel like the reaction would be very different in Europe than it seems to be in America. + +Does anyone have experience with it ? How do you introduce yourself ? Do you present a card or examples ? Do you send you shot afterwards ? What about posting? My guess is that you need something of a contract to post it online safely ? + +​ + +Anyhow, let's discuss it !",0 +7240,"Self-Promotion Sunday: October 09, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7241,"Monthly Gearporn Thread: September 20, 2022. **This thread is where you can show off what you've acquired this past month.** + +Make us green with envy! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7242,"How much did you shoot in 2021?. We’re just finishing our first week of 2022. I just backed up all of my work for 2021. I shot 957 GB’s in 2021, almost a terabyte. This was split between a Sony a7iii, an a6500, a DJI Mini and film scans. It took about 14 hours. + +I’m a hobbyist, but really enjoy taking photos of my kids, family and some of the cool stuff we do. So those memories to me are priceless and I’m so happy to have them. + +How much did you shoot in 2021? Have you backed up your work yet? + +Edit: changed gigs to GB’s for clarity.",0 +7243,"Self-Promotion Sunday: November 27, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7244,"Monthly Gearporn Thread: November 20, 2022. **This thread is where you can show off what you've acquired this past month.** + +Make us green with envy! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7245,Winners of the Nikon Small World Photomicrography Contest Create Art Using a Microscope. ,0 +7246,"Death and Family Photography. I lost my dad last year after he lost his battle with kidney failure. I'm losing a person this year who was a 2nd mom to me. She is losing her battle with esophageal cancer as I type this. + +I have lost my desire to photograph families because my family unit is now broken. + +Has this happened to other photographers too? + +My heart is just broken in half 💔 + +😔😓 + +Edit: For some context, I would like to take a long leave from photographing for others. I'd like to photograph things just for myself because the camera gives me incredible peace and respite.",0 +7247,There's Nothing Magical About Medium Format Depth Of Field [Youtube: DPReview TV]. ,0 +7248,"An interesting quote that could spark an interesting discussion:. “I see it, therefore it is real, and what is real is also true. A photograph is always yolked to something “out there”. To a reality that is independent of the apparatus and medium that captures it. Yet, when we take unthinking comfort in photography’s documenting of the real, we tend to forget it’s most sinister relationship with the unreal. The reassuringly objective could become the treacherously subjective. And this is the pleasure, as well as the menace, of photography, who’s archives are as full of fiction as of truth.” + +— Reely & Truly (2014), dir. Tyrone Lebon. The name of the one who says this isn’t mentioned. (Documentary) + +What are your thoughts? Do you agree or disagree? I’d love to hear them! + + +EDIT! + +Hi all, sorry that you all took this the wrong way. Yeah I agree that the quote is tortured. In the documentary, it is spoken from a foreigner’s mouth. It seems that context is required for this sort of thing. + +So I’ll tell a story instead. + +I was inspired to post from an article about a photographer who photographed the first war in history. It was in 1850s I believe, in Crimea. + +The photographer took two exposures of the same scene. In one exposure, canon balls lay across a road. But in the other, the canon balls were on the edges of the road, as if they had been moved aside for cars to get through. + +Some photographers a couple years ago were curious as to if the canon balls were moved onto the road, or moved off. + +It turns out the photographer moved them onto the road. + +When I heard this story, the quote I posted had immediately jumped into my mind and reminded me of it. + +The photo ended up being praised by critics and displayed everywhere, helped legitimise photography as an archival medium. Even though it was completely staged. + +You can see the pair here: +https://imgur.com/a/cURyIni + +That’s all I’ll say. Have a good day",0 +7249,"Tech Savvy Professionals -- How do you store/organize your archival images?. As the title says, I'd love to hear how others manage their files. I'm less interested in the ""basic"" methods (using an external USB hard drive or local disc), more interested in network attached storage, how/if you set up remote access of any kind, redundant storage, editing on multiple devices etc. + +I have a laptop for travel and a desktop where I do the bulk of my editing. Most images are stored on the desktop itself on two internal redundant 3TB hard drives. My conundrum is having images be accessible for additional edits/sharing outside the house, as well as dealing with Lightroom's clunky catalog implementation (images edited on one device don't show edits on the other). + +Curious what y'all are doing!",0 +7250,"What do you like to listen to when editing/processing your photography and does it influence your work?. I'm always curious what other photographers listen to (if you do) when editing their digital photos or processing/scanning their film or whatever else photography related task it may be is and whether or not it actually influences your work. + +I often listen to ""chill hop or lo-fi"" type music because its not super distracting, just can kind of work on my photos and chill a bit. But other times I listen to Frank Sinatra and other times its metal! 🤘 + +But I find my edits and music choice can almost dictate how the edits may turn out. If I'm in a depressed/sad mood, my work will have a more dark & moody feeling and if I'm feeling good and positive, my edits typically will be bright and colorful. Honestly the something can be said about when you're actually out in the field photographing, you're mood will often dictate your work sort of speak. + +But I'm more interested in what you listen to at your desk editing photos or process/scanning your film. + +Just for fun :)",0 +7251,"Problem finding free work.. Okay so this is probably a new one. I know it's hard to find paying clients, but I've never been in a position that I couldn't even get clients for free sessions. + +I've wasted so much money on ads, and posting all over in groups offering free sessions just to build up more portfolio and increase my reach in the area as I've just moved here two years ago. (Where I was living I had quite the large clientele). But I've been lucky to get 4-5 responses in the past year and a half. + +The few I've had, have loved my work and shared and mentioned me on many occasions but still nothing. I get that Facebook and Instagram is the way to go but I'm not feeling it anymore like I did when I started years ago. Any suggestions? + +EDIT: Thank you everyone for the awesome feedback, recommendations and advice. I really appreciate it! I'll definitely try everything and change the whole way of thinking and approach going forward. I hope any others having the same issues can take some of the advice given by the community here to help them in their goals as well",0 +7252,"AMA Announcement: Tamara Lackey | March 2, 2022 @ 1pm (US Eastern). We are pleased to announce that on Wednesday, March 2nd at 1pm (US Eastern Time), /r/photography will be hosting an AMA with photographer and Nikon Ambassador [Tamara Lackey](https://tamaralackey.com/). + +Tamara has been a professional photographer for nearly 20 years and in addition to her photography work, she is also an accomplished author, speaker, host, as well as co-founder of [Beautiful Together](https://beautifultogether.org/) and the [Beautiful Together Animal Sanctuary](https://beautifultogethersanctuary.com/) - organizations which use photography as a means to support the vulnerable and the voiceless in ways that benefit us all. + +She will be joining us to answer questions about travel photography, pet/animal/wildlife photography, as well as her work with Beautiful Together and Beautiful Together Animal Sanctuary. + +We look forward to welcoming Tamara to have her answer your questions! + +-- [Tamara's Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/tamaralackey/) -- + +--- +**REMINDER:** This is just an announcement post. Please do not ask your questions here. The AMA will take place on Wednesday, March 2nd. Thanks.",0 +7253,"People with both film and digital cameras, how do you use them differently?. This is just me being curious about other people’s habits: if you have both film and digital cameras, how do you use them differently and what makes you decide on bringing one vs. another (or both?) + +The one case I’ve heard of a lot is: film for personal and digital for professional. + +So I’m particularly interested in those who use both for non-professional stuff.",0 +7254,"Family photography. I want to start by saying I have tremendous respect for family photographers. Y'all are wizards! + +I recently had a family session with parents + 5 children. The youngest screamed the entire time and the others did not follow any direction. At all. Even for some fun lifestyle shots. Pretty much ran away from myself and the parents. I try to be silly, show off some dance moves, provide candy incentive, play kids music, sing popular songs, let the kids run around and then chill for a little bit, have a stuffed animal on the top of my camera, you name it. All in the hopes of getting at least a few really good shots. Nope. Nada. Nothing. + +Please share your tips and tricks. I feel so incredibly defeated.",0 +7255,"I have a chance to chase my dreams and it absolutely scares the shit out of me. Sorry, this might be a long post. + +About a year ago, I went through a really really rough breakup. In my search for happiness post breakup, I began bringing my camera to motorsports events. I have a degree in photography and I’ve always loved anything fast and loud, so pairing the two seemed like a natural fit. Very quickly it became my new obsession. I created a logo, developed a brand, and began driving hundreds of miles every weekend just to get to any race I could find. + +This consumed most of my weekends. During the week I work at a university working with donors who have given large gifts. This isn’t my passion, but it pays well and I’m a strong writer and a people person so I don’t mind the work. I’m currently still in this position and I’m making more than I ever have at any other job. It’s not a ton, but it’s enough to get by. + +A few months ago, a brand manager for a very successful racer reached out to me asking if I’d be willing to cover multiple races in 2023 for said driver. I agreed thinking it would be a few races in my area when they’re in town. After talking, I realized that they wanted me to travel the country with them photographing almost every race. It would most definitely be a full-time commitment. + +I’d be making $400 for each race and would be contracted as an independent contractor (so I’d be responsible for my own taxes and health insurance). Essentially, it’s my dream opportunity. + +I should be happy, right? I should be chomping at the bit, drafting my 2 week notice, and running out the door chasing after my dreams. + +But it scares the living hell out of me. I can’t help but worry about the “what-ifs”. What if I don’t make enough to get by? What if I can’t meet the deliverables for each race? What if this sucks all the fun out of racing photography? How do I plan for taxes when they’re not automatically deducted from my paycheck? How do I get health insurance? + +65% of me wants to just go for it, but there is still the 35% saying keep the stud quo and stick to your stable income. How do I move past that? What should I do?",0 +7256,"Looking for creative DIY photography tips. After seeing people use highlighters, hairspray, spray paint and vaseline on UV filters to achieve beautiful dreamy effects, I'm curious about what else I can do to a UV filter to add another layer of substance to my photos. Please share your ideas :)",0 +7257,"How do I build an audience?. I'm not interested in building a portfolio and getting wedding, maternity, events, portrait etc gigs. + +I want to share my fine art?/personal?/abstract?/artistic? photography. + +I don't want to do commercial stuff. I want people to come to see MY work that I do because I like it not because it's marketable as a commercial product. + +I want to sell photo books, prints, exhibitions.... + +But how do I build an audience? + +Instagram is dead for photographers now and a web portfolio is no good on its own. No body is just going to come and look through your website for pleasure. Web traffic needs to be funnelled from else where. + +So how do you become known as a photographer? How do you build an audience who come to see YOUR work? + +EDIT: + +I don't if you can tell what I'm trying to say. There is a difference between hiring your local wedding photographer than to buy a Bruce Gilden photo book. + +The wedding photographer is going to take photos his customers will like. He also has less creative freedom than the Bruce Gilden. He will have a web portfolio and some social media perhaps, he will run ads etc. He doesn't have an audience. He has customers. + +Bruce Gilden on the other hand only takes photos he likes to take. He isn't trying to please anyone. He doesn't run ads. People come to see his work because they enjoy it. He has an audience. They want to have a piece of his work or see more of it so they buy a photo book, go to an exhibition or buy a print.",0 +7258,"Does anyone else start doubting their abilities right before a shoot?. Currently waiting for a shoot to start and I kid you not I started thinking ""what if i just charge her less money in case they turn out bad?"" + +Any advice on how to stay confident besides just sticking to it?",0 +7259,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: May 28, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7260,"How to deal with client’s unrealistic expectations?. Hello, + +I have a client who wanted to do a business lifestyle shoot in a coffee shop. She specific she wanted “a couple of headshots mixed with a feel of sitting down with her for a cup of coffee”. I have a contract that states (in short) all sales are final and photos are chosen by the photographer based on factors like lightening, posing, etc (quality over quantity) + +She showed up saying her makeup artist cancelled on her and she hates her hair, great lol. We finished the shoot and it was awesome! I delivered a variety of shots with just her, her taking a business call, her with her laptop, her posing with a cup of coffee, etc. and even included some more photos in delivery. + +She emails me and says the photos are wonderful but she wants more variety? I’m not sure how much more variety we can do in a business lifestyle (small coffee shop). She specifically said her vans are a “staple” and wanted a photo of them? She did not mention this on her photo requirements and I asked her at the end of the shoot if there’s anything we missed and she said no. + +I told her what is on my contract and said during the culling process, the photos with the vans didn’t turn out. And then included 3 more photos with distinct different posing + +I will not be refunding as I did my part. How would you handle a client like this?",0 +7261,"Would a job as a photographer at the mall be a good start to a career?. I’ve been very interested in a career in photography for a while now, but unfortunately I’ve struggled to find a way to pursue that interest. Recently though, I saw a job posting for a photographer at my local mall. I had an interview for said job yesterday and I just got offered the position today. I’m curious thought if this would be a good start in my potential career. The job is temporary (it lasts through the Easter season) if that matters. Any advice would be appreciated.",0 +7262,"2022 Gift Suggestion Thread. With the holiday season upon us, it's once again time to consider some gift shopping! This thread is for **gift suggestions** to help those well-intentioned gift buyers in our lives that might also be somewhat (or entirely) clueless about photography. Use this thread for any gift suggestions you may have. + +# *This is not the place to ask questions. Please use the stickied Question Thread instead.* + +___ + +**For easy readability, please format your comment as follows:** + +> **Budget: $/£/€** + +> - Product with description (and link if possible) + +--- + +Comments without this information will be removed. + +Direct links to products are great, but *absolutely no referral links are permitted* as per usual subreddit rules. + +--- + +Previous gift suggestion threads: + +[2021](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/r47u1y/2021_gift_suggestion_thread/) | [2020](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/jv94s1/2020_gift_suggestion_thread/) | [2019](https://redd.it/e3zdhd) | [2018](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/a1cz8s/2018_gift_suggestion_thread/) | [2017](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/7gmkql/2017_gift_suggestion_thread/) | [2016](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/5bqiyo/2016_photo_gift_suggestion_megathread/) | [2014](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/2n6bvn/rphotographys_2014_gift_guide/) | [2013](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/1sp45j/rphotographys_2013_gift_guide/) | [2012](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/13wru9/rphotography_collaborative_christmas_gift_guide/) | [Small Gift Ideas](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/3vvok8/made_a_small_list_of_gift_ideas_15_25_50/)",0 +7263,"Album Share Tuesday: September 20, 2022. **Let’s see your work! Use this thread to share an album, get feedback from, and give feedback to your peers.** + +Before posting, be sure to give feedback on other people’s albums. Feedback can be as little as “I like this photo best!” + +If you are more confident in your critiquing abilities, give reasons why x photo was good, and/or what can be done to improve y photo. + +Please post curated albums! + +Do not post your entire Flickr/instagram feeds or website, nor albums of hundreds of photos. You will get more meaningful feedback on albums of fewer images. +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7264,"The Perfect Location for (Dog) Portraits - Final Image and BTS inside post. ​ + +[The Perfect Location for Dog Portraits](https://preview.redd.it/86ah3ocomsd91.jpg?width=2048&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=934cebffc0fb35bf1feeb09f84f0c68258ad27bf) + +In our dog photographer community, it was mentioned that Dutch landscapes aren't exactly impressive. How photographers from all over the world often struggle to find good shooting locations for their pet portrait work. + +However, as portrait photographers we don't necessarily need those amazing landscapes we see online. The waterfalls, the lakes, those beautiful rocks and mountains. + +​ + +**Fairy Tale Spots** + +I suspect many portrait photographers struggling with shooting locations still have the idea of a magical, 'perfect spot' in the back of their minds. + +My advice? Drop that belief right now. It's a fairy tale. That belief is what overwhelms you on location. I see it all the time on location with my students. They walk right past some of my favorite spots. + +The reality is, with a few minimum requirements for a photo shoot location in mind, you'll find dozens of decent spots in many mundane areas. + +​ + +**Start with Good Enough** + +Focus on those minimum requirements. Avoid or remove that which you don't want in the frame. You're not looking for that one magical, perfect spot. You're looking for one that's '**good enough**'. + +Our eyes aren't portrait lenses, we don't see the world through an 85mm at F/1.4. Perhaps the next Google Glass iteration can come with a dept-of-field preview feature - If only, right! + +Just try a spot that checks your boxes. If it works, great! If not, move on and try a different one. + +And yes, with experience you'll recognize those more quickly. However, even then you won't know for certain until you try. Once you have that down, feel free to start being a bit more creative. Just don't overwhelm yourself. + +​ + +*Have a look at this behind-the-scenes shot and tell me how magical and perfect that location looks now.* + +[Behind-the-Scenes of this shoot. Is that the perfect location you're searching for?](https://preview.redd.it/4zng8fh4nsd91.jpg?width=2048&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f13ed86cedb014250350665cc917669ab28ec0e5) + +​ + +**It's up to you!** + +That magical, perfect spot doesn’t exist. You create the fairy tale with your gear, skills and experience. Plus, perhaps, a sprinkle of Lightroom and Photoshop magic. + +​ + +[Final Image. Taken with the Sigma 105mm F\/1.4. Edited in Lightroom and Photoshop.](https://preview.redd.it/3l0bimrgnsd91.jpg?width=1463&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8157803bb93191cb31e6213546aa38d7212284c5) + +​ + +**Location wise, don't chase perfection. Especially as a beginner.** **Strive for good enough.**",0 +7265,"What, in your opinion, is the oldest a digital camera can be and still be practically usable?. Retro tech always comes back in fashion in some way, and I'm noticing an emerging trend for retro digital cameras. + +Retro digital cameras, however, are much less usable in modern times than retro analog cameras. + +With retro analog cameras you really only need to check that it's working mechanically and source some film for it. This can be tricky for some discontinued formats, but for the most part it's easy to do it. + +Retro digital cameras, however, have a lot of hurdles. + +For starters, if it's past a certain age, you need either a Windows 9X PC or an older Mac. You also often need obscure cables or sometimes even a special expansion card. + +Also, for older cameras you often require specific software just to use them. + +You also have to deal with obscure dead memory card formats. SmartMedia, CompactFlash, Sony MemoryStick and so-on. A lot of cameras from the past took very unusual formats. + +Finally, you need to source a working battery and/or charger. Some really old cameras took standard batteries, but later ones took lithium ion batteries that are dead or dying. + +This all considered, what do you think is the sweet spot between ""old enough to give a uniqe retro look"" and ""too old to practically use""? + +For me, I'd say a lot of cameras made between 1998 and 2002.",0 +7266,"How to get into freelance as a fashion photographer. I'm 22 and I'm a fashion photographer. I was working with a clothing brand as their full time photographer, doing e-com and editorials but I left. + +I've been trying to put myself out there as a freelancer and emailed all the existing designers from my country, but I had one response. This designer is allowing me to photograph their collections this year, plus photographing the backstage from the fashion week in October which is quite nice. The downside is they're not gonna pay me but offer me clothing instead... I know that sucks but I think it's a good opportunity. + +Other than that, no one replied. I posted on instagram that I was available to work and nothing. Starting to not believe in myself. + +Does anyone have any advice on how can I get jobs?",0 +7267,"Monthly Follow Thread: June 08, 2022. **Let's show each other some support!** This is our monthly follow thread. + +* If you post your stream, please take a look at other people's streams! +* You can give us your Instagram, 500px, Flickr, etc. etc. and remember you can edit your flair. +* Be descriptive, don't just dump your username and leave! For example a good post should look like this: + +> Hi! I'm [@brianandcamera](http://instagram.com/brianandcamera). I mainly post portraiture and landscapes, but there's the odd bit of concert/event photography as well. + +> I'll follow everyone from /r/photography back (if I miss you, just leave a comment telling me you're from reddit!). + +Check out and engage with other /r/photography people! Community is what it's all about! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7268,"Your Favorites vs. Their Favorites. I feel like I frequently ""guess wrong"" as to which images are more well received than others. For example, I have two photos of a Mandarin Duck I photographed in January. I absolutely loved one shot, and was kinda meh on the second. Whenever I show people the two images, they will immediately react to the second image (my less-favorite). + +I find this super interesting from a psychological perspective but does anyone have any tips on how to read the crowd better? Should I just accept the differences and display what I think is best? + +​ + +EDIT: Some asked to see the two pictures (I had preferred #1)... + +\#1: [https://www.instagram.com/p/CbaIqh4Ll8x/](https://www.instagram.com/p/CbaIqh4Ll8x/) + +\#2: [https://www.instagram.com/p/CZH3jA0vhAE/](https://www.instagram.com/p/CZH3jA0vhAE/)",0 +7269,"Does anyone use filters when shooting any more?. I don't mean the typical UV or polarizing filters, but beyond even ND filters, like red, blue, yellow, and violet? I've been slowly re-reading Ansel Adams and how he used filters extensively to create and capture emotion. This is something I want to do more of and I'm wondering now, is this just a ""we'll do it in photoshop, screw it"" sort of thing now? No one tries to capture as much in camera as possible? And I really have no idea so figured I'd ask. + +--edit - great responses so far, thank you. For the record I shoot both digital and film, but I never really played around with filters other than ND and polarizers. +Thanks again all of ya.",0 +7270,"Do you sign your large fine art prints? Yes or no? Front or back? In pen or digitally?. I'm on the fence about how to apply my signature/stamp to my large dibond prints. Is there a standard approach to this? On the one hand, I like the idea of people seeing my signature and recognizing a photo is mine. However, on the other hand, I like making these large prints about the art, not about me, in addition to the fact that a signature may actually throw off the composition of a photo. + +What's your approach and/or the general market approach? Do professionals sign the front of their large pieces of photographic art? Or is signing the back more appropriate? + +Thanks everybody!",0 +7271,"How do you take landscape pictures that actually look good?. I live in Hawai'i and want to take pictures of the area here for my friends and family on the mainland but every picture I take is just crap when compared to seeing it in real life. The mountains and ocean views just look so much smaller in the background. + +I have zero experience with anything photography and I'm using my Samsung Galaxy S21+ phone. I know getting a real camera would help but I've seen plenty of great shots with phone cameras too. + +How do you guys do it?",0 +7272,"Janky client got mad at me for sending them a contact print sheet to select photos.. So I have a portrait client who I feel like would end up not paying me, but still using the photos I send for proofing. They were hesitant of my prices to begin with (measily $150 for 30 shots. I use 6x7 negatives. My shoots are more methodical so I end up with about 25 photos to choose from in b4 anyone yells at me for 30 images) + +Since photoshopping out water marks is easy, I often don’t send out watermarked images. +I decided to make a contact sheet, scan the contact sheet in at like 150 ppi (good enough to select photos you want me to edit, but not good enough for social media use). + +They got mad at me for sending them a contact sheet instead of individual images and are demanding individual images or they won’t pay me. + +What would y’all do in this situation. + +I want to tell them “that’s how I conduct my business” but that sounds a little cold. Any nicer way to frame it? I’m sure there’s many seasoned pros here who know how to deal with clients like this.",0 +7273,What one book on photography has helped you the most?. I'm curious if there is a book that you would recommend that has helped/impacted your photography?,0 +7274,"Self-Promotion Sunday: May 01, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + +**This is not the place to just drop a link to your website, social media profile, or portfolio. We have dedicated threads for those purposes.** + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7275,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: April 23, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7276,"Clients putting filters over photos. So recently I was invited to shoot for a band, and their opening band. The opening band was just as excited about the pictures as the band that invited me, which I was obviously very happy with. Now I saw the opening band had posted some pictures that I took and spent a lot of time on, but they used a filter over it. The colours and even the strong light (which I really loved) definitely didn't look the same. Obviously it is their choice to do with my pictures whatever they want, according to them they did it to match the rest of their instagram feed. Obviously I didn't start a whole discussion over this, and simply thanked them for reposting. It may be a small thing, but it's still bothering me since I had spent more than a bit of time getting the pictures to look just right. Putting a filter over it really doesn't do justice to all the work I put in to this. + +I'm fairly new to the scene and have had my first few festivals and small concerts and this is the first time that this happened. I know it's not a big deal, but is it weird that I feel sad about it?",0 +7277,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: October 08, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7278,"German photo competition winner (odd(?)). [list of winners](https://www.blende-fotowettbewerb.de/wettbewerb/preistraeger-blende-2021.html) + +so. i honestly have no room to judge pictures, but somehow this feels odd at places (mostly place 9 and place 61), especially as the Contest prides themselves as one of the biggest and as having a + +>""top-class expert jury"" + +even weirder to me is with this [teenager version in 2020](https://www.blende-fotowettbewerb.de/wettbewerb/sonderpreistraeger-blende-2020.html) from the same content. place 1- 4 are perfectly fine, but especially place 11 and 32 seem odd again + +​ + +i don't really have a question, but im just wondering if its just me and if i have a weird perception or if some choices are indeed weird.",0 +7279,"How to handle clients who are super camera shy?. I had a client (their parents told me they were on the autistic spectrum). today who would close their eyes as soon as the camera flashed... Or their face would have a weird expression with the effort involved in keeping the eyes open. + +We did almost 100 tries! + +I felt really bad that I didn't know how to take a good picture for this wonderful little client. Any suggestions on what technique/trick could help take better photos for such clients?",0 +7280,"Finding a Photography Mentor. Hello! + +I'm looking into transitioning from graphic design to part- or (if I'm lucky!) full-time photography. I'm in the very beginning stages, and know that when I was here with graphic design, mentorship REALLY helped me with things like fundamental concepts, getting a portfolio together, and industry basics. But when I look for (paid) mentors/coaches for photography, it seems like something that just about every photographer offers as a side service and my head spins! It also feels like there are a LOT more photographers than graphic designers and maybe people are hesitant to mentor/coach due to perceived competition (maybe not, just a hunch). + +Does anyone have any tips/tricks on how to go about finding/selecting a mentor? Or, alternatively, just any tips/tricks on starting out (that doesn't include college - not an option for me). + +I know well that this is not going to be a short journey, and I don't plan on winning any awards, just maybe getting paid some day for something I really enjoy. + +Here's what I know: + +* I do know that r/photography publishes a list of volunteer mentors [annually](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/sde0ho/2022_rphotography_mentor_list/). This is a great idea! I've reached out to a few but no luck yet. Probably a lot of interest is best guess. +* Graphic design has a few mentorship ""marketplaces"" that I can't find any photographer on. [Mentorcruise](https://mentorcruise.com/filter/graphicdesign/) and [Rookieup](https://rookieup.com/find-a-mentor/) (ironically, photography is a search area) are a few examples. +* Google is as described above - the Wild West of mentorship! Feels a bit like career coaches. You just have to roll the dice and hope for the best. +* Some good posts/links for reference, that don't answer my questions here but were nonetheless helpful: + * [https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/xxkzqg/how\_did\_you\_learn/](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/xxkzqg/how_did_you_learn/) + * [http://www.r-photoclass.com/](http://www.r-photoclass.com/) + * [https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/16d5az/what\_is\_something\_you\_wish\_you\_were\_told\_as\_a/](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/16d5az/what_is_something_you_wish_you_were_told_as_a/) + * [https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/56w0l5/official\_what\_is\_something\_you\_wish\_you\_were\_told/](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/56w0l5/official_what_is_something_you_wish_you_were_told/) + * [https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/csk4cw/what\_do\_you\_wish\_you\_knew\_when\_you\_were\_first/](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/csk4cw/what_do_you_wish_you_knew_when_you_were_first/) + * [https://strobist.blogspot.com/2006/03/lighting-101.html](https://strobist.blogspot.com/2006/03/lighting-101.html) + +Here's what I'm looking/hoping for: + +* Some sort of mentorship aggregator (see examples above), or at least a way to ask the right questions to a potential mentor. +* Anything I haven't really thought of. Maybe I'm barking up the wrong tree, maybe there's a place I haven't found, maybe I'm applying the wrong logic. + +Thanks!",0 +7281,"Can we talk boots for a sec?. All of my photography happens outdoor, all season (Canada), rain or shine. I’ve been researching footwear on related subs and want to invest in some serious boots that will last (I’m tired of buying new mid-level boots every two years). I’m looking at Zamberlan Tofane, Vioz, Danner Mountain Lite, and other buy it for life level footwear. The thing with wildlife photography is that there’s a lot of squatting, sitting, crouching, kneeling and other positions that can make these kinds of boots uncomfortable, or damage them. + +So, what is everyone here using for long punishing hikes, through mud, gravel, difficult terrain, but still allows for mobility and the variety of body positions that some types of photography require? + +Edit: thanks for the thoughts on this everyone!",0 +7282,"Strategies for creating your first photobooks. I've been photographying for a few years now and I've finally decided some of my photos are decent enough for a small photobook. I'm thinking, if I had something to hold in my hands, I'd feel better about my progress in photography. + +I'd like to print a few albumbs; I'm thinking a family album from when we went to some national parks and hikings, my best landscape shots, maybe my best ...not-exactly macros, but close-ups from various things. + +What are your strategies for creating photobooks? Do you have regular ""editions""? + +Do you have specific topics? Do you sometimes create a project specifically for a photobook? Like, _I'm gonna make a project ""butterfiles""_ and then go out and look for exactly that? + +Do you sometimes print more then one issue? Do you sometimes pick your best pics of some person, and then give it to them as a present? + +I'm curious to find out more about how people do these things. Different perspectives, especially from hobbyists. Obviously professionals will have this aspect of photography more or less figured out, but I still think you'd have valuable insight.",0 +7283,"Salty Saturday: November 12, 2022. Need to rant about something in the photography world? Here’s your safe space to be as salty as you want without judgement. + +Get it all* off your chest! + +*Let’s just keep the personal attacks and witch hunts out of it, k? + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7284,"My struggle with Instagram. Hi everyone, this is my first post here and I just felt like I needed to share this dilemma I have regarding using Instagram for photography. I would really appreciate any insights or advice that you feel like sharing. I'll try to be as concise as I can. + +I got into photography about 15 years ago because I was amazed by some of the photos I saw others sharing online (on DeviantArt at that time), and I also wanted to make beautiful photos. But I didn't really practice or do it consistently until around 5 years ago. I started taking photos more often when I got my first Ricoh GR camera because I carried it around everywhere (due to its size). At that time, however, I didn't use any social media because I was just not that interested in sharing my life with others online. I also didn't take photos as often as now. + +In 2020, due to boredom, I decided to buy a new mirrorless camera and sell my old DSLR that I hadn't used for years. I also took advantage of the time stuck at home to read dozens of books on photography, and started practicing taking more portraits and street photos. At that time I also decided maybe it would be fun to make an Instagram account so I could share some of my photos and learn from others. In the beginning I just shared in a carefree way, but I soon got addicted to receiving validation, and realized that in order for anyone to see my stuff, I needed to engage with a lot of people, use hashtags, etc. So basically that was when I started to no longer be able to use IG in a healthy way. + +When I used social media for sharing personal stuff, I don't think I ever really cared that much about likes or followers, but when I started sharing my photography I started to feel that these numbers represented the quality of my photos, even though I know it's not the case, and it affected my mood. Due to this I started ""playing the game"" and spent more time engaging on IG because I wanted more validation. + +The more I thought about it, the more I realized that Instagram is largely a circle-jerk; many people just follow-for-follow or like back people who liked their stuff, and people frequently unfollow me if I don't follow them back (or sometimes unfollow me even if I follow them back). + +I took several breaks from Instagram due to this, and have tried different strategies for not letting myself get carried away. I paused my account for 1 year from the end of 2020 to the end of 2021, and then this year I took a few breaks ranging from weeks to months. The problem is that every time I pause my account, I find it harder to motivate myself to go out and take photos if I know I'm not going to share them anywhere. Lately I have been posting less frequently and minimizing the hashtags I use as kinda a symbolic way of distancing myself, but it still nags in the back of my mind that maybe I should post something or check IG or whatever. + +Another difficulty is that I have met several other photographers in my local community from Instagram, and I don't know any other ways to meet and engage with other photographers like this (I live in Taiwan btw). + +I read Eric Kim's blog post(s) about how social media is toxic and unnecessary for the enjoyment of photography (I'm not a professional and have no intention of becoming one). However, due to him already having had several thousand followers on various social media platforms and a very popular blog prior to deleting his Instagram, I find his advice to be irrelevant. Of course it's easy to delete your IG when you're already getting a shitload of validation from your blog and other sources. How about for those of us who are nothing and no one knows about? + +I know validation and enjoyment should come from ourselves, and I originally did get validation and enjoyment from doing it for myself, but I feel like after I started using social media, it's hard for me to get back to that sense of enjoyment without it. + +**I would greatly appreciate anyone who wants to share their experiences or opinions regarding this. Are there any less toxic places to share photos? Or even somewhere that I can just upload my photos to let people see (without the social media aspect)? I have Flickr, but the whole followers, groups, and favorites thing causes me to still have problems with it. I also have my own website, but I don't want to casually share my everyday photos on there.** + +TL;DR - I used to enjoy photography much more before I shared it on social media, and now that I have become addicted to online validation (and communicating with other photographers) on social media, it is hard for me to quit using it. When I take breaks from using it, I find myself still wanting the external validation, which I never used to need.",0 +7285,"Offering quotes and not underselling yourself. Hey everyone. I’m a photographer in my mid 20s, studied it for a good few years, and have been working in the field from portrait studios to now freelance portrait, party and product work. I feel that I constantly have the issue that I am offering too much work and final product for too little money. How do you avoid this? What are some of your general pricing guidelines that you feel work best? Working between the US & Europe if that’s of any consequence. +Thanks in advance for all your guidance!",0 +7286,"I'm starting to think I'm not that great.. I enjoy photography. I do. My dream is to be a filmmaker, but amateur photography has been a hobby of mine for years now. + +I've never gotten a huge amount of attention for my photos outside of my family. I'm starting to think I'm just not that great at it. I still like doing it, but lately, I've gotten more solace, recognition, and happiness from writing. + +I thought photography could be something I could do professionally, or even just sell a few pieces every now and then, but I'm starting to doubt that. + +Any advice?",0 +7287,"Retention of Copyright... Why!? Specifically contract work (weddings, boudoir, etc). To preface: I'm not a professional photographer, just a hobbyist that's been doing it for a couple years and doing some product photography for my own products I sell. This is a question for the pros. + +I've noticed some VERY strong opinions (maybe inflated egos) that photographers should retain copyright to photos taken while working with clients at something like a wedding or boudoir. Some comments even go so far as ""if a client insists on owning the copyright I'll sell them at $500/photo"". That seems weird to me. + +Now I get if the need to retain copyright to commercialize something like landscape photography, abstract, nature, etc... where capturing the photo itself is an entrepreneurial endeavor. But with weddings its not the photo itself that is commercialized per say. Its securing a commission to shoot for a client and deliver product. + +I think I understand some of the history where this comes from where a photographer would retain negatives from a shoot and become a sort of 'photo master' and clients would have to go to him/her to get prints done with as high a charge as the photographer could reasonably manage. The model just seems to not make sense in the digital age. I know in many cases photgraphers will issue an unlimited print release to clients to accommodate this issue but it just seems to make more sense to give the clients the copyright and have them sign over limited commercial use back to the photographer so they can promote themselves. + +Happy to have someone change my mind but my take on commissioning a photographer for a personal event (wedding, boudoir) is that the client is hiring their services. The product of those services should belong to the client. This is inline with every other ""at will employment/work"" scenario I can think of. + +__Edit:__ + +Thanks for the feedback folks, a lot of good points made. Some people are just ass holes and took the opportunity to be insulting but hey, this is reddit, I don't think that surprises anyone. + +In the end I don't think I have a compelling argument to tell potential clients why handing over the copyright justifies a higher price. The way I look at it whether my client is Walt Disney Studios on the next block buster film or Jack & Jill for their wedding; the content I produce on contract belongs to the client. They are hiring me for my skills, expertise, and equipment... renting me if you will. Everyone can do as they please though. + +The most obvious reason I can see to retain copyright is to license my work. If I set out to an event, capture some kickass footage, and some magazine want to use it then of course its going to be some sort of licensed deal where I retain the copyright. + +Some of the points people were making I think are delusional. Mainly that if a company hires me as a photographer, that company makes $x amount of money that I'm somehow entitled to that profit (morally/ethically), or that its wrong for a company to pay me $3k and then make $100k from the work. Look if I don't want to take the work I don't have to take it. Also I don't have a horse in the race, I'm not burdening any of the risk. Surely if I could make $100k off photos I would just cut out the company, but I can't, so obviously the company is bringing some sort of value to the operation. And the last point is my scope of work doesn't change, why would my compensation change if all the sudden they are making way more off the work than anticipated. + +Peace out, everyone runs their business how they please, best of luck to everyone and thanks to those that took the time explaining some points without being an ass.",0 +7288,"What is your favorite photography related tool that you’d recommend?. Looking to hear what your favorite photography tool is based on your personal experiences. Could be cameras, lenses, bags, backpacks, mounts, tripods, SD cards, software, anything related to photography! Include a pic or link to see for bonus points! + +I’ll start. My favorite is my DJI Mavic Air 2s, it has changed what I am able to capture by providing new perspectives.",0 +7289,"UPDATE: Did I Get Duped?. I'm not sure if anyone remembers my photographer saga from a couple of months ago, but I wanted to post an update for anyone who does. See original post here: [https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ralp0t/did\_i\_get\_duped/?sort=new](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/ralp0t/did_i_get_duped/?sort=new) + + +I ended up filing the chargeback back in December for the full amount. My funds were immediately returned back to me by my bank, and then I got a letter in the mail stating that the merchant would be notified and that they may choose to fight it. If I didn't hear anything by March 3, then I was in the clear and the chargeback would stand. + +Before I filed the chargeback, I had pleaded with the photographer to see if we could come to some sort of compromise (even though it pained me to do so for this prick, I laid it on thick so he might take pity on me and see the error of his ways, and I figured the only way to get somewhere with him may be to stroke his ego a bit). He did not offer any sort of compromise. After that, I wrote him a professional-yet-scathing email and then blocked him from emailing me back using BlockSender. I did not tell him in my email that I was going to file a chargeback. + +This week on Monday (1/31) I received another letter from my bank stating that the merchant is fighting the chargeback and is asking me to reach out to him for a resolution. Well, I already did that obviously, and the bank has proof of that, but they suggested I try one more time. I sent an email yesterday asking him in what way he would like to compromise on this. I have not yet heard back. + +Here is the catch... If I continue to pursue this (assuming he ignores my request for a compromise), then the case goes to arbitration with VISA. I'm totally fine with this because I feel I am in the right, HOWEVER, if I lose then I not only have the chargeback reversed but I am ALSO charged an additional $500.00 by VISA!!! + +I am trying to decide what to do. Out of principle, I want to continue this to arbitration. However, if I lose, I'm out roughly $1,100.00 and I only have half the photos. Or, I could have simply paid this prick $1,100.00 from the beginning and had all my photos instead. + +What would you guys do? + + + + +UPDATE (3/18/22): +I ended up sticking to my guns and continuing with the chargeback, come what may. I wrote my stance out with complete documentation and submitted it back. +On 3/4, I found out that I won! The bank awarded me with both chargebacks, case closed. I asked whether the photographer was charged with the $500 VISA arbitration fee instead of me, since I won, but my bank person said they just ended up deciding on the matter in-house (within my credit union). + +HOWEVER! Today I get a letter from an attorney. It states that I owe the photographer $633 (full contract amount) within 14 days, since I have half of the photos. If I do not pay, they will advise the photographer to file a lawsuit that will ask for $1,012.80 instead. + +They will also claim I committed credit card fraud, and under that claim, the photographer, ""...will be able to recover triple damages plus all of the costs and attorneys fees incurred in the lawsuit. Your exposure could easily be $6,000 or more."" + +So... wtf? What would you guys do? He's obviously trying to intimidate me. I have no idea if he'd actually file a lawsuit, but maybe he would. I already tried reasoning with this douche. I'm willing to pay him $316.50 since I got half the photos. But obviously that's not gonna be enough for him. + +I filed chargebacks on both charges because that's what my credit union suggested I do. + +Should I get a lawyer to write a response back? Respond back directly myself? Do nothing?",0 +7290,"Do you ask your clients before posting their images on social media, or do you go ahead regardless? No judgement, just genuinely curious one way or another.. I want to book a session with a local photographer in my area to capture my family but I’m hesitant. My friend had her photos done by a different one in our area and they’re gorgeous, but she messaged this photographer and asked her to take the photos she posted to her IG down (she’s just super private and didn’t want her kids’ images out there) and the photographer said no. I fully understand that photographers need to advertise themselves, but is it common practice to ask first or is the mentality more along the lines of as a photog you own the photo and can do what you want with it? + +My friend didn’t push back or anything and let it be, but she won’t go to the photographer again. Everyone feels really different about this, but I don’t love for photos of my kids to be out there (I have private social media accounts and don’t post a lot of my kids at all). I really want some professional photos done but only for my home and my family to view. I’m wondering if it’s common practice for photographers to post images without permission?",0 +7291,"How hard is lens disassembly and maintenance? Particularly for vintage lenses. I've found a few opportunities on eBay where joblots of vintage lenses are sold much cheaper than regular price, because a few of them are untested and/or have noticeable fungus growing inside. I'm interested in buying some of these, intending to keep some of the lenses and sell the others, and maybe making a profit. I'm aware optics are extremely delicate, so I'm expecting this to be quite difficult; plenty of videos I've watched stress this fact. + +I hope I'm not at the Dunning-Krueger ""peak of mount stupid"" by asking this question. I have quite a bit of experience building computers, and a while back I re-engineered a broken 70s record player into something I still use. Obviously this doesn't mean I'm qualified, but taking things apart and fixing them is something I genuinely enjoy. + +So for everyone who has experience with lens maintenance, what have you learned that you wish you knew earlier? + +EDIT: Thank you everyone for your very insigtful replies. I have made the decision that I will attempt some salvaging with the cheapest lenses I can find, and I think more rationally that making a profit is an unrealistic expectation.",0 +7292,"Props for creative(?) photography. Hi, a few weeks ago I met with someone with a strange prop to take photos, which is a broken DVD disk where they'll use the back part of the disk to create a reflection or lighting effect, the result was surprisingly great. Unfortunately, I didn't get to ask where he'd publish his photographs. + +I was wondering, are there any other strange props you guys know or use to create a certain effect straight from the camera? If yes, can you show the example? Thanks",0 +7293,"Russian troops 'executed' photographer in Ukraine, press group says. ",0 +7294,"What is your process of going over/organizing pictures while traveling?. Hi all, + +Since summer time coming many people will go on holiday so I think good time to share and discuss your system of processing and organizing pictures. + +When you travel to some new place/city/country for week. +What do you do with pictures you took with your dslr or other camera than smartphone? (As for smartphone probably most people just back up to cloud /Google photos etc) + +Do you backup pictures everyday to your phone, external drive, some other sd card? + +Do you go over pictures every day or end of holiday? + +Do you go over them on phone or straight on camera? + +How do you organize them? + +And all your system of doing, let's share so we can all improve. + +Thanks!",0 +7295,"Capturing the Scale of Landscapes in Photographs. I often find myself shooting in landscapes with a great scale to them, such as tall mountains or wide valleys. I've often felt that the scale you can see while in these locations in person is often lost in photos from the same locations. + +Curious what techniques are out there for capturing that scale? Such as showing how mountains tower above or how high some Cliffs might be above the ocean. + +Any tips or tricks out there to manage this?",0 +7296,"It's not the gear - entirely. Just how much does the gear help you get good shots?. How much do you think does the gear help _you personally_ to create good shots? + +I know that the FAQ says it's not all about the gear. I know also that even with gear, I can't make good photos. People asking ""which lens should I get?"" frequently get ""what's wrong with the lens you have right now""? as an answer in the questions thread. + +But I also know that you can definitely get _some_ good results merely because you had better gear. I suspect that while you're still learning the basics, technique, framing etc, the gear accounts for much more then when you already know how to properly handle a particular lens or camera. The simplest, stupidest thing is the blurred background. A few years ago when I got my first camera, you could not get those ""portrait"" modes from your typical smartphones, at least not that easily. But a fast prime, and you don't even need to know what you're doing, just tell the camera to automatically pick the settings for you. Similar for other things - framing is something that you learn, but before you learn, having a big sensor that allows for a lot of croppign helps a lot. + +Anyway, I think that until you master the camera and the lenses you have, the gear helps a lot, and that later on, it doesn't matter as much. + +I would like to confirm that suspicion - or get rid of my illusions. + +Can you estimate how much work did the gear do for you when you first started with photography? How much does it matter right now? + +Can you still get great shots even with a crappy kit lens? Is it easier with a fast professional glass? How much do you relly on camera to fix things for you? + +I'll start myself. I got my first camera, a used Panasonic Lumix GF1 and the famous 20mm pancake about four years ago. I put it to ""intelligent auto"" and immediately my photos were much more clear then whatever I could do with my high-end phone, which was expected. But I also noticed that if I used the kit lens, the photos were ""not as nice"". And my wife as my critic agreed with me on that. +Later on I got myself a Lumix G85 - much better sensor and processor - and I felt like with the 20mm prime, my results did not improve as much. But with my new 14-150mm Oly lens that I also got, I could frequently get ""better"" photos then with my older camera. I guess I ""learned"" how to deal with that prime, how to frame the shots, how to pick my scenes, and therefore the sensor did not matter as much. On the other hand, my kit lens was new to me, so having it paired with a better sensor as well allowed for more mistakes. +Recently I got a new system - switched to Fuji from m43. For wide, far, landscape shots, I can get better pics with my system - better lenses and sensor I assume. But with close-ups, not so much. I ""know"" how to deal with those. My m43 primes have taught me enough, so the better camera isn't all _that_ important. + +Am I right that the gear can help out significantly when you start learning things, but later on, it does not matter as much any more? What is your experience? + +And a bonus question. When does it stop being important at all? When do you reach a point where you can just take a camera the people hand you (somebody mentioned cheap toy cameras from McDonalds in another thread) and just up and make good shots?",0 +7297,"In the Columbo Episode ""Negative Reaction"" the killer incriminates himself by opening the back of a camera to show Columbo the negative...... ....As someone with zero knowledge of the subject, I'm really interested to learn why the negative is in the camera. Isn't the film removed for processing? Is it a particular camera? Is it an unusual camera? + +Thank you.",0 +7298,"Wins Wednesday: October 05, 2022. **Time for some positivity!** + +Have you had any recent photography wins? Share them here! +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7299,"Self-Promotion Sunday: September 11, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7300,"Favorite elements and circumstances for non-staged photography. I would like to discuss what you consciously (or subconsciously) look for in a shot when shooting non-staged photography. Specifically I'm interested in situations, scenes or elements that ring a bell in your mind: ""This would surely be an interesting shot!"" + +To give an example, I once learned about leading lines. Afterwards I couldn't help to notice them and it often leads me to good results. So for me a curved path och rail really scream ""Here's an interesting shot waiting to happen"". + +Do you have similar feelings about something specific? Colors? Compositions? Movement? Angles? Frames? Depth? + +P.S. + +Very thankful for fascinating diversity among the comments. An interesting and inspiring read.",0 +7301,"Airport travel tips.. I’m flying to Seattle in a few weeks and it will be the first time I’ll be flying with all my camera gear. What should I know going in and any tips! Thanks in advance. + +I’ll be carrying on a bag with two camera bodies, four lenses, and a bunch of small things like dusters and cards.",0 +7302,"Salty Saturday: January 01, 2022. Need to rant about something in the photography world? Here’s your safe space to be as salty as you want without judgement. + +Get it all* off your chest! + +*Let’s just keep the personal attacks and witch hunts out of it, k? + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7303,"What's currently in your camera bag?. I'll start (street photography oriented): + + +Canon ff mirrorless. + + +16mm f2.8 + +24mm f1.8 + +50mm f1.8 + +Optional 70-200mm f2.8 for serious day session. + + +Spare battery and a noname usb charger. + +10000mAh powerbank to charge battery and phone. + +USB C card reader to copy photos to phone. + +Cleaning kit (blower, cloth, pen). +PD wrist strap. + +Manfrotto mini tripod. + + +PD capture clip on my hip to quickly free my hands. + +Recently added buff, hat and gloves when it gets chilly after dark. I'm not incuding my usual pocked EDC (torch, leatherman multitool, lighter, wallet, keys, smartphone). This get's me through full day and night of street shooting.",0 +7304,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: July 02, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7305,"Album Share Tuesday: March 01, 2022. **Let’s see your work! Use this thread to share an album, get feedback from, and give feedback to your peers.** + +Before posting, be sure to give feedback on other people’s albums. Feedback can be as little as “I like this photo best!” + +If you are more confident in your critiquing abilities, give reasons why x photo was good, and/or what can be done to improve y photo. + +Please post curated albums! + +Do not post your entire Flickr/instagram feeds or website, nor albums of hundreds of photos. You will get more meaningful feedback on albums of fewer images. +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7306,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: January 15, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7307,"Missed a photo opportunity. (Not sure if it should be tagged humor so let's go with personal experience) + +I drive by my local fire station every morning. I have taken some photos around the station and once had a firefighter ask if i wanted to go inside to take photos. Of course I did. + +This morning I drove by and I *missed a GREAT photo shot!!*. +They were having some kind of assembly (people dressed up and I saw a podium in their driveway) but that wasn't the shot. + +The shot was two firefighters in full turn out gear (thank you u/tinfoilcamera for telling me the term) raising (?) the flag! + +I didn't stop for two main reasons : I didn't have my actual camera (only my cellphone) and I was heading to my actual work (enough time to get to work but not to stop for a photo shoot). + +But now I'm kicking myself for **not** stopping. + +What about yall? Would you have stopped? Would it depend?",0 +7308,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: November 12, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7309,"Viewbug users - ever get the feeling we're being played?. I know that a few posts about Viewbug have been put on here in the past, but I don't think they've approached it from this angle. I joined Viewbug a few years ago, and recently purchased a paid membership. My goal being access to contests (I'm working on a 100 rejections project and this seemed to be a good way to get more entries). + +I was initially pleased with the performance of my work (several top 10%, two challenge winners, a few other awards). But they I started to read that other users post the same sort of performance for their contest entries as well. I don't have a problem with other photogs doing well - I want everyone to get the proper awards / prizes / recognition that their work earns, but what's occurring to me is - not everyone can be winning awards.....we all can't be top 10% or whatever accolade is given. So, what I'm wondering is if we are all being played. Especially since some of the interactions/messages/etc. that comes in from the website seems to be bot generated. + +And who exactly is doing the judging? I know that Viewbug sometimes touts big name photogs as being a ""judge"" - but I've never read or seen ANY sort of discussion or feedback from the ""judge"" on a contest after it's over. + +**So, maybe I'm wrong to be concerned, but it just feels like Viewbug is a fabricated experience designed to stroke users' ego and generate sales via membership, NFTs, and other sketchy means.** Or maybe I'm wrong. I'd appreciate it if anyone else with experience or knowledge about the site could chime in here.",0 +7310,"How do I set photography goals for myself?. I am a graduate student studying biochemistry + microbiology, but I started doing photography about 2 years back. At first, it was easy to set goals and work towards them - I would read/watch videos and learn the techniques, practice them, and overall, I felt like I was working towards something. I ended up doing photoshoots for a few friends as well and it felt like I was headed somewhere. + +But all of that has changed somehow. It feels like a plateau not for learning per see, but in terms of my goals for photography. I want to think up cool photography projects on my own, but I am not sure where to start. I made an Instagram account, but I feel like my work will just get lost there. I am beginning to make a website, but again, I wasn't sure if that's the way to go. I am sending out ads now offering to do graduation pictures, etc. but I feel unsure about it all! + +So yeah, my question is, how do I set goals for myself in photography? What kind of goals do people set when they are starting out? I do want to make a mark out there. I just don't see the path to that point.",0 +7311,"What would you say was your best year/years photography wise?. Question is kind of self explanatory, but I’ll premise by saying Ive been shooting for 7 years now. Loved every minute. I recently went through a data scare and now I’m going through all my photos from the past 7 years in lightroom, trying to rework my portfolios on my website and SM. As I’m culling through tens of thousands of images and picking rough favs, I’m getting hype because I’m remembering old shoots I did where I had some real heat! + +(And I’m the type to never post so the world barely saw these, so the thought of finally sharing them gets me a little excited as well, but I’m more so enjoying the personal reminder that I’m pretty good, to myself at least) + +I’m thinking I hit a groove in 2018-2019, when I was doing a lot of grad shoots and shoots of friends/associates while I was in college. + +So my question to this sub is, in your memory, what was/were your best year/s photography wise? Creatively, business success, etc.. I’m curious to start some conversations/hear some stories! + +Thanks!",0 +7312,"Geo tagging photos. For those doing street photography or outdoors, are you using Geotags? + +I've an Olympus OMD-5 II and never bothered to do so, if you're using geo tags what's your main use-case? Do you want to be able to go back to that specific location again? Is for your own organization process?",0 +7313,"FYI - Broncolor is holding a judged contest for a Siros 800S + other prizes. I am not affiliated with bron in any way + + +HOWEVER over on their socials, [instagram.com/broncolor](https://instagram.com/broncolor) they are holding a contest. None of the ""Most likes wins!"" or random selections. But a proper judged competition where you take a photo of fruit in some way shape or form, Judged by Karl Taylor, Urs Recher, and Claudia Link during a live stream. + + +Best case scenario - you win a very expensive light (If you don't shoot bron you can always flip it) - worst case scenario: You got some practice in!",0 +7314,"What do you do with you photographs (after editing or doing touch ups). Once your happy with the image you've taken, what do you do with them? + +Over the last 10 years or so, I've been given asking family and friends if they want one of my images as a house warming gift and if they like one, I give it away to them. This was mainly because I didn't want the pictures I take just to sit on a memory card, or get lost on social media. Plus, it's a good way to give something personal to someone which they like from the start. +So far I've given away about 60 or so. + +I do the usual stuff like, I post them on social media and photography websites. +I put them as my desktop and phone background as well.",0 +7315,"How to deal with tough potential clients?. I’m still very new and while I’ve had a little success, I am still trying to get used to / learn to deal with booking clients, not booking clients, etc. This woman for example had a very strict budget for her wedding and I’m still new so my prices are not currently very high. We chatted and made a package and she expressed that she was extremely interested in booking with me, that I should send over a contract, etc. so I did. She friended me on Facebook, etc. and I sent her info. I never heard back and then saw that today she posted on Facebook looking for photographers in her budget. And I get it, I’m just confused on why waste my time? This is probably me just being a little naive in the business but it just seemed strange. Is it appropriate to delete her?",0 +7316,"Photography and Editing for Color Blind Folks. Hello, I'm still new to photography and I have mainly done landscape up until this point. I was wondering how people who are color blind like myself edit photos. I wanted to get into portraits to earn some extra cash but I am second guessing myself. Any input / help would be great help. Thank you.",0 +7317,"Non-proffesionals, how far do you usually go for a landscape shoot?. How far (distance/hours) do you usually go for photographing landscapes? Trips that requires more than a day doesn't count. So not traveling to other countries or any extreme distances. Obviously it doesn't have to be super exotic locations. + +Do you have to get in your car and drive for several hours, or can you just take a bus for 20 minutes or even just opening your front door? What's your situation? + +Myself usually try to find something within ~30-60 min drive. Would like to hear how others go about this. Also, how do you get there? Car/Public Transit/Bike/Other?",0 +7318,"I'm experiencing stagnation in my work and I need some guidance.. I'm a landscape photographer who's been lacking excitement about the outdoors and photography for a few months now. I think I'm somewhere around mediocre in skill and experience, but between my level and professional there's still a wide gap and a room for growth. Equipment upgrade could boost me up a bit; however, I'd prefer to improve my style and skillset instead. + +The last thing that made me really excited about photography was learning about the Calibration tool in Lightroom. Playing with it was tons of fun and I devoted a considerable amount of time to understand it. + +What is your latest photography skill that made you really excited about your work? Why did it make you feel this way? +I'm simply looking for inspiration to go tinker in Lightroom on something new, or explore a new place through a different lens. (Pun somewhat intended.) +Thank you in advance!",0 +7319,"How can I ask strangers to take their picture?. So I have been shooting plenty of street lately and i sometimes go to locations where I'm like ""this whould be a really nice background."" But then, i have nobody to shoot with. I whould love to shoot portraits but I am a bit shy to ask strangers for their portrait. Also, i live in the German part of Switzerland, so people here all tend to be rather shy towards strangers. I often visit Bern to shoot, but im afraid of asking people to take their picture. + +I am not really scared of people, but it's something I have zero control over. I don't know what the other person is gonna say to my question and that's what I just can't get over. i am also not very good at small talk, like i just find it weird. I never see other photographers here in Bern ask random strangers. Saying that, i may be one of the first, possibly creating a niche. + +I normally shoot landscapes and nature, but portraits have always seemed appealing to me because there can be way more variation to portraiture than there is to landscapes. There is another person taking part in the image, which makes it really interesting.",0 +7320,"Randy Johnson (ex NLB Pitcher) has a second career going as a Professional Photographer. ​ + +https://preview.redd.it/50rn9bk33gt91.png?width=640&format=png&auto=webp&s=9372fb2b0177cfdce37ce83f74dc19a5093721ad + +​ + +[https://www.reddit.com/r/baseball/comments/y27bs1/til\_randy\_johnson\_is\_now\_a\_legit\_pro\_photographer/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/baseball/comments/y27bs1/til_randy_johnson_is_now_a_legit_pro_photographer/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)",0 +7321,"Travel tripods. My quest for a travel tripod for an Sony a6600. + +I thought I would write this up in the hopes it would help someone else find a travel tripod. I feel like I read every Reddit and DP Review post on travel tripods. I literally spent more time and energy researching tripods than buying my last car. Lol. + +**TLDR:** Tripods seem simple enough, but finding the perfect one is really hard. There is no substitute to getting the tripod in your hands and putting your camera on it and seeing how it functions. Legs seem to be about the same in the $250-$350 price range, the heads make the difference. + +I haven't bought a tripod in over 20 years and decide I wanted to do more long exposure shots with a light weight but sturdy tripod. I am just a hobbiest and most images are for personal use, and I plan on keeping this tripod for decades. Portability and size were my highest priorities. After much research I narrowed down my criteria to: + +- Carbon fiber +- Folds to less than 18"" (45 cm) without head (~20-21"" (51-53cm) with head) +- Weighs less than 3.5 lbs (1.6kg) with head +- Height extended to at least ~50"" (127 cm) +- 4 sections +- Under $250 USD initially, but raised to $350, if I wanted to go to $400 that opened a few more options, but wasn't really worth it to me. + +I could have found lighter/smaller, but I would either have to compromise load capacity, stability, 4 sections or price. + +One thing that made it difficult to compare is some specs (weight and folded height) included the head and some didn't. It took a long time to sort through that. Generally speaking, if the tripod included the head, the specs included the head, but it was possible to dig through and find separate specs. This is also something to look out for when sorting on BandH. Some of the tripods with heads do have the correct length folded and some don't, so if you sort folded length to 17"" you might be excluding tripods that are including the head because they are listed as 20"" folded length. For sorting and searching, B and H provided the best experience. I only wish they included a filter for number of sections and that I could rely on the folded length to be accurate. Adorama was also helpful, but + +In this price range, all the legs seemed to be about the same. I did look at the Center Column, but not all the brands/models I was looking at were included, specifically Benro and the Sirui model tested was 5 sectioned I knew I couldn't afford the real top brands like Gitzo and RRS. The Leofoto 254 did test very well on the Center Column. I looked for models that had the largest diameter feet. For 4 sections, that was 15-18mm. Most reviews seem to advise against 5 sections for shooting outside due to stability. If I had they money, I might have gone straight for the Peak Design CF tripod, but at over $600, I just couldn't justify it. There were some complaints of the Peak Design's stability as it is 5 sections and people didn't love the head, so that would be an additional cost to find a replacement. + +I was indifferent when I started about having a center column. I do like the flexibility it gives especially raising incrementally, but in the end I picked a column-less tripod because of how much more compact it was. Even though reverse folding tripods could shave 1-2 inches off the length, the larger diameter with the center column made them seem much bulkier. I am still undecided about a center column that attached separately. Compactness was an important factor for me. + +The only thing everyone can agree on with tripods is the load capacity is crap. There is no standard to it and doesn't really mean anything, it's more of a guide. The common advice is find the heaviest load capacity and largest ball head you can get away on the size that fits your needs. I decided 20-30lb load capacity seemed like the sweet spot of not making the tripod too heavy or too expensive, but stabler than anything lighter. This is probably overkill for my 6600, but I want to be able to have the option to use a heavier camera or lenses and the weight difference of the tripod between a 17lb and 30lb load capacity wasn't much. I never had a ball head before, and I liked the larger heads. I think 35mm is the smallest ball I would go with. + +I looked at getting legs and head separate, but for most models. It was cost prohibitive. For example, the legs for the Leofoto 254 were $233 and with the head it was $269 and that particular head by itself was $116, so bought separately it would have been $349 vs $269 as a kit. This wasn't always true, but a good head started at $100. + +The final contenders that I ordered and can give feedback on. + +**Leofoto 254** - This was surprisingly my least favorite. The legs were fine, but I didn't like the head. Although this tripod gets rave reviews, I didn't like that there was no safety locking mechanism for the plate. It was only a tension screw. The plate also didn't fit with my a6600. I could turn it 360 degrees without much effort loosening the screw. I know it can be replaced, but again, I prefer a safety mechanism for the plate. It was the smallest of the ball heads I got and seemed like the cheapest. I didn't feel like the ball head moved as smoothly as the others I tried. It was either super lose or kinda jerky. + +**Benro Tortoise #1** - I liked the legs of this one the best, but I didn't love the head. I did like the compactness of the head, but not some of the other features. The plate on this one did actually work with the a6600, but I didn't like the plate locking mechanism. Getting on was fine, but it was a bit fiddly to get off the head. I did like the duel panning spots though, but I couldn't get the bottom pan to lock firmly. It also only had a dot bubble level. I thought the ball was a little small, but with 4 sections, it was a little taller than the other tripods which was nice. It also came with the nicest bag and strap. The ball is 30mm which probably would be fine if I wasn't directly comparing it to the K-20 head which is how I figured out I like the larger ball. + +**Benro Tortoise #2** - Basically a beefier version of the #1 with a bigger ball head (36mm). I really like the dual rotating options and seeing all the rotating degrees, again, I couldn't get the bottom rotation to lock completely. I prefer the bigger ball, but the legs were bigger than the Sirui 254 that it wasn't worth the bulk, I didn't need the beefier legs. Additionally, I still didn't like the plate locking mechanism of the plate even though I thought the movement of the head in general was smoother than the K20. The ball head is a bit more compact than the K20, but I didn't like the ergonomics as much. The bubble level is only a dot and was also hard to see. I really wanted to like this one more. This was 4 ounces heavier (with head) than the Sirui 254, but also a bit beefier legs. The Benro's do come with a nicer bag and I do feel their heads are nicer and more modern looking, not to mention really compact. + +**Sirui 254 (with K20 head)** - This was the reluctant winner. Not perfect, but I could live with its faults more. The legs were nearly identical to the Leofoto 254 and Benro #1. The difference was really in the heads. Although I found the GX30 head nicer looking, more compact and slightly smoother, I liked having a level and tension control on the ball. I really went back and forth between the K20 and GX30. I think both are solid heads and more up to personal preference. And although there is a plate locking mechanism on the GX30 (you have to pull to knob out to keep loosening for camera release), I preferred the more traditional button release of the K20. I also don't like that the rotating degrees are not in view on the K20, just a small slot. Unfortunately, I did have to buy a replacement plate because the plate doesn't fit tightly with the A6600, but it wasn't as nearly as loose as the Leofoto 254. + +**Sirui 124 with K20 head** - This one had the most bells and whistles including a center column. Unfortunately, it was almost 2 inches (5cm) longer than all the others and a bit bulkier with the center column. It is supposedly water proof. It also has built in spiked feet. I was undecided if that was a good feature or just a nook for dirt and stuff to get stuck in. This was the newest model I bought so there weren't many reviews for it. I do think this is a solid choice if you don't mind a little extra bulk and folded length. The K20 head is a little heavier and taller than some of the other heads, but it was my favorite head with a quick lock button mechanism to release the plate (same head as the Sirui 254). I wish they made the folded length the same as the 254. Head is not included with this one, so you can pick whatever head you want as an add-on. + +I went and saw the **Manfrotto BeFree** at my local camera shop, which was a very popular option, but the center column made it bulkier than I wanted, even though it wasn't very long. It also doesn't include a center hook like almost every other lightweight tripod. The wider diameter was the same reason I didn't try the Benro Tripster and Sirui 2204. I didn't try any of the Vanguard tripods. The cheaper ones seemed cheap and the more expensive ones didn't fold up as compactly as some of the others. + +If I could Frankenstein a tripod, any of the legs were fine. Spec wise, the Sirui 254, Leofoto 254 and Benro #1 legs were almost identical, I wouldn't be surprised if they were made in the same factory. My dream head would be a mashup of the best features from the Sirui K20 and the Benro GX30. I also would have liked the option to have the Tortoise #1 with the larger ball head of the GX30. Unfortunately buying the GX30 and legs seperately is out of my budget and I didn't love the head THAT much more than the K20 to spending the extra money. In the end, there was no tripod that I thought was the absolute perfect one and I had to make compromises.",0 +7322,What would be a fun indoor photo activity to do with high school students?. Thanks,0 +7323,"What are your experiences with guided group photo walks?. I'm going on a group street photography walk tomorrow guided by a professional. I've never been on guided walks before and am new to street photography as well. As such I was wondering if there was anything special I should do to prepare and have a couple of questions. + +​ + +\- Firstly just the title, what have your experiences been like? + +\- Are there some questions I should make sure I ask of the photographer leading the walk? + +\- Are there any etiquette-stuff I shouldn't forget about when out with a group doing street photography? + +​ + +Thanks!",0 +7324,"Better way to sort photos for sports photography. Hey all, + +My dad does some sports photography and has [an absolutely insane way to sort through photos for each school](https://imgur.com/DJN65OJ). + +This is book one of probably 8ish that he's gone through over the last 3 years. + +He has photos from a bunch of different schools each weekend. + +How do y'all sort through photos / is there a better way he could be doing this? Because it's nuts and it takes so long.",0 +7325,"Anyone successfully tagged a large collection of photos? (DAM). Hey all, + + +As my photo collection grows so too does the need to organize it. Years ago I went and restructured all the directory structures... putting everything into a folder with the two-digit day of month and event, within a 2-digit month, within a 4-digit year, within a larger directory for that category of photos. Thus my family 4th of July photos from 2007 are in Family/2007/07-July/04-4th of July. + + +But my collection is massive, hundreds of thousands of images... and it's simply not enough. I need to tag everything to make it findable and usable. + + +My primary collection consists of over 100k photos of family that I've taken. And then I have photos of family that other family members have taken, as I'm acting a bit as a family archivist. These include, among others, photos my late father took from his childhood up until shortly before his passing. And then there's photos I've taken professionally, portraits and weddings, and some of these are for friends and family. And then there's photos I've taken of non-family, largely Scouts BSA photos as I've now participated in one BSA troop and 2 Cub Scout packs over the past 20 years both as a youth and adult, and there's photos I've archived for others from the same organizations. And lastly there's genealogical photos dating back to the 1860's. + + +My main consideration is that I want to be able to pull up photos relevant to people on an as-needed basis. For example my sister's mother-in-law passed away the other year and I wanted to be able to simply grab all the photos I had of her for her wake and funeral. Often times I'll create DVD slideshows for key family members, sometimes it's a birthday or anniversary, but also funerals. + + +So what I've been using is Digikam. It works fairly well, albeit a titch sluggish. But I've been going over what I'd already done on an automated-basis with facial recognition and finding large gaps. Last month I uploaded all the family photos I had that included faces I recognized from 2003 to 2005, and Google Photos inexplicably shuffled them, so I wound up spending a number of hours reordering them. And now that I've gone through everything again... I'm finding there were large gaps in that facial recognition. + + +So where all this is going is that I'm feeling like all this tagging is only really useful if it's complete. Having 75% of the photos for an individual tagged does me no good if I still have to rummage through the entire collection looking for the remaining 25%. + + +At this point I've probably spent over 20hrs doing the ""automated"" facial tagging, primarily providing names where the software knows it's a face but doesn't recognize it. And I've probably spent over 6hrs adding in additional faces that the automated missed entirely... but I've likely only done around 10-20% of the collection. + + +And then the other thing I really want is the much more verbose kind of DAM tagging... the what, where, when, etc. Place names, categories such as portraits vs landscapes, items such as cars, pets and other animals so I can just find all my bird photos or the ones I have of deer, etc... activities such as swimming, camping, etc. Thus far I've probably spent over 10hrs doing that, and I feel I'm probably 25% done... but only in my personal collection of family photos I've taken. + + +But as I said... none of this is truly useful unless it's complete... and that's the rub. I'm not sure just how complete I can ever really get this without driving myself insane. + + +Thoughts?",0 +7326,"When it ‘clicks’. Do any seasoned photographers just get this moment when walking down an alleyway or an area with pattern arrangements where momentarily your perception of the world changes? + +I see it often, and I find it easier to find good photographs while following that momentum. + +For everyone else, how did it happen for you? To be able to see something that other people may just ignore or walk past a thousand times and consider it a neutral or negative thing maybe even political, where as you might (and I do) just see it as something to escape into. + +And for the other people who dream of being able to see this, what had stopped you? + +I may be romanticising it a little bit, after all I’m just someone who likes to see a little extra in literally anything.",0 +7327,"Film verus Digital. I've been a freelance photographer for 5 years now and have mostly shot on film for both my personal and professional work. I feel that at this point film is what makes my work my work in the context of how it looks. + +Recetly after a comedy of errors involving film development, broken cameras, work not working out the way I had planned, rising costs, resource, etc I've started to contemplate switching or the very least working more with digital. I will always love film but my eye for making work has certainly changed and developed since I first started out shooting and I'm starting to feel that digital could potentially help with that. + +My question isn't about the pros and cons of film versus digital but more who here has made the jump from film to digital? How was that experience for you? Did you transition or did you go back to film? What have you learned?",0 +7328,"How do I ask to photograph events? (for free). We have a lot of great events on campus and I make a point of attending 2-5 a week. Networking can be challenging especially when there are so many great students and grad students. Speakers often include world leaders, local politicians, authors, etc. + +It occurred to me that I could practice photography and combine it with networking by asking if I could photograph events, for free since I’m already going to be there, (if they don’t have a photographer, obviously) and share the photos with the organisers and speakers. + +How do I ask and how would you build on this idea to improve relationship building and potential job opportunities? + +Several of my friends who graduated had good incomes just from doing graduation photoshoots so the more I’m known for photography the better. + +What resources, caveats, and precautions should I keep in mind?",0 +7329,"Self-Promotion Sunday: November 06, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7330,"Maternity shoots: Do you retouch photos?. I just did my first maternity shoot, my best friend being my subject. +I normally do corporate work with the occasional portrait session. For corporate work I am sometimes asked to smooth lines, edit dark circles, etc. But for the most part, I dont usually do any retouching, just color grading or lighting adjustments simply because I like the ""imperfections"". + +That being said, I domt plan to do any retouching on these photos as well. However, knowing my best friend, she's going to hate that you can see her stretch marks and that her belly is not ""perfectly"" round because she spent a lot of the shoot concerned with that. +I think she looks great, I think its just an accurate representation of pregnancy and that its one of the last things you even notice because she's just a beautiful subject regardless. But I know that she'd probably like it more if I touched those things up. So I'm torn with what to do. + +Should I touch up the photos and risk making her feel bad about herself irl or not edit them and have her be unhappy with her maternity photos?",0 +7331,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: October 15, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7332,"A charity foundation wants me to do a photo/video shoot for a gym chain. First of all, I don’t do photography as a full time job, it’s mainly a hobby but I do paid work every now and then. +I help a big charity foundation in my country that builds hospitals for children. + +I do photo and video whenever they have events, need a promotional video, etc. With no charge to them, mainly because they don’t bill for any of the work that they do, all doctors and therapists are volunteers. + +They partnered up with one of the biggest gym chains in the state for a regional event, basically users will download an app, select the amount they want to donate, the gym’s coach will set a goal, users track their progress with the app, if they reach their goal, the gym matches the donation. + +At first I thought of focusing on how easy it was to use the app and how it would help the foundation, make a video, a photo shoot of users, etc. turns out they want me to emphasize on the gym facilities and people training there. +I understand that the gym is helping with the donations, but I don’t think I should be doing free work for a corporation. If this was to promote the hospitals that this foundation builds and how the gym is helping them, it would be a totally different scenario, but at this point is more of “promote the gym and we’ll get users to sign up”. + +Bottom line is, am I in the wrong here? + +TL;DR : I do free photo/video for a charity foundation, now they want me to do a commercial and photo shoot for a gym they partenered with.",0 +7333,"Looking for content to inspire my students.. I’m teaching photography to high school students and as a way to keep class engaging and add variety I wanna show them videos every now and them. + +What are some thought-provoking fun or inspiring videos, interviews, or documentaries I should absolutely show to them? + +* thank you for the awesome recs!",0 +7334,"Anything Goes Monday: May 30, 2022. What are you up to? Share with your e-friends! What's that shiny new piece of equipment? + +Show off cool photography-related stuff you've created or experienced here in the comments of this post! We want to see and discuss your pictures, videos, website... anything, really! + +If you've got interesting links to stuff created by someone else, we'd love to discuss that too! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7335,"Can we discuss screen brightness? We all know if mostly printing then you should to edit between 80 - 120 cd/m². What are you doing if your images are mostly viewed online? Regular people typically use much brighter settings, are you compensating? What if sometimes you sell prints of online work?. I'm assuming in all situations you are calibrating at the chosen brightness. + +Are you making 2 versions of the edit - 1 for an online portfolio and 1 for printing? + +Are you just letting all your images be way brighter online for most people? + +If you're only worried about online viewers are you editing at a higher brightness level? What did you settle on? + +I've searched around online but can't find a good discussion of people talking about compensating for the fact that the majority of regular viewers are probably using the out of the box monitor or phone screen brightness settings. Typically way brighter like 200+ cd/m². My main monitor was over 300cd/m² at default settings.",0 +7336,"How important is the ""usability factor"" to you?. Looking at my photo collection, I've used dozens of different cameras over the years, from 5MP to 50. And the fact of the matter is, on a 21 inch screen (iMac), you can quite often only tell one from the other if you zoom in - although at that point it is *really* obvious. + +So here's the thing. I know that my iPhone - the 12 Pro Max - is easily ""good enough"". The pictures I shoot with it look fine on my screen....if I don't look too close. Even with ProRaw and the clever computational tricks, there's only so much you can do with 12MP and a very small sensor. + +On the other hand, when I open up a picture I took with a 50MP medium format digital, and zoom right in for a detailed look....just wow. In terms of straight up IQ it buries anything else I've used, by a large margin. + +The other thing is that the 50MP medium format camera is actually really satisfying to use, and the iPhone is not. It's easily the iPhone's biggest - maybe only - weakness. I like the pictures I get, but I don't much enjoy the process of getting them. Whereas (for instance) I loved every second of using one of the various rangefinders I've had over the years. + +So...I suppose what I'm trying to say is, are you the type of photographer who will use whatever gets the job done, or are you the type who goes for complete overkill because it's fun to do so?",0 +7337,"Wins Wednesday: January 05, 2022. **Time for some positivity!** + +Have you had any recent photography wins? Share them here! +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7338,"For those who print their photos, where do you store your larger sized printed photos?. Hi everyone, I just bought a photo printer that prints up at an A3+ size but for practicality, other than a few photos at that size which I want to hang on my walls, I reckon it would be better to print in A4 for my favourites. However I'm just curious, where do you keep them? In a box? In an A4 folder? (Can't find any that looks good).",0 +7339,"Disappointed with ""studio"" rental space. Hi all, I'm curious to know what your thoughts are on this: + +In searching for a studio space to shoot in, I found one available for rent at $50 per hour. The space doubles as a furniture warehouse and is an older building. From the social media posts of this ""studio"" it seemed there was plenty of space to work in, with lots of uniquely textured walls (at least 4), large lovely windows with natural light, a loft area, and some pieces of furniture available to use as props. I also reached out to a reputable model who had shot in that space and she replied with raving reviews. So I booked it for 3 hours and had a model driving in from 5 hours away. + +When I arrived, the ""studio"" was packed with inventory. So much so that there was only one wall available to shoot against, the windows were inaccessible, the loft area was inaccessible, etc. Additionally the bathrooms were atrociously dirty as were the floors and any furniture that needed to be moved, I had to move myself. NONE of this was communicated to me. My 3 hour booking turned into a one-hour shoot. + +I tried to remain positive and up-beat but internally I was very disappointed. + +I spoke with the on-duty person with the warehouse (not the owner who manages the social media pages and handles the booking) and he mentioned that in the past, some people had literally walked out of shoots because of the condition of the ""studio"". Additionally he mentioned the space is for sale, and that some things in the building are not up to building code. + +I understand that I get what I pay for in some regards, as this isn't (what I would call) a legitimate photography studio. In my city there aren't many photography studios to rent (maybe one other), and I'm concerned that any positive reviews from other models/photographers in the area come from a scarcity mindset- accepting what they're given. + +I don't feel like it was worth the money and that it made me look bad to the model who I had been wanting to work with for a while. + +Although, the photos that I was able to capture ended up being great, however I feel that I was severely limited in my options due to poor communication and/or misrepresentation from the owner. + +**My questions are:** general thoughts? Would it be worth reaching out to the owner to express my dissatisfaction? Should I cut my losses and chalk it up as a learning experience?",0 +7340,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: October 01, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7341,"Pros and Cons of Having The Same Model Appear Multiple Times in Portfolio?. There's a model I've formed an ongoing collaboration with, and I really do love the work we do together. But I'm wondering, is it a bad look when that model appears so often in my portfolio? I do have other models of course, but she very much is the most recurring character on my website. Sometimes this even leads me to wonder if maybe I shouldn't ""waste"" good concepts on her because I won't be able to use the photos and I should shoot it with a different model for the sake of my portfolio. Even though I know this model in question would do a great job and I'd love the photos. I do plan on shooting with lots of different models to keep my portfolio fresh, but I will certainly keep working with this girl and I'm curious what the outside perspective is with seeing the same model appear over and over. I'm sure it happens a lot where models and photographers form ongoing partnerships, so it really can't be that rare right?",0 +7342,"Thoughts on Film Emulation Presets. I have been involved with film emulation for a few years now. Analogue films are becoming more and more expensive or some are no longer available at all. Nevertheless, many of them have a unique look that many of us like and would like to reproduce in a cheaper way. + +​ + +If you also look for it, you can find various presets on the internet. Be it on YouTube, any videos or otherwise. Often, all these presets are also sold and they all differ greatly from each other. The presets for Lightroom are probably the most common. But what is always noticeable is that almost everything looks very digital. Film consists of many properties that are combined together, such as the colours/saturation/luminance, the highlight rolloff (which is completely missing in most presets and further burns out the image), grain (which neither Lightroom nor Photoshop are really capable of emulating in anything like a real way. This should not simply be superimposed on the image but be IN the image. In addition, the highlights, middles and shadows react differently to the grain, whereas an overlay has the same effect everywhere). + +​ + +If you really want to have full control over the image, it is best to try Davinci Resolve. Even though the software is designed for videos, images can be edited very well with it. In contrast to Lightroom and the like, you also have full control over the image. This means that more specialised films such as Cinestill 800T can also be emulated. But also the more common films such as Kodak Gold can be realised much more realistically. + +​ + +To cut a long story short: If you are interested in film emulation and would like to give digital images a film look, you should look into Davinci and keep your distance from Lightroom and Photoshop.",0 +7343,"How do I stay motivated to take photos?. I’ve been a wedding and event photographer for a few years now as a second/side job. It’s been going really well, especially lately. I’m generally speaking happy with my work and my progress as a photographer. I know what I need to work on and what my strengths are. However I stopped taking photos as a hobby. I struggle to find the angles when I do it in my spare time or on travels. 2 years ago I was traveling and taking photos I was really happy with. Now I barely take photos because none of it feels inspiring. I don’t really know what has changed or how I can undo whatever happened. It has even affected my professional work somewhat where i feel like im regressing in creativity. It is immensely frustrating. + +Has anyone else has this happen? Did you manage to get back to normal?",0 +7344,"Working as a photographer while also having a full-time ""day job""?. I've been applying to full-time jobs to get some security and it looks like I might land a non-photo jobs that'll be decent in terms of benefits, work from home, time off, but won't be enough income. I always planned to continue photography as a ""side hustle"" to supplement my income anyways, but want to grow it to be full-time gig. + +The stability of a day job helps take the pressure off for me while growing as a photographer, but I'm wondering how much time and energy I'll have. Has anyone else found themselves in a similar situation and if so how was your experience? + +I have a studio space and business that is setup for all media projects, photo, video, audio. I'm hoping to shoot headshots or produce small video/audio projects for clients. I won't be able to take on a lot of work obviously, but I think it'll be easier looking for a few consistent clients rather than never ending sporadic gigs.",0 +7345,"Monthly Gearporn Thread: October 20, 2022. **This thread is where you can show off what you've acquired this past month.** + +Make us green with envy! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7346,"Midwest American photographers, what do you take photos of and what inspires you?. I’m a Minnesotan who used to be really deep into street and nature photography but the stress of the pandemic and lockdowns completely killed my love of the hobby. I recently dug out my a6000 and want to give this hobby another shot but I live in the suburbs and there’s nothing but generic houses and overly-maintained lawns here. + +I’m a bit rusty on my camera/lens lingo but I do know that I built my camera for street photography and I also have a micro lens attachment so those options are available to me. The only thing I’m lacking are some creative photo ideas to get my gears grinding. + +So what do you guys shoot photos of?",0 +7347,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: June 04, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7348,"Self-Promotion Sunday: April 10, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + +**This is not the place to just drop a link to your website, social media profile, or portfolio. We have dedicated threads for those purposes.** + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7349,"What sites are like the Boston Globe's Big Picture?. I used to flip through the Boston Globe's Big Picture each week or so for some powerful, contemporary, journalistic photography. If I recall correctly, the paper would no longer make new posts a couple years back. Am I making this up? + +What websites are like the Boston Globe's Big Picture where you can find high quality, trustworthy, and current photo journalism? + +Edit: Thanks for the suggestions everyone.",0 +7350,"How do you travel with camera gear if the primary goal isn't photography?. I got interested with the minimalist topic as it has been something I have been doing for myself for quite a while. Maybe before covid or now re: travel what gear do you take with you and how often do you take it out with you? Is it all day outside every day or is it on specific days and for a a few hours only when you are you photo mode? It could be travelling with friends, family, or yourself when the #1 goal of the trip isn't a photography minded one. Without your own car. You could using public transportation. + +​ + +For myself it has been a dSLR with a UWA zoom and a prime lens or now with the Fuji XT1 but I am figuring out if on many days I could suffice with just a Ricoh GR. I am normally outside myself so I don't waste time in my hotel but if with others we might return to the hotel twice a day. + +​ + +​ + +​ + +Cheers.",0 +7351,"[Hobbyist] Has anyone here made a switch from a real camera to a really good phone camera? Do you regret it?. My background: I've been photographing for about fifteen years. I started with Nikon DSLR and when Fujifilm x100s released, I switched to Fujifilm mirrorless system. Currently I am shooting with x100v. + +The camera is great, but I find that lately I've been taking it only on longer trips and holidays. If I go biking or need to photograph something on the go, I just use my iPhone XR. I don't bother to carry my x100v with my at all times like I used to. + +In few months I'll be switching work which means that I'll have to return the company's iPhone XR and buy my own. And there are two possibilities: + +1. I buy cheaper iPhone (like XR) and keep my x100v or +2. I sell my x100v and buy a really nice camera phone like iPhone 12 Pro or 13 Pro. + +From a technical (and ergonomical) standpoint, it's no contest, no phone camera will be as good as x100v. But since I already shoot way more (last year I did 365 project and only about 18% of the shots were taken with x100v) with an iPhone, it actually makes sense to me to make the primary tool as good as possible. + +I am interested if someone in here was in a similar situation, made the jump and is happy OR, opposite to that, is unhappy with the decision. It would help me to sort my thoughts on the issue.",0 +7352,"Best way to find work during slow periods? Getting to travel for work?. Hello everyone! I'm an event/portrait photographer with almost 5 years of experience. I've worked with senior, concert, and editorial photography. Since then, I've amassed quite an impressive portfolio, and I've had the pleasure of working with some of the country's largest EDM festivals. In that regard, I have a jam-packed 2022 ahead of me, as I'm already scheduled to work three festivals in my state this spring! + +Even though things are beginning to pick up for me, I'm still trying to seek ways to find gigs I can shoot during my downtime on the weekends or when I'm going through a slow period. These fests are only one weekend out of the month for me at best, so I'd be interested to find jobs during those in-between stretches. + +Which is the most effective way to market/network your services to others who are looking for them? I've primarily used Instagram to find leads and potential clients (trying to use the $1.80 strategy lately), but I'm open to other approaches that may be more effective. I've looked at Thumbtack and Bark in the past, but I'm not sure if using those sites to find work is worth it, as you need to pay a fee to even contact these leads. + +On a related note, how should I go about looking for photo opportunities if I want to travel? It would be fantastic if I could go to a specific city for a weekend and find work or get exclusive access to things. I've always wondered about the possibility of traveling for editorial/reportage photography, but I believe I should stick to my branding niche of event and portrait photography. I'm sure I'll be traveling out of state for music festivals at some point, but it'd be cool to do other types of photography as well (Shooting with a hotel or restaurant for complimentary benefits, reporting on a newsworthy event, etc.) I realize it's probably a shot in the dark because I'd have to do some cold emailing/networking, but it might be worth that shot. + +I apologize if this is muddled and all over the place, I just have so many ideas going through my head thinking about all the potential opportunities I can make with a camera and a few lenses!",0 +7353,"How can i get into Portrait photography without knowing people to shoot?. so i am 16 years old and i live in switzerland. Strangers out here are rather shy and avoiding so it is rather weird to ask strangers to take their picture. When i still went to school i had plenty of friends with plenty of time so that was no problem. the close friends who i still know never have time, when they do have time, they go out drinking until they almost die. its europe i guess. i myself am no big fan of alcohol since i like being my true self. but sadly, most social events or activities are based around drinking. i find it awful. probably this is a reason why i loved school so much. you could have all that fun and all of the interesting conversations with people without being drunk. + +maybe i have lost track a bit there. Anyways: + +I have shot plenty of still life and to me that was my way of showing what the landscape was like. it is hard to explain but to me landscape seems rather boring as i find it hard to show feeling in landscapes. Shooting portraits always seemed so rewarding as the person can connect so much more with the viewer. To me, shooting portraits gives the landscape a purpose. the town where i live is interesting, but i have shot everything about this place that seems interesting to me. + +thanks in advance",0 +7354,"Wins Wednesday: October 26, 2022. **Time for some positivity!** + +Have you had any recent photography wins? Share them here! +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7355,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: September 24, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7356,"Hasselblad announces X2D 100C | 100MP sensor, 16-bit, 5-axis IBIS, PDAF, 5.76m dot OLED EVF, 1TB SSD internal + CFExpress | DPReview. ",0 +7357,"Wins Wednesday: July 06, 2022. **Time for some positivity!** + +Have you had any recent photography wins? Share them here! +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7358,"Album Share Tuesday: July 05, 2022. **Let’s see your work! Use this thread to share an album, get feedback from, and give feedback to your peers.** + +Before posting, be sure to give feedback on other people’s albums. Feedback can be as little as “I like this photo best!” + +If you are more confident in your critiquing abilities, give reasons why x photo was good, and/or what can be done to improve y photo. + +Please post curated albums! + +Do not post your entire Flickr/instagram feeds or website, nor albums of hundreds of photos. You will get more meaningful feedback on albums of fewer images. +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7359,"Do you go back and re-edit your past photos?. I struggle with this one. I like to think that in 8 years of ""professional"" photography my tastes and techniques have matured and that I'm taking better photos. + +But editing has such a huge part to play (for my workflow, and I'm sure many others) and its so prone to fashion whims. I often find myself absent mindedly re-editing a photo from 7 years ago that I 'HDR'd' the hell out of or re-adjusting the colour on some moody shot where I only isolated the reds. + +But then I wonder if I'm just replacing one fad with a more recent one. Or if my approach at the time is somehow valuable in its own right and going back to re-edit photos is somehow demeaning them. + +I'm sure I'm overthinking it but I'm curious what some of you think... Do you go back to your old photos to 'save' them? or do you move on to newer things? + +[One i took (and edited) in 2015](https://i.imgur.com/LSnnqhw.jpeg) + +[Same image edited earlier this year](https://i.imgur.com/A6WgULK.jpeg) + +To be honest they both look shit to me.",0 +7360,"Monthly Website/Portfolio Critique Thread: February 14, 2022. Every month, we join together and do our best to view and critique each others' websites. The main purpose of this post is to learn things from each other that can benefit our own portfolios or websites. Use this space to talk about all aspects of your online representation, from social media to SEO to personal branding and portfolios, the best and worst places to host your work, collective critiques, you name it. + +Having an online presence can also be a beneficial utility for those showing their work in an effort to obtain potential clients, so it's highly advised that if you find something particular that could be improved in someone's online presence, use this opportunity to kindly tell them about it and let them know how they can improve. + +**Guidelines:** +* If you post your website, please comment on at least two other websites + +* Please reply to any comments that have no replies! + +* Don't be hesitant to post a link to your website or portfolio, even if there's a plethora of comments. + +* It doesn't matter if you're a ""Beginner"" or ""Professional Photographer"", just have fun and learn from each other - that's what this post is for, so take advantage of this opportunity. +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7361,"Salty Saturday: December 11, 2021. Need to rant about something in the photography world? Here’s your safe space to be as salty as you want without judgement. + +Get it all* off your chest! + +*Let’s just keep the personal attacks and witch hunts out of it, k? + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7362,"Anything Goes Monday: November 07, 2022. What are you up to? Share with your e-friends! What's that shiny new piece of equipment? + +Show off cool photography-related stuff you've created or experienced here in the comments of this post! We want to see and discuss your pictures, videos, website... anything, really! + +If you've got interesting links to stuff created by someone else, we'd love to discuss that too! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7363,"Shutterstock editor will disappear today (31 oct) and you cant edit files anymore?. Hey there, + +I just had a chat with the shutterstock support and am shocked when they confirmed that it will no longer be possible to edit any shutterstock editor files. You can simply download them and upload them in the new tool, but not edit. Which makes it pretty useless for my scenario. + +Am I the only one who finds this pretty shocking? I used the editor for many years and have 100+ files that I keep updating on a regular basis for Twitch decks and other stuff, now I will have to start from scratch and replicate them all. + +This is really frustrating!",0 +7364,"Professional Photographers: How are you going to handle a possible recession in the future?. I'm considering a career in commercial photography but I'm full of doubt at the moment, especially regarding the future. + +If the economic landscape takes a downturn, how are you guys 'ready' or going to handle that?",0 +7365,"About exposure. # About exposure + +## Exposure in photography + +Exposure is a metric which tells how much light *a part* of the image sensor is being exposed to. The bit in italics is there because exposure is a ""per area"" metric - the size of the image sensor is not relevant. Exposure simply tells how much light hits a point on the image sensor (or film). Indeed an exposure is normally not the same across the image! + +Exposure has also the meaning of the act of exposing the image sensor (or film) to light. + +### Of good exposure + +Ignoring the artistic side of exposure parameters, a good exposure is one where maximum amount of light is collected without unacceptable over exposure. +* The more light is collected, the less noisy the image will be (or more accurately: the higher the signal-to-noise ratio will be). +* Image sensor has a limit on how much light it can collect at any point - collecting too much will cause either partial or full loss of details in the relevant area (i.e. overexposure) + +### Underexposure and overexposure + +Under- and overexposure are **errors** of exposure relative to what the photographer desired to achieve. They do not mean exposure adjustments relative to what camera thinks is right or undesired lightness of a picture. For example if the end result requires exposing less than the camera's metering suggests, following the suggestion is not underexposing, but it simply is using a smaller exposure than what the camera thinks considers ideal. On the other hand exposing so little that the subject is noisy mess is the result of underexposure, unless indeed the result is what the photographer wanted. + +Also, an output image being too light or dark does not necessarily mean that it's been incorrectly exposed - it may have been, or it might not have been. The lightness of the output depends on other parameters as well - ISO and image processing. + +## Exposure parameters + +There are three exposure parameters: +1. Exposure time +2. Scene luminance +3. f-number + +### Scene luminance + +Scene luminance simply tells how much light comes from the scene or subject of photography to the camera lens. Scene luminance is small when shooting a black cat at the middle of the night in coal mine under available light, and large when shooting a mid day beach scene. + +Scene luminance can be manipulated by for example using a flash light, or a neutral density filter, or simply by waiting for the light conditions change. + +### Aperture and f-number + +Aperture and f-number are often terms which are used interchangeably, though they don't have the same meaning. + +* f-number is used to describe the diameter of the aperture. +* Aperture is the opening or hole in the lens through which the light flows. It limits how much of the scene luminance can travel through the lens to the image sensor. +* The aperture diameter can be calculated by dividing the focal length of the lens by the f-number. Thus if the f-number is the same, the larger the focal length, the larger the aperture is. +* Scene luminance and aperture size together dictate how much light will flow through the lens to each spot on the image sensor or film - together with exposure time they define how large the exposure is. +* Scene luminance with long (i.e. narrow field of view) lenses is smaller than with wide angle lenses as a much smaller cone of light is being captured, but also the apertures are much wider at the same f-number. The result is that the same amount of light will go through the lenses to each point in the image sensor (or film) if the f-numbers are the same. + +From above it's easy to see that if two systems have the same field of view, but the focal lengths are different, then at the same f-number the **total** amount of light collected will be different and the end result of the identical exposures will be different. This is the situation when the image sensor sizes of the systems are different. For example it's not hard to image that a 4mm focal length mobile phone camera lens and a 28mm full frame camera lens create different results if both are shot at f/2 - the former has only a 2mm aperture diameter, the latter a 14mm one: very different amount of light will pass when the other exposure parameters are also the same. + + +Interesting tidbit - aperture size is not the physical size of it, but the size is appears to be if you look through the lens from the front side. + + +## What about ISO? + +It's often mistakenly though that ISO is an exposure parameter - **it's not**. Exposure parameters control the amount of light that is captured per unit area - how much light is reflected from the scene, how large is the hole in the lens and for how long we exposure the image sensor or film. ISO is not relevant in this context. + +A common pair of **myths** is that ISO changes the sensitivity of the sensor and that high ISO settings are noisy because the sensor adds more noise to the capture. In reality the image sensor sensitivity is constant and the higher ISOs typically add less noise to the signal than smaller ones. It is good to remember that **noise is almost entirely a function of light itself**, light is noisy by nature - what ever noise the camera adds is miniscule and is only relevant at the very smallest of exposures. Thus it is the three exposure parameters which almost alone define how much noise there will be, not the ISO (within the same system). + +### Using ISO + +In the context of taking JPG images ISO is one of the four standard parameters which control the lightness of the JPG picture. The other three parameters are the exposure parameters. Normally one should keep the ISO as low as it goes (typically ISO 100). One should consider the exposure parameters to be the primary tool in changing lightness and changing the ISO only as a last resort. This is because increasing lightness by increasing exposure will lead to much cleaner, less noisy output than increasing lightness by upping the ISO - capture more light and you'll see less noise. + +### ISO, image sensor and noise +Typically changing the ISO setting also changes one or two operational parameters of the image sensor. In practise this means increasing ISO reduces the largest possible amount of light the sensor can capture. This limits the maximum image quality - signal to noise ratio, and also reduces the dynamic range the sensor can capture. Thus, as adviced above - it is better to maximize exposure and only then increase the ISO if needed to achieve desired lightness - an auto-ISO setting on the camera may simplify this procedure. + +If instead of shooting JPG-pictures one shoots raw-files, there are a couple of points worth understanding: + +* Raw-files are not pictures, but only data - there is no ""lightness"" to be set, thus the lightness-setting role of ISO doesn't exist in this context. +* On typical cameras increasing the ISO value **reduces** the noises the image sensor injects to the signal - thus to maximize image quality it is adviseable to first set the exposure to be as large as possible, and then set the ISO to also be as large as possible without overexposing. It is also good to know that on most cameras going above medium or medium high ISOs (perhaps 1600 or 3200) is of little value in this context. + + +### Extended ISOs +Many cameras have ISO settings which are either above or below the normal range - the ""extended"" high ISOs have nothing special them and they can be used as regular settings, though the camera might well add or increase software noise reduction in which case using them may be unadvisable when using raw. + +The extended low ISO settings on the other hand are typically nothing more but exactly the same as the lowest ""normal"" ISO, but with camera's exposure metering calibrated to expose more at the expense of reduced headroom (i.e. highlights will burn more easily). These settings are mainly useful if one shoots JPG - with raw there's really no reason to touch them. + +## Exposure and sensor size + +The same exposure on different formats (i.e. different image sensor sizes) creates a different result. The larger the format, the more light is captured, thus the result will have better signal to noise-ratio (SNR) - it will look less noisy to the viewer. + +It is good to understand that if the exposure parameters are same on two different formats, then not only the larger format will have larger SNR, but also the depth of field (DoF) will be reduced. The reason for both is that the aperture diameter is different on different formats when the f-number is the same. If the other exposure parameters remain constant, but the f-number is adjusted so that the aperture sizes match, the output image will have the same noise and the same DoF. + +In this context to take advantage of the higher image quality potential of a larger sensor one has to capture more light - either by using a longer exposure time, or by using a larger aperture (diameter) leading to more shallow DoF - there are no free lunches. + +Naturally same framing and focus distance are assumed above. + +## Learning to expose +It's best to learn by setting the camera to the manual exposure mode (M) and also disable automatic ISO setting. This way the camera doesn't do any adjustments by itself and you're in total control - when changing the shooting parameters, what ever changes there are in the output is because of your actions and not because the camera does some adjustment you might not notice. + +This article is a proof that I have too much free time. It can also be freely distributed, shared, eaten, an enjoyed in other imaginative ways.",0 +7366,"What should the judging criteria be?. Hi! My university is promoting a photography contest and I was invited to be on the panel of judges to represent the students. It's the first time their doing something like this and we are discussing what the criteria should be? We are thinking about 5 criteria points that we are going to use to judge the photos, the basic ones I thought would be light and composition, I've seen on the internet people using a lot ""creativity"" as a criteria, but some say it's stupid to put it as a criterion because creativity can go inside all criteria, other say is important having one point only to judge the overall creativity, so what do you guys think? What criteria you guys think are the most important and should be put? Thanks!!",0 +7367,"Salty Saturday: July 09, 2022. Need to rant about something in the photography world? Here’s your safe space to be as salty as you want without judgement. + +Get it all* off your chest! + +*Let’s just keep the personal attacks and witch hunts out of it, k? + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7368,"Salty Saturday: July 02, 2022. Need to rant about something in the photography world? Here’s your safe space to be as salty as you want without judgement. + +Get it all* off your chest! + +*Let’s just keep the personal attacks and witch hunts out of it, k? + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7369,"Album Share Tuesday: May 31, 2022. **Let’s see your work! Use this thread to share an album, get feedback from, and give feedback to your peers.** + +Before posting, be sure to give feedback on other people’s albums. Feedback can be as little as “I like this photo best!” + +If you are more confident in your critiquing abilities, give reasons why x photo was good, and/or what can be done to improve y photo. + +Please post curated albums! + +Do not post your entire Flickr/instagram feeds or website, nor albums of hundreds of photos. You will get more meaningful feedback on albums of fewer images. +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7370,"Self-Promotion Sunday: March 27, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + +**This is not the place to just drop a link to your website, social media profile, or portfolio. We have dedicated threads for those purposes.** + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7371,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: November 26, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7372,"Do you think it's possible that a single photograph could stand the test of time in the same way that for example, a DaVinci painting has remained culturally relevant for hundreds of years?. By submitting a new post you're agreeing that you've read the FAQ. If you haven't, please do so now: http://www.reddit.com/r/photography/wiki/index",0 +7373,"Salty Saturday: October 01, 2022. Need to rant about something in the photography world? Here’s your safe space to be as salty as you want without judgement. + +Get it all* off your chest! + +*Let’s just keep the personal attacks and witch hunts out of it, k? + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7374,"Self-Promotion Sunday: September 04, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7375,"Monthly Gearporn Thread: August 20, 2022. **This thread is where you can show off what you've acquired this past month.** + +Make us green with envy! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7376,"What features or ""mechanics"" of a website would make for a great photography sharing website?. If there was a site, for photographers, made by photographers (and web engineers), what does said *dream* site have? + +I'm relatively new to this sub, a month or two, but a clear trend I've already been able to recognize is, Instagram is dead, there is no good/desirable alternative, and the vast majority of social sites want dumb aspect ratio videos. And why can't young people stay off my lawn? Jokes aside, if we remove ""limitations"", i.e. you have a magic wand, to wish your ideal photo-sharing site into existence, what does it *look* like? + +1. What features does it have? +2. What does it provide you that makes you like it? +3. What singular point does it need to succeed at to be what you want from it? + +For example: + +* Is it simply Instagram without video? +* Is it a subscription model for users, to follow friends? +* Does it have following hashtags? +* Does it have comment posting or private messaging? +* Does it have 4k image sizes, even though people look at it on 1080 monitors / mobile devices? +* Does it have periodic (weekly / monthly) competitions? + +*What does your (or* r/photography's) *dream photography site do?*",0 +7377,"Concerns regarding theft / mugging while out photographing. I recently purchased a Lumix GH5 with the intent of improving the quality of my Twitch streams / creating YouTube content. + +I decided to give photography a try, to familiarize myself more with the camera and its capabilities… and now this camera has sparked a major interest in photography for me. + +I’ve ordered a couple of lenses (which weren’t cheap) and was excited to take some amazing shots during a fall foliage cruise I’m taking in October - it goes out of New York, and ends up in Canada. Plenty of opportunities for neat photos! + +Then I started browsing this board, and was reading about how photographers are often the targets of muggings/theft/property crime, and my stomach sank… it makes sense, you have an expensive piece of equipment around your neck that can be resold for some decent cash. Of course thieves are gonna target you! + +I was held up at gunpoint a few years back - I was a restaurant manager and was on my way to the bank to drop off the deposit, when some guy held me up. Fight or flight kicked in, and I (foolishly) fought him off and survived - all I had to show for it was a bruise on my face from when I was pistol whipped. + +Some form of PTSD set in after that incident, and I’m always on edge when I’m out and about. It’s gotten better over the years - but now I’m afraid of something similar happening, when someone decides they want to try and steal my camera. + +Just needed to vent a little here, and also wanted to pick everyone’s brains… + +Have you ever been mugged for your equipment? How do you get past that mentally? + +Any pro tips/best practices to avoid being a victim of theft/mugging? + +I did just sign up for the PPA for the equipment insurance and plan on getting their extended insurance option (wasn’t sure where else to go for this). + +I’m low key feeling like I’ve made a huge mistake in investing in photography equipment now - and I hate that, because the last few days I’ve been having the time of my life photographing everything in sight. + +Why can’t people not suck? :(",0 +7378,"Do you keep old raw files and for how long?. Wanted to poise this question because I noticed today as I was moving files around that I have a massive folder of old raw files. I started keeping them last year because there were a few instances where I wanted to go back and redo an edit or adjust colors on a photo. Nowadays I almost never do this since my editing has improved and I'm generally happy with photos the first time around. So for the sake of space I wanted to hear what this community does with their raws and poise a couple of questions: + +1. As above, do you keep raw files and for how long if you do? +2. What is your method for storing/choosing raws to keep? Is it all photos or just the ones you found to be exceptional? +3. Do you store your raws with edits or just the raw itself? + +Any discussion or comments on the matter is appreciated, would love to hear a professional weigh in since I'm just a hobbyist on the matter.",0 +7379,"Choosing the location - Who is responsible?. Hey everyone. This year I've started to get some paid clients which is great. However one thing I'm unsure on is: who is responsible for picking the location for a shoot? + +Example: I had a band contact me recently for a photoshoot. However they didn't have a location in mind which made things difficult for me (thankfully they arranged somewhere in the end). Of course, if I know any good locations that I think would be suitable I'm happy to suggest them. + +But typically, should it be the client that says ''I'd like a photoshoot of my \_\_\_\_\_\_\_ at \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ location""? i had a similar request from a Yoga teacher yesterday, but now she's asking me where we should do the shoot... + +I'm just curious what the 'normal' way of working is. Thanks for any advice!",0 +7380,"Self-Promotion Sunday: March 13, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + +**This is not the place to just drop a link to your website, social media profile, or portfolio. We have dedicated threads for those purposes.** + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7381,"Nightclub Photography Gig. Hey /r/photography + +Got a cheeky gig at a local club. + +I've got a Lumix GH4 and 25mm 1.7 lens + +Couple questions: + +1. Do I need a speedlight or will the inbuilt flash be okay? +2. Will my camera and lens be okay in a club? +3. If I need a speedlight, what's the cheapest I can get away with? +4. Do I need a Lens Hood? +5. Any recommended settings for this specific setup? +6. 3 hours on site, 2 in lightroom. How much should I charge? +7. how to engage subjects without being awkward? I do love clubs but it's been ages. + +I did read this thread [Equipment for nightclub photography : photography (reddit.com)](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/1hdud2/equipment_for_nightclub_photography/) + +But my camera is a bit different any specific advice for this setup is greatly appreciated. I know the lens isn't ideal but it is what I've got. + +I shot these a couple years back from a similar setup with no flash but nightclubs might be different. + +Thanks in advance! + +​ + +[Andy Cizek \(Monuments\)](https://preview.redd.it/hbmk3k2fx6h81.jpg?width=5184&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=499f3a7ac7e8fdaf80405f976be2f495e7cdaefb) + +[Andy Cizek \(Monuments\)](https://preview.redd.it/ii0r1jsgx6h81.jpg?width=5184&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=08c70a51fed423b2d5125f184c8ba6ee6efd19a1) + +[Andy Cizek \(Monuments\)](https://preview.redd.it/rth0f7kbx6h81.jpg?width=5184&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fc8b5b790f8310a893a57f6d45fae87ef1f28e9c)",0 +7382,"Can you make money editing/retouching photos with Lightroom and Photoshop without being a photographer?. So during the first pandemic, I decided to learn graphic design. I took a couple of Photoshop classes, learned to use the software, became pretty good at this. I got my first clients, some were from Fiverr, some were people I already knew, after completing a couple of projects I realized I don't really enjoy doing graphic design, so I stopped. + +Recently my friend who was doing Facebook marketing asked for help to design some social media posts, I didn't enjoy the work at all, but I realized that I actually enjoy editing the photos to fit the posts. Would it be possible to make a side hustle out of editing images without being a photographer myself? I live with a videographer, I helped him out a couple of times, I definitely do not enjoy having a camera in my hands. + +Appreciate any thoughts on the idea, thanks!",0 +7383,"I was promised prints in exchange for modelling and still haven't received them.. Hoping someone in this sub might have some advice for me; I volunteered to take part in a (nude) photoshoot with a photographer about 6 months ago, as she was going to be displaying her first solo exhibit. She is a friend of an acquaintance, and put out a model call which I responded to. Filled out all the forms, and at the end of it she let me know she would be sending the all of the models (12 in total) their prints as a thank you. I thought that was a really nice way to thank everyone for their time/sharing a vulnerable side of themselves. + +Fast forward a few months, we do the shoot, which goes totally fine. She thanks me for shooting with her, and in the months to come I see her posts/stories about the show. Her show sold out, and from a few pictures I saw on her IG, I was really looking forward to recieving the promised prints. + +A few months pass, and nothing really happens. I wait another month before reaching out and asking her about it. Her response was ""Oh, I still need to send you those! Summer has been so crazy busy, just trying to catch up on everything."" Understandable, I completely get that. I still haven't received anything, and wonder if it seems rude to ask her about this again? + +Any advice is appreciated, thanks for reading! + +Edit: everyone who commented, thank you so much for the advice. I was hoping to come back with a positive update; I messaged the photog three times via DM and sent an her an email. I have yet to receive any type of response whatsoever. + +Initially, I was feeling mildly annoyed about this whole thing. Now, I'm starting to feel ignored by someone who profited off of images of my naked body. + +I also looked at our email exchange from when we had made arrangements for the shoot, and in that email (and another one, after) she mentions the prints plus access to a gallery of 5 HD images of our photos.",0 +7384,"How do you tell someone they’d benefit from some new images on their website?. I’m new to freelancing and currently reaching out to potential clients. One of them has outdated images on their website and I’d like to offer to take new images for their website. +What would be the best way to go about telling them? + + +Here’s what I have now: “I have noticed your website has been using seemingly old photos. I would like to know if you would be interested in updating your website with new images?”",0 +7385,"What is the most impressive way to display larger prints?. Any opinions on making your photos really pop with impressive prints/mounting? + +Peter Lik seems to have a good technique with printing on metal or Fuji archive paper in acrylic with excellent spot lighting. + + +Frames with matting vs metallic prints alone? Prints behind glass? Box mount, frame mount, edge mount, tuxedo mount, or backmount? + +Different for up to 24 x 36 vs larger? +I seem to prefer shiny to matte finish. Thoughts?",0 +7386,"Monthly Follow Thread: October 08, 2022. **Let's show each other some support!** This is our monthly follow thread. + +* If you post your stream, please take a look at other people's streams! +* You can give us your Instagram, 500px, Flickr, etc. etc. and remember you can edit your flair. +* Be descriptive, don't just dump your username and leave! For example a good post should look like this: + +> Hi! I'm [@brianandcamera](http://instagram.com/brianandcamera). I mainly post portraiture and landscapes, but there's the odd bit of concert/event photography as well. + +> I'll follow everyone from /r/photography back (if I miss you, just leave a comment telling me you're from reddit!). + +Check out and engage with other /r/photography people! Community is what it's all about! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7387,"Reusing the same concept with different models/clients. Hey guys, I need your opinion. I am a freelance art and content photographer. Couple of months ago, I collaborated with a friend of mine who’s a male model/OF content creator. We spent some time in the studio; i shot some concepts for prints I wanted to do and shot him some content for his subscribers. No money changed hands, we both benefited from it. +All good, all happy +Today I shot another friend, also a model and OF content creator. Same collaborative setup. I shot print concepts, he got content for his subscribers. +I shot one of the same looks I had done previously with my other friend. This is was a concept I had come up with, created and shot. It’s pretty unique to me and my style and recognisable that it’s work I have created. +The first friend is now very annoyed that I shot the same concept with him and someone else, claiming “he wants to keep his content unique, therefore I shouldn’t reuse concepts with other models because it takes away from his content” + +Thoughts? Was I wrong to reuse one of my concepts with someone new after already shooting it with someone before? + +Thank you in advance for any input or thoughts on how to rectify this issue",0 +7388,"Self-Promotion Sunday: August 28, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7389,"Inclement Weather Policy. I shoot events and family photos. With events, they're typically indoors or have a rain backup plan and would typically not cancel due to inclement weather. On the other hand, I often get families that want to do outdoor shoots but want to be able to reschedule in the event it's raining at the time of the shoot and can't make that call till within a few days of the shoot. By then, I may have already turned down other shooting gigs for that date that would not have been canceled due to the weather. I'm curious what inclement weather policies other photographers here have for these types of situations?",0 +7390,"Why do camera sensors have a lower limit on ISO sensitivity?. We have to use ND filters to get extended open shutter time without overexposing the picture. + +My question is why does this have to be such a hard limitation? If what the sensor is doing is counting incident photons in each pixel bucket, then what is so hard about letting it count more photons? + +I read up on the operating principle of CMOS sensors and it looks like the reason is that concessions have to be made in the on-chip circuitry associated with each pixel, as the resolution and/or overall photosensitive area would need to take a hit to put beefier processing circuitry there in order to let it handle greater dynamic range. There is an amplifier that converts the charge from the photodiodes and all of these are scanned through and processed off chip into a digital signal. + +What are the limiting factors here? + +Is it the photodiodes that are saturating beyond a certain range of incident light? Is it the amplifiers? Is it the readout scan? Is it the ADC? + +I believe it is the case that you could have really expensive sensors that have superior dynamic ranges, but I think what I’d really like to understand is the bottom end limit of the equation: What’s stopping us from pushing ISO arbitrarily lower? In theory on a really bright day I could try to make an extended exposure shot by taking a lot of photos at a high rate, or a video, and then blend all frames together in post. I’m curious if something like this could be integrated into the camera without a redesign of the sensor itself. + +If I take a video at 60fps on a super bright day so that each frame is well-exposed with 1/8000s shutter, then we are able to capture 60/8000 or 0.75% of all incident light (whereas if we had less light we could expose the video at 1/60s and ostensibly capture 100% of incident light making buttery motion blur), what’s stopping cameras from having some more RAM buffer to let us capture 100% of the light? We’d need to also upgrade readout to 8000hz, I guess? + +OK I think, then, i’ve gone full circle and rubber-ducked my way to my answer. A high speed video camera is an example of something like this, it’s just taking the extra step to just widen the digital pipeline and make the video output available. There’s next to no reason to justify having such high internal bandwidth implemented in a camera just to buffer up all of the extra data, only to blend it all back together for a still photograph (since doing anything else with all that data would comically overwhelm the memory card interface), and the scenarios in which this would be valuable are ultra-rare.",0 +7391,"How do I tell my friends not to post my previews ?. I don't do any commercial work yet, I just do shootings with friends but it happened to me several times that they posted my previews. +I usually give them access to my cloud, let them choose a couple of their favourites, edit them and then they can use those however they please but my previews are....well previews. It's unfinished works. They are compressed jpegs and I don't want people thinking that that's what my finished work looks like. +How do I tell that to my friends ? Should I even tell them or just watermark them so they aren't even tempted to ?",0 +7392,"Okay to ask to do event photos as an hobby photographer?. I need some advice. + +I am hobby photographer. I typical shoot in the city, what I think looks intresting, and I love to do nighttime photography. I still go to school and last year I took a few pictures at an event at my old school. It was a lot of fun and now I want repeat it at my new school. However I am not sure if it is okay/appropriate to ask to do something like that? (Because I am ""new"" at that school, this year is already past 3/4 of the year, but I was one of the new, comig from another school, students) + +I do not have that much experience in shooting photos of people or events, but I would really love to learn it and I believe this could give me an opportunity to learn. + +Anyway what do you think? Tips and tricks for photography, in particular this kind, are also very much welcome!",0 +7393,"Do you think long focal lenses are as unflatering as wide angle lenses ?. Edit : I'm rewriting the post as I've seen some out of subject answers. + +Do you think a long lens, and the side effect of using one such as widening of the jaw/neck, flatness/boxiness of the body,etc.. can be unflatering to someone, in a similar way a wide angle can be (more prominent nose, narrowing of the jaw/neck, exacerbated proportions nears the edge of the frame), compared to a more normal focal length (let's say around 50mm FF equivalent, for an upper body body shot), at a similar framing (so we don't compare environment portait at 24 with a close up on the face at 135, it's not the point) ?",0 +7394,"Am I allowed to post these photos without consent?. Okay, quick story time. Around 2 months ago I was hired for a model portfolio for a hair and makeup artist. There were 4 models total and I experimented with props and poses and some of the photos came out really well (btw I used my own studio for this shoot). I sent the makeup artist an online gallery with the images and she got back to me saying that she likes the photos, however, they're not what she wanted (I followed the brief exactly and she changed her initial brief). Anyway I said that I would redo the shoot in my studio again but in the meantime I have asked her if I can upload the images on my website and social media for my portfolio so I can maybe get more clients as the images were some of my best work. (Im a beginner photographer btw). She keeps ghosting me whenever I ask and keeps saying 'shell ask the models she hired'. Its been a couple weeks since I last asked and Im getting quite impatient. Now my question is: Can I upload these photos without her permission since she is not buying them?",0 +7395,"Does time shooting with phone cameras count as shooting experience?. I feel like I've seen a bit of discourse about this general topic (not necessarily on this Reddit, sort of just floating around the internet in general), as in, if camera photography is ""real"" photography, and that you aren't really shooting if you're using a phone camera. I was wondering what the opinion here is; does time shooting with phone cameras count as shooting experience? Or do you only really grow as a photographer when you pick up an actual camera? In my opinion, it depends on how intentional you are with the phone camera; are you doing any editing (not that editing is quintessential to being a good photographer, just an example however of what many photographers usually do to demonstrate dedication/desire for a better end product), are you putting effort into making good compositions/getting specifically good shots, etc.? I've found that some people can have actual cameras and their pictures can still turn out mediocre, but I believe it's more a matter of the artist than their medium.",0 +7396,"How to Understand Art/Photography?. Hello everyone! I come to you with a question that has always confused me. Coming from a photographers POV, I have lately been uninspired with my photos and dissatisfied with any current as well as my past work. From my own ""research"" I have come across the idea that I should be looking at famous photography and paintings with the goal of understanding why I like them. I should be looking at the art and analyzing why I like these specific pieces. But what does that actually mean? + +​ + +One example of this idea comes from the Roger and James Deakins podcast *Team Deakins*. [In this podcast episode](https://open.spotify.com/episode/3BQG0aSJFc4mem4QJAhrk0?si=b6c2902710994f25)(around the 50:50 mark), Roger's son mentions how he started photography and was unsatisfied, but after looking at other's work, he saw how they used different compositional techniques and he took what he liked from their work to improve his own. + +​ + +In another example,[in this Youtube Video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tREOeneo7gY) from Nerdwriter1, he takes a deep look into Leonardo da Vinci's painting, *The Virgin and Child with St. Anne*. He looks at different compositional techniques, different factors that make up the painting, and I just wonder, how do people do this? + +​ + +Over the last few months, I've acquired a few photo books. I can look through them and be stunned by some of the photographs. I can look surface level and see some of the compositional rules in them, look at the light and the subject, but I don't know how to look at them further and really understand why I like them or how to use what I see in my own work. Am I just unimaginative? + +​ + +I suppose my question comes down to a few simple things. How do you look at a piece of art, understand why you like it, whether it is the style of light, composition techniques(leading lines, rule of thirds), or that it's just a good photograph/painting with a good subject? How do you extract what makes that piece of art speak to you, what makes it ""work"" and put it into use in your own photography/artistic process?",0 +7397,"I'm wanting to work toward hosting an exhibit for my photos. I'm not sure where to begin.. I recently began exploring the idea of hosting an exhibit for my shots at some point in the next year. I'd love to open the exhibit a studio in my neighborhood, and it's something I'm eager to work toward. However, it's such a new concept to me that I'm not entirely sure where to begin or what to do. + +For instance, I recently began selling my prints last fall. I've had a few sales which makes me glad—and I have plenty of work to do—but it was a nice step in the right direction. Ideally, I'd love to commit to the exhibit idea within the next year to build my portfolio, talent, etc. + +I've read articles on where to start, but I suppose I'm looking for a more personal touch. Do you have any experience with an exhibit/gallery? I'd love to hear your stories on how you got there.",0 +7398,"Questions regarding contract clause on photo ownership. I sent a client a contract for a paid portrait photoshoot, and she asked me to add a clause that states ""**the client owns rights to photos worldwide and in perpetuity**"". I asked her to clarify what she meant by this, and she said ""what would happen if I would like to use one of the photos in a magazine, but they don't allow for the name of the photographer in order to be published? I would obviously like to use these photos for a range of uses, not just for social media, but am wondering how you navigate things like that? And does that include all of the unedited photos as well?"" + +A few questions: + +* Any suggestions on what is standard process here? Does the photographer typically own rights to the photos, or the client? +* Should I stipulate that in cases where the photo will be printed in publication / for commercial use without credit, that requires written consent and possibly additional pay? +* Part of the photo package grants the client unedited photos from the shoot, but that was primarily just for selection of final photos to edit. Should I not be granting rights to these unedited photos to the client? +* Are there any good platforms to better understand contract writing for photographers? + +\------ + +**Edit: thanks everyone for the great responses.** Since I think it might be helpful for other photographers out there, I sent the following response to the client: + +*""In most freelance situations, the photographer retains ownership and copyright, and licenses images to the client for specific uses beyond personal use (social media, web, prints not for retail). Editorial publication (magazine, newspaper) or commercial usage (product packaging, advertising campaigns) would require a photo license agreement, in which we stipulate the usage terms of the photo and the additional cost, as the package price includes the cost of the session and use of pictures for personal use only. The license takes into account how long the image will be used for, the print size, and its geographic distribution.*  +*A full buyout as you’re mentioning entails a transfer of the copyright and the client’s ability to use the images for any purpose without written consent and has a much steeper cost involved per image - though it’s typically not very useful for portraits since people look quite different over time. All of this applies to the edited and unedited images. So we have a few options:* + +* *List the use cases of the images in the contract (if you know what you’ll be using them for) after determining a fee for each use case* +* *Write up a photo license agreement at a later time, after you receive the images and need to use them for things other than social media / website / personal prints* +* *Discuss a full rights buyout* + +*Let me know which option you think is best for you, and ask any questions!""* + + +She responded that she'd be happy to go with the second option, signed the contract, and we're ready for our shoot next weekend. :)",0 +7399,"Projects for 2022. The new year is soon upon us and hopefully more photography is in our future. I'd love to hear what long term projects or specific image series you are working on in 2022. + +Of all my projects the ones I'm going to be working on the most in the next year will be (I like to name my projects for some reason): + +1. Bugtraits - portraits of insects +2. Secret life of trees - ""intimate"" shots of trees +3. Unnamed book - me and a friend working on a photographer/poetry book where he bounces of my photography and I of his poetry. + +So /r/photography what are you doing next year?",0 +7400,"Ideas for tribute with an archive starting from 1985. I lost my grandfather recently, a man I always admire and respect. He started recording and taking photos almost 40 years ago, back in his 20s. He recently uploaded most of his stuff on google drive so I have an enormous archive. Like most photographers, he didn't really have anyone to film him so he rarely appears in this archive. I want to create something for him, that will allow me to move on and pay my respects, but I am unsure of what to do. I am open to any idea that is creative. + + +Thank you so much for your help in advance",0 +7401,"Advice for someone who wants to get back into Photoshop. I love photography, and as such have used Photoshop a lot at one time. + +However, I've had a rather LOOOOOONG hiatus where my photography has been in hibernation and which has just started to emerge again. As a result, my Photoshop skills are rather rusty. + +I know the best way to learn is to practice, but given how complex a software like Photoshop is, does anyone know anyplace online that can offer good Photoshop tutorials?",0 +7402,"Salty Saturday: September 17, 2022. Need to rant about something in the photography world? Here’s your safe space to be as salty as you want without judgement. + +Get it all* off your chest! + +*Let’s just keep the personal attacks and witch hunts out of it, k? + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7403,"An unsolicited recommendation for Topaz Gigapixel AI (much improved now). I'm a photo restorer and photography enthusiast who uses Photoshop and related 3rd party plugins. A family member recently passed and I was working with a lot of old blurry family photos, sometimes damaged, to assemble a memorial photo collage of their life. + +A few years ago, I bought Topaz Gigapixel AI. I bought it because their demo was amazing but, in practice, I found it did not work as well on actual low resolution photos I had, but read on. + +My opinion was that, for their demos, Topaz may have taken high res originals and made them low resolution through downsizing and JPG compression, then used those as their source material to have the machine learning software make a high resolution result. Since the low resolution image was a result of algorithmic deterioration, the ML algorithms did a better job reversing the process on those than real-world scans and source materials. + +For this project, I had some desirable photos that were just too blurry. A free update to Gigapixel was available to me since I had purchased it a while back, so I ran the update. + +I have to say the product is **much improved**. In particular, the facial reconstruction is pretty amazing. + +As you may know, reconstructing faces can be challenging. For those not familiar with the subject the work may look acceptable, but it may be hideous to those familiar with the person since our brains are very attuned to subtle facial cues and immediately see something is off. Since I was dealing with people I've known most of my life, my bar for accuracy in facial reconstruction was very high. + +Topaz Gigapixel AI did an amazing job on some pretty blurry pictures I scanned from old 4"" snapshots at 600dpi then ran through Gigapixel. Yes, the images become HUGE. Sure, you can still overdo the settings if you turn it up to 11. In one shot where I really cranked up the AI, an older female relative of the deceased ended up looking like a very ugly man in drag (yikes!). In another, eyes seemed to be looking in two directions a little. Still, when used with a little moderation the results are stunning. + +Consider this a great tool to blow up the picture, use machine learning to fill in detail, and then reduce image size again so it's more appropriate for display on high resolution screens or photo reprints. Sure, it's making up data, but it's somehow also getting it right. + +If you tried Gigapixel AI before and weren't all that impressed or haven't upgraded, give it a try or trial again. If you have never tried it, I recommend considering it for your photo restoration arsenal. Topaz offers trials so there is no need to risk your hard earned money until you see what it does with your own eyes. + +I'm not affiliated with Topaz in any way, and my comments here are based on experience using the software paid for with my own money.",0 +7404,"Story time: Was I too pushy with client? (Band photography). This is a question I’d like to know to learn from. +A band (not unknown but not superstar status) going on tour posted on Craigslist asking for a photographer for their show that night, saying they’ll give $150 and any guest passes for edited photos the next day. I took up their offer. + +Now, I’ve listened to a couple of their songs before because I like that genre so I’ve emailed them before asking to photograph them. No response, but nothing unusual. I responded to their Craigslist ad for the show that same day. No response, nor did they open the email (I have a gmail tracker). I messaged them on insta and about a couple hours before the show they responded and said they’ll put me on the guest list (they still had not opened the email.) Another thing to note is that the guitarist is the “manager” per say and they don’t have a dedicated manager or agent. + +The show went fine and I got great photos. Through insta, they messaged me with an email for sending photos and business transactions. After the show that night, I emailed saying I enjoyed the show and I’ll edit and send the photos by tomorrow afternoon. I put my Venmo in the email saying they can pay me when they choose to. (The email was read but no response, but nothing unusual). + +The next day, I finish editing and send half my photos to the email by afternoon, saying I’ll send the other half after payment. No response and left on seen. I message their guitarist on insta and am left on seen after a couple Hours. I don’t like to be a nosy guy and assume they’re busy on tour so I leave it for a day. + +After a day goes by, I message again, saying “friendly reminder that I’ve got the photos and I’ll send the rest with payment.” Left on seen. + +After another alternate day, I message and say “Hey (name), I’m wondering if I’m going to be compensated for my time, need some communication.” He finally replies and says “I’ll hit you up tonight about that, in transit” + +At 11pm I shoot a message “hey you free to talk business?” No response and seen the next day. + +An alternate day goes by and i send another message “Yo dawg understand you’re busy, just Venmo me @ ____ or Zelle @ ———- and I’ll send over all the photos.” Left on seen. That night I message “Hey ___, need some communication here man, really expecting to hear back from photographing the show.” + +Replies with “Yes I’ll send Venmo tomorrow sorry!” Tomorrow goes by and no response. + +I send a final email with the drive with all the photos and saying “If you see this, if you could take the 5 minutes to Venmo the stated payment for coming out to the show. I apologize if I've seemed pushy, I just intended for this to be a professional and quick business exchange, since I do have expenses to pay and this isn't something I can just let go. It's nothing personal, I'd just like some faster responses so I can close out clients.” Then I close out with a wish a great rest of the tour to the band. + +Finally the next morning I get my payment, a week after sending the photos. + +Was I too pushy on my part or unprofessional?",0 +7405,"Wireless comms for photographers: Hollyland Solidcom C1 hands-on review. I realise this is rather niche but those who work on larger shoots know how useful it is to have wireless comms between the photographer and other members of the crew. I’ve been in situations where there are several assistants with whom I need to stay in constant communication over a large set, and other times I’ve found myself shooting from a hard to reach vantage point and wanting to have a direct line of communication with an art director who was viewing the images I was shooting via a wireless monitor. In those situations I’ve used walkie-talkies which I’ve always found a bit cumbersome, or sometimes we would put in our AirPods and just keep a phone line open. Neither of those solutions are ideal so I was keen to try out the new Hollyland Solidcom C1 system which consists of lightweight headsets that do not require separate radio unit, base station or cell signal. + +Full disclosure, I was sent these specifically for the purposes of reviewing them. I am not being paid and Hollyland don’t get to see what I write before posting. + + +**In the box** + +The system I was sent was the [‘3-Set’](https://i.imgur.com/vGP1Kv5.jpg) which [consists](https://i.imgur.com/33CLwyB.jpg) of one Master headset (red badge) and two Remote headsets (blue badge). There are also sets of two, four, and six headsets that all work without a base, and they sell an 8 headset kit that does require a base station. + +The 3-set system comes in a solid [zippered hard case](https://i.imgur.com/EegylCo.jpg) with each headset in its own [pouch](https://i.imgur.com/KQ4UIh1.jpg) and some extra space for the included charger and accessories. The case also contains [3 sets](https://i.imgur.com/HA5pkG1.jpg) of replacement foam cushions for both the earpiece and the microphone, as well as 3 over-ear leather cushions which clip on easily and securely. I found these to be small and light but comfortable, although they do of course get a lot hotter than the smaller on-ear foam cushions. + +There is also a set of black / red / blue number stickers to help tell headsets apart. + +**Batteries & charging** + + +Each system comes with 2 batteries per headset, so my 3-set system came with six batteries which are [tiny](https://i.imgur.com/38DxXCm.jpg), lightweight, 700mAh units. Hollyland claims a runtime of around 10 hours for the remote headsets, which I found to be accurate in my testing. The battery life of the Master headset depends on the number of remote headsets in the system, but it seemed to be around 7 hours on my 2 remote system. Hollyland claim around 6 hours for 3 remotes and 5 hours for 5 remotes. What this comes down to is that you’ll be able to do a 10 hour day with the included batteries, only one battery swap during the day, and no charging. If you charge one set while using the other, you could go on indefinitely. + +The charger is one of the best I’ve seen, with a super [compact and solid design](https://i.imgur.com/k6VN313.jpg) that charges 4 batteries at once over USB-C. It comes with a cable but no mains-to-USB converter. I have plenty of those around so I didn’t care but if you want the kit to be complete you’ll need to add a mains-to-USB converter. The charger being USB does mean you can also charge the batteries from any USB battery bank, which could be handy in the field. + +**Design & build quality** + +The headsets seem about as compact as they can be without using any additional hardware such as a base station. They feel really solid for their size, with a leather covered metal headband. There are several hex screws so they seem very repairable. + +One side of the headset holds the speaker, buttons, and microphone attachment. The other side just holds the battery and has a soft pad. I was most comfortable with the pad sitting directly on my skull just above my ear, but you could put it over your ear if you needed to block out some sound. + +The headsets don’t have a left or right side - you can use them either way and just flip the microphone in the right direction. Having the earpiece on the right felt natural for me, but on a longer day it was nice to be able to switch it up. + +The microphone side has the on / off switch at the bottom of the earpiece, and four rubber push buttons on the side. The top and bottom ones are for turning the volume up or down, and the ‘up’ button is larger than all the others which helps you find everything by touch. The other two buttons are marked A and B, and I never needed either of them. The A button puts the headset into pairing mode, which is only necessary when adding an additional headset to your kit. The B button is only used when using 6 or more headsets in conjunction with a base station. Long story short in daily use there is just on/off and volume up/down. Nice and simple. + +To round out the interface there is a small indicator LED next to the microphone that shows you if your headset is connected (solid green), Disconnected (flashing green), or running low on battery (flashing red). Again, nice and simple. + +**Setup** + +Setting up the system was as easy as taking them out of the packaging and switching them on. Everything pairs automatically and is just ready to go immediately. If you ever need to add more headsets to your system you can pair them manually with one button push. One Master headsets can be paired with up to 5 Slave headsets, or more if you use a hub. + +**In use** + +For me, the best comms system is one you don’t notice at all. When I’m shooting I want to direct all my attention to the creative process, with as few distractions as possible. This is what often bugged me about other solutions like walkie-talkies or AirPods: Every time I need to push a button, or every time the connection is broken, that’s a distraction. The worst are old fashioned walkie-talkies that are not full duplex, meaning only one person can talk at a time. + +I’m happy to say that the Solidcom C1 headsets just get out of the way and do their work. You switch them on at the start of the day, the connection is live all day long without any interruptions except maybe to change the battery once. I didn’t need to push any buttons all day other than the volume buttons. + +A nice touch is that you can mute your microphone by simply flipping it up so it’s away from your mouth. I found this to be intuitive and quick, and it helps that others can tell from a distance whether you are muted or not. + +I also tried switching a single headset out of the three off for a while and then joining the party again later. When I did this, everything paired up again seamlessly. + +**Audio quality** + +The audio was clear and crisp. The headsets go pretty loud but don’t not to ear bleeding levels, so we thought that maybe in very loud environments they might not cut it. then again this is a function of the single earpiece design more than of the actual volume, and in a loud environment like a concert venue I would probably use an earplug in my other ear. + +We found that it was important to place the microphone correctly, just below the mouth, to avoid breathing noises. + +**Range** + +First used the C1 system during a shoot that took place on a [beach](https://i.imgur.com/MDXpqru.jpg) and in the surrounding [dunes](https://i.imgur.com/04GeiGk.jpg). In this open, clear line-of-sight environment the range seemed to be well north of the stated 1000ft / 350 meter distance (yes I know 1000ft is actually 305 meter but that’s what they say on their website. I guess you get some extra range if you don’t use freedom units). + +On a subsequent shoot were in a city environment, and again as long as there was line of sight the range was well over 300 meters. + +In both cases though, the range gets drastically impaired when line of sight is obstructed. Within the first 100 meters or so the signal blasts through doors, walls, human bodies, and cars without any problems. But once you get to 200 meters and above, even a single layer of obstruction can cause the signal to break up. Usually this is not too bad, and the headsets never actually seem to lose connection, but it just shows that you can have long range or great penetration but not both. + +**Competition** + +Similar systems like the Eartec Comstar XT-4S, Eartec UL4S UltraLITE, and Came-TV Waero have been on the market for a while. I haven’t had an opportunity to use these so I can’t comment on them, except to say that some of these are more affordable than the Solidcom C1 system so if budget is a major factor for you they’re worth looking into. + + +**Verdict** + +If you’re in the market for a full duplex wireless headset system, this seems to be a good option. I couldn’t really fault them for anything, they just get out of the way and work, sound great, and have huge range. I personally really like the design and solid, compact construction. They seem like they can take a beating and Hollyland have a solid reputation for wireless transmitters in the video world so I would trust these to hold up in the long term.",0 +7406,"Do you prefer to display photo prints or wall art in your home?. We have all experienced a moment when we got our own room as a child or student, our first apartment or home as an adult, when we had to decide how to make this space feel unique, specifically by using the real estate that is the walls. While hanging a few photos of family and friends, a new band or movie poster as a teenager always seemed normal, I'd like to hear from people with more experience about what they prefer in their homes today. Do you usually go for artwork, both paintings and stock images, or framed photos on the walls of your home? + +​ + +When I was younger, hanging artwork in my room, from drawings made by friends and paintings from local art exhibitions to movie posters (mostly older ones), was always special. It felt like it defined who I am. Even at 30 now, I still get one or two [wall art](https://www.elephantstock.com/) pieces here yearly, mainly for my office. Nevertheless, I started feeling like a more personal touch was needed in the house I live in with my family. + +​ + +Furthermore, while hanging actual art made by professionals is always better, these can get pretty expensive. On the other hand, stock wall art is cheaper and often looks great, but you have to filter through all the plain-looking ones to find something really unique. For example, the last one I bought was a collage of a Japanese mountain for just about $50, which looks almost as good as something an artist would paint for much more. + +​ + +I should also mention my love for displaying movie posters. While I used to collect these from older movies (I paid $10 at most for one), I don't really have the freedom of stacking them up nowadays, and only own one in the office from Tarantino's latest film, which did a great job of recreating a beautiful-looking poster from the 60s (Once upon a time in Hollywood). + +​ + +Nowadays, I mostly buy photo prints for the birthdays of close friends and family after getting into it with my wife. We started with a small canvas print in the living room and then added a panoramic photo of our family in the bedroom. The latter was taken by a professional, so it looks great, especially on a higher-quality canvas. + +​ + +To sum up, while I started preferring photo prints for my home as I got older, I've always loved collecting and displaying artwork and posters on my walls when I was younger. What do you guys prefer, and why?",0 +7407,"Self-Promotion Sunday: June 05, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + +**This is not the place to just drop a link to your website, social media profile, or portfolio. We have dedicated threads for those purposes.** + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7408,"Do you have Lightroom set to generate XMP files?. The catalog setting ""Automatically write changes to XMP"" is turned off by default. From what I can see online this is 'for performance reasons"" but most of those posts are also several years old. + +Turning it on would provide an extra layer of backup beyond the regular whole catalog backup. + +What do you do? Have you noticed a performance hit?",0 +7409,"Shooting my first BTS on a film set - any advice appreciated!. So I've for the past year or so I've been pushing myself to put myself out there & start shooting some freelance work, and I've got my first gig shooting BTS on a short film set, they know that i'm early in my career, but it's a whole new environment to me as every shoot up to this point has been just myself & the client, so I've had lots of flexibility & control - rather than an active film set which I'm navigating round. + +Anyone who's got experience in BTS shooting, any advice is appreciated; etiquette, general tips & tricks, i'm all ears! + +Thanks in advance :)",0 +7410,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: February 05, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7411,"Discussion: What is a sharp photo?. Not what makes a sharp photo, but rather what do people consider sharp? How do you classify a photo as sharp? How far do you zoom in to see if it's sharp? How much detail is enough? + +I know this is very dependent on the media and also personal preference but I'm curious what people think.",0 +7412,"RAW vs. JPEG. I have a Sony A6400 that I’ve been shooting with for about a year. I shoot RAW+JPEG because I’ve read about how much flexibility RAW gives you in edit. + +My thought process for editing was to start with the JPEGs and kinda use the RAW files as “insurance”. For example if I under or overexposed an image. + +However, after going back to the RAW files for some of the photos I was not happy with I really wasn’t able to recover too much more from the RAW files. So I guess I am asking is if JPEG has started to close the gap so the difference you get in RAW isn’t what it used to be or if I’m just not very good at editing?",0 +7413,"Question for professional family photographers. So we recently hired a family photographer for Christmas photos. We have done this in the past for maternity shoots, newborn photos, etc. we recently moved and this is our first time working with a new photographer. I paid a $75 deposit and then paid in full prior to her even sending the photos. When the photos arrived they were watermarked. I assumed this was in error since I’d already paid. Our photographer is saying it’s not an error and then she’s been “burned in the past” by people entering her photos in contests as their own. She said if we want prints she can send them to Walmart for us and we just pay for the photos. But… I’d like them for digital sharing to social media as well. Plus, what if I want more prints in the future and can’t get ahold of her? She sent the watermarked photos along with the release at the same time… so I didn’t sign anything ahead of time agreeing to this. Signing the release also doesn’t make her remove the watermark. She said it’s hardly noticeable but it IS very noticeable. What do you guys think? + +Edit: wow! Thank you all for your replies! I know nothing about photography- the art or the business so I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t crazy here. I am going to summarize your very helpful points and responses. Maybe even write it as a suggestion list for her in the future. Ie: IF you watermark, it needs to be barely noticeable, in the corner, and only on versions that you send for online publishing. You also need to send large format non watermarked photos for printing purposes. And, yes, I know Walmart is crap for printing. I’d never use them. I think using this photographer may have been a life lesson. Not a crazy expensive one, but one that stings a little.",0 +7414,"Wins Wednesday: November 16, 2022. **Time for some positivity!** + +Have you had any recent photography wins? Share them here! +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7415,"Official Raw Exchange Thread: September 17, 2022. In this thread, use top level comments to post links to your own raws for other people to edit, or link to any freely licensed (CC or public domain) raws that you might find interesting. + +Reply to others' comments with your own edits of the images! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7416,"How do you get more comfortable around clients?. I would really love to take photography more seriously but I am an extremely awkward person; like, painfully, especially when I don’t know someone well. I don’t know how to talk to people, or tell people how to pose. It’s the only thing really stopping me from making it a career.",0 +7417,"Anything Goes Monday: August 15, 2022. What are you up to? Share with your e-friends! What's that shiny new piece of equipment? + +Show off cool photography-related stuff you've created or experienced here in the comments of this post! We want to see and discuss your pictures, videos, website... anything, really! + +If you've got interesting links to stuff created by someone else, we'd love to discuss that too! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7418,"Anything Goes Monday: July 25, 2022. What are you up to? Share with your e-friends! What's that shiny new piece of equipment? + +Show off cool photography-related stuff you've created or experienced here in the comments of this post! We want to see and discuss your pictures, videos, website... anything, really! + +If you've got interesting links to stuff created by someone else, we'd love to discuss that too! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7419,"Monthly Follow Thread: July 08, 2022. **Let's show each other some support!** This is our monthly follow thread. + +* If you post your stream, please take a look at other people's streams! +* You can give us your Instagram, 500px, Flickr, etc. etc. and remember you can edit your flair. +* Be descriptive, don't just dump your username and leave! For example a good post should look like this: + +> Hi! I'm [@brianandcamera](http://instagram.com/brianandcamera). I mainly post portraiture and landscapes, but there's the odd bit of concert/event photography as well. + +> I'll follow everyone from /r/photography back (if I miss you, just leave a comment telling me you're from reddit!). + +Check out and engage with other /r/photography people! Community is what it's all about! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7420,"Do you care about image quality and dynamic range in website galleries?. I'm thinking about a project and before I think about it more, I'd like to get some feedback. + +If you were to upload your images to a service, would you be perfectly happy to upload high quality JPEGs, or are you the sort of person that wants to upload a TIF? + +Edit: I guess I’m asking something like “do you care about losing bit depth and having your images re-compressed, or are you are you not really bothered?”",0 +7421,"Photographers, how did you pick your wedding photographer?. There's the SEO-optimized incoherent toplists of local vendors. + +There's listing sites with no useful search/sort/filter tools to get through the 1000 contenders. + +Based on the hundreds I have clicked on already, (ok, only 50) I have established a simple criteria of ""sky not blown out"" and ""colors not muted."" I do not fancy myself better than any of these folks, I don't photograph people and I don't work fast. I have no idea what their constraints are. I just had higher expectations. + +How'd you do it?! Curate the contenders, then weigh their portfolios? While avoiding having the wedding called off on account of ""being too picky?"" + +^()",0 +7422,"The Solarcan Puck is a tiny, reusable extreme time exposure camera. ",0 +7423,"Self-Promotion Sunday: April 17, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + +**This is not the place to just drop a link to your website, social media profile, or portfolio. We have dedicated threads for those purposes.** + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7424,I need some advice photographing posters. I need to photograph a large quantity of vintage movie posters. These posters vary in size from your standard college wall posters to huge bus stop posters. The trouble I'm having is that they're rolled up or have been folded so getting them to stay completely flat has been a challenge. I want to stay away from adhesives since they're vintage and clips can leave marks if the poster is printed on a thicker paper. I'm just trying to avoid any kind of damage and would like to do my best to not cover any part of the poster since there are some markings on the edge that denote authenticity. Any ideas?,0 +7425,"Monthly Gearporn Thread: January 20, 2022. **This thread is where you can show off what you've acquired this past month.** + +Make us green with envy! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7426,"What are your personal safety measures when shooting alone at night in the middle of nowhere?. I saw [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/s3it6i/how_much_are_you_willing_to_risk_your_personal/) post, and thought I'd ask you, since I'm planning on visiting a lot of secluded spots in my country, when the Milky Way season begins. + +Me and a mate have been planning it for a couple of weeks now, but when I asked him what we would do in an encounter with wildlife or thieves or some crazy dude/group, he didn't give much of an answer besides making little jokes. + +You know, it's all fun and jokes and beers and laughs and jaw-dropping views up in the mountains (or any spot that isn't crowed for that matter), until you find yourself in trouble. + +What would you do/carry to protect yourself and the thousands of dollars worth of gear you have with you? + +Edit: although being the most popular answer, any type of firearm is off-limits.",0 +7427,"Storm/cloud light chasers: any references for tracking weather patterns to catch potential photography opportunities?. Hi there, +I was wondering if anyone had references or websites that help in predicting what type of cloud patterns might be in the sky based on current weather/wind patterns (example: probability of lenticular clouds at sunset)",0 +7428,"MMA Photography: Shooting cageside and trying to focus on the fighters, not the cage.. Hello, tonight I will be photographing my first MMA event cageside. I won’t be perched above the cage, but rather on the side of it and I’m curious as to how other MMA photographers keep focus on fighters rather than the cage? + +I am using a Sony a7iii with a Sigma 24-70 f/2.8. I planned on using continuous focus with zone area focusing. Don’t know if anyone would suggest another setting! + +Just wanted to see if anyone had some tips for a beginner in MMA photography. Thanks!",0 +7429,"Cold and dry to hot and humid transition. Hello everyone! + + +I have a bit of a problematic situation. For some bird photography I will be shooting in a greenhouse with a high temperature (>25°C) and high humidity (\~100%). However, currently it is cold and relatively dry outside so I expect that the transition will take a toll on the objective and camera. Is there anything I can do to protect my equipment or make the transition easier? So far my plans are: + +​ + +\- Warm up the equipment under a dry heat blower before entering (available at entry) + +\- After shooting placing the equipment in an airtight container with silica gel + +​ + +I appreciate all advice!",0 +7430,Is anyone selling their photography on Shopify?. I'm feeling very stuck on how to implement selling large amounts of photography on Shopify and just hoping there are some other photographers out there willing to share their experiences and expertise. Thanks!,0 +7431,"Portraits Without an Assistant. I’ma young photographer and I hope to be a professional some day. I’m starting to try to step up my portrait game, so I’ve started looking into reflectors and external flash, but I’m wondering if anyone has advice about using reflectors specifically without an assistant? Sure it comes with a stand but I don’t want to get vampire lighting on their face, but without an assistant to hold the reflector up high for better lighting angle I don’t know what to do. Is this something I need to be concerned about? Is it okay to ever ask for a client’s assistance in holding that (eg. the mom of a senior photoshoot) or is that unprofessional?",0 +7432,"Monthly Follow Thread: November 08, 2022. **Let's show each other some support!** This is our monthly follow thread. + +* If you post your stream, please take a look at other people's streams! +* You can give us your Instagram, 500px, Flickr, etc. etc. and remember you can edit your flair. +* Be descriptive, don't just dump your username and leave! For example a good post should look like this: + +> Hi! I'm [@brianandcamera](http://instagram.com/brianandcamera). I mainly post portraiture and landscapes, but there's the odd bit of concert/event photography as well. + +> I'll follow everyone from /r/photography back (if I miss you, just leave a comment telling me you're from reddit!). + +Check out and engage with other /r/photography people! Community is what it's all about! + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7433,Unexpected turn of events: TikTok adds support for still images. ,0 +7434,"What sparked your love for photography?. I'm sure this question has been asked thousands of times, but I'm be interested in knowing your story. + +For me, I think the image that initially sparked my interest in photography was the Windows XP wallpaper, Bliss. That photo just possesses me with a feeling I cannot describe every time I look at it, a conflicting combination of happiness, sadness, safety, contentedness and uncertainty, almost on par with liminal spaces. I've always wanted to recreate an unexplainable feeling like that, so I got into photography. + +I initially would just shoot landscapes, but as I got my DSLR (Canon 200D / Sigma 18-35) and really got into it, I started to branch out. I now take photos of anything I see fit, however landscapes are still my #1 and I still hope that one day, I will be able to recreate that feeling that Bliss gives to me and so many others. + +So now I'd like to hear what sparked your love for photography, feel free to add any extra details!",0 +7435,"Salty Saturday: August 27, 2022. Need to rant about something in the photography world? Here’s your safe space to be as salty as you want without judgement. + +Get it all* off your chest! + +*Let’s just keep the personal attacks and witch hunts out of it, k? + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7436,"Photoshoots with models in non-traditional settings. I'm wondering if anybody has done any sort of photoshoot in any sort of non-traditional setting--for example in a grocery store or office building. If so, how did it go? I'm considering the possibility of trying to set up a short shoot in some place like that with a local model.",0 +7437,"Bought a better camera and my photos got worse. I ungraded from my Nikon d5600 to the Nikon z6ii about 3 months ago and I feel like my photography skills have gotten a lot worse. + +I know it’s half because I’m not as used the new camera and the new camera has more options and settings but has anyone else had this problem? + +And how long did it take for you to get used to your new camera?",0 +7438,"what is your post-processing workflow?. I'm curious to understand what other people here do. I shoot with a DSLR so I first copy all the photos from an SD card to an external hard drive. I have a My Photos folder with subfolders for each major event that I'm taking photos. If no event, then I'll just create a folder that says ""Sony DSLR 6-23-22"" + +After copying all the folders, I'll import them into Lightroom Classic, put 5 stars for any photos I want to keep and then do some light post processing. This is usually auto + some boosts in clarity or saturation. Then I'll export the 5 starred photos into JPG with 80% quality and then upload them to Google Photos. + +​ + +This is fairly time consuming as I feel Lightroom on Mac is slow. It's easily over 1 hour to cover all the photos on a 3 day trip. As life has gotten busier I wish there was a way to do this faster. I kind of like how Google Photos auto syncs with my photos folder on iOS making it really easy to share photos online with others. No more copying from SD cards to slow hard drives. No more waiting around forever for Lightroom to load them in. + +​ + + How much shooting do you do on DSLR vs phones? What is your workflow for each of these sitautions?",0 +7439,"Self-Promotion Sunday: June 12, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + +**This is not the place to just drop a link to your website, social media profile, or portfolio. We have dedicated threads for those purposes.** + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7440,"Cleaning camera equipment and lenses. I often take my camera (Canon 80D) and a couple lenses with me when I go out on my boat to go fishing or to go relax on the sandbar. I bring the camera and lenses in a pelican case and usually don’t switch lenses but sometimes do. I’m pretty cautious about getting the camera wet or sandy but sometimes stuff happens. Having lived near the ocean my entire life, I’m well aware of how corrosive the salt air is, even for things that don’t get wet. + +I’m curious how you all recommend cleaning my equipment after use? What I’ve been doing is using an air blower (the squeeze type) to get sand off then using a cotton q-tip dipped in 99% isopropyl alcohol to clean all metal contacts. Is there anything else I should be doing or does anyone think what I’m doing could be bad for my gear?",0 +7441,"On film simulation. Do you guys simulate film photography? Do you think it takes away from the photo itself or as self-expression through post-processing? +I have been tinkering with some presets from Jamie Windsor (amazing youtuber, definitely worth checking out) and to my surprise, it has been an amazing experience so far. The presets give me a solid foundation to move the sliders around so that I can get the exact look I want from films. +Personally I really enjoy film simulation and will probably keep with it for a while. Just want to hear what yall have to say on this matter.",0 +7442,"Salty Saturday: January 22, 2022. Need to rant about something in the photography world? Here’s your safe space to be as salty as you want without judgement. + +Get it all* off your chest! + +*Let’s just keep the personal attacks and witch hunts out of it, k? + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7443,"Self-Promotion Sunday: January 02, 2022. Have something you’ve worked on and want to share with the community? Here’s the place to do so! + +Feel free to drop links to your recent YouTube videos, podcasts, photobooks, or whatever else it is you’ve created. + +*This is not the place to just drop a link to your social media or portfolio. We have dedicated threads for those purposes.* + + +____ +**Weekly Community Threads:** + +Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Friday | Saturday | Sunday +:--------:|:--------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------:|:---------: +Anything Goes | Album Share | Wins Wednesday | - | Salty Saturday | Self-Promotion Sunday + - | - | - | - | Raw Share | - + +**Monthly Community Threads:** + +8th | 14th | 20th +:--------:|:--------:|:---------: +Social Media Follow | Portfolio Critique | Gear Share",0 +7444,"Shadow practice for our student?. So we have school student who is coming to our studio to learn on a job, and I'd like to give him simple shadow practice to get familiar with studio lights and modifiers. I was thinking something simple as 'shoot three different shadows on this object', but what would be a good object (no eggs)? And what kind of shadows should I ask for? Hard shadow, soft shadow and what else? + +Maybe I'm running out of fumes at this time but my brain gives no feedback on this matter. + +Thank you for your time to answer and have a good new year!!! + +Edit. I'm product photographer so looking for product's/objects to do this exercise and what kind of shadows should I ask for from student.",0 +7445,"Why use AF-S autofocus at all?. A question: what's the point of AF-S? Seems to me like AF-C gives you the same functionality while also being able to compensate for movement of yourself or the subject if necessary. In short, AF-C does everything AF-S does ... and more.",0 +7446,"How do you share group photos?. Just got back from a trip and we took a bunch of photos as a group and I want to share plus be able for them to upload their pics. + +I know about different storage sites but wondering if there is one everyone prefers: easy, cheap. + +Thanks.",0 +7447,"Anyone specialise in interior/architectural photography but NOT a real estate photographer?. Seems like any time someone talks about doing interior or architectural photography on here, they are real estate photographers. No hate on the real estate guys, but I'd love to hear from folks in different niches. + +For example, I recently discovered a photographer from my hometown who specializes in photographing churches all around that part of the country. What's your niche?",0 +7448,"Do you take more care to get the shot with an SLR as much as you do with your phone camera?. Just wanted to know your thoughts on this. When I take out my slr to take photos i set up and try to get the perfect shots etc. But when I use my camera phone for a quick photo for memory sake i dont take the same amount of care. +Are you guys similar if its just for a snap and go?",0 +7449,"We should love cat, because cats are our friends, too. share my cute-girl. ​ + +https://preview.redd.it/228a26i06pm81.jpg?width=887&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=410a52a378f400f98908a7cf0bcc6364b2a194c2",0 +7450,They did the dog justice with this one. ,0 +7451,The elusive and not often photographed leopard spider 😮. ,0 +7452,"Yes, carry on. ",0 +7453,Guess the animal..🧐. ,0 +7454,We hear you hoomin!. ,0 +7455,Take me home bro. ,0 +7456,lazy buzzard. ,0 +7457,Making a trip to the vet look easy. ,0 +7458,Aww Lion Want Help!!!!. ,0 +7459,White tiger mother & her baby. very nice pic.. ,0 +7460,Wholesome Moment!!. ,0 +7461,Be courteous in front of the cat 🧎‍♀️🧎‍♂️. ,0 +7462,I'm helping. ,0 +7463,Patric. ,0 +7464,They are made for each other!!!. ,0 +7465,Your puny locks can't contain me. ,0 +7466,"OMG, so beautiful ❤️. ",0 +7467,absolute unit. ,0 +7468,I don't have friends tho. ,0 +7469,my cat waking me up. ,0 +7470,cute cat evolving Pokemon. ,0 +7471,What the hell Man!. ,0 +7472,Does it look like a big cat?. ,0 +7473,Just hired. ,0 +7474,How beautiful are these dogs،. ,0 +7475,😛💖 Am I cute?🥺🥰. ,0 +7476,hair stylist. ,0 +7477,This little boy is so adorable. ,0 +7478,Look at this cute icebear 😊. ,0 +7479,"not a race hoomans, just going home. ",0 +7480,Proud poodle mommy showing her little boy. ,0 +7481,cute baby otter eating lce .... ,0 +7482,the giraffe Let's eat❤️. ,0 +7483,cows giving their love to a cat. ,0 +7484,Such a fake tough guy 😂. ,0 +7485,I just have found this video and I need to share this. It's the sweetest video love the reaction of this little gentleman 😍😂. ,0 +7486,Its so f... cute. ,0 +7487,Everyone can use a bit of help sometimes. ,0 +7488,Jack Sparrow on the run.. 😅. ,0 +7489,Wonders why the air is so spicy?. ,0 +7490,cat sun panels. ,0 +7491,Realities of cat parenthood. ,0 +7492,"arborist crushed a Squirrel nest, only one survivor. mom is gone too, otherwise I would have left him outside by the trees. 3.5wks old, eyes still closed. ",0 +7493,"“I see hatred on the face of a ruthless murderer. I see humility on the face of a poor animal, who will die hopelessly after being brutally tortured. I see so many things but I don’t see “ART””. ",0 +7494,"Well, this cat just caught a fish that big enough to feed his whole family lol. ",0 +7495,"Pete, we have take-off. ",0 +7496,Me_irl. ,0 +7497,"O My dear, Please wait for me i m just coming to u...as fast as i can....😐. ",0 +7498,cat Game of thrones. ,0 +7499,Good morning. ,0 +7500,This cat thinks it also a Pitbull as it was grown with a Pitbull dog😂. ,0 +7501,"Hydrosaurus, aka the Sailfin Dragon, is found in the rainforests of the Philippines.. ",0 +7502,Kangaroo Shakes Human Who Saved Him.. ,0 +7503,Mommy cat and it's little kitty baby. ,0 +7504,Last elephant: bye human!. ,0 +7505,Cute Marmots Playing. ,0 +7506,Is he snowpuppy ?. ,0 +7507,Adorable 🥺. ,0 +7508,Baby raccoon. ,0 +7509,Now Click 📷📷📷. ,0 +7510,duck duck duck. ,0 +7511,Hawk visit. ,0 +7512,Bed time at the farm house!. ,0 +7513,He's pretty cut. ,0 +7514,Butterfly 🦋 Nice shot 😍. ,0 +7515,I didn't call you! Get out of here!. ,0 +7516,Happy dog. ,0 +7517,"My Sweet Rat Egg Playing ""Shopping Cart Flyball""!. ",0 +7518,"this little dude lost his home and went to my house yesterday, what should I do???. ",0 +7519,the cat offer. ,0 +7520,The fastest house ever built... ,0 +7521,My sweet pet rat Egg's first agility course including 4 weaves!. ,0 +7522,Best friends forever. ,0 +7523,Beautiful dog/wolfdog. ,0 +7524,Fox jumps on trampoline. ,0 +7525,Dog Time. ,0 +7526,cat russian naplette. ,0 +7527,halloween cat Photo Bomb. ,0 +7528,"A baby goat named Simba was recently born with 19-inches long ears (48 cm). Due to his extremely long ears, Simba could enter the Guinness Book of World Records and there are currently no goats that hold this record. simba is of the Nubian goat species, a breed of domestic goat who has the longest e. ",0 +7529,Not all bees are yellow or brown. This is a blue striped Australian Bee.. ,0 +7530,My pet rat Pickle is working on scent work - here she has to sniff out and fetch me the correct tiny wiffle ball!. ,0 +7531,A new neighbor this year on the farm. ,0 +7532,This animal is happier than me personally. ,0 +7533,Cat sleeping on a Pokemon Snorlax. ,0 +7534,barn owl taking bath. ,0 +7535,Tongue out rabbit. ,0 +7536,shark cat. ,0 +7537,Every-bunny was kung-fu fighting. ,0 +7538,Nap time. ,0 +7539,"Please help me, I am lost. ",0 +7540,Isn't it really cute?. ,0 +7541,i need karma plz upvote me. ,0 +7542,massive respect for the owner. ,0 +7543,A baby cow.....mooooooo. ,0 +7544,The purrfect home for me.... ,0 +7545,Just being honest... ,0 +7546,He judges. ,0 +7547,Hello Ol Blue Eyes. ,0 +7548,funny dog. ,0 +7549,Cat Car fanny Video. Hahaha😂😂😂. ,0 +7550,The tongue of a pangolin. ,0 +7551,cats vengeance on the Christmas Ornament. ,0 +7552,Don't say it's a bug on my nose !!. ,0 +7553,Toucan. ,0 +7554,funny!. ,0 +7555,Current mood.. 🥱. ,0 +7556,visit someone who has a cat. ,0 +7557,Snake sheds its skin. ,0 +7558,After the years...🧡🧡. ,0 +7559,Love at first sight. ,0 +7560,Beautiful black gorilla gazing at me.. ,0 +7561,"I love my cat so much, it's the cutest creature I've ever seen. ",0 +7562,A curious lil Baby bunny checking me out. ,0 +7563,Some pictures of my little dog rocco. ,0 +7564,These people in my neighbourhood own an emu.. ,0 +7565,The proud hunter returns. It doesn’t get any fresher than this.. ,0 +7566,beautiful ❤️. ,0 +7567,smile and wave big bro is here. ,0 +7568,ultra wide pic of my cat :). ,0 +7569,Playing Partner. ,0 +7570,"A mysterious creature was spotted on Washington state’s Long Beach Peninsula. It was announced to be a ribbon seal. This type of seal is probably the most stylish one on the planet, and it is so rare to spot, the last time it was seen in the region was back in 2012.. ",0 +7571,Blind cat calls her friends for help and someone always comes to the rescue. ,0 +7572,My favorite piglet🐷. ,0 +7573,face wash that's sweet.. ,0 +7574,"This pig was given to me for free, she is a little clumsy and blind, but I love her she is very kind to other pigs. ",0 +7575,doggy mortal kombat? LOL. ,0 +7576,Tadahhhh!. ,0 +7577,My Adorable Rat Olive's New Shopping Cart + Fridge Fetch Trick Chain!. ,0 +7578,cats and dogs in japan. ,0 +7579,Best Friend. ,0 +7580,I'm fine 😀😀😀. ,0 +7581,found a stick. ,0 +7582,This weeks mini paw paintings by my incredible pet rats!. ,0 +7583,Halloween Ghostbusters doggo. ,0 +7584,Mutlu aile. ,0 +7585,Is it true??. ,0 +7586,Perfect.. 😊. ,0 +7587,My tiny pet rat Butter is learning some simple scent work!. ,0 +7588,Batfish. ,0 +7589,What are the odds?!. ,0 +7590,Cool. ,0 +7591,Bunnies eating watermelon 🍉. ,0 +7592,Helping a bird. ,0 +7593,how cute is he). ,0 +7594,"My sweet ratty Donut doing a fun agility course - 2nd clip shows her forgetting the ball lol, poor Donut tries so hard!. ",0 +7595,Simba and Lily. My two best friends.. ,0 +7596,People in Ukraine are carrying 80 pound dogs through a living hell to save them and not leave them behind!. ,0 +7597,Alpaca. ,0 +7598,"Seagulls flying over the sea, tracking shot. ",0 +7599,Cat boxing. ,0 +7600,what a beauty. ,0 +7601,Some fun animal carpets that I made😍. ,0 +7602,cat To catch the squirrel you must become the squirrel. ,0 +7603,With friend. ,0 +7604,I am sure he had an absolutely great time though. ,0 +7605,cat Murder intent is strong. ,0 +7606,Lions shocked by a pig. ,0 +7607,evolving cat. ,0 +7608,My amazing pet rat Butter has mastered flyball! Also bonus Olive at the end!. ,0 +7609,We got new members in the fam. ,0 +7610,The ants are up to something. ,0 +7611,big cat. ,0 +7612,"My adorable pet rat Pickle practicing the simpler version of the ""rob a purse"" trick!. ",0 +7613,This weeks adorable ratty paw paintings by my amazing pet rats! (Last pic is a Donut blooper!). ,0 +7614,a dose of love.💙🕊️. ,0 +7615,My Pet Rat Pickle Fetching a Mini Wicker Ball from a Tiny Drawer!. ,0 +7616,#halloween is right around the corner!. ,0 +7617,He looks quite scary. ,0 +7618,"My brother’s demon cat pees like this, without fail.. ",0 +7619,My adorable pet rat Banana is learning to flip up a hoop!. ,0 +7620,"Meet the Akhal-Teke horse, one of the most beautiful horse breeds in the world! Turkmenistan.. ",0 +7621,It is not a dog.but it is happy. ,0 +7622,My Friend & Brother Randy. ,0 +7623,❤️ Even the dog got emotional when the military eventually come home. ,0 +7624,Look🥰 How cute he is🥹😍. ,0 +7625,🔥 baby Chimpanzee hugs his mother. ,0 +7626,how comfortable it is!. ,0 +7627,"When she is happy,she usually likes that.. ",0 +7628,My incredible pet rats Olive (black self) and Egg (pink eyed white) playing vs basketball!. ,0 +7629,Cardellina versicolor The pink-headed warbler is a small passerine bird found in the southwestern highlands of Guatemala and the central and southeastern highlands of the Mexican state of Chiapas. ,0 +7630,My Adorable Pet Rat Olive Doing an Agility Course + Basketball Hoop Combo Trick!. ,0 +7631,Paw Paintings with my Sweet Rats! Last 2 pics show the process of paw and smoosh painting!. ,0 +7632,Here are the most beautiful types of eagles in the world.. the golden eagle. ,0 +7633,I will play the piano.😼😻. ,0 +7634,Amazing...... ,0 +7635,Squirrel eats almonds. ,0 +7636,Yeah Cats can open portals too.. ,0 +7637,Typical Asian Mom. ,0 +7638,Halloween cat ghost. ,0 +7639,say hi to otis!. ,0 +7640,"Help me to name this future bad boy, has to start with T!. ",0 +7641,Scared of Darth Vader.... ,0 +7642,My awesome pet rats Donut (ghost rat) and Olive (pumpkin rat) playing the spookiest game of ratsketball!. ,0 +7643,Cat how can i annoy them today. ,0 +7644,Smart dog. ,0 +7645,Just having a lazy day..🐈🐾😅. ,0 +7646,cat Every King Has His Crown. ,0 +7647,My pet rat Butter is starting to learn basketball!. ,0 +7648,"My sweet pet rat Donut combining scent work, weaving, and fetch!. ",0 +7649,cat meow meow bank. ,0 +7650,Love this girl!!!!❤️. ,0 +7651,My food. ,0 +7652,Awesome ratty Olive is learning a new agility course with barrel walking & a mini BBQ!. ,0 +7653,Amazing ratty Donut doing scent work with mini chests (she has to find #4)!. ,0 +7654,My adorable pet rats Pickle and Omelet playing vs basketball. ,0 +7655,one corgi just yelled at him. ,0 +7656,3 of my adorable pet rats doing the same agility course - who did it best?. ,0 +7657,Awesome ratty Olive doing a trick where she fetches mini food from a tiny shelf & navigates obstacles to bring it to a mini BBQ!. ,0 +7658,Weekly Paw Paintings from my Talented Pet Rats!. ,0 +7659,Tongues out! 😛. ,0 +7660,"Awesome rats Pickle (gray) and Olive (black) playing vs basketball - its been a while since I paired them up, and they did great!. ",0 +7661,Elephant. ,0 +7662,the hunter became the prey)). ,0 +7663,Racoon wife. ,0 +7664,Khajiit cat has wares if you have coin. ,0 +7665,My incredible pet rat Butter doing a fun agility course!. ,0 +7666,picture with the cat. ,0 +7667,Caught it just on time. His name is prince 🖤🖤🖤,0 +7668,cat Hissing Boot. ,0 +7669,This is my collie Harry. May he RIP.. ,0 +7670,Together in the rain. ,0 +7671,cat halloween pumpkin. ,0 +7672,So everyone who visits your place and you offer them a glass of water basically is getting water from a faucet licked by a cat.. ,0 +7673,Jaguar. ,0 +7674,Cat who said pspsps. ,0 +7675,My dog = Happiness. ,0 +7676,Cat Lord of the rings. ,0 +7677,Meet Dan!. ,0 +7678,cat art in my home that's what i am talking about. ,0 +7679,Amazing owl. ,0 +7680,Starry Night Cat. ,0 +7681,Health conscious dog doing morning yoga like human. ,0 +7682,A more than wonderful picture of a leopard showing his reflection in water while drinking 😳. ,0 +7683,Animal Fight in Shop 😂😂😂. ,0 +7684,Terrifyingly beautiful The Brahmin Moth Before and After the Metamorphosis. ,0 +7685,she’s such a polite lady❤️. ,0 +7686,what animal is this?. ,0 +7687,Cathulu. ,0 +7688,Mission failed we'll get them next time. ,0 +7689,It’s a trap!!. ,0 +7690,"When I ate fish, this guy keeps her eyes wide-open to look at me.Seems her food was eaten by me.. ",0 +7691,the orchid mantis. ,0 +7692,Brand new 2 month old kitten and she is climbing up stairs. ,0 +7693,This weeks mini paw paintings by my amazing pet rats - great job ratties!. ,0 +7694,My Sweet Ratty Olive Adding to her Walk on a Barrel between Platforms trick by now also Carrying a Ball to the other side!. ,0 +7695,Happy Saint Patrick's Day from Me and my Pet Rats!. ,0 +7696,dog reaction. ,0 +7697,Nice horse💫. ,0 +7698,You have been blessed by snake. ,0 +7699,Were click click hewegoooo!😺. ,0 +7700,King Penguins Are the 2nd Largest Penguins. ,0 +7701,The Hornbill - Sri Lanka. ,0 +7702,Does someone recognize this spider ??. ,0 +7703,My incredible ratty Donut practicing some scent work!. ,0 +7704,cute cattos. ,0 +7705,still a good try. ,0 +7706,Pokemon cat sleeping. ,0 +7707,Let's grow up together. ,0 +7708,Kevin. ,0 +7709,The four phases of cat behavior. ,0 +7710,Giant flemish rabbit 🧡. ,0 +7711,Cat Selfie. ,0 +7712,star wars cat you can't change the meme. ,0 +7713,Why do rabbits look like toast?🍞. ,0 +7714,🐱Floppy EARS.... ,0 +7715,My incredible pet rat Blueberry practicing walking on a rolling barrel!. ,0 +7716,"The Philippine Eagle 🦅 Monkey-Eating Eagle is a critically endangered species, Only about 600-700 believed to be alive.. ",0 +7717,Cat with big eyes.... ,0 +7718,My amazing pet rat Banana is learning scent work - she has to find and tip vial #4!. ,0 +7719,cat handsome boy. ,0 +7720,Happy 20th birthday 🎁. ,0 +7721,Panda eating bamboo. ,0 +7722,Houston we have a good dog. ,0 +7723,my little friend. ,0 +7724,this lion so beuatiful 🤍. ,0 +7725,Orphan Kitten Adopts new mother. ,0 +7726,Baby Squirrel with injured ankle looking much better 24 hours after intake (with proper rehydration). ,0 +7727,Cute elephant baby shows its talent to safari visitors.. ,0 +7728,cat knows a guy. ,0 +7729,beauty 😍. ,0 +7730,Say hello to Schnitzel. ,0 +7731,My Sweet Rat Donut is Learning to Backup in a Circle around a Cone!. ,0 +7732,yes the animals they are all cute. ,0 +7733,"Deers Eating Pumpkin, Southampton, MA. My original [OC] 11” x 14” acrylic painting c 2021. ",0 +7734,"My latest Zebra painting,,, feel free to give me your opinions🙃. ",0 +7735,Hungry hippos. ,0 +7736,"Gilbert, the goose sadly passed away today 2020-2022. ",0 +7737,🐕My kind of workout buddy. ,0 +7738,roomba with an unattended dog.. ,0 +7739,Cat Tiger. ,0 +7740,cute 😍. ,0 +7741,Damascus Goat. ,0 +7742,"Svalbard, Norway.. ",0 +7743,Strobilo. 🐝. ,0 +7744,What is this animal baby we found on our hike ?. ,0 +7745,Which animal or reptile is this i found it and i just ignored after that it disappeared. ,0 +7746,cat gifts. ,0 +7747,Please I need medical advice for this pigeon I rescued. ,0 +7748,Sooooo cuteee. ,0 +7749,wide eyed for food as always😍. ,0 +7750,where are you Baby. ,0 +7751,Beautiful beautiful pigeon. ,0 +7752,...Nope. ,0 +7753,SONIC. ,0 +7754,Pigeon fight. ,0 +7755,Been hearing about him for several weeks now but finally saw him for myself: We actually have a white one!! 🤯. ,0 +7756,This week adorable paw paintings by my pet ratties - blooper pics at the end!. ,0 +7757,The safest place is next to mum Plains Zebra 🦓🦓. ,0 +7758,Royel bengle tiger. ,0 +7759,cuuute)). ,0 +7760,Animals are my friends and I don't eat my friends 🐍💚💚💚💚. ,0 +7761,Raccoon. ,0 +7762,So cutee!!! AWWWW. ,0 +7763,Slow motion view of a dog playing Dog playing in a studio.. ,0 +7764,"Lake Balaton, Keszthely, Hungary. ",0 +7765,Sky Puppy. ,0 +7766,Strange creature that I can't find any explanation for it. ,0 +7767,This weeks miniature paw paintings by my incredible rats!. ,0 +7768,lack of ink. ,0 +7769,Security Guard risking his life to save incredibly unalarmed zoo visitors from a hippopotamus. ,0 +7770,My incredible ratty Omelet fetching through a moving tunnel!. ,0 +7771,Cat on the nerd shelf. ,0 +7772,Bumblebee sized babies cuddling in mama's feathers. ,0 +7773,cats are stupid.. ,0 +7774,My incredible pet rat Omelet dressed as the flash playing ratty flyball!. ,0 +7775,The best gift of my life. ,0 +7776,Cute asf!. ,0 +7777,These locals helped save an massive sea turtle.. 🐢😮👏. ,0 +7778,An oyster toad fish my teacher caught during biology class. ,0 +7779,cat Even pizza. ,0 +7780,Came across this baby deer sleeping.. ,0 +7781,Dune cat. ,0 +7782,cat murphy_by_s_subiime. ,0 +7783,My cat discovers the Sun!🤔. ,0 +7784,Two beautiful ducks are walking together. ,0 +7785,it seems to me that he has escaped from a fairy tale.... ,0 +7786,Awhile back I found this little guy.. ,0 +7787,My smart pet rat Olive fetching me a ball by walking backwards on 2 rolling barrels in a row!. ,0 +7788,My pet rat Omelet attempting to combine ring toss with agility - not bad for her first try!. ,0 +7789,My pet rat Olive's new trick of walking backwards on TWO rolling barrels in a row!. ,0 +7790,Here are this weeks adorable rat paw paintings from my ratties - last photo shows Donut stuffing her face with yogurt lol. ,0 +7791,My awesome ratty Pickle playing flyball with mini shopping carts & mini toilet paper :P. ,0 +7792,Giving mom a kiss before bedtime 🥺. ,0 +7793,cute little puppy. ,0 +7794,One of my sweet pet rats (Pickle) fetching me a tissue - what a helpful little rat!. ,0 +7795,"When your best friend gets back together with her boyfriend for the seventh time and swears that ""this time is different."". ",0 +7796,i need karma please upvote me. ,0 +7797,Colorado man wakes up to find a mountain lion on his porch devouring huge elk it had just killed. ,0 +7798,Time to chest. ,0 +7799,From upset to dipidipdipdipidoooo. ,0 +7800,Outside of supermarket - so cute …. ,0 +7801,I think me and my mom did a pretty good job.What do you think?(We made this in one night!). ,0 +7802,Panda baby’s bean bag sofa. ,0 +7803,The tiger. ,0 +7804,Harry Potter Do not the cat. ,0 +7805,My incredible rats and their tiny paw paintings from this week!. ,0 +7806,Rabbit digging hole to save the cat. ,0 +7807,A Beautiful Lizard. ,0 +7808,A blue tit on an apple tree in Austria. ,0 +7809,CAToru Gojo. ,0 +7810,My amazing pet rats Blueberry(gray & white) and Banana (gray) playing vs basketball together for the first time!. ,0 +7811,Sketch of a cow. ,0 +7812,Smile at the new day😁. ,0 +7813,Extreme Cuteness. ,0 +7814,A colorful Mahi Mahi fish caught off the coast of Bali. ,0 +7815,My pet rat Donut working on her cup stacking trick!. ,0 +7816,Reminds me of the street dogs I would meet in thailand.. ,0 +7817,Zebulon the ferret. ,0 +7818,cute white rabbit.. ,0 +7819,Anyone want? Name suggestions.. ,0 +7820,🔥 Grey Crow and Rat engaged in a tug-of-war on the city streets.. ,0 +7821,Was relaxing on the deck and then….. ,0 +7822,Cute Baby Animals That Will Make You Go ‘Aww’. ,0 +7823,Doggo speed I am speed. ,0 +7824,I like to play. ,0 +7825,Ducks are near me 🥰. ,0 +7826,My incredible pet rat Olive doing her new bowling trick!. ,0 +7827,My adorable pet rat Olive doing a new agility course including waling on a barrel and spinning on a platform!. ,0 +7828,Swan at Sunset!. ,0 +7829,My favorite cat is walking on the balcony. Is he cute?. ,0 +7830,My favorite cat! Tell me is he really cute?. ,0 +7831,That is so naughty lol. ,0 +7832,Happy Easter from my smart pet rats - here are some Easter RATbits doing an EGGcelent job!. ,0 +7833,sleep my piggy. ,0 +7834,hawk A symbol of strength and character. ,0 +7835,Vets showing some love.. ,0 +7836,"My Awesome Rat Olive has Officially Added her ""Carry an Item while Walking on a Barrel"" trick to an Agility Course!. ",0 +7837,I dream a bout him. ,0 +7838,I couldn't figure out how my bed kept getting unmade while I was making coffee until I put up a camera. Part 1. (OC). ,0 +7839,Florida Lizard. ,0 +7840,Why is it called a cunning fox? it's beautiful. ,0 +7841,My little Teddy💖. ,0 +7842,What type dog is that ? Quite furry. ,0 +7843,Matilda taking a break. ,0 +7844,Panda Lovers ..!. ,0 +7845,Which species is smarter ?? Cats or dogs .. ,0 +7846,"Good mooring boss, ""weak up we have to enjoy this beautiful morning ""😊. ",0 +7847,cat knows things. ,0 +7848,Happy kitty cat. ,0 +7849,Squirrel gather mushrooms for winter. ,0 +7850,Touch? Hmm… Ok Touch!!!. ,0 +7851,Have a cute backpack corgi 😍😍. ,0 +7852,does anyone know what type of spider this is?. ,0 +7853,My awesome ratty Omelet is practicing some fun advanced basketball (ie agility + basketball)!. ,0 +7854,Cat The Bayou Prince by_pixxus. ,0 +7855,"Bug-Eyed House Snake (Boaedon mentalis) from Vredendal, South Africa. ",0 +7856,cat only wakes up to one thing. ,0 +7857,Wow! That's awesome!..🐮. ,0 +7858,This weeks tiny paw art by my sweet pet rats!. ,0 +7859,Woooow unusual Two headed turtle 🐢🐢🐢in one shell Siamese. ,0 +7860,feeding a cat once Ah yeah. It's Puma Turman.. ,0 +7861,Flemish Giant Rabbit Very large breed of domestic rabbit 🐇 🐰. ,0 +7862,My awesome pet rat Olive working on a combo trick of weaves + fetch + walk on a barrel!. ,0 +7863,cat chonk chart. ,0 +7864,(OC) Elephant Drawing. ,0 +7865,One sprinter carries the other sprinter... 😃 🐌. ,0 +7866,Tiny rat paw paintings + the ratty artists!. ,0 +7867,"His name is Proteus, he is a salamander-type amphibian, he lives in caves located in some European countries. It measures approximately 40 cm, has no eyes and can live up to a century. And yes, it was once believed to be a baby dragon.. ",0 +7868,golden lion cat. ,0 +7869,"I found a little bird and i know what to do now, i found his mom dead near where i found him, please tell me what to do. ",0 +7870,Give me your hand.. ,0 +7871,"My bird, I love this beauty!. ",0 +7872,Weird Tarsier. ,0 +7873,Presenting the brand new iDog !. ,0 +7874,sleepy little squirrel. ,0 +7875,Male Siberian Musk Deer and its skull. ,0 +7876,pelegrina. ,0 +7877,"""I don't want to go swimming.""😭😁. ",0 +7878,Pawsitive Fighting. ,0 +7879,Good thing he's cute.. ,0 +7880,Trying so hard to stay awake. ,0 +7881,Coco is not his mother but it looks they are fine. ,0 +7882,🤩🤓. ,0 +7883,he looks like he's actually smiling:). ,0 +7884,Amazing ratty Pickle playing fetch with a tire jump!. ,0 +7885,My sweet pet rat Olive walking backwards on 4 barrels in a row!. ,0 +7886,the cat knows psp. ,0 +7887,Amazing 🤩. ,0 +7888,little dog. ,0 +7889,Black cat with blue shiny eye. ,0 +7890,،Love and compatibility make you happy.. ,0 +7891,Been lurking on here for a while. I wanted to introduce my boy Koda. ,0 +7892,Little dog running in snow in slow motion. ,0 +7893,The kid is trying his best🥺. ,0 +7894,Deer came to say hi today! Not afraid at all. Looking for mountain ash berries.. ,0 +7895,Amazing boggiiiiii love in my hand 🐕 with dog do you prefer? 💌. ,0 +7896,Elderscrolls Cat prices. ,0 +7897,cat is to avocato as dog is avodogo. ,0 +7898,No red lips no lipstick any more.. ,0 +7899,Chinese National Treasure - Giant Panda（OC） 960x720. ,0 +7900,"i thought this was worth sharing :). my 9 year old black lab, Diesel 🫶🏻",0 +7901,cat red dot Meowmmm. ,0 +7902,spongebob sleeping cat. ,0 +7903,"My pet rat Donut doing more agility, this time adding back in weaves and the larger ball to her agility course!. ",0 +7904,Mom cat playing with cut kitten. ,0 +7905,My incredible pet rat Donut doing some fun tricks in her tiny pumpkin costume!. ,0 +7906,Photography taken at the exact moment 🥰🤩💖📸. ,0 +7907,Beech marten finds the chicken egg. ,0 +7908,My incredible pet rat Olive being super fast at completing an agility course - can you tell she likes agility? Lol. ,0 +7909,"1931, World Animal Day. ",0 +7910,My incredible pet rats and their miniature paw paintings from this week!. ,0 +7911,My amazing pet rat Omelet is learning jumping fetch!. ,0 +7912,What has been your most bizarre experience with insects? o What is the strangest insect you have seen? photo bcs yes. ,0 +7913,What are you dreaming about??. ,0 +7914,Big koi. ,0 +7915,Texan Cat. ,0 +7916,"Crowned as the smallest mammal in the world by size, a bumblebee bat can actually rest comfortably on your finger. Apart from its resemblance to the bumblebees in size, these little bats are less scary than you’d expect. Endemic to Myanmar and Thailand, this bat weighs around 2 grams.. ",0 +7917,Angora Rabbit.. ,0 +7918,"My incredible pet rat Banana is learning the ""find your name"" trick!. ",0 +7919,My pet rat Olive practicing her fetch from a drawer trick!. ,0 +7920,Got off of work late last night and I ran into this creature as I was pulling off. What is it?. ,0 +7921,Newborn baby gorilla at Melbourne Zoo gets a checkup at the hospital and reacts to the coldness of the stethoscope.. ,0 +7922,Read this book with me. ,0 +7923,This is Jonathan. ,0 +7924,Robin. ,0 +7925,cat fashion. ,0 +7926,See two small chickens playing together. ,0 +7927,I made a thing with my music. ,0 +7928,Interesting Chimp portraits by AI. ,0 +7929,this dog gave birth to 2 puppies. ,0 +7930,Badger bringing home the bacon for her pups. ,0 +7931,He has good sense of rhythm. ,0 +7932,Sea lion. ,0 +7933,My awesome pet rat Omelet is learning scent work - here she has to find and indicate chest #4!. ,0 +7934,Baby African Pygmy Hedgehog. ,0 +7935,Fox catches its prey!. ,0 +7936,Buddy didn’t like the tickle. ,0 +7937,Mood:. ,0 +7938,his new year shirts.. ,0 +7939,This weeks adorable ratty paw paintings by my incredible pet ratties!. ,0 +7940,My sweet ratty Omelet is learning to bowl with a mini bowling set!. ,0 +7941,George the rescue with the loudest pur I've ever heard. ,0 +7942,My sweet pet rats Pickle (gray) & Omelet (white) are learning to walk on a barrel while carrying a ball!. ,0 +7943,cat wont stop Singing. ,0 +7944,do your thing interwebs. ,0 +7945,How cute is that ??🥺🥺. ,0 +7946,🐶🐶🐶. ,0 +7947,My Cat can't pee so he need operation (because he will die obviously). ,0 +7948,My awesome ratty Egg is learning to weave - she can now find the weave entrance and weave back consistently!. ,0 +7949,Grass puppy sunbathing. ,0 +7950,higher kitty power. ,0 +7951,Funny Cat. ,0 +7952,Sharing my art commissions I enjoyed working on. ,0 +7953,Seeing this on the roads is so cute 💖💖💖💖. ,0 +7954,pretty cute. ,0 +7955,Monke. ,0 +7956,mood. ,0 +7957,Dog Of War. ,0 +7958,When you have to fight for your food!. ,0 +7959,Mochi’s ears grew. ,0 +7960,More pictures of my dog rocco. ,0 +7961,How did he get in there in the first place. Hopefully the little gentleman is well 🥺. ,0 +7962,The beautiful and naughty monkey.. ,0 +7963,real animal or fake ?. ,0 +7964,Hello people. ,0 +7965,Hi can someone help me I found an injured pigeon and I don’t know what to do. ,0 +7966,Monty Python and the Holy Grail cat meme. ,0 +7967,A coati family. ,0 +7968,Buzzo Male of 5 months. ,0 +7969,One of my five ball pythons. ,0 +7970,My incredible ratty Blueberry practicing some advanced fetch (fetch + obstacles)!. ,0 +7971,🙈. ,0 +7972,More treats please. ,0 +7973,Dragon Ball z Majin cat. ,0 +7974,My commission work. ,0 +7975,This red panda looks like its found a comfortable tree branch. ,0 +7976,Capybara hot spring by_teteddraws. ,0 +7977,My love. ,0 +7978,"My adorable dwarf rat Butter is learning the ""rob a purse"" trick!. ",0 +7979,This weeks ratty paw paintings by my amazing pet rats!. ,0 +7980,what animal is this that lives in my front yard? I live In the desert.. ,0 +7981,My amazing pet rats Butter (dwarf) and Blueberry (standard) are learning fun new agility courses!. ,0 +7982,You need guts for that :O. ,0 +7983,Someone’s pet on a city street - walks so fast …. ,0 +7984,The only doggo politician you can trust. ,0 +7985,My awesome pet rat Butter is learning advanced basketball!. ,0 +7986,cat country roads. ,0 +7987,"Bison Tagging and blood tests for bison. Just to give you an idea of how big they are, this male weighs around 3,000 lbs.. ",0 +7988,help us save this lion. ,0 +7989,Aaaa!. ,0 +7990,My incredible pet rat Donut practicing a fun agility course!. ,0 +7991,Found this little burglar under TV stand. ,0 +7992,What is this strange animal ?. ,0 +7993,what are these things ?. ,0 +7994,My amazing pet rat Butter's first time working vs basketball with her cagemate Egg!. ,0 +7995,Koi. ,0 +7996,god of war stray the cat. ,0 +7997,cute mascot chinchilla. ,0 +7998,cute pigtail kitten. ,0 +7999,Who is afraid of the cute little crocodile?. ,0 +8000,cat Feline Family Photo. ,0 +8001,cat council_by_akreon. ,0 +8002,My ratty Olive combining scent work with walking on a barrel!. ,0 +8003,Kind Owl. ,0 +8004,feeeets!!. ,0 +8005,"When you confess your love, but she's only after your bone. ",0 +8006,Fox. ,0 +8007,3 big majestic elephants on a road in South Africa. ,0 +8008,When scratches on the butt are life. ,0 +8009,Colorful Parrots. ,0 +8010,"Newly born cubs of asiatic lions ,gir national park. ",0 +8011,Am I Cute??. ,0 +8012,a momma goose and dad goose protected there kid. ,0 +8013,"This bird fell in my backyard and can't seem to fly, does anyone have any idea as to how to help it?. ",0 +8014,Fox on a hay bale. ,0 +8015,Softly and carefully. ,0 +8016,Cried so much today that my eyes hurt. I planted some pretty flowers over his grave. ,0 +8017,A Fox. ,0 +8018,Lord of the rings he serves the bark lord. ,0 +8019,Aşırı pozitif. ,0 +8020,Male Gelada showing its teeth. ,0 +8021,straight from a horror. ,0 +8022,My awesome ratty Egg fetching a tiny letter from a mini mailbox!. ,0 +8023,What are they talking about?. ,0 +8024,My amazing pet rat Pickle weaving with a mini wifffle ball!. ,0 +8025,cat telling horror stories. ,0 +8026,"Sweet ratty Egg doing the ""find your name"" trick!. ",0 +8027,"Giroland cows and the abundance of their milk, God willing. ",0 +8028,My Incredible Pet Rat Donut Showing her Persistence with Learning a New Trick Combo!. ,0 +8029,Incredible Ratty Omelet Fetching Mini Mail from a Tiny Mailbox!. ,0 +8030,güzelliğine bakın. ,0 +8031,"My Sweet Rat Omelet Combining her ""Go to Crate"" trick with Agility Obstacles!. ",0 +8032,"To be with you, you must love him first 🤩🤩♥️. ",0 +8033,Sweet boy will be 10 soon! Help me wish him a happy birthday 🥳. ,0 +8034,Just cat ( taken by me ). ,0 +8035,Happy hedgehog.. ,0 +8036,Ccat ^^. ,0 +8037,Huge Possum in Columbus. ,0 +8038,A critically endangered baby sunda pangolin that has recently been rescued with its mumma from being illegally traded. They both received full health checks and are now on the journey to be fully rehabilitated into a more secure location in the wild.. ,0 +8039,Cuervos arriban a China. ,0 +8040,Three squirrels come to our balcony to eat. This is Doctor Jekyll - the most friendly and calm.. ,0 +8041,The white ghost Cicada. Is mind blowingly beautiful.. ,0 +8042,smile!. ,0 +8043,cat Laser attack. ,0 +8044,Maybe it goes to the gym every day.. ,0 +8045,best friends. ,0 +8046,What kind of snake is this?. ,0 +8047,#animal #cat #animallover #catlover. ,0 +8048,The Cat Council. ,0 +8049,witcher dog story. ,0 +8050,White Cat by_ne0nzart. ,0 +8051,"All geckos shed their skin at fairly regular intervals, with different species differing in timing and method. When shedding begins, geckos accelerate the process by detaching the loose skin from their body and eating it.Geckos shed around every month in adulthood, and will often eat their shed skin. ",0 +8052,"Im new here, upvote x upvote pls 🙏🏼🫶🏽. ",0 +8053,Work Smart Not Hard ( with sound ). ,0 +8054,That's a lot of horse.. ,0 +8055,Beautiful swimming. ,0 +8056,IT Cat. ,0 +8057,🐍. ,0 +8058,"Karoo Sand Snake (Psammophis notostictus), mildly venomous but harmless to humans. ",0 +8059,"Rhombic Egg-Eaters (Dasypeltis scabra), harmless. They just act tough. 😂. ",0 +8060,Which animal is this? in the water what looks like a dragon. It was swimming in Croatia. And moves elegant and had some wings.. ,0 +8061,Sandy The Sleepy Sea Turtle. ,0 +8062,"My awesome pet rat Blueberry's new ""find your name"" card trick!. ",0 +8063,My awesome pet rat Olive doing one of her favorite kinds of tricks - jumping agility!. ,0 +8064,spring arrived_by_julianrad. ,0 +8065,Water fairy -- jellyfish. ,0 +8066,"cat Meowximus Decipurrs Meridipaws, commander of the armies of the north, general of the felix legions, servant to the true emperor, Garfield Aurelius,. ",0 +8067,cat i will not be ignored by fausto giurescu. ,0 +8068,crocodile pulling on an elephant's trunk. ,0 +8069,This bird manages to escape a clowder of cats by playing statue. ,0 +8070,"Cape Cobra (Naja nivea), dangerously venomous. ",0 +8071,butterfly nigt ... ,0 +8072,Yesterday in Cirali. ,0 +8073,they grew up. ,0 +8074,"My cows are looking for a new pasture. No good reason putting them up for sss..aaa..lll..eee. Need to get them of our property,moving out the state soon. Halter broke Super friendly Pm me for more info.. Can arranged delivery.... (714) 759-4508. ",0 +8075,albino reindeer [OC]. ,0 +8076,"Another hand drawing I did back in 2020 of one of my favorite animals, Bats.. ",0 +8077,what do you call her?. ,0 +8078,This is what happens literally everyday when I say BYE 🥺😭| PetsFamilia. ,0 +8079,Snuggle Bunnies. ,0 +8080,Tiger at Mumbai Zoo. ,0 +8081,😂😂. ,0 +8082,fast and furious and doggy. ,0 +8083,Not sure about name of the bird but the color is so vibrant. ,0 +8084,This is why I don’t get work done. What am I supposed to say to this face?. ,0 +8085,Just chillin'. ,0 +8086,A sleeping street Dog. ,0 +8087,Sweet Ratty Olive's New Agility Course which Includes Walking Backwards on a Barrel BETWEEN Platforms!. ,0 +8088,Wolf. ,0 +8089,My friends new cat his named is bob. ,0 +8090,Owl. ,0 +8091,Guess whose little tail it is?. ,0 +8092,I miss you😰. ,0 +8093,14 February cat kiss😘. ,0 +8094,Boop 🌹. ,0 +8095,My dog won't bite. ,0 +8096,Tiltle This Amazing Creatures. ,0 +8097,so lovely. ,0 +8098,So sweet Kitten!!. ,0 +8099,Found this grasshopper chilling on the patio.. ,0 +8100,Love This..........:). ,0 +8101,cat email. ,0 +8102,beauty. ,0 +8103,Dogs - Weird Vibes from Him Now. ,0 +8104,My incredible pet rat Donut fetching the mail from a tiny mailbox!. ,0 +8105,Happy Meal. ,0 +8106,My ratties and their mini paw paintings from this week!. ,0 +8107,cat I had a little space.... ,0 +8108,cat in japan. ,0 +8109,Stray cat Halloween. ,0 +8110,cat The almighty one demands a sacrifice. ,0 +8111,cat Final Fantasy 9 live action. ,0 +8112,Ninja Cats!. ,0 +8113,cat and the mirror. ,0 +8114,"She just wanted to build a nest near the warm floor vent, what’s wrong with ME for judging her?. ",0 +8115,cat look The mirror lies. You look far worse. ,0 +8116,Baby Diamond Doves. ,0 +8117,Chubby Caterpillar?. What Is this thing? I live in nord Italy and I never seen this one.,0 +8118,I woke up 1 am went on reddit 2am I see him on my bed. ,0 +8119,"cat Stilts, the Trojan Neko. ",0 +8120,"The Japanese spider crab is a species of marine crab that lives in the waters around Japan. It has the largest leg span of any arthropod, reaching up to 3.8 metres (12 ft) and weighing up to 41 pounds (19 kg). In its natural habitat, the Japanese spider crab feeds on shellfish and animal carcasses a. ",0 +8121,Name something other than Puppies that can make a grown man Criss-Cross Applesauce on the floor at Work🥺. ,0 +8122,My amazing pet rat Banana has learned to play fetch!. ,0 +8123,Humanity alive in a scene. ,0 +8124,wow. ,0 +8125,My ratty Blueberry learning to walk on a barrel during an agility course!. ,0 +8126,He really loves singing. ,0 +8127,My amazing ratties and their tiny paw art!. ,0 +8128,please take photo with him. ,0 +8129,Squirrels sleep in their nest. ,0 +8130,Not a squirrel but FREAKING ADORABLE mommy possum with extra full hands lol. ,0 +8131,Found One New Friend. ,0 +8132,golden mangoose staring. ,0 +8133,cats_the_red_dot_by_yakonusuke. ,0 +8134,"This is the only shot that should be allowed towards an animal, the ""Click"" of your camera...🦊. ",0 +8135,"Angulate Tortoise (Chersina angulata) from Lamberts Bay, Western Cape. ",0 +8136,Cute animal. ,0 +8137,This is the Cutest High Five You Have Seen...100% Cuteness. ,0 +8138,"What's better than this?! Dolphins and sunset! 🐬🌅🐬😍 From Kefalonia to Killini, Greece 🇬🇷. ",0 +8139,Flexing. ,0 +8140,"My friend said that rats are ugly ,stupid and gross. When I told them I wanted an albino rat but I really wanted one so should I still get a rat?. ",0 +8141,Just had to put down my baby :( I miss him so much I love him he was so young I need some positivity. ,0 +8142,Anyone knows what kind of fish or anything could this be? we have seen it in Vejle harbor in Denmark.. ,0 +8143,JUST TAKING A Dip she decided to cool off in one family's pool. ,0 +8144,Who is the happy boy. ,0 +8145,Good problem solving skills. ,0 +8146,"Now it's gonna be like, ""Wow, I can't even get eaten if I tried."". ",0 +8147,My dog 🥰. ,0 +8148,Catch a bee. ,0 +8149,'Not cool bro! I am busying!'. ,0 +8150,Cat presents her newborns to her human mom. ,0 +8151,Smart one. ,0 +8152,cats important message. ,0 +8153,i coming to eat you. ,0 +8154,Commission works. ,0 +8155,Butterfly in a wildflowers. ,0 +8156,Largest Dog Breeds. ,0 +8157,Quarantine with Cats. ,0 +8158,Asking food?. ,0 +8159,"The Hyrax, one of the elephants closest living relatives. ",0 +8160,We can take care and love at the same time and spend the best time 💕💫. ,0 +8161,Sensitive cats. ,0 +8162,"Sow with her Three Little Pigs, Southampton, Massachusetts. My original lithograph 11” x 14”.. ",0 +8163,Does his wound look like a bb hole?We think our neighbor shot our cat bc someone told my boyfriend a while back that they shoot cats bc of their crops. ,0 +8164,This girl is owning it!! 🐶❤💋. ,0 +8165,The Deer in Sri Lanka !. ,0 +8166,amo mi gato!!! ❤️❤️❤️. ,0 +8167,"Hi folks, my new creation | Proboscis Monkey | paint with Makeup | I hope you will like it :) XoXo. ",0 +8168,Stop Illegal Puppy Trafficking That Claims Countless Lives. ,0 +8169,My baby kefla 🐈❤️. ,0 +8170,i do animal commissions! doesn’t matter what it is i do em all. there are only a few spots left so message me for details if you’re interested. ,0 +8171,Help Me..... ,0 +8172,This weeks mini ratty paw paintings by my incredible ratties!. ,0 +8173,My incredible pet rats Olive (dressed as a christmas tree) and Donut (dressed as santa) playing holiday vs basketball!. ,0 +8174,Two Marmots are fighting. ,0 +8175,skunk. ,0 +8176,How Chinese government treat dog when block down for zone covid policy. ,0 +8177,Find the 🐱.. ,0 +8178,Ghost Cat meme. ,0 +8179,My Lisa is now very angry for her food. ,0 +8180,alone. ,0 +8181,"A portrait from Marwell Zoo, UK. ",0 +8182,"Monica’s Freedom Rescue Transport was a total success 49 lives were onboard on 11-04-2022. Depart from Laredo and made stops to San Marcos, Austin Pets Alive and Round Rock.. ",0 +8183,This weeks tiny paw paintings by my incredible ratties!. ,0 +8184,These elephants I met in Queen Elizabeth National Park in Uganda excited me. They showed themselves love and affection. ,0 +8185,Anyone know what species of frog this is and what it eats.. ,0 +8186,Squirrel. ,0 +8187,My incredible ratties and their tiny paw paintings from this weeks training sessions!. ,0 +8188,Can anyone guess what breed is this cute one ??. ,0 +8189,4 of my amazing rats dressed in their Halloween costumes - who has the best costume?. ,0 +8190,big horns. ,0 +8191,My sweet dwarf rat Butter doing some simple scent work - here she has to find vial #4!. ,0 +8192,Portia twitches her nose. ,0 +8193,Gorgeous...💖💖. ,0 +8194,so cute. ,0 +8195,cat Hercule Purrrrot. ,0 +8196,game of thrones cat tell cersei. ,0 +8197,Duck getting wet in the lake. ,0 +8198,(OC) I love painting animals!. ,0 +8199,cat dog Road trips. ,0 +8200,My awesome pet rats Olive and Egg playing vs hoop ball!. ,0 +8201,relax. ,0 +8202,My sweet pet rat Banana is learning to fetch from a tunnel!. ,0 +8203,Caracal's ears each have more than 20 muscles that swivel around to detect sounds of their prey. The tufts may enhance sound going into their ears or be used to communicate with other caracals.. ,0 +8204,Dog's confusing behavior. ,0 +8205,fishnado. ,0 +8206,Three Dogs run together in the rain. ,0 +8207,Me and my crush.. ,0 +8208,How should I call him?. ,0 +8209,The doggo from different worlds. ,0 +8210,"Rhombic Egg-Eater (Dasypeltis scabra) from South Africa, harmless. ",0 +8211,cool markings. ,0 +8212,slumber time. ,0 +8213,Can anybody tell me what this is? I have never seen anything like it!. ,0 +8214,anyone know what animal this is?ä. ,0 +8215,Momma deer that lives on our property came and showed us her baby.. ,0 +8216,When my darling cat eats milk. ,0 +8217,cat meow On God. ,0 +8218,WHATS ITS AGE. ,0 +8219,"Boomslang (Dispholidus typus) from South Africa, dangerously venomous. ",0 +8220,"PLEASE HELP!!!! TW: ANIMAL ABUSE ⚠️. I came across a YouTube channel tonight whilst watching shorts. This person is abusing Guinea pigs and posting videos of himself doing so! How this allows online is beyond me! I’ve reported the channel and commenters seem to have too but their comments are from 2wks ago! This person shouldn’t be allowed possession of animals and seems to lap up the hate in the comments! They’ve claimed to have already killed one purposefully! Please watch at your own risk. The channels name is OrbicMist264. I didn’t know where else to come or who to ask! I have no idea which country this person is from but if anyone who’s tech savvy can help contact the authorities or find out more information, that would be great help! Thank you",0 +8221,"The wild animals I photographed in California, do you know what this little thing that eats in a circle is?. ",0 +8222,cat do they still worship us child. ,0 +8223,The cat was surprised to see something. ,0 +8224,"here's a hand drawing I did in my sketchbook back in 2020, of different primates. Primates have some unique and distinct features to them. The senegal Bush baby has always been my favorite, what's yours?. ",0 +8225,cats are aliens. ,0 +8226,Billy and friends. ,0 +8227,What kind of bird is this?. ,0 +8228,Dolphins saying HI. ,0 +8229,This is my Nutter Butter. ,0 +8230,Guess what this animal is. ,0 +8231,a natuage Bunny. ,0 +8232,First Day Out. ,0 +8233,Happy Earth Day. ,0 +8234,Tara ❤. ,0 +8235,My baby 💤💤💤. ,0 +8236,My sweet ratty Donut's turn at expanding her original barrel roll + basketball trick - her balance has really improved!. ,0 +8237,Puppy Fun..❤️☺️❤️💕. ,0 +8238,happy sleeping cat with a fish. ,0 +8239,Proud Little Bird. ,0 +8240,My crusty white dog. ,0 +8241,Meowhmed the Conqueror. ,0 +8242,lovely kitty♥. ,0 +8243,World Wildlife Day. ,0 +8244,Attractive blue eyes. ,0 +8245,"Want a pet? I try for a dog then I see this and show to my brother, he is asking to bring home 😂. ",0 +8246,My babies.. ,0 +8247,"Weird dog behavior, has anyone else seen something like this?. ",0 +8248,My grandfathers dog.. ,0 +8249,"Tripod fish live between 878 to 4,720 m (2,881 to 15,486 ft) deep in the Abyssal Plain. They possess both male and female reproductive organs and will mate if two meet, if not then they self fertilize the eggs.. ",0 +8250,Happy Cat Valentine's Day 🙂. ,0 +8251,Lucky enough too get close too the tigers in rehabilitation. (photo taken by me). ,0 +8252,"""Where are the carrots?"". ",0 +8253,What animal is this? Found in Aruba but not local.. ,0 +8254,Penny Lane says good morning Hoomans!!🐶❤. ,0 +8255,30+ fish in this tank... This has to be some kind of animal cruelty. ,0 +8256,Dog =). ,0 +8257,What is this worm?Anybody know?. ,0 +8258,Amazing.... ,0 +8259,"My mini pig was attacked by 2 pitbulls on Christmas Day. On Christmas Day one of my neighbors sicked his 2 ptibulls on Bee Bee Swinans, my pet mini pig. Someone put it on facebook but im not friends with anyone who has the footage. Some of my other neighbors called the police a couple of times on the man but he is never home and intentionally dodges the police visits. How can I get justice 4 Bee Bee",0 +8260,Pet portrait commissions available! More information and pricing on the last slide. Message me if you’re interested. Thank you ❤️. ,0 +8261,D*G. ,0 +8262,"Horrific Revelation Of Dog Farm “It’s A Living Hell”, Inside South Korea's Dog Farm (Part 1). ",0 +8263,yo what kind of frog dis be?. ,0 +8264,Christmas Gifts form an adorable otter. ,0 +8265,cat therapy. ,0 +8266,Cat among us. ,0 +8267,I love this pretty cat . what about you. ,0 +8268,Boy Befriends Mama Squirrel with a Drink of Water. ,0 +8269,cat watching. ,0 +8270,please do it. ,0 +8271,cat So Sweet It's purrrrrfect. ,0 +8272,wolf. ,0 +8273,Animals Lover..... ,0 +8274,Lord of the rings When the cat is always the boss. ,0 +8275,My cat. ,0 +8276,My incredible ratty Olive fetching from a tiny picnic basket!. ,0 +8277,tuhermana. ,0 +8278,My dog scoob. ,0 +8279,Picture of my dog lol. Just took a picture of her while she was in the sun.,0 +8280,My incredible pet rat omelet is practicing her weaves + fetch trick!. ,0 +8281,Meet Finn!. ,0 +8282,Did you just say going out?. ,0 +8283,Kitty cat got hostage. ,0 +8284,POV my dog is in a indian house. ,0 +8285,Only food can wakes him 😂😂. ,0 +8286,cat I got two sides. ,0 +8287,My amazing ratty Donut testing out some new weave cones with a fun new agility course!. ,0 +8288,Very Fluffy!!!. ,0 +8289,Florida right now. ,0 +8290,My incredible pet rats Blueberry (1st) and Banana (2nd) learning some fun agility courses!. ,0 +8291,Cat Nice start of the day. ,0 +8292,My incredible pet rat Donut is working on combining spin and fetch!. ,0 +8293,Beautiful doggy's baby 🤩. ,0 +8294,Rapid emotional change. ,0 +8295,"Thanks man, I can run again. ",0 +8296,My incredible pet rats and their mini paw paintings from this week!. ,0 +8297,Feline UFS :D. ,0 +8298,Kitty cat by_ariabba_art. ,0 +8299,Meow…. ,0 +8300,What kind of snake is this? I live on the Mississippi Gulf Coast. Is it venomous?. ,0 +8301,"Judith The Kitten - Paralyzed Leg. Judith is a month old. She is not in pain and has become accustomed to using only 3 legs. She now hops, which suits her rabbit tail. In desperate need of funding for vet bills. GoFundMe link also in comments. + +https://gofund.me/ae54df2a",0 +8302,cat He’s the one who knocks.. ,0 +8303,"What kind of animal is this? Picture taken in Tanzania. sorry for the bad quality, had to zoom since they ran when I came to close.. ",0 +8304,9/10 dentist recommend this cat. ,0 +8305,"cat slave, where is my food. ",0 +8306,cute duck. ,0 +8307,The king of the jungle is here. ,0 +8308,A cool clip showing my amazing pet rat Donut having a lightbulb moment during training time!. ,0 +8309,I found a little mouse while hiking today. Does anyone know what kind of mouse this is?. ,0 +8310,"Alligator eyes shining in a Florida river, Myakka River State Park.. ",0 +8311,cat apple steve jobs. ,0 +8312,pigeon coo man coo. ,0 +8313,Good Job!!!. ,0 +8314,did someone know what the animal is this.. ,0 +8315,Swans swimming on the banks of a river. ,0 +8316,Cat chicken. ,0 +8317,My tiny rat Butter playing vs basketball with her larger cagemate Egg!. ,0 +8318,cat song. ,0 +8319,"Tibetan White Yak - The Snow White Yak is the rarest color phase of Yak in the world. In China and Tibet they figure their numbers to be around 3% of the population, with the vast majority of those residing in Tianzhu Tibet, there almost all of their yaks are white!. ",0 +8320,One Cup or Two by_wyldwoman. ,0 +8321,"5 Fun Facts about Gray Wolf. The wolf is indeed a huge canine that is indigenous to Eurasia and North America. It is also referred to as the gray wolf or grey wolf. Canis lupuses subspecies have been identified, as well as gray wolves, as they are commonly known, are non-domestic/feral subspecies. The wolf is indeed the biggest living member of the Canidae family. It also has less pointed ears and muzzles, a shorter torso, and a longer tail than other Canis species. [https://animesonnet.com/gray-wolf-description-diet-facts-animesonnet/](https://animesonnet.com/gray-wolf-description-diet-facts-animesonnet/) + +https://preview.redd.it/lujdy4kxkah91.jpg?width=480&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dc0b6a71c80af51b06611e52d247b64781a4ed28",0 +8322,cat batman costume. ,0 +8323,"2012, World Elephant Day. ",0 +8324,My sweet guard dog!. ,0 +8325,"😞. When I was 14 I saw one of my friends be mean to her cat throwing a spoon at her and flicking her with rubber bands, the one day my cat was annoying me so I grabbed her and squeezed her and threw her out the room I did this for a couple days in a row so she would leave me along then I regretted it and cried and hugged her told her how sorry I was I still feel bad about to this day",0 +8326,🥲. ,0 +8327,"Dog climbs stairs slowly, then jumps. ",0 +8328,Bear building a house. ,0 +8329,does anybody know why this murder is doing this? they aren't making any sound from their open beaks. ,0 +8330,Baby Squirrel Information. ,0 +8331,"Wake up call (sound on, watch to end). ",0 +8332,❤️. ,0 +8333,"Fringed Leaf Frog (Cruziohyla craspedopus) One of the rarest and most charismatic amphibians in the world, the Fringed Leaf Frog (Cruziohyla craspedopus) is a sight to see.. ",0 +8334,Dragon Ball Cat Cosplay. ,0 +8335,The unique call of a Red-Winged Blackbird. ,0 +8336,cat turning 30. ,0 +8337,what does he see... ,0 +8338,I'd rather be a quack then a ducky. good day!. ,0 +8339,5 siblings …. ,0 +8340,We decided to dress up nicely and have high tea together this afternoon …. ,0 +8341,Cute sheep. ,0 +8342,"Cape Coral Snake (Aspidelaps lubricus) from Springbok, Northern Cape. Venomous.. ",0 +8343,cat george the bread. ,0 +8344,Tom and Jerry. ,0 +8345,The last one sent me. ,0 +8346,"She looks exhausted, good job momma~. ",0 +8347,My dogs kinda sus. ,0 +8348,Tree kangaroo. ,0 +8349,When a large rat is caught. ,0 +8350,Spotted Harlequin Snake (Homoroselaps lacteus) from South Africa. Venomous.. ,0 +8351,Ein ziemlich cooler Typ!. ,0 +8352,What a beautiful smile of a cat. ,0 +8353,My sweet pet rat Olive taking her turn at learning to fetch a letter from a mini mailbox!. ,0 +8354,Medical Assessment. ,0 +8355,"can someone tell me, what animal is this skull from?. ",0 +8356,Sweet ratty Donut working on a fun agility course with 2 weave sections & fetch!. ,0 +8357,"What snake is this? Found him sleeping in our backyard, we live in CA.. ",0 +8358,Found this not sure what I should do?. ,0 +8359,Please don't touch the flower. ,0 +8360,Can someone tell me tf is this animal? (death). ,0 +8361,I get confused on why cats do this 🤔. ,0 +8362,lovely white bunny.. ,0 +8363,Hey human!. ,0 +8364,"My mouse keeps running!Go,go,go..... ",0 +8365,"My amazing pet rat Olive is learning to tightrope walk while carrying a ball - next up, adding in a longer and thinner rope!. ",0 +8366,Captain Snowy. ,0 +8367,Butterfly Closeup (Nikon P1000). ,0 +8368,Finding yoongi. ,0 +8369,pup. ,0 +8370,Cat hug!. ,0 +8371,I do not know if petting street animals with your feet is the right thing to do or not?. ,0 +8372,"My Amazing Pet Rat Olive doing Scent Work, this time with a Tunnel!. ",0 +8373,"Found this in my side yard, is this a dog femur? Randomly showed up In my side yard.. ",0 +8374,"Olive my amazing Pet Rat is Learning to Combine her ""Walk on a Rolling Barrel"" Trick with her Hand Fetch Trick!. ",0 +8375,Possum of the snow what treasures will he find?. ,0 +8376,Penny Lanes welcome party and even the cats enjoyed the festivities 🥰🐶😻. ,0 +8377,Cleo go’s on her first ride. ,0 +8378,Um that's a cat:3. ,0 +8379,Oscar as Cool Cat in the Hat photo by Teresa Robertson. ,0 +8380,Cats. ,0 +8381,Maxi boi. ,0 +8382,yummi 💖. ,0 +8383,Baby fish. ,0 +8384,What animal footprint is this?. ,0 +8385,What breed is this bird? Found him outside shaking and he got smth w his leg and head. Got food and water.. ,0 +8386,"This is new t-shirt design. you want buy it, say yes. ",0 +8387,Some pictures of my little guinnea pig salt. ,0 +8388,What would make a sound like this? It’s pretty terrifying. ,0 +8389,The look. ,0 +8390,These animals don’t deserve to lose their habitats that they are comfortable in because the enclosure is a few feet too close to a fence line. This is all because one man who is harassing us has called the city multiple times. Please sign and help save these exotic animals!. ,0 +8391,so cute..🥰. ,0 +8392,"The slow loris looks calm, cute and innocent as a child, but it is a very dangerous and poisonous animal.. ",0 +8393,cat can i has cheezburger. ,0 +8394,what the hell is the rule of this sub. ,0 +8395,123. ,0 +8396,God of war Dog. ,0 +8397,parrot is feeding on the tree. ,0 +8398,My tiny dwarf rat Butter is learning to fetch from a drawer!. ,0 +8399,"I'm very tired, how was your night? vote by vote please ♥️. ",0 +8400,cat prepare to die. ,0 +8401,Me In My Silly Little Bed - silly little bed cat redraw. ,0 +8402,Dog. ,0 +8403,finally a fresh loaf of bread.. Oh no it got burned!. ,0 +8404,A kitty is boxing~~. ,0 +8405,Do any of you know what animal claw this is I found it outside. ,0 +8406,cats after touching. ,0 +8407,My incredible ratties and their tiny paw paintings from this week - everyone did great!. ,0 +8408,Chinese Painted Quail Chicks (aka Button Quail). ,0 +8409,Horse Trainer Harry deLeyer spent his last $80 to save a horse and made him a Legend - ShutterBulky. ,0 +8410,I Like This One. ,0 +8411,do you love this animal??. ,0 +8412,Pitbull attack horse. ,0 +8413,"My baby, Pickles. ",0 +8414,My sweet pet rat Donut trying out some new agility obstacles!. ,0 +8415,Cat and bird cohabitating!. ,0 +8416,Why did the chicken cross the road??!!🐓. ,0 +8417,"Argentina man survives near fatal accident, starts rescue for dogs experiencing extreme cruelty. ",0 +8418,"My awesome pet rat Donut is learning 13 weaves, and she even managed to correct herself when she accidentally started popping out early!. ",0 +8419,halloween what the cat sees. ,0 +8420,What The Fun!!. ,0 +8421,Mi animal espiritual es un tlacuache. ,0 +8422,Bunny question. Does this look like a wild rabbit or domestic? Very very friendly but my brother found him in the road in fillmore.,0 +8423,come and watch. ,0 +8424,"Have struggled to get the right foundation undertone for 20 years. Husband solved it for me in 2 seconds.. I've always been fairly pale. I tan well, but typically burn prior and never get more than light-medium dark at the peak of summer. I've always used makeup with a light or light-to-medium shade and a neutral or warm undertone. + +Each time I've had my makeup done by a professional makeup artist, I've been told that my shade is light and undertone is neutral. When my makeup is finished, I often would look even more pale than I already am and ashy. My neck is more pale than my face and body, so I'm guessing they matched my neck, which is why my makeup never looked good..? + +Over the years, I've collected numerous foundations from high-end to drugstore with a neutral undertone. + +Yet they never look quite right. They don't look bad necessarily, but I can tell they don't match well. + +Lately I've been becoming increasingly frustrated with makeup. I've always loved it and been an artistic person that loves to explore the possibilities of my face canvas, but the foundation that I was told fit me just was not working - and the older I get the more noticeable it is that my foundation undertone isn't quite right. + +I decided to ask my husband to see if I could get an objective opinion on what my foundation looks like compared to my skin. I didn't expect him to say much other than - ""looks good to me."" + +Out of desperation, I asked- + +""Can you tell me what my foundation looks like to you? As in how is the lightness and darkness and does the color look like the color of my skin?"" + +And the man told me - +""Babe the lightness/darkness looks fine. The color is different though. I think you have olive skin."" + +And I said- ""Olive? Like really?"" + +And he said - ""yah you've always had olive skin."" + +So I, a light-skinned girl who's always been told I have a light skin with a neutral undertone and couldn't possibly be olive because I'm light skinned, bought and tried one of the rare olive undertone foundations I could find in a lighter shade. + +Lo and behold - + +IT IS MY UNDERTONE. I AM OLIVE. + +Let me repeat - I am LIGHT skinned and OLIVE. + +My husband - who knows nothing about makeup - was right. + +It looked like my skin - but better. It matched my body and didn't look ""off."" For lack of a better description- I look alive. + +I ran out of the bathroom and told him he just solved the 20-year mystery of - ""which undertone am I."" + +TIL - Sometimes an objective opinion with zero makeup knowledge can be the golden ticket to your makeup woes. + +Thanks to my dear heterosexual husband who barely knows what foundation is, I can finally look like I know what the eff im doing. + +Now I'm wondering - which brands carry an olive undertone in LIGHT foundation....So far I've only found it in 1 drugstore brand.",0 +8425,Mac prices went up again by 2 dollars. I am done because they were the most affordable high end but now If I have to pay 21 dollars for a lipstick then I may as well buy guerlain or chanel. All these companies are just taking advantage of the inflation.. I’m so mad at everyone jumping on the bandwagon of inflation,0 +8426,"You used WHAT???. Hi guys, I hope this post is ok but I just had to share. + +My sweet doggie had an upset tummy yesterday and had a ""messy"" booty when he got back inside. I had to go to work so my hubs had to wash him alone. Later on, I get a text message from him: +""Whatever that long pink washcloth in the bathroom was for, it's now boi's booty rag"". + +That washcloth? My makeup remover towel. 😐 Apparently it was *perfect* for scubbing his sensitive bum. Ah well. At least he has a clean booty. 😄 + +Moral of the story? Don't keep your makeup remover towel around when your dog has a messy bum.",0 +8427,"AI that finds what makeup would flatter you. I'm planning on building an Al program this year and one of my ideas was a personal stylist Al. Based on images you enter, it could output your kibbe type, 12 season colour palette, face shape, essence, hair and makeup recommendations. +I could add features that allow you to filter by aesthetic preference. + +I wanted to get all your thoughts though before built such a thing. Do you think there would be a demand? What should consider? Are there any other functions should add? Should not create this at all? Etc",0 +8428,"PSA: Just because an MUA has 50K+ followers on Instagram doesn’t mean they’re going to a good job. Recently I had such an MUA do a makeup application on me. I looked at all her work via the posts she made on IG of her clients and went into the the appointment really confident. + +I showed her a photo of the makeup and even looked for and had photos of the smokey eye makeup I wanted with the eyes closed so the MUA had a better idea of how to do it. The MUA immediately suggested a different eye look and didn’t actually even do a good job of the one she ended up doing. I realised after that the particular smokey eye she did was the same one she did for everyone. She also didn’t find a proper foundation match for me (I’m a POC) and I realised after that she didn’t have too many POC clients (or at least that’s the indication it gave on her IG page - I do understand not every client of hers is posted on her page). Oh, and her makeup applications cost $170AUD (I know I’m an idiot lol). + +But thought I’d give the advice that if you’re going to book an MUA found on IG or some other social media, check their work for diversity in looks and clients. That might not be new advice for some of you and probably just common sense, but I definitely learned the hard way.",0 +8429,"2022: the year you regularly clean your makeup brushes!. This is your friendly reminder to clean that shit!!! Makes a WORLD of difference in how makeup sits on my face. A clean foundation brush is like a whole new lease on life. + +Edit to say: trim ya candle wicks, clean ya brushes and clean ya sex toys. Champagne wisdom for the new year ✨ + +Edit 2 from u/essieamnesia: AND YOUR PHONE! lyson wipes",0 +8430,"ELF Getting to know themselves too much. Elfs new power is $11. They are going down the path of nyx I fear, where products that were meant to be affordable are becoming… expensive. Sigh",0 +8431,"Has anyone noticed that since mascara ads can't use false lashes, none of them look appealing?. I've noticed this especially with the MAC mascara ads on YouTube. It looks absolutely awful. Makes me feel better about buying drug store *mascara*, at least.",0 +8432,"Is it ok if boys are doing makeup?. Hi!I am a boy.I am 16 years old and i figured out that i am passionate about beuty, cosmetics and makeup.But i don't know is it ok for boys and does it suit?Is it cute?",0 +8433,"Looking at the Urban Decay eyelid primer and found this fantastic review:. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ +I crashed my car into a cement pole and cried all the way home but my eye makeup was still perfect. + +--- +Good enough to convince me 😅",0 +8434,"What’s a makeup technique that changed the whole game for you?. For me it was applying foundation with a brush instead of a sponge. That may seem obvious, but I’ve only been doing makeup for a few years, and I thought using a damp sponge was just, like, what you did! My foundation looks so much better when I apply and blend it with a brush! + +How about you? What was the technique you learned that BLEW YOUR MIND or CHANGED YOUR WHOLE whatever?",0 +8435,"If urban decay brought back the original Naked Palette it would be a hit. I have the original naked palette and think it’s the perfect nude palette I can’t use it anymore because it’s probably ten years old but I keep wishing urban will bring it back even if it’s just a limited edition thing. + +So many people would buy it just for the nostalgia alone. If I were on their team I would do an original naked relaunch for the holidays only. It would get so much hype.",0 +8436,Does anyone else find that their makeup sometimes looks really bad even though they’ve done the same routine. ,0 +8437,"I can not gatekeep any longer. For those of you who have problems getting your foundation brushes clean…Aveeno baby shampoo/wash & Sigma liquid brush cleaner. Together at the same time. TRUST ME ON THIS. I have tried EVERYTHING UNDER THE SUN to get my brushes clean but nothing would get them immaculately clean, everything would always still leave a tinge of color on my kabuki brushes. I accidentally stumbled on this duo & it just works. You have to use them at the same time & in seconds, you will have brand new looking & sanitized brushes.",0 +8438,"The ultimate lash curling technique. OK so I just needed to share this, because I am overjoyed! + +So, I’ve been using a lash serum since quitting lash extensions, and although they’re definitely getting longer, unfortunately they are straight. Like, ruler straight. On top of this, I have a problematic right eye (lol). Like, the lashes on this eye just WILL NOT stay curled. I use a waterproof mascara, I sometimes heat the curler, but they will never stay as lifted as the left eye. Even when I got an LVL, my right eye dropped straight away. Twice! + +Well, today I had an epiphany. I was thinking how hairdressers will set a curly blow dry with a blast of cold air. So I heat my curler with my hairdryer, curl my lashes, then blast them with my hair dryer on the cold setting. Finish off with waterproof mascara. + +OMG. I am shooketh. I curled them at 7am, it is now 4pm, and they are STILL CURLED. Like sky high. Higher than my left eye!! + +Apologies if this isn’t actually news to anyone! I’m just so happy! + +Eta I also used waterproof mascara",0 +8439,"‘90s makeup… where my ‘90s girls at? Anyone remember these products and trends? Anything I’m forgetting?. Any 90s girls out there who remember the following: +*colored mascara (usually electric blue, but could be red or pink, etc.) +*hair glitter wands or colored hair mascara +*lipstick in every color (silver, blue, black, green, gold… think TLC in their videos for “Creep” or “Waterfalls”) +*white eyeliner to the extreme, usually with pale blue shadow +*every form of body glitter imaginable (from spray to glitter dust to giant tubs of scented glitter gel) + +I was just thinking about this royal blue mascara I used to have, and I actually found myself kind of missing it and thinking it looked kind of cool. +The other ‘90s makeup I miss like crazy is my Dr. Pepper chapstick. +Haha I also just remembered, I used to have sparkle deodorant, because god forbid my armpits aren’t sparkly. + +What do you ladies remember?",0 +8440,"Want to boycott makeup brands that support Russia? These are owned by Nestlé: L'Oreal, Laboratoires Innéov, Maybelline, Garnier, Lancome, Biotherm, Ralph, Lauren, Giorgio Armani, Guy Laroche, Matrix, Redken. https://www.businessinsider.com/ukraine-prime-minister-calls-nestle-stop-all-business-russia-2022-3 Nestlé has already been on many people's boycott list for an intentional tragedy with baby formula and declaring that access to drinking water is not a human right. But now it is decidedly continuing all sales and operations in Russia. Thought that would be important to this conscious community.",0 +8441,"Meredith Duxbury isn't talented. I don't know why she's the ""Foundation Queen"" of the makeup community just because she slathers on foundation and uses it the wrong way. I don't see how she's talented for the way she puts on foundation which is akin to a fiver year old who just discovered her mom's foundation. Am I missing something? The last time I checked, being a makeup artist and having talent in makeup is when you create amazing makeup looks or you're versatile in makeup styles and looks. Whereas she, can only do full glam and even when she challenges herself to do a no makeup makeup look, it still looks full glam and like how she usually does her makeup. + +I know people will defend her saying that ""that's just how she does her makeup and how she likes it"" sure that's her choice and she can do whatever she wants but again, I don't see the talent in putting foundation on like moisturiser. She's a viral Internet personality, not a talented makeup artist. Crazy how the makeup community gives attention to talentless people for doing crazy stuff on camera when there are so many more talented actual makeup artists which deserves the recognition. At least those makeup artists know how to use foundation properly and also test a new foundation the way it is supposed to be used. Unlike Meredith, some artists actually know how to use foundation properly. + +Hate me all you want but I'm sick of people hyping her up just for having toddler level skills to put makeup on. + + +Edit: yall really can't handle a negative opinion and criticism huh? 😂😂 + +Edit 2: just want to thank everyone who was sane and logical enough to read this post and didn't take it personally and saw it from a rational POV. Loving how yall saw that I was only criticising her makeup skills and her claim to fame instead of me attacking her personally. Also thank you for not crucifying me just because I have an opinion on a public figure.",0 +8442,"I recently started to get into makeup and I can't looking at myself in the mirror lol. Basically I only used to use sunscreen daily..maybe eyeliner every once in a blue moon. +I recently started to wear more of a winged liner, lipstick, and blush and draw a bit on my brows - my brows are already dark to begin with +And now I feel so different and beautiful even +And Literally, any chance I get, I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror +I feel ready and confident lollll +I get excited to wear makeup every single day after I wake up in the morning now +x CAN'T STOP LOOKING AT MY REFLECTION LOL",0 +8443,"Is anyone else in their mid 30s struggling with makeup?. God I feel old even asking this lol + +But in the last few years I feel like everything I used to love looks like 💩 on me and makes me look older. + +Eye makeup especially is so hard because a lot of the shimmery glittery stuff I used to love makes me look like I'm just trying to hard. + +I've been an absolute makeup lover since I was a teen and didn't anticipate getting into my 30s and having no idea what I was doing anymore",0 +8444,What’s wrong with using powdered foundation?. I was talking to a friend about makeup and I told her I used powdered foundation instead of liquid and she laughed at me. I don’t get why it’s a big deal. I have always used powdered because it’s easier and liquid makes me break out really bad. I don’t think my makeup looks bad. One of the girls I used to work with loved the way I did my makeup and always complemented me on it and asked me what I did.,0 +8445,"What makeup sins do you commit?. In my case, I put on foundation and then take care of everything eye related, eyeshadow and all. It just works better this way for me because I use concealer as eyeshadow base (another sin), it's easier for me and quicker. +Thank you for your imputs! + +Edit: Hons, I love all of your comments, I love this little sinner makeup community!",0 +8446,"Transparent eyebrow gel that won't cause white flakes and poverty. Hey all. + +Looking for tips regarding a transparent eyebrow gel that won't break the bank. +I love Anastasia's but it's hella expensive. + +I've tried the nyx control freak and browgal, but they both produce white flakes during the day. +I have very long and thick eyebrow hairs, so I need something strong-ish. + +Thanks! + +Edit: thanks a lot for all the suggestions guys!",0 +8447,do people *actually* go by the “best by” date for makeup? like it says it’s good for 6mo but i swear i be using that for YEARS 😅. ,0 +8448,"Colorpop is not that good.. There I said it. Cancel me I don’t give a dern. + +All the shimmer shadows suck you barely get any payoff and everything else is mediocre. + +Trust me I’ve bought ALOT of their products to know and it’s just not that good. + +But it’s cheap sooo I guess I get it but I do get sick of seeing it promoted so much when most of it is hot garbage.",0 +8449,Does anyone not like makeup packaging that has a face on it?. Particularly eyeshadow palettes. Idk why but I HATE it whenever there is a face on a palette. Ex) Mercury Retrograde by Huda Beauty is such a beautiful palette and the model is so pretty but I just would have preferred a different design. I always think it looks so weird or out of place to have a person on the packaging.,0 +8450,"Y'all, did you know that eye primer...works???. I've been really into makeup for years now (and by makeup I mean fun eye/lip colors because I am a toddler), and somehow I haven't touched primers or foundation/concealer until now. And DUDE. Did you know eyeshadow can stay on for more than two hours? Absolute game changer. + +Please tell me of any other makeup essentials that aren't just pretty colors. I will never doubt the boring side of makeup products ever again.",0 +8451,"If anyone has trouble with unsubscribing from Kylie Cosmetics newsletter - this should help. So, I was subscribed to Kylie Cosmetics mail newsletter bc I was interested in one of the products, but when I wanted to unsubscribe today... The link worked but I couldn't write my email address down. + +So I found a solution: when you are on Kylie Unsubscribe site right click the box where you should write your email address and select developer settings/inspect element (safari). Next you should see a white box with the site's code with the section for 'Email' darkened. Delete this section of the code: + + readonly=""readonly"" + +Now you should be able to write down your email address. Just check the checkbox, click submit and Voilà! You're now a better web developer than Kylie Jenner's staff! + +\*if this post is not appropriate for this sub feel free to delete this\*",0 +8452,"Putting blush all over my face is a game changer. After doing my concealer and powder, I dusted sheer blush onto my nose, temples, and all over my cheeks. I took an extremely small amount and also dusted lightly over my forehead and chin. I got so many compliments! I looked rosy, not red or sunburnt. My foundation usually makes my face look flat, and this just livened it up + +I'm a medium skin tone and I don't usually get a flush beyond my cheeks. I felt so rosy and glowy and healthy.",0 +8453,"Colourpop just aggravated me. As a first time customer to colourpop I received a 15% off coupon code that expires today. I found a few things I wanted and two of the 4 items were on sale. When I got to the checkout and used my code the items that were on sale for $3.50 now showed being full price of $9. When I removed my coupon code they went back to the sale price. Sorry but thats just a bunch of cow dung. I understand coupon codes not working on sale items but the coupon code should have given me the 15% off of my full price items and excluded the sale items from the discounted calculation. To me, this is misleading business practice.",0 +8454,Someone needs to be there to tell me to stop every time I put makeup because rn I look like a gazelle (in a bad way). Y’all ever put concealer or blush and don’t see any change so you just start putting more and then realise that you should’ve stopped a long time ago,0 +8455,"What’s an aspect of makeup application you wish someone had told you?. I love how accessible makeup is now and how many ways there are to learn makeup application these days, through places like YouTube, and indeed Reddit. However, even beginner-focused tutorials I’ve seen tend to assume a higher level of familiarity with these products and how to use them than “beginner” would imply. + +My big example is this: how hard are you supposed to press into a pan of eyeshadow when you’re picking it up? I spend a lot of time absolutely digging up my shadows before I realized that I really just needed to Very Lightly Tap the shadows in the pants get the pigment I want. It keeps my brushes cleaned, and makes it easier to build product up slowly, but I don’t recall ever hearing a tutorial mention it. + +What’s your version of this? Let’s learn together!!!",0 +8456,"Just lost all the new makeup I bought. Went on a trip to the us and bought so much makeup with all the money I’ve been saving up the whole year. When I travelled back and checked my bags half my makeup was literally gone, all the new stuff I bought literally gone. Idk if I forgot to pack which I probably didn’t because I do remember packing everything in my bags but yeah just wanted to vent. Gotta keep reminding myself it’s just makeup and can be replaced. Currently in tears rn 🥲.",0 +8457,game changer:Nivea cream as primer. So I’m literally the worst person to give makeup advice cause Im not super skilled but for this reason I always fall into traps like $100 primers. Anyways I went to Sephora and the amazingg guy there gave me this tip to put Nivea cream (the blue tub) under foundation. Let it dry a tiny bit and then spread your foundation with your fingers. I cannot begin to explain how well it works for me and people compliment my skin so much now. It makes it glowy and natural/fresh looking. And my wallet is super happy.,0 +8458,"This is how to keep your nail polish chip free & looking awesome for at least 5 days!. Many years ago I shared this hack with my You Tube channel. Although my channel no longer exists I’ve found a few people seem to have found a way of sharing this amazing method to keep your nail polish from chipping for at least 5 days. + +Once I realized I struck nail polish gold with this incredibly easy method I tested it over the course of a month using all of my “high maintenance nail polish”. I swear if I looked at my Chanel Taboo sideways it would chip. + +Once I implemented this method, my Chanel didn’t start chipping until day 6. + +Now, if you’re one who changes your nail polish as often as you change your underwear, this won’t really benefit you any. + +Here are the steps: + +1. Base coat - any brand +2. Your favorite nail polish +3. Base coat again. Make sure to wrap your tips. +4. Top coat. + +Try it; you’ll be glad you did. The reason why this works is because you’re making a base coat sandwich. Base coat is designed to adhere to the polish and by sandwiching it, it’s gripping the top and lower layer of your nail polish.",0 +8459,What’s one thing that made a huge difference in how your makeup turns out?. Pretty much the title. I’m interested in hearing about any certain products or application methods that changed the game for you!,0 +8460,"Which hyped TikTok product did you buy for the 1st time and understand the hype 100%?. For me, it was the Huda Beauty Easy Bake Powder. The fragrance is unnecessary and it's expensive but it always gives me a flawless and smooth result, especially with a powder puff. +It's not very drying and it feels like a silky powder.",0 +8461,"Is it just me or have beauty stores gone downhill?. Ok before you get out your pitchforks- I managed at one of these for a few years so it’s possible I’m just being overly critical but I really feel like the in store shopping experience has declined since 2020. Thoughts/what have your recent experiences been like? + +I know supply chain issues are a thing so I’m def understanding of that being out of a store’s control but stores are looking more and more dingy as I go in. Since I don’t work in makeup anymore I go in maybe 3xs a year just to get what I need. Today my Sephora was out of EVERYTHING. The cast members were so nice but they were all about 18 and when asked for suggestions for replacements had no idea what products were good. I felt old lol. I’m 27! There’s no way I should feel old for asking for a foundation for my skin. My Ulta was ripped apart for holiday install in the middle of broad daylight and half of the store was unavailable. A second Ulta location later I STILL have to place online orders for both stores to get what I need. It was so strange. I remember Sephora esp being a magical place to try things, it was clean, cast members were helpful. It’s a bummer to see them like this! + +EDIT: I didn’t think this little rant would get so many comments but I appreciate anyone who’s shared their perspective and experiences. It’s naive to think that the beauty world exists in some sort of vacuum, unaffected by wealth inequality and worker’s rights. At the same time, since so many of us use makeup as an escape, I think it’s collectively a bummer to see the places we loved decline. I think I’ll try different locations soon after the holidays to see if I can find a store that fits what I’m looking for product wise.",0 +8462,"Does anyone have the issue where their makeup looks great in artificial lighting but terrible in natural lighting...how to fix?. When getting ready for the day I'll use a lamp (when I get ready for work it's still dark outside so I can't use window lighting) and typically I'll be happy with how my makeup looks. But then in my car when it starts to get light my makeup will look HORRIBLE. The eyeshadow will look more muddy everywhere I didn't blend well enough with bronzer or blush it will show. I can see the texture of my skin. + +It looks completely different. Is there a way to cater your makeup so it looks good in natural lighting?",0 +8463,"Would y'all use an app where you can filter people of your own skintone and view their makeup tutorials/swatches/dupes?. Growing up as a dark-skinned WOC, it was always hard for me to find products that matched my skin color. Everywhere I looked, there was only white/light skinned women featured in makeup tutorials/ads, which further exacerbated my search for products. Would you all use an app where you could filter based off of your specific skin tone and you could find those users that post makeup tutorials/dupes/recs ? Would you post videos/pics on the app yourselves (imagine you get compensated for posting those videos, like if you promote smaller makeup brands etc).",0 +8464,I’ve heard that the lipstick shade that suits you best is supposed to be the color of your nipple. Has anyone tried to find it and can anyone confirm?. ,0 +8465,"Are there any drugstore products you feel are better than their high-end counterpart?. Obviously, there's always a question of whether high-end products are worth the price. I'm curious if you find that there are any drugstore products that are actually better quality than high-end makeup.",0 +8466,"Beware buying makeup on Zulily. If you purchase cosmetics from Zulily please be aware that they are selling counterfeit products, which are unsafe to use. My mother-in-law got scammed buying me what she thought was a legitimate Urban Decay Naked Cherry palette for $44, thinking it was a decent price based on the real deal. I already have the palette purchased direct from Urban Decay and it’s blatantly obvious how fake it is when you have them side by side. + +My MIL thought she was safe because we told her she needs to buy from legitimate websites and she thought Zulily was that. It’s hard to find information but I think it’s just a marketplace. Maybe someone else can clarify? + +I only ever buy cosmetics directly from the company’s website or from legit websites like Ulta or Sephora. We’re trying to teach my MIL because it’s devastating to me that she’s spending so much money on counterfeits. I hope this will help others to not accidentally by fakes. + +Here are the comparison pictures where you can see just how obvious this fake is: https://imgur.com/a/szrRMaY + +Edit: I did not expect this to take off like it did. For clarification my MIL is not dumb and randomly clicking links. She is just not very familiar with makeup or what fakes look like compared to the real thing. She shops on Zulily a lot and thought it was a legit website to buy cosmetics on. It seems like Zulily is made up of thousands of different vendors, so it’s not surprising there’s people trying to scam with counterfeits.",0 +8467,"Tutorials make me hate makeup. I'm a beginner and makeup tutorials frustrate me so much. Why does everything have to be so complicated? Why does one part of the face alone require like five products? What about broke noobs like me? + +Can someone help with this? Any easy, proper easy, tutorials? + +Edit - I was initially scared to post this but you guys are super nice. Thank you for taking the time to reply. These were really insightful. <3",0 +8468,"Do you wear mascara? Want to help wildlife?. Donate your mascara wands to a good cause. + +WandsforWildlife.org + +Inspiring people to help wildlife and the environment through re-purposing discarded mascara wands.",0 +8469,"Does anyone find that the makeup brush cleaning process is frustrating?. I feel like if I don't wash my brushes every day it will be unhygienic, but who has time for that. Plus, the makeup brush cleansers apparently don't get rid of bacteria.",0 +8470,"if you're going to use makeup wipes.... ... WET THEM! **I repeat, wet your makeup wipes** + +Why? The water hydrates the cleansing agent and it moves the pigment around a lot better. It loosens up non-waterproof mascara, creates less pulling and dragging on your skin, and leaves less film. + +Still, you should at the very least give your face a good rinse-off with a warm facecloth. This is if you can't do a full skincare routine (such as camping, staying the night last minute, hospitalization, or mental illness). + +Way back in the day, like early 2000s, when makeup wipes became a thing, the commercial showed the wipes getting wet and then being used to get the face nice and sudsy. Over time, we got lazy or forgot how to use them, and companies just didn't make it so that you were required to get it wet but you really, really should still do it!",0 +8471,"Anyone else completely change their game due to Covid?. Thanks to a couple of years of wearing a mask and rarely going out I stopped wearing foundation/blush/contouring altogether, and I’ll never go back! + +I look so much better with less. My routine: a little blurring primer, some light, brightening finishing powder, and a setting spray. If I’m feeling fancy, I’ll do some mascara and eyeliner. + +It’s been so freeing, and at nearly 50 years old, I’m never going back— takes me 1/4 the time to get ready! + +Has your routine changed at all during the last couple of years?",0 +8472,"What is a makeup product that you still enjoy using/re-buying, even though the hype around it died?. For me it's the Naked 3 palette by Urban Decay. It was my first high end make up palette and I remember how it was all over tumblr and youtube back in 2013-2014. The internet was OBSESSED with it ! As someone who prefers rosy and neutral colours, this one is and stays my absolute go-to palette. + +Since UD got rid of the Naked 1 and Naked 2 palettes, I sort of fear that the Naked 3 palette will have to go next. I really hope they don't plan on burying it anytime soon lol",0 +8473,"Why does everyone brush their eyebrows up?. For real it looks so dumb. + + +Edit: This was the post that set me off https://imgur.com/gallery/nUkqQYG",0 +8474,"bullet lipstick hack. i've always been a huge fan of the way bullet lipsticks look on me, but they would always come off so quickly. i recently saw a tiktok for a ""just kissed"" lip look where the creator rubbed her fingertip on a bullet lipstick, and then smushed it all over her lips for a blurred look. i tried it, and one thing i realized that she didn't mention was that it lasted SO much longer! i used a cheap loreal lipstick that used to come off within an hour, and it made it 3-4 hours this time – even through an order of fries and an iced coffee :o. the finish is incredible too; it looks way more natural and delicate than when i put it on the traditional way + +i've tried it several times since with mac, nars, and ud lipsticks and they all ended up lasting way longer. some things i've found: + +* i use my index finger and start in the middle, and then work my way to the edges. i go a bit over my lipline to cheat bigger lips, and then use my pinkie to clean up the edges. i sometimes use a lip liner in a similar color to clean up the edges even more +* putting a lot of pressure (really smushing the lipstick on) makes a difference for longevity +* i use the leftover on my finger as matching blush on my nose :) + +anyways, i'm just really glad i discovered the method because i feel like my lippies have a whole new use now – i used to never wear them when i was out for an extended period and now i can. just thought i would share the tip for all of the other lipstick girlies out there!",0 +8475,"Why don't cosmetic companies want to work with older women?. As I get older, my skin changes and my makeup needs to change. I find it extremely expensive buying full-size bottles of makeup that are labeled for my age group only to use them once because they don't work with my skin type or cause allergic reactions. I went to 10 different cosmetic companies asking where I could BUY sample size versions of their products. I did not ask for free samples. It was disheartening that instead of telling me where I can buy the samples, they send me emails with coupons for $.50 off their full-size products. That doesnt help. Now, instead of saying how great a company's product is or how great they are to work with you, I'm telling people not to purchase from those companies.",0 +8476,"What's your unpopular makeup opinion?. I'll go first: + +I don't get the popularity of the Heroine Make mascara. It glues my lashes together, I end up with massive clumbs and spider legs, and it's so hard to remove, even with their special remover. I'm hate using it for the next 3 months and then it's going straight into the bin.",0 +8477,"Why Do People Feel the Need to Open up Makeup Products at Marshalls/TJMAX/Winners and Swatch?. I'm just curious about peoples opinion on this, because i've seen people talk about it before and also were not happy.I feel like if it has NO TESTERS do NOT open the product, as well as swatch the product on yourself. I just find it to be extremely unhygienic when people touch products and put it back and leave. I mean with everything going on in this world, especially with viruses i'd hope people would stop and not do this. I mean regardless it isn't okay, it's one of those things you have to watch out for when shopping at these stores. + +I always find products that are broken and opened, and some people say they find stuff with finger prints and it boggles my mind. + +I always say if there is no tester there DO NOT OPEN it. + +It's coming to the point where these stores are now putting red secure stickers to help with people opening and touching products. + +Don't get me wrong, i love shopping makeup at these stores i just don't get why people open and touch the product and put it back. I always say you touch it you pay for it lol + +what's your opinion on this?",0 +8478,"PSA to people wedding planning.. Please. Please. Please! Get more than 1 makeup trial done. Get trials by more than one person. I went with the only trial I did because I was already out the deposit (first red flag) but didn’t know any better. I typically wear little/no makeup in daily life. + +My wedding photos were released to me and I hated every single one. I looked like a clown and no one told me. It was so heavy and I looked nothing like myself. Just a friendly PSA. If I could do it all over again, I would get multiple trials by different artists who weren’t demanding a contract and deposit up front. Paying for a trial is fair; but I was naive enough to pay an actual deposit. My bridesmaids makeup who were done by her assistant were actually beautiful. I’m so glad they looked and felt beautiful but I should have felt that too. + +Best of luck brides!",0 +8479,"What are some products that you love but won’t buy anymore for a particular reason (owner scandals, treatment of workers, etc.)?. I love Nudestix’s Lip Glacé but they’ve been supportive of Trump and still support Allana Davison so I no longer support their brand. It’s a shame because I also really enjoy their matte eyeshadow sticks which are the only ones that don’t crease. Still in search of products that can perform similarly ;-; + +I also really enjoy ABH’s soft glam and brow wiz but they’ve been supportive of Russia during this war so I will no longer be purchasing from their brand. I really love their brow wiz and have stocked up during those Ulta Beauty Days. I have been loving the eyebrow pencils from Thrive Causemetics and Em Cosmetics so I will continue using those products once I use up my current stash or ABH brow pencils.",0 +8480,"Are false lashes appropriate for an office holiday party?. I’m traveling to a work holiday party at a winery. The dress code is “festive”, so I think false lashes would be fine. Not sure though.",0 +8481,"Makeup For Teenage Boys, Open to any advice. So, hello everyone. I am new here and I was advised to come here. Also, we live in Germany so EU based suggestions about products will be appreciated. + +I(46M) am a guy who has a 14 year old son, raising as a single dad and with no family members around and he is not straight(at least this is what he says).Last week he said he was interested in makeup and he wants to try it. I do not have any idea other than putting a sunscreen on my face about the products or the general stuff. I know he watches makeup videos and he has a style he wants to try but he does not have any idea about quality make up,so do I. I can afford these high-end brands that youtubers use but I don't want to spend this much money from the beginning so I have a cap of 25 € per item,30 if it is really an extraordinary material. Any product suggestions, any tips and any kind of tricks you can suggest, I am open to it. Also I don't know if there are male specific makeup brands so I would be delighted to have some info on that too. + +Thank you very much.",0 +8482,"Whats something ""wrong"" you deliberately do with your makeup?. Disclaimer: first of all, I don't thing there are ""mistakes"" when doing makeup since I see it as a self expression form therefore, to each their own + +What I mean is, there are some things the beauty community/gurus classify as ""wrong"". For example, for me, its my eyebrows. I like to overdraw them a little and have a strong design and well defined lines, something thats out of style at the moment and that in most videos you would see in a ""don't do it this way"" category. Is there anything like that in your routine? And if so, what? Im curious to know everyone's answers",0 +8483,"Has Anybody Else ever experienced an Inadvertent and embarrassing Makeup Mishap, Without Noticing Right away?. I'll start as I do realize that it's probably an odd question. I'd also be interested in hearing about your experiences as well. + +One morning I was rushing to do my makeup before getting out the door to face the day. It was early and I obviously wasn't paying close enough attention to what I was doing. + +Hours later, I went to the restroom. As I was refreshing my lipstick, there was something really ""off"" and puzzling in my reflection in the mirror. Much to my utter dismay, I realized that instead of using an eyebrow pencil to fill in my brows, I had accidentally used a pink lip liner. It was back in the day when the Wet 'n Wild 666~aka~The Beast--Lipliner was all the rage. It was highly coveted back then because it was a perfect pinky nude lip liner. Yet, there I stood with it all penciled into my light eyebrows. When I tell you it was noticeable, it was ""in your face"" noticeable. I was mortified. + +Much later down the road in life, I found myself laughing about it. But on that day and at that time, the humor in it eluded me. + +What about you? Have you ever committed a makeup faux pas?",0 +8484,"Anti Holy Grail Products?. What are makeup products that were so hyped up but turned out being underwhelming or just bad overall? Makeup is personal so what works for you might not work for someone else& vice versa. + +My Top 3 Antis: + +Rare Beauty Foundations!!! +I saw so many good reviews and decided to try it out. I couldn't make it work no matter what I did! I can see it being good on someone with 0 texture and skin concerns but it separated and looked awful on me. I've seen a handful of youtubers say it didn't work for them either but the comments on these videos usually are negative i.e YOU DIDNT PUT IT ON RIGHT or YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO USE A BRUSH or YOU USED WAY TOO MUCH PRODUCT!!! Lmfao 😭😭 Ma'am I would prefer to put on foundation the way I always do & not have to do 10 backflips, clap my asscheeks 24 times and then spin around. 🫂 The youtubers then end up making another video& they magically like it to do some damage control. + +I personally think this is a raved product because Selena Gomez owns it, period. + +Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush Flawless Foundation +This was the WORST! On clean girl aesthetic tiktok, this was considered top tier. It applies beautifully but get just a bit of sweat& you will get a mustache 😭😭😭😭 I've tried so many ways, I set it with fine setting powder, I tried to set it with powder foundation, sprayed setting spray my face a million and 10 times.... I still get a stache from where I sweat. My daughter came up to me& asked me why I had chocolate on my upper lip. It stuck to me till this day& every foundation I try, I make sure my upper lip doesn't look embarrassing. + +KVD Liquid Lipstick +Cracked tf out of my lips, I ended up looking like I had a bread with dry ass crack for breakfast. I've seen a lot of good reviews though. + +What are your anti holygrails?",0 +8485,"‘No Foundation’ Contradiction?. Especially with the uptick in “that girl/clean girl” make up trends I’ve seen so many people post their routines and mention that they want to keep their makeup light and so they’re going to skip foundation and use concealer. Which cool makes sense, but then they proceed to use concealer all around the face and by the time it’s blended in, most of the face has coverage…Like am I crazy or at that point would it be lighter/simpler just to apply a medium/light coverage foundation vs a face full of concealer? + +People should do whatever they want with their makeup obviously, but ever since I noticed how contradictory it seems I see it all the time and it just gives me a bit of a chuckle- was just curious if any of you guys have had the same thought process/disagree with my take!",0 +8486,"""She's a 10 but..."" Makeup edition :). Put a product you use often, but theres just that one feature about it that bothers you + +I'll start. Maybelline Master Percise Eyeliner. She's a 10 but her worst enemy is water, even though she doesn't budge all day...",0 +8487,"Is it bad that i prefer to use my fingers for foundation and concealer instead of a beauty sponge?. The process starts out trash looking and then the end result is just great. I use my real techniques blender like once a month and i just dont get why i should use it at all (my sister told me this is a great product). +Im fairly new to makeup so im very curious about the pros and cons of this. + +Edit: Thanks for all your responses Im glad to see its not just acceptable but totally fine to do this haha + +Edit 2: yes i do wash my hands :)",0 +8488,"Unpopular opinion: Colourpop. Is it just me or I feel like colourpop isn’t really worth the hype anymore… 99.9% of my makeup products are colourpop but I feel like they only care about releasing new products every single month instead of restocking T_T Sometimes their new products looks similar to their old ones but just different colors mixed around. I haven’t purchased any colourpop products for a while because I’ve been so overwhelmed with their launches and the products that I do want are always sold out and never restocked! I’m just sad they discontinued some of their products like their sheer pressed powder, loose highlighters, and some lip shades 💔 I just wished they focused on restocking their products instead of constantly releasing collections that look the same… I honestly think it’s just for the aesthetic for ppl to collect because their packaging is always appealing T_T",0 +8489,"Ok so how do straight guys learn makeup?. Alright so I'm a straight guy who over the last few years has become obsessed with Glow Up and I want to learn how to do make up. But I'm not LGBTQ in any way, so I have no connection to the drag scene and I'm single so I don't have a girlfriend to teach me. (Also I'm drunk fight me) + +Im genuinely interested in learning how to do make up..... Pls tell me what I need to do!",0 +8490,What makeup do you dislike but others like it very much. ,0 +8491,"How to Compliment my Crush on her makeup?. I'm a guy with little knowledge about make up, but I have a crush on a girl who really takes her time and effort with make up which I find really adorable. So I wanted to know more about make up so I know what to compliment her on. + + +I know eyeliners are hard to use because I have done my sister's eyeliner before, and I have complimented my crush on hers before, but that's about all I know. + +Tips would be appreciated! :)",0 +8492,"Girlfriend has a birthday coming up and told me a while back that “one day I want to get one of the fancy self tanners, but this works for now.” I don’t want to break the bank, but what would be a top of the line self tanner I could get for her?. ",0 +8493,"What makes nude lipstick so flattering for everyday?. Surveys have shown women feel most confident in nude lipstick over red or other bold colors. + +On me, I feel the same. Personally, my theories are: + +1) Maybe it makes me look like im wearing less makeup than I am while still enhancing my features? + +2) Maybe a soft, lighter lip accentuates the eyes? + +3) A bolder lip can sometimes look too bright in certain lightings and make me feel like I look like I have clown makeup on, or just looks too dramatic + +I love nude shades for daily/professional wear (not concealer lips, but like pinky/brown nudes) and would love your thoughts on it and if you gravitate towards them for everyday wear or not!",0 +8494,"Unpopular opinion: I don’t like the rare beauty blush. I know people rave about how pigmented it is but honestly I feel like that’s the problem. I can’t build it up to my liking and just looks like an explosion of blush on my face if I even use a tiny bit more. + +I prefer something less pigmented and easier to build and blend to my liking, wondering if anyone else feels the same?",0 +8495,too old for glitter?. hi! in another forum a while back i was told im too old to wear glitter shadow since im 25. i just wanted to know if thats true? is it because it looks bad on me because of wrinkles? i dont have many and im trying to prevent more but im truly cueious if i need to throw out all my glitter palletes 🥲,0 +8496,"What's a makeup item you want, but won't buy because it's too expensive?. ",0 +8497,Am I the only one who dislikes contour?. Hi everyone I've tried contouring beforehand and I just don't believe it suits my face. Am I the only one who feels like that?,0 +8498,"What is the best lip balm, meaning your lips are actually getting moisturized and not getting dryer in between and needing more and more of the product?. ",0 +8499,"How do I have a healthy relationship with makeup?. So I (28F) just started wearing makeup in February, and now I feel like my bare face is ugly. I used to go bare faced everywhere and never did my makeup or knew how. Since I’ve seen what makeup can do to my features I feel like I don’t want to go back. I feel like I’m somewhere between feeling empowered/confident because of makeup but I also feel I’m using it to “hide”. + +I still go bare faced when I’m not teaching/meeting friends and just running errands, but the difference in confidence for me is really noticeable. With makeup I feel reassured and like my presence is fully there. Without makeup I try not to be “seen” and I don’t interact with people the same way. This is funny because I really lived my whole life without makeup and this only started happening now that I’ve started. So how do I navigate this and have a healthy relationship with it?",0 +8500,"I don’t understand the setting powder hype?. I own a few setting powders, loose and pressed. They range from Charolette Tillbury and MAC, to drugstore and indie brands. I always see people online hyping up new powders, claiming that this new powder is the one to beat all powders. Don’t get me wrong, I do see slight differences in each powder that I own. And I have my favorite. But nevertheless if I was made to use the same drugstore powder everyday I would be content and probably see no difference overall. So why is it that I see people hyping up every new powder? Am I misunderstanding the powder hype? + +Edit: yes powders are different and some are absolutely better than others. I just find that there is always hype for every new powder (especially on tiktok) and it seems like all hype and marketing (and filters) and no innovation. And I understand the excitement with a blush, or a new eyeshadow, or a new foundation. But translucent powder? The only thing that’s really exciting is the packaging. + +Edit #2: I love that we’re all sharing opinions and powder recommendations down in the thread! ♥️",0 +8501,"What does this mean?. I was in Ulta minding my own business when a sales person approached and asked if I needed help. I said, no, and carried on my merry way. She then said, “I love your lashes. You probably could have brought them out a little further. Close your eyes, let me see.” I closed my eyes, not sure what she was looking for—I had mascara on, but not false lashes, and there really wasn’t anything to see. When I opened my eyes, she said, “oh.” Then, walked away. I didn’t want to chase after her like an idiot, so I left, wondering, wtf was that about? I’m still wondering. What did she say “oh” ? Nothing was gross or wrong with my lids. They’re just regular. I’m baffled.",0 +8502,"Micellar water is a miracle. What the heck is in it? So I used to just scrub makeup off, with a facecloth and water. But my skin has been breaking out since getting on the copper iud, so I’ve had to start using soap. I use cetaphil, which is great but kind of drying. So I tried micellar water for makeup removal, and wow. It doesn’t contain oil OR alcohol, and it gets all the makeup and dirt right off easily. I usually use paper towels to remove the makeup, then a face brush to exfoliate and massage cetaphil in after. What is in this stuff! It’s amazing!",0 +8503,"This week I had two bridal makeup trials, and neither went well. What should I be looking for when seeking a third? And at what point should I just learn to do it myself?. [Here is me and the two looks](https://imgur.com/a/guQd6uC). + +The first one used a warm yellow tone foundation, when I am clearly cool and pink. My dress shows a lot of my neck and arms so it looked very silly. + +The second one tried four different foundations and couldn’t get any of them to dry smoothly. They all ended up dry and flaky. He said it’s my fault for having dry skin, and that he could only do my eyes, after eventually giving up on the skin entirely.",0 +8504,"TIPS from Korean dermatologist. One of my friends in Korea has worked in dermatology for over 10 years, and gave me some tips about at home skincare. + +​ + +1.Best solution for pimples you get is not fancy cosmetics but HONEY. Spread some amount of honey on it for maybe a quarter and wash it off. Treat yourself with some skin care products as usual, an overnight will cure the pimples.(for those who think this is too fake, just grab some random mask pack from any cosmetic store with honey ingredient in it. Seriously, anything is fine if there’s honey in it.) + +2.When using a mask, apply a bit of serum first, then put a mask on for a quarter, gently ‘pat’ and just sleep. Here’s a tip, don’t use all the essence inside the pack just because you think it’s a waste. Our skin is weaker than you think and there is only a limited amount of which our skin can absorb. If you think it’s too much of a waste, apply them on your neck or body. (If your skin is too sensitive even for a pack, try using some tea tree pack.) + +3.For those with dry skin type, about 75% get acne because it's dry. Dryness is the deadliest to your skin. Make sure you absorb the amount of serum before bed (once again, don’t over use it. It rather causes a backfire). Moisturizing cream is the best. + +4.For those who think you are still suffering with some troubles, go grab some saline from any drug store. Pour it on a random puff you use and stick it to the spot for about 15 minutes. + +5.Other solutions for it maybe: Change your diet. Quitting flour for a week can impressively solve your skin. + +6.Recommended skin care brands and products: + +DR.Jart+ ([Ceramidin creme](https://www.drjart.com/product/28258/90156/moisturisers/ceramidin-cream)) Ceramidin is the best for acne. + +SERUMKIND ([Chaga charging drop](https://completone.us/products/chaga-charging-drop)) Personal favorite, good for sensitives + +IM FROM ([honey mask](https://www.amazon.com/IM-4-23oz-moisturization-Nourishment-Complexion/dp/B010FOFHEY)) Just in case someone asks for recommendations.",0 +8505,What the most common mistakes you have seen makeup beginners make?. ​,0 +8506,Is anyone else getting private messages from men on here who are pretending to be women on their posts?. This is creepy and there are some pervs on here. Be careful ladies.,0 +8507,"I found mold in my Kosas concealer 🤢. Okay so I originally got a sample of this concealer, and I flipping loved it. It was the best concealer I have ever used. Fast forward 9 months later, I started to notice a blue cheese smell. Fast forward to a year later, I put it in and my eyes and face BURNED. I figured it’s probably done for anyway, because concealers usually last 1-2 years, but I went back to use this a couple weeks later and I found black spots in my concealer. I literally had just bought a brand new Kosas concealer too and I actually ended up contacting customer service about it. They said they will look into it but to keep what I ordered for free. Which was nice but if this concealer grows mold that fast don’t people have a right to know about it? Idk. Anyone have the same experience?",0 +8508,"Tubing mascara - a miracle. Thank you r/makeup :). A few weeks ago, I looked for advise on a mascara that wouldn’t slide off my eyelashes for super unattractive panda rings….. and you came out in force recommending tubing mascara ☺️☺️ + +I mistakenly had been using waterproof mascara thinking it was wet eyes that were the problem, whereas it was oily eyelids!!!! + +I’m ordered Hourglass mascara, and the days of sliding mascara are OVER! + +It claims to give eyelash extension results and for me, it doesn’t …. It’s not the most lengthening mascara, but I’ll take it !!!!! + +Thanks everyone who helped!",0 +8509,"Down and dirty, real life, funny, and NSFW makeup reviews. Reddit, what are your down and dirty, real life, funny, or NSFW makeup reviews? I'll go first! + +I love the maybelline superstay matte lipstick. I bought this lipstick in purple just to try it out. After a few weeks of wearing it, I liked it and it became a regular color for me. I knew I'd never go back to different brand after I gave my husband sloppy road head on a 40-ish minute long drive and my lipstick was still flawless afterwards. No smudges, no transfers, no fading, just beautiful bright purple lipstick. I bought like 5 other colors of the stuff after that. + +I want to hear everyone else's awesome reviews! They don't have to be NSFW, like I saw one in this sub that said they got in a car wreck and cried all the way home but their eyeliner was still perfect and another one that said they went to the ER and when they got home the next day, their eye makeup was still perfect. So let's hear it, what's your crazy makeup reviews?",0 +8510,"Does anyone know of a good way I can get rid of my massive make up collection?. Hi! I’m a make up influencer and I recently got signed to a management agency which has been incredibly exciting and wonderful. But unfortunately I was definitely not prepared for the massive amounts of PR I would be getting with products that are great but I literally just can’t use! + +Thankfully I have decided to go to school to become a pro MUA so I’m sure alot of it would be helpful in my kit or to just give clients. I’ve also done giveaways and donated but is there any other way that I haven’t thought of yet? I feel so overwhelmed and the anxiety of not knowing where to put things is honestly got me more stressed out than anything these days. My collection is also just huge and I have no idea how to narrow it down. Any suggestions on that as well would be amazing",0 +8511,"Wife’s Makeup Travel Tote. Currently my wife has a stackable travel tote about the same size as a large luggage that has the pull out handle and wheels like you might see at the airport. She does makeup professionally. The tote is getting older and I want to replace it as a surprise. Give me some links to the best quality versions of this. Thanks. + +Edit: + +I appreciate the compliments but my wife works her rear-end off… this is literally the least I can do! :)",0 +8512,"I’m a husband that doesn’t want fumble a Christmas gift. What makeup items could I purchase that almost any lady could use?. I’m trying to branch out and I would like to get my wife some makeup and/or crèmes for Christmas. I know virtually nothing about makeup. I would go into an Ulta and ask questions but I wouldn’t even know where to start or what to ask. + +I will say I know my wife is on the modest side of make up. Usually foundation and concealer. + +Are there tiers of make up brands? Are there any makeup items that every woman could benefit from? Like anti aging cream. + +Any help would be great. + +Edit: + +Thanks everyone for the comments and understanding. I appreciate all the feedback and I hope everyone has a wonderful time for the holidays!",0 +8513,Do you think it’s a bit of a cop-out when brands say they couldn’t do more deeper shades because of costs?. I was just seeing the Wayne Goss foundation reviews and there’s not many deeper shades and be said he couldn’t because he can’t afford it. Which is understandable because it’s self-funded. But it still feels a bit…odd. Obviously it’s just not him. And it is better than big brands that you find in Sephora that only do light to medium shades despite having the money.,0 +8514,"why is pressed powder so frowned upon now?. pressed powder works great for me, and doesn’t cause as much mess as loose powder does. why do i see less and less people using it? don’t get me wrong i do use loose powder sometimes, especially to set my under eyes, but i have dry skin and pressed works better for my skin. it’s getting harder and harder to find a good pressed powder.",0 +8515,"What discontinued products do you wish came back?. There are a few products and lines I wish came back. Here are a few of them: + +- L'Oreal HIP line. It was so good I can't believe it was discontinued. + +- Revlon Lip Butters. I will forever cherish what few shades I have left of it. + +- The entire NYC line. It just disappeared one day and you can't even find the website anymore. They had some of the most affordable makeup that I used when I started using makeup. And that liquid liner was like a dream. + +- Tokidoki makeup. The packaging was so cute, but it was so expensive 😣. I swore to buy it when I grew up and started making money, but unfortunately by then they were discontinued.",0 +8516,"Victoria Beckham beauty- buyer beware!. Hi all + +I am really frustrated after making a large order with VBB. This was my first order ever. Everything arrived two days after placing the order (I paid for expedited shipping). I noticed the items didn’t come with a duster bag as per the usual Instagram reviews. I found that strange but thought nothing of it + +My biggest issue was with the packing. The bronzer wouldn’t shut properly and there was an issue with the clasp at the back. Also the caps on the eyeliner set I ordered was hard to close + +So I reached out to customer care. The returns section of their website say they allow returns within 30 days of purchase and that CC would provide me with a return label. + +I wrote my email and got an automated response saying customer care would get back to me within 24 hours + +Well guys it has been two weeks. I have not gotten any emails from customer care. I even reached out to VBB via Instagram. They responded there and provided me with customer cares email. I replied repeating that I had had no luck with that email and to advise on next steps + +Instagram has let me know that they viewed my message (sent over the weekend). No reply. + +I am so confused on what to think. I’m trying to to tell myself it might be the holidays- but why send the automated response saying “24 hours” turnaround? And why would the Instagram account not advise that there were delays + +At this point I am worried the 30 days will be up before I ever hear from them. Advice? Tips? + +If any of you were considering ordering from this brand- be careful!",0 +8517,"What do you think the future is for makeup in upscale department stores?. I’m talking about places like Nordstorm, Macy’s, Dillards, Neimans. Curious about other’s opinions. With Sephora putting new stores inside of Kohls, ulta partnering with target on top of already having so many free standing stores; what will happen to the high end makeup counters in the future? I truly don’t see them lasting much longer. As someone who recently left a makeup counter job after 5 years, it was a huge struggle. We just couldn’t compete with the insanely good reward point systems, online discounts, and free gifts everyone else was handing out. We’d get yelled at for not selling enough like it was out faults. People avoided the beauty counters at all costs, and I don’t blame them. I worked with some pretty outgoing sharks who wouldn’t let you leave without spending money on stuff you don’t want. It does make me a bit sad when my nostalgia brings me back to my early teens when my mom would let me get a makeover at a bobbi brown counter and I felt so fancy and special. However there is no incentive for anyone to shop there unless you want that experience or are an older lady who has been shopping there already and doesn’t want to change their ways. I don’t see any comeback for the beauty counters, and at most department stores they rely on makeup counter sales for at least 10% of their total sales. But it’s not just makeup, I don’t think many people enjoy shopping at these stores anymore. I wonder what will happen in the future, if this will lead to department stores closing as a whole or just taking out their beauty sections.",0 +8518,Looking for something for my wife.. My wife was complaining about her mascara this morning and is on like her 4th different kind. She had one that she really liked but it was expensive and she is trying to be more budget conscious. My plan is to buy a bunch of the suggestions and make them into a bouquet for mothers day. So help a clueless fella out and let me know what's good and reasonably priced,0 +8519,"does everyone look bad with highlighter in real life or am i losing my mind?. (disclaimer obviously i’m talking about every day natural glow - makeup designed to enhance beauty and not the kind that’s for like self expression and more costumey style and i know some people want to look like that but you get what i’m saying?) + +everyone is still all up on the highlighter craze and whenever i’ve worn it or seen on someone else irl it looks like really fake and bad… + +in photos - amazing - + +my question: is everyone doing highlighter for photos or is there a way that it doesn’t look crazy irl and i’m not getting it??",0 +8520,"Y’all notice makeup brands these days are constantly on sale?. It’s been a while but every company I’ve looked are always on sale. I mean that’s great, but why? Sales used to be pretty uncommon but now it’s almost 24/7",0 +8521,"Ever get your makeup done and it looks really bad. I recently got my makeup and hair done professionally for my first time. She said she was going to do very loose and natural curls. They ended up being curls that started at the top of my head and were so tight and so much hairspray that my hair couldn’t move and had no bounce. + +She did my makeup and I didn’t look until the end because I wanted the big reveal. When I finally looked my reaction was shocked ! It looked horrible ! I could not believe how bad the makeup looked. Of course I said it looked great because at that point what was I to do ! + +Anyone ever have this experience ? Is there any good makeup artists who know how to do really nice transformational makeup where you end up actually looking pretty ? I don’t think I am an ugly person but wow I really did feel ugly after that experience like maybe I just can’t be transformed.",0 +8522,"eyeliner tip!!. hey, i don’t know how many of you know this but whenever i was learning how to do wing eyeliner (after like 8 years of trying to figure it out) i have a tip that has always helped: +LIFT UP YOUR EYEBROWS AND TILT YOUR HEAD BACK FOR A BETTER ANGLE! it naturally pulls up the skin for a smoother application and tilt your head back for a straighter angle. +e.l.f h2o proof eyeliner is my diehard go to liquid liner +hope this helps!",0 +8523,"Does applying red lipstick under your eyes really mask dark circles?. I've heard that it does and I'm desperate because my dark circles are really bad. I'm just wondering if it actually works. + +Edit: All I did was ask a simple question. I appreciate the advice but some of you are being unnecessarily rude. You can cut it out now. + +Edit 2: I'm sorry that I have not replied to everyone but I really appreciate all the advice",0 +8524,"absolute BEST mascara. what are the best mascara you’ve ever used??? idk about many famous ones, only the yellow one from maybelline, better than sex and the lancome one. want sum recommendations pls",0 +8525,"What is the difference between how Millennials and Zoomers apply make up?. The title says it all. What is considered super outdated now? What is super in? I'm talking: + +Foundation + +Eyeshadow + +Eyebrows + +Lips + +What do you think? + +**Edit:** This was really fun to read! Thanks! Honestly, the Zoomer makeup trends remind me of how I wore makeup as a preteen before I got into covering my entire self in glitter and waxed off my perfectly good eyebrows. Certainly seems easier than what I was doing a few years ago with the 1,000 products I was using. So... I am a 35-year-old millennial. I snuck away from my husband and baby to the drug store today and purchased: + +Primer: Maybelline Baby Skin Pore Eraser + +Foundation: Maybelline Dream BB Pure + +Brows: Maybelline Brow Fast Sculpt gel, Maybelline Xpress brow crayon, and Maybelline Brown Extensions (Idk what I'll end up liking. May hate it all). + +Lips: Maybelline Color Sensational Shading Lip Liner in Pink Wink and Maybelline Sheer Lipstick in Born With It (which I can't use and have to return because someone apparently opened it and slathered it on before sticking back on the shelf). Shame because it looks super pretty. :( + +Thanks for the help, Reddit! + +​",0 +8526,Women: Do you shave your face?. I feel like my skin would look much better with makeup on if I started shaving my face but I have yet to pull the trigger. What's the best way to remove the hair? Is it a pain? Do you have to do it every day?,0 +8527,What’s a shower wash where the scent really stays on you after the shower?. I know they wash off of course? But is there one that really holds the smell?,0 +8528,"Why the f*** is there shimmer in my foundation?!. Just bought the L’Oreal Le Blush only to discover is has shimmer in it. Oh well I knew it was likely being a drugstore brand blush. Also got the L’Oreal True match foundation and the s*** has shimmer in it too?! +I just want a foundation I can easily get a hold of - not look like a kid who got into her mother’s make-up the night before 😭 + +Edit: + +[Photo of swatch and bottle](https://imgur.com/a/OZZ9YN5) + +The shimmer on my hand is much clearer IRL",0 +8529,What’s the absolute best mascara in your opinion?. I’ve tried many and I keep going back to L’Oréal carbon black. It’s so smooth and applies nicely. I have tried many others and none can compare imo.,0 +8530,"Is 40 too old for false lashes?. I've never tried them but would like some nice ""natural but better"" ones",0 +8531,"Finish this sentence: ""I Like my makeup like I like my men, _____"". ",0 +8532,"Taking my business elsewhere, Sephora. RE: Insider Points. ​ + +I have been a Sephora Beauty Insider for over a decade. Today I logged into my account on their site to make a purchase and was shocked that my points was ZERO. I scrolled down to find out that since I have been inactive since January and is now EXPIRED! I have 900 points that I was carefully saving up and are now gone. Absolutely disgusting and I will be taking my business elsewhere. + +I am in Canada, but live close to the border. Has anyone from Canada tried to order from Ulta, then ship to the states? I am much happier doing that then supporting a company that gives no F\*\*\*\* about its customers.",0 +8533,"What’s a makeup hack that you swear by ?. Especially about base makeup like foundation, concealers and setting your face. My foundation looks good, what I struggle with is concealer. At first it looks airbrushed but after a while, I start noticing fine lines and cracks. What do you do to make it look flawless and lasting ? Also, please suggest me some good full coverage drugstore base make up products.",0 +8534,"Doubled My Income & Can Afford Nicer Makeup!. Hi y’all! I recently got a new job that affords me the flexibility to do some shopping at Ulta instead of Target. What products should I look at for an everyday professional look? I’m looking for: + +- A nice mascara (I like CoverGirl Clump Crusher - I have long and thick eyelashes naturally) +- A foundation/BB/etc with sunscreen (currently use L’Oreal True Match C2) +- An eyeshadow palette that I can mix and match (I have one Urban Decay palette that I really like) +- A brow pencil for dirty blonde hair that looks really natural (just filling in where I over plucked in the 2000s). + +Thanks community!!",0 +8535,"Lip color for yellow teeth. Maybe this is a weird issue, but I have fairly yellow teeth and whitening is sadly not an option for me. So I thought perhaps I can counteract the yellowness with the right lipcolor. + +I googled wich color would be best and many articles said to use the opposite tone like a cool pink. At first that made sense to me, but thinking about it... wouldn't that actually increase the constrast and therefore make the yellow apear more yellow? + +I mean it's not like color correcting where you put the opposite color on top in order to counteract it. With lips and teeths you have the colors side by side, so it's more like eye makeup, where increasing the constrast makes your eyecolor stand more out. + +What do you think...?",0 +8536,What are some lazy girl ways to make my eyes look bigger with makeup?. ,0 +8537,"So apparently, not everyone sets their entire face with powder after foundation?. I genuinely thought that everyone sets their foundation with powder. The claims these foundations have I thought could only be achieved with powder on top. Even with a matte foundation I’d layer with setting powder. And even then, I still could potentially have a bit of separation or transfer at the end of the day. My T-zone will definitely get oily too.",0 +8538,What is a brand you will never purchase from either again or never at all?. Just curious to see what brand you will order from again/will never purchase from at all. I’ll go first: Jaclyn Cosmetics,0 +8539,"Anyone work retail? I’m tired of seeing perfectly good personal care items thrown in the trash.. I work retail at a big makeup store in the U.S. When people return items, no matter if it is used or not, that item goes in the trash. If the container of a product is broken although the contents are fine, we throw it in the trash. If a product is missing a part that affects it aesthetically but not performance, you guessed it, it gets tossed. +We have several women’s and homeless shelters in the area that could probably use some of this stuff. I wish I knew how to change this rule of tossing good items and instead donating them locally. +Obviously the exceptions would be items that require hygiene like open makeup. What do you all think? Is there a chance at all to start a donation program?",0 +8540,Is there any makeup trend/product/brand you're glad people are over?. ,0 +8541,"When did MAC brand get so expensive?. Ladies who are 30+… was I just not paying attention years ago? A single eyeshadow is close to $30 now.. I remember MAC always being more expensive but not this much… maybe like $19 for a single. + +Maybe they’re trying to compete with the other, newer luxury brands and upping the price. I do realize inflation is probably a factor but the increase seems excessive. Anyone else notice this?",0 +8542,"Skin makeup looks so much better at the end of the day?. When I apply my skin makeup (primer, foundation, and powder) at the beginning of the day, it looks fine, but you can also tell that I have makeup on. I am pretty conservative with the amount I use and it’s the right shade, it just looks kind of jarring texturally. Not like real skin. + +But by the end of the day, my skin looks comparatively amazing—like the makeup is blending into the skin seamlessly and I just have naturally perfect skin. To be clear, I don’t sweat much, and the makeup isn’t coming *off*—it’s still very much there, providing coverage, it’s just meshing with my skin better somehow. Maybe this is a stupid question with an obvious answer, but why does it do that? And does anyone have any idea how I could replicate that effect in the morning? Thank you so much in advance for any thoughts 🥲",0 +8543,"Why do some people just not look good in makeup?. I do not look good in anything other than very light makeup ( light eyeliner, mascara, lip tint). Anything other than that looks very bad on me. Anything that covers my skin( foundation, concealer,blush, eye shadow ) looks heavy and very unflattering. I have very large lips with a defined Cupid’s bow but any lip stick just looks smeared on me. + +At first I thought that I just couldn’t put on makeup. I had my friends try, my sister( who looks similar to me), and I even tried a professional when I was part of my brothers wedding party. Most everyone else looked relatively good with the makeup that day( in multiple styles; western chic, Japanese, etc). But it looked absolutely terrible on me. I was wearing false lashes, a full face and lip stick and I looked terrible. And all the people I trusted said the agreed with me. + +Are some people just naturally worse looking with makeup?",0 +8544,"I think I actually look better with dark circles, am I crazy or does anyone else feel the same??. I feel like most women talk about spending so much time figuring out how to conceal their dark circles so they look “better.” I used to do that a lot too but recently I stopped and kind of just embrace the dark circles I have naturally (which are super noticeable). Its not me wanting to stop putting the effort in or anything, I just genuinely think I look better with them vs without. Like it gives my face dimension or something. + +Anyone else?",0 +8545,What is the most overrated beauty product !. ,0 +8546,"Brands beauty gurus don't really speak about but you like?. Huda: Has some really solid products especially her eyeshadow palettes. But beauty gurus don't really talk about her products and if they do it is always negative. I think it was because when beauty gurus were first on the scene and really popping off they wanted an insane amount of money allegedly to promote or even talk about products and she would not pay that much. + +Benefit: So Benefit used to be highly talked about and raved about until all of a sudden infuencers when not sponsored stop talking about them. Benefit does have really great face products (bronzers, blushes, highlights) as well as great brow products. + +Hourglass: Everything I have tried from hourglass has always been superb no tea here I just think there is so many brands beauty channels won't talk about a brand unless it has a viral product or a lot of people are curious about it.",0 +8547,"I hate white eyeliner on the waterline.. Just a rant. I’ve never seen it look good when anyone has done it unless it was subtle or more of a nude color. + +It’s just weird looking and distracts from the whole eye look imo. + +If you wanna come for me go ahead. It’s Reddit I’m prepared.",0 +8548,"when did big eye brows went out of style?. My younger sister ( who is really good at makeup) was doing my makeup for christmas and she told me that thebig eye brow look was out of style and that makeup is now headed to a more natural look. + +When did the big eye brows go out of style? I really liked that look but I don't want to look weird if it isn't treandy anymore. + +​ + +edit: the big eye brow look from the late 2010's i.e 2016/2017/2018 etc.",0 +8549,I think I found my wedding lipstick! But it does not pass the water glass/kiss test. Charotte Tilbury Gracefully Pink is the exact shade of pink I was looking for and I think it looks pretty on me. But it comes off on a water glass and on my husband’s lip when we kiss….not ideal for a wedding. Is there a trick to matte-ify or stain-ify a lipstick?,0 +8550,"Advice on blush (healthy look) for men. Hi, I am a man of 26. When I have been exercising I always look so 'healthy', color on my cheekbones. My girlfriend came up with the advice to use blush sometimes if I want to look like this more often. And why not (we live in 2022 right haha, happy new year btw)! So I want to try it. Only I'm not that familiar yet in the makeup world, my girlfriend not really either. + +Can you guys recommend me a brand/type? And what do you think of men using blush? + +\- Blush that is not shiny and looks natural (unnoticeable) + +\- Is easy to apply + +\- Advice for a color (a healthy look) + +Greetings from the Netherlands, Amsterdam.",0 +8551,"I want to help my Girlfriend learn how to do make up [Where to start?]. Hi everyone, + +so few weeks ago my girlfriend told me about her insecurity about being unable to do her make up. She simply never had anyone to teach her and when she had, she was ""too old to ask"". And I'd like to help her with that. I'd love to learn it with her, for her. Obviously not to show her that she ""needs"" to make up to look pretty or certain way or something. But simply because I wanna help her get rid of that insecurity. To give her the power, the ability that whenever she feels like it, she can do whatever she wants with all the fancy colorful stuff you guys are doing here haha. + +But. I have absolutely no clue where to start. So that's why I'm here. Could you guys give me any advice in what things to start with, what things we need, what ""techniques"" (if that's a thing) or if you have any good sources like Youtube perhaps or something, I'll appreciate everything! + +I'd love to teach her things like using ""primer"", powder, beauty blenders, eyeliners or even lipsticks to begin with. Highlights, glosses and what not. All these fancy stuff but I really have no clue where to start. Also I personally really like eyeliners and eye shadows, so that might even be really fun for me to try with her, so any advice on that highly appreciated. + +​ + +Anyways, Thank you guys for everything, I hope I posted in the right subreddit (I'll be glad if you redirect me somewhere else if I had not) and in any case - Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!",0 +8552,"The best makeup brush cleaner I've found. I've tried 3 brands of makeup brush cleaner. All like $10ish for a tube that didn't last long because of how much I had to use. Plus they made my hands feel weird and dry and the soap didn't rinse out well + +I have a lot of brushes, and I don't clean them very often (I know, ew) + +Dr. Bronners ya'll + +I was frustrated just trying to clean em, tube is like half gone, I've used it only once before. + +Was like hmm, maybe this will work + +I just put some in a cup, wet, dipped, scrubbed with the silicone brush mat. + +BAM CLEAN + +$16 for a giant bottle, comes in nice scents, you can use it for a bunch of other stuff too + +I have synthetic brushes so idk about real hair but yeah + +Try it!",0 +8553,What is most must to do in your make up routine?. Mine is hydration,0 +8554,"Revlon, Elizabeth Arden and other brands bankruptcy. If you're a fan of some Revlon or Elizabeth Arden products you might want to stock some in. I just saw in the news that Revlon has filed for bankruptcy. This is the list of companies that Revlon owns: + +###### [https://www.revloninc.com/our-brands.php](https://www.revloninc.com/our-brands.php) + +The article about what happened: + +[https://www.cnbc.com/2022/06/16/cosmetics-giant-revlon-files-for-chapter-11-bankruptcy-protection.html](https://www.cnbc.com/2022/06/16/cosmetics-giant-revlon-files-for-chapter-11-bankruptcy-protection.html)",0 +8555,"You did WHAT???. Hi everyone, + +I went on a live tv interview and after looking back at the video, my face was without an exaggeration almost 5 shades lighter than the rest of my body and I looked SO sickly. I am not good with makeup at all but I try and I’ve learned some things over the years. I thought I looked pretty good that day and took photos to make sure everything looked good but the video was…terrifying. I called my friend who is a makeup goddess and told her what I did and she said: “You did WHAT??!”, and I said “I put on SPF, I always do that.” Then she said: “No honey, you never wear SPF for important camera moments unless you’re going for the Casper look.” I made a huge mistake and I’m totally not doing that again but… + +What are some other tips you may have for folks that are looking to look great on live tv or photo shoots in general that someone like me may not know? + +Thanks so much everyone! + +EDIT ----------- +I was just writing down the tip summary so I have it while getting ready and figured I’d share it here for folks. If there is anything missing or if I’ve misunderstood something, feel free to comment! Thank you again, I learned so much! + +General makeup tips for video or flash photography: + +1. Fresh and dewy does not look good for flash photography (u/river_on_the_run/) +Keep shimmer to a minimum (u/burningmyroomdown) +2. To nail the right makeup color on video or pictures, it has to be a little too much and powdered because pics do flatten people out and reflect shine. (u/swiggityswirls) +3. Think about eyeliner and eyeshadow placement specifically for video to make sure that your movement stays vibrant and dynamic (u/tealparadise) +4. Choose SPF without flashback or don’t wear it for the day. Physical sunscreens (Zinc and Titanium Dioxide) do give a white cast, but chemical sunscreens (pretty much all the other ones) do not. Super important to know if you'll be under studio lighting but still want SPF. (u/burningmyroomdown) +5. You might want to go 1 to MAYBE 2 shades darker with your makeup to compensate for the flash altering your coloring. Depending on how much lighting is on your face vs. other parts of your body, your face will look lighter regardless of SPF. (u/burningmyroomdown) +6. Choose the right setting powder without flashback. Mica is usually the culprit or silica (ok for studio lighting but not flash photography) so choose a setting powder without these. (u/Leia1979, u/tits_mcgee0123/, u/Frosty-Permission-13 ) +7. Take a flash picture to check how everything looks and to see if anything should be adjusted. This is also a great tip to make sure your outfit isn’t transparent! (u/ThatGirlWithTheWalk) + +Tips to create a dewy look specifically for the camera (u/burningmyroomdown): + +- Dewy setting spray used before foundation, after foundation, and after powder +apply powder with a big fluffy brush +- Powder areas that look especially dewy with a smaller brush, like a blush brush or even a fluffy eyeshadow brush. +- If you have oily skin, use a mattifying primer or moisturizer before makeup. +- Bring a powder compact and a small brush. With all the lights, you can get shiny quickly. At any breaks, you can use the powder to remattify your skin + +Some product recommendations to prevent cakeyness: + +u/ThatGirlWithTheWalk / ABH translucent or the ""Oat"" tone. It's so finely milled you can apply the least possible amount with a fluffy brush and I don't feel dry or cakey. + +u/ThatGirlWithTheWalk / I also like the by Terry hyaluronic powder for dry skin, but it is one of those translucent white powders and even though they are not supposed to flare in theory, some do so I would test. +u/SensitiveWitch / BLK/OPL invisible oil absorbing powder for absorbing oil without depositing more makeup, to avoid making your face cakey, creasy, oranger, etc. + + +For general life makeup: + +u/ThatGirlWithTheWalk / I love the Huda Glowish powder (the one in the compact), but it's lumi and probably not the best choice for on cam, for life though, ugh, it's gorgeous and great on my dry skin. + +u/KiUithefirst / I like to mix my fav foundation that's a teeny bit light for me and some moisturizer, depending on my skin. It gives you a nice, healthy glow and if you have any freckles they still show through BUT don't do it for photography!",0 +8556,What’s your beauty tips or tricks that changed your life?. For me it’s getting eyelash extensions. It saved me so much time and I look better on camera. What’s yours?,0 +8557,"Natural makeup. You know those girls who always look rosy, sunkissed and pretty? Yeah, someone please teach me how to do that. I’ve recently become super into makeup, and can never seem to place my blush correctly or find the right shade for my lips. + +in desperate need of help.",0 +8558,What higher end eyeshadow palette would you get?. I'm looking to treat myself and buy a nicer high end eyeshadow palette since all my other stuff is colourpop or drugstore. Just looking for recs on brands. I've heard urban decay has gone downhill and isn't that great any more. Was thinking ABH or maybe Natasha denona but would love to hear others opinions.,0 +8559,"My mother believes that doing makeup will affect other people. My mother was discussing about makeup yesterday & I wanted to share it with you. I have worn makeup for 10 years & actually, she doesn't care if I wear it. She's not one of those parents who forbids their child from wearing makeup because she believes I'm beautiful with a naked face & wants me to live that way forever. That's all up on me. + +But, she said how long I do it to get ready will affect other people. I usually take about an hour to put on a full face of makeup & my mom said that some will not be considerate of the amount of time; especially if I have a partner as she believes that he won't like at how long I do it. Basically, she wants me to be considerate of other people's times when it comes to amount of time I do my makeup. + +Also, she forbids me to buy high end stuff as she believes I can buy the same thing at the drugstore. I don't have anything against drugstore makeup & I do have several in my collection but again, I have preference. She said those as we were shopping yesterday & I don't know if she said that due to being stressed out from being lost driving home after dinner or wants me to be frugal. She does have a point for the latter part as I need to save money on something that's more valuable than makeup but, I don't really want to live life in drugstore makeup. Is that wrong of me?",0 +8560,"URGENT How can i make my eyeliner last longer while crying. Im getting ready for a date and im pretty sure im gonna cry but I dont want my eyeliner to run all over my face cause im going to be in a fancy hotel, is there any trick I can do to make it last longer? It is waterproof tho, amswers asap pleaseeee",0 +8561,"What do you consider to be the highest quality eyeshadow palettes?. Thinking pigmentation, blendability, and color/texture choice. I’ve really enjoyed my Huda Mercury in Retrograde palette, and I’m looking for more high-quality options. I don’t mind paying more for a great palette, but I’m tired of spending money on choices that end up disappointing me",0 +8562,"Mascara rave. I think I have found my favorite mascara. Hourglass’s Unlocked Instant Extensions Lengthening Mascara! + +I can personally say that after several days of heavy crying, this shit DOES NOT BUDGE! So, crying sucks but at least my mascara hasn’t been running down my face!",0 +8563,"How to get the no-makeup makeup look?. I can never achieve the minimum makeup look ([like this](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/63/f1/0e/63f10e79bf8c06100afea0902f1e5af9.jpg)) and was wondering if you guys have any tips on products or techniques that give a more natural look. + +EDIT: Thank you all for sharing your knowledge! I also want to clarify that I am very aware that the photo is of a model, taken and edited by a professional photographer, with professionally done makeup. BUT, I was using the picture as an example. I was on Pinterest looking for natural makeup looks and this is the closest I got to a minimalistic look. I am also very aware that the minimalistic look often involves a great deal of products and time. For example, Meghan Markle's makeup on her wedding has meant to be ""natural"" looking but was of course costly and time-consuming. I understand that it's an unrealistic standard but I just wanted to learn ways to get better at a ""natural"" look as my makeup usually looks matte and not at all dewy, and I don't want to empty my wallet testing out products. ",0 +8564,"MAKEUP ARTIST FROM HELL. I booked a popular Makeup Artist over a month ago and paid her in half, for a very important photoshoot approaching for my Entrepreneur site I plan to launch soon. + +3-days prior to the shoot, she ""emailed"" me asking if she could reschedule my booking with her since a relative of hers is flying in from Germany and how her and their family would like to welcome her upon landing! This caused immediate panic as this only gives me 3-days to find another Makeup Artist, most of which don't have immediate openings like that. She then suggested sending another colleague of hers to do my makeup instead, to which I emailed her back and replied with ""no"" and emphasized that I would prefer to keep our original agreement. I also communicated how the photographer is booked out far and how I would lose my deposit if I rescheduled. Since my reply to her, I have yet to hear back from her on if she'll be present or not. The least she could do is reply and or return the money I paid her assuming she can't make it to me this coming Saturday. WHAT SHOULD I DO! I'M PISSED",0 +8565,What’s the worst eyeshadow color story you’ve ever seen?. I’m looking to be entertained by some poor palette planning,0 +8566,"How do people not use setting powder??. I'm a daily makeup wearer and I always use a setting powder all over my face as well as a setting spray over top. I've been seeing people on social media going without powder but I don't understand this, as to me, it is a necessity to my routine. How does ones makeup stay on? My base feels wet and unfinished without it. I feel like it would just slip around or rub off. Truth be told, I've never tried to go without it so maybe just a setting spray would work. + +Edit: I didn't expect such a response from my post and I've learnt quite a lot. At first, I was essentially just wondering how makeup stays on for others without a powder but some responded that it just doesn't work for them. It's interesting how makeup products work completely different for everyone",0 +8567,"whats your everyday lipstick 💄. What's that everyday never go wrong shade girls? Let's share ! + + +Me - Clinique rasberry pop lipstick",0 +8568,"My Wedding is coming up and I have a compulsive skin picking disorder. I pick at my lips and have never been able to wear lipstick because of it. What are my options??. Basically what the title says. Lips are always chapped and lipstick just looks messy as hell + +Edit to say I'm asking for lip makeup options :P not how to stop picking! + +Thank you to everyone that's commented, especially those who struggle with the same thing, I got way more responses than I imagined I would and it's been very comforting and helpful 💕",0 +8569,"IS ONLY LIPSTICK AND EYESHADOW WEIRD. I don't want to wear much makeup, I'm not that interested. But I like eyeshadow and lipstick so much. But I feel it looks very weird when I just put those two things on my facee without any foundation etc. Is it weird. + + +Thanks for your all replies in advance",0 +8570,"Cruelty free is getting difficult. Hi all, + +I feel really really guilty for saying this but buying all cruelty free stuff is getting difficult for me. I want to “vote with my dollar” but some of my “ride or dies” are not cruelty free ): Ive been trying with multiple brands but some of the stuff and formulas you can’t replicate from other brands. The laniege sleep mask kinda hit me hard because I literally have a chronic split lip and that mask literally keeps my pain at bay. + +I hope people get what I’m saying, and if you are in my boat I feel you. + +I want to do what’s best for the earth and be conscience but it can be difficult when there are simply better options but it comes with the price tag of not being cruelty free. + +Can anyone give me any sort of advice if I’m being irrational or 😭 + +Thanks a bunch xx",0 +8571,"How should I go about doing my makeup SECRETLY as a guy?. Hey y’all! I live with my parents still and work a job with some of the least progressive people you can imagine. I also have an interest in doing makeup and my nails. + +Would I be able to do these things and leave them on for a few hours and then completely remove everything without leaving a trace? I’m brand new to this so I’m unsure how exactly makeup remover works and also nail polish remover. Does it remove it 100%? Also is this recommended or not? Not sure if this would be bad for your skin if you do it consistently",0 +8572,"Where to buy polygel nails my for girlfriend? (online). Hi! So I want to start this off by saying I know nothing about makeup. I’m a guy, and I personally prefer to not wear makeup myself (to the guys that do wear makeup — good on you and you should do what you want!). + +My girlfriend has been looking to get into DIY polygel nails but can’t afford the upfront cost because apparently you need like some sort of UV light, the polygel nails themselves (like the pasty stuff with the color), sparkles and glitter, and all that. So I want to buy this for her because she seemed really excited about polygel nails, she just can’t afford it. + +However since I know nothing about makeup, I have no idea where to buy any of these things or what’s good and what’s not good. So I’m looking for some help! Could anyone tell me what exactly to buy for someone (and where to buy it, what brands are good, specific products, etc.) to get started with polygel nails? + +Thanks!",0 +8573,"Why put blush on the nose?. I don't wear makeup so maybe I just don't get it and it's really obvious, but why do some of those who do wear makeup do this?",0 +8574,"ShittyLifeProTip—To get through your Project Pan products more quickly, leave your entire makeup bag on a plane! Boom, they're all out of your life in one fell swoop. Satisfying!. But seriously y'all, I'm sadder than I should be 😭 It was a small bag, but it contained a bunch of my favorites that I had hit pan on and was really enjoying using up. They had so much life left in them! It's not fair! + +Contents included: + +- Urban Decay On The Run palette in Bailout, which was my perfect neutral travel palette, I had THREE pans in, and is now (of course) discontinued +- Charlotte Tilbury Bronze & Glow palette in that LE Swarovski packaging (I think this one hurts the most, it was just so pretty) +- MILK Makeup blush stick that came in the 2020 Sephora birthday gift, which I was like half done with +- Tarte Amazonian Clay Paaaarty blush that came in the 2017 Sephora birthday gift and I HAD LITERALLY JUST HIT PAN ON. I was gonna do it, guys. I was gonna do it... +- NikkieTutorials x Ofra Everglow highlighting trio (which I can't buy again because it turns out Ofra is run by garbage people) +- THE LAST of my OG Becca Undereye Brightener (now I have to try the Smashbox version I guess...?) +- My favorite concealer (half-finished) +- Everything to do my eyebrows +- That Allure-exclusive Tarte double-ended shadow stick from the November box (which had already become my lazy-day go-to) +- ALL of my favorite brushes + +The only consolation is that I had taken out my BRAND NEW bottle of Dior Air Flash to put into my TSA liquids baggie. That would've been truly a tragedy. + +Thanks for letting me mourn. If you have a tragic story of beloved makeup ripped away from you before its time, feel free to commiserate 🥲",0 +8575,Curious Question: Why do influencers always use high end expensive make up when there’s definitely good ones in drugstores make up too!. ,0 +8576,Is it cultural appropriation to wear the Eye of Ra or Horus if I’m not Egyptian?. I really admire ancient Egyptian culture and I’m going to an evening show in a few days and would love to either wear the Eye of Ra or Horus. I’m not Egyptian though so I was wondering if it’s okay for me to wear this and that this isn’t cultural appropriation? I really don’t want to upset anyone so wanted to ask first. Thank you for the help!,0 +8577,"Cool-toned eyeshadow palettes?. i’ve been on a hunt for an eyeshadow palette that’s filled with cool-toned colours that aren’t just silver, black, and grey. i’d love a palette full of lavender, deep reds, shades of blue, and even some cooler nude shades! every time i go to sephora, it’s mostly warm blush tones or basic browns, greys, and black—i find a lot of these don’t usually compliment my skin tone. + +if anyone knows a palette that matches my need for cool-tones (and is relatively affordable) it would be much appreciated!",0 +8578,"UPDATE: I can never find a nude lipstick I like!. Original Post Here: https://reddit.com/r/Makeup/comments/vv78bh/i_can_never_find_a_nude_lipstick_i_like/ + +I FOUND IT Y’ALL!!!! + +My new HG nude is “L’Oréal Paris 173 Nu Impertinent” I was told it was a dupe for Charlotte Tilbury Pillow Talk + +[Here](https://i.imgur.com/ZDuon1v.jpg) is a comparison of “peachy nude” that turned brown on my skin tone compared to my new HG! + +I did not mention in my last post that I will be getting married in October so this is the shade I will absolutely be wearing on my wedding day! + +Thank you r/makeup for all your help! +I would never have found it without you! + +PS: I did check and it in fact matches my nipple lol",0 +8579,"I'm a man who has never used make up. I have a job interview for a remote job tomorrow but I need to cover up my face tattoos. I would appreciate withholding judgment I already know. But if anyone could help me out I would really appreciate it. My phone camera is kinda bad and I'm wearing glasses so that should help obscure them because they're near my eyes. They're small. I have fair skin also. Is there anything from target/Walmart I could buy that could obscure them/hide them without being really obvious? Thank you + +Edit: thanks for all of of responses. I have a lot of appreciation for the effort makeup takes. I think it went pretty well, they are setting up a second interview. Thanks everyone 🙏",0 +8580,"How many Eyeshadow Palettes do you have?. This is for my school project. We need to make statistics about a topic we are interested in. I really like makeup so I wanted to ask you this! I need atleast 30 answers, but more is better. :) Sorry if my English is incorrect. I'm not fluent. <3",0 +8581,"make up tips and tricks for natural looking makeup 💅. I wanted to give out some tips and tricks for light/natural looking make for everyday use. + + +1- if you are going for natural or clean make i really recommend watching Wayne Goss on YouTube. He not only does makeup on aged or acne prone skin but also shows how to contour without the heavy emphasis on shadows. +I learnt how to do a beautiful smokey eye from him. + +2- moisturise before using foundation, it really helps avoid alot of texture and cakeness from the foundation. + +3- mix your moisturizer with foundation to make it look like skin (works with acne prone skin) + +4- when using foundation drop some on the back of your hand and mix it around to warm it up this way it belnds easier on your face. + +5- easy way to brighten your face use highlighter on the inner corner of your eyes. Even if you only have mascara on it'll make you look fresh and awake. + +6- use blusher EVERYWHERE it'll give you this sun-kissed look on your skin, that makes it look like real skin. + +7- if you feel you did too much foundation on your face, get a sponge and wrap a tissue around it, then gently tap it on your face, the tissue will pick up on the foundation and will seamlessly blend the rest on your skin. + + + +You dont have to listen to my advice or change the way you do your makeup, i just wanted to help out new people with makeup 🥰",0 +8582,"Worst mascara you’ve ever tried?. For me I’d have to say the Florence by Mills- Built to Lash Mascara. absolutely no length, no volume, and it flakes like nothing you’ve even seen before. Super tiny (painful in the eye) flakes. +The ingredients list is the one good thing about this mascara, but it honestly makes me question the efficiency of super natural makeup. + +It sucks because I love a lot of the other products in Millie’s line, the lip oil is gorgeous and so glowy!",0 +8583,"TIPS from Korean dermatologist 2. Hi guys, thought the previous post “ [TIPS from Korean dermatologist](https://www.reddit.com/r/Makeup/comments/taskyp/tips_from_korean_dermatologist/) “ went quite well, and today, I came up with another at home skin care tip. + +Before I give you some tips, ‘everyone has their own allergies and problems including different conditions’. Please make sure that these are ‘tips’, not ‘prescriptions’. + +Anyway, these are some tips from my friend who works in Korea dermatology + +Trade secrets are never known to normal customers. They treat this way for VIPs only, and a one-time customer would never get to know this way. The most common example is the ‘Idol inner light skin care’. The reason why we think those celebrities are so different is because their skin glows very naturally. A normal one-time customer may be treated with a hydro injector. TBH, I don’t really recommend doing this, cause they might leave an injection mark, also it is temporary. + +Just go grab a facial mask sheet (it’s like $10 for 100 pieces), and soak it with water type toner, put it on to your skin for 1minute, don’t leave the mask, pour 2 pumpings of ampoule ON to the mask ( one pumping for each cheek) and leave it for 2 minutes (3minutes total). + +Celebrities sleep very less and if their skin is dried, there is a high possibility of using this method. + +And one important things, you need to use an ampoule which contains less water, for things like ‘[ECLADO respiration ampoule](https://eclado.com.sg/) ’, ‘[ESTEE LAUDER advanced night repair](https://www.esteelauder.com/)’, which most dermatologists in Korea use. I am currently using [‘Serumkind Chaga Charging drop](https://completone.us/)’, which works the same. + +Treat this way twice every week, and it will help your skin glow naturally, no need to go to dermatology to spend a few hundred dollars. + +​ + +So to sum up: + +Buy a dried facial mask sheet and soak it with less-water toner, put it on your skin. + +After a minute, pour two pumps of less-water ampoule on to the mask for two minutes + +Done. + +​ + +**Recommended products**: ECLADO respiration ampoule, ESTEE LAUDER advanced night repair, Serumkind Chaga Charging drop ",0 +8584,"why do people use powder blush on top of cream blush?. lately i've seen a bunch of people on youtube use powder blush on top of their cream blush, and it always confused me. they say that they ""set"" their cream blush with powder one. but what's the point in doing so? the color from your powder blush will just cover the color from cream blush, as if you have only used the powder blush. why not use powder blush or cream blush on its own?",0 +8585,"As a woman, have you ever felt uncomfortable wearing makeup on a first date to avoid looking like you're trying too hard?. ",0 +8586,What are your favorite tinted lip balms?. Lipstick has too much room for error when applying on the go and gloss is too sticky/messy. What are your favorite tinted lip balms?,0 +8587,"Grey. Not blue. Not purple. Not greige. Grey.. Hi everyone, + +I'm having a really hard time finding a palette with true greys in it. Everything seems to have a blue undertone, or is too warm/brownish. I know my people in this sub will have all the right answers! What are your go to palettes or singles for pure grey shades? + +​ + +EDIT: Thank you all so much for your replies. I'm always amazed at how this community is so involved and helpful. And as a relative newb, I'm loving learning about and exploring brands I've never seen before. Appreciate all of you!",0 +8588,"I hope this is allowed. I have Covid, I THINK THIS POST IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. Okay so when it comes to products we use for our mouth lipsticks. Should we just toss the whole product? What about others? I’ve recently become like a whole makeup lover and now I’m simply SCARED.",0 +8589,"Mascara I can cry in?. Funeral for favorite aunt and uncle this Friday. It’s going to be really hard. + +I’m a total makeup addict, but my mascara game has fallen behind as I haven’t worn much since the pandemic started. Eyeshadow/liner yes, mascara no most the time. + +I tend to stay away from waterproof mascara since it’s so hard on the lashes. I’m not totally averse to wearing it for one day. Any recommendations (mascara or otherwise) that will let me cry without having it drip down my face? + +ETA: sorry for being MIA the past couple days. Flew in yesterday, then funeral prep today and funeral tomorrow. I think I’m going to skip the mascara. But I just wanted to thank everyone for their suggestions, love, wishes, etc. It’s meant more than I can tell you guys. I’m going to try to respond to everyone but it may take me a cpl days. ❤️",0 +8590,"The idea of ""age-appropriate"" makeup and what it means?. Hi guys! I hope the title isn't inflammatory, but I'm just now *really* getting into the world of makeup. I've become obsessed with light-coverage foundations and learning to do eyeliner properly (any recs for a firmer felt tip/marker-like liquid liner?) and I'm 26. I should have learned to do this stuff much earlier, but lurking on Youtube and hearing different makeup opinions, I'm not sure what's appropriate for a 26 year old. I'm in academia and don't want to come off immature, but I still want to express myself with makeup (and my nails, but that's a different sub). + +Some stuff I've heard that make me pause about ""age-appropriate"" makeup: + +* No shimmery blush past like age 22? +* No heavy eyeliner +* No super colorful eyeshadow looks OR too much shimmer - I ask because I really like one-and-done eyeshadow looks which usually consist of just a single shimmer across the lid, but now I'm rethinking it? +* Only neutral lips and no more matte. Red lips are too bold? +* Highlighter is too much now and cannot look natural/isn't appropriate for everyday looks? + +How do you transition from being seen as not being really a makeup person to now wearing makeup and having people comment on it? My roommate saw me wearing a pink lipstick and was like ""You trying to impress somebody or something?"" And it just made me feel pretty horrible, like I shouldn't be trying. + +But I like how confident I feel when wearing it. It just makes me feel feminine and touch with that side of me. Anyone else feel like this but get confronted with people who think you shouldn't even wear makeup and focus on your ""bigger priorities"" (for me my career)...like they make you feel like makeup is superfluous and a proper, serious career-woman shouldn't be focused on that.",0 +8591,To the people who used to not ‘get’ lip liner but now swear by it: what changed your mind / why do you enjoy it?. I’m interested in lip liners but still feel like it’s an unnecessary step in daily makeup so I’m trying to understand why others seem to swear by lip liner,0 +8592,"Tell me all about your HG foundation. First and most importantly, I have dry skin. + +I ran out of foundation this week and all my ""backups"" are terrible in one way or another (too dark, too siliconey and doesn't play nice with my SPF, too warm). The concealer I've been wearing is also not the right color match but I've been using it up anyway. + +I am ready for a higher-end foundation (and optional concealer). Please sell me on yours. Should I try Chanel? Estee Lauder? Dior? Armani? Does Fenty blow all those old brands out of the water? Is Gucci's newish line getting everything right? I haven't bought skin-color makeup in a long time so let me know! + +For concealers - I don't bother covering spots, blemishes, imperfections, I am purely an under-eye gal, and it's a heavy lift - I have deep tear troughs (genetic) and occasionally, allergic shiners. I've had success with Nars and Maybelline but I am not married to either. I once tried YSL but hated the shimmer to it, and I know people love the Cle de Peau concealer but I found it too dry when I tried it years ago. + +If you've ever wanted to rave to an internet stranger about your foundation/concealer, the time has come! I'm all ears! (Please upvote for visibility) + +— +*edited 2 typos that were driving me nuts",0 +8593,"What’s my undertone?. Is it yellow or Olive? + +https://imgur.com/a/A1pDSDM",0 +8594,"Could you help me impress my girlfriend by doing her makeup and hair?. I have a weird idea that of something I've wanted to try for some time now.. My girlfriend (23F) and I (25M) have been together about a year, and we are very much in love and comfortable with one another at this point. We're planning on getting married and I'm currently searching for the right ring! + +Anyway here's the idea. So, she's very dark skinned and I'm white so one of our favorite topics is how different it is for us to get ready with our different skin/hair regimens. She's taught me a lot about black hair and makeup, and I think she's just absolutely gorgeous the way she does herself up. However she's very conservative. She goes light with the makeup and doesn't use any edgy colors or products, but I think she could pull off just about anything. + +SO, as a surprise, i'm thinking of getting my hands on some really good products, stuff I know she would love but she doesn't feel confident enough to get herself. I don't know how to apply makeup although I am pretty good with hair since I used to cut hair for a few years and I put her hair up into quick styles once in a while. I know makeup is not the same thing, but I paint, draw, and sculpt so I'm not afraid to try it out. I'm sure I could learn some basic makeup skills, maybe with your help, but I could put together a few different looks on her to see what she thinks?? would that be something fun or do you think she would hate this idea? + +I just wanna see how she reacts! But I also don't want her to think I'm trying to change her or anything. I love the way she looks every day, I just think this would be fun and satisfying to finally see her rock some popping colors and maybe show off some skills to show I pay attention when she teaches me abnout these things",0 +8595,"Finally threw out my old eyeshadow palettes - what do I replace them with?. The UD Naked 1 & 2 were my ride or die and I now have a hole in my makeup (and heart lol) collection where they were. + +I’ve been so out of the loop with makeup recently, what do I replace these with? Want an everyday palette that I can use for day or night so must have a good mix of mattes and shimmers and pref neutral tones. Don’t mind spending a bit on something that is worth it + +TIA xx",0 +8596,"Any makeup addicts not wearing makeup as much in this past year or so?. I stopped wearing makeup when we had to start wearing masks everywhere we go, outside, etc. All my foundation gets all wet and splotchy — not to mention never really even seen. I can’t wear lipstick/gloss. + +And while I could wear eye makeup, without foundation, it just seems... not worth it. + +I’ve been trying to focus more on my skin and keep hygienic with my mask use. I DO miss the whole routine and cannot wait till we don’t need masks all day. I can’t watch beauty vids/instagrams because I want to buy products, but then I have NO use for most of them atm. + +I have no use for foundation, concealer, lipstick, gloss... it’s better to avoid it than buy something I won’t use. I’m essential, so I’ve never had the ability to just do it at home, either. + +So has anyone basically stopped doing anything with makeup since the virus started?",0 +8597,"Best moisturizer and primer to get makeup to look more “flawless”?. Newbie to makeup here! I’m in my 30’s and am just now learning about proper makeup application. My makeup just smears around on top of my oil based moisturizer and ends up looking flaky somehow. + +What products do y’all use to get your makeup to last longer and have your makeup look a bit “smoother”? Im looking for brushes and primers that could work well with Lancôme liquid foundation. Thank you :)",0 +8598,How do you itch your face with makeup on. It’s so frustrating when I have an itch and I have to suck it up because I don’t want to ruin my makeup,0 +8599,"Sleeping over at my boyfriend place for the first time! He has never seen me without makeup!. Hi! F(19) here! +I am in a relationship with a truly wonderful man. He’s kind and deeply cares for me and I could not wish for a better boyfriend. + +Next week, I’m going to sleep over at his place for the very first time. I do wear a lot of makeup, and I have never had a boyfriend before- which results in the fact that a man has never seen me without makeup before. + +This makes me feel very insecure. I’m quite afraid that he will not think I’m beautiful when I’m not wearing any makeup. On top of that, I shaved off the tails of my eyebrows (to draw on my eyebrows more easily)- and am afraid I will look silly in front of him! + +How do I deal with my insecurity? + +Thank you. (English isn’t my first language, so I’m sorry if my text is difficult to read!) + + +UPDATE: he took off all my makeup, kissed me and told me he would always see me as beautiful. I feel very loved and it was a very wholesome, +touching moment for the both of us. I truly love this man so much and have never been happier. I will do whatever it takes to take good care of him and love him. Truly my home, my person, my love.",0 +8600,"What was your first high end product?. I don't wear a lot of makeup; I mostly wear lipstick. I usually buy them cheap from places like the dollar store, Walmart and target. The first high end brand that I got this year was from kohls. I found some lorac lipsticks that were on clearance.",0 +8601,You go to magical makeup store that carries all makeup. You are told to pick 3 items. You can only use these items for the next 6 months. What 3 specific items do you choose?. ,0 +8602,Winged eyeliner. I always struggle with getting the angle right. What are some tricks and hacks to get this right? Thanks in advance!. ,0 +8603,"what are some good drug store makeup brands that you guys use, that you'd swear by??. ",0 +8604,"Would it look weird to do just foundation, mascara, and brow gel?. I'm not very good at makeup so sorry for the basic question. I typically do a light coverage foundation to even skin tone and concealer over acne + a little mascara. I've been considering what other simple, natural looking enhancements I could add and I was thinking about adding in a tinted brow gel (never used before) but I didn't know if that would look strange/too much without a lot of other makeup. + +I have dark brown hair and darker brown/black eyebrows. I definitely don't want to get into eyeshadow and don't really know how to use blush, highlight, etc.",0 +8605,"For those who did personal color analysis, what changes did you make to your makeup?. I've been intrigued by personal color analysis for a while after watching videos of Korean women showing their makeup bags & the products & colors they wear according to their color season. + +Then, I found an interesting video of a women who did her makeup with half her face wearing the colors she used to wear & another half wearing the colors after getting PCA done. She looks good in both spectrums but the colors the corresponds to her brings out her features better. + +So I'm wondering that for those who got PCA, what changes did you make to your makeup? For example, did you realize that neutral lipstick you wear a lot makes you look washed out & now you wear neutral lipsticks that are darker & not skin-like?",0 +8606,"Do y’all prefer liquid , cream, or powder blush?. I was just wondering since cream and liquid blush seem more on trend. I started liking liquid blush more since it��s better for my dry skin but I’m wondering what’s everyone’s preference or what’s ur favorite brand of blush?",0 +8607,What is the Best black eyeliner?. I’ve been searching for the perfect black eyeliner brand (that’s not a pencil) and was curious what everyone’s favorites were. Drugstore brand or name brand. Thanks!,0 +8608,"How did you guys learn eyeliner?. My 2022 resolution is simply to learn (winged) eyeliner. I have tried multiple times and it’s always come out completely wonky. It’s very discouraging. How did you learn eyeliner? Any tips or video tutorials? + +Edit: thanks everyone for all the comments! I’ll be trying some later today :)",0 +8609,Favorite cheap eyeshadow palettes?. Anyone have recommendations for really cheap but quality eyeshadow palettes? I'm thinking $15 or less. I'm open to all colors and shades!,0 +8610,"How to salvage botched permanent eyeliner?. Hi good folks, I hope this is the right place to ask. I do not know how to do any kind of make up, and never really experienced it lol. A few years ago, as a gift, I got a permanent eyeline procedure done and it didn't go well at all, and it seems impervious to laser removal and time. How to cover it up with my pillowy eye build? Is there a relatively simple way to make it not look like I'm a 6 year old who got into old pens and markers? I'm afraid slapping on more eyeliner will make it look even more like an ink blotch doodle + + pic[pic](https://imgur.com/a/7YGEmtB) + +Please give hope to this ugly duckling :)",0 +8611,Is 28 too late to get into makeup?. Would it be strange? I grew up Tom boyish with no female figures in my life so i was just never exposed to it like others may have been. I keep toying with the idea of maybe learning some simple makeup looks to boost my confidence sometimes but idk where to start or what to buy or if it would just look weird if I started wearing it suddenly..,0 +8612,"I just really want to find a sunscreen that rocks. SPF, protects against the sun, not greasy or white cast. Goes on well under makeup or primer. Moisturizing. Some anti aging bonuses! Does this product exist? Any suggestions? ☀️👄. ",0 +8613,"I have a job interview at a beauty store in a few hours and I know nothing about makeup.. Interview went great, thanks everyone! And yeah knowledge wasn't a huge deal",0 +8614,"Laniege lip mask dupe. I’ve been using the Laniege Lip Mask for awhile now, and love to use it as a lip gloss. It lasts awhile and isn’t super sticky, while keeping my lips hydrated. I recently found out they test on animals and don’t want to support them anymore. Any good dupes? Preferably nothing crazy expensive either.",0 +8615,What’s Something you wish you had known or done differently when you started buying and doing makeup?. ,0 +8616,"How to remove eyelash glue from ears??. Sounds weird. I know. I used duo lash glue very generously to keep my elf ears on for a 12 hour halloween bartending shift. I used a bunch of micellar water, makeup wipes, tried scrubbing with a loofa. Help :( My hair keeps wanting to stick to my ears",0 +8617,"I'm a ""Guy"" with no makeup experience. Where do i start?. Hi! +I'm a queer person but born a dude. I have absolutely no idea how to do makeup and neither does my partner. So, i was wondering. For makeup. What do i buy? Any help would be appreciated",0 +8618,Is witch hazel safe for all skin types?. ,0 +8619,"Low effort skin care routine for people with ADHD?. Hi, as I say I'm looking for a low effort make up routine that's easy for me to stick to as I ahve ADHd and tend to forget to do skin care. I have combination skin and really want to start taking better care of it. I would appreciate any advice either on a routine or how to remind /motivate myself to stick to it!",0 +8620,"Is designer makeup worth the money in your opinion?. Most of the makeup I own is very cheap stuff, not costing more than £10, and I’m happy with how it performs, but I hear a lot of people talking about the designer brands they use like ABH and Dior etc. Do you notice a difference in quality between cheap drugstore makeup and the more high end brands you use that makes them more favourable?",0 +8621,"Charlotte Tilbury packaging. Okay, so not only has my pump in my CT setting spray stopped working, my magic vanish pot completely changed colour as the gold coating came off! It hasn’t happened to my face powder packaging tho. + +I know it sounds petty but CT is not cheap. And for this to happen kind of makes me a little angry, especially when I get that gold coating all over my hands! + +Does anyone else have this happened? I always store my make up appropriately so not sure why this happened. + +https://imgur.com/a/UiP45nI + +Update - I spoke to CT and this is what they said… should I accept it?! + +Hi there, +Thank you for your message +We apologise that as this is over 6 months ago we are unable to offer an exchange or refund. +In view of the circumstances, I'd like to offer you some online store credit. The amount will not expire so will be ready for whenever you're next ready to shop with us online. Please note, this will only be redeemable on products on http://charlottetilbury.com. The credit will appear as a payment option at checkout and you can view the store credit in the 'My Account' section when logged in to your registered account. + +If you are interested in this, please confirm by responding to this message with your email address that is registered to our website. +Team Tilbury xx",0 +8622,I’m looking for a “salon experience” for my girlfriend birthday where they do her makeup for her and tell her what products to buy. How do I find this?. My gf knows that this is the present and it was kind of her idea. She doesn’t know what products to buy so she thinks it would be cool if she went somewhere and they did her makeup for her and told her what to buy. Any ideas on how to find a place like this? We live near San Francisco so there has to be something like this around.,0 +8623,Am I the only one who does not like to wear eyeshadow or am I just doing it wrong?. ,0 +8624,"I have extremely fair skin. My wedding is coming up, and I'm having trouble finding a contour that doesn't look orange. I prefer a powder formula, but I'll try anything!. ",0 +8625,"What are some products you absolutely HATED?. Hi all! My first post on this page. My makeup tastes have changed a few times ever since I’ve started doing my makeup and I’ve tested a lot of products, but only a few I actually hate. I’m only basing my list on product performance, and I am probably forgetting a few. I’m curious if there are any products you guys have tried and would not recommend to anyone no matter what! I’m in a stage now where I am branching out and trying new things so I could use some advice generally on what to avoid! + +Here are some products I HATE with a passion lol: + +-Urban Decay Vice Liquid Lipstick (Unknown Shade): I think this is discontinued? I had a pretty red color back when liquid lipstick was popular. This stuff was SUPER DRYING and literally crumbled off my lips after a day of wearing and re-applying if I had to. I think I actually bought a full size after I tried a mini of the color I liked-the color was a very flattering red but the product itself was absolute garbage. + +-Kylie Cosmetics Matte Liquid Lip Kit (Candy K): Got this as a gift at the height of the Candy K craze lol. Same issues as the UD liquid lip but it was also an extremely unflattering color on me. I have neutral/golden undertones and I just hated how this looked on me. Also the lip pencil was terrible, it sharpened horribly and the product fell out of the pencil. Not sure if there are issues anymore with the lip kits but either way I never bought anything from Kylie Cosmetics again just because of this lip kit. Between the UD and Kylie liquid lips I have been put off permanently from matte lipsticks in general (mostly) and liquid lipsticks. + +-NYX Can’t Stop Won’t Stop Matte Primer: I think I got this right when it came out? Don’t know if I got a defective bottle but didn’t seem to have tons of product in the bottle to begin with (as if the product had dried in the bottle) and it made my face feel SUPER weird and tight, and I could feel the primer layer on my face, easily the worst primer I’ve ever tried. + +-NYX Can’t Stop Won’t Stop Concealer: I remember this performing okay, but it visibly oxidized TERRIBLY after like 30 sec-1 min after application. Again I have neutral/golden undertones but this stuff would turn borderline orange. With powder it was manageable but still pretty awful. + +-NYX Radiant Finish Setting Spray: I swear I like NYX lol, but they can be VERY hit or miss for me. I REALLY wanted to love this setting spray, but it didn’t make my makeup last long at ALL and the “radiant” effect was literally gold glitter sprayed onto your face, to me it looked very weird for everyday wear. I would maybe consider getting a mini for costume/cosplay purposes for the glitter effect but overall I hated it, sadly. + +-Benefit The Porefessional Primer (Original): Probably my second most hated primer, I’m sorry to say. Maybe I just hate these kinds of primers in general, but I needed a lot of product to feel like I adequately covered all areas and it felt drying to me. Way too expensive for what it is IMO, and especially in todays market I assume there is a better and cheaper dupe. + +If I think of any others I will edit this post or add it in the comments, let me know what products you would never ever repurchase/hate!",0 +8626,"Kids & Makeup. Hi everyone, + +I'm sorry if this is the wrong sub for this, it felt like the right one to post in. + + Does anyone else's kids try to stop them from putting on makeup? My 2yo will get in my lap, take my brushes, close pallettes, tells me ""no, Mama, no"" with the most serious face. It's adorable but, it can also be frustrating, especially when I'm running late. I'm pretty sure it's because he associates it with me going to work, even though I use makeup on my off days. + +Have any of y'all gone through this? Did anything help them get over it? Thanks in advance!",0 +8627,What’s your secret to keep mascara from smudging under eyes?. Even waterproof mascara will have me somewhat looking like a raccoon after a long day at work. Any tips to prevent this?,0 +8628,"My husband told me that I look pasty when I apply my foundation.. So today my husband told me i look pasty when I wear foundation, I asked him if I looked pasty all over my face and he said yes; but here's the thing, I only apply the foundation to my cheeks to cover redness and no where else and he thinks I apply it all over my face. He also said that I don't look pasty when I'm not wearing it, which is odd since I only put foundation on my cheeks. + +Clearly the foundation matches my skintone if he thinks I apply it all over, right?",0 +8629,"How to cancel without causing offence. I am a bridesmaid later on in the year and had booked in for my make up trial and appointment for on the morning of the wedding. I paid deposits for both because I had to. I had my trial the other day and it just isn’t me. I don’t like it, she is a lovely girl and is good at what she does but it’s just too much for me. How to I cancel the appointment for the wedding day without causing offence",0 +8630,"My eyeliner always transfers onto my crease. Any recommendations for ones that wouldn't do that, preferably felt tip?. I wear a lot of eyeliner but it almost always transfers onto my crease on one of my eyes, I guess it's just how that eye ""closes"", so I want one that's more resilient. I also want to start experimenting with colored eyeliners so preferably recommendations for black, white at the very least but also all colors would be helpful :) I'm open to switching from felt tip too it's just been years and it's my comfort zone",0 +8631,I keep noticing my liquid foundation looks cakey and shattered like my skin is super dry no matter how much I moisturize.. what am I doing wrong?. ,0 +8632,"Easiest way to clean off make-up?. I enjoy wearing makeup, but I haaaate having to wash it off. I think this is the reason I rarely wear any. What is the most efficient, fastest method to wash well? Any special tricks or products? Or am I out of luck?",0 +8633,"How do I start doing my makeup as a beginner?. Hello! I’m a 19-year-old girl and I’ve never had a “good relationship” with makeup. Mostly because of my acne and problematic skin in my teen days, I suppose. But today, that problem seems to be solved after achieving almost clear skin with the help of a dermatologist. So now it feels like I’m finally ready to start trying my hand at the art of makeup again! + +Therefore, my question is - where do I begin? I’ve only ever used mascara and foundation (which is troublesome because I’m insecure if I even have the right color). I’ve heard of something called primer but I don’t know how to use that. I find it all very confusing, all the different steps, different makeup tools, everything. I don’t know what to use. + +What are the different steps when doing makeup? First, washing your face and then moisturizing it, then primer, then makeup…? But then there’s toners and stuff like that. When do you use that? + +Please help. Or you could just write your own makeup routine if you want. I can use the inspiration. + +Thanks for reading",0 +8634,How old were you when you started to wear makeup?. ,0 +8635,"Are dollar store/drug store beauty products any good?. Since inflation is crazy (and I just spent 10$ on concealer from a brand on the cheaper side 😒) I was considering buying from the dollar store or something. + +I’ve bought beauty blenders there once and were really good (30 pack for a 1.25) and I’ve seen tiktoks with people buying products from there but I was wondering if y’all had any experience in that. + +If you have any insight, Thank you! + +Edit: thank you so much for the advice! I would reply and thank every one of you but there’s so many comments 🥰 + +Edit 2: btw, anyone know if dollar store foundations, blush (liquid or powder), or lip tint are any good??",0 +8636,"Why does my foundation do this?. I’m gonna cry. I have an event in like an hour and I can’t seem to get my foundation to stop being like. Stuck on flakes of skin? I’ve been moisturizing for like a week every morning and night, I exfoliated this morning, I used primer (elf) I tried two different foundations (fenty soft matte and it bye bye full coverage moisturizer) and like. Nothing is working. Help. Am I using too much? Not enough? I've blended the shit out of it with a beauty blender. + +[https://imgur.com/a/AH7YyEM](https://imgur.com/a/AH7YyEM) + +Edit: Thank you to everyone who replied!! + +I ended up just wiping it off and sporting a little concealer and powder to cover up my redish bits last night, but this has been an ongoing problem so I'm going to be looking into everything everyone said, even the conflicting advice! I made a little spreadsheet of the most common bits of advice I got, so I can try them in order of how popular they were. Thank you all so much! + +[https://imgur.com/a/lz3QFak](https://imgur.com/a/lz3QFak)",0 +8637,"Marilyn Monroe’s lipstick shade swatched :)!. Hey guys :)! I’ve seen some lipsticks on YouTube that people claimed were Monroe’s favorite/used shades, but unfortunately, some information is false. I did research and got Marilyn’s shade sold at auction (Bachelors Carnation from Revlon) and did a swatch comparison. This is just for anyone interested:)! Closest match is Cherries in the Snow by Revlon (out of a tube, the closest). Just thought I’d share for MM fans 😊❤️! Swatches on the YouTube link 💕 + +https://youtube.com/shorts/HUSGW0Ugm7o?feature=share",0 +8638,Elf cruelty free?. Everywhere I look says Elf doesn’t sell in China or countries where animal testing is required by law but on my Elf concealer it says it’s made in China? meaning they had to do animal testing because they made the product?,0 +8639,Anyone else used to be obsessed with makeup and now struggle to like it?. I used to love it so much and was on top of every release. It was my special me time for the day and I absolutely loved it. I feel like I haven’t been following or been interested in makeup ever since covid. It makes me sad because I try to force myself to like it how I used to and would never leave the house without winged eyeliner and now I can barely force myself to do eyeshadow.,0 +8640,Tinted moisturizers with sunscreen. I have VERY fair skin and just got diagnosed with skin cancer (I'm 42). I'm going to be starting on some creams and pills instead of having to do chemo or radiation (we caught it super early). I'm not allowed to be out in the sun for the next 4 months which is going to suck. My dermatologist said I go out before 11 and after 4 but I absolutely need to have sunscreen on. The cream/pills they put me on will make me turn bright red and they said my skin is going to start peeling right away. What's a really good tinted moisturizer with a high spf I can wear during the day (at least spf 25). The foundation I usually wear doesn't have high enough SPF and it's to heavy for summer.,0 +8641,Help. I know nothing about makeup and my wife is always wanting stuff from sephora but never want's to spend the money on herself (we have the money). How do I surprise her with all the essentials? She has cool skin tone,0 +8642,"How good is colourpop?. I’ve actually never owned any colourpop, but I’m curious if it’s worth the price (which isn’t too bad) and the hype. Especially the hello kitty collection. Do they have good concealers?",0 +8643,"What does it mean when someone says I look tired since I started to wear makeup?. Because I know I look tired I started to put on some makeup to hide it. However, since I started doing that people ask if I’m tired and stuff which is really weird bc they didn’t say that before. + +Is that my facial expression that makes them say that? Or is it bc I’m actually tired and my makeup doesn’t hide it?",0 +8644,What’s the first makeup item you specifically remember using?. Feeling a bit nostalgic…. My first was a Clinique lipstick that one of my aunts gave me from her Clinique bonus. I think it was called Raspberry Glacé. Or my mom’s Cover Girl foundation—I was around 7 or 8 at the time.,0 +8645,"Is cheap makeup ok to start learning?. So I want to try my hand at practicing a little makeup this week. +Is it ok if I start with super cheap stuff at first or is this one of those things where if you go super cheap it's gonna make it much harder and you think you hate it and/or you suck at it but instead it's because the cheap stuff is simply terrible? +Bonus points if you got any tips for cheap store brands etc. that are good for their cost and don't overcomplicate things for a complete newbie and available in Germany/Europe. + + +Thanks in advance, Elisa 🙂",0 +8646,"Is it true that using lip balm often makes your lips more dry?. Hi! + +My lips have been feeling dry recently so I bought a lip butter that has a colored tint and Maybelline's baby lips from the drugstore. When my mom sees me applying it, she tells me to stop and drink more water instead. According to what she knows, using lip butters and lip balms will make your lips more dry because companies want you to keep buying them, only giving you the illusion of your lips feeling moisturized. + +I'm still struggling with dry lips so are using these kinds of products counterproductive in my quest to have non-painful, moisturized lips? + +Thanks for any input. :D",0 +8647,"Are Pat McGrath eyeshadows worth it?. I’m looking at the Moonlit Seduction palette and the colors are very pretty but $125 for an eyeshadow palette seems very… a lot. I don’t have the money to spend on the palette currently but does anyone find that the shades are worth it? Raves/regrets over purchasing? Super curious about this! + +Edit: Not planning on buying a palette since I don’t have the money, just wanted to know if the palettes themselves are worth the money!",0 +8648,"How to do your makeup faster?. I’ve watched every YouTube video about it. It takes me 10 min to do my everyday no-makeup makeup but I want to get it down to 5 or less. +Complexion takes me the longest, since i have rosacea on my cheeks It would take me longer to just spot conceal.",0 +8649,"Fake eyelashes and makeup during chemo. Long story short, I start chemotherapy. So I am loosing all my hair including my eyebrows and eyelashes. I would to apply makeup and fake eyelashes during this battle. + +I never done fake eyelashes ever. I am a noob at this. What brands you would recommend? And/or any other makeup tips during cancer will be great.",0 +8650,"Apply left mascara with left hand?. Does anyone apply makeup with their nondominant hand? I'm right handed and it seems like my left hand would hold the mascara wand at a better angle, so I've started training myself to use my left hand. So far I'm doing a pretty good job.",0 +8651,"Is this actually true??. There was something awhile ago about your nipple color being your perfect nude... I haven't tried it, but I definitely plan to 🤣 + +Has anyone tried this and confirmed it's their perfect nude shade??",0 +8652,"How do people with very weak eye sight do their eye make up?. +Foundation, concealer, highlighter, bronzer, blush and lipstick I can understand but how do people with VERY weak eyesight do their eye shadow, mascara and eyeliner? + +By weak eyesight I mean like -14 and -12. + + +Edit: wow, I did not expect so many comments. Thank you to you all! If anyone has general tips for make up beginners, do tell! + +Edit: +Conclusion: get a good magnifying mirror, go super close to the mirror and hope for the best! Thank you once again. I’m grateful to all of you for your replies! Wasn’t expecting so many :D",0 +8653,"White eyeliner recommendations price friendly !!!!. I’ve been using the nyx white liquid eyeliner for my graphic liner and it’s just so hard to work with, gets chunky, and flakes off really easily. What’s a nice, smooth, durable liquid liner you would recommend??? Thnks <333",0 +8654,"NYX buttergloss is not worth the hype tbfh. It's very popular and I bought Angel Food Cake before even knowing it was a TT sensation, but it's very sticky and doesn't go on like butter at all + +It also has such a gross consistency for me😵 I don't use gloss that often but with this I probably never wanna use one again. NYX's liquid lipsticks are perfection, but their glosses on the other hand can be ..... + +i just had to get this out i do not understand why this product has the love it has. The shades are pretty but the consistency is a no go",0 +8655,"Unpopular opinion, but Sephora Collectiom brand is not that bad. Do you have any favorites?. I know they are considered cheap and a lot of items can be hit or miss, but I do enjoy one of their crayon eyeliners and their lipstories lipsticks. Any products you like from the Sephora brand that are affordable yet good?",0 +8656,I want to start wearing makeup but only have $100 to spend. I don’t really know anything about makeup but i really want to start wearing it. I would like at least one product for each step of the process but they have to be fairly cheap cause I only have $100 to spend right now. Any recommendations? I’ve been getting overwhelmed trying to figure things out myself.,0 +8657,"best affordable mascaras out there ?. if i was rich id stock up on the diorshow iconic overcurl mascara and primer. its literally my holy grail, ill apply a coat of the primer, then 2 coats of the mascara and i constantly get asked if my lashes are fake + +are there any dupes out there that arent gonna make my bank account cry 😭 primer recommendations are also appreciated :) + +thanks in advance <3 + +edit: wow thank you guys so much, i didnt expect this many responses ! ive read over all the comments and the most popular ones seem to be maybelline sky high and essence lash princess so ill give them a try :)",0 +8658,"Why would my husband say i look better without makeup?. I think I look better with makeup. He said that I don't look ugly with makeup, but he thinks i look better without it. I like how I do my makeup and it just threw me off when he said that because the way I look with makeup is the reason he even introduced himself to me.",0 +8659,"How can I trust makeup reviews that are incentivized?. So I typically go with drug store brands, but there ARE a few products I would like to try that are a bit more high end. I don't feel secure in paying $30+ for a moisturizer or setting powder when more than 85% of the reviews are incentivized (Sephora). It's just like when Amazon asks you to leave a 5-star review in exchange for a $10 credit. Unless the product REALLY REALLY disappointed me, I'm going to get that $10 credit! Ugh.",0 +8660,"This might be silly, but what’s in right now for makeup looks?. Hello all! I was really into makeup from 2014-2018 and then kinda fell off with keeping up with trends. All I’m seeing everywhere is this “clean girl” look which I guess I have naturally been doing for the last 4-5 years since I backed off with the makeup. My everyday makeup consists of concealer (sometimes Bobbi brown under eye cream), lip balm, and maybe blush (cream or powder depends how my skin is that day). I used to go all in with primer, foundation, color correction, contouring, lipstick, falsies, etc. It seems this isn’t a thing anymore? Can someone give me some up to date tips? Thank you in advance ☺️",0 +8661,"I really want to try adding gems to my eye makeup look a la Euphoria, but I’m worried I’m too old?. I’m 28 going on 29 and I’m worried that I’ll look like I’m trying too hard to be younger. Is this a silly concern or should I hold off on the gems?",0 +8662,I haven't done makeup since my brain aneurysm. So I have been healing from my brain aneurysm and lost my sense of balance and control especially my right hand. It has been about 6 months now and I'm healing and getting better everyday so I'm considering about trying to get makeup back in my routine. I'm hoping I can get some suggestions from experienced artists on how I can have better control especially when I start doing eyeliner cuz it's still very very shaky from what it used to be. Any tips and tricks ?,0 +8663,"Looking for a basic brown palette that doesn’t pull orange.. Everything pulls really orange on my skin, which looks awful on me. I don’t want to go super cool/gray either. I just can’t seem to find a true chocolatey brown palette out there that doesn’t have a bunch of bronze colors and hoping you guys can point me in the right direction.",0 +8664,"face shaving wtf. I am from a south Asian background and when we meet each other out of love and respect, we put our cheek to cheek so our faces touch and blow a kiss. So i shave my face every 6 weeks. 4 people have turned around and said ""your face feels spikey, what isit?"" Someone also said ""your face feels rough"". I'm so conscious now when i meet somebody. I have smooth skin no acne no scars. I get my blades from amazon. They work great. I exfoliate regularly. I have a good skincare regime. But what the hell? Im just so annoyedd. I am 1000% sure its the face shaving because what else coud it be. My skin is so soft naturally. Can anyone give me tips? What should i do? Shall i stop shaving?",0 +8665,"What brand of eyeshadow palettes is good?. I want to get my 17f niece a nice eyeshadow palette. She experiments with makeup a lot and wants to be an aesthetician. I can spend up to $50 on it. I don’t want to get her something cheap or designed for tweens. +**EDIT** Thank you everyone for the great suggestions! I ended up getting her two Urban Decay Palettes and shared the responses with her mom who was also trying to figure out what to get her. Her mom is going to get her some makeup from ColourPop and Too Faced, so my niece will be all set!",0 +8666,"I think I found my nipple color BUT. I was digging through some old makeup today and found a lipstick that I actually wore down. I thought it was a great nude for me, nipple checks out. I think it's discontinued 😩 It's Kate❤ Rossetto 08. Going to try to find something close. If you know of something please let me know! Thanks! Edit to add I was going to clarify, but I'm loving the variety of comments!",0 +8667,Red lipstick recommendations for my skin tone?. https://imgur.com/a/SQtMo1R,0 +8668,"What is the most underrated beauty product?. Mirroring the earlier thread on overrated beauty products, I'd say the eyeshadows from Makeup Revolution. From my personal experience having had a few palates from them, it's a real bang for your buck and the quality is impeccable!",0 +8669,"Would anyone be willing to get in a video call with me and teach me makeup from scratch?. Hi! I’m looking for new friends and also want to learn makeup. I have a pile of random stuff I’ve accumulated overtime, most of it is cheap and some of its expired probably, but if anyone would want to go on the adventure with me of teaching me how to use it while we get to know each other, that would be so awesome! + +Edit: You all are so sweet oh my gosh! + +So it seems we have a bunch of teachers and a few more people who want to learn, I’ve been sending out dms and everyone else should too. Try and get some matches going on + +Edit 2: please come join the makeup teachers and learners discord if you want to be part of group classes or one on one sessions to teach or learn + +https://discord.gg/7YBXJWjBgJ",0 +8670,"The fall of Glossier?. Read an interesting article on fallout over 2020 and that Glossier is struggling as a brand. I had no idea! I love the products I’ve tried + +https://www.businessofbusiness.com/articles/glossiers-fall-by-the-numbers-what-went-wrong-at-the-beauty-brand-instagram-twitter-layoffs/",0 +8671,Hi guys! What’s a makeup product that you desperately need but hasn’t been invented yet?. I wanna hear your thoughts! or it could be something that already exists but somewhat disappointing <33,0 +8672,"People who don't use foundation: what do you do instead?. I'm beginning to consider going the no-foundation route because even when I use light coverage, I feel like my face comes out looking like an unnatural formless blob. I could maybe do some extra work with contouring/highlighting, but I don't always have time for that (and honestly I'm not great at it anyway). + +I do feel like I have some blemishes I'd like to cover up. But really I'd rather just have a more natural skin tone and have some blemishes show through.",0 +8673,"Did my miss my opportunity to start wearing makeup?. I loved makeup so much as a little girl. The problem was that I had a lot of brothers, a dad, and a mother that didn't wear it. Because of those reasons, I was teased mercilessly for years. I have always been a very sensitive person, and couldn't stand the teasing, so I never wore makeup. I am 34, and have only ever worn lipbalm. Last year, I finally decided that I wanted to get over my fear, and start wearing makeup before I get any older. The problem was that I want do to a full face of makeup because I've never done it before, and would like to even out my skin. I keep being told that it is stupid to wear makeup at home, but I always wear a mask when in public. It also seems pointless to wear a full face of makeup when most of my face will be covered. This pandemic doesn't seem like it's going anywhere anytime soon, so did I miss my chance to wear makeup?",0 +8674,Clinique discontinued?. I noticed Clinique makeup products are ALL on sale at both Sephora and Ulta. Are they discontinuing their makeup or possibly rebranding? I couldn’t find any information online as to why.,0 +8675,"Honestly, how conscious are you about buying makeup with talc in it?. I’m sure we all know about the whole buzz around talc now. Realistically how hard is it to avoid it? I’ve been wanting to try the Kosas powder which is conveniently talc free but this weekend at Sephora, I found myself putting back a Natasha Denona bronzer because I noticed it has talc in it. Obviously I didn’t get rid of my products with talc in it and continue to use it daily but I’m trying to be a more conscious consumer moving forward. Have you put effort into avoiding talc? Or do you think it’s just fear mongering/not enough data to back up the claims of it being harmful?",0 +8676,"My nose always get cakey and flaky when i put on foundation. I never go out in public with makeup on because its always cakey and flaky on my nose. I moisturize 2 times a day and I just bought a new foundation but it still gets cakey. + +Can someone please tell me what im doing wrong because I would like to go out in public with makeup on without feeling embarrassed.",0 +8677,"A lipstick that really looks like the advertisement of Dior Cherish Star?. So I fell in loveeeeee with the colour Cherish Star (one of the shades in the Dior Stellar Shine collection). The colour is such a perfect purply pink, but when I look up the reviews it doesn’t pay off like that on the lips at all. + +Does anyone know a lipstick (high end or drugstore, doesn’t matter) that truly does look like that or similar on the lips. + +This is the picture of the advertisement: https://lipstick.vn/review-son-dior-384-cherish-star-hong-nude-stellar-halo-shine/",0 +8678,"My male friend wants to do his eyelashes but wants no mascara, is wearing just lash primer okay?. Do you think wearing just white lash primer then letting it dry clear would work for him? He doesn't want anything too bold, he just wants natural pretty long looking eyelashes. He's straight and afraid of how others might perceive him so he wants a lowkey look.",0 +8679,"i notice after maybe a few hours the concealer under my eyes start to look cakey. Like the makeup isn't sweating off or anything, but i see patches How do i fix this? I have natural oily skin but I do still apply primer and foundation spray.. ",0 +8680,Must have makeup products?. Hi everyone! I was wondering if anyone knew of a list of all must have makeup products that you could ever need. I’m trans (and new to makeup) and I want to buy every single thing I could possibly need so I can sit down and watch tutorials and practice along with them (I learn best this way). I have a few items but I’m always missing things when I sit down to practice. The amount of items bought or money spent isn’t really an issue I just would like to have any and everything that someone who has been doing this for years and years would have. Thanks :),0 +8681,"How do I (15M) ask my parents for makeup for Christmas?. Alright I know that the title sounds a little weird. Like ‘why would a guy want to wear makeup lol’. I’ve been into it for a while and thought it was cool, yaknow. I’ve got a scar on my face (school issues lmao) and some other stuff im insecure of so I thought it’d be cool for my female friend to try out doing makeup on my and surprisingly I loved it. I liked the way it felt and looked on me, and I got a ton of compliments so I’ve been wanting to feel that for a while though. Here comes my issue: + +1.Im a guy +2.I have no money since I spent all my pocket money on Christmas gifts for my little sis and parents + +My family might be mean about makeup since I told them I was interested in it once and they laughed at me. Im really insecure so that hurt my pride a lot lol. Idk how to ask without getting embarrassed. How do I ask them if I can get makeup for Christmas?? I know it’s gonna cost a little bit but I just want something basic… it doesn’t have to cost much but I want it. + +Im not saying guys can’t wear makeup. Im a guy and I want to wear makeup. It’s just that it’s looked down a lot and I’m afraid I’m going to get made fun of for it… usually when I buy makeup I buy it for my sister and my friends so I know how it works but man im so embarrassed to ask and get it. Can someone pls help me?? + +Im sorry if this isn’t the right Reddit for this I genuinely have no idea where to put this.",0 +8682,"Why are there 2 shades of MAC's Velvet Teddy? Please help!. UPDATE: Just got off the phone with MAC corporate. They said there was no official discontinuation/reformulation and such a noticeable difference in shade is an issue. They implied it could be a manufacturing problem. If it helps anyone, the pinky nude version I have was made in Canada. If Canada also manufactures the orange version too..then idk. They are going to investigate what's going on but I'm slightly relieved that there was no discontinuation because maybe the orange ones are faulty since the pink has been around forever... Hope we get some answers! + +​ + +Today I was at ulta looking at MAC's velvet teddy. The tester was much darker than the velvet teddy I had before. The emloyee and I noted that half the packages had a lighter brown sticker, half were darker. No other differentiation, same formula, same # (617), name, packaging, everything. It wasn't Teddy 2.0. + +She opened the lipsticks and was also surprised that the lighter sticker ones were indeed a lighter orangey shade, and the darker stickered ones were more of a medium pink nude. Can anyone explain this? The employee told me she did't hear that they are new or anything. I'm worried bc if I want to repurchase the darker shade in the future, and all the dark Velvet Teddy's are sold out-- I will have no color to compare it to to ensure that I am buying the (darker) one that I like...",0 +8683,"Is Clinique “Black Honey” worth it?. It’s currently on sale for £15 on the Clinique website and I’m really tempted to get it because of all the tiktok hype. + +Update: I bought it",0 +8684,"What are the most moisturizing lip balms/glosses?. So many basics like Chapstick are great at first, but within an hour they wear off and often leave waxy flakes, and my lips feel even drier. Any suggestions for super hydrating lip stuff? Can be clear or tinted.",0 +8685,"My bf's cat peed on my make-up brushes -_-. Edit yeah I should have realised this is the internet. People are jumping to a lot of conclusions and I appreciate the people who were kind and trying to be informative as animal abuse and neglect are serious issues and dealing with it with information is far more likely to be effective than attacking and harassing people especially when you have so little information. +Anyway the cat has never been alone for more than 12 hours in her life. We have gone away for more than 2 nights 3 times in 8 years and she has peed outside of her litter 3 times in 8 years twice in our going away bag upon our return and the 3rd time on our bed as I made sure not to leave the bag out where she could get to it. The first 2 times she was taken to the vet for a full check up (bloods, urine sampe, stool sample) to make sure there was nothing wrong (which there wasn't) and the vet assured us that as long as these were isolated incidents (which they are) then it really was just her being displeased about us going away especially due to the place she chose to pee. I have had cats my whole life, have rescued many and love them dearly. I would never neglect an animal in anyway. + +Yeah so the cat sucks (I love her but she pees in my bags/on our bed when we get back home after being gone for 2 or more nights) and punishes us for going out. +So now I need to purchase another set of make-up brushes, or more accurately my partner is purchasing them. + Honestly it kinda works out for me since the ones I had were crappy ones I got from wish like 5 years ago. + +Anyway I need foundation brushes and eyeshadow brushes including a really fine ones for gel liners and things. I am pretty unskilled in regards to make up but I am trying to get better so I do want to get some decent brushes but not high end or anything. I just want a decent set with a good range of sizes that won't break the bank. Please help me?",0 +8686,Best setting sprays to last through a concert?. also maybe some good primers too!,0 +8687,"What to wear to look my age?. Edit: thank you for all of your comments and advice! Sounds like I have a few makeup/clothing options I can try but also it’s nice to know I’m not alone in the struggle. :) + +I (30 F) have always looked younger than I am. Now, before everyone says “you’ll appreciate that when you’re older!”, it’s incredibly annoying when you are 30 and try to order a drink and the bartender looks at you and isn’t convinced you are even old enough to drink, and when your hair stylist asks what year of school you’re in (both have happened this year..) + +Anyway.. + +I don’t wear a ton of makeup but have started wearing more to see if that would help. I currently use foundation/concealer, blush, mascara, and sometimes lipstick. What would people recommend to help me not look like a teenager to other people? Is there a makeup style that would help? Or am I doomed to be treated like a child until I’m old? 🤦‍♀️",0 +8688,"Dry lips :(. I suffer from really dry lips, no lip balm I use seems to help much. Can anyone recommend some affordable lip masks/balms that may actually make a difference?",0 +8689,"Mom doesn’t approve of brother’s girlfriend. She shows interest in makeup and fashion, but is too cautious to experiment. How do I encourage from afar?. TL;DR: looking for makeup Christmas gifts that come with tutorials or are very beginner-friendly and encouraging. + +My brother’s(27) girlfriend(28) grew up with only her father, and while she shows a lot of interest in fashion and makeup, she only ever wears cargo shorts and XL walmart t-shirts (she’s a medium, if not a small). She is *extremely* shy and cautious. If she thought it would be rude or inconvenience someone, she’d starve herself before being a burden. + +She has, many times, shown interest in makeup and fashion when I offer to put a little makeup on her or send her a link to some clothes I think she’d like. She gets very excited about it, and from what I can tell she really enjoys putting a little effort into her appearance. She has mentioned though that her dad always discouraged makeup. + +I don’t live in the same state as her, but I think I might get her some Colourpop palettes for Christmas. She loves Disney and Anime, so I was thinking something themed within her interests might be an added level of encouragement. My worry though is that she might not feel confident enough to experiment if she’s intimidated. Ideas? + +TY!!!",0 +8690,"Is non-creasing concealer really a thing?. I wonder if there really is such thing as non creasing concealer? I’m asking genuinely because every single concealer I’ve ever owned creases on me. I don’t think it’s the concealer, more so it’s just the lines that are already there on my eyes so it naturally happens. Do powders also really reduce creasing or not? I feel like I’m understanding the concept wrong or something",0 +8691,"Best YouTubers for improving makeup application?. Hey, I recently got interested in makeup and was wondering if anyone knew who the best YouTubers to learn from were? + +I want to learn everything eventually, but for now I need to know the basics, which brushes to use for what and how to properly apply bronzer and contour. Any suggestions? Thanks!",0 +8692,"which eyeshadow is better? urban decay or morphe?. specifically deciding between the urban decay “naked honey” eyeshadow palette and morphe’s “9R Bronze Metal Artristry Palette” or “Morphe × Jaclyn Hill Divine +Neutrals Eyeshadow Palette” + +i like the colors in all of them i’m jus looking for which is the creamiest / best quality and would be easy to apply",0 +8693,Anyone have any affordable contours for pale girls? I keep looking orange 😅 Something really cool tone basically grey 🤣. ,0 +8694,"Has anyone purchased from Urban Dollz Lashes?. Edit: I'm seeing a lot of new, fake accounts posting positive reviews here about them. Their only post is the one review about Urban Dollz. Stop. making. fake. accounts. + +I want to buy their lashes but this company looks shady. Their system is like Lashify. They're @ urbandollzz on IG. This company is not to be confused with Urban Doll though, the person who did all those fake giveaways. I looked at their IG and youtube and either comments are turned off or they've been deleted. On their facebook reviews page, the reviewers are either fake profiles or people who said they never received the product or it took months to receive it.Have you purchased from them with success? + +EDIT: Well after hearing all this I bought from Lilac St. instead. I can 100% say they're legit and their lashes are great because the band is so thin it feels weightless. I got my order in less than a week. really dodged a bullet with Urban Dollz.",0 +8695,"Is Il Makiage foundation legit?. It looks amazing in the ads (of course) but does anyone here actually use it and love it? + +Edit: Thank you all so much for the info!!! I have super dry skin so I will be skipping.",0 +8696,"Is Pat McGrath like... actually worth it?. Don't get me wrong, I think a lot of the products are gorgeous and I like the color schemes and packaging, but I'm wondering if the quality is really worth the price tag. A 6-pan eyeshadow palette for $65? It's absolutely beautiful, but is it still going to crease and fade like other less expensive shadows? + +I've heard before that the brand is about the luxury of owning it, but I'm wondering what people who have owned Pat McGrath products think about the quality and experience and whether it justifies the price. I'd love to hear all opinions!",0 +8697,"Tips for beginner Makeup 💄. Hello 👋 + +I wanted to do another one of these for fun. +Okay makeup tips and tricks + +1# ALWAYS moisturise before applying makeup it helps the makeup blend and stick to your skin in a very natural way. + +2# if you want the clean/dewy makeup use creme products NOT powder. You can use powder to mattify your T-zone ( which is the middle of your face nose and forehead) those area produce the most oil. + +3# if you want to glam up a basic look add some sparkles or glitter to the inner corners of you eye. ✨️ + +4# wash your hands and face before applying products, it makes a big difference. + +5# mixing foundation with your fingers helps warm up the foundation and helps blend it to your face. + +6# if buying foundation i recommend taking someone with you bc the lights in the stores trick you into thinking its the right colour, and another set of eyes helps to discern that. + +7# pick the tools you use to apply makeup. For example i perfer doing my makeup with a stipling brush, i dont use sponges bc they absorb alot of the makeup and don't reach small corners around my face. + +It will take some time to find the tools you need but i recommend using your fingers for beginners. + +8# there are so many different kinds of makeup i recommend looking into the ones you like and copying thier styles for example korean makeup styles often use brown eyeliner in a dog eye instead of a cat eye. + +9# Expensive does not mean good, there are many good quality makeup made by drugstore brands like Nyx and Wet and wild i actually recommend the nyx soft matte lipsticks bc they are cheap and come in a variety of colours, it allows you to expands without hurting your wallet. + +10# if your not good at eyeshadow i recommend getting a eyeshadow stick. They are easy to use almost like crayons and look really good on the eyelids. + +Thats it for now if you would like to drop a tip or ask a question please do. Im happy to help 😊",0 +8698,"is glitter makeup okay for work?. Like assuming you work a job where you have to look professional, would glittery eye shadow work as long as the eye shadow is in like a neutral looking pink color and not something outlandish like hot pink?",0 +8699,"Help!!!! I always watched “what not to wear” growing up and was appalled at people who let themselves go. Now here I am, almost 30 with no idea what I am doing.. I’d consider myself earthy crunchy side of things but live in Charleston SC (aesthetic is important). After several years of pandemic fueled blind bliss, I am realizing that I’m not looking good by dropping my makeup routine- quite the opposite. I feel like one of those people I used to see on tv. +Now I am representing my company and speaking regularly at conferences. Especially on the corporate stage, I don’t feel confident and good about myself. That’s the main concern, I just want to feel good again! +If you all had to recommend a basic starter collection: an eyeshadow palette, eyeliner, mascara, concealer, blush, bronzer — anything else considered essential. I have a BIG presentation next week and want to shine! +I like a neutral look, nothing to intense just want to feel good again. I would very much appreciate your help!",0 +8700,"Foundation makes me look old!. Hi everyone, 💕 + +does anyone else have the problem that foundation is making them look old? 🤯😤 + +I am female and just turned 40. I would say, in general, I don’t look older than I am. I never smoked, I don’t drink, I avoid the sun and I always wear SPF 50, all the year round. Also, I would say I eat quite healthy. + +I don’t use makeup on a daily basis anymore (currently on parental leave); mostly I only use moisturiser and sunscreen; sometimes a slightly tinted sunscreen on top. + +For some special occasions, I still like to wear some makeup. But lately I found that it makes me look soooo old - much older than I look without it imho. + +The problem is that my skin is very sensitive and lacks moisture, but at the same time it tends to get a bit oily, so I need to use powder to set the foundation, and I feel this is what is making me look old: the foundation & powder collect in my wrinkles and make them appear more prominent than they seem without makeup. + +What can I do? I am just using the wrong products? + +As I said already, my skin is very sensitive. I have rosacea and can’t tolerate scented skincare products, and products that contain a lot of alcohol, since they will irritate my skin. I feel, this makes everything quite complicated, because most foundations contain perfume and/or alcohol. + +But maybe someone is in the same boat as me and has the ultimate recommendation which products might actually work? + +Thanks a lot in advance! ☀️",0 +8701,Most complimented makeup/beauty item?. What makeup (or beauty) product have you worn that you received the most compliments on? Fragrance? Makeup? Just curious.,0 +8702,Best eyeliner that actually stays?. All eyeliners smudge on me. It’s painful.,0 +8703,"What eyeshadow palette is currently at the top of your wishlist?. I think mine is Mothership III: Subversive. The other contender for first place is Mothership II: Sublime. + +Definitly Mothership 1-6 are all on my wishlist.",0 +8704,"best black lipstick. I need a black lipstick for a Halloween costume. I am looking for one that will last but isn't too drying, any suggestions? Also suggestions on wear that dark of lipstick so it looks good all throughout the night",0 +8705,"Help a girly understand *Setting Powder*. I just started using setting powder for the first time in my life. + +I got the Laura Mercier one as advised by this glorious sub. + +Was pumped to try it, but so far I've just made my undereyes look wrinkly, dry and cakey as hell. + +So these are my q's: + +* **Applicator:** What is the best applicator? Beauty blender, puff, brush, magic eraser?! +* **Placement:** Should I only apply it to my undereye area or should I apply all over? +* **Quantity:** How much am I supposed to apply? I remember videos of people putting pounds of this stuff ontheir face but that's what I've been doing and \~\*iT's GiViNg\*\~ powdered donut babes +* **Sprays:** Does a setting spray replace it? Or do you use both? + +Any info/tips are soooo insanely appreciated! I LOVE YOU ALL, you beautiful non-sponsored makeup gods and godesses!!!!",0 +8706,How to prevent mascara from smudging under the eyes. Every single mascara does this for me.. ,0 +8707,"Best way to get free samples of things?. I'm not just talking makeup, I'm talking skincare, hair care, pretty much anything. My finances are low and I want to see how long I can live off of samples. + +Where can I get them from? Literally anywhere you can think of. Thanks in advance! Any advice helps!",0 +8708,I need a lip color (glossy) that will not transfer onto another person and will stay on all day. I'm looking to buy at Ulta.. ,0 +8709,"Is it possible to wear fake eyelashes when I have almost no real ones?. Throwaway account because this is honestly embarrassing for me. + +I have fairly mild trichotillomania, and unfortunately that’s concentrated on my eyelashes/eyebrows. I’m currently investing in fidget toys to keep my hands on those and off my eyelashes, but those haven’t arrived yet. However, my eyelashes on both eyes are nearly gone, and they look terrible. + +I used to pride myself on my eyes and eyelashes, and now I hate even looking at them. Is there anything I can do besides wait for them to grow back? I know people can tell they’ve been plucked out or that something has happened to them, and I barely want to go out without sunglasses on at this point, which, I can’t exactly wear sunglasses inside without looking downright stupid. I’ve got probably three tubes of expensive mascara that I used to apply daily and now I can’t wear it because I don’t have the eyelashes to apply it to. + +Are there any false lashes out there I can wear without real ones to attach to? Is there anything I can do at all? + +edit: tl;dr: I’ve plucked out most of my eyelashes and am embarrassed at how they look now, and need advice on whether or not there’s anything I can do to hide what I’ve done while they grow back.",0 +8710,"Don't walk, RUN to get the NYX Serum Concealer.. I (32F with light neutral skin tone) have been using Tarte Shape Tape for literally 5-6 years to conceal my really dark under eye circles. Shape Tape is great, but it's thick, and the packaging always gets gross after some use. I recently decided on a whim to try the new NYX Serum Concealer. I wear fair-light neutral mixed with light-neutral in Shape Tape under my eyes, and decided to try the shade ""Vanilla"" in NYX. I'm literally shook. It's so lightweight but high coverage and my under eyes look bright and hydrated. I see absolutely zero dark circles. This is supposed to be a dupe of the Kosas concealers, but to me this is like how Shape Tape should be, it's so thick and heavy in comparison to the NYX. Wow. Best $16 I've ever spent. I'll be buying the next shade up (Beige) for the rest of my face.",0 +8711,"Why is everything I love discontinued?? 😭. Marc Jacobs Gel Eye Crayon liner-gone +Nars Velvet matte lip crayon-color “bad girl”-gone +Hello Happy (Benefit) flawless brightening foundation-shade 2-gone! +Any recommendations?",0 +8712,"Can i wear makeup without foundation?. Can I wear things like concealer, bronzer, highlight, eyeshadow, and things like that without a foundation? I don't like how it makes me look, but maybe I just have the wrong color. Even then I don't really like it in general,",0 +8713,"How to get brown eyeshadow (as eyeliner) to stay on throughout the day?. Lately I have been experimenting with different eyeliner looks and have been playing around trying to see which kinds suit my makeup looks the best. I think I have come to the conclusion that the subtle brown eyeshadow as eyeliner look fits me most, but I realized that it is quite difficult to get it to stay on throughout the day. For some reason my eyes tend to water a lot as well, and since I apply the eyeshadow on my bottom eyelids I tend to smudge/erase the makeshift eyeliner completely. Any tips on how I can prevent the eyeshadow from smearing or to somehow set it so it becomes water-proof? Advice of any kind would be greatly appreciated!",0 +8714,"FYI the Essence brand mascara Double Trouble is a dupe for the Mac Stack Mascara ✨. I saw @roseandben review this and went out to buy it immediately after. After many years of buying high end mascaras and being disappointed, I became loyal to Maybelline Sky High. It has great length and staying power, but not the best for volume. I saw this reviewed against the Mac Stack Mascara and it was literally even better. It's $6.99 CND. I bought the waterproof just as @roseandben did. It holds up all day, you can add as many layers as you want and it doesn't get clumpy, and it is super volumizing and lovely. I tried the new Mac mascara when it came out, and I sincerely think this is better. Just wanted to share this info for people looking for a great summer mascara!",0 +8715,"What lipstick color to wear with a royal blue dress?. TW: funeral. (Please help) + + + + +Hi I wanted to know what color my grandma's lipstick and nail color should we put on her if she is wearing a royal blue dress. She wouldn't wear a red lipstick. I want her to look beautiful before she is buried.",0 +8716,"How do I become good at knowing the best makeup products and techinques again?. # Please no rude harsh or patronizing comments. I'm here for solid advice. I'm lost. + +To try to make this short I use to be pretty decent and makeup. I always worn it since I was a kid but I created this immense knowledge of makeup based on numerous hours of researching video after video and taking youtubers advice. Then something tragic happened and years later I ended up rarely wearing makeup, researching it, and even impulsively decluttered all my stuff. Now I'm trying to watch numerous videos all over again and get back into the game but my anxiety is making me overthink the simplest concepts of makeup. I can't honestly learn how to get back in the game and know the best brands or more specifically what are the best products to buy or not buy. Here are a few things I'm struggling with. For example here is what I can't figure out and need help with, please: + +\-What are the most legit, honest, genuine, not product pusher youtubers that you honestly trust their advice on what products to buy? + +\-How do I manage learning several best products out there for different things when it appears youtubers now suggest way more options than back in the day? I can't afford to try everything or even 10 foundations. + +\-Do I focus on one youtuber and one specific product like blush to see what the best one is she mentions or how much she mentions a certain item? Or do I look at several and what blushes in total everyone uses? + +\-How did you guys become so amazing at makeup and have holy grail products or know so many products not to buy or ones you hated if you didn't have a lot of money to buy a lot in the first place?",0 +8717,"Cheap good cleansing balms. Please?? My budget is probably $15 if thats even possible. I need some cleansing balms for my heavy makeup days and preferably unscented and one you find at a grocery store makeup isle. + +Edit HOW did this blow up😭",0 +8718,"Starting a new job, not sure if I should wear makeup?. So I’m going to be working a warehouse job. I’ve always loved to wear eyeliner and foundation. My boyfriend tells me not to bother wearing makeup to this job but I feel so insecure about my skin if I don’t wear any. I’ve had acne my entire life so I don’t like not going without foundation. What do you think I should do?",0 +8719,Save your money. I totally thought LaLas makeup would be great sadly it’s the worst makeup I’ve ever bought. Please save your money!!,0 +8720,"Best everyday mascara?. I’ve just started getting into makeup. I have medium , straight lashes. I tried Maybelline lash sensational which is fine if I put one or two coats however it clumps if I put on more . I’m looking at Sky High and Falsies lash lift. Any recommendations under £10? + +Edit: Thanks for so many suggestions! I have a few questions +Which essence princess is best do you think? +Sky high in black vs normal vs waterproof ? +L’Oréal telescopic vs voluminous? +Is waterproof mascara better to get in general or just the normal one. +I can’t really afford to try all these different mascaras so advice is welcomed❤️ + +Edit 2: thanks so much for all the suggestions! I ended getting Sky High in the black tube and Falsies and i love them both!",0 +8721,I don't know if this is the right place for this question but I don't know where else to ask. I don't wear makeup but I always wear sunscreen and I don't like how oily it makes my face look so I was wondering if any of you knew of a something I could do about that.. Thank you for all the suggestions! I'll be sure to try them out,0 +8722,"Does smudge proof mascara actually exist?? Help!!. Hi everyone + +No matter what mascara I use (even waterproof) it ends up smudging giving me lovely black rings under my eyes 😔😫😫 + +I’ve very deep set eyes and I often wonder is this the problem. + +Has anyone any recommendations for a mascara that might save the day?! + +TIA",0 +8723,"Foundation never looks natural. Hi all, I have been trying to find the right foundation for me, and it seems almost nothing looks right on my skin! Whenever I apply it after priming and everything, it always looks super cakey and just seems to highlight all of my pores, regardless of matte or dewy finish. + +The only one that doesn't is this Revlon foundation designed for older people (the age defying 3x), but I'm 24, and my skin isn't that bad.... I don't think + +Most of my makeup is drugstore stuff like Maybelline fit me (I've used matte and dewy), Loreal true match, which I heard so many good things about, etc. None look natural and quite frankly, I feel self-conscious about wearing a foundation designed for older people. + +Should I use more primer, or what? I'm at my wits end here",0 +8724,"Do kohl eyeliner pencils still have actual kohl in them?. Or is it like the way people still refer to the middle of writing pencils as “lead” even though they have graphite and don’t have actual lead in them anymore? + +Just curious, since the dictionary definition of kohl defines it as an “ancient” eye cosmetic.",0 +8725,"Clear brow gel that won’t flake?! Does it exist?. Have tried several brands including both high and low. Not concerned about price. I need a good hold brow gel that won’t flake if touched! My most recent try was Charlotte Tilbury and it’s a joke. If you touch it it flakes and even my bangs seem to agitate it enough to cause it to slough off and look like gross eyebrow dandruff! Anyone have an HG clear brow gel? + +UPDATE: After reading all the comments, I settled on trying mini size of Benefit and I LOVE IT! Day 3 and I’m VERY pleased with the results. NO flaking! And I love the brush. I’ll be buying the full size soon.",0 +8726,i need very odd and particular makeup advice. im going to a MILF themed birthday party tonight. yes you read that right. my MILF-sona is going to be karen-esque and i need advice on how to do some stereotypical “i want to talk to the manager” makeup. any would be appreciated!,0 +8727,"Clinique's awful website. What is the deal with Clinique's terrible website? + +It is so hard to navigate, there is hardly any info about the products, and the sale page doesn't even tell you what shades are actually on sale. + +I was looking to buy Even Better Serum Foundation and saw that some shades are supposed to be on sale, but when you click thru them none of them are listed as on sale. You have to click every single one to see the price. It is so bizarre! So I asked the customer service rep in the chat feature and this conversation is the weirdest thing I've ever heard. They are sending me random stuff and saying its on sale even though the site doesn't list those shades as on sale. They're telling me they can just enter it as on sale for me...? What the heck?",0 +8728,"Is rude cosmetics stealing art?. I recently stumbled upon one of Rude Cosmetics’ Manga Palettes (The first picture linked) in store and was immediately drawn to it because I am a big fan of the artist who drew the cover, Mika Pikazo. I purchased it without a thought and when I got home I looked into finding an announcement or something like that that the artist collaborated with the brand. I also looked on the packaging for some kind of signature or art credit but found nothing. Instead, I found the piece used posted by the artist, only to notice many changes were made. The piece used on the palette has the signature removed and changes such as the outfit altered and the left eye being closed. I tried to find some sort of credit on Rude Cosmetics website, and still came out with nothing. I then took a look at the other Manga Palettes and found the same problem. Art that was slightly changed and no credit given to the original artist. I realized that this was a major problem and looked through comments, reviews, social medias and other things for a callout on this issue, but found nothing. What’s going on here? Has Rude Cosmetics had a history of stealing art like this? I’ve found that these palettes are being sold at major stores like Walmart and TK Maxx, and the brand itself is seen as reputable, even having a million followers on Instagram. If they’re stealing art, they need to be taken off shelves and possibly face legal action. Has as this issue never been confronted? I have attached the palettes on their website, along with the original art and artist below, and their social media links. Please let’s figure this out. + +**Palette VS Original Art Comparisons:** + +[https://ibb.co/HtrzfD6](https://ibb.co/HtrzfD6) + +[https://ibb.co/1skH1Jr](https://ibb.co/1skH1Jr) + +[https://ibb.co/nj5TfKX](https://ibb.co/nj5TfKX) + +**Artist Credits:** + +Mika Pikazo + +ももこ (eng: Momoko) + +Ultone (neisiss)",0 +8729,"Is what i see in the mirror not accurate? When iphones flip selfies, is that what we actually look like?. ",0 +8730,"Where is a good place for images of older women wearing makeup?. I’m 48 and have hooded eyelids. I’m looking for inspiration and Google is a joke. +Can someone send me somewhere good to find images like this?",0 +8731,"Is this foundation too light for me?. It's my second time using foundation and I was trying a different shade to the first time. I can't tell if it looks weird because it's too light or because I'm not used to seeing myself like this. + +Pic: https://imgur.com/a/bzOYP2G + +Please be kind, I'm a super beginner.",0 +8732,"What’s your favorite setting spray?. Just curious to what everyone’s favorite setting spray is, and why? I’ve been using NYX for years but I’m thinking about branching out.",0 +8733,"In Need of Incredibly Lazy-Girl Makeup. Hi beauty cuties. I am a makeup-for-fun person, and might do a full face three times a year, but for a daily look, it's mascara and tinted lip balm. + +I am not well-versed in all the brands, types, etc, so I am hoping for some outside help! I started a new full-time job, and I have sleep issues, so sometimes I wake up and look kind of...dead. I'm looking for a blush, maybe a stick-type, that I can just dab on and rub in with my fingers and an eyeshadow that I can also just smudge on with my fingers and go. If there's a blush that is also an eyeshadow, even better. I have executive functioning issues as well, so the easier something is, the better, because otherwise, I tend to get overwhelmed. + +Thanks in advance!",0 +8734,"Beauty products especially make up are very expensive... Man this inflation is killing my regimen. I went to Ulta today to find some makeup brushes for my eye shadow and realized that it's very very expensive to try and look good. Makeup and beauty products were already expensive, but with inflation, ""I'm like doggone it. I can't catch a break."" Smh",0 +8735,"Hi, I’m currently using Dermablend to cover my neck tattoo but have found it to transfer easily onto my collar. I understand you probably can’t totally stop this, but do you guys have any advice to prevent transferring for the most part? Thanks! :). ",0 +8736,Drawing eyeliner is a hard job. I don't know what's the easiest way to draw eyeliner I overdo it or just don't draw them symmetrically because I don't follow certain steps (I need them to be easy). I want to learn how to draw wing eyeliner that's attractively classic and elegant :),0 +8737,"I started trying out make up products on half my face. Very simple but so effective. It started with two new setting sprays I bought and now I did it with a bunch of things. Different primers (face, eye), powders and foundation (half face current foundation, half face new foundation). + +The results have been a game changer. Because I realized most products really don't do anything for me and there is - on me - no significant difference. NONE of my primers or setting sprays made an ever so slight difference even after multiple days use and changing sides. Like not even the tiniest noticable effect. + +I also tried my everyday BB cream vs. a foundation that I would use when I wore heavier make up overall - not really a difference, if any the BB cream looked even a bit heavier. I would have told you that the BB cream had a glow and was more natural while the foundation was heavier and more matte. Nope, basically the same. + +If you'd have asked me before to rate those products I'd have sworn they made a difference. Bare in mind I used some of them for years and thought they'd be my holy grail. + +Only actual (but still minimal) difference I noticed was in eye primers. UD vs. Artdeco vs. MAC paint pot vs. Sigma. Sigma won but only slightly. No difference whatsoever between the others.",0 +8738,"Should I use a setting spray after I've done my foundation only (inc.powder, highlighter etc) or after I've done my whole makeup (foundation, eyeshadows, lipstick, etc.)?. ",0 +8739,"Back to using BareMinerals. I have been on the hunt to find the perfect lightweight foundation/tinted moisturizer for my normal/possibly combo skin. I’ve tried countless combinations of moisturizers, primers, foundations and setting powders and nothing is lasting all day without separating or creasing/looking oily. + +I randomly picked up a new BareMinerals matte powder and used it over my normal moisturizer and primer. I had no separation, no flaking, no oiliness, all day. Had a tiny bit of shine after a full day but nothing significant. + +Wanted to share in case others are struggling. I really did not think I’d go back to it. I’m 33F and no longer like the high coverage/powdery look. Even with the matte formula it doesn’t look too dry. Using a dense face brush from elf to apply. Color match can be a little tough, but I settled on 2 different shades and mix them together. + +The original formula has a sheen/almost opalescence that I don’t like on my skin (and makes my pores stand out). + +Hope this helps someone that has been frustrated!",0 +8740,"F**king dark circles are ruining my life. I hate it. I hate it. It’s annoying that i cant walk out without worrying that i look sick or like an addict. + +And yes, it’s obvious and not one of those “cute dark circles”. + + +I’ve tried everything! The skin under my eyes are thin and hyperpigmented. I’ve used correctors and concealer and they do work. But nooot when i layer it over a sunscreen and primer or just sunscreen too! + +Today i tried primer after long. Followed it with a sunscreen. Added a teeny dot of corrector and then followed by concealer. Blended with the real technique brush and it just made my undereyes look dry af. Although i did moisturize my face before any layer. + +I had to remove and reapply without sunscreen or primer for it to look decent. + +I’ve tried nars, loreal, elf and I’m sick of all of them and having to do this. + +Welp! What am i doing wrong. How do i thicken the skin under eyes?",0 +8741,"How to settle all the questions about skincare products variety of components?. I came up with the idea of creating an application for cosmetics a few years ago. I was deep into AI/ML algorithms, but it was hard to find any simple and measurable usage of those great techs for people. I was roaming around till suddenly I thought: my problem could be a potential for real usage, for creating an application or web service. I've always had issues with my skin, so picking up some skincare products was a huge disaster for me. But then I found a team focused on creating digital solutions to help people like me to solve their daily-basis choice struggles. Now I just want to find out how other people are solving such issues. + +There are a massive number of components used in skincare production. If you start to memorize the names of the ingredients, you can easily double your vocabulary. In addition, sometimes familiar names can be misleading. For example, Ammonium Sulfate is viscosity controlling, and Ammonium Sulfite is a preservative. + +Let's go through one example: If I want to understand the cleanser La Roche-Posay. Toleriane Caring Wash Cleanser. There is no particular reason why this one. It is just the first skincare I came across by accident. + +The list of ingredients is concise, with only 16 items. Two of which are well known, **water and glycerin**. But it is interesting to go through the rest of them like **Pentaerythrityl Tetraethylhexanoate** are skin conditioning-emollient and viscosity controlling. Are those ingredients OK for me? How to find similar products, but without elements which is not OK for me? + +We all have different skin types, different concerns, and the different things we pay attention to. Some have dry skin and love it when there are many humectants. Some want to avoid fragrances. + +I just wonder, how do you make your choices, whenever you want to dig into elements of a product in detail? Do you use some websites, or applications for that? Is there any easy way to handle all those questions about components and their compatibility with my skin? + +**What do you personally use for settling all those component-related questions?**",0 +8742,"Any recommendations for a matte red lipstick that stays put?. I am getting married in a month and I really want to wear a red lip (my signature). However I don't want to look like a clown if it transfers to my mask or my husband. I am having trouble finding something that stays put. Any recommendations? I am comfortable with liquid, creme, a stain, etc.",0 +8743,Deep tear troughs. Anyone know a good technique or tutorial to conceal them?. I have deep set eyes with tear troughs. I feel like they make me look old and tired. 😕 I don’t want to get any fillers atm. Anyone know any good makeup techniques or tutorials to make them a bit less obvious? Tysm[Pic](https://imgur.com/a/ECeyKil),0 +8744,Hi boyfriend seeking help🙏. Hi as the title says im a boyfriend seeking help/tips of brands or things i could get my girlfriend (who goes to a stylist school) for christmas and her BD. I’ve done some searching myself and bought the things shes asked for just wondering if anyone could give me a tip about something that will really pop out. As i am not into makeup nor has ever been. Thanks all have a good day!,0 +8745,"my makeup, no matter how little i wear, looks so gross and cakey in the sun. im embarrassed and i don’t know what to do!!!. is this just inevitable? ive gone from wearing foundation to cc cream to just concealer on my hyperpigmentation spots and my under eyes, then set with loose powder. i’m 20f and i envy the girls who can go out and not wear any because they have flawless skin :-( i love the natural skin look and im embarrassed to go outside at work and have people see me and judge me for being cakey! high end or not, it still happens :-( + +i set my liquid makeup (shape tape concealer) as soon as possible with a damp beauty blender to avoid creasing with maybelline fit me loose powder. then i need a little more coverage, so i’ll use a dense brush and tap on some pressed powder foundation (urban decay stay naked powder). +then i spray a good bit of setting or hydrating skin spray, let that soak in a little, and go over it with a damp beauty blender to soak up some extra powder. + + +what am i doing wrong!! is it the powder foundation?? +thank yall soooo much!!!!",0 +8746,"Why am I so bad at covering up lone pimples?. I got a pretty gnarly pimple on my right cheek last week and it’s flattened now but the mark is still there. Idk why but I am fully incapable of using any type of concealer to cover up a zit. I dab a bit of my regular concealer on, gently rub it in and then it just looks like I have nothing on! Then I tried the green concealer stuff which is supposed to cancel out the redness and now it just looks like my zit has a slight green tinge to it. What’s the secret?",0 +8747,You have to buy a face full of makeup at Target for $100. What do you get?. ,0 +8748,"How old were you when you starting putting on make up?. Edit: I just want to thank all of you lovelies for all the empowerment and sharing little tips and tricks!!! Stay beautiful everyone! ❤️ + +Hi all! I’m (f, 25) and have never mastered the art of putting on make up. Best I could do is really just… lipstick… on a bare face 😂 + +I’ve never been exposed to make up growing up and never had a role model to look up to. My mom has never put in make up or even shaped her brows in 50 years (but she’s still the most beautiful one in my eyes) + +I’ve always admired people who knew so much about making up their face and having so much skills and passion. + +I’ve watched YouTube tutorials and tried drawing my face but it turns out really bad and I just stopped trying afterwards. + +Is it too OLD for me to start learning how to do proper presentable make ups, for work setting (I’m in the sales industry & I’m not sure if this would benefit me further)? + +What can I start with, who can I look for or what should I take note of before even starting? + +This seems fun yet daunting at the same time haha! + +Thank you beautiful angels 💖",0 +8749,"What are some good coloured lip balm?. Live in Canada and winter is coming so need some lip balm , but I don’t want plain colourless ones, so I’m looking for suggestions for coloured lip balm + +Thanks for any advice",0 +8750,"AN AMAZING SETTING SPRAY PLEASE 💳💥💳💥💳💥. i'm so tired of my makeup smudging on my friends' and bf's shirts when we hug, it's so embarrassing 😭 affordable to mid range ones please + +edit: thank you sm for the suggestions! 🤍💗",0 +8751,"I look terrible with red lipstick. I have seen videos of people saying no one looks bad in red lipstick… but I look terrible, I’ve tried everything different undertones and shades, formulas etc I’ve tried it all, not one has looked good… + +Does Red look good on everyone or not? What can I do about it because I would love to wear red +Any recommendations that could be good to try? I only use cruelty free makeup and have dry skin so something to suit that, I don’t wear much makeup, I’m a tinted moisturiser girl, sheer concealer etc",0 +8752,"Why is Sephora de-stocking Shape Tape?. Now when I want shape tape, I need to go to Ulta. The Tarte section at all my local sephoras only carries the Creaseless Concealer, which is too sheer and sticky for my liking! + +Edit: Thank you all for letting me know that shape tape has always been an ulta exclusive.",0 +8753,"Hi! I’m a teenage male looking to get into makeup and it all seems super daunting. Does anyone have any guides or tips, maybe even some specific to feminine guys would be nice? :). ",0 +8754,"Makeup ruined after wearing mask for work. I need to wear a mask for a full 6 hours at work and no matter what I do, what products I buy it always looks TERRIBLE when I take it off. I use the estee Lauder double wear foundation, the Charlotte tilbury translucent powder and finish it off with the urban decay all nighter setting spray. SOMEONE HELP!",0 +8755,What’s your favourite mascara?. ,0 +8756,Anyone have a good sunscreen mister or face powder so that i can reapply every few hours?? I feel like by the 2nd coat of sunscreen my face looks kinda greasy!. ,0 +8757,"everyday makeup suggestions for a gal with a very red face?. hi friends, + +i was just wondering if you guys have any recommendations for easy/everyday makeup that doesn't take too much time to apply and looks good? + +i have combination skin and its so so so red and dull looking currently (i have been going through lots of health issues, trust me, i clean my face and drink plenty of water haha). before i looked like this i was generally fine to go without makeup, but people have been asking if i'm sick etc so i'd like to cover up a bit more. + +i'm most concerned with a really good primer, concealer, foundation combo that feels lightweight. i' open to other suggestions too! + +edit: wow guys i feel so supported and really appreciate all your feedback 🥺 thank you",0 +8758,"Tinted moisturizers for dry skin to give a “my skin but better” look. So far I’ve tried Pixi Skin tint in Cream and MAC Face and Body in N0. + +I am using tretinoin on my skin and it’s been a lifesaver but it makes my already dry skin drier (especially now that it’s cold). I’m tired of foundation but want something to perfect my skin still, so I’ve tried light tinted moisturizers plus a little concealer (just under eyes) and a light, bright setting powder. I’m really enjoying both the Pixi and the MAC right now but I’m on the hunt for the best tinted moisturizers! + +Anybody have a good list of dewy tinted moisturizers to try?",0 +8759,"Trashy 2010s party girl makeup?. Hi, so I'm gay and me and my boyfriend know nothing about makeup, but Christmas is coming up and I've told him a few times I think he'd look hot in full out ""knocking over trash cans, stealing drinks off the table, screaming at the bouncer"" 2010s white girl party makeup. He's very excited by the idea because this is his first gay relationship and he really wants to do more gay stuff, and he's also the kind of guy who loves rowdy ratchet girls as much as I do. We mean it in a soulful way, not a mean way. + +Anyway I have zero idea what would work. I'm looking for something in the 20-50 range, I think anything fancier would just stress him out because he lives off-grid and storage might be an issue. He could probably find somewhere clean to put it, it's just psychological, I don't want him to be all like ""oh noooo this 500 dollar palatte is in my toolbox...."" + +He is light-skinned with dark brown/black hair, almond-shaped blue eyes, very thin, and has a yellowish undertone to his skin. He has very high/sharp/fine cheekbones, and full lips. He has a blue-collar lifestyle and generally looks like a grungy auto mechanic. He is also a party DJ and has earned his stripes in the trashy ratchet arena. I'm adding these details to hopefully make it easier to find something that would look good on him, but I honestly don't know what info is relevant. + +Thanks :) + +I also just checked in on this and it's getting downvoted a fair amount but not answered. I'm not quite sure what the reason behind that is, since there are a million reasons to take issue with just about anything on this planet and I have no way of knowing what some random reddit number's perspective is on any situation, but I can assure you we are real people, the question is sincere, and answering it WILL result in cash revenue for the makeup industry.",0 +8760,"does anyone know the name of this product?. i’m wondering if anyone is familiar with a product i used a long time ago. i have forgotten the brand, but it was a very very sheer lipstick in a traditional lipstick tube. i think the container was black or possibly silver on the outside, and the product itself was very dark purple, almost black. it was fairly glossy and sheer when it went on and i guess could be considered a tint. it was so flattering and i would love to find it.",0 +8761,"What is that disgusting packaging material that some brands use?. Like the naked 2 neutrals mini palette (forgot the name) and BH cosmetics studio pro brushes. It literally gets so sticky after a while and getting it wet to clean it makes it worse. Its like a rubbery material, anyone know what is it? It's garbage material",0 +8762,You only have time to apply two products before going somewhere. Which do you choose?. ,0 +8763,"Is there any way to make colored mascara show up better on you?. I've been on a lookout for purple mascara for myself, and I can't even explain my disappointment when it ends up looking like nothing at all on my lashes. I tried cheap stuff as well as more espensive, the color looks really popping on the cotton pad or on the brush but on my lashes it looks no different than a basic black mascara. Is there maybe a brightening base that I can use to make it show up more or is it just the nature of my lashes?",0 +8764,I've got hooded eyes and I'm finding it difficult to find an eyeliner tutorial that works :(. Does anyone here have any tips?? I'm really new to makeup in general and i want to wear eyeliner for my birthday coming up in 5 days :(,0 +8765,"Lips drier than the Sahara......... Winter. Dry, cracked lips. Any suggestions? I do NOT like Carmex. EOS is ok.......Chapstick, meh. I don't like a pot you have to stick your finger in to use (not hygienic!). Currently using Mented Balms Away but it doesn't last! Is there anything that can keep my lips hydrated for longer than an hour?",0 +8766,Can you still use eyeshadow palettes after their expiration?. ,0 +8767,"Advice Needed, Please Help!. I could really use some help from y’all! My beautiful wife has really been having a rough time with her anxiety and depression, and it has recently gotten to the point where she is staying at an all women’s mental health center to try to get the help she needs to begin to feel better. She LOVES doing her makeup everyday, and playing with it when she has free time. We are currently living with roommates with a very small bedroom and shared bathroom, so her “vanity” space is limited to the top of her dresser in front of the window, with all her supplies and a small mirror squeezed in. I really want to try to get her area as nice, and organized as I can to give her a little more space for her before she comes home. Any suggestions of small makeup storage drawers or advice on how to make the top of her dresser into a nice vanity set up! Thank you all in advance! Any help is beyond appreciated!!",0 +8768,What is a makeup-related pet peeve of yours?. ,0 +8769,"How do I stop my eyes from watering after applying eye makeup?. Hey, I’m a trans woman and I’m just learning to do my makeup. I feel like I’m getting better with makeup, but my problem is that my eyes always water after applying eye makeup. Is this a common problem, and is there anything I can do to avoid this ?",0 +8770,"Avoid Urbandollzz at all costs. I ordered back in early May and had to keep contacting them to get an update. They finally shipped my order two months later after I asked about a refund. + +The product itself was terrible, the glue remained tacky and the sealer left a noticeable clearish glue all over the lashes. I left a one star review and it was never posted. Messaged on one of their posts on a Instagram and lo and behold they deleted and blocked me. Very shady business practices. So that’s how they have only 4 and 5 star reviews. Instead of being an actual business and improving on their formula and product, they just delete all unfavorable reviews and messages. I wish I looked into it earlier but now I’m out $89 because of how long it took to receive the product. Btw, their starter kit is always $89. It was when I bought it in May and guess what it still is. + +Edit: + +I wish I did more research, it didn’t even occur to me that they were deleting and filtering reviews. I messaged a bunch on their Facebook which they can’t easily delete and guess what they reached out to me. I honestly don’t even want any of their products, their glue is still stuck to my natural lashes and tacky as hell after 4 days. Let me see if I can upload pics, they reached out to me via email as well about my 1 star review but guess what the review is still not up on their site.",0 +8771,how do I know what's the right lipstick shade for me? whenever I buy I always end up buying either too light if I want to go for nude or too dark. can someone advice? is there anyway to try before buying. ,0 +8772,"Naked Cyber is only good for swatching. So I got naked cyber when it went on sale the other day....... it's awful. + +The colors only look good if you rub your finger into it and then firmly buff it into your skin. Using a brush does nothing. I'm fair skinned with pale green eyes and these colors are too light even for me. Like 3 of them are almost transparent with green glitter. I can't make a full look with just this palette, I have to pull from others just to get a little bit of dimension. And my kaja eyeshadow already has the most elite glitter I could ever want, so I don't need 7 more sub-par glitters. + +It looks like they finally gave in to all the foolish reviews saying the swatches are bad, and made a palette that's only good for swatching. That was one of the reasons I loved the naked line, because they focused more on blendability and wearability and didn't care if the tester in the store was disappointing. + +Ulta took it off their website already. I hope they learn from this mistake and don't do it again.",0 +8773,"I'm building a custom eyeshadow palette for my girlfriend and I need help. So my gf and I are approaching our 1 year anniversary and she has always loved the smoky eye that Damiano David from Måneskin does. So I wanted to get her a custom eyeshadow palette that would allow her to create a similar look, while also giving her the freedom to add her own twist to it. + +Here is an imgur link to the palette I've got planned out: [https://imgur.com/a/YOQ7HAh](https://imgur.com/a/YOQ7HAh) + +Any feedback would be appreciated because I am fairly new to the world of makeup :)) thanks + +Edit: and also, is Colour pop good for eyeshadow stuff?",0 +8774,"What has been your experience with false lashes on roller coasters?. I'm going on a date to Six Flags tomorrow and really want to glue on false lashes but I'm scared it will just fly off... +What has been your experience with falsies on roller coasters? Should I ditch 'em or go for it? I use the Duo lash glue with a very natural style falsie. + + +Update: Just got home from Six Flags. The lashes were coming off... Surprisingly, not because of the whiplash from the coasters but more so because my eyes kept getting teary after the rides.",0 +8775,"Is shop miss A legit?. Someone recommended the brand to me, but it’s making me nervous due to the price. Does anyone have any experience with the brand? Is it good?",0 +8776,What are the best and recommended eyeshadow brand?. I am a beginner and I want to know what brands I can use.,0 +8777,does anyone have suggestions for a GOOD setting spray??. i’m tryna find a really good setting spray that will hold my makeup for shifts at work while wearing a mask LOOL. today i wore the morphe continuous setting mist and for the most part is good but i want something better.,0 +8778,Fall is coming! What are some of your favorite lipsticks for fall season?. ,0 +8779,what false lashes would you recommend for people with glasses?. hi! i’ve wanted to start wearing false lashes but every pair i’ve tried always seem to either hit my glasses or are so long to the point where i can’t even blink properly. are there any brands/styles that you would suggest?,0 +8780,What’s a easy hack for making your eyelashes look longer and less clumpy before applying mascara?. ,0 +8781,"Age Appropriate Eyeshadow. I looooooveeeee glittery eyeshadow. Like, love. But I’m 38 and don’t wear makeup THAT often. I’m looking for an eyeshadow that’s glittery enough for a nice date night, but not like “early 20s clubbing” glittery. I used to love UD’s Midnight Cowboy Rides Again when I was in my 20s, so I’m looking for something similar but maybe toned down and more age appropriate? + +For reference, I have olive skin, brown hair, brown eyes, dark brows, so if I do wear eyeshadow it’s usually something from a brown palette. Lips are usually something mauve or berry colored.",0 +8782,"Will curling your eyelashes (without heat) make them fall out?. My eyelashes are pretty long but don’t have a natural curl to them. So, when I curl them, the difference is instance. It would really suck if doing this often is bad for your eyelashes, so please let me know!",0 +8783,"Where can I get “cheap” makeup online for practice?. I want to get into makeup, considering gothic or nude makeup first. I really like late 90s/early 2000s styled makeup (ie Chola makeup)",0 +8784,"Help! Dupes for ABH brow products similar to 'Ash Brown'??. After all that ABH has done, I have recently chosen to no longer support their brand. However, I can't find any dupes in color to their 'Ash Brown' shade. Specifically I am looking for either a slim brow pencil, pomade, or gel dupe in a similar shade, as that greyish-brown shade is the best match for me. + +Open to any recommendations!",0 +8785,"Do you like eyeshadow shade names printed directly under the colors or separately?. I’m curious about the general consensus, and your reasons why!",0 +8786,"Best mascara that washes off easily?. I only wear mascara when I go out, and when I get home I want to wipe it off in one swipe so I can go to sleep. What comes off easily? I’ve used thrive and it comes off easily but it flakes everywhere.",0 +8787,What are your reviews on Trixie Cosmetics?. ,0 +8788,looking for red eyeshadow pallets !. red is my favorite color but i can’t seem to find a good all red (with pretty bright reds) eye shadow pallet. any recommendations would be good !,0 +8789,Brushes. Had my first makeover at Sephora last week. Sam my MUA did a fantastic job. She used the Sephora brushes mostly. I looked up the price for the Pro 8 brush set and it is $89. Is this a wise buy or could I do better for the same price point? I have an ELF brush set currently but the Sephora brushes gave a much softer appearance to my large pores.,0 +8790,"How to do eye makeup with blonde lashes?. Hi my lovelies, i have a Q abt eye make up! + +My hair is strawberry blonde and my lashes are very light blonde and when i wear black mascara and black eyeliner there is a gap between the two. + +How do i fix this? Is there mascara for gingers or something? Pls help a girl out :) + +Kisses",0 +8791,What’s your opinion on makeup for textured skin: is matte better for hiding it or is dewy better at hiding it?. Please help a sister who’s STRUGGLING with acne and scarring. Any advice would be appreciated.,0 +8792,Best foundation for oily skin. Help please!!! I have oily skin and every foundation I’ve used just ends up looking so gross by the end of my work day. I usually have to blot my face and there goes my foundation with the napkin. I use the oil stopping primers but those don’t really help. Any advice is greatly appreciated!,0 +8793,"Are brushes that haven’t been cleaned for a while still safe to use after cleaning?. I have some brushes that I haven’t washed since January since I took a break from makeup. I just washed all of them the other day, with an Ulta brush cleaner and dawn soap and put in the sun to dry thoroughly. With the exception of eye shadow brushes, which I threw out. They look basically brand new now and smell clean. Are they safe to use? Or is there any lingering nasty bacteria that could be there?",0 +8794,What is translucent powder? 🧐. I started doing makeup late in life and I am still learning. What is translucent powder and do I need it? I have setting spray but I don’t know if they are interchangeable…,0 +8795,"What foundation do you recommend for dry textured skin?. I’ve been using Tretinoin .025% for 14 months and it took alllll my oils away. My skin isn’t necessarily peely. It doesn’t look dry without any makeup. But the second I try to put foundation or concealer on to cover my scarring, my skin looks AWFUL and dry and flakey and patchy. I’ve tried Este Lauder double wear, Shape Tape, Charlotte Tilbury beautiful skin and IT cosmetics CC+. Any recommendations?? Thank you in advanced 😊",0 +8796,"Dark circles under makeup. I have struggled with a dark circles around my entire I since I was 20. I am now 31. no matter what creams I have tried, cover-up, color correction I cannot seem to cover up this discoloration it is seen underneath my make up. My doctors say it’s normal, but I’m not sure what to do about it. I get asked all the time if I am tired, sick or if I got hit in the eye.",0 +8797,"Wedding makeup trial went well, but a few hours later it looked terrible?. Mods let me know if I shouldn't post here but figured this sub would know far more about makeup longevity than wedding subs. + +I had my trial a few days ago and all went well I looked awesome for about an hour. Stayed in my house in the AC not doing anything and by 2pm (3 hrs later) my fake lashes had popped off on the inner corner, one eyeliner on one eye had transferred to the under eye and it looked like I only did one wing. The foundation was patchy by dinner and I felt embarrassed to even look at my fiance in the eye with how dark the eye look was while being so smudged. I am not overly oily and we used One Size setting spray. + +I didn't do any new skin care and was well hydrated. Any other tips because now I'm straight up concerned my wedding day is going to go poorly make up wise haha. Thank you all. 🙏🏻💗",0 +8798,"lip stain debate 👄. what’s everyone’s favorite lip-stain out there? looking for +🌸light coverage (not a matte liquid lip, a true stain) +🌹LONG wearing (like 2-3 applications per day) +⭐️cute packaging / not chemical-y (optional) + +I liked benetint when I was a kid, but the application can be so messy…",0 +8799,What's the difference between contour and bronzer?. ,0 +8800,"top 3 makeup products?!. like the title states i want to know your top 3 makeup products, i want to compile a list of products to try. i used to do it quite often and make videos for TikTok but lost my confidence and now i want to get back into doing review/ beauty vids. if everyone who sees this could comment there top 3 products i’d highly appreciate it 💕 + + +edit: thankyou everyone who’s commented!! i didn’t expect this many all these products sound lovely my banks definitely taking a few hits over the next couple of months lol!",0 +8801,Is it weird to only wear mascara?. I don't wear make up very often but I love the way mascara brings out the color of my eyes. Would it look weird if I only wear mascara?,0 +8802,"Help! I need to hide a massive hickey before I go to work. Any tips?. I work in a hospital so there’s a high probability I’ll be sweating. I often have to wear PPE (gowns) before going into some patient’s rooms, so I’ll need something able to withstand a little bit of contact. Also it’s hard to conceal anything under florescent lighting 🫠 + +The hickey is bigger than a tube of lipstick, mostly red with purple spots.. also my skin is pretty pale. + +Thank you in advance!!!! I appreciate you!!",0 +8803,"Rude Cosmetics update. I emailed the artists, along with Rude Cosmetics, and although I have yet to receive a reply from the artists, Rude Cosmetics did reply to me. They have delisted a good amount of the Manga & Anime collection, and have stated that they will remain this way until things get sorted out. Looking on their social medias, it looks like they have not announced this news but it looks like actions are being taken! + +[https://ibb.co/D9VDkLj](https://ibb.co/D9VDkLj)",0 +8804,"Feedback wanted on bridal makeup!. Hello, am quite clueless about makeup and would appreciate constructive feedback on a bridal trial I did the other day. A friend said he thought it didn't work with my face and I'm trying to see how I can look my best! (I'm thinking maybe the blush on my cheeks isn't flattering?) + +[Photos](https://imgur.com/a/IpGGzOi)",0 +8805,"Best palette for any occasion?. I'm trying to find an all around makeup palette. One that's good for just a regular basis like school or work but also enough to do a cute look or glam. Like something with neutrals but as well as red, pinks, orangy colors as well as a black shadow on there if possible. The only palette I saw close to that was the James Charles palette but just personally I don't want to buy that and I know like the green and blues are colors I just won't use so that would be a bit of a waste so any recommendations would be so helpful!",0 +8806,"waterpark/swim proof makeup!. im going to a waterpark. can i have suggestions on makeup that ACTUALLY stays? i see too many things labelled waterproof and just not being it so i thought id ask here +edit: i have scars from s/h but also generally i would like to wear a little makeup. nothing heavy, maybe some suggestions for just foundation and mascara will do. or a good lip stain? +EDIT AGAIN: Thank you so much for all the suggestions!! im gonna look into grabbing some of these on my next trip out!🥰",0 +8807,When i put concealer on my acne scars it turns gray? Does anyone have a solution?. ,0 +8808,What colour or colour combos do you like wearing and why?. ,0 +8809,How do you get your dewy makeup to stay? I get a perfect glow and then an hour later I look like a smudged oil painting of a drowned rat. I use translucent powder in my T-zone but it's just a mess and practically non-existent by the end of the day.. ,0 +8810,"Mascara turning into ICICLES in the cold- how do I fix this?. I recently moved to a new place where it’s regularly several degrees below zero in the winter time. + +Today I went outside and I had mascara on- to which a few minutes into my walking around- my entire eyelashes turn into ice. like it’s all stiff and turning white + +when I get back inside, immediately my mascara turns runny and melts off and gets all over my face. + +This never has happened to me before but I don’t want to ditch mascara. Im using a regular non-waterproof mascara, would a waterproof mascara work better? Any tips to stop this from happening?",0 +8811,"How can i do eyeliner?. Hey y’all- I have shaky hands and poor eyesight, making it difficult for me to figure out how to do eyeliner. Every attempt I’ve made ended with me having to rub it off :( I just want a simple, casual look that I can wear to the shops. I’ve tried the tape technique, but it gives off far too dramatic of an eye for my taste (and I couldn’t get them symmetrical anyways). + +Edit: I appreciate all the comments trying to give me a hand! I’m actually very excited to try your tips out now, so I just wanted to thank you for all the suggestions.",0 +8812,"Hey babies do you have any recommendations for top tier makeup products that you’ll never stop buying. Ideally products that last through everything (workout, waterproof, all day) thank you ❤️",0 +8813,"Laura mercier ultra blur powder. Why is no one talking about the glitter in her new “matte” powder??? All the reviews on Sephora I feel are skewed because those people were sent it for free. I was really excited for it because I have oily skin, anyone recommend a different powder?",0 +8814,"""un-eatable"" lipstick suggestion please. No lipstick stays on me more than an hour. My lips are usually dry so i keep wetting it with my tongue once in a while unconsciously. Though I use Himalayas lipbalm which helps retain moisture I keep doing this without realising. My friend suggested Sugar Lipgloss and said it is smudge proof, water proof and stays on whole day (it stays on her all day long). I told her to bring it to work today and tried it. It lasted 3 hours for me. Now I'm helpless. Does any lipstick stays on lips until you use soap or cleanser to wash it off? I need it on for around 12 hours (time taken from starting at home in morning ro reaching home in evening). Atleast for 6 hours so that I can do just 1 touch-up. + +Suggestions please. + +Edit: I live in India so please suggest something available here. I am ready to experiment more than one brand to try and find the one that lasts on my lipstick-resistant lips. + +edit 2: i have purchased faces canada no transfer liquid matte MeMe Monster. and today is first try...",0 +8815,"How do I construct an (almost) everything-proof makeup routine?. I have very oily skin, and I’d like to simplify my makeup routine down to something I can wear in all seasons ie summer, winter etc. Basically I’m looking for a routine for makeup that stays on no matter what. How do you suggest I start? Suggestions for products and techniques?",0 +8816,"Eyeliner for waterline that STAYS. Hi everyone! + +I’m looking for the blackest eye pencil for my waterline that really stays put all day. My fave Loreal Le Liner Signature is sold out and gone (don’t know if discontinued), and that was the only one that stayed relatively well all day. + +Looking forward getting some recommendations before spending money on trillions of different pencils.",0 +8817,What is your favorite drugstore brand for lip products?. ,0 +8818,"Lip Stains That Don't Transfer. Hi! I don't know if such a thing exists, but I'm looking for a cool red lip stain that won't transfer. I used to love Revlon's Just Bitten lip stain way back in the 2009-2010 era but I haven't been able to find anything like it. I like to wear a nice red lip pretty much all the time but I also have a 10 month old baby and she gets lots of kisses from me. I'd like to not keep leaving marks on her face. She also has a habit of grabbing at my face and smearing my lipstick at the worst times.",0 +8819,"ulta recommendations. i received a $25 ulta gift card for christmas and i’m not sure what to get. i don’t have a big makeup collection at all, i just have a james charles morphe mini eyeshadow palette. i’m not a makeup artist by far, but i’m not terrible either. i’m not sure if i should get makeup or skin care products. if you have any products you’d recommend, pls lmk!! :))",0 +8820,"ELF Makeup. First post here. What are your thoughts on ELF makeup products? I am in my early 40’s and am admittedly not great with applying makeup. I generally go for a natural, office professional look but would also like to dial it up a few notches easily too.",0 +8821,"I have been using NYX blush in taupe for contouring and absolutely loved it. Now that it has been discontinued, I am not able to find a cool toned replacement. Any recommendations? TIA. ",0 +8822,"just discovered the BEST lip product. Givenchy liquid lip balm. Omg.. It is so good I had to make a post. I went into a Sephora this morning to look for some juicy tubes because that’s my go to lip gloss but Then I thought wanted to try something new. Beauty advisor told me to look at the fenty glosses. I tried them all on and while I wasn’t super impressed I thought that was gonna be the best I could find. See I was on the search for like, the ideal lip gloss. My requirements are, that it tastes good, has a tint but isn’t super colored, LASTS LONG, makes your lips soft and hydrated instead of feeling like a sticky coat, and also that it’s good for kissing lol + +I noticed the liquid lip balm by the givenchy section and thought I’d try some on and holy shit. I’ve tried many lip products but this one feels incredible on my lips. Lasted about four hours before I reapplied. I got a clear ish shade but it reacts with the ph of your lips to change color and gives them a beautiful rosy pink color that does NOT rub off because the actual gloss is clear and so it won’t rub off if you kiss lol. It feels silky soft. The only con is that it doesn’t taste very good and is Unscented. But Wow. I grabbed that thing and spent 40 bucks on a lip gloss. It’s incredible though, and next time you’re at Sephora I suggest you try some on!! I love it and it’s definitely gonna be my only lip gloss purchase from now on.",0 +8823,"makeup brushes matter????!. So do they really matter,in the finished look? +Should I invest in a jessup set ? + Or just use the unknown brands brushes, they're really soft and don't shed, distribute makeup well +But i haven't tried more expensive brushes so I don't know whether there is a difference or not",0 +8824,"I want to buy one cool toned neutral eyeshadow palette and move on with my life, suggestions?. Was a loyal Naked 2 fan, my palette is definitely ready to kick the bucket and I’d love something with more mattes than this one had + +I’m not opposed to purple-y taupes either, those are some of my favorite shades.",0 +8825,"Wedding makeup!. So I’m a small makeup artist and I have done a couple weddings but for a close friend and sister, no charge at all. +But I just got offered to do makeup for a wedding with 9 bridesmaids and Bride. The hairstylist that I’m going to be with already quoted me for $35 a person without asking. +I’m curious to see what other MUAs charge for weddings, all full faces and so far no eyelashes besides the bride. What are your thoughts?",0 +8826,"Decent makeup removers for people who wear long-wear products?. I wear double-wear foundation, all-nighter setting powder and setting spray because I hate spending forever putting my makeup on only to having it come off. The problem is it works too well I think. I sometimes pimples where I haven’t been able to remove it properly. + +Those oil makeup removers seem perfect but they’d mess with my contact lenses so they’re a no-go. +I sometimes use eye-makeup remover because it gets off waterproof mascara. It’s pretty effective but I use too much. I was wondering if there’s a better or more targeted product? + +Do you guys know of any heavy duty makeup removers that aren’t straight up oil? + + +, + + +Edit: I do take out my contacts before using cleanser. I’m worried about oil residue getting into my tear ducts and affecting my contacts the next morning. Not sure if this is a valid concern - I read it in an article online. + +Edit2: I’m realising I was probably overthinking the contacts/oil thing. I didn’t expect so many replies, thanks for all the recommendations!! 😊",0 +8827,I got an Ace Beaute mystery box for $99. It just arrived. Not gonna lie. It felt scammy once I received the contents. I just received my Ace Beaute mystery box and Im pretty disappointed. Not gonna lie. It’s 10 products but 6 of them are lashes! Some of them are multiples of the lashes too. I won’t be ever getting their mystery boxes again. Fool me once.,0 +8828,"Winged Eyeliner Alternatives?. I've been wearing winged eyeliner every day for the past 3 years, I love it as I feel it makes my eyes look bigger and I really am not fond of how i look with just mascara. A lecturer in my college, after 3 months of consistently seeing me wear it, has told me i'm not allowed to wear winged eyeliner or I will face disciplinary action. I am likely to just make it a mini wing, but does anyone have any other potential eye makeup ideas that wouldn't be deemed ""unprofessional""? I feel that she would have an issue with it even if it were a small wing anyways. Suggestions would be much appreciated.",0 +8829,Where do you put on your makeup?. Where is your vanity table? Mine is in my home office- so I have to keep a small spray bottle of water to dampen my blender- do any of you have yours in a room other than the bathroom? Do you keep a bottle of water nearby?,0 +8830,"should i toss out my fenty beauty gloss bomb from 2019?. i don't wear makeup too often so it still has a good amount of product left, but is it best to completely throw it out a buy a new one? how long do you guys keep your lip products for?",0 +8831,"References for the tweezerman smooth finish tool?. Im talking about the spring thingy that is supposed to yank the hairs from the follicle. Is it worth it? Does it actually work? + +https://www.tweezerman.com/media/catalog/product/cache/8edac3d76de38cc64e91076e4e47390d/5090-R_2.jpg",0 +8832,"Can I still use mascara on my lower lashes if they are REALLY long?. See title. My lower lashes are super long should I just not use mascara on them or is there a technique out there for that, that doesn't make me feel like I'm on ""Clockwork Orange"" 😂",0 +8833,I was sold a tester. So today I went to sephora and I went to the sale box and I bought a huda Beauty liquid eyeshadow and apparently it was a tester do you think it's safe to use I hope I can ask this here,0 +8834,What are your fave NYX products?. ,0 +8835,In what order do you do your makeup routine?. ,0 +8836,Lipstick suggestions for people with sensory problems.. Pretty much explained in the title. I have trouble not wiping off lipstick at every turn. Eating? Off. Drinking? Off. Is this normal? Do you all take it on and off repeatedly all day?? I recently shaved my head and I’m looking for bold long lasting colors that won’t make my lips feel gross and smear everywhere.,0 +8837,Hi i’m a boy and i really want to know what makeup is quite easy to take off as i plan to have a makeover with a friend for the first time ?. Yeah as the title says i plan to have a little makeover and chill this will be the first time i do something like this and i need an easy things to remove since my non-makeup loving dad will pick me up i’m 15 btw.,0 +8838,"Help, I have a beard.. Okay, I feel a little nervous about posting here, so please be kind. But the deal is, I'm a trans lady, early in the transition process, and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to get rid of the texture and color of all this stupid hair growing out of my face. There's actually a lot of advice on the internet about addressing this problem, but I've tried following all of the guides and my own variations and I'm starting to get frustrated. Can anyone help me figure out where I'm going wrong? + +The problem is that even when I shave the hair as close as possible, so that it feels smooth to the touch, you can still see the ""shadow"" from all the little hairs just under upper, translucent layer of skin. My skin around my beard/stache area is also very textured, I assume because of the coarse hair pushing it outward (or maybe because it's irritated from my attempts to shave so close?) + +Based on the guides I've read, my approach goes something like this. After cleansing, exfoliating, and moisturizing I apply a primer. I let that set up and then start with something pink-ish to neutralize the black-blue color. I've tried lots of stuff: cream color corrector, pink-tinted concealer, even matte lipstick. I honestly think the best so far has been a powder blush. In the past I've next covered it with a concealer and blended, but I think the extra product has been doing more harm than good so I've been skipping the concealer lately. Next comes foundation, apply and blend; then do my blush, eyes, and lips and set it all with some powder. + +I've switched primers, tried several products for color correction, experimented with using fingers/brushes/sponge/etc to apply, experimented with applying it thinner or building it up. It turns out more or less the same regardless. I still see a dark shadow around my mouth, cheeks, and neck; still visible through all of that. And when you get closer than a few feet to me, you can see that the area has a texture almost like an orange peel. It also just looks pretty cakey, I think, overall, so I'm kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place; I am tempted to add more product to try to cover it better, but then I'm afraid I'll add to much and end up looking like a clown. + +So, yeah. I'm doing IPL and my hope is that eventually I'll just get rid of all of my facial hair but it's a long process (and I also can't wax or anything better than shaving in between IPL sessions). Honestly this is the aspect of my appearance that causes me the most gender dysphoria and it's really hard to look at. Does anyone have any ideas for how I can get better results? + +There are some pictures in my profile if you need a reference. Thanks!!!",0 +8839,wedding in 2 hours... help?. Got my makeup done and I love the eyes and lips but the cc cream looks cakey and flakey. Can/how do I remove it quickly without ruining the rest?,0 +8840,Opinions on Maybelline Sky High Mascara? 💞. ,0 +8841,Why cant you post pictures in this sub?. Seems like it defeats the purpose a little when you cant see what you are actually talking about,0 +8842,"What is Your Favorite Eyeshadow Palette. It could be a neutral palette, it could be colorful, just wanna know your all time favorite eyeshadow palette you used or it could also be a single eyeshadow",0 +8843,"Does anyone know of a good white makeup?. This is so unspecific and I’m so sorry, but I hope someone out there can help!! I don’t do my makeup very often and I’m not that good at it, and I don’t even know how to describe the style that I think is cool. + +What I’m looking for I guess is a white makeup that I could use on my face as like. Think the base of a clown look, maybe?? I don’t want just eyeshadow unless that’s my only option, but I find that so much white makeup just doesn’t show up well or isn’t solid enough :(( I’d also take any recommendations for a white eyeliner, but that’s not the main thing I want, just a good white. something. + +I know this is super vague and I’m sorry again, but if you have any ideas or suggestions please let me know!!!!",0 +8844,"Can I wear eyeliner without anything else on my face?. hey y'all + +I don't know anything about makeup, but I think eyeliner looks p good on people, so I'd like to use it + +thing is, I don't want to use anything else on my face, just really the eyeliner + +is it possible or is it frowned upon?",0 +8845,"Just tried Mac Fix+ ….. And the spray is just this gross wet mess of huge droplets. I tried to use only a little and ended up with a couple places where it dripped. Can anyone who uses this please tell me why you love it? Or maybe how to use it? + +I have a few other sprays that don’t have the crazy rave reviews to back it up but the mist on those is awesome and i feel like that’s a pretty big deal in a makeup spray?",0 +8846,"where’s the strangest place you’ve done your makeup?. mine would be on a moving train. got really good at doing my eyes (eyeliner, eyeshadow, mascara) in my commute! i’d curl my lashes before heading to the train because somehow that scared me the most.",0 +8847,"False lashes… HOW?!. Just… how? I’ve never been able to apply them properly, they never sit right. If they look passable they’re stabbing my eye the entire time plus I have to pray to the gods beforehand. I see other girls stick them on like it’s nothing and they look absolutely flawless. + +I ordered one of those tweezer looking things to help out them on. Hopefully it helps. Any other tips would be appreciated",0 +8848,"Is it a good look for me to follow my natural lip-shape when using lipstick?. (19F) I have a reasonably defined cupid's bow and I tend to find that when I'm applying my favourite deep-red lipstick I find it looks a bit like the red queen from the Alice in wonderland film. I blend it out with a lighter, glossier lipstick and then do the napkin method to remove excess. + +I'm not sure if I like it because I feel like it looks so overexaggerated but it's literally just my natural lip shape so I'm not sure if I should underline my lips to make it look less exaggerated.",0 +8849,Lipstick suggestions. Does anyone know of any good lipsticks or lip liners that are affordable and for long wear? All of mine rub off as soon as I eat or drink but I think it might be cause I buy cheap makeup.,0 +8850,"How do I find quality makeup brushes. My girlfriend is going to makeup school soon and I assume she would like a quality set of brushes. She only has a few couple cheap brushes from when she was a kid. I was wondering what the most important qualities of different brushes are and where to start looking. I have seen brush sets for $40 bucks, $100 bucks, $300 etc. I even saw a single brush for over $400 (us$). Is there even difference between kinda expensive and very expensive brushes in terms of quality of application? I don't mind spending good amount of money on this but quality per dollar is important to me.",0 +8851,Do I need to use an eyeshadow primer with cream eyeshadows?. ,0 +8852,Do you set your makeup with powder. Every time I use setting powder I feel like it just ruins my makeup. I don’t know what to do. I’m tired of looking like a clown.,0 +8853,"Need advice! Buying my girlfriend a dress for new years, what makeup could i get her to match?. Hey, + +Im getting my beautiful girlfriend a dress she've wanted for quite a bit for New years, since we couldn't spend Christmas together.She's currently studying and doesn't have a lot of money, so i really want to spoil her and get her some items to match the main gift. + +Im mainly looking for nail polish recommendations since that feels the easiest to right, but i definitely appreciate any other recommendations. + +The dress is black and Essie seems to be the brand that's easiest to get where i'm at, so stuff from them would be awesome. + +Thanks 😊 + + +Update: Got her an appointment at an actual nail salon instead, she's super excited!",0 +8854,"I want to get my girlfriend a gift. Id like to get my girlfriend a christmas gift. I know she likes make ups. Eyeshadows particularly. Possibly darker shades. Im also open to other must have suggestions. Id like to get her something relatively expensive that she wouldnt normally treat herself to. I was thinking around 75$ budget. Not sure where that stands for quality. + +I dont know anything about make up or what she uses.",0 +8855,"Vitiligo Coverage. My 11 year old niece has been diagnosed with vitiligo and is losing pigment around her mouth and on her hands and arms. She is terribly self-conscious about this and I want to help her find some makeup that will cover the pigment loss and help her feel more comfortable in her skin. Of course it would need to be long-lasting and transfer proof (as much as is possible). And yes, we are working with her on accepting and loving her beautiful self, but she's young and this takes time. Any suggestions would be so so appreciated.",0 +8856,"What’s the best way to clean your makeup brushes and makeup sponge?. I miss placed my makeup brush cleaner, it’s probably expired. I would use shampoo to clean my brushes. I need to clean my sponge too. I was told by my cousin cleaning your makeup brushes with shampoo is not a good idea. They actually need a cleaning now. Is what she saying true, if so how do you clean your brushes and sponge if you don’t have makeup brush cleaner?",0 +8857,"Do you throw makeup out once its past the expiration date?. I have had this foundation for 3 years and I still use it everyday. I looked it up and liquid/cream products expire within a year. This foundation works completely fine for me, it doesn't give me acne or anything. It still has the same smell and texture. + +Do you guys really throw out makeup once it has reached its expiration date, or do you keep using it until it's out? I honestly hate wasting so I will literally keep using products until they are gone, even if it takes me years. The only exception is mascara, I throw that out after a few months.",0 +8858,"How the hell do i use my soft eyeliner?. I bought a soft ""pencil"" eyeliner (Beyu Soft Liner 710) a week ago, and the tip broke. I'm not sure if it's retractable, it doesn't twist up. How do I get more product out of it? The end cap comes off but that doesn't do anything as far as I know. Google doesn't understand my issue. Thanks in advance! + +Edit: apparently it's sharpenable, even though it's mostly plastic. Tried it, worked wonders! Thanks for the help!",0 +8859,"How do I do eye liner. I am very new at the whole makeup thing, my parents wouldn't let me get it. I have eyeliner and some eye shadows but i cant for the life of me make the eyeliner look good. Suggestions? + +Thanks!!",0 +8860,"Is a fragrance sampler set an OK casual gift?. I'm thinking of getting the Hermes fragrance sampler set as a casual gift for a relative (25F) that is visiting, kind of as a welcome. It's not cheap ($55), but it's also, you know, a sampler set. Thoughts?",0 +8861,How would one reapply sunscreen on top of your makeup? Need to start protecting all this skin.. ,0 +8862,I have watched several videos on this and am yet to find a solution that works. How do you reapply sunscreen while you have makeup on? I have lots of acne marks and live in a high uv region so I reapply twice a day. I cannot seam to find a way to reapply without removing a lot of my concealer.. ,0 +8863,"what’s a good sunscreen for under makeup?. I tried supergoop but it looked kinda cakey and greasy on me, I need a stronger spf, does anyone have one they would recommend that doesn’t kill the makeup look",0 +8864,"Can I use translucent powder or setting spray to help reduce the transfer of my tinted spf?. I use a tinted spf instead of foundation/concealer. Whenever I use a mask or a dab a napkin on my face there is a lot of transfer of my spf on the mask or napkin. + +Is there a way I can reduce the transfer like with a translucent powder or setting spray?",0 +8865,"Glasses. I have a question. How do people manage to put make upon when they wear glasses? I have tried a magnifying mirror, maybe need a stronger one ! Ant tips out there ?",0 +8866,"Foundation for pink undertones?. Help! I’ve been doing makeup for close to 20 years now but still haven’t found a good foundation that doesn’t look yellow on me! I’m super pink. As in, I buy powder pink underwear and you can’t tell I’m wearing anything at all at a distance. + +I’m mostly going for drugstore makeup, sometimes brands you can find at, like, Sephora. Affordable. Fellow pinkies out there, give me all your go-tos! ❤️",0 +8867,Newbie TIL. Eyeshadow primer is a must. I only bought it to experiment and omg. I’m never not using it ever again. My eye make up doesn’t move or melt ALL DAY!,0 +8868,"best lip stain or colored balm for someone who constantly licks their lips?. Hi! I constantly lick or bite my lips even if it’s not peeling and I’m wondering if there’s a lip stain that actually stains the lip where I *can* lick or bite my lips without worrying if the color is coming off immediately, or if there’s a balm that lasts aswell, I don’t have an issue with reapplying balm as it doesn’t overlap color like lip stain, and with thicker balms I usually don’t need to reapply. Preferably brands sold at Sephora only as that’s the only shop near me :) ❤️",0 +8869,"What do I do instead of winged eyeliner?. UPDATE: Thanks for all the advice! I'll look into some of the options mentioned and try my skills at different techniques (I tried simple blended eyeshadow in a wing shape last night and love it.. just need practice) All your suggestions have been very helpful <3 + +I've been wearing nothing but winged eyeliner and mascara for about 5 years now, and I feel close to obscene without it. I will not leave the house unless my eyeliner is done. I'm almost done with college at this point and I feel like I've kinda grown out of doing it, but not enough to go out bare-faced. I'm pretty capable with eyeshadow and other makeup, but it never seems finished without winged eyeliner. I have a lazy (prosthetic) eye, so I feel like the eyeliner draws attention away from it, but it's just so dramatic. I'd like to wear eye makeup still but I just have no clue where to start. Any suggestions?",0 +8870,"YouTube MUAs to follow that aren’t in their 20s? I need tutorials for makeup done on neither super young nor mature faces.. Different ages, different makeup needs am I right? I am 37F so not exactly mature skin, but not super young either. I need tutorials that can work and address the nuances of faces in my age group 35-45!",0 +8871,If you only had 5 products what would they be?. ,0 +8872,Do you use the same hand for both eyes or do you switch?. I'm really struggling with control either way and want to know if there's a right or wrong way to focus on the right one.,0 +8873,"Where do I put contour vs. bronzer?. I always get really confused where contour goes on my face opposed to bronzer. Especially around the cheek area, and also in regards to blush placement too? TIA 😊",0 +8874,"How do the Beauty Influencers achieve an airbrushed look?. Can anyone answer this? Is it technique? Is it the combination of products? Is it the bright lighting they use? + +I follow a handful of makeup and beauty influencers and most of them end with an airbrushed skin texture, with everything blended seamlessly, under eyes bright with no sign of undereye bags... + +However, almost NONE show their actual technique from start to finish - their reels/toks always introduce the product they're going to use for X,Y,Z, start applying, but then cut to the next product, over and over until they achieve their full beat. + +If it comes down to combination of products, I notice some can even achieve this when they do ""A Full Face Of Drugstore Products"" like Mikalya Nogueiro on TikTok. + +I use a sponge to apply foundation and concealer, use Laura Mercier and Givenchy setting powders, I clean my sponges/brushes frequently, I don't typically use a primer tho and don't use super expensive foundations bc I worry about spending all the money and the shade not matching... ",0 +8875,"Best novelty lip balm/gloss?. I’d like to get my friends little gifts - so I’m like a lip balm or gloss that’s a little different or fun (cute container, fun concept like Winky Lux) but is actually good and moisturizing. Curious to hear your thoughts!",0 +8876,"Should tinted moisturiser be set with powder?. I got the Laura Mercier oil free tinted moisturiser recently which has great reviews. It’s my first tinted moisturiser so I don’t have any other experience with them & I guess I saw it differently to foundation & thought the point was it was meant to be low maintenance & you just put it on & go, treating it like I would wearing moisturiser. But I was a total oil slick in an hour or two & it looked terrible. + +Should I be wearing it the same way I wear foundation, setting it with powder & also using primer/fixing spray if needed? And whilst I’m on the subject should I also be putting my normal moisturiser on first, or is this meant to moisturise adequately alone? + +I guess I’m disappointed as that doesn’t seem any less effort than wearing foundation is, but maybe that’s my own mistake for expecting that from it & the only difference is meant to be that it’s more lighter & natural looking? Though that just makes me think I can get the same effect by using less of my normal foundation & more sheered out or even mixed in with my moisturiser.",0 +8877,"has anybody ever tried il Makiage?. I'm looking for some honest, impartial reviews of Il Makiage. I currently use either MAC studio fix fluid or Armani Luminous Silk, but am looking for a change. I like the coverage of MAC, but sometimes it feels too cakey. Armani feels like I'm not wearing anything at all, but coverage is weak. So I'm looking for something in-between.",0 +8878,"flawless base. how do you guys get such airbrushed looking skin! under my eyes always gets crease-y , and I can never achieve a smooth look , even though I don't struggle with acne or anything like that",0 +8879,I want to help my girlfriend by doing her makeup. Anyone who got advice for a newbie on how to practice and where to start?. ,0 +8880,"Do you have products that suck, but you still love them?. If you’re wondering what I mean, I’ll explain mine… + +The Maybelline Lemonade Palette. It has universally terrible reviews. I bought it for the yellow color. The yellow was sorely disappointing, I won’t even touch it now. It fluffs everywhere and barely shows up. The other two colorful mattes are similar, but not as bad. 3/5 glitter/ shimmers are pretty colors but pretty dull. 2/5 shimmers have the most wonderful, buttery, and wet looking shine. Particularly the shade strawberry lemonade. These are have what kept me going back. The two neutral mattes still fluff everywhere, but are good colors and look good after applying. + +This is my favorite work palette. Because they’re not too pigmented it’s hard to over do it or mess up a makeup look. Because the shadows fluff everywhere, I’ve been able to pan them pretty quickly which is satisfying. I can acknowledge it’s a terrible palette, but it is a true love in my collection.",0 +8881,What is the best setting powder that leaves no flashback?. ,0 +8882,"tinted moisturizer recommendations. Hello! + +TLDR: looking for a lightweight tinted moisturizer (with spf?) That won't break the bank. + +I have been using Laura Mercier tinted moisturizer for a LONG time and love how easily it applied, how it doesnt look like a lot of makeup but still ""evens"" my skin. unfortunately they changed the formula and colour numbers and my old colour doesnt exist anymore. Besides that, because it's so expensive i can't justify buying it again. I'm looking for a nice, lightweight tinted moisturizer (ideally with spf?). Any recommendations?? + +Also, how are you supposed to apply a tinted moisturizer? With your hands? With a brush? I've been using a foundation brush but I'm sure that's not the recommended way. + +Thanks in advance for taking the time to read & respond!",0 +8883,"Primer reccs needed for the oiliest eyelids on the planet. I have a really oily skin. Like, glowing like a disco ball half an hour after cleansing type of oily. Have tried many things in the past, including medication, and nothing really worked. I made my peace with it (mostly haha) but there is one thing that I would love to be able to do one day, and that’s to wear an eyeshadow. I have tried many long wear, waterproof creamy type of shadows before, but nothing stays put after 1-2 hours after application. + +Could anyone recommend an eye primer available in Europe that really HOLDS but also isn’t sticky after it dries out?",0 +8884,"Interviews and makeup?. I had an interview coming up and was blankly told not to wear too much makeup since the boss hated women like that, apparently my “too much” consisted of winged eyeliner and thin false lashes (super dulled down for my usual) ??? + +Every customer service job I’ve worked, I’ve received tons of compliments on it? So why is it that I move and now everyone wants me to change how I present myself, especially at a coffee shop (not as professional of an environment) ?? + +Anybody else have had any issues like this?",0 +8885,What’s the best lip balm?. My lips are alway dry and ugly ☹️,0 +8886,Any good makeup brushes besides Morphe?. Don't want to support them anymore and would love a more affordable option. Any good brush set you guys recommend?,0 +8887,Thrive tubing mascara vs Benefit They're Real. Hi. Has anyone here used Thrive tubing mascara? What did you think of it? I'm a long time user of Benefit's They're Real and wondering how the two compare. I like a glam look from mascara.,0 +8888,Ingredients that are an absolute NO in your book?. And why + what product?,0 +8889,"Advice Needed: Musician seeking true longwear eye makeup for shows. I am a singer in a rock band and have a rather aerobic stage show. I basically run a marathon on stage for 3 hours under hot lights. My makeup runs A TON. + +I have tried many different approaches over the last year including many setting powders and sprays, longwear eyeshadows, various brands, and I cannot get the makeup to stay put. + +This really came to a head when I used a cream eye shadow, hoping it would run less. Silly rabbit—it ran so much it literally coated my contacts, and I couldn’t see. When I took my contacts out, they were stained yellow and HORRIFYING. Not good!! + +Does anyone have tips or advice on how to fix this? What do Peloton instructors wear? How do famous musicians deal with this every night? Products have to exist that are essentially waterproof. + +Has anyone tried About Face? Would that brand stay put longer? + +EDIT TO CLARIFY: The primary issue is eye makeup. That is what stains my contacts and runs all down my face. I don’t wear foundation to shows at this point.",0 +8890,"I just finished my weekend wash! what your Favorite Brushes?. I want to know what brushes you all love and why, especially any affordable brushes!",0 +8891,"Foundation Question. Hi everyone, I am looking a good foundation that doesn't look like cake. I want something that looks natural. Can anything recommend a brand?",0 +8892,"Hmm.. Ok y’all, + +How old is your oldest makeup item that you still use, that you subconsciously know you shouldn’t be? And what is it?",0 +8893,"Recommendation needed - cool toned neutral palette. I am currently working on panning my every day palette, Colourpop's Going Coconut. I think I'll be able to finish it by January. After almost single handedly using the palette for a year I'd like to change it up and get something new. + +I'd love to hear what your favorite neutral palettes are and what formulas/brand you recommend, it can be indie/drugstore/high end + +Thank you!",0 +8894,"What makes lipsticks smell so good?. Obviously this depends on the brand/formula but I’ve noticed that a lot of lipsticks like MAC, Charlotte Tilbury and Kiko Milano have a similar smell - it’s like a sweet cocoa butter/vanilla smell. + +What gives them that smell?",0 +8895,"please help me hide a hickey!. i have an interview for a job tomorrow, and my boyfriend happened to get carried away earlier today..what is the best way to hide this hickey?! it's completely obvious, dark, huge, and not even my hair down can completely cover it since it's more towards the front. i know color correcting is my best bet, if anyone could recommend products that would be great (preferably drugstore, i am a broke college student) thank you!",0 +8896,"Foundation is dead?. So I come upon this article from the New Yorker named ""Foundation is dead"". + +Personnally in my twenties I have almost never used foundation in my life (just like 7 times). I use my concealer or my tinted cream if I need to so I agree, the younger generation don't really care about foundation. But my friend reminded me that it's because I have a good skin so my opinion is irrelevant lol. Well my skin is not that great for my point of view but still even it was worse I don't I would have went there, every time I apply one it looks too much on me 😣 + +I wanted to know what other people in my age or younger think about it? Do you think foundation is truly dead? Do you use it?",0 +8897,looking for a good lip stain that won't come off if i were to put aquaphor on top of it.. i have a bit of an olive skin tone and i really like to have a little bit of a darker lip then my natural color but i can't be without some sort of lip balm on my lips and i'm looking for a stain that will stay on under lip balm.,0 +8898,"What comes after foundation and concealer?. Do you have to first put primer, draw in your eyebrows and then foundation and then concealer next? 😭😭 I genuinely don't want to look like a chav. + + +How do I go for a more natural look with these products? +Where do I conceal? +Where do I put in foundation?",0 +8899,Why is my makeup always oily? Any solutions?. I have extremely oily skin. I can apply primer and setting spray ( which makes my skin extra oily after make up application). I’ve already tried the baking powder prior to foundation method and I’ll still be greasy within an hour or so. Also foundation seems to wipe up close to the side of my face and around my upper lip. What can I do to fix this if there’s anything I can do? It’s embarrassing how bad my makeup comes out because of this :(.,0 +8900,"Always a letdown. Me at the end of the day: oh no my mascara bled under my eyes! + +*makeup remover wipe + +*washes face + +*uses micellar water + +Me: oh shit that’s just how tired I am",0 +8901,"Need to buy all new makeup, where can I get help. I have never worn make up at work, despite being in my 40s, due to working in labs with solvents and other chemicals my whole career. I was taught in college chemistry it is safer to avoid anything on you skin that might absorb the volatile compounds and have stuck to that. +I am now transitioning to a management role working in the DC area and need help getting a good stock of makeup that will look professional in this new more conservative environment. I prefer a natural look. + +Any advice on the right place to go where I will get solid advice on what colors to buy, what is a good minimal compliment of products ect? Budget is fairly flexible within reason.",0 +8902,Where do you buy your fragrances?Looking for places besides Ulta and Sephora.. ,0 +8903,"How do I get the maximum pigment out of my eyeshadows?. I currently use eyeshadow palettes and pots by Huda Beauty (Obsessions), Colourpop (Yes Please, Supershock, etc), Emporio Armani (a gift) and Dior (a sample). My brushes aren't fancy, branded ones - they are from Amazon - but have lasted me a few years now with no damage. + +However, I feel like I am not getting the maximum colour out of my pans and pots. Could it be my brushes? I sometimes just use my fingertips to apply colours from the Huda Beauty palettes, which I think gives better results than the brush, but still not the max I could get. + +Is it possible I am just using the wrong brush type? + +I have brown skin (I wear FitMe 220 foundation), so should I be using other brands that give me a better 'pop' effect with the eyeshadows?",0 +8904,"Affordable lipsticks with many red shades?. I really love red lipsticks, especially the maybelline superstay matte ink liquid lipsticks because they have so many shades of red available. However they test on animals and i also prefer bullet lipsticks because of my dry lips. Does anyone have tips for cruelty free, affordable lipsticks with a wide (red) shade range? I have heard nice things about the colourpop lippie stix, but because of toll and shipping it can get quite pricy (im norwegian)",0 +8905,"How many eyeshadow palettes do you own?. I have 3. My favourite is Urban Light by Maybelline . One Revolution and small essence one. + +I have boxes with one eyeshadow color by Llums (it makes me feel like goddess bc the green has such a beautiful glitter , it's called wild forest) and few others.",0 +8906,"Why do I hate lipstick?. Every time I go to finish my makeup with a lip color, either a gloss or a lipstick, I always feel like it ruins the look. I’ve tried all kinds of shades to see if that’s the issue, but I think it may be because my lip line is flat on the sides? It’s a bit hard to explain, but the color of my lips and the raised edge aren’t in the same place. Any suggestions on what might work best? <3",0 +8907,"I want to start putting on makeup and practicing, what pharmacy products would you recommend?. ",0 +8908,"Can’t remember a brand name. Help! There’s a higher-end makeup company that only uses orange packaging. I cannot for the life of me remember the name of the brand. Google is no help at all (at least the ten different ways I’ve tried to search). + +Does anyone know what I’m talking about? + +Thanks! + +Update: thank you so much to everyone who commented. I love a lot of the brands mentioned (might buy Hermès now just to have it). + +It is Maven. I didn’t realize it’s not high end. Sorry for the goof. I just remembered a video of someone using it, specifically the felt tip eyeliner, and it was driving me nuts that I couldn’t figure it out. I’ve never tried it. Not sure if it’s trash or not.",0 +8909,"Makeup Alchemists, tell us about your best magic discoveries!. Friday night as I was getting ready to go out, makeup almost done except for blusher, and I couldn't find a blusher in the house! 😂 (first time that ever happened but having teenagers in the house now, it's like living with makeup obsessed gremlins!). + +Then my Pisces kicked in. ""Oh hey, that new Cover Girl, Clean Fresh tinted lip balm is gorgeous and would make an excellent blush color!"" + +I had bought two, one in ""I cherry-ish you"" and a darker one called, ""Bless you berry"". + +I mixed the two in the palm of my cupped hand, didn't need very much, (a little went a long way), then I added a baby fingertip amount of translucent setting powder, (to keep the lip balm from running or smearing) and rubbed it all together, applied with two finger tips and... + +It looked AMAZING! Accidentally found my new favorite blush! + +Love to hear some of your discoveries, creations, secret potions ect... If you're willing to share them! 😊",0 +8910,"Random q—can wearing faux lashes (strips) “too much” cause thinning of lashes?. I wear makeup 5x a week for the five days I work. And I always wear fake lashes, they’re my vice, lol. + +I was looking at pics from five years ago when wearing lashes was an occasional thing for me, and my natural lashes were SOOO much thicker and longer and curlier. There’s a massive difference between then and now. + +Is wearing lashes all the time in some way hurting my lash line/natural ability to grow lashes? Is that possible?",0 +8911,"Rare Beauty “Positive Light Tinted Moisturizer”. Hey guys🥰 so I just wanted to let you guys know what I think about the new tinted moisturizer that was released. + +So for one it does have a sunscreen smell which it obviously will since it does have sunscreen lol,it’s not overpowering or anything but it’s there. + +The coverage is definitely light but you can build it. I used her primer and it honestly held up all day which i was shook about since my skin is super oily,I’m talking about greasy greasy lemon squeezy lmao. But anyways,i also applied her liquid blush and it honestly did not hold up like super well but it was still there by the end of the day!🥰 i hope this helps you guys!🤞🏻",0 +8912,"need a good mascara. i’ve been using the same, crusty old mascara for YEARS now. i’m looking for a lengthening, and volumising mascara but have no idea what to buy. + +don’t really care if it’s expensive, as long as it works well. any and all recommendations are welcome.",0 +8913,"So... how do I do anything?. I present as a man, I have a beard too and I'm just starting to wear makeup. I've worn a bit of lipstick and tried mascara but it didnt go well. So I'd really appreciate some advice on how to start off: + +How do I know what makeup to buy? I'm in the UK if that makes a difference. + +How do I know what colours suit me? + +Any advice or links on applying different makeup? + +Thanks everyone :) <3",0 +8914,"Hydrating Lipstick. Hi, + +Does anyone have any recommendations for a hydrating lipstick? I found a Laura Mercier lipstick but it was $34 for a very thin 'stick' of color. I am sure I would like it but I am concerned I will use it up in two weeks. + +Thanks in advance.",0 +8915,"Vintage Compact - Can anyone help me find out about this compact my mum has?. Hello. + +Unfortunately my mum isn't very well at the moment and we're trying to find out a little bit about a Japanese make-up compact she has. I've tried all the obvious searches and not had much luck. I've just posted a picture of the Japanese text on a translation subreddit, so that might yield something. + +I'm including a couple of pictures of the item in question and would love to know anything more about it than it's Japanese and (probably) from the 60's or 70's? + +[https://imgur.com/9Pax8Sc](https://imgur.com/9Pax8Sc) + +[https://imgur.com/vbMgJss](https://imgur.com/vbMgJss) + +[https://imgur.com/mhljvuG](https://imgur.com/mhljvuG) + +[https://imgur.com/FhZpmiP](https://imgur.com/FhZpmiP) + +Many thanks in advance!",0 +8916,"should i learn how to put on lashes or invest in lash extensions?. i’m pretty good at doing makeup…except lashes😭i’m terrible at applying them and the glue gets everywhere when i do it and the lashes don’t stay on. what makes more sense money wise? i’m also a messy sleeper so whenever i’ve had lash extensions in the past, they didn’t last long (could have been where i got them done at though)",0 +8917,"BEST long lasting lipstick for a wedding, need it last all day without having to check my mirror every 10 minutes! Thanks!!!!. ",0 +8918,"best liquid brown eyeliner. hi everyone! lowkey, i love my brown eyeliner over black for my skin. however, +i can’t seem to find the *perfect* eyeliner. i find that the brown formula isn’t as good as the black in many brands. + +i’m looking for an eyeliner that is waterproof (preferably cry proof too haha) and lasts all day, i find that they tend to fade or remove around my outer +corner of my eye + +please send me recommendations! i can use both pen and liquid, but i prefer pen + +here are the ones i’ve tried already: +• nyx epic ink liner pen +• revlon colorstay liquid liner +• maybelline hyper easy pen +• one size pen eyeliner + +thanks!",0 +8919,"Best eyeshadow for oily lids?. Looking for eyeshadow recommendations for oily lids! I’ve tried naked 3, tarte, elf and they all creased on my oily lids after a couple of wear of wear :( I use setting spray but nothing gets it to hold… any suggestions?",0 +8920,"Mascara recommendations. I really only wear mascara these days for eye makeup. I’ve been having fun trying different ones. My current fav is Lancôme idole lash-lifting & volumizing mascara (waterproof) I also liked the essence lash princess , it was nice and black! but unfortunately it smudged a lot for me throughout the day. Anyways, any mascaras you enjoy? Preferably waterproof.",0 +8921,"Urgent help needed: how to create a mud and dirt makeup?. I’m not an MUA or even a passionate amateur. In fact, I can barely put on my own basic makeup! + +I’m in a situation where I must create a muddy look for an actor in a short film shoot. I have very little time and no professional special makeup products. What would you suggest?",0 +8922,"Used old eyeliner and woke up this morning with eyes burning and bleary vision for a few minutes. Does this mean I have an allergy?. Hey all. I usually am a lune and aster Stan because their makeup is generally hypoallergenic but the reaction I got this morning was wild. My eyes were literally burning, teary, and bleary vision. Is this a common reaction? Do I have to always stick with hypoallergenic products? + +Edit: 12 hours later eyes are still feeling a little irritated but much better",0 +8923,"After an alternative to Urban Decay eyeshadow and foundation. I'm really sad to say, that after being brand loyal for so long, I'm absolutely done with UD. Each eyeshadow palate has been gradually getting worse (I have a cheap af colourpop palate that has more staying power), and now the foundation formula has definitely changed because holy shit does it just find and sit in fine lines, making it look like I'm 10 years older!!! So annoyed, as their shades were perfect with me being so pale!! + +Any cruelty free, similar brands worth a shot?",0 +8924,"how do i put on makeup if my face is super oily + i wear glasses?. this is maybe some of yalls worst nightmare >____< so a little back story, i have a really oily face, even my hair! that’s why i have to wash my face multiple times a day but after maybe an hour, my face is oily again. it’s even worst because i live in a tropical country andit gets really hot in here so my oily face and sweat just teams up that even my eyeglasses gets really smudgy and oily. + +i’ve been really insecure about my face and i tried putting makeup before even though i’m still not really good at it but i practice. but yeah, the problem is my oily face and my glasses just hides my makeup esp. my eye makeup. (i can’t really wear contacts since i’m scared and my parents doesn’t want to anyways) + +so, in short, i feel like i can’t wear makeup because i have to constantly wash my face cuz of my oily face and i get really uncomfortable i don’t and i get upset when i put on makeup and my oily face just ruins it. + +can anyone recommend anything? >__< or if u have the same experience, what were ur solutions?",0 +8925,"I want to put an effort to accept myself. So i'm trans nonbinary but very masculine looking, my boyfriend is 100% straight and i know he loves me the way i am, but i don't love myself in any way, i hate everything about my face... anyways i love kpop and i love that men wear amazing makeup and i thought maybe if i give makeup a try i will feel better about myself??? Idk +He's some photos of me pls don't bully me i'm sensible, i know i'm fugly as hell but yeah, any advice and tutorials on eyemakeup that would look ""decent"" on me? Thank you <3 + +https://ibb.co/7NqnDxk +https://ibb.co/zrd4PYs",0 +8926,"Looking for a tinted moisturizer for very fair skin with strong pink undertones. Basically the title. Looking for something very lightweight and not sticky. Can't find anything that matches my skin. My only perfect match skin-wise is the BareMinerals BarePro Performance Wear Liquid Foundation in 0.5 Porcelain. Everything looks yellow on me, even lightly tinted stuff -_-",0 +8927,"I just can’t ever get winged eyeliner right. Idk why, but every method I try for winged eyeliner looked kind of bad on me. I just can’t get the angle right, or it makes my eyes look more hooded. Are their just some eye shapes that don’t work with winged liner? + +Update! : I was looking through the tips you guys posted and I was trying things out with the Too Faced better than sex liquid liner while doing a face mask and I think it hit on something!",0 +8928,is pressing powder on the lips safe? (talc based). When I do my makeup I also like to powder my lips to subdue the color...I recently read that my favorite pressing powder had talc as the first ingredient. Is it safe on my lips through the day as I eat and drink?,0 +8929,"How do you put on that much makeup on and it doesnt look cakey. Hey girls, i was just wondering when i watch makeup tutorials the girls always put way too much makeup on and they somehow look very good. (Maybe its the lightning idk😃)For me i need to put very little because if i do as much as them no matter how much i blend(plus add setting spray)it starts looking way too cakey after a few hours so i wanna ask whats the secret to putting a lot of makeup on but making it look nice? Thanks for answers 😃",0 +8930,"Opinions on Estee Lauder, Lancome and MaryKay makeup. Mainly on eyeshadow, blush and lipsticks. I love EL Double Wear and Lancome foundation already, but just trying to see what else is good to try out.",0 +8931,"I can never find a nude lipstick I like!. Every nude lip I have ever tried completely washes me out and looks brown on me even though the lipstick looks pink. Does anyone have this problem or a recommendation? + +EDIT: I’m super pale and have cool pink undertones if that helps! + +So many super helpful comments! I hope to update with pictures of my new shades!",0 +8932,Just letting y’all know that Amazon has maybelline dewy and smooth foundation on for a little over 3 dollars.. Get it while it’s hot. Those prices won’t last because the matte maybelline foundation is almost 10 dollars now.,0 +8933,what is a great not expensive clear eyebrow gel?. ,0 +8934,Are fake lashes heavy? I’ve always wanted to try them out but feel like it’ll be a hassle.. is it?. ,0 +8935,Has anyone done makeup for TV/movies? Especially men’s makeup - I’ve always wondered what products are used to get the flawless skin/no-makeup look. Is it all about the color match? Any secrets?. ,0 +8936,"My arms are much darker than my face, so my foundation always looks off. I know you're supposed to color match with your neck, but whenever I do, it looks like I'm wearing the completely wrong shade if my arms are visible. Any tips?",0 +8937,"Is my eye shape round or almond?. https://imgur.com/a/FcMCehO + +https://imgur.com/a/XrPpBxq",0 +8938,"A vent I guess?. Recently I've been really interested in makeup and want to start wearing simple stuff along with skincare and stuff. Thing is, everyone around me just categorizes me as a tomboy and they look at me weird anytime I do anything ""girly"". I've only recently started getting the courage to start wearing dresses more often along with heels. I guess I'm just scared to get judged by wearing make up and hearing comments like ""You've changed"". Plus my mother always kept telling me that makeup is going to ruin my skin and everything when all I really want to do is at least wear some concealer. I managed to convince her at least and she doesn't oppose the idea as much as long as it isn't too much, which I understand. I guess just her past comments and some of my friends' comments just kinda get to me. I know I should probably not care but idk I guess I just feel ashamed to admit that I like makeup and want to wear it. I am a teen but I'm already finishing up highschool soon if any of yall are wondering",0 +8939,"What is foundation supposed to look like on the skin?. I just bought foundation for the first time in years and I don't actually know what its supposed to look like texture wise. I think the color is passable if a bit pale but after constant exposure to online filtered looks I dont know if you're actually supposed to not be able to tell its there. + +Im just trying to get the basics for a full face but I definitely see more texture with the foundation on than not tbh and I don't know if its the product/application or if its just the fact it's basically a new experience to me again",0 +8940,"Best drugstore cream blush?. My current favorite blush is the Milani Cheek Kiss blush and am running out. I love how smoothly it blends onto my face along with its amazing pigment. However, I really want to try new blushes and was wondering if anyone had any holy grail drugstore cream blushes that they love. Cruelty free would be strongly preferred but isn’t necessary.",0 +8941,"my new makeup routine is toddler proof! yay!. So mainly due to the recommendations on this sub, I've changed up my makeup. After I put it on today, my toddler came up and gave me one of those big slobbery open mouthed baby kisses right on my cheek, and guys, IT DIDN'T BUDGE! I wanted to thank everyone for wonderful recommendations (even if they weren't to me directly, I read recommendations given to other people). + + +So here's my new routine: + +1- morning cleanser/ toner/ serum/ moisturizer +2- primer (Bobby brown vitamin enriched face base) +3- setting spray (pur lit mist) +4- foundation (pur 4 in 1 love your selfie) +5- setting spray again +6- eyes, lips, cheeks +7- setting spray again. + +I waited a few minutes between each step to let it set. It took a lot longer but it was so worth it.",0 +8942,"What is your favorite lip gloss?. So far I'm enjoying the Stay Glossy lip gloss by Rimmel London. I have two of the same shade that one of my sisters gifted me. It's the shade flower power and it is a light pink color. What I like about this gloss is that it doesn't feel sticky on my lips. I'm looking forward to getting more shades from this brand, preferably the nude shades.",0 +8943,"why is everyone not talking about the Dior Addict Shine Lipsticks9?! They are actually incredible.. I got a sample of these and the colours are stunning, the staying power is amazing and they feel so good to wear. The colours are also super pigmented. I patted the bold red one down and wore it like a lip stain and it lasted all day. I know they're $50 CAD and that's a lot, but they're so much better than the Glossier moisturizing lipsticks and the Nars ones, etc! I can't wait to buy a few shades. I just needed to folks on this subreddit to hear the word!",0 +8944,"Treating my ADHD with makeup. So I’m 37 I’ve been wearing makeup for many many years but never once until recently attempted anything other than neutrals and eventually I stopped wearing anything outside of a little eyeliner until recently. + +Call it just another hyperfocus but let me just explain how I know this one is here to stay. I’ve struggled my entire life and didn’t get diagnosed until 35 years old. Starting meds was literally life changing. And about 2 weeks ago I found that doing my makeup was almost as life changing. NOW this does not mean that I am suggesting to swap meds for makeup lol. + +For the last 3 years I struggled more than I had in my entire life. Ended up with an anxiety diagnosis along with OCD and ADHD. Unfortunately my OCD was the weird kind instead of the productive kind. + +Anyway. + +Even with my diagnosis I had to beg for treatment for my adhd because they were concerned it would make my anxiety worse. Big Surprise it got better. + +Life story out of the way….about 3 weeks ago I started trying out the Curly Girl method because I suspected my hair texture changed after the baby. I was right and now my hair looks amazing. So my thought was it’s silly to have this great hair and nothing on my face lol. + +That’s what led me to take advantage of the babies nap time and start experimenting with eyeshadow pallets and really push the boundaries of what I’m comfortable with. I noticed that once I’ve finished getting ready for the day I feel AMAZING. My mood is instantly better and I get everything done that I usually procrastinate on with no hesitation. + +I think what’s happening is that I’m prioritizing an hour to sometimes 2 hours to myself. It’s just me in a quiet space doing something that’s productive (rather than doom scrolling Reddit). That basically means I have an opportunity to hyperfocus on hygiene, have quiet time to collect my thoughts and plan out my day, and I get little shots of dopamine throughout the day when I glance at my makeup. + +Not to mention the combinations are limitless so I’ll never get bored with it! + + +It might sound crazy but honestly my house has never been so clean and my problem with impulse buying has chilled because a new piece of makeup at a time is relatively affordable even the high end stuff and it makes me want to go straight home to play with it",0 +8945,"Dupes and drug store products, what are your faves?. Just curious about what everyone's favorite or holy grail drug store and dupes are. Always looking to save and try new products!",0 +8946,"Best all-day lipstick?. I've loved Cailyn Lip Balm, but it looks like they discontinued it. BOO, you whore! + +My cheap azz would be open to hearing drugstore brands as well. I'm an aging white woman, so something that plumped up my Karen lines would be healpful also. :)",0 +8947,"Which is the best luxury wedding day/night foundation?. If you had to pick a wedding day/night foundation that is suitable for dry skin and has great blurring capability on texture and pores which one would it be? + +I am assuming foundations with spf will not be ideal, due to potential flashbacks.",0 +8948,"every mascara I try turns me into a raccoon in less than 2hrs and I'm at my wits end!. I have tried more mascaras than I can even list. I tend to do pretty dramatic makeup, but even on my natural look days, I always end up with my mascara below my eyes. Either that, or the moment my eyes water for any reason the mascara drops off and begins to make my eyes burn. Waterproof mascara smudges, non waterproof runs the moment humidity rises above 20%... I seriously do not know what to do. + +I'd love all the recommendations. I'm a broke college student, so keep that in mind haha. Also, I need to find a good pencil liner that won't smudge. Also, yes, I do set my eyes/under eyes with tons of powder and spray!",0 +8949,Can anyone explain why I can’t get that super smooth flawless look? Product recommendations for that type of thing. I’m a twitch streamer and I want to look good in front of the camera 💜. ,0 +8950,"Is it okay for me to wear mascara a often?. i’ve searched this up a few times before but always get different answers. I like wearing mascara to places like school and work because it makes me look more awake and I feel more put together, but i really don’t want to damage my lashes. +I don’t wear it every day of the year though. weekends i don’t wear mascara and even some fridays i go without it to school. +But i do really want to wear mascara often but also keep my natural lashes healthy. +Is it ok to wear it often, and are there any tips for keeping my lashes healthy and long while doing so?",0 +8951,How to make one eye look bigger?. I (24f) have one eye bigger than the other. On some days (w/o makeup) it is slightly noticeable but some others not that much. When I put mascara or eyeliner it does look noticeable. What are some tips or tricks to make my eyes look similar in size?,0 +8952,anyone else a lil bewildered by how much setting spray is used in makeup tutorials lately??. It's recommended in between each step and before application but I've found this is extremely drying. There is alcohol as one of the first ingredients on most setting sprays so it can't just be me right? Also expensive! where can we buy bulk setting spray and just refill our lil containers?? lol,0 +8953,my skin feel really really dry most of the time and moisturizer fades off v quickly but I sweat a lot like A LOT so everyone says I in real have oily skin . so what is it oily or dry ?. ,0 +8954,"Leftover eyeliner causing swelling. I know this isn’t a medical sub but I assume if I ask here I will get a more relatable answer because I can’t find anything about this. Anyway 2 days ago my dumbass decided to not take off my eyeliner all the way and slept in it. Yesterday my right eye was very slightly swollen, but today it’s now both eyes noticeably swollen. There isn’t any pain or itchiness. It can’t be an allergic reaction, I’ve used the liner several times no issue. So I thought I’d ask anyone who experienced this what they did to ease the swelling? Hot compress helps a bit but are there any like OTCs that help this? I would use Benadryl but apparently it’s only for allergies + +Edit: Thanks for y’alls replies! It has calmed down by itself a lot towards the evening and if it gets worse tomorrow I will take some benadryl",0 +8955,What's a good long-lasting lipstick or lip stain for when you're out eating and drinking?. ,0 +8956,I need a very vibrant white eyeshadow!. I've been looking for a very bright and vibrant white for my eyes! All the white eyeshadows I've tried are too sheer.,0 +8957,"How to prevent the dreaded lip gunk when wearing lip gloss or lipstick?. I have faced this struggle for nearly two decades, and I want to know WHY it happens and WHAT I can do to stop it! It doesn't seem to matter what I wear- plain balm, clear gloss, colored gloss, liquid lipstick, bullet lipstick, what brand- it seems like it always pills on the inside rim of my lips and gets kind of gummy and gross. I hate it!",0 +8958,"My favorite lipstick is discontinued 😢. NARS Funny Face is my favorite lipstick. + +It's discontinued now, and I need a dupe. + +I've looked at some dupes on Temptalia, and there's a Tom Ford lipstick that looks like a good match. + +If anyone has any recommendations for me, I would appreciate the help!😘",0 +8959,"Favorite Cheap Drug Store Products?. I usually buy pretty cheap and wanted some new products to try! I'm very light complected and have dark hair/brows. I currently use Wet n Wild PhotoFocus foundation, Lash Princess mascara, and Nyx Super Stay eyeliner! I like what i use but want to try out new things!",0 +8960,"Any mua YouTube channel recommendations?. I like watching Kate Morris and Lisa Eldridge, but I’m wondering if their are more mua channels like the ones I’ve mentioned. I’m not a makeup artist or anything but I love makeup and I want to learn how to apply it correctly and in a way that suits me.",0 +8961,"Questions for those who have a mini makeup fridge. What kinds of products do you store in the fridge? + +I know sheet masks are a good one to keep cold but what about mud masks or peel off masks? + +Also, do you always leave your mini fridge on and plugged in? I have anxiety and been nervous about leaving it plugged in when I leave the house (as I am with everything else),, would it be bad to keep turning it off and back on and letting the products go back and forth between room temp and cold for when I'm not around?",0 +8962,"Need Recommendations for Highlighter. I am OBSESSED with highlighter/glitter but I don't know what I should use, I have only ever dabbled with the Wet N Wild highlighter, but I want something more pigmented. Recommendations?",0 +8963,"Accident Cover Up (TW). Hi All, + +I was involved in a bike accident last night which resulted in me breaking and losing some of the skin on my nose and putting my tooth through my top lip. I am conscious that i have my prom in 5 days and that the centre of my face is going to be one big scab. Being a guy my knowledge of makeup isn't great and I was wondering whether there is anyway I could use some combination of makeup or liquid latex or anything else to try to mask it slightly? + +TIA :D",0 +8964,How can I do the eyeshadow that Robert Pattinson has in The Batman? And what eyeshadow/eyeliner would best work for this look. https://imgur.com/a/D8GLVmY,0 +8965,"I dropped my tarte concealer in the toilet. What do I do?. It was closed and didn’t seem to have water inside when I opened it, but should I throw it out? I washed outside with soap and water. Please help",0 +8966,"Makeup Ignorant Husband Needs Help. Hello everyone. My wife has a birthday coming up in a couple of weeks and I was hoping to surprise her with a few things to add to her makeup collection but, as the title indicates, I’m kind of ignorant to what’s considered quality in the makeup world. + +I’ve overheard her saying that she wants something called a James Charles full Morphie pallet, as well as something called a Jeffery Starr Blood Lust pallet. Are these good? + +Thanks in advance for any assistance on input you can provide!",0 +8967,"Where Can I Find This Lipstick From Home Alone?! Or Something Similar..... It's a really weird request but just want to know the brand or where I can find it or something similar! + +I am looking for the lipstick that Kevin's Mom is applying on the airplane in the movie Home Alone. She's using a gold brush and a white compact. I wish I could attach a picture but I can't. :(",0 +8968,"Help being “comfortable” in makeup. So I used to wear a full face of makeup for many many years and then I slowly stopped wearing it except for special occasions. So what I need help with is a nice light and easy look that is comfortable. Part of the reason I don’t wear it anymore is because the moment I put it on I can’t wait to take it off. It just seems to bother me and feels like I have a film on my skin all day. I don’t know if that makes sense to anyone but I need some tips on how to feel like I’m only wearing moisturizer but my skin looks fresh and less blemished, lol. I have acne prone skin and currently treating my skin with tret and clindamycin so my skin is a little dry at times. Thanks for any tips 😊😊",0 +8969,"wet look/shimmer shadows for black skin?. Every suggestion I come across for wet look or shimmer shadows which mimic the wet look are pale champagne type shades. + +Whether it's a powder, cream or liquid formula I'm having trouble finding any for my skin tone. And it doesn't help that searching for any kind of makeup with the word ""brown"" brings up irrelevant Bobbi Brown suggestions lol. + +I want a sheer shadow with shimmer particles, or a shimmer shadow that mimics a wet look but looks almost like a neutral wash of colour on black skin. + +Any suggestions please? + +Preferably a single shadow or small palette. I just want the one shade.",0 +8970,"Under eye concealer (no foundation). Need advice regarding under eye concealer. I have dark circles due to bone structure and allergies/sinuses. -I do not use any foundation, just a good color match under eye concealer, mascara, and eyeliner- I was using Masque Bar’s No Dark Shadows in Wow. It seems they discontinued it (?). There are too many under eye concealer options and opinions on which is the best. My adhd mind becomes overwhelmed. Can y’all advise me here, please? I don’t care if it comes from a drug store, Ulta, Sephora, and there is no price limit. I just need some.",0 +8971,"Not intended for pregnant women?. I recently bought a Makeup Revolution makeup spray (Glass Shimmer Fix Iridescent Spray) behind the bottle instructs how to use before and after makeup application. And then in bold letters says “Not to be used by pregnant women” can anyone tell me why? Targets website states this is Vegan and cruelty free and Recommended Skin Type: Mature, Oily, Acne-Prone, Sensitive, Dry, Combination, Very Dry. And I can’t find anything online that states other wise. Why is this not safe for pregnant women??",0 +8972,"Looking for TRULY waterproof liners for my chronically smudgey eyes. Hoping some of you have some heavy duty, full proof waterproof eyeliners recommendations. I have bought so many ""waterproof"" liners that always end up smudged on my lower lids. The Sephora brand, kat von d tattoo liner don't work for me. Drugstore I have tried many over the years, most recently I find the NYX epic liner does actually work for me but I dislike the formula and brush tip, (interestingly enough, the pen version smudges though) + +If you have a pen, a pot, felt tip, brush tip, whatever that you've tried and works, please let a girl know + +Edit: Omg so many suggestions! Thanks everyone, I'm reading every one",0 +8973,is the rare beauty liquid blush worth it ?. update i bought it ! thank u to everyone who replied!!,0 +8974,"My friend has asked me to to the makeup for her wedding, wanting to know what kind of supplies I should bring. \*Edit: Just to add, this will be for the wedding party too, not just the bride\* I am not a MUA, I'm just decent at it and she forgot to contact an MUA lol Her wedding is at the end of this month and I'm trying to figure out what I should bring besides my own stuff. I was going to grab: + +1. One of those shadow switcher brush cleaner things +2. Doe foot applicators +3. Spoolies +4. Mascara +5. Eye primer +6. Spray bottle with alcohol +7. Additional makeup brushes +8. Q-Tips and cotton rounds +9. Miceller water",0 +8975,"how to wear a dark lipstick on pale skin?. hi. i just purchased the nyx soft creme in shade transilvania, wet n wild cherry bomb and boys n berries lipniner in wine. i recently """"discovered"" this deep plum shade and im obsessed. however, i have pale skin with warm undertone, think the very first foundation shade in the range(sometimes the very first shade is too orange on me) and my mom who is anti dark makeup says it doent look good on me :(. but i wanna wear this shade for fall, especially when it starts to cool down. i want it to be dark, not a wash of color, but dark! + +this link contains pics with the lippies on + +[https://imgur.com/a/2M4wBIE](https://imgur.com/a/2M4wBIE) + +ill watch some yt vids and figure it out later, but i apreciate your comments as well.",0 +8976,"How do you use setting spray?. I really don't understand setting spray. I have sprayed myself all over multiple times and I don't feel like it's done anything. I wear full coverage liquid foundation and I just don't see how spray is supposed to hold it. It is going to be smearing all over everything if I don't use powder. I wanted to try setting spray because powder can be very dry and cause some flaking in the makeup around my eyes. I used Maybelline Fit foundation and Nyx Matte setting spray, whereas I usually use Covergirl loose powder.",0 +8977,Need help with under eye makeup. I have very deep set eyes with really dark genetic dark circles and super thin crepe like under eye skin that has lots of fine lines. I'm only 31 but every time I try to cover my dark circles something goes wrong. Ive watched a lot of videos but I haven't found anything that covers all of these issues at once. If I use a cream concealer my dark circles are covered but when I add powder my fine lines are extremely obvious. If I use liquid concealer the dark circles aren't covered as much and the fine lines still show a ton. I've tried using color correctors with both types of concealer. I've tried many different concealers and correctors and powders and I only use a tiny bit of each but it still makes me look ancient. I use an eyeshadow primer on that area before I apply concealer. I dont put foundation under the concealer. I make sure to blend any settling out before I apply powder. I use setting spray at the end. What am I doing wrong here???,0 +8978,"Is there a way to buy a variety of small lipstick samplers? (Trying to find lipsticks that suit you is so hard without testers). So, I’ve been wanting to try out more lipsticks lately, but the problem is that I don’t know what shades would suit me best and I don’t feel like the testers in stores are useful for me. I would never rub a tester on my lips, obviously, so I can’t tell what it’d look like on me. + +I’m wary of buying full sized lipsticks without trying them. Is there a way I can buy a selection of little sampler lipsticks to try out? Maybe like in a set or something? Thanks for any advice.",0 +8979,"Strengthening finger nails. Any recommendations for a nail strengthening polish or a supplement that works? My job is very hard on my nails and they are splitting. + +Thank you!",0 +8980,How to begin with makeup?. I need help with some makeup tips. I really want to start but I don't really know where to begin. Im trying to do makeup but without all the foundation because i don't think i need it because ive got pretty clear skin.,0 +8981,"Night cream in your 30s?. My skin and I are about to say hello to the 30s and I want to start using a night cream for hydration and to start battling signs of aging. +Do you have any recommendations of products to try? My skin type is more on the sensitive side acne prone and my budget is around $25",0 +8982,Big fan of white eyepencils. I just love them. They are basically like eyeliner but better! I absolutely adore the white one tho. It's fresh and makes my eyes beautiful. I don't know if i can wear it in the winter but it's big hit in the spring/summer seasons,0 +8983,"Which should I purchase. I want a palette that is wearable for everyday makeup look abut also for parties and special occasions as well….for more information I’ll leave images in the comment.. -35I icy fantasy artistry : it’s a collab of pony and Morphe. It has many pastel shades to try on but lacks of neutral shades. +- James Charles x Morphe: another collab. I think overall this palette is good. But one thing is that it’s too pigmented and too much for a natural look.",0 +8984,"Mascaras that don't smudge but also aren't waterproof?. I use the honest beauty mascara and love it, except I have super watery eyes and it smudges. Are there any mascaras that don't smudge but aren't waterproof? I don't like waterproof mascara.",0 +8985,"Kat Von D makeup. Any positive feedback from anyone with Kat Von D products? I'm looking for a Christmas gift for my younger sister this year. Her entire style aesthetic is gothic/punk and the first thing that popped in my head was KVD. But, I've been out of the loop for so long that if you guys have any alternative suggestions for me, I'd love to hear them. + +​ + +Thanks :)",0 +8986,"Any tips for purple eyeshadow, without looking like you’ve been punched in the eye.. I just want to use the untouched purple in my pallet.💜",0 +8987,"MAC Increased Prices Again on Foundation and I'm Looking at Switching... Any Suggestions. Anyone have any suggestions as a viable replacement for Mac Studio Fix Foundation? + +I have combination skin and I usually wear it over my liquid foundation and moisturizer. It helps me combat my oily forehead and gives me full matte coverage which is my preferred look. + +I feel like 39 is steep for me when I was used to paying auto replenishment and feeling like I was getting a discount at 32.50. I'm willing to spend around that every 2 months but any lower cost option that is a fair comparison I'm down to suggestions for. + +I just can't rationalize the cost anymore and I dislike price increases that steep.",0 +8988,"Are there any good dupes for the Hoola Lite bronzer by Benefit?. I got Hoola Lite as my very first bronzer when I was in 10th grade. Now a senior in college, I am almost out of it. I am looking for a dupe at any price point for Hoola Lite. All of the suggestions I have found were from the 2016-2018 era of beauty, and I'd like to see if anyone has found any good light-colored bronzers that aren't red toned since then now that there are so many more product launches. + +Preferably vegan and/or Cruelty Free if possible!",0 +8989,best lipstick for cheerleaders??. my coaches failed to inform us earlier that we need to get lipstick for camp. (we leave tomorrow at 8 am) so i'm looking for a very transfer proof and pigmented red lipstick that i can find easily at a sephora or ulta. any suggestions?,0 +8990,"Any lipstick shades from the 90’s that are still around today?. With the 90’s look coming back into style, I was thinking it would be fun to pick some shades from the 90’s. The only ones I know of are Rimmel’s Heather Shimmer and Clinique’s Black Honey. I am sure there are other ones out there! + + +Bonus points if anyone knows where to get roll on body glitter!",0 +8991,"Euphoria S2 E7 Lexi's lip combo. Hi! First of all, I hope I'm not breaking any rules by posting this as I'm new both in this community and to Reddit. I was watching the latest episode of Euphoria (S2E7) and I just loved Lexi's lip combo in the flashback scene where Maddy was the one doing her makeup (link to the video and timestamp in the replies as I can't seem to post a photo?). I'm obsessed with the look, but I have no idea which products would I use to recreate it... So that's my question. Does anyone know which liner, lipstick and gloss would be good dupes for creating it? Also, if there is a community about makeup dupes, I would very much appreciate it if someone would direct me to it. Thanks!",0 +8992,"Searching for a Magical Tinted Moisturizer. I just want to wake up, slap on a tinted moisturizer and look like I slept a full 8 hours and didn’t drink a bottle of wine last night. + +Does this exist? Not actually joking.",0 +8993,"Super watery waterline help. I have very watery eyes so nothing will stay on my waterline or the outer corners of my eyes. I have tried to set it with eyeshadow, setting spray, setting powder and tried multiple different eyeliners and eyeliner types. I have even tried the Ben Nye final setting spray, their cake liner with the liquiset and it still came off within an hour. + +Do you have anything else I can try? And product recs? I cannot for the life of me get anything to stay my eyes are so watery.",0 +8994,"Is it safe to put liquid highlighter on eyelids?. I have a highlighter I really like. Its a pink-blue-purple multichrome awesomeness. I think it looks really good on my eyes too. However, I'm not sure this is safe to do. I've already tried it and experienced no irritation or burn but I'm still worried",0 +8995,"How do I keep my makeup (look) 'clean'?. Let me explain what I mean. I do my makeup and no matter how hard I try it doesn't look clean/flawless, there are always some parts of my makeup that are patchy or uneven. I understand that comparing the looks I do to the photoshopped looks I see on instagram is not realistic but how do I get my makeup look to be as flawless as possible? I use pigmented products and I always do eyeshadow and eyebrows first. Any tips/tricks?",0 +8996,"Super dry eczema prone skin - What primer, foundation, and concealer do ya'll recommend?. So my skin is a nightmare of dryness featuring eczema sometimes and my skin on my chin and forehead can be a little flaky/peely sometimes too. Oh and I have sensitive skin too but not acne prone. + +I would love to do makeup but I cannot find anything that works without my skin getting drier and flaky underneath the foundation. + +I would like a primer, foundation, and concealer to moisturize and conceal my redness and rough skin. + +Any recommendations?",0 +8997,"Is Il Makiage a scam?. I signed up for the try before you buy thing for the foundation and concealer and they charged me for the shipping and the full product before even finishing my order. They claim it’s a preauthorized hold, but I’m seeing a lot of reviews where this happened and those people didn’t get their money back. I’m just hoping I won’t have to go through my bank and dispute the charge if it doesn’t fall off of my account like they said it would.",0 +8998,What's the best highlighter?. ,0 +8999,how do you find the right contour shade for your face?. ,0 +9000,"how do you make your makeup survive a makeout?. I'm not ever talking about lipstick either! Every time a I makeout with a guy my foundation comes off around my chin revealing my skin that's redder that my foundation in the shape of a goatee 🤦‍♀️ +Helppp",0 +9001,"Smudge and budge proof lip products?. I’m curious what your holy grail, all-day lip product is: stains, lipsticks, etc.. I tend to get cracking in liquid lipsticks, especially when they’re matte. + +The best I’ve personally found is Beauty Bakerie’s lip whips so far, but would love to see if I’m missing out on any others!",0 +9002,"Do you ever feel like you're running out of concealers to try??. I am a concealer junkie and I've tried so many and none have really been my HG. I find as I get older my skin type has changed so many just don't work for me as they once did. I'm more into serum like or thin consistency concealers. Many just seem too drying or too thick/ cakey for my skin. I just tried two new concealers, Sephora's full coverage concealer and Ilia's concealer and both are just too drying. It's so disappointing when you buy something and it just doesn't work ☹️",0 +9003,"Suggestion for drugstore lipstick that is berry colored?. I lost my favorite lipstick - Clinique’s A Different Grape. It’s a beautiful purple red color, deep and vibrant. I would like to find a cheaper option to replace it. I bought a Maybelline lipstick but the color was not at all as close as it seemed it would be. I really don’t like pinky lipsticks. Would much prefer red or purple tones. Any suggestions on which shades or brands? + +Edit: Thank you for all the replies and suggestions. I have some good options to consider now!",0 +9004,"Best eyeshadow palette for daily use (Natural nudes, minimum fall out, long lasting). ",0 +9005,"Anyone else ever feel like this about makeup?. I wear makeup almost every day, whether I'm going to uni, work, or the grocery store. It's not necessarily due to self esteem issues, but aesthetics. I love wearing makeup. The thing is though, I recently met a guy who I think may be crushing on me, and he's only ever seen me with makeup on. I suddenly got spooked with the idea that he might only like me because of my makeup, and now I'm conflicted with it. I feel like every interaction I have with others is tainted now because my face was beat to nines each time. + +But I can't see myself going cold turkey with makeup now. Does anyone else ever feel like this? What do you do to get over it?",0 +9006,best concealers for oily skin?. hi! i have a really hard time finding a good concealer that doesn’t make me look like a greaseball. i love a dewy skin look but all the concealers made for that are super oily. any tips are appreciated!,0 +9007,"Is it ok to wear eyeshadow and lip color but not foundation?. I am getting married next month and I am considering doing my own makeup. For reference, I almost never wear makeup, haven't in years except for fancy nights out. + +I'm wondering if I would be committing any cardinal sins if I do eyeshadow and lips but no foundation? Basically, I have no idea what foundation I would wear or how to apply it, so was hoping to skip that, but I also don't want to look ridiculous. + +If foundation is better, any recommendations? Thank you!! + +Edit to add: Thank you all so much!!! Y'all have been so kind and generous with your input, and I feel 100% better about the options I'm considering 💜💜💜",0 +9008,Your Favorite Foundation and Why?. ,0 +9009,is lipstick worth it if you have really small and disproportionate lips??. i have super super small mouth/lips ( can send pic if u want) and it always feels impossible to put anything on. My top lip is a lot bigger than my bottom and my bottom lip just feels/looks like a line. I feel like it looks ok with just my normal eye makeup but i really wanna put some color in sometimes.,0 +9010,"What’s the difference between translucent powder, loose powder, setting powder and compact powder?. They all seem to look the same. Why do people use different powders? Like can someone explain what they all do?",0 +9011,"PSA - Avoid Ardell eyelash extensions. I love the look of individual lashes. I hate how long it takes to apply them just to take them off that same day. So when I saw this Ardell individual lash extension kit I thought it’d be a good idea. I was so so so wrong. + +The first 5 days they were great. They looked nice and I enjoyed waking up and having pretty lashes. After that, they started to kinda bug me and some of the extension clusters looked a little wonky. I wanted them off but I waited 3 more days. + +The kit comes with glue remover. I soaked my lashes with it carefully, holding a soaked cotton bud to the glue for about 3-5 minutes and gently trying to swipe them off. I got absolutely nowhere with that method and started to slightly panic. My eyes and eyelid were irritated at that point. I shelved it for the night and decided to try a new approach the next day. + +I tried steaming my face for 15 mins to ‘loosen up’ the glue. Back to the same glue remover method. Nothing. I tried using oil, makeup remover, a different glue remover, hot compresses, more steam, a shower, bargaining with god, prayer and manifestation. NOTHING. + +I gave up again. + +I continued these acts of desperation for another week. Sometimes it worked and I would get a few clusters off, but my own lashes were coming with them. It looked awful having these gaps between the extensions so to lessen that I cut them close to my lash length. Very stupid very risky. Luckily I think that turned out ok for the most part. + +It’s now been over two weeks. The final extension JUST came off, pulling six of my natural lashes off with it. Seems excessive, how did I even manage to glue those all together? + +My eyelids are irritated, I have a couple bald spots on my lash line now and overall I hated everything about this experience. 0/10 do not recommend. Sticking with strip lashes or mascara from now on.",0 +9012,"Has anyone tried ilmakiage foundation?. I’ve read so many good things about this, but there’s part of me that always wonders how many of the reviews were paid for. + +Have you tried ilmakiage foundation (and concealer)? Did you like it? Did the online survey match your colour well? + +Any feedback appreciated",0 +9013,"I researched and tried so much to find a make-up style to suit me, but I didn’t succeed. I looked into make-up for over three years. I feel like my features aren’t compatible with each others. +Can someone more experienced who have knowledge in shapes and features to help me with some advice in private? I am not really confident in sharing my pictures. +Thank you.:)",0 +9014,Did anyone else use Nivea after shave for primer back in the day because Nikkietutorials said it was amazing?. ,0 +9015,Bronzer for pale people?. I really need some good bronzer recommendations for pale skin. Im like paper white. Like snow pale and realllyy wanna start using bronzer i love how it looks and how glowy it is. Any recommendations on products or tips on making bronzer look good on my skin?,0 +9016,So I bought a ColourPop Lippie pencil but it doesn't twist up no matter what i do. Is this normal or is mine broken?. ,0 +9017,"How to get NARS natural radiant longwear foundation to...last longer? 😭. This may sound a bit silly since it's considered a longwear foundation but having tried it for the first time a few weeks ago and wearing it ever since..I'm a bit disappointed. + +I absolutely adore how it applies/looks/feels initially. It really does look so natural and radiant which is amazing for someone with dry acne prone skin like me. + +However, I am finding that after being at work from 8-4pm my face looks like an oily, separated disaster and the foundation is moving all over the place, transferring onto my clothing, and feeling very oily on my skin. + +I have tried different application methods and products to help but no success so far. Please let me know any tips so I don't give up on this beautiful foundation!",0 +9018,"What’s a makeup Tip or Hack that you love, but no one ever talks about?. I think I heard this from Carly Jo Makeup on Tik Tok, but it may have been elsewhere: + +If you have a super bold lip color that you’re not sure will work on you, or you think it might be “too much,” try filling in your lips with a nude lip liner, then pat the lipstick in with your fingers and build it up slowly. It’s a great way to try out ridiculous colors in a more “wearable” way. + +What are your favorites that you’ve only ever heard once, or that no one ever talks about?",0 +9019,"Affordable sheer liquid/cream blush for everyday use. I just started doing makeup regularly a couple days ago and have been looking for the perfect blush ever since. I have pretty dry, but clear skin so I only use concealer under my eyes and on occasional spots as a base. I’m looking for something beginner friendly and not crazy pigmented since I am a little heavy handed. I wouldn’t mind spending a little for quality but I don’t want to splurge.",0 +9020,idk if this is the right sub but I have a question. So I have old harm scars from when I was 16 now 20 but does anyone know a good makeup brand or concealer I could use to hide them?,0 +9021,"How to create a lasting ""stain"" or base color on lips? Lip pencil?. In my day (okay, 30 years ago) there was an idea that lip pencil would create a long-lasting color on your lips and then you could put lipstick or whatever (okay, all we had was lipstick) over it. I do get this effect from the YSL Vinyl Cream Lip Stain-- the shine doesn't last that long, but I have pinker lips for a few hours even without the surface gloss. But times when I don't happen to wear that product, will a lip pencil or crayon give me a base that will last a few hours? Maybe that I could just use a refresher lip balm like Burt's Bees over?",0 +9022,"Camping Trip. Hi, everyone! I’m going on a camping trip with the guy I’m seeing and his family, and there won’t be any running water or real bathroom. He’s the sweetest, so I’m not super concerned, but it’s still relatively new and I want to look the best I can. +Do you have any suggestions for low-maintenance ways to look put together without any real time to “get ready” or do my skincare routine? One of my main concerns is sparse eyebrows. +Thanks :)",0 +9023,"Rare Beauty Blush disappears from my cheeks. Hi, +I don't know if I'm doing something wrong, because everyone loves these liquid blushes. I've had samples in Joy and Bliss and I have a full-size of Happy and the same thing happens each time. My order of putting on make-up is: primer, foundation, concealer, liquid blush, liquid highlight, setting powder, powdered bronzer. I use sponge for liquid products. Every time I use a rare beauty liquid blush it first gives off insane pigmentation and then it fades away with time. Before I finish make up, the blush is barely visible and I need to add a powder product. Does anyone have this problem and how do you deal with it?",0 +9024,"Dampening BB w setting spray instead of water?. So, I realized I have been soaking my sponge. First mistake is I lay down too thick foundation at once, then the damp beauty blender (which could drip 5-6 drops when squeezed) would actually pick up big patches on my cheeks. + +Last summer I had no issue with this. I tried to remember what I did differently. I sprayed setting spray to dampen my sponge instead of ringing it out with water— then I’d wash after. This would actually push the foundation into my pores versus pick it up. I tried it again today bc I was in a rush and my base went on so smooth! + +Does anybody else dampen their sponge with setting spray instead of the entire thing with water? Any issues with damp beauty blenders removing makeup?",0 +9025,"Cleansing Balm Recommendations. I am Looking to purchase a cleansing balm. Between the Glow Recipe Papaya Cleansing Balm and the Naturium Ginseng Cleansing Balm, which one would you guys recommend and why? + +I have already used the Farmacy and Versed cleansing balms and loved them both, however I am looking to try something new. + +Thank you :)",0 +9026,"Makeup without blush?. Hi guys, I just wanna ask my beauty guru's : when i do my makeup i just put some concealer, mascara, lippie and a bronzer. I don't like colourful cheeks so i always skip blush. Is this correct? Do i need blush? Does bronzer only look weird? I prefer the brown, bronzy look. +Thank you!",0 +9027,Sephora Rouge Sale. Does anybody have extra codes that they are willing to share for the Sephora rouge sale? I know it’s a long shot,0 +9028,"I need serious help.. So, i'll just put it as bluntly as i possibly can, I am ugly. I want to learn how ro do makeup in a wy that i'm less so, but as is now i just p much smoosh eyeshadow and lipstick and sometimes mascara on my face. Where do i even start learning how to do makeup for my face shape/skin tone/everything? Does anyone have any good articles/quizzes/resources you could share? I know you can't fix ugly but dammit if i'm not gonna try, thank you!",0 +9029,favourite brown liquid eyeliner?. ,0 +9030,Leyva Beauty is a private label brand. ,0 +9031,"Is it just me? Or have all the big YouTube makeup “stars” careers flopped?. I guess “flopped” is too harsh of a word because I’m sure they still make an amazing living for themselves but I feel like NikkiTutorials, JaclynHill, Carly Bybel, Jackie Aina, and all of the other big time makeup artists that would go on trips and have meet and greets are just not doing the same numbers for themselves. Why do you guys think this is? Have trends just changed?",0 +9032,"Korean make up on western face. I have been wondering for too long and always got yes or no answers, so: +Is it okay if I do korean inspired makeup, as long as i don’t try to look asian?",0 +9033,"Makeup as you get older. For makeup gurus 35+ years old, help me to understand what I’m doing wrong with my makeup application! I know my skin has changed from my 20s, but no matter what I do, my makeup always ends up separating within 30 minutes after application. + +I’ve tried oil based, silicone based, changed up my skincare routing to include retinols, collagen, exfoliation, etc. Nothing has worked. I’ve tried liquid foundation, power foundation and CC creams. It doesn’t matter what combination of skincare or makeup I put on—my skin could feel so soft and smooth, but as soon as the makeup is on, the separating occurs. What else can I do to keep my makeup not only on my face, but prevent separation??",0 +9034,"Recommendations for cool toned palettes. Hey guys, I realized all my eye shadow palettes are warmed toned. What is your must have cool toned palette?",0 +9035,"If my liquid liner is always a crunchy, jagged line: Is it me? Or is it the product?. I’ve been wondering this recently and hoping I could get some advice. + +I just recently started wearing makeup a few months ago, so I’m a bit of a beginner. I am an artist so I have steady hands and a decently good eye for shape and matching the two sides and all that good stuff. But recently I’ve realized my line across my eyelid is literally always kind of rough. The actual wing part is usually fine, but the eyelid.. yikes + +I was wondering if it could have something to do with the product? Is there big differences between liquid liner and their applicators? What liner products do you guys really like? It very well could just be me being a beginner, but I’ve been doing my makeup often since I started and I’ve improved on literally everything else but that, so I’m just curious.",0 +9036,does m.a.c velvet teddy lipstick last long?. ,0 +9037,"False Lashes don't look good on me. I have this problem where whenever I put on false lashes, I look worse than if I hadn't worn them and I don't know why. I really like the way they look on other people tho, and I'm thinking maybe I'm just not wearing the right type of falsie? + +Pic with Falsies: [https://imgur.com/a/zyD2CXe](https://imgur.com/a/zyD2CXe) + +I know they're not applied well but even when I put them on properly they don't look much better. Tips or false lash recommendations of any kind would be so nice :) + +edit: haha thanks nice commenter for saying it looks good, but I feel like they make my eyes look droopier and maybe smaller too the way I currently wear them. + +Pic without Falsies: [https://imgur.com/a/0vS0NXB](https://imgur.com/a/0vS0NXB)",0 +9038,"Help a girl out. My little sisters birthday is in a few weeks and she’s turning 14. She’s been trying to convince our mom to let her start wearing makeup. I don’t wear any makeup so I’d really love if I could get some help with which products to buy for her, I’m going to make her a makeup beginners kit. + +I don’t want to put any foundation in there just because I don’t know how her skin will react to it, since she’s still young. Also I don’t think contouring is necessary for a 14 year old. Besides that, I’d love some recommendations for makeup products that are healthy for her skin and eyes and are easy to use. + +Thank you 💕",0 +9039,"Tutorials for beginners?. Hi! I am looking for a YouTube channel that can teach me some great makeup basics. Nothing super glam, just everyday, simple makeup. Does anyone have recommendations?",0 +9040,Blush on dark skins. Why do i look stupid with pink or red blush? What blush is perfect for African skins?,0 +9041,"Trouble with green corrector. I get a lot of redness and pimples on my cheeks, and was told to use green corrector but when I do my skin just looks a bit grey/discoloured when I add my foundation over the top. I use NYX Professional Makeup Colour Correcting Palette. My first instinct was 'I'm clearly using too much' but if I use any less than you can still see my red pimples. Any advice?",0 +9042,"How do I actually do foundation? Clumping and flaking!. I have struggled with foundation ever since I started trying to use makeup. No matter what I do, it instantly dries into a clumpy/flaky appearance. It's like the product wants to collect in certain spots while sloughing off other spots entirely. It's worst right between my brows and on my nose. Here's an example today: + +[https://i.imgur.com/HGNHAt6.jpeg](https://i.imgur.com/HGNHAt6.jpeg) + +I started by lightly washing my face with water and moisturising, then after a minute applied primer and the foundation with a wet sponge. I start with a light layer, but applying more foundation doesn't cover the rough texture, just exacerbates it. + +Products used: + +* Glow Lab facial moisturiser +* Savvy by DB smooth finish primer +* L'Oreal Paris true match super blendable foundation in 0.5N porcelain + +That was my approach today, but I have also tried: + +* Only moisturising +* Only using primer +* Skipping both primer and moisturiser +* Applying foundation with a dry sponge, fingers, and brush + +I have read that this can be caused by dry/dehydrated skin but I really do not feel like my skin is dry at all. It feels very supple, smooth and hydrated. I exfoliate with a face wash around every 3 days. + +All I want is a dewy/smooth foundation finish like literally every example I see online but instead I'm stuck looking like a lizard with foundation on and I hate it. Please tell me why this is happening.",0 +9043,"Price of Charlotte Tilbury. I don't really understand why is Charlotte Tilbury so expensive compared to other brands? + +Are they like Lamborghinis and Ferraris of the make up industry? I've seen some reviews of their products, like lipstick which can fade easily and it costs 60 bucks :/",0 +9044,"liquid liner recs. I'm looking for a liquid liner that won't crack or flake. I want crispy wings that won't budge all day. I prefer a brush tip to a felt tip, but I can be flexible",0 +9045,"Good eyeshadow palettes with warm toned lighter colors?. Does anybody have any good recommendations for eyeshadow palettes with lots of warm toned, shimmery, metallic, and duochrome eyeshadows that have colors on the lighter side. I was looking on the sephora website and it just seems like there are a lot of nude palettes or palettes with lots of darker colors, but i'm looking for peachier and pinker colors, maybe even purples and rose colors.",0 +9046,"Where/how to start learning how to do makeup. Hi, I'm a teenager who wants to learn how to do makeup, but I have no idea where to start or how to learn. I have a few questions, but literally any advice is welcomed. +1. Are there any YouTube channels or something that you recommend for learning? +2. Where can I get decent makeup for somewhat cheap? I don't have much money (cons of being a teen lmao), but I have some. I would go to Walmart, but I saw a video that said Walmart was really bad for makeup +3. Where do I even start with makeup? I have basically no makeup, but there's just so many different things used for makeup Idek where to start +4. This isn't a question, but if anyone could tell me everything that I need to get started (idk, brushes or stuff?) +Any and all advice is appreciated. Thank you!",0 +9047,"Blending tips?. i always make sure my foundation/concealer is blended before i leave my house, but everytime i look in the mirror in my car I still have lines that aren’t blended.. tips?",0 +9048,"Is there a mascara that doesn't smudge or flake but doesn't really do much to the lashes?. I know the title is kinda weird, i didnt know how to word it lol. I naturally have long lashes and i just curl them with an eyelash curler and they hold up really well for a long time. + +The thing is, my lashes are even longer but the ends of them are a lighter color so you can't really see it, but my eyelashes are still long. + +I'm looking for a drugstore mascara that won't smudge and flake, i hate that and something to basically just color my lashes so that the ends are visible. Also i'm looking for something that won't clump, i like my eyelashes separated. + +I don't need extra lenght nor volume, just no clumps, no smudging and no flaking. + +Also, i dont have access to covergirl so thats a bummer",0 +9049,Il Makiage Eye Liner. This stuff is…. Amazing. It goes on perfectly. Perf.ect.ly. Nothing I’ve ever used compares. It is :::chefs kiss::: so I had to share.,0 +9050,"Has anyone used I Heart Revolution?. Hey everyone, I was scrolling through Instagram and I stumbled upon a bunch of I Heart Revolution/Beauty Concepts palettes. Not only are the cases super cute, but the colors look great too. + +Has anyone used these products before, if so, which ones, and did you like them? I have to replace a bunch of my old makeup soon and I wanted to have fresh palettes.",0 +9051,Drugstore makeup. If you could only pick five things from the drug store makeup section what would you pick? Also include if you have dry or oily skin.,0 +9052,What’s your favorite eyeshadow palette & why?. The title says it all: What’s your favorite eyeshadow palette that you own & why? I’m looking to refresh my collection a bit & thought this might be a good way to find some gems!,0 +9053,"Any properly educational tutorials? Especially for African American skin tones. Many tutorials seem to be by a bubbly person who has learnt from trial and error. + +That's very nice, but what I'm looking for is someone who has decades of experience in the industry. + +I am looking for EXPLANATIONS about WHY things are done the way they are. + +WHY specific brushes are used for specific things. + +E.g. primer helps foundation to glide on. Foundation makes the skin look even and hides blemishes. Blusher can mimic the look of rosy cheeks. I know that sounds dumb, but hearing 'tidy brows frame the Face ' was a revelation to me. + +What is the difference between the £1 lipstick and the £15 one apart from branding. Things like that.",0 +9054,"When I put on makeup, do I put on concealer first or liquid foundation on first?. First time using liquid foundation and I'm very confused. I use maybelline products for both if that helps. + +​ + +edit: I usually use concealer for my dark circles (they're VERY bad) and any acne or acne scars.",0 +9055,Dark green eyes eye liner color. I’m 42F and starting to use makeup… so total newbie. I have dark green eyes that are deep set and my hair is deep brown (eyebrows/lashes/hair). What color eye liner would help my green come out more? I’m not super adventurous so nothing super crazy but was thinking plum? What are best brands? I used to use Lancôme way back. Help!,0 +9056,"Juvia’s Place Eyeshadow. I bought The Chocolates palette from Juvias Place and let me tell you…. worst eyeshadow that’s ever touched my face. It was so powdery I dipped literally 5 times, mashing the brush around, fully coating it and that wasn’t enough to get one layer of color on my eyelid. And don’t come at me with the proper base excuse, I exfoliate, moisturized, and eye primed. The shit was still SO effing sheer. +Just wanted to share cause I was appalled something could be so bad lol. +My palette also came with a manufacturing error and there’s two of the same color in the palette. Stupid. + +Edit: sounds like everyone’s experience with JP is different, meaning their issue could just be inconsistency with quality. Which I agree with. I’m not denying they could have some great products.",0 +9057,What's a lipstick brand that will last no matter what?. I have a habit of biting my lips a lot so I ended up removing my own lipstick in an hour top T\_T. What's everybody rec for one that will refuse to budge?,0 +9058,"Best primer for hooded oily eyes. Thanks to oily, hooded eyes, whenever I wear eyeliner or mascara, it always ends up smudging under the outside corner of my eyes. So I end up with outer raccoon eyes. Wedding will be in a hot area. Any suggestions on a primer or other makeup item that will keep it in place, or any tips on how to better apply? Thank you!",0 +9059,"Replacement for Maybelline FitMe foundation?. Hi makeup friends! I currently use maybelline fitme matte+poreless foundation. At first I was very impressed by the feel of the foundation on my skin. It felt just like a light moisturizer. (I’ve always shied away from foundation because it was too difficult to find one that didn’t look like it was melting off my face.) +However, now that I’ve been wearing it more I’ve noticed that the fitme foundation kinda creases, sometimes enhances texture and doesn’t last. + +What I want in a foundation: +-poreless effect (I have large pores) +-non cakey feel (breathable) +-oily skin friendly +-light/medium coverage/buildable +-long lasting +-matte look + +I’m open to drugstore and non drugstore options! I’m down to invest in a good foundation if it’s worth it!",0 +9060,"Ready to start wearing makeup (I think). Hi everyone! + +I recently cut my hair off and have a pixie cut. I love it, but I've realized that my face could benefit from a little makeup to look more feminine. I'm married to a woman, but not butch and so I want to look feminine still while I have my short hair.  + +The only thing is, I've really never worn makeup. My wife has never worn it, and neither did my mom or sister. So no one ever taught me what to do. I went through a phase in middle school/early high school where I was trying, but naturally I wasn't very good at it and teenage girls can be mean. So I threw everything out and didn't really touch it again.  + +I don't even know where to start. I really want to make an everyday routine that I can use, but I'm not sure that I'm ready to invest in a lot of expensive products all at once (I know they're high quality, but I just don't know what I like yet!). I definitely also need something that's either really foolproof to use or else easy to correct mistakes.  + +I've got super pale skin that is clear the majority of the time, and really thick/dark eyebrows that (probably) don't really need much done with them.  + +So, for all my ladies out there willing to take a very confused/overwhelmed person and help her out, please give me your best starter kit recommendations.",0 +9061,"Full coverage foundation?. I am looking for full coverage foundation to hide some of the acne spots I occasionally get. I don’t want to spend a ton of money on it. What are the best brands for full coverage that will hide blemishes at a reasonable price? + +Thanks!!",0 +9062,"Which make up items look the most natural?. Hi! I’m reasonably new to using makeup but I don’t use a lot, I still want it to look natural. Which make up or skincare products could I use for this? +I’m open to products that go anywhere on the face such as eyebrows or skin, I’m just looking for new items I could experiment with. + +Thanks 😊",0 +9063,"My new years resolution was to get into makeup. I have $50 to Ulta and want to get my moneys worth. Shop for me?. I've recently gotten more into makeup and want to put together a semi-high quality makeup collection with the gift card i got for christmas. I need a good black eyeliner thats conducive to wings, some eyeshadow brushes and some liquid lipstick that has good staying power for nights out. What are some brands i should consider? Any other makeup holy grail items i should consider?",0 +9064,"I'm a man who's wanting to dive into makeup for the first time. What should I know?. I've never been able to wear makeup outside of Halloween costumes, and I'm fascinated by the idea of wearing it, and wanted to try. + +What things should I know getting into with no prior knowledge or experience? + +I'm not interested in doing drag or heavy makeup, but things to help me look finer for special occasions.",0 +9065,"At my wit's end with makeup. I F(19) started doing makeup when I was a junior in HS around (15 or 16). I got into pretty much everything besides concealer and contour. I gravitated towards the darker grungy look because it suited my interests and personality. Darker colors only show up on my skin (I'm dark skin, but not a deep dark) everything else is ashy. + +Recently, I noticed that dark colors in a grungy style don't look that nice on me anymore. In fact, eyeshadow in general just doesn't look right on me at all. I'm saddened by this as I used it as a means of self expression. It's gotten to the point where all my makeup products on me... make me look insane? If I put makeup on, I end up taking everything off. The only thing that works for me is mascara. + +What do I do? Are my likes changing? I don't exactly know any other look i would prefer? Do I hang up the 2015 undead alt princess I've always wanted to be?",0 +9066,Kiss proof lipstick?. Whenever I make out with my bf my lipstick always fades or goes is there one that wouldn’t and that’s long lasting?,0 +9067,"Drugstore contour for pale skin. Hey all, I want to start experimenting with contouring but not sure where to start. In the past when I've tried to do it I've felt like it just made my face look sort of dirty because I have very pale, translucent, splotchy skin. I usually just do my foundation and focus on my eye makeup, which I like to be somewhat smokey and dramatic. What cheap products do you recommend I start out with? And do you like to use blush when you contour? I also don't usually use blush because unfortunately I was born with the roundest baby face imaginable and I feel like it just accentuates that and adds to my youthfulness, but I'm not sure if it may complement a good contour. If you have any quick and dirty tips in general for toning down my chubby baby cheeks and actually making me look like a woman with cheekbones and not a child I would love that, but mainly looking for some drug store brand product recommendations to start. Thanks! + +Edit: Wow! I love this community. I was not expecting so many helpful responses. I am not going to reply to everyone but I so appreciate your advice and this has helped me so much! I get easily overwhelmed by trying new things since we live in a world of so many choices and this has made it a lot simpler.",0 +9068,is there such a thing. I need a clear mascara that's WATERPROOF! anyone found any? I curl my eye lashes with heat/ curler and hair dryer to make eye lash curler hot. And I need water proof to keep my curl all day. I wanted clear for a more natural look. If not I'm open to other clear mascaras that are strong too:),0 +9069,"What is One Makeup Product You Found at Marshalls, Winners, TJMAX That you loved?. So i love shopping for makeup, i literally shop everywhere and bought tons at sephora and such.Though one time i went into Marshalls where i live in Canada (and Winners) and i love their makeup selections that they have. I found so many products I never knew about, or some that i knew but never used before.I know some are iffy about marshalls and Winners makeup, but i never had a problem with them and it's one of my go to places to look for things. + +One of the best brand finds I found at Marshalls and Winners is + +Profusion Cosmetics (I love all their stuff) + +Kara Beauty (I use their palettes all the time, i loved their pop of glitz glitter palette it's amazing) + +I also loved makeup revolution (I always knew about them, never tried their products until a couple years ago) + +What product did you find at either TJmax Marshalls or Winners and loved it? Or found a brand you never heard about and it became your favourite?",0 +9070,Fave colour for lipstick?. whats yours?,0 +9071,"Hi, I'm doing my dissertation on the influence of product packaging on the make-up industry and was wandering if anyone could spare a couple minutes to fill it out?. [https://forms.gle/KWtH4xWBmhs2vdwE7](https://forms.gle/KWtH4xWBmhs2vdwE7) + +Hello, I am currently doing my undergraduate dissertation on the effects of product packaging on consumer purchase intention, and am using the decorative cosmetics industry to do so. Thank you to those who do fill it out",0 +9072,"How does makeup work, like, in general?. I have never worn makeup in my life. My senior prom is in half a month and it'd be nice to know how it works by then. Simply treat me like a victorian child who didn't know modern makeup existed up until 10 minutes ago. I will take literally any advice. Where do I start?",0 +9073,"Ethically Sourced Mica. Hi all! I have recently been trying to switch to more ethically sourced products across the board. With makeup I’ve been looking into ethically sourced mica. I found this site that goes through brands who source mica ethically: https://ethicalelephant.com/cruelty-free-makeup-brands-ethical-mica/ + +Does anyone have any other suggestions for finding brands who source ethically? Or any other ingredient in makeup I should be watching out for to stay in lines with ethical buying?",0 +9074,"[HELP] Date Makeup!. So, I have a date with this guy next week and I really want to look great on that day. However, I am horrible at skincare and make up. Can you guys please help me??? + +I’m 27 years old and have a combination skin condition with some acne and redness.I think I have a cold undertone. I don’t know why but whenever I put makeup on it looks like I'm wearing someone else's. + +What I have at home is + +* Hourglass primer +* Completone foundation +* Nature republic mascara +* Sephora collection eye liner +* Code Glow cosmetics L.bling glitter Splash shower +* Clio pro eye palette Into lace +* Urban Decay All nighter setting powder. + +I’m willing to purchase a new product or get some professional help. Please HELP!",0 +9075,"How has your makeup routine changed in the past 5-years?. I’m constantly amazed with my changing preferences in products, styles, and colours. I know a lot of this has to do with fashion trend cycles, but when I was beating my face to the gods in 2017, I thought some of my constant repurchases would be used until the end of time! Bury me with my Too Faced Palettes, I thought. + +Eyes: +I was a Kat Von D (now KVD Beauty) Tattoo Liner enthusiast. The perfect, harsh winged liner. This winged obsession hasn’t changed much because I still love a winged liner (partial to the Rare Beauty one currently!), however I’ve also find myself reaching for the Charlotte Tilbury Eye Pencil in Pillow Talk for a more natural wing. I never would have considered anything but a black winged liner 5-years ago— pencils seemed like a thing of the past back then! Now we’ve embraced them again. + +Cheek Products; +I wore more orange toned blushes and was a fan of Nars Orgasm. Now I prefer bright pops of pink, I really like Milk Makeup’s cream blushes as well as Ilia’s ones. My blush placement is also much higher and I bring it up to my forehead like I used to do with my bronzer. Also my highlighter game (cough cough Becca) will never be as bright as it was then. My cheeks will never look as frosty as they did in 2017. + +Lip Products: +My relationship with mauve lipsticks was a never ending repurchasing cycle. Urban Decay’s Vice Lipstick in Backtalk owned me. I used to walk down the hill from University during breaks between class just to buy a replacement because that lipstick was my identity. Now with the pandemic it is a bit hard, however I do prefer a more sheer lipstick. I’m currently loving the Fenty ones! I’ve also been use the Milk lip and cheek products. These days, I avoid mauve lipsticks like the plague because I think they really washed me out, especially the cooler toned ones… + +Tools: +When did my fingers become the new brushes and sponge???? I really like products from rms beauty where I can really feel and mould the cream products (eg. their concealer that I use religiously). My entire beauty collection was inspired by influencers, which included a multitude of brushes and sponges (tools I do still use, but I’m far less rigid about it when so many of the products I use, benefit from a lighter hand (literally!) + +These are the things I’m constantly thinking about as my makeup routine has evolved and changed. Has anyone else had changes you just couldn’t see yourself having 5-years ago???? It’s currently almost 1am in New Zealand, so yes these are my late night shower thoughts.",0 +9076,"PMG Palettes down to $47 right now. If you have an account on the site, you can add the palettes that are on sale and in your cart they will be $47. It must be a site glitch.",0 +9077,"Are there makeup lines that are considered to be top of the line?. I’m relatively new to makeup and I know that retailers sell drugstore or high-end. But is there like a “premier” makeup series that just outperforms everything else? Or is it that some products work better for your skin and they are sold by various companies? One friend told me that people buy foundation for $2,000.00 a bottle somewhere. I’m like, wtf, why? Anyone know what she was talking about?",0 +9078,Eyeliner.... Yay or nay?. Do you wear eyeliner? Have any favorite kinds? I love eyeliner but can't seem to get it right. Wondering what everyone's thoughts are.,0 +9079,Non transferrable liquid foundation. Any suggestions for a non transferrable liquid foundation?,0 +9080,"What was your first experience with makeup?. My first experience was when I was 12/ 13 (over 10 years ago) and all I knew was a pencil eyeliner. I would only apply it on my bottom waterline because I didn't know how to do makeup but I didn't wear much in the beginning of my teenage years anyway, the most was eyeliner and mascara. I saw most of my cousins and friends wear eyeliner on their waterline at the time and so I wore it too. I would get my pencil eyeliner from superdrug for like £1 and would wear it to every party I went to which was nice. Good ol daysss",0 +9081,"GF loves colorful makeup pallets and I want to give her one. Which one?. Hi. It’s pretty much what the tittle. I would love to give my GF the best gift ever for Christmas. +I know for a fact she loves to have fun playing with different colors on her makeup, any suggestions? +Maybe some influencer brand? +I’m pretty illiterate when it comes to makeup stuff but I’m trying to learn more. +Can anyone help? +Thanks!",0 +9082,"I just got a beauty blender. Just wondering, how often do you clean it and how do you clean it exactly?. ",0 +9083,"did you hear about the huda beauty settlement for selling eyeshadow pallets that are not ingredients that should be used for eyes. so horrible, hopefully nobody got any serious reactions. ",0 +9084,"[Survey] How do you track your makeup use?. Hi, there! My name is Tong and I am grad student studying user experience and HCI. I am currently working on a project to understand how makeup lovers keep track of their makeup use and ""project pan"" progress. If you are interested in participating, please fill the survey below. I appreciate your insights and help! + +\*This is survey is 100% anonymous and I will only keep the data for academic use. + +[https://forms.gle/2Z5g6DbUCfPT1Htb6](https://forms.gle/2Z5g6DbUCfPT1Htb6)",0 +9085,"Is this mold in my eyeshadow palette?. Hey guys, I have a question my new Dior Eyeshadow Palette in Coral. I just purchased it this week. + +The first color/primer in the top left seems to have textured dots on it? They look like water or oil, but these are brand new. + +The first palette - Is this mold? And if not, is it safe to use? + +[https://imgur.com/a/Bd1xsHH](https://imgur.com/a/Bd1xsHH) + +I called Sephora and asked them, and they said they would send out a second one (They said they didn't have a way to receive pictures). The last 3 pictures are of the second one I received today - it has a similar texture in the top corner of it, but way less area than the first. Still, is it safe to use? + +None of the pictures or videos of this palette online have anything like it - they're all smooth. + +Thanks!",0 +9086,"Rare Beauty Recommendations. Does anyone have any rare beauty recommendations? I live in the UK and it came out here a few months back but I haven’t got around to trying it yet. + +I know for sure I want to try the soufflé lip cream but I don’t know if there’s any other must haves! I’ve heard the blushes are good but I don’t really wear blush all that often so I don’t own any. Could be handy to have one though! I don’t know if we have the full range in the uk but any suggestions for products or even specific colours of things like lip products or blush would be great 😊",0 +9087,"My makeup always just looks so bad. Is my skin trash or my makeup trash? Or both? I’ve tried so many products but makeup always looks terrible on me, it looks ok from far away then I get up close in the mirror and I just see everything in extreme detail, huge pores on my cheeks and my concealer gets all creased and dry, my face looks like 8 diff colours and it’s just a mess. it feels so bad to put on makeup and feel even uglier than before you had any on. Do you guys have any tips to make your makeup look a bit more uniform and … smooth ? Any particular makeup products or skincare that helps ? my skin is quite dry especially around my eyes and I don't know if that makes a difference",0 +9088,"Idk what I’m doing.. After being too self conscious to try makeup for 25 years (thinking i would look like a clown and people would laugh at me), I finally want to get into make up. Needless to say I am more than overwhelmed. +I basically spent 150€ on stuff that I don’t even know what it is for lmao. I used to do mascara only. I tried to do some eyeliner but it just looks so bad lol. Now I wanna go all out. Eye shadow, eyeliner, make up and primer or whatever (I don’t even know what half of the stuff is for), fake lashes and all that. Most of the YouTube tutorials are for pros or for people who have at least a little bit of knowledge. Can anyone give me a tldr of products I need to have and need to know? Thanks in advance :).",0 +9089,Under eye concealer?. ,0 +9090,"How do I get my foundation not to look cakey ?. Whenever I put on foundation it always looks cakey and too much. I try for buff it out with my brush and sometimes go over my face with a beauty blender and it still looks cakey. + + +What do I do ! Pls help 🥲",0 +9091,"Thoughts on Thrive makeup. So I've been seeing a few ads on social media for Thrive makeup and I'm curious. Mostly about the eye shadow sticks and the mascara. + +Thought I'd ask here if anyone has tried Thrive and what you think, I'm looking for very simple easy makeup for my ""I'm at home but don't wanna scare the UPS or FedEx delivery drivers"" makeup LOL",0 +9092,"Bronzer for SUPER pale skin. I got back into makeup last year after nearly a decade of not really caring. In that time I've tried multiple bronzers but they always make my skin look orange or dirty. I've got incredibly pale skin and I don't self-tan. + +Does anyone have recommendations for bronzers for fair skin, or should I skip bronzers altogether?",0 +9093,"Hiking makeup that’s natural but covers acne. So I made a mistake lol. I planned a date to go on a really short “hike” (2miles total, most of it through a flattish trail). Well the hike is tomorrow and maskne has shown it’s ugly head. It’s a shot in the dark but are there any makeups that cover acne without looking like I’m wearing a ton of…well makeup?",0 +9094,"Eyelids won’t allow eyeliner - help?. I have the worst eyelids in the world - they crinkle up at the lightest touch, even when I pull my eyelid taut, and so am unable to apply eyeliner. + +I’ve tried pens, brushes and gels - thick markers to fine tips and from cheap products to my latest purchase: Urban Decay Perversion. + +No matter how gently I go, the tip quickly snags on my eyelid skin (even when I try to apply it in bitesize sections) and always ends up making a mess. + +Any advice?",0 +9095,Why is Thrive mascara so cheap on Amazon?. ,0 +9096,"Lip glosses for lips that won't hold moisture (need recs). Hi, I have been on accutane so my lips are very dry a lot of the time. I mostly go for cream lipsticks if I want to wear a lip product, and they are fine (although I do need to reapply them quite often), but when I try to wear lip gloss I find it simply sinks into my lips in 5 minutes and leaves them feeling dryer than before. It's very annoying; I want to actually look like I'm wearing lip gloss, for a reasonable amount of time. + +Does anyone know of lip glosses that are very hydrating or long lasting? I'm mainly looking for more drugstore options but high end is welcome too. Cruelty free is good. I have pale olive skin, so my best colours are clear, rosy pink and berry (although I already have a tinted balm in berry, so it doesn't have to be that). + +Edit: thank you for the replies! :))",0 +9097,"Why won’t foundation stick to my nose?. I’ve been wearing foundation for a while now and Everytime I apply it on my nose by the nostrils it just goes patchy and looks dry af, I exfoliate and prime and all that jazz but for some reason it doesn’t stick? Any advice or foundation recommendations that don’t do this (in the uk btw) any help would be wonderful thanks xx",0 +9098,"Would you choose Estée Lauder DW or Too faced born this way foundation?. Hello everyone, + +As the title implies I am looking for a new foundation. I first ordered the Too Faced Born This Way foundation online as I love the brand for being cruelty free. But then I read some mixed reviews and so have decided I will return it once it arrives and have ordered Estée Lauder Double Wear instead. But now I am reading things about that being too heavy! + +For reference, I have balanced skin (dry after recent medication) and a few scars that I wish to cover. I am looking for medium-full coverage. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you!",0 +9099,"Does this mean it’s gone bad?. https://imgur.com/a/BIYkxMH + +This is the Kosas colour and light Creme palette in velvet melon. I’ve had it for less than a year and these tiny bubbles have appeared in the blush. They also don’t dissolve. +I’ve heard clean beauty products can go bad pretty quickly. + +Edit: Thanks everyone!",0 +9100,Concealers that can be worn w/o foundation and powder. Looking for a really clean feeling concealer that I can throw under my eyes/on pimples that doesn’t feel or look like foundation but that also has enough coverage to make a difference. My face always ends up cakey and splotchy by the end of the day when I just use concealer alone. Any recs? (I have oily/combination acne prone skin if that helps),0 +9101,"What kind of contour should I use if I'm not really good at makeup?. Which type of contour should I use if I am not that good at makeup? Should I be using powder, liquid, or a stick?",0 +9102,How to get rid of the stickiness from the older packaging from NARS?. Hi. I have some of the older items from nars (I think there is new packaging now right?!) and the packaging has gotten so sticky/melting that it’s difficult to use the products. Any solution?!!!,0 +9103,"In a rut with my everyday eye shadow. I have fair skin with cool undertones and blue eyes. I find that pretty much all of the pallets I own (which are not many) fall into either creams/browns or pinks/rosy browns. + +Does anyone have any suggestions for other colors that would be good to work in for everyday looks?",0 +9104,Is anyone else's Urban Decay shadows dry?. I've just gotten into collecting Urban Decay naked palette (late to the game but I have more expendable income than before). Some of the shadows look great in the pan but are impossible to get into a brush. I've been using sponge tip applicators to get enough pigment. My palettes are less than a year old. Is this normal?,0 +9105,"How much time do you spend to do your daily make up ?. I recently chatted with my friend about how much time they spent to do their make up. On average I spent half an hour but my friends only spent 15-20 mins. The step is pretty much the same- colour correcting, foundation, concealer, eye makeup, blush, highlighter and setting powder.",0 +9106,"where do i put blush??. “apples of the cheek” blush has always made my cheeks look like a doll, i put a small amount on and look terribly made-up. I tried temple blush, and it’s fine, but not really visible. Anyone else look horrible in blush?",0 +9107,"Do you also have really bad eyelashes on one of your eyes?. So every time I put mascara or serum on my eyelashes, it's way easier do it on the lashes of my left eye than the ones on my right eye. + +Like, the lashes on my left eye are curved the same way, they are similar length and are easy to work with. + +As for the ones on my right eye they are bent in different directions, some of them are much shorter than the others and there is less of them (some may be broken too) and when I apply anything on them it looks clumped, dry and kinda like the lashes are splitting. + +Does anyone know the cause of this? My right eye is slightly droppy but it shouldn't change the whole texture of lashes there. + +Also, I sleep on my left side most of the time, not my right side. + +If anyone can relate and could help, I'd very appreciate it!",0 +9108,Foundation recommendations?. Hello - looking to get a new foundation and looking for recommendations as I may be slightly allergic to my current one! It makes my skin tingly! It is a Charlotte Tilbury one so I’m looking to stay away from this brand! Thanks!🤩,0 +9109,"Eyeshadow primer??. **UPDATE** +I tried the Urban Decay Primer Potion and I hate it. It lasted maybe four hours. The NYX one I could sleep in a super detailed eyeshadow look and have it been flawless the next day still. I’ll update as I try more but UD was disappointing + +I used the NYX proof it waterproof eyeshadow primer but they discontinued it. Does anyone know of a good dupe for it? I’ve tried tons and nothing has the staying power. I especially liked how thick and tacky it was. Thanks in advance!",0 +9110,I have an allergy to lash glue but I want to put those rhinestone thingies around my eyes. What are some alternatives to lash glue?. ,0 +9111,"Face makeup routine for 30+. I recently turned 30 and my complexion is suddenly changing. I used to have combo skin with frequent breakouts on my chin. My go-to makeup was powder foundation (medium coverage) mostly to cover my acne marks. Now my acne is minimal, and my face wash seems to be controlling my scars (thank you Glossier!)…whenever I use powder foundation, it turns out looking cakey and highlighting the wrinkles around my eyes. I’ve also tried some light face tints (Glossier) which make me feel greasy, but maybe I’m putting too much on? Anyway, I now feel like my skin looks best without foundation, but I like putting on makeup when I go out or go to special events. + +Long story short - if you’re 30 or older, how has your face makeup routine changed since your 20s? Do you wear foundation? What’s your must-have?",0 +9112,"Best waterproof makeup for a funeral?. TW// death + +I’m desperately looking for recommendations for the best waterproof (meaning: cry-proof) makeup + +My dad died last month and I know I’m going to be a mess at his funeral so I was hoping someone would have a recommendation for makeup that I can cry my eyes out in and have it stay put (or at least still look presentable). + +Thanks in advance 💕",0 +9113,"I'm really pale and want to wear a full face, what contour should I get?. I'm very very pale. Like very pale- my foundation is called ""life proof second skin foundation"" from mecca and the shade is 100 (the lightest shade) and I want to wear it out but I don't want to look flat and want some dimension in my face. I've only ever tried drugstore contour once and it was defiantly too dark... does anyone have any recs?",0 +9114,"Grayish film on the edges of eyeshadows and plasticky smell (Too Faced Chocolate Gold Eyeshadow Palette). Hi. I recently bought a Chocolate Gold Eyeshadow Palette at my local Sephora (in Czech Republic). + + But when I opened it the first time, I noticed **a grayish film on the edges of some shades** ([here are some photos](https://www.reddit.com/r/MakeupAddiction/comments/slvg0u/what_do_you_think_about_this_too_faced_chocolate/), since only text posts are allowed here) - specifically on *Love & Cocoa*, *Old Money*, *Famous* and after closer inspection I noticed a hint of the film on *Gold Dipped*, too (it's not really visible in the photos, I noticed it later). All of the other shades seem to be fine. + + Another problem is that the palette **smells weird**. At first, I couldn't recognize what the smell reminded me, so I asked a few people what they could smell: my grandma described the smell **as if someone was burning something plastic** and my friend said that it smells like **something synthetic** and **expired chocolate**. It definitely smells **synthetic** and **plasticky** to me and there also is a slight hint of **typical makeup scent**. When I smell it directly - when I sniff right above the eyeshadows, I can barely smell the **chocolate scent** (that the palette is supposed to have), because the plasticky smell overwhelms it. But the chocalate scent is noticable when smelling the palette indirectly - as I'm opening it further away or when my friend was smelling it next to me. + + Those of you, who have this palette (or had it in the past): **How is it supposed to smell? Is the plasticky scent normal? Could it mean that the palette is expired? Did anyone experience the grayish film on the edges of eyeshadows?** + + Another thing that surprised me was that there was **no protective plastic sheet between the eyeshadows and the mirror** (as usually is in the eyeshadow palettes). And there was **no plastic foil on the mirror** (and I don't remember any other eyeshadow palette that didn't have this). The outer cardboard packaging was taped on the sides where the opening is, so it couldn't be opened - they told me that this was done in the Sephora store before the palettes were put up for sale. + + Anyone, who remembers buying this palette (especially if you bought it in Europe): **Did it have a protective plastic sheet or plastic foil on the mirror?** + + Thanks in advance for sharing your experiences and opinions.",0 +9115,"Makeup youtubers who don't promote/focus on overconsumption and buying more products?. Hi! I'm just starting to get into makeup as someone who's on a budget (college student) and also trying to stop impulse buying and cut down on my unnecessary purchases. I've been having trouble finding makeup youtubers and channels that aren't focused on doing hauls or buying new products. + +I've looked for specific product review videos, brand reviews etc when considering buying a specific product but it seems like almost all the channels I've seen are primarily focused on doing big hauls and constant new product reviews. I want to be mindful about my own spending and this just feels wasteful and glorifying overconsumption. + +What are some recommendations for beauty or makeup youtubers who focus more on techniques and product usage? Or youtubers who promote decluttering and mindful spending? If it helps I lean towards more natural/dewy makeup looks and have recently been into Glossier products especially. Thank you!",0 +9116,"Are hourglass blushes worth it?. I've never bought ""luxury"" makeup before because I couldn't afford it. Now I'm in a pretty comfortable place financially where I can afford to splurge a bit, I've been eyeing the hourglass blushes for literal years and I'm thinking of buying them but I don't know if they are worth it, I mean it's still money that I worked really hard to earn so I'd like to really be able to enjoy my purchase lol.",0 +9117,everyday someone says i look tired. my under eye circles are very blue and my eyes are a little sunken in making my eyebags more exaggerated. i never noticed this or cared about it until coworkers and even strangers started asking if i'm sleepy or straight up saying i look tired. i'm fed up and don't wanna hear it anymore. so whats your best makeup advice for concealing my dark circles?,0 +9118,"A lipgloss you barely feel on the lips?. I don't like products on my lips that I'm too aware of, if that makes sense? I'm new to makeup and I'd never tried lipgloss before so because I love Maybelline's matte liquid lipstick I bought their lifter gloss in reef and I'm not a fan. It's thick and no matter how little product I put on, I can feel it on my lips and it's really uncomfortable to me. That being said, I love putting it on before bed. It's really nourishing to the lips and I don't mind it if I'm going to bed. + +So what glosses do you barely feel on your lips? Drug store is a plus.",0 +9119,"Black Moon Cosmetics Lipstick too light for me .. Hey everyone! I possess fallen in love with Black Moon Cosmetics’s lipsticks. Oh. My. Gosh.‏‏‎‏‏‎‏‏‎‏‏‎­They are so gorgeous, long lasting, smell amazing, and the customer service was superb! I’d highly recommend them to anyone who has been curious about them. While I loved the lipsticks I received (I bought the Autumn Trio and Eternal) , one of the lipsticks makes me look quite....dead? Cider, as gorgeous of a Dijon mustard as it is, makes me look quite lifeless. Are there any tips or tricks y’all could give me to maybe help deepen the color? Bring Me to Life, so to speak?",0 +9120,Makeup dummy here. Where and how do I begin? Tried Sephora but I didn't like the experience both the times - ended up buying the wrong shade of foundation and concealer. I want to be able to learn enough to start doing my own makeup. ,0 +9121,"Is it safe to use a palette from late 2019?. I got Too Faced‘s Gingerbread Extra Spicy Palette for Christmas 2019 and I love it a lot. Now I’m wondering if it’s still safe to use it? Can I extend the ""life“ of a palette? It was expensive and a limited edition so I’d like to use it longer.",0 +9122,Matifying spf that works with makeup?. Hi was wondering if anyone has any suggestions for sunscreen/spf that is matte? My skin is oily and so when I use my current spf/sunscreen I just look like I’ve dipped my face in oil💀 does anyone have good recommendations for spf/sunscreen that doesn’t make you oily and that you can wear under makeup? Xxx,0 +9123,"How to do Eyeliner with only one Eye?. Okay, I don’t “have one eye”, but my left eye is essentially not functional. I have a massive blind spot and it’s extremely blurry in my left eye. So, most people close one eye when they’re doing eyeliner, but I can’t do that. I can’t do the top eyelid of my right eye because of this. Does anyone have experience with doing eyeliner with one eye/with their eyes open? If so, do you have any tips?",0 +9124,"I fell asleep with strip lashes on last night and woke up with swollen lids. Title really says it all. I am wondering how I treat this. They're not really bothering me, just swollen. I took off all my makeup and cleaned my eyes and put eyedrops. My eyes don't seem to be red or itchy. +Has anyone else had this happen? What did you do and what was the outcome?? + +Edit: also, do you think this means I'm allergic or just irritated my eyes ? I've never had a problem with strip lashes, I wear them almost daily. + +Edit: They're looking normal now, my eyeballs are a tad itchy/ dry feeling but they don't appear irritated. I had to wear makeup today unfortunately but I seemed to tolerate it well- I will be taking it off thoroughly before bed tonight. I should also mention that I had fallen asleep with super dramatic / heavy lashes too- with a friggen silk EYE MASK on top of them ...so it could've also been all that weight on my eye as well I think. + +Edit #2: decided to try strip lashes again today, was completely fine all day. Just don't sleep with them on ya'll 😅",0 +9125,why do my eyes look smaller when I wear foundation?. ,0 +9126,Green eye favourites. Hey all. For those of you who have green eyes what are your go to eyeliners/eyeshadows to make your green eyes pop. Looking for product recommendations,0 +9127,"@my black fairycore/fantasy aesthetic lovers, I’m in need of some pink/red/purple blush AND lipgloss/lipstick recommendations. I have warm undertones!",0 +9128,"The Sunday Mourning Thread. I'm sure we all have these Holy Grail products we're still devastated have been discontinued and are still - in vain - trying to find replacements for. + +Let's discuss our favourite products that we've never been able to find a suitable replacement for, what we've tried so far to replace it and whether it worked or not and what we loved so much about the original product in the first place. And maybe - just *maybe -* get some suggestions from others here for products we hadn't thought to try yet. + +Let us mourn all the great products that have been taken from us at far too young an age.",0 +9129,What's your HG mascara?. Bonus points if it comes in brown as well as black,0 +9130,"Lipstick HELP. I need help with lipstick transfer...is there a trick to prevent it from getting all over my coffee cup at work or my water bottle? I'm new to lipstick, thanks!",0 +9131,"How often to replace makeup if it's rarely worn?. I've read that makeup expires, and you should replace things like eye shadow/mascara every 3-6 months, other things a little longer. Is that still true if you rarely use it? Seriously, during Covid times especially, I might put on any kind of makeup once every few months. My makeup would last many years if I'm just basing it on usage. Do I still have to throw away practically full makeup and replace it to make sure I'm not risking infection or something?",0 +9132,Brown liquid liner recommendations?. Looking for recommendations for brown liquid liners that aren't too dark? I find some brown liners end up looking closer to black.,0 +9133,"How do I properly apply a lip product so it doesn’t look like a te a crayon or something?. Every time I apply a lip product I always get it around my lips and on my lips. It looks similar to how kids would take it and put it all over their mouths. Do I just have to keep practicing putting it on so it’s only on my lips or I need something else? + +Note: I have a small/thin upper and lower lip idk if that effects anything too",0 +9134,"Suggestions for a great high-end eye palette. Over the past few years I've gotten more into experimenting with makeup and trying out new products. In order to keep it relatively affordable, I usually stick to drugstore and less expensive brands. I've been able to find some great options for lots of products, but drugstore eyeshadow still seems to be a bit lacking. + +I have found some really good products and love some of my Colourpop and BH cosmetics palettes, but I'm thinking of investing in a higher end palette if I can find a color story that I love. + +I am light skinned with darker green eyes and neutral to pink undertones. I love wearing mauves or plums, with some pinks, peaches, or gold mixed in. I would prefer a mix of warm and cool tones, but definitely not something too warm. Very warm oranges and browns don't look great on me. + +Does anyone have any recommendations for a higher-end palette with a similar color story that they love? I would appreciate any suggestions!",0 +9135,"Smudge proof eyebrows. Hello, I recently been diagnosed with alopicia and have very little hair on my body. I still have eyebrows but they now super thin and sparse, I currently use the Nyx eyebrow pencil (i love it) but it smudges and wipes off if i’m not careful. Any alternatives that are smudge proof ?",0 +9136,"Why can’t I find a good black lipstick that doesn’t drain my bank account?. I’ve tried 4 so far and I’ve hated them all. + +The sephora collection cream liquid lipstick transferred like crazy but was so soft and nice. If it didnt transfer so much I’d keep it + +The nyx xxl lingrie kept coming off, pilled on the inside of my lips and was so dry. I bought it on my break and returned it the same day. I tried the old matte formula and despied it. This one was better but still not good + +The maybelline superstay is so dry and cracks on my lips. It doesn’t transfer at least. + +I just want to find one nice black lipstick that stays on and looks good. I don’t care if it’s liquid or not, I just don’t want it to feel dry and transfer a ton",0 +9137,"How do I cover my nose pores/fine hair? (img). I tried a pore filling primer called baby skin from maybelline then applied a liquid foundation from stila. The end result is tiny pore dots on my nose that show more prominently. What am I doing wrong? + +[Nose pic](https://i.imgur.com/To0mnDK.jpg)",0 +9138,"Have you ever and if so, how long have you used your eyeshadow pallette after expiration date?. I have a couple of eyeshadow pallettes and they’ve been expired a while. I’m nowhere near finishing them, love them both and I know there’s an expiry date for a reason(12m), but is it really that bad of an idea? Anyone had any bad experiences?",0 +9139,"Tips for dark circles. I have deep eyes and dark brown circles, I already color correct with pink and that helps a lot but lately I’ve been wanting to do less full face stuff. I’m so tired of only wanting to cover my dark eyes but then realizing if I don’t put makeup anywhere else it’s going to be noticeable I only put makeup around my eye area and that’s it, any tips? (My dark circles and bags are genetic so no amount of sleep or eye creams help)",0 +9140,Can I use painting brushes as a makeup brushes?. ,0 +9141,What influences the decision as to whether to buy a dewy or matte foundation?. Is it a matter of preference? Is it a matter of dry vs oily skin?,0 +9142,"Why does my concealer dry so fast??. I'm kinda new to makeup, and I'm having problems with concealer!! +I read that you are supposed to apply your concealer, & let it sit on your face for 15 minutes before you blend it. But my concealer just dries up within 1 minute. +I use ""elf 16 hour concealer matte finish."" So is this just a concealer that dries very quickly? Should I get a different concealer?",0 +9143,Holy GRAIL eyebrow product?!. I have red hair and have been using Glossier's boy brow before they even had a shade for us gingers! I really like it but just wanna see people's thoughts on others products? I have no idea how to fill in my eyebrows but really have been feeling a lil self-conscious about my brows and how they look lately. The tinted gel is really the only thing I put on my brows... so what's everyone's holy grail eyebrow product? I've looked at a couple benefit products and also Charlotte Tilbury... it's also important to me to use products that are cruelty free!!! TLDR: How do you make them eyebrows look reeeeeal good?! Thanks for any and all help in advance :)),0 +9144,What's a good full coverage body foundation?. I have a lot of scars on my legs that I want to start covering up so I can feel confident. Any suggestions?,0 +9145,Best Eyeshadow Primer/No Budge Technique?. Hey friends. I am on the hunt for the best product or technique to keep my eyeshadow from smudging to my upper brow area. As well as make it last for basically forever. I use Urban Decays eyeshadow primer and it just doesn’t work as well as it used to. What do you do to keep your eyeshadow in place?,0 +9146,Moisturizer or Serums first?. Not sure if this has been asked recently or if this is a stupid question... but which should you put on first?? Moisturizers or serums/oils??,0 +9147,"Is it me or did Lolita by KVD beauty get darker?. I haven’t had the lipstick since 2019, and it looks more plum than chestnut rose as it’s was advertised as.",0 +9148,"Calling all pale skinned peeps. I’m having a hard time finding makeup pale enough for my skin. My fav was it cc cream but the lightest color they have is still a shade too dark for me, unless I get some color. What do you all recommend?",0 +9149,Contouring. Specifically nose contouring. Do you think it's a trend that will phase out?,0 +9150,"Everyone with glasses know this struggle.. I’m nearsighted and have astigmatism so putting on make is…. blurry most of the time. It doesn’t help that I have deep set eyes and my eyelids have folds. It makes putting on eyeliner an experience, even with the mirror that zooms in for this b/c the mirror gets in the way of the eyeliner pen. + +Does anyone else have this struggle?",0 +9151,"red eyeshadow recommendations ?. i've been looking for a good deep red eyeshadow for so long and i haven't had much luck, they all tend to shift more pink :/ any recommendations pls ?",0 +9152,"False Lashes. I’ve been an active makeup user since I was 14, but I’ve never been able to figure out false lashes. I’ve watched every tutorial, tried magnetic and glue on lashes to no avail. Within one hour, the corners of my falsies begin to lift. I have pretty hooded eyes, so I think that may be a part of the problem. + +Does anyone have any pointers for a novice in false lash application? What brands would your recommend? I would prefer cheaper brands as I’m still a student.",0 +9153,How to wear pink and peach eyeshadow without looking like I have sore eyes?. ,0 +9154,What's a really good piece of advice you received from this sub?. A product? A technique? A YouTuber? A philosophical approach? What's some solid advice you've taken from fellow Redditors?,0 +9155,"Skin regiment for a 60 year old. I just turned 60 and try to take care of my skin, but I’m looking for products others my age use to help with fine lines and dry skin. Also I am looking for foundation ideas that don’t make my makeup look heavy. Do you use hydronic acid products or specific type facial masks?",0 +9156,"How do I remove waterproof mascara without a cleansing balm?. I’m avoiding cleansing balms and oils because they might be culprits in the milia I have developed around my eyes. So, what works? I’ve used Garnier micellar water, the pink one, and it doesn’t work. I just started using Bioderma micellar water and it works better but it feels like I still have mascara on my lashes and my eyes get irritated from them. + +So, recommendations? I’ve heard the blue Garnier micellar water is good. Anyone tried that? I don’t want to keep products that aren’t working.",0 +9157,"pressed glitter? just why. Does anyone actually use the pressed glitter that sometimes comes in drug store to mid-range palettes? No snark - I am genuinely curious what I can do with these bc I do like to get use out of the whole palette if I can. + +I've tried it with glitter glue in the center of my lid a few days ago, and I looked like I had a sparkly black eye. I'm still trying to scrub the glitter off 😐",0 +9158,"New to makeup and my mascara always gets into my face.. I am new to makeup and just wearing a little, often just some concealer under my eyes and mascara. However whenever I wear mascara, after a few hours I have dark circles under my eyes. When I wipe them it’s clearly the mascara. I have tried several brands, though not crazy expensive, and it even happens when I only put it on my top lashes. What am I going wrong?",0 +9159,"Question: How do you tip toe the line between matte base makeup and the dewy, glass skin base makeup?. I love the dewy glass skin trend of South Korea. But I have an oily t-zone and within 15 minutes, my t-zone would make my base makeup cakey if I don’t use mattifying primer, setting sprays, matte base makeup, and translucent powder to make it matte. I have to use oil absorbing wipes and powder every 3ish hours to stop the oil from coming through, and in the end, my makeup always looks cakey, dry, and overpowered. + +My t-zone has always been oily since I was in elementary school, and my diet doesn’t affect the oiliness. I also have pretty good skin care: hydrating face wash, toner, serum, face cream, and face oil. + +Tldr: +How do I combine dewy, glass skin base makeup but ensure that my t-zone stays matte? + +Any South Korean bb cream or cc cream recommendations would be appreciated too.",0 +9160,"How to use concealer on eye bag with colour corrector. Y’all I have the worse dark circles and whenever I use concealer (nyx) it makes it look grey. So I bought quo colour correct that comes with cream, purple and green colour corrector and I use the cream colour underneath the conclear and it still looks grey am I using to little corrector or too little concealer?",0 +9161,"I miss putting on makeup, but I'm scared of my makeup remover!. Ok guys how do I use la roche posays gel makeup remover? I posted in r/makeup101 but no luck. How do I use it around the eyes especially. I think I've used too much on a cotton pad and it stung a bit. I think I'm doing it wrong. Anyone have any experience with the stuff? The gel is weird, and I don't want to put makeup on because I'm scared of the makeup removal process!",0 +9162,Any recommendations on a bronzer that looks like a slight sunburn instead of just brown?. ,0 +9163,"I can not get my eyebrows to curl for the life of anything with an eyelash curler. I’ve tried different techniques (heating curler, using Vaseline, using mascara then curling.) But, nothing seems to work. Any advice? Any other techniques I can give a whirl?. ",0 +9164,best eyeshadow color that goes well with green/hazel eyes?. ,0 +9165,"Floor makeup?. Does anybody else like doing their makeup sitting in the floor? Maybe it’s just a me thing, but if anybody has a setup that makes this neater looking, I’d love to see it!",0 +9166,"Good quality eyeshadow stick. I'm looking for an eye shadow stick that is good quality, good pigment and won't crumble or flake as I'm putting it on, and won't crease. I want a nude shimmery color and I also like to wear browns and sometimes purple",0 +9167,"To all who say skincare is the most important part of your routine, what is your skincare routine?. ",0 +9168,"Why does foundation sit so badly on my skin?. I’ve never worn much make up (mainly from having no idea where to start) but a few months ago I got married and had a full face of natural looking make up. For Christmas I asked for all the make up used as a gift with exact shades etc and brushes, however the foundation just does not sit well on my skin! It is either patchy or balls up and literally rolls off my face as I apply other bits. I know it does sit well as it did on the wedding day! + +How can I improve this? + +For reference I have illmasqua / Charlotte tilbury and only wear foundation / blusher / bronzer / brows filled in and setting powder (lashes I get regular extensions). I also use illmasqua primer.",0 +9169,"Makeup brushes for arthritis. Hello! + +My cousin is looking to get more into makeup, specifically for her eyes. I picked up a couple great palettes for her for Christmas, but I realized she doesn't own any brushes and it's because of her rheumatoid arthritis. + +So, I was curious if anyone here had any info or experience on eye makeup brushes that would be good to use for someone with that condition? + +Thanks on advance!",0 +9170,"Do professional makeup artists use colour correction?. So I have some redness on my face and try to conceal it. It‘s not much, just the natural redness most have around the nose area. I go in layering foundation and concealer and find that it still shines a bit through ( I currently use Il Makiage). I tend to get better results using a green colour corrector underneath. Yesterday I looked up makeup tutorials with models who have more redness than I do and the artists were able to conceal all of it with commercial makeup and no colour correcting. Later I did find some tutorials where the person happened to use colour correction but they were no professional artists. So I wonder about the necessity of colour correction. + +These are the professional artists I watched: + +https://youtu.be/0wYQWqtOg8o + +https://youtu.be/nwwrBCwKyQM + + +And the person using colour correction: https://youtu.be/8BTFl8upMtA + + +One thing that I imagine can be happening is that with the professional lighting that the makeup is reflecting the light, giving the illusion of more coverage and smoothness.",0 +9171,"Is the vein test REALLY the best way to determine your undertone?. Like everyone else here, I had a hard time figuring out what my undertone was for a long time. Of course, I looked at my veins but to no avail. + +Then early this year, I discover color analysis & finally figured out what my undertone was once & for all. Throughout the process, I did examined my veins again & confirmed that they’re blue. But here’s the thing, my skin & overall coloring aren‘t obviously cool & don‘t burn easily. In fact, I tan (albeit slightly). Then I drape myself with my clothes & realized that the items I liked & looked good on are colors that are dark & cool. After all that, I can confirm that my undertone is neutral cool, meaning it’s neutral but leans slightly towards cool. + +Understanding color theory now, I can’t help but get a bit annoyed when people suggest the vein test as the common determinator because there’s some discrepancies. What if your veins are green but you look terrible in warm colors & vice versa? What if your veins are blue but you’re not obviously cool toned & vice versa? Now, it’s obvious for some but for many like me, it’s not. And yes, I can wear whatever color I want at the end of the day (ex: orange lipstick & super warm brown shadow) but I want to have a good foundation to start with. + +Don‘t get me wrong, veins are a thing when determining undertone but is it the best? Who else here has an odd undertone like me?",0 +9172,What was the makeup style called that was popular in 2019 that was about highlighting your imperfection and it gave a boyish look. it slipped from my memory and I can't recall it for nothing. ,0 +9173,"Am i the only one who hates milk’s hydro grip primer ?. it always makes my makeup patchy and pilly. I’ve tried putting very little and putting a regular amount, even a thick layer. it still looks terrible every time. I’ve even tried with different foundations. + +i feel like i’m the only one experiencing this what am i doing wrong !?",0 +9174,"Am I the only one that hates it when brands start ads for a product before it launches?. I hate it when a youtuber starts advertising their new product or before it has launched. + +Why do they do that ? For the hype ? Because it has the opposite effect on me as I then don't bother buying it anymore or forget about it. + +Like HudaBeauty just posted a video about her new product which is not going to launch before the 23May. I was going to buy it, but I'm just probably going to forget and just skip it and get something else. Am I the only one?",0 +9175,"Question: If you’re using liquid foundation, should you use all liquid bronzer, blush, highlighter?. ",0 +9176,How is REM beauty for those who have tried it!. ,0 +9177,"App for skin tone detection and search for matching products. A few months ago, my wife shared how difficult it might be to find the right foundation tone: whatever she orders online, she buys a few samples and eventually throws away those that do not work. Especially during COVID-19 lockdown - you cannot try it out in the shop. + +As a software engineer, I decided to challenge myself and try to create an app to help figure out skin tone and match foundation products. I have just released the first version, available on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/apple-store/id1608552396) and [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.unotone) \- [http://unotone.com/](http://unotone.com/). The app flow is quite simple: + +1. Take a photo of your skin, then crop the desired skin fragment. +2. After analyzing your skin tone, the app suggests several tone samples. +3. Click on a sample from the list that best matches your skin tone. +4. The app will find a foundation product that perfectly suits your skin color. + +Luckily for me, my wife doesn't buy so many foundations to test if app detection works very well, so I would be happy to have feedback from you. Let me know if you'll be able to find a perfect match; what you would like to add or change. + +Thank you in advance!",0 +9178,tips on applying eyeliner w shaky hands. so i have very shaky hands and it makes it difficult to do precise eyeliner. is there anyone who deals with this as well? any tips on applying eyeliner evenly to both eyes?,0 +9179,"Foundation just isn’t sticking!. Hi everyone! + +I’ve been doing my makeup for a few years and have been experimenting with different makeup bases to find what works for me. I recently have been trying powder foundation which is working great for my jaw and chin area but it keeps getting flaky around my T-zone (especially on my nose, it will not stick at ALL there). + +I’ve used liquid foundation before and it at least stays for a little bit (before coming right off again, even after setting) but I have a feeling it’s a skincare/primer problem here. + +I have really tight and thin skin on my nose and my pores are really widespread and always clogged even though I cleanse and tone and moisturize. + +I just want some advice on how I can make product stick to my nose, since I have a lot of hyperpigmentation and really want that to cover up. + +Any help is appreciated, thank you!! + +UPDATE: I would just like to say thank you so much to everyone who has given me such helpful advice! I do believe it's a primer issue and potentially an issue with using powder foundation at all - I'm going to a makeup store this weekend to ask a specialist so if you feel like staying posted I will probably be posting another update once I get some new products. I did also paste a product list somewhere in the replies of what I'm using for skincare, primer, and base makeup :) I still will take any advice given so I will not be closing the thread anytime soon. + +UPDATE TO UPDATE: I went to Sephora today and talked with an employee like you guys suggested, she told me that I actually wasn’t using the right type of toner that I needed! So I took your advice and got a new cream foundation, concealer, and a gentle cleanser and new toner. I just want to thank all of you again for the help!! I feel like my life has been saved lol",0 +9180,"what eyeliner do y’all use for your waterline?. i need something that will last, mine only ever stays for an hour or so :/ or how can i make it last longer?",0 +9181,"Patchy makeup on nose. Hi, +So I’ve encountered this same struggle as another Reddit user who posted on this thread 4 years ago (thanks google) [Reddit post](https://www.reddit.com/r/Makeup/comments/7fkgx3/foundation_never_sits_nicely_on_my_nose/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) + +The only difference for my skin is that I have “normal” skin, it’s not very oily or dry. I’ve tried exfoliating my nose to see if that helps but it still randomly happens. +Any idea of how to prevent this?",0 +9182,"Smoothing over acne scarring and deep pores?. Hi, I have some heavy acne scarring and deeper/larger than average pores. When I put makeup on, I just look like like a monotone moon surface of craters and holes and I'd like to get a smoother look. A professional did my makeup years ago and gave me a smooth look, so I know it's doable -- I just don't know what products to use. + +What hasn't worked: +- Tarte Timeless smoothing primer + +Thanks in advance!",0 +9183,Brush sets for $25 or less?. Hi! I need some recommendations for decent brush sets. It’s a gift for a secret santa gift exchange so I have a limit of $25! Just looking for something simple but still good quality. Thanks in advance for recommendations!,0 +9184,"Trying out goth makeup. So I’m a person of color and I want to kind of create a corpse look where my skin looks grey-ish. For lighter skin tones it’s easier to use a white or lighter foundation, do you think that will work on a bronze skintone as well? + +Anybody else experimenting with goth style??",0 +9185,"Makeup for woman in her 40s ... So I’m 44 and my skin is in pretty good condition. But I am starting to notice occasional breakouts and fine lines appearing in my forehead and between my eyebrows. Because my hormones are beginning to change, my skin is also. Which means my makeup needs to. One thing I’ve notice, for me, is at this age foundations and (definitely) powders make me look older. The powder I’m definitely swearing off because that just sets in every crease. But I like foundation because it really evens out my skin tone. I’m thinking of switching to a BB cream. I prefer more of a Mayte finish, and I don’t like the shiny look. (On me). I prefer natural look. Can i get some recommendations on some products, whether it be BB cream, CC cream or foundation?",0 +9186,"Does anyone do eyeshadow after liner?. I apply eyeshadow after doing a winged liner because if I do eyeshadow first and screw up the liner, i'll have to redo the eyeshadow which feels like a waste. + + +Just wondering if anyone else has the same problem!",0 +9187,"Correct way to wear setting spray??. Hey 🍰🎀 what is the best way to wear setting spray?? I am having such problems with this. +I spray on my setting spray (about 8 inches from my face) after I’m finished with all of my makeup, and then I spray on my finishing spray. But my makeup still ends up separating and looking cakey about 5 or so hours later. Are you supposed to reapply the setting spray every few hours?",0 +9188,"Please help! How the heck do I start learning to do makeup on myself at age 32?. I used to do a little makeup here and there in my teens and early twenties. Then I went through a phase that lasted about a decade where I hated wearing makeup and wanted nothing to do with it. + +Now I am taking an interest in it again, but I'm self-conscious about my lack of skill and knowledge of what's ""in."" Googling ""makeup tutorials for beginners"" yields and overwhelming sea of results. + +Where do you think I should go to learn makeup? Any YouTube channel recommendations, blogs, etc? + +How do I know what makeup to buy? What's worth spending money on, and what should I be more frugal with? + +Anything else worth mentioning that I may just be completely unaware of? + +Please help!",0 +9189,"Need help concealing hickeys, have zero makup experience.. I have more or less zero experience with makeup products and i'd like to get a crash course on selecting and using concealer or foundation or whatever you'd use for this kinda stuff. Im taking a plane home from a trip in a few hours and i was thinking i could probably pick up some product at the airport. It doesnt have to look perfect, just has to be somewhat difficult to spot. + +Any and all help is appreciated :) + +(just realized this might sound like im cheating on someone? idk, im just concealing it from my mom ok ;w;)",0 +9190,Liquid Eyeliner with Thinnest Pointed Brush. Who makes a long wear liquid eyeliner with a very thin pointed BRUSH? NOT a marker-like applicator. The brushes all seem to be blunted which makes it hard to get a sharp line. Would prefer it in dark brown or navy.,0 +9191,"Best drug store tinted lip balm that also moisturizes?. I wear a full face of make up and despite trying multiple brands and styles, I am just not a fan of lipstick. I don't like that it comes off while drinking, and I absolutely hate the way that matte or all day no budge lipstick feels. I am pretty much addicted to Blistex, but with no color on my lips, I feel like my lips are just left out of the entire equation. How do I add some color to my lips and help them to stay moisturized at the same time? Preferably something that is easy to reapply after drinking or eating without using a mirror.",0 +9192,In search of a good under eye color corrector for dark circles. Any refs?. Due to some awesome genetics I have really bad dark circles and I’m finding the concealers are just not cutting it. Anyone have a holy grail under eye color corrector for dark circles?,0 +9193,"Just concealer under eyes?. Hello 👋 + +For context: I don't wear make up and I don't have much of a skin routine outside of washing my face in the shower w a natural bar soap. I used to wear make up when I was younger but it was incredibly minimal (IT cc cream, pressed powder foundation, blush). + +Q: I was wondering if there are any under eye concealers or other under eye products that can be used alone (like, without any other makeup) to cover/lift the under eye area. My under eye tends to have dark circles & get a bit oily, and it would be nice to look a bit more refreshed going to work, but I'm honestly not willing to add to much to my routine. + +I saw the Maybelline Instant Age Rewind under eye concealer suggested in a blog post, but don't know if this product can be used by itself. + +Would prefer products that are budget friendly but I'm open to all suggestions. + +Thank you!",0 +9194,"if anyone has any questions regarding drugstore makeup recommendations, im the person you should come to!. im insanely passionate about makeup and ive been using nothing but drugstore products for the past few years, so if anybody needs recommendations for products or makeup tips in general, i would love to help! :D",0 +9195,"Do I need to wear full on makeup to do the white dot on the eyes thing?. I usually only wear eyeliner, but I recently saw a TikTok of girls putting white dots around their eyes that looked pretty and I was wondering if that would work without full on makeup? I don't want to look like a clown, but I also don't really wear highlighters, blush, foundation, eyeshadow... + +Also, bonus-- does anyone know how it works on hooded eyes? Thank you!",0 +9196,"I'm looking for a single pan matte yellow eyeshadow!!. Hello! +I found the perfect yellow shade in the ""python wild palette"" from Huda, but I don't like the other colors so I'm looking for the same matte shade but in a single pan. +I've already searched at Sephora, Kiko, Nyx, Essence and Wycon but I haven't found anything at all. +Like, NO yellow shades!! + +I need this in a couple of days but I can't seem to find it anywhere! Can anyone help? :)",0 +9197,"I want to start wearing makeup but i'm scared that it will make me more insecure of my natural face :/. I'm already quite insecure of my face so i've wanted to start wearing makeup, but i'm afraid that I'll start depending on it and feel more insecure of my bare face. Does anyone have any advice?",0 +9198,"If you could one use one item of makeup for the rest of your life, what would it be?. ",0 +9199,How do you decide what lipstick shades look good on you?. I usually swipe it on my hands but then they don’t always look good on my face. I feel like I like brick reds and browns but they don’t seem to match my face so well. Any tips??,0 +9200,"What expensive products do you think are worth it?. +I'm looking for some new makeup products but with the variation of prices it's so hard to know what kind of money is worthwhile spending! For example, I need a new mascara but the amount of choice! Essence is very popular and cheap as peanuts but so is Lancome for example, and spending around 30 quid on mascara seems crazy but if it's good I don't mind. What do you think? What expensive makeup products are worth it to you? What will you never skimp on?",0 +9201,"Preformative Activism. Why are brands displaying the dark foundation first, but still lacking in the shade range? It baffles my mind that they do this as it says, “we care, but not enough to be inclusive.” Maybe it’s where I live but it’s something I’ve noticed.",0 +9202,"what's the best colored mascara for super dark brown eyes?. i'm trying to brighten up my makeup look for this summer and one of the ways i want to do that is by experimenting with colored mascara. i have very dark brown, almost black eyes and pretty pale skin. what color should i start with?",0 +9203,"can you suggest the lightest foundation you know of. I've been using the lightest shade of revlon colorstay. But ever since they've changed the bottles I've noticed that the colour does not match me anymore, i suspect that they've also cahnged the recipe.. ",0 +9204,"Which parfume smells the most ""erotic/seductive""?. Hallo, I'm looking for a really erotic smelling evening parfume, what just smells like ""I want to get her"". The parfumes what I already have: Black Opiom Neon, Georgio Armani Sie, Christina Augliera By night, Playboy Feeling flirty. I'm looking something not really flowery, more something exotic smelling.",0 +9205,What’s the best eyeshadow primer specifically to prevent creasing?. ,0 +9206,"Contouring for cool toned pale skin. Hi everyone, I'm looking for a contour stick or palette that would work on someone with pale skin with a cool pink undertone. Every contour product I've tried looks too warm and out of place on my skin even when I use small amounts. If anyone can recommend a contour product for my skin type, that would be greatly appreciated!",0 +9207,"Essence Lash Princess is a layering mascara. honestly it’s cute on its own, but paired with L’Oréal Voluminous gives an actual fanned out false lash effect! I was surprised with the results",0 +9208,"Can someone tell me the order of putting the blush, highlighter and/or bronzer?. Happy new year! Sorry for being a noob, but do i really need to put all those three when i want my cheeks blooming? For reference im asian with fair skin. Thanks for those who’ll answer 🖤",0 +9209,Anyone remember Sonia Kashuk foundation?? I loved it and cant ever find it anymore!. ,0 +9210,"how do y’all sharpen your lip liners?. i bought new essence and nyx liners and every time i try to sharpen them, they turn out blunt and messed up. i’ve used three different sharpeners i found around the house, but they might be too blunt. should i just get a sharpener from nyx or elf?",0 +9211,"Lisa Eldridge Smokey eye on asian eyes. So I used to watch this video all the time and now it’s missing, I tried searching and looking at her playlist but it’s not there. + +Am I misremembering stuff or was this an actual video she had?",0 +9212,"I feel ugly with a full face of makeup…. I’ve been watching a lot of girls have an everyday makeup routine and honestly I feel like if I had one id feel really put together but there’s one problem… + +I feel ugly wearing foundation or concealer :( when I wear makeup I usually only wear mascara, eyeliner, highlighter, lipgloss/lipliner, and blush + +I prefer my natural skin but I do have breakouts and scarring from acne along with dark under eyes + +I guess I’m just here asking for your guy’s opinion on having an everyday makeup routine. also what do you guys wear when you want to put on makeup?? do you have an everyday makeup routine?? tips on how to feel confident wearing foundation and concealer (full face of makeup)",0 +9213,"How do I ask an employee to help pick my shade. Hi I’m an extremely shy and socially awkard 19 year old. I really want to get my foundation shade right as I find it looks orange even with the lightest shade I could find at the drugstore. I also want to get into more expensive make up so I’ve decided I’m going to the Douglass (Kind of like a Sephora in my country. We don’t have Sephora) +But I don’t know how to go about it. Should I go without any make up on? My mom told me they can give you samples but I don’t know if I should ask for that. I really want help with finding my shade and the right formula + +Also, I feel so so judged when going into a bigger make up store. Those girls always give “that” look that kinda says what are you even doing here 🤣. I’m just really stressing about this when it’s probably not even that bad but I don’t knowww haha. Please give me some advice if you have any",0 +9214,"Small, warm brown eyeshadow palette. I want a really small, high quality pallette. Like 1-3 colors for a simple look. I like browns with a bit of plum or pink. Any suggestions?",0 +9215,"Estee Lauder Double wear stay in place gives me acne. Hi, I love the estee lauder double wear stay in place foundation. It looks absolutely amazing on my skin (after I found my correct shade) and I’m in love with it. My issue is that it gives me acne! Every time I use it, I wash my makeup off with 2 types of cleansers and then moisturize but I ALWAYS get a new pimple on my face the next day. I know it’s the foundation because I played around a lot with my products and narrowed it down to this foundation. I don’t want to give it up because it’s SO GOOD at looking like I’m not wearing anything but this can’t go on :( + +Does anyone have a similar foundation that’s good for oily skin and doesn’t cause acne? Price up to $50 is fine with me. Thank you!",0 +9216,What brown eyeliners do you recommend?. I have dark brown eyes and want to try brown eyeliner. I normally wear black.,0 +9217,"How can I make my face look plump?. Lots of tutorials seem to lean on slimming down your face but I want to make my face look more fuller. Does anyone have any tips achieve this? I've seen fuller lip tutorials but would love to know if i can somehow hide my sunken cheeks and make me look healthier. + + I dont use make up often, just on occasion, so if you could explain it simply that would be helpful or if you have certain videos that would be great too. + +Ps. Please don't tell me to eat more, I've always had trouble gaining and its hard enough keeping my current weight stable.",0 +9218,"How big of a difference does it make to have a separate bronzer and contouring?. So I understand the difference between bronzer and contouring. Bronzer is warm and makes things look sun-kissed. Contouring is cool and casts shadows. + +But so far I've just used bronzer where I'd use contouring. And when I go to Sephora, I see a lot more bronzer than I see contouring. + +So is it really worth it to have a separate bronzer and contouring?",0 +9219,"What is pink face powder good for?. Talking about Huda Beauty Baking Powder in ""Cupcake"". + +Never seen a pinkish face powder. What is it good for?",0 +9220,"Want to love Pat McGrath. I want to love pat mcgrath beauty, but both purchases (a year apart) have been busts. + +I tried their sheer balms first- too shiny and opaque for a balm, doesn’t absorb/meld into my lips, packaging not luxe feeling enough to overcome all this. + +Then I picked up the concealer recently and it oxidizes terribly. I guess I feel like they fooled me twice 🙃 + +Any alternative brand and product recommendations? + +Thanks!",0 +9221,Question about a lipstick colour hack I saw on the internet. I saw an Instagram reel which said that the perfect colour for your lipstick is the same as your nipple colour. Is this true? I tried it but it didn't really suit me but it worked for my friends :(( is this a weird coincidence or is it a real makeup hack?,0 +9222,"Oily skin bb cream/light coverage?. Looking for product recommendations for oily skin. Have FOUR WEDDINGS this summer (pls send help lol) and want my skin tone to look even in pictures. + +I’m pretty oily. I don’t want to look cakey or anything - just nice for pictures. Any suggestions? + +edit to say: I couldn’t find any of the products suggested at my local drugstore and didn’t want to order online so I tried the Marcelle BB cream and it is FANTASTIC! I applied it over Clinique 100hr moisturizer and set with loose translucent powder.",0 +9223,any good drugstore foundations and blushes or maybe contours?. I was thinking of trying to add those to my routine but i don’t want to go super expensive with the first products i buy cause i might not like them?,0 +9224,"Doing someone else’s makeup. My friend asked me to do her makeup for her wedding this weekend. I’m pretty decent at doing my own makeup but that’s through 15 years of practice and knowing my own face/skin type/preferences. I don’t really have any idea how to do makeup on someone else, much less for their wedding!! + +Any tips on doing makeup on someone else’s face would be GREATLY appreciated",0 +9225,"Blush for someone with rosacea?. Hello everyone. First time posting. + +I have rosacea so my cheeks are naturally a bit pink. My rosacea is NOT severe at all, I’m just pinker than the average person!! I am also fair. I really like the “blush contour” trick that people are doing, and I want to do it too. What color blush should I use? A darker one to make it pop? Preferably drugstore!",0 +9226,"Rare Beauty: Blush or highlighter?. Hi everyone! +I would like some advice regarding future purchases at Sephora, I've been looking around to try Rare Beauty but as I'm a bit tight on budget, I'd like to know if you prefer the Rare Beauty Soft Pinch Blush or the Rare Beauty Positive Light Highlighter? + +Also please tell me which shade you like the best, I'm a fair neutral skin tone and I was thinking about the blush shade Believe (I love the Rockateur by Benefit for example) and the highlighter shade Enlighten! + +Thank you for your answers and have a nice day!",0 +9227,"Makeup Geek Closing - 40% off Everything Site-Wide. Hello All, + +Received an email yesterday from MUG stating thanks for all the fish and they're going out of business. 40% off site-wide. + +Use this opportunity to stock up on some lovely eyeshadow singles. I've got a 9 pan from them (build your own) and for the most part the colors are pretty pigmented, fairly soft and quite blendable. + +I am not a MUG representative, just sharing the deal.",0 +9228,"What’s a drugstore product that has replaced a mid-to-high end product in your routine?. This doesn’t necessarily mean a dupe, but that would certainly count! What products have you replaced with less expensive products because the less expensive one does what you want better than the more expensive one?",0 +9229,"Do I need to wear foundation?. I hope this question doesn’t come off as pompous but I am genuinely unsure what value wearing foundation would bring if I have no dark circles, small pores, and no acne. Ladies who wear it, what’s your reason? Do you think it makes a big difference?",0 +9230,"No more Fragrance Samples at Sephora.... I was advised by beauty consultants that they were no longer providing fragrance samples- the kind where they squirt a little in a small vial. (Dec '21, Nordstrom and Sephora) + +Any suggestions on how to obtain perfume samples? + + [Les Eaux de CHANEL - Eau de Toilette Spray](https://www.chanel.com/us/fragrance/p/102430/paris-riviera-les-eaux-de-chanel-eau-de-toilette-spray/) + + [CHANEL Gabrielle - Eau de Parfum Spray](https://www.chanel.com/us/fragrance/p/120525/gabrielle-chanel-eau-de-parfum-spray/)",0 +9231,Makeup for beginners. Hi! I'm a trans woman and I'm looking to learn makeup. What are some products that are necessary for a basic face of makeup that wouldn't be too expensive to start off with? Also can you recommend me any good YouTubers for learning at the beginning? Thank you!,0 +9232,"what to do if you buy a foundation 2 shades lighter than you are?. i bought the dior perfect cushion foundation in the shade 2N at the phuket duty free, at the airport, it seemed just fine, turns out it is way tooo light for me, i live in india; so here are my questions. a) is it possible to exchange it at sephora/dior in india; b) if not, then how can i make it work? it's way too light, i thought of using it instead of a light concealer under my eyes for brightening, but then it looks patchy. +i don't want to let this product go waste, it was too expensive😭 +pl help",0 +9233,"Hooded eyes and more. This is the second makeup sub I've posted my need of help to. I'm new to Reddit and if this is unacceptable please let me know and I will delete this. + +So I'm 55 years old and I honestly do not like a lot of makeup at all. However, I am in desperate need of help applying eyeshadow. My normal everyday makeup consist of a corrector (dark under eye circles), concealer, setting spray, powder (eyes only), eyeliner, mascara and eyebrow gel. I wear foundation as well, but only after Summer is over. I do really well with my everyday go-to makeup. I now want to start wearing eyeshadow. With that being said, I would like to have more of a soft, natural look. For example, when I apply my mascara I curl my lashes and apply 1 coat of mascara. Then lightly brush my eyelashes as I hate the cakey look (as in I like each individual eyelash to be seen, not a bunch of mascara where my eyelashes are caked together). Goodness, I certainly hope I'm explaining things to where it's pretty understandable. And as you can see I need a little (maybe a lot) of help with applying my mascara. As in, am I applying enough or do I actually need more. I have wore eyeshadow just a few times. But I'm not good at applying it at all. I do have hooded eyes, therefore I create a fake crease with my eyes open. However, I think it looks absolutely terrible. I'm new to Reddit and I'm curious as to whether someone could perhaps comment with a video(I don't know if that can even be done) or post a video (I don't do well at all with someone just telling me how to do it) showing me how to apply eyeshadow for hooded eyes. I have no idea how to apply eyeshadow for my fake crease or how much of my eyelid should be covered with the darker crease eyeshadow. Again, I don't want my eyeshadow to be dark. I do need help and pretty quick as I found out Thursday I have a new part-time job (been out of the workforce for some time now). I start Tuesday morning at 8 am. I'm so very excited and I cannot wait to start, which will be Tuesday morning!! That's why I need help quick! However, I am in desperate need of help with my eyeshadow application. TIA to everyone for helping me out. You all have no idea how much I appreciate your time and any help at all that you could possibly offer.",0 +9234,"Natasha Denona palettes. This summer I bought my first ND palette: the mini nude. And I love it!! I love the formula! I really would want to pick up one of her midi palettes (never bought a bigger palette of any brand fyi;)) +Which one is the best if I want to create multiple/versitale looks? I don’t want to collect all her palettes, because well, they are expensive. And from what I can see is that some palettes have somewhat the same shades. I rather have one midi palette than 5 or 6 minis. But it is so hard to choose haha! I love natural bronze colours but I love colourful as well. Hope there are some collectors here who can give me some insight :)",0 +9235,"Makeup tips for mature skin. Hi! First time posting in here - I was wondering if anyone could give me some tips for doing my mums makeup for her wedding. We’re going to do simple soft glam look, but I’m not used to doing makeup on more mature skin. My mum is 60, and while she looks good for her age she does still have wrinkles especially round her eyes. Does anyone have any tips for prepping her skin and doing her makeup?",0 +9236,"Are the Pat McGrath Mothership palettes worth it?. I’ve been eyeing them for quite some time now, but I have a hard time justifying that price tag. Are some better than others, or are they all consistent in quality?",0 +9237,"[TW: Self Harm] Not looking for perfect coverup, but I want to try makeup to soften the appearance of these arm scars (fully healed). Some are on the underside of my upper arm. If I wore short sleeves, could I prevent the makeup rubbing off on my top? I have ZERO makeup experience.. [https://imgur.com/a/X4eohcs](https://imgur.com/a/X4eohcs) All scars are fully healed and at least 4 months old. Also sorry for bad quality. I'm not *quite* this pale if it makes a difference, but yeah I'm very white. + +Fully concealing their existence is not my goal and I'm comfortable with that. This isn't for daily life. It's for a couple specific events I have coming up where it's my choice for various intersecting personal, practical, cultural, social and autistic sensory reasons not to cover them with clothing/big bracelet, and to be open but make some effort toward subtlety. (Just me and what I want for a specific situation with specific people I know, not a moral commentary that everyone with scars should try to be subtle. Do you.) + +Most of them I just want to reduce the appearance/redness as the title says and if possible, blur the obvious effect of a pattern from across the room. I got some good advice already about using green color correction primer for the redness and am looking into that (a rec for a good article or video on using it would be great, these are all new words to me). The last 3 lightest pics are the ones I'm wondering if y'all think they could be fully concealed, especially the wrist. + +As far as the concern of makeup coming off on clothes, in addition to makeup tips, does anyone personally experienced with something like this have a rec for a color or fabric that is most subtle if it happens? It's a guarantee the arms will rub my side boob at least. The spots in concern there are pics 1, 2 and 4, so the worst ones 🤦🏻‍♀️ . + +I'm willing to spend a bit since it's an occasion. In addition to which products and brands to actually get, any tips on application technique and upkeep throughout a night are welcome. I will definitely be practicing before the events! Have already started watching basic youtubes on blending. + +\*\*Based on what's happened when I've brought this up elsewhere and common occurrences on reddit: I truly appreciate everyone who would want to help but *I'm just here to ask a makeup group about makeup*. I don't want other commentary about other things I could do, be it arm-covering clothing (I promise I've heard of sleeves, see above!), long term scar healing treatment, tattoos, or mental health. If I want that, I'll go to a group fitting for that advice. Not trying to be rude, I just seem to have an unusually serious personal aversion to unsolicited advice, so I want to be clear what I *am* soliciting haha. + +I understand there are increasing clothing options that many consider good, subtle, fashionable and comfortable for all weather. I might not know about makeup but I am informed on this front. I understand about long sleeves, tunic sleeves, 3/4 sleeves, knit sleeves, light jackets, beach coverups, summer SPF long sleeves, wrist cuff jewelry in different materials, shawls, lace, silk, arm warmers, tattoo sleeves, compression sleeves, cotton, rayon, bamboo, blends *and more*. I'm confident if you think I wouldn't be asking about makeup if I knew about the garment or fabric blend you want to recommend, *I know about it,* and it either doesn't work for my sensory issues or I already use it at other times. + +It's just this once or twice I want to try makeup instead, fully knowing that it won't be perfect. And that and that alone is what I'm asking for help with, even if my choice here would not be your choice. I hope that's ok and I don't need to fully defend my reasons. + +***TLDR Seeking any and all advice for a beginner on reducing appearance of mostly textured red scars with makeup, and having makeup on the underside of my arms that could rub on clothes- just for short term events of a few hours, not as a normal thing. Please just answer if you have a relevant comment about makeup and don't if you don't. Please do not give me other advice about self harm & mental health, or just wearing long sleeves, or why I shouldn't cover my scars at all. Stay on target! TIA.***",0 +9238,"Do you think other makeup looks unpolished without foundation?. I love to wear eye makeup, blush, lipsticks, lashes, etc. I have pretty good skin for my age (36), very little wrinkles, smooth, and even in color. Every time I put on foundation I feel like I look worse, but when I don’t wear it, my look doesn’t seem “put together.” Can you recommend something ultra lightweight that finishes off my makeup look without changing much about the look of my skin? I have very little experience with foundations.",0 +9239,"How do I apply mascara without looking bad?. Hi everyone! I’ve been trying to use mascara, and I’ve realised that my lashes clump super badly with one application. I’ve tried everything, from cleaning my eyelashes with a clean spoolie and using your fingers. + +The method I’ve tried so far that gave me the best results is literally cleaning 99% of the product off the wand itself before giving myself 1 coat. This is so wasteful imo since I’m mainly using tube mascara. + +So please how do I apply mascara without wasting so much product? Am I even doing it right? Should I spend money on a cake mascara instead?",0 +9240,"How to get makeup to stay on better?. Hello! + +I hope everyone is having a lovely day. I was wondering if there were any tricks on how to keep your makeup look “fresh” and how to keep it for smudging! + +I usually wear my makeup for 9-10 hours a day, and by the end of the day, it looks very smudged and patched! (I wear quite a lot of makeup, and use a lot of products)! + +Thank you! I appreciate it, truly!",0 +9241,"Dupes for the Charlotte Tilbury Hollywood Flawless Filter. Are there any?? I’ve been itching to buy it but I need to save money, anything cheaper that can scratch the itch for me would be great!",0 +9242,"What is the most skin-like, long-lasting foundation you've ever found?. I want something that's very natural looking with some coverage, nothing cakey. But also lasts a fair amount of time. + +It seems like I always have to pick one or the other, so what have been your finds?",0 +9243,"Pencil eyeliner doesn’t stay in place. No matter what pencil eyeliner I use it always moves to middle of my eyelid making it look ugly, I like to use panda style eyeliner covering the entire lid and the bottom part of my eyelashes but it always moves up to the middle wrinkle of my eyelid (excess skin I guess since I’m only 20) and the same thing happens with the bottom part) how can I stop this from happening and what products do you guys recommend",0 +9244,"The Future of Makeup - My Predictions. [Pictures are available on my profile, if you are interested!] + +💄 The Future of Makeup - My Predictions ♻️ + +...... + +➡️ NOTE: the ideas presented within this post are my opinions, & are based on my research & study of the cosmetics industry. Nothing is proven factual, & are solely my predictions. Also, none of my stuff is sponsored. I do it for fun. + +...... + +▪️PURPOSE: the purpose behind this post is to creatively discuss what the future of the cosmetics industry beholds. + +...... + +▪️CONTEMPLATIONS: + ++ this post consists of things I expect to define the cosmetics industry in the future. By future, I'm aiming at the next 1-5 years. + + ++ there is the fact that in recent years we've been seeing repeating products launch. Similar things - over & over again, in a perpetually quick manner. The cosmetics industry has to REALLY change to keep consumers from becoming bored. + + ++ we also see several incidents of 'brands copying each other', & that's not a bad thing. It means there's a new idea to the market, & the more brands that create that product, the more choices you have. It also drives the price down. However, when everything offered on the market is a replica of another brand, we are entering 'stale' territory. + + ++ we've also been victim of several price fluctuations throughout the years. This could be due to the growth of the industry, or it could be from something more detrimental - like a shaky economic hold. In either case, not having the security of stable prices is unreliable. + + ++ the following points are the SEVEN actions I see taking place in the foreseeable future. Please, feel free to add to this list if I've missed some! + +...... + +1️⃣ PREDICTION #1: ""a greater focus on packaging"" + + ++ people only want so much of the same thing. The thing we really haven't seen is the makeup companies going above & beyond to have stand-out packaging, bringing another dimension to the industry. + + ++ c-beauty products are already ahead of the mark, & thrive in this business. They are known not only for their highly performing products, but the absolutely luxurious packaging - at an affordable cost. + + ++ we will start seeing mainstream makeup brands create incredibly unique packaging standards across the board, because these companies are going to really need to draw people in. + +...... + +2️⃣ PREDICTION #2: ""mainstream makeup multichromes"" + + ++ currently, the Independent brands own the multichrome market - every single decent multichrome is made by an Indie company. + + ++ this is really an area that we haven't seen mainstream makeup companies delve into. + + ++ we will start seeing the institution of multichromes in mainstream brands' palettes + +...... + +3️⃣ PREDICTION #3: ""luxury shade range expansion"" + + ++ it is common knowledge that the luxury division of the cosmetics industry has yet to embrace inclusivity. It seems as if every new release has fewer & fewer shade options, & geared only toward a particular type of customer. + + ++ in today's society, with all of our knowledge & technological achievements - this type of apparent disregard for inclusivity is unsatisfactory. An important fact that these brands must consider, is that inclusivity equates to relevance. The more they continue to treat this negligence as an oversight, the faster their brands will become insignificant. + + ++ we will see a lot of the luxury brands start improving their shade ranges & providing product offerings suited to match a larger quantity of people. + +...... + +4️⃣ PREDICTION #4: ""green beauty revolution"" + + ++ the 'natural movement' is already currently taking place, & growing in strength every day. People high & low are seeking out only products that feature natural ingredients & do not pose a threat to the environment. + + ++ in many's opinion, not only the cosmetics products themselves should align to this view, but that components should also be eco-friendly. + + ++ we will see a tremendous growth in the natural beauty industry - with focus on clean formulas, environmentally-conscious componentry, & refillable products. + +...... + +5️⃣ PREDICTION #5: ""overall market price decreases"" + + ++ I think the height of impact for the makeup industry took place several years ago. Since then, the demand for new products has dwindled down greatly. + + ++ it seems as if every day, new brands are entering the market, becoming competition for established brands. + + ++ we will see an overall decrease in industry prices, as demand falls & supply increases. Every single company will become a competitor, & competing for YOUR attention. They will do so by dropping their prices. + +...... + +6️⃣ PREDICTION #6: ""new marketing tactics"" + + ++ it's very interesting - we've quite literally watched in awe at the rise & fall of influencer marketing. Many companies are turning away from this type of marketing, & focusing their efforts elsewhere. + + ++ with new technology advances, comes new marketing opportunities. In current tech, we are watching virtual reality become the status quo. Eventually, this will lead to a brand new form of virtual marketing. + + ++ we will see brands reach out to us on a more 'personal' level. Instead of paying third-parties to market their products, they will funnel those funds into learning about each interested individual, & learning what can transform them into a paying customer. + +...... + +7️⃣ PREDICTION #7: ""the fall of colourpop cosmetics"" + + ++ colourpop has said themselves that they aim to be the 'fast-fashion' of the beauty industry. The truth is that they've become lost in this notion & have begun LOSING customers (& potential customers) due to their overwhelming & overabundance of releases. + + ++ colourpop also resorts to the worst-ever sales tactics by engaging in 'inventory scarcity'. They purposefully keep their best-loved products out-of-stock, & out of the reach of their customers. They do this with the objective to increase product demand. They WANT you to be upset that your favorite product is unavailable, so you check back every day for it - & when they finally decide to ease sell-outs, the hope that unsuspecting customers will flock to their website, & buy that item at any offered price. This is how this company operates & stays afloat. + + ++ over the years, we've been privy to the slow, incremental price increases that colourpop silently declared. It wasn't very long ago that they were no doubt the MOST affordable brand. With their ever-increasing prices, they are just another overlooked, overpriced brand (it literally costs APPROXIMATELY $2 to manufacture an eyeshadow palette). It's not the CoG increasing, it's their markup. + + ++ we will see people begin to become completely fed-up with colourpop's business policies. After losing so many customers, they will be unable to remain solvent, & will fold. + +...... + +▪️RANDOM FACT: focus thought music through development of this post - pantera's cemetery gates + +......",0 +9245,What mascara do you recommend?. I feel like some mascara leave my eyelashes filled with ink and it gets messy. This makes my eyelashes stick together which ruins the entire makeup,0 +9246,How to spot a fake. I got an elf poreless putty primer and I think it's fake. I like in Europe so I can't get my hands on it that easily because it sells out pretty fast and I've found it on a different site and got it. The only difference I can see is that the new one doesn't have anything written on the bottom of the product. Other than that...is perfectly fine. Do you guys have anything written on the bottom of the primer ?,0 +9247,"Need Help. Christmas Gift. Hello my girlfriend really likes and has used the Nightmare Before Christmas Revolution Jack Palette for a while now and with it being discontinued and her running low, I would like to get her a similar makeup palette for christmas but can't find any. Please can people suggest some others, she likes purple and black eyeshadow primarily, thanks.",0 +9248,Using Concealer makes my eyes look way smaller than they are in pictures. Same as title. Noticed my eyes look smaller in pictures when compared to when I don’t have any makeup on. Does anyone know why? I am so lost.,0 +9249,"got a day to myself to try being fem and do makeup what should i do?. +for context i’m 16 (a boy) and i have about four hours in the house where everyone is gone which gives me time to be fem what should i try out?",0 +9250,"overlining? now I look like a clown. Ok i love the lip looks I see online but when I overline or when i just tried oval-lining it just ends up looking like I never learned how to draw inside the lines. It always looks so obvious that its coloring outside the line even when its by just the smallest amount. +What am I missing? Please someone tell me the secrets!!!!",0 +9251,"Tips for oily skin. Hi! My name is Senna and I have combination skin with the tendency to get more oily. Especially when I wear make-up. I really need a tip that solves my problem, because I always have to powder my skin every 30min at parties bc my skin in oily. PLS HELP😭 What can I do?",0 +9252,"brown eyeliner/eyeshadow for POC. asking fellow brown /POC people + +what brown eyeliner/eyeshadow do you use? Everything I've tried basically blends in with my skin and is barely visible",0 +9253,"How I do my no makeup makeup. I kind of gave up on doing heavy makeup looks and this is the routine that works best for me: + +- I don’t always but sometimes i prime (hard candy - not sure the shade but the tube is blue and pink) + +- I skip foundation and use concealer where needed. The concealer is also an exact shade match and I like the kosas one because it gives off a nice glow + +- for blush I just use whatever I have tbh but I only apply a light amount + +- Fill in eyebrows where needed. I actually prefer to use brown eyeshadow for brows + +- I add a bit of bronzer on the eyes + +- I do contour my nose but it gives away the whole “no makeup” aspect of it because the shade is too dark lol + +- For lips I use a tint sometimes but tbh I mostly use Vaseline or any type of lip balm + +- I like to use a baked highlighter (the elf one) because it doesn’t sparkle but it usually doesn’t show that much because the concealer itself is already glowy + +- then final thing I use mascara",0 +9254,"Gf Loves Huda Stuff. I want to surprise her with a similar brand.. My gf has received lots of Huda cosmetics stuff from me in the past months. I want to surprise her but I don't know anything about make-up. Can you please suggest any similar brands and which make up lines within the brands are good. She likes those mini pallete kind of things with a million colors. + +Thanks!",0 +9255,"Blush for older women. I am my late 50s, and my Estée Lauder blush is in crumbles. As is my Nars and B Brown. Is there anyone out there that can recommend a good blush for an older, fair skinned, cool undertones, dark hair? It was so confusing when I looked on the hourglass website. I am open to any suggestions. The EL and BB colors are obsolete. Jury is out on Nars Orgasm; I like it but I’m sure there is something better? Seems a little too shimmery for my age. Thank you for your suggestions!",0 +9256,"what's your favorite palette with NO misses. Most palettes seem to have at least 1 dud eyeshadow. For me, ABH Soft Glow and the new Odens Eye Solmane II are all hits!!",0 +9257,"Using the ring finger has been the best tool for under eye concealer (deep set eyes)!. I have been using my ring finger for the past few months and it’s worked a treat with my deep set (hollow) eyes as brushes are often not enough to get in the crevices. The other day I got the Rare Beauty concealer brush (after loving the foundation brush) as I thought it might work as good as fingers but it didn’t perform as well as I hoped. Fingers all the way! + +Of course this should work for any eye type!",0 +9258,"Anyone have any tips for this?. So, in the summer it's super hot where I live. When I have sunglasses on, it always takes off my concealer and leaves a mark on my nose. Does anyone have any tips to be able to reduce concealer rubbing off where sunglasses rest on your nose? + +Thanks in advance!",0 +9259,"Skin tint/liquid foundation method of application?. Hey makeup gurus, so i keep seeing ads pop up where someone who has a skin tint will drip it onto their cheeks and forehead then rub it in with their hands. Is this a gimmick for commercial? Or are you guys actually applying this way? +How do you apply your liquids?",0 +9260,"How to do eyeliner? (help). Ok so I am a guy and I have no experience with makeup except one time my friend did eyeliner on me and i liked it. I have an event coming up and I want to wear eyeliner, maybe something like the top middle picture or the bottom left in this link: [https://imgur.com/YlkKE20](https://imgur.com/YlkKE20) I like how it goes pointy and then inside the eye near nose there is also a pointy + +The event is in 10 days is there any way I can learn to do eyeliner like this in that time? If so, what is like the easiest way to do it, does anyone have any tips or recommended products? Also, I know your eye shape matters for it, my eyes look like this: [https://imgur.com/1HrGfsy](https://imgur.com/1HrGfsy) is there anything I should know?",0 +9261,"Can I use my expired MAC powder foundation?. I believe I bought it not too long before the pandemic, and I really haven't opened it again once lockdowns and mask wearing happened. Since it's been opened very minimally, would it be safe to use?",0 +9262,"NYX not selling fullsized lipsticks?. I’ve been using minisized NYX lip products for awhile. I’ve ran out of them now, and i’ve been searching for my fav colours online. Do they not make minis into fullsized ones? i’m especially looking for NYX lingerie in slip and buttergloss in glaze-y days… I haven’t found these colours on any resellers nor on their own website!",0 +9263,Do you guys have any favorite fake eyelashes ?. ,0 +9264,"Purple eyeshadow. Hello, does anyone have any recommendations for a matte purple eyeshadow in a grape-like shade? + +I’m also looking for a more blue toned purple as well.",0 +9265,"Eyeliner that doesn’t give me the raccoon eyes?. Does it even exist lol? I don’t know why I have such an issue compared to other people. Like you’ll see someone that looks amazing with a large amount of eyeliner on. I just put a little on my lids and not even an hour later it’s made it’s way under my eyes. Every ‘waterproof’ eyeliner I’ve ever tried has been bad. Any good brands out there that have worked for you? Admittedly, I usually only buy the cheaper stuff, but I’m willing to spend the $20/30 if it’s actually good.",0 +9266,"How to get my eyeshadow more noticeable due to hooded eyes. I have hooded lids it makes eyeshadow hard to see and I was wondering if theirs any tips to make it more noticeable I often out on very thin eyeliner as it can completely overtake my eyes + +I also have thick lashes so I don't wear mascara very often but they also tend to hide my lids as well",0 +9267,"Does anyone know what the deal is with Karity?. I used to love Karity's eyeshadow palettes and went to their website today to see what's new. There's a blurb at the top of their site that says everything is sold out and no new orders will be accepted, along with a ""Christmas came early"" promotion that seems outdated. I figured that wasn't too crazy since distribution lines still seem to be quite interrupted due to the current climate. + +I thought I would check out their Instagram and see if they might have made any relevant announcements in regards to this back-up. They haven't posted anything since 10/31 which is odd. I checked comments on recent posts and it seemed to be entirely people whose orders were canceled without explanation or people who never received their orders. + +I checked their site again to see if I missed any kind of going out of business announcement. Nada. + +Does anyone know what the deal with Karity is? Will they ever make a return? I pretty much shop indie brands for all of my eyeshadow cosmetics and they were a heavy hitter for my collection once upon a time. I'll be so sad if they went under! Anyone know anything?",0 +9268,How do you all prep your face for makeup?. I just turned 31 and am trying to “romanticize my life” by elevating my look. The last 2 years I’ve not worn makeup and kinda stopped caring. I’m trying to get an everyday look but not sure where to start.,0 +9269,"In your opinion, what is the ugliest makeup palette ever?. Inspired by Smokey Glow",0 +9270,I'm really insecure about how one of my eyes bulges out more than the other. Could makeup fix this?. [https://imgur.com/a/N70aZPY](https://imgur.com/a/N70aZPY),0 +9271,"A nice dark purple matte lipstick?. so, there's this adorable little goth girl at my work, and she has been trying to find a dark purple lipstick that's long lasting without smearing awfully. I just learned Shes going to be celebrating her 30th birthday alone and I figured I'd get her a gift. I don't do lipstick, and I like lighter colors, so I was wondering what brands people recommend.",0 +9272,Can I use a eyeshadow shade name that’s already in use?. I am wanting to create a makeup pallet. I have found 2 online similar but not so much. And different colors. But one pallet has a shade name I’m wanting to use in mine and I can’t substitute it or I would. The pallet is copyrighted. Can I still use the shade name or is it fair use?,0 +9273,"Need a foundation for very fair skin with a radiant finish. I'm new to makeup so I don't really know what I'm looking for or what is good. I was thinking of getting a cushion foundation or tinted moisturizer to get that dewy look. I don't want anything matte whatsoever lol. Any recommendations? + +Edit: thanks so much for the replies!! You guys have helped a lot 😭🙏🏻",0 +9274,"What’s everyone’s skincare and makeup product lineup?. I am a major makeup junkie, so I have quite the collection. But I have grown bored of my typical skincare and makeup routine, so I am looking for some new products. All price ranges are acceptable. I love supporting small businesses as well, so indie makeup brands would be especially appreciated. Please let me know your favorite products!",0 +9275,What can I use instead of eyebrow gel?. I don’t usually wear a lot of makeup but lately I’ve been using brow gel. I love how it makes my eyebrows look but I don’t love how expensive the gel is. Is there another product I can use instead of buying brow gel? Would hair gel do the same thing for cheaper?,0 +9276,"Repress blush using setting spray?. Face palette I ordered came slightly damaged, I'd rather just repress the blush than return it. I know you're supposed to use rubbing alcohol, but I have sensitive skin. Would one of my inexpensive setting sprays work instead?",0 +9277,"Boyfriend looking for Purchase Recommendations?. Hi everybody, hopefully I'm in the right subreddit or can get sent there by one of you! + +So my partner is pretty hard to shop for and experiences an amount of ""gift anxiety"" (feelings of ""I don't deserve this/it's too nice for me/buying me stuff is a waste"") that makes gift giving even trickier, but recently we were at a Winners and came across some of what I think are called palettes? They're little packs with 12 to 16 different coloured squares of makeup that seem to be used for eyeshadow. And apparently they were exciting enough that I was allowed to buy one as a gift! Which was something I haven't experienced before with this partner because again, there's a lot of negative/guilty emotions around gift giving that I'm always kind of running up against. + +The three total we wound up with were called **Rude x Koi Footwear Boots Collection - Helios Hologram Flame Boots, Rude x Koi Footwear Boots Collection - Lozo Green Rain Boots** and **BH Cosmetics Avocado Toast Shadow Palette** and all three have been super popular already. + +Anyway, now that I seem to have an outlet to express my gift giving affection I'd like to learn more about what would be worth buying in the future. I have very little understanding of makeup but I can give some rough notes about my partner; + +Winged eyeliner, mascara and eyeshadow is pretty common but lipstick apparently comes across ""trashy"" a lot of the time (I guess because it's a bit dolled up or showy or something?) and the general vibe is pretty alternative, punk, probably goth but I have to be a bit careful with that because I have kind of a known goth girl dating history and it would maybe land wrong as a gift if it seemed like I was pressuring my current partner to dress up as previous partners/flings/etc. Aside from that, not much for coverup/foundation/etc., it's mostly all just... eyework? Is that what you call it? + +The palettes are getting a ton of use but from reading online it seems like these are maybe like, ""cheap"" ones or entry level or sort of frugal? I try to equate it with stuff I know like coffee or car parts where you can buy higher grade stuff for a better experience, I assume it's similar here? Are there higher quality palettes that still have the fun alt kind of vibes? + +Aside from that for mascara or eyeliner we seem to usually just wind up with whatever is at Walmart or the pharmacy - usually that Elf brand stuff. I don't know if Elf is fine, I think every girl I've ever dated had some of that in their bathroom, but again connecting to what I am familiar with, Wal-Mart coffee or engine oil isn't really something I'd go in for. + +Budget is basically whatever, I'm sure there are like ten thousand dollar kits or whatever that would make me feel silly for saying that but these were super cheap and I'd be happy spending more to get better stuff to use. I'm also down for any kind of links for reading or whatever so I can understand what I'm doing better and not buy pointless stuff, if anyone has any of that? + +Thanks in advance, everybody!",0 +9278,"makeup that doesn’t transfer but has an “unset”, glowy look?. hi, does anyone have any recommendations for any powders or setting spray that will really lock makeup in place for hours but doesn’t take away from the glowyness of the makeup? i have an event coming up where i need the makeup to last really well but i hate having a powdery, matte makeup look. if anyone can reccomend any products (preferably ones that are available in ireland) it would be great :)",0 +9279,"How to stop under eye concealer from creasing?. Is it possible to stop under eye concealer creasing or is that inevitable? I have lines under my eyes and I just can't seem to stop my concealer from creasing. I have dry under eyes (not too much) and I load it with toner and moisturizer to prep it. I've tried matte to hydrating concealers and although the hydrating concealer helped, it still creased at the end of the day. Not as much as a matte would tho. I'm also a bit confused with how to set it. Is it better to just brush over it with a bit of loose powder or bake it? I also live in a hot humid climate if that has anything to do with it. Please share your tips with me and possibly product recommendations as well. Thank you! :)",0 +9280,"blushes that fit perfectly on darker skin tone. Blushes shouldn't be that difficult to put on but yet the one I bought from Walmart is too LIGHT on my face... I thought it would be just a simple pink blush but I guess I have to get colors that are at least darker to fit my skin tone. Like the different shades of red, for example. I wish I could give the product name but I threw away the box so I can't really provide the brand name :/) there's not that much variety of blushes to buy at Walmart are there any cheaper ones that I can buy in cheaper stores? Should I order my makeup product on amazon? + +edit: THANK YOU SO MUCH GUYS! ",0 +9281,"Your 1# face powder?. Funnily enough, i had such a nice powder from a nobody brand and super cheap, but now it's gone from the shelf. So i went and bought another triple the price and from Revlon and it SUCKS. +It barely holds the makeup and on top of it creates patches and textured skin. + +I'm looking for a transparent no pigment powder that does well holding the makeup. I have a combination skin. What is your best powder? + +EDIT: Thanks so much for the suggestions ♡",0 +9282,"What are the best under eye setting powders?. I’ve noticed in the past 2 years that my under eyes crease a lot. I’m almost 27, dry skin, with fine lines under eyes. + +I have found that my under eyes look better without concealer as I don’t really need the coverage, dark circles aren’t a concern for me and I’ve tried probably 30 concealers over the years and most just made my skin look old. + +So I’ll typically just lightly go over the under eye area with whatever foundation I’m using (I use foundations geared towards normal-dry skin) but I do have to set it with a powder because I will get insane creasing throughout the day. + +What are your favorite setting powders for the under eye area? And, if there’s a light weight concealer you absolutely love, and doesn’t crease much/if at all, what is it? + +Thank you!",0 +9283,"Good luxury eye and lip pencils that last longer than a week?. I really liked Charlotte Tilbury eye and lip pencils, but they last around a week because they aren’t actually pencils, but instead plastic sticks that contain barely any product. I’m okay with paying more but I don't want to rebuy products like groceries.",0 +9284,"What is the harm with using expired lipstick?. I came across a Mac lipstick (without a lid ) from like 2017 which looks almost perfect, compared it with my new one and theres no flaws besides a few hairs. I didn’t plan to use it but I got wondering if by some chance it could be “safe” and not just like gross lmao. the reason why I care is because I love Mac and their products are pricey for me at least. So I’m wondering what the harm is and using them, bacteria?",0 +9285,"makeup remover balm recommendations?. i currently use the clinique “take the day off” balm and i love it sm, but i was wondering if there are any cheaper options? i’m in no rush to change it, but it wouldn’t hurt to look at my choices! i think it works very well and when i look at other options their reviews aren’t as great. + +i have dry, sensitive skin so i try to avoid scented products, but remover doesn’t stay on your face for long so i’m not too concerned abt that :) + +thanks in advance for any suggestions!",0 +9286,"Foundation on a budget. I've been using Estee Lauder Double Wear Light foundation for years now and I really love it. Currently I am having some financial difficulties and can't afford DW light anymore. Can anyone recommend a more affordable foundation that has a similar coverage and texture as DW light? + +Thanks",0 +9287,Dior Addict Lip Glow. Worth it or nah?. I’m trying to decide whether I should get one…and what shade is best for olive skin tone? Thanks!,0 +9288,"Apart from regular normal black eyeliner, which other colored eyeliner is a must have in makeup- kit?. ",0 +9289,"My family friend who just lost her eye brows and hair due to chemo asked me for makeup advice.. I used to want to be a makeup artist when I was younger but I stopped wearing makeup lol. + +I wear mascara sometimes but nothing else. + +I don’t know what to recommend to her",0 +9290,i struggle with using eyeliner and i cant draw properly any advice?. ,0 +9291,Cardinal sin?. I swear powder foundation looks and does better for me than liquid foundation does. Am I alone in this feeling? I feel like I shouldn't feel this way!!,0 +9292,"Urban Decay Born to Run. So I bought my first non drugstore makeup, the UD Born to Run eye-shadow palette and I'm in LOVE!! I love it so much! + +I've been trying a few of YouTube's tutorial on looks from the palette, does anyone have any looks they like from this palette. Whether it be one that you saw online or one of your own, I'd love to see it!!",0 +9293,"Rare Beauty Foundation. Does anyone have tips when using this foundation. I bought it because people had good reviews on it, but the formula is so awful. I love the coverage and shade match, but looks so caked up and streaky.",0 +9294,"Eyeshadow palette with the wettest looking shimmer?. Similar to the Side 2 Side shade in the Colourpop Sweet Talk palette but with a finer, barely individually visible glitter. + + +I've been interested in trying out glossy lid eye makeup looks but I don't want to apply gloss on my lids.",0 +9295,"Satin finish eyeshadows. Could anybody recommend a good satin finish eyeshadow, preferably light pink as I am fair? I am also older, so shimmering eyeshadows show all my wrinkles. I would be using it from brow to crease. I have used Urban Decay Strange but unfortunately it can only be bought in the Naked 3 pallet. I tried Temptalia which recommended Lucky You by Colorpop, but it is discontinued. Also if you have better recommendations, they would be appreciated. Thank you!",0 +9296,"What mascara should I ask for Christmas?. So I want to ask my sister for a mascara, - travel size doesn't bother me- for less than 20$. +My issue is that I have very long lashes but they dry and become less dense with shitty products like maybelines. The best mascara I've ever had is one made from hemp that I received in a makeup box but its been discontinued. +Any suggestion? I was thinking about ""Charlotte Tillburry pillow talk push up lashes"" - travel size ofc- but I don't like to be influenced by online ratings or trends. I was also thinking about the ""terrybly n*1 Black parti-pris by Terry"" as it is also in top trends on Sephora. +Thank you in advance for your help!",0 +9297,"Lip color to downplay yellowed teeth?. Hi friends, + +I’m realizing that the lip color I am most attracted to (mauve/brown-pinks) seems to highlight the yellow (coffee stains) on my teeth. Whitening aside, what lip colors should I look for that might downplay the yellow on my teeth? + +I’m Caucasian/Asian, white presenting with yellow undertones. (I use IT Cosmetics foundation in Light Neutral 22, if that helps).",0 +9298,any suggestions on how to keep bottom eye liner from running down? and from moving to the sides of the eyes throughout the day?. ,0 +9299,Cool Toned Eyeshadow Palette. I’m looking for a cool toned eyeshadow palette or a palette that works well with dark blue or grey eyes if anyone has a recommendation!,0 +9300,Best makeup brush brand?. Looking to splurge and get a set of high quality makeup brushes that will last a long time. Any brand suggestions? Any and all recommendations would be greatly appreciated!,0 +9301,how to layer more concealer without it going cakey.. ,0 +9302,"I have impossibly dark under eyes. When I had my make up profesionally done, she got rid of them perfectly but I have no idea how she did it! Any advice?. I remember she put some gel pad things under my eyes that sat there while she worked on my eyeshadow/liner. There wasn't a mirror in front of me and she didn't speak english so I didn't know what she was doing but she did such an amazing job! I'm a novice with makeup and covering my dark circles is the one thing I can never really cover up properly.",0 +9303,"What happened to Charlotte Tilbury?. I've been a beauty youtube fan on and off since I was a teenager and I know brands go from trendy to not really easily. Usually it's new or newer brands that get this boost. + +Charlotte Tilbury has been around for quite a while, and up to this year it had always seemed to be overpriced and underquality. So what the hell happened? How did it blow up almost overnight to be THE brand that everyone talks about?",0 +9304,Best eyeshadow palettes for hazel eyes. ,0 +9305,"Best drugstore foundation for oily skin. Hello everyone! I'm sorry if this is the 100th post on the sub with this question. I wish there was a search option because scrolling through so many posts is really time consuming. +Anyway I currently use the rare beauty liquid touch weightless foundation and I like that's it's so weightless. The only problem is my face gets super oily when I'm wearing it, which wouldn't be so bad because I like glowy make up. The glow on my face with this foundation is a little too much. Now I'm wondering if there's a matte foundation that is lightweight and isn't too matte. I would love to hear your experiences.",0 +9306,"Piggybacking off the eyeshadow for oily lids post, plz help me with mascara hacks for oily lids!. I have tried everything I know. Different brands of mascara, water proof, long wear, setting powder under my eyes, lid primer (I don’t know why I thought that would work- it was a shot in the dark). I’m at the point that I barely wear it anymore bc of perpetual raccoon eyes. The flaking and under eye smudge is intense. + +I would just resign to not wearing it at all ever, but my lashes are blonde and I look like Kermit. + +Any hot tips?",0 +9307,"where to start learning basic makeup. I really want to learn the basics of everyday makeup but with all the brushes, products, etc I get a little lost and it isn't too practical for an everyday normal look. + +Any suggestions? I usually just use a primer and put makeup on like lotion which is not really working out anymore...lol",0 +9308,"i don't understand the hype of Maybelline Superstay Matte Ink. They have super pretty colors, but I don't understand + +I bought the shade ""Mover - 160"" because it was a dupe for one of my favorite lipstick shades, and it claims to be transferproof, but I don't see it. It definitely is kiss proof, but when I drink from any container or eat anything, it smudges off immediately. It is also very drying no matter how much chapstick i put on or how soft and healthy my lips are, it actually makes my lips bleed after one day wear. Is this all matte lipsticks? I do know some of them are drying because of the lack of hydration & gloss, but seriously. + +This product is very hyped up and I didnt buy it because of TikTok, I only bought it because it was transferproof and a perfect color dupe. I don't understand??",0 +9309,"Best drugstore mascara with a thick formula?. My favorite mascara is Grande Drama, but I’ve been looking for a much cheaper alternative. I like the thicker formula of the mascara so that I only have to apply one coat. Anyone know of a good drugstore dupe?",0 +9310,"How to use concealer and foundation?. Hello I am a trans girl pre everything and I'm trying to learn how to do makeup to feminise my face + + + +I'm just watching videos rn before I buy anything (I have only bought a cheap lipstick) and they use foundation and concealer + + +But I didn't get which one goes first or if I have to apply it to all my face? + + +And also how do I choose a foundation to my type of skin? (Idk what my skin is if dry or oily or more things I saw)",0 +9311,"can i use my fingers instead of makeup brushes?. for blending concealer, bb cream and liquid blush, would using a clean finger instead of a brush be alright?",0 +9312,Setting spray recs?. I'm about to have prom and I've heard about Urban Decay and Mac Plus but I need something that will hold all night. I'd also welcome primer recs if y'all have any!! TYSM!!,0 +9313,"Blue eyeliner recommendation. Can someone please give me a nice blue eyeliner? + +No price range, I just ask for it to be vegan and cruelty free. I have not been able to find an actual good one and at this point I’m just desperate lol + +[edit] thanks so much for your recommendations:)",0 +9314,"I’m completely clueless about makeup, but I’d like to get into it and I was gifted this set of brushes. Which brush is intended for what?. [Photo](https://imgur.com/a/6X8G5du)",0 +9315,"Oily Skin. I just treated myself to a bunch of new makeup, bare minerals liquid foundation, setting powder and setting spray. A countour stick. My skin is so oily looking. I was using bare minerals powder before but decided to try something new. Help! I’m 34 years old.",0 +9316,DIY eyeshadow to eyeliner?. hello! i was wondering if there was a way for me to make eyeliner out of eyeshadow! i wanna get more colorful but everythings so expensive T__T thanks in advance!,0 +9317,"Contour help. The color I have is darker than my skin tone but is not seen after I blend. I tried it over foundation and without foundation. Oh and I use a cream stick. + +Should I add more product or try a darker shade? + +Thanks for the help!",0 +9318,"Favorite neutral palette?. I’m trying to find something that leans cool toned and contains a mix of mattes and satin and/or shimmers (but not super glittery). I like to use eye shadow as eyeliner as well so something that includes a pigmented dark brown or black would be ideal. I can’t stand getting fallout on my face from dark colors or shimmers that migrate, that’s currently part of the struggle. TIA!",0 +9319,"flaking skin on my nose :(. hi there, i’m not the greatest with makeup but i do understand my basics. i’ve been getting dry/flaking skin on my nose after i apply foundation/concealer (even if i apply a super small amount, it just clings to dry patches). i also have an alright skincare routine. i use a cerave cleanser, a hyaluronic serum, and a moisturiser all while my skin is still damp. i apply my foundation (L’oréal Infallible) with a wet beauty blender. i don’t use primer, so could that be my issue? i’ve tried a few all with zero success (benefit porefessional, milani no pore zone). they made my foundation look so much worse and it was a confidence-knocking experience as i had such high hopes :( +my skin is actually super oily (primarily my t-zone), and it’s always really smooth especially around my nose area. the main reason i wear foundation on my nose is because i naturally have a very red nose and cheeks. i would opt for no foundation but i really cannot feel confident when i look like i’m constantly blushing. + +there is no bigger mood killer than when i’m going somewhere, then i apply my foundation and it’s physically just peeling off of my nose. + +is there anything i can do to get rid of this flaky/patchy foundation on my nose?",0 +9320,"What are you favorite “dupes?”. I recently purchased the Kat von d liquid gel contour because I heard it was a dupe for the Charlotte tilbury contour wand. + +What are some other “dupes” you guys swear by?",0 +9321,Mascara or eyeliner residue. I cannot seem to remove either mascara or eyeliner completely. There's always some type of residue left no matter how many times I wipe my eyes. Does anybody have any tips on completely removing these items? Thank you so much!,0 +9322,Which do you prefer - false lashes or lash extensions?. ,0 +9323,"What’s in your opinion the best eyeshadow palette right now?. I’m planning on giving away my old eyeshadow palettes and just start on a fresh! I’m still stuck in the 2016 Morphe pallets 🤦🏽‍♀️ and even some of the techniques. So I’m out of the loop. Please fill me in with the best brands to buy from right now. + +Thank you!",0 +9324,best eye blending brushes for hooded eyes?. I always end up getting blending brushes that r so fluffy they blend near my eyebrow its too far up. I need something that is small and will fit into my hood of my eye.,0 +9325,"Matte black, grey, white only palette?. hi, i really want a palette with matte grey eyeshadow and gray eyeshadow majority, and white would be nice too. BUT I CANT FIND A MOSTLY MATTE PALETTE!! why are majority of grays shiny? i just want matte eyeshadow . I do gothic inspired makeup and i don't always want to have shiny contour, or use it to blend out matte black eyeshadow. And also i cant buy a hella expensive palette, it doesn't necessarily have to be cheap but i'm not spending a shit ton on eyeshadow. i'm also sure even if i ask for it for christmas no one would spend that much on it either, which is understandable. any help is very appreciated :)",0 +9326,"I want to learn how to do makeup but don’t know where to start. I want to buy some makeup and learn how to do it but I don’t really know what there is apart from mascara/eyeshadow/eyeliner so would appreciate any advice. + +What are some good mascaras? + +Should I start with liquid eyeliner or pencil? + +Right now I do nothing to my brows. I used to tweeze but letting them grow a bit. Is eyebrow pencil a good idea? + +What can I use to make my skin look smoother? + +What about lips?",0 +9327,Custom palette. Hey all! I’m planning on getting my gf a custom makeup palette for her birthday but all the sites I have found doesn’t work. Was wondering if anyone has any suggestions or where I could go to find this? This is what I’m trying to get her https://imgur.com/a/DcUTnHW,0 +9328,I guess I don't understand undertones. my skin is what I call ruddy - it tends to have redness areas and I flush really. otherwise I'm pale. did this mean I have pink undertones?. ,0 +9329,Do you have a favorite makeup YouTuber?. ,0 +9330,what's the best eyeshadow palette color story you've ever seen? (inspired by one of the posts here :D). ,0 +9331,Rare Beauty Blush. Does anyone like the melting blush? I always hear about the other popular kind so would love opinions either way!,0 +9332,"Best sweat proof products?. Just started a job where I’m working outside with dogs a lot but also still going to our lobby to help out guests in the front. It’s humid where I live, my skin is naturally oily, and this is a VERY sweaty (and smelly) job. What are the products (skin tint, powder, blush, foundation, contour, concealer, primer, etc) that won’t slide off my face three hours into my shift?",0 +9333,"Heavy duty liquid lipstick recs?. Hi all! + +I'm going to a wedding soon and have my 2 year anniversary with my partner shortly after that. Both events will involve a lot of eating and drinking. I love playing around with liquid lipsticks, but I have found that there are many liquid lipsticks that claim to be long lasting, but come off rather easily when drinking and the like. + +Does anyone have recommendations for liquid lipsticks that actually stay on over the course of a longer event? I remember the Loreal Infallible liquid lipsticks were decent, but I would like to try something new if possible. + +Thanks for the help in advance!",0 +9334,"Struggling with my femininity. I’m a 22 year old, and I was never taught anything about makeup. I know a lot of people aren’t shown how to do their makeup and just learn from videos and stuff, but for some reason I was just more focused on school and other things when all my friends were learning how to be girly! + +At this point, I’m afraid to ask for help or advices on products! I’ve been a foundation and mascara only kind of person for pretty much ever…but I feel like I’m using products incorrectly? Or at least I’m not achieving the wanted effect. + +I’m trying to catch up on this lost time now, and really work on my physical self. So I guess what I’m asking is where do I start over? How do you learn makeup?😂 + +Thankful to Any and all help💜",0 +9335,Organize eyeshadow palettes?. Hey! What does everybody use to organize/store their eyeshadow palettes?! I don’t have much room but I do not want to put them in drawers bc I’ll forget about some and it will mess with my ocd. Any ideas?😊🫶🏼,0 +9336,"What’s the best foundation that will hide darker spots and blemishes but won’t crack/show every crack of skin?. When I put on foundation, it looks great. But a minute later, I can see every knick and cranny of skin and it starts flaking. Like dry mud in a desert I guess is a good example. + +What’s the best foundation that has medium-full (medium or full) coverage that won’t do this? + +My skin is sensitive but very dry by the way.",0 +9337,"Should I get setting spray if I only do eye makeup and concealer?. Hi! Hopefully someone can answer my question here. I wear eye makeup every day (eyeshadow, pencil eyeliner, light eyebrows), a tiny bit of lipstick for color, and sometimes small dabs of concealer (maybe like 4-6 ""dots""?). But when I come back home after a couple hours, my eye makeup has gotten much lighter from it coming off and my concealer basically isn't there anymore.... I don't wear any heavy base like foundation but will occasionally wear some bb cream. Would it help if I got setting spray? I've heard setting spray is mostly for foundation and contour so I don't know. For context, I have oily skin! Any drugstore recommendations will help, especially if I can just buy them from Amazon lol + +tldr; I wear eyeshadow, eyeliner, eyebrows, and some concealer. After a few hours, most of the makeup falls off and concealer is basically not there anymore. Should I get setting spray? (I have oily skin) + +Thanks so much everyone! Recommendations for setting spray are still needed lol, preferably on the cheaper side?",0 +9338,"Best way to get started?. So growing up I never had my mother or a sister to teach me anything about makeup, and spent a lot of time around male family members, so I never developed an interest in makeup. + +I’m in my early twenties now and after seeing some of the amazing makeup artistry I’ve seen, I want to learn but I’m not sure where to start - it all seems a little overwhelming with all the different products and applicators. + +Where would you recommend a complete newbie to start learning?",0 +9339,How to clean & disinfect brushes that hasn't been used in 2yrs?. My poor brushes has not been cleaned for more than 2yrs already. They're dirty and used. How can I clean and disinfect them? I hope they can still be salvaged as I don't have the funds to get new ones now.,0 +9340,eyeshadow pallets or colors u can remember using in the 2000s?. im thinking anything from 2000s-2010. i love this style era was wondering if anyone could recall shadows they used or remember being used. or if anyone could remember lipstick colors or glosses. ,0 +9341,"Color-Correcting Eye Concealer. Hi, I'm 21 and not too experienced with makeup. I have really bad dark circles with lots of blues and purples, some hints of green. Concealer helps the overall color but those darker streaks stick out. Color correctors cover it all but don't match my skin tone (have fair skin). + +Are there any combination products that I could try out to hide the dark colors and still match my skin tone? I am really hoping for just one product, I don't want to over-complicate things or make the process any longer. + +Hopefully something that doesn't crease, too! + +Would appreciate any help! <3",0 +9342,"Looking for recs for really good quality eyeshadow pallettes/brands!. I just got into make up recently and I've been playing around with some cheaper pallettes to learn the basics. I'm now looking to invest in some good quality pallettes - good colour payoff, formula etc. But I really don't know where to start, i just assumed that the more expensive ones would be good but there are always so many mixed reviews! + +If anyone has any recommendations for a particular pallette or a brand that is consistently good quality I would be so appreciative! TIA x",0 +9343,how do you take off mascara COMPLETELY??. A lot of my friends use micellar water or makeup removing wipes but I find that those never completely remove mascara for me. what i usually do is THOROUGHLY wash my face multiple times with soap and water and thats when the mascara goes away completely. some nights its so late for me tho and i dont feel like spending that long washing my face or waking up anyone else in the house with the noise of my sink. how do you clean off mascara completely without having to thoroughly wash your face?,0 +9344,What are some good setting powder that doesn’t cake and lasts long?. ,0 +9345,"Anyone order makeup from Wet & Wild's website Recently?. I ordered the Care Bears set from wetnwildbeauty.com April 6th and the order status is still ""on hold"" + +They don't answer emails and when you call the 1-800 # on the website, it tells you to submit a message through the contact form (that they don't respond to). + +PSA: If you *haven't* ordered from Wet N Wild's website -- **don't**.",0 +9346,"Wore a bare face all day, want to do makeup for date night. Do I do a full wash beforehand or not?. Add the title says, I've had a bare face all day. Morning skincare routine and sunscreen. Before going out to dinner tonight, is it best to do skin prep, or not? The idea of a full wash routine hours before bedtime routine sounds like a bit much, but I'm also so oily and ""worn in"" right now and now sure how makeup will sit on this face as is. + +What do you do for times like these? Would love to hear what works for you all!",0 +9347,"Undertone help. I can't seem to find my undertone. Sometimes, I feel like I could be a neutral but then I get really confused. I tan easily but my veins on my wrist are blue/purple so the common tests really throw me off. Any help?",0 +9348,"Alternatives to Huda Beauty Rose Quartz Eyeshadow Palette please?. Does anyone have any cheaper alternatives with colours similar, available in the UK please?",0 +9349,"Product for lips that isn't a lipstick / lipgloss that gives a red coloring? Help a total noob.. Hi, + + +First of all, I don't wear makeup and I never was a fan, so I have zero knowledge about this topic - sorry if my question is not very smart or something sounds weird here - I simply don't know how to describe the problem. +I lately saw a woman with red lips on tv - it looked like her lips were just tinted with red, instead of having a layer of some lipstick on them. What I mean is that I'm not a fan of lipsticks, as lips covered with them look kinda drawn? The edges are sharp and it just sticks out too much for my eye. Her lips didn't have those drawn edges, the shape was natural and blended into the skin, but her lips were red. + +I'm looking for a lip product that will give me color on top of my natural lips and just color them, instead of giving them a layer of a thick product. It could have been some lip gloss, but it wasn't sparkly and it didn't look greasy like a lip gloss does. +I hope this is not a stupid question and someone will know what I'm talking about. Thanks for any help! + + +Picture of what I want to avoid, in case it's not clear: [https://i.pinimg.com/originals/1a/05/bd/1a05bddaf52f9641c28481fbbc8a6aec.jpg](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/1a/05/bd/1a05bddaf52f9641c28481fbbc8a6aec.jpg)",0 +9350,"Pat McGrath Mothership Palettes - A Question. I have a female friend who posted recently on IG, expressing affection for Pat McGrath Mothership Palettes, but consternation at their cost. She is a make-up artist, working for a TV studio and taking appointments with her own clients for bridal make-up, personal brand photo shoots and so on. If I were to gift such a palette to her, and not being able to ask her which one she would like as it would be a surprise, which palette would be the most likely to be of practical use, given her likely needs? + +My thanks in advance for your insight in an area where I am admittedly less than informed. :)",0 +9351,"Best foundation for oily skin?. My entire life I had amazing skin. I didn’t use anything on it, most of my teen and 20s were spent hungover wearing last nights makeup. Since this past summer when I turned 31, I suddenly have horrible acne, I have to wash my hair everyday, and use face wash and moisturizer to even out the dryness from the acne wash. My go to was always fenty pro filt’r soft matte long wear, but it lasts maybe a cpl hours before my skin becomes oily and I wanna wash it off. I’m so lost! Please help..",0 +9352,"Hooded/oily eye lids. Hey all! I’m in the market for a new eyeliner and lid primer that is good for hooded and oily lids. +The combo I’m using is not working anymore. +My current primer is the smash box lid primer in the light purple squeeze tube and the Tarte Sex Kitten Felt Tip Eyeliner. + +Thank you I’m advance!",0 +9353,"How do you guys bring makeup along with you for the day - do you pack it into a makeup bag or buy duplicates to keep in your purse?. I’ve been wearing makeup for a while now and I always like to bring it with me to tackle the day. They come in handy whenever I need to touch up my makeup. + +Question is, do you guys bring along the exact products you used (in the morning, for example, when you first put your makeup on) along with you for the day in a makeup bag, or do you guys buy duplicates so that the duplicate products can always be kept in your purse? + +I’ve always brought the same products along with me but lately I’ve felt that it makes my vanity messy (digging through to find what I want to pack into my makeup bag), and also a bit hectic if I’m in the rush and need to pack my makeup quickly. + +Or, would you guys recommend packing only the essentials on the go? Any tips would be appreciated!!",0 +9354,should u apply concealer when ur moisturiser is still damp or when it’s fully dry?. makeup has been patchy for months..,0 +9355,"Foundation lightener. Hey! So my fiancé went out and bought me foundation 🥹 (Isn’t that so sweet?) even though we FaceTimed and I asked him to get the L’Oréal Matte Pro Finish 102 She’ll Beige, he got the 107 Beige. So close! I even sent him a pic but he got confused. Poor guy! Even still, I don’t want to waste foundation or money because we are on one income while I’m in beauty school, so I was wondering if there is a hack to lighten up my foundation? I’ve used the moisturizer trick and it works okay but is there something better? Thanks guys!",0 +9356,"Foundation makes my chin look so prominent/longer?. I think my chin is maybe slightly longer than it should be, but foundation really emphasizes it! The natural shadows under my lip and under my chin which shape it will disappear with foundation. How do I prevent this? Making everything one color really makes my chin stand out and look disproportionate.",0 +9357,"People who have used makeup subscription services like IPSY, how did you like them?. Would you say the products are good quality, a good match for your face/style, worth the sub cost? +If you’ve tried multiple companies, which is the best?",0 +9358,"I have a 5-year old Tartelette in Bloom palette. Should I throw it out?. It's barely used, the shadows aren't dried out, and it smells fine. Normally I would keep it and spray it with some alcohol + +BUT + +The thing that I'm worried about is the 'natural' ingredients that Tarte uses in their eyeshadow, like the Amazonian clay. I'm assuming the more natural stuff actually expires and is prone to bacteria?",0 +9359,"What lip product works for you?. I’ve been trying to find a lip product that moisturizes your lips and not leave them dry after they are taken off. + +Looked at lip oils, lip balms, lip masks, but haven’t pulled a trigger to buy a specific product. + +Would love some recommendations.",0 +9360,What is your go to eyeshadow palette?. ,0 +9361,Anyone know any good ways to get rid of stretch marks?. ,0 +9362,"Lip stains. Hey all, +Id like opinions and suggestions for lip stains that actually last and hold pigment through out the day. Thank you to anyone who answers, im very interested in the suggestions.",0 +9363,Basic Makeup Supplies. I am trying to get into makeup more and I need help knowing what are the “ essentials “ of what someone needs for a makeover for a beginning. Should I get a eyeshadow kit? Are there makeup kits that are reliable and good for beginners that I should get? I really just have no idea what I’m looking for so anything would be helpful.,0 +9364,what's everyone's favorite micellar cleansing water?. ,0 +9365,blackheads / sebaceous filaments on nose. how do you cover them up with makeup? i have a lot on my nose and it’s really frustrating.,0 +9366,BB cream for oily skin?. I'm looking for recommendations for a BB cream that isn't so shiny. My skin is combination and very oily in some areas and it gets very shiny. I also highly value the product having SPF of 30 at least.,0 +9367,"what’s the difference between Ardell “demi wispies” and “wispies”? (looking for everyday natural). hi! is there a major difference between those two types of Ardell lashes? I’m looking for an everyday natural, that i hope to use with Kiss falscara",0 +9368,"E.l.f hydrating camo concealer creases like crazy!. I’ve been using the elf hydrating concealer since it came out and I really like it, but I’ve noticed that by the time I’ve completed my whole face it already begins to crease and separate. I’ve tried switching up my base routine but nothing has worked. I wonder if other people have experienced this too??",0 +9369,Mold on my favorite palette! :(. Opened up my favorite makeup palette and found that one pan had mold on top of the pressed powder… what can I do? Why did this happen? The palette is sold out 🥲 is it safe to use if I clean it or is that nasty?,0 +9370,"Waterproof eyeliner 💧. Hi everyone! So I'm going to this party in a month, that includes swimming in a pool. And since it's a party, and I love wearing eyeliner as it compliments my eyes, I thought of wearing eyeliner BUT, I also want to enjoy the pool. So I was wondering if you all know some good and strong waterproof eyeliners ? And a good product to remove it afterwards. Thank you for your help :) + +PS: English is not my first language, I'm sorry for the possible mistakes!",0 +9371,"Something between setting powder and highlighter?. I need something to set my foundation (Clinique Even Better Glow - shade neutral). My skin is normal to dry, definitely not oily. + +I was using Catrice Glow Illusion powder - it really gave a beautiful glowy natural finish AND helped set my foundation. But alas they don’t make it anymore. + +Almost all the ones I’ve tried make my skin look flat and one dimensional. Have tried various translucent, skin color and banana powders and they all look too dull. I am currently using a Revolution highlighter with a stippling brush - it’s okay but maybe a bit too much for every day. + +Is there something I can use to set my makeup that’s not going to make me flat? TIA!",0 +9372,Tips for Sweat. I sweat pretty heavily. For stage and other heavier makeup do you have any tips for keeping it in place besides frequent touch ups?,0 +9373,Can you wear pressed powder without foundation?. I was wondering if you could wear pressed powder without foundation on?,0 +9374,makeup remover. I've been using micellar water and it works okay but I'm just wondering if there is a better option. I'm looking for a reasonably priced decent product that can work well with mascara and other eye makeup,0 +9375,"What's THE item that would look fabulous to use/carry in public?. I want to buy my friend(f/23) a makeup product as her graduation gift. She's not a big makeup person and usually would only wear light makeup to work. + + +However, she just got a new job and I want her to have something that she can pull out to use at work or in public that has cute packaging and would just look fabulous when using. + + +I was thinking of a Dior Lip Glow and YSL water stain tint kind of products that are lightweight. But I would appreciate other recommendations from everyone as well ! Thank you all in advance.",0 +9376,why do i have to use primer. pls dont judge im new to makeup but i cant figure out why i should use primer but not moisturiser,0 +9377,"Has your attitude towards makeup change as you gotten older?. Back in the day, I was watching Allison (formally known as Amarixe on Youtube) & I love her videos. I always admired her makeup. 7 or 6 years ago, she started a journey towards minimalism & during that time & once she got married, I can see that her attitude towards makeup has started to change. She once wore neutral but heavy shimmery eyes & brightly color nude lips, now she wears light eyes & tinted lips. I do remember her saying that she might stop wearing makeup altogether. + +I have nothing against it & she seems happy now than ever. For me now, I like putting on & wearing makeup because it makes me feels good. It's just for me & as long as I acknowledge & love myself without it, I'm gonna keep on doing it for a long as I can. + +I'm curious to know that at what point in your life did your attitude towards makeup change.",0 +9378,"Help! Every concealer I use creases!. I’ve tried Tarte, Covergirl, Nars, and am thinking about trying It Cosmetics next. Every concealer creases under my eyes whether I set it with powder or not. I’ve been moisturizing my whole eye area twice a day because I was told it might be due to dehydration. I prime and prep the area but it never stays smooth. I do have genetically more wrinkles, so I am aware that there might be some fine lines, but it’s quite noticeable even from afar and doesn’t look good. Any advice is appreciated thanks!",0 +9379,"Is there a makeup product you prefer to make/mix yourself rather than buying it at a store? I’d love to hear about it!. I’ve recently become interested in potentially making my own setting spray. It feels like such a waste to buy so many tiny bottles, and it’s expensive to boot! + +Are there any items in your routine that you mix or make yourself?",0 +9380,Any recommendation for a easy eyeliner to use?. I’ve been using make up casually for a while and I’ve always been very bad at using eyeliner. I struggle with everything about it honestly. Do you guys have any recommendations of products which are easy to use?,0 +9381,"Does anyone know a dupe for Jeffree Star Cosmetics Lip scrubs?. Jefree Star has the best lip scrubs. They don’t leave a weird oily sheen on the lips, they actually scrub your lips really well, and they’re edible and taste good. I just don’t want to give that trash can my money, so any dupes are greatly appreciated!!!",0 +9382,"HELP Eyebrow pencil shade like “Suede” from Hudabeauty Rosegold pallet? I got a new hair color and my brows are atrocious. I think this color suites it best, it’s a light grey ish brown.. Everything I’ve found online is too warm or dark, and I just dyed my hair dark burgundy from warm blonde. My eyebrows look awful and I don’t naturally have much of my own. I’m looking for the exact shade of the Suede from that pallet. Kind of a grayish light brown. + +It is the color to the right of Black on [this pallet](https://hudabeauty.com/us/en_US/blog-rose-gold-remastered-why-we-brought-back-our-rose-gold-palette-41825.html) + +Please help! I live in a rural place where there’s no real makeup store, just CVS or Target so I’d like to buy online.",0 +9383,"New to makeup, where to begin?. Hi! So I just started really getting into makeup and I really need some basic advice on where to get started? I wasn’t allowed to wear makeup earlier in life (strict parents) and now I have my own money I think getting into makeup will help my creativity/self esteem! + +My question, where do I even begin? There’s so many different items, and it’s all so overwhelming I really don’t know where to start. Any and all advice is really helpful!! Thanks!",0 +9384,"Laneige Lip Sleeping Mask: favourite smell/taste?. A while ago, I [posted](https://www.reddit.com/r/Makeup/comments/p9g09v/looking_for_a_hydrating_tinted_lip_product_dry/) here in r/makeup asking for some lip products for extremely dry lips. After some recommendations for the Laneige Lip Sleeping masks in this subreddit and some Christmas money, I decided to go ahead and spoil myself to one. + +Now, I'm wondering what your favourite scent/taste is. I can choose between berry, grapefruit, apple lime or choco mint. The others aren't available here in Europe, sadly. So, which one should I go with?",0 +9385,"What is the best mascara EVER?. I want to buy a new mascara, but which one?",0 +9386,"Matching an old lipstick?. Hi! I'm looking to get my girlfriend a new tube of her favorite lipstick for Christmas, but it seems it's not sold anymore. + +Estee Lauder's Pure Color 46 Barely Nude Creme Long Lasting Rouge + +Does anyone know how I would go about matching a new lipstick to this old one? My original game plan was to swatch it and then wander around a Sephora until I find something, but I don't know anything about make up and I'm a different tone than her, so I may be helpless. Thank you!",0 +9387,"How do you guys achieve the inner corner liner without eye boogers messing it up??. I think it looks great on people who do it but I literally can’t do it without stuff getting in the way😭 Sorry if this is gross, any tips would be appreciated + +Edit: I wash my face twice daily and always apply primer before doing my makeup. I use the poreless putty primer but maybe that could be part of it?",0 +9388,Opinion on Clinique's black honey?. It looks so good and I'm wondering if it's like tarte's maracuja juicy lip? If it is I would definitely want to pick one up. What do you guys think of black honey?,0 +9389,cool tone contour shade??. Can anyone recommend a gorgeous COOL TONE contour powder or cream. Everytime i buy a contour product its always too warm and my face looks orange. Iv wasted so much money.,0 +9390,"Is mascara really hard to take off or am I doing something wrong?. i love the way mascara looks, but lately i haven't worn it just because how much i hate taking it off, it's so hard to take it off completely, even after i go at it for minutes there is always at least a little left. i don't know what i am doing wrong, i use micellar water and make up pads to remove it, i usually let it sit on my eyes for a little while and then i scrub a bit. i don't know if i had the worst luck with mascaras, i have a rimmel one that's quite bad, it stains and at the tiniest bit of moisture i look like i had a huge breakdown crying, i also have a loreal one that i barely use because i really hate the smell of it, and a random really cheap one (that's honestly the best one out of the three), and all of them are hard to remove. + +any recommendations for cleansers/good mascara or just like different techniques?",0 +9391,"Eyeshadow palettes. Hi everyone! So I’m sitting here while I should be working, scrolling through all the new releases on trendmood, Sephora, ulta, etc and eyeing a bunch of eyeshadow palettes I want to ask for for Christmas, and then made me realize just how much I don’t need them, because I already have so many. So out of curiosity, how many eyeshadow palettes does everyone own!? This is not to judge or criticize, I’m genuinely asking just for fun! + +I’ll begin: I have about 16 palettes, but that doesn’t include eyeshadow singles. I feel like I have too many, but I want more even though I don’t need them 😭",0 +9392,"Haus Laboratories Liquid Eyeshadow?. I recently fell in love with liquid eyeshadow as it’s so easy to apply. I’m thinking of splurging on Stila liquid eyeshadow but I happened to see Haus Laboratories liquid eyeshadow on Amazon. + +It looks good online but I haven’t seen or tried on the actual thing in person. It’s much cheaper than Stila. Has anyone tried it? How does it compare? Is it worth a try or should I just buy Stila? Thanks in advance! + +UPDATE: + +I got two liquid eyeshadows from Stila and two from Haus Labs. So far I’ve tried one of each. There’s really no way to compare them. Stila is SO MUCH BETTER but of course the price point is much higher. + +I wore the Stila liquid eyeshadow out the whole day and even went cycling and it was still there at the end of the day! No primer and I have oily eyelids. Fav eyeshadow so far. + +I wore the Haus Labs liquid eyeshadow out and it smudged in about 3 hours. Again no primer but I did expect it to last longer. I didn’t even go cycling or do any sports. + +Stila was also a lot easier to apply and once it dried it lasted the whole day. I only needed to use a little bit for my eyes to look beautiful. + +Haus labs felt a bit sticky? So it was harder to apply evenly. It also didn’t really seem to dry properly. Looked good when I first applied it but smudged pretty quickly. + +Guess I’ll be getting more Stila in future.",0 +9393,"Nude lip without looking too Y2K. I am pretty fair complected with pink undertones. I have naturally very red and full(ish) lips. I know I should be grateful, but I just look undone with a full face and just gloss on my lips. I’ll put a nude color on daily but am really tiring of just that being my option at age 35. What are some cooler toned colors I can wear? Am comfortable with a stain or oil. Just nothing that stains my teeth, lol.",0 +9394,"How well does eyeliner pencil work as a writing utensil?. I understand what eyeliner its used for, but out of curiosity how well does it work as a regular pencil? +There are some brands that claim to be water proof, would they be able to write on a wet surface?",0 +9395,"Metallic eyeshadows without any glitter?. I want a complete foil look without any glitter or shimmer pearls, but they are hard to find. There were only like 2 at mac. Which brands have a good metallic eyeshadow collection?",0 +9396,looking for some makeup tips. Hey everyone I'm in need of some makeup tips as I'm wanting to get into it as I'm trans and have basically no idea what I'm doing.im mostly just wanting to do some eyeliner and stuff but I'd like some products recommendations that are cheap as I don't have allot of money also if anyone has any good tutorials could you link them as I'd seriously appreciate it thanks,0 +9397,"Does anyone have any makeup brushes recommendations for beginners?. Looking mainly for face and also eye shadow brushes. I'm relatively new to actually using them and would like something that's on the cheaper side, if possible. + +​ + +edit: WOAH! I didn't expect this post to a lot of attention. Thank you everyone so far for your suggestions!",0 +9398,"some good colorful and vibrant palettes that aren’t too pricey?. i want a easy to blend and vibrant palette. it doesn’t matter how many shades it has as long as it has the basic colors and its good. the price range is what would be considered drugstore in like america, but not too expensive. + +i have this vision of a makeup look with the kind of blue that old ladies wear and white, so i guess those are particulary important. + +thanks for reading!",0 +9399,"How do you foundation match when your face and neck have very different undertone?. Hey! Does anyone also have this issue? My neck and rest of my body is a pale with yellow undertone but my face has always been very pink and a shade darker too, most likely due to the undertone. I have never been happy with any of the shade matching when I go in to buy foundation and often would have to buy a few different shades to mix. I really don’t want to do that anymore because it gets expensive! When they match it to my jaw/cheek, I end up looking like I am wearing a dark pink mask. If they match it to my upper chest, sometimes it doesn’t always seem to blend in with my face. Also, I don’t want to use self tanner on my body because I have very sensitive skin around my neck and chest so I try to avoid anything there except specialized cream. That also rules out foundation on my neck to match the face. So which undertone for example should I go with? I could really use any helpful tips. Thank you!",0 +9400,"What is the correct way to use green primer?. I’m having a hormonal acne breakout and hoping to cover the redness bc it’s making me feel insecure. I don’t use foundation as that is too heavy for me, just concealer and setting powder. I’ve heard green primer works for redness but how do you apply it the right way?",0 +9401,Help. I bought the maybelline sky high mascara and I cannot remove it from my lashes. I’ve been rubbing my eyes with micellar water and cotton pads for a while and it just won’t come off. Any recommendations??? I’m scared my lashes will fall off.,0 +9402,"While searching for pans for today's baketober, I came across what is arguably the tiniest bread pan ever. I couldn't resist making the tiniest loaf of bread ever, and my girls insisted I let them use it to make the tiniest pb&j sandwiches ever. ",0 +9403,My mom passed away 6 weeks ago and whenever I bake something my first reaction has always been to send a picture to her. Finished up these ginger cookies and now I’m making my first r/baking post to fill the void. Not as depressing as it sounds I promise!. ,0 +9404,"Spent a couple years homeless, until recently. I'm not much of a baker and this isn't nearly as impressive as a lot of posts here. But now that I have access to a kitchen, here's my first chocolate chip banana bread in quite some time. ",0 +9405,"Mr. Clean made ""sponge"" cakes to help clean up all the blood this Halloween!. ",0 +9406,Someone requested a sloth cake and I absolutely thought it would be a disaster but I'm so pleased with it 😁. ,0 +9407,"I ran out of time during the holidays to make a gingerbread house, so I decided to make a Valentine/spring sugar cookie house.. ",0 +9408,I baked a cherry pomegranate pie to celebrate the Year of the Tiger. ,0 +9409,My 8 year old got her own set of cooking tools and cookbooks for the holidays. She made Monkey Bread all by herself!. ,0 +9410,Are these too ripe for banana bread?. ,0 +9411,"not too happy with it, but here's the cake I made myself for my 17th birthday:). ",0 +9412,One of these 6 braids is mine I know it’s hard to tell but take a guess. ,0 +9413,"Not perfect, but very excited with how my strawberry roll cake turned out! First time trying a patterned cake.. ",0 +9414,A Halloween Swiss roll 👻. ,0 +9415,Rarely see African foods check out this Nigerian puff puff!. ,0 +9416,My husband and I had a no recipe cupcake baking competition today. ,0 +9417,Finally tried my hand at making brimstone bread!. ,0 +9418,This year my wife made a gingerbread windmill! Almost 3 feet tall. ,0 +9419,I made my husband a vasectomy cake! It’s a lemon cake with Swiss meringue buttercream.. ,0 +9420,Attempted a purple palette knife cake for my mom’s birthday 💜. ,0 +9421,My Halloween Apple Pie. ,0 +9422,First Focaccia!. ,0 +9423,"My last chemo treatment is tomorrow, wife made this cake for the oncology staff.. ",0 +9424,I made my own birthday cake!. ,0 +9425,"Made a Cranberry White Chocolate tart this year. I don’t have a tart pan, so I made it work.. ",0 +9426,My stained glass cake. Anyone else miss summer?. ,0 +9427,it turned out 100x better than i was expecting! really proud!! (all chocolate inside). ,0 +9428,"For the first time ever, my baked goods are on display and for sale at a local coffee shop. Feels very surreal!. ",0 +9429,Surprising my bf with a number cake tomorrow for his 25th!. ,0 +9430,Just baked a QR code biscuit 😄. ,0 +9431,Gingerbread house I made!. Structure is all gingerbread! Deco is done with royal icing and fondant. It took… forever? (About 60 hours) and it’s very heavy. Also a look at my past attempts on the same house,0 +9432,I made a cranberry curd tart. ,0 +9433,"i'm currently replacing self harm urges with baking, so here is a chocolate chip muffin :). ",0 +9434,"I make a living by selling this sesame bread in our street,I bake using charcoal stove and they're very tasty and nice. ",0 +9435,The eclairs for my baking class final (I have to work on my piping). ,0 +9436,My daughter wanted Pokemon theamed cake. I spend more time on this creation than I care to admit. I'm a dad with no baking experience.. ,0 +9437,Made Ukrainian pampushky to celebrate a beautiful culture and good garlic.. ,0 +9438,Not happy about my coworker quitting…. ,0 +9439,My first ever wedding cake!. Made a cake for a couple who travelled 3 hours to a venue nearby and their cake collapsed in the car on the way. They asked if I could help and here’s my go at a cake with 8 hours notice on the hottest day of the year!,0 +9440,I was asked to make a dessert for a murder mystery party tonight.. did I go too overboard!?. ,0 +9441,After closing my business because of depression I am finally feeling better and reopening! Here is some of my fudge :). ,0 +9442,"My mom is going through chemotherapy and never knows what to eat. This morning she asked for a homemade apple pie. After asking if I could buy her one, I made my first pie.. ",0 +9443,Can anyone make out what this cookie cutter shape is supposed to be or resemble?. ,0 +9444,I was low on cash this Christmas so I made brownie boxes for family. ,0 +9445,My gf's vegan and gluten free lemon tarte. She doesn't have reddit but I felt that it really needed to be seen.. ,0 +9446,Buttercream flower cake I made for me and my twin’s birthday!. ,0 +9447,My girlfriend made a lemon blueberry cake!. ,0 +9448,Christmas cake I made for a holiday baking competition at my office!. ,0 +9449,Thecarrot cake I made to celebrate 666 days of sobriety.. ,0 +9450,Today I celebrated turning 10000 days old with a frog cake!. ,0 +9451,"The making of my raspberry & poppyseed tart, inspired by The Wizard of Oz. ",0 +9452,My second attempt at a halloween Swiss roll!. ,0 +9453,I made pumpkin pie from scratch. ,0 +9454,My Granddaughter made the Thanksgiving Cake this year.. ,0 +9455,Cake by me. ,0 +9456,baked this entire wedding dessert table on my own!. ,0 +9457,Are baking fails tolerated here ? My birthday cake just had a nose dive.. ,0 +9458,I made a birthday cake for my partner. ,0 +9459,I can bake well enough but have never tried to be artsy about it. My daughter wanted a spooky blueberry pie for her Halloween party next month so I’m getting some practice in. We had fun making it.. ,0 +9460,A Thai Tea birthday cake I made for the owner of a Thai restaurant who fed me years ago when I was struggling (recipe in comments). ,0 +9461,Celebrating my dad's 19 years of sobriety. Looks terrible but I had fun. ,0 +9462,I'm not a pro but I want to share something I did for my mom who's a beekeeper 🐝. ,0 +9463,Making homemade cinnamon rolls for the first time. ,0 +9464,Channeling my current mood into decorated sugar cookies. ,0 +9465,"cookies!. Royal icing cookies ♥️#halloween +Insta: milu_pastry",0 +9466,First time for me making from scratch cookies (stay at home dad don’t make fun of me lol). ,0 +9467,Boo!. ,0 +9468,I have a superpower and that it perfectly smooth cheesecakes every time WITHOUT a water bath. ,0 +9469,My wife was going to buy a unicorn cake for my daughter's birthday. I figured I would bake one myself for twice the money.. ,0 +9470,I made a giant fruit tart to celebrate my graduation. ,0 +9471,My grandfather was in the hospital so I made some thematically relevant cookies for his nurses.. ,0 +9472,Display I did for baby shower cookies. ,0 +9473,Blackberry white chocolate tart.. ,0 +9474,I made a gingerbread Tudor cottage this year!. ,0 +9475,"I'm starting to use baking as a coping skill instead of 🍃, peppermint mocha cookies. don't judge them too hard, I'm a newbie. ",0 +9476,My attempt of Starry Night for my mums birthday.. ,0 +9477,"My sons wish was an Erebor cake for his 12th birthday. So I tried my best and this is the result. 7 hours, 7 cakes, 40 eggs later I did it and I am really proud of this mountain 💪 It is filled with chocolate gold money, sweet, gems, of course Smaug and the Arkenstone. My son was happy 🥰. ",0 +9478,"I baked for 1,020 guests by myself. I had 3 full speedcarts by the end. ",0 +9479,"my first ever bake, from nov 2021. the bread itself was a total fail, but golly, they were so cute to me 😂. ",0 +9480,"Three layer vanilla cake with mixed berry coulis, peach jelly and buttercream frosting. I forgot to water my coworker’s plant when he’s on leave.. ",0 +9481,Our buttercream garden. ,0 +9482,The making of my recent Cinderella-inspired tart.. ,0 +9483,The first cake I've ever sold! Someone actually paid me money to bake for them!. ,0 +9484,I made this for my coworker. I didn’t do it because I like her so much (she’s great but we aren’t close or anything) I did it to let my other coworkers know that I don’t like them enough to bake them a birthday cake.. ,0 +9485,Successful first use of the honeycomb pan for my sister’s Winnie the pooh themed baby shower. ,0 +9486,Did I do a good work hiding a huge crack? 🙃. ,0 +9487,My SO doesn’t post on Reddit and I keep telling him that you all deserve to see his beautiful pies ☺️. ,0 +9488,My mom stretching the dough for pie / burek. ,0 +9489,I couldn't be bothered making a pie to use up apples so I made an apple crumble caramel cheesecake and this time it didn't sink in. ,0 +9490,"Feeling under the weather and can't sit still so made lemon shaped lemon cakes with lemon icing, now I'm feeling better!. ",0 +9491,My first attempt at a fully from scratch cake. Not perfect but proud nonetheless.. ,0 +9492,"The making of my recent Vikings-themed Swiss roll cake. Vanilla cake filled with apple compote and walnuts, decorated with cream cheese frosting and cinnamon-almond cookies.. ",0 +9493,"(PSA) Stop asking why something didn’t turn out like the recipe when you didn’t follow the recipe. If you substitute or leave things out, you can’t expect it to be the same. + +Bananas and applesauce are not replacements for eggs. Eggs leaven, emulsify, and tenderize. Bananas and applesauce sweeten and add bulk. + +Margarine/shortening is not a substitution for butter. Marg/shortening is 100% fat. Butter is ~80% fat and the remaining 20% is water and milk solids. + +Use the kind of flour the recipe calls for, there are different flours for a reason. + +And finally, don’t substitute baking powder if you don’t have soda. It is technically possible to make a baking powder replacement using soda+corn starch+cream of tartar but it still won’t be the same as commercial double-acting baking powder. + +If you don’t have and can’t get all the ingredients for a recipe, either choose another recipe or be prepared for something different to come out of the oven. + +Thanks for coming to my rant",0 +9494,Home-baked Mother’s Day afternoon tea for my Mum and Nana. ,0 +9495,I’m a newly divorced dad trying to impress my kids! How am I doing?. ,0 +9496,"I didn’t make this, my husband did. It took him all day & he doesn’t post on Reddit only lurks. I think this deserves a few upvotes 🥳. ",0 +9497,My first 3D cake! My partner and I made this axolotl cake for my son's 9th birthday. He loved it!. ,0 +9498,It was my husband's 30th birthday last week so I wanted to make him exactly what he fancied. This was a lot easier before there was a baby crawling around everywhere! 😬. ,0 +9499,I made my daughters 1st birthday cake and dessert table 🥰. ,0 +9500,"cow cake i baked recently (beginner). not perfect or professional, but i love it. ",0 +9501,"I’m really proud of my own creations 🤩….I’m a home-baker, hoping to open my own shop one day☺️. ",0 +9502,Quick and dirty half birthday cake for my son’s half birthday tomorrow. ,0 +9503,"Sculpted cake my sister asked that I make for her birthday this year of her kitty named Tacocat! It's a vanilla bean cake, no fondant was used, all decorated with buttercream! :). ",0 +9504,I baked my son an Appa cake from Avatar the Last Airbender. ,0 +9505,The most lemony of all lemony cookies! Also the most time consuming…. ,0 +9506,My daughter is obsessed with chickens so I made a chicken cake and egg shaped cake pops for her birthday party!. ,0 +9507,A year ago I almost gave up baking for others because someone was rude about the cake I made for my sister’s birthday but a bunch of kind redditors gave me back my confidence. I just made my first tiered cake for that same sister’s bridal shower and it went great - Thanks Reddit!. ,0 +9508,"I filmed my mom making sweet braided bread, here are some shots. ",0 +9509,"I made some little cinnamon-blueberry tarts, inspired by Monet’s “Lilac Irises”. ",0 +9510,I made a different kind of apple pie.. ,0 +9511,Very proud of these proteas. ,0 +9512,I made Turning Red macarons because I absolutely love the new movie! I hope you like them! They are filled with Thai milk tea anglaise buttercream!. ,0 +9513,Wtf happened to my cookie-. ,0 +9514,Cupcakes just evaporated in the oven. Don’t know how it happened. Any ideas?. ,0 +9515,"After days of sacrificing blood, sweat, and tears, I finally completed designing and baking my first macaron tower 🥳. ",0 +9516,Pooh cake. ,0 +9517,My attempt at a cupcake wreath for my son's preschool staff. ,0 +9518,Made myself some brown butter sea salt chocolate chip cookies this morning. ,0 +9519,Strawberry vanilla cake I made for my birthday last week. ,0 +9520,"my sister went in for brain surgery this morning, so I made these brain cupcakes!🧠. ",0 +9521,My holiday cookies this year! I made around 175 of these all together!. ,0 +9522,20 tries at making croissants! Lots of advice from 2 experts and voila! Feels good.. ,0 +9523,"Felt like making a cute, pastel Halloween cookie set. ",0 +9524,"Always wanted to be the mom who makes cute homemade cakes for my kids’ birthdays. It’s not perfect, but here is my daughter’s Cocomelon cake for her 2nd birthday today 🥳. ",0 +9525,"Flooded cookie I decorated! It’s not perfect, but it’s a lot of fun learning new skills to help me improve!. ",0 +9526,I made a Baklava Cheesecake!. ,0 +9527,Someone heard about my frog cakes and ordered one! If I had more time I think it could be even better 🍄🐸. ,0 +9528,There's a pond near my house that I often walk around. I wanted to make cookies that showed several different perspectives of the pond.. ,0 +9529,Co-workers last day.. ,0 +9530,Made this cake for Holi festival! Raspberry cake with raspberry and lemon curd fillings. ,0 +9531,"I made a set of mini tarts inspired by “The Scream.” They have chocolate pâte sablée crusts and are filled with jalapeño-infused ganaches (chocolate, blueberry, mango, and strawberry). ",0 +9532,I made a Keith Haring inspired cake!. ,0 +9533,Choux au Craquelin with maple buttercream instead of pastry cream.. ,0 +9534,My daughter has food allergies and can’t eat pretty store bought cakes. Trying to up my baking skills so she doesn’t feel like she’s missing out. Made her this cookies and cream cake.. ,0 +9535,"My partner, standing in line at the store: I want that cake for my birthday. Me: Challenge accepted!. ",0 +9536,Strawberry Crunch Brownies W/ sugar Glaze. ,0 +9537,A carrot cake for my coworker who's leaving to go get her PhD. ,0 +9538,Simple Blues Clues cake for my New Years Eve Baby. ,0 +9539,"My brain cake might not impress any neurologists, but my kids loved it!. ",0 +9540,Reddit made me do it…. ,0 +9541,Dinosaur cookies. Trial run for my son's 3rd bday (kid loves dinos lol). ,0 +9542,Biscoff Cheesecake. ,0 +9543,I made my husband medovik(Russian honey cake) for his birthday. 12 layers! What do you think?. ,0 +9544,Brownies wrapped in puff pastry. ,0 +9545,I made another one of Julien Dugourd's desserts! Expectations vs reality.. ,0 +9546,"First time making brownies, it turned out great!. ",0 +9547,Squirrel roll cake. The cake is his tail.. ,0 +9548,"Let's start by saying that my husband doesn't bake, but each year for my birthday he and kids are baking me cake. My birthday is tomorrow and cake is in the making, and let me tell you that no gift in the world can compare to this cake!. ",0 +9549,I never posted this but I made this in pastry school my last week there :) pistachio almond entremét. ,0 +9550,"Vanilla apple tart I made a while back using Pink Pearl apples (pink flesh apples). Novice baker- so took me roughly 8 hours, 2 failed tart doughs, one dozen apples, a hardcore mandolin, and about 100 knife cuts to my fingers.. ",0 +9551,I made strawberry cheesecake for my grandma for her birthday. ,0 +9552,[I made] a spinning BB8 Birthday Cake for my friend’s son.. ,0 +9553,"My mom is so brilliant at buttercream roses, I’m so proud. ",0 +9554,Key lime cream tart! Circle or rectangle?. ,0 +9555,Independence Day. ,0 +9556,Made Julien Dugourd's 100% Chocolate tart!. ,0 +9557,Mahjong Chocolates. ,0 +9558,I made this chocolate orange cheesecake and it tastes exactly like a Terry's orange!. ,0 +9559,"I made bonbons inspired by Tweety Bird: salted caramel, lemon curd, and soft mascarpone ganache.. ",0 +9560,"This is my first ever post. I'm not a baker, it gives me terrible anxiety. But every year on my daughters' birthdays, I brave their cakes. My daughter's favorite stuffed animal is Hedwig. So for her birthday this year, here's Hedwig. It's not the best, but I'm proud of it. ",0 +9561,I work on a Nursing team. My colleague retired yesterday so I made him a cake. He loved it. 😁. ,0 +9562,"Same recipe, two years apart. ",0 +9563,My enchanted forest cake. There's a black forest cake inside.. ,0 +9564,Don't talk to me or my son ever again 🐸. ,0 +9565,A very amateur axolotl cake for a friend’s birthday.. ,0 +9566,"This Frasier cake is dedicated to my French Uber driver, Francois, who discussed baking with me for 20 minutes and seemed impressed with what I'd attempted so far so he recommended this as my next challenge! 🍓. ",0 +9567,My Halloween themed box I made for the office. ,0 +9568,Cake for my brothers wedding :) never painted a cake like this before so I kinda just went for it! Final pic in comments. ,0 +9569,Maybe we took the sparkles too far. Customer was over the moon so that’s all that matters right?!. ,0 +9570,Tried the panty hose trick to tidy up icing and it worked! Christmas cookies done.. ,0 +9571,"Desserts I made for an event. Vanilla choux, mango verrine, chocolate stout gateau, and strawberry gateau.. ",0 +9572,A very sweet coworker I gifted a pie to bought me a beautiful pie plate ! I can’t stop smiling over it 🥰. ,0 +9573,"Fiancé wanted a peach dessert, so I made a peaches and cream upside down cake! Recipe in comments. ",0 +9574,Cake I made for my grandmas birthday!. ,0 +9575,I just really wanted to share these as well- Cheesecake cones! They’re delicious 😋. ,0 +9576,I made a pretty lemon cake :). ,0 +9577,Super proud of these cupcakes I made for my sons birthday!. ,0 +9578,I think this is my sign to give in and just use a recipe… I genuinely do not know how this went so wrong so fast. ,0 +9579,In Italy we take Tiramisù seriously! Happy Tiramisù World Day!. ,0 +9580,What I was hoping to do vs What I actually did 😂😂. ,0 +9581,Buttercream floral cupcakes 🧁. ,0 +9582,Cinnamon coffee cake!. ,0 +9583,I called it Strawberry Splash. ,0 +9584,Was so anxious about this but wasn’t that hard!. ,0 +9585,"[I made] A Brandy chocolate mousse on a chocolate graham crust, with marshmallow meringue and a coffee ganache glaze.. ",0 +9586,The Great British Bake Along - Week One! 12 mini blackberry caramel spice cakes 💜. ,0 +9587,"I am so proud of this one! A cheese cake for my husband’s birthday. Yellow cake, lemon curd, and smbc.. ",0 +9588,These are actually kind of cool. ,0 +9589,my carrot cake with cream cheese frosting didn’t ripple for the first time! Yay!. ,0 +9590,Axolotl cake I made for my boyfriends mom💕. ,0 +9591,"This is my first post, I made marshmallows recently. They are not beautiful enough, but they are very tasty. much better than store-bought ones. I hope you will appreciate it :). ",0 +9592,First time trying cactus and succulent cupcakes. more like: cactus and cabbage. ,0 +9593,My attempt at making Shrek. I made Shrok.. ,0 +9594,Recovering from a brain injury and finally got my “cookie touch” back 😍. ,0 +9595,Think This May Be My Smoothest Cheesecake Yet. ,0 +9596,Made doughnuts with my boyfriend. He’s very proud and wants me to post them here. ,0 +9597,Just the strawberries took a while !. ,0 +9598,Wintery knitted sweater cake! 🌲. ,0 +9599,My Apple Pie Trifle. ,0 +9600,O-shaped cake roll. ,0 +9601,First attempt at homemade cinnamon rolls. ,0 +9602,I tried a different dipping method. they turned out so nice. ,0 +9603,Discovered baking a month ago. Here's a bee cake I made today 🐝. ,0 +9604,Back in September my 8th grade students scored an average mastery of 36% on their history exam. I told them if they doubled that by April I'd bake them all their favorite cookies. Today my kids scored an average mastery at 81% and we scored first in the district. Tonight: I bake 300+ cookies!. ,0 +9605,Do sugary mishappened fried donuts count as baking? Pumpkin donuts w/ cinnamon sugar. ,0 +9606,24 cookie tins in 2 days. I’m beat.. ,0 +9607,"My mom is retired and likes to bake for friends & family. She doesn’t have Reddit, so I thought I’d show off some of her work.. ",0 +9608,"Spent 2 days on this but I think it was worth it! Left side is Victoria sponge, right side is carrot cake!. ",0 +9609,"I made some serial killer cupcakes. Red velvet w/ cream cheese frosting, sugar blood, icing weapons, and edible silver dust.. ",0 +9610,Homemade old fashioned donuts. ,0 +9611,Johnny Bravo cake I made for a friend's birthday!. ,0 +9612,"This is the only cake I know how to make. It’s around 30,000 calories.. ",0 +9613,Magic donuts💙✨. ,0 +9614,"Next time your cake doesn't look like what you planned, just say that it's a sleeping-beauty inspired cake. ",0 +9615,Tomorrow I’m giving out free baked goods for anyone who voted! 170 Macarons made last night so I can sit out in the cold tomorrow! Cookies and Scone baking tonight!. ,0 +9616,lots of moroccan eid confections!. ,0 +9617,I’m a pastry student and my first lab in a cakes class was last night! I was so proud when I saw that she put my cake in the front center when we took pictures for the schools Instagram :). ,0 +9618,Just a good ol’ cookie tray.. ,0 +9619,Don’t talk to me or my son ever again…. ,0 +9620,I made my own birthday cake (recipes in comments). ,0 +9621,I tried black cocoa to make black buttercream. Tastes just like Oreos.. ,0 +9622,Apple pie made from the apples my fiancé and I picked at an orchard this weekend. ,0 +9623,Made these giant chocolate chip cookies for my friend’s birthday. ,0 +9624,"1, 2, or 3?. ",0 +9625,"Nighty nights, my favorite cookies as a kid!. ",0 +9626,"It’s taken three years, but I believe this is my masterpiece. Finally discovered the beauty of letting cookie dough age for 72 hours.. ",0 +9627,I made a Lego cake for my son's 4th birthday party!!! Might not be perfect but I love trying new ways to frost a cake!. ,0 +9628,Made this for a cousin’s bridal shower. ,0 +9629,Have y'all seen this yet? I want to kiss whoever pitched this idea. Redefining the medium.. ,0 +9630,Lemon Pound Cake. ,0 +9631,"First attempt at Boston cream pie, managed to forget vanilla extract in the cream because it wasn't in the written recipe, and the sponge may seem thick since my pan was a bit smaller but it still tastes great. ",0 +9632,"My very amateur baking attempt at making my wife a cake of our favorite kitty.. The sponge is a lemon butter cake that was done Japanese style to make it lighter/fluffier. The frosting is standard butter cream. Ears and cheeks are graham cracker with white chocolate ganache. Eyes are fudge dipped Oreo wafers with a white chocolate kiss. The decorating is really sloppy as I was tired and rushing as I raced against frosting melting due to my kitchen being hot. Overall I'm happy with how it came out with this being only my third cake I've made from scratch, and second time decorating beyond just slathering on the frosting.",0 +9633,Advance sugar class. My last class in college before I start my career as a pastry chef 👩‍🍳❤️. ,0 +9634,[OC] Does sugar-work count? I made swans out of isomalt today in pastry class.. ,0 +9635,They wanted a Mexican themed birthday cake ☺️. ,0 +9636,"(NOT) chicken drumsticks! Made these a while ago. Cookie dough ice cream “meat”. Chili chocolate pirouette “bone”, caramelized white chocolate “skin”, and crunchy feuilletine and corn flakes for the “fried” look.. ",0 +9637,Made these for my school’s bake sale. They sold out in less than 30 minutes. Recipe in comments.. ,0 +9638,I made a wedding cake for a friend and I'm really proud with how clean it turned out. ,0 +9639,Made biscuits this morning and they’re amazing! 😍. ,0 +9640,Our succulent cupcakes were a hit. ,0 +9641,"Galette des Rois . Reverse puff pastry, handmade lamination .. ",0 +9642,Home baker here - been trying to develop my patisserie skills lately and here are some of my 2022 bakes!. ,0 +9643,processing pain au chocolat. ,0 +9644,Made my first wedding cake. Won’t do it again. ,0 +9645,Éclair pistache de Sicile. ,0 +9646,After months of sourdough disasters I went back to instant yeasted breads and had my first huge bread success in over a year!. ,0 +9647,I baked a blackberry pie for my co workers. It was gone in minutes but im noticingly being avoided 🙁. ,0 +9648,Swedish cinnamonbun-day today! We Swedes eat up to 7 MILLIONS cinnamonbuns today!. ,0 +9649,tried making an egg custard pie but didnt realize you had to keep the tinfoil pie crust on it :(. ,0 +9650,I made a key-lime pie cheese cake decorated as a lime.. ,0 +9651,"The bride requested cookies for her engagement party. She said “Star Wars, but cute” ☺️. ",0 +9652,My girlfriend and I made this baked beans cake for our housemates birthday. ,0 +9653,My first croissants baking. ,0 +9654,Just Made My First Pumpkin Pie And Tried To Take A Fancy Photo Of It.. ,0 +9655,I made honey sugar cookies.. ,0 +9656,Mom went all out for Eid yesterday!. ,0 +9657,Fraisier Mochi. ,0 +9658,"My mum is coming today, TODAY!!! Haven't seen her for almost 2 years. Im all over the place so I do what I do best - vanilla cake with fresh berries.. ",0 +9659,This is the first time I’ve been proud of anything enough to post it here! Lemon drizzle cupcakes with lemon buttercream.. ,0 +9660,Spooky/cute is my absolute favorite thing. My latest cookies!. ,0 +9661,"Because there are 0 panderias out here, I decided to do a variety of pan dulce.. ",0 +9662,"I made a birthday pie for my dad, illustrating one of his wild childhood stories. It has a lemon-blueberry filling in a cinnamon-almond cookie crust.. ",0 +9663,"I present to you, a pumpkin roll! Every inch of cake stuck to the parchment and had to be painstakingly clawed off and mashed into log form!. ",0 +9664,Blackcurrant macarons. ,0 +9665,Reddit strikes again 😋😋😋. ,0 +9666,I made a post yesterday about big thick soft cookies and someone commented a recipe and voila. Thank you reddit :). ,0 +9667,Where can I find a tart pan like this?. ,0 +9668,Halloween dessert bar!. ,0 +9669,I made these camping chocolate bars yesterday! (Hand painted with colored cocoa butter). ,0 +9670,"The bear cake, it took 3 hours to finally finish. ",0 +9671,Homemade Doughnuts. ,0 +9672,The Great British Bake Along - Week Four! 💚 Turtle conchas with a coffee pastry cream filling. ,0 +9673,I just wanted to share my perfect batch of italian tigelle bread! :). ,0 +9674,"I made a chocolate cake and forgot the eggs 😖I made another, but if you’re wondering, here is a visual. No eggs = meh tasting cake. ",0 +9675,"Update on my macaWRONGS: they are macaRUINED. However, they still actually taste good. Like crispy yet chewy little sugary failures haha. ",0 +9676,Finished my chocolates class today! We put together a buffet display and it was really fulfilling to see all my work over the class come together and pay off :). ,0 +9677,Pour one out for me and all the product I just lost to flour mites and weevils.. ,0 +9678,"baking my first loaf of bread this morning, kinda nervous cuz my kitchen assistant is kinda cute 😳. ",0 +9679,I made a cake for my friends 32nd birthday. ,0 +9680,Caramel buns before and after :). ,0 +9681,Vanilla tiramisu brownies with mascarpone whipped cream. ,0 +9682,Apple Pie for my neighbor to lift her spirits. ,0 +9683,"I made a graham cracker chocolate chip cookie, topped with marshmallow fluff and dipped in chocolate, then sprinkled it with chocolate pearls.. ",0 +9684,My gingerbread house this year is a fisherman seeking shelter from the storm inside a lighthouse haunted by the ghost of its first lighthouse keeper. ,0 +9685,Made a Chocolate Cheesecake with a Ganache layer for my boss's going away party.. ,0 +9686,Made a cake I think Mary Berry would be very proud of. ,0 +9687,I made this but it feels like I'm not good enough. Life has been a relatively difficult lately.. ,0 +9688,"Deep dish apple pie, before and after! Pi day incoming.... ",0 +9689,Oreo Ashtray Cheesecake for a friend’s NYE trailer trash costume party.. ,0 +9690,Girlfriend made this majestic cake. ,0 +9691,I humbly present the Baklava I made last night on a whim.. ,0 +9692,Birthday cake for my grandma who turned 95 today!. ,0 +9693,"I made elderberry and lemon sandwich cookies, inspired by Cinderella.. ",0 +9694,A friend asked me to make a birch tree cake. ,0 +9695,"Made an anniversary cake for my husband and I. Please be kind, I am an amateur.. ",0 +9696,"My second and first attempt at macarons, look at the difference!. ",0 +9697,I made these Chococat taiyaki macarons filled with a ring of chocolate buttercream and center of Ube jam. ,0 +9698,"Update: Cake Broke Overnight, Why?. ",0 +9699,i would like to announce that after 5 tries I finally made perfect cinnamon rolls 😍. ,0 +9700,Baked apple donuts with cinnamon sugar :). ,0 +9701,Twix cookies I made. I need ideas for new cookies to bake so any ideas are appreciated!. ,0 +9702,I'm not a baker at all but am very happy with this rainbow cake for my daughters birthday. ,0 +9703,I think I made *my* perfect chocolate chip cookies!. ,0 +9704,After weeks of R&D I have finally achieved a Strawberry Shortcake Cookies that taste EXACTLY like the ice cream bar!. ,0 +9705,A bit of bts from the making of my recent Monet-inspired tarts. These are filled with cinnamon-almond pralinè and blueberry ganache.. ,0 +9706,Well... This is the weirdest chocolate chip cookie fail I've ever had in my entire life. Thought you all would have a laugh.. ,0 +9707,Strawberry Margarita cake with homemade edible sequins!. ,0 +9708,Celebrating Pi Day with some Pie!. ,0 +9709,Tie dye cupcakes for my 8 year olds birthday party as requested 🥳. ,0 +9710,"Orange Creamsicle Pie, the AMAZING sister of the Ultimate Pineapple Dream. Last week’s Ultimate Pineapple Dream pie was so amazing I sought out to find her Orange Dreamsickle sister. After much searching I ended up here: ladybehindthecurtain.com/orange-icebox-pie/#mv-creation-415-jrt A little bit of tweaking and it is spectacular!!",0 +9711,The many designs of shaping rolls. ,0 +9712,Raised bed zucchini cake with cream cheese frosting. ,0 +9713,Vanilla and Salted Caramel macarons. ,0 +9714,"I can make delicious things, but not pretty things. These Slovenian peach cookies are the exception 😭. ",0 +9715,frog cake. ,0 +9716,homemade pain au chocolat 🥐🍫. ,0 +9717,Mini Cranberry Orange Tarts!. ,0 +9718,I piped a tray full of “pumpkin” macarons before realizing my error and redoing them😂. ,0 +9719,Costco sells these great cupcake trays for only about $7. They’re just right for holding about a dozen. The trays also come with a free pumpkin pie.. ,0 +9720,I made a Rosemary honey cheesecake with a pistachio crust for Easter. ,0 +9721,Was feeling sad. Made brownies.. ,0 +9722,Birthday cake for my daughter who's turned 12. 3 layer strawberry cake with buttercream frosting.. ,0 +9723,Getting better and better! Just wanted to show off my latest macarons 😅. ,0 +9724,Wifey made me a birthday cake of my favorite Simpsons moment. Let's get in a quick nine down at the Pitch 'n' Putt!. ,0 +9725,My baking progress as a 21 year old male. ,0 +9726,accidentally made a Spiderman cheesecake ffs. ,0 +9727,I’ve been obsessed with making cakes lately!!. ,0 +9728,Fat Rat birthday cake that I made for my 11-year-old.. ,0 +9729,Does this look similar?. ,0 +9730,"I've been feeling so down today, so I wanted to post a picture of these cookies I made and decorated with royal icing. They are simple and not perfect, but I was so proud of them.. ",0 +9731,"My partner thinks that she's not very good at baking, I disagree! A cheese cake that she threw together on the fly :) show some love!. ",0 +9732,Who likes seafoam candy? This is one of my favorite things to make (and eat). ,0 +9733,Please help us by voting!. ,0 +9734,"After weeks of planning + 2 days of nonstop baking, I hosted my first tea party!. ",0 +9735,(Follow up) I posted about my first time making a pie yesterday. I had to wait overnight for it to set up and…. It set!!! I’m so happy!. ,0 +9736,"i sent this to my friend and she texted back, “GIRL, you did NOT try,” I’M LITERALLY GONNA CRY 😭 first time for my dad. ",0 +9737,I made an Opera Cake!. ,0 +9738,Lemon tart and brioche. Newbie home baker trying out recipes and excited with some minor progress!. ,0 +9739,First donuts ever!. ,0 +9740,"Not sure if this counts, but I made stuffed shells for dinner last night. It was the first real meal I’ve made for myself in a long time.. ",0 +9741,An untraditional beach themed wedding cake I made today! 🌊🌞. ,0 +9742,Homemade gingerbread cookies. ,0 +9743,Needed to spark joy; made cupcakes.. ,0 +9744,Super proud of my first yule log!. ,0 +9745,"Two years into the pandemic, I think I’m finally getting a hang of this bread thing.. ",0 +9746,Blueberry sour cream cinnamon swirl Bundt coffee cake in my new magnolia blossom pan. ,0 +9747,"Kiddos 7th Birthday cake! Took me HOURS, and that mushroom is wEirD looking but he’s staying! Fondant and chocolate cream cake.. ",0 +9748,Xmas Challah! scroll for pre-bake/post-bake. ,0 +9749,"Husband wanted waffles, I wanted biscuits, so we compromised. ",0 +9750,My husbands attempt at cake decorating for a competition at work. There’s also edible gold glitter that the camera couldn’t capture. I’m proud of him.. ,0 +9751,Trying a new technique to decorate my lemon pie with meringue (sorry for the shaking). ,0 +9752,My grans 77th birthday cake and my nephews 3rd birthday cake made in the same weekend....let's not do that again.. ,0 +9753,"When it’s my birthday around here, I make my own cake! Meet Pete, he’s a hoot!. ",0 +9754,Horror themed birthday cake! The Necronomicon Ex-Mortis from Evil Dead. All buttercream. ,0 +9755,Piggy cupcakes!. ,0 +9756,Brownies are part of a balanced breakfast. ,0 +9757,"Entering the County Fair cake decorating contest for the first time, this was my trial run!. ",0 +9758,No one at work likes my apron. Thoughts?. ,0 +9759,Did some foraging and made pie with my wild berry haul. ,0 +9760,Brioche - Squish Test. ,0 +9761,First time macarons vs second time. Super proud of how they came out!!. ,0 +9762,I made a mini Pumpkin spice cheesecake entremet!. ,0 +9763,Strawberry tart design for a recipient who likes mushrooms and butterflies.. ,0 +9764,I made these perfectly golden brown mochi donuts!. ,0 +9765,Peach Maritozzi for a hot summer day. ,0 +9766,LOOK AT MY MF STRUDEL. ,0 +9767,Cupcake bouquet for a customer who requested something that looks like a cake but wouldn't require cutting and would be easy to serve at a birthday picnic. ,0 +9768,Excited that I finally made a Swiss Roll with a defined swirl! :). ,0 +9769,"These brownies though. Candied pecans, a super fudgey brownie, handmade caramel, roasted salted pecans and milk chocolate drizzle",0 +9770,Chocolate hazelnut garden themed cake 🥕🍅🥬. ,0 +9771,"I got to make a dessert box for the sweetest recipient. The tart has a sweet dough crust and toppers and is filled with almond pralinè and strawberry ganache, with a hint of lemon. The cookies are strawberry sweet dough filled with strawberry ganache and raspberry compote.. ",0 +9772,"You need 200 chocolate mousse tarts on the fly, no worries.. ",0 +9773,Tuxedo Sam taiyaki macarons filled with a lychee rose buttercream + a nice voiceover for mental health and social media 🥰. ,0 +9774,I made a raspberry and poppyseed tart inspired by The Wizard of Oz. ,0 +9775,the cake I made for my parents 25th wedding anniversary. ,0 +9776,Easter cake for a lovely customer who gave me free rein (a cross somewhere on the cake was her only stipulation). ,0 +9777,Guess what idiot forgot to flip her apple strudels weakside down before putting them in the oven.. ,0 +9778,"Galaxy cookies. not perfect, but happy with how these turned out!. ",0 +9779,My first American cookies. ,0 +9780,"My boyfriend wanted a dragon cake for his birthday, so I made a dragon cake!. ",0 +9781,Calico Cat Sugar Cookies. ,0 +9782,help me name my pie for a competition. ,0 +9783,First time making scones. Extra sharp white cheddar and green onions. ,0 +9784,"Cinnamon roll macarons - cream cheese ring with a brown butter, cinnamon/sugar center. ",0 +9785,my first time baking an apple pie..went a bit overboard lol. ,0 +9786,[Homemade] Baklava Honey Cheesecake with Walnut Shortbread Crust. ,0 +9787,My mom just made impossible pie. it looks really good out of the oven.. ,0 +9788,Here is a bright and cheery lemon tart that I hope makes you as happy as it makes me!! 🌼. ,0 +9789,I made some lemon squares for my favourite human being 🍋. ,0 +9790,Preparing for my next bad day by putting this in the freezer 👍. ,0 +9791,I haven't done decorated cookies in years! I'm relieved that I still have the necessary skills haha! Gingerbread with royal icing.. ,0 +9792,Baked cheesecake with a passionfruit and mango panna cotta top.. ,0 +9793,"6 months pregnant and been craving citrus like nobody’s business, finally culminated in baking (then annihilating) this key lime pie. ",0 +9794,Daughter asked for an “Enchanted Woodland” birthday cake. ,0 +9795,Bf and I had a banana bread bake off! Mine is the left :). ,0 +9796,Millionaire shortbread I made lol. ,0 +9797,i was craving boxed chocolate cake so i made one following the directions exactly. why did this happen?. ,0 +9798,Finally succeeded at making the blistered bagel of my dreams.. ,0 +9799,please hold your applause for the greatest first attempt at macarons 😂. In all seriousness any thought on what could've gone wrong?. ,0 +9800,Homemade ‘Reese’s Cups’ shaped like hearts for my friend’s 18th!. ,0 +9801,Brown Sugar Peach Cakes. ,0 +9802,Swedish kanelbullar (cinnamon buns). And don't tell me to put glaze on it these are Swedish and not what ever ppl in USA are doing. ,0 +9803,Made cookies to sell but haven’t had much luck. All advice appreciated 💕. ,0 +9804,"still one of my favourite cakes that I have made, Jammie Dodger cake with a jam drip.. ",0 +9805,I made a little Vikings-themed swiss roll cake decorated with almond cookies.. ,0 +9806,Finally made a plain cheesecake that didn't crack.. ,0 +9807,"Third year using my grandma’s cookie press and I think I finally have the hang of it. (She’s not dead, just can’t be bothered to bake anymore). ",0 +9808,Please excuse my dirty arm and apron it’s been a long day… but say hi to froggo 🍄. ,0 +9809,Cake boss should be renamed rice Krispy boss. ,0 +9810,Dinosaur cookies! 🦖🍪. ,0 +9811,Custard and roasted strawberry focaccia. ,0 +9812,"I developed a lactose intolerance in my 30's and started baking so I could still enjoy my favorite treats without getting sick- I present, a dairy free chocolate cake with chocolate icing.. ",0 +9813,Wreath cake I made for my kids music department bake sale.. ,0 +9814,Mushroom steamed buns! Shaped like mushrooms and filled with mushrooms!. ,0 +9815,"I made an enchanted coach tart. It’s all flavors of elderberry and lemon, with a hint of lavender.. ",0 +9816,Little goodies. ,0 +9817,A coworker commissioned a cat shaped pie and I secretly wanted to keep it😢 It broke my heart to see it go.. ,0 +9818,so proud of this brownie I made today! the secret is beating the dough with all the anger you got. would love to share this recipe with you guys!. ,0 +9819,"My husband, who has never baked in his life, surprised me with a homemade birthday cake!. ",0 +9820,"Homemade “cheese it’s”, anyone?. ",0 +9821,My Halloween themed coworker birthday bake!. ,0 +9822,Buttercream flowers on a vanilla and lavender cake!. ,0 +9823,Handmade Easter chocolates. Swipe for cut-through and flavours (don't have cut pics of the XL eggs but they're like filled chocolate bars in egg shape). Really proud of my flavour picks for this set.. ,0 +9824,Something so satisfying about seeing that shiny crackled brownie top. (Last photo is cheese ice cream on top of the brownies for the perfect lazy day dessert.). ,0 +9825,Summer tart. ,0 +9826,my first time making an entremet!. ,0 +9827,"Christmas Tree Focaccia. Second time making [Samin Nosrat's Ligurian Focaccia](https://www.saltfatacidheat.com/fat/ligurian-focaccia) but my first time decorating it. Subbed agave for the honey in the recipe and decorated with flat leaf parsley, cherry tomatoes, red onions, and a banana pepper star. Very pleased with the result!",0 +9828,Made my hubby Claire Saffitz confetti cake for his birthday. ,0 +9829,"My boyfriend’s family surprised me with a key lime pie because I’m always talking about it, but THIS is a weird pie. Can someone explain to me why it’s so weird? From moio’s in PA. ",0 +9830,"My third ever attempt at baking Macarons, and they're nearly perfect!. ",0 +9831,Blueberry Cheesecake Bonbons! Technically not a baked good but I hope that’s okay.. ,0 +9832,I always enjoy watching the videos on here! Here’s one I made of a German chocolate cake :). ,0 +9833,[Baked] Lotus Biscoff Cheesecake. ,0 +9834,Linzer cookies with redcurrant jelly. ,0 +9835,My leche flan bear!. ,0 +9836,"This isn't melted cheese, it's the plastic cutting board I forgot to remove from under my bread dough.. ",0 +9837,Had soooo much fun creating these special flavors for my friends wedding 🧁. ,0 +9838,My giant cornbread turkey with actual corn in it that I make for thanksgiving. It’s supposed to be for cakes but who said you can’t use cake molds for cornbread?. ,0 +9839,Made lemon curd tiramisú with a homemade blueberry sauce!. ,0 +9840,I’ve been busy.. ,0 +9841,Very proud of the cupcakes my girlfriend made me for Valentine's Day. ,0 +9842,Biggest honey cake I ever made. So far😉😋🤤. ,0 +9843,"This is my Goodbye summer cake, it was absolutely delicious!. ",0 +9844,Made my own version of a grocery store bar cake for my bf’s birthday and he loved it!. ,0 +9845,Made this basque cheesecake for a get together. ,0 +9846,First time making lemon bars!. ,0 +9847,I made some mini gobs last night. I love baking mini things <3. ,0 +9848,Let the Thanksgiving baking begin!. ,0 +9849,"My ""summer solstice"" (Jāņi) cookies! We drink beer and jump through bonfires while wearing flower/oak leaf wreaths.. ",0 +9850,Made this extra crunchy airy and light FOCACCIA 🙌. ,0 +9851,"I made a succulent cake for my mom's 75th birthday. It's a yellow cake, filled with strawberry mousse, and frosted with almond buttercream.. ",0 +9852,Finally got my pita to puff!. ,0 +9853,"My partner loves typewriters, so I surprised him with a cake version of his! Flavour: Mocha filling with a salted caramel icing.. ",0 +9854,"My wife & I have a great system for making our kids’ birthday cakes. I bake, she freehands the design, I cut and assemble, she frosts. This year, a toucan! Happy 8th, buddy boy.. ",0 +9855,Finally achieved crackly top brownies!. ,0 +9856,The various scones I bake at work.... ,0 +9857,Here’s a weezer cake I made while drunk in the early hours of the morning. ,0 +9858,Why is my cheesecake cracking after I bake it??. ,0 +9859,My cousin just graduated from the University of Houston and asked me to make the cake for the party. ,0 +9860,"My first and second attempt at baking swirled cookies, so happy with the improvement!!. ",0 +9861,Brain shaped cupcakes. I hope everyone thinks they look disgusting.. ,0 +9862,Made more bronuts (really need a better name for these) with a fancy presentation this time.. ,0 +9863,Trying to get better at decorating. I made a drastic error with the cake pop design.. ,0 +9864,We had a Halloween Baking competition at work. Safe to say I did not win!. ,0 +9865,First try at cannolis(sorry I suck at taking pictures). ,0 +9866,My daughter wanted a hamster cake for her birthday. So I did cake and cake balls.. ,0 +9867,"Spending my time gaining my cooking skills. I am in Ukraine 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦, the war is outside. So it is perfect time to stay home and make aome good food. ",0 +9868,Video my mom's business did for her cinnamon rolls. ,0 +9869,That's one way of using up the Chocolate Oranges.. ,0 +9870,Made Star Wars lava buns for a college literature class project. ,0 +9871,Milk Bar Mocha Cookies and Cream Cake. ,0 +9872,My first ever cake from scratch ❤️ Magnolia Bakery inspired Vanilla Cake!. ,0 +9873,Baked a cake for my nans 80th birthday with all handmade edible flowers. She’s had a tough year as her husband of 60 years had to go into a home so wanted to surprise her as flowers are her favourite thing.. ,0 +9874,"First time making cinnamon rolls! Next time I plan on using a bit less cinnamon, and adding golden raisins.. ",0 +9875,A hand painted cake I made for a friend's baby shower. ,0 +9876,Halloween showstopper 💀🤩👻🥳🎃. ,0 +9877,Spooky Apple Pie 💀🍎. ,0 +9878,Birthday cupcakes for a purple-loving friend. ,0 +9879,I learned some lessons from this pie. Friend specifically asked for a blueberry cream pie.Did what I could (never made that). Turns out they expected a cheesecake. At least they enjoyed the crust 🤦🏽‍♂️. ,0 +9880,My Halloween tarts. ,0 +9881,That time I made Cookie Monster cupcakes for my kid’s kindergarten class and scared the crap out of them.... ,0 +9882,Most recent bakes!. ,0 +9883,Blue Pancakes. ,0 +9884,Birthday cake for my girlfriend 🦖. ,0 +9885,First time baking a blueberry pie from scratch... where did I go wrong?. ,0 +9886,Now I see why the recipe recommended 3 rolls instead of 2 😳. ,0 +9887,"Cupcake selection for a friend's birthday (Jammie Dodger, Rolo/Caramel, Southern Comfort, S'mores, Mango, Chocolate Orange). ",0 +9888,Bourbon Apple Crisp Cheesecake w/ Salted Caramel Sauce.. ,0 +9889,Invited a few friends over for my bday this weekend… forgot to halve my recipe and ended up with 70+ sugar cookies. Whoops!. ,0 +9890,NOT a baker. Made my wife a Ding Dong cake for her birthday.. ,0 +9891,Smash cake I made for my daughter's first birthday! She gently removed and ate the toppings then walked away without touching the cake at all. ,0 +9892,Every time. ,0 +9893,"My first time making a sculpted cake, and no fondant.. ",0 +9894,"Carrot cake cheesecake, because the amount of cream cheese frosting I like isn’t socially acceptable. ",0 +9895,Be gentle. I am not a baker. Just got the notion to make a blue berry pie. ATK recipe. Pretty happy with results.. ,0 +9896,made myself a cake for my baby shower tomorrow. ,0 +9897,Brought the butter (cake) to sidesgiving! 🧈. ,0 +9898,I have a bouquet of flours. ,0 +9899,My first ever layered cake and decorated. Never decorated a cake before. Is it any good? I ran out of room for the S lol.. ,0 +9900,working on my own cheesecake recipe. 1st try turned out smooth af. ,0 +9901,🏀 cake made by me!. ,0 +9902,Thanks to all your tips my edges did not fall off this time! Before and after baking this apple pie. ,0 +9903,Chicken pot pie...ish?. ,0 +9904,First and second attempt for my sons birthday cake - i think i improved :). ,0 +9905,Lunchbox Cakes.. ,0 +9906,Obligatory Halloween Pumpkin Loaf!. ,0 +9907,First attempt at a lemon drizzle cake… I don’t think I’ve done too bad! It tastes better than it looks ☺️. ,0 +9908,A blueberry pie I just made/ate :). ,0 +9909,A cupcake bouquet I did a few days ago. ,0 +9910,I made a mixed berry pie depicting the last moments of Adonis who was badly gored by a wild boar. He tragically died in the arms of Aphrodites as she wept.. ,0 +9911,My first cake! Vanilla cake with chocolate buttercream and raspberry preserve filling ☺️. ,0 +9912,words ugliest macaroons :). ,0 +9913,It rained for a minute this afternoon and I got in a baking mood. Peanut butter cookies with peanut butter buttercream and caramel filling!. ,0 +9914,"Coconut taro cake that I made earlier, sliced (and eaten) now that I brought it to my mom!. ",0 +9915,Self-taught baker here. A batch of my English muffins for my family of 5 (only about a week’s worth lol). ,0 +9916,Pumpkin whoopie pies w/cream cheese frosting. ,0 +9917,Today I failed at baking meringue shells because I read 200F as 200C. Because why post only perfect pictures?. ,0 +9918,"Cake was rejected at work, feeling sad. Hey everyone, long time lurker first time poster here. I had a situation at work the other day, and I wanted to see if anybody else has experienced something like this. I spent three hours the other night making a beautiful chocolate cake with homemade everything for my work Thanksgiving party. When I brought it to the party, many people said how good it looked. But one of my coworkers made a “joke“ that it’s probably covered in cat hair because I have cats at home. People got thoroughly grossed out by the idea and my cake went completely untouched. I was so heartbroken. I felt like crying. Has anyone, especially people who have pets, experience something like this? To be clear my cats are never allowed in the kitchen when I’m baking and never allowed on the counters at any time. I clean very thoroughly and make sure to wash my hands constantly when I’m baking for other people, it just really hurt my feelings and I guess I kind of want to vent that.",0 +9919,I made Swedish saffron buns!. ,0 +9920,Here’s the cake i made today. I don’t bake often anymore so i’m proud of it. It’s from scratch:). ,0 +9921,First try at baking a coloured bread! I used spinach and spanish paprika.. ,0 +9922,Cupcakes for a bridal shower!. ,0 +9923,"Cranberry tartlets, NOT KETCHUP*****. ",0 +9924,SO made snowmen macaroons - Happy holidays!. ,0 +9925,I'm obsessed with pot pie. I've baked 3 this year. Yet I thirst for more..... ,0 +9926,I’ve never had a stand mixer of my own and my boyfriend got me one for Christmas!! She is beyond beautiful and I have been in pursuit of the perfect macarons since Christmas morning. Yesterday’s red velvet were the closest I could get. Hope everyone had a fabulous holiday!. ,0 +9927,Cinnamon bun scones. ,0 +9928,"A witchy bachelorette, a RadTech graduation, and some sweet kitties. My favorite sets of the year so far!. ",0 +9929,"First attempt at a layer cake: strawberries and cream 🍓 Advice on getting a fluffier chiffon cake is welcomed, please!. ",0 +9930,My first ever rainbow cake 🌈 What do you guys think?. ,0 +9931,holiday 2021 baking all done!. ,0 +9932,Sixth time's the charm? I FINALLY made some croissants I feel good about posting here.. ,0 +9933,Brown butter chocolate chip cookies for a friend with COVID. ,0 +9934,"My very first apple pie, how did I do?. ",0 +9935,Macaroons! Third time trying and I think I finally nailed it!. Recipie was by Sally’s baking addiction,0 +9936,First try of cake vs. most recent cake.. ,0 +9937,First attempt at crème caramel!. ,0 +9938,I made the honeycomb lemon pull-apart cake with the Nordic Ware pan! 🐝. ,0 +9939,I made candied pear slices for a garnish. ,0 +9940,"It’s not too early for fall themed cakes, right? RIGHT?!. ",0 +9941,"In honor of my kid having Covid, I present the PaxLova! Meringue “Covid” filled with chantilly cream and a raspberry.. ",0 +9942,"Zucchini Chocolate ""Bread"" that's just a straight up cake but who am I too judge I'm not a professional baker™. ",0 +9943,"Since everyone seemed to like the post my son made for me, I decided to make a reddit account! Here is another cake design with the dehydrated fruit flowers.. ",0 +9944,"shh, the loaf is sleeping. ",0 +9945,Baked some donuts today 🍩. ,0 +9946,Customer asked for a teal cake but left the rest up to me. I absolute love how this turned out.. ,0 +9947,I made a carrot cake cheesecake for Easter.. ,0 +9948,Cake by me 😊🍾. ,0 +9949,Finally feel like I’m improving a little with this tiered almond cake I made for my mom’s 60th. ,0 +9950,Made my husband Peanut Butter Mousse Entremets for his birthday. He had the nerve to call them giant peanut butter cups.. ,0 +9951,"Came back from holidays just to make 5x cakes in 2 days, yeey me ! ""Cake 1"". ",0 +9952,"She’s not pretty, but she was tasty!. First time baking a pie! Lots of room for improvement with the crust, but I was pretty happy with how my Okinawan sweet potato haupia (coconut pudding) pie turned out. Tried a slice of this pie recently in Hawaii and I had to try and replicate it once I got home.",0 +9953,I made a pie for a coworker who brought us bagels . Now she wants to order one for a birthday. I’m so nervous now.😬. ,0 +9954,Apricot doughnuts. ,0 +9955,"Started making croissants again, any questions, ask away!. Excuse the crushing of the side in the crumb shot, my knife was blunt.",0 +9956,First attempt at making baked donuts! Some have apple & cinnamon flavours and the others dark chocolate glaze 🤤. ,0 +9957,My latest Keylime Cheese cake made to look like a Lime 💚. ,0 +9958,Two blank buttercream canvases from this weekend’s bakes.. ,0 +9959,I made lingerie sandwich cookies filled with salted caramel ganache and pecan praline. ,0 +9960,"My dad would’ve been 71 today, so I baked his favorite cake.. ",0 +9961,Made with love and lots of whipped cream 🍒. ,0 +9962,Great presentation.. ,0 +9963,Made my first heart-shaped cake!. ,0 +9964,Some beignets I made the other week.. ,0 +9965,A collection of the seasonal fruit tarts I made this summer!. ,0 +9966,"This ... This, right here ... My childhood baking memories. All living harmoniously, in my parents kitchen, to this very day. 😂🥰. ",0 +9967,"I finished my Christmas cookie boxes! There's 18 total, all made with love! They include: brown butter chocolate chip, orange cranberry shortbread, penut butter blossoms, chewy molasses, and sugar cookies!. ",0 +9968,Made this cake for a 90th birthday party. It’s lemon cake with raspberry filling and lemon frosting.. ,0 +9969,Obsessed with making tiny vintage heart cakes ~ 4”. ,0 +9970,Kitchen Sink Cookies. ,0 +9971,Apple Pie Blondie 🍏🥧. ,0 +9972,I won best in show at the ACF competition we did for our cake decorating class!. ,0 +9973,I made oatmeal cream pies. ,0 +9974,White Chocolate Christmas Cake. ,0 +9975,Made some peanut butter macarons after a dry spell. ,0 +9976,"My first pineapple upside down cake, I thought I could replace the cherries with blueberries. Big mistake. ",0 +9977,My grandmother asked for a “non-scary” apple pie. I wanted to impress her with a lattice pattern and hoping she likes it! Love you grandma😘. ,0 +9978,So I’m new to cake decorating and I worked hard on this and feel proud about it and wanna show it off. ,0 +9979,found the perfect lemon icing cookie recipe. ,0 +9980,This week i tried to go for penguins but idk what they ended up being! Baby grey ducks maybe? Caramel flavoured buttercream on a chocolate cupcake 🥰. ,0 +9981,Rosette and hydrangea cupcakes for a garden tea party. ,0 +9982,I never thought this would actually happen to me… It took me 2 hours to make a mousse cake for my husband and the bottom fell out when it hit the ice maker in the freezer.. ,0 +9983,"When I was little I would only assist my mom in making baklava so I finally tried it myself, I think it turned out alright. ",0 +9984,I'm no baker but this butter cake made me proud.. ,0 +9985,Made some honey crullers this weekend 🫶. ,0 +9986,49 male who’s an amateur at best. ,0 +9987,"my first go at tiramisu, am very pleased. ",0 +9988,Fun cake I made for a friend’s party tonight!. ,0 +9989,🐶 cookies (a little wonky). ,0 +9990,Boooooooooook! Hocus Pocus Sausage Pot Pie. ,0 +9991,My mother and the groom’s mother hand made like 600 desserts for my sister’s wedding last Saturday. They were a hit! So delicious.. ,0 +9992,"It's not perfect but, all I've ever wanted to do was bake my child's first birthday cake and I'm so proud of it.. ",0 +9993,here you go🤎. ,0 +9994,I made a Portal cake with hidden Companion Cube...c&c's welcome!. ,0 +9995,Strawberry Swiss roll. ,0 +9996,My baby's 1st birthday cake. ,0 +9997,Made a ham cake for my partner passing her ham radio test. Lemon herb cake with Ermine icing. ,0 +9998,Well I know now not to try recipes solely because they look good. Blueberry white chocolate ganache tart I've been meaning to try for a while which didn't set and I don't think it will but I still tried decorating it with swiss meringue and messed that up as well. Good soup tho. ,0 +9999,"Roses, carnations, and peonies in buttercream on lemon cupcakes for valentines day. I only recently learned the carnation and am happy with how it turned out.. ",0 +10000,Potted succulents cake I made for a friend. ,0 +10001,"May not be as fancy as some here, but behold. The most uniform cheesecake I've ever made. ",0 +10002,Bee themed cake for my baby girl! 🐝. ,0 +10003,Forgot to buy myself a piece of styrofoam to put these in….. ,0 +10004,Tie-dye bread for our tie-dye party! 🌈. ,0 +10005,A wordless horror story. ,0 +10006,I made a blackberry cheesecake with wild blackberries I found on my walk.. ,0 +10007,A sampling of the cookies I decorated for customers this season!. ,0 +10008,First time making macarons… what the heck went wrong?!. ,0 +10009,All done! Earl grey macaron with earl grey honey and vanilla custard and an earl grey buttercream 🥰. ,0 +10010,I found this hilariously bad review of a sugar cookie recipe- this is why people think baking is hard!. ,0 +10011,Happy Easter.. ,0 +10012,"my mom tells me these are under baked, but they just came out of a 350°f oven for about 12 minutes, they're gooey, and I'm telling her that when they cool they'll be fine, am I dumb, or is she right?. ",0 +10013,Game Night Macarons! Dorito shells filled with a Mountain Dew buttercream. ,0 +10014,Lemon Meringue Cheesecake 🍋. ,0 +10015,Son wants a rainbow birthday cake with a dump truck + candies like the sample pic. Got a quote from a bakery & they wanted to charge me $110 for JUST the cake w no toppings. So I spent >$110 getting baking tools + ingredients & baked it myself. Ordered dump truck toy & off to get candies tonight.. ,0 +10016,Dirt Cake Cookies! Playing around with some back to school ideas 🍪🪱. ,0 +10017,decided to make my own birthday cake this year. ,0 +10018,A time lapse of chewy molasses cookies baking. ,0 +10019,Any tips for putting parchment(?)/wax(?) paper between the cake slices like this?. ,0 +10020,"Finally finished two dozen of these for a Valentine's pop-up! Vanilla citrus & vanilla caramel sugar cookies with royal icing. Cookies based on Madame Dabi, Caducado, & Sveta Shubina's art.. ",0 +10021,I love baking but am so bad at decorating. I've decided to lean into it.. ,0 +10022,I finally got myself a kitchen torch and made creme brulee macarons 🤤🔥. ,0 +10023,Would you be happy with these at a wedding? (GF cake alternative). ,0 +10024,My younger sister and I made a cake!. ,0 +10025,Realized the bread I baked yesterday isn’t done while slicing it today. Is it salvageable?. ,0 +10026,I made a Mona Lisa Bourdaloue Tart. ,0 +10027,Sally’s Baking Addiction Chocolate Chip Muffins!. ,0 +10028,"5 yo daughter wanted rainbow cookies, momma and daddy gave it a try!. ",0 +10029,"It ain't much, but after severe floods here in South East QLD Aus, shops ran out of bread, and I made my own for the first time. Turned out way better than I thought. ",0 +10030,"I made a steak cake with carrots, peas, and a baked potato. ",0 +10031,Made a big batch of blueberry orange muffins for my synagogue for this week's Shabbat ♡. ,0 +10032,I’m a 36 year old dad. I started baking bread last fall/winter. Decided this year I’m going to try some sweets. My first attempt is the Bravetart E.L. Fudge knockoffs. I’m happy with them.. ,0 +10033,Cupcakes for my coworkers. ,0 +10034,Made some doughnuts for the first time. They are not perfect but I am so proud!. ,0 +10035,"My sister graduated as a midwife, so I made her a cake! Lot of firsts and the topper melted a bit but pretty pleased with how it turned out. ",0 +10036,Every year I make each kid their own gingerbread house to decorate.. ,0 +10037,Made my best cheesecake yet!. ,0 +10038,Made some Twix cookies with homemade caramel.. ,0 +10039,Gift for a friend who is retiring.. ,0 +10040,"Inspired by all the yule logs, I wanted to share mine! Chocolate w/ Baileys, merengue mushrooms and microwave cake moss!. ",0 +10041,"After Baking About 100, I Finally Made a Perfect Canele. ",0 +10042,I made this cake for my 13yr girl cousin birthday! Hope she likes it.. ,0 +10043,"1st try, 2nd try, 3rd try. ",0 +10044,I had my first baking/decorating class at Wilton yesterday 🙂. ,0 +10045,Lemon blueberry bread. Too many blueberries??. ,0 +10046,Fächertorte. An old forgotten Jewish recipe.. ,0 +10047,Rose and pistachio cupcakes. ,0 +10048,"Plan B cake I made for my MIL's ""whimsical garden party"" I planned to celebrate her 60th Birthday. ",0 +10049,"My husband baked and decorated his first ever cake, completely from scratch, and I am beaming with pride for him. It was so moist and delicious, and the decorations were well executed - But my favorite part was seeing how much he enjoyed himself!. ",0 +10050,I made u/notsofancymum’s brookies. They turned out super well! Thanks for sharing your recipe! :). ,0 +10051,"New to this subreddit, can’t wait to get some inspiration from other bakers! This is my most recent creation - a little wonky but my first attempt at a bavarian cake 😊. ",0 +10052,A magical multi-layer poppy seed cake. ,0 +10053,Cheesecake Choux Au Craquelin!. ,0 +10054,Birthday macarons. ,0 +10055,Here’s my Christmas cookie gifts of the year. Details in the comments. Any tips or suggestions is appreciated!. ,0 +10056,"First try at chocolate babka, and I’m pretty pleased. ",0 +10057,"Chocolate chip cookies for friend, unicorn cookies for friend's kid 🦄. ",0 +10058,"I’m very rarely happy with the things I bake, I always feel like There’s something that I could’ve done better or differently. But today I’m happy. S’mores cheesecake with marshmallow meringue.. ",0 +10059,"I've always been too shy to post after seeing the gorgeous creations on here, but I feel pretty good about these! (red velvet w cream cheese frosting). ",0 +10060,Opera cake! A 5 part cake that took me 6 hours to finish. I feel so accomplished.. ,0 +10061,I made 60 cinnamon rolls today at work~. ,0 +10062,"Because I like to play with my food, I baked a TicTacToe Cherry Pie for Valentine’s Day. ",0 +10063,apple spice cupcakes with cinnamon buttercream.. ,0 +10064,An edible garden. ,0 +10065,Boston Cream Pie my mom made for my birthday!. ,0 +10066,We had a baking competition in baking school today. The topic was Halloween :D. ,0 +10067,"New to baking, tried making my first pie yesterday. ",0 +10068,Baking in a TOXIC work environment broke me. I stopped baking and cooking all together. This is my therapy cake. It got me back in the kitchen. Be kind.. ,0 +10069,This might be my favorite Jack O’ Lantern cookie yet 🎃. ,0 +10070,Where can I get this recipe?. ,0 +10071,Some of my favorite cookies of 2021. ,0 +10072,Bruce Bogtrotter...... You will eat this entire cake. ,0 +10073,"First time making a number cake and working with whipped cream, I love how this turned out. ",0 +10074,When I’m bored I make piles of cookies :). ,0 +10075,I made a pistachio blueberry entremet!. ,0 +10076,Lemon Meringue Cupcakes: swipe to see the inside!. ,0 +10077,I got to make a horror themed bday cake for a friend and it turned out to be my favorite cake ever!. ,0 +10078,"accidentally added twice as much evaporated milk as required to a pumpkin pie base. Anything I can do with this, or just toss out?. ",0 +10079,I made a fish cake for my birthday :3 vanilla cake with blackcurrant mousse filling. ,0 +10080,I made this at work(OJT) today!. ,0 +10081,"Lemon, white chocolate and pistachio shortbread for my friend’s wedding tomorrow 💖. ",0 +10082,"My cousin asked if I could bake something to commemorate his family's beloved bulldog, Bubba (AKA ""Fat Boy"").. ",0 +10083,Made my mom who loves murder shows a birthday cake. ,0 +10084,My first homemade caramel. ,0 +10085,Turned my kids loose in the kitchen and got treated to focaccia art with dinner. ,0 +10086,Cinnamon Rolls for Pride. ,0 +10087,I don’t think I’ve ever been so surprised that something I made wasn’t a failure 😹 My first apple tartine 🍎 🍎 🍎. ,0 +10088,I made the desserts for my sister's Lord of the Rings themed wedding. ,0 +10089,strawberry whipped cream cake. ,0 +10090,Am I pricing too high? My dog was diagnosed with cancer and I'm trying to raise some money by selling baked goods. ,0 +10091,"peaches n cream cake. sorry about the missing slice, I couldn't resist 😅. ",0 +10092,Treats I made for Two Scoops Are Better Than One twin baby shower theme. ,0 +10093,Matcha White Chocolate Chip Cookies (Recipe). ,0 +10094,I made doughnuts! I don’t have good luck with yeast so I was really happy these turned out!. ,0 +10095,I made a turkey bread!!. ,0 +10096,Since we're posting filthy pics.... ,0 +10097,"I think this is one of my prettiest cakes. For an at-home hobby baker, I'm really proud!. This is a whole orange spice cake and the crumb coat and filling is Russian buttercream. I made the colors by microwaving the buttercream for a few seconds and used Wilton gel icing colors and then piped and used a small paint brush to spread the color.",0 +10098,Brain cake I made for a Halloween party 🧠. ,0 +10099,I tried baking some lovely cookies for Valentine’s Day. I’m not that expert with royal icing. I hope they are worth buying!. ,0 +10100,This cool little guide to make a half or a third of a batch.. ,0 +10101,Dark Chocolate Cherry Cupcakes Recipe. ,0 +10102,My husband and I tried!. ,0 +10103,NYT Cooking Cranberry Curd Tart. ,0 +10104,I’m a terrible cake decorator. But I wanted a christmassy cake….. ,0 +10105,"Not perfect, but my proudest creation yet! Triple chocolate cake with strawberry filling 🌹. ",0 +10106,I like making lemon tarts 🍋. ,0 +10107,Cat shaped toast 🐱. ,0 +10108,Made Banana Cream Pie from scratch!. ,0 +10109,I made CUPcakes for a Boobus Reducius celebration.. ,0 +10110,I made this Mozart Cake (cause it is inspired by Mozart chocolate bonbons) for my husband's birthday. It's a chocolate mousse cake with marzipan and pistachio cream.. ,0 +10111,Sharing the gender reveal cupcakes I made! Even though I totally filled them with the wrong colour (oops). ,0 +10112,Some mycology inspired cupcakes I made from scratch for my lab mates birthday!. ,0 +10113,Made English muffins for the first time!. ,0 +10114,"Made a Yule Log for Christmas. The spiral kinda sucks, but overall it turned out pretty good.. ",0 +10115,I made a Chocolate Cheesecake with Braille for my Partner's Birthday. ,0 +10116,"Food is my love language. In my anorexia recovery, I'm trying hard to apply that to myself. Today, I made brownies :""). ",0 +10117,"So my best friend asked a few of her friends to help her out for her wedding on the cake front, we all made different tiers, with different dietary requirements. I made a dairy free, super gooey, chocolate cake. Just loved the idea that we all made something different and it saved money.. ",0 +10118,"Someone gave me the recipe and it's called Ben's Cookies. Thank you, Ben- it's one hella good cookies recipe.. ",0 +10119,"As promised, here is my completed sugar showpiece for pastry class (with swans!). It is made of pulled, poured, pressed and blown sugar.. ",0 +10120,Do you call this Puppy Chow or Muddy Buddies? Interested to see where you’re from too!. ,0 +10121,Reposting the cookies that my boss hated because I quit my job and am not afraid of them finding my post! (Also check out these little lemon fondant slices I painted today). ,0 +10122,Husband baked me a Xmas cake. We’re a Hindu couple living in Mumbai but I love the holiday season so he always makes it extra special for me:). ,0 +10123,I baked a tribute to Nichelle Nichols (Lt. Uhura) in cherry pie form. ,0 +10124,I made the perfect cherry pie. ,0 +10125,First time really trying to make a cheesecake. Could use some advice please.. ,0 +10126,Kalamansi and yuzu tartelette . Different presentations : left or right ?. ,0 +10127,I made homemade Ferrero Rocher.. ,0 +10128,Everyone here was making lemon bars and so I got jealous. ,0 +10129,My most ambitious macaron bake! A moving macaron swing set for character macarons Kuromi and My Melody to play on! 💜💕 filled with white chocolate raspberry ganache!. ,0 +10130,I baked an homage to Van Gogh’s Sunflowers for Pi Day - Apple spice pie. ,0 +10131,My first cake!. ,0 +10132,Cupcakes 😍. ,0 +10133,Marzipan over cheesecake for my birthday.. ,0 +10134,"Rosh Hashanah 2022,the fruit of stress and hard work. ",0 +10135,"My holiday baking is finally done. 10 different cookies, over 40 dozen.. ",0 +10136,"King cake - ""PuffyPastry"". ",0 +10137,Someone gave me a Bundt pan at a garage sale today so I made a lemon Bundt cake and dropped it off at their house. ,0 +10138,My manager took some very nice pictures of my coffee cake :) my personal favorite thing that I make. ,0 +10139,I am taking pastry courses and made this red velvet. The best hobby in my life. ,0 +10140,"Had a shit day at work. So I made pumpkin cupcakes with cinnamon cream cheese frosting. Still had a shit day, but now I have dessert!. ",0 +10141,Practicing making cake pops for my daughters birthday. This is my first one ever! So happy!. ,0 +10142,Cake with hand painted candied pears I made for my wife’s birthday.. ,0 +10143,Some gooey chocolate chip cookies with some milk chocolate chunks on top. Looking for photography help! What can I do better??. ,0 +10144,For a summery baby shower last year (vanilla cake with berry-orange compote filling). ,0 +10145,I made a Charmander birthday cake for my brother-in-law. ,0 +10146,"Made this cake for my little brother’s graduation with his bachelor’s of music, showing the melody part of his favorite song he performed while at school. First time piping this level of detail!. ",0 +10147,My hands were shaking a lot but I’m ecstatic with how this turned out!. ,0 +10148,A batch of macarons that I'm actually proud enough to post on here 🥲. ,0 +10149,"Teen baker here. A cookie from my first ever batch. Not the best photo quality, but tasted heavenly.. ",0 +10150,I made orange crunch cake! one of my favorite cakes ever. ,0 +10151,I like to live on the Edge. ,0 +10152,Made this pretty little cake with itty bitty hand piped prairie inspired buttercream florals. Reminds me of dried flowers.. ,0 +10153,Woodland Creatures Biscuit Lantern. ,0 +10154,Which pie do you prefer? Left or right?. ,0 +10155,The making of my recent (unintentionally creepy) minion-inspired banana tart. ,0 +10156,My first attempt at cheesecake. ,0 +10157,Made a subway themed cake for my friend’s birthday. I think it turned out well 😅. ,0 +10158,My pink glitter macarons for my bridesmaids proposal boxes! They have a white chocolate raspberry ganache filling ✨💕. ,0 +10159,Stained Glass Eggnog Custard Tart with Rum Glaze. ,0 +10160,Been working on my macaron game. ,0 +10161,Attempt 2 at macarons after a disastrous first try. ,0 +10162,The Great British Bake Along - Week Three! Orange-glazed pain aux raisin 🧡. ,0 +10163,Walmart closing near me. Was able to get this and a bunch of other stuff for 50% off!. ,0 +10164,made these macarons and a cake for my sister's journey into hobbit adulthood aka her 33rd birthday. ,0 +10165,See? You don’t have to spend a lot of money to have a first class wedding reception…. ,0 +10166,My daughter requested an Oreo ice cream cake with a pink and white cat with glasses for her birthday. I tried.. ,0 +10167,dreamed of eating cookies last night.. woke up in the middle of the night and made these at 3am today hahaha. ,0 +10168,Homemade Vanilla. A year in the making! I can’t wait to bake with it today!. ,0 +10169,"The only thing baked here is the pie crust, but I think this pink pineapple pie still fits the spirit of the sub. ",0 +10170,Yellow and chocolate lambeth cake!. ,0 +10171,Chocolate cake with cookie dough buttercream and dark chocolate ganache 🥳. ,0 +10172,My gingerbread house 2021!. ,0 +10173,I made a refreshing no-bake Mango Cheesecake for my neighbour convalescence since it's pretty hot here!. ,0 +10174,Me? Clean up before the pic? No. You’re going to witness the hour and 45 minutes I spent slaving away over making this frosting :). ,0 +10175,My first attempt at chocolate crinkle cookies (sorry is out of focus). ,0 +10176,Tears of Joy! My parents sent us this beaut as a belated anniversary and early Christmas present.. ,0 +10177,Made A Cake For My Father. ,0 +10178,Made a mushroom log cake for my mycologist coworker today! Chocolate cake with dark chocolate mousse filling and ganache frosting. ,0 +10179,My mom (who knows her pancakes) said my lemon blueberry pancakes were the best she'd ever had!. ,0 +10180,"Potato and caramelized onion, with fresh rosemary and thyme, in savory short crust. ",0 +10181,Pride Chocolate Chip Cookies. ,0 +10182,Uhmm is it ok for me to post my No Bake Strawberry Jelly Cheesecake in r/Baking?. ,0 +10183,Glad to say that after almost 1year doing this I have developed some kind of my own style. Vanilla cake with raspberry jam.. ,0 +10184,"Woke up to the cakussy post, then my gf unknowingly brings me a sconussy from a nearby bakery. ",0 +10185,"on my 7th attempt finally made tall jiggly no crack no shrinkage Chocolate Castella Cake with semi melted chocolate chips on top and bottom, so soft fluffy moist tender, bounce back easily. ",0 +10186,"So I didn’t bake this, but I had to fix it. ",0 +10187,How much would you buy each buñuelo for ?? Just curious may try to start a small business. Thank you!. ,0 +10188,I made some sugar cookies and coated them in chocolate. I’d love some honest feedback about the coating (specially choc. temper) since it’s my 1st time.. ,0 +10189,Apple Strudel in the Making. ,0 +10190,anyone have any good recipes that use fresh blueberries? my family is begging me to not make muffins again (savages). ,0 +10191,The best gift I will ever receive. ,0 +10192,Really happy with how my boyfriends birthday cake turned out 🥰. ,0 +10193,Look at the first cinnamon rolls I ever made!. ,0 +10194,"Hi! My name is Danah, and I’m 17 years old. I’ve been baking for 9 years! Here is the cake I made for my sister’s birthday. (I made croissants today but I forgot to take pics 😭). I just wanted to introduce myself since I’m new to this Reddit group!!. ",0 +10195,"Mousse cake with black currant, any thoughts?. ",0 +10196,Brown butter chai cupcakes! Yum!. ,0 +10197,"Japanese cheesecake. First attempt, I think it went okay?. ",0 +10198,"Far from perfect, but my daughters birthday cake is at least done and ready for her party tomorrow.. ",0 +10199,Made this cake for my daughter’s 14th birthday. I’m calling it a lemon extravaganza cake.. ,0 +10200,I made a Minion tart filled with dark chocolate ganache and banana curd.. ,0 +10201,My twin girls turn 11 today and made their own birthday cakes! They wanted me to share…the book cake is an ice cream cake. ,0 +10202,Kinder Bueno Cookie Tart - something a bit different!. ,0 +10203,"A set of chocolate explosion cakes for 18 year old twins, who are chalk and cheese! Milk chocolate, and Biscoff/white chocolate. ",0 +10204,Bundt cakes will be the death of me! Tasted good though.. ,0 +10205,"I made the brownie cookies I saw the other day but instead of m&ms, I used star sprinkles. ",0 +10206,I made Hot Cross Buns. ,0 +10207,Hoe-made Oreo's with cream cheese frosting.. ,0 +10208,Cupcake Florals. ,0 +10209,I just want to show this cake my sister baked for me and my friends because it’s so pretty. ,0 +10210,"Made for my nephew, no royal icing needed. ",0 +10211,When life gives you lemons: make some lemon pie 🍋🍋. ,0 +10212,wish i was as perfect as my dough child. ,0 +10213,I made a coconut cake with coconut buttercream frosting.. ,0 +10214,My Lemon Tart 🍋. ,0 +10215,my meringue ended up deflating :( but capybara meringue cookies !!!. ,0 +10216,Taught kids at a summer camp how to bake southern style biscuits.. ,0 +10217,"She’s a little cracked, just like the rest of us. ",0 +10218,Blueberry swirl cheesecake. ,0 +10219,Hand-painted chocolatey Bigfoot cookie-cake. ,0 +10220,The making of my carrot-ginger Conan O’Brien tribute tart. ,0 +10221,Made these for a party there was tons of leftovers I wonder why?. ,0 +10222,My first pumpkin loaf of the season.. ,0 +10223,I baked a Spider-Man pie. I think he liked it.. ,0 +10224,Here’s a chocolate flaming skull cake with cinnamon lollipop flames I made for a dungeons and dragons session.. ,0 +10225,"My first loaf of bread ever. I'm so proud of it I have to share! I used the recipe for milk bread in The Joy of Cooking, and I don't have a stand mixer so I did it all by hand. It was a bit nerve wracking but I think it turned out well!. ",0 +10226,Millionaire’s Shortbread. ,0 +10227,"My Prinsesstårta. Conquered my fear and tried this. Used the BBC recipe. Had a ton of fun, but it took the whole day and there were one or two scary moments haha! Didn’t thicken the crème pat enough to really hold this all together, but luckily that marzipan layer makes it look like a non-issue. Proud of myself all the same!",0 +10228,Cinnamon star I baked for my coworkers yesterday!. ,0 +10229,A little carrot cake. ,0 +10230,I call these “spite entremets.” My mother-in-law wouldn’t stop complaining that my Thanksgiving spread didn’t include chocolate. Here ya go.. ,0 +10231,"I made panna cotta in shot glasses, should I call it pannashotta?. ",0 +10232,Fun brownie bites for just the adults.. ,0 +10233,"Double chocolate cake, mixed berry compote, mascarpone whipped cream. ",0 +10234,"i’d like to compete for the title of ’ugliest macarons ever made’, there is no saving these guys. ",0 +10235,"My first round of Christmas baking (I make 40 tins for family and friends every year.). Butter tarts, lemon squares, shortbread, raspberry coconut thumbprints, chocolate peppermint blossoms, and cranberry orange cookies. + +I also do peanut butter marshmallow squares and peppermint white chocolate bark.",0 +10236,First attempt at Bánh Bò Nướng (Vietnamese Pandan Honeycomb Cake). ,0 +10237,Birthday party lego cupcakes for my daughter!!. ,0 +10238,Best croissant I have made so far!. ,0 +10239,Blueberry Chai doughnut with a laminated-style dough. Super happy with the layers.. ,0 +10240,For those requesting a cross-section and recipes of my IRL cake day cake. ,0 +10241,Red velvet cookies I made. ,0 +10242,my favorite baking moment. ,0 +10243,when you take a couple weeks off baking and forget how to bagel 😶. ,0 +10244,I made a cake for a handfasting ceremony this weekend. Not too shabby if I do say so myself.. ,0 +10245,"Volunteered at a bakery, inspired me to try croissants for the first time. ",0 +10246,My Mums 64th birthday cake and my first fully frosted cake!. ,0 +10247,Cherry & cinnamon rolls ready for the oven. A glorious sight. ,0 +10248,"I made Harry Potter’s birthday cake. I’m a beginner baker, but I am still proud of it. Inside is a two-layer chocolate cake with chocolate cream in the middle.. ",0 +10249,lavender crystal cake.. ,0 +10250,First time baking an elaborate chocolate cake (it’s a French patisserie called Royal or Trianon). ,0 +10251,Not exactly baking. Chocolate covered Oreos. I love these.. ,0 +10252,"Strawberry/Vanilla cake, designed by Sofia and brought to life by yours truly sweet_stuff_santa. ",0 +10253,Seeing recent post makes me want to know if this is okay for banana bread?. ,0 +10254,"My girlfriend made this lemon pie, and wanted to share it with you :). ",0 +10255,Lemon curd custard tea cake. ,0 +10256,"Been meaning to make this lemon blueberry tart for a while, really pleased with how it turned out. ",0 +10257,Made these cute mini apple pies for Thanksgiving 🍏. ,0 +10258,When you want variety but hate excess. ,0 +10259,First married holidays/birthday and my husband absolutely aced my gift. In return I shall make him all of the things!. ,0 +10260,A few of the Christmas cakes and cupcakes mum has baked this month 🥰. ,0 +10261,"Check out this vanilla and hazelnut praliné Saint Honoré tart I made! Vanilla bean pastry cream, hazelnut praliné whipped ganache, and a cinnamon tart shell.. ",0 +10262,Made a gender reveal cake for a friend’s son and daughter-in-law to reveal their news. ,0 +10263,More aesthetically pleasing strawberry donuts 🍩🍓. ,0 +10264,I was sad to cut into this one -- Eevee cake made for my sister!. ,0 +10265,Love the first birthday cookies for a colleagues daughter 🤷🏼‍♀️. ,0 +10266,I made a 4 layer brown butter carrot cake for my wife’s family this weekend. ,0 +10267,My wife is a baker and made this unbelievable cactus garden cake today 🎂 [pro]. ,0 +10268,I made Linzer cookies for the first time today! ☺️. ,0 +10269,I was unsupervised and did a thing. ,0 +10270,A little behind the scenes action of how I make the most delicious Raspberry Scones!. ,0 +10271,"Our daughter’s 4th birthday cake, her exact request was “chocolate cake with strawberry frosting, sprinkles only on the top, and horses” the most evenly baked layers k have ever done!. ",0 +10272,I made chocolate dipped marranitos. ,0 +10273,First post in this sub featuring my apple pie cheesecake cookies! 🍏. ,0 +10274,Amaury Guichon is feeling festive with his stunning edible Christmas Tree!!!. ,0 +10275,cinnamon roll apple pie. ,0 +10276,"A coffee tart I made! Espresso-soaked ladyfinger sponge, milk namelaka cream, coffee mousse, ""Dark Matter"" ganache, mocha glaze.. ",0 +10277,The forrest floor. One of my favorites redone. ,0 +10278,Does anyone else get so upset at themselves for baking something wrong? Chocolate chip cookies! The easiest thing in the world! I should know how to make those! I've made them before! I feel like crying.. ,0 +10279,First time using royal icing. First time using royal icing. Any tips? I feel like I should of added a bit more water.,0 +10280,I made this mini pie from berries I grew in my garden!. ,0 +10281,Was worried the jam on top was too liquid… nonetheless it turned out well. ,0 +10282,My first time making a chocolate Yule log cake for my birthday tomorrow!. ,0 +10283,I made afternoon tea☕🥂🍰. ,0 +10284,let's just say the egg replacer didn't agree with the other ingredients.. ,0 +10285,Trial run of a yule log cake! Recipe is from a old Cooks illustrated.. First time trying any of these things. Everything went well except rolling the cake since it split a little. Going to try my hand at meringue mushrooms next.,0 +10286,This Meringue is a whole mood. ,0 +10287,lemon cupcake with blueberry Italian buttercream. ,0 +10288,Lemon Meringue Macarons I made for Thanksgiving. ,0 +10289,"Made a Furby cake! Entirely with cake and Swiss meringue buttercream, even the ears. Feeling proud. ",0 +10290,For anyone that saw my post yesterday here is that Birthday cake Cheesecake sliced!!. ,0 +10291,"So I am new to baking, but what is wrong?. ",0 +10292,My lemon loaf with blueberries. Any tips on how to prevent gravity from pulling all fruits to the bottom?. ,0 +10293,The tastiest Hobbit hole. ,0 +10294,Made this cake for my brothers birthday and turned everyones mouth blue. How do i prevent this?. ,0 +10295,"I made a cake for my best friends daughter for her 18th birthday, I hope she likes it.. ",0 +10296,I made my husband a birthday cake.. ,0 +10297,Homemade Chocolate Cake. ,0 +10298,I made some brookies and they have shiny tops. ,0 +10299,Little Valentine’s Day cake. ,0 +10300,Fresh strawberry cake as requested by my husband for his birthday.. ,0 +10301,"it's the great pumpkin, Charlie Brown! Our first attempt at a realism style bake.. ",0 +10302,what cookie cutter is this? Uterus or Dog? 😂. ,0 +10303,"I'm not much of a baker, but I'm pretty happy with how these coffee bean cookies came out. ",0 +10304,My favorite thing to do while waiting for my batter to bake is to take what didn't fit in the pan and put it in my mini waffle maker as a sneak peek. ,0 +10305,Homemade cheesecake. ,0 +10306,Strawberry and elderflower mini cakes in chocolate shells.. ,0 +10307,I made an Eggless Japanese Strawberry Shortcake for my friend who is allergic to eggs. ,0 +10308,Watermelon Cupcakes as seen here. ,0 +10309,This is my brother’s 2nd attempt ever at donuts. They are phenomenal. He’s a master at cakes and is currently raising capital so he can quit his finance job then open a bakery. Proud bro.. ,0 +10310,"This is a friendly PSA that if the recipe tells you to use Bread flour, it's for a reason, and if you use all-purpose, you might have a very bad time and make glue. Tangzhong based dough with AP instead of bread flour haha whoops!. ",0 +10311,Tried to make my girlfriend some birthday cupcakes... what did I do wrong? (new to baking). ,0 +10312,"I made a Bigfoot cookie-cake: chocolate shortbread, chocolate-hazelnut pralinè, cocoa nib crunch, salted caramel, chocolate sponge soaked in rum syrup, and rum ganache.. ",0 +10313,"I was feeling crappy, so I made macarons. Not sure it helped, but at least I have macarons.. ",0 +10314,Cherry Blossom Shortbreads (from the latest GBBO cookbook). ,0 +10315,Made my own wedding cake. ,0 +10316,"Everyone says they are so easy, buy I actually found them quite challenging to make! I present to you, the 5 hour Linzer.... ",0 +10317,"Got this cake for $50 - had preordered - writing is cut off and sloppy, should I call to request any refund? Or is it not worth it?. ",0 +10318,Which photograph should I submit for a contest?. ,0 +10319,I Smell Children!. ,0 +10320,"I baked my own wedding cake, for my wedding today!. ",0 +10321,Daddy made Daughters fifth birthday cake! This years theme rainbows!. ,0 +10322,Spooky birthday pie wish granted!. ,0 +10323,Do these look ugly?. ,0 +10324,When you're too keen to bake your marble cake and forget to swirl the chocolate and vanilla batters together... It creates a leopard cake 😅🤣. ,0 +10325,My best batch yet 🥐🥐🥐. ,0 +10326,Made chocolate chip cookies 🍪. ,0 +10327,I thought this might be appreciated here..... ,0 +10328,And now we wait. First time making homemade vanilla extract!. ,0 +10329,My ACTUAL first cake. Brothers birthday. Whip cream and strawberry pie filling does not make frosting. ,0 +10330,Made by me for me.. ,0 +10331,My challah bread I made at work for a wedding!. ,0 +10332,Baketober day 24: Conchas. ,0 +10333,My toddler and I baked sticky paws 🐾 homemade cinnamon roll dough. ,0 +10334,The Very Hungry Caterpillar made with ermine buttercream and fondant. ,0 +10335,Was told 8 hours in advance that we needed a wedding cake. They wanted modern and small. I’m happy with it.. ,0 +10336,"It's finished!!!!! She asked for spa/bath cake and I went crazy with it! Bottom tier- nutella/fudge , top tier- vanilla /peach. Tomorrow's gonna be the bestest day ever!. ",0 +10337,please check out my latest cheesecakes :) let me know what you think. ,0 +10338,Twix Cookies! These were fun to make.. ,0 +10339,"I participated in an art show today with a cake display! I made 5 mini cakes inspired by classic paintings, it was a blast. ",0 +10340,First time making Pain au Chocolat and then finally trying again two years later. Such a huge improvement!. ,0 +10341,Video of a cake i made and decorated.. ,0 +10342,Homemade brioche cinnamon apple roll with brown butter cream cheese frosting.. ,0 +10343,"Mom’s 80th Birthday cake, Pt. II. ",0 +10344,Does anyone know the name of this dessert or anything similar to it?. ,0 +10345,Orange creamsicle cheesecake. ,0 +10346,"When your cake sticks to the pan and comes out in crumbles, so you do surgery with frosting, create a Kit Kat corset, and try to top with enough candy and candles to distract from the horror of it all. ",0 +10347,"Made a cake for my medievalist friend’s hen do. She’s a fan of Anglo Saxons and I had no idea how to make that into a cake, but then I thought of the Bayeux Tapestry. It’s an almond cake with roasted rhubarb and strawberry and SMBC. ",0 +10348,"Trial run of my wedding cake, with a surprise inside!. ",0 +10349,"My first ever atempt to make macrons , very pleased with the results!!. ",0 +10350,First attempt at cakesicles! They are pretty tasty. ,0 +10351,Cake I baked for my sister's third 17 birthday! Happy birthday Melissa. Hope someone smashes your head into this!!💖. ,0 +10352,Some little voodoo-men I made. So ready for all the spooky season baking!. ,0 +10353,This might be the scariest cake I've ever made. ,0 +10354,"Candied oranges, just… slightly burned. ",0 +10355,I made a wedding cake for my friends!. ,0 +10356,My mom (without telling me) entered me into a baking contest. Here is my entry! Thoughts? ☺️. ,0 +10357,Triple Chocolate Cake. ,0 +10358,My 30th birthday cake. Grapefruit and champagne cake. First time making and working with curd.. ,0 +10359,I tried to make the ducks (Otori-sama) in a tub from Spirited Away. Tips on how to smoothen out buttercream would be greatly appreciated.. ,0 +10360,"Modelling chocolate rose, chocolate buttercream and hazelnut mousse cake. ",0 +10361,I tried my hand at coffee cake for the first time. Amazing!. ,0 +10362,I am stupidly proud of my Easter deep dish quiche Lorraine. ,0 +10363,Made this cake for my small wedding ceremony. First time making a moulded mouse cake - so happy with how it turned out!. ,0 +10364,First cake attempt. Vanilla orange almond cake with orange curd and chopped toasted almond layers. Layers need to be thicker but not bad,0 +10365,"Made three varieties of Levain Bakery style cookies last night. Red velvet white and dark chocolate chip, chocolate peanut butter chip and confetti cake.. ",0 +10366,The ULTIMATE Pineapple Dream Cake. ,0 +10367,Why did my cake rise on one side out of the tin if it was in the center of the oven?. ,0 +10368,Attempted TicTok Fudge. ,0 +10369,Are these TOO ripe for banana bread??. ,0 +10370,Yorkshire forced rhubarb tart. ,0 +10371,"To celebrate Lunar New Year, I made macarons of all 12 of the animal zodiacs! Happy year of the tiger!. ",0 +10372,I’m a 15 year old and I made this cake for my mom’s birthday. Not the best looking cake but I’m proud of myself.. ,0 +10373,I made a tiramisu inspired dessert with Middle Eastern/North African flavors. ,0 +10374,A collection of cakes my wife has made for me and my son's birthdays. ,0 +10375,I made snickerdoodle cookie sandwiches with homemade cinnamon spice buttercream. ,0 +10376,Christmas macarons for the annual family gathering. ,0 +10377,"Best friend finally had the courage to leave his abusive marriage, so I made him a cake to celebrate!. ",0 +10378,it's just a brownie 🙂. ,0 +10379,"Teen nephew's birthday cake. Dark chocolate cake with fudge filling, and a sour cream chocolate ganache.. ",0 +10380,"Rice Krispies. Thanks everyone for all ideas! The potluck is next Wednesday, I'll let you guys know how the krispies go over! + +I know it's not exactly baking, but I need a rice krispies recipe that's better then average. I work at a small place and we do a dessert potluck every few months. This month we changed it up and picked desserts out of a hat. There is a woman I work with that always makes the krispies, and she is not pleased I picked it at random. I offered to trade, because everyone loves her recipe according to her. But she told me it would be nice for everyone to try an inferior recipe so they would know welcome hers back. (Yuck) I'm not spiteful, but dang if I don't wanna show her up. I'm pretty sure she just uses the regular recipe but adds extra marshmallows. Any ideas? Thanks!",0 +10381,macarons i made for a work party!:) they're all different flavours. ,0 +10382,Wife has been feeling stressed lately so I baked her a little Lemon sheet cake to cheer her up.. ,0 +10383,Yesterday we made an XXL Croissant.. ,0 +10384,"Made this monstrosity while hammered at 2 am. Never knew a cake could make me feel so unsettled.. ​ + +https://preview.redd.it/82wygkhw5h791.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3e5e54e233e4ec4126db5574d152a60c2a3002e3",0 +10385,Pies I’ve baked from scratch ☺️🥧. ,0 +10386,Practicing for a wedding idea. How I can make it better? Besides better at drawing:)). ,0 +10387,Strawberry Crunch Cake!. ,0 +10388,A birthday cake:) pandas relaxing at their tiny spa. ,0 +10389,"Ran out of vanilla while making snickerdoodles for the first time. Ended up adding the difference in maple extract, and cutting some of the granulated sugar to brown sugar. And so maple brown sugar snickerdoodles were born.. ",0 +10390,Baked Alaska!. ,0 +10391,Am I the only person who will make exactly one donut for themselves? 🤣. ,0 +10392,"So i made pierogies for the first time. They actually taste pretty good! But i failed at closing some of them (almost everyone). I used cheese, ham and pesto for filling. What else is good to fill them with?. ",0 +10393,Mini Chocolate chip cookies (about the size of a quarter). ,0 +10394,Brown Sugar Chocolate Marshmallows..this was fun to make. ,0 +10395,[comp] flying pigeon progression. ,0 +10396,Halloween Yoga. Stay limber for the season,0 +10397,After severe motorcycle accident and 3 back surgeries later (in 15 months). Was told I’d never walk without assistance again. My body has been rebuilt using yoga and Pilates only. Doctors can’t believe my recovery. Doing yoga 4x a week and feelin good.. ,0 +10398,[COMP] Toe Stand (Padangusthasana). ,0 +10399,[COMP] Pincha with a photobomb from my kitty!. ,0 +10400,Started doing yoga again. my cat is delighted. ,0 +10401,[COMP] I’ve been doing yoga around my goddaughter since she was a baby. Now she joins me on the mat! She’s 5. ,0 +10402,[COMP] She was *insistent* that she be on the bottom 😅. ,0 +10403,My yoga corner. ,0 +10404,"I start my mornings by doing candlelit yoga and it's a total gamechanger. Dark when I start, light when I finish.. ",0 +10405,For all my yogis who have accidentally and audibly let one go in class - even Earls let them slip occasionally 😂. ,0 +10406,[COMP] Progression of fingertip crow to handstand. Never give up.. ,0 +10407,[COMP] Fingertip Handstand. Trying some different handstands. I was surprised at the stability I was able to achieve from just my fingertips.,0 +10408,[COMP] Headstand to Lotus Legged Side Crow. ,0 +10409,(COMP) Tough transition! Crow to tripod to lotus to flying lotus to crow jump back. ,0 +10410,(COMP) elephant trunk to kundinyasana ❤️. ,0 +10411,[COMP] No hands Headstand pose with Eagle legs. ,0 +10412,"[COMP] It’s a technical monstrosity, my shirt malfunctioned and I could do 100 things better but here’s the second wheel pose of my adult life! 🎡. ",0 +10413,"(COMP) Drop back to full wheel and back up again. Not perfect, but proud of my progress 😊. ",0 +10414,[COMP] my first ganda bherundasana to urdhva danurasana come up. ,0 +10415,[comp] uttanasana. ,0 +10416,My husband helped me revamp my yoga area today. It’s so peaceful!. ,0 +10417,[COMP] elephant trunk pose before class. ,0 +10418,"I don't want to support a conspiratory yoga world - this makes me so sad.. //Removed. See explanation below. In short: I'm concerned, disappointed and sad of the losses that covid 19 has caused in my local yoga community. I am reacting strongly to the fact that local yoga centres and teachers nevertheless are minimising the seriousness of covid 19, denying that covid has killed people, and spreading anti vaccine and covid measurement content on social media at a high rate.// + +This makes me actually very hesitant to return to any of my local centres. I've literally lost trust in them. I don't want to be affiliated with this culture. I am so disappointed in my teachers, who I have admired and trusted. + +I love yoga. I think it's a tragedy that it's become increasingly synonymous with conspiratory ideas and everything associated with it. My teenage daughter actually told me she think it's strange that I'm into yoga since I'm not an anti vaxxing crystal healer type (her words). This is the image the young generation gets of yoga through social media, and i think it's a disgrace. + +I am actually at a bit of a loss. I want to return to practicing at a centre, but I don't know how to approach this. I wish yoga centres could just let us know where they stand. If there is a yoga teacher in our city who does not believe in conspiracy theories, I would actually appreciate it if they let the public know this. Surely, given that 90 percent or so of the population is vaccinated, this would not hurt their business. But maybe it would hurt their image? + +I don't know. Just needed to vent. + +Does anybody else feel this way? + +ETA - Wow, what a response. Didn't expect this one to take off. Thank you for all the insightful comments. I am more optimistic on behalf of the yoga community now and I will read the various sources you have kindly shared on this phenomenon. Thank you also for forcing me to think through it all in making me explain myself. +I wish you all the best in these very challenging times. + +I would also like to add that I will delete the information about the teacher. I didn't expect this post to receive so much attention and I don't want it to seem like I'm somehow reddit-capitalising on somebody's personal tragedy. I usually only receive a handful of responses to my posts on reddit, so getting so much attention is a new experience for me. I hope you understand.",0 +10419,[COMP] finally feeling stable in pincha!. ,0 +10420,[COMP] A little transition I've been loving lately. ,0 +10421,[COMP] Children don’t always listen but they’re always watching! Handstands with Dad!. ,0 +10422,I'm an artist and an avid yoga practitioner. I also love animals.. ,0 +10423,[COMP] Flying Splits to Chin Stand. ,0 +10424,Does anyone know the name of this pose? We did it in class and I liked it but didn't catch the name. ,0 +10425,[COMP] Split progress. January 2022 and October 2022.. ,0 +10426,"For any yogis who want to go deeper, here's a long post about the “why” behind some common alignment cues and principles of movement, because I don’t think this information should only be taught at YTTs. I’ve been thinking about making this post for a really long time, especially because so many of us are now practicing through apps and videos. It’s just impossible via Youtube or even during a 60-minute class at a studio for a teacher to explain all this, and you’re left just having to trust their cues without understanding the “why” behind them. When poses are done repetitively without understanding, there’s always a risk of injury, and your progress is also limited. So you can think of this as the Sparks Notes of an Asana lesson from a YTT, hopefully in plain English :) Don’t feel like you have to read it all at once, because it’s a lot to take in! + +**UNDERSTANDING THE TYPES OF POSES AND THEIR INTENTIONS** + +Yoga asanas are traditionally classified according to movement of the spine: + +**1. Neutral spine** (samasthiti): “axially extend” the spine aka lengthening upward through the crown. *Examples: tadasana, tree pose, comfortable seated pose, warrior 2, savasana, etc*. +**2. Forward folds** (paschimatana): stretch the muscles along the whole BACK of the body, including the back of the legs. *Examples: standing forward fold, downward dog, wide-legged seated forward fold, etc.* +**3. Back bends** (purvatana): stretch the muscles along the whole FRONT of the body, including the front of the legs (I know that sounds counter-intuitive, but back-bends don’t stretch your back, they stretch your front. You might feel it most in your back because your back muscles are engaged/contracted, not because they’re being stretched). *Examples: camel, cobra, warrior 1, wheel, etc.* +**4. Side bends** aka Lateral Bends (parsva): stretch the muscles along the sides of the body one side at a time. *Examples: side angle pose, triangle pose, gate pose, etc.* +**5. Twists** (parivrtta): also stretch the muscles along the sides of the body one side at a time. *Examples: supine twists, seated twists, revolved anything* + +When poses are done in an active way (which they should in all hatha styles), the *opposite* muscle groups of those *lengthening* should be active and engaged, thus *strengthening*. For example, if forward folds *lengthen* the back muscles, they can also *strengthen* the front muscles (like abs and quads). Or with back-bends, think of locust pose (or baby cobra): they’re *lengthening* the belly and chest, and *strengthening* the back muscles (which are engaged to lift you up). + +If you’re wondering about some small detail of a pose, knowing the above can help you figure it out. If you’re wondering, for example, “should I point or flex my feet in seated forward fold?” understanding that the intention of all forward folds is to stretch the muscles along the **back** of the body should encourage you to FLEX (dorsiflex) your feet, which stretches the calves (back of the body). + +((Note that, within each of these pose categories, the legs can be in any position—legs together, legs wide, balancing on one leg, one leg forward one leg back, etc., which means that, depending on the leg position, some poses can secondarily be categorized as “hip openers,” etc., but the traditional emphasis is on the spine)). + +​ + +**KNOWING WHEN TO INHALE VS EXHALE** + +If you’re like most yoga students, you probably low-key ignore the teacher’s breath cues, because it feels impossible to “time” your breathing to their cues. So I first want to say, you’re not supposed to. The teacher is just telling you what movements go with YOUR inhale, and which movements go with YOUR exhale—she’s not saying INHALE NOW and EXHALE RIGHT NOW. Our resting breath rates vary massively from person to person. + +All of our asanas are meant to lengthen and deepen our breath. Knowing which movements go with which breath is actually very intuitive, once you know the theory. It’s basically just “**inhale expand, exhale compress**,” or: + +**1. Inhale:** to enter any pose that opens/expands the front ribs (thus creating more space for the lungs to fill with air). *Example: back-bends, rising up out of folds/twists, raising arms overhead.* + +**2. Exhale:** to enter poses that compress the front ribs, thus assisting to “press” the air out. *Example: forward bends, twists, side bends.* + +Like an accordion, we let air in when we lengthen, and we press air out when we fold. Cat and cow is the quintessential example. Think: **inhale for cow pose, exhale for cat pose**, and extrapolate that to all other larger movements of the spine (e.g. inhale to backbend, exhale to forward fold. Inhale expand, exhale compress). + +Twists and laterals could go either way (since they expand the ribs on one side while compressing the opposite side), but we typically inhale to raise the arms first, thus lengthening the spine, before then exhaling to twist or bend to the side (like you’re “wringing” the air out as you twist). While staying IN the pose, you might focus on deepening your inhale to expand the side that is stretching. + +((I won’t complicate things here by getting into it, but there may be circumstances when you might switch up the breaths, but the above is the general foundation for breath in asana)). + +​ + +**“BEST PRACTICES”/PRINCIPLES OF MOVEMENT** + +The below guidelines are not modifications or “cautionary” rules for people with bad backs or knees—they’re general best practices for ALL yogis, and they’re things that all teachers should be cuing, one way or another, in their own words. Practicing this way not only *protects* you, but also helps you progress quicker. They are just as important (if not more so) for hyperflexible yogis as they are for inflexible yogis. + +​ + +**…FOR THE LOWER BACK** + +For the same reason that, when you’re lifting something heavy, you do it with your knees bent and a straight back: + +**1. Draw your belly towards spine with your exhales**. This is really important. If you’ve ever heard a yoga teacher say “engage your core” or “hug your belly in,” “draw your navel towards your spine,” or even “engage Uddiyana bandha,” what they’re actually talking about is a muscle group called the Transverse Abdominis (TA). This is a large muscle spanning your whole abdomen, deeper than your “six-pack,” that hugs your middle in like a corset when engaged. If you’re sitting in a chair right now, try sitting up tall, then try to PRESS your lower back completely flat against the chairback. That’s your TA engaging in your belly. + +In yoga, we initiate every exhale with that exact TA engagement. So you pull the belly in to start your exhale. You can visualize this as “pressing” the air out from bottom to top, or assisting the movement of the diaphragm, which naturally rises with every exhale. We do this to decrease the lumbar curve and level-out the pelvis, thus protecting the lower back when moving the spine. It helps to align the pelvis and the lower back so that they can move as one strong unit (more on this below). + +If we breathe in this way, then every asana that is performed on the exhale is entered into with a safer, firmer, more protected lower back. + +**2. Start your forward folds with bent knees to align your pelvis and lower back.** If you ever hear yoga teachers cue to enter forward folds with a “long spine” or to “bend your knees” in forward fold, this is what they’re trying to get at. Injuries to the sacroiliac (SI) joint are one of the most common causes of back pain in yogis. The SI joint is the spot at your lower back where your spine connects to your pelvic bowl. It’s the place where our upper body meets our lower body. + +When our hamstrings are tight, they pull our hip bones backward. So if you sit down in an L-shape with your legs straight, your hamstrings are probably pulling on your pelvis and tipping your hips backward. If you then try to reach forward to touch your toes, your spine is pulling forward while your pelvis is pulling backward, threatening to “pull apart” your SI joint—you’re not really stretching your hamstrings so much as you’re “stretching” or pulling on that fragile place between pelvis and spine, which is not only dangerous for your lower back, but also not that useful for your hamstrings. + +Instead, when doing any forward fold, BEND YOUR KNEES first, so that your pelvis can tip forward to remain in alignment with your spine. Your lower back and your pelvis should move as one unit, not pull in opposite directions. THEN, once your pelvis and lower back are aligned and tipped forward, you can begin straightening your legs to get a deeper hamstring stretch. This is not only SAFER for your lower back, it also gets you DEEPER into your hamstrings, so it’s a win-win. You can also sit on a bolster, like a ramp, to help assist the pelvis tipping forward. + +​ + +**…FOR THE SHOULDERS** + +**1. Apply external shoulder rotation.** When the arms are raised or weight-bearing, the safest position for the shoulder joint is to be externally rotated—your upper arm bone rolling outward from the shoulder joint. If you raise your arms in front of you to chest-height, then turn your palms to the sky as if serving a pizza, that’s external shoulder rotation; your elbow creases face the ceiling, and the elbows draw in towards one another. (If you were to flip your hand to throw the pizza on the floor, your shoulder dipping inward is “internal” shoulder rotation). + +Hold the pizza again, and pull your elbows in as if you were trying to touch them together. When you do that, can you feel a muscle near your armpit engaging? That’s the serratus anterior (sometimes called the “boxer’s muscle” because it’s responsible for drawing the shoulder blade forward around the rib cage, like when throwing a punch. If you’ve ever seen MMA fighters with really shredded looking ribs, that’s the serratus anterior). Engaging the serratus anterior is one of our superpowers for stabilizing the shoulder joint. + +That’s why, in almost all yoga poses (seriously, basically ALL of them except for a rare few), we strive for external shoulder rotation. Every time you raise your arms overhead, you want external shoulder rotation--you’ve probably heard teachers cue this by saying your palms should face each other, or pinkies forward. That’s external rotation. When in chaturanga, teachers often cue to “draw your elbows in toward your ribs”—that’s for external shoulder rotation. Even in downward dog, you should feel like you’re twisting your hands outward on the mat and drawing your elbows in—that will help you not dip into hyperflexion of the shoulder (where it looks like your upper back is in a backbend), and instead stabilize and strengthen your shoulders through external shoulder rotation. + +​ + +**…FOR THE KNEES AND HIPS** + +**1. Fully flex the knee before rotating open the hip.** “Hip opening” is a general sort of term for any poses that move the thighs outward laterally away from the midline of the body. Any wide-legged poses can be considered hip-openers, and particularly those that also externally rotate the thigh in the hip joint (like pigeon). Same as the shoulder joint, external rotation of the hip is like trying to roll your thigh outward. One of the most common injuries to the knee happens in hip openers like pigeon or lotus pose. + +Unlike the ball-and-socket joints of our hips and shoulders, which have good rotational movement, our knees are hinge joints--they mostly move just forward and back, not side to side--which means there's a big risk of ""twisting"" and damaging your knee, especially when practicing hip openers. + +The knee is in its **most stable** position when it’s fully flexed (fully bent). So before externally rotating the thigh, best practice dictates fully bending the knee first, then opening the hip. For example, if trying for half lotus pose (where your foot is placed on top of the opposite thigh), hug your knee into your chest first to fully flex the knee, then rotate the thigh open from that position to place the foot on the opposite thigh. Even when entering pigeon, I'd highly suggest placing your weight down on a fully bent knee first, so that your shin is first in line with your body [like this](https://imgur.com/a/XeWoRor), at least briefly before you then wiggle your foot forward to open the hip. Throwing your weight from three-legged downward dog directly onto an un-flexed knee (""parallel to the top of your mat"") to come into pigeon causes soo many knee injuries, so try fully bending the front knee as you lower your back leg down before opening the hip. This allows you to really monitor HOW FAR forward you can move your foot without twisting your knee. The movement should come from external rotation at the hip joint, not from twisting the knee. + +**2. When your leg is behind your body, internally rotate that thigh. When it’s forward in front of your body, externally rotate.** This is how you stabilize and strengthen your hips, and decrease risk of dislocation and instability over time. + +Think about stepping one leg directly forward on your mat. The front thigh is in a position called “flexion,” being in front of the hips, and the back leg is in a position called “extension,” being extended directly backward from the hip. Some more examples: In forward fold, both thighs are in flexion (you can look down and see them in front of your hips). In cobra pose, both thighs are in extension (they’re extended directly backward from the hips). + +When your legs are directly behind you, in extension, the strongest position for the hip joint is to have the thighs *internally rotating*, which means rolling inward toward the midline of the body. In cobra, this might look like drawing your big toes towards one another to roll the thighs inward. This not only stabilizes and protects the hip joint, but also allows you to direct the stretch in a more targeted way into the quads and “hip flexor” muscles. + +On the other hand, when your legs are in front of you, in flexion, the strongest position for the hip joint is to have the thighs *externally rotating*, or rolling outward away from the midline of the body. In chair pose, for example, you would try to draw your knees open, outward, rather than allowing them to fall inward. This strengthens the muscles around the hips. + +These two “rules” work in conjunction for a pose like Warrior 1, or any forward lunge, where **the front thigh is in flexion** and **the back thigh is in extension**. Think of crescent lunge, low-lunge, runner's-lunge, and even pyramid pose--all of them use the rotation of the thighs to try to seek to ""square"" the hips towards the front of the mat. To use [Warrior 1](https://dsgmedia.blob.core.windows.net/pub/2018/08/HowToDoWarrior1Pose.jpg) as an example, the front thigh in warrior 1 should be externally rotating, as if seeking to draw the knee open, rather than letting it fall inward. The back thigh, on the other hand, should be internally rotating. You’ll often hear teachers cuing this as “squaring the hips forward” or trying to “draw the back hip forward.” This is why the back foot in warrior 1 is placed AT MOST at a 45 degree angle (both feet could even face forward), and not at a 90 degree angle—because the back hip is not meant to be “open,” (externally rotating), but rather to be internally rotating (*note: this is completely different in* [*warrior 2*](https://imagesvc.meredithcorp.io/v3/mm/image?url=https%3A%2F%2Fstatic.onecms.io%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2Fsites%2F35%2F2018%2F03%2F03205723%2Fhow-to-do-warrior-ii-pose-yoga.jpg)*, which is a totally different pose: it's a hip opener in which the back leg is in ABDUCTION, not extension, so these rules don't apply. For warrior 2, side angle, and triangle pose, the hips are open, and the back foot can be at 90 degrees)*. + +Keep in mind that, just like any other stretch, you **do not need to demand perfection** from your body. Just as you don't NEED to be able to lay your chest flat on straight legs in forward fold for it to be beneficial, you don't NEED to have your hips squared perfectly forward to achieve the benefits of these poses--engaging the muscles that seek to draw the hips square is what's giving you the benefits, no matter to what degree you can achieve ""squareness."" + +\---------- + +**THE END (for now)** + +If you made it to the end, you're a champ! There’s obviously way, way more than this, but I’ve found that if you have a good handle on the above guidelines, you’ll know if your teacher is teaching safely, and you’ll have a good foundation of knowledge to start practicing on your own. + +I also want to note that when we talk about “alignment,” it’s the above sort of things that we should be talking about—function over form, and muscular engagement. Our bone structures vary massively from person to person, which means that “alignment” cues that demand a pose to look exactly the same for every person are not helpful. The above doesn’t say, for example, to what exact degree the thighs must be rotating—rather, just that we engage the muscles that rotate the thigh in order to strengthen them. I hope that makes sense! + +If you have questions about any particular poses, I’m more than happy to answer them here! + +\------- + +​ + +**Edited:** to clarify some questions that came up in the comments, and to add some pictures for trickier concepts! + +A few of you have also asked about my background and for some resources, and I don't want to clog up an already long post, but I'll just add that for the past five years I've been a full-time yoga teacher trainer in Bali for various schools, including my own (and currently leading YTTs in Hawaii and Mexico while Bali is still ""closed"" due to the pandemic--I think there are links in my profile). This is after around 12 years of study through the various direct students of Krishnamacharya and his son Desikachar. + +Krishnamacharya is considered the father of all modern hatha yoga practices, having been the teacher of those teachers who went on to fame (particularly BKS Iyengar of Iyengar yoga and Pattabi Jois of Ashtanga yoga), so if you practice any kind of yoga asana, it's deeply rooted in Krishnamacharya's teachings. + +Some books from my teachers (and others) that I recommend: +**""The Heart of Yoga"" by TKV Desikachar** (especially wonderful for the energetic and philosophical explanations) +**""Yoga for Wellness"" by Gary Kraftsow** (great for general ""yoga therapy"" for specific conditions) +**""Yoga Anatomy"" by Leslie Kaminoff and Amy Matthews** (great overview of the muscles working in each asana), and +**""The Key Poses of Yoga"" by Ray Long** (I haven't studied with him, but this book has fantastic illustrations of the muscles that are ""engaged"" vs ""stretched"" in every asana)",0 +10427,[COMP] Scorpion Pose is happening now guys!. ,0 +10428,"Me when the teacher tells the class to bring a nice, soft smile to the face. ",0 +10429,Time to start my yoga journey. Wish me luck!!!. ,0 +10430,Happy International Yoga Day!. ,0 +10431,"[COMP] Dragonfly pose! Getting stronger in my arm balance poses, slowly but surely!!!. ",0 +10432,[COMP] My downward dog in December versus today’s downward dog ~ 3 month progress!. ,0 +10433,"[COMP] Crow pose and I have never gotten along and it’s just one I’ve always avoided. I was so happy to be able to get into crow and hold it for an entire second, which I honestly never thought would happen.. ",0 +10434,"[COMP] at 54, after many years of distance running, I was extremely inflexible and was encouraged to try yoga. Now 74, I am more flexible than I was in my 20s.. ",0 +10435,[COMP] this is the fartest i've reached -while still comfortable and in control- so far!! 🙀😸❤️. ,0 +10436,After practicing yoga for 4 years (very inconsistently) I finally have my first ever yoga mat to practice on rather than the carpet in my home. I love it!. ,0 +10437,"126yr old Yoga Guru Swami Sivanand gets a Padmashri, India's 4th highest Civilian award, look at his energy even at this age.. ",0 +10438,[COMP] Karandavasana to Baby Crow. ,0 +10439,How Yoga Transforms You 💕. ,0 +10440,"Meditation sub does not allow images now, hope this helps here.. ",0 +10441,Completed 50 classes at my yoga studio (started 3/19). ,0 +10442,"[COMP] After a long break, I returned to my daily yoga routine with Adriene's Move series at the beginning of this month. Today i did a strength check and i am extremely happy to have my flying pigeon again 🥳. ",0 +10443,"Advanced yoga postures is not advanced yoga.. Just a friendly reminder. I feel like I constantly have students that join my class, completely destroyed by classes outside our studio because they’ve experienced unfortunate remarks or awful situations due to other instructors or students. + +There is not an advanced version of a pose: It’s just another variation. Using props doesn’t make you any less of a yogi. Not being able to practice downward dog, or handstands, doesn’t make your practice invalid. In fact, maybe you’re never able to do any sort of posture on a yoga mat.. you may still very well be an advanced yoga practitioner. The yoga philosophy can be so healing and refreshing, and does not discriminate. + +Edit: +-The purpose of yoga was never to focus on the physical body. The true purpose of yoga is to calm the mind; Yoga is the mastery of the thought patterns of the mind. The ultimate goal of asana is not to find a state of perfection in our physical form, but rather to move beyond the mere physical to achieve the integration of mind, body, heart, and spirit. Yoga is the life-long, non-linear process of devotion to becoming the best version of you. + +2nd edit: +Yoga is devotion to the ideal of being free from any affliction, pain, suffering. You can view this as two parts- not being stuck in your past and being free to move forward past any afflictions or limitations. We challenge ourselves (tapas) so we are not stuck in the past.. and we practice svadhyaya or self-governance and owning our self values as we move forward. This is what I mean when I said “becoming the best version of you”. The corporeal practice of asana is absolutely an opportunity to expose that part of ourselves that transcends physical form, when practiced with steadiness and ease. It gives us the tools to acknowledge and break through our attachment to the physical body (and yes, ego) in order to connect with something inside that is timeless, eternal and infinite. Yoga as a devotional practice is about recognizing the ideal of the practice (to become sovereign) and committing yourself to it even if you don’t fully understand it. Because when you’re devoted to something, you challenge yourself to go even deeper, to understand more. You challenge yourself to go deeper than asana and really understand the yoga practice as a whole. As you go deeper, then there is the opportunity to sit in meditation longer.. to still the mind..to detach from ego..and witness self-realization.",0 +10444,"For anyone who is struggling to maintain a regular yoga practice, or if you feel like you just ""can't get back on your mat""..... My best friend is a habit coach for a living and did her master’s in health psychology, and we’ve been working together for about a year now to teach about the actual psychology behind forming a daily yoga practice. It’s been superrr interesting and helpful for me, and this is right around the time that a lot of New Year's resolutions falter, so I want to share some info with you. Our minds are programmed to prefer low-effort, immediate-reward activities (which yoga is not, really—most of the benefits are in the long-run), so it’s totally normal to struggle with maintaining a daily practice! But we can work with our biology rather than against it to make a practice stick. So here’s a brain-dump of some of the best things I’ve learned. I hope this helps some of you! + +**1. Make it as easy as possible to get on your mat.** As in, have your mat already rolled out in a location where you are guaranteed to go every day. Mat rolled out at the foot of your bed is perfect. If you want to practice first thing in the morning, wear your yoga clothes to bed. Remove any steps of resistance between you and your mat. (Research shows that the geographically further we are from the yoga studio, gym, etc., the less likely we are to form the habit of going, so remove physical distance). + +**2. Make it daily.** This doesn’t mean doing a long practice daily, but rather, instilling the habit of GETTING ON YOUR MAT EVERY DAY, through daily repetition, no matter how long or short the actual practice lasts. You want to make the act of stepping onto your mat every day feel so automatic, that you feel weird on the days you don’t do it. + +**3. Link your “yoga habit” to an existing habit** \--something that you already do every single day without fail, like brushing your teeth, or showering, or finishing your morning coffee. Habits are things we do automatically without the need for conscious decision-making, so choose one “habit” that you already do daily, and let that be the “cue” for your yoga habit. Immediately after doing the existing habit, you get on your mat. So, spit out your toothpaste, and step onto your mat. Or put your empty mug in the sink, and step onto your mat. + +**4. Start small.** REALLY REALLY REALLY SMALL. Commit to doing just a ONE MINUTE PRACTICE every day (maybe just one minute of mindful breathing, or one sun salutation). This is probably the hardest part for our yoga habit students, because we’re often so set on the idea that a yoga session has to be a full 60 minutes. You’re welcome to set aside enough time in your schedule to do a “full” practice (whatever that means to you—10 minutes, 20 minutes, an hour), but really and truly mentally commit to doing ONLY one-minute, so that each day you practice for a minute, you’ve succeeded in your yoga habit. + +**5. “Success” is what motivates.** The reason the “one-minute practice” works to instill the habit is because success is super motivating, and “failure” is super de-motivating, so if you’ve convinced yourself that you’re only a good yogi when you do a 60-minute practice, you’re going to feel all the horrible sensations of guilt and failure the first time you skip a long practice, and research shows you’re much less likely to try again after that. But if you really and truly convince yourself that one-minute is a successful practice (and, it totally is—if the alternative is to do nothing, there are massive benefits to even just one mindful minute in your day, or one backbend), so then you can do it even on the days when you’re super busy or an emergency has arisen. Imagine how motivating it is to have practiced every day for 30 days, then 60 days, then 90! And again, that repetition of getting on the mat every day is what makes it stick as a habit, and it gets easier and easier from there. + +**6. Feel the good feels by CELEBRATING.** Remember, one minute is something to celebrate! It may feel silly at first, but choose a “celebration” (a happy dance, jumping up and down, a self-hug—what does your body naturally do to celebrate?) and act it out immediately after finishing your one-minute practice every day. (This is a hard step to convince people to try, because it feels silly, but it REALLY works!) Your happy dance releases dopamine that tells your body that yoga is something you love, and THAT makes you more likely to want to practice again. + +**7. Only do a longer practice if it feels GREAT.** Some days, you may find that doing your one-minute practice feels so good that you want to stay on your mat longer, and that’s great! If you’re enjoying the sensations, keep going for as long as you like. But make sure you’re doing it because you love it (intrinsic motivation) and not because you feel some external pressure—from your teacher, from Instagram yogis, from the mirror, from society, etc. (extrinsic motivation). Most of yoga’s benefits are in the long-term, and psychologically, we’re hard-wired to prefer instant rewards, so let the practice itself be intrinsically rewarding in the moment. Practice because you love it (…and when the love wears off, see below). + +**8. “Twenty-One Days” is a HUGE MYTH.** This whole “it takes 21-days to form a habit” thing is actually a myth started by a plastic surgeon who found that his rhinoplasty patients got “used to” their new noses at around 21 days. That doesn’t mean it takes 21 days to form a habit, but rather, that it takes 21 DAYS FOR NOVELTY TO WEAR OFF. It’s actually typically at the three-week mark of daily practice that yoga students start LOSING INTEREST in their practice, because it’s no longer new and exciting—the intrinsic love may start to falter. So it’s around the 21-day-mark that you may need to start finding some new (perhaps extrinsic) motivation to encourage you to continue. (The actual amount of time it takes to form a habit varies MASSIVELY from person to person, so “averages” aren’t even really helpful). + +**9. Find new things to love.** When the intrinsic love of the practice starts to wear off, it’s time to find something new to love. Luckily, yoga is a VAST subject. Perhaps you’re interested in diving deeper into anatomy, or yoga philosophy, or pranayama, or spirituality… find what fascinates you, and let it reinform your practice. For me, I fell in love with the stories of the gods for whom the yoga poses are named, and this breathed new life into my practice and has sustained it for five additional years after initially burning out. + +**10. Competence breeds dedication.** Another great reason to not just PRACTICE yoga, but to STUDY yoga, is that the more knowledgeable and competent you feel about a subject, the more likely you are to remain consistent with your practice. Note that yoga competence does NOT mean that you can do all the fancy poses—in fact, if all yoga poses came easily to your body, you’d probably get bored of yoga very quickly; there’s nothing inherently interesting about a series of stretches. Rather, yoga competence is learning the *why*—when you know the intentions behind the asanas (whether that’s physical, energetic, spiritual, or in whatever way interests you) then you form a stronger connection to the practice itself, deepening your dedication and keeping it interesting. + +There’s so so so much more than this, but this is already a huge wall of text, so if you want more, or you want to see the peer-reviewed sources for any of the above, feel free to reach out and I can send you some other resources. Most importantly, I hope it makes you feel more HUMAN to know that forming a daily habit of any kind is really psychologically hard for everyone, so you’re actually totally normal if you’ve struggled with this! Forgive yourself and find joy in the practice <3",0 +10445,"[COMP] Kapotasana, Or As I Like To Call It, Protractor Pose. ",0 +10446,[COMP] : video of my morning flow ✨🥺. ,0 +10447,"[COMP] my morning yoga flow, this time it took 44 minutes, but how many do you usually have?. ",0 +10448,[COMP] L-SIT FOR ARM BALANCING: We always say “work the core” but it’s helpful to know that a strong core just stabilizes the torso and minimizes the need for further connection in an arm balance (think Crane vs. Crow). Here are some pointers (and modifications) I use to work it with L Sit 🤙🏻. ,0 +10449,[COMP] Chin stand progress!. ,0 +10450,[COMP] Forward fold ♥️. ,0 +10451,[COMP] Wheel progress from 2020 to today. ,0 +10452,[COMP] Just hanging out! Working on holding balance while trying to shift my gaze eventually.. ,0 +10453,"[COMP] 74, body by yoga (and running, lifting and biking but yoga makes it possible). ",0 +10454,[COMP] Reaching my toes was a huge milestone for me.. ,0 +10455,Saw an add for a shoe that I could use for them tough plank poses 😂. ,0 +10456,"[COMP] Started doing yoga few weeks ago, and here is my forward bend, hands on floor pose!. ",0 +10457,Finally found one at TJMAXX!!. ,0 +10458,[COMP] my longest handstand hold yet!. ,0 +10459,"[COMP] Absolutely nothing educational (or even useful) about this post, but it’s f*cking hilarious! Anyone with dopey friends who don’t “do Yoga” can appreciate.. ",0 +10460,[COMP] using my pole to help me with this pose 🥰. ,0 +10461,Happy Halloween!!. ,0 +10462,[COMP] handstand pool in Austria 🇦🇹. ,0 +10463,A little ritual to celebrate 800 days of daily yoga. ,0 +10464,[comp] standing head to knee pose (Dandayamana Janushirasana). ,0 +10465,"[COMP] I caught my most solid crow so far!. I'm sorry about the bad camera angle, had to put my camera up high so my toddler wouldn't grab it. +Been doing yoga close to everyday for 4 months - tips on improving is much appreciated! + +(And yes, that is the sweet voice of Adrienne you can hear in the video)",0 +10466,[COMP] First visvamitrasana and I am quite content 💕. ,0 +10467,[COMP] just got back from a vacation and feeling extra stiff. ,0 +10468,"[COMP] my forearm balance progress. now vs last september. It’s slow, but im feeling stronger!. ",0 +10469,imagine 🥺. ,0 +10470,I tried to do a month of yoga (using the down dog app) to impress a girl...I ended up impressing myself. ,0 +10471,[COMP] Pincha Play. ,0 +10472,"Another yoga student corrected me during class.... I was in yoga when another student came in 5 minutes late and set up beside me really close. I figured this was fine as this yoga teacher was very popular so it's a bit squishy in the classes. +She kept watching me when we went into each pose. She's a much more advanced yogi. +When the yoga instructor said to walk your hands to the back of the mat, I absentmindedly, walked my feet to the front. She then said to me, ""no, at the back of the mat like he said"". During the rest of the class, she kept trying to make eye contact to further correct me in other poses (e.g. she was trying to tell me to out my feet flat down on the ground in squat pose). +I'm a fairly newish yogi so I know I don't know everything. I don't know how to tell someone not to micro yoga teach me without it ruining the class for myself and everyone else?",0 +10473,[Comp] Shirshasana is hard!! Long ways to go but it's a start. ,0 +10474,[COMP] Patiently waiting to be able to grab my leg without having to use bands 😌. ,0 +10475,"Why not baked Yoga?. I feel everyone's avoiding this topic completely: Why not to mix weed and yoga ? + +I've tried Yoga courses and guided sessions while slightly under the influence of weed and it was an amazing overall experience. I could focus more on my breath, relax my muscles a lot more, and overall, i felt i could go a lot further into the poses than before. Not to mention that i was completely focused on what i was doing, on my breath and able to completely block-out the outside world (noise-cancelling headphones also play a part in this). It gave me this magical, profoundly satisfying feeling afterwards. + +I find that the key is in the amount of weed you smoke before, because there's a sweet spot of high where you still control your train of thought. If you're past that point and you're too high, you can't focus at all and lose control of your thoughts so you can't do yoga. My sweet spot is 2-3 pufs with 10-15 minutes before Yoga. + +I understand that for the full embodyment of Yoga as a life style and as a life philosophy, you can't be intoxicated. Makes total sense. + +But what about just for the body practice? Feels absolutely spectacular! I don't understand why this is not talked about. + +I am aware that if you only do it under the influence, then it becomes a habit and you're likely conditioning your practice. So, alternating it in your daily practice could be an option, like doing it baked only several times per month. + +What are your thoughts on this, people?",0 +10476,"Recently I made myself a candlestick in the form of a Lotus, very delicate, thin and transparent. Every morning when I do yoga, I light a candle in it and set myself up for a good day.. ",0 +10477,[COMP] Hyping up for Vrischikasana B. ,0 +10478,"[COMP] Camel to wheel: my new favorite way to get into wheel pose. Next stop, drop back from standing!. ",0 +10479,[COMP] First crow after a wrist injury!. ,0 +10480,[COMP] I managed an eight angle pose after falling on my face half million times!. ,0 +10481,Almost 2 years of Uddiyana and 9 months of nauli. This is my progress. ,0 +10482,Helpful reminder on things to practice to achieve your goal! Don't push yourself too hard but be proactive in your practice. ,0 +10483,"I’m 42 y/o male that just started a yoga practice. I cry almost every time. But not soft leaky tears, like gut body-shake type. *For no reason!* that I can tell. Like nothing is coming to mind. It’s wild. What’s going on?! Peace and love.. ",0 +10484,(COMP) I did 108 sun salutations today to honor the new moon/autumnal equinox.. ,0 +10485,Almost to 1 year of nauli. 33 months of Uddiyana. ,0 +10486,"I did it!!! After two years hiatus I finally got myself a membership and scheduled a flow this afternoon. My mental health took a dive during covid and I lost my practice, so this means a lot to me. Hope everyone is fairing well today!!!. ",0 +10487,"[COMP] testing my back for strength, what good exercises do you know to improve back flexibility?. ",0 +10488,[COMP] The yoga pose you avoid the most you need the most.. ,0 +10489,[COMP] Salamba Sirsasana. ,0 +10490,[COMP] Stiti Valakhilyasana (Both Sides!). ,0 +10491,[comp] hollow back progress. ,0 +10492,"[Art] Yoga introduce me to meditation, and today I had a different experience.... ",0 +10493,[COMP] standing splits. ,0 +10494,"Yoga for everyday for a month is underestimated. Hi everyone! I've never been a very sportive person as I hate harsh physical activity like weight lifting. That's why I've gotten into yoga , because it allows me to build strength through focus and channeling my energy. + + I recently embarked on the 30 day yoga journey called MOVE with Yoga with Adriene. These sessions range from 10-25 minutes a day. I am on day 24 and have noticed already significant changes in my strength, flexibility, breathwork and focus. Today I even managed to accomplish the crow pose for the first time ever!! + +I have a huge love for yoga, and it is possible to teach yourself through will, curiosity and patience. 30 days of yoga is seriously underestimated and to everyone who can't afford classes I highly recommend Yoga With Adriene. Have a good day!",0 +10495,[COMP] Handstand progression. ,0 +10496,"I've been doing yoga for 4 weeks. When will I be able to do super-stretchy kicks and punches, breathe fire, and levitate?. On a positive note, I can almost touch my toes now.",0 +10497,[COMP] I believe this is called Dragonfly pose.. ,0 +10498,[COMP] Part of my today's practice. ,0 +10499,[COMP] mini back bend flow. ,0 +10500,"Bong Rip. Today, I am 37 years, 3 months and one day clean and sober. Since I cleaned up in ‘85, nothing has altered my reality so thoroughly, so completely, so spiritually and so physically as does my yoga practice. After many classes, I often say that I feel as if I’ve had a killer bong rip because of the diffusion of mental and physical stress. I love it so much. When I’m on my mat, I travel to another plane of existence. It’s trippy AF. I am so grateful. Just saying…",0 +10501,[COMP] Practicing Urdhva Dhanurasana. ,0 +10502,"Yoga is transforming my life.. I didn’t start that long ago but holy mother of goodness. The clarity I feel after a good yoga practice, the way my body feels, the way I feel connected to everything???? How on earth does this thing work. + +I notice myself thinking differently there’s this awareness in my thoughts and the space between my thoughts and I feel so LIGHT ALL DAY. + +Just joined this sub. Love y’all already. Thanks for reading hahaha.",0 +10503,Anti-vax tirade mid class. Today I went to my studio and had an instructor that I don’t normally take. She’s very chatty during class and is sort of a loud person in general. She had a whole Eric Clapton playlist and like 20 minutes into class started going off on how the vaccine is poison and paralyzed the greatest guitar player that’s ever existed and how her father died of Covid and on his death bed was saying he should have gotten the vaccine but she told him that she was glad he didn’t get it because it’s not what he wanted. Anyway it was uncomfortable AF and made me so upset during my practice that the practice itself seems like a waste. It was literally like half the practice long. I sort of want to complain but feel like it will be awkward at the studio then. I can try to just avoid her classes but I’m so bummed out about this.,0 +10504,These yoga postcard prints I created! <3. ,0 +10505,[COMP] Been working on my backbend! I’m excited to improve over time :). ,0 +10506,"[COMP] I tried this transition from elephant’s trunk to eight angle pose for the first time and it's not bad, right? 🐘♾. ",0 +10507,COMP: headstand 😘. ,0 +10508,"Wall supported Stretching - If you spend most of your day seating, you can do these stretching activity twice a day. It will help you with posture correction and to get relief from stress and body stiffness.. ",0 +10509,[COMP] sirsasana for two 💕. ,0 +10510,[comp] wheel pose (Chakrasana). ,0 +10511,"Yoga has allowed me to release discomfort that no doctor/physio/etc ever managed to even understand.. I've have this spot in my back that's pretty much always tensed up (see the circle in the picture). + +While it doesn't cause me pain, it's annoying and feel like something that I should look into. Tried a physio, several masseurs, chinese traditional stuff, self massage, heat, cold, and nothing worked. + +Now a few months into yoga I started to really enjoy understanding how my body moves. This means I'm not always doing proper asanas, sometimes I just move around to feel my body. + +Recently I was in tadasana and tucked my lower back in, rolling my hips forward and felt sensation in that exact point. You can see how far the point is, but somehow it's completely connected. I then tried to keep figuring out where that'd take me and kept moving my hips forward and leaning my upper body backwards and things started moving around that point, like something's trying to release. + +I can't wait to keep exploring this little by little; it's brought me discomfort for years. + +Any pros out there, feel free to give me some tips if this story rings a bell. + +https://preview.redd.it/iqlpp4xwiwj91.png?width=740&format=png&auto=webp&s=a74a5e9f85c14dfe01b31fa6956b1e0c7163c125",0 +10512,[COMP] Handstand :) my favorite pose to practice. ,0 +10513,A few self sketches. ,0 +10514,[Comp] Repost as it got deleted. First time I get this far in this pose!. ,0 +10515,[COMP] Surrender means allowing ourselves to relax and release worry from how things can go wrong. Here’s my transition to Little Thunderbolt and Reclining Warrior.. ,0 +10516,[COMP] I made my own yoga flow. ,0 +10517,[COMP] trying to add all the upper body poses I can to strengthen that core. ,0 +10518,What is the name of this yoga pose?. ,0 +10519,"[COMP] True yoga is not about the shape of your body, but the shape of your life. ",0 +10520,Me n my niece always do these. Supine really helped open my obliques. ,0 +10521,[Comp] Back again and still getting there.. ,0 +10522,[comp] Back bend progress (Urdhvasana). ,0 +10523,(COMP) Butterfly pose in a trapeze 🦋. ,0 +10524,"Hey yogis. I need your support/advice. I've been practicing yoga for 6+ years and I practice in-studio 4-5 times a week. My wife is a yoga teacher and a lot of my social life is based around our local yoga community. But the COVID situation is making things really confusing for me.... It turns out several of my teachers/friends are quite strongly anti-covid/vaccine/mask. I really don't want to have an angry debate on here, but I do want to understand why some of wellness community has these strong opinions and how I can best navigate it. I've stopped going to my favourite studio as some of the teachers (who I'm good friends with!) are unvaccinated, refuse to open the door/window for ventilation and make people feel weak if they wear a mask or avoid hugs etc. Rather than have a dispute with them, I'd thought I'd check out a different studio where I'm a ""newbie"" and I can go about trying to remain covid-free whilst enjoying my practice. But since getting to know some of the teachers at the new studio, I'm seeing the same issues arise... actually, I think it might be even worst at the new place. And I had to sign up for 3 month contract : ( + +I wonder if anyone else is trying to navigate something similar? Since finding yoga my life has changed immeasurably for the better and a regular practice is literally the thing that keeps my mind calm and happy. But right now it's causing me quite a lot of stress and anxiety. I'm very open to learning why these views are held by some people in the community and I welcome all helpful advice and support. + +Thank you and namaste.",0 +10525,"My boyfriend says nobody else does this. Hello! So whenever I'm in a pose that involves my knee being close to my face (pyramid, seated forward fold) I give it a bite + +Not hard just a lil hello nibble + +My boyfriend says no one else does this ever + +Does anyone else give hello bite to body part when near face + +Edit: I'm currently doing a 200hr training, this isn't a troll just want to see if anyone else doesn't know how not to comply with impulsivity",0 +10526,"[COMP] “When you listen to yourself, everything comes naturally. It comes from inside, like a kind of will to do something. Try to be sensitive. That is yoga.” ― Petri Räisänen. ",0 +10527,[COMP] Armbalance flow overlooking Cork City. ,0 +10528,[COMP] The struggle it took to do this was REAL.. ,0 +10529,"[COMP] repost missing tag. First post, started at 12 practicing on and off for 10 years. ",0 +10530,a possible option for training one arm handstand. ,0 +10531,"Fullerton, CA Bikram yoga studio celebrates International Yoga Day with known rapist Bikram Choudhury.. I received an email this morning that Bikram Yoga in Fullerton, CA is planning to host a yoga session at their studio next Tuesday for International Yoga Day taught by, via Zoom of course, none other than Bikram Choudhury. I am just so appalled that they thought that would be an even remotely good idea. + +For those who don’t know about Bikram he is a blatant liar who was convicted by jury of sexual assault, discrimination, and wrongful termination in 2016 and ordered to pay almost one million dollars to his victim. Not to mention the at least 5 other lawsuits alleging him of sexual assault among other things. + +In what world anyone would want to celebrate International Yoga Day with that scum, I’m not sure. + +I just wanted to share my outrage with some fellow yogis. + +Nothing says namaste like yoga with a sexual predator but nah-ima-stay at home for this one…",0 +10532,[COMP] My practice today consisted of a lot of both of these poses.. ,0 +10533,[COMP] since I got 1 DM about it😅 my #1 secret to getting into crow that my wonderful teacher taught me. Use a block to “kickstand” your balance!. ,0 +10534,[COMP] sirsasana slighty misaligned (or my body super aligned with the trees 🌱). ,0 +10535,[COMP] Fun little balance shape not sure of the name of this pose.. ,0 +10536,[COMP] the crow is pretty sturdy these days. ,0 +10537,[comp] funky crow. ,0 +10538,"[COMP] Dropping back into wheel ⚙️ I know I'm a bit out of frame during the actual drop back, but this was the first one I've landed and felt stable straight away! I Can't wait to improve this (mentally and physically) tough transition.. ",0 +10539,Have you ever looked at Yoga this way?. ,0 +10540,"(Comp) Thanks for all the suggestions I received in my previous post!. Ive worked on my head placement and notice a great difference in my stability. Working on steadiness while adding more movement, as you can see I almost lost it at the end💗",0 +10541,[COMP] “Yoga is the perfect opportunity to be curious about who you are”. ,0 +10542,[COMP] hoop yoga on the beach. ,0 +10543,[COMP] first attempts at side crow! Any tips or advice is welcome. ,0 +10544,[COMP] Morning practice. ,0 +10545,[COMP] The eternal struggle with the second series… working on Kapotasana. Any tips on how to curve my back more and straighten my arms on the second part?. ,0 +10546,I love yoga 🧘🏻‍♀️ & learning about the chakras so I decided to paint my own style chakras. This project was incredibly healing ❤️‍🩹 for me. Just wanted to share. 🙏🙏🙏🧘🏻‍♀️. ,0 +10547,"[COMP] A JUMP-THRU FOR THE REST OF US! Happy Friday, Yogis 🕉. We’d all love to float through straight-legged to a seat like a bonafide Ashtangi, but it’s a pretty tall order! Here are a few tips to make it onto your buns from Down Dog (even if you can’t defy gravity)😁.. ",0 +10548,[COMP] Anyone else find it impossible to do yoga w/ their fur babies around? 😅. ,0 +10549,[COMP] I got my side crow back!. ,0 +10550,"Yoga is helping me accept my body. It’s a long road. +40F I’ve always loathed my body and put it through all sorts of excesses. I’m still struggling at the most basic poses, feeling like my knees are about to burst when even only in child’s pose. Even now I can see how yoga can help me becoming kinder and more appreciative of my body. + +It is a slow process but I like observing even small changes, how I am able to hold longer poses in yin or just deepening stretches and building strength. Thank you to this community and to all those helping out.",0 +10551,Imagine going to a gym and seeing Paul McCartney doing this... ,0 +10552,[COMP] Minute-Long Handstand Mojo. ,0 +10553,[COMP] Paripurna bhujangasana to dhanurasana. ,0 +10554,[COMP] My Fav Little Inverting/Backbending Flow. ,0 +10555,[COMP] Tried wheel pose on a bench today - it was harder!. ,0 +10556,[COMP] This deep variation of Karnapidasana works so great towards the end of the practice for some navel gazing (literally!). ,0 +10557,[COMP] handstands at the beach. ,0 +10558,[COMP] SUP Yoga! I finally got a board and got to try some poses!. ,0 +10559,[COMP] flowing through to an attempt at firefly pose 🙏. ,0 +10560,[COMP] My personal practice & all my classes are about foundations & details. I tried the #FlyingCrow after so many years. I didn’t expect leg extension but it happened & I owe it all to my constant attention to basics. It needs more work as my elbows refused to stay parallel & kept splaying out.. ,0 +10561,[COMP] minimum daily requirements. ,0 +10562,[COMP] handstand to crane. ,0 +10563,"I think my yoga instructor molested me. I’m writing this on a throwaway account but I want to know if I’m over reacting. So I’m a guy and I’ve been doing yoga for about 5 months and when in class the instructor gives hands on assistance if a student needs it. I never ask for it but we have a rule that if you have a marble on your mat it means your ok with it (which I’m cool with it). Anyway one of the teachers takes it to too far with me and I want other opinions because I’m not sure if I’m over reacting. + +A few times she’s placed her hands on my inner upper thigh really close to my privates, during chair pose she one time literally hugged me from behind and had her chest presses against my back. She’ll put her hands on my pecks and biceps and I really don’t like that. Once she was helping me with the happy baby pose and was staring directly at my private parts. And last night while doing savasana I had a towel over my eyes and she came up behind me and had her face extremely close to mine and I swear I thought she was going to kiss me. It was really uncomfortable. I think she’s taking it to far and no other teacher at the studio does this and it’s bothering me. + +I know that there’s a stigma or misconceptions that this sort of thing doesn’t bother guys but I’m not comfortable with this and it really bothers me. + +I just want some opinions. Is this normal am I making a big deal out of nothing?",0 +10564,[COMP] photo dump of various shapes. ,0 +10565,"Chiropractor said “no one should do yoga. “. I went to a chiropractor yesterday because I’ve been having lower back issues from lifting a heavy mattress. + +This chiropractor shared lots of information with me since it was my first time, and I did mention to him that I’ve been doing yoga since I was 16 and he had lots of negative and bad stuff to say about yoga. + +He even shared a whole packet of images of poses that, according to him, no one should be doing. Lots of the poses he was showing me were pretty common yoga poses that I see yogis practice every day. + +Basically he was dissing yoga and saying no one should be doing it. +Which to me sounds ridiculous because I’ve been doing yoga since I was 16 and have never had any issues. You also can’t ignore thousands of years people have been doing yoga and all of the yoga people are doing now. So I don’t understand how he can just say all of that stuff, so I don’t know if he is just highly opinionated or if this stuff is factual. + +Is there anyone who has had issues with chiropractors and yoga? +And is there anyone who can link me to studies showing how good it is for us? I would like to send them to my chiropractor.",0 +10566,"Yoga helped me quit smoking & calmed my anxiety. I can't believe it. I've been doing yoga for 1 MONTH. Only one month. From the first week, I suddenly stopped smoking & I realized it was because of yoga. I'm so grateful and happy!!",0 +10567,[COMP] flow to crow. ,0 +10568,[COMP] Practicing my Crow Pose :) tried gripping with my fingertips and looking forward with just my eyes this time!. ,0 +10569,[Comp] what is this pose called?. ,0 +10570,"Ek Pada Chakrasana, a (wonky looking) sketch I made for my bedroom wall. ",0 +10571,[COMP] back bend check in. ,0 +10572,"Call Me Childish...Things I Chuckle to myself about in Yoga. 1. I still chuckle when someone passes gas.. including myself + +2. Cow Girl and Frog are very much Sex Positions and the thought always make me mind wander and laugh + +3. Putting my hand on my heart is really just me putting my hand on my boob... i used to struggle and try and figure it out + +4. When 'spilling out' in forward fold, I always say to myself my tummy is always spilling out my waist + +5. Any sitting posture bending at the waists my chin/face rests in my boobs and I just think this is the day they suffocate me or who needs a block when youve got boobs + + + +What things make you chuckle silently to yourself in your practice?",0 +10573,"[COMP] It's my birthday today, so it's a festive handstand in Berlin. If there are candles on the cake, then only these). ",0 +10574,[COMP] I’ve forgotten about posting my pigeon update. Awhile back someone advised me to try reaching for my foot while lying flat which I feel has changed the game! Also thanks to a lot of other great tips I’m slowly closing the gap 💗. ,0 +10575,"[COMP] “Step, hop, or float” . . . to the top of the mat! We always hear this when Sun Sals are part of a Vinyasa, but how?!? Hopefully we can all step up, but then it gets more complicated. So much love from my last post that I thought I would share some ideas👍🏻🕉👍🏻. ",0 +10576,[COMP] Finally managed to straighten legs on Urdhva Dhanurasana!. ,0 +10577,"Savasana (Corpse Pose) is one of the most important and the most challenging yoga poses of all time.. It's a pose of ultimate relaxation, which is why it is so difficult for many of us to release into the pose. It allows your body to de-stress and return to its natural state as a human being and not a human doing.",0 +10578,[COMP] This is my strongest crow yet. How to hold this pose better?. ,0 +10579,[COMP] Baby's first Child's pose 😊. ,0 +10580,[COMP] 52 days of working on this backbend arrow this is the longest i’ve held it! Pretty proud of myself!. ,0 +10581,"[COMP] Full wheel Pose, it's happening guys!. ",0 +10582,[COMP] 3 1/2 weeks in practicing crow pose! Working on stability :). ,0 +10583,"[COMP] I don't know what to call it, but I can reach my head up to my butt😅. ",0 +10584,[COMP] Dimbasana. ,0 +10585,[COMP] Straight up handstand. ,0 +10586,[COMP] Turning Into A Teardrop 💧 (Purna Dhanurasana). ,0 +10587,"[comp]bakasana, Sirsasana at the central park. Caracas. ",0 +10588,[COMP] I finally could do wheel safely.. ,0 +10589,[COMP] tittibhasana! Love this pose so much I’m thinking about getting a firefly tattoo :). ,0 +10590,[COMP] when you have a deadline and you need to do everything😅. ,0 +10591,"I fell out of taking care of myself a few months ago, including practicing yoga. When Adrienne started talking in the intro video for Move, I started crying.. Yoga has been quite healing for me over the last couple of years, and I started using Adrienne's videos in my practice probably a year ago. Her voice has brought so much healing to my life and hearing her again gave me so much relief. I'm cautiously optimistic about renewing my practice this year with this series. Here's to a healing new year.",0 +10592,"Doing yoga everyday feels amazing. I've been doing yoga for almost 4 years now, casually, normally no less than one hour a week. +The last month though I've made time to do 20-30 mins of yoga every single day, occasionally twice a day, and honestly I feel amazing. My body feels healthier, more energetic, and drive/motivation is just way better and more focused",0 +10593,"yoga as a fat person. i hate to even post this but i’ve been practicing on and off for years, but never considered myself anything besides a beginner because of my inconsistency. + +i’ve always been larger, but i’ve gained weight and am the heaviest i’ve ever been- technically obese. i would love to get back into yoga for my mental and physical health. + +i just completed one of Adriene’s 30 minute videos. i’m proud of myself for starting and finishing but i have dilemmas- + +- both of my hands can’t be on the ground when lunging which makes transitions as well as general poses and stretches difficult + +- my hands slip on my mat in downward dog (yes i tend to have sweaty hands, how do i fix this?) + +- my wrists hurt!!! + +- knees don’t really go to chest + +i’m just wondering if it’s even possible to practice yoga as a fat person? any tips for any of these things are highly appreciated. i’m feeling very discouraged",0 +10594,[COMP] early morning practice. ,0 +10595,As requested here's my white gold liform mat 🥰. ,0 +10596,[comp] what can I work on to get my chest/stomach pressed up against my quads in Uttanasana?. ,0 +10597,It is important to know what you do before you start it!. ,0 +10598,I've made it a month! One month of regular Asana and meditation practices.. ,0 +10599,"Hi! I want to get back into doing yoga. I used to follow Yoga with Adrienne videos and am definitely going back to them, but I was wondering if this community had any reccomendedations for at home videos from non-white practitioners? Preferably videos that are in english. Thank you!. ",0 +10600,[COMP] trying to get more comfortable and playing around with this one. Still can’t believe I can even do this lol!. ,0 +10601,[COMP] starting to feel comfortable with flying pigeon. Any tips for holding the pose longer?. ,0 +10602,[comp] Eka Pada Galavasana. ,0 +10603,[comp] Vinyasa Yoga Practice at Caracas.. ,0 +10604,My cat pose🐱. ,0 +10605,[COMP] gecko variation. ,0 +10606,"[COMP] after two full months of not doing yoga (busy with weightlifting & crossfit), i decided to give crow a go again! 🏋🏻‍♀️🧘🏻‍♀️. ",0 +10607,"Words of Warning - Forward Fold. Mods please feel free to remove, I just wanted to share my experience. I was warned on this sub about 2 years ago I would say... and I failed to heed the warnings. Now I am paying for it. + +1.5-2 years ago I commented a pretty innocuous comment praising the forward fold. I said something along the lines of, I'm getting so good with it I can actually crack my back with gravity by simply hanging forward. Another commenter agreed, ""oh yes, it feels so good to reach that point."" But there was one commenter that said, be careful, thats a guaranteed way to get a slipped disk in your lower back if you arent careful. + +Slipped Disc? I lol'd with the confidence of an uninjured 28-29 year old. + +Long story short, I definitely injured my back and its changed a lot of my mobility. The ""progress"" I had been making in yoga is almost all gone and I am back to beginner form poses with lots of bent knees and support blocks. + +Here is how I ignored the signs of injury and kept pressing through until I finally educated myself on anatomy. + +First, I've always had a tight lower back and periodic lower back pain (multiple car accidents). I always thought the bridge and backbend poses would be detrimental so I sort of avoided them or didn't push too hard with them. The way I saw it was, backs arents supposed to curve like that, no way that pressure is good for the spine, me and my liberal arts degree must know so much about osteology. + +Instead I focused on forward folds and always thought I had good form. stretching through the legs, hamstrings, and glutes rather than stretching through the back. I was starting to get really flexible this way and lower and lower to the ground. Then I started to feel the sweet release of cracking your back in foward fold through gravity and I became hooked on this feeling. This is also when I started to feel a warm ""tenderness"" around my lower back which I thought was relieved by the cracking and folding. I loved this feeling so much that I frequently would fold forward as I felt it relieved this tender feeling which seemed to be increasing in warmth and started to ""pinch"". Eventually this turned into pain, a searing hot, pinching pain in a very specific location. It got to the point where this pain was present all the time and really started to get in the way of my day to day life. I continued the forward fold because it felt like it brought relieve. + +I had a fundamental misunderstanding of how the spine worked. Eventually I went to Dr. Google and after tons of research and videos, the original commenter basically hit the nail on the head. I was able to do an at home adjustment by, essentially, bending backward over the arm of my sofa. (Dangerous can cause injury, please be careful if you do this.) Omg the sweet relief I got from that intense back bend. It was immediate and overwhelming. And all of my back pain went away immediately. + +The only difference is now, my back mobility (not so much twisting just bending forward and backward) is pretty tight. And I am also afraid of pushing it. I feel the twinge when I bend over to pick something off the ground. All bending is now supported with bent knees. I've also added more mindful back bending exercises into my practice which has helped a lot! + +My whole practice has changed, I no longer push into any advanced poses and for the time being focusing on the basics. A little disappointing considering the progress I thought I was making but slow and steady is really enjoyable too. + +Anyway, thats my warning. Thanks for letting me share my experience. Good luck and happy new years.",0 +10608,[COMP] Upward Facing Dog. ,0 +10609,"Fired up my 1st iPad and found out that I still have the OG Yoga studio app, it still works! Merry Christmas to me!. ",0 +10610,"[COMP] Headstand progress: definitely have a long way to go, but I’m happy with my todays practice!. ",0 +10611,"What is one small thing that can throw off a yoga class for you?. For me, it's when the instructor talks a lot. I've realized silence allows me to connect easier and talking during shavasana is really distracting. Or during balance/ other difficult poses it can cause me to lose focus. + +Edit: one of the worst instructors I has sounded like a drill sergeant. ""Breathe! Breathe! Lengthen! Liiiiift"". Didn't go back.",0 +10612,[COMP] Hi guys! Spring has sprung here 🌼 and my flying splits (EPK 2) getting better 🥳. ,0 +10613,[COMP] headstand. ,0 +10614,[COMP] straight line?. ,0 +10615,is it ok to take deep breaths when it's foggy. ,0 +10616,"Becoming very quickly obsessed with how yoga makes me feel. I got sober a couple months ago and then had a life changing (for the better) surgery a few weeks ago. I started a home practice as soon as I was healthy enough with YouTube videos and today went to my first in person classes since before the pandemic this morning. I’m obsessed. I feel so amazing. I’m getting the flexibility and strength back that I lost being a lazy and sad drunk. My mind is quieting down. I have gone from avoiding practice because I was tired to wanting to do it as soon as I get home so I can have as much time as possible. It’s becoming a priority instead of an obligation. + +I used to hate doing yoga. I would force myself and rush through the practice so I could get done and have a drink or go smoke a cigarette. And I would do a day or two in a row then stop. + +I just wanted to share. I’m so happy and excited to be here. I can’t wait to continue this journey.",0 +10617,[COMP] feedback for my headstand? would appreciate tips on how to better control breath while upside down<3. ,0 +10618,[COMP] Faith over Fear 💕. ,0 +10619,[COMP] Yoga Everyday !!. ,0 +10620,[COMP] anyone else let out a huge smile when they finally nail it? Practicing an EPK 1 -> 2 so if you have any tips let me know!. ,0 +10621,"[COMP] Pigeon pose is my favorite, and so I flowed through a few variations. It's not perfect, but it was fun! Sped up ×2. ",0 +10622,[COMP] arm balancing transitions are so interesting! thought i would share my progress here :) would love to see others trying this transition!!. ,0 +10623,[COMP] handstand check in 5.24.22. ,0 +10624,Another way to study yoga 😊. ,0 +10625,"Power washed my 2 year old mat, looks and feels new again!. ",0 +10626,[COMP] getting back to feeling better in handstands after my car accident late last year feels really amazing <3. ,0 +10627,[COMP] Does anyone else use canes for practice? Oddly enough if you can get over the fear they make balancing much easier.. ,0 +10628,"Today I will finish my 30 day yoga challenge!. Due to a major life change about seven months ago I found myself not exercising much (yoga included) because I was so concerned with adapting to my new situation. Over the course of a few months I found that my body was becoming increasingly stiff and not very flexible. + +This time last month I was able to get myself to begin a daily yoga practice. At first I was embarrassed at how hard it was for me to maintain some of the poses, but I could tell an immediate difference in how I felt both physically and emotionally. In modern life it is easy to forget the mind body connection and just how much the body effects our emotions. I’m on day 30 and I can tell major difference in terms of my emotional and physical health. A daily practice makes everyday movements such as going up stairs or other tasks that much easier, as the muscles in our body are accustomed to a higher level of activity. + +If you are thinking about starting a daily yoga practice or maybe just want to do yoga today, I say go for it! + +Edit: thanks for all the kind comments!! I followed the 30 Day Move challenge with Yoga With Adrienne.",0 +10629,"THE BACK OF MY FOOT IS FINALLY ON THE FLOOR DURING DOWNWARD DOG. And I’m 95% down into a split. + +It’s been about 6 months of doing yoga 4-5 times a week with 2, 3 week breaks and I’m so excited about this ☺️☺️☺️ + +I stopped mid workout so I can share it with someone but no one I know cares so I’m telling y’all 😁😅 + +💛 woot woot",0 +10630,Anyone else love that feeling of stepping back into the studio? I was away for a week and it feels like coming home 😍😍😍. ,0 +10631,[COMP] ✨ shoulder opener. ,0 +10632,Muse. ,0 +10633,From the Yoga Sutra by Patanjali. ,0 +10634,I have shoulders that roll inward towards my chest and a forward neck posture (like in the photo). Any tips on exercises that are gentle but corrective? Any tips on videos or poses that help this? I know I need to strengthen my back but not sure what else I need to do to fix this!. ,0 +10635,[COMP] My Vinyasa Flow teacher recently taught us this fun and challenging transition. Bound Warrior - EPK2 - Chaturanga. ,0 +10636,Lower back pain/stiffness when I do the pose picture. Anyone else experience this and fix this issue.. ,0 +10637,[COMP] last arm balance work of 2021. let’s see what next year has in store. ,0 +10638,[COMP] Headstand pike-up reps in my classroom!. ,0 +10639,[COMP] It is a practice used to deepen your connection with yourself and your energy. It is a tool used for deeper healing. That is where the magic is.. ,0 +10640,[COMP] learning to float. ,0 +10641,"Thoughts on the more ""woohoo"" or pseudoscience aspects of yoga?. I'm in the middle of my 200 yoga training and I'm really enjoying all I'm learning so far, especially diving into the philosophy of the yoga sutras. I'm struggling a bit with some aspects, though. + +The chakras and the entire concept of Ayruveda are really new to me and I'm trying to stay open minded, but Ayruveda especially seems just... not real. We determined our doshas using essentially Buzzfeed quizzes and the idea that I should dramatically change my lifestyle based on being 1 of 3 of these doshas seems both wildly simplistic and also far too complicated. + +The chakras are more accessible to me because it seems like they are based on the locations of glands in the body, but so far I haven't been able to find any books, articles, or podcasts that dive into this aspect of the chakras. + +Other participants in my class also believe in crystals and Reiki. I wouldn't say I'm NOT a believer, but I am a strong sceptic and I'm wondering if anyone here can point me in the direction of facts here? +Thank you!",0 +10642,[COMP] one minute handstand. ,0 +10643,"Another story behind the asana: The Warrior Poses (Virabhadrasana I, II, and III). Warning: it's a pretty hard-core story!. **THE STORY OF VIRABHADRASANA 1, 2, and 3** | The Warrior Poses + +The “Virabhadra” of Virabhadrasana doesn’t actually translate to “warrior” from Sanskrit, but is rather the name of one very specific warrior, and the story behind him is super interesting. It’s another story about lord Shiva (I wrote about [him and dancer’s pose yesterday](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/w8ltpk/why_dancers_pose_is_named_after_shiva_nataraja_a/)). Here's the version of the story I've been studying and teaching with my priestess in Bali (please share other variations that you know in the comments!): + +[Virabhadrasana I](https://preview.redd.it/b11ua9vt05e91.jpg?width=3840&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=242d742e6236ff6792d86c0a19098112b128ca0b) + +​ + +In the Virabhadra story, Shiva was in love with Sati (a form of the goddess Parvati/Shakti--more on her tomorrow :). + +[Shiva and Sati](https://preview.redd.it/rn6xcx4j25e91.jpg?width=800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e0a8ed2edb0df596445881e605997381da115993) + +Sati was the daughter of a great king named Daksha. But King Daksha didn’t particularly like Shiva. In fact, he did everything in his power to keep his daughter, Sati, away from her beloved Shiva. Through some clever trickery, Sati and Shiva ended up getting married against her father’s wishes, but King Daksha was never happy with his son-in-law. + +One day, while Shiva was sitting on top of Mount Kailash (his holy site in the Himalayas) in deep meditation, King Daksha threw a ceremony at his palace, and he invited all of the gods to benefit from the sacrifice (yajna)--except for Shiva. + +[Daksha's Yajna \(ceremonial sacrifice for the gods\)](https://preview.redd.it/y49c7bpo25e91.jpg?width=4352&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fd225886bccb90bab15634b385719fe6e68c9f25) + +For Sati, this was the final straw. She went to her father’s ceremony and confronted him, asking him why her beloved Shiva had been excluded. In front of all the other gods, King Daksha insulted Shiva, telling Sati that he was unfit to be worshiped alongside the other gods. + +This sent Sati into a rage, and right there in the middle of the sacrifice, she self-immolated, catching fire and falling to ash at her father’s feet. + +​ + +[Sati's spontaneous combustion](https://preview.redd.it/oa3c98qs25e91.png?width=732&format=png&auto=webp&s=58c927e719b948631b859d7b3c6c4f027198ab78) + +Shiva and Sati’s love was so strong, that even from where he sat in meditation on top of Mount Kailash, Shiva could feel the death of his beloved, and he vowed to avenge her death. He instantly manifested a fierce warrior named Virabhadra to do his bidding and destroy Daksha’s yajna. + +​ + +[Shiva summoning Virabhadra](https://preview.redd.it/ph4t9xev25e91.jpg?width=1920&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7fa7afa9313349f0017b67ed8910b44369f47a68) + +In some tellings, Shiva summoned Virabhadra from one of his dreadlocks, throwing the lock of hair into the mountain where it snaked its way underground and into the palace, becoming Virabhadra and rising up in front of King Daksha's throne with sword drawn, in the stance of Warrior 1: + +​ + +[Warrior 1](https://preview.redd.it/9rrkish935e91.jpg?width=1280&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4ea562f335593c236c2bd73cbe418bd1b8edbb54) + +Then, in the stance of Warrior 2, Virabhadra chopped off King Daksha’s head: + +​ + +[Warrior 2](https://preview.redd.it/sjfxw1za35e91.jpg?width=3591&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6f931fd7f3213a1c104d3342d18f069809c8c95e) + +And in the stance of Warrior 3, he planted Daksha’s head on a stake in front of all the ceremony guests: + +​ + +[Warrior 3](https://preview.redd.it/rxhi7s1d35e91.jpg?width=4686&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c749adb8e684365d4a5cee812e1fec142bb16678) + +Pretty metal, right? + +​ + +[NSFL?](https://preview.redd.it/8e33lir045e91.jpg?width=564&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=271c94924ce9217bc7494612a79b051059d996ed) + +But don’t worry--in the end, this is a story of love and forgiveness. + +After an epic battle ensued, the goddess Sati reincarnated, determined to set things right. She calmed the warrior and called Shiva down from the mountain to make amends--after all, her father hadn’t killed her, she’d spontaneously combusted in rage. Her willingness to forgive her father assuaged Shiva, and he brought King Daksha back to life by replacing his head with the head of a goat. + +Upon revival, Daksha (shockingly) bowed before Lord Shiva, saying that he had doubted the power of the love between Shiva and Sati, and now saw the truth of the depth of their union. He went on to worship Shiva as a supreme god for the rest of his life. + +​ + +[King Daksha receiving Lord Shiva's blessing](https://preview.redd.it/sysfrt6845e91.png?width=972&format=png&auto=webp&s=ef9831f6278511667cfd2c53d85f2db73e016467) + +Crazy story, hey? + +It’s often used as a metaphor for the killing of the ego--in this case, King Daksha representing our doubt in god/the universe (Shiva), and our tendency to put our own egos above our dharma. I know this is something I’ve noticed in my personal life recently; challenges that I saw as setbacks, changes that I fought kicking and screaming, ended up being exactly what I needed, and I now stand in a place where I can look back over the past few hard years and see that every step led me right to where I’m meant to be, as if the path had laid itself at my feet. So in the end, it’s a cautionary tale teaching us to trust in the divine/universe/nature/science/dharma, whatever you choose to call “that which is beyond us.” + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/9tzpv55p55e91.jpg?width=1298&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5e9e5bb7522b1df05e3d413bf10db27972b0d59c + +Physically and energetically, something really cool happens when we take these shapes as the warrior poses in yoga. When we embody Virabhadra, we’re finding simultaneous strength and openness in our lower bodies, while also expanding and opening the solar plexus. Our solar plexus chakra (somewhere around the level of the lower ribs to the sternum) energetically is our power and confidence center. It’s one of the chakras for which we can feel the energy quite clearly. For example: + +Have you ever been given the advice, before maybe a job interview or a public speaking opportunity, to stand like Wonder Woman? To puff out your chest, or to throw your arms out wide, or even to “man-spread” to feel more confident? If you try it right now--do a bit of a back-bend, lift your sternum, send your solar plexus forward etc.--you’ll instantly feel more confident. Isn’t Warrior II basically just extreme man-spreading? lol! + +​ + +[\\""High Power\\"" Body Language \(courtesy of Amy Cuddy, Harvard University\)](https://preview.redd.it/smgvebfq55e91.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=6bcf6b5808210f71f8fd5d62e32b7f689d6a2af9) + +When we feel scared or out of control or tired, we tend to take the opposite position--hunched up, even in the fetal position. So when we then choose to “explode” open like the warrior, we’re embodying the opposite of fear and tiredness. We’re allowing ourselves to be more courageous and awake. The strength in these poses literally allows us to ""stand up"" for others and for what we believe in. + +Call it stimulating the energy of the manipura chakra, or embodying the warrior Virabhadra in his quest to avenge the death of Shiva’s love--either way, our sympathetic nervous system is activated in the warrior series in a way that allows us to feel more confident, alive, and powerful--just like a Warrior :) + +Om Namah Shivaya + +\------------- + +((Note that this story has been written about many places in various forms (in the Mahabarata, the Kurma Purana, etc.) as well as re-told aurally, re-written by later sages, and represented in many art forms, often with their own local traditions, so there are a lot of versions. The above seems to be the most commonly told variation, but I'd love to hear others, so please share in the comments!)) And if you know the sources for any of the above artwork, please share.",0 +10644,Worked on some arm balances after a hot yoga class today. ,0 +10645,What is the name of this pose?. ,0 +10646,[COMP] Been doing yoga for about a month now and I’m making great progress! Here’s my progress for the scorpion pose. Not quite there but the basic building blocks are 😊. ,0 +10647,What is your hardest pose? Mine is this one.. ,0 +10648,"New to yoga and started 30 days of yoga with Adrienne. I'm only on day two - so it's very early days. But I realise how out of shape I am. Trying to get my body into the most basic of poses is proving very difficult. + +Well, I can do the poses - I just can't stay in the pose for a long time. + +I do a lot of other exercises. I do a ton of walking every day and I do kettlebell exercises for fitness. But man, yoga is something else. + +I know I am only on day two but I already feel inclined to keep at it. It feels good despite it being very uncomfortable right now. + +​ + +Many thanks for all your kind comments! I really appreciate all the motivation! Many thanks and gratitude to all of you!",0 +10649,[COMP] King Dancer. ,0 +10650,[COMP] lizard variation to flying splits. ,0 +10651,"new to yoga and feeling shame and humiliation. I'm a young guy in my early 20s and I have recently started to practice yoga. I have started with beginner videos on YouTube. When doing the flows I often feel a heavy sense of shame as I am very inflexible and I struggle to do some poses. Additionally at the end of a session I feel a sense of humiliation rather than accomplishment as I feel embarrassed by my inability to complete a flow without enormous strain. I am also afraid to go to a proper in person class as I think I would feel very embarrassed. If anyone has any advice to get over this hump, it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!",0 +10652,"There is deep wisdom within our very flesh, we can only come to our senses and feel it!. ",0 +10653,"[COMP] Salamba sirsasana, one of my favorite poses. ",0 +10654,Wrist warm ups & modifications for your practice 🧘. ,0 +10655,(COMP) Making progress! I’m not nearly as shaky and I have movement in my legs now without losing balance 👍😁. ,0 +10656,"Just Cried In the Shower after class. I, an overweight 32 year old man, who just started yoga classes, cried in the shower after my 5th class. I’ve never experienced anything quite like that before. It definitely wasn’t a negative experience, and I hope I am able to feel it again. I have no idea what brought it on, is this a common experience?",0 +10657,[COMP] My first Timelapse of a complete flow! It’s a warm-up for getting into wheel pose but for me standing knee to nose pose is a challenge too!. ,0 +10658,"Doing yoga since October just on the most weekends. I woke up this morning and my body knows it’s Saturday and it’s craving yoga. Well, this is new!. ",0 +10659,[COMP] starting to explore back bends and looking for some tips/pointers?! What’s wrong with my form? How to improve flexibility? Thanks!!. ,0 +10660,"New to yoga, is this normal?. I think I have an obsession with yoga. I can’t stop thinking about how great it is, I get SO excited to practice yoga right after I leave the studio. The mental benefit of yoga is so strong, and the physical side feels nice as well. To add, I was a former alcoholic/addict, so maybe this is my addictive side coming out? I haven’t felt this excited for something EVER! It feels like the night before Christmas every day now, because I know I have yoga the next day! +Edit: wow I truly did not expect so many comments! I’m so grateful many of you took the time to share your experience or your advice. I love that we can share this experience of yoga! I’ll try to respond to all of you!",0 +10661,Nearly a year since learning Vacuums/Waves/Nauli Kriya from ground up.. ,0 +10662,"When the instructor says ______,. I went to a class today and the teacher kept referring to the savasana as ""delicious"" and ""yummy."" I thought I misheard it the first time and she kept going... more emphasis each time. At one time I questioned if I was an extra in an adult film. ""This pose is sooooOooOo yuuuuuUuUuMmmy, yeah!"" I ended my savasana early and left. + + +What are phrases yall don't vibe with?",0 +10663,"[COMP] let���s talk balance!!! I’ve been working on this balance mobility flow for a few months and have made great progress, but am still shaky and would like to be a little smoother. What are some of y’all’s best balance tips? Oh and any tips on keeping my body squared off in warrior 3? Thanks!!!!. ",0 +10664,I WAS ABLE TO DO THE MIDDLE SPLIT. I WAS DOING MY YOGA STRETCHES TODAY AND I ATTEMPTED TO DO THE MIDDLE SPLIT AND I DID IT I FINALLY DID IT GUYS I PRACTICED SO MUCH AND I DID IT,0 +10665,[COMP] Headstand Practice! Slowly getting there :). ,0 +10666,[COMP] Elephant's Trunk Pose variation for abdominals!. ,0 +10667,"just finished week 1 of yoga. I feel the difference already.. Not entirely sure if this is placebo but.. since starting yoga I definitely feel more relaxed, my mood has improved, my back pain has diminished significantly, and my mind feels more quiet and in the present. + +Tomorrow will be day 10, and I'm definitely looking forward to it. + +Also, a reddittor had suggested I read The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali. Great book. Not a quick read imo, as it has many parts that require contemplation but an excellent intro to yoga nonetheless.",0 +10668,"Wanted to share a Bikram teacher experience because it's comical.. Not sure how many folks here take bikram but its a pretty ""disciplined"" practice. 26 of the same poses every time and you arent really supposed to modify at all (I know). But I go to this one teacher's class and she cracks me up. She takes it VERY seriously. She will call you out for deviating from the sequence in ANY way. Example: in forward folds this one student always kicks her legs out behind her, I am assuming it just feels good on her hips. and the teacher will be like ""Dont add any extra movements!"". Also, if you go into a pose before she cue's it she will say ""WAIT FOR THE WORDS"". I sat up too soon in one of the transitions and she made the WHOLE class lay back down and do it again because of me. She told another student that if she was going to do something different in class then she needed to tell her before hand. So, I told her last week ""look, im going into childs pose after belly down back bends"" and she's like ""why? do you have an injury?"" I said ""no it just feels good"". And that was that, but when I went into childs pose she started talking why you should follow the sequence blablabla. I find it hilarious that she takes it so seriously but also will call people out. Like I had no idea that lady was kicking her legs up in forward folds until the teacher called her out. Like let people do THEIR yoga and just be their guide, Adolf. My other teacher friend and I get a kick out of sharing the things she says.",0 +10669,"For anyone interested in Down Dog. I just got an email that the apps are 67% off ($19.99) for the year, with the same renewal price next year. (A subscription includes yoga, HIIT, meditation, running and Barre.) + +I have no affiliation, I just love the app and know a lot of people here missed the Black Friday discount. + +https://www.downdogapp.com/purchase",0 +10670,[COMP] Got my first wall crawl Scorpion today!. ,0 +10671,Finally did it! Completed first day of yoga with Adriene. She says to do this beginners yoga for one week. Where do I go after that? Any and all suggestions. I do like her a lot so not against sticking with her. Advice?. ,0 +10672,[COMP] arm balance play. ,0 +10673,"My thousandth yoga class (almost) in a row. I recently passed the thousand class mark. I completely and utterly fell in love with yoga the first time I tried it quite randomly at the advanced age of 52. M here. + +I was drinking heavily at the time and doing yoga brought the physical effects of alcohol into sharp relief for me. Something had to give. I did detox and rehab a few months later. I continued doing yoga daily throughout. And have done so every day in a studio since. Zoom yoga during lockdown. + +I'm probably an extreme case but i just find yoga to be kind of magic. It does so much for you. And I realize i substituted one addiction for another, but hey. + +Just wanted to express my gratitude to yoga. + +Namaste.",0 +10674,Gentle for beginners???. I cannot even come close to doing this,0 +10675,My husband and I were trying to get in the mood and thought that if we just YouTubed a ‘Tantric Sex Karma Sutra instructional video’ it would help keep the marriage spicy… Needless to say… We totally ended up laughing our heads off and eating pizza instead!. ,0 +10676,"[COMP] STEP IT UP! Happy Friday Yogis😁. Some folks, not quite ready to hop or float, asked about the step up from Downward Dog. It’s not easy at all, but more manageable if you see it as four workable parts (which can be practiced individually)😁🕉😁🕉. ",0 +10677,[COMP] working on the leg switch. ,0 +10678,[COMP] any advice on stabilizing in my headstand? new to being upside down 🙃. ,0 +10679,"[COMP] HEADSTAND TIME! Happy Weekend, yoga friends😁. So much great headstanding on here lately (with yogis like 99% there). Here are a few tips that may help seal the deal 👍🏻🕉👍🏻.. ",0 +10680,"Covid conscious yoga as a niche?. I’m a certified yoga teacher in coastal South Florida. I don’t currently teach at any studios, only at a local college and online, because I’m not comfortable with the inability to ask for masks or vax status (the college requires masks). + +I’ve seen a lot of posts on this sub from folks afraid to return to studios due to lax or lack of covid precautions, and I recently had a friend reach out and ask me to teach privately to a small group on her patio because of this same concern. + +So I’m thinking - maybe I market myself as a covid conscious yoga teacher for small group private classes. I can gather yogis outdoors or come to their location, and I’d be happy to show my vax status and/or wear a mask while teaching. + +If you’re in the covid conscious camp, is this something you’d like to see in your area? My area currently has a lot of snowbirds from more restrictive areas (NY/NJ/CT/MA) so I’m thinking there’d be interest but wanted to float the idea here. Tell me what you think! + +(Covid hoaxers and anti vaxxers need not comment / this niche is not for you, thanks & namaste 🙏🏻 )",0 +10681,"So I still can’t…. -do the splits +-do a headstand +-do a backbend +BUT, I can now +-shoulder check by only twisting my neck +-high step over the baby gate +-balance on one foot at a time while putting my pants, socks and shoes on + +What “little things” has yoga helped you accomplish?",0 +10682,"Rude people in class (rant). I feel like it is standard and just common decency to not have or be on your phone in the studio. There was someone in my class who not only using their phone but playing videos with the sound all the way up as people were getting ready before class. Even if the class hasn’t started, respect your fellow yogis. That one hour of my day is sacred. It’s when I get away from my responsibilities, social media, and so on. I just more people would respect the space.",0 +10683,"I just “got” the warrior poses. This might not make sense, as I know the warrior poses are pretty basic intro poses, but after about two months of practicing twice a week I find that the warrior poses have “clicked” for me. I no longer need to pay such deep attention to where my knee is, I no longer feel like I’m holding my body in a position and trying to engage my muscles and worrying about left V right. I now feel like I can move into them with flow and there is the balance, strength, and steadiness that the instructor talks about that I couldn’t just achieve through willpower. This feels pretty cool as I always thought of this pose as “easy” but it’s like I’ve suddenly levelled up and my body now has an understanding of what I’m trying to do.",0 +10684,[COMP] Crow in the mountains. ,0 +10685,"Yoga is changing my life and the way I think. I am 28 years young, I’m a firefighter for the US Forest Service on a helicopter Crew. My body has been through a lot the past 6 years. Hiking/running/lifting etc. I could feel my body aging faster than it should be with the stress I was putting it through. Sore joints, pinched nerves, tendinitis in my hip. + +I came in to this practice with the soul mindset of healing my body from a multitude of physical injuries. I began slowly with yin, restorative and then hatha classes. But for the last month, almost every day, I’ve been taking hot power yoga classes in a heated room. WOW. You can literally feel the dopamine and endorphins pumping through your blood into your body, mind and spirit. + +It’s hard to put into words the spiritual and mental cleanse I’ve experienced from these classes. My physical injuries have almost healed, and I feel as if my thoughts and the way I think are being rewired through these experiences I’ve had during and after class. I come out of the studio in a much different, better mood then I do when I enter the studio. If that translate in to my life, and I end up being a happier nicer person as a result, I think thats better for the world. + +I am yearning to explore and learn more about yoga and its roots. I want to travel to different countries and practice, and hopefully someday teach yoga. My life has quite literally changed since I started practicing yoga again. I have so much love, gratitude and praise to the instructors that helped me get here. + +The moment it hit me, that I wanted to submerge myself in this practice, was when we were in shavasana after a very intense heated power yoga class. My instructor said - “ imagine if the whole world had access to the practice we just did. Imagine if every single person was able to take the class we just did. Imagine if every single person on the planet felt the way we feel right now. How much of a better world we would live in.“ I got goose bumps, and never looked back. + +These physical injuries ultimately led me to a practice I know will be with me for the rest of my life. What an amazing sequence of events. + + +Thank you for listening, +Namaste 🙏 + +This is a message I sent to my yoga studio and edited it for you guys :)",0 +10686,[COMP] Vrksasana at the beach. ,0 +10687,"Why dancer's pose is named after Shiva Nataraja (a ""story behind the asana"") and a mantra. A recent post about confusion caused by mantra chanting in yoga class inspired me to share some “stories behind the asanas.” I notice that Sanskrit can be confusing and off-putting for some if untranslated and unexplained, but extremely powerful when understood, so I hope this helps! I know learning these stories added so much depth to my practice, so I want to share with you too. + +​ + +**KING DANCER’S POSE (NATARAJASANA)** | Shiva as the King Dancer + +Shiva as Nataraja, for whom natarajasana (dancer’s pose) is named, is a form of the god Shiva as the cosmic dancer, who dances through the cycles of life, death, and re-birth. + +​ + +[Natarajasana \(one variation\)](https://preview.redd.it/8c6qmgjrbxd91.png?width=762&format=png&auto=webp&s=e8ec04a3dba69c554b86545d7e85dce3703f4bc9) + +There are many deities in Hinduism, but three important ones make up the “Hindu trinity” called the “trimurti”: Brahma (the creator), Vishnu (the preserver), and Shiva (the destroyer). + +When you see images of Shiva, you’ll know it’s him because he has dreadlocks piled high on his head (called “jata”) typically with a crescent moon as adornment, with a stream of water representing the River Gangga flowing from it. He wears animal skins (usually tiger) and has a cobra around his neck or waist to show he’s overcome death, and he typically carries a trident, to destroy the three worlds (lokas). Oh, and he’s usually blue, a sign of his divinity. + +​ + +[Lord Shiva](https://preview.redd.it/bmxsja9tbxd91.jpg?width=432&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=68a8cdd968e1a7ce6f2047064a92da457be831b9) + +This idea of “destruction” might make him sound like a bad guy, but instead, it’s an equanimous part of our nature. For one, think of all the bad things that we need to destroy in our lives: hatred, fear, self-doubt, judgment, etc. We can call upon the energy of Shiva to help us in this destruction. But even more so, just as natural as birth and death, beginnings and endings are a fact of life--and Shiva finds the joy in the cycles, dancing through them in what’s called the “dance of bliss” (ananda tandava). + +You may have seen a statue like one of these at the front of some of your yoga studios: + +​ + +[Statues of Shiva Nataraja](https://preview.redd.it/dtssrybfcxd91.png?width=1539&format=png&auto=webp&s=759416e8bef88aed38dba0e420d9cac30e98fc03) + +That’s Shiva Nataraja, doing his dance of bliss. Shiva is considered the original yogi, the one who is said to have brought the practice of yoga to the world, so he’s a good choice in a yoga studio :) The circle of fire around him represents the cycle of life, death, and re-birth (called samsara). He dances joyfully through it, unaffected by the endings and new beginnings, just as we can learn to do. In this depiction, he’s often dancing upon a small person, who represents ignorance and specifically the ignorance that causes our fear of death--this person is a metaphor for how “small” we make ourselves when we fail to recognize our divine and eternal nature. + +One of my favorite teachers, Ram Dass, used Shiva as an example like this in “Be Here Now”: +""Singing and dancing and insurance, and savings accounts and jobs and responsibility..... + + +[From \\""Be Here Now\\""](https://preview.redd.it/kjy3q53xcxd91.png?width=601&format=png&auto=webp&s=5755812ffebbb13b66413c80710b4e7a1fb81175) + +We get to choose. Will we bear the mundane struggles of life like a heavy burden, or treat them as just another joyful step in the dance? + +​ + +So, when you take the physical shape called natarajasana or king dancer’s pose in yoga, you are embodying Shiva's dance, this concept of joy through the cycles of endings and beginnings. Physically, it’s a pose that opens the heart, as well as the hip flexors of the raised leg, allowing us to emotionally open to those inevitable changes, while undoing stuck patterns (like sitting hunched over our computers, etc.) As a standing balance pose, it also takes courage--a very small way in which we show that we’ve overcome fear (the root of all fear being the fear of death). In this way, we embody Shiva’s dance of bliss whenever we take this pose. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/a5ia3frfdxd91.jpg?width=3322&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=07cb90e553cd307ca07fef86f3e1a8c3f4a478f5 + +If that resonates with you, you might use a Shiva mantra in your meditations, repeating the words (either through song, on japa mala beads, or just mentally as your point of focus in meditation): + +**Om Namah Shivaya** + +“Namah” comes from the same root word as “namaste,” but is a more formal/devotional form of the word, so this mantra simply means “**Om (the sound of connection with the universe), I bow to Shiva**.” + +Here are some modern versions on Spotify that are really fun :) + +[Om Namah Shivaya](https://open.spotify.com/track/4JvXeT4cjPGbHkSdODqvG0) \- by Jonah Kest +[Om Namah Shivaya](https://open.spotify.com/track/7DHbnJP81HbeiVcKmMylix) \- Deva Premal + +​ + +\----------------------- + +**Note:** I don’t know anyone who thinks you need to fully convert to Hinduism to practice yoga, so please don’t feel that you are somehow dishonoring whatever your own faith, religion, or belief system is by taking the shape of the Hindu gods in asana. Rather, learning these stories and/or chanting these mantras provides a deeper cultural, historical, and (if you so choose) spiritual connection to the practice. Depending on your beliefs, it’s your choice how you choose to see the gods--as representations of our OWN divinity, as simple metaphors for various aspects of the human experience, or as similar to Catholic saints or angels, messengers and way-showers of the ultimate divine (God, Ishvara, Science, Nature, Universe etc.) In any way, knowing the stories can help connect mind, body, and spirit, while honoring the tradition from which the practice came.   + +I hope you liked reading this! I’ve been studying the puranas with a Balinese Hindu priestess for the past six years and teaching the stories together at our yoga teacher training in Bali, but I don’t think you need to be a yoga teacher to find a connection to these stories, so I’m hoping to share some of that with you all here :)",0 +10688,"[COMP] My morning yoga breathing routine - 20 minutes in 58 seconds. Sequence: Uddiyana Bandha - Agnisara dhauti kriya - Nauli and active breathing kapalabhati, bhastrika, breath holding in between. Let’s do it every morning! That’s really cool for mind and body :-). ",0 +10689,"New to yoga, r/yoga, looking for resources or yoga challenges? Start here. (2022 Edition). As ever, If you are new to the sub or new to yoga, WELCOME! There is an immense amount of information available in this sub, and an excellent community of people. + +[First! Here's a list of challenges to kick off 2022.](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/rt8llk/new_to_yoga_ryoga_looking_for_resources_or_yoga/hqrc5b3/) + +* If you're brand-spanking-new, please take a few minutes to read through the [Getting Started](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/wiki/faq#wiki_getting_started) section. + +* If you have a question, PLEASE try [search](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/search?q=&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all) and check out the [FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/wiki/faq) before creating a new post. As noted in rule 2, commonly asked questions are removed and directed to the above - especially at the start of the year when the same question is often posted multiple times a week or even a day. + +**The Basics** + +Styles - there's a nice rundown of the various styles in the FAQ - [here's a direct link.](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/wiki/faq#wiki_what_are_the_different_types_of_yoga.3F) + +... but where do I START? + +If you've never done yoga EVER and are going to start with a studio class and you're terrified, a restorative class is a good introduction to a studio and the various props. It's slow. You don't have to worry about keeping up, and I've yet to encounter a restorative class where reaching your toes was a thing. From there, as mentioned in the Getting Started section, hatha is a solid choice. Pick up the basics, and everything else is easier to learn. + +**Mats** + +[Try search for sure](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/search?q=mat&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all), but of course there's a list of topics in [the FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/wiki/faq#wiki_mats). The first link in the section is the Dec 2018 megathread for mats. + + **Sweat** + +Yep, it happens. Search for '[sweat](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/search?q=sweat&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all)', '[sweaty hands](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/search?q=sweaty+hands&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all)', and '[mat + sweat](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/search?q=%2Bmat+%2Bsweat&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all)'. [Towels](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/search?q=towel&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all) are also very handy. + +**Sore ** + +[Wrists](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/search?q=wrist&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all) and back especially can be a problem at first. Definitely try searching for your specifics before creating a new post, but do ask if you don't find things! + +**Online Resources** + +[The FAQ- Yes, even the old threads are useful.](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/wiki/faq#wiki_online_.28taken_from_the_wiki.29_.2F_mobile_-_mostly_free) - channels and sub sites just done, apps yet to come, though there are some links to relatively recent threads. + +[This post](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/2ldvia/its_time_for_a_serious_discussion_about_at_home/) is well worth the read regarding learning yoga at home. We inevitably hear that this post is anything but beginner friendly, the point of the post is to highlight some of the risks, because questions about those risks are some of the most commonly asked. + +Last year's newbie resources thread: + +[2021 Yoga Newbie Resources Thread - Share Your Favorite Resources Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/kkmkek/2021_yoga_newbie_resources_thread_share_your/) + +And the perennial copypasta of key information about the sub, the rules, etc.: + +**Reminders:** + +* It's in the sidebar, it's in the rules, it's in the note when you create a new post. *PLEASE utilize search and the FAQ before creating a new post.* Especially around the first of the year, it's not unusual to see 3 versions of the same post in a day, asking questions that are well covered in the sub. If your post is removed because the answers are available there the mod team is not scolding you, we're just letting you know why it was done and reminding you that the answers you seek already exist. And yes, the mod team finds themselves busy doing just that, especially around the start of the year. + +* /r/yoga is not the place for medical advice. This is always a handy reminder. +* **Addendum to the above** - Yoga philosophy and western medicine are different. There is room for both in this sub. This means that things like subtle bodies and energy (prana) movement and chakras *all have a place here* as well as discussion from a western perspective. There is no demand that anyone agrees with what is presented, but rule 1 applies in these cases- be respectful. This includes posts about cultural appreciation and those about purely physical practice vs. one that encompasses all 8 limbs. + +* Yes, we have a [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/wiki/index) and [FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/wiki/faq) . (And they're awesome.) +The FAQ and search are the best places to start if you're new to yoga or have questions about styles, equipment, injuries, or resources. FAQ updates will be coming, but in the meantime, we have continued to leave up questions that haven't been in awhile to keep more up-to-date information available when it exists. + +* Yes, they're even available via app and mobile. Yes, really. (The sidebar, too!) It can take a little looking, but we haven't yet found an app without access to the sidebar. + +* Reddit's guidelines are still the foundation of how we approach spam in /r/yoga, and bans will continue to be a thing as needed. Need the details? Reddit's guidelines are [here](https://www.reddit.com/wiki/selfpromotion). **If your first post to the sub is spam, and the mods check your post history and find you're doing nothing but promotion, do not be surprised if you're banned.** + +* This sub is not for market research. It's a community. Requests for the sub to tell you what we love or hate about our yoga mats and t-shirts will be removed, as will asking us to fill out surveys for that or your thesis research or help you with your homework assignment. Those are not the only such examples. When in doubt, feel free to message the mods ahead of time. Established community members can message mods ahead of time for permission on a case-by-case basis. Blatant spam may result in an immediate, permanent ban (yes, t-shirt and poster spam are still a one-way ticket to bansville). + +* We utilize the automoderator to cut down on spam. This includes minimum account age/karma requirements (no, we don't publish them). If your account is relatively new and something isn't showing up, odds are good it's been temporarily removed for manual review by mods- especially if there isn't a bot comment. Sometimes we catch them in the first 5 minutes, but sometimes it's a few hours between mod sweeps. If you've posted something that isn't showing up and it's been a few hours, you're welcome to message the mods (keeping in mind that it's possible it will be a bit before a mod sees it- please be patient!) and ask about it- including a link is much appreciated. + +* Your mod team is human (you totally thought we were unicorns and rainbow-chasing leprechauns, but aside from cosplay and Halloween, not so much). Part of modding is making judgement calls, and sometimes we remove things that we can't be sure there isn't a bot behind that turns out to be totally legit because another real, in-the-flesh reddit user actually did post. :) Much like the point above, feel free to ask. + +* The discussions on the Sutras have been collected on a wiki page [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/wiki/sutras). Sadly, the resource with collected translations is no longer a valid link. If anyone has an updated link, feel free to send it via [modmail](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/yoga). + +* [COMP] posts have and continue to be raised as a topic periodically in the community. The mods, however, are done discussing it. The tag was instituted to allow those who do not wish to see those posts a means to filter them out, and for those who want to see them, no additional action need be taken. For those unaware and interested, /u/BeyondMars posted [the following](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/48aaq2/should_an_individual_moderator_make_decisions/d0i424h) last time it came up to get everyone up to speed- here's the section on rule 4, to which I added the link: + +>>> Search the history of this sub for discussions on [COMP] poses. [~~Probably two years ago now?~~ Awhile ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/1i9x4s/mod_post_state_of_the_subreddit_reminders_selfies/) There is a VERY LARGE part of this sub that doesnt wan't them to have a place here at all. The gist of it is that people come to reddit and dont want it to be like another yoga instagram, or something, I dont know. But there were portions of time in this sub when our ENTIRE front page was yoga pics. COMP was an effort to a compromise that would allow people to filter them out if they didnt want them there... In regards to the self-doxxing aspect. Sexual harassment, and online bullying have originated in this sub at least four times that I was made aware of. This rule was instituted to keep everyone safe. I don't care if YOU want your instagram accounts on the sub (self promotion?) but we are keeping people safer with this rule and the way we enforce it. Its going to stay. Take the extra 2 minutes and upload it to imgur. + +* Also on the topic of [COMP] posts (and I *still* can't believe it needs to be said): **Sexual/sexualized/objectifying comments are not welcome here. Removals are guaranteed, and warning vs. suspension vs. permaban will be handled on a case-by-case basis.**",0 +10690,"Thoughts on a delicate situation?. My partner and I take a hot yoga class and had a really uncomfortable experience that we are unsure how to handle. Let me preface this by saying that I feel like your yoga practice is your own- you do you and I'm not judging. + +Recently, we've had two classes where we both left feeling uncomfortable and that our practice was seriously disrupted. A few moments into class, before anything strenuous, we heard behind us very loud moaning. At first I thought, maybe someone just got a really good stretch in. However, the moaning got louder and continued through every single pose, including savasana. Without getting explicit, it sounded extremely sexual in nature. I understand breathing is an important part of yoga, but this was incredibly loud and began to pull us out of our flow and concentration. Eventually, the instructor turned up the music to try and drown it out, but at that point we were unable to hear the cues over both the music and the moaning. + +How would you all react to this? Just find a new class? Say something to the studio? I absolutely love this class and hate to give it up, but at this point, I'm getting nothing out of it.",0 +10691,Any tip to improve my supta kurmasana? Namaste 🙏🏻. ,0 +10692,[COMP] handstand play. ,0 +10693,[COMP] this is how i get into side crow pose🖤 next goal side crow to EPK 😇. ,0 +10694,"Yin Yoga Breakthrough. Okay so I've been practicing yoga for about 6 years or so on and off and my last two Sessions I feel like I've had a big Breakthrough.. +So while doing my regular yin poses these last couple times I feel like I have found my limit like always but now through conscious awareness I am able to completely relax all the muscles around the area I'm working /stretching and oh my lord what a difference. +For example I did a supported back bridge and was able to FULLY relax my body while being supported by my block..and then the magic happened! I began to feel all these micro Bursts, Pops and twitches and my God it felt amazing... I held the pose for probably 10 min and when I finally came to my back felt ABSOLUTELY INCREDIBLE! All the deep tension had melted away from my lower back! I'm a 40 YO Male and my back hasn't felt like this until my late teens early 20s.. I feel like I have tapped into a way to release tension and stale energy that been stuck there for 20 years! +What an incredible experience and I feel like I finally realize what Yin Yoga is all about! +Thx for listening and any comments would be appreciated. Thx",0 +10695,"Do you guys learn the original names of the asanas(yoga postures) you practice?. as an Indian, its interesting how westernized yoga has become over the years and I noticed that each asana has an English name for it + +for example, the chakrasana is called wheel pose and updog meaning Urdhva Mukha Shvanasana. + +I can definitely understand the appeal of using English names for these difficult sounding Sanskrit words ( they were difficult for me too growing up upper-middle-class so fair enough I guess) + +however, replacing the original name and not even trying to learn them is definitely odd to me + +I've practised things from other cultures. I've done karate, taekwondo and aikido. in all three, I had to learn how to count to 20 in their respective languages and know what techniques I'm practising so i was wondering if its the same for non-Indian people who practice yoga? + +obviously, it varies from person to person, I'm just interested in your unique experience + +needless to say, I'm not attacking you for practising yoga. just curious, also would love to know what inspired you to decide to start practicing it!",0 +10696,"[COMP] correction, this is Ashtavakrasana. I had a brain fart this morning.. ",0 +10697,"Angry while doing pigeon pose?. I (23,F) have been doing yoga for some time, and have been loving it - except for one pose. Whenever I stretch into pigeon pose I can only really hold it for about a breath or two before I feel this wave of anger come over me, and I feel like screaming or running away. Does anyone else experience this, and if so, what causes it?",0 +10698,Yoga teachers: what’s one thing you wish your students really understood in class? Yoga students: what’s one thing you really wish your teacher understood or shared more?. ,0 +10699,"My heart is so full.. I just came from a 75 minute class and I was sobbing at the end. This teacher is so amazing. The imagery at the end was just so beautiful. She asked us to walk into a warmly lit cave or space in our hearts and as you walk deeper the light gets brighter and brighter. You come to a door and you have the key and you unlock it, the door opens and you are enveloped in light/love. I just had these feeling that this light was love and life and also death. I did my yoga teacher training this year and there have been a few other times when I have cried in savasana and I can literally feel LOVE in my heart. Another time I felt the love expanding all around me and that time I sobbed for quite some time. I feel that this is literally a healing, that trauma or some kind of energy is leaving the body and is being replaced with love. Maybe I need to share this on the spiritual subreddit as well. But I just wanted to share. Yoga is so so amazing and beautiful. I hope everyone can find what they are looking for through their practice.",0 +10700,[COMP] How can I straighten my sirsasana / headstand?. ,0 +10701,"Had my first class today and it was truly eye opening. I haven't exercised in years. + +As a teen I was very sporty and did a lot of martial arts. I was strong and fit, and I felt confident that I could do things with my body. + +Now in my 30s I am overweight and completely sedentary. I am so out of shape I struggle to climb stairs, and so stiff that I cannot straighten my legs completely. + +I decided to take a yoga class today. It was an hour long, and it was HARD. My self image is stuck in my teen years, and I was shocked that things I would've breezed through were nearly impossible. + +Halfway into it I wanted to leave - I was sweating buckets, slipping all over my mat, and shaking with every hold. But I got to the end, with my ego well and truly crushed. + +I'm going again next week though.",0 +10702,"While I haven't done this yet myself, I'm tempted to try this challenge and see if it's effective. Anyone else interested or knows if this worked for them?. ",0 +10703,[COMP] headstand progress. But how to get legs straight?? I chicken out and bail.. ,0 +10704,[COMP] Here’s a fun little challenging pose. Definitely more challenging then I originally thought it was going to be. And it’s still not perfect.. ,0 +10705,"For anyone who’s taken some time away from the mat…. I was dreading going to a yoga class after taking a break for a few weeks due to the holidays. I finally pushed myself to go to class last night and all I can say is wow. This is truly my favorite form of body movement, I could feel stress and tension from the past few weeks leaving my body and mind. I had built it up to be something I was dreading, and something that I had to do, but once we started our flow I realized this is something I am doing to honor myself and my body, this is not a punishment like I’ve viewed other forms of exercise in the past. For anyone with similar apprehension or dread, try to make some time to get back on your mat today even if it’s just for a few minutes of breathing. You deserve it.",0 +10706,"Thoughts on moaning/making noise during class? 😳. I was in a hot yoga class yesterday and two other students kept moaning. From my point of view, they sounded strained and distressed—but maybe from their point of view they were just releasing energy and expressing emotion as part of the yoga process? I believe that it’s rude to make noise that could distract other yogis from their practice. Also, if you’re so uncomfortable that you’re moaning, your body probably needs you to adjust your poses or attend normal-temp classes. Curious to hear other perspectives 🙂",0 +10707,had the opportunity to yoga with these insane natural sounds! needless to say the best practice i’ve had in ages!!!✨⛈💜⚡️. ,0 +10708,[COMP] First Full Try at Parivrttasana B (more info in comments). ,0 +10709,"Vice Has Done a Documentary on Yogi Bhajan and His Many Abuses. Vice has done the first of several documentaries that are in progress. + +I didn't find it to be fun nor easy watching. There are clues on lessons about what to look out for to prevent that happening again. + +The Vice video link can only be seen from the USA, or through a VPN to the US. + +https://video.vice.com/en_us/video/empire-of-yoga/62339b3f36e9dd07e52b53ac + +Or go to https://video.vice.com/en_us and find the Bhajan video. + +The next YouTube link was provided by someone for people outside the USA with no VPN. + +https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lq0YOIGSJ24 + +It may be important educational viewing for teen ladies to help keep them out of trouble, and for teen men so that they are perhaps more willing to listen to cries of abuse if anyone ever approaches them with such. + +That one fellow who doesn't believe the women is such a sad, sad human and needs more love in his life. + +I won't apologise for posting this difficult topic, but I do so with weighted heart. It's not a fun topic. + +Warm smiles all around in partial compensation.",0 +10710,[COMP] Hello for everyone! It is my todays morning yoga workout - 25 minute in 1 min 43 seconds. how long does your morning practice usually take?. ,0 +10711,Yoga and canna? Do you use it before or after or at all?. ,0 +10712,"Why I think there will never be a yoga community without showing off difficult poses. So, I had these thoughts surrounding achievements in yoga but also outside of it and I thought I'd share them here: + +I was just thinking about why yogis online tend to show these ultra-difficult poses and transitions in here as COMP or also yoga teachers and influencers on Instagram etc. Which leads to a very distorted and intimidating view of yoga although yoga should be about your own journey and your own journey only, without comparison. + +And I realized why that's the case (apart from them just looking cool and being fun to play around with). + +I think there are two types of achievements and we tend to show only one of them to others. That is the visual achievement where I can say ""look what I can do"" (or also general for every achievement in life ""look what I did""). It's an easy way for us to show our achievement and success and get positive feedback for it because there is a factual component to it that people around us are able to grasp. + +The other type of achievement is the inner achievement. Where we feel a difference in ourselves which is truly for us and for us only. They are often much more validating to us. In yoga they show as how we feel since we started our journey, how we feel during or after our practice but also how poses feel to us. + +An example would be a more solid Warrior 2 where I can feel how the correct alignment unlocks so many benefits that make the pose so much more enjoyable, how I feel more confident with the pose over time, being able to hold it for longer without getting shaky, how I smile a little when the pose comes up because I want to be in the pose etc. But also outside of yoga such achievements can be how we grow happier with our job, have more balance in life, find the joy in little things etc. + +But the downside to these sorts of achievements is that we can't simply say ""look how I feel"". It simply is harder for the people around us to undersaltand these achievements, they can only listen to what we describe and trust us. And likewise, for us these achievements come slower, they aren't that sort of ""I did this pose for the first time today"" so there's no initial joy in it, it only is through reflection that we notice for example ""I did this pose already 200 times and it never felt as good as it does now"". Which also leads to us keeping these achievements to ourselves and only notice them every now and then but there's no moment where we think ""look, look, I have to show you this!"". + +Of course that doesn't mean that the latter achievements are worth less, they are just less ""shareable"" with others but also online and there's less impulse to share them because they don't evoke such clear and sudden feelings in us. + +This basically made me realize how distorted the perception of achievements is, it really is like an iceberg. While we may have this achievement with that one pose we wanted to learn we have hundreds of other achievements in ouselves simultaneously that never come to the surface for others. + +But I don't think it's a bad thing. While yoga shouldn't be intimdating and comparison has no place in this beautiful practice, it's good to keep all those inner achievements to ourselves and only share them every now and then if we want to. Because these achievements are meant for ourselves and our own inner world. And in the meantime, there's no harm in being proud of that new pose you finally nailed. + +Thank you for reading. +Feel free to share your thoughts on this below, I'm curious to read yours too!",0 +10713,"Boycott Osho & Satyananda. Among many sexual predators in the yoga world, Satyananda the creator of Yoga Nidra and Osho are the two abusers that I want to highlight in this post. I am amazed that although there is a Netflix documentary on Osho’s crimes and deception, there are so many people on social media that promote his “sacred nuggets of wisdom.” These posts get hundred of likes and comments and I often think to myself that most of these people have no clue about the truth of this man. In my teens I was exposed to Osho’s books through a nice ex boyfriend that was into self improvement. I read all the Osho books he had in his library. Given my interests, I was pre-disposed to like his teachings and for awhile I was totally into it. By the time I had read the last book on my exes shelf, I thought to myself that maybe this guy was a sociopath. Much of his guidance encouraged the kind of detachment only a sociopath could have. If you haven’t watched the documentary Wild, Wild country check it out on Netflix. Moving onto Satyananda the creator of Yoga Nidra a popular meditation technique that can be found in many modern yoga studios around the world. All you need to know is that he was arguably one of the worst sexual abusers in the guru scene. Visit matthewremski.com to read the full article on the details of his crimes. He raped, drugged, and mutilated his victims. His trance technique is not original nor is there any proof of its ancient origins. I think that yoga studios should stop promoting this practice or call it something else. This man did not create hypnosis and he is not the first person to place someone into a meditative trance. There are plenty of other meditation techniques to choose and promote, so the next time you see another workshop in your local studio advertising yoga nidra, maybe reach out and explain your concern given the history. The next time a close friend posts an Osho quote below an instagram picture of them doing a yoga pose, maybe reach out and fill them in! Or not and mind your own business. 😀",0 +10714,Friendly reminder to make room for people. My social anxiety goes through the roof when I walk into a mostly full class and I have to squeeze in. Today there would have been ample room if the people to my right had shifted a couple inches each. But instead we almost hit each other any time the arms came out. No fun. Please make room for people.,0 +10715,[COMP] some morning stretches. upavistha konasana. ,0 +10716,"cannabis use and yoga. I have a few questions for those more experienced in yoga: + +Is there any relation between cannabis and yoga? Be it for spiritual, medical, or any other reason + +Is it wrong to consume cannabis and practice yoga? Are there dos and donts? + +Is this something that's frowned upon? Or is it tolerable as long as it's beneficial? + +If anyone could shed some light on this matter, I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks in advance",0 +10717,"[COMP] my sunset along with yoga, what time do you prefer to practice yoga?. ",0 +10718,"Can I still do yoga if I’m out of shape?. I’ve gained about 30lbs since the pandemic started and no longer feel like I’m in any kind of shape… I’ve lost much of my strength and endurance and just overall don’t feel healthy anymore. I have a lot of interest in taking a weekly beginner yoga class, but I’m really worried I’ll struggle or won’t be able to keep up… and if I can’t keep up with the class or perform the moves correctly will I even be getting anything out of it?",0 +10719,"Yoga instructor has the worst playlist, advice?. Over the last 6 months I’ve been going to a 6 am-7am hot yoga class. 2/3 of the mornings the class is offered, the same instructor teaches. She has the worst playlist, this morning was smashmouth, barenaked ladies, goo goo dolls. I know the studio I go to is very American whitewashed but for the price point and distance to my apartment it’s my best option. I could practice at home but I love being in the heated room. I don’t want to make it awkward and I’m also very non confrontational. How should I suggest something else?",0 +10720,[COMP] My (wobbly) supported headstand progress. First time ever transitioning to different leg positions and getting a better feel for movement in inversions 🤸🏻‍♂️. ,0 +10721,[COMP] Hollowback pincha progress. I was able to shift the gaze and hold it finally.. ,0 +10722,"Where would I begin if I'm chubby, older and hurting in my lower back?. Hello everyone. I am 30 years old and have been on a health journey in the last year I've quit drinking alcohol and for the last 2 and a half months I've been nicotine free. I now feel I'm ready to begin losing weight in a bid to help with my lower back pain that I experience. I am not flexible and I have been interested in starting yoga for about the last year. + +I just don't know where I would begin. I was hoping someone could recommend a YouTube series that might be catered for a guy like me starting off",0 +10723,"[COMP] CAKE DAY! I guess this is my Reddit “anniversary” (???) Sure there are some gatekeepers and haters and dumdums here, but overall a great community! Don’t forget to mix in some fun with your Yamas and Niyamas 😁🕉😁. ",0 +10724,can you use yoga to fight anxiety and depression?. ,0 +10725,"[COMP] After some advice I decided to try Scorpion pose a different way, balance is still an issue for me this is Day 2 of trying this pose.. ",0 +10726,(COMP) crane to tuck HS. ,0 +10727,"[COMP] as requested, a demo warmup routine (notes in the comments). ",0 +10728,[COMP] Tree position on the seaside.. ,0 +10729,Did a 20 minute yoga session followed with an 8 minute meditation. I’m grateful I got the opportunity to spend my energy this way today. I think this is only my 3rd or 4th time doing yoga but I wasn’t having too much trouble at all. I feel confident and happy.,0 +10730,[COMP] Handstand practice = effort + ease. It’s always a great challenge!. ,0 +10731,"Finally, I have reached the end of the beginning!. It's been slow but steady. I started doing a gentle morning yoga for beginners with Adriene (20 minutes). I did that almost every day then I switched to another 20 minute Adriene video about 3 weeks ago. This one has downward dog in it. Getting through that part was a struggle. And then it started to get a bit easier. And within the last week or 10 days, it was not enough. + +The first 4 months my progress was linear. Slow but steady and with many positive benefits. But in the past week, I've made a huge jump. I'm now averaging over 40 minutes a day and I feel like a reached a level where I can go to a yoga studio and not be sucking wind after 20 minutes of a beginner class. I'm also exploring new teachers and videos. (Kassandra rocks, she makes me sweat) + +And the difference a week has made in my posture. Now my posture has been getting better pretty steady, but this Sunday's drive to church was much different from last Sunday's. I got into the car and assumed my normal driving position. My body said ""Nah, we're not going to sit that way."" Confused, I just kind of grunted ""Hrrrh?"" The body said ""We would prefer if you sat straight up, shoulders back, grounding down through the elbows, making some space between the shoulders and the ears. Think head over the heart, heart over the pelvis."" I said ""Seriously?"". And the body ""Yeah, we like this better and you probably should adjust your mirrors."" + +So I adjusted my mirrors and drove to church. + +The End (of the beginning)",0 +10732,"Morning body is not like afternoon body. I’ve always practiced and taught in the afternoons, but I am on week two now of morning yoga and my morning body is stiffer and much less flexible. + +Morning yogis - does this go away or get better? Any tips to wake up less stiff and more ready to flow?",0 +10733,[COMP] First time getting into Shirshasana! Any feedback appreciated :). ,0 +10734,Have you ever cried while doing yoga?. ,0 +10735,"Thank you to all the yoga teachers!. Hey all, I am an older student new to yoga and have been trying out a bunch of teachers. Of course some classes are a better fit for me than others, but every single teacher has created a welcoming environment and taught me something valuable. I was intimidated at the start but the teachers have been so kind and skilled at giving cues and modifications. Many explicitly emphasize accessibility in their class descriptions, which was so reassuring at my age. + +I know teacher training is a big investment and I'm sure teaching yoga isn't an easy way to make a living, so I just want you to know your contributions are noticed and appreciated. You really are making lives better! Thank you!",0 +10736,Just started my yoga journey a couple of months ago and I can’t wait to dive into this book. I purchased it after seeing it mentioned multiple times on this thread ❤️. ,0 +10737,"Yoga when you're overweight. Has anyone had trouble with their practice being overweight? For ref I am 5'2, 170 lbs. When I attend classes I have a hard time keeping up with the flows because I can't get from position to position in one swift movement. (For example going from down dog to a warrior pose I can't step my foot up by hands). It almost feels like I my arms aren't long enough something but I also feel my stomach getting in the way. I'm working on losing weight and getting into healthier habits but for some hope, has anyone experienced this? does it get better?",0 +10738,[COMP] ☕️🧘‍♂️. ,0 +10739,[COMP] Still need to work on my line but I feel good about my bound headstand.. ,0 +10740,Upgraded my yoga mat. ,0 +10741,"This Overweight, Middle-Aged Man Wants To Tell You How To Elevate Your Practice.. Hey Yogaroo's! I just finished a good session and wanted to share with y'all something that brings a certain je ne se something to my yoga'izing. I'm sure I'm not alone in this. Sometimes it warms me up for yoga, sometimes it's part of my yoga, and sometimes it loosens me up after. Yes, yoggarooni's and yogette's, I'm talking about dancing. + +Usually I'll put on some random cheesy dance mix and my body starts moving around on it's own, sometimes in a rather avant-garde manner, I might add. To an outsider, the sight of an overweight, middle-aged man in his undies throwing himself around hap-hazardly might appear unsightly, and that person would be right. ✅ + +Smarter people than me can probably chime in and tell us about the wisdom of our bodies etc. But mine knows how it wants and needs to move if I just get out of the way and let it. I find dancing loosens the ole body-mind up in a way spiritually and physically that just yoga doesn't, likely because a fair amount of thinking is involved (for me, anyway) when you're new to it. + +Anyhoo, for anybody that wants to shake up their practice, like, shake up your bodies, right? Amirite? + +Other things that I find conducive to a good yog, are letting as much natural light into the room (and like, into your soul, man) as possible, and encourage your animals (and kids, aunts, uncles, elderly neighbours, the milk man, your car mechanic, your local government representatives, Joaquin Phoenix, a criminal or two, and a baker and maybe an astral physicist) to join in. + +Your brother in yoga-dance, + +The Falling Man + +Post Scriptum: Are you aware that more poor souls die from having coconuts 🥥 fall on their heads than from shark attacks every year? It's a fun and totally unverifiable fact. + +Edit: Why, yes, I AM single 😋 + +Final Edit: I've decided to yoga-dance across Canada, from coast to coast, to raise awareness of... well, yoga-dance. In my head it's gonna be like Forrest Gump with all the running and the runners. Going to watch Forrest Gump now, and do some couch-yoga.",0 +10742,"Theres this yoga ball thing at the gym I workout at and no one seems to know what it's for, so what is this thing for.. ",0 +10743,[COMP] sunrise pincha 🌅. ,0 +10744,What little thing does your yoga teacher do to make the class practice extra special?. ,0 +10745,[COMP] Thanks everyone for the tips on my headstand yesterday! Your tips helped make a huge improvement today!. ,0 +10746,What’s this pose called ?. ,0 +10747,Anyone out there want to start a 30 day challenge with me?. Looking for a pal to touch base with for motivation and accountability for a 30 day commitment. Any takers?,0 +10748,"[comp] adho mucka svanasana, Bakasana, Sirsasana. ",0 +10749,"Yoga teacher assumed I don't exercise. \*\* I am a qualified yoga teacher and teach my own classes, so I do know about how to take care of our bodies etc.\*\* +I don't know if I'm making a bigger deal about this than I should, but I can't stop thinking about the situation. + +At my yoga class I was attending as a student this week, we were doing some strengthening drills to prepare us for firefly. My wrists were feeling quite uncomfortable, so I decided not to push myself, and I then asked the teacher what she recommends if our wrists are sore, as I do a lot of wrist work to strengthen and stretch my wrists, so if mine are feeling it, then I'm for sure not the only one. Then she said that my wrists are sore because the only time I work my wrists is once a week in this class and that I should just keep doing the exercises and it will get better. + +I also want to say that I am slightly overweight. I am healthy and exercise a lot and I eat a healthy diet, it's just how my body is and I don't need to change that. I wonder if looking at me, she assumed I don't exercise. She also doesn't know I'm a yoga teacher, as I just come to the class to practice. + +Anyway, I'm just wondering what a fresh pair of eyes sees from this encounter, as I may well be overthinking it and being oversensitive. Although I do find it careless that she doesn't do wrist warm ups at the beginning of class, especially if she will teach something that could be a lot for the wrists.",0 +10750,"Story behind the asana: Goddess Pose (to slay your demons). **UTKATA KONASANA |** Goddess Pose + +While “utkata konasana” actually translates to “fierce angle pose” directly from the Sanskrit, we typically call it “goddess pose” or “goddess squat” in English, because of how closely it resembles depictions of the fierce goddess Kali. So today’s story is a bit of a continuation from [yesterday’s post](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/w9k9x1/another_story_behind_the_asana_the_warrior_poses/), in that it's all about the other forms of the divine feminine goddess, Sati/Shakti. + +​ + +[Utkata Konasana](https://preview.redd.it/phnj05l9fbe91.jpg?width=3840&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9e371848cc3b20bfb48e7fdd2208a4302b9f5a6e) + +When Sati reincarnated after her self-immolation, she was reborn as the goddess Parvati. Together, Shiva and Parvati represent the union of the divine masculine and the divine feminine energies that exist in us all. They have two children, Ganesha (the elephant-headed god--more on him another day), and Kartikeya (Skanda/Murugan). + +​ + +[Parvati with her family](https://preview.redd.it/3tfzs6gbfbe91.jpg?width=736&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=21cb47c7d57ccb9daeb33cd29fe54475a79be263) + +Her sweet, loving, mothering nature earned the beautiful Parvati a number of other names--including Jagadambe, the mother of the universe. But the sweet softness isn’t the whole story. + +When duty calls, Parvati transforms into her fierce warrioress forms. + +In one such story, a buffalo demon named Mahishasura was terrorizing the gods, after being granted a wish that he could never be killed by man nor god. + +Mahishasura had so doubted the powers of the feminine, that he hadn’t accounted for women and goddesses in his wish. As the increasingly desperate gods were clearly losing their battle with the demon, they called upon Parvati to help, gifting her with all of their best weapons. Through the strength of her love for others, Parvati transformed into the warrior goddess Durga, rode into battle on her lion, and defeated the demon. + +​ + +[Mahishasura is SHOOK](https://preview.redd.it/voy9kwvcfbe91.jpg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=67942fac82ac2f56ed89108ad9ea8ce69864c55a) + +Which brings us to the story of Kali, and of goddess pose. + +In this story, another demon, named Raktabija, decided to wage war with the gods. In commonly told versions of the story, Durga again went into battle to help, but when she sliced the demon in half, he multiplied and became two demons. In fact, whenever a single drop of Raktabija’s blood would hit the ground, new demons would spring from the spot. He was multiplying. Seeing this, Durga became enraged, and through her anger, she was transformed into an even fiercer form--the goddess Kali. + +​ + +[Ma Kali](https://preview.redd.it/h5cm6vpefbe91.png?width=683&format=png&auto=webp&s=282c5e050f555076fc6e9a1f6d57920546f76fd4) + +Kali is sometimes translated as the “dark one,” as she turned dark with the power of death. When you see images of Kali, her tongue is usually out--in some tellings of this story, she began catching the droplets of demon blood on her tongue so they would never hit the ground and have the chance to multiply. In doing so, she became bloodthirsty, and with her sword, she slaughtered every single demon, wearing their skulls around her neck like a garland. She became so crazed with bloodlust that she started killing any wrong-doer, demon or not, and was unable to stop. + +This is where her beloved Shiva stepped in. He knew that their love was more powerful even than the power of death. So Shiva went into the battlefield and laid himself at Kali’s feet. In her bloodlust, she stepped on his chest and raised her sword to kill him, but when she looked into his eyes, she recognized him as her husband, and transformed back into the sweet, loving form of Parvati. + +​ + +[Kali stepping on Shiva](https://preview.redd.it/wzdx5dsffbe91.jpg?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9361f8ebcf410c7dfdc62c1fcbd500cc20413b8d) + +When I hear these stories, I think of all the demons that we have to slay in our own lives. Though we do our best to be kind and caring to all like Parvati, there are moments that call for our strength and ferocity as well, to overcome that which is holding us back. It might be fear, anxiety, addiction, depression... When I think of how the buffalo demon doubted the power of the loving Parvati, I see a goddess who overcame what others thought of her in order to stand up in her full power. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/u2eko5phfbe91.jpg?width=600&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7af54b5df2b2ba5a57790e4e76530ba40b5bf91a + +These stories also bring to mind the intense powers that mothers often display when their children are in danger--like extreme strength to lift a car if their child is trapped beneath it. Where does that power come from? In the end, it's the power of love. I find these depictions of the goddess to show the full nature of femininity that lives in us all--from the loving wife and mother, to the fierce warrioress rising up to slay demons. + +The shape of utkata konasana is both powerful and feminine, reminiscent of how our ancestors gave birth, open hips and heart, unafraid. Similar to what I wrote about the warrior poses yesterday, Goddess un-does our self-protective, fearful patterns of posture. It allows us to face the world head-on, wide open, as powerful and courageous as Kali. + +​ + +[Goddess Pose with Kali Mudra](https://preview.redd.it/n5f4v6oifbe91.jpg?width=521&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=96a44738f8d8271c0fe293ffb054e03062a1971f) + +""Kali mudra"" is attained when we clasp our hands together with the pointer fingers extended, representing Kali’s demon-slaying sword. It adds some more of her power to utkata konasana, and allows us to physically embody the ability to overcome adversity (demons) in our own lives. + +In this pose, we take the shape of the mother of the universe, in all her ferocity and all of her tenderness. + +Some mantras to invoke Kali energy, for the moments when you need to be fierce: + +**Jai Mata Kali, Jai Mata Durgay** + +**Kali Durgay, Namoh Namah** + +**Jai Jagadambe, Jai Ma Durga** + +“Jai” means victory or “hail to” and is used in a lot of mantras--it’s a general word of admiration for someone. “Mata” means mother, and Namo Namah is a phrase of worship. And Jagadambe means “mother of the universe.” So the above mantra means: **Hail mother Kali, hail mother Durga, Kali Durga, I bow to you. Hail the mother of the universe, hail mother Durga”** + +Some powerful modern versions: + +[Kali Durga](https://open.spotify.com/track/7n4VUScNbXHMficw7hpiWG) \- Santocha + +[Ma Durga](https://open.spotify.com/track/5ZfY3BCHFvjQ9aCDpFUbI3) \- Krishna Das + +​ + +\-------- + +**Note:** Noting again that there are many variations of these stories, so please share any other versions you've learned! I've been studying the puranas with a Balinese Hindu priestess for the past six years, and together teaching yoga teachers how to incorporate story/philosophy/spirituality into their asana classes, so I've noticed how much variation there is regionally and from various sects. All fascinating. Earliest mentions of Kali were in the Atharva Veda (circa 1200 BC), but most stories arose from the Markandeya Purana and Linga Purana (250-500 CE), for those who are interested in the texts.",0 +10751,Yoga Funnies. ,0 +10752,[COMP] I can finally maintain the headstand pose for about 2 minutes without fidgeting too much.. ,0 +10753,"I'm not enjoying yoga practice but want the (mental) health benefits. Please help me understand the appeal.. Hi there, +I started doing yoga for the supposed mental health benefits as well as flexibility. I'm struggling with depression and my therapist, partner, friends, coworkers, pubmed etc. all recommend yoga. + +I have done the 30-day breath challenge with Adrienne about a year ago and tried to enjoy it but had a hard time. I have been struggling with depression again recently and wanted to give it a second try with Adrienne's ""home"" program. +I have practiced pretty much daily and while I have enjoyed some of the relaxation practices, I somehow still fail to find the appeal. Holding the poses is straining and uncomfortable. Not being able to get into the poses because of limited flexibility (especially hamstrings/post chain) is frustrating. + + Adrienne talks a lot about carving out time for yoga as something that is supposed to be rewarding and feel good. I try to be open and grateful and loving to myself. I try to be understanding when I have a hard time to be able to follow along. I'm trying to enjoy it. But I just don't. I have to force myself to start. It's something I'm dreading and I usually procrastinate a lot before I actually do it. I don't feel better after the practice. Many times I actually feel worse. I don't feel like I'm making progress. It feels like work. Something I have to do. Or worse, like punishment. It seems like there is something I'm not getting. + +I'm reading a lot of posts of people saying that yoga helped them feel better/they enjoy the practice etc. I'm considering quitting again because I see no benefit to myself from practicing. +I would be grateful for some input or suggestions on why I might not be able to enjoy yoga and what I can do to change that. + +Edit: Thank you all for your thoughtful suggestions. I'm gonna try to find an in person teacher and I'm gonna give the down dog app a try until then. + +Edit 2: To the people that suggest seeing a psychiatrist - thank you, that is a good suggestion. I'm already doing that and I'm on medication and in therapy. + +To the people that recommend psychoactive drugs - PLEASE DON'T SUGGEST GETTING HIGH OR DRUNK TO SOMEONE THAT IS DEPRESSED. A chemical intervention might not be a bad idea but in that case you should suggest a psychiatrist. Many drugs can worsen a depressed state or cause dependence. THC can even trigger psychosis. +If you are getting high before yoga and it works for you then that is great. But that should not be a suggestion for someone that talks about being depressed.",0 +10754,what's your favorite way to use a yoga wheel? [comp]. ,0 +10755,[COMP] wheel circles to press handstand to pincha. ,0 +10756,"I work a physically demanding job and my body feels stiff and disjointed most of the time, I know nothing about yoga but I feel like it could really help, where do I start?. ",0 +10757,my mini yoga library. ,0 +10758,"I've discovered Yoga Nidra and am in love. I remember a friend mentioning it a year ago as a relaxation technique but I never explored it, just recall her talking a little bit about it. + +""Randomly"" bought a book on Yoga Nidra while at the same time, learning about Huberman's NSDR (non-sleep deep rest) which is similar to Yoga Nidra but focuses **only** on relaxation and no other aspect of Yoga Nidra. Valuable to humankind, nevertheless... + +I've been listening to [Swami Satyananda Saraswati](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jPTRzOxmbZ8) daily for about a week now. I chose him because I've read many of his books, including his book Yoga Nidra - not because I have any knowledge *per se*. + +The potential to grow an awareness deeply into sensation - so deeply as to be able to influence my state - it's a very generous gift to give myself, hence the practice. + +Anyone else out here doing Yoga Nidra? + + + + +Edit: Many thanks to you for sharing your experience with and knowledge of Yoga Nidra! As the beginner I am, I'm reading each with keen interest Gratitude for your kindness!",0 +10759,"Does anybody have problems with hands sliding on the mat?. I don’t know if it’s just my problem, but my hands keep sliding on the mat while I’m doing yoga. It’s particularly annoying while doing the downward dog position, as I need to keep adjusting my hands. I guess the reason is sweat and not the mat being made of a wrong material. What could be done in my case? I tried using workout gloves, but they keep hurting me in between my fingers. I read that it’s the same with gloves made specifically for yoga. Any suggestions on resolving this problem?",0 +10760,"Downward Dog is NOT a Beginner Pose. I would really love to get into Yoga and practice it regularly, but every beginner video is always the same. It starts with a few simple poses that I find difficult but power through, and then about ten minutes in they break into Downward Dog and every pose from then on is a variation of Downward Dog. For the life of me I do not know how they expect a beginner to be able to jump into that pose on their first day. I do not have the flexibility in my back to make that pose, I do not have the strength or flexibility in my shoulders to do that pose, and I absolutely do not have the flexibility in my calves and hamstrings to do that pose. I can't do it at all. I'm just planking with my butt slightly in the air, and I can only hold it for 20 seconds. I don't think I've ever seen a beginner even come close to doing anything like it. + +So, two things: + +1) If you're an instructor, take Downward Dog out of your beginner classes, don't make it the foundational pose for every other pose, and slowly work up to it. + +2) What are some modifications I can do for when invariably the class starts doing Downward Dog which nobody in the class can do except the instructor? + +Signed, + +A frustrated beginner.",0 +10761,"Emotional Reactions to Yoga. So I'm brand new to yoga. As in, just started following YouTube tutorials in the last week. I did one earlier that focused a lot on hip openings and afterward, I noticed myself become more relaxed, which is of course normal. + +Then I felt a combination of euphoric and sad, but not in an overwhelming way—in an I-needed-to-let-that-out kind of way. There was almost an energy coming from that area, too, but do me a solid and please avoid any easy jokes on that. + +But yeah, this caught me off guard in a good way. If anything, I'm kind of looking to experience it again. Is this normal? Anyone else experienced it?",0 +10762,Are you comfortable attending in-person yoga with how things are with Covid right now. I know we all live in different places with different positive-Covid numbers. Just wanted to hear some responses,0 +10763,"As a mindfulness app freak I made this table a while ago. Most of them have videos on flexibility and yoga, thought you might find it useful. If you have any suggestions/fixes, let me know!. ",0 +10764,[COMP] I thought that this was called Figure Eight pose but doing a search for it yielded no results. Is there a particular name for this pose? It's very useful for trying to stretch out to achieve full Lotus.. ,0 +10765,"Anyone else struggle with not wanting to do yoga, even though they love it?. I’ve been doing yoga since April of this year. I started doing it once a week, eventually twice and then I upped my yoga classes to three times a week. + +The weather is changing where I live, and it’s starting to get colder. I go to a studio to practice, as I find it motivates me more to do it, & I love the heat of the room. I also love morning practices, as it sets the tone for my day. But now that it’s colder outside, I never want to get out of bed to go. Has anyone else gone through this? Or am I just having a mental block? + +I know when it warms up again I’ll continue to go as much as i used to, but I love yoga so much and I want to further my practice. I can’t explain why I don’t want to go other than it’s hard to get out of bed when it’s cold! I’m just frustrated and wanted to see if anyone else relates.",0 +10766,"[COMP] Urdhva Dhanurasana - Finally able to walk in a bit. Yeah, I'm wearing socks 😝 and yes kitty watches in background lol",0 +10767,"My First Ever Aerial Yoga Class.... First off, I'm obese. This is important. + +It was shockingly difficult and the main aerial pose/flow/work of the day was something I could only get the first stage of done, twice the second with a bit of help. Or a lot. + +It was incredibly frustrating, left me out of breath. sweaty, kinda embarrassed for not being able to do something everyone else could manage to do by the end of the class with a bit of help. I have no grip strength, janky hip mobility insofar as getting my leg up and *over* and around whilst simultaneously pulling and *turning* my body 180\*, nowhere near enough upper body strength and core strength to do the flow/pose and my fat legs gave me discomfort from the silk hammock. + +And yes, this was a beginner's class, so I guess I'm pre-beginner. I also had the additional struggle of going to a class in a language I *am* a pre-A1 leve at. + +I'm going again next week. It was great doing the stretches and static poses and such. It was just the flow that killed me and showed me I have a lot to learn. I also suspect that even doing it once a week will help improve my grip and upper body/shoulder strength immensely. + +Now if you don't mind, I'm off to do yoga to help me cool down from my yoga. + +Also any tips to help me improve my aerial yoga issues: grip strength, upper body strength, weird hip mobility.",0 +10768,"How Important Are Body Proportions in Yoga? (Yoga International article). I did a search and did not find this article, so forgive me if this link is a repost. + +This is an article by Jenni Rawlings for Yoga International. Frankly, I think it should be required reading for any yoga instructor, as well as any yoga practitioner (especially those who give advice to others about their form). Imagine how much frustration is caused by having people glibly tell you that all you need to do is this or that to achieve a certain posture or depth, when those people don't have sufficient understanding of how much variation there is in human anatomy, or how that variation (e.g. relative length of arms, torso, and legs) directly affects how a given body can approach a given posture. No amount of stretching is going to change the length of your leg bones compared to the length of your arm bones. + +**Too many teachers see their bodies as the default and only offer cues that are meaningful to bodies with proportions like their own.** Of course people start from their own personal experience in their own bodies, but *that's where training should come in* to expand their awareness of what each posture is like in *other* bodies. I sincerely hope that yoga teacher training programs will do a better job of incorporating this topic into the curriculum so that more teachers will have the basic awareness and the compassion to be more inclusive in the way they teach so that they and their students can use this knowledge to inform their expectations of what to push and what to modify. Skipping this can leave students confused, discouraged, and unfairly feeling like they are at fault for not trying hard enough. + +Excerpt: + +>Perhaps you can think of a certain difficult yoga pose that you’ve been working on for a long time, but, despite your efforts, at some point it just seemed like you stopped making progress. You've sought advice from your teachers and asked your yoga friends for their insightful tips, but this specific asana still appears to be eluding you. +> +>There is another often-overlooked influence on practice that is decidedly beyond our ability to change: the issue of individual body proportions. +> +>This can be a perplexing experience because we are often taught that any yoga pose is possible to “achieve” if we simply practice long enough and with the right level of dedication. And certainly if we are diligent practitioners we can work to cultivate more strength, flexibility, and coordination in our poses. But there is another often-overlooked influence on practice that is decidedly beyond our ability to change: the issue of individual body proportions. +> +>The truth is that in many instances, a practitioner's specific body proportions will prevent her from achieving the final aesthetic of certain difficult poses (or will at least make getting there more challenging). On the other hand, those same body proportions will give her a distinct structural advantage when it comes to performing other asanas. Ultimately, the fact that our innate body shapes play such a strong part in determining the accessibility and form of any given pose serves as a pretty good reminder that placing high value on the aesthetics of our asanas is an ultimately unhelpful approach. +> +>Let’s explore this issue by highlighting just a few of the many difficult yoga poses in which body proportions play a surprisingly influential role. + +Full article here: + +[https://yogainternational.com/article/view/how-important-are-body-proportions-in-yoga](https://yogainternational.com/article/view/how-important-are-body-proportions-in-yoga)",0 +10769,[COMP] First visvamitrasana. ,0 +10770,[COMP] 1st handstand on SUP! bonus forearm and wild thing. ,0 +10771,"My yoga studio is closing and I'm heartbroken. I started yoga back in September when I was in a really dark place, feeling so lonely and isolated that I was starting to feel suicidal, having PTSD symptoms and panic attacks daily. Over the last 6 months I have found this beautiful community at my local yoga studio 💜 It has become a safe space, and for the first time in years I've felt like I belong. Signing up for that first class and making myself go has been the best thing I ever did for myself. + +Today one of the instructors let us know that the owner is closing the studio. She said she's sorting out how to offer local classes elsewhere. But I feel so heartbroken, because this community really means something to me. The space means something to me. I hope our tight knit community can continue to flourish, but I'm going to miss the comfort and grounding routine of having this studio to go home to. I hate change. + +Edit: +Hey everyone, Just wanted to offer an update. +I've felt so upset about this over the last few days, on the verge of tears :( But I went back to yoga today, to one of my favorite teacher's classes, with all my favorite people, including my other favorite teacher. It felt bittersweet, but healing and calming to be there. After class I asked the instructors about their plans to continue teaching. They have a plan in place to continue offering a space for our little yoga community. One of them said when she thinks of yoga, I'm one of the main people she thinks of, and of course they will keep our little community going. Considering 6 months ago I felt invisible and alone, that simple sentence means the world to me. We chatted about our love for our little yoga community, and I left feeling so much better <3",0 +10772,"Just got started but…. Where has this shit been all my life? I’m sweating and I’m feeling divine each time. I finally feel at peace with the world and really want to dive in deeper. Folks, you don’t exercise to look good, you do it to feel good. Thank you for changing my life in only a day!",0 +10773,"[COMP] Traditional Yoga, Sometimes a teacher, always a practitioner.. ",0 +10774,"I don’t instinctively know my left from right and it’s affecting my practice. This is a very minor and silly problem, but I don’t instinctively know my left from right. That might seem crazy to some but it someone says to me ‘turn left’ I have to take a second or two to think where left is (often doing the L shape with my fingers). + +The problem is in fast paced classes where my teacher is instructing us to e.g. put our left ankle over our right thigh and then twist right and raise the left arm etc - I end up getting really confused and having to look around the room to see what others are doing, which slows me down and breaks my flow. + +Does anyone else have this problem? Anyway to remedy it? + +Thanks!",0 +10775,"Fake it till you make it. I love laughter yoga! Heard of it? The body doesn’t know the difference between fake and real laughter. Laughter yoga was created by physician Madan Kataria. It helps to create serotonin in the body, this raising energy and promoting healing. Try laughing for 30 seconds.. ",0 +10776,Any advice on how I can fix my posture?. ,0 +10777,"[COMP] yoga has been teaching me patience, but not for the reason you would think.. ",0 +10778,"Unexpected Benefits. Just curious what some of the unexpected benefits of beginning your practice have been? Yes, I have gained improved flexibility and mental clarity, but at almost 40 I can now twerk (to the dismay of my children and the delight of my husband) after believing my body just “didn’t move that way”. + +PS. I’m not actively twerking my way through life now, just the occasional dance party when the right song comes on while cleaning my house.",0 +10779,"Am I too fat to do yoga?. I'm a 5'5 , and about 180 lb female. I've struggled with weight and body image issues for many years, and have arrived at a place where I no longer actively hate myself. I'm not really looking for weight loss tips. + +My problem is that I love doing yoga, and I go through phases of doing it consistently—but I can't tell if my actual physique is the problem when I can't seem to get into the proper poses. For example, moving from downward dog into a lunge is difficult for me, because my knee is always barricaded by my breasts before it can move in position next to my hand. OG child's pose is also difficult, because I feel as if I can't get my neck to fully relax while my belly and breasts are being suffocatingly squished into my thighs. There's a ton of other poses I feel like I can't fully get into because of the sheer amount of flesh that's in my way. + +Has anyone else experienced this problem? Am I simply not flexible enough yet, or should I consider trying to lose weight to gain the full benefits of yoga? + +Edit: Thank you to everyone replying with specific advice, specially about the specific poses I mentioned that I have trouble with. A very kindly un-thank you to everyone just replying “No, duh.” without reading the post.",0 +10780,First time male worried about the opinions of women in class.. First time posting here but I really want to practice yoga. I work out a lot and I’m wanting to practice to relieve some joint and muscle pain.I genuinely want to only practice for these reasons but I’m worried about getting bad vibes because of the stereotype of first time men in the class.,0 +10781,Visiting the parents. My childhood bedroom is quite small and I didn’t bring my mat so this make shift bed sheet will have to do.. ,0 +10782,[COMP] Practicing Jal Neti (one of the six purifying practices in Yoga also known as Shatkarma). Great way to cleanse the nasal passages. Generally practiced before meditation and pranayama.. ,0 +10783,"(COMP) I’ve been working on pigeon for a while and I still can’t quite get it. I can see my positioning is off, but can’t quite figure out what to fix. Any suggestions?. ",0 +10784,"Yoga work exchange program seems like a rip off?. I just wanted to post here to get people’s thoughts on this. My yoga studio offers a work exchange program where you volunteer at the studio (checking people in, doing laundry, cleaning, etc.) in exchange for a free monthly membership. The posting says you have to commit to volunteering 4 hours once a week and in exchange you get free monthly membership (which is worth $165). I love the yoga studio I go to and was considering volunteering until I did the math. Even if you factor out 1 hour of each shift since you can join the class during your shift, it works out to the equivalent of $13.75 per hour toward the membership. The minimum wage where I live is $15/hr. Why do yoga studios do this? I understand that yoga is also about fostering community, learning from each other, and so on, but at the end of the day the yoga studio is a business which collects money in exchange for a service. The yoga studio I go to is very popular with about 5 classes offered each day, and they host expensive retreats, so it just seems that they’re trying to save on hiring actual employees and compensating them properly. Is my opinion on this incorrect?",0 +10785,[COMP] Finally getting back into headstands after almost a year and giving birth two months ago.. ,0 +10786,"Ever fallen asleep in a class?. I passed out during a yoga (yin) session. First time ever doing so. I woke up in the last 17 minutes and the teacher spoke to me after, stating she was actually honored that it happened. I was surprised I did with a mask on the entire time. + +Apparently I didn't snore at all.",0 +10787,"What have been game changers in your practice?. Maybe it's a certain type of yoga, a routine, or a specific stretch? + +For me, I realized that smoking a bit then doing yoga with over the ear headphones on and playing gentle piano music, takes me to another yogic planet :D",0 +10788,Hello I’m getting into yoga for the first time. I’m a male and I’m 34 years old I was hoping someone could tell me what I should wear to my yoga class I’m obviously a beginner so any hints tips etc would be very appreciated. ,0 +10789,"I (24M) have incredibly tight hips and shoulders. Simple “poses” like literally sitting upright with legs crossed is really uncomfortable. I can barely send my hands behind me. Any tips?. I used to be a football player in college, and did yoga as part of my recovery plan. I was actually fairly dedicated (~3x a week for 2 years). Since graduating college, I got a corporate gig that requires I sit at a computer 8+ hours a day. I regrettably stopped taking care of my body when I started my job and gained a lot of weight and built up a lot of tension in the process, but I’m determined to fix it. + +However, even when I was more diligent with my practice, it seemed like my shoulder and hip flexibility could only improve so much. Those joints are now tighter than they’ve ever been. I struggle to do really basic poses. Are there any specific moves or advice y’all recommend for seemingly unbudge-able shoulder and hip flexibility? Or do I just need more dedication and patience? + +I would really appreciate any feedback and happy to elaborate if need be. Thank you in advance",0 +10790,Is my mat too thick for yoga? (10 mm) It sometimes hurts my wrists in down dog position.. ,0 +10791,What is your favorite yoga pose?. Mine is extended child's pose. I will often find myself going into the pose if I am on the floor doing something else. It opens my hips and shoulders - two tight areas - and having my chest touching the ground is very calming and reduces anxiety. I love it!,0 +10792,when I try to stright my legs on a mat I cant stay straight but my back is curved. What excercises should I do?. ,0 +10793,how can I practice yoga when my head is FULL of thoughts?. ,0 +10794,"I cried my eyes out. I have been practising yoga for about 4 years now and never have I felt what I felt today, I balled my eyes out I just said let go and the flood gates just opened, it was just such a powerful moment. + +Letting go of all the emotions I have stored for what felt like months, the guilt, disappointment all sorts. I just felt like a weight has been lifted from me and I know I shouldn’t be so hard on myself. + +Yoga is so powerful and is so connected to the mind, body and soul 🙏 + +Anyways just wanted to share that before I go to sleep! Night!",0 +10795,"Little victories. 28 years old and I’ve been severely over weight my whole life . Couple weeks ago I just got fed up and decided to make a change. Got a gym membership that included yoga classes and I figured why not . + +At 28 years old I can now fold and touch my toes for the first time in my life . + +May not seem like much to some but I’ve been doing it all day just to make myself smile. + +The amount of positivity I’ve gained even just from a couple weeks of yoga is truly extraordinary. Can’t wait to keep diving deeper.",0 +10796,"What pose do you enjoy now that you didn’t like when you started your practice?. I’ll start! I hated pigeon when I first started my practice – I couldn’t get comfortable or feel centered, couldn’t wait to move on to literally any other pose. Now, when I move into pigeon in my practice, I feel like I’m giving my body something it really needs. It took a while to realize that I didn’t need to force it in this (or any) pose. That really helped me enjoy my practice overall more. Have you had a similar experience? What did you learn from it that might help others too?",0 +10797,"Fainted during yoga class today and was reminded that it doesn’t matter what other yogis think about you.. I’ve been doing yoga consistently (3-4 days/week) for a month and always make sure to be well-fed and well-hydrated before class. Today, however, I went into my mountain pose back bend, took a deep breath, and next thing I know—my nose hit the floor and I felt like I had just woken up from a nap. Apparently I was wobbling for a little bit before I fell but I don’t remember any of that. It was very disorienting and confusing bc I didn’t feel dizzy or lightheaded at all. + +After taking a few minutes to rest, I slowly eased back into the class, but I felt jealous that the other yogis could show off their skills and I couldn’t, bc I didn’t want to faint again. I was also worried they would think I didn’t adequately prepare for class or that I was a newbie. I sensed this jealousy and remembered that yoga is about individual practice. It’s about showing up, not showing off. It’s about knowing we are all beginners and should not judge others. Today, although I wouldn’t be doing my inversions and balances for the sake of protecting myself from future falls, I could still make it a meaningful class. I focused on my breath and on gentle stretches. I enjoyed a longer savasana that usual. Although it was frightening to faint with no warnings, it was a humbling experience. We are all on our own yoga journey, and it doesn’t matter where anyone else is on theirs. + +(I talked to the instructor afterwards to get tips to prevent fainting again and will definitely use those moving forward 👍🏼)",0 +10798,"What is the correct way to do downward dog?. I've been practicing yoga for a few months now, and I noticed that whenever the teachers do the downward dog, their whole feet lay flat on the ground. However, I can't do it. I always need to tip toe. How do I get to lay my feet flat on the floor too?",0 +10799,What are the phisical changes you observe in your body after some time doing the practice?. ,0 +10800,"I really like downdog app. So the down dog algorithm really pleasantly surprised me today! I did a 40 min excercise for the first time (i did only 20-30 min so far) and it was sooo nice and ended with what they called a progressive relaxation which i usualy do on my own during savasana but with guidance it was even better. What a nice surprise! + +But it made me think about how some people said that the app gets repetitive after you use it. Well i’d definitely recommend you play around with the settings because for example the duration of the excercise apparently plays a huge role in the variety you get. + +I feel like after 3 months of using the app i still have so much more to discover and try with the different styles they offer and so far it’s much better for me than yt videos even though i sometimes miss chatty Adrienne :)",0 +10801,"Can you make a realistic income being a yoga instructor?. I have made yoga a huge part of my life lately, and have entertained the idea of obtaining my 200 hour YTT. + +I am 29 years old, and currently work as a firefighter for the US Forest Service on a helicopter crew. I make roughly $50k-$65k/year. That comes with over a thousand hours of overtime so I really don’t have a life for the majority of the year. + +I want a change. I want to enjoy my life and not slave away my freedom. I am more passionate about yoga than anything else in my life, I know yoga teacher training is calling my name and I can’t avoid it. + +1. Can you make a realistic living being a yoga instructor? + +2. How much would you expect to make if you were teaching 5 days/week? + +3. Could I teach yoga in another county such as Bali? (I’ve been to Bali several times and want to eventually live there). + +I have a vision of becoming a Yoga instructor and opening up my own studio. How a table is this? + +I would LOVE to hear from anybody that is a teacher/instructor or owns their own studio.",0 +10802,"One full week. I know this isn't much, but today I finished day 7 (in succession) of a ""30 day challenge."" I've been attempting for a year to get into yoga by doing these ""30 days"" but I was never able to get past the first two days. Then this past Monday I woke up with a new spark that I wasn't anticipating. At 6:45/7 every morning this week I have done a session, with the exception of today. + + +Today I woke up with a slight hangover and just wasn't feeling the 30 min session that the Day 7 video had me doing (considering yesterdays was only a 19 min session.) So I waved it off already trying to justify in my head that ""it's Sunday and I can take a day off."" Fast-forward through a morning hangover, a couple hours at a coffee shop, chores, errands, and a house project... I found myself still feeling guilty about skipping the session. So when the house settled down about 8pm I found myself in my living room, rolling out my mat and clicking play on Day 7. After it was said and done I just laid there with a smile because I was actually proud of myself, something I don't often feel towards myself. + + +So anyways, I guess I just wanted someone know about my personal accomplishment because I don't have very many people to talk to about this. So here's to 7 days down and a lifetime to go, because I have a feeling that yoga won't be going anywhere from my normal routine.",0 +10803,"[COMP] sun salutes, inversions, hip opening & back bending. ",0 +10804,Please help - seated forward fold. ,0 +10805,[COMP] Every moment is a fresh beginning. — T.S. Eliot. ,0 +10806,Ma!. ,0 +10807,"Sad but funny yoga realities after kids. 4:50am, following a youtube video in my living room + +Video instructor: Thank you for showing up today...let’s find our breath...check in with our thoughts...sometimes just being present is the hardest.... + +Me: ok lady! Let’s get a move on. I had to wake up at 4:50am just to get maybe 20 minutes of me time before kids wake up. I can already hear them stirring. I don’t have time to be present. + +I had to laugh at the absurdity of it",0 +10808,"[COMP] Growth doesn't always mean taking the next step or being more and more of something. Sometimes it means to hold, endure, and eliminate what is not needed.. ",0 +10809,What do you do when…. Your class is called “power yoga” and the majority of the people that show up are not able to keep up with the class but there’s one person who shows up and wants an intense workout. Do you just give a power yoga class despite the others struggling? Try to give options? Lower the level a little?,0 +10810,[COMP] a few weeks ago i decided to try kakasana & practice everyday! quite happy with my progress thus far 🌱. ,0 +10811,"Boobs getting in the way of yoga- need advice. My boobs spill out when I’m doing yoga especially in folds and stuff. It’s worse when I’m wearing the type of bra they market as a yoga bra but even when I’m wearing my heavy duty running bras my boobs spill out. +In a hands stand my boobs are like on my chin lolll that’s an exaggeration but they spill out of my top. + +Any advice for bras or tops that will keep these things in here even when I’m upside down? It’s very embarrassing and annoying. + + +Also I know that weight loss makes boobs smaller. However I’m at a normal weight so I don’t have much to lose before I’m considered underweight. So that doesn’t seem worth it.",0 +10812,"Doing yoga for 1 year after spinal surgery, did my very first flying frog!. Cant do a lot of balancing and advanced moves yet, so this is a big deal!",0 +10813,What is the best lesson yoga taught you?. ,0 +10814,"First proper Chaturanga. I truly can‘t believe it! I‘m on day 80-something of my consistent yoga journey (been practicing on/off since 5 years) and for some reason I‘ve never been able to hold a Chaturanga Dandasana. The problem was the „Push Up Hold“, right before you stretch your arms out. My arms were simply too weak, or at least I thought so! +And just now the magic suddenly happened during my practice: I could hold it so well and with ease! Such a crazy feeling to be able to do it from one moment to the other. The arm strength practices really do pay off - sooner or later. +I‘m truly euphoric! Finally being able to do Chaturanga properly and not just lowering to the ground is such a big step for me. + +*Edit: Spelling",0 +10815,"Anyone else prefer Studio to At Home Practice?. I'm motivated to practice and Practiced at home all summer but now that I've joined a home studio and been visting others. I don't have the desire to practice at home. + +Anyone else feel this way? + +I just feel like I'm not as dedicated as I think I am 😑",0 +10816,[COMP] idk second pose name but transition was fun. ,0 +10817,Does yoga really help with anxiety/panic attacks?. I know generally the answer is yes but I would like to hear from people whom have suffered from severe anxiety and found Yoga as a solution. I have PTSD from my time in the military and have debilitating anxiety and panic attacks almost daily from it. Meds and treatment from the VA have proven to be largely ineffective in combating my mental health issues and I am now exploring any other means to help said issues. I am looking for any kind of solutions desperately and wanted to please hear how yoga did and did not meet your expectations in regards to anxiety. It would help me so much and thank you in advance if you respond. Have a great day.,0 +10818,People do Yoga for different reasons (and not necessarily only one reason) and I'm curious what yours are?. ,0 +10819,"Can yoga help me with grief?. There's an online way of learning yoga? I live in Brazil in a place where there's no yoga schools. My father died in front of me 7 days ago, I'm feeling disconnected and distant from everything, anxiety so bad that I throw up everyday... I'm into lifting weights for a year now, I can do strength poses, I really wanna be good and learn something new and helpful... where can I truly learn it online?",0 +10820,Advice on getting my lower legs to be straighter aligned with my upper legs/ thighs. Obviously very tight. What moves will best help me?. ,0 +10821,[COMP] I'm feeling confident with my headstands but the transition to forearm is tough! Any tips? Lifting my head was a new milestone. ,0 +10822,I am 20 years old and deal with back pain every day. I believe it is because of the way my lower back bends as you can see in the pictures. Can anyone give me some tips on how to relieve the pain and correct my posture through yoga and other methods?. ,0 +10823,"Is teaching yoga for 7 hours a day too much?. I work full time as a dental hygienist but also teach yoga one to two classes ONE day per week after my day job. I teach at an all inclusive luxury resort. They are changing the schedule so that we must commit to a 7 hour shift… Teaching 4-5 classes per shift and leaving 2-3 hours for privates or group privates. I’m wondering if this is WAY too much to teach?? I am able to also teach meditation classes instead of yoga but I feel like I will become so burnt out. I make $45 an hour teaching yoga. and $40 an hour as a hygienist. If I quit my day job I’d make more teaching yoga but cannot imagine teaching 7 hours a day 5 days a week. I am struggling to figure out a day I can even commit to a 7 hour yoga shift. + +Thoughts?? + +Not sure what to do. + +https://ibb.co/qMSHB63",0 +10824,"First class tomorrow. I'm starting my first class tomorrow. its for beginners but I'm a little nervous because I have poor flexibility. I got a mat. is there anything else I should know/bring? +I'm planning on 2 sessions a week. maybe do one at home also + +Edit: just finished the class and I really enjoyed it. thanks to all for the great advice and encouragement. I have another class Friday.",0 +10825,"How painful is yoga supposed to be?. 40 y/o male, practicing yoga in a studio (black swan yoga) for 4 years now. Every practice is either somewhat or extremely painful. Its usually not lingering pain, and doesn't follow after practice, but I don't really notice anyone else in the studio having the same problems as I do. I've done a lot of different exercise workouts in the past, weightlifting, running, Crossfit, and I was in the military, so I'm used to pushing through the pain when it comes to difficult workouts. But yoga seems to be very different from the other stuff, and my pain/discomfort level in the studio doesn't seem to be getting better with better conditioning. Any insights into this would be very helpful.",0 +10826,[COMP] how do I stop rounding my back when trying headstand. ,0 +10827,"Really sweaty dude in hot yoga. The sweaty dude is me. I’ve been doing yoga at home for several years, and now with the pandemic waning have recently started going to a hot yoga studio within walking distance to my house. I don’t LOVE it, but it’s a nice change up to my normal routine. + +I am the only guy, and I get really sweaty. I understand it’s hot yoga and sweat is going to happen. But I am dripping all over and by the end there are little pools around my mat. It seems like all the other people (30-50 year old women) have got it way under control while I’m a sweaty mess. I’m fit and not working too hard, I just sweat a lot I guess. + +I feel self conscious about this and like I am a gross annoyance to the class. If you are grossed out by sweaty guys in your class please let me know, I’d honestly rather not go if I am bothering the studio or other people in the class.",0 +10828,[COMP] First time recording myself. How’s my chaturanga?. ,0 +10829,I can’t be the only one that uses an extra yoga block as my laptop stand 😏. ,0 +10830,Anyone use yoga as their only fitness? How’s it going?. ,0 +10831,[COMP] three legged dog. ,0 +10832,"True Story. I was up late one night recently and decided to meditate, so I went to what I call my magic carpet and began my flight. After a while I was surprised to find that I had a passenger, which was a small toad that must have come in through the front door while I was outside, and hopped up right in front of me as I sat in meditation. I was surprised by the unexpected visit, but what surprised me even more was that the toad remained perfectly calm and still while I covered it with a rag, picked it up, and took it back outside. And as I walked back inside, all I could think was I'll bet that blew his mind. If I could meme, that toad would be sitting on a mushroom telling his buddies, I've been with gods and lived.",0 +10833,[COMP] inversions are my favorite. Photographed by Wanda Photography. ,0 +10834,What was the biggest change since you started doing yoga?. physically but also psychologically/mentally,0 +10835,Does anyone know of any yoga poses/practices that can help get knots out of your back?. ,0 +10836,[COMP] funky side crow something. ,0 +10837,"Anyone else when they start ""Oh, this is going to be a long session""?. I sometimes feel resistance in going to the yoga class, but at the end I'm like ""I'm glad I went to Yoga class"" + +I'm a noob in this and I suck at many postures. 29 Male here.",0 +10838,"Started yin yoga last week, all I can say is wow! I think I might be addicted. I made a post on here last week asking for recommendations on where to start, right now I’m watching YouTube vids and I downloaded the down dog app, I would love to go to a studio but can’t afford it right now, thanks to everyone who recommended it!!",0 +10839,How do you build your own yoga flow?. I don't always want to follow a video. What's the method for doing your own yoga flow?,0 +10840,[COMP] Yoga adds years to your life and life to your years.. ,0 +10841,"Hello r/yoga, i’m looking for some guidance. I’m specifically looking for Black Male Yogis or Yoga instructors that offer classes/videos online. And i’d like to know your thoughts, suggestions as to where I may find one. If you have any leads it’s be great. Thanks.. I’m a former football player and wrestler and after years of injuries and poor athletic training I have decided I need to make yoga a regular part of my life. + As an entry point into the practice of yoga, I would feel more comfortable learning from a Black male. Anyhow, thanks for considering my question.",0 +10842,"How do you handle… the Paradox of Yoga?. Here’s what I mean: + +You approach yoga with devotion, and a primary goal is to reduce the compulsive ego chatter and hair-trigger emotional responses. + +Then, you make progress. Your body is calmer, your breath more even. You feel so good! + +And the old ego kicks up with, “How awesome am I! What’s the next thing to impress people!” and all that stuff. + +There’s the paradox! The better you get at yoga, the more you backslide into ego land! + +What are your thoughts? Insights?",0 +10843,"How did you make it a morning habit?. Into Yoga for almost 3 years now. +My Yoga schedule is pretty random depending on how the day evolves. I almost always do Yoga once per day and it's almost always a 30 minute session. Exceptions occur, of course. + +I have tried to move it all in the morning, begining of the day, however i just can't keep it up. + +Some mornings i'm way too sleepy. + +Most mornings i have to leave for job commutting at around 08:30 AM. So for Yoga to happen I'd have to start at least at 07:30. If I wake at 07:30 it's impossible to start Yoga straight away. I need at least 30m to properly wake up. If the alarm starts at 07:00 i usually snooze it and just doze off untill it gets too late. + +2 kindergarden kids that also require some attention to prepare, wash teeth, faces, dress-up, etc. I split the mornings with my wife from this perspective. + +Was wondering if you made it into a morning habit, how did you do it? Any tips are welcome",0 +10844,"Feel like Ashtanga is sometimes viewed as ""better"" than slower paced Hatha in Yoga Communities. I am new asana teacher who chose a breath based Hatha teacher training for my first 200hr that is taught by teachers from the Sivananda/Krishnamacharya lineage. + +I guess my idea for conversation is centered around this: I often feel on social media and in conversation that Ashtanga is viewed as superior, better, or more traditional than this style of Hatha. + +To me, I really like the slower paced Hatha because I find it to be more meditative. But, I also really value tradition and legitimacy when it comes to yoga (as my background training before is in Kriya Yoga). + +So I guess I wanted to just open a conversation up around this topic... + +-What are your thoughts on one style being more superior or ""traditional"" within Yoga communities? + +-Besides the Hatha Yoga Pradipika etc. what are the most traditional sources for breath based, slower, Hatha style asana? What are some of the most revered Hatha style teachers? + +Namaste!!",0 +10845,"I’m slowly starting to be able to listen to my body and what it needs but I have a question for the ladies. I’ve been practising yoga 4-5 times a week for about a month now and not only have I noticed an increase in strength and flexibility but also my emotions, feelings and most recently how my body and self becomes when coming up to my period. + +About 7-10 days before my period is due I am tired, fatigued, irritable and quick tempered and even more so now with recognising this early with practising yoga frequently. + +My question for the ladies though is; do you change your practise coming up to your period? I’m trying to stay consistent but the fatigue is really getting to me so my practises have been a lot shorter and less frequent…",0 +10846,Back on my mat!. I got back on my mat today for the first time in about 7-8 weeks after a hiatus to have a baby. Boy have I missed this and didn’t realize just how much until I finished my first short session back. Feeling great and wanted to share in case anyone else on here hasn’t been on their mat for a bit and needs a sign that todays a great day for it!,0 +10847,"Are there any plus size people who are able to do arm balances and handstands?. So I'm fat and still a beginner in yoga. I've seen people do these handstands and arm balances and all of them are thin or fit, or basically, not fat. I'm curious and hoping to see if there are plus size peeps who are able to do these poses. + +EDIT: Really shocked at all the comments lol but thanks y'all so much for replying to my post. It's just gonna be tedious for me to comment to all of your comments, but again, thanks for the replies!",0 +10848,"How to Train Your BRAIN?. Today I asked this question to my yoga instructor. **How to train your brain?** He said, Every morning, invest 20 minutes in doing **Swadhyay** ( self-analysis ) of the day before. Try to remember everything in detail about your previous day: what you ate, wore, what you watched on social sites, your daily activities etc. This way, your brain improves its memory and learns to be more vigilant, alert, and focused. If you don't remember something , then you don't need to worry. Keep practicing on a daily basis and try to fill in all the missing details at bedtime. + +I want to know your opinion about his statement.",0 +10849,"Happy Sunday, fellow yogis 🤍🌿. ",0 +10850,[COMP] A yoga series I created! <3. ,0 +10851,[COMP] Sirsasana by the Ganga river in Rishikesh. ,0 +10852,It’s finally here! Any tips for cleaning? It came really dirty. ,0 +10853,"I just want to say you are all awesome!. I am 6 months in to yoga, this has been the only place online that I have found openness, peace, and valuable advice! + +I have issues with reddit in general, some really low energy stuff, anger and competition and same mindedness. Except for this sub. You are all, in your various states of being, a home from home. I just wanted to say thank you for all of the help and ideas you have given me over this time, even though I have hardly ever posted. + +I wish you all sincere good luck on your journey, I feel like this sub is a home from home, and so few people in my real life understand it. + +Many thanks :)",0 +10854,"Man in Leggings in Studio?. Hello, + +I'm curious if you have ever seen a man in yoga pants (leggings) practice yoga in a studio? As the weather begins to change, I would like to be able to wear my leggings in the studio for my practice, but at the same time I not looking to be an exhibitionist and would wear a long shirt, but I'd prefer not to wear shorts. I'm not doing this for 'show' and I am genuinely curious. TIA.",0 +10855,"The story of eagle pose--who is Garuda, and why does this pose look nothing like an eagle?. **GARUDASANA | Eagle Pose** + +Here’s another pose that I always looked at and wondered, how on earth does that look like an eagle? If the arms were outstretched, sure--but wrapped up like this? An eagle? And when have you ever seen an eagle cross its legs? + +[Garudasana, Eagle Pose](https://preview.redd.it/7slj9tmqnwf91.jpg?width=5760&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=73c647a7a43f158779c2abe6db33d8600b926eb3) + +As it turns out, “Garuda” doesn’t translate to eagle from Sanskrit, but instead, is the name of a particular demigod, a partially anthropomorphic sun-bird ridden by [the protector god Vishnu](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wgb452/the_story_behind_the_asana_the_protector_god/) as he travels through the universe. + +[Vishnu riding Garuda](https://preview.redd.it/wodcuuqunwf91.png?width=997&format=png&auto=webp&s=3c93db7da0452a46b40f8468c687541653495b32) + +So why is that pose named after Garuda? + +It all has to do with Garuda’s shape-shifting abilities. + +The story has it that Garuda’s father, the sage Kashyapa had two wives: one, Garuda’s mother, Vinata, Mother of Birds, and the other, Kadru, Mother of Serpents (called ""nagas""). The wives were jealous of one another and often sought to outdo the other. Pleased with his wives, Kashyapa offered them each one wish (to be granted a “boon”). Kadru went first, and she wished for a thousand sons. But Vinata was more clever--she wished for just two sons, but that they would be more powerful than Kadru’s thousand. + +Kadru’s thousand serpents hatched first, while Vinata’s two eggs remained unbroken. Desperate for her sons to hatch, Vinata broke open the first egg, and her eagle son Aruna was born, but prematurely, and with depleted powers--he was destined to only be as bright as the morning sun, and went on to serve as the charioteer of the sun God, Surya. He made his mother promise not to break open her second egg until it was completely ready, so that his brother would have the chance to be born as resplendent and powerful as a thousand suns. + +​ + +[Art by Ketut Madra, an amazing Balinese artist](https://preview.redd.it/nte8wwh1owf91.jpg?width=447&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=02bd95e99d76ad77fd1cee86d2119c429cc993c3) + +The birth of Vinata’s partially-formed son, along with Kadru’s perfectly formed thousand serpents, made Kadru feel powerful and superior. There was no way Vinata's one remaining son would hatch as powerful as her serpents. So through trickery, she forced Vinata into slavery, to serve her and her thousand naga sons forever. + +And then Garuda was born. + +When Garuda burst forth from his shell, he shone as bright as a thousand noon-time suns--so bright and powerful, that the gods believed him to be the god of fire, and thought he would surely bring about the destruction of the universe. He was so bright that the gods had to shield their eyes and beg him to reduce himself in size, lest he blind the whole world. Immediately, his powers were so great, that he could shrink himself to the size of a small eagle, so that others could live in his presence, unafraid. + +​ + +[Garuda](https://preview.redd.it/3irw1oe4owf91.jpg?width=492&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5631355e61160ded4b0d6a9d0d2b0b9b8bc1e02a) + +When he saw that his mother had been enslaved by the nagas, Garuda sought a solution. What was it that the nagas most desperately wanted, and could he trade it for his mother’s freedom? + +Kadru admitted that the nagas were seeking amrta, the nectar of immortal life, which was kept guarded by the most powerful gods, its care entrusted to the god Indra. If Garuda could steal the amrita from the gods, the nagas would free his mother. Though it seemed an impossible task, Garuda vowed to bring the amrita to the serpents. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/vpc1a1a6uwf91.png?width=1117&format=png&auto=webp&s=6ecd02d00ac1e7808963970134c1bdc0ca0a83b6 + +This is where we see Garuda’s great powers. To guard the amrita, the gods had set up a sort of obstacle course, and to get through it, Garuda had to shape-shift. + +First, there was a wall of fire that reached to the sky. Garuda made himself huge, so that he could suck as much water from the ocean as possible, and spit it out onto the fire. He passed the first obstacle. + +Next, there was a spinning wheel, filled with knives and spikes, impossible to pass through. So Garuda shrunk himself in size, to the size of a tiny bird, wrapped his wings around himself and dove through the very eye of the torture wheel. He passed the second obstacle. + +Lastly, there were two poisonous serpents guarding the amrita, so deadly, that a single look into their eyes would ensure one’s demise. So Garuda made himself huge again, and he flapped his wings, kicking up dust and blowing it into their eyes. He passed by them with ease, and stole the amrita. + +​ + +[A victorious Garuda. Art by C.M Vitankar](https://preview.redd.it/8jresdj8owf91.jpg?width=373&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=de2c415fd7fe69210c6aa9268b94cc4b00c38382) + +On his journey home, carrying the pot of amrita, Garuda was visited by a number of gods. First, Vishnu came to him to tell him how impressed he was with what he had done. Vishnu asked Garuda to become his mount (called a vahana), to carry him through the cosmos, and Garuda agreed. + +​ + +[A famous giant statue of Garuda carrying Vishnu, near where I live in Bali](https://preview.redd.it/tr1gfujkowf91.jpg?width=768&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=765deb690fca2be3b27bfbe15f2c84845837fe8b) + +Then, Indra came to him. + +Indra begged Garuda not to give the amrita to the nagas, as it would only make them more powerful, cruel, and immortal. Garuda told Indra that he had to deliver the amrita in order to free his mother. But perhaps he could prevent them from actually drinking it. Together, they devised a plan. + +When Garuda arrived with the amrita, the nagas were desperate to drink it. But Garuda reminded them that, before drinking such a sacred nectar, they must perform a ceremonial cleansing ritual, to ensure their purity before the drink. He set the pot down in front of them, officially delivering it and freeing his mother, and convinced the snakes to take their ritual bath. As soon as the serpents’ backs were turned, Indra swept in and stole back the amrita. In their rage and desperation to drink the nectar, the nagas licked at the ground, hoping to catch a single drop, but the remnants of the amrita did nothing but burn their tongues in half, causing all future serpents to have forked tongues. + +So this pose. + +​ + +[Garudasana arms](https://preview.redd.it/xrsvrngvowf91.jpg?width=802&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a5322c47b4fbf7c729df7a8578dccc8ecd609919) + +It doesn’t look like an eagle. + +But if we start in tadasana, spread out, big, and we then compress ourselves in, wrapping limb over limb, we embody the shape-shifting ability of Garuda--the ability to make ourselves small, then to burst back out into tadasana again, making ourselves large. + +The story and the pose represent a metaphor for a concept that is central in yogic philosophy--that we are simultaneously human and vast divine beings, atman and brahman, mortal and eternal. We are big (tadasana), divine eternal souls, having a small (garudasana) temporary experience. + +Just as Garuda burst forth from his shell, as bright as a thousand suns, so too is our eternal nature. And just as the gods had to beg him to reduce himself in size, so too are we in these temporary human bodies. But the power remains within us, if we simply remember our true nature. + +​ + +[Going from big to small](https://i.redd.it/4pqecfg2pwf91.gif) + +When I teach garudasana, I like to start from a wide stance, as if about to go into goddess pose, with the arms out wide and the legs outspread--to allow us to feel big, to take up space, to be resplendent and unabashed like a thousand suns. Then, shifting onto one foot, to wrap ourselves up into eagle pose, Garuda shrinking to survive amongst the mortals--only then, can we explode back out into our bigness, releasing the pose, to feel again our vast nature. + +Give it a try sometime and see how the pose feels different after knowing the story :) + +​ + +\--------------------------------- + +​ + +This story mostly comes from the Mahabharata, with details in the Garuda Purana. As always, there are regional and sectarian variations, so I’d love to hear the versions you’ve learned! + +If you missed them, I’ve shared the stories of: [dancer’s pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/w8ltpk/why_dancers_pose_is_named_after_shiva_nataraja_a/), the [warrior poses](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/w9k9x1/another_story_behind_the_asana_the_warrior_poses/), [goddess pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/waasut/story_behind_the_asana_goddess_pose_to_slay_your/), [half-moon pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wb9z2i/story_behind_the_asana_lord_ganesha_and_half_moon/), and [sleeping Vishnu pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wgb452/the_story_behind_the_asana_the_protector_god/). I’ve also made other long-form posts about the [biomechanics of alignment](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/si5ml7/for_any_yogis_who_want_to_go_deeper_heres_a_long/), how to form the habit of [yoga as a daily practice](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/s9kc3c/for_anyone_who_is_struggling_to_maintain_a/), and videos about [forward folds](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/oq3g8s/comp_mini_lesson_about_forward_folds_history_and/) and [headstand](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/ojftze/comp_this_is_the_technique_that_finally_made/).   + +Let me know if there are any other topics you'd like covered! I've been a full-time YTT trainer for the past six years, living and studying yoga and eastern philosophy in various Asian countries for more than a decade, and a practitioner for many years before that--I'm currently on a two-month hiatus between YTTs in Bali, so I've been enjoying doing some writing here <3",0 +10856,Whose yoga practice always ends with sweeping up after your disintegrating mat?. ,0 +10857,Do you sweat when you do yoga. I just want to know if you sweat when you do yoga. Personnaly i do a lot of very vigorous and difficult yoga so when i finish my yoga session my mat is always very very wet.,0 +10858,"Did yoga my first time. Followed a 20 minute beginners course off of YouTube. It was fun and I’m looking forward to doing more in the future. At one point however, the woman instructing the video said there’s not supposed to be any pain or tension in the shoulders. Well, I felt that but I assume it was only because it was my first time and that I actually did relatively well.",0 +10859,"Resources of authentic, ancient Indian yoga. I'm looking for videos or writings of yogis teaching the meaning and very detailed instruction of asanas. Just the pure knowledge not tempered by westernism",0 +10860,"Alcohol. I have been trying to quit alcohol completely for a while now. + +through 2021 I had convinced myself that as long as I got in my 6am yoga I was good to go. through the year I did yoga for 331 days (DownDog app 45 mins sessions). I feel strong and energetic, and men 10 years younger cannot keep pace with me over a 20 km hike (I'm 41) + + However I have a feeling that my logic that ""as long as I do my yoga I'm fine"" is deeply flawed. + +How do I break this logical construct in my mind? + +EDIT: thank you, all of you. each one of you. i'll get in touch individually.",0 +10861,[COMP] Use these quick simple exercises to enhance the upper back strength. Use them on your breaks or if you have been sitting for too long. These all work wonders in the long run and are great preparatory movements for your advanced postures.. ,0 +10862,"[Overweight Beginner] What type of Yoga should I practise?. Hi guys, + +I am a pretty overweight 31 year old male and I've been considering giving Yoga a try to help not only try and lose some weight, but also help out my joints that have been causing me some issues. + +Does anyone happen to know a program I could follow at home that is suitable for beginners and help me shed some weight at the same time (I understand that my diet would need to be cleaned up)? + +I've seen quite a few recommendations for ""Yoga with Adriene"" on YouTube. Does anybody have any personal experience with these? + +Many thanks!",0 +10863,"Yoga makes me hate my body. I started doing real yoga a few months ago. I had a serious back injury a few years back and have been dealing with chronic back and hip pain ever since, on top of being very active. Someone suggested I start doing yoga about four times a week, and since I've tried basically everything else, I figured why not, and gave it a go. + +Now, I love the way yoga makes me feel physically. It really does help a lot and I'm getting some balance back I lost after I hurt my spine. I do plan on continuing to do it. + +That being said, it makes me incredibly insecure. I hate having to look at my legs in forward folds and seeing stretch marks, I hate seeing my stomach when I'm bent over, it's like I'm being forced to look at all these tiny insecurities for minutes at a time. I was never a super confident person, but being so ""close"" to what I look like and what my body is during yoga really makes me feel bad about myself. + +I know yoga makes a lot of people feel really appreciative of their bodies and they enjoy the connection they have to their physical self. But I'm really struggling with it. And I can't just close my eyes and pretend it all isn't there. If anyone has struggled with something similar, I would love to hear some advice. + +Thanks all.",0 +10864,"Crying during yoga. Today was the first day I came back to yoga in two years, I have tried on and off for years to get the practice routine in my life but always seem to forget or lose interest. I enjoy doing it once I actually am in it but can't seem to find a way to stick with it. I think I end up adding to my to do list which isn't how yoga should be I know, I just need to find a way to get it incorporated into my life more fluidly. + +Today was the first time I came back to it, I use yoga by Adrienne videos at home because I'm too self conscious of going to any movement class due to being overweight at school and not being able to keep up with everyone else. Anyway I was 10 minutes into her day 1 video and I just had this overwhelming sensation to cry. + +I paused the video and took a few breathes and came back to it. The sensation returned later in the practice but I continued to breathe and felt better by the end. + +Any advice, thoughts ect? I find the practice great to reduce anxiety and to strengthen and stretch my body so would like to pursue it. + +Thank you in advance for any help. + +- please continue to share your experiences I am trying to reply to each one but may have to go offline but know each comment posted I will read and so far have taken great comfort and felt validation in my feelings and you have all been so insightful!",0 +10865,"Teaching my first class tonight!. Hi, all! As the title states, I’m teaching my first yoga class tonight. I’m about 3/4 finished with my yoga teacher training program and it’s finally time for me to begin the actual teaching process with individuals outside the program. I am very excited and a bit nervous. Any tips/tricks?",0 +10866,"[COMP] First practice since getting pneumonia and moving up north, feeling a little weak but so happy to be back on the mat - tips on how to fix my elbows for this pose?. ",0 +10867,I practiced yoga for about 2 years and stopped it and went gym. I feel very strong now in physics but my body is not flexible anymore. Anyways to have them boths?. ,0 +10868,"Can you suggest me a yoga style for stress relief, relaxation and stretching muscles ? Also is there any dangers to yoga ? I have question regarding what Joe rogan talked about Kundalini Yoga. I have tight muscles and get muscle twitches while falling to asleep. I lift weights and do cardio but never done Yoga before. I decided to do some research on yoga and first videos I saw was Joe Rogan talking about how ""*Kundalini Yoga*"" gave his friends psychedelic experience and hallucinations etc + +Scared the shit out of me. Why would anybody want that kind of experience without drugs ? I thought Yoga is all about relaxing, stretching and increasing range of motion and functionality of muscles. I don't want Psychedelic experience. + +​ + +Can somebody explain what exactly is this Kundalini Yoga and how it is different from other styles ? Does all Yoga mess with your mind ? + +What style is better for someone who just want to achieve mind and body relaxation and reduce muscle stiffness without any of those freaky effects. + +I apologize for my ignorance and bad English. I am not a native English speaker. + +​ + +​ + +(EDIT : By the way I am Indian. I did some *Surya namaskar* and few basic *asanas* back in school when they held Yoga session but I didn't take it seriously or study further. It's such a shame that I know nothing about something that is part of my culture. For some reason back then I thought it would never work and only after seeing all the appreciation Yoga is getting from around the world I decided to give it a shot as an adult.)",0 +10869,"Advice? Too heavy for yoga - pain in knees, shins and wrists. Hi everyone, + +I have practiced yoga on and off for almost 20 years. Most of this time, I was (heavily) overweight but still able to practice yoga several times a week. Then due to covid, lockdown and yada yada yada I didn’t do much yoga anymore, I also gained a lot of weight back that I had shed previously. + +A few months ago I took up running and eating better, and I wanted to use this new energy to also get back into my yoga practice. + +But while I don’t weigh more than I used to, I cannot do yoga anymore which really makes me sad. I can’t do the most basic things on the mat (like cat - cow pose), let alone downward dog, because my knees, shins and wrists hurt so much. + +I understand that I have not treated my body well, and after this many years of living unhealthily it’s to be expected that it’s not the same anymore as when I was 20. But I really want to be able to at least do some gentle yoga - does anyone here have any suggestions as to how to start? I appreciate any advice! + +Cheers, +Stef",0 +10870,"Surprised a chiropractor today. Went to see a chiropractor for the first time today for an injury unrelated to me doing yoga. He was going through some mobility tests and was very suprised I was able to bend down and touch the floor, he said something along the lines of ""Wow! That's pretty impressive for a guy"" I just chuckled and said ""Yup, thanks yoga""",0 +10871,"Last time, I couldn’t do a down dog. Now, down dog is my favourite resting pose!. I posted here before asking tips to do a down dog. I used to view yoga as something that only skinny flexible people can do. Like touch their toes. + +Everyone online looked like perfect inverted Vs when doing their down dog. First time I tried, I was a U who couldn’t hold their own body weight. + +The people here taught me that yoga is very subjective and it’s ok to have variations in poses. Something that I never thought about. I’ve always thought that I have to be as perfect as those that made it their livelihood. + +Practising yoga daily changed my perspective on life. I’m nowhere near perfect. But that’s alright. + +(P.S. thank you to the person who enlightened me that people with similar limb lengths can do certain poses easily! My legs are much longer than my arms. That’s why I couldn’t bend as much as the others, but I never noticed it!)",0 +10872,Emotions stored in the shoulders?. I always read about emotions stored in the hips and how stretching the hips or yoga poses focusing in the hips brings up emotions in people…I don’t experience that but stretching my shoulders and neck literally makes me cry with emotions. I can’t find anything with googling. Has anyone heard about this? What is that and why?,0 +10873,"Out of everything yoga has done for your body/mind/spirit; what are you most grateful for since you started your yoga journey?. Would love to hear how some of you answer this! + +For me, I am most grateful for the realization of how precious our bodies are and how grateful we need to be for the ability to move the way we do in our yoga practice. Having recently tore my ACL, there is nothing that I want more in life than to be able to return to my practice and flow like I did pre injury.",0 +10874,[COMP] Tripod Headstand. ,0 +10875,"Has Yoga Relieved You of a Mental Health Issue?. What issue, if you wish to share? - And what kind of practice did you do?",0 +10876,What can I work on to go from the picture the left to the one on the right?. ,0 +10877,"The 8 limbs of Yoga. I’m curious about how many people here know about/ practice the 8 limbs of yoga. It seems like here in the west it isn’t common knowledge that what we know as yoga is only one small part of what yoga actually is. In most yoga studios it’s all about asana. I’ve never seen a class for learning about and discussing yogic texts and philosophy. + +I’m curious about other peoples’ thoughts on this and what your practice is like. + +Also, no judgement here! All Love",0 +10878,[COMP] Bakasana to Salamba Shirsasana to Upward Facing Dog. ,0 +10879,Are you supposed to round your low back here? I have low back pain and want to know before trying.. ,0 +10880,"Can getting a Doctor of Physical Therapy ""Corrupt"" my Yoga Practice?. My instructor, who is a phenomenally good teacher and person, recently said that getting a DPT will hurt my long term practice and possibly prevent me from becoming a senior instructor. His reasons were two fold: + +1. Thinking about the body like a DPT is only good for acute issues whereas yoga is holistic. By developing a clinical habit for assessing the body, I may sacrifice the holistic, experiential aspect of yoga practice. + +2. Some people who control the issuance of certification in the style I practice may think students with a western clinical practice arent as serious about yoga. + +Do any of you have experience with this? + +Edit: changed some wording to be a bit more fair. Also, thanks everyone for the valuable feedback. I really would like to stress that my instructor was coming from a good place with his advice. Though I may not fully agree, I can see his point to some extent. For example, after learning about certain muscles in the hip, I found myself thinking about the individual muscles I wanted to activate rather than being present in my body during some asanas. I can see how developing that habit could actually be a distraction if it became my only thought process during yoga. I guess I was just trying to see if that is necessarily the case, and from your responses it's seems definitely not. Thanks!",0 +10881,"Ableism in teacher training.. I had my first day of yoga teacher training, I love yoga, have been practicing for almost 10 years, there are feasible benefits and there is pseudoscience, as with any ""wellness"" practice, that the studio owner and leader of the teacher training discusses during classes. I understood that some pseudoscience would be presented in training and I told myself I would ignore it and take from the training what I could. When we were going over some benefits a few things came up that are just not true. Like that autoimmune disease didn't exist until 50 years ago, that stress and trauma (she was implying mental health trauma NOT medical trauma) cause autoimmune disease, and that yoga is preventative care for these diseases. I know so many people with chronic migraines, diabetes, cancer etc. these people are in therapy dealing with their shit, and guess what? They still suffer from their illnesses. Yoga may be beneficial for pain management or mental health but it's not a cure. + +Should I run? It's not too late for me to back out, I just wasn't expecting this much shit this quickly. + +Edit: Since enough people are asking (and this post is getting more attention than I expected) I wanted to say that by pseudoscience I do not mean yogic philosophy. I mean the own teacher's expression of pseudoscience, like being anti sugar, alcohol, coffee and telling clients it will ""change their lives"" to cut those things out of their diets. Maybe but you're not a dietician. Or touting the Oxygen Advantage which has been debunked and what she said about chronic illness.",0 +10882,"[ 25 M ] - Wants to quit weed and seeks mental clarity.. I'm very much aware that this sub is not some kind of rehab and I'm not here asking y'all for tips on how to quit that's on me, but can any of of y'all help me get started with meditation. I desperately seek mental clarity at this point of my life along with the detox process. I very prone to sickness and I've been thinking its high time i turned my life around, I hope it isn't too late. + +Although its only been 4 days since I've been sober, I'll try my best not to fall back in that loop again.",0 +10883,"I am so excited for yoga and it gets me through my day. That is all, I just wanted to share my gratitude☺️. I work all weekend, this week I have 4 12.5 hour shifts in a row. I get to do a few minutes of yoga on my own here and there while at work or in the evening. I take classes Monday through Thursday. I love seeing my yogi people, friends and familiar faces, being in that space. I look forward to Monday morning yoga all weekend, and by Sunday night I feel so joyful laying in bed thinking, ""I get to go to yoga class tomorrow!"". I work with kiddos in the mental health field and it seriously gets me through difficult moments. It's taught me to bring mindfulness into the rest of my life, and the anxiety I used to feel daily is now rare and passes easily. + +That is all, I just wanted to share my joy with someone ☺️🙏",0 +10884,"I have no confidence in myself as a teacher. Maybe this is a weird post to make here, but, I just feel really lonely and confused. + +I completed my 200 hour teacher training last month. Our “final” was to teach a class and we got feedback from our instructor and a few people within the training. + +Up until that final, I was really confident in my abilities, and really excited to lead class. All I have ever wanted was to provide a sacred, relaxing, and beautiful experience for others, as I have had with yoga. I took a lot of time preparing the class, writing out every pose and cue/modification, made sure to make a playlist that fit the vibes, and was really happy with how creative it was. I had a great time leading my final, and thought I had done great! + +But, when I got my feedback, it pretty much ripped me apart. It’s not like it was awful, but it definitely wasn’t great. I know they were trying to help me improve, but it just shattered my self-esteem. + +Since then, I have had no confidence in my ability to teach. Others in my group have been asked to substitute as teachers for the studio (some multiple times), and I haven’t, which makes me feel like I am not good enough..Any time I try to teach since then, I just overthink and analyze everything and worry that I’m not aligning or cueing correctly. This especially upsets me because I become so preoccupied with myself, when my attention should be on the practitioners. + +I am also confused because I know this is a struggle of the ego. I have been going to observe a lot of classes to see where I can improve. I’ve been attending a lot of different styles to see a variety of flows/sequences….but when it comes time to teach, I lose all faith in myself. + +Maybe this is silly….but I am so passionate about this. I want to get over this fear I hold on to. Has anyone else ever been in this position? Any tips? + +Edit: hey guys! Thank you for all the comments, but for some reason Reddit won’t show them when I open the post after clicking on the notifications. I’m on my way home and will look and respond to everything everyone has said when I get back, I really appreciate everyone’s thoughtful words ❤️ + +Edit 2: at home, responded to comments, overwhelmed with the love, support, understanding, and encouragement this subreddit has given me. You guys have reminded me of what it is all about and have inspired me to keep going. I am so thankful for all of you who took the time to read this post. It’s amazing to see such a wonderful internet community like this. I feel very blessed ❤️❤️",0 +10885,[COMP] little sweaty sirsasana ☺️. ,0 +10886,[COMP] press handstand-firefly-eka-scissor-8angle. ,0 +10887,"Diverse and attainable-looking yoga Instagram accounts. I'd like to follow some good yoga Instagram accounts but I'm not really sure who to start with. I don't want my feed to be filled with the ubiquitous thin white woman in yoga pants in ridiculously complicated looking poses. I don't want a feed filled with what feels like unattainable standards. + +Instead, I'd like to follow people who are more relatable to me and part of other marginalised communities. I'd particularly appreciate seeing people practising who are fat and/or disabled. That's my current reality, and I'd like to see a form of practice that feels more attainable to me, which I think this would help with. I'd also appreciate seeing people who use their platform to speak out about intersectionality and social justice if at all possible. + +Are there any accounts like this that you'd recommend?",0 +10888,"daily yoga has cured my near-daily fast food habit🤷🏻‍♂️. Ok i'm back to elaborate: I've just eaten tons of fast food since getting into the habit as a delivery driver in 2017, and never being motivated to cook. + +Doing yoga just helps me to reset each day and it clears out the desire for fast food, and gives me a little more energy to cook with the stuff I have at home. + +One easy thing I've been making is Fusilli with frozen broccoli: just toss the broccoli in with the pasta while it's cooking, then serve with a little butter, grated parmesan, salt, and pepper (and feta if it suits you) + +Soooo I'm still a really picky eater and hate grocery shopping, but doing yoga has allowed me to finally kick the habit and not cave after a few days like all the other times. Saving money is also a huge motivator but yea✌️ (And btw I'm just doing 15-25 minute yoga with adriene videos🕊)",0 +10889,Starting my first day of YTT it’s been a dream of mine for 11 years!! 🤩. ,0 +10890,"Does anyone else's cat get super angry when you're doing yoga?. It's just the funniest thing; our cat is usually a docile sweetheart, but he HATES whenever I start doing yoga. I'll be in the middle of a pose and he'll just start biting my legs! When I was trying today, he came up to me meowing loudly, like he was superrr pissed off. He was giving me some intense stares and started swiping his paws like he was going to scratch me, so I legitimately ran out of the room 😅",0 +10891,Yoga in the dark. Has anyone tried this? i did it the other day as i had a migraine and i had the the most amazing flow. by the end i felt like i was floating in my own sweat. curious if anyone else has tried doing yoga in the dark. i had music playing but that was about it.,0 +10892,"Does 5 minutes of yoga count?. I like doing yoga as a way to relax and ease my muscles. Lately though, I've been too tired to do my regular 15-20 minutes before bed and I've been doing like 5 minutes of chair yoga in bed before work because I was just falling asleep before getting to do my yoga. + +I know it seems silly, but I'm worried it's not as effective as what I had been doing, which was yin. I know based off the way my muscles feel, it's not as effective for my muscles, but I still feel relaxed and a lot happier. + +I also use yoga as a form of mindfulness and when practicing separately, I would only really do 5 minutes of mindfulness so I think I'm all set there. + +Also, any recommendations are welcome! I would do yoga at work but I don't find it relaxing as I'm always interrupted. I also walk to work and try to incorporate some mindfulness there. It's been tough to balance my hiking, weight lifting, and yoga while working",0 +10893,COMP - practicing poses with my son but my hair tickled him 😂💙. ,0 +10894,Happy baby pose is causing me huge amounts of discomfort in my hips and groin area . I was once able to to this pose along with frog but since visiting the chiropractor recently I’ve been unable to do these poses along with a simple criss cross seated position. Does anyone know any tips?. ,0 +10895,"[COMP] Yoga, Celebration of the present moment, Celebration of life & wellbeing, Celebration of body-mind, and spirit, Celebration the unity that comes with it, Celebration of uniqueness, Celebration of a holistic journey ✨ As a Yogini I celebrate yoga on & off the Mat... ",0 +10896,"Anyone neurodivergent who struggles with task initiation and just getting to the mat?. I've been wanting to start yoga since the start of the year and I just can't start... My brain just won't cooperate. + +I know I sound vague but if anyone can help with how they do it I'll appreciate. Particularly if you have adhd or autism or suspect these. And therefore struggle with task initiation. Or if you've just struggled to start but somehow got a way to hack around that and start.",0 +10897,"What do you do when mental health issues disrupt yoga?. Background. + +I've experienced depression for as long as I can remember. I've had counselling and it has made a huge difference. Usually when I'm going through a rough period I treat myself kindly and do what I need to do to get through, no judgments just keep going and I'll feel better eventually. + +Now. + +This is the first down period I've had since I started yoga. I want to get on the mat, so I get on the mat. BUT...... I can't relax, my mind wanders (usually it doesn't), I get frustrated with almost every video I put on (rarely happens normally), I get annoyed when I can't do poses (never happened before now) + +The last 2 days I've made excuses not to get on the mat because I don't want to feel worse when I get off - like I did 3 days ago. Honestly I'm on the verge of tears and feel like I've lost yoga for now. I want to curl into a ball and stay there. Very dramatic I know, I'll be fine again :) + +Plan. + +I'm going to try easy energising flows I've liked before. Keep it shorter. Focus on viewing myself with even more kindness than I usually do in yoga. I've even made a youtube playlist for Funk Days. + +I'm hoping this will allow me to breathe and move without feeling crap. I could do with a little endorphin boost. + +What do you do? + +I know I'm not the only one that has these experiences. I'd very much like to hear what you do? + +TIA + +EDIT: + +Thank you all. Such good advice, and so many things I never considered. I'm really glad I posted today, I almost talked myself out of it. + +I managed 15mins energising morning flow this afternoon and it feels good to have achieved that much. ",0 +10898,"Small ways to make yoga feel “extra” special.. Hello yogis, I am fairly new to yoga. I have practiced on and off for a couple years. I began going diligently a few months ago, and have recently started a 30 day January challenge with my local studio. This challenge has me going to yoga daily, sometimes twice daily for an hour per session. I like to find small things to bring into my practice to add a little something special into my practice. I like having things to look forward to, besides the practice itself. For example, occasionally I’ll use a rose scented mat spray. This week, I am bringing a different type of tea with me to each class. What are some things you like to do to make your class/practice session feel special? I’m looking for recommendations to add to my practice! + +Edit for the people upset about my mat spray: it’s a mat cleaner that I don’t spray in the studio and even I can’t smell it unless my face is on the mat. I’m not fogging the studio with my spray like some people are assuming.",0 +10899,"Yogas of Psychedelic States. I'd love to hear from experienced yogis who have explored yogic practice within psychedelic states! + +Psychedelics have emerged as promising medicines for a wide range of mental afflictions. How can the benefits of psychedelic therapy be maximized and the side effects reduced? Doctors will give prescriptions and determine dosages, neuroscientists will offer brain-based explanations. But who better to plumb the depths of the non-ordinary states of consciousness and develop yogic methods for navigating and enhancing them, than yogis! + + I have 30 years of yoga under my belt. I have relied on yoga throughout a lifelong struggle with anxiety and depression. As my yoga has flourished, my pain has eased and I have strength and energy to offer others. Psychedelic therapy has also been profoundly helpful to me. + +Along with many other forms, I have taken teachings in Tibetan Dream Yoga, which inspired my approach to psychedelic yoga. The Tibetan yogis developed these methods to harness the spiritual potential of the dream state and to prepare for the after-death bardo state. One master declares, ""Any practice conducted within the dream state is 9 times as effective."" Could this be true of psychedelic states? Could yogic practice within them dramatically improve healing results? + +Here's what I have been working on, over the past few years: + +\-- A yoga of the ketamine state. Practices are integrated into every phase of the therapeutic ketamine trip. An energetic pranayama builds energy and awareness building to the peak, when the focus becomes letting go completely at the bottom of the exhalation. During the come-down phase, chakra scans allow the ego to be intimately observed and its obsessive patterns released. The goal of this yoga is to produce a peak mystical experience that brings maximal therapeutic benefit to the person and deepens their yoga practice. + +\-- Yogic practices for micro-dosing with psilocybin. Asana, pranayama, yoga Nidra -- these are performed with that subtle, beautiful beginner's mind enabled by low-dose psychedelics. It is an opportunity for the devoted yogi to make progress in their practice! Particularly pranayama is useful for harnessing the surge of energy that can be uncomfortable. Chakra yoga combined with pranayama allows painful emotions to be brought into awareness. + +Are you interested in exploring this territory to benefit yourself and others? Have you already been working on integrating yogic practices into intentional psychedelic states? Let's see how yogis can contribute!",0 +10900,[COMP] assisted forearm scorpion. ,0 +10901,"What are your thoughts? Feeling unsure about my un-sureness with.... ...drunk yoga... +Mimosas and yoga on Saturday morning, wine and yoga on Saturday night. I love alcohol and I love yoga, but especially now as I am progressing through my yoga teacher training, it doesn't feel right. It seems to me once you scratch the ""fun"" on the surface, yoga (as an exercise form, or as mindfulness, or as a preparation for meditation, or as a path for spiritual Growth....) and alcohol are expressions of opposing values. +The fairest way to say it seems to be that they each water the other down. +Thought?",0 +10902,"Scientific explanation(s) for “breathing into” specific parts of our body?. Sorry if this is a bit silly, but I’d really like to understand this better! + +While I am able to breathe into my foot, say, I don’t quite understand what is happening when I do and why I’m able to feel it from a scientific perspective. Am I sending oxygen through my veins and feeling the blood flow? Is my breath going through other channels that don’t carry blood, so strictly energy channels I’m experiencing vs. actual airways (like our windpipe that is +meant to only have air as opposed to blood or other liquids)? Tiny yoga squirrels running the show? + +Scientific or not, I’ll happily take any explanations on breathing into body parts! + +Thank you so much and a Happy New Year to all! :)",0 +10903,"Feeling overwhelmed and frustrated as hyper-inflexible man.. tldr : Beginner yoga is miles away from my reality, can't find yoga lessons designed for me, need advice on learning how to create my own yoga. + +Hello everybody ! + +I'm very frustrated and lost. + +my flexibility is terrible. and before you say ""ha, another complaining beginner who can't do some research by himself"" hear me out. + +I hate being put in the large ""beginner , inflexible group"" cause that group does not represent me. + + When I was a kid I did a flexibility test and score much much lower than the minimum imagined by the test. no kids ever scores lower than 1 point in my teacher career and i score something like -20 points ! based on that experience, i can assume i am in the 1% least flexible population or even worst. + +as a 26 years old fit man, this is crippling my life as I cannot work anymore on what I love due to back problems related to inflexibility and labor. + +Beginner yoga is miles away from my reality. I can imagine that in 20 years of regular practice I will acheive some of the yoga poses shown in videos titles "" yoga for inflexible beginners"" +in 20 years ! + +i need to practice yoga daily for my sake, but I need to find a course, teacher, book or whatever that is designed for people who will probably start touching there toes after 10 years of practice. + +I've already did reasearch and here come my frustration. I cannot find anything designed for me. +i think I have to learn more about the foundamentals and create my own version based on what I learned. + +so if you know yoga that could represent a young fit man with crippling inflexibility and back problems that would be magical, +but if not , I'm looking for guidance for making my own journey and having the knowledge to adjust and personalize yoga to my own needs and limitations. + + +thank you and I wish you a beautiful day. !",0 +10904,"How to get better at stepping into a lunge from down dog?. Every time I try to step into a lunge from down dog, I can only get my foot about halfway. Is this a flexibility thing? Strength? I’m unsure of what to work on. + +I consider myself relatively flexible, but I’m a runner, so it could be that I’m tight somewhere. Stepping into lizard is better than stepping into a low lunge. + +Thanks for your help! + + +Edit: I appreciate everyone’s suggestions so much!",0 +10905,"Beginner Rant About Stuff. I know yoga is supposed to be for everybody, but I'm seriously wondering if I'm apart of that everybody. I'm 5'3 with long legs and a short torso. I've got a belly and stupidly big boobs (not a brag, I'm looking forward to getting rid of them). If my stomach doesn't get in the way, my boobs do. I can't step my foot from dogward dog to between my feet. I have to use my hand to carry it to position. I can't even slowly lean back. After a certain point I just fall to the mat. + +I just want to be comfortable doing yoga and right now I'm not. I've only been doing it for 14 days, so maybe the lady doth protest too much. On the upisde, my posture has improved, so I've got that going for me, which is nice.",0 +10906,[COMP] Never stop wondering.✨ Never stop wandering.💫. ,0 +10907,"Cake day. It's my first cake day and I didn't know where to post it, so I decided to post it here. I have been practicing yoga for over a year and it's been a great journey. I have learned to relax, listen and understand my body. I only have two wishes this year and that is to buy a Manduka Pro Lite mat and to go on vacation to Greece. Cheers all and all the best. + +[Manduka Pro Lite](https://preview.redd.it/d1yvma3h26q81.jpg?width=920&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a23e90f13ae8a1b5bf8d9dca1e386323bdad247a)",0 +10908,"Thanks for discover me the app Down Dog. Hi! I'm very new on yoga. On this subreddit I read that Down Dog is a very good app and now I am totally delighted with it! Moreover, I have the premium version (free!) because it has agreements with some schools and my university is among them. + +Just that! + +Thank you all ❤️",0 +10909,Please could anyone help me find this brand of yoga pants they are my favorite but I can’t remember the brand and google reverse search isn’t able to pinpoint them?. ,0 +10910,"what can I do to make yoga...less boring. I am doing slower, flexibility (yin) yoga, alone. + +I practice for awhile, I hold a position, my brain starts to wander and I realize what other stuff I could be doing, and then it is just a grind. + +I know I should 'come back to the breath' but...sometimes that doesn't work. Am I alone in this problem?",0 +10911,"Fellow yoga teachers, I’m curious to know, is teaching your only job ?. I was wondering if some of you were not only teaching yoga but doing another job to make a living …? + +Where I live, people tell me that it’s complicated to make a living out of yoga which I understand so I was curious of what your jobs might be besides yoga ? + +Thanks :)",0 +10912,"COMP] EKA HASTA BHUJASANA! Actually harder to pronounce than to perform (sounds like Huttese 😁). Requires some core stability and hamstrings flexibility, but a fun one to work on (and great prep for Tittibhasana). You can do it ❤️👍🏻❤️!. ",0 +10913,"Feeling Strong in Warrior II. I felt strong in warrior II!!! + +Warrior II has always been a difficult pose for me to feel steady in. I’ve been practicing more regularly for a year now, but haven’t been very consistent in the past month. + +I went to the studio last night and when cued into warrior II my body just knew what to do and I felt so strong in my lower body. It was the first time I was conscious of just how steady and strong I have become in my body over the past year. + +Just posting to share this exciting development with other people that get it! Can you remember the first time you really “got” a foundational pose?",0 +10914,"This has been my latest hack for not sliding all over my yoga mat. So far, it washes off just fine when I am done.. ",0 +10915,Cow pose and (my attempt) at red Jasper for the root chakra ❤️. ,0 +10916,[COMP] Trying out a dynamic backbend by using momentum while bending back and counterbalancing with my belly squeeze. ,0 +10917,"Down Dog app pose transitions. I've noticed that whatever settings I use in the Down Dog app, the instructions to transition from one pose to the next seem to ""fit"". + +That's impressive. The app must be complex ""under the hood"".",0 +10918,[COMP] sloppy on the kick up but i held it after a few weeks off due to surgery i finally held this!. ,0 +10919,Why did you start yoga?. ,0 +10920,"Handstand for the first time!!. I did an actual headstand for the first time yesterday in class. Kind of feel like it doesn’t count because I was next to the wall and the teacher helped me, but I’m claiming it!! Feeling so proud of myself, as I was never a kid who did headstands or handstands. Yay!",0 +10921,"Is it rude to modify in class?. Basically the title…. +Example like going up to cobra instead of staying down in sphinx like the instructor is saying to do…. Is that rude? Or is it ok because it’s what feels right for my body? + +Edit: thank you all for the kind responses! It seems like the general consensus is that it’s totally ok to modify/ do variations of what’s being called, but less ok to go off completely on my own different than what’s being done in class haha which is fine, I’m not quite there yet, I still enjoy following what my teacher calls out, but I do make it comfortable for my body :)",0 +10922,[COMP] Eka Pada Malasana Variation. I present to you all my “good leg”.. ,0 +10923,"How do I get back into yoga without feeling so sad for the progress I’ve lost?. I used to be so into yoga, I’d do it every morning. I was at a point where I was really flexible, really in tune with my body. I wasn’t amazing, only did it by myself for a few months but I enjoyed it a lot. I was at a point where I could tell where the tension was in my body and I knew how to let it go. It was so nice. + +Depression took over really bad and I completely stopped. It’s been over two years or constant depression. I think yoga is what made the difference in my mental health. + +I’ve tried to get back into it a few times but it just fills me with sadness for the progress I’ve lost. It never feels the same. I do the same stuff, same poses, but the tension never goes away. I just lay there and cry on my mat every time I try again. I want to be happy again and I think yoga was the key to how I was so happy years ago. That was the only time I was ever happy in my life, those few months. + +How do I get back into it? Has anyone experienced similar feelings? How did you get past them? I’m so ready to be happy again and get my energy back and take my life back. I just want to feel like it’s possible, and that I’m not alone in these feelings.",0 +10924,What a difference! Thank you community for showing me how to clean my mat🤍. ,0 +10925,What is this pose called?. ,0 +10926,I can finally touch my toes! What is the next flexibility goal I should a for?. I have not been able to touch my toes my whole life and work a desk job so I was getting back pain from having a stiff back. A few months ago I started doing four-5Min stretches a day and can now touch my toes. I'd like to increase flexibility in my hamstrings. Just wondering if their is some sort of goal I could work towards? Like maybe get my palms to touch the floor? Or is that even possible?,0 +10927,"Does warrior pose ever become less horrible?. So Last week I started a beginners yoga class and really enjoyed it! My body felt so much better afterwords (for the most part). + +However one pose really was a struggle. Warrior pose, the top of my leg/thigh just felt like it was dying the whole time, as well as (what I'm assuming is) my glutts. I could hardly hold the pose, would constantly lose my balance, and when I was holding it before long my leg would start shaking so much I had to rest. Everyone else just kinda held it, while I'm over here sweating buckets (granted I'm 6'1 226lb while most of the class was 5ft skinny women lol). + +The class is only once a week so Ive tried doing a few poses using youtube videos since then and warrior is still a struggle. Somehow when I went to class today though it was EVEN WORSE. Like, its been almost 2 hours since the class ended and my legs are STILL throbbing. + +Is there some way to make the pose easier so I can gradually get better with it?",0 +10928,[COMP] handstand play 03032022. ,0 +10929,"Obese beginner confused where to strat. Hi, +I'm an obese Male (CW 120kg) I'm new to Yoga and looking for a way to start Can anyone suggest a program + +Any help would be appreciated. Thank you",0 +10930,"Is it okay to practice yoga with eyes closed?. I have experienced that I naturally tend to close my eyes during asanas. I feel more connected to my body, it somehow calms my mind, and helps me focus on the sensations. Yet, my yoga instructor is quite strict about this and always tells me to keep my eyes open during asanas. Apparently closing eyes would send mixed signals to the brain and messes up with the hormones. + +I was wondering how true this is and what your experience has been. Is it okay to practice yoga with eyes closed?",0 +10931,I hate going up into mountain pose and down into forward fold and vinyasa flow repeatedly.... I love vinyasa but this really doesn't do much for me. Am I the only one? I just get super light headed and stressed. Does anyone else have this same issue or have any advice on how to go through a variation that won't make me faint?,0 +10932,"do some yoga poses require certain body proportion?. I can perform bridge (chakrasana) and hold it there for a long time, but when it comes to some poses like rajakapotasana (king pigeon pose) my legs can't seem to be anywhere near my head. I try to bend as much as I can and when I bend my back leg and try to get into that pose, my leg idk I think it falls short lol? I have a long torso but not so long legs.. is that a reason why I'm facing difficulty in performing king pigeon pose? Are there any tips to perform it even with shorter legs?",0 +10933,"Is there a type a yoga that does the same set of poses in the same sequence? I like doing the same vinyasa yoga video,40 minutes, every day. However, it doesn’t have many single leg standing poses. I find it meditative to do the same routine. Home practice only.. ",0 +10934,"What’s the biggest change you’ve noticed in yourself since beginning a yoga practice?. I did a session today for the first time in a long time, and was shocked by how much better I felt! Working on not being disappointed that I hadn’t been keeping it up lol.",0 +10935,Does the act of stretching release stress?. I am wondering if the act of stretching relieves stress or if the meditation part is what does the work?,0 +10936,"I did Day 1 of Adriene's 30 Day MOVE Yoga Journey! I am not ready for this, but will persist. I could do with advice or encouragement. I am completely new to Yoga, apart from having tried the beginner workout by Adriene on YouTube a few times in the past year. + +I am a 43 year old male, 6ft 1"" weigh 210lbs and I feel completely out of shape thanks to having a desk job for the past 20+ years. 6 years ago I had [GBS](https://www.ninds.nih.gov/Disorders/Patient-Caregiver-Education/Fact-Sheets/Guillain-Barr%C3%A9-Syndrome-Fact-Sheet) and I am certain that caused a weakness in my muscles, and balance issues to this day. Since then I've done barbell workouts (squats, chest press, row) and dumbbell workouts, but I've never been that consistent. However, I still try to keep on top of that! + +Anyway, whether it's words of wisdom or just some motivation to keep up with Yoga, I wonder if any experienced Yogi's out there can share some of their knowledge? + +For starters, my hips are very inflexible. So are my ham strings. + +I've just completed Day 1 of Adriene's 30 Day Yoga Journey, but here is the trouble I am having already: + +1. Sitting with my legs crossed isn't easy. I start feeling pain in my hip joints. I do it, but have to persevere through the pain. I'm just not used to sitting like that. +2. I feel so heavy that when in the downward dog position, my hands actually leave imprints through the mat! (It's a fairly good 6mm Yoga mat). Not an issue as such, it just makes me feel like I am too heavy for Yoga. +3. When doing [this](https://youtu.be/tLcHTdzykgk?t=1122), my balance is terrible. For some reason it's worse when I have my left arm in the air. The right isn't too bad. +4. When I sit like [this](https://youtu.be/tLcHTdzykgk?t=720), my butt doesn't actually touch the back of my feet. I hover above it because my legs are too big. + +Overall it was a real struggle, and I had to keep stopping to see what she was doing. Am I on the right track though? Is this 30 day challenge meant for beginners like me? + + +**Edit**: Thank you all for the encouragement. It's all so new to me, and even things like breathing properly seem to be a bit overwhelming. I'm glad I've started Yoga and glad I have found this community!",0 +10937,"It’s been over 2 years since I was last adjusted in a class... And I miss it soo much. There’s almost nothing better in the world than having a teacher pull your hips up and back in downward dog, or pushing down on hips and rolling thighs outward in half pigeon. Did covid kill the adjustment forever? I have hopes they will return one day, but what do you think? I have a sad feeling that I’ll be writing a similar post at the same time next year to commemorate the three year mark. I really hope I’m wrong. Teachers, if you’re seeing this, (most of) your students are ready for touch and want to be adjusted again.",0 +10938,"108 sun salutations for the winter solstice. The yoga studio offered this event and I thought it was going to be easy ... and I was wrong! + +It actually didn't feel healthy. I got very dizzy and didn't see the benefits as the pace was fast and no pose was held for more than a second (it felt like that). + +I understand the purpose is to welcome and celebrate the change of season. Just wondering if anyone here can educate me on the benefits of doing 108 sun salutations with no break and no time to hold a pose ?",0 +10939,"Stop what you're doing. Relax and close your eyes... Take a deep breath, hold it for a few seconds... and exhale. Repeat it for another time. Once your body is calm, you can start yoga. Now keep scrolling, you're good to go.. ",0 +10940,"Which side of the yoga mat am I supposed to stand? The rubbery side or the soft, blanket like side?. ",0 +10941,Manduka mat damaged?? I got a manduka mat today in the mail and it’s covered in scratches and handprints… it says some discoloration is normal but this looks excessive??? Is this normal?. ,0 +10942,"Yoga for healing from trauma?. Does anyone have any recommendations for poses or yoga practices to help heal from trauma? A few months ago I went through a traumatic birth experience when I had my son, and prior to that I had suffered a miscarriage, so my body has been through a lot and looking to yoga to help me on my healing journey. I’ve done yoga almost daily for years prior to giving birth but have not done much in the last few months since having my son. Thank you in advance for any suggestions!",0 +10943,"[COMP] First time posting, but I’m so proud of my progress from my first crow in 2020 to today. I never thought an arm balance would become my favorite pose!. ",0 +10944,"What if I'm not flexible/skinny?. Recently I wanted to get into yoga again. A few years ago I took some classes and I really enjoyed it, so I thought I could try again at home. + +I bought a mat and got started, but I couldn't reach some of the postures and got really frustrated. For background, I danced for all my childhood so I'm very strict when it comes to my flexibility and durability, but for personal reasons I haven't danced in a while so my physical state is not the best right now. I have also gained some weight and I couldn't stop thinking about I can't do the postures properly because of it, and how I don't look like any of the people I see doing yoga online. I struggle with body dysmorphia and I feared this would happen, and it did. + +If you have some advice, or beginner friendly routines on YouTube, please drop them below. + +Apologies for any bad spelling, English is not my first language, and apologies if this is not appropriate in this sub, I'll delete it if it shouldn't be here. + +Thanks for reading me ramble! + + +Edit: Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and for all of your advice and encouragement! It was incredibly helpful and I'll definetly be using all your tips and looking the info up. It's great to see a community being so kind to begginers.",0 +10945,[COMP]: MORNING FLOW. ,0 +10946,[COMP] pincha mayurasana - forearm stand :). ,0 +10947,"Creating a new habit- Yoga every day!. I’m embarking on a challenge for myself to do yoga every day for the next 66 days. Whether it’s 10 min or 90 min, my goal is to practice once a day. +It takes approximately 66 days to form a new habit so here we go. Would love to have a little community support each other. Who’s with me?",0 +10948,"Full Body Daily Yoga Routine?. I was wondering if anyone had a recommendation for a go-to daily yoga flow that targets the full body? I have a hard time with doing something new everyday, and I think I would prefer to do the same practice every day with modifications a day or two a week to try new things. I want to become more consistent, but I have ADHD and it can be hard to incorporate something new all the time. I know this may sound silly. + +EDIT: Wow! Thank you to everyone who responded. I had an intense day at work, so I wasn’t able to check replies until now. I really appreciate all the suggestions and look forward to trying a lot of these out!",0 +10949,"Video Yoga and the Paralysis of Choice. I am about to complete my third ""30 days of yoga"" video course of the last two years. I feel amazing (just like I did the first two times) and intend to keep up the habit (just like I did the first two times). Unfortunately, every time I complete 30 days of yoga, I fall off the wagon as soon as the 30 days are up. + +I think I've identified the culprit making it so hard for me to maintain my practice: decision paralysis. I hate trying to find a new video on youtube every time I sit down to do yoga. Even if I find an instructor I like, sifting through their videos to find one that seems appropriate for my mood takes forever, and once I start a video I spend the first 10 minutes thinking I should've chosen a different one. It all adds up to a tremendous time suck for an hour of yoga, and not a great headspace for doing it. + +The ultimate solution here is probably to just CHILL OUT, and I'm working on that, but in the meantime I'm looking for some kind of service (free or pay) that will direct me to which video I can play without thinking about it too much. I need someone to tell me that ""this is today's video, this is the one you do"" so I can get out of my own way. + +Does anyone know of such a service?",0 +10950,"Can’t stop excessively sweating 2-3 hours after hot yoga. Does anyone else have this issue? Hours after my hot yoga session, I’m still sweating. I’m not hot at all. I’m actually freezing and the sweat is concentrated only in my torso area (stomach, chest, and mainly back) + +It’s really uncomfortable 🥴 + +I’m not sure if this is normal for hot yoga or if this is a sign of some other underlying condition.",0 +10951,"Could someone explain the difference between Vinyasa and Hatha?. Hi, I started yoga a few months ago but I’m still confused about the difference between vinyasa and hatha yoga. I’ve seen some websites say Vinyasa is a type of Hatha flow and others categorize them as completely different so I’m just looking for some clarity.",0 +10952,"Is 30 minutes, 7 days a week of yoga enough to see mental/ spiritual benefits?. Title",0 +10953,"Should you push through dizziness or stop when you start getting dizzy?. So I really want to be able to make it though an entire 1 hour hot yoga class but at about the 30 minute mark I get dizzy when going from ground poses to standing poses and I usually spend most of the second half on the ground in childs pose. What confuses me is there are people who seem to be in much worse shape then me making it through everything without a blip. + +What I am thinking is maybe I should time the amount of time that it takes for me to get to the dizzy state and then stop as soon as it hits and just chill for the rest of the class. If I do that each time I will be able to tell if I am progressing or staying the same. I also do not know if it is healthy to push through dizziness as well. + +I do not have any heart conditions. I have seen a cardiologist and done every test including wearing a halter monitor for an entire month and all they found was a mild pre-contraction of the left ventricle which they stated is not even slightly an issue. + +TLDR: I get dizzy halfway through hot yoga classes. Should I stop at dizziness or push through as usual?",0 +10954,"Just faceplanted for the first time during class. So I was practicing flying pigeon in class earlier today, and fell flat on my face in front of the whole class. + +It didn’t hurt too much but to be honest the shock and embarrassment of it all has left me feeling a bit upset, even though I’m sure no one else in the class cares.. + +Who has some yoga class disaster stories to make me feel better?!",0 +10955,Are you over 50 and practice yoga? What kind of style yoga do you practice? I’m 50 and have been teaching yoga for 15 years and practicing for 25 years. My style of yoga has changed as I’ve gotten older. Do you think people who are older should practice differently than a 25 year old?. ,0 +10956,[COMP] Three chaturangas with slight variations. Which one is the best?. ,0 +10957,"I've never felt connected to my body like this before. It's really amazing, I've heard so much about how yoga changes peoples' perceptions of themselves in relation to their bodies... But I never imagined it would happen to me, especially while I'm still very much in the beginning stages of this journey. + +I've been in so many unhealthy cycles and patterns regarding eating and exercising, alternating between aggressive exercise + calorie counting, and barely moving + eating myself to death. + +I now can feel my body as more than just a vessel for my consciousness, more than something I simply want to physically change. I can feel it, as this thing that's living and working so hard for me to be able to live. Now, instead of excessively counting calories or binge eating, I want to genuinely nourish it. + +I can feel yoga actively changing my life. I know I'm not where I want to be yet, and I would be lying to say I don't want to/care about losing weight anymore... but this is the first time a healthy lifestyle is coming to me as something I can sustain. I want to nourish my body properly and give it the fuel it needs to work the best that it can. I know my body will thank me as a result; be it through weight loss or gaining muscle strength. + +It makes me feel hopeful. It also makes me feel comforted.",0 +10958,"Best mat for super sweaty guy?. Title says it all. I sweat a lot, like a lot a lot. Halfway through a class it’s a literal slip and slide to the point where down dog isn’t even reasonable and I end up in modified dd, puppy I think it’s called. + +What mats do y’all super sweaters use? Expense isn’t really an issue. + +TYIA + +Edit: thanks for all the great responses guys, giving me a lot to consider. + +Should’ve also added that I tend to do primarily hot yoga and don’t really want to use a towel. Maybe unreasonable given the reality of how much I sweat but one can dream.",0 +10959,First chin stand! Any tips? [COMP]. ,0 +10960,[COMP] Baddha Hasta Sirsasana B (almost to straight legs). ,0 +10961,"Healing anxiety through yoga. Just thought I'd share this :) + +I was laying in bed struggling to fall asleep, feeling that night time day-before-work-week anxiety creep in. Started feeling that dread and all the physical symptoms. + +But then I randomly thought back to yoga class this morning, how calm, peaceful, joyful and cozy I felt on my mat. How child's pose felt like a hug. How when I started class my breath felt tight but after a few minutes I finally felt that swoop at the top and bottom of my breath that feels like I took a satisfying deep breath. Today's class was a tight knit, laid back group, and we were giggling as we tried to hold balance poses. With them I felt community. I felt strong as I gently challenged myself in each pose. + +6 months ago that anxious feeling would have sent me spiraling into a panic attack. I felt so alone, isolated, lost and helpless. I watched a video about a woman healing anxiety and depression in which she said she started going to yoga class every day, and that it was an hour of respite to keep her afloat. She said it saved her life. That gave me permission to take up space, to show up for myself and start my yoga practice by going to daily classes. Of course I still feel anxiety, but I am identifying with it less. I am breathing into it the way I do with tightness in physical Asana. On nights that I am really struggling, Ive been thinking back to that peace and re-cultivating it in the moment. If that feels too impossible, I use my next yoga class as a marking point for proof that it will pass. ""I feel anxious right now, but I have yoga tomorrow. I always feel better after yoga."" + +I only started October 2021 but now I can't imagine not having yoga in my life. I feel so excited to be able to look back one day and see my growth in my practice, the community that I continue to discover. Yoga makes me feel like good things are coming to me :) I started healing because someone shared why they started, so I figured I'd pass it on.",0 +10962,"I hit my goal on the last class of the year. I’m traveling the rest of the calendar year, but was able to hit 365 classes in 2021. + +Not much else to say, another year, another goal. In three years I’ve hit 994 classes, even with a 6 month shutdown in 2020, and I’ll get to 1,000 classes before the calendar gets to three years (Jan 9th). + +Keep on truckin. + +That’s all, that’s the post.",0 +10963,"Looking to improve flexibility in my hips, groin, and whole pelvis area. Picture inside on what I'm trying to target. Need help please!. 31/M/5'10/199 lbs I'm trying to get more flexibility doing this type of movement and position. This is the farthest I can put down my leg when resting it on my other leg. Cant even go horizontal and things like sitting cross legged and stuff like that is very difficult. What exercises or stretches would I need to do to improve this position? https://imgur.com/a/t6ZNE4T + +I've been doing the butterfly yoga pose because my ""splits"" is very bad flexibility as well. Basically just want to improve my hips and pelvis and everything around the groin flexibility. I feel very limited in my hips and groin area on flexibility",0 +10964,"Do you include Savasana in your at-home practice?. Typically when I practice at home I self-guide myself through a flow (i.e. not following a video or other set sequence). Once I finish flowing, I usually feel no urge to take a savasana and just roll up my mat and go about my day. When I practice in studio I really enjoy savasana and settle in, but at home it feels like I can’t truly relax. + +My question is, am I really missing out on any major benefits by NOT including savasana? I don’t want to sell my practice short, but if unable/uninterested in the pose I’m not sure it’s worth doing. + +Would be interested in others thoughts and experiences. Thanks in advance!",0 +10965,Bridge pose at Beam's rocks in the Laurel Highlands (COMP). ,0 +10966,"Hot yoga. Mat completely drenched of sweat. Am I the only one?. I've recently stopped smoking weed (habit of 10+ years) last month. I've been questioning myself if this would be the reason why I seem to be the only one wiping down his area after an hour session. I don't wear a shirt and my shorts and boxers are completely drenched. I'm now into my 3rd week of yoga. + +Male 6'1"" 171lbs 30years old. I've always been the active kind of person going to the gym every other day. I never really broke a sweat until the end of my workouts and even then. I drink lots of water in my days. I take electrolytes regularly along with creatine for my workouts at home. + +I just find it very weird that I'm the last one out of the room wiping his area down and making so much noise when sliding my weight on my feet.",0 +10967,"I started doing yoga and now I feel the need to stretch 24/7. Is that normal? + +I took up yoga fairly recently (started doing it a few months ago, but it's just been a couple of weeks when I do a light session everyday) and while it's been feeling great, I realized now I'm stretching my shoulders or back constantly. Working at home, on the car, while cooking, when I go to bed at night and so on. + +Is there a chance that's related to doing yoga?",0 +10968,"What's your yoga routine? As in, do you do it in the morning or evening? Whenever, what does your routine look like? Do you wake up at 5 or 7? What do you have before yoga?. tell me everything!!!! + +​ + +Trying to start a new 30 day yoga program! Been glued to my couch for months and it's really getting to me the stiffness in the body. Want to start with yoga then transition to weights.",0 +10969,"[COMP] Spontaneous flow in the dark; office backrooms.. +I’ve noticed I missed the second side for my half split but I wanted to post anyway. Even if only to honor our transition into darker seasons ... praise Samhain and your harvest 🖤🧡",0 +10970,"New practice, now I'm suffering from a coregasm which just does not stop.. So after 2.5 years of doing Yoga with Adriene, I moved on to a new online teacher. I started with 30 days of Yoga by Gayatri Yoga on Youtube and I have to say, it is amazing. The practices are a lot more intense and physical, but something weird happened. + +Already after the first day, I started feeling an intense sensation in my core, right above my belly button. Today i finished day three, and since a couple of hours I feel like I am continuously having an orgasm. I'm a male and it is very, very odd, as it feels as if it is coming from a completely different place than it ""normally"" does. The problem, if you can even call it that, is that is just does not go away. It's been three or four hours now and no matter whether I relax or tighten my abs up, it just keeps going. I was just in the store and had to laugh out loud because of this insanely intense sensation while checking out the avocados. + +I've experienced this once before, but that was when I just started Yoga, while I was in Savasana. Has anybody experienced this as well? Any tips on getting rid of it, or dealing with it? Thanks!",0 +10971,"What is your favourite or rather, “hero” yoga asana?. TLDR: I love the frog pose. Which is your favourite asana, that may or may not be a tough one, but really makes you feel like a million bucks? + +Description: + +I just really love the frog pose. It makes me feel a tiny bit special within my heart in every yoga class. + +The first time I tried it, I was 30 kgs overweight and most poses were hard for me. I felt so inadequate compared to the other people in the yoga class. + +And then the instructor moved us into frog and lo and behold! My hips opened like they had been doing it forever; so much so that I didn’t even realise it’s supposed to be an advanced pose. I was chilling there, wondering if I am supposed to feel a stretch anywhere. + +Other people were staring, including the instructor, who told me I am incredibly flexible in the hips. The girl next to me actually clapped and asked in awe if I have any hip bones at all. + +So it’s my hero pose, the one I do for comfort and encouragement in my journey towards becoming the best and fittest version of myself.",0 +10972,"What's your take on the role and importance of breath in yoga?. Hey fellow yogis, +I'm a long time practitioner and more recent instructor. Over the years I've heard so many different cues and scripts regarding how and why to use the breath through yoga postures. Speaking aside from pranayama as a standalone practice, I'm interested to draw together multiple perspectives on how and why breath should be used throughout asana, and what kinds of cues you use or enjoy. + + +Part of the reason I'm asking is to help me stitch together a more comprehensive concept of yogic breath. Another reason is that I think students, myself included, can get confused or overwhelmed about the myriad whys and hows as well. Clarification on this is, well, purification I suppose! + + +My perspective is varied, but a few facets I think of is a) breath as a channel for focus/meditation, b)breath as muscular expansion/contraction of the diaphragm bandhas and that diffusion into surrounding musculature, and c) nourishing vs expelling waste in cells. + + +Thanks for sharing, namaste.",0 +10973,"We have started going to classes!. I’m sure you get these kind of posts frequently, but my husband and I have just started going to free Yoga classes at the community center in our city. We’re both pretty out of shape and sedentary, and I specifically am very overweight. We just did our second class yesterday and we are so sore but it’s very fun! Excited to continue on this journey!",0 +10974,"Pelvic tilt and yoga practice.. Just want to share with You something that might be obvious for some but it was an amazing thing for me. + +I discovered I have a pelvic tilt and of course that carries on onto all aspects of life, including yoga. I have been an intermittent practitioner since I was around sixteen years old. +I grew up in a home where the military way to stand was the norm (anterior pelvic tilt) and so I did for years. + +The difference I feel now after adjusting my posture to a neutral spine by stacking ribs over pelvis is like night and day, even pyriformis isn't irritated anymore! And now more asanas make sense, like NOW I can actually feel my core engaging in Utkatasana and so many more. + +Hope someone finds this tidbit helpful. +English is not my first language, sorry for any spelling or grammar mistakes.",0 +10975,Down Dog app - no option for Hatha yoga. Am I missing something obvious? Beginner here.. ,0 +10976,What’s the range of motion being shown here? When I try to do this it feels like my hips are about to explode even though I’m hypermobile.. ,0 +10977,"Interested in yoga, but also have some reservations I thought I would ask about. I've never tried yoga. But people seem to recommend it for fitness, flexibility, and things like that. I'm a 65 year old male and have lost a lot of weight, so I'm no longer overweight. But I don't really have any upper body muscles. I do walk a lot though. And I'm feeling a bit stiff lately in some joints. I'm thinking maybe yoga is a possible way to go, rather than boring gym exercises. And if it helps with relaxation that's also good. + +But my hesitation is what seems like the religious aspect. Can we do yoga without all that? I was reading about ""namaste"" the other day and apparently except in western countries (according to the articles I've read) it's not really a specially significant expression for yoga in the countries of origin. Namaste in those countries is simply a greeting, like hello and goodbye. Is that true? + +Anyway, I really don't want to get into any cultural/spiritual/religious Hindu/Buddhist/whatever things. I'm just interested mainly in health/flexibility/strength benefits. *I absolutely mean no offense.* People should follow whatever practices they believe and are comfortable with. But I'm just not into that, and personally would feel uncomfortable with that aspect. + +Are there others like me who are just into yoga for health/flexibility/strength benefits and want to avoid the rest? If so, where's a good place to start in that case? + +Thanks.",0 +10978,"Yoga for anxiety?. Hey everyone, + +I have generalized anxiety disorder and panic disorder (insomnia, racing heart/elevates my blood pressure, racing thoughts, phobias, tension held in my body especially my neck). + +I have been practicing yoga and meditation from YouTube and noticed a huge improvement in my ability to relax my body and mind. I've done different styles and was wondering what's the best for someone with these issues? I'm thinking of focusing on yin or restorative, what exactly is the difference between the two and which would you recommend? + +Also, which types are best for different times in the day? + +Thank you! Would love to hear from others who have developed a regular practice to help with their anxiety. + +Disclaimer for anyone else with anxiety reading this: I've been on psychiatric medications for years, so I'm not saying yoga/meditation alone is helping me. + +Edit: I'll be thinking of all you kind internet friends tonight as I do some relaxing yoga 🥰",0 +10979,[COMP] Urdhva Dhanurasana April-June Progression. ,0 +10980,"Crying from pigeon pose. I’m fairly new to yoga maybe two months now. Every time I do pigeon pose in a class setting I start crying lately it’s gone from a whimper to a belly crying. I know hips store emotion, I’ve been trying to channel this at home but simply getting into the pose isn’t enough. Any ideas for what I can do at home to help me release more? Do I need to simply be more patient? Is this something that will pass? + +Im pretty good at accepting the crying when it happens and just let it flow out of me. Im just curious if there’s something I can do to help my body while it works through all this?",0 +10981,"Has anyone heard of yoga bringing back depression?. I tried a yoga class for the first time about a week ago, and immediately after the class, I noticed old feelings and thoughts from around 7 years ago, including suicidal thoughts and thoughts of self harm. I figured it must have been me bottling up the feelings in muscle tension, and the yoga releasing it so that I could actually deal with it properly. Which I thought I did, and so I did some more yoga the next day (which I'm really really enjoying, despite what I've just said). But then I got more depressed, and think it's likely here to stay a while. It really feels like my old depression has returned and not changed at all. + +Has anyone heard of anything like this happening? Or is it probably just a coincidence of timing? I tried to Google it, but only found results about yoga helping with depression. I have heard about emotions getting stuck in the muscles and then released in yoga/massages before, but not to this extent. + +I'm still doing and enjoying the yoga, and think it's doing me good even if it's unearthing issues like this.",0 +10982,Advice to improve my downward dog [comp]. ,0 +10983,"I love you, Yoga!. Just came here to say that. Yoga has become my best friend. That sounds cheesy, but it’s true. + +I have RA and a desk job. Not a good combination. I left the office yesterday in pain from head to toe. All I wanted was my bed. But I pushed through my practice and I’m so glad I did. By the time I was finished I had no pain, my mind was clear, and my heart was uplifted. <3",0 +10984,Meditate 🧘🏻‍♀️ #kundaliniyoga. ,0 +10985,quick q…. so there’s this thing that happens every time I am holding a back bend for a few breaths…feels like I am going to absolutely org@sm ! It feels so crazy I have to get out of the pose. Does this happen to anyone else and is there an explanation? Lol,0 +10986,"[COMP] Can someone critique my cat cow pose? I did it in 3 forms, which one is the most accurate?. ",0 +10987,Hiiiii I’m wondering if anyone has advice to make my noodle level strength arms strong like my legs so my yoga practice can evolve into more postures. I would say my goal is to be able to hold my body weight with ease while I flow. I’d like to be able to do crow pose and handstands too but really my practice is about flowing right now. My practice is forever evolving for sure but I’d like to be able to have arm strength in my skill set bc I’m hell bent on becoming a certified instructor this year 💗,0 +10988,"What makes a good yoga teacher?. I finished my YTT a year ago and am finally garnering the confidence to teach. What do you like about your favourite yoga teachers/classes? What factors contributed to the studio you chose? What things don't you like? Are there things you wish for in a class or studio that are hard to find? + +I have long-term goals of opening a studio with pranayama and meditation classes as well, so if you have input relating to those please let me know. + +EDIT: Thank you so much for all of your insight! ",0 +10989,"Yoga that changed my life!. Since the mid of 2020, I had developed so much lethargy and my health was going bad. I got critically low vitamin D and B12 and had to be taken to the hospital when my lips turned pale one day. It was a point where every news channel showed COVID death count around the world. I was a mess, mentally and physically. But in October, 2020, a friend shared a video of Sadhguru with me where he spoke about how Inner Engineering can change people's experiences of life. I didn't really understand, but I enrolled myself for the program, but it was the first time he offered it online. I was confused but I went for it. On the initiation day, I felt something so beautiful. It was not happiness or sadness, but some sort of a 'high' for a while. Something so powerful. I started practicing whatever was taught everyday. And now, after one year of practice, my perception of things has changed. My temper has totally gone down (I was once an OCD struck angry little girl). I enjoy little things and so many opportunities have come my way to help the world and myself. +My mother told me a couple of days ago that I have become a beautiful human. While I am not sure of that, I have definitely become a better one. Also, I did a few Hatha Yoga practices after that and my menstrual health and mental health have improved and I am now in a better place. +I felt like sharing this here, as I'm so happy, and I hope all of us experience this feeling one day!",0 +10990,What are some “spiritual” yoga practices besides kundalini. I’m tryna get into yoga more for my spiritual growth and their is so many different kinds of yoga I’m confused on what to do,0 +10991,"(COMP) Looking for some exercises for my terrible shoulder mobility that’s turning my handstands into a banana because as you can see, the ones I’ve been doing haven’t been working to well haha.Thanks😊. ",0 +10992,"Books focused on the physical side of yoga?. Hello! I hope this post is okay, I checked in the FAQs and didn't really find what I was looking for, but please feel free to direct me to the right spot if I missed it! + +I've been practicing yoga at home for two years now, mostly with videos, first with yoga with adrienne, then I moved on to an alo moves subscription. I really enjoy it, but as expected, I struggle to deepen my practice with only watching videos. One day I will join a local yoga class, but currently, my schedule really doesn't allow for it. + +I would like to find a book that goes into detail on the anatomy of poses, which muscles to engage, where I should feel the stretch etc. I have a book by Iyengar at home, and while it is very helpful, his yoga style is not exactly the one I practice and he doesn't go into the amount of detail I feel I need to understand the poses from qn anatomy point of view, if that makes sense. Ideally, the books I would be looking for would also help with transitions in a more fluid, vinyasa-style practice. + +Does anyone have any recommendations? And thank you so much in advance!",0 +10993,[COMP] The shark is fine. ,0 +10994,How does stretching and yoga relieve the body?. ,0 +10995,"First class guy. Just wanted to say thank you to everyone who commented on my first post it really helped push me through the door and the class! + +It went great! I signed up for a membership! I really liked it. Going to start with once a week. I’m really looking forward to this new journey. + +I found myself smiling during some of the stretches. And it was apparently a hot yoga class which was a little scary at first but it turned out nicely! + +Downward dog was definitely the toughest position for me 😬",0 +10996,[COMP] 🦎. ,0 +10997,What are some of your barriers to attending a yoga class or aligning yourself with the yoga community?. Do you see yourself reflected in the studio teachers? Can your local studios accommodate your physical/emotional/language needs? What keeps you out of studios and how can studios do better to be inclusive to all?,0 +10998,"I did 108 Sun Salutations!. Lately, I have seen many posts, articles, and videos about the significance of doing 108 Surya Namaskar. I took this as a sign to go for it and do it myself. I have been practicing yoga about two years, and I completed my 200 hour yoga teacher training last year. I was not sure which type of Sun salutation to do, so I did 108 Ashtanga Surya Namaskar A, since my teaching mostly revolves around vinyasa sun A, and the two are similar. Near the end my arms got tired and I did cobra instead of chataranga, and I skipped a few chatarangas here and there and went straight to down dog. But I mostly got through it. +Has anyone else done this? If so, what type of Sun salutation do you use?",0 +10999,"Arms too short or legs too long?. Every time I try to transfer myself from the downward dog position to any other “leg in between arms” position, I encounter problems. I see people around me being able to smoothly swing their leg, so that it is neatly placed in between their arms at a right angle. However, when I attempt to do it, I’m never able to swing my leg to reach the right destination. It always ends up stuck halfway. Then I need to lift myself a bit and adjust it. I always wonder if it’s my arms being too short, making my legs impossible to be moved in one go or are those my legs that are just too long? Anyone else has this problem and is there a way to work it out?",0 +11000,"Had my first experience with a more traditional practice (I guess) and I'm confused.. I'm 6 months into practicing yoga and have been experimenting different studios. Though I mostly stick to 2 studios, I've tried 20+ different places so far. + +Today, for the first time, practiced at a studio where they chanted. The practice started and ended with chanting over the sound of a harmonium played by the teacher. + +Since I don't know the chants (or even what they mean) I was a bit lost during those times. How do people learn those when they don't speak the language? Or are those just sounds? Am I supposed to be just following along? Is everyone else actually just following along? + +When I came home I watched a Sadhguru video about chants where he says most don't have a meaning. But then I missed the whole purpose. What are we trying to achieve by chanting?",0 +11001,"Allowing myself to release the tension of the past few years. I just today realized that I'm carrying so much tension and anxiety, and it's manifesting in fatigue, soreness, insomnia, and weight gain that I've been beating myself up for. I read The Body Keeps the Score and I know that our bodies hold these things, but I needed the reminder. I think I'm so numb to my body that I don't even notice the effect that reading the news has on me. + +So I put on Yoga with Adriene's ""Yoga for Tension Relief"" and was shocked to find myself crying within a couple of (noisy) breaths, then sobbing. I'm sure it will take many rounds of this, but I feel lighter and am going to try to make this more a part of my practice. It's funny because I've been doing yoga this whole time, but I didn't give myself ""permission"" to let go and release things until today, and it turns out I had a lot in there.",0 +11002,"Sweaty palms and feet during yoga, how do you overcome it?. My palms and feet are always sweaty so I am always sliding off my pose during downward dog. I’ve heard that it’s not recommended to put a towel on top of the mat as it doesn’t allow you to push your hands into the mat during downward dog. Is it true? + +Any tips on how to overcome it? Did it get better for you over time?",0 +11003,[COMP] Straightest Sirsasana so far. ,0 +11004,Is Online Yoga really worth it?. ,0 +11005,"What is something you wish your yoga studio had?. Currently turning extra room in our house to my own little yoga studio and I’m looking for some suggestions of what to have/add, so what is something you wish you had in your own studio or what you think studios should all have! I have the basic mat and props but hoping to level it up any way I can. Thanks in advance :) + +EDIT: ahhhh thank you everyone for all these lovely suggestions! When I get everything situated I’ll post pictures to show you all, very very grateful to have all these awesome ideas from awesome people, thank you thank you!",0 +11006,[COMP] Balasana > Raja Bhujangasana > Balasana. ,0 +11007,[COMP] so I backed off scorpion until I can get into a bent leg pincha without too much momentum and with more core strength how am i doing so far? This is day 3 working solely on bent leg pincha.. ,0 +11008,"I finally cried during yoga!!!. After 3-4 years of practicing yoga at home, i finally made it out to a group class. And I cried. And I feel so good. And my love for yoga continues to grow. That's all. +😁😁😁",0 +11009,[COMP] downside up sunshine. ,0 +11010,Yoga with Adriene - is that applicable for man too or I have to follow any male yoga videos?. ,0 +11011,"Newfound passion in yoga. Hi, I've lurked here a few months and I figured I'd finally say something after the month I've had. + +I struggle with my mental health and a couple of weeks ago, I had to be admitted to a behavioral hospital. For recreational therapy, I was encouraged to attend one of their yoga classes. I've been doing yoga here and there for years by way of DVD or youtube. This was different somehow. My mind was clear after and it made me feel energized for the rest of the day- despite how mind-numbingly boring a hospital can be. + +When I was released, I thought on it and got a gym membership with classes included. Then I attended my first hatha yoga class. I was blown away. It was hard but still relaxing. It made me feel capable and strong. I was able to receive correction on poses. I'm hooked. I had no idea that attending a live class would make such a difference for me. + +I just wanted to share. Thanks for reading!",0 +11012,"Which yoga poses are good for relaxing neck, shoulder and head area?. ",0 +11013,"I will have my first Vinyasa flow class tomorrow! What are some before and after tips, so I won’t get sore for a few days?. I took up Soul Cycle recently and got REALLY sore because of that and even though maybe Vinyasa is a bit less intense than indoor cycling- i’m not taking any chances because that really ruined my week. My legs hurt soooo much I couldn’t walk. + +Any before and after tips to avoid any pain? I will be walking before and after the class uphill and downhill, and I have a foam roller (which really helped while I was sore btw). + +Thank you! So excited to start yoga again after taking a couple classes a few years ago!",0 +11014,Sometimes i feel its good to let your body naturally guide you into how it wants to be stretched. Let things flow. ,0 +11015,Do you guys have a side that is much harder to breathe through during alternate nostril breathing?. Like my left side always feels kinda blocked like it can't get enough air,0 +11016,"Discussion: What are your views on Yoga cultural misappropriation vs Yoga evolving as a practice?. A friend from my teacher training sent us an article about Yoga and cultural appropriation. The article had a lot of solid points, and it made me start thinking about how much of the changes we see in the west are legitamate forms of cultural appropriation, and what changes are simply the practice evolving to fit the needs of the West. + +For example, the article called out beer yoga and goat yoga as forms of cultural appropriation, and I can see how that could be the case. + +On the other hand, I feel like it could be something that opens the door for someone to delve deeper into the roots of Yoga. + +What are your thoughts? + +Link to the article: https://yogainternational.com/article/view/how-we-can-work-together-to-avoid-cultural-appropriation-in-yoga",0 +11017,How can I fix this asymmetry body shape. Can I change it through my sleeping position because that’s where I think the cause it. Need Help. ,0 +11018,Some practice after a short break. Have you ever tried to stand on sadhu board?. ,0 +11019,"Had an amazing experience back at hot yoga for the first time since having foot surgery!. I had a very invasive foot surgery with ensuing complications about 4 months ago. Last night I finally went back to my favorite hot yoga studio and the instructor let me know there would be a lot of balancing poses but I could modify or skip poses as I please. + +First, my balance on my surgery foot was still pretty great! I guess I didn’t realize that balance really is a skill that won’t just disappear if you don’t use it for a few months. I did a lot of core exercises when I was still unable to walk during my recovery and I think that helped. + +Second-if you haven’t been to a hot yoga place yet you need to try it! It got up to 102 degrees in the room because it was a very crowded class. After about 45 minutes of flow we finally lay down and my body just melted into the mat. I felt high, both physically and mentally, and it was awesome 🤪 + +Just wanted to share with my fellow yogis, have a great day and I hope you get to try some hot yoga soon!",0 +11020,[COMP] Don’t forget to feel good while practicing!🌸. ,0 +11021,"Is it possible to do yoga without triggering vertigo?. I can't do the poses where I have to place my head flat on the ground or upside down in a sideways manner for a long time. I did those the first time and it threw me off balance and I nearly vomited from the dizziness. + +So is there a certain set of poses where the head is upright most of the time? Or where I don't need to position my head upside down and look sideways? I'm kinda new and want to give yoga a try again.",0 +11022,"Can't even do beginners yoga. Hello friends. + +I have been weightlifting for years which has made me incredibly tight in my lower body and back. I can't even do most of the beginner yoga poses, for example I can't put my hands down to my feet and in general I struggle with anything that requires lower body flexibility. + +This makes me kind of demotivated but I really love the effect yoga had on me so far. If anyone has tips for me or some ultra-beginner yoga videos that would be great! + +Thank you. + +Edit: I went to sleep and didn't expect so much responses haha, thanks for the advice guys, the fact that you care so much gives me more motivation to continue!",0 +11023,"Anxiety in Savasana?. I attend a hot yoga class every Tuesday and sometimes Saturdays. I really enjoy these sessions and feel so much better afterwards, but I’m finding at the end of the session I have anxiety in Savasana and I’m unable to let go and relax.. it’s like I get that “doom” feeling as soon as I enter it. and by the time I’m close to being able to relax the bell rings for the session to end. + +I’m not sure why I feel this way, I absolutely love the instructor and she repeats several mantras and affirmations during the practice to make me feel safe and strong and as we make our way to Savasana she shut off the lights and hands out towels scented with essential oils to put over our eyes and the music is very calming. Basically, she does a great job in making it a safe and relaxing environment so why do I feel this way only when entering Savasana in these sessions? Any tips? Anyone else experience the same thing? + +Background: I do suffer for anxiety but I feel that I’ve been making a lot of progress in my anxiety journey and I just find it weird how the anxiety comes up specifically in Savasana.. it’s like my body is waiting for me to relax and end the session so anxiety can come up (if that makes sense lol)",0 +11024,Yoga Sequencing. For the first time in my practice I did yoga on my own today. It was incredible to just flow and go at my own pace and respond to my breath and what my body needed. I want to keep doing this but have lots to learn still. Should I look into Ashtanga yoga since there are certain series you follow? Is that something I could teach myself using YouTube? Or are there sequence cards or routines I could print out? Any other ideas welcomed! I found it so liberating today. Thanks in advance.,0 +11025,"Horrible anxiety after hip openers. Late last night I did a long yin yoga session after months of not really moving my body much, with a lot of deep hip openers, and my anxiety is absolutely horrible right now. Is this normal? I’ve heard that after hip openers a lot of emotion and trauma may come up the next few days because it’s trying to be released from the body. + +How do I ride this wave? Any wisdom for me/what do you guys recommend to keep me grounded and soothe my anxiety?",0 +11026,"I'm starting at a gym over the summer, so I have a question. Does yoga work as a sort of supplement for larger workouts, or should it stand alone as it's own thing? Let me know that y'all think.. ",0 +11027,[COMP] a series of inversions. I just got my handstand today and I definitely need to straighten out my back but I thought this was a fun collage!,0 +11028,"I had a huge breakthrough this week. So recently I've been thinking about the impact that our internal dialogues have on our actions. It started with little things. Instead of waking up every morning thinking ""Ugh it sucks that I have to go to work every day"", I started telling myself ""I'm so lucky to be able to have a stable full-time job to help provide for my boyfriend and I"". + +Then I decided to apply this line of thinking to my yoga and meditation practice. Though I've been consistently doing 10 minutes of yoga a day, I've been feeling a little stuck because the idea of increasing the length of my sessions was so daunting. I would sometimes increase the time to 12 minutes but be exhausted by the end because the entire time I would be thinking ""I have only ever been able to do 10 minutes. This is unrealistic."" + +But then a week ago I asked myself ""Who's to say I can't go for 20 minutes? Why am I so convinced that 600 seconds of practice is a magic number that I cannot reasonably exceed?"" + +And so I said screw it. I laid out my mat, opened the Down Dog app, and I doubled the session length. lnstead of filling my mind with doubtful thinking, I simply told myself ""I can do this. And I have no reason to believe otherwise."" + +AND GUESS WHAT GUYS??? FOR THE PAST 4 DAYS I HAVE DONE 20 MINUTES OF YOGA EVERY DAY. + +And contrary to my previous beliefs, I am fully capable of this. Is it harder? Sure. Impossible? Hell no. And alongside this massive breakthrough, my practice has become so much more profound and beneficial. Never underestimate the impact of your internal narrative. You have the power to rewrite it everyday.",0 +11029,"Beginner Downward Facing Dog Tips. So I just started doing yoga at home last week and I love it. However, the one pose I’m not confident in is Downward Dog. I know my shoulders and chest are two of the weakest parts of my body so they tend to be the first part of my body to begin to fatigue. + +With that being said, is shoulder fatigue normal in downward dog? It’s NOT pain, nothing hurts or stings; it’s more like the burn you feel when you’re at the gym and you’re really using your muscles",0 +11030,What's a book every Yoga beginner should read?. ,0 +11031,"Beginning Yoga teacher here, how long do you like your Savasana ? (that sweet rest at the end of class). Just wondering as my first class ran a little short, so I added a few minutes of Savasana, it was about 10 minutes. One person said they wondered if it would ever end!",0 +11032,[comp] I struggle with crow;Any advice on how to have better form? This video is from last year however my form has not improved. TIA ❤️. ,0 +11033,"Is yoga making my sciatica worse?. I love yoga. It changed my life. I started back in 2019 due to a debilitating sciatic condition. Yoga helped from literally the first class, and that inspired me to become a teacher. My training was so amazing that I stayed for an additional 300 hour course the following month. + +But now, I’m wondering if yoga has perhaps run its course for me. These days, I feel worse after a practice. It doesn’t give me any debilitating pain, but during the practice it feels painful, especially forward folds. For a while I thought I was just pushing my body and a little soreness was the result of that, but that the long-term effects could still be positive. Whereas on the other side of that coin, things that give me relief in the moment are actually making my condition worse in the long-term. For example, taking weight off my left side while sitting. It feels good in the moment but I know bending my spine like that and putting excess weight into the opposite shoulder isn’t good. + +I know the first and most obvious answer is to stop doing those folds, modifying or changing my practice to avoid that pain, but I’m really not thrilled about the idea of limiting my mobility. When I talked to doctors they told me no bending no twisting etc. So basically, don’t move my spine. Shockingly that didn’t help. + +Moving my spine is what makes me feel better though, movement makes space, space brings relief. + +I guess I’m wondering if there are any similar experiences out there, and what you may have done. Forward folds used to be so nice, I’d like for that to be the case again, but the nature of a sciatic injury means the circumstances are always changing. Should I take a break from yoga? Take a break from folds? Stop folding altogether and just accept that not being a part of my practice anymore? + +Thanks in advance for your advice. Namaste. + +Edited to add: I generally never feel pain in my back. It’s usually the pirifomis on down. For a while I thought I didn’t have a disc problem. I had surgery for this in 2013 and was pain-free until 2019. Avoiding a second surgery is what brought me to yoga. But I haven’t gotten an MRI this time around.",0 +11034,"[COMP] Today’s inspiration from my students.It takes courage to begin the practice & dedication to stay consistent.Each one of my student has been consistent at practice through thick&thin,literally. I am humbled by their dedication to learn & I choose to be on the path of learning to serve humanity. ",0 +11035,"Went back to class. Oh my. I am a qualified yoga teacher and have taught yoga throughout the pandemic. I have done some online classes with other teachers but i haven't been in a face to face class as a student for over two years. I went today. It was absolutely amazing. I also think I was stronger than before but definitely less flexible. Overall it was amazing and I just wanted to share the joy. Yoga has saved me. First in 2016, then during the pandemic and once again while the world goes bonkers.",0 +11036,"What’s the appeal with hot yoga?. I usually do vinyasa yoga at a studio 5-7 days a week. It’s a great way for me to start my work day and I love my non-heated studio, and community. + +I’m traveling for thanksgiving and decided to try a new yoga studio. The area only had classes for hot yoga, so I gave it a shot. (This was my first time doing hot yoga). + +The room seemed to be set to around 100 degrees. I was uncomfortable upon entering the studio but decided to push through with the flow as I was feeling super tight from the travel. It was so hot, I wasn’t “feeling my body” anymore - it was strange, and I couldn’t tell how hard I was pushing. + +After the flow, I felt sore (so I probably pushed it too far). My left tricep, especially, is still very sore with limited range of motion. I’m going to wait until my tricep heals before I get back into the groove…which makes me sad. + +Is hot yoga, supposed to be so hot… where you can’t really “feel what you’re doing”?",0 +11037,Is yoga your main form of exercise or do you also sprinkle in weight lifting/cardio?. Just curious how you all incorporate Yoga into your health and fitness routines. Most people I see who are great at Yoga are super healthy and happy and wondering if there's also weight lifting or other cardio usually mixed in to the week?,0 +11038,"I’m beginning to understand myself just a little bit more. I’ve been practising yoga now for about a year, on and off. Lately I’ve been doing more as to help relieve tension in both my mind and body. The last practise I had I almost came to a sort of epiphany. + +A lot of the poses I feel like I’m just out of reach, in a sense, like I have something inside me that I’m holding onto that I really need to let go. Each time I try to push myself more and more but I end up getting frustrated because I kept feeling like I’m just out of reach. Today I kinda realised it’s because I hold onto things that really should be released. + +Any of you fellow yogis feel the same or had similar feelings?",0 +11039,[COMP] I finally transitioned from crow to tripod and managed to catch a photo!! I’m so proud of myself!! Keep practicing y’all. ,0 +11040,"I cry every time I do yoga. Hello fellow yogis and mediators. + +I do about 1 hour of vinyassa yoga a day including some meditation and breath work. + +I cry anywhere from a few tears to a full on meltdown every time. + +I'm currently healing from some trauma (childhood and family trauma) and have moved abroad to a better place. + +I'm sure this is food for me but I wonder if it's normal to cry every time and to feel deep sadness and hurt. Will I ever be able to meditate and feel joy instead? + +Much love ❤",0 +11041,if you could only do 3 poses for the rest of your life.... Which ones would you pick and why?,0 +11042,Average price of monthly class membership?. What's the average price of a monthly membership to a yoga class/studio in your area and which state are you in?,0 +11043,"Doing Yoga Stretches at gym/in public - is this normal?. Bit of a random question, but I’m sure I’m not the only person who’s had to consider this: + +Does anyone else do potentially “awkward” yoga stretches at gyms or other public activity areas? I’m working on addressing hip and lower back mobility restrictions, so I’ve started doing opening poses daily after my strength workouts at the gym (pigeon, cat-cow, frog, happy baby, etc). I know some of these and other hip opening poses may appear awkwardly suggestive to some, but I figured since I’m on a yoga mat in the corner in an athletic facility it shouldn’t be read as inappropriate. From some of the judgmental and/or crude looks I’ve received since I’ve started adding these however, apparently it is—I’ve felt uncomfortable like I’m doing something lewd. I’m considering dropping this component and waiting to do it at home, but I also don’t want to modify my behavior to something less optimal if I’m not doing anything out of the norm. + +I can see both sides of this, so I’m just wondering what others normally do—I’m sure this must come up for others. + +ETA: If it’s relevant to anyone, I’m a woman, and all the unwanted attention I’ve been getting is from men. Other women at the gym have not seemed to care. + +ETA #2: Thanks everyone! It seems that this is not a “me” problem, so I’m going to continue doing what I’m doing and just let gym management know if anyone is making the situation uncomfortable. Happy yoga-ing!",0 +11044,What really is that sense of space you feel after yoga and pranayama/breath work?. ,0 +11045,"Anxiety and nausea. Hi everyone, I'm 27M and I've been practicing yoga more or less steadily since february by following Yoga with Adriene 30 day journeys and Breath and Flow videos. I have seen great results, but lately I've been wanting a bit more so I've been trying new online teachers. I know going to class is best but I can't afford it right now. + +Anyway, the problem I've been running into for the last couple of days is that I feel like I can't follow other teachers or they feel too advanced, which triggers a bit of anxiety. + +It also seems like I can't do yoga after breakfast or I get nausea, which makes me wonder about the relationship between yoga and diet. + +Anyway, I just wanted to post this to vent a bit and maybe get some advice on these issues. Thanks for reading :)",0 +11046,"Discussion about Fear Mongering cues. I just wanted to post this to start a discussion. I have been teaching at a studio for a little while and as new students roll in I have noticed that so many of them don’t do up dog. I asked a student one day and she said that no one else at the studio teaches it because it causes injury to the lower back. Now all postures can cause injury if done incorrectly but I was shocked that even the strongest students at the studio skip chaturanga and up dog all because the teachers keep telling them it’s unsafe. + +A large majority of my students also bend their knees in triangle and pyramid and again, when I inquired about it, a student told me that if they don’t bend their knee it will hyperextend and cause injury. Again, not saying this makes their practice wrong but it definitely limits the amount of muscle activation you can get in the front leg and they can get more out of the postures with a strait leg. + +I keep having instances like this where it seems like students are hearing things in class that are causing a lot of fear, when the majority of them do not need to worry about these injuries. I think we need to remember as teachers that it is important to think about the words we choose to use and who they apply to. I find it happens easily when teachers cue an entire room for a correction that really only applies to one student and now the other 24 people in the room are now overcompensating when they really didn’t need to adjust anything. It’s also important to remember that not every cue we learn in teacher training applies to every class. I am by no means a perfect teacher, but I thought this might be an interesting topic I haven’t really seen on here . Sorry for the rambling and maybe I am alone in this but I would love to hear some thoughts.",0 +11047,My half moon pose…Happy Wednesday guys!. ,0 +11048,"Do you practice Yoga online?. Hi All, + +My teacher left and I now face the question were to practice + +Does anyone practice yoga online? +What do you like about it?",0 +11049,"Yoga practice to help release suppressed emotions and traumas. Hey everyone. So, I’ve been working for years on healing/integrating my traumas. I have C-PTSD and this goes way way back. And it’s undoubtedly multigenerational. + +I’ve tried plant medicines (the South American kind) and while that certainly helps, I do feel like I need to incorporate some sort of yoga practice that helps the emotions come up gently and helps me release them. I feel like otherwise, I fall back into avoidant patterns that make me suppress emotions all over again. + +I’ve heard Hatha yoga is a good option for this. Is that right? Or would you recommend something else?",0 +11050,"Update! I'm healing and can do full poses/asanas again 😀. Hey all, + +Some of you may remember my post where I forced my leg into lotus and injured it: + +[https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/pqp45o/injured\_my\_knee\_trying\_to\_do\_full\_lotus\_pose\_and/](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/pqp45o/injured_my_knee_trying_to_do_full_lotus_pose_and/) + +Well I gave my body a few months rest... I thought that I would say that I just did my first yoga session of the New Year and I managed to do half moon, bird of paradise and pigeon pose again without any pain! + +I learnt my lesson and won't force my body into any position again or do more than 90 minutes (a day). I know that none of you probably care about this but I'm just happy that I can practice again without pain! 😆 + +Hope that you all have a great 2022!",0 +11051,"From weightlifting to yoga, identity crisis?. I've been doing weight training for the past 4 years and a half and I used to really enjoy it. I would describe myself as a ""gym rat"" and I used to love the feelings of training hard, tracking progress and trying to lift heavier everytime. A few months ago I've started incorporating yoga into my weekly practices (once per week) and I'm noticing that my ""gym rat"" side is slowly fading away. I no longer feel motivated nor excited to hit the gym and I feel mentally and physically exhausted most of the time. I would go to the gym 3 times per week but now I feel stressed just at the thought of it and last week I had a mental breakdown during a session. I'm currently experiences some big changes in my personal life and some family issues, so I decided to respect my mental health and put aside gym training fo a while; as a result, it's been one week since my last weight training session and I've noticed that my mind and body were really craving some rest and more time on the sofa. + +At the same time I keep attending my weeky yoga class with passion and energy as they are not so ""draining"" and intense as weightlifting is and they help make me feel more grounded and relaxed afterwards, which is probably what I need at the moment. + +This led to some sort of ""identity crisis"" which is making me question myself, my physical appeareance and my goals. I don't want to stop lifting as I love my gym community and the results that I have reached so far, but at the same time I'm perceiving that something is off and it makes me feel lost and confused. I was thinking about switching to 2 sessions of lifting per week (instead of three) and one yoga session, but I don't know if it makes sense or if I'm just slowing down the process of quitting weights forever because I'm afraid of it. + +Has anyone else in the community experienced something similar and would like to share their experience and help a girl out? (Also, not a native speaker so I hope it makes sense).",0 +11052,"Videos on YT to help with hip, glute, and hamstring tightness. Howdy y'all, I've never done yoga and am looking to start. Classes aren't an option for me so I'm trying to find some videos on YouTube to get started. + +My main goals are relieving the massive tightness in my hips, glutes, and hamstrings. I have a duck foot on my right side, and potentially pelvic tilt but I am waiting to see a doctor and hopefully physical therapist to figure out what is wrong with it and what it needs to be done. + +In the mean time, does anyone have any links to videos on YouTube they could share to help me out? Thanks y'all?",0 +11053,"Yoga as a path to self discovery and revelation. Hiya, everyone. I've been lurking here since I took up a serious (for me) practice 6 weeks ago. For me, serious means that I practice each morning, a mix of stretching, mobilizations and asana and then also practice hot yoga daily at a studio. + +As a scientist, I've often been fascinated that in all of our knowledge, we are still working out the very basics of matter. This is how I've come to understand the body before I began practicing. + +Of all the things I know and can do, am I aware of the basics in my own body in the here and now? Can I sense, say, my thigh? Am I aware of where life experiences have been taken up in the body by adhesions b/w muscles, fascial planes, etc.? When one muscle that pulls north-and-south lays on top of a muscle that pulls east-and-west, (e.g., the upper back), do they move independently or are they stuck? + +I really didn't know anything about my body except for the basics. Once I started paying attention and learning to bring my attention and concentration to my physical experience, my body has started to become known to me. How I distribute my weight, breathe when at rest or tense, etc. + +Also, as I decide to tackle chronic stuck areas like my ITB, hamstrings, shoulders, scar tissue around injuries, it's as if more sound and feeling travel into areas of my body that were dead to my awareness, prior. + +This post is already too long so I'll stop but I could go on. The beauty of meeting the body and inviting it to be known, and the impacts this is having downstream on the body, a sense of wellness, sleep, kindness, and all the other things....innumerable echoes of peace and lovingness. + +Is it just me?",0 +11054,"Can’t get more flexible hips. I’ve been doing yoga for roughly 4 months now and I can see a big increase in my flexibility except for my hips. I’ve always had extremely tight hips and I feel like there’s almost no progress even though I do a lot of hip stretches. Is it possible that I’m just built like that and there’s no way to get them to be more flexible? Or maybe there are some stretches that could help me? I’ve been doing malsana, pigeon pose, happy baby etc regularly and nothing changes….",0 +11055,"Fighting the urge to eat poorly after class. I apologize if this isn’t the best sub for this question, but I’ve always struggled with body image, weight management, etc. In December I picked up CrossFit 3x a week and I’ve picked up yoga lately as well. I love the practice. I’d do it daily if I could (I do CrossFit MWF, Yoga TTFS). The studio is so nice, the teachers know you, it’s small, it feels like some community I don’t have any of since moving here. + +Issue is my eating. I know how to eat well. I’ve done nutritionist work for a while. My issue is emotional eating. I can be on a roll, then spend a weekend binging ice cream and sushi. I’ve kind of controlled it until I started working out again. My stomach feels like a bottomless pit. Today I had an amazing hot yoga session. Loved it: but then I went home to eat a spider sushi roll and pint of ice cream - completely negating my progress. So now I’m bummed out. + +I guess I’m just wondering maybe if anyone else has experienced this and if there’s advice or tips to control these urges so I can actually like my body. + +Edit: thought I should mention, these are all vegan alterations. But still….not the healthiest",0 +11056,For those of us still figuring out one legged crow lol. ,0 +11057,[COMP] Hopping into crow and springing out for the first time. Any tips or advice on going further?. ,0 +11058,"Does a manduka mat actually ever get better? I'm losing faith.. I got a pro lite from tj maxx, and this is truly like a slip and slide. I'm doing fairly basic poses and always have a limb slipping. Prior to this, I was using a mat from five below which I've had for years. I truly think it was better than the manduka in terms of not slipping. I have salt scrubbed it and also have just been dry scrubbing it with a stiff bristle brush (I figured it was like a salt scrub, but way less messy). I need some inspirational tales of people and their mandukas because I'm getting frustrated. Can you get this mat to be non-slip and not need a towel? Please give me some hope! + +Also noteworthy points: I've never considered myself that sweaty, my apartment is always cold, and I've been doing pretty basic, non intense yoga.",0 +11059,"Male yoga clothing etiquette. Hello! + +I am a man new to yoga, I went with a friend to my first class last week. I wore basketball shorts with boxer briefs underneath. It didn't occur to me before hand that if I am on my back and stick my legs in the air that my shorts will fall closer to my hips and some of my underwear will be exposed. To be clear the boxer briefs go down my leg and compress pretty tight on my leg - my genitals are nowhere near exposed. Before I go to my next yoga class I wanted to ask - is it okay for underwear to show when you are doing moves like this? Should I be searching for different shorts that will be more suitable for yoga? I have no male friends that do yoga so I figured I'd ask the community here. Thanks :)",0 +11060,"Can I wear shorts to yoga?. I am approaching the practice for the first time, taking classes. It was very hot at today's class, so I wore shorts. However, I noticed that I was the only one so undressed and felt a little uncomfortable. Are there any special rules I don't know about clothing?",0 +11061,"How are people able to do yoga everyday?. I've only started doing yoga since the last week of December of 2021, so it has been more than a month. I found out about Ashtanga last month, and I am loving it, but it really is hard. It would take me two to three days to not feel sore. Maybe me being fat is also a factor. But I am genuinely curious, how are other people able to do yoga everyday? I know it's possible, but am I doing something wrong? I really wanna lose weight, and I love doing yoga. It does make me feel more relaxed. I just wanna improve and not feel sore.",0 +11062,[COMP] Getting back to Upper Body Strength. First two postures are active and the last one is a passive stretch. I hold dolphin pose for 5 breaths before moving to the stretch.. ,0 +11063,YOU ARE ENOUGH:). ,0 +11064,I did a backbends workshop for a few hours yesterday and was so emotional the rest of the night. Is this all that heart opening?. ,0 +11065,"Who is the Jeff Nippard of yoga?. For those who don't know, Jeff Nippard is a bodybuilding influencer who create Youtube contents about different aspects and techniques of bodybuilding backed with reliable sources. + +I want to start and learn about yoga. It would be nice and helpful to learn it through influencers like him. Thanks for the replies in advance!",0 +11066,"Is it Ethical for Yoga Teachers (at times) to Discuss Mental Health/Health? .... my thoughts + discussion. I am posting this in response to a post I saw on IG that said since Yoga Teachers or Yoga Therapists are not licensed mental health professionals, they should NEVER discuss mental health... + +I understand the sentiment, but here are some issues I have with this idea and why I feel it's important to challenge this notion... + +1) Yoga, as a deep philosophy/spiritual science, absolutely is related to mental health and suffering. In the Yoga Sutras, Bhagavad Gita, and even Hatha texts we see reference to Yoga as a solution for suffering of the mind as well as specific practices for specific issues. + +2) There is a difference between diagnosing, saying I have the answer, and offering suggestions based on yogic texts, research, and experience. If a Yoga Teacher is saying ""Oh! I can tell you have depression! I know this for a fact, and here is the asana or pranayama that will heal it!"" that is dangerous... but saying ""Here are 3 researched forms of pranayama that are shown to support anxiety and has also support myself"" is not, in my opinion. + +3) Claiming only Medical doctors/therapists can voice opinion of mental health is privileging mainly financially stable, graduate level college educated westerners as being the only people, (and modality), that holds legitimacy over mental healing. This implies that no other form of education or training has legitimacy or an ethical standing when it comes to this. (In this case, no historical guru has any ethical grounds to discuss anything psychological) + +4) As a graduate student, I personally know that most Yoga Therapists spend countless hours (1000+) not only studying the physical body, but the mental, and also subtle body in respect to illness. To claim that the only legitimate form of credibility in relation to mental health is licensure, discounts many other forms of credible modalities- (including Ayurveda). + +ANYWAYS - I could go on for many more points, but I feel very intuitively called to bring up this discussion. And of course it is nuanced... What are your thoughts? Do you agree/disagree? If so, why?",0 +11067,"Yoga for all. I was wondering why so many people is so toxic in here and instead of helping others, only bring them down. Make peace my friends",0 +11068,"How do you as a student react when the instructor has a class with low turnout?. Just curious. + +I enjoyed the class but never been in a four person class",0 +11069,"Yoga hurts me. My best friend is over for the week and just told me yoga shouldn’t hurt. + +Yoga hurts a lot. I feel like my knees dislocate and my tendons stretch awkwardly. + +I’ve been doing yoga for a bit (Around a month) and I haven’t seen a lot of improvements. + +I’m doing it through the app Down Dog with fully guided beginner sessions. + +Best friend says it shouldn’t hurt and my body might need more time to accommodate to the stretch. They say I’m pushing myself too hard but I often feel like I’m not pushing hard enough. + +I try to be very attentive to poses and I really like researching them when I think about yoga. + +Should I avoid lower body stretches? They are the most problematic and make me vocalise pain. + +What’s your experience and/or advice?",0 +11070,"Yoga with COVID. Hi all. + +I was diagnosed with COVID last week and it's really giving me a real bad kicking! It's especially effecting my yoga practice - I'm constantly tired, low energy, constantly in pain and struggling to breathe. + +Does anyone have any recommendations for some light yoga routines to do while recovering? Focused on connecting with the body again and breathing would be amazing. I am in contact with my doctor and they are happy with me doing yoga - as long as I don't overdo it. + +Any tips/advice/practices would be much appreciated. Thank you!",0 +11071,Any overweight dudes started off really inflexible and weak but improved over time? Which poses gave you best beginner improvements?. ,0 +11072,"Can anyone tell me if there is a yoga that is a ""moving meditation""?. I (M50) cant sit for long periods any more. Any sitting still more than about 10 minutes static and my back is done. I would like to meditate but because of physical issue of being static my practice has died off. Is there a method in yoga that incorporates movement and single pointed focus like meditation?",0 +11073,"I have difficulty travelling into the city where classes are and also am very introverted and only want to go to social things very rarely, is it ok to only go to a yoga class once a month? Will I still get benefits, will I be disrupting the flow of the class if I do this? I'm a complete beginner. ",0 +11074,[COMP] The essence of practicing asana lies in keeping your body active and mind soft. Your muscles engaged and your breath relaxed.. ,0 +11075,"Cold feet and cramping. Update!. Thank you all so much for your guidance, help and suggestions. Based off the information I received I decided to try the 3 things that I could today. I took a magnesium and calcium supplement, ate a banana an hour-ish before my practice, then went for a 3 mile (planned on 2 but didn't feel like turning around at the mile mark) walk immediately prior to practicing. + +I had NO issues! None! Feet weren't cold, and there wasn't even the slightest hint at a cramp. I think the walk had the biggest impact here as supplements and nutrients take some time to build up in the body, but either way I'm sticking to what I did today. + +I can't thank you all enough. Seriously. It was so amazing to be able to just do my practice with no distractions, frustrations or pauses to warm and massage my feet. Thank you!",0 +11076,"Embracing flowy yoga pants. Ok so I’ve been practicing yoga for years, but I feel like I recently discovered something that has genuinely changed my practice: flowy yoga pants! +Idk why more people don’t wear them. I’m plus size and I was sick of feeling uncomfy in the typical tight leggings so I bought a couple of loose flowy athletic pants on Amazon on a whim and I’m IN LOVE! So much more comfy & freeing! (I also think they look better on me, not that that’s the point) +If you have sensory issues or just want a change, def consider trying different pants I guess lol",0 +11077,"Yin yoga - best way to relax/unwind, and strange trippy/psychedelic experience. Yin yoga is like taking xanax or some benzo (or alcohol) -- it's so relaxing, in fact it is better better because there's like no bad side. Excellent way to unwind after a hard day's work. + +But there's something else in it too - I feel a spiritual connection with the cosmos and everyone around me. Other practitioners of yin yoga says they feel like they've been tripping or under psychedelic or something...",0 +11078,"Slightly embarrassed 😳. So I was in class today and was getting warm so I removed my sweatpants during the flow (I wear shorts underneath). I have done it many times before, however it threw off a guest teacher when I did this. Afterward she commented about it. Saying in her 15 years she’s never seen someone do that. Needless to say I’m embarrassed, the last thing I want to do is make people uncomfortable. + +Wondering if others do this? Or should I just remove the sweats before class begins. Im probably overthinking this but I need some opinions 🙏",0 +11079,"Yoga pants and panty lines?. Hi all! I know this is a bit weird, but o hate the panty lines under yoga pants. I like the smooth look, and it makes me feel more comfortable with the poses. +However, I’m a very “leaky” person… and I’m terrified of wet spots on the crotch area. +Does anyone else have this problem? +How do you solve it? + +Edit: all of you guys are so focused on me not wanting panty lines. It’s a personal preference. I like the smooth and tight look of yoga pants. + +Edit 2: READ MY POST and PLEASE only comment to offer advice! Not to tell me to embrace panty lines! It’s clear that I don’t want to and that’s a PERSONAL preference!",0 +11080,"Are rest days important for muscle building Yoga routines?. Been practicing some Muscle building routines and ive been loving them, been really helping my anxiety and overall just making me feel good, im relatively new to this whole thing so im curious of the importance of rest days whether there recommend or not? Feeling a few aches today after doing some the past few days and im just curious whether i should give it a rest for a day or so, thank you!",0 +11081,can do chaturanga but not a push up?. i can do chaturanga and hold it for an extended period of time as well as planks. i’m a climber and literally can’t do a push up so i’ve been working on my upper body strength but i still can’t do a push up. any ideas why i can do one but not the other? i’m so confused.,0 +11082,"Online Yoga Subscriptions Recommendations. Hi Everone! + +I have been doing yoga on and off for a couple of years and was pretty consistent with doing Iyengar Yoga prior to the pandemic. That studio has since closed and I realized that I do much better with sticking to practice when I have a class to go to. I've grown accustomed to doing yoga at home and was wondering what everyone else is using as a subscription service or if they have one they recommend. I started the trial for Eckhart Yoga and do like it so far. I have also tried Haus of Phoniex which I really like, however, I was only able to try 3 classes and haven't committed to the membership yet. I'm not looking for a workout yoga class and when I have too much variety to choose from I feel overwhelmed with what to pick. My goals are to become stronger, and more flexible, and I am seeking the spiritual component, maybe that's any yoga class. Any suggestions and feedback is welcomed! :) + +​ + +What an awesome community. A big thank you to everyone that replied. This is excellent feedback and I can't wait to look into the recommendations. ",0 +11083,"My yoga journey in 1 year. Background : 37 M , working in IT, living in the UK , less than avg fitness pre covid. + +I started my Yoga journey in December 2020 after some health issues. I could not do outdoor exercises like running, cycling due to bad weather or join gym due to covid, hence needed to do something which was possible indoors and equally effective. I honestly never thought of yoga seriously but soon realized how tough yoga is and how stiff my body has become due to a sedentary lifestyle. I gradually started doing yoga once a week, then twice, thrice  and sometimes 3+ times a week.  + +Fast forward to 1 year, I see decent progress in overall flexibility and fitness. I feel that now I think before I eat something and also do at least some physical activity every day, this mindfulness comes only after realizing how tough it is to progress from day 1 of the yoga journey to the present day and so I don't want to go back to unhealthy habits ever again. I feel great after doing yoga and always encourage others to join me. I try to do 50 push ups everyday and like to set new targets every month/6 months/year. While I never looked at push ups as an effective exercise, I now realize how important it is to have strong arms to do Chakrasana, handstand etc., so that awareness came only after struggling with Chakrasana initially. Had I not done that, I would not have given any importance to such basic but important exercise. While gaining flexibility is the initial target, I am looking forward to mental health improvement as well through yoga sadhna. Overall, I feel positive about my health in future and will see my better version in coming years and that confidence has been given by my yoga journey.  + +OM Shanti Shanti Shantihi",0 +11084,"Seated forward fold a with strap 🤯. I’ve been a gymnast since I was 7 so I’ve always had decent flexibility but never what I’d consider good, I also get tight hamstrings extremely quickly and I’ve always felt really uncomfortable in seated forward fold, we always called it lumberfold in gymnastics. Anyway I got myself an alo mat and accessories kit in the Boxing Day sales last year and have been playing about with the strap because I’ve never had one before and found it makes my lumberfold much more tolerable almost to the point of it being pleasurable, you know when you get it just right in pigeon and the stretch in your hip feels good? It was just like that except with my hamstrings which usually just scream at me and never relax. +Just sharing my experience and anyone else who struggles with seated forward fold, try a strap 😛😁✌️",0 +11085,"Recommendations for a yoga practice that can aid in calming my central nervous system after stressful work experiences please!. I struggle to stay asleep after a stressful day at work. I can go to sleep quite easily, but will wake to pee at around 4am and then can't return to sleep, lying there wide awake with my mind racing for a couple of hours before I finally get a little more sleep. + +Given the nature of the work I do, and that I measure HRV, I am fairly sure this is a nervous system issue i.e. too much sympathetic activation. + +I read this abstract [https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22365651/](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22365651/) which says yoga has a positive effect on the autonomic nervous system, so I'd love to hear any thoughts or recommendations on the type of practice that might be best for my situation. + +Instinctively I think a long, yin practice could be best, something from youtube, but any thoughts from the r/yoga community would be appreciated. Thank you!",0 +11086,Yoga and running. Any yogis here also regular runners? I’d be interested to hear what the best practice of yoga is for helping improve running. I’m a regular runner and long time yoga novice,0 +11087,"Taking 200h teacher training with friend who has lots of money and time and now wants to use yoga to make more money, getting annoyed.. I been practicing yoga asanas for myself for two years now & wanted to dive deeper into the yoga to learn about the philosophy & the practice for myself. + +I told my friend about it who has lots of free time & money and she said she wanted to do it with me - she said she has been wanting to do it for the same reason. + +For me I work full time so it’s a big sacrifice to be doing the 200h and for her it’s just an extra curricular activity to her non busy lifestyle. + +Anyways I was super excited for her to do it with me, I still am. Today, she told me a lot of people have been telling her she should start teaching once she’s done with the program because of “the money” & it fits her “brand” she owns a vegan skin care line- which made me very uncomfortable and also triggered me a bit. + +It triggered me because I feel like I actually have a deep appreciation for yoga. I apply myself in the classes, study, take notes and she kind of just shows up. She’s into the spirituality aspect of it but she’s very business oriented and is always go go go. When we study notes together she never knows what I’m talking about. + +It also triggered me because even though I am doing this mostly for my knowledge, I know eventually I want to spread it & pictured myself doing free sessions or donation based once I got more comfortable with teaching the practice. I also know it’s going to take me longer to start doing this because of my lack of time. Vs she is never busy so she can start teaching right away if she wanted too. + +Anyways i dont know I kind of just felt like it was unfair and I got annoyed at her ambition towards the class and felt like this was always her ultimate goal & it was never really about understanding yoga. After all our classes she still refers to yoga as just asanas which is annoying to me because you’re not GETTING it. I know I’m being judgey but I just needed a safe space to vent. + +My response when she said the money thing was that I always wanted to do free donation based sessions because it feels right to spread knowledge this way and compared it to charging to attend church. + +Anyways can anyone relate to this feeling?",0 +11088,"[COMP] Keep your mind relaxed and breath soft. Doesn’t matter what shape your body makes, practice kindness in your heart ♥️. ",0 +11089,"Yoga increases anxious thoughts. Hey everyone, + +So lately I've been noticing something I can't really explain, I hope you may have ideas about this.I have anxiety (generalized and social), and a big part of why I engage in yoga, meditation and breathing exercises is to reduce this and relax more. + +But sometimes when I engage in these relaxing activities, and I'm not feeling too well mentally, the anxiety only gets worse during the practice. My biggest fears will come to the forefront and it's all that's going on in my head. Its almost as if these fears were waiting for me to silence my mind a bit just so they could start to shout extra loudly, for me to hear them extra clearly. I really try to focus on the pose I'm doing and how it feels in my body, but in between the anxious thoughts keep coming back and they are hard to ignore. Even fears that I wasn't even thinking about that much before starting the practice. + +It really confuses me why this is happening. Afterwards I won't feel as relaxed and sometimes I feel like it would have been better not to do yoga. I also think I was just (unconsciously) distracting myself from my anxious thoughts all day, and because during yoga I finally had a moment of stillness, the anxiety got extra apparent. + +Does someone recognize this? And/or have an idea why this could be, and what to do? + +Thanks <3 + +​ + +EDIT: Thank you for your elaborate responses, I really appreciate you all taking the time to do this (even if Im not replying to every single one, I read and appreciate them all and will think of them) <3 ",0 +11090,"Always having pain on the ulnar side of my arm, any recommendations?. ",0 +11091,[COMP] my Oversplits Practice. ,0 +11092,"Yoga app.. No yoga center or teacher in my town but still willing to practice on the daily and progress. I'm a beginner, can someone recommend a good app please ? Thanks in advance.",0 +11093,Is it okay to do yoga at night before going to bed? How long after dinner?. ,0 +11094,"Is this a good or dumb idea?. I live in a small town with no yoga studio (20 mins drive is closest one). But I know there are several of us middle aged matrons in town who would like to participate in group yoga. But driving 40 mins there and back for classes that mostly don’t fit into our working-parent schedules just isn’t cutting it. I’m thinking about organizing a yoga meetup (?) in a space in town I can get for free where I provide ideas and maybe lead some poses and offer encouragement and accountability. However I am only a mediocre beginning yogi at best. Certainly no guru and I hold no teaching certs. But maybe we could take turns leading the group or playing one of our favorite YouTubers to practice along with? Idk. I’m brain storming. Feel free to add ideas or any drawbacks you see please. + +ETA +Thank you all for the lovely ideas and encouragement and concerns. They’re really helping me organize this idea in my mind. + +What about this idea: me providing a series or “flow” using my deck of yoga cards and only providing what’s on the cards as cues? This is in addition to sometimes practicing along a YouTuber. + +After an in town studio, having a teacher come to us would be next in preference. But I’d like to see the group stabilize before looking into that option.",0 +11095,name one yoga pose that is most difficult for you. Chaturanga makes me sweat my sins 😩,0 +11096,"Tips for jaw tightness during the day and teeth grinding at night. ​ + +Hello people of reddit! +I want to ask you for some tips regarding jaw tightenss during the day and grinding teeth at night. Im a college student and after studying and in general at the evening I notice, that my jaw muscles are all sored out and tight. +I know and I found many tips and for what to do to release the tightness before sleep etc., but I experienced that throughout the day that I constantly contract the jaw muscles when working, e.g. mental working/thinking. When I try to actively keep the jaw muscles relaxed it gets worse. Can anyone give me more insight on what to do and tips for doing my work without the constant need to contract the jaw muscles, so therefore, being more relaxed? + +Thanks +Dennis :)",0 +11097,"Fun ideas to design a solo independent yoga retreat?. Instead of paying thousands of dollars to go on a yoga retreat, has anyone considered just hopping a flight or taking a long drive out to somewhere cool that has lots of yoga stuff going on in the area, grabbing a hotel/AirBnB (well maybe not these days given they have had so many problems), and just creating your own retreat agenda? Less community feel, perhaps, but cheaper financially. I ask this because I've noticed many pricey yoga retreats seem to have the same agenda: yoga, breakfast, free time to read/hike/sleep, lunch, a class or activity, more free time, dinner, yoga/meditation, sleep. + +So that got me thinking...what's on your dream agenda if you could design your own retreat? Perhaps turning to some Zoom meetups would give me the community feel, you know? I'm leaning towards Sedona, California (Manhattan Beach?), the coast of Florida, or a beach hippie community with warm weather somewhere in the U.S. where I could easily do things like a sound bath, yoga class, find good vegan food, and all the zen things. :)",0 +11098,Has anyone had the experience of when practising shavasana getting an anxiety that makes you feel like you need to move. Almost like a jittery feeling that feels like a panic. I have this usually after a relaxing yoga session or even doing a meditation body scan before bed. Please help.. ,0 +11099,"Help with pain in my feet. So I don’t know how to explain this other that with an image. I just started yoga clases last week, but it turns out I can’t do this type of poses if I have to place my toes like here in the image, it hurts like hell, can’t even get close to bend my feet like that, is this normal for a beginner like me? Or is there’s something wrong with my feet? I’m going to ask my teacher but I want to know your thoughts, thanks!",0 +11100,Question about ‘namaste’. As far as I know ‘namaste’ is a formal greeting in Hindi. Why do people at my yoga practice (and some people in this sub!) use it like ‘amen’ or ‘peace be with you’? Does it have a different meaning in the context of yoga? Do Indian yogis actually use the word like this?,0 +11101,"[COMP] Soaking up the gorgeous weather, with my pup supervising the practice. ",0 +11102,"What kind of diet do you prefer to if any and why?. Hi fellow yoga redditors. I hugely benefit from yoga practice and meditation. Absolutely love peace and comfort they give to my body. So naturally I'm also looking to improve my diet, which is kind of messy at the moment. + +So what kind of diet has helped you guys in the journey? What food you absolutely can't live without, what food habits has changed your life to better?",0 +11103,"What is the respectful thing to do when you can’t do a pose in class?. I’m a beginner, taking my first class, and there are times when I can’t keep up. Sometimes my wrists hurt too much to keep going into Downward Dog. And I can’t do crow pose like the rest of my classmates. + +I don’t want to be rude to my teacher, but I also know that yoga is about doing your best, and I’m just not strong enough yet. But I also want to utilize my time in class too. I want to get better and improve even if I can’t do what my classmates are doing. + +Thoughts?",0 +11104,"How much yoga is too much yoga?. I do yoga as a way to relax myself and to help with sore muscles, so how much yoga is too much??",0 +11105,"I know you can always do more, but can you do less?. ",0 +11106,"Haven’t practiced since August and feeling horrible…. The title says it all… because of life getting in the way (mum coming to visit, moving home, new job drama, my eating disorder and depression coming back sting me alive every day, holiday and more family drama) I haven’t been able to practice since August. + +I feel horrible…. My body feels heavy and sick, I tried to practice a few weeks ago and all I could do was crying on the mat for 45 minutes until I ran out of tears. Because I don’t feel right. My body doesn’t feel right, I gained 10 kilos in the last few months, my head is always so busy with worries, my heart rate is always crazy high and my breath is irregular, short and fast… +(Yes I’m planning to get checked soon) + +I feel like I need to go back to my daily practice, I’ve completed a 200hrs YTT last year and practicing nearly every day was great. + +Now I feel like I can’t even wear my yoga gear without bursting into tears. + +I know it will pass, I know it’s a stage and I will go back to normal, but it’s frustrating. + +Please send some positive energy this way, I really hope I will be able to go back on my mat soon, even for only a savasana. + +If you have any recommendations or help, please, I will be forever grateful 🙏🏻",0 +11107,"First practice in 6 months. After not doing any yoga for a while, I resolved to get back into a regular practice again. I did a short session this morning, and wow! I can't believe how terrible my body felt. Everything is right, my muscles are weak, my balance is awful, I kept losing focus and thinking about other things. + +Is this how I feel everyday!? How on earth was I managing? Its astounding how the body can get into such a state, but even worse, how I don't even notice that I'm progressively getting into such a state, and just accept the stiffness, bad posture, aches and pains as normal. + +I'm looking forward to feeling strong and loose and in touch with my body again!",0 +11108,"mat cleaning?. At the risk of sounding disgusting to some of you, my question is this: do I have to clean my yoga mat? How often and with what? + +I have been doing at-home yoga with Adriene for maybe 4-5 years, on a daily basis for the most part, am on my second Jade mat as of the start of this year, and it was only recently I was introduced to the necessity of cleaning the mat. I sleep in the same sheets for max 2 weeks and consider myself to be generally leaning towards more of a neat-freak than a slob, but I had simply never felt my mat got sticky or smelly to the point the thought 'ah, I should clean it' occurred to me. Am I totally hopeless?",0 +11109,"free class conundrum. I'm an experienced yoga teacher, but I haven't worked in a studio since my son was born. I have a lot of friends in my neighborhood, and they've encouraged me to teach a class once a week in our local park. + +Here's the issue: should I make them sign waivers? I'm not interested in starting a real business, but my friends indicated that they would be happy to pay. I love the idea of sharing yoga for free, but a lot of people could quickly get involved if I'm teaching in a public space. Also, my teacher training program highly discouraged offering free classes (I understand why). + +Has anyone been in a similar situation? What worked and what was less successful? I want to be smart about this. + +Edit: Sincere thanks for all the feedback! I'm going to make a suggested donation amount that will go directly to a local organization that supports families facing food insecurity. I'm also going to search online for a well made waiver. I appreciate the insight!",0 +11110,"Broke my toe in practice today. Not upset about to toe…pretty upset I’m not going to be able to practice for a while.. Got a little excited while doing a handstand. Transitioned into chaturanga and smacked my big toe into the ground. Broken. + +Not too upset about the toe but I’m sad I won’t be able to see my fellow yogis and practice for a while. Anything I can work on in the meantime? Breath work? Poses?",0 +11111,"Yoga is always ready for your return.. Hi everyone! I will try to keep this short, but I would like to share my experience with yoga for the last year or so. + +I started practicing yoga around this time a year ago. I was really struggling mentally (and due to that, also physically). I was in desperate need of finding something grounding, comforting, but also challenging to focus my brain on. + +I joined this subreddit and posted here occasionally. Everyone was incredibly helpful and welcoming and I truly felt like I finally found movement (and spiritual connection as well) that I could fully commit to. And I did - I started practicing every single day. I woke up at 4am and practiced for 1 hour every morning. I tried everything - Vinyasa, Hatha, Ashtanga, Yin Yoga. I stuck with Vinyasa because it was like cardio and I was able to get my sweat on. + +Unfortunately, my mindset was not in the right place. Since I have an eating disorder (and I’m sorry if this triggers anyone, I won’t use any descriptive or detailed language), I subconsciously began using yoga as a way to burn calories. My practice no longer satisfied me nor comforted me. If I missed one day of practice, everything was ruined - my progress especially, I felt disconnected from myself and out of control. + +I stopped practicing altogether in December. I couldn’t stick to my daily practice, I could barely go for 20 minutes without feeling exhausted and in pain. I knew that my practice wasn’t supposed to be like that - that I wasn’t supposed to be miserable. + +I took a break from yoga to focus on my recovery. It was (and still is) a very shaky road and I have a very long journey ahead, but four days ago, I finally felt the familiar pull I experienced a year ago. (It was partially because my posture has gotten worse, my back and joints started hurting again, as well) + +I rolled out my mat and barely got through a 30 minutes practice. I was absolutely exhausted, but at the same time, I felt like I was reborn. Physically, I’m definitely nowhere near what I could do a couple months ago, but the body remembers and I can definitely see progress after just 4 days of practice. I know I will soon be where I was and continue where I left off (which is perfecting my chaturanga and pulling off the crow pose lol) + +My original mindset is back, just like that. I didn’t need anyone (not even myself) to “force me” back into practice. It just happened. I realised yoga never really left my life. I never “abandoned” my practice. It was always there, waiting for me to come back. And I’m really, really glad I was able to do that. + +Have a wonderful day/night, fellow yogis. And good luck in your practice! <3",0 +11112,"How to pay Yoga instructors fairly. EDIT - to those of you being nasty saying the wage is disgustingly low, what on earth are you doing that pays MORE than £35 per hour I’m so interested? 🙄 + +Soon I will be looking for a self employed yoga instructor (we’ll pay well) to help run 2 classes of yoga, each lasting 1 hour with a 20 min to half an hour break in between the classes for me to clean up and set up again. +Question: Do yoga instructors expect to be paid during the half an hour break in between even if the classes are on the same premises in the same room? +I want to get it right, obviously I need everything to be legal BUT also want to keep employees happy and for them to feel valued and respected. +Honest answers are most welcome, especially from yoga instructors. + +Thank you",0 +11113,"Incorporating yoga in daily life. I just started practicing hatha yoga (with a group insructor), and started reading a book on Yoga (by Mary Stewart). I'm trying to go beyond this and start living a bit more in accordance with principles I am reading about, but I am not sure how to do that. Do you have any tips on what I can do daily to incorporate yoga principles in my life?",0 +11114,People who do yoga each day with no instructor (whether online or in person classes) how did you progress do this stage?. I always see people in movies doing yoga in their backyard with nothing to tell them what pose next or how long to hold the poses and always wounded how many people in real life actually do this. How does one get to this stage- is it just years of practice? And how often would you change the routine or progress to more advanced moves?,0 +11115,"Yoga with music. Hey folks, hope you are having an awesome Saturday. I was curious...anyone else over here that uses upbeat music for their practice? I know that the majority would go with no music at all or soft beats since the role of meditation during yoga is a huge one. But I realized that I performed better when I hear upbeat music I love - I completely leave out all distractions and focus on my practice and to be honest - time flies! I also feel more motivated to hold certain poses longer and really turn inwards since distractions are minimized. Anyone else or am I the weirdo? 😂",0 +11116,"Yoga has helped my breathing. I noticed yesterday during savasana that when I took a deep breath, I could literally feel the air filling up my torso all the way down to my hips (at least that was my impression). + +Today while doing relatively intense cardio, instead of gasping for air, I was able to inhale slowly and deeply through my nose, without running out of air. + +And sitting here at my desk, I find myself breathing with my diaphragm, without having to think about it. + +I credit this to doing almost daily yoga for the last couple of months.",0 +11117,[COMP] Not sure if this is COMP… My digital drawing of a woman doing Ekapadarajakapotasana…. ,0 +11118,"Practicing Yoga and Pilates. I’ve been practicing yoga at home for almost 2 years now, and it’s not an exaggeration to say that it’s helped transform my life. It’s alleviated some of my anxiety and depression (although it didn’t “cure” it, and I wasn’t expecting it to), and it’s helped me be more aware of my body. Before yoga, I really struggled with my internal awareness of my body (I didn’t notice if I was hungry or thirsty, and this kept me as a lower than wealthier weight. And of course, I’m so much stronger and more flexible! + +I started Pilates quite recently, maybe for only half a year, and I’m really loving it. It gives me the intensity of building the core of my body in a way that I found yoga lacking. Combining yoga and Pilates has been perfect for me; I have more energy and I’m more balanced and strong than I’ve ever been in my life. I still practice vinyasa, but lately I tend to be one Pilates video, and one restorative or yin yoga video every day (I LOVE restorative and yin!). + + +Anyone else here practice both yoga and Pilates? If so, I’d love to hear from you. And if you don’t, I encourage you to give it a try!",0 +11119,"what pose do you dislike for no reason?. i don’t mean poses that you can’t do “properly” or that hurt your body, but poses that you simply don’t enjoy for no particular reason. mine is wheel pose — i can get into it with proper alignment but i just don’t enjoy it and often skip it when it’s presented as an option.",0 +11120,"Advice for how to learn to lift my leg higher in three legged dog while keeping hips square?. Does this mean I have really tight hamstrings if I can’t lift my legs high in this pose? I’m also a runner, fyi.",0 +11121,"Does yoga ever make you sad?. I’ve struggled with getting into yoga for years but I keep trying to give it a chance. I’ve gone through a couple of different phases of my life and I’m at a place now I feel I want to look more inward to heal some past trauma. Problem is, in the past every time I would take a yoga class It would leave me feeling really sad inside. Because of this I just always said I hate yoga. Has anyone ever felt this before? I need to learn how to slow down and be more in the present and yoga would help me do this but I have such a weird relationship with it because of how it would make me feel when I was done. You would think I would feel a release of energy and be relaxed but I feel like it does the compete opposite for me. Any advice anyone on how to work on this?",0 +11122,"Yoga new year’s resolution. Just curious if anyone has a New Years resolution for yoga? Mine is to increase my practice to everyday and work on my flexibility but not have any expectations just learning to trust the process + + +Edit: thank you all for sharing your goals! I know we can all crush them!",0 +11123,Guys: personal question. Men of the community - apologies if this is too personal. Anyone else find that many positions or transitions require discrete adjustment downstairs? It seems that loose fitting clothes and even compression shorts/tights don't help much. Solutions?,0 +11124,"I feel terrible after 1 week of yoga (need advice). Hey everyone! + +I’ve started yoga a week ago mainly for flexibility reasons and at first it felt amazing (and it still does whilst I’m doing it) but more recently I’ve felt not so good in my brain and body. + +This could be to do with issues totally outside of yoga but I’m having bouts of symptoms similar to illnesses I’ve struggled with in the past that I’ve not felt in a while (only fleeting but there), I’ve developed a terrible tension headache and I’m remembering traumatic things that I thought I’d forgotten. + +Has anyone else had similar experiences ? Do I need to take a break or solider on? Will it stop? I’ve been doing 20-45 mins a day. + +Thanks so much!",0 +11125,"yoga once a week still benefical?. Took a couple yoga classes and LOVED it. However I don't exactly have the time to do it more than once a week as I do weight training the rest of the week and like focusing on that more. I heard yoga was a good thing to add if you do those kind of workouts. So is doing yoga once a week enough to get those benefits? Or should I be doing it more to really get anything out of it? + +Edit: not sure why this post getting down voted so much",0 +11126,"The story behind the asana: The protector god Vishnu and Anantasana (Reclining Vishnu Pose). Last week I shared stories related to Shiva, the destroyer deity in the Hindu trinity. Read about [dancer’s pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/w8ltpk/why_dancers_pose_is_named_after_shiva_nataraja_a/), the [warrior poses](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/w9k9x1/another_story_behind_the_asana_the_warrior_poses/), [goddess pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/waasut/story_behind_the_asana_goddess_pose_to_slay_your/), and [half-moon pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wb9z2i/story_behind_the_asana_lord_ganesha_and_half_moon/) here. This week and next, I’ll share stories of the god Vishnu, who is the “protector” or “preserver” god. + +Vishnu often feels very close to us, because he comes to earth in the form of various avatars to help humanity get back on track when we’re in danger of falling out of alignment with dharma. If you’ve ever felt the presence of the gods Rama or Krishna, they’re both Vishnu in interactive form--I’ll write about them over the next few days. + +[Vishnu and his avatars](https://preview.redd.it/1g3215f93rf91.png?width=1000&format=png&auto=webp&s=51e729436209a68f48ba8080fbd48433ab5178d0) + +But for today, to introduce Vishnu, here’s a somewhat unusual pose with a great story behind it. Not “Jane Fondasana,” but rather, Anantasana, the pose of the snake Ananta, or what’s colloquially called “Reclining Vishnu Pose.” + +​ + +[Anantasana or \\""Reclining Vishnu Pose\\""](https://preview.redd.it/hgooo5uh3rf91.jpg?width=2356&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1fac7656cb9eded42a43bae5d403d42132d8791a) + +Vishnu in the cosmos is depicted in this way: lying in rest on his thousand-headed snake, Ananta Sesha (or Adishesha), with his beloved wife, the goddess Lakshmi, at his feet. We’ll focus today on Ananta. + +​ + +[Vishnu lying on Ananta Shesha](https://preview.redd.it/u5ov3mjl3rf91.jpg?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a33b7d237e9455a6b38f7fb616fc7009ea33a2e2) + +Many of you are hopefully familiar with a pivotal text in yoga called the Yoga Sutra of Patanjali, 196 aphorisms that describe the 8-limbed path of yoga. I’d be happy to make a post about these sutras in the future if you’re interested, but for now, just know that the philosophy of yoga is far greater than the poses we practice in modern studios. “Asana” is just one of those eight limbs (the others involve things like spiritual restraints and practices, energy work, and how to meditate for union with the divine.) And not only that, but when the sage Patanjali authored the Yoga Sutra ca. 400 AD, he wrote very little about how asana should look or be. The word “asana” itself in Sanskrit simply means “to take one’s seat,” so when asana was included as one of the eight limbs of yoga, it likely just referred to the act of sitting for meditation. It wasn’t until a few centuries later, in the tantra era, that specific yoga poses were described in detail by the tantric yogis, in texts like the Hatha Yoga Pradipika and Gheranda Samitha. + +In fact, the ONLY thing that the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali say about asana is this: **sthira sukham asanam (2.46),** “be seated in a way that is stable and comfortable.” (For those of you following along with the Sanskrit: sukhasana is that same root word as sukham, aka “comfortable seated position.”) + +​ + +[A variation of sukhasana, comfortable seated pose](https://preview.redd.it/i3pdgtzz3rf91.jpg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=80dce8dc7fcd74ec9d3d0b288f02e039760cebe1) + +Ananta Shesha (the many-headed snake) is seen to be the physical embodiment of this sutra. In order to provide the perfect resting place for Lord Vishnu, Ananta must be both stable (sthira) and comfortable (sukha). In the same way, our yoga poses are meant to be sthira and sukha as well--to balance ease and effort. This sutra is often used as a marker for PROGRESS in modern asana: if you’re in side plank pose and your arm is shaking like crazy under the weight of your body, you haven’t yet achieved sthira and sukha, and should work on that pose until it’s stable and comfortable before moving on to a harder variation. + +​ + +[A stable, comfortable seat](https://preview.redd.it/9rji0jcf4rf91.jpg?width=602&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4c9effbb38716bcf333889aa60548d75f4f8cd66) + +Alright, so with that background in mind, here’s story time: + +One day, Lord Vishnu was lying in rest on his snake Ananta Shesha, who was both stable and comfortable, while watching the god Shiva perform his dance of bliss. Vishnu was so affected by the power of Shiva’s dance that his body began to vibrate and grow heavier and heavier and larger and larger, and Ananta struggled to keep him afloat. When the dance had ended and Vishnu became light again, Ananta was amazed, and begged Vishnu to explain what had made him undergo such extreme changes. Vishnu explained that it was the power of yoga within the dance, and Ananta begged him to learn more. So Vishnu and Shiva decided to make Patanjali a great sage of yoga. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/gtyrdi0b4rf91.jpg?width=602&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c4aec75e472c61ea560f12f5f271528d9adb2043 + +“Pata” means “falling” in Sanskrit, and “Anjali” is the mudra of prayer hands--the two words make up the name Patanjali. The story continues that an elderly yogini down on earth named Gonika had prayed her whole life for the gods to give her a child with whom she could share her knowledge of yoga. Childless in her old age, she continued to pray, kneeling down with her hands in prayer (anjali mudra), until one day, a tiny snake fell from the heavens and into her arms. As she looked down, it transformed into a half-human, half-snake, and she named him “Patanjali.” This was Ananta Shesha in avataric form, sent by Vishnu and Shiva to share the lessons of yoga with the world and help preserve dharma. She raised him as her child and taught him all she knew, and he went on to pen the Yoga Sutras. + +​ + +[A gorgeous depiction of Gonika and Patanjali by the artist Saragrahi\_art on IG](https://preview.redd.it/8s7o8x0l4rf91.jpg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2a814bb8d9cd093f18568bff1082d6f8a0cf55c9) + +If you’ve ever chanted the Invocation to Patanjali, (“yogena chittasya….” etc.) the whole second verse (“abahu purushakaram…”)  describes the sage as being part snake, and statues of Patanjali frequently depict him as such. + +​ + +[A statue of Patanjali](https://preview.redd.it/7lhqjn6o5rf91.jpg?width=524&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=45a53d346c96e505c0ee8f37b6a85a3bc5eb727f) + +So, anantasana or reclining Vishnu pose looks like Lord Vishnu in repose, with the foot that's rising overhead representing the thousands of heads of Ananta. It’s an oddly difficult pose to balance in, giving us an opportunity to practice sthira sukham asanam like Ananta Shesha. + +​ + +[Anantasana](https://preview.redd.it/ldwbnbfq5rf91.png?width=897&format=png&auto=webp&s=6e0f307fdfe267118712f3ae1792ad5c655be1e6) + +The pose can represent an openness and desire to learn the deeper philosophy of yoga, in the way Ananta did when he begged Vishnu for the chance to learn. It also evokes the sense of balance required of us in both yoga and the rest of our lives, to balance ease and effort, comfort and challenge, rest and work. + + +I know it's not super commonly taught in flow classes, so if you haven't tried it, give it a go! And see if you can find sthira sukham asanam (comfort and stability) within the pose. + +<3 + +\-------- +If you like these longer-format posts, I want to share some older ones I made on here when the spirit moved me, lol, in hopes that you might enjoy them too: one about [alignment biomechanics](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/si5ml7/for_any_yogis_who_want_to_go_deeper_heres_a_long/), and one about how to stick to [yoga as a daily practice](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/s9kc3c/for_anyone_who_is_struggling_to_maintain_a/). Also videos about [headstand](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/ojftze/comp_this_is_the_technique_that_finally_made/) and [forward fold](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/oq3g8s/comp_mini_lesson_about_forward_folds_history_and/). + +Let me know other topics you’d like to hear about :) I’m in a two-month hiatus between teaching YTTs in Bali and I'm enjoying doing some writing while I wait!",0 +11127,"my yoga esperience. Hello, + +i just whanted to share my experience with doing yogaasanas regulary. I started doing yoga in september 21 after buying ""Light on Yoga"" from iyengar and used this book as a guide. In november 21 i started doing it daily from 20 minutes to now 30-40 minutes. Some days i rest. Iam really proud of this achievement and my progress so far.I started doing it for mental benefits. I suffered from anxiety and light depressions for years and tryed a lot of stuff to help me. But doing yoga daily is really the gamechanger for me. I cant describe how thankfull iam. + +For me its like a lightswitch. After i do it iam so blissed and all the negative things in my brain are gone. Furthermore i feel so great! so light, relaxed and happy! Its like i can manipulate myself. I just have to do it every day and i promised myself to do it fot the rest of my life. Its like the cure i was looking for, but even better because it not only cures like medicine, but also improves my life overall in well beeing and other aspects. + +Its not easy to motivate me every day, but it helps to imagine the benefits and still do it on bad days. It gets easyser the longer iam on my journey. + +Just wanted to share this and thank you all for making this subreddit so inspiring! Have a nice day!",0 +11128,"Cannot ""fold"" in a seated wide legged forward fold?. Hello! I've been doing yoga only for 7 months now but I'm getting the hang of most poses we do in class (of course not perfect but to a good degree!). However when it comes to doing a seated wide legged forward fold, my body just goes into NOPE mode. + +I can touch my feet in a standed/seated forward fold, can do a side fold when in a straddle position (so can grab either my left or right foot fine), can fold in baddha konasana but I hardly move when trying to do a seated wide leg fold! + +I can't figure out which part of my body is holding me back..is there any main culprits that could be holding me back? What could I do to work on improving further than a couple of inches?",0 +11129,"YOGA YES!!!. Yoga is my new obsession and I couldn't be happier. I feel soon much better. My body is moving better, I'm getting my flexibility back and overall just better. I am so glad I have became a +yogi. 😊 😊",0 +11130,What do you wear when you do yoga at home?. ,0 +11131,"Something feels different this time.. I've started Yoga with Adriene's 30 day Move challenge and something about it feels different this time. I've tried to build up a yoga practice several times and only vaguely succeeded once - I was managing about 15 minutes of sun salutation/morning wake up type routine before work for a couple of months - but every other time I have completely given up only after a few days. I've never got on with classes, struggling to find one at a time that works for me and then, if I did find one, finding it too long for me as a beginner. I've always wanted to get in to regularly doing yoga but it's never worked out. + +Recently though I've been doing a lot of work around mindfulness and being more present. I'm currently on a 19 day Headspace streak which is definitely a new meditation record (barring when I briefly did daily yoga) and I'm sure that's helping. + +I know I'm only two days into the 30 day challenge but I'm feeling optimistic. I'm not watching the clock and have actually been surprised when I've reached the end of the practice because it hasn't felt like it's been half an hour. I know there's plenty of time to fail (any words of encouragement would be hugely appreciated!) but I'm feeling good so far and I hope I can keep it up!",0 +11132,"First time taking an in-person yoga class! Very anxious. Hi yogis, I know there are tons of content on taking your first yoga class but I've already been taking online classes consistently for 4 months now. I usually take moderate - intermediate level (on Alo Yoga) and can easily get through a mid-level one-hour vinyasa flow class. + +I'm very anxious to go to my first in-person class. I signed up for a level 1-2 vinyasa flow class but I'm worried if it's going to be too hard or maybe too easy. What can I expect from a class of that level? And what can I expect from a first in-person class in general? Should I mention that this is my first in-person class and is it okay to talk to the instructor afterward to discuss my level and what classes I can take going forward? + +I've only been practicing yoga for 4 months but I have done ballet and gymnastics when I was younger. I really do want to take yoga seriously this year and eventually go for a yoga teacher training course. I would appreciate any type of advice or comment on this or please let me know your own experiences. Thank you!!",0 +11133,"Value in a single pose?. I have started yoga this August, and I am simply stunned at how profound an effect it has on how I feel. I am 53 and have been weight training since high school, and doing cardio since college. I started a 20 minute stretch routine that I have done daily for nearly 20 years. I felt since my forties that those activities have simply been slowing the decline of how I feel as I age. Recently, I really noticed a decline in my muscle mobility and was never comfortable in any position. Yoga is actually making me feel better each day since I started. This is amazing! Anyway, I have not missed a day of doing beginner videos on YouTube. It seems that the sequence of poses is very important during routines. I also have noticed some poses simply feel amazing and really increases my mobility. Is there any value in doing one pose on its own? Or does it really work better in a sequence? Sorry for rambling but I love this and am so excited to continue this unexpected journey. Thanks!",0 +11134,"[COMP] Open your heart, dear. Be vulnerable. Breathe your truth. You'll be okay.. ",0 +11135,"Beginner yoga series. Hi all, I’m a teacher and I’m starting a beginner series soon. For the sake of research, what is something that you wished you knew about yoga early on? What is something that you find is overlooked when you first started doing yoga? + +Thank you!",0 +11136,"I am so happy! After years of practicing yoga I finally found my center in a (folded) headstand!. I would feel so great practicing asanas and proud of what I am accomplishing. But there was always one that would get me… the headstand. + +I had my husband grab my feet and hold me so I can feel in my body where I need to align and I would try kicking my legs up to that from dolphin, but I quickly gave up that method because clearly short cuts in life will never get me anywhere. + +So every time it came up in practice I just chill in dolphin, maybe do some dolphin planks. If I’m feeling high spirited I’ll walk my legs forward and keep them bent and just bounce one foot off the ground at a time. + +Well I was feeling high spirited today! No hopes tho as I was having trouble with crow right before, which I can do fairly regularly. So I’m bouncing one foot after the other then a split second right before I fall back and my foot hits the ground, I felt it… I felt the alignment that I needed to hold! I try a few more times with some more bouncing and I feel it more frequently. I found my center in headstand! Granted I couldn’t hold it for longer than a second but it has been found! + +I pause the class and squeal with excitement for my husband to watch. I kept at for 5 more mins or so and I’m getting in that folded headstand on the first try and holding for a good 3-5 seconds each time! I’m so happy! I’m going to keep working on holding it with bent legs and then slowly work to extend them! I finally have full faith that I can do it(:",0 +11137,I just did my first Yin Yoga session. I might be addicted!!!. ,0 +11138,"Yoga Studio Advice. Hi everyone! + +I've been doing yoga on and off consistently for years! I LOVE it but have found that I am only consistently doing it if I'm going to a studio! + +I've found one near my work that I absolutely love. They are all about philosophy and helping the mind too. I've already found my poor eating habits are getting better and I've found so much kindness at this studio. I was previously attending one where not many even acknowledged me in classes. I loved it there, but it was a corporate studio. Here everyone has been so welcoming and I have enjoyed getting to know people in my classes. + +The part that makes me anxious is the cost. It's 1200 for the year unlimited, not sure what their year commitment monthly fee is but their non commit monthly is 160. I would definitely just spend for the yearly as I've been consistently doing it 5xs a week since July at another studio. I don't make the most money, but it's really helped my peace of mind. My family and my fiance are encouraging me to do it. But when I talk with coworkers who make similar to me they think I'm nuts! I budget like crazy. I'm very frugal too! Just curious what everyone thinks and if they have any advice for whether I should go for it or save the money! (If I do get the year membership I'll be putting aside 100 a month to pay next year!) + +Thank you so much in advance, I know for many yoga has been transformative and I don't think many understand that! 💕 + +Edited to reply ( will try and reply to everyone individually too!) Thank you all SO much for all the help. I am going to go ahead and enroll for the year next month! I really appreciate all your insight and hearing it from people who practice and understand really helps. I get very in my head when it comes to spending money, especially for things for myself, i don't like to ask for help. Thank you all again, it puts my mind at peace and I'll read through these comments when I need a reminder! ❤️",0 +11139,"Yoga and puppy. It's been awhile since I've done any yoga, partly because I've been busy with my 6 month old pup. I'd love to get her into doing a gentle morning yoga routine with me. She's a smart breed and I think it would be something the two of us could enjoy doing together. Anyone have any tips or resources for doing yoga with dogs (or even other furry friends)?",0 +11140,"Yoga while backpacking: how can I practice without a teacher or audio/video?. Hi! + +I'm about to go on an extended backpacking trip where I would love to continue practicing yoga. I'm still pretty new, but most days I do 10-20 minutes with Downward Dog as my guide. I feel experienced enough to practice without injuring myself, but not necessarily enough to design and guide my own practices. + + +So, I'm wondering if y'all have any suggestions for how I can keep practicing even without having an audio or video guide telling me what to do. E.g. I could follow a written-down program or just do sun salutations every day, but I have reservations about both, and I figure that there are things that I'm just not thinking of. (A book with flows in it would be convenient in some respects, but I'm worried it will be difficult to actually incorporate in my practice. Will just doing sun salutations every day give me a well-rounded practice?) + + + +Looking for any tips or suggestions on this matter! I have a few weeks to prepare, and I'll be able to bring my kindle and some limited printed materials. + + +Thank you so much in advance!",0 +11141,"First yoga class. Tips?. I (M) am going to my first ever yoga class tonight, what should I wear? Do I need to do anything to prepare? I’m more nervous because I’m on the hefty side, should that make me a little weary? Thanks in advance 😃",0 +11142,"Muscle building and yoga. A few questions here: +Is Yoga your main source of exercise and were you able to build muscle through it? If so, what yoga do you practice? +OR, Do you weight lift along with practicing yoga? If so, how do you find balance with your yoga practice? + +*Sorry for the long post* + +Hopefully that makes sense. As of right now, my main sources of exercise are yoga and hiking. I have been on and off with my yoga practice for years, but I have finally been consistent with it for the past two months. I mainly practice hatha and vinyasa yoga. + +In the past, I used to do weight training as well. However I have strayed away as I’ve been wanting to do exercise for the purpose of feeling good, and not looking good which I feel weightlifting tends to make me want to do. Of course, I have definitely been feeling the benefits of yoga: feeling great physically and mentally, but also seeing my body become stronger and toned. + +As I feel myself becoming stronger, I’m starting to crave more muscle/strength building exercises. I feel like I see so many strong yogis who are so muscular and flexible and I’ve always wondered if that was done solely through yoga, or if other exercises were intertwined. Would love to hear what you all do!",0 +11143,"Applause at end of class. I recently started going to a new studio and the class applauds after namaste. Seeing how common it is, bc it leaves me feeling weird.",0 +11144,"Best yoga techniques to stretch and relax the pelvic floor/pelvic muscles?. I'm a complete yoga noob, but I'm wondering if any of you might have any advice on the best exercises to relax the pelvic floor. It's always involuntarily tight for me, and it's causing issues. + +Many tanks in advance.",0 +11145,"Stuck My Balancing Poses Today!. Today in hot yoga I stuck my HalfMoon Pose and my Warrior 3 and my Standing Bow(on my left leg) + +Felt good. Its amazing what a clear head and kinda going into the poses without apprehension goes. I love challenging myself.",0 +11146,"I'm in love with Yin!. I just wanted to share my love story with Yoga Yin 🤍 + +I (41F) have always been sporty and active with a hyper, intense, impulsive personality also struggling with overthinking issues... Constantly trying to channel my messy brain and working a lot on myself! With some personal work, years and life experiences, i slowly learned how to be more peaceful and tolerant but still far from any true wisdom or full self-control! + +During Covid, i got stuck overseas in basic conditions with a new partner and far from my life... I was in survival mode and held the depression. I lost motivation to practice any activity and was totally sedentary for 2 years. + +When life slowly came back to normal i tried to find some motivation again and forced myself to do simple training but it was awful... Then a few months ago i randomly installed a yoga app and started with the basics of Vinyasa and Ashtanga. I am not flexible and lost all my strength so it was hard, but i enjoyed learning and rapidly started to feel some improvements :) And then, by chance, while checking the other options on the App i discovered Yoga Yin and it was immediately a perfect match! + +I am a beginner and train myself alone at home with an App so i don't know about any technical vocabulary, scientific explanation or so... But Yin is for me something truly incredible! It reduced the stiffness in my whole body (i got extremely stiff with back pain since lockdown) and it achieves amazing results with my brain. I struggle to meditate properly but during a Yin session i get into this kind of meditation stage, naturally and easily, my mind simply disconnects. It feels like with each hold, when i release the tension, i also release some hormones which purifies my body and brain! I do 1 hour right out of the bed in the morning and another session in the late afternoon. During the day i also do another 40min of Vinyasa or Ashtanga (for the cardio and strength). And whenever i feel losing myself and start to overthink and be gloomy, i just throw a 15-30min session of Yin and i'm all cleanse! I hope it will last because for now it's purely magical and i never felt so much balanced and peaceful... + +Voila, i just wanted to share this... 🙏",0 +11147,"I am strong & empowered.. I've done a few challenges like taking cold showers for months, using an old Nokia N97 instead of an iPhone, working as an electrician for more than half a decade, cycling about 125km a week to school for a year & yet that was the hardest thing I've done so far: + + +One hour of power yoga every day, for a total of 108 days, focusing on something different every day of the week. (PY108 by Inner Dimension TV). +At the beginning of the year I started this challenge with my girlfriend during the holidays. I had never really liked yoga, maybe because I was as flexible as a piece of steel. + + +The very physically demanding power yogas like strength & cardio were intense, but the real challenge were the classes like yin and balance. An hour while stretching or balancing, trying to stay present and not get lost in thought again. + + +Today is the 108th day, we did it.",0 +11148,"Exercises for arm strenght?. My arms are not the strongest aka I can't flow from shaturanga to updog without putting my belly on the mat. + +I started using blocks to make it easier, and to start building strenght, but I am not sure if this is the best way... + +Any suggestions?",0 +11149,"Gratitude. I've recently come to the realization that yoga is one of the only things I've been able to commit to as an adult. For reference, I've dropped out of several different universities, changed jobs every year or two, and abandoned every hobby that I've picked up. + +I started practicing yoga somewhat regularly almost five years ago, and I believe that my life will never be the same. I'm not sure what it is, really. I've had many fleeting passions that I like to think I will rediscover, but I can never seem to bring myself to do so. With yoga, the commitment doesn't even seem to require effort- it feels as natural and necessary as eating or sleeping. + +Anyway, I just wanted to share how grateful I am for this beautiful practice and every soul that has played a part in sharing it with me. Namaste <3",0 +11150,"I miss my studio.... I miss my studio. I was feeling at home for the first time and it closed the summer of 2020 because it wasn't sustainable. I know I could go find a new one but I had blood clots in my lungs this summer so I have to be extra careful till all this slows down. Does anyone have any live online they enjoy? I have done a couple on insight timer but could use more teachers to follow, esp ones on PDT time..just the feeling of being ""with"" people gets me on my mat more...",0 +11151,"Calming yoga instructor suggestions?. It’s been asked before, but is there anyone else like Jessica Richburg on YouTube? I can’t stand those who yell as they instruct the flow. I love a mix of ASMR and yoga, if that makes sense. Please give me your suggestions :)",0 +11152,How do I connect more with my body?. So I have suffered childhood trauma and now that im older I feel zero connection to my body. I cant do anything intimate with anyone because im just so detached from my body and face. I was reading the book ”The Mind Keeps The Score” where the author was explaining how yoga can help traumatised disconnected individuals. How? What type of yoga should I do? What should I think of? Where do I start? Im tired of waking up with anxiety :(,0 +11153,"Any advice on returning to your practice after a traumatic event?. Hi everyone. I had been doing yoga for almost a year, fairly consistent in my practice and I found it helped a lot with mobility and emotional regulation. But I haven’t been able to get back to it since a traumatic event nearly two months ago. + +I can’t connect with my body, I find it difficult to be present, I struggle with grounding. My body is tense and fatigued, and I feel like there’s a block there. I feel like something that brought me joy was taken from me. + +Does anyone have any experience with this? Or at least any kind words or advice?",0 +11154,[COMP] Any tips for standing compass pose? Thanks!. ,0 +11155,"What are you thinking about when you are doing yoga?. I've always done yoga somewhat mechanically for stretching purposes as I find I am refreshed for my run/bike the next day. That said, I want to ask is there a mindful or meditative component to yoga that is practiced simultaneously with the stretching component? I haven't found this talked about in online resources I follow. But I have been thinking I could be more mindful of my stretching. + +I'm curious how traditionally yoga is practice but the mind/body?",0 +11156,"Does anyone know good yoga exercises to release stress of your chest?. Recently i got the covid 19 virus and while i recovered pretty fast i still feel a big amount of force on my chest, specifically my lungs. Do any of you know some poses that relieve stress of your chest?",0 +11157,"Do you ever need yoga, but don't want to do yoga...?. Ok disclaimer, this is obviously a first world problem... And I'm a grown up lady so I know I can do what I want, lol. +But! After over a decade with a very regular yoga practice, I think my body just needs it every second day. No other form of exercise will do. If I skip 1 day, I feel slightly stiff and uncomfortable. If I skip 2, I feel sick. If I skip 3, my family will have to avoid me and I'm literally in physical pain. + +And sometimes this is a bit annoying! It's now 9.40pm, I've just landed in the sofa after a massive day. I want to chat to my husband and go to sleep. But my body is like YOGA ME NOW. My back and hands (weird) and hips are stiff and painful. +I've just had a late dinner and a beer, lol. I've also walked home instead of catching the bus, so I've spent an hour on my feet, hoping it would be sufficient. But my body doesn't care. It didn't help. Just made me more sleepy. +Is it just me? I've actually tried cutting down, but nah. Body won't have it. +I guess I will have to roll out my mat. Just waiting for this food to settle. It's going to be a strange session, but at least I'll sleep well...",0 +11158,[COMP] Handstand Tips - Can someone cue me on how to not go over on my wrists? I’m not completely straight but i can hold for about 15 seconds. i keep going past 90 degrees on my wrists. Please give advice!. ,0 +11159,"Just Starting. Hi all... just wanted to introduce myself to the group. + +I started Yoga about six months ago to offset my 5x a week weight lifting. Wanted to add some flexibility. I got way more than I bargained for....way more flexible...lost 30 lbs and increased muscle strength as well. + +I'm SOLD! + +Started with Yin...moved to Vinyasa... now do Yin and Hatha Flows on alternate days. + +Glad to be here. 😁",0 +11160,"Yoga and Instagram. OK, I've been on instagram since 2013/2014ish. At first I loved the yoga community, the fun challenges and how I consumed and produced yoga related content. I had a big account, had a revelation, and then deleted that account. + +9 years later I'm a full time in studio yoga teacher. +I would love to start an online studio in the future and I know instagram/tiktok are great places to find a community and connect with people who might vibe with what I have to offer. I have a small account and while I don't necessarily want heaps of followers I would like to create some meaningful connections. + +I'm just so uninspired and overexposed to yoga through the lens of social media. I have no idea what people might like to see, or where to look to in creating content. I feel really stuck and a bit conflicted about turning this practice thay saved my life into content content content. + +I want to ask the community here, what do you look for from teachers online and why? What do you like to see, and what would you like to see more of? +And if there's any teachers out there who've overcome a similar hurdle I would love to hear from you :) + +My practice and my teachings are heavily informed by functional anatomy, biomechanics and creative movement. I teach restorative and vinyasa but spent years practicing iyengar which is a big influence for me. Recovery, strength, accessability and logical sequencing are all important to me as both a student and teacher.",0 +11161,"Favorite yoga instructor / sequence?. Hey everyone! + +​ + +I'm new to yoga, but the feeling of releasing my body has been incredible. I notice some routines really open me up better than others, so I was wondering if you guys have any favorites. + +​ + +I'm noticeably tight, especially in my hips/legs. Would appreciate any recommendations",0 +11162,"Tightness in hips when sitting cross-legged. Any tips or modifications? It doesn’t hurt, it’s just pretty uncomfortable for me.. ",0 +11163,Taught Again For 10 minutes on Sunday and realized I missed it.. I went to my hot yoga studio on Sunday. We practice the 26/2 but it is not militant like traditional Bikram. It is compassion based and every body is encouraged to move in a way that makes their body feel good. I taught there and then took a 2 year break for health reasons. The instructor (and my good friend) was running late and asked me to start class so I did. I truly missed the privilege of being able to hold space for people while they move through their bodies and breath together. The cherry on top was my friend told me that after class 2 students said I was really good! Namaste fellow yogis and yoginis.,0 +11164,10 day yoga challenge already surprised and happy. started a 10 day yoga challenge because I have been depressed since february and I needed something to calm me down. It’s been 4 days and I already feel so much better. I also feel super strong and apparently I have abs now ??! Very happy and excited to continue forever <333,0 +11165,"Desk job & back pain free; is it actually possible?. I have a desk job (sit 12 hrs per day) and have suffered from neck and mid-upper back pain for over a decade. Is there any hope to ever be pain free again? How often and how long should each session of yoga be to achieve this? + +I practice yoga about 3 times per week right now. I have a standing desk but hate working while standing as it affects my concentration. + +Do any of you have a desk job and have no back pain??? Is there hope???",0 +11166,"yoga in a new town. just wanted to share my off the wall, amazing experience here. i moved across the country by myself this past july for a fresh start on life after finishing my residency and finally starting my career. had practiced yoga and routinely utilized meditation podcasts for the past few years which really helped with my mental acuity and overall wellbeing. after moving, things had been so chaotic, i lost touch with all of it really. got wrapped up in trying to figure out my new life here with a new job and no friends and no support system nearby. + +finally realized how out of it i was feeling months later, and needed to take some time to reconnect with my mind and body. decided this spontaneously at work one day, on my lunch break just searched yoga studios near me and signed up for a class without much thought, for that evening. turns out, it was a yoga nidra class at a woman’s house. i moved from NY, where i was not very familiar with at home yoga studios. as i arrived at her house, i was a bit skeptical and waited until i saw someone else walk in first. + +without going into too much detail about my personal experience, it was my first time practicing yoga nidra which was exactly what i needed. i cannot describe in words how invigorating it was. the time passed so quickly, the class ended after an hour and a half, but it felt like 10 minutes to me. the instructor was so helpful and walked through how the class would proceed and made sure everyone felt comfortable. + +the instructor afterward introduced herself more to me and we got to know each other for quite some time, even after the other participants left. she talked me through a lot of issues i was struggling with after moving, meditation techniques she uses, and yoga techniques to try and work through some current pain. she ended up inviting me to stay for dinner after and i am happy to say we became friends by the end of the night. it was a totally unexpected night, but wanted to share how much just one yoga class can just bring you back where you need to be and for that i am so grateful.",0 +11167,Hands sliding forward in down-dog. During particularly strenuous sessions my palms get slightly sweaty and I find my hands slowly slipping forward when I’m in down-dog. It’s really annoying. Does anyone else have this problem? What can I do about it?,0 +11168,"Another Post About Mats. Yeah, I know, but I promise I've done my research. + +I'm looking to replace my Amazon Basics yoga mat. I'm tired of my hands slipping during down dog. From my research here, the gold standard seems to be the Manduka Pro. If that wasn't suggested, the Jade Harmony was. HOWEVER, during further research, I've discovered that the Manduka Pro is very slippery. Some people say it's slippery even after salting it. I'm looking for something with grip. On the flip side, I've discovered that the Jade mats are super grippy, but can break down over time causing shedding and pilling. I don't want that in my mat. + +I briefly looking into Lulu mats, but was turned off by the racist views I've discovered the owner has. I don't want to support that. I've also looked into Liforme and Bmat. I definitely can't afford the Liforme mat, and I can't recall reading much about Bmats. + +Right now, I'm looking into the Manduka Prolite. Does it have the same issues with slipping as the Pro? Will I have to salt it? Do the Jade mats hold up better than I've been led to believe? Also, what are some other grippy mats I should be researching? + +Thanks for your time.",0 +11169,"Keeping your foot in position in tree pose. I’ve been doing pelotons yoga classes recently and today they introduced the tree pose. I have no issue getting my foot up to the top of my leg but I can’t for the life of me make it stay there, it just slips out. I’m sure there’s a strength element in keeping it up there, but is there anything I’m missing with this pose? Is it normal to not be able to hold it in position? + +I’m overweight if that makes any difference, I did wonder if when you’re slim there’s less of an incline to your leg so it’s less likely to slip down. + +Thanks for your help!",0 +11170,"Palm and Wrist Pain During Yoga. Any advice?. Almost every pose or flow that puts pressure on my hands, hurts. Even just holding a plank with straight arms. I know there’s a method of pushing through the thumb and first finger in downdog, but no matter what I do I always have pain. I wouldn’t say my upper body is the strongest but I would like to work on this because it affects how often I would like to practice. Any help would be appreciated! Thank you :)",0 +11171,"Wrists. Hey everyone! +I’ve been practicing for about a year on and off by the past few months I’ve been very consistent as have been increasing the intensity of my practice. +I’m following breathe and flow yoga on YouTube and I do a wrist warmup before each practice but I’m still experiencing a lot of discomfort in my wrists. +I m working on making sure my shoulder is directly above my wrist for things like side plank, starfish and wild thing but it can get pretty uncomfortable. +Will this improve over time, or is it an alignment issue? + +Any advice helps:)",0 +11172,"What’s the benefits of classes when there’s so many resources available online?. I guess I’m asking this cause I’m 23M and just started doing yoga at home using the down dog app 2 or 3 months ago. I’ve found some yoga studios nearby I’ve been telling myself I want to check out but have been nervous about being one of the only younger guys there. Especially when I have so many available resources online for me to practice at home and don’t need to get much out of my comfort zone. + +So why do you find it’s better to go to a class than just practice at home?",0 +11173,"Holy cow! I'm proud of myself. I crawled back onto my mat after a long break on 18 November last year. I am so proud to say that, through having covid and a pinched nerve in my shoulder, I have not missed a day on the mat since. I've even been recording my daily sessions and posting them to my yoga Facebook and insta. I might actually achieve my dream of being a yoga instructor.",0 +11174,"Yawning during yoga?. I have an odd question that I haven’t come across anyone understanding. Does anyone else yawn A LOT during your yoga practice? I usually practice in the evening and am quite awake - so it’s not as if I just woke up. Sometimes it can be constant during my session, maybe releasing tension? Wanted to see if anyone related.",0 +11175,"Seeking advice on how to be more sociable in the yoga studio. I'm a straight single male with a long time studio practice and find myself applying a double standard that is well intentioned but probably counterproductive. + +I regularly strike up conversations with yogis who would not be seen as potential romantic interests (males, married woman, etc). However, out of respect and concern I leave the impression I'm there to score a date, I don't break the ice with female yogis whom others could be perceived as attractive to me. + +Do you have advice on how I can be more friendly and sociable with everyone without making anyone uncomfortable or leaving the wrong impression?",0 +11176,"I am a man. Would i make the other people in the class feel uncomfortable if I just wore tights and a top, no shorts to practice?. It just feels more comfortable to move in.",0 +11177,"Yoga Subletting?. I am a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu school owner and looking to fill up the schedule during the day, so I am looking into having a yoga instructor who wants to run their classes utilize the mat space when I am not there. I am not sure the technical side behind it, or steps for it to happen, but has anyone had any experience teaching in someone else's studio and what did those conversations look like? Thank you!",0 +11178,"I want to be a yoga teacher but can't afford school. Any advice? (potential TW). I've been unemployed for about a year and a half due to my father's suicide. It took quite a toll on my mental health. I'm beginning to gather my bearings again and believe helping others would help me. I want to get back on my feet financially as well and gain more independence. + +​ + +I realized two years ago that I want to be a yoga teacher. I've been practicing for almost 11 years but still can't do certain poses, like Crow Pose and Fallen Angel. I also don't always know the technical name of the pose. My wish is to teach hatha/yin yoga to people in recovery from addiction as well as people who struggle with mental illness. However I cannot afford to go to school for it. I was wondering if it would be unethical to start a GoFundMe to pay for the certification. I already know what studio I want to attend to obtain it. But also I may be getting a job (retail) next week so then I could just save the money. But I don't want to attend regular school (community college was in mind, but I don't think it's for me atm) and I'd like to stay as busy as I can. + +What do you think the best route to go is? What is it like being a yoga teacher? Also, I have SH scars (they're fading slowly but surely; haven't cut in almost a year) and am worried that if I had students, they'd judge me or be weary of me. Any advice?",0 +11179,"tearing up or crying after yoga?. So I tried a session of yoga for the first time this morning. Another redditor on this sub had recommended I watch yoga with kassandra. I practiced as i watched a short 10 minute morning yoga routine and wow... I can't really explain it but it's like I had these blockages and now everything's flowing. I started tearing up, as soon as I finished the session. + +Has this happened to anyone else here?",0 +11180,"Wearing yoga clothes to bed. So I'm getting better at getting up and going straight into a little yoga sesh, trying to build in 15 mins before bed too... It sounds ridiculous but one barrier I have is having to change from my day clothes to yoga clothes to bed clothe, so I'm thinking of wearing yoga clothes to bed. Does anyone else do this? Would love to know what brand / style yoga shorts and bras you wear. I'm thinking I need something comfy and breathable... But not premium like Lululemon (Im only going from bed to my living room!) Any thoughts?",0 +11181,Social Media Question. Is it normal for yoga teachers to seek out and add their regular students on Instagram? Looking for avenues to engage with my students but I dont want to come off the wrong way,0 +11182,"Don't understand what I'm meant to feel in pigeon pose (beginner). Hi all, I've been to a few yoga classes over the years, but recently started going out and practicing at home more often (\~3x week). I go to various studios with different instructors, and also trial different types of yoga, but one thing that seems to come up again and again is the [pigeon pose with forward fold](https://www.yogajournal.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/03/yp_282_0141_fnl-sleeping-pigeon-pose-jason-crandell.jpg?width=730). + +Let me preface this that at no point did an instructor claim that the front leg has to be parallel to the front of the mat, so this is not the issue. +The issue is that I don't understand what I'm meant to be feeling. I definitely don't feel any glute stretch no matter the alignment of the leg or how far I bend over it. If I try to get the front leg bit more parallel to the mat then the inside of the hip on the front leg side gets this horrible pain which I can't describe (nerve pain maybe?) that prevents me from folding forward. + +For reference seated lotus feels like a comfortable seating position and I never struggled with it - I see these two poses often thrown into the same category so it might be relevant.",0 +11183,Cat scratched my yoga mat. Will these damages get worse after every use? Will it still last long or should i replace it? What do you guys think?. ,0 +11184,Yoga men: do you find briefs or boxer briefs more comfortable to wear while you're practicing yoga?. ,0 +11185,"Favourite non-English yoga youtubers?. I’d love to hear about your favourite youtube yoga instructors who teach in languages other than English! + +I’m especially looking for good ones who teach in French, Japanese, and Chinese (Cantonese or Mandarin). + +My favourite non-English is Mady Morrison whose classes are in German. 😊",0 +11186,Did 60 Surya Namaskars today. I hace nowhere else to share this but i am so happy that today i completed 60 Surya Namaskars (with mantras) fir excercise. My new year resolution is to bring this number up to 108 by the end of 2 months or so and keep at it for a month. I saw a video on YouTube where the person did 108 Surya Namaskars for 30 days and have been motivated to take up the challenge. Don't wanna overdo it so am approaching the number slowly. Wish me luck🤞!!!,0 +11187,Are there any good bed yoga positions you recommend for waking up or before going to sleep?. ,0 +11188,"What do you do about a negative class experience?. What do you do if you go to a class and you end up with a class that's not right for you and have a negative experience? I don't mean the teacher or a student doing something inappropriate or anything like that. But rather, having a negative experience of a class that wasn't right for you at the time. + +This Tuesday I took a class that I usually go to, and ended up having a negative experience. Normally that class is quite calm and grounding, which after the day I had at work is the kind of class I really needed. I got there and it ended up being a warming/energising class that involved lots of coordination-heavy movements, where we did different things on the left and right or back and front in repetition, rather than taking a pose and staying in it. I didn't find out this is what we'd be doing until I was in the room with my mat out, etc. There's no advance notice of class content (it's at my local gym). I'm dyspraxic, so coordination is hard for me normally, but coordination heavy things can be extremely frustrating if I'm not in a good place. I ended up taking the class because I'd turned up, but the class felt like a very negative experience. + +In these kinds of situations, what can you do? What would be the appropriate thing to do? I figured packing up and leaving would be rude. Sitting out for most of the class seemed like it would be rude too. So what can you do in these situations?",0 +11189,Do you pratice gratitude daily?. The best thing about yoga is that you can find what you are seeking. You most have patience through the journey,0 +11190,Class theme following a tragedy. I'm a very new teacher preparing for my 10th in-studio class tonight. Looking for some guidance/opinions on a theme to use this evening. Is it helpful to address the national news and offer something uplifting? Is it preferable to just teach a regular class and let students escape for an hour?,0 +11191,"Did my first 108 surya namaskar. After years of practicing surya namaskar I finally did the full 108 rounds + +I’ve been doing 25 rounds or 54. Was somehow scared but had the ambition to do a full set. +So I did it. Check 😊 + +30 Jan -So did my second set of 108 today 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻",0 +11192,Tree pose question. I can only get my leg to stay up on my thigh if I’m wearing shorts or tight yoga pants. If I try to do it in anything else my foot slips. It doesn’t matter how much pressure I use. It’s been this way for years. Anyone have tips? Sometimes I do a practice in regular sweats if that’s what I’m already wearing or it’s laundry time and that’s what’s clean.,0 +11193,Which mat do you use for hot yoga? Currently torn between Lululemon Big May (Reversible) and the BMat. Super sweaty guy.. ,0 +11194,"Have anyone had a hard time starting Yoga?. Hello everyone, + + I've been seriously thinking of starting yoga again recently after a few failed attempts to get into it in the past. I would like to seriously learn Yoga and learn right meditation this time. However I had a hard time focusing on practicing Yoga before when I followed my mom to the studio then got intimidated by the feeling of being judged for any wrong pose. However when I tried doing Yoga at home by myself with the instructions from Yoga videos, I easily faded out from practicing. I'm hoping someone here can relate and tell me how they worked through it or if they couldn't work through it and why. I think about Yoga and even chose Yoga as my topic for my research assignment in my current course to understand how to feel more confident in the Yoga journey and to do it right. + +Brief background info: I've tried Pilates at home and like it. However, I also couldn't keep on with the practice. I have that fear of doing the pose incorrectly then harm my muscles and joints. + +I have insomnia and depression for a couple of years after stepping back to be a stay-at-home parent so I tried to motivate myself by several activities. We are pretty sporty in my family and I also tried to join all the activities my family enjoys but somehow I feel the resentment from them inside me. My spouse loves Yoga and even bought me a mat. I tried Pilates after I feel like I was too rude when I practice Yoga with my clumsy, clueless poses. + +Anyway, I tried some easy short, beginner yoga sessions at home. Though I could try working on poses, I found myself confused, nervous and easily got very annoyed and upset at my inability to really understand how to do the poses well, when I should breathe in and when I should breathe out, etc,. I + felt upset when I couldn't imagine / see the flame ignited in my mind like the instructor said. I have no way of knowing if I'm doing the poses correctly, and am finding it hard to ""sit with"" the intense emotions that arise as a result. + +Can anyone relate? How have you got over that? + +Have anyone got so discouraged that even though they want to try it again, they still hesitate? + +Thank you for your answer.",0 +11195,Morning anxiety what will help?. I wake up many mornings with knots in my stomach from anxiety. Can you recommend yoga poses to help me ease into the day? I am very uncomfortable with my anxiety.,0 +11196,"Super curious but super nervous/scared to go to a class. Everything I get close to going to a class, i chicken out. How do you guys get over that? What if I wear the wrong thing or look funny?",0 +11197,"yoga for strength. How much strength does yoga build exactly? For context, I am really weak. I can't even do a pull-up. Would consistently doing yoga lead me to being able to do push ups and pull ups? Also, would it tone my legs and core? More specifically, if my only form of exercise was yoga, and I did it every day for a year, would I be considered ""fit""?",0 +11198,"Question for women!. Hey ladies, so this is an embarrassing thing that I have never had happen before but has now happened twice. I have been taking hot yoga 4X a week for 2 months and in the last two classes this happened afterwards. I am drenched in sweat and I walk to my car and sit down. Maybe a minute later, I feel a bubble in lady lips, and then somehow I have peed myself. + +Full-on peed myself. I am 34F, I have 3 kids but all by section, so what gives? Has this happened to anyone else? what is going on? thankfully it doesn't happen in class and only in my car. I go to the restroom before class. If anyone has any thoughts that could be useful I would really appreciate it.",0 +11199,"Anything you really like/ dislike in classes?. I’m working on planning classes for the upcoming year, and am trying to diversify them from the base flow i usually go for - is there anything you would like to see more/ less of in class? I mostly teach vinyasa, yin, and hatha classes for reference 😌",0 +11200,to those who are very experienced in yoga. how long did it take for you to be able to freely bend and twist your body without much resistance? I am looking to get into yoga but I’m not very flexible and find it pretty painful to do beginner yoga poses.,0 +11201,"So I was rolling up to mountain pose the other dayyy. Title - Any Letter Kenny fans out there? + +Anyway, I was doing YWA's Detox and Reset video yesterday and was about 20mins into the video she has us do a slow roll up mountain from forward fold. I was feeling pretty good so far in the practice with my breathing and actually relaxing into it. I slowly rolled up and when I got to the top with my palms out I felt this emotional pull from in to out and just wanted to cry. + +It freaked me out but I was in awe at the power of yoga. I've been doing it pretty consistently for a few years now and have had similar experiences on the mat but this was a first in mountain. I've been pretty stressed lately and going through some tough times (as I'm sure most are!) But it was a very cool experience that I wanted to share. Even if I hadn't pulled away my dog started to bark at the post man ...so 🤦‍♀️ + +Have a good one!",0 +11202,"Short of breath and can't sync breathing with instructor. I have started using downdog, and have noticed that I cannot sync my breathing with the instructor. I have tried taking full deep breaths and full exhales, but I think the reason my breath is short is simply because of the exertion, my heart gets going and I breathe like I am walking up a hill. I am honestly not sure how people can breathe so slowly when going from table top, to down dog, to three legged dog, to low lunge, to star pose.. I feel it is beyond my stamina at this moment.. Is it simply because I am unfit and will it get better over time?",0 +11203,"Yoga clothes that aren't skin tight?. Hi there! + +Over the past two or so years (re: pandemic) my yoga practice became nonexistent and I also gained some weight. Well I'm getting back into yoga again and have found a new studio I like after my favorite place closed (RIP), but I'm just not feeling so great in my old yoga gear. Not only does it trigger some body image issues, but these pieces simply feel uncomfy for me while practicing. + +SO what are some of your favorite yoga pieces/brands that AREN'T skin tight leggings? I do prefer tighter fitting crop tops because I hate when my shirt moves around in certain poses, but I would love some shorts/pants suggestions that are preferably sweat wicking (I'm going to a studio that mainly does hot classes) and also looser/comfier? + +Thanks!",0 +11204,I just do yoga and cry now. I have had emotional releases during practice at times before but I have been going through a weird time in my life recently and it seems like every time I step on the mat I cry. Has this happened to anyone else before?,0 +11205,"Spreadsheet comparing some popular yoga mats. I've been practicing regularly for a little over a year now, and I feel ready to move on from my 8 year old, dog-chewed mat from Target. As a naturally indecisive person who must do hours of research prior to every purchase, I put together a spreadsheet comparing some of the most popular mats. As the spreadsheet grew, I thought you all might find it useful as well. + +[Over 40 Mats Compared](https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1_N6Ws3iG4CojgrlLCRWiA4OPuRfzsoMrJ3CBNlDP1Q0/edit?usp=sharing) + +Included information: link, price (USD), length, width, thickness, weight, material, notes. I apologize for the American-centric units, but most companies list their dimensions in these units, and since I am also American it was easiest to keep everything in inches and pounds. All information came directly from the company's website, and I listed ??? if I couldn't find that piece of information. + +Obviously this spreadsheet does not include every yoga mat that exists. I listed the companies I had already heard of or found by reading reviews. I also did not necessarily list every mat that a company makes, if they make more than a few. I didn't list products that were a little more niche, like extra large mats, or mats made for travel. Or for companies like Gaiam, that make a ridiculous amount of mats with small differences, I listed by general category. + +If there's a mat or company that you think should be on the list, let me know!",0 +11206,"Super beginner, but feeling inspired. I’m over weight and just started doing yoga. I’m 5ft4, 206lbs and started this week. +I’m aiming for a 10 minute session everyday to work up to both longer and harder sessions. Currently I can barely bend 4 inches forward with my legs outstretched (or one leg bent one leg straight). My goal is to be able to put my nose to my knees basically. +I have found a 10 minute video that is specifically for hip flexibility. +Honestly, I’ve always scoffed at the idea of yoga, felt it wasn’t for me but this week, I look forward to doing my small session in my room by myself and kind of want to go longer. +Should I keep the sessions super short right now so I don’t burn out fast or should I try to do longer ones? My job is physical so I’m worried about over exerting myself. Any tips would be appreciated, both about this and any other newbie tips you have!",0 +11207,"I did a thing!. So I’m pretty new to yoga, like actually practicing consistently. I’ve never been consistent, but I’ve had an interest in participating for many years. I looked back and realized that I never managed to stay consistent because I was intimidated by the advanced stuff, and I was never flexible enough to perform even the most basic moves perfectly (downward dog, Childs pose, etc) +Side note I’m currently a “youngin” in my 20s…. So it felt even more embarrassing. 😅😫 +Anyway, the good news is I did some research on Eventbrite yesterday and found some free yoga classes in my area, so I went ahead and signed up for my very first class ever! +I go tomorrow evening.🥳 + +I also have social anxiety 😬🥶and often shy away from public settings, and originally I’d wanted my mom and sister to tag along with me so we could experience it together. 😄 + +Unfortunately they’ve other plans. ☹️ + +So I’ll be going alone…. By myself… 🫠 + +But this is the year that I’ve decided that I’m breaking out of my comfort zone. It’s only kept me stagnant and caused me to miss out on a lot of opportunities. No more of that. 👎🙅🏾‍♀️ + +So I’m killing two birds with one stone: I’ll be practicing yoga, and forcing myself to be more social, without any plus ones or human crutches… Lol +I’m very proud of myself and excited to be embarking on this new adventure! 😇",0 +11208,Hey guys. My dog ripped these amazing yoga pants that I recieved as a gift. I was wondering if anyone knew what brand these were. Thank you :). ,0 +11209,"I’m finally getting a new yoga mat!. Y’all! I’m so excited and I have to share this somewhere! I’ve been looking at a Manduka mat for well over a month and the 6mm Manduka Pro gorgeous yellow Bamboo Colorfields mat is finally back in stock! Needless to say I scooped it up. I’m nervous about the break-in period, but I felt that the Pro was better than the eko model (or another eco-friendly mat) since the Pro has a ten year warranty. + +Once my new mat comes in, I’ll share a picture of it with my old one for comparison. +Now I just have to impatiently wait for the shipping 😅 + +Edited for spelling",0 +11210,"Sensory yoga ideas?. I am a yoga teacher. I've been wanting to add more sensory experiences to my yoga classes. Right now, we do three-part breathing with hands on the toro and, of course, visual meditations. But I am interested in incorporating new ideas. For yoga teachers, what are some sensory experiences you like to add to your classes that your students enjoy? For yoga students, what are some engaging sensory experiences that teachers have added to your classes?",0 +11211,"How long will it take to stretch my body out to the normal?. So I’m 19 and have literally laid in bed practically every day, and if I wasn’t doing that I’d be slouching in a chair. Due to this, I developed really bad posture. Surprise surprise. + +So I’ve been stretching lately and honestly even normal positions that I see other people do, like simply having feet up on an ottoman sitting up straight, takes a major effort. I’m currently doing wall stretches where I put my legs up a wall and I’m using a small pillow to keep my lower back bent the correct way. It’s so hard to do, it almost hurts. My butt doesn’t even touch the ground or the wall. I cannot do a 90 degree angle whatsoever. I’m currently at what I’d estimate to be a 120, maybe even a 140 degree angle. + +How long will this take? How often should I stretch? How hard should I stretch? How long should I stretch? Tips? Advice?",0 +11212,I feel lost most of the times and I can’t even concentrate on my goals :(. ,0 +11213,"How did you mentally get started?. I’m coming from somewhere where I have no strength or flexibility. I just did my very first “class” which was a beginner video by Adriene on YouTube. I realized I really have zero strength or flexibility (I know flexibility but didn’t realize my strength is THAT bad) and I could hardly hold warrior pose. + +So my question is for people who started in a similar spot to me - how did you keep up with it and mentally keep yourself from crying? I feel like I’ve ruined my body and won’t be able to keep trying yoga or getting where I want w strength and flexibility when I can hardly do a beginner class at home. I know people will tell me to go in person but I currently can’t afford that. I just want to know where you got the mental strength to continue and also the mental strength to even plan what you were going to try next and create an overall plan to get where you want to. + +I’m so lost.",0 +11214,"Daily yoga challenges. Hello, I’m on a personal challenge/journey to do an hour of yoga everyday for a year straight. Ive been having trouble with consistency since I began yoga 10 months ago. The best I’ve been able to do is like 28 days out of a month. + +I know I’m being tough on myself. But I wanted to come here and ask for anyones advice on breaking through and finally making this a daily thing without every missing. Maybe it just comes with time? Is there something I can do to stay with it?",0 +11215,"Today, sun salutations were enough.. I've been doing yoga on and off for 10 years or so and just started getting back into it a few months ago. I finally found myself doing more difficult poses and inversions when, of course, I hurt my back at work. However its been a pleasant experience to really practice meditating and breathing instead of forcing myself into the hardest pose I can do. Today I even did 40 mins of slow sun salutation and it was amazing. I focused on my breath, I got some warmth and it was enough!",0 +11216,"My first day in yoga. Hello! +I'm 24F and I tried some yoga online during cuarantine. +But today I started taking yoga classes and I feel like it is exactly what I need right now. A lot of things happened this month and the universe has aligned to take me here. + +This is just a welcome greeting. + +I look forward to being part of this community. ❤️",0 +11217,"This is my yoga connection. I live in a yoga-poor section of the country. I’m a working professional. The 3 yoga-including exercise businesses around here cater to a crowd that apparently don’t work at all or have self-hours jobs; all classes are during my job hours (basically M-F 7-5), and there’s nothing on the weekends open to me if I don’t have a $200 yoga-joint subscription, and they’re all 30 miles away and popular, aka tough to get a spot. + +The one place that offered evening/night classes closed down because the owner sold it and relocated, the new owner turned it into a food joint. + +I’ve found that commenting here gives me a little feeling of connection. Too bad I can’t actually DO anything with people, but at least I can share knowledge and feel a kinship to others of my kind.",0 +11218,"What does it take to forward fold?. Going on 1.5 yrs of almost daily home practice…Either wide legged, hip width or feet together, my folds are more like an upside-down “U” with a flat back vs actually bringing my torso anywhere near my legs (for lack of a better descriptor, nowhere near a sheet of paper folded in half) Is this a hip mobility thing? A low back thing? I am very tight in hamstrings and I think weak jn hip flexors. Are there other asanas or exercises that would help with folding? Or just… more folding? 🤔",0 +11219,"Calisthenics or Yoga. I have read few interesting things about calisthenics that it improves our strength. So i thought of joining calistenics classes. + + But my father is insisting me to go for yoga classes as it keeps the body and mind in sync. + +I'm really not sure what to choose. Btw I'm 21.",0 +11220,"Studios. Those who practice yoga at a studio, how far would you be willing to drive to do so? + +Context: I'm super bummed b/c every yoga studio ""closest"" to my new residence is at least 35 minutes away. That's a huge time commitment round trip, including the class and cleanup after. I really prefer practicing at a studio, I feel I get more out of it. + +Edit to say thanks for everyone’s suggestions. :) Based on what I’ve read here and thinking on it more, I think I will need to explore how good the instructors and classes are both at more local gyms and actual studios farther away to conclude the best approach. Maybe I will do a variety of home and studio classes based on how it goes. Thanks again! :)",0 +11221,suggest me some yoga steps which can help me to reduce my all day mental and physical fatigue?. ,0 +11222,"Starting 200 YTT tomorrow and feeling extremely nervous. I’m starting my 200 YTT tomorrow and the imposter syndrome is hitting me hard. I’m worried people won’t take me seriously or that I’ve made a mistake by signing up. I’m on the beginner side for sure but I’m passionate about yoga. I feel like I’m not “qualified” enough to do this or like I haven’t studied enough before the course.. + +Any recommendations/ journaling prompts/ tips to feel more comfortable? I feel ill prepared. Seeking some empathy.. + +*Update: I graduated yesterday and I feel great. I am so grateful for the opportunity to learn from diverse teachers and deepen my spiritual practice, as well as my asana practice. Thank you for all your support. 🙏🏻*",0 +11223,"is it personal preference to not eat or drink anything an hour(ish) before doing yoga ?. Just wondering, cause I read it somewhere in a yoga book 🤔",0 +11224,"Since I started doing yoga…. I find myself doing yoga poses while doing everyday tasks like… + +Doing half moon while cleaning a whelping box(It has high walls, kinda tricky)",0 +11225,[COMP] Crow pose. Should I practice putting my knees instead of my shins on my arm? And how could I do that?. ,0 +11226,"How to become more in tune and elegant with body movements ?. I’m relatively new to yoga, and began about a year ago as a way to release tension stress etc. I was pondering about the ways humans move & how some are very tense and stiff even with walking or simple movements; whereas others are so elegant, soft and almost as if they flow in movement. Do you believe this has anything to do with yoga practice, or being in tune with one’s body?",0 +11227,How hard should I stretch? I feel that I can press quite hard into the movements such as a pigeon but also don't want to do it so hard it hurts my muscles and causes them to tighten. Where's the limit for intensity?. ,0 +11228,"Bridge City (Pgh). 240lb male (42), practicing for just over a year. Did my first Chakrasana this morning!! +Blew out my L5 at the S1 joint and it's been a slow recovery. Yoga is then ONLY activity that got me out of pain and off the couch. I garner such inspiration and encouragement from this sub. Thank you, everyone!!",0 +11229,"Yoga helps with ADHD?. Hey all, + + +I'm (28f) looking into Yoga to see if it is something for me. But I do have a few questions and I was hoping some of you might give me an honest answer. +Yoga promises a lot of benefits for both mental and physical. But I can't help but being a little bit skeptical. + + +Can yoga help with symptoms of ADHD? Anyone out here who has ADHD and their experience with this? Does it also help with emotional regulations? + + +I would like to be both more flexible and physically stronger. Is that possible if I practice Yoga 30min a day? How long till I can expect some results? Any youtube channels you recommend for me to start with? + + +I'm having problems with my pelvic muscles for some time now. My boyfriend and I haven't been able to be intimate. I am already going to a fysiotherapist with this but will yoga help with, or speed up, this process? + + +How does Yoga help with depression/anxiety or trauma's. Anyone experience with that? I'm already seeing a therapist for these. But I would really like to see if this could give a helping hand. + + +Sorry for all these questions. I hope some of you might be able to give me an answer and/or share your experiences.",0 +11230,"I find it hard to square my hips in standing split. In standing split (not that I'm actually doing it properly ahahaha!) Everytime I try to do it, my hips lean in the direction that my leg is lifted. And then, when I square them, my leg that's in the air is bent and I just can't do the split properly. + +Any tips?",0 +11231,[COMP] Could someone give me some form tips and tell me what this pose is called? first time trying it. ,0 +11232,"Ganglion cyst when I do yoga. I was really into yoga for a year or two and developed a ganglion cyst on my hand/wrist. I stopped doing it for awhile, the cyst went away and now a couple years later I started up daily yoga again. The cyst has returned! + +Doctor says it’ll go away with time but I’m wondering if I’m holding my planks wrong or if something is causing this???? Or just my bad luck?",0 +11233,"Has anyone began a career teaching yoga while also a new mum/parent?. I completed my 200 hr YTT a few years ago, but I didn’t pursue teaching afterwards as it just wasn’t feeling like my path. I appreciated the experience for what it was and for deepening my knowledge in yoga. However, I’m now in a completely different stage in my life, and head space, and am feeling called toward teaching. Specifically I think I would like to have more of a focus on prenatal yoga which I’d need to do some workshops etc. for. +For now I stay home with my daughter (1 y/o) but in a few months I’ll be looking for full time work. (Not for teaching yet though). I’ve been working on getting back to my own practise every day, and eventually I’d like to teach. + +I’d love to hear you experiences beginning to teach while also having a new family, busy life, what have you. +Any advice, suggestions, tips are welcome. +Thank you 😌💛",0 +11234,"Yoga for mental health. Hi, I not only want to do yoga for toning and such, but my main priority is to help with PTSD. I'm just starting this week, so I'm not really sure where t start, how many days a week I should do to make sure I do this healthily? And what sort of yoga I should be doing. I'm primarily focused on using this as a manner of processing rather than exercise. Any suggestions on where I should begin? I honestly have tried meditation I'm not good at it I can't focus on anything at all really, I do not have that power. I'm hoping adding physical parts to it would help manage that and make it easier to meditate and ground. What are the things I need to do while practicing to manage this?",0 +11235,"Started raining during savasana. I just did a 45 min flow on Down Dog app, and during savasana it started raining outside! + +Context, it’s been super humid in Sydney past few days and I was lying there thinking when is it going to start raining?… because the weather forecast has just been so wrong the past few days saying it’s meant to rain/storm but it’s just been super gloomy… and about halfway through my savasana I heard ~weather~ sounds outside, but I kept my eyes closed because I thought it was just light wind … after a while I realised it was rain !! + +Anyway super random but it was just so lovely and thought to share :)",0 +11236,Curious to hear about how many of you use yoga beyond its physical benefits. Just wondering how many of you use it for spirituality and religious reasons as well.,0 +11237,"Question regarding downward dog and Carpal Tunnel/Ulnar Nerve Entrapment. I am brand new to yoga and have been doing Amazon prime videos for about two months. I’ve been seeing some amazing positive changes in my body- particularly, that my plantar fasciitis has been greatly* reduced. I’ve been struggling with plantar fasciitis for over ten years so this is huge for me. However, I’ve noticed that my carpal tunnel and ulnar nerve entrapment have gotten pretty bad these past couple days. After a little research, I’ve come to the conclusion that Downward Dog is aggravating both these conditions. Is there a way to modify this- or replace it with a pose that still gives me a great stretch in my hamstrings, calves, and Achilles’ tendon? I don’t want to lose my progress with my plantar fasciitis but the carpal tunnel and nerve entrapment are getting pretty bad.",0 +11238,"Expensive classes. So I moved into a bigger city recently and I have been searching for a yoga studio everywhere. Everywhere I have gone has been expensive, say 20-25 dollars for a single class. However, I’m given the option to pay a cheaper price for a bundle which I’m just not sure of given how they brand their studio.. I have nothing against LuluLemon as I have friends who swear by their products and clothing, but almost all of these studios are marketing themselves with this brand and making certain classes more expensive for using these products. What is your advice for finding a yoga studio who truly cares about the practice and teaching others the ways of yoga and not making money or selling a brand?",0 +11239,when did you fall in love with yoga?. I want to read stories about people discovering yoga,0 +11240,hip popped while doing seated forward fold. I was doing a seated forward fold and my right hip popped. It wasn't a regular pop though. It felt like something shifted in my hip too. I have slight hamstring soreness now. Any idea what I did to myself?,0 +11241,"Did you return to yoga after a broken wrist?. I’ve been practicing yoga for about 20 years and I love it, but I recently fractured my wrist in a roller skating accident. I had to have surgery and I’m in for a long recovery. I would love to hear from people who were able to return to their practice after having an injury that prevented weight-bearing and significantly inhibited their range of motion. Right now I can barely move my wrist at all (it’s been about a month since the injury and a week since surgery) and I’m feeling afraid I may never be able to practice like I used to. Thanks in advance!",0 +11242,"Does this annoy you: Students not following the practice in class?. Hi all, + +I have been practicing yoga on and off for 20+ years. One trend, that I find distracting, are yoga class students taking their own practice, while the rest of us are trying to follow the yoga teacher. In every class I attend, there seem to be at least 1 or 2. + + +I am referring to people who throw in all sorts of twists, chair poses, balancing poses etc. when the teacher is taking the class through a rudimentary Sun A for warm up. + +​ + +Or imagine the class taking 5 breaths in a triangle pose, while someone is off on their own flow practice. + +What is the best way to handle this situation? Or is this just part of the yoga community and acceptable?",0 +11243,[COMP] variation of getting into gomukhasana. ,0 +11244,"I'm taking my first yoga class tomorrow. The students are beginners. Do you'll recommend keeping the class a vinyasa flow session considering its beginners who are learning? Am I overestimating myself and students to do the vinyasa flows? Help fast. Edit- so the flow I've planned isn't all that intense, it's a simple garudasana arms while on a low lunge.. following that I'm ending with a couple of stretches for the neck/upper back- thread the needle, puppy and Criss cross hands followed by savasana and pranayama + +Edit 2- my class went really really well. Students were happy and so was I. Thankyou all for your energy as well",0 +11245,"Yoga everyday or two to three times a week?. Is better to do 10 minutes a day or is it better to longer sessions three times a week? + +Thanks",0 +11246,"Weed and yoga. Hi guys, I want to ask if there are any dangers or extra benefits with holding asanas while high.",0 +11247,"Blending the Line of Yoga & Modern-Day Medicine. Hi y'all! To give you some background on myself & what I am looking to accomplish: + +I am a graduate from CU Boulder with a degree in Biology. I have a HUGE love, passion, and appreciation for yoga. It has changed my life, and helped me through the toughest times in my life. + +I am absolutely FASCINATED by the science behind yoga as well. For example, the book The Body Keeps the Score! I want to get to a place where I help to blend the gap between modern day medicine and alternative practices. Also known as complementary/integrative health. + +So, I have this vision, but I am not sure how to get there... Any help would be greatly appreciated!! Much love, & thanks in advance :)",0 +11248,Some asanas by Sri Tirumalai Krishnamacharya in 1938. ,0 +11249,"Advice on getting started after trauma, bipolar and heavy medication. I am wanting to start a yoga practice but I am struggling to get started. I have a diagnosis of bipolar disorder and I’m on a number of heavy medications that impact my motivation and energy level. I also have a trauma history. + +I’m quite unfit and inflexible. Does anyone have any recommendations for getting started with yoga and what form I should take up? + +I would love to have an increase in some positive energy. I recently spent 5 months in a psychiatric hospital mostly lying on my bed. I feel stuck in inertia which makes it hard to make a start. + +Any advice would be appreciated. + +Thanks for reading.",0 +11250,"Do you need a variety of yoga practices to get a well-rounded emotional benefit?. I’m a new yogi. I notice after/during a more fast-paced yoga flow I feel more resilient and strong, and after/during yin or restorative yoga I feel more rested and calm. It seems like I need both because the active yoga doesn’t make me calm and the yin yoga doesn’t give me the resilience. Thoughts?",0 +11251,"Shaking during poses. Hello! + +I've been doing yoga for just over 6 months now. Morning and evening yoga, and I have grown quite flexible and comfortable in the poses. However, since the first day, I noticed that during certain poses like a wide-legged forward fold, my legs begin to shake. I've tried being more loose, thinking that it's because I was stretching my muscles out too much and that they were just too tight telling me to calm down. But, they still shake. I am unsure why but I was wondering if anyone has experienced this or if people have any tips on how to work around or with it, or, totally get past it?",0 +11252,"Down dog app summer sale is on. It seems as down dog app is doing their summer sale if you subscribe from their website. It's not as cheap as last year, but still a very good deal with 67% off at 19.99$ per year with access to all their apps",0 +11253,Anyone else bust into uncontrollable laughter during yoga? Specifically hip Opener. ,0 +11254,"Am I the only one who see inconsistencies in some of the ""benefits"" of yoga? What are these claims based on? (salabhasana/trikonasana). Hello everyone. Right now I'm doing a 200 YTT. But sometimes when it comes to the subject of benefits of yoga I don't know what to think. + +I've always been a training & physical conditioning enthusiast, in fact, I'm currently working on a functional training gym. So with the knowledge I have in the field it is hard to take it seriously when my teachers say things like : ""this pose gives a nice massage to x or y organs"". Another common thing I hear is ""trikonasana salabhasana help reduce abdominal fat and strenghtens those same muscles"" + +It is well known that no matter what, you can't decide or induce fat reduction in any specific body part. + +It is also contradictory to say that you strenght or tone your abdominals when they are stretched when during Salabhasana for example you are mainly engaging your lower back /posterior muscles. + +There are more examples of duvious claims but I've failed to find any information addressing this topic. I don't want to hate on yoga. In fact I think it is a great discipline but those claims dont stop bothering me. + + Is it like this in any school, do they all keep preaching the same benefits over and over without questioning the source?",0 +11255,"Spine crackling. Since I started working on my back strength and flexibility, I am noticing my spine crackling as never happened before. It's a pleasure when it happens but I just would like to know if that's a good thing and if I am going in the right direction. +Thanks for your answers.",0 +11256,"love at first class. today marked the first day I attended my first hot vinyasa class! I’ve been a lurker here for a bit and honestly reading peoples experiences made me more excited to go and I’m so happy I did! + +did I sweat like there was no tomorrow? yes. did I lose balance at some poses and needed a breather? yea and I loved how comfortable the instructor was to assure the class that it’s okay to take a quick breather/go into child’s pose. + +I’m really glad that I pushed myself for a whole hour class (when I usually practice vinyasa for 15-30 minutes) and thank you everyone for their wonderful posts/advice! you guys really helped me get into the right mindset!!",0 +11257,"How often do you have to do yoga to see benefits?. I've messed around with yoga before, a class here and there and some online videos.. + +But I'm just wondering, if I did 2 classes a week, is that frequent enough to see improvements in flexibility? + +I'm a 21yo male and I work as an electrician if that matters.",0 +11258,"A question about pigeon pose alignment. I (41F) have had a regular yoga practice for close to 15 years, the last few years I've been practicing at home. If it's relevant, I'm fit and slim. I practice 30-60 minutes 2-3 x per week. + +I have always wondered about the instruction that in pigeon pose, you're supposed to have your front calf parallell to the mat, ie almost in a 90 degree angle. To me, it's just not doable. If I bend my leg so it's closer to, I don't know, 45 degrees, I am able to lay (lie?) down, and I get an awesome sensation in the outer hip. I really love this pose. + +If I attempt to keep my leg at a 90 degree bend, I almost have to sit upright, and my whole alignment is changed. I feel like I can't relax in the pose at all. It's just a very annoying pose. + +Is it wrong to do my version of PP, or do I need to go for years (we will be talking years) of an uncomfortable version in order to get my calf parallell? + +PP is one of my favorite poses. I'm a runner, so I really need that tension release. I don't get that when I attempt to do it the ""right"" way. + + (For comparison, after all these years I still can't get all the way down in the splits, which makes me think that something that's so out of reach as PP with a parallell leg, is not going to be possible in the foreseeable future - at all).",0 +11259,[COMP] Happy Thanksgiving!. ,0 +11260,"Back popping/cracking sound every time in Supine Twist. Good or bad?. Every time I cross one leg over the other in Supine Twist, I hear a lower back crack or pop—it happens on both sides. At first I thought it was a good thing and that my joints were becoming “unstuck,” but now years later, I’m not so sure. I don’t hear anyone else’s joints cracking in class. + +Does your lower back make a popping sound in supine twist? What might these cracking sounds be that I’m experiencing?",0 +11261,"Any tips on breathing?. I'm only on my second week of practicing 10-15 minutes about 5 days a week. + +I have a hard time remembering to breathe though, I practice along with YouTube videos and I find myself forgetting to breathe as I'm focusing on what the instructor is saying and how to do the pose correctly. + +Does this just come with time or does anyone have any tips?",0 +11262,"The story of front splits pose: our beloved monkey-god, Hanuman and the Ramayana. **SPLITS, KNEELING POSE, & LOW-LUNGE | The Epic Ramayana** + +I want to share perhaps the most famous of the Hindu epics today, called the Ramayana, my favorite story of all time. Over the past few posts, I’ve given some background on who Vishnu, this preserver deity is, the snake that is his resting place ([resting Vishnu pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wgb452/the_story_behind_the_asana_the_protector_god/)), and the eagle god who offers him safe carriage ([eagle pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wgxfg9/the_story_of_eagle_posewho_is_garuda_and_why_does/)). I mentioned that Vishnu, as the protector, is the god who comes down in avataric form to help us restore dharma here on earth. + +One of his best-known avatars is our beloved lord Rama. But this story isn’t about Rama alone, but rather Rama and his faithful servant, the monkey god, Hanuman, and there are at least three poses named after this tale. I’ll jump right in. + +​ + +[Rama and Hanuman](https://preview.redd.it/uperqfidoig91.jpg?width=426&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8b58218b77526dd4817193be57b827c6b191c10c) + +Prince Rama was destined to rule the kingdom of Ayodhya. But his jealous step-mother wanted *her* son to be king instead, and through some back-handedness, she succeeded in banishing Rama into the forest for 14 years. So unjust was this banishment, that Rama’s wife, princess Sita, and his dear brother, Lakshmana, begged to accompany him in his exile, unable to bear life without his presence, and knowing that Rama was the true dharmic king. + +​ + +[Rama and Sita](https://preview.redd.it/6l06dgnroig91.jpg?width=921&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=98b676cecee272d61ab984a6b5f4466e9ab00f35) + +Rama and Sita are said to have the most pure and beautiful love--they are the god Vishnu and goddess Lakshmi, after all--and Lakshmana the most loyal brother and friend. So although they had to give up their riches to live in the forest, they eventually found peace, wandering from ashram to ashram to learn from the great sages and ascetics who resided there, camping wherever their hearts desired. Sita in particular had a great talent for communicating with animals, and would speak to the birds and deer and rabbits along the way. + +​ + +[Rama, Sita, and Lakshmana](https://preview.redd.it/cyqygpvnoig91.jpg?width=476&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4765a264d4be8382605076f93361d8210b36cbfa) + +What they didn’t know, was that the demon-king Ravana had taken notice of Sita and fallen in love with her. While our heroes settled into their ashram, Ravana was devising a plan to kidnap the princess. + +Observing Sita’s deep love of animals, the evil Ravana commanded one of his demon henchmen to take the form of a spectacular golden deer, and sent him into the forest. When Sita spotted the beautiful creature, she begged Rama to go and catch it for her. Rama asked his brother, Lakshmana, to care for Sita in his absence, and went out in the woods to capture the golden deer. + +​ + +[Sita spots the golden deer](https://preview.redd.it/w9cg6p0xoig91.jpg?width=602&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d50e2bbb91ee5ed60eaed5bba43e01f5ad099918) + +As soon as Rama had caught up with the deer, miles from the ashram, the deer transformed back into its demon form and let out a cry--one that sounded EXACTLY like Rama’s own voice. + +​ + +[I just love this image by artist Sonali Zohra](https://preview.redd.it/mvr6azyyoig91.png?width=1243&format=png&auto=webp&s=523eaa1accacd71159cd0d978ad02e726ba44964) + +From back at the ashram, Sita and Lakshmana heard Rama’s cries of pain, and Sita begged her brother-in-law to go and save her husband. She was so insistent, that Lakshmana eventually agreed, but not before drawing a protective circle in the dirt around her, promising that as long as she stays within the circle, no harm will come to her. Then Lakshmana dashed off into the forest to save his brother. + +​ + +[Lakshmana's protective circle](https://preview.redd.it/9fr9y01cpig91.jpg?width=936&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e5c05126be97521d56f39ff0c1c9b766fa6a23d4) + +Sita waited within her magic circle for what felt like ages. Eventually, an old beggar man approached her, begging for just a small bit of rice to ease his pangs of hunger. Sita’s kindness was her most powerful attribute, and she couldn’t turn the beggar away. + +​ + +[Sita leaves her circle](https://preview.redd.it/ogdmlqadpig91.png?width=1000&format=png&auto=webp&s=b6c5023a15693ecf9087199d320c16044a4cacc6) + +The moment she stepped out of her circle to help him, the old man transformed into the demon king Ravana, grabbed Sita, and swept her away. + +Ravana flew into the air with Sita in his arms, as she tried desperately to escape his grasp. For miles they flew, until an eagle being named Jatayu (cousin of Garuda) saw them, and tried to fight Ravana to free the princess. But the eagle was struck down. Sita continued to fight with Ravana, as he flew her further and further away. At one point, she called down to some monkeys she saw in the trees, and, hoping to give Rama some clue of her whereabouts, she tossed her jewelry down to them. + +[Sita dropping jewelry to the monkeys](https://preview.redd.it/mitbzin9qig91.jpg?width=336&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0685fe5d8e2f3c10cc28a6fee0390d6f621d8308) + +And so Ravana succeeded in kidnapping princess Sita, carrying her across the sea to his demon kingdom of Lanka. + +When Rama and Lakshmana arrived back at their camp, Sita was gone. + +They set off desperately into the woods to find Sita, but there was no sign of her. When they found the dying eagle, Jatayu, all he could tell them was that a demon had her, and had headed south. Rama spent years searching the woods for his wife. But no matter where he and Lakshmana looked, they couldn’t find her. His desperation increased by the day. She was gone. + +Then, one day, in the final year of Rama’s exile, Rama and Lakshmana saw some monkeys carrying the princess’s jewelry. When questioned, the monkeys brought Rama and Lakshmana to meet their monkey rulers--creatures called vanaras, monkey-like beings with incredible gifts. This is when Rama first met Hanuman. + +​ + +[Sri Hanuman](https://preview.redd.it/9x5djb0kqig91.png?width=838&format=png&auto=webp&s=81dec461aa380c737ecc81665576cf35e0578dc8) + +To know Hanuman is to know loyalty, courage, and kindness. Hanuman is no ordinary monkey. He is the son of an apsara (similar to an angel) named Anjana, and of the wind-god, Vayu, and as such, he has great powers and abilities--for example, he has the power to travel on the wind, leaping great distances as if carried by the breeze. But when Hanuman was a child, so carefree and silly and monkey-like was he, that he one day mistook the sun for a mango, and when he leapt up to take a bite, he got so close to succeeding that that sun-god, Surya, struck him down and cursed him with short-term memory. + +[Baby Hanuman](https://preview.redd.it/nhukya0rqig91.jpg?width=201&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d5580990e036e68408e7711c6f7b21b5f3585333) + +So Hanuman never remembered that he was divine, the son of the wind. For most of his life, he doubted himself, considering himself a simple, silly monkey. + +Until Rama arrived. + +When Hanuman looked upon Rama, he immediately recognized him as God. Unlike anyone else, Hanuman could see that Rama was Vishnu, and he knelt down before him and vowed, with complete certainty in himself, that he would rescue the princess Sita. + +​ + +[Hanuman in Vajrasana \(or Virasana\)](https://preview.redd.it/awqesh0vqig91.png?width=370&format=png&auto=webp&s=ecd8d4edece3fb9eb0846b396b724d304ccefa9e) + +Which brings us to our first pose: hero’s pose, Hanuman kneeling before Lord Rama in absolute devotion. + +Variations of this kneeling pose are called virasana (which translates to hero's pose) and vajrasana. A vajra is a weapon (like the one laid in front of Hanuman above) said to have magical powers that make it harder than diamond. Hanuman is famously called Bajranga Bali, aka Vajra-anga-bali, which means ""one whose limbs (anga) are like a vajra""--an honorific name exalting Hanuman's incredible strength. + +​ + +[Vajrasana](https://preview.redd.it/e3qvidx9uig91.jpg?width=2833&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8df730a6f3104974b4da7d17393e19e08479f29d) + +There’s a great anecdote in the sage Tulsidas' version of the Ramayana, where Rama looks upon Hanuman and is confused by his strange appearance. Rama asks Hanuman, “what are you? Are you monkey, or are you man?” and Hanuman responds, “When I forget who I am, I serve you. When I remember who I am, I am you.” This pose represents that idea for me: when we are in our human (monkey) form, we serve god. And when we remember our true nature--when we remember who we really are--we see the divinity within ourselves as well. + +So Hanuman had complete faith in himself to serve Rama, and to return princess Sita to him. The story continues that Hanuman climbed to the top of a mountain, and though he had no idea where he was going, he took a giant, split-legged leap of faith straight across the Indian Ocean. + +​ + +[Hanuman's leap](https://preview.redd.it/7v1il3ieuig91.png?width=850&format=png&auto=webp&s=09fe75d407ef2ac8b73155833201d6e69cd366c3) + +As the son of the wind, he was carried exactly where he needed to go, from India to Lanka, and due solely to his faith, was able to locate Sita under a tree outside Ravana’s harem. + +So Hanumanasana is exactly that--Hanuman’s leap of faith across the sea to find Sita. + +​ + +[Hanumanasana](https://preview.redd.it/1vgtsr0juig91.jpg?width=2480&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d38798c99336b0f8ef814c1ae48d89433eaba267) + +Hanuman managed to relay the message to Sita that Rama had never stopped searching for her, and now that Hanuman had found her, he promised they’d return with an entire army of monkeys to rescue her. And for good measure, Hanuman decided to do a bit of destruction on his own before returning to Rama: he set his own tail on fire and ran rampant through the kingdom, burning down as many buildings as he could along his way. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/uzq01afsuig91.jpg?width=434&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8698fcbf458216b025bec3c74e681c261fcc5336 + +And so Hanuman kept his promise: he taught his vanara army to build a bridge all the way across the sea so that Rama could lead the monkeys into battle against the demons. An epic fight ensued, and ultimately, the demons were defeated. + +​ + +[Just for fun, this is the full statue behind me in those pics in Bali, depicting the monkey army overtaking one of the demons, Ravana's brother, Kumbhakarana, in the battle of Lanka](https://preview.redd.it/71f5uzwuuig91.jpg?width=3661&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cd1ddd06568458dcde72430842370fd7161f4229) + +Hanuman had completed his task: Ravana was killed, the demon kingdom was destroyed, and Sita was returned home to her beloved. Rama was finally crowned the rightful King of Ayodhya. + +Tulsidas’ Ramayana goes on to tell of a moment when King Rama and Ma Sita wanted to thank Hanuman for his devotion. In their palace, they gave him gold and jewels and pearls as a symbol of their gratitude. But seeming to revert to his monkey nature, Hanuman instead started chewing on the pearls, as if trying to crack them open. The king’s ministers were horrified and scolded Hanuman. But when Sita asked him what he was doing, Hanuman said: “while these are beautiful gifts, I’m afraid they have no value to me, unless somehow inside is hidden the name of my Lord Rama.” + +Those gathered in assembly laughed at this, and one minister joked to Hanuman: “if you’ll only wear that which contains Rama inside, how can you wear your own fur?” + +Hanuman, famously, knelt down in front of his lord’s throne and split open his own chest to show them that there, within his own heart, were the names of Rama and Sita, forever etched upon his soul. + +​ + +[Hanuman kneeling in Anjaneyasana](https://preview.redd.it/uxivqfx2wig91.jpg?width=480&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d5e1b07f7ed791aa92348a23d1a1d1d7ac78a084) + +Low-lunge pose is called anjaneyasana in Sanskrit. Anjaneya means “son of Anjana,” aka Hanuman, so this pose is directly named after our monkey god, devoted servant and loyal friend of Ram, opening his heart. + +​ + +[Anjaneyasana, \\""Son of Anjana\\"" Pose aka low-lunge](https://preview.redd.it/xllatdz5wig91.jpg?width=2451&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5eff53ded7bd1d9a75716452cbd4c71fc6ae3617) + +There is so, so much more I can say about this amazing story, and how taking these shapes of Hanuman in asana impacts our lives. But even in writing this, I’m struck with a strong desire to just chant the names:**Ram Ram Ram Sita Ram Ram Ram** + +**Sita Ram Sita Ram Sita Ram Sita Ram** + +**Jai Sita Ram Jai Jai Hanuman! Hanuman Bolo!** + +When we kneel in virasana, we’re Hanuman in devotion to god and recognition of the god within ourselves. When we bow into any version of Hanumanasana, we’re taking our own leap of faith across our own oceans. And when we open our hearts in a low-lunge, we are blissfully connecting to the divine within and around us. + +It’s written right there on our hearts. + +\----------- + +Linking externally has made a few of my posts wonky, but if you feel called to chant, search for **""Baba Hanuman"" by Krishna Das** or **""Hanuman Bolo"" by Janet Stone** on Spotify or any Jai Sri Ram mantra you like :) You might also find it interesting to Youtube the opening scene of a Disney movie called ""A Little Princess,"" which was my favorite movie as a kid, haha. + +And as always, please share the variations you've heard! The original Ramayana is attributed to the sage Valmiki around the 6th century BC, and many of the details above were added by the sage Tulsidas in the 1500s. There are so many incredible re-tellings that center Sita, or center Hanuman, etc., etc. so I'd love to hear other details you all may know. + +Read about: [dancer’s pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/w8ltpk/why_dancers_pose_is_named_after_shiva_nataraja_a/), the [warrior poses](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/w9k9x1/another_story_behind_the_asana_the_warrior_poses/), [goddess pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/waasut/story_behind_the_asana_goddess_pose_to_slay_your/), [half-moon pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wb9z2i/story_behind_the_asana_lord_ganesha_and_half_moon/), [sleeping Vishnu pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wgb452/the_story_behind_the_asana_the_protector_god/), and [eagle pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wgxfg9/the_story_of_eagle_posewho_is_garuda_and_why_does/). You might also like: [biomechanics of alignment](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/si5ml7/for_any_yogis_who_want_to_go_deeper_heres_a_long/), how to form the habit of [yoga as a daily practice](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/s9kc3c/for_anyone_who_is_struggling_to_maintain_a/), and videos about [forward folds](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/oq3g8s/comp_mini_lesson_about_forward_folds_history_and/) and [headstand](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/ojftze/comp_this_is_the_technique_that_finally_made/).   + +Jai Sri Ram <3",0 +11263,What is the best achievement you had due to yoga?. Mine is being completely away from my addiction for 4 years and 62 days.,0 +11264,"Cold feet and cramping.. I’m about 3 months into my yoga journey and am still struggling with cold feet and cramping. Any time the tops of my feet are on the mat, my feet cramp. It’s frustrating and distracting. I’ve only had one session where I didn’t fight foot cramps, even doing hot yoga! Any tips or tricks would be GREATLY appreciated!",0 +11265,"Considering teaching, but was told I should not instruct yoga as a white person. Is this a commonly held belief?. Hi all, + +I’ve recently been considering doing one of the 200 hr yoga teacher training programs. I’ve gotten so much out of my own practice the past year, and am looking for a way to deepen my experience and possibly share with others. + +I was discussing with a friend and they were of the opinion that, as a white woman, I should *never* teach yoga to others—this is something that only Indians/people of Indian descent should do. (Friend recommended I instruct pilates instead...) + +I know this is only one person’s opinion, but I do realize the cultural appropriation concern. I’ve gone back and read the threads. I’m not looking for a debate because I know that’s been gone through before. I’m simply curious: **is it common to encounter individuals with the belief that the yoga teaching sphere is NOT for white people? Is this idea gaining traction?** + +For me, yoga is a positive experience, a safe space, and the thought of helping others through it is what motivated me to seriously consider the teacher training. But I worry that if so many people feel strongly that I should not be in this space, I would not be able to fully be present in the experience...or like I'm potentially taking the opportunity away from someone else. + +Thinking down the road, I worry what if someone came to class and had a problem with a white woman leading it? + +I’ve met with the instructors of the program I am considering, and they do include discussion on cultural appropriation. I’m not the type of person to slap an Om symbol on my water bottle, but I’m still concerned and want to be as respectful as possible. + +Thanks for reading. I recognize this can be a sensitive subject.",0 +11266,"Comprehensive overview of yoga poses according to the body part the benefit most. Is there a website or other resource that lets you look up yoga poses based on the body part which the pose focuses on? + +As an example, if I want a summary of all hip-opening poses, I will currently look them up on Google, a relevant post on this subreddit or watch a video on Youtube. I collect them and afterwards I write them down in my notebook. + +Does anyone know a better way to get a comprehensive overview, ideally including pictures of the poses? + +EDIT (summary of most popular answers): + +Website: + +[yogajournal.com/poses](https://yogajournal.com/poses) + +Books: + +""Yoga Anatomy"" or ""The Key Muscles of Yoga"" by Ray Long + +""Yoga Anatomy"" by Leslie Kaminoff + +""2100 Asanas"" by Daniel Lacerda",0 +11267,"Yoga/meditation books to help with anger ?. I'm in real need of suggestions or help dealing with my rage. I've been in therapy for 3 years dealing with rage blackouts caused by PTSD, and it's been a tough process. I was doing better, then the pandemic happened and many things in my life crumbled, and my partner almost died due to covid complications and the stress has reverted me back to my old angry ways. I'm a yoga teacher, I practice nearly every day, meditate, eat pretty healthy- but I'm still losing my temper and screaming at people in traffic and melting down due to stress, and my blood pressure is getting pretty high as of late. I feel like a 'failure' for being such an angry Buddhist/yoga teacher tbh + +I'm looking for any suggestions on books/podcasts/or whatever helpful teachers about anger ! + +edit: Thanks for all of the great recommendations! I've got a couple of your suggestions checked out from the library and I look forward to seeing where this takes me <3 + +​",0 +11268,"Poses with blocks. Hey there Yogis :) + +What are some of your favourite poses where you use blocks? +How have blocks or other props helped you develop and stay safe in your practice? +🙏",0 +11269,"Yoga for emotional release. I never thought I would be seeking out suggestions on this. + +My father died abruptly in May. We had a difficult relationship. I haven’t cried. I’m not mourning really. And don’t plan to go to the memorial. + +But I feel this bubble of emotions below the surface and wonder if there are practice suggestions to aid in that release. + +Thanks",0 +11270,"What do I do about my wrist?😭. EDIT: I just came back from an X-Ray. I guess we will see what happens 😟 + +For at least the past 4 weeks, my left wrist has been really bothering me when I put any kind of weight on it. Low plank & crow in particular are pretty painful. I’ve been using tight compression wraps and (this is not healthy I know) taking 3 Tylenol before I practice to help me power through. + +I suspect I may have twisted something during a flip dog pose (flip dog to full wheel, *turn around on one hand back to down dog*) OR perhaps my wrists just not appreciating supporting an extra 30lbs of body weight (recently I had an 8 month period where I gained like 30lbs and then lost it pretty quickly). +Idk. + +In any event- what do I do? A few people have said “go to a doctor” but what is a doctor even going to do? I can’t imagine needing an x-ray or anything. Is anyone going to be able to do anything besides tell me to stay off it? I’ve been practicing Baptiste hot yoga for like 3-4 years and I’m only 32 so it’s not like I am overextending myself too much. + +I’m mostly concerned because it’s my left wrist and I am very much a lefty so it’s not like I have a spare lol.",0 +11271,"People who don't plan their yoga practice, how do you feel what your body needs in that moment?. I've been wanting to just check in with my body and see what it wants before my yoga practice rather than going according to a certain plan. So it would be great to get some insights from the people who have been doing this for a long time. Thanks for the replies in advance! :)",0 +11272,Yoga for knee pain. I recently went back on the mat after a long time pausing. I have a desk job that is quite demanding in terms of hours so after all these lockdowns and working from home my knees are destroyed. There were times that my knees would lock when bent and I could not move them. Steady exercise has helped a bit and I intend to visit a doctor however I am interested in poses that could help with knee pain and strengthen my muscles. Any poses you have in mind?,0 +11273,"Plus sized and can't hop to top of mat from down dog. Hi there, one thing I really struggle with as someone who is fat and holds a lot of their weight in their middle is how to gracefully and seamlessly get from downward dog to ""hopping/skipping"" up to full standing at the top of the mat. Like I just can't do it. Do you have any tips for how to make this movement easier when you have a bigger body?",0 +11274,"Having a guru, versus having mentors? Thoughts?. In Yogic and Hindu circles I always hear, ""Serious seekers NEED a guru."" Yet when I meet with potential gurus for initiation, I often feel like it isn't for me. I often feel a sense that there is a lot of dogmatism being forced on me, too much worship towards the guru, and also often just an intuitive feeling that it may not be right. + +So, now I am considering just having mentors in the Yogic space, and relying on the Yoga Sutras and traditional texts to guide my practice and teaching, rather than having a traditional guru. + +I am wondering what other serious Yoga teachers and students think about going down this path without one main guru? + +(For background: I have studied Kriya Yoga in the Yogananda tradition, Vedanta in the Ramakrishna tradition, and Zen Buddhism... I never felt comfortable solidifying one guru in these spaces) + +Namaste",0 +11275,"[COMP] I would love advice on my Camel Pose! I have an old lower back injury (plus scoliosis), limiting my back mobility.. ",0 +11276,"Feeling Good 😎🥰. Went to my 2nd ever in-person yoga class tonight. My body feels so good!! Nice and relaxed, I know this shower is gonna make me want to sink deep into my bedsheets and sleep until tomorrow afternoon 😂😂 +I really enjoyed the class, the instructor, and I’m very excited for the next one!",0 +11277,"Do i need to stretch after yoga?. Hi! I'm new to yoga and i was wondering where is the place for stretching in it, from what i've seen it looks like yoga includes all in a session: strenght, balance, meditation and stretch. + +However i find myself with some muscle soreness, do you practice any stretching after your yoga sessions?",0 +11278,[comp] tuck handstand?. ,0 +11279,"recently discovered passion for yoga. Hi all + +40Y.M. + +I've through tough times. Sickness in my parents and my kids. Financial burden. Work burn out. You know ... the works. Admittedly, I was borderline suicidal. I dunno what prompted me to fire up an online video for yoga and I practiced along. The feeling ... the sensation. I literally felt a space has been created in my mind. I am totally sold. I've felt a sensation of joy ... long forgotten. No drugs needed. It did not solve my problems ... yet it put me in a better place ... May be 10% .. but I will take that over nothing. + + I started telling everybody around me with a sparkly eyes... I felt everybody should and must know this. + +What I've noticed so far in me: + +1. I do not want the class to end. +2. When I do not do it ... My mind craves it. +3. I do not crave my addictions on the days I am on it. + +Are these observations just a transient beginner's thing and it's gonna fade away? Or this is what it's all about? This is what yoga supposed to make you feel? Any recommendations from yoga veterans?",0 +11280,"Besides child's pose, what is your favorite pose for grounding?. ",0 +11281,"Has anyone seen a major increase in flexibility from yoga?. I’ve started yoga this year became I am extremely inflexible. I can’t touch my toes, my hamstrings are extremely tight and sitting down I can barely bend forward. + +I’m 26, so I know it’s unlikely I’ll be doing oversplits anytime soon but will I see massive results from yoga or is it just too late? I’m really trying to stick with it regardless but doing yoga next to flexi people can feel a little embarrassing!",0 +11282,"Find it difficult to do restorative yoga in the winter. And yet this is the time when I need it the most- (stressful family/holiday time) The issue I face is not being able to stay warm while in the poses. Even with the heat on and blankets, the body is still stiff and cold. Its just very uncomfortable and Im not able to fully relax. Anyone find ways to stay warm the whole practice?",0 +11283,Yoga with a toddler. I've started getting into yoga in addition to running. I would like to get my toddler into yoga as an activity for us to do together and hopefully she'll like it as she gets older. Anyone know any tips on how I can best approach this?,0 +11284,"Practice Not Perfection and dealing with an injury. Sorry this is so long. + +TLDR: The reminder to show up as you are hits different when you are coming back from a significant injury. Yoga is keeping my mental health afloat. + +**Some background info:** + +A year ago I was regularly practicing yoga (and climbing/running etc) I was maybe not advanced in my practice but I was close. I practiced all styles of yoga but I had really given up most of my practice around covid and fit in my other hobbies (I wasn't a fan of zoom yoga). Once I found yoga (maybe 8 years ago) I had trouble letting it go. + +11 months ago I broke my dominant (right) wrist, dislocated it and tore the SL ligament. I had surgery a week later to get a plate and pins put in. 9 months ago I was relearning how to wiggle/bend my fingers. 6 months ago I was working on holding and lifting 1-3# weights. + +**Relearning an important lesson:** + +One of the things I love most about practicing yoga is the acceptance and reminders to accept yourself and your body where it is in each moment and to have your practice meet you where you need it to. + +In the past, this mindset kept me focused on each of my new challenges like learning crow or 8 angle or other asanas. Not every day is the same. I may have a day I hit the pose and the next practice it might be like I am trying the pose for the first time, but one thing I could count on was that my body moved the way I expected it to. Don't get me wrong, there might be aches and pains and adjustments, but they were minor. The reminders to accept my movement in the moment and progress would follow. I was the fittest I had ever been and I was seeing amazing progress. + +When I busted my wrist I went to a really dark place. Exercise was pretty much impossible. I gained a lot of weight. I couldn't use my right hand at all, I was struggling to do every basic, normal thing I learned to do as a child. + +A few months ago I tried some yoga classes but I couldn't put any weight on my hand so I was limited and gave up. I eventually started going to the gym andworking with heavier weights (still way lighter than what I was used to 5#-7# instead of 25#) + +For the last 3 weeks, I have been going to yoga 2x a week and it has been an emotional roller coaster. + +My body doesn't move the way I am used to. I get exhausted and have to modify down dog. Just about every pose is modified, and my endurance due to not being as fit as I am used to is frustrating and I have at times allowed myself to feel demoralized and embarrassed over it. + +But that's not yoga is it? I show up to the mat where my body is. I am each day completing my practice. I am adjusting to fit my body, regardless of what others are doing in the class. **I can't compare me today to me a year ago.** This is an unnatural thought for me because in the past, I would reflect on where I started vs where I am now but that has been KILLING my mental health. The reminder to just show up where I am today, find my edge and push it just a bit is why I am grateful for yoga. + +If you read all this: thanks for letting me share.",0 +11285,"Question on buying a yoga wheel for heavy people.. First off I apologies if I have posted this on the wrong sub reddit. + +I am 250lbs and looking to buy a Yoga wheel. Previously I had a chirp wheel which I used moderately for 5 months and it broke. I was wondering if anyone had any recommendations for a Yoga wheel that might be better for me, or where I might look for said information?",0 +11286,[COMP] Happy Friday everyone! Just a little Yoga comedy to start off the weekend: I have a friend who likes to “fix” my asana posts with his artistic skills! Here he claims to have drawn my head out of my ass😂. ,0 +11287,"awesome yoga teachers, thank you!. I know all yoga teachers have something to offer however not all of them are awesome! I have been doing yoga for sometime, practiced across the world with different teachers and styles. The ones that I have connected with most, teach from their heart, it's in their language, the way they support, encourage and nurture everybody in the class. They can empathize with all students and offer them guidance to get them from wherever they're at e.g., from 5 to 6 or 50 to 51 as opposed to 1 to 50 or 25 to 80 😂 I am grateful to practice with these awesome teachers! I wonder how many can relate to what I am talking about?",0 +11288,Asking for advice. When I swing a leg up from downward dog (either leg) my knee hits my chest before I can get my foot in between my hands. So I end up scrunching my toes to inch my foot forward those few inches. I’m tall but my legs can’t just be too long right? Or maybe my breasts are in the way?. ,0 +11289,"Ashtanga for beginners. Hello beautiful people 😊I have been practicing for over 2 months by myself mainly with Vinyasa flows and the Down Dog app. I am really interested into working on Ashtanga. I found a yoga studio near my new place with great reviews and I am already happy with the prices they have. I am really wondering, as a beginner with ashtanga in a studio what should I be expecting since there are no beginner classes so to say but everyone practices at the same time ? What do I do if there is something I cannot do?It's just those questions that come from nervous noobies I guess? I really think there is value in joining a studio especially for adjustments and corrections from the teacher so I'm looking for some more info 😊",0 +11290,Hurt my shoulder doing yoga. I was on day 28 of a 30 day challenge and I think I injured my rotator cuff doing chaturanga 😭 it’s been 6 weeks & it’s not healed so my doctor said it’s chronic. I thought it was healed a couple times so I did yoga and it flared up again. I’m so sad. Yoga is my favourite way to workout. Just ranting I guess 😮‍💨 has this happened to you before? I’d love to know your experience and/or advice.,0 +11291,"In your opinion, what is the most beautiful asana?. There a many but one I really love is wild thing (camatkarasana). I think it looks delicate and strong at the same time. + +[Wild thing](https://vinyasayogaacademy.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/camatkarasana-980x611.jpg)",0 +11292,"I'm grateful for what yoga is doing for me.. I've been doing my own little flow for the past week. I'm chronically ill and my muscles and joints are terrible. I love how much this little flow I do helps with that. I start with a lot of pain and by the time I'm finished the pain is mostly gone. I also sleep like a baby afterwards and for someone who struggles with sleep a lot, I'm so grateful to have this.",0 +11293,"[COMP] Posting this to bring your attention to yourself & take care of your body & mind need. Also, this stretch also helps in relieving mild back pain. Practice this and let me know how you feel.. ",0 +11294,"Non-competes in YTT. I’ve been looking for a YTT for years, and felt like I finally found one that would work for me. I paid the tuition and was planning to do the intensive in person training hours next summer. The yoga school and style of yoga has been trademarked. + +I was sent the instructor manual, which was several hundred pages and very in-depth. I started reading it, and there was a lot of information around how by taking the training, I’m entering into a noncompete agreement with the yoga school which means +1. I cannot open a yoga school or studio within 30 miles of the yoga school I’m getting certified at. Since I live nearby, this means I can’t open a studio without moving. +2. I cannot share, teach, or distribute the information I learn in my yoga training +3. If I break 1 or 2, it counts as intellectual property and copyright infringement, where I could be fined beginning at $150,000 +4. If I want to use my training in any form of educational program or group class, I need to arrange a legal license agreement with the school owner +5. As a branded instructor of this style of yoga, I am not authorized to offer any yoga certifications within the state I’m living in. After 10 years pass after my certification with this school, I can offer yoga certifications out of state if I agree to purchase the certification from this school at current cost. + +All of these things seem super restrictive, and it’s making me second guess going through with the YTT. I haven’t don’t anything in person yet, so I’m considering asking for a refund. I don’t think the noncompete is enforceable given state laws and the fact that entering the YTT isn’t an employment contract, but the fact that it’s included at all comes across as a red flag. I personally do not like the idea of having my training limited, especially if I’m paying for the training. + +Question for you yogis — is this a normal thing in the yoga world? Has anyone encountered similar terms and conditions with other branded yoga certifications?",0 +11295,[COMP] Finally able to perform Brahmacharyasana to Handstand to Brahmacharyasana to Handstand!. ,0 +11296,"Migraines after hot yoga class?. I've started hot yoga/power vinyasa a few months ago. I used to go about 4 times a week but lately I've minimized it to only once a week because lately I've been getting head splitting migraines after almost each class. + +I've had migraines since I was a child and they've always been resistant to pain killers, but yoga seems to be triggering them more often for some reason. If I had to guess why, I'd say certain choreography as well as room temperature. Some instructors will keep it a pleasant 90-something Fahrenheit while others crank it to 100+ and I think the hotter it is the more likely I'll trigger an attack. + +Whenever I get migraines at random, sleeping them off will usually help, but when it comes to the yoga-induced migraines, I'll feel a mild one forming almost immediately after an evening class, then I'll go to bed and wake up the next day with a full-blown migraine anyways. Hot showering, heated neck wraps, cold compress, Icy Hot and Tiger Balm, nothing seems to help. Popping some Advil before bed has like a 50/50 chance of doing anything, but obviously I'd very much like to avoid taking painkillers every other night. The most common answer I see is to keep drinking water, but I already drink a ton of water throughout the day. I can chug 40 oz prior to class and it usually helps a little, but then I end up leaving every 10 minutes to go pee, so I probably avoid the migraines naturally because I'm spending almost half of the practice time in the bathroom! + +Has anyone had a similar situation?",0 +11297,"Struggling with poses due to weight. I (27m) just started yoga a few days ago. I was always flexible but quarantine hit me like a truck and in now on the threshold of obesity. I went to yoga since the general health benefits seemed optimal. And as it turns out my balance and flexibility are still mostly there. Stiff in some joints, but mostly good. But that also created a problem. My belly fat is large to the point that certain poses (child’s pose is my most memorable) push my stomach into me and make it hard to breathe. My body can bend into the pose, but my lungs are actively being compressed. Certain twists, sitting poses, and rest poses do it as well. I’m already changing my diet, but does anyone have advice on how to avoid this?",0 +11298,"Manduka STILL slick!. Okay, I’ve done the sea salt thing twice now & have used my mat every day for about an hour this month & it’s still slip-central. Any ideas on the timeline / break-in tips?",0 +11299,"Disconnecting. The more I get in tune with myself and yamas and niyamas, there more k find myself pulling away from others, even my SO whom I love dearly and we have a child together. I’ve changed so drastically that I can’t even hold a conversation with him or others anymore. I feel like every conversation revolves around talking negatively about people or critiquing something and I find there is so much beauty in simply leaving things alone. +Is this a phase? I know at this point in my life I have spiritual work to do at the physical space I am in but I truly feel my path in life could be in solitary or living with others but in a whole other head space. I don’t think the latter is healthy",0 +11300,"Why do I feel like a new person?. Every time I do yoga, no matter how tired I was before the practice, I’m renewed, refreshed and ready to conquer all.",0 +11301,Would you have done yoga as a kid if more accessible to you back then?. ,0 +11302,"My Tree Pose Adventure. I tried a Yoga with Kassandra video in December and ran into tree pose. My balance has never been great and now that I'm 60, it's decline is notable and worrisome and it just reinforced what I already knew. So I thought I since I'm home, I'll get on it and take a few minutes here and there to practice. It was a good plan, but not a perfect one. + +I've always been one to put my shoes on in the a.m. and take them off at bedtime. I quickly found out practicing tree pose with shoes on is rough on the legs, especially if you're wearing shorts. So I thought that maybe I'll just take my shoes off, problem solved. And that got me to thinking ""Well why I am wearing shoes at home, anyway?"" And that lead into me taking my shoes off when I got home. And it feels like a nice mindful transition, a bit Mr. Rogersesque. + +And then I started thinking about SANDALS! I have never worn sandals. I have never thought about wearing sandals. The sun exposure my feet have received over my adult life could be measured in a few hours, they're as white as they could be. Or at least they were. I bought the sandals. I am now the proud owner of ever so faint tan lines on my feet. I love my sandals. My feet are just going to have to toughen up a bit. It's a bit weird, but my feet now feel totally ensconced when I wear socks and shoes, like they're bundled up for a special occasion. + +So I started daily practice just balancing on one foot, switching every 2 minutes. I soon realized I was balancing on the balls of my feet and not using my heel nearly enough. Standing there in my bare feet feeling that solidity, from my heels to the top of my head feels amazing. Almost feels like I'm tilting backward sometimes but in a very good way. And the Warrior 1 & 2 that I do daily feel so much stronger and grounded. + +I knew from the beginning yoga would change me. But it's just Tree Pose, isn't it?",0 +11303,"Grateful for 2021. I didn't know where to post this but since yoga played a big part of it I'm posting it here. +2021 was very challenging for all of us, others less others more. However I wanted to say how grateful I am for my journey of 2021 bad or good, my yoga practise my meditation and where it brought me and what I'm realising about myself and my mind. +I hope 2022 would be a better year for all us but we remaining grounded and grateful. +What are you grateful for 2021?",0 +11304,"Thoracic back pain. This is my first post so I apologize if I’m doing it incorrectly! + +I’ve been dealing with thoracic back pain for years, and it’s gotten increasingly bothersome. I feel a constant knot or pinching sensation near my right shoulder blade. I have also been doing yoga regularly for about 4 years, 2-4 times a week. I feel like I have a lot of strength and flexibility in my back, but I always have so much soreness and tightness in my thoracic back after yoga. I never get sore anywhere else. I also struggle with poor posture and work at a computer all day. I’ve been reading online that maybe my back/thoracic muscles aren’t strong enough to hold up my neck and shoulders, resulting in poor posture. This makes sense in theory but I just don’t understand what I’m doing wrong, I feel like I do have a lot of back strength. + +Anyone have a similar situation or tips for improving posture and strengthening thoracic muscles through yoga?",0 +11305,"New with questions. Hi everyone, + +I (25M) am brand new to yoga. Like, only tried it a couple of times. I'm very overweight and not used to exercise at all, but I really want to become a happier and healthier person. I struggle with anxiety and depression, and I find the yoga community supportive and welcoming which is great, not to mention what folks say yoga does for them mentally. + +I've not taken care of my body my entire life. I have a very hard time motivating myself to get on a treadmill or weight lift, but I am unsure if yoga will do what I am looking for an am having a hard time understanding the info I can find online lol, so I may need an ELI5. I want to lose weight, get stronger, get better conditioning (I get out of breath from a few stairs) and stop being so stiff and achey. Is yoga good for accomplishing these goals?",0 +11306,"Yoga Room. Hello, + +I’m not sure if this is necessarily the right place but I’m just finishing up redoing the spare room in my house. It’s currently an office and guest room. My girlfriend is really into yoga and I have some extra space in the room. So I’d like to add some yoga inspiration and inspired pieces/furniture. It’s not much room but just a few pieces to make it a better space for her to do yoga. We also have two cats that like to join in or hang around while doing yoga so if there’s something that can also incorporate them too. I don’t have a large budget either but it’s not nothing. (About $400). Please let me know what I could do or if there is somewhere I could go for additional help. Thank you!!",0 +11307,"I bought a Jade mat.... and I don't like it.. Adding this post for anyone on the market for a new mat. (Granted everything is subjective - I'm sure there are many of you who LOVE their Jade). But hey, maybe someone will find this helpful. + +I bought my Jade this month, color black, and have practiced on it about 5 times. + +**What I do not like -** + +\-It collects a lot of debris - hair, dust... sometimes in class I'll see a blonde hair or something that is clearly not mine sticking on the mat and it turns my stomach. + +\-Despite the mat being sticky, I find myself sliding in non-heated classes. + +**Overall-** + +It's not a bad mat, I just won't be buying another and I hate that I spent so much on it. + +Have you tried Jade? Are you a fan? If not, what did you switch to?",0 +11308,"Any other long-time practitioner/teachers struggle with Imposter Syndrome?. For context: I am a new Hatha based Asana teacher, have been certified as a meditation instructor for years, have degrees in Psych + Religious Studies, am completing a MA in Yoga Studies, and have been practicing and studying yoga (mainly tantric/hatha) for about a decade... I also am in the process of going through lineage based training in Kriya Yoga. + +For more context... I am a really purpose based person (or should I say ego?), and have always felt a pull to make yogic spirituality a large part of my service and career, and have a social media account where I share on Yoga + Yogic spirituality. When I am not expressing in this area, I feel almost incomplete and lacking purpose. + +Anyways, no matter how much research, study and practice I do, I always feel ""not good/qualified enough"" to share opinions of thoughts on Yoga. I often feel like if I'm not Paramahansa Yogananda, Ramana Maharshi, Krishnamacharya etc. who am I to ever have an opinion on something. + +I am wondering if any other Yoga/Meditation Teachers struggle with this in your classes and online expression? Additionally, what your thoughts are on the topic? + +Thanks and Namaste!",0 +11309,Yoga mat - Is this…what’s happening here? The mat is maybe 4 years old. I’ve no idea how long peeps keep their mats for.. ,0 +11310,"How to get back into yoga while dealing with loss of flexibility/ability?. Hey all, I'm a 27F who used to do yoga fairly regularly about 10 years ago and I'm trying to get back into it. My body has been through a lot of changes in the time between now and then (I'm currently up about 10ish pounds from my weight back then, but am down about 35ish pounds from my highest weight a couple years ago) and something I've really been struggling with is that things feel very different now than they did even as a beginner back then. Certain poses that were easy back then require much more effort now. Certain body parts (hips, thighs, etc.) have a lot of tension/discomfort during poses now when they never did back then. I'm sure part of it is the extra weight and part of it is not being a teenager anymore, but it's really discouraging and getting to my head and making me wonder why I'm even bothering. Does anyone have any advice/words of encouragement for how to mentally cope with these kinds of changes?",0 +11311,"Fightmaster Yoga videos. A couple of years ago I watched a lot of Lesley's videos and they were my favorite - recently I wanted to come back to them, but after I found out what happened a feel very conflicted. Maybe this is stupid, but I feel bad for wanting to watch those videos again. Do you think it's okay? Or is it somehow disrespectful?",0 +11312,"[COMP] Practice changed as it does. Getting back to yoga after a year of rollerskating, building those supportive muscles and opening/strengthening the lower body. Found this backbend from 2017 which I feel like was a lot of bendy low back. Thoughts/feedback on the differences?. ",0 +11313,"Ideas for creating a yoga space in hallway?. Hi all! I'm moving soon to a very small apartment where it seems like the only place I'll be able to practice is the hallway. Any ideas how to make this a yogi environment? +I tried pinterest/Google images but seemed to only get corner spaces, small rooms, or just pose ideas in a hallway.",0 +11314,[COMP] Maddy’s Warrior. ,0 +11315,"Recently started. Feeling amazing. Is there anything do I need to get other than Mat, towel and blocks?. +Hey guys, +I recently started doing yoga and I feel amazing especially with the breathing work. I want to do more of it and I already have yoga mat, towel, stretch bands(can't hold my leg up for a while without them) and blocks. Is there anything else you guys found useful that I should get and will be beneficial??",0 +11316,Winter reading list (decided to deep-dive to understand development of modern yoga practices). ,0 +11317,"Do you take rest days?. Hi all - really enjoying getting back into yoga after a couple year hiatus with the pandemic and a needlestick injury to my arm (nerve pain is the worst!!). + +Anyway, I’ve found that I love it so much and I do have a somewhat….driven…personality, that I don’t take rest days. I usually do a Yoga Studio session for 30 to 60 minutes each day, leaning toward the higher end, and love it to pieces for the stretching, calm being outdoors, and core muscle building. That said, my legs are feeling a bit worn down including my low back from all those forward bends, and I’m feeling guilty taking a rest day. Probably just my personality, but curious what others do in these situations? Thank you!!",0 +11318,I hate downward dog… it kills my toes and wrists. How come it’s the most common yoga pose? It hurts my toes and wrists. I hate this pose lol how can I do it without my toes feeling stretched out and hurting the next day?,0 +11319,"Help: Balancing yoga with weight-lifting. I've been practicing yoga for a while now and I really enjoy it. I've gotten good at poses that require flexibility and balance, but I'm lacking in strength. Of course I'm much stronger than before, as I've been doing bodyweight strength training too, but I'm not where I'd like to be especially with upper body strength. I started training with weights for a few months and I love it, I think it'll help me with yoga as well. + +​ + +How do I balance both of them in my routine? Any tips/examples are appreciated! If you're also a yogi who lifts weights please share your weekly routine/schedule + +Edit: I'm not looking for new training methods, I like lifting as it is and I like yoga as it is. I don't want to do pilates or calisthenics/yoga blends or burpees or anything. I was just looking for suggestions on weekly schedules where I can do both yoga and lifting workouts.",0 +11320,"Thanks Yoga Community!. For suggesting the ""Downward Dog"" App. I found it helpful to use in between my classes for practice. I teach 2 very low-impact classes and needed a self-practice. So, thanks to you! Still trying the app out on my own before I see if I want it - the journey continues.",0 +11321,"Super beginner yoga videos with tons of accommodations and cues?. Every time I try to get into yoga I run up against feeling like I have no idea what all the subtle things are I'm supposed to be doing in a given pose. On top of that I'm not always sure how to help accommodate a pose with things like blocks. + +I'm looking for a very beginner video or series that addresses things like breathing, should I be activating or relaxing my abs, how I should be tilting my pelvis, should my knees be active or relaxed, what should I be doing to alleviate wrist strain, should I be looking up or down, how can I use props to make a pose more achievable, etc. in detail for every single movement, not taking anything for granted. Basically ""ELI5"" yoga. Is there anything like this out there? + +Thanks so much!",0 +11322,"Visual evidence of daily yoga practice. I have an odd question and I’m not sure if I’m posting in the right place so please let me know if I need to change something. + +I’m excited that I’ve started a daily yoga practice (10 days and counting). My question is that I want to have a visual of each day adding up, if that makes sense? +So for example people who are losing weight will have two jars with marbles to show how much weight they have left to lose and how much weight they’ve lost. Obviously I’d only have one jar that I’d be adding to with each day I complete a yoga practice. However, idk if I want to do marbles or a jar but I know I want it to be physical (not just a habit tracker page). + +Any thoughts? +Thanks in advance for any responses",0 +11323,"Yoga for Sexual Energy and Restoration.. Hello everyone, I am new to the sub and have been returning to yoga over the past couple of months. I used to heavily practice it a few years back, but fell away for multiple reason. + +My question is fairly straight forward. I am certain there is an imbalance somewhere, as I used to enjoy certain aspects of the sexual side of my life, where it now feels uncomfortable and as a chore. It seemed to happen overnight as well, and nothing I’ve done has corrected it. It’s been months of dealing with it and I’ve finally reached my wits end, as it’s ruining something that I see fairly important from a connection standpoint. + +Can anyone recommend any practices or certain styles that I could look into to try and balance myself back out? Any tips/advice is welcome. I’m really looking forward to being able to return to myself again.",0 +11324,"""How Not To Do Yoga"" by Esther Gohkale. ",0 +11325,"Is it disrespectful to get a Buddha tattoo?. Hey everyone, I wanted to get some opinions on getting a Buddha tattoo on the inside of my wrist. I have always been drawn to Buddha as a symbol of ethical righteousness, knowledge and just being a good person. I do not practice Buddhism but I do hold great value on my yoga practice and have just recently completed my 200h yoga instructor course. Through my practices with other instructors there has been a lot of Buddhism themes and teaching that resonates with me which is why I’ve been thinking of getting a Buddha tattoo. The only thing that holds me back is that I do not want to be disrespectful or insensitive by getting this tattoo. + +Please let me know your options on this?",0 +11326,[COMP] Headstand SUP Yoga. ,0 +11327,"I teach my first class this Thursday!. I am almost finished with my 200hr certification, as part of my final requirements I am teaching a class that is free to the public. +I am a little nervous, I am not entirely familiar with the JIP sequence. If anyone has any tips or recommendations, I would love to hear them! + +Edit to add: I would love some cues for Flip Dog!",0 +11328,"Yoga with Lillias. Did anyone do Yoga With Lillias in the 80s on PBS? I was around 10, a latch key kid from a loving but chaotic/poverty stricken home, and I loved following along with Lillias after school when no one was home. + +Recently I’ve been stressed/depressed and trying to get back to yoga. I’ve not found anyone on Youtube that seems right for me, and I’m not ready to go to in-person classes with covid around, so I looked up Lillias videos on Youtube and there she is, in all her 1980s glory, and I’m loving it just as much as when I was a kid.",0 +11329,"Lifter (powerlifter) wanting to get into yoga. Hi all, I currently lift 3x a week in a strength program, on every second day. + +I have lookEd into yoga as well as Pilates and do believe they are a great complement to a weight program or any individual looking for some mobility and balance. + +Q) what made you pick yoga (or yoga over Pilates for that matter) + +Q) if I am looking to go into a yoga studio, what are things I should look for? My goals are to improve my body awareness, flexibility or mobility and core work/Strength from taking up yoga. + +There are so many flows or types of yoga and I’d like to know what ones you’d recommend for my background? + +Q) will instructors notice an attendee struggling and stop the session to walk around and correct a few here and there? How does the “Feedback or critique etiquette“ worK in a class? + +Q) are classes or studios welcoming to males? + +Thank you !",0 +11330,"Venting because I’m frustrated with my progress. EDIT: Thank you everyone for your kind and encouraging words. I appreciate all the advice and experiences shared with me, and I’ll definitely keep all in mind and heart❤️ + +Hey guys. I guess I just need to vent. + +I’m in the process of losing weight. I started regularly doing yoga in early 2020 for primarily for mental health reasons. + +I can’t say that I haven’t made any progress at all because I definitely have. I’m a little more flexible and I’m a little bit stronger after a year and 8 months of regular practice. And I’ve lost 30 pounds since then. I’m still overweight and need to lose 50-60 more pounds, but I’m just really frustrated that I still struggle to do more challenging yoga flows. + +I just finished a vinyasa flow and though I feel good afterwards, I can’t help but feel frustrated that I still find simple things such as a chaturanga or 3-legged dog to be difficult. I feel so heavy and weak because of my weight, and sometimes it’s difficult to do poses correctly (or at all) because of my belly. I really struggled a lot during my practice today because there was so much I couldn’t do. I just feel so discouraged that this is still where I’m at when I’m coming up on 2 years of regular practice. + +I know it takes time, but I feel like I would’ve progressed much faster if I wasn’t fat. I’m already working on my health, so there’s really nothing else I can do but be patient with myself and trust the process. But I just wanted to vent for a bit. + +Thanks if any of you have read through the disgruntled ramblings",0 +11331,Post covid malaise and fatigue- Has yoga helped anyone?. Been a year since I contracted Covid and still experiencing post exersional malaise or in layman terms post covid fatigue. Wanted to see if anyone was helped by any particular yogasanas or breathing techniques.,0 +11332,"How to clear my mind. I practice at a great studio. The teacher is very good at guiding us through the class. BUT I CANNOT STOP OTHER THOUGHTS FEOM COMING IN MY HEAD. Work issues pop up. Shopping lists I need to do after class. Honey Do projects to work on. +How can I turn it off? I try to get lost I. The breathing and it helps a little. Please advise.",0 +11333,"Is it normal to feel angry and irritated and generally down if you skip yoga for 2 3 days of you were practicing daily. I have been doing yoga for 1.5-2 months and whenever i skip yoga for like 3 4 days i feel like some sort of detox or withdrawal effects like i would be more irritated, less motivated in general less energy and down in general, and after that when i do yoga after some time so these symptoms are gone, and i feel good again + +Is this normal when you start yoga?",0 +11334,"Hello everyone, I physically can’t straighten my arms, struggling downward dog. Is there anything I can do to help with this? Thanks :). ",0 +11335,"An arm balance story! The sage of Koundinyasana and the Buddha. ​ + +[Koundinyasana \(the sage Kaundinya's pose\)](https://i.redd.it/z5rg44d9oxn91.gif) + +It’s been a while since I’ve shared a story! I was en-route back to Bali, and am now settled in and breathing in the island magic. + +And I keep seeing this guy everywhere: + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/lzakhpvcoxn91.jpg?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=003e27f5007459f41854562404163540cb67d75b + +The Buddha, or more specifically, the Shakyamuni Buddha (muni means sage or monk, and Shakya is the name of this particular sage’s kingdom). Bali is majority Hindu, rather than Buddhist, and yet the Buddha is revered here (and in yoga) as an example of perfect equanimity and enlightenment. The word ""buddha"" is actually a title meaning ""enlightened one,"" so there are other buddhas, but this famous one is often referred to as the “historical Buddha” or by his full name, Siddhartha Gautama, as he was a human sage who walked the earth just like us, some 2500 years ago. Certain sects of Hinduism even consider the Buddha to be another avatar of [Vishnu](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wgb452/the_story_behind_the_asana_the_protector_god/)\--a god on earth in human form. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/8brmk3xpoxn91.jpg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0ccb8affb4616d6a03600ced3d604078fe406478 + +So who was Siddhartha Gautama? + +Before he was the Buddha, he was a Hindu prince--born into the lap of luxury, in a splendid palace, with anything he desired at his whim. At the time of his birth, his parents called upon all of the great sages of the kingdom to come see baby Siddhartha and make predictions about his life. All of the wise men spoke of visions of great riches--jewels and gold, armies at his beck-and-call, and a kingdom more expansive and abundant than one could ever imagine. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/aqivcjicpxn91.jpg?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ea26b309801fb11f46f42742e312d4d0ed26bac9 + +All except for one sage. The one who lends his name to this pose: + +​ + +[Koundinyasana \(this is the \\""revolved\\"" version\)](https://preview.redd.it/qesntdguoxn91.jpg?width=5311&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0609b8f030a4d130ab7eb7771f3d14462f9b27cf) + +The muni named Kaundinya (or Kondanna) took one look at baby Siddhartha, and predicted that, while he would lead an unbelievably expansive “kingdom” of followers, it would be as a spiritual leader, not a king, and he would renounce all luxuries in a vow of poverty. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/kuqmn2tdpxn91.png?width=957&format=png&auto=webp&s=d87f3a79d75b8200f67afa8abe79421b87a83e33 + +Terrified of this vision coming true, Siddhartha’s parents banished the sage Kaundinya to the forest, and determined to prevent their son from learning that anything other than the palace’s luxuries even existed in the world. So for the first 29 years of Buddha’s life, he was kept confined within the palace walls, unaware of the world outside, sheltered from the suffering of others. + +So Siddhartha grew up receiving everything he desired, and yet, “desire” remained constant. Even though his parents kept him shielded from any real problems in the world, there was still suffering, wrapped up in this feeling of desire. There’s a story from Buddha’s childhood in which, in a moment of joy, he sat quietly under a rose-apple tree in the palace’s gardens, and fell into a deep and blissful state of freedom from worldly desires, and saw that all the decadence of the palace was unnecessary and dissatisfying. His parents were alarmed to see him meditating, believing he might fulfill Kaundinya's prophesy, and they doubled-down on their restrictions. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/2yq2hw6hpxn91.jpg?width=463&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=38c0eea0fe34ebcecb68297624bf40c15bb0de64 + +This nagging feeling that there must be something more led the young adult Siddhartha to one day convince a palace charioteer to take him out into the village. + +There, he saw what are referred to as the “four sights”: an old man bent with age, a person suffering with illness, a dead body, and a wandering ascetic spiritual seeker. + +​ + +[Siddhartha sees the Four Sights](https://preview.redd.it/51ge6t2opxn91.jpg?width=1024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2af3da3fb493f20aaa1c4b33e83d46b257ffdf48) + +These sights awoken something in Siddhartha: first, the realization that there is great suffering in the world, and that he, too, would be subject one day to the ravages of old age, illness, and death. And second, that there were those like the ascetic seeker who were searching for answers to this suffering. + +From that moment, Siddhartha decided to dedicate his life to seeking a cure for human suffering. And the first person he went to was the sage who had predicted his fate: Kaundinya, in his ashram in the forest. + +Kaundinya was an ascetic sage, a renunciate who believed the answer to the world’s suffering was to give up all worldly desires and battle one’s biological needs. Under his tutelage, Siddhartha began spending more and more time in deeper and deeper meditation. We often see statues of the “starving Buddha” inspired by this time of the Buddha’s life. For six years he refused to eat more than even a few grains of rice, until his body began to wither away. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/g42oupawpxn91.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=767274f00c121c5506d2d05778fd2ea75de26c73 + +He became so emaciated and so darkened by the sun, that when a woman named Sujata saw him, she mistook him for a tree spirit, and believed him to be the entity that had granted her wish of having a child. In her gratitude, she offered him rice pudding, and this act of kindness awoke Siddhartha to the suffering he was inflicting on his physical form through asceticism. He accepted the gift and ate the rice, which gave him the strength to continue his search, recognizing that ascetic renunciation was not the path to enlightenment. + +​ + +[Sujata offers kheer to Siddhartha](https://preview.redd.it/qqrokebypxn91.jpg?width=1366&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=379120fb88b12f98679ca43aa979b8a7904e04c3) + +So Siddhartha continued his journey. Eventually, he recalled the moment in his youth of sitting joyfully beneath the rose-apple tree, free of desire and suffering. Spotting a beautiful fig tree, Siddhartha sat beneath it and reflected on his life and experiences. He was quickly absorbed in a deep meditation, and there, beneath the tree, reached Enlightenment--freedom from suffering, his mind in complete peace, soul merged with the universe. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/w3nrn8eaqxn91.jpg?width=500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8c3228561f2a5e5c3dc91f06b2cc94c1ac643d54 + +Thus, Siddhartha--now the Buddha, the enlightened one--went on to teach what’s called the “Middle Way,” in which we are neither controlled by our desires and wants, wooed by the luxuries and pleasures of the world, nor made to renounce them as evil, and live in total asceticism without regard for our humanity. There is balance to be had between these two extremes. Buddhism’s “Middle Way” is comprised of an eightfold path, not so different from the eight limbs of yoga. The Noble Eightfold Path of Buddhism is: + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/h47ix1ilqxn91.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=831369a4f7c35052d253d14b82fad33dfa988dbb + +When I look at the yoga asana that is named after the sage Kaundinya, I see the physical representation of this balance. The split legs pointing in two opposing directions represent those two opposing philosophies: hedonism and asceticism, luxury and poverty, desire and renunciation. The challenge of the pose, as is the challenge of our lives, is to find balance between them, neither controlled by our wants nor ignorant of our needs. + +​ + +https://i.redd.it/iqb42ufoqxn91.gif + +Any challenging asana in yoga is fraught with pitfalls such as the Buddha experienced. When attempting a pose like Koundinyasana, are we so attached to the external shape of the pose, so filled with desire to achieve a cool-looking pose, that we sacrifice the well-being of our bodies (as Kaundinya advised Buddha to do)? Or instead, can we approach a challenge pose such as this with equanimity--without attachment to the results, with neither desire nor aversion--and find the peaceful middle way? + +I’ve injured myself through yoga many times, doing poses I know I shouldn’t, because my ego told me I should. And whenever I sit in the clarity of recovery, I think of the starving Buddha. When we push ourselves past the point of our physical limits in our quest for perfection, it’s because we’ve forgotten that we’re actually already perfect. Where Hindu and Buddhist philosophy agree is that we’re all said to have an inherent buddha-nature, a divine connection to source beneath the layers of illusion and suffering. We just become clouded and forgetful by the pitfalls along the path. Through the process of remembering, we achieve “lift-off”--a lightness of spirit. Balance. Peace. + +​ + +\------------- + +Most of the stories of Buddha's life come from early sacred ""biographies"" like the Buddhacarita and the Dharmaguptaka. + +If you like reading the cultural and historical context of the asana names, I've written about a quite a few others: [dancer’s pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/w8ltpk/why_dancers_pose_is_named_after_shiva_nataraja_a/), the [warrior poses](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/w9k9x1/another_story_behind_the_asana_the_warrior_poses/), [goddess pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/waasut/story_behind_the_asana_goddess_pose_to_slay_your/), [half-moon pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wb9z2i/story_behind_the_asana_lord_ganesha_and_half_moon/), [sleeping Vishnu pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wgb452/the_story_behind_the_asana_the_protector_god/), [eagle pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wgxfg9/the_story_of_eagle_posewho_is_garuda_and_why_does/), [front splits, low-lunge, & hero's pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wjf4oi/the_story_of_front_splits_pose_our_beloved/), [child's pose & cow-face pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wrr0zd/the_origin_stories_of_childs_pose_and_cowface/), and [bow pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wyi17k/the_story_of_bow_pose_dhanurasana_arjuna_and_the/). You might also like: [biomechanics of alignment](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/si5ml7/for_any_yogis_who_want_to_go_deeper_heres_a_long/), how to form the habit of [yoga as a daily practice](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/s9kc3c/for_anyone_who_is_struggling_to_maintain_a/), and videos about [forward folds](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/oq3g8s/comp_mini_lesson_about_forward_folds_history_and/) and [headstand](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/ojftze/comp_this_is_the_technique_that_finally_made/).  ",0 +11336,"how to stretch back that feels stuck?. i’m really flexible but my back hurts sometimes, and sometimes (usually right after i wake up) my back feels stuck, and it’s painful to stretch, and it’ll just barely move at all. i like to seated forward folds, and it’s usually really easy to put my elbows and head on the floor, but it’s painful sometimes when my back hurts, especially my lower back/tailbone. + +what can i do to stretch my lower back when it hurts and get back to my regular flexibility?",0 +11337,"Apps like down dog but use props?. I bought some blocks, a strap and a holster and want to use them but don’t know how. I wanted to know if there’s an app like downdog or a YouTube channel that uses props. Thanks!",0 +11338,"Studio owner. I don’t really have any to talk to about this…i own a small studio in a small rural town. We have been open 10 years, which for any small business is amazing. We survived pandemic shutdowns and thrived. +I know summer is typically slow and this year isn’t even that bad. But I have been having thoughts of closing. + +I have 2 small kids and life is just getting busier. I keep saying that once they get to school I’ll have more free time but honestly I don’t see it happening. + +And I don’t love everything attached to having a physical space…the overhead, cleaning, stress about paying my staff… + +I do have regular offsite class locations. Most are seasonal, flower farms, sunset location on the water, garden locations. But could find some cold weather options + +So I guess I want to know if there are any other studio owners that have closed their physical space and just teach offsite, private classes +And if that works. + +I know I will be letting down my staff and my community that I’ve worked so hard to build +I am having a really hard time with this + +*i also don’t think I could bare selling it +To see someone else run it everyday isn’t an option. If I’m done I’m done It’s been my baby I would need closure",0 +11339,"Learning yoga philosophy and having a hard time. +Hello! I just recently began taking my yoga practice more seriously, and am in a teaching trainer course that is covering topics on yoga philosophy. We are mainly referencing the Gita and Patanjali's sutras during this course time. These rexts are quite sacred and are literally the building blocks of how yoga started, at least that is what I have gathered thus far. + +In the beginning of this course, my teacher mentioned that yoga is not a religion. I have looked up the differences between religion and spirituality, and I am just confused as to how yoga isn't considering a religion. I'm not trying to offend, and I'm asking for forgiveness toward my ignorance as I am really trying to understand why she made this comment. + +I guess some of the comparisons I've noticed, for example, are between the ni/yamas and the 10 commandments. They both have guidelines on how to live your life in a pure manner in order to reach enlightenment/closer to God. Another example is how most yoga studios have followed the 8 limbs yoga path, and how that will lead you to enlightenment. + +Thank you for taking the time to read this.",0 +11340,"Advice on self practice. Hello everyone! +I’m practicing yoga for a while with classes from YouTube. In the last few weeks I’ve started to deepen my practice with taking classes all about breathing and reading some books, in order to do practice on my own. I tried to do few practices on my own and it felt wonderful, right for me and much more interesting. +But, naturally I’m repeating more or less the same asanas that I already know and and I find it a bit hard to choose the right asanas that will take my practice further, especially if I want to include counter poses etc. So I wanted to ask if do you plan your practice? Do you sit maybe with a notebook and write your plan before? or just doing what feels right for your body at that moment? Do you have a long term plan? And maybe do you think it’s good to stick to some basic asanas as a base and add to that something different in every practice? +Thank you for your time🙏🏼🙂",0 +11341,"Crying in Savasana? Guilty! Strange Feelings?. Had an amazing experience with my instructor today during our Zoom session. +We have been working our way through the Charkras over the last few weeks and were wrapping things up with the Crown Chakra. +She was working though a guided meditation/nidra and just couldn't help myself and started sobbing. +Connected to the greater consciousness of the universe? Maybe? Releasing a jumbled ball of frayed emotions in a moment of peace? More likely than not. + +Been doing yoga off and on the last 3 years and had some fun and success following along with online videos (Brett/Kassandra/Adrian) but have learned so much more and felt so more connected to everything in the last few months of having formal classes. + +Namaste and hope all find their peace. +Sorry for being too mushy or gooshy.",0 +11342,"Getting demotivated after hard yoga classes. Hi! So I’ve been doing yoga for about two years, but I just started getting into yoga seriously since December last year. I find that when a class is too hard, or I find myself unable to do some of the poses I get demotivated easily and it’s harder for me to get back on my mat. I know it’s just my ego’s attachment to an idea of how yoga should look and feel, but does anyone have any advice on how to push through that demotivation while in a harder class?",0 +11343,I've been experiencing random physical symptoms of panic (not sure why). Any positions or practices you would recommend to address this?. Thank you for so many suggestions!,0 +11344,"Is Yin Yoga good for beginners?. Hey yogis! Beginner here. + +So I just took my very first yoga class yesterday and I really enjoyed it! Although I am not flexible (yet) and I was very wobbly lol. Some poses were difficult but the ones that were doable I really enjoyed! + +Anyways, the studio I go to does classes all week and most of them were hot yoga which I don't really want to try just yet, but one of the classes is Yin Yoga and the class time fits in my schedule so I was wondering if Yin is good for beginners who aren't really flexible yet? + +Thanks in advance!",0 +11345,"yoga during COVID. i just got diagnosed with COVID last night. I’m fully vaccinated/boosted so I’m not expecting a terribly bad case, but I’m asthmatic and am definitely experiencing some harder-than-usual breathing moments. does anyone have restorative/easygoing practices that helped you connect with your breath and just stretch/move during or after COVID or a similar illness? I’m stuck isolating in a small room so would like something to help me move a little each day without overextending myself. thank you lovelies <3",0 +11346,"What does my instructor mean when they say “bring some awareness back into your body?”. My instructors finish yoga with this phrase all the time, does this mean during yoga I shouldn’t be thinking of anything else but yoga?",0 +11347,"Yoga recommendation. Been doing yoga at home for 2 years regularly, completed a couple of 30 day challenges (Julia Marie 30 days; yoga with Adriene Move, etc) and I find that my body is now looking for more intensive yoga practice. I highly enjoy 45min-1hr practice and would like to know any recommendations where I can find intermediate(?) and full practice videos? Also, not really interested in getting into studio classes. Thanks!",0 +11348,"Sit bone issues. I am doing yin yoga with the app down dog (beginner 1). When I do the half saddle fold or pigeon then the sit bone of my bent leg doesn’t touch my mat (far from). It is also challenging to square my hips. + +It is so bad that I wonder if it will ever be possible for me to do these poses with my sit bones touching the mat. Will this get better over time? What poses could help with this?",0 +11349,"The Story of Bow Pose (Dhanurasana) - Arjuna and the Bhagavad Gita. Perhaps the most famous foundational text of yoga philosophy is the Hindu holy book called the Bhagavad Gita (""The Song of God""), which is part of a larger epic called the Mahābhārata (""The Epic of India""). In fact, if these asana stories have inspired you to read any of the original texts, the Bhagavad Gita is the one I would recommend, as it’s such a profound explanation of the philosophy at the heart of yoga (my translation recommendations are at the bottom). It tells the following story. + +We now enter the era of adulthood for [Lord Krishna](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wrr0zd/the_origin_stories_of_childs_pose_and_cowface/), culminating in the epic battle of Kurukshetra, which is a war between two sets of Krishna’s cousins. + +​ + +[A variation of bow pose, dhanurasana](https://preview.redd.it/rsbgxi2os3k91.png?width=2402&format=png&auto=webp&s=3b36686d3658c0577287c58787bec2d72d8eaea4) + +One set of cousins are the 5 Pandava brothers, the “good guys” in this story--the most famous of which is Arjuna, the great archer. It’s said that our bow pose in yoga is representative of Arjuna’s bow that he takes with him into the battle. Arjuna’s elder brother Yudishthira is a man of perfect dharma and righteousness, and he is the rightful king of Kurukshetra. So the 5 Pandava brothers, with Arjuna and Yudishthira included, represent the side of “good” in the war of Kurukshetra. + +​ + +[Statue of Krishna \(standing\) and Arjuna \(the archer\) in Bali](https://preview.redd.it/44qwssnqs3k91.jpg?width=704&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ad2f803d1b5839eea605afbde9bd3cabcff80225) + +On the other side of the battle are the 100 Kaurava brothers, the leader of whom is Duryodhana, a man of great evil. Throughout their lives, the Kaurava brothers continually tried to usurp power from their cousins, the Pandavas, through cruelty and trickery. Even the story of their birth is straight out of a horror movie: their mother, Gandhari (who lived her life blind-folded in allegiance to her blind husband), had received a boon (a granted wish) from the sage Vyasa that she would give birth to 100 sons. But when she became pregnant with her first child, the pregnancy lasted two years. In a moment of frustration and grief, after two years of pregnancy, she pounded on her own belly, which induced contractions, and she “birthed” instead a huge grotesque hunk of flesh. She called on the sage Vyasa to explain why his boon had failed, and he told her to separate the flesh into 100 jars, add ghee, and wait another two years. The contents of the jars turned into black goo. + +​ + +[The birth of Duryodhana](https://preview.redd.it/v9tz9b8xs3k91.jpg?width=1280&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8ef567811df0d4cc19b451313efade444bbad7a8) + +After two years, the first of the jars broke open, and Duryhodana was born from it. It’s said that wolves howled and swarms of bats took to the sky and great storm clouds darkened the sun--all omens of a great evil being born into the world. + +​ + +[Gandhari and her 100 sons](https://preview.redd.it/ib0jssa8t3k91.jpg?width=462&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ab113ce8abc4ef3ce824c803e7b5a68e59111967) + +It really can’t be overstated how cruel the Kauravas were to the 5 Pandava brothers throughout their lives. They tried everything from poisoning the Pandavas, to burning down their home, to stealing and publicly stripping their wife. By winning a wager through cheating and trickery, the Kauravas succeeded in exiling the Pandavas for 13 years, with the promise that rule of their kingdom would be restored to them upon their return. + +​ + +[The Pandavas are forced into exile in the forest](https://preview.redd.it/xi73tfyg14k91.jpg?width=628&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=037457e7c0517368f1cd88d9ff04812cea1e336d) + +But the Kauravas were evil, so… + +When the Pandavas returned, the Kauravas refused to give up the kingdom without a fight. The Pandavas could see the devastation and unhappiness their people had suffered from being under the reign of such evil during their exile. In fact, it was predestined that if the Kauravas were to win the war, the world would be cast into an age of unprecedented darkness. + +So the Pandavas were left with no choice but to fight. + +Each of the five Pandava brothers was the son of a different god, and as such, each one was blessed with great powers. Arjuna was the son of the god Indra, who was the god of lightning and king of the heavens, and so Arjuna was the greatest archer in the world, with his arrows flying like lightning through the air. The godly Pandava brothers were of the warrior caste (ksathriya), and had trained their whole lives in their particular skills, and they managed to build an army of dharmic men to help them fight this battle of good versus evil. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/mt59q9kmt3k91.png?width=1658&format=png&auto=webp&s=bb6824a1ac84bd38faa2c7e419c4ab1a7edbb19f + +I mentioned that Krishna (who is the god Vishnu in avataric form) was also a cousin to both the Pandavas and Kauravas. Krishna, in this story, IS the concept of god--the universe, the divine, Source, everything. He knows that the Pandavas must win the battle, but being the cousin of both, he had to appear impartial. So he offered both the evil Duryodhana and the righteous Arjuna the same deal: you can choose between having either me, Krishna, on your side---or, my entire army. + +Duryodhana, not recognizing Krishna as the power of god, gleefully chose the army, while Arjuna recognized that, with god on their side, they could never fail, and he chose Krishna. So Krishna became Arjuna’s charioteer, to drive him into battle. + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/e61l5wdxt3k91.jpg?width=790&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9e697ea0cc3d2277589664314e9d0573a72e1534 + +Here begins the story of the Bhagavad Gita. + +The Pandavas were good men, and for good men, war is never welcomed. So as the armies stood facing one another, about to charge into battle, Arjuna looked out over the sea of his evil cousins and felt disheartened. + +He asked Krishna to drive him between the armies, so that he could take a closer look. The Bhagavad Gita tells the story of their ensuing conversation, in which Arjuna tells Krishna he doesn’t want to fight, and Krishna (god) explains to Arjuna the nature of life, death, and rebirth--what karma means, and what it means to do our duty, our dharma, while on earth. + +​ + +[Krishna drives Arjuna between the armies](https://preview.redd.it/p7275czut3k91.jpg?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=82b4cc2c2bc7f299db3a5a8862ec3a73091b144a) + +It may seem surprising that a philosophy which emphasizes *ahimsa*, or non-harming, would have as one of its holy books a text encouraging a compassionate warrior to go to battle. Many modern commentators have speculated that the war is a metaphor for our internal battles, and the importance of standing up to all the challenges we regularly face. In the modern day, we can definitely use this story to symbolize our own struggles, but the Kurukshetra war was a very real war. And while, despite many years of continual study and reflection on this text, I would never claim to be an expert in its message, one lesson that I always take away from the Gita is the ability to zoom out and see the bigger cosmic picture. + +​ + +[Krishna reveals his true image \(as god\/the universe\/everything\) to Arjuna](https://preview.redd.it/2gs0m21zt3k91.jpg?width=812&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c2ff6e49fd30e7620b03d7ca031b9ade24ccd8db) + +The Gita is the text in which we learn the details of reincarnation, and what it means for us to learn our life lessons and follow our life path in each cycle. Each life in which we “do our best” brings us closer to unification with the divine, to transcend this samsaric wheel. For Arjuna, his whole life’s purpose revolved around the battle--it was what he had unwittingly trained for his whole life, it was why his father was Indra, it was why he had been forced to endure all the traumas the Kauravas dished out--and the world’s fate was in his hands. So although the prospect of fighting was terrible, it was his dharma as a warrior, and the bigger picture was all “for the best.” + +In fact, in India, the lessons of the Gita are often summed up by the Gita Saar (the “essence of the Gita”), saying that: + +**“Whatever has happened has happened for good. Whatever is happening, is happening for good. And whatever will happen, will be for good also.”** + +Though it can be really  hard to see this when we’re in the midst of challenges, I always see it so clearly in retrospect. It reminds me a lot of the quote often (mis?)-attributed to John Lennon, “It will all be okay in the end, and if it’s not yet okay, then it’s not yet the end.” + +It’s a reminder to keep moving forward, to keep our heads up, to have faith that the universe has got our backs. + +​ + +[Rising into Bow Pose \(Dhanurasana\)](https://i.redd.it/o7e7sxk3u3k91.gif) + +There’s obviously a lifetime’s worth of study that can be done on the Bhagavad Gita, but for our purposes, I want to bring it back to bow pose, or dhanurasana. Dhanus means ""bow,"" with dhanudhara meaning ""archer"" in Sanskrit, so ""bow pose"" is a pretty direct translation of dhanurasana. I find this pose to be one of our more difficult back-bends, as it’s one of those in which we’re fighting against gravity in order to rise up, and balancing somewhat awkwardly on the belly. + +In this pose, it helps me to remember Arjuna, hanging in the balance between dharma and desire, directed by Krishna to rise up and fight. We take a deep breath and rise up in this pose, just as Arjuna lifted his bow-and-arrow to begin (and ultimately win) his own battle. + +Energetically, back-bends, which seek to open the chest and expand the space that the lungs have to fill, are traditionally done with the inhale, and therefore stimulate our bodies' sympathetic nervous system (the fight or flight response). When we first wake up in the morning, we tend to naturally take a backbend to energize ourselves and wake ourselves up (think of stretching your arms overhead in bed)--this is the energetic power of our back-bends when done with an inhale, to make ourselves feel more alert and alive. + +We can do this purposefully through yoga poses like bow pose, whenever we're feeling down, disheartened, or discouraged, like Arjuna. Rising into bow prepares you to face whatever battles lie before you. + +​ + +\---------------------- + +I'd love to hear what you've learned about the Bhagavad Gita as well! I recommend the translation by Eknath Easwaran for those who are interested in reading the text. I also enjoyed Ramesh Menon's version of the Mahabharata for those who are up for a very long epic read. + +Other stories of asanas I've posted: [dancer’s pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/w8ltpk/why_dancers_pose_is_named_after_shiva_nataraja_a/), the [warrior poses](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/w9k9x1/another_story_behind_the_asana_the_warrior_poses/), [goddess pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/waasut/story_behind_the_asana_goddess_pose_to_slay_your/), [half-moon pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wb9z2i/story_behind_the_asana_lord_ganesha_and_half_moon/), [sleeping Vishnu pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wgb452/the_story_behind_the_asana_the_protector_god/), [eagle pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wgxfg9/the_story_of_eagle_posewho_is_garuda_and_why_does/), [front splits, low-lunge, & hero's pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wjf4oi/the_story_of_front_splits_pose_our_beloved/), and [child's pose & cow-face pose](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/wrr0zd/the_origin_stories_of_childs_pose_and_cowface/). You might also like: [biomechanics of alignment](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/si5ml7/for_any_yogis_who_want_to_go_deeper_heres_a_long/), how to form the habit of [yoga as a daily practice](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/s9kc3c/for_anyone_who_is_struggling_to_maintain_a/), and videos about [forward folds](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/oq3g8s/comp_mini_lesson_about_forward_folds_history_and/) and [headstand](https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/ojftze/comp_this_is_the_technique_that_finally_made/).  ",0 +11350,"Sacred or very serious books on yoga for study?. Hello, I am interested in learning the science of yoga and not only the physical part. + +Does anyone know the books that may or may not be sacred but are really important in the study of yoga? + +Talk about mental issues, energies, transmutation, etc. + +And if there is someone who is advanced in learning and recommends me a learning path, I would greatly appreciate it. + +Thank you.",0 +11351,[COMP] Morning yin sesh!🌿. ,0 +11352,"[COMP]“Move your joints every day. You have to find your own tricks. Bury your mind deep in your heart, and watch the body move by itself.”. ",0 +11353,"Only affordable yoga class in town getting cancelled. I've been practicing yoga at a gym, twice a week for the past year. The class is ashtanga based and it has been the only class I have tried where I learned a lot about each asana. I have never been to a class where each asana was described so well and the teacher really helped me progress and learn. The class has been bringing me a lot of joy through the year. + +Besides the learning experience, and feeling safe and welcome, it was also the only place I could afford. Most yoga studios in my city go around double the price. Unfortunately, the gym is canceling the yoga classes and I'm feeling heartbroken. + +I just wanted to share this and let it off my chest. I'm upset the gym is canceling the class. I'm upset that many other classes are not as well structured and explained. I'm upset because yoga studios are so expensive and I cannot afford them. + +Has anyone experienced something similar? + +(I'm not sure if this kind of post is allowed, if not I will delete it later)",0 +11354,"Beginner Yogi - Mat. Hey everyone. I just took the plunge and decided to purchase a yoga course near my home that I’ll be attending twice weekly for the next 6 weeks. + +I’m all about making long term investments so I’m looking for suggestions for a mat that I could use for yoga and calisthenics (handstands, push ups, l-sits etc.) that could last me for years on end. Budget isn’t an issue! If it could also be used on grass that’d be great but isn’t a requirement. + +My hands get really sweaty quite easily and I’m 6ft4 (193cm). + +I’ve read a few posts suggesting a Jade Harmony mat or a Manduka Pro mat (except a lot of them say the Manduka mats are quite slippy). + +Any help will be greatly appreciated!! Thanks!",0 +11355,"How do I know if I’m doing the poses ‘right’?. Hello! The title explains it all but I often worry whether the poses I do are actually benefiting me or if I’m doing them wrong. For example, in warrior two I never know how much I should be turning my knees out or how much I should be bending the front leg. I am naturally quite flexible, so I’m not sure when to stop when the yoga instructor cues a certain move. + +I’ve looked up tips online/tried to check in a mirror but can never seem to know- so if anyone has any tips I would appreciate it very much! +Thank you for reading!🌱",0 +11356,"What muscles don’t get worked out practicing yoga?. I’ve heard before that the muscles used for pull ups don’t get worked out very much during yoga. Makes sense as yoga is almost all push and no pull. This made me ask the question, what other exercises would I want to do in order to create a total body workout using just yoga and a few other exercises? It would be nice to mostly practice yoga and do a handful of other exercises in order to hit every muscle group equally. Thanks.",0 +11357,"Future injuries should be rewarded. Too many people in this group give encouraging and non-helpful feedback to people in this group posting videos of asanas they aren’t ready to do. Yogasana will mess your body up when done to hastily. One should wobbly in any pose where you put the weight of your body on you head, chin, or neck. People are being encouraged to move to fast and will have injuries later in life. + +I can’t edit title- but I obv meant *shouldn’t be rewarded*",0 +11358,"So many poses are similar/need instructions for. I’ve been doing yoga a bit here and there for a few years now, and I find there are a lot of poses that are similar but no one explains the differences. + +What is the difference between baby cobra, cobra, and upward dog? Teachers sometimes give options to do these but never explain what the difference is. + +How is standing split different than 3 legged dog? How should my hips be? + +What does it mean when things are modified? Like what is a modified half lotus? What’s a half lotus? Or a full lotus? *edited because I didn’t meant to say full half lotus LOL + +I’ve taken classes at gyms and at yoga studios and still am lost on a lot of poses because the teachers don’t explain them. Even when they know there are new people in the class.",0 +11359,"Yoga mat. This is probably a silly question, but is getting my own mat worth it? The studio I go to offers them for free and I was wondering if it was best if I get my own. They offer a 6mm is there one that is better? Thoughts? +(Thanks to all who do take the time to answer 😊)",0 +11360,What's yall thoughts about this?🤔. ,0 +11361,"If only I knew that it would be my last lift. I should have enjoyed it and didn't let anyone affect my motivation. I'm grieving because the doctor told me to never lift again, lifting is my escape from this sad reality man. Still recovering and hoping to have 2nd chance, gym is my life :(. ",0 +11362,Lost 100lb in 11 months. my peak weight was 285 and I am now at 185. super proud of myself. ,0 +11363,33 divorced father- my Transformation. From addiction and depression to a healthy and happy life. 346lbs-258 today. 4 years. Thank you for looking.,0 +11364,"Gym, diet and hair transplants - Progress from age 28 to 41. ",0 +11365,What da dog doin?. ,0 +11366,Reality. ,0 +11367,"Behavioral biases. Distribution is pretty normal, but 95 always rounds to 100.. ",0 +11368,Do I look good? I have been working out for 2 months now. [13M]. ,0 +11369,pretty much. ,0 +11370,First week at the gym (419) vs most recent pic. (340) Still have a long way to go.. ,0 +11371,Text. ,0 +11372,My 9 Months Progress.. ,0 +11373,"One year progress, went from 105 to around 118. Eating a lot more now and feeling much stronger. ",0 +11374,This counts as a progress pic...right??. ,0 +11375,Pull-up PR (16 Reps). ,0 +11376,Gotta appreciate body dysmorphia. ,0 +11377,"Lean bulking. I dropped a bunch of weight during quarantine, then reverse dieted up to 1750 cals a day now. I’m 5’4 and weigh ~120 now.. ",0 +11378,"My ~7 Year Progress (not natty). Still have a long way to go! 5'9"", 125lbs > to 200lbs (plus a pump and perfect lighting). ",0 +11379,From having an undiagnosed eating disorder to progressing through my first bulk.. ,0 +11380,"First time hitting 10 consecutive pull-ups, thought I’d share here.. ",0 +11381,"It do be like that, huh?. ",0 +11382,225lbs down to 175lbs. ,0 +11383,"Transformation. I don't proclaim to be a body builder or anything of the sort. It's just a hobby that I really enjoy and a positive focus for me. As long as I don't revert to the old me, that's my personal goal.. ",0 +11384,"Just wanted to come on here and flex a little bit. (2 years apart, 216lbs to 145lbs)",0 +11385,Consistency is key. ,0 +11386,Bro who hurt you?. ,0 +11387,Before/After. ,0 +11388,It sure is a peaceful life.. ,0 +11389,"I did it, guys.. ",0 +11390,Not Much but here’s how I’ve changed since I started working out happier and healthier. ,0 +11391,Natural Progress (1 year). ,0 +11392,Bro imagine police pulls me over and I have this creatine in the bag 💀. ,0 +11393,150lbs DB Bench press x 8. ,0 +11394,My progress over three years.. ,0 +11395,1 year and 45 pounds later. ,0 +11396,"Hey guys, looking for a form check on my bench setup, is my arch ok or do I need to make it bigger?. ",0 +11397,Accurate representation of Gains. ,0 +11398,[ww] First time trying incline benches press. ,0 +11399,Shit’s getting real at my gym. ,0 +11400,At least he’s passionate about it. ,0 +11401,weightloss progress so far 270lbs-185lbs. ,0 +11402,Never walk into someone's personal space.. ,0 +11403,5month -25kg progress. ,0 +11404,Eternal gymbro. ,0 +11405,On the wall at a free gym run by a local church near where I grew up.. ,0 +11406,The difference 5 months can make. ,0 +11407,Never seen something so true. (Taken from r/memes. Creds to original owner.). ,0 +11408,Not all pain is gain. ,0 +11409,"4 months of progress, I went from struggling to curl 4kg to curling 14kg, it ain't much but I'm proud of how far I come :). ",0 +11410,"Finally got my life goal on Bench, wanted to share with someone… 315 x 1. ",0 +11411,18 month difference.. ,0 +11412,6 years later.. ,0 +11413,I was sick of having a dad bod. One year and -16 kg later.... ,0 +11414,eat more.. ,0 +11415,"Day1 vs Day 1,095. ",0 +11416,After long time off. 2 months training. 8 reps.. ,0 +11417,Don’t correct my grammar. ,0 +11418,"How is my squat, reduced weight alot to get a better form, please don't criticize my setup ( it's all i can afford ). ",0 +11419,9 month difference. 700+ miles of running and consistency in the gym.. ,0 +11420,Progress pics - one year of gym and rugby - feeling really proud today ✨. ,0 +11421,Weight loss progress :). ,0 +11422,"Same shirt, a broken heart apart. Lol, keep pushing through guys!. ",0 +11423,Finally met my short term goal! 205 to 180 👏 next goal is 175. ,0 +11424,i believe in powerlifting body physique supremacy. ,0 +11425,"865lb Deadlift, 45lb All Time PR. ",0 +11426,My 4months progress. ,0 +11427,415lb deadlift @ 125lb. ,0 +11428,18 months of remission. ,0 +11429,March 2022 —-> August 2022. ,0 +11430,"B/A 3 years in between these pics. When I took the left pic and really looked at it, it’s what convinced me I needed to change my habits. Results are from a combo of caloric deficit and lifting. Slow and steady wins the race!. ",0 +11431,1 Year Cut - 8 years of lifting - Digged myself out of depression for 2nd time.. ,0 +11432,6 month cut from February to August. 273 to 247. ,0 +11433,"""Hey guys, how's my form?"". ",0 +11434,6 months into my weight loss journey. My goal is 190.. ,0 +11435,I look so different when I am at home sitting vs after a pump at the gym under good lighting. Do other people have similar differences as well?. ,0 +11436,My first 4 months of gym. ,0 +11437,"Too scared to post on Instagram. Too scared to post on ig , going to post here , see how is my progress going and hearing your opinion +Started : 55KG +Currently : 64KG +Training : 8 months +Currently bulking +Age : Almost 17",0 +11438,"If you leave your weight on the bar/ floor, you are a cunt.. That is it, welcome to my ted talk.",0 +11439,M/24/5’8” [230lb to 176lb] (1 year). ,0 +11440,To say I’m happy with my progress is an understatement. ,0 +11441,3 years calisthenics 24 (m). ,0 +11442,My kinda gym partner 😤. ,0 +11443,"There was a time when masks were worn in the gym before the pandemic, remember?. ",0 +11444,50 year old firefighter deadlifts 600 lbs of flaming steel to celebrate his retirement. ,0 +11445,"As a former fatty, finally getting abs makes me feel so accomplished. ",0 +11446,"1 year exactly I've been at it, don't give up kings and queens. ",0 +11447,"I keep getting sent silly Instagram challenges, here is the latest. ",0 +11448,I just hit 135 for the first time the other day. I'm super proud. :). ,0 +11449,85% of the comments on this sub from DYELs. ,0 +11450,From 346 pounds 50% body fat to 195 ish pounds 12 5% body fat. Started on the 27th of May 2021 and the after pic was just taken yesterday. I am a boxer/fighter but I am begining to like bodybuilding. Be consistent in your workout and diet and believe in yourself. Don't let others put you down!. ,0 +11451,A guy at the gym told me I have terrible form on my squat. Was wondering what you guys think? (Form check). ,0 +11452,"1 Year Training On TRT & Sermorelin (anti aging HGH peptide). Going from a slob at 87kg to 81, by eating 10 portions of fruit & veg a day & training 7x1 hour weekly. I slowly aim to get up to 85kg, but ideally keeping protein below 0.8g per lb, seems to be a sweet spot between gains vs longevity.",0 +11453,just tryna make her proud. ,0 +11454,2020-2022 ~170 lbs to 138. ,0 +11455,I thought we all needed to take a moment to respect and admire King Ronnie 💪🏽. ,0 +11456,1yr upper body transformation (23f). ,0 +11457,How to ride a lat machine. ,0 +11458,M/28/5’10” [78kg >101 kg] (4 months) Unnatural. ,0 +11459,"Birthday just happened, so here’s a 1.5 year back progression!. ",0 +11460,What a breakup does to a mf like me (6 months). ,0 +11461,Can't wait. ,0 +11462,Started his journey at 13 weeks old today. Will update progress in due course ;). ,0 +11463,1.5 year progress 💪🏻💪🏻. ,0 +11464,3.5 years into lifting - From 73 to 85kg 18-21 y.o. ,0 +11465,First time 32kg dumbbells. ,0 +11466,We all know that feeling when you walk into the gym and you have the entire thing to yourself. One of my favorite things in life.. ,0 +11467,Lol. ,0 +11468,Got dumped (she cheated ) now I became a gym rat.. ,0 +11469,proud of myself for sticking with it :’). ,0 +11470,3 breakups and 2 rejections later. ,0 +11471,3 months of cutting. ,0 +11472,110kg for 5 reps 😊 55kg BW. ,0 +11473,Next month will be 1 year difference. ,0 +11474,This athelete with Cerebral Palsy deadlifted 200lbs while weighing only 99 lbs!. ,0 +11475,this sub anytime someone posts an impressive physique. ,0 +11476,"my progress, first pic january 2021, second pic june 2021, third picture januari 2022 fourth picture last night.. ",0 +11477,"1 year gym update. Still a ways to go, but joining this little gym was one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself. ~400 to ~235.. ",0 +11478,Mid April to today.. ,0 +11479,A before and after picture of growing my glutes. Been a long road! A before and after picture of my progress!. ,0 +11480,Upper Body Progress. ,0 +11481,1 year and a half in and I’m still going strong.. ,0 +11482,405 for 3 and that's a rep PR 😊. ,0 +11483,My weight loss journey over the course of 10 months I’m so happy (130kg - 85kg). ,0 +11484,"17 months working with my coach, if you can afford it a good coach is literally life changing. ",0 +11485,Pause squat PR 495lbs (225ish kg). ,0 +11486,I was so afraid of gaining weight but I'm very glad I did. ,0 +11487,Confession: I want a home gym to lift naked. Balls out and everything. ,0 +11488,Suicide Survivor 8 Month Bulk. ,0 +11489,"Before and after. Ditched the drugs, booze and junk. 2.5 years progress.. ",0 +11490,"cAnT gEt bIG wIThOuT the JUICE, bro!. ",0 +11491,my 2 year weight loss transformation from 220 pounds to 167. ,0 +11492,+ she makes sure you get enough. ,0 +11493,So true. ,0 +11494,7 months of strength work and consistency!. ,0 +11495,Doing it for the younger version of myself with absolutely no self-confidence. Lifting is a mental journey as well. ,0 +11496,"12 dumbells, 2 barbells and the preacher curl bench for this dude and his kid (note the empty rack by the mirror).. Apologies for the wide lens, was trying not to get spotted while taking this (guy is on the right).",0 +11497,"bicep progress. (17 yo female, 140lbs) this is 3 months of progress, not anything crazy but i’m proud of myself :)",0 +11498,Saw this photo of Harry Houdini. Dude was into leg day. A lot. ,0 +11499,455 @ 190bw. ,0 +11500,2018-2022 definitely made some mistakes in the first year or 2 but am happy with the progress!. ,0 +11501,"Barely any physical change in 10 months, but I added 50lb to my bench press. ",0 +11502,My body transformation. First pic is from October 2020 and the other ones are from my current physique :). ,0 +11503,The inquiry.. ,0 +11504,Any advice on putting on weight ?. ,0 +11505,"September 20th, Vs November 20th. ",0 +11506,"M/22/5'10.5"" (150 lbs-157lbs) [1 year]. ",0 +11507,Feeling of gains is nice. ,0 +11508,"It’s not weight lifting but I’m really proud of how far my pull ups have come along this year, up to 3 sets of 12 now!. ",0 +11509,I tore my pec while benching 405. Ouch. ,0 +11510,Went for a PR but got a spider on my shoulder instead. ,0 +11511,Progress from 2019 (age 20) to 2022 (age 23). ,0 +11512,This is a repost but i cant find the OG so hooefully the comments know but I live by this.. ,0 +11513,My transformation so far. Lots more to go but feeling good!. Most of my physique is from bodyweight stuff just started lifting in september !,0 +11514,0 kg dumbbell at my local gym. ,0 +11515,Wtf. ,0 +11516,Squat days be like. ,0 +11517,"M/22/5’10” (6 year transformation). This was a while back at a cottage. Your goals are all possible, just put in the work.. ",0 +11518,"2 1/2 year transformation!! I did it all by counting calories, keeping my protein high + lifting and some cardio! I feel so much better now 😄 100% natural as well, besides creatine 😜. ",0 +11519,67.5kg @54kg BW I can’t wait to see where bench is sitting when I test maxes next 💪🏻. ,0 +11520,Successfully finished building Zyzz on r/place!. ,0 +11521,"got into weightlifting after i quit gymnastics back in September, i still got it though. ",0 +11522,"When you do legs like 4 days ago, aren’t sore at all and then randomly try to stand up on the 5th day. ",0 +11523,My 1-Year Gym Transformation. ,0 +11524,Me (aged 13 140-ish lbs) vs me currently(age 21 at 280 lbs). ,0 +11525,My friend being silky smooth on the jump rope. ,0 +11526,1 year of training finally paying off haha. ,0 +11527,17 years old - 24 years old - 32 years old. ,0 +11528,it’s not perfect or anything but i hit 40lbs down today and i don’t rly have anyone to share it with lol. ,0 +11529,10 months ago I decided to get off my ass and become the person i always knew i could be. I'm proud of my progress. ,0 +11530,"After catching Covid vs before... Just kidding, this is just my 2018 to 2021 growth, 135 to 165. ",0 +11531,How many of us are guilty of having this. ,0 +11532,1 year difference (started working out around may). ,0 +11533,[ww] lifting can be exhausting but functional fitness helps refill my tank. ,0 +11534,Apartment gym - is it good enough for weight training/muscle building?. ,0 +11535,800 x 3 Deadlift. Finally Beat Ronnie. ,0 +11536,1 year progress (118lbs to 126lbs). Feeling better at age 31 than I ever did in my 20s!. ,0 +11537,"My girlfriend drew me this insane picture of arnold for my birthday, one of the coolest things I’ve ever seen!. ",0 +11538,"When you fail bench pr, but grandma has yo back 🥵🥵. ",0 +11539,Is this good for exactly 1 month progress? I feel i should have lost alot more fat. ,0 +11540,May - November 2022 116kgs to 90. Lots of healthy eating and a tonne of legs but I’m feeling the best I have in years,0 +11541,"Bought this hoodie for the gym a few weeks back, gotten to help so many newbies out already!. ",0 +11542,happens all the time. ,0 +11543,"Even more impressive than my PR today is my partner , 40 year lifter. 75 years old . And only one joint that isn’t artificial. The BEAST. 300 lb dead at the end of his set, only because doc said his implants will fail above 300. He also only has 3 fingers on one hand from a accident. ",0 +11544,"Just found out: I'm not dead-ass weak, I just use the wrong unit measurement system..! /s. ",0 +11545,We getting big tonight 😈. ,0 +11546,Am I doing this right? I saw this exercise on Instagram. ,0 +11547,"435lbs squat lifetime pr. No lifts, no gifts.. ",0 +11548,"It ain’t much, but it’s honest work. ",0 +11549,2020-2022 from a fatty to a baddie. ,0 +11550,FINALLY hit the big 4 plate bench milestone!. ,0 +11551,My progress after 1 year 9 months. ,0 +11552,"Upper body progress, I work so hard on it for the past 15 months but I do not see much in terms of appearance. Still proud of my new found upper body strength though 😊. ",0 +11553,1200lb total :). ,0 +11554,Bulk transformation🙂 23kg later and still just getting started!. ,0 +11555,"M/21/6'2"" [216 lbs to 203 lbs] (8 Months) Did a bulk to 227 lbs and cut back in summer, Homegym. ",0 +11556,MAXIMUM EFFORT.. ,0 +11557,"Always felt like home , but even more now.. ",0 +11558,It’s been a long journey…. ,0 +11559,[ww] 135lbs ATN Multi-grip Lat Pull-up. ,0 +11560,"Got my first 100kg in leg press, I'm really proud of it. ",0 +11561,Trying to max bench without a spotter.. ,0 +11562,Almost there.... ,0 +11563,The grand inventor. Ancient gym bro. ,0 +11564,"one year progress, let's see where next year takes me!. ",0 +11565,My 8 month body recomp!. ,0 +11566,"Started working out again after a 2 years relationship, this is the results after 4,5 months. ",0 +11567,is this okay progress for 3 months? became very thin during lockdown! what could I improve on?. ,0 +11568,8 month transformation.. ,0 +11569,Anyone else get mildly infuriated by cable weights that go up by 22lbs after a point?. ,0 +11570,"Jan 22-March22. I can see my waist again! You guys are the most welcoming, awesome, supportive group. Thank you for all the advice and information!. ",0 +11571,4 years progress and 4 years sober.. ,0 +11572,Saw this on IG . How legit is the one on the right?. ,0 +11573,1 year transformation the gym changed my life forever. Im missing a pec btw. ,0 +11574,This is so true! Anytime I get above 16-17% Bf😂. ,0 +11575,I even try and convince myself I can remember the weight for next time 🤡. ,0 +11576,is this accurate? i don’t wanna base the accuracy of this from a tiktok.. ,0 +11577,5 months of serious lifting. ,0 +11578,Six month core progression. ,0 +11579,130kg double @56kg BW - 5 weeks out from British nationals! ☺️. ,0 +11580,Then Vs Now. In the Shape of my life 🤘🏼. ,0 +11581,16-18 body transformation - 82 kgs down to 71 kgs - would like advice on weak areas as im prolly bias to myself on what they are. ,0 +11582,M/35/5’7” [216>192=24lbs] (18 months) Still on the daily hard grind. It’s been a battle being a natty and 35 but I’m getting there slowly. ,0 +11583,1 Year of Powerlifting (142 lbs. to 163 lbs.). ,0 +11584,455lb Circus Deadlift. This was a fun lift to try.. ,0 +11585,It's been a min since I've pulled sumo.... ,0 +11586,Bulk progress. 176lbs - 199lbs. ,0 +11587,125kgx2. Any advice is welcomed.. ,0 +11588,what i need after every chest & back day. ,0 +11589,"1 year if weight loss, 5 months of lifting. ",0 +11590,315lb 3x5 @ 125bwt. just getting that work in!!. ,0 +11591,My time has come. ,0 +11592,Remember your PROTEIN!!. ,0 +11593,I (34M) Have always been scrawny. Hated my body. Started going to the gym a few months ago. I’ve never seen my body like this. It’s the cycle of motivation for me. It’s hard for me to gain weight but I’m trying. r/GYM has been super motivational.. ,0 +11594,struggling to see significant progress after a year of working out. ,0 +11595,My progress since may of last year. ,0 +11596,1yr 3mo Transformation — 142lbs to 165lbs 5’11”. ,0 +11597,Little over a year of consistent gym and swim. ,0 +11598,pretty happy abt that. ,0 +11599,20 > 22m 125kg > 76kg took me 2 long years of grinding. ,0 +11600,Form check!!. ,0 +11601,Hummer Tire 1210lbs Deadlift World Record. ,0 +11602,2019 to 2022 progress. Quitted weed and binge eating on weekends. It ain't much but makes me happy. ,0 +11603,25 minute warmup for a chest press.. ,0 +11604,10 month of decent gym progress i guess 😅. ,0 +11605,"[WW] I've heard you shouldn't use gloves for lifting, but I've never been told not to deadlift in oven mitts. ",0 +11606,19kg cut in 5 months.. ,0 +11607,430 x 3 front squat. ,0 +11608,234lbs to 174lbs. ,0 +11609,Cbum making David Laid look small. ,0 +11610,4 years. 110-160. ,0 +11611,Hit 100KG on bench at 67KG bodyweight after only 6 months of training :). ,0 +11612,Progress pic 3 years of gym and football. ,0 +11613,705 lb Paused Deadlift PR!! - No Straps.- (320kg at 104). ,0 +11614,F24 5'1 102kg (224lbs) to 82kg (180lbs) in 10 months. ,0 +11615,"Reverse progress pic here. My covid symptoms lasted over 2 weeks, and boi did they do me dirty. Good luck out there, guys. I'll bounce back. ",0 +11616,6 months of progress. 145 lbs BW to 175 lbs. ,0 +11617,"8 months 110 to 125 lb was v inconsistent with my bulk, until maybe 4 months ago. ",0 +11618,went to jim for the first time today. What's this thing. ,0 +11619,Weight loss and muscle gain transformation tuesday. Diet and gym. A year progress. ,0 +11620,"If you’re ever feeling weak, just remember that somewhere a 9 year old is warming up with your max. ",0 +11621,"1y progress(?). Hello gym bros and gals, + +So it's official, I've finally reached year one after deciding to pull myself together and started working out (after being a couched potato for like 7-10 years.. Some of my stats: 6'2"" (188cm), 185lb (84kg), 30 (almost 31) years old. When I started I weight in at 86 kg, so asuming I lost some of them love handles maybe I also put on a little bit of muscle, yet I feel that not nearly enough and I'm trying to figure out what is that I could do better. I do take creatine for like half a year now and an occasional protein shake. Take vitamins and other supplements, like vit c, d, b6, b12, folic acid, magnesium, zinc, fish oil.. For the bigger part of the year I was mainly focused on staying in a caloric deficit with slight detours. Mostly stayed at 2400kcal and around 160g of protein per day, except for the past few months when I started eating around 2800-3000kcal, as the winter has come here in the northern side of Europe. Gotta be honest though, haven't paid too much attention to counting cals and macros recently as I seem to have lost the motivation I first had. Sadly same goes for the gym. Even though I mostly stay to my regime of working out every second day sometimes three, sometimes 4 times a week. Working out with the help of Jeff Nippards Hypertrophy program, which I have adjusted a bit over the year to fit my liking. I havent tested, but would asume my 1 rep max for bench is arount 1x, squat 1.25, deadlift 1.75 body weight. But the problem is I'm finding that the motivation has decreased quite a bit. I do believe it's probably related to my progress which I feel is a bit lacking. I really though I could achieve a bit more of muscle growth, but probably the hormones are not as they used to be :) +What do you guys think? How should I go about restoring the motivation and maximizing on them gains? Is my progress reasonable, or am I a slow grower? It's really hard to get a good picture on what to expect when your perspective get's warped by all the fitness models on the internet.. +Thanks!",0 +11622,2020 (15y) vs 2022 (17y) Not much but I’ve made a progress. ,0 +11623,A little before and after of some quad growth. A year between these photos.. ,0 +11624,4 years in. 74 vs 86kg.. ,0 +11625,I jump rope for an hour each day to keep the depression away. ,0 +11626,An emotional day at gym... ,0 +11627,Abs progression 3 months apart. ,0 +11628,How do you safely fail a squat? 80kg. ,0 +11629,16 year old male 335 lbs deadlift 3 reps 133 lbs bodyweight. ,0 +11630,How to do seated calf raises. ,0 +11631,someone *really* likes lifting. ,0 +11632,What exercise is this and what does it target?. ,0 +11633,Pure Ectomorph(trash genetics) 2yr and some change transformation. ,0 +11634,1 Year into the Cut - lifting 8+ Years conquering depression.. ,0 +11635,"Thank you to all the people here that warned me about my boyfriend wanting me to lose weight. My boyfriend has pretty much been on my back the past week or so telling me to lose weight. He wanted me to get down to 100 lbs. I now know, because of so many people warning me on reddit that I am already technically underweight at 121 lbs and 5'9. At first I thought he was just looking out for my health, because I genuinely believed him that I weighed too much. I have had low self esteem and self image issues my whole life so that's why I believed him. After making a couple posts on here, many people started flooding to my comments telling me not to lose weight, and that my boyfriend was manipulating me. I was angry that they would say that at first. I defended my boyfriend and fed into his lies that bmi wasn't accurate for women, due to lower muscle mass. Today I brought it up with him again, and after having a bit of a fight he admitted to me that he knows it would be unhealthy for me to lose weight, but he just has a thing for skinnier women and he likes to be double a woman's weight. He says that a couple days ago he was faking not being able to hold me for more than a few seconds to make me feel heavy (he is over 200 lbs). He also told me since I'm quite tall he's no longer attracted to me anymore since I gained a few pounds from when we first met, because he likes smaller women. I was very upset at him for lying to me and manipulating me, and he ended up grabbing me and pushing me against the wall to shake me when I said I wanted to go to leave and go back to my mum's house. I didn't believe he would ever do something like that and now it has made me realise that I was always following along with what he wanted our whole relationship, even when I didn't want it. He would sometimes pressure me to do things I wasn't comfortable with and I never thought it wasn't normal. I managed to get out of the house and I'm at my parents house now, but I just wanted to say thank you to everyone here that warned me about this",0 +11636,How’s my form?. ,0 +11637,405 HALFICOPTER SQUAT. Any advice on getting the full rotation?. ,0 +11638,My progress. ,0 +11639,225 has fallen! 155lbs 16yrs. ,0 +11640,"M/26/6'0"" [195lbs to 208lbs] Been working out for almost 8 years. Do yall like lean or bulked better?. ",0 +11641,"Trying to get better about eating right 💪 any other suggestions? (I know the red bull doesnt belong, I do hard labor for work it goes through me like water). ",0 +11642,Doc said I’d never regain use of my left leg fully again..told em hold my water watch this... ,0 +11643,My body building journey 300lbs > 202lbs. ,0 +11644,1 year bulk progress. ,0 +11645,Spine flexibility progress. (look at the line on the wall). ,0 +11646,It is Wednesday my dudes. ,0 +11647,405 deadlift(yes it’s sumo) @14 yrs old. ,0 +11648,475 x 10 deadlift. ,0 +11649,Working out my Dad during my parents' visit😊💪🏾(75+ years young club). ,0 +11650,2 years difference. Weight lifting has completely changed my life. ,0 +11651,165kg (364lbs) squat - if I hit my 160kg bench this Friday I'll have a 1200 total :). ,0 +11652,Important to remember that weight shouldn't be the only metric we measure progress by!. ,0 +11653,When people leave the weights on like this.... ,0 +11654,"Started at 260, down to 195 2 years ago, then started going to the gym 6 months ago and I’m up to 215.. ",0 +11655,Japanese school lunch is a godsend (I can always go for seconds too). Those pork beans are a top notch protein source.. ,0 +11656,Is this good progress?. ,0 +11657,Regicide - long love the king 😂. ,0 +11658,Sumo gurlz can also lift (cheaty) conventional 💅🏽 350 for 8s. ,0 +11659,"Deadlift 1 rep PR, 110Kg (242.5lb). ",0 +11660,Me and my friends took this pre-workout and literally felt like dying.. is this even safe to consume? Paid a lot for this TikTok stimulant. ,0 +11661,115kg moving like a dream @55kg BW 😊. ,0 +11662,Joined the gym last year and was proud of my gains ( 47 to 56kg). ,0 +11663,13 Month transformation. ,0 +11664,265 x 1 Strict Standing Vertical Arm Squat. ,0 +11665,"11 month gym progression. 228lbs - 185lbs + +December 2021, August 2022, September 2022, November 2022",0 +11666,"I was feeling like sharing my weight loss progress. Started at 120kgs and got down to 103kgs in 2 months. Cz of school i couldn't go to the gym for more than half a month, but once i'm done with exams i'll get back to the grind!. ",0 +11667,Have you noticed that some people have very round biceps (like the example on the right). How do I get one of those?. ,0 +11668,Bout a year worth of trying to eat right & goin to the gym when I can. ,0 +11669,"took a week break, came back to an inappropriate equipment. ",0 +11670,"2013, 2017, 2021 (310, 170, 200). ",0 +11671,I finally did my first ever chinup :). ,0 +11672,Squat PR (270lb). ,0 +11673,11 month natural gym transformation from 14 to 15. I have a full video on YouTube but it wouldn't let me post it on the sub Reddit so if you wanna see the full transformation my YouTube is: Thicatron,0 +11674,💀. ,0 +11675,[16M] the left picture is from one month ago went from 200 lbs (91kg) to 182lbs (83kg) already feel a lot better. ,0 +11676,Gotta get it chiseled too. ,0 +11677,"Finally became a real gym rat today, 3 plate bench press.. ",0 +11678,Quick edit that I’m too scared to post on my public profile. Making this video made me realize how much I’ve changed not only physically but mentally,0 +11679,Officially in the 225 club now 😁. ,0 +11680,Dirty bulk gone too far?. Been bulking for a little over a year now and have gone from around 135 lb to around 185 lb (Im 5’5”). Diet isn’t clean at all but I havent gone too overboard with the calorie surplus. I’m planning to bulk to 200 by the end of this year and then start cutting right away. Is that too much or am I fine?,0 +11681,What is this machine?. ,0 +11682,Can anyone tell me what this platform is used for? I'm relatively new to the gym.. ,0 +11683,Gym advice. ,0 +11684,Important Holiday Reminder to everyone who makes shitty comments.. ,0 +11685,"Let’s settle this once and for all, what do we call this thing?. ",0 +11686,M/24/125kg. Officially deadlifted 365kg/804lbs in competition about a month ago!. ,0 +11687,[WW] Triceps pushdown modification for no ropes but yes gravity boots. ,0 +11688,Thoughts on cancelling gym membership and getting a setup like this for home instead?. ,0 +11689,"6 months back progress. Nothing crazy, but I love my lat growth (28F). ",0 +11690,Rate my form please (be kind). 225 on the bar.,0 +11691,"Any time I get discouraged about not being as big as I want, I look at these photos (2019 vs 2022). ",0 +11692,A review somebody left for the gym I go to.. ,0 +11693,"Pretended I didn’t know how to do leg day to get this girl to workout with me; smart or simp?. We have mutual gym buddies and I’ve always wanted to talk to her. So out of confidence one day I went up to her, apologized for interrupting and asked if she’d help me out on leg days as she does a great job herself and it shows. Through her laughs she agreed and now we workout together every Monday. In actuality, Ive always known how to do legs. She’s wanting to go on a date now. + + +Edit: I plan on telling her the truth on our date + +Edit: I cannot take credit for this idea. I got it from the office.",0 +11694,Finally joined the 3 plate club!. ,0 +11695,"Should I eat an entire rotisserie chicken every day?. I normally eat chipotle or Salad and go every day for lunch. It’s around $7-9.. + +I’m considering switching to eating a rotisserie chicken every day, 1/2 for lunch, 1/2 for dinner. It’s only $5 + +For context I’m 5’11, 165lbs and 10% bmi. + +Is there any downside of doing this?",0 +11696,225 bench pr @14 years old. ,0 +11697,Deadlifts 475lbs x3 RPE 11. ,0 +11698,"[WW] 225lb Loaded Stop, Drop & Roll.. ",0 +11699,The gym owner hit me with a “yeaaaahhhhh budday” right before my set lol. 415 x 3. ,0 +11700,7 months -36kg progress pic. ,0 +11701,For all you people who think rows need to be strict and anything else is ego-lifting: watch this.. ,0 +11702,People do be perma bulking these days. ,0 +11703,Watch a man nearly die. ,0 +11704,"Charity push/pull powerlifting meet, hit 408lbs on bench and 645lbs on deadlift.. ",0 +11705,First picture was 230lbs when I started. Second was the day before my first show in Sept 2021. Today I'm 231. I'm eager to cut soon for my next show in May and I'm happy with the bulk progress. ,0 +11706,"I mostly workout for my own (mental) health. I don't aim for a certain look or result. The first picture is 1,5 years ago, second is this week. I find it almost a bit embarrassing because it's not a full transformation. But I see some difference so that's cool and I'm proud of myself :). ",0 +11707,"Hi, ex drug user here, I’ve put on a decent bit of weight, i keep wanting to import myself, so do you have any tips for converting fat to muscle and the best way to do it? Thanks :). ",0 +11708,1 Yr 3 months natty Transformation. ,0 +11709,"Is this considered gourmet dining? 380 calories, 70g protein.. ",0 +11710,Together down over 100lbs. ,0 +11711,5 month transformation :). ,0 +11712,"I see old photos of myself and can't help but see a different person. ~5.5 years, age 18-23. 175-235lbs. ",0 +11713,Today marks exactly one year since I started losing weight! 1 year progress!. ,0 +11714,"405x4 @176, nearing the end of my cut.. just love deadlifting lol. ",0 +11715,Another legend gone. ,0 +11716,8 months of gym progress. ,0 +11717,"uhm this is my 2 months evolution and no one seems reallu proud of it, whats your opinion guys?. ",0 +11718,Stop demonizing flexion. ,0 +11719,New sealift pr. ,0 +11720,"My buddy says I’m not hitting depth, I feel like this is fine, thoughts?. ",0 +11721,results are visible now. ,0 +11722,Finally made the 500 club this year.. ,0 +11723,First 405 squat @155. ,0 +11724,Me: I bet that skinny guy was impressed with my lifts. The skinny guy:. ,0 +11725,How’s your cut going so far?. ,0 +11726,Raw 275 OHP @207lb…. Clips are cheating but haven’t gotten to that level yet. ,0 +11727,i am officially the worlds happiest man rn. ,0 +11728,May 2021 (70.5KG) to January 2022 (76KG). ,0 +11729,"16 years old, 330 lbs deadlift, 128 lbs bodyweight. ",0 +11730,"After years of training, finally 2 plates🥲 @67kg. ",0 +11731,From 62kg to 75kg in the space of a year. Wondering if I look noticeably different considering the decent weight increase ?,0 +11732,"Got clean, got to the gym. 2 year difference. ",0 +11733,First time this ever happened to me on bench lol. Last set of 5x5. ,0 +11734,340x3 Bench press. ,0 +11735,"1 year progress. Still only the beginning, gotta keep grinding!. ",0 +11736,Some gym humor. ,0 +11737,First ever blood spilled at the gym. Smashed between 2x 45lb plates. 💩. ,0 +11738,"10 month Transformation. Diet, Sleep, and Consistency.. ",0 +11739,Stay motivated kings. You are not wasting your time.. ,0 +11740,Is this decent bicep progress for 6 months? Or is mostly just shoulder progress?. ,0 +11741,"Vid cut off in the end, but here's my cheaty deadlift 315x5. ",0 +11742,Started going to the gym consistently 1.5 months ago. ,0 +11743,155lbs to 190lbs… Made some big changes when I became a father. It is finally paying off!. ,0 +11744,arm progress 5 months (13). ,0 +11745,"10 months growth! From a runner, to a lifter. ",0 +11746,"180 kg/405lbs deadlift PR from my gym bro, proud of him to say the least. ",0 +11747,"Today i made someone else not quit gym :). There was this teenager boy who was running on treadmill, he was overweight. I saw that he was struggling with running, heavy breathing etc. After around 4 minutes of running he said some swear words and started packing his backpack. He started going to the gym entrance but i stopped him and said just simply ""dont give up"" with a friendly voice. He looked at me, got little emotional and said that i needed that :( Seeing that happy smile afterwards made my day. He completed his workout and left the gym as a winner :)",0 +11748,"Never had abs, is this fat or actually am starting to have abs?. i weighed 132kgs over a year ago.. ",0 +11749,"So, I found this new thing in my gym. I assumed it's pretty much a lifting device, so I placed myself in beetwen and started lifting. Was that right? What thats thing called?. ",0 +11750,Does anyone know how to open this barbell packaging from rouge fitness it’s been one and a half hours. ,0 +11751,"A fun, inconsistent, 2 years. Last pic is where I started. ",0 +11752,USS LWM record attempt at 690 lbs. So very very close.. ,0 +11753,Am I a psychopath?. ,0 +11754,Creatine. ,0 +11755,110kg strict press @ 90.9kg + gf mirin. ,0 +11756,"+17 kg/ 37,47 lbs glow up in 4 years of hard work. ",0 +11757,"1.5 year gym progress, 64-73kg bw 16 yo, thoughts?. ",0 +11758,"The journey for <100kg is over. Now we chase 150kg. Progress was slowed by illness and having to sort my form out, but we finally made it boys",0 +11759,starting getting failure . i feel like there is no strength to go further. ,0 +11760,my progress 6 months. ,0 +11761,505 pr before gyms close in my area. ,0 +11762,[ww] is it ok to use the squat rack for curls?. ,0 +11763,2 broken hands ain't stopping me. ,0 +11764,is this okay? (ignore me wearing only one shoe that leg is artificial ). ,0 +11765,"4 month progress pic, beginner gains hitting different. ",0 +11766,"Just proud of myself, that's all. -15kg down. 2021 vs 2022. Still more work to do. No rush though - Im keeping it steady and healthy.",0 +11767,A week after lockdown vs a month ago. Muscle memory is beautiful. ,0 +11768,form check on my private record: 120kg I'm 24 y/o weight 62kg. I know it's to heavy for me but still proud of it!. ,0 +11769,Wish me luck boys. ,0 +11770,"M/26/6'0"" [220lbs -> 169lbs] (1.3 years). ",0 +11771,This is a tough one. ,0 +11772,i went to see my psychologist today and he asked “have you been hitting the gym recently you look much bigger” Bro made my entire week. ,0 +11773,What do you guys think of my 5 month transformation? Omw to becoming a greek God like some of you guys. ,0 +11774,"Any Tips? I dont really deadlift and this is like my third time doing it. Bench is my strong suit, Squat im okay at, and this is my weakest point imo.. ",0 +11775,"Deadlifts, 3 x 97.5Kg (215lb). ",0 +11776,"From having a butt to building an ass. 24F, about 1 year.. ",0 +11777,"I got made fun of at the gym today. Just posting this bc I wanted to talk about it. Today I was doing Shoulder press and the person next to me was with his son and kept pointing at me and laughing behind my back for working with a light weight. He then pointed his son to heavier weights to outdo me I guess. I was just focusing on my set so I didn't actually know this was happening until the person I was with told me after we left. + +It feels kind of embarrassing and makes me not want to put in as much effort or completely stop going. I just wanted to let everyone who reads this know to not do this if ever see someone struggling with a light weight since we all have to start somewhere and some of us just have a lower starting point for different reasons. + +It just really doesn't feel good because I feel like I've been working really hard going to the gym consistently 6 days a week to try to improve myself and I already feel insecure about being too small and weak.",0 +11778,295 squat for 3s with my mismatched sleeves. ,0 +11779,4 month weight lifting progress after going through a divorce about a year ago. First time in a long time being excited for the journey. ,0 +11780,Almost 20 lbs difference over 6 months. Weightlifting & tracking calories and protein intake. ,0 +11781,Started air dropping these at the gym for fun between sets. ,0 +11782,7 months since I started n my New Year’s resolution this year to work on my calisthenics - started barely able to do normal push ups and now we’re here ✨. ,0 +11783,"Super proud of my home gym, started during COVID, just completed. What do you think?. ",0 +11784,"For those of you who watch YouTube fitness, who’s your favorite person to watch? The person who makes you go hardest? I’ll go first. ",0 +11785,"8 months of progress. 6'2"" 240lb down to 194lb.. ",0 +11786,When my colleagues asks how I can go to the gym before our warehouse shift. ,0 +11787,My three month transformation.. ,0 +11788,[TT] To the time when my kid deadlifted twice her body weight in competition at 7 years old.. ,0 +11789,1 year back transformation. Imagine not believing in yourself,0 +11790,110kg paused deadlifts @55kg BW ☺️💪🏻. ,0 +11791,"Started monitoring my calories and kept my protein high, busted ass for almost 2 years to get here 🤘 still have a long ways to go. 290 down to 213, goal is 200 for now 😄. ",0 +11792,560 bench. Road to 600 coming soon 💪🏻. ,0 +11793,61 year old hits a lifetime PR with a 505 lb squat!🙏. ,0 +11794,1 year transformation any tips for improvements?. ,0 +11795,Spring 2020 to having no butt- Spring 2022 to finally having a butt!! Goals are reachable folks.. ,0 +11796,"405 x 9 , +1 STR from random NPC. ",0 +11797,New deadlift PR 186lb 80kg. wanted to get a pr since i have a heart problem i cant do heavy weights but hey i tested my limit. ,0 +11798,"Though this was a fun comparison, almost exactly 4 years between the pictures. 74kg-95kg. ",0 +11799,"Officially out of the military, so I celebrated with trap bar deadlifts that I no longer have to do haha. Here's 275 for 5s. ",0 +11800,It feels good when your previous deadlift becomes your current squats.. ,0 +11801,My 3 month journey as a 19 year old. ,0 +11802,Single Leg Deadlifts - 365lbs - Unofficial WR. ,0 +11803,15 month transformation. From skinnyfat to fit.. ,0 +11804,“Why do you run the laundry machine so often?”. ,0 +11805,115x1 bench @ 120 bodyweight. ,0 +11806,First time attempting 585 in a little over 2 years. Would ya'll count this? I swear it felt like I went low enough but I'm not entirely sure.. ,0 +11807,First injury from a strongman competion. ,0 +11808,"7 month progress of consistent lifting and a good diet. 145 to 175lbs. Take note used to lift when I was younger and second photo is with a pump so photo is a bit unrealistic but still happy. 21 now. Got dumped, all the motivation I needed to change my mindset and change my life.",0 +11809,New military press PR 💪🏽. ,0 +11810,"Update: Today officially marks 6 months of my gym journey & trying to overcome my body dysmorphia. M, 24, 6’4 (160lbs-210lbs). ",0 +11811,What is this and what’s some common exercises people do with it?. ,0 +11812,REP PB! 100kg for 5 reps! @55kg BW. ,0 +11813,Finally hit my goal ! 8 months and 10kg later what’s next ?. ,0 +11814,7 months 235-165. ,0 +11815,New 220kg PB can I get a form check. ,0 +11816,"never posted myself anywhere before but on the left is me in 2017 and on the right is me after training the past 2 years, over the moon with my progress keep it up kings and queens. ",0 +11817,11 weeks post arm fracture - 585 lbs x1. ,0 +11818,I use a Smith Machine for Shrugs. Is it not very cash money of me to use a Smith Machine for Shrugs? Honest opinions. ,0 +11819,70 Year Old Woman That Lifts More Than You!. ,0 +11820,Is this question on a gym membership form normal?. ,0 +11821,Last year around this time my wife began an emotional affair that turned into a physical one. Went back to the gym and here’s my progress so far.. ,0 +11822,how should i do lat pulldowns?. ,0 +11823,"M 28 / 5'10 / My 4 month unnatural transformation. [https://prnt.sc/eJlLSmP0-xxb](https://prnt.sc/eJlLSmP0-xxb) + +I used to lift for 7+ years so the muscle memory works quickly on me, and of course i used steroids to get back in the shape.",0 +11824,How do I look for 6 months? Im up 20lbs. ,0 +11825,Felt like I hadn’t made a ton of progress this past year until I looked at these photos side by side. June of 2021 vs present. Not a dramatic difference but chest and delts are coming through!. ,0 +11826,When your gymbro's slacking. ,0 +11827,My moms gonna kill me. Dropped a 45lbs plate.. ,0 +11828,415lb Bench Press PR. ,0 +11829,1 Year Update - Feel like this is okay for 1 year but could have been better?. ,0 +11830,2019 vs 2022. ,0 +11831,"Today marks 2 years of working on my back, guess it was worth it!. ",0 +11832,"4 months apart, mainly cardio. ",0 +11833,"Same gym, same mirror, one year difference.. ",0 +11834,first time hyping up my gym bro before PR. ,0 +11835,Final set on bench today 320x5. 4th rep got away from me a little. Hoping to be able to get 345x5 by end of June.. ,0 +11836,"3 months difference. So glad I found that first pic randomly on my phone, now I can really track progress and feel great about it. ",0 +11837,[FORM CHECK] help fatty asian (it's me) not hurt themselves. First time loading the bar. 150kg.. ,0 +11838,Went to the gym for the first time in my life yesterday. I lasted a minute before I got so nervous from the pressure and because I felt so awkward I just walked out. I’ve never set foot in a gym before this. How do I deal with the anxiety and what workouts should I do?. ,0 +11839,"tiktok got some of y’all acting real funny. the amount of tripods i see in the gym now are insane. i can understand filming your PR or something, but they got people filming just to film. this one girl been in the squat rank posing for her tripod for 40 minutes now. she hasn’t done one squat. you got people filming themselves dancing.",0 +11840,How do you guys manage calluses? They're creeping all over my hands and my time on bar hangs is dropping because of the grip pain :(. ,0 +11841,"Same weight, year and a half difference. ",0 +11842,Seated lat raise form check. 17.5kg x 10. ,0 +11843,Trying to better myself.. ,0 +11844,"So much wrong, but nothing wrong. ",0 +11845,"Quarter squatter here. This is for everyone who said ""wHy NoT fULl SqUaT?""...a few training videos from the past 2 weeks. :). ",0 +11846,felt intense pride when this number finally changed. ,0 +11847,Concerned about form. Should I continue going heavy ?. ,0 +11848,Dropped 20+kg and stopped purging disorder. ,0 +11849,April 2022 vs November 2022. Changed from working out at home with resistance bands to using weights in the gym. ,0 +11850,11 months in the gym 400 LBs to 325 LBs. ,0 +11851,2 Year body transformation. ,0 +11852,Finally hit three plates on deadlifts!!!!!!!!!!1!!😊😊😊 please give me tips on form!🤗🙃🙂🙃😇. ,0 +11853,[ww] Been working on form with the empty bar. Think I'm ready to try it with both legs?. ,0 +11854,"Decided to get my act together this year, May vs December, still got a long road left.. ",0 +11855,Me after watching The Batman at 3am. ,0 +11856,Start of Freshman Year vs (almost) Start of Sophomore Year. ,0 +11857,Exactly 3 years ago today I started my fitness journey. ,0 +11858,What my body THNKS I’ve added to each side VS what I ACTUALLY added to each side. ,0 +11859,I made a meme to make up for the guilt. ,0 +11860,470LB DL PR Out of Nowhere. ,0 +11861,Reminder to set your safeties and learn the roll of shame! 290lbs x 8 bench. ,0 +11862,"Physiques over the decades , who's the greatest of all time?. ",0 +11863,"I boiled some water yesterday and mixed it with creatine, so I could drink it more easily and left it on the counter till the morning. This was the result:. ",0 +11864,"When I stretch my sore biceps every intense set I get a good feeling, like something flows through my biceps. is that endorphins?. ",0 +11865,90 Days (26M). ,0 +11866,[TT] - 635 lbs x1 @ 195 lbs bodyweight. ,0 +11867,Progress pic! From drug addict (128lbs) to driven in 4 years (168lbs). ,0 +11868,"My gym is asking me to pay extra money to do cardio for more than 20 minutes. I did my cardio for 1 hour today and I was later asked to pay extra money if I continued to do so, really annoyed rn, this can’t be a real rule, I’m new to fitness and I don’t really know, also my gym doesn’t have any sign stating this shitty rule",0 +11869,(Form Check) 15kg deadlift. ,0 +11870,Why does it hurt here(feels as if burning and only on left leg) when using leg press?. ,0 +11871,Is it dangerous to go this low with dumbells? friend told me I should stop paralel to avoid injury. ,0 +11872,[WW] Criss cross applesquats. ,0 +11873,How long would it take to achieve this physique (not physical capabilities just the body). ,0 +11874,"Did any of you meet your girlfriend at the gym?. Asking for a… me I’m asking for me lmao + +Edit +Thanks guys, mixed bag of responses but what I’ve taken from everything is this: + +Don’t go to the gym to hit on women! +Go to the gym to get gains! +It’s okay to chat to people but don’t be a weirdo!",0 +11875,"It isn't much, but it's honest work. 24 - 30 yo female. 6 years in gym. ",0 +11876,110lbs x 10. My very first attempt of deadlifting above 100. I thought I can't make it but gym bros are very encouraging ❤️ Open for form checking 😊. ,0 +11877,"Since some liked my couch chin ups, here's a boxing bag muscle up. ",0 +11878,.85*bw strict seated ohp. after a heavy bench session. still pretty happy with the number. ,0 +11879,Happy with my progress so far!. ,0 +11880,one year ago vs today lost 66 lbs (30kg). ,0 +11881,The journey so far.. ,0 +11882,This must be a joke. ,0 +11883,F/25/5’6” [151lbs to 141lbs] (1 year). ,0 +11884,132 lbs Press. ,0 +11885,"Havent worked out for about a month since I was on vacation, but I'm back at it! Here's some boobie presses. ",0 +11886,"Sure bro, make my max look like a warm up set. (he's my buddy no h8 lol). ",0 +11887,"2 years difference, I don’t feel like much has changed. Any advice on how to get rid of my belly? My regime: Mon,HIIT,biceps,back. Tue, HIIT,Chest, legs, shoulders. Wed rest. Thurs, HIIT,biceps,back. Fri, HIIT,chest, legs, shoulders.. ",0 +11888,"Pull up - first time doing real pull ups without assisted machine, how's the form ?. ",0 +11889,"Working out for over a year. Sorry, no before pics of body because why? Now I take pics because I am proud of myself. I don’t work out every day, and I eat OMAD. When I was in my 50s, for about nine months, I worked out intensely, six days a week doing a weight loss challenge. When I hit 70, I had a headspace that allowed me to get back into working out at the gym. Still doing it over a year later.",0 +11890,He could've used a better tailor.. ,0 +11891,What is this machine called and which muscles do they actually work?. ,0 +11892,Start vs end of a cut. 185 lbs to 157 lbs.. ,0 +11893,3 years of going everyday. ,0 +11894,My friend found these at her local gym. What are they used for?. ,0 +11895,"181kg Squat -- 80kg, 15, training for 8 months, but only been squatting for 6. ",0 +11896,"Started lifting in Feb thus year. Set an arbitrary goal of 2 plate bench, 3 plate squat, and 4 plate deadlift by years end and hit them all by August. Next step is 1000 lbs club. 29/m all lifts done around 175 bw.. ",0 +11897,"After all these years, I can’t imagine life without the gym. ",0 +11898,no.1 mistake. ,0 +11899,Caveman brain like to lift heavy things. Final set of 3x8 for Hatfield Squats @395lbs.. ,0 +11900,"Update: How to bench press as a girl. I'm so excited guys!! I went to the gym today and did my push workout including bench press that I've been terrified of. I was just next to this pretty big guy also doing BP. I waited until he was between sets and I asked for some help... + +He was so kind!! He said it was no problem at all that I asked for help and he was happy to help. I'm so relieved! I was even able to add teeny tiny weights because the bar was too light?! + +There was literally NO REASON for me to be nervous. This is all thanks to you in this wonderful community. I love you guys. Thank you so much!",0 +11901,"Down 60lbs in 1yr, let's go!!. ",0 +11902,"Set 6, Reps 5 & 6. Is rep 6 an ego lift or pushing your limits?. ",0 +11903,"First post here! Here’s my 315 squat, any advice would be helpful. ",0 +11904,"What is this exercise called, and what muscles does it work?. ",0 +11905,Working out summarized. ,0 +11906,Feel like I shouldn’t be getting this much shoulder activation on preachers. Any advice?. ,0 +11907,What is the rack for?. ,0 +11908,Crazy what a nasty break-up can do to you. ( from 2XL to L). ,0 +11909,"I feel like my progress has been extremely slow, first pictures are of me at 14 years. after pictures are 15. turning 16 in a month. last year due to covid I didn't train for 3 months and it set me back a lot. but I won't stop. ",0 +11910,140lb x 10 Dumbbell Row Strapless. ,0 +11911,5 month progress. Lower body focused. Getting back to weight loss in February but I think it’s coming along!. ,0 +11912,"Over 3x bodyweight deadlift, - 603 at 198 (273.5 @ 89.8kg) - I've heard deadlifting with a wide sumo stance is cheating, is this narrow enough to count?. ",0 +11913,23rd of September 2021 vs August 31st 2022. ,0 +11914,Do you think I went to depth? 475# pr attempt. ,0 +11915,1 and a half year transformation and still pushing. Gym was the best decision of my life!. ,0 +11916,Good Or Nah. ,0 +11917,Do you guys think this is enough protein?. This is a joke btw all of the food was old lmao,0 +11918,"My transformation over a couple of years. Feeling proud, stronger, and healthier!. ",0 +11919,Dude. These grow your butt. I dont know what they are called but I love them. Back leg extension lift hamstring things.. ,0 +11920,AMRP @335 cheaty conventional deadlift...this was my last set and I was tired af. ,0 +11921,"from 168kg to 98, now 108kg. ",0 +11922,"my moms not allowing me to go to the gym anymore. 16 male, my moms not allowing me to go to the gym anymore as she thinks i should focus on studies more. tried talking to her, didn’t work. sad part is just been a month since i started gymming. anyways, posted to ask if u can become leaner and gain muscle by body weight workout and if so any recommendations???",0 +11923,70kg! @55kg body weight - Cant wait to put this on the platform in 2 days! 💪🏻. ,0 +11924,398lb back squat. ,0 +11925,"The stairclimber has been my bff this past year. Finally back down to pre-covid weight thank god, lmao. Now I wanna tone more but don’t wanna look bulky, advice?. ",0 +11926,[ww] 5 plate bench press. ,0 +11927,"What do I do if I max out the weight on my gyms leg extension machine?. I already do 12+ reps. Do I just need to go to a different gym, or is there any way I can make it more difficult? I added a picture of the machine for reference. Thw hole is small enough that I'd need a really small weight in order to put it in there.",0 +11928,Just did my first ever pushup. I’ve always weighed a lot and have been going to the gym and today I attempted a push-up after trying for multiple days and hit one I’m currently 225 pounds,0 +11929,"Have I reached my limits?. Currently am 166lbs and 5’6’’. My legs look the same in size and mass. I put on 10lbs hoping I could add some mass and size on my legs. But after comparing my legs from a year ago, it just seems like I haven’t added any proper size and mass to it. I definitely can squat more and have gotten a lot stronger ever since but adding muscle is getting harder. Have I reached my limits? Is there anyway to break this plateau?",0 +11930,1 year of progress (as of Sept 20). Before pic at the end. ,0 +11931,"Just got told to stop ego lifting at my gym. So today, I was struggling with a weight that I am a bit hit or miss on (100kg bench) Sometimes I can easily complete 3 sets of 5, sometimes I struggle with a single set. But I usually keep at it because I want to push myself. + +Today a guy I see regularly came up to me and pretty told me to keep my ego in check and stop ego lifting. Been lifting for 5 years and this is the 1st time I've ever felt a bit uncomfortable in the gym. + +Am I wrong for being a bit irked by this? + +Edit: Thanks for all the responses guys. I'm going to keep pushing myself as usual but will pay a tad more attention to my form, just to be safe.",0 +11932,5 Wheels. ,0 +11933,"My hand gives extreme pain in the blue area when I do benchpress , chest and flies. What is the solution?? pls help.. ",0 +11934,My skinny ass (141lbs) squatting 309 x 1. ,0 +11935,"people who do this,what's your favourite type of window to lick? bus window, restaurant window, gym window?. ",0 +11936,I’m on holiday in Spain and don’t know if this is kgs or lbs. how would I tell?. ,0 +11937,5 months of sheer dedication. gym almost every single day and no cheat days. no turning back.. ,0 +11938,First pics are in februari this year and the second were of yesterday. So very very proud of my progress lately and wanted to share :). ,0 +11939,"6 month check in, (28lbs-254lbs) 27lbs down.. ",0 +11940,"Gym drama, does anyone else have this problem?. ",0 +11941,~332kg/732lbs - Trap bar deadlift (PR). ,0 +11942,Much better name for it.. ,0 +11943,One year. ,0 +11944,Form check on a 225 pound bench press. Feedback would be appreciated :D. ,0 +11945,What's up gym bros. I started working out recently and I was wondering if my form was any good. Thoughts?. ,0 +11946,Hyperextensions for Back Health 90x10 (ww). ,0 +11947,is this good for bulking? im literally so addicted to it i cant stop making toasts out of it. ,0 +11948,"First powerlifting meet 😬 The atmosphere, fellow participants and volunteers where all awesome. Can’t wait for the next one.. ",0 +11949,"New years gym newbs. Good luck. Its that time of the gym life cycle where all gyms get a massive influx of new years resolutioners. Machines and equipment that were empty, are now a lot more full lol. New gym folk, don’t be intimidated and ask for help if you need it. Regular gym folk, try to be nice 😂😂",0 +11950,"Push myself while recovering from Lyme?. I have not been to the gum for 6 weeks do to Lyme Disease. I choose to get cardio by hiking 5 miles a day in a State Forest. I missed a tick and got sick. Standard symptoms, on third month of Doxy. Some days I feel OK, other days I have no energy.",0 +11951,Your age based on what you listen to at the gym. ,0 +11952,First time trying for 15 Kg shoulder press(8 reps). How'd I do?. ,0 +11953,365 for 8s 😭. ,0 +11954,19M Hit 365 sumo. Hit 315 in January if this year.. ,0 +11955,Is there any flaw in the form? I had to cut the video to change the position of the tv lol. ,0 +11956,You guys are kidding? Is there a BEGINNER'S workout plan that doesn't require me to be able to do 50 push-ups? I simply can't pick a proper begginer's program due to the fact that i`m a BEGINNER and i can't perform weight squats. Where do i get a proper plan?. ,0 +11957,How to get from first pic to second pic ?. ,0 +11958,Can’t be the only one who finds this annoying. ,0 +11959,Somedays this sub be like. ,0 +11960,A year of squat progression. 230lbs (I think) versus 315lbs.. ,0 +11961,100x8 Dumbbell Shoulder Press. ,0 +11962,"5 pound PR on a 16 rep set, 165 x 16. ",0 +11963,4 months results of moderate bulking & PPL / 6’ 183cm / 72kg (158lbs) to 78kg (172bs) but can’t see a big difference. ,0 +11964,Gym Progress (started August 2020) - Soon to wrap up a long&slow 2-year growing season after a weightloss of 150lbs +.. ,0 +11965,"~1yr of bulk and cut progress, 195 -> 227 -> 209. ",0 +11966,9 Plate Deficit Bench Deadlift. ,0 +11967,"4 month progress, 14lbs gained, before and after. ",0 +11968,[ww] 1.5 Leg 95lbsx8 Inverted Barbell Push-up. ,0 +11969,Why need a spotter when your neck can just catch the weights?. ,0 +11970,When your the first in the group to bench 225…. ,0 +11971,Does anyone have any idea what’s going on anatomically with my buddy’s back here?. ,0 +11972,for me it depends whether I am cutting or bulking. ,0 +11973,65kg @55kg bodyweight moving nicely 😊. ,0 +11974,"Didn’t feel like it, but I still went for and hit a PR. 260lb Behind the Neck OHP PR @ 209lb. ",0 +11975,After losing 29kgs in the span of 3.5 years This is the 1st time I am able to do Chin ups. ,0 +11976,"I was ridiculed by a man at my gym. Today, I was doing ab exercises, I was called closer by a man and told that I am still the same weight when I started coming to the gym(it's been 4 months) and told that my diet is not proper in front of my gym buddies. I felt humiliation today but chose to be silent. I usually have high motivation to workout , today I did not feel like working out. What I should have done? + +EDIT : Thank you to each and everyone of r/gym community who backed me up in my post and gave me a motivation to last a year. I have taken some really good inputs like calorie deficit and restructuring diet. +I know I should have announced my gender and age that I am 26 Male, Asian. +People who have been telling me that he was trying to help, I wanted to tell you that he told me all of that and mentioned "" No offense, I am just stating facts"" which kind of bummed me out. +I do a 40 KG bench press now from a plain rod. I know I am improving and I shall put in more efforts now.",0 +11977,Today’s deadlift - 225lbs for 4x8. Goal is 4x10 before I move up in weight again. ,0 +11978,I think I broke the code. ,0 +11979,Is my arch excessive? My commmercial gymtrainer tells me so. Ik in this clip my foot placement is a little wrong please ignore that. Im a late beginner and a very early intermediate powerlifter. ,0 +11980,"here is my 1y transformation, i put on about 10kg while staying quite lean so im proud. ",0 +11981,"I'm literally in tears. Same room, sane mirror, same setting, but so much progress. I kid you not I'm crying in relief!. ",0 +11982,"7 year progress so far. Haven't been super muscle gaining focused for 5 of the 7 years (martial arts focused), but focusing on adding size now 😁. ",0 +11983,"16-21 slow transformation, 58-72kg, 5ft9. ",0 +11984,[ww] Got roped into some calf training. ,0 +11985,First Lat spread in September Compared to Today.. ,0 +11986,Can someone please explain what this is and how to use it. ,0 +11987,Need a spotter bro?. ,0 +11988,Pushing out a 175kg/385lbs single conventional.. ,0 +11989,Japanese school lunch part II. All you can carb edition (these are seconds). Mapo Tofu. ,0 +11990,Anyone know what he is doing. ,0 +11991,"Can a pull up bar and a set of dumbness give me good results or similar results then going gym.. Don't really want to go gym so I was thinking eith those equipment I could just workout at home + +I MEAN SET OF DUMBELLS not dumbness lol",0 +11992,110 kg (242 lbs) OHP almost fked my sh*t up!. ,0 +11993,195KG (430lbs) AMRAP. ,0 +11994,15 months already and feeling better than ever. ,0 +11995,bulk completed. ,0 +11996,My weight-loss journey: Before vs After. ,0 +11997,"Guest rooms are lame, embrace home gym. ",0 +11998,"Hate to have to ask, but what is this piece of equipment called boys?. ",0 +11999,"180 -> 155, 8 months. same spot, same shitty lighting. ",0 +12000,"who else is hitting legs on valentines day?. I'm single, and lonely, so I will be hitting legs for 3-4 hours on v - day. While others are snuggled up with their gfs I will be drowning my sorrows in some sad music and pain in my legs. Who else is with me?",0 +12001,585lbs My last deadlift attempt for my first ever comp! Took 1st place in my weight class with a 695kg/1532lbs total. Already excited for the next one. This lift got a ⚪⚪🔴 one of the judges got me for hitching at the top.. ,0 +12002,"You win some, you REALLY lose some. A first place showing in the event, but it was my first and last event of the day.. ",0 +12003,beginner here all gyms are closed due to covid new variant i ordered this home workout equipments its says pvc plates i need them for only 2 months till gyms are again functional .My main goal is to lose fat currently i am 200 pound 18yo male 5'8 in height. ,0 +12004,485. ,0 +12005,"F 5'8, 189 lbs vs 165 lbs over 5 months. I started at 203 lbs in Nov 2021 though! While the before pic feels embarrassing, the after makes me proud. Big thanks to lifting for giving me arm definition.. ",0 +12006,"progress pics. pic 1 oct 2021, pic 2 januari 2022 pic 3 last week. ",0 +12007,4x6 Sumo deads with 3 sec eccentric. Burns them hams 🔥. ,0 +12008,295 lbs squat fail at 135 lbs bodyweight any tips?. ,0 +12009,Regarding Liver King and his diet (funny but serious). ,0 +12010,"Are hip thrusts for 'girls only'?. I was doing hip thrust at the gym today, and the gym owner/instructor approached and asked whether I knew what I was doing. I said yes, but he quickly said that Hip thrusts are for your glutes only, and girls do them. + +I think I know what he means since they target the glutes mostly, but I also think that it really depends on the position and angle between your shins and thighs, as hip thrusts can be used for hamstrings' training as well. + +Please someone correct me if I am wrong. + +Update: so the final verdict of this sub is: the thicker= the better, hence why hip thrusts are not to be excluded from one's routine. + +I wish the gym owner knew English, so he can educate himself. Well thanks for feedback,",0 +12011,4 Months Jim. ,0 +12012,My 1.5 years transformation 53kg–> 65kg. ,0 +12013,14 months. 175 - 195. ,0 +12014,"Dec 2021 to Aug 2022, 184lbs to 182lbs with a bulk and cut in between. ",0 +12015,My 10 month progress from 13-14. ,0 +12016,Weight gain never looked so good ;);) (yes I’m still gaining but wanted to appreciate the progress I managed so far). ,0 +12017,"[M/26/5'8""] 6 Month Progress Pic doing PPL, finally have abs! Bulk next?. ",0 +12018,Is this true?. ,0 +12019,First pic is me April 2022 vs me October 2021. ,0 +12020,"hello guys, this was my first time going to the gym (i weight 67 kg), and i deadlifted 120kg with no problems but 2 days later and im feeling a lot of pain in the lower back. Is this beacuse of my form or just because its my first time lifting. ",0 +12021,"I hereby petition to make Overhead Front Raises the new ""cheat curls"" of ego-lifting. You ever do these?. ",0 +12022,"530lb Zercher Deadlift, from Floor. Potential All Time Record.. ",0 +12023,Clean?. ,0 +12024,Is strength level really accurate? There’s no way I have an elite level hip thrust at 15. ,0 +12025,Jump PR!! 6 kg for 4 reps. ,0 +12026,Do you know the name of this machine?. ,0 +12027,Me: I don’t feel like going to the gym my gym bro :. ,0 +12028,Do y’all like “stop and reset” or “stop and go” deadlifts for higher reps? Benefit to one over the other?. ,0 +12029,2 and half year body transformation (40lbs gain). 16.5-18 (will be 19 in 3 days) 151.8lbs in the second pic. Mid bulk will post again after I cut.,0 +12030,Celebrating 61 with a PR 470 lb squat.😊. ,0 +12031,2 year back progress. ,0 +12032,whole arm progress ( started going to the gym 4 months ago) 13y. ,0 +12033,"Progress over 5 months neither bulking nor cutting, just living+high protein ~185 for both. ",0 +12034,Why does my creatine look clumpy and is it safe to take?. ,0 +12035,9 months of the hardest work I’ve ever done and no where to share it :). ,0 +12036,Finished my home gym!. ,0 +12037,"It took 5 attempts, but I finally flipped the thousand pound tire.. ",0 +12038,"14M, 8 months worth of gym progress (before pic is the last one). ",0 +12039,"Small Progress Photos. Always had a hard time gaining weight & after MANY on/off failed home workouts I regained motivation & I started going to the gym (almost 2 months now). M, 23, 6’4. 160lbs-205lbs (2020-2022). ",0 +12040,What is this thing? It's at my gym in the free weight area and I've never seen anyone use it.. ,0 +12041,I’ve tried perfecting my form but still feel soreness in lower back. Any tips??. ,0 +12042,What can I do to help with my musclar imbalance?. ,0 +12043,4 years between these pics. At 21 years old I never dreamed I could look like this. There were ups and downs but here we are! 25 feels so good!!. ,0 +12044,Like to pick things up and put them down? Try this 15 minute keg loading workout...you just load a keg for 15 minutes. ,0 +12045,My 12 month back progress. Added a little over 6kg across the year at a rather reduced bf% 💪🏼💪🏼. ,0 +12046,"It has been an amazing journey since October 4th, 2021! Besides the physical changes, the change in my mentality was the most beautiful thing that has happened to me, from being depressed and lacking of any confidence whatsoever to becoming the happiest that I've ever been and knowing my self worth.. ",0 +12047,After a lot of cheat meals and missed workouts/ 1 year progress. 235->190lbs. ,0 +12048,"Form check - first time doing a Zottman curl as I read online that it targets the whole bicep rather than bicep curls and hammer curls which target the front and back (I do those too). My issue is that I feel it in my rear delts and triceps more than my bicep, bad form or underdeveloped rear delts?. ",0 +12049,What are some gym etiquette everyone should know?. ,0 +12050,Just looking at it legs are burning. ,0 +12051,7*60kg After three heavy singles. First day back after lockdown.. ,0 +12052,Right there hurts when I do curls or lift heavy weights with my arms. Can someone help?. ,0 +12053,"6~ month bulk, 16yo. ",0 +12054,"Firs time touching 3 plates, only had 1 rep planned but it felt so light. Form check?. ",0 +12055,Form check? Cousin Press set of 10. ,0 +12056,"Gym Bathrooms are WILD. I’ve been going to the gym for several years and no matter what gym I end up at there’s always a shit load of dudes who do the gnarliest stuff in the bathrooms. +I see dudes using the urinal / stall while completely barefoot. I don’t know if people know but there’s piss all under urinals and toilets. +I’ll be in a stall and some dude comes into the stall next to me shits and immediately pulls up their pants and leave. +I’ve always thought these kind of things are crack head activities, but almost DAILY I see wild stuff, like I said above, happen. +Am I weird for thinking these are degenerate behaviors?",0 +12057,37 M. My heaviest bench day in years after injuries and losing motivation. Didn't have any one else to share with.. ,0 +12058,"Overly social guy at the gym. This dude is cool he seems to know everyone at the gym. So one day he asks me to spot and introduced himself. All cool. But from there on now he is constantly asking me to join him on his routine or do abs or do stretching together. I let him know that i can do a set but i have my own trainer +And routine. The dude just keeps asking and giving advise, now he’s asking about hanging out. He won’t take a hint and i don’t wanna rude but bro…stfu 😂 anyone else get these kind of situations?",0 +12059,A new PR even at 61. A 335 lb bench!. ,0 +12060,495lbs deadlift as we push towards 525lbs. The initial lift is alway challenging because of the dead-weight. Once momentum is built you gucci! Be safe lifting. ,0 +12061,Standing Branch Prass Form Check. ,0 +12062,"Who are some trusted, no BS fitness YouTubers who I could look to for training ideas?. ",0 +12063,"Over 3x Bodyweight Deadlift - 612 @ 201, (278 @91kg) - But was it cheating?. ",0 +12064,(WW)Reattempting 200kg tomorrow. Any tips so I don't lose balance??. ,0 +12065,Started working out 2 months ago wish I started sooner. ,0 +12066,Can you believe 21 reps of 175 log didn’t outright win the event? Tied for 1st in this event against someone that I tied for 1st against last August. In August we both got 21 reps on a viper press. Pressing nemesis!. ,0 +12067,They had us in the first half.... ,0 +12068,"7 year progress, been a crazy journey. ",0 +12069,"Couple months Ago I had to have surgery, lost my gains and hated looking in the mirror. Was able to bounce back and now am getting back into my best ( not there yet but close) for anyone struggling with injuries you can and will come back stronger than ever. ",0 +12070,Back Progress (15 years old). I know its not much but im proud of myself. ,0 +12071,why do so many people hate athlean x?. ,0 +12072,Hurts to see. ,0 +12073,My ridiculous squat form. ,0 +12074,15kg weighted pull ups - form good enough to increase weight or not quite there yet? Feel like I’m stretching my neck too much to get to the top if that makes sense. ,0 +12075,15 years old. Feeling confident :D. ,0 +12076,Rate my 6 month home gym progress (15 yrs old in both photos). ,0 +12077,Which exercises should I start doing more to grow this area of the bicep? (I’m not too sure which head/part of the bicep this is. ). ,0 +12078,315x3 and forgetting to struggle at 164BW. ,0 +12079,"I know it doesn't seem like much to many of you, but nearly a decade of lifting and exercise and here's the result 405lb!!. ",0 +12080,"Went to the gym on Valentine’s Day and the cutest girl started working out next to my bench.. It’s true . + +But now that I got your attention, I’ve been working out my chest and I’m still fairly small. I Weigh around 60kg and trying to build muscle and gain weight. + +I train to failure or (8-12reps), progressive overload and practiced my form for at least 2 weeks. After chest day I don’t really feel any pain or “burn” and I’m just wondering if I’m doing something wrong. + +E.g. When you workout biceps you can feel the muscles being impacted , but when I do chest I don’t feel anything + +edit: thanks everyone for the advice! Hopefully end of the year I will be confident enough to post before and after pics",0 +12081,Mr cLEAN magic fat eraser. 377 days. The gym and running saved me. ,0 +12082,"I see these bodybuilders pictures at the gym everyday, what's their names?. ",0 +12083,"Lost ~40 pounds and I am thinking about starting a bulk for the winter. Any tips?. In the first pic, I hadn’t even been on the scale in a while because I was scared to see it go up any more. I never thought I’d be here but here I am (:",0 +12084,6 week booty built progress. ,0 +12085,Is it just me or does anyone else listen to these while doing upper body?. ,0 +12086,"140lbs to 155lbs about 1 year and a half, sometimes feel I haven’t done much. ",0 +12087,"Just went to the gym. Headphones died 2 minutes into my workout. Whole workout ruined.. I see people who workout with no headphones, how do they do this? Have to be psychopaths. It's the only answer.",0 +12088,"Finally! It might be small to most of you, but I've been aiming for 60kg (132lbs) since I first started benching as the smallest, weakest, and somehow chubbiest member of my group of friends. Super stoked to get this today. 2 plates is the next goal...But lets start with reps on 60 first haha. ",0 +12089,Hows my form? I havent worked out with a barbell in 2 years. Going to start from scratch with light weights.. ,0 +12090,what is the hill you’re willing to die on when it comes to working out and/or diets?. ,0 +12091,I think we lost one of our own…. ,0 +12092,Less go Jesse. ,0 +12093,this is me. Ever happen to anyone else? I can't be the only one... ,0 +12094,Told myself this was rpe 8 😭 (210kg). ,0 +12095,"You may not like it, but this is what peak male performance looks like.. ",0 +12096,Got my little (gym) brother his own shaker. ,0 +12097,"Hit 100kg (220lbs) Strict Overhead Press PR, Was an absolute grind tbh. Next step to smooth out the form 😂. ",0 +12098,The best bday gift that I've given myself is reaching 110kg on a working set. I'm feeling off the roof now.. ,0 +12099,How does one get off of this without looking like a fish out of water?. ,0 +12100,I’m back. ,0 +12101,"6 months in the gym after I got vaccinated, with 6 months of walking 10 km before that, 140 kilos down to 90. Thanks for the motivation!. ",0 +12102,"New to gym. Can someone please name the exercies mentioned on my routine card. +I am new to the gym and they provided me the schedule but the names of the excercises are not mention",0 +12103,"Just hit a sick PR, thought I’d share. ",0 +12104,"Super Squats: 315x21, final day. ",0 +12105,Is this good progress so far? Been lifting seriously for 2 months now. ,0 +12106,"Guy at the gym making girls uncomfortable. I basically just wanted to tell everyone about this really weird bloke at the gym. He wasn’t even weird, he was just a regular bloke with a fairy good physique - the problem was what he was doing/does. + +So I was minding my own, doing some squats. The squat rack next to me was occupied by a group of three girls. They are fairly new I think cause they only started showing up the past few weeks. They were doing some squats and taking in turns and they only had about 10kg on the bar. + +This gym bro dude was doing a set nearby, and after his set stood up and walked up to the girls. I was watching the interaction between my sets. He didn’t say anything to them and just stood watching the girl as she was squatting. He then kept shaking his head and cringing, and the girls sort of just looked at each other but ignored him. Anyway he went back to what he was doing… but after a few mins, he came back to the same girl doing the squats and he interrupted them saying something like, +“Sorry I’ve just been watching you girls and I have to say that what you are doing is dangerous and stupid” +One of the girls: “oh. what are we doing?” +Guy said something like: “you’re not doing the correct form to squat. I don’t want to see any of you guys hurt yourselves.” +He then preceded to show them how to correctly squat. Fair enough I thought. He was just giving them some tips. + +Once he was done showing them, he then asked one of them to show them their squat so he could correct their form. He took the weight off the bar and told them to just perfect it with the bar. A girl then did a few squats and I thought they looked fine. But then bro kept shaking his head and facepalming as she was doing it ????. The girls looked real uncomfortable and they clearly just wanted to gtfo and move on with their workout but he then had a big spiel to them how you have to have correct squat form and “I don’t want to see you guys get hurt or fail a lift” +They were like oh okay thanks for the advice, cool. +And then he asked once more if he could see this particular girls squat form. She did like one more and she was blushing and looked embarrassed. He then picked up the bar and said something like “okay I don’t trust you with this thing, I’m not letting you squat until you have proper form. The others can but not you. I’m doing this for your safety.” +The girls were more confused than anything. They just nodded and laughed even tho bro was deadass not letting them use the squat rack. +When I realised what was going on I turned around and just stared at bro but he didn’t really catch on. I thought about saying something but I was just minding my own. +Anyway - what do you guys think of this behaviour? Was he in the wrong or was he doing the right thing? + +TLDR: gym guy doesn’t let group of girls use squat rack because their “form is unsafe”. + +UPDATE: since I was going to gym early morning I thought I might take the thread’s advice and mention this guy to staff. I was a bit hesitant I might admit because the only chick that works there is buddies with the same dude. I follow her on Insta and she literally has a photo with him flexing in the mirror saying “my fav gym buddy” or some crap. Anyway I thought that wouldn’t matter as what he did was wrong. I bought what happened up to her and she acted surprised. She knew the guy by name and said “so and so doesn’t act like that usually” and she actually said that one girl from the group came up to her the same morning and mentioned about a guy that made her uncomfortable. She said that now that she knows who the guy is she will watch him closely and ban him if he does it again. Idk I took her words with a pinch of salt since they are friends. This dude just puts on this charismatic persona to everyone around the gym but as soon as it’s quiet I guess he shows his true colours to the newbies. He might think that it is his gym or some crap, like he has a duty to control it idk? Anyway that’s that.",0 +12107,Is this weight stack in kilos?. ,0 +12108,"Almost 2 year progress. Video is today vs May 2020. 29F, 5’6”, SW: 183.4, CW: 139.6, GW: 135. Hypertrophy training 3-4 days/week. Cardio 1-2 days/week. Counting macros, high protein diet.. ",0 +12109,Hamstring flexibility progress 😊. ,0 +12110,Society would be a better place if this was the case. ,0 +12111,"Someone posted the pic of this guy earlier, I thought it was just for posing for social media, what the actual hoocus poocus. ",0 +12112,(WW) Am I doing supersets correctly?. ,0 +12113,"What is this?. Gym newbie. Is it even a machine, or is it a weight rack? Why are there handles?",0 +12114,my biggest strongman/akward implement lift ever!. ,0 +12115,"I dislike cameras, wanted to have this on video though because I'm happy about it. 405x2 bench.. ",0 +12116,"Posted this yesterday and today’s gym session was one of the best I’ve ever had. Don’t let a bad day discourage you, guys.. ",0 +12117,Progress from 11 week cut. ,0 +12118,"1 year progress. 1st pic 1 year ago, 2nd recent.. I went on a bit of a bulk, well that's a lie as I'm always on a bulk, dieting isn't too great I eat clean when I can but this is hit and miss. +I train 5-6 days a week, hitting one body part a day for 5 sets of 8-10 reps for most of the time then sometimes go for 5sets of 12-16 to break it up. +I ran winstrol and Dianabol on and off but even with milk thistle this didn't agree with me so steered off more than on but it helped give me a little push. +Also,.this is about 10 and a half months worth of training as I had my left eye removed about a month after the first pic and was ordered to rest until it healed, as soon as it did I was straight back in the gym.",0 +12119,435lb deadlift PR @ 152lb bodyweight. ,0 +12120,4 years progress! 175 to 211!. ,0 +12121,615lb Single. Yes it's sumo.. ,0 +12122,The perfect title.. ,0 +12123,"Form check | 140kg/315lbs @ 70kg/154lbs B.W., 17 yrs old. ",0 +12124,What's this muscle called? sry I'm a newb here lol. ,0 +12125,Which exercise is better for Increasing muscle size: Machine Chest Press or Dumbbell Chest Press. ,0 +12126,I'd like one crumb of dopamine if You'd be so kind.. ,0 +12127,Takes me about 5 minutes to get through. ,0 +12128,Hit a bodyweight dip! +190lbs Dip. ,0 +12129,Getting 3 plates on an OHP is becoming a routine any day of the week/no matter how I feel type of lift.. ,0 +12130,425 front squat (paused). ,0 +12131,"Because you asked, here's my 455lb squat for 6 reps. Proud of they move these days. Conjugate is a hell of a drug.. ",0 +12132,Here is my 1 year body transformation from 130 lbs to 170 lbs and its only the beginning 😈🔱. ,0 +12133,[ww] completely normal squats I promise. ,0 +12134,I know it's not much but after 2 months of training I finally DL'd a plate and went for a double after this. ,0 +12135,New deadlift PR. ,0 +12136,Joined the 500 club! 508 in the books.. ,0 +12137,After 8 months of gym (79kg/174lb -> 99kg/218lb). ,0 +12138,Today’s benching session! 60lb dumbbbells 😏 I got it for 2 sets of 4 reps!. ,0 +12139,"Decided to “see” how much weight I’ve lost over the last two and a half years when I was at the gym earlier. Jesus, it’s a LOT. Obviously I’m stronger now and it was evenly spread over my body instead of mainly on one shoulder but you get the idea?. ",0 +12140,"5 months in. Thoughts? Only different thing is second pic is a filter I used, no photoshop. ",0 +12141,"I did it boys, I DID IT!. ",0 +12142,"Bulk or Cut?. I just hit my 1yr milestone in the gym where I lost nearly 70lbs. I now stand at 128lbs at 19yo 5”6. I am now in a situation where I feel skinny fat and I’m not sure if I should bulk or cut. I feel my body fat is too high to bulk, but my muscle mass is too low to cut. Thank you all for your help ahead of time!",0 +12143,My 1 year back gains! Sorry I don’t know how to flex properly my wife’s gonna teach me🙉 October 2021 to October 2022. ,0 +12144,365lb bench single @176lbs bodyweight… hoping 405lbs by the end of the year. ,0 +12145,135kg paused deadlift @55kg bodyweight! This was my max I guess it’s not anymore 😂💪🏻. ,0 +12146,Looking for criticism. Trash my form.. ,0 +12147,What’s up with the IG content with all these guys hitting the gym cause they’re sad? It’s like 80% of the posts. ,0 +12148,I got a huge PR on squat the other day. 295kg/650lbs x5.. ,0 +12149,A lifetime PR of 515 lbs. at 61. 😊. ,0 +12150,255 squats after my worksets for AMRAP. Almost puked here 🥲. ,0 +12151,Was the form ok? 30kg in total @ 13. ,0 +12152,is this accurate ?. ,0 +12153,[TT] - That time last summer I did way too many reps. ,0 +12154,"6 months progress, before and after. Still need to put on more weight tho…. ",0 +12155,"A lot was learnt this year, especially finding out how important recovery is. ",0 +12156,"12 year transformation. 30 years old, 6'0"", 235 pounds vs. 18 years old 125 pounds",0 +12157,"1 year progress, weak first half of year no motivation. Pulled it out the bag second half. proud of myself. ",0 +12158,[ww] Hit a new height PR on deficit bent over rows!!. ,0 +12159,"What’s the biggest thing that changed in your lives when your started lifting ?. I don’t really know if this question relates to what this sub is about but I’m curious. + +Was it your confidence ? The way others perceived you ? What doors opened for you ? + +It’s just pretty amazing to me how, as your body changes, your relationship to the world also does. + +Peace !",0 +12160,205lbs. For 3.. ,0 +12161,"how's the form. Im Just wondering if there is anything I could improve on when deadlifting, because I think I should have had a straighter back when lifting and maybe not curve it when I put the bar down.",0 +12162,Back To Back Deadlift PRs: 835 x4/855 x2. ,0 +12163,60kg @55kg bodyweight so happy to be hitting this comfortably again! ☺️💪🏻. ,0 +12164,"[w/w] FAPPERS: ""Fore-Arm Punishing, Progressively-Escalating Resistance System"".. ",0 +12165,320kg (705lbs) x 1.. ,0 +12166,100kg Barbell rows with a little bit of body English 😉. ,0 +12167,my one year transformation (sorry for the background I'm not really good at clicking pics). ,0 +12168,Trust me I would know good lighting when I see it (username). ,0 +12169,I competed yesterday! PB’d all my lifts and won best female lifter! Here is my 72.5kg bench @55kg bodyweight 💪🏻. ,0 +12170,"Why don't bodybuilders season their meals?. I'm sure that I am generalizing here a bit, but most of my friends who lift eat the typical boiled chicken, canned tuna, rice, and veggie diet. As a fellow bodybuilder who is also a cook and foodie, I never understood why one has to make himself miserable in order to see results? As long as you stick to your macros and caloric goals, a little seasoning can go a long way in terms of helping you enjoy and sustain a healthy lifestyle, so why the miserable meals? + +EDIT: Not sure why people seem to think I'm talking about one specific friend here.. This is a phenomenon across many gym bros I speak to on a daily basis as well as most of my friends (note, plural) who also lift. The only answer I got so far that makes somewhat sense is not wanting your food to taste too good in order to suppress appetite and avoid overeating.",0 +12171,3x body weight 250kg at 83kg 19 years old. ,0 +12172,"Why are sumo deadlifts considered bad or cheating to some people while lifting heavy weights?. I've seen so many posts with people deadlifting 500-700 lbs and whenever i go to the comments, they are filled with so much negativity, ""But it was sumo lol"", ""sumo bad"", ""lmao weak guy can't even lift conventional"" + +Why is it so? Imagine achieving something so difficult and this is the response you get :/",0 +12173,"First pic 5 years ago borderline anorexic and drug addict, 2nd pic was 5 months ago and 3rd is now, been training hard and eating 3500-4k calories a day. Happy with how it’s going so far and really enjoying being healthy. ",0 +12174,"1,6 year of training. What do you guys think ?. ",0 +12175,I just benched 215kg/474lbs! Onward to 500lbs!. ,0 +12176,Yep that's it. ,0 +12177,Thought I’d hit a 415lb x 3 Deadlift PR for my 51st birthday. But it was actually Snoop’s favorite number!. ,0 +12178,Use clips!. ,0 +12179,"I'm starting to hit the gym next week after working out casually at home for a while, 138pound/ 63kg for 5""8/178cm, is there anything that i lack and need to focus on more ?. ",0 +12180,How it started vs How it’s going. ,0 +12181,Hit a new squat pr 185kg (407lbs). Messy but idc. ,0 +12182,Glute progress from Nov 21’-Oct 22’ 5’10 and went from 49kg (yikes) to 60kg 🥳 whats everyones fav leg day split. ,0 +12183,Found this on tiktok. ,0 +12184,310kg (683lbs) x 2 @ 21 years old. New PB.. ,0 +12185,hope this is allowed but what is this called? I can’t find a sticker on it. ,0 +12186,1 year and a few months later …. ,0 +12187,335lbs PR at 120lbs bodyweight 🤝. ,0 +12188,What's your opinion on training mask?. ,0 +12189,"update on my ""after break up glow up"" thanks for all the kings out there keeping me motivated 👑. ",0 +12190,5 month gym progress. ,0 +12191,"5'8"" and about 155lbs in both pictures (roughly a year apart).. ",0 +12192,Form check? Worried about my knees doing this type of squat. ,0 +12193,My back after 2 years of Lifting vs after 7 years. ,0 +12194,4 month difference! (April 20th - September 6th). ,0 +12195,Back of an old man at 60.. ,0 +12196,"Some Progress Pics ~ 1st is when i started in Jan, Second is Mid March, Last we today. All natural just protein creatine and preworkout on Jeff Nippards PPL split. ",0 +12197,When the squat day is just too good. ,0 +12198,I can’t believe it!! & I lost 9 pounds !. ,0 +12199,"New PR, valid form?. ",0 +12200,"Good day fellow Hustlers, I really appreciate a Form Check🙏🏾. ",0 +12201,Is combining cardio and lifting ok? ww. ,0 +12202,"Still new to the gym, what’s this on the weight machines?. ",0 +12203,"New to working out, what does this mean? Is this not the same as using the 90 lb pin? Should I be doing this instead of using 1 pin?. ",0 +12204,"folks, I need help with this one. 555# attempt. hammies fully engaged but back starts to arch yuck. ",0 +12205,"6 month progress picture. Have a long way to go.. SW:210 +CW:173 +GW:165",0 +12206,Brother hit 300 today. ,0 +12207,Finally joined the 500lb squat club. BW:240. ,0 +12208,1 year upper body progress (+15lbs). ,0 +12209,"270 lb deadlift PR @ 134 lb, 2.01x bw, form not the best sorry. ",0 +12210,Which is one sentence you tel yourself that makes you go to the gym?. Tell*,0 +12211,My before and after. ,0 +12212,"I know the spotter touched the bar but I still feel super proud of this, 315lbs at 172lbs!. ",0 +12213,Nothing has to be optimal. Overslept and missed suhoor (breakfast during ramadan) and was able to hit this. Strict press 180 lbs/81.6 kg X5 with hold on last rep @193 lbs/87 kg bodyweight. ,0 +12214,"Been working on butt lift form correction while I’ve been cutting (lower weight, so why not). How does it look so far? BW158. ",0 +12215,8 Month Transformation. ,0 +12216,"Wanted to post to Insta, but got told it was “douchy”, so I came here to show my new PR of 294! I’m new to the gym, I’m down 25 lbs and I’m excited!. ",0 +12217,"March of 2021 to April of 2022, 181lbs to 190lbs. ",0 +12218,Weight loss progress (35 lbs in the pics) can you estimate my current body fat percentage?. ,0 +12219,Since there was another post like this… is this body possible? And how?. ,0 +12220,"6 Month Check in. Skyrizi cured my Psoriatic Arthritis, and calorie deficit plus 1-2 hours of PPL PPL a week. Never tracked weight but 6'6"", 32 and pretty much overweight my entire life. Any questions of my journey feel free to ask!. ",0 +12221,progress progress. ,0 +12222,"How is my deadlift, reduced weight alot to get a better form, please don't criticize my setup ( it's all i can afford ). ",0 +12223,progress of just over a month. too shy to share on social media.. ,0 +12224,January vs July. ,0 +12225,Progress pics (swipe for more). About 6 months between each pair.. ,0 +12226,"My sister is a gym rat now!. Hi all! Please delete if not allowed. My sister has been lifting for awhile now and has become super dedicated to her routines and diet. I want to support her new lifestyle this Christmas but Google isn’t giving me any good ideas. What’s an item or tool you swear by as a regular lifter or gym-goer? + +EDIT: thank you everyone! I am currently looking at a nice gym bag and a large insulated water bottle since she told me recently she’s struggling with not having those. I am keeping this thread for future ideas, however. Xx + +P.s. apologies for the gym rat comment, I’ve been informed that’s not an appropriate term.",0 +12227,My first ever clean and jerk (82kg) lol I have zero clue of what I am doing. ,0 +12228,"3 Month gym procces, I know its not alot but some weeks i didnt have the chance to workout much. But i'm training more consistent now.. ",0 +12229,365lb 4x5 @125lb. ,0 +12230,Form check please. Feels like I'm moving too much.. ,0 +12231,Road to 210 sw 360 cw 245. ,0 +12232,Small before and after update. Nothing too crazy. 220 vs 200lbs 6 months between photos.. ,0 +12233,Roughly one month of progress between August and September. How am I looking?. ,0 +12234,"Trying to keep showing up. Feeling stronger, healthier, and proud of how far I've come!. ",0 +12235,"I was so sure I could have it...right up until I tried it. No big boy plates for me just yet, it seems.. ",0 +12236,Pre and post workout 🤤. ,0 +12237,4 month progress. All you need is a broken heart and you’re set. ,0 +12238,form check my 530lbs bois. ,0 +12239,How can I fix my massive glute+quad imbalance? More info in comments.. ,0 +12240,"I've heard 100 push up workouts are ""junk volume"" and not effective: does the same apply to 800 bodyweight dips?. Because [that's what I did this morning](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=27dTG_dZ4Yc) + +With 350ish reps of 225lbs on the high handle trap bar as well. + +Am I ruining my gains?",0 +12241,"is it acceptable to do standing ohp in the squat rack?. some random dude came up while i was resting in between sets asked me how much i got left told him 4 and he told to not occupy the rack in the future if im gonna only use small weights (i was ohping with two tens, so 40kg) i partially just kinda ignored him and nodded. was he just a pretentious old head or is he right?",0 +12242,"445lb, All Star, 50% PR. ",0 +12243,Hit 225x3 on incline today. Pretty proud of my achievement so I wanted it to share it with you all 🤟🏾. ,0 +12244,New deadlift PB! 309lbs/140kg @55kg bodyweight 😌💪🏻. ,0 +12245,What is this gym machine called I’m saving money to buy one but I don’t know what it is called I have looked everywhere?. ,0 +12246,Progress ~ year and a half. ,0 +12247,is this progress normal for the first 3 months for a 16 year old? (54kg-61kg). ,0 +12248,"I bought my first shaker bottle to start taking creatine and came with this thing inside. Do I leave it in?,. ",0 +12249,Now I’m 2kg lighter (4.5lbs) Eating ~1000kcal more. 0min cardio now compared to 330min per week before.. ,0 +12250,is it okay to go to the gym without taking any supplements?. i can't afford whey or any gym supplements because i'm a broke student who wants to have a good body.,0 +12251,saw this on Facebook and had to share with y'all. ,0 +12252,"Me at 24 Years old right after I found out I was pregnant thinking I’ll never be in shape again, vs me now, 30 years old & 2 kids later.. ",0 +12253,January to today! Slow and steady✨🥹. ,0 +12254,Not a pr: but unexpectedly easy. May finally hit 405 this year. (335 bench 190lb bw). ,0 +12255,Hit 3 plates today! Little over 5 months in!. ,0 +12256,183 pounds down to 173. My New Years resolution to get in shape is starting to come together. I feel a sense of purpose with this lifestyle change. ,0 +12257,"First time trying heavy deadlifts without straps, strap PB is 320kg so happy getting 300kg without. Bodyweight 106kg. ",0 +12258,Something is bugging my lower back for 24-48 hours after I deadlift and I would love some advice.. ,0 +12259,Two year natural progress. ,0 +12260,"The new strength training/strongman gym in town, this is the lower floor with the racks.and platforms. I am still feeling each day like it's Christmas with all this specialized equipment ❤️😁😁. ",0 +12261,My brother says his form is good but i think it is not. He will damage his back?. ,0 +12262,"From 138lbs to 168lbs, feeling much stronger! Also, I'm 6'4. ",0 +12263,Progress from when my son was born to today; 9 months and 2 weeks.. ,0 +12264,"I'm 30 married and got 2 kids, I suffer from PTSD and have had my mental battles and also my big battle with weight all my life at 29 I decided that my 30s where the start of my new self and change my diet, training and just how I live my life I quit alcohol consumption 100% training is my purpose.. ",0 +12265,95lbs Barbell Pistol Squat. ,0 +12266,"Almost 11 months progress, from 53-55Kg to 68Kg. I know I could've done better if I had ate and slept more, but I am content with my change and happy with how I am currently. I play football (Soccer) so I feel this is what works best for me.. ",0 +12267,Been going to the gym(1st pic was taken in September) up until now. Do you guys have any tips on being able to develop physique faster?. ,0 +12268,Stay consistent. you got this. (7 months transformation). ,0 +12269,9 THINGS that new lifters don't need to obsess about! (An /r/GYM conflict thread). ,0 +12270,Some people were concerned about the stability of a previously submitted lift. So I added more balls to make it more balanced.. ,0 +12271,345 Squat for 5 Reps. ,0 +12272,Motivation = FULL. ,0 +12273,"Went to the gym after four years of depression. Day one at the gym today. +I woke up at 7 knowing i had to go today i procrastinated till 11. +I reached 11 30. +Couldn't get my fat nervous wreck of an ass outta the car. +I finally actually entered the gym at 12. +Did 30 mins of cardio, felt okay. +Then the trainer asked me to do some squats and leg raises etc +I could barely do the ""set"" two times. +He told me i was overweight (my bmi is 27.5 so yeah) and that i have knocking knees. +I felt like throwing up so he told me to cool down on the treadmill and head home. +I climbed down the stairs. I started crying as i reached my car. +I cried all the way home. +But hey ig its just day 1 + +Thank you guys! +Im extremelyyy grateful for everyone showing support in the comments and the ones who are providing some much needed advice and inspiration! Thank you for all the motivation and words of encouragement ! ♡ +Looking forward to improving myself one day at a time",0 +12274,An Athenian smackdown. ,0 +12275,"Life has it’s up’s and downs, they’re called squats 💪🏼. ",0 +12276,"1.5 years of progress. Look how far we’ve come, in less than 5 lbs difference… (F18 5’5” 118lbs). ",0 +12277,"First time trying low bar squat because of ankle injury and doesn’t hurt much, how is form?. ",0 +12278,My gym crush was filming me. Huge W. ,0 +12279,seems I'm not the first to the gym this morning.. ,0 +12280,"First time deadlift, want to start 5/3/1 somewhat soon so thought I'd practice. Is my form any good? (serious). ",0 +12281,6 months of lifting- defo progress but wanna know what I can do to get that ‘aesthetic’ physique any help appreciated :). ,0 +12282,885lb Hatfield Squat. ,0 +12283,"Absolutely over the moon with this 200kg/440lbs deadlift pr. My biggest achievement yet, 20kg above my last pr. Got me more motivated than ever :))). ",0 +12284,slowly tapering down and going for cut over size. ,0 +12285,37/M/6'(183cm) Cut progress photos. Feb-July. 225-215. ,0 +12286,"Just levitating, dont mind me.. ",0 +12287,My balls hurt when deadlifting. I wish this was a joke lol. I get a sensation similar to blue balls when deadlifting and it’s just a mild but very off putting pain anyone know why,0 +12288,[TT] - First time putting 200 lbs overhead. ,0 +12289,Lower body progress pics!!. ,0 +12290,Hit 405 for the first time but it wasn’t super clean. Any tips/form check would be much appreciated. ,0 +12291,me vs my buddy (top). ,0 +12292,"Is sweating bad at the gym?. I saw a thread where people said that it's disgusting and you should leave the gym before the whole place starts to smell. Nothing more to say I just thought people go the gym to work out and sweat showed they are making an effort aka a good sign. Am I wrong or right? + +Edit: I forgot to mention I obviously know you wipe your equipment after using them and I completly agree for those refusing to do it that it is disgusting. I don't wanna stick my face into a strangers sweat when doing lying leg curls.",0 +12293,PR at 545lbs and decided to break that PR and do 555lbs right after.. ,0 +12294,105kg paused deadlifts @55kg BW finally back to training! Everything feels heavy AF but moving well ☺️. ,0 +12295,510 deadlift PR! (192 AM weight). ,0 +12296,So I finally managed 105KG/~231Lbs 🦭. ,0 +12297,Absolutely got greedy. I got nobody to share this with.. ,0 +12298,Buffalo Bar Widowmaker Squat: 28x330lbs. Final week of 5/3/1 Building the Monolith. ,0 +12299,"One month of introducing shoulder to workout plan, still on deficit, surprised by the gainz. ",0 +12300,6 months of lifting progress. ,0 +12301,I did 45’s for the first time today 😮‍💨. ,0 +12302,Back progress over 5 months. (not much but still) . is this a decent progress?. ,0 +12303,"Should you take off ALL the weight when you are done with the barbell?. This seems to be a controversial take because some argue that taking all the weight off is less convenient for the person after you if they just have to put the weight right back on. But also, what if the person after you can’t take the weight off? + +Note: This is not referring to dumbbells, of course you put those back. + +Edit: Well looks like this isn’t controversial at all haha. Put the weights back! + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/rwlakb)",0 +12304,I joined the 2 plates club yesterday! 100 kg bench press (225 lbs) at 71.8 kg bodyweight (158 lbs) 16 years old.. ,0 +12305,How to get interior workout carbs safer?. ,0 +12306,First time bench pressing my bodyweight (60 kg). ,0 +12307,200 & 210kg Squat to finish my first year of lifting! @ 16. ,0 +12308,"M/24/5'10"" [160lbs to 186lbs] (2 years). ",0 +12309,What is this used for? Doesn't seem like it can support bodyweight. ,0 +12310,"Chin ups with 8kgs weighted vest, 8 reps :) My bodyweight is 53 kgs.. ",0 +12311,I’m a drug addict. Lifting weights is the only thing that gives my life meaning. ,0 +12312,About 1.5 years in the gym now progress pic. ,0 +12313,Did bench after shoulder and leg workout 140kg x 9 rate my form. ,0 +12314,"This video I made goofing around during Halloween, thought I would share.. ",0 +12315,Back Gains. ,0 +12316,Im having pain here any ideas on why it could be hurting?. ,0 +12317,130lb/59Kg (bodyweight) for ALMOST 10 on bench. ,0 +12318,How do i get a body like this? Both nutritionally and physically?. ,0 +12319,form check? no idea if my hips are low enough initially. ,0 +12320,My 9 months transformation. ,0 +12321,thank you all for helping with my transformation. ,0 +12322,MARCH 2019 v/s JANUARY 2022.. ,0 +12323,"ATG pause squat 325 lbs/147 kg X2 @192 lbs/87 kg bodyweight. Tried doing a “longer” pause, didn’t want to try for another rep without safeties. ",0 +12324,Chin-Up Progress (Video): Week 1 vs. Week 16. ,0 +12325,all of the custom fitness projects my brother made in his garage. ,0 +12326,"6,5months in the gym, lost roughly 5kg (11lbs?) but I was mainly trying to gain muscles. ",0 +12327,How long did it take to lift 1 plate? 130lbs was a real struggle.. ,0 +12328,10 years progress. Also some more tattoos.. ,0 +12329,"[PR] 245x1 OHP. This is the first week in a new block where I'm starting to transition from hypertrophy/bodybuilding to a strength based phase. With all all my main lifts, I work up to a top single at RPE 8 before dropping down to 3x5 at 72.5% e1rm. I've only been able to hit 225 lbs for a single, so I was happy to blow psst that despite not training OHP directly for 4 months (I've done other seated vertical pressing and high Incline work)",0 +12330,How is my form on last raises? Do I need to lower the weight or are these okay? 25 x 10. ,0 +12331,"Here's a lil update of my progress post covid. Far left is me in 2021 165 lbs prior to catching covid, middle is me in February 2022 148lbs after having covid for over 2 weeks, and far right is me April 2022 151lbs. I'm not nearly where I was back in November, but I feel a whole lot better. ",0 +12332,i cant full extend my leg without it shaking uncontrollably (even pre exercise) is this normal? makes quad extensions almost impossible for me. ,0 +12333,wat. ,0 +12334,jumpscare. ,0 +12335,New whip🥶. ,0 +12336,ኃጢአተኛ ነፍስህ ከመዳን በላይ ናት 2006 honda civic እናም ሰላምን ወይም ሥቃይን አታውቅም ፣ የንስሐ ቅዝቃዜ ብቻ አብቅቷል ፣ ምክንያቱም ኃጢአቶችህ ከማንኛውም ተልእኮ የላቀ ስለሆነ ፣ መጨረሻው ቀርቧል ፣ የኃጢአት መርከቦች. ,0 +12337,Me when I am driving a semi truck into an elementary school and die when I smash through the wall going 100mph. ,0 +12338,devastating. ,0 +12339,is that a car?. ,0 +12340,I’m stuck betweeen buying these three. Which one should I get?. ,0 +12341,Where did it go??. ,0 +12342,caren't. ,0 +12343,please send help. ,0 +12344,My friend look like nirvana. ,0 +12345,Now I know. ,0 +12346,whats the naem of this car. ,0 +12347,Guys this showed up in the scans today. The doctors say I have 5 months left.. ,0 +12348,seems about right. ,0 +12349,Das Auto .. :) [1080x1080]. ,0 +12350,just picked this bad boy up from the dealership. ,0 +12351,Just finished my project car. ,0 +12352,hop in that mf phone. ,0 +12353,car(?). ,0 +12354,a car. ,0 +12355,my car has just fallen in battle. I don't know if I can keep on going with this lifestyle carbros 💔. ,0 +12356,Would you. ,0 +12357,what car is this?. ,0 +12358,What car is this? I would like to get one myself.. ,0 +12359,this is the most car ever. ,0 +12360,Tonight I feast.. ,0 +12361,car?. ,0 +12362,should I buy this car?????. ,0 +12363,Spotted near super market. ,0 +12364,The new Ford. ,0 +12365,My Car accident. ,0 +12366,Car🤤. ,0 +12367,My favorite car. ,0 +12368,Rate my car. ,0 +12369,rate my car. ,0 +12370,goofy ahh car. ,0 +12371,I collected all the achievements. ,0 +12372,FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT. ,0 +12373,lambogihne. ,0 +12374,car upgrade. ,0 +12375,Emgjine 😃. ,0 +12376,Antigravity car - real or fake? 🔥🔥😮🤯. ,0 +12377,"Hey guys, I'm hoping to purchase my first car and I'm trying to narrow my options. Which one should I pick?. ",0 +12378,Headlight winks. ,0 +12379,Run.. ,0 +12380,Thats a small goofy a** spare.. ,0 +12381,Hi. ,0 +12382,Zamn. ,0 +12383,d. ,0 +12384,so cool. ,0 +12385,this will effect r/car i think. ,0 +12386,WTF is this?!?! Weird ass looking car. ,0 +12387,I painted this car. ,0 +12388,new bmw. ,0 +12389,car 💀. ,0 +12390,THE MOST POWERFUL AUTOMOBILE. ,0 +12391,1007 Honda Civic. ,0 +12392,Rate my car????. ,0 +12393,rate my car from 1 to 10. ,0 +12394,Where did you learn to do that so good?. ,0 +12395,whippin tha foreign. ,0 +12396,😂🇺🇸💪🏻. ,0 +12397,Hello Guys. ,0 +12398,This video makes me want to cry.. ,0 +12399,Me high seeing that😅. ,0 +12400,new BMW. ,0 +12401,Freshly painted. ,0 +12402,Guys.... ,0 +12403,Half-Life 2 Ravenholm. ,0 +12404,Saw some cool car /what is its name. ,0 +12405,Car (show). ,0 +12406,help. ,0 +12407,pleees. ,0 +12408,What car is this? Sorry for the blurry picture I was running from my dad. ,0 +12409,third. ,0 +12410,Interesting method of powering an electric car. ,0 +12411,V6. ,0 +12412,funny bouncy. ,0 +12413,Worth the grind. ,0 +12414,I run over 7 children in 2008 😂😂😂. ,0 +12415,Made this in art class today. Isnt the best but i am happy how it came out. ,0 +12416,Shiny new Mac laren. ,0 +12417,wise car. ,0 +12418,sorry if repost. ,0 +12419,first image is car second image is car. ,0 +12420,The top 5 GAYEST cars of ALL TIME. ,0 +12421,2007 E. Honda civic. ,0 +12422,hey guys my 1985 honda corolla broke down heres a pictre of the engine bay what broke can you guys helpmme i need to get help. ,0 +12423,bri'ish car. ,0 +12424,:). ,0 +12425,ca. ,0 +12426,Looks like something I'd do in my dreams. ,0 +12427,it’s totally nonsense car owner really nonsense. ,0 +12428,Soon.... ,0 +12429,What are your thoughts about this car. ,0 +12430,Me when I car. ,0 +12431,Free him 😰. ,0 +12432,vroom vroom (this is my car). ,0 +12433,Just went outside for the first time in 11 years and saw a car!!!!!. ,0 +12434,Craig. cra,0 +12435,ice car. ,0 +12436,New car. ,0 +12437,Why does Christian bob koenigsegg look like a human version of Patrick star. ,0 +12438,No gas. ,0 +12439,What do you guys think about my new car. ,0 +12440,"I'm not sure if this is a good deal, should I buy this or not???. ",0 +12441,Evolution of SMcar. ,0 +12442,Where is tac (tac is car backwards). ,0 +12443,do you guys like my dad's car? he bought it from بابابوي free allah carسوس 100%realي .com. ,0 +12444,Hi guys I'm interested in getting my first car. What should I pick as my starter?. ,0 +12445,lets make this lovecars. ,0 +12446,run. ,0 +12447,he is car. ,0 +12448,"What car is this, its from a breaking bad screenshot. ",0 +12449,New car 0-60 in 45kg. ,0 +12450,my favorite car so far. ,0 +12451,I get 5.6L/100km on this baby. This is my actual car btw,0 +12452,blu car. ,0 +12453,my Honda civic. ,0 +12454,My grandfather got me a new car. It needs a bit of TLC.. ,0 +12455,1969 AMC AMX/3 390ci 4-BBL V8 4spd 295HP Copper Finish. ,0 +12456,Interesting paint job. ,0 +12457,lifehack. ,0 +12458,Guys what car should i buy i have this much japanese yen.. ,0 +12459,Purple Squad. ,0 +12460,crisp. ,0 +12461,BUS. ,0 +12462,I know it's a Ferrari. but what is the model. ,0 +12463,What's this car?. ,0 +12464,car go fast. ,0 +12465,What car is this? I want one. ,0 +12466,The experiment was a success! My car's mitosis is now underway.. ,0 +12467,Let’s turn this into r/car in r/Place. ,0 +12468,This is a car (Just kidding April fool lol!). ,0 +12469,frog. ,0 +12470,Our parents growing up with all the good cars but then we get this garbage. ,0 +12471,Table. ,0 +12472,can someone tell me what this car is? its my moms old car and im tryna figure it out. ,0 +12473,any advice?. ,0 +12474,Car 🟦🟢⚠️. ,0 +12475,OVER 10 THOUSAND CAR USERS ON REDDIT!!! CONGRATULATIONS CARBROS WE DID IT!!!. ,0 +12476,New cars buy. ,0 +12477,I huild this car AMA. ,0 +12478,Trying to protect your car with your body.. ,0 +12479,What color is my car?. ,0 +12480,car.. ,0 +12481,rate my new car. ,0 +12482,"nice car, what do you think?. ",0 +12483,hi does someone know what car this is? c:. ,0 +12484,A very nice dodge demon I saw. ,0 +12485,What model Corvette is this?. ,0 +12486,anyone from this area plz be on the lookout!. ,0 +12487,Name it .. ,0 +12488,such a cool car. ,0 +12489,"I was doing some levitation practice and got this angle of this beauty outside my window, anyone know what it is?. ",0 +12490,Caaar. ,0 +12491,Rally Fiat turbo power. ,0 +12492,car show I attended. ,0 +12493,Can some one tell me the model n year of this car only got one pic to go by. ,0 +12494,I found that lost screw. ,0 +12495,GTR ❤️‍🔥. ,0 +12496,Don’t really have anything for my cake day but here’s a cool car I found. ,0 +12497,hello fellow r/car!!! should i change my tyre it works pretty ok imo???. ,0 +12498,automobile. ,0 +12499,Cartholomew Carthus the Third. ,0 +12500,we do not care. ,0 +12501,What does this car switch do ?. ,0 +12502,What would something like this cost? (Serious). ,0 +12503,What is it called when the wheels are to the side of the car and not under it?. ,0 +12504,"Car users of Reddit, how do I get myself out of this situation? I've been stuck here for hours and my family is getting worried.. ",0 +12505,This 1954 camper with a detachable boat that doubles as the roof. ,0 +12506,does anyone know what car is this?. ,0 +12507,look at this nice car going down a hill! :). ,0 +12508,"One Russian,one French and one lost Japanese.. :). ",0 +12509,My r34 gtt. ,0 +12510,AMC Pacer. ,0 +12511,rac. ,0 +12512,Can rodents own cars? If so what percentage of rodents own one?. ,0 +12513,"My dads '70 challenger, were selling it at Barrett Jackson in a couple weeks. He let me drive it for the first time and now I can say the first car I've driven was a 1970 challenger!. ",0 +12514,My husband is crying. Hit a curb and stripped the rubber. Think it's ok?. ,0 +12515,hyundai new car. ,0 +12516,Not much to look at but she's my pride and joy. ,0 +12517,I have been called.. ,0 +12518,my car bernard has shrunk 😔. ,0 +12519,Do yall think this would be nice if it was repaired. ,0 +12520,Could someone help me out. What is this car?. ,0 +12521,"Like a ghost, you just sense the presence. ",0 +12522,Toyotathon 2020. ,0 +12523,Me and my Mario🏎🏎. ,0 +12524,Summerbabe 😍. ,0 +12525,Can someone tell me what this toyota is called? Found it during a trip in Texas.. ,0 +12526,My car (1972). ,0 +12527,found on my walk. ,0 +12528,MISTER FORD SAID HIS CAR IS BLACK TODAY. ,0 +12529,holy shit this is absurd. ,0 +12530,no vehicles?. ,0 +12531,So cool bike. ,0 +12532,love my new number. ,0 +12533,Anyone knows this cars name?. ,0 +12534,Can you please let me know what is this please ? and if is dangerous for me to drive like that ? thanks. ,0 +12535,original cars design concepts. ,0 +12536,1968 dodge charger. ,0 +12537,What do you think about this new car ?. ,0 +12538,Nice. ,0 +12539,What is this car??. ,0 +12540,Selling my 07 civic. Only has minor smoke damage.. ,0 +12541,car i got for £5 out the back of tesco. ,0 +12542,Thoughts on the 2024 Mustang? I’m just glad it’s an NA V8.. ,0 +12543,unfortunately today is not car day you guys. ,0 +12544,guys my mathe teacher task said how many CAR in this picture PLEASE HELP 😭😭🙏🙏. ,0 +12545,I love my car so much it's unreal. ,0 +12546,can anyone tell me what this car is. ,0 +12547,i just wanna show off my 9 year old toy car. ,0 +12548,Car goes 5 per fast. ,0 +12549,My husband just bought a car. ,0 +12550,Cimos 2CV. ,0 +12551,Help ID this make/model car. ,0 +12552,Found this old GMC at Walmart. ,0 +12553,this is what my car looks like do u like it. ,0 +12554,Shark. ,0 +12555,vroom vroom. ,0 +12556,They took the car. ,0 +12557,Boulder highway Vegas. seen this car just sitting here... ,0 +12558,I just saw the weirdest car ever!. ,0 +12559,to car people what is the most satisfying nois a cat can make. ,0 +12560,Love going to the beach to clear my head. ,0 +12561,Mustambg. ,0 +12562,What kind of car is this??. ,0 +12563,How to kill people with a rock. ,0 +12564,rate my car?. ,0 +12565,Now that's a cool car!. ,0 +12566,Nice var. ,0 +12567,Can anyone please help me identify the make and model of this car please?. ,0 +12568,something is broken. ,0 +12569,TOKYO DRIFT. ,0 +12570,Whats the specs. ,0 +12571,My all time favorite Supercar seen at Ancillarystudios in SoCal.. ,0 +12572,Popular car colours by year. ,0 +12573,Went to a car show today.. ,0 +12574,That's where my dolls went. ,0 +12575,Small car. ,0 +12576,Couldnt get a clear picture but what car is this. ,0 +12577,today we find out who is the better car. ,0 +12578,"Can someone help me identify this car, thank you. ",0 +12579,Hello 🖐. ,0 +12580,2CV Charleston & Zastava 750. ,0 +12581,Not sure which model. ,0 +12582,This person stealing Christmas parcels. What make /model is this?. ,0 +12583,Rx8. ,0 +12584,Can someone tell me what car this is. ,0 +12585,Is this damage to sidewall cosmetic or should it be repaired?. ,0 +12586,"An attempt to draw my dad's car, can you tell what car it is ?. ",0 +12587,Alfa Romeo 2000. ,0 +12588,For all BMW lovers. ,0 +12589,Little 2jz in a subie at ICAR mirabel 👌. ,0 +12590,Porsche Party. ,0 +12591,Some shot from a quick run through the Auto Zurich 2022 show. ,0 +12592,Hon we ly. ,0 +12593,breaking families (car). ,0 +12594,1977 FairLady Z. ,0 +12595,what car. ,0 +12596,Kawasaki Z1000 Happy Birthday Song #kawasaki #z1000. ,0 +12597,The car. ,0 +12598,"Taking car artwork commissions, DM me for more information!. ",0 +12599,LMAOO. ,0 +12600,New car (very fast). ,0 +12601,guys what car in der background i need😭😭😭🥺 to know. ,0 +12602,Ecto-22. ,0 +12603,Hummer EV sighting today!. ,0 +12604,NFS heat. ,0 +12605,Saw this in downtown LA. No badges.. ,0 +12606,hyundai megatruck 7000$. ,0 +12607,Is launch control really useless?. ,0 +12608,300z non turbo T top tan interior it’s been there for years now I think. ,0 +12609,i buy a new car!. ,0 +12610,How do you guys like my car in red dead 2??? (nsfw cause sexy horse). ,0 +12611,Digital drawing of a Citroen SM.. ,0 +12612,I only date guys with BMWs. ,0 +12613,Gets the job done 🤷‍♂️. ,0 +12614,"Someone hit my car and run, how to do it when the other guy's insurance company no pay me money?. ",0 +12615,"Sorry for the really bad sketch but I’m brainstorming ideas for my 77 mkv, thoughts?. ",0 +12616,Porsche GT3 RS. ,0 +12617,Lamborghini flyby. ,0 +12618,Corvette- With Hitch- YOLO JK. ,0 +12619,"Help please, what does this light mean. Never seen it before.. ",0 +12620,walk in Toronto. ,0 +12621,Zastava 101 [1920 x 1282]. ,0 +12622,What car does this look like?. ,0 +12623,2023 Ford F-250. ,0 +12624,What is at car. ,0 +12625,Potato of 2 pence. ,0 +12626,Wow! These cars look terrific!. ,0 +12627,"Local shop says every 3,000 miles, dealership says every 10,000 miles? VW Wolfsburg. ",0 +12628,Can somebody tell me what car this is?. ,0 +12629,Subaru STI E-RA. ,0 +12630,r / help what Happen my car go into a The wall i Donno what happen hey. ,0 +12631,Is my car bad? I work hard on it and jus want some positive vibes.. ,0 +12632,Spotted this awesome 1964 Pontiac Acadian Convertible today!. ,0 +12633,"Someone plz help, what does this mean?. ",0 +12634,Vw 1200 1970. ,0 +12635,What is this?. ,0 +12636,"Hi, I really like cars, and I decided to design my own. Any opinions on first try?. ",0 +12637,"What's this green car, the title of the og post says it's an Aventador, but it looks more like a Ferrari to me. ",0 +12638,Do I have to take this out of the lighter socket after I turn off my engine or not? Provided I am not charging anything. Will this drain my battery?. ,0 +12639,Here’s a wallpaper for you guys. ,0 +12640,Just found this while cleaning. ,0 +12641,"I'd be really sad to let it rot there while he's seemingly in a good condition (I don't know what condition it's in, but the owner would prolly be happy to give it away) Czech Republic-Prague. If ur interested I'll tell u more about where it is, I'm not the owner neither is it completely abandoned",0 +12642,Anyone know what car this is?. ,0 +12643,What car is this lol. ,0 +12644,Yellow Baby. ,0 +12645,1956 ford thunderbird convertible 😍😍😍😍. ,0 +12646,Can someone help me figure out the model of this car? It’s a Honda civic (I think 2008)…. ,0 +12647,Which model is this?. ,0 +12648,window tinting fingers 😔 this is after i’ve tried shrinking it… haven’t applied yet but they don’t seem to want to go away. ,0 +12649,"Car Dash cut off and gauges left where they were, still have power too certain things. Help. ",0 +12650,Just an idea I had.. ,0 +12651,it's a car charm gift for my sister. do you think she'll like it?. ,0 +12652,What kind of Porsche is this?. ,0 +12653,My meds have kicked in and I just learned the horrible truth. Cars have never existed anywhere ever. Gonna take a break so I can process all of this.. ,0 +12654,Lada Tank 😂. ,0 +12655,"Help, I need a cheap mini van, it's a bit of an emergency, should I buy a Chrysler Voyager or a Dodge Caravan?. ",0 +12656,Ferrari 458 spider. ,0 +12657,*boop?. ,0 +12658,red s15 silvia. ,0 +12659,A90 Supra [6000x4000]. ,0 +12660,what is this car. the black one?. ,0 +12661,What car manufacture is this?. ,0 +12662,Put the iPad up. ,0 +12663,Anyone know what this leak is. ,0 +12664,"pls help, what car is this?. ",0 +12665,Toyota chaser jzx100. ,0 +12666,VW Passat CC (1200x700). ,0 +12667,Do you know the Wuling Mini EV? Here it is a copy from another Chinese company. Called the BYD S3. ,0 +12668,What's your dream garage? 👇🏽👇🏽. ,0 +12669,"I've seen this car sitting in a car service parking lot for years, it's my dream car but I don't even know what it is. Any ideas? Lol (I know next to nothing about cars tbh). ",0 +12670,This is your car. ,0 +12671,They are rare gems. ,0 +12672,What car is that?. ,0 +12673,This factory paint? If so BMW big steppin. ,0 +12674,what Car is this?. ,0 +12675,"Nice ""race car"". ",0 +12676,🚔. ,0 +12677,Can someone help me? Whats the name of this toyota?. ,0 +12678,can someone tell me what car this could be?. ,0 +12679,Help me sell my wifes car!. ,0 +12680,Well.... ,0 +12681,Am I liable for the damages if my car is illegally parked at the time it got hit? [NYC]. ,0 +12682,New or Old?. ,0 +12683,AMG preparing Citroën cars ?. ,0 +12684,What car is this? Im not realy a car guy i just wanna know what car is is. ,0 +12685,Mini [2048x1536]. ,0 +12686,The Car park at Canary Wharf is littered with amazing cars that look like they’ve been dumped there! There’s a G wagon a couple of bays down from this McLaren 570s that’s been sat there so long the tires are flat and you can’t see through the window due to the dirt!. ,0 +12687,Gaz Volga M24 [1400 x 787]. ,0 +12688,VW 1200. ,0 +12689,"I saw this today, could someone plz help identify it?. ",0 +12690,See this car on my way to school every day!. ,0 +12691,Epik mustang LX convertible near my school. ,0 +12692,what does this button do? The one with the car downhill on it. ,0 +12693,look this design. ,0 +12694,Anyone know what car this is??. ,0 +12695,Skoda 1000MB 1964. ,0 +12696,what is this style of wrap/paint job called?. ,0 +12697,Add the oil. ,0 +12698,Can anyone help me? What car is this…. ,0 +12699,Yellow Mazda rx-7. ,0 +12700,moldy car ride. ,0 +12701,1972/1973 Pontiac Ambulance. ,0 +12702,CAN SOMEONE TELL ME WHAT THIS IS ???????!?!?!?!?!. ,0 +12703,Can anyone confirm the authenticity of this Saleen mustang vin number is 1ZVFT82H065216524. ,0 +12704,Acura NSX Type S. ,0 +12705,You see a dude driving this… what is your first thought??. ,0 +12706,Finley rees. ,0 +12707,the slime is growing. ,0 +12708,Opel Commodore GS 1972 Custom [2048 x 1536]. ,0 +12709,Car Cum?. ,0 +12710,.. ,0 +12711,professor Carson with another weekly Metaverse gas price statistic ready to trade for every car lover in america. ,0 +12712,This awesome van with an incredible paint job.. ,0 +12713,Supra poster from amazon link in the comments. ,0 +12714,T-Boned Opel sits abandoned in a junkyard corner.. ,0 +12715,"Do you folks agree with Ford's new ""No EV's"" rule?. ",0 +12716,m. A. ,0 +12717,1957 bel air. ,0 +12718,will i need a new tyre?. ,0 +12719,Lamborghini murcielago SV. ,0 +12720,thoughts on this car thinking about buying it. ,0 +12721,YO WTF?! WHICH WAY IS HE GONNA DRIVE?!?! HOW DOES HE DECIDE?! THIS SHIT IS SO STUPID!!!!!. ,0 +12722,Ok. ,0 +12723,"Drive my car to the village, a peaceful place.. ",0 +12724,anyone know what car this is?. ,0 +12725,*duct tape stretch. ,0 +12726,Does anyone know what car this is I’m trying to make it into an rc. ,0 +12727,What car is the blue one in front?. ,0 +12728,Zastava 750 DIY Cabriolet. ,0 +12729,hyundai megatruck 5800$. ,0 +12730,😎💨💨💨. ,0 +12731,genglemmen. ,0 +12732,🤗. ,0 +12733,can some one tell me what this car is. sorry for bad pic. ,0 +12734,"Got hit last night through an intersection. Driver side body, doors and side airbags deployed. 2014 Toyota matrix, is it a write off? Somehow he skipped my tires completely.. ",0 +12735,Can anyone identify this car?. ,0 +12736,Help. ,0 +12737,which one do you prefer?. ,0 +12738,"can someone identify this car please, this is the only image I have sorry. ",0 +12739,leggo stututututu. ,0 +12740,HELP. ,0 +12741,Digital dashboards / touchscreen controls. Great or just lazy interior design?. ,0 +12742,Help (1500 ram). how screwed am i? and what should i do?,0 +12743,My little collection. ,0 +12744,Car Safety Guide. ,0 +12745,why does my radio sound like that. ,0 +12746,"when the joker say ""half"" in the movies.. ",0 +12747,What type of car is this?. ,0 +12748,People of Reddit... Does anyone know what kind of car this is?. ,0 +12749,does anyone know what this is?. ,0 +12750,what are these? they’re all over my car. ,0 +12751,Is my car totaled or not?. ,0 +12752,Daum. ,0 +12753,What is nr 2 called?. ,0 +12754,Zastava 750 (1080x724). ,0 +12755,Can this old beetle be repaired or turn into a dune buggy?. ,0 +12756,I made an lgbt representation car. ,0 +12757,Mph limit?. ,0 +12758,"please educate me Corbeau CT Clubman - I've bought these seats to attempt a recover and fitment in my Na6. seller said they're 80s, would love to know anything at all about them. logo says Corbeau CT, Clubman was written on the back in vivid. cheers :). ",0 +12759,"Can anyone provide me with the name of this part? Came out of a Honda Ballade 1995. Was told it's an ignition module, but when search that it doesn't give me anything on this.. ",0 +12760,Mercedes AMG A45. ,0 +12761,"Made this personalized awesome old truck!! Love how it turned out, what do you guys think!?. ",0 +12762,Will these used rims mess up my winter tires. Looks like there is a little bumpy surface next to the dent.. ,0 +12763,French Connection. ,0 +12764,Mercedes’ Benz Galleria…Super fast car. ,0 +12765,Is there any way to change these terminals without changing the whole bar? 1963 F100. ,0 +12766,Can anyone identify what kit this is?. ,0 +12767,GTRs in the comments. ,0 +12768,"/whatcaristhis Alfa Romeo sent by friend, can’t make out the model name on the back (N S 000). ",0 +12769,"Civic 98 Type-R ART Design. ​ + +https://preview.redd.it/8pamh0t9ncx91.png?width=1080&format=png&auto=webp&s=0fadeaddbd640b39e6773fc21efca6a3daf7bd56",0 +12770,Halloween themed Truck Art. ,0 +12771,"BMW, cleaned n bagged for winter.. ",0 +12772,Any idea what this could be? My wife wanted to know and so she did a quick doodle. Says it was a silver badge with blue background and on a thin looking rear end. ,0 +12773,British car.. ,0 +12774,mode of transportation. ,0 +12775,What car is this I only got a pic from the back but idk what it is. ,0 +12776,Discontinued Cars In JULY 2022.. ,0 +12777,My beautiful racecar... ,0 +12778,Bought my dream car senior year of high school. Now I can enjoy summer correctly. She’s an 81. ,0 +12779,"The best car 🦜. + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/v8p56n)",0 +12780,Find my old car. ,0 +12781,My and my baby blueberry ❤️. ,0 +12782,"Car. [***Pencil Sketch of Car***](https://youtube.com/shorts/TGH6XY6oL30?feature=share) + +​ + +[MTS IDEAS](https://preview.redd.it/l8fa2ikt8by81.jpg?width=3131&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dbe868311c9533ccac50fb15ff79a29c8158afa1)",0 +12783,ADVICE/ENCOURAGEMENT NEEDED. ,0 +12784,"help, make and model, I just had this SUV egg my house again. can anyone help?. ",0 +12785,anmazing ford F 150 acition. ,0 +12786,I asked them to lower my car.... ,0 +12787,1994 Nissan Silvia(S14). ,0 +12788,"What is this stain on the hood of my car? Tried to clean if with warm water and soap so far, and no give…. ",0 +12789,How car owner check important for buying a used car?. ,0 +12790,"Couldn’t follow recipe, accidentally made car. ",0 +12791,Help me. ,0 +12792,old is gold. ,0 +12793,What car does this headlight fit?. ,0 +12794,Anyone know what car this is? ( the black one ). ,0 +12795,What are these called i need an extra socket to plug the dashcam and radar detector. ,0 +12796,Anyone know that this is for. Me and my dad have been trying to figure it out for years. It’s not a cup holder because the drinks slide around. It’s a 2012 toya Yaris Luna if that helps. ,0 +12797,Would this seat cover match the car? I'm open to other recommendations.. ,0 +12798,This is a abomination. ,0 +12799,Top 10 Cars Sale Report In September 2022.. ,0 +12800,Anyone know what this car is?. ,0 +12801,Civic. My favorite car ❤️😍,0 +12802,Went to a car meet. The redeye was at a dealership.. ,0 +12803,Can anyone explain to me what is this in my car?. ,0 +12804,"Hi everyone, this has fallen off my renault clio, any ideas what it is? i have the part number if required.. ",0 +12805,"What Car is this? Looks like a Mercedes Benz smart, but I'm not sure of the make and model year. ",0 +12806,"How bad is this damage? Newbie driver here. Car is 2020 Toyota Camry SE. i’m not sure what it is called but it is beneath the steering wheel. Maybe a casing, not sure. Is this an immediate repair? And around how much?. ",0 +12807,Beat this mpg. ,0 +12808,Any solution for the reflection?. ,0 +12809,What is this piece called and can it be welded back. ,0 +12810,i found this beauty at a friends house. ,0 +12811,"Some of my favorite car photos, in the short time I’ve been using a camera. Links for the proam/pro drivers are under them, and y’all can peep my insta for more pictures of the other cars.. ",0 +12812,Need help identifying logo that my partner saw. ,0 +12813,Toyota supra mk3. ,0 +12814,Could you clamp this?. ,0 +12815,Ford gt gorgeous wrap. ,0 +12816,Rate my subaru bruh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111!. ,0 +12817,USA versus CCCP [1080x1350]. ,0 +12818,How much do you think it would cost to fix this?. ,0 +12819,Opel Manta. ,0 +12820,Volga Power. ,0 +12821,VW 1200 Wedding Car [2048 x 1362]. ,0 +12822,Choose your best. ,0 +12823,1972 Pontiac Ambulance. ,0 +12824,What car is this in Matt Reeve's Batman that he takes to some funeral? Old corvette perhaps?. ,0 +12825,Do you know where this car part comes from?. ,0 +12826,"Favourite car?. If you could have any car, what brand would it be? + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/r9xze8)",0 +12827,Help after break-in!. ,0 +12828,"Car caught snow and hit round-about curb, will it be ok?. ",0 +12829,NC Roads are the best. M2C. ,0 +12830,Would this be considered totaled. I was driving and making a left hand turn when someone hit me with there headlights off😔. ,0 +12831,When were my cars tires made?. ,0 +12832,How could he do this. ,0 +12833,Does anyone know what this means?. ,0 +12834,Car title. Can an Arizona title summary be used as the actual cars title?,0 +12835,Saw this freakin cool car!. ,0 +12836,dream car ❤️. ,0 +12837,"This happened a few years ago, but still proud of capturing the moment.. ",0 +12838,What is wrong with my radio?. ,0 +12839,/whatcaristhis work around a warehouse full of cars like this one. ,0 +12840,"can anyone tell me what this anonymous car is? it has no marker (aka like, mercedes logo). ",0 +12841,"I’m 18 and just bought my first vehicle what do you guys think. 2008 F150. 177k miles. Got it for $4,740. ",0 +12842,2010 ford shelby gt500. ,0 +12843,Arrinera Hussarya. ,0 +12844,what's the car behind?. ,0 +12845,Wicked e92 [6000x4000]. ,0 +12846,Dubai be like. ,0 +12847,"A custom Daewoo Espero convertible, specially created for use in the 1996 South Korean film ""The Real Man"".. ",0 +12848,Here the cars to the keys. ,0 +12849,Mainly want to shoot cats. ,0 +12850,VW1200 1970 (1080x1350). ,0 +12851,Execute order 66. ,0 +12852,"Guys we gotta fight back, I purpose a pic of the Clarkson, May, Hammond trio. ",0 +12853,My Baby‘s😍. ,0 +12854,"Besides the service airbag, WTF is wrong with this van. Speedometer goes crazy and motor sounds like it’s choking, but in P it’s fine.. ",0 +12855,nissan skyline gt-r(R34). ,0 +12856,My friend found this plugged into her fuse box in her car. Does anyone know what it might be?. ,0 +12857,line racer. ,0 +12858,😎😍. ,0 +12859,"Muscle Car Poll. Top line muscle cars of 1968 + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/s5tsix)",0 +12860,my car window. ,0 +12861,Hit and Run ! Need help… does anyone know what kind of license plates these are ??? Someone hit my car this afternoon in front of my house but need to identify the license plates. ,0 +12862,Rare picture of a g wagon that actually goes offroad :0. ,0 +12863,when you're proud of fake exhausts. ,0 +12864,on here for my love of cars. this is my baby. hope you like it. ,0 +12865,What is this horn?. ,0 +12866,what car is this???. i saw this old looking good on my walk can anyone tell me what it is???,0 +12867,I accidentally hit a woman’s car and I’m waiting on quotes from her.. ,0 +12868,Wordington car. ,0 +12869,Do I need to replace this tyre?. ,0 +12870,Are window guard legal in the US?. ,0 +12871,csr. ,0 +12872,Minecar. ,0 +12873,New M4 got me blue.. ,0 +12874,Seeing your exact same car (so happy). ,0 +12875,"got stopped for street racing a GT40 and a yugo.... Well guys, this goes to show you karens are everywhere. I will say.. it was hard to not laugh when the cops said we were street racing a GT40. +If you guys want some history on the yugo heres the link to the full video. + +https://youtu.be/4HCaA7v-HjY",0 +12876,my friends name is Carter (pic unrelated). ,0 +12877,"TPMS vs. PMS :XD >>> Simply explained two most dangerous ""pressure sensors"" in life of every man :XD. ",0 +12878,toyota chaser jzx100. ,0 +12879,Mclaren P1 GTR. ,0 +12880,should black it out or not?. ,0 +12881,New exhaust looks pretty nice.. ,0 +12882,What car is this???. ,0 +12883,left or right?. ,0 +12884,Golf Mk 5. ,0 +12885,What does this end I’m holding get attached to? 2015 bmw 328i ? I can’t find it no where.. ,0 +12886,LAUNCH® X431 TSGUN - TPMS Programming Tool. ,0 +12887,would you guys sell your own Toyota Corolla sedan 91k kilometers 2006 1.6 to buy it?. ,0 +12888,Douglas tire broken twice in three months…bought at Walmart…now it’s completely useless. I just wanna rant.. ,0 +12889,1999 Mitsubishi Eclipse. ,0 +12890,"The upcoming EQS SUV, including a look at its interior.. ",0 +12891,Car meet. ,0 +12892,What fuel should I put in my car( 2017 Volkswagen Passat)?. ,0 +12893,does anyone have this rim or know where to buy. ,0 +12894,just was in a hit and run and this is the only photo I have of the car :( can someone help me figure out what car it is?. ,0 +12895,Can anyone identify this convertible from the halftime show? Thanks in advance.. ,0 +12896,Where can I have this custom made?. ,0 +12897,This a good sticker for you car !!!!!. ,0 +12898,Ok wow this dude is nuts!. ,0 +12899,What does this symbol mean?. ,0 +12900,"My car was beaten at dealership. So I just bought my first Mercedes’, certified pre owned 2 months ago. The brakes started grinding so I brought it in for service. Turned out it was the left front caliper ceased which they replaced for free. They only charged me for the right pads so it would wear evenly ($300). Great, I’m very happy at this point. When I get my car back there was brake dust or some kind of orange dust all over my rims and entire side of the car. Keep in mind my car and paint job looked brand new. Not a spec or scratch. I asked if they could clean it, being it was part of the defective brakes. They ran it through there car wash with no hesitation. They wernt able to clean it all off so they told me to bring back next week to have detail guy try and clean, awesome all good. So on the way home I stop at store to get food and walking back to my car I notice the back of my tow hitch cover is missing, to late to call them, there closed for the weekend. So at this point I’m starting to get heated. One thing after another. So I get in my car and notice my front dash cam is disconnected! Now I’m like wtf. So I look in the rear of my car and see the back inside dash cam is still connected, now it’s time to see what the hell is going on. So I get home and download the videos. It all starts off great, I see the first service guy drive my car in to get the brakes looked at and fixed. Then the next service guy after the brakes are fixed takes it on a moderate commute to test the brakes. All wearing masks, wrapping my car and seats with paper and plastic protection being extremely professional, couldn’t be happier. At this point point I’m like awesome. These guys are great. I have 2 dash cams inside and 2 outside, front and back of car. Then this is wear the fun starts. These 2 kids, not sure there job there, cause everyone else driving my car and servicing it had Mercedes’ jackets on. They get in my car and the first thing they say is let’s taking it on the “loop run”. The passenger then proceeds to tell the driver, “make sure you put it in race mode”. And they then proceed to drive my car 0-90mph for the next 20 min as fast as possible, flooring the gas every second they could. Now my dash cams have gps overlay and real-time speed. So I have the routes and speed for there entire joy ride. I’m kind of furious on I feel my new baby has been beaten, and now I will have to bear any problems in the future if the arise. I’m sure the car can handle 20 min of racing, but the real issue is why did they try to disconnect my dash cam, how can the dealership justify them beating my car for 20 min. I’m sure it’s not the first time, they new exactly which roads to go on. What grounds do I have, I feel the dealership needs to be accountable for there employee actions. I’m not trying to sue, but I want some sort of warranty extension or maybe a full service on my car to make sure it’s not an issue.What are my options here. Do I go direct to corporate or see what the service manager says..",0 +12901,Got my first car at 14. ,0 +12902,Will this pass ny state inspection. ,0 +12903,the one car I like. ,0 +12904,JDM Supra MK4 : link in comment. ,0 +12905,"GT500E Ford Mustang for your room, link in the comments. ",0 +12906,How much paint would I need in order to paint a 1991 ls400?. ,0 +12907,Does anyone know what car this is? I know it is a Hyundai but I dont know the model. ,0 +12908,A look under the Civic Type R's hood. ,0 +12909,Bmw m2 rear lights concept. ,0 +12910,"My Sony bluetooth radio is not displaying the spotify screen. My music still plays through, and the song shows up on home. I already tried resetting the factory settings, which didn’t help. Does anyone know what to do?. ",0 +12911,car crash compilation October 2022 & driving fails #28. ,0 +12912,"Does anyone know what car this is?,. ",0 +12913,What car make is this??? I have not been able to identify it.. ,0 +12914,Which one? Lincoln Aviator black label OR wait for the Mazda cx-90?? Car gurus help…. ,0 +12915,Please help me find this criminal !. ,0 +12916,One of the most affordable car of India is back into the game with new changes that are making this car bit more attractive........ ,0 +12917,Does anyone know what this is for. I’m genuinely curious. Asked my dad and he doesn’t know either.,0 +12918,1969 Camaro Z28 302. ,0 +12919,Cloudy Mirror - How do I get this cloudiness white spot of my mirror. It’s on a plastic.. ,0 +12920,Just a photo shoot with my car. ,0 +12921,I was in my vehicle's fuse box and saw this. What does it mean?. ,0 +12922,Hey I saw some cool cars yesterday. ,0 +12923,jdm. not familiar with japanese cars can anyone tell me what this it was in my neighbors garage,0 +12924,Does any one know what should be plugged into this got the car removed the old intake and it was never connected is it part of the intake. ,0 +12925,FCEV·Fuel Cell Electric Vehicle. ,0 +12926,Random Hood. ,0 +12927,The wheel. On the bus go roud and round round and round round and round the wehel on this bus go round and rod all theough the town :)))))). ,0 +12928,Parking pup. ,0 +12929,"Hey, I wanna know, is the Chrysler 300C a Luxury Sedan, a Muscle Sedan, or a Luxury Muscle Sedan? Is the Chrysler 300C a muscle car?. ",0 +12930,"Fresh off transport, Ford F-150 Lightning. ",0 +12931,Can somebody ID this car for me please?. ,0 +12932,what car is this? anyone know. ,0 +12933,mystery muscle car. ,0 +12934,"Someone backed into my Ford a few months ago, and left a paint mark. Looking for ideas to clean it up.. ",0 +12935,By any chance does anyone know what this piece on my dashboard kit use is for ???. ,0 +12936,Toyota crown royal VIP. ,0 +12937,Can some help me identify this make and model of car? (Caught a guy changing its plates and I believe it to be stolen). ,0 +12938,126p [1417 x 1955 ]. ,0 +12939,2016 Mercedes Benz C450 AMG.. ,0 +12940,What kind of Volvo is this?. ,0 +12941,Mitsubishi GTO. ,0 +12942,nice car. ,0 +12943,Shelby GT 500 - Art by Me.. ,0 +12944,GAZ -24 Volga [1800 x 1198). ,0 +12945,Mustang - Drop A Gear and Disappear. ,0 +12946,285-60-18 versus 165-70-13. ,0 +12947,How much will my car damage cost me?. ,0 +12948,"very original. [https://www.flickr.com/photos/pluca/2547499193/](https://www.flickr.com/photos/pluca/2547499193/) + +https://preview.redd.it/qvc173b7yki81.jpg?width=1024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fb1290c31be0984ca66d33eb55c4f5bc8bacd927",0 +12949,"Good as first car?. Hello, I plan on buying first car before getting licence, I was thiking about Peugeot 307 1.6 16V LPG, since it's cheap and if I understand correctly mix of petrol and LPG (LPG since greendeal will probably ban petrol completly), also it is combi, looks nice, didn't heard too much bad stuff from my circles and if it is true for this model it can have 7 seats if puttin 2 in trunk. +Problem is there is no 'service book' (not sure about translation) at least seller doesn't mentition it (it is autoesa one of the top in my country selling second-third-whatever-hand cars) they have ticked (as checked and valid) the vin check etc. that car wasn't stolen, past of car about crashes etc. so I'm kinda worried if go for it or not.Thanks for any opinions.",0 +12950,"can you help me diagnose my speaker problem?. the other day i was driving and hit a bump and my music cut out. it was still playing but it was really low. it kept cutting in and out when i drove over bumps. i assumed it was a loose wire. +the next day when i started my car, my music started off really quiet. i had a 5 hour drive ahead of me so i tried my hardest to figure it out. i discovered that if i set my speakers to only play from the left side of my car and turned up my music all the way, it would pop and then my music would cut back in. from there i could set my speakers to play from both speakers and set my music to 21 and it would play normally for a while, but eventually cut out again. (21 is still low in my car, especially on the highway). if i turn it above 21 it cuts out immediately, if i turn my base above zero it cuts out and if i turn my speakers to play slightly more from the right side it cuts out. +i brought it to an audio store that sells car speakers/stereos and the guy told me i need a whole new stereo. it would cost upwards of $500 because my stereo has a screen and i need to get another one that fits that size. i’m a broke student, so i’m really hoping he’s wrong. +do you think he’s right? is there anything else i can do? +i have a nissan mirca krom. (different than a micra because it has the stereo with a screen).",0 +12951,What we know about Porsche Taycan 2022. ,0 +12952,Car Rental London. ,0 +12953,Repair or replace this crack? Second one in two years.. ,0 +12954,Got some new led headlights and couldn't be happier!. ,0 +12955,"MC20 convertible. ​ + +https://preview.redd.it/guomxuvkb4781.jpg?width=680&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=016bb6e0c3dcb770f17691a5cc8288ca8328b7a2",0 +12956,What can I use to take this stain/ “dirt” off my car? It won’t come off with a regular wash. Thank you!. ,0 +12957,dinner. ,0 +12958,Does anyone know what model this is? I believe it’s an old land rover. (Sorry poor quality from old tv show). ,0 +12959,"Anyone else just take your car, park somewhere, maybe to a seaside or just some random gas station with convenience store and fastfood. And spend hours inside just listening to music, watching videos/movies, scrolling through feed? Maybe spend the night there too? 😆. I know some of you will probably think that's such a waste of time. But I've been doing this lately whenever I feel sick at home. The change of environment even just for a day almost like living inside the car really helps relieve some stress. Just wondering if anybody else do this. 😁",0 +12960,Fall M2C. No added leaves 🍁. ,0 +12961,what car is this and what is the price. ,0 +12962,"Yo, I good to drive on this?!. ",0 +12963,I’m looking for a car it’s my first time buying I saw this on the dealership website. What is this Dealer Added Option?. ,0 +12964,Anyone know what year this is it’s a Acura legend and has under 100k miles what u think it’s worth?. ,0 +12965,does anyone know what these buttons are for or what they mean? GMC Ucon Denali. ,0 +12966,so here. it's the 3d one :). ,0 +12967,Does anyone know what type of terminal this is?. ,0 +12968,Please help does anyone know what these are called and where to buy them. IVE seen these online and in Stores but had not had my wallet at the time and I really want to but some,0 +12969,Headlight restoration. ,0 +12970,A cool car I saw on the way to school. ,0 +12971,"i know but nope it's not a ferrari it's ""EXOTIC RIDES""...😐. ",0 +12972,What toolbox would fit my 2000 ford ranger XLT 3.0?. ,0 +12973,causative. ,0 +12974,1440x756 Holy Trinity Jumped(IG:TheHamiltonCollection). ,0 +12975,Hemi Powered 1957 & 2023 Chrysler 300C. ,0 +12976,Is it just me or did we just watch BMW go through puberty over the years. ,0 +12977,help me id this suv. ,0 +12978,What is the make of this car? Spotted at a Hertz in LA. ,0 +12979,"5 car and 3 money or 3 money and 5 car. + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/wqz880)",0 +12980,2024 Chevy Blazer EV Specs Hint At a Brighter Electric Future. ,0 +12981,Tire Law In The USA. What Tires Legal?. ,0 +12982,Photographien im Museum. ,0 +12983,1998 honda civic ex coupe modified. ,0 +12984,After one year the Old Lady is back on the road. Had no time to take care of her.. ,0 +12985,C63. ,0 +12986,What’s this on my window? Need to know how to remove it.. ,0 +12987,Kia Optima Estate. ,0 +12988,Some pics a friend got from a car event going on in a small town up in the Appalachia.. ,0 +12989,Mercedes-Benz 300 SL. ,0 +12990,Water in my gearbox i think? Help. ,0 +12991,To overtake other cars. ,0 +12992,What’s your dream ride manufactured the year you were born? 🛻🏎🚗🚙. ,0 +12993,"My neighbor's car constantly does this multiple honking thing, why? Alarms on their cars are constantly going off too. Be kind to me, I know very little about cars. 🥺. ",0 +12994,Found this beauty. ,0 +12995,"sad. ​ + +https://preview.redd.it/e7fyqo6ue1p81.png?width=1080&format=png&auto=webp&s=45a9f41e62bfd546c7d84b7470e0058582413a7e",0 +12996,anyone know what type of car this is? my friend thought it was a 300zx but being a 300zx jdm fanboy I know it's not. ,0 +12997,"Volkswagen eos car code. Specifically (secondary air injection system switching valve stuck open bank 1) +-i was just wondering if anyone could tell me if this is something I should attempt to fix at home or how much it would cost to go to a mechanic. Thanks.",0 +12998,My Datsun's 🍑. ,0 +12999,my new Pocket Rocket.. Zastava 750 1983. ,0 +13000,Window Visors/Rain Guards. ,0 +13001,Every moms. ,0 +13002,"Maserati MC20 sportscar. Maserati MC20 sportscar coming to India this year. Book Now [https://rowthautos.com/](https://rowthautos.com/) + +https://preview.redd.it/p6uu5hqpdlf81.png?width=843&format=png&auto=webp&s=a98283cac7b9cce22876643eba701869de281310",0 +13003,2022 Volkswagen Arteon. ,0 +13004,"2022 New BMW M8 Competition Coupe | Teaser, Interior & Exterior. ",0 +13005,SHEESH 😍🔥👀. ,0 +13006,2023 New Volkswagen AMAROK | How will it be? All Renders. ,0 +13007,Mercedes-MAYBACH Virgil Abloh Project | Luxury Off-Road Coupe Concept. ,0 +13008,Rust?? Had it washed after 2 months. Daily driving it. What can this be?. ,0 +13009,"What is the best reason to own and buy a self-driving car in 2022?. There is a lot of talking about self-driving cars these days. And with good reason, they could completely revolutionize the way we get around. But when are they actually going to be available? + +**Here are the Following benefits of self-driving cars:** + +1. They’re much more efficient than humans, which means they use less fuel and create less pollution. + +2. They can take you to your destination faster than a human can drive. + +3. They can navigate through heavy traffic and long journeys with ease. + +4. You can relax and enjoy your journey, without having to worry about traffic or road conditions. + +5. They can be used in any situation and need little human input. + +6. They don’t experience road rage, which means they won’t get angry and drive dangerously as a result of other drivers on the road! + +7. Self-driving cars are great for those who are unable to drive. + +For more information, [**click here**](https://carhamro.com/cars/reviews).",0 +13010,What the car doing. ,0 +13011,"Auto start. First an apology, I dont know if there is a better sub to post this. +Car auto start use to be ..lock,unlock,lock. +Now ,dont know why but is ..unlock,lock,unlock. We haven't replaced the battery or anything like that. +Car starts but I dont want to leave it running unlocked. Why, not that it matters, But more important, how to reset it to the way it was. +Anybody anybody Bueller Bueller .",0 +13012,"Went to Jiffy Lube to get an oil change today, brought my own oil and filter you can see for cost of materials they put one cent, and $8.99 for labor. Didn’t really think about it till I got home how did it come out to $40 any ideas or is this normal?. ",0 +13013,How do I fix this?. ,0 +13014,Citroen GS Club 1979 [1920x1080]. ,0 +13015,Coolest Cars in the World #car #lamborghini #cool #fyp #cars #mclaren #f.... ,0 +13016,What car is this?. Hey can anyone help me find out what car this is? I love it and really want to know what it is so I can buy one,0 +13017,Name that Tail light for a Venmo $5. ,0 +13018,stupid question but there is an other way to measure horsepower instead of rolling dynos?. ,0 +13019,Old truck. ,0 +13020,Chinese Tesla rival Xpeng built the most literal interpretation of 'flying car' we've seen yet.. ,0 +13021,Does anybody know what kind of wheels these are?. ,0 +13022,which one Lakers Bugatti or Chicago bulls Bugatti. ,0 +13023,☆. ,0 +13024,🚲🚗. ,0 +13025,ride. ,0 +13026,"Pulsar NS 200 BS6 Review, Price & Images. ",0 +13027,car. car,0 +13028,"New car, who this?. ",0 +13029,is Lada. ,0 +13030,"What would you do?. F(31) bumped in to a car of m(early 20s) who's stalled at a junction going from 1st to 2nd gear which has meant f has bumped into the back of his car. Minimal damage done to both car m car paint flaked but no dents or additional damage f car just a cracked number plate. Both parties agreed a new paint job on m bumper after exchanging deets. Now m is going through insurance is f right to be pissed off at what could be losing 3 years no claims n having to potentially fork out masses now for what would have been a minor expense that in the current climate with 3 kids would have been more manageable. +Edit m is a new driver there was no p plates on the car",0 +13031,my babyyy Zulu😘. ,0 +13032,"Hi we have been making a car town remake which was a facebook game in 2010 shut down in 2014 were you upgrade your garage to attract customers, We also welcome people who are willing to help out in the project. (https://discord.gg/7G4paEhMW4). ",0 +13033,Is this fixable. Got hit the other day insurance is still deciding if its fixible car value est 14k,0 +13034,Some rolling shots from a recent project with LASD.. Are you a supercar fan? Hypercars??,0 +13035,Is a normal engine supposed to sound like this?. ,0 +13036,Self-driving car. ,0 +13037,what bmw is this?. ,0 +13038,wiring issue with car weird black box and no communication with ecu (check comments). ,0 +13039,What car is this. Trying to figure what this is!!!!,0 +13040,Who’s logo is this??. ,0 +13041,Self-drive taxi in Beijing. ,0 +13042,just some legends with no wheels 😎. ,0 +13043,My Labor Day Themed Car-Toon. My attempt at a Labor Day themed drawing. Anyone else old tow trucks are cool?,0 +13044,Would anyone know how I’d fix this?. ,0 +13045,Is my car totaled. ,0 +13046,Compilation of idiots. ,0 +13047,Headlight Restoration. Wet sand and 3 coats of clearcoat,0 +13048,Can someone tell me if someone scratched my car or if I did it somehow without knowing?. ,0 +13049,We all have those friends that want to drive your car but their wheels look like this… smh. ,0 +13050,Small Car Quiz who knows witch car i sat in during the 2010 Paris Motorshow (Hint in Comments). ,0 +13051,Can someone tell me what model/name this car is?. ,0 +13052,"Me winning my first race.. These are the last few laps, ignore the terrible angles..🤣 Dad's not the best with cameras.. ",0 +13053,"Leather seat help. Hi! +I’ve tried everything and can’t get this stain out of my front seat! I assume it’s sunscreen. Any advice?",0 +13054,"Can I Ask What Car This Is?. ​ + +https://preview.redd.it/0tjkdc6qnug91.png?width=220&format=png&auto=webp&s=df1a281e30c45814d9147c3cd813f0822d71d08c",0 +13055,modified lexus gs300. ,0 +13056,My Renault is build of Toyota parts (lol). ,0 +13057,Crash. ,0 +13058,Boom 💥💥💥 My tires😭😭😭. ,0 +13059,1955 Ford F-100 Panel Van. ,0 +13060,Keep doing what you love to do. ,0 +13061,care. ,0 +13062,Mclaren Senna GTR. ,0 +13063,How much does it cost to manufacture an mk5 Toyota supra?. ,0 +13064,"THINKCAR® ThinkDiag Old Version. ​ + +https://preview.redd.it/b50ysxl1g5391.jpg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=363c024505e8ddfc3a7dbd95e9f4fead562908d4",0 +13065,"Anti-lost Bluetooth tracker by car accsshopping,.com. ​ + +https://preview.redd.it/u8lx4bjlzl091.png?width=1080&format=png&auto=webp&s=968f1588a543191742ac61b9c50702632877dcc9",0 +13066,Can anyone recommend a phone holder that would fit this vent? thanks in advance!. ,0 +13067,"Help: When buying brand new car. I’m planning on purchasing a brand new car, what are some things I should know? It’s my first time so I’ve got some questions. Also, I plan on turning in my old car and I’ll probably get $4,000 for it. +-Should I buy electric +-lease or finance? what’s the difference +-anything I should know or be aware of?",0 +13068,"How much should my insurance be?. so ive been driving for 3 years now, going into my fourth - and I have no claims on my policy and im 20 years old. just wondering if anyone could give me an idea of how much they pay. not sure if im being overcharged or if it’s pretty reasonable:)",0 +13069,What car is this? Even messaged VW on twitter and they couldn’t even tell me.. ,0 +13070,"New & Improved Car Air Freshener. What is your favourite car air freshener applicant? + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/uhfffy)",0 +13071,It’s aaa… SUPRAAA. ,0 +13072,What is this for? it’s in the center console of my 2012 Hyundai Sonata. ,0 +13073,"Rolls Royce looking like it’s right out of the movie,The League of Extraordinary Gentlemen.. ",0 +13074,my 1983 lincoln continental 65k original miles. i really love this boat and decided id share it here. ,0 +13075,M440i. ,0 +13076,New to the group so might aswell post my car.. ,0 +13077,end to the project in sight. ,0 +13078,does a swift or geometro transmission fit in a 1997 suzuki esteem?. ,0 +13079,❤️🥰❤️ My black besti. ,0 +13080,Clean Mustang. ,0 +13081,All-New 2023 Corvette Z06: Performance Vehicle | Chevrolet. ,0 +13082,Does this look like a flat?. ,0 +13083,2022 Toyota Prius vs. 2022 Honda Insight. ,0 +13084,Polestar 2 Winter Test Drive 2022. ,0 +13085,RE meteor 350 EMI & Downpayment De. ,0 +13086,2023 Toyota Sequoia. ,0 +13087,What we know about 2022 Citroen DS4. ,0 +13088,2023 MERCEDES-AMG 53 | Great Driving Scenes (AMG Line). ,0 +13089,Is my wheel okay? Info in comment.. ,0 +13090,Skoda 1000mb 1964 with Lexani Firestar [4032 x 3024 ]. ,0 +13091,Skoda 1000mb 1964. ,0 +13092,What we know about Nissan Juke 2022. ,0 +13093,2022 SKODA ENYAQ Coupe RS iV | (First Look) Interior and Exterior Review. ,0 +13094,BMW M3 2022. ,0 +13095,"Karshare. So I’m looking to replace my car. + +My old car isn’t really worth much anymore and I’m considering keeping it and putting it on Karshare as a bit of a side hustle. + +Has anyone used Karshare or something similar to rent their own cars out ? Was it worth it ? + +FYI - I’m in the U.K.",0 +13096,honda playboi carti. ,0 +13097,Tying up the Ponies before the storm. ,0 +13098,NEXT LEVEL Chevrolet Corvette Limited Numbers Made. ,0 +13099,Bugatti Chiron full throttle (417 km/h) on the Autobahn.. ,0 +13100,"I have a 2010 Toyota Corolla with 91,000 miles that’s in great condition. I want to go on a road trip 550 miles there and 550 miles back home. Do you think I will be okay?. ",0 +13101,Guys I have created my own Youtube Channel related to cars!!. ,0 +13102,What we know about Dodge Challenger 2022. ,0 +13103,1957 DeSoto Firedome Sportsman 341ci Hemi. ,0 +13104,for bmw e36 enthusiasts. how can you say no to such a sound?. ,0 +13105,Name THIS. ,0 +13106,James May flexing his Fiat panda. ,0 +13107,Would you buy this car? (2011 Kia Sorento EX V6). ,0 +13108,"in need of a beater car for a college student. this might be a stretch but i really need help buying a car. i am a student and the past year my dad passed, and i have no family. i fully support myself for school and to pay for rent. it has been really hard to save when i have to pay for everything. i just need a beater car to drive to work and school. do you guys have any advice? i need an older brother opinion right about now.",0 +13109,"Ferrari ""Breadvan"", made on a 250gt base, the Breadvan or ''camionette'' as we say in France is a unique car, only 1 model. If you like car design please follow me on IG at @car_abistouilles. ",0 +13110,Lotus Emira V6 First Edition Test Driving Performance. ,0 +13111,Công Ty Cho Thuê Xe Uy Tín Tại TPHCM Và Các Khu Vực Lân Cận. ,0 +13112,WHAT CAR I PEY RUPES PLEASE. ,0 +13113,What could DRIVE him to do this. ,0 +13114,Can I please get some advice selling this used car w/broken parts?. ,0 +13115,"Daily fact - What is the most expensive car in 2022?. **Rolls-Royce Boat Tail** is the most expensive car of the year. + +[ Rolls-Royce Boat Tail](https://preview.redd.it/1mmsu6dp9h3a1.jpg?width=1920&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7e0e99958933f6901f7deb682b38a9b55318623c)",0 +13116,I wanna change/mod my car but I am on a budget and new to the “car scene”. I’m working on a chrome delete right now. I’d love to hear some suggestions! 2014 Sonata 2.0T Limited. ,0 +13117,How does this Crescent scratch happen? please help?. ,0 +13118,Rally 2022 slovenia best of. ,0 +13119,"I bought a used Lexus and this small remote came with it, i believe it’s a part of the other thing on the windshield but im not sure what it does, seller told me “it should be remote start” but it doesn’t start my car. Can anyone help. ",0 +13120,"Help… car screen not working after getting car detailed. So got my 2018 Toyota Rav4 hybrid detailed yesterday morning at around 8am. The guys were finished by about 10 am. I left the house a couple hours later around 1 and immediately noticed my touch screen, buttons around the screen and the knobs (volume and tune/scroll) and Bluetooth all were not working. The touch was absolutely not responsive and was stuck on one screen. I reset the system by holding the volume knob and tried to shut the car off and turn it back on. Nothing is working… when I got home yesterday evening around 6, I was still experiencing these issues so had my partner help me switch the fuse for the radio out, and when that didn’t work we unplugged the car battery and left it for a bit. Still no luck. I contacted the detailing company to let them know and they said they’d call Toyota for me…. I know these things are quite costly and I am fearful if this does need to be replaced the company may not want to pay for it and I will be burdened with the cost. Could it be possible a cleaning solution they used damaged the touch screen and surrounding buttons??? One thing to mention is that I am able to control some things from my steering wheel (such as volume) and that seems to work to the screen, which to me indicates it could be actual screen/console damage??? I’m no expert but any help/input would be appreciated",0 +13121,MR2 W3 [1080x1350]. ,0 +13122,"I think my car dealer screwed me over. Hello guys, i’m 22/f , about two years ago (2020) i leased a 2014!! ford cmax with 95,000 miles on it (no warranty). I was unaware of leasing and only have a mom who didn’t know much about cars. i signed a lease and i think i got taken advantage of. I was driving down the highway and my transmission completely blew and a warning said to stop car safely. my car won’t start, shift gear, lock/unlock. I’ve had no previous problems. I called the service at the dealership and they questioned me saying they’ve never heard of leasing a car that old, another dealership said the same thing and that it was extremely fishy. What can i do in this situation? my car is completely immovable. i also kept up with maintenance. I don’t have 5k for a new transmission or anything else that has happened. The leasing place were no help.",0 +13123,Is this rust? How do I get rid of it?. ,0 +13124,Can I drive with the drl yellow?. ,0 +13125,Name that sound!? 2008 Mazda 5. Has to be in idle and the air conditioning has to be on for it to make this noise. Also hard to see but the(what I assume is) the pulley looks to be loose or something. TIA!. ,0 +13126,GTR Poster: Link in comments. ,0 +13127,Audi R8 V10 and V8 Acceleration. ,0 +13128,I bought a used car and found this . Why would somebody do this? Obviously not factory. I disconnected and everything still functions properly. It’s runs under the carpet and up into behind the middle dash area. Any clues?. ,0 +13129,does somebody now the brand and model?. ,0 +13130,"Help!!. So, I like racing games, kinda fun, but im searching one for pc that have this requirements but idk anything ab car games: +1. It doesn't need a very high performance pc +2. Free to play (preferibly) +3. That it isn't a pay to get cool cars, that I just customize my cars and stat and I have to pay nothing for having decent cars or high stats (i just want a friendly and equilibrated game) + + +I know the game I am asking for is very especific but I need to try if a game like this exist, if not, at least that fullfill one of the reqs, thanks!",0 +13131,Here Are The 10 Top Car Brands With The Highest Sales In October 2022.. ,0 +13132,yellow cars are the best cars. ,0 +13133,"Who else thinks the PT cruiser was a bad idea? The HHR to hoestly, but I can't knock it too much bc I love Chevy. ",0 +13134,what is the ugliest car I would normally post this r/askReddit but I feel like you guys would know it more. ,0 +13135,"Maruti Suzuki has launched the CNG-powered Baleno in India with prices starting from Rs 8.28 lakh, going up to Rs 9.21 lakh (ex-showroom, Delhi).. ",0 +13136,"Boost leak. Boost leak? + +Hey guys I just bought a 08’ evo x gsr. I got the codes p0172 and p0455. I noticed it had a aftermarket gas cap so I replaced it with a oem one. I think that fixed that code but when I turn on my car in the morning and drive it for a little the service engine light comes on. I noticed a strong gas smell anytime I accelerate but when I’m cruising I don’t smell anything. My friend told me also sometimes when I accelerate a little black smoke comes out. The car drives fine and I haven’t noticed any type of miss firing or loss of power. Don’t know what the problem is but is it okay to drive with those codes for a couple of weeks?",0 +13137,"Need a vehicle with AWD, timing chain, between 19k and 30k.. Anybody have any options? Mazda and Subaru are the only two I've narrowed it down to. Mazda has the absolute best AWD system, which is a plus. But I'm open to other manufacturers. Mileage preferably under 30k.",0 +13138,"Gotta give it to Skee-Lo, the 6-4 Impala is badass. (Not my photo). ",0 +13139,"Buying of winter tire. Which brand is better? +And do you guys suggest I get it done in Costco or auto body shop?",0 +13140,2023 Toyota RAV4 GR Sport. ,0 +13141,Anyone know what brand these rims are?. ,0 +13142,Carpet extractor. I cleaned my moms car with carpet extractor but there’s still water stains and it didn’t dry clean I see some stains how and what do I do?!! Please help!!,0 +13143,only one car is a ferrari and all of the others are some other cars. FIND THE FERRARI:). ,0 +13144,"Sun visor. For one of my classes I am design a device to hold up a sun visor in a car and was wonder how many people have experienced problems with there sun visors falling down or breaking + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/y6lzry)",0 +13145,"NAAS: The number of charging orders during National Day holiday increased by 113% year-on-year. Seashell Finance News (Reporter Chen Weicheng) On October 14th, according to the data of NAAS Technology Inc.(NASDAQ: NAAS) and FLEETIN data, the charging capacity of NAAS Electric Network increased by 95% compare to last year during the National Day holiday, and charging orders increased by 113% The number of FLEETIN users increased by 94% year-on-year. + +According to data from the Ministry of Public Security, as of the end of September 2022, the number of electric cars in the country reached 11.49 million. According to data released by the China Charging Alliance, as of September 2022, the number of public charging piles nationwide has reached 1.636 million. From January to September 2022, the increase in charging infrastructure will be 1.871 million units, of which the increase in public charging piles will increase by 106.3% year-on-year. The increase in the volume of electric cars and charging piles is reflected in this holiday trip, which means the total amount of charging have maintained rapid growth.",0 +13146,stock ls😂. ,0 +13147,"Carvana’s sister company (Bridgecrest Finance) has a tracker on my car but I can’t locate it. So here’s some information on what happened… I am 2 car payments behind and last night I went out to my car to find 2 repo guys breaking into it. As I came out the door they ran with their flashlights and jumped into a car and took off and I came to find my trunk was open. They were probably trying to break in to release my emergency brake (can’t slid beneath because car is to low to ground) and take the car out of gear (manual transmission and I always kept car parked in gear) so that they could then pull up with their repo truck and be able to pick up the car with no problems and leave quick. After that I did some research and found that Bridgecrest (Carvanas financing agency) will send repo men to get a car that’s only 1 payment behind. They do not mess around. So back to my original subject… my car was located at a friends house, I’ve never disclosed this location to Carvana and I have zero ties to it (no mail there, no residence, etc). So I know for a fact they have a GPS tracker on my car. I’ve done a full visual inspection inside under dash on driver and passenger side, trunk area, spare tire area, under seats, etc. but I cannot seem to locate it. Can anyone help?? I’m making my payments today as I was only behind due to a hardship but I have the funds so I’m not worried about them taking the car, the problem here is I do not want to be tracked. I am also going to be looking into my signing agreement to see if there is anything mentioning that they are allowed to track me. If there is nothing there I will be seeking an attorney to sue for invasion of privacy. In the mean time, I want this GPS out of the car. Thanks all for your help!",0 +13148,"10 Best Foam Cannon Soap For Ceramic Coating: High-Quality Soaps!. + +https://preview.redd.it/nba34m7liht91.jpg?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=249136b29d0e048980194a7a738f2398988bfe70 + +Ceramic coating your car is a great way to protect it from the elements and keep it looking shiny and new. But what’s the best way to wash your car once you have a ceramic coating? + +Most people will tell you that you need to use a foam cannon with a special soap designed for ceramic coatings. But with so many different products on the market, it can be hard to know which one to choose. + +In this article, we’ll take a look at the [best foam cannon soap for ceramic coatings](https://ridersmotion.com/best-foam-cannon-soap-for-ceramic-coating/), so you can keep your car looking its best.",0 +13149,"Has a weird sound when turning on the Engine. Hello, + +My car is 2015 honda civic automatic. 2 days ago I notice that my car makes some 'honk' sound when I turn on the engine. Does anyone have any idea what part might be a problem? (Video Attached) + +https://reddit.com/link/y2a3gf/video/mnf58nkduet91/player",0 +13150,Anyone know what this might be? It doesn’t seem like it’s coming from the engine - but rather inside on the car. (I just had the o2 sensor replaced). ,0 +13151,What should I do if I dropped a coin down my drivers side window?. It is rolling around inside the door and driving me crazy.,0 +13152,pileup in Schuylkill County as snow squalls brought visibility on Interstate 81 down to near zero. ,0 +13153,where can I find out how many owners a car has had and how long each owner had the car?. ,0 +13154,"How much would this cost to repair? I nudged a bollard and there’s a small amount of white paint and the small circle which is like the paintwork slightly messed up.. Very small area of the car, more difficult to see because of the rain + +This is a BMW 2 series",0 +13155,car crash compilation October 2022 & driving fails #26. ,0 +13156,Nanale. ,0 +13157,Does anyone know what this is? Ik the antenna is for my radio but idk what the mic looking thing is. ,0 +13158,What trim level was used for the rally Corolla hatchback e110?. ,0 +13159,1968 Camaro SS. ,0 +13160,What car brand is this? (Seen on the CarPlay website). ,0 +13161,can someone tell me what kind of car this is?. ,0 +13162,Hey guys us this a scam?. ,0 +13163,"What is this?. I saw theese pictures from an Alfa Romeo Giulietta, I don't know much about cars, so what is the handle in front of the gear knob with options ""d,n and a""? + +https://preview.redd.it/6utd35aznyo91.png?width=1025&format=png&auto=webp&s=141b1af40b0515cf84992051c99ed8715c4dbb84 + +https://preview.redd.it/p7e0jvcxnyo91.png?width=1100&format=png&auto=webp&s=1c4c57d09dad7466fed037d9b4661bb5b6f4e333",0 +13164,"Is my mechanic scamming me?. Hi all, + +I recently bought a second hand Skoda Octavia VRS wagon that had just gone through its major service a week before the guy sold it to me. I've taken it to a mechanic today to get a roadworthy certificate but the mechanic just called me and said that its gonna need brand new front brake discs and pads. + +if the car has just gone through a major service where they check the brakes and everything, how can it already need brand new brake discs and pads to pass a roadworthy? its breaking fine and super smooth, no issues or sounds coming from the brakes. + +is my mechanic just trying to get some money off me or do brake pads need to be in perfect condition for a roadworthy certificate? + +I'm in Victoria Australia FYI. + +​ + +Thank you!",0 +13165,"How can the ""property"" thinking of NaaS solve the anxiety of electric vehicle charging?. ""Charging for one hour, queuing for four hours"" is a true portrayal of the difficulty of charging new energy vehicles. At present, charging anxiety has replaced mileage anxiety and become one of the difficulties for new energy owners. + +To dispel the concerns of new energy owners about charging, there are only two ways to start: first, to solve the energy density problem of batteries technically; Second, improve the construction of charging facilities. From the current situation, the unbalanced development of charging infrastructure and low utilization rate of charging piles are the main reasons for charging anxiety. + +In addition to the consumer end, charge point operators are also suffering. Due to the scattered market, many participants, low product differentiation, and lack of refined operation management, operators are generally facing profit difficulties. + +Wang Yang, founder and CEO of NaaS, summed up the pain points of China's charging market in one sentence: ""overall supply is excessive, and high-quality supply is insufficient"". In a word, in the decentralized market environment, all parties involved in the industry have different degrees of pain points. + +At the time of industry reform, there must be a good opportunity to pick up shells. As one of the largest and fastest-growing electric vehicle charging service providers in China, NaaS is committed to becoming a ""connector"" in the new energy industry, providing one-stop services for charge pile manufacturers, operators, host manufacturers, enterprises, fleets, etc., so as to make the operation of all parties in the industrial chain more efficient.",0 +13166,green machine. ,0 +13167,My baby is no more. ,0 +13168,Car. https://www.instagram.com/reel/Ch4EZ1gjqLC/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=,0 +13169,"I’ve always been a car enthusiast but never had the money to buy a performance car, so I made Wrumer, a device that simulates performance car sounds through your speakers. Let me know what you think :). ",0 +13170,that 2 am motivation hit me so i decided to draw a porsche 911 930 turbo (i mostly use a Dat Platypus nick on different platforms). ,0 +13171,If I put a car specific tune on another car will it blow up or just not work. ,0 +13172,Car's RPMs dropping at idle. I have a 2010 Evo X GSR. The RPMs are dropping regularly at idle after the car is warmed up. When it drops to around 500 rpm the check engine light comes on and it says it's for system too lean. I unplugged the MAF to see how it effected the system and the car car started to high idle but the RPMs remained completely steady. But when I got a new MAF the problem actually got worse. The drops became more immediate and the RPMs began dropping even lower where it felt like the car might stall. Any ideas?,0 +13173,"Tata Punch has crossed the 1 lakh production milestone 10 months after launch. According to Tata, this is the fastest SUV ever.. ",0 +13174,Saab 900 turbo. ,0 +13175,"Hi, I would like to know which car model is it / looks like. ​ + +https://preview.redd.it/q5fa4yz7jbh91.jpg?width=564&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f82062f7bcfa3ee3fa7bbb6d9ea4a62c9db7cdb8",0 +13176,Who knows what this button means. ,0 +13177,anyone else have this round them ?. ,0 +13178,What car is Brent faiyaz driving in the rehab in Paris music video ?. ,0 +13179,"Noisy 2012 Passat tdi. I have a 2012 VW Passat tdi. 130k miles. Recently the car has gotten alot noisier. Nothing sounds different in the sense that it sounds obviously wrong/broken/dangerous, it just sounds louder than it used to. + +Seems to be running the same as always as far as mpg and the rpms it typically is at. Nothing obvious that folks doing my oil changes and some light repairs have noticed either. It's almost like if you cracked a window that was between you and a room with music playing. + +Since the performance hasn't changed I haven't taken the car in to be assessed but it is getting to be an annoyance. If anyone has any experience with similar situations and has advice I would love to hear from you.",0 +13180,"10 Best Foam Gun Without Pressure Washer. ​ + +[ ](https://preview.redd.it/6f0069tkefg91.jpg?width=1499&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e43242c8616b37829b62b51cf772fb1f61e4d17f) + +A foam gun is a great way to wash your car without having to use a pressure washer. They are relatively inexpensive and easy to use. The best foam gun without pressure washer is the one that is right for you and your car. There are many different types and brands of foam guns, so it is important to do your research before purchasing one. + +On this page, you will find detailed information about the best foam gun without pressure washer. In addition to product comparison, you will also find the current bestseller list, as well as other related articles and videos. + +The information on this page is based on current reviews and customer reviews of the [best foam gun without pressure washer](https://ridersmotion.com/best-foam-gun-without-pressure-washer/), which we have analyzed and summarized. In this case, we do not perform our own Foam Gun test. + +These are aggregated data from various sources, presented in the form of information and comparison. In this way, we can guarantee the greatest possible objectivity.",0 +13181,"Toyota C-HR 1.8 I-Hybrid vs Mercedes A Class 250 e. Hi, + +​ + +I have been working in a company for 15 years now and my boss wants to provide me a car to ease my daily commute and thank me for my services. Although, I do not get to own the car, should I leave the company. + +​ + +I have been given two options Toyota C-HR 1.8 I-Hybrid vs Mercedes A Class 250 e. I tried finding some videos on YouTube reviewing them but they are mostly old and do not cover the 2022 models. + +​ + +I am not really a type of guy who goes offroading or in the mountains but I do like the looks of the CH-R. I also live in the suburbs and time to time, with the possibility of driving between cities that could take me 4 hours each trip. + +​ + +I am aware that these cars are not similar in any way but basically, what I want to know is, which one offers a more enjoyable ride/comfort and more durable? What are the things that I need to know?",0 +13182,"Peugeot 106, should I get it for first car??. Should I get this Peugeot for my first car? I viewed it yesterday and don’t know much about cars yet. Any help much appreciated! + +It’s 34000 miles and for £700. 1996 1.1 petrol + +The good: +-The miles and price +-Beautiful clean body work and seats are nice and clean +-So fun to drive +-Dream car +-Cheap to insure +-Engine starts first time +-Squeaky clean MOT +-Sunroof + +The bad: +-Rusty exhaust +-Brakes didn’t feel very strong +-Clutch was sticky +-Front tyres heavily worn +-Metal specs in the engine coolant +-Doesn’t accelerate very quickly when you floor it +-No service history +-MOT only for 2 months longer +-Maybe not the safest car as not modern +-the engine revs go up and down a bit when idle + +It might need a service and a bit of TLC but it’s so cheap for what it is shall I get it? Maybe some of the bits wrong with it are just because it hasn’t been used much. I’m being really cautious. these cars are future classics and dream cars for me though",0 +13183,"Kfz Kennzeichen. Moin, weiß jemand aus welchem Land das Kennzeichen ist?",0 +13184,found this boi. ,0 +13185,Mahindra XUV300 stands out as one of the safest cars in India. The car received a 4-star rating in the category of child occupant protection.. ,0 +13186,"How to fix a loose plastic window pane?. Hey all! + +I drive a 2013 Honda Fit that has seen some better days but wondering if anyone knows how I could fix this myself? + +This is the drivers side, rear door and I noticed the weather stripping is also loose but that I think I know how to fix. I'm just not sure I should be using the same adhesive for this loose plastic panel or if I'm going to make it worse? + +Any help would be appreciated! + +​ + +https://preview.redd.it/nv0plnxl94e91.jpg?width=480&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=12ed3b3d08215271ce61468b974ee4ee8020c1fb + +https://preview.redd.it/78f6hrpl94e91.jpg?width=480&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b369bf108e602073c710845bb20db8d4561a84ea",0 +13187,Anyone know how to remove stains from old stickers on glass. ,0 +13188,"What is this? It is under my glove compartment and it usually only buzzes when I turn the AC, but it has started to buzz occasionally without me touching the AC, but not constantly. It's on and off. I have a Hyundai Elantra 2008. ",0 +13189,Need help identifying this. Thx. ,0 +13190,"I love my Car, but i believe that we need your help. ",0 +13191,How does one fix this?. ,0 +13192,"Audi TT MK2 (8j). >! Amazing value!<, dead easy to install, wireless android auto and apple carplay for under £200 ! Installed in my Audi TT MK2 (8j) with an adapter kit from Halfords. + +[https:\/\/gtly.to\/ng7zyIAQR](https://preview.redd.it/0ke2t2vkqac91.png?width=1224&format=png&auto=webp&s=1fc820118b91e30dee7aa7c196851e6ef3b09d50) + +[https:\/\/gtly.to\/ng7zyIAQR](https://preview.redd.it/jwt6t7vkqac91.png?width=1224&format=png&auto=webp&s=a39b7a9e7ad0259c170804de2131aded2af2212a)",0 +13193,Worth to buy an inspected written off car? This is before repair.. ,0 +13194,twinz ❤️. ,0 +13195,It’s is one of the best looking cars. ,0 +13196,porsche 911 turbo(997). ,0 +13197,Made a video of my Tesla Model 3 Performance :) would be nice to get some feedback. ,0 +13198,Floor mats - which one would you choose?. ,0 +13199,Is there anyone selling a car for like 1500 in the Louisiana marrero area. ,0 +13200,What car is this? The white 2 door. ,0 +13201,"Do you know what i could do as a custom on a 2005 volvo v70 2.5t. I know it's not the prettiest, but i'd like to make it look a little nicer 😅. ",0 +13202,just some cars from a Local carshow. ,0 +13203,Guess the car by looking at the picture. ,0 +13204,Is this salvageable ?. ,0 +13205,"2019 Kia Sedona front bumper got hit, how much usually to fix? Is it also noticeable. ",0 +13206,Electric cars. Smh. ,0 +13207,"1998 car automatic transmission shift when car is dead. I have a 1998 Oldsmobile intrigue and it had been unused for 4 years, the battery had died and today I had played around inside the car and pretended to shift into drive, realizing it could actually shift into drive when the car is off and the battery is dead, before I constantly do this I want to know if this is bad for the car.",0 +13208,"who's in for a super fast luxury car that's on for sale, price tag $200,000.. negotiable to serious and interested foks, inbox right away... ",0 +13209,Maserati MC20 Cielo. ,0 +13210,3 months till I can drive again (epilepsy) can’t wait!. ,0 +13211,"Hello, can any of you tell me what this hole in my car is? Seems like there’s no point to it. ",0 +13212,Ford GT (2020). ,0 +13213,guess the car difficulty extreme. ,0 +13214,How to get this off? Theres fresh paint under but Its hard to peel. ,0 +13215,Anyone know the owner of this Lambo or if they have any info on it?. ,0 +13216,can someone tell me what is the name of this car?. ,0 +13217,"HELP PLEASE What happens if I remove my resignator and I don’t add nothing else like just leave it short without tip or anything ,I already added a flowmaster flow fx. ",0 +13218,Hyundai Creta or Kia Seltos X Line. ,0 +13219,Can I Put Bigger Tires On My Car? Are Oversized Tires Safe?. ,0 +13220,"what car is this?. what car is this? + + +[https://www.tiktok.com/@rossfortnite/video/7097616891815988522?is\_from\_webapp=1&sender\_device=pc&web\_id=7014238347296720389](https://www.tiktok.com/@rossfortnite/video/7097616891815988522?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7014238347296720389)",0 +13221,a huracan my dad found driving around. ,0 +13222,Crv cũ siêu đẹp giá tốt | Honda Crv G 2019 chạy 3 vạn km còn nguyên zin. ,0 +13223,"Registering a car titled in another state. I bought a car from Carvana and it is supposed to be titled in NE. They were not able to deliver the title so far and I'll have to register this car in Utah instead. However, going through their process warrants the car to not be road legal for indefinite period of time (at least 2 months). + +I'm wondering if I can just take the NE title and register it in Utah myself.",0 +13224,😎. ,0 +13225,"Beautiful Ukraine, road trip this summer 🇺🇦 ❤️. ",0 +13226,"Do not ever visit Egypt. I am an American man who came to visit Egypt, but I felt so extremely unwelcome. + +I went to the pyramids of Giza and they were truly majestic, but I couldn't walk more than a few steps without being harassed and hustled by the many of the touts trying to sell things or services. They were trying to sell me camel and horse rides, trying to give me a guided tour, trying to sell me worthless crap trinkets, trying to take my phone from me and take pictures of me and my family and then demanding an absurd amount of money. + +One guy that I got on top of his camel for pictures asked for money so I gave him $10 USD and he started yelling and screaming at me asking for $100 USD. I thought he is going to attack me, my family and I just quickly ran away from him. + +My family member got her phone snatched and the guy took pictures of her telling her to make all these poses, and then he wouldn't give the phone back to her until she paid him $20 and then he kept complaining about how $20 is nothing and that he deserves more. + +One guy came up to me to pose in a picture with me and I told him to go away but he wouldn't. He stayed in the picture while my family member was taking the pictures and then he asked for money, I got so extremely mad and I screamed at him at the top of my lungs to go away. All of the other travelers around there heard and were looking and then only did the guy go away. + +Then trying to walk around Giza and Cairo, just forget about it. It's virtually impossible. All of the touts coming up to us and asking if we need a ride, or if we can buy their whatever shit trinkets they are selling. We couldn't walk more than literally 60 seconds without someone new coming to harass us. + +What is it about this place that makes visitors feel so unwelcome? Why do they do this? There is so much rich history and culture to Egypt that I am sure everyone all around the world would want to visit, but why do the touts push us away instead of making us feel welcome? + +When I came back to the US and all my coworkers asked me how it was, I told them the pyramids and temples were amazing, but the touts were absolutely horrible. I told them not to go, and that I would never step my foot back in Egypt ever again.",0 +13227,"Got drunk and two days later ended up in Budapest alone. First time solo travelling, definitely not the last!. ",0 +13228,Edinburgh made me feel like I had stepped back in time.. ,0 +13229,I just got back from my first trip to the UK. I spent 18 days in England and Scotland and brought watercolors to do some sketching on the trip.. ,0 +13230,I visited 47 United States National Parks in 16 months. Here are some of them! (More info in comments). ,0 +13231,Just in love with Italy. ,0 +13232,"Tipping culture in America, gone wild?. We just returned from the US and I felt obliged to tip nearly everyone for everything! Restaurants, ok I get it.. the going rate now is 18% minimum so it’s not small change. We were paying $30 minimum on top of each meal. + +It was asking if we wanted to tip at places where we queued up and bought food from the till, the card machine asked if we wanted to tip 18%, 20% or 25%. + +This is what I don’t understand, I’ve queued up, placed my order, paid for a service which you will kindly provide.. ie food and I need to tip YOU for it? + +Then there’s cabs, hotel staff, bar staff, even at breakfast which was included they asked us to sign a blank $0 bill just so we had the option to tip the staff. So wait another $15 per day? + +Are US folk paid worse than the UK? I didn’t find it cheap over there and the tipping culture has gone mad to me.",0 +13233,My road trip through Scotland. I think I had my mouth open in awe the entire time!. ,0 +13234,"Admiring the fall foliage and enjoying the Onsen culture in Hakone, Japan.. ",0 +13235,"10-days in Namibia, Africa (August 2022). ",0 +13236,"Zanzibar, Tanzania. ",0 +13237,Had the most amazing time chasing the fall colors around Switzerland for 10 days. ,0 +13238,"Yes, This is Pakistan. Never thought it would look like this... A few photos from my time in the breathtaking Hunza Valley.. ",0 +13239,"My trip to Malta (July, 2022). ",0 +13240,2021 was the year I travelled for the first time. This 4 day hike in northern Pakistan cost me $80.. ,0 +13241,"Got drunk, moved to Tajikistan. I like it.. ",0 +13242,"Vienna, Austria. ",0 +13243,Sri Lanka was even more beautiful than I expected. ,0 +13244,Some shots from my Italian Dolomites visit this Autumn. ,0 +13245,"We have travelled to so many beautiful places this year, but Iceland was just something out of this planet... ",0 +13246,"I’m currently day 24 into my walk across Europe, starting in Lille, France. Heading for Istanbul.. ",0 +13247,Had a positive experience in Egypt. ,0 +13248,"Spending a week in Lake Como, Italy felt like we were the stars in a romantic movie. ",0 +13249,Purposefully booked an 8hr layover at JFK to explore the TWA Flight Center. Such amazing space from the design to the architecture.. ,0 +13250,Visited my favorite place in Germany for the third time. ,0 +13251,"Wasn’t expecting to find views like this in San Antonio, Texas. ",0 +13252,"Beilstein, Germany. ",0 +13253,Prague - my favorite city. ,0 +13254,"Travel DOES get more exhausting as you get older and denying it is naive.. I saw a thread yesterday from an OP in their mid 30s saying they were finding travelling more exhausting as they get older. Am I the only one who thinks it is a bit naive and unfair to suggest it must be because they are are unfit? + +I'm a fit dude who works out, eats well, lives an active lifestyle. But at 38, I'm not old but I'm also not 22 anymore. I can't get by on 4 hours sleep anymore. Hangovers are a killer if I get drunk. I do have pains in my body for a few days if I slum in economy that I didn't get when I was 22 even though I've been 6'4 this whole time. + +A lot of people admitted they can't travel the same way they did in their 20s but still acted like OP must just be a lazy unfit piece of crap for struggling.",0 +13255,"My visit to Cold Desert - Skardu, Pakistan. ",0 +13256,"One Month in Pakistan, August 2022. ",0 +13257,Namibia is Stunning (2015). ,0 +13258,"Despite being Swiss, the sight of Lauterbrunnen, Switzerland shook me to the core. ",0 +13259,"*Update* Day: 101. I have now walked over 2300 Km. Passed through 9 countries, and currently in Bulgaria. Roughly 400 Km to go!. I started in Lille, France, 101 days ago. I started walking between 20-50 km a day, in the direction of Turkey, carrying with me just the basics for survival. Wild-camping along the way, and once a week I’d find a hostel or hotel to wash my self and clothes.",0 +13260,"Matera, Italy. possibly the most beautiful place I've ever been.. ",0 +13261,"After leaving Europe I'm finding it hard to enjoy the US. I spent most of the summer railing around Europe and spent time in many cities I've never been. I feel I really got into the lifestyle there. Sitting outside to eat on summer nights. Walking and taking transit everywhere. Seeing people outside everywhere partaking in the city. Enjoying the historic charm that is in abundance, feeling safe everywhere at all hours(maybe with the exception of Marseilles and parts of London), etc. + +I feel like the US in comparison is just...underwhelming. I currently live in Nashville and most of my life have lived in Los Angeles. I want to move to a new city but really don't like any city in the US enough to be excited about going there. And it seems the only places in America that might give you a slice of that European lifestyle are prohibitively expensive, like San Francisco or NYC. + +I feel like most Americans cities are sprawling, bland, built around cars, terrible transit, unsafe. A few years ago I was walking through downtown Atlanta on a weekend in the afternoon and was stunned that there were no people walking other than me. It was like the city had been abandoned. I could not imagine the center of a European city being completely empty of pedestrians. There is more vibrancy in a European city of 200,000 than in an American city of 2 million. + +After the architectural splendor of Prague and Edinburgh. the Mediterranean charm of old town Nice, eating in the medieval alleyways of Croatia, I come back to America and feel kind of depressed at the landscape of strip malls, drive-thru Starbucks, urban blight, sprawling suburbs with cookie cutter houses and no sidewalks or pedestrians in sight. Maybe one little historic ""old town"" street downtown that you have to drive into and that's full of souvenir shops and chain restaurants. + +I guess I'm just ranting and experiencing post-vacation blues, but I'm missing the European lifestyle so much it hurts and I'm having difficulty adjusting to America. I liked just about every European city I visited. There are very few American cities I'd bother visiting unless I had a specific reason to go there. + +On the plus side, the variety of natural scenery in the US, particularly the western US rivals anything in Europe and maybe surpasses it. And increasingly I'd rather rent a cabin in some place like the Smoky Mountains or Sierras in California than visit the cities.",0 +13262,New York City is one of my favourite places on Earth. ,0 +13263,Vietnam North to South in September 2022. More beautiful than we could ever imagine.. ,0 +13264,My Rock - This photo of my wife on Kjeragbolten (Norway) is one of my favorites from a 2017 trip!. ,0 +13265,Prague is indeed the most beautiful city ever. ,0 +13266,"What's the cutest town you've visited? My choice is Kaysersberg in Alsace, France. Tiny, with super cute buildings and wineries right above it!. ",0 +13267,Who else collects travel magnets?. ,0 +13268,"Kolmanskop, Namibia (July 2022) - One of the Coolest Places I've Ever Been!. ",0 +13269,My wife and I moved to Colorado last year. We just spent the week of July 4th exploring areas we hadn’t been to. Here are some pics I took. ,0 +13270,Took the risk and made it to Jordan!. ,0 +13271,Took a trip to UAE and Oman (Nov 15 - Nov 23) and it was incredible! So much landscapes and culture to see in both countries!. ,0 +13272,Recent Trip to Egypt. ,0 +13273,"Amazing trip to Phuket, Thailand. ",0 +13274,My favorite pictures from Egypt are not the pyramids... but the desert!. ,0 +13275,"I know it’s not popular to say good things about Paris here, but my wife both thought it was one of the most beautiful cities we’ve been to.. ",0 +13276,A few highlights from my 12 day road trip in Iceland 🇮🇸. ,0 +13277,"Last year, I claimed Switzerland was the most beautiful country in the world. This year, Norway taught me I have much more of the world to see.. ",0 +13278,Just returned from the most magical week of my life- the north shore of Kauai is the coolest place I have ever been!. ,0 +13279,"Spring is simply lovely, cherry blossoms galore (Japan, 2022). ",0 +13280,Two Weeks in Japan (October 2022). ,0 +13281,"My 16 day self-drive safari in South Africa this month. 3,800 kilometers on all kinds of roads in Kruger National Park.. ",0 +13282,"San Francisco, you have my heart.. ",0 +13283,Went to Dublin for the first time and it’s truly magical!. ,0 +13284,"Gent, Belgium 🏰. ",0 +13285,"Does anyone else hate Airbnb?. It seemed like it used to be great prices with cool perks like a kitchen and laundry. But the expensive fees have become outrageous. It's not cheaper than a nice hotel. Early checkouts and cancellations to reservations are impossible. And YOU get rated as a guest. Hotels aren't allowed to leave public ratings about you. Don't even get me started on the horrible customer service. Is anyone else experiencing this? Have you found a good alternative or way to use the service? + +For some reason I keep going back but feel trapped in an abusive relationship with them.",0 +13286,Got this once in a lifetime experience in the Skeleton Coast of Namibia last month. Tranquillizing and GPS Collaring a critically endangered wild desert lioness in the Hoarusib River Valley with Dr. Philip Stander.. ,0 +13287,The views along the pacific coast highway in California. ,0 +13288,"Barcelona,Spain.. ",0 +13289,"Iceland, a day in the Snæfellsnes peninsula. ",0 +13290,My trip to Jordan (March 2022). ,0 +13291,"I truly believe Norway is one of the most mystical, magical places on earth.. We spent 6 days exploring Norway and though the pictures aren’t the best of quality, I believe no picture could ever do the scenery justice. If it wasn’t on your bucket list before, it should be!",0 +13292,"Buenos Aires on a Sunday night, at 7pm. ",0 +13293,"Just completed a 10 day solo trip around Switzerland. This was the first place I visited, beautiful Lake Oeschinensee. Was a tough hike up to the top in 30 degree heat but the views were so worth it. ",0 +13294,German Christmas markets are magical. ,0 +13295,"Michelangelo's David is great, but pieta is on whole another level with the details imo. Saw both last week and i couldn't stop admiring it. ",0 +13296,"Cochem, Germany is beautiful small town on the Moselle river. ",0 +13297,Ireland 2022. ,0 +13298,"A magical night in Strasbourg, France. ",0 +13299,"Whenever you come home from vacation, Do you ever get mind blown that you was just at a certain place that same morning?. When you come home after a long flight, unpack, and lay in your bed, Do you ever just tell yourself ""Wow, I literally was in ""Greece"" just this morning""? + +I still get mind blown by it every time. Or is it just me?",0 +13300,Amazing glaciers from a recent trip to Iceland. ,0 +13301,Slovenia in early April. ,0 +13302,Iceland in Dec. ,0 +13303,"A view on San Gimignano, Tuscany, Italy. ",0 +13304,9 day 2225 km road trip around Iceland comes to an end.. ,0 +13305,One week in Bosnia and Herzegovina. ,0 +13306,Bergamo - most breathtaking italian City I'd never heard of. ,0 +13307,"Tasmania, Australia. ",0 +13308,Streets of Brno Czech Republic. ,0 +13309,I moved to the UK for a one-year contract and am trying to see a new town every other week.. ,0 +13310,48 hours in Paris (March 2022). ,0 +13311,"Am I in middle-age century? Toledo, Spain. ",0 +13312,Italy January 2022. ,0 +13313,I travelled through Europe for 80 days. Here are some of my favorite pics. ,0 +13314,The Caribbean Coast of Colombia is absolutely stunning. ,0 +13315,"Exploring One of the Prettiest Cities in the World - Florence, Italy. ",0 +13316,"The Palace Of Fine Arts - San Francisco, CA 📍. ",0 +13317,"Vancouver Island, BC 🇨🇦. ",0 +13318,Ireland - West coast road trip. ,0 +13319,"One of the best travel pictures I've ever taken. Naqsh-e Jahan Square in Isfahan, Iran.. ",0 +13320,Guatemala 2022. ,0 +13321,When I worked in Bermuda ☺️. ,0 +13322,The very colorful Guatemala. ,0 +13323,Our day at Neuschwanstein Castle. ,0 +13324,"Took my mom on a trip to Prague, enjoyed every second of it. Beautiful city.. ",0 +13325,5 days in lake Como + Milano ☺️. ,0 +13326,A bit of Cotswold magic - UK. ,0 +13327,"A week in Sicily and it was great!. We flew in to Catania, rented a car. Stayed at a winery north of the Etna for the first few nights. Made some day trips to Taormina and the area (and up Etna).Then a bit south east to Siracusa for a few days. Lastly it was Agrigento for the valley of temples and the Spanish stairs. From there we drove back to Catania to fly back home.",0 +13328,"Oman, one of the most stunning places I was able to visit. ",0 +13329,Fell in love with Macedonia during our 6-day trip to Skopje and Lake Ohrid.. ,0 +13330,Oman (In April during Ramadan). ,0 +13331,Got some great advice for my Mexico trip on here so thought I’d share some photos from Mexico City and Oaxaca :). ,0 +13332,"Going to the UK in March is bad they say, turns out, not so bad.. ",0 +13333,Some pictures I took from my trip to Georgia. ,0 +13334,"Gates of the Arctic National Park, Alaska, USA. Without a doubt the most remote, wild, and magnificent place I've ever been in my entire life... ",0 +13335,Perfect weather in Amsterdam. ,0 +13336,"Rothenburg ob der Tauber, Germany. ",0 +13337,Dubrovnik is incredible. ,0 +13338,Lake Como (Italy). ,0 +13339,"IRAN 2022 (18.09-04-10) wonderful country, amazing people 😍. ",0 +13340,Some shots from Pakistan this summer. ,0 +13341,"Nepal, November 2022.. ",0 +13342,"I went to Spain for the first time and was completely blown away. I visited Madrid, Cordoba, Seville, and Granada. What a gorgeous country!. ",0 +13343,"Alaska, USA. ",0 +13344,"I travelled to Kyiv, Ukraine in 2019. I loved it - such a vibrant city with nice people! There were heartbreaking photos displayed - fights and portraits of those who lost their lives in 2014. I'm in Poland, we all help refugees here now... Let's admire the city and hope for the best for Ukraine.. ",0 +13345,Taken 2 days ago on my solo trip to Oslo 🇳🇴. ,0 +13346,Rented a place in Oregon for the summer on a whim. No regrets whatsoever.. ,0 +13347,"I walked through northern Portugal, so you don't have to. You're welcome.. ",0 +13348,The Bavarian town of Ramsau and its surrounding. ,0 +13349,"Spent the Holidays in Antarctica, South Georgia and the Falkland Islands. ",0 +13350,16 days in Uganda. Most amazing country I’ve ever visited. ,0 +13351,"Straight out of a fairytale - Lauterbrunnen, Switzerland. ",0 +13352,"Early morning view of the Acropolis, Athens. ",0 +13353,"We were supposed to just transfer trains in Montpellier, France. But we decided to spend two days here instead. Such fun vibrant energy!. ",0 +13354,"Alishan, Taiwan. ",0 +13355,"Two Weeks in Seoul, South Korea - September/October 2022. ",0 +13356,Sights from my Semester Abroad in Edinburgh. ,0 +13357,"Osaka, Japan 🇯🇵 (one week after Japan’s full reopening to tourists). ",0 +13358,"Wat Rong Khun or White Temple in Chiang Rai, Thailand. ",0 +13359,Some photos from my recent backpacking trip to Europe!. ,0 +13360,Just got to Bora Bora and it is even more beautiful than pictures.. ,0 +13361,Couldn’t stop taking pictures of beautiful Bruge! 🇧🇪. ,0 +13362,"A road trip through Coastal (Tropical) Queensland, Australia. ",0 +13363,"Shots from Sri Lanka, June 2022. ",0 +13364,"Visited Portland, OR for the tulip festival, stayed for the countless other views :). ",0 +13365,My trip to Rome and Pompeii - January 2022. ,0 +13366,"Traveled around Corfu, Greece this summer. I still can’t believe this place is real.. ",0 +13367,"Low tide and high tide in Mont Saint Michel, Normandie (France). ",0 +13368,Not Europe! Here's Spiti Valley in India (May '22). ,0 +13369,"Edinburgh, Scotland in September. Such an amazing city.. ",0 +13370,Monaco end of November. ,0 +13371,Lago di Como [July 2022]. ,0 +13372,Sloß Eltz in Germany (August 2022). ,0 +13373,The Portuguese coast was stunning and Lisbon was vibrant!. ,0 +13374,2 Weeks in Italy 🇮🇹 - October ‘22. ,0 +13375,Hallstatt Austria - July 2022. ,0 +13376,Chilean Patagonia. ,0 +13377,"Lake Lucerne, Switzerland. April-May 2022. ",0 +13378,Few days in Budapest. ,0 +13379,"Stuthlagil Canyon, Iceland. A stunning 10km hike!. ",0 +13380,"Ghardaia, Algeria. ",0 +13381,"Croatia, April/May 2022. If you have only one trip to do in your life, go to Croatia ❤️. ",0 +13382,Bermuda is a dream. It’s very expensive tho! Just got back from a five night stay at The Loren. It was incredible,0 +13383,One of my bucket list items was to visit this stunning town where the houses are literally under the rock! Beautiful white houses line up the narrow streets of Setenil de Las Bodegas.. ,0 +13384,"Kauai, Hawaii August 2022. ",0 +13385,Two Week Trip to Uzbekistan - September 2022. ,0 +13386,"Granada, Spain appreciation post. ",0 +13387,I travelled to Egyp last month. Hope you like the pictures! :). ,0 +13388,When in Budapest(Hungary) dont skip SZÉCHENYI Thermal Bath especially when you have a bad weather day. ,0 +13389,Seville Spain (Fascinating!). ,0 +13390,"Missing the Iceland vibes right now. If you haven’t yet, put it on your list! This is during the Iceland “summer” 💙. ",0 +13391,"Picture I took last year in Nong Khiaw, Northern Laos. ",0 +13392,Been able to visit Kyiv just two months before the start of the war. ,0 +13393,"Lake Como, Italy. A paradise.. ",0 +13394,"Mar Saba, the Cliff-hanging Desert Monastery. ",0 +13395,Went to the oldest rainforest in the world - Daintree. ,0 +13396,"Ghana is a gorgeous, safe, and diverse country. Highly recommend!. ",0 +13397,Montenegro - a jewel in the Balkans 🇲🇪. ,0 +13398,"My first ever visit to Edinburgh! Three day trip, almost a full day of travel - completely worth it.. ",0 +13399,"Went to Paris for a Hans Zimmer concert, stayed for the food and the views. Expectations were exceeded!. ",0 +13400,"Guys, recently I discovered this awesome community and since I’ve been traveling a lot in the last 6/7 years, I decided to be an active participant. This is Vieste, very tiny town in Italy. Enjoy my 30 sec montage.. ",0 +13401,My first trip to the Carpathians (Ukraine). ,0 +13402,"Puebla, MX, home of the oldest public library in the Americas!. ",0 +13403,"9 days in Maui, Hawaii. ",0 +13404,"Patagonia, Argentina. ",0 +13405,Mediterranean Cruise out of Rome. ,0 +13406,"I wasn't expecting all the sheep at Mont Saint-Michel, but they added to the experience!. ",0 +13407,"Thailand without the crowds was among the best vacations I've ever had! Temples, rainforest, rooftop bars and pools and so much more. ",0 +13408,"The beautiful, mystical, and lovely Amsterdam. It’s my first time visiting!. ",0 +13409,Arrived home from solo travel in Thailand and I still can’t quite believe how beautiful it was. ,0 +13410,Jenner mountain in Bavaria. ,0 +13411,Summertime in Provence.. ,0 +13412,"Stayed overnight in Óbidos, Portugal. What a wonderful, charming little town.. ",0 +13413,South England road trip. ,0 +13414,"Riomaggiore, Cinque Terre, Italy — May 2021 🇮🇹. ",0 +13415,Memories of a trek in Norway (Trolltunga - ~700 meters above the ground). ,0 +13416,"A week in Seville, Spain 🇪🇸. ",0 +13417,"Plitvice Jezera, Croatia. ",0 +13418,Weekend in Malta.. ,0 +13419,"Banff, Canada. ",0 +13420,"The Courtyard of Orange Trees in Seville Cathedral, a remnant of its past as a mosque in the Moorish period in Seville, Spain. ",0 +13421,Took a 3400 mile road trip to unplug across Southern Utah / Arizona and got some pictures along the way.. ,0 +13422,"Travelling through Morocco during Ramadan. Incredibly diverse country, made for a 2 week road trip!. ",0 +13423,"Leh, India is such a photogenic place. ",0 +13424,7 day road trip in Iceland 🇮🇸. ,0 +13425,"Shots around Dubai, focusing on historical and contemporary architecture. ",0 +13426,"Spending a few days in Florence, IT. Finally got to see the David... it was breathtaking.. ",0 +13427,Lisbon is a remarkable city. ,0 +13428,"Italy, March 2022. The sheer size of everything is incredible. ",0 +13429,Chicago!. ,0 +13430,Paris June 2022. ,0 +13431,"Paris, Burgundy and Alsace - France = not overrated!. ",0 +13432,Lovely Northern India (Himachal Pradesh) from this summer. ,0 +13433,Rouen France. ,0 +13434,"Athens and Kefalonia, September 2022. ",0 +13435,"Fell in love with Riga, Latvia. ",0 +13436,"Finally made it to Mt Rainier, was not disappointed. ",0 +13437,Madeira is such a beautiful island🇵🇹. ,0 +13438,Seville (Feb '22). ,0 +13439,"Hiking the quarry trail, Peru. ",0 +13440,A long weekend in the Cotswolds last month. ,0 +13441,"Walking through the cobbled streets of Bruges, Belgium. ",0 +13442,Dolomites - Cortina Hiking the Lavaredo ultra trail 120kms over 4 days.. ,0 +13443,Feast your eyes on the Kenyan coast😍🇰🇪. ,0 +13444,Quick 4 day trip to Ireland. My new favorite place.. ,0 +13445,"Verona, Itália. 03.2022.. ",0 +13446,"Vancouver, Aug 2022 - had a great trip, sharing a few of my photos. ",0 +13447,Fiji 2022. ,0 +13448,I was lucky to get some great weather while visiting the Faroe islands in 2021. ,0 +13449,"This weekend I did the hike between Lauterbrunnen and Murren, Switzerland and was left speechless. ",0 +13450,"Sometimes it's good to play the tourist when you go back to your hometown for a weekend. Well, when your hometown is Rome, at least... (Photos of the city centre from last week). ",0 +13451,"Crimea, Ukraine. 2022. ( nature and some urbex). ",0 +13452,"A week in Transylvania, Romania.. ",0 +13453,A pleasant walk through the center of Paris.. ,0 +13454,My trip to Egypt!. ,0 +13455,"Budapest, Hungary 🇭🇺. ",0 +13456,"Got to visit Sevilla, Spain. Went and saw Cathedral de Sevilla, it was absolutely beautiful!. ",0 +13457,"Egypt, November 2022. ",0 +13458,Seychelles November 2022 - truly a paradise on Earth. ,0 +13459,"Napoli, april 2022. ",0 +13460,"Recently visited Savannah, GA for the 3rd time. One of my favorite cities.. ",0 +13461,"Mogadishu, Somalia. ",0 +13462,"A scam at Paris CDG Airport and how I dealt with it.. So I was at Paris CDG today catching a flight, going to the gate and to the end of the line, when a guy approaches me asking if I speak English, then he asks if I speak American, Scottish, whatever which was weird. And I say American? The he says he lost his stuff and needs money to go to the US consulate. He says he needs €10 cash. So I say ""ok, follow me"" and I'm walking in the direction of security. As I'm walking to security, he says, ""No the cash machine is this way"" And I say, ""yes I know, follow me"" When he realises I'm walking to security. He says, ""oh it's okay and runs off"" And I just laughed + +Gold!! That is gold right there Hahahahaha!! + +Just a story on how I dealt with this scammer.",0 +13463,Banff National Park last September. ,0 +13464,"Some photos I took in Bogota, Colombia. ",0 +13465,"Romania, a stunning yet often overlooked travel destination (pics from February 2022). ",0 +13466,"Paris, it doesn’t matter how often you visit, it keeps amazing me 🥖🇫🇷 Is the Paris Syndrome even a real thing?. ",0 +13467,Paris in October. Taken on a S22 Ultra,0 +13468,Solo Trip to Lebanon 🇱🇧. ,0 +13469,"Arizona, Utah and California in two weeks. ",0 +13470,"Seville, Spain. ",0 +13471,Hiking in North Cascades & Mount Rainier (Washington state). ,0 +13472,Luxor is out of this world 🧿. ,0 +13473,"Lights at Capilano Suspension Bridge, North Vancouver, BC, Canada. Rare Christmas snow made it that much worthwhile.. ",0 +13474,"My trip to Dublin, Ireland - January 2022. ",0 +13475,"Gorges du Verdon, France. ",0 +13476,A Norway road-trip. ,0 +13477,Utah and Sedona Arizona December 2021. ,0 +13478,"Spent New Years on the island of Kauai, Hawaii. ",0 +13479,"Glendalough in the Wicklow Mountains is a perfect day trip from Dublin, Ireland.. ",0 +13480,"Nikko, Japan. ",0 +13481,"A few days in Greece - Mykonos, Santorini, and Athens. ",0 +13482,Egypt was hands down the coolest place I’ve ever been. The desert feels like you’re on Mars 😍. ,0 +13483,Visited Isle of Skye during our two weeks in Scotland. We lucked out with the weather the whole trip.. ,0 +13484,Some pics from our recent trip to St Thomas / St John. ,0 +13485,"Greece, Crete. ",0 +13486,"45 Days in Africa - Kenya, Tanzania, Malawi, Zambia, Zimbabwe, Botswana, Namibia, South Africa. ",0 +13487,"Southern France, Monaco roadtrip. ",0 +13488,I told myself I would hit all these places in 2 years. Mission has been achieved and I’m broke now so all I have are these pictures to show for it lol! Hope you enjoy my travels!. ,0 +13489,"Road trip from Paris to Istanbul, drawing along the way. We’ve been through Central Europe and the Balkans doing it. Here are some drawings from the travel book we are making, I hope you will like them!. ",0 +13490,Guilin China - blew my mind how beautiful it was.. ,0 +13491,The harbor on Hydra 🇬🇷. ,0 +13492,"On someone else's request, here are a few more shots from my trip to Lisbon last week.. ",0 +13493,"Highlights from Alberta, Canada. ",0 +13494,"Paris, France for the weekend!. ",0 +13495,Hiroshima. ,0 +13496,"The beautiful city of Ronda, Southern Spain - an easy day trip from Malaga. ",0 +13497,"Just been to Rome for 4 days, what an amazing city!. ",0 +13498,"Otaru, Japan.. ",0 +13499,"Amalfi coast, Italy. ",0 +13500,Chichen Itza 🇲🇽. ,0 +13501,Mexico - coast to coast. ,0 +13502,The charming red-roofed country of Portugal. ,0 +13503,"Part II of my Southern Sardinia post, hope you like it as well 🇮🇹. ",0 +13504,"Solo Travelling in Veneto, Italy September 2022 (Dolomites+Venice). ",0 +13505,"The most scenic breakfast we’ve ever had, absolutely stunning - Annapurna range, Nepal. ",0 +13506,"Southern Utah gets all the love, but Northern Utah is awesome (May 2021 vacation). ",0 +13507,"Went to Montreal for my birthday two weeks ago, absolutely loved it.. ",0 +13508,"first but definitely not the last time Sardinia, Sept. 2022. ",0 +13509,"A positive experience in Egypt, June 2022. ",0 +13510,"Just got back from Egypt, enjoy my pictures from this stunning country 🇪🇬. ",0 +13511,"Breathtaking Paris, France.. ",0 +13512,"Niagara Falls, New York. A few scenic photos from my recent family trip to Niagara Falls, New York. Highly recommend the Maid of the Mist boat tour and Cave of the Winds excursions, and be sure to check out Terrapin Point and Prospect Point for the best views. + +Happy Travels!",0 +13513,"My first solo travel, Lake Como(Italy). ",0 +13514,Some pictures of my trip to South Korea in August!. ,0 +13515,Highlights from Iraq pre-lockdown. ,0 +13516,The Grand Teton’s are absolutely magical. ,0 +13517,Okay but isn't spring in England absolutely magical? A one-day trip to Canterbury was definitely worth it. Have you ever been to England? Which season is your favourite?. ,0 +13518,"Some pictures from my trip to Italy this October. My first time visiting Italy, can't wait to go again.. ",0 +13519,"Took a lil vacation in Chicago, Illinois this weekend.. ",0 +13520,costa rica - January 2022. ,0 +13521,New favorite city unlocked: Paris. ,0 +13522,"I’ve not been able to travel abroad during 2021, so I’ve explored my own country, Scotland, instead. Here are a few of my highlights! (Locations in captions). ",0 +13523,"Early morning hike in the Sonoran Desert, Arizona. ",0 +13524,A little Ireland green on St. Patrick’s Day.. ,0 +13525,Kazakhstan doesn’t get enough love on here. ❤️ Photo of the gorgeous Mausoleum of Khoja Ahmed Yasawi - taken in August 2022 in Turkistan.. ,0 +13526,Some pictures from our trip to Patagonia over Thanksgiving 2019 - 10/10 recommend!. ,0 +13527,"Salzburg, Austria I don't know what Heaven looks like but I hope it looks like this.. ",0 +13528,A walk around Prague 🇨🇿. ,0 +13529,"Southern Sardinia, Italy, a few days ago 🇮🇹. ",0 +13530,Photos from a trip to Santorini. ,0 +13531,"A few months ago i did a motorcycle trip through Bolivia, Peru and Equador. ",0 +13532,Florence is an art lovers dream city. ,0 +13533,Some pics from my recent trip to malta. ,0 +13534,"Singapore. Pictures from a trip to Singapore this summer. The city was one of the most interesting I’ve ever been to. I’m not sure I’d go back on vacation, but if my company offered to relocate me, I wouldn’t say no!",0 +13535,Beautiful Austria 🇦🇹. ,0 +13536,Iceland 2022. ,0 +13537,"Approved for my 5 year multi-entry visa to India, nice! Happy to be coming back!. ",0 +13538,No Photo Editing needed in places like Dubrovnik and Mostar. My trip in September 2021.. ,0 +13539,"Hiking trip in the Chattanooga area (Tennessee, USA). ",0 +13540,"Ilhabela, Brazil - First trip abroad in 3 years, escaping from Canadian winter and lockdowns. ",0 +13541,"Cleopatra Antique Thermal Pool in Pamukkale, Turkey. June 2021. ",0 +13542,"Big Sur, California-road trip and camping. ",0 +13543,Hiked to the top of Half Dome and it was insane!. ,0 +13544,Visited Nepal for My 26th Birthday!. ,0 +13545,"Such a beautiful scene in Cape Town, South Africa (2022). ",0 +13546,Just a few shots of Iceland from May 2022. ,0 +13547,Lake Como (Italy) in March 2022. Absolutely breath taking. ,0 +13548,"Some pictures from my October 2021 to Pisa, Italy. Beautiful city, can't wait to go again and explore it more.. ",0 +13549,"Burg Eltz in Wierschem, Germany. Still owned by a branch of the same family that lived there 33 generations ago. Never get tired of seeing it.. ",0 +13550,"Ephesus, seriously underrated ruins in Turkey. ",0 +13551,My trip to Norway 2021. ,0 +13552,"*Update* Day 50 into my walk across Europe. Over 1000km walked and I’m now in Vienna, Austria.. ",0 +13553,"Scenes from London on 35mm film, May 2022 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿. ",0 +13554,"Tatry, Poland. ",0 +13555,My solo trip to Oregon. ,0 +13556,"Turkey is a hidden gem. Went to Turkey for a week in Aug 2022. Checked out Istanbul, Izmir, and Cappadocia (Göreme)",0 +13557,Caribbean Cruise. ,0 +13558,Oregon vacation last summer (absolute dream world). ,0 +13559,"Bruges, Belgium May 2022. ",0 +13560,Pics from my trip to Vietnam. Hands down the best country I visited so far!. ,0 +13561,"It's once again Norway's national day, 17 May, so here's a celebration.. ",0 +13562,"Italy: Photos from Naples, Sorrento, Amalfi & Capri. ",0 +13563,"Some scams to avoid in Thailand. I just came back from a 2 week trip through Thailand where I went to Bangkok, Koh Phi Phi and Phuket. The country itself is beautiful and most of the locals I've talked to where extremely polite and nice. However there are lots of people trying to scam tourists which could lead to empty pockets or even worse: + +- Taxi drivers will try to rip you off almost every time. They'll tell you the meter is broken or something like this and tell you a fixed price which is two or three times more expensive than it would be when he would use the taximeter. I used Bolt and Grab almost all the time to get around. The advantage is that you pay before entering a taxi or a private car so you don't need to discuss with the drivers. Grab worked well in Bangkok and on Phuket I used Bolt most of the time. Never ever use a taxi in Phuket. There is a taxi mafia going around and they inflate the prices extremely (I paid 100 Baht with Bolt while a ride with the taxi for the same distance would've cost 250 to 300 Baht). But be careful with Bolt there. Never show or tell a taxi driver that you are waiting for your Bolt driver. He will get extremely angry at you. At the airport on Phuket I tried to find a Bolt driver but almost none of them drove straight in front of the airport because they are scared (one driver on Bolt texted me that he can't drive to me because ""they"" beat him up and then he gets arrested). Just keep searching for a driver and eventuelly you find someone. Never use the taxis there! + +- Tuk Tuks are a scam most of the time. They ask for super high prices to drive you around a few minutes and they are everywhere. Chances are that you hear the sentence ""Tuk Tuk ride here"" multiple times during your stay. I avoided them completely even when I had to scream at them to stop asking me or the dude even following me. It's bad at the main sights like the Grand Palace and the reclining Buddha. Around 6 or 7 Tuk Tuk drivers formed a half circle around the exit and tried to get you into their Tuk Tuk. I just walked through them but I guess many people will not. + +- ""The palace is closed today"" scam: Chances are you gonna hear that when you want to go to see the Grand Palace. A person will tell you that the palace is closed today but suggests to show you others temples around the city because he is a nice person, right? Don't fall for that. The person will try to lure you into a Tuk Tuk and drive you to different shops like a tailor or someone selling watches. Once you're there the driver and the owner of the shop will pressure you into buying their expensive stuff. The Grand Palace is rarely closed and you can check the times on the website. Don't fall for that cheap trick. + +- Khao San Road in Bangkok is extremely overrated and quite dangerous if you get drunk there. Just read a story a week ago where someone got drugged there by one of the bar girls and they made him deposit alot of money at an ATM. Never talk to the bar girls or drink something they give you for free. Also the prices there are super inflated for tourists. Go to the night markets if you wanna eat and drink for a fair price. + +I hope I can help some people with this post and if you have anything to add feel free to do so. Thailand is the most beaitiful country I've ever been to and without doing some research before I probably would've felt for a scam there. Safe travels!",0 +13564,Some pictures from my recent Germany and Austria trip! This was my first opportunity to travel internationally since 2019😁. ,0 +13565,"In March of 2022, my wife and I spent some time traveling around Tenerife, one of the Canary Islands. Although a part of Spain, the islands are just off the coast of Africa in the Atlantic Ocean. This photo was taken in the northern part of the island. Beautiful, right????. ",0 +13566,"Photos from my trip to Dubrovnik, Croatia 🇭🇷 May 2022. ",0 +13567,Mediterranean Cruise to Greece and Croatia. ,0 +13568,Andalucia Spain. ,0 +13569,"If you have the chance to go to Malta, take it! What a beautiful and picturesque country. 🇲🇹. ",0 +13570,"France, you were beautiful 😍. ",0 +13571,"Out of a fairytale: flew standby to Edinburgh, Scotland. Ever tried haggis?. ",0 +13572,"The Alhambra in Granada: one of the most impressive monuments in Spain and the best-preserved Islamic palaces in the world, part of the ancient Nasrid Kingdom.. ",0 +13573,"Passo Gardena, Dolomites, Italy, July 2022. ",0 +13574,"Favorite photos from a recent trip to Madeira, Portugal. ",0 +13575,"Tulum, not all beaches and 5 star resorts. ",0 +13576,"You will be surprised how beautiful the sunset in Yerevan, is because of the mountains. Sun is going down upper of city-level and it gives unbelievable views. ",0 +13577,One week in Turkey. ,0 +13578,"Took a little trip to paradise 🏝💫 Riu Palace, Maldives.. ",0 +13579,Trip to Montana & Wyoming - I know it’s not as interesting as a lot of the posts in here but I had never seen mountains before as I live in Oklahoma. it’s been six months and I still think about how breath taking it was every day so I wanted to share :). ,0 +13580,Did any of you guys walked to Everest basecamp? 17 days of hard work but definitely worth the effort. ,0 +13581,Croatia drive from East to West - mid October. ,0 +13582,Some photos from my recent trip to Iceland. ,0 +13583,I captured these 35mm film photographs while traveling in northern Italy in 2021.. ,0 +13584,Bosnia exceeded all expectations. April 2022.. ,0 +13585,"Jordan (Petra, Wadi Rum, Amman). ",0 +13586,"Does anyone else get excited for the actual act of traveling?. I love going to airport, hanging around, and the actual flight itself. Train travel as well can be great. I know airports are bad these days, but my vacation always begins the moment I am through security. Flying to London in August and can't wait!",0 +13587,Solo Backpacking 60 Miles in Olympic National Park. ,0 +13588,"Transnistria - Officially not a country, yet here i was. ",0 +13589,"A few photos of my trip to Türkiye, October 2022. ",0 +13590,British Columbia is my favourite place. ,0 +13591,"A day in Bratislava, Slovakia! (Nov 2021). ",0 +13592,"Something unusual happened in Athens,Greece - 26 January 2022. ",0 +13593,"Magical day trip from Lisbon. Sintra, Portugal. ",0 +13594,Scottish highland adventure 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿. ,0 +13595,Beautiful Vietnam 🇻🇳 in rain 🌧 Did you ever travel there? What do you like about the country?. ,0 +13596,My 2017 Solo Backpacking Trip. ,0 +13597,my trip to Croatia and Slovenia. ,0 +13598,"Some pictures I took in Lima, Peru. ",0 +13599,"Don’t Put Off That Trip - Ethiopia, 2019. ",0 +13600,"Don't eat pre-cut fruit. *Edit* + +Here's the general food poisoning advice from this thread as this has blown up: + +As people have said, if you can't peel it, cook it or boil it then forget it. Food should be hot and fresh. Same advice as in this post also applies to uncooked salads / pre cut veggies / washed veggies (unless you can confirm they've been washed and grown in clean water). Also important is to only drink filtered or bottled water, avoid ice and only brush teeth with filtered water too. Good advice to go to a place with some turnover and don't order something which may have been stored for a long time and not frequently ordered and also uncooked (E.g. a burger bun at an Indian restaurant in a non tourist area, got food poisoning from that in 2020 believe it or not). Meat also carries it's own unique risks, but as I'm a vegetarian you'll have to do your own research on that one. Take probiotics and stock a bunch of stuff that can help control indigestion too (e.g. peppermint oil caps, calcium carbonate, buscopan, pepto etc). Watch out for unpasteurized milk. Carry hand sanitizer. Get travel insurance and have extra money to front immediate costs. Get your travel vaccinations. + +And last but not least... don't be scared or put off by all of this! You should still be cautious and follow some guidelines, but follow this advice and you should be sweet! So jump in and get traveling food poisoning FREE. + +*Original story* + +I can't believe I made such a rookie mistake. In Bangalore, India I bought a bowl of pre cut fruit (papaya, watermelon, banana) from a street stall. I assumed it had just been cut recently and it was fine. It also wasn't refrigerated but it looked totally fresh. I got some SERIOUS food poisoning that day. I wrongly assumed that it was from a curry that I ate that same day, so 5 days later I got some from a different stall and got food poisoning again... + +After researching I discovered that pre cut fruit is something you should avoid, especially in developing countries. The rind or peel protects the inside of the fruit or vegetable from bacteria. As soon as you cut it it's shelf life goes way down too. Pre cut fruit is often handled with no gloves and also not cooked so any bacteria can grow on it easily. It's also often out in the open so bacteria can build up over time, and often it is washed in local tap water. So if you want to eat fruit while you're traveling you should just buy something you can peel yourself.",0 +13601,Cartagena was beautiful and hot as hell! Highly recommend.. ,0 +13602,Georgia Tbilisi Kazbegi and some sites along the way. Everywhere except the mountain fortress was accessible by paved road.. ,0 +13603,"I met some wild bears on Transfăgărășan Road, Romania 🇹🇩. ",0 +13604,"Back in 2020, Laos. Good memories :). ",0 +13605,"Went winter surfing outside Seward, Alaska after a snowfall. ",0 +13606,"Drove 1500km and slept in the car with 2 friends to get here. Lofoten, Norway. ",0 +13607,A little gem on the Atlantic called Madeira (Portugal). ,0 +13608,"This are some of the pictures I took in Volterra, Italy. I went there during my October 2021 trip to Italy. Very lovely place, I'd love to go there during winter too. ",0 +13609,Some picture of our trip to amazing Azores. ,0 +13610,"Beautiful Banff, AB, Canada in Summer. ",0 +13611,I simply love Como and Milan !. ,0 +13612,"Our beautiful High Tatras, Slovakia 💙. ",0 +13613,Paris - yay or nay? I did not like Paris at all when I first visited. I think I had too high expectations ad I felt disappointed. I went back a couple of years later and... I ended up liking it a lot! It's not the most beautiful city but if you don't expect it to be - it's actually lovely !. ,0 +13614,I visited Iceland in August this year. Here are some of the highlights from the trip. ,0 +13615,"Just a few shots from Mexico City which was a positive surprise for me! I was amazed by how green it is and how clean the streets are. I'm aware that it has bad air pollution, horrible traffic, and dangerous/bad districts. But from a tourist's perspective - it was great!. ",0 +13616,My trip to Füssen earlier this year. ,0 +13617,5 Days in Oregon. ,0 +13618,"Munich. A surprisingly, unseasonally snowy end of a perfectly warm 2 week trip. ",0 +13619,historic center (centro histórico) of Mexico City (late February-early March 2022). ,0 +13620,"Just returned from a 3 week trip through Italy, Switzerland, and Barcelona. Here's a handful of my favorite pictures.Happy to answer any questions about these locations :). ",0 +13621,"Couple shots of the Matterhorn in Late October from Zermatt, Switzerland. We also took the tram up to get closer.. ",0 +13622,A trip to Costa Rica 🇨🇷 Jan 2022. ,0 +13623,Went to Yosemite National Park for the first time and was in awe!. ,0 +13624,One of the most under rated travel destination in the world: Taiwan.. ,0 +13625,Iceland ring road trip (July 2021). ,0 +13626,"Some of my Favorite Areas of Hearst Castle in San Simeon, CA. ",0 +13627,"Some pictures from my trip to Phuket, Thailand. ",0 +13628,Beautiful evergreen state of Washington! So lush!. Never appreciated it until I return to visit as a tourist.,0 +13629,"Exploring Kauai, Hawaii in 2019. ",0 +13630,"I spent a month travelling through Madagascar and it is definitely in my top 5. Humpback whale spotting off Île Sainte-Marie was a particular highlight 🇲🇬. I travelled through most of the island but spent most of the time in the east. I went by 4x4 and river boat and hiking while camping along the way. The capital city Antananarivo ori simply ‘Tana’ is an unusual place: gritty grimy, old French colonial buildings with that classical mold. A sense of uneasiness but not without its charm.",0 +13631,I dream of going back here one day. Jökulsárlón - 2018. ,0 +13632,Florence / Sienna / San Gimignano April 2022. ,0 +13633,Oman (October 2022). ,0 +13634,What could go wrong with a 12€ flight… Thessaloniki was far beter than I imagined 🇬🇷. ,0 +13635,What’s more unique than Iceland?. ,0 +13636,"Madeira, amazing island with amazing food. ",0 +13637,"Anyone else love grocery shopping in other countries?. Heading on a trip soon and am weirdly excited to check out a local supermarket in my destination. + +I always find myself in a supermarket/grocery store when I'm in other countries, and usually spend an hour inside walking up and down every aisle. + +I don't know why, but visiting a grocery store overseas (I'm American) is always one of the biggest mental indications that I'm truly ""somewhere else"" + +Am I alone in this or are you all fascinated by ""foreign"" grocery stores as well?",0 +13638,"Around Lucerne, Switzerland in Nov 2022. ",0 +13639,I really wasn't expecting Liechtenstein to be so beautiful. (OC). ,0 +13640,Florence! Has. My. Heart. 💓. ,0 +13641,"I finished the Kedarkantha summit in the Himalayas at 12500 ft on 31st Dec 2021. 3 days ,it was -15 degrees with at least no resources at all. This trek made me realise that it is always your mind to push you back. Walk at your own pace, you will reach your goal in your own right time.. ",0 +13642,"Budget holiday to Bari, Italy, right after Italy opened up.. ",0 +13643,"First trip to Europe and managed to see Krakow, Prague, & Amsterdam!. ",0 +13644,"The Parthenon in Nashville, TN. ",0 +13645,My two week camping road trip around Iceland🇮🇸. ,0 +13646,Glenfinnan. ,0 +13647,Lisbon in December is magical. ,0 +13648,"Venice, April 2022. ",0 +13649,I captured these images on 35mm film in the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina in 2021.. ,0 +13650,"First time traveling in over 2 years! Flew back to Boston, USA from the UK for my 2-year-delayed graduation, and took a little boat trip at the harbor for fun!. ",0 +13651,My 1-week trio to Jordan. Great country!. ,0 +13652,"Spent a week sailing through the inside passage of Alaska -- for a lover of wilderness, this state holds a special place in my heart.. ",0 +13653,Photos from my excellent adventure to Svalbard earlier this year.. ,0 +13654,"Recently visited Türkiye - complete blew away all of my expectations. Absolutely stunning country, culture, history and it’s people. (And very affordable!) I highly recommend adding Turkey onto your must-visit lists :). ",0 +13655,Copenhagen is really beautiful!. ,0 +13656,"Shanghai, China. One of the biggest cities in the world ( December 2019 ). ",0 +13657,"Lebanon, modern Phoenicia. ",0 +13658,"Wadi Rum, Jordan. ",0 +13659,"25 days in Russia Dec 2021 / Jan, 2022. ",0 +13660,"A wonderful trip in Gdańsk, Poland. ",0 +13661,"This is the Philae Temple in Aswan, Egypt. It’s was interesting to see the handiwork of Egyptians, Roman’s and Greeks alike.. ",0 +13662,I had a great time in Portugal. ,0 +13663,My Pre-covid trip to the PNW. ,0 +13664,"My visit to the Boekhandel Dominicanen in Maastricht, Netherlands in March 2022. ",0 +13665,Grand Canyon in August. It is so vast and picturesque that everything looks like a painting.. ,0 +13666,5 days in Rome is not enough!. ,0 +13667,"Pictures from my recent trip to Rome, Italy.. ",0 +13668,"Jabal Moussa/Mount. Sinai + resident cats & St. Catherine Monastery built ~530AD, Egypt,2021. ",0 +13669,Some shots from Lisbon Portugal November 2021. ,0 +13670,A quick trip to Bavaria to visit the Neuschwanstein castle. ,0 +13671,The Peruvian Andes are stunningly beautiful. ,0 +13672,Oregon coast :). ,0 +13673,Mount Rainier Hike-Seattle. ,0 +13674,"La Muralla Roja in Calpe, Spain. ",0 +13675,"My trip to the Big Island of Hawái, Hawaii Last Year. ",0 +13676,"Why I will never use Airbnb anymore and you shouldn't too.. I won't write long and just be brief about the whole Airbnb experience over the last 1-2 years. I enjoyed using Airbnb for more than 7 years, and now it has come to a point that I will never use it. In the beginning, Airbnb was more organic and personal experience where you could actually enjoy staying in the hosts' place. + +​ + +1) However, now the airbnb is filled with hosts that are just in it for the business and doesn't deliver the adequate service or experience that it used to be. Most of the places aren't well equipped or are vacant, and most of the places are just vacant housing that has not been rented out yet. + +2) And whenever face this kind of issue, the host doesn't take any responsibility. And when you reach out to Airbnb about this issue, their attitude before was ""let me see how I can help you"" to now ""too bad. we can't do anything about it."" or ""we will try to help you out, and see the solution"" and no answer. + +3) Prices are way overpriced compared to the price index of the countries I have visited. For example, when I visited Ukraine, Peru, Colombia, and Spain, the daily rent prices were about 5-6x rate of the monthly rent price rate. Which I think it way too overpriced. + +​ + +Personally, I have been using Airbnb while I traveled in the past 1.5 years, traveling to about 6 countries: Ukraine, Portugal, United States, Spain, Colombia, and Peru. I had multiple experiences where I checked into the listing that looked a lot different from the photo and doesn't have even a basic amenities, like hot shower, wifi, electronics. I had an experience where I checked into the listing that the host said it's a ""bit"" noisy, but the noise pollution was too extreme to the point that I felt like I was sleeping on a highway street, because the wall has an open air. I messaged host about this, and he ignored my messages. I contacted Airbnb support, and was on the phone line for hours trying to deliver my struggle of insomnia due to noise pollution and that I couldn't sleep for 2 days, and had to check out early from the listing. I think I lost about $400\~ already from the listings that didn't have amenities it described, or even fails to deliver the basic needs of what it can be actually called an ""housing service"" + +Anyways, the Airbnb support really doesn't care or help the customer, at least based on my experience. I don't know what your experience is. But Airbnb is now filled with hosts that deliver the services or amenity with really poor quality listing, mostly the properties that has not been rented out, for extremely high price. + +If you guys could give me alternatives to Airbnb I would appreciate it. I'm sick of this money grabbing host and tech company that doesn't care about customer. + +Edit: some people keep saying do the diligence of reading reviews and research, and I do research listings 3-4 hours before I make a booking, and all the bad experiences happened in listings with over 4 stars. And I left 1 star reviews and it would never show up on the listing after few weeks. So there is really a loophole where host controls the review somehow that I do not know about (report to Airbnb for removal, etc)",0 +13677,"Iceland: Land of hot water, warm floors and icy winds. Just returned from a 7 day trip.. ",0 +13678,Italian Dolomites in autumn [OC]. ,0 +13679,"Zion, Bryce, and the highly underrated Escalante in Utah!. ",0 +13680,Puerto Rico April 2022. ,0 +13681,Go to Cinque Terre Italy in the off season. Milan train to Cinque Terre was like $20. 3 hours. Get Airbnb. Enjoy. ,0 +13682,The Albanian Alps has got a piece of my heart. ,0 +13683,"A few snaps from my recent trip to Berlin, Germany.. My fifth time in this incredible city, and I can't wait to go back again!",0 +13684,"Mackinac Island, Michigan. Beauty of Lake Huron….. Pure Michigan",0 +13685,"Buckenberg, Königsfeld im Schwarzfeld, Germany-Christmas 2021. ",0 +13686,Barcelona - Feb 2022 🇪🇸. ,0 +13687,"I’m not sure how Sion, Switzerland is this beautiful but after randomly choosing it for a break in my train ride, I’m a huge fan now.. ",0 +13688,"Conemara, Ireland. ",0 +13689,Tulip Season in Amsterdam. ,0 +13690,"Venice, Italy, August 2022. A beautiful city I loved to get lost in.. ",0 +13691,Rainy summer rafting in Patagonia on the Río Futaleufú. ,0 +13692,"Photos from my visit to Prague, Czech Republic 🇨🇿. ",0 +13693,Weekend on Faroe Islands.. ,0 +13694,Paris January 2022. ,0 +13695,"Visited Ise, Japan this weekend. Beautiful, especially in the rain.. ",0 +13696,"If you ever find yourself in Sequim, WA, take the Wing Walking Class! Different perspective of the Dungeness Bay Area. ",0 +13697,"Tips from a Greek for people visiting Greece. Hello guys, I was born and raised in Greece and here are some tips that will help you during your visit to Greece, if you ever plan on visiting. + +This goes for mainly summer season visits, but I'll add a few for off season too. + + +------------------------------------------ + + +**EDIT** and Disclaimer: Further down, a tip I give is ""Don't swim with a full stomach"". Naturally, people think this is bad advice and do not agree. If you think you have no problems swimming with a full stomach, go ahead, it's up to you. However if you are out of shape, or overweight (things people who downvote probably don't take into account) or have any other issues like muscle cramps, swimming with a full stomach will make you run out of breath faster. The people arguing against it do not factor in variables of health and stamina such as these. Not everyone can swim the same, or has the same physical conditions. +I know this because I was obese and used to do so. This is from personal experience. + + + + +-------------------------------------------- + +- Hydrate yourself. Keep a water bottle with you. They're cheap, the 500ml ones are .50euros, and the larger ones are usually 1.50euros. The heat is no joke, so drink plenty of water. + +- Avoid Mykonos, Santorini and other ""Tourist-y"" places. Yes, you want to take pictures of the beautiful sunset in Santorini and look at those picturesque houses on the hill - but do you really want to spend a lot of money on that? And I mean *a lot* of money. We Greeks avoid those places for their insane prices, generally referring to them as tourist traps. There's so many different islands in Greece you can visit. I suggest avoiding these two like the plague. These places are very, very expensive in their prices for basic commodities (at least for us), and best suited for a three day stay max in my honest opinion. + +- We do not say ""opa"" and break plates and dance sirtaki all the time. This is more of a stereotype, which can sometimes be seen as insulting. We do use ""opa"" in many different situations like bumping into someone you might say it, or lifting something heavy. It's more akin to an ugh/oh expression in the english language. + +- Greece is 80% mountainous. The mainland offers a lot of areas where you can hike, rock-climb, or go on a trail. The islands get the attention because that's what the travel industry advertises Greece as. There are also plenty of ski resorts in Greece. + +- Please treat ancient objects with respect. Whatever they might be. We're proud to display them, and we're fiercely proud of our long history on this earth, and we ask that you treat them with their appropriate respect. Don't take dumb pictures next to a nude statue or mock their design - we will look down on you if so. If it's one thing we hate with all our guts it's people disrespecting our heritage. + +- Take your time in a coffee place. We do not fall into the category of people who will go with their friends for a cup of coffee, drink it, and leave. We'll spend an hour, two hours, sitting, talking, laughing. It's normal. Don't feel the need to overspend for your stay either. + +- This goes especially for British tourists who have become something of a stereotype when it comes to this in Greece - don't drink your guts out. The saying here is that we (Greeks) drink with our friends to enhance the experience and have fun but British people just drink to get shitfaced. And then they proceed to do stupid shit, which infuriates people. + +- Nightlife is a huge part of the summer. Places start getting active around after 22:30 for us. That's when we start going out for drinks in clubs, and we stay all night there until dawn. Don't rush into bars or clubs earlier than 22:00, unless you aren't sure about finding a table to sit down. + +- Wildlife isn't particularly dangerous. We do have vipers but their venom is something that's treatable if you get to a hospital in due time. + +- Don't steal fruit from people's gardens or a tree you might find on the side of the road. If there's a person nearby, and the tree is on his plot, kindly ask if you can have some. They'll probably hand you a bag of fruit or a handful, because we are hospitable and appreciate the kindness of asking first. + +- If you're walking/hiking and are dehydrated, you might find public water taps. The water is okay to drink in most (especially in urban areas) and it's there for people to use. If however you are dehydrated and there is nothing near you other than a small church or a lonely house, try asking for water. You might also be given some food if the person is not weary (the migrant crisis has made people skeptical of foreigners) + +- While driving you might see some small shrines on the road with a candle lit inside (sometimes). These shrines are there because there was an accident and a person died, or almost died. They're there to ""protect"" people from suffering the same fate. Our roads, especially in rural areas, aren't great - so slow down if you see one, and keep your eyes open! + +- Most people, especially young people, can speak English so you can communicate if you're lost. Use a translator app if you can't breach the language barrier. + +- Dress modestly if you plan on going to a church to see what it is about - meaning, don't go there with a bikini or topless or your flip-flops. It's disrespectful and I say this as a non-religious person. If you do go to a church, purchase a candle, and light it and place it with the rest of the candles (you'll see it, can't miss them). It's a polite gesture, and candles are cheap. + +- People have their little siestas from around 14:30 to 17:30. Most shops close too, unless they're special cases or mutli-national businesses. Keep the volume down these hours (if you're staying in a place with locals), and relax a little! + +- While driving, traffic rules are more like traffic suggestions. So keep your eyes open and trust only yourself. Greeks have a tendency to be good bad drivers. + +- Speaking of Greek drivers, if you're on a crosswalk as a pedestrian don't expect cars to stop. They usually don't give you the right of way unless you're in the middle of it. So extra caution is needed before crossing. + +- Emergency service numbers are : **100** for police, **199** for the fire dept, medical is **166**, and the coast guard is **108**. The police can also redirect the appropriate emergency service to you, in case you can't reach the one you want. +You can also use **112**, which is the European Union's emergency number. You can use this from anywhere in the EU. This number links the caller to the relevant emergency service of the nation they're in. + +- Before buying stuff at a restaurant, be very careful of the prices on the list. If there are no prices, chances are you're in a tourist trap and about to be bled dry like many tourists are in Mykonos etc. I suggest avoiding/leaving such places. + +- Go easy on ouzo, raki and tsipouro. They're not meant to be drank quickly. You'll regret drinking them quick if you do. Your liver will hate you for it as well. + +- We have iced beverages for the hot summer months. These are, of our own design as well, ""freddo"" espresso/cappucino, and frappes. If you see ""freddo"" on a menu it means iced. + +- Supermarkets have little variety in their juices/water brands/etc etc but they're of good quality. + +- Use ""Beat"" or Uber in Athens for taxis. But with the recent changes in gas prices etc etc, chances are unless you're going somewhere that is going to cost at least ~7.50euros you won't find a taxi. + +- If you're vegan or vegetarian (especially vegetarian) don't worry - Greek cuisine is about 70% vegetarian I'd say, it's not dominated by grilled meats/fish/you name it. We eat meat around 2, maybe 3 times a week. You can stay a long time and not eat the same vegetarian meal twice. + +- A nice snack is bread, feta cheese, bit of olive oil or olives, and a slice of tomato. Take it with you as a sandwich if you go somewhere like a secluded beach. It's very tasty and will keep your appetite at bay. + +- **DO NOT SWIM AFTER EATING.** <- Read the Edit at the top of the post beforehand // + Do not swim immediately after eating, don't swim after 1/2/3 hours of eating lunch or a lot. Swim with an empty stomach or hours after you've eaten. If you swim with a full stomach you'll get tired A LOT quicker, and if you're not a confident swimmer or not good, you might drown. If you're on a crowded beach and have eaten, just chill for a couple of hours, get a tan, the sea isn't going anywhere. + +- If you plan on renting a car check the requirements for your driver's license being valid. AFAIK Americans need a special permit or something, not sure about other Europeans. + +- Greece isn't just the Aegean, altough the Aegean is a Greek lake. Try the Ionian sea too. Cephalonia is a nice and well known place amongst Greeks. + +- You're never more than 250km from the sea, wherever you are in Greece. + +- Try the food. Put down the cheeseburger, man. Eat some octopus. Grilled, ofcourse. + +- Greece in the winter is cold. We do have a lot of sunshine per year, and our summers are hot, but our winters can be cold. Bring warm clothing if you do visit in colder seasons. + +- If you plan on using Greek phrases don't go overboard with them. Also, ""Ya sou!"" is more of an impolite greeting which you might use to a person you're familiar with. Use ""Ya sas."" which is the polite, plural form. + +- This is a no-brainer but use sunscreen. The sun is a deadly laser, can confirm. + +- There are many things to do in the mainland too. Places to visit, sights to see. Don't shy away from a trip there. Like I also mentioned, you're never more than 250-300km away from the sea so you can always get a car and drive to a beach. + +- If you want some historical places to see in the mainland, Delphi, Mycenae, the Royal Tombs of Vergina (Philip II's tomb, Alexander the Great's father), and many historical churches, are great choices. Museums are an obvious choice, too. + +- You'll see too many ancient stuff. Roman, Byzantine, ancient Greek, Turkish, Venetian/Italian things are all over the place, and we're indifferent to them. But do take your time enjoying the sights! Some roads/paths might use marble or stone stairs which have become worn down from the millions of feet that went by them. Some are very slippery, especially in castles etc, be careful not to fall. + +- In Athens, if you plan on going to the Acropolis, go in early morning hours. You don't want to climb that hill (it is on a hill, yes) with the scorching sun cooking you. Past 12:00 is already too much, I'd say. Early morning or late afternoon hours are the best (check the hours that the Acropolis is open first). + +- Speaking of Athens there's many things to do there, including but not limited to: A) Leaving. +Seriously, don't visit Greece and spend your entire stay in Athens. Take a bus and go on a trip, or a car, or a ferry and island hop nearby. Explore the country or rent a boat and go on a trip. + +- The sun is particularly dangerous/hot from around 13:00 (if not earlier on particularly hot days) to 16:45/17:25. Exercise caution if you're hiking or somewhere without shade during these hours. Heatstroke and dehydration are no joke. + +- If there is wind blowing on the **opposite** side of the beach, blowing towards the open waters, don't go too far away from the beach. The waves will drift you away from the safety of the shallows, and if you can't swim well you might find it unsettling. + +- Seasonal fruits and vegetables are mostly local productions, so give them a try, buy them from the farmer's market (which varies from city to city) if you want the real deal or a supermarket. You might also find shops that sell fresh produce. + +- Bakeries. This is mostly for people from America who aren't as familiar with the concept of buying bread etc from bakeries as much as Europeans are. Bakeries offer a variety of baked goods from fresh bread, to snacks, and even sweets. Try them out, don't buy sliced bread from a supermarket. + +- Spanakopita (with feta)",0 +13698,Once Upon a Time in Myanmar ('13). ,0 +13699,First-timer in San Fran: few shots w/iPhone 12 Pro Max. ,0 +13700,A few photo's from my first trip to Paris 🇫🇷. ,0 +13701,"My trip through Norway, Bergen, Oslo and the Aurlandfjord. ",0 +13702,My Dubai Trip: either you love or hate 🌴🇦🇪. ,0 +13703,Diving the Cenotes in the Yucatán is kinda cool. ,0 +13704,Budapest from late last month. ,0 +13705,"Yoho National park,British Columbia Ca 🇨🇦. ",0 +13706,Hiking through Yosemite valley and redwood groves was an all time high for me.. ,0 +13707,Trip to Carnia Region (Italy). ,0 +13708,One week in Oman. ,0 +13709,"Albania! Greece's less famous neighbour. Beautiful beaches, tasty and quite cheap food, lots of gems to explore. The downsides: speaking English is kinda not their thing, so maybe brush up on some Italian or here are few useful words I learned :).. Pershendetye, filaminderit and mirupafshim (Hello, thank you, goodbye). Karkaleca zgara (barbecued shrimps) + uye mineral (mineral water), plazh = beach. Basically all you need. Shume bukur Shqiperie - very pretty Albania.",0 +13710,Meteora Monasteries In Greece. Most beautiful place I have ever seen. October 2022. ,0 +13711,Santorini sunsets just hit different. ,0 +13712,"Bavaria & Austria, June 2022. ",0 +13713,"Nice, France 🇫🇷 (October 2022). ",0 +13714,"A weekend in Kraków, Poland. ",0 +13715,"Some shots from my trip to the ancient city of Luxor, Egypt earlier this year. ",0 +13716,"A weekend to remember in Grindelwald, Switzerland🇨🇭. ",0 +13717,"Unpopular opinion: hostels should have dorms for snorers (at no extra cost) and if you don’t admit you’re a snorer and book a non-snorer dorm, you should be fined.. You can probably tell I’ve forgotten to pack my ear plugs!",0 +13718,"my daytrip to Bodrum,Turkey🇹🇷. ",0 +13719,Photos from my trip to Lebanon.. ,0 +13720,"Took a trip to Paso Robles, CA to visit the Field of Lights exhibition by Bruce Munro. Felt like stepping into another world. ",0 +13721,"Prague feels like a movie set, in a good way.. ",0 +13722,"Few days in Glencoe, Scotland. ",0 +13723,Super last minute trip to Crete Greece. ,0 +13724,"Armenia, Sevanavank Monasteries in March 2019. I almost fainted while climbing up as I didn't realize I was at an altitude of 2.000 m but the view was definitely worth it!. ",0 +13725,Moscow in its winter beauty. ,0 +13726,"Nice view of Gorges du Verdon, Provence, France. ",0 +13727,Canadian Rockies (July 2022). ,0 +13728,Sunrise lights on Rome. ,0 +13729,"Nepal, ceiling of the world! January 2022. So happy that this is our first travel trip after 2 years of lockdown.. ",0 +13730,"Catalina Island, CA, USA. Was shocked how much I loved it. ",0 +13731,I can’t overstate the lush beauty of Bora Bora. Absolutely unbelievable. ,0 +13732,A day in Bordeaux. ,0 +13733,Jordan - Petra + Wadi Rum. ,0 +13734,"Oslo, Norway June 2022. Coincidently went the same weekend as Oslo Musikkfest! Next stop Bergen. ",0 +13735,A few shots from Antarctica. ,0 +13736,"I walked through northern Spain, so you don't have to. You're welcome.. ",0 +13737,A (pre-pandemic) trip around Iceland's ring road.. ,0 +13738,Trip to Scotland 💙. ,0 +13739,Just completed a trip through Portugal. ,0 +13740,"Some Barcelona photos. Wish Sagrada Família wasn’t under so much construction at the time, but oh well, still beautiful.. ",0 +13741,first ever time in Italy and I am speechless. ,0 +13742,Was only planning to be in Madrid but found a $130 plane ticket to Paris. The Eiffel Tower was much larger in person than I thought it would be.. ,0 +13743,D-Day 2022. Had an amazing opportunity to go to France. Saw some history and it was breathtaking! Being there was surreal for sure. Very blessed.. ,0 +13744,"I want to cast my old wedding ring into the exposed lava of an active volcano; where and how can I make this happen. Budget flexible.. Presumably a helicopter would be the way to go but idk anything about all that. Given the provenance of my flyer miles something on the Pacific Rim would be preferable, but open to pretty much any destination and timeframe. + +EDIT: Obligatory RIP my inbox. Thanks everyone for the levity and suggestions. + +While here, let me address a few common topics: + +1. As it happens, I'm a man, not a woman. Not offended at the mistake of course but intensely curious as to why the overwhelming assumption was the opposite. If anyone cares to share their thought process on that I'd be interested. +2. This isn't about my ex-wife. I have no intention of ever mentioning it to her. We've been apart for many years now and frankly I don't think about her almost at all any more. +3. But the ring. The ring still haunts me. It is a burden on my breath, even when tucked away out of sight. I can feel the warp of it in the drawer where it is kept. It is fraught with the weight of lost love; of tearful promises made in joy, now broken; of the sacred willing itself into the profane. My wife is gone and my youth with her. Under the stars, before the dawn, we forged something beautiful and, yes, I invested in it some piece of my soul, now broken off, still somehow bound up in the ring. I cannot bear to keep it. Neither can I treat this sign of faith, this artefact from out of time, this link to an otherwise-irretrievable self, so cavalierly as to *pawn it* or *throw it away* as some have suggested. To do that would be to dishonor all that was good and holy. No; it demands a fitting end, commensurate with its gravitas. Thankfully, there is established procedure for disposing of lifeforce-infused soul-wearying rings. +4. Yes I'm overstating things for the bit. Really, I'm mostly okay. And I do think this will tip the matter over the edge, as it were -- wrap things up with a grand, wry flourish, and have a great story to tell afterward. +5. For real tho I didn't realize the lava may not be hot enough; thanks for that tip. A friend has advised me to reach out to university volcanology departments who will know the ins and outs of such things and may be willing to deposit it appropriately for me, with video evidence. +6. Oh, and FWIW, I'd estimate the actual value of this ring at somewhere in the $50 range, *maybe*, if a buyer could even be found. Means a lot to me obviously but it's not especially remarkable. I was a child when I bought it and had a child's budget. It's 'white gold'. +7. Also, for those of you angry about my intent to litter by placing a miniscule amount of gold in the firestorm of an active volcano, I've got worse news for you: Later today I'm gonna go discard some apple cores in the forest behind my house. There is nothing you can do. The plan is already in motion (my daughter's finishing the last apple up as I type this) and I will not negotiate.",0 +13745,"Vienna, Austria. Beautiful city, exceeded my expectations massively.. ",0 +13746,Chichén Itzá. ,0 +13747,Black Forest - Germany 🇩🇪. ,0 +13748,"Spring came to Warsaw, Poland and it looks beautiful again, after many grey, gloomy days ;) Which made me wonder... which capital in the world is your favorite and why?. ",0 +13749,Spent this summer in the norwegian fjords. ,0 +13750,A day in Sossusvlei (Namibia). ,0 +13751,"Another rad trip north to photograph polar bears, their cubs, and the Northern Lights and even captured an arctic fox in mid-jump. ",0 +13752,visited Stockholm for 4 days. by far my favourite city I've seen so far. it was so beautiful and safe!. ,0 +13753,Few pics from a visit to Uzbekistan earlier this year. ,0 +13754,Solo Trip to Romania - April 2022. ,0 +13755,Trekking in Nepal/Himalaya. ,0 +13756,"Chefchauoen, Morocco - May 2019. ",0 +13757,"What NOT to say when asked what your itinerary is. Recently visited Vancouver. At the Pacific land border crossing in Blaine, WA, the Canadian border guard asked what our itinerary was. I answered truthfully, ""We don't really have one."" Oh man, was that ever the wrong answer. She exploded. Calling it a red-faced rage would not be an exaggeration. While slamming her hand on her podium/desk, she screamed: + +""YOU'RE SPENDING PROBABLY THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS TO BE HERE! YOU MUST BE GOING SOMEWHERE! NOW, WHAT! IS! YOUR! ITINERARY!!!"" + +I figured she had a space on a form she couldn't leave blank, so I just threw out some things I knew she'd recognize. Stanley Park, Coal Harbour seafront, Victoria, Butchart Gardens... (all of which we did actually end up doing, and more). She accepted that then growled, ""You know, I could deny you entry. NEXT TIME ANSWER MY QUESTIONS!!"" + +We didn't have any planned days or times to do anything. When she asked for an itinerary, that's where my mind went. She could have just clarified that she wanted to know what we'd be seeing and that she didn't need an actual schedule. + +I noticed all the officials there were generally total A-holes to everyone, we just drew the worst of the lot. We've traveled quite a bit and this was by far the nastiest border entry I've ever encountered. We were so pissed that we later cancelled our planned trip to Montreal next month. Never again, Canada. Going to Lisbon instead! + +EDIT: I probably shouldn't have said ""never again."" Just not any time soon!",0 +13758,Adventures along the finish/swedish border (February 2022). ,0 +13759,"Please be patient and self sufficient if you visit US National Parks this year. I'm not sure how much people are aware of this outside the Park Service, so I wanted to make transparent an internal issue we're going through right now. + +Across the board, almost all divisions in almost all parks, we are seeing major hiring problems. The Park Service cannot fill positions, some parks are going into seasons with half or less their normal staff. I work in a large, recognizable park and we are short maintenance, interpretation, law enforcement, and medical staff. We will be down ambulances, trash service will be less frequent, there will be fewer educators to staff buildings or lead programs, fewer hands on deck to handle emergencies. + +This is the byproduct of a lot of issues, from the ongoing unpleasantness, to the fact that the majority of front-line jobs are held by seasonal workers who simply don't exist anymore, to low pay, to some ongoing HR issues that limit the applicant pool. Overall we're hiring from a smaller pool than ever, for more jobs than ever, and we're going into Spring and Summer with staffs smaller than 2019, with higher visitation than ever. + +I will not suggest you cancel visits, but be aware that services might not be as fast, and that facilities might be closed or have reduced hours. Be aware that you might be on your own if you're visiting during peak season and get into trouble. Be ready for more traffic jams, longer lines, and fewer services. Please be ready to pack your trash out as much as possible because less than ever will we have staff to clean up litter. Be especially careful if you're doing anything that could cause a fire, because fire staff are just as short staffed as everyone else and a lot of the country is in a pretty major drought. + +We want to go back to normal, but we don't have the staff to do that yet. We already deal with a lot of people at their worst, on their worst days. We don't get paid much, but we love our jobs for the most part. This situation isn't going to get better until next year at the earliest, and if there isn't motion on the root causes for this staffing problem, we might not see improvement then either. + +I'm not acting as a representative of the NPS here, but I hope you'll listen to this bottom rung, currently furloughed, tired Park Ranger all the same. + +**So TLDR:** please be chill this summer. We know this might be your one chance to visit these amazing places, but we're basically boned, we're going to be tired, we're going to be dealing with a lot. We want to help, but we need you to help yourselves too. + +*EDIT for clarity and a spelling mistake",0 +13760,Gatorland!! Never have I seen so many!!. ,0 +13761,French Polynesian trip. ,0 +13762,Nice is nice 🥳. ,0 +13763,Lake Como - Italy. ,0 +13764,"A morning walk around the Werdenberg castle in Buchs SG, Switzerland. ",0 +13765,Pakistan. ,0 +13766,"Some Pics from Lençóis Maranhenses, Brazil last week. ",0 +13767,"Yesterday’s hike amongst saffron crocus plants. Velika planina, Slovenia.. ",0 +13768,Fell in love with Luxembourg!. ,0 +13769,Tivoli Gardens Copenhagen. ,0 +13770,"White Sands National Park, New Mexico, USA. ",0 +13771,"Photos from when I walked 200 kilometres in Portugal last October, part of my Portuguese Camino de Santiago pilgrimage. It was nice.. ",0 +13772,2 weeks in La Réunion. ,0 +13773,Iceland Solo Trip (May 2021) | Road trip around the entire country. ,0 +13774,Amsterdam Late October- 1st pic is my favorite picture I’ve ever taken. ,0 +13775,First trip to Stockholm 🇸🇪19/3/22. ,0 +13776,hallstatt/austrian alps. ,0 +13777,5 days in Iceland in August 2022. Absolutely loved my time here.. ,0 +13778,"Anyone old enough to remember taking travel photos and having to wait until they got home to get the photos developed?. Nowadays with smartphones, there’s instantaneous affirmation of a travel photo. But back in the day, had to pray and hope that the photos turned out okay.",0 +13779,Corfu was magical. ,0 +13780,"Dubrovnik, Croatia. This place is just too beautiful.. ",0 +13781,Sintra is one hell of a place. Here's a few snaps I took yesterday on my visit!. ,0 +13782,"What common piece of travel advice do you purposefully ignore?. I think Rick Steves has done a lot for getting people out of their comfort zones and seeing the world, but the recommendation of nylon tear-away cargo pants, sturdy boots, multi pocketed hiking shirts, and Saharan sun hats for hanging around a European capital drinking coffee and seeing museums always seemed a bit over the top. + +You do you, of course, but I always felt most comfortable blending in more and wearing normal clothes unless I’m hitting the mountains.",0 +13783,"I’m travelling across Europe but all I want to do is sit in the hotel and eat McDonalds and watch anime. I’ve been travelling across Europe for about a month now and I have three months left until I’m going back home. I’m 18 years old and took this trip (alone) because I wanted to see the world and experience all the different bits of culture that surround Europe. I also have some heritage from Europe and would like to discover where my ancestry lies. + +Well I’m in Vienna right now and there’s a lot to do here. Bars, restaurants, architectural sights, etc. But I just want to order the chicken cheese box and watch One Piece. This isn’t a one-time thing. This has been everyday for the past two weeks. I’ve still been doing things because I’ve felt the NEED to do so, considering I’m throwing down a lot of money on this trip, but I can’t exactly find the correct motivation/mindset for doing these things. + +I’m naturally introverted and before I left I would spend a lot of my time indoors, but I’m trying to break that habit. Is this normal? Am I just fat? Thanks. + +EDIT: Thanks everyone for the advice. I realize I may just be burned out. I haven’t exactly felt homesick but going out and making myself see every little monument and museum that’s highly rated on TripAdvisor instead of doing things I enjoy has definitely not been the right call. I went out to a thermal spa last night (courtesy of u/Livia85) and felt much more relaxed by the time I was done. Everyone was naked so that was new!! I’m taking time for myself today to relax and hopefully feel a bit better tomorrow. Thanks for all the advice, much appreciated :)",0 +13784,Malta June 2022. ,0 +13785,First time in Spain and it was just perfect. ,0 +13786,"Austin, Texas, USA: Insanely overrated. Insanely terrible traffic for a city its size, whether along I-35 or along the myriad thoroughfares and neighborhood routes otherwise. + +Stupidly long waits to get into ""hip"" BBQ or taco joints that might be the ""best"" in Austin, but would be par-for-the-course, holes-in-the-wall in many other places throughout Texas. + +I'm sure the locals pre-tech-boom were generally friendly. However, today's Austin reveals a general population that is snobby, pretentious, surly, and aloof. I realize that many of these twits are nasal-sounding, vapidly-conversing, fast-talking, self-absorbed asshats from major coastal cities, although many are also Texans who wanted to get out of their hometowns and now seem to feel the need to ""act Austin."" The customer service in most stores and restaurants seems to reflect that accordingly. + +Speaking of service, the way that my partner and I have been treated at Austin's airport on numerous occasions has been just flat-out rudely. Despite AUS being a fairly modern airport, I place it on par with LAX, Sea-Tac, Newark and Miami airports for being the worst of the worst for personnel attitudes. + +Lastly, if I wanted to pay L.A., San Francisco, or NYC prices for dining out, I'd go to one of those cities. + +I live down the road near Houston and am no fan of this place either, but at least we aren't trying to pass ourselves off as the coolest, most tourist-friendly city in the state. I can tolerate Austin for less than a day, then I can't wait to bail. By the way, San Antonio is fairly close to Austin and has had a far better developed tourist infrastructure for decades.",0 +13787,"Paris, July 2022.. ",0 +13788,"The lost city of Pompeii, 2021. ",0 +13789,"The second cable car up to Aiguille du Midi, in the French alps. One of the steepest cable cars in the world. Time-lapse 12.31.2021. ",0 +13790,"Canary Islands March 2022, Lanzarote & Fuerteventura. ",0 +13791,Had an incredible time in Singapore! 🇸🇬. ,0 +13792,Norway Roadtrip. ,0 +13793,"The Friends We Met. As I approach 33 years old, now married with kids, a home, and deeply planted domestic roots near where I grew up, I occasionally find myself washing the dishes, and thinking of a friend I made in a foreign country while traveling alone, who I never talked to again, who I knew almost nothing about. And who was my best friend for a day. + +I think about you, the so many of you, more often than I think of the kids I went to school with. We were better friends for a few hours than some people I've spent years around. I had more human connection standing in line to buy coffee in a Swiss alleyway with you than I've had with coworkers I sat next to for 2 years. + +Let's be honest, I wouldn't remember your name, let alone recognize you if we bumped into each other on the street. When I think of you, I don't see a face. I see a night out exploring the streets of Rome, and a bunch of overpriced roses for tourists we bought to give to strangers. I hear all twenty of us singing on that Colombian beach in the terrible Spanish we all managed to learn in a few days. I feel the clink of beer glasses in a dingy bar where we were surprised to find someone else who spoke clear English. + +I didn't know then what you did for work, or who you were in high school, or what you did when you weren't exploring the world. I didn't know what baggage you carried, or what your life back home was like. All I knew was ""here's a human worth being around, worth sharing a bit of the world with"". + +And that's how I think of you now. Someone I shared a bit of my world with, who ceased to exist the day you flew home and so did I. We hugged, knowing ""there goes a friend I'll never know again"", and that was absolutely fine. + +And now, we're both washing the dishes, with the laughter of our children in the background, and our spouses walking by to give us a kiss - happier than we could have ever imagined with the lives we've built. + +But still, occasionally thinking of the friends we met. + +I hope you're all happy and well.",0 +13794,10 days in Oman. ,0 +13795,Egypt- 2022. ,0 +13796,Beautiful Florence. ,0 +13797,Cliffs of Moher ~ Trip to Irrland. ,0 +13798,"A stroll around the beautiful city of Lausanne, Switzerland. ",0 +13799,"Petra & Wadi Rum, December 2021. ",0 +13800,Montenegro! It’s such a hidden gem. Loved it here.. ,0 +13801,We honeymooned in Crete!. ,0 +13802,"With Rings of Power and House of the Dragon captivating audiences, here's my fantasy inspired collection of travels over the last year [OC]. ",0 +13803,"I went to Italy from April 16th to the 24th with a tour group. We visited 3 cities, Venice, Florence, and Rome, as well as San Gimignano as an excursion. It was the best time of my life.. ",0 +13804,"Haarlem, Netherlands makes a great day trip from Amsterdam. The central station is less than 15 minutes from Amsterdam by train, and it’s considerably less crowded.. ",0 +13805,This is why I can never take an aisle seat. Inbound to San Francisco after 10+ hours.. ,0 +13806,Washington 🌿🏔️. ,0 +13807,Some Pics from My Trip to Argentina. ,0 +13808,3 days in Tuscany (june 2022). ,0 +13809,"So I i have this trip planned to go from Berlin, Germany to Auckland, NZ without plane. And stay in NZ then for 1 year to work. Please give me your thoughts and infos on this epic journey (Read my comment pls). ",0 +13810,Can't wait to go back to the Amalfi Coast☀️🇮🇹😍. ,0 +13811,First solo trip Madrid & Barcelona 2021-2022. ,0 +13812,"Two trips to what might be my new favourite country...Romania! Plus a day trip to Bulgaria.. 1) Closed Dracula Museum Bucharest +2) Same as above +3) near closed Dracula Museum +4) Abanassi Bulgaria day trip +5 ) Veliko Tarnovo- abandoned building +6) Therme Spa +7) Therme Spa +8) Peles Castle (NEARBY) +9) Peles castle +10) Brasov +11) Dracula Castle +12) Dracula Castle +13) Bucharest centre (near flag Square) +14) similar to Hong Kong monster building +15) Bucharest - search rainbow umbrellas +16) English Passage Bucharest +17) English Passage Bucharest +18) Romanian Athenaeum +19) national theatre Bucharest +20) earthquake flats Bucharest",0 +13813,Isle of Skye - October 2022. ,0 +13814,"What are the most dangerous feeling places you guys have travelled to?. I'll go first: + +1. Parts of Bridgetown, Barbados +2. Outskirts of New York",0 +13815,"Road tripped from Texas to Tulum, MX. Was an incredible trip! Stopped at all the archeological sites down the coast, as well as several cities, and finished the trip off with some snorkeling and swimming in the Cenotes. ",0 +13816,"The stunning Byzantine Town of Mystra, near Sparta, Greece.(visited April 2022). ",0 +13817,Some pictures from when I travelled Northern Thailand a few weeks ago. ,0 +13818,Scotland Honeymoon. My wife and I just got back from our Scotland Honeymoon. We spent most of it on the Isle of Lewis.,0 +13819,"Ginnie Springs, High Springs, FL. ",0 +13820,A beautiful month spent in the Balkans. ,0 +13821,Trip to Montreal. ,0 +13822,"Cusco, Peru - July, ‘22 (ask questions!). ",0 +13823,Perast is my favourite place in Montenegro. ,0 +13824,My 3 trips to Morocco (on film). ,0 +13825,"The dragon is on the top of that hill. Ninh Binh, Vietnam. ",0 +13826,There's more to Bosnia than just Sarajevo and Mostar.... ,0 +13827,"I am in Longyearbyen, Svalbard, and the polar night just started. Next sunrise more than two months ahead. Not the best time to visit, to be honest.. ",0 +13828,"(Barcelona, Spain) Casa Mila La Pedrera. Another Gaudi masterpiece. ",0 +13829,"Belem Tower outside of Lisbon. Doesn't look like much from afar, but definitely worth a little exploration.. ",0 +13830,Road trip around the Scottish highlands. ,0 +13831,In Bruges - August 2020. ,0 +13832,Recent trip to Istanbul. Loved the city and its vibe. Add it to your list.. ,0 +13833,Had a lovely weekend in Chicago. ,0 +13834,Waterfalls on the Big Island of Hawaii. ,0 +13835,"Two weeks spent in Italy without much planning, turned out well for a first-time solo traveller!. ",0 +13836,Paris in May. ,0 +13837,"Campania, Italy 🇮🇹❤️😍Benevento and Sant'Agata de' Goti. ",0 +13838,Alicante November 2021. ,0 +13839,"Travel to American towns and cities is underrated. A few highlights from my trip to the historic triangle in Virginia (Williamsburg, Yorktown, Jamestown). ",0 +13840,"If you are planning to travel to Italy, I strongly recommend visiting Torino (Turin), imo one of the best and most underrated cities in the country!. ",0 +13841,Beautiful Granada (Spain) in September 2021 & March 2022. ,0 +13842,"I like Old Cities, Lahore's Walled City is a good one! June '22. ",0 +13843,My solo travel in Banff. ,0 +13844,"Boat Ride in The Nile passing by Philae Temple , Aswan, Egypt. ",0 +13845,Photos from my 1 moth trip around Europe this summer. ,0 +13846,"A Depressing Norwegian Cruise. A Depressing Norwegian Cruise + +Hello Everyone, + +I write this post again as the 150$ internet package I purchased aboard this ship decided to die and delete 2 hours worth of text, but I sincerely want to get this out there. Hopefully, this one actually gets uploaded. As per the title, this cruise has been nothing short of depressing. This is my second cruise and this one has been pretty awful. I'll explain the full extent of the pitfalls of cruising with Norwegian here in organized points for easier reading. Without further ado, let's begin. + +1) The Hidden Fees + +When you sign up for the cruise, the price you see is not what you pay. There are additional packages that they tack onto your stay like an open bar, specialty dining and whatnot, on top of port fees and a hidden service/gratuity fee that they conveniently have in the background away from your subtotal to charge you once your vacation reaches it's end. It's 16$ per person per night, so it'll get expensive very quickly. If you choose to opt out of the drinks, the entire package will fall through leaving you without any additional benefits even if you wanted to pay for those parts of the bundle. By the way, careful where you get your room, forward and aft ends of the ship rock way worse and can really ruin a trip. For this one, I am forward, two of my family are far aft and two are center. The center room is great but came with, you guessed it, another fee. The aft room shook so much from the propeller that the closet doors decided to play an improvised drum solo. The forward room rocks up and down a ton. I can safely say that I no longer fear earthquakes as I have practically lived a constant 8.0. + +2) Price Gated Activities + +They advertise go karts, spa days and even laser tag! But, how much of it is covered in your fare? Not much. In fact, almost none of it. Go Karts are pay per ride, laser tag is paid per round, photo services are paid, barbershop is practically a robbery with prices around 3x in a regular city(50$ plus gratuity for a men's basic cut!), spa is 75$ per day for the hot and cold rooms and 200$+ for any services, arcade is pay per play(there are like 15 games), milkshakes are paid, the bake shop is paid, starbucks, in room water, arcade machines on the side of the road and even the daily activities are rife with price tags. Even the casino's tables start at 25$ minimum bets. I was genuinely shocked at how much the cruise shoved a bill into my face. This was a family cruise, but I found it hard to find much to do with them without having to explain that we had to pay for this or that. It might not be a huge sum, but it just feels awful to feel like you're being milked like livestock for money. You end up feeling trapped on a vessel with entertainment options intentionally locked away to pressure you into spending. The cruise isn't cheap, the hell did you pay for? The opportunity to pay a premium? The problem isn't even the fact that activities are paid, it's that pricing is not easy to find before you embark. + +3) The Staff + +Some of the most awesome and unfortunate folks I've run into. They're hardworking, but paid under minimum wage as the cruise sails international waters and thus can avoid taxes and pesky labor laws. I have found myself feeling badly for them more than once as the cost of human expense seems so high for the enjoyment of others. They feel more like slaves at times as more than once I've eyed a manager hawking on a worker constantly. Hell, I tipped a waiter a meager 10$ and they seemed extremely grateful. It saddens me that this is the human condition we put others through. The gratuity fees are fine, but are often run through a gauntlet of taxes and fees thus the workers tend to end up with peanuts anyways. Given how much the cruise is money grubbing at every opportunity, seeing these folks struggle underneath them is like watching a real capitalistic dystopia in action before me. + +4) The Complimentary + +Of the 19 dining options, 14 are paid/specialty, and 5 are free. Of the 5, one stays open all the time, but has an unchanging and small menu. 3 of them share the same daily menu with varying levels of quality. The potatoes were dry, the meat was tough, but the desserts were pretty nice. No dress code unlike princess, but princess has leagues better food and menus. The last option is a buffet and the quality is similar to a regular old hometown buffet. There's the classic jello and softserve. Activity-wise, a lot of the activity list is just mentions of things opening. There are a few mentions of music options, a bunch of advertisements for smokes/alcohol/watches, a show or two, premium activities, and little events at the main atrium hub. Even some ""free"" activities ended up showing a ""with purchases"" subtext when I went there. There is not much substance in the activities list. The shows were... okay. The first one was an adaptation of SIX, it was alright aside from being hard to hear as the mics weren't the best. The singing was ear blastingly loud and the dialogue was super quiet and cut out often. The other was a Jersey Boys band but they kept interrupting the music to explain the history of the band, and the grandparents I came with fell asleep during the performance. The comedy club was packed to the extent where folks had to stand and I relinquished my seat to an elderly lady and trudged myself up to my small cabin. Turning on the TV greeted me with more ads for watches and a list of movies I could buy. Sigh. The whole thing is finished up by the shameful little bottles of water with their price tags and tiny text with more fees staring at me from the corner of the desk under the tv. The best free activities by far are just watching folks in their 60s attempt to twerk and relationships get strained in the odd happenings in the atrium. Not all of the things they do are free of course, bingo, lotto and deal or no deal are all paid as usual. Great. There are some lonely little activities like a couple of ping pong tables in the corner of the top deck, a tiny outdoor golf course and a water slide, but in freezing weather, the hot tub isn't getting used, let alone all of that. Apparently, others also did not want to spend a fortune in the casinos or premium services as they all congregated in a packed observation lounge. The best any time activity was to hit the observation deck as grabbing a snack and staring into the big blue and wondering where it went wrong is thankfully, still free. + +5) The Premium + +The vast majority of restaurants aboard are specialty dining. Prices are... Not discounted at all. Despite this, I had a single opportunity to eat at one of these places free of charge but, I was denied access to one of the restaurants because they had a dress code. A dress code that doesn't exist anywhere else on the ship and was advertised not to exist. I don't have a suit, so I can't dine there. There are many other options, but all of them require reservations, but the reservation line is always busy or just doesn't pick up. At this point, I'm about to give up and just sit at the buffet next to the family of 10. The drinks package doesn't come with any special drink container and the cups tend to be woefully small. The internet package.... I paid 150$ for it and it died trying to post this to reddit. That should tell you all you need to know. I have become zen with the amount of disappointment here, not even 2 hours of lost work can phase me. Lord knows I'm not about to drop hundreds on pictures, watches, haircuts or massages, so I can only wonder how good those are, but given my general experience... I can take a guess at how great those are. The people that paid extra for the upgraded drinks packages stick out as they're either passed out on deck or have ceased being able to speak coherently after trying to recoup their money on cheap booze and liquor. Fortunately, or perhaps unfortunately, I am not one of them. Excursions are generally expensive and also are just overshadowed with people travelling in stuffy busses getting to places. If you're looking for some privacy or away time, you're better off sitting in your cabins. + +6) The Hygiene and Population + +I really realized what folks meant when they said cruise ships are floating petri dishes. A lot of public places are packed and the poor ventilation means that the air gets stuffy very quickly. Facilities and tools like door handles, seats and serving tongs are greasy and warm from constant use. And yes, there are active cases of various illnesses on board. And no, there is no testing. The only real protection against C19 was a single piece of paper asking if you had a fever. I can recommend cruises if you want to update your immune system with the latest strains of well, pretty much everything. As for interaction, I'm a rather younger traveler so most passengers well above my age choose not to speak to me. However, the few short conversations I've had were pleasant, though fleeting. + +7) Silver Lining and Conclusion + +I really don't mean to sound like a downer or hater, but it's been hard to stay very positive when I feel like I'm human livestock being milked for everything I'm worth at every corner. It makes me wonder what the hell I paid for. So... What did I get? Well, if you want to eat and sleep without worrying about cleaning, cruising has that covered. It's nice to look out into the ocean, and there is some novelty to doing things out on the sea, but it's hard to feel much joy with how crushingly depressing the reality is. Being served by underpaid and stressed workers whilst being pelted by luxury watch ads and art auction advertisements just epitomizes the experience for me at this point. I went around asking folks what they were enjoying and pretty much the unanimous answer was eating, and drinking. The side activities are just... Okay. A lot of them seem to exist to just say, ""hey, look at me, I'm another thing that exists arbitrarily to make it seem like there's something to do!"" rather than existing as a standalone entity with substance if it doesn't cost another nickle and dime. Anything beyond the shows generally were just alright or were paid. + +Having written this whole thing twice, I probably left out some things and will update it tomorrow when I wake up. I chose to write this twice using my time on the ship, so you can really tell how much fun I'm having. I have one more shot to try their specialty dining for free, but I don't really care for it at this point. I feel badly for the family, as this was not what I wanted to put them through. + +Edit 1(1PM Last Day): Hoo Boy, that's a lot of comments. I wrote this in a stupor at 3 AM, but now that I'm awake, I'll start to elucidate some things and explain why some things came as surprises. This vacation was kind of a last second thing as my grandmother got sick suddenly and we wanted to do something nice for her. I had time to really know what I was doing on Princess, but was blindsided at how different Norwegian was. Sure, Princess had all those extra fee things as well, but it wasn't as in your face. Almost everything feels like an added fee! As for the shows, it was generally hard to understand what the performers were saying because of the mics and stereo locations/seating, so what little I made out was what I got. I took a look at the actual show on youtube and I assure you that I had no idea the show was meant to be like that. I think the main takeaway isn't that the shows themselves were bad perse, but organized and shortened in a way that both grandparents I brought slept through half of each. + +I'll make an added tl;dr here. Cruises aren't meant to be last second getaways, they require a lot planning and research. Not doing so will land you in this kind of situation even if you cruised before. Each line is different and your mileage varies massively between them. I don't mind folks being exasperated at this post, in fact, that's the whole point. It's a poorly spent vacation that I hope others can take away a thing or two from. I'll be spending my last day on the ship today, but I will answer some of the top posts and questions as I can. Thanks all :) + +Edit 2(5PM Last Day): Formatting and grammatical errors. + +Edit 3(7PM Last Day): I'm aware that the post came off as abrasive and nitpicky, but I wrote this in my stateroom after feeling upset and dejected at every corner. Sure, it was my mistake that the vacation wasn't ideal(the trip wasn't cheap, it was around 4.5K for a 5 day with 5 folks minus the packages). I won't change any of what I wrote even if it seems to contradict itself at points. It's been a disaster and I wrote it all in an angry half asleep stupor deep into the night. The packages I signed up for with the cruise consultant didn't get applied as expected and we only found out after boarding. No chance of getting them, and the fees seem to have gone through. No idea how I'm gonna go about fixing that. The consultant I signed up with didn't mention the final price wasn't with gratuity added which is why I was so upset about it. It was all over the phone. I apologize for sounding so emotional and entitled at points, but please try to overlook my mistakes as the anger was fresh and I may have not been too coherent. I definitely am responsible for my own failures, but I'm just hoping there may something to glean for others. Also, I will watch Six again today just to see if I can give a better review of it this time. + +Final Edit: After getting harassment and scary messages, I am deleting this reddit account, but will leave this post up as a warning for potential newbie cruisers. Have a good one reddit, I will be on shore soon and hopefully stay ashore. Better for the environment and my wallet.",0 +13847,Taking my car from Egypt > South Africa. Here are the pyramids of Egypt and the lesser known pyramids of Sudan. ,0 +13848,Been travelling for over 15 months - in Thailand currently and it’s my favourite place so far. Take a look. ,0 +13849,Colombia 2022. ,0 +13850,"Samaria Gorge in Crete, Greece in July. ",0 +13851,Paris at night from the Seine. ,0 +13852,Quick trip to Banff. ,0 +13853,"Do you also fear that someone will steal your stuff at the beach while you are in the water?. For me, I usually have a hard time enjoying my beach experience as I always fear that someone will steal my stuff while I’m in the water, playing, etc. I usually ask a stranger to guard my stuff, but does not feel ideal. Do you feel the same? How do you go about it?",0 +13854,"Just got fired from a job I put travel to the side for. Heading out for my first solo trip next week.. I use to get there 30 minutes early everyday. I use to work on the weekends. I use to spend some of my own money to purchase things for the company. I dealt with some of the rudest, incompetent, toxic and entitled people you can imagine. It started to wear on me and my manager noticed. I made the mistake of expressing this to him. It never stopped me from completing my tasks, but he still wasn’t satisfied. My manager fired me because he felt “my passion was gone”. + +I kept telling myself “Well, I’m 26. I can always travel later I guess.” This caused me to put my plans on hold to do things the “responsible” way. But now I’m done. I leave next Wednesday for a week to visit Merida, Mexico. I may go to Rio De Janeiro for a week after that. + +I’ll admit that I’m scared. Scared of being judged for doing something others see as irresponsible. Scared of feeling like I’m wasting my money. Scared of encountering danger. But I’m doing it. To all the people who have encouraged me in this sub, thank you. I’ve put my passions on hold long enough. It’s time to explore.",0 +13855,"Edinburgh, Scotland (from July 2022). ",0 +13856,Pictures from my Semester in Chile. ,0 +13857,"Last minute trip to British Columbia last week. Can’t say enough great things, happy to answer any questions.. ",0 +13858,"Recent trip to Venice, Italy 🇮🇹. ",0 +13859,Soufriere St. Lucia is a beautiful small town in the Caribbean. ,0 +13860,"[OC] A photo summary of my 8 days stay in Tokyo, Japan. ",0 +13861,A little bit of Brussels. ,0 +13862,"went to Prague. what an amazing city! friendly people, good food, easy to get around. cheaper than most Europe. 5 stars!. ",0 +13863,"[OC] Pacific Northwest, USA 2021. ",0 +13864,Surprise in Guatemala City: The airport powers down from 12 to 2am. If your late flight is delayed too much you sit in the dark until the power comes back on.. ,0 +13865,First time solo traveling in Costa Rica. What a beautiful country. ,0 +13866,"Cost Breakdown of 148 Days of Travel in Europe for $5,439.26. Hi! My girlfriend and I are from the USA and have been traveling for the past 148 days. Both of us have kept track of every $ spent! My hope in sharing this info is to show that you can travel to some amazing places on a tight budget! We each have a daily budget of $37.50 or $75 combined. This is just one person's spend and we split basically everything. + +I'd love to answer any questions about the budget/destinations/travel planning/etc. Any questions you may have feel free to ask or DM me. + +All numbers are in USD$. + +Some detail about the categories: + +Accommodation - Airbnb/Booking.com is our primary accommodation provider but we do stay in hostels \~30% of the time. + +Activities - Museums, Walking Tours, Castles, Bobsled Runs (Sigulda, Latvia is awesome btw), National Parks, etc. + +Coffee - This is just coffee from cafes. 90% of the time I drink horrible instant coffee at the accommodation. + +Food - Food/Water/Etc bought from Supermarkets/Convenience Stores/etc basically any food that wasn't ordered from a restaurant/bakery. + +Health - Travel Health Insurance, Toothpaste, Mouthwash, Soap, Shampoo, etc. + +Misc - This includes paying for bathrooms (ugh), Fees/Citations. + +Mobile Phone - I don't have a travel phone plan from the States. These are just SIM Cards. I do not buy a SIM card in each country. Moldova had the cheapest SIM at $1.19 for 100gb of data. + +Souvenir - I try to buy a magnet in each country (I have forgotten to buy it for at least half of the countries). + +Transportation(local) - Taxis/Uber/Local Bus/Trams/Marshrutkas + +Travel - This is anything that takes from one city or country to another. Ex. Bus from Slovakia to Croatia, Train from Mostar to Sarajevo in Bosnia & Herzegovina. Our flight from the USA to Estonia was paid for with points via American Airlines. After the points, we paid $35 each. It has been overland travel since then. + +Countries Visited: + +1. Estonia +2. Latvia +3. Lithuania +4. Poland +5. Czech Republic +6. Slovakia +7. Croatia +8. Bosnia & Herzegovina +9. Serbia +10. Romania +11. Moldova +12. Transnistria (Unrecognized Breakaway State within Moldova) +13. Bulgaria +14. North Macedonia + +Edit: Added info about our flight from USA to Europe. + +[Total Spent after 148 Days!](https://preview.redd.it/3izw5dkc96d91.png?width=1172&format=png&auto=webp&s=3732375f149f13ff116a3ef1dd2f38ae41f595c5)",0 +13867,"Backpacking Serbia, Wonderful Nature, beautiful landscapes. Btw I am in my thermal jacket and nike running shoes, no problem at all!. ",0 +13868,"alberta, canada - sept 2021. ",0 +13869,Beauties of Senegal🇸🇳. ,0 +13870,"Jetlag woke me up at 04:00 so I had no choice but to start my bike tour around Amsterdam by 5. The pros to waking up are I had the streets to myself, all taken in the historic canal area of Amsterdam, the Netherlands. ",0 +13871,"These colours! Nubian Village, Aswan, Egypt. ",0 +13872,Ephesus Ancient City. ,0 +13873,Amsterdam in the fall. Possibly the most beautiful city I’ve visited. ,0 +13874,Alberta and BC. ,0 +13875,The Philippines- my favorite place on earth 😊 can’t wait to go back 🇵🇭. ,0 +13876,Travelled overland from Jakarta to Banyuwangi (Java) in July for 10 days. These are my favourite 20 photos and my strongest recommendation is to use the train network.. ,0 +13877,Julian Alps - Slovenia & Italy. ,0 +13878,Visited Tuscany last November. ,0 +13879,"Close to the New Years I traveled to Serra da Estrela, which is home to Torre, 2.001m, the highest point in continental Portugal. It was a spectacular view. ",0 +13880,My first trip to Rio. ,0 +13881,"Trinity College, Dublin, Ireland 🇮🇪. ",0 +13882,"Croatia, Bosnia, Montenegro road trip. 7 days 1800km. ",0 +13883,"Looking for advice for a trip of a lifetime.. In 2020 my wife was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer. Shes been fighting the giid fight as long as she can but a few months ago she was deemed terminal. +We have 4 kids ages 12,16,18,19. +We are looking for one probably last trip as a family for spring break 2023 so my 19 year old doesnt miss any classes. + +We have a budget of 20k saved up (honestly Id go take out a loan for as much as I needed to make this perfect for her). +We looked at Europe but she and my 19 year old are not vaccinated so Im not sure they are allowing folks in. Plus I think by the time Spring Break comes she wont be healthy enough for a Europe trip. + +She is slowly but steadily declining in strength and endurance so I dont think alot of site seeing or walking adventures is in the cards. + +So now Im thinking a resort on an island in the Caribbean. A Super relaxing place to just be together as a family. Maybe even all inclusive so we dont have to worry about finding thr kids food of shes having a bad night. + +Ive only ever been to the Bahamas on a cruise so we are open to anywhere really. + +If you were trying to plan 1 last family vacation for the love of your life where would you go.",0 +13884,"Took a trip to Étretat, France after seeing a post here. Did not disappoint.. ",0 +13885,"Vietnam, absolutely fell in love with this country. ",0 +13886,Dubrovnik 5.30am.. ,0 +13887,"Sunset looking out over the Meteora monastery complex, Greece. ",0 +13888,"Our trip to the beautiful Croatia, Makarska region (july). ",0 +13889,"Gent, fairytale City. ",0 +13890,"I know it's cliche, but this is STILL one of my favorite places I've ever been, and it's WAY bigger than you expect. 6 shot panorama of Machu Picchu, Peru. [OC]. ",0 +13891,rural Thailand visit to Chaiyaphum. ,0 +13892,Just a few shots of my trip to Kyrgyzstan.. ,0 +13893,"One of the most beautiful cities I've ever seen - Kraków, Poland. Full of history and just so picturesque. I wonder what are your impressions if you've been there.. ",0 +13894,Cyprus 🇨🇾 (North and South) 2022. ,0 +13895,Some photos from my recent adventure to the Antarctic Peninsula. ,0 +13896,"When Australia was going through crazy lockdowns, I decided to see my own backyard! (Alice Springs/Whitsundays-August 2021). ",0 +13897,"Railay Beach, Thailand March 2022. ",0 +13898,"Lenno, Italy. ",0 +13899,"American Airlines Agents made a box to check my knife. I almost lost my nice pocket knife because I got in a hurry. I realized when I was 1/2 through the line in security I still had it in my pocket, instead of my checked bag. + +It’s a nice knife, I didn’t want to lose it. + +I left the line and went back to the check in counter. + +The people at American MADE me a box for my knife and checked it through for no charge. + +Be nice to these agents and they rock!",0 +13900,"My wish was to celebrate my 30th birthday in Morocco, two years later, my wish came true!. ",0 +13901,"Train Street, Hanoi. ",0 +13902,Just came back from southern Siberia (again) - Kyzyl & Hakassia. ,0 +13903,A Week in Singapore (August 2022). ,0 +13904,Chicago will forever be one of my favorite U.S. cities to visit (June 2021). ,0 +13905,Went to the lesser-known parts of Jordan. At the heart of a desert wasteland lies a stoneh paradise. (Near Petra). ,0 +13906,Amsterdam during lockdown. ,0 +13907,"A week in Namibia, 2022. ",0 +13908,"San Blas Islands, Panama (February 2022). ",0 +13909,"Taghazout, the fishing village turned into a surfing village due to tourism. Morocco, 2019. ",0 +13910,Some pics from a recent trip to the Dolomites. ,0 +13911,"Copenhagen, you were wonderful!. ",0 +13912,Bosnia & Herzegovina winter trip.. ,0 +13913,Peru Oct 2022. ,0 +13914,Cambodia is stunning and empty. ,0 +13915,Barcelona. ,0 +13916,A visit to Montreal’s Orange Julep restaurant devolves into chaos (captured on 35mm film). ,0 +13917,Spending winter in Curaçao. ,0 +13918,"Don't book with Expedia, ever. I booked a car rental with Expedia. When I arrived at the Kiosk, they told me they had given away my car and didn't have a replacement. I asked for a refund of the $352 I had paid and was told to talk to Expedia. I missed an important meeting and spent $400 on Uber rides. I made three lengthy phone calls with Expedia and got the runaround. I contacted Expedia online, and they told me the Car Rental company refused to refund my money, and there wasn't anything they could do. Expedia are thieves and you take a risk booking with them. There are so many better companies.",0 +13919,Winter in Slovenia (Dec 2021). ,0 +13920,I lived in Europe for a year. ,0 +13921,"When flying to an island close to the North Pole, get a window seat on the right side of the plane.. ",0 +13922,"Been living in Japan for more than 2 years, enjoy a piece of my travels. ",0 +13923,"Spent a week in Paris with my wife, February 2022. Some of my highlights.. ",0 +13924,"San Francisco, April 2022. ",0 +13925,"My friend ticks countries off, even when it’s just a layover.. My friend ticks countries off as visited even if it’s just a layover. I think it’s weird. You haven’t seen anything apart from the airport. + +Does anyone else do that? + + +Seem to have touched a few peoples nerves with this post 😆 I’m not mad, I just personally found it odd and curious how others view layovers :)",0 +13926,"Petra backdoor route • November 22. Saved some from my Instagram stories since I’m still organizing the photos from this trip. Highly recommend you take 2 days for Petra: 1st day you walk from the main entrance to The Treasure and take some time there, explore a little further… and leave the heavy walk to the second day starting early from Little Petra / Backdoor entrance to the Monastery.",0 +13927,A weekend in Belgium [OC]. ,0 +13928,"Early December, one of the prettiest trips I’ve been on! Levi, Lapland, Finland. ",0 +13929,I recently visited Prague for the first time. ,0 +13930,Favorite photos from Peru. ,0 +13931,"Bangkok left me breathless. It's intense, loud, fast, sometimes smelly... but how fascinating! What's your impression from there?. ",0 +13932,"Copenhagen Denmark, October 2022🇩🇰. ",0 +13933,"Galapagos Islands (Island Hopping, No Cruise). ",0 +13934,A Journey into Petra. ,0 +13935,Vancouver is a fun place to visit.. ,0 +13936,Have you been to the Maroon Bells in Colorado? It’s breathtaking! Pictures don’t do it justice... ,0 +13937,"Pictures of my trip to the Middle Rhine Valley, Germany. ",0 +13938,"Positano, my favorite place! I did a little road trip in Italy a couple years ago, and I got to visit Cinque Terre and Positano. Such a beautiful place. ",0 +13939,Seychelles 2021 🇸🇨. ,0 +13940,"Today in Annecy, France. ",0 +13941,50 hours / 860 kilometers road trip in Norway last weekend; Oslo - west coast return.. ,0 +13942,Hong Kong. ,0 +13943,Recently traveled to the Peña Palace and Moorish Castle just outside of Lisbon. The fog was intense!. ,0 +13944,"Hallstatt, Austria. ",0 +13945,"Some pics of Tepotzlán, a mountain/hippy town about 90 minutes outside of Mexico City. ",0 +13946,"Positano, Italy is a beautiful destination…. ",0 +13947,"What is your favorite city in the world? I left my heart and soul in Saint Petersburg, Russia. I spent a total of 2 months there over the years and I love this city for its good and its bad. I will probably never move to Russia but I know I will keep going back. Do you have a place/city like that?. ",0 +13948,A trip to Isla Mujeres. ,0 +13949,Yosemite x Kings Canyon. ,0 +13950,Jordan is a must see in your lifetime!. ,0 +13951,For those of you who misses Istanbul.. ,0 +13952,A few of my top travel pictures from 2017 all taken on a Samsung Galaxy S7. Cant wait to to get overseas again.. ,0 +13953,Highlights from my first trip to Iceland. ,0 +13954,"Is anyone else beyond frustrated with airlines?. Same as everyone else here, I love to travel. Pre-pandemic or financial crisis or whatever- things were MUCH easier. Now I feel like I'm getting hit with even more fees with airlines (I know oftentimes these are country-based taxes) and now paying for a checked bag even internationally with nicer airlines? Why do I need 3 options for economy?! I remember I used to go on sky scanner and the price that was presented was the price I paid. A flight I wanted to book came up as $600 and with all the fees and 1 checked bag - it was $950?! I try to follow every travel hack I find, but I just find no good flights anymore. Anyone else struggling with how travel in regards to airfare has changed??",0 +13955,"If I could snap my fingers and move to any city in the world, it would be Mexico City.. ",0 +13956,Today in Istanbul - 18 February 2022. ,0 +13957,"What city have you travelled to you that really surprised you.. Like the title says. What city have you travelled to that really surprised you. Good or bad. + +I've been to many cities across Canada and the U.S, but one really surprised me, even though people have told me and my wife many times that we should go, after all it is only a 5 hour drive from where we live near London, Ontario, Canada. + +So on June 7h 2019 in the spur of the moment, we travelled to **Chicago**. Our toddler aged daughter was spending a few weeks up at my in law's cottage. We were going to join her soon but we had 2 full weeks to ourselves so for the weekend we booked the Hilton in Chicago and planned on walking as much of it as we could, and literally used recommendations and our drive to plan it out. When we arrived at the Hilton hotel, it was quite late around 10pm since we both drove after work. So went to a bar for a surprisingly great meal spur of the moment. The next day, we set off. + +Honestly, if you've never been, do it some day! The people there were fantastic, the food was epic, and architectural boat tour was great. We walked over 15 miles on foot to all the different things we wanted to see, and to our surprise Jazzfest was on for free in Chicago. It actually costs quite a bit to attend in the Canadian cities I've lived in, so that in itself was a treat. + +After a long day, we made our way to Wrigley Field for an evening Cubs game. Bucket list item checked! It was so much better than I hoped for, and the locals that were season ticket holders learned came from Canada and were so friendly. We traded stories with a few couples randomly, and best of all the Cubs won one of the best games I've ever seen, in an amazing park that has to be experienced. + +I'm not writer. If you've read my ramblings this long, thanks!? + +Our view in Wrigley Field. + +They smashed the Cardinals that day. + +Look up the game recap on Youtube. Cubs vs Cardinals June 8 2019. + +https://preview.redd.it/njtudmtlpz981.jpg?width=4608&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4a24ae3a288f20536dde15ea5504d171f2512074",0 +13958,"Etiquette around reclining your seat on flights.. Long haul flight from Singapore to Athens. Recline my seat to sleep (flight departed at 2:00am). Man behind me wakes me up and is quite pissed I’ve done this. + +I’m relatively new to travelling, and I have no idea if I am in the wrong here. I’ve found mixed thoughts online. Was I rude for reclining my seat?",0 +13959,"First time I got explore Seattle, WA. ",0 +13960,Angkor Temples Vol. 1: Ta Prohm and Ta Som. ,0 +13961,Some shots from our Portugal road trip. ,0 +13962,"Finally got to my #1 bucket list destination, Machu Picchu!. ",0 +13963,"Highlights from my recent trip to Hawaii (Oahu, Kauai, Big Island). ",0 +13964,"REALITY CHECK: Morocco and general traveling. So most of us have seem them this week, threads expressing disgust for the country that is Morocco. Most recent one being [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/travel/comments/z1cbyf/visited_morocco_the_people_really_let_me_down/) \- I've never seen so many uneducated, small minded comments in a thread on r/travel. And look at all the karma and awards being thrown around in return. + +I'm now seeing posts and comments of people who had planned to visit Morocco, but feel they need to change plans ([eg](https://www.reddit.com/r/travel/comments/z2083j/planned_to_go_to_morocco_but_now_thinking_about/)). + +As someone who loves Morocco, and has explored it, I want to discuss a few things in as little words as possible. + +**Morocco is considered a third world country.** Let that sink in. People are poor, people are desperate, but they're doing their best. With COVID and other such things, the country is suffering even more. + +If you booked a honeymoon there with a nice hotel, or you booked a tour guide, you're obviously going to have a trouble-free time. But most of you want to visit and walk around solo, which isn't a problem, but it DOES come with the drawbacks of walking solo around a highly religious, third world country. + +Any person doing the smallest bit of research will see what to expect when you land in Marrakech. Many have an exotic dream about this city, but the reality is, its inhabitants rely on tourists. You can enjoy the city, no doubt, but you will be pestered. After Marrakech, I decided to leave and head to the coast. I spent the rest of my time simply travelling South. The less touristy, the less trouble (shocking right?). + +Along the way I met amazing people and had some of the best experiences of my life. + +YES, people will bother you. YES, people will try and get as much money as they can out of you, because YES, they are poor and desperate for money. If you don't have the ability to firmly tell someone to leave you alone, or refuse to pay extra, then you SHOULD NOT visit Morocco. Part of the enjoyment of Morocco is experiencing the above. I can assure you that after a few days, you will be handling people easily. + +For example, when taking a taxi, I confirmed the location and cost BEFORE leaving. The driver literally tried to pall a fast one, but because I out right refused to budge, he dropped it. If someone at a restaurant tries to charge you more, out right refuse. Which brings me onto my next point. + +Let me assure you, if you haven't broken the law, the police will be on your side - In 2021, the tourism sector in Morocco contributed around nine billion U.S. dollars to the country's GDP. If someone is crossing the line with you, locals and authorities won't tolerate it. They are desperate for you to visit. + +This beautiful country has a population of over 37 million people!! For so many of you to spread such ignorant onions as facts is simply wrong. + +I will finish this post off by saying two Moroccan's saved my life. Very long story short, I have a peanut allergy. I hiked into the middle of nowhere, ate a stupid strudel, went into anaphylactic shock, and was CARRIED by strangers. Finally taken to hospital by taxi (no ambulances), I was saved. + +For a community which is meant to be open, r/travel is an embarrassment. + +COMMENCE DOWNVOTES + +edit: some great points on both sides, what an amazing resource Reddit is. Makes me wonder how famous people deal with this on a massive scale, every hour of the day.",0 +13965,My favourite 35mm pictures from Korea!. ,0 +13966,Packaged tour my dad attended in 1983 for about 300$. ,0 +13967,"Let's say you 30 and thinking about dropping it all to travel for a few years, yay or nay?. Currently 30 with around $40,000 in my savings. Thinking about dropping my walmart job and going traveling for a few years. Was thinking of using around $10,000 to $15,000 a year and saving $10,000 for a nest egg when I get back. Was thinking of doing cheaper places like south east Asia, eastern Europe, and south America. Anyone have experience doing it? Did you regret it, or did you regret not doing it? Might try to start a youtube to try and fund more traveling(I know it's oversaturated and I'm sorry lol). I just am so tired of the same God dam thing everyday waking up to the depressing news, going to a depressing retail job, going home to play video games and watch anime until I collapse from exhaustion and the doing it all over again. Figure this would be a once in a life time trip I'm in a decent age where u still have time ti start a family if I want when I get back. I'm not educated so I can't get a good job any way and figure when else in my life will I have the money and the time ya know? It's literally either this or I'm joining the air force lol. So yeah I'd love to hear anyone's thoughts on this whether or not it agrees with me!",0 +13968,Rainy November Vilnius 2022. ,0 +13969,"Varenna, Lucerne, Grindelwald. ",0 +13970,Southern Italy 2022. ,0 +13971,"Couple days in Algonquin Provincial Park, Ontario, Canada. Magnificent fall colors, during the Thanksgiving break.",0 +13972,"Golden Temple - Punjab, India - October 2022. ",0 +13973,"Ile de La Réunion, an African island not so popular outside France. If your colour is green, you can’t miss it.. ",0 +13974,Quick morning walk in Copenhagen. ,0 +13975,"Soportújar is a witch themed town on top of a mountain in Malaga, Spain.. ",0 +13976,"The city of San Jose del Cabo in Los Cabos, Mexico, was a surprise and a delight, especially at dusk. Great for strolling, and a nice place to have dinner if you're visiting Cabo.. ",0 +13977,Amazing Week in Dolomites / Italy. ,0 +13978,Copenhagen visit in July 2021 - my 1st Europe experience 😍. ,0 +13979,Photo Series - Whenever I am in a city for business travel I go out after midnight to take some photos. ,0 +13980,"Mid 30s, travelling for the first time since before the pandemic, and learning some hard truths about getting older. Feeling really down because it has been more exhausting than fun and travelling was the only thing that bought colour to my life. How can I keep my enjoyment of travelling?. I'm mid 30s and currently on my first big trip since before the pandemic with some PTO I was told to use or lose by the end of the year as I built up so much with closed borders. I'm from Australia, went to Europe for 3 weeks and am in East Asia for a 10 days as a stopover before going home and am really noticing the difference between my early and mid 30s and am feeling really....pessimistic about what this means for the future since travelling is pretty much the only thing that brings colour to my life. + +1. I'm literally too old for economy. Gone at the days where I could sleep in the tiny amount of economy space you get, and I felt the consequences of being crammed into that tiny seat for about a week afterwards. I've woken up with the biggest pain in my neck today and exhaustion from barely sleeping doing Athens to Tokyo. I'm going to have to shell out for business class next time, but flight prices are crazy right now and it doesn't look like they will recover any time soon. + +2. I'm so......tired. I used to be able to spend 15 hours out doing things and only went home because public transport was about to stop running and I didn't want to pay for a $50+ cab ride home. Now I'm exhausted after just a few hours. I used to be able to sleep 4-5 hours and as long as I had one day in a week where I knocked out for a full 10 hours, it was fine, but not now. I sleep 10 hours a night after a big day. I never needed days where I did nothing either, now I do, and I feel like I'm wasting my time. I'm going to need another nap soon and then do barely anything today, and feel like I'm wasting the day, and I will want this day back in the future when I'm back behind my desk living my dull wage slave life. + +3. Related, I find myself wishing I could have broken my trip up into smaller trips because of the exhaustion, but I'm Australian and it's just not an option with how long it takes it get anywhere and how much you pay for the flight. I almost *regret* adding Japan and Korea onto Europe because I'm exhausted, but if I booked them separately, it would have been a whole new set of flights. + +4. It's harder to find people my own age who want to meet up because they are all busy with partners and children and are no longer keen to hang out with a random they met in a bar last night or from the internet or an app. I'm too old to hang with 22 year olds because they have the energy I don't. + +I don't know where I'm going with this but I'm just sad. If I feel this exhausted and run down from a trip that would have been no problem for me 5 years ago, how am I going to feel when I'm 50? Are my travel days winding down? What can I do to maintain my enjoyment of travelling even as my body ages?",0 +13981,Hallstatt (Austria) ~2022. ,0 +13982,"Devon, England: A real life fairytale. ",0 +13983,Some pictures from my visit to Lebanon last month.. ,0 +13984,First time in Yosemite National Park. ,0 +13985,Salzburg in August.. ,0 +13986,"Cochin, Germany. Beautiful wine country in a deep river valley complete with a gorgeous castle.. ",0 +13987,My time in Peru & Machu Picchu. ,0 +13988,"I've had hamburgers in Hamburg, Viennas in Vienna, French fries in France and Danishes in Denmark... what's left?. I travel a lot for work and every time I go some place I look for quirky things to do like eating namesake. And yes I know it's not culturally correctly. Hamburgers have nothing to do with Hamberg but... What else can I try? + +Edit- TIL about the origin of hamburgers",0 +13989,Recent pictures from my trip to Libya in February 2022. ,0 +13990,Sri Lanka is travel nirvana.. ,0 +13991,Beautiful Switzerland. ,0 +13992,"Kerala, India. Travelled there in the summer. Lots of greenery, many historical sites, lovely place all around.. ",0 +13993,"My favorite shots from Budapest. I really wish I would have gone back to the Parliament building and spent more time around there, especially at night.. ",0 +13994,5 weeks around Colombia. ,0 +13995,"Étretat, France. Gem in Normandy. Can see why Monet drew so much inspiration from here.",0 +13996,"Tuscany, April 2022. ",0 +13997,Took a road trip to Northern BC and the Burnie Glacier in the Howson Range. ,0 +13998,"Honister Pass & Buttermere, Lake District. ",0 +13999,"Recent trip to Madrid. I loved the city! If you’re questioning on whether or not you should go, do it!. ",0 +14000,Two weeks in Spain highlights. ,0 +14001,Some pics from my first 40 day SOLO KAYAK trip . Vancouver to Port Hardy .. ,0 +14002,Madeira is way better than I ever imagined🇵🇹. ,0 +14003,Marseille; the city that feels rough but looks lovely 🥖🇫🇷. ,0 +14004,Fontainebleau is underrated!. We went to Fontainebleau castle and I loved it a lot more than Versailles. The castle itself was gigantic and they showed several art exhibits. The garden was huge and free to visit.,0 +14005,Christmas in Portugal are beautiful.. ,0 +14006,Northern Ireland is beautiful. ,0 +14007,Went to the Faroe Islands to help my friend get engaged!. ,0 +14008,Iceland December 2021! :). ,0 +14009,Rome ❤️ such a beautiful city with tons of history.. ,0 +14010,Couple of pictures from my trip to Puerto Rico 🇵🇷. ,0 +14011,"I ride to Bhimbetka rock shelters in Madhya pradesh, India. The first homo Sapiens in South Asia lived here. Drew on the walls and the drawing still exists.. ",0 +14012,"Hernan Cortes’ House&Ceiba, Veracruz, Mexico. ",0 +14013,Trip to Puerto Rico. ,0 +14014,"some days spent in Belgrade, Serbia, the pictures don't do it justice, will return in November. ",0 +14015,My last trip in Sofia (Bulgaria). ,0 +14016,"Afraid to travel to the USA. Hi, please don't laugh at me or make fun for this question. I would really like to travel and explore the nature in the USA, but i am really afraid to go there. Let me explain why: +I live in the Netherlands and really like to travel, I have been in many european countries and absolutly love it there, a friend suggested that i should maybe travel to the USA and explore the nature there, like the grand canyon. I brought this up to other friends, and they all say I shouldn't go and gave a few examples like gun violence, racism (going into the wrong neighbourhood gets you killed) and police that are too agressive. Is this really a big issue? How would I plan a safe trip? Is this a thing that we only see the negatives on the news and not the good things? or is it this a real concern for a tourist? + +Keep in mind none of us have been there before, hence my question on reddit to ask other europeans and the americans who live there. + +Update: Thank you all so much for your replies, it made me feel a lot better about traveling to the US. Some nice Americans even send me pm's saying that if I need help or have questions, I can ask them directly!",0 +14017,"With which city/country do you have a love-hate relationship? It's Naples for me. I love the streets, the food, the views, the people! I hate the chaos, noise and trash though - one of the first things I saw was a fridge dumped in the street. And a rat :o I loved it but I didn't at the same time!. ",0 +14018,"One night in Zurich, Switzerland. ",0 +14019,Some awesome hiking in the Sacred Valley of Peru. ,0 +14020,"Took a hiking trip to Zhangjiajie (Hunan, China) a while back. Famously known as the mountains from James Cameron’s Avatar, these are some of my favorite pics from the trip.. ",0 +14021,I just do not understand the sociology of people boarding planes. Absolutely wild.. ,0 +14022,Autumn in Polish mountains at its best :). ,0 +14023,Switzerland. ,0 +14024,Yemen 2021. ,0 +14025,Iceland last week - Keflavik to Skaftafell to Þingvellir in 8 days. ,0 +14026,"Wank, Garmisch-Partenkirchen, Bavaria. ",0 +14027,The fairy chimneys of Goreme 🇹🇷. ,0 +14028,Walked for a couple hours along the Cliffs of Moher in Ireland during my first visit to the country (was amazing). ,0 +14029,"A few shots from Ogunquit, ME. ",0 +14030,"Recently I visited Gdańsk, Poland for a weekend. It is such a charming city! I think it should be more popular among international tourists (who often visit Warsaw and Kraków and skip the seaside). Totally recommended!. ",0 +14031,"Grand Teton National Park vacation last May (Wyoming, USA). ",0 +14032,"Some shots from the Ha Giang Motorbike Loop, North Vietnam. ",0 +14033,Venice is a dream.. ,0 +14034,"Český Krumlov, Czech Republic. very beautiful town. I love this place, made alot of memories here🥲. ",0 +14035,"2 nights / 1 day in the rain forest of Gunung Leuser National Park (started in Bukit Lawang) on Sumatra, Indonesia. Saw maybe 1% of the complete jungle, had to hike up and down hills using lians to pull us up and were so lucky to see 5 mature urang utans and 2 young ones. Amazing experience.. ",0 +14036,A week and a half well spent in The Netherlands.. ,0 +14037,"No More Housekeeping. As more and more hotels move to “request only” service, I’m finding that I prefer it. No more dodging the maid’s visit, no putting things away before leaving the room. Just “if I need you, I’ll let you know”. How does everyone else feel about it?",0 +14038,"Where can an American go to get the largest culture shock?. I am an American interested in visiting more countries where western, really specifically US culture and ideology has not taken hold or had much of an influence. I like the culture shock experience and am looking to travel somewhere that resembles home in the least ways possible",0 +14039,Donostia-San Sebastián. ,0 +14040,Mykonos Greece. This place is amazing. ,0 +14041,Cape Town 2019. ,0 +14042,"Why the people start quickly packing and then stand in plane hallway after landing?. I just don't get it. Plane landed, we're parked and already bunch of people stand in the hallway, with all their hand luggage and wait for like 5-10 minutes just to get out. Like, does it matter? The luggage will start to appear on the luggage line probably after everyone gets off the plane, it's not gonna magically disappear nor someone will probs take it by mistake. + +It kinda makes me annoyed, especially when there are people, who have a short transfer time and these people have to wait, bc those who have actually more time, just take up the space. + +Can just someone tell me, why people do that?",0 +14043,Sharing a New Orleans / NOLA guide I just put together for my trip. Hope it helps someone else!. ,0 +14044,Naples is Something Else. Amazing.. ,0 +14045,"Milos, Greece is sooo worth the visit!. ",0 +14046,Cinque Terre. ,0 +14047,"Charms with healing wounds : Belfast, UK. ",0 +14048,The Matterhorn is beautiful in autumn!. ,0 +14049,"Recently took a trip to both Alaska & Hawaii, and in doing so have visited every US State by the age of 25! Here’s my favorite picture from each state!. ",0 +14050,"San Francisco, CA (February 2022). ",0 +14051,Naxos Old Town - The charming surprise of my recent Greece trip. ,0 +14052,Some pictures I made yesterday/today while being on vacation in Lisbon. The streets were almost empty because its Christmas.. ,0 +14053,"Havana, Cuba. ",0 +14054,"Annecy, France, in August.. ",0 +14055,"Cute village in Saint-Paul-de-Vence, Southern France. ",0 +14056,"Kyrgyzstan is a country in Central Asia. It is called the second Switzerland, as there are very beautiful mountains in Kyrgyzstan. I live in this country and I want to tell you about its nature, life and culture.. ",0 +14057,"Some highlights of my trip to Lake Como in Italy. Best trip I had in recent memory… 100% recommend. + +I have more photos on my instagram if you want to check them out: @famsph",0 +14058,Honeymoon to Curaçao. ,0 +14059,Why do Parisians have a reputation for being rude? I just got back from there and for the most part I thought everyone was pretty cordial.. I didn't encounter anyone that was exceptionally rude. FWIW my French is pretty limited and slow but I did attempt to use it when possible.,0 +14060,"Oia, Santorini, Greece. ",0 +14061,"Seville, Spain (and the mosque-cathedral in Cordoba); hard to narrow down the camera roll to just these, the colors were amazing. ",0 +14062,"Some shots from Puerto Rico last week, Isla del Encanto. ",0 +14063,Ireland April 2022. The Emerald Isle is beautiful in spring.. ,0 +14064,"I’m tired of the stupid liquid limit in US for air travel. Does it even do anything?. I can bring 10 small bottles of 3 ounce liquids and an empty gallon bottle. But somehow, it’s a big problem if I bring a 4 ounce liquid bottle that is 90% empty. + +I tried reading up on it but all everyone says is “critical diameter” theory as if you can’t purchase a large bottle inside the airport past security to bring it on to the plane. I refuse to believe the people making these rules are as dumb as these journalists. What’s the real reason for this limit?",0 +14065,"Metz, the French Northeast.. ",0 +14066,Rio is just breathtaking. My first time traveling while working online. Can’t wait to do it again! (Rio de Janeiro - August). ,0 +14067,"Lost luggage found 3 hours later…. …because someone found it unattended in a parking lot outside the airport. Turns out someone took my luggage from the carousel and, when they discovered it wasn’t theirs, just left it for someone else to find. Like, wtf? I needlessly worried for hours because you couldn’t be bothered to return it? + +Shout out to the person who found it and went out of their way to correct things. Happy to know there are some good people out there. + +End vent.",0 +14068,"Chefchaouen, Morocco. A city in my fav color.. ",0 +14069,El Salvador - a hidden gem in Central America. ,0 +14070,"Bull Rock, Ireland. Everyone said visit the Skelligs a little north, but if you travel the skinny back roads you can take a boat trip to circle the smaller lighthouse islands",0 +14071,My 2020 trip to the Amalfi Coast. ,0 +14072,San Francisco solo trip. Expensive few days but worth it. ,0 +14073,First time to Nepal my new favorite spot. ,0 +14074,"Zion National Park, Utah, USA (2019). ",0 +14075,"Madrid, Spain. ",0 +14076,Everyone should visit tuscony once.... ,0 +14077,"Loved the energy of Istanbul, cannot wait to go back someday. ",0 +14078,"Manali En Route Rohtang Pass, Himachal Pradesh, India.. ",0 +14079,A few pictures from my current Portugal trip. ,0 +14080,Egypt Spring 2022. ,0 +14081,Oop! This little shit crossed my peripheral vision as I was about to sleep at my hostel. Bedbug?. ,0 +14082,Took these cool pics of Machu Picchu after my 4 day trek there. ,0 +14083,"Was in Venice for the weekend, absolutely stunning city 🇮🇹. ",0 +14084,Prague anniversary trip October 2022. ,0 +14085,"My trip to Peniche, Portugal in April 2022. The most stunning natural beauty I’ve ever seen.. ",0 +14086,10 days in Thailand. ,0 +14087,Spent 5 Days in Chilean Patagonia (near Valle Chacabuco) - Highly Recommend!. ,0 +14088,"Does anyone else feel guilty about traveling and talking about it to friends/family?. Partner and I are in our 30s. We are basically DINKs (dual income no kids) and planning to stay this way. We have generous time off so we usually do 1-2 international trips a year +/- some smaller trips and weekend getaways. Traveling is my passion and partner is supportive of it and comes along for the ride. However our close friends and partner's family don't travel as much or simply don't like to. I don't like bringing it up usually as to not look like I am bragging. But I feel like no one asks about our trips or don't seem interested when they do ask and we tell them. + +Recently I have also been feeling more guilty (with inflation going up and rising costs for everything) so I am definitely leaning more on not sharing our travel stories. I understand partner and I are in a unique position and we are grateful for the lifestyle we have. But sometimes I do wish we had close friends with the same lifestyle and passion for traveling as us so we could travel together or share stories. + + Anyone else in the same boat as us? + +*** + +Edit: Wow, didn't expect this thread to explode and to see all these comments! Don't have time to reply individually, but thank you for everyone's insights and advice. We will definitely continue to travel. And we definitely will only share with those who have expressed a interest. Very true that our travel stories and memories are most important to us anyways and not to anyone else :) + +To our fellow avid travellers - happy traveling and can't wait to see photos in this subreddit. And to those who want to travel but not able to currently - hoping you will get the opportunity to soon, even if it's just a trip to somewhere nearby. Gotta start somewhere!",0 +14089,"A stroll through Peshawar, Pakistan (November 2021). ",0 +14090,"Smithers, BC to the floating Khutzeymateen Wilderness Lodge on the edge of the K'tzim-A-Deen Grizzly Sanctuary where we were able to kayak just a few feet from the bears. ",0 +14091,"A few shots from Oaxaca, my favorite city in Mexico! I traveled around the country for 3 weeks and this place stole my heart. So lively, colorful, full of music, crafts, and hand-made items. Great chocolate, coffee, and mezcal. Absolutely loved it!. ",0 +14092,"London, June 2022. ",0 +14093,Thailand travel October-November 2022. ,0 +14094,"Some images of Porto, Portugal I grabbed this weekend! Beautiful city, even better wine (and the best hangover food ever created, francesinhas). ",0 +14095,"Our trip to Brussels, Belgium Nov 2022. ",0 +14096,My city break to Nice and Monaco. Especially Nice is a pearl of the Côte d'Azur.. ,0 +14097,"A 4-day trip in Budapest, Hungary. ",0 +14098,"Some pictures of my travels this year, locations in captions. ",0 +14099,"I figured out how to break up large bills in Europe. A few weeks ago when I was traveling in Barcelona, I asked on r/travel if there was a good way to break up notes larger than 50 euros. Banks typically won’t do this for you if you’re not a customer, and I was trying to avoid dropping a large bill on a shopkeeper or buying something unnecessary. (Plus, at least three time traveling through Europe, a cashier has intentionally tried to short-change me when I used a larger bill, so the closer I can pay with exact change the better.) + +Reddit being Reddit, I got a bunch of replies not answering my question, and instead Reddit-splaining “tHiS iS hOw MoNey WorKs”; I got cranky and downvoted into oblivion, and never got an answer. + +Good news, I figured it out on my own, so posting it for posterity: + +1. Visit a casino in town, if there is one (in my case, I went to Casino Barcelona). This typically requires just presenting a passport or other ID. +2*. Win a poker tournament and cash out for 1750 EUR (*this step is optional) +3. The casino has an automatic bill breaker machine you can use; it will change large notes into any denominations you request, no questions asked. + +Et voila, problem solved! You don’t have to spend anything or gamble at all, that’s all optional; you can break your larger bills and head for the exit. (But if you do gamble and win, you get to experience the rest of the trip as if it were the shopping round on an old Wheel of Fortune episode. Now to figure out how to pack a bunch of life-size ceramic Dalmatians….)",0 +14100,"Avis is charging me $450 for ""lost"" car keys that were left in the car. I rented a car at SFO airport 3 weeks ago. Because there were too many people returning cars at the same time, a worker just directed traffic for where to park and said to leave the keys in the car. No one was available to check the cars back in, provide receipt, etc. so everyone returning their cars did the same thing. I'm usually pretty careful so I walk around taking pictures of the car in case they say there's damage somewhere. + +Now 3 weeks later, they're charging me $450 dollars + tax for ""key replacement"". I know the keys were left in the car in the cupholder (same place I found them when I picked up the car), but I didn't take a picture of that. The call center reps are telling me that I need to contact the SFO branch, but I can't get a hold of anyone there via phone because all options route me back to the call center. They then suggest that I go to the counter...I live in LA. + +I just don't know what to do besides opening a credit card dispute, but, because I don't have a picture of the keys in the car, I don't know how helpful that would be. My only other thought is to get surveillance footage, but I can't get a hold of anyone at the SFO branch. Anyone had a similar issue or got any advice? Does everyone take pictures of the keys inside the car and I'm just a novice for not doing that? Thanks in advance. + +tldr: Avis is charging me $450 for lost keys that were placed in the center cupholder of the car. I don't know how to argue that it was in there.",0 +14101,A day out in Singapore. ,0 +14102,Traveled to Malaysia to visit my grandparents for the first time in 13 years. The country developed quite a bit since then and it’s really beautiful!. ,0 +14103,Pictures from my trip to the swiss alps and Italy. ,0 +14104,Took a trip to Costa Rica in the midst of Covid and came back with some of my favorite photos I've ever taken.. ,0 +14105,"Looking out airplane windows?. Why does nobody look out airplane windows? Is it considered rude to do so? Does it disturb others? + + I really enjoy the view from way up, looking at the clouds and sky. It’s not everyday that you see stuff like that. Maybe it’s because I only usually fly once every year, but I could just stare out there for hours.",0 +14106,18 days in Brazil. ,0 +14107,"I must admit, my expectations for Iceland were ridiculously high, and yet they were still far exceeded. What a magical place 🇮🇸. ",0 +14108,Visited my roots in El Salvador October 2022. ,0 +14109,"Would you be willing to fly on an airline that allows pets in the cabin?. Context, this is originally based off of a post in r/dogs talking about the want/need for flights that don’t force pets into cargo where it can be very dangerous even life threatening. + +There have been arguments of course for an against pets in cargo but most people against are saying there just isn’t demand and only pet obsessed people would use it. Which is why I turned to this sub. You people who love to travel, how would you feel about a flight like this? + +I envision the plane being half seats and half kennels. Seats are very economy priced, with kennels being a bit pricier. The kennels have auto locks after boarding that can only be disabled by flight crew before disembarking. There could be dogs, cats, or small animals in the kennels but proof of vaccination would be required. There is no way for animals to be loose in the cabin during flight with the auto locking kennel doors. Pet owners can visit their pets in the back of the plane as they wish but the kennel doors can’t open. Human seats are discounted for having to deal with animal noise, so it’s a way to travel super cheap if you don’t have pets as long as you’re willing to deal with them on the flight. + +Thoughts?",0 +14110,A few images from Portugal .. ,0 +14111,My trip to Montenegro. ,0 +14112,"September visit to Ronda, Spain. ",0 +14113,Azores in January?. ,0 +14114,Love it or hate it? We found Paris to be enchanting :). ,0 +14115,I travelled to Italy in 2016 and have wanted to return ever since.. ,0 +14116,"Traveled to Sedona, Arizona for the first time. It lived up to the hype.. ",0 +14117,"Went diving with Humpback Whales, Hammerheads, and Manta Rays off the Revillagigedo Archipelago. ",0 +14118,A long weekend in Vienna - February 2022. ,0 +14119,Banff. ,0 +14120,"When does vacation starts for you?. For me, it's when I buy a meal and a beer at the airport for $33. That's when I know i'm already on vacation.",0 +14121,"Cinque Terre, Italy. May 2022.. ",0 +14122,"We traveled to Paris a few weeks ago, colder than I thought but super fun!. ",0 +14123,"Advice on ditching my travel buddy. **UPDATE**: I spoke to my friend this morning and he took it really well. I opened by asking how he was finding the trip so far and he said for the most part he's loving it and having a great time, but then he asked how I felt. I told him I was finding it very stressful as I've found him a bit difficult to travel with and that I feel like we have very different travel styles. + +He said he becomes very ""insular"" when he travels and apologised that this has been bringing me down. He was surprised I wanted to split up but totally fine with it. + +Now that we've cleared the air and agreed to go our separate ways in a couple of days, we're getting on so much better. We were on an all day tour today and had a good time, as I think we have both felt a weight lift knowing we can do our own thing shortly. + +Thank you so much to everyone for your advice and discussion - I would have handled the situation badly without your help. It was good to be reminded that we've been friends for 10 years so that should mean we could talk this through. Sorry if anyone was hoping it would end in a massive fight or drama! And thank you again! + +------‐--------- + +I'm roadtripping down New Zealand with a friend and he is driving me insane. He hasn't enjoyed all the tours we've been on and doesn't want to chat about ANYTHING. We're a week into our trip and this is the quietest I've ever been when hanging out with another person as he rebuffs all my attempts at conversation. He wears his airpods in the car and around the accommodation - not that I've kept trying to talk to him. Honestly, he is bringing some seriously bad vibes to everything and it's ruining my trip. + +We don't have anything booked in yet for the South Island, so I'm planning to ditch him in Wellington at the ferry. Probably book my own car in Picton and just relax *alone* for the rest of the trip. (Just thinking about it is such sharp relief that it makes me feel emotional. I'll pay whatever price I have to just to get away from him.) + +Obviously telling him he is ruining my trip with his negative energy isn't the best way to approach this. + +Any advice for the best approach so we can split amicably? Or at least not have an argument that ends with very hurt feelings?",0 +14124,"Why are people suddenly so stingy when things become incredibly cheap?. I'm planning a trip to Thailand right now and I'm going through the all too familiar ritual of binge watching youtubers in Thailand. In every video I see bartering is a major focus for people. + +Now, I'm no stranger to bartering and have done so plenty of times, but watching people do a back and forth with a vendor over what equates to 20 cents USD blows my mind and I just *keep* seeing this sort of thing. + +I just finished another video about a guy and his family visiting a remote beach and it costing him 700 baht so now they want to hunker down and not do anything for *three days* to justify that cost. My brother in Christ that's 1/3 the cost of an Uber from my house to downtown, I pay three times that on a friday night for a safe ride home. + +Edit: Oh my god I meant haggling, lay off the verbiage lmao",0 +14125,"Driving through Morocco, diverse and beautiful. ",0 +14126,"Pictures from not long ago - Kyiv -Ukraine - Friendly welcoming people - modern lovely city I hope to visit again one day with the Ukrainian flag waving. Food, festivals, monuments, drinks just as in any other European city!!!. ",0 +14127,"Some of my photos from beautiful Kauai, Hawaii in 2019. ",0 +14128,"Montreal, Quebec (July 2022). ",0 +14129,Havana Dec. 2021. ,0 +14130,"San Sebastián, Spain. ",0 +14131,My wife and had our Honeymoon on Sri Lanka just before the troubles started. No other trip exceeded our expectations by that much. ,0 +14132,UK trip June 2022. ,0 +14133,A week in Croatia. ,0 +14134,"Is it normal to run out of things to talk about with your SO while traveling long-term?. We’ve been traveling for 5 months now and the last few dinners/lunches have been pretty awkward with neither of us having much to say besides what our plans are for the next few days. I would have imagined that since we’ve experienced so many new things,we wouldn’t run out of things to discuss, but in reality, since we’ve experienced everything together, it feels like there isn’t much to say? Not sure how this compares to other couples who have travelled similar to us, where you’re together 24/7 basically. Any advice?",0 +14135,Yellowstone ❤️. ,0 +14136,[Japan] Fushimi Insari Shrine. ,0 +14137,"Had the best time in Spain! Here are some pics of Barcelona, Girona, and Montserrat. ",0 +14138,I’m in love with Prague 🇨🇿. ,0 +14139,"Beautiful Florence, Italy. ",0 +14140,"Cinque Terre, Italy - the hike of your life. Most beautiful walk I've ever had. ",0 +14141,"Some photos from Socotra, Yemen. Yes, it’s safe. AMA.. ",0 +14142,"Maldives, Kuredu Island Resort, february 2022. ",0 +14143,"Our spring trip to Switzerland! (Zurich, Luzern, Brienz, Interlaken, Lauterbrunnen, Wengen, Murren). ",0 +14144,"Free lifetime passes for veterans to National Parks. Starting today, veterans and Gold Star families can get +free lifetime passes for entry at national parks, wildlife +refuges, and other public lands. + +https://www.nps.gov/orgs/1207/11-8-2022-lifetime-pass.htm",0 +14145,"The advice I needed 3 years ago when I started traveling as a solo black female.. +I made this document as a helpful guide for beginner or intermediate travelers based on my own experience. As an early 20’s black female traveler from the U.S. I had more concerns when I started traveling. I wish I had this advice when I first started. + +Flights: +* Getting international flights 1-3 months in advance has been cheaper for me + +* Use Google Flights/ Skyscanner to compare flights across multiple companies + +* If you’re open to the destination, websites like Scott’s Cheap flights can be great ideas of cheap destinations + +* Flying in off season can be up to 50-70% cheaper than flying in high season however many sights may be closed + +* Shoulder seasons occurs before and after peak (the most popular season), and will usually be cheaper + +* Thursday night - Monday morning is generally much cheaper than Friday to Sunday, if you can fly in a little earlier and stay a bit later + +Packing: +* Don’t overpack. + +* Google packing list for {destination} before packing + +* Check the weather in advance + +* For backpackers, ensure you can carry your backpack up to 30 mins. + +* Best practice is to pack, do test walks, and then remove items as necessary + +* You don’t need to pack for every possible emergency. Pharmacies & mini markets exist + +* A day bag or Fanny pack will be your best friend + +* If you are going to another continent; check to see what season they are in (summer, rainy season, etc) + +Destinations: +* Any place you want to go is the right destination, there is no best place just because it’s popular + +* Book vaccination appts months in advance if needed + +* You can choose a destination based on weather you enjoy, activities you like, or anything else if you can’t decide on a spot + +* If you have a limited # of days to travel consider how much flight time you’ll need to build in + +* Generally Europe, N.America, Australia/ New Zealand will be more expensive than S.America, Africa, and SE Asia + +* The more remote the location, the less likely you will meet other English speakers including in the tourism industry + +Crime/Safety: +* Every city has safe or dangerous areas + +* The best advice is to be aware of pickpockets and confirm prices before paying for things (food, taxis,excursions, etc) + +* ALWAYS have local currency on hand in case of emergencies + +* Save pictures of your passport & license, tickets, and housing accommodation and send to your email in case you get robbed + +* Consult the US State Dept website to find out if a country is safe or not before you arrive + +Accommodations: +* Generally: all inclusive resorts are the most expensive, then hotels, Airbnb, short-term apartment rentals, private rooms in hostels, hostel dorms, and camping is the cheapest + +* Housing will be one of the biggest expenses while traveling and the easiest way to over or underspend + +* Apartment rentals or Airbnb’s are great for 1-6 month stays because of privacy, no sharing of kitchens & bathrooms, and noise + +* Hostels are great places to meet fellow travelers especially in your 20’s + +* Resorts are great spots because food, activities, and sometimes transportation is included + +* Hostel world is a great hostel booking website + +* Google Maps is a great website to check hotel reviews before booking + +* CHECK THE SURROUNDING AREA ON GOOGLE MAPS STREET VIEW before booking to ensure it’s in a safe area + +Money Tips: +* Use a card with no foreign transaction fees if you have one + +* Airports will give you bad conversion rates generally + +* Keep cash on hand, and usd as backup + + +Tips for women: +* Know if there are clothing restrictions for women in the country you are traveling to + +* Many hostels have female only dorms + +* General advice is the same as your home country: avoid going out very late at night, to dimly lit places, travel in groups, avoid excessive drinking + +Tips for black people: +* Look up best destinations for black travelers (these lists are different than generic best places to go in 2022 lists) ex. Portugal, Mexico, Brazil + +* Join Black Traveling FB groups + +* In many countries that don’t have black people locals will take pictures of you out of curiosity ex. China + +* If you plan to move somewhere for an extended period of time, it may be hard to find certain foods, hairstylists, etc. You can have someone ship these products to you or pack them. + +* Black travel websites exist if you want to travel as a part of a group + +Tips for LGBTQ people: +* Google the country’s laws regarding LGBTQ people BEFORE booking a flight/ accommodation + +* Rules for men and women may vary within the same country + +* Google LGBTQ friendly destinations to find destinations ex. U.K, Spain, Greece, Germany, Argentina, Netherlands + +* Generally the more rights (marriage, adoption, freedom from discrimination) that protect LGBTQ people indicate how friendly that country is for queer travelers + +* Don’t automatically assume countries/cities will be anti-LGBTQ friendly because they are religious. Ex. Buenos Aires, Montevideo, Bogota + +* Cities are generally more LGBTQ friendly & less conservative in general than more rural areas",0 +14146,"Trip to Polignano a Mare, Italy. ",0 +14147,Highlights of my Cappadocia visit. ,0 +14148,"Chania, Crete, Greece, 2019. These are my favorite pictures from the trip there. Beautiful place, friendly people.. ",0 +14149,Some pics from a recent trip to Northern Ireland. ,0 +14150,A few places in The Netherlands. ,0 +14151,"Should you actually accept when people offer you to eat or stay at their place or is it more out of friendliness?. I've noticed in many vloggers videos that they accept any offers from strangers. Like for food at their home or even to stay the night. I've also been invited by someone for food and accepted, but not knowing the culture it's difficult to gauge if its a genuine invititation or more just friendliness and youre ""culturally"" supposed to decline. + +​ + +It would especially interest me for african and arabian countries.",0 +14152,Budapest 🇭🇺 Spring 2022. ,0 +14153,"A beautiful day in Eze, South of France. ",0 +14154,"Sa Pa, Vietnam in summer 2019. ",0 +14155,My trip to the cotswolds. ,0 +14156,Exploring Ghent for the day.. ,0 +14157,"Why does your life feel weird after returning home from a trip?. I just got back from spending 10 days visiting family who live 5,000 miles away. I always feel so strange when returning from abroad. Is it the time difference, the culture change or something else that makes it feel like you’re living two separate lives?",0 +14158,Cotswolds! Quite picturesque. ,0 +14159,"Madeira Island, Portugal. ",0 +14160,"8 days in Florence, Bologna, Pisa and Cinque Terre. ",0 +14161,"You are scheduled to leave on the last flight of the day, and it is canceled. The line at customer service is 200 people long, now what?. I fought the traffic to make it to the airport on time. The TSA line took over an hour. Once I got to the gate we were told that our flight was canceled. It was the last flight of the day between the two cities. They told us to go to Customer Service to rebook. The line was over 200 people long. + +I stood in the Delta Airlines Airline Customer Service line but it made no progress and an hour later I had not moved. There was one lady working for customer service. I tried calling the airline by phone and was put on hold and an hour later I was disconnected. Tried again and the line was busy. + +I had no membership in an airline club, a fancy high-priced credit card that gave me travel insurance, did not sign up for regular travel insurance, nor did I have the airline app because rarely that airline before. + +OK, travel experts, what do I do now? + +​",0 +14162,"Saint Barbara’s cathedral in Kutná Hora, Czech Republic. I thought I’d share it, because I have never heard about it before, I only found it when I was driving through rural Czechia. (Sorry for the bad quality). ",0 +14163,A friend and I woke up super early to be the first ones at Petra and at the Pyramids. Both were unreal experiences.. ,0 +14164,One picture each from 20 countries I've visited in the last 5 years. ,0 +14165,"Bellagio, Italy. ",0 +14166,"Costa Brava, Spain. On the Catalan coast, north of Barcelona to the French border. Gorgeous coastline, with both incredible seaside towns and medieval hillside towns. Here are the seaside towns of Calella de Palafrugell and Llafranc and the medieval towns of Peratallada and Begur.. ",0 +14167,"San Andres Island Caribbean island in Colombia. Was here four days and did not want to leave. The beaches here are just perfect, the water is crystal clear. They call is the sea of seven colors. Great lodging, awesome food. Perfect paradise.. ",0 +14168,Capri getting crowded (shot on film). ,0 +14169,"Flight over the Skeleton Coast, Namibia. ",0 +14170,Just got home from one of the most surprising trips of my life. Montenegro was more beatiful than what I would have ever expected.. ,0 +14171,A journey to Cuba (2019). ,0 +14172,"Best day trip from Madrid, the hilltop town of Cuenca, Spain. ",0 +14173,"Strasbourg, France - June 2022. One of the most unexpected trips ended up being one of the very best.. ",0 +14174,My solo trip to Lisbon!. ,0 +14175,A day in Slovenia: Ljubljana and Bled Lake - small but extremely beautiful country! Day trip from Zagreb - need Schengen visa to go to Slovenia.. ,0 +14176,"Madeira, Portugal. ",0 +14177,"The anxiety of someone taking my plane seat makes me pretty uncomfortable as I always just give in and accept if they have a good attitude.. Flew three times, happened every time, some couple wanting to sit together or a kid’s first flight, always the window seat. This time I paid £30 for the window seat on a 14 hour flight and I absolutely can’t miss it. + +My friends think I’m being stupid but if there’s a mum with ker kid I just can’t tell her to move, but I made my mind I won’t give in if it’s a couple. +This is not kindness, nor principle, so how can I stop feeling this way and just sit on my lovely plane seat? + +Thank you for taking the time to reply! + +Edit: thanks to everyone, it’s a pleasure to read about your perspectives. If someone finds themselves in my position, even though you might avoid queues like me until the last moment, just get on your seat first, its easier to think when you’re seated and not pressured by inquiring glances from all around an entire boeing!",0 +14178,"Friend backed out of trip to London. Should I go solo?. My friend and I agreed to go to london in December for a week but she recently backed out as she is too busy. I still REALLY want to go - I haven’t booked flights or an Airbnb yet but I’ve been browsing and I really feel like it will be worth the money spent. I lived in london for 3 months as a student back in 2016 and haven’t been back since, but it’s truly one of my favorite cities. + +I guess I’m just a bit apprehensive to travel solo as I’ve never traveled solo in Europe before. I did a solo trip to San Francisco earlier this year which I really enjoyed, but it wasn’t as scary because I will still in the US. + +Should I go? Im single, 26 year old female and I want to travel while I’m not tied down with anything (besides my job, I’m planning to work remotely a few days), and hopefully meet people!! It would be lovely to even go on some dates and meet people. I don’t love dining alone as I feel awkward but I guess I’ll have to get over that. + +I guess I also have fear that my friends and family will judge me for traveling alone, seeing as tho I couldn’t find any friends to go with me. How do I get over that? + +Im thinking of staying in notting hill or marylebone - any advice there?",0 +14179,Some of my fav pics from this euro trip so far. ,0 +14180,"Is there anything that you don't bother doing while travelling because you've done so much of it before?. I've been to so many places of worship - churches/cathedrals/temples/pagodas, that it has to be spectacular for me to go. I also stopped going to historical museums that display artifacts like spearheads, vases, and coins. Ruins in south/eastern Europe all look the same - the worst being ""here's what it used to look like, and now it's just a rock"". + +Nature, wildlife, and food though, I can't get enough of.",0 +14181,Italy June ‘22. ,0 +14182,Iceland October 2022. ,0 +14183,"Warning: Almost all Lufthansa flights to/from Frankfurt/FRA, Munich/MUC and many smaller airports will be canceled for Wednesday (27.7.2022) due to strike of the ground staff. Check your connections! + +Expect extreme chaos at the airports the following days as almost all states in Germany start their holidays on Wednesday.. a lot of them will end up at the airport on thursday/friday/saturday/sunday. + +Background story: + +The union wants +9.5% at least +350€ more salary for their workers. Basically an inflation correction. And the negotiations are not going too well as you can see.",0 +14184,Took a fairytale honeymoon to Austria!. ,0 +14185,"Exploring Segovia, Spain on a Gloomy Day. ",0 +14186,"Loved Santorini, such a beautiful place. ",0 +14187,Paris 2022. Paris syndrome is a very real thing. Different experience the second time around. But still enjoyed it.. ,0 +14188,Fell Deeply in Love with Iceland June 22. ,0 +14189,"Kovalam, Kerala (India) - April 2022. ",0 +14190,"Puglia, the plinth of Italy. ",0 +14191,"Petra, Jordan! Hits differently in person.. ",0 +14192,"Saw snow for the first time in Swat, Pakistan.. ",0 +14193,"Florence, October 2022. ",0 +14194,"Why do so many people in the US say they didn’t like vacationing in Paris? I don’t get it. I loved, loved, loved Paris. I thought it was magical and can’t wait to go back.. Does it just depend on which area you are staying in? Our uber driver commented he really liked the area our hotel was in so maybe we got lucky? Or maybe its just not enough of a party town for some people? I really don’t get it. I loved everything about it.",0 +14195,Finally made it to Ireland after 2 years! More to come!. ,0 +14196,Northern Italy - My Favorite Views. ,0 +14197,Peru 2022. ,0 +14198,"My experience with Egypt.. I have just arrived home again after a 2 week trip all over Egypt. While the nature and landmarks are stunning, there are things that kind of ruined the whole experience. The salespeople WILL not leave you alone and do absolutely not take no for an answer. They are all over you harrassing you, and if you do decide to buy something, they will always try to scam you in some way. Everyone I met there was trying to scam you or somehow get money from you. People would try to trick you into accepting favors or anything, and then want money afterwards. You can not trust anybody. Even stores/places I thought were reputable could not be trusted and they would try any method to pry more money from you. I have never experienced anything like it. And random people such as security guards in airports would also try to get a tip for just standing there/letting you past them. They just see that you are a tourist and see you as a walking ATM that is okay to scam or pry money from. And the men there will not leave a woman alone, they are constantly trying to talk to you or disrupting you, every single second. It is incredibly annoying. I am glad to be home.",0 +14199,"Lake Atitlán, Guatemala (Nov 2021). ",0 +14200,"Visited Ontario, Canada for a week. Went to Tobermory and back to Toronto, stopping at a lot of parks along the way. My first time visiting and the fall colours were spectacular!. ",0 +14201,Some pictures from our trip to Slovenia. A stunningly beautiful country with very friendly people!. ,0 +14202,Been here in Kosovo for two months. A beautiful country of beautiful people… ❤️. ,0 +14203,"Photos of the lovely city of Rouen in Normandy, France. ",0 +14204,Blown away by the beauty of Madeira. ,0 +14205,Pictures from my 2 weeks in Mauritius.. ,0 +14206,"A photo dump of my recent visit to Spiti, India. ",0 +14207,Went to Iceland this summer just wanted to sure some of my favorite pictures. ,0 +14208,"Mauritius, an Island Paradise. ",0 +14209,"Ha Long Bay, Vietnam. ",0 +14210,i was told to name the note half a step down on my online class. they wanted me to put c# instead of b flat even though it's the same thing.. ,1 +14211,all or nothing 🤷. ,1 +14212,I want to shove it down your throat. ,1 +14213,only interact if you would suck it. ,1 +14214,Does my selfsuck deserve a like? (18). ,1 +14215,take a lick. ,1 +14216,At school my friend called me the horse. ,1 +14217,wanna crawl under the table while i'm in a meeting?. ,1 +14218,"Shaken, not stirred. ",1 +14219,Is it normal to want to show off?. ,1 +14220,Suck it or pass it?. ,1 +14221,Would you suck my danish cock?. ,1 +14222,I hope 4 people like it!. ,1 +14223,Wanna try out my pale cock? :). ,1 +14224,Did I make you stop scrolling?. ,1 +14225,In the shower. ,1 +14226,Thought I looked big in this pic. ,1 +14227,Got a package to be delivered. ,1 +14228,any love for a sweet bull? 🫠. ,1 +14229,I need someone’s mouth. ,1 +14230,If We Hang Out… Would You Suck It??.. 😏😈. ,1 +14231,It's almost 3 inches... across. ,1 +14232,Mouth or hand. ,1 +14233,You’re not supposed to see this 😵. ,1 +14234,Just enjoy 😉. ,1 +14235,When your cocks too big for toys. ,1 +14236,XXXL Cock… 😏. ,1 +14237,Do you like em uncircumcised?. ,1 +14238,guys or girls would you like to suck or fuck this?. ,1 +14239,Quick reveal 👀. ,1 +14240,7.5 inches and thick what do you think?. ,1 +14241,Would you watch as it explodes or impulsively grab and suck?. ,1 +14242,boys or girls would yo like to suck this ?. ,1 +14243,Would you let me fuck you?. ,1 +14244,Go ahead And Grab It…. 😏😈. ,1 +14245,Care to go for a ride?. ,1 +14246,Be honest is my huge soapy cock turning you on right now?. ,1 +14247,I wanna Feel Your Lips Wrapped Around It.. 😏. ,1 +14248,Are you sucking it? 😋. ,1 +14249,Let's ride. ,1 +14250,"Wake up like this every morning, want to help?. ",1 +14251,Do you like seeing cocks explode?. ,1 +14252,Would you let a straight guy cum in your mouth?. ,1 +14253,it goes pretty deep. ,1 +14254,Guess the size for a surprise in your dms 🥵. ,1 +14255,"[M] 20, 170 lb, 6'0. Yesterday I posted a soft pic I was pretty embarrassed about but was asked by a lot of people to show my ""full potential"". So here's a comparison pic of myself. Tell me your honest thoughts please!. ",1 +14256,I want your mouth 😈. ,1 +14257,Wanna Come Over And Let Me Fuck You??.. 😏. ,1 +14258,If We Hang Out.. Will You Suck It For Me??.. 😏. ,1 +14259,Tell me what you’d do to me if I pull this out for you 🥵. ,1 +14260,I always get morning wood🤪. ,1 +14261,dickslapping on my hand. ,1 +14262,Interested in a little lunch time treat?. ,1 +14263,heavy deskslapping. ,1 +14264,Does this count as an BWC?. ,1 +14265,Well hey. ,1 +14266,enjoy!. ,1 +14267,Help me get rock hard?. ,1 +14268,You can touch it if you want to. ,1 +14269,Good morning to the 5 people that see this. ,1 +14270,Hoping you guys like my cock 🥺. ,1 +14271,Meet me in the stall on break. ,1 +14272,on your knees mouth open. ,1 +14273,if even one person likes my dick I'll be happy. ,1 +14274,What do you think?!. ,1 +14275,desk slaps. ,1 +14276,Throat warmer. ,1 +14277,Could u take all 7 inches? ;). ,1 +14278,For the 7 people who see this.. would you suck it ?. ,1 +14279,Fancy a thick cock tearing up your insides?. ,1 +14280,Bouncy 😌. ,1 +14281,I got a bit too horny at work😅. ,1 +14282,I'm new to the world of dick pics! Kinda nervous lol. Be brutally honest with me!. ,1 +14283,Sit and ride it till I cum inside. ,1 +14284,Are uncut soft monsters welcome? 🥺. ,1 +14285,"First post here, always wanted to try this 😂. ",1 +14286,uncircumcised. ,1 +14287,I think you should be sucking me.. 😈. ,1 +14288,Great start to every morning 🍆. ,1 +14289,My big cock at work. ,1 +14290,Just turned 18. Thoughts?. ,1 +14291,👀. ,1 +14292,😍 or 😞. ,1 +14293,Just learnt how yo post videos out here 😌. ,1 +14294,Is anyone into german cocks? 🤔. ,1 +14295,Thoughts on my cock?. ,1 +14296,Could I be naked 24/7 if we were roommates?. ,1 +14297,I would rather have your mouth warming up my dick then the sun... ,1 +14298,Cock and balls. ,1 +14299,What do you think of my 18 y.o cock ?. ,1 +14300,"my italian uncut cock, thoughts?. ",1 +14301,Feeling horny on the job. Do you think they'll notice the dick print?. ,1 +14302,who's in a dick sucking mood. ,1 +14303,Not bad for a 19 y/o. ,1 +14304,Cum Explosion😳 - P[m] me what you think!. ,1 +14305,Wanna take a ride?. ,1 +14306,Can I slap you in the face with this. ,1 +14307,This is what's underneath my Donald Duck pajamas. ,1 +14308,you like my 18 year old meat?. ,1 +14309,"Woke up super horny on Sunday morning, had to stroke my thick cock. ",1 +14310,take a seat🧘🏽. ,1 +14311,22 still a virgin. ,1 +14312,wanna take a lick?. ,1 +14313,Would you suck it?. ,1 +14314,Take a trip between my legs tonight. ,1 +14315,🎄. ,1 +14316,Whipping out and a play. ,1 +14317,Who likes a set of low hangers? 😁. ,1 +14318,Anyone scrolling by new?. ,1 +14319,Be honest did I make you stop scrolling?. ,1 +14320,Choke on this gym teacher's fat cock 😈 [36]. ,1 +14321,could you handle both?. ,1 +14322,If you stopped scrolling say hey. ,1 +14323,My fat 8 inches ;). ,1 +14324,Would you suck my cock on the plane?. ,1 +14325,Freshly 18. ,1 +14326,Who loves my big juicy cock on here??. ,1 +14327,"I’ll be honest, I wish my cock was down your throat right now…. ",1 +14328,Anyone here interested in looking at 8.5”? - J. ,1 +14329,If looking at my cock makes you horny you are legally required to tell me [M]. ,1 +14330,Christmas is coming soon.. I’m sure I’ll be getting coal 😏. ,1 +14331,Well my shirt didn’t lie. ,1 +14332,"Be careful, I may or may not have to save you at the hospital. ",1 +14333,I think even straight guys should be able to appreciate a pretty cock :). ,1 +14334,If even one person likes my dick it'll make me happy :). ,1 +14335,surprise!. ,1 +14336,"Curved, cut and king sized. ",1 +14337,Some say horsecock. ,1 +14338,Dutch cock. ,1 +14339,would you take me home if you felt this through my pants?. ,1 +14340,WAIT FOR IT 😈 (18). ,1 +14341,What do you think of my Horsecock?. ,1 +14342,Who else likes road head? 👄. ,1 +14343,Just me and my rock hard cock. ,1 +14344,What do you think of my horse cock?. ,1 +14345,what would you do?. ,1 +14346,My hand's okay.. but maybe you have a better idea?. ,1 +14347,"Skinny white guys. if you know, you know.. ",1 +14348,"Be honest, who would touch it?. ",1 +14349,I’m just really fucking hard. ,1 +14350,Is 9 inches at 18 big enough for you?. ,1 +14351,Whoops it fell out. ,1 +14352,My ex said I was too thick for her. ,1 +14353,What's your opinion on curved cocks?. ,1 +14354,We’re always so horny 🫠. ,1 +14355,First post here. Be kind. 32 years 😌. ,1 +14356,"Lost my old profile, give me some love 😉. ",1 +14357,Join me in the shower?. ,1 +14358,You like how my cum oozes out my huge 19 year old cock?. ,1 +14359,Rate this college boy cock. ,1 +14360,Dropping it on your tongue like…. ,1 +14361,What do we think?. ,1 +14362,Who’s hungry for some 18 y/o cock?. ,1 +14363,Do you like my cock?. ,1 +14364,Hello if you’re sorting by new:). ,1 +14365,Rate this cock. ,1 +14366,My unregistered weapon. ,1 +14367,Doctor says come over now. ,1 +14368,public bathroom does the trick?. ,1 +14369,May I have some road head please? 🥺. ,1 +14370,Love this🍆. ,1 +14371,OC- Fucking my beautiful muscle boyf. ,1 +14372,Would you let me do what I want with this?. ,1 +14373,Who get's turned on by fat loads? 😌. ,1 +14374,Only one way to dry off after the shower. ,1 +14375,This is what happens when I spend too much time scrolling this subreddit.... ,1 +14376,;). ,1 +14377,I wouldn't mind a second hand. ,1 +14378,When someone notices my bulge and asks to see it.. ,1 +14379,Yes or no ?. ,1 +14380,big enough?. ,1 +14381,I need at least one blowjob a day. Is that ok for you?. ,1 +14382,Omg my big cock just wouldnt stop cumming!😅💦. ,1 +14383,Can I stroke this inside you?. ,1 +14384,I wish I was deep inside of whoever’s reading this…. ,1 +14385,Would you be down to suck it?. ,1 +14386,Do you wanna play with my BWC? 😈. ,1 +14387,softee. ,1 +14388,need to be drained. ,1 +14389,I want to cum in your mouth. ,1 +14390,Can I put this in you. ,1 +14391,You wanted to see my cock before we went out to the bar. Now we're staying in.. ,1 +14392,"Uncut, vaccinated and horny. ",1 +14393,Comment if you’d suck it. ,1 +14394,"Do you like them long, fat, and veiny?. ",1 +14395,Who wants a ride? [22]. ,1 +14396,"My gf is in the next room, she doesnt know. ",1 +14397,I need some friends to give this to. ,1 +14398,Be honest is my soccer boy cock looking fuckable?. ,1 +14399,You know you need it. ,1 +14400,My gf says it’s too big… maybe I should get a bf instead. ,1 +14401,Would you let me smack you with this?. ,1 +14402,I need head so fucking badddd. ,1 +14403,anyone want my hot fresh cum?. ,1 +14404,Where do you want my cum? [M]. ,1 +14405,POV youre my tiny dick roommate. ,1 +14406,Saying hi from the parking lot 🤙. ,1 +14407,Who suckin?. ,1 +14408,"First post, would appreciate your honest thoughts. ",1 +14409,Mind if i pull this out while we watch a movie together? ;). ,1 +14410,DM for full 3 min vid of my enormous 19 year old cock🥰. ,1 +14411,I hope you like big dripping cock. ,1 +14412,Anybody care to relieve some stress?;). ,1 +14413,It’s a cock with a body not the other way round. ,1 +14414,I think I’m one cute dad!. ,1 +14415,Should I pull out?. ,1 +14416,Any big cock lovers on here?. ,1 +14417,Twinning 👯‍♂️. ,1 +14418,"Gay, straight, or bi...would you suck this? (24). ",1 +14419,Be honest would you suck the fuck out of my 8 inch football player cock?. ,1 +14420,I think these shorts hide it pretty well?. ,1 +14421,Would you deepthroat my big cock?🤤. ,1 +14422,gag on my fat italian cock. ,1 +14423,I’m shy but i want a random Redditor to see my 19yo dick 🥺. ,1 +14424,Make me cum.. ,1 +14425,Who needs a turn with it? 😏. ,1 +14426,Soft to hard. ,1 +14427,Want to play? 😈 (18). ,1 +14428,Whip that big cock out and worship it. ,1 +14429,I’m so horny fuck. ,1 +14430,Anybody here actually like average??. ,1 +14431,Got it! 🎯💦🍆😂. ,1 +14432,Can I cum inside? 😏. ,1 +14433,🍁. ,1 +14434,Who feels like sucking a fat cock? 😏. ,1 +14435,How would you make my cock hard?. ,1 +14436,I’ll help you out if you help me out;). ,1 +14437,"Hes saying hello to you guys, say it back 😡!. ",1 +14438,"Gonna give this Reddit thing a try, first time posting.. ",1 +14439,Thankfully no one walked in😅. ,1 +14440,Wanna try my monster cock?. ,1 +14441,Doom shot mf. ,1 +14442,New here. Is my cock breeding material?. ,1 +14443,Anyone down to have their jaw dislocated? 😜. ,1 +14444,love this lighting. ,1 +14445,(19) who can throat my demon 😈. ,1 +14446,rise and shine. ,1 +14447,Morning wood. ,1 +14448,Any love for blue collar guys on here?. ,1 +14449,(Un)packing. ,1 +14450,Wanna taste?. ,1 +14451,"Young, thick, British cock! 😉. ",1 +14452,Like it?. ,1 +14453,"23, newly BI, felt good about this one. ",1 +14454,"Be honest… M or F, Gay or Straight, who here would suck daddy’s cock?. ",1 +14455,Hope you like it rough. ,1 +14456,"Just my thick cock, do you like it?. ",1 +14457,Anyone else horny 24/7? [M]. ,1 +14458,hey. ,1 +14459,How's the view from down there ? 😁. ,1 +14460,rate 1-10?. ,1 +14461,"Red light, rough sex. ",1 +14462,Daddy wants you on your knees. ,1 +14463,will this fit in your ass? or mouth? DMS open!. ,1 +14464,"Turned 18 yesterday, what do you think ?. ",1 +14465,Need someone to help me out 😳❤️. ,1 +14466,This is how I walk around when I’m off work. ,1 +14467,do y’all like my new flannel? ;). ,1 +14468,Had to take this when my colleague went on break😅. ,1 +14469,I love when other hung dudes tell me I'm hung. ,1 +14470,big wet dong. ,1 +14471,"The deeper I can push it in, the more I cum 🐴📏 🍆💦. ",1 +14472,Hungarian bi curious wants to know what do you think about this raging boner?. ,1 +14473,23M. ,1 +14474,“Hentai dicks are so exaggerated.” Me having a hentai dick: 😂. ,1 +14475,Would look better on you. ,1 +14476,🍌. ,1 +14477,Two for the price of one!. ,1 +14478,Watch it grow soft ➡️ hard. ,1 +14479,It’s mouthwatering. Who wants to choke on it?. ,1 +14480,Choke on my ginger cock. ,1 +14481,Ready for action!. ,1 +14482,I'm curious how many Redditors would suck my cock?. ,1 +14483,new phone means better 🍆📸. ,1 +14484,"To the few people that see this, milk my huge cock until my balls are empty. ",1 +14485,Slide your lips down the shaft and tease my balls with your tongue. ,1 +14486,need someone under my desk. ,1 +14487,What you see if you unzip my pants. ,1 +14488,Let me see how many of you would suck me... ,1 +14489,Boyfriend or fwb dick?. ,1 +14490,Wanna make me hard?. ,1 +14491,"Bro come over, we can share this new toy I just got😏. ",1 +14492,It’s not going to suck itself (OC). ,1 +14493,Pull on it. ,1 +14494,First boner of the year. Do you like it?. ,1 +14495,Cock. ,1 +14496,Just need someone in front of me 😉. ,1 +14497,Could you handle this fat cock. ,1 +14498,I want to breed someone. ,1 +14499,🙄. ,1 +14500,I think this would look great in you. ,1 +14501,Heavy is the head that wears the crown.. ,1 +14502,Daddy wanna play! Who's gonna join that ride?. ,1 +14503,Should I pull out?. ,1 +14504,wanna balance it on your forehead?. ,1 +14505,who wants a taste? (18). ,1 +14506,Only interact if you would suck it. ,1 +14507,Need a breeding?. ,1 +14508,Took a break from elden ring to take a few pictures. ,1 +14509,Who wants a load like this. ,1 +14510,Putting this fleshlight to use 😋. ,1 +14511,Officially winter jacket season. ,1 +14512,want to ride it?. ,1 +14513,Next to a pringles can? Sure why not!. ,1 +14514,Lubed up ready to stretch you out 💦. ,1 +14515,Would you suck my Irish cock ? 😈. ,1 +14516,Who wants to ride this big dick?. ,1 +14517,"Be honest… M or F, Gay or Straight, who here would suck my cock?. ",1 +14518,Would you watch me If I left the door open ?. ,1 +14519,I need some attention anyone willing to give it to me. ,1 +14520,Anyone here who can help me cum?. ,1 +14521,(18) Wanna do this with me 🥺?. ,1 +14522,Where do you want it?. ,1 +14523,Wondering how many dudes would suck me off even though I’m married. ,1 +14524,Can't study...wanna fuck instead?. ,1 +14525,Looking for trouble 😵‍💫. ,1 +14526,Liked the way it looked in these :). ,1 +14527,Wanna suck this?. ,1 +14528,Big dicks makes the best cumshots. ,1 +14529,I hope one person likes this :). ,1 +14530,in a walmart parking lot 😉. ,1 +14531,Would you get on your knees if you saw this irl?. ,1 +14532,How do you feel about big white cock?. ,1 +14533,Wasted a lot of cum with this one 🥵. ,1 +14534,I want to fuck and play videogames with YOU all day! 😌. ,1 +14535,Sooo we like it orrrr. ,1 +14536,Swing my massive cock around like a meat bat.. ,1 +14537,"Only the people sorting by new will see this, so here is your reward for your duty!. ",1 +14538,Waiting to be serviced. ,1 +14539,Ride me till I cum. ,1 +14540,Would you let a muscular German guy cum inside of you?. ,1 +14541,Who wants to get facefucked?. ,1 +14542,what do you guys think?. ,1 +14543,Ride of your life ;). ,1 +14544,Need a throat asap. ,1 +14545,I’m getting so tired of having no one to send nudes to. Hopefully all 3 of y’all enjoy them lol Happy New Year!. ,1 +14546,My flaccid cock needs some attention 😅. ,1 +14547,Ex said I have a small cock. Dms welcome.. ,1 +14548,Oops I dropped my towel🤪🤷🏻‍♂️😏. ,1 +14549,Growing for you. ,1 +14550,Goodmorning I hope you could make use of this. ,1 +14551,be honest if you'd ride me. ,1 +14552,Can I park my bus in your garage ?. ,1 +14553,Side view... how's it lookin?!?. ,1 +14554,Rip n dip. ,1 +14555,Love frotting with this big cock 🍆💦. ,1 +14556,Should’ve been on your face. ,1 +14557,Are you wine bottle big?. ,1 +14558,Dick’s out. ,1 +14559,[M] 27 Straight - Was told this would be a good place to post :~). ,1 +14560,Balls are starting to feel very heavy😥. ,1 +14561,Would you help suck us off 😈 you can chose where to start. ,1 +14562,Surely someone likes my cock... Please let me know what you think. ,1 +14563,Let's dance. ,1 +14564,Comment if you would put this in your mouth. ,1 +14565,(52) that cock needs a mouth. ,1 +14566,Could you tell I was hiding this in the gym?. ,1 +14567,"6’1 240lbs + 5lbs of cock, who’s gonna make it hard for me 😈. ",1 +14568,Would you help my British cock cum? 😉. ,1 +14569,Leaking tonight. ,1 +14570,Would you suck my cock?. ,1 +14571,Do you like landscape photography?. ,1 +14572,I'm 6'4 does my cock match my height?. ,1 +14573,Come deepthroat my giant dick :). ,1 +14574,"Suckable, yes/no?. ",1 +14575,Wanna fuck every day with my morning wood? 🍆☕. ,1 +14576,love showing you my cock. ,1 +14577,Wanna take a seat?. ,1 +14578,I wish my huge cock was in one of your holes right now…. ,1 +14579,What about this piece of meat? (M29) Medical doctor.. ,1 +14580,Would anyone be interested in participating? 😉😊. ,1 +14581,I'm in a near-permanent state of horny without many opportunities to fuck anyone; thoughts?. ,1 +14582,"is this a dick, cock, or penis. ",1 +14583,Who wanna taste it?😋 feel free to dm. ,1 +14584,"Post gym reveal, do you think anyone noticed my bulge?. ",1 +14585,Fishing for a dick sucker 😜. ,1 +14586,All washed up and ready to get dirty 😈. ,1 +14587,Suck or pass? 😉. ,1 +14588,Would you let me cum all over your face?. ,1 +14589,Good morning sunshine. ,1 +14590,Would you let me stretch you out? 😏. ,1 +14591,"I’ll get straight to the point, I wish my cock was inside of you right now…. ",1 +14592,Twinning with @kyeriderxxx. ,1 +14593,suck my boyfriends cock with me?. ,1 +14594,Do you like to watch me ?. ,1 +14595,Did it make you pause scrolling?. ,1 +14596,So I heard you like bull nuts. ,1 +14597,My first time posting on this thread :). ,1 +14598,Do I have a nice cock?. ,1 +14599,my horse cock just hanging out 🙈. ,1 +14600,I’d love for you to join. ,1 +14601,Who wants my big fat juicy cock inside their mouth?. ,1 +14602,You wanna help pull my big thick cock out?. ,1 +14603,"Don’t just stare, dm me I got more ;). ",1 +14604,"I’ll keep it simple, can I fuck?. ",1 +14605,Wet hard cock!. ,1 +14606,Any fans of Irish dick?. ,1 +14607,going commando in sweats always makes me horny 😏. ,1 +14608,Working HARD 😈. ,1 +14609,Your opinions?. ,1 +14610,23 hey there. ,1 +14611,First time sharing my cock on here.. ,1 +14612,Hi there👋. ,1 +14613,Morning light always makes my veins pop 💢. ,1 +14614,whipping out the gun. ,1 +14615,No hands. ,1 +14616,I hope no one will recognize my hand tatt. ,1 +14617,Who wants to join me in the shower?. ,1 +14618,I want to feel it penetrate you. ,1 +14619,Anyone want to taste?. ,1 +14620,Anyone else love to grab some dick 😋😏. ,1 +14621,Who would like to try some British cock? 😏. ,1 +14622,Did i make you stop scrolling? 😏. ,1 +14623,Can I rail you ok the couch love? Xx. ,1 +14624,Wanna suck your hung gym teacher off? 😈. ,1 +14625,Who here is a fan of cocks that point straight up? ;). ,1 +14626,Stoner with an extra thick pipe for you to try. ,1 +14627,Horny at work! 😊. ,1 +14628,Let’s have some fun. ,1 +14629,you know it will feel good deep inside u huh? 😈. ,1 +14630,This cock needs some attention. ,1 +14631,For the 3 people that sort by new lol. ,1 +14632,Upv if you’d suck it. ,1 +14633,Morning all😈😈😈. ,1 +14634,Strong cock. ,1 +14635,STOP SCROLLING… I’m about to land this chopper. 🚁. ,1 +14636,i promise i’ll slip it in inch by inch. ,1 +14637,My boxers couldn't hold my morning wood 🥺. ,1 +14638,Goddamn that was good. ,1 +14639,My hard dick. ,1 +14640,first post :) 19 y/o bi guy with an average cock. ,1 +14641,surprise!. ,1 +14642,"Look, my dick ask for more !. ",1 +14643,Boing. ,1 +14644,if just 5 people up i would be happy 😁. ,1 +14645,what do you do if you saw me like this?. ,1 +14646,Anyone suck?. ,1 +14647,(23) would you suck?. ,1 +14648,My huge cock attempts the tp roll test. Do I pass?. ,1 +14649,We love to fuck before work. ,1 +14650,[M23] Might have to open up the windows more often. ,1 +14651,"I jerk it nice and slow, but I'll fuck you hard and fast. ",1 +14652,Suck or fuck?. ,1 +14653,your new roommate and his thick bwc. ,1 +14654,Just a hard and full cock! You like to suck or fuck?. ,1 +14655,Want some eggs with your sausage? 🥚🥚. ,1 +14656,Did I make you stop scrolling?. ,1 +14657,It’s so heavy 😋. ,1 +14658,Still got the tan line. ,1 +14659,"So probably no one will see this, but good morning and have a beautiful day!. ",1 +14660,That’s my big meat. ,1 +14661,Morning stroke 💦. ,1 +14662,Ready for action. ,1 +14663,It's so long and thick. ,1 +14664,Who wants to make it snow? (Pms open). ,1 +14665,Fully soft to complete hard-. ,1 +14666,"8 inches, thick, straight as an arrow. You like?. ",1 +14667,Leaving the hangar. ,1 +14668,This is how I'd fuck you 😈. ,1 +14669,Would you fuck your boss. ,1 +14670,enjoy ;). ,1 +14671,"Playing with my thick Easter morning wood, wish I had someone here to help. ",1 +14672,"When I finally cum, I’m going to make a huge mess 🤤. ",1 +14673,come by my place before work? 😏. ,1 +14674,whoops! it fell out😏. ,1 +14675,"OC- Well, this massage went a little sideways. ",1 +14676,Who can help me. ,1 +14677,Thoughts?. ,1 +14678,Would you like to taste it?. ,1 +14679,would you take my load? (18). ,1 +14680,Feeling so drained after load #3 (SOUND). ,1 +14681,wyd after I pull this out? 😈. ,1 +14682,Just trying to stay warm lol. ,1 +14683,My neighbours mighta caught me posing🤭. ,1 +14684,Suck or fuck??. ,1 +14685,My huge cock launches out of my briefs.. ,1 +14686,Hanging it out. ,1 +14687,Dms open to everyone. I really need to cum 🥵. ,1 +14688,a milf I was with suggested I post on here 🙈 thoughts? pms welcome!. ,1 +14689,Quite an offLoad. ,1 +14690,I like reading creative dms ;). ,1 +14691,Would you sit on my cock?. ,1 +14692,My wife says my cock is beautiful. What do YOU think?. ,1 +14693,Rise and shine!!! Try and make me rise in your mouth!!. ,1 +14694,Let me fuck your mouth. ,1 +14695,Here I cum!. ,1 +14696,It seems a bit of a waste. ,1 +14697,When the DMs get kinky. 😏. ,1 +14698,What time is it?. ,1 +14699,What do you think ?. ,1 +14700,Wanna try a pale cock?. ,1 +14701,Needing immediate attention. ,1 +14702,Would you let me smash?. ,1 +14703,Where should i let my big cock cum on your body?💦. ,1 +14704,Verification. ,1 +14705,"Cum, cum and more cum. ",1 +14706,Rate my sword ⚔️. ,1 +14707,"Choke on my 9” monster cock , fkn pig😈🐷🤑. ",1 +14708,I invite you to visit me. Dm open. ,1 +14709,Let’s give the neighbors something to stare at. ,1 +14710,Road head?. ,1 +14711,Hard is an understatement. ,1 +14712,Who would like some meat for lunch? 😉. ,1 +14713,Looking for some attention tonight ;). ,1 +14714,Since yall Liked the Last one so much here is another one😜 Who can Lend me a helping hand?😏. ,1 +14715,Giving the neighbors a show once again ;). ,1 +14716,You sucking it or riding it? 🤔. ,1 +14717,i have an urge to breed rn. ,1 +14718,I Heard you Like big german cocks over here😜. ,1 +14719,You should have been on your knees infront of me [M]. ,1 +14720,Morning everyone.. ,1 +14721,Get on your knees ;). ,1 +14722,"Horse cock, bull balls 😅. ",1 +14723,would you love to suck me?. ,1 +14724,Me in the office. ,1 +14725,Who needs to get slapped around?. ,1 +14726,Hope everyone had a great day 😊. ,1 +14727,Just turned 18! First time anyone else is seeing my cock. ,1 +14728,Meet my cock. ,1 +14729,can you handle this much cock? 😈. ,1 +14730,Father’s day has gone but I can still be your daddy! 😉. ,1 +14731,unwrapped your present. ,1 +14732,I can't get it to go down :3. ,1 +14733,Do you think my cock would be better to suck or fuck?. ,1 +14734,Huge load from my 19 year old cock. ,1 +14735,Open that fucking mouth 😈. ,1 +14736,who needs a ride? 😏. ,1 +14737,Y’all like big Latino cock?. ,1 +14738,"I love breeding, do you?. ",1 +14739,So hard to hide my morning wood 😔. ,1 +14740,Just wanted to show off a little bit 😝. ,1 +14741,This plane is so cramped…. ,1 +14742,It was desperate to come out (dms open). ,1 +14743,I love being watched 😈. ,1 +14744,Cock seeking mouth. ,1 +14745,Hello there neighbor 😅. ,1 +14746,good morning world!. ,1 +14747,Smash or pass?. ,1 +14748,Would you suck my big dick?. ,1 +14749,Choppity chop. ,1 +14750,Would you choke on this huge cock?. ,1 +14751,MONSTER cock drop 🍆. ,1 +14752,I was very stoned when I took this. ,1 +14753,What would you do. ,1 +14754,Who wants to help me cum?. ,1 +14755,I've got an unreasonable amount of clothing on. ,1 +14756,Be honest do you like my cock?. ,1 +14757,can you handle this?. ,1 +14758,heavyyy. ,1 +14759,Whatcha think?. ,1 +14760,My abs are like an open canvas for cum. ,1 +14761,Anyone care to suck this. ,1 +14762,Guess my superpower. ,1 +14763,Anyone like twink cock?. ,1 +14764,25 / new around here ;). ,1 +14765,pov: you’re under my desk. ,1 +14766,Getting some sun ☀️. ,1 +14767,[M24] Skinny nerdy boys be like. ,1 +14768,Admire the vein. ,1 +14769,Can anyone offer his/her throat?👅. ,1 +14770,Would u join us?😈. ,1 +14771,What would you do if you walked in the barracks and saw me with my cock out?. ,1 +14772,I’ll fuck anyone that likes this. ,1 +14773,Where would you start?. ,1 +14774,"I’ll keep it simple, would you ride my cock?. ",1 +14775,Simple question.. want to fuck?. ,1 +14776,My submission into the group 😜🇨🇦🍆. ,1 +14777,Pre cum on my underwear 😩. ,1 +14778,"My italian cock, soft and hard. ",1 +14779,What would you do?. ,1 +14780,Need some attention tonight. ,1 +14781,How are my strokes? Think you could do better? 😉. ,1 +14782,Are girly cocks welcome here?. ,1 +14783,(20) Do you want to join me?. ,1 +14784,Yay or nay?. ,1 +14785,Big teen meat. ,1 +14786,🤷‍♂️. ,1 +14787,Hands free Ropes 💦. ,1 +14788,Wyd if your date pulls this out?. ,1 +14789,Give me a blowjob while I game ?. ,1 +14790,🍆. ,1 +14791,Drip drip. ,1 +14792,Would you skip work for it?. ,1 +14793,who likes my cock? (:. ,1 +14794,Interact if you want to taste it. ,1 +14795,This ring makes me feel so thick;). ,1 +14796,what my patients see vs. what my favorite nurse gets to see😈. ,1 +14797,who wants to fuck in the airplane bathroom??. ,1 +14798,"Yes, sir. ",1 +14799,This one made me feel a bit better!. ,1 +14800,Who wants a taste. ,1 +14801,morning wood. ,1 +14802,Huge load from my huge cock! Enjoy. ,1 +14803,"Blowing my loads late at night, wanna help?. ",1 +14804,POV: you just offered to blow me. ,1 +14805,surprise!!! do you like it😊. ,1 +14806,Its mine. What ya think?. ,1 +14807,Boreddd. ,1 +14808,Am i big for an 18 year old?. ,1 +14809,I hope at least one person likes this pic. ,1 +14810,First time posting my cock here. ,1 +14811,"I like the attention, want to give me some? 😉. ",1 +14812,2 hands fapping and cum collecting. ,1 +14813,who’s getting bred first?. ,1 +14814,Hi. ,1 +14815,Have you ever tasted a french cock ?. ,1 +14816,Who's still horny after Valentine's?. ,1 +14817,First impressions matter. ,1 +14818,easy access 🤗. ,1 +14819,Shower room at work…hope nobody comes in 😜. ,1 +14820,Had to start stroking first thing this morning. ,1 +14821,Chilling on the sofa. ,1 +14822,🐓. ,1 +14823,Want to make it disappear?. ,1 +14824,(52) came home from work yesterday so horny. ,1 +14825,so horny. ,1 +14826,[M20] My cock and balls. ,1 +14827,I can make this cock disappear in your ass💕🤭. ,1 +14828,9” long and 30 000 ft high. ,1 +14829,I wish my 8 inch cock was throbbing inside of you right now…. ,1 +14830,On your knees. ,1 +14831,Nothing better than swimming naked. ,1 +14832,I need someone to replace my hand?. ,1 +14833,Trying to find a OF Partner 😈. ,1 +14834,Get on your knees and open your mouth [M]. ,1 +14835,Would you put it in your mouth😋🤤. ,1 +14836,Who would keep my dick warm?. ,1 +14837,does anyone like my cock?. ,1 +14838,Would you take it?. ,1 +14839,"19 today, who’s got a gift for me ;). PM’s open",1 +14840,Hanging about. ,1 +14841,Would you worship daddy’s cock and drink the cool aid ?. ,1 +14842,another gif of my little friend going up. ,1 +14843,What are you in the mood for?. ,1 +14844,bwc. ,1 +14845,Who wants to suck me dry. ,1 +14846,would you do this if you could? 😈. ,1 +14847,BWC😜. ,1 +14848,Who wants some of this cock then? 👅. ,1 +14849,Mind if I breed you real quick?. ,1 +14850,Little precum too. ,1 +14851,Stop scrolling and look at the serpent ;). ,1 +14852,come take care of my morning wood. ,1 +14853,Who wants to get bred in the shower?. ,1 +14854,Not as much cum today. ,1 +14855,Edging my cock to other redditors until I blow. ,1 +14856,Who wants a cuddle?. ,1 +14857,How is my hotel cock suckable. ,1 +14858,Let me stuff you 😪. ,1 +14859,All the best meats are juicy. ,1 +14860,Meet me in the gym showers after practice? I’ve got something big to show you 😊. ,1 +14861,It curves up a lil haha. ,1 +14862,Interact if you want to feel me inside you. ,1 +14863,How bout you RIDE me all weekend?!. ,1 +14864,"(36) Warmed up, coffee in hand, time to get naked.. ",1 +14865,how would you clean it?. ,1 +14866,would you play with me? you want my cum??. ,1 +14867,Should i post daily?. ,1 +14868,"Here's mine, wanna try it?. ",1 +14869,No one expects the femboy to be hung 😅. ,1 +14870,Would you help my 19yo cock to cum?. ,1 +14871,Would u like to try 2 brothers’ cocks? 🥵. ,1 +14872,Wanna join or just watch? [M]. ,1 +14873,Teasing till it pops. ,1 +14874,My 19 year old 8 inch dick is throbbing. 😫😏🥵. DMs open…. ,1 +14875,Heard you like big loads. ,1 +14876,Do you like morning wood?. ,1 +14877,Who else gets horny during work hours? [M]. ,1 +14878,Would you let me cum all over you?. ,1 +14879,1-10 how suckable is my cock?. ,1 +14880,Can I help you relieve some stress?. ,1 +14881,Would you suck it?. ,1 +14882,Would you suck on my virgin cock?. ,1 +14883,How that for a cock?. ,1 +14884,Fuck I need a hole. ,1 +14885,"How to get Verified. +# - Verifications are **PERMANENTLY** OPEN - + +# PLEASE READ THE RULES, OR YOU WILL GET A PERMANENT BAN. + +# Please note that verification can sometimes take SEVERAL DAYS. We get a lot of requests and we simply cannot get through them all at once. + +Hi there! Here's how to get a verified user on [r/cock](https://www.reddit.com/r/cock/): + +* Write on a piece of paper: + +>[r/cock](https://www.reddit.com/r/cock/) **verification -** [/u/-yourusername-](https://www.reddit.com/u/-yourusername-/) **- D/M/Y** + +(date of the actual verification post). **You have to clearly show your entire penis.** + +* **YOUR PAPER NEEDS TO BE CRUMPLED.** We will not accept your verification and you will be asked to resubmit if your paper is not crumpled. (this means wadding your paper up or folding it and then unwadding it or unfolding it) +* **NO pictures in the dark** Your photo needs to be well lit so that we can actually see it. Low quality photos will not be approved. +* Upload the photo, and make sure you add the correct post flair ""Verification"". Post without the correct flair **will not be processed**. [Check pictures](https://imgur.com/a/Yhz08nA) +* Your post will go in the Pending state ( **Unverified 🔴 - Pending Verification 🕐** ). We will check if everything is ok, and we will grant you a **Verified ✔️** user flair. +* The **Verified ✔️** user flair is not retroactive. This means that your old posts will stay Unverified. +*If you do not feel comfortable uploading your verification directly to the sub, we will also accept it through a link sent to modmail. + +Please allow up to a month for the verification process. + +If there's something wrong, like a blurry image, photoshop, the paper is unreadable, etc... the mods may ask you to submit a new picture. + +If you are a verified user on another major NSFW subreddit, (one that is at least equal to or larger than r/cock) you don't have to send the verification image. Send us a message through modmail with a link to the verification post (not a verified post. Thank you.)",1 +14886,Be honest. Can you take it?. ,1 +14887,Milk. ,1 +14888,Surprise!. ,1 +14889,How urgently do you think we should pull over?. ,1 +14890,Does anyone appreciate my cock. ,1 +14891,My zipper broke again... should I fix it or leave it like this?. ,1 +14892,Anyone here like cumshot videos?. ,1 +14893,This felt SOOO good! 🤤 🍆 💦. ,1 +14894,Someone wanna replace my hand?. ,1 +14895,"Teasing my curious bro. He got pretty hard and honestly though I feel a little guilty, he just broke up with his gf. He might be messed up a bit, he said it was his first time seeing a dick and wasn’t sure how he felt 🤷🏻‍♂️ It reminds me of me when I got sucked by a guy the first time.. ",1 +14896,Hope you enjoy watching my dick get hard. ,1 +14897,I 30(m) love to feel my cock in my hand when it’s rock hard. Taking this shot totally turned me on.. ,1 +14898,Baby maker 😪. ,1 +14899,Shits impossible to hide fr. ,1 +14900,A hung stud’s POV. ,1 +14901,Would you suck it or can I fuck you 👀. ,1 +14902,"Hey, I came for you all :). ",1 +14903,Half Man/ Half Horse ;). ,1 +14904,leaking. ,1 +14905,Erection Progression (OC). ,1 +14906,Sweaty sauna cock. ,1 +14907,Verification. ,1 +14908,Feeling Thicc;). ,1 +14909,Upper 1% cock apparently 😏. ,1 +14910,"just my cock, nothing less, nothing more.. ",1 +14911,My teen snake 🐍. ,1 +14912,29 and 6’4” what do you think. ,1 +14913,Give this thing a little worshipping. ,1 +14914,About to wear my cock ring to the gym. Think anyone will notice?. ,1 +14915,[18] would you take my dick ?. ,1 +14916,"[M] 20, 170 lb, 6'0. It's a bit embarrassing posting myself soft as it doesn't show my ""full potential"" but if you stopped on my pic for any reason: give me your honest thoughts please!. ",1 +14917,Is it what you would expect?. ,1 +14918,Did you stop scrolling to appreciate it. ,1 +14919,Throat it?. ,1 +14920,Verification for r/Cock. ,1 +14921,Your boss has a veiny horse. ,1 +14922,Is my uncut British cock big enough? 😉. ,1 +14923,😈. ,1 +14924,Two are better than one 😏. ,1 +14925,Do you want to show what your mouth is capable of?. ,1 +14926,Erection in progress. ,1 +14927,let me show you. ,1 +14928,Whipped it out. ,1 +14929,"Come on, who wants to play? 😉. ",1 +14930,Could you sit all the way down on it?. ,1 +14931,what would you rate my cock? be honest. ,1 +14932,Unwinding after work like .... ,1 +14933,Who wants it?. ,1 +14934,what if you could get more of this fat cock by upvoting? 🍆🥵. ,1 +14935,I hope you don’t mind that I’ve unwrapped your present…. ,1 +14936,Happy Sunday. ,1 +14937,whos cleaning up?. ,1 +14938,Be honest with me…. Is it small. ,1 +14939,Cock Mountain. ,1 +14940,"I’m a 6’0 180 lbs. white boy, and for some reason I was blessed with a thick 9inch cock, I ain’t complaining!. ",1 +14941,Just felt like sharing what's hiding under my gym shorts. ,1 +14942,any takers?. ,1 +14943,Another hard day at the office. ,1 +14944,Could you give me a hand?(;. ,1 +14945,Would anyone like a taste. ,1 +14946,It's almost 3 inches... across. ,1 +14947,Does it look strong? 💪. ,1 +14948,Does anyone else here just think about wild breeding fantasies all day?. ,1 +14949,It's pretty fat 😳. ,1 +14950,I have a GROWING desire to get road head!!! Cum help me out?. ,1 +14951,lend me a hand?. ,1 +14952,I hope a few horny redditors see my big cock today and use it to cum ;). ,1 +14953,Any bros wanna fuck… I promise I won’t tell anyone. ,1 +14954,This loads about to be big af🥵🔥 dm me to help bust. ,1 +14955,Feeling monstrous after lifting at the gym. ,1 +14956,UpV If Youd Suck My 18Yr Old Cock. ,1 +14957,would you suck my dick?. ,1 +14958,Wanna bounce on my cock. ,1 +14959,i know no one will see this. ,1 +14960,Bored doing school work 😉 m20. ,1 +14961,Do you like my 18 year old cock?💞. ,1 +14962,may i fuck ur throat?. ,1 +14963,Free and easy. ,1 +14964,23 bi how’s it look?. ,1 +14965,Suck me?. ,1 +14966,Perspective can make big things look unrealistic lmao. ,1 +14967,Trying to get caught 🤔🤔. ,1 +14968,Tell me if I made you stop scrolling. ,1 +14969,Would you let me creampie your pussy?. ,1 +14970,Who likes a long cock. ,1 +14971,Fully hard :3. ,1 +14972,Any fans of uncut bwc?. ,1 +14973,need a seat? 😉 (18). ,1 +14974,Big Dick in front of you. ,1 +14975,Which view is the best??. ,1 +14976,Is this your taste?. ,1 +14977,Say hi!. ,1 +14978,Hope you like what you see. ,1 +14979,Could you handle it all my fat cock?. ,1 +14980,Little photoshoot today ;). ,1 +14981,My cock is heavy I need a hand or two ;). ,1 +14982,There are 2 things to play with ;). ,1 +14983,Do you think it’s pretty?. ,1 +14984,Who's into this kind of cock? 👀. ,1 +14985,On your fucking knees 😈. ,1 +14986,spread your holes for me [OC]. ,1 +14987,Get on your knees and suck daddy’s horse cock… 😈. ,1 +14988,suck it. ,1 +14989,If you’re sorting by new this Saturday morning this pp is all for you!. ,1 +14990,“Outdoors cock” - 2022. ,1 +14991,Mating press?xx. ,1 +14992,game time. ,1 +14993,Come get it!. ,1 +14994,"Be honest, would you suck my cock?. ",1 +14995,Half hard and heavy. ,1 +14996,"Fat, juicy, thick and full of cum, who wants it? 😉. ",1 +14997,Who wants to get stuffed first?. ,1 +14998,Hey there! 😈🍆😇. ,1 +14999,I think my cumshot would look better all over your sexy body don’t you agree?. ,1 +15000,Choke on my 9” monster cocky rn fkn pig 😈🐷. ,1 +15001,A few recent photos. ,1 +15002,I could use an extra hand. ,1 +15003,Need you. ,1 +15004,Is the shampoo challenge even a thing anymore? 🤪 (18). ,1 +15005,Can I wake you up with my cock?. ,1 +15006,My Arab cock. ,1 +15007,I was told I should post this. ,1 +15008,Big cumshot 💦. ,1 +15009,U need to clean it😈. ,1 +15010,"you walk in and see this, what do you do?. ",1 +15011,Here's the boner I woke up with. ,1 +15012,"So, you stand there watching? 🍆. ",1 +15013,Would you suck it? Never had a bj before. ,1 +15014,Little early afternoon mess around😘. ,1 +15015,I wish someone would kneel next to me and suck it from the side while I work. ,1 +15016,Whatcha think of this cock? 😜. ,1 +15017,"you walk in and see me, what are you doing. ",1 +15018,I am ready for u.. 🔥😈. ,1 +15019,Selfsuck and big load. Do you like it? (18). ,1 +15020,I’m in love with a fairytale. ,1 +15021,Fat heavy cock. ,1 +15022,"Think this might be a 2 person job, any volunteers?. ",1 +15023,It's like a super soaker filled with cum 🤗. ,1 +15024,let me ruin your holes 😈. ,1 +15025,Would you like to wake up to this in the morning?. ,1 +15026,"If you sort by new, interact with this so I know to give it to you when I see you. ",1 +15027,Who wants this fat cock. ,1 +15028,Did i catch you staring?. ,1 +15029,Come by and feel it. ,1 +15030,who’s throat can i use?. ,1 +15031,Need a lift. ,1 +15032,Who wants to get pounded by this monster cock?. ,1 +15033,Whiplash when it pops out. ,1 +15034,Would you suck it?. ,1 +15035,First shirtless post. ,1 +15036,get on your knees for daddy. ,1 +15037,Remember to take care of your nurses too😉. ,1 +15038,would you suck it or ride it?? 🤔. ,1 +15039,Someone PLEASE wrap their lips around it I’m desperate :(. ,1 +15040,My creativity for titles…. ,1 +15041,"24, Hope at least a few girls or guys like this? ❤️. ",1 +15042,I’m so hard !. ,1 +15043,My GF isn‘t giving me the attention I need🙁 will you guys do it?😇. ,1 +15044,"Do u like Big cock, or low hanging balls..... I gottchu either way. ",1 +15045,Do you like the suprise I have for you? [M]. ,1 +15046,Milk this big cock🤤. ,1 +15047,Maybe you would enjoy the load. ,1 +15048,Hung. ,1 +15049,Music to my ears. ,1 +15050,throbbing. ,1 +15051,"Would you like a nerdy, long, cut cock?. ",1 +15052,Be honest a football players cock inside of you sounds fun doesn’t it ;). ,1 +15053,What do you think? ;) (18). ,1 +15054,I want to cum on your face. ,1 +15055,Don’t mind the shaved treasure trial. ,1 +15056,"I’m your quiet, friendly neighbor and this is an invitation. ",1 +15057,"18, for the 5 people who will see this lol. ",1 +15058,Did I catch your eye?. ,1 +15059,Pointing at you. ,1 +15060,Anyone want to be my little secretary?. ,1 +15061,Verification. ,1 +15062,I just like showing off :). ,1 +15063,Do you guys like my cock?. ,1 +15064,such a heavy cock. ,1 +15065,Take my soft cock in your mouth. ,1 +15066,is this 18 year old big enough?. ,1 +15067,chillin alone tn. ,1 +15068,Suck or fuck. ,1 +15069,you know sunday means. ,1 +15070,Who needs a seat? 😏. ,1 +15071,Would you suck or fuck my dick?. ,1 +15072,Ever wanted to fuck a young Aussie?. ,1 +15073,Really Thick 🍆. ,1 +15074,what do you think of my 18 year old cock?. ,1 +15075,Its as heavy as it looks 😄. ,1 +15076,Can't get any work done with this in the way. ,1 +15077,Your Uber has Arrived.. ,1 +15078,69?. ,1 +15079,What you think about this uncut cock?🤔. ,1 +15080,Come & take it 😉. ,1 +15081,I'm so shy outside of reddit. ,1 +15082,Made for anal sex. ,1 +15083,Balls are starting to feel heavy😥. ,1 +15084,I think I’m a grower 😌. ,1 +15085,Is it strong enough for you?. ,1 +15086,"fresh morning cock, ready for sucking. ",1 +15087,Open wide and get ready. ,1 +15088,Do you mind holding my clothes for a minute?. ,1 +15089,Think I’d taste good?. ,1 +15090,Stroking and throbbing on a Sunday morning is always better than a cup of coffee. ,1 +15091,Work your way down. ,1 +15092,Slide to watch me stroke it 😈💦. ,1 +15093,Who wants it? I'm horny and want someone to play with. ,1 +15094,How to grow a cock. ,1 +15095,Hey there beautiful. ,1 +15096,slide that foreskin back and stick it in your warm mouth 🤤. ,1 +15097,POV: you’re under my desk. ,1 +15098,Can I push it stomach deep?. ,1 +15099,Gf thinks I’m big but I think she’s just being nice… what do you say?. ,1 +15100,Like my post if you would suck it 😉. ,1 +15101,Perfect size for a warm mouth isn’t it? 😈😋. ,1 +15102,Would you lend a hand? Or something else?😋. ,1 +15103,Morning wood. ,1 +15104,Like my tattoo?. ,1 +15105,Do you like the curve 🥺. ,1 +15106,Bouncing Around 😈🍆. ,1 +15107,Wanna Help Me Out. ,1 +15108,"I probably need a toy that's more for my size, huh?. ",1 +15109,Apparently I’m intimidating? 😵‍💫. ,1 +15110,Is it big enough?. ,1 +15111,half horse half man. who can handle this long thick monster cock??. ,1 +15112,"Whoops, popped out of my boxers. ",1 +15113,I guess I just like the idea of people seeing my dick 🤷‍♂️. ,1 +15114,would you suck me?. ,1 +15115,i’m so horny help me out? [21M]. ,1 +15116,Let me bend you over to creampie you. ,1 +15117,Tell me how much you want to see me cum. ,1 +15118,Bwc. ,1 +15119,Lick the cum off my cock. ,1 +15120,Honest Opinions & Or Rate On My Cock. ,1 +15121,Fat enough? 😌. ,1 +15122,(36) just a little play before work. ,1 +15123,[52][OC] They say hairy men are better when it's cold. ,1 +15124,Hope everyone had a great Saturday!. ,1 +15125,Drain me. ,1 +15126,Help me warm him up ? ;). ,1 +15127,would you suck me in the car?. ,1 +15128,Do you wanna some 🥛? ✨. ,1 +15129,this will always be my favorite picture of my cock. ,1 +15130,Letting it free feels so good. ,1 +15131,Any volunteer will like to sit on it. ,1 +15132,Hi.... ,1 +15133,Are you happy NNN is over?. ,1 +15134,Biggest walk.. ,1 +15135,It's hot af outside but it's even hotter in here.... ,1 +15136,Throbbing for action. ,1 +15137,This would look better inside of you. ,1 +15138,What hole do you want it in first?. ,1 +15139,"If you walked in and saw my throbbing cock, how would you react? ;). ",1 +15140,anyone like uncut?;). ,1 +15141,Just popping my cock out at work 😉. ,1 +15142,Can anyone help me out with my boner?🤔. ,1 +15143,"Young, thick, British cock care to help me cum? 😉. ",1 +15144,wanna get slapped?. ,1 +15145,I shouldn't be this hard at work. ,1 +15146,7.5 inches and thick what do you think?↓↓. ,1 +15147,This is my beautiful penis 😇 Despite the fact that I'm straight I like to show it to all the people (23yo). ,1 +15148,Anyone want this 18yr old Mexican cock?. ,1 +15149,what do you think about my virgin dick?. ,1 +15150,(52) Hop on I'll give you a ride. ,1 +15151,I think we'll need a safe word. ,1 +15152,Be good and take it all.. ,1 +15153,"For all my swallowers out there, this one’s for you. ",1 +15154,Who’d wants to fuck today?. ,1 +15155,Wanna lather my cock in saliva?. ,1 +15156,your avarage hung white teen.. ,1 +15157,"i love cock so much, i learned to suck my own! 😈. ",1 +15158,Managed to smuggle this rifle onto the plane with me. ,1 +15159,Interact if you want this down your throat please 💦. ,1 +15160,18 year old cock. Would you rather taste or take a seat?. ,1 +15161,Do you hear the water running… should I hop in?. ,1 +15162,Anyone up for a ride?. ,1 +15163,My cock belongs at the back of his throat. ,1 +15164,Feeling it this morning ☀️. ,1 +15165,time for a long edging session after a long week of work :). ,1 +15166,"I’m stepping in the shower now, but there’s room for two. ",1 +15167,Throbbing 🥵. ,1 +15168,Do you like seeing my big 19 year old cock cum?💦😅. ,1 +15169,Trying new angles. ,1 +15170,Do you think your girlfriend would rather sit on mine or yours?. ,1 +15171,Can you look after this for me while I relax?. ,1 +15172,(19) How’s it look? 😅. ,1 +15173,"I need a place to cum, can I use your face?💦. ",1 +15174,Do you like lowhanger?. ,1 +15175,Slurp on this construction cock 🦺. ,1 +15176,who's sucking me next?. ,1 +15177,Who wants to suck it?. ,1 +15178,Got a forearm between my legs. ,1 +15179,You know it's rude to just stare at it 😏. ,1 +15180,"Anyone like thick, young, British cock? 😈. ",1 +15181,"My first post here, nice to meat you all!. ",1 +15182,I’d love to wake up to you drooling over my cock🥰💗💗. ,1 +15183,Would you give me a hand?. ,1 +15184,Monday. ,1 +15185,-* inches 👅. ,1 +15186,I’d love to shoot like this all over your face 💦…. ,1 +15187,Who wants fat white cock for breakfast?. ,1 +15188,We got distracted from our bikeride. ,1 +15189,Are you even listening to me?. ,1 +15190,Need to be drained.. ,1 +15191,Rate my dick 1 - 10 pls (10 being the best). ,1 +15192,Oops I made a mess🤤. ,1 +15193,Would you suck it?. ,1 +15194,Down or up?. ,1 +15195,"You find me like this, what do you do?. ",1 +15196,It's fun being a femboy with a big dick 😝💕. ,1 +15197,Here we go again 🙄. ,1 +15198,Does anyone else try to find the perfect porn scene to cum to?😆. ,1 +15199,Rate me 1–10 on suckability. ,1 +15200,^.^ feels great…. ,1 +15201,My arm gets tired jerking for soooo long 🥺. ,1 +15202,Hmu if you like thick cocks that cum a lot😉. ,1 +15203,Wish i could fuck everyone who like this post... ,1 +15204,I wanna make this pulse inside of you. ,1 +15205,Grab it. ,1 +15206,Sick Dick Combo. ,1 +15207,Bet there’s lots of sea men.. ,1 +15208,A german tank Suppressor.. ,1 +15209,Putin=Dick. ,1 +15210,Why do I see a giant penis?. ,1 +15211,Dick Grayson. ,1 +15212,New bottom surgery expert!. ,1 +15213,Unsolicited pic of a real giant dick. ,1 +15214,A french dickhead. ,1 +15215,just normal lego. ,1 +15216,Dick Van Dyke. ,1 +15217,Dick the Bruiser. ,1 +15218,Angry dick. ,1 +15219,John Dickman. ,1 +15220,Big Black Dick. ,1 +15221,dick shikat. ,1 +15222,"Shoutout to DICK'S Sporting Goods, here's hoping they live up to it.. ",1 +15223,Willie Dick. ,1 +15224,How the fuck are people so stupid. Read the fucking subreddit description,1 +15225,All the dickheads that post nudes here. ,1 +15226,Snoo is a Dick. ,1 +15227,Philip K Dick. ,1 +15228,Dick Stuart.. ,1 +15229,puredick. ,1 +15230,Dick Kjellbergs. ,1 +15231,Dick Durbin. ,1 +15232,It’s hilarious to me that some people post actual dick pics and then other people post a person named dick. ,1 +15233,Kitchen dick. ,1 +15234,Dick Vitale. ,1 +15235,Dick Durbin. ,1 +15236,Dick pic. ,1 +15237,Dickey. ,1 +15238,There is a brakes company called dickass.. I'll just let that fall into the nobody cares bin,1 +15239,I have a dream. !!!,1 +15240,George W. Bush's Vice President name was Dick Cheney.. ,1 +15241,Richard!. ,1 +15242,Spotted Dick.. ,1 +15243,A Dick Bender Halloween Special. ,1 +15244,Dick Blumenthal a blue cigarette. ,1 +15245,Dick. ,1 +15246,Honest Rating 1-10 for this pic. ,1 +15247,Honest Rating 1-10 for this pic. ,1 +15248,Honest Rating 1-10 for this pic. ,1 +15249,Honest Rating 1-10 for this pic. ,1 +15250,"what do you think about it?. think about + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/ripkbx)",1 +15251,This is really disgusting. ,1 +15252,"Poll: First time NSFW bans are 3 days. Should we switch them to 69 days for the lols?. + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/sm63p1)",1 +15253,THIS IS NOT A PORN SUBREDDIT. ,1 +15254,Y’all said you were in support- say hello to 69 day (first time) NSFW bans 🎉. ,1 +15255,Fuck. ,1 +15256,Fuck. ,1 +15257,Jesus Express. ,1 +15258,FUCK I FOUND A FUCKING OWL IN THE FUCKING WOODS. ,1 +15259,Russian Plane Attacking Civilians. ,1 +15260,Fucking hate when it happens. ,1 +15261,ohhh fuckkkk. ,1 +15262,Fucking fake doctor. ,1 +15263,fuck it. ,1 +15264,Fuck you. ,1 +15265,Fuck... Sad that children have to go through this.. ,1 +15266,... ,1 +15267,Guys use a lighter in a car full of leaking aerosol spray and set on fire. ,1 +15268,fuck algebra. ,1 +15269,Everything by mistake !. ,1 +15270,"Fuck algorithmic feeds. I fucking hate them. Please, for fucks sake, let me see the fucking damn stuff I want to see and not your fucking pointless ads and your fucking sponsored posts.. ",1 +15271,Fuck Putin.. ,1 +15272,fuck. ,1 +15273,i'm fucking coming back in a fucking attempt to fucking moderate this shitshow (aka stop posting porn or being racist and use common sense). ,1 +15274,airlines cocaine company. ,1 +15275,Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck.. ,1 +15276,Cool bug facts. ,1 +15277,fuck. ,1 +15278,Is that bird shit?… oh wait. ,1 +15279,Fuck. ,1 +15280,Stop fucking posting fucking porn. Fuck,1 +15281,its as thicc as text book!. ,1 +15282,It’s happening everyone.. ,1 +15283,Fuck porn!. I found this sub looking for porn. Fuck porn. Porn is fucking garbage. This sub is life.,1 +15284,Trying to dock a cruise-ship. ,1 +15285,fuck this shit im out…! thanks for listening:/. ,1 +15286,Fuck me sideways!!!. ,1 +15287,"Listen, asshole. Fuck you.",1 +15288,haha fuck xd. ,1 +15289,LOVE IS LOVE. ,1 +15290,Fuck these cops. ,1 +15291,Fuck of war. No one needs you.. ,1 +15292,"friendly reminder one: report the fucking porn. even if you think it's already been reported, reporting it more removes it that much faster",1 +15293,fuck. ,1 +15294,"Fuck the Metaverse. No one needs another fucking scam. For fucks sake, go leave your fucking home and meet up with some real fucking people.. ",1 +15295,THIS FUCKED UP TOMATO I DON’T KNOW WHY IS IT LIKE THAT?!. ,1 +15296,"Why. Just, Why.. ",1 +15297,My brother gives me a modified kids card for my birthday every year. ,1 +15298,Sorry kid not today. ,1 +15299,Fuck off Youtube posts. No one fucking needs you. Just give us the fucking down vote button back you damn fuckers.. ,1 +15300,"That's a big ""Fuck"" to start with in the morning.. ",1 +15301,Fuck.. here we go again. ,1 +15302,Why like why. ,1 +15303,fuck fact: this sub is named fuck. ,1 +15304,"This is from 2 years ago during US presidential election. This Karen made me laugh so hard, imagine discriminating woman while being one yourself. ",1 +15305,"Fuck you Youtube for showing me the same videos every fucking day: I might be old, but I fucking remember yesterday. Fix your fucking algorithm. Thanks for reading my rant. Have a nice week.. ",1 +15306,"Fuck the fucking Metaverse. And fuck you too, Facebook.. A nice fucking Sunday to you all.",1 +15307,FUCK OFF AND CONTINUE SCROLLING MOTHERFUCKER. YOU,1 +15308,Can we fucking get a fucking fuck counter on this fucking subreddit. I'm pretty fucking curious how fucking many fucking times the fucking word fuck has fucking been fucking used in this fucking subreddit,1 +15309,"Fuck. + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/uozf5e)",1 +15310,Ouch. ,1 +15311,I can't stop watching and laughing at this 😂. ,1 +15312,i’m going to work tomorrow morning.. ,1 +15313,"f.... + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/s7wbpp)",1 +15314,Who else feels the same way ?. ,1 +15315,"This world is fucked. Climate change, the ukrainian russian war, covid all this shit will end us sooner or later",1 +15316,When A Karen Calls the Cops Because Your Halloween Yard Decor Is Too Realistic!. ,1 +15317,"Hey you porn making cunts, do me a favor.. SHUT THE FUCK UP AND LEAVE YOU FUCKING HEATHANS. You dumb fucking cretin, you fucking fool absolute fucking buffoon, you bumbling idiot. Fuck you.",1 +15318,Fuck you. ,1 +15319,Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck. Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck 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Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck,1 +15320,What the fucking fuck is with all these fucking porn posts. ,1 +15321,Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck. ,1 +15322,FUCK. ,1 +15323,"what the fuck, this is not a fucking porn subreddit you fucks. Fuck!",1 +15324,Fuck. ,1 +15325,Hey guys. Fuck you guys,1 +15326,Fuck its the 17th. ,1 +15327,"HOW MANY FUCKHEADS DOES IT TAKE FOR r/fuck TO MAKE IT TO THE FRONT PAGE?. IT'S TOO FUCKIN'QUIET IN HERE! WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU THINK, LET YOUR FUCKIN'VOICES BE HEARD! WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU FUCKIN'WAITING FOR? +LET IT OUT! FUCK! FUCK! FUCK! + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/xso9oj)",1 +15328,"It's fucking happening, again. A year ago, I had to leave this subreddit because the fucking moderators were to fucking dead to deal with the fuckers who post fucking porn all fucking day. It way fucking thankfully that new ones (i think) fucking showed up and dealt with those fuckers. However, they too seem to be whoever knows fuck where, and now, it's happening all fucking over again. To those fuckers who post random fucking nudes and porn, please, get fucking out of this fucking place.",1 +15329,Fuck! Shit! Fuck my fucking life. I just got fucking fired from a job I didn’t even fucking like. Damn it to fucking hell. ,1 +15330,STOP THIS SHIT. FUCKING STOP POSTING FUCKING ADS OF FUCKING PEOPLE NOBODY FUCKING CARES AND NOBODY FUCKING WANTS TO SEE THIS FUCKING TRASH,1 +15331,"Fucking asshole Youtube stop showing me the same fucking videos over and over again.. Yes, it is one of those fucking asshole days...",1 +15332,ALREADY???🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️. ,1 +15333,thank you guys. thanks to everyone actually caring for this sub and caring enough to flag posts with pornography. please continue as we are deleting the ones that get flagged as soon as possible.,1 +15334,"I opened a fucking can of tuna with the intention of making tuna salad.. No fucking mayo was found, so I had to use some stupid fucking miracle whip. Who the fuck bought that shit? It was actually not bad as a replacement. I couldn't tell the fucking difference. I just don't give a fuck, about exclusive mayo in my tuna anymore.",1 +15335,A compilation of ouchies. ,1 +15336,"Man fuck. It's all fucking bullshit. There's just so fucking much sadness and fucking anger. Fuck that fucking shit. + +Fuck.",1 +15337,"I fucking hate the fucking asshole fucking Microsoft store. Can I install my programs - yes damn fucking programs, not fucking asshole apps - the fucking awesome old fashioned way again?. Fuck I want to download a fucking .exe file from the fucking asshole producer of the fucking asshole software. And now, have a fucking awesome day you damn fuckers.",1 +15338,Fuck you. ,1 +15339,Fuck. Fuck fuck fucking fuckity fuck.,1 +15340,"Fucking choose wisely!. + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/thumju)",1 +15341,Deer gets revenge on hunter. ,1 +15342,fuck. fuck,1 +15343,"Fuck the porn, and fuck you for posting it.. to u/patsliterallystupid and the mods that aren't fucking dead, spare me pls. + +FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!! FUCK THE PORN!!! AND FUCK YOU FOR POSTING IT!!!",1 +15344,fuck. ,1 +15345,Fuck amber heard! Doesn’t even fucking deserve capital letters for her name. ,1 +15346,FUCKING HELL. [You just lost the fucking game](https://sd.keepcalms.com/i/panic-because-you-lost-the-game.png),1 +15347,Fuck. ,1 +15348,h. ,1 +15349,fuck anyone who leaves dog shit on the sidewalk. fr wtf??? it's all over the ground where i work. don't get a fucking dog if you can't do something as basic as cleaning up their turds,1 +15350,"Found this on the internet. ​ + +https://preview.redd.it/ua9ifmt2g2u91.jpg?width=448&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fe02a4baf93ece25b2e26e4e4edc12ed787dabdb",1 +15351,"what the fuck happened to this fucking sub. why is it filled with fucking porn like come on nobody gives a fuck about that + +did the fucking mods fucking die or somefuck like that",1 +15352,FUCK EVERYTHING!. ,1 +15353,fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck. fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck,1 +15354,"FUCK. JUST FUCK I GOTTA LET MY FRUSTRATION OUT FUCK YOU, AND I WILL SEE YOU TOMARROW!",1 +15355,"Fuck you Youtube. Just fuck you.. Please give me a fucking sort per view options for the fucking videos posted on a fucking channel. I don't give a fuck about the fucking popular videos your damn fucking algorithm tries to shove down my fucking throat. + +Thanks for reading, you fuckers.",1 +15356,"I just fucking stumbled on this subreddit by mistake.. Judging from the posts, what the fuck do you guys fucking do? Just say fuck?",1 +15357,Hey guys. Fuck you guys,1 +15358,Fuck. ,1 +15359,"Fuck you. Fuck you. You useless piece of shit. You absolute waste of space and air. You uneducated, ignorant, idiotic dumb swine, you’re an absolute embarrassment to humanity and all life as a whole. The magnitude of your failure just now is so indescribably massive that one hundred years into the future your name will be used as moniker of evil for heretics. Even if all of humanity put together their collective intelligence there is no conceivable way they could have thought up a way to fuck up on the unimaginable scale you just did. When Jesus died for our sins, he must not have seen the sacrilegious act we just witnessed you performing, because if he did he would have forsaken humanity long ago so that your birth may have never become reality. After you die, your skeleton will be displayed in a museum after being scientifically researched so that all future generations may learn not to generate your bone structure, because every tiny detail anyone may have in common with you degrades them to a useless piece of trash and a burden to society. No wonder your father questioned whether or not your were truly his son, for you'd have to not be a waste of carbon matter for anyone to love you like a family member. Your birth made it so that mankind is worse of in every way you can possibly imagine, and you have made it so that society can never really recover into a state of organization. Everything has forever fallen into a bewildering chaos, through which unrecognizable core, you can only find misfortune. I would say the apocalypse is upon us but this is merely the closest word humans have for the sheer scale of horror that is now reality. You have forever condemned everyone you love and know into an eternal state of suffering, worse than any human concept of hell. You are such an unholy being, that if you step within a one hundred foot radius of a holy place or a place that has ever been deemed important by anyone, your distorted sac religious soul will ruin whatever meaning it ever had beyond repair. You are an idiotic, shiteating, dumbass ape and no one has ever loved you. Rhodes Island would have been better off if you'd never joined us. You are a lying, backstabbing, cowardly useless piece of shit and I hate you with every single part of my being. Even this worlds finest writers and poets from throughout the ages could never hope to accurately describe the scale on which you just fucked up, and how incredibly idiotic you are. Anyone that believes in any religion out there should now realize that they have been wrong this entire time, for if divine beings were real, they would never have allowed a being such as you to stain the earth and this universe. In the future there will be horror stories made about you, with the scariest part of them being that the reader has to realize that such an indescribable monster actually exists, and that the horrific events from the movie have actually taken place in the same world that they live in right now. You are the absolute embodiment of everything that has ever been wrong on this earth, yet you manage to make it so that that is only a small part of the evil that is your being. Never in the history of mankind has there been anyone that could have predicted such an eldrich abomination, but here you are. It’s hard to believe that I am seeing such an incredible failure with my own eyes, but here I am, so unfortunately I cannot deny your existence. Even if I did my very best, my vocabulary is not able to describe the sheer magnitude of the idiotic mistake that is you. Even if time travel some day will be invented, there still would not be a single soul willing to go back in time to before this moment to fix history, because having to witness such incredible horrors if they failed would have to many mental and physical drawbacks that not even the bravest soul in history would be willing to risk it. I cannot imagine the pure dread your mother must have felt when she had to carry a baby for nine months and then giving birth to such a wretched monster as you. Not a single word of the incoherent, illogical rambling you may be wanting to do to defend yourself or apologize would ever be able to make up for what you just did. The countries of the world would have wanted to make laws preventing such a terrible event like this from ever happening again, but sadly this is not possible since your horrific actions just now have shattered every form of order this world once had, making concepts such as laws irrelevant. Right from the moment I first set my eyes on you I knew you were an absolute abomination of everything that is wrong with humanity. I was hoping I would have been able to prevent your evil from being released upon this world by tagging along and keeping my eye on you, but it is clear to me now that not even the greatest efforts would have been able to prevent a terrible event in this scale from occurring. You are the worst human being, or even just being in general, that I have ever had the misfortune of witnessing. Events like the infected plague apparently only happened with the goal of teaching humanity to survive such a horrible event as the one you just created, but not even mankind’s greatest trials were able to even slightly prepare anyone for the insufferable evil you have just created. If you ever had them, your children would be preemptively killed to protect this universe from the possibility of anyone in your bloodline being even half as bad as you are, except you will never be able to have children, because not a single human being will ever want to come within a hundred mile radius of you and anything you have ever touched. You are a colossal disappointment not only to your parents, but to your ancestors and entire bloodline. The disgusting mistake that you have just made is so incredibly terrible that everyone who would ever be to hear about it would spontaneously feel an indescribable mixture of immense anger, fear and anxiety that emotionally and physically they would never truly be the same ever again. The sheer scale of your mistake, if ever to be materialized, would not only surpass the size of the world, but it would reach far beyond the edges of the known, and almost certainly the unknown universe. I could sit here and write paragraphs, nay, books describing your immense failure, yet even if I were to dedicate my life to describing the reality of what has just gone down here, and I would spend every moment of it until my heart stops beating working as hard and efficiently as possible, yet there is not even a snowballs chance in hell that I would be able to come close to transcribing the absolute shitshow you have just released upon the world. You are an irresponsible, idiotic, disgusting, unloved, horrible excuse for a living being who’s soul contains less humanity than every ginger in history combined. The absolute disgust I feel when thinking about anything that has even a slight resemblance to anything that might have to do with you and your unholy actions is so incredibly great that when I am honest about it I think that even I do not posses a consciousness great enough to comprehend my own feelings about it. When people of Columbia fought to break free from Lungmen, countless soldiers fought and lost their lives in favor of a chance at a better future for their children, they did not give their lives to have you fuck the world up beyond repair to the degree that you are doing right now. Honestly, even when technology advances and studies on the subject become more and more accurate, I do not think humanity will ever truly be able to understand what your failure actually means for the universe. My hate for you and everything you stand for is so much deeper than the depths of Shambala that you could probably take the entire Lungmen population down there and back up around twenty million times before you would have sunk to the end of my hate, and honestly, I do not want to exaggerate, but I think that that insult was low balling it such a massive amount that all mountains in this world combined would not be able to stack up to this imprecise judgement in light of the fact that when being honest, my hate is almost certainly bottomless. There is no one in this world that has ever loved you, and especially after what you just did, no one will ever love you in the future either. There is no hope that your idiotic behavior and especially your crooked soul will ever change for the better, and in fact quite the opposite might be true. By making the mistake that you just did, you have shown me that you are so incredibly hopeless that you will only devolve into a more idiotic and wretched creature than you already are. The only possible way in which your future would be brighter than the black hole your existence currently is would exclusively be because there is absolutely no conceivable way that you would even be able to sink lower than the pathetic place your current failure has put you in. + + +Also please fuck me ;)",1 +15360,"FUCK OFF MOM. Saw another post talking shit about his mom, FUCK HER. + +AND FUCK MY MOM, FUCK YOU FOR FUCKING FORCING ME TO FUCKING COME INTO FUCKING WORK WHEN I HAVE TESTED FUCKING POSTIVE FOR FUCKING COVID AND FUCKING THREATENING TO FUCKING FIRE ME IF I DIDNT COME IN. I HAVENT BEEN ABLE TO FUCKING GET BETTER BECAUSE IM FUCKING BUSTING MY FUCKING ASS OFF FOR YOUR STUPID ASS FUCKING CAFE THAT I FUCKING HATE WORKING AT BUT HAVE NO CHOICE. I CANT FUCKING BREATHE, I CANT FUCKING WORK FIVE FUCKING SECONDS WITHOUT THROWING UP OR COUGHING SO FUCKING AGGRESIVELY, FUCK YOU AND FUCK OFF. + +fuck.",1 +15361,"FUCK PORN REALLY. THEY KEEP POSTING PORN HERE, LET'S DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT FUCK + +SHIIIIT FUCK THEM",1 +15362,Fuck School. ,1 +15363,"A Vietnamese composer made this 10-song album that are classified as ""unsuitable for Vietnamese customs and traditions"". The song I'm showing you here is only 1 of 10 songs, and the lyrics are pretty much to ""Fuck"".. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q59spd5pJ7c](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q59spd5pJ7c) + +Lyrics translated : + +You fuck kings, you fuck lords, fuck the POTUS, and the Soviet Premier, + +You fuck humans, you even fuck the God, + +You fuck Mao, you fuck my uncle (chú is also used to refer a younger person), + +Even fuck the Chinese guy, but you fuck people not as long as when you were fucking me. + +​ + +You fuck monks, you fuck senior citizens (cố is also used to describe monks in VNmese), + +You even fuck beggars, fuck both normal people and psychopaths, + +But you always fuck me first, + +You fuck soldiers and generals, you fuck the traffic cops just like a normal person, + +But obviously, you are happier fucking me. + +​ + +You fuck boys, you fuck old men, + +Fuck school teachers, even fuck prestigious college boys, + +You fuck teachers, fuck the whole school, fuck Vietnamese, fuck Americans, + +Even fuck the Viet Cong in the forest, but you always fuck me first, + +I was insanely happy when I fuck you, and you can fuck me for free. + +(Refers to ""you"" in the lyrics being a prostitute who works internationally, but at last she still finds fucking ""me"" better)",1 +15364,For fucks sake: Is there something more fucking broken than the fucking Facebook comment section fucking out there?. ,1 +15365,Fuck you Twitter for fucking noticing me that I have done great work because my fucking Tweet has already reached fucking 145 people. With fucking 5500 followers on my fucking account. I fucking hate that organic reach free shit show.. ,1 +15366,"Fuck Fuck double fucked. I lost my 15yo Jake dog ( I posted "" Fuck "" l) and buried him last thursday, my 14 yo Jessie dog has been having siezures and is on meds for a month and seemed ok , after Jake passed they started again, I got her back to the vet yesterday and found out she is ate up with cancer, thats fucked up, I cooked my dogs meals...they ate better than me ( knowing melamine and other crap found in dogfood from fucking china... hell FUCKing No!)I did not make them drink the crappy ass hill country Texas limestone water, I gave them bottled,....did the treats get her, I dont know... but I love my dogs and all my animals ,this is really fucked up...Then I start thinking all kinds of fucked up shit, am I fucked with cancer and dont fucking know it, and other fucking really fucked up thoughts...like fuck me , fuck it, fuck it all, but im not suicidal, just double fucked...it hurts my heart....",1 +15367,Fuck you Microsoft for trying to fucking force your fucking shitty asshole store shop thing onto us. Just fuck off.. ,1 +15368,Shit. ,1 +15369,fuck. ,1 +15370,Well fuck.. My fuckin brain isn't done cooking. Fuck.,1 +15371,"FUCK THE US SCHOOL SYSTEM, SUPREME COURT, AND MYSELF.. FUCK THE SCHOOL SYSTEM FOR NOT PROTECTING STUDENTS IN A PLACE THAT SHOULD BE FUCKING SAFE FROM INTRUDERS. FUCK THE POLICE IN UVALDE FOR NOT DOING FUCKING ANYTHING FOR 72 MINUTES AFTER A FUCKING CONFIRMED SHOOTER WAS ON PREMISES. FUCK THEM FOR LETTING HIM HIDE IN A ROOM WITH 20+ FUCKING KIDS WITH A FUCKING UNLOCKED DOOR. FUCK THEM FOR NOT LETTING ME FEEL SAFE IN MY OWN FUCKING CLASSROOM. + +FUCK THE SUPREME COURT AND POLITICIANS CALLING OUT OBAMA FOR PACKING THE COURTS WHEN TRUMP APPOINTED THREE. FUCK THEM FOR OVERTURNING ROE V WADE, SAYING IT'S THE STATES RIGHTS. FUCK THE. FUCKING POLITICIAN PROPOSING A TOTAL ABORTION BAN, HE DOESNT CARE ABOUT STATES RIGHTS. + +FUCK MYSELF FOR NOT CARING ABOUT MY FAMILY OR FRIENDS. FUCK ME FOR NOT CARING THAT MY FRIEND WAS RAPED BY A STAR FOOTBALL PLAYER AT MY SCHOOL, OR THAT MY OTHER FRIEND IS DYING FROM LIVER ULCERS AND HE'S NOT GETTING THE SURGERY JUST TO SPITE HIS PARENTS WHO DONT CARE ABOUT HIM. + +FUCK ME AND MY MOTHER. FUCK THAT SHES BACK IN THE HOSPITAL 3 DAYS AFTER SPINE SURGERY. FUCK THE FACT THAT SHE FLIPPED ME AND THE OPERATOR OFF, THEN CRIED TO THE PARAMEDICS THAT WE'VE DONE NOTHING FOR HER. + +FUCK MY DAD FOR GIVING UP ON EVERYTHING IN HIS LIFE FOR METH. FUCK THE FACT I HAD TO CALL THE COPS SO I WOULDNT KILL HIM MYSELF AND THEY DID NOTHING. FUCK HIM FOR BEING CLEAN 2 WEEKS AND WANTING TO WALTZ BACK INTO MY LIFE LIKE IT NEVER HAPPENED. HES DOING A LOT BETTER, BUT FUCK HIM. + + +AND MOST OF ALL, FUCK YOU READING THIS. TO YOU ITS JUST ANOTHER FUCKING POST ABOUT SOMEONES FUCKING SHITTY LIFE, BUT I HAVE TO FUCKING LIVE IT. + +fuck you.",1 +15372,HOLY MOTHERFUCKING FUCKER OF FUCK MY FUCKING LIFE IS ACTUALLY FUCKING FOR FUCKING ONCE GOING FUCKING WELL!!!!!. FUCKING FUCK FUCKITY FUCK FUCKITY BRO I AM SO HAPPY AND I FEEL SO MOTIVATED TO DO MY WORK AND HOLY FUCK THERE'S THIS FUCKING HOT FUCKING GIRL WHO FUCKING LIKES ME AND IM PRETTY FUCKING SURE THAT SHE FUCKING WANTS TO FUCKING DATE ME AND I FUCKING LOVE HER BRO I LITERALLY WANT HER TO FUCKING CRY IN MY FUCKING ARMS AND I WANT HER TO FUCKING VENT ALL HER FUCKING FEELINGS OUT TO ME BECAUSE I AM FUCKING WILLING TO FUCKING HELP AND I FUCKING LOVE IT BECAUSE SHE IS REALLY FUCKING INTO ME!!!!! FUCK YEAH BRO,1 +15373,"Petition for a permanent ban on porn accounts instead of 72 hours.. It's not a coincidence that rule number 1 is rule number 1. + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/xpwfbq)",1 +15374,fuck. ,1 +15375,headlight frustration chipmunk mode. ,1 +15376,Fuuuuuuck. GAAAAAA fuck these fucking people,1 +15377,Fuck Reddit mods. They are the fucking worst. ,1 +15378,"Fucking mods why don’t you permaban people who post porn?. Why just the 72 hour ban? My timeline is supposed to be clean of nasty stinking onlyfans loner wahmen molesting their own fuck hole because they’re too lazy to work a real job. + +I only subbed this sub to FUCK FUCK FUCKKKKKKKK from time to time. My coworkers could see this shit or my GF. + +How am I supposed to explain that?! “Yea babe this is a forum that’s called “FUCK” but it’s not for porn” + +Fucking perma ban any degenerate cripple who’s so out to the loop they just spam their genitals all over Reddit. + +Fuck.",1 +15379,Fuck Russia.. Bottom text.,1 +15380,fuck. fuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckFUCK,1 +15381,having a conservative asian parents where therapy is no such thing. I fucking needed help.. ,1 +15382,Fuck finals exams. ,1 +15383,"Guys, clearly the mods just left this sub to rot.. Just jump ship and abandon the subreddit and make a new sub, because at this point it's clear the mods stopped caring a while ago and now the fucking porn bots have taken over. + +It's bad enough that actual people are now posting porn on top of the bots, now that there is so fucking much porn. + +Not to even mention some comments are being botted too it seems.",1 +15384,Fuck. ,1 +15385,Fuck the word Fuck. ,1 +15386,Fuck this. Like you know when life fucks you over and you genuinely want to tell the world to fuck itself? Yeah me too. On a daily fucking basis 🖕🏼,1 +15387,"Fuck. Whats your mood right now? + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/uglioz)",1 +15388,"I fucking love this fuckjg subfuckkingreddit. fuuuuuuuuccccccccckkkkkkkkkkkkkk +yea +just fuckin love coming on this swearing to be able to get out all the fucking swearing I can't do I front of my fuckkg mormon parents +fuck + +fuck yea",1 +15389,"What the fuck is up. I am very fucking bored so tell a story scary, cool, weird, intense, I don’t really care I just wanna read some fucking story’s ya fuckin hear?",1 +15390,Fuck! I stumbled in this subreddit. ,1 +15391,I'm so fucking happy I found this sub. This is the funniest fucking sub on this fucking website. I have laughed so fucking much at all these fucking posts and fucking comments left by you motherfuckers. Fucking keep it up.,1 +15392,"Fuck people that try to be formal when you're just trying to be cool with them. That shit's annoying. I'll take a ""hey whats up"" over a ""hello welcome to \_\_\_\_\_ how may I help you""?",1 +15393,"FUCK THAT FUCKING HOSPITAL FUCK!!!. I am so fucking mad, my friend is currently inpatient at some shitty ass hospital. She has been diagnosed with Chiari Malformation and just got decompression surgery a few days ago and i swear the hospital stuff there is trying to kill her or something! She has to take lithium for her bipolar disorder and the stuff has been giving her double the dose instead of her painkillers and also can't really explain to her what the fucking pills are she has been given and they just don't fucking care! People fucking DIE from that shit! I am so mad and i can't do a thing about it, cause i am too fucking far away! And they treat her so badly and just leave her to fend for herself! I know hospitals are understaffed but what the fuck is that shit! Can they at least be careful enough to not fucking kill her for fucks sake! Fuck!",1 +15394,It's finally the fucking weekend!. ,1 +15395,"Something I fucking hate. Lying when they fucking ass know I know they lying. + +Why the fuck are you lying to me when you know my bullshit meter is calibrated to where I hear a fucking lie five doors down my house. Ten doors if it's windy. + +FUCK",1 +15396,Petition to change the name of the sub to r/FuckinHell to avoid confusion.. ,1 +15397,what the fuck is this fucking bullshit fuck everything fuck. ,1 +15398,Fuck fuck. Fuck,1 +15399,FUCK YOU FUCKING ASS HOLES 🕳…. FUCK the IRS… sending me a letter to wait another 60 days while the look over my shit… this has never happened before… FUCK YOU for holding my money…. FUCK YOU BITCH. ,1 +15400,"Fuck everyone and fuck everything every-fucking-where!. That's all the fuck I had to fucking say for to-fucking-day! + +\-With the fucked regards from y'all's fuckerly",1 +15401,Fuck fuck fuck. ,1 +15402,"Why the fuck is the fucking Netflix app on fucking Windows just a fucking piece of shit, but the fucking Netflix app on my fucking decades old PS3 is just fucking awesome? Fuck you Netlix for fucking doing that.. ",1 +15403,Choose Carefully.. ,1 +15404,"I'm fucking back, motherfuckers!. Fucked fuck fuckery fuckety frick fucker",1 +15405,I wanna fuckin die. ,1 +15406,Fuck h**s. ,1 +15407,friendly reminder two: post porn = permaban. ,1 +15408,fuck the fucking fucker. ,1 +15409,FUCK PORN VIDEOS!. FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! 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FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS! FUCK PORN VIDEOS!,1 +15410,Do we fucking have to say fuck in every fucking sentence?. ,1 +15411,Fuck. ,1 +15412,fuck.. ,1 +15413,"Fuck adhd. i hate my adhd, i cant be good at some activity, personal or in my job, i already do therapy but still no result. I feel like a loser, fuck fuck fuclk",1 +15414,Fuck Cancer. That is all.,1 +15415,"FUCK YOU ASSHOLE YOU PIECE OF SHIT YOU MOTHERFUCKING FUCK YOU ARE THE LIVING EMBODIMENT OF A FUCKHEAD FUCK YOU. And also thanks for keeping me entertained, stay fucked.",1 +15416,"fuck!!!!. I drank fucking yogurt before going to the fucking bed and now my fucking belly is acting a little fucking funny, and I fucking have fucking exams tomorrow which I cannot fucking miss because they are fucking important.",1 +15417,Fuck……. ,1 +15418,Fuck the loneliness. ,1 +15419,She's too fucked up to fuck me and I'm too fucked up to give a fuck. ,1 +15420,"Fucking 55 fucking dollars. Just lost my fucking money bc I dropped it and once I realised I dropped it, it was fucking gone. Fuck that prick that took my money.",1 +15421,OH FUCK. ,1 +15422,"FUCK. My very good bubba dog died today in my arms, 15yrs, he loved to go fishing in the Guadalupe River in Texas, always looking for buzzards, watching tv( loved ""cops""), a very smart guy that brought a lot of good to my family, we will miss you Jake! He was 100% pure bread River Rat Terrior, given by Doc who also has passed, thanks for such a wonderfull dog amigo!!! Fuck this sux....",1 +15423,The big met theory. ,1 +15424,poor guys. ,1 +15425,You can't get more lucky than that. ,1 +15426,"Fuck of the Week (#7). I want to just fucking scream fuck in the middle of a fucking supermarket. If anyone called John is reading this, fuck you.",1 +15427,"I got fucking covid, I wanna fucking die.. My fucking throat is dryer than the fucking desert and my head hurts like shit. Fucking kill me right this motherfucking instant. + +Update: hiya fuckers and non fuckers, well guess what? I didn’t fucking die, I tested negative over 16 days ago. so fuck y’all that hoped I would fucking die. So, no long term shitty side effects, or none of that shit. I made some fucking research, and found out im immune as fuck to this shitty as virus. So again, fuck y’all, I ain’t gonna die any time soon. +WOO IM FUCKIN COVID FREE BABY",1 +15428,fuck my life. ,1 +15429,Fuck you all. I'm a little high on some mushys. Your guys are cool man,1 +15430,Fuck O'Reillys. Their customer service can suck a dick!,1 +15431,Fuck Xi Jinping !. ,1 +15432,fuck this fucking stupid people who fucking get up at 3h30 IN THE FUCKING NIGHT to annoy my fucking peace and quiet that i waited UNTIL 3H30 IN THE NIGHT to FINALLY FUCKING HAVE. fuck this stupid ass motherfucker getting his fuvking stupid baggage ready at 3 am. fuck this stupid woman who fucking go. OUT OF HER FUCKING WAY EVERY SINGLE FUCKING TIME TO DISCOVER FUCKING DETAILS OF EVERY SINGLE NEIGHBOURS' LIVES LIKE A FUCKING PRICK OR SMTH. FUCK THIS STUPID TOWN FUCKING FILLED TO THE BRIM WITH CURIOUS PEOPLE FOR NO FUCKING REASON??? WHO DONT KNOW HOW TO FUCKING LIVE THEIR OWN LIVES RESPECTING OTHER'S PRIVACY???? WHO DO NOT FUCKING KNOW HOW TO FUCKING KEEP CIVIL??? I FUCKING HATE THIS GOD FUCKING DAMNED PLACE,1 +15433,"working on my abandonment issues, whenever he replies late i should not get unhinged, because i should get a life out here.. ",1 +15434,"Just a public announcement exclusively for r/fuck members!. I'M GOING TO GO TO SLEEP NOW! DON'T FUCKING BOTHER ME! I HAVE TO SEE THE DOCTOR TOMORROW. SO KEEP IT FUCKING DOWN YOU FUCKING NOISY FUCKING FUCKWIPES! + +NOW, GO ABOUT YOUR FUCKING PATHETIC LOSSER FUCKING LIVES! + +Just kidding, you Fucking Losers are the best Fucking Losers on Reddit. + +Peace out dudes. Take care, and have a great night/day!",1 +15435,"FUCK. MY. LIFE.. FUCK MY LIFE, FUCK MY CIRCUMSTANCES, FUCK BEING POOR, FUCK STARVING FOR 2 WEEKS, FUCK MY DISABILITIES, FUCK DEPRESSION, FUCK GOING HOMELESS SOON, FUCK ANXIETY, FUCK MY OCD, FUCK CHRONIC PAIN, FUCK SCOLIOSIS, FUCK FIBROMYALGIA, FUCK INVERSE PSORIASIS, FUCK HIP PAIN, FUCK MY FRACTURED ANKLE, FUCK MY HURTING LUNGS, FUCK MY DERMATITIS, FUCK MY CHEMICAL BURNS, FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK IT ALL.",1 +15436,someone get a fucking mod in this fucking subreddit. There’s too fucking much… there’s too fucking much,1 +15437,He can't drink water from same bottle of his childhood friend but he will eat a pussy he met 20 minutes ago.. ,1 +15438,"Gotta make this clear for everyone….. THIS IS NOT A PORN SUBREDDIT, FOR FUCKS SAKE, JUST GO POST YOUR UNWANTED SHIT OVER TO R/NSFW, YKNOW HOW MANY TIMES I ALMOST GOT IN TROUBLE BECAUSE I WAS BINGING THIS SUB AND A RANDOM DUDE FUCKING A GIRL POPPED UP? +HELL, I ALMOST GOT SUSPENDED ONCE. +NOW GET THE FUCK OUT YOU HORNY BASTARRRDDDDSSS",1 +15439,Ho Lee Fuk. I am back after two years wi🅱️🅱️as,1 +15440,"fuck. ​ + +https://preview.redd.it/5v0bs4zqwjw81.png?width=550&format=png&auto=webp&s=97956e6c9dfbd6cfcf054c8a9d93b979aa287aac",1 +15441,Fuck. Fuck fucked up fucking fuck,1 +15442,Fuck u fuck u period pain. Wtf i am supposed to act like I'm fine do my 9-5 job when I'm literally in pain?,1 +15443,"Fuck Disney World. After working at Disney for over 5 years I'm finally about to say goodbye. The way we have been treated since we came back to work with covid procedures has been the most toxic work environment I've ever been in. + +Managers yelled and screamed at cast in front of guest. Shitty guest treated us horribly for simply doing our fucking jobs.ind you during a pandemic. I don't care if you wear a tin foil hat or not but being paid under 15.00 an hour while wearing PPE at a theme park is a joke. + +I've had enough. Wanted some tips on burning this bridge as much as possible. I'm writing a personal letter to all the managers and the proprietor about the horrible conditions and treatment of workers. Someone has to stay it. I'm not going to sugarcoat anything. + +I never want to work for Disney again so give me your best. + +Also this management team did nothing but gaslight people for months on their work performance under such stress. I had cast members come back from their meetings in tears at times. Had cast getting therapy just to mentally get by. + +Disney has a horrible cult mentality. Many of these workers think they're here to make their dreams come true. Meanwhile they get paid shit and are treated as such. + +On top of all of this. My position is an assistant manager. I do the work they should be doing plus make sure the actual operation is running smoothly. Making sure people go on breaks, clock out on time, call them to see why they're late, handle all customer situations and even input data on the daily numbers and make detailed documents for various reasons. + +Wanna know how much more I make than the regular cast? + +$1.50 an hour. + +Have I ever seen a manager do anything besides walk around and point out flaws? + +Once last month. + +Fuck Disney and fuck the theme park industry.",1 +15444,i fucking fuck the fuck. fuck you and fuck the fuck that's been fucked to the fuckery of the fuck that fucked that fucker of that fuck with the fuck and fuck you.,1 +15445,I’d like to speak to the manager of Mocha coffee please. ,1 +15446,Fuck I forgot my jacket. nothing special i just forgot my jacket for work and the shirt sticks to my body and I just hate it,1 +15447,"Maybe tonight my fucking job will kill me.. Worked myself to hard yesterday, fucking paid for it the next day, fucking muscle spasms across my back. Why the fuck did I try so hard, dam work ethics. Too old for this fucking bullshit, dealing with health issues, plus mental issues. Fuck health insurance deductibles, can't afford those either. + +Fuck, I guess back to the fucking grindstone! Maybe tonight is the fucking night ""Life Insurance"" pays off. The last, ""Fuck You!"" to everyone, everything goes to charity. + +Fuck it! There's no escaping this hell. Later, you fucking fucks. + +FUCK!",1 +15448,"FUCK REDDITCARERESOURCES FUCKING FUCK THOSE FUCKING FUCKERS. IM TIRED OF GETTING FUCKING MESSAGES FROM THE FUCKING REDDIT CARE BOT EVEN THOUGH I BLOCKED IT, IM STILL GETTING THE MOTHER FUCKING MESSAGES JUST WITH THE CONTENT HIDDEN, I DONT WANNA FUCKING SEE IT, EW, FUCK, GET IT AWAY FROM ME. FUCKING FUCK REDDIT FUCK YOU, IM TIRED OF RANDOM TRANSPHOBES REPORTING ME TO THE FUCKING REDDIT CARE BOT, WHAT A RETARDED FUCKING FEATURE, I BET IT HASN'T HELPED A SINGLE FUCKING PERSON, IM GOING TO GO FUCKING CUT MYSELF IN SPITE OF THE FUCKING REDDIT CARE RESOURCES BOT FUCK YOU. FUCK!!!!!",1 +15449,Fuck. ,1 +15450,Fuck I forgot my jacket. ,1 +15451,What the fuck is wrong with this sub?. ,1 +15452,Fuck Andrew tate. ,1 +15453,fuck. ,1 +15454,"Fuck, I can't sleep.. Do you give a fuck? + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/wt5aoy)",1 +15455,well fuck. ,1 +15456,Fuck Eating. ,1 +15457,FUCK MY FUCKING LIFE. i fucking asked out this girl and she fucking rejected me and all my friends are fucking busy so i’m along in my fucking room fucking crying probably for the next 4 fucking hours fuck me,1 +15458,"Know your fucking grammar, fuckers:. Fuck me/you + +Fuck off + +Fuck him/her/it/them/xem/egg/blam/rat/spork/pencil/etc. + +Fucking hell + +F U C K E R S + +What a fucko + +Fucks sake + +Fuckwit/Fuckhead + +**Languages:** + +Le Fucké (Fr>!e!_<. ,1 +15684,Oh Shit. ,1 +15685,You know what?. Fuck,1 +15686,"Fuck Controllers. I literally got up from my chair to get a drink while my controller was in my hand and dropped my xbox controller. The fucking thing looked like it shattered like glass when it broke into like 3 peices on the ground. The thumbstick ejected from the controller like it was role-playing as top motherfucking gun. Looked like the thumbstick was Maverick, and a little silver peice from the back of my battery pack was goose. Maverick was lucky, while goose didn't survive. The little silver thing, (goose) got lost in the modern jungle of this shitty backrooms carpet never to be seen again. So, I didn't know goose ejected, and in fact I knew up until that point that the only thing I had to fix was my thumbstick. So I took all the microscopic screws out, stripped half of them in the process making it about enjoyable as stubbing your pinky toe on the edge of a hardwood coffee table to put back on. Then I put the batteries in.....and....the batteries fell out of the battery pack. It was at this point that I realized that goose, had in fact, ejected. So I quickly (and swiftly) took the ice breaker mint package and proceeded to bash the hell out of it on the wall, spilling the cheap fractured plastic out of my sore hand, and onto the floor. Because at that time, I simply didn't want to be alive anymore. I then accepted the bullshit and went to plug in my controller, only to realize that the cord only works if you push up on it to the left. So, I threw my controller down on the carpet one final time and came to the finale of this 2-part shit orgy, and realized that I have to spend my hard earned work money on a new xbox controller. Fuck everything man.",1 +15687,fuck. ,1 +15688,Fuck. ,1 +15689,fuck. ,1 +15690,WHY DID I GET BANNED. WHO WANTED ME GONE I KNOW LIKE I'M PASSIONATE IN MY POSTS OR WHATEVER BUT SINCE I DON'T HAVE TWITTER ANYMORE REDDIT IS THE ONLY WAY FOR ME TO EXPRESS MYSELF/MY OPINIONS AND WHEN THAT WAS TAKEN FROM ME I WAS AT MY ABSOLUTE LOWEST I WOULD NOT WISH THAT UPON MY WORST ENEMY (WHICH IS WHOEVER GOT ME BANNED),1 +15691,Awful shit.. I got kicked out by my own friends. For no reason. Cause of this guy who makes up lie about me. What should I do? I’m am a awful person while there is someone who fakes having tics and Tourette’s. Awful person my ass.,1 +15692,fuck. fuck,1 +15693,Restaurants fight back against Karen. ,1 +15694,Fuck it I'm done with this shit. ,1 +15695,"Wednesday Addams as a character is born out of our Patriarchal, Capitalist and Sexist society.. ",1 +15696,Fuck. Fuck,1 +15697,"KHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAN!!!!. [u/patsliterallystupid](https://www.reddit.com/user/patsliterallystupid/) WHERE THE FUCK ARE YOU?! + +WHY AREN'T I MOD?!",1 +15698,"DO YOU GIVE A FUCK?. FUCKIN'7FUCKIN'DAYS! LET'S SEE WHO GIVES A FUCK. MOTHERFUCKERS! FUCK! + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/ys2vew)",1 +15699,"My Fuckin'medication slows my fucked up mind down. Fuckin'bullshit!. Take medication for my mental illness diagnosis, I miss being an overly imaginative, hyperactive, hypersensitive creative soul. I miss having wild conversations with myself, with me. I've created these incredible personas that live within my mind, I miss talking with them, dreaming of the worlds that they exist in. They were there when I needed to escape the harsh reality of living with depression, despair and loneliness. It makes me sad to think I've trapped them inside me, with the darkness that wishes to devour me, mental illness sucks! + +FUCK, FUCK FUCK, FUCK FUCK!!! + +Just a rant, never mind that Fuckin'crazy Fuckin'old Fuckin'dog. Let him howl all he wants, he'll play himself out soon enough. + +Thank you for listening to me, I thank you, and especially, gratitude from myself. We thank you. + +(THAT FUCKIN'DOG IS REALLY FUCKED UP! FUCK!)",1 +15700,"An Update from Missionary. Just got banned from r/fuckityfuckfuck, and there are no posts on that subreddit anymore. + +r/FuckingFucked is the new ""abandon ship"" subreddit for r/fuck.",1 +15701,"My fucking investigation. There are fucking bots plagueing this sub with fucking porn. Here's whst i fucking got. + + +•the usernames are similiar + +•they karma whore in free karma subs comments + +•they only post the same few vids in their account + +•they nevar have more than 50 karma + + +I am going to fucking investigate further, but so fucking should you.",1 +15702,double fuck onions. fuck them. I hate onions so much. fuck.,1 +15703,"What the Fuck does Fuck mean on this sub? Hint: Read Rule #1.. Just fuckin' read the rule. Check the ""about"" tab. Spoiler: Fuck doesn't always mean what your filthy little minds think.",1 +15704,Fuck hour long YouTube videos. Fuck them for capitalizing on my absent mindedness,1 +15705,FFFFUUUUCCCCKKKK YOU STEAM. WHO THE FUCK ON THIS GODDAMN SHIT PLANET HAVE FUCKING 50 DOLLAR FOR A GODDAMN FUCKING GAME FUCK YOU STEAM,1 +15706,fukc. ufkc,1 +15707,fuck a duck stuck in the muck with a buck. ,1 +15708,asbestos. ,1 +15709,"I'm going to become a world leader. Just to fuck every hot female world leader and politician. + +I will also make my country better.",1 +15710,Fuck all mini player functions. Just fuck off. No one needs you.. Had to get that off my fucking chest. Hope I am not annoying you to much. Have a fucking awesome week.,1 +15711,Fuck. ,1 +15712,"fucking long list of fucks. Fuck my emotions that i felt,fuck my caring attitude,fuck the feeling that i felt, fuck that feeling that made me think i could sacrifice my everything for some people,fuck all that emotions that let me believe those people loved me,fuck me because i hoped people would understand me,fuck all those fake smiles that i gave to people, fuck my heart because it couldnt stop caring or loving those peoples,fuck those dreams that i hoped would happen,fuck this sadness i am feeling right now,fuck those things that i sacrificed to give them to some people,above all fuck me because i wanted to be loved,understood,happy,smile...",1 +15713,What the fucking fuckery fucked fuck is this sub?!. ,1 +15714,"FUCK. MY FUCKING PARENTS KICKED THE FUCKING FUCK OUT OF MY FUCKING HOME!!!!! WHAT THE FUCK DO I FUCKING DO? STAY AT MY FUCKING SCHOOL FOR THE NIGHT?? + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +​ + +sexfucksex",1 +15715,The whip splash. ,1 +15716,Armed robbery by a goat shapeshifter. ,1 +15717,Kid just unlearned math. ,1 +15718,Karen doesn't like the way you had your baby. ,1 +15719,Fuck fuck fuck. F U C K,1 +15720,"Fucking sorority girls are mean motherfuckers. Fuck this fucking bullshit. I fucking regret joining this godddamn fucking shitshow so fucking bad. Don’t ever fucking join greek life it’s the most fucking toxic shit. Fuck the stupid fucking bitches in the sorority who are fucking harassing me.. Fuck this, fuck them, and fuck the sorority.",1 +15721,"Millennial Love. These are both *classic Fuck* Boy behaviours. For the sake of ease – and fun – let's call them Fuckboyeries. One of the most brutal Fuckboyeries is 'breadcrumbing', which Collins Dictionary defines as 'dropping hints to someone that you ...",1 +15722,Fuck. It turns out we might have been wrong about the age and origins of everyone's favorite word. While it's pretty fucking hard to pin down the exact lineage of the word—sources point to its first usage in the late-1500s to late-1300s—a historian believes he has found the first fuck ever given. Fu. ,1 +15723,ivh xdhwuu. ,1 +15724,Fuck. ,1 +15725,"Fuck this sub.... Fuck this porn ridden fucking sub, I'm fucking leaving. Fuck you all and see you in YFMreddit or some fucking thing",1 +15726,"Fucking suggestion for the mods.. Ban the fucking word ""amouranth"" since most porn posts nowadays have the fucking word ""amouranth"" in their fucking caption",1 +15727,Fuck Fuck. ,1 +15728,fuck. fuck you in particular,1 +15729,Affirmations about focus. ,1 +15730,You son of a fuck.. ,1 +15731,A good funny personal reality check type video (3 minutes). ,1 +15732,when you fuck around and find out how to tie a nuese.. So I been playing cats cradle and other stuff recently. And I found out how to tie one off. Fukk,1 +15733,oh fuck great. these fucking blokes are chasing the fuck out of my fucking apartment and smoking fucking actual weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed.,1 +15734,"Fuck Spelunky 2 Moles. I fucking hate them so goddamn much, they pop out of fucking nowhere. When I'm in a shop, BOOM, Fucking mole. When I'm grabbing turkeys, BOOM, FUcKing MOLES. WHEN I MAKE A GODDAMN JUMP OVER SPIKES, GUESS WHAT!? F U C K I N G MOLES!!!",1 +15735,Driving along down the freeway. ,1 +15736,This Karen who stole this baseball from a little girl.. ,1 +15737,why is this happening to me?🫠. ,1 +15738,"Fuck it. Collection of photographs taken between 2012 and 2014 in Uganda around its most notorious district of Kabalagala presenting a myriad of characters: the street-walkers, good-time girls, vagabonds, village fools, pimps, drunken expats,",1 +15739,Classy as Fuck Flask: (8 Ounce Shiny Gold Portable Drinkware .... Linus Boman is the London-based graphic designer behind Calligraphuck. Calligraphuck started as a crowd-funded passion project that combined Linus's lifelong love of elegant letterforms and salty language.,1 +15740,Bored 😑. ,1 +15741,"How good Brest is. I prefer Brest but having good sex is good. + +I have been to Brest and I had a great time. The weather was nice, the people were friendly and the food was delicious. + +However, I also had a lot of sex there and that was really good too!",1 +15742,F. UCK!,1 +15743,shit.. Just fucking kidding,1 +15744,"Fucking. Fuck this concert fuck these people they don’t want me here anyways, fuck it all I’m an annoying cunt piece of shit cunt shit cunt cunt cunt. Nobody likes me and I’m terrible at everything because I’m a fucking cunt fuck. People just put up with my dumb retarded shit for some dumb fucking stupid reason fucking bullshit. Fuck it all fuck me. I hope I get hit by a car so I don’t have to go. Let them have a good time, don’t fucking need me around.",1 +15745,"Fuck living. Fuck all these people fuck jobs fuck capitalism fuck government fuck religion fuck you fuck me fuck everything just fucking die. That’s what we all need to do. Just fucking die fuck. Fuck these people. Let them go to a concert, they don’t need me there, I’ll just ruin the mood. Don’t know why they want me. Nobody wants me there. Nobody knows me except two people. Fuck them fuck me fuck everything I’ll just drown in my pool and die fucking hell shit duck fuck fuck. Gonna get drunk and drown in a pool. Woo hoo fuck yeah cunts. Eat shit and die drive fast take chances and Kill yourself cunt. Fuck cunt shit fuck.",1 +15746,"Fuck OU Fan, and fuck subs that ban ya for saying Fuck OU Fan. Why fuck you, OU fan? Because you suck OU Fan. OU Fan you are NCAA softball's zit, that deep one we gotta work on for months to get that shit popped out the top and it's probably gonna break the skin and then he have to treat that for weeks all because OU fan sucks, FUCK OU FAN. + +(If I haven't made it clear, people may be wondering at this point my stance on OU Fan, so let me sum it up in plain straightforward common sense words: FUCK OU FAN.) + +Fuck you and your shitty attitudes + +Fuck you and the way that you move + +Fuck you and your arrogant chants + +Fuck you for your well-fitting pants + +And fuck fracking. + +Rice Owl alum if any OU fans want to push their luck in the dozens.",1 +15747,"fuck encyclopedia dramatica. fuck encyclopedia dramatica fuck its gore fuck its pages + +fuck its offended section with gore",1 +15748,I am fuck with my life. ,1 +15749,Fuck all your family for generations past. fuck,1 +15750,humpty dumpty sat on a fuck humpty dumpty had a great fuck. ,1 +15751,Jumping off the Deck Never Ends Well. ,1 +15752,!. *fuck*,1 +15753,"Fuck. Snap from my calf mid wank, burn, AAAAAAAAA 20KM walk tomorrow, stopped, for now. Fuck.",1 +15754,This is what happens when you don't wear your nice wool pants that has been hanging in the closet for the past year and a half due to the pandemic.. ,1 +15755,Door to the...?. ,1 +15756,"Saw this at an art gallery. For only $41,000 you too can get this massive statue of a guy eating his own ass.. ",1 +15757,"Saw this at an art gallery. For only $41,000 you too can get this massive statue of a guy eating his own ass.. ",1 +15758,Fuck of the day #5. I ate a fucking snag for lunch. It was fucking shit. Fuck,1 +15759,"Haven’t been here in a while. It’s nice to see those fucking mods active again + +What’s up my fellow Fuckers!",1 +15760,LOUD (Fuck It): Motionless In White. ,1 +15761,someoe near Karlsruhe dm fir datw. ,1 +15762,"FUCK QUICKEN. Those nasty-ass bastards forced a change in the way bank accounts are handled, at which time they recreated ALL my accounts with one bank, downloaded ALL transactions as if new, I will spend HOURS upon HOURS fixing this bug, FUCK YOU FUCKHEADS MAGACULT QUICKEN FUCKING PIECES OF SHIT HAIRY ASS PROTO-HUMANS WITH PITCHFORKS COMING OUT YOUR ASS",1 +15763,"I've fucked up my life. Plus, my life has been fucked up.. ",1 +15764,Sx. ,1 +15765,Fuck. ,1 +15766,Personal growth affirmations uncensored. ,1 +15767,fuck?. Fuck fuck fuck! Fuck? Fuck????? FUUUUCK!??!?!????!!!??,1 +15768,"I have a plastic owl and pigeon netting on my apartment balcony and today a fucking pigeon grabbed onto the pigeon netting right beside the fucking owl and just ""hung there"" and flew away when I opened to door to smack it.. FUCK I fucking HATE pigeons. HATE HATE HATE HAAAAAAAAAAAATE HATE FUCKING HATE. +Dumbest fucking living thing on this planet. +Time to get a fucking pellet gun FUCK +FUCK PIGEONS +FUCK",1 +15769,Welcome to Fuck's. Order something or go Fuck yourself,1 +15770,****!!. ,1 +15771,Any links to fucked up vids ?. ,1 +15772,Frick. ,1 +15773,"Get off here. + +This is an application on a cell phone + +This isn’t real + +Get out + +Immediately",1 +15774,I’m here looking for serious man. ,1 +15775,Well damn... ,1 +15776,Affirmations about overcoming fear. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DxLrvc3dIOI&ab\_channel=MindfulMomentum](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DxLrvc3dIOI&ab_channel=MindfulMomentum),1 +15777,His momma raised a Bitch!!!. He probably fucking his momma.,1 +15778,FUUUUUCCCKKKK. Fuck,1 +15779,KEJEHDHEIDHBDUSHDD. ,1 +15780,Big ego little dick. ,1 +15781,Check out HAPPY CAPY's video!. ,1 +15782,"In case I get annoying, fuck that new reply button in my Reddit notifications in my fucking browser. No one needs that shit. And now, fuck off.. ",1 +15783,spam the f word. ,1 +15784,Fuck i cant fucking do this. Fuck this shit,1 +15785,frick. ,1 +15786,This phone exploded unexpectedly while at work. ,1 +15787,Rooting for underdogs. ,1 +15788,Affirmations about forgiveness. ,1 +15789,Cannibal Holocaust. Fuck everything. Everything is a fuck. Nothing matters. Fuck me I should just die. I’m a useless cunt. Might as well watch cannibal Holocaust.,1 +15790,fucking uncorked Emma Watson. I am Russian and uncorked Emma Watson while Ivan was watching,1 +15791,horny and down to fuck f22. ,1 +15792,Gotta be sure. ,1 +15793,parents weren't married. ,1 +15794,Wanna slide inside my gaping asshole?. ,1 +15795,I won’t be mad if you put your dick in the „wrong” hole ;). ,1 +15796,Do you think I have a cute asshole?. ,1 +15797,Wanna taste a freshly showered 21 year old. ,1 +15798,"I need somewhere to sit, can I use your face or cock? ;). ",1 +15799,"My ex wouldn’t eat ass, but I know you won’t let me down!. ",1 +15800,Your dick has a new assignment. ,1 +15801,do you think my asshole is pretty?. ,1 +15802,If you eat my ass I’ll let you fuck me anytime. ,1 +15803,Looking for a serious ass eater. ,1 +15804,"My asshole is saying „hey, lick me!” What’s your answer?!. ",1 +15805,Do you enjoy looking at my asshole from this point Of view?. ,1 +15806,Taste the magic ;). ,1 +15807,Do you think my asshole is looking nice in the sun?. ,1 +15808,"My dark asshole changed so much after becoming a mom, but she still wanted to say hello ;). ",1 +15809,"If you had to choose one, would it be my pussy or ass? 🥰. ",1 +15810,Requesting your services.. ,1 +15811,Do men enjoy eating ass these days or just looking at it.. ,1 +15812,Do you like my tiny asshole?. ,1 +15813,Do you have some time to eat my ass?. ,1 +15814,Do you think it’s yummy?. ,1 +15815,Bending over so you can take a closer look in between my cheeks ;). ,1 +15816,I can’t eat my own ass…but you can!. ,1 +15817,My 46 year old asshole 😉. ,1 +15818,Would you eat my ass on the first date?. ,1 +15819,Anal obsessed sluts at your service!. ,1 +15820,I promise you can use it however you please. ,1 +15821,"If I can borrow your tongue, you can borrow mine!. ",1 +15822,Where are all the guys at that actually like to eat ass?. ,1 +15823,Would you eat my ass for my 21st birthday!?. ,1 +15824,Is this how you want me to sit on your face?. ,1 +15825,You get a lot of vitamin D if you eat my sunny asshole 🍑☀️. ,1 +15826,Would you finger my ass in a parking garage?. ,1 +15827,Can we introduce your tongue to my asshole!?. ,1 +15828,Im curious if you’d like to eat my asshole?. ,1 +15829,My asshole loves to say hi ;). ,1 +15830,How you like my asshole? Would you cum inside?. ,1 +15831,Who gets pleasure out of eating ass?. ,1 +15832,Does my asshole catch your attention?. ,1 +15833,"If I had a Valentine, I’d let him do anal 🤭 too bad I’m alone this year. ",1 +15834,Would you put it in my asshole in the public restroom?. ,1 +15835,Do you wanna eat it or better fuck it?. ,1 +15836,Who wants to explore my black hole?. ,1 +15837,"Sunkissed face, sunkissed asshole. Would you lick it?. ",1 +15838,The snack that smiles back.. ,1 +15839,Would you put your dick in my asshole? It’s very tight. ,1 +15840,"My holes love kisses ""in French"" 😈. ",1 +15841,Can I convince you to eat my cute lil hole…. ,1 +15842,We like to give you choices ;). ,1 +15843,"Pick a hole, any hole (but ideally my asshole). ",1 +15844,Would you eat my ass or creampie it?. ,1 +15845,Would you eat my 21 year old asshole!?. ,1 +15846,Would you stick your tongue inside my ass?. ,1 +15847,I have an edible arrangement for you. ,1 +15848,Wanna stretch my ass?. ,1 +15849,Would you enjoy eating my asshole?. ,1 +15850,Can you eat both Of my holes?. ,1 +15851,We made it easy for you to try us both out. ,1 +15852,You lick my asshole and I’ll lick yours. ,1 +15853,Lick my asshole clean. ,1 +15854,I’ve got holes that need filling .. just putting it out there. ,1 +15855,Now eat it ;). ,1 +15856,Would you lick my asshole if I ask nicely?. ,1 +15857,Have you ever eaten a black girls ass? Can I be your first?. ,1 +15858,Do you like eating ass or just staring at it!?. ,1 +15859,What do you think about anal on a first date?. ,1 +15860,Can you stretch my tight hole?. ,1 +15861,"My tight asshole isn’t perfect, but it can fit every inch of your cock, promise ;). ",1 +15862,Would you enjoy eating my asshole?. ,1 +15863,Does my asshole qualify as cute and lickable?. ,1 +15864,Just one thing - don’t say no to my asshole please!. ,1 +15865,Still waiting for my Texas sized lick. ,1 +15866,Do you think I have a cute asshole?. ,1 +15867,dinner is served!. ,1 +15868,lick my little doughnut hole. ,1 +15869,Would you fuck my asshole on the first date?. ,1 +15870,Lick my tight asshole clean. ,1 +15871,Would you eat my ass if I ask you nicely?. ,1 +15872,POV: you decided to eat my asshole before you fuck it. ,1 +15873,I’ve heard that you’d like to spend hours having fun with my ass.. is that true?. ,1 +15874,Say „aaaah” and I will stick it to your tongue. ,1 +15875,I think you should have my asshole for breakfast. ,1 +15876,Your breakfast is needy.. ,1 +15877,You can eat it without asking. Would you?. ,1 +15878,I think you good see this hole. ,1 +15879,"My holes love kisses ""in French"". ",1 +15880,Can you handle both of my holes?. ,1 +15881,"If you eat mine, I’ll eat yours!. ",1 +15882,I won’t be mad if you put your dick in the „wrong” hole ;). ,1 +15883,You'll need a lot of lube to get into my hole. ,1 +15884,I think you should hide your dick here!. ,1 +15885,"If I ask you to fuck me in the asshole, what will you say?. ",1 +15886,Would you eat my ass?. ,1 +15887,Would you tongue fuck my asshole?. ,1 +15888,It hasn't been kissed yet today.. ,1 +15889,I'll hold these to the side while you eat it.. ,1 +15890,Come have a taste. ,1 +15891,Close enough for you to just stick out your tongue.. ,1 +15892,it winked at you 😉♥️. ,1 +15893,this ass is made for stretching. ,1 +15894,Such a playful mood today. ,1 +15895,do you like how I've been working my asshole?. ,1 +15896,I bet I can make you wanna eat my asshole. ,1 +15897,I can spread my huge ass cheeks for u if u want to fuck my tight asshole. ,1 +15898,You can fuck my asshole if you lick it before. Deal?. ,1 +15899,10 points to gryffindor to anyone who eats ass. ,1 +15900,I need a man in my life who eats ass for fun. ,1 +15901,Wanna be the first inside my ass?. ,1 +15902,Eat it or fuck it?. ,1 +15903,I need something inside it…should it be my finger or yours!. ,1 +15904,Now taking applications for someone to eat my little asshole 😇💓. ,1 +15905,I think a gentleman should start eating an asshole without asking. ,1 +15906,I wanna wink it around your tongue ;). ,1 +15907,If I was your toy how often would you play with me?. ,1 +15908,Does anyone actually find asshole attractive?. ,1 +15909,That is one hell of a spread [Not OC]. ,1 +15910,"Here’s the deal- if I wink, you slide in…. ",1 +15911,My butthole need to get some licks. ,1 +15912,I just want you to eat it all day 🙈. ,1 +15913,You can bury your face in this for the night…. ,1 +15914,My ass hole...literally. ,1 +15915,What do you think of my spread?. ,1 +15916,My panties are down…your tongue can do the rest :p. ,1 +15917,Look! I brought your breakfast!. ,1 +15918,Would you agree to eat my asshole if I asked? ;). ,1 +15919,In need of a tongue rn!. ,1 +15920,I will only date men who eat my ass. ,1 +15921,"Im 19, puerto rican, & ready to be used like a fuckdoll. ",1 +15922,Rear view 🌸. ,1 +15923,"If you eat mine, I’ll eat yours!. ",1 +15924,Would you first lick it or immediately fuck it?. ,1 +15925,"If you eat ass, you deserve a blowjob!. ",1 +15926,Come over and lick it. ,1 +15927,My 19yo asshole. ,1 +15928,What would you do with my asshole first? Lick it or fuck?. ,1 +15929,Your tongue won’t be sorry…. ,1 +15930,Wanna feel how tight I am?. ,1 +15931,I only date men who eat ass. ,1 +15932,Are you sticking your tongue or dick in it first?. ,1 +15933,Can you handle them both?. ,1 +15934,can you fuck tongue me?. ,1 +15935,[F] Would you explore my asshole with your tongue?. ,1 +15936,You eat my ass and I’ll eat yours ;). ,1 +15937,do you mind if i hold it open while you tongue fuck me from the back?. ,1 +15938,"If you ride it, come inside it!. ",1 +15939,"I suck your dick, then you fill my ass twice. Deal?. ",1 +15940,ever licked such a tight asshole?. ,1 +15941,Anyone like to eat ass purely for their own enjoyment?. ,1 +15942,Created for eating 🥵. ,1 +15943,I’m looking for someone who can stretch my butthole… any volunteers?. ,1 +15944,What would you insert first? Tongue or cock?. ,1 +15945,Would you eat my ass after the gym?. ,1 +15946,Would you cum inside my ass if I ask you to?. ,1 +15947,I want someone who’s going to worship every inch of my butthole with their mouth. ,1 +15948,"Oh, I love standing on all fours 😏. ",1 +15949,Would you lick both holes?. ,1 +15950,Where are my ass eaters at. ,1 +15951,Hope you are hungry cause I have whole damn meal for you. ,1 +15952,I’ll squeeze your dick if you eat my ass. ,1 +15953,Convinced enough to eat it from the back?. ,1 +15954,"If you lick it you can stick it, that’s my rule. ",1 +15955,Only a real man would eat my ass.. ,1 +15956,great day to taste my asshole 🤤. ,1 +15957,We should practice some stretching!. ,1 +15958,My tight holes are meant to make men satisfied. ,1 +15959,You eat mine and I’ll eat yours!. ,1 +15960,"If you stick your tongue in my asshole, i'll let you fuck it. ",1 +15961,do you think my little butthole is cute?. ,1 +15962,Who’s ass would you want to fuck the most?. ,1 +15963,Will you stick your tongue in?. ,1 +15964,I sit on your face you eat my ass deal?. ,1 +15965,Would you like to eat my holes?. ,1 +15966,Need someone to take my asshole virginity it needs stretched 😊. ,1 +15967,I want you to be hard. Am I doing it right?. ,1 +15968,play with all my holes 🍑😉. ,1 +15969,Do you think it’s pretty?. ,1 +15970,Does it look good?. ,1 +15971,"I need my asshole ate, fucked & came in.. ",1 +15972,Do you like brown Mexican assholes like mine? :). ,1 +15973,stretch me out?. ,1 +15974,Does my butthole have potential to make you hard?. ,1 +15975,Looking tasty?. ,1 +15976,I hope you like tight asses. ,1 +15977,What would you do to my asshole after my 12 hour shift? 😩. ,1 +15978,Like this anal ring?. ,1 +15979,My 45 year old asshole 😉. ,1 +15980,My asshole is winking at you ;). ,1 +15981,(F) Do you want to put your tongue in my tight little asshole?. ,1 +15982,Eat my ass while I do the laundry. ,1 +15983,You should hide your dick here!. ,1 +15984,I’ve heard all my MILF holes taste like heaven. ,1 +15985,"I need someone who would lick both of my holes, any volunteers?. ",1 +15986,"My brown asshole has changes since becoming a mom, but she’s still edible & fuckable ;). ",1 +15987,come to the back of my car and eat my ass. ,1 +15988,Would you refuse my pink butthole ?. ,1 +15989,"mm, im ready to stretch😏. ",1 +15990,Would you enjoy eating my asshole?. ,1 +15991,How long would you be eating my asshole? 😛. ,1 +15992,"Look how tiny my asshole is, wanna help me stretch it a little?. ",1 +15993,I neeeeeed anal. ,1 +15994,Eat my assole with my panties on. ,1 +15995,Which hole would you lick first?. ,1 +15996,ive never had my ass eaten. ,1 +15997,my friend wants to know if you think she’s cute. ,1 +15998,Who gets pleasure out of eating ass? 🍑. ,1 +15999,Would you penetrate my cock loving asshole 🤭. ,1 +16000,Wanna taste my holes?. ,1 +16001,I’ve been told I have a pretty asshole. ,1 +16002,I want to use your face as a chair. ,1 +16003,I hope you like tight asses ;). ,1 +16004,"Anal loving mom next door, inviting you to cum inside. ",1 +16005,Look my Big asshole😍. ,1 +16006,Tight little asshole. ,1 +16007,I need a man who loves to eat ass. ,1 +16008,Would you enjoy eating my holes?. ,1 +16009,Is it sexy when a girl asks you to eat her asshole? 👅🤤. ,1 +16010,"I’m just 5’2 , wanna break me?. ",1 +16011,This is your daily meal. ,1 +16012,would you eat my teen ass?. ,1 +16013,Would you take both holes?. ,1 +16014,"If you lick mine, I’ll lick yours…deal ?. ",1 +16015,How strong is your tongue game?. ,1 +16016,I wonder what it would feel like to do this with a cock in my ass. ,1 +16017,at a public pool (:. ,1 +16018,Is my hole pretty enough to sit on your face?. ,1 +16019,My asshole is a present that needs to be unpacked. ,1 +16020,"hi, just rate my asshole. ",1 +16021,Rough anal on the balcony? Yes or no?. ,1 +16022,Haven’t posted my asshole in a while so here it is!. ,1 +16023,You want to eat ass. I want my ass eaten. What a coincidence 😉. ,1 +16024,Which hole are you eating first?. ,1 +16025,Have you ever tried Mexican asshole for breakfast? ;). ,1 +16026,can you handle both my pink holes?. ,1 +16027,Guys who eats ass deserve at least 2 blowjobs a day. ,1 +16028,Don’t skip your breakfast!. ,1 +16029,Would you fuck a 45 year old asshole? 😉. ,1 +16030,What would you do in face of this sight?. ,1 +16031,My type of guy eats asshole before fucking him 😛. ,1 +16032,Nice bonus in the form of my pussy!. ,1 +16033,my ass is the best thing you can think of for lunch. ,1 +16034,I’m now single because he wouldn’t eat my ass. ,1 +16035,I can barely gape my tight asshole. ,1 +16036,My asshole is so tight and loves to stretch so much. ,1 +16037,It'd be rude not to eat it ;). ,1 +16038,(F) Did I make you stop scrolling so you could get a better look of my asshole?. ,1 +16039,I love stimulating my asshole. ,1 +16040,How wide could you gape my asshole? 🙈💕. ,1 +16041,Do you think my holes are good enough to eat?. ,1 +16042,A perfect circle!. ,1 +16043,I wanna feel your tongue deep inside my asshole. ,1 +16044,What would you do to my butthole first seeing me like this?. ,1 +16045,"You can use any hole you like, but I hope you finish in my ass. ",1 +16046,Do you like my teen asshole? :). ,1 +16047,Can some gentleman put her tongue here. ,1 +16048,Do you like English buttholes?. ,1 +16049,Do you think my asshole is convincing enough to fuck it?. ,1 +16050,Would you eat it before fuck it or immediately stick your dick in?. ,1 +16051,I can convert you into an ass eater…try me!. ,1 +16052,Who’s ass would you try first?. ,1 +16053,Fun fact: I cum from anal!. ,1 +16054,I want to be licked 👅🥵. ,1 +16055,This is how I flirt with men who like anal. ,1 +16056,Tonguefuckable?. ,1 +16057,I hope my ass can make you hard. ,1 +16058,accepting volunteers to fuck my ass. ,1 +16059,"I’m easy , but it looks like you’re hard😋. ",1 +16060,Looking for something to eat?. ,1 +16061,"If I wink with my brown eye, it means I’m ready for anal. ",1 +16062,I wanna feel a real dick inside my lil hole… any volunteers?. ,1 +16063,First time posting here! Let me introduce you to my asshole.. ,1 +16064,Bounce my cheeks while you’re in my asshole. ,1 +16065,Can you tell what's missing?. ,1 +16066,Just wondering if any of you would eat my ass for breakfast. ,1 +16067,Sunshine on my asshole. ,1 +16068,Would you lick 👅 my clean ass??. ,1 +16069,I Hope you will eat both of my holes... ,1 +16070,Let me park this hole right here. ,1 +16071,Who gets pleasure out of eating ass?. ,1 +16072,Describe my asshole using one word. ,1 +16073,Please tell me you like anal😈…….45f. ,1 +16074,I need a volunteer tongue 👅. ,1 +16075,Would you enjoy eating my asshole?. ,1 +16076,Convinced enough to eat my asshole?. ,1 +16077,I won’t be mad if you put it in the „wrong” hole:). ,1 +16078,do you think my butthole is cute?. ,1 +16079,I’m ready for you to pound my asshole. ,1 +16080,Would you lick my ass or my pussy?. ,1 +16081,Raise your hand if you eat ass for pleasure. ,1 +16082,"If you eat mine, I’ll eat yours…. ",1 +16083,Spreading in the sun ☀️. ,1 +16084,Are you interested on me?. ,1 +16085,"How would you react if I asked you to eat my asshole, but without sex?. ",1 +16086,Ever eaten an asshole as perfectly pink as this!?. ,1 +16087,If you eat my ass I’ll eat yours. ,1 +16088,My little asshole isn’t perfect but she can fit every inch of your cock ;). ,1 +16089,How does my asshole look from this angle?. ,1 +16090,Can I convince you to eat my asshole?. ,1 +16091,What would you do to my tight hole first?. ,1 +16092,"If you eat ass, let’s be best friends 👅. ",1 +16093,Do you like looking at my goth hole?. ,1 +16094,Fill my Canadian ass plz [f]. ,1 +16095,"Big question, would you eat my asshole if I asked?. ",1 +16096,Eat my ass after the pool. ,1 +16097,If you stopped scrolling because of my asshole you have to rate it. ,1 +16098,do you like my cute butthole?. ,1 +16099,"If my ass winks, then she invites you to dinner 🍑. ",1 +16100,My pink and tight hole is really sexy when it stretches. ,1 +16101,I’ll taste yours if you taste mine. ,1 +16102,"my assholes flirting with you, will you lick it?. ",1 +16103,"I know you'd fuck both, but I prefer my asshole. ",1 +16104,Kiss my asshole. ,1 +16105,Would you lick it?. ,1 +16106,How long would you eat my ass?. ,1 +16107,Would you lick my pussy or my ass?. ,1 +16108,What you do if we have a date today and you find me on reddit getting naked. would you still date me?. ,1 +16109,showin’ off my virgin catgirl asshole. ,1 +16110,You wouldn’t last a minute…. ,1 +16111,"If she winks at you, you have to fill her up.. ",1 +16112,Hope you like petite blondes 💕. ,1 +16113,"Lick my ass, please. ",1 +16114,Is it better to do anal or watch a movie on the first date?. ,1 +16115,These holes are looking straight into your eyes😏 What do I want?🥵. ,1 +16116,[f] Make me your anal slut plz... ,1 +16117,"So, would you really eat my asshole?. ",1 +16118,What would be the first thing you'd do?. ,1 +16119,What? You want me to sit on your face?. ,1 +16120,I need a man who loves to eat ass every single day. ,1 +16121,I think you'll like this look!. ,1 +16122,Stick your tongue inside my ass. ,1 +16123,I hope you're hungry. ,1 +16124,Will you let me sit on your face if I ask?. ,1 +16125,Extra tight but we can still make it fit ;). ,1 +16126,Nerdy girls love to be buttfucked. ,1 +16127,Six holes for you to use 😉. ,1 +16128,I need a tongue right in here. ,1 +16129,What I’m trying to say is.. I want another one. ,1 +16130,I have a hole for you to… study 😜. ,1 +16131,Does my smirk entice you to creampie my ass?. ,1 +16132,Does it look fuckable?. ,1 +16133,We want to know who’s asshole would you eat?. ,1 +16134,I need a man who will stick his tongue deep in my ass… any volunteers?. ,1 +16135,I hope my tight little asshole makes you happy!. ,1 +16136,Give me your tongue. ,1 +16137,I’ll spread and you lick. ,1 +16138,Clean enough to eat out of…so what are you waiting for!. ,1 +16139,"I need a face to sit on, any takers? ☺️💕. ",1 +16140,You can only fuck my asshole if you’re willing to eat first. ,1 +16141,(F) Could you imagine putting your tongue in my asshole?. ,1 +16142,What you think of mommy’s ass?. ,1 +16143,Fresh out of the shower and ready for a tongue bath! You game?. ,1 +16144,"If you’ve never fucked a nurse, I’d love to be your first. ",1 +16145,"If your tongue is out, my bum is out! 👅. ",1 +16146,Can you help me to stretch my butthole?. ,1 +16147,My tight ass loves to stretch. ,1 +16148,"You like it shaved , or I should let some hair grow?. ",1 +16149,Can I sit on your face to start the day…. ,1 +16150,Want to feast on my ass?. ,1 +16151,Eat my ass like it’s your favourite meal. ,1 +16152,Can you taste it first?. ,1 +16153,Use my cum as lubricant when you fuck my tight asshole ;). ,1 +16154,I hope you like to eat ass. ,1 +16155,I won’t be mad if you out your dick in the „wrong” hole ;). ,1 +16156,Would you eat my ass on the first date? 😉. ,1 +16157,If I wink at you it means I want you to slide in…. ,1 +16158,come to give me a few licks. ,1 +16159,my ass tastes like caramel. ,1 +16160,My hole is not stretched!. ,1 +16161,Would you eat my 45 year old ass? 😉. ,1 +16162,Hope you like brown assholes 😜. ,1 +16163,This is why I don’t wear panties. ,1 +16164,"I know you like to eat my ass, but did you know I like to eat yours too?. ",1 +16165,[F21] Do u guy like my little pink butthole 💕. ,1 +16166,I love it so much when my ass gets licked. ,1 +16167,Give me your tongue ;). ,1 +16168,My tender and sweet ass loves kissing. ,1 +16169,I want anal in the woods. ,1 +16170,Are you ready to eat my ass. ,1 +16171,"Hey, my asshole is trying to get your attention!. ",1 +16172,I love it when my ass is licked 👅. ,1 +16173,Both holes are tight ;). ,1 +16174,POV: you decided to eat my asshole before you fuck it. ,1 +16175,Do I look fuckable?. ,1 +16176,Are you ready for me? 😋. ,1 +16177,I pushed back my panties so you could lick. ,1 +16178,Would you fill my ass with hot cum after eating it?. ,1 +16179,Two holes… what’s your goal? 😈. ,1 +16180,"I love my gaping little asshole, I hope you do too 💕👅. ",1 +16181,Would you eat my ass on our first date. ,1 +16182,Would you lick my asshole if i ask nicely?. ,1 +16183,"I want you to stick it in my pussy, ass & mouth.. in that order ;). ",1 +16184,Will you lick my ass after the gym?. ,1 +16185,If you eat my ass I’ll let you fill it up too. ,1 +16186,After a big anal session. ,1 +16187,I want my asshole stretched out tonight. ,1 +16188,I hope you like to have a sweet asshol breakfast. ,1 +16189,You can only use one word to describe my ass. ,1 +16190,My asshole upclose for you. ,1 +16191,Face or dick first? There’s no wrong answer. ,1 +16192,"Im sorry, do you have a minute to lick my asshole?. ",1 +16193,"My such a sweet hole, mm. ",1 +16194,i love do that..🤤. ,1 +16195,Can you taste it before you fuck it?. ,1 +16196,Need someone to stretch my little hole… any volunteers?. ,1 +16197,Would you eat my ass on our first date. ,1 +16198,anyone available to stick their tongue deep inside me?. ,1 +16199,Any older guys here who like to eat ass?. ,1 +16200,"Fresh 18, 4’10, would you pull out of this ass?. ",1 +16201,Would you like to stick your dick in this tight oiled hole?. ,1 +16202,choose the right hole for pleasure. ,1 +16203,My tight ass loves naughty games. ,1 +16204,Would you fuck my little asshole? 😩. ,1 +16205,Such a glorious sight [Not OC]. ,1 +16206,My gardener keeps standing outside my window…I wonder why!. ,1 +16207,Why is Teddy bear so happy about? :). ,1 +16208,Pulling out my big black anal beads. ,1 +16209,POV your Nurse bends over the exam table. ,1 +16210,Eat or fuck?. ,1 +16211,Ass eaters...its time to eat ;). ,1 +16212,Do you like my little butthole. ,1 +16213,Ass at Target. ,1 +16214,Insert your dick in my tight hole. ,1 +16215,Ass is back on the menu boys 😋🍑💕. ,1 +16216,Tongue punch it. ,1 +16217,Could you devour my asshole in this position!?. ,1 +16218,Everyone should to try a brazilian ass af least once. ,1 +16219,Come fill it with your tongue. ,1 +16220,My narrow asshole really likes to stretch. ,1 +16221,Would you eat my pussy or my ass like this?. ,1 +16222,"I’ll Let you fuck it if you lick it, deal?. ",1 +16223,Help me stretch it?. ,1 +16224,I’ll call you daddy if you eat my ass!. ,1 +16225,Do you like how my asshole looks in the sunlight?. ,1 +16226,What’s better then one edible anal obsessed slut.. ,1 +16227,I only want it if it’s raw. ,1 +16228,My ass wants to be eaten. ,1 +16229,Craving some dick in my ass so bad. ,1 +16230,Ass hole and something else bonus!. ,1 +16231,Would you eat it?. ,1 +16232,My booty was blessed with vitiligo clouds that frame my cock craving asshole. Wanna cum and have a closer look? :). ,1 +16233,Ready to be penetrated [f]. ,1 +16234,"I’m an anal virgin, wanna change that?. ",1 +16235,Kinky holes. ,1 +16236,Eating ass is the right choice for dinner. ,1 +16237,My tight asshole for you. ,1 +16238,If I asked nicely would you lick it?. ,1 +16239,"Oh my, I’ll get back to work in a sec 😌. ",1 +16240,"Would you lick it, finger or fuck?. ",1 +16241,Who wants eat asshole on the first date ? 😏. ,1 +16242,I have a Surprise For You [OC]. ,1 +16243,You lick mine and I’ll lick yours. ,1 +16244,Finally opening up to you feels great. ,1 +16245,Ive never had my ass eaten...would you fix that?. ,1 +16246,Can I sit on your dick like that?. ,1 +16247,My asshole looks like creampie material to you?. ,1 +16248,come get it 😋👅💦🍑. ,1 +16249,I invite you to fuck my needy ass hole. ,1 +16250,My asshol tastes like caramel. ,1 +16251,i’m a little nervous… be gentle with me?. ,1 +16252,Hello daddy🤤. ,1 +16253,What would you like to stick in?. ,1 +16254,Would you wreck my virgin asshole?. ,1 +16255,you think this ass could make your pullout game weak ?. ,1 +16256,Would you eat my asshole for breakfast lunch or dinner?. ,1 +16257,Would you eat my asshole before sticking inside?. ,1 +16258,I’ll let you drop your load in my asshole whenever you want. ,1 +16259,How much would you eat my ass if I was your girlfriend. ,1 +16260,Do you wanna eat or fuck it first?. ,1 +16261,"If you lick mine, I’ll lick yours!. ",1 +16262,I'm ready to be your juicy lunch. ,1 +16263,I can convert you to ass eating ;). ,1 +16264,Pucker up 😜. ,1 +16265,My tight asshole so wants to feel kisses through these stockings. ,1 +16266,Stretch me like I’m a rubber band?. ,1 +16267,Why are you not deep in me yet. ,1 +16268,I’ve never had my ass eaten…can you be the first!?. ,1 +16269,I want to have so much fun 😏. ,1 +16270,You must eat ass in order to enter. ,1 +16271,"If I made you stop scrolling, you have to rate it. ",1 +16272,My tight ass loves to play and stretch so much. ,1 +16273,Just giving you a nice view of my asshole while I play with my pussy.. ,1 +16274,Insert your dick here. ,1 +16275,I want to try anal for the first time but I need a volunteer to help me out🥺. ,1 +16276,My asshole is begging to be licked…don’t let me down!. ,1 +16277,Im always showing off my cute asshole. ,1 +16278,"My holes are pink, juicy and ready 😈. ",1 +16279,My little secret is my whole body starts vibrating when I get my ass eaten 🙈. ,1 +16280,My friend has a rimming fetish. ,1 +16281,This is why I don’t wear panties so you can eat me anytime. ,1 +16282,I hope my asshole it’s open enough for you. ,1 +16283,I need your face between my cheeks. ,1 +16284,Please spit in my ass and eat it out. ,1 +16285,Do you want to try sliding deep into a tight 21 year old asshole.... ,1 +16286,Would you fuck a moms ass?. ,1 +16287,[OC][F] A little distraction from the messy background. ,1 +16288,"With such a tight asshole, I can do anal? If this is my first time... ",1 +16289,"I'm nervous posting this, but can you eat my ass?. ",1 +16290,Would you enjoy eating my asshole?. ,1 +16291,A nice clean booty for you to eat. ,1 +16292,Take a peak. ,1 +16293,My pussy is as bouncy as my ass. ,1 +16294,What do you wanna do to my ass?. ,1 +16295,Use it. ,1 +16296,Fresh out of the shower. ,1 +16297,Do you eat ass on a first date?. ,1 +16298,My asshole is always ready and willing. ,1 +16299,my hot ass wants to be spanked. ,1 +16300,My holes are ready for you :). ,1 +16301,I pick the movie and you pick which hole! Deal?!💕. ,1 +16302,I'm gladly spreading my teen asshole. ,1 +16303,I think it's better without panties!. ,1 +16304,been craving an anal creampie lately. ,1 +16305,Would you eat or fuck my tiny pink asshole?. ,1 +16306,"You should lick it before you fuck my asshole, don’t you think?. ",1 +16307,These are the days of the open ass.. ,1 +16308,What would you wanna put in my Gaping ass first 💦💦💦. ,1 +16309,Do you like this view?. ,1 +16310,I love being eaten.... ,1 +16311,Take a look under my skirt. ,1 +16312,My tasty ass loves to stretch. ,1 +16313,Would you tongue fuck my asshole?. ,1 +16314,It’s a tight squeeze. ,1 +16315,"This is my mating call, is it working?. ",1 +16316,Your only concern should be breed my asshole. ,1 +16317,I have always wanted to try anal like this. ,1 +16318,I would like to show you my tight ass. ,1 +16319,Do you like young Argentines with a small ass hole and pink pussy?. ,1 +16320,My ass is ready for stretching and fucking. ,1 +16321,the hole loves kissing. ,1 +16322,"If you eat my ass, I’ll suck your cock. Sound like a deal? :). ",1 +16323,"Don't let the sequins confuse you, but what a great view!. ",1 +16324,Can I sit on ur face ?. ,1 +16325,My dark brown asshole wanted to say hello ;). ,1 +16326,I want to be stretched 😈. ,1 +16327,Prepare for face for my ass!. ,1 +16328,Spell your name with your tongue. ,1 +16329,"this view from behind is so magnificent, breed my hole right now. ",1 +16330,would tasting my asshole make you happy?. ,1 +16331,"Bon appetit, sir. ",1 +16332,Idc where you start aslong as you finish in my ass. ,1 +16333,Would you eat my ass if I eat yours!?. ,1 +16334,What would you do with me?. ,1 +16335,Could I convince you to eat it like this?. ,1 +16336,Convincing enough to eat it?. ,1 +16337,Do you wanna eat it?. ,1 +16338,Lick my asshole clean?. ,1 +16339,If you’re hungry I have 2 snacks ready for you :). ,1 +16340,Wondering if I can sit on your face. ,1 +16341,I’m sure I can fit anyone in my ass 😋. ,1 +16342,Would you eat or fuck my asshole?. ,1 +16343,My Indian asshole is so tight. ,1 +16344,"I took this in front of a huge window, so hopefully my neighbors enjoyed the show. ",1 +16345,I want rough anal. ,1 +16346,you want to help me make this hole bigger?? F22. ,1 +16347,If you only can chose one ?. ,1 +16348,My juicy peach tastes very sweet. ,1 +16349,my ass loves to be licked. ,1 +16350,Am I stretched enough for you?. ,1 +16351,Waiting for you to back home and fuck my asshole!. ,1 +16352,I’ve heard COLLEGE holes taste like heaven. ,1 +16353,magine how good we'll be. ,1 +16354,This asshole with pussy cream 🤭. ,1 +16355,Would you gape my asshole daddy? Please? 🥺. ,1 +16356,The only kind of selfie I take ;). ,1 +16357,"White, brown and pink? My asshole must be neaplolian ice cream!. ",1 +16358,Tight and sweet asshole made for kissing. ,1 +16359,"Both my holes want to be used, with which would you start?. ",1 +16360,Run your tongue over my holes. ,1 +16361,this is what a perfect asshole looks like. ,1 +16362,Would you eat me before you slide it in?. ,1 +16363,Would you bury your face here?. ,1 +16364,spreading my tight ass for you. ,1 +16365,What you think of my holes ?. ,1 +16366,My best hole is ready for you!. ,1 +16367,What would you do to my bootyhole first?. ,1 +16368,Men who love eating ass are gold. ,1 +16369,This is my mating call for ass eaters only. ,1 +16370,Eat me like a piece of cake ;). ,1 +16371,is my asshole pretty?! 🥺💓💦. ,1 +16372,Could you fit your tongue inside!?. ,1 +16373,Would you lick my asshole daily?. ,1 +16374,My smile says it all I think 🤍. ,1 +16375,I think you enjoy eating my ass from behind. ,1 +16376,Spreading both holes for you. ,1 +16377,I won’t be mad if you put it in the „wrong” hole ;). ,1 +16378,I love winking it for you. ,1 +16379,first post here. ,1 +16380,"Is there anyone here who likes to eat an asshole, but without fucking?. ",1 +16381,How is that for an outdoor MILF ass?. ,1 +16382,My asshole needs a creampie too 💦. ,1 +16383,Are you an ass eater?. ,1 +16384,Gave The Tourists Something To Talk About [OC]. ,1 +16385,"I dont need much, just you to eat my ass. ",1 +16386,I believe somebody asked for a picture from the back. ,1 +16387,My asshole needs filled too. ,1 +16388,Would you bury your face in my ass ?. ,1 +16389,would you smash?. ,1 +16390,open for business 😉😈. ,1 +16391,my stretched ass is ready for you :). ,1 +16392,Would you accept my open invitation?. ,1 +16393,What you think of my holes?. ,1 +16394,Enjoy my holes. ,1 +16395,My ass loves being your breakfast so much. ,1 +16396,"Do you eat buttholes , sir? ;) [f]. ",1 +16397,"If you had the chance, what would you do to me? Don’t hold back 😜. ",1 +16398,this was the first ever photo of me spreading it 😅 i was so shy. ,1 +16399,Would you like to empty your balls in my pussy or ass?. ,1 +16400,Me and my friend want you to share our asses. ,1 +16401,please spank my ass... make it red. ,1 +16402,Would you cum inside?. ,1 +16403,Do men actually enjoy eating ass?. ,1 +16404,should I bleach my butthole. ,1 +16405,I love it so much when my butt stretches :). ,1 +16406,Which hole are you using first?. ,1 +16407,want to help me stretch my little pink asshole?. ,1 +16408,I only date men who eat ass and are into anal 😌. ,1 +16409,Don’t even tell me it’s not the best dinner. ,1 +16410,Sunday dinner is served 😜. ,1 +16411,How long would you be eating my asshole? 🥰. ,1 +16412,"Come try and fit your tongue in my redhead ass? It’s tight, so be gentle... ",1 +16413,"If you're an ass eater, would you give my scandinavian buns a taste? 🥰💕. ",1 +16414,my sweet asshole loves kissing. ,1 +16415,Would you cum inside my pretty asshole?. ,1 +16416,Would you try anal in the shower with me?. ,1 +16417,"No dumb caption, just want you to see my asshole today. ",1 +16418,spreading it to give you a peek 😘. ,1 +16419,When you see that sexy milf in the short skirt walk past and wonder what's underneath...🍆💦. ,1 +16420,Do you wanna use it?. ,1 +16421,Do you think you can fit your tongue in?. ,1 +16422,Mastered the skill. ,1 +16423,If you lick it you can stick it!. ,1 +16424,My Wet Asshole Is Craving Your Attention [OC]. ,1 +16425,Can you make my gape bigger?. ,1 +16426,If I spread it will you eat it?. ,1 +16427,Start with your tongue 👅. ,1 +16428,my ass is so stretched and ready for you :). ,1 +16429,I want to use your face as a chair. ,1 +16430,Tryna play with it or what😏. ,1 +16431,I love my confetti dildo & how my asshole looks while I ride it [f]. ,1 +16432,I pushed her panties aside so you could lick her. ,1 +16433,Ever fucked a goth girls asshole?. ,1 +16434,I need my brown asshole licked & fucked ;). ,1 +16435,Dark asshole or pink pussy? Your choice. ,1 +16436,I need my asshole used like a fleshlight. ,1 +16437,Let’s get creative together. ,1 +16438,Where are all my guys who can go three times in a row for anal….. ,1 +16439,"My asshole may be tight, but she can take every inch of you I promise ;). ",1 +16440,Would you enjoy eating my asshole?. ,1 +16441,Can you stretch my tiny tight hole?🥺. ,1 +16442,My Indian asshole is the tightest. ,1 +16443,Love guys who get horny from eating ass. ,1 +16444,all the training paid off ;). ,1 +16445,Nearly 32 and still haven't had my salad tossed: a tragedy. ,1 +16446,What are you putting in my asshole first ?. ,1 +16447,My asshole is saying Hi! What’s your answer?. ,1 +16448,"my hole is so narrow, do you want to widen it with your finger? ^~^. ",1 +16449,My ass could use a tongue.. any takers? 😉. ,1 +16450,"So tight, wanna stretch it? 🍑. ",1 +16451,Am I allowed to take a seat on your face. ,1 +16452,Do you think anal is a good way to end a date?. ,1 +16453,Eat my butthole babe. ,1 +16454,can you help stretch my little booty. ,1 +16455,Why don’t you try my asshole. ,1 +16456,Spread my cheeks and eat me until you are too tired to continue. ,1 +16457,Would you tounge fuck my asshole before sliding your dick in?!. ,1 +16458,Tongue [F]uck me in the bath?. ,1 +16459,Can someone help me up this ladder please?!😘. I'm trying to get to my winter clothes 🌧. ,1 +16460,lick or stick first ?. ,1 +16461,I need a gym buddy who also eats my ass before every session!. ,1 +16462,Spread it then tongue it. ,1 +16463,The perfect position to eat ass in 😊. ,1 +16464,"pick a hole, any hole 😉. ",1 +16465,Convinced enough to eat my asshole?. ,1 +16466,Would you eat ass on the first date?. ,1 +16467,Would you tongue fuck my asshole?. ,1 +16468,Would you fuck my virgin asshole?. ,1 +16469,Do you like the way I spread it for you?. ,1 +16470,Come and give my hole a lick. ,1 +16471,I hope you like tight asses. ,1 +16472,"If I wink at you, you slide in...deal?. ",1 +16473,Would you eat my ass on the first date?. ,1 +16474,This ass looks so hot when I'm on all fours. ,1 +16475,Help me to stretch my asshole before you fuck me. ,1 +16476,I can’t eat my own ass…but you can!. ,1 +16477,I need every inch of you in my pink butthole ;). ,1 +16478,I don't care where you start as long as you know where to finish. ,1 +16479,Would you do anal with a 45 year old MILF? 😉. ,1 +16480,I love opening up to you. ,1 +16481,Ready for you to slide in deep. ,1 +16482,So much time has passed since the last anal sex!. ,1 +16483,It needs attention. ,1 +16484,Lick it please? 👅. ,1 +16485,"If you lick mine, I’ll lick yours!. ",1 +16486,i’m still an anal virgin.. would you be gentle?. ,1 +16487,"I showed you my smile and asshole, what you gonna do? ;) [f]. ",1 +16488,"I haven’t had my brown asshole licked in ages, care for a taste? ;). ",1 +16489,Would you like to put your tongue or your dick in my gaping ass?. ,1 +16490,Does my heart shaped ass look tasty enough for you?. ,1 +16491,A good asshole eater won't be in my friend zone ;). ,1 +16492,Did I catch your attention?. ,1 +16493,Which asshole would you use first?. ,1 +16494,I need my little asshole fucked ;). ,1 +16495,It feels best when it’s in my ass!. ,1 +16496,Make my buns white!. ,1 +16497,All I want for Valentine’s Day is to have my ass eaten for hours!. ,1 +16498,Lick my booty hole. ,1 +16499,Heard it loves to be kissed.... ,1 +16500,sending you this to taste you before our first date. ,1 +16501,Do you think you can fit your tongue in my asshole?. ,1 +16502,Would you stretch my holes in this position?. ,1 +16503,Slide inside. ,1 +16504,"I know both holes look enticing, but i'd love for you to stuff it in my ass 🥰. ",1 +16505,Tanning my little booty 🥰. ,1 +16506,I adore when my hole is being warmed up with wet tongue. ,1 +16507,"Which hole are you eating first, my pussy or my ass?. ",1 +16508,spend your weekend inside me?. ,1 +16509,Is 40 years not much for showing something like this?😬. ,1 +16510,a thick jiggle for the chubby slut enjoyers. ,1 +16511,I love winking my tight asshole. ,1 +16512,My ass needs spanking. ,1 +16513,do you like my cute little butthole?. ,1 +16514,i think its too tight to take a dick :/. ,1 +16515,I need an older guy to eat my ass. ,1 +16516,Everybody loves a juicy booty :) [OC]. ,1 +16517,I love to show off my asshole to you all. ,1 +16518,Spread em. ,1 +16519,Tongue fuck me. ,1 +16520,My asshol tastes so caramel. ,1 +16521,My butthole wants your tongue deep inside of it. ,1 +16522,I love getting my asshole licked. Any volunteers?. ,1 +16523,Just very clean and ready to be fucked. ,1 +16524,Ready for fuck. ,1 +16525,"You do me in the ass and i'll let you cum in it, deal? ☺. ",1 +16526,What hole will you choose ?. ,1 +16527,"My asshole needs to be eaten, can you do this for me?. ",1 +16528,"I love showing you my holes any time, any place (:. ",1 +16529,I want to get my ass licked clean but who wants to. ,1 +16530,Any love in here for a British milf with a meaty asshole?? 👀😋. ,1 +16531,Wanna eat my ass daddy?. ,1 +16532,I am completely open to your big…. ,1 +16533,Have you eaten your daily dose of ass today ??. ,1 +16534,40 years old holes needs you. ,1 +16535,"Post workout booty, want a taste?. ",1 +16536,Just looking for an ass eater. ,1 +16537,Which hole you wanna eat first?. ,1 +16538,"Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I post this again!. ",1 +16539,Fill me up!. ,1 +16540,I wouldn’t mind if you accidentally slide inside my ass. ,1 +16541,Aaaaand I’m ready for you 💦. ,1 +16542,Would you accept make my asshole looks bigger?. ,1 +16543,Would you eat my chocolate ass in this position ?. ,1 +16544,Whoopsie!. ,1 +16545,Can I feed you my asshole instead of breakfast?. ,1 +16546,This is what I looked like after 30 minutes of ass-to-pussy fucking [OC]. ,1 +16547,Does my butthole look edible to you? Don’t lie.. ,1 +16548,Young tight and just right. ,1 +16549,Having a little fun in the dressing room. ,1 +16550,"If you’re an ass guy, does mine look tasty to you? 🤔. ",1 +16551,Did you say closer?. ,1 +16552,"good morning, tongue punch my asshole?. ",1 +16553,wanna eat my virgin asshole?. ,1 +16554,Look! You can see both of my holes!. ,1 +16555,Tighter than an Olympian's spandex 😋😈. ,1 +16556,Sometimes I'm so sloppy. ,1 +16557,What hole you prefer?. ,1 +16558,There’s no such thing as the wrong hole…so take your pick!. ,1 +16559,"I'm offering my ass to you, do you accept it? 🥰💕. ",1 +16560,My holes need some training. ,1 +16561,Would you enjoy eating my asshole or no?. ,1 +16562,I want to feel a warm thick load in my ass :D. ,1 +16563,Use my body to empty your balls and finish inside. ,1 +16564,"I wouldnt mind if you put it in the ""wrong"" hole 🥰. ",1 +16565,Where are my ass eaters?. ,1 +16566,I can convert you to ass eating ;). ,1 +16567,have a taste?. ,1 +16568,Would you eat my little doughnut hole. ,1 +16569,"You can use either hole, but I want you to cum in my ass. ",1 +16570,Nothing better than waking up with a tongue in my asshole. ,1 +16571,"Be honest, if i sent you this would you jerk off to me?. ",1 +16572,I think only real men eat asshole 😛🍑. ,1 +16573,I wish you could taste my ass. I bet you would surely like it 💞. ,1 +16574,You can rim me for as long as you want. ,1 +16575,I've been waiting all day to have my ass ate. ,1 +16576,I want to give you a taste. ,1 +16577,"My brown butthole is in need of a deep dicking, if you know anyone ;). ",1 +16578,Will you accept my invitation to lick my asshole?. ,1 +16579,Looking Forward To Being Filled [OC]. ,1 +16580,i go to nude beaches just to do this🤤. ,1 +16581,My dark brown asshole wanted to say hello ;). ,1 +16582,"Welcome to r/asshole. Please read before posting.. Hi everyone and welcome to r/asshole! The subreddit is now under new management and we have enabled verification. Verification is not required to post, however our bot will lock posts from unverified users from now on. + +Why get verified? 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Hold a sign that includes the following: + +* Your reddit username +* The date that matches the date the message was submitted +* The name of this subreddit: /r/asshole + +The paper has to be crumpled before submission. + +If you are having trouble using Imgur, check out this [tutorial on how to use Imgur!](https://imgur.com/a/ep82nzB) + +We also accept cross verifications from other subreddits, so if you are already verified in another subreddit, please send your verification pictures to [modmail](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2Fasshole). + +Thanks for reading and happy posting!",1 +16583,Wheres all my ass eaters?. ,1 +16584,Its too tiny!. ,1 +16585,"My asshole need some attention, can you help me?. ",1 +16586,"If you can fit your tongue inside, it’s yours…. ",1 +16587,"Fuck me if I'm wrong, but you'd fuck me right?. ",1 +16588,Curious to know what you’d do to my asshole. ,1 +16589,Are you going to eat my juicy mom ass out?. ,1 +16590,"You have to eat my asshole, you can’t say no!. ",1 +16591,My tight hole is ready for you. ,1 +16592,"My asshole needs some good licking, are you volunteer?. ",1 +16593,Can i suck your dick clean after you cum in my ass?. ,1 +16594,It wants to suck you in…unless you lick it first!. ,1 +16595,My holes want you to run your tongue. ,1 +16596,Fooling around in the car. ,1 +16597,I’ve opened my ass for you... are you going to fill me up. ,1 +16598,How long would you be eating my asshole? 🥰. ,1 +16599,"Are naughty, thick hijabis your thing? 🙊. ",1 +16600,Smile if you love booty 😊. ,1 +16601,Do you want me from behind?. ,1 +16602,Do you have enough cum for both of my holes?. ,1 +16603,Should my next asshole pic be a close up?. ,1 +16604,I hope you like asshole for breakfast. ,1 +16605,Is your cock ready?. ,1 +16606,tasty paradise. ,1 +16607,Would you enjoy eating my asshole if I ask you nicely?. ,1 +16608,Are you sticking your tongue or dick in it first?. ,1 +16609,I hope you like asian 😋. ,1 +16610,Eat suck or fuck. ,1 +16611,Did I make you stop scrolling?. ,1 +16612,Lick it or fuck it?. ,1 +16613,Do I look like I love anal or am I going to have to prove it to you?. ,1 +16614,spread my cheeks and eat me until you are too tired to continue. ,1 +16615,"When I say destroy it, I mean destroy it. ",1 +16616,I love seeing how many men would pound my ass. ,1 +16617,"They are super tight, wanna try?. ",1 +16618,Hope you enjoy eating my ass 😏. ,1 +16619,You will feel good inside of me). ,1 +16620,Would you lick it clean for me?. ,1 +16621,My tight ass loves to be filled with cream. ,1 +16622,Asshole prepared for service. ,1 +16623,Are you cumming on me or in me?. ,1 +16624,40 years old mommy can make you cum?. ,1 +16625,I want your tongue inside me. ,1 +16626,I want only Raw fucks with NO PULLOUTS... you in or nah?. ,1 +16627,I hope it’s not to late to get my asshole eaten 😜. ,1 +16628,"Are you my gym routine, because you’re on my to do list!. ",1 +16629,You lick mine and I’ll lick yours. ,1 +16630,Eat a strangers asshole in public?. ,1 +16631,Would you like to taste my asshole?. ,1 +16632,I hope you like this close-up.. ,1 +16633,They say 2 is better than 1. ,1 +16634,My asshole is still available. ,1 +16635,How’s the view? 😉🏕 [f]. ,1 +16636,Would you eat my ass the first day we met. ,1 +16637,What would you like to lick first?. ,1 +16638,Mom next door really needs a salad tosser this evening. ,1 +16639,Are you still gonna eat it after a workout. ,1 +16640,My asshole isn’t perfect but she sure can take cock ;). ,1 +16641,Someone’s son needs to come eat my ass. ,1 +16642,Can I sit this asshole on your dick?. ,1 +16643,Why don’t you try my virgin asshole. ,1 +16644,I can only date men who eat ass!. ,1 +16645,Please tell me you like my little asshole. ,1 +16646,What would you do with my little butthole?. ,1 +16647,Lick my ass and I’ll make you breakfast. ,1 +16648,"If you’ve never fucked a nurse, I’d love to be your first. ",1 +16649,Is my asshole lickable?. ,1 +16650,Can we introduce your tongue to my asshole!?. ,1 +16651,Where can I sit? Your face or your cock? ;). ,1 +16652,"I know both holes look enticing, but i'd love for you to stuff it in my ass 🥰✌. ",1 +16653,If u lick my asshole i cum on your face. Deal?. ,1 +16654,Lick it before you stick it...deal?. ,1 +16655,My holes are just here for your use... ,1 +16656,I wish you can taste them both. ,1 +16657,Any ass eaters want to try mine?. ,1 +16658,My asshole is craving some attention. ,1 +16659,Lick my doughnut hole and I’ll lick yours. ,1 +16660,My asshole is ready for some tongue and cock ;). ,1 +16661,I have the cutest little asshole. Cum make me squeal? (f). ,1 +16662,Can I sit on your face?. ,1 +16663,great day to taste my asshole 🤤. ,1 +16664,This is why I don’t wear panties. ,1 +16665,Wait until I spread my cheeks. ,1 +16666,Come get a taste. ,1 +16667,Do you guys like my tight virgin asshole ?. ,1 +16668,20 points to gryffindor if you like eating ass. ,1 +16669,use my tight ass for your pleasure. ,1 +16670,insert your dick here. ,1 +16671,Look at my little hole winking for you. ,1 +16672,Good morning to you…but only if you eat ass!. ,1 +16673,Who wants to tongue my asshole?. ,1 +16674,Who wants a lick? 😇. ,1 +16675,I would appreciate if you ate my ass before you fucked it 😋. ,1 +16676,The kind of asshole you want to slide into after a long day :). ,1 +16677,I don’t wear panties. ,1 +16678,This narrow and sexy oskol loves tongue games very much :). ,1 +16679,Do I have a cute asshole?. ,1 +16680,Would you enjoy eating my asshole?. ,1 +16681,My asshole is made for sweet kisses. ,1 +16682,Your face looks like a comfortable chair. ,1 +16683,"My asshole needs filling, while we’re Netflix and chilling. ",1 +16684,Insert your dick here. ,1 +16685,Jeff seems to like what I’m doing. 😄. ,1 +16686,"Little asshole spread featuring my big, pumped up labia. ",1 +16687,Is my asshole worthy of your load?. ,1 +16688,are you taking them off or pushing them to the side?. ,1 +16689,Eat it or fuck it?. ,1 +16690,lubed and fingered. ,1 +16691,this ass needs to be licked. ,1 +16692,I want to show my ex-boyfriend how many dads would fuck me😋. ,1 +16693,Raise your hand if you really eat ass. ,1 +16694,Those holes want to be licked and fucked. ,1 +16695,100 points to gryffindor if you eat ass!. ,1 +16696,Bury your face in it.... ,1 +16697,Are you enjoying the view?💕. ,1 +16698,Can I sit on your face and suck your cock at the same time?. ,1 +16699,Tightest little asshole. ,1 +16700,Eat suck or fuck. ,1 +16701,I can convert you to ass eating ;). ,1 +16702,My asshole wants to say hello ;). ,1 +16703,Tested positive for needing my ass ate from the back. ,1 +16704,POV me backing it up into your face. ,1 +16705,My ass so wants you to lick it. ,1 +16706,Eat it and watch me quiver. ,1 +16707,I wanna feel your tongue deep inside (:. ,1 +16708,Your tongue belongs in my ass. ,1 +16709,"My asshole just wants to be your breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Is that too much to ask?. ",1 +16710,If you like to eat ass you are my type. ,1 +16711,What’s your opinion on middle eastern girls ?. ,1 +16712,I'm sure you won't be able to resist me. ,1 +16713,waiting to be split open. ,1 +16714,I’ve been told is good to share so here I am sharing my asshole with strangers. ,1 +16715,I'd help her do laundry [Not OC]. ,1 +16716,[20] hii 🙈. ,1 +16717,"Pick a hole, any hole!. ",1 +16718,Wanna take turns eating our assholes?. ,1 +16719,"If you eat ass, does mine look tasty enough for you? 🥰💕. ",1 +16720,Your tongue should be inside it. ,1 +16721,Hole in one!. ,1 +16722,Have you seen such a beautiful hole?. ,1 +16723,Did you enjoy my asshole reveal?. ,1 +16724,"My asshole loves French kisses, would you give it some?. ",1 +16725,Do you like my asshole?. ,1 +16726,Would you eat my ass on our first date?. ,1 +16727,"Excuse my feet, just look at my asshole. ",1 +16728,Zoom in and tell me how you got off to me when you join. ,1 +16729,How's mine?? 42 slut milf (OC). ,1 +16730,which hole would you choose first?. ,1 +16731,I heard you eat ass 😉. ,1 +16732,Ever wonder if your boss takes it up the ass? 😏 (Mid-thirties Exec). ,1 +16733,Wanna feel my asshole kissing your cock?. ,1 +16734,"Soft and tight, just as you like. ",1 +16735,"I need a face to sit on, any takers? ☺️����. ",1 +16736,My tiny brown asshole needs to be stretched open ;). ,1 +16737,I’ve been told I have a pretty butthole. ,1 +16738,My asshole winking you. ,1 +16739,Stick your finger in my tight hole ^^. ,1 +16740,never shown a picture up this close of my butthole!. ,1 +16741,Are you putting your tongue in it? 👅 🙈. ,1 +16742,anal or pussy?. ,1 +16743,enter your cock in my tight asshole ?. ,1 +16744,I’m working on my gape <3. ,1 +16745,Would you like some ass for dinner? 😉. ,1 +16746,Would you lick my asshole?. ,1 +16747,I’m waiting 🍆💦. ,1 +16748,my tight asshole so wants to be stretched today.... ,1 +16749,[oc][f] 1st post here for this little Arab slut 😈. ,1 +16750,Would you cum in my back door?. ,1 +16751,do you think my asshole is cute enough to eat?. ,1 +16752,Who wants to lick it? 😜. ,1 +16753,Get your tongue In there 😉. ,1 +16754,Did my ass make you stop scrolling?. ,1 +16755,I got my asshole all clean for you. ,1 +16756,If you girlfriend doesn't let you fuck her asshole you can use mine.. ,1 +16757,Do you think it's yummy? 🥰. ,1 +16758,How many times a week would you you eat my asshole if I was your gf?. ,1 +16759,Looks taste to you?. ,1 +16760,He Was Shocked To Say The Least. ,1 +16761,Welcome to my asshole. ,1 +16762,My asshole needs your tongue inside!. ,1 +16763,Does it look edible to you?. ,1 +16764,Come and tongue fuck it. ,1 +16765,Irresistible [Not OC]. ,1 +16766,I can't eat my own ass... but you can! 😋. ,1 +16767,Do you think it's yummy? 😋. ,1 +16768,Hello! Enjoy your meal!. ,1 +16769,What would you do with my tight little asshole?. ,1 +16770,Would you like to eat my tiny asshole in this position?. ,1 +16771,I want you to grab my ass like this 😍. ,1 +16772,😌😌😌😌😌. ,1 +16773,Make my asshole yours 😍. ,1 +16774,"Live fast, eat ass 😉. ",1 +16775,Which hole you choose for stretching first?. ,1 +16776,If you eat ass this will be your view every day. ,1 +16777,Where are all the guys at that actually like to eat ass?. ,1 +16778,Mouth watering asshole. ,1 +16779,My asshol is very sweet. ,1 +16780,You get to cum in my ass tonight. ,1 +16781,I hope your pull out game is weak. ,1 +16782,The only time I ever squirt is from pretty rough anal (f24). ,1 +16783,Would you cum in it or on it?. ,1 +16784,Stick it in my pretty pink asshole?. ,1 +16785,My favorite position to be in!. ,1 +16786,Tested positive for needing my asshole filled up from the back. ,1 +16787,What would it take for you to eat it?. ,1 +16788,abuse my asshole 🍆😈. ,1 +16789,Would you tongue fuck my asshole please?. ,1 +16790,Do you guys like when I post my asshole here. ,1 +16791,Se(x) bottle. Upvote this or whatever happens is your fault. ,1 +16792,Well.. damn. ,1 +16793,Dude gets ass whooped. ,1 +16794,Bro sleep. ,1 +16795,Long jumper nearly jumps the entire pit. ,1 +16796,DAMN.. ,1 +16797,That's cool. ,1 +16798,damn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. ,1 +16799,well I'm not wrong. ,1 +16800,The girl cursed with the inability to feel physical pain. She rarely eats or sleeps because of her inability to feel hunger or tiredness.. ,1 +16801,damn…. ,1 +16802,Damn. ,1 +16803,Damn.. ,1 +16804,damn. ,1 +16805,Hoover Damn. ,1 +16806,Damn... :(. ,1 +16807,Braless and busty blonde. ,1 +16808,This monkey giving birth. ,1 +16809,Oooh damn!. ,1 +16810,That petite booty 😍😍😍😍😍. ,1 +16811,"it just dropped on the ground, I did not throw it.. ",1 +16812,Florida man uses 1 year old as shield during stand off at McDonald's. [He's a scumbag]. ,1 +16813,Philadelphia man climbs 15 stories to save his mother from burning building. ,1 +16814,DAMN boah he THICC boah! That’s a thicc as boah! (Xbox controller for comparison!). ,1 +16815,Skill. ,1 +16816,This is some Tom and Jerry vibe. ,1 +16817,"Newly released photos show Maxwell and Epstein relaxing at a cabin thought to be the porch of the Queen's log cabin. Is it possible this all goes way, way deeper and worse than we thought?. ",1 +16818,"2 years ago my sisters were painting animal masks for school, and asked my (then) depressed self if i wanted to paint along. i still own it, and treasure it as a reminder of what shouldn't be.. ",1 +16819,"I stabbed a pen into my finger. One day a couple years ago me and my friend were in class and the teacher was off so we had a cover. We were messing around and we were pulling each other’s chairs and throwing shit at each other but we were sort of back to back so it was difficult to do it discretely. + +I’m not sure what he did but he must’ve hit me in the face with something because I got really mad for no reason. I had a pen in my hand and I turned around and stabbed him in the back with all my strength. + +The problem was the pen was upside down and my thumb was pressing on the pen, and it ended up stabbing into a nerve in my thumb and it just started bleeding rapidly. + +Moral of the story : avoid escalating situations so quickly.",1 +16820,All those people. ,1 +16821,The models in this film was made with vr.. ,1 +16822,I wanted to see what Getting Over It would be like in VR so I remade the entire game using Unity (full devlog in comment). ,1 +16823,fumigating wine by drilling hole in the cork? I've got cork all over the place now. ,1 +16824,"DAMN. im gonna post this thing i found on youtube it was on tfcs most recent video before he passed R.I.P. the thing kanye stafford replied to was someone saying rip + +## [George Davies](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh2ioetIubd3V_ZTsN1ykzA) + +[10 days ago](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b4CW1gs8Ts0&lc=Ugy2R2vkHARuOeZnfQR4AaABAg)RIP2**REPLY2 REPLIESHighlighted reply\*\*\*\*📷** + +## [Kayne Stafford 2](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvy8XDhMl6g0xsGCDtnPreg) + +[1 day ago](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b4CW1gs8Ts0&lc=Ugy2R2vkHARuOeZnfQR4AaABAg.9fb8bFqTZo-9fwYguudtqF)BAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHA!! RIP BOZO IM LAUGHING AT THIS OLD MAN WHO PLAYS MINECRAFT LMAO I OUTLIVED HIM**REPLY\*\*\*\*📷** + +## [George Davies](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh2ioetIubd3V_ZTsN1ykzA) + +[11 minutes ago](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b4CW1gs8Ts0&lc=Ugy2R2vkHARuOeZnfQR4AaABAg.9fb8bFqTZo-9g0BVu_QQTC)[ @Kayne Stafford 2 ](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvy8XDhMl6g0xsGCDtnPreg) i had a look at both your channels you should really get a life you look about 34 and you post memes about dead people i can under stand that you may feel anger towards these people for personal reasons but saying something disrespectful about a dead person is not gonna solve your real life problems you look 34 both your parents are most likely dead so you got some insurance money off of those to put a roof over your head and eat $2 ramen every day, everyone you have made disrespectful comments towards are more successful than you, more loved and overall even though they are dead lived happier than you ever will, knowing you, you probably will read this and not care, but soon your disrespectful and down right bad life choices will eventually catch up with you and will end fatal so instead of waiting why don't you just end your life now, the only person at your funeral (if you can even afford one) will be the priest, you will rot in hell there is no saving for you actions the only way, is to get a better grip of reality, i've seen your living conditions in some of your videos and that is not a life worth living, so either you become more respectful and aware of what you have done or end it all here and now p.s. if both your parents are not dead, you live in your moms house and your dad has left, your mother does not even love you she only keeps a roof over your head so she can try to keep the bloodline going even though down deep she knows a scumbag like you will never have a successful life, so please do everyone a favour and end your life or start being more respectful towards others and get a taste of reality, thats all i have to say so please take this as a wakeup call, i would appreciate if you replied with what you are going to do better in your life now goodbye.",1 +16825,damn. ,1 +16826,Climbing the World's Tallest Radio Tower... ,1 +16827,"I asked Odin for a reason to not be at work, I immediately cut my hand with a box cutter, not what I had in mind. ",1 +16828,J. Jonah Jameson Has a foot fetish. ,1 +16829,AI Generated Comedy Sketch. ,1 +16830,The Breakfast Podcast. ,1 +16831,You Think your family's psychotic?. ,1 +16832,Did You Right Click Save As My Duct Tape Banana. ,1 +16833,"This is why I hate Human being...... Why I hate Human being =================== + +It all started when I was in 4 or 5. +At that time we where learning what causes global warming. +Just listen the global warming is due of the CFC and co2 which causes depletion in ozone layer. +I Mean who created and use them. +It's humans it's not monkey who uses cars for distant transport and donkeys who use truck to Carry things or penguins who uses AC and refrigerator to keep them cold. +Come on its human beings along. +They use these and when something bad happens they blame it to others. +And they cut trees to build big tall buildings and says save trees. +Really bro. +They capture wild animals out in the wild and says we are going to keep this animal safe because it's going to extinct in this world. +I am pretty sure that it's because of them it's happening. +Not only that we can breed and kill so many animals but when a human being get killed +woah woah woah +That's a huge problem. +I mean come-on what's wrong with the world. +Well unfortunately I am one of those filthy creature too. + + + :- [ KAYOUKI ]",1 +16834,Kendrick Lamar's 4th studio album. ,1 +16835,M4F Ventura County. BBC looking for a SLUT of my own. Message me Kik is SoCalchillfrenchbbc.. ,1 +16836,What Spencer's Gifts is now. ,1 +16837,How Many Danny DeVitos Could Batman Kill. ,1 +16838,big wind. ,1 +16839,White Cowboy becomes Black Panther. ,1 +16840,My Alexa Knew I was gay before I did. ,1 +16841,We Can Credit Mario With The Canadian Tuxedo. ,1 +16842,"Thats why yo mama dead but smarter. Such is the reason thine footwear is rugged. Such is the reason thy mother is deceased. Deceased as hades. Pray, what footwear hath she? In her casket? Alas, such is the reason thine young one's optic is nothing more than an ivory porcelain bead. Hath she wept, with Windex shall you polish the bead. As well as the reason thine Grandmother hast no knees and can not give praise to our heavenly father or indulge in the merriment of dance.",1 +16843,Why is WordGirl making a comeback?. ,1 +16844,My Alexa Knew I Was Gay Before I Did. ,1 +16845,If Yelp Was a Poetry reading. ,1 +16846,ZAAM SAU WING CHUN. ,1 +16847,FloridaMan Saves The Children. ,1 +16848,God Has A Gambling Addiction And Is Betting On The Devil. ,1 +16849,Possesed Nazi Gold | Listen To Recording. ,1 +16850,Beware tobor. ,1 +16851,Kremlin Fried Chicken And Picasso Is Cancelled. ,1 +16852,Being stuck with in-laws. ,1 +16853,Why I'm Afraid Of Juicy Fruit. ,1 +16854,The Fox News Christmas Tree Arson. ,1 +16855,"holy f*ck this thread is long 😳 (comment ""Ah"" on this). ",1 +16856,sneako on youtube. ,1 +16857,"kill me now. Every time I post this I get bullshit comments about how things will get better and get therapy, but I'm going to keep trying. All I'm asking for is someone that lives in an area that firearms can be easily purchased. To buy a handgun and bullets, and send them to me here in Australia. I'll send you the money that you need. + +Please. This is torture",1 +16858,"I Invite you.. to join Mels discord server!. Hi everyone, I am in the making of a Virtual Assistant, an A.I. shall we call it, and would love some feedback from the public.. not only that, would love to have people to brainstorm with for the to be added functionalities of Mel. + +Mel is a Virtual Assistant prepared to answer your needs and help you through day to day tasks, the Virtual Assistant you didn't knew you needed! + +Mel will be released circa 2030, fully ready for the public. + +In the meanwhile, me, the creator am looking for partners and seeking for the publics insight on requirements the public would simply love to have. + +You say 'Mel, write a note' and Mel writes a note on your device with what you want, not forgetting for sure. + +Mel can already play Blackjack, give locations, open a few softwares and Guard your OS all you need to do is have your device drivers updated, run Mel and speak out the command. + +For more I will be depending on the public to add the best and most required for the general use... + +Mels discord server awaits You! https://discord.gg/TPhUQXmY + +I count on all of you, + +With my best regards, -CONID",1 +16859,Damn. ,1 +16860,No One Can Outpizza The Hut. ,1 +16861,"Reddit video player. I was just in the middle of a very interesting video, and all of a sudden I'm back on my home screen unable to find the video. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK IS WRONG WITH THIS APP?!?! (/s, but only a little)",1 +16862,Supreme X Bounty Paper Towels. ,1 +16863,The Password Is Butthole. ,1 +16864,My Date With The Devil | Listen To Recording. ,1 +16865,"Reluctantly, It's Morbin' Time. ",1 +16866,Wrecking Ball Miley Cyrus Ft Jack Black. ,1 +16867,Obi-Wan Trailer Looks Great!. ,1 +16868,transformers superion. ,1 +16869,You Will Not Silence My Pet Duck. ,1 +16870,What if Zack made it but Cody didn't?. ,1 +16871,FOOTWORK-LUNGE. ,1 +16872,You're too stupid to take this class. ,1 +16873,What????. ,1 +16874,The CDC Says Its Okay To Shoot Zombies. ,1 +16875,The Wiggles Meet Mad Max. ,1 +16876,A Performance Artist Is Dating My Mom. ,1 +16877,Doctor My Son Has No Ass. ,1 +16878,You're Telling Me A Chicken Fried The State Of Kentucky?. ,1 +16879,"Seniors, Seizures and Starsearch. ",1 +16880,Take It From The Fecal Matter Expert. ,1 +16881,The World's Largest Starbucks. ,1 +16882,"5-year-old invents superhero ""Velociraptor who can do anything"". ",1 +16883,When the fuck did this turn into a porn sub. ,1 +16884,"Bitchy girls destroying car. I have this thing, about bitchy girls destroying cars. Especially a girl keying a car. I get off on thinking about a really hot bitch girl keying my expensive car, then laughing in my face about it. Im not sure what you call this, or anyone else has ever had thoughts like this? Also does anyone know of any movies or tv shows that show girls keying cars? Pic related check link https://www.shutterstock.com/image-photo/sexy-blond-girl-keying-black-car-221398360",1 +16885,Rachel is a bitch. ,1 +16886,Bitch. ,1 +16887,"Who do you main. + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/smup6e)",1 +16888,who's gonna have me over 😋😍. ,1 +16889,can the mods do something about the porn problem on the sub. The sub has gone down hill since the porn problem on the sub started. The original purpose has been forgotten. And to the people who are posting the porn Fucking Stop. There are other subreddits for that shit,1 +16890,Amber Heard was nearly dropped from Aquaman 2 over 'chemistry concerns' with Jason Momoa. ,1 +16891,"WHO IS THE BIGGEST BITCH. + +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/z3dr42)",1 +16892,"Too much aggression, they're all bitches. Aggression must stop. Passive aggression must end. + +There's a whole lot of passive aggression, especially in my generation. There is simply too many passive aggressors. They're just like the other filths, disability humanoids that are exploiting time that Hitler is not around. They're exploiting a Hitler-less time, but the oldest bigot is writing with it's free English that was given to them, and how cheap are these words? I could swap the nouns with anything and it will still sound like.... +I won't go into details explaining how siphoning is true-trashing, or so. It was worthy in the past. So, I'll just say again, they're exploiting a Hitler-less time. I promise people of America, Israel will not stand by this country and watch it sink, we help our friends. I keep making videos, I want people to understand, and I want to show the world what is vigilance. What is actually human, and what is actual. I want to show the standard. My videos are never edited or retaken. Sometimes I can't even tell how I look. + +My plan was to read what was said and swap the nouns with some other stuff to expose it's filthiness, explain in detail that it's passive aggression. It's utter, utter peasantry mimicry. Iranian people really are like us, look at these pictures or pastors all over the place, talking like they're power equal. Everytime when I look at these I can spot it's a fraud. The visible trouts now those ones are visible, but the invisible ones, now those I also see. + +I hope all the people, at least the good people fishing, know what is actual human. Now, there's a problem with what they do. It's too aggressive. They've been TOO greedy. They should work on their weakness. Too greedy, too aggressive, and no wonder when we see a Bear killed we go ""Oh, it's just a Bear, haha"" but, when we see a kitten, we get this natural affection and then the social pressure comes in. Whereas there, there's more force pushing us to like them. We don't want to like these types of humans. They're fiends. + +Pandas. Baby Pandas. A natural living creature. A living being. America should not be overrun by infested Zombie, deviated, birth defect types of humans. America should be free and pure. And have none of the foul.",1 +16893,Too much experience?. 40+ yrs in IT. Applied to be an Expert on Just Answer. Denied! Being older and wiser apparently isn't valued any more. Anyone else getting denied jobs due to ageism?,1 +16894,"hey, can u help me ? ;). https://imgur.com/8PpDp8K",1 +16895,Rules?. Are there gonna be rules you fucking bitch? Or is this sub free to be as bitchy as possible you fucking bitch?,1 +16896,"31(F4M) I’m a dominant mistress Seeking new sub #online. I don’t really know how to do this but all I seek is a slave to serve and owned by me , tho its online and it’s gonna be fun , my kinks are numerous and I’m ready to expose you to mine just dm if you’re interested and you got all it takes to serve me , I promise to reply all messages.",1 +16897,can i be mod. bitch,1 +16898,"Am I a bitch?. I fuck with 3 men + +Am I a bitch?",1 +16899,MY FRIEND SAYS YOU ARE ALL BITCGES. What a bitch.,1 +16900,I love this underwear. https://imgur.com/XzcVHh7,1 +16901,Junge schwarzhaarige Sxxut 0660 8143990 ruft mich an !😮‍💨👅. ,1 +16902,"23 [F4M] I'm a horny gamer, looking to sext and rate cock I can torture and command to stay hard, not allowed to cum until I say so. I have irrational anal obsessions I'd like to share my butthole and have my titties s. Sometimes when I ovulate I get really intense horny moments that I crave to be dicked down and cummed in, but I just can't bring myself to find me a guy to pop the cherry so I like to sext or rp! Looking for men around my age 25yrs +. Bonus points if you're a fellow gamer as well! I mainly play shooters with a few mmos. But yeah looking for someone to chat whether its dirty or not 🥰 +—— @Jocyyjasmii ——Let have some conversation on insta",1 +16903,"Don’t be shy, my pussy clearly isn’t. ",1 +16904,How hard would it be for you to pull out ?. ,1 +16905,Just shaved my pussy lips bare for you ;). ,1 +16906,I’d let you do anything to my pussy. ,1 +16907,I need a friend willing to eat my pussy sometimes. ,1 +16908,Does my pussy deserve to be licked?. ,1 +16909,Do you actually enjoy these close ups?😏. ,1 +16910,Any chance of you eat me on the first date?. ,1 +16911,How may I be of service?. ,1 +16912,"To all Americans, this is what a British kitty looks like 😜💕. ",1 +16913,If you were our roommate would you fuck us whenever we asked?. ,1 +16914,I can only spread my little pussy this much 😞 can you help me spread it more daddy? 🥺💕. ,1 +16915,Is my pussy your type?. ,1 +16916,Would you eat first or is my pussy ready to be fucked?. ,1 +16917,Would you enjoy This POV??. ,1 +16918,Can you handle me riding on you?. ,1 +16919,Would you rather lick my pussy or watch football?. ,1 +16920,Would you fuck me on the stove top?. ,1 +16921,"Breed me daddy, pretty please 🥺💕. ",1 +16922,Can my pussy turns you on?. ,1 +16923,Are you ready to go inside?. ,1 +16924,Am I too old for showing pussy? BTW I’m 40. ,1 +16925,Am I good enough?. ,1 +16926,"POV: you brought the shy, nerdy girl home after class 🙈💖. ",1 +16927,Redheads have the sweetest juices 💦. ,1 +16928,Wanna pound it from behind?. ,1 +16929,I need some cream for this pie 🥺💕. ,1 +16930,A Canadian snack you should try…. ,1 +16931,What do you think my pussy tastes like. ,1 +16932,Any chance you'd eat my pussy on the first date?. ,1 +16933,My tight teen pussy is yours for the taking 😇💕. ,1 +16934,Have you ever tried pink chocolate pussy? Wanna taste mine?. ,1 +16935,Pinky butt 😊. ,1 +16936,I’m just 4’10.. would u fit inside me?. ,1 +16937,Insert five inches to play 💗. ,1 +16938,Fresh as a daisy. ,1 +16939,"My parents aren’t home, come round and eat my little pussy 🙈💕. ",1 +16940,Say hello to my kitty 🎀. ,1 +16941,Do you have a pussy type?. ,1 +16942,Do you like it from this angle?. ,1 +16943,Where did you look first? 😉. ,1 +16944,How bad do you want to eat me out from 1 to 10?. ,1 +16945,Would you have a one night stand with me?. ,1 +16946,Patiently waiting until December 1st so I can get filled to the brim with nuts again 😭💦. ,1 +16947,You like?. ,1 +16948,I bet you couldn’t fit balls deep in this tiny pussy 😜💖. ,1 +16949,Can I wink like this while you fill me up?. ,1 +16950,In need of a pussy eater. ,1 +16951,Can I sit on your face?. ,1 +16952,Would you fck me even if I get wet like this?. ,1 +16953,She wanna be fucked so bad…. ,1 +16954,I‘m flat as fuck.. I guess all the fat went straight to my pussy 😅. ,1 +16955,"Be honest, would you taste my pussy before you fuck it? ;). ",1 +16956,Me and my friends wanna know….who’s 19 year old pussy is your fav?😝. ,1 +16957,Could you suck my pussy? I kindly ask you. ,1 +16958,Would you fuck a 91 lb college cheerleader?. ,1 +16959,What would you do with my pussy first?. ,1 +16960,"Your face looks lonely, could my pussy keep it company?. ",1 +16961,Let me sit on your lap and we’ll talk about the first thing that pops up 😇💦. ,1 +16962,I hope you have a beautiful Sunday love. ,1 +16963,I hope you brought extra lube 🙈💕. ,1 +16964,I hope my pussy makes you happy. ,1 +16965,"Yes, I licked my fingers clean when I was done 🤤. ",1 +16966,No need to pick a hole. Have both. ,1 +16967,ur breаkfast is readу. ,1 +16968,40 years mommy spreading pussy for you. ,1 +16969,Juicy Pussy. ,1 +16970,Come inside for a tight hug 😘💖. ,1 +16971,Have you ever had college athlete pussy?. ,1 +16972,"Lick, finger or fuck?. ",1 +16973,"I already wet my underwear, should I wet something else?. ",1 +16974,Need some more vitamin D. ,1 +16975,A snack for you. ,1 +16976,may I sit on your face?. ,1 +16977,describe my pussy in one emoji :). ,1 +16978,Is it tempting enough to eat it for breakfast…. ,1 +16979,🥺soft. ,1 +16980,my pussy is open for you. ,1 +16981,Do you want a mouthful of pussy and a handful of boobs?. ,1 +16982,Two is better than one. ,1 +16983,Pink and ready to eat. ,1 +16984,The sun on me. ,1 +16985,What would be your reaction when you woke up if you saw my wet pussy like this?. ,1 +16986,I need a guy who’d eat me out daily. ,1 +16987,Omg That pussy is perfectly plump🤤. ,1 +16988,Your view moments before you taste me 🥰💙. ,1 +16989,I bet you could spread my little pussy even wider with your cock 🙈💕. ,1 +16990,Stop just looking and come taste this sweet nectar. ,1 +16991,I’d let you fuck me if you promise not to pull out. ,1 +16992,Do you think my pussy is on the God level?. ,1 +16993,Are you gonna pull out?. ,1 +16994,I’m imagining your face here 😛. ,1 +16995,When you’re a cock hungry teen 🤤. ,1 +16996,Happy Humpday! 🍑. ,1 +16997,Could you guess my age just by looking at my pussy? 😜💕. ,1 +16998,Do I look tight for you?. ,1 +16999,"I don’t care anymore, I’m showing her off. ",1 +17000,Where are all my pussy eaters?. ,1 +17001,Look how wet this young college pussy is for you. ,1 +17002,"Nerdy mom, 31. I woke up needing to be touched so badly. ",1 +17003,It’s so easy to access my pussy with this lingerie. ,1 +17004,Prepare yourself cause you gonna eat it for hours. ,1 +17005,"Now it's your turn to come feel it, perhaps with your tongue? ;). ",1 +17006,I hope you don’t mind eating when it’s creamy. ,1 +17007,Who do you want to taste the most?. ,1 +17008,"I grind, you lick ;). ",1 +17009,Have you ever seen a more beautiful sight. ,1 +17010,I like being licked. ,1 +17011,I want you to have both!. ,1 +17012,I‘m flat as fuck.. I guess all the fat went straight to my pussy 😅. ,1 +17013,Openning. ,1 +17014,not wearing panties makes everything easier when going out with friends. ,1 +17015,Can you handle two creampie obsessed sluts.. ,1 +17016,How about a tight young pussy? ☺️. ,1 +17017,"Pretty much already on a plate for you, all you have to do is eat. ",1 +17018,"Let’s play truth or dare, I dare you not to pull out 😏. ",1 +17019,Teasing for the weekend 🥰. ,1 +17020,Lick my pussy 👅. ,1 +17021,Would you help me put a load in?. ,1 +17022,I love spreading my little pussy for Reddit 🥰💕. ,1 +17023,Here’s a chocolate snack you should taste (:. ,1 +17024,do you want me to sit on you?. ,1 +17025,"Look, I bought your breakfast. ",1 +17026,Patiently waiting for your sloppy clit kisses. ,1 +17027,Just wanna convince you to eat my pussy from behind. How’s it working?. ,1 +17028,O hope you like my tanlines :). ,1 +17029,How many times a day would you eat me ? 😜. ,1 +17030,First thoughts ??. ,1 +17031,"Look up, this is what dessert looks like. ",1 +17032,"Stretch and fill this pussy up, or else… 😠💕. ",1 +17033,40 years old mommy getting naughty when stays home alone. ,1 +17034,hope you like pink lips 😇. ,1 +17035,Can milfs still have nice pussys ?. ,1 +17036,New favorite pussy view 💓. ,1 +17037,Let me squeeze it on a hard dick [f]26. ,1 +17038,she's so wet right now…. ,1 +17039,All the sexy men eat pussy from behind before the fuck it. ,1 +17040,And what are we going to do with this wet pussy?. ,1 +17041,"Lick me, suck me, or fuck me?. ",1 +17042,Thing angle shows how juicy my lips are💓. ,1 +17043,Would you lick my pussy or my ass? :). ,1 +17044,Test of curvy teen pussy. ,1 +17045,my pussy is so fucking wet today 😍. ,1 +17046,Are you fucking it or eating it first?. ,1 +17047,Would you pull out?. ,1 +17048,Which hole you licking?. ,1 +17049,Be honest… would you eat it?. ,1 +17050,I'm very naughty today 🥵. ,1 +17051,want to fill my Iranian pussy?. ,1 +17052,"Sensitive, wet and needy. ",1 +17053,Would you lick my pussy before getting inside me?. ,1 +17054,Now it’s your turn.. do you want to taste first or fuck?. ,1 +17055,A snack for you. ,1 +17056,I never wear panties on the first date. ,1 +17057,Do you want to taste hijabi girl pussy?. ,1 +17058,"Smooth and tight, just how you like it, right? 😇💖. ",1 +17059,the best fingering. ,1 +17060,Jiggly lips 👄. ,1 +17061,I'm horny and ready for you. ,1 +17062,Heaven's right there [Not OC]. ,1 +17063,"Dresses are the best clothes, when you least expect it, you are wet. ",1 +17064,Are you a fan of ebony pussy?. ,1 +17065,My Indian pussy wants a filling. ,1 +17066,Would you eat me before or after my workout?. ,1 +17067,Ever wanted to try out a tiny Austrian Welsh teen?. ,1 +17068,My pussy is lickable. ,1 +17069,How long would you sit under my desk? 👅. ,1 +17070,Good morning 😊. ,1 +17071,Get your dick ready. ,1 +17072,My pussy is ready to sit on your face. May I?. ,1 +17073,40 years old mommy deserves to be on top?. ,1 +17074,POV: preparing to sit on your face. ,1 +17075,"Oops, I'm very wet, hehe 💦. ",1 +17076,Nerdy girls can be fun too!. ,1 +17077,Your cocks POV when we’re spooning 😇💖. ,1 +17078,"I love doggy style, wanna try?. ",1 +17079,My tight pussy should be on your menu tonight. ,1 +17080,Tongue or cock?. ,1 +17081,I need a good pussy eater. Is that you?. ,1 +17082,I’m sure you want to give a try. ,1 +17083,Would you fuck me on the counter top?. ,1 +17084,I need a teacher for a sports session!. ,1 +17085,my pussy loves cardio :). ,1 +17086,I shaved my cunt for you. ,1 +17087,I wonder if your face is ready?. ,1 +17088,This pussy is created for real sweet tooth.... ,1 +17089,Let’s hear it… hot or not?. ,1 +17090,Sexy view. ,1 +17091,It's for dessert. ,1 +17092,I wish I could sit on your face 🤤. ,1 +17093,Can I interest you in a little pink pussy to start your day 😇💖. ,1 +17094,Just give my pussy a little kiss. ,1 +17095,SURPRISE!! 🥺🐱. ,1 +17096,"Swimming, hee-hee 🥵. ",1 +17097,One small girl with two big smiles :). ,1 +17098,My pussy needs a kiss or two. Think you could help me with that? 😇. ,1 +17099,You asked me to sit on your face so here I am. ,1 +17100,Hope you don’t mind a little fuzz. ,1 +17101,"If you lick it, it’s yours 😜. ",1 +17102,I hope this little pussy is on your to do list today 🥺💕. ,1 +17103,A nice front view of my willing pussy. ,1 +17104,Wet pussy. ,1 +17105,"lick, then you can enter ... ",1 +17106,"Elastic, narrow and very juicy. ",1 +17107,Would take this 40 years old pussy?. ,1 +17108,Would you lick it?. ,1 +17109,Would you take a taste ?. ,1 +17110,Bent over and ready to be filled. ,1 +17111,How did NNN go for you? I did terribly 🙈💦. ,1 +17112,Sweet and moist 🍭💦. ,1 +17113,Would you lick my pussy before you fuck it? :). ,1 +17114,My ex didn't eat pussy ¿are there still guys that eats pussy?. ,1 +17115,Just shaved my pussy lips for a smooth entry ;) a. ,1 +17116,look what a beautiful hole. ,1 +17117,I want someone to play with me. ,1 +17118,Big clit pussy.. would you play?. ,1 +17119,40 years old mommy opened for your …. 😈What word I hide ?. ,1 +17120,Are you convinced enough to eat my pussy from behind?. ,1 +17121,Yummy or gross :P. ,1 +17122,describe my pussy in one emoji :). ,1 +17123,It would be illegal to use panties with this. ,1 +17124,For the Redditors who eat pussy for their own pleasure. ,1 +17125,"Lick, fuck or both?. ",1 +17126,My pussy is ready for a taste. ,1 +17127,Here’s something soft to make you hard. ,1 +17128,Eat or fuck first ?. ,1 +17129,How about waking up to this daily. ,1 +17130,A tight hot mom pussy makes you happy✌️34.... ,1 +17131,"Excuse me, Sir! Can I sit on your face?. ",1 +17132,😋. ,1 +17133,My kitty made for you. ,1 +17134,"🎀 This pussy hasn't had a big 🥵 , fat cock 😍 in it in a long time...can you help? 😏😏. ",1 +17135,Would u keep fucking me even if we got caught? 😳. ,1 +17136,Let’s get up close and personal…. ,1 +17137,"No clever title, just showing you my tight innie pussy for fun!. ",1 +17138,This pussy has dirty thoughts in easily accessible tights. ,1 +17139,"If you were my neighbor and saw this fat pussy, would you fuck me 🫦. ",1 +17140,do you want to lick my juices? 👅. ,1 +17141,Just little pussy. ,1 +17142,I love how the sun embraces my curves!. ,1 +17143,Can I send you sneaky videos like this while you're at work?. ,1 +17144,my pussy ^_^. ,1 +17145,Little surprise under my dress. ,1 +17146,A close up of my pussy. ,1 +17147,"My ex didn’t eat me out, wannna make up for lost time?. ",1 +17148,Suck or fuck?. ,1 +17149,I want you to have both!. ,1 +17150,"Somebody fucс me already, my pussy can't take the excitement. ",1 +17151,"Im horny, eat my pussy. ",1 +17152,Do you want to taste my wet pussy?. ,1 +17153,"Oops I’m a little wet, wanna lick it up or make more of a mess?. ",1 +17154,this should be licked. ,1 +17155,If you already had lunch come get your dessert. ,1 +17156,I could spend all day doing this. ,1 +17157,I used to ride horses but now I ride your face instead!. ,1 +17158,😈 so tight ... so wet... ❤️. ,1 +17159,Mexican pussy for breakfast 😜. ,1 +17160,I've been told that I have very delicious looking pussy. ,1 +17161,Your 👅 + my 🐱. ,1 +17162,Omg my pussy screams to be played with. ,1 +17163,Dream Pussies. ,1 +17164,My pussy is begging to have your cock inside it. ,1 +17165,"heh, my pussy is very wet this evening 💦. ",1 +17166,my bf won't let me sit on his face. ,1 +17167,You’re allowed to fuck my pussy anytime. ,1 +17168,Guys who eat pussy are the best. ,1 +17169,Juicy pussy. ,1 +17170,Amazing [Not OC]. ,1 +17171,perfect for dick 🤤💕. ,1 +17172,Would you use this bunny?. ,1 +17173,Would you lick my pussy before you fuck it?. ,1 +17174,"hee-hee, my favorite angle on the pussy, today it is especially wet. ",1 +17175,POV: You’re 30+ and I have daddy issues 😛. ,1 +17176,Santa called and said Christmas is coming early this year. ,1 +17177,I made you breakfast in bed. ,1 +17178,I love it when they drive with a wet tongue 👅. ,1 +17179,Do you like my tiny pussy 🤭. ,1 +17180,Morning pussy. ,1 +17181,Don't keep a horny redhead waiting... come give it a taste 😋. ,1 +17182,I love naughty games in bed. ,1 +17183,got caught flashing my pussy at the gym and he gave me a thumbs up 🙈. ,1 +17184,"I want to be your maid, especially if you are an older man. ",1 +17185,If I was a weapon I’d be a super soaker…. ,1 +17186,Can I be the first goth milf you fuck?. ,1 +17187,What’s the first thing you think when you see my pussy?. ,1 +17188,are virgin pussys welcome here. ,1 +17189,Too tight? or do you like a challenge. ,1 +17190,Would you take this 40 years old pussy?. ,1 +17191,I want to feel you licking me. ,1 +17192,Will anyone jerk to a naughty nerd like me?. ,1 +17193,My juicy pussy is not the only place that can give you pleasure!. ,1 +17194,I believe you ordered my pussy for breakfast. ,1 +17195,Would you first lick me or start immediately fuck me?. ,1 +17196,"Daddy, is it wet enough for you ?. ",1 +17197,My cherry is so excited. ,1 +17198,Front or back?. ,1 +17199,Does anyone eat pussy just for fun?. ,1 +17200,my pussy wants to get wet. ,1 +17201,"Hi I’m shy , I want a Redditor to see my fat Pussy :). ",1 +17202,I need some help stretching out my tight little pussy 🥺💕. ,1 +17203,Posting my pussy for online strangers to see makes me so incredibly wet. ,1 +17204,I’m 4’11 and my pussy tastes like heaven!. ,1 +17205,Heh my pussy wants to be stretched today. ,1 +17206,Yummy or gross?. ,1 +17207,Ready to Get Filled up🤤. ,1 +17208,"Bon appetit, sir. ",1 +17209,"My sweet hole is at your disposal, you can do whatever you want with this pussy💋. ",1 +17210,Give me one good reason why I should let you taste it. ,1 +17211,Is anyone in the mood for some chocolate pussy?. ,1 +17212,Would you eat me out from behind ?. ,1 +17213,"Looking to make a cock hard to start the weekend, how’d I do.. ",1 +17214,It makes me super happy to show off my pussy. ,1 +17215,Too juicy for you?. ,1 +17216,It makes me super happy to show off my pussy. ,1 +17217,Peekaboo i See You. ,1 +17218,Do you like my pink pussy?. ,1 +17219,Pussy for saliva. ,1 +17220,Wink “😉” if you would like to join me in the shower. ,1 +17221,Do you want to lick my pussy? 👅. ,1 +17222,this hot pussy needs to be stretched with ur hard friend... ,1 +17223,I need warmth. ,1 +17224,I need a friend who’s willing to eat my pussy sometimes. ,1 +17225,some love?. ,1 +17226,lick or fuck. ,1 +17227,"Guys, I hope there are no shy among you?. ",1 +17228,I will spread my pink pussy for you ^~^. ,1 +17229,"Lick, finger or fuck?💦. ",1 +17230,How often a day would you eat me?. ,1 +17231,would you pull out? 😛. ,1 +17232,fattest than you expected. ,1 +17233,"I’m trying to convince you to taste my pussy, is it working?. ",1 +17234,My sweet pussy needs kissing. ,1 +17235,would you eat my pussy from behind?. ,1 +17236,"I’m too horny to wait till we home, can we have sex in the car?. ",1 +17237,Put me on your to do list please. ,1 +17238,Can you lick me until my body shakes in orgasm?. ,1 +17239,Do you like open pussies close?. ,1 +17240,This pussy is for a sweet tooth 🍭. ,1 +17241,Snack time! 😋. ,1 +17242,Not wearing panties makes a boring class more exciting 😈. ,1 +17243,Pussy of the day. ,1 +17244,My Indian pussy is craving big cock. ,1 +17245,should I get my pussy tanned too?. ,1 +17246,Eat my juicy pussy🤤. ,1 +17247,would you take the time to lick it before you fuck it 🙈. ,1 +17248,Do you think it’s pretty?. ,1 +17249,Insert dick here. ,1 +17250,My pussy would look better with your face under it.. ,1 +17251,Would you fuck my kitty? Be honest. ,1 +17252,my lips love kisses :). ,1 +17253,Say „aaaah” and I will sit on your face. ,1 +17254,which hole? 🙈🙈💞 only 18 🥺. ,1 +17255,I hope you like chocolate pussy. ,1 +17256,breakfast is served). ,1 +17257,How bad do you want to eat me out from 1 to 10?. ,1 +17258,She’s trying to hypnotize you. ,1 +17259,Anyone like a Mama with thick thighs? (F39). ,1 +17260,Panties to the side means breakfast is ready. ,1 +17261,Breakfast in bed is served. ,1 +17262,Loving pussy needs caress. ,1 +17263,First time here and I want to know… lick or pound?🤭❤️‍🔥. ,1 +17264,Hopefully I’ve made some of you hard on this Sunday Funday. 😈. ,1 +17265,"Excuse me sir, do you enjoy real pussy?. ",1 +17266,It is as soft as it looks. ,1 +17267,May I borrow your face for a minute? ;). ,1 +17268,I want you to eat my pussy. ,1 +17269,I want you to pour your juice on me. ,1 +17270,In pussy or in the ass? 🤤💕. ,1 +17271,Opening up my fat pussy for your enjoyment ;). ,1 +17272,m sweet juice flows down on me 🥰💋. ,1 +17273,Would you lick it? 🥵 [oc]. ,1 +17274,My pussy is very juicy and sweet. ,1 +17275,I heard you like wet tiny pussy?😼. ,1 +17276,tell me how u want to eat my pussy. ,1 +17277,If we were dating I’d tease you by texting you pics like this everyday 😏❤️. ,1 +17278,Isn't the weather beautiful? 🥰. ,1 +17279,Eat me or fuck me?. ,1 +17280,"I have the smoothest pussy here! Honestly, see for yourself 😋. ",1 +17281,Eat this pussy to the squirt 👅👅. ,1 +17282,Would you bury your face in my pussy?. ,1 +17283,Maybe you eat me for breakfast. ,1 +17284,I think I'll need help from your tongue 😐. ,1 +17285,my pussy wants to kiss 🥰. ,1 +17286,POV: Your face is on the floor. ,1 +17287,A little bit speechless…. ,1 +17288,Horny Mornig. ,1 +17289,Would you lick my pussy before you fuck it? :). ,1 +17290,Eat me out after a long day?. ,1 +17291,"eat, lick, fuck my mOm pussy multiples times a day🙈 34y.o. ",1 +17292,Would you breed my Indian pussy. ,1 +17293,Do you have something i can sit on?. ,1 +17294,This is your POV. You know what to do😋. ,1 +17295,"My pussy is nice, but also did you think I had all that back there? 👀. ",1 +17296,"Don’t mind me having little hair, just open your mouth. ",1 +17297,"Don't worry about holding my legs back while we fuck, I can do that myself 😏. ",1 +17298,Would you eat it?. ,1 +17299,Are you horny now?. ,1 +17300,I hope my pussy makes you very horny. ,1 +17301,You look hungry ;) eat up!. ,1 +17302,Breakfast is ready :). ,1 +17303,My pussy loves naughty games in the shower so much :). ,1 +17304,Wanna see if ginger pussy is ginger flavored?. ,1 +17305,Wake up honey. ,1 +17306,Would u want to wake up to this everyday?. ,1 +17307,Juicy pussy. ,1 +17308,This naughty pussy is the best breakfast for you. ,1 +17309,Can I send you nudes like this everyday?. ,1 +17310,I need a comfortable place to sit. ,1 +17311,So Sexy. ,1 +17312,Come in! Waiting to you. ,1 +17313,"Welcome in, but only if you’re going raw ;). ",1 +17314,"dоn’t play your computer games, play with my рussy. ",1 +17315,"Lick me cleanly, honey. ",1 +17316,I love showing off my pussy. ,1 +17317,I was Thinking about getting a piercing.. opinions?. ,1 +17318,Fit your mouth here. ,1 +17319,A sweet Canadian snack you should try…. ,1 +17320,Can I rest my legs on your shoulder?. ,1 +17321,What would you do if you saw me just like that?. ,1 +17322,Kiss my pink lips? Both pairs!. ,1 +17323,I was told that older men are into curvy nerds... ,1 +17324,Is my pussy good enough to turn you on?. ,1 +17325,Look at what my skirt hides. ,1 +17326,Can my pussy be your Christmas present? :). ,1 +17327,It's a perfect day for you to eat my pussy out!. ,1 +17328,bet you wouldn’t even last 2 minutes.. [21F]. ,1 +17329,Describe my pussy in one word. ,1 +17330,wait for it... ,1 +17331,Do you like lips on the thicker side?. ,1 +17332,How long can u last in my pussy? 💦😈. ,1 +17333,Which of us would you taste first?. ,1 +17334,I secrete very sweet juices. ,1 +17335,Have you ever tasted a sweet South African pussy ?. ,1 +17336,yummy yummy yummy 👅. ,1 +17337,My tasty and neat pussy loves French kisses. ,1 +17338,Don’t say no to my body please. ,1 +17339,"If you don’t fuck a redhead in your lifetime, did you really live?. ",1 +17340,Trying to tempt you into tasting me…is it working. ,1 +17341,"I opened it, and you insert your dick. ",1 +17342,Need your tongue here. ,1 +17343,Thoughts?. ,1 +17344,I have a thing for white men but I wonder how they feel about Latinas. ,1 +17345,Would you lick my pussy before you fuck it? :). ,1 +17346,You gonna eat out a 40 year old mom of 2?. ,1 +17347,I challenge you to eat both at the same time. ,1 +17348,Good morning. ,1 +17349,Tell me what you do to me in 3 words. ,1 +17350,Do you actually enjoy the view?. ,1 +17351,My wet pussy is waiting to be continued. ,1 +17352,Studge your tongue if you want to get my pussy :). ,1 +17353,Pussy and all the jazz. ,1 +17354,Would you eat it for over an hour?. ,1 +17355,On my way to sit on you!. ,1 +17356,wet pussy while i suck cock. ,1 +17357,I hope you like sweets for breakfast. ,1 +17358,I'm so wet and sweet 🤤. ,1 +17359,It is as soft as it looks. ,1 +17360,I hope you'll like it. ,1 +17361,Do you think my pussy is on the God level?. ,1 +17362,Lovely pusssy. ,1 +17363,"Guys,how long can you stay inside without cumming?. ",1 +17364,No condom n no pulling out…U in?. ,1 +17365,pussy fat😋. ,1 +17366,Would you fuck this 40 years old pussy?. ,1 +17367,I hope your favorite color is pink. ,1 +17368,Good morning…want some Canadian breakfast!. ,1 +17369,Would you fuck a nurse if she asked you about this as I do?. ,1 +17370,My moistened and welcoming pussy knows how to deliver pleasure. ,1 +17371,My sweet candy is ready for kisses. ,1 +17372,This pussy is made for a sweet tooth. ,1 +17373,This pussy is worth your worship. ,1 +17374,Fuck me in my car?. ,1 +17375,Doesn’t my pussy look delectable? 🤤👅. ,1 +17376,Let’s get up close and personal. ,1 +17377,Your face looks like a comfortable seat. ,1 +17378,This is what I call a meaty pussy. ,1 +17379,I want to start my day with your face between my legs. ,1 +17380,"Got you a nice snack, enjoy babe. ",1 +17381,"I just can’t help getting so wet for your cock, baby. ",1 +17382,Lick me 'till ice cream 😜. ,1 +17383,Licking or fucking first?. ,1 +17384,Don’t worry I won’t tell your gf. ,1 +17385,any chance you'll lick me?. ,1 +17386,my рussy👉👈. ,1 +17387,I feel like I'm twice as wet and horny at 32 than I was at 22. ,1 +17388,Delicious and sweet pussy 😏. ,1 +17389,What if I told you that I want you in my tight pussy?. ,1 +17390,POV the new intern has a crush. ,1 +17391,My pussy loves tongue games 👅. ,1 +17392,Wanna have a taste?. ,1 +17393,I hope you like sweets. ,1 +17394,Sweet [Not OC]. ,1 +17395,How long would you last?. ,1 +17396,I'd like to be on top💋. ,1 +17397,would you rub me? 🥺. ,1 +17398,Would you eat my pussy before fucking it?. ,1 +17399,Do you like my kitty?. ,1 +17400,Best sight ever [Not OC]. ,1 +17401,Would you eat my pulsing pussy?. ,1 +17402,Drooling for your cock :P. ,1 +17403,Sweet Pussy. ,1 +17404,I can make you dinner and you can have my pussy for dessert!. ,1 +17405,Would you spend hours licking my pussy?. ,1 +17406,"My pussy is hungry for some dick, can you help her?. ",1 +17407,"Good day from my booty, pussy and tits!. ",1 +17408,Would you lick my pussy before you fuck it?. ,1 +17409,My pussy needs a nice cleaning session. Are you in? 😏. ,1 +17410,I hope you're hungry. ,1 +17411,Be honest... eating me or stuffing me?. ,1 +17412,¿How good are you French kissing?. ,1 +17413,How about some teen pussy for dessert?. ,1 +17414,my juices are so sweet. ,1 +17415,I think my pussy looks tempting. ,1 +17416,This pussy is made for kissing. ,1 +17417,My small and tight pussy. ,1 +17418,Juicy pussy :). ,1 +17419,I need a friend willing to eat my pussy sometimes. ,1 +17420,"Oh, I love getting on face.. ",1 +17421,Am I good enough to taste?. ,1 +17422,"Your breakfast, sir 👅. ",1 +17423,Wonder of the world [Not OC]. ,1 +17424,i hope you like innies. ,1 +17425,I know you're hungry for that sweet pink pussy. ,1 +17426,I would love to feel hard and throbbing inside.... ,1 +17427,My pussy is demanding your attention.. and hoping for your cock. ,1 +17428,My pink and narrow hole tastes very sweet. ,1 +17429,"Don’t be shy, my pussy clearly isn’t!. ",1 +17430,Are u ready to eat? 💦👅. ,1 +17431,Would you let me sit on you even though my pussy is this wet?. ,1 +17432,I love to rub my pussy when I wake up in the morning 😈💦. ,1 +17433,Hope you like eating pussy. ,1 +17434,Do you like my pussy?. ,1 +17435,Just wet pussy for you. ,1 +17436,Just thinking of you looking at my Reddit posts 👉👈. ,1 +17437,Some people say that my pussy can be served for dessert. ,1 +17438,I’ve heard you want them both. ,1 +17439,Would you lick my pussy before you fuck it? :). ,1 +17440,Your dinner is served :). ,1 +17441,My sweet pussy is so wet today. ,1 +17442,My pussy needs squirt - want u help with it. ,1 +17443,The cleanest pussy today💦💋. ,1 +17444,Tasty. ,1 +17445,Pussy Wet and ready. ,1 +17446,"Naughty nurse here, how can I help you??. ",1 +17447,Can I be the first Indian girl you fuck. ,1 +17448,I love when you look at me. ,1 +17449,I need a guy to lick me for at least 2 hours. ,1 +17450,Would you jerk off to my nudes if I sent you some?!. ,1 +17451,My small and tight pussy. ,1 +17452,My pussy is waiting to be pounded. ,1 +17453,Does my pussy looks taste?. ,1 +17454,The face vs. the pussy. ,1 +17455,Sorry I'm a little shy ¿Will you eat my pussy if I show it to you?. ,1 +17456,Would you fuck 40 years old mommy?Tell me❤️. ,1 +17457,How long would you last fucking me in this position?. ,1 +17458,I know you have a special hot cream for my pussy!. ,1 +17459,Today I want to be on top. ,1 +17460,How much Canadian pussy is too much. ,1 +17461,This is me convincing you to fuck me. ,1 +17462,Hope your face is free to sit on?. ,1 +17463,I Love when slim chicks bend over... That's all pussy back there. ,1 +17464,I'd like to use your face as a chair. ,1 +17465,I love being on top. ,1 +17466,Would you give me a cumshot?. ,1 +17467,Getting my pussy ready for a nice stretch! Who wants to be next?. ,1 +17468,One word that cums to mind. ,1 +17469,tickle my pussy with your tongue. ,1 +17470,Wanna play with my Slavic pussy?;). ,1 +17471,Enjoy your meal. ,1 +17472,Eat it or fuck it?. ,1 +17473,Wanna fuck my pussy from behind?. ,1 +17474,What would you do to my 19 year old pussy??😩. ,1 +17475,Woke up hungry for cock. ,1 +17476,I’d let you fuck me if you promise not to pull out. ,1 +17477,"Im convincing you to touch my pussy, is it working??. ",1 +17478,My pussy secretes very sweet juices 😍. ,1 +17479,POV: you eat my pussy for breakfast ;). ,1 +17480,Would you like to wake up with these views?. ,1 +17481,Would you lick it up?. ,1 +17482,My labia love kissing with tongue. ,1 +17483,Does anyone here get pleasure just from eating pussy?. ,1 +17484,ever tried french pussy?. ,1 +17485,Eat it for hours. ,1 +17486,Wanna fuck me from behind?. ,1 +17487,Do you like my little glistening (F)lower? 🌸💎💕. ,1 +17488,is it ok that I have a mound?🥺💕. ,1 +17489,Wet tight pussy is very close!. ,1 +17490,This pussy so wet. ,1 +17491,Any chance you'd eat my pussy on the first date?. ,1 +17492,Would you eat my pussy or watch football?. ,1 +17493,Hope my pussy is cute enough :3. ,1 +17494,Do u need a mechanic? 😉. ,1 +17495,Would you try my pussy?. ,1 +17496,"All pussies are unique, I give you mine in the collection :). ",1 +17497,Delicious and wet. ,1 +17498,Pretzel delivery. ,1 +17499,My pussy is the best and sweetest breakfast in bed :). ,1 +17500,"tight, wet, horny, and ready for you 😘. ",1 +17501,"Let's trade, I'll suck your dick if you eat my pussy first. ",1 +17502,I need someone to fuck my virgin pussy…Any volunteers?. ,1 +17503,"Hey babe, do you want to play with me?. ",1 +17504,Are you a pussy in the morning kinda guy? 😉. ,1 +17505,I would love your kisses on my pussy so much 😘. ,1 +17506,Everyone said their pullout game is strong until they meet me 😉. ,1 +17507,That pussy would look better on your face. ,1 +17508,Let's take a bath 🛁. ,1 +17509,Any chance you’d eat me on the first date?. ,1 +17510,hope you like pussy licking 👅🍭. ,1 +17511,Some men don’t eat pussy…. ,1 +17512,Imagine how my pussy would feel like when you’re inside. ,1 +17513,Both front and back view of my tight pussy 🙈. ,1 +17514,perfect view of Angela White. ,1 +17515,See the heart?. ,1 +17516,Do you like fat pussies like mine?. ,1 +17517,"If you eat pussy, let’s be friends 👅. ",1 +17518,Delicious breakfast in bed served. ,1 +17519,Playing with my Mexican pussy up close for you ;). ,1 +17520,my pussy is very juicy!’. ,1 +17521,A clean-shaven pussy is waiting for your evaluation!. ,1 +17522,My pussy is squishy enough to be your personal stress ball. ,1 +17523,I would so like to feel your tongue. ,1 +17524,Wanna pound it from behind?. ,1 +17525,I'm hot. ,1 +17526,"It tastes like strawberries, come see for yourself. ",1 +17527,Sweet lips want kisses. ,1 +17528,Sweet pussy :3. ,1 +17529,"I opened it up a little for you, if you don't mind!. ",1 +17530,Will you help me dry my little pink butterfly?🥹🦋. ,1 +17531,Ginger puss!. ,1 +17532,Would you want a face full of this ?. ,1 +17533,Have you ever fucked a Polish pussy?. ,1 +17534,Still surprises me how crazy wet my pussy gets. ,1 +17535,I spread my pussy a little for you!. ,1 +17536,"Oops, I think I'm very wet right now 🙈. ",1 +17537,Is pink Indian pussy your favourite. ,1 +17538,I just want to fuck old men 😇. ,1 +17539,I have something for you between my legs. ,1 +17540,"Pussy tight, pussy clean, pussy fresh 💦. ",1 +17541,my pussy wants to have fun today. ,1 +17542,"If your cock had eyes, it would see this.... ",1 +17543,A sweet dessert after dinner. ,1 +17544,"First time showing my pussy, do u like ? :S. ",1 +17545,Would you lick my pussy or ass?. ,1 +17546,Let me give you a closer look. ,1 +17547,I'll give a lot of juice for you. ,1 +17548,This is what happens when I'm daydreaming all day!. ,1 +17549,"I’ll cook you dinner if you eat my pussy, deal? :). ",1 +17550,Sweets for dinner served. ,1 +17551,See in full. ,1 +17552,Eat me for lunch? 🥵. ,1 +17553,Looking for a face to sit on. ,1 +17554,"Please, lick before fuck. ",1 +17555,1 word tell me what you’d do to me. ,1 +17556,Freshly showered and ready for your tongue. ,1 +17557,"I've got that Sword in the Stone pussy, only one guy has ever pulled out 🗡. ",1 +17558,I hope you like sweets.. :). ,1 +17559,Share me or keep me to yourself?. ,1 +17560,Take that little pussy🤤💋. ,1 +17561,Please eat my pussy until I squirt. ,1 +17562,lol what... you told me to make you a snack. ,1 +17563,be honest. would you eat it?. ,1 +17564,Hungry [Not OC]. ,1 +17565,It's beautiful isn't it ? 😛. ,1 +17566,Would you skip breakfast to eat my fat pussy?. ,1 +17567,"I think you are bored, wanna lick my pussy for fun?. ",1 +17568,(F) I’m not a teen but hopefully my pussy is still good enough. ,1 +17569,Lick it or fuck it?. ,1 +17570,describe my pussy in one emoji :). ,1 +17571,Do you see my pussy?). ,1 +17572,My pussy is ready to sit on your face. May I?. ,1 +17573,Would you eat it?. ,1 +17574,"I almost lost my anal plug while riding a scooter, God, I got so wet from it^^. ",1 +17575,Ready for you 🥵. ,1 +17576,Insert tongue here 😌. ,1 +17577,POV: your view after our first date. ,1 +17578,A close up of my wet pink chocolate pussy. It’s so inviting.. ,1 +17579,It's lunch time ❤️. ,1 +17580,my pussy loves tongue caresses. ,1 +17581,40 y/o MILF can turn you on?. ,1 +17582,"I’ll cook you dinner if you eat my pussy, deal? :). ",1 +17583,I love showing off my pink pussy 💗. ,1 +17584,I think every decent man should eat pussy. ,1 +17585,Taking a great care for my butt xoxoxo. ,1 +17586,You should go raw with me. ,1 +17587,Hard choice: ass or pussy?. ,1 +17588,my first post here hope you enjoy my pretty pussy 🤤. ,1 +17589,My soaking pussy of 50yo Milf…. ,1 +17590,My pussy is too talented to hide it!. ,1 +17591,My pussy loves kisses so much. ,1 +17592,I want to feed you sweets at night. ,1 +17593,Convincing enough to eat it right now?. ,1 +17594,Wet pussy. ,1 +17595,Kitty closeup after my waxing. ,1 +17596,"my super tight, fat pussy. ",1 +17597,Give me dick?. ,1 +17598,I’m not sure which one is tighter 😅 guess you’ll have to find out!. ,1 +17599,Choose your meal. ,1 +17600,Is it true that you like having pussy on your face?. ,1 +17601,Wondering if you’d breed me. ,1 +17602,"your pov, when she gets back from work. ",1 +17603,How long have you seen the pussy of a young student?. ,1 +17604,my legs would look better on your shoulders while you lick my sweet pussy. ,1 +17605,"Your face looks so comfy, mind if I take a seat?. ",1 +17606,I don’t care if the neighbours see.. ,1 +17607,Do you already understand what I want?😛💧. ,1 +17608,This pussy is yours to please 💦. ,1 +17609,I'm ready for you to slide it in. ,1 +17610,This is for the Redditors who aren't afraid to eat a MILF pussy. ,1 +17611,need a late night snack?. ,1 +17612,This pussy wet. ,1 +17613,Breed my pussy to have access to my ass. ,1 +17614,Have you tasted ukrainian pussy?. ,1 +17615,what it's look like 🤔. ,1 +17616,Do you prefer this position?. ,1 +17617,My pussy is so plump!🥺✨. ,1 +17618,Just stick it in already! 🥺. ,1 +17619,Could you eat me from behind?. ,1 +17620,If you eat my pussy you don’t have to pull out. ,1 +17621,eat or fuck - it's up to you to choose 🥵. ,1 +17622,"This is my pussy’s mating call, is it working?. ",1 +17623,I’d love to ride your face like this. ,1 +17624,This pussy loves to be your breakfast. ,1 +17625,would you suck my pussy even if I'm a squirter 💦. ,1 +17626,Think you could eat me until I squirt?. ,1 +17627,I love to feel the hair regrowth. ,1 +17628,Lick or fuck?. ,1 +17629,My pussy inside is so hot :). ,1 +17630,Where are all my pussy eaters?. ,1 +17631,Wanna spend some time between my legs?. ,1 +17632,The Aftermath. ,1 +17633,Would you breed me? 💦. ,1 +17634,From when I was still 18. ,1 +17635,Would you taste me or fuck me first ?. ,1 +17636,Would you eat it or fuck it 😏🤤💦. ,1 +17637,Fantastic view [Not OC]. ,1 +17638,I need a friend willing to eat my pussy sometimes. ,1 +17639,Would you creampie two Canadian sluts?. ,1 +17640,Risqué. ,1 +17641,Pussy loves some oil. [ Removed by reddit in response to a copyright notice. ],1 +17642,Can you give my pussy a few licks?. ,1 +17643,Is it worth a couple pumps at least? 😅. ,1 +17644,[OC] One of the crazier NSFW TikToks i’ve made 😅💃🏼🍷. ,1 +17645,"💛 Sometimes I want a fat cock, but not everyone can handle my big shapes 😏💕. ",1 +17646,POV: You asked me to sit on your face. ,1 +17647,Would you eat it from behind?. ,1 +17648,I wanna see you licking my pussy. ,1 +17649,View of my pussy and boobies. ,1 +17650,Make me your next fuckdoll. ,1 +17651,If I asked nicely would you lick it?. ,1 +17652,"Look, I brought my pussy for you. ",1 +17653,"I’ll spread it, you eat it 😋. ",1 +17654,"4’9” and 84 pounds with a juicy pussy, wanna taste?. ",1 +17655,this photo was taken after my first squirt. ,1 +17656,Would you fuck us raw or use a condom?. ,1 +17657,Breakfast is waiting for u in bed. ,1 +17658,Would you pull out?. ,1 +17659,Sooo wet pussy... ,1 +17660,May I sit on your face to have some fun together?. ,1 +17661,She tastes even sweeter than she looks. ,1 +17662,Use my pussy however you wish 🤤. ,1 +17663,Is your face available?. ,1 +17664,How long would you last? 🙈💙. ,1 +17665,My pussy deserves kisses before you used it hard. ,1 +17666,i hope you know your tasks.. ,1 +17667,Wet pussy is open and very close!. ,1 +17668,All that’s missing is you spilling out from between my legs 💦. ,1 +17669,You got my permission to put me in any position. ,1 +17670,Do u want a taste 😈. ,1 +17671,"Lick it, fill it, slide in it, everything is on the menu. ",1 +17672,"Hmmm, tongue or cock?. ",1 +17673,If you think I look tasty then try me ;). ,1 +17674,Today for breakfast my sweet pussy. ,1 +17675,Are you a fan of ebony pussy?. ,1 +17676,I know Asian Pussy isn't for everyone... But I wish that you enjoy mine 🙏. ,1 +17677,Me and my roommate want to know which pussy you’d fuck first…☺️. ,1 +17678,Opening pussy. ,1 +17679,Can I sit on your face?. ,1 +17680,Messy mom next door. I wonder if this will gross you out or turn you on. ,1 +17681,Hey there 😈. ,1 +17682,Open sesame! 😄👅. ,1 +17683,I've got a fantastic pussy. ,1 +17684,My lips from below love French kisses. ,1 +17685,my pussy is so wet for you. ,1 +17686,An unusual sweet hole thinks to be opened. ,1 +17687,I’m ready for you to pound my college pussy hard!. ,1 +17688,Do you really care how old I am after seeing my pussy?. ,1 +17689,I think my landing strip really compliments my pussy. ,1 +17690,This is the perfect pose for your breakfast. ,1 +17691,would you honestly play with my pussy?. ,1 +17692,Feeling extremely naughty tonight. ,1 +17693,"It’s my birthday today, and all I want is for you to eat my pussy, please?. ",1 +17694,Any men out there still eat pussy?. ,1 +17695,Horny kitty. ,1 +17696,Wet creamy pussy. ,1 +17697,What will you say if I ask you to eat my pussy?. ,1 +17698,Nice Pussyrubbing. ,1 +17699,this pussy really tastes sweet. ,1 +17700,theres no better feeling than freeing my sufficated innie after a long day (19f). ,1 +17701,You should taste it. ,1 +17702,does this look soft?. ,1 +17703,Yummy!. ,1 +17704,You can eat me for every meal. ,1 +17705,Would you lick my pierced pussy if i ask you nicely?. ,1 +17706,I need a friend willing to eat my pussy sometimes. ,1 +17707,Does Indian pussy turn you on. ,1 +17708,"If I had a Valentine, I’d let him creampie me 🤭 shame I’m alone this year. ",1 +17709,Summer is the best time to wear no panties outside😋. ,1 +17710,You walk in and I’m sitting like this. What’s your next move?. ,1 +17711,would you let me keep my hoodie on while we fucked?. ,1 +17712,Come play with me 🥺. ,1 +17713,"POV I wake you up with breakfast in bed, eat up ;). ",1 +17714,My pussy is so tender and sweet. ,1 +17715,Slippery when wet. ,1 +17716,my pussy is ready to receive kisses. ,1 +17717,sunny day. ,1 +17718,You truly enjoy this when you spread it. What is it?. ,1 +17719,Would you enjoy this POV?. ,1 +17720,I’ve got a surprise for you…. ,1 +17721,My pussy haven’t been eaten from long time… I have to help myself.. ,1 +17722,Eat me ?. ,1 +17723,Do you mind if it's up in your face? 🥰. ,1 +17724,POV you find your roomie doing yoga. ,1 +17725,Can we fuck outside. ,1 +17726,My pussy is always peeking out when I wear short skirts 🐱🫣. ,1 +17727,I'm a little turned on.... ,1 +17728,Playing with my tight pussy for you🥺. ,1 +17729,Would you fuck me after the gym?. ,1 +17730,Move my panties to the side and slide in. ,1 +17731,These legs would look good on your shoulder. ,1 +17732,It is as soft as it looks. ,1 +17733,Nice. ,1 +17734,Too wet? 🙈. ,1 +17735,"Behold...a freshly waxed, 41 yo pussy. What say ye?. ",1 +17736,"I'm ready for your big, wet.... ",1 +17737,Do you want to lick it or fuck it?. ,1 +17738,Woke up with the need to touch myself and felt like sharing. ,1 +17739,Take this opportunity to taste my pussy 😋. ,1 +17740,My pussy is hungry. ,1 +17741,Please don’t pull out until every last drop is inside me. ,1 +17742,Easy access [Not OC]. ,1 +17743,I’m ready for a cream pie!. ,1 +17744,Would you eat two college athletes out at the same time?. ,1 +17745,It makes me super happy to show off my pussy. ,1 +17746,"Canadian mom next door, playing with my beaver. ",1 +17747,I hope you like to have a sweet pussy dinner. ,1 +17748,This pussy is made for sweet tooth. ,1 +17749,Will I wear panties today? Of course not🙈. ,1 +17750,Do you like Canadian girls?. ,1 +17751,Give my pussy a kiss and she’ll kiss you back!. ,1 +17752,Ginger flavored jello!. ,1 +17753,Would you fuck me even if I told you I'm a squirter?. ,1 +17754,Eat my little pussy🤤🥵. ,1 +17755,Let me add some ginger to your meal?. ,1 +17756,"I know it’s a little late, but I brought you a snack ;). ",1 +17757,Eat or fuck first ?. ,1 +17758,opening my pussy for you. ,1 +17759,i’m so wet🥺. ,1 +17760,This pussy is made for a sweet tooth. ,1 +17761,Could you bring me some grapes? 🍇. ,1 +17762,"I hope you're not hungry, because I made dinner.. ",1 +17763,If you came home to this Everynight? Would you be Happy?. ,1 +17764,I want you to have both. ,1 +17765,Would you prefer my pussy on your face or cock? 😜. ,1 +17766,Too good [Not OC]. ,1 +17767,Today seems like a good day to start a ginger diet!. ,1 +17768,Would you eat me out multiple times a day?. ,1 +17769,wet enough for you to slide right in. ,1 +17770,I'm the kind of girl who enjoys making more mess (19f). ,1 +17771,This pussy is for real sweet tooths 🍯. ,1 +17772,"Lick, finger or fuck?. ",1 +17773,😋. ,1 +17774,Ready to quench your thirst. ,1 +17775,A snack for you. ,1 +17776,Breed me so we can save the redhead gene. ,1 +17777,Stretch my pussy out. ,1 +17778,My wet pussy wants to feel a lot of cream inside. ,1 +17779,Eat me out on the counter top. ,1 +17780,You can choose which lips to kiss. ,1 +17781,Is it fuckable. ,1 +17782,Do you like new freshman pussy?. ,1 +17783,Just trying to convince you to breed us.. ,1 +17784,How’s your pull-out game? 😈💦. ,1 +17785,Who’s a sucker for freshly shaved pussy? 🤤. ,1 +17786,A proper dinner is a guarantee of health :). ,1 +17787,Hold on.. let me spread my pussy open for your cock ;). ,1 +17788,Can’t sleep I’m way too horny😩😏. ,1 +17789,I promise not to wear panties under my dress. ,1 +17790,Licking my pussy in the shower sounds hot. ,1 +17791,The best angle for you! 😘. ,1 +17792,Describe my pussy in one word. ,1 +17793,Spread me and eat me 🤤. ,1 +17794,kiss or fuck my fat pussy?. ,1 +17795,what would be your reaction when you wake up and feel my wet pussy on your face?. ,1 +17796,Only react if you’d creampie me. ,1 +17797,I'm lonely and horny. ,1 +17798,sweet dessert for breakfast is served. ,1 +17799,I want to get all your cream inside. ,1 +17800,my pussy is ready to take your juices inside. ,1 +17801,"My ex refused to eat me out, wanna make up for lost time?. ",1 +17802,tongue first 👅. ,1 +17803,Any fans of open pussies here?. ,1 +17804,Do I look fuckable or eatable to you?. ,1 +17805,How about a tight young pussy? ☺️. ,1 +17806,I like it when my pussy is licked in this position.... ,1 +17807,Wanna be friends with pussy eating benefits?. ,1 +17808,I'm waiting for your tender tongue). ,1 +17809,I hope you like sweets at night). ,1 +17810,This candy will be appreciated by a real sweet tooth. ,1 +17811,"I hope you like small girls with big pussies, because you're about to have your mouth full. ",1 +17812,My pussy is super tight.. do you think your cock will fit?. ,1 +17813,can I sit on your face?♥️. ,1 +17814,"Don’t be shy, my pussy clearly isn’t. ",1 +17815,"My innie pussy is all oiled up and ready, wanna squeeze in? 😋💦. ",1 +17816,Pussy Spread. ,1 +17817,I know you’re eyeing it ;). ,1 +17818,what are you gonna do with that pussy?😛. ,1 +17819,Sweets for dinner. ,1 +17820,Want to play with it?. ,1 +17821,Wanna be friends with pussy eating benefits?. ,1 +17822,Taste my sweet pussy today. ,1 +17823,Give it a few licks and I’ll let you fuck it. ,1 +17824,I wanna feel you inside me. ,1 +17825,Dress season = no panty season. ,1 +17826,Look how swollen and red it is 🥵. ,1 +17827,"First post here, could I get a welcome kiss?. ",1 +17828,taste me. ,1 +17829,Two is always better than one. ,1 +17830,Titilating Pussy. ,1 +17831,"I want to be filled up in this position, any takers?. ",1 +17832,my tight pussy wants to be stretched this morning :). ,1 +17833,Use your tongue first then slide in. ,1 +17834,Beautiful pussy of an attractive blonde. ,1 +17835,Would you lick me everyday?. ,1 +17836,Wanna taste my dripping wet Australian pussy?. ,1 +17837,Sorry I’m leaking I let 2 guys use me today!. ,1 +17838,I’m ready for ya ;). ,1 +17839,my pussy needs something hard. ,1 +17840,Insert tongue or cock here please. ,1 +17841,My pussy a little wet and hot. ,1 +17842,This is the position you'll be breeding me in btw 😜. ,1 +17843,Want to share these juices with me?. ,1 +17844,my bestie and I wanted to know who’s teen pussy you would breed 😍. ,1 +17845,This is why underwear is overrated. ,1 +17846,I caress my pussy with my fingers and imagine that these are your hands. ,1 +17847,"Somebody got it all wrong, I think pussy is a man’s best friend. ",1 +17848,Have you ever tasted a brown pussy?🤎👅. ,1 +17849,Take a look here. ,1 +17850,This is what happens when I think about your cock filling me up. ,1 +17851,"50% Japanese, 50% White - 100% love getting my pussy eaten 😋. ",1 +17852,Wanna taste it? 🍭. ,1 +17853,I’m here for the right reasons 😜. ,1 +17854,"Hey, mind if I borrow your tongue? 😋. ",1 +17855,POV: you’re about to give her a little kiss 💋. ,1 +17856,I want 25 cream-pies since it’s my 25th birthday 😜🎉. ,1 +17857,Are you a licker or a fucker? ^_^. ,1 +17858,Want to taste after the gym?. ,1 +17859,Make sure to eat me before you enter. ,1 +17860,your tongue would be perfect here 👅. ,1 +17861,How many inches would you fit inside me?. ,1 +17862,My pretty pussy doesnt need any introduction. ,1 +17863,I’m jiggly in all the right places. ,1 +17864,"I choose no panties today, is it ok?. ",1 +17865,Kiss the lips 😙👅💦. ,1 +17866,Kiss my pussy with those lips!. ,1 +17867,My lips from below are so fond of kissing in an adult way :). ,1 +17868,Lick or fuck?. ,1 +17869,Passionately lick my wet pussy. ,1 +17870,Chinese anyone? 🥢. ,1 +17871,"If you tongue fuck me, I’ll let you hit it for hours. ",1 +17872,"It's my birthday today, all I want is for you to lick my juicy pussy 🧁💦. ",1 +17873,you are crazy if you think im letting you pull out. ,1 +17874,Like when mommy cums?. ,1 +17875,Waiting patiently :p. ,1 +17876,Geeky girls are nice but horny geeks are even better!. ,1 +17877,"It’s not taco Tuesday but you’d still eat it, right?. ",1 +17878,Eat it or fuck it. ,1 +17879,My roommate and i wanna know who’s pussy you prefer ☺️. ,1 +17880,Shaved and ready for bed. ,1 +17881,Come to eat mommy.. ,1 +17882,Ever fucked a pussy this tight?. ,1 +17883,What's your first thought?. ,1 +17884,this pussy wants to be eaten so much. ,1 +17885,I’ve got some snacks in here. ,1 +17886,Slide in and fuck me against the counter. ,1 +17887,"👅 Taste my yummy pussy, I'm sure you'll love it 😈💓. ",1 +17888,Amateur Pillow Fuck. ,1 +17889,I hope you enjoy my flower.. ,1 +17890,please lick my pussy in the shower?. ,1 +17891,Would you drain your balls in my pussy?. ,1 +17892,"Oh you are ready for licking, What a good boy!. ",1 +17893,Your dick will be happy inside of me 🤤💕. ,1 +17894,My sweet and wet pussy loves it harder. ,1 +17895,[OC] NSFW TikTok of me fingering my pussy 😫🚨. ,1 +17896,Made a mess [OC]. ,1